{"id": "iR7HrXqgHEcWnL7FEvAqQlv61Zipir6T", "post_id": "az6qbq", "action": {"description": "wanting my father to die", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting my father to die?", "text": "   Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\n   I dropped out of uni 2 years ago because I was planning on moving to a different country and going to Uni there. However, my parents didn't want to help me in any way and I couldn't afford it myself. They've always supported my younger sister though, bought her an apartment and they're even paying her bills, even though she earns enough money to do that herself. So atm I'm stuck at home with them, which sucks as I am 25 yo and I feel like I'm wasting my life completely.\n\n   Both my parents were extremely abusive, especially my dad. As a result, I have social anxiety, trust issues, panic attacks etc. I can deal with everything as I got used to it anyway, but lately things have gotten worse.\n\n   A few years ago my dad was diagnosed with type II diabetes, and he retired. He's been staying at home ever since and he's slowly but surely becoming a vegetable. He had a stroke which left him unable to speak/walk properly. I'm no doctor, but I found his hospital records and even talked to a nurse, and she said he's a bloody mess and he could die at any time. The worst part is, he doesn't realise what's happening around him anymore. He leaves the apartment door open at night, he forgets stuff on the stove, and he makes a huge mess everywhere. I talked to my mum about this, I don't feel safe with him around. He clearly lost his mind but she refuses to acknowledge it. Throughout the years, I've tried to tell her there's something really wrong with him, but she always just shrugged it off. He was an awful husband, so she doesn't love him, but she says she feels pity for him.\n\n   I suggested we put him in a retirement home, as he clearly cannot take care of himself and he's putting our lives in danger. I sleep with ear plugs because he slams doors/drops things all the time. I'm afraid he might set our apartment on fire or worse. My mum doesn't want to do that because she's afraid of his reaction; she thinks he's going to get a heart attack if she tries to bring it up. He's always hated hospitals and he always refused treatment, even when he got bitten by a stray dog, even after his stroke, so I see where my mum is coming from. However, I've had enough.\n\n   Yesterday I heard him choke, he was struggling to breathe and honestly, it sounded like he was gonna die. And I was relieved. My first instinct wasn't to help him, instead I kept doing my skincare, honestly hoping he'd just die already. He didn't. I told my mum what happened when she got home and she thinks I'm a monster. But am I really? This person has abused me my entire life, has beaten the living shit out of me, hell he has even tried to kill me a few times. I know my life would get better if he died, my mum would sell our apartment and I'd finally have money to go to college and start my own life. So AITA for wanting my abusive father gone?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WocLvxW8DMIiimEuiwBmgkvYhynSir4u", "post_id": "a00mgx", "action": {"description": "forgetting to flush", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for forgetting to flush?", "text": "For background, my mom's cousin is staying with us for the weekend because of Thanksgiving. I hate this woman as she doesn't keep an eye on her kids, let's them trash our house, and gets upset when anything happens to them such as them even hearing a curse word. News flash, I fucking cuss a lot. \n\nSo I was taking a dump and got a phone call while I was wiping so I quickly finished, got up, washed my hands and picked up the phone. It was my boss asking me to work late tomorrow and I said it was okay and we talked a little bit, and I forgot to flush the toilet and left the bathroom. It just slipped my mind.\n\nAbout 15 minutes later I hear screaming.  \n\"WHO WAS THE LAST ONE IN THE BATHROOM. WHAT THE FUCK. WHAT THE FUCK, OH SHIT!!\"  \nIt's Mom's cousin.\n\nApparently her 5 year old got into the bathroom and decided to start eating a log out of the toilet because she likes corn, and saw corn.\n\nShe got bitchy with me and I told her \"if your kid is dumb enough to eat shit, that's not my problem.\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G2Kp4v4d7Ffca8XM93rLl1dlEHbUibcS", "post_id": "b2b7mw", "action": null, "title": "AITA Dinner plans and who's responsible", "text": "AITA Dinner plans and who's responsible\n\n​\n\nMy 2 brothers and I routinely return to the family homestead on fridays to see each other, our parents and 2 dogs. Naturally we all have lives and sometimes one or more of us cannot make the journey or occasionally turn up late. I personally do make it home 99% of the time and usually much earlier. Maybe I have better planning skills or maybe less of a life.. who knows. Fridays are considered lazy days for my family and we order in indian food.\n\nFor these reasons, I am the one to use the food app to order in each week. I don't mind this because I like to ensure my food is correct - don't judge me!\n\nWhat I do mind is **How** I take everyone else's order. I am a creature of habit and get peckish around 5pm and plan to eat at 6pm. My family has always eaten at 6 and it's become something of a dad joke about setting their watch to my stomach.\n\nAnyway, my problem is I expect them to give me their food order in plenty of time. If they don't then I assume they are busy, won't be home on time and I order without them.\n\nThis gets me into trouble, if/when they arrive home.\n\n​\n\nFor some reason I am expected to message everyone asking if they will be home and what they want to eat.\n\nPersonally I think this is silly!\n\nFirst, it is inefficient for me to send out txt messages to everyone, every week, asking for their food order. The alternative is they only need message me if they want food ordering in. Even if they are coming home, they may cook for themselves then no need to message me.\n\nSecond, I am already collecting orders and placing the order every week and at the same time each week. Now I'm suddenly expected to message everyone asking what they want to shove in their face hole if they even grace us with their presence that day.\n\n​\n\nJust to reiterate; I don't mind adding their request to the order but I do mind their anger when I refuse to be their waiter and chase them down to ask their dinner plans.\n\n​\n\nAm I being taken for granted? or am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SwQYfAGESAOeWgGEwiLgYVxp9OOrWXMI", "post_id": "a6febt", "action": {"description": "being upset about my so using our open relationship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for being upset about my SO using our open relationship?", "text": "Background: I can't give much detail because our unique situation may give me away to friends who are on here. We've been in a relationship for a few years. It progressed very quickly within months of our first meeting.\n\nWe agreed to an open relationship to be sure there was no weird feeling of lost opportunity due to our quick involvement. We do love each other very much and want a future together, but we both felt a certain stagnation and tension early on.\n\nRecently, though our relationship has been going really well, we haven't had sex in a while. I've tried to initiate, but with little to no success. I don't push too hard because I don't want to be that person. I don't resent my SO because they're very available emotionally and physically affectionate in small ways. Just no sex.\n\nI've had sex with others in this time. Including an ex that had been kind of an issue in the past. I did not mention this to my SO...\n\nHere's where it gets tricky. I found out that they started up a tinder profile again without telling me, as well as had sex with someone within the past few weeks. It's been months for us. I knew they had gone out and kind of guessed what happened and thought I was fine with it... and yet having it confirmed hurt a lot considering how I've been trying to be more intimate, only to be shut down. It got me really upset and jealous.\n\nI haven't brought it up or shown signs that I know, yet. I feel like I have no ground to stand on since it's an open relationship, but also because of sleeping with my ex. But I still can't help that it hurts and I'm annoyed at their apparent choice to only seek other sexual partners. I'm 100% willing to get over myself if I have to, but I needed to confirm if I'm the stupid hypocrite I think I am.\n\nTL;DR: in an open relationship with not much sex. Slept with ex. Despite our relationship being very emotionally stable and my trying to initiate intimacy, SO sleeps with others but not me. I'm upset about this.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ko6Am2GYmkrElxRO00dVvoEpcenZBvpd", "post_id": "a4c96u", "action": {"description": "wanting to get rid of my puppy", "pronormative_score": 39, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to get rid of my puppy?", "text": "My girlfriend volunteers at an animal shelter and she talked me into adopting a puppy. My girlfriend and I don\u2019t live together but we fully intended for this to be OUR puppy. \n\nA couple days go by and I started noticing that he (our puppy) isn\u2019t acting all that normal. Come to find out that he has a severe neurological disease. Even more surprising is that my girlfriend knew this before I adopted him and she neglected to tell me. \n\nI\u2019ve had him for a few months and he poops and pees all over the house multiple times a day. And it\u2019s not that it\u2019s just in one spot; he literally runs around the house when he does his business and it takes forever to clean up. And whenever I pick him up to go outside he ends up peeing and pooping on me. I have roommates and I don\u2019t think it\u2019s fair to them because the house ends up smelling awful. \n\nMore importantly, he has bitten me three times, two of which required stitches (and one of which happened today). He growls and tries to bite at my roommates and any other person that comes within a few feet from him. \n\nWe\u2019re going to get him professional training, but if that doesn\u2019t work and it doesn\u2019t get any better, I told my girlfriend that I don\u2019t think I can keep him. Of course she is mad at me, and I know I undertook the responsibility of taking care of him, but I don\u2019t think it\u2019s fair to me. \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 39, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iJmHhf5xMNf66q7dtPvqHAn52U6wYFxF", "post_id": "anjpso", "action": {"description": "yelling at my aunt and young cousin after he ripped my birthday banner", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my aunt and young cousin after he ripped my birthday banner", "text": "This has been on my mind for a while now and I need some out side opinions. For my 21st birthday, my mom decorated our kitchen with a table cover for the island and little bags that all say happy birthday on them. She also put up a big banner over the window that also says Happy birthday across it and she had written a note about how it was my 21st and all that. A week or so goes by and we've put away all the decorations except the big banner over the window. One night one of my friends comes over and my aunt comes by with my little cousin who is about 7 years old. \n\nI don't like children mostly because things my younger siblings and other cousins have done in the past and I've made this known to this aunt especially when her son breaks things around my house (a story for another time smh). \n\nSo the four of us are in my kitchen hanging out and talking and then my aunt points out the banner. She jokingly asks something along the lines of how long I'll keep it up and I say I'll keep it up for some time because I like the little note my mom left on it. Now that its the center of the conversation my cousin runs over to it and start pulling at it and I tell him to stop. He laughs and keeps pulling. Now I get more serious and I tell him stop before he rips it. \n\nNext thing I know hes ripped it off the wall with the corners still being stuck up and hes laughing like crazy. I turn around and see my aunt laughing too. I tell her that I was serious and very annoyed that he wasn't listening. Then she tells me that she was telling him to pull it behind me as I faced him. This makes me even more mad. And all at once all the moments of children making me mad flash in my head. This cousin corrupting one of my video games, another cousin ripping up a drawing I had spent a long time working on, my younger sister acting out and being the spoiled brat she is and many more. \n\nI start to yell at her and my cousin about how much I hate children and her only making it worse because shes encouraging his shitty behavior. It all ends with a big screaming match and they leave and we didn't talk for weeks after that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9TgENiVcjoVWR4rH01z6gR9vaEsHJ6jx", "post_id": "ayv3vo", "action": {"description": "asking my wife to consider her obligation at home instead of visiting her sister who just gave birth", "pronormative_score": 37, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for asking my wife to consider her obligation at home instead of visiting her sister who just gave birth?", "text": "My sister-in-law gave birth to her third child, and my wife was ready to hop a five hour flight with the rest of her family to visit the baby.\n\nShe lives in California, an hour drive from Disney Land. My wife has been visiting her half sister all her life: 4 or 5 trips a year. \n\nAfter 5 years of dating and 2 years of marriage I began to see a pattern where my wife visits the sister while she rarely visits us. My wife occasionally expresses frustrations at this. She'll drop everything to visit her sister: wedding stuff, baby showers, baby sprinkles, first week of school, birthdays, but my sister-in-law rarely reciprocates (when we were getting married and she wouldn't fly up here for wedding related events). My wife has never brought up this to her sister because her family never had a problem with flying to California, and she doesn't want to start shit. \n\nWe've had arguments in the past where she spent $600 on a flight for an unplanned weekend. We're a young couple, trying to save for a house to start a family of our own. When say this, she reminds me that she works too and is allowed to spend money she makes on what she wants. She misses her sister and wants to visit her all she wants. When we have children we won't be able to afford to visit as often as we do now, or participate in the fucking thousands of dollars Disney Land birthday parties.\n\nThe past 6 months have been financially hard. I've been going to the doctors and bills are piling up. They don't know what's wrong. Constant fatigue, back pain, and bathroom trouble. It's stressful. We have a dog, and he is a handful when I'm feeling good, let alone when I'm feeling like crap. I'm still working, but my wife got laid off and had to accept a position that's minimum wage. We're not starving or anything, but I've cut back on my spending. I thought she would do the same with less California trips. \n\nLast night my wife was looking at flight prices, and asked if she considered the strain a trip to California puts on the dogs and I. We can only have a dog because of our work schedules: she works nights; I works days. If she leaves, I'll have to board him (more money) because he's not a dog you can leave alone for more than a few hours without problems, let alone 8+. She said I should take some days off from work to watch him, but that would be even a greater financial burden of having to use unpaid sick days. \n\nThe argument ended not being about this trip, but her lifestyle and how we can't afford these trips for the rest of our lives. I said when we have a kid, if she thinks we're flying down to California a few weeks after she gives birth so her sister can meet the baby then I'm going to verbally start shit with the family because its not fair.\n\nI'm not saying she can't see her sister, only wish she would take fewer trips and think about us.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 35, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eU3mEA2OLzu4JjbjRP3XHnz42NfA7XV9", "post_id": "a7u263", "action": {"description": "wanting to go ahead with vacation plans that my friend can't go to anymore", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to go ahead with vacation plans that my friend can\u2019t go to anymore?", "text": "So a few months ago my friend J told me and my other friend V she wanted us to all go on a travel/volunteer vacation, we all made suggestions and decided to do a trip to help turtles, nothings booked but we were talking about doing it in a year. So J, who originally brought up the idea, said she wouldn\u2019t be able to go because of finances, would I be the asshole if I still went on the trip with V?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "52Nm40Qi1qTz5G3jValXYk202LLfR81s", "post_id": "an29ca", "action": {"description": "bringing up suspicions of babies true parentage", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 27}, "title": "AITA For Bringing Up Suspicions Of Babies True Parentage", "text": "I've been a long time lurker of reddit and this sub but I finally signed up because I truly need help here.  \n\n\nTo tell this story right we need to rewind nearly 4 years ago. Where I was Tinder-ing it up and having a good time. I met this beautiful Filipino girl and we started hooking up. As far as I knew, we were FWB but exclusive. She said she wasn't with anyone else. Well, 3 weeks in and she shares with me that she has been with this guy, but they aren't sexually active. She wants to remain friends and go exclusive with him. Kinda hurts but I agree.  \n\n\nWe become friends on Facebook and eventually she invites me to parties and what not. I am a bit weary but eventually get over it. Then she shares with everyone that she's pregnant. Doing the math I figured she would either have been lying about not being with anyone else sexually, or it's mine. I consulted online and asked a few local doctors and they all confirm that I'm likely the father (but obviously a paternity test would be required); and to clarify, she's telling everyone that the guy she's with is the father.  \n\n\nWell she has the baby and I decide to not be friends with her because I sensed a lot of dishonesty, and I knew she wouldn't be honest. Still, I check in on Facebook and the baby has a lot of the same features as me. Dark hair (both of them are lighter brunettes), oval face (same as me), and a lighter complexion (she's filipino, he's indian, I'm caucasion).  \n\n\nI just sort of live with these details. I mean it sucks but whatever. Then fast forward to present minus a few weeks I see the dad and baby at a supermarket and we get to talking. I've been going through a lot in my life between being professionally stifled and regrets for not going after personal goals more tirelessly. I just feel like I have nothing to lose, and this whole ordeal is 100% a factor. So he mentions how the baby doesn't look like him at all and yeah definitely doesn't so I say \"Yeah, looks kinda like me actually\" and it's like 1,000 lightbulbs went off in his head. I explained the whole situation to him about what happened and how I suspect the baby may be mine.  \n\n\nWell he's devastated, and leaves. I then get 100+ facebook messages from the girl saying how I'm the asshole and how I'm stirring up shit. I don't think I am, I just proposed that I have some suspicions and pointed them out. What do you think Reddit? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 24, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 27}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mENVX59RzqJOXhqzdysVE08AQpRm0sZZ", "post_id": "ai4xkj", "action": null, "title": "AITA, my boyfriend (24M) wants kids even after agreing we don't want kids", "text": "I don't want kids. This was never an \"oh your just young that's why your saying that \" I am 23 and I just never seen myself as a mother ,the pressure of being this perfection just turns me down so fast . I do have a very supportive mother and she was a wonderful mother ,but I know it breaks her heart how I speak about this type of topic . \n\n\nI meet my boyfriend of 4 years in college at around the 6th \"anniversary\" I told him I never want kids ,he took it very well actually and even agreed that he never thought about having either so it was a win win situation. Our future was planned get our degree buy a house and just like that our life was fine.\n\nUntil we got a puppy. We got a husky puppy he was adorable, one of my coworkers gave it to us as a gift for getting a house.\n\nIn my opinion it was like taking care of a baby ,just this baby had 4 legs and fur. It still didn't change my mind of having kids but I guess I couldn't speak for my boyfriend since last year he hasn't stopped  mentioning kids ,he sometimes even jokes about me being pregnant and how wonderful would it be to have our guest room as a nursing room . I love this man , but I just can't imagine myself as a mother .\n\n Am I an asshole of not wanting kids even though my boyfriend agreed with me to not having kids ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Q8HL2ZlaneIiMd6cWDgTl8WNosQ06VIM", "post_id": "ale554", "action": {"description": "expressing my disappointment with a niche composer changing to a more saturated genre", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for expressing my disappointment with a niche composer changing to a more saturated genre?", "text": "A musician which has been my favourite musician for almost a decade, being the only composer I know of making music for this niche, started to experiment with other genres a few years ago.     \nThe last few albums they released have had less and less music from the genre I like, and more and more from other genres.   \nI have expressed that \"I am not a fan of this kind of music. I started listening to you (The composer) for this genre, and I would find it sad if you abandoned this genre for one that is more saturated with music\", and I got a lot of flak from other people for that.    \n    \nI of course think a composer can do whatever they want, but should I just stop listening if I don't like the music anymore, and not express my opinion?  Does that make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1Q2ET4F3giQMq9Pb6SSYfL6FCQp7AHtv", "post_id": "ayq8j3", "action": {"description": "considering to break up with my girlfriend because she used to be a sex worker", "pronormative_score": 170, "contranormative_score": 53}, "title": "AITA for considering to break up with my girlfriend because she used to be a sex worker?", "text": "So this all went down last night, I'll try to include most details.\n\nI've been together with my girlfriend for 3 months right now (We're both 22 btw). I can honestly say I've never met someone who I have so much chemistry with, and we are extremely happy together. She's very intelligent and attractive, and we share a lot of interests. I met her at a bar and she actually came onto me, something that surprised me very positively. \n\nLast night we were talking and the topic of sex came up. We see each other 3 or 4 times a week and when we do we usually sleep with each other. She asked me how many people I slept with before her, and I told her I only hooked up with my previous girlfriend. Now I wasn't really thinking but naturally I asked her the same thing. She was a bit hesitant, so I told her she didn't need to tell me but that I wouldn't really care anyways. Well, this is where it starts to go downhill.\n\nShe told me that when she was 20 she worked as an escort for 2 months before quitting. She was with some high-end agency and slept with 2 or 3 guys a week and made quite some money. She stopped because she didn't like the work and made enough money to pay off some debt she had at the time. I was kind of stunned, I didn't really know how to react. When she was telling all this she seemed pretty cool, but when she saw my reaction she became pretty emotional. I told her I didn't expect it at all, and that I needed some time to think. I did hold her for a few minutes and she cried a little bit, but I left after some time.\n\nApparently I am much less open-minded as I thought I was. I really don't know how to feel about her past and it makes me feel kinda shitty. Later that night I got a long text from her and she told me that she loves me for the first time and that she hopes we can move past this. I replied that I loved her too but that I needed some time. After her message I also received a message from her friend saying she had never seen her as happy as with me and never as devastated as right now. She told me that I'm an asshole for leaving her like this and that I should man up. \n\nI get where she's coming from, but I don't agree with her. This is quite the revelation for me and I feel very conflicted.  Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 47, "OTHER": 68, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 102, "INFO": 4}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 170, "WRONG": 53}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rgSmAeFAg376eTNiX2cZOWGPurxvFgRG", "post_id": "anft91", "action": {"description": "telling someone that their boyfriend is cheating on her with my best friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I told someone that their boyfriend is cheating on her with my best friend?", "text": "The only way I can think to explain this is chronologically.\n\nSo, C is my best friend of 8 years, and we're pretty close. C has what she calls a \"boy best friend,\" that we'll call K. (For context, any boy she's ever called her \"boy best friend,\" she's probably had sex with. She can do what she wants, but she's known for putting out.) Her and K had been friends for a few years, and were pretty close. But, since we're all hormonal teens, of course they started liking eachother in the other way. They had a fling, kind of a friends-with benefits thing, for a while. Nothing official, really, no claiming eachother, and keeping it on the down low. They seemed pretty happy, to be honest.\n\nThen, enter N, K's new girlfriend, who didn't know that C and K were a thing.\n\nC and K weren't exclusive or in a relationship, so, aside from the hurt feelings on both sides and a few small arguments, nothing really came of K calling it quits. C really seemed to accept that K was really trying to commit to N, and they stayed friends.\n\nThen, I notice C being awfully nice to N. I've known her for a long time, and I can tell when she's being fake. It's so obvious to me, so I immediately get suspicious, but don't say anything about it. Few months later, C pulls me aside and shows me her Snapchat messages with K and, lo and behold, there's incriminating stuff on there. There's messages going all the way back to barely a few weeks after K and N got together. Then she tells me that her and K have had sex multiple times, and they're gonna hook up again soon.\n\nEnter moral dillemma.\n\nN is a nice girl, honestly. I don't think she deserves someone being a fake friend or getting cheated on, let alone both, and I think  someone should tell her ASAP so they can sort things out. On the other hand, it's not my place, is it? Would I be messy and trying to start something? I don't want to ruin a friendship, but I don't want to watch a good person get played like this. I want brutal honesty. I'm stumped.\n\nSo, WIBTA if I exposed it?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ImX3PMO3hBD67u05nU8RwYcLwhf2eCOr", "post_id": "ajs97q", "action": {"description": "giving up on a close friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For giving up on a close friend?", "text": "So it sounds dumb and corny but hear me out\u2014\n\n​\n\nSo this is gonna involve 2 other people, let's call them Chris and Brandon.\n\n​\n\nI met this Chris my freshman year of high-school. He already knew Brandon, who was a very close friend of mine, and we hit it off immediately. He was the only person who stuck by me after the shit hit the fan for me that year, and he stayed since. We were basically brothers by the time junior year hits, and I get kicked out of school (apparently it's not okay to bring weed to school but whatever) and we both still stick by each other. We shared everything with each other and did everything together. Hell, we even lost our v's to the same lady (a story for another time).\n\nWhen Chris got his license, we went on trips together all the time even if Brandon wouldn't go. Chris and I could just talk for hours and hours without stopping. We could do virtually anything anywhere and still have a good time.\n\nWe've been arrested together (nothing major, just dumb teen stuff) and have really experienced a lot of life together generally.\n\n​\n\nAround his senior year (I got my GED so I was out already) he started getting more into psychedelics. We smoked weed a lot before then, but never wanted to experiment with psychs. He tried acid, and mushrooms fairly frequently but never to an extent that would concern me. Brandon and I did acid with him just once, as well as mushrooms and mushroom tea on multiple occasions. Finally, me and Brandon decided we experienced what we wanted to, so we were good and done with psychs for a long while. Chris didn't feel the same.\n\nHe continued to fry as much as he possibly could. His eyes turned into black holes, and he looked like he had goddamn tuberculosis 24/7. I expressed my worry to him on many occasions, as well as Brandon. We did our best to get him to calm down, but whenever we approached him about it, he'd get extremely defensive.\n\n​\n\nFinally, he had enough of us and ghosted us for a year. We were extremely fed up with him, and had no problem with him doing this, but continued to worry about him. We'd see him around sometimes, and be relieved he's at least still alive.\n\n​\n\nA bit later on he contacted us again (I should add the three of us were in a band) to see about jamming. We were all for it, and he seemed like he matured a bit and kinda got his head in the right place. We set a date, and he came on over.\n\n​\n\nWe jammed for a couple minutes and he continued asking if we wanted to drop acid with him. We declined over and over again, and he got fed up and left.\n\n​\n\nBlah blah blah he ghosted us again, then he was back.\n\nAfter he contacted us the last time, he announced he's having a son with someone he had a one-night-stand with. I hoped this would urge him to become more mature and get his shit together, but of course not. He became super into painkillers and pills in general. A couple of weeks ago, he swallowed a handful of Valium and downed an entire bottle of Smirnoff. He was in the hospital for two days and almost died. He claimed he was \"just tryna get fucked up\". **He has a goddamn son.** \n\nA couple days ago Brandon and I were kicking it as we do every Monday to catch the new episode of Arrow. He messaged us, asking what we were up to. I told him, and he got pissed off and ghosted us again. We decided we had enough. No use worrying about him, we already grieved him long ago.\n\n​\n\nNow.... **Am I The Asshole for deciding to just let him rot, and never contact him again? Am I The Asshole for completely cutting ties with someone who's been such an important part of my life?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8fLHflg0zD8sIqDOEeuej2e5mTmj8NFz", "post_id": "a2s982", "action": {"description": "getting mad at the way my girlfriend dresses", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at the way my girlfriend dresses?", "text": "Gf likes to wear very revealing clothing which I was completely fine with. I\u2019m not a controlling person at all, and I feel she can express herself in any way she wants to. That being said she loves attention from other guys, and I\u2019m also okay with this. The part that I\u2019m not okay with is that she doesn\u2019t like telling people she has a boyfriend. I would be okay if she was determined to tell people who hit on her, or asked her out because of the way she dresses that she was seeing someone, but she doesn\u2019t. I didn\u2019t care how she dressed at first, but now I do as she doesn\u2019t push the people that hit on her or ask her out away. Am I at fault here for feeling this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DQXkSKqdnn6LicyMqrFmi0P49png06YC", "post_id": "b5q4x1", "action": {"description": "calling the police just to be on the safe side", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling the police just to be on the safe side?", "text": "I volunteer at a drop in center.  From the window you can see out into a large parking lot.  There were three kids out in the parking lot just playing around.  Myself and another volunteer noticed an adult approach them.  They seemed to be just talking.  It\u2019s impossible to say if any of the kids knew this man, but the body language seemed uncomfortable from the kids.  My co-volunteer decided it couldn\u2019t hurt to call the non-emergency police number and just let them know what we saw and that it might be sketchy.  An officer came and all that happened is the guy ended up walking away.  I still have no idea if he knew one of the kids or not.  Was it an asshole assumption and overreaction, or is it better to play it safe?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NCkS5TPUF30WYHpSuZLZumUpIRkBnEEl", "post_id": "at53sf", "action": null, "title": "AITA Neighbors legally parking in front of my house", "text": "I have a house of college students next to me that park in front of my house on street parking all the time. While street parking is legal, and I do have a driveway, it's become highly annoying. Not to mention they have 5 cars, but do indeed have a driveway that will fit all 5 cars. They just don't ever want to have to do the car shuffle when one wants to leave. So they park all but one on the street. \n\n\nIt started as me just being annoyed that they park there for an extended period of time. I can't mow the grass at the curb, or edge, or string trim for fear of damaging their car. I had a nice day to pressure wash the walkways so I did it anyway with the car blocking the walking path to my house. But when I was done I made sure to rinse their car down of any mud and dirt that flew on it. My guests need to park down the street from my house due to no parking at mine. Most of my wife's friends are pregnant or have toddlers in tow while carrying diaper bags etc. \n\n\nSo to get to the altercations my dog was barking one morning at 8am and woke one of the guys up. He comes and bangs on my door and says the dog woke him up, I apologized and said my dog was having a freak out and I don't know why. Turns out a smoke detector low battery beep freaked him. He's telling me to shut my dog up because he likes to sleep in until 10am. I got annoyed and said I can't believe you came over. I never knocked on your door for playing loud music until 1am waking my newborn child up.\n\n\nDuring this I brought up the car thing. I asked do you guys even use the driveway? I don't mind you parking there temporarily here or there, and I know it's legal but I do like to mow my lawn and edge when it's convenient for me not after waiting out the 12 days you leave the car parked there. After this they stopped parking there except for short periods which I thank them for and am fine with.... Until...\n\n\nThey parked a car blocking my truck in the driveway. I literally could not get my truck out. They are all in the garage with music on full blast so I just had to wait it out or go full lunatic, trespass, and bang on their garage door. I was minutes away from just blasting out the driveway and wrecking their car because I had to be somewhere. Then one comes outside and I run out and let them have it. \n\n\nI guess the other neighbors have had it out with them also for parking in front of their houses also. \n\n\nSo AITA?\n\nDisclaimer: No they aren't doing anything illegal by parking on the street. I'm just more annoyed by their laziness, rudeness, and being an all around inconvenience. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f5U84jLtmCYMijM51bzeEzU86YziW0kc", "post_id": "aqdrp5", "action": {"description": "giving my boyfriend an ultimatum", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving my boyfriend an ultimatum?", "text": "Recently, I gave my boyfriend an ultimatum. It was either going to be me or his friend/ex-fling. \n\n\nBefore we met, my boyfriend had this on/off relationship with his childhood friend. They weren\u2019t exactly \u201cdating\u201d but they were sleeping together and were kind of \u201cofficial\u201d. They were in their off phase when he met me. We got together and my boyfriend and his friend broke whatever they had off. \n\n\nI really don\u2019t like my boyfriends friend. She\u2019s always flirting with him DESPITE knowing we are in a happy relationship. Whenever we get together with friends, she\u2019s always with him. When my boyfriend and I are on a date, guess who shows up! You get the picture. \n\nI told my boyfriend my concerns, and he assures me that nothing is going on between him. I believe him. But lately, I don\u2019t believe him. He\u2019s always going out with her and ditching our dates to hang out with her. One time, he took her to a restaurant reservation I SET AND PAID FOR because Friend was \u201csad because she broke up with her boyfriend recently\u201d. Friend did not have a boyfriend. \n\nWe got into this huge fight about this last night. It was then I gave him the ultimatum. It wad either gonna be me or her. He left shortly after. \n\nSince I had a day to myself, I was thinking if IATA for making him choose between his childhood friend or me. I don\u2019t know what she is going through or if she really did have a boyfriend I didn\u2019t know about. So AITA for making him choose? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nyABmxaWlc29VGtGmfLXXTVGJvnpwnDP", "post_id": "aqp3k8", "action": {"description": "kinda blackmailing my teacher", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for kinda blackmailing my teacher?", "text": "My teacher is pretty creepy and always stares at me and I think he probably wants to fuck me. He gave me a pretty low grade on my coursework and tbh I guess I deserved it because I spent barely any time on it. I asked to speak to him after class and tried asking him if he could raise my grade because I think I deserved more. He said he really couldn\u2019t give me a higher grade but he\u2019d be willing to let me have a bit more time and he could help me with it. I told him I don\u2019t have any time this week and he said he couldn\u2019t really do much about it then. I told him I wonder how the head of year would feel about him always staring at me and then asking me to stay after school with him....\n\nHe said he doesn\u2019t stare at me and he was trying to help. I said yes you do stare at me and it makes me uncomfortable. He said he doesn\u2019t but he\u2019d raise my grade if I didn\u2019t say anything. \n\nWhen I left I actually felt really bad. AITA or does it serve him right because he\u2019s a creep? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uDusDBka7Q7VfUXc24Horo7DpbUNCbth", "post_id": "aqqzt4", "action": {"description": "getting my (now) ex flowers on Valentine's Day last year outside of her knowledge", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting my (now) ex flowers on Valentine's Day last year outside of her knowledge?", "text": "So obviously this was today last year, and obviously we were together at the time but aren't today.\n\nSo about a week or so before Valentine's Day, she and I agree that neither of us will give the other any of the traditional love-day fare, like candy, flowers, etc. Or so she thinks. See, I did this knowing that I was still intent on bringing her flowers by surprise. It'd be like a whole thing where she wouldn't have to get me anything just as some extra proverbial cake icing, but still got flowers. Good boyfriend brownie points, right? \n\nThought wrong.\n\nI see her a couple times that day before it's time to spring the trap, so to speak.we get into some non- argument where she messed up. I understand that may sound like a smear given we're no longer dating, but she actually agreed after I called her out that it was her bad. That made her feel bad, I think, even though I didn't hold on to it. She was my girl, and it was Valentine's Day. Either way, probably all the more reason to cheer her up with some surprise flowers, right?\n\nThought wrong.\n\nI bring her the flowers, orchids. She goes from kinda down to visibly upset. She proceeds to go on a big spiel about how it was wrong of me to not tell her about it. Wish I could give details, but alas, it was a year ago. I have one dumb caveman question to you:\n\nWhy thought wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fsFWNCHqSSjFcJWFv5EsuxW1GWSP1lol", "post_id": "ay52xr", "action": {"description": "cheating on my psycho gf", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA Cheating on my psycho gf", "text": " \n\nEnglish is not my first language, so pls try to ignore the grammer error.\n\n​\n\nStory is that I once had a relationship with a Girl called Terra, although we broke up it wasn\u00b4t hard to stay friends.  \nOne year passes and she introduced me to a friend (psycho gf). Me and psycho hit it off and after a while came together.  \nThe first few months were pretty fun, but after 4 months things got a little wierd. She forced me to cut contact with my friends and forced me to be diffrent, what I was wearing and what I was doing in my free time, she even tried to keep me away from my family, cuz she wanted me all for herself.  \nthrough the whole relationship i had to put up with her wierd phases and the whole \"I will break up with you, if you don\u00b4t do as I say\" shit.\n\nOne day she acted like she wanted to break up, again, same old story. I told psycho that it\u00b4s over for real and that I don\u00b4t want to put up with this shit anymore.\n\nTerra was psychos best friend, so psycho went to her that night, but I didn\u00b4t know.  \nTerra said that she heard that I broke up with psycho and wanted me to come over, which i did.\n\nOnce I arrived, terra and I hit it of again, what I didn\u00b4t know was that psycho wanted to see what I will do, once I\u00b4m there, she was hiding in the next room, so I wouldn\u00b4t notice her.\n\nAt one point I needed to go to the bathroom and there she was crying. I was fucking confused, why was she watching us?\n\nI just laughed, because I didn\u00b4t know what to do.\n\nShe was screaming and was hit me while asking I was thinking doing something like that.\n\nI took my clothing and went outside to smoke a cigarette.\n\nTerra joined me and asked me to leave, I agreed and l left.  \nPsycho was devastated that I sleeped with her best friend at the same day I broke up with her.  \nPsycho would call and text me, about how many guys she was banging and that she didn\u00b4t care for me any more...that went on for months.  \nSo I started to go out with terra again, but I didn\u00b4t like her more than a friend.  \nPsycho saw us every day, because terra and here went to the same college and I wasn\u00b4t working far from them.  \nTerra and psycho were fighting every single because of what was going on.\n\nI told Terra that I wasn\u00b4t really interested in her and that we should return to being friends,\n\n​\n\n​\n\nBoth hate gut now.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oD4Lin3NCaMRnwykUEKKJLKuK61tWISu", "post_id": "ax33t2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to reconcile with father", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to reconcile with father", "text": "  \n\nIm a20M college student; I\u2019m attending school outside my hometown so I\u2019m not close to my family now. My parents are divorced, was a small kid, no FatherFigure for good while, mom remarried to good guy. Father remarried too. Had JointCustody of us\n\nHe\u2019s an asshole; didnt know then, had strong habit of defaming my family. Always about money, activly dismissing moms finances by saying child support reason we were well off. 300$ both of us. Claiming, moms car, house, food, & clothes on my back we only because of him. I know its absurd now. Many, (can\u2019t stress enough)MANY cases of this. Lots manipulation, tactics like,\u201d.so you don\u2019t want me as a dad..i bet youd do it if I was Pedro(stepfather).. cloths on back Etc\n\nConstant, his/her fault 4divorce.As a kid made me developed a sense of mistrust 4 my parents, & a heavy sense of guilt that Ive carried to this day.(I know it\u2019s not my fault, but I\u2019ve felt like it\u2019s my fault for 18 yearsNot gonna change overnight\n\nGrew tired of lies, manipulation, attitude, the lack of a loving parent. when I finally turned18 I was in a position where Icould legally decide for myself if I wanted to see him or not. I avoid him\n\nOneDay he drives down2confront me, begins with\u201cI havent paid your child support because you havent seen me\u201d Coolly,\u201cyou haven\u2019t paid because I\u2019m 18, you\u2019re lying to me\u201dWas first time I retaliated, I was okay telling him to fuckoff\n\nHe grabs my shirt, \u201cyou don\u2019t talk to me that way when I put this shirt on you\u201d. I slapped his hand and said, \u201cgo fuck yourself\u201d Shocked, no one ever stood up to him. Seconds were hours\n\n\u201cSo you don\u2019t want me as your dad then\n\n\u201cI never did, I don\u2019t want to see you again, the next time I see your face will be when you\u2019re in a coffin. Now get the fuck out of here before I kick the shit out of you like I should have a long time ago\u201d\n\nHe left\n\nFast forward 2years Ive had a hard time making family understand. I made my mind. But mom and sister insist there is something wrong with me, that the problems that I\u2019m facing now, (depression, anxiety, ADHD), result from my bad relationship with him.\n\nIve always felt this way tho, it was undiagnosed,&untreated for years\n\nToday my sister calls me full of tears, asking why I won\u2019t speak 2 dad. (Obviously he said things to her), No need to justify, Its my decision. Mom calls me and lists people who have had it worse, (physical abuse, abandonment, drugs)and still love their fathers\n\nMy reply\u201cit\u2019s terrible that it happened to them, but they decided to love their dads, I didn\u2019t. Just because someone has it worse, it doesn\u2019t make my problems any less valid; if they wanted their dads in their life, good for them. If I didn\u2019t, good for me. I\u2019ve tried to explain this to you many times, but I will not try again, now I will tell you, if you don\u2019t like it, too fucking bad, I don\u2019t care what you think about my relationship with my dad. Maybe I\u2019ll regret it, maybe I won\u2019t. But as of today, I\u2019m very happy with my decision\u201d\n\nAsshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6UV5xCwxTioVgojtJTnUuK1oSaHPUiOa", "post_id": "a0ccrl", "action": {"description": "not wanting to forgive my brother & for backing out of a trip that has already been paid for", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for not wanting to forgive my brother & for backing out of a trip that has already been paid for?", "text": "I am the only girl among my sibs of 4 and the youngest.\n\nIn the summer, I went travelling with my aunt and her family. When I arrived at our home country, I had my brother pick me up from the airport. On our way home, we were talking about my trip when my brother asked me if my cousins (who i was travelling with) do their obligatory prayers (we\u2019re Muslims). Feeling like it was not my place to answer, I told him I don't want to talk about it. He immediately took it as a no and started talking shit about my cousins how they don\u2019t pray and probably drank alcohol behind their parents' back. I didn\u2019t want to hear his accusations and refused to participate in his conversation so I pretended to sleep (bad move).\n\nThis made him pissed off, so he suddenly sped up the car at an alarming speed and started calling me stupid, that i make a big deal out of everything cuz his qn wasn\u2019t a big deal and that I treat him like shit even though he is my older brother. I didn\u2019t say anything. Moments later, he shouted to get my attention and said \u201cwhen im really pissed off, i won\u2019t hesitate to raise my hand (ie he would hit me)\u201d\n\nBtw, when arguing in our language, esp the word stupid in his tone, it\u2019s a really really horrible insult and packs a lot of weight.\n\nHe started bringing up all my wrongdoings in the past like the many times i raised my voice at my mom (i also know i was wrong most times and I've apologised number of times & definitely before my parents left for Hajj. ofc he didn't know this) and that one time, I wont let him use my mirror (long story). At this point, I was shocked and I wasn\u2019t able to properly think. So I replied by blurting out his mistakes and he tried to justify them and was being passive aggressive.\n\nThen he stopped by his fiancee\u2019s place to pick up his things and left me in the car with the engine off and took the keys with him. I called my parents who were doing their Hajj in KSA & when my parents wanted to speak to him, he told them i was stupid & had the audacity to shift the focus on me by saying how rude i was to our mom before. Middle of the call, he said how he won\u2019t hesitate to drive the car towards the wall so we would die. I\u2019ve already started crying and was screaming like a crazy person in front of his fiancee, fiancee\u2019s dad and brother. Somehow his fiancee convinced him to stay so I can drive myself home.\n\nWhen I got home, there were these texts he left in our family group chat, calling me a fat cunt, that the next time he sees me, he\u2019ll beat me up, etc. He also said he was happy to see me crying, cuz if he couldn\u2019t hit me physically, at least he had the satisfaction of making me cry. He tried to play hero to my mom that if i ever raise my voice at her, he\u2019ll slap the shit out of me for her.\n\nExcept he isn\u2019t perfect either, he has had anger tantrums that hurt my mom badly, barely around to help my parents whenever we have house events (when he does, he does the minimum) and always takes his time that we are always late for anything. He also spends most of his time at his fiancee\u2019s that my mom is constantly asking when he\u2019ll come home. When our maternal grandmother passed away, he didn\u2019t come home & when my parents came home from Hajj, he wasn't around to welcome them and all the relatives were asking where he was cuz it wasn't proper. Also, he is unemployed for over 4 years since graduating from uni cuz he didn\u2019t want to have a job related to his field, wants easy money, leeches off my parents and brother. All my other brothers talk shit about him all the time cuz of his lazy ass. We are all concerned for him and even before this, I used to cook or buy food just so he could have a hearty meal instead of letting him eat instant noodles. He would sometimes ask me to get him something and promised to pay me back, but he never did.\u00a0\n\nFast forward to a couple of days ago, my parents were planning to go somewhere this Dec and asked if I would like to come with so I said yeah sure. Afterwards, my mom said dad also wants to bring the brother who hurt me and asked if it was ok. Still feeling hurt, I didn\u2019t say anything and left the room. Later on, I was told that my dad had bought the tickets & that this trip is supposed to be for us to reconcile. Apparently, my mom had been texting him and asked him to apologise to me (he is staying with his fiancee). He said that he wants to and that he\u2019s not like that anymore. So my mom pleaded that we talk and forgive each other and I just agreed to get her off my back.\n\nMy mother is really upset that her children are fighting and I really don\u2019t want to upset her any further.\u00a0Thing is the wound is still so fresh for me and I am still triggered every time I read something on reddit or books about a similar situation. I can\u2019t imagine going a week-long trip where I have to be close to him so I am now thinking of backing out.\u00a0\n\nSo am I the asshole for not being an adult and sucking it up, and further upsetting my mom for not wanting to make up and would I be the asshole for backing out of a trip that is already paid for that is meant for us to reconcile?\u00a0", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0JTug9pwr7DOTBEm9IsQ6AjSIb36Wb86", "post_id": "a3ov58", "action": {"description": "telling a girl things don't work out after the third date, an hour after we had sex on that same date", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA For telling a girl things don't work out after the third date, an hour after we had sex on that same date?", "text": "When I saw her naked I just wasn't attracted to her body, and while I liked her personality there was just 0 attraction whatsoever. I told her like an hour after \"sorry but I'm really not feeling this, I've got personal problems and Im not ready for a relationship.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "miuDBt58qxd3QI9yEJGi4BZeubsp0aCl", "post_id": "ag0fa0", "action": {"description": "not wanting to rekindle/continue an old friendship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to rekindle/continue an old friendship?", "text": "So I have a friend who I met in middle school; and while I didn\u2019t consider her that close of a friend, I guess I made an impression on her because she texted me recently. I responded and we talked for a bit, standard \u201cWhat-have-you-been-up-to\u201d questions and then she asked if she could come visit. It\u2019s been nearly 8 years since we talked, and I\u2019ve moved nearly 14 hours away from home. So I tell her I don\u2019t really have time for guests(not a lie), and she asks me if we\u2019re still friends. I told her that I appreciated her friendship in the past, but we haven\u2019t talked in years and I\u2019m not sure I\u2019m comfortable with having someone who may have changed a lot since we were friends in my house. She didn\u2019t respond and I\u2019m worried I upset her. I feel really bad, but I\u2019m really not up to hosting a guest, let alone someone I haven\u2019t talked to in 8 years.  I\u2019m don\u2019t mind texting and the occasional phone call, but a visit seems like a lot. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Z4yE5mPIqN8iTDBr91RDMkeN0DftM4u4", "post_id": "aqbymx", "action": {"description": "telling my coworkers that theyre being racist against me for being white", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For telling my coworkers that theyre being racist against me for being white?", "text": "Im a 22 year old who works as an operator at a chemical plant. As part of my job I have to work in an office 70% of the time with one other operator a few lab techs for paperwork. I make great money but I feel like the odd man out because I work with two black people and three hispanics. My boss is one of the hispanics and is one of the greatest dudes ive met, really hard worker and a good guy, but everyone else is extremely lazy and imo unprofessional but my boss is too much of a \"nice guy\" to do anything about it.\n\nSo anyway,the two black guys and two other hispanic guys single me out for racial talk. At first it was mild like \"I bet you cant handle spicy foods\" and \"Can you jump?\". Like stereotypical stuff that maybe is just a joke but still makes me feel kinda on the outs since they dont seem to do it to eachother. I play along though.\n\nWell now theyre getting more nasty with stuff like \"You know why X has never been pulled over? Because hes white.\" Even though i have been pulled over. \"X you realize that you dont have work as hard as me to get ahead.\"\n\nThat offends me the most because its like you dont even know me or my life but youre saying I have it easy. I know for a fact that the person saying this was born into a wealthier upper midfle class family on the east coast because he told us, whereas i grew up in a bad area in detroit.\n\nPlus he had a college degree with a college fund and i could never go to college. Hes a lab tech and hes basically saying \"You see where I am? Ya I got here above you through adversity because im brown, and youre below me even though you have privledge.\" It seems like hes saying hes somehow better than me. Like he had obstacles and i didnt.\n\nThen I say that I have no \"privledge\" and that you guys are just singling me out because of my race. I call him a racist and he says that brown people cant be racist.\n\nIf it were up to me we wouldnt even be speaking about this bullshit but for some reason they have to come at me like this all the fucking time. My boss doesnt stop it and i dont want to be a snitch.\n\nNow since the fight another says that I am a racist. I ask him why. He says just from hearing my words. I ask him what words. He says just in general. I tell him to fuck off and storm out. My boss calls me later and i have a bitch fest. He understands my anger but thinks i should just ignore it. I hate going into work now.\n\nSo whose the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JAQHhNzk2gWd74Go0vvm8IpVIQ7miVnY", "post_id": "ayrg3y", "action": {"description": "not making my SO breakfast and laughing about it", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not making my SO breakfast and laughing about it?", "text": "Title basically explains it. I got up this morning and made myself breakfast, and sat down on the couch to eat it. At the time, he was on his PS4 playing fortnight, and seemed really in the zone so I didn\u2019t make his breakfast at the same time that I made mine. Full disclosure, I usually **do** make out food at the same time, just because I\u2019m normally the first one up. \n\nAnyway, I went and sat on the couch and started eating, (nothing fancy. I ate broccoli, eggs, and cheese toast), and he literally poured at me, and whined, \u201c*You didn\u2019t make me none?*\u201d I told him I was planning on making his food after he got off the game, or close to it so it wouldn\u2019t be cold. He literally *stuck his bottom lip out*, got all sullen, and was like \u201cno, never mind.\u201d It was so ridiculous to see a grown man pouting over something so small, I laughed. \n\nWhich caused him to get upset saying I was being rude and inconsiderate and making fun of his feelings. Then he announced he was going to go *buy* something to eat and stormed out. \n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4yTrFdyXruGpqN6i0DpTQ91x8As1HQcl", "post_id": "9trsdc", "action": {"description": "jumping in between a group of girls and bunch of dudes fighting at a metal concert", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: I [M, 25] jumped in between a group of girls and bunch of dudes fighting at a metal concert", "text": "I [M, 25] jumped in between a group of girls and some dudes fighting in the pit at a metal show.\n\nA few dudes stated fighting in the pit (where people dance really hard) at a metal show during a breakdown (heavy part) of a really popular song. They started coming our way, so I scooted in between two girls and the pit and put my arms between them. Then one the girls gave me an obviously annoyed look and afterwords said \"I'm a security guard. I think I can handle myself.\" I apologized, but the band was still playing and then they kind of disappeared.\n\nI feel pretty confident that I was a dickwad here, but I wanted a few other opinions. For further context, my wife was standing in front of me, so I was also (and, mainly) protecting her. I feel like I should have just worried about my wife and just let everyone else fend for themselves. And this wasn't a \"rock\" show, it was a metalcore show. Underoath to be specific. So people get pretty wild.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1WJCJbFxFvhXSQY7AjZmb0KdT2H02dQ8", "post_id": "b6w86j", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she won't be published", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend she won't be published?", "text": "Edit: New post with the correct amount of characters. \n\nI'm an aspiring writer, I've finished several short stories, one of which is being adapted for audio drama, and one novel manuscript which I've been sending to literary agencies for nearly a year now. I've mostly had rejections but I've recently had some luck with manuscript requests. The publishing industry is fucking difficult to break into, I'm under no illusion that I'll be published or even get an agent. It's a game of patience. I wouldn't dream of telling other people to not write because everyone should be allowed to explore and express their creativity, no matter what your language abilities are.\n\nBasically, I have a friend who wants to be a professional writer. We've been friends since we were teenagers (we are in our late 20s) s but she's always been a bit manic. She gets these flights of fancies and grand ideas that she usually doesn't follow through. We're both Swedish, but I've spent most of my life living abroad in English speaking countries, did half my Education and my university degree in English, I've been working and living the UK for eight years. I've spoken English since I was four years old and am a native speaker. She isn't. Her spoken and written English is very basic.\n\nShe's been writing a book in English for a while and every now and again she sends it to me to read which I'm grateful for. The story itself is an okay premise but the plot doesn't always make sense and the quality of the language is really poor. I've been helping her edit, pointing out how to structure it a bit and with some grammar. She's never been good at taking feedback or constructive criticism and at school, she was difficult to work with. She sent the novel to one of her friends who read it and called her \"the next JK Rowling\". After this, she has been convinced that she's going to make it in publishing and has been wanting to send the unfinished manuscript to literary agencies in both Sweden and the UK/US. She had convinced herself that they were going to take the unfinished script and she would have a bestseller on her hand.\n\nI tried telling her patiently that it takes time getting into publishing, that most authors don't get a bestseller with their first debut novel and she wouldn't listen. I then told her it's a bad idea to send out an unfinished novel, that hasn't been edited and that's written in a language that visibly isn't your mother-tongue and that it in all likelihood will not be picked up or even read by agencies. She didn't like this at all, told me I was being unsupportive and basically a bad friend.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "11m3XVxZ0rmxLxlYcS3DT4nsScfOjok3", "post_id": "9zo1ps", "action": {"description": "reclining my seat in an airplane", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for reclining my seat in an airplane?", "text": "It happened to me a while ago. It was a long flight and I wanted to lay back and sleep. I put my seat back and the guy behind me complained about not having enough room. Am I the asshole for not wanting to put my seat back into an upright position? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ObZNj8jI3EEv20Fi5fBPfF2z2966f5se", "post_id": "b3p4c3", "action": {"description": "avoiding mouth contact with someone because she had herpes", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I avoided mouth contact with someone because she had herpes?", "text": "So I've been hitting it off with this girl for awhile. We've known each other through the interwebs for a few years. She's going to move to my state, and we decided tk start hanging our irl.\n\nShe sent me an unsolicited underwear pic at one point to things are heating up.\n\nOnly problem is, she has mouth herpes, and I'm kinda torn on what the ettiquite is for a situation like this.\n\nOn one hand, I want to play it safe and avoid an incurable STD. On the other hand, to put it nicely, she's not the most stable mentally, and pretty much had a breakdown when she initially learned she had herpes, which I had to support her through, but I really do like this girl and don't want to inadvertently hurt her feelings by avoiding mouth contact.\n\nI haven't brought this up with her yet. This dilemma is entirely in my head at this point.\n\nWIBTA? Or am I just the asshole for making these assumptions and overthinking things in the first place?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sZ2iGpH06z6zhEIHy88N1BUJB5UyCdpT", "post_id": "aex3da", "action": {"description": "not letting my brother use my computer", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not letting my brother use my computer?", "text": "Hey reddit am I not the asshole for letting my brother use my computer here\u2019s some more details:\n\nI recently moved out of state with my girlfriend during the move I left my custom built pc I paid for behind and expected to pick it up at a later date. Well while I was gone my brother somehow picked up my computer from my parents and brought it to his house. After re setting it up he is now asking for the password to use it because  he should use it when I\u2019m not needing it. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "087ur4AjZofBcXeiuqFtURIoDUFjPZD0", "post_id": "avu7di", "action": {"description": "selling my friend's watch", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for selling my friend\u2019s watch?", "text": "First post here, on mobile, and English is not my first language. Long post with tl;dr at bottom.\n\nSo to begin, I was in the market for a smartwatch - but I hate paying full price for a new gadget that would get outdated anyways in a year, and so I decided to go and seek a secondhand smartwatch (e.g., from eBay, Craigslist, etc.)  I also decided to ask around in my friends groups, and lo and behold one of my buddies had a smartwatch in the exact make/model/year that I was seeking. \n\nI bought the smartwatch from my friend, who claimed that he hasn\u2019t used it for some time, and that it had been sitting on top of his drawer unused, as he prefers more traditional watches.  We agreed on a price that was good for both of us (and I threw in a couple of dollars as well, as I thought it was a good deal.) \n\nAfter a few days, I decided that although having a smartwatch WAS nice, it was not something I absolutely needed, and decided to re-sell it. (I asked the friend I bought it from if it was okay, and he said, \u2018Sure, alright,\u201d) Figuring that it was okay as I paid good money for the watch (I assumed it was mine completely.) \n\nI post it on an mobile online selling application, at around 40$ more than I bought it for, and I sold it within a few hours. Prior to this, I posted the listing on my social media in case my friends were interested. Several hours after I shipped the watch to my buyer, the friend texted me, (most likely seeing that I sold the watch) upset that I sold his watch after giving me a good deal on it. Of course, being the good friend that I am, I offered him the profit from the sale (although I feel as though I shouldn\u2019t have, I\u2019m just a nice guy.) I do feel a little bad, but feel as though I didn\u2019t do anything wrong, so AITA? (He hasn\u2019t responded to my offer about me giving him my profits yet.)\n\ntl;dr - Bought a smartwatch from a friend who didn\u2019t need it, decided I didn\u2019t need it either and flipped it. Friend is upset that I sold it and profited, even though I told him I would. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9CvdnAx772dQqICV973iicTvIlbpX1yc", "post_id": "aed8nw", "action": {"description": "giving an uber driver less stars for making a phone call while I'm in the car", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA if I give an uber driver less stars for making a phone call while I\u2019m in the car?", "text": "I took an uber, he got a call, so he put headphones in and talked on the phone the whole ride. He also never apologized or to explained why he needed to make the call. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QzheDO5ltEupGomhiGlX2uQ7GN99Uoji", "post_id": "b0t4zg", "action": {"description": "practicing Piano in metro", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA, practicing Piano in metro", "text": "Note: Posting for my friend\nIn the metro there is a piano for everyone to use (if they can play piano). My friend does have a piano at home but his time is very limited for practice, only an hour or so. He likes to practice in every little bit of free time.\n\nHe usually practices on this piano in the metro. People sometimes give him strange looks but move on. Most of the time he plays a few short scales and brings out his music to practice. Of course, this is for practice, and it isn't going to sound good.\n\nSome people approached my friend and told him to get off. He has no idea if they play piano. They told him to get off the piano because the piano in the metro is for the audience (metro users) and you should be playing nice sounding music, not practicing. They said that it was not pleasant to listen to (he was just playing scales). \n\nHe explained his situation to them and they got into an argument. Eventually he had to leave for the train but it got heated, on about what the piano was for. Some people stared.\n\nIs my friend the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sMx7F3gK7cgDXDAKRFA34jS22e5ndVWP", "post_id": "ad5qro", "action": null, "title": "AITA- Didn't bail a woman out of a technical error.", "text": "Hello! First time poster, long time lurker. On mobile so I apologise for formatting.\n\nI work customer service for a retail giant. Would prefer not to name them just to be safe, but trust me, you've heard of them.\n\nYesterday, a woman comes to the front of the line and starts yelling at me that her Visa prepaid gift card didn't have the money on it. I pointed out the number for her to call, she calmed down and left.\n\nThen she came back, once again approaching me screaming. She yelled that no one answered on the end, and that she needed her money right away. I told her there was nothing we could do, VISA gift cards are out of our hands. I called a manager over to see if the manager could do something I could not. \n\nWhile the manager tries multiple things to help them (calling the number for her, checking our system to see if it activated) our hands ended up being tied. Customer service for VISA said something about 3 business days. The lady kept shouting, saying that the cashier lied to her about it being active right away (note: they normally are active right away, this gift card had glitched). \n\nI gathered from the ongoing conversation that the reason she was so desperate for this money was that she needed it to pay her electric bill which was due today. Suddenly it made sense why she was so frantic. She made a comment in a distressed tone saying \"I wouldn't do this if I didn't need to, everyone is staring at me!\" \n\n\nI considered buying the $25 gift card off of her, getting cash on my upcoming lunch hour. However, I decided against it. I was low on funds, and would either have to tighten my belt or dip into my college/emergency funds and end the pay period with less than $10. I wasn't sure if the gift card would work later. But it would be dishonest if I didn't admit that the biggest factor is that she had yelled at me the whole time.\n\nTL;DR Lady started off shouting at me, a customer service worker, about the gift card she needed for her electric bill not activating properly. I could have dipped into my sparse personal funds to buy it from her but decided not to mostly because of her shouting.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XcAIGWHiK3iFUsp6x0pPIYCsGDWzUVM1", "post_id": "artuyk", "action": {"description": "accusing this guy of stalking me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for accusing this guy of stalking me?", "text": "I'll try to keep this as succinct as possible without leaving out any relevant details and hopefully not in a biased way. Anyway: \n\nLately I've been interacting a lot with a guy who has been making me very uncomfortable, but it's hard to tell if he's malicious or just overly friendly, and if I'm not imagining things. I usually pass by his house on my way to class, and a few weeks ago he was getting his mail when I walked by and said hello. Nothing out of the ordinary; I said hi back and that was it. This happened a couple more times that week, but again I didn't see it as abnormal.\n\nThe next week he showed up during my shift at the coffee shop I work at. Not weird in itself, but conversing with him I was getting kind of an odd vibe from the guy. *Slightly* creepy. Plus the fact that he'd never been in there before weirded me out. He came in again a few more times that week and the week after, sort of developing a routine of coming in on my shift. At that point I was starting to get a bit more concerned, because it seemed like he was actually trying to see me as much as possible, but even then I figured it could be fairly innocuous. Or at worst, he was interested in me, and I could just turn him down. But still, no huge cause for alarm I guess. \n\nI didn't see him at work or on my way to/from class at all the next week, so I kinda thought the whole thing was over. But it wasn't, because three times that week I spotted his car in very weird places; once in the parking lot outside the building I had class in, and outside the school library, and once driving through an intersection that I was walking a block away from. \n\nSo I was feeling somewhat freaked out about this when he eventually did come for coffee at my work again. I initially avoided him, but then I straight up told him (in as discreet a way as possible) that his attention was making me uncomfortable, that I'd seen his car in weird spots, and that I felt like he was stalking me. Yes, I actually used that word. He did not react well to being accused of that, said he was just being friendly, and basically called me crazy and made a huge scene, and stormed out. \n\nDoes it sound like I'm being crazy? AITA for jumping to conclusions, or do I have reason to be concerned?\n\ntl;dr I feel like I'm being stalked. Might be jumping to huge conclusions over nothing.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1H6D2WnL3Zr0C0yIT7YMT6tbHs7QdwbO", "post_id": "b91ch5", "action": {"description": "yelling at someone to stop farting in a bar", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for yelling at someone to stop farting in a bar?", "text": "So I went to a bar close to my house that I occasionally visit to have a few drinks after work. The night was going well. I ended up talking with a cute girl for awhile and she gave me her number. Things were chill and so was I. \n\nWell, girl has to go home cause it\u2019s getting late, but I still have another one in me and stick around. In walks a group of four and they sit at the bar next to me. Nothing out of the ordinary. But then begins the great stink. Dude next to me farts, but doesn\u2019t stop at one. He farts again and again. I could have moved, but I had a seat at the bar that I didn\u2019t want to lose. \n\nThen I get pissed from his stank. I tell him to quit farting that it\u2019s disgusting and fucking rude. That was enough to make he and his friends walk out. \n\nThen the bartender gets super pissed at me. She rants about not shaming people for farting and making her customers leave. She literally sits down right next to me and chews me out about this. I just gave her a stone cold stare. Then I tell her it\u2019s rude for people to be doing that shit. She yells some more then goes back behind the bar. \n\nI wasn\u2019t kicked out, but she was super pissed. Thankfully I had closed out already, so I finished my drink and left.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SWxBOEATDWCjnqb4iLiP3blqjgmuH0If", "post_id": "adruxq", "action": {"description": "causing troubles for my boss even though it's technically his fault", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for causing troubles for my boss even though it's technically his fault?", "text": "Hello fellow redditors and redditeers!\n\n​\n\nSo i've been working for my boss for a long time now. We do a lot of work together daily, even though he sometimes puts me through shitty situations, I still appreciate him.\n\n​\n\nBut for some time now, he's just been sitting on his ass doing nothing and eating badly, causing for me to develop hemorrhoids. He blames me for them and yeah, it is kind of my fault for having this tendency to develop them, but in my opinion he shouldn't sit so much and could eat some vegetables here and there and we would both be happier. I can't really do anything in this situation, but he still curses me all the time. Every morning he screams \"Damn you to hell! Why are you like this!\" and I've started to believe that I am bloody awful. I don't want to cause him so much trouble.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nP5KGxfe7vImoSeEUqGwjzm2w4UeDsND", "post_id": "asv16g", "action": {"description": "getting upset because my girlfriend and her family booked a vacation without me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting upset because my girlfriend and her family booked a vacation without me.", "text": "For starters, I am a pretty chill person, so this event isn't the end of the world for me or anything, ill be fine no matter the outcome. I just wasn't all that thrilled at how it went down. \n\n​\n\nMy (24M) girlfriend (20F) and I have been dating for 2 years. We do everything together, and we both get along perfectly with each-other's families. She and her family have been talking about taking a special vacation within the next couple months to celebrate my girlfriend's sister (17F) going to college next year. They have been throwing around ideas like going to Disney World or Universal Studios and spending a few days in Florida. My girlfriend gave me some dates and asked me which ones worked best for me. The next day we all sat down and actually made some plans. We decided on going to Disney and I even had some input on the planning. The very next day i get a text from my gf telling me i need to ask her sister if i'm allowed to come to Disney with them. It would have been me, my gf, her sister, and their mom all going on this trip. I get along just fine with her sister and her mom, so I had no idea why anyone would have a problem with me going. She then told me that her mom had already booked everything; the flights, the hotels, and she purchased all their tickets. I would have paid for my own stuff obviously, but I would have thought if they wanted me to go, they would have gotten my tickets since it would be easier. I was 100% sure i was going on this trip with them since we ALL were talking about it the night before. I asked my gf why she didn't ask about getting my ticket while they got theirs. She told me her mom said it was a girls trip and if I wanted to go I would have to ask my gf's sister since it was technically her trip. My gf also told me they would be able to add me to their hotel room if I did end up going, but I dont even feel like asking if I im allowed to go since I was clearly left out of the discussion and now it feels like I was never meant to be invited in the first place. \n\n​\n\nAITA for feeling left out of the vacation when it seemed clear i would be going? \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NJ0XW4IDg94UuU9yhZc0D4i9JG8UPA77", "post_id": "b9iv2e", "action": {"description": "reporting my neighborhood mechanic", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "WIBTA for reporting my neighborhood mechanic?", "text": "About a year ago I and my wife (white) bought a house and moved into one of LA's most rapidly gentrifying, majority Hispanic neighborhoods.\n\nWe've tried to be really respectful of some of the cultural norms that are new to us - blasting Mexican music the whole neighborhood can hear, selling used clothing from your front lawn, etc. \n\nBut in our small little neighborhood there's one dude running an auto repair business out of his house. Parking is at a premium on the streets immediately around my house because this one guy usually has 8 - 12 barely running cars parked. If not for him, the parking would be plentiful. As it is, it's a struggle if anyone comes to visit us for them to find parking.\n\nThe area is clearly zoned for residential, not business, and I'd bet dollars to donuts that this guy is unlicensed (not sure what the rules are on this though) and probably taking cash under the table. It's occurred to us that there are probably mechanisms by which we could report the business to zoning board, IRS, the City, etc.  \n\n\nBut WIBTA if I did? I'm sure this guy's been doing this for years and suddenly white people are moving in and causing problems. But just because the neighborhood previously turned a blind eye doesn't mean it's not illegal, unsafe and un-neighborly.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0hqzpR3kznERjnpcZt7dPaVnujNBYLqd", "post_id": "b8jn1q", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help my ex wife out more monetarily or with extra time now that our son has a time consuming medical condition", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 208}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to help my ex wife out more monetarily or with extra time now that our son has a time consuming medical condition.", "text": "When we first got divorced our son was 4. He was perfectly healthy and she got primary custody. I asked for a received every other weekend. The court ordered me to pay a set amount of child support a month. I pay it. She carries health insurance and pays for day care. I just pay the court ordered amount that lines up with my income. \n\nAbout a year ago he started having seizures. Some of them lasted a long time which led to some hospitalizations. That led to a host of appts at specialist and she took a leave from work to deal with it all. \n\nI work erratic hours and go to college so although I visited him at the hospital a few times.  I couldn\u2019t make it to the appts. \n\nThe medical bills came rolling in and she asked me to help. I don\u2019t have any more money so I told her no. She asked me to watch him sometimes so she could go back to work and make up some hours so she could pay the bills. I told her to get a babysitter. She said she couldn\u2019t afford one. I can\u2019t see him during the week because of my school schedule and work schedule so I told her no. The court order says nothing about medical bills and me having to pay half. \n\nNow she wants to enroll him in some kind of summer camp for kids with epilepsy because she said sending him to a regular daycare is hard since they often don\u2019t know how to deal with his seizures. She asked if I could at least help pay for some of it. Even a small portion. Again, I\u2019ve no money so I said no. \n\nNow she wants to be in a medical trial for the seizures but the doctor won\u2019t let her in unless he can meet with me but he can only meet with me during the week. They are claiming it is because there are overnights involved. I am busy then. I also think the study isn\u2019t necessary. Medicine is controlling them mostly. \n\nI am poor college student. I just don\u2019t have the money. She says I am an asshole for only paying the bare minimum and never helping out more. My argument is that I pay child support as ordered and I take my every other weekend. I do my part. I do what is required. I am not her partner anymore and I don\u2019t think it is my job to help her out. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 208, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 208}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NuwXko2kBYqmow71na7lQeNiOA0IEWeI", "post_id": "alvj1g", "action": {"description": "not being able to trust my gf", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being able to trust my gf?", "text": "Alright, so basically been with this girl for just over a year and its always been off and on again. We argue over stupid shit and it ends with us not talking for like a week or two. Rhing is, everytime we have gotten back she tells me she went and saw other people. I was uoset of course but i tried to move past it. Same pattern happens and we fight but mostly because I just dont believe she isnt cheating on me. She has told me she still talks to exes and old flings and that its \"just conversational\". (I dont know i havent looked through her shit even though i want to at this point because i feel like a chump). I try talking to her about it but she gets defensive which makes me defensive and I say stupid and mean shit. Which also leads to us not talking for a week. So i just spend my time obsessing over who shes probably with because thats what she does...\n\nThen we \"make up\" and she will tell me i need to trust her, but i just cant because i dont feel like shes really given me a reason to. I dont know if im pushing to far and I should just let it go. I feel like an asshole because its probably all in my head and i end up treating her like crap. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gYPfhfc9CK0PdlVULzdlKLRLnimSwTsu", "post_id": "avmhps", "action": {"description": "arguing with my girlfriend, about her and her sisters trip", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for arguing with my girlfriend, about her and her sisters trip?", "text": " \n\n## AITA for arguing with my girlfriend, about her and her sisters trip?\n\n\ud83d\udcf7\n\nFirst time poster and on mobile so go easy on me for format and spelling errors. So for some back story my girlfriend and i have been dating for 4 years. Her family is meh, but i love them. One of them in particular is her sister who annoys me to no end. She is one of those complainer types, who always talks over you, and is never wrong.\n\nFor example, while driving her to a bowling ally she was telling me how shit of a driver i am b.c i turned left just before a card was coming for a somewhat close call. And stated, \"even im a better driver than that. \" Keep in mind she is 26 and at that point only had her license for 5 months and i had been driving for years. Almost 10.\n\nSo with that out of the way for context my girlfriend planned a trip to Disney world with just her and her sister. Cool... I thought. I take care of my autistic sister who cant go. So i say fine. Enjoy you trip and i offer some money for a good time and some goodies for their way back. Well, just this week i find out, not only does my girlfriend want me to pick her sister up from the airport, thursday, she wants me to drive them around town, sleep on the couch while they sleep on the bed them get up Friday morning at 4am to drive them to the airport. Both girls have cars, can drive and the only way i can take them is to make sure my autistic sister who isnt up until 7am to be up early to drive them. I told gf id pay for uber or lift, and she says \" i dont want hurt. \"\n\nAm i fucking crazy, or am i the asshole here?\n\nOther needed background knowledge. Gf family left her here in Ohio with me and her sister could just drive 3 hours here but is requesting i pick her up b.c she wants to fly instead.\n\nSister never says thank you. And has even complajned about me taking a bottle of water from her 24 pk case one time.\n\nAITA?\n\nTLDR - girlfriends and her sister expect me to drive them around all day and do multiple pick up and drop off during ungodly hours for their trip im not even going on. Kicking me out of my bed and messing up my whole routine and autistic sisters important sleep sceduel.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tdFkxGXxsRN6N4Tn5oVgI9EMcYKPlojP", "post_id": "aqkxa2", "action": {"description": "cutting someone out of my life because they didnt let me use their laptop for a quiz", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 29}, "title": "AITA for cutting someone out of my life because they didnt let me use their laptop for a quiz?", "text": "Long post, most of it is background information... TL;DR at the end. \n\n I have this coworker/close friend, that I have been helping out for a while. His truck broke down once, and I was his ride to practically everywhere he needed to go, and I only asked for gas once or twice. He fixed his truck, everything goes back to normal.\n\nHis truck breaks down again not a week after and I'm back to taking him everywhere. Now, I actually don't mind any of this. We got really close, and get along very well. Plus I'd drag him along to random things I didn't want to do alone anyways. So I thoroughly enjoy his company.\n\n\nHe's also been having money issues, and I've bought him food and drinks countless times. The days he's had money, he has bought me food and drinks so I don't feel like he's ever really taken advantage of me. \n\n\nOne day, I was trying to get his attention, and threw a metal thing at him, missed, and hit his laptop screen. It scraped the screen the tiniest bit and we got in a big fight over it, I appologized and felt super bad, and I told him i'd never touch his computer again.\n\n\nFast foward to yesterday, and I was getting ready to leave for school and I texted my friend if she rented out a computer for me at my school (I can't rent one out for myself because I turned one in late once and I am no longer allowed to rent out any equipment) She said she didn't and I panicked. I needed to use an app to take an online quiz, and my laptop is apparently not compatible with the schools system, so using mine is out of the picture. I'm telling him all of this and ask to use his. He says no, and I start to beg him for it. Telling him I wouldn't ask if he wasn't my last resort. I told him I needed it for an hour to take a quiz but he wasn't changing his mind.\n\n\nAfter that I got up, and told him that after everything i've done for him, I couldn't believe he wouldn't let me use his laptop for an hour, for a quiz I needed to take. I told him it was *fine* and that I would take a 0, and I left. \n\n\nHe texted me telling me he was going to let me use it but that I left. I responded with \"I shouldn't have to beg you for something like that anyways\" and haven't talked to him since. He's tried talking to me, but I haven't responded.\n\nSo, AITA?\n\nTL;DR : AITA for not talking to someone over them not letting me borrow their laptop I accidently damaged after the constant favors I've been doing for them for months.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 25, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 29}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8Aj4Cm4UwonrOBy7PwYTlVt00UcnYM3P", "post_id": "ak7xaf", "action": {"description": "taking my family dog to the vet", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking my family dog to the vet", "text": "This happened a while ago during the Christmas holiday. I came home to my parents' for the first time in 3 months and find the family dog with a HUGE, baseball sized oozing lump on her chest. Bloody and sore. I freak out a little but my parents tell me it's 'fine' and that it doesn't seem to be bothering her. I'm not convinced though and I start asking about emergency vet appointments, but they get annoyed and tell me it's 'taken care of' and she has a biopsy in 3 weeks time. They're visibly annoyed that I won't shut up about it so I stop hassling. \n\n​\n\n3 weeks seems like a ridiculously long time away for something so horrific. It was making an odour and I was concerned about infection. I secretly call the vet to try and make an emergency appointment but they say there's nothing they can do before christmas (in 2 days) so I decide to hold out until then.\n\n​\n\nThe dog is, admittedly, fine. She's acting completely normal, despite this mountain on her chest, aside from licking it and it oozing and bleeding everywhere. Christmas comes and I vent to my grandma that I'm really worried about the dog. She knows the vet personally so manages to get me an appointment for the day after xmas. I take the dog in secret because I don't want to initiate any more arguments with my parents, I just want her seen asap. She gets x-rayed and has the biopsy. He warns me that it's very likely cancerous which upsets me but I understand. Costs me about $800 up front and I pay it. I come home and when my parents realise what I've done, all hell breaks loose. \n\n​\n\nI get screamed at for 'going behind their back'. That it's their dog, not mine any more, and it was all under control until I got involved. That I had 'cried' to my grandma and embarrassed the both of them and made out that they were terrible people to the rest of the family. I fought my reasoning but it just fuelled their anger and it turned into a screaming match that I'm sure the neighbours could hear, and then I was blamed for 'ruining christmas'. No matter what I said, I couldn't convince them that I was just concerned about the dog's health, and that i wasn't just trying to publicly shame them. \n\n​\n\nMy parents live in a very small house and there's no real privacy at all so I left before things became aggressive and drove south for 2 hours. Slept that night in my car in -5C (because lord knows i had no money left for a hotel). All the while getting conflicting texts from my parents 'we're sorry this happened, plz come home' to 'youve ruined everything, the dog is warm and happy in our bed despite you not being here'. 9pm the following day I decide to drive back home to try and salvage things, and everyone just acts like it didn't happen, which I'm fine with... The dog has a huge cone of shame on her head which my parents mutter 'unnecessary' every so often. I endure the next 5 days at home for the holidays before finally getting to leave. \n\n​\n\nThe results have since come back, and we now know she does have cancer, has about 6 months to live, but currently isn't in any severe pain or discomfort, despite this absolutely horrendous lump. My parents haven't tried to pay back the vet expenses, but I'm 80% ok with that.\n\n​\n\nI don't really know if I messed up. On one hand, I know I don't live there anymore, but that dog is still the family dog that I love very much. I should've told them I was taking her to the vet, but I was worried they would cancel the appointment or something and ruin this chance. I was angry at them for not taking her sooner, but my parents don't have much money at all and I know they wanted to prioritise christmas for me and my brother, seeing as the dog was acting okay at the time, and leave the vet expenses for January. They had been living with the dog looking the way she does for weeks at that point, but I had only just seen it and reacted very hastily because of the shock, I understand. So I really don't know...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UkWroMN8iB3w9Go2WCun8dialnJMFACx", "post_id": "b3bfon", "action": null, "title": "AITAH dude takes his gf to Dubai for her birthday gets practically nothing from her for his", "text": "Ok this is not me. But  saw this .......This is a true story as well. So for my girlfriends birthday last year i took her to Dubai for a week and actually spent effort thinking what she might like. However, for my birthday she took me to the local ice skating rink. This is literally nothing to do with money in the slightest, my issue is i had to take a whole day of work to do an activity i do not enjoy on my birthday. When she has brought up ice skating in the past i have always said that im not a fan (it is literally the same as me taking her to a professional boxing match on her birthday when i know she doesnt like boxing). To make it worse she made me do ice skating from the moment the public session started all the way through until it finished. I told her i didnt enjoy the day as it felt like it was her birthday not mine, and that i would rather go home but she made me wait 2 hours for a buffet restaurant to open which meant 2 hours waiting around in the cold on my birthday. I told her 3 or 4 times i just wanted to go home but i was not allowed.\nNow she has asked me to buy her a mothers day present from the cat. She actually wants me to go out any spend more money on her for mothers day from the cat than what she spent on me for my birthday. I am not saying things are down to money but i think its a piss take when she treats my birthday like it is her birthday and then she more money eating out for dinner with her friends than she does for my birthday and then legitimately wants me to spend my own money on her from the cat. Do you think she is one of them people that do literally nothing for anyone else but expects the red carpet rolled out for them everytime?\n\nI think he should put cat shit in a pretty box and give that to her . ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "L7iAkkiK9RFaqO343PfVYT04We3WQMxg", "post_id": "az3oi3", "action": {"description": "getting someone kicked out of my exchange trip group", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting someone kicked out of my exchange trip group?", "text": "So me and my mate are going on a trip to another country as part of the school\u2019s exchange programme. There are quite a few going, and so naturally people must be sorted into groups for different families. A while ago a boy in my class, whom I\u2019m not really friendly with (he\u2019s a bit funny) told us that he\u2019d joined our group to make it a trio. Since we weren\u2019t friends with this boy, we were really annoyed, especially since he didn\u2019t ask us for permission beforehand. So we went to the teacher organising the trip and told her we didn\u2019t want him with us, and how we never gave consent etc. She asked us who he was friends with and we helped her put him in a group with one of his mates. However, my mum found out and now thinks I\u2019m a massive bully and was being unkind to him, is she right or were our actions justified?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0YxCcwQYf1MFms42XOAXWICcsMlbAQvz", "post_id": "avl5mr", "action": {"description": "refusing and disliking giving a school mate lifts to school", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing and disliking giving a school mate lifts to school?", "text": "I\u2019m (17F) in secondary school and I\u2019ve known this girl who\u2019s in my year for maybe 6 years now. I\u2019m not particularly close to her. We have 3 classes together and we only talk in class about homework and school. Whenever we talk to each other outside of school, it\u2019s just more things about homework and school. What I\u2019m basically saying is that we\u2019re not friends and strictly school mates.\n\nOver the past 2 years, she started asking me for lifts in the morning to school. It can range from asking for lifts for a whole week to just 2-3 lifts every few weeks. I don\u2019t drive, my mom drives me to school because it\u2019s on her way to work and sometimes my dad drives. It\u2019s a 12 minute drive from my house to the school. This girl lives 2-3 minutes away from me and I drive past her housing estate on my way to school. She walks to and from school ever since I\u2019ve known her. It\u2019s a 45 minute walk for me to and from school because I\u2019m slow and don\u2019t walk often but for her it\u2019s takes around 30 minutes because she lives slightly closer to the school and also she walks very fast. \n\nThere are multiple small factors that adds to the reason why I don\u2019t really like giving her lifts in the morning to school. \n\nFirstly the most obvious is that it\u2019s not that I\u2019m driving myself, I have to check with my parents whenever she asks which is a small hassle but it adds to it nonetheless. \n\nSecondly her dad has a car and he is a hundred percent capable of driving her to and from school which he does sometimes so I don\u2019t know why she finds the need to ask me. This is the main reason that annoys me the most.\n\nThirdly, I know this is a petty reason but I don\u2019t really like her? I don\u2019t hate her but she\u2019s not the person I\u2019d like to be around and that\u2019s why despite knowing her for so long, we haven\u2019t become friends. \n\nLastly it adds to my routine in the morning which I don\u2019t need because it\u2019s already a tight fit since my brother also gets dropped off at a different school which starts 30 minutes before mine. \n\nI would definitely give her lifts if the weather is terrible and miserable to walk in because I\u2019m not the devil but when it\u2019s perfectly fine out and she\u2019s in good health, I don\u2019t see why I should have the responsibility of giving her lifts to school? \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "e14R73INOo9C2FxZFPtpBJr5LLtSc2Yj", "post_id": "a6jxfv", "action": {"description": "staying friends with my friend's ex boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for staying friends with my friend's ex boyfriend", "text": "I have a female friend and she dated this guy 3-4 years ago. We were all hanging out regularly and her then bf and I have shared interests so we became friends as well. Then she broke up with him and I stayed friends with him.\n\nShe's been bitter about this for years now, constantly complaining about my friendship with him. He and I happened to go to an event she was also attending (with her current bf). We didn't see her at the event anyways. Afterwards she was so salty about this that she has ignored me for the past couple of weeks.\n\nAITA for staying friends with her ex of years ago?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dhQE3gIbjF8MUhPkDxVldkTrlkprh40M", "post_id": "ah530v", "action": {"description": "letting my brother get fired on Christmas Eve", "pronormative_score": 46, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for letting my brother get fired on Christmas Eve?", "text": "I (20F) have not lived in my hometown for 4 years now, though I was there for the holidays recently. My brother (22) still lives with our grandparents and is constantly late for his job at a local grocery store; he\u2019ll show up at 4pm if his shift starts at 2pm. He\u2019s been constantly reprimanded for it and he genuinely believed he would never be fired, so he never cared enough to show up on time.\n\nCut to the morning of Christmas Eve. I was baking in my grandma\u2019s kitchen and she asked if my brother had gone to work (it was 10am, he was supposed to be there for 10:30) and I said no, I hadn\u2019t seen him leave. She asked me to wake him up (he constantly has to be woken up because he refuses to buy an alarm clock) and I said no, that wasn\u2019t my responsibility, and he shouldn\u2019t have to be woken up his his sister, or grandmother for that matter, to go to work. She seemed to agree with this, maybe fed up because he\u2019s always late regardless, and left the house to go to her own job. \n\nI did not attempt to wake him up whatsoever, even though I knew he was going to be fired if he was late one more time; I simply carried on with what I was doing because, again, it\u2019s not my responsibility to force my brother to go to his job. I used to have to wake him up all the time in high school just so he could drive me to school, and during my last summer at home, I was guilted into waking him up every morning to go to work just before I went to work. I absolutely hated it, and he\u2019s very rude to the person who wakes him up. \n\nSo, on Christmas Eve, he woke up around 2pm- almost four hours late- and went to work, only to come home a half hour later saying he\u2019d been fired. He was upset and my mother was pissed... at me. She said it was my fault he lost his job because I didn\u2019t wake him up, I should\u2019ve been more sensitive to his needs, etc. \n\nShe texted me again today and asked why I hadn\u2019t apologized to him, and I don\u2019t think I should have to. Am I the asshole here and should I apologize? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 46, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 46, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zWRXPirAJz75TTQKT56jGu5bKnI6N1gq", "post_id": "akqjno", "action": {"description": "declining an all-expense paid trip with my parents", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for declining an all-expense paid trip with my parents?", "text": "Every summer, my parents invite my husband and I to go on a \"family vacation\" with them and my brother. My husband is currently still in school so I am the only one receiving income in my household. My parents are very generous and understanding and insist on paying for everything despite us offering.\n\n\nWe have gone on the last few family vacations, and we are super grateful, but honestly we don't really enjoy ourselves. My parents want everyone up and out the door by 8am, they only like sightseeing and taking photos vs. doing activities,  and they never allow me, my husband and brother to go do our own thing separately from them. \n\n\nI love my parents but they just have a very different vacationing style from my husband and I. AITA for refusing to go even though they are paying for everything?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 3}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yweTtrz3zBLWTlAOlX4RkqstQoUmCIFU", "post_id": "arzmxo", "action": {"description": "scamming this guy who wanted fert pics", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for scamming this guy who wanted fert pics?", "text": "So I am apart of a large discord community and people can right click any profile and personal message like on reddit. One day this guy sees my profile picture and DMs me asking for feet pics. He said it in a memey way so I assumed he was joking. He made it clear later by flirting that he was serious. I immidiately let him know that I was not comfortable sending him pics, that I was not gay, and that I was in a relationship. I thought nothing of it other than he swung and missed. He asked me what games I played and made small talk. Later he kept messaging me wanting to buy me things and the flirting became more overt and kept asking and I kept denying. Finally one night he got drunk and was begging me again so I hatched a plan to have him send me a code for a game then block him. This is exactly what happened. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "m4ijOyfMqVtdFAcVMGfZPufwUcipRP19", "post_id": "a59dtx", "action": {"description": "slapping my friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for slapping my friend?", "text": "I'll keep this briefly. There are basically three people involved in this... let's call them X, Y and me. So X was trying to splash me with pen ink so as a revenge I took his eraser and threw it in the garbage bin. We then tried to make peace so I went and tried to take the eraser out of the garbage. Thing is, it was pretty gross so I needed a napkin. Well guess what, no one had a napkin. So, I went to my other friend's desk, Y, and took a random paper that he had on the desk, I'll admit it, without permission. I take the eraser out of thw garbage and then I see Y coming. He is extremely angry. He first pushes me into the wall. I don't react. Then, I go back to my desk, he comes after me and breaks my pen. I still don't react. Then I figured out we were even so I ask him \"Are we even now? And he screams \"No, you idiot\" and proceeds to punch me in the stomach. Hard. At this point, I couldn't help myself and I slap him back as powerful as I can. And then he just stops.\n\n\nSo... AITA for slapping my friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JM9bXCzEAgclUFTjw17ycRFPwNMposYJ", "post_id": "a7drdh", "action": {"description": "asking my family and friends to delete my ex off Facebook", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I ask my family and friends to delete my ex off Facebook?", "text": "Our relationship ended in early 2015 and I would have thought by now that either my ex or my family and friends would have deleted each other off Facebook.\n\nWe haven't been Facebook friends since a few months after the breakup and I deleted the last two connections on Facebook recently when a photo she was tagged in popped up on my feed even though I've blocked her.\n\nThe reason for me wanting to ask my friends and family who are still friends with her to delete her now is because I'm getting married next month and I don't want photos my family/friends post from my wedding coming up on her feed. I'm being petty, right?\n\nI should mention - none of my family/friends are actually still friends IRL with the ex nor do they communicate with her to my knowledge.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "iPTeiyWEoZOajB8IvxuOlgUBv7s8f9SO", "post_id": "9uva9c", "action": {"description": "expecting work tasks to be equally distributed", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting work tasks to be equally distributed?", "text": " TL;DR My coworker and friend has neglected the disgusting stairwells for 6 months and now I have to clean it because we have an inspection this week!\n\nMy friend and I both work in the same apartment building and are given weekly chores to complete in the building. One of them is sweeping and spot mopping the front and back stairwells. I do it on Tuesday and he does it on Saturday. I figured it would only makes sense if I did the front one and he did the back one. I spent an hour sweeping up hair and dust and then mopping the front stairwell and have been continuously maintaining it for months now. He, however, hasn't even touched the back stairwell in over 6 months. I even had to spot mop it once myself because it was getting so dirty. He simply felt it didn't need done because it didn't look dirty. I also live here and see these stairs every day. They are FILTHY. There's coffee spatters on the landings and leaves, dirt, and wrappers all over the stairs. Not to mention, a buildup of dust and dog hair.\n\nI asked him nicely once if we could please work together in doing the stairs and requested that he do the back stairwell. He said he didn't think they needed done and that I shouldn't be the one telling him to do it since I have no authority over him. I layed off and didn't say anything for weeks. Then he finally acknowledged that they were in fact getting really dirty and they need done. Well, despite that, he STILL hasn't done them and it's been weeks since he said that.\n\nToday, I was informed by my manager that we have a building inspection and asked that the weekday monitors clean around the building including the stairwells. My friend doesn't work until the weekend so he's exempt from having to do any of this. So, now me or the other guy has do to the back stairwell that he's been neglecting for 6+ months. It'll more than likely be me though since the other guy during the week does a lot of work already and I feel bad expecting him to do it. But I am so fucking PISSED that I have do this. It takes me over an hour of sweeping up 7 floors of dust and hair that flies up everywhere and then mopping after all that. This is fucking unfair that I should have to do this when I have been doing the front stairwell regularly. AND now that someone else will end up cleaning it this week, he'll then be exempt from doing it for another 6 months because it will already be clean.\n\nHe's such a lazy fucking worker and this is all so much harder because we're also friends and I don't want to strain our relationship because of work conflict. Am I really being the asshole here? Am I just expecting too much of him as coworkers?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "le3UnRDWFX7bJdHzzC5pNNO9UulV0cVc", "post_id": "a7327z", "action": {"description": "taking a \"no\" at face value", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for taking a \"no\" at face value?", "text": "This is a very silly matter, but I started feeling like I was an asshole and I want to be sure whether I was or wasn't.\n\nI work at a civil court, which is basically office-work on a legal environment. As we approach our two week long Christmas Recess, lawyers gift us cheap stuff like pens or calendars as a form of showing goodwill. Every year, a particular firm gifts all female clerks cheap chocolate, and male clerks get cheap wine. Since I don't drink alcohol, I always trade my wine with someone's chocolate.\n\nLast year, I traded mine with someone I don't particularly care about, and one of my coworkers who I mostly get along with was sad that I didn't trade with her. I told her, \"I promise next year I'll trade with you\". So, next year arrived and today we got the same cheap chocolates and wine once again. I went to the coworker I promised last year, and when I said \"so, shall we trade your chocolate for my wine\", she dryly answered \"no\", while looking at me as if it was offensive I even asked.\n\nI thought nothing about it and traded the wine with the same person as last year, who was very happy about it (I think she's kind of a wino). I got my chocolate, she got her wine, everyone is happy, no assholes here, right? But suddenly, the coworker who said \"no\" comes to me and says \"I didn't realize you were talking about *that* wine. I do want to trade my chocolate!\", to which I replied \"I'm sorry, but since you said you didn't want to trade, I already traded with another person\".\n\nShe, a mid-forties woman, started to pout and say this wasn't fair. That I promised her we'd trade this year. That I should have waited to see if she really wanted instead of running off to trade with another person right away. Now I can hear her badmouthing me to other clerks who are her friends, and most seem to think this is incredibly silly. One of them even offered to buy her better wine, but she said it wasn't the same. She then put her chocolates on my desk and very loudly said I can keep them even though I gave her nothing.\n\nI know I probably shouldn't feel guilty, but she made such a scene that I can't help but think it was assholish of me not waiting to see if she would change her mind (from the moment we got our gifts until I traded with the other person, it was about 10 minutes). The wine is worth, converting currency, $5. The chocolates are worth $2.\n\nSo, was I an asshole because I took her \"no\" at face value and didn't wait for a change of heart?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h30EFt6sK9Dq1SXXhOPvxR9MnzV2GRFp", "post_id": "add9ki", "action": {"description": "ignoring my dad and stepmom for Christmas", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For ignoring my dad and stepmom for Christmas?", "text": "Sorry for the long post, but I figure enough people will say \"well he's family\" that I want to be understood clearly.\n\nThere is a lot I can say about my dad, but I'll start out by saying he has never been physically abusive, just neglectful all my life. I literally didn't meet him until I was seven years old.\n\nHe left when I was six months old and stole all my mom's valuables, used that money to go to Oklahoma and lead my mom on for five years claiming he was working a good job and would take care of her and I soon and pay her back (spoiler: he was sleeping on his sister's couch and working at a water park). \n\nOut of his two kids (me and my older sister, different moms), he's abandoned both of us then come back into our lives trying to play the \"Good Christian Father\" routine.\n\nHe met a drug addict woman who lost all but 1 of her kids, married her, and has done the Christian Man act for the past 15 or so years, being a good father to her son while he would drunkenly yell at my older sister to the point she has gone no contact with him several times, until he finds her phone number again to yell at her about how she should try harder to see him (she lives 2 states away and has three kids).\n\nTo keep this short, here's a list of things my dad has done to me/people I love:\n\n- Promised to take me places to get me to visit him, then said they were too expensive (for example, this ranges from a trip to movies to taking me to Broadway show, knowing I'm a Broadway geek)\n\n- Tried to guilt trip for not visiting him enough (even though its as simple as calling to ask if I wanted to come over? As a kid I was so used to him not being around it rarely occurred to me to ask to go over)\n\n- Has spelled my name right exactly ONCE my entire life (on the birth certificate), he has me on Facebook and can see he's misspelling it, but makes no move to even try and spell it right\n\n- This one is petty, but he gives me lotion every Christmas even though I've told him, as politely as I can, that I'm allergic to most lotions (because they use fragrance). He continues to do so because his wife gets them free from her job at a women's shelter\n\n- Wouldn't talk to my older sister when she was dating a woman, but is willing to talk with her now cuz it was clearly a \"phase\" (she's bisexual, it doesn't change if she's in a relationship with a man or not)\n\n- Attends a church that hates gay people to the point of preaching for a half hour about how the gays stole the rainbow, raised my stepbrother to be bigoted against gays (I am gay, and it's a case of I'm not out to him, but my older sister has told me he knows, since I'm not closed about it)\n\n- My Grandpa was paralyzed from the neck down and put in his care, and even after grandpa pleased and cried about nightmares from constantly being nude, dad refused to dress him or even put him in some boxers (just covered him with a blanket), so he'd feel better. \n\n- Dad ruined the last moments I had with my grandpa by screaming at him for saying 1 inappropriate comment \n\n- I work nights and am nocturnal, he knows this but refuses to accept it. Last time I visited he put me in my step brothers room (stepbrother had moved out), and locked the dog in with me at 9 pm, telling me not to let the dog out. I went to sleep at 5 am and woke up at 9 with Dad yelling at me to get ready for church and the dog humping my leg.\n\n- Didn't tell me my grandpa was having a second funeral in Arlington, denying me the chance to attend it\n\n- I take care of my little sister and consider her my daughter, my dad told me that I should leave her with my grandma and focus on myself, because I don't want to end up like my mom. I had to resist the urge to tell him that I have no plans on repeating his \"legacy\".\n\nWhich takes us to recently, when, after not contacting me for the second funeral and pretending I don't exist for six months, he starts calling like crazy and texting that he has Christmas presents for me (aka trash he got from his wife's job).\n\nI tried to ignore him, and that freaked his wife out enough that she went around my apartments knocking on my neighbor's doors trying to find me (luckily my neighbor's don't know me due to the nocturnal thing), and even went to my job asking when I work next, and was refused because obviously an employer won't give out that info (I find it funny too, she literally said \"C'mon, it's my daughter!\" and my manager told her \"If it's your daughter, shouldn't you already know?\")\n\nShe even called my uncles and cousins to the point that I gave in, and told her I broke my phone that's why I missed her calls, and agreed to meet her on Tuesday to receive presents. \n\nI'm just really creeped out by how stalkerish they became when I ignored them, even though their fine ignoring me for the majority of the year. I really don't want anything to do with them, but when I ignored them everyone in my family kept telling me to be the better person and just meet with them once so they'll go back to ignoring me.\n\nSo, tl;dr - AITA if I ignore my dad, after he's spent the majority of my life ignoring me?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JTx45Fu1Ji3BOfjZoqt9PnRoq9yMftuQ", "post_id": "af4vsd", "action": {"description": "being peeved that I'm going on a trip with three of my friends and one of my friends can't afford to pay for the trip upfront and she asked if I could pay for part of the trip now cause I have a savings account... she only told me this after it was paid for", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being peeved that I\u2019m going on a trip with three of my friends and one of my friends can\u2019t afford to pay for the trip upfront and she asked if I could pay for part of the trip now cause I have a savings account... she only told me this after it was paid for....?", "text": "My friend Olivia paid for me and my friend Judy\u2019s trip. I paid Olivia back ASAP and then Olivia asked me if I could pay for Judy\u2019s trip cause she knows I have a decent savings account. I\u2019m kind of pissed. Judy shouldn\u2019t have gone if she couldn\u2019t afford it and since I have a savings account I apparently am automatically supposed to be able to pay. Problem is that I live in Judy\u2019s apartment and pay her rent monthly so I can\u2019t tell her much. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WP69Ldg7JWT85DBvM5O3rnelDzDTLubs", "post_id": "b2dssb", "action": {"description": "lying to my boyfriend about my name", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for lying to my boyfriend about my name?", "text": "Long time lurker, first time poster. \nMy boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years and at some point in our relationship I managed to mislead him into thinking that my middle name is Aimee. \nIt\u2019s not, it\u2019s May. I have definitely told him that my middle name is May at some point early on in our relationship and I understand that it\u2019s not that significant so why would he remember? \nAnyway, I\u2019ve technically lied about my middle name in three different incidents and the truth came out on accident a few minutes ago and he told me that it\u2019s \u201cso weird\u201d and calling me a liar and ignoring me. \nMy plan was to drag this out for as long as possible (we\u2019re pretty committed, wanting to get married, etc.) and one day he would find out and it would be awkward for him or something at the worst.  It was a long term plan for a practical joke I guess. \nI think my only crime here is that it was a bad joke. AMITA ???\n\nTl;dr: i lied about my middle name. The truth has come out and my boyfriend is now offended. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oJeV5q3yBUH7ljR64Ku0ienKMz9ldIsx", "post_id": "b1zgu3", "action": {"description": "objecting to a stranger drinking out of my boyfriend's drink", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for objecting to a stranger drinking out of my boyfriend\u2019s drink?", "text": "So, my boyfriend was filling me in on his time hanging out with his friend last night. While they were out a bar, he told me that a couple sitting near them started chatting/they all became friendly. Eventually, the woman in the couple asked to take a sip of my boyfriend\u2019s beer. He obliged. \n\nAITA for finding this gross? He argues that they were all getting to know each other, so it was fine. I argue that it\u2019s nasty because that woman was still essentially a stranger. (She also took a sip out of my boyfriend\u2019s friend\u2019s beer too.)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "89xF6XfhfiVHJucQf6yemOLPPiCgdEW0", "post_id": "b4mdjl", "action": {"description": "disliking an autistic person", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for disliking an autistic person?", "text": "I had a friend who is in a separate school. He wanted me to come to meet his friend in his school so time passes and I come to my friends house. The person with autism which is friend meets me. (I didn\u2019t know he had autism at this point)\n\nAt the start I guess he\u2019s okay but he becomes really rowdy and loud. So we were just messing around and he starts to get upset because we dared him to down something spicy. So we\u2019re like, okay bro if you don\u2019t want to that\u2019s fine, just say. He then got angry at us for daring him. So we carry on and he just starts interrupting me. I try and carry on but he just keeps on doing it, it really annoys me so I just decide to stop talking until he\u2019s finished. Well the day has finished and he goes home. I dislike him.\n\nLater about 2 weeks later my friend told me he was diagnosed with autism so people can\u2019t call him annoying. AITA for disliking him if he can\u2019t help it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KiUllgo9q7A4he6982iA6ZClQjHlIwHF", "post_id": "9ydlto", "action": {"description": "offering my secret santa money to go over the $ limit", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for offering my secret santa money to go over the $ limit?", "text": "So my group of friends does secret santa and the cap is $20. We often play board games together and we have kind of exhausted the $15 range of board games (Resistance, Coup, One Night Ultimate Werewolf, Codenames, Spyfall, Expansions for all of those).  \n\nI included Deception: Shadow of Hong Kong in my wishlist which is $30ish and offered to chip in $15 if they choose that item. Is this rude?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pZ1HIcO3L4hTdZiWFJZoSj9iBEXXAMZ9", "post_id": "aw9fdd", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my coworker", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my coworker?", "text": "My coworker requests time off or asks the others to cover her shifts more often than she actually works. She hasn't covered my shifts even after I've covered several of hers, and I feel like I'm being taken advantage of.\n\nWe work at a coffee shop and five of us are part time (including me), and the other two are full time including my manager. I have closer to 30 hours a week without how often I cover for others. Half of the time, I'm strong-armed into covering someone else with promises of a free drink, getting my request off approved, or having my shifts covered. None of these things have happened yet. I've called out once because I was violently sick, and even that took two people to cover four hours and strong negotiating.\n\nMy coworker requests time off and asks for shift coverage so often that I can't get time off, even if I request it several months in advance. She's able-bodied and in perfect health, and she's never had a doctor's visit aside from a routine checkup and vaccinations.\n\nI'm exhausted and need some time off so I can recover. Am I the asshole for feeling this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N3GI4RkBMGaF1A3lrrmEZaLUbSvtGFrH", "post_id": "atem7f", "action": {"description": "not wanting my Mom's ex boyfriend moving in with us", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting my Mom's ex boyfriend moving in with us.", "text": "So to start here is a little backstory, a few years ago my mom met a guy that was really into motorcycles and they started talking and eventually dating, turns out he was apart of a motorcycles gang. She hid this from me until 6 months after them dating. He decided to take us to a baseball game, on the way back he almost passed out driving 3 or 4 times almost running off the road. At that point my mom came clean about how he was in a motorcycle gang and cooks heroin for them. It also turned out he was doing heroin during the baseball game in the bathroom. At this point I wasn't a big fan of him and started seeing more and more red flags such as manipulation and guilt tripping her. This goes on for another few months until he leaves my mom for another girl and gets married to her some time after, my mom was devastated. She then gets over him but, some nights when him and his wife got into fights he would call my Mom and tell her how he fucked up. Flash forward a year later, he has been clean of heroin and relapsed 2 times since then. His wife divorced him and eventually my mom had enough of this being the shoulder to cry on and eventually they stopped talking and that was that for awhile. Months go by with no contact until a few weeks ago, turns out he's been doing the 12 step recovery and is trying to make peace with everyone (Including me). This past week he has been non stop talking to my mom and is even having her come over and visit him. I notice when my Mom is talking about him she's falling in love with him again. I start noticing red flags in her stories about how one day he has nothing to do with her and then the next he's calling her \"My girl\". This all leads to today when I find out that my mom just got approved for a new house and is ready to be moved in at the beginning of April. She wants him to movie in and live on the basement even though she knows how exactly how I feel about him. This isn't set in stone yet and I just want others opinions on him because I don't think he has changed at all. If you have any questions i don't mind answering them.\n\nNote: 1.English is my first language and I am terrible at it\n2. This was typed on a mobile phone so sorry for formatting issues\n3. Typed this up while I'm still Livid so some things may not make sense", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zi2mhplS88QEhYhzSZUBar954y7ll2Q6", "post_id": "ai774r", "action": {"description": "saying no to helping out a friend/potential bf", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for saying no to helping out a friend/potential bf?", "text": "Tl;dr at the bottom. It's a long story.\nI (19F) met this guy (24M) a little over a month ago on Tinder. We started off great, had lots of dates... all in all, everything was going good. On our first date, he told practically told me his life story, ending with him saying he came here on a student visa when he was 20 and overstayed. I assumed this meant that he wasn't legal in the US and pretty much accepted it. Honestly wasn't expecting it to have any bearings on our relationship so soon:\nEither we were going to break up before it made a difference or we would actually work out and get to the end goal for every relationship, in which case, that would make him legal anyway (yes, I understand that immigration laws are way more complicated than this, but I'm dumbing it down for the sake of the post).\n\nFast forward to last week, he cancels a date and reschedules it for a few days after. And then he drops the bomb - \"I think this should be our last date\" and that he would explain everything then. Mind you, I do not love this man (after a month, that would be a bit insane), but I liked how we were together, so I was definitely a bit hurt about things possibly ending so abruptly with little to no reason.\n\nI did speculate that it was because of his immigration issue, but I help off in really trying to ask him about it until we met. When we do, he tells me exactly what I thought: the judge rejected his change of status and his lawyer told him he essentially had to marry someone to stay here. He goes on to say that he wants to end things because he doesn't want to go behind my back and date someone else with the intention of being with them for much longer than a few months. Then he ends with the obligatory, \"let's be friends.\" \n\nI have to say I was pissed off and maybe not for the reason most people would think. I've only known him for a month, but I am the type of person who only date people I can see a future with, so I was hurt that he thought he couldn't see a future for us. He actually ended up denying that eventually, but he was vehement on continuing to being friends. I kept rebutting his point because, imo, I didn't think he thought it through thoroughly (it was just 3 days after he got the news). \n\nSo I give him another option: what if we continue what we have, with the intention of getting married, but with the understanding that if we don't end up actually lasting, I would still help him with his situation. Just to be clear, we would have to be married for a minimum of 3-4 years for him to become legal. All of this also came with the understanding that if we did end up breaking up (but not divorcing) within those 4 years, we could date other people and stay married until we could get divorced and he could stay in the US. \n\nWe ended the date with the us agreeing to take a month off of seeing each other (but still communicating with texts that are very relarionship-y)  to really understand the implications of what we would be doing. I should also add that we ended with a few kisses too, so the relationship was a bit recovered, but with a lot of uncertainty. We both decided that we would make the decision of what to do individually, then meet up again to discuss.\n\nSo here's my dilemma: WIBTA if I decided to essentially take back my suggestion and just ask to be friends? I haven't completely made my decision yet, but if I do make that decision to not go through with it, would I be?\n\nTl;dr - A friend/potential boyfriend of mine is having immigration problems and I offered to be his potential wife for the next 3-4 years so he could become legal. WIBTA if I backtracked on that offer?\n\nPlease feel free to ask any questions that would help. I hope I gave enough information though.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eCUzB0s3P4TNvtQa3AnQAXNNQJTLqvy0", "post_id": "b8e9vs", "action": {"description": "telling my best friend her relationship is unhealthy and she should not be engaged", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for telling my best friend her relationship is unhealthy and she should not be engaged?", "text": "Hello guys, new account because I never had a reason to make an account or post anything until now.\n\nSo Kylie is my best friend. She's 24, I'm 23. She's been with Avery for 2 years now. They moved SUPER fast. They met on Tinder, talked for about a month before meeting in person, went on 5 dates over 5 days. By the 6th day, they were a couple. They exchanged \"I love you\" in less than a month. They met each other's families by the 2nd week and their families met each other by their 2nd month. They moved in with each other after only a year.\n\nThey both make decent money, don't get me wrong. She is an interior designer and he is a pharmacy owner. That's not why I'm concerned. I think he has been taking advantage of her. Here is why:\n\n\\- They have been looking at houses together for a while. Kylie is going to design and furnish the house. Avery does not seem to be involved in the design process and it does not seem like he is going to pay Kylie or pay for the furniture.\n\n\\- When they moved in together, Avery started using Kylie's car to get to work a lot. This meant Kylie had to work from home. He has his own car. Kylie's is newer, so I think he just likes using hers because it was newer and fancier than his. \n\n\\-  She bought a new iMac and Macbook to use for work at home and when travelling. He borrows her Macbook when he goes to work and she stays home. But he has the money to buy his own laptop. He just loves to use her stuff and not have to buy his own.\n\n\\- Kylie cleans way more than Avery. He will leave dishes in the sink overnight, she will wash them right away. He is just using her so he does not have to do chores.\n\nAnyway, Kylie and Avery went on a trip recently. They were gone for 10 days. About 4 days in, she sent me a photo of a ring on her finger. I didn't reply because I knew if I did it wouldn't be nice. They got back earlier today. Kylie came into my work waving her hand at me to show me the ring. She asked if I saw her texts and why I didn't reply to her. I said I didn't know what to say. She pestered me until it lead to me saying that I think she moved way too fast with Avery. He is using her and she is blind to it. I told her that I always bit my tongue throughout their relationship because I expected them to break up eventually, but the fact that they're engaged is a huge red flag.\n\nWe got in a huge fight. She said she couldn't believe how unsupportive I was being, but I told her she's the one who asked to know what I thought. As much as I love her I can't go to the eventual wedding because I don't want to support her unhealthy relationship. She texted me saying that if I really believed everything I said, I was \"showing my true colors\" and she didn't want me at the wedding anyway. She thinks I'm in the wrong. I feel bad for fighting with her, but I think it was the right thing to tell her I don't support her relationship. \n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dEGWeDSCC8bgERfy7Hnc0raSLGfXR7qo", "post_id": "b8my55", "action": {"description": "telling my friends that their habit of \"bumming\" each other makes me uncomfortable and is homophobic", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my friends that their habit of \"bumming\" each other makes me uncomfortable and is homophobic?", "text": "A similar post on here about the casual use of the word \"faggot\" made me think about something that's been bothering me for a while.\n\nI'm (female) part of a group of friends (mostly male) who have all known each other since school. We're about 30 now.\n\nThe guys have had this habit ever since we were about 16-17 of \"bumming\" each other, particularly to say goodbye. They will either all pile on top of each other on the floor or form a daisy chain while standing, thrusting their crotches into each other's arses and making orgasmic sounds. They all think it's hysterically funny.\n\nI've always found it a bit embarrassing but as we got older I expected them to grow out of it. They haven't, and now some of them are married with kids, and they still do it. To me it's crossed the line from \"childish and embarrassing\" to something worse. I think it comes off as homophobic. Much like calling each other gay as an insult (which, yes, they also still do). I tried to imagine how it would look if they did it in front of a gay man and it just seems offensive. My husband, who is a bit older and did not go to school with the rest of us, agrees. To be clear I don't think the guys are personally homophobic - well, a couple of them are a little bit, but more in the \"gays are gross\" way than the \"homosexuality is a disease/sin/phase\" way - but I think what they are doing is homophobic.\n\nSo WIBTA if I told them this?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "agFDM2zqFWwT1HLkpKPKEDycrgPtK858", "post_id": "b79vn7", "action": {"description": "not talking to ex even though I told her we will be friends no matter what", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA To not talk to ex even though i told her we will be friends no matter what.", "text": "So, I (M19) broke up with my gf (F19) a month ago before dating we were good friends and promised no matter what we will still be friends forever. I was really into her and she was too, it was really fun and everything was fine. But all of a sudden last month she wanted break up, I asked her reasoning behind it and her reply was she doesn't think we have the chemistry, I said fine and it was over. I Told her that being friends again won't be easy for me as i was obviously not over her and neither did i understood what happened as it was very surprising and sudden to me, now as promised we talked as friends for 2 weeks and every time the notification popped it made me sad all the memories came back and it was distracting and saddening, it had been really hard for me just to get over the break up let alone still talk to her. I talked to her about the issue i was facing and her reply was i m dumb and nothing changed between the time we were friends and the time we were in relationship and it's still that way and i m overreacting, But she did stop texting for a week. Now after a week again she starting texting everyday 2-3 msgs i try and ignore but feel guilty as she must feel lonely as well and it's even worse not texting back while she keeps texting. So am i wrong not wanting to talk and reply also any general suggestion regarding the situation will help. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kUoZI3kY8vNxypeFCCksK4gRp96CVMOg", "post_id": "a07oly", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be associated my muslim friends", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be associated my Muslim friends?", "text": "I'm an ex-Muslim (Egyptian) who moved to Australia a few years ago, and since then I've been living a happy and calm life with my wife (White, and it's sort of relevant), everyone is nice and sweet and didn't have any issues with any one at all, and had no racial issues during my whole stay here.\n\nHad a Muslim friend who came to Australia a bit after me with his wife and kids, and they're a lovely lot, very kind and sweet and the whole package; we do things together on occasions and they come to stay in our place from time to time and no issues or tensions of any kind, until we go to a public place.\n\nThis is when I start getting anxious about being seen with this family in public, and not for fear of racism or anything, but just because I don't want people to assume that I'm a Muslim, an assumption that can be easily made seeing that the only brown people in the group have a woman with a veil on her head.\n\nI know that I can't help what people want to think about me anyway, it's just that I don't want to be associated with Islam in any capacity, I'm an ex-Muslim for a reason; people don't make assumptions about a random brown skinned guy either alone or with a white woman (my wife), but the assumption is almost certain with a veiled Muslim woman.\n\nSo Am I the Asshole for feeling like that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NwNjXL1SJBQHVHMwslsAmMjLW6KYnEVV", "post_id": "axpu5o", "action": {"description": "leaving mean comments on a girls YouTube video", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "WIBTA if I left mean comments on a girls YouTube video", "text": "I found out this girl in my year has a YouTube channel. I don\u2019t like her, she\u2019s called me a slut and said I think I\u2019m better than everyone, she also tried to get me suspended for calling her the wrong pronouns even though she then changed them like a few months later \ud83d\ude44 \n\nI don\u2019t mean to be cocky but I know she hates me cause she\u2019s jealous. She\u2019s overweight and not that attractive. \n\nSo I found out she has a YouTube channel. WIBTA if I left some mean messages on it so she gets a taste of her own medicine? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "is7KGjLz9XEGUTlQVFhKcPaykCmzDcGL", "post_id": "b7my70", "action": {"description": "taking my daughter to my moms on mothers day", "pronormative_score": 87, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for taking my daughter to my moms on mothers day?", "text": "So, its early morning and I'm going to my parents to see my mom for half an hour, drop her card off and present and say hello. My little one who is 6 asked if she could come too, I said yes no problem, only going for half an hour. \n\nMy partner took great offence to this, and proclaimed that my mom isn't my little girls mom and she does not need to go as its mothers day, and she should spend time with her mother only. She then said I'm a bad person for even trying it, and while I was downstairs convinced my little one to stay. \n\nI've let it go and I'll go my moms on my own, no problem. \n\nJust as I was about to leave, my partner came out and said \"it's not all about you, its mothers day and we need to spend time together all of us as a family, are you going to ruin that for us?\"\n\nAm I the ass hole here or what?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 86, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 15}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 87, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Cfb262uBPLylZBkpSU4gKk1PsaBHK2di", "post_id": "a9jgad", "action": {"description": "kicking a guy in hypoglycemia out of my car", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for kicking a guy in hypoglycemia out of my car?", "text": "I apologize in advance for my bad English. \n\n​\n\nMy friends just love to remind me of this story I'd rather forget and I just can't help wondering if I was in the wrong in all of this. I KNOW I have been stupid though.\n\n​\n\nSo, In August I moved in a new city for Uni, where I barely knew anybody. I hate going out and am pretty shy, so I got on Tinder to meet new people. I matched with a guy that seemed alright when we chatted on the app. We met irl pretty quick, just to take a walk and talk. During almost all of the walk, he only talked about himself and didn't ask any questions about me. It was during provincial elections, so I brought up the subject (I know, bad decision on my part). Turns out, he was pretty passionate about politics and guilted me about not knowing as much as he does. We ended the meeting with an awkward hug and I went home.\n\n​\n\nThe next day, he sent me a long text explaining how he could not keep talking to me and how we are incompatible (I don't like the same kind of music as he does, I'm too much of an introvert, I don't know enough about politics and blahblahblah.) I answered to him telling him that it's alright, that it was nice meeting him, you know, just being polite. He then texted me that he's giving me a chance of explaining myself, to which I answered that I had nothing to explain to him. He then changed the subject and asked me if I wanted to go with him to a show with him at the Uni. I KNOW at this point I should have said no, but I liked the band and didn't know anybody else to go with, so I said yes and we went. It was super awkward and I went home directly after the show.\n\n​\n\nSome days after he pulled another \"I can't talk to you anymore\" sh\\*t, but this time, because of something I said that he misunderstood, to which I answered something like \"you didn't understand me but whatever, see ya\" because I couldn't care less about the opinion this dude I barely knew had about me. He then changed his mind again and asked me to meet after an appointment he had. Again, I KNOW I should have said no but I'm just stupid like that.\n\n​\n\nThe thing was, this appointment was pretty far (15 min car ride) and he didn't have a car or a driver license, so he asked me to come get him after his appointment. I didn't really wanted to, but I took it as an opportunity to get to know the roads of my new town, so I said yes. He told me the appointment would end at 20:45, so I'm there at 20:45. At 21:15, he still was not out so I texted him, telling him I would leave at 21:30, which I did.\n\n​\n\nAt 21:45, I'm home and look at my phone to see texted from him, pissed at me because I left. He said he was in trouble because of me (he had hypoglycemia and did not bring any food with him) and cursed a lot. After getting angry and me not answering, he asked me to come back to get him. Since he was in hypoglycemia, had not much battery left on his phone and that there was not any public transport at that time, I said alright but I'll go home after I get you home.\n\n​\n\nHe answered \"don't worry I don't ever want to see you again either\". I got really pissed, but I still went to go get him, and I'll admit, I didn't drive as carefully as I usually do. When he got in the car, I had some Rammstein blasting through the speakers, and didn't say a word. I started to drive, and he said \"You're so agressive\" and started complaining about my driving (I wasn't easy on my car but didn't even exceed the speed limit), so I stopped and told him to get out of my car. He did, and I left. He was in the car for maybe 1 minute.\n\n​\n\nHe texted me \"crazy bitch\" with the few battery percentage he had left on his phone and I blocked him. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ns6hDhcL0Hhaf8XJzyKcTuF343I0qRRt", "post_id": "a9yltd", "action": {"description": "thinking I know my friend broke my phone on purpose and I asked him to pay", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I think I know my friend broke my phone on purpose and I asked him to pay?", "text": "So I was at a party about a week ago when my friend took my phone as joke while it was unlocked. He has done this plenty of times before so I thought it was fine but apparently not. He gave the phone back to me and the bottom of my phone is cracked and I'm just there like a muppet like what the fuck. He hands me \u00a315 for the damages but ngl I doubt the screen repair on a S8 is gonna cost \u00a315... We were all talking on gc about it the next day and they said it didnt matter so I thought I'd just let it go because its only a cracked screen. But just yesterday i was talking to  a different friend about it he started laughing and told me he was there and saw what had happened. He told me he dropped my phone then stomped on it? I dont know why tf he would do that but that don't sound like an accident. Should i ask him to pay for the screen repair or would I sound like a dickhead? And why the hell would he stomp on my phone :/ i thought we were friends lmao :(", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3nuw6Pr3MlbBgyllJaSwxefkxoIBE7oC", "post_id": "apkugu", "action": {"description": "expecting cuddles/physical affection in my relationships", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for expecting cuddles/physical affection in my relationships?", "text": "Background info: I have a condition known as \"Skin Hunger\" where the lack of affectionate, loving skin to skin contact begins to severely fuck with my mental and emotional state, making it next to impossible to function. I should also mention right now that this is NOT SEXUAL. Okay, read on.\n\nSo after my most recent breakup, I decided to kinda go back through all my past relationships and look at why each one failed. In each situation, it seems like the relationship begins to destabilize once I start insisting on cuddling, spooning, physical affection, and my significant other actually ACTING like a significant other. I'm perceived as a toxic element and ejected, and I don't fucking get it. I don't understand what's so difficult about coming over once a month, wrapping your arms around someone, and just HOLDING them. No checking phones, no TV or music going in the background, no other people watching and judging, just my SO and I falling asleep in each other's arms... Why is it that when I ask for cuddles/physical affection, people look at me like I just asked them where to find the Nucwear Wessels? I'm not asking for launch codes here, people :p  \n\nAm I the asshole for insisting that regular cuddles as described above be a part of my relationships?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 6}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uamJcpvR0tlnS812De0QlXJNlmHNnFXp", "post_id": "a6dmfu", "action": {"description": "being bitter about my sister in law trying to get pregnant", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being bitter about my sister in law trying to get pregnant?", "text": "So for a bit of background my SIL (20f) has been a very unstable person, she has borderline personality disorder and as such she has trouble  regulating her emotions, holding down employment and housing, and maintaining relationships. Recently she has gone to some therapy  and is doing much better and has been much nicer to be around, but she is still very irresponsible and just lost her  job. Her and her current bf have  been living together since a month after they started dating, and just now have been dating for about five months. She currently lives with her boyfriend and another couple roommates in a shared place.\n\nI am (24f) in a stable relationship with her brother and have been for 8 years, we both have stable but limited employment and have been living in the same rented basement suite for about three years now. I am really starting to feel the baby fever and we have talked about having children and have planned alot of our parenting ideas out, but have agreed that we are not ready yet both financially and emotionally. I am alright with this but I still long for a baby whenever I see them and often fantasize about how being a parent will be, however I recognize that we aren't ready and we want our child to have the best opportunity possible.\n\nrecently SIL came to me and told me she was worried that was pregnant, and that if she was she would be keeping it. I asked her if she had been on birth control and she said no, and that she had kept putting it off so this happened accidentally. I told her I felt that she should think really hard about it all and that I personally felt that things would be really difficult for her if she did choose to keep it, but that I would support her decision either way because it is her life.\n\nSo it turned out that she wasn't pregnant. And I basically said \"oh good. Are you going to get some birth control now?\" She looked kind of embarrassed and said \"I don't know... \" I told her that I didn't think that her actively trying to get pregnant was a good idea in her current situation and basically that I didn't support it.\n\nSo kind if dropped the subject and didn't talk to her for a couple weeks, then bf and I were talking to their other brother and he says \" So (sister) is trying to get pregnant eh? Isn't that messed up?\" So she's hiding it from us now because she knows I don't support it. So I got pretty mad about it to bf and other brother (we are all close) and told them how I felt about it. But neither really wanted to talk about it and bf says he just doesn't wanna get involved.\n\nAm I the asshole? I'll admit I feel bitter about it. She's in a way worse situation than me and I want a kid so bad I just feel like she's being selfish. But I also realize I'm just being jealous? I know it's her life but the idea of her being around me pregnant just makes my skin crawl... I mean I'm sure if it happened I would change my tune but right now I just feel so mad about it...\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XdMLPM0h0tToLxfeADW1smJ33vsgM0jZ", "post_id": "9t9oly", "action": {"description": "listening to an NPC talking about an important plot point in RDR2 and then a dog started barking very loud and I couldn't hear the NPC, I even tired to pet him to make it stop but it didnt help so I shot it", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA? I was listening to an NPC talking about an important plot point in RDR2 and then a dog started barking very loud and i couldn't hear the NPC, I even tired to pet him to make it stop but it didnt help so i shot it.", "text": "now the game suggested it was wrong by reducing my honor level.\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "m5g4inUH1nnpzvZlpOqm8jij2OJ6HvmL", "post_id": "avlp9z", "action": {"description": "asking a profession subreddit to get the fuck off their high horse", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I ask a profession subreddit to get the fuck off their high horse", "text": "So I'm kinda pissed off at a certain sub. It's for professionals in a certain field. \n\nThis field is very lucrative - starting salaries of around 60-70K out of undergrad and very common career trajectories of around 150K by age 35 (obviously not everyone). \n\nAnyways, so this subreddit does a few really annoying things. \n\n1. Some people think they're better than everyone else, including other people on the sub. Especially people who are still in college for this field. They act as if they understand everything and they are incredibly harsh with their words. \n2. Some people think they're poor as fuck. They would post comments like \"I got a 70K salary and the salary is so laughable and disgraceful.\" But it always has a tone of humblebragging - they know they are successful and capable, but they still act like they're not. \n\n\nObviously #1 is just the regular egotistical asshole. But #2 is what truly pisses me off. They are completely undermining everyone else. I chose this field, I make a lot of money, and I know that. I don't deny it and I'm incredibly grateful for it. I know I live a privileged life and none of my success is possible without the rest of society. I don't look down on anyone making less, and I don't up to anyone making more. \n\nThese people who are humblebragging are literally dragging down other professions such as teachers, environmentalists, nurses, biologists, and more. I mean we are in a field that literally gets money handed to us after undergrad, as long as your GPA is okay. \n\nI see my friends, people smarter than myself, go to nursing school and environmental graduate school and I see them saving lives. While I won't change my own career because frankly I like money and financial stability, I know that they deserve more than me. I wish they earned as much as I did, really. \n\nSo it pisses me off to no end that this subreddit is treating it like shit. \n\nThat being said, I think I might be an asshole if I make the post because I would be telling others how to live their lives and how to think. I am appreciative of other professions that help the world, and I feel that those professions make way too little money. But that's my worldview, and I don't expect other people to have the same worldview. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dCJiBiGD9Aur6qv8EQBm94HthxKC1Dfx", "post_id": "alzarc", "action": {"description": "thinking I was going to hook up with someone on grindr and not just cuddle", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for thinking I was going to hook up with someone on grindr and not just cuddle?", "text": "I was traveling for work and was staying in a hotel room for a few nights when I get a message from a guy that wants to meet up. Cool, he gets there that night and he wants to cuddle. My idea of cuddling is PJs and some light kissing. He's was being naked and full on making out with light choking. Halfway into it I try several times to have sex. He says no but still keeps kissing me and touching me, so I try one last time and he's face gets this sad look and his eyes begin to water. I felt like a piece of shit. This guy clearly said no and I kept at it, I apologized and we went to bed holding eachother. He told me the next morning he wanted to come over again but I told him my trip was being cut short. Their are guys out there that wouldn't have stop. Hopefully nothing worse happened to this guy. I made it clear in my profile what I was looking for when he messaged and he didn't say other wise til we started. I have been feeling bad about this for awhile now and another post just reminded me.\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PvqLbfxqpXrNlALy6xn15KMj09It85rj", "post_id": "9vg624", "action": {"description": "lashing out a friend after giving me a place to stay", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for lashing out a friend after giving me a place to stay?", "text": "*Warning: This is a long story that happened throughout a summer but I'll try and keep it short.*  \nA year ago I had some disagreements with my verbally and emotionally abusive father which led to a heated argument and me getting kicked out of my home. I called up a couple of close friends of mine, one whom was with his girlfriend Ada and told them what happened. Ada offered to let me stay at her parents house which I appreciated but kindly refused after getting an offer from someone else who would let me stay at his place for free and was closer with.  \nAfter about a week of searching, I got a job working minimum wage. Ada calls me and says that she is now living at her grandma's house and needs a roommate to take care of her grandma's cat and help with some chores and that if I moved over and cleaned out the downstairs, I could have it all to myself (rent free). I figured it would be better if I took the offer since I was staying in a small guestroom and this would be an upgrade to my current situation.\n\n  \nAfter several trips of packing and moving my things, I arrive and she tells me that her family have some sort of reverse mortgage but requires her grandma to be living at the house (which she is not) and that we would have to lie and keep quiet about it to not raise any suspicion. I didn't really understand the specifics of it but hey, we get to live in a small house rent free so I agreed. Keep in mind I'm still in school but would not be able to pay for it if I also had rent to worry about, which is why she made the offer in the first place.  \n\n\nI asked where I would be staying and she led me downstairs and to my horror the place was an absolute mess. There were years of piled trash everywhere, dead bugs, and cobwebs in every corner. It looked like a hoarder lived there and just stockpiled every thing they could find. You couldn't see the floor or walk two feet without running into something. I was shocked at how dirty it was but I started cleaning because it was getting late and I needed to clear it up if I wanted to get some sleep. She said she'd helped me but ended up moving a couple of heavy things and then proceeded to play on her phone for the remainder of the time. It took me over 4 hours to get the room to the point where I was comfortable sleeping in it. I had vacuumed floor, the cobwebs from the walls, wiped and sanitized them, cleared bags full of trash. And this was only a third of the downstairs. The room to the left was even worse, but it had an office which I asked her if I could use, she told me sure as long as I cleaned everything up inside of it.  \n\n\nAnyways, not a week after I moved in and started cleaning up the place to make it somewhat habitable, I overhear Ada crying after a fight with her boyfriend. She said \"I vented about how you're being selfish and cleaning things that only pertain to you and he didn't take my side, he never does.\" I apologized to her and stated I was just trying clear up the space where I would be spending most of my time FIRST because it was so messy to begin with. After this, she tells me that I would be needing to pay rent for the house which I feel guilty for being mad about because she told me it would be rent-free and is the reason I moved out of my previous friend's guestroom to begin with. She also told me that I couldn't use the office anymore because they needed it for storage (AFTER i cleaned up everything inside of it). I was furious but kept quiet even though this shattered the chances of me being able to attend college the upcoming quarter.  \n\n\nSoon, I notice that she was being very passive aggressive and distant towards me, I confronted her and told her that if she had a problem with the way I was doing things or living that she should tell me and I'd be happy listen to her and abide by her rules. She told me she was upset because I \"wasn't doing any chores around the house\" and she didn't want to seem like a bitch by constantly nagging me. She has never brought up a single concern to me and instead vented to her parents and our friends about how lazy I was because she had to get up and feed the cat a couple times a week. She even threw a party without giving me a heads up, had strangers come through my room without my knowledge while I was still in it to give them a \"tour\" of the place. I retaliated by listing every single thing I have done over the short amount time I have been there, and she said \"See, this is why I can't bring stuff up to you, you always escalate things\".  \n\n\nHowever despite all of it, this was the last straw for me:  \nI had been seeing this girl I recently met for the last couple of weeks, and asked Ada if it would be cool to bring her home, she agreed and just told me to give her a heads up whenever I brought her over. No problem, I do most of the times, but have forgotten a couple. A few days later the girl I'm seeing and a couple of her friends are hanging out when we get into a little argument. We decided to go back to my place to calm down and talk it out, just me and her. I forget to notify Ada who has guests over without (you guessed it) giving me a heads up. Anyways, it's around midnight and my date's friend is at the door to check up on her, says he's been calling but her phone died so he just drove back to make sure she was okay. Friendly guy, no big deal, better safe than sorry. We tell him everything is okay and thank him for checking up and he drives off.   \nNow, while we are both asleep, Ada yells downstairs that her parents are here and that *everyone* would like to have a little talk. My date and I are super confused because it's 2am and as we head upstairs, Ada's parents start interrogating us about who this dangerous guy was that just showed up to the house. Apparently Ada called up her parents and told them that there was some dangerous people outside and she was scared for her life and that I told them where she lived. She runs back to her room with her boyfriend because I'm guessing she doesn't have the nerves to face me after that blatant lie. By now, I've had enough of this shit when they tell me that I should move out for the best (I was going to anyways after what she just pulled). After a stern talk, they left and I knocked on Ada's door and asked if there was anything she'd like to say to me. \"Nope\" with a smug look on her face. God I was heated. I proceed to go off on her about how she's a huge snake for going behind my back every time she had a problem and always going to her parents or her friends to paint a bad picture of me before even talking to me about it. Before I leave to pack my stuff, I yelled \"See? This is why all your friends left you\". (She has had four different group of friends stop speaking to her for various reasons throughout the years). I think she cried after that but I don't really care.  \n\n\n**TL;DR**  \nFriend offered me a place to stay after I got kicked out, said it was rent free as long as I did what she initially requested and clean her house. I clean the messiest house I've ever seen in and out. and she begins charging me rent and states I don't do anything around the house. After falsely accusing my friend of being a dangerous stranger, she calls her parents screaming for her life and tries to get me kicked out. I go off on her and tell her that all her friends left her because she of the way she acts and she cries.  \nAITA for yelling at her and insulting her after she was kind of enough to offer me a place to stay?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TCOORgpJ41GS5vsHhBlgSWAihpaRfTd8", "post_id": "azjytk", "action": {"description": "feeling mad about the way I was dumped", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for feeling mad about the way I was dumped", "text": "Throwaway because reasons.\n\n​\n\nSo, I've been best friends with this person for about 5 months, and we both knew that we liked the other, but for reasons I'll get to later, we weren't dating. We were really close, though, and I felt really lucky. \n\n​\n\nOver the past week, I sort of noticed that she responded less and less, and then I received a text saying (paraphrased): \"I'm sorry, I found this other guy and I really like him. I hope we can still be friends.\"  \n\n\nNow, this person's parents are super strict and don't want her dating anybody, so we told her parents that we're just friends. Now she's secretly dating the other person without telling her parents. That's sort of the reason we never dated; She didn't want to deal with her parents.\n\n​\n\nThis kinda makes me upset for a few reasons. Obviously, getting dumped is a nightmare, But that's not even what makes me upset. Over text? She was at home; It's not like she wasn't able to video call, or send a video, or even just voice call!\n\n​\n\nAnd clearly, she was okay with lying to her parents about a boyfriend, but I just wasn't worth it. Am I overreacting?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wKB2qAohNKohQqMQJWhkkUqcqFhZIOBr", "post_id": "b1ol4i", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with my husband for giving (lending) an employee our personal laptop to take with them on a weeks long training course out of town", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For being annoyed with my husband for giving (lending) an employee our personal laptop to take with them on a weeks long training course out of town?", "text": "Title pretty much sums it up.  An employee was leaving for work related training and mentioned their laptop died & they would need to see if they could borrow their SO\u2019s moms laptop.  My husband jumped in & said \u201cI have one I don\u2019t use much (true - we won\u2019t miss it for a week) that you can use.\u201d  Not an issue if it was a friend or family member but an employee??? Our personal (kids, vacation...) photos & some files are on that thing.   Not to mention all the saved passwords for emails, PayPal, & many other sites.  He did say he (at least) removed all of our mortgage documents that were saved as PDFs.  So AIT(paranoid)A???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tIxJDxgD2s5pi54AWPKtf0F34MmvoHg3", "post_id": "b572n1", "action": {"description": "being kissed by a close friend when he knew I had a boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for being kissed by a close friend when he knew I had a boyfriend", "text": "Obligatory on mobile notice. Throwaway account for reasons.\nI had a really close friend (Let's call them Joseph) who really got me. When we met, we clicked instantly. We had been through a lot of similar experiences so whenever we talked about anything, we'd understand straight away. We both kinda liked each other but I was dating someone else at the time so nothing happened. We lost contact for a while when Joseph started dating someone and I broke up with my partner and started dating someone else (Let's call them Toni). This is important: Toni knew Joseph from middle school. \nBut a few months ago, I started talking to Joseph again. We became especially close because he understood some of the hardships in my life that Toni didn't understand. We met up in person a few times again and we talked about past memories. I admitted at that time, I had a bit of a crush on him but didn't want to do anything because I was already dating someone. He admitted he liked me as well and wish he hadn't started dating someone else (at this point, they had already broken up). I felt like I still kind of liked Joseph but I once again didn't want to pursue anything because I love Toni and I was happy. Joseph also still liked me and said he would be happy to be friends but hoped maybe one day we'd get together. I told him that I didn't want him to hold out for me because Toni and I are happy and I don't want to mislead him. We had been messaging a lot and the conversation was a lot of what could've been but since I had already made it clear this wasn't a pursuit, I figured it was okay. \nWe agreed to meet up one day and he wanted to drive. We talked a lot like normal. We were sitting at a reserve later in the day and Joseph was sitting close. He put his arm around me at one point but I've always been physically close with my friends so it wasn't unusual. He started telling me I was beautiful and stared into my eyes a lot. I looked away mostly and said I was tired. He began holding my hand and that should've been my first red flag to leave. We kept talking and he kept moving his face closer to mine. Then he kissed me.\nI was pretty shocked and pulled away. I felt like I just cheated on Toni. I couldn't speak and I was panicking and Joseph was trying to calm me down by holding me. I managed to say that I wanted to go home. \nI walked away pretty quickly. He still tried to calm me down but I had completely shut off. He began apologising but I just kept saying I want to go home. When we got back to his place, I told him I couldn't see him again and left. \nI drove straight to Toni's place and told him everything that happened. Toni's not mad at me since in high school, Joseph had a relationship with a girl and things ended badly. A lot of people heard their sides and Joseph came out as the bad guy. I heard Joseph's side and accepted whathe said. The reason why Toni wasn't mad was because he believed Joseph was a bad guy and that he expected him to try something like that. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0pxMZxT907KG9brDVFoZ2eywiD7igJ4B", "post_id": "an62db", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my bf after he sent me a really heartfelt poem", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I broke up with my BF after he sent me a really heartfelt poem?", "text": "My BF is madly in love with me. I still love him, but I think it's time for us to move on. I can't see myself with him in the future and he constantly brings up the past. \n\nWe're basically on two different pages, and I feel like if I break up with him right now it would hurt less.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j5GZ0sY04B4WdMZxbCzm1PwwZkTI9O40", "post_id": "aienah", "action": {"description": "leaving my girlfriend after she lied about her financial situation", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for leaving my girlfriend after she lied about her financial situation?", "text": "I (27M) met my girlfriend (35F) in an MMO we both play. We live a couple hundred miles apart and started visiting each other every few months. (We would see each other more, but I work for a media company and routinely pull 60+ hour weeks and she has a special-needs son who requires a great deal of attention.)\n\nShe's recently divorced and told me that her net worth is approximately $100K, thanks to divorce settlements as well as a lawsuit from a medical supply company.\n\nA few months later, I made an offhand comment that liars piss me off. I said something to the effect of, \"how can you be friends with somebody who constantly lies to you?\" and she went quiet. I asked her what was wrong and she started crying and admitted that she'd lied about her finances. Her net worth is closer to $20K.\n\nI don't care about her financial situation, as long as she's not in crippling debt. I love her and I've become close to her 12-year-old son, who plays the same MMO we do. The thing is, I don't know if I can be with someone who lied to me about something so major. Also, I'm wondering if she's lying about other things now, even though she swears she isn't.\n\nThe fact that she made money off of her divorce and a lawsuit weren't red flags to me previously, because they seemed justified. But now that I'm seeing this dishonest side of her, I'm left questioning everything.\n\nWIBTA for cutting my losses and walking away now?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PqgStCV09ETSwgOUv3VxAoCGEe1qgXHH", "post_id": "b2zzjg", "action": {"description": "refusing to bring in a doctor's note for calling in sick", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I refuse to bring in a doctor\u2019s note for calling in sick?", "text": "I work as an occupational therapist\u2019s assistant for reference, but last Thursday night as I was going to bed, I started having some pain in my lower side. I had been down this road before and recognized it as an ovarian cyst. I had been to my GYN the week prior and she had noted a cyst on my ultrasound so I was somewhat prepared. Anyways I took a narcotic and passed out that night. I woke up for work the next morning feeling nauseous and vomiting, I assume from the narcotic. I texted my boss the situation and let her know I wouldn\u2019t be able to come in that day. The following Monday (yesterday) I got a text from my boss asking if I was feeling better, if I was coming into work today & that I needed to bring in a doctor\u2019s excuse. \n\nI was thrown off because I hadn\u2019t seen anything in our policy related to bringing in a doctor\u2019s note and also because I didn\u2019t go to the doctor!! So AITA if I don\u2019t bring an excuse in?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6oPiWGlu9pUB4ZX84qrmTC8R0K3mLQp3", "post_id": "ayq1vl", "action": {"description": "not coming to bed late", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not coming to bed late?", "text": "At night, sometimes when my boyfriend (26M) goes to bed, that is when my kitty is the most cuddly. (I don\u2019t know why she won\u2019t sleep with me in bed anymore, nothings changed) so if he goes to bed before me (22NB), she will hop up on the couch and lay with me and purr like a motorboat. It\u2019s awesome, I love her.\n\nHowever. A couple nights peppered in the past (and it\u2019s an issue cuz it\u2019s happened twice this week), she\u2019s come to cuddle, and I\u2019ve ended up laying down and falling asleep with her on the couch. He wakes up at 6am for work every morning, and today I woke up right around 4:30-45. I felt it was too late to go sleep in the bed because I didn\u2019t want to interrupt his sleep so close to him waking up on his own, so i just dealt with another hour or so of couch sleep. \n\nI thought I was being courteous but he was very short and blunt with me this morning when he was getting ready and he got really sketched out about \u201cwho are you texting?\u201d when he saw me typing (commenting on a facebook post). It\u2019s clear that he thinks I\u2019m up to no good at night when I stay up (especially if I don\u2019t go back to bed at some point), but like, I literally did not send a single message through the night, I can\u2019t even recall being on facebook very much, I was just in and out of consciousness, petting my kitty.\n\nWhere I may BTA here is that I lost my patience a little and snapped that \u201calright, you\u2019ve decided that I\u2019ve done something wrong, you don\u2019t have any evidence but you do have a feeling so I get to deal with you being pissed off now, awesome\u201d .  He didn\u2019t deny that though so it is how it is I guess.\n\nSo, idk. AITA? For future, should I just go back to bed regardless of how late it is or how close it is to him waking up anyway? Should I just never stay up and have that time with my cat and nip it in the bud? (that would make me sad but I really don\u2019t know what\u2019s best here). \n\ntl;dr- slept on couch with cat on accident instead of bed with boyfriend, woke up way early morning and didn\u2019t go to bed out of respect for his sleep, he suspects me of shady wrongdoing and gets upset, i also get upset at baseless accusations. aita? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hgJF1cnn2HWIIUVbIA9yNGn92cKxlpf7", "post_id": "b69ji4", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate I was worried he was being abused by his live in GF", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For telling my roommate I was worried he was being abused by his live in GF?", "text": "This is my first time posting in this sub so bear with me here. \nAbout I year ago I moved into an apartment with my friend and his girlfriend. She didn't have a job when we first moved in because she has anxiety and depression and needed to get back on her meds first. It's been over a year now and she hasn't gotten her meds or a job. I'm moving to a different state and they're planning on getting a place on their own. \nI've been worried since about month 4 when she said her anxiety was too bad to even make the call to make an appointment. I even offered to call for her and go with her, but she declined. \nShe hasn't made any steps to get better. She hardly leaves the apartment and relies on him to feed her and get her what she needs. She also smokes weed almost constantly and makes him prepare her food and clean up after her. I've also seen her hit him and kick him in the nuts for saying something she doesn't agree with.\nTrouble really started about a month ago when I told him I was concerned she was using him. He tried to talk to her about it and now she's being extremely hostile toward me and trying to tell my friends that I'm being rude to her. \nI'm scared that I'm being to harsh about her mental illness with telling her she needs to get on her meds and get a job. I've been in a place where my mental illness was really bad (I have schizophrenia and bipolar disorder), but instead of relying on my partner I stayed in an inpatient  program for a few weeks until I was stable enough to get a job again.\n\nTL;DR I'm worried my roommates girlfriend is using her anxiety as an excuse for him to take care of literally everything for her and called her out for it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2sUSi3usj35YkOpULsk1GsFWcf8bnzY5", "post_id": "a7u0o4", "action": {"description": "questioning my friendship with my best friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for questioning my friendship with my best friend", "text": "So my best friend and I are currently in a fight because my messages we not being responded to despite being read and me seeing them on Facebook for hours at a time for several days, eventually they responded almost two weeks later and responded with that they didn't see my messages / forgot to respond because they were busy then mid conversation they disappeared again with no warning, after several hours of waiting for a reply i said \"are we even friends anymore\" which has resulted in several conversations (all in messenger since they didn't want to talk about it in person because \"they might smack me and be a real bitch\")  about how i don't trust them and that i need to accept them for who they are never even acknowledging that what they did hurt me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ePufqBba1gSzB8hElt5pr3JhCgdqVFwR", "post_id": "awynzq", "action": {"description": "eating Chick-Fil-a in the car", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 43}, "title": "AITA for eating Chick-Fil-A in the car?", "text": "Earlier today, me and my girlfriend's dad went out to shovel some people's driveways. He had mentioned that it's something he does this time of year to make some extra cash and I volunteered to help him today since he's not really a big fan of mine and I've been looking for a way to prove that I'm a good guy who'll treat his daughter right. We both went out in his truck and we spent a couple of hours going around a nearby neighborhood and shoveling snow off of driveways.\n\nThings went good on the work aspect, but things went bad when we stopped for lunch. He did drive-thru for Chick-Fil-A and he pulled up to the speaker and asked for two meals with two bottles of water. I told him that I wanted a soda, but he starts yelling at me that I'm getting water because he doesn't want to spend the extra money for a fountain drink. I just sat back and shut up so that I couldn't be yelled at again. We got our food and he told me not to eat any in the truck since we'd be home soon. I was starving and I really was resisting the temptation to try and sneak a waffle fry while he wasn't looking. We reached a point where he was looking into his side-view mirror and I quickly snuck a waffle fry, but he saw me. He looked over to me with a pissed off look on his face, but he was also distracted and he had to slam on his brakes to avoid rear-ending the car in front of him. Our food went spilling all over his floor and he yelled \"YOU MOTHERFUCKER!\" He started yelling at me to get out of his truck, but I stayed behind to try and grab my sandwich. He snatches it from me and tosses it out the window and he yells at me to get out again. I get out and he yells at me to walk home and he drives off.\n\nI just called my girlfriend and had her come pick me up and she wasn't happy with her dad. She said that she'll try and talk to him about what happened. I just hope that there's nothing in this story that would make my girlfriend consider breaking up with me. I don't see that I'm at fault by that much.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 31, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 43}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Kt9sEJ7BHp9CppVnPUZtDsOr2955Rrx5", "post_id": "amv582", "action": null, "title": "AITA:Turned down Roadhead", "text": "AITA :My girlfriend and I were driving home from grabbing dinner at Taco Bell. She was feeling frisky and offered to give me roadhead. I wasn't feeling it and turned her down using the \" we have food babe\" excuse. Now she's upset and thinks I don't find her sexy. Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ev2l9xVTfe1FEbAAI3dSSRXd5zRfvEc5", "post_id": "arw625", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Friend ONLY talks about DND", "text": "Sorry for re-posting so soon but I figured I'd scream here real quick before I attempt to sleep.\n\nSo I have a friend who legit. only. talks. about. DND. Now I love DND, well.. use to, because after her only ever talking about it now I'm getting a bit sick of it. Lets call her Misty..\n\nHere's kinda an idea:  \nMe: Oh yeah, I also agree that this thing isn't really okay.\n\nFriend 1: Yeah kinda shitty. But oh well. I'm just trying to get through stuff.\n\nMe: Yeah, I get that.\n\nMisty: So here's how my DND went last night (writes a novel about it)\n\nUs: oh.. Alright...?\n\nAnd so on. It happens in calls, chat, everything. She'll just take it over with DND stuff. Its especially annoying when me and someone are talking about characters (that aren't DND related....) and just generally having fun and she'll butt in about her DND characters and completely take over the conversation. Its gotten to the point me and my partner will DM each other going \"not again....\" \n\nIts legit made me sick of hearing about ANYTHING DND related. Like, at first it was fine, because I love supporting my friends. But its been MONTHS. I literally cant talk to her about ANYTHING. I tried talking about a story I wanted to make, nope! DND talk! How about chatting about some politics? Naw. DND BABY! MEMES?? NO! DND!!! I wanted to play a game with her in call, and, you guessed it. DND. I'll 100% admit I'm a pushover cause it'd be easier to just say \"can you maybe not?\" but I feel like such a dick if I do...\n\nI'm not entirely sure what to do. If I am the asshole, like.. any advice for me to just deal with it? If I'm not? well.. any advice to talk to her about chilling out without FEELING like an asshole?\n\nLiterally anything is welcome at this point.\n\n​\n\n**TLDR; Friend legit only talk about DND and will take over the conversation about it, even when someone is venting.....**  \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QgHCkCWtFi0oKS2ZL2amxutsTSfdTHHI", "post_id": "a8af0g", "action": {"description": "not driving my friend's boyfriend to the airport", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not driving my friend\u2019s boyfriend to the airport", "text": "Not as dramatic as many of these but:\n\nI volunteered to drive my friend back from the airport and to our school after the winter break, since she\u2019ll be coming back from a conference and I live around here. However, now she\u2019d like me to also drive her boyfriend (who I\u2019ve met for all of two minutes and who also lives on campus) to meet her as well. It feels kinda rude for her to ask that, since she could see him as soon as I drop her off, and now I\u2019m just more of their chauffeur/chaperone. It makes it seem like she\u2019d rather spend the car ride with him than bear it with me. \n\nI\u2019m bad at saying no, so I\u2019m planning on just doing it, but I just wanted to see if feeling that it was rude was somewhat justified. Thanks, Reddit!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fMLsGY6LG3OClRVpcDj3ehtK2iHywgj7", "post_id": "aeoxfx", "action": {"description": "uploading new profile and cover photos days after my grandfather's death", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for uploading new profile and cover photos days after my grandfather's death?", "text": "My grandfather died last Friday. My mom told me to not post anything on social media. I interpreted this as to not post anything about my grandfather, not posting stuff in general. \n\nI haven't changed my Facebook cover and profile pictures in literally years, so I coincedentally figured I'd change my profile and cover photos (I didn't do it in spite of my grandfather, just hit me I should probably change my pictures at this time). I uploaded two pictures of myself with no captions. My mom and other family members gave me criticism for changing my profile pictures at a time like now after they told me to not do anything on social media. I apologized, and said I thought they meant to not post anything about my grandfather, not other things in general. They said i show disrespect to my grandfather by changing my pictures (where I am smiling) at a time like this. This is definitely not something I meant to do on purpose. But Should I feel bad for doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LRTNxbVLSC93EqT6Jtrj9dH5aDMaDzrd", "post_id": "b5wjk1", "action": {"description": "not feeling sorry a fellow competitor got hurt", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling sorry a fellow competitor got hurt?", "text": "I race and recently someone I compete against got in a serious single car car crash at 2:30 in the morning and was in critical condition. I felt bad for him but when the police report for the incident came out and said Alcohol was suspected to be involved my condolences were dropped. I do wish him a speedy recovery but I just think of how much worse the situation could\u2019ve been considering he made a very piss poor decision.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "st3t6aBZ8mzlIS1l3n0dgX3g2GFikWEs", "post_id": "agg3k0", "action": {"description": "not giving my husband a blowjob", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for not giving my husband a blowjob? [UPDATE]", "text": "Original post here:\nhttps://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ag19z3/aita_for_not_giving_my_husband_a_blowjob/?st=JQYI8YC7&sh=0690448c\n\nFirst off I really want to thank everyone who took the time to provide insightful and thoughtful opinions. My post had a lot of concerned people so I just wanted to update anyone who cares. \n\nMy husband came home on his own accord this morning. He was extremely apologetic and immediately sat me down and told me he wanted to explain everything leading to his outburst. \n\nHe said that at work, him and his friends had been discussing their sex lives, and he had let slip that he was not receiving any blowjobs.\n\nHe claims that his friends started insulting him for being weak willed and not more stern with what he wanted. He says they encouraged him to confront me. \n\nApperently his friends put the idea in his head that without oral sex, his sex life wasn't \"legitimate\". \n\nHe told me that he really felt like he was missing out and that this is what lead to him yelling at me.\n\nHe called in sick from work so he could stay home with me all day, we talked a lot about the future and he agreed to go to marriage counseling or see a sex counselor together if that is what I wanted. \n\nI haven't completely forgiven him yet, but it's just nice to have him back home.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PtMGjmOHyJWNEd2w1FRTNeNsjH8WgwaS", "post_id": "b4cddd", "action": {"description": "not being friendly anymore to am old friend after they let me down", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being friendly anymore to am old friend after they let me down?", "text": " So to preface this, by this stage in my life I have no interest in fixing or trying to become friends again with this individual for reasons I'm not getting into for this post. All these happened after this.\n\n I had a good friend a few years back at school. We talked the most with each other out of others from our group. We'd be \"best friends\" I guess back then. However the trouble ultimately began with that outside of school we never ever hung out.\n\n If we were in a group he'd come out into town of course. And with other people as well he'd just hang out with them. But never with me. Ultimately I ended up in a sort of bad state of mind and felt bad, I felt quite lonely as I didn't really hang out with anyone one to one. I confessed this to my friend the bay before a two week break.\n\n In effect I just asked he try and contact me outside school (which he never did. I'd also have to initiate it and even then he'd be blunt) and to try and hang out more. I told him that it upset me and such.\n\n During the two week break he did not contact me once. At all. When we got back at school I asked what he was up to but it should be noted I didn't ask why he didn't message me. I asked what he was up to. He told me he had played Overwatch the whole break, was pretty bored and wished he'd talked more to people and went out more over the break.\n\n From that stage I kinda just stopped talking to him. I still made chit chat but I didn't get to in-depth. I still hung it in the group but otherwise we never really talked. Not once did he ever contact me at all. About anything. \n\n By this stage we aren't friends anymore. And there isn't anything that will change that for other reasons outside of this and happened after this. What I'm wondering though in this instance AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "97uvuqsw7Fjf8pejUTBycrlup7lcN03l", "post_id": "b15kkt", "action": {"description": "witnessing a bike crash and not stopping", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for witnessing a bike crash and not stopping?", "text": "(throwaway account)\n\n​\n\nSo a little backstory.\n\nI recently got my 1st job and I was super excited. I've been searching for a few months and I finally got hired by a local store. You know what they say, you should never be late to work, especially if it's your very first day of your very first job. The shop is about a half an hour walk from my house and I had to be there at 7:40 to open and prepare before 8 o'clock.\n\nI left my home around 7:10 to be extra sure I would arrive on time. After about 15 minutes I was on this really long uphill road when at the end of it I see someone on a bike going extremely fast (ON A MONDAY MORNING). As he passed me I looked at him and he couldn't be older than 15-16. I thought why he was going that fast on that time of day and after about 4-5 seconds I heard a loud noise and turned my head around to see that he has crashed after, I imagine, going over a pothole. He must have been about 50 meters away from me by then. I stood there thinking if I should go and help. I ended up not helping because I really didn't want to be late for work. \n\nI feel guilty now but my boss is really strict and upsetting him was the last thing I wanted on my first day.\n\nSo AITA for not helping?\n\n​\n\n(Also sorry for bad English) \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uXez4jNyHOhyYigeLuiQNZBOmAoeN1ym", "post_id": "agowgn", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my friend and sister for not standing up to a bully", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my friend and sister for not standing up to a bully?", "text": "We're all 19 year old girls. Posted about this before but not on this sub. A girl who we've been \"friends\" with for the past few months had become a bully to us. She's always been a bully but we've just stayed out of it.  She justifies it by saying she thinks she has borderline personality disorder. The thing is I have been diagnosed with autism and have never bullied anyone. My  friend and sister are soft and so am I but I've become more independent after starting work and a job. 2 weeks ago I told this girl to go fuck herself and I'm sick of her. She flipped out but that's the first time I've ever stood up to her and now I'm proud.\n\n\nThe problem is my best friend and sister say they can stand up to her but I know for a fact that they can't. I tell them don't put up with her shit tell her to fuck off but they say they don't want to cause drama but I know in reality they are terrified of her. I am as well but it's something that has to be done. Like yesterday, my sister was crying because the girl was calling her names and making fun of our grandfather who died recently. Now today she's joking with her on Snapchat as if nothing happened. It's so very very frustrating. Of course I'm most angry at the girl who's the bully but I wish my friend and sister could just tell her where to go. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8iCopnHlTkgK0kG2Fn10zNJkGPQiYfVn", "post_id": "a4za6x", "action": {"description": "kicking my grandma out of my house", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for kicking my grandma out of my house?", "text": "My grandma is just not a good person. She is an addict with many vices, alcohol and gambling are the to main ones. When my mom was a kid my grandma would get drunk and be both verbally and physically abusive. Shortly after my mom turned 18 my grandma went to prison. She claimed to clean up her act and my mom forgave her and started sending her money. When I was a teen she spent the night at our place one night because she had no where else to go. While I am at school and my mom is at work she steals my life saving that I earned that summer working and she steals all of my moms jewelry. We later find out that she has stolen from just about everyone in the family as soon as they let her in. And she goes back to jail for theft.\n\nShe claims to have cleaned up her act again and my whole family has seemed to forgiven her. I haven't and I won't. I have zero respect for someone who will lie, steal, and beat their own family (especially their own child).\n\nSo this year since it is the first year that I have my own place I wanted to throw a Christmas party for my family. Someone invited her without my knowledge and when she shows up and flip out and kick her the hell out of my house.\n\nThis pretty much ended the party. It was very awkward and quite after that. And many of my family thinks that I should have put all that aside for family and that I should have been more mature and let things go.\n\nSo am I an asshole for kicking my grandma out and by extent ruining the family Christmas party?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B9MHQjsJ8IB5CvfO5NEjXTTRqD5zCt1H", "post_id": "b06ywl", "action": {"description": "disliking my former drug abusing sister", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for disliking my former drug abusing sister?", "text": "Hello, first I'd like to say that I was inspired to post this from this post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update\\_aita\\_for\\_despising\\_my\\_mentally\\_handicap/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/)\n\nTLDR at the end.\n\n​\n\nSo I am 17 years old and I have a sister (32) and two brothers (29, 27). (My parents are 55 and 64)\n\nMy brothers are both very successful and I have a close relationship with both of them.\n\n​\n\nMy sister not so much, she started taking drugs (I don't know what exactly she took, it was some pill but my mom never wanted to tell me) and skipping school when she was just 15.\n\nMy parents still cared for her, because they loved her, but that meant that when my parents weren't working, they were spending time with her. \n\nI was a sickly child and stayed home from school a lot, due to health issues. I really hated school because the kids always bugged me for my weight. That lead to me being depressed for the majority of my life. I wanted to tell my parents about the kids at school bugging me but they were always so exhausted from work and caring for her.\n\nShe then turned up at my holy communion (I am no longer religious btw.) completely high. \n\n​\n\nShe finally went to jail when I was 8 years old, but that didn't make my parents look after me more. When we went on a \"holiday\" they visited her in jail (they didn't take me with them obviously) and I was left alone with my distant uncle aunt and cousins. \n\n​\n\nI got deep issues from my mother and father not being there (some would say daddy issues). I needed constant approval and when I didn't get that my anxiety started building. (I still have anxiety issues). \n\n​\n\nMy classmates behaviour towards me also made me get bad body issues and a bad depression.\n\n​\n\nShe wanted to change when she realized that she was pregnant. She stopped living in a trailor and started rehab.\n\nShe wanted to be more involved with me when her son was born, but through all the issues I got indirectly from her I started absolutely hating her and being disgusted by her. I also really hate her three year old. \n\n​\n\nI got better when I met my boyfriend of almost three years, he made my anxiety, depression and bulimia dissapear. But I have still felt a gruge against her ever since. \n\n​\n\nTLDR: parents were occupied with my sister throughout my childhood and now I dislike her. AITA?\n\n​\n\nI am really sorry if there are some mistakes in here, english is not my native language.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nqEuOYtXNNyRvMGTLpw1mkSobnPA0qUM", "post_id": "adr8m2", "action": {"description": "posting a status about my cheating ex", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for posting a status about my cheating ex?", "text": "My ex boyfriend cheated on me many times with different people. After I broke up with him, he hooked up with some of my friends and I finally got mad enough where I foolishly posted a status on Facebook about him. This was over 6 months ago. Fast forward to now, I get a text from him saying the girl he was seeing currently wants to end things because her friend saw my status 6 months ago and she doesn\u2019t want to get hurt by him. He\u2019s incredibly angry with me...am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ffkHc8z6k2BTRCDpuX3cPOJBJW7Q3cSQ", "post_id": "a45cpt", "action": {"description": "wanting to study when my girlfriend wants to talk on the phone after a bad day", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to study when my girlfriend wants to talk on the phone after a bad day?", "text": "Background: Im a college freshman in NYC and my gf is a senior in highschool back home. She had a really shitty day today and wanted to talk on the phone. I said later tonight we could call because I wanted to study and get some projects done. I felt uncomfortable being in the situation honestly and I feel shitty for not being there because Im the only one she has to talk to so she feels alone. So yeah I just feel like a POS for wanting to study and I cant find a way to tell her that, of course shes my number one priority but I also wanna do well in school.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AqporT8Wdo1xqndKpnpOfcL6Idmi8w7d", "post_id": "9w0mhq", "action": {"description": "making my sister cry", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For making my sister cry?", "text": "My sister is a huge help for my family. We've been through some really tough times and the only reason that the family didn't complete fall apart is her. But because of this feeling of responsibility and my family's complete appreciation for her, she's become self righteous. Everything she says is the truth according to her and my family. I feel like allowing her to have this god-complex is really messed up. \n\nCut to 30 minutes ago. We were having a conversation about the past and she was interrupting me every time I tried to speak. This is normal for having a conversation with her (and my entire family), but I always end up getting frustrated and become tired of trying to talk. So I said something that she didn't agree with, and she was telling me how I was wrong. I disagreed and she insisted I explain why I think that way. I said why and she didn't accept it. I said 'okay, cool' because I didn't want to continue an argument but she wouldn't let it go. So, I said that I was done and didn't want to explain the same thing again because she clearly didn't understand the first time. \n\nThis happens all the time (with my whole family) and I usually just leave to not end up arguing. But she's not having this and yells at me because I 'always do this' like it's a bad thing. She left me in tears because I 'dont talk to my family' and that I was rude to her my saying I was done with this conversation. \n\nBut I dont think what I did was bad, and that she should figure out that she's not always right, even if that's what everyone seems to make her believe. But was I actually the asshole in this situation because she was the one that left in tears?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NxAgw1wfE9097BHtojh7S4qlySJIDgzS", "post_id": "9wsbli", "action": null, "title": "AITA Over Shouting At A Girl Because She Wouldn't Film With Us?", "text": "Me and my friends are currently filming a project for Youtube. It's just fun, nothing serious. We were going to film a scene today where we would meet with a group of people. One of these people is the said girl in the title. I'm going to call her May in this post. We have previously filmed scenes with May and we've filmed enough footage that we need to explain where she comes from (the scene were filming today).\n\n I go to collect her for filming and then she just decides that \"I don't want to\". I try to convince her nicely saying that everyone else is there and that we're waiting. Then she still says no and I'm getting a little annoyed. I had given everyone a days notice via Snapchat and she just decides that she can't be bothered. (FYI we'd only be there for 5 mins as we were filming during break time) I start being more pushy (i.e. jokingly stealing her shoe so she'd follow me to filming) and then she keeps saying no. I would fully be fine with this IF SHE GAVE ME A REASON OTHER THAN \"DON'T WANT TO\". After a couple of minutes of this she says that she can't be bothered and I kick off. I call her a \"little shit\" for not filming with us and that everyone else is out there putting the effort in. I go outside to the rest of hem and say filmings cancelled because of her.\n\nLater in the day, I tell some other people what's happened and apparently I shouldn't have done that because she has \"problems at home\". Ok fine! So why didn't you say that you weren't in the mood or something like that. I honestly think that I've been pretty fair here but this has caused a lot of trouble for the production and I want to know if it could've been prevented with me not kicking off.\n\nTLDR : We need to film a scene with a girl. She doesn't come with us. I shout at her. Everyone begins to think I'm a bad guy because she has issues at home despite not telling me this (I would've been fine calling off filming if this was true). ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 32, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 32}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Rqwd8mn0cbwXgsHTE3OuMHbXJzHNnadU", "post_id": "azzwpg", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with my friend who doesn't give a shit about school and is always complaining about my 'obsession with grades'", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with my friend who doesn't give a shit about school and is always complaining about my 'obsession with grades'?", "text": "So I'm in highschool and my grades are very very very important to me (I want to study medicine). My best friend is always saying that she's putting sooo much effort into her schoolwork when she knows damn right she isn't. Which is okay. School isn't for everyone and her Nr. 1 goal doesnt have to be that she gets into the best college or any college at all.\n\nBut when she is complaining about that one teacher who gave her a C (she 100% deserved the C) eventhough she believed that she should have gotten a better grade, I always support her and tell her 'yeah, what an asshole teacher' instead of 'come on, you know exactly that you half-assed that assignment and didn't put any effort into it. You deserve the C'.\n\nHOWEVER, everytime I complain about a B, eventhough I had set my goal to be an A, she says 'Ohhhh my God, will you stop? A B is fine! You always complain.' And when I explain to her that I am very aware that a B is fine but I was actually aiming for the A which is why this was a disappointment for me, she always claims that I'm just being picky and perfectionistic.\n\nSo the question is: Am i the asshole for HATING that my best friend doesn't take school seriously, she doesn't think about her future, is lazy (when it comes to school) and I ALWAYS have to walk on eggshells around her because God forbid I make her angry!\n\nI love her so much and she is like a sister to me but everytime school is the topic I just cant help but be annoyed and the worst thing is that I cant even tell her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y0iYJlmQBNwNa9Sm1OBu40assIkd2cAY", "post_id": "afgaef", "action": {"description": "getting riled over small things", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting riled over small things?", "text": "Generally I would say that I have a pretty short temper, especially around things I hold near and dear to my heart i.e my sexuality, personal (and more often than not, bad) memories, etc. \n\nMy friends know this and sometimes would just say some offhand comment, meant to be taken lightly, and I just go off. Usually its things like \"@wolf1ez literally shut up\" or \"ur gay u wouldn't understand :)\" all in good joking manner I guess, but it just rubs me the wrong way. Why share something in a gc and send >100 messages instead of privately to each other if you don't want to hear other peoples' input? \n\nOnce I start getting fussy, they'll usually reply with \"dude calm down it was a joke\" as if they didnt tell me to fuck off a second ago which only tilts me more. I always try to just leave the conversation and come back when I've calmed down but as soon as I return they pull that 'gtfo' shit again to piss me off. And obviously it works cus I wanna defend myself/my pride. \n\nBut I dunno, maybe I should just learn to ease up. But can't they just learn to stop putting me in a bad mood for their entertainment???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v2gVS05BYjaHNP75sTYN8NaCxdXVZxQz", "post_id": "9ta230", "action": {"description": "believing that I don't owe anything to the company I worked for", "pronormative_score": 73, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for believing that I don\u2019t owe anything to the company I worked for?", "text": "We just had a round of layoffs at work and a re-org. I\u2019ve been miserable there for almost a year now, and recently put in my two weeks notice because I took a chance and got my literal dream job. People aren\u2019t happy about it since a lot of my functions keep the department running. I\u2019ve given them ample time to plan, and have gone above and beyond to make sure that the transition is smooth.\n\nI was talking with my coworkers about all of this, and I brought up the fact that, if a company is legally considered a \u201cperson\u201d, then I should be considered a \u201ccompany\u201d with my main goal to be to increase revenue. I know that they would drop me without a second thought, so I should be able to walk away from the company. I don\u2019t owe them anything after I leave.\n\nThey all told me that I have to look at it differently, and that it\u2019s a messed up way of looking at things. Someone told me that I\u2019m going to screw them over if I don\u2019t continue to help after I leave. I\u2019m happy to answer questions, but I\u2019m NOT coming in. I\u2019m moving two hours away.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 72, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 73, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bVHm4LCfi767EgR2JCTKbB4cJITAamDH", "post_id": "b6y9io", "action": {"description": "never wanting to meet my aunt after not seeing her for a decade", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for never wanting to meet my aunt after not seeing her for a decade?", "text": "Ok background story:\n\nI'm going back to my home country after 10 years from Canada. I haven't seen almost all of my relatives for  a long time. My mom and I made plans to visit all the relatives, but I mentioned to her that I don't want to see a specific aunt (let's call her SA).\n\nMom: \"Why not? Family is family.\"\n\nHere's the thing, I haven't talked to SA for a decade because:\n1) When we sent money back to support grandparents, she used MOST of the money to pay off her \"debt\", which she never specified. Now my Dad (SA's brother) sends money to his cousin to take care of grandma in the retirement home.\n\n2) Before grandma was sent to her retirement home, SA lived with her. However, SA left grandma STARVING to the point where grandma wanders the streets. Mind you, we found out grandma has dementia. SA's reason for leaving her alone is because they don't get along. She only left boiled eggs for her to eat!\n\n3) After finding out where our money went, I was livid. My parents could have saved a lot of money for my brothers' and I college. Instead of SA taking care of my grandma (which costs less), we sent grandma to the retirement just so someone can take care of her. I finally felt relief after seeing grandma gaining back weight.\n\nBTW SA is 40 years old, no husband or kids, working in an office job the last time I checked. \n\nI feel disgusted after all she has done. My grandma is so sweet to her grandchildren, including me, and it breaks my heart that SA treat her that way because \"they don't get along\". Grandma had to suffer after her breast cancer surgery and grandpa's death, while I was a country away from her.\n\nMy mom, after all that, still wants me to meet her since I haven't seen her for so long. Because family is family.\n\nAITA for not wanting to meet SA again? Also if my mom forces me to meet her, I will probably not even speak to her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "T4BqU31DQafpBgR0OgY3mbWmg4foIlrg", "post_id": "adrs9a", "action": {"description": "skipping LOTR scenes with Frodo and Sam", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for skipping LOTR scenes with Frodo and Sam? (Except for Mount Doom and onwards)", "text": "I just enjoy watching the 3 fighters and Gandalf, plus Merry and Pippen from the Two Towers onwards.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bmmDEFQctqCApaYWvuLBTzr7qNR3OH7H", "post_id": "a959x0", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go with my dad to the cinema", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go with my dad to the cinema?", "text": "I'm a 15 year old teenager, and my dad wants me to go with him to see some new dark comedy movie, but I would rather go see it with my friends, I feel I'm getting too old to watch movies with my 40 year old dad. What do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MsxsJDGWu9evvikuVN3yj3KZIMyHKDyp", "post_id": "asdcrh", "action": {"description": "telling a friend how I felt about her, knowing she didn't feel the same", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend how I felt about her, knowing she didn't feel the same", "text": "I met a girl on Tinder a couples of months ago, and after a while we had a date. We had a lot of fun and we connected instantly, but she wasn't interested in anything romantic. No big deal, we kept it to friendship (with sometimes things getting a little more physical, but rarely). We've gotten really close since, we text everyday, we see eachother as much as possible, we've talked about a lot of really personnal stuff. I tought I did a good job of moving on, that I wasn't interested in her that way anymore. Then, a couple of days ago I spent the night at her place. We drank a lot and it was getting late, so she offered me to stay to sleep, it's closer to my job anyway. We didn't have sex or anything, but we cuddled a lot, even though she's usually not a cuddler. The day after I had a hard time leaving, I've never felt so good in my life. That's when I realised that I was lying to myself, my feelings for her are clearly more than just friendship. I wrote her a message telling her that, not because I was hopping that she would reciprocate, but mostly because I felt she should know. I felt like the cuddling may not have happened if she was aware of how I feel, and that I should be honest with her. Her response to it so far was \"I don't know what to tell you. I don't really want to think about it. At least, not right now\". That was bad timing on my part, she was getting ready to go to work and still tired from the night before. During our first conversation about a potential relationship, I told her that I would be honest if I've ever felt that way, and so I did. However, she also said that she feared to hurt me, she doesn't want me to feel bad because it's not gonna go further than that, so I kinda feel like an asshole for putting her in that situation. On the other hand, I would have felt like an even bigger asshole if I didn't say anything and continued to cuddle and potentially more. At least now if it happens, she'll know that it means more to me, not that I really expect it to happens. It's just that I don't know what she's thinking right now, and I worry it might have been an asshole move on my part that could hurt our friendship, which is the last thing  I want. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "P7HQkjVvDxRyZq4cO8mvmNJALtviq8kq", "post_id": "b1g9w8", "action": {"description": "for telling my mom to stop complaining", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for for telling my mom to stop complaining", "text": "This grown woman complains about everything. every little thing. theres never a day she can go without complaining. most things are from the passed/ things out of her control. Im sick of it, then when i call her out on her bullshit she turns it around on me like im the bad guy. i have to listen to this. Stop complaing and start thinking of a solution, if there is none, forget about it, move on, simple right. no she will rant about any particular thing all day sometimes all week and i have to listen to it. its to the point where shes the only person in the room talking, shes not looking for a conversation or my views on the topic. its toxic behaviour. i believe if you got nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all. i just try to avoid her all day now, i just dont want to hear it anymore.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rAWhUJp1TbRuVjMfKAxbrpPZdS24MuNl", "post_id": "af529g", "action": {"description": "not wanting to share my HBO go account with my family", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to share my HBO Go account with my family?", "text": "We all had previously used my cousin's HBO Go account but she recently got rid of her cable. My family is eager to watch the upcoming season of Game of Thrones, and they suggested we all pitch in to share an HBO account. The thing is though, I already have one. I got it through Hulu, but I don't want to share my account with them.\n\nMy family is incredibly conservative and judgemental, especially my brother. It's why I love that they love Game of Thrones so much. For once in my life, they're taking an interest in something I love. I've always been the black sheep in my family, and they never cared for and at times downright detested my nerdy interests.\n\nBut the reason I don't want to give them my account info is because I'll get so much ridicule for the things I watch. We have a family Netflix account and I watched the Conjuring. A few days later, I got a passive aggressive text from my brother wondering why I had watched a \"satanic\" movie. Yeah. He monitors what I watch. \n\nOh. I'm 28 and he's 33. \n\nYeah. He's really controlling.\n\nMy parents aren't as bad and won't care what I watch, but if I share my account info with them, they'll eirher make me give it to my brother or they'll give it to him. As much as I would love to share my account with my parents (because I really do love being able to nerd out with them about GoT), I just don't want to feel like I can't watch the things I want on my own account. I just feel like I'm being selfish.\n\nAm I being an asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bXlWP2hdRaGdZgu2F46TYltcoMzjgE7h", "post_id": "amoif5", "action": {"description": "telling someone I like them but then changing my mind next day", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for telling someone I like them but then changing my mind next day?", "text": "TLDR down below!\n\n​\n\nSo me (20 m) and my best friend (19 f) have been friends for about 7 years now. I always noticed that she had some kind of crush on me or was at least very very interested in me and my life, which is nice because she was one of the first people in my life that were really interested in me. I appreciated her, she appreciated me and we helped eachother through various periods of our lives. From bad breakups to divorce or the death of a close family member. \n\nNow to the actual story. It all started like 4 months ago. She asked me if I had a crush on anyone. I didn't and told her so.  She kept digging, asking me again and again. After I told her that she is getting kinda annoying her best girl friend started asking me instead of her. I told her the same, then some of my friends started asking me if I had a crush. I told them all no, until I said \"no and I wouldn't tell you if I had one\".Which is the worst you can say, even if it's the truth.\n\nAnd then things got worse. My best friend started asking me again and again and I got soo annoyed. Everyone pressured me so extremely and they all wanted me to say that I crush her (my best friend). \n\nI thought about the whole situation and after getting asked even more and more and being pressured on parties I started adapting to the idea. I thought that if everyone wants me to say it I should at least think about the possibility. I started to kinda like the idea and maybe felt something close to a crush. \n\nAfter the 4 months of pressure and getting asked about it I finally told my best friend that I was kinda crushing on her in the past 2 weeks. She got excited and told me that she had a crush on me for the last year, maybe even more. We had a fun evening, but I never had the feeling or desire to do anything couple related (hugging, kissing, cuddle, etc.) I didn't spend the night with her but used some random excuse to get away from the situation because with every minute that passed the situation got more and more uncomfortable.\n\nWhen I got home I started thinking about the whole situation and came to the conclusion that I didn't like her in that particular way and after talking to her on the next day I told her that I think it would be best to stay friends. She of course didn't understand why I had change my mind. Tbh I had no clue myself. She left with almost tears in her eyes and I felt soo terrible but I needed some times and thought she would need time for herlself as well. After countless hours of thinking and arguing with myself, I figured that I wanted to satisfy the mass and put their hopes above my actual feelings.\n\nWe texted and I tried explaining her why I had changed my mind. She said that was all made up and that I would be weak for breaking under so little pressure. End of the story: we are still kinda friends, but haven't done anything since. \n\nSo please tell me AITA and if so why.\n\n​\n\nTLDR; I told my best friend that I had a crush on her because I was pressured for over 4 months into saying it. The day after I told her that I was kinda crushing on her I wasn't really feeling that way anymore then told her that we should stay friends. She called me mentally weak and that it wouldn't work out anyways.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Q0K0rSIxyFdMlPH5BM15tGaUlPXoZU3f", "post_id": "aqwvr0", "action": {"description": "failing to stop someone from assaulting another", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Failing To Stop Someone From Assaulting Another?", "text": "Hello everyone, 20M here who was on a tram today and have been riddled with guilt over what happened in it. There was a man a few steps away from me who had been talking to a woman pretty loudly and rudely. Another woman stepped in and tried to tell him to give some respect to the woman he was yelling at and the douchebag exploded on the new woman. He yelled at her, kept threatening violence for a minute or so and then became physical. He started shoving her and threatening her with more violence. I could have stepped in at any point and at the very least tried to stop that from happening. But I didn't because I froze and I was afraid. Fortunately, the tram was pretty full and some brave soul came from the back to where he was in the tram and kicked the douchebag out.\n\n​\n\nJustice was served to the man in the end but it wasn't by me. I'm very happy both those women came out okay from that ordeal and I hope they continue to be so. After the man was kicked out, I was too ashamed to even look at anyone else. I've always thought of myself as a good person, certainly nowhere near the best but someone who tries to help out wherever he sees something wrong and I've done that out of my way in the past to help others. I don't think I have a right to say that anymore. That situation made me question a lot about myself. What if that situation was to happen again? What if there was proper abuse involved, not just shoving? Would I get involved or would I just look the other way? They say a person who fails to stop an injustice is just as guilty as the person who committed the sin. What kind of person am I if I can't find it in myself to stop the most blatant injustice there is?\n\n​\n\nAnyway, for those who listened, I'm very grateful since this is some pretty heavy stuff, at least for me. I'd like to think that if there is a next time, I can recall my guilt and shame there and decide to do something but I really just don't know anymore. Thank you all for letting me get this out.\n\nEdit: Thank you guys for the support and suggestions! I'm sorry about the late replies but everything that you've said, I've taken to heart. I'm going to start looking in to conflict resolution so that I'm better equipped to dealing with any such situations in the future. It means a lot that you guys took the time to read and offered some advice. Hopefully, if such a situation should arise again, I can look back, not only at my past experience but think about the advice here and respond better to these situations.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CHB9Py9C2UBERq2sLb73wDWLI6FEHhSX", "post_id": "atkn12", "action": {"description": "not telling my now ex-girlfriend that I had a vasectomy long before we met", "pronormative_score": 38, "contranormative_score": 43}, "title": "AITA for not telling my now ex-girlfriend that I had a vasectomy long before we met?", "text": "\n\nOf course, I didn't know how serious the relationship would become when it started; she claimed to not want kids beyond what she has, so initially, I saw no need to tell her. \n\nA year or so passes, we're still together at that point (kind of miracle for me),  and her siblings are having babies left and right, so she playfully begins suggesting some baby fever based ideas. I recognized it was time to tell her.  \n\n\"Uh, I have something I need to tell you, and you might not like it and I'm sorry I didn't tell you earlier, but I just didn't know how, but I had a vasectomy xx number of years ago.\"\n\nIt was very upsetting, actually, for both of us.  I could never think of a good time to tell her.\n\n It is usually something I'm very open about. And have mentioned it in my dating profiles, I've talked about it on social media,  etc.  \n \n It was a mistake, and by omission, dishonest, but unintentional.  I didn't think sharing it, or keeping it to myself,  would make a difference.  \n\nWell, soon after that she begins making ultimatums, and mentioning deal breakers, that go against well established personal values. Hinting at breaking up and so forth.  \n\nHence, ex-girlfriend...\n\nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 36, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 5}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 38, "WRONG": 43}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "O8qwdtoy98eAoBwFOjWFvrgGmVY5LUb6", "post_id": "b7ts76", "action": {"description": "not telling my ex why I don't want to get back together", "pronormative_score": 34, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not telling my ex why I don't want to get back together?", "text": "For some context, my ex broke up with me nine months ago, and it emotionally crushed me. Once he found out he would not be going to the college we planned on going to together, he started to become very distant. He would only send a goodmorning text and not speak to me for the rest of the day.\n\nIt started to get worse and worse. I had an unhealthy dependence on his attention due to me being young, naive, and convinced he was the only one who would want to ever be with me. I couldn't eat, sleep, or even think. I felt terrible, emotionally and physically. I eventually called him and asked him if he was doing alright, because I thought maybe he was going through something he wasn't telling me about. He said everything was fine and I asked him if we could improve our communication and he said \"I'll try.\"\n\nNot even a week passes before it gets much worse. I called him again, and left him a message telling him exactly how I've been feeling and how I need communication to improve because I was so anxious and stressed out.\n\nHe called back and left a message saying that the distance was getting to him, that he hadn't loved me for the past month, and that he wanted to end things. I called him back, leaving a message saying that if he wanted to break up I would respect his decision, but I remember just being to torn up about it. We eventually were both able to get on a call and he just gave the sweet nothings of \"you mean the world to me but in a different way\" and \"there are so many better guys out there than me\". I was still devastated. I slowly forced myself to put away all the pictures of him in my closet.\n\nFast forward six months. I've improved myself in so many ways. I branched out and tried new things. I have a much healthier relationship with myself. I'm much happier with my capabilities, and I was accepted to my dream college. Basically, I'm thriving. I get an unexpected message from my ex. We talked for a bit, then he said \"Can I talk to you about something?\"\n\nHe drops a bomb that in the past six months he never stopped thinking about me. Things at his college reminded him of me. He's unsure of himself, but he feels bad about the way things ended and wants me back. I'm taken aback, and I know I don't want to get back together with him. I've finally accepted that part of the unhealthy relationship I had with myself was because he was mentally abusive. He was manipulative and good at telling people what they wanted to hear. I\u2019m also just not attracted to him anymore.\n\nHe says he's going to try to transfer to the college i'm going to next year, and that he can see a future with me. Eventually he says \"I want to be with you.\" And I left him at that. I ghosted him. It's been three months since then, and I still haven't spoken to him. Am I the asshole for not giving him closure?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 34, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3GXpLCwaTDLgArz8rxty8pbobBbUhyEA", "post_id": "auf8d6", "action": {"description": "feeling hurt that my dad went through ivf with his ex years ago", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling hurt that my dad went through ivf with his ex years ago?", "text": "First time posting, so bare with me.\n\nMy relationship with my dad has always been rocky (although has been great the last couple of years). See, he's an alcoholic, and he has depression. My mum and him separated when I was about a year old (She couldn't cope with him walking out all the time and going missing when she was trying to look after me). Despite this, he still tried to be a good dad, until he met HER. \n\nCB (Crazy Bitch) was also an alcoholic, who also suffered with depression. I knew that she had fertility issues, and that was partly why she was so horrid to me (as well as the fact she was genuinely just a horrible person). She tried to convince my dad when they were first together, that I wasn't his child. My dad probably would have believed this, except for the fact it is very clear from looking at me, that there is no doubt i am his daughter. She would do everything in her power to get him to cancel his weekends with me, even so far as threats to her own safety. When I had to stay over at her house, I was in the tiny box room, on a mattress on the floor. Even after years, I was never allowed a bed. She would be cruel to me, and when I would get upset and my dad would ask me what was wrong, she would say that I was a liar and making things up. In the end, I stopped going.\n\nCB was a master manipulator, cheater, compulsive liar, and she would regularly both physically and mentally abuse my dad. My entire childhood I had to learn that when I needed my dad, he wasn't there. He would go months without contact with me even if I tried to get in touch with him (depression, guilt over being with CB and drinking). \n\nCB died about 4 years ago from cancer and alcoholism.\n\nWe are finally in a good place. \n\nDuring a relaxed chat about IVF and general fertility issues people face, Dad casually drops into conversation that he and CB went through IVF just after they got engaged (I would have been 5/6). Now obviously, there was no logical time before now for him to bring it up, and I don't begrudge him that. What hurts is that I thought I knew all of the things he could ever have done to hurt me, and thought I had dealt with it. This was a complete curve ball (almost as if even death can't stop CB from messing with my relationship with him). \n\nA) I am an only child who just found out I could have had a sibling.\nB) She wouldn't even stop drinking long enough for the ivf to be successful anyway, surely that was enough of a red flag that having a baby with her WASNT a good idea?\nC) I can't stop thinking about how much different life would have been if it had worked.\nD) He was ready to have another baby when he couldn't even be there for the one he already had?\n\nMy mum and my partner have both said it's the past and I need to let it go, but I don't think I can. It feels almost as if they're saying I'm overreacting. \n\nAITA for feeling hurt by it and not being able to just forget? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GFLfYlH5HBcWlkqAhxz3Ggxz4TKgRcuX", "post_id": "ap8b65", "action": {"description": "asking a coworker to take a table for me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking a coworker to take a table for me", "text": "Hello! I work at a southern style restaurant where Sundays are incredibly busy. We have nonstop tables in and out and usually boast a 45 minute wait. I was to be cut around 2, and at 1:55 my 2 top table and another server's 4 top table got pushed together for a group of 6. At the restaurant we work at it is generally the server with the bigger table who gets first chance to take it. I told her about the party and she immediately told me to take it- she was going to be cut at 3:30, so I asked her if she could take it since I was about to be off the floor. She honestly freaked out at me, telling me it doesn't matter and that I just don't want to work. She also complained that I did not greet them and just went to get her but they hadn't been sat yet when I went to get her. I told her I could if she wanted me to, and she told me to fuck off.\nSo after all is said and done and I am cut, she starts putting the order in and I try to ask her if she wants me to get the drinks for her while she is doing that. She told me she does not need help from me and got increasingly more aggressive and rude. And I told her that she was kind of rude about all of this. I also overheard her telling everyone that I am a lazy bitch and that really bugged me. Like! Come to me and talk about it like I have been trying to do and we can solve this. \nSo I confronted her and I definitely admit I was very frustrated and gave off that tone. She said to leave her the fuck alone. And so, I did.\nI feel very bad about this! I would have definitely taken that table if I had known she was going to be  so upset, and was going to offer but she just kind of did not give me a chance to say nevermind. I also didn't mind working, but I was just wondering if she could help me out since I was so close to done. Please let me know if I am a butthole.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0rakTPi1dWg2llcdS3sjmNHwpSDcxLKX", "post_id": "ad8asw", "action": {"description": "not blaming my friend that he didn't want to go on a second date", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not blaming my friend that he didn\u2019t want to go on a second date.", "text": "A friend of mine recently went on a date with one of my girlfriends friend he met on Tinder. After the date, I asked my friend what he thought of her, and his response was that he couldn\u2019t see it going anywhere because he thought she was overweight. Now, my girlfriend knows he was texting me, and was very curious as what he had to say. Obviously I didn\u2019t want to tell her what went wrong on the date, because it would make her feel bad.\n\nAfter nagging me about it for a while, I eventually spilled the beans and said to her that he\u2019s more into petite girls and her body type didn\u2019t match that. This is where the issue starts.\n\nWe got into an argument about how shallow he apparently is for not wanting to go out on another date with this girl because she\u2019s overweight, and he should\u2019ve given her another chance because he might fall for her personality. I disagreed with this, and told her that since he\u2019s a pretty fit person, it\u2019s going to be normal that he wants to be with other people that are also fit. After all attractiveness plays a big part for a lot of people when it comes to the early stages of a relationships. Mind you, this girl is not perceived overweight to everybody since she has a curvier body type, but also works outs.\n\nThe second issue is that she has mentioned this discussion when other friends of hers are around, and they all take her side saying that men should accept women for whatever body type they are, and curvier women can never look as skinny as a more naturally slim person can be. I\u2019ve told them I understand this, and a person even though should maintain a healthy routine when it comes to diet and exercise, should also put emphasis on being comfortable in their own body. I just believe that it doesn\u2019t matter if they don\u2019t think she\u2019s overweight, because he is much more attracted to petite girls, he perceives it like this. \n\nSo, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rgIRze677FxDXrqEW34q3QvxdyOhWGyD", "post_id": "b2tl40", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be around my ex and ex friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be around my ex and ex friend?", "text": "  \n\nAfter my ex and i parted ways 2 years ago, Someone i had considered to be a friend (we'll call him Mr B) started dating her, at the time it felt like a massive backstab as i had always grown up around people spouting the \"you don't date your friends ex\" (I even had a friend cut ties with one of his lifelong friends for asking if he could talk to his ex). The feeling I got from my friends though was that i should accept it and basically 'get over it'\n\nMr B was someone i had considered a friend, (someone you would invite to the shed for beers on a friday night) but had told everyone we were never really friends. At the time i needed a break from life, so i deleted/blocked them both on social media and moved on with my life by spending 6+ months travelling and living overseas. (best life decision made)\n\nI'm now living back in my home state and working, i still try to catch up with my friends often but i didn't want to be hanging around said couple when i did, so i would catch up with friends before or after an event as i still harboured anger towards said Mr B.\n\nI got to the stage where i went camping with all the guys plus Mr B because i missed doing the 'normal' things we would do before everything happened, and i thought maybe i'm alright, its in the past and i can let it go (as i have a new girlfriend at this stage).\n\nAbout 2 months ago while we were on camping again with most friends (plus girlfriends), one of our mates was dicking around throwing mud when its hits my girlfriend, no problem i got him back. Except a tiny bit of splatter hits Mr B's fishing tinny (that has been getting driven up a tree on the bank of the river all weekend and is currently filled with about 20 mostly empty beer cans contributed by everyone there)\n\nNext minute he absolutely flips his shit at me (apparently while i was underwater he had said something about don't throw mud), i immediately appologise and tell him i'll help clean it (while at the same time asking another mate to stop using my shirt to clean the specs of mud from the side of the boat) He flips out again, shoves me back and storms off. Most people there take a dim view of his attitude and console me saying that he's way out of line. Another friends makes us shake hands once we all returned to camp and the group sat it 2 groups the rest of the night.\n\nI have zero desire to try to make ammends to this absolute grub of a human being, which i feel leaves me in the shit position of checking with my friends when an event is organised who is going. I don't enjoy doing this, but its leaving me questioning if any of these people are good friends to me to begin with, i certainly feel like if any of them were in this situation they would be judging me for being a close mate to a person who made them feel this uncomfortable.\n\nI write this after purposfully not attending a friends house for drinks last saturday after he had his first child on Thursday morning. Am i the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1KM6JTC0qSJ3lQ8Do8KUNs9bcw6dYLvj", "post_id": "a64qw2", "action": {"description": "not moving my kid to the other side of the bed", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not moving my kid to the other side of the bed?", "text": "Context: most mornings me, my husband, and our two boys (2 and 4) cuddle in our bed and talk the first ten minutes of the morning. \n\nIt\u2019s pretty typical the two boys use the time to horse around on the bed, jumping and wrestling and all the other rough play that comes with boys of that age. \n\nThe 2 year old is a bruiser and the 4 year old more sensitive. \n\nThis morning both boys were rumbling around, the 2 year old on my side, 4 year old with my husband. The two year old accidentally kicked the four year old in the head (not hard to do any real damage but a surprise and the older one of course started crying right away). \n\nMy husband then booms to me: \u201cMove him (the two year old) to the other side of you!\u201d\n\nI had already grabbed him in a bear hug so no more toddler appendages could be flailing by the 4 year old. \n\n\u201cHe\u2019s fine I have him\u201d was my response. \n\nHusband goes (in a very loud and stern voice): \u201cI\u2019m not ASKING you, I\u2019m TELLING you\u201d then proceeds to make some other comment about my slow movement/processing of the situation. \n\nNow of course both kids start crying and husband tells the four year old to go down stairs right away and demands I stay in the room with the younger one. \n\nIn isolation this is likely a \u201cmeh\u201d whatever, marriage, post. \n\nWe left the morning not talking - him getting ready for work, me downstairs with both kids getting them ready. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iJNeKmOh3rXk9kA4buEG8t4JixGOVw4m", "post_id": "b5u2ue", "action": {"description": "asking for my coffee to be fixed", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking for my coffee to be fixed?", "text": "This is really more of a general question than a specific situation since it occurs so often, but I\u2019ll couch it in terms of what happened today. \n\nI like milk in my coffee. A lot of milk. A lot of people find this very strange. A lot of people who serve coffee think I am mistaken in my preferences and do me the generous favor of upgrading me to cream free of charge. But that wasn\u2019t today either. Today was a different free upgrade. \n\nToday I went to Starbucks and ordered a grande americano in a venti cup, which means 16 ounces of beverage in a 20 ounce cup. I started ordering this way just because it\u2019s easier to say than trying to explain what I mean by \u201croom for milk\u201d and leaving it subjective. \n\nToday my kind and generous barista decided to do me a huge favor and comp me the extra water it would take to make my grande a venti, rather than wastefully serving me a cup a fifth empty. I appreciated her generosity but found myself facing a conundrum. Because an americano is a set number of shots of cappuccino diluted by water, dumping some out to make room for milk would\u2019ve meant throwing away espresso that I paid a dollar a shot for (airport prices). So I asked her if she could remake the beverage the way I\u2019d ordered it. \n\nWorse, after that I discovered that there was no milk out, as is often the case - because most people apparently have better taste than I do and Starbucks is generous, they only set out expensive half and half instead of the cheap watery milk a weirdo like me prefers. So after bothering her to prepare my coffee the way I\u2019d ordered it, I needed to bother her again to pour me some milk. \n\nThat\u2019s what happened today. Another variation on how this happens is that I order a coffee with milk and a well-meaning barista upgrades me to cream. I find cream utterly disgusting, outright nauseating, and just can\u2019t stomach it at all, so when this happens I ask them to remake it. \n\nI\u2019ve been trying to figure out if it\u2019s my fault, but it doesn\u2019t make any sense. No matter how bad of a lisp I must have, I can\u2019t figure out how anyone could ever hear \u201ccream\u201d when I try to say \u201cmilk\u201d, or \u201cventi with extra water\u201d when I say \u201cgrande in a venti cup.\u201d\n\nAm I an asshole for insisting my coffee be made the way I order it? If so, how could I go about my life in a less assholish way without learning to drink scalding hot beverage with oil floating in it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CfVfCy4w7l6ktoUP7sCpyvk1dmW0JWDM", "post_id": "au5ki8", "action": {"description": "asking my gf to just appologize instead of blaming me as well", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for asking my gf to just appologize instead of blaming me as well?", "text": "So my girlfriend was apolosing today for re organising my room without asking me meaning I now had no idea where anything was anymore.\nHowever this was reorganisation was about a month ago and she kept saying things like sorry but you didn't notice, sorry but you should've told me not to, sorr but.... Etc.  She left at this point and I called her asking her to just apologise without adding a reason I'm also at fault. This carried on and she eventually came back and I asked her to come upstairs and apologise again. For some reason she left again and started saying how she already said sorry and she tried to offer to reorganise (she did but had no idea what was where either). She then started calling me as ass and saying that I only wanted to cause the argument just because I felt like it and that I was being a child. I then reminded her that what I wanted was just a sincere apology and she started laughing at me and saying she'd already said sorry. \n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0hdm37jFzCdNvRxrjwtTTVMyIKL9uOzo", "post_id": "amb52m", "action": {"description": "not feeling ready to buy a house with my wife", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling ready to buy a house with my wife?", "text": "First Post on Reddit\n\nBackground info: I have been together with my wife now for almost 9 years and married for 1. We have been living together (rent) for close to 6 years I think. My wife is a anaphylactic to all nuts and is also epileptic. None of these have really bothered me in our relationship, it's just who she is. But about 2 years ago she had to start taking new medication because her old ones were not working really well. It made her very dependent physically and emotionally, on me, during this transition of the new drug. She was not able to work and was basically an emotional zombie. This all lasted about a year. \n\nFast forward to today, she is doing a lot better and has started going to work and is more independent. However, there is some issue that we are still dealing with. She is 75% -80% of the time always late for work or for any social outings. She has difficulty respecting when i say \"no\" to anything (ie. sex or personal space). Another issue that we always dealt with through our entire relationship is her weight. I will be the first to admit that i do not find it sexy but that does not stop my love for her. But its not just her \"looks\" that her weight effects but also my ability to take care of her. Post any major seizures that she can have i have to either roll her over into a recovery position or when she needs to, lift her to the bathroom cause she has to pee (you semi-ish loose a bit of bladder control post-seizures). I have hurt my back 3 times already lifting and turning her. Lastly, because of her medication changes there is a lot of emotional instability of which i am on the receiving end. Tho she has gotten a lot more stable as she becomes accustomed to the new medication.\n\nActual issue: We have been talking for the past year (since getting married) at getting a house. But with all the stress i have been facing with her I gave her a sort of proposal that if she were to focus on improving herself and reach a set number of goals, we would then buy a house. Because buying house would just cause a lot more stress that i am not emotionally and mentally ready to face with at this moment. She initially agreed to it. But then 2 months later she found her dream house and is trying to force me into getting into the motions of getting it. It started a very large argument and none of us are budging from our standpoint. She keeps repeating that I am \"killing her dreams and aspiration\" and that i dont want to move cause she has not fixed her \"weight issue\". When in reality i am just afraid of the probable accumulating stress and how its going to affect our relationship and my mental health\n\nI fucking love my wife! But i dont know what to do or respond sometimes.\n\nSorry for the length and most likely grammatical errors                      ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "epbxzGgT6oDRVmYx2ofSagqv2mvfXGB8", "post_id": "b60hix", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she makes the lgbt community look bad", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 44}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my friend she makes the LGBT community look bad?", "text": "I have this friend and I feel like she tries too hard to be \"LGBT\". My friend and I are both bi. Ever since I met her she's had long hair down to her hips. She's recently got into Kpop and she's cut her hair and dyed it a burgundy color but before cutting it she was like \"I want to look like [Kpop guy] from X Monsta!\" Ever since she's got this haircut, she's been trying to \"act like a guy.\" I asked her if she was transgender and she said she wasn't but she would go around yelling through the cafeteria saying \"I'm just a lesbian bouncy boy\". The same thing happens when I'm just having a regular conversation with her, she would ignore what I say and just say \"I'm a lesbian bouncy boy\".\nOn her Instagram stories, she would post stuff like \"My man is annoying but I still love him\". I asked her who her \"man\" was and she would show me some Kpop guy. \nI also sit next to her during my psych class. We have free time during class sometimes, so once I was scrolling through a clothing site while looking through the swimwear clothes. I was asking her if I should buy a certain bathing suit, which was obviously being modeled and I showed her and she said \"Yea.... is it bad that I'm getting a boner from this?\" She said that very loud and everyone turned around to look at us. I told her to stop and I just sat silently at my desk until class was over.\nWhenever we would walk together somewhere she'd say something like \"My nuts hurt\" \"I have a fat dick\" and it's been getting really cringy and annoying. \nWIBTA if I told her she makes the LGBT community look bad?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 27, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 17, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 44}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6hnTjaKhCr1M1dieN3DVO55OXAW1PtFp", "post_id": "armwt3", "action": {"description": "accepting a home cooked dinner form someone I don't want to date", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for accepting a home cooked dinner form someone I don\u2019t want to date?", "text": "So: I\u2019m a single 23 year old guy. I work in a lab, and we\u2019ve taken volunteers to help with field work before. \n\nA few months back, I\u2019m paired up with Ann (not her actual name) at a mass Audubon station, where we checked over deer registered during the first week of hunting season. Ann is from Vietnam. This is our first time meeting, and there\u2019s a smidge of a language barrier. We\u2019re stuck together for six hours or so, so we chat.\n\nShe mentions her hopes and dreams to go to med school, but that she\u2019s concerned about taking the MCAT because her English isn\u2019t very good. I tell her that I can\u2019t really help with much of the rest of the rest, but if she needs a hand with the English portions, I could try to walk her through a practice exam. Admittedly, never actually thought she would take me up on it.\n\nFlash forward to last week- she found me on Facebook and asked me for help. She was nice enough, and since I had promised, I said yes.  \n\nA few things became pretty clear pretty quickly:\n\n1) It became very clear, very fast that she isn\u2019t going to pass the MCAT- or at least not the sections she was going over with me. She seems to know this\n\n2) She mentioned that she doesn\u2019t want to go back to Vietnam, her visa is expiring soon, and if she can\u2019t pass the test she\u2019ll either need to get married or head home.\n\n3) She was interested in doing /much/ more than studying for the MCAT\n\nNow, this is where friends have called me the asshole: she started calling herself short, fat, and ugly, more or less out of nowhere. I said she \u201cwas definitely short, but fat and ugly? Not so much.\u201d Apparently this was leading her on that I was interested, while I thought it was just keeping someone from insulting themselves too harshly. \n\nAgain: I genuinely was only interested in helping her study.  Apparently, it\u2019s pretty unreasonable to help a stranger like this and /not/ assume something sexual or beginnings of relationship-y are involved/will become involved. \n\nSo, when she offered me a tour of her apartment, and showed me to her bedroom: I said \u201coh, your bed is made differently than mine,\u201d and played full-oblivious with her. Left pretty soon afterwards, with a hug and a \u201chappy to help.\u201d\n\nShe texted me the next day, very politely thanked me, and asked if I could help her again sometime. I said if she needs it, I can help; she thanked me again profusely, and then said she would be making me dinner to thank me.\n\nI said there was no need, I had promised I would help and so I did- she insisted repeatedly. Eventually, I agreed.\n\nAm I the asshole for genuinely only wanting to help this girl pass the MCAT, recognizing she wants something from me that I don\u2019t want to reciprocate, but accepting a meal from her anyways?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xJ9KihQCUaXa5mXp3yKkaOaQyHUv9U58", "post_id": "b1wqtj", "action": {"description": "being visibly irritated at work", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being visibly irritated at work?", "text": "Hi, all. Have lurked for a few months, but this is my first post.\n\nI'm a musician who works at a well-known and -regarded arts organization. I'm on a multi-year contract, and this is my last year before I, by my own choice, move on to freelance work. The pay is pretty terrible and the hours are even worse (six-day weeks on top of evening performances), but there are definitely some perks, and it's an organization that produces some truly incredible performances.\n\nI'm currently working on a project with a project manager who is new to working with musicians. Our personalities don't mesh at all, and neither do our work styles: for example, she enjoys being social in the work place and using rehearsal time to joke around, and I find this kind of banter really distracting when I'm trying to focus on getting something done. She also does a number of things -- liberally saying words like \"cunt\" and \"fuck\" during rehearsals, calling people for a three-hour rehearsal and then not using him/her, and micromanaging all creative decisions for the performers -- that really, really irk me. With these rehearsal techniques, it takes a really long time to get things done, and I frequently feel that my time is being wasted.\n\nI've piped up a couple of times during rehearsal (three times, max, over the course of five weeks) when things this manager has asked for haven't made sense to me, or if I've disagreed with them, but I pretty much always end up going along with what she wants. That being said, some of my aforementioned \"pipe-ups\" have, admittedly, been snarky, but I feel that my concerns are legitimate.\n\nJust this morning, I received a call from the music director on the project, and he flat-out said that my negativity has been palpable in the past few days, and asked if a few days off from rehearsal would help get me into a more positive frame of mind. This was definitely a wake-up call. \n\nSo, I'm asking: AITA? Is it my job not to say anything, even when I find her behavior unprofessional and unproductive? I plan to apologize to her because -- regardless of the fact that I still disagree with her opinions -- I shouldn't have been snarky. The lines are, I feel, somewhat blurred between employer and employee in the performing arts, and the egos are larger than life -- I'm out of touch with how to deal with a boss whose personality and management style really just doesn't jive with mine.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1e9x9bEXY4h1pFUYAaY1O91qu22rk5Zt", "post_id": "a561d5", "action": {"description": "not feeling welcome at my fiances family Christmas gatherings", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling welcome at my fiances family Christmas gatherings?", "text": "On mobile, all that good stuff, sorry for errors.\n\n\nIn the last few months, we've been in the process of moving houses because my fiances grandma, whom we were living with, passed away in early November, and she gave the house to my fiances father. And within the last few weeks, his family has waited until last minute to tell us we have to leave, and none of his family will allow us to stay with them since we have no place to go.\n\n\nWe got told last Friday that we have until TOMORROW to pack the entire house and be out because they're doing rennovations and we can't be here while they do it. His mom, who had originally said we can stay with them, waited until yesterday to tell us that we are no longer allowed to stay there. So, this brings me to feeling like an asshole.\n\n\nSince all of this is happening right at christmas time, and none of them have helped us, or even offered a couch to rest our heads on, I told my fiance last night that I would not be attending any of his family's christmas gatherings because I just don't feel welcome. His entire family has turned their backs on us, but hes making me feel like Im an asshole because I don't want to go.\n\n\nSo, am I an asshole? I feel like maybe I am being a little over dramatic, but my feelings are deeply hurt and I don't want to spend my christmas with people who are okay with letting their son and I be homeless right before the holidays.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7h3ahaVkhyiBPEy7hBrWf6Y8goN2BSzW", "post_id": "ahar2x", "action": {"description": "telling a 5 year long lie and escaping on a plane when I got caught", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling a 5 year long lie and escaping on a plane when I got caught?", "text": "I know the title sounds horrible, but hear me out. Nearly 6 years ago I met this guy online, started chatting, became pretty good friends. He helped me through some really tough stuff like my grandpa passing away, my mom remarrying and having to deal with my verbally abusive mom. \n\nAnyways, about a year in, I had left my phone on a side table and my sister asked if she could use it to check the weather forecast for the week. I said of course, and while she\u2019s doing that, my mom catches a glimpse of a notification with a name of a person she hasn\u2019t met before. And she flips out, does all the usual things like calling me entitled and telling me I\u2019m stupid and all of that stuff. The typical argument of \u201cwhat if he\u2019s an axe murderer!\u201d  I\u2019m a minor at this time, so she grounds me and forbids me to ever speak of this person again. \n\nLet\u2019s flash forward to 2017-2018. Me and this guy have been dating for a while now, secretly of course. More shitty things have happened, and my mom and step dad are still the worst. Every time I get close to telling them, maybe as their Christmas or birthday gift to me, a few weeks before I had planned to do it, they do something that makes me change my mind. \n\nFor example, my mom overheard me talking on FaceTime about how I\u2019m bisexual, and rages about \u201chow could I have not told her?\u201d. And telling me that if I want to \u2018come out\u2019 it needs to be a big deal and I can\u2019t just say it like it\u2019s a normal, everyday thing. Next week, overheard my step dad telling my mom, \u201cYou know I think she just said that to get on your nerves.\u201d And demanded I come out to him separately from everybody else. (This is the type of guy that is convinced every bisexual eventually cheats on their partner.) \n\nOr, another example: I went to 5 different therapists and psychologists over the past years leading up to 2018, all because I needed someone to talk to about how to deal with my mom and all that stuff. The reason I had so many was either A: the third session was typically when the therapist asked my mom to sit in on the session and I would talk about how I felt. She would cry and act sad, then once we got in the car or home she would yell at me for making her look bad and feeling entitled. \nOr B: She told me I didn\u2019t need therapy because all it was was angst and I should stop going, and I couldn\u2019t ignore her because her benefits paid for my sessions. \n\nAnyways, I start planning this month-long backpacking trip across Europe, worked full time every summer, 2 part time jobs during the school year. Originally the plan was for me to go with (a now ex)friend. We planned about half of it together, but working over the summer and living in staff accommodations together made us have a bad fallout, so I decided to go anyways and go with the boyfriend, all while telling my parents I was still going with my friend. \n\nEverything about the lie is going well until I get dropped off at the airport and they realize my friend isn\u2019t there. Eventually I tell them that she bailed on me (which she did) and that I was going alone (which was a lie). I was past security at this point, and my parents are crying and freaking out, mom is offering to leave her job and go with me and I tell her no. I leave on the plane, and since I wasn\u2019t a minor and paid everything out of pocket, all under my name, they couldn\u2019t do anything. \n\nAnyways the month passes, I eventually tell them, they\u2019re pissed, they say I ruined the family and caused them ultimate trauma. They threatened to sue my boyfriend, my step dad told me to skip my flight home and stay in Europe, so I skipped my flight, apparently he never told my mom that he told me that, and then they both got angry at me. Eventually was forced back home. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HfKAHwfSVsrosldQnFgKp4KtC1SL4g77", "post_id": "b3hbqe", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA is I gave my boyfriend an ultimatum about feminism?", "text": "I am not a very political person, it just isn't something that interests me. I vote and pay attention enough to try and have an informed vote but I don't dedicate much of my life to it. It just doesn't really interest me. This was the same for my boyfriend of about 2 years until the last 6 months or so ago. He all of the sudden out of what seemed like the blue started to get really political and especially into feminism.\n\nAnd it has gotten out of control in my opinion. When we go out he is constantly talking about how this is problematic and how that is inherently sexist and blah blah blah. And he has gone from respecting women to pretty much idolizing them. \n\nI have tried talking to him about how I am not interested in or want to discuss which led to me \"confessing\" that I don't consider myself feminist and he seemed to take that as a mission to \"convert\" me.\n\nHe hasn't done anything wrong and his heart is in the right place but the way he has been acting has been frankly kinda creepy and almost emasculated in a sense. I know that ultimatums are generally wrong but if I have already tried to talk to him about it without change would I be an asshole to make one now?\n\nI don't want to break up with him because things were going so good before this rabbit hole he went down started. I just don't know how else to snap him out of it.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HdPJNIRrt57HypPLnZUHgvGhIUfitXEQ", "post_id": "ar22b7", "action": {"description": "not demanding my husband made me dinner", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA because I didn't demand my husband made me dinner", "text": "TL;DR I don't think I should demand my husband should stop what he's enjoying to fulfil a previously offered favour to me. He thinks I should have made the demand instead of making alternative arrangements.\n\n---\n\nWhen I got home from work (about 6ish) tonight, he was busy with his hobby, said he would be another half hour and he'd make dinner tonight. About 40 mins later he told me he'd be busy with his hobby all night but he'd still do dinner.\n\nIt got to 20:40, he was still engrossed in his hobby and when he's like that he tends not to be hungry so I decided just to order food in. I popped into his room to see if he wanted something ordered too. He started berating me for not telling him I was hungry and wanted dinner and we got into an argument (he later told me I had a tone when I asked if he wanted anything, I hadn't intended to and apologised as soon as he told me). He was also surprised that I had an expected time frame for dinner and that 20:40 was past it.\n\nI was raised with the view that it would be incredibly rude to go to someone and demand they complete a favour they had previously offered; I also believe that it's poor form not to ensure you follow through on things you say you'll do. He thinks that the situation represents shitty communication on my part and I should have told him to make me dinner when I got hungry even though he was busy with his hobby and clearly happy doing it (so I didn't want to take him away from it).\n\nWe're each convinced we're in the right and his level of confidence has put some doubt in my mind. So AITA for not telling him to make me dinner and choosing instead to sort myself out when his kind offer didn't materialise?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0LY4sNOGuMDE8xkc3GUXMog4GqpQ1tqa", "post_id": "b6ay47", "action": {"description": "ghosting a friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a friend?", "text": "I met my friend (let's call him Joe) in college. We Became close when One day when I was having a bad time because I was on a verge of a breakup with my ex, he was there to talk it through with me. I appreciated his help and I felt like I wanted to get close to him.\n\nWe started to hang out a bit more, and although we both were different in personalities, I felt like we understood each other. But at the same time, he wouldn't really tell me much about himself. Or if he did I never really felt like he was being vulnerable around me. Additionally, he didn't talk about who he likes very much most likely due to him being closeted (it's an assumption but I can't picture him being straight).  \n\nI confronted him about this and he would say stuff like \"I think you can be friends without knowing everything about me\" or \"I'm worried you would tell others\". I confronted him multiple times about this but it seems like each time he had a different excuse. \n\nNow to be fair, I wasn't the perfect friend either. There were times where I didn't hit him up because I was hanging out with my gf. But when he called me out on it I tried making an effort hanging out with him. But each time I would hang out it felt more like it was out of obligation rather than the feeling of \"I really wanna hang out with Joe!\" I felt like the friendship turned into \"I owe him for that time where he helped me out so I should hang out\". \n\nOn the 5th anniversary of my dad's passing, my girlfriend wrote a tribute post about my dad on facebook. Joe messaged me a few hours later asking if I was ok with her posting. I said yeah it was very sweet. I asked him why he asked and he said that he felt like it wasn't something that needed to be publicized and that he was surprised that I let her post it considering how I don't really talk about my dad. I kinda felt offended because I recently tagged him in a long post where I talked about my dad (granted it was very long and under the influence of drugs so I get why people won't read it) and also it kinda felt like he was throwing some shade at my gf (also if I really had a issue with my gf posting I would've just told her). Now I know that I probably was overreacting and that he didn't mean malice but it didn't make me feel good because I felt like he was projecting his ways of dealing with personal issues which is to be private about it and not talk about them. \n\nI still hung out with him once or twice after that but it felt like we were just avoiding any deep talk. He invited me to a trip to Puerto Rico and I just said that I probably won't go and that was the last time we talked. Half of the time I feel good that I left the friendship because I felt like we weren't compatible. He wanted me to be more committed, and I wanted him to be more open. But the other half still feels guilty because I felt like he did care for me and I don't like abandoning people who actually do care about me. What do you think, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K0tAokj7cVtJeh3CPIjMORkZu1flou9d", "post_id": "b7hkht", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend's mom for not celebrating her daughters bday but still celebrating her own birthday", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend's mom for not celebrating her daughters bday but still celebrating her own birthday?", "text": "So, my friend and I have known each other for about a year now. Her 13th birthday is on the 25th of April and when I asked if she was gonna celebrate she said that her mom doesn't celebrate her birthday and the one time they did she took so many pictures that my friend's candles melted completely before she could blow them out. Her mom didn't let her eat the pieces with wax on it either. Aside from this, her mom celebrates her own birthday every year. She goes out to eat, spends thousands on designer brands while only ever buying my friend Walmart stuff, and leaves her kid on her own until late. I'm just gonna say that I don't even like her mom. She is a selfish bitch even if you don't count this. So, am I the asshole? \n\nIf u were for some reason wondering? I'm going to have my friend over on her birthday and I'm planning on throwing her a surprise party with all of our friends.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LR50azp5j9wRwlC0AI0WaDH9tuox5sED", "post_id": "agbcjn", "action": {"description": "not speaking up when my girlfriend lied about being called n-word after an accident? her lie definitely swung the cops judgement in her favor", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for not speaking up when my girlfriend lied about being called n-word after an accident? Her lie definitely swung the cops judgement in her favor.", "text": "About three weeks ago, girlfriend was driving while I was a passenger. We were at a four way stop and if I'm being totally honest, I think she went when it wasn't her turn but it was really close and her car and the other guys hit each other at an angle so it was really hard to tell who was at fault. \n\nMy girlfriend is about 3/4 African American but still somewhat light skinned. When we got out of the car, the other guy was an older man who was clearly agitated but as god as my witness I did not hear him say anything rude, let alone derogatory towards my girlfriend's race. He had called the police even before getting out of the car and I think it took them less than 10 minutes to get there. My girlfriend sat in her car calling her parents while the other guy and I did our best to redirect traffic around the two cars. \n\nWhen the police came up my girlfriend instantly went from calm and collected to tears streaming down her face when they asked her what happened she said that she saw the other guy look at her and then from her perspective hit her car on purpose. She also said that as soon as he got out of the car he started screaming at her things like \"this is why m*****'s shouldn't be behind the wheel and that she's an n-word who would be better in chains among other things. I was speechless (and spineless) and kept telling myself \"say something, just say something\" but never did. \n\n\nThis clearly set the cops in her favor and the guy was ticketed for running the four way stop. The cops actually never even asked me what I saw and of course the other guy denied everything and actually looked like he was about to break out in tears and said that he was a retired school counselor and would never even imagine to say such words. I think there was something about my girlfriend being young and pretty that the cop was far more willing to take her side. \n\n\nThe other guy was ticketed for running a stop sign, was found at fault for the accident and her insurance company is actively seeking his company to pay for the entire accident which I assume will mean his premiums will skyrocket. We also have some sort of laws in our state about elderly people requiring super expensive driving exams if they cause an accident so this guy may even lose his independence over this. I am literally sleepless over this. \n\n\nMy girlfriend truly doesn't care and all she sees is that she got away with it. I am still very much deciding if I can stay in this relationship because she feels zero remorse. But obviously that's not why I'm here. \n\n\nAm I the asshole for not speaking up?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EJi8Re7IRRYHQ8XFwsTEaF0JTH7Z0rW8", "post_id": "axb8wn", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my group of friends", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my group of friends?", "text": "I'll give you some context.\n\n4 years ago I met my best friend, i'll call her Molly. She and I were only two until we met another 4 girls, two of them have another group and they are very nice to me.\n\nLast year Molly met another girl (I'll call her Mimi) and became best friends with her because I started to hate Molly at some point, I was always listening to her talking about new friends she made in social media and that was everything she talked about, and everytime I became more and more tired of her (That's why I can be the asshole here)\n\nMimi and Molly told everyone they were best friends and I thought I was still Molly's best friend but I was okay with Mimi so I didn't care too much because if Molly was happy with that, she couldn't be a bad person or anything. And everything starts to go wrong when ny other 2 friends started to replace me with Mimi, but i thought it was okay too because maybe she was better than me doing everything my friends like (We have nothing in common) and I didn't care too much either.\n\nA few months ago my friends started to play volleyball and personally I don't like sports, but i knew that I can't just say \"Hey, i don't like that Sport so you can't play it\", so I just sat and watched them play Volleyball and I was okay with that, but then, they started to go out together without inviting me and then started to talk about it in front of me like i wasn't even there, they started to ignore me sometimes and we don't talk anymore, they only talk about Volleyball and hanging out together without me. In October I decided to leave the group and I was to tell them in November, but there was my birthday and they remembered it, and then was Molly's birthday and I didn't wanted to ruin it so I decided to tell them in December, but we ended classes and we just talked again to organize the birthday of one of them that is the same day de start classes again and I don't want to ruin it, but i need to tell them the truth and that i don't want to hang out with them anymore. I don't know what to do or if I am wrong or if I'm just overthinking everything. \n\nI am wrong? What should I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RsTen93Op9oO2qMh3iSSdQyszTRQ4MoI", "post_id": "b6lzuq", "action": {"description": "essentially firing my employee for wearing revealing clothes", "pronormative_score": 79, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA For essentially firing my employee for wearing revealing clothes?", "text": "I run my own company. I belong to a job where looking presentable is fairly important. Formal attire is definitely encouraged.\n\nI myself believe that there should be a sense of discipline and order at the workplace. Dressing well is something which compliments this.\nSo while it's not emphasized too much, every person at my work place does dress up well. I myself always wear a suit to lead by example.\nThey honestly don't have any problem with this. We were a team of 9 men and one woman. (I only had men applying at first, hence the skewed ratio. It's more balanced now.)\n\nWe have a really friendly relationship. They get cakes and heartfelt gifts for me on my birthday and vice-versa. We are planning on watching avengers:endgame together. So it's great.\n\nI did hire a woman about 3 months ago. She is pretty efficient and didn't need any help in particular. \n\nOne thing that stopped me from liking her is what she was wearing, or the lack of it. I explicitly told her I expected professional attire and spoke about it's importance during her interview, and she eagerly agreed back then.\n\nBut during the first week or so, she wore track pants,loose t shirts, sheer clothes that showed her nipples, sleeveless blouses and yoga pants. \nI just politely asked her if she had a formal attire, and she said she would get it soon.\nBut then she came in these booty shorts. I gave her the address for my friend who is a designer and told her it was on me, since she seemed to be having difficulty getting a proper dress.\n\nTurns out she didn't contact him at all. She kept wearing informal stuff for the whole week. When they finally got something remotely professional, it was honestly pretty revealing. Pencil skirt, like 8 inches long, not exaggerating. She wore track pants the next day, tank top.\nI had a few other qualified applicants for her position, and her job required her to be fairly isolated from the group. \nI fired her saying I didn't think she fit in, but I wished her the best and was wrote a letter of recommendation for her.\n\nI thought the whole thing had ended...I had someone else replace her. Had the fortune of getting 6 new ,really promising employees too.\n\n But the secretary showed me a Facebook post by her where she said that Working with me was a horrible experience and that I was a misogynistic asshole.\n\nI honestly acted like I brushed it off, but it did hurt and it sat in my mind for a long time. I asked my other employees if they thought I was misogynistic, they said no. We are always frank with each other. If they think my poem is shitty, they tell me so, so I trust them \n\nBut it's still in my head. I just wanted an unbiased opinion on here, hope you guys could help me out. I want to be the best boss possible.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 79, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 8}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 79, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3tP4BSRee3sewuxqTAXFf9c5CChvEmlA", "post_id": "aqkjql", "action": {"description": "getting uncomfortable and annoyed by my physically abusive gf's ex", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting uncomfortable and annoyed by my physically abusive gf's ex?", "text": "Hi guys, first of all, please bear with my not so good english.  \n\n\nMy gf and I been dating for 2 years now, she's 24 and i'm 23.  \n\n\nShe's the lead singer at her family folkloric group/band (that's pretty normal in my country). Her brother is keyboardist and his dad is a singer too. Most of this business is managed by her dad. Usually, the group/band has the same musicians apart from the family. Same bass player, same guitar player, etc. Only spot that's always open is the drummer spot, since most of the drummers of the band are always busy.   \n\n\nThat's where her ex comes in. Her ex used to play at the band, that's where they met. They had a 2 year relationship plagued of physical abuse (not really punches, but he used to grab her and pull her, leaving her with marks whenever she wanted to leave him) and toxicity (he used to crush her phones, control her, tell her how to dress, etc). Neither his dad or his brother knew the kind of relationship they had, but most of them were against it since they were work partners.  \n\n\nWhen she finally left him, he made some drama, cryed in front of her house and finally left to another state. She told me the abuse and his attitude where a big part of her overcoming that awful experience, she was able to feel nothing for him very quickly after they broke up.   \n\n\nA year later, he came back from his trip, and started working with them again. My gf told me since she didn't feel anything for him, she didn't feel like telling anyone or feeling bad about the past. So she kinda ignored him for the rest of the time.   \n\n\nTheir relationship happened about 5-6 years ago. Ever since, her ex has never been disrespectful or anything (to my knowledge).   \n\n\nThe thing is, I never knew he physically abused her til a month ago. I never felt jealously or anything before that, but now I feel annoyed and uncomfortable everytime he's coming to perform with them. To be more specific, what I feel is a \"this guy shouldn't be here, he's a bad person\" kind of thing. She knows that I feel like this, we talked about it some weeks ago.  \n\n\nLast week we discovered we were going to another state since her family was going to perform there, thing is... he's coming with us. Her brother (who knows about the past since she explained everything to him two weeks ago) is very supportive now (he's the one that told us her ex was coming with us this time).  \n\n\nI tried to act normal with her, but I can't. She got a little mad at me for getting visibly uncomfortable (actually, we spoke it on chat), and I told her that I needed her to understand me, to which she replied me that her past shouldn't be a problem on our relationship since she doesn't feel hate or anything for him.   \n\n\nSo here I am, I wan't to know If I'm an asshole for hating the idea that he's constantly near her family.  \n\n\nI'm really sorry If my english makes it difficult to understand, I'll answer any question if needed.  \n\n\nThanks in advance.  \n\n\n  \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NVFtzRqieGGY32iv7B8IYXmWsxTqfnad", "post_id": "axi9kk", "action": {"description": "telling a work mate that he stinks", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for telling a work mate that he stinks?", "text": "So I\u2019ve tried to tell him subtly with hints over a few months. But he doesn\u2019t \u201cbelieve\u201d in soap or washing\n\nIt\u2019s so bad you can\u2019t sit in the car with him at all \n\nEven his hair is that filthy there\u2019s a grime mark on the wall where he leans back and his hair touches it \n\nBut after years of working with this guy I just outright said you stink and I can\u2019t stand it and showed him the grime mark on the wall (which I\u2019ve cleaned off twice previously) \n\nThere were other people around that over heard and he got really upset \n\nLet me know what you think ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Es6ouuFFnKeKF5FI2wOsJDsGNkyGiZ56", "post_id": "ai2sng", "action": {"description": "forcing my brother to break up with his mistress while his wife is pregnant", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For forcing my brother to break up with his mistress while his wife is pregnant?", "text": "I usually dont second guess myself but theres been enough blowblack against me irl that I figured id ask for some outside opinions.\n\nMe and my brother both work for my older cousin. More specifically, i work for my cousin and he works under me. He begged and pleaded for his current position, and now that he has it he acts like an embarrassment. Constantly drinking, starting fights, and now whoring despite having a wife pregnant with their first child at home.\n\nI never say this out loud but I hate my brother. He is loud, arrogant, and stupid. If i could go back in time and drown him in the ocean as a baby I would. I look after him because of my mother, but in reality I feel nothing but contempt for him.\n\nHe knows this to an extent. I wouldnt say that im necessarily harder on him but maybe I am, who knows. Some of his traits make him a good earner, for instance he has no fear and hes not afraid to take risks. But his stupidity causes more problems than its worth.\n\nBack to the whoring though, he has been having an open affair with a known working girl. By open I mean people who arent in our company have approached me, telling me that hes been seen at the fucking mall with her. OUR mall. The local one that his wife attends.\n\nMy sister in law doesnt know anything as far as I know, I cant confirm. But hes making a fool out of himself and me and my cousin by extension. I told him he had to stop seeing her, and that if anyone tells me theyve seen him with her, he would regret it.\n\nHe agreed, but then went over my head to our cousin. I could have strangled him right there. My cousin respects my decision but asks me if im being too harsh on my brother. I tell him hes making my sister in law look like an idiot, and that hes disgracing me.\n\nTwo other men approached me asking about the decision I made, apparently my brother has been whining which is another issue, and they pretty much disagree. I know they disagree because they dont want me \"regulating\" their lives, but my brother is a unique case in my eyes since its my sister in law and my nephew in her belly.\n\nAm I the asshole in this situation or is my brother?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NbOkvrM3ou1zDmGABQeuUr7El9rTM98A", "post_id": "aii81k", "action": {"description": "asking my teacher to give a group member a 60 on a large grade", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For asking my teacher to give a group member a 60 on a large grade?", "text": "So I've had to do a group project for the past few weeks and 3 of my group members have carried their weight, me especially working on the powerpoint and doing a considerable amount of planning for it, but one of my group members has done barely anything in terms of the planning and powerpoint and I've told her that I'm going to ask the teacher a 60 on it even though the grade is a very important. She's given horrible excuses and has tried to make me feel bad about myself(which is hard since most of my feelings and soul are dead)but am I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O5UsVoA4OfYTdFgmmGOAFw6i5F9uAHWr", "post_id": "a98ph3", "action": {"description": "not telling my dad about my moms cc debt", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not telling my dad about my moms cc debt?", "text": "So yeah title and a little bit more details. My mom has always been terrible with money and as a teenager I would lend her quite significant sums of money to help her hide it from my dad as I thought he was sort of a terrible dad. About the time I moved out of home my mom wanted me to get one of those personal loans with a terrible interest rate (still better than the cc interest rate). Anyhow my grandma came into quite a bit of money and helped my mom out and I never heard about it again so I figured she was done with that shit. Skip up to this December 7 years later and my sister confides that mom has credit card debt and wants my sister to take out a loan to help her with it. I get pissed and dig around a bit only to find that my mom has borrowed almost 10k$ from my brother who is 17 (he is like insanely talented and manages a bouncy castle type place, he earns way more than I do, honestly I\u2019m so proud of him). So yeah shit sucks, my mom sort of poisoned me against my dad, honestly I only think my dad stays with my mom on account of my younger siblings the youngest are twin boys at 8yo. As I moved out and got into a serious relationship, engaged with a 4 month old (very lovely) baby, I realized my mom is probably a narcissist and manipulative. Aita for not telling my dad yet, wbta for telling my dad? I don\u2019t think the option of confronting my mom would bring any positives. So what do you think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ct1vHtdshtFFsGN7CmKDG2EPdhRa6yur", "post_id": "b2za6i", "action": {"description": "sending my kid to school with \"adult\" snacks and lunches", "pronormative_score": 1818, "contranormative_score": 58}, "title": "AITA for sending my kid to school with \"adult\" snacks and lunches?", "text": "Living a healthy lifestyle is important to me, and it's important to pass it onto my kids as well. I have a second grader who I have brought up (so far) to be very involved in the kitchen, what we eat, diet and exercise. \n\nShe came home with a note from her teacher the other day asking to please send her with more \"appropriate\" snacks and lunches. I thought for a minute that maybe I accidentally grabbed one of my Quest Bars or something for her and asked my daughter.\n\nFor her morning snack, all the other kids had something like cookies, fruit by the foot/gummy snacks, etc. My daughter's absolute favorite snack ever is pickles, and she has said herself that she's never that hungry at snack time because we have a nice high protein breakfast, I put in a cut up pickle for her along with a babybel cheese in case she *was* hungry. The teacher commented on it.\n\nLunchtime came around, and I guess a similar thing happened. My kid goes nuts for anything spicy, so for lunches this week I made a cold spicy sesame noodle dish with lots of peanuts, shaved carrots, etc. Her friend wanted to sample it so she gave some to her friend, and I guess it was crazy spicy for the friend and she cried to the teacher. This is what sparked the note. \n\nSo I explained that she shouldn't share \"spicy\" foods with her friends, and figured I'd skip the pickles next time. Well, it wasn't good enough. Just yesterday, the teacher sent home a letter to everyone explaining that she's requesting we make sure to send \"age appropriate\" foods to school, and gave examples of things like a PB & J, snack pack pudding, fruit cups, etc.\n\nI called the teacher and asked her about the note. Teacher became very judgmental and said to please just remember my daughter is \"a little kid\" and that she doesn't need to worry about eating \"adult food\" yet. I asked if there was some kind of school policy about this, and she became very icy and said \"No\" and \"This really shouldn't be a big deal.\"\n\nThis might be where I fucked up. I told the teacher that I'm the parent, and there's nothing wrong with my child's diet. That when she (the teacher) has kids, she can feed what she might she'd like, but that unless there's some kind of school policy, I will continue to send my kid to school with the foods I pick. Teacher got huffy and hung up. \n\nJust to double check, I asked my daughter two things: Does she LIKE her lunches? (Enthusiastic yes about most of them!) and \"Are the other kids making fun of you?\" because I know that can be an issue. She said no, and that sometimes they even ask for a pickle too. \n\nSo AITA, or is this teacher way out of line?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 43, "OTHER": 1799, "EVERYBODY": 15, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 8}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1818, "WRONG": 58}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cZksQ3oVIeuG0WpXWkxRfT1eOj42KlkM", "post_id": "b2duk2", "action": {"description": "embarrassing someone who bullied me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for embarrassing someone who bullied me", "text": "So when I was in 9th grade there was this one kid who bullied me well call him Brian. So I was no small kid. About 200lbs but neither was Brian. So everyday in gym and other classes he would make fun of me for my size. And usually I would just brush it off but eventually it got to me. I couldn\u2019t take it it was over a month of it. And the part that really made me mad was this kid was just as far if not fatter than me. \n\nSo fast forward to about 2 weeks after I was fed up with it. There was no end in sight so I plotted my revenge. I decided that I was going to bring in a digital scale and tell him we will Both get on it. I said \u201cif I weigh more bully me all you want. But if you weigh more this stops.\u201d So I get on the scale but he refuses to. So we got throughout gym class and all his friends keep telling him to get on it. I\u2019m feeling like an absolute legend that finally got this kid to shut up. So at the end of gym he still said no. So we are waiting to be let out to busses and his friends keep telling him to get on it so he finally says yes. I pull the scale out of my bag and set it on the floor. He takes a second looks at it then picks it up and just slammed it to the floor. I was dumb founded. We all just started at him waiting and the bell rang and we all went on our separate ways. \n\nWhen I got home I decided screw this kid so I made a bunch of fake sad stories about the loss of my scale and stuff like \u201cR.I.P scale 2006-2014\u201d stuff like that. He eventually started messaging me saying I was in the wrong. That it was unfair for me to try and make him get on the scale. So Am I the Asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Rk3X4vSbvGVoOQaY8Xz1DVvqAnRpyG0u", "post_id": "aoda1a", "action": {"description": "being skeptical of my GF's new friend", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being skeptical of my (M25) GF's (F26) new friend (M31)?", "text": "TLDR: 8 Year relationship. She recently made a new friend on a work trip, gained feelings for him, lied about it, lied a second time when she drove him (and him alone, home after a work trip), now wants me to trust that he is just a friend.\n\nThis turned out longer than expected. Sorry.\n\nBackstory:\n\nWhere do I start? GF (Amber) and I together for about 8 years now. Living together for around 3. In love, normal issues in the relationship, nothing we can't get over. I've never really been the jealous type, don't care if she talks to other guys, has other guy friends (she says she doesn't get along with girls, which is true), and she talks to me about them.\n\nThe Incident:\n\nDecember 2018 she had a work trip to Nashville. Its the second time she went to Nashville for a work trip, once the previous year. She is supposed to be training yada yada...it's more of a party trip. Drinks with Co-Workers every night, live music, dancing. All in all, a good time. This is all fine, it happened the first time in Nashville and it was expected this time. \n\nUsually I sleep like a rock, no issues getting to bed, but for some reason this trip I couldn't get myself to fall asleep. Something had me anxious, and worried. I didn't know how I knew, but I could tell something was off with her. She was more distant that usual. She told me everything that she was up to, who she was hanging out with, all that good stuff...but I could just tell something was off. She normally keeps me totally up to date with her day, especially travel days. If we can't keep up periodically throughout the day she likes to re-cap at the end of the night. None of this behavior was present throughout the trip, but I get it. Busy schedule, balancing partying while still getting up early enough to pretend to pay attention in training, all while in a different timezone. Difficult stuff. Travel home day was really telling. She didn't update me at all. At the airport, then radio silence, layover, radio silence, landed radio silence.\n\nWe have location sharing turned on between the two of us. I was following her drive home from the airport because I was worried about her. Long drive late at night after lots of sleepless nights. She looked like she stopped by her friends place to drop her off, that's normal. Hmmmm, that's a place I haven't seen before...interesting. Turns out she dropped off Hank at his place...interesting. She was there only a minute or so before continuing the journey home, seems normal.\n\nI thought maybe I was just being crazy, but I knew something was up in my gut. Over the next couple of days, Hank's name kept coming up. And she used a lot of \"We\", and I guess that was an attempt at making me thing it was her friend Brittany. I could tell she wasn't lying in the truest definition, but she was definitely hiding something.\n\nI put all this together and wrote it down. I am not great at communicating my thoughts, so I showed her what I wrote. The next paragraphs are what I showed her.\n\n\"\nOk I'm not an idiot and I don't think you are either. I know that you and Hank had a thing in Nashville. I don't know the extent of it, I don't know if anything physical happened but I'm fairly certain there was at least an emotional line crossed by either you or the both of you. I know that you suspect me of knowing. Maybe you are worried about it maybe you aren't.\n\nI get it, drunk dancing every night, hanging out all weekend and on the flights and at the airport. Sharing headphones watching a movie, driving him home, and whatnot. I think it's exactly what happened at Hiedi's wedding with her brother.\n\nWhat really worries me is that you aren't admitting it to me.\n\nYou are hiding something and it scares me. You know that's why I've been up all night, why I can't eat. Maybe you are afraid to tell me now that you have seen how hurt I am. Maybe you just don't want to make it worse. \n\nI've given you the ability to tell me, and I'm sure it's hard to admit to my face. Honestly, I just want to know what you feel. My heart has been literally pounding for days of anxiety, my gut is all inside out, I can't focus at work or on anything. Like I said already, I'm scared and I don't know what to do.\n\"\n\nShe admitted to it. Ouch, that stung.\n\nThe next week she had a work event, he works in the same office. Paranoia all over the place, she is still distant, not telling me things. I know he is going to be there, I know they will see each other, but what can I do? I pretend to be ok with it, I act mature while dying inside. She told me she has to pick up her friend, she did. \n\nAs mentioned before she usually tells me when she is leaving a place, but I haven't heard from her in a while. I am a wreck. I check location, she's on the freeway. Punch to the gut.\n\nShe gets home and she says she drove her friend Brittany home (she drove right past Brittany's place on the freeway, there's no way she dropped her off). She gets home, says she really tired, goes to bed. I lie awake in bed dying inside. I didn't mention anything about it, don't want to bring up anything that would cause additional stress.\n\nAbout a week later I casually bring it up, say its been eating at me. She claims she drove Brittany home. I don't call her a liar. I give her the look, ask if she is sure. She breaks, says she took Hank and Ryan(another friend [really just a friend]) back to the office to go to their cars. Again I don't call her a liar. She takes about 10 minutes to admit she took only him.\n\nOuch. Feels good to be right, but it feels so bad.\n\n\nThe Now:\nShe swears that now they are just friends. They talked it out. She messages him on Skype sometimes (I don't know how much, I just know it is more than none). They don't work in the same department, there is no real need to chat.\n\nEarlier this week, she asks if it is ok to go to lunch with him. I can't really say no, so I let her know my feelings but agree to let her. She thinks that I am just going to have to trust her, and get passed it somehow. \n\nI can't trust her. Maybe eventually I can, but it is too soon to write off the feelings that they had.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HhwByTLR6tRXC3ISdJWDHrts7sP7Z1t6", "post_id": "ayd4em", "action": null, "title": "AITA The messed up relationship between me and two girls", "text": "My english sucks, so don\u00b4t be too hard on me.\n\n​\n\nThe story starts about 7 years ago, when i was 15.  \n\n\nI just started to date a girl called Katharina (K), which was a friend of my sister and I knew for about 3 years.  \nI was totaly excited because I always liked her. 2 weeks passes and she cheated on me with her ex. I was even more mad  because I had to hear it from my best friend. K wanted to meet up so she could talk about it. Once I arrived I saw here crying and she said that she was so sorry etc.\n\nI told her to get lost and that was it.\n\n​\n\nAfter I turned 16 I had my first \"real\" relationship with a girl called Ma\u0142gorzata (M).  \nEverything went great, tho her mom didn\u00b4t like me that much, but it didn\u00b4t really mather.  \nAfter M and I have been together I had my first epileptical attack.  \nI didn\u00b4t know how to deal with it and the only thing I came up with was to drink with a couple of friends (dumb decision, I know). We were drinking at my place and had fun.  \nNext thing was that my cousin invited K, which I wasn\u00b4t aware of.  \nK started drinking with us and alltough she cheated on me I wasn\u00b4t that mad anymore.  \nSo at one point I went to my room to call M and told her everything about what we\u00b4re doing and stuff, but forgot to tell her about K.  \nOnce I stoped talking to M, K entered.  \nK was trying to start a coversation and said something like \"You know I still like you, more than just a friend\", I was laughing my ass off (the only reaction I do in wierd situations)  \nK wasn\u00b4t suprised, because she knew how I react in certain situations.  \n\n\nI can\u00b4t really remember how it happend, but half an hour after we talked K and I made out and she spend the night with me.\n\nI felt teribil the next morning, kicked K out and went to M.  \nWhen I arrived I couldn\u00b4t look into M\u00b4s eyes, I was so ashamed about what I\u00b4ve done.  \nI told M what happend and what I did.  \nThat was the first time I made a girl cry because of my actions. She broke up with me at the end, understandable.  \n\n\nMe and K hit it off again (I know real, dumb decision)  \nBut then, karma hits again, when K cheated on me with a friend of my bestfriend, which I haven\u00b4t met yet.  \nAnd again, I found myself in the same situation as a year befor.  \nAfter my bestfriend told me that and gave me the whole \"Dafuq  were you expecting to happen\" history.  \n So after that I didn\u00b4t have had contact with K again.  \nI dated a couple of girls after that, but one day I met M again.  \nWe talked about everything and after a while came back together.\n\n​\n\nThe relationship went on for 4 more months and then she dumped me.\n\n​\n\n(3 weeks after that I met a girl called Terra (refrence to another post))", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Ny8tYaP6NHrwlp2bk5SiTWiAxZIzSG7m", "post_id": "as7yau", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my boyfriend because other people in my life don't like him", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I broke up with my boyfriend because other people in my life don't like him?", "text": "I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. My family and friends have all met him and they all at leat dislike him. At first I thought they'll get used to me dating him, but after a year, it doesn't seem so, since they still complain when I say I'm going to go meet him, or outright say they hate me dating him. \n\nNow generaly, I get along great with my family and I love them a lot. It's just this particular thing that's causing a lot of tension and arguments. I love my boyfriend and I don't really think he is to blame for anything here. \n\nOne of the reasons my family has stated for disliking him is that he \"doesn't treat me right\". I rarely drive (can't afford a car, can rarely borrow one), so I sometimes go visit him by bus (he lives about a 15min car drive away, about 30min by 2 buses). This bothers my family a lot, they think he should drive to pick me up, if he wants to see me. \n\nWhen we go out, we'll usually split the bill, or I'll pay, or a friend, or he... We don't really keep track, but it usually does involve me paying at least for myself. I don't have a problem with that, but my family does. They are all pretty oldfashioned when ot comes to these things (although my parents for example are under 50) and believe he should be paying for me while we're dating (and because he has a job while I'm in college and not working). They also claim that this is an indication that he does not value me as much as he should. \n\nI have told them that times have changed and it's perfectly normal to split the bill and for the woman to drive herself to see her boyfriend as well, but they keep going back to how \"if he valued me, he'd make the effort\"\n\nAnd now I'm just getting tired of the constand arguments I suppose... I do love my boyfriend, and I guess I' just wondering whether I'd be the asshole if I broke up with him because I'm tired of other people, or if I should make more of an effort to change their mids or just not care? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ubYSq2xt29VlaXNXLw2DqkPS66Lez3BK", "post_id": "ak59m7", "action": {"description": "not wanting my husband to take my car instead of his", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my husband to take my car instead of his?", "text": "Yes, I understand how petty the title sounds, but please allow me to explain.\n\nHe has a 2008 and I have a 2013. His car is manual and mine is automatic (surprised?). I can drive his car, but barely. I'm very short, so reaching the clutch is really difficult for me to do. I have to push the seat up as far as it goes and still twist my body slightly in order to fully engage the clutch and change gears. Sitting so close to the steering wheel makes it difficult to turn. It's really uncomfortable. Since it's so awkward to drive his car, I stall out and am definitely a hazard to myself and others. I hate that I can't drive it well.. and feel unsafe driving his car. \n\nThere is also only 1 key to his car cause he somehow lost the other one (that's another story..). Most the time when he leaves, he doesn't leave the key for me anyway.\n\nThere are certain times he wants to take my car somewhere instead of his own. Why? Just because he wants to take my car... no functional reasons or anything like that. If something is wrong with his car, that's a different story. So I'm forced to stay home with no means of escape. This makes me anxious for various reasons:\n\n* We have 2 kids, a 2.5 y.o. and an 8 wk. old. If I have no car, I have no means to escape for an emergency. If there's a fire or other ER at home, I can't get my kids in the car to go someplace warm and safe. I don't want to risk my kids' lives because I can't drive his car.\n\n* If he has an accident and ends up in the hospital, I can't get down there easily. \n\n* If the car breaks down and he needs a ride, I'm no help. Can't go get him. If I take Lyft, I have to get the car seats in their cars (do they even allow that?) and somehow lug them and my 2 kids around after.  That also costs money.\n\n* We're alone out here.. no family nearby and really no friends. We moved here a few years ago and man is it hard to start over and make new friends, and our family is all 2+ hrs away. Limited support to ask for a ride.\n\n* He is fully aware of my inability to drive his car even if he did leave me the key.\n\n* He has horrible cell phone etiquette.. it's not always charged, is prepaid and sometimes out of minutes, it's usually on silent so he doesn't even hear it, and sometimes he loses it and doesn't even have it on him. So if you're thinking I can just call him and he'll come home that's not ways the case!\n\nThere are various other things my paranoid brain thinks of, but I'm not going to list everything. \n\nNow, I've explained my concerns to him several times. Sometimes he obliges, but most times he tells me to stop by \"BS.\" He knows I don't like feeling stuck with no independent way to get around. I understand in a true ER there are ER vehicles and personnel, and if I REALLY need to get somewhere I can find a way, but I shouldn't need to rely on 3rd parties if I have my own reliable transportation. If he's going someplace close, fine, but most the time he's going someplace 20 mins away. Which means he's gone for a few hours at a time.\n\nI'll admit it: at times I do feel like an asshole because it's not the end of the world. I get that. But the fact that he completely dismisses my concerns like they're nothing really hurts. I believe my concerns are valid. Besides, why the hell shouldn't I have access to my own car, especially the only one I can drive? \n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "L8ggvKsnZApxBwONSrYW5M7ANc8c68bo", "post_id": "azpvkx", "action": {"description": "choosing a girl from tinder over the other", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Choosing A Girl From Tinder Over The Other?", "text": "So I made a Tinder about 3 months ago, less out of finding a partner and more out of trying to practice my people skills (I'm socially awkward when it comes to the other sex) and I met two nice girls on Tinder (1st is 1G, second is 2G) .\n\nI met both of them IRL, told them the main reason I was on Tinder, which they related to (turns out alot of fellow introverts exist out there), they're very nice ladies, I've met both IRL and I hang out with each one to the point that I'm pretty much solid friends with both. Then 1G (who I knew longer then 2G) told me her feelings 2 DAYS AGO and wanted to take the relationship further, and after some thinking I agreed.\n\nBut idk how to deal with 2G, she hasn't said anything feelings wise to me but I don't want to be a dick and cut her off, I'd love to still be friends with her but I also have NO IDEA what to say to her about 1G (they both knew I was talking to other women, they asked relationship status and I said \"Just a friend I met on Tinder\"), will she be pissed? Am I an player for talking to multiple women? Am I an asshole?!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dNrKqeo7EAp19wZuOqy6qcYIZntta3CH", "post_id": "axudw1", "action": {"description": "trying to limit boyfriend's smoking", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for trying to limit boyfriend\u2019s smoking?", "text": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. We met in high school and currently go to colleges about two hours apart so we see each other about every other weekend. He goes to a big state school and is in a fraternity and I go to a small liberal arts school with no party scene.\n\nAfter joining his fraternity he began smoking a lot of weed. I have smoked with him in the past but I always get paranoid and I don\u2019t enjoy smoking. His frequent use was making me uncomfortable and I was worried about him and his future (he ended up being put on academic probation first term). \n\nOne night that I was already in a super bad place emotionally I realized that he was smoking on a Wednesday after partying all weekend and Monday, with plans to party on Thursday or something like that. I called my mom crying about how I didn\u2019t know what to do. I wrote him a letter because I didn\u2019t want to verbally lash out and say things that I didn\u2019t mean. \n\nI read it to him over FaceTime the next day after I had calmed down and decided that I stood by what I had written. I essentially told him that I was worried about him and that I didn\u2019t know how it would affect our relationship. He started out being defensive and saying that he wasn\u2019t worried because he only smokes after he\u2019s done with homework and that the academic probation was a fluke and now he\u2019s working extra hard. He thought that I should have no right to control what he does when we\u2019re not together. I combatted by saying that even when we\u2019re not together physically we are still in a relationship and I am just worried about it. \n\nAfter a few more discussions we have come to a compromise; he agreed to cut back to smoking 3 times a week and not smoke when we are together, period. It has been working out really well so far imo. I trust him fully and I know that he really cares about me. \n\nI just don\u2019t know where the line is between controllling and concern is. I don\u2019t want to be too controlling so I am glad that our current system works for us, but we both agree that ideally I can eventually get to a point where he can make his own choices about when to smoke or not. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S2xKKz6WkTzS0uQZ6RLXUG7NPBzlmL0E", "post_id": "a35awu", "action": {"description": "moving my tv", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for moving my TV?", "text": "I decided to move the TV that I own from the living room of my apartment into my bedroom, meaning that my roommate no longer has a TV to use. I\u2019ve been wanting to do it for a while (we have lived here for 1.5 years) but I thought I would be nice by keeping it in the common space. I finally said screw it and just moved it because I want to be able to watch TV in my bed. I feel bad but I don\u2019t feel like I should since it is my TV? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8UYyBrLXqZqCczCHIMkolWbT8LJuJl6i", "post_id": "a7o7hz", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to come with me to pick up my parents", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my husband to come with me to pick up my parents?", "text": "I live overseas and my parents were supposed to arrive today but they had a problem with their connecting flight and are arriving tomorrow.\n\nThis messes up our plans, hotel bookings and train tickets, but it is manageable. But we will also either miss out or have just a few minutes to see an event that my husband wanted to see. It happens every year and it is not too far from where we live now, so not really \"once in a lifetime\", in my opinion.\n\nWhile I slept he bought bus tickets for me and my parents to go after they arrive (we have to go to that town either way), and a ticket for him, much earlier in the day, so that he can see the city/event. So I'll pick up my parents alone and then go to that town. That is not a huge problem for me to do alone, except that I feel abandoned.\n\nSo. Who is being a dick here? I feel like my emotions are getting in the way of seeing clearly and I wonder if he should just do his thing since I can manage alone (even though to me the point is not that I will or won't manage, as I said).\n\nAm I the selfish asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kLf9NyS6M0ApuOL6avHSQoTCFgPW9PsI", "post_id": "apqt5m", "action": {"description": "dumping my ex for verbally attacking me personally during conflict", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for dumping my ex for verbally attacking me personally during conflict", "text": "My recent ex who I dated for 10 months, during every conflict major or minor would begin by calling me an asshole or jerk for having the opinion I have whether it\u2019s on the lgbt or about making a joke of a text she sent me. Now this girl didn\u2019t get mad about everything she is really sweet. But if there was conflict she was just mean and vindictive as well as ignorant of my views. After warning her a few times I finally told her I don\u2019t want to marry someone like that and dumped her. Now I face anger and bullying from all our mutual friends calling me a douchebag for not having thicker skin or because I dumped her a week before Valentine\u2019s Day. (Why would I want to spend that day with someone I don\u2019t like?) am I the asshole for not just taking it like most people are saying? Or was it a justified reason to dump her. I need an unbiased opinion P.S, I made a very large point to never verbally abuse her during arguments and would never say aggressive things to her so it was not reciprocated. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1ikoJGSbATI8hane5NnrzDXbwEgRCCZm", "post_id": "b9w5t8", "action": {"description": "posting a pepe meme in my work slack channel", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for posting a pepe meme in my work slack channel?", "text": "Recently my companies slack channel was integrated so every person in the company is now under 1 slack channel. A lot of the integrations from our previous slack channel were integrated over, including emojis [depicting pepe](https://i.imgur.com/lDlK2u8.png).\n\nSomeone in the slack channel asked for them to be removed, and an admin quickly said that they were looking into it. For a bit of context, I am in Canada but a majority of the company is from the USA. \n\nIn our department we had a chat about it, and some people felt that pepe was offensive as it had been used by the alt-right community and could be seen as a \"hate symbol\". I really didn't think of it that way, although I had known of its uses before in that space. Most of the uses of pepe I see are just on reddit/4chan memes and I never really thought anyone would take offensive to just seeing pepe, but that the context behind it would be important as well. Like an emoji \"feelsbadman\" would obviously be reacted to differently than a pepe with anti-semetic text or images.  \n\nOverall, AITA for posting pepe emojis in a work slack channel? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "91IZtH826stNRbvbfDKJpXktRSzHnmlk", "post_id": "afyze5", "action": {"description": "testing my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 40}, "title": "WIBTA for testing my boyfriend?", "text": "So a short backstory on me, I am a model. And with that most of my previous relationships stem from the guys I am dating on really dating me because of my looks and the \"status symbol\" of dating a model not because of me as a person.\n\nThis is something that has caused a lot of anxiety and depression in my life and I have been really trying to find people in my life that care about me not what I look like. Now that is not to say that my looks can't play a role (physical attraction is important to me as well) but I can't be with anyone where that is the only or main reason why they are dating me.\n\nSo that brings me to a guy a started dating fairly recently. I really like him and he seems like a good guy. Takes interest in my hobbies and is supportive of what I do. He enjoys lazy days around the house and cooking for me at home instead of always wanting to go out (which with a lot of guys it just seemed like they wanted to show me off). So I really really like him.\n\nBut his friend DM'd me the other day and told me, \"Hey, just thought you should know. You boyfriend has been telling anyone who will listen about all the dirty shit he gets to do with 'this model chick I have been banging'. I'd want to know. Hope for the best!\"\n\nI have only met this guy once and I don't know how close he is to my boyfriend nor do I know why he told me this. For all I know he is just trying to start drama. The problem is I know how badly I want to believe my boyfriend. And if he were to tell me that it isn't true I would probably believe him. But that thought of \"what if\" would constantly be in my head from now on.\n\nSo would I be an asshole if for the next month or so I stop wearing makeup when we go out and I don't put out at all (just come up with whatever excuse I need to when he starts trying to make a move)? If I test what his motives truly are? \n\nPart of me feels like this is wrong but the other part knows this is the only way I can fully 100% put this behind me. And if his friend is lying I can commit to him 100%", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 39, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 40}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "om5LwcyaM8qj9WLiI8qa2ZC5Yy3bOScy", "post_id": "aokx5p", "action": {"description": "apologizing to the bar staff after my friend flipped out at them", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for apologizing to the bar staff after my friend flipped out at them?", "text": "I have this friend. We'll call her Katie. A few weeks ago I was out with Katie and a large group of friends. One girl there is close with Katie and others in the group but I don't know her very well. We'll call her Stuck Up Bitch (SUB). Now SUB is one of those entitled people that pretends to know everything and be better than everyone. \n\nI decided last minute to attend this get together and when I showed up realized the place was a hookah bar. Now I have quite a bit of experience with hookahs. They are part of my culture. I own one. I have been to many hookah bars in my life. However, I don't smoke anymore because ya know it's horrible for you. I ordered a drink and sat down. \n\nNow most of the girls didn't know what they were doing including SUB. I untangled the hose a couple times and tried to explain that you don't want inhale into your lungs but just into your mouth. SUB exclaimed that she she already knew that but she hasn't smoked in a while so one time won't hurt. Fine whatever. I asked when the last time she smoked was. She said high school. I quietly asked Katie how often they smoked in high school and she told me SUB was playing it up. They only did it a handful of times. \n\nThe coal on the hookah started getting low but there was plenty of tobacco left so SUB asked a waiter for a new one. He walked away and a few minutes later the owner came over and said if we want to repack the hookah we'd have to pay for another. SUB said no we just want a new coal. The owner said they don't do that. And that's when SUB WENT OFF on him. She was flipping out about how every other hookah place would give customers as many coals as they needed and she would never come back here and tell all her friends to not come here blah blah blah.\n\nAs we were leaving I went up to the bar to close my tab. I'd developed a rapport with the bar tender and felt bad so i told her SUB was a kind of a bitch and I'm sorry they had to deal with that.  She laughed and said the owner was tough but she'd let him know and thanked me. \n\nAfter I walked back to the group one of the girls asked me what we'd been talking about and I admitted I apologised on behalf of our group and SUB. She gave me a dirty look and told me I should have stuck up for a fellow girl... what?!\n\nHere's the thing SUB wasn't wrong about the coal. Their policy is bullshit and I've never been to a hookah bar that wouldn't give you a new coal. However, the way she flipped out was so rude and embarrassing. The staff had been really nice all night and I didn't want them to associate me with SUB if I go back there. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rJBfw6AcfYRAzxJiI4JIVVSWDDO3amfv", "post_id": "alwm6z", "action": {"description": "ignoring texts from my coworkers asking me to cover/trade shifts", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ignoring texts from my coworkers asking me to cover/trade shifts?", "text": "I would like to start with saying that I know ignoring messages may not be the best way to handle this, but I'm really struggling right now. I have depression and a panic disorder, which makes talking to people I don't know when I'm not mentally prepared really difficult. I am currently seeing a therapist for this. \nMy job is in retail. I honestly hate it, but for right now I don't have another option. \nI work with a lot of younger people who don't seem terribly responsible. On one hand, I understand how things can get really crazy. I'm a young adult too, and juggling school, work, and other personal issues can be awful. I get it.\nBut I still have little sympathy for people who flake on responsibility. And that's how I feel a lot of my coworkers are. There are a couple specific people I work with who are *constantly* asking me to come in last minute (if I'm lucky 3 hours ahead of time) and cover for them, or trade shifts. I just went through my phone and I easily get 2 to 3 requests from the same few people **every week**, going all the way back to when I first started. These people frequently ignore my schedule and availability when they ask too, which is extremely annoying. So often I have to say no just because the shift I'm covering overlaps with one I'm already working, or because I'm at school. \nI thought me saying no, politely, a few times, would deter them from asking me. But it hasn't. They ask with the same frequency, for seemingly no reason. Some of them have taken to trying to persuade me even after the no, saying things like \"you'll get more hours!\" My anxiety is bad enough as it is (I'll start shaking and have heart palpitations when I get one of these texts) and not respecting my boundaries makes it worse. I get very irritable. It's to the point where I don't trust myself to respond even because I think I might snap at them. \nI did not give my phone number out to these people. I didn't even consent to have all my coworkers able to contact me on my phone. And I'm not  close to the coworkers who are asking all this of me. Some of them have been pretty rude to me, but most of them barely talk to me at work. Part of that is because I'm very quiet in person (especially in the break room, where I can relax and not have to put on this fake outgoing customer service persona) but still. At least try to be friendly to me, maybe?  \nSo because of those reasons I've just stopped replying all together. Clearly my no means nothing, and my pre existing schedule means nothing. And I don't have the mental stamina to argue, nor do I think I owe anyone a reason for my no (in my experience a \"no\" with an excuse attached is often seen by the other person as a \"convince me!\"). \nI would also like to add that the scheduling manager is super nice and reasonable about availability. I've asked for time off a couple times for fun things and it's *always* been approved. We also get our schedules two weeks in advance. The manager will help you out if the new schedule doesn't work for you too. I see very few reasons that a person would consistently need to find someone to cover super last minute. \nBut I also know that if someone had a legitimate reason to skip work it would be awful (and possibly put you at risk of termination) if no one helped you out. Especially if you're stuck waiting on someone to respond to you. \nSo, all this considered, am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DBg4PQA4N9rmzfkW7EnorDistWquwSrW", "post_id": "afpbdl", "action": {"description": "not wanting to turn heat off for my financially unstable roommate", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to turn heat off for my financially unstable roommate?", "text": "I live in an apartment with 3 other roommates in NC and right now it is very cold. I had expressed to 2 of them that when we turn the heat off, it gets very cold (I've seen it at 58-65 range very often). This already really cold for people but I also have plants and rats who are here all day everyday. My other roommate Miranda also has a cat who is here all day and has already gotten a cold previously. \n\nMy roommate Jacob has expressed that he is concerned because it makes our electricity bill go up by a lot and he is concerned because he is financially unstable. This is unfortunate for him but I really don't want to turn it off. \n\nAITA and should I turn off the heat sometimes so the bill isnt too high?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jBDTURUkCAqiuo9MLWwy5NSqci0vBH3u", "post_id": "azyab6", "action": {"description": "not wanting to attend my gf's sister graduation party because I have tickets for a concert the same night", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to attend my gf's sister graduation party because I have tickets for a concert the same night?", "text": "So I've had the tickets since October, and my girlfriend knew about this. A few days ago we realized that both of the events are the exact same day and time. This concert is a very important one to me, because the artist's music completely changed my life. I told her that I'm not sure if I wanted to go to the graduation party over the concert, and she flipped. I think it's unfair given that I had to save up a lot of money for me to pay for my ticket, also taking into account that she has known since October. She argues that it's important I'm there since I have a commitment with her family, and she argues that they all like me a lot and says that might change if I'm not there. They paid for my entry to the graduation party, but I'd be more than glad to pay it back. I know this may sound silly, but to me it's not. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1KvhCcaIHGBMYjkR59WO2qhlIP9oCMxQ", "post_id": "a0uj9v", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this situation", "text": "So this happened recently, I am in year 8 (we are all 13, plus sorry if I am too young) and there is this kid lets call him B and he is 14 or 15. B didn't try in school and dropped a few years. I stayed away from him and not really bothering with him etc. Sometimes, he and his group of friends tease me and make fun of my appearance. I do nothing really and sometimes tease back. Yesterday we had a Saxophone guy at our school. He finished one of his acts and B was clapping very loudly. It was very irritating so I politely asked him to stop. He continued and got louder. I got a bit fed up and grabbed his hand, and I said please stop.  End of the day he says 'I punch you' (he had bad English). I was pretty pissed that he would threaten me about this so I said he is a little girl, and I don't fight little girls. Yeah, snarky old me felt so proud of himself. I; felt that if he and his friends tease me, they shouldn't get upset If I teased them. Fair is Fair. Next day he did nothing to me and I teased him and called him a little girl. Yeah, that led to a fight. I didn't throw a single punch, and realized it escalated too much. I apologized and said hey come on I am sorry, my bad now lets stop. He said no and continued to try to hit me (he also attacked my friends, making me feel really guilty they had to get dragged into this) I got fed up with this and said I am sick of his shit and he should grow up and stop being a little girl.  One thing led to another and I end up at the principal's. \n\n​\n\nSo you could argue that I provoked him, but he teases me sometimes so he shouldn't get upset. Also, you could say that fighting is on overreaction\n\n​\n\nBTW at the principals, he said that I should be killed for what I did. The punishment wasn't too severe we have to be partners on a trip, could have resulted in a suspension. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "N31PJ5WrEWOCbT7gckr4yU0xN9GnGgTm", "post_id": "ax78th", "action": {"description": "keeping my boyfriend from going on vacation", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for keeping my boyfriend from going on vacation?", "text": "My boyfriend of 3 years has gone on a beach vacation with his high school/college friends every summer for a few years. One of the families rents a 20 person house on the beach and they stay for a week. \n\nHe went the first summer we were together and they offered that I could come also, but i didn't have enough vacation time at work yet so i declined. The beach trip hasn't happened for the last 2 years due to jobs and other responsibilities.\n\nLast night my boyfriend got a message from his friend that organizes these trips saying that it was happening this year and he was welcome to come. When he asked if I was invited they said they have to see if anyone else backs out because they don't have room for me. \n\nI asked my boyfriend to only go if I am able to go also. I don't want to keep him from seeing his friends but it feels really shitty to be left out. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "G2dXOYLaPeirqmB4JpMTqQdaeyg26QyA", "post_id": "a1il8b", "action": {"description": "calling out step-sister for ditching me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling out step-sister for ditching me?", "text": "AITA for not telling my step-sister it was ok to ditch me? Recently moved back to home town, into a tiny house that was not at all move in ready so was working like crazy with only having a week to move in with help. Step-sister messages wanting to see me and I say I\u2019m real busy with moving in but I\u2019ll be living here now so no biggie that we could see each other whenever we can because I now obviously live around 10 minutes from her house. She asks about Wednesday before Thanksgiving, I say sure but I still have a lot to do so only have a few hours, she says that\u2019s fine and that if she doesn\u2019t see me Wednesday then she will for sure see me Friday, I agree. Wednesday comes and she asks to hang out, I say sure, she says she has a doctors appointment at 3:30pm, could I go to her house when she\u2019s back from the app? I say sure then ask if she wouldn\u2019t mind to pick me up on her way home and I get a ride home later because I won\u2019t have my car until February, she agrees and so I wait. 6:35pm and still no word from her so I message and ask what\u2019s up, she says she ran into her mom who she hasn\u2019t seen in a long time and that she\u2019s at home now. I say ok... so guess I\u2019ll see you Friday..? Would have been nice to have been told you weren\u2019t coming to pick me up anymore rather than being ditched \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2640\ufe0f she gets snippy and asks me \u201cdamn sister you really thought I should tell you my every move?\u201d And I say no.. I really thought you\u2019d have enough decency to tell me you changed your mind and weren\u2019t gonna come pick me up anymore \ud83e\udd37\u200d\u2640\ufe0f she got mad and started to say things like \u201cI told you if I didn\u2019t see you Wednesday that I\u2019d see you Friday!\u201d Which I agreed she said but I said \u201cYou said AFTER that, today being a totally different day, that you\u2019d pick me up after your doctors app.\u201d And that our plans \u201cweren\u2019t set in stone\u201d which she\u2019s not wrong about per say but she said she was gonna pick me up and then didn\u2019t and didn\u2019t think it would make sense to tell me she wasn\u2019t going to anymore.. \ud83e\udd14 so I tell her that, and add that \u201cthere\u2019s a big difference between \u2018if I don\u2019t come by today then I\u2019ll see you Friday\u2019 and \u2018I said I\u2019ll come and pick you up today but changed my mind and went home and decided to not tell you any of that\u2019 you know?\u201d She then says her reasons for ditching me are pregnancy brain on top of grief of losing her dad last Thanksgiving.. pregnancy brain and grief brain are real things so I say that to her and agree that things are tough and I apologize she\u2019s going through these stresses but I still didn\u2019t feel it made sense to just not tell me she wasn\u2019t going to come by anymore, so she says I don\u2019t care about her and that I\u2019m probably acting ridiculous because of where I was raised and that I\u2019m being butthurt about being ditched and I say that seems pretty childish to say I don\u2019t care about her just because I\u2019m not agreeing with her decision to ditch me and to say I\u2019m butthurt for it, and I don\u2019t see how I\u2019m being ridiculous and how it would connect with where I was raised anyhow.. but butthurt sure maybe but probably just because I wouldn\u2019t and won\u2019t ever ditch someone so didn\u2019t like it done to myself? And I feel like if I had done it to her she would have been pissed at me.. I just thought we could be adult and tell each other when we changed our minds on things? If I don\u2019t feel well or have something come up I tell the person I made plans with what\u2019s up rather than just going home and never saying anything to them.. but maybe that\u2019s just me..? \ud83e\udd14\n\nShe now won\u2019t talk to me.. or just doesn\u2019t want to right now idk but I\u2019m like I don\u2019t think I\u2019m wrong to have said it wasn\u2019t cool to ditch me, I didn\u2019t insult her person to my knowledge (other than saying I think it\u2019s pretty childish to have that reaction to me not agreeing with her) nor where she\u2019s from or anything and I just don\u2019t see what the problem is.. I just said ditching me wasn\u2019t cool and that I get she\u2019s had a lot on her mind but I\u2019d appreciate being told things next time and I guess that\u2019s not ok??\n\nI\u2019ve also never posted on Reddit before so if this is a mess and not how it\u2019s done I apologize.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "glZ41YcaxV0y1oZeZ2BJPkDBp8nAZz7F", "post_id": "b7cn91", "action": {"description": "telling an ex I'm asexual", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling an ex I\u2019m asexual?", "text": "Phone/formatting/first-time-posting etc. \n\nI should clarify although she was an ex we were still pretty close friends and talked about this sort of thing often and openly. \n\nWhen she asked what this meant about our sexual history, I said I didn\u2019t regret anything we\u2019d done and they weren\u2019t bad memories at all; I told her I enjoyed knowing she\u2019d got off and everything but that was about the extent of it. She asked if that meant I\u2019d faked all the times I\u2019d orgasmed and I told her I had. I guess to try and put things in context I said she wasn\u2019t the first or the last person I faked it with; it took me a while to realise and come to terms with my sexuality and for a long time I simply thought I was doing sex wrong. \n\nShe got pretty offended and said she felt like she\u2019d been lied to; which is kind of fair, I had lied about orgasming when we had sex. I didn\u2019t have a problem with her saying that. It kinda hurt but I could see where she was coming from. \n\nI only got annoyed when she said she wished I hadn\u2019t told her and \u201cwhy couldn\u2019t you just keep this to yourself?\u201d To understand why this upset me I need to give a bit of context; we\u2019re both very queer and have dealt with coming out to friends/family and the fallout from that plenty in the past. So to have her of all people tell me I should\u2019ve stayed in the closet both really hurt and felt incredibly hypocritical. For the longest time I thought there was something broken and wrong about my sexuality and that if I felt romantic attraction to people I should feel sexual attraction and the desire to act on it as well, that if I didn\u2019t then my relationships were somehow incomplete etc. I explained that to her and she handwaived it away by saying asexuality wasn\u2019t a real sexuality therefore couldn\u2019t be called coming out. \n\nShe said I was an asshole for telling her and making her feel insecure and for lying to her back then, that I shouldn\u2019t call it \u2018coming out\u2019 because see above. She got really mad and we haven\u2019t spoke since. \n\nAm I the asshole here? My friend is prone to sulking at times but this is the first time I\u2019ve seen her get this steaming mad. Should I have kept it to myself? \n\nTl;dr - I told my friend and ex I\u2019m asexual, she got mad and said I\u2019d lied to her and made her feel insecure and should\u2019ve kept it to myself. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dJ3yoQ12ZKpG4I3IMTuQ89oreLwMAmYI", "post_id": "ao4hs7", "action": {"description": "thinking my so should have gotten out of bed", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking my SO should have gotten out of bed?", "text": "I had an online class from 6-8pm and asked for space to focus. I kept it polite each time they approached me anyway, \"I'm sorry, I can't focus on two things, I need to hear, etc.\" They decided this would be a good time to ask if I had signed our thank-you cards and I realized I hadn't. Unfortunately, they were sealed and the envelopes would need to be redone.\n\nI said I'd fix it after class and they said they'd rewrite them now, but my mistakes have come up in future arguments (i.e. \"you couldn't even do the envelopes correctly!\"). Given this history, I figured it would be better in the long run to do it myself.\n\nBut they kept saying over and over they'd do it for me and I answered \"I'll do it, please just leave them, please, it was my mistake, I'm still in class, I'll do it later, just get outta here, please leave me the envelopes\" in a more and more snippy tone as my class kept running. We had a mini-snippy-fight and they went to shower. I did as many of the envelopes as I could while my class continued.\n\nAt about 7:30 we both apologized and my SO went to lay down while my class continued. I gave a pretty heartfelt apology and asked if they'd come sit at the table with me instead, that I would love some help with the envelopes, and I was sorry for letting the stress get to me. They said \"nah, I'm really comfortable in bed\" in a way that was clearly \"I don't want to be around you right now\" (something they later confirmed during the ensuing argument). I felt pretty hurt because I was really vulnerable with my SO and that's when they *(finally)* gave me space for class.\n\n***Tl;dr:*** I got snippy when my SO ignored my request for space and kept interrupting my classwork, we had a small fight, both apologized, and they put up a small friendly wall and gave me the cold shoulder (left me hanging, at least) until a fight broke out. Is this final bit of not-reconciling over what was really just a small argument asshole behavior or are they justified in taking space and prolonging a satisfying end to a fight?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kWG1IWhEISaSKrBNTmfuXALGt0K2A6QP", "post_id": "ag26u5", "action": {"description": "telling my friend who's visiting from out of town to go stay somewhere else", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend who\u2019s visiting from out of town to go stay somewhere else?", "text": "So my friend (close friend of 3 years) came to visit me for a long weekend. He\u2019s been talking to this couple on an app, and wanted to meet up with them while he was here. I knew they were talking, he\u2019d mentioned that they wanted to come over for a bonfire and dinner. I thought that sounded like fun. He also mentioned that he made dinner plans at a restaurant with them, which was fine. It was understood that he would be hanging out with them some of the time. \n\nWell, as soon as he got here, he started only coming back to my house to eat and sleep. I took time off work so we could do stuff together, and all he wants to do is hang out with this couple. Saturday night, I confronted him and said I felt like I was being taken advantage of a little bit, and I thought he was being rude. His response was, \u201cI don\u2019t want you to feel that way\u201d and he explained that he\u2019d already planned to go do drugs and party with them that night, then said, \u201cHow am I supposed to get there...?\u201d \n\nI didn\u2019t want to go, because it\u2019s not my thing anyway and I\u2019m a year clean from addiction (which he is well aware of). He ended up taking an Uber. Before he left, he said he\u2019d be back around 4am. My bf worked early the next morning so I told him if he was going out to get all high and coming back really late then don\u2019t bother coming back, and since he clearly wanted to come into town just to see them, then he could take his stuff and go stay with them. I don\u2019t feel comfortable hosting someone who brings the whole drug world to my doorstep, but we have been really close in the past. \n\nHe came back today to get his stuff, and I\u2019m still kind of mad, but also feel a little guilty kicking him out to go stay with people he barely knows. To be fair, he did let me stay with him for a couple weeks back when I was homeless and strung out. \n\nDid I react too strongly? AITA? \n\nThanks for reading!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uHLQ3L8wHJdmaOWb7JO7P7MTXxCfQInk", "post_id": "ajw43z", "action": null, "title": "AITA Roommates and garbage", "text": "I live with my college friends and for the past year and a half, nobody takes out the trash. It\u2019s only me. If I miss a garbage day, the garbage won\u2019t go out. If raccoons get into the garbage and I don\u2019t clean it up, it\u2019ll sit on the front yard and driveway for days/weeks - I\u2019ve tested it. If I ask them to help they give a \u201cYeah I\u2019ll do it later\u201d or a \u201cI\u2019ll get that tomorrow\u201d. There was a cigarette carton in the driveway for a few days from raccoons that I know my housemate that smokes these has seen and walked past for several days. So when I picked up all the trash I put it on the wiper on his car. He got pissed and told me he\u2019d fight me if I pulled that shit again. I said dude you walked past it for days. He said garbage outside wasn\u2019t his problem. I didn\u2019t apologize. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GYG6AYG3tNwDZRg3G6Sa58HX39VJTibk", "post_id": "a3qk8a", "action": {"description": "not wanting to risk a road accident", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to risk a road accident?", "text": "#The scene  \nI'm driving on a 40mph(about 64kmph) road in England.  \nThe road consists of 2 lanes (one for each direction of traffic) and lies on a hill.  \nThe road has a \"snake\" in it i.e It curves a few times, about half way up the hill.  \nI'm in the left hand lane travelling up the hill.  \nThere is a man ($Operator) in a tractor that has some kind of hedge trimmer attachment on it's front \"arm\", travelling in the same direction as me, on my side of the road.  \nThe tractor is at the first bend and is moving forward at around 3-5mph(about 4-8kmph) whilst cutting the hedge/trees on the side of the road.  \nThe tractor has orange flashing lights on the back and a blue, circular sign with a white arrow pointing slightly down and to the right (a standard sign for asking drives to move around an obstacle).  \n\n#The ordeal  \nApproaching the tractor I judge the risk of overtaking it on this corner.  \nMy decision is that, I'm more comfortable waiting for him to get around the first bend and then overtaking as the road straightens out, so I can see clearer.  \nAs I slow and approach I leave a car length between us and prepare myself for probably a little honking from behind me and a slow crawl round this corner.  \n  \n3 things then occur...  \n1. The car behind me ($Car) decides to overtake me, as well as the tractor.  \n2. A small lorry appears from around the corner in the opposite lane.  \n3. The tractor starts to move backwards.  \n  \nI immediately stop and honk my horn so as to warn all 3 vehicles of the impending danger.  \nThe tractor stops.  \n$Car pulls into the gap I've left between me and the tractor.  \nThe lorry appears to slow, but continues on it's way.  \nCrisis averted.\n  \n$Car then waits for traffic in the opposite lane to pass and overtakes without issue.  \nI go back to crawling along the road when I realise that the tractor has continued to move backwards.  \nThe other cars behind me have now followed the example that $Car gave and have started to overtake me and the tractor.  \nI'm now unsure what to do and am starting to panic.  \n  \nIf I thought it was unsafe to overtake before, it's now even more so because of the cars behind me overtaking.  \nThe tractor is still moving back and $Operator is looking back at me, gesturing me to get out of the way.  \nI sit there as my panic rises, and no new ideas immediately come to my mind.  \n  \nEventually, the tractor get's as close as he dares and attempts to converse out of his back window.  \nThe conversation goes as fruitlessly as you'd imagine.  \nI get the impression he's annoyed at me and want's me to overtake despite not being able to hear him.  \nI attempt to explain that I can't see around the corner and he's now too close for me to pull around him through arm gestures and speech that he almost certainly can't hear.  \n$Operator then stops his engine and gets out.  \n  \nHe comes to my now slightly open window and he asks what's wrong.  \nI come to the conclusion that he's not going to see my view on this, but my panic stricken mind attempts to explain my reasoning in jumbled words whilst the primate in me attempts to match his tone and aggressive expression, all whilst afraid he's going to get physical.  \nHe exasperates about how he's \"been there for 8 hours\" and \"everyone else can go round\".  \nAt one point he even stood in the other lane to \"prove\" it was clear - at the same time as a car behind me went to overtake which got him a honk that he ignored.  \nI plead with him to let me follow round the corner and I'll over take on the straight but it falls on deaf ears.  \nHe deems the conversation over on his last word telling me to \"back up and go round\" which I don't challenge.  \nOnce he's back in his vehicle I am now able to back up as there is a lull in the traffic behind me and I overtake, as carefully as I can, and come out unscathed.  \n  \n#AITA?  \nDid I do something wrong here?  \nI'm unsure exactly what road laws apply here so I'll see if I can research anything shortly after I post this.  \nI feel like I could have handled it better.\nIf $Operator is considered the to be wrong, I may look to file a complaint to...I guess the local council. I assume he's employed by them (if not directly). I guess I'll research that too.\n  \n*sigh* This is why I want to buy a dash cam.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h1LorZCO3hl1oa1cZBxwlFpQlgyKAwuY", "post_id": "atwapi", "action": {"description": "excluding a classmate", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for excluding a classmate?", "text": "I\u2019m in high school and as some of you may know school food is pretty bad. The only thing my friends and I like are the salads but they sometimes sell out pretty quick. Due to this my friends and I usually go out to eat for lunch. My friend always takes us in his car which only seats 5 people. This means we always end up leaving the same kid to eat lunch by himself. We\u2019re not allowed to bring outside food into the school so it\u2019s not like we can go and come back. He\u2019s asked if we can take turns going but my friend says that since it\u2019s his car he picks who\u2019s going. The reason he does this is because this kid didn\u2019t have friends and just inserted himself into our friend group and started sitting with us without being asked. We\u2019re okay with him sitting there it\u2019s just we don\u2019t really share the same interests. We\u2019ve known each other since freshman year and only met this kid 3 month ago. My SUV can seat 6 people but it uses up a lot more gas than my friend\u2019s car which is why we don\u2019t like taking it. My friend never asks us for gas money so I don\u2019t feel it\u2019s right  for me to ask either. Am I the asshole for being able to solve the problem but choosing not to.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PzAv8ZSC1cNbQ9eaZpTMCpds7Bxwfui4", "post_id": "aowsyw", "action": {"description": "not going to work when called and asked to do so", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going to work when called and asked to do so?", "text": "So, I specifically requested today off. I get called and asked if I\u2019d like to work. I said I can\u2019t. Supervisor didn\u2019t seem very happy with me. On one hand, I see why she\u2019s pissed but on the other hand, I was not on call and felt like I shouldn\u2019t have to leave what I\u2019m doing today and go to work just bc my coworker called in sick considering I asked for the day off vs simply not being scheduled today. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E5obaNPiFbiNE4X7pLg426R1ssi1U6WC", "post_id": "a2oi5g", "action": {"description": "caving in and working for a for-profit university", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I caved in and worked for a for-profit university (the kind that's a total scam)?", "text": "The irony here is intense. Five years ago, when I was even more of a fuck-up than I am now, I worked as a freelancer for an internet marketing company. They assigned a large, lucrative project to me - managing the social media engagement and writing promotional for a large for-profit university. The more I wrote, the more I realised that the school's infrastructure, teachers, and school-material were the kind that I wouldn't use if even I'd gotten it for free. It was purely a way to fleece students out of their money in return for worthless certificates. I got so sick of it I didn't even invoice the company for my final payment. I was proud of that last bit.\n\nNext four years, I go through extreme depression, crippling back pain, get diagnosed with severe ADHD, spend a year and a half unemployed. I'm finally getting my life back together... attending counselling, racking up certificates, straightening out my diet and health, quitting smoking etc. Found a breathtaking woman who believes the sun shines out of my ass and wants to marry me.\n\nBut I'm still unemployed. Trying to find a job has been grotesque, humiliating experience.\n\nNow, the same manager who assigned me that previous soul-sucking job has reached out to me again because apparently I did a damn good job. They want to pay me more (a lot more) to write content for a larger, scammier university. I know that these places take the dreams and hopes of everyday people trying to make their lives better through education, and suck those dreams dry for the last penny they can squeeze out.\n\nI'm desperate for a job. I want to make this woman happy. I want to show her family (and mine) that I'm not a fuck-up. I'm quickly running out of financial and personal resources.\n\nWhat's the right thing to do? Would I be the asshole if I took the job? Do I owe it to the woman who believes in me to do something I frankly think is evil? This is literally the first job offer I've had in years. I'm scared of turning it down, I'm scared of accepting it.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bGzyibNnJeG6hG7fj86UBJfbD3Jtrl0X", "post_id": "asu6gf", "action": {"description": "joking about my friend being poor", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for joking about my friend being poor?", "text": "Context: I recently started hanging out with a group of guys that were already all friends. They've been friends since they were little kids. When we hang out or talk in group chats all they do is rip on each other constantly. Nothing seems to be off limits. They also pretty much only all hang out when it's one of them that comes up with the plans. Every time I've ever asked them to go to a bar or something, everyone has some kind of excuse. One guy's excuse a lot of the time is about saving money. We'll call him Bob. Bob is also the guy in the group that any time we hang out with other people, he manages to say or do something that offends someone and creates an argument/awkward situation.\n\nSo the other day we're talking in a group chat about trying to plan a mini vacation over the summer and booking a vrbo house. Right away one of them sends a link as a suggestion and I check it out. It's really nice but kind of expensive for me, even when split between all of us. I say something like \"that's nice, but can we try to find something cheaper?\", but everyone else seems fine with it, including Bob. So since no one reacted to my objection, I make a joke like \"the dude who can't even afford to get a drink at a bar on a Friday night is cool with this place, and I'm the one trying to save some money?\" He says \"eat my ass\". I call him a \"poor bitch\". Nothing out of the ordinary, no big deal. But a couple minutes, and comments by other people later, he says \"Sorry guys, I can't afford to go on your fancy rich vacation, guess I'm out.\" So I just say \"hah ok\" because I can't tell how serious he's being at this point. Then he says \"I've literally never said I didn't have the money to do something, and if I did it's because I just didn't want to hang out.\" At that point it's noticeably awkward, and no one is saying anything. The conversation ends there and I'm thinking great, everybody thinks I'm a jerk now.\n\nFirst of all, I was just making a joke, a pretty tame one in my opinion, and this guy is the king of offensive jokes. Second, he pretty much said that when he's been using money as an excuse not to do something, he's just been lying instead of just saying that he doesn't want to hang out. So of course I would make a joke about you not having money because you're always saying it!\n\nI ended up texting him separately because it was driving me crazy, and basically apologizing for making the joke. He said \"money just isn't something we joke about because we all come from different financial situations.\" Which made me think ok maybe money really is tight for him and calling him poor really would be a dick move then. But I was the one not having the money to afford that house and complaining in the first place.\n\nAm I really the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "iQtWAKRUp0MpxHlMdqCSNIDEcbOQTL3S", "post_id": "avvtxd", "action": {"description": "not remembering people's coffee orders if they don't tip", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA if I won\u2019t remember people\u2019s coffee orders if they don\u2019t tip.", "text": "Ive been a barista for the past year. We have a few regulars that come in, and to the ones that tip, I make an effort to remember their orders. We have a 1 or 2 snobbier customers who expect me to know their order every time but won\u2019t tip. He always has this passive aggressive look on his face when I ask what I can get for him, and he comes in about every other day. But he\u2019s not very polite, never says hello back. I always try to be as warm as I can but when someone doesn\u2019t tip wont say hi back I\u2019m not gonna remember your order. AITA for this? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a3svrchBENkXtRjqetaqd1IJ3ycwm9jL", "post_id": "arapet", "action": {"description": "expecting my roommates to replace what they use", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting my roommates to replace what they use.", "text": "So first this is a bunch of small issues. In my apartment I have provided a majority of the usable products (I.e. toilet paper, dish soap, spices, etc). It is about 7-8 months now and not a single time have they bought any of these products. I grew up in a household where you replace what you use I.e. I replaced one of their food products after using it a single time. Now I have mentioned if x or y could replace this product or another. When they do they tend to buy the least amount possible and within a short amount of time I have to buy new products again. Well recently I bought the fancy body wash of my dreams and one of my roommmates liked it so much that they started using it. Well I talked to them about it and we agreed to trade off buying the body wash. When it came time to buy the next one they bought one that is extremely gender specific and unusable by me, we are opposite genders. When I confronted them about it they acted like I was the asshole for \u201cmaking a big deal\u201d when I said I don\u2019t believe they bought it for both of us to use and got it specifically so only they could use it they said \u201cwell thanks for calling me a liar\u201d. Also they said that when they started using it \u201cI didn\u2019t know there was an expectation to replace it with the exact same body wash\u201d. The entire time they acted very defensive and also like I am the asshole for even bringing the subject up. \n\nHow would you approach this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "u51n6ise7zi6nvpL2JYJch4YZCk5pdPP", "post_id": "9wa761", "action": {"description": "deleting a picture of myself from my fianc\u00e9's phone", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for deleting a picture of myself from my fianc\u00e9\u2019s phone?", "text": "My fianc\u00e9 took a really unflattering photo of me that he thinks is hilarious but it really irritates me. I\u2019m not shy about bad pictures of myself but this picture actually made me feel pretty shitty. \n\nI told him to delete it but he refused. I asked him to never bring it up again but I think he thought it was all a joke and kept bringing it up and showing it to me. I told him I was serious and that the next time he brought it up I\u2019d delete it. \n\nSure enough today he brought it up and showed me the picture while laughing.  I kept my cool and waited until he was taking a nap then went into his phone and deleted it. \n\nLater that night he went to find it to show me and realized I\u2019d deleted it and he got really upset that I went through his personal stuff and deleted something of his. \n\nHe changed his passcode on his phone and is all upset at me for breaking his trust. I feel like I had every right to delete the photo because it was of me and he kept shoving it in my face. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YKkXC0fWT4heysPjGfh00n87taqBPXNa", "post_id": "a8excp", "action": {"description": "stopping talking to a friend for months", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA because I stopped talking to a friend for months?", "text": "I have/had this friend whom I\u2019ve known for little more than a year (I\u2019m a man, she\u2019s a woman, don\u2019t know if that changes anything but I\u2019ll just mention it for clarification). We don\u2019t get to see each other very often so we invite each other to hangout when we can. \n\nOne day, probably in October, I told her if she could hang out, she told me \u201cI can hang out friday two weeks from now\u201d, I told her \u201cokay then\u201d. Asked her 4 days before the date we were supposed to see each other if she can still go, she says \u201cIt\u2019s fine don\u2019t worry about it\u201d. Friday morning comes, I text her to ask what time she wants to meet up (we already agreed on the place) and she asks back \u201cwhat are you talking about?\u201d I get mad, but I tell her that we were supposed to meet that day, without making a fuss. She responds with \u201coh I forgot about it (us meeting each other), can\u2019t go out today\u201d. Not gonna lie, I was furious because I had to cancel something else so I could meet up with her, stayed at home that day. \n\nI then asked her why didn\u2019t she tell me before that she was busy. Her reply was \u201cI never said I was going out with you, I just told you I was available that day, but you didn\u2019t properly invite me\u201d. At that point I don\u2019t know if I\u2019m angry or confused, what else could it mean if I asked her thrice if she could hang out that friday? She then told me that if I wanted to hang out that badly, why didn\u2019t I invite someone else? (This question is besides the point, but there was another good reason for me to invite her specifically I forgot to mention at the beginning of the post, we were going to draw that day, she knew about this, and she knows how to draw pretty well, I don\u2019t have any other friends that are interested in activities like that) I just tell her to stop making it worse, after not getting a reply, I stop texting her for two months, until yesterday. \n\nI text her as if nothing had happened (hoping time did its work), she\u2019s very mad that I didn\u2019t text her in two months, even though I was the last person to send a text before yesterday. We argued about it, and I told her I was not going to apologize since she didn\u2019t care to apologize then either. We\u2019re still arguing I think, but she hasn\u2019t responded today so maybe that friendship is over. I want to know other people\u2019s opinion so feel free to speak your mind. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rCSsyiMIv1qtQR7fQ2NhKq2vwGPd6LvH", "post_id": "aw1dc2", "action": {"description": "avoiding a part-time coworker that says I am their 'best friend' and keeps saying I have their back and that we hang out together", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for avoiding a part-time coworker that says I am their 'best friend' and keeps saying I have their back and that we hang out together??? (Spolier: we DONT)", "text": "I started a new part time job a few months ago while I job hunt. It's a part time gig, I don't expect to stay here. \n\nOne of my co-workers is a self proclaimed autistic person. (she tells this to everyone, true or not) She latched on to me day one, and apparently we are now BFF's. She would tell me everyday she loves me and that I'm her friend. \n\nI feel a little trapped because I don't want to hurt her feelings, but she is also like 25 years older than me. When I tell her I don't want to talk, she goes into this weird tantrum, she tries to emulate little kid and infant crying, and it is so fucking bizarre. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dqoifElJEdf3makt2hAVKGC84GPEz2gt", "post_id": "amdbgd", "action": {"description": "saying Im not in the mood to have sex", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for saying im not in the mood to have sex?", "text": "Me and ny girlfriend have been together about 7 months now and this topic keeps arising where i say i am not in the mood for sex when she asks.\n\nLet me reassure you, this is not everytime. She tends to ask when i am genuinely tired like when i just get in the door from work, or just after I woke up (i am really not a morning person and she knows this)\n\nShe tells me that this is a rejection and for awhile she even stopped initiating completely.\n\nI explained to her that we are in love in a committed relationship and if i say \"nah babe, not really in the mood right now\" that should be completely normal and fine.\n\nI also want to say that definitely at least 75-80% of the time that ive said no we have had sex later that day.\n\nWe have sex about 4-5 times a week.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3YB2dZRciN89gDzhL659JoLVP9ghMztQ", "post_id": "b6qoz7", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my fiance while he's in rehab", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking up with my fiance while he's in rehab?", "text": "I'm done with him. In my mind, I was done with him before he went to rehab, but I thought he might change so gave him one last chance. Nope. Hasn't changed at all. I visit him when I can and try to be supportive but it's clear to me has learned nothing and has admitted to me he fully intends to go back to his old behavior once he's no longer on probation. He doesn't give a damn about me, or even his own son. I can't anymore. I'm going to break up with him regardless, but WIBTA for doing it while he's still in rehab?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bw68yMg6vHPBjHwJWmqTplmGzoGCNe5O", "post_id": "b365ll", "action": {"description": "making my girlfriend show her texts with another boy", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA For making my girlfriend show her texts with another boy?", "text": "So for some background info, I (17m) have been dating my girlfriend (18f) for a little over 5 months. We both go to the same high school. The boy in question (18m) used to be her boyfriend but they broke up quickly, but on good terms. They always used to talk to each other and hangout often.\n\nSo now onto the story. Over the past months of me dating her, I would always have my suspicions of her going behind my back with him, but she assured me otherwise saying if she liked him she wouldn't have dated me and that she instead likes me. A couple months ago, shes asking if she could be around him more and give him hugs again (she's kinda known for giving out hugs so it's not strange) but i still feel very uncomfortable with her giving it to him. I asked her if she could refrain from hugging him and in general talking to him. She's done that, but sometimes brings up how she misses him\n\nHowever, yesterday she brought it up again and she said how he would always be nice to her, compliment her, and how he wouldn't make her feel insecure about her body. I asked her what she meant by this since i'm always doing the same, and was very confused by how i was making her insecure when i always tell her her body is beautiful and it's perfect (she's 4'9). She goes on to say how she feels like i never mean it even though i genuinely do, and she shrugs it off. She said that she only sees him as an amazing friend but would never be interested in him like that again. \n\nThis is where I asked her if she could show me her phone the texts between her and him, and if there was nothing suspicious then she can have my full trust with him, after making her promise she wouldn't delete any messages. She gives me a better offer of giving me her instagram password that second to look for myself. I agree, then an hour later she says forget it and that i should trust her regardless. I explained to her that i do feel like an asshole for asking her to see her texts but assured her i would stop being paranoid about him if i just saw it. she went back on the offer and instead agreed to show me in school tomorrow \n\nJust a side note: She always says she loves me and that i make her the happiest. She always says that she couldn't imagine living without me. I definitely know i'm paranoid and being an ass for invading her privacy, but i've just got this gut feeling. I guess i'll update this tomorrow. but please let me know, how big of an ass am i?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RtiMKY2xlhkevdjJtHkEUO4cOZxgwVXR", "post_id": "ayd2ox", "action": {"description": "saying my girlfriend's parents are weird for not fixing their showers or oven", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for saying my girlfriend's parents are weird for not fixing their showers or oven?", "text": "Bit of an argument with my gf flared up over me calling her parents weird for having broken showers and oven in their home for over a year? \n\nShe became very defensive and said it doesn't matter, they have a functioning bath and hob, and saying they don't have the money to fix it - apparently it costs 'thousands of pounds' to fix these things. Even then, they went on a luxury three-week holiday fairly recently and I just think their spending priorities are weird. But saying this caused my gf to go away and cry.\n\nShe also accused me of 'having no clue as I'm well-off' (somewhat true), though the only real difference is that my parents still work while hers don't.\n\nThoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "psE0zwSqYvWZ83CwZ6spTSWdNv3t3Zt4", "post_id": "arnx3k", "action": {"description": "not wanting kids", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting kids...?", "text": "Hey reddit, this is something that has really made me think a bit and I really just would like to share this with everyone.  \n\n​\n\nSo, we're a family of 5.  My mom,  my dad, my sister (9F), me (15M), and my brother (17M).  \n\n​\n\nSo we're in the car, heading to Five Guys yesterday, as we hadn't been out to eat in a while, and we all really like Five Guys.  On the way there, for some reason the topic of children comes up.  Now, if any of you remember, I made a post a while ago regarding how my parents are always pushing kids onto all 3 of us, and that if we don't have kids we'll basically have disappointments.  Now me, for many reasons, have 0 intent of having kids later in life, for good reason.  So we're in the car, and one thing leads to next, and here's the conversation that transpired.   \n\n​\n\nMe: Yeah, but I'd rather not have to deal with 18 years of hell, but thanks\n\n​\n\nMom: Oh no, you're giving me grand kids.  \n\n​\n\nMe: I'm not putting up with 18 years just because you want grand kids.  That's having kids for all the wrong reasons.  \n\n​\n\nMom: Yes you are!  You'd make an excellent father.   \n\n​\n\nMe: Sure, I'll have kids if you're willing to pay the $300,000 that I'll have to dish out to pay for the child, and are willing to babysit them for months at a time, whenever I actually want peace and quiet (I know what I said here was a little cruel, but I didn't know what else to say.)\n\n​\n\nSister (REMEMBER SHE'S 9): Oh don't worry mommy!  I'll have kids for you!  (WTF?!?!??!?!?!?!?!)\n\n​\n\nMom: Gavin (my name), I don't want to have this conversation.    \n\n\nMy mom then proceeds to tear up.  Huh?!?!?!  If anything, shouldn't I be the one crying?  I mean, you've just proved to me that I'm nothing but someone who's going to give you grand kids.  What the hell is up with this mindset that I have to give you kids or else I'm a disappointment?  Why can't I just live my own life?  You brought kids into this world knowing full well that you're going to have to let me use my free will, and if you cannot accept that, they why did you have kids in the first place?  I'd rather live my life.  Honestly, if having a family is hell: [https://i.redd.it/sfon879ab1g21.png](https://i.redd.it/sfon879ab1g21.png), then why should I have kids?  It's not like I need to.  I could honestly go on, but if you're reading this subreddit you probably know all of the reasons why having kids suck.  I'm the kind of guy to want to punch the parents in the face for letting their child cry during something.  It's not cute, bring them outside.  It is literally the worst sound in the world imaginable.  \n\n​\n\nAlright, that's all /r/AmItheAsshole.  Please let me know if I'm in the wrong in this situation, because I'm pretty sure I'm not.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3dcp5Tif4QVPPU2TetHTobnipOYbZS1Y", "post_id": "azwhxa", "action": {"description": "regarding a friends potential romance", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA regarding a friends potential romance", "text": "Good friend (Xavier) a couple months ago started talking to this real pretty chick, who happened to be an ex of another friend/associate (Rauol). He unsolicited, sent me pics of her in her lingerie, tells me not to tell mention it to Rauol as he'll be pissed. I oblige. This was about 2 months ago.\n\nI am at the bar with a few of my good buddies, who know both of them. I mention how Xavier is shooting his shot with pretty girl, and he sent me a pic and IMO she's super fine. They ask to see pic of girl in lingerie, I oblige, all of us have been friends 15+ years (Xavier included). I mention how it's still in the very early stages, and to not mention anything to Rauol. This was like a week after the picture was sent to me initially.\n\nI have never brought it up again socially, and have been in contact with him regarding how things are going. He tells me how he's been hanging with her and getting there, and how he actually really likes her. I'm super happy for him, as he hasn't dated in a while. Has plans for an actual date with her in a couple weeks. None of this is repeated. This was like 3 weeks ago.\n\nArbitrarily, he had been kinda smoozing all over this girls facebook, and Rauol definitely can see that.\n\nDay of the date, get a text from Xavier asking if I mentioned anything to Rauol. I say no, and mention how it's pretty obvious that himself and pretty girl are talking by social media. \n\nEnd of the night, get a text basically calling me a piece of shit. Saying that pretty girl knows he sent me pictures of her (says Rauol told her but then later says he doesn't know how), and she wasn't happy. Asking why the fuck I would parade her tits around the bar. That she found out after the date.\n\nI explain all the above, how I mentioned it to our mutual friends but it would surprise me if anyone said anything to Rauol. Told him I wasn't sure how she knew (truth). Apologized for even telling them. Explained how I wasn't making excuses, that I definitely said something and showed them, but that the story he has about me parading it around is just not true and exaggerated, again apologizing.\n\nShe wasn't nothing more to do with him at the moment and he said I made him look like an immature asshole....and I guess I did, but he also kind of was? I don't show pictures of girls to my friends who I'm interested in dating/gf/etc nor did I ask for them. \n\nI take full ownership of saying she sent him a picture which he sent me, and then showing said picture. But it was a maybe 2 min conversation, one time, before he ever hung out with her. I'm getting blasted by him, and feel bad but I feel he's the asshole and everyone I've talked about this with has expressed it's entirely his fault. But he's a close friend and I do feel guilty about it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MIqXS1Odk6EbfQmluawR5NBTq9dvqtqw", "post_id": "abt6ns", "action": {"description": "looking for relationship advice on reddit whilst my ex and I are harassed by a cyber stalker", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for looking for relationship advice on reddit whilst my ex and I are harassed by a cyber stalker?", "text": "This guy has been cyberstalking me for a year now from Reddit, made a post on r/legaladvice and apparently there\u2019s no real legal repercussions for what\u2019s he\u2019s doing. He ended up messaging my ex back in September which led to an argument and ultimately breaking us up. He then messaged her yesterday a screenshot of my post from r/breakups, once again no personal information except ages, no names or anything, looking for advice on a breakup sub. She of course got upset at me because she believes I feed into this stalker by posting personal information about her and allowing her to be contacted(this guy found her Instagram somehow through my YouTube)\n\nI\u2019ve explained to her dozens of times that we are both victims of harassment and cyberstalking and that this guy\u2019s sole purpose in life has been to make our lives miserable, mine through her specifically. She of course was more concerned that she was being contacted by this random guy on a fake Instagram. She blocked that account and then today he messaged her AGAIN with screenshots of a conversation I had on r/breakups with a user. The conversation? This: https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUps/comments/abow7p/comment/ed229yg?st=JQF5RTDL&sh=df5a0b44\n\nI have no names in it(save a child name we\u2019d talked about) and no identifying information. She blocked me this morning and told me to not talk to her \u201cwe\u2019re done\u201d I\u2019m curious to know if others think I\u2019ve done something wrong here or if she\u2019s just reacting out of anger regarding being contacted by a stranger constantly. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aSl3i2TVSXttYrdKrRFhR5WKYQc7ymmE", "post_id": "b08mi8", "action": {"description": "not saying \"yes Sir\" to my manager", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not Saying \"Yes Sir\" to my Manager?", "text": "Little bit of context about me, and my job. I've worked at a movie theater for 4 years, and love it. I always come in, and try to go above, and beyond. My managers have taking notice, and have been giving me a lot more responsibilities. Now it's not a promotion, and it doesn't increase my pay, but I know how this works. You start from the bottom, and you work your way up. I get it plus it doesn't hurt that I know this job like the back of my hand, so it's not really extra work. I also put in a lot of work with a bunch of my coworkers over a month long period to perfect a system that would help everyone out, and would make everything nice and organized. We put it all together in a document, and went to my GM with it. He took it to corporate, and they gave us the all clear. Now my GM had to take an extended period of time off for a family emergency. In comes a manager (John) from out of state to step in as a temp GM. First day literally changes everything back. Takes down everything we put up. All the info sheets for new hires when they get stuck and can't call for help, New usher sheets that make life so much easier, New concession ticket that make it more organized, and so much more all gone. Why? cause that's not how they did it at his theater. Workers are confused, and start to slip up by doing things the new way then having to do it the old much longer way it was a nightmare. I've never been handed so many guest complaints in my life. All about how they liked how things were ran before, and that it was better the other way cause they didn't have to wait nearly as long. Then I find out that a new hire was in tears in the back wanting to quit because of how John was treating her. At that point I was so confused/frustrated by how he could come in, and in a matter of 2.5 months just completely ruin what we had going. The new hire ends up leaving, and John comes to me and says \"You need to get on register now.\" This is what I said word for word. \"Alright John I'm heading there now.\" He tilts his head, and says \"Uh I think you forgot a Yes Sir there buddy.\" I look at the line of people then him, and repeat myself, and walk away to do my job. Now my GM is back in town, so yesterday John calls him to pretty much demand that I be fired for disrespecting him, and refusing to work. What he doesn't know is that me, and the employees from that day including the new hire will be going up there in about 30 mins to discuss in detail (Power Point presentation) everything that's been going on since he's been gone. Before I go AITA? I know I could have just said \"Yes Sir\", but not to someone who works, and treats his employees like that I'm sorry I just can't.        ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6vSAWKnCfanHpnPFhFHT4J2eB2g9zf30", "post_id": "b1ajgz", "action": {"description": "being upset about my 18th birthday gift", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for being upset about my 18th birthday gift?", "text": "So a few days ago I had my 18th birthday, and I was raised between my mother and my grandparents. In the past my grandparents have always gotten me like a gift card or some money or even some socks and underwear. My mother is a bit more on the fortunate side in terms of money and I usually always get something pretty nice from her. Which she did not dissapoint, cologne and some other things. However this year, I visited my grandparents to which they gave me a tin of dominos and the game yahtzee, my aunt didn't give me anything at all. I wasn't upset but I was almost underwhelmed as while I have played them in the past, it was when I was very young. Haven't played any sort of board game since that point. AITA for being upset about it? I mean I'm usually a very easy going person but they gave me dominos and yahtzee and I really can't figure out why I'm so upset about it. I've always been happy with simple things like socks and such from them even when I was as young as 12 but I don't know why this rubs me the wrong way. AITA for not just appreciating the gift?\n\nTL;DR: Grandparents gave me a tin can of dominos and yahtzee for my 18th birthday and it just rubbed me the wrong way. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UxOJok5kBHsnjm0jHUTdbxQCKZnReJ99", "post_id": "b03904", "action": {"description": "blocking a number", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for blocking a number?", "text": "So my wife developed some serious feelings for this guy years ago. I found out she is talking to him again after she said she wouldn't.   I got fed up with seeing his number showing up in my bill statements that I had his number blocked.  I feel like it is something I should tell my wife, but at the same time how am I to trust her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "POtEDJEtnPoR3l2lDt3sCUYP2cCHPAXa", "post_id": "arpcfn", "action": {"description": "opting not to have children with my girlfriend that has heritable autoimmune disease", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 29}, "title": "AITA for opting not to have children with my girlfriend that has heritable autoimmune disease?", "text": "Both of us have always wanted children, and it's probably one of our biggest dreams. We love each other dearly, and I wouldn't even doubt her ability to be an amazing parent. Unfortunately, she happens to have a highly heritable autoimmune disease. I'd rather not get into the details as it's quite a sensitive topic, but the severity divers a lot per person. Some people are severely impaired due to it, and can have near to fatal attacks, while for others it could just be a minor inconvenience. I am extremely uncomfortable with the fact that one of our children might inherit it from her, or carry the genes that could potentially continue the disease.\n\nAm I the asshole for choosing not to have children with her because of this reason?\n\nWhen I made it clear that it'd be better if we wouldn't have children, so there wouldn't be a chance they'd inherit the disease from her, she didn't take it well, and it made her extremely upset. We both still would really want children, but it wouldn't be the right option to possibly make people suffer because of our selfishness. We've briefly discussed adoption, after which I've told her I wouldn't be comfortable with adopting children. If we did have children, I'd still want them to be related.\n\nShe's a wonderful person, and I'd never abandon her because of this, but it does make me have serious doubts about having children with her.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 28, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 29}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nJJe4UjvhKFH1O1FD4sauBngtCUfCnbU", "post_id": "9w64ua", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get married yet", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get married yet?", "text": "Hi guys, me and my girlfriend have been going out for little over 4 months. I really feel a connection with her and would go so far as to say I really love her as she does me. About a month into the relationship, she said we should get married immediately, I mean she wanted us to literally go to Vegas and get married Romeo and Juliet style, no family or friends and we will tell people after when we feel comfortable. I told her that I want to marry her but I want to wait, there are things I would like to sort out first I.e moving into together as we both still live at home with parents and I would also like to save money and give her the wedding she deserves, not just a cheap Vegas style wedding with an Elvis impersonator reading our vows in front of some random people. Now today I told her that I want to be with her forever and I love her, we are going on holiday in a few months and she turned around and said\u2019 \u201cwhy don\u2019t we get married on holiday\u201d? To which I responded with what I usually say like it\u2019s too soon, we haven\u2019t even moved in together yet. Now she isn\u2019t talking to me, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d49EAJNgRDZwnWHMdgnvkax12WFoifeD", "post_id": "ayog7g", "action": {"description": "wanting my father to go to jail", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my father to go to jail?", "text": "Hi reddit  \n\n\nI've never had any good relations with my parents due to mental and physical abuse and I was under custody of my grandparents from fathers side since young age. Recently it came up that my father is facing 20 day or so jail time OR pay 2000 as a bail. He turned to his parents and asked them to give him money so he doesn't have to. He owes them a lot of money already, and they KNOW he never gives any back, yet they still gave him the money. I am upset about this because I'm about to finish school and I want to attend university around three hours away from home, and I really need financial aid, because I am not able to pay for everything from the start alone. On top of that, in my opinion, jail would do him good because I know that my mother is very abusive and constantly on her drunken rage mode. He never paid for anything I needed. School, books, hobbies, pocket money, going out, medications, NOTHING.   \n\n\nI feel like I am right about it but my family is making me feel like an asshole for wanting him to go to jail, but I really think he deserves it.   \n\n\nSo, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KQ6YQlx36iGJY7AqwPZ40sfR9lgFvdpG", "post_id": "b91vgo", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed at this girl in my class", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed at this girl in my class", "text": "So I'm in forensics at my high school and this girl I sit next to always assumes we will be partners,She doesn't even ask me half the time. I just go with it because everyone else who I'd partner with has already has a group by the time I get ready. Today we went outside to cast shoe prints and this one guy I'm friends with asked if I wanted to partner up(my teacher wanted us to make groups of 3 or 4 people) because he had 1 person already I said that we should all make a group of 4. The girl(I'll call her C) proceeded to yell no that the group of . I had Oked it with the teacher so I just ignored her. \nWe get outside to find prints and then C says \"I don't wanna be in this group\"\nI said \"Fine, go find another group and stop complaining\". I was in a crappy mode today and said it in a cold-ish harsh tone. It was getting to me more than normally and I was getting sick of partnering with her all the time. I didn't talk to her at all after and I kinda feel like a jerk.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gcJpFS1FUTHTppnOLUPdSi3nLnK296AX", "post_id": "arheki", "action": {"description": "not helping my boyfriend navigate while driving", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not helping my boyfriend navigate while driving?", "text": "I\u2019m from more of a rural area so we don\u2019t have very much for city driving unless we go roughly 40 minutes away. So many people around here don\u2019t exactly know how to drive in the cities. I don\u2019t like driving for long periods of time because I get really bad highway hypnosis / I can hardly keep my eyes open. So on our last trip to the cities my boyfriend drove. While driving I noticed that he wasn\u2019t doing some of the basic driving rules like using a blinkers. I was navigating for him so we wouldn\u2019t get lost and brought the wrong way. I became a little concerned for both of our safeties when he started becoming hostile when I didn\u2019t give clear enough instructions. At one point he pretty much stopped listening to me when I told him not to take an exit. After a longer day shopping, I didn\u2019t really want to get scolded for an hour plus so I decided to sleep the whole way home giving him the gps so he could navigate himself. When I finally awoke when we were closer to home he said that I was the asshole for setting him up to fail. Am I the asshole in this situation? \n\nNote we are in a very happy relationship and this is one of our debates that we can\u2019t decide on our own who\u2019s in the wrong. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pK7qDFYxoBO7MydLNpVbUWDzcIJn8r02", "post_id": "b7p837", "action": {"description": "waking up my roommate to tell him to wash the dishes", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for waking up my roommate to tell him to wash the dishes?", "text": "So my roommate is about to leave for a flight at 2pm today, and since his sleep schedule is all messed up, he\u2019s basically nocturnal - he sleeps at 8am, and told me yesterday that he was going to pack up and clean everything overnight.\n\nAll of the kitchenware and dishes at our apartment are mine, meaning I paid for them, and I\u2019m allowing him to share them. When I eat food or cook, I generally either 1) wash the dishes right after I use them, or 2) fill them with water so nothing crusts over, and wash them later. For multiple times in the past few months, he has done neither, and I have to keep reminding him to wash them UNDER MY RULES. \n\nWell today, he slept at 8am (it\u2019s 11am right now), and he said he will clean the dishes yesterday night, but he STILL hasn\u2019t cleaned them. He ate curry so there\u2019s still dried, crusted yellow curry on the pan and plates. I woke him up a few minutes ago to tell him to clean the dishes, and he was upset at me for waking him up just for dishes. But I think I\u2019m justified, because it\u2019s my property, and using it should be under my rules. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tV0qpLqEWGqawk8924dGqRp55yh79jIO", "post_id": "ar01nz", "action": {"description": "talking about my ex/co parent with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for talking about my ex/co parent with my girlfriend", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 1 year. I have 3 kids from my 6 year marriage with my ex, which ended a little over a year ago. Kids are 2, 3, and 5.\n\nMy ex and I obviously have some bad blood there and disagreements over our kids, stemming from the fact that I don't get to see them nearly as much as I would like and I disagree with my ex's parenting and financial decisions. She also will not let me introduce my gf to my kids which is a point of contention.\n\nI admit I talk about this a fair bit, but it's really par for the course for anyone dating a parent. However, my girlfriend yesterday told me to stop and she doesn't want to hear it anymore. For some context, I was mentioning how I noticed the last time my ex dropped the kids off that her hair and nails were done, she was wearing nice clothes, and she has a new car, but the kids are dressed in ill fitting hand me downs that my ex got from her family. I was wondering aloud that perhaps she is not utilizing my child support and alimony payments in a completely selfless way. My girlfriend actually took my ex's side and told me to stop talking about my ex or we were done.\n\nI don't think what I'm doing is all that weird for a guy with kids. Obviously they're my priority and I want to make sure my ex is acting in their best interest at all times, and I'm going to discuss that with my partner. I am perhaps wondering if my girlfriend is not ready to date someone who is a parent, or if I'm in the wrong. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qOr73okfGhoU7Mnebwa56vtozg6TFWFu", "post_id": "9zzmjx", "action": {"description": "invalidating my sister's feelings", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for invalidating my sister's feelings?", "text": "My sister and I (M) are both working people living out of town, and we came home for Thanksgiving. I was in her room and she was showing me the Instagram page of the guy she liked. I reached over and quickly liked one of the photos as a joke and laughed, but quickly realized that she was definitely not laughing. She started angrily telling me how disrespectful that was and how it was such a stab in the back and \"how could I do such a thing?\". I thought this was a harmless joke because we immediately unliked the photo, making the notification disappear. I told her she was overreacting, which became the second nail in my coffin. Armed with the two injustices I dealt her: liking the Instagram photo and saying it wasn't a big deal, she went off on me saying how I invalidated her feelings and was blatantly disrespectful. I walked off in disbelief, but later apologized. She didn't really respond to that, but was relatively friendly during dinner, so I thought the matter was over. Now, 2 days later, she is going off on me again saying how all her friends agreed that what I did/said after was just unacceptable and a d-bag move.\n\nI'm honestly still confused as to how this escalated like this, and am also really annoyed for getting roasted so hard. Is liking and unliking an Instagram photo as a joke a real dick move that I should never do to anyone? And secondly, if I am the asshole, how could I have handled the situation better (after liking the photo)?\n\nTLDR: I liked an instagram photo of the dude my sister liked on her account. She got mad and I told her that she was overreacting. She's now madder.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jCjzXtcZMCXdoLyPTAM1qQDRxoum9JjR", "post_id": "al8u6n", "action": null, "title": "AITA? This is a rundown of my relationship with my ex... which has now been escalated to legal matters... but am I the asshole? Because I feel like it.", "text": "Basically my ex and I were together 3.5 years. We lived together 2 and have twins boys who are nearly 2. \n\nWe broke up 6 months ago. \n\nI have been diagnosed with adjustment disorder, PPD and I have anti depressants. I feel I was personally pushed. I kept giving and giving in our relationship and got nothing back which turned me into a bitch because I have nothing left to give. \n\nHe\u2019s a daily pot smoker. One night I ended up in hospital when I was 30 weeks pregnant with my twins while he was out smoking up with his mates. False labour. I told him to come be with me or get stuffed. I was scared. He walked in \u201care you happy now\u201d with the biggest attitude. Sat on his phone until I was DCd with the all clear then I had to drive him back to his mates so he could continue smoking up. I slept in the car. It wasn\u2019t something new to me. I slept in the car multiple times I wasn\u2019t allowed to go with him because one of his mates said so.. he\u2019d continually chose spots that were hard for me to walk to or houses I wasn\u2019t allowed to go to. \n\nI received a grand total of 3 gifts throughout our entire relationship... 2 of which were asked for (flowers). I got him gifts or made him a card and special breakfast on any special occasion. In 2017 he spent $300 on pot for him and his mates for their 20th birthday.. on my birthday his mates came over for a bbq.. supposedly for me. Ex said he never had any money but always had money for pot or alcohol (usually $70 and up).. \n\nI had to spend 16 months watching him act like his kids were a pest and that he would rather be anywhere else but home... choosing his phone or Xbox than spend time with them. I watched him physically abuse one at 2 months of age because he wouldn\u2019t stop crying and ex couldn\u2019t go smoke pot. (It\u2019s been reported don\u2019t stress).. because of that I never trusted him alone with them. I took on all the night feeds and changes etc on my own. I raised these two by myself because I was too scared to ask him for help. He would generally crack the shits so I just didn\u2019t bother. 2 weeks post c section of the twins I dragged them and myself out of bed at 4am to take ex to work..and then Pick him up that afternoon. All he did was work, come home sit on his phone and smoke. If I had to cook dinner and the babies needed a bath I\u2019d have to ask him several times and wait for him to finish whatever he was doing on his phone (which was usually him screaming obscenities at mobile phone games)... or walking around punching and breaking things. He went through 8 phones in 3 months due to smashing them in his face when he lost his game.\n\nHe screamed at me on a daily basis especially over games. I\u2019d be called a fucking regard, dumb bitch, stupid cunt.. you name it I was it. My cooking wasn\u2019t cooking. Just because I cooked some meat and veg etc doesn\u2019t mean it was cooking.. there was a time there where he actually criticised how I didn\u2019t eat Indian \u201chow Indians ate it\u201d..  told me he wanted to crash the car (while he was driving I was teaching him how to drive so he could get a license) and kill us WITH the kids in the car... this happened about 5 times. \n\nIf I asked to go out on a date because everyday was exactly the same.. him sitting on his phone, or Xbox and his mates over every single weekend smoking yo out the back I had to wait until he had enough money.. but he always had money for pot. \n\nWe break up. 3 weeks before our wedding. Apparently I have made his life miserable and it was hell having to come home to me. Gee I wonder why. I moved back home. Instead of paying child support he was blowing $900 a month on pot, smokes, Xbox and take away for him and his mates. It\u2019s taken 5 months for him to finally start paying properly but not before he bought himself a car. I\u2019ve played my part. I hound him to be more involved in our kids lives and stop pretending they don\u2019t exist when he\u2019s home yet when he\u2019s here he\u2019s always posting pics painting the image that he\u2019s such a loving and great dad. I call him selfish and a dead beat because all he thought about for those 5 months and even now is himself. \n\nHe\u2019s since threatened to kill himself, 3 times and have me put in jail for it, threatened to have me killed by someone twice.. now I have a court date for a domestic violence order for myself and my kids. I feel really guilty and I don\u2019t know why. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SoOkN28bIUXozYOAqPPLXb1fLg9hK6Gf", "post_id": "amzrji", "action": {"description": "not donating", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I don't donate?", "text": "My school forced us to donate $10 to the school by making is sell some $1 lucky draw ticket but I don't really want to donate. Apparently the money goes to school programs and kids who need financial aid, but I don't really want to donate the money. Am I the asshole for not donating?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jiA55aK6ChV8bH5HvUbL7fcjKnjX1mls", "post_id": "b712d8", "action": {"description": "telling my mother in-law to GTFO", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for telling my mother in-law to GTFO?", "text": "Background: Wife and I just had our first kid, so out of state mother in law (MIL) decided to work transfer to help us with out. We all agreed that that she would have the baby the majority of the time for 2 days while I was at work and my wife was at work, any other time my wife would be home to help while I was at work or out to sea (navy). We also agreed that because I go to school full time online that she would watch him while I needed to do a test or study. Shes really been alot of help but sometimes she unintentionally hurts my wifes confidence as a parent by attempting to undermine our authority.\n\nIncident: since Monday my 2 1/2 month old has had a runny nose and his typical fussiness, no other symptoms of illness. So my wife and I both agree that if he were to get even one more symptom we would make an appointment. My MIL on the other hand claims he has a sore throat and has come to this diagnosis because he doesn't finish his bottles when hes with her and assumes it's his throat. This is something me and my wife disagree with because he eats perfectly fine when hes with us and we have him the majority of the time. Even with this information she still insist hes got a sore throat and we should take him in asap. Again, my wife and I have both decided what our the threshold was for a doctors vist which is supported by the information given to us by his pediatrician.Yet she still disagrees.\n\nSo yesterday while out shopping we get a call from her and shes asking for the appointment number so she can make an appointment. This enraged me but not to the point where I was willing to make a big deal, because its coming from a good place. Anyway, my wife and I get home and I make a joke as I walk in. I say as I laugh , \"wheres my baby, do you have him on life support?\" This joke puts her into a rage and turns into her making comments implying we are terrible parents because we dont agree with her assessment of my son and because we've already decided when we would take him in. She also states that she is no longer going to be helping with the baby on days that my wife doesn't work, such as times when I have to study and do homework, and that it wouldn't hurt her if she moved back home and didn't see us again. (You all may take this as talking out of her ass but we've seen it happen.) So after about 20 minutes of me defending our stance she still doesnt see anything wrong with what shes said and walks off as if shes the victim. Anyway this hurts my wifes feelings and has her feeling like shes not a good mother to our boy because of the things her mom implies and says.\n\nAITA if I just straight up tell her to pack her shit and go, also do yall have any advice? We've vocally set boundaries and yet this is happening.What I thought would alleviate stress on us has actually done the complete opposite.\nI broke down a while ago and I guess as a form of therapy I typed all this down.\n\nThank you to who ever reads and responds.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GFF094lBskUxshaqAauI5FzzafYW73VC", "post_id": "b73cyo", "action": {"description": "not deleting nude photos of my ex-girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 63}, "title": "AITA for not deleting nude photos of my ex-girlfriend", "text": "    A couple weeks ago my girlfriend, Amanda, and I broke up. We had been together for about seven months. If it matters, the breakup was her choice, but I understand why she made it. She said we weren't right for each other, and she was right that the two of us had different priorities, so it's not like I harbor any anger towards her for her choice.\n\n    The two of us had different work schedules, which meant we didn't get to see each other as often as we would have liked. We did exchange nude pictures as a way to keep each other \"satisfied\" when we couldn't do it in person.\n\n    The two of us are part of a volunteering group (that's how we met), and we have a meeting next Wednesday. Last night, the following text conversation went down:\n\nAmanda: I trust by now you've deleted any sensitive images you may have had of me\n\nMe: No\n\nAmanda: I will be checking your phone next week to make sure you have done that\n\nMe: No need. I'm not gonna do that\n\n    And then she got upset and started accusing me of using the pictures of blackmail. I told her I'm not gonna share them anywhere or show anybody else. Truly, I would never do that to her or anyone. I will never show the pictures to anybody else, and I will never try to hold them over her head for anything. I'm not keeping them out of spite, they are simply for my own continued enjoyment.\n\n    Am I in the wrong here? She said she deleted the pictures she had of me, but I don't really care about that. That was her choice, and I would've been perfectly fine if she kept them for herself. She'd already seen me naked, so it's not like the pictures would show her anything she hadn't already seen or I hadn't already consented to her seeing. Why should it be any different in reverse?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 63, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 63}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lZIOZRkZ08P27yjxaHNVs1Wb4UUAILq5", "post_id": "a9jsa7", "action": {"description": "being angry at my boyfriends cousin, who has down syndrome, for being all over my dog", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being angry at my boyfriends cousin, who has down syndrome, for being all over my dog.", "text": "For some background, I recently rescued my dog and he has a lot issues with people, and other dogs. At first he was really scared of people/dogs and now he\u2019s over excited. He hasn\u2019t had lots of exposure to new people/dogs prior to me adopting him. He also can get aggressive when frustrated.  When people or other dogs are in his face when he doesn\u2019t want to play he doesn\u2019t know how to show disinterest without getting aggressive. I\u2019m very protective of him because he is my little guy and I want him to be happy and healthy and have a good life because he hasn\u2019t had any of that prior to being with me. \n\nI brought him to my boyfriends house and his cousins came as well. His cousin, who has down syndrome, is really nice but is obsessed with my dog. The cousin is constantly trying to force my dog to sit or lay down, they also are really rough when they\u2019re \u201cplaying\u201d, they pick my dog up constantly, and when my dog is trying to sleep the cousin is in his face and just all over him. My dog just wants to lay down and the cousin wakes him up to pet him and try to play. The cousin also tries to tell my dog to do stuff and not do stuff and holy shit I can\u2019t take it, it\u2019s pissing me off. I really can\u2019t take the cousin any more. \n\nI am getting so angry because my dog is just trying to relax. He doesn\u2019t know how to interact properly. I\u2019m trying to get him comfortable with people and other animals and I don\u2019t feel like this is helping. \n\nI didn\u2019t say anything to any because I feel like an asshole. In this situation my dog didn\u2019t get aggressive and didn\u2019t try to bite (thank GOD) which makes me feel like I\u2019m overreacting. Am I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rqdlRuCWgArpC0J2DgrNrRCzzHrQFCo1", "post_id": "aslk1n", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my best friend because she's dating a guy she knows I like", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my best friend because she\u2019s dating a guy she knows I like?", "text": "A little backstory, my best friend M and I have lived together for 6 years and were basically attached at the hip. About 6 months ago we met this guy through mutual friends. The night we met him I couldn\u2019t stop talking about how much I liked him/how obsessed I was with him. Nothing happened between us that night but I still talked about him all the time to M, but he lives in a different state than us.  A few weeks after that night, the guy added M on Snapchat out of the blue and came to me right away asking if she should add him back. I asked her if she was into him at all, she said she wasn\u2019t into him at all. I told her that I was bummed he added her and not me and that it would hurt my feelings if she added him back, she did anyways and said it\u2019s because she \u201cdidn\u2019t want to look like an asshole\u201d. They begin to Snapchat back and forth, I tell M that it hurts my feelings that\u2019s she\u2019s still talking to him. A few months go by and we end up spending the weekend with this guy and some other friends. I again talk to M about how I like him, she insists that she doesn\u2019t like him. A week after that M tells me that she \u201cthinks she likes\u201d the guy. I tell her that if she\u2019s going to pursue things with him I can\u2019t just sit back and watch my best friend do something that she knows is really hurting me. I basically made her choose and she chose the boy. \nAm I the Asshole if I end the friendship? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "abQZnp9hVqoVsLAbvjw8VkWvfaUKosxN", "post_id": "abzfug", "action": {"description": "making my ex pay the entire rent", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I made my ex pay the entire rent ?", "text": "So my girlfriend  (20) and I (21) broke up on NYE (she broke up with me )  witch  normally is pretty straight forward you change your Facebook status and you\u2019re done. But we made the mistake of moving in together 2+ hours from home the rent is 1300 (650 each ) plus utilities but since we broke up and I have no reason to stay in the town (she does she goes to college) I\u2019m moving back to my parents, where I can live rent free. \n\n     Here\u2019s the tricky part my ex is the only one on the lease I\u2019m not legally obligated to pay for my half (or entitled to the apartment or anything in it). Its too late in the school year for my ex to get a sub leaser till at least next semester (3 months)  I\u2019m willing to pay my half of the rent but my mom is basically saying I owe my ex nothing and that I already paid January\u2019s rent even though I\u2019m not living there and that\u2019s more than I needed to do and she has a good job ($23) an hour a full ride and parents to help her and that I\u2019m nothing more then a \u201cfriend\u201d at this point and owe her nothing \n\n\n   So is my mom right ? Or would I be the asshole for leaving my ex to pay for the all of the bills ?  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SZcX1pQF0SNzJswDRQV7u3uZUdIt8dRf", "post_id": "alvk6u", "action": {"description": "telling my opinion", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my opinion", "text": "Let me do a tldr: because its really a long story. I (M) am against third wave feminism and all of the stuff that comes with it. I believe that women and men are equal in all qualities,but i think that females are much more priviledged in this modern era society because they had been opressed for so long. I was discussing with a friend about my slander on women that go out in inapropriate clothing,my personal opinion is that these days most women are dressing inapropriately. Also i got confronted that i was too obsessed with girls that have sugar daddies(specifically i said that it is sickening and unnatural for a 45year old guy, to have a sexual relationship with an 18year old.),my friend said that that aint my problem, but i think that it is,the girl i talk about posts the old dudes and its just sick. My friend thinks i am sexist and an asshole because i have a set of beliefs that don't correspond to hers,we have been friends for three years now, and every time we have a heated discussion or fight,she is always the one that is mad about something, because it seems that i am an asshole in general. I need your opinion, am i an asshole for stating that most females live on recruit difficulty and that they dress and wear themselves inapropriately. Thanks.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "o1ws8j8549x97O0ZYJf40YslubFqpBiu", "post_id": "azaz6p", "action": {"description": "skinny shaming a co-worker", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 57}, "title": "AITA for skinny shaming a co-worker?", "text": "I work in an industry running structured cable for commercial security. I am currently working with 2 younger workers where we are with each other for 10 hours a day. Both of my peers are very into body image, with one (the lead tech on site) being of smaller stature, but both work out daily, and the lead is pretty ripped.\n\nLast week my 2 co-workers and I were wiring a door where we had to pull 6 wires through a hole that was pre-drilled to fit 4. Rather than re-drill the hole, the lead decided that he was going to make them fit. \n\nThe wires weren't moving, so I said \"C'mon, put all your 95 pounds into it!\"\n\nHis immediate response was \"Yeah, I may only be 95 pounds, but I'm stronger than your fat ass will ever be.\"\n\nNow, I'm a bigger guy, but I feel like his response was WAY out of line. When I questioned the other tech, he said that the lead is uncomfortable with being 'picked' on for being scrawny. Our entire work environment has changed as a result of this exchange, which is compounded by the fact that we all have to sit three across for 2 hours a day commuting to and from the job site.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 54, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 57}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1CwMtcx9jM0jtPOXqBRbxzE0ttPigyng", "post_id": "a0uu21", "action": {"description": "gaslighting my dad", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for gaslighting my dad?", "text": "I'm 15, my dad is 43. Idk if that's relevant, but it's there if it is. \n\nMy dad is retired Army, kicked out after being \"blown up a few too many times\".  My twin and I recently joined a pseudomilitaristic group called Civil Air Patrol. Think JROTC.  Ever since we did, my dad's been hounding us about physical fitness. This is fair. I'm not in great shape, and was in even worse when we started. He proposed an arrangement- we could only attend CAP if we ran two miles, three times a week. Since we wanted to attend CAP, we agreed, and have been running for nearly three years now.\n\nEarlier this year, I got sick of the shape I was in, and started really putting some effort into working out. I downloaded an app to help me workout at home, because they don't let me go to the gym, I started really pushing myself on running, and even taking the dog for running in the evenings. Eventually, he put a stop to that last one, telling me it was too dangerous to go out when it's dark.  But still! I was improving, and everything reflected that. \n\nSo now we're up to yesterday. It was cold (36\u00b0F), and rainy. Not running weather. Since he excuses us for cold weather or rain separately, I texted him the circumstances, so he would see them when he woke up, and did a workout in my room instead. When he woke up, I told him that I had worked out. He nodded, and seemed content. \n\nYesterday evening though, he asked why we hadn't run. I repeated what I'd said in my text. He said sometimes it was cold and wet, and that we should've run anyway. And that even if we didn't run, we should've worked out. I explained that I had worked out, and told him about it, and he got angry, and explained that he wanted us to do *cardio*, on an exercise bike. I apologize. Ok, that's fair, sorry, should've done cardio. \n\nSo now that we've established my and my sister's fault, he moves towards punishment.  \"What can I do to help you do better?\" That might sound supportive, but his idea of helping is offering \"incentive\" to obey better in the future. When we were younger, these incentives were primarily spanking us with a belt. Now that we're older, he mostly just confiscates \"distractions\". \n\nI suggest that he shouldn't. That getting out of shape is a natural consequence of not working out, and if he wants us to develop self discipline, which he professes to be his motive, he should let us face the natural consequences of our decisions.\n\nHe doesn't like that. He says that he \"Doesn't care about *why* we obey, only *that* we obey.\".\n\nThis is old ground. We've argued before over whether only logic matters in decisions, or whether emotion has some stake. I am firmly on the latter, he won't budge from the former. \n\nWe go back and forth for a while about whether intent and motivation matter. He says a number of things minimizing my progress in running, says that he tried to instill self discipline in us but \"doesn't know where he went wrong with [my twin].\" At one point, I'm frustrated with cutting remarks, and begin crying. Eventually he issues another statement. \"I care that *you* care about the why.\" This seems contradictory to his earlier statement, so I bring it up and compare the two. He says I'm gaslighting him. \n\nThings escalated fiercely after that; I don't say anything in my defense, but my sister tells him the thought of me gaslighting anyone is ridiculous. I attempt to interject, as now the two of them are arguing over what I said,  using a phrase he used earlier - \"I'm here, luckily, so I can clarify my own statements\".  He yells that I'm \"immature, petty, and not worth talking to like an adult\", and sends me to bed. We haven't talked since. \n\nI know I could've conducted myself better, and even this portrayal is probably unfair. I wasn't trying to be manipulative, but crying could've been underhanded.  I don't think I was gaslighting him, but I also don't know enough about gaslighting to say either way. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B2oLKhzhBLIrSdxhiQAO9y1ORQnPCBh8", "post_id": "angv8z", "action": {"description": "telling my mother she won't be able to visit us with her dog", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mother she won't be able to visit us with her dog?", "text": "My mother and my stepfather have a large dog, which my mother treats as her child. He lets him do anything, the dog is not particularly trained, which is why I've always found him annoying and problematic. It is not the dog's fault, of course, but it does not change the fact that I limit staying with him to a minimum. I like to play with him a little, pet him, but then I have enough. Besides, I prefer cats and always annoyed me when my mother referred to the dog as \"my brother\". They also have two cats that get along well with the dog, but they had been growing up together.\n\n​\n\nSome time ago my boyfriend (26) and I (25) had decided that we would save a certain amount of money and return to the country, and then we would put the money into a thorough renovation of my boyfriend's family house. We want to live there and start a family.\n\nMy boyfriend has a cat (my soon-to-be-father-in-law takes care of him after we left our homeland). The animal is rather skittish, it is very difficult for him to adapt to new conditions. Renovation of the house will be difficult for him, but he will have to survive somehow. We also plan to have more cats later.\n\n​\n\nWhen I told my mother that we had decided to move into that house, after a short development of the topic, she said \"how great it's going to stay in our place over the weekend WITH A DOG, because the house is big, blah blah.\" She didn't even ask for permission.\n\nI have already talked about this before with my partner and we kinda knew it was coming (my boyfriend also doesn't want any dog in our house). I told my mother, quite gently, that it is not a good idea to bring the dog with them, because our cat is afraid of noise, strangers and never in his life saw a dog and we will not give him more stress, as we have no idea how both of them will react to each other. That in our town is a really nice hotel for dogs that we could pay for when they come to see us. And that of course, without a dog they are very welcome to visit us and stay for couple of nights and we'll be delighted.\n\nMy mother went berserk. She started a row in which she told me a lot of unpleasant things such as \"you traded your own mother for a cat\" and that \"some stupid cat is more important to me than my mother\". And that she will not come to our house, because either with a dog or not at all \". Because you know, the poor dog will not stay home alone like he did a thousand times before. I always knew that my mother is very explosive, she says whatever she feels like saying at the moment and she's very controlling, but honestly it still hurt me, as I feel like she's the one that chose the dog over her only daughter.\n\nWe had some issues in the past (both her and my fault) and I would love to try to have a good relationship with her (she admitted to feeling very lonely and missing me, and that she's very afraid I won't have her in my life). She made me feel guilty and really bad about myself, that's why I started to think \"AITA?\" Should I let her bring that damn dog with her, even if it's not what we (my boyfriend and I) want and decided?\n\n​\n\nIf anyone have any ideas how to solve this problem, please - give your opinion. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QZMzyzrH3ocIZU6LZzUSmn5wwXtZt7ME", "post_id": "9wc3s4", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend not to move out of state", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for asking my girlfriend not to move out of state?", "text": "We\u2019ve been dating for about 6 months but were friends long before. We met in undergrad, and she finishes grad school this year. I\u2019m local but she\u2019s not and it\u2019s always been her plan to return to her home city after school.\n\nI thought she might reconsider since when she told me that we weren\u2019t dating yet, but she still wants to.\n\nI\u2019m applying to med school right now but it\u2019s looking like I won\u2019t get in anywhere so I\u2019ll have to reapply next year, meaning I\u2019ll be in our city for at least another year. I asked my girlfriend to stay for now and then we can do long distance when I start med school but she really wants to go back to her hometown. I\u2019ve brought it up a couple times but she\u2019s pretty set and told me it\u2019s not fair to \u201cput her life in limbo\u201d in a city that isn\u2019t home just waiting to see where I\u2019ll live for med school.\n\nAITA because I keep asking her to stay? Is it wrong that I\u2019m really annoyed about it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4kPRZv9ycynvtaHEHw1ktpX3aDmaubhO", "post_id": "apqa98", "action": {"description": "being upset at my wife for playing a game later than when we go to bed", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset at my wife for playing a game later than when we go to bed.", "text": "So I wouldve had no issue if she was playing in our den. But we are always asleep before midnight but not tonight. I come in the room and she is saving the game so I'm like ok cool. I ask her if she is getting off she says no I already planned on finishing the game. \n\nSo ok naturally i understand that aspect. However the issue comes in where she is pissed off that I'd like to go to bed. This goes into a whole nother issue where she has felt bad lately, like colds and shit but hasn't gone to bed at a reasonable time in months now. So I ask why she isnt going to bed and she tells me I can take my ass to the couch. She gets pissed off at me for wanting to go to bed....in our bed room. \n\nSo time goes on and she is done and finally laying down and I'm like I understand why you wanted to keep playing but there was no need to be an ass. She goes back on her tangent about how she already planned to do it. Basically fuck what I wanted and that this is the bedroom. I had to suck it up and deal with it. \n\nThrow away for obv reasons", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zo1Q5Zodd4u1s4S0pCya03Q98JVRLf1l", "post_id": "auza1l", "action": {"description": "sending screenshots of abusive messages to the abuser's family", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for sending screenshots of abusive messages to the abuser\u2019s family?", "text": "My friend is a wonderful, kind, beautiful single mom. Recently she was minding her own business when a strange man who lives in our city decided to message her on Facebook and try to strike up a conversation. He pretended that they had met before but she had no recollection of that. He tried to turn the conversation in a sexual direction by offering to send her a dick pic. She jokingly said \u201cok, I\u2019ll send it to my group chat so me and my friends can laugh at it.\u201d\n\nHe didn\u2019t understand the sarcasm and proceeded to send the dick pic. He then started to get hostile when he realized that she wasn\u2019t interested and began spouting disgusting, racist abuse (my friend is Asian). He insulted her looks, called her a whole range of misogynistic insults and even went as far as to say \u201cyour daughter looks like she has down\u2019s syndrome.\u201d \n\nThis was the tipping point for my friend. She laughed off the stuff he said about her, but when he insulted her daughter she got really angry. We have a Facebook group for women in the city we live in and she decided to post screenshots of their conversation as a warning to avoid this person. \n\nWhen I saw the screenshots I was extremely angry and decided to forward them to the man\u2019s family as he sounds like a dangerous individual to me and I thought his family deserved to know what he\u2019s really like. Some other women followed suit and sent them to his employer, friends and family members.\n\nNow other women are telling us that what we did was immoral and possibly illegal. I know that his family will probably be upset by this, but in my opinion, that\u2019s the guy\u2019s fault for saying such disgusting things in the first place. Thoughts? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Q23FYrgst9NxqLdTAo55n5RUpUvUOszF", "post_id": "asysfy", "action": {"description": "taking away the controller when my boyfriend getting violent over a game", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for taking away the controller when my boyfriend getting violent over a game", "text": "So my boyfriends doing that motioncontrol maze puzzle in  zelda breath of the wilds and he has been trying for about haft an hour at this point when he starts punching his dresser and desk I put out my hand and he hands me the controller I close the game. he mumbled out that it was a mistake to hand me the controller. And I tell him that I don't want him breaking my concsel (are tv set up is on top his dresser). Apparently he thought I was going to do the puzzle for him. \nAfter this he snaps at me that I need to wear headphones while watching a video when there's nothing else on in the room, except his computer wich is on a chat website with no sound coming out. \nI terned off my video and turned tords the wall since I couldn't find my headphones. He then puts on his jacket and starts to walk out. I asked him where he was going. He snapped out that he's going to his parents. I asked him why (it was late enuf that going to his parents ment staying the night or coming back at an ungodly hour early in the morning) we talk for a bit and he begrudgingly sits down in his computer chair and gose back on his computer and tells me, he's staying up late tonight and he dosent want to cuddle when he dose come to bed. Note that it's near impossible for me to sleep without cuddling someone and before we got together I'd been battling insomnia since I stopped sharing a bed with my brothers dog also noting that he knows that. \n\nTbh I'm not sure how to respond to that and we've been sitting in silence since he sead that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K3uz1n0QHvXrJRSLzcKDz0Jy10EORgzj", "post_id": "atw63x", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk to my in laws after their dog attacked mine", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk to my in laws after their dog attacked mine?", "text": "Hey guys, this is long. Apologies for any formatting issues/mistakes I'm in my phone and it's 2 am almost.\n\nYesterday my 10 week old puppy was attacked by my sister-in-law's 10 month old French bulldog. This resulted in my puppy losing a lot of blood, and being rushed to the vets only to be told they didn't know if he would survive the night (he did!! Yay!!). \nMy boy was attacked when my mother in law was holding him, and then placed him on the ground in front of the French bulldog, when there was food around, and the French bulldog has a history of severe food aggression! My dog did absolutely NOTHING wrong, was just put on the ground in the wrong place. We then rushed him to the vets.\n\nWhile we were at the vets my mother in law said/did a few things which really upset me\n       1) that I would be causing a rift in the family for being angry at my sister in law & her girlfriend\n      2) Made a big show about being sad when staff were there, was fine as soon as they left\n      3) told me that her dog had been attacked by the French bulldog plenty of times and that I don't have the right to be angry (to which I responded how many times has she been covered in her own dogs blood).\n     \nWe went today to pick him up from the vet, and my mother in law came (as she will be paying his vet bills), and she cracked it at me when I referred to the French bulldog as a \"monster\" and said my puppy will never go near him again, and because I refused her offer if babysitting my puppy. She made a few comments about having to pay the vet bill, then walked out and sat in the car without saying anything.\n\nSince yesterday I received one apology from my sister-in-law's girlfriend, but her wording made it sound like I was the one in the wrong for being angry. I  have also not received an apology from my sister in law, or from my mother in law for her actions that lead to this. I haven't even had any messages checking up on me to see if I am okay after what happened.\n\nI am ridiculously angry about all of this. Not only have they put my puppy in danger and his life at risk, they refuse to acknowledge or apologize for anything.\n\nSo am I the asshole?\n\nTL;Dr my 10 week old puppy was attacked and almost killed by my sister in law's dog. My mother in law who put him in the situation and sister in law refuse to apologize ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Un1fd6KPOhcP7x4jhMlOBVr6QPW5vrA4", "post_id": "b8qfs2", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend to be more affectionate", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my boyfriend to be more affectionate?", "text": "**If he\u2019s already dealing with a lot?**\nUh, here we go. I try my best to be as supportive to him as I can. I don\u2019t feel equally supported in return, but I used to let it go.\nIt all started with us abruptly not talking as much. He would go hours or days to respond if I texted him, and while this peeved me a bit (sometimes it was important) I let it go. Our relationship isn\u2019t that old (4 months), so I moved on.\nSoon every time we talked in person, he acted pissed off and nasty, snapping at me and walking faster if I was walking with him to try and lose me.\nI assumed I was being too clingy or needy, so I dialled it back. When I didn\u2019t talk to him, we didn\u2019t talk at all. The small moments we had started leaving me feeling drained and upset. I was so obviously the only one who cared other people started noticing.\nI never told him anything was wrong. He\u2019d made fun of me before when I was lonely, and I could tell he was unhappy, so I kept it to myself. His friends also always dump their problems on him even if they don\u2019t mean to, and I didn\u2019t want to be like that. I could deal with it, until I couldn\u2019t,\nWe ended up two weeks without contact at all, even though I tried multiple times to text him (not daily). I cried a lot during this period, and I know it\u2019s immature. I\u2019m not proud.\nThe week leading up to this he told me over and over how much he didn\u2019t care about anything or anyone. He also blew me off after agreeing to hang out with me (and then ignored the text when I told him that it was fine he couldn\u2019t go out, but if next time he could just tell me first?)\nI decided I wanted to break up. We weren\u2019t in an equal relationship anymore, and I need affection in a relationship.\nMaybe I should\u2019ve, I got really close to, but I knew I\u2019d regret it heavily. I get attached easily.\nWe had a very short conversation about it and I said I felt like a pest. He told me I definitely wasn\u2019t, that sometimes he just goes offline like that (without warning I guess), and that he\u2019s been having a lot of issues and didn\u2019t want to talk about it. I didn\u2019t push for it.\nIt was a five minute conversation, but it was better than nothing. I want a more in depth one tomorrow.\nSo, strangers, would I be the asshole if I asked for more affection from someone who\u2019s going through a lot?\nTL:DR: My boyfriend and I have horrible communication skills, and I don\u2019t feel supported or loved anymore. My boyfriend is very sad. This is because of (unstated) issues unrelating to me. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VgXm4abjEEQvdG8Xcoujvjkr0ycT3STD", "post_id": "af6irx", "action": {"description": "calling someone out for faking a serious mental illness for attention", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for calling someone out for faking a serious mental illness for attention?", "text": "Context (long story, but the details are relevant): \n\nOne of the girls (19F) I (18M) go to college with has a friend from high school (that does not go to the college) that sometimes comes to campus to hang out in the student lounge (college is relaxed about this). Let's call this friend Tina (20F). A few months ago, Tina attended a gaming club meeting to play Mario Kart with us (that I didn't actually attend). She met a guy there, Chris (21M), and they started talking. Chris made it very clear that they could sleep together, but he did not want a relationship with her. So Tina and Chris slept together. The next meeting (I didn't attend again), she shows up again. Tina tries to act like Chris's girlfriend, and he denies her. She bugs out to the highest degree, and tries to kill herself right then and there. Police and ambulance were called. She's sent to a psychiatric hospital and is discharged a month later.\n\nThe next month, I finally meet Tina. She starts off immediately with the whole \"woe is me I'm so depressed I'm miserable 24/7\" thing. We get to talking about things, she makes a mention of the whole Chris situation. Trying to be supportive, I tell her that he was kind of a dick and that she didn't really deserve to be treated that way, but her reaction was probably very far out of line with a realistic way to behave at the age of 20. She agreed. The meeting starts and everything is fine. Chris brought his PS4 and is playing Red Dead, I'm playing Stardew Valley on my laptop, and Tina and a couple other people are playing Mario Kart. Chris has not said a single word to Tina, and everything is fine. Tina and her friend leave to go to the gym for a little bit. Chris says something along the lines of \"what is her problem?\" because Tina was glaring at him the whole time. She catches wind of this, and storms back into the lounge. She \"blacks out\" and starts being really verbally cruel to Chris. Her friend gets her into her car and takes her home (after dropping off a few of the other students at their own houses, because they were on the way and had no rides). This entire sequence was a play-by-play ripoff of the Criminal Minds episode with the guy who has MPD and \"blacks out\" and turns into a female alter ego when he gets angry. I leave with Chris and we talked about the situation on the way home, and we agreed that she needs some sort of serious help because acting like this isn't healthy for anybody involved.\n\nTina and I continue to talk for a bit after this over text. She's constantly acting like she's super depressed, talking about self-harm and music like it's 2008 and we're in middle school. I ask Tina's friend if she has MPD (knowing the answer because of a prior experience), and she says no. After a while (like another month of being supportive and kind), I get tired of Tina blaming everyone else for her problems and saying that nobody will ever treat her right, etc. I tell her that ultimately, she is responsible for her own actions and needs to take some initiative to get herself better (I say that as someone with crippling depression and anxiety that only got better when I decided to push myself).\n\nShe said that she's 100% incapable of getting better, because of everyone else constantly being against her. I told her that if you're claiming to be miserable 24/7/365, either you're faking for attention, or there's another factor at play that needs to change. She bugs out and asks me how I know that she's faking. I told her that her entire \"MPD episode\" was ripped from Criminal Minds, and that I have an ex-girlfriend who did the same exact thing when I was 14. When I asked my therapist about it, he said that it's incredibly unlikely that she (my ex) actually has MPD, and if she did, she'd be highly medicated or in a rehabilitation center. I shared this information, and told her that whatever the actual problem is, I hope she gets the help that she needs, because the way she's acting is not healthy for her or anybody around her. L goes off on me, saying I'm a horrible person, I'm not a doctor and can never know (even if my mother studied psychology and I read the texts on MPD), I don't know what mental illness is (even though I have three diagnosed ones and am going to therapy for them), I don't deserve to ever be happy, etc., and then promptly blocks me.\n\nAITA for calling Tina out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cNJrUcSVbFAAYDjHXdECcCMbfVP91Ap7", "post_id": "al5qay", "action": {"description": "wanting to eBay flip", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to eBay flip?", "text": "I made a mistake because I need money and am strapped for cash.\n\nI found a sound module on eBay for half the price it usually goes for so I bought it and am waiting to ship.\n\nAnd I don't know how or why I thought it was a good idea (probably because I'm autistic), but I ended up telling people in a discord group I was in that I was gonna eBay flip, and someone told me it was incredibly despicable and disgusting.\n\nI immediately felt bad, but I decided not to retaliate, so I just simply replied with \"\ud83d\ude10\" and left.\n\nNow I'm incredibly hurt and I hate both people and myself. How could I think this was a good idea. How could I think it was a good idea to tell people. Why must I be like this. And why must everyone assume that my intentions are nefarious.\n\nI don't allow myself to feel hate or disdain directly towards the people who told me that's disgusting, and they're probably right and I'm in the wrong for trying to earn some extra money.\n\nI hate this world.\n\nI hate people. I hate myself. People are trash, nothing more, nothing less. Including myself, for what I intended to do. And I'm someone who can't understand other people.\n\nI'm 17.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1Ql5wG8nPXclZV7CnKdOQXYlFn22etlm", "post_id": "b7qmax", "action": {"description": "keeping plates with the Sequoyah alphabet on them", "pronormative_score": 46, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for keeping plates with the Sequoyah alphabet on them?", "text": "So, recently my grandmother passed and we were going through her house to figure out what to donate, keep, sell ect. Initially, I was very hesitant to keep anything, but my mother pointed out the kind of (hoarder seems too harsh?) keeper my grandmother was, and that she would have been overjoyed if I kept any of her things. As it stands, I don't have a nice set of dishes in my apartment, and I saw a beautiful green set in her attic. I decided I was going to keep them and take them with me when I moved into my first house. Around the edges, there's a set of characters that I didn't know what they meant, but I loved the dishes, so I packed them and put them away.\n\nRecently, I (a white woman) was telling a friend (another white woman) about these plates and she asked me to show her a photo of them. I asked my mother to send a picture and asked her if she knew what the characters were. She told me that they were letters from the Sequoyah alphabet, and my grandmother had purchased the plates on a trip to New Mexico when she was younger. I showed my friend the pictures and told her this, and she told me that I could not keep the plates. She said owning a set of dishes with Native American writing on them was cultural appropriation and I was disrespecting a culture by owning them. My logic was that my grandmother had bought (not stolen) them from actual Cherokee people, instead of buying them from like IKEA or somewhere else that didn't have cultural ties to the language. So, AITA for wanting to keep them? I genuinely want to know.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 45, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 46, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eCay1ECQ4AvgN5zsyxvdD8d5KCbPJuYK", "post_id": "aslt2k", "action": {"description": "telling half stories after realising noone is listening", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling half stories after realising noone is listening?", "text": "Hey, this doesn't happen always but it does happen. I'll be hanging out with some friends and we'll be having a good time but then half way through me talking about something I kinda notice them not paying attention so I basically stop talking or try saying anything without getting a reaction or a reply. I haven't done anything for them to ignore me on purpose and maybe half the time they'll be on their phone or interrupt me to talk to someone else. I do have friends that would listen to my every word because I'm seen as the weird/funny/bad luck guy. I feel like an arsehole mainly due to thinking I'm boring them and I'm just a tag along for them to keep me company but on the other hand I feel like they're the ones being shitty", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oU74q6ysZSXGUxsGyaxtQaVMVqkICtdo", "post_id": "b34ykt", "action": null, "title": "AITA My SO came out to me as non-binary and I\u2019m not okay with it.", "text": "  I\u2019m 29F my SO is 27NB. I tried to be alright with it but I didn\u2019t find out until about 3 or 4 months after they started taking T-blockers and estrogen. I was really hurt when I found out but I tried to be okay with it. It\u2019s been about 3 months since I found out and I realized I\u2019m not okay with it and I\u2019m losing attraction to them. I feel so guilty for saying this the them and hurting them. \n\n   I always thought I would date anyone regardless of their gender so I can\u2019t seem to figure out why I\u2019m not okay with this. Am I a total piece of shit for telling them that I\u2019m not attracted to them anymore and that I\u2019m not sure if I\u2019m okay with it? I don\u2019t want them to change who they are. I want them to express their gender identity however they choose. I just don\u2019t think I can be with them anymore. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 66, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 45, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 111, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YtBIuyRrFmrMetKhlv4BSxHJIRqeCRGS", "post_id": "aygxve", "action": {"description": "boarding a plane in Detroit", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA/Boarding a plane in Detroit", "text": "Recently I took a flight from Detroit to Houston.  The flight attendant  took my ticket and I boarded the plane with one small carry on bag.  My  seat was near the back in coach so I walked to the back of the plane,  located my seat and then started to put my bag in the overhead.   Suddenly a man behind me said \"C'mon. You're killing me man.\"  I didn't  say anything, just put my bag up and then took my seat.  After everyone  was seated (I was on the aisle seat) I stood up to get my laptop out of  the overhead compartment.  The man, who was seated several rows down  from me then said it again, \"you're killing me man!\"  I didn't say  anything and just ignored him.  Did I violate some kind of rule about  flying?  I don't fly that often.  Was this guy right to harass me?  I  held up the line for about 30 seconds as I put my bag up.  Are you  supposed to wait until everyone is at there seat designation before  stowing your luggage in the overhead?  Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7pNPpE9pHvhODbzSj81GUSPe8yWbyvPK", "post_id": "awmmb3", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I'm uncomfortable with one of his friends", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my boyfriend I'm uncomfortable with one of his friends?", "text": "Hey reddit, I'm in a bit of pickle right now. I've been together with with my boyfriend for half a year now. Long story short, long before we were dating, he has this friend I'll call B. Now B and I were friends up until a few months ago due to a problem he had with what I had done to my boyfriend (this was before we started dating). Because of that, B actively despises me, and had spread rumors about me.\n\nMy (now) boyfriend made peace with the issue, and started dating a while after that. However, he still hangs out with B all while knowing that B completely despises me. Whenever I see my boyfriend with B, especially when they're right next to me, I get super uncomfortable and my mood drops noticeably.\n\nI feel like I would feel better if I told my boyfriend this, but I know I have no say in who he can and cannot be friends with, especially since they've known each other for longer. Also I feel like by telling him, it would feel like an ultimatum, which is not my intention at all.\n\nWhat should I do? WBITA if I tell him?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "X0b6qxIHU2FR6nSuTQ7qC1WTonG8i3ih", "post_id": "ajpdql", "action": {"description": "being hurt that I'm Kept a Secret from my BF's kids", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for Being Hurt that I'm Kept a Secret from My BF's Kids", "text": "My Boyfriend at first said he wanted to keep me a secret because his ex wife would throw a fit. Then he said he doesn't want his kids to know because we might not work out. We've been together five months now, with a very stable and happy relationship.\n\nThe real kicker is he wants me around his kids (he gets them every other weekend) but I have to pretend to be his sister's friend.\n\nHe says his wife will make mine and his life a living hell if she finds out, and when I ask him when he is planning on telling, he cannot give me an answer. I told him it hurts me that I'm a secret, and we can't even post pictures together on social media because of this.\n\nI want to get close to kids, they love me when they're around and we have fun, but this is hurting me beyond belief to pretend I'm not in love with their father. He says I'm pushing him too hard and that it's just hard for him, but he doesn't understand how hard it is for me to be a secret and not get too close to his wonderful kids.\n\nI want to give him an ultimatum. Either he tells his kids, or I won't be around when they come and it's going to keep hurting me. So am I the asshole for wanting the truth to come out? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k5z6owTgpN89y1ChgcyFcW3hACHU9Rwm", "post_id": "av14k7", "action": {"description": "caging off my dog when I don't want to watch him", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for caging off my dog when I don't want to watch him", "text": "So my mother adopted a 2 year old dog the day before she went into the hospital (unplanned/sudden) and I've been taking care of him for about two weeks now. I feed him, walk him, and play so god damn much with him. He's a great little guy.\n\nHe's taking to the potty training but fuck does he need to learn to come when he's called. \n\nUsually there is always someone around so that he doesn't have to be locked up for very long. We have a corner of the kitchen blocked off with a gate with plenty of room for a pee pad if no on is home, waterbowl, bed, area to walk around and toys. I usually come home from work for lunch so I'll let him out to do his business and play with him while I eat. \n\nWhen I'm home from work, he's on my heel at all times and follows me everywhere. I'm constantly throwing his toys for him to enthusiastically fetch and having my hand eaten when he decides that it's time for his weak little ass to beat the shit out of me (playfully btw, he never bites just roughhouses). \n\nThis goes on for hours and hours regardless of what I'm doing or how long of a walk I've taken him on. His energy never drains and he's always ready to keep playing, even running around your feet when you get up to do anything. \n\nBy the time 10pm hits, I need a break and as much as I try to pawn him off to other people, he always seeks me out. I love him and it's clear that I'm \"his person\" but as he's still relatively new to the home I feel like I need to be vigilant in making sure he's not getting into anything or peeing (despite taking him out regularly).\n\nAfter a few hours of playing, I lock him up in the kitchen after taking him out to pee and retreat to go watch tv/play a game before I had to go to bed to be up early for work in the morning. Every whine and cry I hear from him breaks my heart (he's a floor below and isn't too loud) but I just want to be able to focus on something without having to make sure he isn't eating anything that might hurt him. \n\nAITA for \"putting him to bed\" early just to have some time for myself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ILW89vyyUCm5AwpZatxwziKl9fWiUTpr", "post_id": "aflb41", "action": {"description": "causing my friend to lose his Moderator rank on a popular Discord server after he posted cropped porn", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For causing my friend to lose his Moderator rank on a popular Discord server after he posted cropped porn (that I made)?", "text": "     Context: Back in early 2017 I joined this Discord server which had around 5,000 members when I first joined. It eventually grew to 10,000, 20,000, all the way up to 70k-80k people. That is, until an admin went rogue and banned half of those members. \n     Anyway, I met this kid around my age who we will call RK (his first profile picture was a roblox character). RK was an extremely active user who would make games, bots, and videos for the owner. He eventually became a trial moderator, however, some of the admins were unsure about this since they thought he just wanted to be a moderator for the clout. \n     RK, after awhile, became a full moderator. After this he started acting more like a dick to others, and became extremely sensitive. He would fall out more easily with others, and he just wasn\u2019t the person who he used to be. When you\u2019re a moderator on this server, there\u2019s a \u20183 strikes, your out\u2019 rule. You either get a strike by breaking the rules or being inactive. It was rumored by a former admin that he had more than 3 strikes and was only moderator due to the fact he sucked up to the owner, but that was proven false by screenshots (he only had one strike). \n     RK slowly became more and more inactive, and after the server was screwed up by an ex admin, he was basically never on. He then went on a \u2018break\u2019, where he then became extremely active. However, after his break ended, he became inactive again. People started to get angry, as he wasn\u2019t doing his \u2018job\u2019, and started calling for him to be demoted. Not only was he inactive, but he also copy and pasted some long definition about furries and spoke in spanish for a long period of time for some reason, which should all be added up to three strikes. But the admins let it slide. \n     At this point in time, RK had just defended his friend who had told my (depressed) friend to go die, so I was pretty pissed at him. He out of no where posted a cropped photo of porn I drew a long time ago as a \u2018meme\u2019 (cropped porn is against the rules, even as a meme). I didn\u2019t want any of my friends to know I drew porn (other than the ones I made the porn for), so I was extremely pissed off at this point. I messaged one of the admins about this, and she said she\u2019d see what she could do. RK got demoted a few days later after he a final argument with me about his inactivity. \n     Honestly, I didn\u2019t expect him to get demoted, I just expected him to get a strike. He said he was happy with this, as he was planning to step down from the moderator rank for quite some time, but it was clear he was sad about this. He turned his profile picture to a sad black and white image, and changed his username to something like \u2018RK is sad\u2019 and then \u2018What\u2019s even the point?\u2019. \n     He had claimed before that his moderator rank meant everything to him, and that he worked really hard to get it. He claims the reason he was inactive was because he was working on a video. I feel kind of bad for causing him to get demoted. \n     Am I an asshole for reporting him for posting that cropped porn? Was I justified? Is he just overreacting?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QFK0DmT8mAXdvJ2uZXziEkrFGK9tON1m", "post_id": "b6y8jf", "action": {"description": "not telling my best man for my wedding that he wasn't my first choice", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I didn\u2019t tell my best man for my wedding that he wasn\u2019t my first choice?", "text": "Hi, throwaway account because all included parties know my main account.\n\nAlso, on mobile. Sorry for formatting\n\nSo a bit of context. I\u2019m a former Traditional Roman Catholic and no longer am. My original choice for my best man in the wedding was my cousin, who\u2019s been my best friend my whole life. \n\nThere are certain absurd rules in the Catholic faith where practicing Catholics cannot attend a wedding of a former Catholic, unless it is in the Catholic Church, so my cousin told me that he wouldn\u2019t be able to attend the wedding at all.\n\nSo I got in touch with another friend, admittedly not my first choice, but still a great friend, and asked if he would be my best man in my wedding.\n\nAt first he was on board, but a couple of days ago he asked why I had asked him so close to the wedding. I told him because my original choice wouldn\u2019t be attending. He got pretty angry and was telling me if we were truly good friends he would have been my first choice.\n\nHe\u2019s not on the fence of whether or not he\u2019ll be attending. Wedding is April 13th. \n\nAITA?\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MGpgnG1yOmid0fDsku0b7idvBGgsM6zQ", "post_id": "awgfck", "action": null, "title": "AITA AliExpress seller wants immediate money?", "text": "Hi. I didn't know how else to act, nor did I know what section to put this in. But, yeah. I need advice, so, if you can, please help.\n\nCurrently I'm thinking of declining an AliExpress order, (it hasn't arrived). Because the seller asks me to pay beforehand when I haven't even gotten to hold my stuff (it's a nice Batman hoodie). I've ordered before and never has seller told to pay beforehand. Doesn't it go against policies?\n\nI'm really doubting that this is a scam.\nI've contacted the seller with question about this, and he said basically;\n\n\n\"Hi yes friend we send pay first. \"\nThat's the way he sent it, with bad English. Well, I didn't expect much. But he didn't answer my question at all. I don't want to be scammed because, well, I'd lose my money and get left with bitter memory.\n\n\n\nWith AliExpress'\u00a0Buyer Protection System, payments are only released to sellers once you confirm satisfactory delivery. Any payment made that bypasses AliExpress is not protected by us.\n\n/this is what I got in mail from AliExpress. It's literally copy-paste, didn't change a bit.\n\n\nAm I somehow in the wrong? Should I pay first? Have payments changed in 2019 than 2017? I'd like to still decline the hoodie, because I'm now pretty uncertain of the situation. AITA? What'd I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CDhLo9FQGSVwEW7YsbDqbY6lfnh6kkz7", "post_id": "b10txm", "action": {"description": "hiding money from my mother", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hiding money from my mother?", "text": "I [21M] will be moving back to my mothers place temporarily next month. When I live at her place she likes to know what the balance on my bank account is, she wants to know if I can spare some money. I don\u2019t mind paying a little bit for groceries and such, but I know if she sees my current balance, she is gonna want a chunk of it.\n\nI plan on cashing my money and hide it in cash somewhere so that my balance will be very low. This way I\u2019m prepared when she brings up the subject of \u201cso how much do you have now?\u201d\nJust because I live under her roof does not make her entitled to know my private things. I will be moving abroad soon and will need the money.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D9QY0eifTr4xsiw1zi3JS104z5wqiuho", "post_id": "b77bu1", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she's bigger than me when she said I ate too much", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend she\u2019s bigger than me when she said I ate too much?", "text": "My good friend struggles a bit more than me financially (though I\u2019m by no means rich) and rarely gets to eat out or relax. So when she comes over I try to pamper her a little \u2013 I\u2019ll get her favorite snacks & drinks, cook for her, and usually pick up the tab if we go to a restaurant. I\u2019ve always thought I was being quite hospitable, sometimes to the point of me even being a bit resentful of how much I give. Our relationship has become more and more \u201ccome to my house when you need a break from your life, and I\u2019ll make sure it\u2019s like a little vacation for you.\u201d\n\nSo earlier this week she came over and stayed for 2 days. The first day I made us omelets & toast for breakfast, and then we had lasagna for lunch and watched a movie. I made popcorn and offered her a cookie, which she declined. For dinner we went out (I paid, just as a note) and had pizza and salad. Next day, neither of us had much for breakfast. She had a cookie and I had a few bites of cold pasta salad. Then we went and played tennis & went to a late lunch at about 3 pm. Keep in mind we had barely eaten and had been active. So I scarfed down my soup and sandwich, while she ate less than half of hers. I made (what I thought was) a light-hearted comment, just saying how she wasn\u2019t eating much and had to be hungry by now. She said she was \u201cstuffed\u201d and \u201cfelt sick at how full she was\u201d, which I then laughed at because, again, it was way past lunch time and we had been quite active. I just thought it was a bit funny that a few bites of sandwich and half a bowl of soup had her \u201cso stuffed\u201d.\n\nSo then she starts going on about how I\u2019m always eating, that people need less food than you think, that how much she ate is more than enough for a meal, that she thinks it\u2019s gross when people eat too much, that it\u2019s \u201cway too much\u201d to eat three full meals a day, etc. It basically came across as her calling me a glutton.\n\nFor reference, though I\u2019m not teeny tiny, I\u2019m a normal-sized woman with no weight issues (IMO I guess). I\u2019m tall and about a size 8. She\u2019s probably in the 10-12 range, not \u201cbig\u201d by any means, but noticeably bigger than me, particularly around the middle. So I just said as much: \u201cIf I overeat then why am I a little smaller than you?\u201d She just stared at me for a second and replied \u201cI just think you have a faster metabolism.\u201d I just said okay and moved on, but the whole exchange continues to bother me. I don\u2019t know which one of us was rude or if we both were or if I \\*am\\* a glutton, if I\u2019ve been wrong to \u201cconstantly\u201d offer her food while she\u2019s over\u2026 IDK here. I just know that I\u2019ve somehow ended up feeling wrong for cooking so much for her and taking her out to eat. No one likes to be told they eat too much, especially a woman, and no woman wants to hear she\u2019s the bigger one either (which is what I told my friend). And I know I technically \"started it\" by asking her how she could possibly be full.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "yfPhZsxPWpCr1yrZhweUqLL0h6rZYaS9", "post_id": "b3hqsw", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend's sister and nephew to stay with us", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend\u2019s sister and nephew to stay with us?", "text": "My girlfriend\u2019s sister just ended her relationship.  She and her young son are currently staying with her parents, but they have a poor relationship and it\u2019s not likely to work out. \n\nWe have a spare room in our apartment that is set up as sort of a hobby room.  I have gaming stuff and my girl has her painting stuff in there.  My girlfriend wants to let them stay with us until they get back on their feet.  Her sister is unemployed so it could be quite awhile.  \n\nIt\u2019s not so much her sister that makes me hesitant, it\u2019s the nephew.  Kids are a lot of work and he especially is a little monster.  I feel for their situation, but it would completely turn our lives upside down.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6BaxtrQdGQonFBRvoqoW1j6pwQlvLofn", "post_id": "b7u5m3", "action": {"description": "lying to my friends when I dont want to talk", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for lying to my friends when I dont want to talk", "text": "Okay so, I know lying is bad.. but Im conflicted because it really just seems like a little white lie and we still get along otherwise. So I need some input from other people. \n\nOften I get into a mood where I just dont want to talk. Either I just dont feel like it, or I dont want to bore them to death because I have nothing to talk about at all, or we just dont have much to talk about in general other than everyday bullcrap all of the time. Sometimes we will be talking and Ill just stop talking to them until the next day, or a few hours later. \n\nEvery time I tell them I either was sleeping or I couldn't be on my phone for some reason. Like today I told my friend I went to another city to visit a family member and left my phone at home on accident. But that's not true, I just sat in bed and did nothing all day. I just didn't want to talk. \n\nI do this because I feel like they would think I dont like them or something if I just say I didnt want to talk or if I ignore them without saying a reason. \n\nSo AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vgVcATco5cKBI4q6OCHep6UD6eOChAWE", "post_id": "awpkug", "action": {"description": "wanting to talk with my mom less", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to talk with my mom less?", "text": "This is going to be a long one with lots of background, sorry about that, but i really need someone outside perspective. \n\nMy mom  is a really good person, I know she loves me deeply and would do just about anything for me, but I feel like she is way too involved in my life and always wants to know every detail and talk to me 24/7(I am a 23F btw) and live on my own in a city about 3 hours from her with my BF. \nSome examples: if I don\u2019t reply to her text within an hour she will blow up my phone asking if I\u2019m okay, where I am, why I don\u2019t want to talk to her etc. it\u2019s frustrating because I work a 9-5 job and don\u2019t like to be on my phone. She asks constantly when I\u2019m going to be visiting. I understand a 3 hour drive is not much, but I hate going home to visit because I don\u2019t get along with my dad at all. He\u2019s an alcoholic and emotionally abusive. When I go home he either blatantly ignores me, or is an overall toxic asshole to me. And my mom always forces an interaction with him saying \u201che\u2019s your dad, that\u2019s just how he is, go say hello/goodbye\u201d. And this stresses me out to no end and honestly makes me depressed. Even when I just talk with my mom through text she can never just talk with me, she constantly asks me details on my life/issues I\u2019m going through that I always tell her I don\u2019t want to talk about. \n\nI love my mom, she\u2019s helped me with a lot and helped me through school, etc. but it seems like every time she does something for me(which I never ask for) she holds it over my head eventually saying \u201cI do so much for you and you can\u2019t even talk to me every night\u201d etc. I want a relationship with her but it seems every time I set boundaries she does not respect them. But she\u2019s also my mom and I feel bad for slowly cutting her off. I feel like she\u2019s lonely because of my dad and not having many friends or things to do outside of her job. \n\nSo, AITA for wanting to not talk to her as much? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YkUumRdmH49PHKNCNQds0bOeXyf5PEuH", "post_id": "b8c698", "action": {"description": "confronting my gf about a rumor", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for confronting my gf about a rumor?", "text": "btw sorry for the spelling or syntax, english is not my first language.\n\nOk. So my gf [F16] and I [M16] have been together for about 1 month. We've had a great relationship, and we've had a lot of fun, but we've yet to disscuss serious topics like sex, love and exes. As it always took me time to get to these subjects in the past, I wasn't too worried about getting there in the near future. She has a friend (let's call him M), with whom she was flirting around jokingly, but I never gave this real attention, as M is in a relationship, and I also like to flirt casually with some of my female friends.\n\nLast weekend, she went on a school trip with some of our classmates, including M. Before she left, we spent  the day together at my house. We had a lot of fun, and before leaving she said that she was going to miss me, etc. I spent the weekend hanging out with my friends, and as I checked my social media, I found that she posted pictures of her with M and they were flirting, having fun etc. Again, I wouldn't have been worried normally, but this time I was not very comfortable with the fact that they were far away from me.\n\nAll the people from the schooltrip came back today, and as I was with my friends, someone jokingly said that gf kissed M. Immediately, I thought that it was a joke, but later in the day, several of my colleagues said that this was the case. I was very distraught, and tried to figure out what was going on. In the evening, I confronted gf about it, and it went about like this:\n\ngf: \"Are you angry at me\"\nme :\"Do you have anything to say to me\"\ngf: \"...\"\nme: \"What happened during the schooltrip\"\nher: \"What do you mean? I only fell asleep on M's shoulder\" \nme: \"Kids are saying that you kissed him\"\nher: *visibly confused*\nme: \"we need to talk about this\"\nher: *breaks into tears*\n\nShe was basically going on about how I didn't trust her, how she loved me, how it wasn't possible that she could have done it etc. I asked around and it turns out that someone misunderstood something and that's why this rumor arose. \n\nAITA for confronting her even though I wasn't 100% sure that this happened? How will I get out of this mess?\n\nTL;DR: I thought that my gf and some guy she flirts casually with had kissed during a schooltrip. I confronted her about it and she's very offended/sad about it. Turns out that the kiss is totally fake and it never happened. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6EWbjTtI2mVPzCXOcSsNIqr9rusLl2Ng", "post_id": "akg4ei", "action": {"description": "telling my mom to stop gifting me \"junk\"", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom to stop gifting me \"junk\" (rummage)?", "text": "My mother just bought me some small clocks to complete a shelf of them which I got from my gradfather when he died. I just took it because some of them looked cool, but I don't have any need for them (also the cool ones got taken by family members). I told her to stop phrasing it like: \"Why do you do this? I neither need them nor deserve a present and tbh it's just junk on the wall\"\n\nToday she send me a picture titled: \"Here's a picture of the junk\"\n\nIn the past I said things like: \"I don't deserve it\", \"Please don't gift me anything in general\", \"I don't need it\" but yesterday I felt like I had to be a bit more direct. Have I been an actual asshole for titeling her effort \"junk\"?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7o2JT89VPhpNcjoiGMH7oNg4KJJIhkUd", "post_id": "aepkpn", "action": {"description": "wanting to know when does my GF go to parties", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for wanting to know when does my GF (21) go to parties?", "text": "Hi, firstly I want to say english is not my first language, so I apologise for any mistakes.\n\nSo for the story, I've been with this girl for about 2 months now. Despite having trust issues my whole life (I've been diagnosed with ACOA and my psychologist says that it may be the reason) I decided to trust her. I mean, we are happy together, at least I think so.  \nI think it is important to add that I'm more of an introverted type (I'm not really fond of parties, clubs etc.) and she is the opposite. So I understand when she wants to party with her friends. I don't have issue with that. But what I have issue with is her not telling me when she goes out. I don't want her to ask for permission, just to inform me when she goes out and maybe text me when she's back. I think that is fair, even her best friend was surprised that my GF could party and I didn't have any objections.   \nAlso, I want to add that sometimes she tells me, but few days ago we were talking about spending next Friday together and she said that she can't stay for the night and will go home earlier. I was fine with that, didn't think much about it and said that I would walk her back to her house in that case. She refused, but I didn't want to dig into that so the topic ended.   \nAnd yesterday she unintentionally, at least I think so, told me that she's going out with her friend, she didn't see for a few months, this Friday. I didn't point it out, but got a bit pissed. I mean she knew she had plans and decided not to tell me why she \"couldn't\" spend the night. \n\nAlso a bit offtopic, she sometimes writes drunk text to me that are not funny and make me anxious. For example, that some girl hit on her and was trying to make out with her. She texted this once, but I fear that it happens more often. We argued about that and she got defensive saying that I'm trying to control her.\n\nI didn't confront her yet about that, but I'm thinking. That's why I want your opinion first, am I the asshole for wanting to know when my GF goes out (mostly with people that I don't know)? And for the offtopic, am I the asshole for not being fine with her not only saying that somebody hit on her, but almost bragging about that?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "e8Prbz1Xjw9OXT6hyKYSSSnL98SYTBkA", "post_id": "b8nhqe", "action": {"description": "wanting to break up with my gf after a steady 4 year relationship because she won't kiss me", "pronormative_score": 53, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to break up with my GF after a steady 4 year relationship because she won't kiss me", "text": "So I have been dating my current girlfriend for close to 4 years and things have come to a head recently. When we met for the first time, I was immediately attracted to her since we had a lot in common. I asked her out after a short courtship of 3 months and she was really into me I felt.\n\nThe only problem was that she was not very keen about the physicality of the relationship. When we hit the sack, initially she was into the foreplay but she won't allow me to remove certain articles of clothing (those being her pants and then eventually her undies). The other problem was that whenever I would try kissing her (going french) she would act awkward or start laughing. I took this in my stride since she hadn't been with anyone before and I assumed she would get used to it eventually.\n\nFast forward 4 years and we are still more or less where we started. She still has a problem with kissing, even after infinite number of tries, and recently, she finally agreed to removing her undies after I told her it was getting really frustrating for me (it's really hard to get a girl off over her undies, trust me). I have never forced her to have sex with me and never will, since I respect her boundaries, but even getting her to have a casual make out session is really hard. \n\nI have recently started thinking maybe she just isn't into me physically. I asked her about this and she kept telling me she is but I don't know what to believe anymore. Things have gotten so bad that I feel weird even talking to her about it because I don't want to force her into anything. \n\nI have had a number of relationships before and I have never faced anything like this. I was quite serious about my current GF and the prospects of marriage have come up, however she initially told me she doesn't believe in the \"institution of marriage\" to which I told her to not waste my time then. After a lot of cajoling she eventually decided she will think about it, but nothing is set in stone.\n\nIn the end I don't want to waste my time since I'm not getting any younger. I have stayed true to her these four years but I am not sure if it can work out anymore. I have had a conversation with her about this and she is asking me to believe her that she is attracted to me physically but I am not so sure.\n\nWhat do you think, is physicality that important in a relationship ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 29, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 24, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 53, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rWWLUZU2WEHpQKzEJCMywscyHbsBnn3j", "post_id": "abneeu", "action": {"description": "saying no to my mother", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for saying no to my mother", "text": "Backstory: my Grandpa lives in a nursing home with a roommate. There is a curtain in each of the open bedrooms that connected that basically either locks in you in or opens you up to everyone else.\n\n\nWe went there and the roommate was watching TV. My mom says something like: Go and pull his curtain closed. I said no because, I did not know if he wanted it open or closed and like what if he wanted to socialize with us. I thought about that and said no to her. I thought about something along the lines of \u201cWho am I to determine if this elderly man wants to socialize with us or not?\u201d \n\n\nSorry for formatting, I\u2019m on mobile.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1KtfShFLx60t1gRXcqXkZ7tSwgXmvZnA", "post_id": "9zlm5g", "action": {"description": "(maybe) manspreading", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for (maybe) manspreading?", "text": "So to begin with, I'm a very tall person (almost 2m). This makes life pretty uncomfortable, but especially on public transport, as I don't fit in most seats. \n\n\nBecause of this I usually sit in the special access seats so I don't have to be crammed into an uncomfortable/painful position. I will give these up if someone with a pram etc. comes on, but when I sit on a regular seat, I have to turn and take up two seats. \n\n\nI'll avoid this if the bus is truly full, but if there are other spare seats and someone sits next to me I'll hold my ground and depending on the person just sit there with my knees in their space (this is if they seem like a prick), but usually I just say \"sorry I physically can't move my legs over\" and that is that.\n\n\nI'm in two minds, because I don't like being one of those jerks that takes up more than their fair share, but I also don't think I should have to be uncomfortable just because someone decided the seat next to mine was better than any other free seat", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fTre6xr0XaxHA0d6vt2Dq7y9lOoxm2jh", "post_id": "9vp68b", "action": {"description": "not wanting to reconnect with an ex-friend who keeps messaging me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to reconnect with an ex-friend who keeps messaging me?", "text": "All names changed, obviously.\n\nBackstory: this friend (Jake) and I knew each other through a local improv group that had some drama go down. To make a very long story short, his wife (Rachel) is the president of the board for the group, and she got an anonymous letter that demanded that the manager (Ursula) step down because she was mismanaging the group and alienating lots of performers by ignoring the advice of everyone but her inner circle. Ursula dealt with this letter by accusing my friend (Audrey) of writing it by \"matching the handwriting\" on the envelope, and kicked Audrey out. The next day I left in protest, along with four other performers. \n\nTwo months pass, and the real letter writer comes forward (it was a Republican regular who found out that Ursula is poly and got her panties in a twist about it, because I live in a red state and everyone is mad about people who are different than them). One night Jake messages me, and the conversation quickly devolves into him calling me a bad friend for not checking in on him or Rachel while all this was happening. I responded by saying that I HAD wanted to check in, but I also wanted to have the conversation in person, and he was the one who kept canceling on me when I tried to set it up. He says that Rachel owes Audrey an apology, but \"that's all that is owed.\"\n\nWe go back and forth for a while, and he says he doesn\u2019t want to talk to me anymore, and I tell him that I\u2019ll respect that. (If I don't seem broken up about this, it's because I wasn't. I had been reflecting on our friendship before this happened, and I realized that Jake's materialism and inability to talk about anything serious or painful unless he was drunk was not something I wanted to be around.)\n\nCut to about a month later. Jake messages me out of the blue and invites me over to watch The Disaster Artist. No mention of any of the drama that I explicitly told him I wanted to talk about before we could hang out like normal again. \n\nAfter calling Audrey, getting her advice, and cursing for a few minutes, I decided to respond with, \"The last time we talked, you called me a bad friend, and I'm really not okay with acting like we can pick up where we left off. I'm sorry, but I can't be friends anymore.\" He responded, \"It's cool. I'm sorry for anything I said that hurt you. I was in a bad place.\" I didn't respond.\n\nAll this happened in June. Since then, I've gotten four messages from Jake. Two of them just said, \"Hey,\" one said, \"How was Portland?\" after I got back from performing in Portland. He sent the most recent one a few days ago, and it says \"Has it been long enough we can try to be friends again?\" \n\nAm I the asshole for thinking that it hasn't, and never will be?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5tdzVjWnv8J1vpcl2ttNfYGoEJmjlsDm", "post_id": "ayzwpb", "action": {"description": "being upset that the gym I go to opens up early only for one person while the rest of us have to wait outside", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for being upset that the gym I go to opens up early only for one person while the rest of us have to wait outside?", "text": "I get to the gym at 5 am. Inside there is one person already working out. I have to wait until the doors open. This is everyday. The manager lets him in because she says that she trusts him if she doesn't feel safe being the only person at the gym early in the morning. I have been going to the gym for 20 years. When I asked if I would be allowed to start my workout early I was told no. When I voice my displeasure call Mom I felt as if the manager was talking bad about me behind my back. For instance, she was talking to one of the other gym members who I also talked to. When I asked what they were discussing, he said that he did not want to get involved with it. This leads me to believe that she was talking about me because otherwise he would have alleviated my concerns by telling me that the subject did not involve me. Am I the a****** for being upset?\n\nTldr: gym manager let's one person in early while the rest of us watch through the glass.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LOLJWKxOfoQ0Yk7FESTKBeNHKJvJu7oc", "post_id": "b5wnvh", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to stop singing", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for asking my husband to stop singing", "text": "Long post. Obligatory warning about being on mobile and formatting and what not.\n\nSo a little background. My husband and I have been married for just shy of 2 years. We recently moved from our overpriced tiny basement suite back to his home town (a much quieter small town about 45 minutes away). We moved because he hates my home town and I wanted to support him, and when he was offered a higher paying possition in his field of work we decided to pack up and move.\n\nNow I haven't been working much over the last few years. I'm in remission for ovarian cancer, have had several surgeries and my immune system is shot. Because of this I end up sick very easily and have had to give up working in childcare. Because of this my husband has been under a lot of financial pressure and I'm so grateful for all he has done for our family.\n\nWe moved in with his dad, who offered us to stay rent free for a few months to help with our debt. Not the most ideal situation but still necessary as we want to buy a house. I agreed to this, but did find it a bit bothersome since it is a bit out of the way from the nearest city and I don't drive. There is a bus but it only comes every 2 hours.\n\nMy husband has really been on me about getting a job despite the scar tissue pain I have from so many surgeries. I agreed but did suggest we wait until we moved into the city so I could be more reliable for work. He insisted I was making excuses not to work and so I begrudgingly agreed to keep trying to find a job (I have been applying for jobs for the past week and have heard nothing).\n\nToday I'm in the living room with him and inform him I am going to apply for some more jobs while he is playing video games. I had also told him I was having some sensory overload issues today but the video game sounds weren't very loud so I didn't mind.\n\nI'm filling out one of those long 'what would you do' questionaires for a job and he decides he really wants to listen to that \"what's going on\" He-Man meme song. So he turns it on his phone and blasts it loudly. \n\nI remain quite and put on my headphones to try to muffle the noise so I can focus. The song ends. Then he starts playing it again and singing loudly. I let out an annoyed \"seriously?\" And proceed to tell him he is being very inconsiderate since he knows I'm applying for jobs and I can't focus. I know my tone was harsh but we have been having a lot of issues with him not being considerate of me lately. I also stated that since he'd been pushing me to find a job that he should be allowing me that time to do so in quiet.\n\nNow he is mad because he said if I didn't like it I should have just left the living room since I am 'not tethered to my seat' because he 'just wanted to have a fun moment'.\n\nAm I the asshole for getting upset instead of just leaving or am I correct in finding his behavior very inconsiderate of my needs?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uTRxqvLlyYMtIgL6XeBtwC1yYadgFe7P", "post_id": "ac42ar", "action": {"description": "not wanting to take selfies with GF", "pronormative_score": 36, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to take selfies with GF?", "text": "She'll take a selfie together, then says she's fat then takes another then says her hair ain't right, another, then there's people in the background, another, then her hair was in her face, another, etc etc.\n\nThen she has this thing at restaurants where she wants us to hold hands and take pics of our hands + the food in the background (5-10x). And she'll post it on her social media. It's always like 10 photos of the same position. It feels so staged and fake after a while. \n\nThen she'll call the waiter for pics, then call them again because she said she looks too fat and to please take another set of pics.\n\nJust yesterday in the middle of our \"photoshoot\" at this garden we walked by, I told her \"Please stop..I really can't. I think we took enough.\" She told me 1 more. I did, then 1 more because her arm looks big, 1 more cuz she wasn't ready. Then I just didn't smile and looked into the distance during the photos because I just had it. I told her we could take some pics, but not a whole photoshoot. She got mad at me because I didn't give her what she wanted. Pretty much yelled at me, hit me in the car. I told her that she always makes me so things I don't like. I at least ask her if she wants to do it, she will just demand me to. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 36, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VeYtLKA8Bw0Yq7Xz47dLlPTYeO1CfAb6", "post_id": "b9ruvs", "action": {"description": "being upset with my birthday? long read", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my birthday? Long read", "text": "I absolutely HATE my birthday. Not the date but just birthday in general. I wish I could hide it on Facebook so no one would know when it is. It\u2019s not that I\u2019m upset the day isn\u2019t all ME, ME, ME!!! That\u2019s not what I want but I make a big deal about my family members birthdays. I send them many birthday memes and other stuff just to let them know that someone is glad they were born today and are a part of my life. If I get to see them, I buy them a cake with a card and try to take them to dinner or make them dinner. I try to make the day special for them. I guess I set myself up. I sound selfish but I would even be happy with just a cake. The last two years my parents and four other siblings (I unfortunately still live with my parents) forgot. My siblings would say happy birthday and that would be it. My parents would forget and then say \u201cSorry, I forgot to buy a cake\u201d and go back to watching tv. I\u2019ve had cereal as my birthday dinner the last two years. My siblings don\u2019t think anything of it because they thought my mother was the one who bought the cake and card for them, not realizing it has been me for the past several years since I could work and have money. I\u2019ve stopped letting other family members put their names on the cards I buy now. I hate sounding like a brat but even if I just got a cake, I\u2019d be happy. I just want someone else to be glad I was born and am here. My fianc\u00e9 sleeps in the same bed with me and he forgot(long story why we are living with my parents for two months till we move out to our own place) his sister told me happy b-day before him and he still hasn\u2019t said it. But would I be an asshole for telling everyone about this if they have all forgot again? Am I just being a child? Is it my own fault because I do too much for others even if they won\u2019t return the action? I want to say screw it and not do anything else for others just I don\u2019t want anyone else to feel the way I do on my birthday. Am I just being a asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "17Xnzq81NT0oWXufFcECXRF0oXbBDFDc", "post_id": "a9bt87", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my coworker/friend for constantly bringing up her abuse/sad life", "pronormative_score": 141, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my coworker/friend for constantly bringing up her abuse/sad life", "text": "So the title definitely makes me sound like the asshole but, when I say constantly i mean constantly, shes a \"must be nice\" type of person. Let me explain her for a second, shes got a past so bad, that when she first told me about it I honestly thought she had gotten it from some Law & order special victims unit episode. domestic abuse, sexual assault/rape, dead parents, cutting, suicide attempt, insomnia, abusive roommate that says kys all the time to her.  I dont blame her for any of this and I usually do not get visibly mad or tell her about my annoyance, often times I even comfort her about it.\n\nHonestly im just getting really uncomfortable with every time I mention my mother its \"well be happy cause my moms dead\", if I say something about how good I slept, \"I couldn't sleep at all because of my nightmares and insomnia\", if I mention how hungry I am its \"well I haven't eaten in 3 days.\" I love her to death I do, and most of the time with her are good and fun, and shes actually really funny, but id understand if it was a once or twice thing but constantly im reminded and made uncomfortable by her when she makes these kinds of comments.\n\nReally the reason I even decided to make this post was because today, i made the oh so terrible mistake of mentioning how I was excited for Christmas, and if she was too and I get \"I hate the holidays cause my moms dead and I cant spend it with her.\" thats why I put annoyed in the title, because I this point i think I get it your mom is dead... this was the first time I actually got visibly annoyed, and now she thinks im mad because she dosent like Christmas, thats not it im annoyed that my excitement for something was shot down once again by her. \n\nAITA for thinking this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 131, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 141, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R1G5T1DdFWrNdBnro2u2SSt29gwzeIgS", "post_id": "9v46ti", "action": {"description": "calling out my parents about their bad parenting? my brother tried to run away and I went off at them", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For calling out my parents about their bad parenting? My brother tried to run away and I went off at them.", "text": "Mainly title. My parents have been absolute saints and devil's over the years, with extremes on both sides. Recently my 15 year old brother tried to run away, and I went off on them for being absolute trash parents for him. \n\nThe 15yr old in question has been forced into college early by my mother (she did all his homework in highschool to get him to graduate early) and has strayed onto a really dark path. Because the way they parent, my mother blames me (the oldest of 6 kids btw) and my dad doesn't do anything to be a father figure. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PdszTzaKlG0eqlrxrVZ4fKw3dcEGCrBH", "post_id": "b7pyyt", "action": {"description": "telling family not to let their kids invite friends, boyfriends, or girlfriends to my daughter's birthday party", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling family not to let their kids invite friends, boyfriends, or girlfriends to my daughter\u2019s birthday party?", "text": "I\u2019m having a small party for my daughter\u2019s 4th birthday. Our funds are limited so I bought only enough food for around 30 people. I then told my sister in laws that due to limited food and funds, only family is invited and to please not let their kids invite friends, boyfriends or girlfriends etc. \n\nMy hubby has 2 brothers and 2 sisters and they have 15 kids between them. So in total the guest list would be 23 people not including me my hubby and 2 kids. Sometimes extra friends show up and usually I don\u2019t mind because there\u2019s enough to go around. But due to an injury, our income has decreased significantly. \n\nOne of my nieces asked if her half sister could come I said sure but only if it\u2019s her and the baby   and not the baby daddy also because of what I told my sister in laws. She got pissy when my niece told her and said she wasn\u2019t going to go if her \u201chusband\u201d is not welcome.  I told my niece that\u2019s fine with me. Her sister can be a bit dramatic at times and this could cause an issue between my niece and her. \n\nSo AITA for saying family only? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CtH6DzMmVjj4z9MS1yuSnz0B2HqNR9Tz", "post_id": "ajsbjw", "action": {"description": "being annoyed my friend didn't say happy birthday to me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed my friend didn't say happy birthday to me?", "text": "I've known this particular friend for six years, and it was my birthday yesterday. She messaged me to ask if she could unfriend my old facebook account, and I said yeah, and she thought I was acting weird and asked why, and I said I was just distracted because I was getting ready to go to dinner with my dad for my birthday. So I mentioned it was my birthday, and she noticed I was being weird, but all she did was complain about her sister. Am I overreacting? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "T6a6ljMYKJ9CFnXEoOTPiJjlxlImNDvt", "post_id": "b031mn", "action": {"description": "thinking my friend is being way too judgmental", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking my friend is being way too judgmental?", "text": "Sorry about format, I\u2019m on mobile.\n\nSo I have a tightly knit friend group on discord. We all (try) to get along, and it\u2019s overall pretty great. \n\nExcept for one thing.\n\nMy friend, who we will call Mike, is extremely fucking judgmental. For example, a 14 year old girl left our server today, and in the mod group (I happen to be a mod on there) all he did was shit talk about what a slut she was and how he thought she was a stripper and her boyfriend was a pimp and all that nonsense because she said that she liked sex. While I feel like 14 is too young to worry about that stuff that\u2019s her business not mine.\n\nI actually got mad at this, and confronted Mike, and he just told me it was different with me and my boyfriend because I don\u2019t go broadcasting it to everyone? I mean, I don\u2019t but to just not shut up about how someone is a whore to your mods is kind of annoying and very rude.\n\nHowever, there is a catch to all this. Mike is autistic, I don\u2019t know how badly, but he\u2019s 34 and lives with his parents. I feel like a jerk for getting angry at him but like, no one wants to hear someone constantly shit talking someone (who might not even be telling the truth. Young teens are prone to doing that) all because of something they say on a discord server. \n\nSo, the big question. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WtN3hXLa4u9viGL709yDNHlZCMOF6KHY", "post_id": "az51if", "action": {"description": "calling out a student", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for calling out a student?", "text": "Throwaway for privacy.\n\nI (F, 20s) am a middle/high school English teacher.\n\nIn my middle school English class (13yos) we have a routine where the kids silently read their assigned novels for the first 10 mins. As per school policy, if they forget their novel they receive an infringement (a 'point' on their record for minor offences; they accumulative points means a detention). The class has been clear on this rule from the get-go. If a kid forgets their book, I just hand them the infringement slip, and they either fetch it from their locker, or grab a random book from the class shelf.\n\nA few days ago, class started like normal. When the 10 mins of reading was almost up, I see one girl (P) fiddling in her seat, no book in sight. I ask her where her book is, she says in her locker. I'm thinking, she didn't say anything because she wants to avoid the infringement, and thought she could get away with it.\n\nI address the class/P calmly but sternly: \"P has forgotten her novel, but the main issue is that reading time is nearly over and she hasn't said anything.\" I send her to go and fetch her book, and when she returns, I say: \"Reading time is now over, and sending you to get your book may seem like a waste of time. However by not making an effort to get a book, you've wasted your own reading time. Next time, please remember to be up front right away.\" P apologises and class continues as normal.\n\nThat evening, I get a lengthy email from P's mum accusing me of 'deliberately humiliating' her daughter for an 'honest mistake'. With my mentor's blessing, I call the mum the next day and explain that the main issue was not that P had forgotten her book, but that she tried to hide it, hence why I called her out. I politely tell her that while I acknowledge that P may have taken it personally, my expectations are simple and have been the same from the start of the year. I also said that given that I'm an approachable teacher, and have offered many chances (students had a grace period of about a week or so at the start of the year), there isn't really an excuse for wasting time, especially when there is a bookshelf in the room. Mum seems to accept this, and I finish by saying I'll talk to P the next day.\n\nChat with P goes well, I just talk with her briefly after class about the conversation I had with her mum. I acknowledge that she may have taken it personally, and it was not my intention to humiliate her. I reiterate my expectations about being honest. P is agreeable about this, and we part ways positively. That evening, I receive an angry email from her mother. She is not happy about the fact that I didn't apologise for my 'wrong doing' as she put it, and has requested a meeting this coming week with me and my mentor, as she doesn't feel the issue is resolved.\n\nAITA for calling P out? I genuinely didn't mean to humiliate her, and I saw it as a teaching point for her/the class. Should I have apologised to her/the mum?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SfgmlSTbEEZbdUQ0q6X9FFW0wVgkkl05", "post_id": "a0xgc0", "action": {"description": "breaking up", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for breaking up?", "text": "For clarification, this happened quite a while ago, but has been on my mind ever since.\n\n​\n\nSo, a good friend of mine introduced me to this guy, I'll call him \"Dennis\". Pretty much from the start it was clear that he had some romantic interest in me, but I wasn't so sure about how I felt -  at that point, I'd never had a serious romantic relationship and was generally pretty inexperienced. Also, I had a crush on a guy who I thought was not interested in me.\n\n​\n\nBecause we shared a lot of interests and also because I was eager to gain new experiences, I kept seeing \"Dennis\", even though I had no romantic or sexual interest in him at all. Not much happened (we didn't even kiss), until we went to a Party together - I got very drunk and we made out. The next day, he asked me if I wanted to be in a relationship with him. I honestly don't know why I agreed, I suppose I just felt pressured by the fact that we had kissed and there was no \"objective\" reason not to fall in love with him (this is no excuse though).\n\n​\n\nI regretted my decision instantneously, but I didn't have the Courage to tell him until the other guy \"Leonard\" asked me out, and I broke up - not even a week had passed. ( \"Leonard\" and I are now almost a year in a relationship together, and I am still extremely happy with him.)\n\n​\n\nSo: AITA for this? (sorry for any spelling mistakes btw, english is not my mother tongue. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tqKQxeL3xqktsq3uNRCrGL9nQPdUcf84", "post_id": "b989ol", "action": {"description": "breaking a promise", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for breaking a promise?", "text": "I'm a senior in high school. I've had a best friend since tenth grade. In the middle of our junior year me and my friend got stressed out and afraid because we felt like there was no way for us to beat the pressure. We felt like there was no chance of us getting to a university we wanted. So, we made a pact that either we go to community college or we go to university, but whatever decision we make we make it together.\n\nWell, since then I got better. In fact, a week ago I got into my dream school. He was in the room when I found out, and I was excited. More excited than I've ever been. My friend hadn't gotten himself together, though. He couldn't get his grades back up and in some places they dropped significantly. Later that day as we're walking home my friend tells me he's mad at me. Because not only am I breaking the promise I made, I'm excited to break the promise -- as if it didn't mean anything to me. He felt betrayed. And for the past couple of days I've felt guilty. I made my friend feel like he didn't matter to me and that I was excited to leave him behind. \n\nBut I'm going to this school. There's no way I'm giving up this opportunity I've been working for. But at the same time I want my friend to be there in my life -- and I don't want a promise that was my idea, that I broke -- to ruin it. \n\nAm I an asshole for breaking a promise with my friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vfoa4bvk9trCmlmkIxW77sF8rCJ967Ok", "post_id": "9vxex1", "action": {"description": "being angry when husband does not want to correct wrong order", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being angry when husband does not want to correct wrong order?", "text": "This evening me and my husband decided to order some take out for dinner. We don't have a lot of cash so this isn't something we do together often. I sent my husband a message with what i wanted from the restaurant and he got something from a different restaurant. I looked after our toddler while my husband went out to get our orders. When he comes back he has the right order from his own but when i look in mine i see that this isn't what i ordered. He says he literally gave the order by reading my message so the fault must be with the waiter (that he says was like 10 years old). He had the receipt and it had my special order so it might be true but he has brought home the wrong order before (but he says hes only done it 1 time). \n\nI get very upset and ask him to go back to the restaurant and get the correct order but he says hes too tired when he has already been out to town but i know i would do it for him if the situation was reversed. I get very upset with this situation and it ends with us both shouting to each other. He says that my order contains at least 50% of what i have ordered and that i should just accept it and i can eat some of what he ordered too. Right now the whole evening has been ruined and we are sitting in different rooms not talking to each other. He thinks i blew this out of proportion and that i should just have accepted the situation but i think he doesn't care about me as much as i do for him when he didn't do this for me. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RxaxchBJXeex3yFe0Zd1ge0VGTk8X86F", "post_id": "b778o0", "action": {"description": "taking girlfriend's response a certain way", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking girlfriend\u2019s response a certain way?", "text": "Me(M19) and my girlfriend (F20) were planning a day out together tomorrow and she asks me what I have in mind that we should do, over text. I list a few ideas out of town in a nearby city, in which i also mention we could pick up some item she wanted a few weeks back. She corrects me in saying she didn\u2019t say she WANTED it, only that she could get it from there. I tell her it\u2019s not in our way, so she says \u201cI don\u2019t want to go\u201d, to which i replay \u201cokie, it was just a suggestion...\u201d\nShe replies \u201cOk and I was just saying I DONT WANT TO GO, so i don\u2019t need your dots ty.\u201d\nWhich, this seems all like a bunch of curt responses to me so i say \u201cok.\u201d \nShe asks me if i\u2019m being serious, and how the hell I could be bothered by her not wanting to go somewhere. I try to continue planning our day out tomorrow, but she keeps asking me why i sent the ellipsis earlier. Now she seems mad about how she should be able to make a \u201ctrue statement without it turning into a fight and me taking it or reacting so badly\u201d\nI don\u2019t feel like I did anything wrong in this situation, but don\u2019t we all. AITA, did i take it badly and turn it into a fight?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oZfz0z7I0PdH8u8cd8LSo2BiJDBmBb3s", "post_id": "ay61mp", "action": {"description": "being upset that my husband doesn't give me more money", "pronormative_score": 47, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA: for being upset that my husband doesn't give me more money?", "text": "I don't work/barely work since we have 2 little kids and nobody to watch them/daycare is more expensive than what I would make full time. It's a great set up. He doesn't mind being the only one working and I don't mind staying home. \n\n\n\n\nAll of our bills are set up through my account; thus leaving me to physically pay all the bills and do all the grocery shopping and whatnot. \n\n\n\nMy husband used to give me about 80% of his paychecks and I would pay all the bills/expenses with it, and what was leftover was split in 3 ways. 50% into savings, and 25% was given back to hubby and 25% was applied towards \"fun money\" for myself and the children. Going swimming, riding to the ice cream shop, maybe a coffee date with a mommy friend. \n\n\n\nThis situation worked well and nobody complained, AND we actually had a savings because i controlled 80% of the money to go to bills before we split up the \"extra \" money. \n\n\n\n\n\nFast forward to now. (This has been going on for maybe 3 months? But perhaps longer.) \nMy husband now gives me about 45%-50% of his paychecks and keeps the other 50% which would be great, IF he paid any of the bills with his bank. But he doesn't. He still expects me to pay everything off and then gets upset/confused when I tell him that our water bill is past due, or my account was negative so I couldn't go grocery shopping. \n\n\n\n\nSo, AITA for wanting more money from my husband to get shit done even though it is \"his\" money. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 47, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a6wbc8FpXk4XkRXm20cQI4AQAmz7kbnn", "post_id": "akzv7z", "action": {"description": "getting pissed at my girlfriend and accidentally hurting her", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 39}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed at my girlfriend and accidentally hurting her?", "text": "Just a little context before proceeding. This happened today, and I was feeling not well mentally ever since I woke up. In fact, I was so not in the mood so I haven't yet until now.\n\nAnyway, here we go:\n\nMy girlfriend went to my apartment to hang out while her parents were doing groceries. We chilled until her parents got back home, and we were planning to have dinner on her way home. She watched funny videos on Facebook while I played a video game. Anyway, I was starving that point and my mood wasn't a hundred a percent. Her parents texted us that they are home already so we decided to get ready and go there too. My apartment is located on the 2nd floor by the way, and when we were at the ground floor and about to leave she told me that she accidentally left her eye glasses in my apartment (she's the clumsy type who often does this, but i wasnt in the mood this time to be patient with it). So i gave her the keys and told her to get it while i prep the motorcycle, which has a process that involves opening a huge gate, taking out the motorcycle, and closing the huge gate. So now im out on the street sitting on my motorcycle, waiting for her to come down. But i saw her struggling to do the trivial task of closing the door and locking it. Nothing was wrong with the door. She just needs to lock the door knob and exert a little bit of force to close it. She was signaling me to come help her and I was pissed of course because i was starving already and it's such a simple task to do. So i went upstairs angrily, grabbed the keys from her hand, and accidentally bumped her with my left shoulder when i faced the door. Now, i was pissed but i didnt mean to hit her with my body. Then i proceeded to slightly angrily close the door in front of her and told her that it was that easy. So i headed down first and she followed, but she didnt ride with me and told me that she'll take the bus instead. I told her that i didnt mean to hurt her and i was pisses because of the delays but along the street she was screaming at me that i have an ugly attitude. Not telling me, screaming at me. So now Im back in my apartment, lying down on my bed and wondering if i didnt have the right to be angry and react like that or not. So, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 38, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 39}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JKlBzzwRgrkpBzsenYHYnQvs9YQgzmlB", "post_id": "atkv9q", "action": {"description": "not passing my savings on to my friends for our annual trip", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for not passing my savings on to my friends for our annual trip?", "text": "Every year, my friends and I schedule a trip to catch up and hang out, seeing as we are in different cities. It was decided this year that I would schedule the Airbnb for our stay, to be later reimbursed by everyone. This isn't typically a problem, but not everyone has Venmo/Zelle, so the organizer has to sometimes wait until the start of the trip in order to be paid back in cash. The trip is typically scheduled half a year out.\n\nThe total for our Airbnb was roughly $800 for our entire stay. Since I had never opened an Airbnb account, I searched for a promotion and found that I could get $40 off my first stay. Later, I also saw a credit card offer in my banking app that would reimburse me 15% in statement credit for any bookings on Airbnb. Finally, when booking the Airbnb, I received 1.5% cash back as part of my credit card's rewards. In total, I am saving roughly $150 by making this purchase on behalf of everyone. I'm a bit conflicted about where the line is between the money that I should keep, and what I am obligated to share.\n\nPart of me feels that I'm justified, in that I volunteered to do something no one was particularly enthusiastic about doing. And though I can certainly expect to be paid back, it is essentially a small short-term loan. AITA if I keep this money?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "CV6XFghzIOYW2LWBaz1rTJmK4dWVJERY", "post_id": "asy2z6", "action": {"description": "not caring about my boyfriend's friends depression", "pronormative_score": 44, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not caring about my boyfriend's friends depression?", "text": "Something something I'm on mobile. \n\nMy boyfriend has a friend who has recently fallen on bad times and has been crashing at his place for about a month. He's been really depressed so when I go over there on the weekends I had been trying to cheer him up by letting him come with me on little errands or having lunch with him while my bf worked and stuff.\n\n Sunday night he \"got the wrong idea\"  while we were alone on the couch and whipped his junk out. I went home asap and called my boyfriend to explain what happened when he got out of work. My boyfriend was more \"worried about me being okay\" (which I am, and I also feel the same way) and less offended at his friend. He doesn't want to see him but he justified everything by saying he's depressed. I (who also has MDD) feel like depression shouldn't let you feel comfortable trying anything with a friend's girlfriend... especially if that friend is nice enough to let you sleep under his roof when his girlfriend kicked him out. \n\nAITA for not caring about this guy's depression as a factor as to why he did this? I feel like that's just a disrespectful fuck boy move\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 44, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 44, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6pVPCJogu5eMouuXCUp95bDbIXB8qNF8", "post_id": "amv401", "action": {"description": "snoring in College", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Snoring in College", "text": "So I\u2019m in my first year of college right now. Things are going pretty well except, like always, I can\u2019t really stand my roommates. It\u2019s frustrating to have to deal with people who don\u2019t turn off lights, wash dishes, take out trash etc. but ultimately I can deal with that stuff. \nSince pretty early on last semester, my roommate has been yelling to wake me up whenever I\u2019m snoring. I understand that he\u2019d be frustrated or whatever but there isn\u2019t a lot I know how to do to stop from snoring. \nWe live in downtown manhattan so it\u2019s not particularly quiet anyways. \nI genuinely don\u2019t know if I\u2019m the asshole here.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "faygQlih56bGDcj7ZJviU3Ow721YJF5Q", "post_id": "ap7ep0", "action": {"description": "not wanting to kiss my boyfriend in the morning if we haven't brushed our teeth", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to kiss my boyfriend in the morning if we haven\u2019t brushed our teeth?", "text": "So basically this morning my boyfriend was trying to kiss a lot when we first woke up. I kissed him on the lips a few times but he wanted to make out and kept coming back for more. Since we\u2019d both just woken up we both had morning breath which isn\u2019t exactly super enjoyable and it was starting to overwhelm me. He came back in for another one and I sort of pulled away (I feel bad for that) and told him we should brush our teeth first. Now a few hours later he\u2019s still upset about it and says if i \u201cdon\u2019t want him at his worst I can\u2019t have him at his best\u201d. I\u2019m trying my best to express to him that it\u2019s not that I don\u2019t love him or think he\u2019s gross, it\u2019s just not enjoyable because we both have morning breath. I\u2019m just thinking if we can both take two minutes to brush our teeth it would be much better. He doesn\u2019t believe me and says me being a germaphobe is hurting him and the relationship. It\u2019s true that I\u2019m kind of a germaphobe, but mostly just with washing my hands before I eat and whatever and I try not to let it get in the way of us too much. But maybe I should\u2019ve just put up with him kissing me and not made a comment? Was I being rude? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zSUwTgKzKL6Ybq8hn34cRpKZ2jYMctq8", "post_id": "b7456p", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk through a disagreement", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk through a disagreement?", "text": "My husband (\u201cH\u201d) and I co-lead a teen youth group with another couple. Our team discussed how a couple of older boys often play on their phones during the program. We\u2019d heard that phones were a big power struggle issue in the past from previous staff, so we agreed that H would pull the boys aside privately this week to encourage them to participate and set a good example.\n\nWell, the boys arrived late, so H wasn't able to check in with them before we started. The wife from the other couple (\u201cS\u201d) sees the boys on their phones, and loudly announces from the front of the room that the boys in the back need to put their phones away. S then stands next to them while I lead our message time, hovering until they reluctantly obey.\n\nAfterwards, I mention that we probably should have stuck to the plan, because if we call the boys out and embarrass them, they may end of resenting us instead of actually being motivated to participate. S is quite taken aback by this, says she doesn't think she called them out or interfered with the plan. I decide this is not a hill I want to die on, and try to just quickly end the conversation (with the \"smile and nod\" technique).\n\nA few days later, S texts and asks to meet with me \"to finish our conversation.\" I reluctantly agree and we meet up. She says she felt personally attacked, and that it was like a \u201chit and run\u201d since I then tried to drop the conversation. I explain I understood her reasoning of why she did it, it wasn't a big deal, and I didn\u2019t want to start an argument. She asks that we go over the details of our perspectives, walk through what I would have done in her place, etc. So we do.\n\nBut 45 minutes in, and the conversation now seems to be going in circles. I still think it wasn\u2019t the best thing to do. She still thinks she in the right, and is trying to get me to agree I should have done the same thing her position. I finally snap at her and say we\u2019ve already discussed this several times now and this conversation isn\u2019t productive.\n\nShe tells me I\u2019m being very hurtful and asks if I \u201chave a problem with talking things out.\u201d She says the right thing to do is work through the situation, and I\u2019m being immature in not wanting to keep talking about it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BpLu55VVNs3sSf9oY4EKyHqy7zVSbcnm", "post_id": "a02s41", "action": {"description": "leaving my friend out of a party that the rest of our group is going to", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for leaving my friend out of a party that the rest of our group is going to?", "text": "I\u2019ll start with the situation first and then get into the backstory. (Obligatory sorry for formatting I\u2019m on mobile)\n\nMy best friends girlfriend is having HER birthday party today at her house. She is inviting my group of friends (through her boyfriend, the guys) and her group of friends (the girls), but she explicitly said not to invite this person (let\u2019s call him Fred) who is in our group.\n\nBackstory:\n\nBoth of our groups have hung out together multiple times before, including Fred. Fred can be socially awkward, especially with girls. He\u2019s been known to have a crush on a few of the girls there and supposedly acted creepy with them (although it happened a while ago). As a result half of the girls don\u2019t like him. Normally he catches wind of the party because we talk about it around him (he is our friend after all) and since no one specifically said not to invite him (until now) we always let him come along. It was always just our group and the girls group.\n\nI would definitely be the asshole for inviting Fred to her birthday party since she specifically said not to, but I still feel like an asshole for leaving him out since he is my friend too", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dwkYpYr9vvZtpy8y8fBwCN0O8DYmpJN1", "post_id": "b8uenb", "action": {"description": "wanting to end a friendship because they keep creating drama in my life", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to end a friendship because they keep creating drama in my life?", "text": "Long story short my friend _surrounds_ themself in drama, they _live_ off the shit and more often than not _their_ drama begins to affect _my_ life. I can't really deal with drama, much less endless drama, and it's getting to the point where I'm considering ending the friendship because I'm swiftly beginning to dislike my friend.\n\nWe've been through thick and thin together but I've recently begun to realise just how selfish and manipulative they can be, they create situations and expect me to just deal with it. Without going into specifics they've recently let someone move in with them who hates me, and this makes me feel unsafe if I were to visit them _BUT_ in _their_ eyes I'm being \"childish\" as they put it.\n\nOn the one hand I feel shitty for wanting to end a near _decade_ long friendship but on the other I feel like I'm in an abusive relationship and I just feel \"suffocated\" by all the drama they create.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DPOSqc8C6zxybVhsG2CBiqnpzndz793C", "post_id": "b4nivh", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my gf", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my gf?", "text": "A few weeks ago I broke up with my gf on 10 months because she was very emotionally manipulative. I wasn\u2019t able to do anything without her, and she would be very annoyed and angry with me for doing anything outside of her. We\u2019ve shared a lot of memories together, but it was just too much. I really liked being with her, but it got to the point where all I did was either be in class or be with her. There\u2019s a lot of things, like, no one in my family thought we were a good match, we were doing things we weren\u2019t supposed to, i was constantly lying to my family, and more. \nShe\u2019s really upset and trying to get back together and she says she will change, but my family highly advised against it. \nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3EAE3Z8A0R5O5Qp1F1EgP1WHP5gZKDN8", "post_id": "ayo32d", "action": {"description": "refusing to Rotate with my roommates", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For Refusing to Rotate with my Roommates?", "text": "I'll just cut to the chase here. So in the apartment I'm renting out, I have 2 roommates. We didn't really do any planning of any sort for how we would lay out our room and who gets what area to themselves so we just winged it upon moving in and as it turns out, I ended up bringing my own bed frame and my mattress and they ended up buying a bunk bed frame together as well as their separate mattresses.\n\nThe topic finally came up one day about whether or not we would switch where we sleep (top bunk, bottom bunk, and solo; we agree that top is the worst, bottom is suboptimal, and solo is king) and I told them I'd hold off on a decision but I'm thinking I shouldn't have to move since I own my bed frame and feel it would be weird if any of them uses it (especially since one has a girlfriend) and vice versa if I slept in theirs.\n\nWe've gotten along well all year and I doubt whatever happens with this situation will harm our relationship, but would I be the asshole if I refused to give up my solo bed frame spot? I won't lie I mostly don't want to move for comfort however I sometimes also toss and turn in my sleep. Thank you in advance!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QR7rBNfGfS0DjkZrFQwqAgBG45iug4bR", "post_id": "az7qt3", "action": {"description": "telling my dad when he's retelling a story", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my dad when he's retelling a story", "text": "My parents recently have entered their elder years and with that has come absentmindedness and forgetfulness. This has caused my dad to start telling me many stories he has told me before over the course of my life. I love my dad and I love his stories but where it used to be he would repeat a story maybe once over a decade, he now will tell me the same story within months. I smile and nod and listen to him tell most of it and then midway through I kindly mention that he told me that before/recently. He just laughs and says oh well and I laugh too. My sister says to just let him tell the story but we're all adults here and my dad always tells me I have a pass to mess with him if he gets Alzheimer's and asks me the same question repeatedly, I feel I should let him know if he repeats a story too but I know the common courtesy is to let the elders speak. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "epXTxVRzJhyh9zeXPVtmXodR8oIrQrlC", "post_id": "a9tkes", "action": {"description": "not giving up the head seat of the table to my father", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for not giving up the head seat of the table to my father", "text": "A bit of background: I (21M) find myself in a dilemma with this current scenario, not knowing whether I was being unreasonable or not, it has knocking about in my head for the past couple of days with no definitive conclusion. Me and my dad normally have quite a good relationship, but I felt really sourly towards him after this scenario and have a few times in my life, really resented him. In contrast, the relationship I have with my mum is fantastic and we rarely disagree on anything.\n\nSo, to the story: I have just dropped my girlfriend with her parents so that we can both have the day with our respective families. I get back to our holiday home and ask if anyone needs help preparing for our family lunch. Only little help is needed and my two siblings and grandmother are already sitting at the table, and there is still quite a while before lunch is served. I take a seat at the head of the table as to not have my back to the kitchen, where people are cooking, but still able to be involved in conversation. We chat for about an hour before lunch is beginning to be laid out on the table.\n\nMy father was responsible for the barbecue (we live in New Zealand, so it is summer time, and a relatively overcast day). As he puts the barbecued food on the table he asks relatively politely if I can move so that he can sit where I am. I ask politely in return why he wants to sit here. He answers by saying again that is where he would like to sit, so I say no, with my rationale being that his reasoning is simply the same as my reasoning to be sitting in this spot, plus I have the added reasoning being that I am already in said seat.\n\nHe goes to get something from the kitchen for the table and comes back and states that if I do not move he will be very angry with me, to which I reply that if I cannot sit here, then I will simply leave. My dad then goes into the garage to do something which I do not know. In the mean time the rest of my family convinces me to move seats, and we go on with our Day.\n\nFurther backstory and my current thoughts: 1st: at our holiday home there are not the kind of allocated seating plans that we have at home where each person sits at the same place when having a family meal. Plus, there were guests which normally throws all prior seating normalities out the window. 2nd: I don\u2019t like doing things simply because someone says so. 3rd: I don\u2019t like how in the end, the burden had fallen to me to be the one to be the grown up and move when he was the one causing the fuss. 4th: the only seat left was next to my mum (his wife) and if it were me I\u2019d much rather sit next to my SO than at the head of the table\n\nTrying to view from my dads side: I am finding it difficult to view from his side (hence the post). But if I were to speculate the most reasonable cause for him wanting me to move was because it is his house and should be able to sit where he wants. If I go into less reasonable reasons, it could be some weird power move or some bull hierarchical subconscious thing, where he wouldn\u2019t feel like a man if is son were at the head of the table.\n\nSorry for the long post but I am really struggling with this one and kinda need an unbiased third party at this point for my own sanity. Also, I know that I am probably biased towards my own point of view, but am having a hard time getting over that for this specific case.\n\nTL;DR: my dad asked me to move from the head of the table which I had been sitting at for an hour, I said no, he got upset, I moved when my family convinced me, when dad left the room", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "vWPxplThlxNQAbAvBfhG1YIsQDPLjSfz", "post_id": "aci1n9", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my gf for going out buying clothes after she asked me for money to help her cover a bill that was larger than normal", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my gf for going out buying clothes after she asked me for money to help her cover a bill that was larger than normal?", "text": "So I currently live with my gf.  I make significantly more money than her so I cover rent and am currently in charge of saving for a house.  All she has to pay for is the electric bill and groceries.  The electric bill jumped quite a bit for December and she freaked out asking me for money to cover it because it would break her budget.  Of course I do because why say no when I have the ability to help.  But when I get home she is excited to show me several things she got from the clothing store.  I asked her how she could afford that if she didnt have money for her one bill.  She just said that it was Christmas money she got from her mom.  While I do think I should help when she needs it.  I think it was really not cool of her to not communicate fully like this.  Am I crazy?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0C1xiK65I3Qs6ybsd6AJWoTWiwwjbyp1", "post_id": "a20wb0", "action": {"description": "telling a woman I don't know that her husband is cheating in her", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell a woman I don't know that her husband is cheating in her?", "text": "I know it sounds like an obvious answer but here me out.\n\nMy husband has a coworker (Scott) who is having a serious affair behind his wife's back. He and his wife (Brooke) have two young children together. She thinks they are deeply in love. She did find evidence on his phone that he was having an emotional affair but he swore he'd end it.\n\nHe hasn't. \n\nHe spends hours on the phone with this other woman (Mandy). She is also married and married her husband believing she is in love with Scott. She even told Scott she thought about him while having sex with her husband on their honeymoon.\n\nI know all this because Scott told my husband, who told me. He says Scott told him in confidence and that it's none of our business. But as someone whose been cheated on, I feel desperately sorry for Brooke. She birthed this man's children. She loves him desperately. And she's being humiliated. It's infuriating.\n\nI really want to tell her. My husband says if I do, he'll never be able to trust or confide in me again. But I can't stand that this woman is being hurt and want to tell her in solidarity.\n\nAm I the asshole for considering stepping in?\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4WZohoXjehCmYo0XjNCqsEXkPhBsrlcu", "post_id": "aks20r", "action": {"description": "telling a friend not to invite someone to their B-Day Party", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Telling A friend not to invite someone to their B-Day Party?", "text": "I feel guilty about this, so I\u2019m using a throwaway account\n\nLet\u2019s just start off, I\u2019m a 14 year old in high school, I have a really good friend, let\u2019s just call him Tom\n\nTom is talking about the people that he is inviting, a lot of them are my friends, he\u2019s on the fence about one of these kids, let\u2019s call him John, and I strongly recommend not to invite him and invite someone else, another good friend.\n\nWhy did I not invite him you ask, well he tends to follow me around and pretty much, well you could say \u201cbully me\u201d, calls me gay, fat, you know standard high school stuff, and It starts to get old, in that moment when Tom asked me I decided I didn\u2019t want to deal with him so I said he shouldn\u2019t invite John, and instead invite Timothy\n\nThe party was great and everything but John just found out about me telling him not to invite him, and everyone is giving me a hard time about it, of course I feel guilty about it, but I\u2019m curious if it\u2019s warranted guilt.\n\nSorry about the formatting I\u2019m really shaky, thanks\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W9tAkpaAxGs44KUV9GP8K3PKn2ckt8tf", "post_id": "ac36yv", "action": {"description": "making a crude joke", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for making a crude joke?", "text": "Let me preface this by saying I, in no way hate women or think women do not belong in the gym. While also I am all for women empowerment. \n\nSo, the situation is my friend and I are also gym buddies. We work out together everyday. Recently, he started talking to this woman that goes to our gym. I'm all for it! \n\nWe were at the gym earlier and she happened to be there too with a friend. \n\nThey mosey their way over to the squat rack next to ours. No problem, She likes him and they can talk. They need help with the spring clip collars for the end of the barbell. They're kind of acting like the damsel in distress trope.\n\nHere's where I could be the asshole and where I think since they are acting all weak (These women are regulars like us). He walks over to help and I make the joke \"That's why women don't belong in the gym\". \n\nI made sure to say this in the goofiest voice, so it couldn't be construed as me being serious. \n\nThe friend of the woman said something to the affect of \"That's gross\". I say \"I'm sorry, I didn't mean that seriously\" \n\nI finish my set because there is no way to salvage that situation. My friend and I go to work in another area for a different leg muscle. He says to me \" Bro, I don't think you know how to talk to people\"\n\nNow, I know after the fact I shouldn't have said it but hindsight is 20/20 because they weren't the crowd for the joke.  I also feel my friend was wrong for how he approached me about it basically implying I'm a child instead of saying hey that isn't cool and say how I should work on it but I digress.\n\n\n\nSo reddit AITA for making that joke? \nWill make sure to apologize if I am in the wrong. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8l3GqFiUHGyZkPyn38HTenJjSHX5Gr5e", "post_id": "9xert8", "action": {"description": "almost getting into an accident, leaving the site without even checking up on the other person", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA after almost getting into an accident, leaving the site without even checking up on the other person?", "text": "i was on my way to work, there was one car and a van at front of me. it was a 80km/h zone and the guy with the car was going 65 to 70km. The van's driver decided to over take him and did it successfully. Now it was my turn as this guy was going 65 in 80 zone i decided to why not just over take him. as soon as i moved over to the in coming lane to over take him he picked his speed up and started catching up on me and wouldn't let me to over take him. he  was going 65 before now he is going 90 and doesn't want me to over take him. \n\ni could have slowed down but there was also another car behind him and i was going right beside him on in coming traffic lane trying to over take him. the road was going up hill and i really wanted to move over to the right lane so i picked up more speed and finally over took him at a speed of 123 km/h. it was pretty fast at 80 zone so i freaked out and took a right turn to slow down and avoid accident as this guy was right behind me and almost hit me. i don't know what happened to him, i don't know if he fell on the ditch as there was ditch on both side of the road. i just took a right turn stopped for like 5 minutes just to calm myself down then i just left without even checking up on him or her if  they were fine or not.\n\n​\n\ni was really upset that he saw me over taking him and then picked up the speed so i can't go pass through him. i just didn't give a fuck and left the site as he didn't touch my car and i didn't touch his car. \n\nnow i just feel really bad for him or her. i hope he or she is fine. \n\n am i the ass hole?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jhcnkj7NIivFSbFsrUTrGQWKRwFWNKuB", "post_id": "azw1vn", "action": null, "title": "AITA- Guy Denys Seat for handicapped Grandmother", "text": "Ok so this happened when my family and I we're visiting Santa Monica, California and we were riding a tour \nSo the story starts \nWe walk out to the back and this family hops in first \nMy Grandmother has knee problems so shes handicapped\nWe kindly ask the family to move so my grandmother can get in easier but the family's says\nNo I was here first and I wanna stay here so we get here in the second seat behind them and my grandmother complains about them being jerks and not letting us sit up there because shes handicapped and the family says well it was our decision and we were her first.\n\nI'm confused who is the asshole?!?!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "myXr6sTXZc9cVRVsJFV9sduQL26QDu8G", "post_id": "ag0frb", "action": {"description": "nit wanting to go on vacation with my dad", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For nit wanting to go on vacation with my dad", "text": "So I'm French and my father is from Madagascar. He was born there and raise until he came in France when he was 16. I never went there and don't know anyone from my father family except some cousin who went live in France too. \n\nTwo of my 3 sisters went with my father 15 years ago and since this moment he tells me and my other sister he will bring us there to discover where we are coming from. But he never did. Mostly because it's too expensive. \n\nNow I'm 24 and started working in September and since October he asks me to come with him to Madagascar in July since I started to make some money. I said I didn't want because I don't want spending so much money right and I'd rather saving it (the plane ticket is around 700\u20ac) but he insists and say it's important for me to connect with my origins. \n\nI never really cared about my origins since all I know is France. I think I'll go at least one time in my life because I think he is right, it's important to connect with my origins but right now, I'd rather not.  \n\nIt was never a big deal for him either that I never went there but now I can pay for it we have to do it this summer. \n\nSo AITA for refusing to go with him ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OvcbXRA9tl7JhNqZCSxxUoK2X256528h", "post_id": "9tcli5", "action": {"description": "not doing the dishes every day", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not doing the dishes every day?", "text": "Okay so this year my boyfriend bought a house and we moved in together. We worked really hard to renovate and make it our own, but found money to be tight with all the renovations and new bills/expenses. We have an extra room and bathroom, so we decided to rent it out and get a roommate! This has helped tremendously when it comes to finances and we don\u2019t mind sharing our space.\n\nWe posted online and found someone quickly. Now, we are not the most tidy people, and we specified this very clearly in our post. Our house is not a pigsty (The house actually had a really bad roach infestation when we bought it, and we worked really hard and spent a lot of money to fix the issue... so we wouldn\u2019t do anything that might ruin that) but there is some clutter and sometimes we leave dishes in the sink for a day or two before washing them. We don\u2019t use many so they take a while to pile up. Anyway, we find a roommate, and she says she\u2019s fine with us being a little messy. She\u2019s a really nice girl and we welcome her, give her a bed, and help her settle in.\n\nA few weeks go by and I\u2019ll admit, we let the kitchen get messier than usual. Suddenly I get a text from my boyfriend that Roommate had texted him (From in our house, where I also was. Don\u2019t know why she didn\u2019t just talk to me) saying that the dishes are starting to bother her and she would appreciate if we could keep up with them a little better, as she\u2019s been keeping her room and bathroom clean and taking care of all of her dishes. I felt really bad and immediately went to the kitchen and helped her clean up while apologizing. She explained that she didn\u2019t want to come off rude, but it was bothering her because now that she has \u201cher own place\u201d she feels like it\u2019s different because it\u2019s \u201cher space\u201d and wants it to stay clean because what if she has friends over? Fair enough. \n\nWe didn\u2019t let it get to that point again. We would have a couple dishes in the sink at a time, but would always clean up before it became a \u201cmess\u201d. Yet lately we have come home to her cleaning our stuff and while making small talk, she would describe how she\u2019s SO tired from work but the mess is just killing her so she\u2019s cleaning it anyway. And telling us about how she cleaned all the dishes and wiped all the counters and organized the shoes by the front door (she seems to have an obsession with the shoes lol). It comes off pretty passive aggressive, like we\u2019re assholes for making her do it. I mean, she\u2019s welcome to clean if she wants the place clean, but I feel like we made it extremely clear before she moved in that we are not super neat and tidy people. Yet it seems like she expects us to keep the place neat and tidy for her at all times. She \u201cconfronted\u201d us about it again the other day and I just apologized and cleaned the place up. But like, am I crazy? She\u2019s still a nice girl, but I\u2019m starting to dread running into her at home because I don\u2019t want to hear it. My boyfriend is equally annoyed. Are we the assholes here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BMvLxW60smeVrlrJMmvOoxwYaMwnIMtW", "post_id": "arawo3", "action": {"description": "cutting up this girls stuff", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for cutting up this girls stuff?", "text": "Now I know that the title is already showing me as an asshole. But hear me out here, I'm starting from the beginning.\n\nI'm really hyped about candy and always get my candy from sorta fancy gourmet shops, and it's pretty expensive to me.\n\nSo one week (this happened just about last week) I bought fancy cotton candy, which costed me about $7.50, and for someone with no real income, this was a real treat.\n\nThere was actually a sale, buy 2 get 1 free, so i spent 15 bucks for 3 tubs of cotton candy. (These tubs weren't huge, they were about the size of soup containers)\n\nI show up to school boasting my pretty cotton candy, and occasionally enjoying some until 3rd period comes along. \n\nIn this class, I sit with 3 of my friends, and another girl who is the girl whose stuff got cut up.\nI share some cotton candy with them, and all is well and I put it away for a moment.\n\nI bring it back because one of my really good friends is pleading for more cotton candy (it was her favorite kind of candy and I owe her one for a favor she did for me), so I roll it across the table for her to just take a handful out of the tub and roll it back.\n\nAnd I audibly say that 'here, FRIEND, just take some.'\n\n Then, while I slowly roll it across the table, the girl snatches it off the table and takes a big handful (about 1/4 of the tub) and eats it in my face. My friend takes some and NOBODY seems to question it. \n\nI ask her why she took my cotton candy, and she just calls it 'taxes', and stares at me with a death glare.\n\nI'm just so spineless, that I don't say anything about it. Who's gonna stand up for me? It was just cotton candy, I could always get more...\n\nBut I was just so appalled at her, it was like when people would take your stuff in a joking way, and you didn't really expect them to actually take it and pass it off as a joke.\n\nSo I got to work and pulled some scissors out of my bag. We were supposed to sketch objects that we could disassemble from home, and she brought a small cheese grater cylinder, which came with a small thing cardboard box. I started cutting it up right in front of her, and I SWEAR I saw here just look at me and say nothing.\n\nEventually, she looks around, and then stares at me cutting up her box with an audible gasp, making all my friends turn and look at me.\n\n\"What the heck, why are you cutting my box?\"\nMe: idk, why did you take my cotton candy?\nGirl: it was just a joke, chill! Fix my box, I really need it!\n\nThen I proceed to tape the box back together and she gives me death glares. \n\nShe gets even hissier when I don't share any other cotton candy that I've brought in this week.\n\nBut was I an asshole for cutting up her stuff? She took my stuff, and I even fixed the box, but my friends call me selfish and stingy :(", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "P1cFUFYAlkGshqFs04Okoa2zHWt1bVq0", "post_id": "au7mhq", "action": {"description": "not inviting my friend to my birthday brunch because she bailed on our plans last night", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I don\u2019t invite my friend to my birthday brunch because she bailed on our plans last night?", "text": "I\u2019ll try to make this as clear as possible. My friend, we will call her J, was texting me about birthday plans 4 days ago. I usually do two or three things for my birthday knowing not everyone can make it to one event so it gives anyone who wants to see me a chance to show up whenever they can. I told J a couple of my other friends wanted to go out Saturday night, but also that I made plans for brunch Sunday morning as I have friends who don\u2019t drink or are recovering addicts. She asks me if we can go to a downtown area on Saturday night that is 45-50 minutes away from where we all live because she\u2019s never been there. So I say okay because I know she\u2019s been wanting to go. Tell everyone else let\u2019s go to this bar at said downtown area at 10. Fast forward to 7 PM last night and I haven\u2019t heard from her but know she\u2019s been off work since 5 so I text her, saying we are going to head out after dinner and ask if she\u2019s still coming, she texts back saying she\u2019s staying in because she has to make her rent so I simply said okay and actually went and texted my other friends that I was changing the location closer to us, realizing I didn\u2019t want any of them to have any amount of drinks and then drive 50 minutes home or pay for a really expensive Uber. She texts back and says she\u2019s working today in the afternoon and is on call all morning (bartender) but that she can come to the brunch, I simply said I made plans for this venue (they have a sister restaurant next to her job, I chose the one more convenient to every else that I know is coming) and I\u2019m not changing it because everyone else already RSVP\u2019D and left it at that. She didn\u2019t text back. I don\u2019t plan on texting her before brunch today to see if she\u2019s coming, I\u2019m not saving a seat for her either. \n\nAm I the asshole... ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tTDDFKCm0zrZF8BWbKtQ5wZo5T3LH9SV", "post_id": "aybrfn", "action": {"description": "not wanting to live with my in-laws", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to live with my in-laws?", "text": "Long story short. Last December my mother in-law had a breakdown over finances and tried  to take her own life.\nThe doctors said she couldn't live by herself anymore so my wife put her mothers apartment to rent and bring the stuff that was there to our home.\nShe got to leave the hospital in the end of January and has been living with us ever since.\n(The uber ride home was awkward to say the least, she was heavily drugged and among other stuff she told the driver \"I haven't seen a dick in years. My daughter is into BBC, she's married to that nigger over there\" i don't have a problem with the word and she was obviously high. But the look of pity the driver gave me definitely stung )\nI was not trilled to the prospect of her movin in\nBut given the circumstances i had no choice.\nI do my best to be nice and make her feel wellcome.\nBut I'm not happy, not at all, i don't feel home anymore, i don't want to break my wifes heart by telling her all this. Leaving the house at this point would do more harm than good to all involved.\nI do voice my problems with my brother in law coming in an out the house (hes a few years older than my wife, the reason for the financial problems is he constantly beggin his mother for money she don't have) i kick him out the house once and haven't seen him ever since.\nHe still calls everyday, that kinda irkes me, bui i'll keep my mouth shut as long as he doesn't shows up while i'm home.\n\nAm I being an asshole in this whole situation ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VStNbMQOs5fiPSkk1ciKldjinQnzKUNz", "post_id": "arlcsz", "action": {"description": "being paid to drink beer", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being paid to drink beer?", "text": "I don\u2019t know where or if I\u2019m the asshole here. Some considerable background and details up front. \n\nI have a kegerator in my home. Keg refrigerator. The typical cost for a keg is around $100. The deposit for the keg (returned when you bring it back, they\u2019re expensive) is $25. The total cost to walk out with a keg is $125... you get the $25 back when you return your empty keg. \n\nOne time I walk into the wine and spirits section of a grocery store to return my empty keg and purchase a new one. I find a specialty half keg that I like costing $60.   \n\nThe way this transaction should work is that I pay $60 for the keg, $25 for the deposit, and get refunded for the $25 deposit. I end up paying $60 out of pocket. \n\nI\u2019m filling out a form for buying a keg, so I\u2019m not paying much attention. She hits some buttons and hands me $40, smiling.\n\nI said wait what?  This can\u2019t be right. She \u201cconfirmed\u201d this was right. I said I gave you an empty keg, you gave me a full keg, shouldn\u2019t I be paying you?  She said no. I shrugged and left.   What she must have done is charge me for the $60 keg, charge me for the $25 deposit, refund me the $25 deposit, and refund me the $100 full cost of the keg I returned... she shouldn\u2019t do the last one - it was empty.  \n\nJust for reference she was ~20 and attractive. I\u2019m around 35, male, and not attractive. I don\u2019t think this was anything intentional on her part. \n\nThe next time I went in I told a manager that checked me out at the resister what happened, leaving out specifics of the employee. \n\nAm I the asshole for being paid to pick up beer?  For throwing her under the bus later?  My wife called me an asshole for taking the free beer. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mnkdGndaCpNqdqSlF5erfjGxjdQggReQ", "post_id": "a91a6b", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with a guy/ potential romantic partner who misled me and ended up with another girl", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be friends with a guy/ potential romantic partner who misled me and ended up with another girl?", "text": "I have been friends with this guy for a long time and we have always \"almost dated\", but always somehow stayed just friends.\n\nLast year, while I was away at college, he finally officially asked me out on a date when I got back home permanently in a few weeks. I was very excited and couldn't wait to get back home to see him and possibly start a romantic relationship. He kept talking about how he couldn't wait for me to get back, how we'd hang out right away, etc etc. I was definitely not picking up signs wrong here, he was very clear.\n\nWhen I actually got back home from college, and messaged him ,he was evasive. I didn't know what I'd done wrong and kept trying to set up a time to meet up, but he kept dodging hangouts and saying he was busy. I was driving myself insane wondering what I'd done wrong between then and now to make him change his mind so drastically.\n\nA few months later, I come to learn through the grapevine that sometime between when he started messaging me last year and when I actually came back, he met another very pretty girl and started pursuing her. They are now officially together and have been for like 6 months.\n\nI'm not going to lie, I felt misled and very hurt and rejected. While he did clearly choose this girl over me, me and him had never officially dated or even kissed so it's not like I had any sort of \"claim\" over him or real justification to be mad. I just felt stupid for being so mad over it and didn't want to interact with him anymore. \n\nI think he knows what he did as he tried to set me up with his friend which didn't work out, but that just insulted me even more that he'd basically shove me over to his friend like that.\n\nNow, about a year after he started messaging me and i left college, he is trying to hang out again, solely as friends. (he is still with the same girl.) I really don't want to, and not only that, I don't want to talk to him at all anymore. He keeps messaging me, not knowing why I don't want to see him or talk to him. It almost feels like nice karma to me because that's how I felt last year, messaging him like a clueless idiot. \n\nI don't feel I owe him an explanation and I don't want to hang out with him anymore. Even though we were never together, and I have no real reason to take offense to it,  I was hurt by what he did.\n\nDoes this make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "huuOqQh8yh0kHEQZRJ0y6rIJAXHQ4rqN", "post_id": "b9a9d6", "action": {"description": "sleeping during an apartment rental showing", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for sleeping during an apartment rental showing?", "text": "I work as a nurse on night shift and I'm going to be moving out of my one bedroom apartment soon. The management company of my apartment wants to do a viewing for a prospective renter. Problem is that I'll be asleep at the time of the appointment, and I need my sleep in order to function at work. I informed the management company of this and they apologized for the inconvenience, but they said they have to show the bedroom. My boyfriend is available during the showing, but I wanted to ask if I'd be the asshole for choosing to sleep in the bedroom anyways. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AWyIDJbtpGFOPoN6mn9arQoz1XoTaext", "post_id": "a9yc2a", "action": {"description": "asking after my old car, when my dad gave me a new one", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking after my old car, when my dad gave me a new one?", "text": "5 years ago: My grandpa, who is too old to drive, gives me his old car. Two years later, my dad suggests to me that the car can be transferred to his name, so that I would get lower insurance costs. It would still remain as my car, to use and take care of. I, as a poor student, accept. Everything goes fine. \n\nEarlier this year, my dad suggests that we should buy a new, safer car for me and my girlfriend (who is pregnant). He has some extra money after my grandpa died. The idea is that we buy some good used car and pay it 50/50 with my girlfriend, with my dad paying my half. We had not really talked what the plan was with the old car. Just keep it somewhere, for the time being, in case someone needs a second car, or something. Or if my parents talked about it, I never heard of it. \n\nWe go look for some cars, and we find one very good offer. Me and my gf go to check the new car, and while not perfect, it is very good, and the price/quality ratio is excellent. We decide to get it. Also in the local car dealership they are willing to pay a ample minimum for any car given in exchange. The thing is, that the minimum they promise to dish out is much more than my old car is actually worth. Me and my dad talk and agree that we will give my old car to the dealership, and what remains of the price we will pay 50/50 as planned. We wanna buy the car before someone else buys it (which is what happened to us before). I get a written offer from the dealership, which is basically what they asked for, minus what they give for my old car. \n\nHowever, I am working the next day, so we agree that my parents and my gf go to the dealership in my stead, to test the car and buy it if everything is good.\n\nAround noon, I get a text from my girlfriend. The deal is made. But she is confused, and then I get confused. The car is more expensive than in the offer. I text to my parents and later I found out this is what happened. \n\nThe morning of the deal, my mom met an old acquaintance by chance, who earlier expressed interest of buying my old car. Having completely forgotten his offer, she was embarrassed and agreed to sell it to him instead. They got from him a little bit less than what the dealership was willing to pay, so instead my mom haggled the price down quite a bit in the store. The final price was still higher than the earlier offer I got, but as there was now no old car to be traded, in that sense the deal was better. \n\nStill me and my gf were confused. How come we got a better deal, but still we have to pay more? What happened to the money that we got from my old car? \n\nI ask my dad, and he replies to me that the old car was never really mine, as I never paid anything for it. I reply that, yes, because my grandpa *gave* it to me, and actually I have paid for the car: every tax, insurance, repair, gas, etc. for the past five years. My dad tells me to stop complaining and appreciate the new car instead. I tell him that we are grateful, but we have to be careful with our money, since we have a child on the way, so I need to ask what happened since the last time we spoke. He is getting irritated, and he indirectly says to me that I am ungrateful complainer. \n\nThe thing is, I can understand his point of view. He paid a Substantial Amount for the new car, which is a considerable upgrade to our old one. He is not that wealthy either. But instead of focusing on his good deed, he sees me focusing on the old car, which was worth maybe 15% of the price of the new car. Instead of me seeing him as a benefactor, he maybe felt that I saw him as a cheater. \n\nIn reality, it was bit of both. I am grateful for his contribution. Without it we could not have afforded to buy a new used car. But I am still irritated. I feel like he broke my trust on several fronts: \n\n\\- He indirectly claimed the ownership to my old car. It was in his name due to lower insurance costs, so I had no legal way to prove it was mine anymore. I had the legal documents from five years ago, when grandpa gave it to me, but showing them did not help, my dad can be stubborn. I had trusted him when we moved the car to his name, that I would still own it, that was the agreement. I felt he broke that trust. \n\n\\- We already had agreed to the deal already, both with the dealership and with them, but they changed it without asking me, to a new one that was more beneficial to him, but worse for my girlfriend who now had to pay more for her half. \n\nI guess that the last part is the reason why I had hard time to accept this. My situation had not changed, I still did not pay for the new car (except later taxes, insurances and so on). But my girlfriend was confused (she does not speak the local language) on why she suddenly had to pay more, and why there is no money from the old car to reduce the combined price, like I said there would be. Now, basically, the old car price was reduced only from the portion my dad had to pay. \n\nThe thing is, if we had agreed that my dad gets the old car or whatever money he can get from it, and in return I get a new car, I would have been more than happy to comply. It would have been a great deal for me. But now he just laid claim on things, and got irritated when I asked what happened and questioned him. \n\nFor him and mom to sell my car to a third party without my knowledge, keep the money, alter the deals we already made, and then claim that the car was never mine in the first place, made me mad. It was mine in every way but name. It was worth only little, but it was mine (my mom eventually believed me, after I showed the legal papers). \n\nBut on the other hand, I got a nice new car (well, new to me), without paying for it. Did I have the right to complain? Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wqbrAVWISbUhXZuRXCr7SloqMLatsOCx", "post_id": "a0grvs", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Made a joke about men sucking", "text": "I was playing a game, and after this girl a creepy encounter with a guy who was asking where she lived (he got banned) I said \"Sorry that my gender sucks.\" Which was meant to be a joke, but then she was like\n\n\" Stop white knighting, you aren't a feminist.\" She said more stuff like that but I can't remember cause my mind sucks\n\nAm I the asshole for making the joke? Are neither parties at fault since the joke was misinterpreted? Was she the asshole? Am I thinking about this way more than I need to?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mz7D24adyVcR1NQG9JrInlR5sBCOnGmX", "post_id": "auc6lw", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed whenever my grandparents come over", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed whenever my grandparents come over", "text": "So every time my grandparents come over they always choose my room because it is the largest. They drive pretty far to come out (8 hrs with traffic). I always have to sleep on an air bed in my brother\u2019s room, so I get horrible sleep. WE DO HAVE A ROOM THAT IS COMPLETELY OPEN WITH A BATHROOM. They also always use my toothpaste and get gunk all over the cap of my toothpaste. Because I have to wake up early for school, weekends are the only times I get good sleep. When my grandparents are at my house, I always get horrible sleep. I know that they shout get good sleep and not have to be on an air bed, but we have hotels near by. It has always annoyed me, also because they use my shelf for their clothing, meaning mine goes somewhere else. I don\u2019t know if I am overreacting, but it always gets on my nerves. They also wake up later than me, so I have to get my stuff from my room the night before. I may be able to get them to wake up at the same time as me this time around, I don\u2019t know. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3nT1dARie98cm5cDuKGFBBvINawIeTdj", "post_id": "b7yvvl", "action": {"description": "staying celibate 4 months into dating a person who cranked me one on day 1", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for staying celibate 4 months into dating a person who cranked me one on day 1?", "text": "", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MJX0VhaS9MidR0D8RNa9btkhsVnFWcfH", "post_id": "awoifn", "action": {"description": "being glad that my child is a girl", "pronormative_score": 35, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being glad that my child is a girl?", "text": "My daughter is 16 and we are very close. I recently expressed to a friend that I was glad she turned out to be a girl and he got angry and said I should never say that because it sounds like I value girl babies over boy babies and that I'm sexist and forcing my daughter to be girly and I wouldn't have loved a son as much.\n\nThings may have been different if I had had a son, but I would have kept him and loved him just as much. I say I'm glad I had a daughter because my mother, who is also very involved with my daughter, was a single mom and my daughter's father has chosen to be completely absent. Now that my daughter is getting older and figuring out more of who she is, I have more applicable experience to guide her because I can understand what she's going through. Not to say I absolutely couldn't if she were a boy, but I can only speak from my own experience. \n\nMy daughter also has a lot of traditionally masculine interests as well as traditionally feminine interests, and I don't try to squelch them in any way. I don't like that she's a girl because I want to dress her up like a doll or anything like that, there's just something nice and relatable about having a daughter and having my \"core family unit\" of my mom, my daughter, and me being all women.\n\nAITA for feeling this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 33, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 35, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zn10cxsrfEUvmMf30LumLZS88Kd2DPus", "post_id": "an5j50", "action": null, "title": "AITA game of CSGO", "text": "AITA?\nA few hours ago I went to play some CS:GO (amazing concept honestly) \nAnd ended getting into an argument with my team. \nThough I expect nothing less of this game and it is the internet so I definitely knew what I was getting into.\n\nAnyways, we got into a huge disagreement about shotcalling. \nWe had one dude who was making extremely bad calls and planning out our rounds so I decided to say something. \nInevitably the entire team turned against me (Because I wasn't top fragging mind you) \nApparently they were all queued up together and it felt hard to get a word in while hey kept defending someone for making bad calls. \nRegardless the situation I remember the most is \n\"Okay guys, we need to rush harder, we're giving them too much time to rotate between sites\"\n\nFor anyone unfamiliar with CSGO you get money based on round performance and the more money the better equipment you can get \nWell we had been on eco (saving money) \nFor about 2 rounds because we kept on rushing site over and over and over. \nIt was obvious the strat of \"Keep rushing\" wasn't working. \nSo I suggest we play slowly and play for picks. \nTo which the 3 people queued up together go off on me saying that \"If you're not top fragging you can't make calls\" so we continue to keep rushing. \nEventually our 5th teammate spoke up as well \nHe sounded roughly 12 maybe 13 \n\nImmediately they all turn on him as well. \nTrying to defend yourself and another person who doesn't really deserve to be yelled at for saying \"Hey, maybe blue has a point, let's play a but more slowly\" \nThese guys were definitely older than I.\nI would put the range between 19 and 27\nYet when given a conflicting idea that isn't their own or general criticism it's amazing how much sanity is thrown out the window. \nWe spent most if the match disregarding his calls and getting yelled at. \nEventually we both muted him and his pals and continued to play\nWe got team killed a few times and overall just not a fun experience  \nI for sure could have a played a lot better this match and to their credit they were much better players than me (at least aim wise) I just couldn't take being told how to play when the command is \"bash your head against this wall over and over until it breaks\" \n\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "J2Znr2zldc78adqjnpr4VVbRVlEnkLwg", "post_id": "b0rj50", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend to fart in the bathoom/hallway, not in my dorm", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my boyfriend to fart in the bathoom/hallway, not in my dorm?", "text": "So , my boyfriend is very gaseous and farts *a lot*. At first it was kinda funny, and my roommate and her boyfriend found it a bit amusing, so it was a bit acceptable. \n\nBut he sleeps over a lot and would find no problem farting in the room, in bed with me, among company, etc. because its \"natural bodily function\" and he feels \"comfortable.\" Given, I was trying to be okay with it, but I find it kinda gross, unromantic, smelly, and rude, especially if we are cuddling or something to be interrupted by him ripping ass.\n\nAt some point I was really stressed out from school, then he did it, and I scolded him about it and told him that if he needed to fart, to do it in our bathroom or in the dormitory hallway. He thought that was dumb, but a few times he's obliged.\n\nOn one hand, I think it's right because he is in my living space and shouldn't do things like that that I have voiced to him several times that I find it revolting and gross (especially if its during an intimate time). On the other hand, I feel like a bit of an asshole because he is just *doing a natural bodily function and feels comfortable doing it*, and its not harming anybody, why should I kick him out of the room to rip ass?\n\nThoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "weDhqZ0MeKcNRxcG8CPZTUUU835gk2Jv", "post_id": "a4kert", "action": {"description": "telling my mother a present sue bought for my sister is too cheap", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: for telling my mother a present sue bought for my sister is too cheap.", "text": "I'm using a throwaway because my sister knows my main account.\n\nMy mother went Christmas shopping yesterday and came back with a bottle of perfume for \u00a31.99, it would be about $2.50 in USD. When she told me how much it was I sort of scoffed and said it was a bit cheap for perfume. I've made her feel a bit bad about it now.\n \nThe reason that I mentioned it was cheap for perfume was because she had just received \u00a3250 of my grandad for her to help buy presents for the family and every year that I can remember, she's used the money to buy things for herself.\n\nNow I'm definitely not ungrateful, I don't have much money myself and try my best to buy things I know my family would like. I just feel like \u00a31.99 would be awful smelling perfume and I didn't want my sister to feel bad it.\n\nSo, I am the arsehole for mentioning how cheap it was?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "H5R2FfcmD0gjeouioXnWwRsYcFyVvQrf", "post_id": "arn2mi", "action": {"description": "wanting to end my relationship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to end my relationship?", "text": "My boyfriend and I started dating 5 months ago. A month after we started dating tradgedy struck when his sister overdosed and sadly didn't make it. He was obviously very affected by her loss and has been struggling with depression ever since. We hadn't known each other for very long before his sister passed, and after her passing I suddenly became the only person he ever wanted to be around. It's been this way for months and at times I've felt trapped in this relationship and im not always comfortable with how serious things have become. Am I an asshole for feeling this way? To me, it feels incredibly selfish to have thoughts of leaving someone during such a difficult time. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U3u4xCa7NibLECj9Bng7bZiQI4NTm99U", "post_id": "b2q8lv", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend to shave", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I ask my girlfriend to shave?", "text": "So my girlfriend doesn't shave her pubes and is pretty hairy down there. I've never asked about her grooming habits but from context clues I think she uses scissors to trim it down on occasion and leaves it at that. \n\nNow generally I don't mind this but it does kind of bother me when I go down her, I just don't really like the hair in my mouth and then some always stays and I spit out pieces of hair the rest of the night.\n\nShe's pretty diligent about shaving her legs and armpits and stuff and always(completely needlessly) apologizes if she goes a while without doing that so I know she doesn't have a problem with shaving in general.\n\nI feel like I should note I do a lot of grooming myself. I keep my armpits, pubic area, balls, taint, ass all shaved and wax my back regularly so I don't feel like this is a hypocritical position.\n\nSo, what do you think? WIBTA if I asked her to shave or even just trim with clippers?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PvHyGTRYH5q9YmrITkBGGerVzVwEW8yQ", "post_id": "atwx78", "action": {"description": "speaking out after my school shooting", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for speaking out after my school shooting?", "text": "Let me start at the beginning.\nMy parents and I have never had a great relationship, I was adopted by them when I was 5, and honestly a pretty hard headed kid, so was my brother who was adopted with me (blood brother), that being said I always lied to them, did stupid kid stuff, and we fought I am not exaggerating, daily. \n \nOnto the story.\nI turned 18 in January of 2018, \nOn may 18th, 2018 in Santa Fe Texas, dimitrios pagourtzis brought a sawed off shotgun to school, around 7:30 ish I believe it was, a fire alarm went off, I was doing my makeup in first period, as it was the end of the year and we didn\u2019t have much to do in class. \nEveryone thought it was a drill, until we were outside of the school, we heard a shotgun go off in the art wing. \nEveryone ran, everyone was terrified, we now knew this wasn\u2019t a drill, and ran to the nearest safe place. \n8 students and 2 substitute teachers passed away.\n\nNow that you have the gruesome details, here is how I decided to go about it. \nThe Sunday after the shooting, I went to church as well as most of Santa Fe. I shook hands with governor greg Abbott, he asked me a question or two about school security and what we can do to improve it, and I gave him an honest answer, telling him the doors are not secure, And this is coming from someone who would have teachers cover for me to sneak out of class and go home early almost daily. \nMSNBC saw my answer with greg, and asked me to do an interview, I texted my mom after the service and she was very excited...\nThen my dad heard about it \nHe threatened to take my truck if I did the interview, he felt like I would ruin his business by saying something stupid, but I told him I AM doing the interview, because I NEED to inform other schools on how to make things a little safer, as in, locking doors during school hours (dimitrios came in after class had started through an unlocked door) as well as being more strict in certain things \nI did the interview, and immediately got kicked out and went to live with my boyfriend. \nI have tried apologizing but they just don\u2019t want to hear it. My whole life its been \u201ctheir way or the highway\u201d and this time I actually had something to say that could benefit other schools. \nAITA for going against them or was it my right to decide? It\u2019s been almost a year with very little contact with my parents. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pxqrIctAQwCM3dvgOy3pgBAmKLezo1a5", "post_id": "amgzxl", "action": {"description": "being furious at my future sister in law about my brothers wedding", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being furious at my future sister in law about my brothers wedding?", "text": "Full disclosure, I'm not a huge fan of my future sister in law. She's my brother's first real girlfriend, not exactly honest, always a victim, and wants him to move back to the deprived town she is from ASAP. This place is a long drive and a flight away from any of his family, and has terrible job prospects and some v serious social problems. \n\nTheir wedding is turning out to really illustrate who she is as a person and I need to know if I'm being a complete bitch. \n\nWedding is in her hometown, midweek. Therefore minimum three days off work to attend, sorting out extensive rota swaps, flights, accomodation etc - ok it's cheaper for you, no problem. \n\nNext, who gets invited (wedding of approx 60) on his side.\nSiblings, parent, couple of longstanding plus 1s. Seven, if they all make it which isn't gonna be the case for at least one plus one, so say six. \nOne friend, one best man, couple of relatives of thiers he is closeish to. Five. \nNo other friends, invites sent to five or six distant cousins who are unlikely to make it - say max six, most probably one.  \nApparently all the rest are her family. 45+ to his most likely 12. No other friends. Initially it was supposed to be roughly equal, with strictly careful spending limits. \n\nIt's also he is trying to do this cheaply as they aren't long out of uni and wants to buy a house, fair do, but why then invite 40+ distant family? \nHer immediate/emotionally close family max out at about ten/twelve people. He has had no say in who she invites, or any of the plans, and is just nodding at everything. She insists on every point for her \"perfect day\". \n\nAITA for feeling this is gonna be a miserable experience and wishing he wasn't marrying her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bstPy2Kudec5dVyPpwdWVs7TeSoFoFOj", "post_id": "aris52", "action": {"description": "wanting to spend time with my mom during her alone time", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to spend time with my mom during her alone time?", "text": "This has been bothering me for months, bouncing around inside my head. \n\nLast year, my mother started using one of those singing apps. I think it was called Smule. She tried putting her voice out, and after getting lots of positive attention, ended up getting obsessed with singing. \n\nMy problem is that she spends too much time on it. She'll constantly have her earphones plugged in both ears, either singing or listening to music. She does this while driving, preparing for work, putting herself to sleep, and basically all of her free time.\n\nBeing constantly on that app is a problem for the rest of our family. \n\nMy father gets irritated because she barely hears him speak, and thinks it's dangerous to drive with earphones plugged in. He also complains that she doesn't spend enough time with our family.\n\nMy mother will start recording herself singing randomly, so she'll shout at me and my sister to not make a peep. If we make any kind of noise (coughing or sneezing included) near her, she gets angry, telling us we're spoiled children. Once in a while she'll play a victim card, complaining that her life is boring, singing makes her happy, and bothering her makes her want to kill herself. I don't really care about her complaints, but I'm worried my young, impressionable sister might start copying her behavior.\n\nI try to talk to my mother, but most of the times she has her air pods in, so she'll either rip them out, with an annoyed look on her face, or just not hear me at all. \n\nI feel like this is my fault somehow.  It just pushes my insecurities, making me wonder what is happening to our relationship. I've broken down to my father about it, but my mother got defensive when he tried to talk to her about it.\n\nI've tried to confront her on these problems, but every time I tell her about how uncomfortable I feel about her hobby, she *snaps.* She'll tell me that she hates her life, and using her app is the only thing that makes her happy. She'll sarcastically call me a princess, and says that she isn't just my servant. I just want to have a conversation with her. \n\nI barely get to see my parents because of our busy schedules. Talking to my mother in a car ride for more than two minutes is a damn privilege. I have so many mixed feelings, it's hard to put into words everything about this. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rTiYyxN3d4MNlBa6yQV87QVxKUsY0EdP", "post_id": "9zmpj6", "action": {"description": "not paying my friend back and telling him he actually owes me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not paying my friend back and telling him he actually owes me?", "text": "My gf bought me 3 tickets to see one of my favorite bands in concert for about 100 dollars so her, my best friend, and I could go see them. It was a birthday gift to me, and she talked it over with my friend that he would pay for his own ticket. My best friend pulled out about 3 months before the concert because of school. So I asked my other friends if anyone would like to go, because we had an extra ticket and we\u2019d sell it to them for about 80 rather than 100. One of them well call J said sure and agreed to pay when the concert came around. Awesome. Flash forward to 2 hours before the concert. He said he didn\u2019t want to pay because he \u201cdidn\u2019t know the ticket was 80$\u201d even though I showed him our text conversation where I clearly stated he would have to pay. Whatever, my gf and I went had a great time. However she was out 100$.\n\nA few weeks later J buys a UFC pay per view fight for 100$ and tells about 10 people to come over to his place and watch it. We get to last prelim fight and he says \u201coh yeah since you guys are watching it you all owe me a share of it\u201d everyone else coughs up 10$ but I\u2019m broke, I can barely afford food, so I tell him no. No big deal because he understands my situation. Next week he says he has an extra ticket to a party and invites me to take it. I go, have a good time, and then he wants me to pay for the ticket, only telling me after I already went to the party. \n\nNow he\u2019s demanding that I pay him 20$ that he scammed me out of, so I told him if he\u2019s gonna be a dick about money then since he screwed my gf out of 80$ then he can take the 20 I \u201cowe\u201d him out of the 80$ he \u201cowes\u201d to my gf. AITA for this? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YZf0FDHhtMRe8mnb6GP4DZDhdwEVMM2G", "post_id": "9v07n7", "action": {"description": "freeloading off my parents and being a general piece of garbage", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for freeloading off my parents and being a general piece of garbage?", "text": "I\u2019m in college currently. Recently I\u2019ve been in sort of a rut. I skip class, half-ass every activity I have (I\u2019m on the college golf team and intern at the schools marketing department) and drink like a fish, even though I\u2019ve pledged to my parents I\u2019m sober. \n\nBasically I\u2019m lying to everyone. I don\u2019t care about a damn thing but have to put a smile on my face everyday and pretend I give a shit-at golf, during class, even while I\u2019m partying, I have feelings it doesn\u2019t matter whatsoever what I do, and that no one is effected. \n\n\nMy parents pay for my college and I don\u2019t do dick in terms of effort. I get a 3.0 due to natural talent, but it doesn\u2019t feel good because I know I\u2019m capable of more. I just don\u2019t care enough. \n\n\nThe problem is, a lot of people care about me and want me to succeed. I know I\u2019m doing \u201cwell\u201d but still feel like a huge dick half assing everything and acting like I care. Should I just stop even appearing to give a shit? AMITA for the facade I\u2019m holding up? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0KZiwefhelkQDJhaMyj0XVr172IFv1Tv", "post_id": "b2n5qd", "action": {"description": "sending a bitchy email to my brother and sister for not helping at all after our mom's knee surgery", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for sending a bitchy email to my brother and sister for not helping at all after our mom's knee surgery.", "text": "Mom lives in Colorado in same town as I do. Brother is in a southern shithole, sister is overseas (she's married to a multi-millionaire). So I am the natural choice to take care of mom. Which I said I would. I am also a caregiver to my wife who had a brain aneurysm 8 years ago and our daughter has had depression issues ever since. So my stress levels are already plenty high. So after missing work being there for the procedure and bringing her home and two weeks of caring for her, I got fed up and sent a bitchy email to them for not helping or asking me what they could do to help. Now they're both pissed off at me for going off on them for not doing a goddamned thing.\n\nSeveral years ago, I also sent a similar email about how they weren't calling our grandmother and I and my mom were the only one's visiting her.\n\nNeither of them have helped in any significant way with my family's problems and I felt like they just dumped Mom's care on me, despite them both having far more money and time and significantly less stress in their daily lives.\n\nAITA for bitching at my siblings for not helping?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SzeGct7vl4JUyRc2L9laNPDI7d04mH7C", "post_id": "avjgvp", "action": {"description": "suggesting to my religious brother and his wife to get an abortion / tubes tied due to a rare genetic disease", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "WIBTA to suggest to my religious brother and his wife to get an abortion / tubes tied due to a rare genetic disease?", "text": "My brother and his wife are both carriers for the recessive allele for Tay Sach\u2019s Disease. If you didn\u2019t know, Tay Sach\u2019s Disease restricts the production of a protein vital for the development of muscle and tissue, which leads to complications during the development process. Often times this genetic disorder leads to decreased motor control, enlarged internal organs, and the loss of functioning sensory organs with time (primarily vision). \n\nMy brother and his wife are both practicing Catholics and recently announced that they are having another child. This disease renders the child with both recessive alleles, for lack of a better term, a vegetable by the time they hit five years old. Their first daughter has Tay Sach\u2019s disease. They are now expecting another child with the 50% chance of inheriting the terminal illness. WIBTA to suggest to my brother to get an abortion, or at least a vasectomy when he has the chance? I\u2019m afraid I\u2019m going to get extreme backlash from my family but I feel like it\u2019ll be worse on everyone, his family, our parents, his wife\u2019s parents, to have another child brought into the world with such an agonizing future ahead of them. I\u2019ll be honest, it destroys me that they are going to potentially have two children with this terrible condition and I can\u2019t help but be angry at the both of them for letting their religious beliefs get in the way (I believe they\u2019re against contraception and abortion). Financially, this scenario will ruin them as well. I do want to respect their choice to keep the child but I feel like they knew the risk of having unprotected sex when clearly they are carriers. Do I even mention anything? \n\n​\n\nMORE INFORMATION: [https://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/tay-sachs-disease](https://ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/tay-sachs-disease)", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Gq9rz0xW2wSAv5GExkmaI8osgLSsTc0U", "post_id": "ajw8yw", "action": {"description": "paying student price when I'm no longer a student", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I pay student price when I\u2019m no longer a student", "text": "I just graduated college and have very little money. Would I be the asshole if I used my still valid student ID to get the student price on a museum ticket? Would it be different if I got a student priced ticket going to a live performance (theatre, etc.) where\u2019s there\u2019s limited seating?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ofFBDrqnzKjRx1moeY1UCopRVMtzfp7I", "post_id": "a3ryl0", "action": {"description": "using the handicapped stall", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for using the handicapped stall?", "text": "Earlier today, I was out in public and had to take a shit. The bathroom in question had one regular stall and one handicapped stall. I went to the regular stall first, but there was piss all over the seat so I used the handicapped stall instead. Almost immediately after I began my shit, an old man in a wheelchair missing a leg showed up outside my stall and told me to hurry up. I finished my shit, and he angrily asked me \"why didn't you use the other one?\". I infrormed him that there was piss on the seat, to which he said \"you should've just wiped it off, asshole\".\n\nI, for one, feel that he was the asshole. He didn't even have to wait 5 minutes, and it's unreasonable to expect someone to do something gross (like wipe a stranger's piss off a toilet seat with cheap, thin TP) if there's a way for them not to. Even if he was inconvenienced, he could've just let it go and moved on like some kind of adult or something. Handicapped stalls also don't follow the same rules as parking spaces; there's no signage saying they're *exclusively* for handicapped people.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1Sj0dqbZmlwadpg73Ocm8uDJ41xr1Hsp", "post_id": "a8dcb1", "action": {"description": "not negotiating what I thought was a flat rate", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not negotiating what I thought was a flat rate?", "text": "So I had been working for this woman on a sub-contract basis for a few months (mostly social media content writing).\n\nI decided to step away from the social media work because her rate of pay was embarrassingly low ($250/month shares between me and one other person). Prior to this I felt she expected a lot (free sample work, in-person meetings, too much back and forth distracting communication).\n\nI decided to finish the one project i was on with her - $500 to write text content for her clients website.\n\nClients wanted to add more work to this job so I contacted her about increasing the rate. She asked me what I thought it would be and I said \u201cabout $120-$150\u201d or something (I gave her a range\u201d). She said she was good to increase it, would \u201ccontact the client for the amount\u201d, and to carry on.\n\nI carried on with the work but followed up with her 2-3 times about what the exact increased rate would be. She kept saying \u201cI already told you\u201d, didn\u2019t give me an exact number. Then she seemed to get frustrated and told me she needed a \u201cdetailed report on my hours\u201d and implied she didn\u2019t think the $500 we had already agreed on as a \u201cflat rate\u201d was warranted. Her reasoning was because the client had provided me with draft text for some of the website content. \n\nMy reply was that I absolutely would not be adjusting the rate for work I had already completed. She sent me a very long, confusing reply and repeated the request for \u201creport on hours\u201d. I started to panic that she wasn\u2019t going to pay me, so I sent her a detailed invoice for the $500 but told her I would have to pull out of all future work.\n\nA few days later she sent me the $500 but told me never to contact her again and that I \u201clacked professionalism and work ethic\u201d.\n\nI found the whole thing very upsetting and it was hard not to second guess myself. Am I the asshole for being so shocked? We agreed on the $500 as a flate rate and no one said any bring about it changing when the clients provided me the draft copy to work from ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iuV1HshE9vs2ZTdKc3WwuFWcsfm54c9p", "post_id": "b6prhz", "action": {"description": "making jokes about my friend being poor", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "AITA for making jokes about my friend being poor", "text": "So yesterday,my friend came over to my house and we were playing on my Xbox, and I was making jokes about home being poor,\u201d. A little thing about me is that I make jokes like this all the time but I usually only make them when I know that they know it\u2019s a joke, but I made the jokes anyway like \u201cyou smell like poor!\u201d And his mom called my grandma and told her that he was crying about it and I feel so bad so AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nBOuqBAvxmYa8lOahINNL2mCTiHW76MS", "post_id": "b7jp3k", "action": {"description": "saying a weird joke on my best friend's instagram live", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for saying a weird joke on my best friend\u2019s instagram live?", "text": "Ok, so this is pretty brief and sorry for the format, im on mobile.\n\nSo about a month ago i joined a live a couple friends were making an instagram live, in my country, aborting is still illegal and women are doing protests and stuff for making it legal, also, its crucial to know that me and my best friend love the band 21 pilots \nand im sorry for the typos, english is not my main language.\n\nBF: best friend\nme: me \n\nOk so i join the live, and she was with another girl, she had a green bandana with the abort sign, i said \u201c a killerbaby bandito\u201d. Because in the 21 pilots universe, there are some banditos that use bandanas.\n\nSo she got really pissed off at me, i tried to talk to her and she blocked me, this was on ig btw.\n\nThen i sent her a text and she said \u201cstop talking to me asshole\u201d, so i stopped talking to her. \n\nI really want to talk to her in school but she hates me and i dont know what to say, and i dont know what i did wrong AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9Z0sKF9rmNrZuaZFyQaV5z34aTYjdd2c", "post_id": "axik5o", "action": {"description": "wanting my gf to stop talking to her friend", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my GF to stop talking to her friend", "text": "Throwaway.  My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 9 months, and we have a great time when we're together. She's really big into video games which is a +, however, she has a friend whom shes known online for a long time and she'll show me some of the messages that he sends her. It used to be just friendly things but as of recent, they are either porn memes and stuff.  I didn't mean to snoop but she logged onto my computer when she came over the other time and when I went to my discord I saw a notification. I clicked it assuming it was still my account. I saw a gif that was basically porn and she responded with \"Mmm I want some cock\".  He started to reply with some pretty steamy stuff, and I was just reading this sorta uncomfortably in my own apartment.\n\n​\n\nI logged out, and I talked with her later that night, about it and I told her what I saw and she said that it was basically just her going along with it and I shouldn't be too uptight; even though I was definitely uncomfortable with the idea of her sending these responses to the gifs hes sending.\n\nI told her honestly, that I am uncomfortable with the concept that her friend whom she's never met online is sending her these things, and shes responding in kind as a way to \"just go with the flow\" and would like her to stop talking with the guy or ask him to stop sending the NSFW gifs.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HElJPuHKUGLyD90wkvevCHp51FkwdsoP", "post_id": "b8z9ed", "action": {"description": "keeping a gift solely for my son rather than splitting it between him and my girlfriend's kids", "pronormative_score": 1660, "contranormative_score": 31}, "title": "AITA for keeping a gift solely for my son rather than splitting it between him and my girlfriend's kids?", "text": "I\u2019ve been with my girlfriend for four years now.  I have a son from a previous relationship and she has two children of her own from her\u2019s.  My son is turning 18 very shortly and will be graduating.  Her children are 12 and 14.  \n\nPretty much since my son was born I\u2019ve put aside money for him in a separate bank account.  When I first started I was never able to add much to it, but I worked my ass off and made sacrifices in order to be able to put in what I could.  It now has over $40k in it.  I\u2019ve been shooting for an even 50, but came up short.  Still I\u2019m proud that all my hard work and sacrifices are about to pay off for him.  I\u2019ve daydreamed about being able to do this for him too many times to count.  \n\nMy girlfriend knew about the account. There have been some hard times in our relationship where using some of the money would have made things easier, but it was always a hard line for me not to touch it.  She was never happy about it per say, but would eventually respect my decision.   Now that my son will soon be graduating however we\u2019ve come to a point where we are unable move past.   She doesn\u2019t want me to give the full amount to my son, she wants to split it three ways between all of the children and to give her children their thirds when they graduate. \n\nWe are a great team usually.  It\u2019s almost unheard of for us not to be able to work through issues and come to an agreement so this is sort of new territory for us as neither is willing to budge on this issue so far.  She\u2019s fighting dirty too, she\u2019s been making it out as if I don\u2019t really love her children. At least not as much as my son.  I do love her kids.  That\u2019s not in question, but the truth is of course I love my son more.  I feel like that shouldn\u2019t even be that controversial of a thought.  I truly doubt she loves my son as much as her own children even if she\u2019d never admit it. \n\nI honestly don\u2019t even know if I would be able to split it up even if I chose too.  This is been something I broke my back over and gave up things for myself for for almost 18 years now.  Even thinking about splitting it up is difficult for me.  Inside there\u2019s just a big \u201cNO\u201d feeling that comes up when I try to consider it. \n\nI also feel like it\u2019s really shitty for my girlfriend to make this such a demand.  Putting this money aside was never easy and she had no part in that.  In fact she did pretty much the opposite putting herself into debt(which I now help pay off) and I don\u2019t particularly feel that she should have deciding power over this money. \n\nNeither of us have been backing down and it won\u2019t be too much longer until it\u2019s time to give him the money.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 1635, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 25, "INFO": 41}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1660, "WRONG": 31}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OLUIcoJB2tHkNPuzDXc7x3lEiJftDoKK", "post_id": "asjj7m", "action": {"description": "not wanting my wife's troubled friend to move in our home", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my wife's troubled friend to move in our home?", "text": "The story is that my wife's childhood friend (acquaintance now) is breaking up with her boyfriend and father of her 9 month old daughter.\n\nHe is not a good guy and is constantly having problems with the law. He has been verbally and somewhat physically abusive towards her. There is also a pretty good chance that he will be going to jail in the next few months for his 2nd DUI, a hit and run, and drug possession.\n\nHe also found a new GF and is moving out of their apt. She can't afford the rent because he was very controlling of her and wouldn't let her work and wouldn't pay to get her car fixed so she could go and get a job. Like I said, I am not downplaying that he is a major shit bag.\n\nMy wife helped her pack up his items last night and then came home and unloaded the story on me.\n\nIt turns out that she has been in a lot of trouble herself. She lost her job with the Department of Child Services for performance issues that were caused by her starting to use Meth. The meth use stemmed from the guy she was dating prior to this boyfriend. He was a drug dealer and eventually OD'd. She claimed that the stress from him dying is what lead her to try Meth as a way to cope.\n\nThere is a bigger story at play. The old boyfriend was being investigated for his role in selling bad drugs to two other people who ended up OD'ing. She was also involved in it - and from my knowledge had either withheld evidence or destroyed evidence. So there is still an active investigation going on. There is a possibility that she could be wrapped up in this.\n\nMy wife and I are pretty charitable people. We try to help people when we can. That is not the issue for me. My issue is that my wife wants to let her and the child move in here for 2 months until she can get back on her feet.\n\nHowever, the biggest thing for me is that I don't want that drama in my home. I don't want to be involved in any issues between the father of her daughter. He seems like the type of person to retaliate, and I don't want to risk something happening at my home with my family here. I especially don't want to be involved in any situations with the law. We both have very good jobs and I don't want to risk anything with being associated with some sort of criminal investigation.\n\nWhen I rose these concerns (especially our children) she said that she thinks it would show them a real life lesson. That not everyone is a good person, but it's always good to help when people need help - regardless of their situation.\n\nMy compromise was that I would pay the first month's rent (two if really needed) for her to get an apartment somewhere. That would give her time to get her self situated and for her to get a job so that she can then support herself until she works out some sort of child support from the father.\n\nMy wife stormed away and told me that I was being selfish.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZGAyat3B7vGXrBwHhX1zJyYEptbdbIzF", "post_id": "a65zyu", "action": null, "title": "AITA about being upset about my Christmas bonus?", "text": "I've been working for a company for almost two years now.  We did get a Christmas bonus last year, though I admit I don't remember exactly how much it was.  Looking at my bank statements, it seems to be about the same amount as a regular paycheck.\n\nThis year I received $50, which was then taxed down to about $30.  That was my bonus.  I checked with another employee just to confirm (one who, for the record, has been here for less time than me), and he said he received about the same amount.\n\nI get that companies aren't obligated to give Christmas bonuses at all, but that almost feels like less of a slap to the face than this.  This just feels like an insult, like they don't care or don't appreciate our work.\n\nAm I being entitled?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Pm0ygW3nFZnwYVqJ3g78R7Xcs4gAlS7O", "post_id": "affvlh", "action": {"description": "not telling my mom about my girlfriend of two years", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not telling my mom about my girlfriend of two years?", "text": "So, throwaway account because my friends follow my real one, and...I'm not out to everyone.\n\n***Tldr at the bottom***\n\nI'm pan (or bi, whatever you want to call it. point is, couldn't care less) and a 17yo female. I have tried coming out to my mom for several years, before I started dating my girlfriend. I tried, and she shut me down telling me that I couldn't know, and that she couldn't handle having another gay kid (my brother who is much older than me came out gay about 5 years ago, but since then, he has married a woman and had kids...which...is confusing...I know...). She goes off about wanting grandkids, which is hilarious since...now that she thinks I'm straight and talking about never having kids she's suddenly okay with it!\n\nSince the past 3 times I've tried coming out (once when I was 14, another time when I was 15 dating a guy, and when I was 16 and dating this girl), whenever I bring up LGBTQ issues she \"accuses me\" of being gay. I have to shut her down, because she gets livid every time, and I just can't deal with it.\n\nHowever, I love my mom. I love my mom so much. She's such a good mom, and this is the only thing in the world I wish she could be better about. She has done so much for me, and it's clear she cares about me so much. She only wants the best for me, and I know that. It's not even really like she's homophobic. She's not against gay marriage or gay people, or anything. She doesn't care when it comes to anyone else, just her kids...but not even really my brother. It's just me. She just can't handle *me* not being straight...\n\nAnd then it happened. 6 years ago, I met this girl. And like, I knew she was pretty. But when we got older, and both realized yknow...we were super gay...and at that gay for EACH OTHER (crazy right?),we started dating. We've been dating since 2 years ago, probably closer to 2 and a half now. And we have been through so much together. I know I'm young and its probably crazy to say, but I love this girl more than most things in life. She reminds me of sunflowers and roses and pretty sounds and pretty smells and she's just so wonderful. I want my driver's license so bad just so I can see her more often, and I want to move into my own apartment so she can live with me. I can't wait to see where our relationship goes so that one day, I can settle down with her.\n\nObviously though...I haven't told my mom.\n\nAnd she knows this girl. She knows this girl and her family very well since we were friends for so long before this happened. But she has no idea that I'm madly in love with her. And I feel so terrible about it everyday. I text this girl that she's one of the best things to ever happen to me while sitting across from my mom as we go eat lunch and she asks me about why I'm not looking to date any boys right now. It's terrible and I feel so bad. \n\nI can't see myself ever telling my mom either, because I'm so afraid of losing her, and losing her love and support. I also feel like she would be so hurt that I hid it from her for so long, but its not like I haven't tried telling her either. It scares me so much that now when my mom asks if I'm gay I just straight up say no, because if I say yes she'll probably get upset. \n\nIt depresses me so much, because I love my mom, but I'm not about to give up on someone so special to me either. So...I need to know if it's warranted guilt. If I'm the one who sucks here, or if its my mom, even though it would hurt to know.\n\n***tldr; my mom, who is a very good mom, just doesn't want me to be gay. despite attempts at coming out, she doesn't think I'm gay. I've been dating a girl she knows very well for 2 years now. AITA for not telling her?***", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pzAWYwytIhd0pAnzHXHKiQEceeRUzH9t", "post_id": "ahidjf", "action": {"description": "not wearing the lingerie my husband bought for me", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wearing the lingerie my husband bought for me?", "text": "It doesn't fit properly and I feel so self conscious that I couldn't even show him.  He kept saying \"let me be the judge of that!\" when I told him it wasn't sexy... feeling insecure is not sexy.... now he's pouting... ladies... am I right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RQmQjyZhITNsigqONWx15dCfOWZHHdyx", "post_id": "b0b1hx", "action": {"description": "not telling my abusive ex that I'm not pregnant", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not telling my abusive ex that I'm not pregnant?", "text": "I'll try to be as short as possible. I left my ex and I had a pregnancy scare and he kept texting me to see if I had taken a test yet. Well I'm not pregnant but I just really feel like there's no point in even telling him that because the only way I would talk to him would be if I was pregnant. If I text him to let him know this oh, he's going to think that I've opened up the door to a conversation again which I don't want to do.\n\nI just think that if I don't text him then maybe he'll put two and two together and figure out that I'm not. I mean I thought about just emailing him instead of texting him but I don't want the barrage of texts and phone calls that would come after that. I've been enjoying the silence from him. Would I be the asshole for not contacting him to let him know that I'm not pregnant?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BAgbQHueWNAgfaWU7yP63uGTHyZNMP1Q", "post_id": "azswk6", "action": {"description": "not getting rid of a pet my partner doesn' t like", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not getting rid of a pet my partner doesn' t like?", "text": "Some info:\nMe and my partner have been a couple since about two months\nWe do not live together\nI bought a specific pet about 2 weeks ago.\n\nI was always really into exotic animals and since I had the opportunity, I got one some time ago. As I told my partner about it they weren' t very happy and said that they werent gonna go in my bedroom now(where I keep the animal) and as I thought they were joking, I just told them \"your loss\".\nLast week they contacted me again, telling me how much they were hurt that I prioritised the animal over them(they tend to be a bit jealous) and that they couldn' t stand that I was keeping \"such an gross thing\". We were arguing a bit, and I told them that I wasn' t gonna get rid of it, as I just don' t wanna get rid of animals I own and that I wasn' t gonna betray my principles just for another person. I also told them that I didn' t understand how they hated it so much that they couldn' t tolerate it in the same room as them, as I keep it in a place where you wouldn't even see it normally.\nI also asked if they hate the animal so much that they' d rather not see it than seeing me. (too which they answered that they dont wanna break up but also can' t tolerate the animal)\n\nWe have kinda made up since, but we haven' t really spoken much more about what' s gonna happen in the future(as my partner wants me to move in with them)\nAm I the asshole for keeping the animal, even if my partner really hates it?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sJuoZl0ph2GAI7adJMMeI6LJBwsGvRML", "post_id": "adpkk0", "action": {"description": "being upset that a friend I had feelings for, stopped responding to me after I learned that he's in a closed poly relationship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that a friend I had feelings for, stopped responding to me after I learned that he's in a closed poly relationship?", "text": "I should preface this by saying that this is a long-distance friendship/relationship.\n\nI have this close friend, we'll call him Terry, that I've known for 2 years. We've gone through a lot of difficult situations together and we've supported each other, primarily with relationships. We would hang out almost everyday, play video games together, watch anime, and just act like nerds around each other. Around December of 2018, he became a bit lovey-dovey, by doing things like kiss the camera and even be a little teasing towards me and my feelings a bit. I started to feel like love was beginning to take flight due to those actions and how he would act in a very flirtatious manner towards me for a while.\n\nOne day (December 28th, 2018), he decided to make a group for me, him, and two friends of his on Discord, which is a site that allows gamers to chat, have calls, and hang out with each other mostly. As we were playing a game together with said two friends of his, one of them, we'll call him Kenny, made a comment about sucking his dick after biting a jalapeno pepper. Immediately, after hearing that my mind started to jump to the idea that those two were dating, and as the group call went on, the remarks become much more obvious. Then I asked Kenny a question, \"Are you and Terry dating?\", and responded with \"Yes, and have been for a few months.\" Immediately my anxiety hit me and I started to feel like I was played with, Terry then told me that he wanted me to 'feel accepted,' which I still don't understand what he means by that. I soon learn that there is a closed polyamorous relationship between them and someone else, one that I don't know of. Ever since then, Terry has been very distant from me, almost never responding to my messages except for me texting him a 'Welcome home,' where he responds with 'Thank you,\" every time, and it's starting to get tiring when I try to message him about the stuff we would talk about, only to never have him respond.\n\nAm I the asshole for feeling upset that he stopped responding ever since I found out about the relationship in the way that I did?\n\nTL;DR: A close friend of 2 years (who I have feelings for) acted all lovingly towards me, only to suddenly reveal that he's been in a closed poly relationship for a few months. Ever since I found out, he's been quiet/distant ever since then, only barely responding to me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "voo9Diu5UHX6BwCNpxRIa5RYEmGNYvSl", "post_id": "aoyg1q", "action": {"description": "browsing a store with no money in my pockets", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for browsing a store with no money in my pockets?", "text": "I was at a flea market and there was this guy with over 100 CD/DVD/Blu-ray players and cassette recorders, DVDs, speakers, cameras, tapes, TVs, it was great. Me being the excited 15-year-old that likes to learn about electronics and how things work, I was looking at them. My father was at the flea market. I was asking him how much one of his VHS camcorders was, he said $100 and $300 for a digital one. I looked up the model for the $100 camera and you could buy it on eBay for like $20-40. Ok, I didn't ask him about that. I was looking at the CD players. A Sony CD player from 1985, a vinyl-cassette combo, and tons of stuff. He asks me if I had any money and I said no (My Dad did if I really wanted something, and I was looking for something). Then he gets mad at me and says that you can't \"touch\" the items (I was checking if the buttons on a CD player were working). Then he says how I'm wasting him time because I have no money because I'm just a \"white kid\" and screams at me to leave him alone. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K5Ykm6TVh0n6WN0mt5rUNmgbh81PlkTo", "post_id": "b9637t", "action": {"description": "telling someone at the gym about their smell", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told someone at the gym about their smell?", "text": "So I go to a relatively small office gym.  One with all the necessary equipment but just one of each.  The gym on average has between 2-6 people in it at any given time and any more would make it crowded.  \n\nI workout almost every day after work but I will run into a guy whom I'll refer to as SS (smelly shoes) maybe once a week.  I'm going to assume it's his shoes that smell as they are some super old converse.  I've been going to the gym for years so I'm used to a bit of funk, but man does this guy's shoes ever stink.  If you get within 10 feet it is like having your face in a hockey skate, so bad that I genuinely cannot focus if I'm in that area. \n\nThe issue is there is no where to hide, the entire gym smells way worse within 10 mins of him entering the room.  I have to cut my workouts short every time he shows up.  WIBTA if I pulled him aside and let him know that he has to wash his shoes/gear? I know it's going to be awkward but I don't want to be an ass about it.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w1MJ1G9blwoZta5NYVHO9vDrYvkaBV08", "post_id": "a8q8mw", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to hang out with a \"friend\" that was horrible to us", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my bf to hang out with a \u201cfriend\u201d that was horrible to us?", "text": "So me (24 F) and my BF (23 M) have been together for two years. Before we got together, we were friends, and we had this mutual friend (24 M) whom we\u2019d both known since childhood. The thing is, this friend was in love with me for a very long time, like 6 years or something. \nWhen me and my BF got together, this friend lost his shit. He said a lot of horrible things to the both of us, spread lies about me (that I had cheated on my previous boyfriend with my new boyfriend), that our relationship would never last, and that he\u2019s happy to never hear from us again - among other things. He even took some things from my apartment - my roommate let him in, unaware of our fight. We cut off contact with him. \nWell, recently, my BF has reconnected with this friend. He said that it\u2019s been two years, that everyone deserves a second chance, that he doesn\u2019t want such a long friendship to go to waste. By the way, my boyfriend reached out first. I am VERY uncomfortable with this. We fight about this all the time, but we can\u2019t reach a resolution because I\u2019m aware that I don\u2019t have the right to tell him who he can hang out with, but I can\u2019t help feeling hurt that he\u2019s okay with a person who\u2019s said such awful things about me and our relationship being in his life. Am I the asshole for freaking out whenever they hang out? I would even try to forgive this friend, but he has never apologized to me or tried to contact me. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oKUuYVflgaSKOV3407Qq15faYzraLUPB", "post_id": "a1cuf7", "action": {"description": "yelling in an urgent situation", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For yelling in an urgent situation?", "text": "My girlfriend is a notoriously poor driver. She checks her phone a lot, she speeds, and tailgates. I often tell her when she does something that\u2019s not ok. Like following way too close, speeding 15mph over the limit, or checking her phone.\n\nSo this time while we were driving. My gf misjudged how many cars there were in the intersection as the light was turning yellow. She ended up in the middle of the intersection blocking some cars. She goes to check her phone, but then the car in front of her starts to move. In order to get her to act quickly I shouted, very loudly, \u201cGO GO GO!\u201d She god mad because she said I shouldn\u2019t yell like that under any circumstances, but I think that her holding up traffic due to negligence warranted such an extreme response.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2y72EvkScdIzPDheDFyyI9YlUOFKx3MT", "post_id": "a6a105", "action": {"description": "reporting a bunch of asshole texts/threats to the principal", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for reporting a bunch of asshole texts/threats to the principal?", "text": "AITA here? I had about a week to prepare a group project for my English class, and all four of us got the same grade so I was eager to help with anything any of the group members were struggling with. I had an hour and a half of study hall before the presentation, so we all sat together to finalize everything. It turned out one of the group members hadn\u2019t even started his notes, so I offered to help him, as it was in my best interest. I ended up writing him a full on script, word for word. \n\nDuring the presentation, he somehow got confused and completely screwed up. He then proceeded to blame me for this, and spent the whole five minute walk to our next class yelling in my face. During this time, another student stepped in to defend me. The second kid wasn\u2019t particularly polite, he pretty much just said \u201cwe all got the same assignment so maybe you\u2019re the stupid one here,\u201d but he wasn\u2019t overly rude. \n\nAbout ten minutes later, the first kid (who screwed up our presentation) started going on a  rant in our project group chat that was just way over the top. He said stuff like \u201ci feel bad for his parents that they didn\u2019t abort him and now they have to deal with his fat ass\u201d and the like, and it was ongoing for at least 10 minutes. He also said he was going to beat him up after school Friday (today) and went into detail about giving him a concussion \u201cso he won\u2019t remember.\u201d\n\nThis morning I asked him if he was serious about assaulting this kid, and if he meant everything he said in the group chat. He was kind of noncommittal, but he said again how much he hated the second kid. Because of this, I went to talk to the head of school about it. I hadn\u2019t initially planned to show him the screenshots, but he asked so I emailed them to him. Part of what makes this a little sticky is that another kid is worried he might get in trouble, because even though he was trying to convince the first kid not to do anything stupid, he also agreed that the second kid was annoying and had no boundaries.\n\nMy school is really small, with about 30 kids in my grade, and it\u2019s a pretty relaxed environment. I know he\u2019s not going to get in trouble beyond a stern talking to and maybe a call to his parents, but I still feel a little bad about reporting him. I wasn\u2019t planning on it because I thought he was just angry and embarrassed, but when he stuck to his word over 24 hours later, I decided I should say something. Did I do the right thing, or did I overreact?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sfuriOg8jaVZvqmotb1L8HLC7Q2G5PXF", "post_id": "as6snb", "action": {"description": "leaving my suicidal ex-boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my suicidal ex-boyfriend?", "text": "TL;DR I had a boyfriend that was suicidal, he had an abusive father and I tried to contact the police, his mother and siblings to get them to help him. He told me that he would expose me to my mother if I contacted his siblings and mother so I didn't. I decided to not make the decision to end our friendship because I disliked the emotional hardship I was going through because of this situation.\n\nA few months ago around June, I(16F at the time) met my former best-friend(17M). We'll call him R. It's important to note that we were both depressed and had suicidal thoughts at the time.\n\nAfter about two months of friendship, he messaged me saying that he was done with life and really just wanted to end it. I was obviously worried and spent several hours trying to talk him out of it. It's important to note that he has attempted suicide before so this wasn't just edgy teen behavior. In this time where I was trying to talk him down he said that he's been lying to me this whole time, that he just fakes the emotions he should feel including any love he claimed to have had for me. That he's lied about several things in our relationship.\n\nHe admitted that he was stringing me in a web of lies to get me to love him for these few weeks. I didn't care at the moment I just didn't want him to hurt himself. I told him to sleep on it and to not make any rash decisions until the morning. I hoped that it was all going to blow over and he'd come to his senses by morning, but he didn't.\n\nIn the morning he was still suicidal. I knew this wasn't just going to blow over so I had tried to text the Netherlands PD to try to get them to stop him. It didn't go through so I messaged his mom on Facebook and tried connecting to his siblings on Steam. I just wanted them to stop him and get him the help he needs or at least catch him soon enough to save his life. The Netherlands has universal healthcare so if he was admitted at any point I knew there wouldn't be a financial burden to his family. He has an abusive father so I tried to keep him as far out of the picture as possible and hoped that any bruises he had on his body would be noted by authorities and investigated. I would have warned the police about this if I was able to get through.\n\nI told him what I did and he said that if I didn't delete the friend requests I had sent to them and delete the message I had sent to his mom he would tell my mom everything I had told him. Which would include me being bisexual (my mom is homophobic and has stated before that I better not become a lesbian), my suicidal tendencies (not as bad as his but would likely ruin our relationship) and all of the things I had said about her. So I complied, he gave me the option to remain his friend though he wouldn't guarantee that he would be around for much longer and if he had stopped messaging to assume the worst. I had said yes then put some more thought into it and decided against it.\n\nSo Reddit AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d7YsYxvvIvMTUNiTdD03VmhjO1MXmVoL", "post_id": "ba26l7", "action": {"description": "arguing with my friend about her understanding of sexuality while she was questioning her own", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for arguing with my friend about her understanding of sexuality while she was questioning her own?", "text": "Maybe I was being a dick, but I'm still angry:\n\nMy friend knows I am gay. We have talked about sexuality before, but she has always said she's straight. Recently though, she has begun saying that women are pretty and that she would like to have sex with a women one day. She often asks me for guy advice, so it wasn't unusual for her to complain to me about how her boyfriends are usually assholes and misogynists. This time she said that men in general were so misogynistic that she felt she needed to try dating a woman so that she could experience \"at least one healthy relationship\" before dating shitty men again.\n\n​\n\nShe then says that she hates how society cares about labels so much. She says that society should abolish the labels of gay,straight, bisexual etc. entirely and just let everyone be sexually fluid.\n\n​\n\nNow I'm gay, and I use that label. I like there's a label for how I am exclusively attracted to men and never attracted to women. So, I respond that I agree society should allow more general sexual experimentation, but that we don't have to get rid of labels. Someone can start questioning and take their time and just gradually figure out sexuality on their own. They don't have to label themselves right away. IMO, society's usage of labels doesn't inhibit sexual exploration because we acknowledge that people can question sexuality.\n\n​\n\nIn response, my friend says \"that's so upsetting\". She says that she doesn't see why someone has to call themselves only straight or only gay. She says that it is restrictive to say that someone is only attracted to one gender, and that while they might have a previous history of mono-sexuality, they should be allowed to acknowledge the possibility of one day being attracted to someone outside their usual preferred gender.\n\n​\n\nI was annoyed at the idea that I should \"be open\" to the idea of one day being attracted to a woman, since I have never found women attractive at all (despite hoping I would find some woman I was attracted to). I told her this and she replied \"But I don't understand how that's possible. I don't get how that works.\"\n\n​\n\nShe justified herself with \"I'm not saying that you have to be attracted to women. It's just that one day you could be and society should be able to acknowledge that. I just don't see why society says people have to label themselves as straight or gay.\"\n\n​\n\ntldr; AITA here? It feels like my friend was disregarding my experience in her crusade against \"society\". I wish she'd get that not everyone is capable of being sexually fluid. *I am a gay man, ffs*. But she says I'm not being supportive of her struggle to understand her own sexuality and get away from society's heterosexual expectations. Reddit, AITA??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JfsAY0Jg2OYT1qaYucF5kRjYZixVPR47", "post_id": "asmi7t", "action": {"description": "admitting to my wife that her singing bothers me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for admitting to my wife that her singing bothers me?", "text": "Last night I was sitting down reading a book in the living room, while my wife joined nearby.\n\n​\n\nAfter a minute or so, she started singing really loudly (and in my opinion, quite poorly) - and repeated the same song over and over.\n\n​\n\nI waited for about 5 minutes to let her get it out of her system, but she didn't finish - so I asked her if she's going to sing some more, and if so I will get my headphones so she can do it without disturbing my reading.\n\n​\n\nShe was highly offended by this and got really emotional, and said \"I am her husband, and if she sings I should just let her - and I shouldn't make her feel bad for wanting to sing\".\n\nI tried calmly explaining to her that I have no problem with her singing and I will be more than happy to put on headphones so she can sing all she want. \n\nShe continued yelling at me and not listening, and I told her that I don't have a problem having this discussion with her, but I asked her to calm down so we can talk about it in a relaxed manner.\n\nThat was not acceptable for her, I spent the night sleeping on the couch.\n\n​\n\nAITA?\n\n​\n\nP.S. It's important for me to note that 99.9% of my time my wife is a loving and sweet person :P", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CrxR0yl0n0DIe0zHzSBEolHrZc3kryo2", "post_id": "ariox4", "action": {"description": "crying over this gift", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for crying over this gift?", "text": "So I look back on it now, and yeah, it was kind of an asshole thing for me to do. I kinda acted like a little kid. I did apologize afterwards.\n\n​\n\nFor me and my sister's 20th birthday back in July, we were gonna go out to a sunday buffet at a favorite restaurant; this buffet is something I hadn't been to in a long time. \n\nTo preface, I have a pair of Mary Jane shoes that I'm very used to wearing (I'm autistic and have some sensory issues). My mom has said they're pretty much broken, but I know they're not. Pretty much all of the parts of the shoes are still intact. They just look worn down from the 3 or so years I've had them. So it's pretty clear she doesn't like me in them, even though I'm comfortable wearing them.\n\nSo before we go to the buffet, we stop at my grandparents' house because of presents. My twin sister gets a ukulele. I open mine, and I get a new pair of Mary Jane shoes. \n\nAt this point, I'm crestfallen. I don't break out into tears yet. I kind of just sit there silently. I run to the bathroom and start crying because it felt more like a gift for my parents so that I wouldn't embarrass them in public. I have low self-esteem as it is, so that thought didn't exactly help. \n\nI'm relatively fine with them now, but I'm wondering; AITA for crying over them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B0S07kgoN4NW0h7OiLfHLEOVFvMBgalW", "post_id": "anyhj3", "action": {"description": "turning my back on my best friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for turning my back on my best friend?", "text": "English is not my first language so, also phone so formating may be an issue.\n\nIt's more complicated that the title, so, for context, both of us (me (M) and her) had known each other since we were like 7, after some years I lost contact with her.\n\nSome years ago I got to high school and realized she was there too. At the beginning I didn't care much but then I started to like her, so I tried to get close to her by being friendly.\n\nAfter a month or so we were best friends, yeah that didn't go well for me but whatever she was nice. We had been doing really good, but somewhere between 2018 I realized she didn't quite care about me, just cared about me being there for her. I didn't feel so good about it, so I ran a \"test\" to see what she would do, it was to stop messaging her (because I used to start every conversation) to see if she would notice or message me. After some days I realized it was going nowhere since she didn't seem to care.\n\nFrom the beginning of our friendship I used to depend on her assistance for my days not to boring, and of course I used to be with her every break time and be with her the entire time, so my next move was not to, just not to and see if she would do something.\n\nThis is when it goes to hell, at that time I had good relations with a guy (let's say Kevin) and he happened to be my friend's ex boyfriend, the one she hated the most. From literally a day to another, Kevin was my good friend with who I could spend the break time without thinking about her.\n\nYou can now imagine which reaction it caused, she thought I had changed her for him, and she couldn't be further from what it had really happened. I never really told her why I stopped talking to her because I obviously couldn't tell her it was all an \"experiment\" (something she had some with me multiple times) so I just told her the truth, that I hadn't changed her for him, that I was just spending time with him.\n\nKevin had also warned me numerous times that she was using me for emotional support, now I choose to believe that.\n\nThen, I don't remember when exactly, we both stopped talking to each other.\n\nSo, Was ITA for doing that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xyXTzPjo71C8sA3f6hJFcjO59kxt2p6M", "post_id": "aiabdo", "action": {"description": "not stepping up for my sister when she gets wrongly accused/misunderstood by my parents", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not stepping up for my sister when she gets wrongly accused/misunderstood by my parents?", "text": "Hopefully I worded that title correctly.\n\nMy family is not really close and we have a lot of issues. My siblings and I kind of developed a very passive-aggresive behavior towards my parents because whenever we tried to talk back and try to explain (respectfully) they scolded us and told us we were being disrespectful.\n\nThere was a really deep misunderstanding and divide between my parents and us siblings and being wrongly accused of something happens fairly common. It got worse to the point where it was actually the cause of my clinical depression. Long story short, I never felt safe opening up to my parents so it kinda built up inside and they kept pressuring me to do better at school, which didn't help at all. There's more to it than that but that's all I'm sharing but now after attending some form of family counseling they promised that they would change but I fear that they are doing the same things to my sister. And she's been very closed off and quite lately so I'm really concerned. \n\nThe problem is I have a hard time telling my parents about this out of fear, that they'll get angry at me, or misunderstand the whole situation. Which is why I decided to keep quiet when these things happen. So am I the asshole?\n\nP.s. I might have missed something or provided to little context, just ask I'll try my best to answer", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2NvSsVQWD5Db7sjlbpTsONifh395ayys", "post_id": "a6prmj", "action": {"description": "wanting my Christmas gifts returned", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my Christmas gifts returned", "text": "I\u2019m gonna assume I am the asshole but I\u2019m not sure. So my boyfriend and our roommate went Christmas shopping last night. We all made lists and on mine I put clothing, slippers and a calendar. Im in desperate need of clothing, I lost a lot of weight so none of my clothing fits properly and I\u2019m a stay at home mom so it\u2019s not like I have to money to go buy stuff. \n\nAnyways the guys came back, super excited about what they got me, saying they spent close to 1000 bucks on me, but I just can\u2019t get excited about it because it\u2019s not things I\u2019m in need of. I know the one thing is a crockpot and we already have one. \n\nSo am I the asshole? I feel like I already know the answer, I know they\u2019re excited but I just can\u2019t help but want it all returned. I really do appreciate everything they did, I just don\u2019t need it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QtlkUqepgWrdqp8HPs8zf80LA2lG6IFp", "post_id": "ax9bol", "action": {"description": "not liking when my friend says she \"hates men\"", "pronormative_score": 42, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not liking when my friend says she \"hates men\"?", "text": "Let me start by saying I am not a meninist, someone who subs to MTGOW or incel-like ideologies. In the least virtue-signaling way possible, I am a self described feminist and a liberal. \n\nThat being said, I hate it when my friend(s) say that they hate men, as I am a man myself. Something about it rubs me the wrong way. I know deep down they are not talking about me, but whether I like it or not being a man is part of my identity. And when they say that, even if in their mind they aren't calling me a bad person, they are attacking part of my identity. \n\nThis is something common in my friend group; a lot of the women will use phrases like \"men are the worst, men are ____, I hate men\". It's taken as a joke, and I didn't let them know it bothered me until recently. One of the worst offenders sent a message to our group chat about a guy she had a gripe with, and in her text, she explained something she did by saying \"or maybe it's just because I hate men\".\n\nThis was the straw that broke the camel's back, and I messaged her privately telling her how I felt: that while I realized she wasn't talking about me it made me feel uncomfortable having group conversations with her, especially because she knew I was present. \nShe responded by saying that if I wasn't a bad man, than she wasn't talking about me. She also said that because I find it offensive I'm probably doing something bad she doesn't know about. (Not entirely sure what the implication is there, but I didn't like it regardless). \n\nI responded by asking if she wouldnt mind it if I said \"I hate mexicans\" or \"I hate women\" (of which she is both).  She said that it's different, because there aren't a majority group of mexicans or women who deserve that hate, unlike men apparently.\n\nSide note: as I am writing this I know it sounds like rage bait, but I really just want to know if I am being too sensitive. She is a good person overall, but I feel like this is something she got wrong and I need some outside parties to set the record straight.\n\nSo, AITA? She seems to think so, as she told some of our mutual friends and they are telling me I'm taking it too seriously, and that what I said about women and mexicans would be completely unwarranted.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 42, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6XXTFqM15NFgICerLZJT10ex04AfbWv1", "post_id": "aqj6h8", "action": {"description": "not thinking its necessary to discipline my daughter", "pronormative_score": 72, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not thinking its necessary to discipline my daughter?", "text": "We live in a 4 bedroom house with 2 bathrooms. One of them being in the master and not shared. So 1 bathroom between 3 bedrooms. My dad lives with us and this morning shouted at me from across the house to \"come get my kid\". He says nevermind and we all go about our morning routine until we get in the car (I give him a ride to and from work daily) and he goes off on my daughter about being respectful and how \"she may talk to us like that but she's not going to speak to him like that\". So I asked what was going on and he says that's when he needed the bathroom this morning but she was in there and he told her to vacate. She says she asked him \"if he could wait a couple more minutes please?\" because she was almost done doing her morning thing, and he got angry right away. Saying she had an attitude. Also because he says \"she's a child and if I tell her to do something she should do it!\" To which I responded \"Just because she's a child doesn't mean she deserves ZERO respect for herself\". So he says with a nasty attitude, \"You're not going to do anything at all about this are you?\" and I shook my head no. She says she did not have an attitude and was just requesting a couple extra minutes because she was almost done, she only had to brush her teeth. Now my dad has this shitty attitude with me because he says she was snippy with him but he walked in and literally demanded she vacate the bathroom for him. AITA reddit? My daughter deserves some level of respect too right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 72, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 72, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "un5mnaEFqbESUqDCmohoJSpGOefFUvJ6", "post_id": "b6vq6n", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend to not tell her friends about arguments we have", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA If I asked my girlfriend to not tell her friends about arguments we have?", "text": "Ok so basically the title but hear me out. So during our relationship me and my gf had had like 2 or 3 arguments total so it isn't much and they are normally resolved fairly quickly. But my girlfriend always tells her friends about them and then months later after the argument has settled her friends if I'm around them by chance will tell me how much of an asshole I am and make snarky comments about the situation that was resolved months ago. Now whenever this happens I always tell my gf what happens and she always apologizes saying that they shouldn't have done that etc. But WIBTA if I asked her in the future to not tell her friends about arguments since this always without fail. It's always long since the argument is over and it does anger me or bother me a little since it does bring back old feelings of anger and stuff but the conflict is already resolved and happened months ago so what do you think?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hVnWsCWxmoL6V4Tdz8dtedfrsJ05mR2c", "post_id": "alscee", "action": {"description": "cutting off friends who are constantly pushing me and my so to interact with them sexually", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting off friends who are constantly pushing me and my SO to interact with them sexually??", "text": "So basically, me and my SO have this other couple we hang around with. They are of the same age as us and we all attend the same college, it\u2019s small so we see them around regularly.\n\nA while ago at a gathering they were talking about a dream one of them had where we all hooked up, it was kinda awkward and me and my SO didn\u2019t really resonate with it so we changed the subject.\n\nThis continued and became a bit of a running joke, but you could tell they were being comedically serious.\n\nSo recently me and my SO were hanging out and we got a text message from the couple, it included a bunch of screenshots including games (super sexual, basically hookup games) that they wanted to play with us. This was written in one of their notes. They said they wanted to involve alcohol and see was happens as well as joking about hooking up. \n\nWe are super super uncomfortable and don\u2019t really know how to react. WWBA if we just ignored the from now on?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "o7hPDzWKVR64cEjTYnRK9Yl0v2RmT1Tl", "post_id": "an62yj", "action": {"description": "being upset over cancelled year-long planned convention", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset over cancelled year-long planned convention?", "text": "So, backstory, my friend and I have been trying to go to this convention for about three years. Either communication issues get in the way, or just plain being broke. We decided a year in advance we were going, getting a hotel, all that, and saving up for it. But now, my friend's family is taking a trip that weekend, so he can't go. I don't know the nature of the trip or how long that's been planned, all I know is yesterday he said he can't.\nI'm not really upset with him, just the situation, if that makes sense.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mufV3v92HhkcOaVFcpW928Dge9eZJwTq", "post_id": "b4r31w", "action": {"description": "being uncomfortable with my wife being a surrogate to a short-term friend", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being uncomfortable with my wife being a surrogate to a short-term friend?", "text": " \n\nI'll preface this with some background. Surrogacy is legal where I live, and has been since 2012. My wife and I will be married for 5 years as of this November, and have been together for 8 years. We have 2 boys, a 5 and a 6 year old. She stays at home whilst I go out and work a 9 to 5 to support the family, and for the most part we're content, with the genral challenges which come with a relationship.\n\nNow we were talking about having another child. She had her implanon (contraceptive implant) removed so we can start trying. I'm pretty excited, I'm in a really stable job with good career prospects, and I'm in love with my wife. We have a family which comes with it's own challenges of course.  \nThis morning, she comes in to the kitchen all nervous; I ask what's up? She takes a deep breath and says she wants to be a surrogate for someone she met 2 weeks ago. This wasn't exactly the statement I was expecting on a Sunday morning in the kitchen. Initially, I'm not feeling any negativity, and my wife rattles off a list of requirements which includes me needing to be on board with it. This is about when I became triggered as the concept settles in, and I started shutting off in a confused state of anxiety. The issues are as follows;\n\n* She's known this woman (a fellow home school mother in our community) for about 2 weeks.\n* This would put having our own child on hold.\n* I'm worried there will be attachment issues after the pregnancy.\n* If I'm not on board, I'll likely push my wife away.\n* There may be financial implications; we aren't in a position to support someone elses pregnancy.\n\nI understand; this is her body, and ultimately I cannot stop her from doing what she wants to do. If she really wants to do this, she will take our children away and do it on her own.\n\nI'm currently trying to go through scenarios where I would feel comfortable with the idea, and I think this ultimately comes down to the fact that it feels like she's prioritizing someone elses child over ours (This makes me feel a bit rejected) for someone she's known for a very short time. I've worked so hard to support her in what she wants to do in every way (Stay at home, home school the kids), however I don't think this is something I can get behind, at least not until we've had our 3rd child which we literally just started planning for.\n\nTLDR; wife wants to have someone elses baby, instead of our own, for someone she's known for 2 weeks. I'm not comfortable with the idea, and have the power to stop it as my agreement is required by law.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Lkq4v4zhPhbpRD5ShGfnBmlz1T3bCXUZ", "post_id": "ap9i7i", "action": {"description": "not feeling comfortable with my bf going on nights out without me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling comfortable with my bf going on nights out without me?", "text": "M22 here, so my bf of 6 months gets really frustrated at me when I say I'm not comfortable with him going on nights out without me, and says it's illogical to not trust him. However I've seen texts on his phone from random guys after nights out saying \"I had a really nice time meeting you\" and I've also caught him on Grindr once after a night out (which he claimed was to see if his friend had gone home with a creepy guy he was chatting to) so I feel like my caution and suspicion is warranted. Should I just leave if my trust is already this low? In all honesty I don't know if there is much better out there in the gay community lol guys suck ass", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O4C6216uk580oD6eN8lEmapWg41wn8Od", "post_id": "ap94jb", "action": {"description": "wanting to reach out to my half-siblings", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to reach out to my half-siblings?", "text": "My dad left me, my sister, and my mom, when I was 9 (sister too, we're twins.) He came for a few visits and then disappeared. Years later, we realized he sexually molested my sister, forced him to court, and afterward he went into hiding.\n\nFor the past, what? 6 years? We heard nothing, but 1 year ago we found out he had died. After a strange emotional roller coaster my sister made an account on 23andMe and we've found 3 people that match with us.\n\nOne of them, however, is a girl one year older than us. My sister messaged her and asked about her parents. She says *both* of her parents raised her. Which means either A: Her mother cheated on her 'dad' with *my* dad or B: The mother used a sperm donor and no one knows about it. My sister felt really bad for messaging her but she didn't give her any details to imply in *which* way we're related.\n\nI brought this all up to my mother and she thinks it's really wrong to seek these people out and that we could ruin some one's life like this. (Such as the girl I mentioned) But I also feel like I have a right to want to meet my half-siblings. So, Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y5xEiRXtKNYDlKgcBY1Ejz3xIsgUPgtd", "post_id": "b9gdtx", "action": {"description": "demanding that my partner remove the matching tattoo he has with the woman he had an affair with", "pronormative_score": 78, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "WIBTA for demanding that my partner remove the matching tattoo he has with the woman he had an affair with?", "text": "I just found out my boyfriend of five years had an affair several years ago.  I am devastated and furious and trying to decide what I want to do.  I am pathetically in love with him, I wanted to build a life and have a family together. \n\nHe and the other woman were good friends of several years.  Before the affair even happened they got a matching tattoo of some inside joke.  It is not very big, six or seven characters and only about two inches long.  However it is on a very visible part of his bicep and it is visible almost constantly. \n\nI hate that fucking tattoo.   Seeing it makes me want to throw up.  If I decide to try and make this relationship work, I want him to get rid of it.  He can laser it off or get it covered up, I don't care, but I never want to have to look st it ever again. \n\nI can't help but feel like I'm crazy for asking this of him.  \n\nWIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 77, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 78, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k64ZpMRW48O1esotErCOfOBO5TSmzIe5", "post_id": "b3jydu", "action": {"description": "not purchasing alcohol for my father", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not purchasing alcohol for my father?", "text": "(Apologies if formatting is weird, I'm on mobile.) *Not sure if this needs a trigger warning but it involves mentions of alcohol and non-physical abuse.\n\nI'd like to start by saying my father (age 60?) is a high-functioning alcoholic, and emotionally/verbally abusive. He wasn't always like that but he has been for roughly 6-8 years now.  My mother is fully aware of his condition and does not purchase alcohol for him. So he finds other ways, either by asking my older sister or brother to bring him some when they come visit, or paying friends to get alcohol for him. My older siblings (mid-30's) live away from home. I know my siblings are enablers in this but they don't seem to realize he has a problem; though they themselves have alcoholic tendencies, they're not as bad as my father. My mother doesn't drink much and I do very rarely but only when I'm with people I trust.\n\nI'm a college student (25F) also living away from home but I do visit on the weekends or during breaks, so currently I'm home for the remainder of spring break. As my siblings are not here and his friends are busy, my father asked me to go to the liquor store and buy him wine. This is strange as he's never asked me to do this, but he won't go himself because he \"doesn't want to be seen there.\"\n\nI was working on an assignment in my bedroom when he came to ask me. I tell him I won't do it, even though saying \"no\" to him still makes me very nervous because I never know how he'll react. He got very quiet and just said \"okay\" and left me alone. I think the worst is over until I hear him talking on the phone with my older sister about it, and I can clearly hear how angry she is that I'm so \"selfish and disrespectful\" but dad responds like \"yeah well whatever she hates us I knew she probably wouldn't do it.\"\n\nThough I've been going to therapy for a few years and I'm getting treatment for my depression and anxiety, my father can still make me feel like shit, either while talking to me or telling other family members how I \"hate\" him and how I don't care about anyone. Stuff like that.\n\nI feel like the asshole. But did I do the right thing, even though he's my father? Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oPynG37aWyXA36SCXKrTDIqbeOf6pLRn", "post_id": "b20cdb", "action": {"description": "asking my wife to find a new job", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my wife to find a new job?", "text": "So my wife has worked at as a childcare worker for about 10 years. She currently works about 30 hours a week for a company that offers her no benefits and low compensation. She unfortunately has fibromyalgia, which makes many things, including working, more difficult for her. She has struggled in the past to find jobs due to anxiety, including seeing a counselor about it.\n\nI work for a medical laboratory that offers good benefits and above average pay. It\u2019s a good job for a good company and I bring home more than my wife even after paying for all our insurance. This job also gives me decent raises each year and I stand to make about 25-30% more within the next 7-8 years. \n\nDespite all this, while we are not poor, we do struggle a bit financially. My wife and I had discussed in the past me going back to school, however through much consideration I decided it makes much more financial sense for me to stay in my current position, given I will not accrue any student loan debts and I also stand to make nearly as much as I would with a degree in my current position as I would with a degree. \n\nSo today, she brought up me going to school again. I told her that it didn\u2019t make sense and she should consider looking for a new job. She was immediately defensive saying she has too much anxiety to work any other job and her fibromyalgia prevents her from doing anything else. I told her that she could find a job that is less stressful and less physically demanding than childcare that would also pay her more and give her benefits. She refused to listen insisting she\u2019s incapable of doing anything else because her body is used to childcare so it\u2019s easy, but even a job with desk work would be harder for her. She maintains I should be the one to make changes because she is incapable and I don\u2019t understand her condition. She has not worked in any other job beyond her current and some food worker jobs in her teenage years.\n\nSo am I the asshole for asking her to consider looking for a new job?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hIwKP9uE02U7sj0TPeiSKG4Xz7ihzgQO", "post_id": "9x5dil", "action": {"description": "not wanting my parents at my wedding", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my parents at my wedding?", "text": "Hi, recently engaged and planning our wedding.\n\nI don't have the best relationship with my parents especially my mother emotional and physical abuse in my childhood from her, physical stopped when I was old enough to defend myself.  Dad was just and still is a vacant alcoholic, they provided for me as in bought me things and said they spoilt me but emotionally always put me down.\n\nAll she does is put me down, talks shit about my fiance and his family and is already dictating who from my own family I can and can't invite. Also chatting shit about how 'common' our venue looks and that she wouldn't be seen dead married there.\n\nAITA for not wanting to invite them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EuwecM1txBpJbC5ETdRjbrUJMyWuBkG1", "post_id": "aaxkrl", "action": {"description": "refusing to pay for internet I don't ever use", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pay for Internet I don\u2019t ever use?", "text": "I have an 8 month lease for a room in a house that I\u2019m sharing with 3 roommates, one of which is the landlord. My lease started sept. 1st and I have been home a total of twice since. Always for one night, because I\u2019ve spent all of my time sleeping at my girlfriend\u2019s place.\n\nI have always paid rent on time regardless but yesterday the landlord texted me to remind me that I am \u201cexpected to pay for 2 months of internet in advance\u201d because this is something they all agreed on without me there, not in the lease or anything. The total would come to almost $200 and I can not afford that with tuition, food, etc. \n\nAm I an asshole for outright saying no, and telling them they can cut off the internet if they so choose, because I\u2019m not paying for a service I won\u2019t use?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "stoHLRX4GyoyoNNiHyI9G6s97Of1z1Ym", "post_id": "b22ux8", "action": {"description": "standing up for a disabled person", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for standing up for a disabled person?", "text": "I was at a bar with my girlfriend (8 years), college friend (4 years), and a group of GF\u2019s work friends (~2 years) tonight. One of the work friends was on a date with someone who was using a walker. The person using the walker was in their mid to late 20\u2019s. One of the other work friends warned us that the guy was disabled by physically emulating what walking with a walker would look like, and saying \u201cone of our friends was set up on a blind date with a disabled guy.\u201d This rubbed me the wrong way.\n\nI ended up talking to the guy with a walker for a while. He was very polite and fun to talk to.\n\nLater that night, he left. The same friend that described him earlier said something along the lines of \u201cFinally, he (*making walker motion*) is leaving.\u201d\n\nThis really upset me. I said something like \u201coh yeah, fuck him, the disabled guy is finally leaving (/s).\u201d Everyone looked kind of shocked, and asked what I had said. I repeated myself. I probably said it pretty aggressively, as I was angry. Everyone fell silent, and I excused myself to go to the bar. I offered to buy everyone in the circle a drink individually. I went to the bar and took my time to cool off.\n\nThe night was a bit awkward afterwards, but I made a point to include everyone in the conversation, including the person that I likely upset by calling her out.\n\nMy girlfriend and I left the bar with a close college friend in an Uber, on our way to another bar. I explained that I was sorry about the way I handled the situation (after GF brought it to my attention), but I\u2019m not sorry for the position that I held. She agreed with my position for the most part, but was upset about possibly embarrassing her work friend, which she will have to see after the weekend is over. She was also upset with the way that I handled the situation.\n\nWe continued to argue for the rest of the 10-15 minute ride. GF was upset because it may make an awkward time for her at work. I argued that it was fine with me if he work friend felt awkward, because I think it\u2019s wrong to make fun of people who are disabled. Our college friend ended up getting annoyed with the bickering and left to go home once we got to the next bar. I texted an apology to college friend. She is very close and dear to GF and I, and I acknowledge that I\u2019m already an asshole for the position that I put her in.\n\nI firmly stand by my initial position. Although I may make work a bit awkward for my girlfriend, I fundamentally would feel wrong to stand by silently. My girlfriend firmly stands by her belief that I was an asshole, not because of the position that I held, but because of the way that I handled the situation. She thinks that it may have been a better idea to bite my tongue and stay silent, or have collected my thoughts and stated them in a more appropriate manner.\n\nI acknowledge that I should\u2019ve handled the situation with more grace.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "liZt4ptSOAlZrFv2yaPuj1AvRlFVVwO6", "post_id": "aml5xe", "action": {"description": "suddenly stop talking to my best friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for suddenly stop talking to my best friend?", "text": "Last week one of my old friends starting to become more and more of an asshole in general. He became a narcissistic prick. I was also starting to become meaner and taking changes to make fun of him in front of the rest of our friends. Then he took it over the top when we got into a little argument. The argument now become irrelevant, I confronted him about being an asshole. He insulted me immensely. \n\nToday I stopped talking to him, because of the insults he said. Now please judge. Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vvL3xXcBu8MVv1r5VAqwmcGMGCGUhGoG", "post_id": "avtfw9", "action": {"description": "not tipping at a coffee shop I go to", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not tipping at a coffee shop I go to", "text": "So there's a local coffee shop in the small downtown of the town I live in.  I like to go there occasionally because the coffee is really good, the people are nice, and the environment is relaxing.  \n\nIt's basically like any other place I've been to get coffee, like Starbucks.  You order, they make the coffee, give it to you, and I go sit down at a table to enjoy.  The prices are also much the same including tax.  \n\nBut this place is the only one I've been to with a tip line on their reciepts.  The only thing I can think of that might warrant it is they serve the coffee in mugs if you don't want it to go, that they will wash later to reuse.  I haven't been tipping when I go, (about once a month) because it makes it too expensive for me.\n\nI don't see a reason to tip there on just the coffee, but I understand tipping is kind of a contentious topic.  So I'm fully willing to admit that I may be the asshole here, but at the moment I don't think I am.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QP3VWCgIHNx1beUIYtiQCoXSolGVScjm", "post_id": "af1scy", "action": {"description": "kicking my date out of my place after them telling me thier secret", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for kicking my date out of my place after them telling me thier secret?", "text": "**First things first, this is an alt account because of the nature of the post.**\n\nI am 19M, and I met Ashley at a bar a few weeks ago. We immediately hit it off. we were both into the same movies, and music. We both had a guilty pleasure of watching japanese anime(Cartoons from Japan) and Korean Dramas. We both even likes the same type of video games. Ashley was pretty much perfect, and I started to like her alot, really fast.\n\nWe went on a few dates(3) and other than that just chilled at her place, or mine. We made out a few times, but Ashley didnt want to take it any further than that. She wanted to take it slow, which I was cool with. One night while watching the Castlevania show on Netflix, things got a.bit more heated than usual. Before anything happens though, Ashley stopped it. She said there was something important she wanted to tell me before we continued. \n\nI said, what were you born a man? Jokingly. Except all of a sudden she got deadly serious. She said when she was born, they assigned her the male gender, but since age 11 she had taken (hormones?) And had surgeries, and now she is the correct gender. \n\nI didnt really know what all of that meant, so I just said, you were born a boy? You had a dick? I could tell that made her uncomfortable,  but I was uncomfortable too. She said let me explain, but at that point I didnt really want an explanation,  just a yes or a no. Ashley said yes. \n\nI flipped, I said that she tricked me, and she was a lie and a lier, and to get out before I do or say something that I cant take back. She said that she thought that I liked her, I said that I liked Ashley, not whatever you are. She started to cry, then I told her that she had 5 seconds to be gone. She left.\n\nWe havent talked since then, but honestly I feel like an asshole. Even if I didn't flip out, I couldn't date Ashley after finding that out.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TpPVfjUp5orhYDZroi2Ewusd8QPkBuv8", "post_id": "azug9z", "action": {"description": "being pissed that my baby got bitten on my husband's watch", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being pissed that my baby got bitten on my husband's watch?", "text": "I have pretty bad insomnia and I can't sleep for more and a couple hours at a time. I'm up most nights and need a nap during the day so i can function. While i nap, my husband is in charge of our 2yo. \nI woke up after about an hour of sleep to a bark and then crying. My husband then calls for my help. Our newish husky was eating my 2yo's snack and when he tried to stop her, she nipped him. Nothing was broken and he didn't need stitches, but now he has 3 punctures and can't use his hand until it heals up. \nWhere was my husband when this happened? \nIn the other room, on his computer. \nI'm really trying not to be angry but I have told him so many times that he can't leave our baby alone to just watch TV while he's on his computer. He does have school work he needs to do, but he is most often on video games. He was working on school work at that exact moment but when I asked him why he couldn't have waited to do that until our baby went to nap soon, or even later that night, he didn't have a good reason. Then He got pissed off at me that I was asleep during it so I have no say on his actions. I asked that he stays off his computer while the baby is awake. It's in another room and he just can't be present enough. I'd even be fine if he was on a laptop, as long as he can be in the room. He was extra pissed off and felt like I was banning him from his computer like a Mom would to their kid.\nAITA here? I didn't just piss off to go sleep and leave my child in front of the tv with the dog. I asked my husband and he agreed to take responsibility for watching so I could get some sleep. I know he was doing school work, but i really don't think it was appropriate to try and do school work at that moment. Mostly, he is constantly on his computer, playing games or watching videos, ignoring our children when I'm there and when I'm not there. He could have just as easily have been playing video games when our kid got bit, but he is pissed that I'm mad at him and insists he's not at fault and no behavior needs to be changed. Any advice would be awesome.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7s08xNhO3gnnlgrnBL8JANzMSZbxyiSn", "post_id": "b2ij1o", "action": {"description": "expecting my friend to honor our verbal agreement", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting my friend to honor our verbal agreement?", "text": "My friend an I are old slot machines enthusiasts. He is the one who originally introduced me to the hobby, and I have loved it ever since. We talk about different machines, which ones are the best, which ones are overrated, etc. You can say we are both obsessed. \n\nWe both have a couple that we have purchased over the years in our basements, that we have both moved together (I have paid fair market value while he has found incredible deals). He scours Craigslist, Facebook Marketplace, etc. for deals. There have been many a day where there is a great deal that needs to be hopped on immediately. They are heavy, so we tag team it - he finds the deals and I'm the muscle. \n\nAfter helping out with a half dozen or so of these \"drop everything\" deals, without ever expecting compensation, I finally mention that one of these times, I would just like to be able to get one of these deals. Though I do check Craigslist, I'm not on Facebook, so the marketplace is out of my reach. On a recent venture when we were going to pick up a GREAT deal (at a moment's notice, as is often the case - which hey, I'm always willing to drop everything for the greater good), after we make the pickup for 1/10th of the value of this particular item, he says \"next one is yours\". I am excited about the prospect of getting such a deal so have a brief conversation about it, sounds fair to me.\n\nFlash forward about three months later, he finds another incredible deal - another \"drop everything\" moment. This is it - my incredible deal. On the way there, I mention how excited I am and he is like \"uhhh, about that... this is TOO good of a deal\". We go back and forth a bit, and I concede that this particular game was not on my \"short list\", but it is a fun game that I would have kept and played and given the situation, either one of us could easily parlay the game into one that we really wanted. He insists that it is one that he really wants and would keep himself. I concede and tell him that he can have it as long as he keeps it.\n\n​\n\nFlash forward about six months later, he is now sending me texts about how he wants to trade it for a machine that we both have talked about wanting before. If it's not obvious, I'm not much of a businessman, and I generally try to take an attitude of \"freely give and freely receive\", but I feel a bit taken advantage of here and I'm having a hard time getting over it. AITA?  \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "20Xnm6idF4WdubZM0wEcbaLu7QQKxAzv", "post_id": "a1dhju", "action": {"description": "thinking users should put/post age in the title in r/aita", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA - for thinking users should put/post age in the title in r/AITA?", "text": "I feel as if there are a lot of \"click bait\" titles.  Some are Assholes, some are children/dumb asses/intelligent/don't know any better, some are NTA. I think it could help me figure out what I am interested in contributing to.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "N7aGlsu8D5EP1gvXHow9HTJWtEa4iFyy", "post_id": "a1n9cg", "action": {"description": "calling out people who didn't read instructions", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out people who didn't read instructions?", "text": "So the CO of my company sends a company-wide email, explaining that he has a bunch of extra basketball game tickets. He's already picked some random number, and wants anyone who's interested to reply directly to him with their number guess. Whoever guesses closest, gets the tickets. Well, a bunch of folks starts replying-all with random numbers. My inbox is blowing up. So I reply-all with a highlighted copy/paste of the line in his email that read \"reply to me directly\". Within a minute I get some direct responses of people LOL'ing, I get a few Slack chats from people thanking me for calling those goobers out, etc. It's all in good fun.\n\n​\n\nThen, one of the girls who mistakenly replied-all, sends me a direct email. All her message contains is a big image of someone riding a JumpBike(electric bikes you can rent locally). Why? Because a couple months ago I was in a bike accident on one, and literally almost died. I got *lucky* and *only* broke my jaw in 3 places and ruined my teeth and had to drain my PTO on medical leave for almost 2 months. She apparently thought it was a funny comeback to remind me of that, in response to me reminding her to read instructions better. \n\n​\n\nI almost did nothing, but a bunch of fellow employees encouraged me to FWD her message to HR. I did, and they are pissed and going to be handling this... somehow. I dunno yet. But I feel like a \"rat\" for not just shrugging it off. \n\nAm I the asshole for calling her out on that shit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BqEcBLXo4iFsjpdOj2u7VTTqeuZ5eHiA", "post_id": "ayhilh", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to smoke / vape in the bedroom", "pronormative_score": 52, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my bf to smoke / vape in the bedroom?", "text": "He can vape anywhere else in the house, smoke outside but not in the bedroom. I don't like the smell and it gives me headaches when I try to sleep. I feel like it's a fair compromise, however he continues vaping in the bedroom and uses the argument that he only does it when I'm not there (which is not true, he does it when he thinks I'm sleeping). I feel disrespected because it's been years since I've asked him first but he only seems to think about how it's unfair to him to not be able to vape whenever and wherever he wants. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 52, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 52, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a7xAf9DMSQZTcShY0qRtmg8NI2QOIjWn", "post_id": "a2wgw0", "action": {"description": "turning down a babysitting job", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for turning down a babysitting job?", "text": "I\u2019m in college and as anyone knows that attended college in the US or though about it, it\u2019s pretty expensive. I work a part time job a target, but I also do some babysitting and dog walking on the side so i can keep my Xbox live and some games for it. \n\n\nI\u2019m in my dorm room studying and getting some game time in and my phone rings. It\u2019s a woman who I\u2019ve never met before and she tells me got my number  from another woman I\u2019ve babysat for before. She (we\u2019ll call her Sarah for storytelling\u2019s sake) says her son will need to be watched on the weekend and asked if I\u2019d be able to do it after hearing from the other woman about what a good job I did.  \n\n\nI told her that I would be open for doing it, and we exchange some details over it. Friday night arrives and I pull up to her house. I go in to talk to her and her son before she leaves when I see her son. Her son is no younger than 16 and is obviously retarded. My guess would be severe Down\u2019s syndrome. Whatever his affliction was, I was very obviously outclassed. I was used to looking after grade school kids and not 180-pound guys that don\u2019t know their own strength and have problems feeding themselves. \n\n\nI didn\u2019t even wait around to talk to the mom, I just bailed. I don\u2019t even know how I would begin to approach the situation with her. I didn\u2019t want to insult either one of them but I just left. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Cx407c1yYxXtAaVlKf7uKnIT4skKxNwO", "post_id": "b2t41d", "action": {"description": "cancelling our wedding venue a couple of months before the wedding day", "pronormative_score": 142, "contranormative_score": 46}, "title": "AITA for cancelling our wedding venue a couple of months before the wedding day?", "text": "So about a year ago I popped the big question. I was deeply in love with my girlfriend and everything felt amazing. That is until she transformed into a bridezilla in front of my eyes. \n\nEver since we got engaged all she can do is talk about the wedding, which was fine at first but it started to consume her. I thought that I would get some say in how the day was going to go but everything I suggest is immediately shot down. The only choice I got to make was my tux and even that had to fit her God damn color scheme. \n\nWell things really started ramping up when her mother came down for the weekend. She's your typical trailer trash woman who married into a successful family. All her ideas are awful and tacky yet my fiancee laps it up like a dehydrated person in a desert. When I try to bring it up with her she tells me that this is \"her\" big day and I should just be supportive. I told her it was my money and that I should have more say in how it's spent. Her mom picked out maroon table clothes with flowers and suns on them, I feel like it's a funeral for a carnival worker. She even suggested we have beer kegs on tap.\n\nSo the last straw was that her and her mother, without my consent, used my credit card as a payment on a venue down by a river instead of the church we discussed where my family has attended for generations and made many contributions, the pricing was even a little cheaper minus the price of the hall afterwards. Who wants to get married next to a stinking river full of flies and whatever other insects will float around, on top of all the people who will just waltz up to the river to enjoy the day while were trying to get married. \n\nI finally had enough so after she told me what she did I cancelled the payment on my credit card (after spending hours dealing with my credit card company) and told her she could either set up a date at the church or find someone else to marry because I've had enough of this. She's spent the last couple hours bawling her eyes out to her mom and making me seem like the monster after she went behind my back. \n\nAm I the asshole in this situation? \n\nTL;DR:  my fiancee became a bridezilla and won't let me make any decisions and her and her mother have teamed up against me. She chose a venue without my consent so I cancelled the payment and told her that she either goes with my choice of where we get married or we aren't getting married at all.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 142, "EVERYBODY": 41, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 142, "WRONG": 46}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r0MHoFYO4WOzGf6aW2quIqzOhNrmjLjd", "post_id": "a0lld7", "action": {"description": "taking my friend's idea, applying it to a meme, and posting it on reddit for karma", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for taking my friend's idea, applying it to a meme, and posting it on reddit for karma?", "text": "I was having a conversation with a friend, and he said something very funny. I instantly realized that it was applicable to a meme and brought it up. We both had a good laugh and I suggested posting it on reddit for karma. He told me he would do it later. However, knowing he gets lazy about these kind of things, I took matters into my own hands after a day and posted it on a subreddit we both browse. He later saw the post, for it had made it to the front page of that subreddit, and called me out for plagiarizing.   \nAITA for taking what he said and applying it to a meme and posting it on reddit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0V6GJlo84MujvIf2QBElY31IGJQuUFIn", "post_id": "aqu8gi", "action": {"description": "getting mad about ridiculous punishments", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting mad about ridiculous punishments? (Post for a friend who can\u2019t access reddit)", "text": "So, I have an online friend that\u2019s got a problem. Her mom seems to continually find reasons to ground her, trying to keep her off the computer. We can only talk when she sneaks on. She\u2019s been grounded a continuous 3 weeks, first for her room not being cleaned, despite having less than a day to clean a disastrous room (it\u2019s an issue because pets knock everything over and make a huge mess), the second time because there was a small mess on her floor of her room. She\u2019s supposed to be un-grounded Saturday, but her mom extended punishment for no apparent reason. Is she the a-hole for feeling like her mom\u2019s a douchebag and purposefully trying to keep her off the computer?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kraDEKO7LjcKjORyMUqSWE4618VRqGLh", "post_id": "9ves7e", "action": {"description": "rejecting my crush wanting to date, because she is too chubby", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for rejecting my crush wanting to date, because she is too chubby?", "text": "I do have a crush on this girl. She is kind, cute, and we have similar interests. But I can't see myself wanting to have sex with her. \n\n​\n\nI know that sounds weird. I am a decently thin guy, and I dislike having sex with someone who is noticeably big. I also don't want to be tied down to her, sex free, when I could be having sex with girls I do find physically attractive.\n\n​\n\nIt's not worth dating her without sex too.\n\n​\n\nTldr; AITA for not wanting to date a girl because I prefer having sex with thinner women?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "H0rPrHmlhL4Ldo4ag2GTqiNb1Z3czsP7", "post_id": "alqtxc", "action": {"description": "thinking that what my ex is doing is not ok", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA - For thinking that what my ex is doing is not ok", "text": "So me and my ex dated for almost 2 years and recently we have had some discussions, more regularly that before, and we would break up but come back. During our relationship when we got mad at each other she would breakup with me and start dating another guy, and then that would make me jealous and when we got back she would say it was just to make me jealous. Now at the end of our relationship, when we were still dating, she would take longer to answer my messages than usual, wouldn't want to be with me that much and would always be with my friends (who I introduced to her as she was too shy to introduce herself). About a week and a half ago, last last Friday (before the last one) she broke up with me saying that she didn't love me anymore. I was sad but still hoped we could get back together for the first days, until I decided I was always the one trying to get things to work while she didn't care, so I didn't talk to her for 2 days and on each day she sent me a message, the first one saying \"wow, you survived a whole day without me, congrats\" and the next one was a middle finger emoji. One week after our breakup she started dating a friend of mine, one of the two I introduced her, and he was telling me how sorry he was and that he was sad for me. That just made me become even more sad than I already was and told the both of them I wouldn't talk to either for some time until I was feeling better, with my friend answering with a \"I respect and understand your choice\" and a \"cool\" from my ex. Sometime later my other friend who I introduced to her (actually reintroduced as I met her when I was with him, they also had dated for a day but that was pretty meaningless) told me she had called him two days after my breakup with her and said she had to do a truth or dare and stripped naked with her cam on covering only her private parts, and asked him to tell her what to do, what poses and other stuff. He was pretty confused but went on with it and eventually told her to show her ass and she asked \"with or without the panties\" which my friend answered with \"with\" because he said that would be too much (don't forget that 5 days later she started to date my other friend). During our relationship we had sent nudes to one another and our relationship was already a very long one, so I was weirded out about how easily she forgot me and started dating my friend, with whom she already probably already sent nudes too, I say probably because she sent a message to my friend that she and my other friend did some naughty stuff in a call.\n\nSo, am I wrong for thinking that this is too much? I mean, we dated for 2 YEARS and she just forgot me in a week and is already sending nudes to another guy, who is my own friend! And she even called my other friend and did what I just mentioned before. Also, some guy (one of the guys who she dated to make me jealous) came to me and told me she was asking for him to take photos of him with just his shorts, which I didnt believe because I didn't thought she would do such thing (now I do), and he also told me to be careful about her. Am I an asshole for thinking that this was too much? Or do I have nothing to do with what she does when she isn't dating me, even if then we got back to dating? Am I an asshole for thinking she is a slut?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "M0I3tTLN0lQbi9XqCDADcIRBAPrO9ujb", "post_id": "aljjqm", "action": {"description": "wanting my girlfriend to better us", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting my girlfriend to better us? (M29) (f23)", "text": "So I moved a bit away from my parents a bit ago to a different state about a 20hr drive away. We\u2019ve been together for almost 3 years.  We\u2019ve started living together and well things were going good at the start now they are really making me dislike the relationship to the point of ending it. \n\nI work M-F from 8 to 4 and I make $20 an hour she doesn\u2019t work hasn\u2019t for almost 2 months she hardly has money to help with the bills. Most of my money goes to everything food, rent, bills, my own bills. It\u2019s a stressful day everyday due to it. I have to work 40hrs a week and I don\u2019t ever get time to myself to just sit down and relax and play a game or watch  a movie or a tv show. If she doesn\u2019t like it she complains and I turn it off to avoid the fight.\n\nI don\u2019t have friends out here due to the fact I can\u2019t ever go anywhere because she won\u2019t fend for herself and refuses to do anything without me.\n\nShe won\u2019t follow up on job applications she applies and just leaves it at that she doesn\u2019t want to call them or go into the location to mention she applied. Even something as part time as she\u2019s in school and I\u2019m okay with that I just want some help. \n\nAm I the asshole for wanting her to do things to make our live better? This is also a semi relationship advice post too...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qfatVKFFnhZLnZnuBVsMRELWTMAd0CzT", "post_id": "9t66eq", "action": null, "title": "AITA Borrowed Vehicle", "text": "AITA \n\nAbout 16 months ago my  GF and I moved to a new city for bigger and better career opportunities. When we first arrived I bought a certified pre-owned car with about 15k miles on it. My gf's car was gifted to her brand new in 2008, it is now 11 years old. \n\nAbout 2 - 3 weeks into our new jobs her car had an issue that made her feel unsafe commuting to work in it. I consider myself to be fairly handy so I was able to fix the issue up to my standards and get the car running again. Gf still did not feel safe driving the car.\n\nAt the time she wanted to trade her car in and get a CPO car similar to mine. I persuaded her to hold off on buying a new car and offered to let her drive my car. My thought process was that by one of us still driving her old car it would allow her to save money faster and buy something a little nicer than she originally planned on. Not having a monthly car payment, and not needing full coverage insurance could add up over time and she could maybe even buy a luxury model.\n\nI had brought up about 6-8 months ago that I thought it was about time that she starts thinking about what to do about our vehicle situation and offered for her to buy my car from me. She told me that she enjoys driving my car, has no concerns for her safety and would be interested in buying it from me if we could come up with a fair price. Her new job is going well and their business is booming so she anticipates getting a raise and also a big holiday bonus.\n\nAs of recently, I tried to revisit the subject and she told me she wanted to buy her own car and is now less interested in buying my vehicle.  This has upset me slightly. I told her that was okay but I feel that she should provide me with some sort of monetary compensation for borrowing my car for over a year. We got into an argument and she feels that she doesn't owe me anything because I offered to let her drive my car originally.\n\nHonestly, I did but I never thought she would end up driving it daily for over a year and put an additional 15k miles on it.\n\nTonight her car (that I have been driving) has finally driven its last mile. Now I will be relying on her to drop me off and pick me from work tomorrow and in the near future until we come up with an agreement or we get another car.   \n\nAITA for wanting some money from my gf for borrowing my car all year? I love her and I want to continue our relationship I just feel like she has slightly taken advantage of this situation and caused me to regret the offer I made.\n\nI would like some outside opinions on this situation from all the strangers of the internet.\n\nThanks for reading!\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EEz5HQIVOC1htqpg3ksJp0Ww6wQhENBU", "post_id": "a6l9i1", "action": {"description": "complaining about being stuck with additional work", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For complaining about being stuck with additional work?", "text": "I work as a cashier at a grocery store, and I'm one of very few guys in the store. Literally my only job is supposed to be ringing up peoples groceries, bagging them and placing them back in their cart. However, myself along with whatever other guy happens to be on get stuck with additional responsibilities, basically anything that requires physical labor. Putting the large water jugs into their shelves, bringing the carts into the store, lugging shit from the back of the store out to an aisle, taking customers carts out to their car if they're heavy even if a female employee is supposed to be the one doing it, getting asked to go down to the bakery department and lift shit, etc.\n\nI'm sick of it, I complained before but nothing changed. Myself and the other guys don't get paid additionally for this. The other day I overheard some coworkers talking about the wage gap and I blew up a bit and basically said it was bullshit that they can sit there talking about not being paid equally when they still make as much as we do in this store despite objectively doing less work. I said it's hypocritical to complain about inequality when they put some of their responsibilities onto us just because we're the guys. They said it's \"different\" because they physically can't handle some of those tasks and we can, to which I replied that's fine, but if they physically can't handle tasks that are a part of their job they either shouldn't have the job or we should be paid more because we're doing that work for them. My manager took me aside and apologized if I felt \"taken advantage of\" and things have improved a bit but some of the younger women feel offended.\n\nThis isn't some anti-woman, boys rule girls drool thing either. I'm specifically talking about my store. In my opinion, it's not right to expect us to go above and beyond to pick up the slack for employees who cannot perform without giving us compensation for that. It feels sexist to me to expect me to do additional work for no additional reward simply because I'm a guy. AITA for complaining about this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HR1YpKnNWfCjsOsM0gbcot0UI36ZF4Yg", "post_id": "afzfwl", "action": {"description": "pretending my dog is a service dog", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 89}, "title": "WIBTA if I pretend my dog is a service dog?", "text": "I live in NYC and have been wanting to go out for hikes with my dog lately. The problem is I have no car and there is nowhere to hike near me. There are trains that run from the city to places upstate where I can hike but most have no-dog policies or restrict the size of the dog significantly. I have an eighty pound golden retriever mutt so it would be impossible to get him on a train.\n\nSo the thought occurred to pretend that my dog is a service dog by just purchasing one of the vests for it. And if anybody asks, I can say that he is a seizure response dog. That way I can get on the train with him and I don't need to pretend to be blind or anything. My dog is well behaved and has the look of a service dog, so I think I can get away with it. \n\nWill I be the asshole if I do so? \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 89, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 89}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "veSsK7lArd3q6N4KVYgXEWNlvR7AEYoI", "post_id": "b17dc9", "action": {"description": "thinking my boyfriend might be (kind of) racist", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking my boyfriend might be (kind of) racist?", "text": "This post is the result of me trying to be as open-minded as humanly possible (and thus far failing). So I'm really just hoping the judgements here will either help me along on that path, or confirm that my initial feelings are correct. \n\nAnyway: I (f/20) have been dating this guy (m/24) for a little under a month. Obviously I find him very appealing on a lot of levels. One thing to note is that he really enjoys dirty talk during sex (which I don't really mind provided it's not too degrading). Recently, though, he crossed what is to me a major line - he used a racial slur in a very derogatory way. \n\nI was naturally quite upset, and asked him to explain himself. He said that he'd been in the habit of engaging in race-play with past partners, and so he slipped into it here in the heat of the moment (a defense I've never found compelling, for starters). Now, I'm familiar with race-play as a concept and I'm not eager to shame people who like it. But IMO slipping into it because he's done it with other partners is sort of like calling me some other girl's name during sex... only this time, he's grouping me and said girl together in his mind because we're the same race. That to me is entering fetish territory, which I consider to be semi-racist at best (entirely apart from the fact that he has that slur on speed-dial). \n\nWe've talked this over extensively. He's repeatedly apologized for calling me that without asking first, but he's very offended by the notion that said slip-up might be evidence of some underlying issues that need sorting out. In essence: both of us think the other is an asshole at the moment. If we can't resolve things I honestly can't see the relationship going much further. Measured judgement would be pretty useful here.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oZfr39o1HyXq9DkkSrbQ1dGFUCrQye6t", "post_id": "abag5t", "action": {"description": "not wanting my mother to ruin my day talking about my idiot father", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my mother to ruin my day talking about my idiot father?", "text": "Sorry for the long post, thank you so much if you read it.\n\n\nMy family has undergone a deep \"crysis\" during the last month, due to my father doing terrible things and being an asshole. I won't go down into details, that's stuff for another post and another subreddit.\n\nI have by know totally recognized how bad of a person my father is, he is the lowest reputable individual amongst everyone I know, and I cannot think any worse of him, and my mothers knows it but she still calls me almost everyday detailing something bad he does, and I'm tired of hearing it.\n\nI now live abroad in a beautiful country, studying what I love and I'm slowly getting better, having been severely depressed in the past (and you can't imagine how worse when things with my father started happening this year). I can finally feel changing and becoming the person I want to be, sometimes even happy, which is something I didn't even reckon as achievable until not long ago.\n\nMy point is that I'm not my mother's friend, I am extremely saddened by the situation and I still kind of depend on them economically for staying here, even if I have a job to try and be the most independent possible (this having been discouraged by both of them), but I don't need to know these things, they are useful to nothing for me. I recognize that they are important for my mother but I suffer as well by knowing them and I don't think I deserve to be ruined every single day - even today that I'm spending the new year's eve with a friend - by rants and sad things that she can tell to a friend or an external person that won't suffer as much as me by hearing them.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Slujtfc1TWTajCFDOIvbyzXJoUWlu9B8", "post_id": "amnss9", "action": {"description": "hating everyone in my class", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for hating everyone in my class?", "text": "Okay backstory, I\u2019m currently in 9th grade. In 6th grade everyone stopped talking to me for no reason. As far as I know I didn\u2019t do anything out of the ordinary on that day. \n\nThat would\u2019ve been just normal pre-teen argument stuff if they started talking to me again afterwards. It\u2019s been 3 years and I still haven\u2019t had a single friendly conversation with anyone for all that time. \n\nThis isolation and loneliness has caused me to develop depression and anxiety and such a phobia for school that it makes me physically sick just to see the building. \n\nAm I an asshole for hating absolutely everyone in my class with a burning passion for putting me in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uOSHoRMGZRLFyXFqDNL2hCfn285i5GMW", "post_id": "a8i0qb", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed at my mother's diet", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed at my mother\u2019s diet?", "text": "My mother is convinced that a shot she got years ago made her gluten and dairy intolerant. She is also a vegetarian. She used to eat totally normally, but now we can barely go out to eat anywhere and she would be afraid to eat something that even came in contact with one of those items. \n\nI will add that she had a test done and no, she does not have an actual allergy.\n\nWell we were in the car together after we went out to dinner and she didn\u2019t look too happy, I asked her what was wrong and she said \u201cmy stomach hurts, I think my salad dressing had gluten in it\u201d (She barely uses any salad dressing btw, very light, and it was an oil dressing off the gluten free menu). I replied that no it likely did not and besides that little shouldn\u2019t hurt her as she doesn\u2019t have celiac disease or anything. She got mad and said \u201cwell, you don\u2019t live in my body.\u201d \n\nThis is when I think I got a bit assholeish, because I made a snide dumb joke about try telling that to a doctor. I shouldn\u2019t make her feel bad about the way she eats and I usually support her, but it\u2019s made family dinners hard for a while and I\u2019m sad to see her limit herself for no reason. She acts like she\u2019ll go into shock if she eats a breadcrumb or gets a drop of milk on her tongue.\n\nI\u2019m sure it\u2019s worse for her, but I\u2019m tired of trying to accommodate something that\u2019s been proven to not actually be a concern. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F22ODbZ9zeYKBZcefRUC9XqHd0BUiW7f", "post_id": "a0h972", "action": {"description": "not wanting to eat out my girlfriend while she was on her period", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to eat out my girlfriend while she was on her period?", "text": "So I was 24F and she was 19F.\n\nI have eaten her out once when she was on her period. She enjoyed it, I felt uncomfortable while I was doing it.\n\nI would normally happily do it but I just feel so uncomfortable with the idea of getting blood in my mouth.\n\nWhen i did do it and blood did get in my mouth, I really wanted to stop and spit it out but I didn't because I didn't want her to think I was disgusted by her. I didn't say anything afterwards either because I didn't want to ruin the moment.\n\nThe next time she wanted to do it while she was on her period, I told her that I felt uncomfortable doing it because of the blood.\n\nShe got upset that I told her. She said that she was brave enough to show that side of her to me so why am I being such a jerk to her.\n\nShe has done it for me before and she said she doesn't mind, though I don't expect her to do it if she felt uncomfortable. I have told her that she doesn't need to do it and if she changes her mind, it's okay.\n\nShould I have just toughen up and powered through it?\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "poa223zcu1ZTVnhbrVf2cxqiU0jkBuO6", "post_id": "b8egwq", "action": {"description": "potentially getting a fake service dog and his owner kicked out of the apartment complex", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for potentially getting a fake service dog and his owner kicked out of the apartment complex?", "text": "Alright I know everyone is going to be like \u201cyou can\u2019t do that! Blah blah blah it\u2019s illegal to ask if it\u2019s a real service dog or not and blah blah blah you don\u2019t know if they have a disability or not how awful of you blah blah blah\u201d  I know the rules but I also know real service dogs when I see them and I strongly believe this one isn\u2019t. \n\n   A short back story, I live in an apartment complex on a military base. I recently got a puppy and since I don\u2019t have a yard I take him out of the building to do his business. There\u2019s other dogs in the building and most of them do the same thing so all the pet owners talk to each other while our dogs go potty. \n One lady I talked to was new and had a large dog she would take outside and I would talk to her to make her feel welcome. Our apartment complex only allows pets on the first or second floor. She asked which floor I lived on and I said the second and she said she lived on the fourth.   \n\n\n I told her dogs weren\u2019t allowed on the fourth floor   (I have no idea why she wouldn\u2019t know this since you have to sign a contract about it and know all the rules since the base is really strict about stuff like this. She also got him after they moved in to the building) She said she didn\u2019t know that and thanked me. I didn\u2019t think too much about it,I could care less honestly so I let it be. A few weeks later the same lady and her dog are walking around and I noticed he has a vest on. A service dog vest. I was like \u201cmaybe she got him trained because he was a handful before\u201d I walked by her to get into the building with my puppy and the dog lunged, growled, and  barked at me and my puppy. It scared me because service dogs aren\u2019t supposed to be like that. The same incident happened on the stair way when I was trying to go down and she was trying to go up. Her dog went bonkers and dragged her to my dog and tried to jump on me when I picked up my puppy. \n\n\n\n  Idk if he\u2019s aggressive or just really playful but he\u2019s a little concerning to the other dog owners or people with kids because he\u2019s so unpredictable. I don\u2019t want to be \u201cthat guy\u201d or anything but that\u2019s not cool that she\u2019s most likely lying about it being a service dog and putting everyone else at risk. My puppy is now scared of other dogs because of these incidents. I\u2019m fine with just minding my own business about it but at the same time she\u2019s making other real service dogs look bad as well. I understand she probably did it to keep her dog but there\u2019s other ways, the base is understanding and would most likely move her to a house or she could live off base if she wanted to. \n  \n    WIBTA if I told someone about this? \n  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wczNRUfiPoBifUQdrcj8Dytzm8Hp5OdL", "post_id": "b5aorz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to learn my partner's native language", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to learn my partner\u2019s native language?", "text": "My partner is from Brazil and speaks completely fluent English. We\u2019ve been together for over 2 years now and are planning to get married next year.\n\nBefore I met my partner I had completely zero knowledge of Portuguese. While we\u2019ve been together, we\u2019ve already visited Brazil a couple of times to meet her family and friends.\n\nGiven my very limited Portuguese, I basically spend a large portion of the trip in silence - which is clearly not ideal!  My partner is very keen for me to learn the language and I have already been putting in the hours in classes, using Duolingo and reading text books.\n\nI\u2019m finding it really difficult improving my language skills - I\u2019m usually pretty brain dead after work and find it hard to focus on anything. It also doesn\u2019t help that private lessons cost a bomb and place a strain on finances.\n\nThe path to fluency seems so far away, that I\u2019m not sure it is feasible or justifiable grafting away and continuing to spend money on these classes.\n\nI love my partner and want her to be happy, but taking these classes is easily the worse thing about my week. I\u2019ve always hated learning languages and the cost doesn\u2019t help motivation either.\n\nI\u2019m wondering whether or not to continue and can\u2019t really decide on what is the best thing to do...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ju25Dyuy2AzIgBCcnx49ZIrShB4vqPWx", "post_id": "a02aiu", "action": {"description": "posting my Black Friday Haul on Instagram", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For posting my Black Friday Haul on Instagram", "text": "I love to post on Instagram. I've been growing on it and I have over 900 followers now. I bought a significant amount of stuff Black Friday and I posted a haul on Instagram and now I feel so bad because my friends and others will be able to see this and might feel bad.  I already got a message from one friend telling me how privileged I am and I shouldn't be posting things like this. I really do feel awful and I'm thinking of deleting it ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RmrsPTJ8hWt6tZ1WTj9Z8NURn3KUWdmR", "post_id": "ap9but", "action": {"description": "avoiding my ex", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for avoiding my ex?", "text": "Okay so here's the thing. Long story short, I've been in a string of bad relationships, which my ex knows about. I'm also very sensitive to touch, which they know, and I'm in the closet (as bi and transgender) at school, which they know. However, for the period of time we were dating, they ignored ALL of this, pushing my boundaries as much as they could, coming very close to outing me to a ton of people, and just generally never letting me have time to myself\u2014 if I wanted to be left alone, suddenly it was all \"do you hate me? I'm so worried about you :( are you mad at me?\" and all this guilt-trippy stuff. I told them I needed space (before the breakup) & they disregarded that. When I broke up with them, I, again, told them I needed space. But whenever I see them, they run over to me, beg for hugs, kiss my forehead, and hold my hand as if we're still dating. This makes me extremely uncomfortable, so I'm avoiding them. I feel bad for not telling them why, but I'm too scared to do so. Am I the asshole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ULgRr6U8WBxwZdXHTwoxAl9SuZtyWX8k", "post_id": "af0orl", "action": {"description": "being super jealous that my sister is getting engaged", "pronormative_score": 36, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for being super jealous that my sister is getting engaged?", "text": "I'm F26, she is F23. Both of us started dating our respective boyfriends 5 years ago. She is adamantly childfree, I desperately want kids. This is relevant. \n\nHer boyfriend is proposing tonight. I've seen the ring, sneaky took her to get a manicure \"oh look I got a Groupon for two let's do it!\", etc. And I'm so, so happy for her. He's a great guy and treats her super well. \n\nBut I'm also jealous. A lot. My boyfriend and I were long distance for 3 years of our relationship before we closed the distance. I love him so, so much. And I want to marry him, have a family, etc. He says he wants it too, but he just hasn't asked me yet. There are reasons, partially logistical partially financial. But I want kids. I want a family. And I won't do it until I'm married. \n\nAnd I guess I'm jealous. My sister is getting engaged (and they're most likely doing a quickie elopement for personal reasons I won't go into). She's younger than me, doesn't want kids, which is FINE I want her to be happy and if she doesn't want kids, don't have kids. \n\nBut at the same time I do want kids. I do want to get married, like yesterday. And I'm getting older and already have medical issues that may cause fertility problems, so I want to get started on that asap. So I have this horrible pang of jealousy with the whole thing. \n\nDoes this make me a massive asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 14, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 36, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tHDG7AD2JNb0RGfjZLjgDsXNzyL49IiZ", "post_id": "b7jv2k", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my girlfriend for being on her phone and not initiating conversation and providing minimal responses to mine", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my girlfriend for being on her phone and not initiating conversation and providing minimal responses to mine?", "text": "My girlfriend has always been on her phone when we talked together. Cool no big deal we talk all the time anyway at school and after school. Recently I got a job and barely have time for anything. I put aside every distraction possible so I can talk to her. She didn\u2019t ask me to but I did it to talk more. So here\u2019s how my day usually goes, 8am-4:30pm is usually school then work is usually 5:30pm-10/11pm. I get out of work and call her immediately because I wanna hear her voice and talk about her day and mine. But she\u2019s always on her phone and can always hear her texting and most times doesn\u2019t catch things I say. Recently she joined a snapchat group for a college we\u2019re both attending after high school, she stays on that. I was happy that she had people to text but then It got to a point where honestly pissed me off that I wanted to talk but she was texting and staying on social media. I called her out on it and she said sorry it\u2019s just that I HAVE to always check my phone. And cried when I said that it makes me seem like you\u2019re bored of me and don\u2019t wanna hear about things I say. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sujFFjekFYJhi1JcV4pEARXiHN5PB7QD", "post_id": "anlk9p", "action": {"description": "wanting my girlfriend and I to share food", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA for wanting my girlfriend and I to share food?", "text": "My girlfriend and I get take out or go out to eat a lot because I don\u2019t cook and I don\u2019t like her cooking. We have this ongoing argument when we go out to eat. \n\nWhen we get our food I usually want to try some of what she ordered because it looks good. She always says no and sometimes I\u2019ll drop it but if I really want to try it, I\u2019ll push a little and she\u2019ll say yes. \n\nShe then pouts because in her words she \u201cdidn\u2019t get to eat her whole meal\u201d and she says it\u2019s unfair if I try her food because she can\u2019t try mine (she\u2019s vegetarian and I always order meat). I think this is kind of bs because we should\u2019ve be eating an equal amount food anyway since I\u2019m a guy and guys need more food. It\u2019s not like I eat more than a quarter of her food. \n\n Anyway I think I\u2019m not an asshole because it\u2019s normal for couples to share and she thinks I\u2019m an asshole because it\u2019s not technically \u201cequal\u201d. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MSRSipIQ2psiBhujYgITvirRAzaJxuEC", "post_id": "9z7ztl", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to return my anniversary gift", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my husband to return my anniversary gift?", "text": "My husband is sweet, but clueless when it comes to gifts so he often defaults to flowers or jewelry. I don't wear much jewelry in general, but he usually give me reasonably priced gifts and I make the effort to wear them.\n\nToday is a significant wedding anniversary for us and he gave me an expensive sapphire necklace. In addition to it costing way too much, I am sorry to say I really don't like it. It has a chain I cannot manage and the style is very young. Plus I already have one (given to me by a family member) that is similar. \n\nI don't even know if it can be returned or exchanged. Should I tell him? He's very pleased with himself and I dread hurting his feelings. I just keep thinking though that the money could be better used. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hNtFut8Dlr4YgfaAGqrIWlMLz8unuDO8", "post_id": "aii8at", "action": {"description": "planning on breaking up with my boyfriend because he ate dog meat when studying abroad", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 27}, "title": "AITA for planning on breaking up with my boyfriend because he ate dog meat when studying abroad?", "text": "I (23F) have been dating my boyfriend (24M) for almost six months.  He's really caring and sweet and prior to tonight I envisioned us getting married in the near future.  I really love dogs, I've had dogs my whole life and have a corgi and she is my favorite thing in the world.  Bf doesn't really like animals but he's always been good with her whenever he's at my apartment and I was never uncomfortable.  \n\nThis is relevant because of a conversation we had tonight that will probably end with me breaking up with him.  We had dinner at a Chinese restaurant tonight.  Bf ordered duck, and enjoyed it a lot.  He commented on how it's cool that in other countries like China, they eat certain meat such as duck that isn't very common in the US.  I mentioned how they still eat dogs, and I told him about how horrific events such as the yulin dog festival are, since I remember reading about this recently on reddit.  I almost cried when I first read details about this, and still almost choked up thinking about it.  I asked him \"you would never eat dog, right?\"\n\nI expected him to say no, but he admitted that he had tried dog meat before.  He went on a study abroad to China when he was in college, and tried dog when he was there.  I was shocked and appalled.  I tried being understanding, I assumed that he had eaten some mystery meat dish of some sort and not found out what he had eaten until after.  I was horrified by what he said after.  He went to a restaurant with several Chinese students and tried an assortment of different foods.  One of the dishes was dog, and he knowingly tried it since he was \"curious\", and he said it tasted good.  He even said that he was the only American at the table who tried it, and that the rest of his friends were disgusted while the Chinese students laughed.  After he told me this, there was an awkward silence for a while after.  He could tell I was uncomfortable, and said that he probably wouldn't eat it again and that the yulin dog festival is cruel, but that it's not that big of a deal and it's a cultural difference.  At that point I was still in shock and barely responded.  We were both done with our food, or at least he was: I had no appetite left.  We went up to the front of the restaurant and paid the check.  We were going to see a movie but I asked him to just take me home.  I told him that I'd see him later but got out of the car before he could kiss me.  I've spent the last few hours sitting on my couch clinging onto my dog and crying.  I couldn't believe that I had let someone who had eaten dog near my dog, and I was repulsed at the idea of seeing him anymore.  I haven't said anything to my bf ever since I got out of the car but I really want to break up with him.  I'm really sad because I thought he was the best guy I've ever dated and I really felt a strong connection to him before tonight, but I can't look at him the same.  I also would never feel comfortable letting him anywhere near my sweet little girl.\n\nAITA for planning on breaking up with my boyfriend over him knowingly eating dog meat?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 27, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 27}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VHrhjRT2xg2TgQNpecOtAqVFcRmGYhQC", "post_id": "agfn6u", "action": {"description": "kicking my brother out", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking my brother out", "text": " So last year My Brother invited himself to live at my place for the summer. (Admittedly the place used to belong to him but he left it a semester ago and now I own the lease.) and when I said Invited himself I mean I at first told him No because I'm a broke college student and can't afford to have him live there the entire summer. Plus Our parents offer to give him a place to stay free of charge for as long as he needs. Not to mention having a guest stay longer than 2 days technically goes against the lease agreement and could cost me my lease. but He refuses our parents offer and demanded on staying the entire summer. During that time he didn't work at all and he didn't help pay rent either and by the end of the summer, I was so broke I had to sell plasma just to put food on the table. When fall came around my Brother took a semester at the nearby university. he said that He'll use his financial aid money to help pay rent.  So he got his aid money around August about 5k or so. so when rent was due I ask for about 2k for the semester (which should help cover things from August until December).he said he couldn't right now but he'll get me next time. October rolls around the same story.  then November comes then after much nagging he gave me about $400 and said he would pay the full amount when he is good and ready. I told him no and to just pay the amount in full now. then he said that he didn't want to live with me anymore because of the way I treated him. Which is amazing since I've literally been cooking for him for weeks as well as giving full access to my room when he brought his girlfriend over, plus paid $500 to help put her in a hotel while she visits. but I digress. A huge fight ensues and threats were made and longs story short I kick him out and threatened to call the police. And for those who think he refused to pay anything because he was broke or something, I must inform you he later when on a 1-week vacation to Chicago to see his girlfriend after the fight. Anyway, my brother told everyone including my roommates about the fight we had and how I threaten to call the cops on him. now everyone thinks I should apologize to him and let him live with me free of charge. Am I the asshole here? is there something I'm overlooking?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "A2IfcubVAjZwAM40Hk6qyNuCnIdfpXJn", "post_id": "aukkdd", "action": {"description": "dumping him but I don't want him to date anyone else", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA I dumped him but i don't want him to date anyone else?", "text": "Ok, I know this guy for 10 years, since I was 5. we literally did everything in this life together. we are best friends, not only that we also dated, we have been dating and dumping/breaking up all this years. I don't know about his feelings and neither about my feelings. when we were younger we promised each other to be together forever. we promised to marry each other when we grow up and that we should never date other people.\n\n​\n\nevery time i was sad he made me happy. we actually did a lot of bad stuff like smoking when we were younger. we do smoke even now but not a lot. we used to ride motors. i mean we are dumb tbh for doing dangerous stuff. \n\n​\n\nwhat happened is, weeks ago, I invited him home. we weren't planning to have sex, we were watching a movie, ok we were stupid to watch an erotic movie and we ended up having unprotective sex. we got caught by my older brother and he was mad at us. I was mad at my ex because he didn't ask me how I was after that day but instead he was planning to have sex with me again. I dumped him because of that\n\n​\n\nI got pregnant but I miscarried. a lot of things happened to me, my parents disowned me, kicked me out, beat me with a wire. he asked me what happened but  didn't tell him, he asked me why i dumped him but i said that i did it because he deserved it. \n\n​\n\nall this time, we have been texting and talking on phone. he is really the only person that makes me happy and washes my stresses away. he asked me to be clear with him (btw he is 17) whether i like him or not, i said i see him as a friend and that's how i always saw him.  i will go back to school tomorrow so i will probably see him around.  \n\n​\n\nhe said that we will never date again then, that he will start to search for someone that will love him and not lead him on. that he regrets dating me all those years. i asked him about his feelings, he said ''its not important anymore'' ''no need to talk about the past''  whats wrong with him?\n\n​\n\nthat was 2 days ago. last night i saw a pic of him and a girl, he had his hand on her waist. i really hated to see him like that with some girl. especially when i am now in my worst state. i don't want to see him date any girl. i hate it. when i saw that pic, i got the worst feeling ever. \n\n​\n\nso, AITA ? \n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hkbzmaS8sidarhFOQgplvSw8AjxfkMyx", "post_id": "ai6ec0", "action": {"description": "scolding my SIL's children for obnoxiously running in circles at a wake", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA, I scolded my SIL\u2019s children for obnoxiously running in circles at a wake", "text": "At my husbands grandmothers wake, my SIL and her boyfriend brought 6 children age 8 to 3 (4 hers, 2 his).  I ignored the children\u2019s terrible behavior as long as they were contained to a corner and not terribly loud.  One child did try to climb in the casket, but my SIL did intervene on that occasion.  But, they generally were wild, climbing on and around chairs, knocking picture frames over, etc.  Towards the end of the wake, the children started to as a pack run in circles in the middle of the parlor while being very loud.  I snapped my fingers to get their attention, as they were very loud, then firmly and directly told them no running.  This prompted my SIL to somewhat restrain their behaviour, but also inform me that the children were told they were allowed to run in circles.  When a few minutes later the children returned to running in circles, I again firmly got their attention and told them no running.  After this my SIL and her boyfriend collected up the children and left.  Later she texted me angry and said that under no circumstances am I to speak to her children, and I should know better than to treat a child like that, and she would not stand by while I \u201csnapped and yelled\u201d at her children.  And that at the funeral the next day if her children were causing me distress, that I should remove myself from them.  Now keep in mind that my husbands grandmother was 91 when she passed, so many of the attendees at the viewing were quite old and frail and could easily be injured by a running child, not to mention the disrespect of allowing a child to cause a disruption at a viewing.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rOyROJqRhQwotWebnMuoTABBiPYau3dK", "post_id": "aiuevd", "action": {"description": "telling someone to stop sitting with me because they are annoying", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I told someone to stop sitting with me because they are annoying.", "text": "So I am normally not annoyed by anyone and am typically very accepting of new friends and new people. But at the beginning of this school year this girl just showed up and asked to sit at the table am sitting at. I said sure, as I really didn\u2019t mind at the time. Now I sincerely regret it.  She immediately started treating me as if we were best friends and she was over sharing her entire life story with me. It made me uncomfortable. She touches me a lot when I\u2019m obviously uncomfortable, and I\u2019ve even directly told her to stop touching me but she just won\u2019t. I\u2019ve tried to just tune her out and tolerate her- but if she thinks I\u2019m paying to much attention to my phone she literally steals it from me and won\u2019t give it back till I pay sufficient attention to her. She will also shove me randomly as a \u201cjoke\u201d. I\u2019ve told her so many times to stop stealing my stuff and shoving me. I\u2019ve even gotten so mad I\u2019ve yelled at her but nothing gets through her head. Anytime I tell her to stop she just goes \u201cokay, you don\u2019t have to act like my mom you idiot\u201d and laughs. It\u2019s not funny. Everyone in my friend group does not like her and we are all uncomfortable. \n\nSo I really just want to be direct and tell her to honestly just fuck off. Like I want to explain that we are not friends, and she needs to stop talking and sitting with me. Would that be to harsh? I don\u2019t want to hurt her feelings but I\u2019m so uncomfortable and irritated around her. \n\nTL:DR: I let a girl sit with me at lunch, now she thinks we are best friends and she oversteps her boundaries and steals my phone. I want to tell her to leave me alone and stop sitting with me but I don\u2019t want to be an asshole.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bCvcR3faKc4zG9qt7ntyvaddHTj3u4YH", "post_id": "9xujlp", "action": {"description": "not helping a new dishwasher do his job", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping a new dishwasher do his job?", "text": "So I\u2019m gonna do a background, before , what happened, and an after.\n\nBackground:  I work in a retirement home and I serve food and bus tables mostly. \n\nBefore: I overhear a conversation in the area where I drop off dishes between another dishwasher and my coworker.  \nDW: \u201cThat new dishwasher is so lazy. I hate that guy, he doesn\u2019t want to work.\u201d \nCW: \u201cI know...\u201d he continues to agree and add more examples, but this happened as I was leaving the room.\nSo I think to myself, \u201cwow that sucks, but I guess I have to see anything first before I believe them.\u201d That happened at noon. \n\nFast forward for dinner time. We get another dishwasher, who is also the father of a women coworker. During the end of the shift my coworkers dad gets his head injured. And I noticed my coworker was now doing the dishes for her father. While one manager helped her father. I process this and decide to help her. \n\nWhat happened: As soon as I reach for what was coming out of the machine, I hear the door open and a deep sigh. It\u2019s the new dishwasher. I turn around around and say, \u201cOh! Thanks for comi-\u201c I get cut off by him. \u201cWhat\u2019s wrong? Afraid of a little hard work?\u201d And he\u2019s leaning back on fridge behind. I stare at him cause I thought he was joking. I say, \u201cNo. isn\u2019t this your job?\u201d  As I stare at my coworker who is doing the dishes really fast.  He then asks, \u201ccould you at least help me bring some dishes to the other dishwashing room?\u201d(why didn\u2019t he just work here? Plus it seemed like he was ordered to come work here)  I responded with, \u201cbut isn\u2019t this your job??\u201d And then he brought up something about managers. And I said, \u201cokay let\u2019s go ask her she\u2019s right outside.\u201d (Cause she was caring for my coworkers dad)  I end up leaving the room. \n\nAfter: I leave the room and another manager is just sitting around with other coworkers cause we just finished a busy night. In my mind I argue with myself, \u201cdo I tell her what just happened or not. Would she believe me? I have no evidence..\u201d I just walk over and wait for their convo to end. It ends and I\u2019m about to tell her what happened when the new dishwasher comes in fast and says, \u201chey I am here, but could I grab this guy (points to me) to help me with the dishes real quick?\u201d She just agrees and he runs back into the dishwashing room. I then just tell my manager if I could not help him and just prepare right now for tomorrow morning. I didn\u2019t mention anything that happened and she understood. So I did that and I went home. I don\u2019t even know what happened after I left. \n I should\u2019ve just mentioned to the new guy that my coworkers father got hurt and that\u2019s why she was doing them. Maybe he would have understood so she could be with her father. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GpMG6gR0XyDApabyXq9qXAm3gPyw1HOH", "post_id": "amc3xs", "action": {"description": "pissing off my grandma for telling her I want to emigrate to Canada", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for pissing off my grandma for telling her I want to emigrate to Canada", "text": "I\u2019m doing this on my iPad, so in the case that the formatting is shit, I\u2019m sorry.\n\nOkay so I\u2019m a 16 year old Chinese kid living in Thailand. But since I\u2019m 4th generation Thai, I don\u2019t speak a lick of my ancient roots. Even then, I can\u2019t really speak Thai because I also grew up in the US, so it\u2019s a bit hard for me to communicate to anyone who doesn\u2019t speak English in this country.\n\nSo I\u2019m at my grandma\u2019s house because my mom decided to drop me off there. We talk about the random things and I get something to eat. \nFast forward an hour or two, my grandma starts asking about me going to university. I tell her I want to study overseas (primarily in Canada). She seems to disagree with what I said but she continues listening to me. I tell her that I also want to gain Canadian citizenship and settle there.\nNow I\u2019m not sure why, but grandma here got pissed. She went to the point where she called me a traitor to Thailand (I really can\u2019t give less of a damn) and tells me the following:\n\n\t1) I\u2019m a Thai person, and a Thai should live and die on Thai soil (wtf no)\n\t2) They won\u2019t accept you there (ummm Canada is made of immigrants but okay)\n\nEven when I talk about the benefits of studying abroad and living there, she seems reluctant. She tells me that she wants me to take it easy and maybe study a year or two in Thailand for uni first, but I had to put my foot down. If I can\u2019t speak Thai for shit and I act more westernized than Thai, then I can\u2019t function in society here. She doesn\u2019t seem to understand, but she\u2019s disappointed and upset.\n\nSo am I the asshole for telling her I don\u2019t wanna stay in Thailand because I want something better for my life?\n\nTLDR: grandma gets mad because I told her I want to emigrate", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zUtCL9axvv4u6QhYFqhfXtfXpdlXvsKA", "post_id": "a5ea9b", "action": {"description": "being miserable due to the state of my sex life", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being miserable due to the state of my sex life?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly 3 years now. Our sex life is horrendous. I have an extremely high libido (up for it every day pretty much), and hers is extremely low. We probably average sex once a month at best, and when it happens, it's rarely fun and easy. She gets scared about people walking in, she asks how close I am constantly, she mostly is a dead-fish, and sometimes she begins to hurt which means of course I am not going to continue. This is compounded by the fact she is not super adventurous in bed or open with sex-related stuff in general; for example, she thinks porn is disgusting and does not like the idea of me watching it, so I don't because that's a boundary for her.\n\nNow after reading that you may think it's obvious that we are not compatible and we should break up. However it is a lot more intricate than that. For starters, this is no secret; we have talked about this a tremendous amount of times, and she is always very apologetic and remorseful during such conversations. She makes a lot of effort to try and improve this situation too, especially in the last 5-6 weeks. She has tried going off the pill, tried scheduling sex, and a few times (fully consensual) she has asked me to keep going when she hurts a bit to see if it wears off. Nothing seems to work. The issue is exacerbated by my SSRI medication, which makes it much harder for me to achieve orgasm, but unfortunately my libido has not been lowered at all, so I end up sexually frustrated a lot of the time.\n\nI'm young and naive, I won't hide that, but she really is perfect in every single other way. She is my best friend and despite this huge issue I still don't enjoy anything as much as I enjoy being by her side. From the opening paragraph she might have sounded cold and impassionate but I assure you this is not the case. She is the best person I have met in my life thus far. Whenever we discuss how much this issue hurts me emotionally and makes me feel unwanted, she really shows she cares and she is honestly desperate to fix this situation.\n\nHowever, this issue really depresses me a lot of the time and I'm unfortunately not very good at hiding my emotions, so a couple times a week I am miserable for 15-30 mins and this makes my girlfriend miserable as a result because she feels terrible for doing this to me. It's not her fault, there's nothing wrong with a low libido. \n\nI feel like an asshole who only cares about sex. So tell me honestly; am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DiK7d9yXEPcNSXDRJvzxczHSNBQS0VRZ", "post_id": "b9voq4", "action": {"description": "asking for a female hairdresser over a gay male", "pronormative_score": 28, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for asking for a female hairdresser over a gay male?", "text": "\nI\u2019m a man.\n\nI go to get my hair done at this local place, I don\u2019t like barbers generally.\n\nThere is a fairly camp guy who I\u2019m pretty sure is gay, he seems to always end up being the one assigned to do my hair. He\u2019s very friendly and funny and chatty.\n\nI don\u2019t like this.\n\nWhen I was younger I was groomed by a man in a \u2018bad touch\u2019 way. I don\u2019t like being touched by gay men.\n\nSo I rang up to ask for an appointment, and they say \u2018who do you usually have\u2019 and I say \u2018the guy, but I would like someone else\u2019. And she said, \u2018the guy does the guy\u2019s hair usually\u2019.\n\nAnd I said \u2018no thanks, girl please\u2019. And she was really snotty with me, I heard her put her hand over the phone and laugh.\n\nAnd when I got my hair done eventually, he seemed annoyed at me in the mirror, and awkward - and my haircut was terrible.\n\nThey did it on purpose I\u2019m sure of it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 13, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 28, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bp0tvSS77UglKBN25W4bQCETEXy2LiTa", "post_id": "az1uit", "action": {"description": "inquiring about a membership", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for inquiring about a membership?", "text": "Me and my friend were dicussing going to the gym. Tbh I have not been to the gym in a while and I was really excited to get back into it. Admittedly we were a little drunk while talking about it, but still, I was really excited. My friend who was going to the gym sent me the number of his gym guy (assuming he owned a private gym) and said hit him up to get a membership. Me, being drunk, sent him a polite text at 12:30 in the morning saying I was interested in coming in the next morning and wondering how much the cost was.  \n\n\n He then called me saying how I was \"crazy\" for texting him at such a late hour and how I though it was acceptable. This man was literally yelling at me over the phone and i just felt bad lmao. I apologized and then he kept saying how it was \"ridiculous\" and to not show up at his place the next morning and to come in on monday. I didn't respond because I didnt want to ruin my friends membership, so then he texted me 20 min later saying 'actually, dont come in on monday either, until I talk to your friend\". \n\n  \nTL;dr   \nI wanted a membership, texted the dude at a genuinely late time, and he popped off on me. Then said I was not welcome at his gym until he talked to my friend. AITA for doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i9huxnOR6s7fEPTSbQ5RYVfeZERszmbm", "post_id": "b5rddd", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend to leave a groupchat", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my girlfriend to leave a groupchat?", "text": "I'm 17M dating 16F that goes to another school and lives about 15 minutes away. Relationship is going great, especially considering we can only see each other on weekends. Kind of important note about her: she's fairly shy around new people and tends to be quiet when she feels she has nothing good to add.\nI'm in a groupchat with 4 close friends (was 5 at the time, 1 has cut us off, but that's unimportant). We've all known each other and have been close friends since middle school. We all have very similar senses of humor and converse very well. This groupchat (while on different platforms) has existed for around 4-5 years.\nAbout 4 months ago, we were talking about music in the groupchat. We were talking about some artists that I know my gf likes (we were technically only \"talking\" at this point but we were basically dating). I made a comment about how *gf name* would enjoy this conversation, but I didn't think it would be a good idea to add her to the chat. My friends said it would be fine, so I did. We talked about music and such for a bit that night and all seemed fine. After that night she rarely says anything at all in the chat, and if she does it's almost always a single response that doesn't add anything to the conversation. It's been this way the entire time she's been in the chat, but she reads everything that's said in the chat. About a month or two ago, I made an offhand comment to her that if she doesn't want to be in the groupchat then she doesn't have to. She told me that she's fine with being in it and likes to read the messages. We haven't spoken about it since. It kind of makes me uncomfortable having her in the chat. I feel like I have to watch what I say at times (not too often) and the jokes I make (we tend to have an edgy sort of humor). We also talk about some pretty sensitive things at times, things that aren't the end of the world if she knows about but aren't her business whatsoever either. I've briefly talked to the people in the groupchat privately about it and they're indifferent on her being in the chat. I don't know how I'd go about asking her to leave.\n\nTLDR: GF is in a groupchat with some of my closest friends, doesn't ever say anything, but likes to read the messages. Makes the chat uncomfortable for me.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IjE37FTTKBJ4sos3DRtG6Bny5srHcb0y", "post_id": "b3l46o", "action": {"description": "going on a camping trip when my friend needs me the most", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for going on a camping trip when my friend needs me the most?", "text": "Theres a lot to put here, so if you need any extra info just ask.\n\nI have a vast history of mental health issues, spent far too much of my life in psych wards. I used to hurt myself every night various ways. Basically depression, anxiety and insomnia damn near killed me.\n\nThis weekend a bunch of friends and I were gonna go camping in the middle of nowhere. However on Tuesday a friend was feeling very low and I was very worried and because I don't have my license yet I called the police and asked them to do a check on her then asked my housemate to speed to her house. \n\nMajor TW here. \n\nWe found her on the ground covered in blood, cuts on her wrists, neck and thighs. She had overdosed, unconscious, not breathing, shoelace around her neck. Called ambo and started cpr. Once they took her to hospital I went into her room and found alcohol, pills and razors. I threw them all in the bin and cleaned the blood and vomit as best I could.\n\nWe visited the next day, in her room I couldn't say anything. It was too much, she was saying all the things I used to say. No one cares, you'd be better off without me, why are you even here why do you care. \nI had planned on saying all the things I wished someone had said to me, I'd planned on being there for her and staying as long as it took. Instead, I had to dig my nails into my thumb just to stop myself from losing my shit. \n\nWhen we got home I spent hours screaming and crying, all the shit memories I'd blocked came flooding back and my urges to hurt myself came back. \n\nI can't do this, I can't go back and visit and I can't be there for her. I feel like I need to get away. I'm scared that if I keep trying to support my friend, it'll end badly for me.\n\nWould I be an asshole for leaving and having fun for the weekend? Or should I suck it the fuck up stop being selfish and be there for my friend no matter what? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iQ3MwEbeMhTafoggQqjEvHRKJngvusw2", "post_id": "b5imtb", "action": {"description": "crying over pizza", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for crying over pizza?", "text": "First time posting here and on mobile. So I am 15 and recently pescatarian so I pay for my own meals since fish is expensive. I earn 45 a week since I do chores around the house. So this just happened where my brother started heating up one of my pizzas to eat and I cried since I work hard for the money and the food I bought is the only stuff I can eat. My brother starts screaming at me that I cry all the time  (I dont) and he's tired of my bitching his words not mine and my mother says I'm being over dramatic well I'll let reddit decide was I the asshole here.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7Eve0wrICYESy3uoPjoNr970fRxxmQ9R", "post_id": "aj8rrh", "action": {"description": "being off my medication", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA: I'm off my medication", "text": "I'm eighteen so I can choose if I want to take them, spoiler alert, I don't. My family is into gossiping about each other. I've been the topic of discussion for a while now. I have bipolar one disorder and my psychologist notes that I'm apathetic. I used to take pills for both and get monthly shots. I just think that everyone overreacted when it came to me being diagnosed. I even talked to my psychologist about it and he said its only because I feel normal on medication. That's not true, I was an emo, reckless preteen. I'm different now, way different. I'm so matured that nobody realized I wasn't taking them till two weeks.\n\nI skipped my shot appointment this month and my mom is heated. She even posted about it on Facebook. I honestly see nothing wrong with it. I haven't done anything irrational. I'm fine. If you have ever taken anti psychotics or any other medication for Bipolar Disorder. You'd know, it doesn't make you feel like yourself. It makes me feel like a fucking robot moving hour by hour.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RcKukHHHGbi2DUTbqLdqo3KQPLO3OsMF", "post_id": "ao1pm8", "action": {"description": "purchasing a new pair of heels for work from our joint bank account", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for purchasing a new pair of heels for work from our joint bank account?", "text": "My boyfriend [25] and I [23] share a joint bank account for expenses such as groceries, work, or maintenance. We both contribute but my boyfriend manages it more frequently than I do.\n\nI work for a software company, and make a good amount as I\u2019m mid to high level. I also was blessed enough to inherit a large sum of money from my grandmother. I contribute around 70% to the account as I make more and also have the inheritance to help us out in that regard. \n\nMy boyfriend works at a restaurant and makes a little above minimum wage there. He contributes whenever he\u2019s able, sometimes he\u2019ll miss a month or two at the most but it\u2019s not a big deal overall.\n\nNow we\u2019ve been kind of having a lot of arguments about our joint account recently, specifically the \u201cwork\u201d department. We\u2019re having a fancy dinner at my job in a week to celebrate the good year we had, the boss is requiring us to actually look fancy as we usually wear very casual outfits to work.\n\nThe only pair of heels I had were old and basically broken because the glue wouldn\u2019t stick anymore. So I decided to buy a new pair for work, I went to Nordstrom, it\u2019s a more upscale store but has some affordable options as well. \n\nI ended up purchasing heels that costed around $130. I was thrilled, upon returning home I excitedly showed my boyfriend. \n\nThe conversation below isn\u2019t word for word but it\u2019s to the best of my knowledge:\n\nMe: Look at these heels I got, they were really cheap too. I was stuck between this one and this other pair but I just went with this because it\u2019s all black.\n\nBf: How much were they?\n\nMe: Originally they were $250 but it was on sale for $130.\n\nBf: That\u2019s not much of a deal, it\u2019s probably like $20 tops and they just overprice it because people like the brand so much.\n\nMe: I don\u2019t even know brands, I just chose it because it looks nice and feels comfy.\n\nBf: Well I\u2019m sure there were other alternatives too.\n\nMe: I charged it to the joint account card by the way, just wanted to let you know before you get the notification on your phone.\n\nBf: Wait what? Why would you charge it to that?\n\nMe: It\u2019s for work, I\u2019m planning on using them for other events in the future too.\n\nBf: Thats obviously not for work, I\u2019m not buying Jordan\u2019s and saying it\u2019s for work.\n\nMe: I don\u2019t ever wear heels, they are for work. I wouldn\u2019t buy them otherwise.\n\nBf: If you don\u2019t even wear any then why would you go all out like that? I hope you plan on repaying the account later on.\n\nMe: You can\u2019t be serious, it\u2019s $130, that\u2019s so much hassle to transfer.\n\nBoyfriend storms out at this point, he usually needs to smoke a joint after arguments so he doesn\u2019t get too upset. \n\nI didn\u2019t make my case yet but I plan on bringing it up again soon. My point is the heels are a work expense, and they weren\u2019t that expensive.\n\nHe spends over $300 a week on weed for work, which I understand it\u2019s a part of the restaurant culture and it\u2019s a stressful job. But that being a work expense qualifies my shoes to be as well. \n\nWhat do you think? Should I bring up my points or apologize for my mistakes? I do feel bad for starting an argument over this but it feels kind of weird how we manage our money. I understand it\u2019s for security reasons but I think I should be able to spend some money on heels.\n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 30, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IfJ0PxY39XOOPxOPteaOalb9RacrOKE5", "post_id": "b5ty45", "action": {"description": "not wanting my friend to adopt a dog", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my friend to adopt a dog?", "text": "So my friend (26F) and her boyfriend(26M) are very close to adopting a young husky (roughly 3yrs of age, male) and I\u2019m trying to decide how honest I should be when talking to her about this because I think it\u2019s a bad idea. \n\nFor one, they have a small dog (15-20lbs) who is 13 now and has always been their only dog. She has had him since he was a pup and treats this dog like her child, wraps him in blankets, lets him sit at the table etc. I personally dislike this dog because he is not well behaved and constantly jumps on me and scratches up my legs. But I know that\u2019s not his fault, it\u2019s the owners fault for allowing it and at this point he\u2019s too old to change.  I don\u2019t think this older dog will take well to a younger dog coming in and stealing attention away. This older dog is also on meds for anxiety. \n\nSecondly, my friend has weird work hours as does her boyfriend which are not able to be adjusted (from what she tells me her boss is a dick). It\u2019s not abnormal for them to leave the house at 6am and not be home until 6:30pm or later. This is okay for the older dog because they leave food and water out for him and he can eat when he pleases. However, for a 3 year old husky it seems unfair to either cage the dog for several hours or restrain him to a certain room without food or water. \n\nSo it just seems like while they have good intentions it wouldn\u2019t be fair to either dog if they were to adopt this husky. It\u2019s likely to put a lot of undue stress on her older dog, why not let him live out his last years in peace? It also doesn\u2019t seem fair to the husky coming into a home where he will always be #2 and likely won\u2019t get the exercise his breed typically requires. Should I tell her all of this? I\u2019ve tested the waters and said something like \u201cjust make sure you\u2019ve thought it through\u201d and she kinda snapped at me saying \u201cif we hadn\u2019t thought it through do you think we\u2019d even be discussing this?\u201d So, what do you guys think? Should I try again or let it go?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y3kE806hVIhtF85qTvDjaGuf3EYJ5nSE", "post_id": "ausfl3", "action": {"description": "jokingly comparing someone to Dr. Evil", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for jokingly comparing someone to Dr. Evil?", "text": "To keep it brief and vague, basically I am in this society that has an inductance process similar to a frat, but isn't a frat. For several weeks the candidates train and are inducted at the end with a nickname/callsign.\n\n​\n\nThe nickname/callsign is based off of something funny/stupid they did during that period. This is where the incident happened. Under pressure, one of them used air quotes that resembled Dr. Evil in this gif---\n\n[https://media.giphy.com/media/qs6ev2pm8g9dS/giphy.gif](https://media.giphy.com/media/qs6ev2pm8g9dS/giphy.gif)\n\n​\n\nI posted it in the group chat thinking Dr. Evil would be a good nickname idea. Some people liked the gif, however this week one girl started complaining that it was offensive and inappropriate, and acted as if it was a personal attack on the individual instead of a typical nickname origin. Since then everyone has unliked the gif and is acting like I'm an asshole.\n\n​\n\nI feel like this is a pretty typical way nicknames have been discovered, and it definitely wasn't an attack on that individuals character, just a funny thing they did that we could all have a giggle at after they are inducted. Am I the asshole?\n\n​\n\nAlso, I have a meeting next weekend to investigate me for probation in the society, so tips for fixing this are welcome. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vItTl95Ao9vLEKpnCJFR6GYSNYz0k8xu", "post_id": "an9wez", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Recently found this sub, might help with a big issue of mine", "text": "This story may be a little more specific at some parts than others. Please feel free to ask for any specifics \n\nThe time was December 2016. I had just gotten out of a \u2018thing\u2019 with a girl a couple days back when my father (who had cancer in his neck) died after a tumor ruptured his artery. I was bummed out enough and losing a parent threw me in a ditch. I tried to get back to my regular schedule ASAP so I can move on a little quicker. In the days after the passing of my father, she attempted to come back into my life. Me, being in a weak state of mind, took her back without asking any questions. It wasn\u2019t until things went to shit again in March of 2017 when I realized that she milked the whole \u2018loss of parent\u2019 thing for her own gain (i.e. a reason to come back, such as \u2018feeling bad for me\u2019). When I realized what she had done, I felt as if she had trampled the grave of my own father. It made me feel a hate I have never fully felt before. I called her human trash and belittled her for injecting herself into such a sensitive time of my life. I then proceeded to deny her existence and immediately ceased communication with anyone she associated with. While it\u2019s been years now and I don\u2019t feel nearly as angry as before, I refuse to work, speak, look, or even be in the same room as her. Did I overreact? Or was  my own judgement correct?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sDu7FF0ZFgb2FYiLk5MFWNvpKUUuda3B", "post_id": "armf9j", "action": {"description": "asking my college roommate to stop sleeping on the futon and do her laundry more often", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my college roommate to stop sleeping on the futon and do her laundry more often?", "text": "Okay so I met this girl through the Facebook group for new students in the winter of senior year. She seemed nice enough and I drove to her city (about 5 hours away) to meet her. We decided to be roommates after meeting in person. We didn't talk much about our cleanliness habits (HUGE mistake). \n\n​\n\nSo after getting to school, I realize this girl is the DIRTIEST girl I have possibly ever met. She never does laundry, and keeps her laundry bag (of dirty clothes!) right next to my desk. It is so overfilled that sometimes dirty underwear will fall on the floor. Granted, the room is small and she is an out of state student so she brings more clothes than me. But, I keep my dirty clothes in a bag in my closet. NOT right next to her desk. It is embarrassing to have friends in the room because some of them have pointed this out. To make matters worse, she used to keep them right next to the futon where friends sit. So the other spot she picked was right next to my desk. I didn't fight it at the time, as I would rather it be here than next to the futon, but it is disgusting. \n\n​\n\nThe second thing she does to annoy me is sleep on the futon. I'm not talking about sleeping on the futon once a week when she gets home plastered at 3 am. It is every single night. It is bothersome because she often does not wake up until noon or 1pm, therefore, me or any friends I have over cannot sit on the futon. I feel like I have to tiptoe around my own room when I get ready for class, as she is usually sleeping on the futon right there. Often times when she leaves for class she will leave her stuff strewn all over the futon, as she uses it like her bed! I have mentioned to her that I would prefer she would sleep in her bed, so she stopped sleeping on the futon for a few weeks. This was about 3 months ago. However, after her friends came to visit (week after winter break) and THEY slept on the futon, she started doing it again! \n\n​\n\nShe does other things to bother me, but those are the main two that really drive me crazy. I provide most of the cleaning supplies for the room and do ALL of the cleaning. Her idea of cleaning is to throw clothes in her closet, whereas I actually wipe stuff down, vacuum, take out the trash etc. \n\n​\n\nSo WIBTA for asking my roommate to start sleeping in her bed again and do her laundry so that the bag is not overflowing next to my desk? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9OePnH81tnHl5qZB1i06O7RPeFT4cAhD", "post_id": "aamf0r", "action": {"description": "telling my sister's boyfriend she was cheating on him", "pronormative_score": 43, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my sister's boyfriend she was cheating on him?", "text": "Long time lurker, first time poster. Sorry about formatting, on mobile.\n\nSo, my sister has been cheating on her boyfriend who she lives with, who also happens to be one of my best friends. I'm really conflicted about whether or not to say anything for a few reasons.\n1. He's my best friend, but she's my sister\n2. He owns the house they live in, so she wouldn't have a place to go if shit hits the fan\n3. She's using visiting our dying mother as a cover for meeting her tinder dates, which frankly pisses me the fuck off.\n\nI don't want my sister to be in a bad situation, but I don't want my best friend to go on thinking everything is alright and possibly end up proposing. I've told her that what she is doing  is horrible, and that she needs to come  clean, but she just laughs in my face and says she knows what she's doing. Would I be the asshole if I let him know?\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 43, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "g9UspmoFktafUNTazJixUiUOfuJqgYC0", "post_id": "b45vkz", "action": {"description": "asking my daughter's father to pay more child support when he graduates college", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my daughter's father to pay more child support when he graduates college?", "text": "Throwaway because of the personal details. Me[22f] and my ex boyfriend[22m] were in a relationship all through high school and had a daughter when were in 10th grade and 16 at the time. We did not have a great relationship because he wanted me to move away from my family with him while he attended the college he got accepted to which was about an 8 hour drive away. We tried long distance for a few months but we broke up as I fell in love with someone else at home and began cheating and got caught.\n\nAfter a pretty shakey few months we worked out that we would try our best to stay on good terms and we decided a child support payment between ourselves based on what I knew he'd be able to support due to his only working part time while at school. Over the past 3 years I've had 2 more children with the new guy and am a stay at home mom full time while living with my father to take care of all the kids. My father recently had to quit his job due to medical issues and my boyfriend struggles to hold a job and has spent some time in and out of jail recently.\n\nSo I have three kids and am really struggling to make ends meet right now. My first daughter's father has made it known to my father in the past that he disapproves of the way I've gone about life, thinking that me having more kids has lessened the opportunities his kid will have. I've also asked him for extra money about 4 times in the past 3 years and each time he gives it, but makes sure to lecture me on getting a job and being more responsible while he's off at college not seeing his kid very often.\n\nHe is graduating this spring and will be moving onto a full time engineering job and I am wondering WIBTA for asking him to pay more money in child support each month so that I will have more money to support my whole family.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rxl8xwvM2p6W30xrfKSPv8a3yqzof0uD", "post_id": "b33gkd", "action": {"description": "not apologizing", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not apologizing?", "text": "My friend and DM of 10ish years is demanding I apologize for inviting a mutual friend to hang out after our D&D game got cancelled. One of the other players was sick and wouldn't be joining us. I myself had a bit of a sore throat and hadn't really been relishing the idea of braving rush hour traffic for 40 minutes, especially if we were just going to end up playing Mario Kart and arguing about the same 3 movies as always happens whenever one of the players doesn't show. I replied to the group text asking if the game was cancelled expressing that I was fine if it was as I was not at 100% either and that 'cancelled plans feel akin to found money' to me. Aparently that feeling is not universal and I was told it was a 'dickish way of expressing myself' and some vague swipe at my 'life style'... if I had been on the fence about it before, I sure wasn't stoked to come out now.\n\nA fellow player and mutual friend stepped in to smooth things out a bit in the chat and the issue seemed resolved. Game cancelled, feel better everyone, heart emojis. I am left thinking what a good dude he is and feeling kinda bad now because this mutual friend gets zero free time away from his wife and kid. I shoot him a thank you for smoothing things out I tell him if he wants to brave the germs, he's welcome to pop by on his way home. He declines. No biggie.\n\n​\n\nCouple weeks go by and no talk of the game. I don't think much of it until the DM calls on Saturday morning.\n\n \n\nDM: \"Well I was talking to Mutual Friend and he said you invited him out after cancelling my game...\"\n\nMe: \"I told him to pop by if he needed time away from his fam was all. He didn't want to get sick.\"\n\nDM: \"Uh huh... well it felt like you just want to do things without me. I don't know what to do with you.\"\n\nMe: \"Have you been stewing about this for 2 weeks?\"\n\nDM: \"Whatever, I'll talk to you later.\"\n\n​\n\n20 minutes before texts about how I cancelled the game, he 'looked up the transcripts' and 'do his feelings even matter to me in the slightest'... Fuck this. I spent my day eating and relaxing rather than kissing my DM's ass about imagined slights. We're almost 40 for fuck sake!\n\n​\n\nNow it's been a few more days. I'm left thinking about how, I'm probably DM's oldest friend as he regularly pushes people out of his life. I have seen him do this to a dozen or so other players/friends over the years, and am not really surprised that my number seems to be up. Despite weird loyalty tests, jokes about my appearance, constantly being told I have shit taste, I still think he's a good dude deep down and I can see all these actions for what they are; defense mechanisms. Feel bad for not responding as I know that he's been ghosted before by a lot of people and doesn't understand why. It's not my intention but every time I pick up the phone I see his last text \"Utter unapologetic.\" and I just feel so drained and like if I engage with this nonsense I'm validating it on some level. Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FnM6thnJJ2tqYmhu8TTuXvZR3IvhAB5R", "post_id": "amkwi8", "action": {"description": "being frustrated with my sister over her poor life choices", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for Being Frustrated With My Sister Over Her Poor Life Choices?", "text": "My sister met a guy on the internet a few months ago. She has two young children, (9 and 8) and she has just announced that she is moving 5+ hours away from us to move in with him. She says they're just friends, but knowing her they'll be sleeping together by the first night. My niece insists every new guy she sees around the house is her \"new dad\". Anyway, I'm upset because I think she is being selfish. She lives a few towns over and I only get to see her + her kids about once a month. I don't know when I'll get to see them again after the move. That, and I think that her completely uprooting her kids' lives to go live with someone who is a total stranger to them is damaging to them. Am I an asshole? I haven't told my sister how I feel. She is nearly 30 and will not grow up, I feel I'd be wasting my breath.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iSvASsh5wNCbOkqm9pbz7Hp9oMBud5NC", "post_id": "b5zezl", "action": {"description": "thinking about leaving my husband of ten years over his mental health issues", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking about leaving my husband of ten years over his mental health issues?", "text": "For the past ten years I feel like I\u2019ve been excusing his behavior because in our vows we said \u201cin sickness and health\u201d, but I\u2019m afraid he is having a negative influence over our three kids.\n\nToday we were planning to go to the zoo, which is two hours away. We get there and will have to park in overflow and shuttle in. He has a panic attack and basically wants to go home. Our kids, ages 5,8,9 don\u2019t understand why we drove all this way there just to turn around, so I end up going to a park instead, hoping he will calm down. He tries blaming everything on the kids since they were \u201ctoo loud\u201d in the car. Then after we get home, he says he just can\u2019t do stuff like that. Like at all.\n\nI love him but I basically am saying I will conduct every event solo because he just can\u2019t handle big stressful situations, which happen all the time since we have three kids. \n\nHis episodes have also kept him from keeping steady work, which makes me the only income for a family of five. I know I said I would be there always, but I just don\u2019t know if I have the strength to run a whole family without the support of another functioning adult. I feel selfish, so AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PIBjQUfJFw5HpFUmYZA8C3tNY7g3mBPb", "post_id": "au382d", "action": {"description": "telling a 16 year old that he won't amount to anything", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "Aita for telling a 16 year old that he won't amount to anything?", "text": "  I am on mobile,so apologies for any formatting snafus.\n \n We are in a server together so we interact pretty frequently. He recently turned 16, and up until the incident, seemed fairly mature. He is the youngest person in the server. For clarification, I am 25.\n  \n Right after his birthday, I had made a joke that he was legal in certain countries, and made a bdsm joke (nothing super graphic or extreme) and he said no. I switched topics to joking about anime's and human experimentation. Kinda dark humor but it's normal for the server. He kept saying he wasn't into that and that he wouldn't allow that to happen to him. He never asked me to stop and I thought I had made it clear that I was no longer joking around with him.\n  \nHe, and a few other people he roped into the situation, messaged my fiance to wake my SO up and didn't explain anything. This caused me and my fiance to have a fight, and I had a breakdown because of stress with this incident being my breaking point.\n \n I messaged the 16 year old telling him to next time, please message me first if he has a problem with me.  He taunted me for it,and I overheard him talking about me. I snapped and told him he was basically an insect to me at this point, and if he continues to act this way/ doesn't learn how to talk to people in these situations, he won't amount to anything in life.\nHe called me an A-hole and is trying to get everyone else to agree with him. I don't think I am one and he's been trying to throw himself a pity party since.\n\nTL:DR I made a joke, kid thought I was joking about him. Caused a fight with my so and taunted me for it. I told him he won't amount to anything in life.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8RudGfhGmPnfKhIoNbRMH31XMaOEtK9C", "post_id": "a9clyw", "action": {"description": "yelling at a guy asking for change", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA For yelling at a guy asking for change?", "text": "I'm standing in a busy downtown neighborhood while my wife looks up some directions. Some random guy approaches me from behind, \"Excuse me sir! I just live around the corner...It's a halfway house...and *something, something, something*....\" \nMe (cutting him off): Yeah, ok sure. What do you need?\nGuy: Well, I live at the ______ halfway house around the corner....and my sister...\nMe: DUDE! WHAT.DO.YOU.WANT!?!?\nGuy: *huge pause* I need change for the laundromat.\nMe: I don't have any cash on me right now.\nGuy: *with indignant look* MAN. Serious. Can't believe you man! The hell is that shit?\nI walk away.\nAdmittedly, I snapped a little more than probably should. But this is my biggest annoyance - when panhandlers pull long elaborate stories and waste my time. If he needed change, just ask. A cell phone to make a call, ask. Directions, ask! Doesn't mean I'll say yes, but don't waste my time with your bullshit life story grift.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ocEFrQDSa4xeCvqhL2oC90MMzAFiPyXk", "post_id": "aktv37", "action": null, "title": "AITA my boyfriend made a comment about me possibly having cancer?", "text": "my boyfriend bought me a stuffed animal. I sleep with it at night, he made a comment that he replaced him self with the stuffed animal, since i was snuggling it and not him. I joked back and said yep. Then he said thats okay, if you have to take radiation pills you wont have me or the stuffed animal. (backstory on the cancer comment: just found out I have to get a thyroid node biopsy because it looks suspicious, if i do have thyroid cancer the doctor said i may need to take radiation pills that would require me to essentially be quarantined for 3 days). \n\nThis comment caught me off guard, I'm not sure why im upset/ hurt by it but I am so much so that I couldn't sleep last night. Am I an ass hole for being upset with my boyfriend, I was mean and joked back that he did replace himself with the stuffed animal. I'm about to get off work and go home to him and im trying to let it go and go home with a positive attitude. \n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6XPsjL5VGBt5lGbirgJW69TXaxUDyQlu", "post_id": "aszb4c", "action": {"description": "being hurt that he only wants to be friends", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being hurt that he only wants to be friends?", "text": "My best friend does crazy out of his way things for me and has recently begun including my daughters. They\u2019re older teens and can make their own decisions about whether or not attend whatever he\u2019s taking is to\n\nFor years he has bent over backward to make sure I\u2019m comfortable, happy and is always there. We tried dating very briefly but neither of us was in a good place for that kind of relationship. 2 years later we are still very close and he makes what I consider a grand gesture by taking my daughters and me to a fairly pricey concert. He drove across Texas to pick me up, coed back to central Texas for our event, drove eat again to get me home and headed back to his home in west tx. Yeah, I got the feels for him and made the mistake of telling him. He said \u201cI love you, but not like that. \u201c ok, so his intentions are pure. But I\u2019m hurt and confused. WHO DOES THIS? why would a grown man give me everything and even drop hints that he has deeper feelings for me only to turn away when I finally accept his advances? He was flirtatious, he has been there through thick and thin. And he got angry with me when I told him how I felt. \n\nAm I the jerk for being selfish and expressing my desire to be more deeply involved? Further more, am I in the wrong to feel hurt over his rejection? He expressed he\u2019d be very sting if I start something with someone else. Why? He doesn\u2019t want me. I do not want to lose my best friend. Was it selfish to open up? I\u2019m so confused. I\u2019m ok with being just friends but it will be difficult. Slap some sense into me please. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Obuf5EMPw3lvha1BdaHb0AoCA2OIIBeS", "post_id": "b3ouv2", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I was thinking of breaking up with him", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my boyfriend I was thinking of breaking up with him?", "text": "My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3.5 years. We did long distance/only seeing each other a couple of weekends a month until a year ago, when we moved in together.\n\nOur relationship is pretty much perfect in every aspect apart from one - our sex life. Before we moved in together our sex drives were about equal, but over the past few months my boyfriend\u2019s drive has dropped completely. He rarely initiates sex any more, and rejects me 9 times out of 10 when I try to initiate, usually saying that he\u2019s too tired.\n\nI\u2019ve brought it up as an issue at least 3 times now cause I was getting worried something was seriously wrong. Every time we talk about it he says all the right things, reassures me that nothing is wrong, and promises to have sex more regularly, but still nothing has significantly changed.\n\nI\u2019m starting to feel unloved and unattractive. Despite the fact that the rest of our relationship is amazing I don\u2019t know if I can stay with him when I\u2019m feeling like this. I don\u2019t want to throw everything away without trying to work on it one more time, so I was thinking of having another serious talk and explaining that if our sex life doesn\u2019t improve, I\u2019m going  to have to consider the future of the relationship as a whole. But I\u2019m worried that that will come across as a threat. I don\u2019t want to seem like I\u2019m manipulating him into sleeping with me, I just want to get across the severity of the situation and how shitty it\u2019s making me feel.\n\nSo, would I be the asshole if I told him I was considering breaking up with him if our sex life doesn\u2019t improve?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 14, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fjG8iivoNd22nC2Sj0Yun8FZAuqW40YL", "post_id": "afdezj", "action": {"description": "being upset that my best friend gifted me a mug for my birthday when we got her tickets for a weekend in London for hers", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my best friend gifted me a mug for my birthday when we got her tickets for a weekend in London for hers?", "text": "Hi!  \nSo this is actually two years old and I still think about it quite often.  \nMy best friend and I are born in September, 10days apart, her birthday been before mine.  \nFor her 18th birthday, some friends of hers and I decided to offer her two tickets to go to London with another of her friends (her other best friend) in November or December.  \nIt wasn't a great trip planned, because we didn't have a lot of money for it, but since she wanted to travel, we thought it was a good idea, especially since she was supposed to go with her best friend.  \nShe was happy and there's that.  \nWhen my birthday arrived, she didn't have a gift for me and told me she really wanted to give me a good gift and she would rather wait than rush it, and I was okay with that especially since it was my 18th birthday and I really wanted it to be a bit special. She said she wanted to wait for her trip to London to get me something good, and even if it was months after my birthday, I was okay with it too.  \nWeeks go by and her weekend to London gets closer and closer and nothing is going as planned. Her mother wouldn't let her go by herself with her best friend and decided that she would go with her instead, making it a mother/daughter trip.  \nShe went and came back and told me that it was probably the worst trip she had ever gone on, that the location of the hotel was terrible (I admit that it was quite far), etc.  \nIt wasn't really cool to hear, because we were trying to make her happy and she sounded like a whiny bitch when she wasn't usually.  \nAnyway, still a few weeks later, she tells me that she has a gift for my birthday!  \nSo we agreed to see each other the next morning before classes so she could give it to me.  \nWhen I meet her, she gives me my gift and it is a mug that has a phosphorescent tree drawn on it.  \nAnd I have to admit that I was super disappointed. While I do love hot chocolates and teas, and mugs are a great gift for me in general, I was expecting much more from her, for my 18th birthday. Especially since I had seen that exact same mug a few weeks before (and admittedly found the idea really cool even though I didn't like the drawing) in a shop I went. And the bag in which the mug was in was from a shop that was 10min away from her home. I sometimes think it was some kind of petty revenge for the worst trip of her life...  \nWe are still friends and all but birthday gifts is a subject I hate talking about with her because she considers herself a great gift-giver.  \nAm I the asshole?  \n\n\nSorry if this isn't very clear, I'm French", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jc7vex5XwRQBEN6mjLkO8RNrsaflASA2", "post_id": "afaw9k", "action": {"description": "wanting my dad to pay me back for savings bonds he cashed in without my permission", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my dad to pay me back for savings bonds he cashed in without my permission?", "text": "When I was a baby my grandmother set aside savings bonds for my siblings and I for when we went to college. Now that I am in college I remembered my mom telling me that they had been set aside for me. My mother is no longer around much, my parents divorced when I was 9 and she had to move away to live with family after her boyfriend kicked her out suddenly in 2017. So I'm living with my father for now (keep in mind I dont live in his house, my father, his girlfriend, my brother and I all live with my grandmother, none of us pay rent to live here, i just wanted to clarify because a lot of people i tell about his online make the argument that since I'm living in his house I can't complain), and he has all my documents (insurance card, birth certificate etc) so I sat him down and asked him where my savings bonds were, as I figured they would be mature by now. He immediately got defensive and started yelling at me, saying \"what do you think I did with them? I cashed them in to pay bills!!\". Apparently he did this when I was only 5, now this was before my dad lost his job in the recession, so we weren't the most well off, but at this point both my parents held jobs that payed relatively well. I asked him if he had any intent of paying it back and he started calling me ungrateful and saying my head wasnt screwed on straight. He then brought up times where he occasionally gave me a few dollars here or there to buy candy or a lip gloss or something. I said \"Jeeze dad, if I knew you were handing me my college savings to buy candy when I was 12 I may have thought twice about spending it on something so temporary.\" He then said \"I only got maybe $900 from all of them and some of them  were your brothers! I maybe got $300 from yours.\" And I said \"well first of all, if you let them sit until now they would have been worth a lot more than $300, especially considering you cashed them in only 5 years after they were purchased. Second of all, I understand if you really needed the money, but it still wasn't yours to take, and I know if I had kids and I absolutely had to borrow from them in order to pay bills then I would at the very least set up a plan to repay it by the time they were old enough to cash them in.\" He then threw a glass and it shattered on the floor and startled me. He started screaming how I'm ungrateful and undeserving, how I've changed and how I used to be his favorite but now I'm not. He then stormed out of the house and drove away and didnt come back home for 2 hours. I called my mom while crying and she told me (I'm not sure if its true) that he had a gambling problem and would clock out of work on payday to gamble away his paycheck. I was heartbroken, and he hasnt treated me the same since, always favoring my brother and letting his girlfriend make digs at me. Was I wrong for wanting the money back? Its just that I'm at a point in my life where I could really use the money and he knows that, yet I still havent recieved a cent for them, as a matter of fact, he actually owes me money for other things, I havent asked for it back though because whenever I do he gets defensive and his girlfriend (who is always around) will get mad at me for asking for money, even if it was money he borrowed from me and told me he would pay back. I just want to leave at this point, I'm not sure I can handle living with them anymore, they make me feel so bad about myself.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SUYHAtbKsMZD4yYHVnwrvIUxntoBdXpF", "post_id": "ajz9nf", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA - An acquaintance wants my family to be a good reference to a new landlord, but she is very unstable and a liability. Should we tell them not to even though she really needs to have a place to stay?", "text": "Let's call this person Emma. Emma has been going through serious mental illness for a long time, believing that she is being monitored by the government or someone else through nanobots in her brain. She is almost 40 but has never been able to hold a job because of her symptoms and finally moved out of her parents' house about a year or so ago.\n\nSince then, Emma has been bouncing around living in either communal homes or in the homes of acquaintances. Most people she meets are through a network of churches and she asks members to stay for a few weeks at their homes every so often. Usually, it doesn't last very long. \n\nLast year my parents offered her the guest bedroom above my mother's office for a few weeks, but she ended up staying for over 2 months. We hoped to help her support herself and maybe try and seek treatment while she was in a more stable environment.\n\nThis would be generally fine except for the problems she caused in the house. Multiple times, she did not lock the front doors when leaving, she disrupted my mom on the days she worked at home, and even let the pets out of the fence where it was dangerous for them. The biggest problem was that, when she used the kitchen and electronic appliances, she would not turn them off and not only ruined our items, but almost set fire to the house. Her response, when told what she did, was to just shrug and walk off. The final straw was when she began to accuse my mother of monitoring her while she was in her office and putting bugs in her room when she was gone. She believes that all of this is 100% true and will not talk to a therapist or any other professional. \n\nSince she moved out she has asked numerous times to come back, but we are worried about the liability, bad atmosphere, and any outbursts that could be violent in the future (she has been known to become erratic at times). Also, my mom has moved from 2 days a week at home to every day at home and she can't work with Emma being there since she is often on calls. \n\nAn acquaintance emailed us asking for a reference for Emma to rent a room in her home. This person does not know much about her daily \"quirks\" yet and we do not know how to tell her and what we should recommend. We know that this person works away from home and would not be there often to make sure Emma is being safe in the home. The homeowner has also received many messages from Emma about the nanobots and people watching her, and this person doesn't know how she feels about having her in the home. Based on the messages we believe that her condition is getting worse and we would prefer to try and get her into mental health care rather than in a home where she is just in the room all day by herself. \n\nI think that we should tell this person not to let her rent the room at all. My mom originally agreed with me that we shouldn't recommend her as a tenant, but has since decided to recommend her with a few vague warnings as she needs a place to stay. I do think she needs support and shelter, but that this person should have our honest opinion and all the facts about liability. I have a history of mental illness, as do members of my family, and we deeply want to help her but I don't want to put someone else or their property in danger. \n\nWIBTA if I sent this person an email stating my opinions even if my mom recommends her?\n\nTLDR - A person with severe mental illness that has, at one point, lived in my house wants a reference for a new place. She caused damage to our property and was very disruptive. My mom wants to recommend her anyway, even though she thinks it's a bad idea because she needs a place to live. WIBTA if I personally reached out to the person to warn them even if it means this person may not have shelter?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TA9OnRESWOC7ubfZIog7k13oDLoaW1wL", "post_id": "b5a944", "action": {"description": "having a dildo twice the length and girth of my boyfriend's penis", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for having a dildo twice the length and girth of my boyfriend's penis?", "text": "So this is probably NSFW and TMI, but I need to know if I AITA. \n\nSo a little backstory. When my boyfriend and I got together sex was normal, but when I got pregnant my sex drive took a massive dive into I don't want to, but not because I had low libido, but more it's not worth the effort since I never get off, and I'm exhausted from pregnancy. My boyfriend gets off within like 10 minutes, and he doesn't care about foreplay or after play or my orgasm at all. Anyways I brought up the fact that I got a vibrator to him, and that I would like to use it in bed. He asked why I would need that if we never have sex. I said because it will make sex more enjoyable for me, and thus increase the likelihood of sex happening. I also asked if he would care if I bought a dildo, and he said I shouldn't have one because I have him. Basically implying that if his dick is available then I shouldn't be ignoring sex to fuck a dildo. \n\nNow I kind of respect his opinion because I do believe sex is an important part of a relationship, and I also wouldn't want him masturbating constantly and ignoring me. \n\nNow fast forward a year and a bit, and now our son is born and he won't have sex with me. He hasn't initiated, and when I initiate he pushes me away. We have had sex twice in about 8 months. I have talked to him and he says its him, and that he doesn't feel well EVER, and he is stressed, but I'm literally sexually frustrated. \n\nSo I bought a dildo. The dildo is about twice the length and girth of my boyfriend's penis. Now let me say I have ZERO issues with my boyfriend's size, it just so happened that these dildos were on sale, and they were what I was looking for, style wise. I have the dildo hidden, and my boyfriend has no idea about it, but I am worried that if he finds it he will be angry, and probably feel a little offended? \n\nSo AITA for having a dildo that is double the size of my boyfriend? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mbRkWyGzOMKkkolV6BSzIztDlC3XDKaO", "post_id": "aixp70", "action": {"description": "freaking out on a guy at the gym who insulted my socially anxious girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for freaking out on a guy at the gym who insulted my socially anxious girlfriend (twice)?", "text": "My girlfriend and I go to the gym six days a week to lift weights. It's been my hobby for 8 years and I'm just getting her into it. She has really, really bad social anxiety and, as you can imagine, is extremely self conscious about being seen working out. Her self esteem is so low that she tends to assume that whatever she does in or out of the gym is \"stupid\" and that others are judging her. I always do my best to be her #1 cheerleader but this brings me to an incident I couldn't have anticipated. She was doing squats at the gym and I was about 20 feet away at the bench when she suddenly runs to the bathroom crying. I ask her what happened and she said a man approached her, motioned for her to take her headphones off, and started criticizing her squat form totally unsolicited. She wasn't in danger of hurting herself or others, he just said she wasn't going low enough and that she has bad form. In retrospect, this was probably an attempt to hit on her, at best, but even so, I don't see why this gentleman wanted to do so by insulting her. She was seriously distraught, humiliated, and ashamed, and I was pissed. \n\nI saw him over at the bench, and though it seems petty, started harassing him about his bench form, asking why he was going so light, etc, asking why he felt the need to put people who were smaller than him down. Now the tables are turned...this guy is 5'5\", 135 at best (he told me he does CrossFit, lol), and I'm 205lbs on my third cycle of tren. Needless to say, he was scared shitless. He ran over and told the front desk I was harassing him. After hearing the full story, they sided with me.\n\nThis brings me to tonight. Literally the same thing happens, but with a different guy. I responded the same way, except even more pissed because I had assured my girlfriend (who is very attractive and prone to being talked to by creepy men) that this wouldn't happen again. She went and told management this time and they apologized profusely. I told them that I would respond the same way each and every time. However, I can't help but feel like an asshole if this is going to happen on a biweekly basis. Furthermore, I think uninvolved gym regulars will think I'm some roided out freak who confronts people when I'm really the calmest guy in the world...I say hi and am super friendly to everyone and have never, before this, been in a confrontation like this in my life. Am I an asshole for defending my girlfriend who doesn't have the skills/confidence to defend herself?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GWwbqagTgdZRfAozWBk9buNa9uNi3t4j", "post_id": "ardxwl", "action": {"description": "thinking that my family should stop giving me crap for forgeting to do stuff", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For thinking that my family should stop giving me crap for forgeting to do stuff", "text": "I know the title doesn't make much sense about please stick with me here. I have ADHD and I have trouble with remembering to do stuff. Today I forgot to take my medication and as the day progressed I got more forgetful. My dad asked me to unload the dishwasher. I did some of it but then got distracted by 1:My sisters running around the kitchen,2: Getting distracted by the TV and 3:My dog chewing my favourite dress. My mother and father started giving me crap for forgetting to do the stuff and I answered back with something along the lines of \"I sorry I forgot but you guys asked me late in the day when I'm at my worst for concentration.\" Now they are kinda pissed with me and Im not sure who's in the right so am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jrFT1NFStJ35fL0qQwSuC28Dxjf9sRB2", "post_id": "a6qzt0", "action": {"description": "insisting that I be allowed to meet my sister's mysterious new boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for insisting that I be allowed to meet my sister's mysterious new boyfriend?", "text": "19F here. My sister (18F) is currently in a new relationship with a significantly older man (43M). Bunch of alarm bells going off for me obviously, mainly because she has not to my knowledge ever been in a serious relationship before, or even had sex, and is generally pretty naive about this sort of thing. Plus the age gap really squicks me out. \n\nThey've been seeing each other for a month now, and she's totally obsessed with him. From the get-go I've been telling her that I'd like to meet him before they take things further, and have been repeatedly denied, along with my probing questions about him (seriously, I still know next to nothing about this dude). So yesterday I told her - for her own safety - that I wouldn't allow her to keep seeing him unless I was allowed to meet him in person. So yeah. Line in the sand. \n\nI'm sensitive to the idea that IATA in this situation. She is, after all, legally an adult. Also it's not like I can realistically do much to actually end the relationship, short of telling our parents. And I've generally got some super uncharitable opinions about the kind of guy that age who would enter into a relationship with my baby sister (Do I privately believe that this guy is a massive creep? Yes, yes I do). \n\nAITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VfuVue8XSXtyISOqYdZ1YBXdqRCwShAl", "post_id": "ad828q", "action": {"description": "wanting my mom to just back off my life", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my mom to just back off my life?", "text": "Hello everyone. I\u2019m a 24 y/o woman who is very close to my mom. We both underwent severe abuse from my father and don\u2019t really have anyone else but each other. The older and more independent I\u2019ve gotten, I\u2019ve seen it kind of hurt her because I\u2019m literally everything in her life. She sacrificed everything to give me a good life so I feel obligated to help her right now. I\u2019m paying for most of her expenses and don\u2019t mind at all, it\u2019s the least she can do for me. She always tries to give me good advice and be a strong pillar of support. She\u2019s an extremely kind and nice person... but lately, it\u2019s become a little overbearing. \n\n1. My friend and I were planning a trip to Jordan and my mom freaked out and told me to cancel the trip. Fast forward a few months later and I\u2019m going through a challenging break up and wish I just went with my friend to Jordan to do some soul searching.\n2. My mom added fuel to the fire in my last break up. We left the breakup amicable/as friends, but then my mom did something that caused my ex to block me and never want to talk to me again.\n3. She\u2019s always looking at my finances. Granted, she sacrificed everything to help me growing up so we share bank accounts and everything, but sometimes I feel like I need some privacy. \n4. I\u2019ve been dating this guy for about a month and she pressured me to meet him and it turned him off and I don\u2019t think he\u2019s interested anymore.\n\nI get that she loves me and is invested in me and all she wants is the best for me, but lately, it\u2019s just felt exhausting.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x6WMP4HW88qNuvAhaLkzsLHEO6VMY4le", "post_id": "9uuode", "action": {"description": "coming and following a plan to expose a creep lecturer", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I came and followed a plan to expose a creep lecturer?", "text": "Ok so this lecturer basically groomed me over the course of a year which led to sex and it kind of messed me up. I have reasons to believe he has done it before and is currently working on more young females. However I have no evidence right now to implicate him as he got on WhatsApp web while i wasn't watching and kept it for a while and deleted all the pervy chats and everything. So my proof is gone. My plan was to initiate one last time and rig it so that we both get caught.\n\n I want to see this jackass fired, lose any chances of obtaining his PhD and his reputation down the toilet. So would I be the asshole for going through with this plan and stirring up a bunch of shit?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uFAnxRBRUzd4RYccyPDhmonL4lSug1ga", "post_id": "9tu67z", "action": {"description": "not letting my mom join in my uber and get dropped off at a different location", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my mom join in my uber and get dropped off at a different location?", "text": "This happened this morning. I (22F) live in the suburbs with my parents and work at a very prestigious fine dining restaurant downtown in the city. Timeliness is extremely important here and we are encouraged to be 5-10 minutes early. It takes me anywhere between 25 minutes to an hour to get to work, depending entirely on traffic. Oftentimes I take uber because I don\u2019t want to pay for parking downtown.\nMy mom (58F) doesn\u2019t have a drivers license because she\u2019s legally blind. My dad travels for work. I help my mom out a lot but I can\u2019t do  everything for her because I work 50-60 hours a week in the fall and winter, and 70+ in the summer.\nThis morning I woke up at 7:30 to get to work by 9. At 8:15 I had called my uber and was putting my coat on to wait when my mom asks: \u201care you going down {name of street}.\u201d \nMe: \u201cno im not I take {other street} to {other street}. Thats completely out of the way. Also Im taking uber.\u201d\nMom: \u201cwell can you just drop me off at my hairdresser on the way?\u201d\nMe: \u201cagain im taking an uber.\u201d\nMom: \u201cI can join you in the uber and the driver can drip me off\u201d\nMe: \u201cno, it will make me late and I\u2019ll get fired for being late. If you had told me earlier I would have done it.\u201d\nThen my mom storms off and says \u201cI can\u2019t believe you. Every day you continue to shock me.\u201d\nHer comments really hurt. I don\u2019t feel like I did anything wrong in that scenario, but I have a pretty bad past. I\u2019m trying to be a better person, I just really needed to get to work on time. There was a chance I could have dropped her off and still made it, but like I said, being even 5 minutes late is fireable and I really didn\u2019t want to risk it. Maybe I should also mention that my mom is sick with cancer and sometimes uses that to guilt me into doing things for her (which I usually do). But it doesn\u2019t seem relevant to the scenario. Anyways AITA?\n\nTLDR: Im headed out the door to work and my mom asks to hop in my uber to get dropped off somewhere else. I tell her no, it will make me late. She says my behavior shocks her everyday.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "csXmh2j6dRHUfobnL93SYYnqgKg2Fezo", "post_id": "acjeuc", "action": {"description": "keeping my young kids on a fairly regular schedule", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for keeping my young kids on a fairly regular schedule?", "text": "I always thought it was recommended that kids stay on a somewhat regular schedule. We've always kept them on a similar schedule to daycare in regards to meals/naps, and we keep a pretty routine bedtime. My oldest is in kindergarten now, so we don't have to worry about naps, but she still eats lunch around the same time she did in daycare.\n\nWith my oldest, we learned pretty early on that if we messed with her routine too much, especially with regards to sleeping, bedtime could be a big hassle, and she'd be more prone to waking up at least once during the night (which could extend to subsequent nights from overtiredness). So if we are invited someplace and it interferes, we politely decline the invitation (or mention a better alternative if asked).\n\nMy brother and his family live nearby off and on, and he has kids of similar age to mine. Whenever we try to make plans together, I always take into account nap/bed times and normal meal times. I could always tell this annoyed him, though he never said anything, but lately, he's started making passive-aggressive remarks (i.e., when asking about making plans for the weekend, I'll mention that we have no plans, so we're fairly flexible outside of the afternoon nap time, and he'll say, \"Are you?!\" in a sarcastic tone). When they were visiting various friends/family stateside while living in Europe last year, he was annoyed that I wouldn't meet up with them after the kids' bedtime for dinner on a weeknight (we had plans to visit with them on a weekend, so this wasn't our only chance). There have been times I've just taken my oldest, since she doesn't nap, but I get passive-aggressive remarks about the younger ones not being there.\n\nI'm not sure if it's relevant, but he and his wife have a very different parenting style to mine and my husband's --- they take their kids everywhere (restaurants, traveling, wineries, movies) no matter the time or occasion, they only eat organic food, they live a minimalist lifestyle, where they barely have any toys (maybe 2-3 toys each and books), which is necessary since they move every year (sometimes out of the country). We are very opposite ---\u00a0we don't plan to take our kids traveling until they're old enough to appreciate it (our first big vacation is an upcoming Disney cruise), we only go to kid-friendly restaurants, we only go to more formal venues if we have a baby-sitter, we didn't take my oldest to a movie until she was 3 1/2, and it was at a cheap movie theater, we don't shop organic, and our kids have a normal amount of toys. We also own our house and plan to live here until we're too old to do so. They complain about money issues, but go to expensive dinners, travel a lot, and throw expensive wine and cheese parties, while we aren't cheap, but we are money conscious, so have a decent savings. These are just some of the differences.\n\nEven though I don't always agree with his choices, I'm very supportive when he asks for advice and never criticize, since I think it's not my place to do so unless there's abuse involved\n\nI've asked some (childless) friends if we're too rigid with our kids' schedules, and they said that maybe we should compromise to meet up with my brother, as he's obviously feeling hurt.\n\nSo sorry for the long-winded post, but AITA for having my kids on fairly consistent schedules?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KHkfLs1TZ3JcdyMtQoMz9JoPNyxFhhqj", "post_id": "asj4u4", "action": {"description": "not attending this \"Family\" Function", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Not Attending this \"Family\" Function", "text": "Apologies in advance, but this is going to take some background information. TL;DR at the end.\n\nSo when I was probably about 12 or 13, my grandparents got involved with a local community of refugees that immigrated to the United States. At this point they were both retired and they really threw all of their energy into it.\n\nThey became particularly attached a family of four. My grandparents basically adopted them into our family, and since then they come to all of our family functions. I was never really close with any of them due to age differences. Now, at the time I had a lot of mixed emotions about this. At the age of 12 I was essentially told that these random strangers were now my family, deal with it.\n\nThe family function I'm referring to is a summer picnic. I haven't attended since I was around 15 (I'm currently 21). Every year my family would go to the lake and have a picnic together, go swimming, play in the sand, etc. Once my grandparents adopted this other family they began attending as well.\n\nHere's the issue: One year my grandparents decided that it would be a fantastic idea to invite the *entire* extended family of their adopted family. I'm not talking a few people either. It was at least 20.\n\nI showed up to discover that my family had been made a minority at our own event. And it was very awkward. Many of these people were refugees keep in mind, so understandably many of them did not speak much English. They all pretty much pretended like we weren't there.\n\nI was really upset because it felt more like we had been invited to their family picnic instead of the other way around. When I was younger I had a *lot* of unresolved social anxiety, so situations like this one were torture for me. Aside from my brother there wasn't anyone I could hang out with, and he was kind of a dick.\n\nSo, when it became obvious that next year was going to be more of the same I flat out refused to go, and I've always been a pretty stubborn person so eventually I got my way.\n\nMy mother still gives me shit about not going anymore. She'll guilt trip me with all kinds of stuff, even though they have since cancelled the entire thing for (IMO) a stupid reason.\n\nNow that I'm older the entire thing seems very childish and selfish on my part, but I also feel like I was at least partially justified due to the weirdness of the family situation. I don't know, was I the asshole?\n\nTL;DR: When I was a young teenager my grandparents adopted a refugee family of four and started inviting them to all of our family functions. I had a lot of negative emotions about this, but was essentially told to grow up because \"they're family now\". Finally got fed up when my grandparents invited the family of four's entire extended family to one of our family functions and it triggered my social anxiety. Haven't been to said event in \\~7 years. Mother still thinks I'm being a stubborn ass about it, even though the event no longer happens. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VTvtNro7jiWBvHHJAXos17sDoIAIdz5r", "post_id": "b5g8og", "action": {"description": "not sharing my Pro controller with my little brother", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not sharing my Pro Controller with my little brother?", "text": "Bit of backstory: we got the Switch as a shared New Year's present. Since then we have had two sets of Joy-Cons, and the left joysticks of both of them have started drifting (meaning they input things when you don't touch them etc.), which makes it pretty difficult to play certain games I like.\n\n​\n\nI (16M) have decided to use some of my birthday money to buy myself a Pro Controller. When I shared this idea with my dad to order it online, my younger brother (11M) came up to me and asked if he would be allowed to use it as well. I said no because I bought it with my own money and he could get one himself with his money, or get a HORIPAD if he didn't want to spend \u20ac68. He complained and said: \"I do with my money what I want!\" which I have learned to mean \"I'm gonna use your stuff instead so I can spend mine on Fortnite.\" I know this because he has done it in the past, such as when he lost his phone charger and kept on using mine, while our parents got him VBucks and a Battle Pass that same week.\n\n​\n\nI'm also pretty paranoid on letting him use it since I kinda feel he might break it. He's dropped the switch multiple times and has been known to rage pretty often when losing, even having thrown the joycons once (granted, they fell on the carpet). He claims the first joycon started drifting after our cat pushed the Switch down our table, which sounds believable, but the second one started drifting after he took the Switch to a sleepover with one of his friends. I know correlation =/= causation but I really don't want to take too many risks with something I paid almost \u20ac70 for.\n\n​\n\nOne of his arguments is that I sometimes use his headphones, but I asked him whether I could use those and he said yes. If he were to say I'm no longer allowed to use it then I won't, simple as that.\n\n​\n\nI mostly want the Pro Controller to play Super Smash Bros Ultimate. I also bought a Switch Online subscription to play the game online, but with a drifting joy-con that's pretty much impossible (my GSP with Lucina dropped from over 4,000,000 to 1,700,000 before I quit). It's also the main reason I wanted a Pro Controller, else the subscription would be wasted money. \n\n​\n\nMy brother has since been annoying me because he'll only be able to play with the drifting joy-cons and thus basically cannot use the system. A little nuance I'm adding here is that he literally only used it to play Fortnite anymore, which he can also play on our laptop, and watch YouTube videos, which he can also do with drifting joy-cons. \n\n​\n\nHe's already told our mom about it and she brought it up at the dinner table, insisting I let my brother use it from time to time as well. I explained why I'd rather not but she casually responded something in the line of \"No, he won't break it...\" Since my parents usually side with my brother and my sister literally does not care at all, I've come here to get some unbiased opinions. So, am I the asshole here?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MsWMEQlYi23CuojWWgVubeIxrbBVivQr", "post_id": "avwou8", "action": {"description": "not going out of my way to save my husband a couple hundred bucks", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "WIBTA if I don't go out of my way to save my husband a couple hundred bucks", "text": "Husband has to get part of engine replaced and he asked me to go w/ him to the dealership to negotiate that they pay for the part. I'm good at that, and could get the part at huge discount.\n\n\nOnly thing is, I really don't feel like going out of my way to do something nice for him. I helped him with/took care of a ton for him since the year started, and I'm feeling pretty unappreciated.\n\n\nHe didn't do anything for anniversary or vday, and pretty much dropped the ball on my bday (asked if I have plans 2 days before, gave me a card on the day of).\n\n\nIn contrast, for his bday, we went to Yosemite (planned it a month in advance) and I bought him hiking shoes.\n\n\nSo, WIBTA if I don't help him? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "B3totdUO2aEryOyBpl18M5NoGYCblr20", "post_id": "arch1u", "action": {"description": "arguing with my stepmom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA Arguing with my stepmom", "text": "About a year ago now, me and my dad moved in with his girlfriend (so not really my stepmom but easier just to say that), and she has some anger issues. She yells at me all the time, finds reasons to be angry at me when it's basically nothing, and it escalated to the point where she's thrown a can of beans at my head and left a very large lump, or tried throttling my neck, and I pushed her off of me, and because I pushed her, my dad and her both said I'm the one in the wrong for it. And it's like that constantly. She'll argue with me, and I'll respond with, \"ok\" trying to defuse it, and she'll keep screaming at me like she's mad she's not getting a reaction, and my dad still only tells me, \"You need to stop being passive aggressive\" or \"You need to just leave when she gets angry, and stop antagonizing her\" but it feels like she's angry everytime she sees me, and the only way to avoid it is to come downstairs when my dad is home (he usually works long hours and my stepmom is home hours before him) or to just not live in my own house. But they consistently always call me an asshole and tell me I'm the one that's wrong, am I delusional? Is there something else I can do to stop her getting mad at me? I don't want to do anything drastic, I want my dad to be happy after his divorce, but it almost feels unlivable. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qfqjQeHjxw1H8jDiGgSzc7A0XMt5aJlP", "post_id": "aapmn4", "action": {"description": "not wanting my husband to look at other women's naked bodies when he masturbates", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my husband to look at other women's naked bodies when he masturbates?", "text": "I recently found out that my husband follows all of the gone wild type subreddits where most of the posts are just still images of normal-everyday-women's naked body parts. This bothers the hell out of me, and makes me feel like me and my body are not enough for him. I've been very explicit about why I, personally, have a problem with this type of porn, and here's the best comparison I can draw: him looking at other women's breasts/vagina's to masturbate and achieve release would be like if I came to a picture of some random dudes dick. When I asked him if he would have a problem with that, he didn't really have a response other than \"it's not the same\". To me, it feels the same. It feels like a slap in the face that with ALL the other porn out there (which I truly have NO problem with him watching, because that's more about the act itself not the people involved), he's not willing to give up his girls over at r/gonewild.\n\nAITA for asking him to unfollow and not use r/gonewild subreddits to masturbate? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WfWCik1HpMpDSVAmfZA8EKzlZgkCLoZY", "post_id": "ar35qg", "action": {"description": "not wanting my brother to touch my games because he treats his poorly", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my brother to touch my games because he treats his poorly", "text": "I'm on mobile so sorry for formatting \n\n   So my Brother and I both play xbox and buy games with our own money. I treat my games as if they are the item that would save the world (they are expensive). I've noticed that he often leaves his game disks on the floor, let's them gets scratched, etc. I have also noticed him treat my games poorly, I want to get the new metro game but I dont want to let him play it in fear her will damage it?\n\n   I feel bad for not wanting to let him play, especially since he does like the other 2 metro games and alot of my other games. I'm also worried that he will get my parents involved if I dont let him play\n\nTL;DR Dont want to let my brother play my games because he treats mine and his poorly \n\nSo AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Vh6cneRpEGVJeENURuD2S1HGSMpAuo5T", "post_id": "a2u25a", "action": {"description": "not accepting my bestfriend's girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not accepting my bestfriend's girlfriend?", "text": "I have been best friends with this guy for 12-13 years, since we were in grade school. Fast forward we are in our mid 20's. I consider this guy my brother. Always been there for each other.. He shows up whenever he gets into town. (he works in a different city from me) Every once in a while he gets 2 weeks off and he comes to my house and sleeps here. My parents see him as their adopted son. He's basically family to us.\n\nHe's been on and off with this one girl since 8th grade. I used to like her as well back then, but decided to back off for our friendship sake. Rather keep him as my friend than have a girl break us apart. Fast forward to Sr year in high school. She's going off to University, he doesn't go that route and they have a long distance relationship. Everything was good these 4 years into their relationship.\n\nFreshman year. He'd go and visit her randomly. He would do anything for her. They split for a while, she doesn't want to be with him anymore. Obvious college girl wanting to have fun and explore. Whatever not my problem, but he gets sad over it, i tell him just chill and wait and see what happens. They get back together, all is good again.\n\nSophomore year. If i remember correctly, she cheats on him with someone over there and he is distraught. He gets heartbroken because its over someone she constantly kept telling him to not worry about. She cheats on him and leaves him. I'm there again to help him though it because its obvious this dude is in love with her. I as a best friend have to always be there for him. Around this time, i get my own girlfriend. My best friend and her get close and talk about his problems and what he feels. He's not one to really open up much to ANYONE. So for him to slightly open up to her caught me by surprise. She comforts him and tells him to look elsewhere, she's not worth the hassle. He says shes right and \"moves on\"\n\nJr year. She comes back, and he says its for good. Their rough patch has ended and its all going good. Im skeptical at the time, but whatever. Im his best friend i gotta be there and support him. My girlfriend with all the knowledge she has of this girl, does not like her whatsoever. I explain to her that you're my girlfriend, we're obviously going to have to deal with her so to at least TRY to be social. We go out to eat one day and they both meet. Its decent, they talk about school and whatnot and what their plans are. After we go our separate ways, my girl says that she will give her once chance. Clean Slate, she better not fuck this up. Obviously she does. Splits again after like 2-3 months around summertime.\n\n\n\nSenior year. . We told him, block her everywhere, FB, phone number, Email, everything. He said he did. We're proud of him, like finally you're moving on from this succubus. One day he tells me he's been talking to her. Im not one to hide emotions well, i give him the dumbest look like, are you fucking serious? He says, yea i just wanted to check up on how shes doing in school blah blah blah. I guess man, we told you to forget about her and move on. \"i know but its hard man\" No the fuck its not. But whatever. Turns out she invited him to her graduation, and he didn't want to go alone. I go also, cause he doesn't want to be alone. Graduation is fine, we take pics, me and him go back to our hotel and get ready to go barhopping with her and her friends/family. We get drunk and i tell her, yo i never liked you, this is your last chance. Dont fuck it up. She says she wont. Cool.\n\n1 year later. He's in my room and were chilling, and he tells me that shes pregnant. I turn around like dude wtf did you do? He chokes up and says its not his. First time i hear him like that. Fast foward a month or 2 later. He says she has a appointment to abort it. She doesn't go. He gets heart broken again. Im beyond pissed at this point, at both him and her. My girlfriend and me have kept telling him, shes not worth it.\n\nIm hoping her having the kid makes him realize she aint worth it. She did this to him, he's done. Nope. There he goes, back chasing her. Now this time they go everywhere together. Shes all in love with him. Im just annoyed and sickend how he can be okay with all this. He tries to tell me its foreal this time, it going to stay this way. I just blow it off. I try to change the subject everytime shes involved.\n\nI just want to know if im a ass hole for not wanting to even accept her after all this? Like, i consider this guy my brother, id do anything for him. But when it comes to her... idk. This is on a throwaway account, and i changed some stuff up in case she or a friend stumble across this. Im sorry if its long.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kGQHrlj4w0Z2I9JM1wU3yXozy2fcCfva", "post_id": "ba1xm0", "action": {"description": "possibly wanting to skip out on golf", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for possibly wanting to skip out on golf?", "text": "A few weeks ago I booked a Golf tee time to play by myself since i've just moved and don't know many people in my area. I ended up paired with another group that was about my skill level and ultimately ended up agreeing that we would play again in the near future. He's just asked me to play again, but after I agreed, he's informed me that his other friend who has never played before is coming as well.\n\n​\n\nI'm not the best golfer in the world, but this could take forever.\n\n​\n\nWhat should i do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ItPgxu4KK6BOOBAqFbNIBFf4is06bAcM", "post_id": "aoxql9", "action": {"description": "stopping a train", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for stopping a train", "text": "So this happened a couple of days ago as I was getting on a train. \n\nI had just stepped on to the train and pretty much that moment, the doors had begun to beep as they were about to close. As you would expect, I didn't pay much attention to this. \n\nJust then, I  realised that a lady, who I presume was at least partially blind due to a white cane, had gotten out of her seat and was heading towards the exit with the assistance of a member of staff, who had gotten on the train when I did. \n\nWithout really thinking, I placed my foot in the way of the doors. They opened and closed on my foot a few times before remaining open, allowing the lady and her helper to leave. All I can presume is that the sensors in the door tripped a switch the same way the emergency door release handle was. \n\nThis resulted in a 10-15 minute delay for the guard to work out how to reset the door, I'm guessing pissing off 100 or so commuters.\n\nI don't know if I'm an asshole or not, because I was meaning to do the right thing, but then the lady could have just gotten off at the next stop and gotten the train back, meaning that I delayed everyone for no reason. Who knows? \n\nWell hopefully you do, so AITA?\n\nTldr: Caused a train to be delayed because I stuck my foot out for a blind person. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XoBIvXgp8lN5xiK1beNqYAdd3m1lfZbT", "post_id": "aqzd4g", "action": {"description": "tipping a delivery less than $2", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for tipping a delivery less than $2", "text": "The office where I work is about 1 mile from Jimmy Johns and it's one of the only places that delivers small orders. I order from them for lunch at least once a week and place the order online. My order usually comes to about $6 - $7. During the checkout process there is a prompt to add a tip and it automatically calculates 15%, 20%, or 25%. I always select 20% then checkout. The tip is about $1.70 - $1.95. There's also a $2 delivery fee but I know that at most places this doesn't go to the driver. I thought it was fine since the company doesn't have a delivery order minimum and it's 20% but a coworker lectured me today when I placed my order saying the percentage doesn't matter and I should tip a minimum $4 for a delivery. \n\nAre they right? Even though my order is at most $7 and they are delivering less than 1 mile should I be tipping a minimum $4 or is 20% enough even if it's $2 or less? I'm open to responses and opinions here. I always tip at least 20 - 25% when I go out but if I'm in the wrong here I want to know. So, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gfFfknSBnFVnhOQhyQlWA4SC18nomOO8", "post_id": "a8oous", "action": {"description": "trying to date one of my closest friend's past abuser", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for trying to date one of my closest friend\u2019s past abuser", "text": "Some backstory:\n\nAbout 3 and a half years one of my closest friends came forward and says that she was repeatedly sexually abused by another one of my friends. When this came out I of course believed her and tried to help her through it. Of course I don\u2019t mean to make excuses for her abuser and it was abhorrent what she did, but it should be noted that she was severely mentally ill, suffering from disassociation, mania and depression among other things. My friend to this day still claims to suffer from the trauma of the events. As a result it was argued by some at the time that she was not as culpable for her actions. At the time I disagreed with this and besides she denied what she had done and didn\u2019t seem to hold much remorse.\n\nFast forward to now, this girl has become seemingly quite a lot more mentally healthy and has been with a therapist since that time. She has changed, at least from what I can see, into a different, far better person. I truly believe she has changed.\n\nI have started talking to this girl and believe there may be some romantic possibilities for us, however I am aware that this would be detrimental for my friend who was abused who I still care about a lot and who has a great deal of trust in me. As a result I\u2019m trying to make sure she would never find out and so my relationship would never affect her. However, her boyfriend who is also my friend knows and this has created a situation of having to keep this from her because he knows the revelation would cause a lot of emotion damage.\n\nSo AITA for trying to date my friends past abuser if I truly believe she has changed. And if I will do everything it takes to prevent it from hurting my friend who was abused.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uyRzH2w8bMhMrGJYU5dftHN386paK2H4", "post_id": "akkyy0", "action": {"description": "calling people hungover and demanding they pay their fees", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling people hungover and demanding they pay their fees?", "text": "I am the head of a university club. I'm going to be very vague to remain anonymous, but this club's single purpose is to attend a very specific type of conference, wherein you dress in fancy attire and debate certain topics in a certain way. It's nerdy, but I enjoy it.\n\nIn pursuit of this, the club ends up staying in fancy hotels. We get funding from the university for these trips, and club members were very explicit in wanting to sleep in the same building as the conference (its a conference center and hotel).\n\nThis is my first time heading this type of operation, but I've attended many of these conferences as a club member, so I am at least somewhat experienced with how they should run.\n\nTo begin this story, the situation developed with a very specific group of 4 girls. They are all in similar programs, and get along with each other very well. I've known them for years through the club. Not really as friends, but as acquaintances. They are all very intelligent, and very good at this conference type of thing. Some won awards in previous years.\n\nThe conference starts on Friday morning, and runs through till Sunday afternoon. We all have to make a ferry trip to get to the conference.\n\nDue to my own budgetary fudge-up about a week ago, I had to re-book the rooms to a two night stay, where initially I had promised a three night one.\n\nThis group of 4 decided to travel over on Thursday, and find their own accommodations. No problems there, but it was a clue of what their intentions were for the weekend.\n\nWhen Friday morning rolled around, only one of the four showed up for the opening ceremony. The ceremony that is supposed to set the scene of the conference.\n\nThe others promised they were on their way, and would only be a couple minutes.\n\nThey instead went shopping and only arrived after the lunch break. They had missed the opening.\n\nThey attended the first part of the conference just fine. But trouble happened that night. University club policy is to reimburse club heads for any relevant purchases after the fact. So turn in receipts and get the money back a week later.\n\nI had a payment plan for the hotel. People pay $90 to me (the head honcho), and get $60 back from the university later (that's just how the university decided to fund us).\n\nAt this point, only 2 of 10 attendees had payed me.  I was furious. They had weeks to get me the money, and now they hadn't even bothered to bring it!\n\nIf I didn't collect the money, I wouldn't get reimbursed later by the university.  \nThis is a fancy hotel, with a fancy price tag that I have to pay come Sunday.\n\nThey wanted to e-transfer me the money. I said no and they of course ask why. I said there is an ATM downstairs, it's the same thing for them to pay in cash as it is to e-transfer me; but for me I get physical cash. I don't have to verify if they paid me or not, or wait 24 hours to see if the money goes through, or deal with bullshit \"I sent the e-transfer yesterday, didn't you get it?\".\n\nThey hated that I wanted cash. I think they were concerned I would do something fishy with the money, like claim they never paid and scrap their $60 refund.\n\nThey dragged their feet in paying me. But by the end of the conference I got everyone to pay up. I had to remind and bother them all weekend to do so though.\n\nThus ends Friday.\n\nMorning of Saturday: things went smooth. It was the best day of the conference. And also the cause of the problems for day 3.\n\nThe conference has a social event at a club on Saturday. I've no problem if people want to have fun after a long day of debate, but as my father has said \"if you want to fly with the owls at night, be ready to soar with the Eagles in the morning\". In my mind, you are at the conference to attend the conference. And I think these girls were here for the party.\n\nThey didn't even attend the conference on Sunday.\n\nI went to see them in the morning after the conference started.\n\nThey didn't answer the door. I left and came back some time later. This time they opened up.  \nThe room was a mess, checkout was soon, some still hadn't payed me.  \nI stormed into the room, some of them were still in bed.  \nI said I didn't care if they felt sick, that they were just hung over from their night out, and told them to get downstairs to the damn conference. Also to give me the money they owed.  \nI turned and left without really hearing what they had to say in return.\n\nI decided to just pay the hotel and told the girls they would eventually get kicked out. I wasn't going to wait around for them.\n\nAt this point I should mention that one of the girls is also a head for the club. And that she had agreed to pay part of the hotel to split costs and avoid stressing over a big ticket item like a multi-day hotel stay. She bailed out of that plan unexpectedly, claiming her card was locked by the bank, and she couldn't pay for anything. She somehow got the $90 to me later. Don't know how if her card was locked.\n\nThey stayed in bed late, one went to the pool and I happened to see her on the way out of the pool, she said she didn't feel well and the swim was to help her out.\n\nI went with her back to their room. One of them payed up the $90. But also claimed they were sick and weren't going to get out of bed, and that I was being very rude to them given how unwell they felt. I said I didn't care what they thought of me, we are here for the conference, so attend the conference.\n\nI left. They stayed.\n\nThis was the last I saw of them as a group. I haven't heard much from them since; they just wanted me to send them confirmation that I got their payments in writing. Which I did.\n\nThey didn't attend closing ceremonies.\n\n​\n\nThe club normally sends about 12 to 15 students to these conferences, and every year we get a group photo. This year, just me and my friend got in the photo, out of ten people that attended this year it was only us two that stuck around till the end.\n\nI know I could have handled things differently.  \nI could have gotten them to pay weeks ago rather than at the conference.  \nI could have done a better budget and not have screwed up the three night stay.  \nI could have explained to them my expectations for their behaviour rather than confronting them after the fact.\n\nAm I the asshole for being so harsh and rude to them under these circumstances?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qBiIXXTm7EtncszAbsw43Vh3BUhmfAfJ", "post_id": "b7u6mv", "action": {"description": "having a fight with my girlfriend because she prefers a friend over me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for having a fight with my girlfriend because she prefers a friend over me?", "text": "Okay so,\nMe [M17] and my girlfriend [F17] just had a fight over this, and I dont know if i'm just overreacting and being childish about it or is what she said normal.\nI'm not really the jealous type, so i'm fine with a lot of stuff that others might not like. Today we were talking normally over text and she had this idea to class out friends in order of who we prefer most. I didn't want to do it at first cuz it felt childish to me, and might come back and bite me in the ass in the future, but I did it anyways and put her first (as she's my girlfriend and bestfriend). When her turn came she put a friend (also female) in front of me. I didn't know what to say, the only person i thought i'd be there first choice prefers someone else.\nWe had this long ass argument about it telling me that they had more fights than we did (we rarely have fights, and we get over most), and because they fought more she prefers her more (I found this argument really stupid).\n\nSo reddit, AITA being overdramatic over something normal, or do I have the right to be mad?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fWf5zeBOmUde2d90L6ZixEyL5xPfCBlv", "post_id": "9wf8re", "action": {"description": "not wanting to waste vacation days to see family for holidays", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to waste vacation days to see family for Holidays?", "text": "I live in STL and half of my family lives in Little Rock Arkansas. I am not taking any vacation days to go down and see them at Thanksgiving, or Christmas. Some of these family members I have not seen in 3 years. I do feel bad. However, my work only gives me 12 days off a year and I already used one of those days two weeks ago to take my gf to have oral surgery. I am planning on buying a house and moving and I want to save half of those days for my move and/or days to look at houses. Then I would like to be able to take an out of state vacation sometime in the late summer... So AITA for not taking 2 days off and possibly only allowing my self time for a 3 or 4 day vacation in the summer? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fO3OBYH0EWVh9FBROYd6l90N4VmEOrm1", "post_id": "b0vzmp", "action": {"description": "dosing food with LSD and keeping it in my room that my friend then found and ate", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for dosing food with LSD and keeping it in my room that my friend then found and ate?", "text": "Long story short, I had some cookies in a black plastic bag that I dosed with an LSD solution  Each was about as strong as a regular tab.\n\nAnyway, my friend came over and I went to get some fast food for us. After getting back and eating he told me he ate two of the cookies he found in my room. They were in the bag on my dresser sort of uncovered and visible. I'm pretty open with sharing food so my friend is free to get whatever I have in my house.\n\nCue me getting scared and letting him know he just ate some LSD when this guy had only smoked weed in his life. He started freaking out so I gave him some Xanax to chill him out and basically babysat the guy for the rest of the time.\n\nAfter this I drove him home. Tried texting him and talking with her online but he isn't responding to me.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FZAh0HgauwTOnASAZ7cq9vws7jyp9AkN", "post_id": "9x3e39", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Partially ghosting a girl interested in me for the best interest of my close friend", "text": "So, before I get into the story, I'll give you some context of the past couple of years. I'm 18 years old, enrolled full-time in university and have a very close friend who I will call Jane for anonymity purposes. So, Jane and I have had this very long winded relationship together. We've on-and-off dated and remained very close friends when not dating. We both can recollect each other's life stories and would take a bullet for each other. Typical best friend kind of stuff. Jane suffers from a host of different issues ranging from depression to dissociative identity disorder and takes a massive amount for her to find someone she is romantically interested in beyond someone's looks. Now on to the story.\n\n​\n\nGoing into university, I had started to slowly lose contact with my friends from high school and this included Jane. I stuck to my studies and took priority in my own interests and I could tell that Jane just didn't really enjoy talking to me like she once did. Eventually, she told me about a girl she was interested in who seemed pretty cute and overall pretty nice. I encouraged her to go after it like any best friend would and eventually, the girl (Who I will call Kylee), added me on Facebook to talk to me. Previously, Jane told Kylee that she should add me because if she can get along with me, then the chances of a relationship working would be far better. So, I talked to her to get an idea of her humour and whatnot while I was at the library. We watched Fitz, both showed interest in games like The Witcher III and Skyrim and other things. \n\nRight after I had talked to her, I noticed that Jane was acting very strange towards me and she began to constantly ask me questions about every little thing that I talked about with Kylee and constantly said if I have any feeling for her. Turns out, she actually messaged Kylee saying that she better not get any feelings towards me. This reaction already made me quite confused because she's never acted jealous of me before. \n\nHowever, we shrugged it off meanwhile Kylee and I joked about it lightheartedly. Kylee and I continue to talk for the next few days and Jane increasingly gets more aggressive towards me with anything regarding Kylee. I would reassure to Jane that nothing is going on and she needs to calm down about it. But as time went on, I noticed that Kylee and I started to lightly flirt with one another. At first, it was just pure joking, but eventually, Kylee would start to jokingly call me daddy and then I realized that she was actually potentially interested in me. It started to get into late nights on the phone talking about our past and opening up to one another and admittedly, I gained feelings for her and that's when shit started to hit the fan. \n\nI decided to admit to Jane that I grew feelings towards Kylee and Jane grew furious towards me. This only frustrated both Kylee and I who both hate drama. So, Kylee and I tried to ignore her being angry and we continued having fun and whatnot. It eventually got to a point where Jane messages me in anger saying things like she's depressed and that I'm taking away the last thing she cares about. Her usual bouts of anger at thing point. However, one thing really stood out to me which was in a conversation where she was trying to say I'm not a good friend for gaining interest in her. In this text, David will take the name of one of her personality names. \n\nMe - \"It's not just flirting and shit. I don't just talk about sex like you think I do. She does make me think very well about myself and seems genuinely interested in me.\"\n\nJ - \"Yep. So go ahead. Date her. See where that gets you.\"\n\nMe - \"Wtf is that supposed to mean?\"\n\nJ - \"What do you think it means honey? Hey how are you\"\n\nMe - \"I honestly don't know what it means but it feels like you're giving me an ultimatum\"\n\nJ - \"David here.\"\n\nMe - \"Ik, hi\"\n\nJ - \"Been awhile. Honestly never felt Jane be this mad and anxious at the same time.\"\n\nMe - \"It's whatever, just gotta think about the ultimatum now.\"\n\nJ - \"What do you think it means?\"\n\nMe - \"If I go for her (Kylee), Jane will never be my best friend and if I don't go for her, Jane will stay.\"\n\nJ - \"Nah. Jane won't trust you if you go for her and she will be beyond hurt. Whatever happens because of those things is completely dependant. Why go for the only girl Jane's ever been interested in. She trusted you with talking to her. She doesn't even care about joking flirting, she knows when it's legitimate. But it's the \"I want to have sex with you and date you\" that's when she starts regretting trusting you to text her.\"\n\nAt that point, I gave up in the conversation because I was too flustered to continue. So, I decided that I will give Jane a break and continue with my life. After a few days, she texts me and says this.\n\nJ - \"Do you have feelings for Kylee?\"\n\nMe - \"Why do you ask?\"\n\nJ - \"Because. Because straight up. I'm not blind. So tell me.\"\n\nMe - \"I mean, I guess I do.\"\n\nJ - \"Well, straight up. I'm gonna be black and white with you. You're my best friend because I trust you. I introduced you two for the reason of helping er date me like you would with any boyfriends. If you want to fuck me over. Go ahead. I'm messed up. I get it. Who tf would want to date me \\*Crying laughing emote\\*. So if you want to be a reason another relationship doesn't work out in my string of luck go ahead.\"\n\nJ - \"Answer.\"\n\nJ - \"OP listen\"\n\nJ - \"I'm sorry\"\n\nJane calls, I decline.\n\nJ - \"So, now you're not gonna answer?\"\n\nMe - \"I'm just gonna let you think of the shit you've said to me recently.\"\n\nJ - \"Listen OP. I am sorry. That wasn't me. I know you hate me. I mean, why else would have cut me out of your life entirely\"\n\nSo, after a while, I decided to basically just say fuck this and go for Kylee. Which I did, but I started to feel more guilt from the situation so I stopped talking to Kylee as much and started talking to this other girl. Keep in mind, at this point I wasn't dating anyone. I started getting close to this other girl I'll call Allison. Eventually, I tell Kylee that I think her and I should just be friends and that I'm not a fan of the drama surrounding the situation. Kylee seemed genuinely upset about it and really upset about it. Turned out that after that day, she did not go to school for the week. However, I go on a date with Allison and we start to kick off, but she decides that she wants a break from a potential relationship because of her phobia of commitment. I respect her wishes and grow a bit more distant from Allison. After I was told by Jane that Kylee has been acting strange, I talk to Kylee again and within a few days, I grow feelings towards her again. However, I already told Jane that I was no longer going for Kylee. \n\nSo, about after a week of Kylee and I exchanging feelings, I decided to just ghost off. I'm not good with saying goodbye to anyone, but I don't want to sabotage my best friend's trust for me. I feel like shit not messaging her back, but I just don't want to gain feelings for her again and just move on. So, now, I'm still talking to Allison and still have not given any information to Kylee. I didn't want Kylee to be hurt, but I just don't want to continue this cycle of drama and just walk away from it.\n\nSo, AITA? Have I been wrong about everything I've done in the past couple of months? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uMwp9LVN9ojplXogYaCA0EUBmLXIk6PR", "post_id": "acgw7j", "action": {"description": "wanting coworker to be let go", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting coworker to be let go", "text": "Sorry for the wall of text, tldr below.\n\n  \n\n\nI started a new job at a consultancy in spring last year, a month later coworker joined.\n\n  \n\n\nWe were put on the same project and we did have problems getting comfortable working with each other. I would call myself driven, trying to get the most out of everything I do, whereas he is more of a easy going dude, which led to some friction. Example: he would always come in late, always after 10am. One time our clients came to our office and we were supposed to demo something at 9am. The evening before we all went out for drinks and I reminded him multiple times that we had to be in the office \"early\". He showed up at 10:30am, no apologies, not even a message that he was gonna come in later. I took him aside and told him that I didn't appreciate this and that I felt let down as a team mate.\n\n  \n\n\nAbout a month before the project ended, the project lead moved away and even though the coworker has more work experience in general, I was made the new manager, since I was senior on the project and (in my opinion at least) have better communication skills. To clarify: I would only communicate with the clients and relay messages to the original lead, unless it was really urgent because of time difference.\n\n  \n\n\nThe last month was super stressful, the third guy on the project and me worked 10-12h a day for 3 weeks. Coworker did his usual hours as far as I could see.\n\n  \n\n\nOne time, I said to the third guy, I was gonna go home and continue working from home, since we had been in the office for 10h now. Coworker just got up and packed his stuff. I asked him, whether he would continue working from home too, he said no. I told him, that we weren't done yet, and needed to finish things and he just walked away while I was still talking to him. Okay, I thought, we're all a bit on edge for working so hard. He'll cool down.\n\n  \n\n\nThe next day, he sent an email to everyone on the team including the clients stating that he wasn't on the project anymore (he officially wasn't, but he was supposed to finish a couple of things) and that he doesn't want people to ask him about doing things anymore. I thought, alright we can probably manage the rest without him, so I sent him a message, thanking him for his continued work even though he wasn't officially on the project anymore and he answered me with something along the lines of \"I have asked our COO to never put me on a project with you again. You're a bully and I don't like you\" I asked him whether he wanted to talk about it and he never answered. For days I was wrecking my brain, trying to understand what happened, when it hit me, that he probably felt, I took his efforts for granted, even though he wasn't on the project and was doing us a favour. I sent him a really long email, apologising, that I didn't ask him about his feelings and his willingness and extent of his involvement sooner, but also reminded him that it wasn't me who made the decision he had to finish that thing and that I wished that he'd said something sooner, so we could've tried to find a solution that worked for everyone.\n\n  \n\n\nHe never answered.\n\n  \n\n\nSo I thought he probably needed some space, maybe he had personal issues he had to deal with etc.\n\n  \n\n\nIn the following months I tried to be polite and friendly without being too overbearing, asking him about his weekends and such, but he would always try to avoid conversation or flat out ignore me.\n\n  \n\n\nThere are about 50 people in our company, and we are encouraged to give feedback and deal with conflict immediately, without letting it fester. And management is really involved in the employees wellbeing. So I talked to our CEO about this situation (without naming names) and he suggested I try once more at the Christmas party to resolve the issue.\n\n  \n\n\nSo, the day before I told coworker I would like to have a chat about what had happened (this is about 3-4 months after the end of the project) and he answered \"not interested\" I asked if he is still adament of not working with me, he took a really long time and answered \"yes, for the same reason I don't like you. You are bullying me. You are always projecting your big fragile ego on other people. I have worked with people like you and I don't want to anymore. My advice to you is to stop projecting and build something for yourself for once.\"\n\n  \n\n\nI apologised that I have hurt him and asked him if he could tell me what I did to bully him, because I honestly didn't know and never intended to. No answer.\n\n  \n\n\nI have tried everything, reaching out, being nice, giving space, letting him vent, taking his abuse. But I am done. Our COO has already said, that this his behavior is not okay and him and our psychologist are going to talk to him, that he was jealous all those months ago because I got the project management gig and he didn't. That he says I bullied him and he's the victim here.\n\n  \n\n\nI said, if he came around I would still be willing to work with him, but I don't know if that's true anymore. I feel he crossed a line when refused to address this issue in person, but has no problems, dumping shit over me on slack dms.\n\n  \n\n\nI don't think he deserves more chances and he should be let go. Am I the asshole in this now? Should I be able to forgive and forget?\n\n  \n\n\nTldr: jealous coworker says I bully him and refuses to talk to me in person about issues, but insults me in private messages over slack. I want him gone, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sbbB7axaDAaQfC8878v6TyVEXRfqJINX", "post_id": "afaeo2", "action": {"description": "holding a grudge", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For holding a grudge?", "text": "Context: It was lunchtime at my HS when my friend, we'll call her Ant, tried to introduce me to the new kid. He had recently arrived here from the Philippines and didn't know english that well. We were sitting together, in an awkward silence when he said something in Tagalog that I didn't quite understand. I asked Ant to translate it, and his first words to me were \"Is he gay?\" At first I shook it off, and asked him (with the help of my translator) why he would think that, he didn't respond, just gave me a look as if to say, \"Isn't it obvious?\" Then, in an attempt to make sense of it, Ant began to explain EVERY reason why he might think that. The way i sat, the way I looked, my personality, and more. Admittedly, I was insecure about being considered masculine at the time, and each comment made me feel more and more effeminate. It didn't help that I liked Ant at the time. After our lunch period was over, while Ant wasn't paying attention, I told him how I felt in a way he could understand, I flipped him off, and never spoke to him again. It's been a year since then, and I still avoid the new kid like the plague, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TBr4Ms6csJj1bqGqJwlmlwazsSaIJD0o", "post_id": "b0bxla", "action": {"description": "being mad at my sister trading my taquito", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my sister trading my taquito?", "text": "My mom bought 3 taquitos for me at 7/11, a convenience store. I got 2 taco and cheese taquitos and a chicken buffalo one for my sister. I was eating my taquitos in peace, in my own room, when my sister just says \"Try this\" while giving me the taquito. I just took a bite and made a face. It was kinda nasty. She said \"Eat this. You get a taco, I get a taco.\" While going out of my room. I was asking her why, and she said \"DON'T TALK LIKE THAT TO ME\" and just shut the door in my face. I told my mom and she said \"Ok...\" AITA for my sister trading my taquito for one I didn't like?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t5xU2jVvzoqd51FRwpdcbrLtWfpxK61I", "post_id": "b25wok", "action": {"description": "\"breaking up\" with her", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \"breaking up\" with her", "text": " \n\nSo about 9 months ago I met this girl on Tinder. We chatted a while, then agreed to go out for a coffee, the date went quite well.\n\nAfter our 2nd date she told me that she does not think that she can get home anymore as we stayed quite late and her home was quite far, i did offer to call her a cab and pay for it, however she suggested she spend the night at my place. of course i jumped on the opportunity and she was also quite aware of my intentions. Needless to say we get back to my place, do the deed etc.\n\nNow the following morning as I am taking her to her place i realize that we should probably have a talk to see where we stand (mind you at this time i was fairly convinced i did not want a relationship and was mostly looking for a fwb), after talking on this matter for a bit she told me that she has a huge crush on a friend of hers and is not considering dating anyone except him, at this point she is the one that suggest the fwb arrangement. Perfect right?\n\nAnd about 6 months pass with her crashing at my place every Friday night, all the while i got that feeling that she was getting more and more attached to me, but almost every time she kept talking about this other guy he liked and she also had an ex of hers over at her place for a week (she admitted sleeping with him a few times during this period). But still one night when she seemed way happier that usual i decided to ask her if she is starting to have feeling for me, she said \"No\".\n\nThe reason I wanted to know if she started to have feeling for me was that i was getting very tired due to having more and more responsibilities at work and even having to do overtime, as such spending every Friday with her, while enjoyable , was starting to wear me down.\n\nThe next 3 Fridays i had to call off our \"date\" night as I was swamped with work and i genuinely felt bad for constantly bailing on her and so i decided that it's better to just end our fwb arrangement, worth noting is that this hectic period would last for at least a few more months.\n\nNow this part I will admit i was a dumb shit, I call her and tell her that I met a new girl at work that I am attracted to and in order to pursue her i believe we should stop seeing each other (the reason I did this is that i had a strong hunch that if i did not say something around this line she would've said something around the lines of \"we'll make it work\").\n\nAt first she seemed to be ok.\n\nNow a few days pass since I 'broke' up with her and she messages me \"that was a really shitty way to break up with your girlfriend and that I am a jerk for toying with her feelings\" , apparently she somehow thought we were in a relationship not a fwb type deal, note that in the past she referred to us as fwb, she constantly reminded me of the guy she likes so i never tried to think of her as my girlfriend due to this.\n\nPS: English is not my native language so there might some some mistakes here and there.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RHezSnIom1igT6VPWpFS7UnzrSBmkqNT", "post_id": "b55iul", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Banned for Breaking Non-existent Rule", "text": "Link: https://imgur.com/a/qgzJb3S\n\nMod deleted a comment and someone asked what the comment said. I posted a link to removeddit so they could see. This was not against the rules (it is now) and I received no warning about not doing that. When I brought it to their attention, they then accused me of back-seat modding. I have no idea what that entails, they give no information about what's considered back-seat modding and the only time I've seen it was when one Redditor told another they couldn't post in that sub because it didn't fit the rules and they were called out for back-seat modding. This isn't the first they've banned people for breaking non-existent rules and have claimed that they've removed those mods. I know that the mods don't *have* to warn you, but banning someone for breaking a non-existent rule and then changing the reason why they were banned just screams power trip. I've also been banned from contacting the mods. Who's the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gLX5eIFqIgQMtiKHoxhEqPlVSm32P6UD", "post_id": "aik5sf", "action": null, "title": "AITA am I a spoiled brat or something else", "text": "I am posting on behalf of my brother, there was this music thing in our school and my dad wanted my bro to play the bass. My bro didn't want to but he got forced into it anyway. He kind of enjoyed so he promised my mum that he will keep playing it if we buy him a bass guitar. So we got him a 800 dollar bass guitar then later on he stopped playing and lost interest. Keep in mind the lessons cost 2 thousand and we bought him other stuff for it. Then for some reason he wanted a switch and my idiot parents bought him one and he lied to them that he will play the bass. Also we bought him a wii u literally 2 months ago. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uPBiTRX0KNv9ZCzTzu80QIQFzJwtbfGP", "post_id": "adnjal", "action": {"description": "asking a question on personal finance that revealed my salary", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for asking a question on personal finance that revealed my salary?", "text": "I recently asked a question on personal finance that revealed my age and income and now all these jealous losers are sending me hate mail!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "w3zXALqWhKVmQ9ezzWogedCeGqxbM5sR", "post_id": "a5dlr7", "action": {"description": "not wanting to make my lunch into everyone's dinner", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to make my lunch into everyone\u2019s dinner?", "text": "To start off, it is finals season and I had two major exams yesterday. I haven\u2019t had any time of relax lately because of final projects, papers and presentations all adding up for the last couple of weeks. \n\nThis morning I woke up feeling run down and mentally exhausted. I let my mom know how I\u2019m feeling. Some guy comes to fix something in the house and my dogs go nuts every time someone comes over, so I had to try and keep them quiet so my mom could talk to him. This wastes my entire morning because I couldn\u2019t leave the room to go shower or eat without my dogs destroying the door. \n\nFinally, when the guy leaves I\u2019m able to go to the kitchen to make food. I\u2019m on a diet so I weigh out all my stuff and get it cooking. Then my mom asks me to triple it and make it for dinner. I tell her that everything is already half way cooked and I don\u2019t have the energy to make it again for everyone plus a separate dinner for myself because I don\u2019t want to eat the same thing, so I offered to make something simpler for dinner.\n\nShe said it\u2019s not fair I get a nice lunch and they don\u2019t get to eat that too. I said they have the option to, I just don\u2019t wanna make it for them. This blows up and I get frustrated and start crying. \n\nLater on my mom keeps talking to my dogs telling them not to be scared of me and I ask why they would be scared and she says because  I\u2019m being an incredibly negative person. This was hours after the incident and I was minding my own business in my room the rest of the day. \n\nThen when my family guys home, I heard her talking to them saying just because I feel bad doesn\u2019t mean I can be cruel and abusive. \n\nSo was that cruel, AITA? I feel like I didn\u2019t even really do anything. \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6y2WPK5yuKKqUi0i3LxhJoAyCRNaxn1z", "post_id": "aumhy0", "action": {"description": "being jealous of a video game character", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for being jealous of a video game character?", "text": "My girlfriend (26F) and I (26M) love together. She's always been a fan of the Resident Evil series, so she's been playing the Resident Evil 2 remake a ton since it came out. That's fine, god knows I have done gaming binges when something I was really excited about came out.\n\nBut it seems like she is not just excited about the game, but really *really* excited about the character Leon. She is seriously fawning over him, telling me about how when she played the original game as a kid she instantly fell in love with him, and how the other RE games he has been in are her favorite. She had her friend over to play the game with her and the whole time it was just \"Oh my goooooood look at him! So cute! Cinnamon bun! Look at him in this outfit! Oh he is so sweet!\" She has even been reading raunchy fanfiction of him.\n\nIt feels petty but I'm kind of annoyed. Like it would not be okay for her to openly fawn over another dude in any other situation, but it's only okay because he's fictional? And I know I don't need to compete with this fictional character or anything, that's not the issue, it just annoys me to have it rubbed in my face and it seems obsessive.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "efXHhmcmyOgEzMMERq2sjUFkjY7BmFKQ", "post_id": "ay5q0y", "action": {"description": "calling out a guy for stolen designs", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling out a guy for stolen designs", "text": "This is my first post on AITA, so I hope I can better understand how it works.\n\n​\n\nSo I like making little things out of scrap, or very little amount of wood. This is sometimes a cheese shaped knife holder, maybe a toy car, but I will always make some sort of pattern for more detailed designs.\n\nOne day I worked on stuff in shop class, but I find that most of my patterns were gone. The shop teacher didn't let anyone out until the patterns were found. He gave up when lunch started. I had to remake the patterns.\n\nOne day, I decided to sell a few projects on Facebook, but I found the exact same designs on there. I did find the guy, and I personally talked to him about taking down the ad or giving me a cut of the money because he stole my patterns. He admitted to stealing them, but won't be giving them back, won't be giving me a cut, and won't be taking down the post.\n\nI told my shop teacher, but I'm apparently an asshole for actually looking at the guy's Facebook profile, hunting him down, and asking for money or the removal of the ad.\n\n​\n\nAm I The Asshole for calling out the guy who stole and sold my patterns, and requesting cash or the removal of the ad?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bOZtUjrgC4sWjWLbcrxi6EjX3qN4owQ8", "post_id": "b1olqh", "action": {"description": "not letting my Girlfriend pop pimples", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Letting My Girlfriend Pop Pimples", "text": "Some background - my GF (23F) and I (26M) have been together for almost five years, had our ups and downs but have been really happy lately and marriage is becoming a thing that we both know we want.\n\n​\n\nShe's always been one to want to pop any pimples or zits (as well as pull any stray \"thick\" hairs I might have) I had on my face, chest, back, etc. I have always disliked it and never liked when she did it because A) it usually makes it looks worse, B) takes longer to go away, and C) its painful and irritates me and makes me angry.\n\n​\n\nAll this time I have dealt with it because I love her and she enjoys it and finds it \"satisfying\", despite how much I really don't like it and wish she wouldn't pop them. It is even sometimes to where after we have sex, she'll come back and say stuff like \"I felt a ripe one on your back let me get it!\"  So even though I dislike it and she knows I don't like it, I have let her do it all this time because it was just one pimple or zit here and there.\n\n​\n\nNow over the past few weeks things have changed. I've started taking a new medication that is causing pretty bad breakouts on my back and shoulders. At first I was letting her pop some of the pimples but the breakouts got to a point where they are getting to where I am bothered by how bad they are and am trying different things to lessen the severity of them.\n\n​\n\nNow that I am trying to get these breakouts under control I've decided that I don't want her to pop them any longer. Not to punish her, (which she says it feels like I am doing) but because I really don't think her popping them all is doing me any good. It's my body I should get to decide whether or not she can pop them and if I want to deal with the pain and discomfort that comes with the popping.\n\n​\n\nShe acts as if I am taking something away from her. It is a compulsive, almost OCD type thing with her where she REALLY wants to pop all of the pimples on my back and when I tell her no, for the aforementioned reasons, she gets offended and angry and pissed off at me. We ended up getting in a huge fight over this all because I told her I didn't want her to pop my pimples anymore. She claims that all relationships have sacrifices and this is something I should sacrifice for her because she enjoys it. She says it isn't her fault that I am breaking out, but it is because of my medicine, which is true. But I still don't think popping them and leaving red scabs on the top of every pimple/zit/blackhead that appears is making it any better.\n\n​\n\nI understand it is a compulsion for her and I used to let her do it, but I am at the point where I really don't want to put up with it anymore and am putting my foot down. \n\n​\n\nTLDR: AITA for telling my GF that I don't want her to pop my pimples anymore, even though it was something I used to let her do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YxaAD9iYGBir7EwWQMcA7OIxeiJNQiu9", "post_id": "a2eigg", "action": {"description": "cutting off all my contact with my ex even though I told her I would still be her \"best friend\"", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA For cutting off all my contact with my ex even though I told her I would still be her \u201cbest friend\u201d?", "text": "A little bit on context for this. My ex and I had dated for 2 and a half years, and for the half we were engaged. \n\nAround the beginning of August we discussed have an open (polyamorous) relationship, which I agreed to a certain extent. I only wanted us to go on dates with other people and nothing outside of that (sexual) for the time being. We both ended up going on a couple dates with friends we had and she asked if she could use tinder for it. I reiterated that it be purely for just dates and nothing sexual. \n\nA few days after she made her profile, she had set up a date with this guy and he came over to our apartment to watch some t.v. while I went out and did our laundry. Usually doing all of our laundry takes about 4~ hours to complete, but we had a super light load and it ended up only taking a little under 2.\n\nI headed back and somewhat to my surprise I walk into our place and she had her shirt was off and it was obvious they were making out and possibly doing something more sexual (not full on but leading up to it). I stormed out in a huge fit of rage, and took a drive to calm down. \n\nWhen I returned, I talked with my fianc\u00e9 and said that it was excepted something like this would happen with an open relationship and that I wasn\u2019t mad at her. \n\nThen a couple weeks after that she broke up with me for \u201csomewhat unrelated\u201d reasons. After a solid month of thinking I promised her that I would still talk to her regularly and not ghost her. \n\nShe ended up moving back in with her parents (who live around 1000 miles away in a completely different state) and we talked a few times every week just to keep up with each other\u2019s lives. \n\nBut a couple days ago I decided it was exhausting to keep in contact with her and completely blocked her number, and have avoided any contact whatsoever. Does this make me an asshole even though I promised to stay best friends with her?\n\nTL;DR I forgave my Fianc\u00e9 for somewhat cheating on me. She broke up with me. I promised to stay good friends with her. I blocked her number and won\u2019t accept any contact with her now", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Wc7Sj4kTHMfWyOuBrqo3jffVzaqOJ8u9", "post_id": "b9p706", "action": {"description": "avoiding conversations with my co-worker", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for avoiding conversations with my co-worker.", "text": "I have a coworker who has very poor social awareness. He's 23, but it seems like he's mentally much younger than that. Any time he gets involved in a conversation, he brings up details that are completely unrelated to what the conversation is about and also way too personal. Some examples; his sexual fetishes, his ex-wife's poor hygiene/grooming habits, abusive things his ex has said to him/his daughter, details about the custody battle he is currently going through, vaguely racist comments, racist/perverted/inappropriate things his ex has said, how he thinks he should \"try being gay\", how his daughter is the only thing keeping him from giving up, etc. The custody battle is pretty sad and it sounds like him and his wife are both being extremely petty, but it also seems like he really cares about his daughter. I end up working with him in a 1 on 1 setting pretty often and I've gotten to a point where I don't even respond to what he says and I just let him talk.  I don't know how to respond to most of the things he says. A few of us have talked to him about how he gets too personal and that he should go to a counselor if he needs to talk about what's going on, but I don't think he understood that we were being serious. \n\nSomeone told me that he probably just needs to vent and I shouldn't ignore him when I was talking about how I've been responding lately. I think that I have listened to him/tried to communicate, it's not appropriate for him to act how he does, and if I respond positively I will be enabling him. Am I an asshole for ignoring what he says?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sEIVlLf58vOPdMkMQGIRUjQzbfKLBv7u", "post_id": "aitnm3", "action": null, "title": "AITA with this girl?", "text": "Look there's this girl that I really find attractive and cute.\nShe constantly upload this questions to her insta story's like \"I like you\" vs \"I know someone who likes you\" so i always answer with i like you and stuff, you know to make her know that I like her and find her attractive, the thing is I bearly know her.\n\nSo after I answer one of this questions she messages me, like \"hellooooo\", so we start talking , but she just doesn't want to talk??.\nLike she doesnt bring up a new topic to talk about, or asks me something about me or anything, it looks like ik interrogating her.\n\nI tell her,\nMe: how was your day \nHer: okay \nMe: I'm glad that it was okay, I'm really happy about something\nHer: good\n\nAnd I'm like, hold on, this whole operation was your idea.\nIf you're gonna be this cold, why did you bother texting me. Like If you dont want to know me, dont text me.\n\nAm I the asshole here?? What should I do.\nTL;DR:this girl texts me and then answers very cold in everyway .\n\nThanks for reading, have a nice day :D.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jOMZgrjsmaRHnHhElAIEQRMPmqhY1hPJ", "post_id": "9v87n4", "action": {"description": "hitting a man back when I thought he hit me", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA Hitting a man back when I thought he hit me", "text": "A few years ago I was drunkenly walking through a busy, affluent town with a friend. We both had an excessive amount of liquor to drink. We drank a lot at his place, and around 1-1:30am, walked the 10minute walk to town to see the scene at the local bars and check em out and drink a lil bit more. It was a fun night overall up til this point. We were shooting the shit and enjoying each other's company, enjoying intellectual conversation as well as pretty silly dumb conversation. The drunken walk there was front-loaded with lots of walking, then we entered the busier, partier, college-partier side of town...\n\n​\n\nBasically all I remember was as we approached one of the livelier bars, there was a group of three guys exiting. So here's what I remember happening: one of the guys closest to me punches me in the face... it wasn't hard, but enough for me to be shook up and react. So, he keeps walking on with his buds. I basically look back and decide: should I retaliate or should I ignore? I retaliate. I go up to him, throw him to the ground (he was bigger than me for sure) and I basically stomp on his face with my foot three times and there's blood. His friend comes up and says \"why are you hitting my friend?!\" I reply \"he hit me first!!\" and then I realize that I'm in the middle of the street and I'm pretty much bloodying this guy up and he is unable to defend himself and was probably just a drunk dumbass and I feel vulnerable so I leave immediately. I notice cops rolled up and there's a commotion, but I'm out of there pretty soon after.\n\n​\n\nLooking back, I can't tell if the guy actually meant to smack me in the face with a closed fist, or whether he inadvertently smacked me. I felt my reaction was definitely strong compared to what I was dealt, however I did feel the desire to \"not let him get away with it\" so that's why I reacted. The guy was bigger than me and I felt like he could pick on others if he got away with it. Looking back, reflecting more... it could have all been a misunderstanding...\n\n​\n\nWhen I tell this story to friends the reaction is usually hugely negative against me. Mind you, most of my friends are hippie dippy types who believe in all sorts of moral superiority and I don't know if they represent the population accurately.\n\n​\n\nSo I come to you, AITA... obviously this wasn't a good situation, and I'm perplexed, why do many people think IATA in this situation when I tell the story... Based on my post, do you think IATA? I've been called a psychopath for this story... is this justified? Thanks.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "K27ZMhISRPthJYgJhEavaHX7aIpQH0OA", "post_id": "aanj79", "action": {"description": "not thanking my wife for making a mess and throwing out my stuff", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not thanking my wife for making a mess and throwing out my stuff?", "text": "\nI have been married for 20+ years. \n\nMy wife has a way of \"cleaning\" that consists of taking good things out of the room being cleaned, putting them in trash bags, boxes, or other containers, and piling things outside the room being \"cleaned.\"\n\nShe will leave cleaning supplies, used paper towels, vacuum, brooms, etc. out in the hall, where it will stay until I get upset and put it away. \n\nI'm the meantime, she will throw away the trash bags that contain the good items, and leave the bags with legitimate trash out in the hall.\n\nThe result is, good items being thrown away, other items lost or difficult to find, and everywhere else but the \"clean\" room is a mess.\n\nI've asked her not to touch my stuff, because she always loses things. One time she threw out a bag of six wireless surveillance cameras and accessories. Another time she through out a rare book of mine that was on a bookshelf and that I had saved for over 35 years because \"it was old.\" \n\nLast week I came home and she surprised me by \"cleaning\" my office. She took out my bookcases, laser printer, mailing scale, and other stuff that I had set up. She put everything in my daughter's room (she's at college) and in the hallway. It's all in boxes, bags, bins, or just on the floor. \n\nI thanked her for the thought, but asked her again not to do this. Last night it came up again, because she expects me to thank her for doing it, and because she \"cleaned\" the kitchen by spreading everything all over the dining room. I got angry and told her not to touch my stuff. \n\nSo today, she \"fixed it\" and piled everything back into my office, leaving a huge mess.\n\nAITA?\n\ntldr; My wife won't leave my stuff alone, and wants me to be happy when she makes a mess. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gvBC7w4lQaLlOP39Gm0vSIACdGxQ6Dur", "post_id": "b7f7r1", "action": {"description": "telling a friend to either do something or quit whining", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend to either do something or quit whining?", "text": "About a week ago, three of us are hanging out having lunch. A non-profit in town blurbs up on the TV that basically collects money to help people fix up their houses if there's a fire/flooding/whatever. \n\nFriend A: \"If I ever won the lotto I'd want to set up something like that.\" \n\nMe: \"Well, there are a lot of places like that that that kind of stuff. I'm sure you can donate or volunteer or something.\"\n\nFriend B being sarcastic: \"Oh you don't say! I never knew that.\"\n\nMe not picking up the sarcasm: \"Of course! I volunteer with Habitat for Humanity about once a month. You should come along.\"\n\nFriend A: \"Um...well...um...I mean...\"\n\nFriend B: \"He was just saying he'd want to if he came into money, why are you being a dick?\"\n\nFriend A: \"Yeah! I don't have free time and I'm on a tight budget\" \\*insert more reasoning here.\"\n\nMe finally realizing what's happening: \"Dude, you work 40 hours a week, have no kids, no SO, no other responsibilities. All you do is bitch about how awful everything is but don't ever do shit about it. Just say you either don't really want to do anything or that you'll only do something if it doesn't inconvenience you.\"\n\nWe start arguing, go our separate ways , everyone's grumbly.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "R9NtRljGFZlXHTxdYMZ141g9zTCT0czI", "post_id": "a8v40m", "action": {"description": "not wanting to tidy my house because I work full time", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to tidy my house because I work full time ?", "text": "I work full time and my wife is stay at home mom. Our son stays at grandparents for like 1 week each month l. I work a full time job and sometimes 7 days a week. My wife stays at home and looks after him when he's there but doesn't really do much housework.\n\nI refuse to do it because as it stands, it's such a big task when it's not done regularly. I personally think she's responsible for all of that. And I'm responsible for working. \n\nAm I the asshole ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 6}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "30MD1fhoscQeSkiSt19Jmdv8cARYio3J", "post_id": "9x1ul6", "action": {"description": "taking a trip to Peru, leaving wife and 3 kids at home", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 27}, "title": "WIBTA if I took a trip to Peru, leaving wife and 3 kids at home?", "text": "\nI realize that the title of this seems pretty straightforward that I would be the asshole and maybe I am but I am hoping to see what some of you think given the situation below. \n\nI have 3 boys ages 4,4, and 1 and they are central in my life along with my wife. For example in the last year I went golfing 4 times with friends of mine and I went to a couple bon fires for drinks on two occasions and that is the extent of leisure time away from my wife and kids. I'm not that guy that is more concerned with my social life outside of my family. I do everything I can to worry about them first and I just try to be as selfless as possible. With that said, I feel myself failing in other ways which ultimately makes me nervous that I will fail in the examples that I want my kids to see. I am generally lazy for the most part. I mean, I keep my lawn cut and tidy but I don\u2019t have a lot of ambition to do much else. Like putting up Christmas lights is a big ask for me for example or finishing a room in our basement you can just forget about that. I am out of shape and gaining weight as the stress of parenting picks up. \n\nAnyway, I want to be a better person and I want to change my life so that I am a better husband and father. That is where this Peru trip comes in. My cousin asked me if I would be interested in traveling to Peru and seeing Machu Picchu. That place is in the top 10 places I would like to see before I die but my wife simply has no interest in going there. So, I asked her and she laughed at me at first until she realized I was serious and then she got mad. She views it as a vacation and I view it more like a starting point on my journey to be a better person. After all, I would have to get into better shape in order to climb up the mountain to see it so it would take months of exercise for me to get to that point. Not to mention, I don\u2019t really have any friends that I do anything with and I see a trip like that as a healthy thing. Money really isn\u2019t much of an issue. \n\nOn top of that all, I think I am depressed which doesn\u2019t really make sense because I have 3 amazing kids and an amazing wife but It just feels like I am in a rut. I know it sounds crazy that the way I am wanting to fix that is flying off to Peru to climb in the mountains but the chance presented itself and generally speaking the mantra I live by is that things happen for a reason. The more I think about a trip like this the more I think it could be a really good thing for not just me but my kids and wife as well. Almost like a therapeutic journey. I want to be an example for my kids to look up to and revere and I want my wife to be proud that she is married to me. Currently, I am not so sure I am totally succeeding in that goal.  \n\nSo WIBTA if I took a trip like this in an attempt to change my life for the betterment of my family? Would it change if the trip was to somewhere much closer by? Or Is just taking a trip like that period too selfish of a thing to do and I should look for other ways to better myself instead of leaving my poor wife for a week with three kids to take care of?\n\nThanks everyone!\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 27, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 27}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "x8DO6hPjavleceJZZxYbYZaXH5QZofZZ", "post_id": "ap1cy0", "action": {"description": "wanting my parents to leave my aunt (40s) and her 3 kids (5, 8, and 17) behind", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting my parents to leave my aunt (40s) and her 3 kids (5, 8, and 17) behind?", "text": "My aunt and her kids moved in with my family 5 years ago because my aunt dug herself into a hole for the entirety of her adult life. She had 3 kids from 3 different men, but she has never had the financial means to support them.  \n  \nAunt has been in college since she moved in and now has a STEM degree. She was offered a full-time job exiting college. She makes average money, but there is a lot of upward mobility in her job (think: reaching a salary of $100k+ by her retirement). It\u2019s enough to live on, but it\u2019s not a comfortable income like my parents have supported her with.  \n  \nI\u2019m also in college, graduating in 4 months, and entering a grad program in August. Parents told me 7 months ago that they can\u2019t support my expenses anymore. I picked up a job on top of my schooling and started paying my own rent and daily expenses (so about 70% independent). They covered family plans that aren\u2019t easily divvied up per person (think: family insurance plan).  \n  \nAunt, her 3 kids, parents, and my brother live in the same rented house. Parents prepaid their rent up until this August. I live in my college town. Dad mentioned plans to move (just parents and brother) closer to me so I could move in and consolidate expenses. He was hoping to give aunt time to live in their current house for a few months rent-free to give her time to figure out how to support herself independently.  \n  \nParents and brother are being driven crazy by aunt and her kids, as they have no consideration for others and the kids have not been taught the word \u201cno\u201d. Dad was diagnosed with depression, brother is showing serious signs of it. I was very happy to hear that they were moving out, especially because I\u2019m entering grad school and I won\u2019t have any time to work. This means I need a place to stay rent-free, otherwise my parents will have to foot the bill for my rent, which they said they can\u2019t do.  \n  \nNow, parents are saying that aunt can\u2019t live on her own with her salary. They\u2019re saying if they left, they would have to keep supporting her anyway. I did some crude calculations, wildly overestimating expenses (think: spending $500 a *month* on car insurance, spending $1000 a month on food groceries, etc.) and underestimating her paychecks. With this, her income is almost enough to cover everything, but she obviously wouldn\u2019t be able to save money. I told parents that if she spent money like a normal person (aka, with a budget) she would totally be able to afford it while also putting money in savings.  \n  \nParents won\u2019t listen to me, saying that she doesn\u2019t earn a livable wage. I firmly disagree, I just think they\u2019ve been accustomed to an easy lifestyle where they can afford what they want. I overestimated expenses in my calculations because they resemble my family\u2019s current level of expenses now. They spend hundreds of dollars a week on groceries, they eat fast food/delivery multiple times a week, etc.  \n  \nI\u2019m pissed because my family is suffering both mentally and financially, and parents care more about fixing my aunt\u2019s mistakes than helping me get my education. I want them to just let my aunt figure it out on her own now. They helped her for over 5 years, she has her degree, and she has a place to live for free for another 6 months.  \n  \n*TLDR: My aunt has messed up her life and my parents have been supporting her and her kids for 5 years while she fixes it. My immediate family\u2019s wellbeing is now being left on the back burner while we support her indefinitely on an \u201cunlivable\u201d (re: totally livable) wage.*  \n  \n**AITA for wanting them to move up with me and let aunt stay there with her \u201cunlivable\u201d wage?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HJVaBmVDXgkD7F2cPvKVOJj62vR6mnaX", "post_id": "avx940", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend that his best friend is a creep", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend that his best friend is a creep?", "text": "Recently in a local women's Facebook group I'm in some screenshots of a conversation between a girl in the group and my boyfriend's best friend where posted. The screenshots showed they were having a casual conversation and then he came of really strong and started to insult her when she said he was making her uncomfortable. In the comments multiple other women said they'd had the same experience with him. \n\nMy boyfriend and I have been dating a little over two years, we hang out with his best friend regularly, and I have never seen him act in any way disrespectful towards a woman. I was shocked and disgusted by the screenshots and showed them to my boyfriend asking if he knew his best friend was acting this way. He said he had no idea and became very upset reading over the screenshots. \n\nOver the last few days he has been very cold towards me. When I asked him what was up he said that he resented me for ruining his friendship with his best friend by showing him the screenshots. He says that he doesn't want to know how his friends are being shitty and wished that I had never shown him the screenshots. He's asked for me to give him a week to \"think about our relationship\".\n\nI am so confused, am I the asshole for tainting the idea he had of his best friend by showing him those screenshots? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CSoQ1KUCDIqjNzVi9JISxhIVHHWSgJLX", "post_id": "b7ddja", "action": {"description": "allowing the girls on my hs track team (I'm the new head coach) wear bikini tops and cut off shorts for a fund raising car wash", "pronormative_score": 672, "contranormative_score": 332}, "title": "AITA for allowing the girls on my HS track team (I\u2019m the new head coach) wear bikini tops and cut off shorts for a fund raising car wash?;", "text": "This is very fresh, posting from my phone and a throwaway because I\u2019m honestly nervous about how big this is going to get. I just got an email from the assistant superintendent of the entire district that I have to be in his office Monday morning and I\u2019m scared shitless. \n\nBasically I just graduated college and got my teaching certificate last year. The school heeded a track coach of the program would fold so I volunteered even though district guidelines (not rules) specify that a certain number of years is required before taking a head coach position but the principal waived this. We have some very talented girls and I enjoy it. \n\nWe were scheduled to do a car wash fund raiser this morning. On Monday one of the girls asked me if they could wear bikini tops and cut off shorts. They argued it was for thier comfort since it\u2019s about 80 here today. I was a little nervous but agreed. Apparently word got out on social media and we had a line of cars 30 minutes before we even started. I\u2019m so naive I thought initially people were just being charitable but when I saw boys from surrounding schools I knew somthing was up. And it wasn\u2019t long before older men started taking notice and we had a line where it was taking an hour to get a car washed. The girls themselves loved it, they all had fun, nothing bad happened (thank god) and all are proud of themselves for how much we made. \n\nParents are furious with me and obviously it\u2019s gone up the chain. I\u2019m hoping to god I can chalk this up to my inexperience and I\u2019m not fired buf when I had a 6\u20194\u201d dad screaming in my face that he\u2019s going to get my fired...I\u2019m scared. \n\nAm I the asshole for allowing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 287, "OTHER": 593, "EVERYBODY": 45, "NOBODY": 79, "INFO": 20}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 672, "WRONG": 332}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nrXzYSpW3wA9UhiQwKdWoxJguLmyV3tH", "post_id": "asvklm", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to come to a party with me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to come to a party with me?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year and have never had any issues throughout our relationship. But it\u2019s just every time we go to any party (which btw where I live rarely happens)  I feel like she\u2019s usually only there to try and babysit me to make sure I\u2019m not cheating on her or something, she\u2019s quite insecure but I let her know how much I love her everyday and I really wouldn\u2019t do anything to ruin what we have going, I just want to have some fun without having my girlfriend follow me around pissed off because I\u2019m not paying %100 attention to her at all times feeling like I have to entertain her and go by her schedule. So reddit, am I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QUr0NMeZzsSce4JJLOlhcBSu8j1YBnll", "post_id": "b7808n", "action": {"description": "being upset that my girlfriend got to go to a concert", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my girlfriend got to go to a concert?", "text": "I'm in an LDR, my girlfriend currently lives in london for uni. A band I listen to recently performed there, and she got free tickets there. I'm really happy that she got to go, cause the atmosphere's amazing, and she's started to listen to them because of me. \n\nThe thing is, I started feeling upset that I didn't get to go, cause I'm in a place which rarely sees artists perform. I'm not jealous in any way, just sad that I won't be able to experience it. \n\nI feel like such a shitty person for feeling that way, and I feel like I shouldn't have told her about how I felt, but she says it's fine. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "38NUGxdAOxur9KxTJHPYTakuB5jQVBdj", "post_id": "aqptet", "action": {"description": "distancing myself from my father", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA Distancing myself from my father", "text": "This one's kinda hard to write about, but after writing literal walls of text, I'm gonna go with the KISS approach. \n\n\nMy father is a functioning alcoholic, he has abused both my brother and I emotionally on many occasions, and on a few has gotten physical. All of this started after his brother (my uncle) had been murdered, and my mother divorced him. \n\n\nWe had visitation on weekends, ect ect, which is when this abuse took place. Years later, I'm in college, paying my own car insurance, working a part time job, and... Paying for his phone bill, on my credit card. This is what prompted me to cut contact with him. \nHe had promised to give me money to cover the phone bill, but was late on several occasions, and even missed payment on two months. I had been patient, asking relatively infrequently because I was concerned about being annoying about it. Naturally, nothing came of it, and I eventually became late on my credit card payments. I simply couldn't pay that much while working a part time job. \n\n\n\nEventually, I came to a point in the semester where I had to buy materials to complete a lab. While I was given several week's notice about the date, I will admit that I waited too long. I put in an order for my lab supplies on Amazon less than a week in advance, only for a day later to learn that my card had bounced because I'd hit $400 of my $500 limit thanks to the phone bill not having been paid to me for the second month in a row. I was unable to order what I needed, which meant my marks would suffer. I spent the rest of the week worried about it, and when my professor wouldn't give me an extension, I snapped. \n\n\n\nYears of pent up aggression and anger somehow surfaced, and the first thing I did was call him on the phone, yelling. I don't recall exactly what I said, but it wasn't pleasant. It ended in being told that he didn't want to speak to me for a month, and that I should \"just cancel the fucking phone then\". \n\n\nSo I did. This happened in September, and I'm still not talking to him. However this evening he left a voice mail inviting me to go to the Bike Show near where we live. I know it's an attempt to reconcile, but I'm unsure of how to proceed. It's extremely nerve racking for me, and it's left me doubting myself if I've even done the right thing at all. I've cut off contact over more than just the phone bill, but I'm worried that's all he sees.\n\n\n\nI'm willing to explain more about my history with him if it'll help explain things, if my quick explanation isn't enough", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ckXcBw1NBtVJdFs4ZA5agkMGte2574Fq", "post_id": "akf6ng", "action": null, "title": "AITA Cruise ship edition", "text": "WIBTA\n\nOk, this happened a few months ago. I was on a cruise and wanted to go to the game room and play battlefront 2 campaign. I sit there playing for about an hour, and these kids come over. This kid asked if he could play nba2k18. I say it\u2019s the same as 2k17 so why not play that? He proceeds to explain a little bit but he basically said \u201cIt\u2019s new so it\u2019s better\u201d. I say  \u201cTell you what, when I finish, which is about 15 minutes away, I will let you check/play. He brings his friends over and wait for 5 minutes, then his friend asks if he can play, I say sure, what could the harm be? I let him play and he started messing with the controls. I let it slide for a while, and then he turned off the ps4. I was starting to get a little peeved, but I let it slide again. I turn it back and and he uses the controller to delete battlefront two. I was really mad about it, so I reinstalled it and stayed in the chair, staring at the kid the entire time.  For the next 15 minutes.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n5xEvNSXKWhVi6UhjUxdg6YjaQFvVBzl", "post_id": "9vy1re", "action": {"description": "giving up on a player and essentially getting burnt out from d&d", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving up on a player and essentially getting burnt out from d&d?", "text": "I\u2019m a DM (dungeonmaster) I\u2019ve been running my game for a few months and I have three players, my friends and my partner. \nEvery so often we have a player or two not being able to make it and that\u2019s okay. Just means we can\u2019t play that session because I\u2019m scared of my game being too difficult for two players. \nIt\u2019s been a month since we played, mainly because one player keeps flaking. I\u2019d understand and be completely fine because, as a fellow university student, uni is a bitch. However, I also play in 3 other games with this person and he puts in the effort to go to these after telling me \u201cI can\u2019t make it because I have an assignment\u201d.\n\nI spoke to him and asked if he\u2019s still interested in playing. He said yes and that he was just busy. I suggested that we should all meet up and try and arrange a time sometime during the week. He insisted that Tuesday was the best day.\n\nThe las straw was when I had to cancel a game because he couldn\u2019t go. His reason \u201cthis assessment is hard.\u201d, swing around to the next time I see another DM of his and the dm says.\n\u201cNo he changed his mind for my game, he said he can come because the assessment wasn\u2019t as hard hard as he thought\u201d\n\nI\u2019ve grown bitter because it feels like my games aren\u2019t good enough and it\u2019s really grating on me to go to every other game. Which sucks because I know they\u2019re good DMs that also put a lot of effort in.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "inUWnU0zCFMkuJpB7DBG8GGtVBRRPXlR", "post_id": "av8kxz", "action": {"description": "expecting my friends to apologize", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for expecting my friends to apologize", "text": "(First time reddit poster here so I apologize in advance for potential awkwardness lol)\n\nNgl, validation would be nice, but I need an honest answer to clear up some confusion and hopefully fix some of my issues.  Basically, I got into a huge argument on discord with a few friends about respecting the server owner\u2019s (SO) authority.  I admitted what I did wrong and cleared the original issue up with SO.  There were a lot of other people involved who, in my opinion, really didn\u2019t need to be involved\u2014they\u2019re the ones I\u2019ve got an issue with.\n\nOne of them (M) kept calling me \u201cdisrespectful\u201d and \u201ccondescending\u201d.  (To be fair, I am those things.)  I asked if I could just talk to SO privately because me and M have a history of getting into arguments.  SO didn\u2019t want to.  M and I proceeded to fight.  She accused me of being a disrespectful asshole, which I admitted I was and apologized for.  M kept butting into my and SO\u2019s conversation to remind me of what an awful person I am.  I told her that she should admit that she\u2019s also an asshole.\n\nLater, after the issue had been cleared, I DMed SO and told him that M being there really didn\u2019t help the situation, and we could\u2019ve cleared it up easier by ourselves.  SO must\u2019ve told M about that, and M told her girlfriend (GF) everything, who proceeded to DM me and ask wtf was wrong with me.  By that point I was sick of fighting and told her to leave me alone.  She kept messaging me about how entitled, disrespectful, and condescending I was, how everyone agrees with her, and generally being a dick.  I responded in kind and told GF that M was biased, she was biased, and none of them will ever listen to my opinion because they\u2019ve already decided that I\u2019M the only asshole here.\n\nThis wasn\u2019t a great summary but from what I\u2019ve written, how much of an asshole am I and how much of an asshole are they?\n\nTL;DR I admit I\u2019m kind of a terrible person and ask my friends to admit to their flaws, which they don\u2019t.  Issue is that I don\u2019t know how many flaws are really there and how many are my imagination.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "CGd7D88qhGMEGWZ4En1gZvVmystZkzVl", "post_id": "ayb6pa", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my boyfriend of over a year almost completely out of the blue", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my (F18) boyfriend (M20) of over a year almost completely out of the blue?", "text": "I had been in a mostly happy relationship with my bf for over a year, however in the past few weeks I began to get feelings of resentment and felt overall dissatisfied with how our relationship was. He still lives at home, but the problem is more that he relies on his mum to take care of his every need. He is incredibly messy and will leave his room to get horrible until his mum inevitably cleans it for him. I need to move to a new city next year for university and recently it truly hit me that I did not want to live with him if he could not look after himself. Not only that, but I want to move earlier than planned (something he cannot do) as I am missing my friends who have already moved. The last thing is our different values in life, I value my education and will be working crazy hard for the next 7 years to get my medical degree. He is also working towards a trade certificate but values pretty much anything else above it. He always expects me to have a tonne of free time to spend with him, but that just won\u2019t be the reality for the next part of my life.  Realising all this made me so angry at him for weeks, I would snap at every little thing he did, it was horrible and I hated myself for doing it. I knew I was being unfair acting like this towards him. And when he would ask me what\u2019s wrong I would say nothing was. Then on Monday I broke up with him, he was extremely upset and said that this had all come out the blue and I should have talked to him about these issues earlier so we could work towards fixing them. I didn\u2019t want to fix the relationship, I feel like I had already checked out and was ready to end things. Was I wrong to not give him warning that I was unhappy? In my mind it was pointless to tell him any earlier and upset him when I didn\u2019t believe the relationship could be fixed. \n\nTl;dr I broke up with my boyfriend after realising our personalities and life goals were incompatible long term. I gave him no warning that there was something wrong before the moment I broke up with him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x0zBrLRhkiNW0z4zolZyxC0C280eZvg9", "post_id": "agwi4e", "action": {"description": "quitting a job without notice and enough time for her to find my replacement because my boss didn't pay on time", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for quitting a job without notice and enough time for her to find my replacement because my boss didn't pay on time?", "text": "I work at a horse barn mucking stalls. This week my boss did not give us a paycheck and hasn't been able to give a straight answer of when I will get paid. I'm working 30 hours a week and was hired under the impression I'd be at 30 hours (she posted an ad on Facebook for 7 am to 1 pm Mon-Fri). She wants me to cut down to 20 hours a week. Even if I was getting paid on time, that is not enough hours a week to support myself. Here's where the problem occurs. She's leaving for a month to travel for horse shows. While she's gone I'll be working 6 days a week unsure of when I'll get paid again. I'm moving into a new apartment in Feb and I'm unsure if I can do that now. \n\nIf I quit, she will not have someone to take over my position while she is traveling. Does this make me an asshole leaving her with no one to care for the horses?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0GFEyuFYzdNAq6iYyMD4o9FvbB3Gw0T9", "post_id": "ap236e", "action": {"description": "not going visit my dad on his birthday", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't go visit my Dad on his birthday?", "text": "I live in a different country to my parents, and its not cheap to fly out to where they live, but I still try and visit them at least once a year or fly them out to visit me.\n\nNow recently my mom told me she is going to devorce my dad. To be honest it's not a surprise for me as he is abusive and manipulative, however recently my he messaged me asking me to fly out to see them all for his birthday.\n\nMy mom already made me aware this is happening around that time so I DO NOT want to be there when it goes down. I moved to another country for a reason. However I also don't want my dad to be alone on his birthday if he is also devorcing my mom around his time - he may be an asshole but he's still my dad right?\n\nWould I be an asshole if I decided to not even go at all?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ka3nMabaQSH2xYKKDI8CDszPppyrrYd5", "post_id": "b8q3il", "action": {"description": "not wanting to post my girlfriend on Instagram", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA because I haven\u2019t wanted to post my girlfriend on Instagram.", "text": "So before we start sorry for any formatting since I\u2019m on mobile. \n\nMe and my girlfriend have been dating for nearly 6 months and today we got into a big argument because I haven\u2019t posted a photo of us together on my main account. I haven\u2019t done so deliberately as I rarely ever post on there in general (only posted twice in the last year one was of my high school graduation almost a year ago and then a picture of me and my little brother next to a Christmas tree a few months ago). She had made a post about me on my birthday and while I thought it was sweet I didn\u2019t think it was necessary. When her birthday came around I posted on my Instagram story a birthday message for her for the world to see saying that I love her, so it\u2019s not like I\u2019ve been trying to hide the fact we\u2019re in a relationship. \n\nShe confronted me today asking why it is that I haven\u2019t posted a picture with us and I told her that I hadn\u2019t really gotten around to it since it doesn\u2019t seem like a big deal to me. I also told her that I\u2019ve never really been the type to post about my relationships all that much because I feel like my feed is about my life and any big events that occur, plus I have always believed that posting pictures dedicated to your SO come off as ingenious and in the event you break up they would have to be deleted anyways.\n\nShe then got upset and said that I\u2019m very inconsiderate and that she doesn\u2019t even want to take pictures with me anymore because \u201cwhat\u2019s the point.\u201c she also took down the post of me and her since she said \u201cit doesn\u2019t matter anyways right?\u201d I personally think she is being really childish about the whole situation and I don\u2019t get why it\u2019s such a big deal. Can someone please tell me AITA. \n\nP.S please no r/niceguys in the comments", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G5vTWD23F3FxT8WTvsmxn6IQTaBo8KUO", "post_id": "ah5e8o", "action": {"description": "refusing to help out my girlfriends brother with his debt", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For refusing to help out my girlfriends brother with his debt?", "text": "Me and my girlfriends brother generally get along very well. Ive been dating his sister for 7 months so we've seen eachother enough that i would call us friends.\n\nA little background, I am a money lender. I work with several other men who in addition to money lending with me are also involved in sports betting.\n\nOne of these men, we'll call him B, exclusively runs a sports book. Hes also not someone you want to stiff on a debt. \n\nWell my gfs brother comes to me one day and asks if I can take his football bets. I dont know anything about sports betting, I dont want to even try to learn as I dont want to step on B's toes, and I know money lending much better. I also dont want to be involved with my gfs brother financially.\n\nSo I direct him to B. I also tell him B is not someone who you should play around with. He thanks me, and thats the end of it.\n\nWelp, fast forward two months, and he is now indebted 15,000 dollars to B. 15 thousand fucking dollars. He apparently struggles with gambling which i was not aware of.\n\nFirst I am asked by my girlfriend if I could help pay the debt since I directed him to B. I refuse as im not about to pay for his mistakes. \n\nB, being B, is starting to pressure her brother to pay up. I know how B can be. I am asked by her brother to get B to lay off a bit. I really dont want to do this but I do so anyway. B is respectful to me but also says that he cant just forgive the debt. Plus he asks me why im interfering with his business when he leaves me be.\n\nThese are all valid points. Basically i made the decision to back off and let my gfs brother handle his own business. Both my gf and her brother are now upset with me, and the brother is even accussing me of conspiring to set him up by sending him to B when I knew his nature.\n\nI do offer to buy his car to give him some cash and he takes this as proof that im setting him up. AITA.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iPg6MsD6UUkvoZGe9J8Yunr2iKW4LPcI", "post_id": "afgfna", "action": {"description": "inviting additional friends to a concert that were unknown to the first friend without telling them", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for inviting additional friends to a concert that were unknown to the first friend without telling them?", "text": "So me and a friend (former friend, for other reasons, this was several years ago) planned to go to a concert. I find out that 3 of my other friends ( 3 roommates) were also planning to go. Its a packed venue, and parkings a bitch, so I offer to give my other friends a ride. 2 take me up on it, the third meets us there after work. \n\nI pick up my friend, she rides shotgun, the other two are riding in the back. \n\nShe later complains to me later that i should have asked her before inviting the others because maybe she would have invited some of her other friends. \n\nWas i being an asshole? Is that a dick move to invite others without asking first person?  We didnt have any other plans that night. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "O3vrmmqqvh7BIFOJljsvlg6mJuYj6M6f", "post_id": "b00nme", "action": {"description": "sleeping with an ex while she had a boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with an ex while she had a boyfriend", "text": "I dated this girl 2 1/2 years after high school we lived together at one point and I was heavily apart of her family, we broke up and went separate ways we both stared seeing other people and talked only when I wanted to see our dog we had bought while together (jaxon) 6 months go by and one day I ask to see jaxon because i had the day off and was going to take my roommates dog and jaxon to the dog park. She says yes just asked what I was doing with him I told her and she said she could bring her sisters dogs along too since she was off too. We go to the dog park talk about what we\u2019ve been up to then headed home when the dogs where tired. it was in the middle of the summer so she asked if I wanted a drink, I go inside to the kitchen I had spent many days in we continue to talk we get close and proceed to make out then head down stairs. I was single at the time and assumed she was too, well after we got done she said we couldn\u2019t tell anyone because she had a boyfriend. So we go a couple days without talking we text each other and end up screwing again and she broke up with her boyfriend and got back with me for another 8-10 months.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3av7K0dg2Pz3Afg1sJAOu2D6ro0ErPKQ", "post_id": "a70xhj", "action": {"description": "letting a new employee go", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for letting a new employee go?", "text": "Hi all,\n\nFor the last month, I have been training a new employee, who on her resume listed extensive work in the legal field and a stint in law school. \n\nWhen she got here, basically I had to teach her how to organize her notes and use a computer (I can\u2019t count how many times she\u2019s been locked out of her account...). Not only this, but she\u2019ll ask a question that I KNOW we\u2019ve covered and is in her notes, but when I\u2019ll tell her to check her notes, she\u2019ll just get stuck on one part of the page and it takes me having to point it out for her to get it. \n\nIt came to a head this last Friday. Our office closed early and I erroneously said on Thursday that we would leave at that time. Friday comes, I say, no, we need our boss\u2019s approval to leave. She leaves at that time anyway, which I didn\u2019t know until I looked for her and called her cell phone. She said I told her I could leave. I am positive I didn\u2019t. This is too much trouble for a new temp, so I want to let her loose. \n\nThing is, it\u2019s a week before Christmas. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FM8ifXJd6wNCXDBoGAEI9PhXoprKFM5t", "post_id": "amoeox", "action": {"description": "asking my friend to not his friend (that hates the rest of us) to a party", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my friend to not his friend (that hates the rest of us) to a party", "text": "So one of my friends is friends with this girl who is just horrible. We tried to be friends with her but she made it no secret she didn't like us.\n\nWhenever we spoke she would look disgusted at anything I said, when we would make plans we would then find that her and 2 of my friends had just done it without us and so now didn't want to go with us, and my friend has admitted she says horrible things about me to him and he just kinda ignores it.\n\nBut the thing is, she still comes with us to social events, while at these she will just talk to my friend and so he spends the entire evening only with her, completely blanking the rest of us.\n\nIn a week we are having a meal to celebrate one of my other friends birthday (this is the other one of my friends she has deemed 'worthy' of her). I asked my friend to tell her not to come because we wanted to have a nice time, without someone who hates us constantly judging us. He said no.\n\nMy other friends don't like her but aren't as bothered by this AITA for asking my friend to stop bringing her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jn8AvzR1C1JpQaCOEcXwtUGqFMRoFd30", "post_id": "b2r3nj", "action": {"description": "planning a huge breakup with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for planning a huge breakup with my girlfriend?", "text": "Okay so Im not 100% sure if this is the right place to do this but Ive seen some similar kind of stuff here so I decided to ask away, I mean who better to rant to than to people on the internet. Ill have a TL;DR at the bottom.\n\nMy friend, who I\u2019ll call Steve, set me up with a girl from one of his classes, I\u2019ll call her Sam, in January. Well Sam and I hit it off and we started dating two weeks after he hooked us up together. Later on I learned that he set us up because she had a bad breakup with a cheating ex, but I didn\u2019t mind. Steve was a good friend and I trusted him.\n\nNow going on an important little side note, at work some family friends that own some small businesses around the area asked if I had any friends that might want part time jobs, in which enters my friend \u201cAlex\u201d. He almost instantly agrees that Saturday morning (3/16) Well later on that night he texted me saying that \u201cI screwed up. Im in too deep.\u201d Thinking this was about the job interview I rushed asking \u201cdid you make me look bad\u201d (as I didn\u2019t want my reputation ruined with the family friends). A whole bunch of talking later I figure out it isn\u2019t about the job, but he still wouldn\u2019t tell me what it is. I laughed about it with Sam because she had joined the discord server I had with my friends and we all had conspiracies as to what he was \u201cin too deep\u201d for. \n\nNow here\u2019s where the story all ties together. This morning (3/18) at 12:19 a.m he said he has something to confess. My girlfriend had apparently gone off with Alex into his private messaged and started texting him, both discord and normal phone messages. He said he felt super bad about it and that he thought it was a joke at first, but as he sent me the messages Sam sent him, such as \u201cWe can just fuck without it\u201d, he said he knew it had gone too far. I assured him that I didn\u2019t blame him, but that he was right to come to me. She had even mentioned breaking up with me to be with Alex.\n\nWell this afternoon, still 3/18, I called Steve and said I had a story that would piss him off. Ensue this whole long story again, and man I was right, he was pissed. During that time we planned that I would act all cool as if I knew nothing and we would have Alex take her out, and Steve and I would be there and act all surprised and I would dump her there. To be honest its pretty hard to deal with her right now knowing what I know. She always complained about her cheating ex and thats what she\u2019s doing right now.\n\nTL;DR: After my girlfriend complained about her cheating ex shes started to become extremely flirty with a friend and talks about breaking up with me for him, and I planned a surprise breakup with my friend who set us up. \n\nAMIT for planning such an elaborate and rude break up that not only takes me and Alex away or should I just come clean, say I know, and break up with her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hCPkNiNXipcc8EhNXT7yWR55EzhMgSz0", "post_id": "aoeyvi", "action": null, "title": "AITA", "text": "This happened last summer, but it came back to my mind lately and I wanted to know your opinion on this.\n\nSo me (22M) and my girlfriend (22F) have a big group of friends in common, which is mostly girls but there are a couple of bois as well. We all hang out together (whenever we manage) and we all have fun together.\n\nSome time ago our friend in the group invited us to a house party at her place. She said it was a \"dark/leather-themed\" party so we needed to dress accordingly. Neither me or my girlfriend had any leather clothing so we had to go shopping. She suggested we go separately and just find out what we got at the party, it sounded fun so I agreed. At that time I had been hitting the gym for a little short of a year, I started showing some results and I was happy about my body (I was starting to show some noticeable muscles, so to speak). Anyways, I went shopping and I bought some cheap leather pants (I mean, I didn't think I was gonna wear them in any other occasion) and a dark sleeveless jacket to go with it. I had a black t-shirt to put under the jacket at home, so I figured I was done.\n\nSo, the night of the party comes, it was summer, it was pretty hot and my clothes really seemed heavy on me, so I decided to change the black shirt for a white undershirt to put under the jacket. I get a message from my gf that she was going out and I followed suit. I get outside of my friend's place and I see her wearing a nice dark dress and some leather boots. I told her she looked very nice, but upon seeing me her reaction wasn't as good as mine. She asked me if I thought what I was wearing was appropriate, and I said that it was, since it was a dark/leather themed party and I had leather clothings on me. She said that that's not what she meant and she stormed in. I didn't know what to make of it, so I just got in as well and started greeting all my friends. Right away I noticed that everyone was wearing something made out of leather and/or something dark, so I got even more confused about my gf's reaction. But then everyone started pointing out and complimenting my abs pressed upon my undershirt. The boys were teasing me about \"all the pussy I could get\", and some girls were just plain feeling my chest and abs. I didn't think the touching was appropriate, so I just laughed and stepped back so not to make it too awkward. \n\nI realized at that moment that the undershirt might have been the reason for my girlfriend to be upset. So I went to her and got her aside to apologize for the undershirt and to explain to her that I wasn't trying to pull any stunt but it was simply because it was summer and the leather was already making me hot so I needed something lighter under the jacket. She snarkly replied with \"well, if you think it's appropriate then it's not a problem\". I apologized again for making her feel this way and asked her if she wanted me to go home and change, she then called me an inconsiderate asshole for going to this party \"basically topless\" and that I should go for her friends instead of keep making her uncomfortable. She got out of the party, I tried reasoning with her but she wasn't gonna talk to me and went straight home. I apologized to everyone and went home as well (it didn't seem right at that point to just stay).\n\nIn my defense, I could have just chosen the black shirt and just suffered the heat for a couple of hours, but I didn't expect that that was gonna be her reaction. And I wasn't even thinking anything weird when I chose the undershirt, I was thinking about the heat! AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l6jSvKif9oratFDuYq0c6yJb8U8mViG0", "post_id": "alvarf", "action": {"description": "calling someone out while they're \"grieving\"", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling someone out while they're \"grieving\"?", "text": "I (23F) was in a circle of friends at school.  A beloved staff member died yesterday, and a lot of students were very close to him.  There's a girl (26F) who is generally an asshole, but was very close with this person.  Someone mentioned not going to work this afternoon to take time to rest, and she very nonchalantly said \"Yeah, just pull the dead friend card, lol\".  I said, \"Wow, kind of harsh, but okay.\"  She made a shocked face, since no one really calls her out on anything here, but no one said anything.  I guess I don't want to police this girl's grieving, but I think she's just being an edge-lord, and I know some people cope through humor, but I felt this comment was inappropriate and flippant.  The other students in the circle seemed uncomfortable at her words, as they were very close with this person as well and treated them with a TON of respect.  This is not the first \"off\" thing I've heard her say about this person since we got the news.  AITA?\n\nTL;DR: Girl made a joke about a very important person in our community dying, and I said it was weird. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RhGW519AxgVrgOTmlT52YaWtfT0f7JA4", "post_id": "a6xag5", "action": {"description": "telling my mom she can't babysit my child anymore", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom she can't babysit my child anymore?", "text": "I got into a really heavy argument with my mom a few days ago because she told me that she is trying to work out her relationship with a man who assaulted her a few months ago. She has been dating him for 4 years now and he has proven himself (at least to me and my brother, but not so much to my mom) to be a complete garbage fire of a human being. I ended up telling her that if she pursues a relationship with him then I am not comfortable leaving my daughter (3) with her. She argued back that she could arrange with him that he's not allowed to come around when he is babysitting, but given his past behavior I told her that I can't trust that. She basically made me feel like I'm taking her granddaughter away from her because I don't like her boyfriend. I resent her for putting me in this position. \n\nI could go into lengthy detail about their relationship history to illustrate how wretched he is but I'll spare you that, at least for now. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HKwFapYDBEL6b8kcFod9zpCC7F13MNk2", "post_id": "axmmjr", "action": {"description": "taking a hard stand against letting my fiance's mother come to our wedding", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I took a hard stand against letting my fiance's mother come to our wedding?", "text": "Bit of some background: future MIL was, and is, a stage 4 alcoholic. She goes through bouts of getting help and when she feels better, decides to stop treatment. Inevitably, she falls back into drinking. While sober, though I've never seen it, I'm told she's a wondeful person. Fun loving, responsible, cheerful, etc. When drinking... not so much.\n\nMy fiance has had to live with this his whole life and I feel for him. She truly is a manipulative cunt and I don't like seeing this woman use and abuse him. \n\nShe has insulted me to the point I will not have anything to do with her. Calling him on my birthday, during which I was hosting a party for myself with my aunt and uncle, and making snide remarks about my family being dead when he said he had no time to talk. My parents are gone, grandparents too, and the aunt who took me in after they all died had just passed the month prior.\n\nHe has distanced himself. We mutually agreed to disinvite her to Christmas. She has done nothing but be nasty to everyone, and throwing a tantrum. He proposed right before New Year's and she never even congratulated him.\n\nLast night, she texted him at 4 in the morning saying that since he was able to afford a $10,000 wedding(we have to take out a loan), she wants him to pay her back the $3,000 she put down for his college education. From over ten years ago. She had to sell her 'diamonds' for that. Mind you, he's paid for her treatment facility, housed her when the family dropped her on him in his 20s, sent her money for bills even when he knew it was for fucking booze. \n\nI don't want this woman in my life, in my future children's lives, at my wedding, or anything. I cannot imagine the burden she has been not only to my fiance, but his entire family. \n\nI don't like ultimatums, but I will refuse a traditional wedding and reception if she's to be there. I would gladly give up wearing my mother's dress and get hitched at the courthouse over having this toxic human being included in her son's big day. \n\nI don't think he will necessarily have a problem with it, as he has stated he's completely done with her at this point. But his family might. They've not given her a 'tough love' dose, rather they've essentially enabled her past the point of return and I fear his family may take it the wrong way if we do decide not to include her.\n\nSo, WIBTA?\n\nTldr: fiance's drunkard mother has ordered him to pay her back for his college tuition from over a decade ago because we're paying for our wedding. Never mind all the money he's sent her over the years or housing her for free in his 20s. She's already burnt any bridge she could have with me and I want to disinvite her from the wedding but his entire family may take offense to it. I will push for signing papers at the courthouse and have no ceremony if it is not possible.\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MqiPf1r1PHuczHq6PwE8JqXUKDu1U8ET", "post_id": "b6s4is", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend to make out with a girl", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my boyfriend to make out with a girl?", "text": "I'm bisexual. My boyfriend is straight. We've had discussions before about having a threesome and maybe swinging with other couples. I'm spending the night with a girl who we are supposed to have a threesome with soon and I want to ask him if I could make out with her but I'm unsure if this would make me TA or not. If he is uncomfortable I will not do it. Opinions? Throwaway account he follows my main ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jfgAoISddUWOEXDm00nk6cuTkgXy441U", "post_id": "b3gf0r", "action": {"description": "refusing to have dinner with my best friend's son", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to have dinner with my best friend's son?", "text": "Last night, my best friend (who is also my roommate, and we also work together) had her son visiting from literally the other side of the country. She told me that she was going out for dinner with him. I was happy for her (even though to be honest I kind of wanted to go out for dinner too) and said I would watch the dogs while they were gone.\n\nHer son came over to pick her up for dinner and greeted me and we chatted. After a while he then said \"Where would you guys like to go for dinner?\"\n\n I kind of hesitated because even though I wanted to go, I got the feeling that my best friend had been looking forward to having dinner with just her son as she hadn't seen him in 6 months. Also, she lives with me and now she works with me too, so I'm around like ALL the time.\n\n So I said, \"Oh, you guys should go out just you guys, and I'll look after the dogs, because you haven't seen each other in forever.\"\n\nMy best friend didn't jump in or anything, but her son said \"Oh, I've had 35 years to get to know her, you're welcome for dinner.\"\n\nI said \"Oh, that's nice, thank you!\" kind of reflexively. But then I noticed my friend was really quiet and not saying anything. So then after a bit, I said \"Actually, someone should stay and look after the dogs.\"\n\nThe son kind of got awkward and said \"Up to you.\"\n\nI said, also awkwardly, \"I think you should go out just the two of you, so then you can chat and catch up!\"\n\nThen the son said \"Okay, I'm sure we'll go out all together again and you can join us next time!\"\n\nI said \"Yeah that would be great!\"\n\nSo they went out for dinner and I looked after the dogs. But then they came back and were really quiet... Not really talking much. And the son was in the guest room and didn't talk to me at all.\n\nSo I'm wondering... Did I handle this wrong? I just wanted my friend to have a bit of a break from me and to enjoy some time with her son without me. But I think I may have insulted both of them and made them think I didn't want to go out with them. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ALBWpLqKbAW8UaTq3ixlCxAkSe6gbrCT", "post_id": "a4s7nm", "action": null, "title": "AITA If My ex/bf and i want to live together and he doesn't want to pay rent because of student loans?", "text": "I've been in a relationship with this guy for 7 years. We are both 24. We got engaged in fall 2016 and we recently broke up for unrelated reasons to this post. He lived with me for 9 months total. (i lived here before he added his name to the lease) His name is still on our lease. He moved out after we broke up and is living at his parents house now.\n\nWe are the happiest we've ever been in our lives together and after trying to date other people and it not working out, we ended up talking about getting back together. However, he keeps talking about immediately getting married after and is starting to plan things out.  This includes financial planning and living situations.  \nWhen we started talking about getting back together, i told him i'd like to see him be financially stable and responsible. He had to borrow loans to get through college and the police academy and his debt is significantly higher than mine. His monthly loans are about $700. I pay the same for rent including utilities.  \n\n\nI think it's fair to say paying half rent is ideal. In the past, I've given him an opportunity to calculate what he can afford by a percentage of his paycheck every month. He decided he could not afford to pay any rent. I also asked if he could cook or clean the apartment if he couldn't afford to contribute monetarily. He did not think that was a viable option and thought it was \"slavery\" and \"controlling\". This was not my intention at all and i told him so.  \nanyway, i think it would be a cheaper/easier option for him to live with me at \\~$300-350/ month than try to find his own apartment somewhere else in Milwaukee.  \n\n\nFrom his point of view, he says he would need to make 3/4 as much income as me to be able to pay half rent. I understand this, but i have no idea how we can live together in this case.\n\nHonestly, in my mind, if you cant afford to live with me, then don't.  \nHe can't accept that. He gets angry when i disagree with him and claims that i don't really love him and awful things that I know he doesn't mean. I know hes frustrated and i just have no idea how to deal with this anymore. This has bothered me so much.   \n\n\nTLDR: My ex/bf and i are interested in living together again and he doesn't want to pay rent because of student loans.  \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kiwd2AIFnkbymLfULUwzDwisfK1LfuWd", "post_id": "a32r7u", "action": {"description": "not grieving as much as you would expect after my grandmother's death", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not grieving as much as you would expect after my grandmother's death?", "text": "Mobile, formatting, sorry, etc. \n\nRecently, my grandmother passed away. My family all started grieving with tears, but I didn't cry much for some reason. I feel a bit upset that she is dead, but other than that I just accept that she's dead. I was quite close to her, and I will miss her, but I've never been a person to cry a lot. \n\nI've had this question in the back of my mind for a while now, and I really want to know what others think without having to make my family feel more pain by realising that their son doesn't cry over a death. So... am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ug0qzUVA3AMvWTey04NHTSQ4HlGhrdF4", "post_id": "azy0om", "action": {"description": "cancelling a date with only a couple hours notice", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for cancelling a date with only a couple hours notice?", "text": "Okay, so earlier this week a guy I had been talking to on Tinder suggested we should meet up for a date. We had a good rapport going so I thought, \"Great!\" and we decided to meet up yesterday for brunch at a restaurant he suggested.\n\nNow, we live about an hour from each other. This may seem like a long distance to some, but we live in a rural state and it's really not that unusal for people to drive that far to hangout. Growing up all my friends that lived \"close\" to me were about a fifteen minute drive. It's just the way it is here.\n\nI bring this up because the restaurant we decided to meet up at was 45 minutes from the city he lived in and about 20 from the city I lived in. I offered to find somewhere that was a little closer to him, so the drive was more even, but again, living in a rural state means there aren't a lot options between cities to meet up. He confirmed he was cool with the drive and I thought since he suggested the restaurant all was okay.\n\nFast forward to yesterday. The plan was to meet for brunch at 11. Since it was my day off and I wanted to sleep in as much as possible (especially with the clocks going back an hour) I set my alarm for 9. I figured that was more then enough time to shower, get ready, etc. However, when I woke up I saw that we had gotten a snowstorm in the middle of the night. I took a quick look out my window and saw the roads hadn't been plowed yet.\n\nTo be honest, I'm not very diligent about looking at the weather. I know I should be better, especially since I live in a part of the country that can have pretty extreme weather, but for some reason I can never get into the habit of doing it. What can I say? I'm flawed.\n\nAnyways, I do a quick pro and con about whether I want to go out on the unplowed roads for a first date. And while I was excited to meet him, I decided it wasn't worth the extra hassle that driving in the snow would cause.\n\nI made this decision pretty quickly and as soon as I made it I sent him a text saying, \"Hey! So, the weather where I am isn't great. The roads haven't been plowed yet and I don't know when they will be, so can I take a raincheck on brunch? Maybe we can do itnext weekend instead?\" I sent this at 9:07am.\n\nAn hour goes by and I haven't heard from him. I'm debating texting him again because I don't want him to drive all the way to the restaurant (especially in the weather) just to think I stood him up. But i also don't want to seem obnoxious by double texting.\n\nHalf an hour later I get a text from him saying: \"Wow I don't know how your mother raised you but mine always taught me to stick to commitments. Flaking out last minute is incredibly rude. We live in [state name] and you aren't used to driving in the snow? Thats bullshit. Next time don't waste my time with fake excuses. You're not cute enough to string people along like this\"\n\nI was shocked. Now- I know what he said about me being \"not cute enough\" is overkill on his part. But AITA here for cancelling in the first place?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qziQP1VKd5yLBrvELUOyEgvFnti0Ahwp", "post_id": "au2yng", "action": {"description": "asking if being gay was a choice", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for asking if being gay was a choice?", "text": "#IF YOU ARE EASILY TRIGGERED PLEASE READ THIS FULLY. I AM NOT ATTACK ANYONE AND I FULLY SUPPORT THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY!!!\n\n\nBackground: I grew up in a family where homosexuality was never discussed. I legitimately never had an idea that people thought saying \u201cbeing gay is a choice\u201d was a insult, nor have I ever said it. I never even really thought about it.\n\n\nNow I was on a thread on sub shitting on mom groups (I\u2019m sure you can guess it). There was a post about Chuck Norris. Someone said that Chuck had thought being gay was a choice. I honestly had no idea what he was saying. I genuinely thought it was (WHICH I NO LONGER BELIEVE), so I responded: \u201cIt is a choice?? Right? I don\u2019t mean to be rude\u201d and a minute later it was downvoted to -3 so I added \u201cEdit: 1 minute and it\u2019s already downvoted I knew this would happen but I\u2019m really just wondering\u201d\n\nAgain I\u2019m starting to think I said something wrong. Some people explain that I was wrong and I understand (special shout out to Flyingbangtan he was very sensible and explained it well). \n\nNow I\u2019m at -40 or something so I post to r/explainmydownvotes because I mentioned multiple times that it was just a question and I didn\u2019t want to offend or attack anyone and someone there said: \u201cyeah, i'm reporting you for this. borderline homophobia. ignorant asshole\u201d\n\nI responded with \u201cI was asking a question I literally had no idea how am I the ignorant asshole when I can\u2019t ask a question???\u201d\n\nThey responded with \u201cbecause your not using logic. being homosexual isn't a choice. you are BORN being homosexual\u201d\n\nThat led me to post here, AITA?\n\n\n\n\n>!Sort of relates: I\u2019m still sort of new to reddit (1 year but I don\u2019t have much experience) so I didn\u2019t know edits about reacting to downvotes were bad (I\u2019ve never been downvoted this hard before)!<\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HvUIz5fVVe9l4HJOhZFK0cdnEnR0ajeb", "post_id": "abnjv3", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend partying while I'm mourning", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend partying while I\u2019m mourning", "text": "AITA My grandmother passed away suddenly on Sunday night the 30th, night before New Year\u2019s Eve. The next day on Monday I\u2019ve been mourning since and stayed in bed all day. \n\n\nMy boyfriend and I have been planning on going to a rave for New Years. We were both really looking forward to it for a long time because the lineup is really good, we wanted to dance our stress away, and of course to have another New Years kiss. We live about 30 minutes away from each other so I haven\u2019t seen him for a few days. \n\nI decided the next day after her death on Monday, a few hours before the rave started that I was going to stay home. So he helped sell my ticket. But he still went to the rave. 30 minutes before he was about to leave, he messaged me and offered to stay the night with me. I didn\u2019t respond because I didn\u2019t believe the offer was genuine, especially offering last minute. \n\nIt\u2019s Tuesday, New Years, and he messaged me this morning offering to come over. A part of me wants to see him, but I\u2019m a bit upset about what he did. \n\nI admit on my part that I should have asked him to come over. But isn\u2019t common courtesy to be there for someone when their loved one just died?\n\nIs my anger towards him justifiable, or should I be more forgiving? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xKpLEQn8C4y5hIb06U17sJfAitvfyXVv", "post_id": "aenqh1", "action": {"description": "walking away from my gf at Disney World in front of our friends because she was yelling at me for making a phone call to my ex about my son", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I walked away from my GF at Disney World in front of our friends because she was yelling at me for making a phone call to my ex about my son?", "text": "My ex texted me yesterday saying she needed to talk to me about something about our son. I wasn't able to reach her yesterday, so I called today at Disney World while I was sitting alone while my GF and her friend and her friend's husband were in line. It was a 7 minute call. \nShe told me some very important news. After the phone call my GF and our friends sit down. I mention I just found out my ex wife and son are moving nearby, like matter of factly. My GF complains that somehow my ex always ruins her vacations and why couldn't I just call her later. I say because I might never know what it is she needed to tell me then. She calls my ex a bitch in front of our friends. I try to motion to her to just cool it, like that is not classy. Then she starts crying, but stops after a second. We get up and start walking and we're bickering as the other couple walks a bit ahead. She says I always \"put my ex before her\". I say that's not true, I just wanted to know my son's whereabouts. She just dismisses me. I tell her I have responsibilities. She repeats that I shouldn't have called her. That's when I walked away. She still refuses to apologize and blames me for everything, so I am refusing to meet them again. I'm about to leave the park.\n Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Wr5Eth9ljYkzRCsPRiV6yCwp7XHsotiO", "post_id": "b8bqw5", "action": {"description": "calling out my friend's roomate for constantly interrupting me", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For calling out my friend's roomate for constantly interrupting me.", "text": "I probably sound like a dick but it happens constantly. I'll be talking about anything and she always gives her opinion before I'm done or just changes the subject. Today I had enough when a personal story got interrupted. I asked her not to interrupt me again and then she started calling me out on shit like walking at different paces and being silent when I'm angry about other things. I told her if she is going to interrupt people at least apologize after the fact. If this was the first or fifth time I would've just dismissed it but after 6 months of this I thought something should be said. For me it just feels immature due to being raised to wait and let others finish. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UqmTvglKwTKqPxIbzkSueDfDaeX7XHYc", "post_id": "b9qwao", "action": {"description": "being mad for my folks for delaying the booking of my graduation trip", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being mad for my folks for delaying the booking of my graduation trip?", "text": "Back when I started university in 2016, my mum brought up the topic on what I want to do for my birthday and graduation. Initially, I wanted to go to the USA for Vidcon but my folks said no cuz they want all of us to go to the USA together. So I had to find other options.\n\nHere\u2019s the thing, whenever stuff like this happens, it's just a dumb excuse for us to travel and most of the time, my folks call the shots. Like they will approve on the trip and go head-on in booking if its a country **THEY WANT TO GO** and we just label it as \u201c*my graduation/birthday trip*\u201d (I swear, if I said Japan or Korea, we would have our tickets by this point).\n\nIn 2017, I had my eyes set on Iceland because of the landscape and LazyTown (thanks WANO memes). A solo/2 person trip with all expenses paid would total up to $6000 AUD (Cheap right?).\n\nAt first, they said no because they have no idea what Iceland is and think it's a waste of a travel ticket but said yes when their Facebook friends shared photos of their trip there and finally saw the appeal.\n\nWe then come to an agreement:\n\n* Have the money saved to pay for everything by the end of 2018\n* Graduate in 2019\n\nI hit both requirements and the trip soon evolved to \"Let's **ALL GO TO UK AND ICELAND**\".\n\nA lot of my plans for this trip has changed but for legit reasons. Initially, I wanted to go in February so it aligns with my birthday and I can go to an event called \"*Reykjav\u00edk Winter Lights Festival*\" which is similar to \u2018*Vivid Sydney*\u2019 + see the northern lights but my folks said \"NO\" because it needs to be in a school holiday and during the summer season because '*I will just complain about the cold*'\". I then said \u201c*let's go during April so we can still see the lights and it's their Spring season + its school holidays*\u201d and they also said \"NO\" because it may clash with my graduation ceremony (it didn't).\n\nIt HAD to be in July.\n\nI did everything I can to research for this trip and sent my findings to my folks but they're not doing anything about it. It came to the point where all the cheap accommodation is slowly being sold out and I'm just so stressed out that I lost motivation to look for tours because we have no place to stay.\n\nI addressed this to my folks and asked to reconsider just me travelling along and they were like \u201cthat's pretty selfish considering this trip is to celebrate your graduation\u201d. Then they argued \u201cbut don't you have friends you want to meet in UK?\u201d, \u201cif you ditch the UK leg of the trip, you will regret it\u201d, and \u201cBut if we came with you, we will give you more spending money\u201d (which I question considering we\u2019re currently renovating the house).\n\nI have back up money saved but that's for a rainy day and I fear that I will have to use all of my savings just for this one trip which could have been cheaper if I went on my own (plus it's still not enough to cover the expenses).\n\nSo am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5E6W3ACNqIlSKfo1fnOtTBUHMTpri5Ma", "post_id": "a2il71", "action": {"description": "not buying hotcake mix", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not buying hotcake mix", "text": "It all started when my Mom order me to go buy a hotcake mix for breakfast. we live in a condominium 7 floors high but the problem is the elevator is not working and i just woke up and feel not up to it. So i said that we don't need the pancake because we still have food and i really don't like going down and up the stairs to get that. After that my mom started spouting nonsense calling me lazy , being special child and etc. She always orders me around but this is the only time i didn't feel following her \n\nSorry for the bad english, english is my second language", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "AmD5KSPpj8QvOruSkU1ABHtX482SF3YV", "post_id": "apjww6", "action": {"description": "befriending a mentally challenged person", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for befriending a mentally challenged person?", "text": "Throwaway, ofc.\n\nI'm in my mid twenties. I really don't know what to do with my life, feel like I lack a purpose.\u00a0\n\n\nA few weeks ago I came across this mentally challenged girl. I really had no further interest in her than being friends. She happened to run away from home and some people were looking for her.\n\n\nI helped her hide out since that brought me a sense of purpose, that I had something to live for, but not for her.\n\n\nIn the end her carers found her hiding around and that got me and a close friend (who helped us after I asked) in trouble with cops, as well as my friends boss' daughter, who just happened to be around at the time.\n\n\nAm I the asshole for helping a troubled person even tho my reasons weren't right? Was all the trouble I caused justified?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RavtaM3IiShzZq2fQ6gJOqrmj8SZbem7", "post_id": "agp939", "action": {"description": "making a rude joke in a class group chat", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for making a rude joke in a class group chat?", "text": "So, for my APUSH class, my class made a group chat that had most everyone in it. Earlier today, someone asked if someone could send a picture of their completed assignment. Yknow. In normal group chat fashion. And a few popular guys in the chat were like \"no that's cheating\", \"do your own work that's not allowed\", \"this chat is for discussion\" and so on. \nSo a few people, myself included, were like \"??? It's a group chat for class everyone uses these to cheat\". I asked if they were serious and one guy said they were, so I sent \"Cheating > \"Discussion\" all the way\" in a joking manner and one of the guys saved it. Now this guy, we'll call him Ryan, saves my chat and screenshots it and says that he's going to show it to our teacher so that she knows I'm a \"cheater\" and won't grade me easily because of my \"good student\" reputation. \nI got a little annoyed but didn't take it seriously. Until people started telling me that he was actually going to do it because he's done it before with others. Then I got really annoyed. I'll admit, I'm a nerd. I take being a teacher's pet a little too seriously. So I clearly didn't want my reputation put into question with teachers. \nNow, Ryan had recently been in a relationship with a friend of mine and had ended up cheating on her which made her end the relationship. Ironic, right? I sure thought so. So I said so- in the group chat. I said something along the lines of \"Funny that you think you've got any right to be mad about cheating, Ryan. You didn't seem to think it was so bad a few weeks ago.\" And I expected everyone to be on my side... except most people are saying that i was unnecessarily rude... I thought I was being funny and he was taking the cheating shit too seriously as a whole. Guess I was wrong.\nWhat do you guys think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "T0nunxRFXZvGTfory178WKlpv2BMboQY", "post_id": "auvt2f", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I treated my ex before and after breaking up?", "text": "First time poster and on mobile so bear with me. Also my third try posting this so hopefully it stays up this time. \n\nLast year I got back with my girlfriend around this time. The November before we admitted we still had feelings for each other while drunk but she avoided talking about it until January when we decided to get back together. When we were together it felt like I put in all the effort; I made all the plans, drove her around and went out of my way for her. Eventually she started saying she was too busy to hang out with me, however she still hung out with her friends. \n\nThe night before we broke up she called me rude for walking up to campus when she was going to give me a ride. I asked her to get me at 9 and started walking back at 11 when she still hadn't picked me up. We got in a fight over text that night and everything I had been feeling came out, that I was putting in all the effort while she kept blowing me off. She said she'd give me a pass because I was drunk and ignored everything else I said. We kept arguing the next day and after she stopped responding to me for a few hours I told her I was dove with this. Immediately after I felt horrible and we ended up making it official about a week later and that gave me some closure. \n\nAfter this she kept texting me asking where I was as despite me asking for space. She would also talk about the next guy she was trying to get with while I was around, which I asked her not to do. This caused another argument. After that two of her friends sat down in the dining hall with me and my best friend and started talking about how they have to hook my ex up with someone. I asked them to stop, they apologized and I left. Me ex told people that I was being immature and overdramatic over that. I texted her and said that if she had something to say about me to say it to my face. Another argument. I did my best to avoid her since then and left the college we were at for academic reasons but that was still part of it. \n\nThis past winter break she was home and asked to use my rowing machine since we both rowed and she wanted to train on it. I let her a couple times but seeing her was too much and I started ignoring her texts eventually. We haven't talked since. It's been about a year now and it's been on my mind. Am I the asshole for the way I've handled all this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6x7D7EPrp3NScnRqDk3ouc7kS7DjrNek", "post_id": "b6uneb", "action": {"description": "providing an anonymous tip to the police about the father of my child", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA If I provide an anonymous tip to the police about the father of my child?", "text": "Throwaway cuz I mean.....yeah. Also on mobile. \n\nMy son\u2019s father owes over 20 grand in child support, and I just found out today that in the US this is considered a Class C Felony, with a possibility of 2 years in prison. He makes absolutely no effort to contact him. Left the damn state for crying out loud. I also know where he works because apparently people enjoy posting their life on Facebook ( I don\u2019t have those kinds of social media accounts for this reason). \n\nI want to get sole custody of my son, but I fear the repercussions if I were to proceed to do something like this. I have seen Karma first hand, and I would not my son to think lowly of me for doing something like this if he ever found out. \n\nSo would I be an asshole if I went on to provide an anonymous tip? \n\nFor further information, he hasn\u2019t paid in two years. Hasn\u2019t seen my son in months; didn\u2019t even attend his birthday party. He also already has a suspended license. He has somehow avoided having his taxes pulled for the past two years, though according to him he \u201c owns a business\u201d. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YtrXzUSic3IoDRsjN4QciEFhV1m9PFxR", "post_id": "9te292", "action": {"description": "Slashing tires", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For Slashing Tires", "text": "Obligatory wasn't recent but a year(ish) ago. There was this one kid at my high school who had a reputation of being a full ass canoe of douche. He had formerly been a friend of mine till I realized that he was just kind of an asshole. He had spread rumors about others, made jokes about one sophomore's dad being in the hospital and his mom not being around (we were seniors; class '18), tried to get the cops to crash small kickbacks we threw with other friends after we didn't invite him *because* of all the shit he did. He would use personal things people told him in confidence to fuck with them. That specifically is what sparked my fuckup. I was falsely accused of rape over the summer of my freshman year (the case was closed after she admitted that we had never even had sex - I was still a virgin but I'm not even going to get into that clusterfuck). Now, being the naive dumbfuck I used to be, I had told him at the time because I still trusted him. Big mistake. So, we're about halfway through our senior year and there is this girl who I was *really, really* into. You know those high school crushes where you don't even totally understand it and your brain is just like \"Holy fuck this person is amazing\"? That's the level it was at. What was insane about it is that I'm fairly certain she was into me as well. I used to have a lot of abandonment issues because one of my parents hasn't ever been in my life so I constantly second guess myself when it comes to that. But it was at a point where literally, multiple friends, my mom, and even hear dad pointed out that I was being a dumbass by not saying anything. I finally, after like 6 months of telling myself that everyone but me is wrong (like I said, am dumbfuck) I was just like fuckit, I'm doing it. I had a conversation with said brimming canoe of douche and he told me I should do it. What I **didn't** know was that immediately after, he went and told her and some of her friends about the rape accusation, but from what I was told, he left out the part about her admitting to the lie and the whole section concerning the police. Obviously the truth eventually came out eventually by my other, close friends who had supported me throughout the clusterfuck that was 2015 and early 2016. But the damage had already been done. She and I are still friends today, but the whole what could have been is gone. Back to the story though, when I found out about this - at school nonetheless - I took a nice little walk to my car grabbed a pocket knife I kept in the glovebox (I live adjacent to a big city and walking around at night gets to be dangerous occasionally) and long story short he had 2 flat tires and I just went home. AITA? \nOh and for reference, I was caught because campus security manage to remember my plates, but I did get off with like 25 hrs of community service and a misdemeanor and didn't have to pay anything because the dumbass and his family where super rude to both the DA and the detectives handling the case.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Yab6xsv77EK4xCg52SrEnCGDWuLtI8Ok", "post_id": "ay5nor", "action": {"description": "getting cold-hearted revenge on my cheating ex", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for getting cold-hearted revenge on my cheating ex?", "text": "When I was in my first year of university, I was dating a 25 year old. I was very in love with him even though he was the textbook definition of a loser and treated me poorly. He was a pathological liar, a college drop out and lived at home with his parents. He actually told me he dropped out of the same university I was attending years earlier because of a heart condition, but eventually I found out in reality he attended a community college nearby, failed out, and continued to pretend to attend the university for 2 years after. He would \"study\" at the university library and go to fake classes. I would pay for everything. He lived in the city where I spent my summers, but during the school year I was 2 hours away in my university town.\n\n​\n\nClues that he was cheating were everywhere. He asked me not to post any photos of him, even on Valentine's Day he was irate when he thought I took a snap of him claiming he was \"too insecure\" about the weight he had recently gained and did not want to be posted. My sister's boyfriend even saw him out on a date once and he sent me photos for proof, but my ex managed to convince me the girl was just some random friend from work and it's completely fine to go to lunch with coworkers during breaks and I was such a fucking psycho for accusing him of cheating. Lo and behold, I soon found out he had been DATING the girl in the pictures and he had been telling her I was his crazy ex that he still sometimes chilled with because he felt bad. I messaged her and warned her politely, then dumped him.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nFast forward a month: I'm in the city to visit my sister and party for a weekend. I convince my friends to go to a nightclub I know my ex frequents. Just as I expected, he's there along with his two hockey douchebag best friends that are closer to my age and quite good looking. My ex begins freaking out that I'm there, yelling petty nonsense at my girlfriends who I was with, who happened to be (or were) our mutual friends screeching they should have chosen his side etc. The drama eventually subsides, and an hour later I run into one of his best friends (HF) getting drinks and I ask him if he wants to go for a smoke. I'll spare you of all the details, but it was surprisingly easy to make him want to go home with me and that's exactly what we did. At about 3am, HF starts getting a ton of texts from my ex: \"someone said they saw you get into a cab with OP. HF I know you would never, I but know I would KILL you if you did.\" HF and my ex even had a phone call while I was lying next to HF basically naked, trying not to laugh. To this day, I still can't believe what a talented, heartless liar HF was. After the phone call, it was time to put the final nail into the coffin. I got my stuff, called a cab and texted my ex \";)\". He instantly knew. I'll leave what happened to HF to your imagination.\n\n​\n\nDid I overdo it? Am I the ultimate asshole?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "BaLRlo2NT6gJWVnGdcWxsvoGTnTRuSHu", "post_id": "9wczdy", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend that her jumper smelled and it caused a whole big argument", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: I told my girlfriend that her jumper smelled and it caused a whole big argument.", "text": "Bit of context, I've (M, 30) been with my girlfriend (F, 29) for three years now, great relationship, we've travelled the world and lived abroad for a year etc.  We don't live together for now, since moving back from the country we lived in she's gone to her grandparents and I've gone to my parents while we save money and look for a place of our own, so now she comes over on the weekends after she finishes work.  \n\nWe were going out to do something, and she put on her jumper which stunk.  Now, this isn't the first time she has smelled tbh.  I've told her before and she gets really upset, so I go through this ridiculous performance, where I first smell myself, then ask her \"do I smell?\" which prompts her to say no, and then ask if she smells, to which I nodded.  I thought she would get changed and we would move on and the problem would be over.  Unfortunately, she didn't get changed, we went out to the town and did some shopping.  On the bus home, she raises her arm, and releases the smell, so I say \"we can wash that jumper when we get in\".  So far so good (?).  We get home and get ready to go out to the pub to watch the rugby and she's still in this jumper.  She's sitting down reading a book and is giving me one word answers to questions so I ask her if I upset her by telling her that her jumper smelled and she's giving me one word replies and then she tells me to leave it.  So I did, and went for a shower.  When I got out of the shower, there's still this atmosphere between us, so I say to her \"tell me what's upset you\" to which once again she tells me to leave it.  So I said \"no, I'm not going to go to the pub with you while there is this atmosphere, we need to clear the air\".  So she starts saying how it was embarrassing etc. and that I kept \"banging on about it\".  I said the whole situation was ridiculous, which she then decided meant I said *she* was being ridiculous, which escalated the problem further.  Earlier on, she said that she didn't have any other clothes to wear, so I said \"well we don't have to go to the pub\" to try and solve the situation, which she then took to mean that I thought she was \"too smelly to go out with\".\n\nThe thing is, I'm always telling her to have a shower, or brush her teeth, and she's 29 years old.  It's not the first time I've had to tell her to change because her clothes smell.  I don't feel like I should have to constantly tell her to shower etc.  I also feel like if I smelled, and she didn't tell me I would be pissed off at her.\n\nI probably shouldn't have said the situation was ridiculous at a time of heightened emotion, but still...I feel like it was such a ridiculous thing to argue over.\n\nAm I the Asshole??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HluVEVpChYqPVhNvVlAyGYR22ekjXpcu", "post_id": "b2aug0", "action": {"description": "insisting on living in the two bedroom my parents' have bought alone", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA if I insist on living in the two bedroom my parents' have bought alone?", "text": "I'm a student currently rounding down my first year of professional school. At the beginning of the year, I started to rent a studio. It's a bit pricy at $1100 a month (990 rent and utilities + 110 parking) and the building is older causing some issues, but it's big for a studio and best of all I have it all to myself.\n\n​\n\nMy parents have never been happy with how old it is, though I'm content. They also would rather my rent money be going to the family rather than a landlord and were looking to have property in the city where I go to school. The idea came up that for next year, they would purchase a condo or apartment and have me rent from them instead. We ended up finding a two bedroom.\n\n​\n\nNow some background. For the two years prior to this one, I had very negative roommate experiences. My roommates were incredibly selfish and hostile, to make a very long story short. Both of these situations had a profound effect on my wellbeing mental and physical even resulting in recurring nightmares.\n\n​\n\nOriginally, I had a friend who was interested in rooming with me, and I know her well enough to be certain we wouldn't have issues. Unfortunately she's since backed out and opted to live alone. Despite this, my parents are insisting I find another roommate. I feel extremely uncomfortable looking for an alternative roommate amongst my classmates or strangers because I can definitely not afford to have a bad living situation right now. As a professional student, my workload is about ten-times what it used to be. I've already been struggling a great deal so anything that can potentially add additional stress and anxiety could really send me into a real tail spin.\n\n​\n\nI have explained this to my parents multiple times. My dad thinks I'm being dramatic and my mom doesn't even want to hear it. Neither of them have ever had bad roommate situations and they also come from a culture where mental health issues are hardly understood to the point of being mocked. I still haven't revealed to them I had to start seeing a therapist earlier this year for fear of how they'll react. Anyhow, they counter by saying since they're the landlords if the person does anything I can just have them evicted immediately. Personally I dread having to deal with that kind of situation, as I know it'll stress me out beyond measure. They also say I should've ensured they bought a one-bedroom or studio instead if I was so against this. However, at that time my friend was still saying she'd most likely move in with me (she never confirmed, though). They also said themselves that they didn't feel a one bedroom or under would be worth it investment wise.\n\n​\n\nAs I said earlier, I have told them I will pay the price for two in spite of the extra load it'll put on me loan-wise. I just feel like my peace of mind and wellbeing are worth it even if they don't..\n\n​\n\nSo.. what's the verdict? Am I being selfish? An asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wGiRCMyvOlNWvJqGo1w6a9Q2RwXUX7X0", "post_id": "a1p6ak", "action": {"description": "not realizing I'm a dick", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not realizing i\u2019m a dick?", "text": "so, i recently got invited to a friends discord server.\ni want to start off by saying my sense of humor is different, and i\u2019m still realizing that people don\u2019t like it.\n\nanyways, i\u2019ve been making some friends there, super nice people. we all have similar interests such as Destiny 2 and just video games in general.\n\ntoday i was talking with a guy named \u201cwomen respecter\u201d and he typed in chat \u201cwomen good\u201d and we all started joking around. me and bills were referencing some older memes and i said \u201cwomen bad women bad my hair toothpaste\u201d (referencing some stupid ass meme from earlier this year) and i didn\u2019t realize that i offended him by saying that.\n\nthen earlier today, talking about Destiny 2 with bills, we were talking about Forsaken, which is a DLC in which one of the main characters \u201cCayde\u201d dies.\ni didn\u2019t realize that another one of the people were only level 7 and no where close to that DLC, and i accidentally spoiled his death for her.\n\nam i the asshole for doing this shit? thanks.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AtEBv867Knr5wdR0odcmgYAjIckaa4zd", "post_id": "axb7rt", "action": {"description": "wanting to move away from my widowed mom to spend time alone with my wife in a new city", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For wanting to move away from my widowed Mom to spend time alone with my wife in a new city", "text": "I had a bit of a rough time during childhood.  My dad was sick a lot and my mom suffered from untreated mental health issues that I felt responsibility for ameliorating.  Basically I've ended up with a lot of anxiety about my mom being upset, especially at me.  I think that's a bit of necessary context.  \n\n\nMy dad passed away when I was a teenager and my only sister died young a few years ago.  After I graduated college I lived with my mom for a bit, until I got married to my wife.  My mom is a bit of a recluse and doesn't seem to make friends that easily, and most of the friends she has have moved away from the area over the last few years.  Basically at this point the only people she has in the area are me, my wife, and my in-laws.  \n\n\nPretty soon I will be starting a temporary job in a new city that is about 3-4 hours away.  My wife and I have always talked about how we want family around, and that we want to be near our parents wherever we end up settling.  This job will last only a couple years, and my wife and I both feel like we would like to just move there ourselves and have some time for just us for a while.  We've both almost always lived near our parents, and the idea of going to a new city just ourselves sounds kind of exciting.  \n\n\nMy mom obviously really wants to follow us to this new city because she feels like she will be alone.  I feel really bad because, really she is all alone there, on top of me having this guilt complex about my mom because of my childhood.  I am planning to talk to her before we go to say that we want some space just for this time (she can still visit).  I feel a bit like I am abandoning her though...  so am I the asshole?  \n\n\nThanks", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VMkDvXOgfKCcV3hzgd2LXjAKPYeCsGOo", "post_id": "9yteh0", "action": {"description": "lying for my dad", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA lying for my dad", "text": "   Throwaway because my family is on reddit. Some small details are changed to help that too. It won't change the story.\n\n   About a month ago my dad watched my girlfriends cat for us as we had to leave town for the weekend. This cat is old. When we came back my dad told me that the cat seemed to be in pain so he gave him a painkiller that he had for his animals. My GF's cat after that went unresponsive for almost an hour. My dad was about to take him to the vet then he came out of it, so he diddnt. My dad told me about this and we agreed not to tell my girlfriend. What she doesn't know won't hurt her and her cat was/is fine now. \n\n   I told my girlfriend what happened on a whim yesterday and she got really angry at me, told me that my dad and I violated her trust, and that giving the cat meds was extremely stupid. I got angry at her because the cat is fine and my dad was only trying to help. Reddit, AITA for lying to her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zsQYa1SLv5mUGkkqZIFKle9ZBRXbFiI4", "post_id": "ad2ne4", "action": {"description": "leaving my group of friends due to bullying", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For leaving my group of friends due to bullying?", "text": "Hey! As the title states I've been bullied by my friends and left the group. It's been happening for 3+ years and they banned one of my accounts as a joke and made me lose $50. They call me fat because I'm a little overweight and always kick me from the call for no reason. They also prevent me from playing certain games with them, mock me constantly and make fun of how I look. I feel like I'm chained to them and leaving the group won't solve anything. I guess the root of this was that they thought I was unfunny even though I was doing the same jokes as them? \n\nTL;DR Friends have bullied me for 3+ years, made me lose money and I feel like I have to be with them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Mga8BvE4BURXdkCD6ENTgNNKyWcI0177", "post_id": "ajhhs6", "action": null, "title": "AITA?", "text": "AITA?\n\nPosted this in r/askmom and will post it here to see what others say that aren't moms.\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\nI'm an 18-year-old guy, and she is 56.\n\n​\n\nTwice this week, she went into, what I call, \"Bitch Mode\".\n\n​\n\n​\n\nThe first time was the 20th, on Sunday. Usually every Sunday she finds something to argue about with me.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nSo this Sunday. The day was going great. She was making homemade dough stuff. Some pizza like thing, and other recipes she got *somewhere. O*nce the pizza thing was done, she had taken it out for it to be cut( note there was something else in the oven that needed to be removed in 2 minutes). So I get the pizza cutter and start cutting it. My sister tells me I'm not cutting it right, and my mom does this light slap on my face a few times(kinda like patting but harder). I put down the cutter and told her that if she is going to slap me, she can cut it herself. I walk away but I'm still in the kitchen. She starts mocking me, asking where is pacifier is because I'm being a baby and sulking. Me, feeling insulted, leaves to go to my room.\n\n​\n\nA minute later I hear her shouting. I forgot the other food in the oven(note that she knows I have memory issues). The food got *slightly burned on the top*. It could be removed easily and shits over with. Next thing I know she starts yelling at me how I don't appreciate what she does for me and then goes on about me sulking, mimicking the crying baby face with the fists and storms off into the tv room, slamming the door. She doesn't talk to me for 2 or 3 days. My 24-year-old sister was in the kitchen and she did *nothing*. She could have removed the food and told me its not her fault.\n\n​\n\nToday its even stupider. In the tv room, watching something.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nShe asks if she can trouble me with something. I say no, wait a few seconds then say yeah sure. Note that this is what I ALWAYS do when she asks me to do something she can do herself. She also laughs when I say no because she knows I'm joking.\n\nShe stays quiet, and after me asking her 3 times what she wants, she shouts that all she wants is soup and that I should stop doing being funny etc. Then she says nevermind I don't want it. a few mins later, she once again storms off but this time to her room. \n\n​\n\nI honestly do not know what to do. I really want to call my friend and ask if I can stay at his house for like 2 days, just to escape her, but I want to see if she will cross that line and tell me to leave. She overreacts over shit that isn't serious and yells at me, ruins the whole day and the next few and somehow she is the victim. I haven't apologised for what happened on Sunday, nor do I plan to, and I'm not going to apologise now.\n\nEdit: I was just told by her that I owe her for being \"nasty to her\" and tried to guilt trip me into going to an art exhibition with her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nnp2fyBicUiI95BcAjnUxx4iUJAHfvHL", "post_id": "axb794", "action": {"description": "resenting my wealthy parents for not helping with my education", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Resenting My Wealthy Parents for Not Helping with My Education?", "text": "My parents did not help me pay for my schooling. I am not writing this because I think it is anyones parents\u2019 responsibility to pay for their son or daughter\u2019s education. At 18, you are an adult. If you want something that benefits yourself (which a degree is) it\u2019s your responsibility to pay for that. I believe in that. \n\nUnfortunately, that is not the way financial aid is calculated. My financial aid was calculated based on a salary I did not make (my father\u2019s). Despite my family\u2019s income of roughly $500,000/yr it was made clear to me before going to college by my parents that I would receive nothing from them. \n\nAt the same time, as a 17 year old kid, I was being very strongly pushed to attend a good college. B grades were not acceptable in my family. Receiving one on a report card resulted in punishments. In meetings with my parents and counselors I was purposefully steered away from local schools and told my aim was to attend an Ivy or a state University. Upon being accepted to several tier 1 schools, I at least had the brains to insist I attended the cheapest one that offered in-state tuition. \n\nI feel like I worked my ass off. Not only did I use all of the money I saved from my high school jobs, I worked 20-30 hours a week during school and purposefully finished my degree in 3 years by taking 2 more classes per semester than what was recommended by the school. I\u2019m now out of school making a $45,000 salary. My debt is $30,000, which to my understanding is a lot better than most. \n\nI think this is fine and fair and I\u2019ve made the bed I sleep in. I have food to eat and a roof over my head. But I pay $400/month towards my loans. Admittedly, sometimes I now find myself annoyed to be around my parents. My parents are by definition multi-millionaires. It makes me feel bad when I visit and my dad touts his money and the things he has used it for. He shows off additions to his car collection, the new cabin they\u2019ve bought, and really expensive renovations to a mansion she shares only with my mother. It makes me ask in my head, why of all the things you could choose to do with the wealth you have, you didn\u2019t help me? It made me especially annoyed when I drove home this christmas and my father made fun of the car I recently bought because it was not new and has some rust. \n\nAt the end of the day, I tell myself I am happy with what I have accomplished, I am way better off than most people around the world and ignore stuff like that. But I feel a bigger and bigger emotional gap forming between myself and them because it simply makes me feel gross being around the things they use their money for. Am I the asshole for feeling this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GqL0VeFrU9cKZ2ps4DMBmglWtCNBxfoC", "post_id": "au5fjc", "action": {"description": "talking back to my mom because I didn't want to swim in the pool", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for talking back to my mom because I didn't want to swim in the pool?", "text": "I'm a transdude and I am not on T or surgery yet. I live in Vietnam so sex reassignment surgery and hormone therapy are banned here, that being said, there is no way to change my gender on the passport. I came out to my family about 6 months ago, it was tough but they had to accept it anyway.\n\nLiving and raised in an asian country, was rather strict. When I was younger my mom would force me to swim twice a week, 2 hours per session. I hated it, and it hit me hard in school as we have obligatory PE as well. When I found out I was trans, I became depressed and dysphoric because of the harassment at school, my grades would drop and I would get yelled at constantly and physically abused for not doing chores because I was extremely tired every day after class so all I did was video games and listening to music.\n\nTime skip to, about a few hours ago. My dad and my siblings went to the public pool. They called to our home telephone to ask me to swim with them. I was anxious when my mom picked it up. She told me to go with them, I replied that I didn't really want to. I hesitated telling the reason but I did anyway. I was embarrassed in a swimsuit and I didn't want to go outside on Sunday. She snapped and threatened from the kitchen; \"Do as I say or I will stab this knife in your fucking face\" in a very scary voice. I started sobbing because I was extremely scared; I continued convincing her why I didn't want to go, she told me to \"shut my mouth and listen to the adult\". After a while I just had to accept it and go to the swimming pool unwillingly because I couldn't do anything against it.\n\nI know she want the best for me, to stay healthy. But, at times, it feels like my mental health was just, ignored and unconsidered... I still feel guilty because I felt like I was hurting her feelings in the role of a parent. \n\nAITA for refusing to follow my mom's request?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6d32YIkjuQ3OVId1f40b5t0n2JvVQDPM", "post_id": "b00idx", "action": {"description": "making a meme page about my teacher who's husband died a few years back", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for making a meme page about my teacher who\u2019s husband died a few years back?", "text": "Last semester I started my first year of high school. I was nervous but excited, on the first day I was meeting all my teachers, they were all very nice and tried to make me feel less scared about the first day. Then 7th period rolls around, my last class of the day, and I meet my math teacher. A 70 year old, shriveled up, prune eating jerk. She started off class by talking about how she\u2019s experienced and \u201cwe shouldn\u2019t mess with her\u201d, whatever that means. She was extremely boring and I was dying to get out of class. This was every other day for weeks, fast forward a couple months, I\u2019m bored as frick sitting in her class and I start to zone out, I\u2019m staring out the floor thinking of how I\u2019m gonna play Mario odyssey when I get home, then she yells \u201cOP, bring it here!\u201d \u201cWhat?\u201d \u201cBring it here\u201d \u201cWhat are you talking about?\u201d \u201cDon\u2019t act like I don\u2019t know you\u2019re on your phone!\u201d \u201cI\u2019m not on my phone...\u201d She\u2019s still resisting, I lift my backpack up off the ground, onto the table, and I unzip the pocket on the left side, reach in and pull my phone out. She still looks at me with her stupid, condescending face and waits for me to walk over to her desk. I set it on the table and reluctantly say \u201csorry, it won\u2019t happen again...\u201d Then you know what I hear? \u201cNo it won\u2019t. Cause I\u2019m sending you to the office\u201d EXCUSE ME??? I made it very clear that I wasn\u2019t on my phone and she still sends me to the office??? I rip the note out of her hand and march down to the office. When I walk in the counselor is standing there. \u201cPhone referral?\u201d \u201cYup\u201d I then explained to him everything that went down. He then says \u201c*teachers last name*? Yeah that makes sense\u201d Then I didn\u2019t get in trouble. I was absolutely shocked that he believed me, but it was welcome. After that I started making memes about her to make me and my friends laugh, it made her class more bearable. Then my friend gets the idea to make a meme page. I was reluctant cause I didn\u2019t want to get in trouble, but I went through with it because it sounded like fun. The page started to gain some traction from kids that went to the school. I was making memes every week or two. Then one day I found out her husband passed away a few years back, I felt guilty obviously because that\u2019s most likely why she acted the way she did, so I decided I should probably take the page down. No joke, the next day, the exact same thing happens but this time I fought against her and this time she wasn\u2019t too stubborn to admit she was wrong, there have been other instances of her doing stupid things, like accusing me and my friend of using hand signals to communicate in class, and saying I was a bad student because I asked a question for something that no one knew the answer to. I understand her husband passed away pretty recently, but I don\u2019t think I should take the page down, because I\u2019m doing it as a joke and she has been pretty rude to me, and there\u2019s always a sense that she thinks she\u2019s better than me, but I don\u2019t know. Is this morally wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hFjFy7T3yN42TEORyS2PmyZHU7AFD9Fc", "post_id": "9v7lxf", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pitch in money for a party at work", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pitch in money for a party at work.", "text": "\nA coworker i hardly know is leaving the company and another co worker wants everyone to pitch in money to get food on his last day. I do not plan to eat because I am dieting and trying to lose weight and the food they are ordering is unhealthy so i will be taking no part in it. I told my other co worker this but she still keeps insisting i pitch in. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5Ts0gpLIC4pfweUpclGomE0LwJvGaVD3", "post_id": "asj4il", "action": {"description": "getting angry at my dogs for digging up the backyard", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for getting angry at my dogs for digging up the backyard?", "text": "My dogs are both rescues and they are basically my children at this point. They are well behaved in the house unless I'm away. One of them has to be crated because he gets anxiety and likes to chew on blankets while the other just sleeps on the couch and poops by the front door occasionally. \n\nThe trouble comes when it rains outside... They must love the feeling of mud in their claws because they both try to dig in a very specific spot that they know is outside of my view from the back door. When I catch them I loudly yell at them and send them to their crates till I can find the time to bathe them which sometimes means overnight. I know they are just following instinct but I can't help but feel that they know what they're doing is wrong since they hide it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VYSq5MgZUo1hdQI8zPXwAz2zkBT0TZxR", "post_id": "apiysa", "action": {"description": "kicking a guy out of a tournament", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AItA for kicking a guy out of a tournament", "text": "TL:DR at bottom  \nThrowaway, because my friends check my reddit some times\n\n​\n\nSo me an my friends in college play a lot of Super Smash Brothers ultimate in school, and by walking from classes to classes i hear a lot of people in my college does as well, so we decided to throw a tournament for as many people who wanted to attend. So my school said it was not a problem, but they would not fund anything and we had to take care of it. So i did not set any entrance fee nor did i get any reward since, well i am a broke college student. So the only reward was  a paper that said congratulation on winning the tournament. So up comes the day and many people attended, a few more that i had expected but it was fine. So i told them the rules(3 stocks, no items, 6 minutes and stage hazards off) and then told them about the reward. I explained to them why this was all, and i got some nods and okays so people were getting why it was the only thing and accepted it. Apart for that guy who said:\"Really, that's it?\". I said yes i could not afford anything else, i am sorry. Then i see him ramble something but i chose to ignore him. So the competition starts and this guy goes to a complete back seat driving, if you get me. Shouting, NO, don't jump there or you should've attack there and i could see it was getting on the nerves of some players. So then comes his turn to play, and he lost. Now i had the double eliminations, which is if you lose your first match you go there and have a second chance at the tournament. And as i said, he lost his match and i said, like i sad to all that lost, unlucky but don't worry since you will be going to the losers bracket and have a second chance at the tournament. At that moment he lost it and said\" But the guy who fought me used a cheap tactic and should be sent there instead of me, because i played fairly.\" Which i said \" We did not ban any moves or character and since it is in the game its allowed(he did not do anything game breaking).\" He continues with \" But it is such a cheap tactic, i don't want to be in the losers bracket cause i did not lose \"fairly\".\" I said, the Rules are the rules if you don't like them, just go. Then he started to complain more and i said, \"That's it you are out of the tournament, leave now\". Then he left super pissed and i got some mean eyes looking at me, but some were relieved. So was i the asshole by kicking him out?  \n\n\nTL:DR a guy lost his temper for losing in a smash tourney i was throwing and i kicked him out.     ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9BiARW2HP41Pwj4TKIiPgz1jwI83qBrs", "post_id": "9zd5cl", "action": {"description": "conversing with my african american waitress about racism in america at a waffle house", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for conversing with my african american waitress about racism in america at a waffle house?", "text": "   So, it is Thanksgiving and I am high off some dabs and a wax blunt. I decide I am going to visit my local waffle house about .75 miles away. I wanted to go, because my dude Norman who also happens to be black works there, and I wanted to dab some wax with him. I frequent this waffle house regularly so the staff knows who I am.\n   To my despair, my homie norman wasn't there. I was sad about this, but I had the munchies, and decided to order a hashbrown that went \"all the way.\" It was indeed some sex in my mouth let me tell you that. I decided in my elevated mind state that I would commiserate with my waitress. I for whatever reason decided to comment on an eddie griffin comedic bit in which Mr. Griffin explains why he hated the whole \"sag your pants phase\" in hip hop.\n   For those of you who dont know sagging your pants in jail meant you were a homosexual. Im not homophobic i am literally pointing out facts. I feel in this political climate I have to clarify everything for both liberal morons and conservative morons.\n   Anywho, conversation also turns to \"black face.\" I want to preface this next paragraph with the fact that I am a korean american who has had the \"chinky eyes\" done to him by numerous african americans. When i got angry about it i was told to chill. I want to also say that i dont condone black face, but was merely pointing out a blatant hypocrisy in the thought processes of SOME African Americans in regard to race. \n   The reason I am asking if AITA is because unbeknownst to me there were a table of four african americans whom happened to leave the restaurant. I left shortly after, because Helga honestly was trying to call me out when i wasnt even aware those african americans were even there. I was having a conversation with a very open minded black waitress and feel I am not the asshole. \n\nAs an asian american this whole race thing offends me, because i feel like the media only focuses on black and white issues. I feel that SOME African americans dont have a sense of humor, but when they make fun of other races they expect you to just be chill. Thats why im mad, and thats why i went on that rant. So reddit Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1ALoy5W7nlHSDc9j45HNWjq3l5oaou6H", "post_id": "ayagxo", "action": {"description": "recently moving back in with my parents. they live in a suburban neighbourhood. I go out after dark to hide my smoking habit", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA I recently moved back in with my parents. They live in a suburban neighbourhood. I go out after dark to hide my smoking habit.", "text": "So basically, I go out late at night for a smoke break. I know, I know, bad habit. It's kinda meditation for me enjoying the nighttime sounds. I walk up our street and down the one it connects with and back. I typically do this at hours past midnight. I'm used to living in the city where this isn't exactly an issue. I dress kinda down for reference, I think that's important. It hasn't been a problem for months.\n\nAnyways, tonight I turn down the connected street that's a bit of a main vein. There's two parked cars with groups of people which is strange. Suddenly I hear what sounds like gun shots several blocks away so I fuck off back to the street that my parents live on. There's a street light out so I just chill there watching up the street while I finish my smoke. Suddenly a car pulls up. Like, right in front of where I'm standing on the sidewalk. I'm nervous, so I walk a couple feet over cause I figure either he's going to kill me, or I'm going to walk away quickly and look sketchy. Needless to say I'm spooked. He gets out, clearly dressed in high vis gear so he's just getting off work, he starts walking into his house and stops.\n\n\nHe says with a loud voice \"Are you alright buddy?\" I'm nervous after the last four minutes. I just tell him that I'm hunkered down here cause there's shit going down on X street. I awkwardly and nervously say I just moved back in with my parents and I go out for a smoke after they go to bed. He says that it's just weird to see a dude out past midnight, we wish each other a good night, and he goes in and I head down the street where my parents live. I feel bad, because I know in a suburban setting its weird to see a dude in shabby clothing just standing there smoking. I typically have a spot that's out of the way, but given the circumstances I just moved back towards the sidewalk on that street. I feel bad making people uncomfortable, but the sidewalk is a public space so I don't know. \n\nFor reference, I carry out my butts. Always. I know they're not biodegradable so I make sure I dispose of them responsibly. \n\nAm I an ass hole for taking a walk past midnight for my smoke break?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kN1SoNQAFUib48SKrNpZ6RmwhaEXGBa6", "post_id": "b089nl", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend's friend and coworker to mind her own business", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my girlfriend\u2019s friend and coworker to mind her own business?", "text": "This is such a bizarre and stupid situation but here goes.\n\nLast weekend we were both at a friend's party and my girlfriend \"Jess\" got really drunk and I ended up having to take her home. She was falling over drunk so I put her in bed and I stepped out to go to the bathroom. When I was in the bathroom, I hear this giant thump. Lo and behold she has fallen from the bed onto her face (our bed is quite high up so it was a little bit of a drop). \n\nI helped her back into bed and checked her face, which honestly seemed fine at the time and we both fell asleep. When we woke up, she had a very prominent bruise and redness on the side of her face and it really did look like someone had punched her. Unfortunately she did have to go to work the next day so she put some makeup on it the best she could and went to work.\n\nWhen she got home, she told me that her coworker, who is also one of her good friends, noticed the bruise on her face and asked her if she was \"okay.\" Jess told her straight up what had happened with falling over drunk but her friend just said, \"Well in case that isn't what happened and something happened with u/stfisme, just let me know.\" \n\nWe really didn't think much of that conversation at first because it just seemed like her friends were looking out for her, and yeah I can see how the whole situation looks fishy from the outside. But it turns out that this friend has been talking to all of Jess's other friends about it and now they are all convinced I'm abusing her and that Jess is somehow covering for me and lying for me, no matter how much she tells them what happened and that they all saw how drunk she was at the party. \n\nThe other day I even had one of her guy friends approach me and say that they are all \"watching me and her\" and are all \"looking out for her\". What the actual fuck. Now none of her friends want anything to do with me and it is causing us both a lot of anxiety. \n\nJess and I have no idea what else we can do to convince people I don't abuse her.\n\nDoes anybody have any ideas at how we could be approaching this differently? I want to just tell her to fuck off and mind her own business regardless of the consequences because to be frank I think she deserves it. \n\nWIBTA if I told her to just go find another hobby to preoccupy her time rather than making shit up about our relationship? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wmjVBVReiszWhodLIamJ6c8JnjEdVaJ3", "post_id": "aqtvn2", "action": {"description": "wanting another chance after I ended a relationship with someone twice", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 76}, "title": "AITA for wanting another chance after I (21M) ended a relationship with someone (21F) twice?", "text": "Long post, here goes\n\nI became friends with this girl in middle school. I was sorta interested in her and she was into me too but nothing happened. I moved away and we kept in touch on and off over social media. We ended up reconnecting my second year of college. She had a boyfriend at the time, but we started talking more often and were good friends. I eventually asked her out, but she said she would only hang out with me as a friend, not on a date. I was bummed, but took the chance to see her. It was fun, nothing happened though.\n\nShe started catching feelings for me later on and ended her relationship because she said she didn\u2019t want to cheat. We started talking more seriously, but after a month I realized I wasn\u2019t ready for something serious. She also lived a bit away and didn\u2019t have a car, so it was a 30 to 40 minute drive for me and a hassle to see her. I told her I didn\u2019t want us to talk anymore and didn\u2019t really feel like explaining why, so I stopped replying to her messages asking to talk about it. When she started getting more upset, I ghosted her and we didn\u2019t talk for six months. I realized I messed up though and asked her for another chance and to show her I was serious, that she\u2019d be my girlfriend officially this time. She was reluctant but said yes.\n\nOne thing that she had said before we started dating was that she didn\u2019t want to have sex before marriage and then after we got together, that she didn\u2019t want to unless I loved her (she was a virgin at the time). I felt like that wasn\u2019t fair because 1. she knew I wasn\u2019t a virgin and 2. I had a high libido. I also didn\u2019t think it was reasonable that I had to love her or that I wouldn\u2019t be able to sleep with my girlfriend.\n\nWe dated for about a month and during this time, I actually cheated on her with another friend of mine. I eventually started feeling the same as before about the relationship, and ended up telling her it wasn\u2019t working for me a week or two later. I didn\u2019t ghost her this time and we talked for an hour. After a serious but calm discussion, we broke up. I told her about the cheating and we talked about our issues some more. After thinking later that day about our talk, I realized I didn\u2019t want us to break up, and we got back together that same day. She then told me that she felt she wasn\u2019t being fair to me before and that if I wanted to, we could have sex since she was my girlfriend after all. I was stoked and we hooked up that night. We stayed together for another month, but I started feeling like I wasn\u2019t ready for something so serious again and just wasn\u2019t as into the relationship anymore in general. I ended up breaking up with her. She was upset and said that she felt really used, but told me she understood. After we talked about how things were, what went wrong, and the relationship in general, we stopped talking.\n\nIt\u2019s been a few months since then and I\u2019ve grown a lot as a person. I\u2019ve been doing my own thing and investing in myself, but lately I\u2019ve started thinking about her. She was really good to me and I miss our conversations. She always let me do what I want or hang out with my friends. She never asked me to come see her, but said she really appreciated when she did get to. Overall, she was really sweet and a good girlfriend. I kind of want to ask her for another chance, but I\u2019m afraid she might not be as open to a relationship.\n\nSo, Reddit, AITA for wanting to try again (again)?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 76, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 76}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xWlplNCrVJ7d3yqgWerAqFJf419DirSa", "post_id": "b8qyjn", "action": {"description": "leaving my mentally ill husband", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for leaving my mentally ill husband", "text": "My husband and I have been together 13 years. When we met I was mentally unhealthy due to some childhood stuff from being raised with two parents with personality disorders. I had terrible anxiety and bent over backwards to people please.\nIn the last few years I went and finally got effective help and was released from care. I'm not cured but I'm 1000% better.\nMy husband and I were in a spot where we were coexisting and we went to marriage counseling at my request. He refused to participate, even telling me you have to \"lie to those people\" to get out of it. After several sessions my husband refused to return because the therapist was pressing on him some about his view that he's had no choices in life, everything has been done to him.\nThe therapist told me in a private session after that he's concerned my husband has a personality disorder, possibly BPD, or bipolar.\nI had a talk with my husband and by the end of the conversation he was accusing me of having BPD. (I asked both my therapist and the marriage therapist and both say I do not)\nAt this point, it's like buying a blue car and then all you see is blue cars. I see all the symptoms and it's becoming difficult to tolerate, and like I said we were already in a rough patch, but now that I know he has mental illness I feel like if I say enough and leave, I'm an asshole.\nI know it takes so much time to accept and get treatment but he's suffered from depression off and on our entire relationship and he says he can self treat via talking to himself and that I've just become a Bible thumper but for therapy.\nAm I the asshole if I leave him? We have 4 children.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ee4F2XN4EKeOYgkqf985q3ydEKwQowwM", "post_id": "ax3mn4", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends with someone because of unreciprocated feelings", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be friends with someone because of unreciprocated feelings?", "text": "Title kind of sums it up, talking to and hanging out with her makes me feel like I've never felt for anyone before, but it's also painfully obvious that she not into me at all. While she is one of my closest friends in a new place, if I have to hear her talk about other guys any more, I'm going to di something stupid.\n\nAITA for just completely cutting her out of my life with no explanation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ki7U0sRZa5oHh8ImlkKlGs23TKuYW3YO", "post_id": "aykd4t", "action": {"description": "not wanting small children (under age 9) in my gym class", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting small children (under age 9) in my gym class?", "text": "I attend a private gym that I pay a good amount of money for, and I have found that in the past few weeks, people have been bringing their small children to my Zumba class. When I say small children- on Tuesday someone parked their scroller with a 1.5 year old child in the back of the class, and a woman brought her 5 year old child to class today. I reached out to management last week, and they responded by putting a small printed sign on the door that stated that no children under 9 were permitted in class. However, this is clearly not stopping anyone. When I emailed management on Tuesday about the baby, they never bothered to respond.\n\nI pay good money to attend this gym, and I don\u2019t mind when kids of the appropriate age join he class, because they follow the teacher\u2019s directions and participate like the adults do. However, the smaller children NEED supervision- a woman today had the nerve to ask the 10-year old standing behind me to \u201cwatch the child\u201d while the mom danced on he other side of the room. For reference, the 10-year old is not friends with this 5 year old, and she does not know this mom. I don\u2019t think anyone in the class should be responsible for having to watch out for a small child that is too young to properly participate. I fear that if I accidentally bump into a child that\u2019s running around the studio, and they get hurt, that I\u2019ll get sued.\n\nThis gym offers kids programs, so the parents can work out while their play in the \u201cKids Zone.\u201d This is not a manner of the parents having no options- these parents simply don\u2019t want to use the options available to them.\n\nI\u2019m considering no longer attending the classes because of this. It doesn\u2019t seem like this is bothering anyone else in the class. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yK31bmnqs475yNMbQOlS4exZ3nk70rwZ", "post_id": "agub3q", "action": null, "title": "AITA My (19F) friend (18F) got kicked out of her house and I didn't do anything.", "text": "My friend lives/lived in an abusive home, she told me this quite immediately after meeting. Her dad hits her and uses her like his own personal maid. Her mom takes large amounts of money claiming that she's going to buy her something she needs (car insurance, food for the week, etc) but she never does and instead spends it on jewelry for herself. Her brother uses toiletries and eats the lunches that she buys herself with what little money her mom leaves her.\n\nA lot of times when she needed a distraction I would go over and hang out with her or we'd go out and do something. Her mom picked her up from her work as she did not have a car, but most times would make her wait 3-4 hours because she \"didn't feel like driving\" (I've heard her mom say it myself) so I would pick her up instead on these days and take her home. \n\nOne time she was taken advantage of by a man when she went on a date with, and I picked up when she called me at around 2am, bawling her eyes out because she was understandably traumatized. And I hopped in my car as SOON as she told me what happened, but she begged me to stay home because she didn't want her mom to find out that she had gone out on a date past curfew. I urged her to let me pick her up but she refused.\n\nI offered to let her move in last month with permission from my mother as I still live with her, but she didn't want to move in until she had her car. And so she got a car last week. \n\nToday we were at the mall window-shopping for a bit before heading our separate ways, but when she went to turn on her car it didn't start. The battery died. She starts having a panic attack and I tell her not to worry and used one of my AAA calls to help her. She called her mom because she was panicking and it resulted in her dad showing up just to berate her for \"letting her car battery die\".\n\nAbout 2 hours ago she was blowing up my phone. I answered the first 3 calls where she went on about how miserable she was and how she wanted to end her life (I sent her the crisis hotline and begged her to call it and said \"I am not your therapist, I am your friend and you need SERIOUS help, you need a professional, I cant help the way they do. Trust me. I care about you and I'm worried\")\nAfter an hour of talking to them she seemed to calm down and she was fine. Then she started feverishly calling me but I was already overwhelmed by her and her phone calls and what she was saying. I messaged her that I did not feel like talking. Then she messaged me pics and said her dad attacked her, then followed with \"I got kicked out\". \n\nI didn't know what to do. I was at a loss for words but I was also anxious as hell and overwhelmed as fuck. I asked her where she was and what she was doing right at the moment and she just said \"yeah I tried calling you. I see now that I'm just a burden and not a friend.\"\n\nLet me mention this before finishing up, she is kind of a clingy person. She's been calling me for the last 2 months at least (and im not exaggerating) 4-5 times a day and messages me even more. At first I was alright with it, but then I realized all she ever talks about is how miserable her life is, how nothing is ever easy, she always complained about the same things that would happen to her. Of course, I listened to her because I cared about her but we never talked about any common interests we may have, or some cool movie, or anything I like, it was always about her and her interests and misfortunes. And when I didn't want to hang out with her or I couldn't, she'd be passive aggressive to me about it and made me feel bad for not hanging out with her or answering some of her calls. After a while it was just exhausting to be with her so we hung out less and less until today.\n\nAm I an asshole for not offering to pick her up so she could stay here? Because I'm starting to feel like I fucked up.\n\n**TL;DR I've done everything I can to help my friend when shit got rough for her, and now that she got kicked out of her house, she says I don't care about her for not answering her calls or rushing to let her stay in my house when it happened.**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YcA9j0KAAkxcFHExSLlMrr3ZOSiHFHzP", "post_id": "axbe8q", "action": {"description": "taking a Full Sick day when I only needed half", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Taking a Full Sick Day When I Only Needed Half?", "text": "I woke up at 4am feeling like I was going to vomit. By the time 7am rolled around (when I start work) I didn\u2019t feel any better. I text my boss and told her, and she gave me the day off. \n\nHere\u2019s where I feel like a dick: I woke up a little past noon and felt... no okay, but good enough to work. \n\nI\u2019m also a live-in nanny on a salary, so I could literally roll out of bed and go help Boss with the kids. Instead I\u2019m laying in bed and don\u2019t really have any intention towards working today, because my entire body hurts and it sounds like she doesn\u2019t need me. This is also the first sick day I\u2019ve taken off in two years, because in general unless it\u2019s stomach issues I don\u2019t feel the need to take the day off. \n\nAm I the asshole for taking more time off than I need to? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pVJXag7eE1ApdlR2xUGwwBoQspQg8sJm", "post_id": "b1uz8z", "action": {"description": "expecting my stay at home mom wife to clean and be more productive", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting my stay at home mom wife to clean and be more productive?", "text": "WIBTA if I confronted my anxiety ridden SO about lack of cleaning/productivity?\n\nI work alot of odd shift work hours, and my schedule is all over the place usually. We have a young child at home and I understand that will keep anyone from being as productive as they normally could be. \nThis is almost a pre-emptive AITA.... I don't really plan on confronting her about it, as I don't want her to be depressed and end up doing even less. \nI don't think she's ever cleaned the bathroom, vacuumed or passed the broom even. Our house isn't a sty, because I do all those things on my days off or time off as it allows. Is it wrong of me to feel like she doesn't value my limited amount of free time? \nToo much time in my opinion is spent on tablets/phones to get anything done, then she wonders where the day went. \n\nAITA for being mad when I get home and need to burn an hour or 2 doing simple things that could have been done while I was not home?\n\nI don't know what I want out of this post.....sorry for the ramblings, if it doesn't fit feel free to delete it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U1iytBI46mf13CRrcMWv76IQ2Nknju9R", "post_id": "a2rpnp", "action": {"description": "not trading my girlfriend a shiny Bulbasaur", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for not trading my girlfriend a shiny Bulbasaur?", "text": "This is going to sound incredibly petty, but please hear me out.\n\nMy girlfriend and I both play Pokemon Go which is a mobile game. Over the weekend, there was an event where you could catch shiny Pok\u00e9mon for a limited amount of time. Shiny Pokemon are essentially the exact same as regular ones, except they're a different color [example](https://i.redd.it/a54wjs8xlv121.jpg). \n\nMy favorite Pok\u00e9mon is Gengar (which is relevant info for later). My girlfriend's favorite Pok\u00e9mon of all time is Bulbasaur. There is no Pok\u00e9mon she loves more than Bulbasaur. During the event, she caught one of each type *except* Bulbasaur. I caught shiny after shiny and was able to get multiple of each Pok\u00e9mon. I even caught two Bulbasaur. \n\nI caught my second Bulbasaur just as the weekend ended. My girlfriend was there and she was clearly distraught because the event was over and she hadn't caught one. I could tell she was sad and asked why she was sad because at least we both had caught shinies.\n\nShe then expressed her disappointment that we had played all weekend in the cold rain only for her to catch everything but her favorite and that it felt like a slap in the face. She then started crying (which is when I started getting annoyed). She said it was because I did a dance every time I caught a shiny while she was still empty-handed. My dancing was meant to be a joke and I felt it was very obvious that I was joking, but she said it felt like rubbing extra salt in the wound because this happens every time there is an event. To be fair, it's true that I always get significantly more lucky than her but RNG is the mechanic of the game. Some are luckier than others.\n\nShe then mentioned the time when there was an event for the Pok\u00e9mon Gengar. On this day, she said that by the end if I wasn't able to catch a shiny, she would trade me hers even if it was the only one she had. In the midst of crying, she admitted that she didn't feel entitled to my second Bulbasaur, but that it disappointed her that she would be willing to sacrifice her single Gengar for me when I wasn't able to sacrifice one of my two Bulbasaur for her.\n\nHowever, even though I did catch a few shiny Gengar on Gengar Day, I wouldn't have felt entitled to her Gengar. Even though Bulbasaur isn't my favorite, I still wanted to keep my second one so that I could have the second evolution as well. I did not want to give it up. My annoyance was heightened by the fact that she acted so childish over a mobile game.\n\nSo Reddit, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PQRXbItkUZBZFBZBMxnO6RKk014sV6Jw", "post_id": "b32gev", "action": {"description": "not opening the door for my cousin", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for not opening the door for my cousin?", "text": "My cousin and I are pretty close and we hang out a lot. This weekend (Sunday) I asked him to pick me up something when he comes by to pick up his phone charger (because he forgot it here) and he agreed.  Monday rolls around and I\u2019m playing video games (league) with 2 of my friends and in the middle of my game I hear my door bell ring. I assume it was UPS or something and ignore. I notice I\u2019m getting multiple phone calls from my cousin and also ignore because I wasn\u2019t expecting him to drop by without notifying me, I guess he assumed I was home. Game was heated and I just ignored everything because it was a close one and just communicating back and forth with my friends. After the game I call my cousin back and he didn\u2019t pick up (still hasn\u2019t responded) and I noticed he posted a Instagram video about the situation and being pissed and deleted me as a friend. AITA for not opening the door for my cousin who was doing me a favor because I was in the middle of a video game and he never specifically told me he was stopping by that day / time ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UyrsHuSI0A3v7gyiz71GweqH44Ey4YVv", "post_id": "al367p", "action": {"description": "not liking when I was not offered breakfast by my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for not liking when I was not offered breakfast by my Girlfriend?", "text": "Hey guys, so let me explain a bit better.\n\nMy girlfriend 23F (who I have been with for over 7 months but known each other for about 4 years) and I  21M were at the Airport earlier today since I slept at her place in order to wake up early and help her with getting her to the Airport by 5:30 AM before I go to work. We decided to eat breakfast at the starbucks there and then say our farewell goodbye until this Saturday when she returns from seeing her granma.\n\nWhen we get to the starbucks, she asks for what she wants while pulling her card out, and then she proceeds to pay, and I ask: \"are you going to offer anything for me?\" And she says: \"you can pay with your money\" in a very normal attitude. This made me a bit upset since I have pretty much paid 90% of the stuff that we do or consume when we are together, including vacations and such. When we sat down she realized that I was upset and asked me: \"are you going to get something?\" And I said: \"no, i dont want anything\" to which she replied stating that I was a child for reacting like that. Unfortunately we were in a hurry and had to leave to the Security checkpoint, and she refused to hear any of my explanations of why I was upset. Which is not that she didn't got me coffe or whatever. I am upset because of the way that she just said: \"you can pay with your own money\". I tried to tell her that I always try to pay for everything and I mostly do, and she replies saying that if i am rubbing that in her face, and that also she always offer to pay stuff too even if its half-half (which is true), that none of us are obligated to pay each other's stuff. \n\nI try to explain her again that the issue is not that she didn't got me something, but rather the way that she said that. \n\nAnd it may sound bad but I really can't stop thinking about all the times that I just oay for everything and anything doesn't matter the price.\n\nWe are now upset at each other with little to no communication (she is in Cuba, we are both from there) and she even refused for me to go and pick her up at the airport when she comes back.\n\nI have tried to look at this from other angles, but I can't seem to find anything that I did wrong, except from the fact that maybe I should have saved it for a talk for when she comes back.\n\nNow my questions is: AITA?!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y5OEjWrKAiXqlvb5L8qkxD1GEb9FdtKz", "post_id": "a9y6vq", "action": {"description": "telling a friend to fuck off with her bullshit", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend to fuck off with her bullshit?", "text": "So this happened yesterday/today\n\nI will refer to myself (19M) as \"I\" and to my friend (18F) as \"X\".\n\nSo yesterday night around 11pm X asks me if she can come over and stay for the night because her parents kind of threw her out. Although I live with my parents I said yes 1 night is no problem. X then proceeded to ask me if she can stay until Sylvester since she wanted to celebrate with the same people I was going to celebrate as we have the same group of friends. She has an own apartment but it is 2h away so it sucks if she has to drive 6h just because of those 3 days. I said I need to ask my mom but I am sure it is possible. After all this I took a shower, cleaned my room and sat on my PC as I waited for her.\nAround 3am she texts me stating that she is sleeping at her parents home and asks me if she can come the next day in the morning. I said I usually sleep till early afternoon in my holidays but I will get up at around 10am. She says that's fine and she will come at around 10.\n\nI woke up today at 9:45, got up and got dressed. 15 past 10 I text her \"so what now\". I got my answer not before 11am where X stated \"I'm going to go for a coffee with friends and then I am driving home to my apartment\". I got kind of upset. I asked her why that is and she explained she had nowhere to stay and didn't want to annoy my mom.\n\nI then said to her \"next time pls be so kind and don't make me wake up early just for you. Do I look like an idiot with whom you can do whatever you want?? If you want to treat someone like dirt then go search for someone else\"\n\nShe then said \"Dont you think that is a bit much....my family is falling apart and all you think about is yourself\" I told her that this is bullshit and she blocked me\n\nPls note that the entire conversation was via WhatsApp.\n\n\nIt is not about me having to get up early or taking a shower but it is about me not being a fool. I have promised myself to not let anyone treat me like a lesser being anymore. It is about my self esteem. I cannot just always say \"Yes\" and \"Dont worry it is okay\". Also, this is not the first time she pulled something like this off.\n\nI spoke to my mom about it (God bless mothers are a thing) and she said she can understand me and that I am NTA.\n\nI still want more judgment and more opinions on the case\n\nAnd sorry for my bad English I am not a native speaker.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SFRSnQK2iz5hUYKZLY2MlQZrQ5b5FIJZ", "post_id": "a7yt11", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give up my room to my Sister and her fianc\u00e9", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting To Give Up My Room to My Sister and Her Fianc\u00e9?", "text": "On mobile. \n\nI\u2019m on a six week vacation from work, and I chose to visit my parents for a month. I\u2019m currently staying in their only guest bedroom. I\u2019ve entirely unpacked and settled in, including putting all my clothes in the drawers and starting an art project in the only space in the house that will allow it (it\u2019s the only place consistently quietly that the new puppy can\u2019t get to that also has a surface of the right hight for my drawing board). \n\nMy sister text me three days ago telling - not asking - that I move out of the bedroom to make room for her and her fianc\u00e9. This would include repacking all of my belongings to move into the loft the next room over, which has no privacy. I said no, but I know the expectation is that I\u2019ll move  out for her anyways. That wouldn\u2019t bother me if she was only going to stay one or two nights, but she called my dad yesterday and we don\u2019t know how long she\u2019s staying. She\u2019s already started the drive out here (she lives in another state less than six hours away), and she\u2019s making plans for her fianc\u00e9\u2019s grandmother to visit us while they\u2019re here. Presumably it\u2019s going to be at least a week. \n\nAm I the asshole for thinking that they should take the blowup bed in the loft, not me? I\u2019m going to be here until the 3rd of January, and during that time I got a part time job as an event worker, so I\u2019ll be coming home very late some nights extremely tired, and wanting to just sleep somewhere comfortable. My sister is on vacation and supposed to only be here 1-2 nights. \n\nTl;dr - I don\u2019t want to move out of the guest bedroom for someone whose going to be there for less time than I am, but I know it\u2019s going to cause a fight if I don\u2019t. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XwVerlZtfGuUS2B0aprWSG7lfr5sWFXA", "post_id": "b1msk9", "action": {"description": "feeling weird that my girlfriend just told me that she tried to be a sugar baby", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITAH For feeling weird that my girlfriend just told me that she tried to be a sugar baby?", "text": "Last night I was drinking with my roommates and my girlfriend. I've been seeing my girlfriend for about 8 months now. When we were falling asleep she told me that a little before we met she signed up for multiple sugar baby websites because she needed money to travel. I was immediately speechless. She is a very reserved girl who never did casual hookups and I really liked that about her. She told me how multiple old men sent her messages asking for pictures. She says that she never sent them any photos. Part of me questions if that is true. I initially reacted by asking her why traveling was more important than her self respect. She did not like that and immediately started to cry. We argued for several minuets and I felt so differently about her. I lost some respect for her when she told me that. Then I went out for a smoke break to collect my thoughts, and when I came back I apologized to her for saying the things I did and I thought I felt okay about it. But I can't stop getting the thought out of my head of her sending old dudes naked photos. I really wanna bring it up again but I feel like I'm the asshole. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xB2eqs3CO1HcvqCndIvznM9SoVM44m3a", "post_id": "9vykb7", "action": {"description": "telling my best friend to go deal with her feelings on her own because I'm fucking busy", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For telling my best friend to go deal with her feelings on her own because I'm fucking busy ?", "text": " I (21m) have been her best friend since school , amd we've been there for each other for a long time now.\n\nLately she was going through a hard rejection from a guy with whowm she had a no strings thing going on and fell in love with. She's been dealing with his unrequited love and hes been seeing someone else seriously. \n\nShe's accused me of being selfish and not being there for and being an asshole , and held me responsible for \"The death of our friendship\" , even though I had never really been that to her.\n\n It started when she saw a picture the guy with the girl of facebook and had a breakdown.\n\n I've lately being dating this beautiful, amazing girl who I spend a lot of time with and cant be there for her on call whenever she wants me to. I tried explaining to her that she should deal with stuff like that on her own sometimes and learn to deal with her emotions better and that I cant be there all the time. She has a history of depression but I have been patient , still am.\n\nIve sat through countless hours of phonecalls and videochats at the expense of my work schedule .\n\nShe had sent me a picture of her diary where's she written horrible stuff about me , and Im tired of trying to deal with her shit , am I the asshole here ?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JMqgwoSuWGuDCooYFJAu8ZM766jS2JVy", "post_id": "b6qs5e", "action": {"description": "thinking a rare-uncommon piercing is something you might want to talk to your partner about before hand", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for thinking a rare-uncommon piercing is something you might want to talk to your partner about before hand?", "text": "My girlfriend (we\u2019ve lived together for five years, dated for six) just came home with a septum piercing. She\u2019s always had a nose ring on one side, (which I always liked) and just added the septum today. I had no idea she had planned to do this, and when I asked her when she\u2019d decided she told me she\u2019s wanted it for a while, but never wanted to talk to me about it because she was afraid I\u2019d tell her I wouldn\u2019t want her to. I still haven\u2019t told her I liked it, because honestly I think it\u2019s a little much, and I wouldn\u2019t feel right lying to her by saying I liked it. I\u2019ve always considered myself an open minded person, if a little conservative in home life, but always up for a good-faith debate, and flexible. Am I just way off base here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OTc2btqEat0HjMRgRtbX6tE6LDgTq9b5", "post_id": "ba5v8s", "action": {"description": "asking my family to clean their filthy house before a family gathering", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my family to clean their filthy house before a family gathering?", "text": "My sister wants to host a family potluck / grill out at her house. I'm all about potlucks and I'm totally down to make something tasty for my family.\n\nOnly problem is that everyone living in the house, 7 people including 4 young children, is a total fucking slob. It's literally disgusting all the time: every square inch of table and counter space is covered in random shit, there's never soap or hand towels in the bathroom, they don't vacuum ever, the inside of the microwave has never been cleaned, you have to step over or make a path through all the toys and mess on the ground, etc.\n\nBasically, my family is trash and they make no effort to hide it. It's so bad that I'm literally embarrassed to bring my gf to my family's house.\n\nI want to tell my sister to have their house cleaned up before we visit next week. Am I being unreasonable?\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ULWU64YFbJEdJzFp4z6UlEUrs2Qx0PVP", "post_id": "anjfsm", "action": {"description": "leaving when the lecturer was late pass the cut off period that allows students to leave and telling the other students that they could leave", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For leaving when the lecturer was late pass the cut off period that allows students to leave and telling the other students that they could leave?", "text": "We had a test, an essay for a English based course and the teacher was late. I am (was) the class rep so i acted as the medium between the students and the lecturer but the day I volunteered to be the class rep because no one else was, i left class without taking her contact details. It was the 3rd week of school and I didn't have any motivation to really give my best yet. I also somewhat hate the teacher because of a few actions here and there that I pieced together her personality was at the very least mildly awful so that paired with my lack of being interested at the time cause me to not even want to speak to her.\n\nThis week, when we were supposed to have the test, i came to the class early. I waited the allotted time, I checked the staff room, asked them to call her without them getting an answer but I couldn't get her. I couldn't be bothered with another absentee lecturer (I'm getting that a lot for certain classes) so I left. To be fair and not to let the other students assumed I just left them out the loop I told them that the time to leave was approaching and they could leave. I left and told them why and they can if they wanted to. Some left but most stayed as i heard from another member of the class he was the one that also told me that the lecturer came to class. I searched for the lecturer after I saw him and found her [lecturer] in the classroom that the class had just had the test in. \n\nShe told me that the class stated that I was encouraging them to leave and that I left because I didn't want to do the test. She also said I was in the wrong for not waiting because she could have been late for any number of reasons like her having a flat tire or meeting in an accident (her words, not mine). She said as class rep I should have waited at least an hour before saying that anyone could leave. She also broke the news that the class had selected another rep (even though it was clarified in the group that she selected them, not the class).\n\nShe also claimed that as class rep I was to lean towards helping out her and what I was doing was more or less fighting against her as I didn't want to take the test and that if I wanted to do that I should have been a Student Union rep.\n\nTL;DR I left class early and told the class why and that they could too but the lecturer said I'm at fault and that's why she removed my voluntary position as class rep. \n\nAssume that I wrote this a little biased because this sounds kinda biased towards making me seem like the victim. Take my words with a grain of salt and ask me questions for clarification. I want to know if I really handled this wrong.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WwgT7EePTP4xqcLI6oQi2Ga669cd6yo2", "post_id": "b47vyo", "action": {"description": "never acknowledging my brother's girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for never acknowledging my brother\u2019s girlfriend?", "text": "Without getting into too much detail, I\u2019ve been essentially no-contact with my older brother for several months, except for when we have to occasionally see each other at our parent\u2019s house. We don\u2019t speak because he\u2019s put me in danger due to his substance abuse and alcoholism, and he\u2019s mad at me for not condoning his behavior.\n\nHis girlfriend, who is several years younger than him and younger than myself, has always been extremely rude to both me and my parents. She enters their house without acknowledging my mother when she answers the door, she rummages through my parents\u2019 fridge/cabinets without permission, she shouts and laughs late into the night when my parents are trying to sleep, she even has some of her mail sent to my parents\u2019 address because \u201c[my brother] said I could.\u201d Initially I simply gave a nod when I saw her, but now I just don\u2019t say or do anything. My parents don\u2019t want to ban her from the house for fear that my brother will get angry and engage in self-destructive behavior (but that\u2019s another issue altogether). Brother said I\u2019m an asshole for \u201cnot welcoming her,\u201d but I assume it\u2019s better that I say nothing than blow up at her. Does that make me an asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nvk99VsBul3r0bfscvCM6uP3QmNwnP19", "post_id": "a6rstv", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help decorate the Christmas tree", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to help decorate the Christmas tree?", "text": "A little while ago, my mother decided she wanted to decorate her house for Christmas this year out of the blue, which isn't something we have done since my parents divorced 4 years ago.\n\nI told her I didn't want to help her and her new fiance decorate the house because she didn't even bother to buy new ornaments, she reused the same ornaments that we all used to use when I was a child. I also told her that I didn't want to decorate because decorating was the one time my parents wouldn't constantly argue, they would tolerate each other for enough time to decorate the house, and it felt as though it was shitting on a special part of my childhood to do it with her and her fiance. \n\nShe started to get extremely upset because she felt as though I was obligated to help since I live under her roof (I do not, I spend the majority of my time with my dad and visit her occasionally), and she continued to act extremely passive aggressively towards me for the rest of the day. \n\nEventually, I caved and agreed to help decorate the tree to make her stop treating me in such a way. I'm leery that I may have been the asshole while decorating because I was visibly upset and unhappy through the entire process, and I refused to even act like I was enjoying it in the slightest.\n\nSo, people of Reddit, I turn to you. Am I the asshole for not wanting to decorate with my mom?\n\nTL;DR: Mom decided to decorate which I didn't want to do because of the history behind it, which upset her and she became passive aggressive. Eventually I helped but I was visibly upset and unhappy while doing so.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "gbrsiUkLNRxENdqUJzk1nqV4l6YluRXW", "post_id": "b6o0ic", "action": {"description": "kicking out my 25yo (26yo next month) son and his girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 291, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA for kicking out my 25yo (26yo next month) son and his girlfriend?", "text": "My son is on Reddit daily and will recognize my post immediately, so a throwaway would be pointless.  Will still try to keep identifying details out to maintain his privacy from his friends.\n\nMy son graduated HS in 2012.  He spent that first year working full time in a warehouse with a particularly demanding boss.  He learned a lot about the workforce and developed an amazing work ethic.  But he quickly realized that he wanted to obtain his college degree so he started community college part time.  About a year later he got an apartment with his then girlfriend.  He still was going to college and working.  After a year he wanted to come home so that he could go to school full time, work part time and finish school quicker.  This is where things go downhill. \n \nWe were happy to have him come home and concentrate on school.  We told him that we'd pay his car insurance and phone but he would be responsible for his car payment.  We also stressed that he would have to help out around the house in lieu of rent/utilities.  He would be responsible for cleaning his bathroom every other week, helping with dishes, trash, and vacuum once a week.  Suffice to say, he barely did anything.  It caused a lot of tension in my marriage.  We had many sit down convos with him, it would get better for a week, then right back how it was.  \n\nFastforward to last summer...he's been dating a really great girl who we like and they made plans to go to a university out of state starting Jan 2019.  Her home situation was very stressful, she already put in 2 years at community college and 1 semester at a very hard local university, and she has a great work ethic also.  So we decide to offer for her to stay with us until they go.  Within 2 weeks of her moving in the plan changed from leaving in Jan to leaving in August!  Not what we signed up for.  We have a sit down convo and they want to save up more money before they go, she's going to work 2 jobs, they need more time to find and apt, etc.  So we all compromise and decide June 1st will be the move out date. \n \nFastforward to Dec and I'm about to lose my mind.  Our son barely does anything at all.  He might clean the bathroom every 6wks, he might put dishes away every 2wks, virtually nothing.  She has cleaned the bathroom twice since Sept.  That's it.  \nI was over it.  The day after Xmas, I sat him down and told him he had to pay me $100/mo cleaning fee and they had to be out by Apr 1st.  I told him I was starting to resent him for not helping, that I've taught him everything I can as a parent, that I'll always love him, but it's better for our relationship if he goes sooner rather than later.  He was livid.  He's barely spoken to me since.  \n\nI feel like I made the right decision as a parent because it really felt like enabling at this point.  But I also feel horrible because maybe I'm being too hard and expecting too much?  I just know that I love him and my heart is breaking.\n\nTl,Dr: kicking my son out for acting entitled", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 289, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 291, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qUwcXbWdopmTMTik6IvyH8IINumTAKPS", "post_id": "a2bksf", "action": {"description": "retaliating against my sister", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for retaliating against my sister", "text": "I'm on mobile so bare (bear? Bare?) with me.\nBefore the other before I need to say I was a bit scrawny back as a 12 year old, easy to push around. Now I'm taller than the rest of my family and not as easy to push around.\n\nBefore I get into the incident at hand, I need to explain a bit of whats happened in the past. So my older sister used to bully me, in the sense that she was degrading me at every moment and basically treating my like a slave, naive me thought it was just how older siblings act. After a hell of a long time of that and many other things that aren't relevant happening she left the house at like 16 ish, I was 12 at the time. And so 3-4 years later she just magically comes back to the house with 0 prior warning as to what's going on (my dad brought her back without telling my mum who is the person who runs the house). And so 3 weeks of her constant shit and I just stop talking to her because she's a mega bitch, but at this point was the last straw.\n\nBTW: at the time of the incident she's 20, I'm 16\n\nThis point: my cousins came over to the house to visit (lovely kids, but they're young and get rowdy) and I was playing with the youngest when I see my younger sister (not mega bitch older sister) putting her foot against the older cousins back (who is still fairly young), I don't scold her but I do tell her not to do it because you don't kick people. MB (how I'll refer to older sister from now on) decides this is prime opportune to mock me for whatever reason, and after tons of her shit I just told her that nobody was talking to her and to butt out. She didn't like this and got pissed. \n\nFF to after I've helped put the kids in the car as it was getting late and they needed to go home. Before I went outside MB ran upstairs for a minute, waited until I came back inside and waited for me in the living room. My mum tells me to do something so I ignore MB's presence for now and do what she says. When I come back in MB comes up to my face and starts threatening me. Due to me not being scared of her and being taller I stood my ground as she swung at me once. I didn't retaliate straight away as I was taught to let girls swing once, but if they think they can do it again restrain them. \n\nAs I stepped back she got in my face and swung again, so I did what any sane person would do, and restrained her against the sofa, through a mixture of pushing her, using my weight against her and pulling her hair once (keeping in mind this entire time she's still attacking me). I get off her after she's no longer able to hit me and push her away. When we're both stood back up she still swings at me but I hold her arm to stop her. Of course I'm pissed at this point so I scream at her at the top of my lungs to go die or leave because I'm sick of her shit. \n\nSo she scurries off to my father's house to tell him what happened, and because she hit me multiple times before I retaliated I felt I was in the right. \n\nMy father comes home and screams at me I'm in the wrong, which is complete bullshit. \n\nSo reddit, AITA? \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TIgDqnojd1aPdjbvSJaQGFm4k58YiUXz", "post_id": "a572q0", "action": {"description": "not wanting to babysit my husband's nephew and niece", "pronormative_score": 58, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to babysit my husband's nephew and niece", "text": "So here's the deal: I recently moved to the States from Canada on a fiance visa to be with my now husband. Due to the circumstances I am unable to legally work for a couple months while we work on getting me my employment authorization document, adjustment of status, etc. I have a lot of time to myself since my husband often works long hours but I've been enjoying the time to re-immerse myself into old hobbies, volunteering, and re-decorating the house. It's very relaxed but I had a super-stressful job beforehand, and, coupled with the move, it's really nice to finally have a break.\n\nMy husband's sister has children (1.5y & 3y) who are wonderful -- but who I suddenly felt expected to babysit whenever. Since I am not working currently his family seems to have the impression that I am just sleeping the days away or otherwise doing nothing -- which my husband and I have told them was not the case. A lot of times I would barely get any notice. Like maybe a text an hour or 2 before she's at my doorstep dropping off the kids. However I do not enjoy playing babysitter at all. I don't even want kids of my own and watching someone else's every other day is starting to drain me. \n\nMy husband and I talked it over and he agrees it's a bit much -- after all, watching the children cuts into our own personal time that we get together. So recently I've told his sister that, no, I wouldn't be around as an on demand babysitter anymore. Unless it was an emergency I wouldn't be available to watch her children every other day. This wasn't taken well by the family. In their view she's a struggling single mom and I'm just a lazy person who rather sit on my ass than help out family. I've put my foot down though. I've told them even though I am currently not working, I do have ways to spend my free time and do not want to spend that time babysitting. I have my husband's support but I still feel really bad for making things awkward for him with his family. Also despite feeling like I've been taken advantage of by the SIL I sympathize with her situation -- and his family are good people for the most part.  \n\nSo AITA for not wanting to babysit my SIL's children, even though I technically have the time and space to do so?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 58, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 58, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KraToqvCOyxWzOSgXk6igJelyYvWOPjz", "post_id": "askpky", "action": {"description": "choosing video games over my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA: for choosing video games over my girlfriend?", "text": "      Me and gf have spent the past couple days together (Spring break) playing video games, movies, etc. And she wants to hang out again. \n\nMe and my buddies also just got a new game that we wanted to play. My friend is leaving on a trip to America, so we wanted to start before he left.\n\nWhen I told her this today she got mad at me, kinda the \u201cMe or video games\u201d type thing. Accuses me of wanting space, I think she\u2019s annoying, which of course both I denied (Love her to bits!)  I just need a second opinion.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yiQIC99rWehTjfbtvSJCYds50fYXrPLH", "post_id": "b9k52i", "action": {"description": "telling my friend that jealousy is toxic", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend that jealousy is toxic?", "text": "I've posted on her before and this is about that same person I had an issue with last time. For simplicity, F is the friend, and GF is good friend.\n\nGF was texting in the group chat how she was trying to have less negativity in her life by working on being less jealous and by holding less grudges. F said that jealousy and grudges are bad and can be healthy. GF got a little annoyed and they had a little spat. Towards the end of it I went on the chat and said that jealousy is mainly toxic.\n\nF replied by saying that letting it control you is bad ( I agree) but using grudges as a way to avoid people isn't. Then she said that \"jealousy is natural, don't pretend you've never had it\". I never said I didn't feel jealousy. Then she said that I was basically saying that sadness is toxic. This continued and I was responding with small sentences disagreeing with her, but trying to stay calm and explain my opinion.\n\nF kept trying to put words in my mouth and was making conclusions so I finally snapped and told her to shut up and let me tell her what I mean without being accused every ten seconds. She agreed. I explained that I thought jealousy in small doses isn't good but isn't super bad, but that jealousy is a slippery slope that can easily lead to toxic emotions.\n\nF changed the topic to grudges and said they were healthy and useful for getting rid of toxic people. I sent her the Google definition which said that grudges are persistent feelings of bad feelings (which made F's point invalid because she said you could forget about a grudge for years at a time). F just said a persistent thought is impossible.\n\nI gave her a personal example of what I've gone through with jealousy as I have a lot of feelings of inferiority that stem from being jealous.  F told me that those feelings weren't toxic and that there was a big difference between being sad and being so jealous it's toxic.\n\nWe argued some more, and finally I told her that jealousy isn't healthy and that I was done with the argument. F just responded by saying that she thought jealousy was neutral and there was not hurry to fix it.\n\nI'm left wondering if I should have been more calm or even just left the issue alone. I'm evening wondering if I should be friends with her anymore because she has done this thing before by calling me manipulative for telling her that I've gone through a painful experience and I couldn't forgive her friend for convincing people she was going to do that experience for laughs. \n\nTL;DR: friend and me argued about if jealousy is toxic and I'm left wondering if I was a jerk in the fight and if I should even be her friend anymore.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7VhFAzUYnIkxwUIAMZPcKQidqXFeJIZQ", "post_id": "ana6up", "action": {"description": "making my best friend feel like shit", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA- For Making my best friend feel like shit?", "text": "So for some context me and my best friend, whom I'll call Alison for the sake of this, have been pretty close ever since we met in 8th grade. My Junior year of high school I had to move I was lucky enough to to have moved back to graduate with my friends and I was able to get my last class with all 3 of my favorite friends. This was August 2017. Now me and Alison had a plan of going to Atlanta at the end of September but about a week before I scolded her for cheating calling her actions stupid and she should know better. She texted me that night saying I was being unfair and then her mother texted me saying it was rude calling her stupid and should apologize for making Alison cry. I did but told her if she doesn't like something I say she should tell me then and there not over text. We went to Atlanta (me driving us to and fro)\n\nFast forward to 2018 she comes out to me that she's bi sexual which i was excited about her telling me so I ask how long she's know and why she didn't tell me before (she didn't want her family to know). Couple weeks later she tells me she's dating this 9th grader. She and her girlfriend and the girlfriends friends are who she is mostly hanging out with so I kinda felt left out and tried to arrange plans to hangout with only her and some time her girlfriend. Doesn't go so well. We're hanging out less but since it's tennis season were mostly hanging out then. On the way back from an away game I'm tired and start trying to joke around the way we usually do by making fun of each other (and our flaws). She isn't in the mood and is only looking at her and Everytime I ask if she's ok she says she is. Once I get back to my apartment I get a text saying that I was being an asshole for saying nasty things about her. It hurt knowing I caused her pain so I wrote back saying sorry and to correct my actions in the moment she said she will. \n\nFast forward a month we're all making plans for the senior trip. She and our friend (let's call him Dave) have decided they are going to sit together. I'm worried because she started only answering me with short messages or phrases. I feel like I have done something to upset her again so because I didn't want anything to be awkward around us I confronted her and asked why she we weren't connecting like we used to and she simply said that she was just busy from school and that's all and that she wasn't upset with me so I took her word for it and kept planning our trip to Florida with our school as well as the trip to Savannah in may that we had decided to take(she tried to see if I would take her girlfriend and her best friend but my car doesn't fit that many people and luggage so I declined idk if that made her mad).\n\n2 weeks latter we get to Orlando I'm stressed trying to have fun but also hang out with people I haven't been easily able to hang out with (I had a lot of shit on my plate). So I wasn't able to hangout with her. The next morning we get back to school and I was supposed to take Alison with me but she called her mom and her mom picked her up so I didn't really care I was tired. I get back and I get a huge long text saying that she was scared to talk to me because I would make comebacks and that I had changed and how I was the reason we hadn't been talking as well as how she missed to \"old days\"...\nI snapped I started crying I was stressed and tired and while I'm sure she felt the same way she just had to have this happen! So what I had written in response was that she was the one who changed not me and I had people to back me up. And that making fun of each other was just my way of showing my love, I will say I went overboard and called her self absorbed, and that I made fun of everyone the same way I did her it was in good fun. So asked her why she didn't confront me a week ago when I asked her what was wrong if it wasn't something that I just did that made her upset. She asked why I ignored her at the park and I said I didn't told her the same reasons as above-mentioned. She then had the audacity to ask why I decided to sith with one of my other friends and not her when she had already planned on sitting with Dave before I could ask. Then she continues to blame me for things that went wrong or could have been prevented by simply talking and I told her she should take responsibility for what she does wrong as well. She told me I was causing her stress from my \"mean comments\" to which I replied that she never tried to stop me not once has she told me that I went to far. Every time I tried to talk to her it felt like I was being ignored I still have the texts in the end I told her to own up to her wrongs because I said sorry and I owned up to my wrongs but if she wasn't willing to do that then we shouldn't be friends. \n\nBy the time may rolled around she had said sorry and we still went to Savannah(again I drove back and forth) where her GFS best friend showed up but her gf couldn't go because her parents didn't want her to go unless someone else took her. I ended up being the third wheel.\n\nWe didn't talk too much after wards we took prom pictures and went laser tagging with her gf(whom her mom doesn't know about still to this day despite taking her to prom), the best friend  one of our other friends and my bf at the time. We took graduation pics together and we didn't talk for a while I invited my two other favorite friends and another really good friend to go to a escape room( I feel bad that I didn't invite her but she was not someone I was really that happy to hang out with at the time.\n About a month later she called me in the middle of the night (I was visiting family so 2 my time 12 hers?) Crying about how much she missed hanging out and I felt bad and agreed I had been missing her but I still feel like I was an ass for doing allot of shit that made her upset. We talk a little more now but I still need closure on weather what I did was bright or not from a outside perspective.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ohtVrDYQ06xhcTvll6NkaJTyE27QiUxK", "post_id": "9vfuqt", "action": {"description": "staying up later to play video games on my own than I do together with a friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for staying up later to play video games on my own than I do together with a friend", "text": "TL:DR; an online friend is mad at me for staying up later playing on my own, than I do when I play with them, AITA?\n\n~So, some explanation beforehand, in this circumstance the person considering me the asshole didn't know some small reasons that led me to doing this so I'll be trying to explain from their point of view, only with the information that they had. ~\n\nI met a person playing Destiny online and we became PSN friends, Pretty soon we started to usually play a couple hours together almost every day, stopping around 9 pm GMT  (they live in the states so they're 5 hours behind) as I have work and I have to get up early  (at least for me) in the morning. There are some days where i stayed a little bit later (like up to an hour) but only a couple of times so very rarely.\n\nToday we didn't play as I got home late after having coffee with some workmates, and the friend in question had to leave for work by 9 (4 in their time) no prob there, I decided to play a singleplayer game, it had been a while since I had played on my own and I missed it. At around 11 they message me asking if I don't have work tomorrow, I say I do and joke how staying up this late is a bad decision on my part.\n\nThey're pretty mad at me now, as I almost always stop playing at 9 when playing together, but now that 'they're away' I'm staying up 2 hours later than usual. They unfriend me pretty quick soon after. \n\nSo I guess my question is, am I the asshole for spending less time playing with them, than I do playing by myself.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Edcpzoql2rAXkdCFKpZwL9EvLFD1AGO5", "post_id": "an84zy", "action": {"description": "not approving of my Boyfriend's friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Approving of My Boyfriend's Friend?", "text": "For the past while, my boyfriend (18m) has been talking about an internet friend he made at some point in the past, some American girl named L. Recently, he showed me her profile on Instagram and I was disgusted by what I saw.\n\nL is barely 13 years old. I know his friends aren't my business, but I just find it incredibly sketchy that my 18 year old boyfriend is friends with a middle schooler, and I openly disapprove of this. I think she needs to find friends her own age, and I have this opinion of all friendships with such a dramatic age difference at such a formative age. Maybe my issue with this stems from the fact that I was repeated abused by older 'friends' as a 12/13/14 year old girl, but the whole situation makes me really uncomfortable to the point where I can't even hear him say her name without feeling kind of sickened by it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xkgHWx0U3cUbXsQ0mTsGLW4pSXB31kys", "post_id": "a47ygr", "action": {"description": "reporting a teammates potential drug use", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for reporting a teammates potential drug use?", "text": "Everything in these exchanges is quoted (except for one paraphrase, and I know for a fact that the paraphrase is an accurate representation of the statement). \n\nAt my school, I\u2019m on the debate team. In my debate type we\u2019re in teams of two. Now, for a bit of context, the coach of the team is already a bit frustrated with the members of my debate type, so we try to smooth relations with them whenever possible. There was a tournament scheduled to go on today, that I was not going to with my partner, but there were two pairs of partners going to it, one varsity pair and one novice pair. \n\nToday, the day of a tournament, while we were at school, a member of another partnership (I\u2019ll call him \u201cX\u201d for clarity) messages his partner (Y) asking if he could get any Adderall. Y responded with no, and said that if X wanted Adderall he could get his own *at this point Y didn\u2019t know that X was planning on taking it for the tournament*. About a minute later, X texts back and says (paraphrase) \u201cI got some Adderall, you should pay me back $5 on Monday\u201d. At which point, Y informs my partner, who shortly informs me. We communicate over text, and Y decides he\u2019s not comfortable going to the tournament. \n\nAt the same time, we let one of the novice partners (Z) know (in person) that Y will no longer be able to give him a ride to the tournament. Z asks why, and so we tell him about the Adderall. Z thinks about it for a little, and says that he\u2019s not comfortable with going to the tournament either. (Bit more context, varsity members have a huge influence on how novices act, so I was also worried about the influence that X\u2019s behavior would have on Z. I didn\u2019t want to draw him into it, but I didn\u2019t feel comfortable letting Z go to the tournament with X if Z wasn\u2019t informed of the issue) At this point, my partner and I decide that we need to let our debate coach know, since this will mean both teams dropping from the tournament. So my partner, Z, and I talk with our coach, and let them know what X was doing. The coach thanks us (mentioning that this could\u2019ve jeopardized their job had X gotten caught) drops both teams from the tournament,  and says that they will talk with the administration, X, and X\u2019s parents. \n\nThen, we message a group chat for all of the members of our debate type, informing them that both teams have been dropped. X is informed of this, and when he asks why we tell him that we informed the coach. At this point, X gets angry at us, saying that telling her was \u201cunnecessary and uncool\u201d, and accusing us of trying to ruin his life. \n\nPast that point, X gets angrier and angrier, even going so far as to admit that he was trying to shift the blame on to Y.  \n\nX said \n\u201cI'm asked to do something\u201d \n\u201cI do it, and then I am demonized while I'm not present\u201d \n\nto which I responded \n\u201cIf you\u2019re trying to shift blame to Y, stop\u201d\n\nX then sent \n\u201cIf you're trying to ruin my life, stop\u201d. \n\u201cIt should be on him\u201d. \n\nIn that order, no messages in between, so it\u2019s clear he wanted Y to take the blame.\n\nThis is the first time I\u2019ve had to deal with a team conflict this serious, and X seems extremely angry. So, am I the asshole for letting the coach know?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WIMZahy77GREkl49zTml3o9gBgBeKQcr", "post_id": "b99frb", "action": {"description": "asking to pay half the bills with my roommate after he flips out when I buy a two dollar measuring tape", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking to pay half the bills with my roommate after he flips out when I buy a two dollar measuring tape.", "text": "\nA little bit of context: \n\nI was living with my grandmother when my friend (25M) offers me (19M) a room so I can get away from my abusive family. I take it and agree to pay for half the rent and food, plus gas for rides back and forth to work. \n\nEventually his finances became a bit unstable so I agreed to pay for all the rent and he pay for the food, which results in me paying more towards things than him and I don\u2019t mind a bit. \n\nEventually he\u2019s become very controlling about finances. I can\u2019t get anything that isn\u2019t a basic necessity without him berating me about it, saying I have a shopping addiction or feel high of buying things. \nKeep in mind this is after paying for my due share or all of the rent and food or all of the food. To clarify when I say \u201call\u201d I mean the amount needed for both of us. \n\nLast two weeks he\u2019s been the worst due to his car breaking down and him needing to get a new car, if he were to fix his current one it would cost him more than if he were to buy a new one. I agree to help pay for his car and also pay for the rent and food so he can save a bit to get the car. \n\nAll of a sudden he then wanted to know all of my financial transactions and bills and why I have them or why I do them and pre approve them thru him.\n\nIf anyone\u2019s wondering why I didn\u2019t just move out on my own, I had recently arrived from another country where I had lived with my parents who were extremely abusive and was just a bit confused on everything. \n\nAnyways, the AITA question.\n\nI bought a measuring tape for my waist, which cost 1.99 online. After tax it was a bit over that but I don\u2019t think that\u2019s the big issue. \n\nI get the package and as I bring it in he asks what it is, I proceed to tell him how I got it and how much it cost. He then flips out over it, but doesn\u2019t say much due to his Uber arriving for work. \n\nLater he rants at me thru text messages, telling me how irresponsible I am. How he can\u2019t trust me, that we should split the bills evenly. I tell him that I didn\u2019t think a 1.99 USD purchase is worth mentioning or even a big deal, it\u2019s not like we were broke and our paychecks will come in a few days and I can help him get his car. I tell him sure we can split the bills and he can start paying his part. \n\n Then goes on to say how his life sucks, how everyone is against him. How\u2019s he\u2019s just human clay for everyone? Talks about how everyone doesn\u2019t give him a break, says I don\u2019t care about him. Then says that, that has made him very angry, wanting to end it and how depressed he is. Also says he feels like he\u2019s taking advantage of. \n\nAfter talking a bit he\u2019s agreed to pay half of everything and wrote up a contract and so on. Currently in here feels very tense. \n\nAITA for this, I\u2019m trying to think if there\u2019s any way I could be, outsider opinions really welcomed...\n\nI\u2019d do a tl;dr but I feel it would miss too many details. \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "quE8GbVsLL27K5eHYz3qmDc401QfuGWK", "post_id": "b9hch5", "action": null, "title": "AITA to myself for delaying my move from a toxic environment for a final night with my cat?", "text": "So some context; When I was 18, I moved in with my at the time boyfriend. We broke up and I continued living there and it was just sort of an all around toxic situation for the both of us, even when we were together. A few months ago, we decided that by the end of the lease that we would both be moving out and our other roommate would stay, but after a huge fight with my ex last Thursday, I off the whim decided that I'm just going to be moving out a few months early. It's just a very toxic environment and I decided I was done dealing with it. \n\nI told my best friend that I was going to be moving out ASAP.  The majority of my stuff by now is out and at my best friends place since that's where I was going to be moving in after my lease was up, but now I'm sort of running into a mental dilemma with myself. \n\nI fucking LOVE my cat, however, I can't take her with me due to him having two dogs and his family not wanting another animal which is understandable. So,  since my ex and I both adopted her, he's keeping her since he's going to be in a much more flexible living space with that. I've always loved cats so much, but was almost never able to keep a cat since my family would always move every 1-2 years due to financial instabilities. She's a such a nice baby, very laid back and quiet, SUPER loving and will cuddle with you, comes when called, etc. Although, I feel like my best friend finds it weird/bs that I'm really grieving over essentially losing my cat and missing her like this. \n\nWe both want the move to be done and over with, so he suggested finishing the move tomorrow and then staying tomorrow, but I really want to wait until Saturday that way I can prepare myself for one last night with her. I'm sure it sounds silly, but I'm just really attached to her since she would always cuddle up to me when I was stuck in a depressed state or crying and she would just be around me when I was upset and etc. To everybody else, I feel like its stupid what I'm doing, but even now I'm just heart broken that I've got to leave without her, even though I'm sure she won't care.\n\n Am I just being a weirdo/asshole for wanting to delay the move from my toxic roommates just to spend a last night with my cat? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sXDn9fCAYPEL6baxJjnZtupEMcINfxip", "post_id": "aamyco", "action": {"description": "not getting my mom cigarettes", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn\u2019t get my mom cigarettes?", "text": "My mom has been trying to quit smoking for a long time, but sometimes she asks me to go out to get her a pack of cigarettes. I try to tell her that she doesn\u2019t need it, but I always end up going because I\u2019d rather not start any drama. Anyways, would I be the asshole if I just told her \u201cNo\u201d for once?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UqcVoHscJZVXppRHmwSXV7fZ42rtbe1T", "post_id": "ak30u6", "action": {"description": "not realizing my ex was sexually harassed", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not realizing my ex was sexually harassed?", "text": "Throwaway for anonymity. Also, sorry for the long post, but I felt like a detailed timeline would be best. Anyway, here goes:\n\nI broke up with my ex after dating her for a month and a half. The reason I broke up with her at the time was because I felt like she was becoming manipulative. She had mental health issues I tried my best to help her with, but the emotional burden was getting really heavy on me especially since she would guilt trip me/threaten to self harm/threaten to kill herself if I wasn't able to satisfy her need for validation, etc. While I wanted to help, I felt like I was not in a good position to do so. \n\nWhen I broke up with her over call, it actually went pretty well and I thought we could end on good terms. An hour after the breakup, she texted me \"oh by the way, I cheated on you lol\" (almost verbatim) which made me angry as shit. Particularly because the way she said it made it sound like she didn't care and specifically tried to spite me. Turns out a few weeks into our relationship she made out with some guy at some party while drunk, and I was out of the country. \n\nI told her how angry I was, but after a few hours she messaged me again saying she didn't actually cheat on me and it was just something she made up to hurt my feelings. Why she would make something like that up is beyond me, but I told her her manipulative behavior plus her immaturity meant I didn't care if she was lying or not, I was done with her. \n\nAfter that, I tried to cut off communication. She would still message me, literally threatening to kill herself if I didn't reply, and even went to the length of sending me suicide notes and sending pictures of the building she wanted to jump off. This was super fucking alarming, but I also felt like she was trying to manipulate me into staying, so I had to tread carefully. I told her to please get professional help because I couldn't help her anymore, and then stopped replying. \n\nAfter a few weeks, she messaged me saying she got professional help because of the breakup, and she thanked me for that. I replied that I was happy for her, but stopped replying again to continue to keep distance from her. Sometime after this I found out from one of our mutual friends that she wasn't lying about cheating on me after all, so I got angry again and really didn't reply to her messages.\n\nOver the next few weeks, she would message me almost every other night, first sending me Christmas greetings which I didn't reply to. Then she got increasingly angry, she started asking if we could please talk because I was making her have anxiety attacks every night, which I still didn't reply to. She said she just wanted to know what she did wrong, which I felt like I already detailed in the breakup and after it. After a long time of this happening, I decided to just message her that I had nothing more to say and I didn't owe her anything because of how she treated me. She continued to message after this, and I decided to block her on Facebook.\n\nI hadn't heard from her in a couple of days until today, when she messaged me on Twitter (I hadn't blocked her there) and told me something. She said that she had wanted to tell me this since December, but the fact that she \"cheated on me\" wasn't the full story. She said she only found out later on that at that party where she was drunk, she didn't willingly make out with the dude but was forced into it. She only found out about this afterwards because she wasn't fully conscious that night. She said that I didn't let her tell her side of the story, and that I was making her lose sleep and fuck me for being so stubborn.\n\nI had no idea that was the case, because when she told me she just said she cheated on me. I feel terrible for her having to go through that. At the same time, I had no way of knowing the truth there because she told me a different version of it. I kind of feel like she's gonna tell her friends (in our shared friends circle) that I'm an asshole for breaking up with her and treating her like that after having to go through such a thing. AITA for being mad at her, ignoring her, etc. when it turns out I didn't know the full story? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5wmZBjgOQnj6wRwwXzWyAJjPVuvQCwKy", "post_id": "ax2yjt", "action": {"description": "assuming I was being left out", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for assuming I was being left out", "text": "Ok so it\u2019s my best friends birthday today. We have been like sisters for the past 11 years. I asked her a few days ago if she had any plans bc I wanted to plan something and she told me she was having dinner with her mom. I said ok. Jump to day where I texted her happy birthday and hope she was having a good day so far. She text back her husband got them a hotel room the night prior and today was a surprise. (They have been separated the last 6 months and are deciding to try and work it out as of late) I told her I was excited for her. An hour ago I was checking my Instagram when a picture of her and our other friend from work pops up from an hour ago. I immediately feel hurt and confused. I texted her half joking half hurt confronting her. She told me it was an old picture and she has been with her mom all day. This is where I continue joking to lighten the mood and she just tells me to ask her next time instead of jumping to getting mad. I jumped to getting upset bc this is literally every holiday and every birthday to the point my husband told me why do I even bother getting upset. She\u2019s not answering me now and I feel really stupid. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PJjPMlqn5t4TaAYlIW2zNx1kJpt3zjpq", "post_id": "b7alpm", "action": {"description": "not buying something after I agreed to buy it", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not buying something after I agreed to buy it?", "text": "I (17M) needed a graphing calculator for my college course which I just started and I was looking for a used one as a new one was way too expensive and I only needed to use it for less than a year. I agreed to buy a calculator from someone who used to go to the same college as me and we were supposed to meet today. However, before I was supposed to meet him, one of my friends who I was with happened to have the exact same calculator and decided to let me use hers for the duration of my college course as she would only need it again next year.\n\n After this happened, I didn't need to buy a calculator anymore so 1 hour before we were supposed to meet I messaged him that I had to cancel. I understand that this was very short notice and I felt bad for the seller so I apologized profusely. He didn't take it well and proceeded to send me a lot of messages some of which said \"you fucking confirmed with me, I didn't ask you to pay a deposit because I thought you were nice. You can take the calculator and sell it to your friends but you are not flaking on me 1 hour before we meet. I even lowered the price for you and got it by express shipping so you can get it by this week\". \n\nAt this point I started freaking out because I had never been in this situation before and I'm not a big fan of confrontation, so I apologized again and said  \"You have every right to be angry, I'm not doing this to you on purpose, I'm not doing this to you for fun, but I really cannot buy the calculator\". He proceeded to reply with \"I'm gonna expose you on Facebook, what a flaker, you're going to be famous in \\*college name\\* I'll ensure that.\" \n\nAt this point I was shitting bricks and I even removed my profile picture on Whatsapp because the last thing I want is to be exposed online for something like this. My last reply to him was \"I'm genuinely sorry bro. Wasn't my intention for this to happen because everything on my end was very hectic as well. Apologies for the late cancellation\" \n\nto which he replied  \"I saved your name and picture\".\n\n​\n\nI told my family and friends what happened and they told me not to worry about it but that didn't stop me from feeling extremely nervous. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cgFOtIexbHDLdAON3UnZeI9ThPpejAKW", "post_id": "b0vkcf", "action": {"description": "taking down my roommates post-it notes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for taking down my roommates post-it notes", "text": "Possible TMI, but I don\u2019t care\n\nOur toilet in the dorm I\u2019m living in sucks. It clogs so much, I can\u2019t stand it. Every time I use it, it clogs. I don\u2019t use a lot of toilet paper, and it\u2019s even the free one ply our college gives us. \n\nThis morning I noticed one of my roommates (I have 3) put up two post-it notes about how we need to use a certain amount of toilet paper. I took them down because they were pretty passive aggressive. From the way they were written it seemed as though we don\u2019t know how to use a toilet. \n\nOf course when she noticed they were gone she got pretty pissed off. She sent IN ALL CAPS a pretty pissed off message to all of us asking who took the post-it notes down. I didn\u2019t say anything, but she probably will figure out it\u2019s me. If she writes anymore I\u2019ll probably take them down. I don\u2019t think she needs to put up post-it notes to remind us how much toilet paper we should use. I could have out of spite use a lot of toilet paper, but I didn\u2019t. I just took down the post-it notes. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "AmvlRNNXTFHnORi6zsbNcmfyfGbU3u5B", "post_id": "b2tki3", "action": {"description": "telling a girl the reason I no longer want to date is because of her mental illness despite that being her biggest fear", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell a girl the reason I no longer want to date is because of her mental illness despite that being her biggest fear?", "text": "There\u2019s a girl I\u2019ve been seeing for about four months now.  Things have been going good.  We have a lot in common.  \n\nEarlier today though she told me she had to have a serious talk with me.  She told me that she is schitzoeffective, which upon my own research is like schizophrenia with added mental illness on top of it.  She also told me that she didn\u2019t work like she told me, but was on disability for this illness.  I really didn\u2019t know what to say.  She explained that she hadn\u2019t told me until now because in the past when she\u2019s been upfront with people about it they start treating her like she\u2019s either dumb or dangerous and that she\u2019s neither.  That she just wanted me to get to know her before I judged her for her illness like people in her past have.  \n\nI was as tactful as I could be.   She wanted to know if I had any questions, but I felt like she had been lying to me the entire time I\u2019ve known her so I didn\u2019t really want any answers from her, I wanted to do a little research about it on my own as I don\u2019t really have any experience with this kind of illness. \n\nSo I told her I needed some time to think and went home to read up on it.  From what I\u2019ve read it is unfortunately a deal breaker kind of thing for me.  While she might be stable now and could be for a long time, it\u2019s likely that there will be multiple breaks for her.   There\u2019s also a lot of evidence that this illness can be passed on through the mother\u2019s side of the family so if it were to ever get that far any children we would have would be at risk.   She\u2019s a great girl and I wish her the best, but it\u2019s just too much for me to handle.  \n\nI don\u2019t know how to go about telling her.   I know she\u2019s had a lot of bad experiences with people turning her away because of her illness and I hate to add to that list, but I feel like if I lie it\u2019s going to be obvious that I\u2019m lying.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "puoGyU26s8lVWmNHxRSmaj3qtVyjbRZu", "post_id": "9vjkf9", "action": {"description": "saying Nazis want a race war", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying Nazis want a race war?", "text": "On r/beholdthrmasterrace a self proclaimed Nazi ran for office in Illinois and won something like 27% of the vote. I commented that a race war was coming wether we want it or not. Two people replied. One said they hope I die first. Typically troll. The other said they will be on the opposite side of me and that other races will side against each other. I'm not white and I'm not a Nazi by any stretch of the imagination. But wouldn't regular people be fighting against a common enemy together?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "266onYZzsDkll7B9Xhde5vsMYAXjdUek", "post_id": "acopf2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to buy a treadmill to avoid driving", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to buy a treadmill to avoid driving?", "text": "My boyfriend and I have a good membership at Crunch fitness. The problem lies in that my work schedule is different from his so it would be beneficial to work out from home most of the time. My plan would be to go the gym a few days a week to lift. With traffic and my work schedule, I would be driving an hour and 15 minutes for the gym and to go to work. My bf doesn\u2019t drive, so I\u2019d have to drop him off at home. I have other clients that I drive to during the day. I suggested getting a new treadmill for home use and he disagrees. He thinks we should go to the gym most mornings, even though the drive is a shut show. AITA for insisting that we get a treadmill even though I\u2019m the only driver and would spend a decent amount of my day driving with our current set up? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rFXK8pBuxVY9vWdoavhBudsbo24EH12t", "post_id": "b8cu8x", "action": {"description": "looking for new roommates while my current roommates are still deciding about living together next year", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for looking for new roommates while my current roommates are still deciding about living together next year", "text": "So for context, I got a pretty sweet apartment with two other roommates who I have a pretty good friendship with. Unfortunately I learned yesterday that the landlord\u2019s kids are starting uni next year and therefore they will be taking our unit (for some reason they didn\u2019t tell me that until I wanted to renew the lease a month before the end of classes). \n\nSo right now I\u2019m staying here for summer term, both of them are leaving. The plan was for me to find temporary roommates and they come back in the fall. But after news broke out they were unsure if they wanted to get a new place together because of the cost and living arrangements. \n\nI\u2019m desperately trying to find something for the summer and finals start in a week, when that happens no one will have time to do anything related to housing. So AITA for talking to some other friends to see if they are interested in being roommates (I really dislike living alone or with people that I don\u2019t know). Right now it\u2019s not serious, just throwing the idea out there, I did give my roommates until the end of the week to have a more clear stand.\n\nTl;dr: have to move out of apartment, gave roommates until end of the week to decide if they want to stick together or not but I\u2019m already talking to other friends as potential roommates ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Pe6VvmQ0mCXrxW1Sz7sfZc9aEZG4tY2L", "post_id": "ati40f", "action": {"description": "messing with the people that send me emails by mistake", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA if I mess with the people that send me emails by mistake?", "text": "I have a very common name. Think John Smith for Latino women. I got my gmail back when it was invite only, as a result I have the [name.lastname@gmail.com](mailto:name.lastname@gmail.com) of my VERY common name. Therefore, I get TONS of mail that are intended for other women with the same name all over the north american continent. Now I have to clarify that it is mostly their fault for giving my email as theirs for all sorts of shit. Mostly junk email like form clothing stores and such, but I get important stuff too like bank account statements, services statements, social media accounts, dating apps, travel reservations, job emails, etc. Everyday I get at least 10 that are not for me and are not spam, so I cannot block them. At first, I tried to do the right thing and inform the people involved that they were writing to the wrong person. But nothing changed, if anything more emails that are not for me arrived. \n\n​\n\nThis has been happening for a good 13 years or so, and I am tired, I don't know how to make them stop giving my email as theirs. So I started messing with them. Cancelling travel reservations. Cancelling dental and beauty parlor appointments. Sending mean emails to their colleagues. For some, I have their addresses and phones, so I also order shit to their house, usually with the message: you should not give my email as yours. One has written back calling me an asshole and what not, and threatening to sue me. I don't live in her country so she cannot legally do anything.  I just replied that this would have never happened if she had not give my email as hers. Am I the asshole reddit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1cjh6BU046CbtzDvO3nERox2GTdYgxLK", "post_id": "b9dzk2", "action": {"description": "not going to my dead principal's funeral", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going to my dead principal's funeral?", "text": "I'm brand new to the school so I don't know this principal and I'm feeling really depressed. Like extremely depressed. I said I would go to to the funeral because they said all applicants for the leadership programme should go to it. But I feel really depressed and I don't know if I can take it tomorrow. I feel lost and hopeless, I've been extremely depressed all week. I just want high school to be over to be honest.  I just don't know if I can go to a funeral tomorrow. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9xmFy4KIhfoVef7x6vSrOp3ccEudxlRd", "post_id": "b0qasf", "action": {"description": "making up a reason to break up with my gf", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for making up a reason to break up with my gf?", "text": "So I'd been seeing this girl for a few months, right? We met online and hit it off right away, she's very sweet and we had a lot of good conversations. She's a huge romantic, gave me a lot of presents and romantic gestures, etc., throughout our relationship. Not crazy, her family likes me, altogether I lucked out. \n\nI broke up with her after a few months, under the excuse that I have to move back to my hometown for the summer because of financial reasons. She was heartbroken and wanted to do long distance, and then when I declined, to stay friends. \n\nThe truth is, I'm not physically attracted to her at all (she isn't what could be called conventionally attractive), I could not see myself being intimate with her, and besides all that I do not want to be in a long-term relationship with her. The romantic gestures made me feel horrible because I never loved her like that. I never told her this, and I never will. It's been a couple weeks since we broke up, and I'm doing fine, but by the look of her social media, she is not. Am I an asshole for lying to her, or would I have been more of an asshole had I told the truth? \n\ntl;dr dated a girl, led her on out of guilt, broke up under false pretenses, am very guilty", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RXohZswl4yZvnRhGOYfcZPl2dg3Zo9nD", "post_id": "b85bl4", "action": {"description": "not defending my new friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not defending my new friend?", "text": "I met an interesting guy and we quickly became platonic friends.  (Im female).  He is really good guy and i want to introduce him into my circle.  But before i could, he was brought up  in conversation due to the fact that he works with another friend and almost my entire circle started to trash him.   \n\nI should point out he had a head injury as a child and as a result he doesnt learn as quickly as other people and so people think hes stupid or dim witted.   He isnt in the least.  In fact he is highly intelligent and studies philosophy and history in his spare time.  He could talk rings around Socrates and Aristotle.  \n\nWhile my friends were trashing him i tried to defend him a bit but finally just sat there and let them trash him.  I did not join in but tried to change the subject several times.  \n\nWe eventually moved on to other topics but i still feel torn.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TsBMqWErd2w1WGIAI7x52X6id5ZV5NTy", "post_id": "b8gkpq", "action": {"description": "lashing out at my father", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for lashing out at my father?", "text": "So a little bit of backstory: I\u2019m an only child, and my whole life, my parents have been shoving me in a certain direction (Joining the police force) and in my country, joining the police force is kind of a big deal. Anyway, I was complainant my whole life. As a kid, I would not be able to play with my cousins and friends, because all I did was study, I would see my cousins playing around my grandparents\u2019 house but I\u2019d be stuck in the room studying under the supervision of my parents, but I really didn\u2019t mind because I was doing it for my parents. I thankfully always got good grades, mostly A+\u2019s. This was my situation until recently(three years ago, when I became a sophomore). When I became a sophomore, I decided that I\u2019ll study according to my own schedules, and that I\u2019ll handle my studying by myself from now on. My grades stayed the same for the most part, out of 12 subjects, I only ever got a maximum of 4 A\u2019s, and the rest were all A+\u2019s.\n\nThis is where the conflict happened, the time when I decided that I want to study on my own was also the time that I realized that I didn\u2019t want to join the police force. While sure, I did not want to join the PF, I also did not know what I liked doing, because my whole life, what I liked was what my parents told me to like. So I was lost and I didn\u2019t know what to do. In sophomore year, I convinced myself that I liked business, and that I wanted to become a \u201csuccessful entrepreneur \u201c in the future, so I took a couple of business and leadership classes, on top of my other subjects. Fast forward to my Junior year, I was back to being lost, but my guidance councilor helped me find myself little by little. \nBy the beginning of my senior year in HS, I realized that my true passion was in psychology, and that I wanted to study psychology in university instead of joining the PF. When I told that to my parents, as you\u2019d imagine, it didn\u2019t sit well with them, so I decided to make a new plan, which was trying to get a sponsorship(they would pay for my education, and I secure a job with them if I keep my grades high enough) from the PF, and study a double major in Computer Engineering and psychology, the first degree (CE) was for me to meet the requirements for joining the PF, and the second degree was for my own sake, and what I liked, this was a middle ground between what my parents want and what I wanted. Anyway, I told this to my father, and the words that he uttered from his mouth were some of the harshest things to come out the mouth of a \u201cloved one\u201d. He told me: you\u2019re not enough for a double major, you can\u2019t even get good grades in HS, you can never manage a double major. After he said those words I lashed out, how could he say such words after taking away my childhood? How could he say that after I worked my ass off to achieve a goal that was not mine? How could he say that after I tried to find a middle ground that satisfied him? Those were my thoughts. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "odHrfYSHxDnb90bVp3oFrwzs2DwETK7E", "post_id": "b9xdw7", "action": {"description": "telling my wife that she should cook more foods from her culture", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA for telling my wife that she should cook more foods from her culture?", "text": "My wife and I are in our early 20s and have been married for 6 months. She is the cooker in our relationship as I cant cook anything except for eggs and toast. She has always made Western food such as steaks, baked potatoes, pasta, sandwiches, etc. She is a good cook but yesterday I casually encouraged her to make something from her background, like fried rice or tofu or noodles or something. \n\nShe makes awesome egg tarts and whenever we go to her familys house they cook very delicious and exotic meals that I\u2019ve never even had before.\n\nShe said she doesnt really know how to cook those things because her parents and grandparents never taught her to cook (she was kind of spoiled). Thus she can only make simple Western food.\n\nI told her she should embrace her culture and that her meals would be way better than ethnic take out. However she said if I wanted it so much I should cook it myself. I told her I can\u2019t because I am super white and the most \u201cexotic\u201d meal from my background is poutine. \n\nAITA for encouraging my wife to be more in touch with her culture?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 25, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "aCtgA86HxNyMVfF6iQA5xky5Lmmhua2l", "post_id": "ay4tah", "action": {"description": "hating a suck up", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating a suck up", "text": "We hired a new guy at work and literally every day all he does is sit at the desk with his feet up and plays with his phone I thought after a while my boss would put a stop to it but nope.the longer this behavior goes on the more I can\u2019t stand this person this behavior should be unacceptable in my opinion what do I do,HELP", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BYtg4w69j4uJPfqHQAd9WGtgTcsE0yv4", "post_id": "a4ihqt", "action": {"description": "not answering my mom's texts", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not answering my mom's texts?", "text": "I don't really know how much background to give on this. I don't want to tell my entire life story. If I was looking for a bunch of circle jerking and validation about how much my parents sucked, I'd post in raisedbynarcissists, but I don't want that. I know my parents suck, but I don't think that's an excuse for me to act like an asshole. So here I am. \n\nMy parents are emotionally immature and selfish people. They did a lot of shit to me that my therapist says is abuse. I'm still wrapping my head around that. I know that I spent a lot of my life bailing them out of bad situations and doing things for them that they should have done for themselves. My mom treated me more like her best friend or her spouse than her kid.\n\nBecause of the years of doing too much stuff for my parents and letting them rely on me for everything, I'm bad with boundaries. It's hard for me to tell them no or to avoid getting over-involved in whatever bullshit they have going on at the moment. So I have to create these strict rules about being in contact with them. Only if I told them the rules, I think they'd freak out. \n\nSo I don't come right out and say \"Hey I'm only going to call you on holidays\", I just pretend to be too busy all the time until it's a holiday. I think they figured it out, because they stopped calling me except on holidays. \n\nExcept last week they had an actual emergency. Like there was something like a burst pipe at their house or something and if it isn't repaired quickly the house could be condemned and they could end up homeless. And old me would have swooped in and fixed all of this for them, or at least emotionally supported them and spent hours on the phone with them and soothed them through all of this. And instead I just sent like 3 or 4 text messages and then when my mom started getting real dramatic about it I just stopped answering because I couldn't deal with it anymore and it was giving me anxiety. \n\nSo here's the heart of the question: Am I the asshole for not telling my parents the truth about our relationship and boundaries? Am I the asshole for not making it explicitly clear that they can not rely on me the way that they used to? Am I the asshole for just leaving my mom's texts on read instead of saying something like \"Hey, I'm sorry but I can't help you with this?\" \n\nI'm feeling pretty fucking guilty about everything but I also feel overwhelmed by the idea of talking to my parents any more than I already do. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j0gyI1TLZX3tvYUVcAkNrVZpLtfBCmvb", "post_id": "b7kzsc", "action": {"description": "picking the front row", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for picking the front row.", "text": "More of a are we the asshole\n\nSo I recently made some story times about theme parks and my sis being a type 1 Diabetic ( T1D is genetic and not due to poor diet and exercise unlike type 2)  and our run in with entitled parents. \n\nBasically when we go to a theme park we get a pass that lets us go to the exit get a time to come back and them when we do we get to pick our seats. During this time we can\u2019t ride anything else but rather then stand in the sun we can sit in the shade. This means her blood sugar does not drop as fast which can lead to a coma and death (fun times)\n\nWhen we do this we always pick the front row soft obvious reasons. \n\nHowever. We had a case where a person was pissed since they only saw it as we came up the exit and stole their seats. \n\nIn one case this got out of hand and the lady was made to leave the park. \n\nSo it made me think so other people think the same thing but not go full put on us?\n\nLike we wait the 1hr or whatever the wait time is bit still we get to pick where we sit. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BjKGrw9aPo5z7AQ7uSUeKXwQKg0Hfh5N", "post_id": "ax0eug", "action": {"description": "leaving my boyfriend on 'read'", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for Leaving My Boyfriend on 'read'", "text": "Brand new to reddit and this is a relatively short post.\n\nSo recently my boyfriend got a new job and I'm extremely happy and proud, cus he's been job hunting for a long while and he seems to love his new job, but there's a slight problem. He likes to message me while he's at work. Its one thing when he messages me during his lunch or other breaks, but he tends to message me whenever and I don't want to get him in trouble at all.\n\nSo at first, I told him not to message me while he's at work but he simply just tells me that I'm overreacting (sometimes I do), a worry wart (and I am one), and to not worry (easier said than done).\n\nAfter a while, I just ended up ignoring the messages (though still read them incase its an emergency) and don't respond until its either his lunch or he's off work. I really do not like ignoring people, especially my boyfriend, but I also don't want to get him in trouble and even potentially getting him fired.\n\nSo am I the asshole for leaving him on read?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yN9EnSFg95TxeWT1cVe70lzbnROatXqH", "post_id": "a9tuoi", "action": {"description": "getting upset at my girlfriend for getting a ride from someone I don't like", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at my girlfriend for getting a ride from someone I don't like", "text": "My girlfriend has known this guy longer than she has known me. I have also had female friends longer than I have known her.\n\nShe told me that she prefers that I no longer have female friends because it makes her uncomfortable, and said she would do the same and not have guy friends anymore if I dont want her to. \n\nI told her I dont really care if she talks to guys, but theres only one guy in particular I don't like. \n\nHer car isn't great, and she claims it might not make the trip. She wanted to visit her best friend for a birthday party an hour away. He was going to the party as well and offered to give her a ride. \n\nAm I the asshole for getting upset that she rode with him to the party? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "iHCbSyjp1Sam4hdLrGQX8J4o4qXDvw1q", "post_id": "akz91x", "action": {"description": "not wanting my partner to hang with his ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my partner to hang with his ex", "text": "So this is my first post on reddit and English isn't my first language so please excuse possible errors. But this is a long one so there's a TL;DR at the bottom.\n\n​\n\nMy boyfriend and I know each other since 2016 and in the beginning of 2018 we got together after being very close friends. But in 2017 he had a girlfriend, that he only knew for 2 months and he was 1 month in a relationship with her. I told him it was really inappropriate since she has just gotten 16 and he was almost 22 years old. Then I started really not likeing her, tbh due to jealousy but also because she is 2 years years younger than me and at the time she bragged about her self-diagnosed mental illnesses, about hurting herself and how a special snowflake she is (puberty duh). One time he even ignored me for days because I got so angry about her. We had a picknick, I had and still have problems with my hip due to a bone anomaly and my mobility is at times reduced. But he left me alone to clean up because she wanted to be picked up. Then I texted him if she was too dumb to come herself and why he didn't help me. Since then she basically hates me, she blocked me everywhere but they broke up after a month.\n\n​\n\nFor more than a year they ignored each other. We/he saw her often but she didn't even bother to say hello or even look in our/his direction. Approximately two months ago my former school had a prom I was invited to and I asked, almost begged because it was a special event for me, him to come and as he doesn't like proms he told me no but he said he would at least pick me up there, since it was very late. But then a man went unconsious at the bar he was in, he helped him and called the ambulance. His ex was there too and she didn't knew the man but apparently she got a panic attac so my boyfriend ditched me and took care of her and drove her about 50km home. I ended up having to go home early, because I had not enough money for the cab.\n\n​\n\n I asked how it came that they had contact and he told me, that she started talking to him again and that they are good friends again (remind you they talked for about 2 months, more than a year ago). I started getting suspicious since he didn't told me anything until then and only because I was not very pleased that he ditched me.\n\n​\n\nSince then they started having more and more contact, meeting every friday and saturday at that bar, her texting him following him on instagram asking him for advice on anything. Then I told him that I don't appreciate this at all and told him to back off a little from this situation because she clearly is into him. She even broke up with her current boyfriend, with whom she was almost a year together. He got very angry and told me to back off because it's none of my business who he befriends and it doesn't matter if it's an ex. I reminded him, that I'm okay with his other exes, with whom he texts from time to time because they are friendly and respectful to me and he knows them even longer than me. But he was going on, telling me as a matter of principle he doesn't refuse friendship requests, especially from someone with very few friends. The disscusion turned into a fight and I demanded, being very enraged, to stop contacting her. For me alone the fact that he got angry so fast was a warning sign. He even told me that if I ever speak to her in a bad way or even do something to her, I could erase his number, because I am a vicious person. The disscusion ended and a few days later we were okay again I'd say. \n\n​\n\nHe, still refusing any form of backing off, continued meeting her at that bar and she started texting him very often, at night, at day, even after they met she still texted him further on the same evening. So once I decided to convince him to take me to the bar with him and surprise, surprise, she was also there. He looked at his phone before we got there and said: \"Just a warning, she will be also there. If you don't behave I'll send you home and I'll sleep at my mother's.\" So I already was pissed, because he told me such a thing but I went to the bar and sat at the table with his friends. He apparently told the girlfriend of his best friend to have a talk to me about the issue with his ex. Me, not being up to date, I expected, since we are not bestfriends but still we talk about private issues and us originally liking each other, that she would understand me, but also apparently my boyfriends ex started hanging out with my boyfriends friends and she took my boyfriend's and his ex' side, saying she is nice and I should stop worrying and let them be friends. As soon as his ex came her and my partner of course started talking, then she came to our table just to distract the girl I was talking to, whispering things in her ears, ignoring my attempt to being friendly and saying hello. Even after she went home and my boyfriend sat at my table she texted him and as I was talking to him he just said \"aha aha\" while texting her back.\n\n​\n\nAs we went home I told him that she was impolite and he said he wouldn't do or say anything, as she wasn't mean to me and she is allowed to ignore me. A fight started, since after all the fights I was already so tired of his shit and told him again to stop hanging out with her, if he wants a relationship with me. He also went on to tell me, that she is clearly not interested in him since she tells him with who she slept/sleeps atm. I was furious and stopped talking to him and went to sleep. But in the morning I lost it again when she texted him AGAIN (after she already texted all night). \n\n​\n\nI also am pretty sure from the context and the behaviour that she more or less starts turning him and his friends against me, since that \"friend\" at my table told me how I shouldn't be so petty and she has serious health and mental issues and I should not take \"her only good friend away\" because she is such a nice person, since she got to know her.\n\n​\n\nSince then we haven't talked much besides him telling me what a horrible person I am for wanting to break up their friendship, especially since she has few friends, as he says. \n\n​\n\nAm I really the bad person in this situation?\n\n​\n\n​\n\nTD;DR: Out of nowhere my boyfriend started being very close with his most recent ex, that ignored him for over one year and I want it to stop.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f2Mtkwv4OAwNtGWCdEULwelubKQXRb2t", "post_id": "apm956", "action": {"description": "being stubborn with the trash in my shared house", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being stubborn with the trash in my shared house?", "text": "This is a pretty dumb situation and seems super childish but whatever. Will try make this as accurate as I can as I genuinely don't think I'm in the wrong here but idk I might be a major dick.\n\nBasically, moved into a house with 5 other people, some of them friends and others are just people I kinda know. Everything was perfectly fine for a couple months living together but after awhile one of the house mates got annoyed with me as she didn't think I was doing my fair share in regard to taking out the trash. I'll be honest, I wasn't doing as much as my other house mates because I am quite a minimalistic dude, eat all my food and so the majority of my rubbish is just the odd plastic rapper and I felt like I shouldn't have to take out these gross trash bags with nasty food and other random shit it in it.\n\nAnyway, this house mate asked me to put in my fair share of the cleaning up so I complied as I didn't want to cause drama or whatever, I'll just deal with putting away their gross shit in the bin. What really bothered me was when this house mate talked to another behind my back and said some random nasty stuff about me (\"he's just some troll that sits in his room all day\" I don't if that even matters, and how would she even know??). This was so surprising to me because to this point I had a decent relationship with all of these people, and had done nothing to wrong to them in anyway so I just felt really hurt by this and I confronted the house mates, obviously they denied saying it but I could hear their entire conversation as the walls in this house are really thin (maybe I shouldn't have listened but I heard my name). I let it go and just got on with the trash and I just moved on despite being hurt.\n\nFlash forward 3 months. This house mate has barely looked me in the eye or cared to even acknowledge me when I enter the room, treating kinda shit. I've heard her continue shit talking me here and there but that's whatever I think she's just kind of a dick.\n\nWhat's made me make this post is what happened this weekend. Where I wasn't here for 4 days as I was seeing my gf and I came back to a bunch of rubbish bags to clean up as it was my turn. I didn't think it was fair for me to clean this shit as I thought it was silly for me to have to clean this massive mess that had literally nothing to do with me, let alone the fact that I barely contribute to the trash as it is... After not doing it, the same house mate comes knocking on my room asking me to clean it up as it's my turn. I comply (unhappily of course) and say I'll do it. Three hours later I haven't done it as I was planning to do it when I left to go to the gym, she comes knocking on my room and asks me to do it again (annoyed at this point as I was planning on doing it I don't need to be told like she's my mother...), I said I will when I go out, and as she walks away she muttered \"just do it now not like you ever do anything with your day ever\" (again, no idea where she gets this idea from, that I'm some lazy loser??). I heard her and then went to get ready to go out, don't do the rubbish because fuck that she's acting like a dick for no reason again and it's not my mess. I get back home after some hours and obviously she's in my house mates room straight shit talking me.\n\nAfter all this, I've decided fuck the trash, I want nothing to do with it now, I've been a pushover to this point, I'm just going to throw all my stuff away in the bin in my room so I have nothing to do with the trash and I can just do my own shit. I've blocked her on all social media as I want nothing to do with someone I think is toxic and I plan on just ignoring her and being awkward with her till our lease is finished (this June).\n\nNot sure if I'm the asshole here though, maybe I should just get on with the rubbish and I created drama out of nothing? Not sure, I feel like I've tried to talk to her in a calm and reasonable way but she just doesn't care to look me in the eye and have proper conversation about this that isn't behind my back. I'm mainly hurt by the way I've been treated and didn't care too much about the trash at all.\n\nI know its a long post about a dumb topic but I'm not the best or most concise of writers so sorry about that!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WGJ9BnrBIrcUSlriZhq7S732jh6cA6SH", "post_id": "a7db5d", "action": {"description": "questioning my Girlfriend's Sexual Trigger", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Questioning My Girlfriend's Sexual Trigger?", "text": "This is a throwaway account, thanks for reading!\n\n​\n\nI am in a relationship with someone I love very much, and who requires a lot of attention from me. She loves to cuddle and be held, and I stop what I am doing several times a day to hold her for a bit. She also shuts down when she\u2019s spoken to harshly and is not the greatest at cleaning up after herself. I was a neat freak in my past life but have learned to temper my response to messiness, so we can reach compromises on how often we clean. Being in a messy home gives me anxiety, so I have had to sit myself down and get myself to accept that as long as we\u2019re living together, I will not have full control over our space, and I cannot constantly nag her to pick up after herself.  She is also not great with time/space boundaries, and likes to be together a lot. When she is feeling bad or anxious, I sit with her and talk through what is going on, and hold her, etc. I\u2019m a fairly independent person and do not need a lot of support, so a lot of our energy is focused on her. All of that said, she is loving, kind, generally respectful of my feelings, smart, very funny, and we share the same opinions on almost everything philosophically/socially/politically. We are pretty good at communicating, I have voiced my concerns about everything above and we\u2019ve been working on those issues.\n\nLast night she and I had a few glasses of wine and went to bed. Once we were in bed, we started cuddling, and I put my hands in her pants and started running my fingers through her pubic hair/rubbing the hair around/generally playing with it. This wasn\u2019t meant to be sexual, it just feels nice because she has a full bush. She asked me to stop, I did, and we went to sleep.\n\nIn the middle of the night, we woke up, and she asked me if I remembered the night before. I didn\u2019t quite, I\u2019d had a lot of wine (we were celebrating something). Then as she started telling me, I remembered. Both my girlfriend and I have been victims of sexual assault. I asked her if what I\u2019d done was triggering for her. She said it was. I told her that I was very sorry, and that I would not do that again.\n\nWhen we woke up in the morning, she was still acting off. I asked her if she was still having feelings about what had happened last night. She said she was, and I told her again that I was sorry. She asked me why I did that, and I told her that I only meant to cuddle, I was not trying to initiate sex, and I was sorry. She said she understood. I again said that I was sorry, and she said it was okay, but she was silent. I asked if she wanted to speak about it more or if she\u2019d rather speak to someone else (we are both in therapy). She didn\u2019t say anything.\n\nWe got out of bed and she was silent and barely speaking to me. When she did speak, it was with flat affect, and she didn\u2019t make a lot of eye contact. I figured that she was still processing the event and would talk with me when she was ready. But then she started kicking things around and just seemed generally upset. She was ready to leave for work, and I was still getting ready. I told her that she didn\u2019t have to wait for me if she wanted to go, and she decided to stay, still angry/upset. At this point, I have to admit I became a bit frustrated. I asked her why she waited for me if she was so angry with me. She made a sort of, \u201care you kidding me?\u201d look but didn\u2019t say anything to me. I wanted very badly to leave for work without her, because we weren\u2019t getting anywhere and also, it would have been quicker and more efficient for me to leave without her (we work about 15 minutes away from eachother in the city, she was driving, I wanted to take the subway). I told her I was going to leave separately, and she became even angrier. So I came back and we got in the car together, to have the tense, miserable car ride that I had been trying to avoid. And because she would've been late if she dropped me off first, but her work has a free parking lot and mine doesn't, she ended up dropping me off at one of the subway stops near her work anyway.\n\nI can\u2019t tell if I\u2019ve behaved badly or not. I am completely, 1000% behind the premise that when it comes to sex, boundaries are boundaries, full stop, no explanation needed. And because we are both survivors of assault, I am also 1000% behind the idea that she gets to decide how she reacts to an event that triggers her. If she feels like being angry, for any amount of time, after we\u2019ve spoken about what happened, that is absolutely fine. If she *needs me to be there to receive her anger*, but not directly respond to it by continuing to ask what I can do, that\u2019s fine as well, although I admit that\u2019s coming up against some of my limits too. But a sexual assault trigger is a trump card in my book, so do what you need to do.\n\nMy concern is that I can feel myself saying, \u201cfine, but this is it\u201d in terms of coddling her in other parts of our relationship. And I\u2019m not sure if that is a healthy way to be feeling, and I am especially suspicious because it\u2019s coming up after I\u2019ve been told that I made sexual advances that were unwelcome, and am having negative feelings around being treated like I\u2019m some predator. I don\u2019t want to be retaliatory, I absolutely want her to tell me when she\u2019s uncomfortable and I\u2019m glad she did. But if she says she\u2019s uncomfortable, I stop doing what I\u2019m doing, and apologize when it\u2019s brought up later and ask her what she needs, then I\u2019m not sure what else to do. I have a feeling that she wants/wanted me to cradle her in my arms, speak gently to her, and let her do whatever she wants around the house after this as far as not picking up after herself, and I am having a very strong negative reaction to that. I *know* that it is absolutely inappropriate to tell someone that they are overreacting to a sexual trigger, but I can\u2019t help but feel like she could be using this incident as a tool to mold us into the dynamic I know she\u2019s wanted. If I\u2019m wrong, and what happened has really triggered some awful memory, then I absolutely should cradle and coddle her until she feels better, and I should be ashamed for getting angry at her this morning. But if she is blowing it out of proportion to get us back to an unequal relationship dynamic, then I am absolutely furious that she would stoop so low.  Am I the asshole for even asking this question?\n\nFYI we are both women, if that matters.\n\nTLDR: I massaged my girlfriend in a way that made her uncomfortable, I told her that I was sorry, but she is still very angry with me. We\u2019ve been working on having a more equal relationship as opposed to one that is primarily focused on her, and I am worried that her reaction to this event is stemming more from the fact that she wants to be coddled than anything else.  AITA for questioning this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "edRz5Ab4xOt3EafKqUgUSsGARbFaZ6V9", "post_id": "b4x914", "action": {"description": "not opening up to my mom (50sf) like how she wants me to", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not opening up to my (22F) Mom (50sF) like how she wants me to?", "text": "Generally, growing up, I have been the quiet, bottling things up kind of child. I know my older sister (29F) is so open to my Mom, to the extent where my mother will even know the latest gossip between my sister and her friends back then.\n\nStuff she did when I tried to open up:\n\nDisregard my request to handle my nanny discreetly for being physically abusive to me as a kid (I wasn't the naughty type).\n\nSaying \"I don't care about your friends, I only care about your score and how you perform in school.\" when I tried to talk about my friends.\n\nDidn't make me feel safe or encouraged/give any good advices, and used my bullying back in school as a joke until now.\n\n\nSince then, I bottle things up more from her, but two years ago, she started to force me to open up, because she is worried.\n\nSo I started to open up.\nWhat I talked about and her responses:\n\nThings to her about my major since she isn't familiar with it, but it seems like she always forgets what I told her, which means I must explain again and again. Because of age, she said, but when it comes to my sister's friends, she even remembers who is the name of my sister's friend's boyfriend. \n\nShe used my story about my ex to prevent me from dating since apparently I am not pretty enough so guys who want to date me are guys who only want to use me. \n\nShe doesn't let me see psychiatrists for my panic attack, saying that I can stop my panic attack by opening up to her; and wanted to bring me to a friend of hers who learns hypnotherapy for fun, and when I refused, she demanded me to tell her all my secrets since it seems like I am scared that I would blabber stuff through hypnotism.\n\n\nI decided to tell her to stop trying to open me up since it makes me super uncomfortable and stressed. She said I shouldnt open up to my bestfriends, but I MUST open up to her since we are family. \n\nI tried to explain that it's not my style, that I am a human and I have the right to choose how I communicate, that she can't expect me to be the same as my sister. \n\nI also told her about how she did all those in the past, and she told that I shouldn't be narrowminded since it's the past, and start opening up to her; yet I don't see any changes.\n\n\nTLDR: My Mom is pretty abusive imo and forces me to open up like how my sister does, when I am not comfortable with it due to cases in the past. She also doesn't want to respect me when I told her I can't do it. AITA for not opening up?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VdKpBHZDDKH5Td6PPhqWR3gjScByPXaq", "post_id": "afamyx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to let my dog's previous owner take him for a walk out of fear he might try to steal him back", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to let my dog\u2019s previous owner take him for a walk out of fear he might try to steal him back?", "text": "I (24M) and my girlfriend (24F) re-homed a dog about a year ago from someone in the same city we live in. The previous owner was unable to keep taking care of him and needed to find him a new home. Yesterday the previous owner contacted my girlfriend about possibly taking him for a walk sometime and we lied and said we were out of town with him because we were afraid that he might try to take his dog back. He seemed like a very nice person when we met him but are we the assholes for not wanting him to walk out (now) dog?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5VpMcENz8AMOBFMLXdKllfX4IjUvU0B3", "post_id": "9y4txx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to take my siblings to school", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to take my siblings to school?", "text": "Most mornings I will take my siblings to school at around 8:30 (5 minute walk). I have work tomorrow at 11 and I know sometimes I tend to stay up a little late so I want to make sure I get a decent sleep. I told mum I wasn't going to take my siblings to school tomorrow morning and she got mad at me for it and talked about how the family works together and lately I haven't been doing that. I got mad at her because:\n\n1) I've taken them to school almost every morning (the only times I don't is when she works, has something going on in the morning or if I'm sick) and the one time I don't want to I get told off\n2) she's told me that I don't have to take them to school but it helps a lot\n3) I've babysat my younger sibling countless times and somehow that constitute as me \"not helping lately\"\n\nDon't get me wrong, I love my mum. She's tried really hard to keep the house clean, she works, she supports me finacially if I don't have money, is looking after 4 kids plus all the other amazing things she's done, but this argument really bothered me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "unVdrdDhkpG565htjv28VRxPH7lwMNkU", "post_id": "a2t0ln", "action": {"description": "breaking up with a mentally ill person", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with a mentally ill person?", "text": "So going into this I'm not sure how to word things to express them as truthfully as I can, from my point of view at least, but here goes. I got into a relationship a couple of months ago with someone who's genuinely lovely, and I don't want to paint her in a bad light at all. I genuinely do care about her, she's great. But she's also a bit of a proverbial mess, for lack of a better way of saying it. A whole bunch of paranoia, anxiety, depression, to the point where she doesn't tell her therapist what's up because she'd probably get sent to a mental hospital. But she meant really well. So for some reason I got in a relationship with them. For a while the relationship is going alright. But it stops going so well after a bit, at least from my point of view. It starts to me to feel like I'm just looking after her and making sure she doesn't just relapse into a much worse state than she's in, try to kill herself again etc. And it starts to get to me pretty badly, so I end up stressing out, anxiety related things etc. So I decide that enough is enough, I shouldn't stress out this much over someone else, and purely for my own sake I decide that I'm going to end the relationship. But retrospectively it seems like that was the very wrong thing to do because I'm scared she's going to go back to trying to kill herself again and that a) she's going to die, and b) that it'll be my fault. \n\nAnd the kicker is that she's had nobody there for her most of her life, really. Her mother is pretty distant but also quite abusive, and she was taken out of school for the last few years of her high school education by her mother, so she hasn't got any friends like that.  \n\nI guess what I want to know is, was breaking it off the right call, for my own sake? Or am I just being a selfish asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "slWBBlVlkrh51L2inKqZfJthuotR1EaS", "post_id": "annw86", "action": {"description": "I got blaming for ruining the night", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA? I got blamed for ruining the night", "text": "Tonight my boyfriend and I had planned a nice pizza and sleepover night to celebrate being together. Every month on the 3rd we usually spend time together and plan something nice. We both decided last night would be better instead as we both don't have work today. He works early shifts in the morning (had done a 6am-12pm yesterday then went to the gym after for a bit) which I understand can make him tired but he definitely gets enough sleep before work (sleeps around 10pm). It's always difficult when he gets tired as he gets moody if he stays awake but also gets annoyed if he sleeps, so either way it's not good for me, it's always difficult as I never know if I should wake him up. Tonight he ended up lying down and falling asleep around 7.30pm (we were watching Netflix together) so I finished the episode and changed it over so he wouldn't miss any more (I'm fine rewatching the episode with him). I had nothing to do so I was scrolling on my phone from around 8.30pm till 11.30ish. He woke up a few times and every time he woke up he'd huff and say sorry (for sleeping but it didn't sound like he meant it at all). Somehow we ended up arguing around 1am. I woke him up to switch sides of the bed, I also filled his water bottle up and put his phone on charge for him (didn't argue specifically because of moving), I came downstairs and lay on the sofa till 3.30am to give him space and time to calm down. When I got back upstairs, he ended up waking up again, I asked if he wanted me in bed with him and wanted to cuddle and his response to both was \"I don't care\". Recently I've spoken to him about how his attitude and the way he speaks to me makes me feel unwanted/unloved/not good enough. We ended up arguing again because he asked what was wrong so I told him that tonight felt like a bit of a waste to me because I had nothing to do and didnt really have company. I offered to go home earlier on in the night but he told me to stay, which he then threw in my face later on that I could have gone home. I explained that I wasnt annoyed with him sleeping but I was just bored and lonely which he got annoyed at and started accusing me of complaining at him to wake up and sit up (which I didn't do because I knew he would get grumpy). It's now 6 in the morning and I'm back downstairs on the sofa (again after the 2nd argument). I haven't slept yet because I always find it very difficult sleeping on an argument, he's currently asleep in his bed.\n\nI do understand he's tired and I do feel for him because I know it's not nice, but I end up getting upset because he gets so moody and becomes rude to me even when I try help. I explained that I knew he was tired but he didn't help himself by lying down as he knows it always makes him sleepy, and also said that he had enough sleep so it can't be that. He then threw it in my face that I don't \"actively exercise\" so I wouldn't understand what it's like. I feel like this was a dig at me personally, I'm not fat but I guess I am chubby, I weigh 138lbs and am 5'4\". I used to do a small home workout in my bedroom, all core activities to tone up, I haven't done it for about a year so my tummy isn't toned but I personally don't hate it- I like my body, but whenever he mentions something negative I always end up disliking it. I have an hourglassy figure and he always seems to like my body and compliments it when it suits him (like when I send pictures).\n\nThings have been rocky recently so I know that won't have helped tonight but I feel like I'm slowly losing it because I feel like I try more than enough to make things good and do little bits here and there to make him happy and help him.\n\nTldr; planned special (ish) night with boyfriend, he slept very early, woke up later and argued because I said I was bored during the night, he got annoyed at me and accused me of being annoyed at him (I explained I wasnt) I'm now on the sofa because he told me to leave him alone", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QMfRCHByMDUApyJ60wtaKJOerSzSfnQg", "post_id": "ajhraz", "action": {"description": "sarcastically telling my husband it's not a big deal or is he the asshole for calling me a cunt afterward", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for sarcastically telling my husband it's not a big deal or is he the asshole for calling me a cunt afterward?", "text": "AITA for making my husband mad or is he the asshole for calling me names? \n\nMy husband and I got into an argument this morning in which he called me a cunt twice. I said, really, youre going to call me a cunt again? Because we had just had a HUGE fight a couple months back where he called me a cunt a few times and I told him it was unacceptable. He promised not to do it again. \n\nWhen I called him out on the name calling this time he said yes, really he was calling me a cunt because I was being a cunt and he would continue to call me a cunt for the rest of our lives if I was in fact being a cunt.\u00a0\n\n\nJust so you know, here is some information about the behavior that he thinks requires name calling: I had called him and told him we might have overdrawn our bank account again. (We didnt, but i was worried we had. He wants me to keep 500 in all the time from now on) So i told him we might have overdrawn and he was really mad. Last week when we overdrew because he didnt deposit his check he said it wasnt a big deal even though we paid 250 in overdraft fees). This time he was annoyed because he gave me enough to keep 500 as the zero balance (in his opinion anyway). So he was mad, and i said flippantly, whats the big deal. Quit freaking out.\" Which is what he says to me when Im upset about something. He said it last night, for example, after our four year old didnt put the lid on a water bottle after saying she dis, and then knocking the bottle onto my side of the bed, soaking my sheet and blanket. I was annoyed with my daughter for this and was telling her when he told me I needed to \"chill,\" because it \"wasnt a big deal.\" He said i was yeling at her, but I wasnt--though i was obviously annoyed and frustrated. \n\nAnyway, so I guess i wanted to give him some of his own medicine. I said, what 's the big deal? Why are we having this conversation. It's not a big deal. Why are ypu freaking out.\" He responded by calling me a cunt more than once. When i told him I didnt want to be called names, that i didnt call him names, he said he would call me a cunt whenever i am being one and he has no intention of refraining from this behavior. He then said i needed mental help because im unbalanced. (This is his other go to when Im angry at him: Im either crazy or a cunt)  \n\nAnyway--am i the asshole for throwing his dismissive comments in his face (quit freaking out) to provoke a reaction? I have begged him to quit telling me, it's not a big deal when Im upset but he refuses because he thinks he is in a superior position, more able to judge what a big deal is than i am. Or is he the asshole for breaking his promise of not calling me a cunt and then basically saying he would call me names whenever i deserve it?\u00a0\n\nEDIT: Some people have commented on the missing $500. It wasnt spent. I just forgot to transfer it from VENMO before making a land payment. Venmo is new to me and im using it at my husband's insistence because he doesnt want to put his whole check into our shared account anymore as he wants to use the allowance system and control the money better.   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UvXBSAlmpg2WtzoHG8Nb5Uavj1fKvhpd", "post_id": "az0ji5", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Help A Fella Out!!", "text": "So. Recently I asked my older sister, her boyfriend, and my little brother to come see a Friday night show of a musical production i participated in. After we cleaned up backstage and went to go greet our audience. I get hugs from maybe 3 seniors i knew from the year prior. And trying to find out where the cast is going for dinner. My sister sends my brother to get me to the boyfriend's car. Automatically assuming I was going home with them. They didnt even btoher letting me say hi to people. And since I dont have a phone with working cell service I had a friend I went out with bring me home but when I opened up my Instagran messages I had messages from my sister saying never to ask her for a ride again. When I hadnt.. I had asked her to come see the show and that was it. I knew it'd happen and went to the car to tell them I was gonna spend the night with people who i've been practicing and bustung my balls with for the past two months. We spent two hours at a resturant that didnt close too early (our show ended around 9:30 and we were free to leave around 10. Am I the Asshole??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mosYYGhapRiLZywVSCg9jX0SCcaEVJng", "post_id": "9tdfoe", "action": {"description": "asking for Advice on how to play a Video Game several times over 72 hours on Reddit", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Asking for Advice on How to Play a Video Game Several times Over 72 hours on Reddit?", "text": "I have been banned from /r/heroesofthestorm for posting for advice regarding learning how to play the game. One pro player gave me [advice](https://www.reddit.com/r/heroesofthestorm/comments/9sf47m/stuck_in_bronze_as_a_support_main/e8ouj1y/). I have made other threads asking for different information, citing his advice as something I have been trying to apply to my future games: other people have said this advice was bad and that I shouldn't be following and this pro then accuses me of trolling in all of my new threads: [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/heroesofthestorm/comments/9spr2c/update_stuck_in_bronze_as_a_support_main/e8qhzkj/?context=1) and [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/heroesofthestorm/comments/9szs8t/is_uther_a_bruiser/e8sl2a9/). I am not sure how I was trolling, but the mods banned me over this. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3gDf8Oh8ioy9rE27b3yhmKkAu13vVeSv", "post_id": "9zjxrs", "action": {"description": "breaking a pay it forward chain", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking a pay it forward chain?", "text": "It\u2019s Thanksgiving. I went to the Starbucks drive thru with my sister and we ordered two lattes (about $10). I was driving. The plan was for me to use my phone for my free drink, and then her to pay the remaining $5. \n\nWe get to the window and I ask to use my free drink. The guy gives me the big smile and tells me the car ahead of us paid for our drink and we\u2019re the 11th car in a pay it forward streak. He tells us the car behind us has 3 drinks, probably totaling $15 or so. \n\nI decided to accept the free drinks and offer the $2.92 balance on my mobile app for the car behind us. I didn\u2019t think it was fair to have to pay $15 when really I was going to get my drink free anyway, and my sister certainly wasn\u2019t speaking up offering to pay anything toward it. \n\nBut I also feel like an asshole because it\u2019s a holiday, there was a long streak, and we clearly disappointed the worker at the window... AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bWmGWJubbWe4jrbgfMqjpGtfoLigFvZr", "post_id": "ae2yo9", "action": {"description": "stranding my crying gf at a club because some guy hit on her", "pronormative_score": 149, "contranormative_score": 92}, "title": "AITA for stranding my crying gf at a club because some guy hit on her?", "text": "This happened a week ago. All my friends and her friends are calling me a massive asshole, so looking for confirmation here. \n\nLast weekend we went out with some friends, ended up at a club. For some background, my gf has a really thorny family history with her sister, who\u2019s like some professional runway model even though I think my gf is a lot prettier. Regardless, it gave my gf a huge complex and constantly puts herself down appearance wise. \n\nSo we\u2019re at the club having fun when I go off to get some drinks for everyone. When I come back I see my gf and her friend whisper talking and some other guy turning away and walking off. They tell me this guy just walked up to my gf to try to chat her up and ask for her number. I\u2019m like whatever and didn\u2019t think it was a huge deal. \n\nWell as the night went on my gf started acting REALLY weird, like she was simultaneously quiet and really snappy at me. It got to the point where she was acting like she\u2019s going to cry, putting her hands over her eyes, so I brought her outside and we just sat on a curb for a bit. Honestly I had thought something really bad had happened to her, like someone had groped her or something. \n\nSo she\u2019s huffing and puffing and acting distressed and I\u2019m begging her to tell me what\u2019s wrong. She asks me not to judge her and I said of course, and she says that she feels horrible because that guy from like an hour ago had hit on HER and not the girl she was with. I was like..and that\u2019s bad why? And then the floodgates opened.\n\nShe was cursing and crying basically, calling that guy all sorts of names but all it boiled down to was the fact that he was quite unattractive apparently and very short/overweight even tho he seemed like just some normal dude to me. Honestly I was a bit taken aback. I told her he probably just thought she was pretty and wanted to talk to her, but my gf was convinced it\u2019s because he thought she\u2019s more in his \u201cleague\u201d than the girl that was with her. So I\u2019m trying to comfort her while losing my patience now but I really lost it when she started calling him \u201cApu\u201d (like from the Simpsons, he looked Indian but not sure if he was). I was like ok nope nope nope it\u2019s too late to deal with this crap anymore and I got up and basically just hailed a cab home. \n\nThe next morning my phone blew up from my gf because she couldn\u2019t believe I left without telling her and stranding her at the club. She said she had to get a ride off of a friend and cried the whole time. I told her that I\u2019ve been very supportive of all her self esteem issues but I have a limit too. After another day she calls me EXTREMELY apologetic saying that she was just upset in the moment but she doesn\u2019t want to break up over this. \n\nWe\u2019ve been in limbo since this and everyone is telling me that I\u2019m overreacting. I don\u2019t know. The stuff she was saying when she was upset was EXTREMELY vile. From the racist comment to everything else. My sympathy just plunged to the ground. But now everyone is telling me I fucked up and that I owe it to her to hear her out and that everyone makes mistakes when they\u2019re at their most vulnerable. I\u2019m really second guessing what I did and I do feel guilty for just leaving without telling her. \n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 35, "OTHER": 144, "EVERYBODY": 57, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 149, "WRONG": 92}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EzhsuoGshIJ7aT1HVRyNgAHjPP6HaCIv", "post_id": "akmych", "action": {"description": "not picking a credit card up", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA cause I didn't pick a credit card up?", "text": "This is my first post, its something that has been  really bothering me so I just had to talk about it, at first I would like to apologize, English is not my first language, im so sorry if I made any mistakes. Here we go.\nSo my family and I went on a trip, in which I came back before everyone, so I stayed alone at home taking care of our 3 cats and doing some chores, I'm not really into staying by myself, so I just did my chores and left to my grandparent's house (we are not neighbors, but live kind close to each other,I can go by feet but its better by car). So this weekend I was kinda back and forth between my house and their's. \nMy mom would be back home at Monday morning, so I would make sure the house was clean since she's very very very strict with my chores. Sunday came up and I decided to leave everything on spot and spend all day with my grandma. Then my father texted.\n\nFather: Your mother is coming back today, she broke her phone, ask your grandmother if she can buy another one.\n\nI aks my grandma, and she says yes, so I answer.\n\nMe: She said yes, what phone she will get, she needs to know the price.\nFather: Same as yours \nMe: ok\n \n(30 minutes pass)\n\nFather: did you already bought the phone?\n\nSo, that's when the shit started happening. My grandfather is obese, which means that he can't move that well, meaning that we can't just go out very quickly or unexpected (my grandmother doesn't drive) public transportation is WAY too dangerous to use at night. So I didn't expect to then to think I would go out to buy the phone.\n\nMe: I thought I would go tomorrow, right now if I leave at the time I get there the mall will be closed.\n\nI thought it was over by that, bOY was I wrong.\nMy father and mother (via my dad's phone) started texting my grandparents. I don't know what they talked about it I just know they were texting.\n\nFather: Your grandmother will leave her card with you \nMe: ok\n\nAt this point I pretty done with is situation, since my grandfather was felling really guilty for not moving around and being able to leave unexpected, and my gm was just overwhelmed by having to pay a cellphone, which is REALLY expensive here.\nMy father text me again.\n\nFather: Your grandmother doesn't have enough money on her card today, she will go the bank tomorrow. Your grandfather will leave some money don't worry.\n\n(Some explanations: my father is an teacher, and my mother is unemployed, we been to difficult times so I would expect him to ask them money, from any emergencies and fresh food)\n\nMe: ok\n\n(An 1 hour later)\n\nFather: Your mother is coming back, don't forget the money, your grandmother card doesn't have enough limit.\n\nMe: ok\n\n\nSo... I ask my grandma \"You are going to buy the phone?\", I asked cause I didn't know since the limit thing. She replied \"as soon as I enlarge my limit\".\n\nMy mother leaves at 9pm, she would be making a 5 hour trip. She gets here at 2am. I was sleeping but got up to take her bags. We finish taking everything out.\n\nShe says \"go to bed, its late, tomorrow we can talk\" I only agree and go back to bed.\n\nMonday morning, I wake up first, she's probably tired... I do my chores and go back to bed to just stay in my computer.\n\nShe wakes up, takes a shower, and then comes to my room.\n\n\"Did you got the money?\" \nI replied \n\"Yes, it's on the table next to your pc\" \n\"Were is the card?\" \nI look at her \n\"I didn't get I thought --\" \nShe doesn't let me finish\n\" I asked you one simple thing and now you mess everything up!\" \nI didn't know how to answer, my mom gets angry very easily and I don't know how to deal sometimes\n\"I can ask grandpa to bring it, he would be here to bring lunch anyways\" \nShe has fire in her eyes \n\"LUNCH?\" She just closes the door.\nI sigh and text my Gp.\n\nMe: can you try bringing GM's  card here? I thought she wouldn't use so I didn't bring.\n\nHe doesn't answer.\nMy mother comes again to my room tries to use my phone to make a call but it's so stressed she cursed everything away and LEFT HOME.\n\nI started calling my grandfather. He answers the third time I call.\n\nMe: Can you try to bring the card? My mom will need it I thought she wouldn't.\n\nGf: I cant rn, my car is not starting, am going to call for a mechanic.\n\nMe: okay, I'm going to you to pick up.\n\nMy mother gets home while I'm making the call.\nI started to get my things to go to get the fucking card. \n\nMom: WHERE ARE YOU GOING?\nme: I'm going to grandma's to get your card\nMom: YOU DON'T HAVE TO \nme: why? \nMom: CAUSE YOU FUCKING DON'T WANT YOU TO DO SHIT \nat this point I'm just done but tried to keep as calm I could \nMe: I will go and come back fast, I'm just trying to solve this fast, the info was messed up and I thought I shouldn't get it.\n\nI tried to explain.\n\nMom: JUST STAY FUCKING HOME!! I GONNA START DOING THINGS TO YOU LIKE YOU DO TO ME! YOU HAVE TO LEARN HOW THINGS WORK. \n\n\nI came back to my room and stayed quiet like I don't fucking exist, now that my father is blowing up my phone with all kinds of text, I need reddit to tell me if am I the asshole, cause I didn't pick a credit card? \n\n\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cTmKI27ct3IavMPKM1ANxqrSrJXLZrhb", "post_id": "b35jhe", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get involved in a strangers domestic issues with her ex", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get involved in a strangers domestic issues with her ex?", "text": "Never posted here so sorry for the format & length. Also posting from my phone.\n\nAbout a guy we'll call R & his now ex we'll call A, both of whom I've never met. R was drinking one night at a friends, got plastered, tried to drive home. He caused an accident with someone who is a friend of mine who we'll call M. M had to be flown to a hospital in a different state in life threatening condition: brain damage, broken bones, etc.\n\nA confronted me via messages about a post I made- how I cant wait until his birthday so he can be thrown in real jail & he should've been the one with all the injuries. She calls me all kinds of things and says, \"he wakes up screaming at night because of it\", a whole sob story. We had a long conversation about R & M, stuck to our peoples sides & left it not liking each other.\n\nLater, I get a message from A saying I was right about R. She left him because of threats, emotional abuse and manipulation. He hits himself if she says no to sex with him, threatens to report she was taking advantage of him sexually since he's 17, she's 18. A bunch of shit. I say get a restraining order, report he's broken bond (driving when he's not allowed) & harassing her. She has all this evidence on her phone of what he says & does to her but wont report him. I thought about reporting him but I didn't since i have zero evidence.\n\nI talk to her about stuff that's going on with her because R has alienated A away from her friends & she felt alone. I felt I should be there for her. She sends me stuff about R; a video of him racing his friends car 3 weeks after the accident with M and news that he wrecked a different friends car. He just doesnt care.  I said this is perfect, now she has real evidence against him. But she did nothing. I push myself away from her because I don't understand why she doesn't do anything with all the evidence, she just wants to complain about it.\n\nA: why haven't you reported him yet?\n\nMe: why haven't YOU reported him? You're the one involved, the one with all the evidence, you've been personally wronged. Call the police & get an RO.\n\nA: I dont feel like getting an RO.\n\nThis week:\nA finally goes to the police.\n\nA: got the RO but haven't reported him. Im scared he'll know its me so will you come report him so it will be under your name? I dont want to be involved. Also, could you under-the-table stir some shit up for him to email me or DM me so he'll violate the RO?\n\nMe: what? No? What if he screenshots it and uses it against me? I can't afford to get in trouble because of him.\n\nA: Well it depends on how you do it. You'll figure it out.\n\nMe: No I'm not doing that. Hes broken bond multiple times, been behind the wheel & drinking, harassing you, thats enough to get him in serious trouble. Im not going to harass him for you, Im sorry.\n\nShe hasn't spoken to me since.\n\nAITA for not getting more involved than talking to her & advise her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xsF5EFm7zmAEWkufcq2xeqBxo2bvFfgY", "post_id": "aovylr", "action": {"description": "taking a monitpring job that my gf wanted", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking a monitpring job that my gf wanted.", "text": "So, my college offered these monitoring jobs, and recently she said she wanted to do it.\nI said she should go for it, and also showed some interest too, maybe we could monitor different classes.\nTurns out she can't do it, as the colleges schedule doesn't fit hers.\nBut now, I really wanna get this job.\nAITA if I take it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YhmFvWO2C7FgY2MuXrCLzr51hBYBxy6S", "post_id": "b2tiyq", "action": {"description": "wanting to pursue other relationships while my \"girlfriend\" studies abroad", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to pursue other relationships while my \u201cgirlfriend\u201d studies abroad", "text": "I know the title makes me sound bad but I had to get your attention. \n\nI am currently in college, and last semester I met a girl in one of my classes and we shared some mutual friends so we hit it off. \n\nWe were romantically involved (less than a month but we were friends longer) but we never went further than kissing. I once asked her to have sex but she didn\u2019t want to and I never brought it up again. This isn\u2019t super important to me but I am trying to lose my virginity. \n\nWe were \u201ctogether\u201d for about a month but it was strange for us because next semester she was leaving the country to study abroad, and the next time I\u2019d see her would be next school year. \n\nWe never actually said we were girlfriend/boyfriend but before she left she told me \u201cstay available for me next year\u201d and I said I would (we were both drunk). \n\nCurrently we keep in touch but nothing more than keeping our streak on Snapchat. \n\nAm I an asshole for wanting to pursue other relationships? Or should I suck it up and wait the year? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CAbvt9I8u8YxsVTsrczWp0vKqG2oNALs", "post_id": "b0bc5j", "action": {"description": "being mad at my best friend for refusing to be my maid of honor", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my best friend for refusing to be my maid of honor?", "text": "So my best friend, who I will call H has been my friend since we were 13. During high school I was in foster care and I faced a large amount of physical/sexual/emotional abuse from my biological parents, and H always supported me through my battles with mental disorders. Then I was kicked out of my home and my relationship with H went into a downward spiral. I very rarely saw H because she was spending so much time with her new friends from college. I confronted H, and she apologized and claimed it was because of \u201cschool\u201d and \u201cwork\u201d taking up a large amount of her time so her schedule was always packed. I then met my significant other, who I will call D. H never cared for D and made this fact very clear, and she screamed and yelled at me after D picked me up and I slept at his house for our one-week anniversary. She told me I needed to let someone know before I went out with boys I \u201cdidn\u2019t know very well\u201d because \u201cI could end up getting in a bad situation\u201d. I moved in with R after a month of dating and H refused to drive out to see me, even though it was only a 30-minute drive. She always had excuses saying that the \u201cdrive was too far\u201d and that \u201cI didn\u2019t help pay for gas\u201d. I told her that I would never put a monetary value on her friendship and she said that was not fair, because I wasn\u2019t the one who had to spend money to hang out. At the time, I did not have my driver\u2019s license or a job, so this really, really hurt. I called her a selfish bitch that cared about money more than her best friend, and she ignored this. I later apologized for my outburst. We started to talk again, but it was never quite the same because she was always hanging out with T. I went through 5 pregnancy scares, and she NEVER ONCE was there to support me through these scary times, and I told her that she was not a good friend for not supporting me through my problems.\n\nNow, D has proposed to me and I am ecstatic. I already have it planned out, and picked a MOH dress to match H. You can imagine my shock when I was given a very confident NO. When I asked why she informed me that she felt she could not live up to MY expectations and that she felt that I had \u201ctaken advantage\u201d of her ever since we had finished high school, and that she did not feel comfortable committing to something this major when I have spent the past few years \u201cbumming rides and cash off of her.\u201d The only time I have EVER had her pay for me was when I was going through depression and I asked her to bring me food, and she only did this ONCE. Other than that, she has driven me around only a handful of times, so overall I would guess that she has only spent $50-60 on me. I brought this up to her and she LAUGHED and said I was \u201cproving her point that I was only focusing on myself and my own problems.\u201d I have not spoken to her since. My fianc\u00e9 tells me that she is being a huge bitch and a terrible friend, but when I asked one of our mutual friends they agreed with H. Am I being the asshole???\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qr4q7JWIf6V3mqPXDPuagnxNO2QoaDCt", "post_id": "a87gxk", "action": {"description": "making a move on my friend's crush", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I made a move on my friend's crush?", "text": "*All included names are fictitious, but the situation is too real*\n\nBack in August, I introduced my roommate and longtime friend Joey to my friend Monica, whom I met in a class we shared in the spring semester.\n\nIt didn't take long for Joey to develop a very strong crush on Monica, and they've already gone on a handful of dates. However, unbeknownst to Joey, his feelings for Monica are unrequited.\n\nIn my private discussions with Monica and Joey, I've gleaned some very important details about the situation.\n\n1. Monica is aware that Joey \"probably\" has feelings for her, but they've both been very passive about discussing their relationship. She's been waiting for Joey to confess his interest in her so that she could let him down. So it looks like for better or worse, she's been stringing him along for at least four months.\n\n2. Joey has told me in no uncertain terms that he likes Monica. In fact, he's already begun to refer the two of them as a couple despite it not ever having been communicated.\n\n3. Monica has feelings for me. And damn it all, I can't conceal my emotions too well. I'm pretty sure she knows that I like her too just from how much I blush with every little hint (read: very obvious sign) she gives me. I'm pretty sure it's because she likes me that she doesn't like Joey.\n\nI'm not the type to go behind someone's back. I've already relayed all the information I've listed here and more to Joey. I made it clear to him that I have feelings for Monica and that it's likely that she actually has feelings for me. His reaction has been expectedly poor, basically outright denial.\n\nI've encouraged Joey to talk to Monica about the situation, but he still hasn't, probably for fear of rejection. It's been about six weeks already and two weeks ago, I made him an ultimatum: In a week's time, I would talk to Monica about the situation to get things straightened out if Joey didn't do it himself.\n\nAs you can guess from the wording, I still haven't talked to Monica about it despite saying that I would. I really want Joey to get the closure he needs by doing it himself, because I'm sure the whole situation is painful enough and I don't want to hurt his feelings any more than they already are.\n\nThat being said, I don't want to continue to put this part of my life on hold for the sake of Joey's feelings. I feel like I've waited long enough and said everything that I could to be as transparent as possible about everything.\n\nSo with all this in mind (and more, if you need more information), would I be the asshole if I made a move on Monica?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1g5Lv64xs2VGQZOuTGdSK2un0CScFz51", "post_id": "b7eso3", "action": {"description": "feeling slightly irritated that my roommate allows his homeless friends to use the the bathrooms, showers, and kitchen in our dorm", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling slightly irritated that my roommate allows his homeless friends to use the the bathrooms, showers, and kitchen in our dorm?", "text": "Throwaway account just to be safe. \n\nI'm currently living in a college dorm room with five other people. I have a roommate who has a few friends that are enrolled in classes at this university but are living out of their cars. \n\nEvery so often my roommate will let them into the dorm and allow them to use the showers, toilets, kitchen, and sometimes sleep on the ground in our shared bedroom. \n\nThe thing that probably irritates me the most is when he lets people I don't know sleep in our bedroom as they will often talk and wake me up in the middle of the night. \n\nI pay thousands of dollars every semester to be in this dorm and have access to all the things that come with it (bathroom, sinks, etc.).\n\nAlthough I feel badly and empathetic towards my roommate's friends due to the bad situation they're in, it feels unfair to me that they can use the things I pay thousands of dollars for without cost. \n\nSo, am I the asshole?\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wB0L67J1nwKVuQGJXiHK55Uaqj342R6N", "post_id": "aj69vz", "action": {"description": "getting pet rats when I know my sister hates them", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting pet rats when I know my sister hates them?", "text": "Little bit of context here... My parents are getting a divorce soon. My Mom suddenly told us she was extremely unhappy and she needed \"a month\" to herself. 2 months later and we come home to find most of the furniture in our house gone. I live mostly with my Dad, only seeing my Mom a couple of times a month. My sister lives mostly with my Mom. My sister comes to stay 2 days out of every week. Before I got the rats she was living with my Dad and I for the most part. I think me getting the rats stopped her from coming to the house as often as she used to. Now, I come from a relatively wealthy family and we have a large house with a granny flat outside. For my case, it was a storage room that I cleaned up specifically so I could have pet rats out there. My sister knew I wanted rats and she has fought the idea of me getting them for YEARS. My Dad happily agreed to get them when my Mom left because he knew they would be able to cheer us up like nothing else, as my Mom refused to let me get some when she lived with us.\n\n​\n\nMy sister doesn't have a phobia of rats, but she absolutely HATES them. I've known this fact for years. Before I got the pet rats I would mention wanting to get them to my Dad and he said no multiple times until he realised just how happy it would make me. I was actually at my Mom's house when he told me I could get them (I had jokingly been texting him about getting them and he said I could get them if we put them outside). I was visibly shaking. My Mom turned around and saw me and she literally thought I was gonna pass out. That's how excited I was. I told my sister to get her mentally prepared for me getting the rats and she FREAKED.\n\n​\n\nFast forward a bit and as I said before she stopped coming home a lot. She claimed it was the quietness of the house, but I still feel bad. I feel like the asshole, but I also don't. I'm completely understanding of her hatred for them, so I don't show her photos or even talk about them in front of her. She's seen them before, but that's because she went out to see them. They've never even been inside the house. They bring me so much joy and happiness, but I'm crushed. My Dad loves my sister and it hurts him that she doesn't come home as often. He doesn't blame me, but I blame myself.\n\n​\n\nI got pet rats KNOWING that she would hate them and would react badly, but I also love them so much. They're my little babies and I spend so much time with them. I'm conflicted.\n\n​\n\nI should also point out I have 4 cockatiels as well and my sister LOVES them. She didn't want anymore pets because she thought I couldn't take care of them, which really isn't the case at all. She made it clear for years she would rather die then live with a house filled with rats. \n\n​\n\nSo, Am I The Asshole for getting rats when I knew my sister would hate them?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MqTKsSnoeDPjX1pLj1Br1ddL4fFL6pfp", "post_id": "awy3fz", "action": {"description": "ruining my sister's wedding dress", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ruining my sister\u2019s wedding dress?", "text": "I am from India, my elder sister is getting married in two months.\nTwo days earlier, my sister went to shop for her wedding dress along with my cousins and parents and she picked up a \u201cperfect\u201d dress for her wedding reception, which she couldn\u2019t stop fawning upon (it is made from handloom silk with handcrafted embroidery). Next day over lunch my sister was showing me the pictures of her in the said dress to get my opinion about it, in the hindsight it was my cue to shower customary praises. Here is how the conversation went.\n\nMe: it\u2019s good.\nSis: I know it doesn\u2019t look so eye catching in the picture but it is very beautiful when you see it in real.\nMe: but shouldn\u2019t it look beautiful in pictures too, because picture are the reminisce of the moments. When you look back at those pictures years later you regret the not so eye catching dress you were weari......(*stopping mid sentence)\n\nAs I was saying these words, I was feeling the intensity of each word and its impact on my sister. She immediately started regretting buying the dress and started telling how she wanted a slightly cheaper dress(~$42 cheaper) but the salesperson over there directed here towards this \u201cboring\u201d dress. She immediately called up the shop to stop them from doing any alteration and customisation that she requested, but they informed her that they had already dispatched it for the said instructions. She just starts crying.\n\nI offered her to buy the second dress \n but she refused it.(she and her fianc\u00e9 are funding their own wedding without taking anything from parents)\n\nI am feeling like shit right now.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nItYSRf0yWNRMK6DUvymPW9i1IZV6Dv4", "post_id": "ab50jj", "action": {"description": "confronting my sister about her friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I confront my sister about her friend", "text": "So last night my sister invited me out drinking with her and some friends of hers (acquaintances of mine) and we had an overall good time and it was a blast, however something from last night is just bugging me.\n\nMy sister's friend has, in previous encounters, expressed her interest in me, and it was mutual. However, my sister told me that her friend has a lot of baggage, and that she'd prefer if I didn't pursue her. No problemo, I'll respect her wishes and just drop it. From previous encounters I know this girl has a lot of issues with trusting men because she's had a bad stretch of guys and I feel for her on that.\n\nHere's where the issue of last night comes in, one of my sister's friends is a shameless womanizer. He's a great guy and I enjoy his company, but he is very honest in that he likes to date and sleep around (no judgement there I've done the same). My sister has also previously had a fling with the guy. So my sister was progressively pushing them together over the course of the night and by the time I left to go home they were making out in the bar. I'm concerned that my sister has set her friend up to be hurt by a guy that she knows is a womanizer when she knows her friend is looking for an actual relationship. While it technically is none of my business it's the kind of behavior she's exhibited in the past where she's unintentionally set a friend up to get hurt by trying to play matchmaker and not taking into consideration the consequences of her actions. I would like to confront my sister about this kind of behavior and how it can it be toxic not only to her friend but also to her friendships with people and her friend circle.\n\nSo WIBTA if I opened my mouth and told my sister that it probably wasn't a good idea for her to push them together? I'm torn on this one\n\n​\n\nTLDR: Sister set up her friend that wants a relationship with a guy who is not really a relationship kind of guy. I think she didn't think this through and just set her friend up to get hurt. I want to tell her that but am unsure of if I should.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OgEH1PIvDmlaoRvNTcwvUcnEwaOrjSTE", "post_id": "awzpes", "action": {"description": "getting free food from McDonald's by accident", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting free food from McDonald's by accident?", "text": "The other day me and my friends were going through the McDonald's drive thru and one friend wanted to pay with his card and the rest if us with cash, we pull up to the window where you pay and my friend gives her his card, we waited a few seconds but didn't turn back to us and one of us told the driver to just pull up to the food window. My friend that payed with his card got his drink, we wait a minute or two and they gave us the food that we ordered but didn't take our money, being teenagers we just drove off. I don't think this really effects the workers in any way because they will still get payed but is it a shitty thing to do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nxaNstTzTrWF7zuohDuh5pdsyt0UOUBY", "post_id": "aqyhc1", "action": {"description": "not telling my girlfriend the true reason I'm breaking up with her", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't tell my girlfriend the true reason I'm breaking up with her?", "text": "So... My SO and I have been dating for just shy of a year, living together for about 6 months. I always knew she had mental issues, but she seemed to manage them to an acceptable degree, and during the first while, I didn't mind.\n\nHowever, after we moved in together, especially the last 2-3 months, it's gotten... Really bad. Anxiety, depression, general mental health issues, and it's become so bad recently that it's dragging me down too. We've talked about it many times, including the possibility of getting professional help, but she refuses, she only wants to work on it herself, or at least with my help.\n\nHowever... Nothing has changed, in fact, it's arguably gotten worse since we took active attempts to get better. This is where the second part comes in. Her lifelong dream is to have a family, 3 kids, a dog, suburban house, the works. I've never cared much for it, but never had much of an opinion on the matter either. However, recently, I've started to have an epiphany that I might not want that life... At all. We've discussed it before, and we agreed that I would tell her again if it became a real thing, and she would understand. Life goals change, that's just how it is. However, I'm not sure if I just, don't want that life at all, or if I don't want it with her... With all her mental health issues, I don't see her being able to be a good mother (daily anxiety attacks, caused often by disruptions in her daily rhythm... And kids aren't exactly predictable), and I'm scared I'd effectively be a single father.\n\nNow, the dilemma is... It's true, that I don't think I want the same future she does. 90% sure, but there's still a chance. However, the main reason is her mental health. I don't think she'll get better unless she gets professional help, certainly not better enough to look after 3 kids and a home. But she's made it very clear that she will never go to a psychologist, or similar, again (bad previous experiences), and nothing I can say will change that.\n\nSo... WITBA for using the \"I don't want kids after all\" excuse? We've talked about it before, and she's said she'd understand, these things change sometimes. I feel like it'd be easier for her to handle than her mental health, which is a... Very touchy subject for her. On one hand, I feel she deserves to know. But on the other... It won't change anything, she won't see a professional anyways, so what does it matter?\n\nPlease do give your opinions, I'm a bit at a loss here.\n\ntl;dr: I will probably break up with my girlfriend due to her unwillingness to seek help for her mental health issues. Should I tell her the truth, or tell her an, also true, but less so, reason?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2x5MYzm0FztmJi1TtmGVsbKbu7ixMb4y", "post_id": "b3vthv", "action": {"description": "leaving a group project", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for leaving a group project?", "text": " \n\n* My TA encouraged me to join a group with 2 other girls. My team members did most of the proposal before I arrived to the group, and said it was only fair that I had to do most of the final paper.\n* The week the proposal was due I was busy every day from 8am-11pm so I couldn't meet up that week, but offered to do whatever work I could. They asked me to edit their proposal, so I edited it.\n* Last week, I got sick with a flu and got pink eye, so sitting up and using my eyes was difficult. I also had two final exams last week, and 2 on this recent Tuesday. The final paper was due today at 5pm.\n* One group member said, \"get your sections to me by Monday night\" so they could have the final draft ready by the time that office hours on Tuesday. I told her that I would try my best, but that I was sick and had several finals, so it might not be the greatest draft.\n* Monday night, I've written up a rough draft. I sent it to them around 11pm with an apology and an explanation that I had to study for my other finals the next day, but I'd have the final draft ready by Wednesday.\n* Group member texted me at 2am when I was still up studying for finals. She said that she had never wanted me to join the group in the first place, that I left all the difficult parts for them, that she didn't care what was going on in my life because I had the whole weekend to work on it, that I'm a student and I should know better how to behave in a group project, that she was \"so very sorry\" for whatever was going on in my life but that I can't complain because they did the project proposal for me. She also said that I could do my own project if I couldn't keep up.\n* She responded \"ok\" to my apologies. I told her I would continue editing the paper right away, and did so. She told me \"Fine, have it done by Tuesday night then. is that good enough?\"\n* I e-mailed the professor asking if I could do the group project alone. He was curious as to why I wanted to do the project alone 3 days before the deadline, so I explained the situation. He understood and told me I could use the same concept and the same work that I had already done.\n* I texted my group members that I was doing my own project, because I couldn't work with them anymore. It was causing me a lot of distress because honestly I'm sensitive and not used to being talked to in that way. I removed most of my work from the paper and wrote my own version of the parts they had completed, and turned in my own version.\n\n\\*\\*tl;dr\\*\\* Group members presented me with an early deadline that I was unable to meet, group member was upset that I didn't get it done because of sickness/finals. I left the group and did my own project. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YB98GHivhGotbjIpIitCfdxvhYBAZMQz", "post_id": "b74sva", "action": {"description": "calling a Racist the N-Word...ironic", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA I Called a Racist the N-Word...Ironic", "text": "AITA It all started when I decided to check Instagram. It was a post informing me that a famous singer had been exposed for  robbery, and the drugging of men. (Cardi-B) I decided to stick my head into the rabbit hole of angry replies. \n\nME-ME\nRP-RANDOM PERSON 1\nIR- INSTIGATOR\nPP- PRINCIPAL yea i that on purpose \nF1- FRIEND 1\nF2- FRIEND 2\n\n[Top comment] RP: \u201cAn apology wouldn't be enough from Bill Cosby or R. Kelly. Lock her up.\u201d\n\nME: \"@LAURA what she did wasnt as bad, and she also gave a smart and thoughtful apology, but what she did could and should get her ass shunned.\"\n\n(Oh frick, shouldn't have said ass)\n\nHere he comes...\n\nIR: \"@ME wasn't as bad? So drugging someone and then f-ing them isn't bad?\n\nME: \u201c@IR I'm on ur side bud, I'm not defending the hoe, but Cosby and R. Kelly did not do it in order to make some cash.\u201d\n(Oh frick shouldn't have called the singer a hoe.)\n(I said this because at that time the singer said she desperately needed money, and she stole to survive.)\n\nIR: \u201c@ME so f-ing someone for cash is okay?\u201d\n\n(At this point I just don't care to talk anymore, so I say...)\n\nME: \u201c@IR yes, now go post edits for depressed preteens.\u201d\n(I saw on his profile that his profile is basically him posting depressing cartoon+sad music edits)\n\nIR: \u201c@ME lmao shut up you taco eating Mexican.\u201d\n(I should have \"left the chat.\",but no, I wanted to defend myself *stupid IK*)\n\nME: \u201c@IR I want to call you a [n-word-hard-r], but if you even were one, you'd be too white for the title.\u201d\n\nFriday comes around and I'm sent to the office.\n\nPP: \u201cDo you know why you're here?\u201d\n\nME: \u201cNo do you?\u201d\n\nPP: \u201cDo you have anything in mind that may be a reason?\u201d\n\nME: \u201cAttendance?\u201d \n(The only thing that came to mind that I negatively did by being tardy)\n\nPP: \u201cnope\u201d \n\nA screenshot of ONLY my racist comment with the conversation blacked out was in front of me. Someone emailed my reply and also sent a picture of me and my account to the school.\n\nPP: \u201cMy assistant received an anonymous email from someone showing your comment on social media. Do you know what you said, and can you tell me what's wrong with it.\u201d\n\nME: \u201cI said the n-word and it was foul language.\u201d\n\nPP \u201cNot just foul language.\u201d\n\nME \u201cYes sir, I mean racist. I was completely wrong for saying this hated word.\u201d\n\nPP \u201cBecause we don't have much time, and your coach is out of town, I just wanted to inform you that on Monday we will be speaking again.\u201d\n\nME \u201cCan I know how bad this situation can get?\u201d\n\nPP \u201cYou could get suspended, kicked off the team,  maybe get ISS, or you may get a warning and have to write an apology.\u201d\n\nPP \"All I know is your coach will be deciding on the punishment. I have little say but I will try to help.\u201d \n\nME \u201cThank you.\n\n\nI go back to study hall, and my friends decide to interrogate me.\n\nF1: \u201cDid you get in a fight?\u201d\nF2: \u201cDid you get a girl pregnant?\u201d\n\nI laugh it off and try to forget\n\nWill this go on my record?\nAny advice is helpful.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HtCUmjheD6H0slxT9tawhBCXNmufAVP7", "post_id": "b2ozdr", "action": {"description": "asking my new bf not to wear his mother's ashes around his neck during sex", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my new bf not to wear his mother's ashes around his neck during sex?", "text": "New relationship. 2 weeks in. All the cuddles & long phone calls & romance one can enjoy. We had sex for the 1st time last night and I kept being distracted by the small vile hanging from his neck containing his creamated mother's ashes. I don't like it, but he told me he \"always\" wears it. Idk if I should bring it up or not. WIBTA if I asked him to take it of occasionally, including during sex? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 6}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yxWugd8IuWgBiWDwa7TZFt62ibSX946Y", "post_id": "ari9po", "action": {"description": "not putting away tools I didn't use", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not putting away tools i didn't use", "text": "So a few days ago I was shoveling the porch and driveway I spent about a hour and a half to two hours out there and when I'm just about done my father offers to help I wasn't going to decline so I let him he grabs the hammer and starts breaking up the ice chunks (Wich needs to happen in order to shovel well ) over all we we're done in like 10 more minutes so he didn't help that much but I'm still grateful a few days later and the hammer goes missing after like 20 minutes of looking I found it burried in the very deep snow outside our drive way (i live in Alaska I'm talking about like a meter of snow scence this part doesn't get shoveled) I know that the last time the hammer was used was by my father so I come inside and comfrount him about it and he said that I should be more grateful that he helped me and that scence it was my job it was my responsibility that all the tools be put any I initially thought this was bs but my mother seems to agree now I'm not even mad I just want to now if I was in the wrong\n\nNote. it would have been easier if I had just shoveled the entire porch myself than have his help and have to find the hammer\n\nTLDR: dad helps me do a job and ends up making it harder for me and blames me for not being grateful.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZpIrIXbPDbNz9HsYGaIC0eHM8401WFFB", "post_id": "axsb9t", "action": {"description": "being pissed at a friend who gave me a bad haircut", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed at a friend who gave me a bad haircut?", "text": "Long story short we both went to cosmetology school together about 2 years ago and are still, essentially still learning. She has done some good work and did my hair before but back in October I sent her a photo of a color and cut that I wanted to try.\n\nWe agreed and met up at the salon where she is apprenticing. She did the cut first, which was basically a one lenght shoulder length bob, maybe some long layers towards the ends and a fringe. Well somewhere towards the middle I can tell she is doing shorter layers, and cut a hole! Basically I had a mullet (and yes it's still growing out as a mullet) when she did my color I brought it up and asked of she thought she cut a hole. She said she thought she did but cross checked and it was fine. It was not. It looked ugly straight and I could even tell she struggled with making it look pretty once styled. For photos, she basically posted a shot from the back with my head tilted up. Optical illusions. I felt horrible. I knew she cut most of the length from the front and chopped into it all around the crown. If I put my hair in a ponytail it looks like a bob. It wasnt the cut I asked for and she didn't even cut a bang.\n\nSo I had some girls at my salon try to do some damage control because I knew it'd be a week before we were both free to try and fix it. All they could do was give me a side swept bang to try to blend thelayers but the damage had been done. \n\nThe next day I texted her and said that it did turn out to be very choppy and she cut a hole in the front (actually 2 holes for each side) I mentioned it didnt look right and I was having trouble styling it. And that we all have off days and it happens.\n\nWell she never replied or acknowledged my text. She had replied to every other message since we met except for this one. In school we are taught to apologize and try to make things right by trying to fix the cut. She could have had me come back and let her mentor assist her to try and fix it.\n\nWell it's now March, and she never replied or acknowledged my concerns. My hair is finally growing out but it's still a mullet and will eventually have to be cut again to even out the two lengths (ear length and shoulder length) my boss is nice enough to trim me every couple of months to help keep it growing nicely. And eventually when I have some length I'll let him cut my hair.\n\nI texted that girl today and let her know I didn't think it was cool she never replied or acknowledged her mistake and tried to make things right.\n\nThat was earlier this morning and she still hasn't replied and I realized she unfollowed me on IG. Maybe even blocked and unblocked because it shows I dont follow her either (I never unfollowed her).\n\nI have hated this cut since the moment she jacked it up and the color doesn't save it. I have to see it/deal with it every day. I know it's just hair but shit takes a long time to grow back. I figure it will be better closer towards the end of the year.\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lqcQzBX7FYR63vHQppiVBwE8vj60az40", "post_id": "b8cwwj", "action": {"description": "pressuring my father to give me more video game privileges", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA for pressuring my father to give me more video game privileges?", "text": "On mobile, first post... blah blah blah.\nTo give context I\u2019ll start at Christmas. I got my first gaming pc and with it a indie game called counter strike global offensive. I got this game without a mic. Never had a mic before. My dad eventually caved in and gave me a mic. Good right? Wrong. My dad bought the game as well to play with me because he could now communicate with me. Unfortunately, on a solo play through, my dad ran into some heavy multiplayer toxicity. It put a bad taste in his mouth about the community. Because of this I was banned from playing csgo without my dad playing with me. Keep in mind I had just gotten the pc and didn\u2019t have a large game library. WIBTA if I pressured him to give the ban up?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dPwt4n0vbiMYfrWEewvdIzK2IIbQxCkZ", "post_id": "aopa7r", "action": {"description": "getting pissed off at my friends after they didn't answer the door", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed off at my friends after they didn\u2019t answer the door?", "text": "On mobile, sorry for formatting.\n\nSo I was going to my friends house where like 6 if my friends were at after saying that I could come over. I was dropped off and was there for a good 5 minutes knocking, texting, and calling with no answers. I leave. I then get a text when I\u2019m almost home that they are there and they were playing a game so nobody wanted to open the door. Apparently, 5 minutes later one friend opened the door after I had already left. I texted them in the group chat \u201cYou guys are a bunch of lazy asses\u201d and saying that they are \u201cfucking stupid\u201d after I wasted a good amount of my time going there and back to my house. This just happened like 10 minutes ago and I\u2019m pretty pissed. So AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 29, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XP020Pj2pkNvHCO4C94cCIBJccUc83w2", "post_id": "b5j9yo", "action": {"description": "not saying I'm in an open relationship in my tinder bio", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not saying I'm in an open relationship in my tinder bio?", "text": "I rarely go on tinder, and when I do it's mostly just for shits and giggles. I just like swiping through when I'm bored and almost never get a real conversation going. Recently someone super liked me and he seemed friendly so I matched with him.  We started talking about our common interests, etc.\n\nThen he asked for my number, and it all got too real for me. Even though I'm in an open relationship, I'm not sure I'd be comfortable actually dating or hooking up with another person (my partner and I have kissed other people, but neither of us have gone further). I told my friend the situation and she got all mad at me, saying I was leading people on by not being upfront about what I want in my profile, etc.\n\nI told the guy my situation and he said he wasn't looking for anything in particular either, so I'm not sure why my friend thinks it's such a big deal? I understand that tinder is a dating app and people have certain expectations, but I don't think I owe them my full story right off the bat. I wasn't flirting with him or anything, I was just having a casual conversations and I did tell him after a bit so it's not like I was really hiding anything. I feel like I shouldn't be responsible for people's assumptions, and matching with someone on tinder doesn't necessarily mean you're definitely going to want to date/hook up with them no matter what your situation is, so what's the big deal? AITA?\n\n\nTL;DR My friend got mad at me for talking to a guy on tinder and not immediately telling him I'm in an open relationship, and that I'm not super interested in dating/hooking up, just looking for conversation.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jiEpyajYtmyLnYrCQ7e3sjTo3VRjJQgf", "post_id": "afkn3m", "action": {"description": "not attending my grandfathers funeral", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not attending my grandfathers funeral?", "text": "My grandfather passed away in early December, and while I was very saddened by his passing I chose not to attend his funeral. This is because the majority of my family is fairly spread out throughout the US, so any visits are rather costly with airfare and hotels if someone doesn't have room for my fiance and I to stay for some time. And unfortunately we're one of the many families living paycheck to paycheck, so we don't exactly have a lot of extra money to spend whenever we feel like it.\n\n​\n\nSo it's not that I didn't want to go, and we did have some money available, but spending it on travel costs could've likely meant that we wouldn't be able to afford our mortgage payment for the month, especially since this was around the holidays so it would've been extra expensive. Sadly this was something my mother didn't seem to understand, and she was very upset when I told her I would not be going. She was very angry with me and went on about how all my many cousins and other family members were coming, it's so selfish of me not to attend my grandfather's funeral, I'm just being cheap, she planned the funeral closer to Christmas so I could be there for the holidays and now I'm ruining her Christmas, and the like. This phone call ended with my mother in tears and hanging up on me, so of course I felt like absolute shit.\n\n​\n\nThe funeral came and went, I didn't attend, and my mother has barely spoken to me since our exchange over the phone - she didn't even answer my call on Christmas day. Many of my other family members shared the same sentiment as my mother, that I was selfish, cheap, etc., though none of them offered to pay my way out there. I'm very sad that I wasn't able to go to the funeral, and I'd like to think my reasoning for not going is justified, but I can't help but wonder should I have tried to do more to get there? Should I have just paid the mortgage late, or maybe return some Christmas present I'd already bought by then, and does it make me an asshole that I didn't? I'm sure my mother would say I am, and part of me does feel like maybe I didn't try hard enough, but I'm very torn.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WcINBp4g0yjPEWyH5TsZ1OgQqD9OsPZ0", "post_id": "amzf55", "action": {"description": "not wanting my Fiances younger brother and nephew to be my groomsmen", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For not wanting my Fiances younger brother and nephew to be my groomsmen?", "text": "Obligatory mobile formatting apology. \n\nSo me(26) and my girlfriend(25) are set to get married, when and where I could not tell you as of yet. We're aiming for a fall 2020 date so we have some time. It's looking to be a medium sized event that we're mostly paying for ourselves with our parents handling the \"extras\". Most of the decisions have been made by her, which I'm completely fine with. She wants a Disney themed reception which each table representing a Disney couple. A song from her favourite band is going to play at our first dance. So on and so forth. The colours were techically picked by me, I don't hold ownership over the idea and she can change them if she wants they just happen to fit our tables Disney couple. It took some convincing but I also got to choose the song that plays while we exit the church and if I can convince them, a charity group can have a presence at our reception. \n\nOur current stand still is over my groomsmen. \n\nShe insists on having her nephew and brother stand up with me. I disagree. \n\nHer nephew is currently 16 and in all honesty, I absolutely love the kid. We're thick as theives and are each others lifeline at boring family functions. Shes rather close to him as well, he was raised by my girlfriends mother and thus has a more brotherly relationship with my bride to be. \n\nHer brother is 12 and they are rather estrange because of their age difference. He's a good kid just our conversations are that typical adult/child \"how you doing, buddy\" chat. My girlfriend will admit that their relationship is a distant one. \n\nAs for the rest of the wedding party...\n\nI have 3 people lined up and she has 5, not including her niece(which is a whole other conversation). If this were an issue of evening the sides I have 2 others I could stand with me but even then she wants her brother and nephew up there. \n\nI disagree having them up there primarily because I feel I should choose my groomsmen. While She says that since they're family they have to be a part of the wedding, I agree just not as my groomsmen. As ushers sure. My own son(7) I don't want as my groomsmen and even though she wants him to be, I'd rather see him as the ring bearer.\n\nSo reddit am I the asshole here ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "viuu8YHu57ABI8bR0UBKKDmFUt0lIobG", "post_id": "b10bhi", "action": {"description": "not picking my boyfriend up at the airport", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not picking my boyfriend up at the airport", "text": "Some background: My boyfriend and I live together about 20-30 min from the airport. For most trips he\u2019s gone on, I\u2019ve dropped him off and picked him up at the airport (including his family on one occasion). The only exceptions to this have been when it\u2019s in the middle of the workday or I\u2019ve been out of town myself. I don\u2019t do as much traveling without him, but he\u2019s never picked me up or dropped me off at the airport for various reasons. \n\nThe story: so a few days ago he was coming back from a trip with one of his best friends. When I asked him beforehand what his flight times were I told him I\u2019d be able to drop him off but since he was getting back at 2:30am and I had work training that started early, he\u2019d have to find his own way back because I needed sleep. He wasn\u2019t thrilled about this, but didn\u2019t complain. While he was on the trip, the Ethiopian air flight went down, and lo and behold he was scheduled to be on a flight with a Max 8 on the way back. Naturally, he was freaked out and got another flight but was still on a Max 8 for the first leg of the trip. This flight got him back at 1am, which was still way too late  for me as I often struggle to stay awake past 9-10pm. He doesn\u2019t like watching TV shows with me for that reason; I normally fall asleep mid episode. I was nervous about his first flight and kept on checking flight tracker to make sure everything was ok, and fought to stay awake while waiting for him to text me that he landed safely. That was 10:30pm, and even then I drifted in and out a few times. Needless to say I was asleep by 1am when he called me that he landed and to ask if I was picking him up. I was like \u201c...no?\u201d not thinking anything had changed from our previous agreement. \n\nHe gets home and he\u2019s mad I didn\u2019t pick him up, complaining it cost him $30 and that he thought it would\u2019ve been nice to have someone be excited to see him after the scary plane ride. I told him from my perspective, he had landed the scary flight already, and I wasn\u2019t worried about the second flight (if the second flight was the Max 8 I definitely would\u2019ve picked him up). I also maintained that airport rides are a favor not an expectation. It\u2019s been a couple days and he\u2019s still mad at me about it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i2ZdDipCWM5KRtrXWvINcIp7LHjjOdSm", "post_id": "aaf1vg", "action": {"description": "wanting my friend to pay his way", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting my friend to pay his way?", "text": "I'll keep this as short and sweet as I can. \n\nI invited a friend to stay with me in the lead up to Christmas because he didn't have any friends or family to be with. \n\nDue to a work fuck up, he said he might not be able to pay for anything until his pay came through. I said that was fine, as even though I'm unemployed (I begin a new job in Feb), I'd pay his way. \n\nFour days later, this guy staying with me has cost me $200 in take outs, ubers and drinks when we went out. \n\nOn his last day, his pay from work came through so I waited for him to ask my bank details so he could transfer money over. He never did. \n\nAITA for expecting him to pay me back, or should I cop the cost because I hosted him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ntx6tJPAaf8m8GleTrITV2d8SJHSygYA", "post_id": "av4ij5", "action": {"description": "making a \"Single Person\" Joke about myself", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For Making A \"Single Person\" Joke About Myself?", "text": "So today at lunch I heard my friend say \"I'm like the single mom of the group.\" (Don't ask) and I said \"I'm the 40 y/o single mom of the group.\" (I've called myself that for about a year and a half by the way, and I don't recall her calling herself the single mom of the group even once before that)\n\nFriend: I literally JUST said that\n\nMe: I know...I'm saying I'm the 40 y/o single mom of the group\n\nFriend: What, it's different because of the age? You don't even KNOW how single I am. I have a lot of trouble with boys, you dont even know what it's like to be single.\n\nMe: *kinda pissed off but also confused* ...\n\nFriend: So dont go around saying stuff like that\n\nMe, quietly: Don't talk to me like you're my mom..\n\nFriend: Don't talk to me at all!! * Yells something at me that I can't remember *\n\nMe: ......\n\nI honestly don't know why this happened. I was just making a joke that I've made hundreds of times before, but today it just set her off. Am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wgkTh6qpnxSk60st7wSF7raBl1YlNrPG", "post_id": "b9baob", "action": {"description": "being standoffish with my younger cousin", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being standoffish with my younger cousin", "text": "Alright so my younger brother (6) and younger cousin (8) have developed a close friendship lately and YC has been coming over to our house practically every weekend. YC has been touching YB inappropriately multiple times; things like putting his hands down his pants, head in his shirt, grabbing his face etc. everyone says it\u2019s normal for kids that age to be doing things like this but it makes me uncomfortable and whenever he sees me catch him, he stops, leading me to believe he knows it\u2019s inappropriate. they\u2019re also extremely LOUD. They sit in the living room practically the entire day playing video games and yell and i cant stand to sit in there at all. even when i\u2019m in my room i can hear the yelling and i have to put my earbuds in and listen to something to drown it out. I know he\u2019s just a kid but he makes me so uncomfortable and i feel bad about it, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UY6hus7Q7i18yqGAlxFjoHHJCgXAw8cj", "post_id": "9zkv2r", "action": {"description": "trying to sleep", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for trying to sleep?", "text": "Sorry, I\u2019m on mobile.\n\nSo I\u2019m a freshman in college and I\u2019ve never had to share a room before. My roommate is super amazing and I have nothing but one bad thing to say about her. That one bad thing is that she has to sleep with the TV on. We\u2019ve been roommates since August and it\u2019s now November and I haven\u2019t had a good nights sleep since I moved to college. I haven\u2019t said anything to her yet because I didn\u2019t think it was right for me to ask her to sacrifice her sleep for mine, but it\u2019s gotten to the point where I\u2019m close to tears because I\u2019m always so tired. I either can\u2019t fall asleep, wake up multiple times a night, or get woken up at four in the morning all because of her TV.\n\nI\u2019ve tried everything, I\u2019ve tried sleeping pills every night, sleep masks, ear buds, and any combination of the three and I always wake without fail. I really want to bring it up to her but I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s unfair for me to ask her to turn it off. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VYL08O5rZfhL2NKmdlEyym0tj7Rh8FIX", "post_id": "abhadj", "action": {"description": "possibly making a friend cry", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for possibly making a friend cry?", "text": "Happy New Year everyone! TL:DR at the bottom.\n\nI participate in a club at school very actively, and leadership positions within the club were being picked for another rotation. A friend of mine (a junior), who I met last year and have bonded with, applied for a position and didn\u2019t get it. I should mention that she is extremely petty and sensitive and will blow up spontaneously on the slightest things (I\u2019m sure you all know those kinds of people).\n\nThe position was filled by a senior, who has done some outstanding work for the club such as organizing events, taking charge when needed, etc. However, he came down with some sort of sickness and wasn\u2019t able to come to school for a long period of time. The reason he was absent though wasn\u2019t widely known, and I only knew because I was also somewhat close friends with him. A lot of people in the club were giving him crap behind is back for being absent, as the club required no truancies since there is much to be done. \n\nDuring an after school potluck, after the positions were announced, she went up to me and told me \u201cthat the people picked for these positions were stupid.\u201d I asked what specific position was she referring to, and she said the position she applied for. She claimed (raising her voice) that the person who got it (the senior) was never here and that he did nothing for the club.\n\nNow, when I heard yet another person talking crap about him, I finally got fed up and defended him. I said, matching her volume, that he was absent because he was sick, and pointed out that if she was absent people wouldn\u2019t say that she was \u201cnever here.\u201d I also mentioned that he did a ton for the club, and named the specific things he did. \n\nAt this point, she started crying. There was a semi crowd around us, but mostly friends/acquaintances, all familiar faces. It wasn\u2019t loud crying, no sobbing, but you could see tears. I apologized and said that I didn\u2019t mean to come off as angry or directly hitting her. She ignored me, and despite me repeating once or twice more my apology as I thought maybe she didn\u2019t hear me, I still got no response.\n\nShe then texts my best friend, who is in that semi crowd, who saw everything, and they walked off and talked. When he came back I asked him (my friend) if she was pissed at me, and he replied with a stern \u201cyep.\u201d He explained to me that she had a lot going on at that time with her boyfriend and that I tipped her off. He said she needed someone to be angry at, and I was that person. \n\nI didn\u2019t think too much of that, reasoning that it would all blow off and we\u2019d be back to normal after this break is over. But it seems I was wrong. I have streaks with her on Snapchat, and I don\u2019t open streaks that others send to me. I didn\u2019t realize that she stopped sending me streaks, and that I was continuously sending her snaps with her not returning them. One day, I see \u201c*insert her name here* is typing...\u201d I thought \u201chuh? Is she apologizing?\u201d \n\nI was wrong. She sent a chat saying, \u201cI\u2019m sorry who is this? I don\u2019t talk to jerks\u201d. I at first responded *sigh* then sent this:\n\n> *insert her name here* I\u2019m not going to apologize again, I understand that you were going through some stuff that day but all I was doing was defending someone that was also going through a lot; if that constitutes being a jerk then I guess I am one. You know for a fact that what I said I had no bad intentions towards you or anyone else, so please don\u2019t take that out of proportion. To me you\u2019re still a friend, and it\u2019s probably not the same way, and that\u2019s fine. I would much rather have you be my friend, but I tried to mend things, successful or not. I hope you had a Merry Christmas and will have a happy new year!\n\nShe replied  \u201cso *my best friend\u2019s name here* told you what happened?\u201d And I said, \u201cno, I asked him if you were mad and he said yeah, you were going through some stuff\u201d and she left me on read.\n\nI\u2019m pretty convinced she doesn\u2019t like me, but not sure. It hasn\u2019t bugged me that much per se, as her opinion/friendship was always rocky, but I don\u2019t want friendships to end, nor do I like people severely disliking me.\n\nAm I the Asshole?\n\nTL:DR - friend applied for a club position, didn\u2019t get it, and bashed on the person who did get it. The person was absent from school for a while due to a sickness, but few people knew why he was gone, and everyone was giving him crap for it. After getting fed up with everyone saying crap about him, I snapped at my friend by saying he was sick, and that he does a lot for the club. She cries, and I later find out that she was going through some stuff that day with her boyfriend. She texts me a few weeks later, saying \u201cwho is this, I don\u2019t talk to jerks\u201d and I send a paragraph (see above). ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "99RSENq7g4Zjl0645R76vWPSygAAVUg6", "post_id": "a662fh", "action": null, "title": "AITA? A stray cat wandered into my house and I adopted him, without really looking that hard for his owners.", "text": "AITA?  We're around the one year mark of this happening, and it's been on my mind.   A stray cat wandered in through the cat door and started talking to me.  He was friendly, looked to be in good shape and seemed well fed.  I assumed he was just a neighbor's who was visiting.  We have a fixed calico who often invites boy kitties over.  It was very cold that night, around 18 F.  Cat freezing weather for sure.  So I told him I was fine with him spending the night.  I really thought he would go home when it got warmer.\n\nHe didn't.  We put a collar on him with our phone number and the words \"Call us.\"  No call.  We called animal control.  No one had called about him.  We took him to the vet to get scanned for a chip.  No luck.  And that's about it.  We don't use facebook, and we didn't put up flyers or make a newspaper help wanted ad.   We got him his shots and chipped a couple of weeks later.  He goes outside sometimes to sunbathe or chase squirrels, but mostly he just cuddles with us and claws up his toys.  The other cats get along with him pretty well.  He is part of our family now.\n\nHe obviously was never feral.  I doubt that he was outside for that long since he would have froze pretty quick.  My husband says he things he was dumped on our property, but we have no way to know that.  \n\nIt's clear that he doesn't think we're assholes for keeping him, but his original owners might if they didn't dump him.  So, AITA for not looking harder for them?\n\nAlso, if any of your guys lost [this guy](https://imgur.com/1UhC7oD) last December in Missouri let me know!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 42, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 44, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KJPVwPQj0cdfK1WDCREoadkFCKW7mDpK", "post_id": "apmb6p", "action": {"description": "turning down a guy trying to pick me up at a bar because he sent his friend over to talk to me first", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for turning down a guy trying to pick me up at a bar because he sent his friend over to talk to me first", "text": "So a little background, I am a single gay guy in my 20s but I am not really that into \"the scene\". I have been out for about four years and maybe gone to gay bars less than ten times total. Mentioning all of this to explain that I don't really know how things typically work in this kind of space. Also important, when I do go to gay bars I go to hang out with my friends. I am not opposed to meeting someone in person but anything past chatting with someone I meet in a bar isn't my style. \n\nA bunch of my friends (all straight besides me) and I went to one of the bars in town. We are all dancing together as a group and it is late in the night so I am pretty drunk. These two (gay) guys come up and talk to one of my female friends. They're on the opposite side of the group but I can hear them laughing and occasionally glancing my way.\n\nEventually one of them walks over and starts talking to me. He introduces himself and says I am \"really cute\". I say thanks and he says that his friend (the one still talking to my friend) really wants to buy me a drink. I am (drunk) confused and I ask why his friend wasn't the one who came up to talk to me. He says that his friend is kind of shy and was too nervous to come over himself. \n\nAs I mentioned before, I am not really here to meet anyone but that was a pretty huge turn off. I'm a fairly confident guy and I am attracted to confident, sure-of-themself people. Some guy sending his friend over to see if I \"liked him back\" felt very middle school to me.\n\nI take a second to think and respond with \"Your friend is really cute but I am not interested in a guy that doesn't have the balls to come talk to me himself. Sorry\". I say it in a very nice way and do a little (probably slightly patronizing) shrug. He heads back over to his friend and they disappear. \n\nAbout ten minutes later the friend pops up next to me and introduces himself and asks to buy me a drink. I don't miss a beat and say \"Dude I'm really sorry but I am just not interested in a guy that sends his friend over to tell me you think I am cute. We are in our 20s... sorry\". My tone wasn't rude but I probably could have been a little nicer about it (drunk directness). \n\nWell he looks like I slapped him in the face. I have no clue what his friend told him but I hasn't expecting instant rejection. He does a 180 and stalks away. Most of my friends saw and heard us and it is instant chaos. Half of them area like \"dude why were you such an asshole!\" the others defended me and said I wasn't really rude, just direct. Some said I was being petty and he was just utilizing a 'wingman' and others agreed that it was very middle school.\n\nSo we are turning to reddit to see if you all have any opinions. Thanks!\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fBCEXGMMChyXsJC58TCIL2U6vx2RxCiq", "post_id": "asxi9b", "action": {"description": "telling my dad to shut (the fuck) up", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my dad to shut (the fuck) up?", "text": "Okay so a little background to my relationship with my dad. My dad is pretty strict but can also be very nice to me and my siblings and he has made huge contributions for my interest in music for example, escpecially since he\u2019s very interested in music himself. Of course I am very grateful about this. In my later teens (I\u2019m 19m) we have built somewhat of friendship since we share alot of the same interest. He has got somewhat of a bad temper though and he is very stubborn. I could be hard to deal with when I was younger because I did alot off dumb things with my friends and I hated almost all my teachers (now I love all of my teachers). This could make him extremly angry and the occasional slap has been awarded for my missbehaviour. Nothing to traumatasing really.\n\nNow I\u2019m in the last grade of swedish highschool and to get to the point. I was feeling sick the other night (I still am) and felt that I couldn\u2019t go to school. As soon as I realised this I also knew my dad would be unhappy about it. He proceeded to tell me that I was being lazy and told me to go to school anyway. I\u2019m not saying he was wrong but it kind of pissed me off (I guess I have inherited his temper). I proceeded to angrily tell him that I\u2019m old enough to decide wether I\u2019m well enough to go to school. I want to believe that I am humble enough to understand that I probably did not sound as mature as it seems. I went into my room, called in sick, and went to bed. He proceeded to storm into my room, calling me a spoiled middleclass brat and so on, also calling me weak. As the true millenial I am I became somewhat offended and started talking back whilst laying in my bed. He told me to shut up whilst walking out to shout at my other brother for something. Note; Telling someone to shut up in Sweden is a bit harsher than in english. Hence (the fuck). I told him \u201d you shut (the fuck) up\u201d back and he turned back into my room, grabbed me by the throat while I was still laying in my bed and said something along the lines of \u201ddon\u2019t you ever tell me to shut the fuck up you understand me?\u201d. I got mad and went to school because I did not want to be in the house anymore. I mean school worked out okay so maybe he had a point.\n\nWas I being disrespectful to my father or does he need to calm his tits. Maybe the throath grab was a bit to much? I don\u2019t know I\u2019ll leave it to you guys.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nX8g99NFrYH0ogV0wuMNWympMGuWVfqo", "post_id": "aoo83h", "action": {"description": "telling my project member to do his work, and if he didn't I would kick him out of the group", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my project member to do his work, and if he didn't i would kick him out of the group?", "text": "So a little bit of info here. About a week ago, our teacher assigned us a group project. Monday rolls in, and boom, half of the people are not at school because of the snow. Me and one of the people who I am partnered with do about 2/4 of the project. Next time we have the subject, everyone is here and we all do more of the project. At this point, 3/4 of the project is done. The only person who didn't do his part of the work (let's call him Bob) says that he will \u2018try to do his part.' A few days pass, and the project is almost due. I look at the project's state, and nothing has happened. I tell him that if he doesn't do his part, I will kick him out. The thing is, though, that I kinda panicked and finished about the rest of the project because I was worried he wasn't going to do it this night. I realized this, and I kicked him out. Bob doesn't have the best track record, so to speak. Should I let him back into the project even though he didn't do anything? Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TkOiCKFsZ2PrZAA8bYhOWjaEG4qvT3CF", "post_id": "b7oqjm", "action": {"description": "not wanting to deal with a needy friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to deal with a needy friend?", "text": "In a doctorate program, and I have a friend who\u2019s always upset about something. I like to be supportive, but I\u2019m going through my own stuff right now. It just feels like this girl looks for things to be upset over & someone to put up with their bad attitude about the \u201cissues\u201d to fill the lack of attention from their SO (very long distance). The most annoying thing to me is that she\u2019ll say \u201cI\u2019m fine\u201d or \u201cnothing\u201d when I ask why she\u2019s upset, then keep giving a nasty attitude until she\u2019s been asked about it many more times. I know it\u2019s on purpose, because she\u2019s said she likes when people are persistent to show how much they care.\n\nShe\u2019s there when I\u2019m in a bad mood; BUT, we actually talk it out and I don\u2019t ever project my frustration on her or act rude to her as if she had something to do with it. It\u2019s close to the end of the term and I\u2019m losing sanity pulling 12-16 hr study days; I don\u2019t need more irritation  and I don\u2019t have time for this: I\u2019m about to ghost her for the rest of the term. Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZUFX575FBwGMwV8U3dIUOCUxYQaDj1HB", "post_id": "adm44j", "action": {"description": "wanting to take my name off an apartment co-sign/lease with my \"best friend\" because I learned she was going to move in with her boyfriend because I couldn't move in at the time", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to take my name off an apartment co-sign/lease with my \u201cbest friend\u201d because i (18F) learned she (18F) was going to move in with her boyfriend (20M) because I couldn\u2019t move in at the time?", "text": " We\u2019ve been planning to move in together for the longest time, then she gets a boyfriend, they\u2019ve only been together 5 months but has known each other for longer and already want to move in with each other. My biggest pet peeve with him, is that he hasn\u2019t asked her to be his girlfriend, he just started calling her that. \n \nShe\u2019s moving into a one bedroom, in 6 months she\u2019ll be able to put in a transfer request to a bigger apartment so that i can move in. She said i have 6 months to save up money so that i can move in. But she didn\u2019t bring up that she\u2019d be moving him in...I don\u2019t think it\u2019s fair to me, to stay on the lease when he can be on it. The only problem is, is that he\u2019s on probation and the apartment runs a background check on the applicants. She\u2019s asked me to stay on the lease because he\u2019s almost off probation, and she won\u2019t be able to get the apartment by herself. But i think if she really wanted to move in with him, she should wait til he\u2019s off probation...if she even can get an apartment with him.\n \nShe told me that she asked him if it would be okay if i moved in with them in 6 months and he said it\u2019d be fine. Nobody that i know of moves out with their boyfriend and in with their best friend, that\u2019s unheard of. I even told her that i wouldn\u2019t move out with if i moved in with my boyfriend. I personally don\u2019t want to move in with them, id feel like the third wheel all the time. I might as well get my own spot.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TZwIebeJQnIJUG5EVCYnNEG06Nx6MjL7", "post_id": "ar0bsu", "action": {"description": "deliberately messing up a friend's clothes", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "Aita for deliberately messing up a friend's clothes?", "text": "We're camping at a festival. For a laugh he smeared a bunch of melted chocolate on my face (was eating something and he reached in and grabbed it and smeared).  I was carrying a bag with his clothes and reached in, grabbed his jeans and wiped it off my face. I did so even though I could have wiped off with a napkin. I honestly view this as an appropriate response. (Personally I hate having sticky things on my hands or face, but I don't expect everyone to share my preferences) \nHe got angry and said it would take me seconds to wash off with soap and water, but it would take him a while to wash his clothes and then wait for them to dry. Aita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PeIpPGp2G1GpzezfRwMvNkktE2E2Lgaq", "post_id": "a4u527", "action": {"description": "accusing my friend of being inconsiderate", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Accusing My Friend of Being Inconsiderate?", "text": "TL;DR - I feel like my friend is treating me in a second rate manner despite the respect ive shown him, and barely initiates plans\n\nHey guys, i recently started my first semester in college to study music after graduating high school year early.\n\nWith that being said, i am working part time, as a full time student, with some responsibilities at home in addition to personal responsibilities such as learning to play guitar and diversifying my musical tastes. My schedule is kind of full.\n\nMy friend Brent (name changed) ive known off and on since 7th grade, but since 11th grade ended, and we regularly talked, has moved an hour away and attends school in that town. He is only in town on saturdays, and i have a class on saturday that ends at different times depending on how long the lecture is.\n\nBrent and i like talking about music/guitar and otherwise have a lot in common, and he expressed multiple times that he wanted to record some short project with genres that we both like, as it would help both of us to have a demo we produced to include in a portfolio of work.\n\nI decide to take saturday evening off from work in order to have some time to work on this project and hang out with brent or other people in our friend group.\n\nSaturdays come and go, and despite how much brent complains about how much the new town he lives in sucks, and that he really wants to do something productive, anytime hes in town, we get nothing done, or he hasnt spent any time writing ideas down on his own. Worth mentioning that im always the one calling him to do something and letting him know im out of class. if he just wants to chill out, he goes to his other friends house and doesnt ask to see what im doing or if id like to join.\n\nI understand im not entitled to his time every weekend, but i tend to include people in those sorts of situations, and its very frustrating to see brent constantly complaining and then squandering the time to do something when hes in town.\n\nI text him about this and how i feel hes regarded me as a second rate friend despite the respect ive shown him. He ends up saying that in spite of some related arguments ive had with one of our mutual friends (whose house he stayed at a lot during high school), he would still like to talk to me, just not as much as his other friends that hes known longer, from my POV confirming what i just told him.\n\nAm i the asshole for cutting off contact and reluctantly talking to mutual friends due to him being an awkward topic?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YSfOtGgTbP2rpgh2grL6LksNPT4VmDJf", "post_id": "acs1ug", "action": {"description": "(maybe) getting my downstairs neighbour evicted for smoking pot in a non-smoking apartment", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for (maybe) getting my downstairs neighbour evicted for smoking pot in a non-smoking apartment?", "text": "Hi everyone, how we doin?\n\nI live in a non-smoking apartment complex in Australia (where pot is illegal) and my downstairs neighbour has a habit of smoking herb on his balcony at night. This is noxious as fuck because the smoke and smell drifts up and comes through my apartment if I have my door open to let the breeze in - because its hot as hell and the air conditioner is expensive. Last year this was happening 3-4 times per week from about July on. \n\nAs the temperature started going up my roommates and I got tired of it and I posted to r/drugs asking how they would like this situation to be treated. Some feedback was good and I ended up deciding to drop a note in their mailbox because I cannot get to their floor (my key only gets me to mine, the ground, and the roof). Note basically said:\n\n\"Hi mate, part of the reason I chose this place is because it was non-smoking. I know there's nowhere you're allowed to light up and your balcony is the safest place but you really should have considered that before you moved in here. If you do it again I'll tell the rental agent.\"\n\nI went on holiday about 2 weeks later and in that time I didn't smell anything. When I got back after a week there was a note in the elevator saying:\n\n\"We would like to remind tennants that this is a non-smoking apartment complex, regards, management\"\n\nI figured someone else probably dobbed him in, or at least complained about someone. I thought this was a good sign. Two days later he was smoking again. So I complained and told them who it was. I was coming back to the apartment two weeks after that and his balcony had been cleared out. I assume he's left. Either evicted or chose to leave.\n\nAm I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j0hwKxxFyHjk4M5HMwI2l66mN2OFrN0n", "post_id": "9tb8vq", "action": {"description": "telling a girl to get back in line", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl to get back in line", "text": "This happened in a class of about 40 people, there were 2 people queuing up to sign the attendance sheet and I was walking 5 feet behind leisurely to queue behind them when suddenly this girl from about 12 feet sprinted and almost pushed me back to get in front of me in line and gave me a disgusting smirk. When it was her turn to sign the attendance sheet however, she didn't have a pen and turned around to ask me for my pen. I told her \"I'd be happy to lend you my pen if you didn't cut my queue\", moved past her and signed my name on the sheet. She gave me a horrified look and called me a \"rude bitch\" and later i saw her visibly bitch about me in front of the friends \n\n​\n\nNote: I'm 18 and I was from an all boys school till the age of 17, I'm generally always nicer to girls but this really pissed me off. I'm honestly not sure if I am the asshole here.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UP66FbJrx5fdysXWSIQH2VzlKOtCbvqa", "post_id": "apl8b9", "action": {"description": "following my heart, even though it's hurting my dad's feelings", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for following my heart, even though it's hurting my dad's feelings?", "text": "AITA: So basically I (20F) have recently had a major change in life plans. As an in-recovery addict, I constantly struggle with mental health. This came to a head five weeks ago as I recognized the pressure of the future ahead of me, and I took a hiatus from work and college and traveled around the country hiking, sightseeing, and finding ways to feel fulfilled. I ended up working at an opioid clinic helping lead recovery groups, and found myself happier than I have been in a long time. The clinic offered me a full-time job post-graduation.\n\nSo what's the issue? I am from New York, and the job is based out of Oklahoma. Further, for three years, I have been working to graduate college with my father's goal in mind: medical school. I've been accepted to four medical schools, which is exciting, but not at all how I think I want to spend my life. My dad is incredibly attached to me (and I have been attached to him, too, since I went through treatment) and breaking away from all that (especially his lofty expectations for my future) feels really good. It does not, however, feel really good to him.\n\nHe is absolutely livid, and I haven't even told him how definite the plan is yet. I asked for his opinions, and he told me I 1. would be making a huge mistake, 2. would be disappointing everyone in my life, and 3. would end up dying in the street addicted to drugs without his support system and goals to look forward to. He thinks I am being irresponsible and rash, and has been very clear about it. He said I am being an idiot & an asshole by \"throwing away the future\" he \"built up for me.\"\n\nI just don't feel like I'm throwing anything away, because I don't even want to be a doctor. These are his dreams for me I am abandoning, and I'm developing my own goals and future in place. I feel genuinely happy about the idea of being independent and a productive, functioning member of society. I keep trying to explain this to him, but he thinks I'm being stupid and, basically, spitting in his face. \n\nI didn't think I was being an asshole, but now I feel like maybe I am? Should I just follow through with medical school? I'm really confused now, even though I felt so sure of my new path before speaking with him. I want to lead my own life, but I don't want to disappoint him. Help!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m3syDEPWFaxBG9T82ypAP19jvAftoFKz", "post_id": "a2igh2", "action": {"description": "\"wanting to speak to the manager\"", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \u201cwanting to speak to the manager\u201d?", "text": "I\u2019m sitting on a bench still waiting as I type this. I took my little sister (14) and her friend, we\u2019ll call him Andy, to Six Flags today. Everything is going well until we rode on one of the largest coasters they have here.\n\nAndy was going with my sister on the ride, and he had his phone and wanted to put it in one of the cubbies while he rode. Totally a bad move, but he\u2019s a kid and just wasn\u2019t thinking. Well one of the attendants told him he couldn\u2019t do that, naturally. According to him, they said to put it in his pocket. He said he couldn\u2019t do that. They said too bad, that he can\u2019t leave it on the side.\n\nAgain I understand the logic in this because they do not want to be responsible for valuables. I get it. However, when he tries to get my attention to get me to hold it, he says they STOP him and tell him to sit down in the seat, preventing him from reaching out to me. Lo ad behold...his phone disappears on the ride.\n\nSo we go to \u201cLost and Found\u201d, which is where they tell us to go and I get this story on the way. Lost and Found was futile, as we waited for 15 minutes outside a closed window. I had to ask someone if we are waiting for someone to show up. I got a \u201cOh they\u2019re in there!\u201d And sure enough, she was. She could see us the whole time.\n\nI told her what happened and got a mumbled \u201cgo here\u201d as she handed me a card with directions on how to enter his info online in case they find something. I thanked her and asked if there was a manager I could speak with briefly.\n\n\u201cNo.\u201d\n\nI\u2019m sorry - what? I asked again, this time with a more incredulous tone in my voice, \u201cThere\u2019s not a single manager in this theme park I can speak with for a moment?\u201d She sighed heavily and walked away to grab a security guard. They whispered for a few moments, laughed for another few (all while about 2 feet away from myself and my little sister and Andy), when the security guard asked \u201cWhat\u2019s the problem?\u201d I said I wanted to bring something to their attention and ask a few questions. \u201cLike what?\u201d\n\nNow I\u2019m getting upset. I ignored her question and said \u201cIs there not a manager I can speak to? I understand if they\u2019re busy. I don\u2019t mind waiting.\u201d She scoffed and said \u201cI mean yeah, but I don\u2019t know where they are.\u201d I said that\u2019s fine, and I don\u2019t mind waiting.\n\nIt was then that the security guard walked away without a word, the \u201clost and found\u201d woman swiftly slammed the window closed on us, and we are left without an answer.\n\nSo here I am, 22 minutes and counting, waiting on a cold bench just to explain to a manager what happened. I don\u2019t want them to pay for the phone, I don\u2019t want the attendant fired, I don\u2019t want a search party sent out. But as a former customer service manager, I simply want them to know how the situation was handled to prevent it from happening again. \n\nSorry for any formatting/spelling issues. I\u2019m on mobile.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1EuVRjkflNN2zxbN2ScTlmKyXuixqOBy", "post_id": "ag0jlw", "action": {"description": "being off with a friend making another friendship awkward", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being off with a friend making another friendship awkward?", "text": "Basically, a while ago, a girl asked me to prom (end of school dance/senior prom/ball whatever). This was during another school dance that she invited me to. This was about 9 months before the actual dance, so I was a bit surprised, and she's very popular, so I kinda assumed someone would have asked her, but we were good friends and got on well, so I said yes.\n\n​\n\nAnyway, from there, things started to get awkward. She started talking to me less, and didn't reply to messages as much. She was slightly drunk when she asked me to the prom, and I thought that maybe she was having second thoughts. I spoke to her alone one day, and asked if she was sure she wanted to go with me, I had heard someone else had asked her, and that she was going out with a guy - no hard feelings if she didn't etc. She basically said that she still wanted to go with me.\n\n​\n\nNow, one of my friends clearly has a crush on her, and is getting in the way of both friendships. (Note - I couldn't care less if he has a crush on her and am not trying to stop anything happening). I haven't spoken to this girl since before the winter break, and am worried things are going to get awkward before the dance. This guy always positions himself between me and her, cuts me off in conversations, and flat out ignores me when she's nearby. This makes it very awkward to talk to her, as he is always around wherever she is, so I can't ever get a word in. I'm worried that he wants to go to the dance with her, and is trying to make that happen by making me disappear. I'm not to best at reading social situations, but I'm pretty sure it would be a bad idea to ask her if she was sure she wanted to go with me a second time.\n\n​\n\nSidenote - there are a couple of girls that I would rather go with, so I don't mind if he ends up going with her; I'd just rather he wasn't being like this.\n\n​\n\nI've become a bit fed up with this, and have been a little bit off with him, somewhat deliberately - trying not to sit next to him in class, and keeping conversations short (we were really good friends and hung out most lunch breaks but now he's constantly with her and her clique so I don't see him as much anyway). Basically, I want him to stop getting in the way of both friendships. I don't want to bring it up with him, because I fear that will make it even more awkward, but am worried that I'm being an asshole for being short with him, and that I'm being an asshole to the girl who asked me to the dance by not talking to her either. Am I the asshole?\n\n​\n\ntl;dr girl (friend) asked me to prom, friend has crush on girl, may be deliberately stopping us from talking, so I'm deliberately being off with him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4qaDgSbD88aPx5dWX0Fd4hGIfuB5BuD6", "post_id": "arw6un", "action": {"description": "walking in on sexual relations between my mom and our new roommate", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for walking in on sexual relations between my mom and our new roommate?", "text": "I moved in with my parents last year after I broke my ankle and couldn\u2019t do much for myself. In the year between sister moved out, parents got divorced, I became the primary breadwinner, though not nearly as much as my former stepfather. My parents have yet to formalize their divorce so my income (since Ive become more mobile, work in service industry so no walking means no paychecks) has been going to keep the house going, particularly since my stepdad has been withholding funds from my mom when... he feels like it, I suppose. \n\nWe got a new roommate my mother picked to make finances easier in the beginning of February. We\u2019d been sliding by before but a new roommate meant I might be able to save (!!) . He\u2019s a nice enough guy, just seems like another dude in his forties that likes beer and snowboarding in CO.\n\nSince it\u2019s been me and my mom, we walk in each others rooms all the time. Closed or not. Doors have locks, but why would we? We both have pets and so there\u2019s the [cat+dog]-cat, dog [cat x cat] situation going all the time... the pet in question will scrape at the door and you let it in. Not necessarily to chat, but more of a functional door opening.\n\nI was about to lay down but I heard a cat scratching on her door, so I got up to turn off my light and let the cat in her room so I wouldn\u2019t hear it scratching all night. Open her door and she\u2019s perched on the nightstand with new roommate going at it behind her. I quickly closed the door.\n\nshe came out a short bit later (abt 45 minute) and asked me if I was pissed. I am, for complicated childhood reasons. But am I the asshole for opening the door?\n\nI tapped first, if that matters.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PusAXpvymsou34GS4UxncIcXE44hplli", "post_id": "aaekkd", "action": {"description": "keeping my friend's cat", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for keeping my friend's cat?", "text": "So, obligatory this is a throwaway account. \n\nThis problem starts 3 years ago when my friend (we'll call her Ellie) fell pregnant. About 5/6 months into her pregnancy Ellie developed an allergic reaction to her cat Pudding. She and her husband discussed the solutions at length and decided they didn't want to get rid of Pudding altogether, so they asked me to look after him until the baby was born. \n\nI want to be clear here, the deal was I looked after the cat ONLY UNTIL the baby was born. I did this on the condition that Pudding got along well with my own cat, and he did so I took Pudding in. \n\nI adopted Pudding from her, but there was no contract, and no official documentation. Ellie dropped him and his toys off at my house, and I started paying for food and other toys, etc. \n\nThe baby was born months later, healthy and beautiful. However, Ellie and her husband decided that with a newborn they didn't have time to take Pudding back. I'd grown to love him anyway, so I agreed to keep Pudding. At this point, there was no agreed return date for Pudding. As far as I was concerned he was mine now. \n\nIt's now 3 years after the baby was born. Ellie and her husband have been to my house a few times, never specifically to see Pudding but he's obviously been there. My other cat and Pudding have got on extremely well, and I absolutely love him. \n\nEllie came to me the other day and told me she and her husband had discussed it and they want Pudding back. They said they want to raise their child to grow up with a pet. \n\nThis is fair enough, I'm not completely oblivious to the fact that Pudding was their cat originally. However, I have raised Pudding for 3 years now. I've paid for vet bills and food and housing when I've been away. They've never discussed having him back, never shared the cost of raising him, and never specifically come to see him. \nHe has been my cat for three years. I love him as much as I love my other cat. \n\nTherefore, I refused to give Pudding back to Ellie. I told her he's mine and I care for him, but she thinks I'm obliged to give him back because he's hers. Our mutual friends have refused to pick a side, and this has put a wedge between Ellie and I. \n\nSo, AITA for keeping Pudding? Does he really belong to Ellie or is he now my cat? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eDpaXqnGokQqY8FCYVaEOSVxXY7E4ku0", "post_id": "aefwo7", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Dad says I\u2019m being selfish for not wanting kids.", "text": "Im a 20, almost 21 year old college student (f), on the way to graduation in a years time. Whenever I come home for breaks, I\u2019m happy to see my family, because I love them to death. But every time my Dad and I talk about the future, I don\u2019t include children in my plans. (For obvious reasons.) The conversation will start out nicely, with my Dad being like \u201cYour dreads have gotten so long!\u201d and \u201cYou\u2019ve lost weight!\u201d But not for too long. My dad then loves to go on a rant that occurs as,\u201dOne day you\u2019ll find a nice black husband (We\u2019re African American) who will bless you with many kids and you\u2019ll have a happy life. I then go about explaining to him that I don\u2019t ever want children. He gets irritated with me, and starts ranting about how selfish I am for not wanting children. He says its a gift to my body and my family if I have some kids to take care of, like he and Ma did. Ma always tends to chime in with potential baby names, and I always start to feel nauseous. One of my older brothers doesn\u2019t want kids either, but they don\u2019t hassle him about it because \u201cHe\u2019s not their only girl.\u201d It makes me feel horrible when such nice conversation turns sour because of my wants. My family and I are Christian, but it gets really irritating whenever I hear older family members overuse the \u201cGo forth and multiply\u201d verse from Genesis. AITA for not wanting kids? Am I selfish, or ungrateful to my parents? What do I even say to him to get it through his head that I don\u2019t want children ???????? This is sadly becoming a toxic cycle of conversation for my family, and I don\u2019t know if I\u2019m even right about all of this. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "o2nVIpT7hZWPYsqzs29jpHp0CinAnuLh", "post_id": "at2phs", "action": {"description": "starting labeling food so my SO stops eating everything", "pronormative_score": 51, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I started labeling food so my SO stops eating everything?", "text": "My SO is a giant, so of course his hunger levels are different than mine, I buy a lot of snacks and I cook enough to feed the Russian army. And occasionally I bring back special foods from our travels to give as gifts or get some gourmet snacks from special stores for us to enjoy with some wine.\n\nAnd my SO eats everything, repeatedly, without asking or sharing. I've kindly asked him to not take all the special snacks as I wanna enjoy them together, and to stop eating gifts we bring back. Sometimes he also eats ingredients I need to use in a meal, like a tub of sour cream. He promised many times he'd be more attentive of what he grabs.\n\n​\n\nFlash forward, we've just come back from Italy and I got some fancy meats for a friend of mine there. I put it in a gift bag, audibly and repeatedly said it's a gift, and placed it in the bedroom so it wouldn't get eaten. I woke up this morning with the sausage almost completely gone. I am angry, like, *really angry*. He's said he's sorry, which I'm sure he is, but I really want to label foods. \n\n​\n\nGreen = *take whenever*, yellow = *meant to eat together*, red = *don't eat it*.\n\n​\n\nI'm worried it'll come off passive aggressive and like I'm hoarding stuff, and I don't wanna make him feel bad for needing to eat, but I also want to find a way for us to not have to have this argument anymore. Would I be the asshole for labeling foods? \n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 47, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 51, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mMt4QRLX52RiChIP0FJs5sP5Obw6CDur", "post_id": "b7y5cp", "action": {"description": "refusing to say my brother won during family game night even though he's technically correct", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to say my brother won during family game night even though he\u2019s technically correct?", "text": "At least once a month my family and I play a board game, watch a movie, etc. One game my siblings and I like is 20 questions. We can choose to be anyone or anything as long as it\u2019s not something abstract like \u201cdetermination\u201d. We get pretty competitive, and have agreed on stricter rules over the years. Each time there\u2019s a grey area, the rules get bit more defined, but there will still be a technicality that gets us arguing for half an hour. \n\n\nOne rule we vaguely touched on is being too specific. Ex. \n\nCorrect:\nGuessing Hershey\u2019s when the answer is chocolate\n\nIncorrect:\nGuessing LeBron James when the answer is the Lakers \n\nIf it\u2019s the latter, then The whole argument was weather or not my brother\u2019s guess was the former or the latter. \n\n\nWe usually choose to be an obscure celebrity or location, so I thought I was being clever choosing to be a human organ, specifically the intestines. Around question 12 he starts getting pretty close and thinks he\u2019s ready. He guesses that I\u2019m the stomach, and seeing how close he is I thought I would be a good sport told him to keep going. When he asks if I expel waste he said I was definitely the anus then. When I told him what I was and that he was wrong he made a big fit. We argued for a while, but everyone els just wanted to move onto the next game. He said didn\u2019t want to keep playing unless I admitted he was right. Everyone agreed he was right, but I was annoyed he was acting like a baby when most of my family were saying he was wrong before hand. I called him a loser and to go and cry somewhere els.\n\n\nI\u2019m still not too sure if I was wrong or not, but there was no way I\u2019d have admit it with his pissy attitude. \n\nAm I the asshole?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XSvzDYLsNnghWiIjxdMAYzGa0nX1yprm", "post_id": "ajsjig", "action": {"description": "refusing to take the dog to the bathroom", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to take the dog to the bathroom?", "text": "Let me start off by saying this is not my dog. He is my mother in law's. Five of us live together (me, husband, mil and our two kids 6f and 1m) plus mil dog who is a large breed. \n\nThis dog is a terrible dog. I don't normally say that about animals as I love them all. But I hate this dog. He's aggressive towards everything. He can't be around other dogs, men he doesn't know (he's worse if it's a guy he doesn't know that has a hat and beard), kids, and loud noises. Most of the day I have to keep this dog in his room with the door blocked so the baby doesn't get to him. In the 2 months of us living all together he's snapped at my baby 5x. Once he bit my son's face, not horrible but that's not the point. My mil just brushed it off and blames my son who just happened to be walking past the dog, wasn't even paying attention to the dog and he still got bit. \n\nFor some reason, I agreed to take this dog out once a day to go to the bathroom since I'm a stay at home. But his listening skills when it comes to me have gone down hill. Last week the dog almost pulled me and my baby who was in my arms down the stairs (I have to walk down about 15 stairs to take him out). I was pulling hard enough on the choke chain that the dog was coughing and at the same time trying to stop him with verbal commands, but he kept pulling us down icy stairs. Luckily I managed not to fall and no one got hurt. I confided to my husband that the dog doesn't listen to me and I am scared next time the dog will actually pull us down the stairs and we will get seriously hurt. My husband told me to stop taking out the dog since he agreed it's not safe, not to mention if another dog is outside and this dog doesn't listen to me something bad could happen there too. \n\nWe both told my mil what happened and how I don't feel safe. She lost her mind telling me that I'm not good at it because I'm not firm enough with his commands (I do it just like everyone else). She then said she will, \"f***ing come home on lunch to take him to the bathroom.\" This was 3 days ago and she has yet to come home to take him out. Me being a caring person refuse to let her dog suffer and have continued to take him out too the bathroom. I've been waiting until the dog comes out whining to take him out in case she actually comes home to do it. \n\nYesterday the dog again didn't listen and tried to pull us down icy stairs. I'm at a loss. Mil's not doing what she said she'd do and I'm continuing to be pulled down the stairs by her dog. I can't just let him suffer because of her. But I don't want my child or myself to get hurt. She also refuses to talk to me about what her dog is doing and is continuing to bitch about me not taking out her dog to my husband (I don't think she knows I'm still taking him out). She says if she comes home to take the dog out she won't get off until 6pm. She has an hour lunch and it takes less than that to drive home, walk the dog and go back to work and she's still would get off at 5pm. I think she keeps saying 6pm to guilt me into taking the dog out. \n\nAITA for telling her to come home and take care of her own dog? I already take care of everything else at home and two kids which is more than a full time job. She says I won't understand unless I have a job but even when I use to work full time I still took care of my kids and pets and never asked someone else to do it. And if I did, I always checked in with them to make sure everything was okay and she can't manage to do that or say thanks. \n\nSo random people of the internet, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JxgakCnsiheUKQdBSDGjRg3UuuyYQYIo", "post_id": "apbfur", "action": {"description": "making old people leave a restaurant", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for making old people leave a restaurant?", "text": "Throwaway account because my other account has my name in it. So the other day my boyfriend and I were at this restaurant eating, we were seated diagonally across form this older couple and the behind them was a wall with a cut out window and a small family. My boyfriend was facing the older couple and had looked through the window of the wall when he saw a man that looked just like an older version of his youngest brother. He says doesn't that guy over there look just like Sam but like from the future?!?! so I tried to be sly and look and it seriously looked just like his brother but 20 years older, i turned around and laughed a little and agreed. He then texted his other brother and told him what happen and said he saw a man that looked just like Sam but older his brother wanted to see so my boyfriend tried to take a picture of the man. He took the picture without that man noticing, but when i looked over the old man sitting diagonally across from us was frowning and whispering and saying \"they're taking picture of me\" then his wife shot me a dirty look and both her and her husband left. My boyfriend wasn't taking pictures of him, he took one of the man behind him. So aita for making them leave?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Bj5UHRQ0gLaxe08xiGGYP8qjA5Tryqhu", "post_id": "9z7qrs", "action": {"description": "not opening the door for a stranger", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not opening the door for a stranger?", "text": "I've been struggling with this for a couple days. I was sound asleep at midnight a few nights ago when my roommate comes in and wakes me up. He says there's a guy outside ringing the doorbell and asking for help. He had just gotten in from some late night grocery shopping and said he had seen the guy standing around outside near our driveway. I get downstairs and he keeps ringing the doorbell yelling he needs help. I ask him through the door what he means by \"help\", and the only other thing he says \"it's cold out man\", and goes back to ringing the doorbell. I kept trying to get him to clarify, I asked if there was someone I could call, but told him nobody in the house knew who he was and we weren't comfortable opening the door. It was really cold out, to his credit. But since he wouldn't tell me specifically what he was after it threw some red flags. I figured he was either a diversion and there were some other guys with him, or he couldn't think coherently enough to say what was really wrong. \n\n​\n\nAnyway during all of this my roommates girlfriend calls the police and they come and scoop him up, saying he seems lethargic.\n\n​\n\nI'm pretty sure I know what the answer to this is, but I keep going over it again and again in my mind. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OKJVpt4pAmc7degowU3kBpI1gn05zRFJ", "post_id": "aw9oo3", "action": {"description": "not eating food I never asked for", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not eating food i never asked for?", "text": "Recently my roommate wanted to take me out to dinner as a token of appreciation for hooking him up with a job. I accepted his offer. He took me to a Mediterranean place. All the entrees were under $10... I ordered a Greek salad and a drink. He then proceeds to order about $40 worth of appetizers and entrees. I didn't say anything at the time because I assumed he was just extra hungry or something. Once the food comes and I start digging into my salad he tells me that he got all this food for me to try some. I told him no thanks and just ate my salad instead. Then he then told me I should take my salad to go and eat what he ordered for me instead. I insisted that I could eat my salad and no more. Eventually it went back and forth and I ended up eating half of a piece of falafel just to appease him. We each finished our respective meals and started boxing up what's left. He says \"hey you can take this for your lunch tomorrow.\" Once we get home he unpacks the leftovers and puts them all on my shelf of the fridge. The next day I did not take any of it for lunch and he called me out after work so I ate something that vaguely resembles a gyro again to appease him. That was four days ago. Today he saw me and pointed to the remaining food in the fridge and said \"you must eat this before it goes bad\"\n\nAs soon as he's not in the house I'm going to throw it out. Why is he so insistent on shoving food down my throat? Should I have ate more of it? I'm on several medications that affect my appetite so sometimes I just can't eat more food, especially not fatty Mediterranean food. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AbVX8Wcxh7zW2UwdItiHO5s2WpDXrKiC", "post_id": "aj9g92", "action": {"description": "adding a friend on Snapchat and Instagram and my gf is jealous", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "Aita for adding a friend on Snapchat and Instagram and my gf is jealous", "text": "I moved to a new school a while back and now I am just making friends since this semester is over we won\u2019t be in the same classes so we decided to share our social media so we can text each other but then my gf saw I was following a girl and she\u2019s angry and demanding I unfollow them or she will, she keeps saying it\u2019s either her or them but I\u2019m not doing anything. She has all my passwords to my social media and she is more than welcome to check my messages whenever. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lkuIy9izLlk8FwOrErJUdHpuPIIqpH0m", "post_id": "aqr5vz", "action": {"description": "making out with my friend's step-brother", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for making out with my friend's step-brother?", "text": "Ok, so a long ass time ago, I had sex with my friend. It was a low point in my life and we discussed it and (I THOUGHT) we moved on. FYI, I'm a little drunk writing this.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nSo tonight I made out with his half-brother. We kicked it and made a connection and so we decided to take it to the next level. His brother (my friend who I slept with a year ago) walked home a bit before this, so I didn't have to worry about hurting feelings. We made out, and then I hear some shouting. Apparently he came back, and saw us making out. He was all, \"I'm not pissed at you ( his half-brother), but I am pissed at YOU u/DRAGOONO!\" I was kinda uncomfortable so I just made a weird face and left.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole? I was just feeling the vibes and I thought he was over me. I guess I was wrong. Should I have just kept my distance?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uqGCFczVSPtlW5ITm7PkK4OvTFvXMBb0", "post_id": "avyj2e", "action": {"description": "insisting on getting a hard cast", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for insisting on getting a hard cast?", "text": "Tldr; at end of story\n\n\nSo i just recently fractured a part of my leg/ankle and it reminded my dad and I of a time when i was 15. \nWhen I was 15 I was a snowboarding junkie. I stupidly broke my wrist while boarding. They took x rays at the resort and confirmed a fracture, but they werent legally allowed to put a hard cast on me. They gave me the x rays and I booked an app for 3 days later at my regular doc. During those three days I didn a lot of hippie healing(arnica, comfrey, and other herbs) I brought the o.g. x rays in and they took new ones. The doc said my wrist was healing so well that I didn't need a cast and that I could treat it like a sprained wrist, I.e. no major activity for 4 weeks. \nI told him that wasn't possible as the ski resorts were due to close in exactly 3 weeks and I needed to get more days in. I wanted a hard cast to protect my wrist just in case I fell while in the park. \nHe went off on me and told me how stupid I was and how foolish my parents were for allowing me to shred. With a broken wrist. \nI ended up leaving the office with a cast and rode another 18 days thanks to my saftey cast. \n\n\n\n\nTLDR; AITA for \"forcing\" a doc to give me a cast that wasnt 100% needed since I was healing so fast so i could snowboard the last 3 weeks of the season? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "orGaIve0K5aeS5nRHYwZTBezRKOk2mWf", "post_id": "ay0jlb", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give my bro a virtual item", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to give my bro a virtual item?", "text": "k let me explain, me and my bro like playing cs, alot infact. We have our own money, He decided to give me a deagle once (because he didnt want it.) Didnt really say much till now. Recently I've been wanting to sell some of my TF2 items for some skins. I know it seems stupid but I've been wanting it for a while. however, he decided to give me his m4a1 skin (\\~50 cents) And he said he really didn't care and he wanted to help me get one of my dream skins. Eventually one of my item's sold and im 1 step closer. He came out of nowhere and wants the skin that i'm trying to buy. Now while its true I owe him him 2 skins, He said he really didn't want it and suddenly out of nowhere wants it. Seems kind of manipulative to me. Im 16, hes 18. He has a decent job making not too much but again not too low, same with me. Also we dont spend too much money on virtual items, not me atleast. I bought 5 euros and with those euros ive been gaining the skins. All of my TF2 skins are throughout trading, csgo not. I dont know about my bro. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QzMW9xmLRX8JQXGqOYMAuQunwpIaoxFM", "post_id": "9vj5ln", "action": {"description": "thinking I am? yesterday I mentioned the words \"brother\" and \"suicide\" in random conversation with a good friend whose brother recently killed himself", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA I think I am? Yesterday I mentioned the words \"brother\" and \"suicide\" in random conversation with a good friend whose brother recently killed himself", "text": " I simply cannot stop thinking about it. Yesterday I spoke to a good friend of mine and in a completely random conversation with him one on one I dropped the word \"brother\", completely unrelated to his brother but I thought I saw a look in his eyes that made me think \"fuck better avoid that word stupid\".\n\n​\n\nThen, as other people joined the conversation and we all got a bit drunk and merry I made this stupid joke about someone committing suicide. Again, completely unrelated to his brother. It was about someone exaggerating how sad a certain lady was back in the day because of something we did as kids. He was saying she was in tears and depressed (which is not true). That got us all laughing and then I said \"ow but ofc and next time you tell the story she probably committed suicide!\"\n\n​\n\nFirst I say \"brother\" and then I drop \"suicide\". Wtf. Am I this huge asshole deep inside that subconsciously wants to make my friend think about his brother's final act?\n\n​\n\nI was really hoping he didn't hear me or that it didn't make him think about his brother but I'm sure he did. I don't want to mention it to him of course because that will only make him think about his brother even more! So I just need to keep my mouth shut more often because I simply cannot stop myself from saying stupid shit.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FZg1ns8i8aquvKHUqxBD7cJoUdsfXbEg", "post_id": "ahs02i", "action": {"description": "limiting contact between MIL and my daughter", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for limiting contact between MIL and my daughter? (Very long)", "text": "Some backstory: Mother-in-law (MIL) suffers from bipolar disorder and PTSD. The PTSD is from dealing with her adult son's heroin addiction and him ODing a few times. He was clean when I met and married my husband (11 years ago), but started using again roughly 2 years ago. His relapse brought out the crazy in her I had really only heard about (from my own husband) until that point.\n\nBrother-in-law (BIL) lived with MIL and my father-in-law and they would often have our 5/6 year old daughter (now 7) over to their house or take her out to do things. It made me uncomfortable, but my husband didn't see the problem so I let it be. When it became obvious that brother-in-law was not just temporarily relapsing, we made it a rule that we didn't want our daughter around him at all. He moved out to do heroin 24/7 or whatever, so it didn't seem like it was a big deal.\n\nIt all started innocently with MIL not telling us that he was at their house when we'd go to drop our daughter off. Or he would just magically be there when we would pick her up.\u00a0 We gave them several chances with this, but they'd totally ignore our wishes because \"he's not high on anything right now\" etc. They finally realized that we were serious (though this was still an occasional issue) and we thought everything was fine and they'd keep daughter away from him.\n\nWell last spring, after going to the mall with MIL, my daughter says something along the lines of, \"Something weird happened and it's making my belly hurt thinking about it.\" I asked about it and she stated that on the way to the mall my MIL had stopped at a gas station to talk to BIL. Apparently MIL and BIL got into a verbal fight that ended with both cussing each other and MIL crying. She also stated that some random girl came up to the car to ask MIL if she was giving BIL money. I flipped my shit (not in front of daughter) and told my husband that I was done, his parents would no longer have our daughter alone. He thought I was overreacting, but agreed not to allow them to have her alone anymore.\n\nA few months later, husband laments that MIL didn't realize that what she did was in violation of what we wanted, etc, and asks me to give her another chance. Now MIL is known for being emotional and stuck up BIL's butt, and I don't trust her to make the right decision if BIL calls needing her while she is alone with my daughter. So I tell my husband that she can take her out to eat and to the mall on the condition that father-in-law is with them the entire time. That way, if she goes ballistic for whatever reason, there would still be one rational adult around. This maybe sounds like a stretch, but she had called my husband sobbing on Father's Day and asked him to go with her to the area hospitals to look for BIL. Why? Because he simply didn't answer her multiple phone calls. That was not the first time, or the last, that she flipped her shit about BIL. She has done this right in front of us before, or over the phone with my husband if we're not around. She withholds information from husband about BIL a lot to cover for him, and because husband is very vocal about how big of a turd BIL is.\n\nSo the day comes and she picks daughter up and claims that FIL is meeting them at the restaurant. I'm already annoyed by them driving separately, but bite my tongue. They go out, and being a little paranoid, I have my husband call to check on them after a few hours. MIL answers the phone and states they are at the mall painting and FIL \"just left\".\u00a0 I'm annoyed, but let it go. That is...until I find out that FIL actually didn't go to the mall with them at all, and took off after eating. FIL calls and states the truth without any hesitation, which I find odd. So I begin thinking this whole situation may be partially my husband's fault, and that he is not explaining things clearly or something. However, MIL made it seem like FIL just left (IMO lied to us) so I also think she must have understood the situation enough to try to manipulate it. \n\nSo at this point I have 0 trust left and tell my husband that his parents fucked up their last chance and I'm done. It's been roughly 8 or 9 months now and they haven't been with daughter alone once. Just the other day I heard MIL tell my daughter that she wants to take her to the spa at the mall and she'd need to \"ask Mommy\" about it. Then a few days later, my husband suggests I have MIL come over to babysit while I'm attending an online meeting upstairs. I basically ignore these comments/suggestions when they're made, but I know it will only be a short amount of time before I'm straight out asked to reconsider. I'm actually shocked it hasn't come up sooner. \n\nThis whole situation has made me feel like an asshole at times, and not others, I truly go back and forth. My husband has accused me of always hating his mom and seeing an opportunity to get what I wanted (less of her). Some relevant, yet bias, info: MIL often talks negatively about people, put service people down (for their physical features) if they piss her off, and is just generally a negative, emotional black hole of despair. I've also heard her say a few mean/accusatory things about her other granddaughter's mother \"accidentally\" in front of her. So I was never 100% trusting of her alone with my daughter to begin with. In other words, maybe I am overreacting to the situation considering I didn't really trust and definitely didn't like her before.\n\nAnd I honestly do feel guilty about keeping MIL and FIL away from their granddaughter, but we still visit with them at least once a week. Daughter doesn't question the sudden lack of alone time, and sometimes even hides away from them when they visit (I have no idea what that's about, she won't tell me and she doesn't do it with any other visitors. I think it's because they spend the entire time talking about boring stuff with husband.) This is way too long, I'm sorry, so just tell me already: Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f8AiZ1uNgFMROua9DrqHnGSFoeskaLE6", "post_id": "b4xqr9", "action": {"description": "continuing to smoke in my smoking permitted apartment", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for continuing to smoke in my smoking permitted apartment?", "text": "Disclaimer: I\u2019m aware that smoking inside is gross. My question isn\u2019t about the gross habit. It\u2019s about this particular situation. \n\nI live in a 100+ year old apartment building. It\u2019s not a complex, just a really old building with about 10 units. The owners inherited the building from their parents, who inherited it from their parents, etc.  The most recent owners wanted to tear it down to build condos, but something in the will (? I honestly don\u2019t know.. I know it\u2019s some sort of legal issue..) prohibits them from doing so. As such, they care little about the building and fix just enough to avoid lawsuits. It has always been a smoking building, presumably for the entire duration of its existence. \n\nRecently, a new girl moved in and has been leaving notes on the exterior door asking the other tenants to smoke outside because she can smell the smoke in her apartment. I understand that is an inconvenience, as she doesn\u2019t smoke. \n\nIt is also an inconvenience to smokers, as there are no covered areas to smoke outside. If it\u2019s nice out, I honestly don\u2019t mind to take it outside. But in the rain? The snow? When it\u2019s -10 out? I really don\u2019t want to oblige. \n\nMy boyfriend says it\u2019s easy to just step out and smoke and come back in. I think it\u2019s asking a bit much. Here\u2019s my reasoning: \n\n1) This is a smoking building. Nearly every apartment within a 2 mile radius is non-smoking. If that preference is so important to her, she can live in nearly every other building in town. \n\n2) There is no lease in this building. It is month-to-month rent. She can leave at any point with 30 days notice. \n\n3) She knew upon moving in that it was a smoking building. The hallways smell like cigarettes and weed constantly. It\u2019s gross, but it\u2019s obvious. So it seems to me that she expects the entire building to adjust to her preferences instead of adjusting to the building. \n\n4) I\u2019m aware that for my health, I should quit smoking. And I should definitely quit smoking inside anyway. But should I do it to appease her? I don\u2019t think so. I should do a lot of things. I don\u2019t think those choices should be made for me by a stranger who decided to change the rules of the building. The landlords don\u2019t care. The other tenants have said nothing. It\u2019s really only her. \n\n5) People have been smoking in this building for over 100 years. It\u2019s already covered in nicotine. \n\n\nPlease, tell me if I\u2019m being an asshole or just a gross indoor smoker. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wTsvNDTx2hRzIXfiKagOYqMBotgVEyRh", "post_id": "ag1clb", "action": {"description": "getting upset that my boyfriend rearranged my suitcase while I was sleeping", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting upset that my boyfriend rearranged my suitcase while I was sleeping?", "text": "My boyfriend and I were going on an international trip together. I had packed a few days in advance and he was planning to pack the night before. He expressed interest in rearranging my suitcase (I like things to be around their counterparts--ie shirts with shirts, pants with pants, etc-- whereas he prefers things as compact as possible, even if that means like things aren't in the same place). I expressed that I liked the way I had organized things according to my packing list but if he felt adamant about changing things I was willing to go over the suitcase with him. Note this wasn't a matter of changing the weight/size of luggage just rearranging things inside. I had a medium sized suitcase for most things and a backpack for carry-on along with my purse.\n\nHe packed his bag while I was sleeping but he also rearranged everything in my bags, not only in the checked luggage but also taking out items from my carry-on to my checked luggage (such as medicine and jewelry which although I might not immediately need them on the trip, it would be disastrous-in the case of medicine-or upsetting for value/sentimentality-in the case of jewelry if things were lost). When I woke up and realized what had happened, I was really upset. Our flight was an early morning flight and I had planning on just getting the clothes I had picked for the flight on top of the suitcase and being ready to go. It really threw me off that I couldn't find anything in my suitcase and I felt like having my medicine on carry-on was absolutely necessary to fix (he knew I had a small pillbox in my purse that held a couple of doses so it is not as if I couldn't take my medicine on the plane but again if the medicine was lost for our week trip it would have been a huge problem). Because I was very upset and it was very early I did complain about what had happened but in the end sucked it up and went to the airport. But at that point, he was upset that I had been upset and made me apologize over and over (at least five times). It was just a stupid thing and it was a lovely trip but I felt like it weighed on me that he had done something I begged him not to do and I was the one who was the bad guy for getting upset.\n\nI struggled for the beginning of the trip to figure out where things were in my bag. While he was getting ready one day, I told him that I too had rearranged his bag to make it more efficient and he was livid. He ran into the room with our bags and yelled at me for messing things up because he knew how to organize things but I didn't. Of course, I didn't actually rearrange his things because I wouldn't want to inconvenience him but I couldn't wrap my head around how I ended up being the bad guy on both sides of the scenario.\n\nSo reddit, AITA? For getting upset over such a silly thing as luggage? For feeling like he had a double standard about luggage preparation because he thought he was the expert?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tJhwwDS1jDbnBs3GrEk00DGZ0YRN2vWG", "post_id": "9uenat", "action": {"description": "being upset with her", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with her?", "text": "Context: Her (17F) and I (18M) are both seniors in HS. She was my first \"relationship\". I've liked her for four years, and still do.\n\nLast week, I finally asked her out. Last weekend we had two pretty good dates and ended up admitting that we liked each other, held hands, etc. I thought things were progressing smoothly, but come Monday of last week she starts barely talking to me or replying to my texts. I thought she was just nervous about an audition that she had Thursday, so I was trying to give her space while encouraging her and letting her know that I was there for her. Things went well Thursday, come Friday and she dumped me. She told me that it wasn't my fault, that I was a really kind guy and did nothing wrong, that it wasn't fair to me to keep going because she wasn't ready for a relationship, that she had issues of her own that she needed to settle. And I know that that's the truth, and I respect her for breaking it off in person.\n\nWhich is fine. I understand that no means no and that it's over, I just wish I knew *why* and I wish she knew that some people want to actually hear what's going on with her so they could help or just try to make it easier. I liked her for a long time, that sort of thing doesn't go away overnight and I still care for her.\n\nBut on the other hand, I'm pissed. I feel played; I don't understand why she bothered going on dates with me, even told me she liked me, if she wasn't ready for that. I feel led on. Is it wrong to feel that way? I haven't really told her how I feel (don't really plan to). AITA for feeling this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qEk2cu7a03Km9gNIh5qFV1kKB5q6UjnZ", "post_id": "asy1yk", "action": {"description": "telling family members to get out of my room while I'm changing my clothes", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling family members to get out of my room while I'm changing my clothes?", "text": "Starting this story off quickly, My grandparents sometimes stay over at my parents house (Usually Tuesdays and Wednesdays) usually whenever they need to talk to me I'm more than happy to answer any questions they have, except when I'm changing my clothes. Whenever they have to talk to me, they demand my full and immediate attention, that means eye contact and everything. Not usually a problem until they want to talk to me at the most inconvenient of times (like when I'm changing) since my bedroom door doesn't have a lock they can just barge in whenever they feel like it, doesn't matter what I'm doing. Whenever they do happen to open my door when I'm not wearing clothes I tell them to give me a second so I can get changed but they never listen, (especially my grandma, this is mostly about her) she'll be in my room, like door opened all the way so anyone can look in and she's a good 5 feet in the room. I'll say something along the lines of \"Get out of my room I'm not wearing anything\" and she'll tell me that I'm being disrespectful and rude to her and that I have to respect her cause \"You always respect your elders\". I can't reason with them (Believe me, I've tried) so all I can do is yell until they leave. Am I the asshole for yelling at my grandparents for barging into my room and refusing to leave when I'm half-dressed?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lwCeKwDlD0cB597OV0OaKyDiJY5x3oq6", "post_id": "a2j38g", "action": {"description": "freaking out on this girl", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for freaking out on this girl?", "text": "Okay, so, a girl had been asking me incredibly sexual questions over a period of around 5 months. Despite me saying on several occasions stating that I have a boyfriend and that I\u2019m not interested in her she continued to pester me. After around 4 months and 8 blocked account later I finally snapped. I called her \u201cA disgusting, moronic and truly vulgar excuse of a person\u201d  she hasn\u2019t talked to me since (thank god) and her friends are calling me all sorts of names (fag, gaybo, dickwad etc.)  \n\nTl;dr a girl tried to date me even though I don\u2019t like her then freaked out and now her friends are verbally attacking me", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wJjCIEzbgre24GuAMke42GqYrSTy9Os3", "post_id": "auftt1", "action": {"description": "saying that I'm uncomfortable with my younger sister in a bikini", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA for saying that i'm uncomfortable with my younger sister in a bikini?", "text": "Okay, so. my family is getting ready for a trip to somewhere tropical. because we've pretty much all outgrown our swimsuits, we have to get new ones. my sister chose 3 different swimsuits. (1 one piece, and 2 two piece suits.) she was trying them on and showing them off to my dad's girlfriend. I happened to be in the room at the time, so I saw my sister in a bikini. (she's 14) I said that i'm not comfortable with my sister wearing something like that. the reason behind me saying that is that I don't feel like it's appropriate for someone her age to be showing that much skin. my dad's GF berated me, telling me to \"Stop being sexist!\" and \"You're body shaming her!\". Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 25, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rMTMVKoOhEJmwNSnFU9SAi3TsbPfDQQu", "post_id": "9wp8p2", "action": {"description": "telling someone to call me something else", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling someone to call me something else?", "text": "so me and my friends call me a nickname, a guy called me this i told him to not, he then the next day call me this, i then tell him to call me my real name, the next day he calls me this again, and i tell him to STFU and he says sorry, then next day he dose this AGAIN, i slap him and tell him not too, i realise i shouldnt have slapped him and send a messeage saying sorry for slappin, but he still shouldnt, so AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4NYMxxEC0EQNlU3AQy6KYbmE0BSlx3pq", "post_id": "ak2053", "action": {"description": "expecting my mom to pay me back", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting my mom to pay me back", "text": "It's been a few weeks since we've last had a  disagreement about this and the situation has now been resolved. However, I'm not happy with the solution and so I'm wondering whether it not that means I really was the asshole all long.\n\nFor the past couple of years, I've been particularly lending my mom money accumulating to the point of almost 4 grand. It was only until spring of last year this stopped and we decided that the best way forward was to cut this from my rent, almost as if I paid upfront.\n\nI was only due to pay rent from last spring as that was when I turned 20, and so it worked out well. \n\nRewind to fall, and she starts using my credit card (she is an additional cardholder). She states that she will pay me back as soon as she can, and so this would be separate to her existing debt. I thought this was fair, and being aware of her other repayments I offered to pay those off too so she would only have to worry about paying me back. I also made this offer because I knew that it would be extremely difficult for her to juggle those existing debts and this new one with me. Fast forward to December and now the money she's spent on the card and the money I've given to cover rent has accumulated to a few hundred more than she could afford.\n\nWe had agreed that from the new year onwards she would start paying me back, however, because she can't afford it she's requested for it to be added to the old debt and so to be cut off via rent. This in and of itself, is not unreasonable but the fact that she changed the nature of the agreement does annoy me. Also, she did not take initiative regarding paying off her other debts as I had offered and so she's right when she says she can't afford it.\n\nUnfortunately, me and my mom don't get on financially and she has multiple times said to me that I'm financially unkind and that I don't lend money with the right intentions, that I'm greedy and calculative. This what ultimately led to our last argument about this weeks ago whereby she called me out for this, and for numerous other - I felt - unnecessary personal things to the point where I got upset and just gave in.\n\nThere is also the complication that I always intended to move out after graduation (summer 2020), but based on the calculations of the last debt I would have had only around 7 months left to actually pay. My mom told me that she wouldn't ask me to pay seeing as it wouldn't be long before I moved out, and so it would be in poor taste. However, adding the new money that would be 4 months extra. She has too said that I should pay until the day I'm out because I'm an asshole and so the precious deal is not something I am deserving of.\n\nI appreciate the financial struggle that my mom is going through and I really did want to help her, however, I am only a student and just because I have got savings doesn't mean I should just give in to her every whim. I appreciate I do have a responsibility as I live here, and if she needs the money then that's fair enough. I just felt as though, I did not deserve for it to be such a personal decision. I also understand that it is a hard time for the family, especially for her as her sister is ill added on to mom's existing anxiety I can excuse how she talked to me. I also do agree that I probably did talk about repayment too much, and I do try getting too involved in her finances. I don't want to get into too much detail, but really we shouldn't be in this position where we're struggling so much financially and being the youngest of the two daughters I don't think it is fair.\n\nThe situation has been resolved, and agreed upon, and I'm going to pay my way until I leave. And although it is a fair conclusion, I am still upset with everything and how it was handled. She's given the card back and has taken the details off her online accounts and it does seem like she really won't be taking any more money off me, but I still didn't get a proper apology for the way she spoke to me (I apologised for talking back), but maybe I am in the wrong and so I don't deserve it. I don't feel inclined to bring this up again considering how much time has passed and how hostile it got so I just want to know: am I the asshole for seemingly not wanting to pay my way?\n\ntl;dr - Am I the asshole for not wanting to pay further rent even though we already had an agreement beforehand? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7Y6tYYimxUNHYS0PgYhzL8U4MND3sWVx", "post_id": "9yecel", "action": {"description": "completely cutting all ties with my best friend for allowing a married man to cheat with her", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for completely cutting all ties with my best friend for allowing a married man to cheat with her?", "text": "Essentially, my best friend went to Cambodia with a professor who had a wife and kids. As the title suggests, she allowed him to finger her while she was lying naked on his bed. They didn't have sex but she says she would have and I was seriously disgusted and bothered by it... To be honest it was less about the fact that she let him do it and more about how fervantly she defended her right to do it, and how it's not her responsibility to protect married women... \n\nLogically, I see her point, she has no real responsibility to protect married women. Morally though, isn't even the tiniest possibility of ruining an entire family something that should be avoided? Just tell me if I'm being a dick or not so I can stop thinking about it please...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7LMNZgUteeAZMXbUp1NT3LsgAdg0af7U", "post_id": "afadfl", "action": {"description": "wanting to sleep in", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to sleep in?", "text": "Some back story, I wake up at 430am every weekday go to work til 830am, come home to my wife and daughter still sleeping and wake them up to start their day and eat breakfast. I then go back to work at 930 until roughly 5/6pm every day. \nI come home, I help out around the house, clean, bathe the kid sometimes I cook. Then I play video games until 9pm followed by a movie with the wife until roughly 11pm.\n\nWeekends are a completely different story, I get woken up at 9 by my wife and I tell her every time that I\u2019d like just one day to sleep in, not until 2pm, but like 10/1030am because I\u2019m tired from waking up and working long hours.\nWe proceed to get into a pretty heated argument about how when I\u2019m home she expects me to do just as much as she does (which is understandable) but she asked all her friends about me sleeping in and they all tell her to \u201cwake my ass up\u201d \u201cwhat the fuck parent wants to sleep in?\u201d Etc etc.\n\nSo am I the asshole for wanting to sleep in, once? Not every weekend and not until the afternoon, but just one day til 10/1030?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wxinO6ygtFOxQDuzrVD7Xybjv1904Jer", "post_id": "a2ab0p", "action": {"description": "going on a trip without my so", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going on a trip without my SO?", "text": "Story time;\n\n​\n\nMe and my childhood friends (3 of us) are going on a pilgrimage/hike in Spain next summer. This has been planned for nearly a year, with almost 6 more months to go. My SO has known about this trip since I first began planning it and has wholeheartedly supported me in going, but the past month or two has started getting more and more hesitant, to the point where she's said she doesn't want me to go because she'll miss me (it'll be a trip of around forty days). I'd love for her to come along, but she doesn't like the idea of hiking/walking for weeks and that's totally okay. My heart hurts for her because I'm going to miss her tremendously and I hate the idea of being away so long, but my friends and I have been gearing up for this for nearly a year and many more months to come, and it all sort of hinges on me as I've been the main planner and have been to where we're going. I don't really know what to do, I'm leaning towards going ahead with the trip but it leaves me with a guilty conscious, yet I would have one anyway if I cancelled on my buddies. WIBTA if I go?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TBYMCWxdka53n7cwt1yDrZAJagRIt8pW", "post_id": "a68mlz", "action": {"description": "immediately bailing on plans when I saw my friend's boyfriend there", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for immediately bailing on plans when I saw my friend\u2019s boyfriend there?", "text": "This just happened a couple hours ago. My friend and I had a day planned to go shopping and grab some lunch. She picked me up and when I got to her car I saw her boyfriend sitting there as well. I was kinda taken aback because she mentioned nothing about him joining us. I said something like \u201cohh uhh you know what I\u2019m actually just gonna stay home today sorry see you later\u201d and turned back around to go home. \n\n\nThis isn\u2019t the first time she\u2019s done this, where she didn\u2019t mention she\u2019s invited other people to an event or gathering or whatever. And while her boyfriend is cool, they are quite affectionate towards each other in public and I just didn\u2019t wanna be third-wheeling when I thought it was gonna be a girls day, ya know? \n\n\nI haven\u2019t talked to her since and don\u2019t know if I could\u2019ve handled the situation better. \nAITA for bailing like that? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "En7P9UOeUGDzv0jgUlEepLk5Pzyfpq5u", "post_id": "ab7wha", "action": {"description": "getting with my ex's \"rival\"", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting with my ex's \"rival\"?", "text": "Ok so basically my ex of 3 years and I broke up because we were going to colleges kind of far apart. We talk occasionally, and there's not really any bad blood between us. Coming back for winter break however, a girl that I had a thing for before I started dating my ex (and my ex knows about it, this other girl is the only person me ex ever genuinely got jelous of when I had any interaction with this other girl), wanted to know if I wanted to hu during the break. My ex would deffinatly not appreciate in the least if I get with the other girl, but would I be the ass? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M8EZe7HMVZkI669GvTrX8AfbWfZnWxuh", "post_id": "b8aj89", "action": {"description": "being an autistic robot", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being an autistic robot?", "text": "Short info: My diagnosis goes in the direction of HFA/Asperger compiled with depression but who knows for sure.. but in my point of view Asperger makes perfect sense and matches with everything that happened to me in my whole life..  \nSoo.. back to my question if IATA.. I specifically mean having difficulties in showing and recognizing feelings, emotions and so on.. Thinking logically \"when my emotions should show themselves\" e.g. something critical happens (I know it's bad and that I feel bad about it) but I just can't directly show it and I remain calm and I seem to be relaxed which results in frustration on the other side. I often try to explain myself with words but that makes things worse 99/100 times..  \n\n\nI mean it ain't hard, every other human can do it - right? /s\n\nI get accused of faking it veeeery often because at some points my interactions seemed more natural than others where shit hit the fan really hard..\n\n​\n\nHow do I explain it to others who do not share the same deficits?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6V95S5Z7zDUjKKJbddN8f2QTCn3BPrzz", "post_id": "aqrfmg", "action": {"description": "wanting to tell my parents that my brother is lying about being in school", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to tell my parents that my brother is lying about being in school?", "text": "So for some background info. my older brother has claimed to be a \u201cuniversity student\u201d for the past 5 years. I think he did initially attend but dropped out sometime two-three years ago. He has lied to my parents twice before about being close to graduation. Last summer he lied and my parents told everyone he was about to graduate and bought him a new suit and then the day before his supposed graduation he told them that he actually has to complete two more courses before graduating. Then again in the winter he told them that he was graduating and then the night before we were all supposed to attend his graduation he told them he had lied and that he didn\u2019t pass his classes and isn\u2019t graduating. \n\nNow he has told them that he is enrolled in those last two classes that he needs for graduation and they truly believe that he will be graduating in the spring. \n\nI honestly didn\u2019t believe him because he lies all the time so I asked him today to show me his schedule. He has been putting this off for months and so today he finally logged into his school account and tried to trick me into thinking he is still in school, but I\u2019m not that stupid and looked into his account some more and found out that he is not registered in any classes and is lying again. \n\nI want to tell my parents because I think the fallout will be a lot more worse if they found out later on then now. I\u2019ve tried to convince him to tell them the truth now but he is angry at me and has told me to stay out of it. \n\nI don\u2019t think I should stay out of it because I don\u2019t want to lie to my parents. I think he is being incredibly selfish and immature and this whole situation is stressing me out like crazy. The last time my parents found out that he lied about graduating, my mom legitimately fainted and was sick all night. My dad also has a heart problem and I\u2019m worried for both of their health. I know it\u2019s gonna be really bad when they find out but I don\u2019t think we should prolong this situation any longer. \n\nReddit please help me out! What should I do in this situation? AITA for wanting to tell them the truth? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1O6OxgpmJ8pQPFxOnEuZ6ICDMgr8GBGc", "post_id": "amxxpi", "action": {"description": "ditching out on dinner tv time", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ditching out on dinner TV time?", "text": "So I live in a house with a couple and the sister of the wife. We all do different stuff during the day but almost always eat dinner together with something or other on the TV before breaking off to once again do our own thing. The unspoken rule is we need to all agree with what we watch. If anyone says they dont want to watch something we pick another thing. \n\nThe sister's dad is in town for the week starting today. The sisters were picking him up from an airport about two hours away before picking up the husband of one of the sisters. Sister one prepped a roast to cook all afternoon and popped it in the oven before leaving. As I was the only one home for the evening I walked her dog and gave him dinner as well as fed her cat and gave him his insulin shot. Then I prepped the side dishes and cleaned the kitchen so everything was ready when they got home. \n\nWe were all dished up and ready to put something on. One sister suggested show X. The visiting dad said he had never watched the show and would love to see it. I objected and told them I had watched the first season of the show multiple times with different people and was very tired of it and wanted to see anything else. The dad tells me too bad and puts it on. \n\nI took my plate to go eat in my room as I very much did not want to see show X again and was mad I was not being listened to. I feel like I did a fair amount of work tonight and have every right to get a say in what we watch but the visiting father is accusing me of 'sulking' for not getting my way. \n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6QiPWddEQXx7zXRZW7WHiYCDwzO6UzEy", "post_id": "9wffzo", "action": {"description": "throwing apple cores out of my car", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for throwing apple cores out of my car", "text": "I don't throw plastic or processed foods away but when it comes to stuff like orange peels of apple cores I just toss them on some grass near me when I'm driving, what's so wrong about that\n\n\nAlso I don't throw anything out of my car if it's a expressway- case anyone was wondering ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OPrpcpreAtWBWMdX0auYA4CIdjFKOxN2", "post_id": "b0qbwv", "action": {"description": "watching porn", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 485}, "title": "AITA for watching porn???", "text": "First of all I think this whole ordeal is stupid. \n\nI've been dating my current gf for four months and things have been going great until now. I met her through Tinder and we hit it off right away and were fwb for awhile but she didn't want to date. Said she wasn't a big fan of dating because things just get more stressful. I asked if she could be a little more specific about what she found stressful cause I wanted to be the one to erase those stresses. She opened up about some shit that happened in her life and how she had revenge porn of her spread online. I wasn't too sure why that mattered for a relationship, but she said she didn't want to date someone who used porn because of her dislike for it. She gave me several reasons why she disliked it but those aren't important. I told her I wasn't a big fan of porn and if I had her as my girlfriend I would cut it out entirely. She was so special to me and it seemed like no big deal. \n\nWe started dating soon after and things have been great until she found out I've been using porn. This was a couple days ago and she has been very distant ever since. Told me she felt disgusting and didn't know if she could stay in a relationship with me. I don't fucking understand. Everyone watches porn. Sometimes I just want to get my rocks off and look at something else for a change. I think it's ridiculous to expect your partner to get off without EVER using other people. I know I said I could cut it, but that's stupid. I kept watching it because she wouldn't know and it didn't impact our relationship in any way. Didn't change how I viewed her and didn't ruin our sex life. I think she's being ridiculous right now for distancing herself and being so extreme, saying she doesn't think she can date me over PORN. It feels stupid just typing it out. She's making me seem like a total jerk and this isn't something I want to talk about with my friends IRL. So here I am. AITA?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 475, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 485}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xPFflwCzluli3LEjL6ehmmRWkcik78Tc", "post_id": "azihtr", "action": {"description": "refusing to let my mom send me abroad for a year", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for refusing to let my mom send me abroad for a year?", "text": "For some context here, I was born during the summer in a country in Europe that guarantees citizenship there until the age of 22. So, sometime before you are 22 I have to go back there and live there for a year and join their and society to regain my citizenship. Ever since I was a child, my mom told my older sister (who pushed back on the issue but ended up going) and I that after high school we would be going to take a gap year and going to Europe, which neither of us wanted to do, but figured we'd deal with later. \n\n​\n\nNow I am a high school senior, fully in the college process, having heard back from exactly half of my schools, and there have been some smaller arguments between my mom and I, but nothing too big. However, recently I got accepted into a really great, relatively affordable school that I love, and I was hoping that because of this, my mom would be lenient and say either I could go to Europe during college (which we both agreed I probably would not want or be able to do) or that I didn't have to go after all. We got in a big argument yesterday where she feels that her heritage is being attacked and that I don't respect where she comes from, but I am really not interested in going. All of my friends are attending college next year, I don't really care too much about my relationship with my birth country, and I'm really excited to go to college but don't want to wait a year. Her points are that having an EU citizenship is amazing and that it opens up the doors for so many opportunities, and she calls it an insurance policy in case anything goes wrong in the US. Yesterday in our talk though, she basically put a gun to my head and said \"you are going to Europe for a year or I am not paying for your college\" which I would have needed to alert colleges to earlier to get a bunch of financial aid. AITA for pushing back so hard on this, and feeling like I'm being forced into a year of something I really don't want to do, or is she right with this really being a great opportunity I'm not seeing and that I'm offending her heritage?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 14, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "776oOBRbXGcU01Q6TseTVih5XLt9KJ2Z", "post_id": "a5ypvj", "action": {"description": "cancelling a surprise Christmas gift my wife ordered", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for cancelling a surprise Christmas gift my wife ordered?", "text": "I received an email notification that an Amazon order had been made. I saw what it was. It is expensive and I will not use it so I logged in and cancelled the order.\n\nIt should have arrived next week. Before she notices AITA? If so I can have it reshipped.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rHCBO9kXEtj5wp93XLOS0LE8czZrWQWE", "post_id": "9uensh", "action": {"description": "asking people to use another dog park", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA for asking people to use another dog park?", "text": "For context, I have a 5 year old rescue pup. He\u2019s about 50 pounds & was terrified of his own shadow when I got him. I\u2019ve been working with him a lot & he\u2019s been doing a lot better! A few weeks ago we went to the dog park & after he got a little too excited, a mastiff went after him. Thankfully he was fine, but I did get a few bite marks. He seems to be regressing socially since the incident. \n\nThe dog park I typically go to has 3 separate areas. A small dog park, a large dog park, & one for all sizes. The peak time when there will be the most dogs is on weekends & outside of work hours (evenings typically). I want to take him to get him out & about for some exercise, but I\u2019m not sure how well he\u2019s going to do with other dogs/people yet. I was planning on taking him outside of peak hours, when there\u2019s typically no one, and use the park without anyone in it. If someone tried to join us in the park, would it be rude of me to ask them to take their dog into the other park?\n\nThanks!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "x0RX0zZxMvvzNFiHr6BF3ghnHGGAQn6m", "post_id": "agistg", "action": {"description": "losing my cousins phone and not wanting to pay it back in her own terms", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for losing my cousins phone and not wanting to pay it back in her own terms?", "text": "Two weeks ago my whole family reunited for a vacation on the coast. On the second to last day we went diving. My (24M) cousin (21F) lent me her iPhone 7 Plus in a waterproof bag that hangs around the neck and I used it as a flashlight while submerging. Somehow the string of the bag broke and I lost the phone to oblivion. \n\nEveryone in the family agreed that it was my responsibility to buy my cousin a new one and while I don't agree (if it had been my phone I wouldn't have made anybody else pay for it given it was an accident) I felt for her and knew her parents wouldn't buy her a new one so I said I'd do it. I even tried to give her my own phone but she refused. \n\nThe thing is she obviously wants a new phone STAT (she currently has a lousy back up) and I can only send her part of my paycheck every month or save up and mail her a new one in 7 or 8 months. \n\nShe's trying to convince her parents to use their credit card and she's aiming for a goddamned iPhone X in installments. Her parents say she needs to choose a cheaper option and they also need ME to get my father to agree to pay on my behalf every month if I fail to do so. \n\nI'm pissed that my cousin is making the situation tense between everyone instead of waiting and handling this between us. I put my foot down and said I only owe her the amount her old phone was worth on the current market and won't involve my parents. If hers decide to use their credit card it's on them. \n\nSo, am I the asshole? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4XwxGbmkjhdL5wxamViLLkAOlTXH5urT", "post_id": "aljjk8", "action": {"description": "letting my bestfriend sleepover, even though my girlfriend doesn't like her", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for letting my bestfriend sleepover, even though my girlfriend doesn't like her", "text": "Hi guys, \n\nSo this happened last night. For context, I (22M) have been dating this really cool girl for the past 4 months (22F). We have also been a friend for basically the past 4 years. We have no issue with our relationship, except with the relationship with one of my best friends (22F) who has been one of my closest friends for the past 10 years. We now have what I consider to be a platonic friendship.\n\nAlmost 2 years ago (before my now girlfriend and were even considering dating), we had exactly two moments where we made out, one of which where we were both in relationships - meaning we both cheated. It was bad, we know, but we were both in really bad (abusive in my case) relationships. All said nothing came out of those incidents. We discussed it, but neither of us has any romantic or sexual feelings toward the other anymore.\n\n​\n\nSo long story short, a few nights ago, this friend (who now works as a tech consultant) had to go visit a client who's office was really close to my place. The office was a 5 minutes drive from my place, v.s an hour commute from her place. Since she had to meet the client very early in the morning, she asked me if she could sleep on my couch, so that she would not have to deal with the long commute. I said that it was fine.\n\n​\n\nWhen I called my girlfriend to tell her about this she got really angry. My girlfriend feels that even though I say that the friendship between me and this friend is platonic, it is not, and what I did exhibit a lack of boundaries. \n\n​\n\nI argued that letting close friends sleep on my couch, regardless of gender is something that I've done in the past many times and she's was okay with that, but this situation is different because she doesn't like that specific friend. So the act of letting my friend crash at my place is not inherently wrong, it just feels wrong to her because she doesn't like that specific friend.\n\n​\n\nAll in all, my friend slept over, my girlfriend got really angry and we had a long talk about it today, and we are now okay, but I'm left wondering, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1W1EHBNiBsALvLLhvt9yVmamdVz8H9aS", "post_id": "ba4999", "action": {"description": "not being friends with someone anymore", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being friends with someone anymore?", "text": "Its been over a month since this incident occurred and I still feel bad about it. I think I was in the right to cut her out of my life but there's a small part of me that still feels I was in the wrong.\n\nThe long and short of it is that my friend, we'll call her Shana, decided to cheat on her wife. That's not why I removed her. To her credit, she apparently stopped the cyber role play fucking and flirting with her friend because she felt bad and it never escalated beyond that. However Shana's wife found out about it because the person she was being intimate with got salty and exposed her to one of their friends and their friend happened to be a friend of her wife. So the logs were exposed.\n\nAs you can imagine her wife was unbelievably pissed. They were married only 5 or 6 months prior to this. Shana's wife wanted a divorce ans bought a plane ticket to send her back to her home country and forced her to leave. I was pissed because I hate cheaters HOWEVER I comforted Shana and tried my best to be supportive. \n\nI got everything plus the whole 9 yards. Shana felt bad about the cheating, took responsibility for it, and cried so many tears about how much she only wanted her wife and no one else. Then I grew weary. Shana told me that she had a diagnosed multiple personality disorder and it was really her alter that was cheating and not her because her alter likes to sabotage everything and actively works against her which is something I never once heard of in my 2 years of knowing her. Red flags started popping up but I gave her the benefit of the doubt here.\n\nWhat follows next pissed me off so much that I ended up cutting her from my life right there. Apparently her wife ended up forgiving her and no longer wanted a divorce. I was happy that she was going to give Shana another chance. But Shana deadass told me that she brought up that now she wants their marriage to be open and be polyamorous. Her wife accepted saying that she's okay with Shana fucking other people but she herself doesn't want to do it. \n\nI immediately grew sour because of how sketchy this sounded. I would think that if you only wanted your wife you would, in fact, only want your fucking wife and not IMMEDIATELY suggest wanting an open marriage upon being forgiven. And it seems that she cried over not actually betraying her wife's trust but getting caught. After everything she told me it seems like she's trying to use polyamory as a way to actively cheat on her wife without it being called cheating and, to me, it seems like her wife is so madly in love to the point where she's being taken advantage of.\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EFjqOuw6mdbc35LehZadtzkloKGixGnf", "post_id": "azmdju", "action": {"description": "applying to two internships at the same company", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I apply to two internships at the same company?", "text": "I worked at this company last year and I believe that they would definitely hire me back for the same position, but I already applied and interviewed for a different internship at the same company. I'm wondering if it's a dick move to apply to the old position and potentially turn it down if I'm offered the other one that I interviewed for. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Nj5Ve548aokTUsapzJ51hphrCXf9yw6Q", "post_id": "agvhy9", "action": {"description": "ending what I thought was a failing friendship", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ending what I thought was a failing friendship", "text": "This is gonna a ling one so get ready. So here's a bit of back story I met her 3 years ago we knew each other through mutual freinds. We talking to each other for about 6 months when I developed a crush on her but after while I stopped cause I value this friendship to much. Around a year after knowing her she started talking to new people you know like popular kids and we started talking less and I don't blame her hell even I started chilling with the \"cool kids\". Now fast toward to where the trouble began  Eventually we ended up in the same group of freinds but it was different she would barely acknowledge me and use me as the butt of some of her jokes. I started questioning our Freindship at this point. Now fast toward to a couple days ago when I made the realization that I know nothing about her. We didn't know each other for three years we just knew  who each other was for 3 years. So I decide to end our freindship. I un add her on social media and just stop talking to her like she's been doing. Fast forward to now me and some of my football freinds are sitting at lunch and one of them asks \"hey aren't you freinds with x\" and I respond no and I guess she found out and texts me (we haven't texted in 8 months at this point) saying I'm a snake, 2 faced, and that I'm selfish for ending it after 3 years, she then goes in to insult my weight I am overweight but I'm currently cutting it in football. This gets me mad so I respond with \"shut up were not freinds u don't even know anything about me in fact tell me my favorite color or some of my interest if we're such great freinds\" as of right know she hasn't responded it's been 2 days. I know I handled this badly and got to heated now I feel like shit and that maybe she's right. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6xl2QHbL9uM2lYILefgeJF2bWj4Xtlqd", "post_id": "b0y9s1", "action": {"description": "lying to my friend about how she changed her clothes", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for lying to my friend about how she changed her clothes?", "text": "Hey guys,\nfirst time posting and english is not my mothertongue, so please have mercy.\n\nSo I (M23) met this girl (F21) online and we know for about around 2 years. Last week we met the first time in person. We live ~8hours apart.\n\nWe went out at Friday night and got drunk. While I was \"only\" a bit drunk, she was actually wasted. On our way back to my hotel she vomited all over her clothes (top, pants, shoes). The plan was actually that she rides a train home, but it was too late and I wouldnt have let her go home alone in her state anyway.\n\nSo after what felt like 4 hours we arrived at my hotel and I took her to my room. I gave her a shirt and sweatpants and told her to get changed in the bathroom. After some minutes i asked if everythings ok, but didnt get an answer. So i went into the bathroom to look after her. She was sitting on the floor unchanged and crying. She told me she is in a fresh relationship ~1month and she had a guilty conscience for getting drunk. \n\nBetween her and me nothing sexual happened and I wasnt even planning it. Just two friends hanging out. Had the feeling to throw that in.\n\nI once again told her to get changed and brushed my teeths in the meantime. After I got back in the bathroom she was sleeping on the bathroom floor, still unchanged. I woke her up and helped her to undress and put on my clothes. Because she wasn't able to do it or didn't want to do it. I don't want to share a bed with someone who is full with vomit and I don't think it would have been right to let her sleep on the floor, because there was only one blanket.\n\nWhile she slept in the bed I washed her clothes in the bathtub as good as possible and hung them up to dry. After that I went to bed aswell.\n\nThe next morning arrived and she couldn't remember a thing. I told her what happened and told her that she changed herself. \nI just felt it was the right thing to say, because it's was the first time we met in person and she's in a fresh relationship. I didn't want to make her feel guilty again.\n\nI thought about it the whole week and wonder if it was the right thing to do. Should I tell her the truth?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vpfmmx6zf4bYn2eYJOF56bzq66djXFh5", "post_id": "asw3ff", "action": null, "title": "AITA? GF abd I were sexting She brought up someone who shes told me she thinks is cute right after", "text": "First off. I feel like this post needs some background.\n\n1) I know i can be overly jealous and thats why I am posting here\n2) at the time of posting this I really understand both sides and dont know what's right\n3) my GF is a teacher and knows my old teacher/lacrosse coach through coaching. \n4) she has actually admitted hes an attractive man to my face\n5) she's on vacation and i had sent her an Instagram story of said teacher vacationing in the same spot as her. I screen grabbed it and sent it to her via snap chat,\n\nSo that was all About 3 days ago.\n\nToday she got service and we were sexting. It got to the point where she said \"i can't read these in public anymore because im going to get myself in trouble.\"\n\nAbout 15 seconds later she responded to my snap chat I sent earlier in the week where said old teacher asking if he was still in the area where she was.\n\nFrom my end it felt really odd going from her telling me she cant read these to her following up on said attractive teacher\n\nMy argument is that it was pretty incensative to go from sexting to talking about someone she's openly admitted is attractive to me.\n\nHers is that they were over different mediums (text and snap chat) and that she didn't think the two were connected\n\nMaybe I'm reading into the chain of events to deeply but AITA? Are we both assholes?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "InIzsv8LyoUZ5myfgQZfTfIdOxQaoLP0", "post_id": "adm53f", "action": {"description": "telling my mom she said something offensive", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom she said something offensive?", "text": "My brother and I were hanging out with a friend of his. His friend is gay and I guess my mom didn\u2019t know, so she started asking him questions. One of the first things she asked was \u201cWhat color of boys do you like?\u201d and he got awkward and uncomfortable. I told my mom she can\u2019t say that, in a joking way, and she doubled down and said \u201cNo, I mean do you only date your own race or do you like white, brown, asian, latino....\u201d My brother just flat out said \u201cmom, you\u2019re being racist.\u201d She got really defensive and said \u201cWhat? I\u2019m not allowed to have preferences? If I only was attracted to black men would that make me racist?\u201d \n\n\nMy brother\u2019s friend and I both tried explaining that it IS okay to have personal preferences but telling everyone is pretty weird; it\u2019d also be rude to tell someone you\u2019re not attracted to them specifically because of their race, as it is something they cannot change. She half conceded and left the room, asking my brother to come with her. I heard them arguing and she started crying and saying she\u2019s the \u201cbest mom ever\u201d and she\u2019s only ever taught us kindness and acceptance. \n\n\nI later on tried to bring it up again, but my brother was there and he can\u2019t help but throw jabs and insults at my mom. They got really heated over it again, so I told my brother to shut up for a minute so I could talk. I tried explaining that small differences in the way you talk to people can really change the way you\u2019re perceived by people. Asking a black gay boy what \u201ccolor\u201d of boys he likes is not the most tasteful or appropriate thing to say. She said she didn\u2019t ask what color of boys he liked and that our \u201coversensitive millennial brains\u201d misheard her and twisted reality. \n\n\nAt this point, I knew the argument wasn\u2019t worth having. My mom isn\u2019t the kind of person to complain about \u201csnowflakes\u201d and the like, so I knew she was just deflecting by throwing insults. I told everyone to quash it and go about their business. My mother is not an emotionally mature woman. She\u2019s been addicted to drugs for half her life and never properly socialized. Now that\u2019s she\u2019s sober, she\u2019s learning how to be an adult and a regular member of society. \n\n\nShe also didn\u2019t grow up like me and my brother. The schools we grew up in were incredibly diverse. People of color are not a novelty to me or my brother. Most of our friends are not white and we don\u2019t think about it too much. My mom likes to bring it up a lot. She tends to fetishize people of color. She recently saw some baby pictures of my brother\u2019s girlfriend (who is asian) and hasn\u2019t shut up about who she can\u2019t wait for them to have kids because she\u2019s always wanted that \u201cflavor\u201d of grandbaby. I think don\u2019t she means any harm but she seems to confuse attraction for acceptance. (e.g. \u201cI\u2019m not racist, my girlfriend is black.\u201d)\n\n\nDespite all this, she\u2019s still my mother and I love her dearly. I feel like I could\u2019ve handled this situation better. I don\u2019t feel like it was appropriate for my brother to accuse her of being racist in front of his friend, but it also makes me uncomfortable how she treats POC (and gay people) like they\u2019re a novelty. \n\n\nSo Reddit, am I the asshole? \n\n\nTL;DR Mom asked black gay friend what \u201ccolor of boys\u201d he liked and we told her it was inappropriate. She got really offended and I\u2019m afraid I hurt her feelings, but she says a lot of weird shit about POC. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R5FQqu6SB1cA7iVWGVxHJHFfAc9F861D", "post_id": "b53wol", "action": {"description": "being upset my cousin wants to combine our kids 1st birthdays", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset my cousin wants to combine our kids 1st birthdays?", "text": "Hello! FTP and on mobile, sorry if this is difficult to read.\n\nMy son and his cousin both have their first birthday in September, this is my first child, this is my cousins 4th child, but her first girl.\nMy husband and I have already started planning our sons first birthday parties. He's having two because we currently live in a different country than our families and are flying back for two weeks for his birthday and we are planning one for each side of the family because of travel restrictions on both sides. We were planning on inviting everyone from my side and doing it as a family reunion type thing since a lot of us haven't seen each other in a while. Well, today my cousin messaged me and said her parents are planning a family reunion in September at their new house with lots of land and she's planning on having her daughters party that weekend and asked if I wanted to just combine their birthdays and get a smash cake for my son so he didn't feel left out. I'm kind of upset about it. I know my son won't remember it but my husband and I will. We are planning on flying a long way and my husband taking all of his work leave specifically to celebrate our sons birthdag with our families. Should we just suck it up and be happy we get to do it with most of our family there even if it's not his party or should we push to have it be his day? There would likely be more people/children at her daughters birthday party and if she didn't come to my sons there will be no other kids there.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tAvtY4p8bkMrjY4oc3peCiB7N7Xew0lk", "post_id": "aak2km", "action": {"description": "not wanting to associate with bigoted family members", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to associate with bigoted family members?", "text": "I have a closely related member of my family who is pretty bigoted, and I would rather not associate with them. Said family member wanted to get the SS symbol tattooed on his chest (which he claims isn't meant in a \"racist way\") despite us being the type of people Nazis would love to get rid of.\n\nWhen I confronted him after he said some pretty nasty things in front of my kids and it led to us getting into a full blown fight, it was two other members of my family told me that \"you can't just disown family for that reason,\" mind you both of these family members have said extremely hypocritical and bigoted things. I made it clear that I would have no contact with him or allow him around my kids. People are entitled to do what they want, but it also means people are entitled to feel how they want.\n\nMy family also apparently can't see the hypocrisy in telling me that said family member is allowed the right to his opinion and to do what he wants, but apparently I'm not allowed to be entitled to my own opinion and to do what I want. AITA for telling some of my family to fuck off?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mjmsFUYpgX1kzzsDSKCKgQy3EeTyk5bR", "post_id": "b9e1ro", "action": {"description": "not apologizing to my brother in law's inlaws", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not apologizing to my brother in law's inlaws?", "text": "This happened last night and I've been stressed about it ever since.\n\nI have two kids and we aren't strict on them swearing. As long as it's in our house and they're not using 'angry' words, it's fine. So dropping something and swearing is fine but telling your sibling you hate them when mad isn't, regardless of swearing, because we're supposed to talk, not yell, right?\n\nLast night my brother-in-law facetimes my husband. He's in the living room and answering whatever question it is BIL has. My youngest is coming down the stairs, almost trips on the cat, and goes 'Aww shit, Cake!' Facetime ends, I think nothing of it until 10 min. later when he calls back saying we should apologize for her swearing because his inlaws were in the room and offended. I was the one who answered this time and I said I was sorry. Then he said I needed to apologize to them. I said, sure hand the phone over but he says his wife thinks I should call her parents directly, they'll give me the number etc. \n\nNow, I've never met them. They live very far and I didn't even know they were in town. I'm an anxious person, I hate making phone calls. I said, I'm already on the phone, you can give it to them now or put it on speaker phone but I'm not calling. Then I said I had to go because it was late and needed to get the kids in bed. He called back and talked to my husband and apparently they thought I was rude. At the time I didn't think so, but I'm also a people pleaser and now that's outweighing my anxiety. \n\nSo should I call and apologize? Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cmT50DMUcCllefUqDeJ60qoxq2gqnS4M", "post_id": "ac8bin", "action": {"description": "refusing to let my unvaccinated cousins around my future children", "pronormative_score": 57, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I refused to let my unvaccinated cousins around my future children?", "text": "I\u2019m on mobile, apologies for the formatting. TLDR at the bottom. \n\nSo, I just found out today that my cousins on my fathers side are all unvaccinated with the exception of 2 of them. (I have 9 total on that side). \n\nMy aunts and grandparents swear that vaccines do the usual cause autism and such blah blah blah, with the twist that they also believe they\u2019re made from aborted fetuses. Which in their eyes means you cannot be christian/pro life and be vaccinated at the same time. \nI am the oldest grandchild on that side, and I also have a younger brother who is super close in age to me, we were both fully vaccinated before any of these cousins were born and both had no issues (obviously). However when the next closest cousin was born and needed her vaccinations, she cried when the first shot was given so my aunt refused to continue because she swears she \u201cheard the autism working through her\u201d. So, after this none of the others were vaccinated. With the exception of two boys who were adopted, so legally they had to be. In that case, my grandparents held a prayer service around them and prayed for god to make the vaccine faulty and forgive them. \nMy parents have tried relentlessly to teach them and they refuse to budge on the subject. \nWhen I heard this today, I immediately told my family that my future child will not be around the cousins until my child is completely vaccinated. \nNow, my mother and father think that I\u2019m being too extreme and that it\u2019s not a huge deal. Saying that because I\u2019ll be vaccinating my baby, that I should not be worried. \n\nSo here\u2019s the question: Would I be the asshole to continue through with this? It would certainly hurt my grandparents and aunts for them to hear this from me, but I feel that my future child\u2019s well being comes first. Do my parents have a valid point? (I should add that I am not currently pregnant, just had this conversation with my parents earlier) \n\nTLDR: Grandparents and Aunts are anti-vaxx in regards to my 9 cousins, I told my parents I won\u2019t let them around my future children, parents say that I should let them around since I\u2019ll be vaccinating my own child anyways. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 56, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 57, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "058ntsfvtu4GNn4KfVGaCfd8cuQbS81a", "post_id": "b1znpr", "action": {"description": "not celebrating my (ex)girlfriend's birthday", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not celebrating my (ex)girlfriend's birthday?", "text": "When i was starting my final year of medical school, I told my girlfriend upfront that I wouldn't be able to celebrate her birthday on the actual day as it was 1 week before our finals. This was an exam that would test us on everything we learned up to that point and would greatly influence where we got a job or whether we could get a job at all. I'm not the brightest student in my cohort so i was genuinely worried I would not do well.\n\nI told her that I would only get her a cake and a card but that we would celebrate in a big way after the exams. She was also a medical student and in the same year as I and when she agreed, I thanked my lucky stars she could understand the immense pressure we were both under.\n\nFast forward a few months later to my birthday, she plans this elaborate weekend getaway. (I should have seen it coming guys...) I am absolutely blown away but at the same time i knew that there's no way I could pull something like that off a week before finals and i tell her as much a few weeks after our trip. She said that she understood and that our exams were the priority. Once again i thanked my lucky stars for having such a loving and understanding girlfriend.\n\nThe months crept by and pressure was on, we went through stacks of practice questions and hundreds of exam scenarios just to prepare for the exam we were only a week away from the paper and the pressure was on!\n\nAt the stroke of midnight, I suddenly hear a sniffle comr from behind me. As i turn around my girlfriend suddenly breaks down and sobs uncontrollably. \"I can't believe you didn't celebrate my birthday!\" she screamed. In between her cries, she tells me that after all our years together she couldn't believe that her friend rather than me was the first person to wish her a happy birthday. That birthdays are extremely important to her (she never mentioned this before) and I should have done something. \n\nI do my best to apologise, go out of my way that day to buy her flowers arrange a nice dinner, cake and presents a week before the biggest exam of my life in order to appease her but it seemed like the damage was done. That was the first of our few big fights and a few months later we broke up. When she broke up with me, she mentioned that that incident was one of the reasons she lost faith in me.\n\nI don't know how to feel about all of this. Should I have read the signs a little better? Should i have been clearer with my intentions? I feel incredibly wronged but then I wonder if I'm in the wrong.\ud83d\ude36\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mz2TUeA0JZG77iRmM0X0wOZGQonhwHaR", "post_id": "ba5f5r", "action": {"description": "ghosting a guy", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a guy?", "text": "Throwaway because he uses reddit and I'd rather not risk him finding my main account. Tl;dr at the bottom.\n\nWhen I moved to another country to continue my studies in a new environment, I became friends with a few students that were also new to the environment. This guy in my friend group (let's call him John) instantly clicked with me. He was the only one I can normally converse with since he liked games that I liked and had the same sense of humour that I have.\n\nJohn and I hung out for a month before he asked me out. I said no and told him that I thought we were moving too fast. He told me that it's all good. A week after, I started hanging out with a new friend I made outside of our friend group (let's call him Sam). When John heard about this, he started saying that he was jealous. I just tried to ignore this and move on, but he kept stating how jealous he is, giving me \"subtle\" hints to not hang around Sam anymore.\n\nI started getting closer to Sam, mainly because his culture is quite similar to my culture, and I feel more comfortable being around him that being around John. One day, while talking to Sam, John came to us and introduced himself to Sam. He talked to Sam about me as if he owned me, referring to me as \"my Anon\" and putting his arm around me in front of Sam. I felt very uncomfortable and just got up from my seat, leaving quickly. At night, I confronted John about this incident via text. I told John that what he did was wrong because I am NOT his property, and John apologized profusely for the way he behaved. I still couldn't get over being treated like a property, so I just ghosted him. I blocked him, never said a word to him in real life, and basically just turned around whenever he was walking on the path I'm heading towards.\n\nIt's been 3 months since then, and I'm starting to feel guilty about ghosting him like that. I know I don't owe him anything, but our friend group has dwindled a bit because of this, and from what I saw and heard, he almost has no other friends because of his anti-social personality. He also did apologize, so AITA?\n\n\nTl;dr - Anti-social guy had a crush on me and got jealous I hung out with another guy, treated me like his property in front of the other guy, and apologized when confronted about it. I still felt angry about being treated like his property, so I ghosted him anyway. Now he barely has any friends. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PHjMl2wHrd6uYD9osrKeH1w6oPTr6L6J", "post_id": "a9nufs", "action": {"description": "getting a dog without telling my husband", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 40}, "title": "AITA for getting a dog without telling my husband?", "text": "This past weekend some friends and I went shopping and stopped by this petstore in this dilapidated strip mall. It was big but they had a lot of \"going out of business\" signs. There were puppies there and the store manager said that a few of the dogs would be \"destroyed\" when they eventually leave for a multitude of reasons. It was probably a combination of the mimosas we had earlier + the cuteness of the puppies but I ultimately agreed to buy one of the dogs because I couldn't stand the thought of it being put down. \n\nWhen my husband got home later that night he was furious that I had spent so much on a new puppy without telling him. He told me I was probably duped by that store and I don't disagree, but I also believe I did the right thing bringing that puppy away from that horrid store. He is mad that I did all this without asking him and I did apologize but I feel like he should cut me some slack. I only acted out of compassion and was just a bit overwhelmed by what that store manager was telling me. And besides, getting a cute puppy is hardly the worst thing to happen to anyone. I feel like my husband is overreacting and going overboard with making me feel bad now. \n\nSo, was I or am I the asshole for getting that puppy?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 40, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 40}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SEAWOw4zL9wwywch9XvvDg0TmtYA6Zs4", "post_id": "ajgklz", "action": {"description": "asking my Twin sister to live with my mom instead of with me in my moms other House", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "WIBTA If I asked my Twin Sister to live with my mom instead of with me in my moms other House?", "text": "Full Back Story: Growing up I was the only guy in my house, with a twin sister, 2 little sisters, and a single mom. For unique reasons all 4 of us are within 2 years of age. It was really rough growing up and being so outnumbered all the time so i love to \"bro out\" for lack of better words. \nCurrent story: TDLR at bottom We are all in early 20s. Once we all graduated high school my mom moved into a much smaller house 20 minutes away and allows us to live in the old house for very cheap (she doesnt make money or lose money, we pay utilities, taxes, etc) until we get on our feet as adults. My 2 little sisters both took the deal(while me and twin where in college, they didn't go) and have since bought their own house or moved out the area. I recently graduated, moved in and got 2 roommates, keeping 1 bedroom open for my twin if she decides to live with us. The thing is I don't want her to. We live together during the summers and dont get along. We went to the same college and went out together and had fun, shes one of my best friends, but when we are together too long we arnt nice to each other. My 2 roommates are long time friends and Id say now they are just as much friends with my sister as with me, they have no problem with her moving in. \nThe thing is , I love the atmosphere of the house, its the definition of a bachelors pad (pool table in dining room, bench press in living room, bikini posters, deer heads, etc). Im worried that my sister might kill the vibes living here when she could very easily live with my mom 20 min away(for free) and visit whenever. The only thing is she has expressed excitement for being roommates and I really don't want to hurt her feelings because she is sensitive and its not like its any more my house than hers. \n\nAdditionally, my little sister that moved away is talking of maybe moving back in and sharing the room with my twin. This would be 100% a nightmare, my little sister is not easy to get along with and those two sharing a room would be awful for everyone involved. The thing is my mom said little sister cannot live with her(for above reasons) but twin can. Plus I wouldnt mind little sister living here as much because she would just stay in her room all the time and because she is intellectually disabled and she worries me being alone in the city. \nTDLR; Mom lets us stay in other house for very cheap. I moved in made it a bachelors pad with 2 friends and don't want my twin sister to live here. WIBTA to tell her this as it will likely hurt her feelings", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EUDGGYNluslzMd3tY9YnLvhNijryOdyo", "post_id": "aqiuwb", "action": {"description": "wanting my friend to pay me back the plane ticket I bought", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my friend to pay me back the plane ticket i bought.", "text": "Hello everyone, so here goes. It began on June of last year. My friend and I had been planning for months to go on a trip to Japan, we saved up money, looked at attractions, and many other things.  His dad works at an airline in Mexico which is where our plane was gonna leave, and the plan from the beginning was to get cheap airline tickets from his dad because apparently its a thing!  Keep in mind, tickets to Japan are not cheap, they can cost upwards of up to $950.00, which is why when he told me this, i was amazed that we could get a ticket for $120 back and forth, sounded too good to be true.  Well a couple of days after this, he starts telling me that there will be complications with the searing, this and that...next thing i know i had decided, screw it, I\u2019m just gonna buy a regular ticket, and he agreed.  he tells me to talk to his mom, who is going to go with us to Japan, for the dates of departure  and arrival so i can buy it, she gives me the dates and i buy them.  Well, turns out the dates she gave me were incorrect, telling me right after i buy them, so what i do with that ticket, is that i save it for another time (with a 1 year extension, for some reason i couldn\u2019t use it on the date i wanted, but its okay since they told me we would be going next year again for sure, and i was down for that!!).  I go ahead and buy another ticket, we go to japan have lots of fun and then come back.  Its February now, and I\u2019ve been asking my friend when were gonna plan the next trip because i still have that leftover ticket, but he keeps changing the topic or ignoring the question entirely, and when going to Japan, you need lots of time to plan ahead.  Should i ask him for the money back or make a deal where he gives me half the money because we both shared the fault, or is it my fault entirely and should i just suck it up and accept the losses.\n\nI don\u2019t know if this is the right subreddit for this.  \n\nSorry for any misspellings, english is second language.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aLAvU7VJ9nXW3lzr4fF6wxukrTAjEmiX", "post_id": "a51uxv", "action": {"description": "falling back after date says he's not over his ex", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for falling back after date says he's not over his ex?", "text": "I'll try to be brief.\n\n​\n\n\\-We dated for a month, had sex, I got feelings for him\n\n\\-He cancelled a date, later explaining that a meeting with his ex (they split not too long ago) had him in a bad headspace\n\n\\-I quickly assumed that meant he wasn't over his ex and anything serious between us was unlikely (he later said I was right, he isn't ready to jump into anything serious right away)\n\n\\-I unfriended (not blocked) him on FB and snap chat as it was difficult for me to see what I can't touch\n\n\\-He noticed how I disconnected from him on social media and apologized for hurting me. I told him, yes, I was hurt, and while I empathize with his situation, I felt I needed to get out of the way and give him space\n\n\\-He said he'd be glad if we could try to connect later down the road, I told him I wish him well, we can keep each other's numbers, and I would try the best I can to be a friend (I highly doubt it'll happen but I don't feel the need to burn any bridges)\n\n\\-In the past, I've tried to force a relationship with someone who wasn't over their ex and I failed horribly. This time, I'm opting to empathize, let go, but also disconnect from social media (I just couldn't stop myself from checking his page)\n\nTL;DR- briefly dated, he wasn't ready for anything serious, I tried to be kind but needed to cut off social media connections. Wondering if that was immature of me", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kfzjmM2CEblIxRLdtGhs3z6JOyVXm1tw", "post_id": "axv3oa", "action": {"description": "making my then boyfriend angry", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for making my then boyfriend angry?", "text": "This is kind of a long, complicated story, but it\u2019s honestly been bugging me for a year and I need a public consensus on who is the asshole.\n\nI dated a guy in 2017. He had some issues with his ex. She wanted to have sex. He didn\u2019t. It caused her to do some nasty stuff like lie to him and cheat. He told me this pretty early on before we did anything sexual. We were getting increasingly more intimate in our relationship and I wanted to make sure he was comfortable. One day, I said \u201cI know what happened in your past and I just want you to know I wouldn\u2019t do that to you. I think you\u2019re amazing and I want to go at your pace\u201d or something along those lines. He got really mad at me and told me he didn\u2019t like that I brought that up. I apologized and he was still all pissy. \n\nI ignored him for a couple days which just made things worse. When we started talking again, he began to flirt with other girls and pretty much just be an over all bad boyfriend so I would break up with him. When I did, he spun everything around on me and I still feel like the asshole. I\u2019m still quite confused and the lack of closure made it so I never really recovered :/\n\nAm I the asshole for bringing up the whole situation and ignoring him after he flipped out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MFytaUfYIjQxzzeHHVOCEDWFOm6z7JrS", "post_id": "apojcj", "action": {"description": "blaming my father for my brother's behavior", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blaming my father for my brother\u2019s behavior?", "text": "This is kind of a long story because it\u2019s been an issue that\u2019s been festering in my family for a long time that just blew up about 2 hours ago.\n\nAnyways, for some background, my younger brother (14) has very violent tendencies and has a binge eating disorder. I (17 F) was away this weekend at my base for military training. During my lunch break, I get a text from my mom that basically is telling me that my brother binge ate all of the ice cream she had set aside for our dying grandmother (she won\u2019t eat anything but ice cream). I text her back and told her that he ate all of my travel snacks for the drive up to my base too.\n\nAfter this, (this is what I\u2019ve been told by my other siblings, I was away this weekend) my mom confronted him about eating grandma\u2019s food and he got really defensive and called her worthless because she doesn\u2019t have a job. She doesn\u2019t have a job because she used to work at a prison but they wouldn\u2019t hire a CO to protect her (she\u2019s a nurse) while she was treating patients. After that, he physically attacked her. My father sat there and did nothing. My sister tells me she walked in on our mom staring at the wall and crying after this happened.\n\nOn my way home the next day, my mom calls me and tells me to explain to my father how my brother treats the rest of us (he treats everyone in the family poorly and has drawn knives on multiple occasions). She did this because dad often enables my brother\u2019s behavior by defending him every time he hurts someone. Not to mention, he often makes racist comments to our adopted Asian sisters.\n\nI come home around 9 PM, the house is tense but quiet. Next day, today, I\u2019m just chilling/cuddling with my boyfriend in my room. I get a phone call from my dad telling me to come to the living room to work stuff out with my brother. Eventually the whole family gets involved. My mother is telling my father that she doesn\u2019t feel safe anymore and that she wants to leave (brother is 2x her size, dad doesn\u2019t defend her). Dad is telling her that she\u2019s wrong for abandoning the family. Most of us side with mom because we agree she shouldn\u2019t have to live with this. I start explaining to dad that he is enabling the kid and since he only listens to our father, I believe it\u2019s his responsibility to try and change his behavior. If any of us say anything to my brother it usually turns into us being physically or verbally abused. This never happens with my father because my father is the only person in the house who is larger than my brother.\n\nThen mom starts bringing stuff up related to his brother\u2019s murder. She tells us that he wasn\u2019t murdered as an innocent man like dad told us and that he was murdered because he raped a 13 year old girl. Dad\u2019s face was absolutely horrified. I could tell he never wanted us to find that out. Mom goes on about how his brother never had any consequences growing up and turned into a felon and that our brother is on the same path. She says she\u2019s leaving as soon as grandma dies and that she\u2019ll press charges against him if he lays a hand on anybody else. Personally, I believe mom bringing this up was meant to hurt dad rather than to make a point.\n\nI defended my mother in this whole ordeal and really dished it out to my dad. I honestly feel bad because I do love my dad, I know he didn\u2019t do any of this on purpose; and I wish I hadn\u2019t gotten involved but I didn\u2019t have much of a choice considering both parents were contacting me for help throughout the whole issue. Now my dad doesn\u2019t want to talk to me. AITA? I\u2019m really concerned about my relationship with my dad over this, but at the same time I\u2019m concerned about my wellbeing (& the other females in my family) as my brother is violent.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gv2KJIpSVgXb5JOuE5tGRT69GBUeYj1b", "post_id": "b0vgee", "action": {"description": "reporting my best friends mom for wage violations", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for reporting my best friends mom for wage violations?", "text": "Sorry for poor formatting as I am on mobile.\n\nBest Friend\u2019s Mom = BFM\n\nFirst off, I would like to say that there was no personal motivation behind why I did it. As some back story, my best friends mom owned a cafe. They were struggling with finding employees so I agreed to come in and train for free (important later on). After about a week of training, I started working as a solo employee opening up the place (also important). After working around 3 shifts, we had a disagreement and I was fired. Not upset about it. The next day, they close the place down for financial reasons.\n\nHere\u2019s where the wage violations come in. A few days after the scheduled payday, I checked my bank account and there was no paycheck. I sat on it for a week before deciding to text her asking why I hadn\u2019t gotten paid. Long story short, BFM deflects on the reasoning, gets very mad and proceeds to call me \u201ca piece of work.\u201d \n\nI really needed the paycheck. Later I posted on a certain law-related subreddit asking what to do. They suggested filing a claim with the Department of Labor. Doing what any sensible teenager does, I check with my friends. They say go for it, so I do. \n\nToday I got a call from the department. We talked and it was mentioned that I, being a minor, wasn\u2019t allowed to work as early as I had. My agent said it might be helpful to get in touch with BFM to let her know, essentially saying pay me or pay fines.\n\nWell I did and it blew up in my face.\n\nMy best friend calls me screaming saying we\u2019re through and how I shouldn\u2019t have attacked her family like this. Now all of my friends are saying I\u2019m an asshole for reporting her over a few hundred bucks.\n\nWas I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wNZrne4CrzbIeO9nuZrBM52QsMlUg6J7", "post_id": "b5ahtp", "action": {"description": "not wanting my fiance to have my last name", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not wanting my fiance to have my last name?", "text": "My fiance and I share the same first name - exactly the same spelling. She has an unusual, difficult to spell last name which she hates, people misspell it on a daily basis. We have been together for a few years and even I get frustrated when dealing with people getting it wrong (dinner reservations, plane tickets etc) so I understand how annoying and inconvenient it must have been for her for her whole life. She cannot wait to have my 'regular' last name. \n\nI should also mention that we are both women. The jokes that come when meeting new people get old real quick. \n\nThe more I think of sharing the same last name the more I don't want to. It seems like its going to open up a massive can of worms - things like opening mail, bills, future child custody and even signing off on emails is just going to be confusing for nearly everyone we interact with, having two moms may already be confusing for our future kids let alone dealing with day cares, schools, doctors etc. I'm going to get really sick of *\"which Jane Smith are you?\"* I'm also not a fan of the prospect of having to put my middle initial on every correspondence and every interaction for the rest of my life. *'Yours sincerely, Jane A. Smith'* I think would make me sound like a right punce. \n\nTo me, it seems that changing her last name won't actually make her life any easier, in fact I think that it will be worse and bring me into the mess at the same time. \n\nI've subtly mentioned that it won't be a good idea to which her response is that I don't know how hard it has been for her her whole life. When I brought it up again her response was to just stare at me as if how dare I bring it up again, so I've just let it be for now. The wedding is ages away, there is no way this changes my feelings toward marrying her. \n\nWIBTA if I take a stronger stance on this? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DmKxSU7ttzDZoJ6qE6Nt9ZFv2y6SEmov", "post_id": "9wlm4e", "action": {"description": "wanting to retain relationships with my friends who are moms that don't entirely revolve around them being moms", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to retain relationships with my friends who are moms that don\u2019t entirely revolve around them being moms?", "text": "I\u2019m 31 years old and almost all of my friends have kids now. I understand that your life does a total 180 when you have a child. AITA for wanting to still be friends with my friends who are moms and NOT wanting to only talk about their children? Or wanting to see them away from their children?\n\nKids are great but I still want to hear other things about their lives. I know that their days are filled with potty training and pick ups at day care but they must still retain some part of themselves that doesn\u2019t have to do with their kids, right? I\u2019d like to hear about how work is going or about the new podcast that they are listening to or basically anything besides the kids.\n\nI\u2019m not saying that I mind hearing about their kids, but I wish they would make it a little bit more of a priority to still maintain their old friendships. I have some friends that spend our phone conversations interrupting our conversation to talk to their kids. \n\nMy own mother tries to tell me that I don\u2019t understand how hard and time consuming parenting is and that eventually, down the line, when their kids are older and more self sufficient, they\u2019ll be able to have lives again that include friends that don\u2019t have kids. \n\nAITA for not wanting to wait seven years for my parent friends to decide that they have time to have friends?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Uho9ARF4lmCVTKNSmMfzOp2KOH6d3i1X", "post_id": "afhfyd", "action": {"description": "wanting to breakup over laziness", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to breakup over laziness?", "text": "Just a little background info, We've been dating a little over 3 years now and he's been renting a room in my house for about a year. He's a great guy, but I can't handle the amount of laziness and slob that he is.\n\n\nNow, I'm a tidy person, but I don't go overboard and I think I'm reasonable to what I would like help with. I clean the bedroom and my childs room to my standards but I'm okay with the rest of the house, problem is, the rest of the house doesn't get done unless I do it or my child does it (or tries her best to help)\n\n\nI've asked numerous times to help do the daily chores around the house like dishes, sweeping, laundry, etc. But he won't do them. He does the dishes occassionally and I've only seen him sweep once, and that was when I went through a bad bout of depression.\n\n\nIt's not just the chores that's getting to me though, it's the amount of dishes that are left in his room for weeks, cups and glasses for days left on the bedside table, rubbish that is left on the counters, food scraps in the sink, tea bags left lying around, drink spills that left unclean, piss thats left lying in the toilet bowl, empty boxes left in the frige/freezer/pantry... I could go on.\n\n\nThe highlight of this slobbiness was when my child had to show him how to use the washing machine because he didn't know how. She's 5.\nEven after that, he only put a select amount of clothes in the dryer and left the rest in the washing basket for me to hang out.\n\n\nI had a talk with him the other day about how I was getting exhausted cleaning all the time and picking up after him, having to round the house for items that aren't where they should be. I even asked why he doesn't hang out laundry, or fold clothes, or even recycle the clothes that he doesn't wear. He simply responded with \"I don't want to\".\n\n\nI'm fine with doing the bigger chores such as cleaning out the gutters, but this guy won't even take out the bins..\n\n\nAITA for wanting to break up over his laziness?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X0Bt8Hry0tuGkrY3z2Co9hKdcGTBJmU2", "post_id": "b942jv", "action": {"description": "not attending my future sister-in-law's bridal shower because she wants me to travel to NYC (8 hours total) for a 2 hour event", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn\u2019t attend my future sister-in-law\u2019s bridal shower because she wants me to travel to NYC (8 hours total) for a 2 hour event?", "text": "Heads up, this is being posted on mobile so my apologies for any formatting issues.\n\n\nMy brother is getting married! Yay! I absolutely love my future sister-in-law. We aren\u2019t super tight (we don\u2019t hang out just the two of us) but we get along well at family functions and have some inside jokes. They are getting married in July and we already have to travel for the wedding. No big deal!\n\nI just got the invite for her bridal shower. Her friends and family are from NYC and her mother is hosting the shower in her tiny apartment. My mother, grandmother, brother\u2019s godmother, and dad\u2019s girlfriend have all been invited too. We are expected to either take the train to the city or drive/train to attend the shower. We live about 4 hours from the city. At this point, only my mother and myself are even willing to consider going. It\u2019s too much for the other family members to do in one day. We were not offered a place to stay overnight. We really can not afford a hotel in the area she lives in. \n\nWe offered to throw her a small shower for everyone here since we are all family and want to celebrate. She does not want two showers. I should say that my brother doesn\u2019t want two showers. I have not spoken to her about this, but I know my mother has spoken to my brother and he was livid at the idea of us not attending. \n\nI feel this is a lot for her to ask of us. It would be about 8 hours of traveling in one day for a 2 hour shower. Would I be the asshole for not attending the shower for these reasons? My husband thinks it\u2019s absurd to go, but myself and my mother feel like we have to. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QDJWuySlquqU29HeETDhTGHztHg1fgao", "post_id": "b0s0ru", "action": {"description": "kicking my ex-gf out even though she has nowhere to go", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA if I kick my ex-gf out even though she has nowhere to go?", "text": "I broke up with my ex gf on sunday due to some stuff I found out about her past but since she is between jobs right now and has very little in the way of savings so I agreed to let her remain in my apartment until the end of this week. She was initially going to move with her parents back in arizona but they have since changed their minds and told her she can't move back because they're already housing my ex's sister, her bf and their 2 kids so the house is full. I understand this is a sucky situation to be in but I told her I am not responsible for her because we aren't in a relationship anymore. I told her she should couch surf with one of her friends but she keeps telling me that she doesn't want to dump her problems on her friends like that and that it would be humiliating for her. I feel like i am up against a wall here. The job market for her line of work isn't the greatest in our city so her finding a job could take a while. \n\nI really dont want her in my life or in my apartment anymore, I am over her but she insists that i am being heartless even though i gave her time to find a new place. i want her to leave by next monday because i know if i let her stay here it'll be months before she finds a job and a new place to live", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 7}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "S5mQoQb4CkiYjabZKgAGSjgXMhVgiyza", "post_id": "b1l1g3", "action": {"description": "not changing a part of my life that I've had long before I met my friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA if I won\u2019t change a part of my life that I\u2019ve had long before I met my friend?", "text": "TL;DR bottom. \n\nEver since I was little, I hated going to people\u2019s houses. It\u2019s like having a mini-panic attack walking through the door of someone\u2019s home because I won\u2019t eat there, I won\u2019t drink there, I find it super stressful to use their bathroom, I don\u2019t even really like to use their furniture. I actually get so stressed that I feel physically ill. It\u2019s not just friends, I don\u2019t go to my  family\u2019s houses either, I barely go to my mothers house. Because of this, I just avoid going to houses. Everyone knows that yes, I do want to see you, and if you don\u2019t feel like visiting me, we can always go out somewhere and do something. Never been a problem with anyone in my life, it\u2019s not like I never see them because of it...save for one person. \n\nI met my best friend in middle school, a decade ago. I went to her house sometimes but very rarely. She ended up bringing it up, so I told her what I told everyone else. I made a little extra effort to go to her house once in a while and things were fine for a bit, but then I tapered off. Once or twice a year she would get angry at me and every time we would have the same argument, just a little more in detailed as I got older, and I\u2019d beg her to please just let it go. \n\nI hang out with her at my house, or the bar, or a concert, or fishing, hiking, eating, movies, etc. I enjoy spending time with her, but I rarely go to her house. A few days ago, she asks if she can come down and do her homework, I say yes. I get home from work and get a text saying she decided to do it at her house instead. After my shower I text her that I\u2019m ready, no response. \n\nShe texts me out of the blue saying it\u2019s really bothering her that I won\u2019t come to her house, that I\u2019m being a hypocrite because I went to my boyfriends house in high school. I told her that\u2019s because I was dating him and still rarely went to his house to do more than meet him. Said I avoid *everybody\u2019s* houses and I\u2019m willing to go anywhere with her besides that. She said I\u2019m \u201cmaking it sound like it\u2019s a part of my personality when it\u2019s not\u201d and \u201cyou don\u2019t even want to work on it for me.\u201d It has never not been a part of my life,  it doesn\u2019t pose an issue to me, my family, my friends, boyfriends...only her. \n\nI compared it to if she was afraid of snakes. If I knew she was that anxious about them, that she would avoid them at all costs, I would never ask her to force herself to come stand with me in a snake room. I wouldn\u2019t be pissed off at her for not wanting to work on that for me. She won\u2019t speak to me, I haven\u2019t heard from her in days. \n\n\nTL;DR I have super anxiety about being in people\u2019s houses. Everybody in my life is cool with it, except for my best friend. Argue at least once a year, I apologize and beg her to let it go. She compared herself to my past boyfriends and I compared it to her being terrified of snakes and I\u2019d never force her to be around them. She refuses to talk to me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mh9IwgWfHcInBlsQQGhl9ydfWrGBmJ2p", "post_id": "apkipe", "action": {"description": "leaving to go spend time with my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For leaving to go spend time with my boyfriend?", "text": "For starters, I\u2019m a teenager. While I\u2019m not trying to make an excuse for my behavior, I\u2019m just trying to say that my emotions are out of whack (especially with birth control) and I want to know if I\u2019m in the wrong and how I can change.\n\nI went out for the day with my mom to go clothes shopping, it\u2019s something that we needed to do but hadn\u2019t picked a specific day for. This past Saturday I had the day off of work, I was going to ask if we could go clothes shopping that day but the night before my mom was a little upset because I wanted to go to a friends house for an hour or two. This friend likes to drink/party and she doesn\u2019t want me to associate with them for this reason. The next morning wanting to see if she was still upset with me I went out and tried to ask if we could go, but she was still upset and I decided not to re-ask. \n\nBecause of this I made plans with my boyfriend, we planned to make breakfast and just relax and do homework at his house for the day. I started to get ready and my mom seemed to get better so when she asked if we could go I eventually agreed. I told my boyfriend I wouldn\u2019t be able to come over but I would be later that day.\n\nWe were gone for majority of the day and I honestly had fun, I love talking being able to talk with her so it was nice to have a 2 hour car ride to do just that. Bonus because she let me play my music during!\n\nNow this is where the problem started, I was rather upset during this so I\u2019m going to try to say it as un-biased for you as I can. (Also sorry if I sound robotic, trying my best to not type/sound like an idiot on mobile).\n\nBefore driving back we planned to go out for dinner, seeing that all the restaurants in town were filled we decided to drive back home and eat at a restaurant in our city. Up to this point I forgot about going over to my boyfriends house until he messaged me when I\u2019d be over. I\u2019ve spent almost 12 hours with my mom at this point and seeing as it was late and this was the only day I\u2019d be able to see my boyfriend due to soccer matches he was in for Friday and Sunday, I asked if we could take our meal to go in order to save time and see him. \n\nI realize this was a dick move to try and cut time with my mom when she wanted to get dinner but they way she reacted was over the top. She started yelling at me saying that the whole day was wasted and I was a user who only needed her when I wanted something. All this for wanted to take wings to go and eat them at home? I was willing to eat with her, I just asked if we could take it home. She claimed that I was a ungrateful brat and I only wanted to spend time with my boyfriend. Which I think is weird and hurtful considering I pushed back plans with him to spend time with her. \n\nShe still isn\u2019t talking to me, and is rather cold to me since Saturday. Even during the car ride she wouldn\u2019t talk to me, my dad called her and she vented to him about how I\u2019m a terrible child who only wants to use her and won\u2019t spend time with her. \n\nI realize that I maybe shouldn\u2019t have asked to leave/take the dinner to go in order to cut time with her, but I feel like she shouldn\u2019t have reacted that way for me just asking a question.\n\nPlease let me know though, if I\u2019m the problem I should really fix it before it gets worse.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cjyMt4fPQLszp5vwIV78Hm6WWaTifTqg", "post_id": "ayx3c7", "action": {"description": "not getting my kids food they wanted", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA For not getting my kids food they wanted", "text": "I come home and ask one of my kids what they wanted for dinner, they respond with their desired food, so I plan to go get it. I also have planned a meeting with a friend. I tell my kids that they will just have to find something to eat instead, so I can hang out with my friend. One of my kids moaned in what sounded like disappointment and frustration, I then responded with \"quit complaining there is food\".", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HaPMBhvAi5vijeCiTm2IXqJRcdABQVIw", "post_id": "b31b2o", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my cousin's wedding", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my cousin's wedding", "text": "Recently my cousin invited me to a wedding that is slated to be in in the fall of this year. He invited a lot of people to his wedding, from what it seems it's mostly friends and family, and invited guests to bring a +1. I don't really have a +1 besides my parents and I don't really want to be around them the whole time.\n\nI've never really been to close to my family, I've hung out with my cousins when I was a teenager but after college a lot of stuff happened. In 2016 I lost my older brother and a lot of the family reached out to me but my cousins never really mentioned it, probably for the better because I was in a real state of disliking the family only coming together for that. Recently my cousin has nonchalantly been pushing more conversative ideas that make me find him distasteful and actually pretty hateful.\n\nI brought this up with my parents saying that I didn't feel comfortable going to his wedding. I didn't tell them why I felt that way just more of a \"why would I go if I dont support them\" type of thing. But my parents say that I should be supportive of him because he's my cousin and that it's a family event, I should show good graces towards family as a social obligation.\n\nAITA for not putting my differences aside for this one event even if its more so to make my parents happy than it is for my cousin?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3uPvyokYTrCapwSUDUaPKz4bJfNc9d5S", "post_id": "b0oddu", "action": {"description": "I got ridding of my neighbor's dog", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I got rid of my neighbor's dog?", "text": "I live in a apartment off-campus in a college town that I rent from a local realty company (LRC). The apartments are a series of units in a building with a row of separate buildings along the road. My unit is right next to another apartment complex, and my neighbor's is in that other apartment complex (but not mine) that are all owned by LRC. I can frequently hear my neighbor's dog barking at random times all throughout the day, and I usually hear it about once a day when I am home. I have been mostly able to ignore it up till now, but he was barking fairly late last night (I have to go to bed early for 8am classes). And I've remembered LRC has a no pets rule, in fact on their website it says in all caps \"NO PETS ALLOWED.\" I'm also finding piles of dog poop around the section of grass that separates our buildings. So Reddit, WIBTA if I complained to LRC and made them lose the dog or get kicked out?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WcENtC2PG0ihzHSaHTXP04xWf7JrMbet", "post_id": "abfcmi", "action": {"description": "ghosting a girl I really liked", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a girl I really liked?", "text": "Recently I met a girl at my school, and I really liked her. We would text or FaceTime basically everyday. I really enjoyed talking to her, but one thing always bothered me. She had a reputation for being quite... promiscuous. Now, normally I have no issue with that. Girls can do whatever they want, ain\u2019t none of my business. But she would often talk to me about other dudes she was also being sexual with (for lack of better words). One time she even sent my friend nudes while I was sitting next to him without him even asking. I really liked her, but she just saw me as another dude to fuck basically. This slowly started bothering me more and more, until one night she was telling me about this dude she was sending nudes to, and I just gave up. I blocked her on snap and iMessage. During the time I talked to her, it really fucked with my mental health, but ever since cutting off communication I\u2019ve been a lot happier and back to my normal self. Did I do the right thing here? Am I an asshole? \n\nAlso, I\u2019ll probably have to see her tomorrow as winter break for my school ends tomorrow. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Dc2Rx8HhbgpfF1KryimSmdPHlyduJZfP", "post_id": "b6tntv", "action": {"description": "disallowing my son to go to church at all until he's older", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA if I disallow my son to go to church at all until he's older?", "text": "I recently left the church I have been a member of my whole life. My wife is still a member and attends every week. I intentionally didn't mention what sect, because I want you to judge objectively, not based on your personal religious preferences. \n\nMy wife wants to take him, and I want to disallow it. \n\nI have 2 primary reasons why I think I'm justified in this:\n\n1. I want him to be free to choose what he believes or doesn't believe about religion. I feel that young children by default believe what adults tell them, so by being subjected to adults and authority figures all passionately teaching the church doctrine as fact, children's right to choose for themselves whether to believe is stolen from them. \n2. Teaching that if you disobey god's commandments, you will go to hell for eternity and are unworthy to be in god's presence is a form of psychological abuse, IMHO. I have had massive psychological damage and low self-worth my entire life because of this, and am only now breaking away from it. \n\nMy wife and I both agree that we will respect his decision when he's older, but I feel like if he is \"forced\" to believe before he can defend himself, that a lot of the damage will have been done. Once he's old enough to think for himself, (12?) of course I will allow him to go. \n\nShe's also on board with letting him not go if he's LGBTQ+, but again, by the time he would know that, the damage will have been done. \n\nObviously both of us should have an equal say in how the child is raised, but I feel like my method of not teaching him anything about religion and her method of having a large community of adults actively trying to indoctrinate him are apples and oranges. \n\nLetting him go every other week is an option I suppose, but I think that that's still ample opportunity for brainwashing. I could actively teach him not to believe but I would feel like an asshole about that, and it goes against my philosophy of letting him decide for himself. I will definitely teach him as much as I can about science and critical thinking, and to ask thoughtful, logical questions about what he is learning at church. \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5iKh6ptNjsO5eXRtxXhT66AZyBnitwIU", "post_id": "b4bmju", "action": {"description": "not feeling the same way towards my niece as everyone else does", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not feeling the same way towards my niece as everyone else does?", "text": "The day my niece was born, I was obviously excited. But that was it, just excitement and curiosity. I didn't really feel love. I hadn't addressed the thought until I heard my other sister (not mother of niece) talk about how everytime she sees her, she's filled with a sense of love.\n\nNow, she's about a year old, and everyone in my family talks about her so endearingly. I wanna clarify that I don't feel jealous of the attention or anything like that, I just genuinely can't relate to what they say about her. I don't feel any connection to her past the obvious \"Aw cute baby\" feeling. And I can never grasp conversations about her either. Like, I don't understand how they can all talk about her so long because I just get bored immediately. Our family group chat is just full of pictures of her and then people proceeding to send many, _many_ heart emojis, call her cute, etc. It also isn't that I'm trying to act all cOoL and eDgY by not liking a baby, I just sincerely can't relate to how everyone else feels. And I feel really bad about it. I always try to interact with her, but it comes off as awkward and forced, which makes it obvious that I don't really want to be doing it. That, of course, makes my parents quite frustrated, especially when the baby's calling out for specifically me.\n\nI really wish I could relate to how my family sees my neice because, well, it feels like when people are referencing a movie you've never watched, and you try to keep being in the conversation with no knowledge of what they're talking about. It also seems as if this feeling is going to keep being there as I become older and reach the age of having children. That's going to be a major cause for me being a black sheep in the family (my family's pretty gossipy and throughout the years, I've heard various comments about other people along the lines of \"I don't understand how they don't want children, seems crazy to me\"). It also just feels like I'm constantly being rude around my sister and her daughter even though I don't try to.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0IkJl1NiVLf7iqP6PoV2WBDEvevVs6W4", "post_id": "azq5qh", "action": {"description": "getting mad at an elderly co-worker for always getting my name wrong", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at an elderly co-worker for always getting my name wrong?", "text": "Ok, so i work for a store and one of the employees is this elderly man, about 71 or so. Now, he always gets my name wrong.\n\nHe always greets me as \"Eddie\". My name is nowhere close to Eddie. There is no Eddie anywhere in the store. I'm the only one he calls by the wrong name. \n\n\"How goes it, Eddie?\"\n\n\"Eddie, why are you stacking those like that?\"\n\n\"Eddie, that's not how you use the coffee machine!\"\n\nAt first, i let it slide because i just figured he was senile and didn't know who i was. I corrected him, he called me by my name for about a day. The next day, he kept calling me Eddie.\n\nTBH i wouldn't mind it, this guy is kind of a prick. He isn't above me in terms of position, we hold the same position. He's not a manager or anything. But he corrects me on every little thing. Even though i'm doing it the way the boss told me.\n\nMy first day stocking shelves, i was apparently putting the stuff up wrong. I was putting top shelf items on the bottom shelf. The manager corrected me. While the manager is trying to show me the right way, he shouts across the room. \"Now Eddie! I know you got more sense then that! Put that stuff on the bottom shelf where it belongs!\"\n\nThe manager was already telling me how, but he chose to embarrass me in front of the entire store.\n\nHe makes fun of me for being on a diet. I got a salad for lunch and  he started mocking me \"Hell, Eddie, that's not enough to even keep a damn bird alive!\"\n\nSo, i finally snapped. I shouted at him that my name wasn't Eddie.  \n\"My God, My name's not Eddie! Jesus, if you're gonna act like you run this place, at least get my fucking name right!\"\n\nEveryone in the store was staring at me and i feel kind of guilty. But was i truly the a-hole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uoQaDAR7WYZ19hhiI8uwtJ3l7kUI4ukt", "post_id": "b0tiks", "action": {"description": "not giving my friend a nice cushioned swivel chair because I might use it some time", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my friend a nice cushioned swivel chair because I might use it some time?", "text": "[It's not this exact chair, but it's similar to it, just to give you an idea.](https://i5.walmartimages.com/asr/1587c038-c919-4393-9fcb-36a29583a801_1.0c74de82b4bc0b16ea49effbc7c60b6e.jpeg?odnHeight=450&odnWidth=450&odnBg=FFFFFF)\n\nHis reaction was literally \"What an ass\" when I offered to *sell* it to him instead of giving it to him. We've been friends for like... 10 years, I don't know. I'd call him my best friend, technically speaking... like, he wins by default, I guess.\n\nWe used to live together but we're so different that it didn't work. He got super pissed at me for using his paper towels since I didn't pay for them, and also at his girlfriend for offering me food that they bought (he literally made her take back the offer on the spot). He's a cheap bastard, which probably explains a lot in this context.\n\nWhat say you, reddit? Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sg7o3kulMEFGuLTRrEKcpi6naeb3V0hp", "post_id": "9yzoqd", "action": {"description": "making my roommate almost homless", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "aita for making my roommate almost homless.", "text": "I'm on mobile sorry for any fuckups. \n\nthis happend a few months ago. \n\nme and my friend got a Facebook message from the 3d roommate let's just call her lena. \nshe told us we had to move out as the landlord wanted to sell the house and we had 2 weeks to get out. \n we thought that was odd so I sent her of a photo of the rules to rent and legally they had to give us 4 weeks (we live in new Zealand) she denied it so we started packing and house hunting. \n\nthis is where it got odd, she never started packing and it did not look like she was moving out. after messaging a few people we found out she wanted to kick us out making us homeless and getting the house to herself. \n so we thought we would do it back to her. we waited till lena went to work and packed everything away (even the fridge that was mine) most of her food would of gone off\n.\nwe did not pay rent for the week either as we uncovered we where not on the tenancy lease. (she forgot make us sign the papers) when she got home she messaged us threatening us and our nieces and nephews life. tired to get us to pay the rent (that we did not have to as we technically did not live there) she then started stalking us claiming we where assholes for making her almost homless. (even if that was her plan for us) \n\naita? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Plpdif468AsSuHN1GbJALXexhtYv8gtC", "post_id": "a3p8jy", "action": {"description": "yelling at boyfriend to wake up with the baby because I want to get eight hours of sleep after working until 3am while he has those days off anyway and the ability to get eight plus hours of sleep", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for yelling at boyfriend to wake up with the baby because I want to get eight hours of sleep after working until 3am while he has those days off anyway and the ability to get eight plus hours of sleep?", "text": "Every Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night I work until 3am. Boyfriend works till 4pm Thursday, and has Friday and Saturday off. He\u2019s worked about 45-50 hours this week as he always does but just so happens to be sick this week (a cold, deathly af I know) every week is always the same always where I get home I go to sleep at 3-4 and wake up around 11-12 the next day and get ready for another long night at work. The days I do not work and he has off he sleeps in till his heart desire which is way more than eight hours he\u2019ll sleep like 12 just because.  So we\u2019re talking through text right now and he\u2019s going to see a apartment for us tomorrow at nine am as we are trying to move. I told him to take the baby and he kinda complained and said okay only if I can sleep in Saturday. Mind you I\u2019m working until three tonight and Friday night. Friday he has off but is seeing the apartment (which I\u2019m covering his half for security deposit and first months rent initially, which I sent out all the emails and texts for fifty plus apartments which some of them I will see myself when I\u2019m not working) then he is moving some of his ex girlfriends shit which has been in our current apartment for a year he\u2019s moving it with her brother out of the apartment and to her brother vehicle, it\u2019s not even a lot of stuff. And he\u2019s sick with his deathly cold.  This is turning into a bit ridiculous fight and he\u2019s saying every excuse to try to sleep more when HE CAN SLEEP EASILY TEN HOURS OR MORE TONIGHT TOMORROW AND SATURDAY! It\u2019s pissing me off because I sleep till noon he seems to see this as \u201csleeping in\u201d even though I worked till 3-4 am.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yfLogO7gey5nbSTDeTmayo7fH5PYreOd", "post_id": "aypx0h", "action": {"description": "asking my neighbors to stop letting people beep outside their house every day", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA to ask my neighbors to stop letting people beep outside their house every day?", "text": "Every weekday someone picks up my neighbor between 7 and 7:30 am and beeps their horn. This is a residential street of houses. They don\u2019t just \u201cbeep\u201d once... it\u2019s like \u201cBEEPBEBEEP BEEPBEEP BEBEEEEEEEEP\u201d as their pulling up. They also have people beeping over the weekends and in the evenings around 8-9pm. I don\u2019t know if they\u2019re breaking an ordinance or anything... but I feel like it\u2019s fucking rude and obnoxious to beep around other houses like that unless the street is blocked or there\u2019s some kind of reason for it while driving.\n\nBecause we own our house and they rent I don\u2019t want to be an asshole and open up a can of worms if they decide to respond by harassing us in some way... since it wouldn\u2019t be very easy to move. Should I just live with the beeping or try to find a way to ask them to have their friends stop? Would I be the asshole if I said something? These are grown ass adults btw.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "smAFCuHCo7f0QyrcJBd3cwPhd1Q7BQXL", "post_id": "a9ai5d", "action": {"description": "telling someone that was trying to hug me not to because we weren't friends", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling someone that was trying to hug me not to because we weren\u2019t friends?", "text": "I was told that i was way to mean. There is an ex-worker who has an on and off again relationship with the owners daughter. Every time they break up he starts hanging around my work. This guy is at my work after a break up picking up some belongings. He walks up and hugs me when he walks in. (we aren\u2019t even open yet.)  I immediately say \u201cNo. Don\u2019t hug me.\u201d He continues protesting asking why. I turn and look him in the face and with the upmost disgust say \u201cBecause we aren\u2019t friends.!\u201d  He walked away really hurt. He manipulates everyone around him. Called in with a family emergency once. Turned out he wanted to go camping with friends last second. He expected the owner of the truck he had been driving forever (who doesn\u2019t drive or need it) To fix it when it broke. He was pissed when he was told they wouldn\u2019t fix it. He stole my toothbrush one night he crashed on my couch after he didn\u2019t want to drive after drinking from a staff get together because he HAD to brush his teeth. Maybe i\u2019m just bitter from that.   What do you guys think? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Z5xa4uBUH1HFdaSlUnUEje0ib3UXKpkg", "post_id": "a4y2kh", "action": {"description": "cutting out my friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting out my friend?", "text": "I went to college in a big town (3h away from my hometown), and lived in an apartment in the outskirts of the town. Students like me moved mostly by public transportation, bus, metro, tram etc, so when me and my friends wanted to have a night out I would usually go a friend's apartment dressed comfy and get changed there, I didn't want to ride late at night in heels and a dress.\n\n​\n\nOne day, me and this girl (Maria) I was friends with decided to go dancing that night, it was just the two of us since the others weren't feeling like it. So I took the train, went to her apartment, got changed into a short dress, heels and clutch, leaving my comfy clothes and big bag (with my house keys) there, and off we went. We took a taxi to a club neither of us went before, super hyped and a bit tipsy (we drank a bit before leaving her place, cocktails in the clubs are like super expensive).\n\n​\n\nAt the time me and my boyfriend (who lived in my hometown) were in a rought patch, so after a while, while we were having a good time dancing and having fun, he texted me that he was going to sleep. I left my friend queueing for the toilet, telling her I was stepping out of the club to call my bf real quick and that she could find me right in front of the entrance.\n\n​\n\nWe ended up arguing over the phone, me crying and such, was drunk and probably looking really miserable since a girl and a guy I didn't know went and sat with me, trying to cheer me up as soon as I hung up. I actually talked with them for a while, and then realized I hadn't seen my friend. The two helped me look for her, and in the crouded club I ended up losing the girl while the guy stayed with me. After looking everywhere I was getting really worried, went back out and tried to call Maria. She picked up at like the 10th call, and told me \"I couldn't find you so I went home with this guy I met, I'm at his place now\". I was like WTF, my house keys were at her place and she left me, drunk and alone, at a club??? Pissed and worried, I had her tell me the address to this guy's place, I was going to get her and go back to her place.\n\n​\n\nI explained the situation to the guy who stuck with me (Mark), and he wanted to accompany me to the taxis (bless his gentle soul!) but I refused, he had already been so gentle, I was good by myself. Still gave me his number and asked me to text him if needed.\n\n​\n\nSo off I went, on wobbly heels, drunk and muttering while superpissed at Maria for leaving me like that. As I was going, there where 3 guys going my way that were like \"what's the matter, u ok?\". In my drunk and pissed state, I told them my situation and they offered me a ride. Big alarms going off in my head, in a car with 3 guys I don't know?? No way! They told me they were Carabinieri (like police), and showed me their IDs. A bit unsure, I accepted the ride. While driving, the guys where telling me \"you're ok with us, but don't ever accept a ride again from someone you don't know ok?? Always be safe\", which honestly was making me shitting myself coz I was realizing what situation I got myself into. Called Maria again, told her to wait for me at the door so I could see her when I got there.\n\n​\n\nIn the end the 3 guys actually drove me to her, I cannot tell you the relief!! I thanked them endlessly, and watch them go. Maria wanted me to sleep a the guy's place (are you kidding???), I called a taxi and took us both to her place, got my keys and went home. I started drifting away from her after that. I couldn't trust her! She surely was the asshole that night, but am I the asshole for cutting her out of my life?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5N4jM8H0zEJFPxInWqAU4g6kHhcjBWat", "post_id": "anl81e", "action": {"description": "continuing to negotiate an offer after accepting an offer from another company", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for continuing to negotiate an offer after accepting an offer from another company?", "text": "Like the title says I accepted an offer from company A on Friday.   I let company B know via email that I accepted the offer and won\u2019t be moving forward with them on the same day. Company B called me Monday letting me know the hiring manager at company B will not let me go without a fight and would I listen to their offer. I said yes since they were very kind in the process and I love the company and all the people I interviewed. I feel 100% the same about the company and people at company A.  \n\nCompany B\u2019s offer on Tuesday wasn\u2019t what I expected so I again declined with appreciation. Company B really wants me and is currently putting together ANOTHER offer as I type.  It would be career changing if they could pull it off. \n\nHere\u2019s the asshole part: my first day at Company A is tomorrow morning.  AITA if I accept Company B\u2019s offer the morning I was to start with Company A?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eFk2HffzNRCoWEHgN8XS4ztDe2DAo22w", "post_id": "b2ucmf", "action": {"description": "giving up on a friend in a shitty situation", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for giving up on a friend in a shitty situation?", "text": "I have a friend whom I've known for years who lives with her abusive parents.  She's in her 20s, but isn't \"allowed\" to learn how to drive; hang out with people; or have a job outside of working from home, for her mom's boss, who pays her $100 a week for 30+ hours of work.  She has very few friends, maybe 2 or 3 she relies on for support. She's in college, but her parents always guilt her into giving them her scholarship money (and spend none of it on food or the counseling and medications she needs).  They actively push her toward breakdowns in order to keep her under their control.  She's not at all at fault for her situation, but...\n\nShe won't let anyone help her, and won't do anything to help herself.  She has access to free counseling at school to help with her mental issues, but refuses to use them because she \"already knows what her issues are and how to fix them but is too lazy\" (her words, not mine).  She's had multiple people offer for her to stay with them while she finds a job and gets her feet under her, but she refuses under the guise of not wanting to freeload, even when given the option of a \"live-in maid\" situation or an agreed upon payment plan.  She wouldn't let herself or anyone else notify authorities when her 15 y.o. sister was being fed roughly four meals a week.  Every day, she talks in our group chat about how awful things are, but ignores everything we say.  If she says something hurtful to one of us, instead of apologizing she blames her situation and how she \"can't get the help she needs.\"\n\nI've tried everything from offering to buy her food to stash at home, to letting her become my roommate, to paying for meds.  Nothing has come out of any of it, and it's been literal years.\n\nI'm at wit's end, and I don't have the emotional spoons to keep trying to reason with and be one of her support mainstays. I've got my own personal mental shitshow to deal with, and it's getting to the point where I care about her situation more out of moral obligation than actual sympathy.  I don't plan on cutting contact, but I'm *tired* of listening to her complain about her situation, offer solutions and advice and sympathy, get completely ignored or even attacked, rinse and repeat.\n\nSo, WITBA if I took a step back and just let her situation run it's course, at least until she's got enough of a grasp to accept help?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XUjhEPSUq8adHXMk3OoMnt9RhBeOiMpZ", "post_id": "awio0o", "action": {"description": "going to see my sister's favourite band without her", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for going to see my sister's (15) favourite band without her?", "text": "My sister and I went to see a band we both really like earlier this week - they were really, really good and we had a great time. Next week I'm going back to London for work without her, which happens to be the next stop on the band's UK tour. I mentioned to her that I might get tickets to see them again, maybe even get standing tickets (we couldn't get standing tickets when we went to see them together because the venue didn't allow under 18s in the pit).\n\nShe told me flat out that if I went to see them again without her she would be furious. I asked her why and she struggled to say precisely, but I think it had more to do with me seeing them without her rather than kinda preserving the sanctity of the shared experience or whatever. \n\nI think this is pretty unreasonable and tried to make the case that me seeing them without her when we've already seen them together shouldn't make her upset or angry, the goodness of that experience shouldn't be diminished by me having an additional good experience, but she wasn't having any of it. She told me there was no point trying to convince her, she would just be gutted if I saw them again without her.\n\nSo, would I be the asshole if I went to see them again without her? Seeing them together was a really great sibling experience for us and it was a Christmas gift to her, so I'm very conscious about kinda poisoning that memory for her. I could lie and go and see them without telling her, but I don't like lying and if she asked me if I saw them again (unlikely but possible) I don't think I'd be able to lie to her.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SnZg4EabVYQO8A9NANMP7MUFvFfyPgpA", "post_id": "asbygz", "action": {"description": "accidentally not responding to someone who was interested in my apartment", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally not responding to someone who was interested in my apartment?", "text": "Last month, I was trying to rent out my apartment.  I lived with a few room mates in a town house.  We didn't have a lease or a brokers fee or anything, we just paid as we went, and the only stipulation was that we had to find our own replacement, or else our security deposit went towards paying off the room for the time that it was unoccupied.\n\n​\n\nI put up a listing on Craigslist saying apartment for rent, etc, etc, please contact me at [abcdefg@gmail.com](mailto:abcdefg@gmail.com) or at ###-###-####.  I received an email from someone saying that he was interested.  I emailed back saying \"hi, here is my number, ###-###-####, let me know what time works for you.\"  We went back and forth a few times over email and settled on 6 PM the next day.  During the exchange, he hadn't given me his phone number.\n\n​\n\nTomorrow rolls around, and I emailed him a few hours beforehand asking to confirm that he's still on for 6 PM, and he emails back saying yes.   6 o'clock rolls around, no call, no email, no knock on the door.  6:15, no call, no email, no knock on the door. 6:30, no call no email, no knock on the door.  Until I saw that I had messages in my spam folder.  I saw an email at 6 saying that he had arrived.  And then another email 7 minutes later saying he was leaving.\n\n​\n\nSo I'll admit that I should've checked my spam folder, but I think that he also could have put in some effort.  I gave him my number, he could have called or texted.  He knew the exact address, he could have knocked on the door.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VkK9yNn1n2YSbNpfGBulfAaLKAWztn6v", "post_id": "apinsp", "action": {"description": "having setting rules for personal space, boundaries, and extra marital relationship", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for having setting rules for personal space, boundaries, and extra marital relationship?", "text": "Hi.\n\nI'm going to try to keep some details light, as the issue is very sensitive right now.\n\n​\n\nMe and my wife were living long distance for years, and in different countries while doing immigration related paperwork. We're finally living together, in a very small space. Not only that, but its an entirely new country, and I had to go through the whole immigration process to be here. Its been hard, emotionally, uprooting my life and adjusting to a new environment like this, leaving family and friends behind, quitting my job and all my old routines. I've been trying to adjust, but needless to say, its hard and takes time.\n\n​\n\nMy wife and I had an argument some time after moving in together, and the issue kind of escalated into something more, I feel. I told her that I felt as if she didn't respect my personal space. I repeatedly told her that I need some spaces in our house that are just \"my space\" because it currently feels like I just moved into \"her house\" and all of my stuff has been just piled in a corner for 2 months because I have no where to spread out and get comfortable. She insisted that everything was \"our space\" but I told her that I just don't feel that way yet, because there's nothing of mine here yet. I asked her if I could move some things around, and she got defensive about it. I asked her if she would be ok with me moving her night stand, her clothing racks, her personal items hanging on the wall, and she basically said no because those were her things. She wanted to put shelves on the wall, but in areas that I dedicated as \"my space\" (the video game area, my night stand, my computer work area). I told her that I don't want shelves there because I have to reach behind the monitor/tv a lot and I don't want a potential head injury. As well, we have a cat, and I don't want the cat to get hurt from a shelf collapsing. I feel like my reasons were reasonable.\n\n​\n\nAnd I reiterated \"see, you understand what I'm saying. You wouldn't want me moving your computer station, or hanging things around your night stand, because those are your personal spaces. Why I can't I have a personal space? Why do you feel its ok to dictate what goes in, around, or above my personal spaces? That's not fair. I want this to be \"our space\"  too but right now its 99% your stuff and I don't feel like I'm at liberty to just put my stuff out without it becoming an \"us\" issue.\"\n\n​\n\nI also started hanging some posters, organizers, etc on the wall, and she freaked out and started screaming at me because \"we can't nail anything to the walls\" because she wants good landlord reviews. I told her that small nail holes in walls are considered normal wear and tear for apartment use, and its not a huge deal. I also mentioned to her that it feels hypocritical that it was ok when she wanted to put up shelves, but when I want to put something up \"I'm putting up nails carelessly without thought.\" She kept insisting that it was a serious problem nailing things to the wall. When I finally was able to convince her that nailing small shelves and posters to the wall is ok, her reasoning for being upset shifted. So she agreed that nailing things up was ok, but the problem was that I wasn't respecting her, because she said NOT to nail things up, and because I didn't think it was a huge deal (nor did I expect it to be one) that I was disregarding her feelings.\n\n​\n\nI told her that I don't feel like she's respecting me, or my intelligence either. I've had lots of history with landlords. If the lease says you can't nail things up, then you shouldn't. If the lease says nothing, its generally ok so long as you don't put a fucking boot through the wall. Our lease had no mention about normal wear and tear from small nails. It should be fine. And I told her if she really is worried, we can buy a small can of drywall and go over the less than 1mm holes. Its not a big deal, right?\n\n​\n\nSo after talking her through everything and calming her down, we both came to the agreement that we can nail things to the walls, but if its large items in shared spaces, or in the other persons personal spaces, it needs to be agreed upon. And I told her thats all I wanted from the start. That I simply didn't want wall shelves in possible head injury zones (which is a lot of in our very small apartment). So, we hung up some lights and various other things together, and I kept reminding her, as calmly and gently as I could, that \"we're fine, everything is fine. See, no one is hurt, its not the end of the world.\"\n\n​\n\nMove things forward a few days, and something of a similar nature came up again. I wanted some personal space/time to do something, and she wasn't respecting that. I brought it up again, that I feel like she doesn't respect my individuality. This argument shifted to her accusing me of \"being controlling, arrogant, and manipulative.\"\n\n​\n\nThis really blind sided me.\n\n​\n\nWhat was weirder about this is that no one else in my life has ever accused me of such things, not previous partners, friends, family, not even people who don't like me have accused me of being manipulative and controlling. And she's never brought this up in the years we've been together too.\n\n​\n\nOf course I take her thoughts and feelings very seriously, so I considered it for a second. I tried to identify if any of my behavior was cruel or unusual. I wasn't sure what she was referring to. I calmly asked her for some examples of how I am controlling, and she listed the incidents above. I explained to her the same things I've explained here, and before: that I just want certain spaces to myself, the same as she does. I want to be respected and have my thoughts and feelings considered. Nothing more or less. I thought maybe she understood.\n\n​\n\nI tried to let it go for now. The next day I talked to an old friend, one who I've lived with before too. I asked him to be brutally honest (which he's good at), and if he ever thought that I was controlling, or manipulative. He said, \"you have strong boundaries, which is not a bad thing. Some people find that to be 'controlling,' but I've never felt like you've wanted me to think or act in a specific way.\" Which I told him that's basically what I thought. I have boundaries and self respect, and a sense of personal space. I don't feel like I've overstepped anything.\n\n​\n\nI tried to bring this issue up with her again. That I didn't feel respected. This whole event led to her rolling her eyes at me, getting increasingly angry, and stomping off into the other room. I felt as if I couldn't have been any more clear about what I was trying to say. I broke down into tears because I felt like I was talking to a wall.\n\n​\n\nAfter I was sobbing for a few minutes, her whole attitude changed. Now she was willing to listen, and ask me what's wrong. I said \"I feel like you don't listen to me. I try to stay as calm and caring as I can, and you escalate to anger. I'm trying to just tell you my perspective, tell you how I feel, and if you don't want to hear it, you yell, you shut me down, and that's that.\" She seemed to understand, and reflected on the behavior.\n\n​\n\nNow we are here again, weeks later. She's accusing me again, of being controlling, dismissive, and arrogant... that I am unwilling to respect her feelings. We've had this conversation a few times. \n\nI ask her \"can you give me some examples of my controlling behavior? If I'm doing that, I want to know so I can change.\" \n\nShe says \"I can't think of any examples.\"\n\nI tell her, \"If you can't give me examples of this behavior, then what am I supposed to reflect on? I'm trying to see this behavior in myself, but I don't. I really care about your feelings. If you feel I'm being hurtful, I need to know how so I can do better.\"\n\nShe says, \"I don't have examples. Its just all the time.\"\n\nI tell her, \"saying things like 'always' and 'all the time' and 'you never listen' is extreme and hyperbolic, and it gets us no where. I can't do anything with such vague accusations, especially if I don't see it in myself, and you can't identify any events where I've actually done these things. All it does is make me question my own sanity and my own self perception, and that doesn't go anywhere either. So what am I supposed to do? What do you want me to do?\"\n\nShe says, \"I don't know.\"\n\nI tell her, \"Then I don't know what to do either. I've told you very explicitly how I think, and how I feel. I need to you to be able to verbalize your own thoughts and feelings. I want to understand, but you're not giving me anything to work with.\"\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole? She is accusing me of everything that I feel she is doing. I bring up very specific events where I've been hurt, so we can work on it. She can't give any examples and instead says my behavior is \"always\" and \"all the time.\" If she does give me an example, of when I disrespected her, I apologize, and explain my point of view and that I didn't mean any harm. Then she accuses me of dismissing her feelings.\n\n​\n\nShe says she feels like \"everything she does is wrong\" and again I tell her that is hyperbolic, and I don't think that about her. But also simultaneously, everything I say gets shot down by her as well. I feel stuck, and we didn't used to talk to each other this way.\n\n​\n\nBut the difference, to me is, that I don't feel like I've changed the way I engage in disagreement. I try to listen to what a person is saying, understand how they're feeling, empathize, correct any misunderstanding they might have, or I might have, and reach a compromise.\n\n​\n\nI feel like we get stuck on the \"correct any misunderstanding\" part, and she blames that as also being me \"not caring about her feelings.\" But I just don't understand where these feelings and accu", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aJJD7GhwkTdMSATIk9FWZXNMyEzg0rfN", "post_id": "a5b9n0", "action": null, "title": "AITA who raped my ex girlfriend?", "text": "My ex girlfriend (who I dated from the ages 17-20) was sexually abused as a kid. Because of this, she could be weird about sex. Sometimes she wanted to have sex 4 times a day and sometimes she didn\u2019t want to have it for weeks or months at a time. I of course always respected when she didn\u2019t want to have sex and never tried to pressure her but there were often times that I misread what she wanted. Something that happened a lot was that she would flirt with me in sexually explicit ways (eg. smacking my ass, talking about sex acts she wanted to perform, asking if I was wet) and I would think that meant she wanted to have sex, so I would try to have sex with her. She would be receptive but act weird towards me afterwards. Sometimes I would also initiate and she would seem into it but then later would not be.\n\nEventually she told me that she was actually really uncomfortable having sex and only did it to try and keep me happy. She told me that she was really uncomfortable saying no if I initiated sex because she was afraid I would leave her (I\u2019d never insinuated I would, but before me she\u2019d been involved with some terrible people), and that she liked teasing me but never wanted it to go further. I told her I didn\u2019t want her to feel pressured and that I was completely okay not having sex for as long as she needed. After this conversation, we didn\u2019t have sex for 2 months.  I didn\u2019t try to initiate anything and I also didn\u2019t flirt with her or tease her unless I was 200% sure it was okay. Then one day she started teasing me and talking about how she wanted to have sex with me, going so far as to take my clothes off. I asked her many times if she was sure she wanted this and told her I didn\u2019t want to have sex if she wasn\u2019t 100% sure she wanted to, but she insisted she wanted to and told me to \u201cjust let [her] do this\u201d. I kind of knew she was lying but ended up having sex with her because she kept saying she wanted to and honestly I was horny. Afterwards she told me she hadn\u2019t been ready to have sex and she felt pressured, but didn\u2019t say what I\u2019d done to pressure her.\n\nShe was abusive in a lot of other ways so for years I wrote this off as just another way for her to make me feel terrible about myself. But lately I\u2019ve been thinking about it and I feel like I did know she wasn\u2019t comfortable and I had a responsibility to stop even though she was saying yes. I\u2019m not ready to talk about this to anyone I know irl so I thought I\u2019d get the impartial internet opinion first.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FJZCXTyZBKTdyVwSPWXImsuOsMmpU03I", "post_id": "b6gnb5", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Told a girl I still loved my ex mid-hook-up...", "text": "Using a throwaway because my name is in my real Reddit account and you never know who'll come across this post.\nSo, a little background info, my ex and I broke up in October 2018 in what was my first ever relationship. We love each other dearly and have a relationship that is truly unique, we have also since gotten back together. I'm currently a Junior in college studying abroad in Spain. \nOn to the story...\nI was at a club in Spain and ended up bringing a girl back to my apartment (this is while my GF and I were still separated). She was a mutual friend and was at the pre-game I was at earlier in the night. She was also the first girl I hooked up with after my break-up. Things are going well until about halfway through my drunken ass blurts out that I, \"think I still love my ex.\" Rightfully so, she was caught off guard and started getting dressed. I ended up walking her home (10 min walk) and apologized for putting her in an uncomfortable/awkward position. She was super dismissive and was very, very angry with me. \nFast forward to the next night out, I saw her and said something to the tune of, \"I'm so sorry, I can imagine that you were very uncomfortable and that wasn't my intention.\" Again, she was super passive aggressive and was honestly being kind of a beotch. \nMy thought is that I was a mensch and walked her home after the incident and tried to apologize on two separate occasions. Also, I always try to be friendly/cordial when I see her. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "eFCDhDDDRbq3NBNB49aXlKWN40dUrzOS", "post_id": "agraup", "action": {"description": "going low/no contact with my family once I move out", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for going low/no contact with my family once I move out?", "text": "To make a very long story short, my parents (especially my father) are emotionally and verbally abusive, and have threatened violence on more than one occasion (he definitely needs his own post on r/justnofamily but that\u2019s for a different day). I recently got engaged to my boyfriend of almost six years; during this entire time, my parents have made snide remarks on everything about him. He\u2019s a bit older than me (he\u2019s 28 and I\u2019m 23, we started dating two months before I turned 18), they gripe about his job, his schooling, occasionally his physical appearance, and continue to try and set me up with other guys, especially ones from their church. I always tell them to stop, and they will for a while, but it\u2019s clear they have no respect for either of us or our relationship.\n\nRecently the apartments we\u2019ve been looking at have become available to rent. They\u2019re between our jobs and only 15 minutes from my school, and the rent is extremely good compared to everything else in the area. We figured it would be a good idea to get an apartment now since we plan on getting married in October, and when I brought this up to my mom she flipped. Asked why I couldn\u2019t just wait to finish school to move out, why I couldn\u2019t wait on getting married, etc, and I just reminded her that I\u2019m getting married and asked where I would live. She suggested getting a trailer out on our land near their house but to me that\u2019s basically the same as living with them. She\u2019s been huffy ever since but whatever. I don\u2019t think my dad knows but he\u2019s been even more of an asshole recently, screaming and cussing if I disagree with him on anything (especially politics) or say I don\u2019t feel like going to church, which is the main reason I\u2019m hoping to move out.\n\nSo my question is: would I be the asshole if I went down to low or no contact with them after I move out? I want to give them a chance to not be assholes but I don\u2019t think they\u2019ll ever respect us or our relationship.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RBKQrtJ071yJ92vS7LfrVgn7L2dXZnl0", "post_id": "9yx3ad", "action": {"description": "not taking a girl to her job", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not taking a girl to her job?", "text": "Hey guys! First time poster, long time sorta lurker. And i was wondering if I was the A-holio for a situation I was just in.\nSo for context, I'm an 18 year old dude. My dad just got remarried (christian household) to my step mom a year ago and they have been working through many things. I have kinda been the one that doesn't like starting stuff when it comes to bringing up issues, so the rest of my fam is very passive with me and doesn't have many problems with me. (Not that i don't have any)\nCut to a sunday morning, i'm not feeling too well and got up too late for early church service. So they say I should still go, just to a later service, and that it works out well because they need someone to pick up my step sisters. (Twins, 5 years old) I say okay and go.\nI get to the pick-up area, and my step mommio is there with the kids (she teaches sunday school) and is stressing out a little, and has a friend of hers with her. A 20 ( 21? ) year old lady who was in a lot of abusive upbringing, i don't know her and just met her that morning. Step mom asked me to take her to work because she doesn't have a car. Fair enough, but I only have four seats. and I don't know her, so i say no. She goes on a small tangent about how she can't do this or that, and that I have to take her because I'm the only one that can. (Out of a lot of church people that would i think...?) I say no again, and that she isn't my responsibility. She then said \"well fine i guess you wanna teach sunday school huh? I can drive your car for you\". (Uhm. No. I paid for it, it's in my name) so i sat there in disbelief with my mouth open for a second and a fourth (or fifth?) Time said no. And left. \nApparently she ( her friend ) was crying when my step mom took her to her job because she felt like trash when i didn't want her in my car (I see that and understand that... but I don't have seats or know her...) She then had a good old fashion talk when I got home about how I was rude and disrespectful. Which I did apologise for.\nNow not to skew your vision, but after this is where I drew the line. She told me \"If I took all you kids (me and my siblings, Who had an emotionally abusive mother) emotional abuse, it wouldn't hold a candle to hers.\"\nSo I walked out of the room... And I don't know if i should feel bad or not...\nand I know I can (and probably was being) the A-hole, but do you guys think ITAH?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CQ0Zr8ejhyE4WFTxFJguogN7HckckPhr", "post_id": "b5honu", "action": {"description": "asking my ex to cover our mortgage", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my ex to cover our mortgage?", "text": "3 years ago I bought a house with my then partner of 5 years.  She couldn't afford the down payment, so I covered most of it and she paid the mortgage until our investment was equal.\n\nA year later, she left me and moved out.  She said she was extremely tight on money.  I still had a bed there, so I told her I'd take over the mortgage and when we sold we would split the according to vested percentage.\n\nI moved out last year.  I'd just gotten out of a hospital for depression and knew sleeping there would be bad.  She and my mom packed up the house and she found a property management company to rent the house out.  She said she wanted to pay the mortgage again.  We used our old joint account for rent income and mortgage payment. The rent fell ~$400 short of the mortgage, so we each transfer half each month.\n\n4 months ago I wanted to get rid of the house so I could finally cut all ties to her and try to move on.  I met with her and talked about options.  She wanted to continue renting and she didn't have the money to buy me out.  We agreed to offer the house to the current tenants without a back up plan.\n\nJanuary I left my job because of my depression.  I've recovered a lot, but 3 months with no income have gotten me into pretty sad state.  I have a few hundred in my checking and I put last months rent on a credit card.  I still have 10k in lines of credit.  So I've been working (poorly) on getting a job.\n\nI asked her to meet me after I realized  realized I couldn't pay my rent.  She said she wasn't ready to meet so I just texted that I was in the red and couldn't cover the mortgage.  She said she would see if she could cover it.  A week ago she called to say the tenants didn't want to buy yet and wanted one more year.  She wanted to know if it was ok.  I just told her to do whatever.  I know it's wrong, but I just don't want to deal with that stupid house anymore.\n\nToday she moved half of the money and we had the following conversation:\n\nMe: Did you decide not to cover the mortgage?\n\nHer: So you for sure cant?\n\nMe: I cannot put money into the shared account. I can put it on my credit card and xfer from the shared to my own\n\nHer: What is gonna happen next month?\n\nMe: Dunno\n   Trying to get a job before rent is due\n   Was hoping the house would be sold by now\n\nHer: The house wasn't gonna be sold by now anyways. They have 2 months.\n\nMe: ok\n\nHer: Well what do you want to do?\n   I'll just do it.\n\nMe: We already had this discussion 3 months ago and two weeks ago\n\nHer: K\n\nMe: This is why I wanted to actually talk about this is in person...\n   What is it that you're going to do exactly?\n\nHer: Emily I just transferred the money in.\n\nMe: I can put it on my credit card...\n\nHer: I don't care. If that's what you want to do then do it. If not, then don't. I just transferred the money in so we're covered.\n\n\n\nAm I the asshole in this conversation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3vSGntLFTT3QI5bhpskhV1rsJfBBXdW2", "post_id": "a0v29a", "action": {"description": "being short with my mom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being short with my mom?", "text": "Some context: I'm sick, toddler is sick, we just got back from visiting family on the other side if the country where we spent 12 hours traveling to get home. That was sunday and we didn't get home until super late. \n\nMonday sucked. The baby won't nap, she's pissed, I'm exhausted. My mom starts sending me over half a dozen pictures of things while she's at a store asking what to get the kid for Christmas. I'm in the middle of cooking dinner and getting the kid ready for bed. I tell her to wait. She keeps sending me pictures telling me \"help\". She wants a decision on what she should buy. I come back after the baby is screaming in her crib and tell my mom \"I'm having a fucked up night and I need a breather. I can't help you right now.\" \n\nThen she starts guilt tripping me about how I ignored her texts and how she always responds to me and how if I communicated better she wouldn't have to ask.\n\nTo which I shoot back that everyone is sick, the kid won't sleep, she's screaming, I'm exhausted, and I DID communicate that she should buy whatever she wants, just don't buy anything huge and that I told her I liked the Fisher Price pirate ship and that I don't like character clothes.\n\nShe continued acting like a victim and saying I'm mean. She continued up until 5am. My kid didn't sleep the entire night. \n\nShe has a tendency to do really nice things but it's on her terms and is sometimes really inconvenient and if you do what I did and don't show you're undying appreciation she gets offended. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zRyk6WAeL9zKYjPEVYF3EFNf0vfmE2tN", "post_id": "afbex6", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend too much time with my mom", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to spend too much time with my mom", "text": "I\u2019ve always loved my mom because well she\u2019s my mom but I haven\u2019t always liked her. I lived with my mom up until my junior year of high school then I moved out of state to go with my dad who was stationed in Maryland. We had our fair share of arguments when I lived with her and I always that well maybe it\u2019s because I\u2019m a teenager and I\u2019m being a brat but I\u2019m 21 now and thinking back at it some of it was so unwarranted. \n\nFor instance in high-school I had  slighty below average basketball game and she called me a bitch for being upset  with myself in front of all of chili\u2019s and she continued on until I cried and never did I get an apology. She also beat me in front of my school because I underhand tosses the keys and she dropped them so she got upset then lied to my dad and told him I threw the keys at her face. She used to sneak by door at night even on weekends and randomly come in to take and check my phone. \n\nRecently I visited her and from the very moment I landed she saw my new earrings and said \u201cI guess I have another daughter, why do you have the beard it\u2019s hideous\u201d. She very very very rarely calls me handsome but she only calls my little brother nice things. She is stubborn too \u201cI told her and my dad they drink wayyyy too much caffeine\u201d and she said I don\u2019t know what I\u2019m talking about so I look it up and show them that I am right and my mom says \u201cyou don\u2019t anything, you\u2019re studying computer science not medicine talk to me when you graduate\u201d. She constantly belittles me calling me \u201csissy boy\u201d \u201cbitch\u201d \u201cdumbass\u201d you name it! There is just so much shit she has said so many times she\u2019s hit me and so many times she\u2019s made me cry. I even told her how I had depression and she told me \u201cI worry about things too much that aren\u2019t important \u201c and that I\u2019m a sissy.\n\nBut then she\u2019s super manipulative because she\u2019ll hit you with \u201cI cook for you\u201d, \u201cI fight for you\u201d , \u201cI\u2019d die for you\u201d \u201cI woke up at 5 am after working till 2 am to take you to your basketball practices other kids would\u2019ve walked\u201d \u201cI\u2019m proud of you for going to school\u201d (which I didn\u2019t mind) I\u2019ve had a gf for 4 years that she won\u2019t even acknowledge she just calls her my \u201cfriend\u201d. \nI don\u2019t doubt that she loves me but I don\u2019t think she respects me and I think they come hand in hand if you truely want love from someone. I think of it like this you can\u2019t show partial affection it\u2019s like your half assing it, it feels like when someone lets you borrow something just to hold it over your head constantly but instead of borrowing anything she gave life to me so that\u2019s what she uses.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vjhCv5cw6N3asbB0TMWq18JVwZBeZkQi", "post_id": "avd9fh", "action": {"description": "not texting back", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA if i won\u2019t text back", "text": "idk what the fuck is wrong w me but i can\u2019t maintain a conversation via text with almost ANYONE, even though i\u2019m on my phone for i swear like 8 god damn hours a day. i don\u2019t WANT to ignore people i know it\u2019s inconsiderate. right now, i have 26 unread messages that i\u2019ve ignored for weeks for no other reason besides the fact that i just can\u2019t bring myself to answer. i even ignore my mom/: am i just a bad person who sucks at maintaining relationships or do i have a rare disease or is there some complex multi dimensional phenomenon theory that someone could explain to take the weight off my conscience", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DkIkh2cbIo2QbGaZUqL9IcLKd3RJF2cZ", "post_id": "b0w98d", "action": {"description": "trying to get my girlfriend to see a doctor", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to get my girlfriend to see a doctor?", "text": "She\u2019s been having debilitating back and stomach pains. It\u2019s to the point where she regularly sobs and complains constantly it. She\u2019s taken every over the counter painkiller and it does fuck all for her. Then one night she started balling uncontrollably and said it hurt her every time she exhaled, so I suggested a doctors appointment for the next morning but she refused, got offended even. As the night progresses it gets worse and I\u2019m on the verge of picking her up and throwing her in the car and she just cusses me out and says I\u2019m being a jerk for not respecting her wishes as she wanted to wait two weeks until she had a break from school. But I told her I was worried at the possibility of her drifting off and stop breathing entirely in her sleep, to which she said she\u2019d be fine and she had important things in class the next morning anyway. But I was adamant about taking her and in the end she just tossed me out in anger and I hasnt spoken to me since despite my attempts to speak to her. It\u2019s been 3 days. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZsAqv5AukDcVW6AND8DOE8A2ncTeCFhX", "post_id": "ar6kq4", "action": null, "title": "AITA or is my bus driver?", "text": "I'm not sure if this deserves to be here but I'm not sure if I am the asshole here.. \n\nSo I am going back home from school. My house is up a hill and it's really steep and my house is pretty far away so I decide to catch a bus. I wait for this bus.  Now my bus is always late or early, this is not important to the story but why not. \n\nThe bus comes pretty weirdly, he doesn't signal the turn and he brakes really hard. I didn't think that much of it. I get on the bus and u sit. He stops at the stop just before I get off so I stand to get ready for my stop.\n\nHe thinks I am getting off but I say no so then he says \"Sit down then\" like pretty loud so I am embarrassed cause there's a lot of people then I sit down on the side of my chair. \n\nThen he's saying \"Sit down like a normal person\" pretty loud again, what was the worst part is the fact that he was driving really fast and hitting the brakes really hard..  I don't hit the stop button because by then I'm too scared too, my saving grace was people needed to get off the bus after mine which made me so happy because I could get off. \n\nI picked the bus door that was furthest away from him and ran.\n\nThis was pretty long but this was my day today. There were no other things other than the fact that he told me to sit normally  3 times. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yR5zzQC9Tnq2YiFGmt5u9GICjvHzBidA", "post_id": "arq099", "action": {"description": "calling 911 to report someone I didn't know might have attempted suicide", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling 911 to report someone I didn't know might have attempted suicide?", "text": "I'm sorry, if this post is a little messy and difficult to follow, this just happened about an hour ago and I'm still pretty shaken up. Like any teenager in the twenty-first century I've made my fair share of borderline inappropriate suicide jokes, so I just want to start this off by saying I take every \"edgy\" remark with a grain of salt and calling the police really was the last thing I resorted to. Also, I live in Germany, so I didn't literally call 911, but the German emergency number, but I'll be referring to it as 911 for the sake of simplicity.\n\nThis afternoon, a mutual follower messaged me on instagram and told me he was going to commit suicide. This is not an unfamiliar situation to me, I've talked multiple friends out of moods in which they might feel like doing something stupid, so I attempted to have a conversation with him, asked him if he had anyone he could talk to, if he wanted to talk to me about it, stuff like that. The messages, which were mostly audio recordings, grew increasingly serious to the point where I was starting to think he could be in actual danger. He told me he had deep cuts on his upper arm and I told him to call 911 more than once. Still I thought he might be exaggerating and he didn't talk about any injuries anywhere near his arteries.  I also told him to get professional help which he said he'd been getting for years now. After a few hours of me trying all kinds of arguments to get this stranger to change his mind, he sent me a picture of sleeping pills. When I asked him how many he'd taken, he was very nonspecific. His speech was slurred, which obviously he could have faked, but I tend to take people seriously when they make suicidal threads because I have had a bad experience with someone who was not kidding about it. I proceeded to tell him that I would call 911, if he didn't respond within the next few minutes. I thought if it really was just a cry for help, he would answer immediately to avoid the police getting involved. Now I didn't know his real name, address or telephone number, all I had was the city he lived in, as stated in his instagram bio. At this point I really didn't know what else to do, so I called the police and told them about what had happened. Long story short, the operator asked to speak to my parents over the phone and two policemen arrived at our doorstep about 15 minutes later. \nTwo minutes, two fucking minutes before the police arrived, the guy texted me back and told me he'd thrown up the pills and was okay. He still sounded like he was about to pass out and his speech was even more slurred than before. Now I was standing there like an idiot, two annoyed policemen asking questions and treating me like the biggest idiot on the planet when I repeatedly told them that I didn't know the guy, nor had his real name, address or phone number. Just to make the situation even more embarrassing, I broke down crying in front of them. The older one of the two kept lecturing me about \"giving out my personal details to strangers\" and how he thought the account was probably fake (I can assure you, it was absolutely not, also I literally had multiple recordings of his actual voice which made it very obvious that he was in fact not a 50 year old man trying to \"talk to young girls\") and was completely irritated by the concept of talking to someone without seeing their face in real life. The younger one took me slightly more seriously, he took a few photos of the conversation, made a video of my screen while I played one if the audios and we eventually managed to get the number of the guy who was messaging me, so they could attempt to track him down and get help to him, if needed. I stopped texting him after that, knowing I couldn't tell him I'd called the police because I didn't want him to panic and hurt himself again and I honestly didn't want to continue the conversation because it's sort of messed up to send serious suicide threats to a complete stranger. \nAfter that, I had to listen to another lecture by my parents (my mother thinks I'm suicidal now, because why else would I keep talking to someone who threatened to kill himself, not like humans feel some sort of obligation to help in these situations) and I just feel terrible about the whole things. The officers told me I'd done the right thing calling the police, but still suggested that teens who cut themselves shouldn't be taken seriously concerning these kinds of threats and that I really should have known better. \n\n\nAm I the asshole for calling the police because I was worried and possibly having them show up on this guy's doorstep later that night?\nAm I the asshole for wasting those officers' time while there are probably a ton of more important things going on that they should have been looking after?\nAm I just naive for believing he might be in actual danger?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Bejm8EqmXmdKOpNIMlLFJFY2BoIa6HeQ", "post_id": "a3rccv", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my grandma's house for Christmas this year", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my grandma's house for Christmas this year?", "text": "Every year for Christmas, we go up to my grandma's house about four hours away. However, in recent years it has just been very stressful and not fun for me. My grandma lives in a tiny mobile home, we have my grandma, uncle, parents and my sister all there at once. I have to share a bed with my parents and it's a full sized bed...yeah it doesn't work, I had to end up sleeping in the hall. My sister gets one guest bed and my uncle gets the other...\n\nPreparing to go for the trip is stressful, and my dad tries too hard to make everything perfect. When we are at my grandma's house, my uncle believes that my sister and I should be servants when there and if we don't jump up to do the dishes right away he complains about us. We are not opposed to helping, but if something isn't done right away, he gets on our case. \n\nThen my very old fashioned grandma, in recent years, hasn't been that warm to me. The ONLY thing she has been concerned about in the last few years is if/when my boyfriend and I are going to get married. If I tell her no, we aren't getting married/don't know if or when we will get married, she kind of huffs off and doesn't really talk to me for the rest of our stay. It is literally the only thing she cares about and if she doesn't hear what she wants, it's like I'm dead to her. It really hurts my feelings and on top of my dad stressing out over everything, my sister being grumpy about everything, my uncle getting mad at us for not helping out quickly enough...it just doesn't seem worth it. Plus, I have work the next day and we always drive up Christmas Day and come home the next day. \n\nI don't really have time off of work yet as this is a newer job for me. I explained to my dad that I likely wouldn't be going up with them this year because I have work the next day and he basically demanded that I ask my boss for the day off and that I \"needed\" to tell him that I have a 93 year old grandma and that this is probably her last Christmas.\" We have no reason to believe this, aside from general health issues with getting older, she's doing just fine. \n\nSo now I feel like my dad is guilting me into going. And I really don't think that's fair. My grandma put me in tears last Christmas when she was upset that my boyfriend and I weren't getting married, because it's \"sinful.\" With all of the other BS I have mentioned, I just really would like to sit this Christmas out. \n\nI am not, and have never been close to this grandma. I know that most people will say to just go, it's family, yes, it may be her last, just suck it up and go. But I am 30 years old and I should have a say in who or where I spend my time, especially if I just end up being miserable the entire time and I do have work the next day. \n\nHowever, the other issue I am running into is the fact that my boss gave me a day off to use for doing a project for him outside of work hours...but I was planning on using it next week because my boyfriend and I are going out of town for his work and I thought it would be nice to get out of town and get a break from my family (at 30 years old, I still live with my parents because California, yay). \n\nSo other than this one day that I have off, I don't have any other days off yet since I am not past my probation at my new job. So I know my dad would be upset if he knew that I was going to take a day off work next week, but not to go up to my grandma's for Christmas...\n\n I really don't like the idea of giving in to my dad guilt tripping me and demanding that I go. Because if he can guilt trip me this year, then he can do it next year and the next. I know it sounds morbid, but if this *isn't* her last Christmas (and like I said before, we have no reason to believe it will be, but I know, you never know) each year moving forward, he's going to say that until she actually does pass. Plus, by working remotely next week, I wouldn't be able to work the same hours I would in a day because of traveling, etc, so I'd have to put in hours to make the time up and that's really jumping through hoops to go see someone who is going to be upset that her granddaughter is a spinster. \n\nI really do not feel like I would regret not going, even if this did happen to be her last Christmas. I know it sounds terrible to say but I'm just being honest. \n\nFamily is important to me, but so is respect. I do not get it from my grandma, I do not get it from my uncle and my dad is trying to make me feel guilty, which also challenges respect on his end. \n\nSo, would it really be terrible to *not* go given the circumstances? \n\nAITA for not wanting to go?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EUqPc5pHTA3g83ugTEmAt8sGGABkBc9J", "post_id": "b4615u", "action": {"description": "being mad that my step mom gave my tea to my sister", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being mad that my step mom gave my tea to my sister.", "text": "I have digestive issues because there is something wrong with my gut biome so I drink this very expensive and specific tea so that my food will digest properly and it will limit the amount of pain I experience when I eat.\n\nThis morning my step mom asks if my sister wants some tea and tells her to pick one. My tea was the only one we had.\n\nI tell her that I use that tea specifically because of my digestive issue and she starts going on this rant about how \u201cwe share in this house!\u201d. \n\nAt this point I\u2019m getting kind of pissed off because I have a very limited supply of this tea that needs to last a week since I won\u2019t be able to go get it since we\u2019re away. \n\nI tell her that I\u2019m upset and she says that I\u2019m being rude and that I should share. After she said this I just started responding with minimal conversation. \n\nAITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tOU7zpkQnnUVj7QyvtLZJRAazyNaoSHl", "post_id": "aoutlp", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Smokers at work throw cigarette butts all over the parking lot and I have to pick them up weekly", "text": "I know it's apart of my job and it doesn't bug me so much when customers do it because I don't work with them. A lot of people don't have the common decency to think of the poor little fast food worker that has to pick up cigarette butts around a parking lot. \n\n​\n\nWhat bugs me is that I specifically put things into place(a cigarette bucket outside with sand and a kitty litter scoop to dump the cigs into a bag) and cigarette butts end up on the ground. I work with these people and I think they should have a little courtesy for someone who hasn't smoked in 7 years. I shouldn't have to pick up after you at work like you're my child. Even when I did smoke I would properly dispose of my cigarette butts and not just litter and throw them on the ground. I had to go out in 20 degree weather and pick up EVERYONE'S cigarette butts and then got back into the store, vented about how I shouldn't have to pick up others cigarette butts when I don't smoke, and went about my workday. 20 minutes goes by and I'm getting mocked by co-workers for venting to my GM about the cigarette butts because now there's a sign saying they have to pick up their own cigarette butts or they will get written up.  \n\n\nThanks for your time reddit. I just needed to vent a little more and get others opinions on the situation.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PeLifWA1f0cKA8CZXQADWt32szU4y7tN", "post_id": "a918v0", "action": {"description": "buying my SIL a Handheld clothes Steamer for Christmas", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for buying my SIL a Handheld clothes Steamer for Christmas?", "text": "For the record, I also gave him and my daughter a combo gift of a $400 50 inch TV. I did not actually give her another gift. The only reason he got this is because I am so tired of seeing him in crumpled shirts. It drives me up the wall.  He is flippin' 32 years old.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sEnvHnKrSapSd2zeAAg2RNyitf9hOj0m", "post_id": "9um28m", "action": {"description": "breaking a kid's nerf gun", "pronormative_score": 153, "contranormative_score": 96}, "title": "AITA for breaking a kid\u2019s nerf gun?", "text": "I was walking home yesterday, and this kid started shooting me with the nerf gun while insulting me in front of his friends. I told him that if he does that again, I\u2019ll break his nerf gun.\n\nThe next day, the kid does it again so I yank it out of his hand, and smash it on the pavement as hard as I fucking can, and pieces go flying everywhere. The kid starts crying in front of his friends, and I just walk back home.\n\nAm I the asshole? You decide.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 95, "OTHER": 140, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 13, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 153, "WRONG": 96}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JctUpR4YG7QvAlPxgDh5j6bv8dvcjLj0", "post_id": "a3wd6n", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend", "text": "I'll put a tldr at the bottom, but I'd also like to give enough background information to allow for a proper judgement.\n\n​\n\nBackground info:\n\nUntil last week, I was in a long distance relationship.  Both my (ex)partner and I suffer from depression, which is kinda how we met.  We're both college aged, though she is younger than I am.  She is also living in a shelter currently because her home life is not great at the moment.  Also, when we started dating, I told her that one of my biggest fears in a relationship is being cheated on.\n\n​\n\nThe Breakup Part:\n\nLast week I got a message from her on Facebook saying that she had something to confess.  Immediately my mind went to \"she must have cheated on me\".  So I asked her.  She said yes, she cheated on me.  Not wanting to be a bad guy, I asked her how \"severe\" she cheated on me (e.g. just a kiss followed by immediate regret, passionate sex, or something in between).  After pressing that question for a bit, she said she had sex with another guy.  I then told her that we were over.  She said \"but I wasn't in my right mind\".  When I asked her to clarify, she told me that her depression became too much and that she needed to feel loved, so that's why she slept with him.  That made things worse in my eyes, because depression is not an excuse to cheat, so I doubled down on my resolve and told her that we were over, but I hoped that she continued to get better mentally and that she would be more faithful with her next boyfriend.  I then couldn't message her again (I'm assuming she blocked me).\n\n​\n\nThe Part That Makes Me Question Myself:\n\nToday I got a voicemail from her, saying that it wasn't her who contacted me on Facebook (using her account) and that she wanted to tell me the full story.  When I called her back and said that I'd let her explain, she said that another person at the shelter asked to use her Facebook account to contact a friend, and that it was that person who messaged me (and then blocked me).  I asked if that meant she didn't cheat on me.  She said \"well, not really\".  So I asked her to explain.  She said that she and two friends (one male, one female) wanted to get out of the shelter for a change, and since the guy had some money they bought bus tickets and went into town.  They also got a hotel room with his money, and my (ex)girlfriend said it was to be able to take showers, eat food, and watch TV.  However, the guy eventually started asking my (ex)girlfriend to have sex with him, and she initially told him \"no, I have a boyfriend and you have a girlfriend\".  He kept asking her (and saying things like \"I got you this room and food with my money\") and she eventually agreed to have sex with him.  A day or so later his girlfriend finds out, and she's the one who tricked my (ex)girlfriend into letting her message me on Facebook.\n\n​\n\nMy Takeaway:\n\nMy (ex)girlfriend cheated on me.  She wasn't forced at gunpoint or overpowered (which would make it rape), she just got tired of saying no and therefore agreed to have sex with someone else.  Either that or the story she told me on the phone is a lie in an attempt to make me feel bad and agree to get back with her.\n\n​\n\nMy Ex-Girlfriend's Takeaway:\n\nShe says she didn't cheat on me.  She says that because she initially said no, and that she was in a \"bad side of town\" (and therefore didn't feel comfortable leaving the hotel room), that it doesn't count as cheating.\n\n​\n\ntl;dr:\n\nGot a message on Facebook from my long distance (ex)girlfriend which led to a confession that she cheated on me.  I break things off over Facebook messenger.  About a week later I get a phone call from her, and she says someone else sent those messages, but she did still have sex with someone else but it doesn't count as cheating because of where it happened and that she said no at first.  I tell her I'm not changing my mind and that we are still broken up.\n\n​\n\n(P.S. if this would fit better on /r/relationships or another subreddit, just let me know)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MXnazA0O0LF1sMinIL29ldtruv8CBmPj", "post_id": "axtgzh", "action": {"description": "having a discussion about my sexually promiscuous coworker", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for having a discussion about my sexually promiscuous coworker?", "text": "**Background: Sexually Promiscuous Coworker (SP)** is a nice girl, but wildly naive and immature. We only hang out because we work together; we'll drink and have game nights, but that's it. She dates around and enjoys telling others of her escapades, which include sleeping with reps that come to our building, oral sex with an uber driver, and going at it in the backseat of her car in the office parking garage. She's not shy about any of it. In December, she was caught by another **employee (E)** late at night **having sex with a random in our company's lactation room.** He was there because he had been using the office as a second home, but that's another story.\n\nE told **coworker (C)** and myself about the situation, and SP told her **good friend (A)**. To my knowledge, only us 5 know that it happened, and that's all that matters here. I let SP know that I was aware and told her to cut that shit out ASAP.\n\nNOTE: It's not my place to report it, I don't want to get involved. If anyone says anything to someone in charge, it won't be me.\n\n**Now:** I recently wrapped up a conference as event manager, with a handpicked team consisting of SP, A, and C. Before it even started, I had to drop off supplies at the hotel, and took A & C. While in the car, I explained why I chose each of them, and there had been an option to add E, but due to his and SP's history, I decided against his presence. The 3 of us ended up on a tangent about him sleeping at the office, when C piped up:\n\n*\"I don't know, I prefer his sleeping at the office to ... some people doing other things ...\"*\n\nWe both knew what he was referring to and had a good chuckle about it, and **I said something along the lines of \"other things\" being a bad decision/still couldn't believe it.** At that point, A chimed in:\n\n*\"Allegedly!\"*\n\nWe all agreed with the event being alleged so we could drop the topic, and the conversation was done.\n\n**Today, SP approaches me, nearly in tears, and asks**\n\n*\"Did you talk and laugh about me in the car the other day?\"*\n\nI was up front with her that she was a tangential topic in conversation that occurred about E and, yes, we chuckled about the situation because it was common knowledge and not gossip amongst the 3 of us. And, in all fairness, she's so candid with her other shenanigans, that at this point, it's repeating factual events.\n\nShe seems incredibly hurt by it. I'm not a chronic shit-talker, but we've all done it to an extent and brought up past events, \"Oh, do you remember when so-and-so did XYZ?\". But I'm wondering ... AITA for enabling her to be brought up in another conversation, and laughing about it? It's nothing I wouldn't have joked about to her face. Or is she just emotional because she's embarrassed by it and is afraid it will come to light with people who could fire her?\n\nThanks for coming on this ride with me!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FHyRgC2Atk83yRmAK3hOWhvTNz3Nlmze", "post_id": "ajejb9", "action": {"description": "refusing to pull my seat up", "pronormative_score": 28, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pull my seat up", "text": "So I was on a flight a few days ago, minding my own business, watching a film on my tablet. Guy in front of me puts his seat back. I want some extra room so I pull mine back too. \n\nOut of nowhere the lady behind me gets up and tells me to pull my seat back up because she was eating and needs the space. I would generally try to be as accommodating as possible but I found her reaction quite aggressive so I said \u2018no, sorry, the gentleman in front of me has his back as well and I\u2019d like a bit of space\u2019. \n\nShe calls a flight attendant and complains I\u2019m being unreasonable and she\u2019s just trying to enjoy her meal. The flight attendant said something along the lines of \u2018it\u2019s every customers prerogative to adjust their seatback\u2019 and leaves (doesnt even speak in my direction or bother me in any way). This is when the lady behind me kind of loses it, calls me an asshole and sits back in her seat. \n\nShe then proceeds to kick my chair throughout the journey but I completely ignore her every time because to people like her being ignored has to sting even worse. \n\nAITA for not letting her enjoy her meal in peace? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 28, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ec1MUsHUytnGnDtqMVRAhObHdMrvN7so", "post_id": "b97u5s", "action": {"description": "not wanting to share a summer job with my little sister", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to share a summer job with my (F17) little sister (F15)?", "text": "Howdy, long time lurker here, and I've been thinking about this for a while.\n\nLast year I actively pursued getting a job as a lifeguard. I signed up for special classes, spent my own money on my certification, and found a job at our local pool, all practically without help. That was fine by me, as lifeguarding was something I really wanted to do (alongside making money) and I was the first kid in our family to go out and get a real job without a family friend's help. \n\nI ended up really enjoying my time there. Yeah it was hot, boring, and I barely made above minimum wage, but overtime was good and the people were even better. It ended up being almost a replacement for school, and meant time away from my house that I didn't have to spend cooped up with my family. I worked ~45 hours a week on average, made a shit ton of money, and planned to return again next year for a small raise and to reconnect with my coworkers.\n\nTherein lies the issue. While my sisters and I were out with my mom, she suggested the idea of lifeguarding to my oldest sister (15F). She basically said that it would be great for both of us to work together over the summer now that she's old enough to get a worker's permit, and that I can drive her there and back. She also offered to pay for my younger sister's classes (~$250). My sister agreed that this sounded like a good idea, even though I typically worked double shifts that go beyond the amount of hours she'd be legally allowed to work in a day. When I brought this up, my mom shot me down and said she'd pick her up on days I couldn't drive her home.\n\nI know this is childish of me, and that it shouldn't matter if we happen to work in the same space again, but I really don't want to work with her. It feels like I share everything with her, from activities to interests, nothing is 'mine'. This was the first thing I had for a while where I felt like I could decompress because my family wasn't around the corner ready to join in. I enjoy being viewed as an independent person, not simply her big sister. I went through the same thing with my older brother (19M) and I couldn't stand it. The closest comparison I have to this feeling is when your kid sibling wants to play with you and your friends, and as such won't leave you alone.\n\nMy sister also has a terrible work ethic when it comes to jobs, we currently both work for the same after school program twice a week and she is constantly complaining and trying to get out of it, not contacting our manager when she's unavailable, etc. I don't want to be responsible for her or her actions, and I feel like my parents would definitely expect that of me if this were to happen. When I brought my concerns up with my mom, she essentially told me to suck it up, that she had done the same thing with her older sister and that this shouldn't be an issue, that I was being selfish.\n\nSo reddit, I'm asking you, AITA for not wanting to share my summer job with my sister?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x2nZwzymPpjlQk0qBIitN8EP50rVpLzw", "post_id": "b5bgao", "action": {"description": "asking husband to stop talking to sick ex", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking husband to stop talking to sick ex?", "text": "I have been married to my husband (Dan)  2 years now, together for almost 10.  I believe that you can be friends and have a respectable relationship with an ex, but this girl is different.  Every now and then he will talk to his ex one night stand Gina through messenger and phone calls.  She has been known to manipulate men.  Example: Gina was pregnant when Dan was with her and she tried to claim that he was the father.  He wasn\u2019t, and eventually Gina was proven wrong.  Gina went on to have at least two divorces and three babies with different daddies.  All future conversations between Dan and Gina are online, she lives several states away. \n\nDan and I have a relationship in which we are comfortable knowing each other\u2019s phone passwords.   A couple of years ago I noticed that he had received a photo from Gina and she was sharing her weight loss.  Poor judgement, but I checked his phone and conversation with her. (This was shortly after we married.) She was flirty with him and stating that she needed money to keep her possessions from being pawned.  I confronted him about it and he kinda just shrugged it off.  It bugged me to the point that I asked him to stop talking to her and he did.  He didn\u2019t give her any money that I know of. \nHe also tells me that she has been diagnosed with a super rare brain disease and potentially only has a few more years to live, but still cuts it off for a while. \n\nFast forward to a couple of weeks ago.  I notice another notification from Gina, and again curiousity got the best of me.  This time she was just telling him about a surgery coming soon.  Dan and I talk about it a bit and everything is cool.. she\u2019s not bringing money into the picture this time he said. \n\nA few days ago while he was in the shower his fb messenger was blowing up, and sure enough ALL messages were from her.  I noticed some raunchy stuff in the message preview, so I checked.  Gina had been sending him messages about how she was flirting with her guy roommate, being VERY descriptive about dirty details and just going on about how close they were to having sex, describing the tension between them... Lots of details about her masturbating as well.  I confronted my husband again, this time he yoinked the phone away and deleted a bunch of stuff.  \n\nI pestered him about it and eventually he confessed that she had sent him another weight loss photo and had told him to leave our marriage if he wasn\u2019t satisfied, poking at my weight.  I asked him to stop talking to her, and he guilts me into the whole \u201cShe\u2019s got a disease and might not make it past her surgery in April\u201d.  Last night we left off with a compromise that he will shut her down if she does that again, and won\u2019t let her talk about the sexy stuff anymore.  I would still much prefer that he stop talking to her entirely. \n\n\nSo WIBTA  by asking him to stop talking to her completely?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OEJ8QA3zAcNGd7HAQcVC7kw1TyeGaJdY", "post_id": "9yyb21", "action": {"description": "cutting ties with a potential future girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting ties with a potential future girlfriend", "text": "20m here. Met a girl on the amazing dating app called Tinder (sense my sarcasm) and surprisingly we hit it off really well. First few days are great, back and forth messages and it turns out we get along really well, similar hobbies and interests etc...\n\n Then after a few weeks the replies slowly start slowing down to 2 or 3 a day tops and they\u2019re shorter and shorter, I can see she\u2019s online and active but is just choosing not to reply. So I pull her up on it and she says \u2018sorry I\u2019ve been busy studying\u2019 so I\u2019m like fair enough. Only, it carries on and after another few days nothing has changed, so I call her up on it again and she reply\u2019s \u2018you\u2019re acting like an idiot, stop being clingy and needy it\u2019s not attractive and I owe you nothing\u2019. I then completely cut ties with her.\n\nReddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dYDqjP68KwznDGgJFSYKKCvkwnTeAJNY", "post_id": "avgr9n", "action": {"description": "being upset at a friend who only talks to me when shes lonely", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset at a friend who only talks to me when shes lonely", "text": "so i've had this friend for years, online as she lives in cali but travels for work. we used to talk a lot when we were younger and then it slowed down but now, for the most part, our longest conversations happen when she is bored or lonely or looking for some sort of validation. the other night we started talking while she was out at a bar and eventually she asked me if i would essentially validate her and make her feel better about herself (she thinks she is overweight) and i might get something for it. Of course i agree and we keep chatting and it kinda gets side tracked as we talk about a bunch of other things, all while i still manage to complement the fuck out of her and build her up. at one point she made the point to say \"we're basically in like a loooooong distance poly-emotional relationship\" (she's actually in a poly relationship with someone else) and also say how great i am for always being there for her no matter if she talks to me for hours on end or just once a month and how she appreciates me. after a few hours of talking and me staying up way past my usual bed time to keep her company, she falls asleep on me, which is nbd. but the next morning she read any messages i had left her and then just doesn't reply, no thanks for keeping me company or hey i appreciate that, she just goes right back to not replying. \nAITA for being annoyed even tho she explained the night before that that is basically just how she is? im just sick of building people up only to be ignored when they dont need the confidence boost for the time being", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "imHhyGSr08iCh5Sky8Tm2fAl64HiH9aD", "post_id": "aypxt4", "action": {"description": "telling my mom about the vape I found in my brother's room", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my mom about the vape I found in my brother's room?", "text": "Sort of TL;DR for time restraints.\n\nMy brother is in with some OK kids but they vape and must have given him one. That's a huge no no in our house. The thing is, he is already grounded and Mom would not hold back if she found out about this. She would also probably make him stop hanging out with that group, his only large group of friends. He also has pretty severe anxiety and depression, and from what I've heard, it is very easy to get vape around our school. \n\nShould I throw what I found away and move on or tell Mom?\n\nAlso please no arguing about the negative effects of vaping because it doesn't matter to me or my Mom (issues are nicotine and possible unknown negative effects).", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1DnBbsgW3liF9uJUphdnwXpdUrkkP4YD", "post_id": "af3ex6", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate his girlfriends little sister and her friend can't be in the apartment", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my roommate his girlfriends little sister and her friend can\u2019t be in the apartment?", "text": "So first off, sorry for formatting and what not as this is my first post.\n\nSo my roommate said his girlfriend was coming over and they were going to bring her little sister and her friend to stay the night to use the pool.  I believe the little sister and friend are both much younger than us as were all adults and they\u2019re under 10 years old I believe.\n\nNow, the reason why I said no is because we smoke weed and have some stuff around the area and my roommate likes to smoke in the living room and would continue to do so because the kids parents do apparently.  \n\nI simply wouldn\u2019t feel comfortable having two kids around, especially on short notice, that kind of area.  I don\u2019t want to expose kids to that stuff and if anything happened, I\u2019d likely be liable as the oldest and the one whose name is on all the bills.\n\nSo, am I the asshole or what?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EhufSZkg6rXnOXE7XY2fwKeNO7Zzkvap", "post_id": "9w7385", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Complimented a Girl at a party that was wearing a Led Zeppelin T-Shirt and she went off on me because of Jimmy Page's relationship with underage groupie Lori Mattix.", "text": "Led Zeppelin is one of my favorite rock bands and there was a girl with a cool Led Zep t-shirt at a party. I complimented her on the shirt and told her Led Zep is one of my favorite bands and she became infuriated because Jimmy Page had a relationship with an underage groupie (Lorrie Mattix). I did know about this, but I sorta try to separate that from their music. Am I the asshole here? Why would she even wear the shirt if she is so deeply affected by this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ypwhPeleZHUV0DtZMglrKRvg4KLiahas", "post_id": "afq7mj", "action": {"description": "not sharing my food with my family", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not sharing my food with my family?", "text": "So this happened when I was going to leave for my grandma's house. I had just recently seen my brother eating from a bag of chips, so right when we were going to leave, I grabbed a bag of chips for myself and got in the car. In the middle of the drive, my brother asks me for some chips. I refused, and told him that he already ate an entire bag and the lame excuse that he didn't offer me any chips either. I figured that if I refused and gave an explanation, things would just end there. But it didn't. He got angry and told me that if I asked, he would have given me some, which I doubt was true. He's not really the type to share his food. He then told me that I was greedy and selfish for keeping the bag of chips for myself. At this point I'm pretty stressed out, but then my dad realizes that I have chips and asks for some, to which I don't say anything because I want to keep my chips, but I know that my brother will start arguing with me if I say no. Then, my grandma comes in and calls me selfish and stingy and that I should listen to whatever my brother says. As we get in my grandma's house, she scolds me for not offering her chips even though she didn't want them, and then went on to tell me that I'm always taking things from my parents and giving nothing in return. Is it really such a big deal to share food or were my brother and grandma overreacting?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ER5jf9bY2fG9pyKKzzmyeA26tGqKz5NQ", "post_id": "ak0kve", "action": {"description": "asking my so not to masturbate to the thought of other people", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for asking my SO not to masturbate to the thought of other people?", "text": "Just like the title says. I've asked some of my other friends about it, they say it's not normal to think about having sex with other people (like full on fantasies) and masturbate to it. I'm not trying to be controlling, but I've explained it makes me feel inadequate and theyre pretending like the whole ordeal is my fault. I never said they couldn't think about others. That's really all I asked and they say I'm overreacting. I just need to know if IATA or I have the right to be upset.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3ynPF9JmgtFDVzOBPRTg11nYHv9NvDsR", "post_id": "axlcsl", "action": {"description": "avoiding talking to a good friend who recently expressed some pretty fucked up things about trans people", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if i avoided talking to a good friend who recently expressed some pretty fucked up things about trans people?", "text": "So I attend an all boys school, and just today we had a talk given by a transgender author and journalist. It was great, and the speaker was really good, but afterwards quite a lot of people were being pretty cruel about her and trans people in general (as usually is the case). \n\nThe guy in particular has been a really close friend ever since I came to the school, and he's really smart. So it was a huge surprise when after the talk he told me that she (the speaker) was a 'cocky bitch' who should be 'fucking put down'. Ever since he said that I've avoided talking to him as I think tht it's pretty disgusting that he thinks that way, and i don't know if I can still be friends with him knowing his views on the topic. However I feel like I'd be overreacting by avoiding talking to him, considering how good of a friend he can be.\n\nWIBTA reddit?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "H3bT5rNBIYzKB60OyvdjfRwdyMKQGex4", "post_id": "b3i06o", "action": {"description": "giving him \"the talk\"", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for giving him \"the talk\"??", "text": "So, there was this girl I fell in love with. We met a couple of times and had a very good time together. After some time I found she had a boyfriend and I reduced contact to her. After a while they got engaged and I was down. But what mattered for me was, that she is happy. So I went to the guy and gave him a classic \"You break her heart, I break your bones!!\" kind of talk.\n\nAfter a few months they broke up and she found out what I did. Now she is mad at me, cut contact, etc.\n\nFor me, I stand behind what I did. I never even thought that it was wrong. But after some time thinking about it, I am not 100% sure anymore. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1Gu2Hl7afxkzOYld4w8DJf3tNUPghCRn", "post_id": "arfee8", "action": {"description": "yelling at my mom's boyfriend after he laughed at a joke a friend said about if the stray cats outside have kittens, that he was going to use them as target practice", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my mom's boyfriend after he laughed at a joke a friend said about if the stray cats outside have kittens, that he was going to use them as target practice?", "text": "For context: He was telling me about it after it had happened, and I'm a HUGE cat lover. I've been feeding these two strays for a few months now. And I just learned that neither of them are fixed. And my mom's boyfriend was telling me about how his friend said that he was going to use the kittens (if the cats have any) as target practice and chuckled and even had a little smirk on his face. I yelled at him, telling him \"DON'T FUCKING SAY THAT!\" with a lot of anger in my voice.\n\nAm I the asshole? He came in and apologized for it, but I feel like he only did because my mom forced him too. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ypLvkLt5xgIPxj34254CREzUwsW9PVfB", "post_id": "aa20i9", "action": {"description": "not getting a factory job", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not getting a factory job?", "text": "To start out, I just wanna say I suffer from a lot of mental issues. I have depression, anxiety and PTSD. Now I am living with my in-laws with my wife, and don't have a job. The original plan was for me to work at a local factory. I have worked at this factory before and it ended when I ended up having a mental breakdown on the floor and storming off. My wife, the understanding woman she is, told me that I didnt have to get the factory job just that I had to get one. Now my in-laws found out and I am being constantly insulted and they keep trying to strong-arm me into getting the job.\n\nI should also mention that my wife is working the factory job, and we arent in financial trouble. My wife makes enough for us to live semi-comfortably they just insist I get a job cuz I'm a 'man'", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Cd2zOX7ldaZ6ZiSEl4UYg65biPY8443p", "post_id": "a4p4e8", "action": {"description": "not wanting to make apple sauce for Christmas due to my tiny budget", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: for not wanting to make apple sauce for Christmas due to my tiny budget", "text": "So today I got a message off my mum from my family group chat telling me that I have to make the Apple Sauce for Christmas dinner (she didn't ask, outright said I had to). But I'm a university student with a tiny budget of \u00a320 a week for everything I have to sort out, it costs about \u00a35 just to sort out my clothes wash, so as you can see, tiny amount, but I try to spend as little as I can, not having takeaways, using taxis or buses and only buying ASDA's home brand food.\n\nAnyway, I tried telling my mum that I won't be able to do it because I also have my week food shop to think about, which is when my brother and sister but in and start calling me ungrateful and my sister says \" if you're gonna act like that I'll do it\" and gets really angry at me.\n\nSo to avoid further argument, I say that I'll do it but it would've been nice to have been asked at the beginning. Which is when my brother buts in, saying \"I wasn't asked to bring what I am but I didn't care, it's christmas\" I've not had that good of a relationship with my family since secondary school and when me and pare he disagree, my siblings are always there shouting at me and not seeing things from my point of view. (Sorry for rambling).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hmsqrYGdA0xTwYkLp13kFBHu8iO2jnno", "post_id": "ahpper", "action": {"description": "eating sushi in front of my pregnant wife", "pronormative_score": 124, "contranormative_score": 194}, "title": "AITA for eating sushi in front of my pregnant wife?", "text": "Before my wife got pregnant, we used to go out to the same sushi place and order the same thing, but our usual order has raw fish, so she can't eat it now. She also can't drink obviously, which we used to do here.\n\nWe went to the same restaurant because she still loves Japanese food but she has to order something different. She asked me if I would not order our usual because it makes her sad that she can't eat it, but I'm a picky eater so I ordered it anyway because I don't really like trying new things, especially sushi which can be hit or miss. She told me I was being inconsiderate for eating the things she can't in front of her. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 178, "OTHER": 115, "EVERYBODY": 16, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 5}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 124, "WRONG": 194}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Zzx1DyXGuVMK77V3NxomHt6awQx6RBUb", "post_id": "agqn6g", "action": {"description": "not loaning my friend 300 for rent", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Loaning My Friend 300 For rent.", "text": "My Friend has had a recent bout of bad luck and I actually let him move in with me a few months ago and never charged him rent to assist him in getting his life back together. He stayed with me for a few months and moved in with a girl and her friend. These girls have moved into an apartment without having a job and they are now 300 dollars short for rent. My friend is heavily implying and dropping hints that I should loan him 300 dollars so that they don't get evicted. I would feel a little more inclined to do so if his name was on their lease or If they hit a hard spot for whatever reason. But They have bought plenty of alcohol and furniture for their house and they have only lived there for 3 weeks. Also They are 100% free to return home. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 29, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PFxDKl9eONPCNBdvRhUR8LUQKCL1aCrs", "post_id": "b5xy5h", "action": {"description": "refusing to take orders at the drive thru window", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA if I refused to take orders at the drive thru window?", "text": "I work at a fast food restaurant. We only have one window and only one person works that window for their shift. This means I am taking orders, taking money, giving it back, bagging food, utensils, and drinks, and handing out food during rushes and during slow times. I am also supposed to support the front of house when possible. So many times people will order their food, pay, wait until they get their food, and then add on a sandwich or something. This ruins my drive thru times and the whole system I have going when working. I most likely would never actually refuse an order, but wibta if I did? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2gFcM9N0GJzPtt1VOl6lAIQGUcAh01R3", "post_id": "aymrpx", "action": {"description": "leaving my two blackout drunk friends alone in a hotel room", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for leaving my two blackout drunk friends alone in a hotel room", "text": "I was invited to hang out with two of my friends at a hotel room tonight. When I got there, the two of them were quite drunk. They seemed to be okay until one of them started to throw up. She was unable to walk by herself, so I had to drag her to the bathroom to get her washed up. She was very out of it and was struggling to answer simple questions (what\u2019s her name, what year it is etc.) and to keep her eyes open. Also, my other friend was throwing up as well, but was still able to communicate and move without assistance. I didn\u2019t want to cause a scene at the hotel, so I called my sister and partner (both of them work in healthcare) to help me take of my friends. After telling me what to do, they both said to me that once I get the two of them into bed, I should leave them to rest and call them in the morning to see if they\u2019re ok. \n\nI was hesitant to leave them since my one friend was in rough shape. I did wake her up twice before I left to see if she was ok and asked her the same questions as I did last time, and she seemed more coherent than before. I did leave them with waters and a garbage can at their bedside as well before leaving and made sure they were both sleeping on their side. Although they were both safe in bed, a part of me feels guilty for leaving. I felt like I should of stayed with them over night, but I do feel like it is not my responsibility to babysit them.  Did I do the right thing?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "16Ho8JTRqe88u2c2aYxIi9KUy1NuEgLn", "post_id": "b2yamg", "action": {"description": "breaking off my engagement over his father's racist remarks", "pronormative_score": 103, "contranormative_score": 151}, "title": "AITA for breaking off my engagement over his father's racist remarks?", "text": "Hello everyone,\n\nI have been with my (now ex) fiance for just about four years and recently broke off our engagement due to his parent's racist remarks at a restaurant.  We were to be married in June of this year.\n\nTo make a long story short, we met at a work conference in 2015 and maintained a long distance relationship (he lived in CA, I lived in N.C.) and made it work.  We got together for about a week every two months or so, and during this time, I met his family and he subsequently met mine when we were in each other's towns.  There were no red flags, not even a hint of how racist his parents really are - I ultimately found this out a few weeks ago.\n\nWe (me, him, and his parents) were out to dinner a few weeks ago and this little boy, must have been six years old or so, accidentally tripped our waitress resulting in dropped plates and food getting all over his mother and father. \n\nI had never seen such a dramatic shift in mood, but my future father-in-law stood up and started spewing A LOT of hateful remarks about people of other races -- I'll spare you all the details, but it was extremely vile and disgusting stuff.  People started recording on their phones.  It was a HUGE scene that left me VERY embarrassed and ashamed to be there - what makes matters even worse was that my mother-in-law did not disagree with him; she sat there nodding her head in agreement  My fiance didn't say anything,he just sat there. He didn't acknowledge what his father said, but the fact that he just let it go and didn't stand up to him was very telling.\n\nThe day after this incident I drove over to his house and broke off our engagement.  Understandably, he was very upset and naturally we had a big argument which I'm sure the neighbors heard.  I know he didn't say anything at dinner and I asked him point blank \"Are you a racist?\" - he did not answer, only turned away.  I'm not sure what that meant.\n\nI had absolutely no idea his family was like this and a big life lesson I have learned is to spend more time with a partner's family before making any decisions.  I simply can not be with someone whose family harbors so much hate - the apple doesn't drop far from the tree.\n\nWhat conflicts me is that his family paid for the entire wedding - everything from the venue, to the dresses, to the food, to the decorations.  Me personally, I don't come from a lot of money and would have been happy with a nice backyard wedding.  But I know they spent a lot which makes me feel terrible.\n\nDoes this make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 126, "OTHER": 99, "EVERYBODY": 25, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 14}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 103, "WRONG": 151}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kWiGlIUdJzX8fY4npMU1tX0M3nJEB0eW", "post_id": "b32udh", "action": {"description": "lying to my friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for lying to my friend?", "text": "Hopefully my story doesn\u2019t seem as bad as the title, but here goes.\n\nBasically, a day ago I was arranging to meet friends at a shopping mall near us. Unfortunately, only one of them could show up and we hanged out for a bit. \n\nAs a joke, I told my other friends (that couldn\u2019t go) I had accidentally ended up in the wrong city and completely wrong state. Bare in mind, my friend (that did come meet me) was part of the joke as well.\n\nWhen my friend started asking for proof, I quickly posted a few photos from the internet. She didn\u2019t believe it however and asked me to join a call with her. \n\nI did, and I just started laughing loudly until she left the call out of nowhere. She was absolutely pissed that I lied to her, and even called me a \u2018f*cking asshole.\u2019 We had been friends for a really long time and I share many secrets with her. \n\nSo, am I the asshole in this situation?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "poPY0cyYKLj4tPbdZzbR1fsDs5k6jKZs", "post_id": "aex06k", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to prom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to prom?", "text": "i\u2019m a junior in high school and i\u2019ve been to prom my last two years, so i\u2019m really not impressed anymore. my first year i went with my best friend\u2019s boyfriend at the time, and last year i went with my best friend. \n\nthis year, he promised a tenth grader that we\u2019re friends with that he would take her because tenth graders can\u2019t go on their own. my best friend and i (i\u2019m just gonna call him josh) had planned to dress in 1920s clothes for prom and he still wants to do that despite him having another date. he wanted me to take another tenth grade friend, while another friend of ours takes the tenth grade friend\u2019s girlfriend. the tenth grade couple would dress together, while the friend taking the girlfriend would have no one to dress with and ultimately be left out of the whole thing. i told josh i wasn\u2019t going to do that to our other friend, and he got pissed off. \n\ni told him if i was going to prom i was taking a friend of mine who wants to go but can\u2019t on his own. josh told me that was fine with him, as long as i dressed with him in the 20s clothes and not my date. but then who would my date have to take prom pictures with? his parents aren\u2019t going to want to spend money on the tux and the ticket for them to not get pictures. \n\nthe whole thing is stupid and complicated, and i\u2019m at the point now where i don\u2019t want to go unless i go with josh or my boyfriend (who i can\u2019t go with because he\u2019s in the military) josh told me that i have to go because it\u2019s his senior year, and if i don\u2019t go he\u2019ll be pissed. i don\u2019t like being told that i have to do anything by him, especially when i feel like i\u2019m not the one making it all complicated. \n\nam i in the wrong for not wanting to be a part of his senior prom even though i know that it\u2019s important to him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pBQQT5JL5zZRMNPyA28w4uqnUgqIWyZz", "post_id": "b9q6kq", "action": {"description": "getting upset at my uncle for petting my cat wrong", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at my uncle for petting my cat wrong?", "text": "I am very close to my cat. She means the world to me and has helped me manage my mental health tremendously. My uncle does stuff like chase my cat around the house all the time, so i was alrwady pretty sensitive.\n\nI was walking upstairs to get some food and my uncle was petting my cat. Normally I'd be fine with it but he was just rubbing her ass like crazy, and she clearly didnt like it. When i mean like crazy, i mean that she easily couldve gotten a rug burn from it.\nI first just said \"i dont think she likes that.\"\nHe ignored me and i didnt want to start anything so i just went back to what i was doing.\nThen she whined. When she tried to jump away, he grabbed her and held her down to where she was sitting before. \nI instantly bursted out at him\n\"You need to stop\"\nMy dad proceeded to get involved and scolded me, telling me i was being overprotective and just wanted to get into a fight. He said i was the bad person and that shes just a cat so i shouldnt care about how people pet her. \nI'm still upset about this.\nI know cats get upset all the time for no reason but i tried to pet her a little bit afterwards and she whined when i touched the area he was petting before and ran off. Shes always super anxious whenever hes over and i dont know if i really am being overprotective. She may just be a cat but shes super important to me. \n\nTLDR; my uncle was rubbing my cat super aggressively, she starting whining and instead of stopping he grabbed her before jumped away. I  told him that he had to stop so he and my dad got upset at me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jyyof65h1NrCpXS5UVsE11DQWElvlcSN", "post_id": "b1znzb", "action": {"description": "asking me girlfriend to remove her socks during tickle fights", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking me girlfriend to remove her socks during tickle fights?", "text": "I know this seems like something rather odd to post, but my girlfriend and I sometimes have tickle fights to be playful and that sometimes includes tickling each other's feet. I often have bare feet while she often wears socks and a few times I have asked her to remove her socks to make it more fair but she did not and got annoyed saying that I should not ask her to remove her socks, even tho I think that it makes it more fair. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NchQJGJyGLvJKTZwxl1p6zNAy3Thd9vb", "post_id": "abr5sd", "action": {"description": "breaking up with bipolar girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with bipolar girlfriend?", "text": "So I started dating a girl, and we dated for about a month. After that, she came out and told me she was bipolar. I was fine with still dating her. Fast forward a bit, and I just kinda stopped having feelings for her. It just didn\u2019t seem to be working. She got really mad, and then a few days afterwords she was hinting she would cut herself. Am I the asshole for breaking up with her? \nSide note: This happened about a week or two prior to this but I felt bad. I believe she got help for the whole cutting thing, but I still feel guilty. Also, sorry if my English sucks, I\u2019m tried right now. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DDllo4DEKpZXKZoCywPhFUMWTUcQ67a0", "post_id": "a6iqjt", "action": {"description": "moving all of my stuff into my room after a series of confrontations with my roommates", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for moving all of my stuff into my room after a series of confrontations with my roommates?", "text": "Throwaway because people know my main account. \n\nHello all, this is a situation that happened about a year ago but every time I think about it I get upset and I really want to know, AITA? \n\nI\u2019ll try to keep this as short as possible, but this requires some backstory. I\u2019m a student at a university and I was looking for a place to live for a year when one of my friends said she needed another person in her group, so not having any options lined up I jumped on the opportunity. I didn\u2019t know any of the other girls but we met and they seemed nice so I agreed to move in with them. Something happened with my friend and she had to back out of the deal, leaving me with these four other girls that I didn\u2019t really know. However, we had already been looking at houses together so I figured we might as well go through with it, this ended up being a terrible mistake. It should also be noted that I was the only one who had not lived in a dorm so I had a lot more furniture than everyone else which was put in the common areas. \n\nWhile I am aware that I am not a perfect roommate (who is?), some things happened throughout the first semester of us living together that made it very hard for me to be at home. To start off with, I have a very busy major which requires me to work in a studio most of the time so I tend not to be home very often, especially as the semester kicks into gear. I already felt kind of weird because the other girls knew each other and with me not being around a lot I felt a little isolated. \n\nAt first everything was okay, but then things started to get out of control. One of the girls was apparently fed up with being the only person cleaning (which no one asked her to do - she was very anal about her level of cleanliness and was scrubbing floors and all kinds of surfaces) and she made a chore chart for everyone and had a meeting (at a time I was in studio) with all the roommates about it except me. I was not aware of the chore chart so I didn\u2019t do my chores for the week, and when I came home one day I was confronted about it. I am not a very confrontational person and I got upset because I literally had no idea what my roommates were talking about (which apparently didn\u2019t matter). I grew up in a family of 6, so I\u2019m pretty clean but I\u2019m used to living in a mess. I do try to keep the common areas clean and do things like my dishes, but I\u2019m not as worried about something like scrubbing down the bathroom every week. Which I don\u2019t mind helping out with chores, but again I had no idea that a chore chart was even a thing. \n\nSituations like that happened more often, which I think is mostly due to the fact that I wasn\u2019t there which resulted in me getting blamed for things as I wasn\u2019t there to defend myself. I would get yelled at for leaving dishes in the sink (most of the time that weren\u2019t mine) for a day, and for other small things. One time I left the door unlocked one night when I got home late (around 3 AM) from working on a project and I went straight to bed and simply forgot. The next day I was confronted by all of my roommates sitting on the couch when I got home saying that I needed to apologize to them for leaving the door unlocked and how I didn\u2019t care about anyone else except myself. Now, to be fair, around this time there were stories of someone breaking into houses (not where we lived but still) so people were a little on edge. However, they are saying how selfish I am while sitting on my couch, watching my TV, using my Fire stick. \n\nThe thing that really made me mad though was whenever I brought over my boyfriend. My boyfriend didn\u2019t live in the same town (he went to a different university) so whenever he would come over he would usually stay for the weekend. We had agreed at the beginning of the year it was fine to have guys over as long as you told people. However, I would come home multiple times to my roommates having their boyfriends over, which wasn\u2019t a big deal, but they would always chew me out if I forgot to give them a few days notice of my boyfriend coming up. \n\nAt the end of the semester, I brought my boyfriend over to stay for the week of finals because he was done with school and I wanted to hang out. I forgot to tell my roommates he was coming because I was spending a lot of time working on a project and it slipped my mind. When I was heading out the night he came over my roommates ambushed me and told me that my boyfriend couldn\u2019t stay over for the week and were telling me how disrespectful I was and all this stuff. I started crying and left to hang out with my friends. I got pretty drunk and my sober friend told me that we should just take all of my stuff in the common spaces into my room if my roommates thought I was so selfish. So, me being drunk, I agreed expecting my roommates to be asleep and that I could just move my stuff quietly. When we got to my house however, my roommates were watching my TV and I didn\u2019t want to chicken out (liquid courage I suppose) and I began moving all my stuff upstairs without saying a word. My roommates realized what was happening and started screaming at me and calling me all sorts of names saying how my parents must be so proud of me and all this shit. They kept saying how loud I was being and the only thing I said that night was, \u201cYou guys are the ones screaming at me right now.\u201d \n\nLong story short, I moved all my stuff into my room (couldn\u2019t fit the couch, so I just took the cushions) and my roommates wanted me to leave. I agreed but they wouldn\u2019t agree to a sub leaser (All my roommates had to agree per the lease) so I had to stay for the next semester. After I cooled down I offered to move my stuff back downstairs but they declined. So, Reddit, AITA?\n\nTDLR: I moved into a 5 person house with 4 girls I didn\u2019t know who confronted me about petty things constantly even though I wasn\u2019t the only one who wasn\u2019t doing all my chores or having my boyfriend over without telling people. One night when the confrontations came to a head and I was called selfish, I moved all of my stuff out of the common rooms (which was pretty much everything except for kitchen stuff) and into my bedroom. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZxfRun9Bvx9PzbbeouWUwZSKTQbf6M3b", "post_id": "a0uzec", "action": {"description": "rejecting a dude who reminds me of my former stepfather", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for rejecting a dude who reminds me of my former stepfather?", "text": "(just for context, I'm a female. 19 and have a diagnosis of autism go to university and work part time). A guy really likes me but some of his mannerisms, his laugh and his style reminds me so much of my former stepfather. He wasn't abusive but was a major twat. He was just racist, hated Americans, Muslims, blacks, Jews, women ect. Went to jail for a while and blamed everyone but himself. Never got a job and it was the polish people's fault of course. Constantly broke up with my mum if she said something he didn't like. Used the silent treatment. Ugh he was just awful. This guy is lovely and not at all like this so idk why my brain keeps doing this. AITA for rejecting him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3q8bafBw7iv8G4bpd9D8wMDUGWsCadUh", "post_id": "b7h26x", "action": {"description": "not giving my roommate a ride home", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my roommate a ride home?", "text": "TL;DR at the bottom.\n\nI\u2019m currently in college and sharing an apartment with my sis and two friends who we\u2019ve known since middle school. One of my friend has a car, so she drives herself. The other doesn\u2019t own a car, so I volunteered to drive him to college since we\u2019re friends.\n\nSo I wanted to leave on Fri to go home for spring break, but he wanted to leave Sat. He planned on writing an essay due that Fri after his class. My friend\u2019s bday was on Thurs and few friends were waiting for me to come back Fri night to celebrate. I\u2019m also 6 hours away so of course I\u2019ll want to leave asap and hang out with friends I rarely see. They also work, so it\u2019s hard for us to make plans.\n\nSo, we have a class in the same building. I come early and sit on a bench to do hw. He comes about 20 min before his class starts to chat. I asked him about leaving Fri for spring break. He said he had midterms to study for and a 1000-word essay due Fri night, and he plans on writing it the day of, so he wanted to leave Sat. This was our conversation:\n\nMe: Can you work on your essay ahead of time?\n\nHim: No. I need to study for midterms. I\u2019m not changing my plans.\n\nMe: Can you work on it in-between classes?\n\nCan\u2019t remember what he said but basically bc he didn\u2019t want to.\n\nMe: Just do it in the car.\n\nHim: I need to be comfortable and lay everything out on my bed so I know what to write.\n\nMe: My friends having a bday party, and I really want to make it.\n\nHim: Tell your friends to move the party to Sat.\n\nMe: No. We have plans already and that\u2019s the only other day they're free bc they have to work.\n\nDuring the conversation he sounded kinda irked and talked loudly, so I decided to drop it bc I was annoying him. The next day, I brought up the topic again.\n\nMe: Can you finish your essay in time?\n\nHim: I got another hw due Fri.\n\nMe: Just work on it ahead of time.\n\nHim: No. I did good on my test today bc I followed my plan. I\u2019m not risking my grades for your friends.\n\nHe was talking aggressively again, so I just left. I was getting frustrated at this point and sent him a message saying I\u2019m leaving at 2 Fri and to let me to know if he wants me to wait for him. He tells me to fuck off.\n\nFri comes and I\u2019m ready to leave. My sis tells me that he asked her if the rest of the food in fridge is his (He didn\u2019t pay for most of it, but whatever). So he plans on staying, and I shouldn\u2019t wait.\n\nSo now, he hasn\u2019t spoken to me once. He\u2019s purposely avoiding me... He walked past me in the hallway multiple times without saying a word, treating me like a stranger.\n\nTLDR: Leaving my college roommate who doesn\u2019t have a car at college 6 hours away bc he didn\u2019t want to work on his essay or study ahead of time and waited last minute while I had plans with friends that work a lot, and it was hard for us to make plans, so I wanted to go home asap.\n\nSo AITA for leaving him behind? Is it justified for him to be mad and treat me this way?\n\nOur last conversation: [Link](https://imgur.com/7IdD7iG)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1Z1YKC8WMuZWreLBy92K7eYSmkiEdg9z", "post_id": "b9s39o", "action": {"description": "removing myself from my ex step daughter's life", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "WIBTA for removing myself from my ex step daughter\u2019s life?", "text": "I was married to my ex husband for seven years before we divorced.  He had a daughter from a previous relationship who was 12 at the time.  In the beginning we had a very strained relationship understandably, but she grew to like me eventually.  For whatever reason though I just never felt all that much of a connection to her on my part though, despite my best efforts at it.  I always outwardly showed her love and kindness.  I always thought that it might be a \u201cfake it until you make it\u201d kind of thing so I just kept the act up hoping one day it would become real for me.  It never really did though.  \n\nNow that her father and I are no longer together I\u2019m in an awkward position.  She stays in touch often.  She texts multiple times a week and is constantly trying to arrange spending time together.  I\u2019m still pretty raw about my divorce and these interactions really are just a reminder of him and nothing more.  I\u2019m just getting nothing out of them emotionally besides painful reminders. \n\nIf she was a child I might try to keep up the act, but she\u2019s an adult now.  I\u2019ve started making excuses not to get together with her and have become as distant as possible through texts.  Giving only the bare minimum answers or outright ignoring some.  I don\u2019t really want to be brutally honest with her since she\u2019s done nothing wrong in all this.  So I\u2019m just doing a slow back step out of her life.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 26, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RMaLhqXjVSU6YJvhReoXyysigFPtYqF9", "post_id": "b3cvy8", "action": {"description": "joining a bowling league", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for joining a bowling league?", "text": "Gf and I live together.  I works full time and she works part time.  It\u2019s been going ok except for some disagreements on how we spend our free time.  My gf never wants to do anything.  It\u2019s like pulling teeth just trying to get her to go to a bar.  And once we\u2019re there she\u2019ll want to go back home almost right away.  Don\u2019t get me wrong, I like relaxing at home sometimes too, but I also need to have more than that on my days off.  \n\nI\u2019ve tried to come up with a solution.   There\u2019s this app, meetup.   It basically lists all the social activities and groups going on in town.   It was a huge list and I went through it suggesting things to her.   She shot them all down, wouldn\u2019t even try one.  Who doesn\u2019t like trivia night?!  \n\nSo I gave up.  Save for going out to eat occasionally I let it go.  A buddy of mine wanted to get back into bowling and asked me if I wanted to join a league with him.   It sounded fun so I said sure.  When I told my gf about it she got upset with me.  \n\nShe says that between my weekly game night and now bowling, I\u2019m going out of my way not to spend time with her.   She says she didn\u2019t move in to feel neglected.  I tried to justify it by telling her she never wants to do anything, but she just said that it shouldn\u2019t be such a chore to spend time at home with her.   That during the week we\u2019re too busy to connect like we used to and weekends should be about us.  \n\nI\u2019d be thrilled if she wanted to go out and bond doing something together, that\u2019s why I went through the meetup list, but she refuses.   I don\u2019t just want to sit around watching Netflix all weekend.   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "usdLIvOZbKBF3bcUvb2agk5DMQybMrSJ", "post_id": "ay4gt3", "action": {"description": "asking again", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked again?", "text": "For context, I was best friends with this girl until last year, we'll call her Carol.  We had a falling out a while back (that's a story for another day), but I've always been nice and polite to her despite everything. I lent her a 50th anniversary, limited edition copy of one of my favorite books of all time, The Outsiders. I lent Carol the book in November 2016, 2 and a half years ago.\n\nShe still hasn't given it back.\n\nI asked about two months after I lent it to her. Then, I asked again last year. No luck. I asked again last week and she just said, \"oh it's in my house somewhere.\" I texted her last night and asked when she thought she would be able to give it to me.  She didn't respond. Then, I asked her if she got my text today and she said \"yeah\" and then walked away in a hurry.\n\nI know I can just get it from the library if I want to read it again, but I paid $20 for that book and I really love my books. It takes me a lot of trust to lend someone a book.\n\nShe hasn't given me a concrete answer about where my book is in 2.5 YEARS. It's driving me nuts!\n\nSo, WIBTA if I asked again or should I just leave it and buy a new copy?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hmukI0f1PBJLeMIAkYUjmkJ68ve5Ho6N", "post_id": "ahsbk4", "action": {"description": "wanting to offer better structure for my 16 year old brother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to offer better structure for my (27F) 16 year old brother?", "text": "Writing on a cell phone, so please bear with me.\n\nA little back story here, I have 4 siblings 34F-half sister with same mom, 29F same dad, same mom, 27M step-sibling( and half brother to Tim) and 16M, Tim (fake name). 3 of us left home at 16 or earlier because of abusive parents and the situation at home being hell ( me 27F,  34F and 27M). 29F stayed longer with my mother and step-father ( Tims dad) due to her being slower than the rest of us and could not live on her own.\n\nWhen my mother and Tims dad split when he was about 10, 29F finally was able to move out on her own. So now it's just my mother and Tim ( because his dad got married and his wife wants nothing to do with my little brother, and he's always been lazy in taking care of his two boys anyways).  \n\nMy mother was very abusive towards us when we were children ( she was loving one minute then would explode), but with her diagnosis on being bi-polar and her being on medication has turned her into a loving, caring and emotionally present parent. She would do anything for her children. The only problem is, she's mentally drained, everyday is a challenge and educating a teenager is way out of her strength range right now.\n\nTim has a hard time with school ( always has been that way) and has already failed 1 high school year and is about to fail another one. He's actually a really smart kid with lots of dreams and ambitions, but when he starts something, he nevers finishes it. He has abandonment issues because of his father not wanting to see him often, low self esteem because he doesn't understand that people really love him and used to (if not still has) suicidal tendencies along with other things.\n\nMy mom cannot give him guidance or structure because she is not strong enough to face a teenager right now, and I've offered to take him in for the rest of the school year, to help get those grades back up and get him into a routine. The problem is he would have to change high schools, since I live an hour and a half away. He also would have to learn structure, something he's never really had before, because I will make sure he does his homework and understands the subjects and have an actual schedule.\n\nOf course he doesn't want to leave his \"I get to do what I want when I want it\" life style. I understand that. Also, uprooting him in the middle of a school year is unsettling, plus he'll be the new kid, will have to make new friends ( I would still do everything in my power for him to see his other friends too). I know that because I moved over 30 times in my school years, luckily, I only went to 5 different schools.\n\nI really want him to finish highschool, be there for him, guide him. Because right now, he's failing hard, has no motivation, is lazy with his work and doesn't care about anything ( typical teenager). Plus he smokes weed every single day. I wouldn't mind that much if he did it on the weekends. But he smokes every day.\n\nSo. I feel like my only option is to force him to come live with me and my boyfriend ( he's a really good guy and Tim likes him) and for him to hate me for a while until he gets into a less toxic routine. I just had a 40 min long talk with him and he refuses to do that. He says he's finally happy and that I'm trying to take it away from him. Am I the asshole in this situation? I genuinly want to know if I'm pushing things too far. \n\nSorry about the long post, my heart is aching right now. He's the sibling I am closest to. We usually have a great time together and I can't let him go in a downwards spiral without helping him... my 34 year old sister helped me when I was a teenager, and I'm so thankful to her.  \n\n( if it matters, my boyfriend and I are fine in our financial matters, live in a 2 story house with a basement and have 3 bedrooms. We difinitely have enough room for him)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cKm51D2gsxIqME8Dx4MBDwI71029ZuEN", "post_id": "b222yn", "action": {"description": "not wanting to do chores at 12 a.m", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting To Do Chores At 12 a.m?", "text": "Repost because I forgot the acronym.\n\nAnti-bonus: This effing site tells me to repost but won\u2019t let me repost for 10 whole minutes? I\u2019m already pissed off and this is complete bullshit I just want to go to bed\n\nI went to sleep at 9 p.m. (My schedule has been shit for years and I\u2019m getting normal), but I woke up to pee and get a drink. The sink in my bathroom doesn\u2019t work so I went out to the main room to get my drink (literally from my door to the kitchen sink is like 5 steps).\n\nSo in this 2 minute interval my mom decides the laundry needs to be taken down. In the dark (all 3 basement lights are out) through the liter boxes (they are near the door and the cats are messy so there\u2019s pee so I stepped in pee) downstairs.\n\nMe: Can\u2019t I do it tomorrow when there\u2019s light down there\n\nHer: No, because it\u2019s been there forever!\n\nThis is her laundry and her blankets that she told me to put in that spot by the way.\n\nSo now I\u2019m mad that I was asked to do this on my way back to bed, and the anger and physical activity has now woken me up.\n\nBackstory: So we recently got a cat but she fights with my other cat so we have to keep them separate. We can keep them mellow if more of us are in the room but there weren\u2019t so I had to catch the slippery, small cat who dug her claws into \u00fey arm and let out smelly farts because she\u2019s scared of the older cat.\n\nJust as I\u2019m going to put new cat in her room, the older cat is in the room. So I say \u201cgo chase her out of there while I got this cat\u201d (she\u2019s hard to catch, and it\u2019s a miracle I got her without her swiping at me because she doesn\u2019t like to be caught or held or put in her room).\n\nAnd she freaking says \u201cI was already up, you run her out\u201d\n\nWhile I\u2019m holding this terrified cat, I\u2019m supposed to walk toward the thing she\u2019s scared of, or let her go amd have to spend another 20 minutes trying to catch her if I put her down to run the other car out of her room.\n\nSo I\u2019m super pissed at this point (it happened line 10 minutes ago so I\u2019m still pissed)\n\nSo I get her in there and she growls and digs into my arm because th cat she doesn\u2019t like is there, and the older cat runs behind a chair where I can\u2019t reach her, and now our third even older cat has also entered the room. So I was like \u201cscrew it\u201d and gave up.\n\nLuckily I went back and was able to chase out the older cat bwfore they fought.\n\nAm I the asshole for being pissed about having to do laundry and rangle cats for 20 minutes instead of being able to go back to fucking bed?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ooniZslI6jCiGa3cwK2Epla8k9H9qgQT", "post_id": "avgrqr", "action": {"description": "being angry with my roommate for using our room", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for being angry with my roommate for using our room?", "text": "I\u2019m a freshman in college in my second semester with a roommate. I\u2019ve been having issues that I think are valid, but may very well be selfish. I don\u2019t want to act on them until I\u2019ve been judged. \n\nWhat are the issues? Here we go.\n\n1. My roommate blow dries her hair while I am sleeping (well, trying to sleep). I have a sleep disorder so I sleep at weird times. But she blow dries her hair at 9 am. Which is really early for me. \nMy side: she should go to the bathroom, I\u2019m trying to sleep. \nHer side (likely): it\u2019s her room too and it\u2019s not her fault that I sleep a lot. \n\n2. She opens the blinds while I\u2019m sleeping. I was sleeping at 1145 am today. She comes back from class and opens the blinds. I grunt so she knows I\u2019m here. The blinds remain open. \nMy side: I\u2019m SLEEPING \nHer side: it\u2019s 1145 and it\u2019s her room too \n\n3. Her bedtime varies greatly, and when she goes to sleep, I can turn on NO LIGHTS. By varies I mean 8-1230. It\u2019s a complete surprise. \nI come back from rehearsals and I can\u2019t put my stuff away cause it\u2019s pitch black. Now, this is fair and I understand, but my main problem is when I\u2019m asleep, she comes in and turns on the lights. And I mean at night. Like, if i go to bed at 11 and she comes back at 1130 she will turn on all the lights and wake me up. \nMy side: this is an unfair double standard \nHer side: not sure what she\u2019d say\n\n4. First semester I was never in the room, so I never threw my trash away in the room trashcan. She would throw away everything in there, and then ask me to take the trash out every 4 days. Even though often I had literally nothing in there that\u2019s mine. \nMy side: your trash, your problem\nHer side: it\u2019s a shared room. \n\nThat\u2019s pretty much it. Have at em boys.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tYUykUV1cBBaT4DRncg4lM8oCURTvR3F", "post_id": "athlnu", "action": {"description": "cancelling my wedding if my partner had a miscarriage", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "WIBTA if I cancelled my wedding if my partner had a miscarriage?", "text": "As a man, I would always take responsibility for my actions so if I hooked up with a girl and got her pregnant I would take responsibility and marry her. I would not ask her to get an abortion due to personal reasons. \n\nIf the wedding is already all planned but she had a miscarriage, WIBTA for cancelling the wedding?\n\nThis isn\u2019t a real scenario just something I was discussing with a friend. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pOIMCjTbFv3N99NnfgyDvQgpm3eLCtCJ", "post_id": "atfxhx", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I can no longer support his work after his staff were rude to me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend I can no longer support his work after his staff were rude to me?", "text": "My boyfriend, 29, is a director at a youth theatre. He directs their shows and I\u2019ve been to see a lot of them. I used to work as a receptionist/admin assistant at a performing arts school, which is how we met as his company rented rooms at ours and he chatted and one thing lead to another \n\nHowever a year ago, I got diagnosed with severe depression. I\u2019d had it a while, but it got so bad I ended up with suicidal thoughts and had to leave my job. My boyfriend has stuck by me through all of this even though it hasn\u2019t been easy \n\nSo for a year I\u2019ve been out of work. I\u2019m at a point now where I\u2019m better and have been trying for a lot of jobs. But none have been successful.\n\n\nMy boyfriend tells me his company are looking for a admin assistant and I\u2019d be working for his boss, who I\u2019ve met, who\u2019s the company director.\n\nHe\u2019s told him before about me and my struggle so knows how desperate I am so my boyfriend and I think great! Let\u2019s put my name forward. \n\nHe asks me for an interview. It goes great and it\u2019s clear I can do it. However in the interview he says something which hurts me. \u201cI know it\u2019s been hard for you, and being second best to your boyfriend all the time can\u2019t be easy, in terms of career success...\u201d I leave feeling hurt but brush it off as I really want the job.\n\nHe asks me to come for a \u201csecond interview\u201d even though he knows me well, but I do it. My boyfriend tells me there\u2019s no way I can\u2019t get this job as he knows what I did before. And has recommended me. \n\nAfter that, I get an email telling me I was unsuccessful. My boyfriend is confused so I write an email asking for feedback. I get a call instead, he says \u201cDon\u2019t take it out on us please.\u201d I explain I\u2019m not and my email had been professional. He says \u201cLook, we don\u2019t want you and that\u2019s that. Don\u2019t act like a spoiled child. We saw more talented candidates and even though I know you personally I can\u2019t take someone on out of pity because they\u2019re not doing so great\u201d\n\nNow this would\u2019ve been an okay answer if I was still struggling with depression but I\u2019m not and told him in the interview I\u2019m ready to go back to work. The role was exactly the same as the job I had. Same admin work, literally the lowest paid job, sorting papers, taking cash from kids. Phoning the parents. I\u2019d just be with him in an office doing that. It\u2019s hardly \u201ctalent\u201d so he doesn\u2019t make sense.\n\nI found him very arrogant.The way he spoke to me proves he thinks less of me. My boyfriend agrees he was rude however refuses to say anything as his job is important Since this guy will be in the audience in my boyfriends shows I told him I don\u2019t want to come see them or support his work at all.\n\nWe argued and he\u2019s mad at me because it\u2019s nothing to do with him. But I don\u2019t want to be involved in his work anymore. I\u2019ve been judged and made to feel like someone who isn\u2019t worthy of being a part of the team. Also I\u2019m finding it hard to discuss his work whenever he talks about it\n\nAm I overreacting or should I tell him I\u2019m standing by this?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EVOF9Tor2ZSVXxh7JGJ7vPLUiReE5xyx", "post_id": "b67var", "action": {"description": "quitting on short notice", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for quitting on short notice?", "text": "I\u2019m 18 and still in high school and I work at a fast food restaurant and I was scheduled to work 38 hours all of which are after school and on 3 out of the 5 shifts I\u2019d have to close by myself which is a 3 person job so I would be getting out super late and I told my manager this and she said that it had to be this way and if I wasn\u2019t willing to work that I shouldn\u2019t have got the job. I can\u2019t do a full time job and school and after she told me this I told her that I\u2019d work my shift today but I quit after today cause I can\u2019t do so many hours and school ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "u2NKw8gXaNQwbLPp4ynTKkYH8cvXFeO6", "post_id": "a0vhoo", "action": {"description": "smoking without my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for smoking without my boyfriend?", "text": "This morning I smoked out of my boyfriend's vape, he was asleep, we live together, I figured we share what we have. \n\nI asked him if he wanted a hit since he looked like he was waking up, he asks me what cartridge I'm using and gets upset because I was smoking the one he was saving for himself, though I had no idea. \n\nHe then says it's fucked up of me to smoke his shit without him. And puts it away. \n\nI'm upset over what he said, I really though we share things and all but am I the asshole for doing what I did and being upset over it? \n\nHe also believes I wasted half of it not smoking it right, which I think he is kind of right about it. I don't smoke as much as he does. \n\nSome background, we have known each other for 2 years (online) then started dating earlier this year and finally moved in together nearly 3 months now. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "J0teMK1SgZgUhjVvBaBM2zybpIpZj7IX", "post_id": "aeirpo", "action": {"description": "letting my best friend spend lots of money on me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: for letting my best friend spend lots of money on me?", "text": "Heres the thing my best friends spends a good deal of money each paycheck buying me games this makes me feel extremely guilty. I lost my job essentially getting screwed over after dealing with the death of a loved one i have severe ocd and it makes finding a job. And keeping one really hard. My friend  buys me all kinds of games old and new because i couldint afford it.  He spents hundreds of dollars on me and it makes me feel gulty as hell. A little context though awhile back the situation was reversed i. Had a job and my friend didnt and i did splurge and spend on him and my friend has a situation where he makes close tp 1300 a month and pays no rent so he never goes without on account of helping me im also an aspiring streamer and he sees as helping with my dream also i never coirce him never make him feel bad or anything like that to tell you he truth he is an amazing person and i dont think he cares at all. I think im just scared that im using him or he will resent me am i the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "phN15uO57w9LUTKgQaSrZ26fEDnp0mZu", "post_id": "aseuog", "action": {"description": "getting upset that my husband is drinking", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting upset that my husband is drinking?", "text": "I am currently 6 months pregnant and a recovering alcoholic, 7 years sober. Before I got pregnant, my husband drinking wasn't a huge issue or a temptation. However, once I got pregnant, the urge to start drinking again came on very strong. I was really struggling, especially when my husband would drink, so I asked him to stop drinking during the pregnancy, and he agreed.\n\nHe went out last night with friends and told me he was DDing. He gets back and I can immediately smell alcohol on his breath. I ask if he's been drinking and he denies it at first, but then admits he lied about DDing and was actually drinking. He also admits that he's done this several other times during the pregnancy, and claims it wasn't a big deal since I didn't find out.\n\nToday he told me I was being unfair expecting him not to drink just because I can't. I told him again how hard it is for me right now and how strong the urge is to drink, and he told me that was my problem to deal with, not his. AITA for expecting him to follow through on this and support me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zViyLBr0QqUBHogIKumyAqzp7fPbHLZg", "post_id": "axuaht", "action": {"description": "asking friends to pay for an AIRBNB even if they are not sleeping over the full night", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA For asking friends to pay for an AIRBNB even if they are not sleeping over the full night?", "text": "I rented out an AIRBNB for a friends birthday surprise get together with friends.  Due to this the AIRBNB is a big house and can fit several people to spend the night. To help cover the fees I asked everyone to pay even if they are not sleeping over.\n\nNow, everyone was okay with helping to pitch in since we all make similar pay and understand where we are coming from. Yet, it wasn\u2019t until recently that a couple thought it was wrong to charge them since they weren\u2019t spending the night and are only visiting for the get together.\nThe couple mentioned that since they are bring alcohol and some goodies for the birthday friend that it should be more than enough on their part and charging them wouldn\u2019t be ideal.\n\nTo put out some numbers: I was charging everyone sleeping over or not to pay $30 per person.\n\nI was going to drop the rate for them for $30 buck for both of them, but they are now going around asking the other people if they are going to pay me and I\u2019m not sure where to stand on this issue anymore.\n\nThoughts and advice welcomed!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "msUKTR242WdEsDvR3EH8e6pldNX9s20H", "post_id": "aqn4sn", "action": {"description": "wanting a birthday present for my husband even though", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting a birthday present for my husband even though...", "text": "My husband and I have had an EXTREMELY difficult couple of months after experiencing two miscarriages, which may be neither here nor there, except that it's made me a bit of an emotional basket case and I'm having trouble deciding if I'm being rational in this situation or not.\n\n​\n\nSo, for Christmas I wanted a cat. My husband and I fell in love with two, so he suggested we get two, and we did. I felt sort of bad about it (dunno why) so I said \"one can be my Christmas present and one can be my Birthday present!\" because my birthday (February 18) is pretty close to Christmas.\n\n​\n\nThe other night, he said, \"you know the other cat was your birthday present, right?\" I was kind of taken aback and I've been feeling upset about it. To be clear, I do NOT want or expect something extravagant or expensive. AITA to expect/want at least...something? Even if it's small, even if it costs $15, just...something? I feel really petty and stupid bringing it up with him but it's been bugging me.  So, AITA? And if I'm not, what the hell should I say to him without sounding really obnoxious?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "avb4OfXKzXrisOVUgsJUGHnc1WcDYJXt", "post_id": "ajxtba", "action": {"description": "wanting financial help from parents", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for wanting financial help from parents?", "text": "This happened a few months ago, but I am having a hard time letting this go, and I feel as though my parents and my relationship is permanently messed up now. Will try and be as brief as possible-\n\nHusband and I have two kids, and when my first son was born my mom offered to provide childcare for us, and did so for 3.5 years.  Obviously this was a huge undertaking, I am extremely grateful they did this, obviously saved us a ton of money and emotional turmoil, etc. I made every effort to be as appreciative as I could possibly be. \n\nAfter kid 1 was born, my mom came to my house (30 minute drive each way) every day. After kid 2 was born, they asked that we drive the kids up to them in the morning, and said they would bring them back.  We did this for a few months, but it became a huge pain in the ass to get two kids out of the house by 6:30 in the morning, drive 30 minutes, drop kids off, then drive 30 minutes back to work, since we used to live literally right next to my work.  Also, I started feeling SO much guilt about my parents doing the drive back, obviously a huge pain in the ass for them as well. \n\nHusband never really understood the problem with this, mostly due to him never having to do it (leaves for work too early).  Parents and I start talking about us moving closer to make things easier on everyone.  Took a while to convince husband, as he did not want to live in the area that parents live in (neither did I, just random suburban sprawl away from city center) Finally wore him down, as the drive was making me and parents batty, and as winter approached I started to worry about the safety of the kids being in the car that much. \n\nSince it was wintertime and we needed the move to be \u201cworth it\u201d (as in, within 5 miles of parents) we didn\u2019t have many houses to choose from.  We ended up settling on a house that is NOT what we ever would have wanted for a variety of reasons- but it was mere blocks away from my parents, so we bought it.  Mortgage payment is double what we were paying before, not ideal, but its a more expensive area and we still had leftover cash each month, so no biggie. \n\nMy commute to work is now 45 minutes to an hour each way, which sucks, but is still less than I was driving before, and now I don\u2019t have kids screaming in the back. During house hunting process, my parents were ALL ABOUT IT, so excited, couldn\u2019t wait to have the setup be easier also.  I asked them, SO MANY TIMES, \u201care you guys SURE you want to keep doing this?? because if we move, thats a commitment, and we won\u2019t be able to afford a daycare at that point.\u201d Yep, they reassured me it was fine.  About halfway through the year, at mom\u2019s request, I enrolled older son in part-time preschool and also hired some part-time help for my mom. She then asked for me to pay for more help or more days at preschool, and I told her that I was sorry but I could not afford to do so. \n\nThis was all good for about eight months, when my mom (who has a variety of health issues) gets very ill and is suddenly hospitalized for two weeks.  Learning of this sent us into instant panic mode, obviously because we were concerned about her health, but also because we had no backup childcare plan. I stayed home for a week, cobbled together babysitters for another two weeks (which was hell, since kids were NOT used to that), and burned through our extra cash for that month doing so. NBD I think, just gotta get through this illness. \n\nThen I get a text message from mom that says \u201cmy doctor thinks taking care of children has taken a toll on my health and I need to quit. I don\u2019t want to leave you hanging, so heres the name of an in-home daycare.\u201d \n\nThis text threw me into a rage fit.  Not only do I not have time to look into this daycare, which I don\u2019t like, but asking me to suddenly cough up an additional $1600 a month AFTER I had used all the spare cash that month on babysitters is the DEFINITION of leaving us hanging. I asked if my dad could fill in a day or two and she replied \u201cthere comes a time when you need to look outside family for help.\u201d WTF \n\nI was honestly so angry and stressed that I could not even manage to talk to her for weeks. The in-home daycare lady even ended up filling the spot before I could even get there, so that was not an option, and all of the daycares around us had year-long waiting lists. Over the next three months, ended up burning through huge chunk of savings to pay friends and care.com people to watch kids, while I spent many sleepless nights stressing about what to do. \n\nMom was still pretty sick for a while, so I was also trying my best not to let her know I was so upset while she was trying to heal.  Finally when we got together to \u201ctalk,\u201d and I talked calmly through my anger, she just seemed...bewildered?  No matter how many times I explained it to her she did not get why I was so angry. Still doesn\u2019t. We have had THREE hour-plus conversations and at the start she always says \u201cI just don\u2019t see why you are so angry with me. I took care of the boys for years, I did a good job.\u201d I have never disputed that! I have fallen allll over myself to be properly appreciative, the point is that they never acknowledged, in any way shape or form, the sudden, extreme financial burden that they placed on us.  \n\nTo be totally clear, I completely agree that she needed to stop doing childcare for us, completely legit.  Of course moms health is important to me, and I know she needed to stop. And I am extremely grateful for all that they did provide.  BUT now we are barely making ends meet, through connections we found daycare spots but are now paying $1900 a month, AND the kids are getting sick so often that I frequently have to shell out for emergency sick child care at $160 a day. \n\nI have tried every which way to explain this to her, and I don\u2019t know if it is because they have always been well-off and don\u2019t think about monthly budgets, or what, but they don\u2019t get this at all. They keep saying, \u201cI thought you guys were fine?!?\u201d uhh, you mean all those times I told you I couldn\u2019t afford 3 day a week preschool??  \n\nMom actually said \u201cbut you told me you had a decent amount of money saved?\u201d  You mean my 401K??? you want me to burn through that until the kids are in kindergarten?\u201d to which she replied \u201csometimes parents have to make tough choices.\u201d what???  that is a real solution in her mind? \n\nSo now we are faced with moving to a cheaper place, less than a year after we moved here, which would put us in the position of trying to find another daycare spot in a different area, which is damn near impossible.  We would almost certainly lose money on this house.  Although we don\u2019t love this place, moving sucks and neither of us are keen to do it again. \n\nWhat I can\u2019t get over is why they have never offered us money. Still haven\u2019t.  When they know we are struggling.  I understand that when mom first got sick she was probably in panic mode too and wasnt thinking about the money aspect, which I totally get. But now it has been months, they KNOW we are really having a hard time, and just...nothing?  When we moved partly at their urging?  They have the money, they absolutely do. They have given us money twice before as a gift (for our wedding, then for kids college fund) so it isnt like that doesnt occur to them.  I don\u2019t feel like I can ask flat-out for a variety of reasons that would take too long to explain. \n\nTL;DR- parents suddenly tapped out of childcare due to health problems, after we moved less than a year ago to make the setup easier.  We now live in a house we don\u2019t like, in an area we don\u2019t want to live in, and can no longer afford now that we have the additional expense of childcare.  Am I out of line for thinking they should be helping pay to get us out of this situation?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1dCkH1j4MgNmIxO2yMdg8uHutAFELmi4", "post_id": "9wu851", "action": {"description": "calling my teacher dumb", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for calling my teacher dumb?", "text": "In the first quarter of grades in my school, I had two pretty bad quiz grades, which brought my grade total to a 75. Because my grades will be sent out to colleges she bumped up my grade (along with other students) to an 80. \n\nLast Wednesday she gave us 2 worksheets to do, and we had to translate 2 pages of a book we\u2019re reading. She told us these were due Friday, and that we would have a substitute on that Thursday. That substitute got some messed up instructions and told us to finish the translation by that class. I did. The substitute then told us that the other 2 papers would be due the next day (Friday). I did one after school and planned to finish the other one during class. Friday arrives and I start working on the worksheet, and my Italian teacher tells us that she said on Wednesday that the two papers and translation were both due on Thursday (the day before) and took my empty paper and counted it as a grade. I was understandably upset at the substitute for giving us faulty information, because maybe I heard her wrong on Wednesday. Italian teacher tells me that it was all my fault. I explain that I was sorry, that my Grandmother was in the hospital (she was brought into the hospital Thursday afternoon, returned home Friday night), and that my mind is in another place. She said that my grandmother being in the hospital is what I get for not doing my homework.\n\nThat Saturday night I had a few friends over (One of them has had her in the past, another one has the same Italian class as I, and my last friend has never had this teacher). Together we made a video called \u201c[Redacted] High School staff portrayed by Spongebob\u201d. For the two other Italian teachers we used the Ravioli Ravioli scene. For my current Italian teacher we used the \u201cWhen people want to sound smart the talk loud, right?\u201d \u201cCorrect\u201d scene from the episode Band geeks. For other teachers and school staff, we made fun of they\u2019re bald, called them terrible cops, and made fun of their personalities. My current Italian teacher is the only teacher who didn\u2019t enjoy it, as when I walked in to class this morning she said she was mad at me and explained why.\n\nI\u2019d also like to make it a point that my friend who is also in my Italian class was the one with the Idea for her spongebob scene, and I was insisting against its inclusion, but it made it in anyways. My friend took credit for that scene, but Im the one who she\u2019s mad at. Finally I\u2019d like to add that the teacher is loud, and she even points it out.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "d8F9Huoa7pp51ynaW3jHBYH7qKqrO1rO", "post_id": "aihylc", "action": {"description": "falling asleep", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for falling asleep?", "text": "Long time lurker - finally posting for the first time please bear with me here \n\nFor the past couple of weeks I was seeing this guy casually (N) that I met off Tinder and things were going pretty well. I work 5 days a week including one weekend day at a medical clinic with long hours so I go to sleep pretty early to make sure I'm well rested. Saturday I went on a small day trip with my friends and got back home during the early evening. Now throughout the day Saturday, N texted me asking me about how the trip was going and what time I\"d be home so he could drive over to see me. Fast forward to the evening when I'm home and he texts me that when his errand is done at 9pm, he'd drive over. So now that I have a time frame as to what time he would arrive, I shower, unpack my things and settle in to wait for him. 9pm rolls around and suddenly he messages that he can't make it. Whatever. Fine. He's flaked a few times before so it came as no surprise. I text him back no problem and to have a safe drive home. \n\nSunday comes and I'm exhausted from the day trip before still but I run a few errands for my mom because she was sick in bed that day and also prepare dinner for the family. N and I were texting sparsely throughout the day mostly just asking after each other but not really saying if we wanted to see each other that day because I had work on Monday early as usual. 8pm rolls around and I'm serving food to everyone when I get a text from N that says \"I'm coming now\" and I start freaking out because I'm eating dinner with my family and we aren't nearly close enough or even a thing where I can introduce him to anyone. I text him back in all caps saying not to come because I was eating dinner with my family and then radio silence from him. After dinner, I clean up and start getting ready for bed because there was still no text from him after I told him I was eating dinner so I assumed he wasn't coming. He didn't say \"what time are you done with dinner I'll come over\" or \"let me know when I can come\" so I just went to bed at 9:00pm because I wake up around 6am for work everyday and I was already tired from earlier. The next morning I wake up to a text from him at 9:44pm Sunday night saying \"\"ok good, how about now\" followed by \"i'm outside let me in\". Well folks, I just about shit my pants. Immediately texted him back apologies on how I fell asleep but still haven't gotten any responses from him. To throw it out there - this guy has flaked a few times times throughout our few weeks of knowing each other so I didn't know if he was actually going to follow through on coming over in freezing weather ( he has my address from a previous visit) plus the actual lack of communication on his part is making me a little nuts. AITA??\n\nTL:DR - fell asleep on a guy who didn't really say he was coming to my house UNTIL HE TEXTED HE WAS AT MY HOUSE. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ax1jwm6iHhShUW5DJBzhAk4YNc8XnK0K", "post_id": "b7vsvk", "action": {"description": "telling a friend to sell a relatively new game to me because he's terrible", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend to sell a relatively new game to me because he's terrible?", "text": "So basically, a friend bought a new game called \"Sekiro\". This is a game that is made from the creators of dark souls and they themselves said it's harder. My friend had bought dark souls 3 and traded it back in because he found it too difficult. He is finding this game hard as well and he has said he regrets buying it because he can't return it so I offered him about $5 more than he would get from trading it in. He clearly didn't like it and is now extremely mad because he thinks I'm calling him bad at the game (which he is).Am I at fault for this one?\n\n\nTLDR: a friend is awful at a game and I offered him to sell it to me because he couldn't even beat the first boss", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "O9m0mBAWfLAjMTz5ej9vceAMni6bnVKc", "post_id": "aj3xp6", "action": {"description": "getting in arguments with a kid with proclaimed mental issues", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting in arguments with a kid with proclaimed mental issues", "text": "At the start of the year, we got a new student who I thought I could get along with, seeing as we both liked art and I thought we would have a similar attitude, because of this we quickly let her into our friend group, it went down-hill from there. It had mainly begun with here making declarations of \"I'm trash\", \"I am so depressed\" and \"I wish I was dead\" in joking tones and I was fine with this (my sister and I myself often make rather self-deprecating jokes, just never that straight forward), except she only really repeated these jokes about her self and making jabs at everyone in our class, now most our classmates wouldn't care, because we do that to each other all the time, but she herself wouldn't let us make playful jabs back and would threaten us by telling the principal (who let her get away with most things because her mother told him she had depression, anxiety and later on a minor form of autism, she also had a real hand condition).\n\nThis continued on for a bit, her mocking us, but not allowing us to do the same. I just ignored it and so did my friends, in fact, we continued to let her hang in our group, but things began to get a little more intrusive and physical, she would get in our personal space and that is a big no with me, even my close friends and family understand I hate people in my space (it actually causes me a great amount of stress and anxiety, especially if they get close to my face, or neck), so I straight up told her I despise people being in my space and she listened, unfortunately, my friends aren't the most confrontational.\n\nAs this continued my patience grew thin and my friends and I (including the other girl) were told to go to our class and our teacher tried to solve the problem, by telling the other girl some of us had larger boundaries and I was told to be more patient with her, because she had mental health issues (I myself actually have some mental health issues, mainly cause it runs in my family), I agreed, seeing as I used to deal with it how my father and siblings dealt with it and each other, which was make snarky remarks and generally be pricks to each other. So instead I mainly ignored it and talked with my other friend, who she herself had major issues with the other girl and just recently begun to hang out with our groups (because of a falling out with her used to be a best friend) and we all got along splendidly (minus the other girl, who my other two friends were the only ones which would stand her behaviors).\n\nThis is mainly a side-fact, but my cousin (who I am very close with and treat him as though he was my brother), was in the same class and it was obvious him and I treated each other much more different and the all the teachers and as well as a lot of students understood this, I would make much harsher jabs with him then I would with others and he did the same with me, because we understood that neither of us would get hurt by what we said to each other. We making snarky comments at each other, when my teacher asked me to do and chore and I agreed, quickly doing it to get back to being an ass to my cousin, when I heard the other girl mock him, which he did in return and I saw he blow the hell up and of course she was just told to go outside, while my cousin had detention and everyone in class agreed it was bullshit.\n\nThe worse thing to happen was when I stayed home because I had a rather bad throat infection, but the next day I returned I noticed my friends were being a little off, so I asked and my friend, who herself didn't allow the other girl's leniency and told me that the other girl hadn't only pushed her into the bag-rack, but also tipped cola into another friend's eye and this made me livid and I admit what I did was rather bad, but I stormed up to the other girl and went off at her. Cause a few weeks ago she had thrown a stick at another classmate who was a fun to have conversations with and instead of hitting him, it hit my youngest friend, narrowly missing her eye and causing her to cry, causing me to yell at her and she ended up crying. I'll admit it was impulsive of me and I should've gotten a teacher, but I was so sick of her attitude, so now we're not allowed near each other and my other two friends think I was too harsh, while I still hang out with them they would have to hang out with the other girl, or the principal would think they were purposefully ditching her to make her upset.\n\n​\n\nIs my temper justified, or are my friends and teacher right about me being too harsh towards the girl.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Z732MUvDzPtKoRCbSKkbXd6t81axbDd8", "post_id": "a3wm0j", "action": {"description": "asking \"what happened?\"", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA? I Asked \"What happened?\"", "text": "Im sorry if this is really long. this is my first post.\n\ni\u2019ve been fighting with my mom over this periodically over the last year and i just need somewhere to get this out and see if im really in the wrong here. im not saying im not wrong, but i dont think im completely as heartless as my mom is making me out to be.\n\nmy (25F) sister (22) has been sick for years. to make a long story short, she has an undiagnosable physical condition that has left her in severe pain for about half her life. she was in and out of the hospital for most of high school. after 2 years of uni, she had to take a year off last year bc of the pain. \n\nshe never had any friends to keep in touch with bc of her illness. she never got close to anyone. you could say that the only friends she has are me and my brother (her twin). and me and him have our own unique relationship with her. i love her. its been really hard watching her go through all this and not have any way to really help. \n\nduring her time off from uni, she was alone in the house a lot. im in uni and have a job, my brother is in uni and has a job, my mom works full time, our dad is dead to all of us, has been for 10+ years. she would always say that she wished her body would just catch up to her mind. because in her mind she knows what kind of life she wants, but she just can\u2019t get there because of the pain. like how heartbreaking being trapped by your own body like that? i\u2019m such a wimp, my pain threshold is practically non-existent. she always \u201cjoked\u201d that she\u2019s glad she was the one who got sick, bc me and my brother wouldn\u2019t have been able to handle the pain. she\u2019s not wrong.\n\nshe\u2019s back in uni now on a reduced course load that she can barely handle getting to class for, but she wants to be in school so it is what it is. but she\u2019s become severely depressed. it\u2019s not surprising, after everything. she\u2019s tired of feeling like shit. \n\nthe thing is, she doesn\u2019t ever talk about anything she\u2019s feeling, except with our mom. they have this insane bond bc of her illness. my mom is a momma bear with her. with all of us, really. but they have a thing that is unbreakable. she spent weeks sitting by my sisters side in the hospital, taking her to doctors appointments, fighting on behalf of my sister to the uni faculty when they wouldn\u2019t accommodate her studies. my mom always likes to say that she knows our minds better than we know them ourselves. with my sister feeling the way she is feeling, but unable to really put into words what she\u2019s feeling, she and my mom have talks all the time when my sister has her moments of severe sadness. crying, not sleeping, stressing about school, the pain, the depression. my mom is great at helping her work though all of it. the conversations they have help her. \n\ni dont know how to communicate this properly without sounding mean, but they don\u2019t share anything with me. i don\u2019t mean that i think i\u2019m entitled to know everything they say, don\u2019t get me wrong. but when it is about ME and the things that I do or say that may not help the situation that my sister is in, they don\u2019t address it with me in the moment i do it. but when im not there they\u2019ll talk about it. and then in a moment where i say or do the problematic thing,\n\nthe thing in this particular instance that i am doing wrong is asking \u201cwhat happened?\u201d \n\ni should also say that about 3 years ago, i was severely depressed myself. like out of commission, lying on the couch day in and day out, thinking about ending it all, depressed. i had been taking meds for depression and anxiety for a few months. the meds helped the anxiety, but were not helping the depression. my mom at that point was really old school about mental illness. meds were not supported, but she couldn\u2019t deny that they weren\u2019t not helping, so she shut up about them. shes had things happen that she knows should have made her want to stay in bed, but she could just tell herself to get up and go and she eventually \u201cpicked herself up by her bootstraps\u201d. mind over matter is her motto. its great for her. i don\u2019t know what the three of us would have done if we didn\u2019t have our mom taking care of us. but mind over matter is not really what you want to hear when you\u2019re in the thick of it. nothing anyone said could snap me out of it or help in any way. while there were obvious reasons for my depression, they were things that happened years ago and, really, while horrible, i was kinda really over by that point. i was just done with everything. i couldn\u2019t see a future for myself. i didn\u2019t really want to get better. \n\nseeing me that way was hard for my family. my mom thought she failed me as a mother. she\u2019s a \u201cfixer\u201d and she couldn\u2019t fix me. my sister was also really worried about me. they would talk to each other when i went to bed and would say how scared they were for me. it got so bad that they just wanted to know what it was that was making me so down. i would tell them that it really was nothing specific. that nothing bad was happening for me to feel this way. remember this, this is important. so they learned a lot about depression during this time. how is a chemical thing in the brain. doesn\u2019t necessarily have a trigger. etc. they eventually told me that it was hard seeing me that way. my sister said that she found it hard bc i was her best friend and she wouldn\u2019t know what to do if anything happened to me. that she really had no one. this shook me. the sad truth of it snapped me out of it a little. it made me want to get a little better. sometimes you dont do things for yourself, but you do things for the people that care about you. i got put on a different med that actually worked, got a part time job and hated every minute of it, went into my last year of uni, and kind of took it day by day. it was hard. i wasn\u2019t always pleasant. none of us were, really. but things got better for me where im at the point now that i\u2019m somewhat healthy but functioning, planning for my future after school is done. made some really good friends. \n\nso back to the present.\n\nwe were watching tv together and my brother texted asking for one of us to pick him up from the subway. i went upstairs to put in my contacts so that i can see while i drive. and while i was upstairs, my sister had a little breakdown with my mom. i came downstairs and saw her crying and immediately out of concern asked,\u201dwhat happened?!\u201d\n\napparently that was the WRONG thing to say. \n\nthis is how the fight started. me is me, mom is mom, s is sister.\n\n>me: what happened?!  \n>  \n>mom: Nothing happened. Does something have to happen for her to be crying?  \n>  \n>me: (shocked at the reaction) no. Whats going on?  \n>  \n>mom: did you need something specific to be going on when you were like this?  \n>  \n>sister: stop mom!  \n>  \n>me: i was just asking what was wrong  \n>  \n>mom: (looking at sister) well if i don\u2019t say anything nobody will. she\u2019s said when you\u2019ve gone upstairs, why does she (me) do that?  \n>  \n>me: mom, please stop. this is crazy.   \n>  \n>sister: (closes her eyes in defeat)  \n>  \n>silence for a minute  \n>  \n>mom: maybe i overreacted here, but she doesn\u2019t need a reason to cry.  \n>  \n>me: i know. i was just asking out of concern.   \n>  \n>mom: am i wrong, s?  \n>  \n>S says nothing, won\u2019t even look at mom  \n>  \n>me: yes, she was telling you to stop saying what you were saying  \n>  \n>mom: she was defending you so i wouldn\u2019t yell  \n>  \n>me: no she was telling you to not say anything  \n>  \n>mom: no we\u2019ve talked when you\u2019re upstairs and she doesn\u2019t need a reason to cry and she hates when you ask for her to explain herself  \n>  \n>me: (wanting to end the conversation and seeing no way out as usual unless i agree) okay\n\ni go out to get my brother at this point. when i come back, my sister going upstairs to bed and says goodnight. \n\nthen my mom says: \n\n>mom: I\u2019m sorry about getting angry at you. I\u2019m just so tired and don\u2019t know how to deal with S flip flopping between physical and mental pain. I\u2019m sorry I yelled at you  \n>  \n>me: thank you. I know it\u2019s hard right now with S. But please don\u2019t take it out on me  \n>  \n>mom: \u2026and you missed the point again. you dont understand  \n>  \n>me: (silence)  \n>  \n>Mom: yup, as usual, you don\u2019t try to see things from any one else POV but you\u2019re own. its always about you.   \n>  \n>me: \u201cgathering my things to go upstairs bc i dont want to fight anymore and nothing i say will make it better)  \n>  \n>mom: its just like living with your father again, go upstairs  \n>  \n>me: goodnight  \n>  \n>mom: yup exactly what your father would do\n\nso at this point im really upset. i just came downstairs and saw my sister crying and asked what happened out of concern. and mom\u2019s telling me i shouldn\u2019t have done that bc there doesnt need to be a reason and i\u2019ve maybe asked more than once before what was wrong and i shouldn\u2019t have? aaand my mom brought my father into it. she does this a lot. he's not a good person in case you didn't pick up on that. \n\nnow at this point im about to fuck up. i know it but i\u2019ve been fighting with my mom a lot, about many things. so i\u2019m just really having trouble believing that my own sister talks to my mom behind my back about how i\u2019m not being supportive in the right way. my sister is not shy. she tells it like it is and she doesn\u2019t care about hurting people\u2019s feelings. so i just find it so hard to believe that i\u2019ve been fucking up so badly about her depression and that she can\u2019t tell me about it TO me. so i go to her room and ask :\n\n>me: can you just tell me if i said something wrong before?  \n>  \n>S: i dont want to do this  \n>  \n>me: you cant just tell me?  \n>  \n>S: i dont want to do this  \n>  \n>mom comes upstairs: did you really just go and talk to her after all that?  \n>  \n>me: i just want to understand it from her  \n>  \n>mom: shes not ready to talk to you. for 2 years nobody could say anything to you and we left you a", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "A1xWhRa0ek3SUGgERedvnjZFawibjWvC", "post_id": "aggtxp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to drive a friend home from college this semester", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to drive a friend home from college this semester? (TL;DR at end)", "text": "For background, me and my friend had known each other since freshman year of high school. She is now one of the very very few people I still talk to from school.\n\nHer and I both attend the same university now and we are about to start up our second semester. We both still live with our parents as we individually don't have the money to move out. Last semester I drove her home twice a week since we lived relatively close by and I knew she didn't have the best relationship with her parents. The first week it was ok since I was just excited to be doing something after a long summer of doing nothing but working.\n\nIt was during the first week that I learned that she still didn't have so much as a learners permit and she hasn't made any attempts at getting a job. Her parents are still paying for everything for her. As the weeks went by, all she ever did was complain about her parents being assholes, despite them still paying for everything for her. The drive from the university to where we live was over half an hour on a good day, an hour at the worst. She would talk the entire time and I could barely get a word in.\n\nI considered telling her last semester that I didn't want to drive her, but she made me feel guilty about leaving her with her family. The one time I didn't drive her was because I had to take my sister to a doctors appointment and she got really pissed at me. She kept yelling into a group chat we are both in about how I couldn't make her get picked up by her parents and no one else wanted to take her home. She ended up staying at the school until midnight then called her grandmother to pick her up. After finals, I didn't even get a thank you for driving her home all of those times.\n\nNow that we are going to be starting next semester, she keeps making offhanded comments about how she wants me to drive her home every day and I just ignore them. I really don't want to deal with all of that again. She still refuses to get a job and has barely recieved her learners permit, but she wouldn't shut up about how her parents bought her a new car. She won't be able to drive alone though until the middle of summer, so she still is going to be relying on her family to drive her.\n\nI've only talked to two friends about the situation, one agreed with me, the other said I was being a major dick by not offering to drive her this semester. What should I do? Should I just tell her straight out that I'm not going to drive her or should I still drive her?\n\nTL;DR: I am sick of hearing my friend do nothing but complain about her family on 40 minute drives and don't want to go through it for another semester.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ELpGbvZnZ8sV2sxoADfn0RoClPfyMgO1", "post_id": "akhods", "action": null, "title": "AITA for don't want to talk anymore?", "text": "So, a little background story. I met a guy this summer, let's call him Sam. So me and Sam, clicked at first sight. We were at a summer camp, and the moment we started talking it was like we have known each other since always. It was like a summer fling, the thing was that I lived near the and he lived really far, he was sort of living there for that week.\n  So we kept in touch ,after that but eventually we lost touch.\n\nFast foward to two weeks, I recently started using instagram more actively, and I was scrolling and I saw a picture of a girl that I thought I knew and guess what, the guy was in my recomandations and I started following.\n\nI didn't think much of it since we didn't legit talk for six months or so, but I receive a dm from him. \nAnd we started talking, a lot. It was like we never stopped and things were pretty much taking off, we were talking about the future, how we liked each other (not like like), how we thought i was pretty and stuff. But since he lives far, we thought it was better to cut it a little back since we could get hurt. \n\nWe did, and we didn't talk for 3 days or so. But i received a text from him days after explaining that he was a mess, and that he was sad and blahblah doesn't matter. I brushed it off and i talked to him and we were fine. \n\nBut the thing is, lately he says that his ex girlfriend who broke up with him in November (it's end of January) was texting him. I asked him if he thought he was getting back with her and I was shocked to see a: Maybe in my screen. But if I lived more near him he would choose me. Like wtf??\nI know we didn't talk a lot, but I said if he got back with her, to not bother to text me ever again. \n\nI am dealing with depression, heartbreak, family problems, school problems and now I'm getting worse because of this guy that doesn't know what he wants or something.\n\nHe is mad, he is ghosting me now. AITA for don't want to suffer more? Am I supposed to receive a text like two months from now when he breaks off with her again? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yGP8y5myVdIQOl4ZK9CWIjVZiLpGxEa1", "post_id": "a6z3jh", "action": {"description": "walking into a shop knowing I'm jot going to buy amything", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA walking into a shop knowing I'm jot gonna buy amything", "text": "Seen from the outside, but I'll go ahead and identify myself with my mum.\n\nI had ?15 min while waiting for a bus, so I walked into a shop with some jewelry-ish and alternative-medicine type of wares, and I happened to announce that I don't want to actually buy anything, just look around (at pretty things). Shopkeeper didn't throw me out but commented on it being strange that I would walk in not wanting to buy anything. Also saying that this would not happen in Germany (neighbour country, generally perceived as better than us).\n\nI got into a short discussion about the shop being publicly available space Vs the shop not being a gallery, leaving shortly after.\n\nMe the A? Him? Both? Neither?\n\nThanks :)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PJBGtZzfjrXV8u20jat1Ty4zzPcLxsjt", "post_id": "b48ea1", "action": {"description": "dropping my friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For dropping my friend", "text": "So this happened a year ago. I met her at a party and we almost immediately hit it off. So we started hanging out a good bit. Even with conflicting schedules. So a pattern of behavior developed that whenever I saw her we always had to drink and she pressured me a bit. She never cleaned or did anything with herself. She has mental health issues and that's okay. But the further into the friendship with worse the drinking and drugging got. She was never sober and coped very heavily on hard drugs. She kept begging me for my meds to help her and eventually a bottle went missing. A bottle went missing at our mutual friends house as well. So I distanced myself. I got calls at midnight with her so fucked up that she was slurring super bad, and didn't remember anything I said within a couple seconds. I cut her off no warning becuase there was no nice way to do it otherwise. Me dumping her as a friend sent a chain reaction of other people dropping her as a friend becuase of her drugs, drinking, and everything else.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gWIHomJKnLD923FSwq1xyJdUXLdbNZVz", "post_id": "b3sq9y", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed at my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed at my boyfriend?", "text": "Really simple one here. He said he'd go into an appointment with me, he was late enough that he missed my appointment. I messaged him and said I was upset with him, he told me 'get over myself' and to 'leave him alone'.\nWas I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VST3DmtXg9doyO8HHQrOlaSeIeitRT0w", "post_id": "azs7i3", "action": {"description": "letting some girls sleep in my flat mate's room although he said no", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 121}, "title": "AITA for letting some girls sleep in my flat mate's room although he said no ?", "text": "So the problem is like this. I live in a rented apartment, with a friend from work (lets call him A) for 3 years now. We know each other from college, but really got friends when we moved together in a new city. Now the apartment has 2 bedrooms, one for each of us ( he insisted he wants the bigger one, I didn't care that much and let him have it) and a somewhat spacious living room. We pay equally the rent, with me doing the actually pay and all the effort done to discuss any damages that happen, any roads to facilities or stuff like that, while my friend pays half and that's about it, 0 effort and expects for everything to be done for him like he is entitled.\nSome friends of mine decided they would like to visit me in the weekend (one of my best friends from high school together with his gf and 2 of her friends ). A leaves almsot every Friday to visits his gf and returns late Sunday.  I discussed with him if my hometown friends can visit and stay in our apartment, he was OK with it and said he is thinking if anyone can sleep in his room (that was last week). Wednesday comes and i ask him again about it and he vehemently says no, that his room is not \"prepared\" to have guests and that he is om with people coming in the house, but they are not to sleep in his bed/room. Meanwhile another of my best friends from highschool decided to join totaling 5 people to be accommodated in my bed and a lousy couch in the living room, that can barely accommodate one person and with little time for my friends to rent something cheap to sleep through the weekend while visiting me. \nHe refuses to have guests in the house, if the house is dirty or not cleaned, while he is lazy (we both are) to clean most of the time. He hates people getting in his apartment while its not clean with such a passion, he declines instantly any visit no matter how far the person has traveled to see him or how rare that ever happens. That's his quirk, its either clean or no visit. I know about this quirk, we had another similar fight some time ago, thats why I asked him before hand to clean up or to at least tell me with some time ahead if will do that or not, so that my friends can find something to rent. Thursday he didn't have the time or the mood to clean and thats why he declined my requests to have the 2 girls sleep in his room.\n\nI \"was forced\" to let the couple sleep in my room, me and my other high-school bestie slept on the couch and the other 2 girls slept in my friends(A) room. He now accuses me that I broke boundaries, his trust and that I was an asshole for not even asking him in the last moment. I believe its his own fault for taking to long to decide.  We are in a pretty big fight about this whole incident. AITA for letting the girls sleep in his bed? \n\nTLDR from above: My flat mate of 3 years is pissed at me that i let 2 girls sleep in his room even tho i asked him ahead of time to let the girls know if they should rent a room or stay in our apartment.\n ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 116, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 121}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MVfZ3a1f9ULrZlLq79PvXntYRJcitEeV", "post_id": "b5vcme", "action": {"description": "saying to my girlfriend to not let the dog jump on the couch because it just popped", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying to my girlfriend to not let the dog jump on the couch because it just popped?", "text": "Just as the title says. It's pretty as hell I know but after letting the dig in from having a dooky in the garden I said nice as pie hey don't let the dog on the sofa. He's just had a poo. She looked at me in disgust as I'd I'm the biggest dick head in the world. She said I shit and sit down so what's the difference. I said because I clean my self and also I wear pants. The dog is still a bit of a puppy so I don't think it's as clean as older dogs right after they poo. She thinks I'm a total dickhead. Any one got any input so I can feel better?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dlbVS61r2TUt9eJdj7sMTsGEgvzbaaNJ", "post_id": "b93cjx", "action": {"description": "being upset with my girlfriend for shipping something for me I correctly, which has put the item at risk", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA For being upset with my girlfriend for shipping something for me i correctly, which has put the item at risk?", "text": "I'm out of town and had an item (movie Steelbook, a collectible thing), available in the US only I'm shipping to a friend in Germany. He just needed me to wait for him to have enough money to pay me back for the item/shipping and got it sooner than expected, so because I'm not there I asked my girlfriend to do it. She said sure thing and I gave her all the details and shipping instructions. \n\nI told her the exact method to get from USPS, it was a dollar more than the other option, but would be way safer (box with bubble wrap vs bubble wrap envelope). She shipped it today but because she didn't read my full instructions (her own admission) she chose envelope. The item *might* be okay, but from experience it's prone to damage during shipping. \n\nShe's very apologetic but also getting mad at me because I don't want to talk. I'm pretty mad, it was nice of her to agree to do this for me but I gave clear instructions and she has now admitted to not reading them in full and just assuming when I said bubble wrap I meant those bubble wrap envelopes. Am I The Asshole for not letting this go and forgiving her right away? I'm not yelling at her or anything I just don't want to talk so I said I had to go and haven't replied to other texts and have ignored her phone calls.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HnrExtx8Do2OprrmoSNVtnGC8ApGt3sh", "post_id": "b2efd8", "action": {"description": "working at a job I don't love to support my family", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for working at a job I don't love to support my family?", "text": "As the title states, I work at a job I really am not in love with. It was my second choice. I wanted to join the Air Force and work in intelligence. I went so far as to take the ASVAB and score 94. I was a week out from MEPS and got a job offer making $50K a year salaried plus benefits at a company in an industry I've been in for two years. It's not glamorous and I'm not fulfilled, but I make decent money for being 23 and having no degree. I have my husband and two kids to support, so this was the smart choice, at least in my mind. \n\nI didn't want my kids to be without Mommy for basic plus tech school and possible deployments so I could fulfill some stupid dream of being in the USAF. I also didn't want my husband (who has PTSD and Bipolar as a result of his Navy service) to have to leave his treatment team in the city we live in now. I thought taking the safer option was smarter for my family.\n\nMy husband says I've been miserable to be around, though, since I decided to forego enlistment and take this job instead. He said I'm miserable and that it shows because I'm not pleasant at home anymore and all I do is complain about work. He says I'm going to end up resenting him and the kids for preventing me from fulfilling my dream. He says I'm selfish for using him and the kids as an excuse to not enlist. \n\nAm I the asshole for not enlisting even when it's what I wanted? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "35fSEiYIBTpSXT1d5RFEs77MwqNLTJS9", "post_id": "ard4kd", "action": {"description": "leaving during/before intercourse", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for leaving during/before intercourse?", "text": "So last night I had met a woman on tinder at my university and we chatted up for a little while. To be clear, I had no intention nor any expectation of having said intercourse. I (18M) had went to her (22F) apartment simply to hang out and drink, as it was only a ten minute walk away. Things started heating up and moving along and she had asked me if I had a condom, which I had not because I didn\u2019t expect anything along the lines of actual sex. \n\nPush came to shove and I ended up walking back to my room, then back to her room which took about a half an hour. When I had gotten there her friends had left an entire box of condoms on her nightstand. This didn\u2019t bother me entirely too much because well it\u2019s always good to have extra, but it would\u2019ve been a nice sentiment to tell me the option was there. Thus, I was already slightly irritated to begin with.\n\nSo we restarted things again, but this time I wasn\u2019t as, for a lack of a better term, excitable. She saw I was completely mortified, which I was because I\u2019m much younger and presumably less experienced. She reassured it was okay and we could try other things to jumpstart the process, which we did.\n\nEven that didn\u2019t work and I was stuck feeling rather embarrassed. Also what she did and how she acted started to make me feel slightly uncomfortable. We tried starting and seeing if it\u2019d just work itself out (the \u201cproblem\u201d) but that just causing more problems.\n\nEventually she had told me that I had just taken her virginity, which shocked me even more and set things back even further. About five minutes later and with lots of struggle I had told her I just wanted leave, to which I was treated like an ass and berated as I was leaving. Essentially I\u2019m just curious as to if that\u2019s a bad thing to do, considering I had just taken this girls virginity.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AkQt71oLr6KeperKZkc1TkCGWCbZZ8T1", "post_id": "ap51ei", "action": {"description": "telling my mom she can't come visit this year", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I told my mom she can't come visit this year", "text": "My mom lives abroad, and I've been away from home for the past 5 years. I visit home every Christmas for around 3 weeks. I also video call with my parents every week.\n\nI recently moved to a different state (3-4 months ago) and things are pretty hectic. I've been extremely busy and I'm just starting to meet new people and getting settled. My mom asked if I'd like it if she visited, and I said: \"Not this year. I don't know what I'll be doing during these 'X' dates.\" Then she made a scene and started crying. My sister told me she wanted to surprise me in my birthday in two months (which frankly, I wouldn't have liked).\n\nDid I behave like an asshole here? I made it clear she can come any other year when things are settled. I visit my parents every year and video call every week. My situation right now is a little rough and my time is extremely tight, and my schedule inconsistent.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fwitfaHglCsfPCbfQt4q8fFHJNOA6wgC", "post_id": "ae9qb0", "action": {"description": "sending my SO surprise pictures", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for sending my SO surprise pictures?", "text": "During work I am super busy so my SO always asks for snaps and texts during my bathroom breaks cause he misses me (aww). I have started to send him nudes or pictures of my shit - he never knows which he will receive and this keeps him on the edge of his seat. Am I the asshole for sending him gross pics? Cause I think I\u2019m hilarious.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SbGtKn3X9Bcu9F4OBdVQklPJwObDO1Df", "post_id": "a8xcq5", "action": {"description": "moving over to provide a seat for a man with a cane on the train", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for moving over to provide a seat for a man with a cane on the train?", "text": "The other day a guy with a cane entered a train car. I was sitting down. I'm not sure if there were other seats available, and I wasn't sure if he even wanted a seat, but I moved over to create space anyway. He walked up to me, looked me in the eye, and said, \"Fuck you. You should be ashamed of yourself. Fucking asshole.\" Then he got off.\n\nI've been ruminating over this for days.  I'm devastated that I would provoke this kind of reaction from someone. It's possible he didn't need the seat and he was offended that I assumed he did. Maybe that might have been the case? I have to admit I'm confused and deeply ashamed.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "o7grmk057YNuG90IppNN01iTjpYchGeG", "post_id": "afo14u", "action": null, "title": "AITA? So I kinda made my old Geography teacher avoid me like the plague...", "text": "AITA?\n\nOkay, here's the relevant context you'll need before I begin talking (or rather writing? eh) how I well... caused the title to happen.\n\nIn my school, there are 6 houses. Within these 6 houses, there are year groups ranging from year 7s (11 year olds) to year 10s (15 year olds). So my house (let's call it T) was known for being pure shit- we had the loudest troublemakers, some of the most conceited people and well... most teachers weren't fond of the vast majority of my class, 9T. \n\nOther classes like 9S, 9W, 9-whatever-else were well liked and respected. My Year 9 Geography teacher let us know that while he complained about our class to the point it became white noise.\n\nConsidering this was the year before I'd be studying for GCSEs and be considering whether or not I'd take Geography as a subject, this was a very bad first impression. He, when he 'taught' us, evidently from the first and all the way through into the last lesson knew NOTHING about the subject he taught.\n\nWhen I'd ask him for help, he'd always refer to his resources (which were created by other teachers) before he could answer. Most work we did in class was copying off the board about iceburgs and all sorts. Our homework was worksheets he'd probably forgotten to give us in class and our grades were abysmal. To add, the only thing he ever talked about rather than what he should be doing- you know, teaching us like he's paid to do- was his Latina girlfriend.\n\nGreat.\n\nEvery half term test my class had the lowest average marks closely followed by 9S, who were also taught by him. I had friends in that class and it seemed like we all had the same problem with him.\n\nHe was a lazy ass and we all knew it.\n\nOn top of his clear as day laziness, he couldn't control the class. He was more like an assistant teacher who'd been forced to substitute a lesson than anything else. When he saw kids messing around and disrupting our lessons he'd sit there in silence- honestly thinking that would work. We spent weeks worth of lessons like that (not to say that I don't have a problem with the kids who caused said disruptions, but I digress). Obviously not every single time was awful like I might make it sound, but it was so annoying hearing him complain about something he never did anything about.\n\nFastforward to the end of term, where my class get their final results back.\n\nThe average mark in my class was in the single digits and the test was worth 30+ marks. And for our final lesson with us, he just complained.\n\n\"Why is this class' mark so low\"\n\"All of you actually need to step up\"\n\"Every other class has grades way higher than yours! You need to try harder\"\n\nand more. He just kept going with this stupid tirade. So I put my hand up.\n\nHe kinda ignored me for the best part of five minutes. But several kids in my class pushed him to listen to me since it was the last lesson. He accepted begrudgingly and I said something along the lines of the following:\n\n\"First of all, Mr [his name], you can't honestly expect this class to do well when we're being taught by an incompetant teacher such as yourself. For the past year I'm sure I know more about your girlfriend and her country of origin than the Geography specification we're supposed to learn, so I guess you managed to teach me something in the end. I really do not care for any complaints you have for this class failing, since you haven't managed to actually control the class in the first place. So any complaints you have I'm sure you should tell to people who actually care, rather than the class who gave up on learning from you last term.\"\n\nHe was understandably infuriated and screamed at me about how I \"failed too\", which I guess was fair. During class at my school, since there are so many kids we have a break in the middle of class. While everyone else left, he held me back to talk.\n\nHe screamed at me more about how my comments were insensitive and how he didn't appreciate them. I told him he wouldn't have gotten them if he'd taught us well. Then he threatened to call the head teacher (of which I didn't react). When I tried to leave because I was more than sick of his shit, he then told to go to detention after school.\n\nI told him he wouldn't do anything if I didn't, and thus I didn't go. I still has about a week of school left and I didn't suffer any consequences for cussing him out.\n\nHe was still at school for the next academic year and avoided me at pretty much all costs. I was the only person in his old 9T class he didn't say goodbye to before he left the school at the end of year 10.\n\nThis happened 2 years ago when I was in year 9 (I was 14 then). I won't lie, I have no regrets and I think he completely deserved it. But honestly I want to know- was I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KGEvLpYlRyJfNpzWFl2gA68FSK1AQgr0", "post_id": "ahcrpo", "action": {"description": "accidentally causing my group partner to get a bad grade", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally causing my group partner to get a bad grade?", "text": "Me and a couple classmates were working hard on a science project in class. However, we had one member that didn\u2019t care about anything in this class: his grade or ours. Needless to say, he didn\u2019t help us much. About a week before the due date, we had made little progress due to three out of the four group members actually doing work. I talked to the other group members and we decided to discuss this issue with our science teacher. She seemed to understand our situation and we went back to work. Weeks later, we got the project back and I got a 90, but the lazier group member got a 70, and it\u2019s been weighing on my conscience ever since. AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Oe5O7Zytx59Sv9U5wo6iksCvpNMzkk0i", "post_id": "avvgq0", "action": {"description": "not disclosing my criminal activities to my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not disclosing my criminal activities to my girlfriend?", "text": "So, here is the deal. I grow weed for a living and it is not legal in my area. My operation is what I would classify as of medium size, between 2 and 3 pounds (\\~1 kilogram) monthly. I love what I do. It is like having a hobby and a job tied into one.\n\nI have been doing this for many years, and it is not something I talk about to anyone in order to protect myself, my freedom and my livelihood. I do not live a flashy lifestyle, in fact I save/invest nearly everything I make, so when people ask me what I do for a living I just tell them that I am a freelance programmer who does an odd job here or there, since my living expenses are very minimal. You would never guess that I am doing quite OK financially if you looked at me, because I drive a crappy car and have absolutely no sense of what to wear. In fact, according to my girlfriend, most of my clothes are something that should be thrown away.\n\n​\n\nSo, when my girlfriend came to the picture, I chose not tell her in order to protect myself. I did not feel guilty as I never tell anyone, but figured that if she had a problem with this, I would essentially be lying to her and that I am depriving her of her ability to make a choice about her life. As a compromise, I decided that if we are still together 1 year later, I would let her in on my secret. The 1 year came and went, and I showed her what I am really up to. She was OK with it, as I suspected she would be. In fact, I am not sure if I would have kept my promise to myself if I wasn't pretty sure how she would react.\n\n​\n\nI honestly have no idea if I am/was an asshole, so I am glad this sub exists. I am ready to accept my judgement.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LOv75FzFvQ8zcFhVz0lkeWkGgLrK75hR", "post_id": "a4mgxi", "action": {"description": "calling a friend out on behalf of another friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling a friend out on behalf of another friend?", "text": "A few nights ago I was at a party celebrating the end of the semester and seeing a friend off before they left for home. One of them, who we\u2019ll call Dave, had never really drank before, and so everyone was excited to have him try stuff like shotgunning and beer pong. Dave agreed to do it but he asked that no one record him and send it to anyone, since he was worried about who might see him drinking. \n\nThe next morning one of the girls, who we\u2019ll call Jessica, texts the group chat for the party saying that she\u2019d recorded him shotgunning a beer and sent it into an instagram meme page. I replied a few minutes later asking her if she remembered that Dave asked everyone not to do that, and if Jessica asked him whether or not she could send that in. I told her that I wasn\u2019t trying to be confrontational, just trying to do my job as a friend. \n\nJessica replied that if I wasn\u2019t trying to be confrontational then I wouldn\u2019t have said anything, that Dave could say something if he had a problem, and that all I was doing was showing everyone how immature I am by confronting her.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RUZrsPMWTcn12lmpjz8DaNEJFQmGs40y", "post_id": "b0xmmv", "action": {"description": "snitching on my friend, due to the fact that she had sex in our friends small studio apartment", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for snitching on my friend, due to the fact that she had sex in our friends small studio apartment?", "text": "My friend (let's call her Chanel) and I were having a drink yesterday. Our conversation eventually went into the sexy department. It was casual as usual. But at a certain point something clicked. You see my friend has her own apartment, and she has a full time job, and a few extra income, so she has no issue with living space, and she works from home, a few days in the week. She can't concentrate at her own house, which I find odd. so our friend (Elf, that's her name yes.) sometimes borrows her small studio apartment to Chanel, when she is on vacation, or is visiting her parents, so Chanel can work in peace.\n\nIssue that clicked in my head is as follow, our friend Elf is on vacation for about two weeks. So Chanel is crashing there. Elf is kind of a clean freak, she doesn't mind a little mess, but you better use a damn coaster, and you better clean after yourself, and take your damn shoes off in her house. I asked Chanel what she exactly for the past two weeks. She proceeds to tell me that she basically lived in Chanel's house for two weeks, despite having her own house. She then proceeds to layout that she had sex multiple time, sometimes for multiple days. At that moment something seemed odd, So I asked her if she slept with these guys in her own house, cause it would seems like a drag to hop to your house, and our friends house. She told me reluctantly that she did it in our friend Elf studio apartment, for the last two weeks.\n\nNow I know a 100% our friend would flip the fuck out, if she heard this. Years ago a former friend of ours brought a random girl to her house, without us knowing, the guy sat the girl down on my our friends bed put a blanket on their lower half and started having foreplay together in secret, we didn't notice for the first 5 minutes. Elf eventually noticed weird movements under the blanket. When she noticed what the movements meant she flipped the fuck out, and told them to leave and never show their face to her again, she never made contact with him again. I told my friend that what she did was inconsiderate, despite having her own apartment she used her friends to fuck random strangers in it (she is not that much into cleaning btw) and due to her actions she could ruin her friendship with Elf. She told me I was tripping, and she thought I would be cool about it. Chanel then proceeds to tell me that \"It wouldn't be a problem if Elf never knew, so be quiet about it.\" now she made me part of damn issue too.\n\nI'm meeting with Elf tomorrow since she just came back from her vacation. on one hand I want to tell her, on the other hand, I don't really like being a snitch, but in this case I feel morally wrong about it. AITA if I tell my friend Elf about it? or should I keep it on the down low?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5oiWrJwwlPzCTZw3XBuFeVTmIlOEnweZ", "post_id": "ay7yc0", "action": {"description": "not calling my mom right away", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not calling my mom right away?", "text": "I (20F) moved in with my then boyfriend a few months ago. Recently things weren\u2019t good between us so I made the decision to move back in with my dad (7 hour drive). My parents had a nasty divorce and I have a strained relationship with my mom due to her taking out her anger on my dad towards me. \n\nMy dad and stepmom picked me up last night around 12am. I was busy packing and loading stuff into the car so when we left my bf\u2019s place I was exhausted. It didn\u2019t even occur to me to text/call my mom to let her know I\u2019m moving back to the area my dad & mom live in. \n\nMy dad & I couldn\u2019t sleep in the car until 6am since my stepmom is a magnet for \u201cotherworldly\u201d occurrences, so when we arrived at the house I had no energy. I know I sleep for a while so I wanted to clean before going to bed. I reorganized my bedroom, unpacked my belongings, did 2 loads of laundry and showered. \n\nAn hour or two before I got into bed my mom texted me asking for my bf\u2019s address to send me something. I didn\u2019t want to reply until I was done settling in, so when I was finally in bed I texted her \u201cI\u2019m back at my dad\u2019s place\u201d. \n\n3 hours later I awoke to my phone blowing up. \n\nMom: Since when? Didn\u2019t even call me?\n\nMom: <paragraph of me needing to get my life together, let her know when I want to pay back my student loan that\u2019s under her name, \u201chave a nice life\u201d.>\n\nMe: I was awake all night. I was going to call and let you know after my nap. I was unpacking and cleaning all afternoon. \n\nMom: You\u2019re so ungrateful!!!\n\nMe: You don\u2019t understand how tired I am, why are you getting angry out of nowhere? Please don\u2019t text me hurtful stuff. \n\nMom: <2 long paragraphs of \u201cI am your mom\u201d, \u201cI wanted you to be better than your sperm donor\u201d, \u201cI\u2019m done with you and your dad\u201d, \u201cI\u2019m canceling your phone service don\u2019t call or contact me anymore\u201d>\n\nMe: I didn\u2019t do anything besides try to sleep. Please control your anger in the future.\u201d\n\nMom: <text chain of \u201cI\u2019m exhausted too\u201d, \u201cmy anger is not the one disconnecting the phone, it\u2019s the principle\u201d, \u201cI will have anger until your sperm donor dies\u201d etc>\n\nNot my proudest moment but I somehow fell asleep when she was sending those texts. I woke up to 2 missed calls and 7 texts. She wanted to know if I wanted the number so she can release it to me to pay on my own, and that she will be taking me off of her health insurance. I declined and a few minutes later my phone has no service. \n\nI fully intended to call her after I got some rest, I just didn\u2019t expect her to want me to drop everything and call her first thing. I\u2019m normally a relaxed person but this is upsetting me. Not the fact that my phone is no longer in service but that she blew up at me and said all these hurtful things to her only child. \n\nAITA here?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TRJ0d4tOytLHG9a8AcnPbF0J6b644Lzg", "post_id": "9vk8z6", "action": {"description": "downvoting so hard", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for downvoting so hard", "text": "Whenever i browse the old Reddit and get to a comment that i think is distasteful and dont like, i click on the user and downvote every comment they've made that itll allow me to do. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6D8i6Ve4bNamR5zJVyJ1cQ0Psx8kPht5", "post_id": "atygzp", "action": {"description": "wanting to split the bill on mildly interesting date with a girl who asked me out", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to split the bill on mildly interesting date with a girl who asked me out?", "text": "So I went on a date with a girl who i met a couple years back. We were talking about wanting to go to a museum we\u2019ve always wanted to see. So she asked if i wanted to go with her and i didn\u2019t have plans on that day so i said yes. \n\nWhen we got into the museum, i found out that she wasn\u2019t actually that interested in seeing the art pieces. She just wanted me to take pictures of herself walking around the museum. \n\nI was so turned off because i actually knew some stuff about the art pieces and was really interested in learning more. She pretty much talked about her life all day and consistently shut me down every time i tell her something about myself. \n\nHalfway through the date, i already wanted bail on her but i didn\u2019t. It was just so much work being with here. We ate dinner afterwards and by then my face was literally so tired of faking a smile or a laugh. She shared so much of her life story to me that i could write her a memoir, i\u2019m telling you. \n\nWhen we asked for the bill, i was kinda hoping she\u2019d at least initiate since as she said \u201chad so much fun\u201d. But she only waited and stared at me while i was paying. I was honestly just glad it was over when it ended.\n\nTL;DR: She asked me out and i went on one of the worst dates i\u2019ve ever had. I was hoping she would at least initiate to split the bill. I probably wouldn\u2019t have mind paying for everything if she just initiated or was at least worth spending time with.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HJVfzweedhkwyectSPotxnsHNv8rcwq1", "post_id": "b1wtn7", "action": {"description": "complaining about basic living standards to my carer", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for complaining about basic living standards to my carer?", "text": "I'm 15, male. My sister is 19. Just over a year ago, our mum died unexpectedly. My sister is currently living on benefits (I believe is called welfare in USA), as she is mentally \"unfit for work\", and up until recently on her (then) boyfriends income.\n\nSo we're not rich but not homeless either.\n\nAll I ask from her:\n\n\n*Is to buy me an extra pair of school trousers (I wear the same pair 5 days in a row)\n\n*Enough food to put on weight (most days I only eat a little over 1000 calories) since I'm skinny and really insecure about it and also it's just not healthy to eat so little. \n\n*To have the heating a few degrees higher (we have it at 14 celsius and my hands and face are constantly cold because I barely have any fat on me\n\n*To pay \u00a310 for my haircuts (I don't get anything fancy, just enough to keep it short)\n\nI can understand why this might be hard given our financial situation but she smokes (I'll see 5+ cigarettes in her ash tray per night) which doesn't include the cigarettes she smokes in the day, she pays \u00a38 a month for Netflix when she is the only one who uses it and she also bought \u00a3650 worth of speakers last year that only she uses.\n\nI don't know if I'm just being a whiny bitch but regarding the last paragraph, she could definitely be able to scrape up the money to buy (what I would say are,) necessities. She never had to go through this when she was my age and I understand that circumstances have changed but she doesn't give me any slack and expects me to pull through while not even eating the minimum calories per day. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ENQOvHmzdjxvMpEPD6OQ0FDk9RlFbfrF", "post_id": "as7vyb", "action": {"description": "not mentioning God or religion to my child", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I dont mention God or religion to my child?", "text": "I'm an atheist. I won't ever bring up God or religion, but if my kid were to ask, I would tell them that I don't believe, but if they wanted, I would provide them with resources to learn about it, so that they could make their own decision. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "te9LddJtth3bWh2S6IyRYrwhAlI9Mznw", "post_id": "b50nc7", "action": {"description": "being unhappy that my friend doesn't talk to me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being unhappy that my friend doesn't talk to me", "text": "Okay, here we go. Sorry for jumping around a lot, my head is in scrambles. \n\nMe and my friend have known each other for a long time. 22 years maybe, we work in the same industry, similar interests and so on. Something like 13 years ago he goes to college, meets Alice. Introduce me to her, 3 Musketeers. She has a boyfriend so not interested in either Justin or myself. Cool. \n\nI know that Justin and Alice talk a lot. Seemingly a few times a week. He usually calls her and they chat about whatever. Since I live further out in the boonies for my job I do not get to see them all that often so they sometimes go out for drinks when I can't make it. We hang out just whenever I get into the city. \n\nSo last night the three of us are sitting at his place and just out of blue Justin asks me to leave and take a walk around the block so he can chat with Alice. Goes something like this:\n\nJustin: Hey SevereCucumber can you leave and go take a walk around the block. I have something I need to talk with Alice about. \nMe: *Throwing my arms up* Okay. *Stand up*\nAlice: Justin, what the hell?\nJustin: *Looks at me*\nAlice: Sit down SevereCucumber you aren't leaving. \nMe: Justin, did I do something wrong?\nJustin: No it has nothing to do with you.\nAlice: Then why does he have to leave. Whatever you say to me you can tell him.\n\nJustin goes into detail how he's in financial trouble. I won't detail it further as it is not relevant to this post. Regardless we segway into normal booze conversation that people have and everything is fine. \n\nToday I text Justin that I want to know why he seems to trust talking to Alice more than me.\n\nMe = Blue\nJustin = Black\nAlice = Green\n\nhttps://imgur.com/S3gIgHx\n\nI'm feeling super conflicted and this feels totally not normal. I get the feeling that he goes to Alice for a lot because that is most comfortable to him which doesn't bother me but it certainly feels like he doesn't trust talking to me. Especially when he put the spotlight on me by saying that I don't tell him about my life. I never think of much to say because in real life all I do is sit at home, masturbate, and go to work. I don't think of myself as a great storyteller because I don't think my life is all that impressive. Justin is more a outward type of personality, he even wears a hugely flashy suit and gets a lot of compliments for it. In the last month he went to a strip club with friends and one of them puked and it all sounds super exciting. I've heard stories of the girls he slept with and when he goes out to a bar on occasion they will buy him a drink. I'm a much more introverted type. I don't say much as what I do in life because everything feels similar to the previous day. \n\nHowever I also think it's funny that he goes to Alice so often but then sometimes complains to me that what she says annoys him. \n\nHow should I approach this situation? Or am I the asshole for trying to pry him open?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RhFrHP9WnpuCCRPOe9w8aS76xFqWzCuV", "post_id": "aj86wv", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at my dad for turning off the WiFi at night", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at my dad for turning off the WiFi at night.", "text": "On mobile so no formatting boys\n\nAITA for being mad at my dad for turning off the WiFi at night? \n\nBackground: ever since I bought a PC with money I had saved my dad started turning off the WiFi. \n\nHis default defense is that it helps me sleep properly and that he pays for it and gets to make the decision, which in essence is fair, however it\u2019s not the turning off that gets me it\u2019s the reason why I feel he does it.  He never wanted me to get a PC he felt I was wasting money etc and he hated it even more after I got it. He felt it consumed me too much and that the games that I played were bad for me (violence etc). I\u2019ve never been violent and games didn\u2019t change this.  I spend probably at most 4-5 hours a day on the thing and I probably average about 2hrs a day on it which I know isn\u2019t healthy but it isn\u2019t unheard of. I\u2019ve been depressed over past years and I feel he probably doesn\u2019t think that it helps me, I would argue the opposite but that\u2019s not the point. I bought a computer with money I earned and out of spite he seems to be turning the WiFi off at night. AITA?? \n\n- He turns off the WiFi at like 10-11pm \n\n-I have a phone with unlimited data so he\u2019s not stopping me from going on the internet it\u2019s ONLY the computer he cares about. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 13, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MctUlsRgSzzdLeSAEsYg6I2JELK56szK", "post_id": "awe7g3", "action": {"description": "not wanting my friend to start collecting a 40k army that I'm already collecting", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA if I don't want my friend to start collecting a 40k army that I'm already collecting?", "text": " Basically, there's a game me and a friend of mine (let's call him Larry) like to play about every weekend when we can, called Warhammer 40,000. For the uninitiated, it's a 28mm scale tabletop strategy wargame played with plastic models that has a TON of different armies to choose from. We're talking humans (Imperial Guard), Orks, Eldar (Space Elves), Space Marines, and most fantasy things one's heart could desire.\n\n Larry likes to play the faction known as the Space Marines, and recently has been wanting some Imperial Guard to go with them. However, I already play Imperial Guard in the small group of people Larry and I include in our WH40k playing. I've never played anything else for the almost year I've been into the game, and these models require a lot of dedication. They're priced exorbitantly high (go to the Games Workshop and look at Warhammer 40,000 models website if you don't believe me), and they come unassembled and unpainted, meaning there's a lot of work one has to put into their model into making it look presentable and getting it to your standards. We're talking hours at a time for a single model sometimes. **Long story short,** these models take a lot of work and are expensive. \n\n With all this being put together, especially with the fact I feel he has many other factions to choose from, I don't want him to start collecting this army. I feel like he should bring something fresh and new to the table if he's gonna get a new army, rather than doing what I've been doing. It also makes me feel slighted that he wants to start collecting this army after I've been playing and learning and collecting it for so long, which, as any 40k player worth their salt will tell you, is quite an ordeal. However, I also feel like I should let him do what he wants, and it makes me a selfish asshole if I don't want him to get the same army as me. So tell me, AITA?\n\n**TL;DR: My friend wants to start collecting the same army as me for a wargaming tabletop game we play together, and I think he should he get something else because he should bring something new to the table, and it makes me feel slighted that he wants to start making the same army I have after I've been playing it so long.**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Z4j4446Az8YcnspQm43MaeGZGco52TRe", "post_id": "at9uud", "action": {"description": "refusing to speak to my (former) best friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to speak to my (former) best friend?", "text": "It\u2019s a longish story so I\u2019ll just give the run down. Megan and I have been best friends for 9 years. Last summer I introduced her to the friend group I was in as I had planned to move 14 hours away later on. At the time, I was seeing a guy named josh. When I introduced them, they pretty much blew me off for the entirety of the night. She was sober and he was black out drunk. She backed into someone\u2019s car in the parking lot and dented her roommates brand new car. Freaking out, josh and Megan insisted they go find a toilet plunger to fix the dent. I stayed behind to calm her roommate down and planned to stay up until they returned bc Megan had a tiny kitten that I was terrified of squishing in my drunken sleep. \nAfter 6 hours of sitting awake, sobering up, and calling Megan and josh in fear that they had been in an accident, they get home. They are very serious, Megan\u2019s hair is a mess (she\u2019s a v successful cosmetologist and I\u2019ve never seen a hair out of place) and they don\u2019t have a goddamn plunger. They \u201cleft their phones in a different car\u201d. \nFast forward a month. A friend of mine and Josh\u2019s reveals to me that he and Megan made out while I sat waiting for them to get home. Neither of them told me, and we had discussed it since. \nA mutual best friend of mine and Megan\u2019s sent me the screenshots of texts Megan sent her, saying \u201cit wasn\u2019t a big deal, chrysanthemummm is overreacting\u201d but to everyone else, including josh, she is \u2018heartbroken\u2019. She apologized to me, and he screamed at me for a few hours telling me to forgive her and to not throw away 9 years of our time just because of that night. \nI love her, and I miss her, but I think what she did was unforgivable. It isn\u2019t even the first time she has been a real bad friend. She knew josh and I were involved with each other, and I had gushed to her on how much I liked him. That night, they were so involved with each other everyone around me began to ask what happened between me and josh to make this okay. \nA few friends of mine have been urging me to make things up, and I don\u2019t think I should, but I could just be being an asshole. \nWhat do you think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "owJj99sMYPrJ9r8lQP0qQxU4TrjVl0L2", "post_id": "azu877", "action": {"description": "totally dropping my ex boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for totally dropping my ex boyfriend?", "text": "A little context, my ex and I knew each other from middle school (in our 20s now), we stopped talking for a few years when he moved to another state, got back in touch and started dating. \nA is ex boyfriend\nWe were also both in a relationship with my now husband (all of us were in a polyamorous relationship and all were okay with it)\nNot long after A and I started dating M (husband), A started to get really really interested in M and seemed to start blowing me off... so I stopped trying to make conversation with him as much. \nOne day, M takes a 3 hour drive to see A, and on his way home he gets into a wreck. My best friend and I rushed to his side with no hesitations, thank God he was okay though his car was totaled. \nAll this to say, life was crazy for a few days. \nNow, 2 things to keep in mind. 1) I lived in the same state as M and 2) I introduced M and A\n\nSo as emotions were high, A was starting to get.. mean to me. Distant, unresponsive when I tried to tell him about our boyfriend. \nA couple days after the accident, he flat out tells me \"I dont want to be with you anymore. I want to be with M only. But I dont want him to be with you too. So he has to choose, you or me. And if he chooses you I dont want anything to do with either of you\"\n\nI didnt respond to that, M gave A his answer... A still tried to have conversation with me but I never replied. \n\nAITA for essentially ghosting him for saying that?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Bnby7T0E1xUbJzqSALKM1G1BzHS13m45", "post_id": "b3gfi8", "action": {"description": "eating my brothers gnhoccis", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I ate my brothers gnhoccis", "text": "So my brother yesterday ate Gnhoccis and when I asked if there was any left he said no. This was the only bag. So I believe him and move on.\n\nThe next day I go to my fridge and see that there\u2019s more gnhoccis. I realized he lied and because I didn\u2019t get any I decided to eat them. \n\nHe just figured it out and now he is calling me an asshole. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Mdk7JOwRyRP0j8uzasbc0gjW6fn9Wnmp", "post_id": "azzw2p", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriends friend's father if he looks after his wife", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for asking my girlfriends friend's father if he looks after his wife?", "text": "So we are both 26 years old and have been seeing each other for around 5 years. It's pretty serious.\n\nMy partner's friend was having a 25th birthday party at her parents house where she lives. My partner and her friend have known each other for over 10 years, they are pretty close. \n\nThe party was brilliant and we both had a great time. As we were leaving we were saying our goodbyes and my girlfriend was saying goodbye to her friend's father. Usually I like to be introduced in a situation like that but my girlfriend has a slight social anxiety so I don't really expect it from her and not in a negative way. \n\nAs they were talking he just looked at me and didn't introduced himself to me he just said \"I hope you're looking after her\" I thought it was really rude so I replied by saying \"well yes, I hope you look after your wife also?\".\n\nNothing was said after that as I made it kind of awkward but my girlfriend was NOT happy with me after that but I felt he made no effort with me at all and it was a really rude thing to say to someone you have just met!!\n\nI'm not sure if it's the way I have been brought up or due to my job but introductions are a massive thing to me and first impressions really give me a wide image of who they are so I ways like to make an effort.\n\nI just thought it was a really rude introduction!!!\n\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1ZT5tA81D2SYl9ORLz9NgOlX8mOXoHlc", "post_id": "afsoi5", "action": null, "title": "AITA Am I a bad brother?", "text": "Okay so I should start this off with me and my older brother ( I'll call him Jack ) both live at home, I'm turning 18 soon and he's two years older. Also, I'll sum it up at the bottom.  Waring Cussing\n\nSo my parents have been on my back for the past year saying that I and Jack should be closer since we are siblings, they say in the future I'll regret not making an effort and family should stick together. I refuse to even talk to him unless I have to, I'd go as far as to say I hate him. It wasn't always this bad between us but when he hit puberty he got mixed with the wrong crowd and ever since he has been a complete asshole to everyone, He's racist, sexist, hypocrite, homophobic, narcist, druggie etc. I refuse to have anything to do with him unless he shows signs of trying to better himself. My parents don't try to understand where I'm coming from and always defend him, saying things like It's not easy being on drugs you can't just quit or he doesn't mean what he says it's the drugs. I do not hang around people like him because it's a bad influence's on me, unlike him ( he literally says he doesn't want to do any work ever) I'm working and planning to move out this year.   I miss having a brother and he's caused us so much harm, he's gotten violent with everyone (nothing too bad) and has been in jail for drunk while underage and smashing police car lights/ missing court dates. My parents have given up on him and just do what they can to keep the noise down. My parents are disappointed with me and I don't understand why they can't understand, If he tried to change himself for the better than yeah id try to start over with him but all he does is complain it's too hard even though he hasn't even tried.  So am I the asshole for refusing to have anything to do with him?\n\nI also plan to drop all contact with him when I move out which of course my parents aren't happy about.\n\n​\n\nShort ver;\n\nMy brother is an asshole and my parents are upset with me for not having anything to do with him, am I an asshole too for refusing?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hhnh3QjhKDqKGGuDL26NMKrQqf6UV6vU", "post_id": "b40lme", "action": {"description": "telling my dad about my boss/\"family member\" who is taking advantage of me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA: If I told my dad about my boss/\u201cfamily member\u201d who is taking advantage of me?", "text": "I have a \u201cfamily member\u201d from my stepmom\u2019s side who was nice enough to give me a job. I\u2019m a college student and I live in an area where finding a job is incredibly difficult with no experience. Meanwhile, it\u2019s impossible to gain experience because you can\u2019t get a job. I admired this family member a lot. However, after starting to work with him I\u2019ve lost an incredible amount of respect for him. To make a long story short I worked for him for less than minimum wage for 3 months, watched him treat workers like shit, make people feel guilty for taking breaks which are their rights as workers, make them feel bad for asking for their checks that are past due, etc. He favors the workers that will work overtime for free, who won\u2019t take breaks, who will bend over backwards for him for no cost and meanwhile will call the workers who take their breaks, work when they have to, etc \u201clazy\u201d. I watched him basically blame everything under the sun on my coworker (who eventually became a friend) until he found a new job and quit. The thing that finally threw me over the edge was when he started scamming me out of hours. I work the same amount of hours every single week and as time progresses, he\u2019ll pay me for less and less hours. I know it\u2019s not an accident, he knows exactly what he\u2019s doing. It\u2019s the SAME hours, SAME amount, every two weeks. Last pay check it was just 1 hour unaccounted for, this time around it\u2019s 3. That\u2019s 4 hours of work that I didn\u2019t get paid for. 4 hours that I could\u2019ve spent studying, doing homework, etc. On the day when we were supposed to get our checks, he said he didn\u2019t have him and that they\u2019d be in the next day. I didn\u2019t work the next day so I asked him if he could text me and I could swing by and come get it. His response was \u201cwhy? You don\u2019t need it.\u201d I\u2019m living with my mom, typically have very few expenses (I pay for gas, and other things here and there) and am pretty well off to be completely honest. However, that\u2019s money I worked for and I need to get my oil changed, filters replaced etc. I shouldn\u2019t even have to justify it. It\u2019s MY money. I want to vent to my dad but I\u2019m afraid he\u2019ll tell my stepmom and it will come around and bite me in the ass somehow. I\u2019m just so fed up and I\u2019m not really sure what to do. WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nsVR0flXNwpkLOcaYCi8iNVkRlwZF33L", "post_id": "ab9dgm", "action": null, "title": "AITA for the type of music I listen to?", "text": "The title isn\u2019t really accurate, but I couldn\u2019t think of a way to sum the situation up. \n\nI have a best friend and his parents treat me like a second son. They are really great people. His mother is a very good hearted person but sometimes, she can be very passive aggressive and pushy.\n\nI love music. It\u2019s one of the more important things in my life. I go to tons of concerts and am listening to music at any chance I get. \n\nRecently, his mother let me stay with her while I was in town to see a concert. I had gone to Mall of America and I bought a Slipknot sweater. When I showed back up to her house, she was excited and asked me what I had bought. I pulled out the sweater and showed it to her. It has a design on the front and the back. When she saw the front, she said \u201cwow that is super cool!\u201d When I showed her the back, she said \u201coh my goodness I don\u2019t want to see that\u201d\n\nThe design on the front is just the band logo. On the back, it\u2019s a goat head that looks to be mixed with a skull. \n\nShe said that she didn\u2019t like the design and she doesn\u2019t like that I listen to that band because they are \u201csatanic and evil. \u201c\n\nI tried telling her that the band is not satanic, and they use that kind of image to fit the music. Their music is dark. It\u2019s heavy. You can\u2019t have unicorns and rainbows to showcase the music.\n\nShe then started arguing with me and brought religion into it. She was saying \u201cThey are satanic! The masks they wear are evil! They are not good people. Good people don\u2019t do things like that. They are promoting the Devil and evil things. Don\u2019t you love God?\u201d \n\nI told her that I don\u2019t know if I believe in a god. and she then said to me \u201cOh I think you do believe! You love God, I know it!\u201d That was really frustrating. Who says something like that? I told her that no, I didn\u2019t love God cause I don\u2019t know if I believe in him. and also, I don\u2019t think about religion when I listen to music.\n\nShe then asked me this \u201cWhy do you listen to music that is so evil and promotes the Devil? The band wants people to go out and kill. They want you to worship the Devil and give him power!\u201d \n\nI told her that they didn\u2019t want people to go out and kill people and I was wondering where the hell she got that from considering she hasn\u2019t even heard the music. \n\nI then asked her, \u201cIf the Devil is so bad, why does he punish people who do bad things for eternity?\u201d \n\nShe then acted so surprised I would say something like that, and then said \u201cIf you think the Devil is a good person, you can get out of my house.\u201d It was 10 pm. 15\u00b0 outside. and I had nowhere to go. \n\ncouple weeks go by, and I saw a video on youtube titled \u201cThe Tragic History of Slipknot\u201d I sent it to her thinking she\u2019d be open minded and watch it. \n\nShe then messaged me back with a huuuuge paragraph saying that I need to stop pushing the music on her and that she\u2019s very upset with me. She told me to never send her anything like that again and that if I do, she won\u2019t talk to me for a long time. and also that her son doesn\u2019t need to be around that.  \n\nanyway I blocked her on everything, don\u2019t plan on visiting or ever talking to her again. \n\nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MB9X5Cnoc4HSo2HRzdJMoXsqUfVgPTvd", "post_id": "az8z19", "action": {"description": "telling my friend that he is being an asshole", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my friend that he is being an asshole?", "text": "I have this friend, lets call him Greg. We have been friends nearly a decade and he is (or maybe used to be) a pretty good dude to hang out with. Recently things have started going down hill. \n\nFirst, it's probably important to mention that in our friend group, we do a fair amount of drinking, on a regular basis. For the most part we keep our shit together. Greg seems to have a problem with drinking. He gets sloppy, white-girl-wasted, and blacks out and drinks everyday. He has quit in the past but he is right back at it. I realize we are probably all assholes for drinking around him, but he is my friend and I want him around. I dont wanna stop hanging out or cause any drama due to the drinking, and the rest of us dont really seem to have any problems with our consumption habits. Anyways... that is not him being an asshole, just thought it would help paint more story. \n\nRecently, he is becoming REALLY mean and aggressive. He and his husband had roommates who were also a couple. Lets call them AC. He had asked AC to move out. No hard feelings, just wanted his space. So AC moved out a month earlier than asked to leave. This did not cause any financial issues for Greg, it was a good thing. Apparently, AC had asked to leave 2 guitars and a box of bathroom stuff for an extra day as their load was full and it was getting late. Greg agreed. The next day AC did not get around to picking up the belongings, and all hell broke out. Th next day Greg is telling AC that they are never allowed at the house again, and all their left possessions will be thrown away or sold. And any mail coming to the house would also be thrown away, and demanded the house key back. telling AC that they are no longer friends and just freaking the fuck out. This is all somehow justified as complete \"disrespect\" To me, this is nbd its just a day!\n\nGreg has been having dramatic freak outs just like this over small annoyances. He is getting progressively aggressive and it is affecting everyone in the friend group. He will start fights with me or his husband when we say things he doesnt like, and will scream and slam doors if we ever tell him we dont agree with logic or reasoning. \n\nIn the past I have brought up that I dont appreciate his temper, and I want to figure out ways to build our friendship to avoid these crazy fights, and it did not go well at all. I had to apologize for months before we went back to full time hangouts again. \n\nI just learned that others feel the same way as I do (we try not to gossip about eachother) and although I feel scared about the outcome, I just keep feeling like something needs to change or it will just be the end of us. I really dont want that to happen, cuz I love the guy, and his husband is also my best friend. I guess Im just wondering if I / we would be the asshole to have like a group \"asshole intervention\" or something? to try to get the point across that we all care, but something has to give. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rHn33frVuj7dFRGEI9n1wyvHbyYVIIhV", "post_id": "akobfg", "action": {"description": "staying friends with a guy who likes me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for staying friends with a guy who likes me?", "text": "Hi Reddit! I actually posted this late last night but didn\u2019t get many replies because it was an awkward time. I\u2019m hoping you can help me with an ongoing debate I have with my brother and father. One of my guy friends who I hang out with a few times a year admitted that he liked me a year ago. I told him that I think he\u2019s an awesome guy, but I only see him as a friend and that I am not interested in anything more. I also said that I understand if he no longer wants to be friends with me but he said he didn\u2019t want to lose me as a friend and that he will get over it. \n\nThe issue is that when I hang out with this guy it\u2019s still obvious he likes me. When I was home visiting my family for Christmas this issue somehow came up in conversation and my dad and brother said I should cut this friend off to spare his feelings. They said even tho I shut him down he will continue to try to change my mind \u201cbecause that\u2019s just how guys are\u201d. I said it was unfair because I made my feelings very clear and that if he was still choosing to pursue me he wasn\u2019t respecting my decision and that is not my fault. My brother and dad said that it is my fault because I know his feelings and am still choosing to give him hope by keeping him as a friend and that I should be the bigger person and end the friendship. \n\nI guess this struck a nerve with me because I\u2019ve been verbally and physically harassed by men (cat called, groped in bars more times than I can count, hit back when I finally hit the old guy who came up to me and started to grope me), and I\u2019m sick and tired for having to control my actions because \u201cthat\u2019s just how guys are\u201d. Obviously those are much more extreme cases but I guess those experiences have influenced my mindset when it comes to this point and makes me more angry and stubborn and perhaps I cannot see the issue clearly. It even angers me that my dad and brother are saying my guy friend will say he\u2019s ok and wants nothing more and it that it\u2019s only natural he will continue to try to win me over. I think that\u2019s deceptive and that if he is doing that then he is only to blame for any pain caused because he is the one who is lying to me and choosing not to respect my decision. I would understand if he was honest with me and said he had to cut me out because I have had another male friend do this in the past and have respected his decision. But then again I\u2019ve also had unreturned feelings for people and so understand it can be heartbreaking. I guess where my issue lies is that the blame is on me to end the friendship because \u201cthat\u2019s just how guys are\u201d.\n\nSo I\u2019d really love your input Reddit. AITA?\n\nTLDR: guy friend told me that he likes me. I told him I wasn\u2019t interested and only like him as a friend and understood if he didn\u2019t want to be friends. He said he could handle it and didn\u2019t want to lose the friendship. It\u2019s obvious he still likes me. AITA for remaining friends with him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JJlwQIno5nOSIh2j1M4pJfcOgc8Nq7Nz", "post_id": "a7agc4", "action": {"description": "dating a friend's ex-girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for dating a friend's ex-girlfriend", "text": "First off, i would like to say that where i live (Brazil), it's considered of really bad taste to date a friend's former girlfriend. I don't know if it holds true for every country, but oh well\n\nSomething like 3 years ago, my friend start dating this girl. I thought she was really nice, cute and overral a good person. Even though i was really intested in her, i never really thought of having any serious relationship.\n\nFast forward to the beginning of this year. This friend of mine became a extremely toxic person, his attitudes were really bothering me (hit a car and ran away, borrowed money he refused to pay, betrayed  his GF, and some more). So... i cut ties to him.\n\na little later (something like february), i found out he and his ex broke up. And didn't thought much, because i didn't gave 2 fuchs about him, and i started talking to her.\n\nLong story short, i've been dating her for like 6 months now. I just wanted to know if IATA.\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OxRD61uK1Gpowu0xrXIaDcEAuybX3LHO", "post_id": "amqo2u", "action": {"description": "telling a group to be quiet during a comedy show", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling a group to be quiet during a comedy show?", "text": "Saw a comedy show last night, a group of 4 directly in front of me would not stop table talking, repeating every punchline and how \u201cthey did that once too\u201d. It was getting to the point I couldn\u2019t hear the next setup because they\u2019re taking about the last joke and explaining it to each other. \nFinally after about 30 min I leaned forward and quietly said \u201cguys, you\u2019re killin\u2019 me here\u201d and they finally shut up. \nAfter the show, I got up to use the bathroom and when I get back I see them talking to 2 random people we were seated near telling them \u201ctheir friend\u201d ruined the show for them. \nThe group then proceeds to tell me they couldn\u2019t enjoy the show because of ME. I kindly said \u201cI could say the same, you shouldn\u2019t talk at comedy shows, no one paid to listen to you talk.\u201d \nI was told I need to chill out and stay home next time if I can\u2019t enjoy a show with people talking. \n\nAITA for telling them (nicely) that they need to be more aware of others at a comedy club? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gOe1bXIcYfAQSbYElIahm5o3ucEv3YAU", "post_id": "b0uore", "action": null, "title": "AITAH Prank war", "text": "I parked in my coworkers favorite parking spot.  he retaliated by hiding my car keys.  I took the valve stems from his front tires and didn't leave the tool to put them back in.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WR0AorCZiVVfU9KtTQe4ayn6Uo7vFxK1", "post_id": "ag5h3o", "action": {"description": "being upset that my friend posted a picture with my ex", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my friend posted a picture with my ex?", "text": "So, some backstory. Basically me and this guy dated a year ago or something like that, and he really hurt me. One of my best friends who was there for me, and also physically every time I was forced to see him (once a week), had told me how much of a dick he was to me, that I deserved better, and that she didn\u2019t like him anyways, stuff like that. I guess the year went through with her defending me from his comments, for example when I wasn\u2019t around he would say how low it was of him to have dated me, or shit like that. After I started dating someone else and made it official, he texted me saying he was so sorry for how he treated me, that I deserved better and such. Now months after, his bestfriend and I met, somehow became really close which he was upset about and basically called me a whore for commenting on one of his ig posts. I of course told him to fuck off. \n\nNow what I don\u2019t understand is why my bestfriend who was with me throughout this whole thing would post a pic on her story hugging him, because it literally makes no sense after what he put me through and she knows how he used to want to humiliate me and such. Now am I the asshole for being upset about this? Is it just a photo and I should chill? I need opinions. \n\nTL;DR : one of my bestfriends posted a pic on her story hugging my ex, after telling me a bunch of times how he was no good and treated me like trash. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kcw7M36N2p6PLfcnLLlu4NAK8KlGU8vE", "post_id": "a1muak", "action": {"description": "ruining a friendship", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ruining a friendship?", "text": "So I started dating a girl in the dorm over from me. We dated for a while and I became really good friends with her roommate and her roommates bf. Eventually we grew apart but I was still tight with her roommate. One night my ex\u2019s roommate got dumped and came over to hang with me and my friends to get her mind off things. I had a memory foam mattress pad so she likes to lay in it when I\u2019m not there and we were cool with it but nothing sexual. So we go for a food run and I come back she\u2019s passed tf out in my bed. I try to wake her up and she\u2019s like we can cuddle it\u2019s fine. Cut to the next couple days she tells me she always had feelings for me and was jealous of her roommate and we try things out. To be honest I wanted her too but she had a bf so I kind of fell for her roommate. After a few months my ex finds out and starts a whole bunch of drama with her and now they aren\u2019t friends and absolutely hate each other. So am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2s50fh4M0KpriPyf4PCybWYlUf4sEDIo", "post_id": "b8wj9h", "action": {"description": "dumping food on my girlfriends plate at a wedding until it was overflowing", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 394}, "title": "AITA for dumping food on my girlfriends plate at a wedding until it was overflowing?", "text": "Me and my girlfriend are moderately overweight. We have been noticing that we were getting fatter still, so I pushed us to try and lose some weight. We now go on walks everyday, we cut the sugar and generally try to eat better and in reasonable quantities. This is being tougher on her because she really enjoys eating until she's full. I'm mainly the one trying to keep us on track and very often I have to call her out when she's sliding back into our old eating habits.\n\nSo this last weekend we went to a wedding together as guests. We were sitting next to each other, together with family members from both our families, all in the same table. Every table had its own food so everyone could just serve themselves. So what happened next was I had to watch as my girlfriend filled her plate up with all kinds of delicious food. I kinda gave her a look like that, but she just shrugged it off as if to say \"yeah I know, but we're at a wedding\". I was slightly annoyed with her behavior but sort of forgot about it and tried to just enjoy everyone's companies. Some time after that, when she was finished, she was out for more. She asked me to pass her this big plate of shrimp rice so that she could try some of that. That really struck me, but I didn't want to argue right there and then, so what I did was get the srino rice and proceed to fill her plate up until it was literally overflowing a little bit.\n\nShe just kind of stared at it, then got up and went outside alone. Everyone was staring at me at this point and I thought it was better I just went outside too to talk to her. She told me she was humiliated and that I stepped out of line and they I came off as a controlling jerk.\n\nSo, am I the asshole for taking a stand against her completely disregard for our agreed upon diet? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 388, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 394}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "malqcbvR53dFX3wXGXklNQB0iZ1M4oFv", "post_id": "acbnjo", "action": {"description": "writing a fictional story with *attempted* sexual assault", "pronormative_score": 45, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for writing a fictional story with *attempted* sexual assault?", "text": "I recently got suspended from my high school for an assignment that  I handed in for my Creative Writing class. The prompt was simple, it was a freestyle narrative and our teacher specifically said, \"Write about anything you want.\"\n\nOne of the scenes in my narrative is a group of boys put roofies (a date-rape) drug into a girl's drink, but my main character see's this and throws the drink away. This was it, absolutely nothing else happened afterwards. When I submitted this for feedback, my teacher saw this part and reported me to the main office and this got me suspended. Their reason? \n\n\"Promoting sexual assault and inappropriate writing.\"\n\nAm I actually the asshole here? I don't get it. Help me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 45, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2oGrSttdT3bhMtDATKL2T0yiNMKEa3fb", "post_id": "a2jy40", "action": {"description": "ending a Christmas tradition", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For ending a Christmas tradition", "text": "Oooookay I have two friends, a brother and sister who do a gift exchange with me and my family every year. The girl (call her Sav) and I started a tradition of finding rocks to give each other as gifts. Over the years I\u2019ve received interesting rocks from all over the state, and even a pet rock gift box ( Rocky is the best pet) I held onto and cherished these gifts, in fact there is a pile of rocks in my dresser drawer that are all gifts from her.\n\nA few years ago I put an end to the tradition.\n\nShe and her brother came over like always, and the exchange begins, at this point we could buy bigger gifts and the rocks were more or less a tradition. She hands me my gift and it\u2019s a massive rock from a construction site up the road, she even jokingly referred to a piece of dirt (at least I hope it was dirt ) as dog poo. This soured the mood for me, and I just sorta went quiet while everyone else had fun. I didn\u2019t talk to her for a week  afterwards, she never apologized to me, and when we finally did talk I told her that it was inappropriate to do what she did, and that the rock tradition was over. I think I actually returned the rock to where she found it. Or chucked it in the garden. To this day she has been unable to pick up on when I\u2019m upset, and if anything Sav has become even worse, to the point that I\u2019ve questioned my friendship with her. I\u2019ll tell more stories on here if you want. \n\nSo tl;dr: me and a friend had a tradition, and I cut it off after a thoughtless gift AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eDRVy7HadIkLZj33eviHMqqrc0OEobZa", "post_id": "aot8ot", "action": {"description": "getting into dirty dispute with a disabled guy on internet", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting into dirty dispute with a disabled guy on Internet?", "text": "So, there was a post about some cybersport team, which wasn\u2019t pretty good last couple of months, and in the community they are considered as a disabled team. I wrote a joking comment that was pointing out that opinion.\n5 minutes later one guy responded me, that I am the asshole, and that he was offended by that joke, because, as he said later, he is disabled. He acted like he was 8, and more triggered than offended. I responded him with some edgy jokes and told him, that he has a problem. He responded that I\u2019m mentally disabled, that I don\u2019t know what is like being disabled and blocked me.\nBut what is he don\u2019t know, is that I have a severe form of Hemophilia, and it\u2019s kinda hard to live with that in my country. Furthermore, I am completely aware of what is like to be a disabled person, and I had really big issues with my health. I just trying to live as a normal person, and I also joke about my disease like it\u2019s not a big deal. \nSo, one side of me is actually feel sorry for that guy, because I know what is he going through, and another says that he is an whiny little idiot, who triggers at every joke", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Od82eTKIDEMkq5SgUK6eIdzOobz0QjRh", "post_id": "b7iv45", "action": {"description": "calling my friend stupid", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for calling my friend stupid", "text": "My friend, let's call her Pat, always wants the focus to be on her. Whenever we're talking about something, she would always take over the conversation and ramble on about her life, even when it has nothing to do with what we're talking about, and I can never get a word in. \n\nOne day we were talking and the topic of math came up, so I quickly mentioned about a really hard math question I was trying to solve for class. She then cut me off and went on a tangent about how math is super hard and isn't relevant in the \"real world\". I had enough of her rambling and replied \"well then you're stupid\". She got really upset and left. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "wrb03rtiXwfWwOFabFYT04OiLM3Aqut0", "post_id": "ap0qay", "action": {"description": "cutting a ties with my father", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting a ties with my father?", "text": "So back in September me and my father went to therapy to hopefully repair our relationship that has been damaged for years on end. During therapy he was verbally abusive. I told him that I feel he doesn't care and he was verbally abusive, to which he denied. So I told him I didn't want him to contact me at all. So he kept contacting me. Eventually I said if he contacted me I would have the cops involved because he was harrassing me. So I avoided him over Christmas. My entire family (on his side) saying I'm a terrible son and I should just talk to him. Not I can't talk to him with out him putting me down. Since Ive done this I have been thriving in school and my mental health has been the best it's been in years. Am I a bad son?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9LRTfF7nMwSkqLlxYa167S4MPn1cYn5D", "post_id": "9x9eht", "action": {"description": "having a non-binary \"friend\" who is extremely rude so I have stopped using the correct pronouns", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 38}, "title": "AITA- I have a non-binary \u201cfriend\u201d who is extremely rude so I have stopped using the correct pronouns.", "text": "I am an 18 year old freshman in college and I am an avid D&D player. I am currently in two campaigns at the moment and both of them involve my non-binary acquaintance, let\u2019s just say her name is River, and I used to enjoy her company. However, recently River has become super annoying and rude to many of my good friends. Especially when we play D&D together. \n\nIn one campaign River plays this huge and flamboyant firbolg and has taken every opportunity to remind everyone in the party that we have no idea what the fuck gender this monster is. It\u2019s growing annoying and the way River has gone about correcting us when using the wrong pronouns is downright rude. Sometimes we slip up and say \u201cshe\u201d when we\u2019re in game and they immediately cut off the conversation and grunt \u201cthem.\u201d repeatedly until we apologize and say \u201cthem\u201d instead.\n\nRiver is the DM of my other campaign with several of my good friends in it as well. When we play the game it\u2019s fine but River makes unnecessary rule checks and hampers down on us having fun in the game and forces us (by benevolent forces in game) to go along the story path she wants to follow. The party has 6 people in it so inevitably there\u2019s some side conversations going on throughout the game and River has said, on many occasions, that \u201cside conversations are to be left outside so that my spotlight as DM shouldn\u2019t be taken away.\u201d She also gets upset when we miss little details of the story because she talks super fast. She even snapped at my elvish friend for wanting to read inscriptions on the wall instead of fighting with the group. \n\nHere\u2019s a bit of backstory: when me and River first met, River must\u2019ve heard my name wrong somewhere. But she refused to call me anything other than Anita (which is NOT my name) even after I showed her my license AND she found and friended me on Facebook. My roommate and I were pretty annoyed with it so I jokingly said \u201cwell then I won\u2019t use your right pronouns until you use my right name\u201d (which I personally think is fair, but it may not be) \n\nRiver\u2019s rude behavior has caused us to grow apart, even though she\u2019s really clingy and calls me and my roommate her best friends all the time. Though she\u2019s a big part of my hobby, so I can\u2019t just stop all contact like I\u2019d prefer. \n\nHere\u2019s my opinion: respect must be earned. So in order for me to use the right pronouns she has to be respectful, right? Or am I just an asshole and this is all an unnecessary petty thing for me to do? \n\n(Also, I\u2019m posting this on mobile so sorry for any mistakes or typos) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 38, "OTHER": 29, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 38}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "DOwEdVhVRis2wGDHMPDNRHnZyPboL6Ko", "post_id": "b11bap", "action": {"description": "having two birdfeeders", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for having two birdfeeders?", "text": "Okay so I posted this earlier this week on r/legaladvice for the legal side of it. Though it got me thinking about this subreddit so I'll post it here as well.\n\nThe following is my post from LA: \n\n> I understand that I can simply take the bird feeders down. However, my husband and I work long hours and we have two cats at home. They were tearing apart the apartment before we got the bird feeders and now have settled down. They spend most of the day watching the birds now instead of trying to tunnel through our walls (we watch them via nest cameras).\n> \n> So this has left us in a bit of a pickle. We have the permission and support of the our complex and their management to have these bird feeders out. However one of our neighbors has a very big problem with this. Apparently all these birds are ruining his POS car's paint job. He parks under a tree... where all the birds are. There is plenty of parking elsewhere in the complex but he wants to park closest to his apartment entrance. No one else, to our knowledge, has complained.\n> \n> His argument is that I am attracting these birds and ruining his enjoyment (?) of the property. I'll also add there is no assigned parking. I park basically next to him, just not under the tree and I get maybe one maybe two poops a week. I feel like that's kind of the price to pay for living in a heavily wooded area.\n> \n> Does he have any legal standing? Part of reading in this sub I understand that people who say they will sue/get us evicted usually don't do anything. I just am wary of running into an obscure law or ordinance that prohibits what I am doing. \n\nSomeone on LA thought I should get him a car cover but I'm scared to approach him since he just hates our guts. He has now taken to watching us come and go from his balcony, which has really put me on edge. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wic63Q7o8eQFX3Z9HVa7m9KYJSUZOcPN", "post_id": "aehu6l", "action": {"description": "not telling someone that I'm taken", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for not telling someone that I'm taken?", "text": "\nAITA?\nSo I was at a party a few weeks back and I'm a woman and I was talking to this guy. Just friendly no flirting or anything just talking. So after a few hours of having good conversation and just laughing and stuff he goes to the toilet and some other dude comes at me.  'i see something happening here'. So I'm like no I have a boyfriend and we were just talking. And then he started bashing about how I was misleading this guy and then the guy I was talking to comes back. \n\nThe dude tells him I'm taken and he acts all offended and ignored me for the whole night? \n\nDo I have to explain to guys immediately that I am taken? Because I just felt like this was a fun guy to talk to. Was I really misleading? \n\nHe did put his arm around me once but I didn't see a problem with that. My boyfriend wasn't at that party and I did also talk to other people and dance with my girl friends. I've had this happen numerous times but it just feels like I can't talk to someone from the opposite sex if I need to tell them immediately what my relationship status is \n\nTLDR: guy I was talking to was mad because I didn't tell him after a few hours of talking that I was taken. We just met. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "m9nFJuk98HzHsuSlrSY3SU20SlKxq5bs", "post_id": "aczecg", "action": {"description": "not liking my nephew because his parents are shit heads", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "Aitah I don\u2019t like my nephew because his parents are shit heads.", "text": "The kid is cool and all but his parents are just so awful to be around. Mom is overly sensitive and cries every time someone makes a joke. The husband lied about his age to all of us when we met and is so fucking creepy. The two of them just ruined any type of relationship I could have with the kid. I feel bad because he\u2019s still little but I don\u2019t feel the way my girlfriend doesn\u2019t when we spend time with him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ufyDNp6iBbTersKkpSuObs51qtkpIeH2", "post_id": "akspr3", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to wear briefs", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA For not wanting my BF to wear Briefs?", "text": "I'm 23f, he's 22M and he wears briefs. We've been together for about 8 months he wears  Like tightey whiteys but I guess never actually in white. I feel like its just so boyish and not sexy at all seeing him in briefs and asked him a lot to try boxer briefs or boxers. I even bought him pairs of calvin klein boxer briefs because he wears the brief version but he said he didn't like them. Everytime I see him in briefs I just know he'd look way better in boxer briefs because he's really fit and works out a lot. He said he likes briefs because he gets the most support from them (his balls are pretty big I guess). Also he's been having slight pain in his nuts and he said his doc said to wear briefs. AITA for trying to get him to change?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "haZSRFk0hhesPC0uJksxJ8pConYRVnww", "post_id": "aux91d", "action": {"description": "openly disliking a bratty kid", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For openly disliking a bratty kid", "text": "I'm on mobile, so I can't format or anything. First time poster :) \n\nSo background- I'm 19 my boyfriend is 18, we are working on getting our own place but currently live with his family. His family is like my own, he and I have been together almost 2 years now and he's my everything. \n\nHis little brother (14) has a friend (15) who is always hanging around the house, let's call him bubbles. Little brother and bubbles have been friends a long time, but off and on. There has been many fights where little brother hates bubbles and they don't talk and trade insults. \n\nI don't like bubbles. I've never gotten along with him, he's very two faced. He is very kind/affectionate to me when I have something he wants. Otherwise he is openly rude, ignores me, or does things on purpose to piss me off because he finds it funny. I get it- he's still a little kid and I should let it go. I have tried very hard to ignore him, but he's always around and getting on my nerves. \n\nRecently my bf and I had some relationship issues where we did end up breaking up for a few days. The day we broke up bubbles was there escalating things, chipping in and causing more drama. He laughed at me as I left the house on tears. While bf and I were apart he nearly hooked up with a mutual friend of ours who has been very openly into him. We got back together and things have been fine, but bubbles keeps teasing my bf for not have been with very many girls, (I'm the 3rd) and joking about how he should've gotten with mutual friend. He drops her name and jokes about her frequently. \n\nI have not been rude or caused fights when bubbles is over, but I also don't hide the fact that I don't like him. I have stopped sharing with him, I order pizza he begs for some, I go to get a soda for bf and I and don't let him come with, ect. When asked directly by my little brother I have said I don't like bubbles and explained why. I am trying my best to avoid insulting or talking badly of him. I try to avoid him at all costs, because he refuses to stop any the stuff he does and I don't like the conflict and drama. \n\nI thought I was behaving maturely and making the best of the fact that he and I will not get along. Recently little brother has been pissed at me for not liking or being around bubbles and bf and my best friend have told me that I'm the asshole here for being upset, not pretending to like him, and avoiding him. They say because he's just a kid and he's just messing around, I shouldn't have a problem with him. Are they right? Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vbrfHtpqwzOMh40UnFjYgzo7DlVgv4mH", "post_id": "ai5a1c", "action": {"description": "possibly risking everyone's work over one person", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for possibly risking everyone\u2019s work over one person", "text": "I might be vague over some parts because I don\u2019t want people finding out it\u2019s me who wrote this.\n\nI was forced into a school club where everyone studies a certain topic over an entire school year and compete against other schools to see who gets an overall high score. There are 2 groups in each school who compete: Group A and Group B. Group A is the group for the top people who\u2019s scores matter more for the competition. They are also required to write, memorize, and recite a speech which counts towards the school\u2019s score. It does get fairly intense as the teacher who runs my team requires that they go to school to study the material and practice their speeches about 10 hours a weeks, usually after school and during weekends. Even after that, they are still expected to study more at home. There\u2019s only a limited amount of people allow on this group as well. Group B is where everyone else is placed, who\u2019s scores don\u2019t matter as much and aren\u2019t required to recite a speech. It\u2019s pretty much where everyone who didn\u2019t make it onto Group A go to.\n\nI was lucky enough to be on Group B. About a month back, my teacher, however, tried to convince my friend to join Group A, who was also forced into the club. He really didn\u2019t want to for all the right reasons. His parents are divorced, he barely has any free time, he lives about an hour away from school, and he has to care for his parents for a lot of things. He was pressured into joining anyway since he really doesn\u2019t have any other choice being in a club he didn\u2019t want to be in. He didn\u2019t really know how excessive the work would be and wanted out after like a week in. My friend couldn\u2019t get out despite trying everything he could. He emailed, spoke to in private, and got his dad (his mom forced him into the club) to email the teacher but was constantly turned down by some crap like \u201ctry your best to come to the practices.\u201d He was even questioned why he didn\u2019t make it to practices. Keep in mind that he also made it clear how the situation was at home and how he doesn\u2019t have any more time for the club. There was one other person who could take his place, but it was really obvious that the teacher only forced my friend into Group A to avoid said person getting in.\n\nThis went on for a while and the dad of the friend was apparently get mad that he has to drive my friend around everywhere constantly. Because Group A had to write a speech, they had to recite it a few weeks before the competition. My friend said he\u2019s now going just like he didn\u2019t want to be in this club in the first place, and got his dad to email the teacher saying he couldn\u2019t make it. Because clubs are also counted as periods, the teacher responds saying he would fail him. He told me this and in my mind at the time, I was pissed that the teacher prioritized the team over his needs. I convinced him to talk to his counselor to get out of the class. He did, didn\u2019t go to the speech event, and was apparently able to dropped out.\n\nThis happened a few days ago and I just realized that I might\u2019ve just risked our team placing at all during the competition because he dropped out. Missing a member that\u2019s on Group A will drop our overall score by a lot. Our school is known for winning these competitions and it\u2019s a fairly big deal losing one. I completely ignored the fact that it would greatly impact our team\u2019s score and the people in Group A obviously work hard to get a decent score just to place, and I\u2019m worried that I might\u2019ve just risked it all over one person.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XhaqTCwVCaxD2iaZPFqiamKqK76mf9If", "post_id": "amgt1g", "action": {"description": "not wanting a pervert and his mother in my house", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a pervert and his mother in my house???", "text": "   So some context, I'm an 18 year old female living with my father. When I was 8 my parents seperated and I my dad got custody of me when I was 13. When I moved in with him he was living with his girlfriend (let's call her 'Am') had her two sons from a previous marriage, (Let's call them 'Gamer' and 'Perv') Gamer is the youngest and I don't have a problem with him. But his older brother Perv, who is actually only 3 days older than me, that I have a problem with.\n\n   When I moved in Am and her Kids Gamer was kool and we got along just fine. But Perv was always a pain in my ass. He would insult me, harass me and even physical hurt me (the biggest thing I can think of is her once grabbed my arm and swung me into a glass lizard tank which resulted I'm me hitting my throat on the corner and making it hard for me to breath). He was always a gross creep.\n\n   It would even seep into my school life as he would harass my friends to the point were some of them refused to hang out with me if he was in school that day. \n\n   Anyway, when I was about 16 \"The Incident\" happened. I was in my room sleeping when I was woken up to someone touching and moving my leg around. As I was half asleep I just assumed it was my older sister, who was living with us at the time, making room in my bed for my young niece to sleep with me. As my niece liked to sleep in my room sometimes, so I didn't react right away.\n\n   But then I feel whoever was moving me reach there hand up my nightdress towards my \"area\". At this point I woke up and looked to see Perv standing above me in just red basketball shorts and his phone out. I checked my own phone and saw it was about 4am. \n\nMe: -still half asleep- what are you doing?\nPerv: I wanna show you something.\nMe: No get out I'm trying to sleep.\nHe leaves.\n\n   I don't think to much about it till the morning, when I woke up and realized how unnerving the whole situation was. So I went and told his mom, Am, in hopes she'll do something about it. She didn't. She called my dad and told him that Perv was in my room \"tickling my toes\"??? When my dad called my sister's (now ex)boyfriend he told my dad what really happened. \n\n   To say my dad was pissed would be an understatement. When he heard that he immediately came home from work, packed all our stuff and we moved in with my grandma until we could get our own place. While we were living with my grandma Am started texting my dad hateful things about me and him like, \"she's fucking lying\" \"your a piece of shit\" \"that fat bitch can fucking die\" and so on. Keep in mind I was only 16 at the time. She even went to my grandmas house and took my dads truck (which was in her name at the time).\n\n   So we just started to ignore her. 2 years and 3 more girlfriends later me and my dad finally have our own place, just me and him. A little bit after moving in he started talking to her again and now he's dating her again, even though I had told him I didn't think it was a good idea and that I couldn't stand her. But he ignored me, and now Gamer is living with us and she practically is. She also keeps bring Perv with her so now he's coming by the house and sometimes even stays late at night. Am and Perv fed my father with a BS story that he was in my room looking for stuff to steal, not touching me.\n\n   Now he's thinking about moving in with her and wants me to try to get along with her. \n\nAITA for holding a grudge and not making peace with them? Should I just forgive and forget? Am I right to not want them in our lives again?\n\nTL;DR: My stepbro snuck into my room to touch me inappropriately. Dad moves us out. Stepmom lies and insulted me. 2 years pass and there back and I don't want them to be.\n\nPlease help. Idk what I should do, this whole thing is complicated.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c9DudwCC2OaxZZX7WmR7HO0qUZ7oe0fN", "post_id": "aygd11", "action": {"description": "sleeping with my friends crush", "pronormative_score": 117, "contranormative_score": 34}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with my friends crush", "text": "I\u2019ve known John for a little over 4 years and I would consider him to be one of my closest friends. About two and a half years ago he introduced us to Jane. It was very clear that he had feeling for jane and honestly, I thought that they were dating for the first few months after meeting her.  But it soon became pretty obvious that she did not have feeling for john and they were just friends. Jane is a very awesome person and became part of our friend group. I would say that jane and I are friends although we never hung out without being with a group of people. While john never really got over his crush on jane it had seemed like he had moved on as he has dated multiple girls over the past couple years, although he is currently single.\n\n\tThis brings us to last week, I was just getting off work and I stopped by the bar on my way home to grab a beer. At the bar I ran into Jane and her roommates, they were celebrating her roommate getting a promotion at work. Jane invited me to join them and I obliged.  After a while her roommates wanted to go to another bar and Jane said she wanted to go back home and invited me to go back to her place to smoke. I agreed and when we go back to her house. When we got to her place, she kissed me, and we end up sleeping together. \n\n\tI don\u2019t know if Jane told John or how he found out so fast but the next evening I got a call from john and he was really angry at me calling me an asshole and telling me that I don\u2019t respect him and that I did this to hurt him. Then he asked me what my intentions were with Jane. I told him that I didn\u2019t mean for him to get hurt and that I didn\u2019t know what if I was going to pursue anything more with Jane that we were drunk, and it just happened. He hasn\u2019t talked to me since.\n\nOne on hand I can understand why john is so angry and hurt but on the other he has liked Jane for years and she does not feel the same way about him. If something was going to happen between them, it would have happened already. I kind of feel like Jane and I had a real connection and want to see where this goes but I also don\u2019t want to lose a close friend over this. So, am I the asshole for sleeping with my friends crush?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 26, "OTHER": 108, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 117, "WRONG": 34}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vUuR0sHni2hESFK8554hxcG0kkSRfbd7", "post_id": "a7p412", "action": {"description": "calling the cops on a gas car in an electric charging spot", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for calling the cops on a gas car in an electric charging spot?", "text": "I had to drive 1.5hrs to a specialist vet for my dog. I drained the battery in my electric car I found 3 charging locations near me, 1 at a mall, 1 at a AAA business center thing, and 3 was at a local cafe. \n\nThe mall was all being used, AAA was broken and when I pulled up to the Cafe there was a gas Audi parked in the spot. I googled my states law and it states:\n\n> Florida Statute 366.94\u2003Electric vehicle charging stations\n(3)(a)\u2003It is unlawful for a person to stop, stand, or park a vehicle that is not capable of using an electrical recharging station within any parking space specifically designated for charging an electric vehicle.\n(b)\u2003If a law enforcement officer finds a motor vehicle in violation of this subsection, the officer or specialist shall charge the operator or other person in charge of the vehicle in violation with a noncriminal traffic infraction, punishable as provided in s. 316.008(4) or s. 318.18.\n\nI was stuck waiting here since I didn\u2019t have enough to get me to the next one (which could be broken or in use) and it was the only one working since AAA was broken and not just busy. \n\nI called the non-emergency line to complain, I even asked two workers if they knew whose car it was, they didn\u2019t know.  I waited in the closest spot hoping police or owner of said car would do something. \n\nCop shows up comes over to me an says \u201cThere is no law for this so why did you call me?\u201d I showed him the above quoted statue and he says \u201cI have to look this up.\u201d  He goes back to his squad car and the owner comes out yelling at me that it\u2019s his car and he paid $1500 to install that and if he wants to park there he will and I need to get off his property or he will hit me with trespassing. Now I have to pay to park and charge in that spot, this was not a free charge while you eat/shop kind of thing. Cop comes out to say that I am right, it is illegal to block the spot and he also cannot ask me to leave because I am paying for the spot and I have a contract with ChargePoint the actual owner of the charger. \n\nSo AITA for this? The owner did not get a ticket for parking in the spot because the cop felt it was \u201cup to his discretion\u201d to decide if he violated the statute. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tABQHXxwbqRtSoeQPU0zHCp9zpqfN2qU", "post_id": "9x6mha", "action": {"description": "having sexual thoughts about an asexual person", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for having sexual thoughts about an asexual person?", "text": "So there's this one girl who I've for a while and have had a massive crush on for a while as well. She knows that I like her and she's pretty cool about it. However, she's Asexual and she's very vocal about the fact that she's asexual. The problem is, I think about having sex with her a lot and I just in general fantasize about her more than I probably should. I feel horrible about these fantasies because I feel as if I'm disrespecting her identity by having them, but at the same time I just can't help it. I obviously haven't told her about this, and I haven't told anyone else about this either.\n\nShould I feel horrible for having these fantasies? Is there anything I can do to make my situation better?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tJUMlPjAUyfIvgL7ArntswtNWmG9wc1I", "post_id": "an4v6v", "action": {"description": "being mad at someone for an event that occurred 4 years ago", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at someone for an event that occurred 4 years ago?", "text": "Prom was coming up toward my final year in highschool and I had only one girl to ask out on my mind. Ive had a crush on her for about 2 years and we were friends since i was too much of a wuss to ask for more. We were all about to head in seperate directions and that encouraged me to finally ask her out and guess what she said yes!\n....but lil did i know that the answer was a lie.\n\nProm is a day away and i ask her if she wants a ride. She says shell just arrive with a bunch of friends \"no bigge ill meet you there\".\n\nProm is finally here and I get there early to make sure i greet her. She finally arrives and the first thing i mention is how good she looks in her dress. She replies \"Thank you\" and goes to a different table than planned.\n\nNo biggie, i switch tables and start chatting with her friends but soon i pick up a few hints and realize that she wants nothing to do with me.\nKinda ruined the night tbh but nevertheless I enjoyed myself as much as I could. \n\nI head back to school the next week and im about to ask her if i did anything to upset her. Then her friend goes \"I heard u had a date but couldnt smash\" roght next to her. At this point i realize what happened.\n\nEither A: She told everyone shes going out with me and her friend (male who i despised throughout the year amd we both hated each other) talked her out of it.\n\nB: She just flipped the switch and decided she wont go out with me anymore but didnt know how to tell me.\n\nI was pissed...seriously pissed... this is probably the one and only memory that eats me up when im reminded of HS.\nFast forward 4 years later and she reaches out to me, i didnt even look at the msg, Just instantly blocked her. AITA for still holding a grudge against her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RCwBscMjxjRMXZkVS1U7ciNL3f2l8IZZ", "post_id": "auoxzq", "action": {"description": "not texting my girlfriend after she told me not to say anything", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For not texting my girlfriend after she told me not to say anything?", "text": "So our relationship\u2019s alright. Its long distance and she\u2019s really emotional about it, so i get being upset pretty often. Lately though, she\u2019ll make huge shifts in her mood that tend to be her upset at me.\n\nBackground: she\u2019s an artist, but she\u2019s been struggling a lot in her classes. Lately, she cusses and puts down her own work constantly (even though we both agreed not to cuss about little things.) Everytime though, her projects still turn out good, no matter what she says. She always turns it in on time, and always gets full points and kudos from the teachers.\n\nNo matter what it is, i support it. Today though, i was having a reeeaaally bad day. 5 exams this week, havent slept in 3 days. She\u2019s been really emotional lately and has only been negative today (there\u2019s a baby in the house, her parents arent supportive, she\u2019s always the butt end of insults at her house, etc). I was getting tired of texting \u201cim sorry\u201d or \u201cthat blows\u201d or \u201ci wish i could help,\u201d cause thats all i usually am able to do on these days. When she got really mad about her work the 5th time in a row today, i said \u201cwhatever you say.\u201d She was furious. Told her i didnt know what else to say at that point, so she said \u201cjust dont talk then.\u201d \n\nSo, since i was busy, i said alright. Told her Id text her late tonight when i was done. I feel like i was in the wrong somewhat. AITA?\n\nAlso, no comments about \u201cred flag\u201d crap. I want judgement, not dumping advice. Im not mad at her, i just figured id give her some space.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IV2O6zBrUNE6zAiPPHGxmsWl1F9lky8p", "post_id": "ak6zi2", "action": {"description": "ignoring a homeless person who wanted money", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ignoring a homeless person who wanted money", "text": "So just for some context, I work in a big city with a fairly large homeless population. I\u2019m usually accosted by them every day for money/food/etc and recognize plenty of them. I\u2019ve been receptive to them before, but after multiple incidents personally and that I\u2019ve witness, I choose to either ignore or engage, since I don\u2019t know if they would be aggressive or not. \n\nSo, me and my boyfriend are waiting in the train station for my train to arrive, and a clear homeless man is personally going up to every person he sees trying to get food. Me, seeing this as he approaches me, I wave him off and grab my boyfriend closer to me, as I feel uncomfy. The homeless man proceeded to personally say to me \u201cfuck you\u201d so forth and so on. Then proceeds the typical back and forth between him, my boyfriend and I, which causes my temper to come out. \n\nAfterwards, my boyfriend is having a debate with me now about what I did was wrong, and I made him feel less than \u201chuman\u201d in a sense. My reasoning is that I don\u2019t want to get us involved, as I have to many incidents where once I talk, they latch on and try convincing me to give money. \n\nSo what\u2019s the verdict reddit? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hU69jvnT9pK2aVM0XxlK8zx0ikml87H7", "post_id": "au2tyv", "action": {"description": "following the speed limit in the carpool lane", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for following the speed limit in the carpool lane?", "text": "", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hxJUfxssklt2San6I7fOulSLmK97i8nO", "post_id": "b2kcig", "action": {"description": "not opening the door", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not opening the door?", "text": "So I go to a highschool in the USA and last year we made a rule that all the doors will be locked during class time because people were scared of a shooting or something.  So everyone is used to knocking and someone getting up and answering the door.  Well I guess they decided that rule was dumb and they could just lock the doors if we go into lockdown.  They never really advertised this change.  Well in my first period the door is always unlocked and if we are all doing a test or reading sometimes people will walk up to the door and knock on it without trying the handle at all.  They will knock once and then twice and then just walk away and no one in the class moves not even the teacher.  I know it\u2019s simple to just get up and open the door but it\u2019s annoying because if we are in the middle of a deep thought getting up can interrupt it.  I\u2019d be pissed if I knocked twice and no one answered but like how easy is it to just try to fucking open it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5nt3SnAyE4uoImgKWY0Ev0j5j4cMD5Cw", "post_id": "avrgxy", "action": {"description": "breaking off contact with my supposedly best friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I broke off contact with my supposedly best friend?", "text": "So ill try to keep it short however i might write more if you think you will need more information...\nSo one of my best friends sometimes has these phases where she completely shuts me off and gets easily annoyed by me. \nIt happens once in a while and tbh by now I am fed up. I have just gone through depression however i just managed to rebuild my confidence and right now I feel it crumbling again. Breaking her off just seems so selfish to me but I feel like it is necessary...", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MMOiqruvucqaTvKXWlcsxfrAjOeYhALX", "post_id": "ad718f", "action": {"description": "urging my sister to graduate early", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for urging my sister to graduate early?", "text": "My sister is currently in her sophomore year of high school. Our family learned over New Years that she is able to graduate a year earlier than expected. However, she doesn't want to take the opportunity. For background, the school isn't a very good one. My sister has made many friends there which I think is the reason she insists on staying for another year that she doesn't have to. Her reasons are gaining college credits and that's about it. My sister already has a fully paid scholarship for college and wants to stay behind for a year she doesn't need to for a couple college credits instead of going to actual college? It's ridiculous to me which is why I think it's because of the friends she has made. Because of this, we have been at odds over this issue, our relationship is great otherwise. Our parents want her to do what she wants to do and wants us to drop the topic because of how heated our discussions about this get but how can I stand by while she squanders such a great opportunity?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qZXkEdxD4TwkbeYoDCBfxXgvXKR78dMo", "post_id": "apm7sf", "action": {"description": "seeing a girl who is the best friend of another girl I went on a date with", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for seeing a girl who is the best friend of another girl I went on a date with?", "text": "So I\u2019ll try to keep it brief, I met this girl, kinda cute, we went on one date, she wouldn\u2019t stop going on about how she\u2019s over her ex, thought whatever cool, she was kinda loud and annoying but I just put it down to her being drunk. I didn\u2019t feel too much for her but we planned to meet again and I decided I would because it was fun the first time so maybe I\u2019ll end up liking her or something who knows\n\nAnyway she bailed after I got ready and claimed to go a birthday party but ended up meeting her ex, not too bothered barely know this girl but then a few days later (today) she asked me out, I was like sure thing and she bought a friend out.\n\nShe wouldn\u2019t stop talking about her ex and was generally loud, rude and selfish, she told me and her best mate she was out of weed but I was on the way to pick some up anyway so I didn\u2019t mind, once I picked up she ended up having loads and then once hers were over she had mine. Now I\u2019m not selfish, I often share my things, food, drink whatever and I\u2019ve shared stuff with this girl before however I just thought if she\u2019s selfish over something so small she\u2019s just not got the right moral character and is just downright immature for my liking.\n\nNow her friend on the other hand, was down to earth, also cute and we got on amazingly, we were just laughing at each other\u2019s jokes constantly and nothing felt forced at all, she didn\u2019t constantly talk about any ex\u2019s etc and she was polite! (Used please & thank you, other girl didn\u2019t, which actually does bother me) I can tell OG girl treats her friend like shit by the way she talks to her and tells her to do stuff and it just reflects more of what I don\u2019t want in a person.\n\nAnyways I\u2019ve arranged to see the girls friend and she\u2019s having a fit over it, AITA for seeing her friend even though she\u2019s clearly not over her ex, is rude and we have no chemistry?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fiZcArcfnrV4GhhdQXB3QKM0UeC2zxmm", "post_id": "b0ar6e", "action": {"description": "befriending the ex- Boyfriends side", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA Befriending the ex- Boyfriends side.", "text": "Alright so here's the scoop.\n\nI've recently started hanging out with my ex again. We never really stopped talking fully but we had a period of time where we werent talking alot. I am in a serious relationship for about 10 months now. And it's a coincidence that the two of us started talking again. We go out for coffee's, discuss problems only if they are mutual, most of the time spent talking with her is about things like: Memes, videos, video games and music. \n\nMy girlfriend insist i should talk to her less because she does not trust me, due to an incident, which involved me lying. I lied about not having sex with someone in the past. I cheated on a girlfriend I dated before this one and she was cool with it. They were best friends but ended up working it out. They're still best friends.\n\nI do not want to stop talking to my ex, even though we had a relationship in the past, its in the past for a reason. I still see her as a good person and a good friend. I talked to her about some private stuff involving my gf and continued to talk to her about said private stuff after gf asked me to stop since i dont think she can limit what me and my friends are allowed to talk about, even if the friend is my ex. its not only her private stuff, its my private stuff as well. i know for a fact she tells her female friends about MY private things. she says she wouldnt mind me talking about it if it was anyone else but the ex. Which is in my opinion a bit melodramatic and childish, lets be adults about these kinds of things. \n\nI mean its not worth losing a girlfriend over, but it's also not worth losing a friend. I have also made attempts to meet the two, and actually suceeded because i thought they would click. But my girlfriend is not fond of her because she thinks i spend to much time with her and even brought up dumping me if I don't start \"putting boundaries\" on the relationship.\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to stay friends with an ex? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TrUG7oWNNgK1Ce9vWWf54xHCZ4z1UAZa", "post_id": "9zi2oe", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with my friend anymore after he came out as gay", "pronormative_score": 50, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with my friend anymore after he came out as gay.", "text": "Context: me and my friend have been friends since we were little kids. We played games together, went on trips, had sleep overs, the whole nine yards. \n\nEarlier this year he came out as gay, which didn't surprise me in the least. After he came out everyone was very accepting and it went as smooth as those things can go. But for the past couple months his personality has completely changed. His voice is really campy now, and he constantly makes sassy/ over the top. He started hanging out with other LGBT communities, and got a boyfriend (who was really awesome to hang with.) But now the dial has turned to 11 and that's all he ever does. \n\nHe never wants to do the things we used to do anymore. He makes fun of the hobbies that we both liked. I asked him to come to my birthday party and he didn't show up because he had nothing to wear apparently. Every time I extend and invitation it's rejecting, or if he does come along he complains and makes rude remarks the entire time. He's constantly talking down about my appearance and says shit like no wonder I'm single. He's turned into a complete asshole. \n\n I just really miss my friend. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 49, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 50, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IxBf2W65ZCZV1yX1QnPr7A2NRGX0ak5N", "post_id": "b9eiks", "action": {"description": "stopping talking to my 'friends'", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I stopped talking to my 'friends'?", "text": "Reposting for visibility because I need more advice before I do anything too rash.\n\nSo on Snapchat you can see where your friends are at the moment. For the past 2 years I consistantly see all of them together at someone's house without mentioning anything to me. At the beginning I just assumed they forgot about me, but obviously not after 2 years. Whenever I join the discord and they are talking about hanging out, they all go silent. One of my friends let it slip that they have a whole group chat to plan when they hang out and I'm obviously not in it. The thing is we already have a group chat so they went through the effort of making a new one with everyone else but me in it. The thing is I don't even see a reason for them pretending to be my friend. Some are in my classes at school and I help them out and share homework, but some aren't even in any classes of mine. Am I over reacting or is it time to find new friends? Wow I feel much better after typing this rant. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KsXPgFmfhKquxvm2J5inxz3kEwtJjp2A", "post_id": "ajhuvy", "action": {"description": "saying something to my friend/coworker about trying to feed me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for saying something to my friend/coworker about trying to feed me?", "text": "Bit of background - she (29F) used to work with my husband. They were more friends than her and I were, but we would occasionally go out to lunch and hang out. I always saw her as quirky, but nice. \n\nShe lost her job and I know that she is a very dedicated and loyal worker, so I felt comfortable recommending her to work where I do. \n\nNow that we spend more time together, I'm quickly realizing she is generally annoying. She has a lot of habits that annoy many people (mainly that she talks incessantly and doesn't take a hint that you don't want to talk), but she is nice and means well.\n\nOne thing in particular, however, drives me so nuts that I might just say something. She will always try to feed me (and everyone really) but she will not take no for an answer. Here's a scenario that just happened.\n\nMe: *actively eating lunch*\n\nHer: Would you like some chicken?\n\nMe: No, thank you! I have chicken in my lunch.\n\nHer: You don't want more chicken?\n\nMe: No, thanks.\n\nHer: But I'm not going to finish it all. \n\nMe: You could save it for tomorrow.\n\nHer: I could just put it on your plate and you'd have more chicken.\n\nMe: Really, I'm good.\n\nHer: Are you sure?\n\nMe: Yes.\n\nShe then asked me again if I wanted it before she left. She does this all the time with candy, snacks, lunch, etc. and doesn't seem to take a hint. She means well and I can see that, but it is very annoying that she can't just take the no. WIBTA if I asked her to stop?\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MQhX6lxUQvcyYXqnGDHvZTt3Q5W2M3Aq", "post_id": "aalmhc", "action": {"description": "not giving money to the guy asking people for change at the fast food restaurant", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not giving money to the guy asking people for change at the fast food restaurant?", "text": "This just happened a couple hours ago. \n\nI'm out running errands and figured I would grab a quick non-nutritious breakfast while I'm out.  This is in the middle of a bigger city so there's plenty of people that do this I'm sure.\n\nAfter getting burned by people like this and seeing people get burned, my personal policy is not to give any money to people that come up and basically panhandle out of the blue.  I'll donate to organizations plenty, but that's it.\n\nSo I politely say, sorry, I have no change on me.  Another guy near me has some change and gives it to him.  The beggar starts calling me a scumbag and my parents raised me badly, etc. I say nothing.\n\nThe other guy actually starts defending me(he is awesome by the way), and they are borderline arguing over this. I stay quiet to not escalate things. I finish up quickly and leave.  The chill dude tells me to have a good day, I tell him the same and walk out.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ykeowWPP76NOOy9N38goThL7kdgjMaRu", "post_id": "ba7fcy", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay for my son's art history degree", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay for my son's art history degree?", "text": "My wife and I have three kids- 24F, who's in med school, 19M, who's studying comp sci, and 18M, let's call him Cal, who is a senior in high school. \n\nFor reference, we pay for 24f's med school (19m got a full ride). Cal expects to do the same for him. So we sat him down and talked to him about what he wants to do. He says he wants to major in art history. We asked him what his plan was after that, whether he would go to grad school, etc. He said he wouldn't go to grad school, and had no solid plan.\n\nMy wife and I came to the decision that we don't want to pay for his college when 1) he's majoring in something without good career prospects (not saying there's no jobs out there, but the job pool is going to be pretty narrow 2) he doesn't want to go to grad school, which might help widen the job pool by possibly offering roles in academia and 3) he has no real plan, and when we asked him to come up with one, he refused.\n\nHe called us hypocrites for paying for his sister's med school but not for him. I told him that we're paying for her med school because she's in a lucrative field and has a clear plan (we've discussed this with her).\n\nAm I in the wrong here? I just don't want to 1) pay for or 2) encourage him to go into a field without planning. If he wants to major in art history, fine, but what rubs me the wrong way is that he has no plan, no solid idea of what he's going to do. I know, I know, he's 18 and nobody knows what they want to do fully at 18. But I'm not asking for a step-by-step 5 year plan, just something along the lines of 'these are some jobs I'll be applying to/here is how I'll make a living'.\n\nAita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OwRnmTjHeh6ZYr8oyrwKDt43MhBEXqoM", "post_id": "a4orn9", "action": {"description": "ghosting girl I'm seeing after she cancelled plans on my birthday", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for ghosting girl I'm seeing after she cancelled plans on my birthday?", "text": "So last tuesday was my 19th birthday, and me and this girl I'm seeing were going to go get dinner together. I had a place picked out and everything. On the day she texts me telling me she can't meet up because she is really sick, which has been a problem, since she is really sickly. Anyway, she apologizes several times, tries to set up a new time to meet up and tries to make me a bunch of promises, but I just give her 1-word answers and eventually stop responding. She wrote me yesterday and I left her on read, she wanted to go eat next week, but I don't really care to go eat or really talk to her. This sort of thing has happened 2-3 times the last year.\n\nAm I the asshole for ghosting on her because she cancelled plans, even when she apologized and tries to set up a new date?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HfBMeSjkvRDcy7Enwhi3SBAdm7yhwuUG", "post_id": "aqgvo2", "action": {"description": "physically throwing out a homeless regular", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for physically throwing out a homeless regular", "text": "I work at as security at a fancy mall and we have our share of homeless people wanting to get out of the swedish cold. Now I'm not heartless so as long as they look well kept, don't smell, are sober and arnt standing out (none of this is difficult in Stockholm since we have \"roof over head guarantee\" so you can sleep for free at a shelter, grab a shower a small breakfast and if lucky, laundry).\n\nOne of our regulars is a alcoholic and he has been for 52 years. Most of the time he is well behaved and not drunk in the mall but the times he is I escort him out into the cold and wish him luck for the night to come. When he was shit faced enough to smoke inside the mall I decided that enough is enough and banned him from the mall (he isnt a customer and never has been). \n\nNow to the story, this is my first shift back from a vacation and I haven't been at work for a week my team leader notified me that my ban of the regular has been lifted (been in place for 2 months) due to \"he can't be banned for life, that's just unfair\". Since he is my superior I accept under protest. I work nights and I mainly deal with homeless people and junkies while my team leader works daytime and deals with mall business. My shift rolls on...\n\n... at 23:35 our regular rolls around and since he has a very distinct walk I notice him on the CCTV right away. He sits down in one of the armchairs and promptly falls asleep (now I don't allow anyone to sleep in the mall plus I know that he has received a flat from the welfare state). I'm lazy and tell myself that I he can sleep until I close the mall at 00:00.\n\nDuring closing one of the roller-gates won't function so I call the on-call guy (OC) and try to troubleshoot this gate and while I'm on the phone I have to keep emptying the mall and lock the rest of the doors. Our regular knows OC and apparently he has promised the regular a carton of cigarettes. When I wake the regular up and tell him it's time to leave he denies sleeping and then demands to know who I'm talking to and I say that it's OC and I'm trying to sort some stuff out. Regular demands to talk to OC - I say no, we are busy... Regular demands to know where his smokes are - I offer to ask when we are done. As this is going on I'm escorting him to the last door that I need to close and this takes us past a restaurant that is open (they have their own entrance) and regular decides to throw a hissy-fit and yell \"I WANT MY SMOKES NOW\". I tell OC that I will call him back and I put my phone away. I order the regular to leave since he is causing a breach of peace and we are closed. He flat out refuses and I put a hand on his back as I'm explaining that this is not acceptable behaviour and he needs to behave if he dosent want to get banned again.\n\nHe flails his arms like a child in response which results in a punch to my jaw - I'm 181cm of swedish private security and he is 155cm of elderly alcoholism. I littally pick him up and walk him outside and as morning rolls around I tell what happened to my team leader and back it up with CCTV footage and OCs word.\n\nTeam leader sais that im being harsh and an assholefor wanting the ban reestablished\n\n\nShould i look the other way because he is homeless(ish) and 70 years old? Am i the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3PNFkrrTcGxhJRLhCufchwUPFK81MiBe", "post_id": "b2nxft", "action": {"description": "not unloading my groceries", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for not unloading my groceries?", "text": "I just had a cashier make me feel like a complete asshole for doing something I always do, and wanted to see if I've unknowingly been an asshole for years, or she just had a stick up her butt. \n\n​\n\nI just went grocery shopping at a small food establishment and used a hand basket. Once I was ready to check out I put the hand basket on the conveyor belt as I've done 100's of times before. Once it was my turn to check out the cashier gave me the dirtiest look then started to unload the basket and wouldn't scan anything until she was done unloading it. The entire time staring at me over her glasses glaring. When she was checking me out she didn't say a word to me and instead chatted with the lady behind me in line and the customers in the line behind her. The entire time I felt like a huge asshole for putting the basket on the belt and not unloading it, although I do it all the time and it's never seem to have been an issue.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole? Have I been committing a social faux pas without knowing it? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JEksjW1Vbo2dYYvvR4DAFqd2vD7s58gE", "post_id": "9w0icx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend Thanksgiving with family", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to spend Thanksgiving with family?", "text": "I\u2019m 18, and my parents are divorced. I\u2019ve moved in with my dad because it\u2019s closer to college, and only 15 minutes from my moms house. My mom wants me to take a 4hour trip away on the weekend after Thanksgiving to my stepdads families house to celebrate Thanksgiving. We\u2019d leave Saturday and come back Sunday, and I only get Thursday and Friday off school. \n\nThe reason I don\u2019t want to go is because I\u2019d rather have great experiences with my friends, like going skiing, than going and sitting in a step grandparents home for a long time answering questions about myself that I\u2019ve already answered to other people hundreds of times. Am I the asshole for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Cnm2s6kol6dzaQ7k1m1gmTtMzfyGEzKF", "post_id": "afwt4x", "action": {"description": "asking two of my friends on a date", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking two of my friends on a date?", "text": "This goes back to late November last year. A friend of mine started to do what I interpreted as flirting (e.g. giving me kiss hands or going to the coffee shop with me after studies), so I did what I thought was right and asked her on a date. She said no, but was really nice about it. It sucked, but I was able to move on and stayed friends with her. \n\nI also spent a lot of time with another friend of mine, who I had a little crush on when I first met her, but I never acted on it, because she already had a boyfriend. During the summer she broke up with her boyfriend and we started to get closer somEwhere along autumn. I realized, that my crush for her returned during the holidays and decided to simply ask her on a date and to be fine with whatever answer she'd give me. \n\nShe turned me down, but while it sucked, it was still ok for me. Until she texted me later to tell me, that she talked with a friend of hers about me asking her out and got to know, that I asked out this other girl back in November. Apparently this is the reason, that now some of the girls I know don't like me, because apparently my feelings are \"changing too fast\". And by asking her out, I apparently proved them right. \n\nI am honestly completely shocked by it, but it also got me thinking. Am I the Asshole for falling for a new girl this fast and asking her out? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7YtlCScPtaltCU9YiwzDqleEVnrhVEJx", "post_id": "avo0nr", "action": {"description": "trying to get my old job back", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to get my old job back?", "text": "Kind of a clickbait title, but it\u2019s a complicated situation.\n\nOk, first of rall I have muscular dystrophy, leaving me in a wheelchair. Two and a half years ago I worked at my local movie theater selling movie tickets, this was prior to me committing to my wheelchair. At first I was OK at this job, but near the end, my condition had just progressed so much that I started to be a liability, so I quit. Side note, I got this job through vocational rehabilitation, and it probably wasn\u2019t the best fit for me in the first place, but I was just excited to get a job coming out of high school. OK, back to the present. A few days ago I went to the movies, and on the way in I ran into one of my old coworkers, we recognized each other and chatted for a second, and he mentioned that he was manager now. We wrap up talking and I go on and see the movie. The movie ends, and on the way out I run into another one of my old coworkers, and he\u2019s my favorite one. We used to chat about video games all the time. We actually had a really nice conversation. We finish our conversation and on the way home my mood was so brightened, and I started to realize how much I really missed it over there. In the 2 1/2 years since I quit I always thought \u201cI could do podium\u201d(the ticket tearer), but I never acted upon it because podium workers double as ushers and I can\u2019t usher, I didn\u2019t want to take a job away from somebody who actually needs it because I get disability, and let\u2019s face it there\u2019s not really a high demand for a podium worker. I just want a job to have something to do, and to maybe brighten somebody\u2019s day  because hey that\u2019s all you can really hope for when you\u2019re disabled. So I thought on it, and the next day I decided to hit up the first coworker on Facebook about it. I explain what I was trying to do about possibly coming back on to do some podium work, and he responds saying that that sounds like a great idea and that I could talk to the general manager about it. Now I\u2019m not trying to guilt anybody into giving me a job, so I just told him I could fill out an application and drop it off. He says all applications are handled online now, he could tell them I applied, and he sends me a link. I applied, putting the two coworkers I ran into as references, but there was no where to explain my situation, so I asked him to explain my situation if he brought me up to the general manager(he\u2019s a different gm than i had). It\u2019s been 4 days and I haven\u2019t heard from either the theater or this coworker. I know it\u2019s over and that\u2019s that, but I don\u2019t want it to be weird if i run into this guy again, I\u2019m genuinely unbothered by it, I completely understand not wanting to hire me, I knew it would be a huge favor in the first place, and I kinda wanna tell him this. I just don\u2019t know if there\u2019s a way to say that without sounding passive aggressive. WIBTA if I said anything else? AITA in certain places? AITA all along?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BeBLsEiEkUbAQSdENgbA6hlItsf29T88", "post_id": "b7o9no", "action": {"description": "getting upset at my boyfriend over this situation", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting upset at my boyfriend over this situation", "text": "My boyfriend and I have been together for half a year now. Two months ago he mentions a trip his friends were talking about going on in June. At that point I still hadn't really had a chance to hang out with his friends. (I think it's really important in a relationship for the SO and the friends to get along.) Since it was just a friend outing, I was kind of waiting for him to invite me. He didn't, so I asked him myself if I was invited. He said yes. I was feeling iffy about the situation since it felt like I had just invited myself. I didn't think it was wrong since it wasn't a boys trip or anything.\n\n​\n\nA few weeks later he asks me \"What should I do on the trip?\" And I immediately get upset over this question because in my mind he had just completely cut me out of the equation and he was set on me not going. He reassures me that it's alright and he really wants me to go on the trip.\n\n​\n\nAnother few weeks pass and he invites me on a weekend trip to a city a few hours away from us, but last minute tells me that his friends just want it to be a boys trip. I was so excited to go on this weekend trip and it crushed me when he said I couldn't come. \n\n​\n\nThis weekend trip was a month ago and on this weekend his friend explicitly told him that I wasn't going to \"fit\" in this trip logistically. (That part is still iffy to me, it's not hard to add 1 person to an itinerary.) My boyfriend didn't tell me about this conversation at all and up to a few days ago hadn't even mentioned the trip since he reassured me that he wants me to go on the trip.\n\n​\n\nA few days ago I asked him if he still wanted to go and he tells me that everything's already booked and they're ready to go. I immediately broke down and got very upset at him. I cried for hours. All I could think was that he didn't value me as much as I valued him. I put so much into our relationship and I felt like he didn't care. He already knew I was sensitive about the trip. Now it felt like he went behind my back to book this trip. He had a whole month to tell me about how I wouldn't \"fit\" and only finally told me when I asked him about it. \n\n​\n\nHe didn't understand why it was such a big deal to me that he was going on a trip without me. All I wanted him to understand was how it made me feel that he told me yes, made it felt like a maybe, reassured me with a strong yes then said \"fuck you, no.\" It's not a big deal to me that he's going on a trip without me. Its about how he handled the situation and made me feel like he didn't want me to be a part of his life. If he knew I was sensitive about this topic, shouldn't he have told me everything up front? \n\n​\n\nAITA for being sensitive about this situation and getting upset at my boyfriend?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "aX8lod1kIVLuYj8AFFb7xK5SaEf9AYJ2", "post_id": "9yzfsn", "action": {"description": "not returning an accidentally stolen grocery item", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not returning an accidentally stolen grocery item", "text": "So I went to the store with someone and at the checkout they told us that we had a coupon for free water, so while that other person I was with finished checking out with the cashier I went to go get the free water. I guess they kept the line moving after I went to go get the water and long story short, one bag of groceries got mixed up with ours. We ended up accidentally taking a bagful of groceries that wasn\u2019t ours. The contents were 2 cream cheeses and 2 tubes of refrigerated pills bury crescents. I feel really bad for accidentally taking this persons items, especially before thanksgiving, but I feel like even if we do take it out, they probably won\u2019t put it on the shelf or give it to that person anyways. Would I be an asshole if I didn\u2019t return it? This transaction happened hours ago.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cwbIsAip2Z7mRegM3p2oLYoTxkgh6CbN", "post_id": "9xtkun", "action": {"description": "not walking my dog", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not walking my dog?", "text": "The air quality here is 250, the \"very unhealthy\" range. 300 or more is \"hazardous.\" I've been wearing face masks to go outside but it's been several days and I'm sick of being out there. I come home sniffling with my eyes burning. \n\nSo today I did mostly indoor play with my dog. We also played in the backyard for a while, and we visited the neighbor dog inside. But now he's staring at me with those big betrayed dog eyes, and I'm wondering if I should just suck it up and take him out for a half hour.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r1NAjcu33bWHQi6IZskb6vsj4flRsYCS", "post_id": "arjgxq", "action": {"description": "not spending time with my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not spending time with my boyfriend?", "text": "I (M20) have been living with my boyfriend (M25) since October.  \n\n\nFor the past 5 months since moving here I've had issues making new friends. I've worked with the elderly in a retirement home as a full time job for 4 months, with colleagues well above my age. While this isn't an issue for me, it doesn't lend it's hand to that many free time hangouts. I knew 1 person (let's call her L) in the town prior to moving and we're very close, so apart from my bf she's been the only person I've seen, maybe once or twice a week.\n\nI love my boyfriend, but we are /very/ different people. He's into politics, he's orderly and he likes simplicity and elegance. I'm more reminiscent of a passing tornado. Quite messy, pretty impulsive, and slightly more chaotic. While this does lead to arguments, we usually have strong communication and always seek good compromises.\n\nThe winter periods hit me pretty hard because of some trauma from my childhood and because of this I haven't had much energy to go out and do activities, meaning I've been pretty much stuck at work or at home. My boyfriend is super supportive of me and he's a great help and comfort throughout these periods.\n\nA month ago I started seeing a psychologist and things have been steadily moving in the right direction. I have more energy during the day, I feel less overpowered by my own thoughts and I've been wanting to spend my time outside of the house. I also started school again and met a few interesting people, one of whom (Let's call him M) I hung out with after school last Friday, right before a 9 day winter break. We clicked pretty quickly, and since then M and I have hung out a total of 5 of the 9 days we've been off school. I didn't realize how much I had been missing speaking to like-minded people, and I've honestly been really stoked about making my first friend that hasn't been introduced to me by L.\n\nSo here's where issue comes in. My bf asked me if I wanted to go out an do something together this Sunday (nothing specific), to which I replied that I wasn't sure if I had time, because maybe I was doing something with M (we had talked about doing sketches at a skatepark, but hadn't actually planned anything yet). This led to my boyfriend first getting sad (and later angry), because he felt he was being used as \"an option, in case there wasn't anything more exciting to spend time on\". I understand why he's sad, but we live together, so we see eachother every day, and finally I'm actually talking to people I can somewhat relate to in my free time. I admit that he's been moved down on my priority list these days, but it's also only been a week. It's not like I'm ditching him forever because I found a friend, I've just been very caught up in the excitement that followed from not feeling alone anymore. I also know he's been struggling a bit at work, but we've talked about it multiple times and I personally do feel like I've been there for him. I've thought that maybe he's been needing a day together for a while, but hasn't been vocal about it, and maybe that's why it got to him so hard. He's also quite a private person, so despite living here for 1\u00bd years, he hasn't made many friends outside of work, meaning I'm a big part of his daily social interactions.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA for not spending time with him?  \nSorry for the long post. In case you need anything clarified feel free to ask in the comments", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RpyVJfkgGZWXD6Gmrcsai7zBSbB66kR6", "post_id": "ahfmj6", "action": {"description": "kicking my sister out of my wedding", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "AITA for kicking my sister out of my wedding?", "text": "Okay so just a bit of a back story. \n\nMy sister has been stuck on this god awful loser for about 3  years now, on and off. He can\u2019t hold a job, he doesn\u2019t treat her the way someone should treat their significant other. He\u2019s cheated on her, hurt her emotionally and only god knows if it was physical at any point. My family and I have made it 100% clear how we feel about him - the best part is he doesn\u2019t \u201capprove\u201d of homosexuality (surprise, I\u2019m a lesbian) FYI: I am past the point of caring what people think, but the fact she would continue to mess with him has more or less made me not really want a relationship with her even though I do love her very much. I can\u2019t help be disappointed. \n\nTurns out, she\u2019s pregnant. When I found out, I was livid because 1) the dude is an absolute waste of oxygen and 2) I feel as if my wedding is ruined. I said some things I do regret, but that\u2019s besides the point. Am I taking it too personal for feeling like my wedding is ruined? She is due right about the time I am getting married and as you can tell by the title, she was supposed to be IN my wedding. I told her she\u2019s out - she hasn\u2019t said anything to me since. Also, I feel as if I am breaking my mothers heart by kicking her out (I hate to see her hurt and stressed. I tend to take on her stress as well) Am I being too harsh?\n\nI really don\u2019t know what to do or how to feel. But I can\u2019t have her negativity ruin my wedding for me and my fianc\u00e9.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EhwQ3DPiM3Df3SN4Qt04X17bSW8rEu8K", "post_id": "9zsce3", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend her breath smelled weird", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For telling my girlfriend her breath smelled weird?", "text": "So basically, for the past couple weeks whenever I would kiss my girlfriend there would be a strange taste. She does take some medication and I dont know if that could be it? She chews gum but the taste kind of goes through that. It's also something that just started so something must have caused it.\nFor me, it's not exactly overpowering, but it did bother me and kissing her became almost unpleasant. I told her and she got really upset, which I can understand. I regret saying anything but it's too late for that now I suppose. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8AhgajkqWjhcljaTjziLRuwB3wAlj0GI", "post_id": "agf5sx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to Reimburse a Junior employee who fell for an email scam", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting to Reimburse a Junior Employee Who Fell for an Email Scam?", "text": "First time poster so give me corrections if I\u2019m doing this wrong.\n\nI work in the finance department for a small company. For background we are under 20 people so the department is really just me plus my boss who oversees both finance and operations. Like most small companies we get quite a bit of scams being sent out way. This usually isn\u2019t a problem since they are pretty transparent. However, we have a new assistant (Let\u2019s call her Alice) who is very naive.\n\nToday she got an email from someone pretending to be her boss (Nancy). The email was fairly generic saying that \u201cNancy\u201d was running into a meeting but could Alice pick up some amazon or google pay gift cards. When Alice wrote back that she was on her way in but could do it as soon as she got the credit card or petty cash the scammer told her it was time sensitive and she should just buy them and be reimbursed at the office.\n\nY\u2019all\u2014 Alice bought $1500 worth of Amazon gift cards with her own money. She didn\u2019t even realize anything wrong until she asked me if I could expedite the refund check because her rent is coming up and I was completely confused. When I explained that this was a scam and that I couldn\u2019t reimburse her for a non business expense she started crying. \n\nShe didn\u2019t know how to report fraud or file a police report so I spent all afternoon on the phone with amazon and the store where she bought the card to see if anything could be done not to mention reported the fraud to both the local and federal authorities  but because she had bought it herself there was nothing anyone could do as far as actually getting her the money back.\n\nWhen the real Nancy found out she told Alice not to worry since our company would reimburse her anyways. I explained that while this was incredibly unfortunate this wasn\u2019t something that we could do. We are incredibly tight on money right now to the point where everything in the office is breaking and much needed issues have been back burnered for far to long. What\u2019s more, a lot of out money issues have to do with Nancy always approving money for people in vanity projects or overpaying them because she says they really need it. \n\nI understand that Alice is out a lot of cash right now and I offered to try to organize a collection in the office to help her with rent this month but I put my foot down about writing a check from the company account. Now though Alice is angry and Nancy has gone over my head to my boss with some nasty jabs along the way. Should I just give in and reimburse her or am I right to hold my ground? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kqsDDSjpChkJGULbkhK2utSsa0igPOsK", "post_id": "af3yfm", "action": {"description": "wanting my husband to work with me to improve our sex life", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my husband to work with me to improve our sex life?", "text": "So, the title makes this sound like a slam dunk, validation searching post, but bear with me as I unpack. This has been going on literally for years now and I\u2019m to the point where I\u2019m truly starting to wonder if I am an asshole.\n\nMy husband and I have very mismatched libidos.  I\u2019m a \u201cwhy WOULDN\u2019T you have sex every day\u201d kind of person.  I think sex is a blast, I enjoy experimenting, and you\u2019d be hard pressed to find a time I am not in the mood.  My husband, however, is very much not this way.  We have been together for almost 7 years, married for just under 5.\n\nThis is going to be a bit of a long one so please forgive me, but I truly do want to give this story as neutrally as possible as I really want honest feedback.\n\nWhen we started dating, we did the long distance thing.  I would see him on weekends or every other weekend and so it wasn\u2019t apparent how mismatched our desires were, because obviously we only could have sex when we saw each other.  I noticed that some of those weekends we wouldn\u2019t do it (much to my dismay) but always chalked it up to his job at the time (hard physical labour that left him pretty physically beat, especially in the summer time).\n\nThen we moved in together and I started noticing things I of course took the typical female route and completely panicked that he didn\u2019t find me attractive or sexy etc etc.  We had a number of big conversations about it where he would always say it had something to do with being tired, or the job, or stress, you name it, but constantly reiterated that he found me desirable and sexy and that it was \u201chim not me\u201d.\n\nFast forward a bit more, and I\u2019m still constantly trying to \u201cspice things up\u201d or increase our frequency, and stumble upon the fact that he has dealt with erectile issues, by way of my constantly trying to initiate sexy times leading to a few time where things \u201cdidn\u2019t work\u201d.  I learn over the span of many deep conversations that this has been an issue for him for a long time and obviously is something that gives him a lot of stress surrounding sex.  I feel awful for him and try be as supportive as possible, and pretty much completely back off.\n\nThis continues for years, compounded with us having issues conceiving our first child (semi-unrelated) and I will definitely admit that there was often stress on our bedroom life.  BUT glory of glories, we persisted, I continued to try be supportive, and we morphed to this sexual activity that was VERY much focused on him... by way of I think both of us wanting things to \u201cwork\u201d.  It has now been a couple of years since he\u2019s had any issues yet... we still have the same sex.  Every time.  We still only HAVE sex maybe once a month (sob). I haven\u2019t received oral sex in years.  He refuses to do it in any position but the one we discovered \u201cworks\u201d consistently, won\u2019t do it out of bed, won\u2019t make out anywhere that isn\u2019t the bedroom, will stiffen up if I even TRY to paw at him outside of the bedroom, and still consistently is \u201cnot in the mood\u201d.  \n\nGuys, I seriously beg this man to let me give him a blowjob, and he declines.  Constantly. \n\nI don\u2019t know what to do anymore, I\u2019ve reached the point of terror where I go \u201cis this my life now?\u201d Will I ever receive oral again? Will I ever get to have sex doggy style (my favourite position) again?! I never pictured myself as doomed to a sexless marriage.  And it terrifies me.  \n\nOkay, now to the point where you\u2019re going \u201cwhy are you posting here and not r/relationships ?\u201d.  I had a revelation the other day, that led me to wonder if in all of this, I\u2019m being an asshole. \n\nOver the years, we have talked about this A LOT.  To the point that my husband doesn\u2019t even want to approach the conversation anymore.  I\u2019ve suggested counselling- he doesn\u2019t want to go.  I\u2019ve talked about ways we can work on things- never goes anywhere.  Last time we had this conversation (which is what led to this revelation) I asked him something I\u2019ve never asked- I asked him \u201care YOU happy with our sex life?\u201d.  Because all our previous discussions were always approached from the mindset of improvement- of us trying to get to this place that was \u201cbetter\u201d.  Suddenly now I\u2019m wondering if he doesn\u2019t WANT better.  If this is just his happy place.  And if that\u2019s the case, am I an asshole to try push him to achieve this sex life that makes ME happy?  I think if the genders were swapped- you always hear about husbands complaining about wives who won\u2019t have sex with them- and usually the answer they are given is \u201ctough titties buddy, you can\u2019t make her have sex if she doesn\u2019t want to\u201d.  Is this what I should be telling myself too? I think of the shitting on that dude got who made the spreadsheet of how many times his wife rejected him- and man did I EMPATHIZE with that guy! You should see MY fucking spreadsheet! But maybe I\u2019m an asshole too!!\n\nSo please, tell me- do I just lay this to rest? Am I the Asshole for continuing to pursue?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "122kdaJZRvylQwzL0odbAyUEXAKfDjYm", "post_id": "ayevof", "action": {"description": "disbanding my prom group a week and a half before prom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I disband my prom group a week and a half before prom?", "text": "So initially, my prom group was supposed to be small- only 6 people. And when people asked to join, we told them we weren't sure. We decided to let in 2 more of our close friends. Then, the people who we weren't as close with started asking to join and we thought we couldn't use the valid excuse of \"we want a small group\" since we already let in two others. \n\nWe started discussing how to handle this but before we could decide anything, one person just assumed that they were automatically in our prom group since we didn't say no outright. And she started telling her friends to join her in our group even though we hadn't said yes. And once that got out, everyone who we had told we weren't sure about started pressuring to join our group, and we gave in. Now, our group of 6 has turned into a group of 20 and we're positive we won't have a good time especially with all the logistical nightmares of transportation and reservations.\n\nSo now, one and a half weeks before our prom, my group is debating whether to cut everyone out except for our original 6. Will we be the asshole if we leave them with no plans this close to prom?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xPo7uHttSYaQWFzpq61du3f5L2p4nocr", "post_id": "ar0v5r", "action": {"description": "being mad at my friend after he withheld something serious from me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my friend after he withheld something serious from me?", "text": "Okay, so this isnt necessarily a today thing, it's over the span if a few months. It started in December of last year.\n\nAnyway, I tell my friend everything. I mean everything. Personal issues, who I like, why I'm doing this, why I wouldn't do that, etc. So I tell him who I like (we're in high school, still act like kids). He says something along the lines of \"cool, you should ask her out.\" He doesn't think for a second to tell me he was talking to her, and going to ask her out too.\n\nSo I asked her out on New Year's Eve. She said no (unsurprisingly) and I get over it in the next few hours. New year, new me, right? I get on my ps4 to talk to my friends about it, including the one I told earlier.\n\nI explain the whole ordeal, going into immense detail (we're best friends, after all) and let him tell me his input. \n\n\"Aw it's okay, OP. We all get rejected.\"\n\nAgain, decides not to tell me hes still talking to her. \n\nFast Forward to Valentines day. I havent spoke to my old crush in a while. I go outside after the bell rings, and see my friend and my old crush hugging, with her holding teddy bears and balloons, etc. Cool, he got with her. I think more into it, and end up realizing he was the one talking to her in December. This dipshit decided to let me humiliate myself. I message him later, \"So you were the one talking to X when I asked her out? Then you decided not to tell me anyway.\"\n\nLeaves me on seen. I message him back a few hours later saying how he needs to learn to face his problems like a man. He cant just ignore them. I get pissed at him and that how I ended up here. So, AITA?\n\nTL;DR - My friend of over 3 years didnt tell me he was talking to my crush when I asked her out. He then decides to act like it's no big deal, me basically ruining my social life with her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Kd4cmAQKmRHVve6Xiac7iUWZfP3BCoft", "post_id": "an88c5", "action": {"description": "refusing to cook food for my Super Bowl Party", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to cook food for my Super Bowl Party?", "text": "Yesterday I hosted a Super Bowl party, it was a rather large party (around 20 guests). Everyone offered to bring something ranging from appetizers to desserts. People seemed to put in a lot of effort for their dishes. While it wasn\u2019t a fancy affair, it was nice to see the level of commitment my guests put forth. Here\u2019s where the question comes into play. One of the guests (on their way to the party) stopped at a local grocery store and bought a frozen appetizer, with the intention of me cooking it for them.  They had volunteered to bring said item (they just left out the detail that the item would be uncooked). All of the other food was already prepared and I was ready to just relax and enjoy the party with my guests. Needless to say (and maybe I over reacted) but I flat out refused to cook the food. I said it was rude to bring a dish with the assumption I would just cook for you. Given that this wasn\u2019t the first time said guest pulled a stunt like this (bringing salad material for me to put together), I was just not having it. I told them they can make it themselves if they care that much.   (Which they bre grudgingly did)\n\nAITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iTKtaowjzAoFWvxaGHz80inXd3SFpmN7", "post_id": "awmgb1", "action": {"description": "kicking out my roommate after finding her tumblr", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 44}, "title": "AITA for kicking out my roommate after finding her tumblr?", "text": "My (28M) roommate (24F) is super quiet and keeps to herself which is no big deal, but my gf tracked down her public tumblr and shes constantly complaining like a 16 year old girl. Talking mad shit behind my back instead of face to face, like an adult. Calling me an annoying asshole and all sorts of other things I dont want to get into. The worst part is this is all AFTER I asked her if there's anything I can do/work on to make her more comfortable, nope she replies, all good. I get it that some people just want to complain so I let it go for a while, just ignoring it.\n\nWhat broke it for me was shes always alone up in her room drinking and listening to her shitty punk rock music by herself. She posts on her tumblr all the time about how shes sad and that all her friends are gone. I usually keep my distance because that's what she seems to prefer, but I texted her and asked her if shes okay and let her know that I'm a good listener if she ever wants to talk or whatever.\n\nSo she ignored my text and posted on tumblr that I'm so fucking annoying and I need to 'leave her alone and let her live her life' comparing me to her dad. LOL WHAT LIFE. From what I can tell all she does is sit up in her room and drink alone. Yeah I'm going to check into it to make sure you're not going to kill yourself or burn my house down. Who the fuck reacts that way when someone asks you if you're okay or need help?\n\nI've been nothing but kind to this girl because she seemed really lonely. I got her a space heater because my house is too cold for her. I got her a (used) bed from my parents for her birthday because she couldnt bring hers when she moved here. I'm quiet and respectful (I try anyway) and from where I'm sitting she just seems like a complete cunt. I told her she has one month to find someplace else to live as per our rental contract (she rents a room in my house, this is another favor I'm doing her because she found me on social media, I dont need a roommate but she was starting a new job here in two weeks and really needed a place).\n\nSorry for the rant. What would you do in my place? Am I a creepy cyber stalker? Am I justified in trying to find out more because shes so reserved? Any responses appreciated.\n\nTLDR: Roommate has no problems with me when asks, but complains non stop on tumblr about me saying hurtful things. I'm doing here a favor here and when I saw that I gave her 1 month to find a new spot.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 32, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 7}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 44}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5tYTnw5J5nmXcd0Yf7k79O8G7x0tLDjb", "post_id": "ba6uja", "action": null, "title": "AITA War with Neighbors", "text": "This is going to be long, so sorry in advance!!!\n\nSo here is the situation....\n\nMy family lives in an apartment building on the upper floor. It's me, my husband and our two toddlers. (Oldest is three and a half and the youngest is two) There are a lot of young families in our building, so it can get a bit loud at times. \n\nRecently, a couple college age students moved into the unit directly below us. For about a week, everything was fine, then they started getting really loud. Playing guitar loud enough to actually rattle our windows, having loud parties till 4am, yelling, slamming doors, etc. I honestly didn't have a problem with it, until they started getting loud enough to wake up my kids.\n\nI talked to some of the other moms in the building and they were hearing it all too. One lady said her husband went over and told them to quiet down and they basically said no. So they told me to report them to our landlord, just like they had done. So I did. Our landlord said she'd talk to them. For a while, everything was fine. Then it started again, so thr other moms and I reported it again. This time our landlord said they would be notified and FINED. \n\nFor a month, everything was quiet, so I thought everything was resolved. Then one day, we put on a movie for our kids. They were jumping around and dancing to it when all of a sudden, I hear/feel our downstairs neighbors banging on our floor. Initially I was fuming mad, but after a minute, I realize that my kids were probably being pretty loud. So I tell them to settle down and not stomp their feet when they dance. Five minutes later, my oldest jumped. Once. And again... the banging. \n\nSince then, it's just escalated. It's to the point where they bang our floor for almost every noise we make. It scares my kids and I'm at the end of my rope. I try to keep them as quiet as possible, but they're toddlers!!! I can't strap them to their chairs! \n\nKeep in mind, they're still loud ALL the time. But I don't complain about it unless it wakes up my kids. \n\nNow that it's getting warmer, I'll be able to take them outside more, so maybe that will help. Any advice on what to do? Are we being assholes? Can I just not see it because I'm a parent?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nmDnlUXTcK4G5eDjOqgpLneThsWFXq2v", "post_id": "a9x2ni", "action": {"description": "setting some boundaries at a bad time", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for setting some boundaries at a bad time?", "text": "Long time lurker, first time poster, throwaway because typical reasons, etc.\n\nI'll start with a warning: I'm not sure this'll be an entirely complete or fair representation of what happened. It's one of those things that's fairly nuanced and even though it happened just a few minutes ago, I've forgotten most of the filler stuff/non-key details.\n\nI'm a college student (second year) home for the holidays. My mom's great - loving, caring, and a great gosh darn cook :) she's awesome in a lot of ways, but we've got a history of butting heads (I was an argumentative kid - we're both stubborn, though I'm working on that). We haven't argued or fought or anything like that in nearly three years and have gotten on great, until recently. \n\nWhen I come back, it's usually for 1-3 weeks at a time (spring break, winter break, and summer, for the most part). I'm in school far away from home, so I'm home for maybe 2 months out of every 12, tops. Every time I come home, I end up getting silently frustrated at how patronizing some of the treatment is - it's small things, like asking \"are you sure you've eaten enough?\" or \"it's going to be cold - are you sure you've packed gloves and a hat for your hike?\" (I'm in the National Guard and have been hiking in the arctic a number of times over the last two years). I know, I know, it's small, but it adds up over time and I end up feeling like I'm being treated like a child. \n\nThe first time I came home, I didn't want this to get in the way of us all having a nice break. I had a small, private conversation with her where I told her how it felt uncomfortable and a little disrespectful/patronizing, and she said she understood and would try to change. It happened a few more times that visit, so I believe I had another conversation with her about it - this was about a year ago, so I'm not sure whether that was on the phone from afar or in person. Unfortunately, as soon as I came back for summer, the same treatment started up again. I'm pretty sure I had a quick conversation about it again, and I got some resistance from her - \"I raised you for __ years and took care of you, I'm allowed to love you\" stands out in my memory. I went off for two weeks of drill, came back and experienced no change. I was back for maybe a month, during which I remember talking about this at least a half a dozen times. I remember the last week being really tense and cold, admittedly on both sides - I was pretty PO'd but trying not to let it affect things too much. (Note: My mom is like Phyllis Vance when it rains. These conversations always involve that earlier line and 2-3 others - she inevitably ends them either A) promising to change, or B) telling me she doesn't want to talk about it anymore. She'll show up at my door a few hours later, talking about how this is a transitioning time, but doesn't think she's doing anything wrong). \n\nThis Winter Break rolls around - all is pleasant. I've been back for just about a week and a half, and the (perceived?) patronizing remarks have continued. I've been trying my hardest to not let it affect the holidays, but after a sleepless night (work + minor emergency with a friend) and not having a chance to rest all day, it got to me a bit. I may have been disrespectful - not trying to shirk the blame, I legitimately don't know if I was. I think I was just cold and expressed a little bit of displeasure, and it may have come off as disrespectful. We launch into the same conversation, with a few points being made by her (notably: it makes her feel good to care for me like that she doesn't think it's patronizing_ and she uses a new line that got to me: I mentioned feeling disrespected by what she keeps saying, and she says \"Respect is a two-way street and I'm not feeling very much from you in this conversation\". I immediately responded with [POTENTIAL A*****E REMARK NUMBER 1] \"Love is a two-way street too, and it doesn't matter if expressing it in that way makes you feel good because I've told you that it makes me uncomfortable and upset when you do that. I'm happy to sit down and talk about some alternative ways to express it or even just point them out throughout the day, but it seems selfish to just keep doing something that I don't like because it makes you feel good.\" \n\nHere's where it gets messy and one more important detail is needed: she's just separated from her husband of 5+ years (moved out about 3 months ago and they're in weekly therapy; he's wanting to get back together but she's not sure what she wants).\n\nBack to the talk: she starts to cry. I don't know if ITA here or not, but I want Reddit to know: this kills me. I hate seeing my mom cry and wouldn't ever want it to happen. I'm also conflicted: she has, multiple times in the last 5 years, admitted (in confidence) to using crying to manipulate people (family members and friends). I can't tell if this is real or not; still don't know. She says \"I just want to love you; I just don't have very many people to love right now\". I told her I understood that it was a rough time, but that we'd been having this conversation for more than a year and current situations don't change what I said. [ANOTHER POTENTIAL A*****E REMARK HERE]: I also say \"I'm happy to address that later, but what about what I just said?\" She stops crying, and asks me to repeat what I said. I repeat it, and she starts crying again, then says angrily that it'd be best if we talked about this later/tomorrow. \n\n\nI'm at a loss. Obviously there's a ton of context that isn't here, a whole relationship dynamic that changes things, and a bunch of other stuff that I'd write if I had a book to publish, but I think these are the key points. If I'm not the A*****e, how do I keep bringing this up and get some results? If I am, how should I change my approach? I appreciate any input and will try to respond to whatever questions y'all have", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0lZw5Nf4w3ju2pPNy68oRTLH2snNTfvv", "post_id": "b3ozuv", "action": {"description": "asking for my house key back just over suspicion", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA for asking for my house key back just over suspicion?", "text": "Lately my girlfriend has been spending most nights at my house.  She gets out of work at 3pm and I get out at 5pm.  I had an extra key made so she could let herself in and watch tv or whatever until I get home.  \n\nThis is gonna sound weird, but I have this specific way I organize my dresser drawers.  Especially the top socks and underwear drawer.  It\u2019s just a specific way I like to have my clothes.  This morning when I went to get dressed some of the black sock balls were mixed in with the white sock balls.  She\u2019s obviously been snooping and didn\u2019t put things the way I usually have them.  \n\nI obviously can\u2019t prove anything, but she\u2019s the only one who\u2019s been in my house lately and I\u2019m pretty anal about my drawer organization so it\u2019s not really possible that I did it myself.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "DViiCW3qfblnjtKnMTWAawhqtNStniE1", "post_id": "au2z6q", "action": null, "title": "AITA Friend wanted me to pretend to be a job reference", "text": "My friend wanted me to pretend to be one of his former managers at one of his jobs. I told him no, and tried to explain how it could be a bad idea, especially if they ask a question I cant answer correctly. After his prying, I flat out told him that its not my problem if you cant find a valid former employer to speak highly of you. He was upset and pulled some BS card of \"Look at you, always trying to take the highground. I can't wait until you do something wrong so I can call you out on it.\" Am I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ABduKa7znTIPKZwQLAHDHQUcAov8u91E", "post_id": "9w166c", "action": {"description": "getting irritated when someone who doesn't draw tried to teach me about art", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting irritated when someone who doesn't draw tried to teach me about art", "text": "I was waiting outside a volunteering room and doodling a bit. I was sitting with two other people i sorta knew when i completely erased what ever i was drawing, i thought the pose was weird. this is the following interaction between me (M) and one of the other people (B)\n\nM: erases drawing completely \nB: oh yeah ahaha that looked really weird the head was backwards and it was too big\nM: heads can face a separate way then the body and uh yeah i guess it was a little big. (i had only drawn the face and shoulders)\nB: yeah they can but that's not how you should draw that\n\ni know i'm supposed to take criticism but this just seemed a little much and i got pretty irritated. It might've been the fact that's i don't really like this person and am very insecure about my art and whatnot", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bNdnmSNO9FCA7d10O2sr4xKm4Vn3IVGG", "post_id": "anuoo9", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave band", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA because I (18M) want to leave band", "text": "For context my GF (17F) wanted me to join band with her. So far as to beg me to join, even though I wanted to join before I met her. If I had joined on my own I would've been left but she has went as far as to cry saying she thinks me not being in band could drive us apart. I love her but I'm just not cut out for band. The section I'm in consists of 4 members counting me and two of which won't be in the band next year. The other is a beginner and knows only a little more than me as he can sight read the music. I cannot and lack the resources to learn. The two others who actually know their stuff consistently mock and put me down for not learning fast. They get into arguments about who's going to teach me every time I go to practice. My GF has stated that I ask the band instructor to help me, but I reminded her that the band instructor (BI from here on out) already expects that everyone knows how to sight read. Even when she takes sections to teach she doesn't really teach but rather tells them to take a moment to read then tells them to play the music. BI will nine times out of ten find out I can't sight read and either put me out of band or question my GF as to why she hasn't tought me how to. I've been not going to practice recently to kinda ween my GF off having me there. I've tried explaining this to her and she just comes up with excuses, until I show her the flaws in her excuse. Now she pretty much just says that I can fake it, but marching season is coming up fast and I don't see any point in me marching if I don't know majority of the songs we play. I'll add edits if anyone has questions.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BDErimT4CqkI0Brh69v7FSxWoyU3NkrF", "post_id": "a7sbml", "action": {"description": "getting mad that's he's getting girls gifts", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting mad that\u2019s he\u2019s getting girls gifts?", "text": "My boyfriend is friends with some of his coworkers and thus wants to get them gifts for Christmas. Obviously, I don\u2019t have a problem with that. He\u2019s getting gifts for 2 women in his office who clearly have some kind of romantic feelings for him which I do, however, take issue with. \n\nOne of them, Girl 1, has blatantly hit on him, told others that she only hired him because he\u2019s attractive, regularly and openly talks about her sex life with him ect. Allegedly, Girl 1 bought him a 10$ ticket to something a few weeks ago and just told him that was his Christmas gift so he now feels obligated to get her a present. \n\nThe other one, Girl 2, is engaged but regularly tells my boyfriend that she wishes her fianc\u00e9 were more like him. Both my boyfriend and his close guy friend have admitted to me that they think she has a crush on him. He feels the need to get her something more expensive than the others because he works next to her. \n\nWe just got in an argument because I feel like it looks bad and sends the wrong message for him to be giving gifts to these women. In the bigger picture, I feel like it\u2019s weird that he chooses to spend so much time with them knowing how they feel as well. Am I the asshole for telling him to not get them anything?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3JwP12aMTw11gU8RToSHaVJc6Ba8ir6B", "post_id": "avtvlk", "action": {"description": "talking behind my friends back after what she put me through", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for talking behind my friends back after what she put me through?", "text": "Hi everybody!\n\nSo, I'm new here and I wanted to share my story about me and my friend.\n\nSome background knowledge on us. We have been friends for 4 years and we have an off and on relationship. I became her friend when I saw her crying and I wanted to make her feel better about it.\n\nI don't really like her anymore. She has stolen many thing from me (Money, food, ETC.) and has done very little for me. On the other hand, I have done a lot more things for her, including mental help, bullying, and other things.\n\nOkay, now on to the actual part.\n\nI've been talking a lot of shit behind her back of recent, saying how she is manipulating me and is using me as her puppet. I've also been very verbally aggressive towards her (Which happens a lot.) She has tried shoving the things she likes (Anime and Furries, no offence if any of you guys like those.) and has tried several times to get me to join the LGBT community, which I don't want to (Again, no offence if any of you guys like that.).\n\nShe has done almost nothing for me and I'm done with her bullshit, but I don't know if I'm the asshole this whole time. Please help me out with this, I need answers.\n\nOther than that, thanks for stopping by and have a beautiful time.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sDvxNq0Jx0345rS3OTNnic2HtgAjfFTZ", "post_id": "akt0hi", "action": {"description": "ending a failing friendship by just completely cutting them out of my life and offering no explanation", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ending a failing friendship by just completely cutting them out of my life and offering no explanation.", "text": "Ok well where do I start, I have a friend who I used to be very close to but sadly fell out with a year ago due to numerous incidents and a phase of depression I went through. We\u2019ve tried to be friends several times but every time would end with them deciding they\u2019d be better off just not talking to me and leaving me hanging every time (I was normally the one trying to rekindle the friendship)\n\nIn the summer before we returned to our school, our friendship rekindled itself after a disastrous school year between the two of us and we talked a lot and went out a few times, however upon returning to school... I found them reluctant to talk to me anymore and due to this we both grew bitter and fell out again.\n\nWe then argued one night and said some pretty awful things to each other, we had argued before but it was normally me being their emotional punching bag and not offering much in the way of an argument  (Something I would later come to resent them for) and yet after the arguing was done, they came to me and apologised and we agreed to revisit our friendship at a later date.\n\nAnd then suddenly... two weeks later, the impossible happened and this person. A person, I had perceived as unemotional and uncaring towards me, opened up and admitted they missed being my friend and wished to be friends again for good. I know I said we were friends numerous times beforehand and tbh I should\u2019ve predicted the outcome earlier. But this was the first sign of genuine friendship from them and I embraced them with open arms.\n\nIt took two weeks for things to slowly start reverting back. They\u2019d stop making an effort to talk to me. They\u2019d never look at me if we were in a group. Only the other people. They would never attempt to start a conversation with me. Unlike last time, we didn\u2019t argue but we both let things get away from us and we stopped talking. However during a mutual period of exams. I found them suddenly easier to get on with and for a solitary month. They were consistently my friend and I genuinely thought things would get better.\n\nAnd then last week, they stopped. Suddenly my \u201ceasy-to-talk\u201d to friend was cold and unwelcoming. This was by far the most abrupt they\u2019ve ever done this and to be honest I am furious. I have always been the one pushing our friendship. Trying to fix it and make it work and I\u2019ve always been the one cast aside for no reason. It\u2019s never been them. This person genuinely means a great deal to me but they\u2019ve never been consistent. I was the sole reason our friendship collapsed in the first place and as a result always blamed myself when our attempted friendships failed.\n\nHowever now, I see myself less as the sole perpetrator and more as the guy getting screwed. This person is genuinely a good and kind person however they play with my emotions and constantly make me feel worthless and unwanted in my attempts to be their friend. They\u2019ve called me out before for \u201cfailing to confront them\u201d (as if that\u2019s the reason things always go to shit) and tbh I don\u2019t want to confront them. I just want out.\n\nAnd so I ask... people of reddit. Would I be an asshole if I was to just start ignoring him. Block him on everything and cut him completely out of my life despite the facts I don\u2019t know his true feelings and we would still see each other regularly. I would ask but doing so would most likely lead to an argument I\u2019m really not emotionally equipped to have.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uhu8ce3WilczW1I256gLPziFLOZ9KMUT", "post_id": "b9swi6", "action": {"description": "basically telling my ex girlfriend that she's not as hot as my current girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 965, "contranormative_score": 85}, "title": "AITA for basically telling my ex girlfriend that she's not as hot as my current girlfriend?", "text": "My ex (24f) and I (24m) dated 5 years ago. We were together for about a year, but then she dumped me out of no where for another guy and broke my heart. She and I shared the same circle of friends so I continued to be cordial with her for the sake of our friend group, and we remained friends until we graduated and I distanced her out of my life and no longer speak to her. I'm still close with my friend group, but they have drifted from her over the past year. I'll still see her sometimes when we have hang outs with the larger group, but I no longer speak to her and we just avoid each other.\n\nThis past weekend my friend had a pre-game/party for his birthday and she was invited along with our other friends. I have a new girlfriend (23f) that I have been dating for a few months (she is absolutely amazing, drop dead gorgeous, kind hearted, thoughtful, etc. I never thought I could feel this way about someone). I invited her too, and she knew my ex would be there but was okay with it.\n\nAt the pre-game, my ex had a couple shots, was maybe tipsy. She came up to me and my girlfriend and started talking to us normally. I was kind of confused as to why, but just went with it. She then says to my girlfriend, \"Hey did you know me and Ilovepotatoes22 used to date back in the day?\" to which she says, \"Yes, I'm aware\". Ex gf smirks very subtly and under her breath says, \"Yup and he sure downgraded\" while looking me dead in the eye. My gf said \"Wow, I'm not interested dealing with this, excuse me\" and excused herself to go talk to some of my other friends. I was angry, I truly don't believe I \"downgraded\" as my current gf is the most beautiful girl in the world to me, and in my eyes I do find her more attractive than my ex. I told my ex \"I'm not sure what you're on right now, but gf is definitely an upgrade in every aspect possible so do not get that twisted. Let's just do what we should have done 5 years ago and never speak another word to each other again\". \n\nShe went to the bathroom crying and my friends over the past few days have been telling me that she told them I called her uglier than my current gf. I told my friends what actually happened and they understand but they told me I could have been a little bit less harsh. Ex gf is apparently really depressed and has been telling my friends that she doesn't want to come to any of the hang outs anymore. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 43, "OTHER": 957, "EVERYBODY": 42, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 965, "WRONG": 85}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y87Csavcde6NkJJQs7u2ByNGDOp7ZEgn", "post_id": "a5jhl4", "action": {"description": "not wanting to attend a friend's NYE party because he's charging (up to) $50 per guest so he can rent the party room in his condo", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to attend a friend's NYE party because he's charging (up to) $50 per guest so he can rent the party room in his condo?", "text": "Maybe better suited for /r/AmITheCheapskate, but as that sub doesn't exist yet I'm asking here!\n\n​\n\nA good friend of mine sent out invitations for our friend group to attend his NYE party. He plans to rent the party room in his condo, which admittedly is pretty nice, but all of the attendees will apparently be charged \"maximum $50 each, depending on attendance\" at the door. I think this is completely absurd - the party room is HUGE and can fit up to 100 people. At most, 10-20 people will attend this party, so this could easily be held in his condo, 2 floors away. \n\n​\n\nI think this is unbelievably tacky, and it makes me not want to attend. I'm a bit salty because I've always been of the view that the host takes on most of the cost of entertaining at parties, so when I've hosted parties I have no issues providing some snacks, mix, etc on my dime, and if guests choose to bring something/give me $? Awesome, but absolutely not mandatory. This also isn't like renting a booth at a club, where we'll get bottles and other stuff with the cost of entry - he's made no mention of food/booze being provided, and I've heard he's asking our friends who work in hospitality to help provide bevs and food from their work.\n\n​\n\nTo me, this seems like a cheap money grab. I also acknowledge that different people have different priorities and I don't know his financial situation, but no one else has said anything to him (besides the people who are being asked to provide things), so I think I'm the odd man out. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TZ92Zkl8sObt4gfeTJRFJGYnGgmfed5m", "post_id": "az8ixo", "action": {"description": "making my boyfriend leave a concert after we just got there because I had a panic attack", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making my boyfriend leave a concert after we just got there because I had a panic attack?", "text": "My s/o and I have been in a serious relationship for about 7 months. And for more context, I have diagnosed depression and was PMSing but that'll make more sense later, hopefully. We were having a fun, nice night. Got dinner at one of our favorite restaurants then headed over to the venue. We get there and I already feel uneasy. I smoke a little weed to help before we walked over and it helped until we were actually in. It was an edm concert/rave which I had never really experienced before. It was an artist my bf really likes and that I've listened to before but wasn't a huge fan or anything. We get into the building and not only do I feel like I'm incredibly out of place but it was just that feeling of \"I shouldn't be here, this really doesn't feel right\" My boyfriend tried to cheer me up and pulled me over to dance. I barely said \"I'm really out of my element. Can you give me a few minutes?\" before I just lose my shit and start crying. We go outside to get some air and I just cant calm down, feeling like I wasn't going to recover and be able to match the energy of the concert and feeling guilty that bf had to deal with this. After about 15 minutes it sounded like the artist was going to come out so he says, \"now or never. if you want to leave we'll leave.\" I still didn't feel any better so we left. He barely said a word to me after that and on the whole car ride home. I felt even worse considering I probably just ruined his night. No kiss, no \"I love you\", just dropped me off. 10 minutes later he snapchats (our primary form of communication) me saying I need you to give me some space\" and removes me as a friend. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c06XYSDSJlxbrnvBjALqykCEa3Ovcj4x", "post_id": "abieoq", "action": {"description": "not apologizing to FIL for calling out his greed", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not apologizing to FIL for calling out his greed?", "text": "To start, he is step father in law, my husband's mom remarried, so he isn't actually related to anyone. He easily makes 6 figures. (Relevant) Using phone so format may be awkward.\n\nBackstory - 4 years ago my husband's grandmother died. Her husband has been in financial stress for a while and they weren't exactly long term planners, so no life insurance or funds for final expenses. SFIL loans granddad the money for an inexpensive coffin. The funeral is way out in the middle of nowhere, she wanted to be buried near SFILs hometown bc she liked him that much, but its several hours away. \n\nNow, 2 years ago it occurs to me that we missed grandma's birthday and I want to make sure we take flowers to her grave. I can't remember where exactly the cemetery was so I call SFIL and ask. He tells me then rants about how much he loaned granddad and how long it took him to repay. Uh. Ok. Just tell me where she is.\n\nSeveral hours later, I am standing in a cemetery and realize that I can't find her. Call SFIL and ask, what row? What does her headstone or marker look like?\n\nThere is no marker or headstone. Even the decorative memorial stone I brought to the funeral is gone. I can't find her. I am bawling because I can't find her grave and put her birthday flowers on it.\n\nSFIL tells me that he wasn't going to  pay for a stone because she wasn't his mom. Granddad obviously had no money to do it. Grandma adored this guy, thought the world of him, but he just wasn't going to spend the money for her to have a marker. Basically tells me to F off, not his problem.  I tell him that he was out of line. If he can spend 10k on a single coin for his collection, can't he help his stay at home wife get a gravestone for her mother? I remind him of all the things that I have done over the years with no ask for thanks, because I thought we were family. I ask him to give me contact for the cemetery so I can find where she is and do something. He refused. This ends as with me telling him i guess we aren't family and don't expect me to help again until he apologizes for putting money before family.\n\nNow, I did contact granddad and asked if he wanted help or if I could get a gravestone.  He is planning on having his son use his life insurance to pay for a stone when he dies. \n\nFast forward now. It's been 2 years since we have seen or talked to MIL and SFIL because of this. My husband reached out and asked SFIL to  put aside differences so we can do holidays together. SFIL will not let his wife see us (again they are about 5hrs drive away) and refuses to reconcile until I give him a sincere apology. I declined. \n\nSo am I being too stubborn? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G4CxMtNxUQQv34k2bb5mRWtEZQ71gW62", "post_id": "aqds4h", "action": {"description": "not listening to my catholic mother's lecture about being sexually active", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not listening to my Catholic mother's lecture about being sexually active", "text": "20F, ex-Catholic college student living away from parents. I'm sexually active, but my parents don't know.\n\nA few months ago, I had a conversation with my Catholic, non-practicing mom about birth control and was told that she wants me to be safe and hopes that I'll be open about it. I'm a dependent on their insurance, and she said they'd cover it, if I ever wanted it. My mom has been open about how she used birth control pills for the first 2+ years of my parents' marriage because they didn't want kids yet. \n\nOn that positive note and after a more recent broken condom incident, I told my mom I was planning on getting Nexplanon or an IUD through the campus health center and let her know that she if she had an opinion on which one I should get, I'd be interested in hearing it. Since then, she's told me which she thinks would be better but also keeps trying to lecture me about how I could get STDs that might effect my relationship with my future husband, about how she's heard some contraceptives prevent the fertilized egg from implanting which is basically the same as having an abortion every time you have sex, about how all of our relatives that had multiple partners before marriage got divorced, about how guys will pressure you and do anything for sex, etc. She keeps prying for information about \"the boy,\" but I refuse to tell her anything except that I'm not on any dating apps. I think it's unreasonable for her to expect me to divulge information on sexual partners. Some of the things she says make me feel bad, because I'm already sexually active and I've already made the choice.\n\nI know she wants me to change the mind. I've told her that this is an uncomfortable thing for me to bring up to her, and I would only bring it up if I had reflected on it and decided I was sure. She gets angry at me, saying I won't listen to her and that I am being condescending towards her. Since their insurance will be covering most of the cost, I feel like I do have to listen to what she has to say. I'd like to think she has had good intentions this entire time, but I also feel like she baited-and-switched me.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VAZGWGukszAU9XMJDYDYPPk6r2uN2eND", "post_id": "b7szbs", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend to take down old relationship pictures on her instagram", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my girlfriend to take down old relationship pictures on her instagram?", "text": "This girl and me have been going out for a couple weeks and things are going really well. Every time I tell someone about it they always ask to see a picture of her or look her up on Instagram.\n\nThis is fine and normal, however I always get hit with comments about the pictures of her and her ex of a few months ago all over her page. I\u2019m always unsure of how to answer them.\n\nAfter I asked her about it, she said that she doesn\u2019t have feelings for him and it was just a big part of her life that she chooses to not delete. While I think this is fair, it still makes me kind of uncomfortable to tell others. It doesn\u2019t help that her ex hasn\u2019t taken any of his pictures down either. \n\nThey dated for about a year, and not all of her posts in that period are with him.\n\nWIBTA to ask her to take those posts down?\n\nTLDR: would it be bad to ask my girlfriend to take down pictures of her ex on social media even if she claims there\u2019s no emotional attachment to them?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "GpWMbSs2Gu4xU838p88peIow8fNAqD0b", "post_id": "9wi1ek", "action": {"description": "getting a tattoo", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting a tattoo?", "text": "My husband is currently freezing me out because I got a new tattoo two days ago. I\u2019m genuinely unsure if I have been an asshole or not.\n\nFor context:\nI have had tattoos since we met and have had many since. Earlier this year I got a coverup of an old tattoo I had been planning for years. He was fine up until the day and even drove me to the appointment, but as soon as I got into the car on the way home, I was practically the silent treatment for 3 days. He eventually got over it, but never told me what his problem really was (it\u2019s in a very visible place and is quite big, so I assumed that this was what his problem was). \n\nAbout 6 months after this I saw something I liked by an artist I knew, so showed my husband to see if he had any serious objections - his response was indifference. I discussed it with him, even showed him my stupid drawing of where it would go (it is an addition to an existing tattoo on my thigh - one which he quite liked), discussed the financial aspect with him, and never received any objections.\n\nHe was frosty with me on the day of, but he is very prone to mood swings, so I just put it down to him having a bad day. I went and got the tattoo, and he was in a dreadful mood when I got home so I decided then would not be the time to flaunt the new tattoo and piss him off even more. The tattoo hasn\u2019t been mentioned at all, and I can\u2019t even be sure he\u2019s seen it as I haven\u2019t outright shown him for fear of him being annoyed about it. Two days later and he\u2019s still being very short with me. I saw a message today on his Nan\u2019s phone telling a friend that he was \u2018really depressed\u2019 because I had gotten another tattoo. \n\nI am a bit confused about the whole thing - I know I should have considered his last reaction, and I understand that his feelings about this are important, but I know that I wouldn\u2019t give a shit if he got a tattoo, whether I liked it or not so part of me struggles to understand his problem with it, especially as I have had them as long as he has known me, and I have never made my desire to get more a secret. \n\nSorry for the wall of text.\n\nTLDR:\nHusband showed indifference to a tattoo I wanted, so I got it. Now he\u2019s pissed. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z5wmAY3is8kJo5Og1P8WdfJTmZ4IpYgV", "post_id": "b54j66", "action": {"description": "not being impressed by my friends bratty kid", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not being impressed by my friends bratty kid?", "text": "I have a feeling I'm going to have to give a huge apology, but I'd like input anyway. \n\nMy friend has 2 kids. One is 5 and one is 2. They're cool kids, but they're spoiled. The oldest one screams and randonly throws things for the hell of it, and the 2 year old is on the way to acting the same. Theres no discipline in their household that I can tell except for the rare time-out, and even then it has to get to a screaming match between the parents and the child. And then they feel guilty and let them run amok again. Frankly, not my monkey not my circus, but it leads to unimpressive antics.\n\nRecently, my friend told me that his 5 year old lied to get in front of a line at an amusement park because they missed their fast pass time, and then said a cuss word (telling someone she cut infront of that she wasn't a \"bitch\" about being scared on a ride). He tried justifying it, but I just gave one word answers. Finally I said they let their kid cut infront of a line of folks and then cuss at someone, and this is funny? \n\nNormally I keep my thoughts to myself (Monkey, Circus), but this time I outright said that was out of line of her to do so, and they shouldn't have let it happen, or at least done something. They go to this place every weekend, and they allowed their daughter to lie about a sick family member and say a curse word to a stranger with no repercussions.  \n\nNeedless to say,  we arent speaking. That's fine with me for now, but am I really in the wrong?\n\nIf so I've got an Im Sorry e-mail drafted.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1nf9jyUMWzBWVAbcUORUpzQ721Y3367f", "post_id": "b7fqph", "action": {"description": "agreeing with the advice my dad gave to my brother about girls", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 60}, "title": "AITA for agreeing with the advice my dad gave to my brother about girls?", "text": "So I (25M) have quite a large family. I have two brothers (14M, 17M) and three sisters (16F, 21F and 30F). And then my parents (55M and 55F). \n\nThe situation here is that my dad gave some advice to my younger brother (16M) about girls. \n\nNow some further context. Me and my siblings have all done fine with relationships. My older sister is married, but when she was younger, she was athletic, popular, sociable and got good grades. I was the same at younger age, now I hold a decent job and am doing well for myself. I'm single as it stands but I've dated around a fair bit. Likewise, my younger sisters (21F) and (16F) have their own boyfriends too. \n\nHell even my youngest brother (14M), is becoming quite the athlete and is starting to invite girls to the house (obviously, I don't think he's doing anything sexual at this age...but still, he's clearly getting confident with them and I can tell he's popular with them). \n\nBut the ''middle'' brother (16M) so to speak, he is different. He's incredibly book smart, but he has very limited social skills. He's very shy, he stays in his room a lot and plays video games, he doesn't know how to dress, he's a bit grumpy when family guests come over too (doesn't even try to socialize with them). **Simply put, he's not like any of us.**\n\nHell, his own younger brother is doing better with the ladies than he is! Me and my dad started to become very concerned for him. Sometimes me and my dad joke that he's adopted. When we were his age, we had girlfriends then...we were being sociable, but he doesn't seem to be doing so, nor is he really asking for advice. He just really...sticks out\n\nSo while I was in the living room alone, my dad walked in and asked whether my younger bro is in, and I said I don't know, so he calls my younger brother down and says ''Me and throwawayorpk want to have a talk with you''.\n\nI was a bit confused as to what was going on, but went along with it.\n\nBasically, my dad told my younger bro that ''We noticed you have never been with any girls and we know you can get a girlfriend, you have it in you, so if you need advice, come to us''.\n\nHe says ''I'm fine thanks'' and tries to go back upstairs but my dad stops him, and says ''Son, you need to be more of a man. Be more masculine. Get things done. Don't just sit in your room all day and play video games''. Then I notice that my younger bro gets angry like never before, I've never seen this side of him, he just bursts out ''Fuck off you asshole!'' to my dad and my dad loses it. My dad screams at him and says ''I was trying to help you and this is how you talk to me! For all those video games I bought you and you dare talk to me like that, you little shit, you are grounded. You're so done now.'' and he took away his video games.\n\nTbh, I don't agree with taking away his video games and I feel sorry for my brother now but I honestly agree with my dad's advice, I think my brother was being ungrateful, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 53, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 60}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "W0Hb3FW9Mz9nWzSYyWCcKq9OmaqqmCxi", "post_id": "az2ulo", "action": {"description": "kissing my friends ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kissing my friends ex?", "text": "Hello all, avid lurker never thought I\u2019d be a poster but here it goes. Last night I went to a club with my good friend (G) and two of her housemates and another person I\u2019d never met. This is a regular occurrence so I would say that myself and the housemates (A and B) are friends in a loose term I don\u2019t see them outside of these nights out. \n\nAnyway for background A and B were together last year and broke up in October, it was friendly obviously because they live together and A is always getting with people when we go out and brings them back, all good. Now here\u2019s how things went wrong, I have a bit of a thing for B because we just get along really well and he\u2019s been there for me through a really difficult time at the moment even though he barely knows me but I kept my distance because I am not at all like A physically and personality wise so I didn\u2019t think he was into me so I forgot about it. And then last night happened and when we were in the smoking area on our own he told me how he thought I was beautiful and he had a bit of a thing for me and we kiss, it just happened and it felt right. To add to this was his first kiss since the break up and he says he doesn\u2019t regret it.\n\nBut anyway I told him we probably shouldn\u2019t do it in front of A just to be respectful but turns out she did see us and she got REALLY mad and leaves. I want to go home but B convinces me to get a taxi with them instead of walking home alone and in the taxi is where it gets messy. I said that I would sleep on the sofa and she says something along the lines of \u2018I\u2019m sure b\u2019s bed will be free for you\u2019 and b goes off on her and I get the taxi driver to stop and I\u2019m gone even though g and b are telling me she\u2019s just drunk blah blah. She hasn\u2019t talked to me and is posting all the pictures of last night on Instagram without me. I\u2019ve apologised but G tells me I don\u2019t need to but I feel like the asshole so I need an outside perspective, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d2uXIHIcq2HOvtj2SOI89ULhV5TVI9Mu", "post_id": "b6yude", "action": {"description": "telling off a classmate for not attending classes when they want help", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling off a classmate for not attending classes when they want help?", "text": "Mandatory first time poster spiel, also on mobile, so sorry for any weird formatting issues.\n\nI am a freshman at my university, and so is the other person in question. They are a habitual class-skipper, and will use every excuse they can to justify why they missed class (ie. I overslept, I was running too late anyways, I am super stressed rn, etc.). Now, I\u2019m not going to say these aren\u2019t totally bs excuses, I\u2019ve used them a couple times myself, but he has attended maybe 4-5 classes of our like 14 class sessions this semester. Anyways, onto the AITA part of the story.\n\nHe came to me around midterms asking me if I could help him prepare for the test. At this point, I had even forgotten they were in  the class with me. I was willing to at least tell him what materials were on the exam, but when I told him this, he gave a very confused look and asked when I was going to help him study. Keep in mind, this class moves at a pathetically slow pace, and everyone who attended class regularly had no issues with what was on the midterm.\n\nI snapped at him after he tried to push me into helping him study for about an hour, saying something along the lines of \u201cInstead of bothering me, you could have been studying this whole time, and if you had actually gone to class, you wouldn\u2019t need to be bothering me in the first place.\u201d\n\nWe haven\u2019t really spoken since, AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2aRgOZCHpybfwnvm7lXriJMPbRzqn054", "post_id": "asuin1", "action": {"description": "not letting my partner see my search history", "pronormative_score": 93, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not letting my partner see my search history?", "text": "This just happened. I've been on the computer all day getting work done and light surfing. My GF of 10 months came in the door and asked me \"Have you been wasting time on the computer all day?\" I said \"No\" to which she replied \"Let me see your history.\" and grabbed the mouse. I took the mouse back and said \"browsing histories are private\". She got upset and started crying \"You know I have trust issues!\" We've never had a problem in our relationship in regards to faithfulness or anything close to it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 87, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 93, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kOh95ajNySVucPr5zTwXBzgxCqTCCPxb", "post_id": "b02w8r", "action": {"description": "letting my foster sister fall and scrape her face", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for letting my foster sister fall and scrape her face", "text": "This happened today. My foster sister just moved in with us about a week ago. She\u2019s four and I have some experience with little kids (babysitting) but obviously was never around one 24/7 before.\n\nMy mom asked me to take her to the park for a few hours and then bring her back, so I did. On the bus back, I sat her in her own seat and was playing on my phone and she had her head on my shoulder and was falling asleep.\n\nNext thing I know, she\u2019s face down on the ground because she fell asleep and just flopped over. She didn\u2019t get hurt except for a scratch on her chin but it did set back our bonding a bit, which sucks.\n\nMy parents are super pissed at me for letting her fall but I never knew you had to hold little kids up when they sleep or they fall over. Like I\u2019ve seen plenty of adults fall asleep and they stay upright so I didn\u2019t realize she was at risk. I know I\u2019m supposed to watch her, but she was right next to me and leaning on me so I didn\u2019t think I needed to hold her and literally watch her. AITA for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7iNY4WSr3LyfIgTe4hDPLri2uBy9LK8I", "post_id": "aqrs25", "action": {"description": "not giving my pregnant wife a foot rub", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for not giving my pregnant wife a foot rub?", "text": "She\u2019s 6 months along with twins. I feel like I\u2019ve been doing a good amount for her and being there for her. Well she asked me to give her a foot rub when I get home, and I really didn\u2019t want too. I wanted to do something else and I really don\u2019t like touching her feet. \n\nShe kept asking please and I did say sorry but no. Now, she\u2019s making me feel pretty bad. Saying she is miserable and is pregnant with two kids not just one. \n\nShe\u2019s saying I suck, and doesn\u2019t understand how I could be so selfish. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Me4IJJ92NofJoXidk6bYfVtXAkscGZUI", "post_id": "ab1c6q", "action": {"description": "cutting off my depressed friend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For cutting off my depressed friend?", "text": "I have a close friend that has had depression for the last year+. I have known him for getting close to a decade now (we are in our early 20s).\n\nWe have talked about his depression quite a lot during that time, and I have expressed how much I would like him to get help (and offered to help him with it however I could). He has always denied, saying he 'doesn't need it'. Other friends have talked to him about it and he said the same thing.\n\nHe recently said to me (and others) that he had tried to commit suicide a few days prior. At the time, I said that I would like him to try and get help and reiterated my offer to help where I could. He denied it again.\n\nMy mental state isn't great in general (I'm working on it), and this is starting to really make me feel shit. He is one of my closest friends and while I understand that depression tricks your brain, I decided I couldn't do it anymore. I told him that if he keeps refusing help I can't be friends with him anymore, as it was affecting me a lot.\n\nAm I The Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "A5vBE4c5UIH6RwQOjqN0Nx908kRSMFdo", "post_id": "b3omji", "action": {"description": "calling his ex poor", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for calling his ex poor?", "text": "Long story short me and my SO have been together over a year. For that year we have his baby\u2019s mama in the picture for obvious reasons, the kids. She always takes the clothes we buy and accuses us of taking their clothes. We explained it\u2019s the \u201ckids clothes\u201d. She is ADAMIT on getting \u201chers\u201d back. So we said ok let\u2019s use a laundry basket at each other\u2019s house and just put in dirty and return dirty so it doesn\u2019t go missing... all fair for a couple days at least from us. Yesterday she sent over kids clothes and a shirt and underwear were missing. I told her it was missing and said please return she says she doesn\u2019t have it. I said well if you\u2019re going to start picking and choosing from our clothing them I guess I\u2019ll do the same. We can\u2019t not have underwear for them here. She started spouting off as I was walking away calling names and asking why she\u2019d steal our shit. I turned around and said well maybe it\u2019s because you\u2019re poor? I told my so and all hell broke loose. HE TEXTED her and apologized.  Am I the ass hole for calling this girl poor or is he the ass hole for not standing behind me? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "f0FTU9B5N6tMMUuaKRw7OXlAtBPvNBxC", "post_id": "a2a6c2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to say hello to my neighbors that don't say hello to me first", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA because I don\u2019t want to say hello to my neighbors that don\u2019t say hello to me first?", "text": "I have lived in culdesac for about 3 years and I have just recently noticed that every time I see my neighbors I am always the first one to say hello and just be friendly in general. To test my theory I stopped saying hello to them when I see them just to see if they would say hello or be friendly first instead of me having to initiate it every time. I am not sure if they are intentionally not saying hello or what but it kinda annoyed me that I am the one to always say hello first. Now I feel like an asshole every time I see my neighbors and intentionally ignoring them, but I am not sure how to feel because I feel like it\u2019s a \u201ctwo way street\u201d type of scenario.\n\nI would like to think that I am a good neighbor. I am respectful, never have any parties, always follow our HoA rules, and make sure that my actions don\u2019t affect the neighbors in general. I am the youngest home owner of the culdesac which I feel like sparks some weird stigma amongst my neighbors which are all much older. \n\nBut really I have no idea what to make of the situation but AITA or what?\n\n(On mobile btw)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LRDsnHFx2gXlkuRMMm0K87P9yHLkkMz4", "post_id": "aent73", "action": {"description": "not being excited at all for our 3rd pregnancy", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not being excited at all for our 3rd pregnancy (unplanned)", "text": "So my wife and I found out she is pregnant late September....We have 2 sons, ages 4 and a half and 1 and a half. Both were conceived via fertility treatments, bc we tried for a couple of years with no luck. The doc told me it was basically impossible without help. So we have our two boys, and it's not like we're actively trying....those with two young kids know it's hard to keep an active sex life. Anyway, in July she found out she was pregnant, and 5 weeks later sadly lost the child. Then in September she tells me she's pregnant again. I was stunned. After the miscarriage we had talked about having a 3rd but never really decided on it. Plus I thought it was a freak, one time thing...and I didn't have time to take off to get a vasectomy. We had sex August 31st which shouldn't have been in the \"danger zone\" for pregnancy....so she's 20 weeks along and I accompanied her to her 20 week ultrasound. I felt nothing. Unlike the previous two boys. I just am dreading a 3rd boy right now. I know things will change when he arrives in late May, and as a man of faith I feel that this was God's plan for us. But man, our house isn't all that big, going through the baby stage again at near 40, it's just tough. Financially we can afford it, it's just the craziness of having 3 kids 5 and under mostly\n\nTL:DR- Wife got pregnant unexpectedly after we thought we couldn't have kids on our own, I'm not excited at all. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yPs8VLwWqU7WT6XZcl0ABQuWTiiOh1RO", "post_id": "a8hkh8", "action": {"description": "ignoring my coworker", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my coworker?", "text": "Here's the situation. At work I'm a well respected employee. Everybody knows that I do a good job and my manager really likes having me around.\n\nMy manager went on vacation for a couple of weeks and left 2 of his lead hands in charge. Now the only person who I really listen to is my manager. Leads or others sometimes try to swing their dicks around but even my manager has told me and others to only listen to him at the end of the day. They have no real power other than relaying messages and taking over when he's on vacation \n\nI was at work one day and me and another coworker switched duties. Usually my manager doesn't give a fuck and it's never a big deal but the lead hand wanted to be a hardass. He found out that we switched and got pissed saying that we should have his approval. Whatever I thought.\n\nEnd of the week comes and I'm only scheduled for 2 days. Usually it's a full week, 5 days. My manager never schedules me that little. I had a feeling that it was him as he was in charge of the schedule but wasn't sure.\n\nMy other coworker and I are talking and we start to talk about what am asshole our lead hand is. My coworker then mentioned that he had threatened to cut his shifts if he didn't keep up with his bullshit micromanaging. My coworker talks back and told him off. It was then that I realized that me getting 2 shifts was intentional as he tried the same thing with my coworker.\n\nNext week my manager comes back and asks why I barely worked last week. I said I don't know as I didn't want to make an accusation without concrete proof. This pissed me off though as he essentially robbed me of my money. At least 600 dollars.\n\nI saw him the other day and was very cold and short with him. I only talked to him because other coworkers were around. Since then I haven't seen him much as he's elsewhere for work but he has tried to call and text me about work related stuff and I've just ignored him. It isn't crucial that we connect as that's just how our workplace is struttred. I feel like he can figure it out when he gets into the building himself as the issues he contacts me about relate to him.\n\nHe just whatsapped me asking about the progress of a report and I left him on read. We were good before the vacation of my manager but ever since he did that to me I've been ignoring him. I consider it to be extremely low and cowardly", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CZFGj75BNgih4PaJ7UnRdHgMbKPWS4B7", "post_id": "ajx8so", "action": {"description": "being upset that BF didnt invite me to his birthday party", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that BF didnt invite me to his birthday party?", "text": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now and have been very happy to say the least. We are very much in love. We never argue and always seem to agree on the important things. \n\nThat being said, he is celebrating his 18th birthday and will be heading to college after he graduates. Being that I'm a junior, I will not graduate with him and I want to spend as much time with him as I can before our time together is limited. \n\nHe celebrates his birthday with a bunch of his friends that all come over and stay the night. His friends are actually my friends too, so we all get along very well. However, I wasn't invited to his birthday party. Despite all of his friends asking about me coming, he still won't invite me. (I should also note that I wasn't invited last year). \n\nWhen I started getting a little hurt, I asked him why I was never invited, and he just told me that I would be the only girl there. But he knows that it doesnt bother me, especially since we are all friends. And then he mentioned that it's an overnight party, but I told him that I had to be home at a certain time anyways. \n\nA few days passed and I asked about it again because his own brother was concerned that I wasn't invited. He told me that this was his last year to have a birthday party like that with his friends and then reassured me that we would celebrate his birthday in all the years to come, but I still couldnt help but be upset. Especially since this is a big milestone for him that I wanted to celebrate with him. \n\nI dropped the conversation, but I didnt talk to him for a while and even teared up when he wasn't looking. The party is currently happening and he has barely texted me. When he did text me it was small talk, so I just told him that I was getting in bed. I'm just so upset that I'm not in the mood for conversation. \n\nSo I want to know AITA for being upset with him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "u2n0dEe9FneB9pS3UE9r4OLLo7IKk8uD", "post_id": "9txqfs", "action": {"description": "asking his last name and then expecting a response", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for asking his last name and then expecting a response?", "text": "So I met this guy online and he lives far enough away that he asked if he could stay over if he came to visit. I wasn't super comfortable with that on the first date, so I suggested we meet up halfway for dinner to see if we clicked first. He seemed fine with this and kept messaging me the days before and day of saying how excited he was.\n\nSo we met up for dinner in a town that was about double the trip for me than it was for him. I figured he would be driving out of his way if he came to visit the next time, so I didn't mind. It went really well and we seemed to click. He seemed maybe a bit nervous but I didnt get any red flags or anything. \n\nWe walked to his car afterwards (he offered me a drink he had in his car, which sounds pretty weird in hindsight lol). We talked a bit more and he mentioned our next date where he would drive down to me. I said I'd send him my address and we hugged goodnight.\n\nI didn't expect to hear from him that night, but he messaged me on the way home telling me to be careful since there was an accident.  I didn't reply until I got home since I was driving, but i thanked him and said i had a lot of fun. He agreed and sent me some links of things we talked about at dinner. Again, everything seems like normal. \n\nThe conversation led to something that seemed relevant to mention my last name (it's unusual). We are talking using snapchat, and his full name shows up on there due to however he entered his settings. After that, I asked him if that was his last name, and even said he didnt have to tell me if he thought that was weird. He just replied with \"ya\" and then we continued talking as normal.\n\nWhen I woke up in the morning, I read whatever he had sent last as I had fallen asleep. He said something like \"going to bed, talk soon :)\". I was busy so I didn't reply right then.\n\nWent to message him later and his name had been pushed down on the list (hopefully you'll know what I mean on snapchat) and I went to message him and it just kept saying try again later. With a little digging, I figured out he had blocked me... I was super confused and I have never been ghosted before. I gave it a day to see if it was an accident or something.  Nothing.\n\nMaybe this is a bit crazy, but I made another account and added him. He added me back. I sent \"hey, this is *my name *. Why did you block me? If you weren't interested I wish you would have just said so...\" he read it then blocked me.\n\nI'm trying to wrap my head around whether I overstepped the line and was an ass or something? I paid for half of dinner and dont think I was rude, but I would like an outside perspective. \n\nTL;DR: I was ghosted after a normal first date, after asking for a last name. Is this an asshole thing to do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "I2TgeduYENjDqO0bwYfQxOGGXyFD6Gyd", "post_id": "a8bb6x", "action": {"description": "wanting to excommunicate myself from my family if they haven't done anything profound to hurt me", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA For wanting to excommunicate myself from my family if they haven't done anything profound to hurt me?", "text": "I have to admit that I am the black sheep of the family. I'm very outgoing and creatively expressive. I am an open minded person and try to stay abreast of social issues and be active in the community. I'm an entrepreneur and I like taking risks and don't see the issue in failure. In contrast, every member of my family is literally booted into the matrix. They have reached \"success\",  I admit. They focus on stability at all costs even if it means sacrificing their happiness. They believe everything the news tells them. They are highly apathetic to anything that doesn't immediately concern them. \"Recycling is just hard. The earth is fucked anyway and things truly don't get recycled\", for example. They have a hard time with accepting people for who they are, and consistently judge people against their standards. I do give them credit tho. They are driven, not addicted to drugs, aren't criminals, stable, and are loving parents. \n\nLike everyone, I certainly don't care how they want to live their lives. They aren't really hurting anyone. That's not the point of my post. I can't change how they act. But, for years they impose their life values on me. It's so profound and so apparent that they literally verbalize how little they care about my interests or how I see life. Somehow I am the lost one, the immature one, the one who needs to get a clue. Never mind when my brother buys my 4 year old niece a box of Krispy Kremes at 10 a clock at night, when she had Chik Fil A for dinner, then knocks off my advocacy for health as \"hippy shit.\" Their lives are in shambles behind the illusion curtain of \"success\", and I truly feel like they constantly try to drag me down with them. We have no common ground on interests. I can't even talk to them without receiving some type of criticism.  At the end of the day, we have fundamentally different personalities to the point where I wouldn't want to really associate myself with them if they weren't blood. They would be that person at the party that I would politely greet and just get on with my life.\n\nSo, here I am making my own life and I have these constant itches in my thought process that says \"They're toxic for you, let them go.\" There is some anger in there, yes. But mainly I'm just numb. I dread their company and it mentally taxes me. I can't really say I love them tbh. I think I love them because that's what I'm told. So AITA? Should I re position my own perspective? Or indeed is it okay to let your family go if you know they weigh you down.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eRuJXcM32FT8l1JQ9tBROfp8jOIPZNj9", "post_id": "axek85", "action": {"description": "not loving my father enough", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not loving my father enough?", "text": "A bit of background information: my father (let's call him Bill) has been married to my mother and has never been separated. \n\nBill has always been a bit of a narcissist, yelling often when he feels the slightest ounce of stress. Some of my earliest childhood memories involve him yelling at my mother. Many of the arguments he has involve trivial issues that normal people would resolve in minutes, such arguments would happen at least once a month. He is a reckless driver who rarely signals or pays attention and is the frequent receiver of honks from other drivers. While eating dinner, Bill noticed that I was picking out pieces of pork from my meal (unlike him I dislike meat) and tells me not to be a picky eater; when I pointed out that he had a pile of onions stacked on a paper towel that he was not going to eat he replied \"so what\"?\n\nThroughout the years, Bill has always worked the night shift, leaving during the evening and returning home early morning. His daytime his spent sleeping, going to the gym and watching television. He is extremely lazy in the household and gives the excuse of being the breadwinner in order to justify not helping with chores. In one instance, he was sitting about 10 feet away from the house phone and got angry when I did not pick it up despite the fact I was in the rest room.\n\nI have always had anxiety whenever I am near Bill. If my family is going out somewhere and Bill happens to be around to accompany them, I often times refuse to go. There is a bit of awkward silence whenever I am alone with him and I cannot seem to have proper thought patterns due to my anxiety. I have this irrational fear that Bill will find a way to yell at me and start an argument like he does with my mother despite the fact this has only happen a handful of times.\n\nBill has always loved the family as he expressed concerns whenever I get a medical issue, yet I have a hard time reciprocating these feelings. He has left home multiple times due to having to relocate temporarily for work and not once has I ever truly missed him. In fact, I have rarely noticed his absence, mainly because he typically sleeps or workouts when he is off work.\n\nI am not the only person who acknowledges Bill\u2019s flaws, my mother and sister occasionally have brief discussions where we consider his yelling, refusal to help, etc.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oCHLBls15aFeKIulo99SwlcJ0Ie7ZQ20", "post_id": "acwvt3", "action": {"description": "posting to PayPals Facebook", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for posting to PayPals Facebook?", "text": "I'm not trying to get karma but some real answers, I donated some money to a California fires victim [The Illusion ](http://instagram.com/malibuillusion) the bowlcut guy from Tosh.0, and they denied my donation. They still took the money anyway., So I emailed support and they said there was nothing wrong. So naturally, I posted screenshots of my bank, the denial, and how they said it wasn't a mistake. They messaged me back and I'm now in the works of getting the refund. AITA for being petty and posting publically about a $20 donation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "71NkDbPh7wkNZoeQJh8qvopBg9mhWklP", "post_id": "aoupqv", "action": {"description": "not feeling comfortable with my long distance girlfriend hanging out 1 on 1 in her apartment with another guy at night", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not feeling comfortable with my long distance girlfriend hanging out 1 on 1 in her apartment with another guy at night?", "text": "A little background info: My girlfriend and I began a long distance relationship soon after we both finished school. We have been dating going on 5 years now and have been in the LDR for 1.5 years.\n\nLast night, she hung out 1 on 1 in her apartment with a guy she met from an adult sports league (they met a few months back, but still play together regularly). I was a little jealous when I heard what she was doing, but I tried to keep my cool in order to not be the automatic 'asshole'. I texted her goodnight around 10:20 my time (11:20 hers), then laid in bed for a few minutes and my mind began racing. I started wondering what kind of stuff they were up to and, I have to admit, my mind got the best of me. I trolled around reddit and some other websites for about 10 minutes to see if this situation was normal and if I should say something. I did.\n\nHere is my text: \"I will admit that it's really kind of weird that you're hanging out one on one with \\[insert name here\\] at 1130 on a Friday night.\" This was sent \\~10 minutes after my goodnight text.\n\nI thought this was reasonable. She would quell my fears and I could just go to sleep. 30 minutes go by with no response. An hour then goes by... I give up waiting. She didn't text me back until 9:30am (her time). I would have chalked this up to her falling asleep, but her excuse was that she 'just didn't want to deal with it last night'. Regardless of this being the real reason, this response really hurt.\n\nRewinding to about 4 years ago, we had a similar situation (albeit more severe) where she was repeatedly hanging out with a guy 1 on 1 in her room at college (we went to the same school). This guy called me the \"epitome of douche\" and was trying to get her to break up with me. At first, she wouldn't admit it. I had to call her out on information from her roommates in order to hear the whole story from her. She said they never did anything together and I told her I trusted her. \n\nLast night, I got flashbacks to the same situation. This time, I don't have the roommates to help determine if it is purely platonic and to hear the whole story. I vocalized all of this in a phone call with her about an hour ago and now she says I am being controlling and that she 'just won't ever do anything on the weekends again'. I am not trying to be controlling, but I totally understand where she is coming from (I stayed in the same state as college and still have friends here where she does not where she is). I just don't think she thinks it is as big of a deal as I do, especially her not texting back and the given history of this kind of situation.  \n\nTL;DR: My LDR girlfriend hung out alone in her apartment with a guy last night. I told her that what she was doing didn't make me feel comfortable and she didn't respond until the morning. Her response was that she doesn't have many friends there and just wanted to do something. This sort of thing has happened in the past and I had to call her out on information from her roommates in order to hear the whole story from her. We talked on the phone this morning where I told her that and she called me controlling and thinks I am overreacting.\n\nAITA??\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "34kW0bu4JO8aO3IoRYWgOE0nir5SNqur", "post_id": "a1tdxc", "action": {"description": "not wanting my gf to hang out with a guy who said he fucked her", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my gf to hang out with a guy who said he fucked her?", "text": "so a couple of weeks ago a person I know started to tell a few people that he had sex with my girlfriend, after I confirmed this false I asked my girlfriend not to hangout with this person. she thinks it's controlling, and I think it's reasonable. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SEs11kdCSKwKoYFIIWWS13zWnZ1zvoHy", "post_id": "awo8l3", "action": {"description": "trying to strongly dissuade my gf from doing a Ph.d", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for trying to strongly dissuade my GF from doing a Ph.D?", "text": "Let me preface this that I quit my ph.D program out of choice. Why? I was a middle-of-the-pack student. For an average student like me, I stand little to no chance in landing a tenure-track position even at an \"average\" university. What awaited me was post-doc purgatory and adjunct teaching, where you make a \\*pittance\\* for the amount of education you have invested in yourself. Foreseeing this, I noped the fuck out and jumped to the job market.\n\n​\n\nEnter my GF. She is a 28 years old Masters student in engineering. She has informed me on several occasions that she wants to pursue a Ph.D after graduating from her current program. I have been urging her to think twice about this momentous decision. Here are my arguments as to why I think a Ph.D is not good for her:\n\n​\n\n1. The Ph.D department she wants to go to is not that highly-ranked. Landing a tenure-track position after graduating from there is a snowball chance in hell.\n\n​\n\n2. You don't need a Ph.D in engineering to thrive in the professional/industrial job market.\n\n​\n\n3. She has never been on the job market. How would she know she wouldn't like it?\n\n​\n\n4. I don't think she knows what she's getting into. It's clear she hasn't thoroughly researched this career path. \n\n​\n\n5. She's not that young anymore. Do you really want to use your prime years for an endeavor with highly uncertain payoff? Even if you manage to get a job after, that's \\~5 years of opportunity cost gone. That's \\~5 years in which you could have been working because a Masters is perfectly \\*sufficient\\* already. \n\n​\n\n6. I don't think her personality is good for academia. She is a very quiet and somewhat passive. Teaching, competing for grants, going to conferences, and all that jazz would probably be tough for her. \n\n​\n\n7. Hell, if the Ph.D is really needed for her next promotion, what prevents her from going \\*back\\* to it after gaining some work experience on the job market first?\n\n​\n\nMost importantly, though, it's that I see myself in her. I believe I was in her shoes 4 years ago. I do not want her to make the same mistake I did. \n\n​\n\nNow, here's where I could be the asshole:\n\n​\n\n1. She's allowed to do whatever the fuck she wants. Maybe I can give her some (unsolicited?) advice, but it's not my purview to tell her what to do.\n\n​\n\n2. The big one: I'm not that young anymore either. I'm also materialistic. Basically, I don't want a future in which my partner doesn't really contribute to the American Dream because she's still studying as an 30+ years old. If we are to share our life together, I'd want her to work. I'm scared of the uncertainty that her preferred career path brings.\n\n​\n\nBecause I legit care about her and \\*because I want someone who can help me create the future I want\\*, I've been trying to dissuade her from pursuing her goal.\n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "O0d4BDHbhJSpuCNqPD2FehQ7dDdzH7gY", "post_id": "aqgpb5", "action": {"description": "being angry at my friend for making no effort to do anything together for 2 weeks", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being angry at my friend for making no effort to do anything together for 2 weeks?", "text": "One of my friends that I play games with and talk to on a semi-regular basis (every 2-3 days) has been doing nothing to try and spend time with me over the past 14 days, which I wouldn't have a problem with if it weren't for the fact that I've been actively shut down every time I ask to do something with him, in favor of spending time with his other friends. These are friends that will go months at a time completely ghosting him for no reason, and it hurts a lot that he'd rather hang out with people that treat him like a convenience, rather than someone that makes an effort to spend time together. When I confronted him and outright told him that I'm upset at him for ignoring me, he told me that he's just used to not talking to friends for quite a while (which obviously isn't true, based on the fact that we talked every other day at least, for months at a time). As understandable as that might be, he then followed it up with saying that I was just looking for something to justify cutting him out of my life, which felt like he was trying to guilt me hard into not being angry at him anymore, however it just made me furious that it seemed like he was trying to manipulate me. Now, my judgement is way too clouded by anger to think if I was overreacting or if he really was being inconsiderate. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ndWegbVPLXPMk6zwlaTZLiCw39NjImP5", "post_id": "a3ew96", "action": {"description": "feeling less attracted / disappointed in my so because their opinion is completely dependent on celebrities' opinions", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for feeling less attracted / disappointed in my SO because their opinion is completely dependent on celebrities' opinions?", "text": "Ex: We watched a show I wanted to check out once and I liked it. I wanted to keep watching it but he hated it. So we took it off and saw something else. Weeks/months later after watching his regular podcast, he suddenly wants to give it another chance bc he found out the creator/voice actor of the show is a comedian that his favorite podcast host likes. Am I a jerk for losing a bit of respect in him bc of the fact that he completely changed his opinion just because he now knows it's some dude another dude he likes likes? Lol he hasn't seen it again yet but now he's suddenly excited to rewatch what he already saw and made clear he did not like...not to mention that over the course of those months I suggested rewatching a couple times bc I thought if he gave it another chance he might like it. So I guess there's the added element of feeling like these celebrities' opinions are more important than his SO's too? He does this with a lot of things. It seems his opinion is one thing but after listening to other people rant about whatever he gets completely brainwashed. It's like he lacks critical thinking skills of his own or simply defaults to getting into what 'personalities' he likes tell him is likeable. I know we're all guilty of falling for different advertising tactics to a point but to completely change his mind about things bc someone else (not even a real person in his life at that) has a certain opinion on it makes me feel like I'm ultimately stuck with whoever's trending's opinions rather than my SO's. Am I weird for this? How do I get him to express his own opinions rather than be a walking rendition of what he hears on a podcast? Am I missing something here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wPhEqYsZQeumVflpEM8lJjfoEMUvNzI9", "post_id": "ao7w37", "action": {"description": "wanting the gift I gave to someone back because they're selling it", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for wanting the gift I gave to someone back because they\u2019re selling it?", "text": "(Sorry on mobile)\n\n So my best friend has been my best friend for 3 years and I love her to death but for the past 2 years my family has had some financial issues making Christmas Hell for us. \n\n So when the holiday season rolls around I spend $20 on a T-shirt for her and for my family $20 is a lot of money. \n\n I give her the shirt and she seems to like it but after a few weeks I see it on her depop with a caption that says \u201cnever been worn\u201d. Now I\u2019m pretty fucking pissed because I don\u2019t wanna spend $20 on a shirt for her to sell it and get money for it. \n\n I haven\u2019t confronted her about it but I\u2019m thinking about it so I\u2019m wondering, am I the asshole for wanting it back? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "DGCTJkg3dfLwtZDe174kxvROg3OOTZMJ", "post_id": "aeyi5m", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate that he can't have an interview in the living room", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I told my roommate that he can't have an interview in the living room?", "text": "As background, I'm a junior in college and I live in a 1 bedroom apartment with 3 roommates- the other two sleep in the bedroom and have desks in the living room, and I sleep and work in the living room. Thats all the space I have. I got back from my morning classes and was immidiately told I had to leave the apartment because my roommate had an phone interview, and that I couldnt even keep to my own space. He never told me about this and just dropped it on me once I got home. I honestly had nowhere else to go study/work. Am I the asshole for saying no?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MclHDEd3FXocEzuaDq4743fNmGfXqbrY", "post_id": "a94dyi", "action": {"description": "calling my mother a bitch", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for calling my mother a bitch?", "text": "Before judging me, please listen to why I have to say. It was the heat of the moment and I genuinely feel bad for doing that, and I know it is such a trashy thing for me to do, but I also have my reasons. \n\nShe barely cares and listens to the family. Whenever she comes home from work, she will start shouting and hurting my father emotionally. One time she started calling my father useless and that he does not work for the family. The thing is, my father has been tiredly looking for a job and been through much hardship working day and night and yet, my mother does not care about his feelings. She works for many hours and I know she gets stressed out sometimes, but she shouldn't treat my father like shit and care less about his feelings. The dispute between my parents are getting worse and worse and they started to shout at each other. If someone does not help , a divorce may happen soon. And I am just a 15 year old boy who really really do not want my family to separate. \n\nMy mother never listens to what I have to say. When I tell her everything my father has put through, she shrugs it off because she never treats me with respect. She cares about me, but what she doesn't notice is that she is giving me a broken family. \n\nToday, we were just having our meal with one of her friends(the people she gives a shit about) and then I broke. I called her a mean bitch and ran home. \n\nAfter saying that, I felt really really bad and heartbroken. I have never treated my mother like that but I really couldn't carefully process my thoughts then. But by doing that, I hope she can finally feel what my family is going through. My father is  depressed and she does not know that. (she is never home with us) Yet, she keeps berating him and does not treat him like family. I feel that by doing this, I can improve the situation. I really do not want my parents to separate. One time my mother was being so mean and hurtful that my father slapped her and then moments later, they started throwing items at each other until I had to call the police. I don't want that to happen again. I really don't. I am doing whatever I can right now to fix this. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fBr7TcHOzlzGSyBvx8WRISri6TGy7NTs", "post_id": "b6ld60", "action": {"description": "arguing with a friend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for arguing with a friend?", "text": "Ok so this happened earlier today. To have a bit of  background a guy and I have been friends for around 5 years, but in the last year I've noticed he is acting in a weird way: he's a constant show off and very dramatic, always calling for attention, but it doesn't look like he even notices. I have talked with him about this a couple of times but he never really listened and just continued being this way, acting as if he was above anyone. Again, I don't really know if he is aware of it. As a result I've been quipping at him because I don't really like these kind of people. I don't mean it in a bad way and we've been friends for a long time so we have enogh trust to joke this way.\n\nSo this afternoon I was pretty frustrated after a lesson I hadn't understood (I have a short temper), he was, as usual, speaking very loudly, almost shouting, so I told him to shut up. To be honest I said it in a rude way because I was irritated and highly irritable. He came over and told me that I wasn't entitled to be rude to people because I didn't understand a lesson, and he was right on this part. He said it roughly too. Then he just began rambling about how I always have a shitty attitude and how I was starting to be a pain in his ass (I guess having a shitty attitude is the same as not saying \"yes\" to everything he says). So then I told him he had been a pain in my ass for a while now. I can't really remember what he said afterwards, but it was something about me always ticking him off and shit talking him. I didn't really say much else. He just kept rambling about that and about how that was over and stuff. It came to a point when some people had to stand in front of him and I think he would have punched me. I was pretty puzzled after that and felt like a bully, but when I asked a different friend about it he said I didn't do anything he said I did. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tQygiqJWhFLwQihIWh2bPXuAniw4MTko", "post_id": "b8kpio", "action": {"description": "wanting to drop a friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to drop a friend?", "text": "I\u2019ve known this woman for almost 2 years now, she (29) reached out on Facebook after I (F 22) started talking to a roommate of hers I vaguely knew from when I worked at a mall.\n\nShe had started off really nice, but definitely overshared a lot in the first few months. I eventually joined a discord server she ran with her two roommates and everything was great! I was excited to meet new people and have more options for conversation.\n\nWell, within about 3 months of joining this discord, things took a sharp turn. She told me she loved me, that she needed me in her life, I treated her better than her previous partners, she wanted to follow me overseas.\n\nThis is where shit went down. \n\nShe got worse mentally after being ghosted and everyone looked to me to make sure she was okay. I had only met this woman 3 times max in person at this point.\n\nIt got to a point where everyone thought we were dating. She was telling people we were dating, including my coworkers and boss. This was a major problem for me because it\u2019s not true.\n\nI told her to stop saying that because it\u2019s not true at all. She did, for awhile.\n\nThings took a much weirder turn when she started discussing marriage and such. I said I would be moving abroad, we live in the US, and she immediately started giving me ways she could follow me. \n\nThat\u2019s how she said it. \u201cI\u2019m going to follow you wherever you go because I need you in my life and I\u2019d be dead if it wasn\u2019t for you.\u201d\n\nEmotionally I\u2019m drained. I want to just drop her and ignore this woman completely. She\u2019s crossed boundaries, embarrassed me in front of my coworkers and friends, makes these comments about how I\u2019ll never be able to get rid of her because she needs me. \n\nI\u2019m kind of scared that if I do cut her out completely, something will happen and they look it on me. Just last night she sent me a text, after I removed myself from the server and blocked her on just about everything, asking if this was an April Fool\u2019s day prank because she has extreme abandonment issues and couldn\u2019t handle someone else leaving her.\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to drop this woman? I\u2019m in college full time and my work hours fluctuate between part time and nearly full time because it\u2019s retail. I can\u2019t keep being the bearer of her burdens but nearly all of her partners have sent me something along the lines of, \u201cJust don\u2019t hurt her, she loves you.\u201d \n\nIt seems like my feelings don\u2019t matter to her. Every time I bring up issues it\u2019s always turned into something going back to previous issues or her mental health is bad, she won\u2019t take responsibility for anything that happens. I have bipolar, I know how it is, but she\u2019s on a completely different level than me. \n\nI\u2019m just so tired of these expectations everyone has set for me.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HIXKo12mQMJC0AUa5yGE81lucxvxB79s", "post_id": "ajvj8r", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go with my girlfriend to her parent's first food truck event", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to go with my girlfriend to her parent's first food truck event?", "text": "We are both college students (20M, 21F) and have been dating for almost 1.5 years. We are pretty serious but stuff like engagement and things like that are nowhere near our future (need to graduate and get jobs ect). I'm still dependent on my parents but she is almost completely independent (pays for everything herself with the exception of having her car and phone from high school).\n\n\nFor context, her dad is not a good person. My girlfriend grew up with verbal abuse and to this day gets judged for going to college (shes the only one in her immediate family to go) and not staying at home living with them. Her step-brother for example lives at home and in general doesn't do much with his life. Her dad is also a narcissist and just an asshole in general (racist, sexist southern dude). Her stepmom can be nice sometimes, but when she doesn't get her way can act pretty childish and do things like give people the silent treatment. \n\n\nThis evening her dad, stepmom, sister and sister's boyfriend are having their first big food truck event. Live music, lots of people and other food trucks there. Initially my girlfriend wanted to go with her friends and I but after her friends told her no we decided we wouldn't go either. Its also not the kind of event we enjoy going too, we both hate crowds and loud music. After telling her sister that she wasn't going to go, sister told us that the parents were not happy about it and were mad she wasn't going to come. Earlier today she tells me that she is going and that she wants me to come. She changed her mind because even though she still doesn't want to go, she is only going to make her parents happy and that it would just be easier to go and avoid them being asses about it later. That's fine by me, I do things that make my parents happy too, but her parents are not my parents and I've been clear from the beginning that I didn't want to attend (even when she wanted her friends to go I didn't want to). She at one point said \"Are you really gonna make me go by myself?\" and I said \"I didn't make you change your mind\". \n\n\nIf it was an important event to her I would go. Holidays for example I'm OK with seeing her family because its important to her. But she didn't want to go to this event in the first place and has tried to rope me into it from the beginning. Looking for a reality check. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "SnVQZ6xAErTq7nNhzolMShuL4CcgZHuC", "post_id": "auzwb5", "action": null, "title": "AITA, Got up and walked away from my mom when she told me her cousin had died.", "text": "Hi everyone. Long time lurker, first time poster here. This happened earlier this morning and I\u2019m still not quite sure what to make of it. Apologies for crappy formatting, I am on mobile.\n\nI had gotten up early, and was sitting on a chair in the dining room. I\u2019m 18 and living with my parents as I finish up High School. My mom comes in, sits on the other chair. After sitting there in silence for awhile, she gasps softly and... tells me her cousin had just died age 33 from a heart attack. Not knowing what to say, I asked my mom if she was overweight. (She was.) I had never met this person. After awhile, my mom says she posted something to facebook with a song I had showed her, an extremely personal song at that. She held her phone out to me and wanted me to read her tribute/obituary. And here\u2019s where I screwed up. I told her if I read that, that it would negatively effect my morning because I cannot handle sadness or anger without internalizing it and making myself suffer. Then I got up and walked out. \nShe called me back in 7 minutes later, told me I was an emotionless robot and to find a heart. Now I\u2019m sitting here, waiting for the bus to come and wondering where to even start picking at this. \nI know I\u2019m almost definitely in the wrong, so don\u2019t be afraid to tell me so. What I\u2019m wondering is, what could I have done? Should I have stayed? Should I not have said anything?\n\nI feel lost.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "B2ul3yIKW51rTE5RK2fQSdtYibIj9VLO", "post_id": "aa05iy", "action": null, "title": "AITA or did I do nothing wrong", "text": " Dear reddit, I have a situation.\n\nMy best friend (girl) of almost 5 years now is in a relationship with a guy ( 4 years now) that became one of my closest friends though the interaction we have had over the years. Lately he had suspected that his girlfriend had not told him everything that he needed to know and asked her to tell him everything that he did not know yet.\n\nOne of the things he did not know was that before they met, I had made out during a party with my best friend and one time when they did know eachother but were not yet in a relationship. After that first kiss we once shared a shower together but nothing happened. After that we just left it at that and became best friends. Then when she met him I helped them get together. My best friend was worried because at the time he was a virgin and she was scared that he would leave her after a while to see what other flavours are out there.\n\nAfter finding out, that we kissed and showered together he got furious at me and he decided to cut me out of his life.\n\nNow i'm wondering what I did wrong. In my opinion that information was not mine to tell... Had I told it at the beginning of their relationship when I did not yet know him, would it not have seemed like I was trying to sabotage the relationship? Also had I told him one year in to the friendship would I not risk breaking them up? I mean I understand that knowing this so late sucks.. and that he is wondering why I never told him, but to cut me out of his life, one of his best friends for something that happened before they met and what I thought she would have already told him...\n\nAm I really wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ku86iCBqtuh0fwwsqdn7EMLH2DqNEFbh", "post_id": "a4qk3b", "action": {"description": "losing my temper around my father", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA, for losing my temper around my father?", "text": "My sister asked me to help decorate the Christmas tree, which I would have been fine with, but my father was home at the time and I wanted nothing to do with him.  I didn't want to be near him since he's the fucking worst. \n\nAfter my sister convinced me, I hoped he would leave me alone while I helped decorate, but he started bugging me immediately. I sat down on the couch and he started kicking my legs. He laughed and told me to start helping my sister, and he kicked me so I'd get off my phone. I was already in a shitty mood, but I wasn't interested in standing around a tree while he bullies me, since this isn't my first time with him. I got up and left, called him an asshole and a dick. He then promptly blew the fuck up, and while angrily laughing, demanded to see \"what was so important\" on my phone and said this over and over, while my mother pleaded him to stay away from me, and held him back from the doorway. My sister and mother then left after he finished raving about me with pretty much every swear known to man. My sister and mother are now not talking to me, because \"I shouldn't have made him angry.\"\n\n​\n\n**TL;DR:** I swore at my father after he started bugging me while I sitting on the couch. My mother then had to hold him back as he insulted me and said he was going to destroy my phone. My sister and mother are mad because I \"set him off\", and it's my fault the Christmas tree isn't being set up.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IMrw83BeArM9OXYZpxqm9ukFUB5o2I7S", "post_id": "9twesq", "action": {"description": "resenting my mother for calling for an FBI investigation for Dr. Ford", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for resenting my mother for calling for an FBI investigation for Dr. Ford", "text": "A little background; When I was 16 years old, I was staying the night at my moms friends daughters house. She was 22 I believe. She invited me over to hang out and spend the night. I specifically remember drinking a Smirnoff ice that night. It was the third time I had ever drank under age and I was nervous about it cause I didn\u2019t want to get in trouble. I felt like my mom would swing by and check on us at anytime. Anyway was married and had her two-year-old little boy living with her but her husband had been staying somewhere else. This night though, him and his brother decided to sneak into the house. I was immediately uncomfortable cause they didn\u2019t even knock but chose to sneak in through the sliding door on the patio. They were still married and had a baby together so it made no sense. I told them I was going to sleep on the couch and I\u2019ll see her in the morning. Soon after she and her husband went to their room. I could hear the brother walking around, stepping out to smoke and when he came back in he pulled my blanket off and got on top of me. He grabbed my hands and did what he had planned to do the whole time telling me shh and \u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d. I kept saying please stop and no while crying. When he got off I ran to the bathroom and he went to their room, grabbed his brother and they left. I didn\u2019t tell her what happened. The next morning when my friend that had planned to get me the next day came, he knew something was wrong. He wouldn\u2019t stop hassling me so I broke and told him. He took me straight to the hospital. It only got worse from there. My mom\u2019s (yes both of them) showed up about the same time as a police officer. He asked me what happened in an irritated tone. I told him as he barely looked at me wrote in his book. He asked had I been drinking, I said yes I had had that one Smirnoff ice. He shut his book and told my mother if she were my kid she\u2019d be in a whole lot of trouble at home. \nMy Mom\u2019s did just that. They said get dressed, they didn\u2019t even have an exam done, and they took me home. They grounded me to my room for a month. I sat in my room feeling like I was drowning everyday. I can\u2019t believe I survived myself then. I don\u2019t know which pain was worse, the attack or the aftermath. \nSo forward 16 years later and my mother had posted almost daily on FB about Ford and she must be believed and all this. It brought back all of this for me. My mother doesn\u2019t know Ford, has no connection with this woman but was actively supporting everything about her. Calling for the investigation but wouldn\u2019t even help her 16 yo child get their own. My heart feels like it\u2019s been ripped outt my chest again, chomped up and spit out. I don\u2019t know if I should say anything to her about it. Seems pointless anyway with someone who\u2019s own child means that much to them. But this resentment is eating at my soul. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZvGf2pjmVqgfvghUySa0wWhsaVNAyJbX", "post_id": "ah3va8", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend who's just trying to help", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend who's just trying to help?", "text": "A bit of back story before I begin.\n\n I've just entered \"Liceum\" (I guess the American highschool?), and I've met new people, one of them is the main character of this long and boring story.\n\nSo there's a boy in my class, really nice and caring guy. In the beginning of the school year I didn't really talk with him, but since September he's been my go to friend in class. \n\nAt first he didn't really talk a lot about himself, but neither did I so I didn't think much of it. After a few weeks he started continuously saying that he's sad and that he can't sleep, I was there to help him, and talk with him because he didn't exactly have a lot of friends, I didn't try to diagnose him or really try telling him to do anything, I was just there to listen and reassure him.\n\nLike all teenage boys, our conversations gravitated towards girls, and I told him that one girl caught my eye, then he directly proceeds to text her and tell her to meet up with me on a date. I obviously get mad and tell him to not do that every again. He apologises and says they he won't.\n\nA few days later, while I'm texting with my best friend, he asks who I'm texting. When I told him her name, he immediately texts her to go on a date with me, she's very prone to anxiety attacks, and has one because of this (used to have a huge crush on her, asked her out, she said no, she feels really bad about it because she convinced herself that's why I had mental health issues). \n\nI obviously get very pissed at him and ask him wtf is he doing. He said that he's just trying to help me and that he thought that I want to be with her. I essentially told him to fuck off from my love life and that he said he wouldn't do anything like that. \n\nHe apologises and says that he hasn't ever had any friends and just wants me to be happy. I tell him that I don't think I want him as my friend if he's going to behave like that. He says ok.\n\nA couple weeks later (today) he does it again, this time writing to one of my friends I met at a party. I told him to fuck off, for good. A few minutes later, a mutual friend started texting me saying that I'm a dick and that my now former friend is crying and contemplating suicide.\n\nTldr; friend wants good, slips up 3 times, I tell him to fuck off and now he is contemplating suicide. AITA?\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BAS4q6RsBhIO0wxnqOTtvyL7vCrU9f0n", "post_id": "b0x9id", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend when she left the club with a stranger in a foreign country", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend when she left the club with a stranger in a foreign country?", "text": "AITA? Me and my friend are on a trip to a Latin American country. Last night she was the designated driver and I got to drink. We had a fun girls night ate some food and went home. Today it was my turn to drive. My friend promises it\u2019s a girls night we\u2019ll dance and have fun. As soon as we get there she moves to the side with this guy while I try to socialize with others. She comes over and says \u201cI\u2019ll be right back\u201d (no indication she\u2019s going outside). \n\nTen minutes go by and I don\u2019t see my friend so I start looking around the club. I don\u2019t find her. I walk in and out 3 times and nothing. I get worried so I start walking around the block. And I see her down a dark street with this dude.\n\nAt this point I tell her it\u2019s not cool and this wasn\u2019t a part of the plan and we head out.\n\nAITA for not letting her stay with this guy and getting upset? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Vc4Tixinnus6BzIPd1AbCf1BPevu5t2K", "post_id": "9z03p2", "action": {"description": "taking back what I own from my ex-friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for taking back what I own from my ex-friend?", "text": "Me and my (now ex) best friend had a recent fallout out, mainly due to her lying/hiding things from me. \n\nFor some backstory;\nI built her a gaming PC back in August for her birthday, after wanting one just like mine. I did, out of generosity. After a while, she slowly stopped talking to me, hanging out, or even playing games with me. She got addicted to a game called \"VRchat\". She met some dude on there and started dating him, via the game. After that, she told me (because of her dating this guy) she doesn't really want to play with me or hang out with me anymore. I told her that I want my things back that I bought for her then, seeing as I was essentially being tossed away. I calmly asked her to return the Monitor I had lent her, and upon asking, she called me a selfish cunt, then blocked me on every form of social media. I got my monitor back, but only because I had asked her cousin to tell her that if she didn't return it, I would take her to court. She quickly gave it up the next day.\n\nNow, I want my other things back from her, including two 8GB RAM sticks, a headset, the keyboard/mouse I had lent her, and some clothes I had kept there in case I stayed the night. So, would I be an asshole, to go and take back my items? Without the RAM sticks, her PC won't even start, which would pretty much kill her relationship with her new boyfriend. Without the headset, she wouldn't be able to talk to him anyway, even if I don't take the RAM, and without the keyboard/mouse, well, she can't even log on her PC. \n\nAm I an asshole for wanting my shit back, while also inadvertently ruining her long distance relationship?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mHbRBB7ksWEuSOJUNC8eSka5TvbTsZUn", "post_id": "aondfv", "action": {"description": "wanting my gf to get a career", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA For Wanting my GF to Get a Career?", "text": "I'm M22, she's F22. My gf graduated last june with a BA in English Lit and hasn't been able to find a job. She works at starbucks and has no plans of going back to school or doing professional development courses in order to get a career. She makes around like 20-25k at starbucks, and I'm on track to make 75k this year. I live alone in my own place and she lives with her parents and pays no rent which is why she's able to survive on 20k. Last night I told her about a project management program and a HR program at a community college here in Toronto and explained to her how those fields lead to some decent paying jobs especially project mgmt if you get the certification. She said she doesn't want to go back to school and doesn't want to work in a \"business\" environment. I kinda snapped at her and said she needs to be proactive and better herself or else she'll be at starbucks forever. She got mad at this and said I'm an asshole.\n\n​\n\nAITA for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hJlq2xypb7SLVuLDJmRqNmw1AWpHm5cy", "post_id": "b65uzk", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to get coffee alone with a thirsty guy", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For not wanting my girlfriend to get coffee alone with a thirsty guy?", "text": "There\u2019s a little backstory to this one so please bear with me. A few months ago I was out with my girlfriend, her brother and, and her roommate having a picnic on my college campus. We are kicking a soccer ball around and some guy walks up to us and asks if he can join in - sure, no problem. The more he talks, the weirder he gets. He starts to brag about how he\u2019s \u201cbeen intimate\u201d with 14 women since he got here earlier in the year (which he later defines as kissing) and is obviously interested in my gf and her roommate. He also tells us how he\u2019s disappointed that America isn\u2019t like it is in the movies where all the girls want to sleep with you all the time. Apart from the weird comments he\u2019s also generally socially awkward. When we finally decide that it\u2019s time to leave my girlfriend asks for his phone number and we all part ways. I asked her why she got his number and she said that she felt bad for him because he just seemed really lonely and he\u2019s in a new place all by himself so he probably doesn\u2019t have any friends. I feel the need to say here that I trust her and I don\u2019t think she\u2019d ever cheat on me, she can just be very niave/oblivious at times. After a week or so the now five of us get lunch on campus together (just as awkward but I\u2019ll spare you the reading) and pretty much stop having contact with him after that other than him making a few more attempts to make plans with us by texting my gf and a happy New Years text followed up by another request to make more plans that ended up in limbo as well. Well today, months later, my gf texted me saying that she\u2019s getting coffee with him alone. I\u2019m pretty upset by this because we\u2019ve talked about how she doesn\u2019t realize some guys take being friendly as flirty (and she\u2019s a very friendly person) and specifically about how this guy seems really desperate. She says there\u2019s nothing wrong with it because it\u2019s \u201cobviously not a date\u201d but I\u2019m still pretty upset. AITA or am I being too up tight about this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OJ7g1aXkaX836hbNUVTsxLnmO0es0E0W", "post_id": "b66xwq", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help pay for my friend's speeding ticket", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to help pay for my friend\u2019s speeding ticket", "text": "So me and my friend go to Europe last year for about twelve days. It\u2019s mostly a hiking/sightseeing trip so we\u2019re doing a lot of driving to go from trail to trail cause it\u2019s our first time in Europe and we want to see as much as possible. \n\nMy friend drove the entire way because we didn\u2019t want to add on the extra driver cost. We were both cool with this situation cause she loves driving and I don\u2019t. Plus we save a lotttt or money. In turn, I planned the entire trip. From researching all the potential viewpoints and trails, emailing huts for a sleeping spot, booking hotels,etc. Planning a trip for 12 days took me a very long time. Which I was okay with since she was driving a lot. \n\nSo for the first few days, she was speeding like a manic which she always does when she drives. I tell her to stop speeding repetitively (cause I\u2019m a pretty safe driver and we\u2019re in a foreign country\u2019s)but she\u2019ll start speeding like 10 minutes later or when I fall asleep. I noticed the cameras on the third day and I told her. Turns out Europe has a lot of speeding cameras. So she finally stops speeding for the entire trip cause she\u2019s paranoid. \n\nAlmost a year later, she gets the first ticket and it\u2019s $600. She asks me to split it with her but I really don\u2019t want to. I told her many times to stop speeding but she never listened. And the ticket is for over 15 kmph and not just a  5kmph. So I don\u2019t think I should have to pay for her recklessness. In the end, I ended up paying her $150 cause she was bugging me daily for it. \n\nBut I feel angry about the entire situation. If I had a speeding ticket and I was driving with friends, I would never ask for them to help since it was my fault. I feel like she thought this was different cause we were in a different country. If it was something that was out of our control then I would be down to split half.\n\nAITA for not wanting to split any part of the speeding ticket? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ejHTcCwJ2bKpU4jSd4t09kzH1UkmKnBX", "post_id": "b1jx8p", "action": {"description": "not wanting my fianc\u00e9e to watch a male stripper show in Las Vegas for her bachelorette party", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my fianc\u00e9e to watch a male stripper show in Las Vegas for her bachelorette party?", "text": "I am 23, my fiancee is 21, and we are getting married in August. Her twin sister is the maid of honour and planning all the bachelorette activities. For her bachelorette party, my fiancee and her 5 bridesmaids are going to Las Vegas for a 4 day long weekend trip. They are watching a lot of shows, magic shows, talent shows, and even a show featuring Australian male strippers. \n\nI talked to my fiancee and told her I was okay with all their events, but the male stripping show was definitely a no go. She said its \"no big deal\" and that it's pretty much just a bunch of guys dancing on stage. She said \"it's not like I'm getting a lapdance or anything\". I said that I still wasn't comfortable with it. I asked her if she would be okay with me going to a stripclub for my bachelor party (I'm not), but she said that's different. She said a show is very different from a strip club. She said its all very classy. \n\nI also talked to her sister, the planner, and she said I'm overreacting. Her boyfriend, one of the groomsmen, was also iffy about the whole thing. We would never go to an event featuring naked ladies. For my bachelor party, we're just going to a hockey game and having dinner. \n\nAm I an asshole for putting my foot down? They haven't booked anything yet, just made an itinerary. My GF is NOT the type to cheat at all, but I'm just not okay with the idea of her watching dudes strip on stage. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qhAv4ac3hkOxUU78TpV7g5WlKdeZKcxs", "post_id": "a69cvb", "action": {"description": "not wanting to drive several hours and miss school for Smokey weather", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to drive several hours and miss school for Smokey weather?", "text": "So, a few weeks ago, California had major wildfires (before Thanksgiving), and my mom, who has had a kidney transplant and has a very low immune system wanted to leave the smoke because she had a raspy throat after accidentally leaving her bedroom window open.\n\nBeing the week before thanksgiving, I had several tests, and in order to leave the smoke, my parents and I would have to leave our house and travel to our grandparents house in Nevada (5+ Hours away) and stay there at least until Wednesday. Meaning I would be missing several tests. \n\nI refused to go, and my dad volunteered to go with my mom to stay at her parent\u2019s house. She refused to leave with out me, and proceeded to unplug our house\u2019s internet.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xmTqIB4owdQnDZ0xaFpo9vRV3gOJVumq", "post_id": "aa5wi5", "action": {"description": "flagging on a close friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for flagging on a close friend?", "text": " I wasn't exactly sure how to describe what happened in the title so I'll do my best here. \n\nI've known this particular person since 8th gradeand all through high school. We'd hang out a lot and he was always looking out for me and vice versa--a 'best friend'. Anyway, I left the state but went back to visit for spring break so of course I reached out. I told him that we definitely have to make some plans together. Now, some context, I am currently a criminal justice major and I committed a crime in high school that really put into perspective how one small thing can really derail your entire life so I've been especially careful around my friends since most of them use illicit drugs. They're really good people so I don't cut them off just because of that choice they just all know not to do that stuff around me. \n\nAnyway, I hear that he is planning to bring some weed with him when we go to meet up. He says he won't smoke around when I'm around but I know it will be on him in the car. I did not want to even be around the stuff  so I kind of went off on him about how he's my bro but the choices that he makes make me not want to hang out with him atit kind of resonated with me when he called me fake. He tells me I'm fake and says that I only talk to him when I need a favor or something which is definitely not the case. It hurt but I cleared it up as best as I can. We stopped talking but then I reached out to him and told him that I really wish he didn't feel that way because it wasn't the case and it was solely because of the drugs that I didn't want to hang out with him. We are now friends again. \n\nEven though we're cool now and I believe that  my reasons were just, I still can't help but feel like a dick regarding the way I went about it. AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0q5zaNgZreOdveDx0OfbNT134ugtUjvj", "post_id": "ajxbf8", "action": {"description": "choosing a person's side who talked behind my friends back", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for choosing a person's side who talked behind my friends back?", "text": "     I'm in high school and I have two friends Liz and May. May and Liz have been friends all their lives. I met them both this school year. They have been in many disagreements. One where Liz did not like May's boyfriend so May would talk about how Liz should grow up and get along with him because he has been nothing but nice and respectful. Once Liz heard from a friend about it, she would insist whenever May came to our lunch table that all of us were expected to get up and leave. \n    They did make up but eventually May had talked to a friend Carrie about how Liz was a 'little annoying at times, way too protective over her boyfriend, and how toxic it was for them to be together.' (She has been insanely cold towards her boyfriend and others) Carrie told Liz and she freaked. She wouldn't tell May she was mad at her and whenever she saw May she would get up and expect us to go to the other side of the cafeteria. (It was a big place)\n     This went on for a 3 weeks before I decided I'd had enough and that if Liz was not going to tell May what the issue was I wasnt going to move. So I stayed when Liz, her boyfriend, Carrie, and her other friend got up and left. We have a small friend group so only three people went with liz but because I stayed everyone else did to. Me, May, and three others. Once we finished lunch that day we went to the library on campus and I talked to her about the situation. I told her that she shouldn't trust Carrie and that she did tell Liz about what she had said about her. \n       At one point I was walking out when Carrie said how I hurt Liz by leaving. When liz was telling my boyfriend I was a Traitor ass bitch. I told her I has only sticking to what I thought was right and try hat they should work it out themselves. She then told me May had said stuff about me but would not tell me what she said. Only telling me said had talked shit about me once. I walked away after that. \n      Liz would still hang out with us but when lunch came the four of them would go to the other side of the cafeteria. This went on for a about 2 weeks. We would be together for breakfast, on the bus, and 4th period. But after the 2 weeks she stopped hanging around anyone from the rest of the group. May had told me about how Liz would talk about everyone else behind their backs to Carrie but never told anyone else but May about what she said about her. \n     Carrie was basically the messenger between the two of them but would constantly take Liz's side. So we stopped associating and she cut off any of her friends that would hang out with any of us. I wrote them a note and gave it to her boyfriend and told him to read it before he showed the girls. I basically said if Carrie is the problem in his relationship since he had asked my boyfriend that question out of the blue once. And basically saying I didn't like how this was going and that Liz should handle it better. \n \n       She then even made her boyfriend stop being friends with mine. Now to present day she talks about me and makes her group tell my boyfriend lies about how I'll leave him for one of my friends. She has tried to hit one of my friends and even shoved me into another person we were trying to get around in the locker room this being two days  ago my shoulder and neck still hurt. Liz is a small girl around 4 something but does pack a punch especially when mad. \n\nSo I just want to ask AITA for not being friends with someone who I believe over reacted.\n\nTLDR; May calls my friend Liz a little annoying and now Liz wont associate with anyone who hangs out with her or me because I 'took her side' by sitting with May at lunch. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lDReq6UFA8PfEOPKEXTuBXdfDG0vMfp4", "post_id": "b78wuq", "action": {"description": "refusing to live with my mother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to live with my mother?", "text": "A few years ago my parents divorced and since then they've shared custody of me. I live primarily at my father's house, only going to my mum's every Wednesday and 2nd weekend. My problem with this is that my mum's house is absolutely filthy. Like low-key hoarder filthy, and each time I clean a part of it I come back to it looking exactly like it did before. She only cleans when either I or dad tell her to do it. Both my parents want me to go because they say it's important to spend time with her. My mum's house is far away from my school and any schools I might go to. I am 15 years old. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Nlfc8G82Rx0LxSVIZrPFWNXd6oVRaiDa", "post_id": "aymssm", "action": {"description": "messing with my neighbor's stuff", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for messing with my neighbor's stuff?", "text": "(Doing this on my phone, btw, sorry for any bad format)\n\nSo when I was around 13-14 I had been going into my neighbor's field (I'll call him Phil) for fun. I just walked around and didnt really do anything past that. Then I saw a hunting trap. This was to stop things like rabbits that would get into his field.\n\nSo I kicked it a lot, but it didnt break or anything. Theeeen my friend/other neighbor Cody told me about what happened to his dog, because of Phil. I didnt know if he was telling the truth, but he said Phil shot Cody's dog for going on his property. I assumed it was true, and was piiiiiiissed.\n\nSo I started kicking my neighbor's stuff more as revenge for my friend (I had no life, as you can tell), and tried to even get it hidden in the plants in the tree line...then I found the tree stands.\n\nIf you dont know what that is, it's a platform that's attached to a tree, off the ground, that normally has a ladder. They're used for hunting and without being spotted by deer and stuff. Phil's was a metal one.\n\nSo I started...messing with it (he had more than one but I didnt know at the time). I got small hedge clippers and stuff to cut the ropes attached to the\u00a0 bottom of the ladder. They didnt really do anything though, and he would probably notice that they were broken.\n\nThere was this very small man made 'pond' that was basically a sinkhole a few yards long, directly next to the tree stand basically, and filled with brown, muddy water. So, with hedge clippers that I used as a screw driver, I unscrewed the lower half of the ladder, picked it up, and threw the ladder into the water, letting it sink to the bottom. He probably will never find it unless he goes into that muddy, gross water, and looks through it. \n\nThat was it. I messed with a guy's property, for something that might not even be true, and against a guy who was supposedly an asshole to his neighbors.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YCifKFU6gLbzlocAxsVrGtMgKrQlmQS0", "post_id": "aigvaq", "action": {"description": "keeping this cat", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I keep this cat?", "text": "So I live with my girlfriend and my friend/roommate in an apartment. Last week I opened my front door and scared the shit out of this cat, I felt bad and was like \u201coh shit, sorry buddy\u201d and went on with my day. The next night it was cold and rainy and I started to hear some meowing from outside my door. I opened the door and this cat just strolls on in to my apartment. I thought it was funny at first and gave her some pets and some milk. It turns out this is the nicest cat I have ever met and she immediately became bonded to me. There\u2019s no way she wasn\u2019t someone\u2019s pet before. I sat on the couch and she came up purring and immediately took a nap on my lap. She is actually perfect. My roommate hates cats so I tried to send her outside but every time I did that she would just wait on the doorstep for me to let her back in. I did not have the heart to not let her sleep inside. My roommate was a little upset about that but it was ok because it\u2019s just a couple days.\n\nMe and my girlfriend took her to the vet, and it turns out she has no chip but is otherwise a healthy and normal cat. She is just the sweetest thing. \nI\u2019ve posted on Craigslist and lost pet Facebook groups and scoured and looked for lost pet posts and I cannot find anything for this cat. \n\nI\u2019ve been trying to find a friend to maybe agree to foster her for 6 months so my girlfriend and I could get her once we move out of the apartment with my roommate in it, but no one is coming through so far. It\u2019s coming to the point where I either have to put her in a shelter(which is what my roommate probably would prefer) or try to convince my roommate to let her stay at our place and keep her primarily in my room. But I just feel like a huge asshole asking him this because I know he doesn\u2019t want her and even if he agreed maybe he\u2019d be agreeing begrudgingly and I hate creating a toxic atmosphere with the people I live with. But I love this cat so much. She has stolen my heart and she cuddles with me and puts her paw on me when I\u2019m sad and I\u2019ve named her Luna and honestly having her around makes my depression and anxiety about 20-40% better.\n\nBut yeah. My roommate does not want the cat, I know he hates cats because I guess every cat has been a dick to him in his life, and he\u2019s not allergic but it is against the apartment policy to have pets though it is super unenforced and there are like 10 dogs in the complex barking all day. I hate asking him to let me break the rules so I can have her. But every time I imagine bringing her to a shelter my heart just hurts so much and I get really anxious.\n\nIt\u2019s now been like 4 days of anxiety and my girlfriend and I have been hanging out at my parent\u2019s place with the cat and I had hoped to get her somewhere by now but have to go back to the apartment now and I still have this cat.\n\nAm I the asshole if I try to convince my roommate to let me keep this cat? Or at least until her owner contacts me or I can find another solution?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vsAlliMz9tedhSSeyNtHX27bFQ6qOD8w", "post_id": "9uyv80", "action": {"description": "stealing kills in an overwatch deathmatch with my friends", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for stealing kills in an Overwatch deathmatch with my friends", "text": "I usually do it on accident but I sometimes do it on purpose because I find it funy to hear them sound like squeakers. I don\u2019t really know if im being an asshole because the game allows you to do this and I find it fun to have it but im thinking they are just overreacting.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "P8Pd9GCX4x0YTjMoJ6i5k9zU8EH0vnrq", "post_id": "ad98v8", "action": {"description": "fist bumping my best friend's enemy", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for fist bumping my best friend\u2019s enemy", "text": "So while biking with friends one of my friends had arranged a meet up with my best friend\u2019s enemy, (which I\u2019m neutral with) but you know as we pull up the enemy goes and casually gives everyone there a fist bump. And my friend and the enemy meet and do their thing while I stand more on the outskirts waiting for them, keep in mind all I have done was fist bumped the person. However a week later the best friend I\u2019ve been friends with for 5yrs texts me, saying \u201cI heard you were with (enemy). Ik I don\u2019t have any control over that and I know you probably didn\u2019t think of it as an issue but I do think that was crossing a line of respect and fucked up.\u201d And I told him nah I didn\u2019t hang with enemy, we just met up with enemy bc one of my friends was getting something from him. And I told my best friend that this argument was childish since he is gettin mad about me fist bumping him, and he kept saying how it\u2019s disrespectful and such that I did. And now he\u2019s saying it\u2019s whatever and he will not see me the same as he once did.\n\nTl;dr  My best friend says it\u2019s disrespectful and a ass move that I fist bumped his enemy. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ubnqwYkwN2fRvF4XYsGxZoS6gr3xP2lR", "post_id": "9wldkc", "action": {"description": "beating up a kid with down syndrome", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for beating up a kid with down syndrome?", "text": "I regret this alot. Last year on halloween there was this kid that was dressed up like quasimodo. His outfit was really good , including a wig and some makeup. You would think he's just a \"normal\" kid with a really good costume.\n\nI noticed he loved showing everyone his costume. So i went over and complimented him on it, after which he kept making weird noises like \"ooff\" and \"durr\" and tried to \"scare\" me for a while. At first it was kind of funny, but he just wouldnt stop. After a while i told him to leave multiple times.\n\nEventually i got quite mad and just walked away. A couple minutes later though he was suddenly behind me, screaming a really loud \"DURRR\" while making a very weird face. I kind of lost control and beat him up. Not too bad, but i did land some fists on his face and body. He ran off screaming and panicking, still making these weird \"Durr\" and \"ooff\" noises. I then realised it wasnt an act.\n \nLater that night someone told me the kid had down syndrome. I cringe everytime i think about it and feel really bad.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fKUljuSpFDiaIBIG1Vot9Pr30jsW0TlQ", "post_id": "b4od63", "action": {"description": "not taking my mother out to lunch", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not taking my mother out to lunch?", "text": "I have an older sister, Z, and our mother is K. Z has her own house and husband, and I am still living with our mother. Earlier this week, my mother noticed me buying a bunch of skincare products, and commented that she wanted some of her own. I told her next week Thursday (payday) I could take her out and buy her some of her own products for her to use, and we could get dinner together too. She happily said Ok.\n\n​\n\nOn Saturday, I texted my sister to ask her if she wanted to go out to lunch (my treat), because I just returned home from a 3 month holiday in America. Z agreed. Z and my mother don't have a good relationship right now. My mother made some off comment as we were walking out the door \"Oh the rich people are leaving the poor to go out to lunch\". \n\n​\n\nI did not spend that much on my sister, I only spent about $20 on her lunch in total. Nowhere near the allocated $150 I plan to spend (and still plan to spend) on my mother next Thursday. During our lunch my sister confided in me her financial problems, and her struggles to have children because she simply can't afford all her bills, mortgage, and a child. Z told me she feels she can't talk about this to our mother, because our mother doesn't understand and blames it on the husband. We talked a bit about our problems over lunch then I did a bit of shopping, and then we returned home. While shopping I bought my mother some bread treats from a bakery that she likes.\n\n​\n\nWhen I got home, I handed her the treats, told her I bought them for her, and she said nothing to me. She still hasn't said anything to me, and it's the next day. My stepfather dropped me off at the train station so I could go to work, and he said it was rude of me to not take my mother out too.\n\n​\n\nI feel like because I already told her I would hang out with her on Thursday, that hanging out with my sister alone yesterday should not be a big deal. When I take my mother out alone, my sister doesn't complain, so why does my mother complain when I take my sister out?\n\nSo reddit, AITA in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3mGb8gurrA1qqq1QnfkLcgUMsxmyF80X", "post_id": "alhmmr", "action": {"description": "breaking up out of fear and confusion", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for breaking up out of fear and confusion (lots of text sorry)", "text": "(Im female, he's male, both young and first relationship for both, we were about 3 months in I think)\n\nWe were horsing around, I tend to let myself go limp when we're playing as kinda a joking thing. I'll go limp and fall onto him, or like just go limp and roll around idk. It's always in jest. I hit my head a bit when I do this depending on where we're playing around- he doesn't like it when I hit my head at all ever, it freaks him out cause he used to get head injuries when he was young.\n\nwe were on this carpet thing and we were playing around. Our sleep schedule has been off, I was a bit tired and school was starting up so we were stressed a little too, at least I was. But as we were playing and when I decided to go limp I missed the carpet and hit my head on the floor. It hurt a little, I was a bit dazed (probably also cause I was tired) but I also didn't make a big deal- it was kinda funny in my head, whatever. \n\nHe kinda pulled me up to a sitting position and was asking if I was ok (I hope Im wording this right, this is fuzzy almost). I said my head hurt, he was responding with something idk. I leaned forward and limped my head downward, idk why, I guess I tend to lean into him a lot, but also when I do that I go limp too, idk why its stupid but Idk if I was trying to just lean into him for comfort or if i was fucking around again. I was tired I guess, but it was maybe a mix of those two. \n\nbut the moment I like leaned forward and let my head down limply he said something like, \"You shouldn't let your neck go limp like that\" and I suddenly felt him hit me lightly on the face. It wasn't hard enough to leave a mark or sound or even hurt really, but it was hard enough to move my head to the side and I was really stunned. He immediately freaked out, said sorry. I said something like, you've never hit me like that before and he said yeah I know. Idk im a very scared person (I grew up in a household with a lot of fighting- I've seen parents hit eachother). Me and this guy have a very very physical relationship (both are sadomasochists in the bedroom, and outside of the bedroom we love to roughhouse and hit eachother pretty hard but always playfully). But when he hit me here it was a shock because we both knew it was different and not playful.\n\nWe were both stunned, we then sat together and talked about it for hours. We're very good at communicating, and I ended up going home to think alone for the night. Then I ended up breaking up with him a day later. I was gonna give him a chance, he came up with a plan- an outlet for pent up emotions, he was gonna work out every day and I was going to do it too. It seemed good, he seemed willing to work on himself. But I was still scared, I don't know why. I talked with my sister and my cousin and they said I should leave and never go back, but I feel horrible. Really really really horrible. I care about this guy so much and he feels terrible. He came to pick up his stuff from my place and apologized to my sister to her face for hurting me. We both cried a lot when saying goodbye.\n\nI've never felt this way about anyone and he said the same. He's devastated and so am I. What's most confusing is that this happened out of random.. We never fought before, he is the nicest guy, we're so similar and we are so good at communicating. We never had any issues and despite our interests and physical nature I've never been scared of him ever. I wish this had a buildup but it didn't. It feels like it just happened so randomly, and it did. It shocked the fuck out of me and I feel like I had no time to process it. He says he didn't do it out of anger, he doesn't know exactly why he did it, it just sort of happened. He thinks it was out of fear and not knowing what to do. \n\nI feel like shit. I don't know if I made a hasty decision. I just feel horrible.\n Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2OwhvHZWQdbTZagiw2hTdV4RGkjVSlHH", "post_id": "ba309d", "action": {"description": "refusing to be friends with someone because they have acne", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I refused to be friends with someone because they have acne?", "text": "Okay so I met a girl at uni and she\u2019s so lovely and we get on pretty well. But she has really bad acne. Like, super inflamed blackhead clusters ALL over her face. I have trypophobia (fear of clusters/holes) and her face sets me off really badly. I get anxious and itchy whenever I see her and I can\u2019t look at her properly when I talk to her without panicking. I feel so bad about it, especially since I have (not as bad) acne myself and I know what it\u2019s like to be insecure about your face. \n\nWe\u2019ve been messaging and she keeps trying to meet up. I\u2019ve been dodging it so far and I feel awful. I think I\u2019m going to have to politely tell her I can\u2019t be friends with her but I\u2019m not sure how yet. My friends are acting like I\u2019m a massive asshole for this - are they right?? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PfkQubRUCMFDyLXDVosX7whYMoYOLl63", "post_id": "9yv88b", "action": {"description": "calling a Lyft to take my brother to the airport instead of driving him myself", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I called a Lyft to take my brother to the airport instead of driving him myself?", "text": "So my younger brother is flying out tomorrow morning to go visit my mom for Thanksgiving. He\u2019s driving down from college tonight and staying with me, and in the morning I\u2019m supposed to drive him to the airport. The thing is, I work 12hrs a day, 5 days a week, so I have to be up by 5:00am to be at work by 6:30am to not get home until about 7-8pm. He needs to be at the airport by 4:15am so we\u2019d need to get up at like 3:00am. I also have to pick him up from where he\u2019s leaving his car(my apartment complex won\u2019t let him leave his car here for a week) at 11:00pm tonight. Doing all this, I just feel like I will not be able to handle my 12hr shift tomorrow, as it\u2019s pretty physically demanding, I\u2019m just worried I\u2019ll be exhausted. I was thinking about calling him a Lyft in the morning, but I\u2019m worried that I will hurt his feelings. He and I have a bit of a strained relationship in that we both love each other but we often butt heads and fighting. This makes us both sad and he in particular sometimes feel like I think of him as a nuisance and am annoyed by him. For example he was initially not planning on staying with me tonight because he was worried he would \u201cbe in my way\u201d I assured him this was not true and he was welcome over anytime, but the fact that he felt that way can be kind of telling about our relationship. I love my brother and I want him to know that, but would I be the asshole if I didn\u2019t drive him to the airport tomorrow? I don\u2019t want his feelings hurt, thinking I just pawned him off because I didn\u2019t want to deal with him.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C31D9otBTTKqyCi2HUfFusn4vITGpVlS", "post_id": "b7doiw", "action": {"description": "ditching my girlfriend on her birthday to study", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for ditching my girlfriend on her birthday to study?", "text": "Hear me out, I had this big big exam coming up soon that I have to do good on, the material is huge and theres barely time, my girlfriends birthday is before the exam by a couple days, so about a week ago of her birthday I asked her what does she want to do on her birthday, and she told that she just wants to stay at home and doesnt want to see anyone, i was like maybe shes not in a good mood today, I'll ask the next day, the next day i get the same response and the same for response for 3 days one of which she said to me that i should stop asking her about her birthday, O asked this so if she has something in mind id tighten up my schedule beforehand and make time for her on her special day, but after hearing she doesnt want to see anybody on that day i didnt do shit about it, anyway, she asked me a day before her birthday that we should go out on a date and i flipped the fuck out on how the fuck am I going to manage the huge exam and my girls birthday, I told her multiple times that if shes thinking of anything to let me know so I wouldnt slam headfirst to the ground, I simply can not risk this exam my entire uni year depends on it. So am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OSMPcTRqu890M4syWSMmeG1ObOW2W0sq", "post_id": "b0a8wz", "action": {"description": "not moving on the train", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA For not moving on the train", "text": "I was on the El  (Chicago elevated train for those not familiar) this morning during rush hour commute. For most of the stops, the door opens on the right side in the direction of travel with two stations that open on the left early on. \n\nI get on at the first of those two left side stations. Since I am riding the train for several stops, including past a few which are quite busy for people getting on/off, I generally try to get the spot just inside the left side doors along the divider. It not only provides teh most stability but also prevents you from getting overly squished when the train gets super crowded. \n\nToday, as we were approaching the second of the left opening stations, some guy stared me down waiting for me to move to allow people to get off train; however, there was a second lane next to me to get off which was clear. When I didn't move, he said \"This a\\*\\*hole won't move\", then pushed me as he went by. No one else had any trouble getting on or off the train (only 2 people got off in total). \n\nIn general, I do move if there are a significant number of people getting on or off. \n\nWho is in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8ZsHbjWskTg43jdlp2L1TKYNUl9cxu2U", "post_id": "aenk6a", "action": {"description": "not initially responding positively to my 19-year-old friend's and her so-of-6-month's engagement announcement", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for not initially responding positively to my 19-year-old friend\u2019s and her SO-of-6-month\u2019s engagement announcement", "text": "Last night, I got drinks and caught up with my friend (let\u2019s call her Susan), as we hadn\u2019t seen each other in a few months (we go to different colleges, so we don\u2019t get to see each other often). Susan told me that she and her boyfriend of 6 months just got engaged.\n\nA little bit about Susan\u2026 she\u2019s a very sweet person, but she sort of has a self-destructive behavior. She does a lot of drugs, hops from guy to guy, and has run into some trouble with the law, among other activities. Overall, I just don\u2019t think she\u2019s that mature of a person.\n\nBack to the conversation\u2026 after she told me, I started laughing, and asked if she was joking. She said she was not, and she started to get offended and asked me why I would laugh. I told her that her getting married at her age, at that point in her life (after all that she juggles), was one of the biggest mistakes she\u2019s ever made. Then, I asked her what her plans were after they were engaged. She said that she and her SO will finish their respective degrees, graduate from college, find work, and move in together.\n\nShe started to cry, asking me why I couldn\u2019t just be happy for her. I assured her that I am, and that I wish her nothing but happiness because that\u2019s what I want out of my friends. I\u2019ve only met the guy once; he seemed\u2026 fine, from the one interaction I had with him.\n\nI eventually apologized and said, \u201cWhat I said before was just my opinion, you don\u2019t have to listen to it. I just don\u2019t think this is a good idea, but if you\u2019re happy and you know for a fact that you\u2019re ready, then that\u2019s great. I\u2019m happy for you, and wish you nothing but the best. I expect Christmas cards.\u201d\n\nI don\u2019t think she wanted to talk to me anymore that, because a few minutes later, she said, \u201cI\u2019m gonna head out, good seeing you.\u201d\n\nNarrator: \u201cIt was not good seeing him.\u201d\n\nI called her earlier this morning to check in on her, but she didn\u2019t pick up. Then, I called her again this afternoon, and left her a voicemail telling her that I\u2019m sorry for my initial reaction, that I wish nothing but the best for her and her SO, and that I\u2019ll hopefully catch up with her again soon.\n\nSo, after reading all of this, AISTA (am I still the asshole?)\n\ntl;dr my self-destructive 19-year-old friend is getting engaged to her SO of 6 months, I laughed thinking it was a joke, she gets mad at me for not being supportive.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LqpXQihEaCWfkIkTK8JTuXpDXs7m4i1F", "post_id": "asx0v1", "action": {"description": "not wanting my dog anymore", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my dog anymore?", "text": "I love my dog to bits, but she\u2019s an absolute menace and I hate to admit I\u2019ve grown terrified of her. She\u2019s bitten me more times than I can count in the past few years, and each time my mother insists I must have done something or that my dog is sick \u2014 she does have some medical problems, but nothing that could cause aggression. Most of the time she is a happy, sweet dog. But she gets aggressive sometimes and has given me multiple scars on my arms and hands. My sister has these scars too. She is fourteen and I am eighteen, if it makes a difference, but it definitely happened to me when I was a minor, if that makes a difference. My grandpa is in his seventies and had to be taken to the emergency room last night because of how badly my dog injured him. He has gauze up both wrists. I am afraid to be in my own home with her, as I am typically the subject of the attacks (along with my grandpa and sister, obviously) and I am counting down the days until college so I don\u2019t have to be cooped up in my room half the time. My mom just keeps taking her to the vet for her leg pain and not getting her a trainer or anything. \n\nWe\u2019ve had this dog for years and I understand how much my mother loves her. She is up to dare on all her shots so other than the actual bite there\u2019s no danger of her hurting us. My mom merely gives me essential oils to help with the scarring and disinfecting (which doesn\u2019t work that I\u2019ve seen. When she\u2019s done I wash it off myself with soap and water and use Neosporin.) She is a loved family pet but she even went after my cat recently. She has never hurt anyone outside of the family.\n\nAm I the asshole for not sucking it up and dealing with the dog for my other family\u2019s sake? Or am I justified in not wanting her in the house? Clearly I don\u2019t want another owner to get hurt either, but I don\u2019t know what else to even think about. Thanks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "I2g6ZixFCgKmtT1Btt7oUfwnvn7gmSe5", "post_id": "b5g19s", "action": {"description": "asking if my husband is invited to a wedding? for not attending? for attending", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for asking if my husband is invited to a wedding? For not attending? For attending?", "text": "I received a save the date for a wedding. It was from a friend that lives across the country and possibly didn't expect that I would come. However, we do visit that city every summer (my husband's family is from there) and because I got the save the date, I planned the trip around the wedding date so we could attend. Today I got the official invitation and only I am invited, but not my spouse of 5 years. She has met my spouse many times but they are not close. They get along fine though. I am guessing that she doesn't have enough space or doesn't want to pay for an additional meal, especially if she wasn't expecting me to come. However, I know the venue minimum is 100 guests so it's not a very small wedding. I have a couple friends going who's SOs are invited, and I have not heard of anyone else's spouse being excluded. \n\n​\n\nWIBTA if I clarified with the bride that my husband is not invited? It could possibly be oversight but he was not in the online system. It could have been me messing up the save the date but I think all I had to do was enter my mailing address so I'm not sure that's possible. I'm not sure if it would be rude to inquire. \n\n​\n\nWIBTA if I didn't attend if he's not invited? WIBTA to my husband if I did attend? I will have friends there and although they will have their SOs, I'm sure I would still have a good time if I went. I have heard that it's rude to attend a wedding that your spouse is not invited to, although my husband would be slightly sad but support me going.   ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tJNrHQupnPegX9Uz8U1EbLaQL5IclTe6", "post_id": "aqwkl3", "action": {"description": "being upset at my husband for doing something to me that I don't like, even though I've told him not to countless of times", "pronormative_score": 114, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being upset at my (25F) husband (27M) for doing something to me that I don\u2019t like, even though I\u2019ve told him not to countless of times?", "text": "First time poster and also throwaway. \n\nHe does something to me physically that I really hate (not physically hurtful, just something that I don\u2019t like. Let\u2019s say tickling as an example) \n\nI\u2019ve told him couple of times, but he still does it over and over again, although in a joking way. Every time I will tell him that I don\u2019t like it, please stop. \n\nOn Valentine\u2019s Day, he does it again when I least suspect it, when I was the most vulnerable and I trusted him. That time led me to really just break down, and I don\u2019t know what else to do anymore because I told him countless of times that I don\u2019t like it, please stop doing it. \n\nHe said sorry, the reason why he did it because he wasn\u2019t thinking, and he didn\u2019t mean it. \n\nI said it\u2019s ok, but I couldn\u2019t keep my mind off: \n1. The yucky feeling I had after he did it, especially when I was least suspecting \n2. Why does he keep doing it over and over again? Even after I told him to not do it, please stop, I really don\u2019t like it \n\nI can\u2019t understand the second point. When I ask him why the next day, he maintains the reason is that he just doesn\u2019t think before he acts, and he didn\u2019t mean it. \n\nAfter that, he starts to get angry. He says that it\u2019s such a small thing anyway (take tickling as an example), and I can\u2019t let it go. He thinks that I shouldn\u2019t be upset over such a small thing, and I should have let it go by now. He gets angry at me because he says I ruined Valentine\u2019s Day. \n\nAITA for not letting it go and for wondering why he still continues to do something to me over and over again even though I\u2019ve told him not to do it anymore? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 112, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 11}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 114, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l0w98llLviTxTNHVZv8kGr5tUAgh5GUF", "post_id": "atgnhn", "action": {"description": "filing a temporary restraining order against my (now ex) boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for filing a temporary restraining order against my (now ex) boyfriend?", "text": "First time posting and on mobile, sorry in advance for any formatting errors. \n\nMy boyfriend and I got into a fight because I went through his phone and accused him of cheating. He grabbed me and took my phone and car keys out of my hands. While I was trying to get my keys back, he pushed me away from him so hard that I fell backwards and landed on my ass. He took my backpack out of my car (containing textbooks and my Mac) and threw it into a river. He also went through my wallet and took my credit/debit cards, drivers license and social. I don\u2019t know what he did with my phone and car keys but it is extremely likely they are in the river as well. AITA for pressing charges and filing a restraining order against him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IcUBA5qWdomaqnUVOo9bChrIbQeX2ka3", "post_id": "ahkngj", "action": {"description": "being blunt to an old lady", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being blunt to an old lady?", "text": "I work at a gas station overnight and once every blue moon I run into some real crazies.\n\nAbout 2 hours ago an older lady came in here semi off her rocker. She would be there and then all of a sudden she wouldnt be, and then like a light switch she would be back.\n\nShe basically puked her life story out at me and just kind never left the store while talking at me.\n\nBy the sounds of it shes pretty miserable just in general and her daughter is emotionally abusive towards her she even bought her daughter a house to get her to leave her alone. She didnt she still constantly harasses her.\n\nHer husband either left or died. So shes constantly alone.\n\nRecently she fainted on the stairs and hit her head somewhat recently and she can never remember what shes doing. She woke up after an unknown amount of time and just went about her day.\n\nShes pretty suicidal, she just outright said it to me. But shes to scared to do it.\n\nShe started to tell me that she was lying to her doctors about her memory problems and how she actually lives home alone. They think she just has severe adhd and lives with her daughter who is taking care of her.\n\nShe giggled about this and I just reflexively without thinking said lying to your doctors is a very dangerous thing to do. Never lie to them. You need to tell them the truth about your medical condition. You could kill someone driving like that.\n\nShe replied with shes so scared they are going to put her in a home she doesnt want to lose her freedom.\n\nI told her again without really thinking about it, your suicidal and lose your train of thought every 15-20 seconds and have no idea what you were doing 30 seconds ago. Your driving around at 4 am when you frankly should not be driving. You live at home and randomly pass out and you have already hit your head and almost died from it. It is most likely safer for you and everyone involved if you do go to a home so you can get the help and medical observation you need.\n\nShe got really upset with me and just stormed out\n\nIm not a doctor or a psychologist but I really feel nothing that I said was wrong but most likely none of those things are going to happen she will live at home most likely till she accidentally dies or gets into a crash.\n\nI feel really bad for upsetting someone whos already miserable and in the end accomplished nothing doing so.\n\nSo... AITA for upsetting her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wmg97drkLfTSgNHv9cHJubJaEme6LrrX", "post_id": "at3kyf", "action": {"description": "pulling a girl off a guy at the club (I saw him trying to grope her) and accidentally causing her to twist her ankle", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for pulling a girl off a guy at the club (I saw him trying to grope her) and accidentally causing her to twist her ankle?", "text": "I'm 21F, in college, and this all happened at our local college bar/club a few weekends ago. \n\n​\n\nI was dancing with my friends and there were a bunch of other girls dancing on top of this table/bar area that was elevated. One pretty drunk girl was dancing wildly really close to me and I saw from a distance that this guy behind her was leering at her this whole time. Like he was looking at her like a piece of meat. It was pretty gross but he was far away so I didn't say anything. \n\nWell eventually he started kinda pressing up on her and she was so drunk she didn't even notice. He then put his hands on her hips and kinda grinding up on her, no form of asking her beforehand whatsoever. She's so out of it she's just moving to the music completely unaware this is happening. My friends and I start kinda giving funny looks to each other and I try to grab her hand to make her kneel down so I could ask her if she's ok. She shakes me off and just looks completely out of it. \n\nAt this point this guy is really getting into it, running his hands down her body now and her head is kinda slumped forward (hair covering her face) so my friends and I got worried and I grabbed her arm and tried to pull her down to the ground and away from him. Well, she was in like 4 inch heels so instead of stepping down, she DIVED. Like straight into the ground. She yells in pain and looks at me in anger and is like \"what the fuck do you think you're doing??\" \n\nShe ends up limping out and I find out later that she twisted her ankle and missed like a week of classes cause she couldn't walk. I felt bad but felt even worse when people started blaming me and calling me a creep. My friends came to my defense and tried to find the creepy guy but he was long gone by this time. AITA for trying to help this girl but ending up hurting her instead?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mT5qeH8hBh0uXRNHqE0sNvHoWopZcyJT", "post_id": "9tl130", "action": {"description": "dressing in an indian dress for my creative grad shoot", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I dressed in an Indian dress for my creative grad shoot?", "text": "I'm a senior in university, and one of the features of our graduation photoshoot is a creative shot in addition to our formal picture. It's fairly common practice, and the rule with the creative shot is that anything goes (people have done nude shoots, messy shoots, all sorts. But I digress.). That said, I was thinking of wearing an Indian-themed or Indian-inspired ethnofusion type dress (not really a full on saree, perhaps something more akin to a Punjabi salwar suit) and applying henna on my hands for my creative shot.\n\nThe thing is, I am a brown-skinned Asian, but I am not Indian, nor do I have any Indian ancestry. However, I spent my formative years in a country wherein I was heavily influenced by Indian culture, and it was a norm to see people walking around in that traditional wear. As far as I'm concerned, what I plan to do is nothing but respectful and my way of paying homage to a country that has formed such a big part of my identity as well as the people there who raised me...but I worry that it may be perceived differently by my peers here at home. With the discussion of cultural appropriation being especially fiery nowadays, I'd rather not be accused of that and receive any flak. The picture will be published in our official yearbook, after all.\n\nMy few close friends who know of me and my background are in support of it, but I am hesitant to even ask our Indian family friends of their opinion on the matter as I'm not sure how they will react. So, WIBTA?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uWQS21uu7LBRIpK5NaPc7mGTeaYt8hAn", "post_id": "am9dag", "action": {"description": "not wanting to contribute to my grandmother's funeral", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to contribute to my grandmother\u2019s funeral?", "text": "I have been estranged from my biological father\u2019s family for around 11 years now. While I am acquaintances via things like Facebook, I do not keep in touch nor communicate with them in any sort of regular way. They are an extremely large family (my father is 1 of 14) and I\u2019ve only ever kept in touch with 1 set of uncle (father\u2019s brother) and his wife. My father was absent and very abusive, lied for years about his relationship with me, mistreated my mother and neglected me entirely. To give you an example, when I was 13 I had surgery and he came to see me after my mother begged him to. When I asked him why he wasn\u2019t around, he told me our lack of relationship was just as much my fault (if not more) than his. He would mistreat me to get back at my mother. Real stand up guy. I cut ties with him in high school, minus the occasional birthday text.\n\nMy grandmother, my father\u2019s mother, passed away this week and the services are to be held in 2 weeks. Like my father, his brothers and sisters weren\u2019t exactly the most welcoming and kind bunch. His sisters treated my mother horribly; they were a catty, self loathing group and made prolonging a relationship between them and I very difficult. For this reason, I only ever kept in touch with my one uncle because he knew they were toxic and also kept them at a distance.\n\nI got back in touch with one aunt (father\u2019s sister) and my father this week due to the circumstances. The interactions were kind and I had begun planning on flying home (I\u2019m 1900 miles away) to attend the services. I just got a text from at least 11 numbers I don\u2019t recognize saying that as the \u201ccousins\u201d, we should contribute something to the services. From what I can gather, these are a few of my first cousins and they are asking for contributions in the form of food, drinks, plates, and so on. Being a large family, they need to supply enough for at least 200 people. I have a feeling a particular cousin is responsible, she\u2019s the worst person I\u2019ve ever had the displeasure of knowing. She would gloat about bullying girls in high school and exposed me to sexual things when I was way way too young to be able to handle it. She would hit my mom when no one was looking and lie through her teeth. She turned into an MLM loving, morbidly obese horrible woman. I have not responded to any of her messages in the past, most recently regarding my cross country move, and so I think she included me in this thread in order to try to get some kind of reaction.\n\nMy initial thought is fuck that. I don\u2019t know these people. I don\u2019t feel I owe them anything. I understand the financial stress of a funeral but I really didn\u2019t know my grandmother apart from my young childhood. She was always kind to me but I certainly don\u2019t think I deserve to be called a real \u201cgranddaughter\u201d let alone help out for the funeral financially. Just like her children, she never reached out to me throughout the years and from what I heard, she cried when I wasn\u2019t around. But you know, where was that effort to pick up the phone?\n\nI\u2019m a bit in awe at the audacity. It\u2019s no secret how my father treated me and lied throughout my life. I am a stranger to them and out of respect, I wanted to attend the services out of respect for my grandmother and my uncle and keep it moving. But now I\u2019m even wondering if I should go.\n\nSo am I the asshole?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t6UaA4jg6ReSA46SKMF4mVY1xs2vxRfM", "post_id": "ad2dqm", "action": {"description": "thinking my girlfriend and her friend's constant fear of rape and assault if irrational", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for thinking my girlfriend and her friend\u2019s constant fear of rape and assault if irrational?", "text": "My girlfriend and our female friends are always talking about how afraid of being raped or assaulted they are. No, they are not wrong for being afraid of rape and assault but I believe the fact that they sit around and dwell in these things compounds their fears. They are afraid of walking to the car by themselves, they are afraid of leaving the door unlocked, afraid of guys they deem creepy for no reason and, what seems to me, endless other reasons. They sit around and think of worst case scenarios and then they get upset if they are home alone for a night. I believe anyone can live their life without being afraid all the time or you can choose to dwell on scary things in the world and be afraid all the time. No, no one should be oblivious to the world around them but you don\u2019t need to be afraid all the time either. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jRN9MSP5g3wZrRlyv5r2qRbStOe6t3cd", "post_id": "b83p2x", "action": {"description": "being an atheist", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being an atheist", "text": "I live in India, people are really strong about their religion, country, etc. and any criticism is not taken well. \n\nLet me make myself clear, I do feel like an ass for not knowing the facts, which is why I came here for judgement.\n\nIn Hindi, we have a chapter of the \u201cMahabharata\u201d. It is a chapter based on a text where people feel a bit religion, written a long time ago. In it, there is a guy who has 100 sons, from one wife. I am a logical guy who looks at things from a scientific perspective, I figured it\u2019ll be minimum 4000 months for that to happen. Another girl, who\u2019s a bit entitled, says that they has \u201csuper powers\u201d and \u201cin that time, stuff like that happened\u201d. The theory is that the wife had the kids at once, she couldn\u2019t hold them so their eggs were transferred somewhere, where they would grow. OK. \n\nI said I respectfully disagreed. I said paraphrasing, I believe this is a legend, an amazing work of literature, and by no means something to be applied in real life. I said I believe in science as a religion, and strive for logical reasoning. \n\nShe then started saying how I should \u201clook out of the textbook\u201d and \u201cget a life\u201d. \n\nAnd then, I did something which makes me believe I am an asshole, and this sub will probably get offended, so brace yourselves.\n\nI questioned Christianity, specifically how Jesus\u2019 mother, Mary was a virgin. I realized that Jesus was an angel. I apologized profusely, but I guess the damage was done. I apologized the next day as well, but was told I am an asshole.\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uUKjgm60nh1CE27TPjHxXrktLjVRMpLH", "post_id": "awlusy", "action": {"description": "getting upset that my mom did my taxes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting upset that my mom did my taxes?", "text": "Resubmitted for character count reasons. My bad.\n\nI'm torn on this one. I'm pretty sure I was the asshole here, but I also have a feeling that I might not have been. Nobody I know is around to talk about it with me.\n\nI'm nearly 22. I still live with my mother. (I have reasons for still being here. One of them being that I'm a full-time student, and have a hard time working because of it.) Have y'all heard of r/raisedbynarcissists? I frequent that sub. My mother is not exactly the most reasonable person.\n\nIn the US it's tax season. I just finished some exams and whatnot, and this week is spring break, so I'm planning to try and look for jobs, clean my room - you know, that kind of thing. I haven't been thinking about my taxes, but yeah, I should do it this week when I have time.\n\nMy mother mentioned to me today, as soon as I woke up, that we needed to do my taxes. She also said she wanted me to come do them with her, so that I can learn (...say what you want about me not knowing how to do my taxes, I've been trying since high school), which is fair. I asked if we could do them another day, though be fair, I didn't really have a specific reason, if she had said something like \"we can do them later today\" I wouldn't have said no. She didn't say anything, though, so my mistake here was assuming that it was okay.\n\nI did some regular morning routine stuff. All of a sudden she told me she had finished my taxes and that I needed to come pay. She explained how much I needed to pay and that I'd get a refund. I was confused, because didn't she want me to help? But I went upstairs and got my credit card anyway. When I came back down she looked at my card, then at me, like I was an idiot, and told me that I needed my checkbook, too, even though she didn't say that and I can't remember ever needing my bank information (I always get mailed a check). This is where I started to get a little upset.\n\nI went upstairs to get my checkbook. When I came down, I admit that I got a little more upset than I needed to for a second. My mom and I both have hormonal problems so I had a small outburst, but I curbed it immediately. Well, the fact that I had an outburst at all caused my mother to freak out, and she started telling me I was ungrateful, that I only cared about myself, that I was rude, and she tossed my tax folder at me. I tried to get her to calm down and listen to why I was upset but, like I said, she is not the most reasonable woman. She told me to go away, and now she is ignoring me, like she usually does.\n\nI do feel bad for having an outburst over something so stupid, and if it were any of my friends, I would've apologized, we would've talked it out, my taxes would be done, and I wouldn't be here. But this is my mom, who refuses to ever accept my apologies and talk to me like an adult. So I really don't know if I'm in the wrong, or if she's being unreasonable. So Reddit...please judge me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sBLOJXc0OXJPfaoWklY3XvVRw9CQzpjr", "post_id": "b8d29g", "action": {"description": "snapping at my friends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for snapping at my friends", "text": "I\u2019m 16.\nLast week my Grandma died. I was devastated and in a very bad and low spot for a few days. I told my friends this and they were checking in on me and consoling me. Just a few nights later I was stuck in a burning apartment building choking and gasping for air whilst having a panic attack. I was rushed to the hospital for smoke inhalation and they lowered my carbon monoxide level to a 3 (it was originally a 6) and then I was discharged.\n\nDespite everything going on and my mom telling me I should just stay home I still went to school deciding I need something healthy like learning to keep my brain occupied. I probably wasn\u2019t going to sleep much and me staring at my charred and now vacant building wasn\u2019t going to help me.\n\nI had already told my friends everything that had happened over text so they were aware of what had happened the night before. They knew what I knew and the rumors around our complex. Most importantly they knew I was currently homeless as of that night and I had nothing but the clothes on my back and my phone \n\nWhen I got to my classes they kept asking me how I was doing and if I was okay and I finally just snapped. Obviously I wasn\u2019t okay. With everything going on. So I slightly rose my voice at them and said \u201cwhy does everyone keep asking if I\u2019m okay when I\u2019m obviously not okay.\u201d And we left it at that. I was quiet the rest of the day not feeling up for the day.\n\nJump back in to the following Monday. I get to class and I go to one of my friends and ask her how her weekend was. She literally ignored me. Its not like she didn\u2019t know I was talking to her. I looked right at her and spoke loudly and clearly and she didn\u2019t even acknowledge me.\n\nI thought it was weird, but I brushed it off My other friend told me we needed to talk after class and was very short with me so I thought that was definitely weird. \n\nWhen class ended they confronted me and said \u201con friday when you yelled at us I don\u2019t think that was right. We were just asking how you were and trying to be good friends and we really don\u2019t think it was necessary for you to do that and it really hurt us.\u201d And I was shocked at the fact that I went through two hardships in one week and they knew about it and were asking me to apologize. As someone who hates confrontation I apologized cause I did understand that I probably shouldn\u2019t have been as snappy as I was. \n\nEven after I apologized I felt like I shouldn\u2019t have and really didn\u2019t need to. My grandma died, i almost died, I\u2019m homeless, one of my cats is lost or dead, i lost everything, and I have no idea whats next. Yeah I\u2019m gonna lash out at someone. I wasn\u2019t mad at them at the time I just wanted to stopped being asked the question and I was just so angry at the world. \n\nI feel like they could\u2019ve and should\u2019ve understood all I was going through and realized maybe I didn\u2019t need the extra stress of me thinking they now hate me (they were purposely ignoring me) and just let it go.\n\nHonestly, am I the asshole \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "gbfLgs30WkDeBgnR57FxnqTPCWF2SiD2", "post_id": "b3jiq8", "action": {"description": "not being happy about my roommate getting a cat", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not being happy about my roommate getting a cat.", "text": "About 2 months ago, my roommate and I decided to break our last lease and move into a new place that's a *massively* better deal for us, even considering the penalty for breaking lease/reletting fee.  The fees were spelled out in the lease, and we knew what to expect.  Except we got the fee two days ago in the mail, I tell him, and his face goes white.  I ask, \"Is that going to be a problem...?\" He had repeatedly reassured me that it wouldn't be an issue previously. \n\nI make a bit more money than him, and I was able to cover the fee. We talked about a payback schedule and he has a time in about a month where he'll have an unspoken-for paycheck coming in, and can afford to do it then. I trust him to do so (we've done stuff like this before, like me fronting money for a road trip and him paying me back once it started). And I'm not thrilled about this - I'm starting a new job and have some expenses coming up - so it definitely makes my life harder...but I don't feel like there was much other choice. \n\nThe thing I'm more frustrated about is his cat - or, rather, pre-cat.  He has been wanting one for a while and found out the coworker who was giving him one backed out, so now he's set on going this weekend to get one at the humane society.  Especially giving one a home who needs one.  But I can't help but get frustrated that he has money for this, but not to start paying me back with.  And I think he can sense my hesitancy around it, because it's been really hard for me to share the excitement with that thought nagging at my head. I do feel like a bit of a dick because I expect to get repaid on schedule...but yeah. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uQAx12rVRrru3TdmkqnRFcawCed0mwHv", "post_id": "aqmzn6", "action": {"description": "hanging out at a friend's house too much", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for hanging out at a friend's house too much?", "text": "It's actually a group of us but the title has to start with AITA. So we are a group of around 5-6 guys and during college winter break (a month ago) we would often get together and hang out. However, the problem is that we pretty much exclusively hang out at this one particular friend's house for whatever reason. He lives with his father and stepmother plus he has half siblings. We literally go to his house like night after night for like 5 days in a row and eventually his stepmother was like enough is enough you guys cant come over anymore. I personally think it was a reasonable request and I think it would be too much going to his house 2 nights in a row let alone a whole week. However, my friend calls his stepmother a demon and thinks its totally reasonable we hang out there as much as we want. We're usually well behaved but we definitely hang out too late like past 2am, sometimes on a school night/work day which means we could have been bothering his half siblings who are in midde/high school. I feel like we were the assholes but my friend thinks his stepmother is the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "inevjMcVAZW567GBWQbhy7pFyXq3eNNT", "post_id": "aozqs7", "action": {"description": "leaving my (depressed) friend's house to be with other people and then going home", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my (depressed) friend\u2019s house to be with other people and then going home?", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. \n\nI (F18) made a friend (who we\u2019ll call M) who I hang out with 2-4 times a week, and I always see her on weekends. M had a crush on me and would ask me if I was going to kiss her, if we were going to be exclusive with each other, etc. I\u2019m not into her, so I let her down easy, mainly because she\u2019s really clingy. She\u2019s still really clingy and asks to hang out 2-4 times a week. She gets very emotional and is depressed, and I feel like she\u2019s began relying on me for emotional support. When I don\u2019t respond to her or I miss her calls, she thinks I don\u2019t like her. I\u2019m an outgoing, extraverted person. She\u2019s an introvert. \n\nLast night, we decided to go to a party that her friends invited her to. Unfortunately, the party turned out to be nonexistent and so we decided to stay in. I really did not want to stay at her house all weekend because I usually end up getting stuck here with no ride home. \n\nSome friends invited me to cruise with them and offered to give me a ride home. I invited M to come and hang out with us and she got upset (jealous?) and said she would drive me back home instead. It was pretty late and she was drunk so I told her it was a bad idea. She begged me to stay, even though I offered her to come. The more and more she begged the more and more uncomfortable I felt. She said things like \u201care you really gonna do this to me right now, are you serious?\u201d and \u201cplease please please don\u2019t leave me.\u201d She stormed out a couple times swearing and muttering under her breath, things like \u201cfine whatever. I don\u2019t give a fuck.\u201d\n\nIt escalated and I began getting really uncomfortable.  I really wanted to go at that point so I walked out of the apartment and waited for my ride. \n\nShe was really drunk so maybe she was just being very emotional, but it\u2019s gotten to the point where she does this with me 2-3 times a week.  \n\nI understand that she suffers from depression (I do, too) but I really don\u2019t want to be someone\u2019s main source of emotional support. I don\u2019t want someone relying on me that heavily, does that make me an asshole?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KNF07Gnlz70l4SKpQS3MwYuT4aptV9Gy", "post_id": "ak67no", "action": {"description": "calling my brown girlfriend burnt", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 123}, "title": "AITA for calling my brown girlfriend burnt?", "text": "Okay, I know the title makes me seem like a total asshole, but hear me out. I\u2019m a white male who comes from a conservative Christian family. My girlfriend is Indian and comes from a Hindu family. I surprisingly get along great with her family, but my family acts a little cold towards my girlfriend. That brings us to last weekend, where I invited my girlfriend to my uncle\u2019s birthday. She initially didn\u2019t want to come but I begged her to come, as my family can be a little unbearable. My girlfriend and I make jokes about our skin colour all the time - eg. she tags me in those white people spicy food memes. Everything started to go wrong when my second cousins opened their mouths. They\u2019re total dickheads. They started joking about how our children would have a \u201cshit-like complexion\u201d. I could see my girlfriend getting mad, so I wanted to alleviate the situation and try and make it into a joke. So I said, \u201cyeah, she\u2019s a little burnt, isn\u2019t she?\u201d and starting laughing. She did not take this well, at all. She was very quiet for the rest of the gathering and as soon as we got into the car we had a massive fight about that comment. She started talking about colorism in India and how darker women are discriminated against. I told her that I was just trying to lighten the situation and she snapped and told me that was the wrong way to do it and that I was an asshole. I got annoyed with the way she snapped at me and I told her that she was being a little hypocritical considering that she makes jokes about my complexion too. But she feels as though my joke was of a different caliber. Things have been awkward for a little while now. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 120, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 123}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ER49V67HHQycCYzSZppkZl4GqYAULlVT", "post_id": "axw9yo", "action": {"description": "becoming a disobedient teen in response to not being allowed to go on a date", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA If I become a disobedient teen in response to not being allowed to go on a date?", "text": "Yeah sound bad, but I'm tired of my mom's shit. I'm pissed right now.\n\nI am 19 (almost 20) and grew up in a somewhat strict household. Basically grew up feeling like unless I had B+ grades at all times, I was a failure. I was also never allowed to hang out with friends unless my mom met their parents, and she never wanted to meet their parents. I even tried to get into the medical field so she'd shut the fuck up about me being a deadbeat, but I failed my physics class so I am now pursuing what I actually wanted, which is \"just a waste of time\" because it involves being at least somewhat artistic. I have also been dating my bf for about 5 1/2 years. \n\nSince I was 17 I started working, and I pay anywhere between 37%-100% of the rent for our house, the entire cable/internet bill, and my mom's EZ Pass. I am deoendent on her for car rides because I have neither a car nor a license due to my fear that if I drive, I'll literally die. I see my bf every Wednesday because that is our only days off, even then we sometimes have to skip it because we have to do stuff that day.\n\nTonight, my mom said, \"You're NOT going with him tomorrow!\" (Btw she was mad and yelling because I woke her up due to going to the bathroom and supposedly making too much noise when the loudest sound I made was closing my wet wipes shut)\n\nMe: ??? Why?\nMom: It will be cold out! WTF are you even going to do?!\nMe: uhm we wanted to go eat breakfast...\nMom: UHM NO. JUST STAY HOME. How are you even going to get there? You gonna pay for ANOTHER Uber?!\nMe: (getting annoyed because I pay to be under the damn roof too) No, he'll have [his parent's] car, he's going to pick me up.\nMom: AND THEN WHAT?? If he has the car they you might want to go to his place where there's NOBODY there! (Not usually true, but we do low key get intimate since it's our day and we deserve to do as we damn well please with our bodies)\nMe: Um no we won't-\nMom: YOU ARE NOT GOING!!\nAnd she angrily shut the door to her room.\n\nWIBTA if I just said \"fuck it\" and left my house to hang out with him all day tomorrow?? The first/last time I \"acted out\" like this was when I begged a family member to let me see him compete in a sports event they had in highschool after we'd only been dating about 2 or 3 months. Mom found out and smacked me so hard that she slightly busted my lip, and right now I'm so mad that I'm thinking, \"if I come home after being with my bf and she tries to hit me, I'll try to grab and twist her arm instead of just taking it as usual.\" I understand that it's fucked to think that but even after typing that wall of text I still sincerely feel no remorse for how I feel.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U57bEtuVwQCTEt81Vvcnh6Oaj2jbbPS5", "post_id": "a2slzw", "action": {"description": "playing on my computer at noon while my roommate is still asleep", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for playing on my computer at noon while my roommate is still asleep?", "text": "I am a Freshman in college, living in a house with 5 other people. One other guy lives in my actual room with me. I'd say about 4/7 days of the week he is gone, staying at his girlfriend's house. \n\nIt's fairly standard at this point for him to stay at his girlfriend's house until about 3 AM on Sunday/Monday, and then come home late and try to sleep until 1 PM on Monday. I don't have an issue with him coming home late. On Mondays I wake up at 8:30 AM, and attend class until about 11 AM. Then I come home, and see my roommate still sleeping. Today, with nothing else to do after I've eaten, I put on my headphones, boot up my computer, and start playing a game. It's about 11:45 AM at this point, and to be clear, I would not have headphones in if my roommate were awake. I get about 15 minutes in, until he growls and fairly aggressively says \"Hey dude, you've got to stop. You can't do that, I'm sleeping.\" He went on to complain that the sound my PS4 controller makes bothers him and is way too loud. Now, if it were 9 AM or maybe even 10 AM, I may have a little more sympathy. But it is nearly noon on a Monday, I have already gotten my day started, and it's not my fault he stays up until 3 AM with his girlfriend. I said \"It's almost noon man, my day has already started, and there isn't really anything else I have to do. Sorry,\" but still play my game. \n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for not having sympathy for him sleeping in until noon on a Monday, while the rest of the world's day has already started?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Cbmb6s0UxC9aSq9GTpHin6Oxy46zrQnS", "post_id": "acad0c", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay rent for a full month", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay rent for a full month?", "text": "My roommate and I are planning to take a trip in a couple months outside the country. After we return, I\u2019m planning to take a job outside the state almost immediately (just waiting to hear back on my application in the next week or so). \n\nI told her that I\u2019d move out a couple days before the trip in preparation of the new job, and she said that would \u201cfuck her over\u201d and she would not be able to do the trip. So I guess she wants me to pay for the entire month of rent, though i would only be living there for half of the month because of the trip to follow.\n\nAITA? I\u2019m giving her about 4 months notice and she also said she would like for me to move out after the trip anyway, because she wants the place back to herself. Her financial ability to go is not dependent on me and I would rather save a half mont of rent?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SYa3tiME15nKFxPSzZZ3OXA8g8BLBvbL", "post_id": "ah7krn", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my fianc\u00e9 for not utilizing the city bus for our kids", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my fianc\u00e9 for not utilizing the city bus for our kids?", "text": "Back story: she has three children from her previous marriage. All three go to different schools. We\u2019re moving to a house 30 minutes away from their schools. The first child gets out at 2:30, the second 3:00, and the third around 3:30. I suggested in order to save a lot of money on gas and save hours of our time every day, the kids could ride the bus. Otherwise due to our different work schedules, my fianc\u00e9 gets off at 6am and takes the first and I take the second two after I wake up at 7:40, she\u2019d only get three hours of sleep per day, being 7 months pregnant because she\u2019d have to pick up the kids from their schools since I have to be at work before they get out. She\u2019s suggesting I don\u2019t care about her or her kids by wanting them to take the bus and saving us hundreds of dollars and hundreds of hours a year. I\u2019m trying to be efficient and trying to help her get many more hours of sleep...WHAT SAY YE?!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0ELuTi0X9XxUb46Z1ywn51dxNjBYQJ4Q", "post_id": "a3n0pi", "action": {"description": "not wanting my friend to use my stuff when I used to use hers all the time", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my friend to use my stuff when I used to use hers all the time", "text": "Whew. First post here. Also on mobile so excuse my formatting\nHear me out. \nI am an 18 yr old female\nI am currently rooming with a friend whom i love dearly. She is a a great girl and we've been friends for about 2 years now. When I first moved in, I had nothing. My parents and I were on super bad terms and essentially I ended up with my friend and her family after they were called by the police to house me because I was a minor in my country. So I end up moving in w them and they're absolutely lovely but it sucks. I get a job and I have practically nothing to wear so I try to ask said friend if I can borrow her clothes but she isn't there a lot of the time. So I just wore her clothes without asking and she never seemed to mind it. For things like shoes or important stuff I always asked or didn't touch them at all. This went on for a few months until I got my clothes eventually. Then, she started wearing my stuff. And i didn't mind. At all. It was okay for a bit. We were all good. But then she started wearing clothes I had just bought without asking.  Then she started wearing my fav shoes (now they're worn out and i can't wear them anymo rip). She started taking my makeup  and taking it with her places without asking or saying anything. andddddd ... You get the point. and it got really annoying. I really would let her if she just asked too... I feel indebted to her and her family for helping me out of a rough patch so I can't bring myself to say anything to my friend! So I can't help thinking I shouldn't feel this way. So I sent her a msg telling her how i feel and maybe I'm doing something totally wrong. \n\nSo.. \nAm I the asshole?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OA0cezlRvXKXZ1IqjEEgYYNMNMilyii0", "post_id": "ad9xe6", "action": {"description": "still asking my dad for money", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for still asking my dad for money?", "text": "Hey guys. \n\nI\u2019m from outside the US. My parents are divorced since I was a toddler. In my childhood, my father was never really supporting me, providing me and my mom with 300 bucks a month until I was 18. My mother had to give up college and everything to raise me and take up odd jobs to get us through. He was making at least 3000 during that time but that\u2019s another story. \n\nI\u2019m 27 now. Going to law school here in my country. Since I\u2019m 18, my dad puts money on my account, around 500 each month, now it\u2019s 1200 dollars. For the bar exam alone, you study at least 1 1/2 years with 9-10 hours a day. Which makes working next to impossible. I was fired from my last job because I could never complete my hours. He also lets me drive a company car for free. \n\nNow, my father is an income millionaire nowadays. He has another child and woman and lives in the richest area of my city (comparable to Bel Air or Beverly Hills in Los Angeles). I know 1200 is a lot, and sometimes I feel like he shouldn\u2019t support me. The thing is, he\u2019s still my father and my mom lets me live rent free too and buys all groceries. She raised me. \n\nThe thing why I\u2019m feeling like an asshole is, I don\u2019t talk to him. We have a very bad relationship. He is very abusive. I\u2019m balding and whenever we see each other he keeps on telling me I\u2019m a bald head. He says I\u2019m a failure in life. He says he regretted having me when I was born while he was still a student. He told his friends I was his nephew when I was little because he was embarrassed to have a child. He still talks bad about my mom. Bad about me where ever he can. When I complain about my studies, he says I\u2019m exaggerating. He says I look old. When I went to take pictures for my license for after the exam he told me I wouldn\u2019t get a job like this. Basically, he takes any chance he gets to say bad things about me. On my birthdays, he just writes emails. He makes me feel bad for not spending my birthday with him and his wife and eat ice cream outside (wtf?) and betraying him because I want to spend time with my mothers side of the family because they actually care for me. \n\nThere are multiple times where we didn\u2019t talk to each other for longer periods. Every time after he just acted like I was the asshole and I\u2019m not a man for not talking to him. He makes me feel bad that I don\u2019t care for his (spoiled) daughter who doesn\u2019t even care for me. Me and my mom had to move in the middle of my exam last year. My mom paid for everything, new bed, table etc. Even my gf father helped. He or his wife didn\u2019t do anything. Not even financially. He just gave me a moving box. This was a very stressful time which led me to have some stress related health issues. \n\nHe sent me to one of his friends after a doctor said I might have cancer (which I don\u2019t thankfully). The guy wanted to give me anti depressants because he said I was making it all up. My dad said take them without any thought even though I told him his friend didn\u2019t even talk to me before prescribing those. After that, I was diagnosed with GERD by another doctor. I asked my dad to drive me but he wouldn\u2019t take time off work and then got angry because I told him when he doesn\u2019t have time my mom will drive me in an angry way too. Since then, he hasn\u2019t called me once. He didn\u2019t ask about the results by the doctor. How I feel. Anything. I haven\u2019t congratulated him on Christmas either or New Years because I just don\u2019t wanna talk to him anymore for all the abusive things he does to me. He excludes me from his life and only kept calling me in the past because of guilt issues or to keep a facade for his younger daughter I guess. He got a license plate with her name for his new car. He never even acknowledged me in front of other people. He doesn\u2019t even know what my friends names are even though he knows everything about her life. He still boasts about he once went to see my teacher in 7th grade as if he took an interest in my life. \n\nSorry for the long text... and sorry for the shit English. I hope my text makes sense. Well, the question is, am I the asshole for still relying on my dads money even though I hate him and don\u2019t talk to him and not visit him and his family? And especially for my age? I feel like a failure but I also feel that\u2019s still my biological father and I didn\u2019t ask to come into this world... and he has the money and brags all the time how he makes so much money..", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N60IbOngavwM2lFmQdm9d1etrXOkENcr", "post_id": "ba3sk5", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Is My Dad the Asshole?", "text": "This story is not about me, it's about my dad. Basically this story takes place in like 2013 or 2014 at my local indoor swimming pool. This is a very basic swimming pool, one twenty metre pool or \"the big pool\" and then there's the circular shallow pool made for babies and young children. Me, my sister and my dad went to the pool like usual, we always go every Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. So this was the Thursday during my lesson in the twenty metre pool. I seen that my dad was arguing with one of the staff so my coach went down to where they were arguing.\n\nBasically my dad was upset with the staff member who accused my little sister of not being able to swim a lap, now this staff member has been working there easily over ten years, he had also been an assistant coach during my little sisters twenty metre pool lessons which you have to swim laps!, so he recognised her. (It was a small class) Plus we had been coming here four days a week for the past three years.\n\nMy dad was already in a sour mood going here so i feel like that staff member may have got the brunt of my dads \"explosion\" of anger. I question if my dad was the asshole simply because he was VERY angry and i don't know if he had gone to far, he hadn't directly called him any names and he hadn't sworn or anything but he did say things like \"are you stupid?!,\" and \"can't you do your job?!.\" which I feel was kinda mean.\n\nBut what do you think?, Im not looking for assurance or support just tell me anything and everything you think of the story.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rTkS3AXxGVt6vxUaU4dEAaiZOXkM3zNO", "post_id": "aqg7kc", "action": {"description": "storming off after a misunderstanding", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for storming off after a misunderstanding?", "text": "(Alittle background, I wanted to do a giant chocolate heart for Valentine\u2019s Day just to do it so I asked for help from friends and two replied, one of them who replied, the person in question we had a disagreement but she never apologizes for it, that prevented us from talking for alittle while until recently)\n\nNow with that in mind, here is the story\n\nSo I showed my friend a video and said I was debating doing a chocolate heart for shits and giggles and she said that I should, all things fine, so I tell her a mutual female friend of ours is joining us and she was fine with that but she was busy for two hours the day. I wanted to do it so I told her that I would help our mutual friend do some shopping of her own and then pick her up so we can buy supplies for the heart since it would be more fun with the 3 of us after she was done then she said,\u201d ok that\u2019s fine\u201d\n\nThe next day, I tell another mutual male friend what I was planning, and he wants to join, I tell him sure, and that I\u2019ll message him when we are at the store so he could join me at my house for the process with the rest of us.\n\nThe day of the process. I get a message from another mutual female friend that she wants join aswell. And she is currently with the other mutual female friend. So I agree since they are good friends. Now it hits 2pm and I\u2019m driving myself and both mutual female friends to get their shopping done and which we did and we had time left over so we headed to my house. So it hits 4:30pm and we start driving to the place the girl in question is at which is a fair distance but whatever, I didn\u2019t mind doing it. However my car is not the most economical. I asked one female friend to message the girl in question that we might be alittle late since there was traffic, which she did, but never responded to. By the time we get there I see our mutual guy friend in front of us parked and he calls us, saying what are we doing here? and we respond we are here to pick the girl in question up and he responds he\u2019s doing the same thing. So I get mad that because: first, I messaged her that, I would pick her up specificly, second she never responded to the message that we would be late, since that would have saved us half an hour of driving, third she has 2 days to clarify anything she did not understand. So I just say \u201cfuck this\u201d and drove off and hung up. \n\nNot too long after the girl in question responds to the we would be late message and a mutual female friend explains to her the situation and that I am angry.  So she starts saying the excuse that she thought we were all at same place in the first place when I specifically told her that I told help a mutual female friend do her shopping and then I would pick her up, so she starts crying to god knows what and I get a call from the mutual guy friend, I answer and mute it because I was angry and didn\u2019t want to go off on him since he was a bystander. He hangs up and redials. I don\u2019t answer. So he calls a one of the mutual female friends and she answers. He asked the question \u201cwhy is he so salty\u201d and by that statement alone I knew he already took her side without knowing all the facts, so i decide it\u2019s not worth attempting to persuade him since he is already rooting for the girl I question. \n\nTL:DR - I wanted to do a chocolate heart for Valentine\u2019s Day, a misunderstanding happen because of it, I get angry and leave two friends behind  AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oi1mcCRHrnaxxqE5t5IEgYX9VXtUzWZc", "post_id": "aue5vv", "action": {"description": "asking my ex to pay his debt", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my ex to pay his debt?", "text": "So last month my ex and i were on a vacation in my home country (We were in a long distance relationship). He got so sick that i have to rush him to the hospital. He didn't have a travel insurance and his money is very limited so i paid for everything. He said that he's gonna pay it back.\n\nSo 12 hours ago we broke up and i asked him to at least paypal me his medical bill that he owed me. After the message was sent, he blocked me on all social media including whatsapp. I panicked because i thought he didn't have the intention to pay his debt. If he wants to pay, he'll at least say something like \"can you please send me the invoice/receipt?\". But no, he blocked me and i couldn't reach him at all.\n\nI was desperate so i contacted basically every mutual friends we have and his family asking them to tell him to pay his debt because he's blocked me on all platforms. \n\nHe was very pissed when he learned about this, unblocked me on whatsapp and messaged me, saying that I'm an asshole for dragging his friends and family into this problem. He said that the problem is between us and I'm making myself look bad for contacting every person i know.\n\nSo yeah, AITA for contacting everyone i know so he would pay his debt?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EeNrq53ut0EaezYjXCv00VKnXi9CVM6D", "post_id": "aebx8r", "action": {"description": "filing for custody behind baby mama's back", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for filing for custody behind baby mama's back?", "text": "I have a baby mama that does not let me take our kid anywhere without her being present. She claims she is scared that something will happen to our daughter when she is with me. I've tried having several conversations with her over the years, all which come to the same ending: I cannot take our daughter anywhere without her being present because she does not trust me and is scared that something might happen to our daughter. I have done nothing to warrant this fear of hers. I have been in the picture since the day she was born, but was away at college for the first year and a half of her life (my daughter is now 3 1/2, I'm 26). I have now been home for college for 2 years and see my daughter 4 to 5 times a week, always at my baby mama's place. My parents and my whole family have been telling me that I need to take my baby mama to court so that I can bring her around the family more often. They don't get to see her much because my baby mama works (she works a job that allows her to bring our daughter with her) and says she doesn't have time to see my parents. So, I listened to them and filed for a court custody hearing. Granted, this is after several arguments and her refusal to let me take our child, even for a couple hours.. I can't help but feel incredibly guilty about this because:\n\n1. I went behind her back and filed for this custody hearing. She has no idea that I've done it yet and will be getting a subpoena any day...\n2. My daughter has developed somewhat of a separation anxiety from her mother. She loves me, but is around her mom 24/7 and gets a bit anxious when she's away from her for too long.\n3. My baby mama have dated off and on for the past couple of years, trying to make things work out.\n\nHere are some of the reasons my baby mama doesn't \"trust\" me with our child.\n\n1. There's a pool at my house. Apparently it's the #3 killer of all infants. She's absolutely terrified that I'm going to lose track of my daughter and she's going to find her way to our pool and drown.\n2. I'm forgetful- I always misplace things like my keys and wallet and tend to lose things often. She thinks this is a bad character trait and that somehow I will forget my daughter somewhere.\n\nTLDR: Baby mama won't let me take our child without her there, I filed for a custody hearing behind her back.\n\nAITA in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j1VpKrQeccIjQNXRx5ylpGa90PCjOiDI", "post_id": "b4nsh5", "action": {"description": "sending a very angry text to my roommate for continually leaving the door unlocked", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for sending a very angry text to my roommate for continually leaving the door unlocked?", "text": "We moved in last August. There\u2019s a back door leading to the deck out back. We live in a decent neighborhood, kind of in the transition area from good to bad areas of town. I would come home from work and find the door unlocked and would text my roommates to lock the door back when we go outside. I sent it to both roommates even though I know it was roommate 1. Anyways, about 1 or 2 times a month I would find the back door unlocked, sometimes in the morning when I know it had been unlocked all night. I would send a text every time and bring it up in person. I told roommate 1 that I\u2019ve had my house broken into before and it SUCKS because it really does suck. This happened about 8 times and I was like \u201c[1], LOCK THE DOOR. I\u2019m not trying to get my things stolen!\u201d sternly, but not yelling. He replied \u201cyeah fuck you. I forgot. I forget sometimes. I FORGOT OKAY\u201d\n\nAnyways, about a week ago roommate 2 had his car broken into so it worried me about a home invasion. The next day, I found the back door unlocked again (about the 10th time) and I was so sick of hearing they forgot. I sent a text (again, to both roommates, so as not to accuse any one roommate) saying \u201cLOCK THE DOOR. LOCK THE FUCKING DOOR. DONT SAY YOU FORGOT. JUST LOCK THE GOD DAMN DOOR. LOCK. THE. DOOR.\u201d\n\nAnd roommate 1 took it so offensively and said he was going to move out. He also put a hole in the bathroom door while screaming because it wasn\u2019t him that left it unlocked, it was his friend that left it unlocked when she let her dog out. I just said \u201cCOOL. STOP BREAKING OUR HOUSE. THE DOOR NEEDS TO BE LOCKED\u201d. Since then, he has said fuck you to everything I do or say and calling me an asshole for \u201coverreacting\u201d about the unlocked door. \n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "J63jC4IWkgeUIi7g7UxTZP7Q4YUFFVBg", "post_id": "acoo7k", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend time with my family", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I don't want to spend time with my family?", "text": "My Aunt keeps texting me to come visit her during my winter break, but she's a really pretentious college professor and it shows. She talks and acts like she's better than everyone else and I can't even be myself around her because she'll be upset at me for being immature and improper. My mom has been guilting me to visit her for years because she's lonely but IMO it's her fault for acting like that. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h8AmtZdDNobrAPjXvHf77p9e7YQzjPNS", "post_id": "ax12nu", "action": {"description": "telling a mom off in a bar", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling a mom off in a bar?", "text": "My friend and I hopped down to a local brewery/bar last night to enjoy our Saturday night and get our drink on. I want to be clear that this is strictly a bar, like the kind if bar where they check your ID before you go in. It's not a big brew pub with restaurant food and plentiful seating, it's intimate and small and they serve primarily beer.\n\nWhen we came in, it wasn't super busy, but there was a family with two small children, under the age of 4. Weird, but okay. However, as we drinking and chatting, I start noticing that the kids at the other side of the bar are being fairly rambunctious, standing on their chairs, screaming, and well, just being kids. After two drinks, this started to get on my nerves, as it is a small bar and the noise carries. The parents were doing nothing to quiet their kids and were just letting them yell and run around.\n\nI tried to ignore them and focus on my friend, when I felt something body slam my leg. Yeah, one of the kids fell into my bar stool, and as kids do, it started to cry loudly. Mom came rushing over to get her kid and when she was picking him up, she looked up at us and chuckled, \"oh sorry, kids huh?\" \n\nMy friend, being more polite then myself, just shrugged and said \"oh no worries\". Mom then said, \"hah, they're cute but such handful\". Me, being irritated and tipsy said, \"I don't think it's very cute that you're letting them run around unsupervised.\" The rest of the conversation went as follows (to the best of my memory).\n\nMom: Seriously? They're just kids, they have a lot of energy.\n\nMe: Ma'am this is a bar, of all the places you could have picked to let your kids run around in, this is probably the worst place.\n\nMom: I think your rudeness is unwarranted, they aren't hurting anyone.\n\nMe: This is a BAR, where adults come explicitly to drink, where patrons underage are forbidden. I'm not sure why they even let you in. You have some nerve calling me rude while you ignore your kids and let them run into people and disturb our peace. \n\nMom: I said sorry that she hit you, but I'm not going to apologize for trying to have a good night.\n\nMe: Whatever you say, just know that many people don't appreciate kids in bars, and don't find them to be cute. Control your kids.\n\nMom: You don't need to be such a bitch. \n\nAfter that she walked back to her table and they stayed for probably another 10 minutes after the kids wouldn't stop crying for not being allowed to run amok anymore.\n\nI kind of feel bad today for what happened. My friend said I was harsh, but not an asshole. But what do y'all think, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RIPzKLXMwGqYFGjV4kXNuOqcpBObVGHS", "post_id": "b644wj", "action": {"description": "telling a friend I had feelings for him after he repeatedly asked about it", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling a friend I had feelings for him after he repeatedly asked about it?", "text": "This is a new account because my friends are part-time redditors.\n\nAlso, the title isn't 100% accurate, but I'll explain. \n\nI met this guy, Jack, and we hit it off. At least, I hit it off with him. Shortly after we met he began dating this girl. She's lovely and I hold no ill will towards him for it. I had already developed some feelings for him and they didn't disappear just because he's dating someone, you know? \n\nFast forward to nearly a year later. We're all part of a really good friend group. My feelings are present, but I've long accepted it's not going to happen, and everything is fine. \n\nWell, Jack's best friend, we'll call him Chris, recently asked me on a date. We went out a few times but I felt odd pursuing anything with him because he was Jack's best friend and while my feelings for Jack are less now than they were, they're not nonexistent. Plus his personality is very similar to Jack's and that also made me feel odd about dating him. I politely told him I wasn't interested and he took it really well. There was no awkwardness about it between us. \n\nFrom then on, every time I hung out with Jack or Jack and friends he would ask why I wasn't \"interested\" in Chris. I made several excuses first, but this went on for weeks. Finally I told him the whole story about having lingering feelings for him and feeling odd about dating anyone in the friend group for that reason. I made sure to say I wasn't expecting anything out of this and that it doesn't bother me in the least to be around him and his girlfriend. It's my is my own personal issue and I'd wanted it to stay that way, but after weeks of badgering...\n\nHe blew a fuse and was like \"How dare you tell me this knowing I'm in a relationship?\" and \"Do you know what kind of pressure that puts on me?\". I don't really, but I understand feeling weird after hearing a friend has had feelings for you for a while. I let it rest thinking he would talk to me about it eventually, but it's been a few weeks and he's still pissed. \n\nSo, AITA for telling him the true story? Should I have made something else up? Also, is it really that terrible to know a friend has some residual feelings for you? It's not like I've ever made or would intend to make an advance. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lRwQ4UEh8FEFMp9MH3uH8NdPvxAIBO43", "post_id": "awtqmg", "action": {"description": "pointing out my gf's double standards", "pronormative_score": 43, "contranormative_score": 27}, "title": "WIBTA for pointing out my gf\u2019s double standards?", "text": "Gf and I have been together for 4 months.  She\u2019s great, but she does have one flaw.  She has double standards for us.  \n\nI\u2019m not allowed to wake her up with sex, but she had woken me up with oral twice.   I didn\u2019t mind it so I never complained.  \n\nShe also thinks that women should be independent from men, yet she never even offers to pay when we go out and never pays for \u201cour\u201d weed that we share. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 43, "WRONG": 27}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2DDCr3CQdRSQmTrtPzx7yMmhnyqyPIqK", "post_id": "9ybw5b", "action": {"description": "asking a parent to take their sick kid out of the theatre", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked a parent to take their sick kid out of the theatre", "text": "My family and I went to see a movie today, and I sat on the edge of our section. Another family sat next to us, and one of their young kids, maybe 5 or 6, sat on the edge next to me. As soon as they sat down, the kid started coughing and sniffling snot. He'd have a coughing fit every four or five minutes, and would sniffle constantly in between them. And these weren't small, dainty sniffles, these sniffles sounded like he was doing all he could to hold back a deluge of mucus from pouring out his face. To be clear, I'm not mad at the kid for being sick, I'm mad at their parents for bringing a sick kid into a public and quiet place. I thought about asking the parents to take their kid out or going to theatre staff to complain, but ended up not saying anything and just walking out because I didn't want to be a dick or make a scene. So, would I have been the asshole if I had complained? Either to the parents themselves, or to the theatre staff? \n\nTLDR: Sick kid sat next to me in theatre and wouldn't stop coughing and sniffling. WIBTA if I complained to parents or staff?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "seqE2Ol0slC3wMYi3DbgOGhuTgow9VXc", "post_id": "9v8fca", "action": {"description": "telling my (former) friend that her new bf is a dick, and ruining our relationship because of it", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my (former) friend that her new bf is a dick, and ruining our relationship because of it.", "text": "Alright boys, I just want to preface this by saying that I\u2019m a super preppy white boy, like full AP schedule, nationally ranked athlete gunning for the top college type guy. I try my best to be as nice as I possibly can to everyone, but I am admittedly a little socially awkward sometimes as a result of some fairly bad bullying in middle school (dw I\u2019m ok now). But anyway, go ahead and get ya popcorn, get ya licorice, get ya root beer, get ya fuckin Stromboli, it\u2019s gonna be a looong post. \n\nSo, flashback to sophomore year, I\u2019m still a somewhat isolated kid, but I\u2019ve grown into a more social being who can actually talk competently with people most of the time without trying some dumb gimmick to draw attention to myself. This was at a time when I was constantly stressed from APs and my sport (which I can\u2019t mention because if I did it would blow my cover immediately), and I was desperately in need of a good friend. I had found a couple, but a lot of them were like me, socially awkward, but pretty fun to be around (though idk if I am fun to be around, I haven\u2019t seen myself through someone else\u2019s eyes lol), barring one exception who I am still friends with, and may or may not have a slight crush on because she\u2019s great. Enter this freshman, we\u2019ll call her Jane doe, I met her on the bus and we immediately bonded over our equally strange senses of humor. As I got to know her more and more, we started to become better and better friends, at one point I probably would\u2019ve even considered her my best friend. At the time she was in a long distance relationship, and it was rough but going strong. Towards the end of the year, she breaks it off with the long distance guy (LD for short) and started dating another friend of mine, we\u2019ll call him Joseph. \n\nThe year goes by fairly uneventfully, save for the fact that I got a gf at the end of the year who was amazing, and we lasted for about 8 months. Cut to the end of the summer, schools back in and the shit starts to hit the fan. Not only have I decided to take a metric ton of APs, a ton of social shit starts to go down, an entirely different friend nearly commits suicide and I had to try and talk her down, the aforementioned girl I said I may or may not have a crush on had broken up with her long time bf, but most of all, Jane had gone to summer camp where LD went as well, now Jane had broken up ish with Joseph, but wasn\u2019t clear about it, and on this summer camp she decided to let LD have sex with her for her first time. She gets back, and Joseph is confused, and so she breaks it off officially with him, understandably being a little pissed. And when I asked her about LD she said \u201cwhenever we\u2019re together, we\u2019re together, but when we\u2019re not we\u2019re not\u201d which I thought was utter bullshit and unfair to both guys, but I kept this opinion to myself.\n\nAnd here is where the final guy comes in, we can call him MH for meathead. Now, I had some experience with this guy, when I was riding the bus my sophomore year (remember, socially awkward as fuck) with a then crush of mine, this dumbass rolls up and sits right in front of us, turns to us and says \u201cso are y\u2019all fucking or what?\u201d To which I awkwardly laugh and say no, he then looks me dead in the eyes and says \u201cahh so you got friend zoned then, I get it\u201d and I respond with yet another laugh and a slight shake of the head. This conversation goes on for a little while with very little input from me, and some very explicit questions from MH. So when I learn that Jane is thinking about dating this guy I immediately advise her against it.\n\nAnd here at long last is the part where I admittedly fuck up. During a conversation with Jane, she lets slip the fact that MH goes to a program in my city that lets kids take college classes in high school at a community college. Now this program has a reputation for attracting kids that don\u2019t really care about school and worry more about doing other things, which is fine for some, but a lot of the time it\u2019s for kids who like to get high and party. I see this as yet another red flag and advise her against this dude again. During the conversation she seems totally chill about it and responsive to my advice. Now here is the part I personally take issue with. After the conversation at school the next day she talks to me like normal, as if nothing is up, but after school MH sprints up to me in the parking lot and yanks on my backpack fairly hard, and since I\u2019m a skinny dude it pulled me back a good amount. This guy puts his arm around my shoulder, with his forearm and bicep around my carotids, almost as if he\u2019s about to choke me. He pulls me away and says \u201chey, don\u2019t ever make my girl mad again, aight?\u201d Now there are many issues with this, first off they had been dating a couple days at most so she wasn\u2019t really \u201chis girl\u201d yet, moreover, Jane had never told me she was mad at me otherwise I would\u2019ve talked it out with her like a normal human being. So I tell her about what happened and she acts as if it\u2019s my fault, and I apologize because that\u2019s who I am, and admittedly it is my fault somewhat. Though after this my opinion of this guy declines, i don\u2019t say anything to her because she seems happy about their relationship and I don\u2019t want to ruin that. And to be honest, I kind of respect MH for doing what he did, he was protecting her the only way he knew how, which is better than not protecting her at all, though he could\u2019ve just talked to me and I would\u2019ve been even more respectful of him. \n\nThe next day I come into school and I don\u2019t take to Jane all day, whatever. But after school I\u2019m chilling at the bus stop with the girl I may or may not have a crush on, when I feel a familiar tug on my backpack. I turn around and lo and behold it\u2019s MH with Jane in tow, the second I turn around he shoves me into the side of the bus stop, and again, skinny dude, so I go flying a little bit. The girl I was talking to asks if she should get involved and I said no, don\u2019t worry about it. Then MH starts yelling at me almost unintelligibly because of his inability to form coherent sentences about how I should never insult him and that I should fight him right there. In response I tell him \u201cno dude, I\u2019m trying to get into a good school\u201d to which he replies \u201cbro what the fuck? Fight me right here bitch.\u201d And i just laugh and look away as Jane comes in to stop him. They leave and I get on the bus without further incident. \n\nThe next day I\u2019m going to term d-day for reasons that should be evident very soon. I show up to the bus that I take to school and find that Jane is on it, I say hi and sit next to her. We start having a pleasant conversation, and I think everything is all good. As we get to school, we start talking about MH, She starts telling me how after yesterday\u2019s incident, they went home and had sex, and she told me in graphic detail how good he was for a virgin. Now the rest of the day goes smoothly until the end of school, me and Joseph (remember him?) are waking to the bus and MH chucks a bag of ice at the back of our heads. We turn and give him and Jane a look, but just keep walking. And when I get home I get a text from Jane that reads \u201cbro quit acting like we\u2019re cool, we\u2019re not\u201d at which point I explode on her, but in a fairly level headed way.  I say that I respect this guy but he needs to stop being an ass. I say that I\u2019m the one who\u2019s been saying sorry, but that she should apologize for his behavior, and I say that I love her, but this is no cool at all, and the coup de grace being me threatening to get this guy expelled if he keeps trying to hurt me and my friendsZ Her response? \u201cMan, fuck you.\u201d And then blocking me everywhere. After days of taking rant after rant from her about how \u201cI was being racist because I said that the college program thing was bad and that somehow correlated to me saying it\u2019s not hard for minorities to get ahead\u201d and that \u201cI need to give this guy a chance and chill\u201d she can\u2019t handle one from me? Fuck off with that. \n\nNow I see her talking shit about me behind my back in the halls, and just giving me glares whenever we pass eachother. Honestly there have been times where I have wanted to ask to talk it out, but what\u2019s the point anymore? She was a good friend, but I think I need to let this one go.\n\nAnyway, sorry for writing a dissertation on this guys, but I\u2019ve been wanting to get it off my chest for a while. Thanks for reading.\n\nTl;Dr: best friend dates an asshole and I tell her as such, dude tries to beat me up, and then she blames it on me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bQ6qSeVYsfllsS7wDRAuQna1RCpVyifR", "post_id": "b1yfyh", "action": {"description": "asking a USPS to re-do her parking", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking a USPS to re-do her parking?", "text": "Earlier today, as my mom and I were leaving lunch, I go to get into the driver\u2019s seat, but I realize I can\u2019t. A USPS delivery truck had parked so close to my car that I could not open my door and would have struggled getting to it as well. I see the woman is sitting in the truck sorting through mail, so I wait for her to notice us to avoid interrupting her. As she gets out to deliver mail, I figured she\u2019d notice us, maybe apologize for the bad parking job, and then redo it so we could leave, or she would park elsewhere (there were many other front row spots available less than 5 feet away). She walks past us without saying anything, so I stop her. I say \u201cExcuse me, we cannot get into our car. Could you please-\u201c to which she cuts me off by saying \u201cYou\u2019re just going to have to wait.\u201d. As she walks away, I say that we are trying to leave but cannot get into our car. She replies by saying that her bad parking is a result of the parking job of the car next to her and that we again would just have to wait.\n\nThe thing is though, the car next to her was parked normally, maybe a little closer to the line than usual. The conversation goes back and forth like this for about a minute, all while she has the biggest attitude with us. I ask for the number of her supervisor, and she says again for me to wait. She walks away to deliver mail to 5 stores, and when she gets back 10-15 minutes later, she says nothing to us and starts to get into her truck. I again ask for the number of her supervisor, and she hands me a USPS customer service card. I ask for her name or work number so that I can explain to customer service who I was referring to, and she just points to the number on top of her truck and drives off. \n\nI haven\u2019t had any luck reaching the number (USPS is another story as many of you may be accustomed to), but I\u2019m wondering if this is even worth reporting. She was very rude to us from the start and increasingly more rude as the event occurred. All we wanted to do was leave, but she was very angry we asked her to make room for us to get into our car. [Here are pictures of the parking job and other available spots.](https://imgur.com/gallery/9ymSRKB). We are more upset about the way she spoke to us and handled the situation than we are the bad parking job, obviously.\n\nSo, AITA for asking her to let us into our car by redoing her parking job?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iINvvWlPCJVuwD6VbD93tv03uQbzd4HU", "post_id": "aqnmnz", "action": {"description": "revealing where my friends were staying on vacation to another mutual friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for revealing where my friends were staying on vacation to another mutual friend?", "text": "This fiasco happened last July so it\u2019s all over now.  \n\nIt\u2019s a tradition at my high school that at the end of senior year, the vast majority of the grade goes to the beach together for a week:  \u201cBeach Week.\u201d  For beach week, groups of about six to ten group up to rent houses together all in about the same area.  I was in a last-minute house with a few of the less popular people, but who were still more popular than me.  As our house was last-minute, it was separated a ways from the rest.\n\nWe were visiting another house on Wednesday which was about a quarter-mile away from ours when I heard that someone from our grade\u2014let\u2019s call him \u201cHap\u201d\u2014was about three miles away from where we were for a family reunion unrelated to Beach Week.  Hap had been asking a whole bunch of people where they were staying, but no one gave him an answer because they didn\u2019t want him present.\n\nI didn\u2019t think that was right since I knew he\u2019d been looking forward to this week, so I told Hap the street name that all the other houses were on (note:  my house was NOT on this street).  I knew Hap wouldn\u2019t be able to do anything with this information\u2014what was he going to do, knock on the door of every house on the street until he came across on that belonged to us?\u2014so I thought it would be ok to reveal our general location.  \n\nSomeone from the house we were visiting as I did this, who we\u2019ll call Lad, saw me do this (in hindsight it is quite clear he thought I had given Hap his specific address) and approached me saying I shouldn\u2019t have given away their location.  The visit ended quite shortly after that and on the walk back I let my housemates know what happened.  Even knowing I did not give away Lad\u2019s actual address, they agreed I had done wrong.\n\nMy group did not get invited to any events the rest of the week, Thursday and Friday, and I was able to get it confirmed from someone in Lad\u2019s house it was because of what I had done.  I felt especially bad because, as I said, the others in my group were more popular than I was... they only reluctantly had taken me in to begin with.  They were not made aware that I was the reason, though I am pretty sure at least one of them figured it out.  It seemed to me like I\u2019d ruined their Beach Week.\n\nConsequences aside\u2014the costs DEFINITELY outweighed the benefits on this one\u2014was what I did on principle an asshole move?  And was Lad an asshole for excluding my group afterwards?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1hG6zTPwyCbSrWhkIykNhPiguIhHWV2w", "post_id": "a1f9g9", "action": {"description": "being hesitant to date someone 3 years younger", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being hesitant to date someone 3 years younger?", "text": "First off, I'd like to say that I've known this person for a few years now. I am a 18 year old male while the other is a 15 year old female. \n\nI'm not sure if this is the right sub for this, but I can't help but feel shallow that I'm disregarding her feelings purely based on the age gap. She'd turn 16 soon and then a couple of months later I'd turn 19, though I'm not sure if that makes it better.\n\nI get along with her fine, I do like her in a romantic sense but I'm sort of afraid of how other people would see our relationship.\n\nAm I the asshole for being this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pKU8RWnmISHxGbNQoQXm7W6OaBTpPnyh", "post_id": "au8w8y", "action": {"description": "asking deceased roommates' boyfriend to move on", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for asking deceased roommates\u2019 boyfriend to move on?", "text": "This is a throwaway account for obvious reasons. I\u2019m feeling like a big asshole and you\u2019ll see why below. I\u2019m afraid to talk to anyone because I don\u2019t know what the right thing to do is here. \n\nThe background to this story is that I moved in with a roommate, let\u2019s call her Hannah, in August. We didn\u2019t know each other before but got closer as one does when living together. Hannah was an artist, funny and we got on super well. She passed away just before new year\u2019s in a bike accident. This was very hard for me, but nowhere as hard as it was for her family and friends. Her boyfriend Jake in particular was devastated. \n\nA few days after Hannah\u2019s funeral, Jake asked for her keys to get some of her belongings. I was at work that day but when I got home that night, he was a sobbing mess. I don\u2019t know Jake well, but he was crying in my roommates\u2019 room, so of course I tried to help. Jake asked if he could stay the night because he could not handle going home now. \n\nOver the next couple of weeks, Jake sometimes stayed in Hannah\u2019s room which I did not mind. I don\u2019t know what it\u2019s like to lose your partner but losing a roommate hurt so much already, so I can\u2019t imagine what it\u2019s like for Jake. Sometimes other friends of Hannah and her mom would come too. As her heir, her mother offered to pay Hannah\u2019s part of her rent until they felt ready to deal with all of Hannah\u2019s belongings. I told them to take as much time as they need. \n\nAfter that, Jake stayed over almost every night. But it started to change from him trying to be close to Hannah to him kind of living here. He would sometimes cook in middle of the night or watch movies without headphones, which would wake me up. As I was on semester break and was only working part-time, so I didn\u2019t say anything about it. For context, Jake is a freelance producer and doesn\u2019t have standard office hours. \n\nThey have started to empty out her room about two weeks ago, and I\u2019ve decided to stay out of it because it\u2019s part of their grieving and I didn\u2019t want to disturb. Now, the room is empty except for her bed and her piano. \n\nOn Monday, my semester started again. I told Jake about this, that I would have to wake up early again and that I\u2019d try to not wake him up. He promised to be quiet at night too but hasn\u2019t. \n\nAdditionally, with the third rent coming up, apparently Hannah\u2019s mom is unable to pay for it. Like for most people, having to pay for another place must be expensive for her. The landlord has been amazing and simply put the rent contract on my name in January. But this means that I\u2019ll have to come up with the rent money from now on and this is a big burden for me as well. This is why I\u2019m considering looking for a new roommate. \n\nIt\u2019s Sunday afternoon, I\u2019m sitting in my room while Jake is in the kitchen making lunch for himself. And I\u2019m asking strangers on the internet if I would be the asshole if telling Jake about wanting to find a new roommate and asking him to go back to his apartment.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pkcBB43RYk3qcAwIR1GSWmk0FdugpONW", "post_id": "arkfm4", "action": {"description": "getting angry at the phone rep", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting angry at the phone rep?", "text": "This happened yesterday, I was looking to send about 5k$ to my UK bank account and was browsing a bit and saw that one of my online transfer services was advertising using this company(rhymes with zoom) for us to Europe transactions. \n\nI realize this is a lot of money which needs extra security measures, I had to give my address, social security number, photo of id, photo of me now, all of my bank details including account user and password, and a few more things. \n\nNow after this I get an email saying to call to confirm or the transaction may not be approved. So I call and they ask me a bunch of irrelevant questions, like are you married, where are you now, how often will you use \u201czoom\u201d. The thing that really threw me is they needed a phone bill. \n\nNow I don\u2019t have my american phone bill, I\u2019m in the uk and that phone has been given to my dad along with the number. For all verification purposes I assumed they would text the number to confirm whatever they needed right? \n\nNope. It HAD to be the phone bill. I told them it wasn\u2019t in my name anymore and they said it didn\u2019t matter, they still needed it. I asked what this was verifying and they said \u201cwe are not allowed to disclose our processes and reasons for security checks\u201d.  \n\nSo I asked if you could make an account without a phone number, and they said yes. So I asked if I could do that and they told me no. \n\nSo now a company that is endorsed by \u201cpaybuddy\u201d has all of my details and they don\u2019t even allow accounts being deleted. I swear this is nuts. \n\nMaybe I\u2019m wrong here? But they have literally every identifying info there is on me but they HAVE to get a phone bill. Ugh. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M8jUpY5j3GQFhQhVl8T91aTBURRjGA86", "post_id": "b05cv7", "action": {"description": "not giving up my bus seat", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not giving up my bus seat?", "text": "So I was on my way to visiting my girlfriend at her place, on a 45-minute bus ride. The bus was practically full, with us passengers having no personal space since everyone was back to back. However, the vast majority of people where I was standing in were around 30-40 years old, and I am 19.\n\nAfter 20 minutes passed, someone got up from his seat and got off the bus. I waited for a couple of minutes to see if anyone wanted the seat, then sat down and opened Hearthstone. In front of me were an old lady and a 20yo man who mentioned that he had an accident with his motorcycle and hurt his legs.\n\nFor 10 minutes, everything was fine. I managed to win a couple of games and was enjoying myself. Then, another old lady entered from the back. Since the bus was full, she had trouble getting in and someone offered her a seat. However, they couldn't switch places easily, since the bus was full, so they had to push everyone for the man to get up, then wait till the old lady sat down. This seemed to annoy the old lady sitting in front of me. FYI I was sitting in the middle of the bus, and the trouble was happening in the back, so it was impossible for me to give my seat to the old lady in the back.\n\n\n\nOL: old lady sitting in front of me\nME: Master of the Eevees\n\n\n\nOL: (yelling at me) God's sake these youngsters! Can't you see the old lady in the back is struggling? Yet you're still sitting down playing these stupid games!\n\nMe: Excuse me but the old lady is already seated now\n\nOL: So what? Can't you see there's others in need of the seat?\n(I actually looked and there were no elderly people around. There were some middle aged people, but I thought that if they needed the seat, say they got tired or their backs hurt, they would ask for it. I was tired too, after all)\n\nMe: If anyone needed the seat, they could ask and I'd get up. Don't -\n\nOL: You shouldn't even sit down, these seats aren't for young people!\n\nAt this point I was furious because I'm not used to being yelled up by strangers, but someone from the back was waving at me to let it go and not reply, so I stayed silent and focused on the game until the OL\n stopped as well. Soon enough we reached the destination, which happens to be the local IKEA and shopping mall. From there I took the next bus to my gf's house, but was still furious about what happened. So I ask: AITA for not giving up my seat? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JS6Ny7iWiWGQRfBgK5Ll9CDDiiuOZqD6", "post_id": "asosn6", "action": {"description": "telling my coworker to stop commenting on my work", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my coworker to stop commenting on my work", "text": "Background: I am I mechanic and I recently got moved to a new shop about 3 months ago. The person I am stationed next to is a generally very friendly man. He is cool to talk to but he has one major issue, he is always in somebody else's business. He is always talking about other people's situations and talking behind their backs. I let him know quickly I didn't care about any of that and everything seems good with me and him. I just now have started doing my own work after being trained by the other mechanics for three months. The guy next to me never trained me. He and the other mechanics know I generally know what I am doing and will ask for help if I don't. Every since I started my own work recently, he is always coming over and inspecting my work and commenting on it. As a mechanic in my area, there are many ways to accomplish one task and to be quite honest we have to cut corners sometimes to meet time restraints. That is just the way it is. He will come over and tell me that's not the way this certain thing is supposed to be done even though I was trained by many other mechanics to do it that way. normally I wouldn't mind another suggestion on how to fix something, but his tone comes off as if he is trying to belittle me. It makes me feel bad. What makes me feel worse is I haven't seem him do this to anyone else. A few days ago I had enough. He came to my station early in the morning and spoke to me in that tone again. I told him \"I know you probably mean no harm in telling me what to do, but I would like you to stop speaking to me like that when you are trying to teach me.\" He was suprised when I said this and he just walked back to his station. Ever since then, he won't speak a word to me. I feel as if what I said was fair and could be worked out from there. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1oDlICgeNgjf5SRCbp6GjsF8h0EFxCNf", "post_id": "b4daxf", "action": {"description": "resenting my mother even after she stopped her bad habits", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for resenting my mother even after she stopped her bad habits?", "text": "I'm sorry if I'm doing this wrong, I'm new to reddit.\n  Okay so background knowledge, i(13F) have lived with only my mother for as long as I can remember. She really wasn't the best caretaker until recently.\n   She's been a pass out drunk for multiple years, including all throughout my later elementary schools(3-5th grade at least). She was always quite verbally harsh when she got riled up, and wasn't very calm when angered, going so far to throw chairs or chase me or my sister with a belt. She never hit us with it or anything, she just ran after us and stood menacingly on the stairs.\n   In my later elementary years, she would come upstairs and throw all our stuff into bags and put them near the garbage until we were panicked enough she thought we learned our lessons. One time she even actually put it In the dumpster.\n   Shes always had a worse relationship with my sister, yelling and hitting each other weekly, and once my mom even called the cops on her on a false claim of domestic abuse. My sister always drew her ire off me because I was really emotionally not ready for the screaming she like to take part in.\n   She wasn't abusive or anything, but she still had a really big effect on me, and I was always a bit scared her.\n   An incident I still remember is when she insulted me about something she knew I was insecure about (\"how does it feel to have a target on your head in pimples?\") And I threw something at her so she chased me, sat on top of me, and tried to wrestle my phone out of my hands by resorting to dirty tactics like hair pulling (I have a sensitive scalp).\n    She does love me and my sister, she just doesn't show it very well. I love her as well, but sometimes I wish she didn't exist.\n   Recently, she's gotten a lot better and stopped drinking. She hasn't broken a thing of ours or threatened me in a while. My sister has always had more of a strained relationship with her, and she's gotten along with our mother just fine, so I keep thinking I should just get over it.\n   I want to get over it, but I keep feeling this deep resentment whenever I see her sometimes. I'm really conflicted about it, but I just feel like I hate her, but also like I owe it to her to try to reconcile. \n\nShe's expressed being upset about it and I don't really feel bad, but when I confided in my close friend she called me an asshole for not getting over the past, but I just can't muster up the want to make our strained relationship good again.\n   I know this isn't an advice sub, and I'm not asking for it, I just wanted to ask for whether I'm being an unreasonable asshole or not, and that requires context. If the description of anything goes against rules, I'll delete or edit it.\nSo, am I a cold hearted asshole for not trying to be in a good relationship with her, and kind of hating her for our conflicts, even though she moved past it?\n(Sorry for format issues)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "A548d28lR2HBLGRqXLuz48eQRRFHkRD7", "post_id": "b9jtl7", "action": {"description": "ditching a radio production group that will ultimately drag my grade down and leave them with a heavier workload due to them not turning up to lectures", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ditching a radio production group that will ultimately drag my grade down and leave them with a heavier workload due to them not turning up to lectures?", "text": "AITA for jumping ship on a radio production group that have done no work in the last months with deadlines a few weeks away to embark on my own show that would inevitably get me a higher grade and give me the peace of mind of being self reliant? Cried in my car for an hour out of stress/guilt and snapped at my lecturer for being told that group work is \u2018a part of life\u2019.  Should I feel awful? Should I suck it up and carry their workload to keep everyone happy? Help me reddit? Please. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cCo7OET2ZYH7QscHdFkCPQqcd8a7QlKn", "post_id": "aabzgt", "action": {"description": "ruining a chance of a promotion for a coworker", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for ruining a chance of a promotion for a coworker", "text": "Hear me out! There are several reasons why I believe this coworker shouldn't have the promotion.   It would have been a promo from office assistant to executive secretary.  She wouldn't be my direct/main secretary but I'd still delegate to her.  These are a few reasons why I made sure an open position went from \"promotion/hire from within\" to \"open/public posting.\"\n\n1.  She's not even a good office assistant.  She has stacks of paperwork to file away but it takes her weeks to do it.  Her excuses have included \"I'm busy\" when she's clearly not, \"I am waiting for more files to make it worth filing away,\" and my favorite, \"I need an assistant to help do it.\"\n\n2.  She's in a fishbowl desk where anyone walking by can see what's on her screen.  She doesn't care that you can see she's on Amazon, Facebook, and celebrity gossip websites.  I've caught her on her personal tablet playing Bubble Witch Saga and Snapchat. Her excuse? \"Others do it/I've been here the longest/it is slow today\"\n\n3.  She gossips too much.  She will intercom me to tell me if another coworker was just getting back from a 2 hour lunch, a celebrity cheated on their SO, or the boss is on a date.  Who gives a shit!!!\n\nEveryone feels bad for her though. She's one of the most tenured employees so she (and everyone else) feels she's entitled to the new position. The bosses feel bad for her and while they acknowledge she's barely filling the duties of an assistant, they hoped she'll improve when she's promoted (\"maybe more responsibilities and pay will get her motivated\").   I'm more practical.  The person filling the position should be the most qualified, and how else to ensure we have the most qualified by opening it up to others, and that's how I convinced them to make the posting public (and by also reminding them how she is currently... tenure and entitlement aren't sufficient reasons for a promotion). \n\nIf she passes the interviews and HR review, then yes she can still potentially get the job ([I doubt it though....  there are other secretaries (higher levels) from other departments who are applying].  But at least she has to compete with others and the job wasn't just handed to her.  \n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QTKUr6i4jNHdIECi6BUwu9UqcH7g30W2", "post_id": "b21l2w", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend over her slave fetish", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking up with my girlfriend over her slave fetish?", "text": "For a little context, me and my girlfriend have been dating for 8 months now.. I'm a black man and she's half-white half-Chinese. She's the funniest person I've ever met and is a legitimately sweet and caring woman.  Safe to say, I'm in love with her, but recently our relationship hit a rough patch.\n\nOne night, she calls me and tells me to come over to her house. She usually only does this when she wants to have sex, so I jump in the car and get there quick. When I get there, it's clear that she's a bit nervous. She invites me in. I ask her what's up and we talk for a bit. She gets all flirty with me, but that's normal and whatever. Then, she finally pops the question.\n\n\"Hey, OP, can we try something different tonight?\"\n\n\"Depends. What do you want to try?\"\n\n\"I know this is gonna sound weird, but I need you to be open-minded and not judge me.\"\n\n\"I'll keep an open-mind, sure.\"\n\nShe reaches to the table behind her and brings out a pair of handcuffs. She explains to me that she always wanted to try a slave/master roleplay with me. She elaborates that she's always had fantasies about completely dominating \"a strong man like myself\", and how her status as a woman in society means that she doesn't have many chances to be \"in control\" when with a man, so she likes to play it out in the bedroom. However, as she goes on, I feel more and more on edge about the situation. Considering that I minored in African-American Studies in college and the simple fact that I'm a black man living in America, I think it's understandable that I'm a bit wary of the implications.\n\nWhen I bring this concern up, she gets defensive. She explains that this isn't a race thing and that she's done this with her non-black boyfriends in the past. She admits that she took a while to bring it up because of my race, as she didn't want me thinking she's racist. I leave, saying I need to think about it.\n\nIt's been a few days and I still don't know what to do. Ever since that night, whenever we've talked, she's brought it up and asked me if I felt that it was okay. I keep dodging the issue though. Every time she asks she seems more frustrated with me. Hell, I'm frustrated in myself for not just sucking it up and doing it for her. I get where she's coming from btw. I get that people don't really have control over what they're turned on by, I have fetishes myself that she's indulged in. However, my conscience is telling me that I can't really do this, and it's looking like this might be a dealbreaker for her and for me. She's perfect in every other way, but this fetish is so against everything I hold myself to.\n\nSo, WIBTA for wanting to break up with her over this?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f5kgKjkCOBhWQ5IUpMRa8CRnEAPKx4pM", "post_id": "b52p05", "action": {"description": "taking my sister's side of the arguments", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking my sister's side of the arguments?", "text": "The title is a bit shaky because i didn't know how to phrase the situation into one sentence.\n\n​\n\nSo, basically, whenever my mom and my sister have an argument in the kitchen after dinner or in the living room or something like that, my mom yells a lot (She's an obnoxious person in general). I feel bad when my sister has to fight with my mom so I take her side whenever I feel as if she's in the right in the situation. I always back up my sister with my opinions and facts and my mom will yell at me and say things like \"stop criticizing me!\" \"stay out of this conversation, this has nothing to do with you!\" I always thought she was over-exaggerating but now it's starting to get to me and making me feel like I should just mind my own business. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iWK4mhurPDkdST92egZktCpyvrLV5lWf", "post_id": "aunbjr", "action": {"description": "leaving a note on our neighbors' door", "pronormative_score": 227, "contranormative_score": 35}, "title": "AITA for leaving a note on our neighbors\u2019 door?", "text": "Howdy, y\u2019all. \n\nSo about a year ago, these 3 gals moved into an apartment in our building. We actually moved from that unit, to another in the same building. The ended up pushing their move-in date a week earlier, and bringing their parents to make demands on their behalf, but were generally polite despite requiring we suddenly clean up a week early for them. \n\nSince then, they\u2019ve taken to ignoring us on the street. We\u2019ve all just tried to be neighborly, but have since given up wasting time on it. The building is in a more expensive part of town, quite \u201cunique,\u201d and the rent is incredibly low. So \u201cit is what it is\u201d has become the motto for this dilapidated gem. Now, about the note...\n\nIt\u2019s their first apartment. They\u2019ve had issues with taking out trash for nearly their entire time here. While there are cans on the roof, most of us just go ahead and take our trash down to the dumpster. The place is owned by an older couple, and having the husband drag our trash all the way downstairs is something we and other tenants would prefer to avoid. Besides, there\u2019s much more important work to be done around the place. \n\nBut these gals can\u2019t even be bothered to bring their trash outside. They just let it pile up outside their door, inside the building, and stink begins to fester. So the owner eventually hauls it all the way outside and downstairs himself. I found him doing this one day, fumed over it for the night, and we wrote a note the next morning. It read;\n\n>\t\u201cLook-\n    Leaving your garbage up here is *trashy*. Leaving it up here to rot & stink up the building is disgusting. But- making it such a problem that other people have to take care of it is **fucking shameful**. Get your shit together, ladies. \nSincerely,\n  Who cares, take care of **your** shit.\u201d\n\n\n\nI feel kinda bad. The wording was strong. But the trash is gone. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 227, "EVERYBODY": 20, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 227, "WRONG": 35}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ICU4l55X4WTQ2fITrE7PmXcpbvDZim6G", "post_id": "ar2166", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my so for gifting me fake flowers", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my SO for gifting me fake flowers?", "text": "So my so lives in a dif country and amazon primed me fake red roses. It wasn\u2019t a joke/gag gift. I asked him if he sent me fake flowers as a joke. It wasn\u2019t. He said, \u201cthey were charging me $100 for less than a dozen roses.\u201d my thing is this, don\u2019t give me shit if it\u2019s a burden on your financial situation, but also don\u2019t give me a last min gift to save face either. I would have been perfectly content with chocolates or a letter. I told him off and thanked him for letting me know that I was worth less than $100. He said he didn\u2019t mean it that way, I say he did unconsciously. My thing is, why tell me the price and tell me it wasn\u2019t worth it? Like $10 chocolates would have been fine, but no, he had to go out of his way to send me fake flowers and tell me natural ones were too expensive. Am I being crazy? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3yrDwlacestUDRhTeEqWtDZhEyDF231D", "post_id": "afpd1z", "action": {"description": "changing the locks on my (cheating) wife and going on holliday", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for changing the locks on my (cheating) wife and going on holliday?", "text": "Wife (32)/ me (33), Live in a fairly big us city. Holliday: napoli, Italy.\n\nBear with me guys, need input.\n\nMy (soon to be ex?) wife and me have been in a relationship for 7 years. We are two well-off people career-wise. My wife have a leader position in marketing, lots of social events at clubs, well paid job. i am living my dream as a fire fighter. However, i have had a shitload of inheritance, so even though she is making 7 figures a year we are equals money wise.\n\nWe have been unable to get kids. Though at first, but after a while we got used to the idea of living a double income no kids relationship, and we are focusing on work and each other, every 3 months enjoying at least 2 weeks or more of exotic hollidays.\n\nAnyway, to the point.\n\nLast couple of months my wife have started recieving texts at night. I am a fast sleeper, and normally my wife will use her phone in bed. She will also fart in bed, when she thinks i am asleep. I find this funny, so i am pretending to be sleeping and never mention. \nHowever, last 2 months increasing frequency of texting, seemingly going on for hours. At first i slept through, but after some days i kept on feeling the vibrations of her phone and started wondering. \nOne night i asked her early on who she is texting with. She just answered \"work stuff honey\" and smiled. I fell asleep, or so she thought, and she kept texting while gigling excitedly for hours.\n\nOne of the last days i couldnt help myself. In a moment of weakness i took her phone while she was out of the room, and snooped. \nI am a pretty shitty guy doing this, i know. Its just that this was something entirely new. She had the same job the last 4 years, and she never act like this for work. \n\nLook and behold, some guy she is texting with is sending pretty graphic pictures of a dick way bigger than mine. Worse, my wife is sending extremely graphic texts and PICTURES back. \n\nI didnt know what to do, feeling the need to puke and all shit falling apart around me. \n\nI did what i do best, pretended to sleep when my wife got back, and lied awake all night (listening to her texting!).\n\nNext morning i fake sleeping as she goes into work (she starts shit early and i was i the start of a 2 week of period). \n\nI dobt know what to do. I feel hatred and bitterness and sadness, but i am not up for a confrontation (this was4 days ago). So, seeing i was on a leave period from work, i go on and order plane tickets to Naples in italy. Before i go i call a locksmith to change the locks. This is my apartement (bought for some of the shitloads of inheritance money described initially), and i can do what i want. My wife still has all her clothes and some important work stuff in the ap.\n\nI hurry out, even taking a flight with a stop over in canada to be able to get the fuck out faster, and before she gets back from work. \n\nNow im in italy. Getting a lot of angry texts from wife and her side of the family. I responded one text with something along the lines of: have fun with mister big-dick, fuck off. Before i turned off my phone she wrote that we need to talk and sort things out.\n\nI am the asshole for isolating myself on another continent for two weeks? I just want to drink alot of red wine, eat pizza and escape reality. Do i have to answer? I mean i wont, but am i an asshole for escaping my problems this way?\nThank you for all advice! \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gN9v61tlYOhg0DMjows1ckaiwsVeI9zh", "post_id": "b7y4j8", "action": {"description": "not telling them I know them", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I don't tell them I know them?", "text": "Long story short, I play a few online games. I made awesome friends on one of them but we had a falling out because at the time I was going through a lot and was kind of an asshole. I'll admit that. I didn't react in a way a friend should have at the time and we stopped being friends. This was years ago.\n\nWell recently that game just sucks for me. It's boring and everyone is quitting anyway. The people left are two faced, liars, or only act like your friend when they want something.\n\nI found a new game to play and the people on it are really cool and fun to talk to, but when I joined the discord server of these new people they started talking about the old game and who they were on there, and they turned out to be the same people who I had the falling out with before.\n\nI'm not the person I was at the time I had the falling out with them. They didn't hate me or anything but we just haven't spoken since then. I'm trying to be a better person and this is the first time I've had fun and felt like I made friends again in a long time, which is something I really need.\n\nWould I be the asshole if I didn't tell them who I was on that game and just kept talking to them? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "brd6oSjkJQBwxEdROrhJvy5sfxJdFZap", "post_id": "am9r5l", "action": {"description": "not sharing my feelings", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Not Sharing My Feelings?", "text": "Hey folks, first time posting here so it might be a bit long.\n\nI\u2019m in high school right now(sophomore, but it shouldn\u2019t matter), and am currently enrolled in choir. It\u2019s the highest level choir we have, and performs 3 - 5 songs at every concert(we have at least 4 concerts a year). It\u2019s a lot of work but I love it because of the work we do and the people I\u2019m surrounded by. Anyways, right now we\u2019re doing a concert about a lot of really tough things to talk about(LGBTQ+, racism, immigration, suicide & depression, etc), and it\u2019s a concert I feel really connected with due to a lot of past experiences I\u2019ve had. One of the songs that another choir did brought up a lot of really hurting memories for me and I ended up bawling my eyes out about halfway through the song. People semi-comforted me, but afterwards when I stopped crying one of my friends(let\u2019s call him Bryan) asked if I wanted to step out and talk about it. I said no because A. It\u2019s an extremely personal family issue that got me, and not something I want to talk about unless it\u2019s with my girlfriend or someone else I\u2019m extremely close with and B. I just don\u2019t like to talk about any issues I have. I know it\u2019s unhealthy, it\u2019s just something I do. But even after I said no he kept asking over and over, and it felt like he was annoyed that I didn\u2019t want to talk. I don\u2019t think he was being an asshole, but it made me feel bad because even though I didn\u2019t wanna talk about anything, it seemed like he got annoyed that I kept saying no. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s0yZlDwI9v4b245wS5dMfD9sjPWMBUNW", "post_id": "aohqk9", "action": {"description": "ghosting a man who's been into me for about two years", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a man who\u2019s been into me for about two years", "text": "Okay, first off, I want to apologize for the possible funky formatting due to me typing this on my phone. \n\nThere was this guy\u2014let\u2019s call him \u201cR\u201d\u2014that has been very flirty and outright with his feelings for about two years, although he got a girlfriend somewhere in that period and closed himself off. Now he\u2019s been single for many months and positive that we are going get together soon, as told to me by one of his friends that was worried about how I felt about this belief he had. \n\nI was completely blown away. Looking back now, he had been very clearly expressing his attraction towards me since the day we met, and it just flew over my head. I have zero experience with boys so it doesn\u2019t necessarily come as a surprise to me that all kinds of flirting and intimate gestures went completely unnoticed by me, but I was extremely panicked that it was R who was doing these things and not someone else that I could easily distance myself from. \n\nThe reason R and I had gotten along so well originally was because we were both a tad bit fucked up from our childhood trauma and resorted to humor as a coping method. The more he got to know me, the more it became obvious that my trauma was a lot worse than he expected, although that didn\u2019t seem to deter him at all. Even after I attempted to commit suicide, he was still right there supporting me and listening to my problems. \n\nAt about the same time I discovered his feelings for me, one of my biggest secrets came out. I had been sexually assaulted repeatedly for the whole time I had known him and a year before we ever met. I was suffering from PTSD and could hardly go outside at this point, much less face him, due to the fact that one of his best friends was the man who had been abusing me all this time (R wasn\u2019t aware of this because I\u2019m far too scared to tell anyone who did it). \n\nAnyway, fast forward a couple weeks, and I\u2019ve completely ghosted him. The last time we spoke to one another was when I confronted him and explained that I am scared of a good percentage of the male population and anything remotely sexual triggers a panic attack. I ended my rant with explaining that I couldn\u2019t be in a relationship with him because I was too much of a mess and I was unsure of the possibility of entering a relationship with anyone within the next ten years because of my anxiety. \n\nHe responded with something along the lines of \u201cwe can get through it together and I can fix you\u201d and ending it off with a \u201cdate next weekend? <3\u201d \n\nI feel extremely bad for ghosting him, especially because he\u2019s apparently had feelings for me for a long time. But I don\u2019t believe he understands what I\u2019m going through and is more focused on our potential relationship rather than how I feel. \n\nSo was I correct in cutting him off or AITA for over-exaggerating my mental health issues and dismissing his feelings?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TnRlwu9MS47COy2vLxyLYhajTBtQPJbE", "post_id": "b61svk", "action": {"description": "telling my friend to leave me alone even though I owe him a video", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend to leave me alone even though I owe him a video?", "text": "So I had this \u201cfriend\u201d (all call him QW for no reason) who I don\u2019t really like, he started off as a decent guy but over time he just came off to me as arrogant, I remember I had my reasons on why I thought he was arrogant but I forgot most of them\n\nContext:\n\nI edit Roblox videos for him but I decided to quit and told him this video was my last one so after I\u2019m done with that, he was not satisfied with it and asked if I can edit it again, me being a doormat, said yes.\n\nso this one day I was ending my own business but I guess I must have left Spotify on because this happened, but on this particular day I was pretty upset and had a mental breakdown and then this happened\n\nQW: Stop hearing Spotify when you are not even done with my Video.\n\nMe: How bout you leave me alone and stop pestering me about your video, I\u2019m currently going though a hard time in my life right now and have a terrible mental health and I constantly have breakdowns and start crying in the middle of the night and right now I just want to be left alone and listen to the music that makes me feel happy\n\nQW: Well, you borrowed loan from the bank and promise to return your money but you can't return the loan and cry in the middle of the night and listen to music. Will the bank even care? WIll the loan be gone?\n\nMe: God can you leave me alone? Do you not have any human emotions? Just let me fucking rest I'm clearly not fucking fit to make your video right now\n\nQW: You're lucky I am no Bank or a shark loaner or you will lose everything. I can give you time if you can tell me when. You promised that you will help me on Holidays cuz you need to study. Now, you're crying.\n\nI was pretty fed up at this point and wanted to think of a come back but I was too upset and tired\n\nMe: Seriously? Using the fact that I'm mentally unstable as a weapon against me?\n\nQW: I am saying that you promised me but now you're crying of whatever it's call. In this case, fine. You can delay the video. Just, try to get better.\n\nI feel like I was in the wrong in this case because I\u2019m the one that owes him the video so tell me, am I the asshole? Sorry for grammar mistakes because I just copied and pasted the conversation instead of typing it out and also because I usually don\u2019t check my grammar", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h8sxHCSWKREIhlb3Ef86dBNS8TkVE6Aj", "post_id": "axoziz", "action": {"description": "getting frustrated with my sick friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting frustrated with my sick friend?", "text": "So my friend is getting over his second lung infection in a row and has been basically out of commission for 2 months. We used to go hang out quite a bit and go out and do cool things. I completely understand him being sick and know that he is unable to really go out too much. I have seen him a few times, but it is either at another friends house or at a coffee shop not to far from us, though he has turned down offers to do anything more adventurous (again which I completely understand and am fine with). \n\nTwo weekends ago he was just finishing up his strong prescription of antibiotics. We had plans to hangout. I had been recently hanging out with another friend that was just getting over the flu and was on medication so she was no longer contagious. He initially canceled on me because he was worried that I might give the flu to him despite me being perfectly healthy. My other friend had to call and explain to him that she was over the flu and not contagious. The antibiotics were strong enough to cause paranoia so again no issues.\n\nLast weekend he said he could not hangout as he still had some symptoms, but should be good by Wed. I texted him today for this weekend and he said that he thinks he might be getting a cold. I asked him if he had any cold symptoms and he said no but his professor was coughing in class... He is worried that he might get a cold and miss his trip he has planed in 8 days. He has been off of antibiotics for two weeks now. His paranoia about getting sick is driving me a bit crazy. I know that he is coming off of a bad experience and can understand why he is worried, but when does it become being a hypochondriac? I have not expressed my frustration to him, only trying to tell him that too much paranoia is unhealthy and thinking that you will become sick tends to be a self fullfilling prophecy.\n\nAm I being an asshole? I really want to make sure my friend is healthy, but am slowly being driven crazy.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N6XVWdRMxJDynoLrJljXF28lwNyWIyDH", "post_id": "b28e1l", "action": {"description": "talking with a girl which has been dumped a few days ago by a friend of mine", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for talking with a girl which has been dumped a few days ago by a friend of mine", "text": "So, for a little bir of background, this couple has been together for about 8 months I guess (don't really know exactly for how much). So after these 8 months, the guy, which we'll call A for simplicity, I've known him since I was 5 and we play baseball together, decides to dump the girl, G, right after school. \n\nI saw G right the next day on the school bus and she was looking sadly out of the window, normally she would be kinda happy or neutral. I didn't ask her anything as I already had some beef with A beforehand, because I said some dumb shit to him about G, thinking that it was funny I guess but being wrong.\n\nSo at school (we go to different schools) I ask my female bestfriend if anything had happened to G, and she says she has been dumped. Now a lot of people that don't really know me well think that I am just a guy who likes making people laugh and entertain people, which is true, but I also have a part of me which is concerned about the mental health of the people around me (because my Female Bestfriend once tried to, well you know) and I wanted to know if everything is alright with her.\n\nSo we start chatting and after a while I invite her to take a coffee with me at a bar on the 15th, just before the Climate Strike, to talk about her and what had happened, but she can't because she has a test. I don't think anything about it until the following day when A tells me that I'm a jerk because I invited his ex to a coffee.\n\nThank you for your time and sorry for any grammatical or ortographical errors", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Z5qc1BPzFRPf62VmFr6Gw8ls5eStL9H7", "post_id": "b0kuza", "action": {"description": "telling my son he cant open his BDay presents", "pronormative_score": 65, "contranormative_score": 81}, "title": "AITA for telling my son he cant open his BDay presents", "text": "Today is my son's 4th birthday. Monday and Tuesday his daycare had to call me because he was misbehaving. In the past we have had some problems and I have done the same thing as always (taking away toys, time out, and writing the alphabet). This morning he woke up and I was very cheerful happy birthday... Etc. However, I did tell him if I get a call from the school that he isn't behaving he won't be allowed to open his presents today. I told my mother this plan and she though I was in the wrong that he's four and deserves to celebrate his birthday fully anyway. Additionally we brought in cup cakes but I told his teacher not to give him any if he wasn't behaving. I'm trying to raise a kid that won't be an a**hole... ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 80, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 22, "INFO": 5}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 65, "WRONG": 81}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Ej8Owb233FHbiBDtPJp8lDnxW2grHTE0", "post_id": "b69iph", "action": {"description": "thinking my friends are badly raised for calling the Beatles shit", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for thinking my friends are badly raised for calling The Beatles shit?", "text": "First of all I wan\u2019t to give a little bit info.\nI am 16 and the only one in my school who likes music like The Beatles, pink floyd, boston, ELO, jimi hendrix, you get the picture. Where my classmates likes criss brown, lil pump, lil uzi, 6ix9ine, and that kind of music.\n\nI\u2019m not the type of person to say my music is better than others because my music is older. I just like what I like. I don\u2019t like what they like. I can here it when i\u2019m with them because thats just what they are going to put on (they don\u2019t want to play my music because they say its \u201cshit\u201d). I wouldn\u2019t play their music at home or for myself though.\n\n\nSometimes after school we go over to a spot and smoke a little bit. Spring is comming so I got the idea to play Here Comes the Sun by The Beatles. They already knew about what I liked to listen to and I knew they would say no, but I still recomented us playing it on the speaker when we smoked. They said \u201cno you listen to some trash music\u201d. I answeared \u201cyou can\u2019t say the beatles are bad they are legendary\u201d. The one I was speaking to looked me straight in the eyes and told me \u201cThe Beatles is shit\u201d. The others agreed.\n\nI\u2019ve never told them their music is trash. I just told them I didn\u2019t like it. I didn\u2019t spit on what they enjoyed.\n\nI\u2019m not saying they are badly raised for not liking the beatles (or same music as I like). Thats okay, you do you. But how can you say they are bad? They wouldn\u2019t reach their legendary status if they were bad. Back in the day, before I was born you couldnt just upload your music to the internet. You needed to be talented, because you needed to get in to a record label. I don\u2019t know all that much about how you used to do it. It IS before I was born after all. My point is you wouldn\u2019t make it if you were shit. You can now. Proof is some of my friends made some music without ever learning what a note was and have gotton faily far. I am happy for them of cause.\n\nThem saying the beatles are shit is like me saying mozart is shit. Yeah I don\u2019t like mozart. Yeah I wouldn\u2019t listen to mozart. But saying mozart is bad wouldn\u2019t make sense. Everything I listen to wouldn\u2019t be pausible without it. \n\nYou are not badly raised for not liking something, but just saying something is bad because THEY don\u2019t like it is my problem.\n\nDo you get what i\u2019m trying to say? Am I the asshole? I\u2019m really tired I think this crybaby needs a nap. I really want to know if i\u2019m right in ANY way at all or if someone could formulate what i\u2019m trying to say better than me, there always are.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9EjT9P2Ry7ezmx1ppgGggnC98eVEfytf", "post_id": "anwyd2", "action": {"description": "asking my employer to help replace my stolen bicycle", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my employer to help replace my stolen bicycle?", "text": " \n\nI live in the city, I ride my bike to work every day.\n\nMy bicycle was stolen from work about 2 months ago. (I work at a fancy hotel) The employees used to park their bikes in a safe and secure spot by the clock in area in the basement, not open to the public. The bikes were perfectly fine there. One day, we were demanded to park our bikes down in the parking garage because we had just purchased a new bike rack, we weren't given a reason why. Most of the employees were unhappy about this executive decision due to the fact that our bikes were perfectly safe where they were. And you know the old saying, \u201cif it ain\u2019t broke, don\u2019t fix it\u201d and that was exactly the case here.\n\nWe promptly followed orders and parked our bikes down in the parking garage basement, which was open to the public. My bike was always locked as well as everybody else\u2019s. Three weeks in, one day after my shift, my bike was stolen. I know bad things happen, and I do my best to prevent things like this from happening, but I was upset, I was told our bikes would be safer there. I was hopeful that the hotel would help me cover expenses for a new bike. A day or two after the incident, all employees were immediately notified they can park their bikes in the original spot, where they are safe. \n\nThe day my bike was stolen I received a call from the director of finance about an hour after the incident. He assured me the executive team thought it would be a good idea to park the bikes downstairs in the garage, but admitted they were wrong. DoF said he would do what he could to help me get some sort of reimbursement, he repeatedly told me, \u201cDon\u2019t you worry, we\u2019ll get this figured out, bud\u201d that really helped at the time and I thanked DoF for his concern. After DoF called, I got a call from C in HR, she was sad about what she heard and strongly advised me to file a police report, which I did. She too told me, \u201cDon\u2019t you worry, we will get this figured out, you will get your bike back\u201d\n\nI hadn't heard a response in 2 months and I felt avoided by staff. I got word today from a new HR director that the hotel will not reimburse me in any way. (She wasn't even employed when this happened)\n\nWe are so quick to refund hundreds of dollars to guests that complain about outside noise, a leaky shower, squeaky bed, and poor housekeeping service.\n\nBut when it comes to a stolen bike, due to a poor executive decision, where\u2019s the love?\n\ntl;dr Bikes used to be stored in a secure area, the executive team asked all employees to move bikes in a garage downstairs, with no security, open to the public, no camera and well hidden from the public eye. It's an easy spot to steal bicycles due to its secluded location. My bike was stolen 3 weeks in, the lock was cut off, and the executive team decided they made the wrong decision in asking us to park down in the garage, all employees were immediately notified they can park the bikes in the original spot, where they are safe. My $500 Marlin Trek 5 was stolen and the hotel won't help in any way.\n\nAm I the asshole for asking my employer to help replace my bike?\n\nThank you all", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "H4y93xeQRHX55Sd2oEbwqj1ArIpK7cRt", "post_id": "b984mf", "action": {"description": "not allowing an ex-housemate into my current house", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not allowing an ex-housemate into my current house?", "text": "The usual mobile formatting disclaimer applies. \n\nOkay, so I (21F) currently live with my partner (21M) in a house by ourselves. Last year we were sharehousing with another couple (21F, 21F). \n\nI used to be friends with the other couple who will be referred to as N and D. During our time sharing, our friendship sort of broke down. They treated my boyfriend very badly, told me I was too good for him, and were consistently hypocritical in what they expected him to do, vs what they would do (e.g. they wanted him to clean the lounge when it was their stuff, they would expect him to do things that they wouldn't do, clean the showers, etc) . \n\nBefore we moved in, I was very close with N, and after we moved out, I was willing to give her another chance as a friend, with the understanding that she could dislike my partner, but any negative thoughts she had about him would be kept to herself or I'd leave. \n\nI also said I'd try to mend our friendship, but she'd still not be welcome in my house, simply because my partner is not comfortable with her being in his home, and I side with him (my logic is that he pays rent, so he gets a say in who comes in our home). \n\nHowever, our wider friendship circle (who we kept out of the conflict because we didn't want them to feel like they had to choose sides) has started to comment on the fact that I never invite N to our hangouts and called me an ass. \n\nI feel like I'm respecting my partner's boundaries and his wishes about who comes in the house that he helps pay for. \n\nSo Reddit, AITA for not letting someone that makes my partner uncomfortable in our shared home? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3RKSWpIEVW1psV85twPmu9fys6IjP6Mc", "post_id": "atflsf", "action": {"description": "refusing to talk to my grandpa", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to talk to my grandpa?", "text": "So this requires a bit of back story so bare with me. I have fond memories of growing up and visiting my moms parents. They were definitely the spoil us rotten type of grandparents. They would buy us gifts everytime we visited, would take us on beach vacations every summer, and would smother us with material things. When I was about 8 or 9 my grandparents sold their land to a big condo developer for millions of dollars. That's when I can remember things started changing. My sister who is 3 years older continued to get this treatment but I seemed to be pushed away ever so slowly. I remember that There were a few summers they only wanted to see my sister and not me. My sister would get lavish birthdays that cost thousands and every gift she wanted and I wouldnt even get so much as a card. These types of things escalated through the years even with them showing her more physical affection then I and refusing to give me a hug or say I love you.\n\nThe point that sticks in my mind is when we each turned 14 we were promised a week vacation to anywhere in the world for graduating middleschool and entering high school. My sister chose Italy and they went and gave her the royal treatment, all expenses paid, 5 star everything. When I turned 14 i said I wanted to go Japan, they simply said No, I said ok how bout Germany? Again they said no. I asked my Mom and Dad why they  acted like they loved my sister more and it seemed like they didnt love me the same. My dad and mom said they always wanted a granddaughter and not a grandson and my whole life they treated and loved her better then me. They were still well off and it wasnt a financial thing. I decided that my feelings had been hurt enough and refused to speak to them or see them anymore. When this happened they became verbally abusive to me and would leave voicemails calling me a \"fag\", a bitch and piece of shit for not talking to them. I remember one voicemail in particular my grandma said she would wait til i was asleep and cut off my balls so I would really be the victim I was acting like\n\nFast forward 2 weeks ago, i have not seen or spoken to them in 15 years. I received a facebook message from my grandpa saying \"hi matt hows my favorite grandson\" *its a joke im the only grandson* At first i wanted to respond but realized I just didnt care enough. The past few years their health has been declining so I assumed this is a last chance forgiveness thing before it is to late. I feel guilty that I still havent responded but its been so long that I really dont have any feelings about it either like...I just dont really care. I dont have any ill will towards them or anger but I feel like id be faking it if I replied all happy and excited with genuinely have zero interest in their lives right now. I know I should be forgiving and people ive talked to said that if they died tomorrow id regret it but I just dont see that being true...so what are your thoughts? AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sjT0JtZhpVDme8xXR6g90nces0DbS87C", "post_id": "b7vdza", "action": {"description": "refusing to move my buggy and giving a middle aged couple the middle finger", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to move my buggy and giving a middle aged couple the middle finger?", "text": "Hear me out here. It\u2019s quite possibly I am an asshole but at the time it didn\u2019t feel like it. \n\nMy husband and I had been shopping, with our 4 month old. We returned to the car park, a large multi-storey affair and while my husband was loading up the car, I was stood next to the car with the baby in the buggy. The whole thing was less than 2 minutes and we weren\u2019t dawdling. \n\nIn front of where the parking spaces are there\u2019s a small walkway marked out for pedestrians to safely enter the shopping centre. This is where I was stood, with the buggy, by the car. I was in no one\u2019s way. A space just adjacent to our car was free and a middle aged couple were manoeuvring to reverse into the space. (Crap diagram- https://i.imgur.com/oIWwpdZ.jpg - cars are blue squares. I am the red dot standing on pedestrian area next to our car) \n\nSuddenly I heard a bit of a kerfuffle and looked over, realising they were motioning and shouting at me to move. We were literally less than 30 seconds away from having baby out of the buggy and into her car seat, so I asked them to wait a minute.\n\nThey then pull their windows down and ask (well, yell really) again for me to get out of the way. My husband then said \u201cthere\u2019s more than enough room for you to get into that space and my wife is standing on a pedestrian area.\u201d \n\nThey huffed, but then managed to quite easily get into the space. Just as I was taking baby out of buggy they then purposefully drove forward out of the space straight at me and baby and shouted out of their window \u201cSorry just straightening up\u201d \n\nAt that point I was thoroughly irritated. I shook my head at them, stared them both in the eye and gave them the middle finger because I couldn\u2019t think of anything more inventive to be honest. \n\nI felt like a complete petulant child afterwards but there was more than enough space for them to get in, there were loads of other free spaces and we were already in the process of getting ready to leave when we arrived - they surely could have waited. \n\nAm I the asshole?   \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5HmyQazSyp9XuIFIbctXHu2NYcOGddz0", "post_id": "ba3n4e", "action": {"description": "letting the dog chewed my wifes dr. ho. therapy device", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "Aita for letting the dog chewed my wifes dr. Ho. Therapy device", "text": "Tl/dr at bottom\n\nBackstory,  our dog chewed my headphones (199 dollar value) after my youngest child  was using it on his Nintendo switch and had left them both on the couch, I was at work still he grabbed the top of them first and she stopped him but didnt put them up on the book shelf , but he then chewed the wire and they're garbage now. Well she fell asleep watching t.v. after using the device for her shoulder, and I know the dog likes anything with wires so I said  not my problem to myself. Well this morning our oldest told my darling bride the good news.\n\nTl/dr  dog chewed my headphones wife did nothing, so I did nothing last night and he destroyed her pain therapy device", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mm5JPkgTJGHH55TU82oBS40pMueTw15o", "post_id": "ae0y8j", "action": {"description": "thinking only one of these cops should be memorialized", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for thinking only one of these cops should be memorialized?", "text": "Two policemen who lived in my neighborhood have died recently in separate incidents. One of them was shot on duty and the other was hit by a drunk driver while off duty. Many neighbors are talking about some kind of memorial at the neighborhood park. AITA for thinking that if we even do this,  shouldn't it  only be for the cop who got shot while trying to protect us and not for the guy who got killed by a drunk driver, who happens to be a cop? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gIjuT2RoOb3GNo1APplFtOcIBgBI92Ak", "post_id": "aoe4fu", "action": {"description": "not telling my boyfriend not to watch porn while I'm in the house", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not telling my boyfriend not to watch porn while I\u2019m in the house?", "text": "My boyfriend and I recently moved in together. He is 25, and I am 18. We\u2019ve been dating for four months. A couple weeks after we moved in together, I walked in on him masturbating. I kind of freaked out because I didn\u2019t see why he needed to do that when I was in the house and he could have just had me. He explained that he sometimes wanted to just take care of himself and not go to the trouble of having sex every time he was horny. He also said that our relationship would be unpleasant if we demanded sex from each other whenever we wanted. I agreed with him and calmed down. He also had to convince me that watching porn isn\u2019t a form of cheating.\n\nI don\u2019t know how often most men masturbate a day, but I think my boyfriend must be above average. Since we had that talk two weeks ago, I have walked in on him masturbating five or six times. I decided to start knocking before I went into our room so that he could tell me if he was doing it. This failed because he always wears his headphones while doing it. I asked him to just watch it without the sound, but that didn\u2019t work because he MUST have the volume on while he\u2019s watching porn. He eventually said that he would stop wearing headphones but didn\u2019t expand beyond that.\n\nThat just made everything worse. Now what he does is watch porn with the volume all the way up multiple times a day. We have thin walls, so I can hear it from any room in our apartment and I guarantee the neighbors can, too. Today, I stormed in on him and said that he couldn\u2019t watch porn while I was in the house at all. He said that wasn\u2019t fair and offered to watch without the sound, but I said things have gone to far. I no longer feel comfortable being anywhere near porn.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LkAscmBKatvXlWd1QolIBM1UesVzUuyr", "post_id": "audy3l", "action": {"description": "telling my neighbor she should toilet train her kids", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my neighbor she should toilet train her kids?", "text": "Ok so my neighbor has three children same as me. Hers are ages 7, 5, and 4 years old. Mine are a bit younger. Our kids like playing together and I often hear her telling them to go over to my place so she can have some peace and quiet lol.\n\nThat's ok but the thing is she doesnt bother to dress them. On the weekend, they will run around in only a nappy (diaper) and nothing else. I feel so bad for these kids they will literally be in what looks like the same nappy for the whole day. I really think they are well old enough to be using the toilet and some of the other children in the street including mine ask them why they still wear nappies. It doesn't really seem to bother them though.. the only one using the toilet is the 7 year old. \n\nThe other thing is they come inside my place without pants on and want to sit on the couch and watch tv and I feel like a arsehole coz it grosses me out these visibly wet with pee nappies and I ask them to please go home and put pants on or play outside.\n\nShould I tell their mum to pull her head in and toilet train her kids so they stop being teased at school. I have to add there is nothing stopping them from wearing underwear and using the toilet its just their mum being lazy.\nOr should I simply mind my own  business?\nAITA ?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gK3Wg9FwWDhIYdE4V46sGuYcI76vnduf", "post_id": "a1m2s8", "action": {"description": "not giving a homeless guy a drink", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving a homeless guy a drink?", "text": "I was on my way downtown to meet some friends on a nice hot summer day. I realized I forgot to eat lunch and probably wouldn't eat for a while. All of a sudden, a wild white castle appears. Of course I pull into the drive-thru and picked myself up some sliders. \n\nShortly after I got on the freeway and was stuck in some stop and go traffic. I noticed a homeless man on the side of the freeway panhandling. He approached my car and something came over me. I rolled down the window and handed him my entire sack of untouched sliders. Good, right?\n\nAs I was pulling a way to keep up with the traffic he shouted at me and asked \"Hey, do you have a drink in there?\" I did not get a drink from white castle because I had a bottle of water(trying to be healthy). I was somewhat insulted that he'd ask me for more after I gave him what would have been my lunch. I shook my head no in disgust, laughed(disappointedly) and drove off.\n\nAITA for not giving him my water?\n\nAlso, AITA for being upset that he asked me for a drink?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "urpP6xOlsFhu5Zvo45brTADEB91CEr0s", "post_id": "ahmq5f", "action": null, "title": "AITA My mom gave my son a valuable gift and gave my daughter a napkin", "text": "Ok title is a little clickbaity but I couldn't explain the whole context in the title.\n\nMy mom has six grandkids. Three boys and three girls. They were all born within six years of each other. A few years ago, when the youngest turned eighteen, we had a family reunion.\n\nAt the reunion, my mom had everyone sit down. She pulled out six items and distributed them to each grandchild.\n\nThese were family heirlooms. My mom is from Europe and her great uncle died in World War One. In his belongings were items that my mom has no idea of their worth. There were three of this item which she gave to my son and the other two grandsons.\n\nThen she pulled out three neatly ironed and folded table cloth napkins. They had been embroidered with the new last name of her great great (I don't know how many greats) grandmother from the late 1800s on her wedding day. This apparently was a custom back then for a new bride to do this and the napkins have been handed down for generations.\n\nThese were amazing, sentimental gifts. \n\nThere is only one problem however.\n\nIn the days after the reunion, my son went to have his gift appraised. Hold on to your seats for this.\n\nIt was appraised at $75,000.\n\nHe said he could sell it and do this and that with the money and I told him don't you dare. My mother obviously had no idea what she was doing and what the value of those items were. \n\nOf course, my daughter's napkin had no monetary value at all. \n\nI told him if he does sell it, to do so after mom dies (she is in her 80s), and that he should give half to his sister.\n\nHe sulked a little at this, saying that she has a college degree and works for a great company. He never went to college and doesn't make what she makes.\n\nI'm at a loss. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 65, "OTHER": 85, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 44, "INFO": 8}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 129, "WRONG": 72}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bIBj2bXfIKCgXOw8XHTxqDeg19pRQ9Q6", "post_id": "az6ltc", "action": {"description": "traveling with someone I hooked up with", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for traveling with someone I hooked up with?", "text": "Basically I decided to go on a camping road trip with a good friend of mine to visit some of my friends at different colleges. My gf did not want me to go with the friend because I drunkenly hooked up with the friend months earlier, before I was dating my gf. The friend and I have zero feelings towards each other and she is in a committed relationship. My gf, my friend, her bf, and myself are all friends as well, and trust each other. Am I the Asshole for going on this trip?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mBYmCBZmOh9Ub8J6uoIZD62iVUrJonl0", "post_id": "agdmb3", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with a longtime female friend because she cut her hair", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hang out with a longtime female friend because she cut her hair?", "text": "I know this seems bad, but hear me out\n\nI\u2019ve been friends with this girl I know from school for about 4 years now, she\u2019s the one who started talking to me, she\u2019s basically the one who created this friendship. I found her extremely attractive, about a 8/10 to me. However she never expressed any interest in me other than as a friend. Yeah yeah, I\u2019m friendzoned, I get it. She also has a boyfriend, so a lot of the times we hang out I\u2019m being third wheeled. Anyways, about two weeks ago she shaved 90% of her hair off because she wanted to try a new style. I didn\u2019t say anything, of course, because it was her choice, not my place to criticize her for how she wants to represent herself.  But I found myself WAY less attracted to her. Like, I don\u2019t want to look at her any more. This allowed me to really be able to see her personality, rather than her body. And no, she\u2019s not a bitch, she\u2019s not a thot, she\u2019s actually really nice. But she\u2019s SO GOD DAMNED BORING. She barely ever says anything that interests me. She only talks about her weird problems that aren\u2019t really that big. She always barely responds to my conversations. She\u2019s basically just super dry. And I don\u2019t really like talking to her any more. I\u2019m not gonna ghost her, just maybe distance myself. I think that I\u2019m probably an asshole for this, but I just wanted to hear your guys\u2019 opinions.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "f72Plu0lXbmF1s8jDGCdEIxQkN07AKYw", "post_id": "aoi33h", "action": {"description": "using the handicap toilets when I am not handicapted", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA If I use the handicap toilets when I am not handicapted.", "text": " Am I a asshole if I use the Handicap toilet when I am not handicapped. I genuinely wanna know if it is a asshole move to do this so I don't do it again.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KcfO78V2imjgfxLPOgZdQmQQmnchZsm2", "post_id": "b5gs9f", "action": {"description": "not supporting my girlfriend's friendship with another man", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not supporting my girlfriend's friendship with another man?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 3 years and we have not had any problems all this time. We started dating in highschool when I was a junior and she was a sophomore. This past year I have graduated and since then been in the Army causing us to only see each other for about 2 and a half weeks in 9 months. She always tells me how much she misses physical affection and feels being loved in person. \n\nHowever, the past couple of weeks have been a change in mood with her once she met a new guy friend. She told me that they were going to go to the senior prom as friends which didnt bother me. As time went on I started to hear more and more about this guy and she would always tell me about how he comforts her and he makes her feel happy and that its nice to have someone there with her physically that cares. \n\nThe other day she told me that they went to the movies and to dinner alone together and that on the way home she held his hand in the car but she claimed it was an \"in the moment thing\" and that it didnt mean anything. After that I told her how i really felt about the situation but she is not willing to change anything. \n\nAm I the asshole for not liking their friendship and that I do not like where it is heading to?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 26, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FEOLmMcUnDZDzcGVi2bL4y1KnwofD8ny", "post_id": "ahc3v4", "action": {"description": "kicking the new kid out of our group", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for kicking the new kid out of our group?", "text": "This happened earlier today. I'm a Belgian teenager (16) and after the winter holidays, there was a new kid in our school. He is in the same class as my 2 best friends. They were complaining about him because according to them he's really boring and annoying. At first he followed one of the cool kids around but he just ignored and avoided him. By accident, I happen to stand next to him and decide to talk to him. He seemed a bit socially akward but not as bad as I imagined him to be. After our talk we move on.\n\nThe next day, we have recess and it's the only time our whole group can be together. After a couple of minutes of catching up with my friends, I notice the new kid standing behind me outside of our group listening to us while he was on his phone texting some people. Once my friends saw him as well they started to make eye contact with me. One of my friend decided to walk away and at first I was confused but I followed him and so did the rest of our group and the new kid. My friends got pissed that he followed them but they just kept ignoring him, moving from spot to spot. I thought that this couldn't go on so I talked to the new kid and took him away from our group. I introduced him to some new people outside of our group and I told those People (after introducing him) to take good care of him because he's new. The group I introduced him to are friends that I know like to take care of the new kids so I thought that it might work out. Later that day, during lunch, I saw the new kid hanging out with that group so I thought this mess was over.\n\nToday during recess I realize that the new kid is standing behind me again and one of my friends decides to bail again. But this time the rest stays and the new kid comes to stand in our circle. He is on his phone texting and occasionally joins our conversation By asking one question and then he goed back to textinh on his phone. I know he didn't mean to be rude but it really came over that way. Evertone realises that he's here but doesn't do anything about it. After a couple of minutes of akward silence I decide to Tell him that certain members of our group are not fond of him and that it was maybe better that he hung out with the other group. I take him to the group again and introduce him once more (there were different People in the group than the ones he met yesterday) and I informed them about the situation. They obviously said that I just wanted to drop him of here so I wouldn't be bothered. My defence was that if the new kid were to stay in our group that there would be trouble and such. (Which I didn't make up, I actually think that could have happened). I told them to really take care of him because he's new and I apologized to the new kid. He seemed disappointed but not mad.\n\nI just feel like that introducing him to new group and maybe letting him make some actual friends over there would be better than you say nothing and keep ignoring him in our group. It's obviously my mistake because I shouldn't have been so inviting as my friends told me later.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "58ycS21LyGaOteG2QlHrJuPJiRXXVSQq", "post_id": "b34zjx", "action": {"description": "hanging out with another girl and not telling my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for hanging out with another girl and not telling my girlfriend?", "text": "I apologize for not including a significant amount of details but [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/b3415c/just_broke_up_with_my_22m_4_year_girlfriend_21f/) is my post on r/relationship_advice that gives the full story. Basically, while my girlfriend was out of town visiting family, I (male) went to hang out with my friend (who is a girl) and didn't tell my girlfriend about it, because of her trust issues. I don't have an interest in this girl and her boyfriend was there. My girlfriend went through my text messages without me knowing and found out about it, when she then told me that she had been cheating on me with someone that she works with. I can't get into the full details because of the character limit and don't want to try to get close to the limit and leave things out anyway, so please read my other post for the full details. \n\n​\n\nAITA here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6ZgLktuDR91LFcQaMUyPDc1Z0OGWH9zK", "post_id": "b3mxgx", "action": {"description": "cutting off all communication with my friend because she lied to me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "WIBTA for cutting off all communication with my friend because she lied to me?", "text": "So basically to start, I\u2019ve always thought I was good at creative writing. Hell it the only thing I *felt* good at. It just felt natural with me. \n\nUntil I entered creative writing class as an elective this year. I slowly started to notice everyone else was better than me and got really discouraged. I was debating whether or not to hand an assignment in when my friend, who I met in an English class last year asked to read my stuff.\n\nSo I reluctantly let her and another of our classmates read it. They praised the story. They offered criticisms of course, which I explicitly asked for. Multiple times. I even said that they should tell me if it\u2019s straight up awful and I\u2019ll just scrap the whole thing and start again. But no they said they liked it a lot and that it was clear, easy to read, and original. \n\nSo I trusted them and handed it in. After all, they\u2019re better writers than me and must know what they\u2019re talking about, right?\n\nWell either they didn\u2019t or they lied to my fucking face. I bombed that assignment. Not only that, but the prof basically wrote in the notes section that completely went against what they said. While they said it was easy to read, clear, and original, the prof, (being an author himself) said it was clich\u00e9d, illogical, and incredibly confusing. He also said it doesn\u2019t even sound like the writer know what he\u2019s writing about. \n\nIt\u2019s not the fact that he wrote that that gets me. It\u2019s that my friend outright lied to my face. When I asked her to tell me how awful it is, if it is, multiple times. And I told her several times when we met for lunch and stuff that lying is by far the worst offence you could do to me. Aside from doing extreme things like killing my whole family and shit like that. But you get the point right? \n\nI hate being lied to. All my friends know this. I don\u2019t care if the truth hurts. I need it. Because when I don\u2019t hear it, I go and I embarrass myself. I feel deeply hurt and betrayed because I trusted what she was saying was true. I feel like an idiot. I\u2019m normally forgiving but this is where I draw the line, and it\u2019s the one thing I have a really hard time forgiving. (You could literally punch me in the face out of nowhere and I\u2019d probably forgive you.)\n\nWIBTA if I told her I\u2019m not going to be talking to her anymore? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zxCs7oKGt6w0SqB1hrNmKddXNuDhZYVz", "post_id": "ao81go", "action": {"description": "not taking back a best friend who tried to get with my gf", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not taking back a best friend who tried to get with my gf?", "text": "A year ago gf got blackout at party, and my best friend at the time moved in and started kissing her. I told him I wouldn\u2019t fk with him anymore. \n\nAfter some fights and discussion, I gave gf another chance, and she hasn\u2019t blacked out or misbehaved since. \n\nHowever, I still refused to get back with my old friend, because of a few reasons - he made a move on another one of his best friends girlfriends, and he has shown multiple times that he doesn\u2019t have impulse control (can\u2019t kick alcoholism, continues to creep on girls after getting told no, etc.) Basically I have every reason to believe he would do it again. And admittedly, part of the reason I was disgusted moreso with him than my gf was that she was clearly incapacitated while he was not so much, and we had been friends for ~10 years before this. You don\u2019t betray someone you go back that far with, imo. \n\nMy friend group still hangs out with this guy, and when there are gatherings he will be at, I choose not to go because I don\u2019t feel like being around the dude. However, others are saying I should get over it and come and hang out with everyone. I said I would if he\u2019s not around, or if it\u2019s an important event to someone (wedding, anniversary, etc.)\n\nThe old friend still tries to talk to me and apologize, and I tell him I forgive him, but I\u2019d rather not be around him going forward. \n\nAITA for not accepting my old friend back into my life after a year?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vLQIAFWtiSc9lpMxXuhYFnBuLtRiQsdY", "post_id": "akd4ap", "action": {"description": "being annoyed that my aunt bought Waterford crystal as a wedding gift", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 52}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed that my aunt bought Waterford crystal as a wedding gift?", "text": "My wife and I got married last year. We created a registry at Bed Bath and Beyond with all of the standard \u201cyoung couple\u201d items - plates, silverware, pots and pans, etc.  We got married fairly young and didn\u2019t have a lot of nice, grown-up things.  My aunt is quite wealthy, very generous, and very old-fashioned.  At the wedding shower, she gave us four sets of Waterford crystal wine glasses and a Waterford vase.  She told us that \u201ceveryone needs to have a set of Waterford in their home.\u201d  I expect that she spent about $1,000 in total. \n\nThe glasses and vase are very nice. We use the vase, but literally have not touched the glasses.  They are very fragile and they have to be washed by hand. We don\u2019t want to use them at a party because we don\u2019t want to break them. In short, they are a pain in the ass. \n\nI appreciate my aunt\u2019s rationale, but I would have much rather received something from our registry, like plates and dishes. If she was going to go off the registry, and spend that much money, then I wish she had asked friends and family for some insight. \n\nSo, am I the asshole for being annoyed by my aunt\u2019s generous, but useless, gift?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 51, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 15, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 52}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZO7i4Q4dtVGgEM8GbZWsLtrpgmB18Q20", "post_id": "b2agub", "action": {"description": "not being willing to accept liability for my renter's dog", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not being willing to accept liability for my renter\u2019s dog.", "text": "My wife and I recently purchased a home. We decided to finish the basement and live there while renting out the top of the house. In our search for a renter most of the applicants had pets so we decided to allow somebody to move in with a poodle and charge them a deposit and pet rent.\n\nThings have been mostly fine. Our renter mentioned there were some broken slabs in our wood fence in the backyard which we promptly fixed. Other small things have come up that we\u2019ve fixed as well.\n\nUnfortunately, we\u2019ve noticed that our renter doesn\u2019t take the best care of their dog. The dog will be left in a kennel upstairs for hours during the day and it clearly has issues with this, barking constantly such that it sounds very scared. We can also hear the kennel moving around as though the dog is trying to escape. We\u2019ve mentioned this to them, but nothing was done to resolve this.\n\nRecently, the renter\u2019s mother came into town with her baby brother. I guess they don\u2019t want to dog to be free in the house with the toddler around because they started to leave the dog in the kennel while the mother and brother were home. The dog\u2019s terrified barking at being in the kennel must have bothered the mother because they started to leave the dog outside during the day. Unfortunately, the poodle received a typical poodle haircut, being shaved around the body with tufts of hair left on the head and feet. This is a problem as it can be very cold outside and the dog has been left out while it\u2019s snowing with no dog house or shelter for it to stay warm in. I\u2019d bring it into my part of the house but we have two cats that are terrified of dogs.\n\nThe dog has become restless and started to escape. We have a small gate on the side of the house that the dog has been squeezing through or jumping over, I\u2019m not sure which. The renter is now insisting that we replace the gate ASAP and that she is paying us additional pet rent to keep her dog safe.\n\nAITA for taking my time replacing the gate and telling our renter that, although we\u2019d like her dog to be safe, we have no responsibility in the matter? It\u2019s her job to make sure the dog is well taken care of. Additionally, we\u2019ve been clear that her pet rent and deposit is to protect our property against any potential wear and tear or damage that can occur as a result of her dog. The renter has become increasingly aggressive, suggesting that \u201cwe\u2019ll have a problem\u201d if her dog goes missing because it\u2019s escaped.\n\nOn a side note, I\u2019ve never seen her take her dog on a walk or interact with it in the backyard. She\u2019s called it her most valuable possession, but she certainly hasn\u2019t treated it like it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kTNLE01NS0AkTV0PZhh9uHddlH6Z24yg", "post_id": "ard7qh", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this conversation with a girl from a dating app", "text": "I was texting with this girl from a dating app and she ghosted me, even though we were planning on meeting. Here is our last conversation:\n\nme: well where's your smile to prove how cute you are\n\nher: you can see my smiles on \\[dating app\\]\n\nme: they're not mine though!\n\nher: Im not wearing make up so you aren\u2019t getting anything tonight \ud83d\ude02\n\nme: Boo lol. Makeup is so overrated\n\nher: Makeup is fun!\n\nMe: But who doesn\u2019t like the real thing\n\nher: Makeup is the real thing!\n\nme: It\u2019s a real thing but guys don\u2019t care about that.\n\nher: Lol yes they do, also I wear makeup because I like it not because I want men to like me\n\nme: Which is true but I can tell you that men like the authentic you. Make up everyone knows is a gimmick\n\nher: Except when I don't wear makeup and then people ask if I'm tired or sick\n\nme: Why you labeling me with people? If I like what I see I like what I see right?\n\nher: Yeah I don't think this is going to work. Like if you want to date someone who doesn't wear makeup that's fine but that's not me\n\nme: What? No one said they had a problem with it. I\u2019m saying I don\u2019t have an issue without it either. I\u2019m not really superficial\n\nShe didn't answer that or a few other messages I sent later. I just don't know if she was over reacting or if I did something wrong. AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Gl6F7c6xMvTO1PKP4EDweFqUhwwvDkIz", "post_id": "aamqph", "action": {"description": "getting tired of my sister crying", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "aita for getting tired of my sister crying?", "text": "for a little context i am 15 and my sister is 19\nshe has a different father\n\nanyways for christmas my grandfather sent me 50 dollars and didnt send my sister anything, this happens every year and every year she cries and complains about it. so this year she was doing her crying and complaining talking about how he doesnt love him and stuff like that and i got really annoyed and just said to get a grip and that this happens every year so why be suprised. My mom got really mad and started lecturing me and now she is letting me only have half of the 50 while giving the other half to my sister. I thought this was stupid because it is not her money to just choose how gets it (my grandpa should be the one to decide that) but i didnt say anything. So after all of this im stuck with half the money and everyone is mad at me.\n\nAITA?\n\n(sorry if bad english, its my second language)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0bb6s88Ibqxv3IaJaFGFaOZqdMGaHo6y", "post_id": "b3s3ub", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend when he doesn't go to class", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend when he doesn't go to class?", "text": "My boyfriend and I are both in college--I'm in politics and hes in engineering chemistry.  He constantly complains about how he is struggling in school.  I am always there for him when he's struggling; however, I believe that he would find his program a lot easier if he went to all of his classes.  He skips quite a few lectures, often saying that they're \"useless\", even though he still is not doing well in the course.  \n\nI know in the past he's done this but still done extremely well in the course, but this term he's told me he's seriously worried about failing.  I've gotten tired of hearing him complain while still not making the effort he should to go to lecture.  Ive asked him to go to his classes as a favour to me, but he still skips some lectures claiming theres \"no point to go to those ones anyways\".  Now I constantly check to make sure he goes, and let him know I am disappointed when he skips.  I just want him to be successful.\n\nAITA for giving my boyfriend a hard time for skipping lectures?-'", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RuBBr3LmzQeNrorp55ydpp2EHuhrTDfa", "post_id": "b2dg2c", "action": {"description": "refusing to let my girlfriend move her dog in with us", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to let my girlfriend move her dog in with us?", "text": "Girlfriend\u2019s dog has lived with her parents since she went away to college.  She and I moved in together last November.  Since then she\u2019s made comments about missing him and wanting to bring him to live with us.  \n\nThe problem is that we both lead really hectic lives.   We are rarely home for more than a few hours before going to bed and then getting up and doing it all over again.  Also we have live in the city and have no backyard.  I understand that she misses him, but her parents are retired and live in the country.  It\u2019s a way better life than what we would be able to provide for him.  I love dogs, but they are a lot of work.  Needy balls of love that my girlfriend and I just don\u2019t have the time for.  \n\nMy girlfriend disagrees and says that if she had him it would give her a reason to be home more.  She\u2019s angry that I won\u2019t even try for a month, but I just know once he\u2019s here, he\u2019d be staying.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "waUAVClTg8nZ4bs09geV8vfhn7MAtGiB", "post_id": "b2redb", "action": {"description": "wanting to feel as good as I can be", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to feel as good as i can be", "text": "So I've decided to take up exercising, since it makes me feel good about myself for once and helps me work through depression and anxiety, plus it's a good outlet for my aggression. It's mostly been small stuff so far (afternoon walks through the cemetery because that's where all the pok\u00e9-stops are, wii fit plus, wii sports boxing (I'm almost to matt!)) Today i had more homework than usual (creating a whole app for coding) and thus i wasn't able to get my exercise in at my usual time (5:00). After dinner, i began to work on exercising, and then my dad barges in. He wants me to get off, but I'm barely even halfway done. He then proceeds to make me get off my game and go upstairs to bed. I was planning on sleeping at around ten, and I don't want to skip out on exercise even once because i fear I'll get back into my old habits again. He says sleep is more important, but I don't get as many good feelings from sleep than i do from exwrcise. Am i being irrational? Please let  me know, please and thank you", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jmKG5btJBwh6iSK6g1aUybQdKFNfTtzY", "post_id": "b9loq9", "action": {"description": "calling out toxic coworkers", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out toxic coworkers?", "text": "Two of my coworkers have a habit of trying to leave early on their shifts a few times a month or so.\n\nAfter having enough of being screwed over by being alone during Customer rushes, I acted and essentially told my boss what was happening - essentially getting them all in trouble for it. This obviously won't help their opinions of me...\n\nAm I the asshole?\n\nIn my opinion the added stress is unfair just so they can chill.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "q1k6LVNAVBj4grTBAAfC94mKWMd0ypej", "post_id": "aom76n", "action": {"description": "asking when we should cook food", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking when we should cook food?", "text": "My friend and I have a history of misunderstandings stemming from the tone of our voices and unintended emphasis on certain words (we will often misinterpret each other's feelings). Today, we were planning on cooking a specific dish but I needed to finish some work. After I finished, I asked him in person if he wanted to cook now. He responded if you want to cook it, you can. I wasn't really sure what that meant, so I asked again with the span of a few minutes whether he wanted to cook with the same response that if I want to cook it, I can. Then I asked \"do you want to or do you not want to cook?\" to which he gave me a look and replied that I didn't have to get frustrated about it and that his schedule does not revolve around me. He then said he wanted to finish watching an episode of a show he's watching. I'm overall confused by this interaction and am not sure whether I did something wrong.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CsH4VjoRSRVDFlOogPPPB19pMjqL6h6G", "post_id": "b4nhuw", "action": {"description": "not hanging out with my boyfriend while he is currently 'running away' from his parents", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not hanging out with my boyfriend while he is currently 'running away' from his parents?", "text": "Notes: I'm 18, he's 17. We've been dating for almost 6 months and even though we're young, I see this becoming a long-term relationship. We've both been in relationships before and feel that this is our first \"true\" relationship. I also live in VA, which might be important when it comes to laws harboring minors and all that.\n\nI'll be calling him Adam.\n\nRecently, Adam has decided that he's running away from home. This is mainly due to his mom. She makes him pay for his own things (groceries, hospital bills) and she also leaves all the cleaning up to him, leaving him to tidy up a house that 3 other people live in (mom/stepdad/5 year-old/dog/cat). She goes out of her way to make things harder for him. He hasa job that pays well ($1600 every month) but I still think she should be buying necessities for her child.\n\nAn example would be him trying to take a shower and her deliberately turning the other shower in the house on to make the water cold. (Normally this is just an inconvenience, but he has a health issue where getting cold can cause muscle pain - he inherited this from his mother, who has the same issue).\n\nWhen he told his mom that he would be leaving, she threatened to call a mental health facility to send him to (he said the longest he would have to stay is two weeks). I can't really help him at all during this due to the fact that 1. I'm now a legal adult 2. I live right across the street from him. If his mom finds out that he's at my house or that I'm with him, she will call the police; not on me, but I think I would get in trouble.\n\nMy suggestion to him was that, as much as it sucks, his birthday is less than a year away and we could get an apartment near our high school (I'm graduating, but wanna move out for personal reasons and he'd be able to easily go to school for senior year) once he turns 18. He originally suggested this idea, but I think he wants to leave ASAP. I get it, emotional abuse is a lot to deal with, but I'm still not really okay with him just couch-hopping. I don't know a better solution, though, and I can't control what he does.\n\nHe says we can still hang out, just not where his mom would be able to see. This involves him getting out of Ubers (we don't have cars) and having to walk home because I can't be seen with him. His mom called my dad and made him aware that he plans on running away. I can't say that I'm going to hang out with him, and I don't really have other friends besides him. If I were to go out, I'd be lying to my dad. He's my only parent as of December and I'm working on building a relationship with him, and lying isn't the way to go IMO.\n\nDue to this, I don't want us to have to hang out this way. There's too much opportunity for trouble involved and I hate being secretive like this. I see it as this: Adam and I will see each other in class and we can call/text, but we can't hang out together until this all blows over. \n\nI feel bad shooting down his offers, but I don't know what to do. AITA for that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "grkoFIPhmJvAqm8FSnRrmpnOC7UZx0ho", "post_id": "a22g4l", "action": {"description": "wanting one bank account for my wife and I", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting one bank account for my wife and I?", "text": "My wife and I had our separate bank accounts prior to getting married. Since I carried debt into the relationship, it was agreed that we would keep our bank accounts separate until I was able to get rid of this debt. Fast forward six years later and the debt is finally gone. It is replaced with new debt that both of us have incurred (mortgage, car payment, daycare). After talking with my financial adviser, he advised me to get rid of the easiest and most immediate debt, which was my car. He then stated that I should save at least 3 months worth of emergency money just in case something happens. After that, we should start making additional payments on the mortgage to reduce that debt as quickly as possible (my goal is to payoff a 30 year mortgage in 20 years). He also said all of this would be so much easier if both of you guys combined accounts so that you could maximize how much you save and how much you can pay towards a debt.\n\n​\n\nI've brought this up with my wife on several occasions and she has been apprehensive at best about the idea. She responded by saying that she would offer any passwords to her bank accounts, but I told her exactly what the financial adviser told me. I stated that I trusted her, I didn't need or want to check her bank accounts and this was just about paying off debt so that we better manage our money. I also told her that if she doesn't feel comfortable combining our bank accounts, I would drop it, but I need to know so that I can manage my money as well.She didn't give me an answer and I haven't broached the subject again. \n\n​\n\nAs of now, the amount of money we pay for our living expenses is skewed. I pay much more monthly than she does (I pay for the house, insurance and car totaling $1700) and she pays for daycare, utilities, cell phone and groceries ($1300). I would also like more equity in the amount of money we are paying as I have asked several times for her to setup a transfer of $200 a month for house payments.\n\n​\n\nAITA for asking her to combine bank accounts and should I just completely drop the topic?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ds4hiBANHVIudKNOf8pNZWRMLeoyz2PA", "post_id": "b0ch6z", "action": {"description": "losing Attraction to my boyfriend for his interest in Anime", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 41}, "title": "AITA For Losing Attraction To My Boyfriend For His Interest In Anime", "text": "Posted this under a different account somewhere else and it got removed so here I am.\n\nTo sum it up, my boyfriend left his laptop open with an anime gif up on it. I went over to look and he was logged into an anime subreddit, so I clicked his profile history and he's very active in that community. This was weird because he never mentioned an interest in anime before. I didn't say anything but I started paying more attention and the next time he left his laptop open I seen he had an account on an anime viewing website and has watched *alot* of series.\n\nHe works in a lumber yard and is the exact opposite guy you would think would like anime. I asked him about it and he admitted he was a big fan and that he never told me because people look down on the community so we left it at that\n\nBut in all honesty it does somewhat lessen my attraction to him. I find it really childish, we're both in our twenties and I'd like my partner to be a bit more grown up and masculine. I used to watch some when I was a teenager but I feel like we should be past that now. I have trouble seeing him as the rugged guy I used to see him as even though I wish it wasn't like that. I know it's probably petty in the big picture, but I'm thinking about asking him not to watch it or to cut back.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 41, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 41}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dSFbzFPirYuSEVaF9eZEWLlNaL3RmPNL", "post_id": "9yteyr", "action": {"description": "taking it to far", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA by taking it to far?", "text": "REPOST BECAUSE NO ONE ANSWERED. \nSo I know not a very interesting title I just couldnt come up with one. So here is the story: a few days go in school we had to write about our fav city here in Germany ( thats the reason my english is probably bad ) and my friend wrote:\" The Headquarter of (his city) is in (his city) and you can go for a walk there and somewhere else. You also cab sit down on your terrace. And thats why (his city) is the greatest city.\"So when I talked to him about hit I said that I thought he made it so on purpose to be funny. He didnt so now he was a bit angry (we were 5 people in the conversation) then the other 3 started making jokes about it to and he got angrier and started throwing bottle through the room. I then said jokingly that we now have to watch bc he maybe hit us someday. After that he threw the bottle right at my face abd i had to go home. I was just wondering because yes i made fun of him a bit but I dont think i deserved to get hit with a bottle! What do you think? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F3xtk82veO1zgTz1y3dP4HJgaVeb3qW5", "post_id": "ait0pc", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed at my so for messing up a room I just cleaned before a rental inspection", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed at my SO for messing up a room I just cleaned before a rental inspection?", "text": "Okay, some background. I (24m) live with my so (23f) and we rent. We both work. \n\nWe had a rental inspection today (Wednesday), so spent most of the weekend cleaning/tidying the house to prep for that. I called in sick on Monday in order to spend extra time getting the house ready. We usually split the chores between us and assign rooms - I do the lounge room, bedroom, and toilet, she does the kitchen, shower  and outside. \n\nmy SO doesn't like it when I wash her clothes, because I (and I admit, this is true) make too many mistakes choosing cycle time/heat/wash-variables and have ruined things in the past. Fair enough. While tidying the house I collected all of her dirty laundry and stuffed it in bags and put it in a corner. There was about 3 of those big blue Ikea bags. I packed them neatly in a corner in the bedroom and otherwise the room was tidy. \n\nTuesday morning, I asked her if she could start to go through and do a laundry load of her clothes, and then went off to work. Tuesday is her day off so she was going to spend it all cleaning. I got home pretty late that day, about 11:30 and was dead tired. When I got home, I found she had opened all the bags and clothes were completely scattered all over the floor of the bedroom. In addition, it didn't look like she had made any progress on the kitchen or outside. Because I was so tired I went straight to bed and pretty much fell asleep right away (It was a long, crappy, hot (Australia) day and my office has no aircon)\n\nI woke up the next day and didn't mention anything, but after I got showered/dressed I started to tidy the room again. The inspection guy turned up at 9 AM and the house was still a mess. Additionally, my SO had decided to take a shower (without telling me) about 10 minutes before he showed up. \n\nI showed him around the house and so on, except we couldn't see the shower because my SO was in there, and at the end he told me he saw no major damage but we should make more of an effort to keep the house tidy and he mentioned to make sure all rooms were 'available.' I don't know if this is just my suspicious personality (is it?), but if I was a rental inspector and my tenant happened to be showering at the appointed inspection time, i'd be pretty suspicious what was in that room they didn't want me to see. The room was all clean/tidy though, so there was nothing to hide. She was genuinely just showering.\n\nOnce he had gone and my SO came out of the shower, I asked her (perhaps a mistake) why she had messed up the room so much after i cleaned it. She absolutely went off on me, saying it was my fault because I asked her to do her laundry, ect. We got into a bit of a fight, and I told her that I didn't appreciate her messing up a room after i spent all day Monday working to make ti ready for the inspection. I didn't mention the fact she didn't seem to have done her part of the house at all, but I was thinking it. She said she doesn't 'understand' how it can take me so long to clean 'a few rooms' and that she could have it done in 40 minutes. This made me feel utterly crap and unappreciated, so i said 'Next time, you can do the whole house then' and left for work. \n\nMy bus to work is about an hour so i've been mulling this and feeling crappy that whole time, and as soon as I got to work I wrote this post. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lhvc0lwfMLowoqxMMTL4thS9rxbiUKXy", "post_id": "ahjzl9", "action": {"description": "giving my Cat a racist name", "pronormative_score": 47, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Giving My Cat a Racist Name?", "text": "I took in a stray cat and decided to name him \"Moo Shu\" after the pork dish common in Chinese restaurants. \n\nNow my girlfriend is mad at me and saying that it is a really racist name and I should change it. The cat is already responding to it. \n\nAm I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 45, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 47, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TyshOFkHg96xlw4DWIQpkD7GypNHVrCT", "post_id": "b32m8b", "action": {"description": "leading a guy on", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for leading a guy on?", "text": "I've known this guy for several years now. Recently (past two years or so) we've become closer friends to the point of hanging out and stuff. I've known that he has had feelings for me for quite some time now, but I heard it from one of my other friends and he hasn't told me himself.\nI don't really like him like that. \n\nI compliment him alot and do all the normal stuff I do with close friends, like putting my arm around their shoulder etc. I buy him lunch sometimes and we've gone on coffee breaks that were kind of like dates. We've gone on long walks at sunset, danced at school dances and yet I don't have feelings for him.\n\nA couple days ago he tried to kiss me. I turned away, and he was really hurt. He told his friends that I was leading him on all this time, who then told me.\nAm I the asshole here?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sJ9s3R39CAK9x2T0IVGqWFhykclkIuBm", "post_id": "awa7h9", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend who stood me up for over 40 minutes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend who stood me up for over 40 minutes?", "text": "So, long story short, we made plans for 9pm and specifically asked her not to be too late, because she does that a lot. At 8.55 she called me and said she was on her way, so I knew she would be late. I got at our meeting point at 9 and had to wait for 40 minutes there. When she got there, she didn't even apologize, which was the part that bothered me the most. So, I told her that standing me up again was rude. We had a fight where I kinda felt she tried to manipulate me, when she said she tried her best to not be late and didn't make it, and I said I don't care and I left. Am I overreacting over this? I mean, I am late too some times, but usually no more than 15mins and I try to let people know and apologize. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pbidsktOXkLLjk2MOnyRndAR1RZ5y1BE", "post_id": "a3uiwy", "action": {"description": "not wanting to participate in holiday festivities", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to participate in holiday festivities?", "text": "It seems taboo to be raised in a predominately Christian country and not want to participate in Holiday festivities, but frankly, I can\u2019t stand any of it. I\u2019ve explained over and over to my friends and family that I\u2019m not a Christian, I don\u2019t believe anything in the Bible, therefore I don\u2019t see a reason to participate Christmas. \n\nThis recently became a bigger issue than I think it should have when one a group chat that my SO and I are in started asking if anyone wanted to sign up for secret Santa. I couldn\u2019t reply because I was at work so my SO took it upon themselves to sign me up without consulting me first. I\u2019m all about gifting with friends/family and the idea of togetherness, but I celebrate that all year. I had no interest in participating. So I privately asked the person who started the sign up to take me off the list, then asked my SO to please not do that without asking me first.\n\nMy SO proceeded to spitefully tell the group chat and suddenly I\u2019m \u201ca grinch\u201d and should want to participate with friends and I look like an asshole in front of everybody. But I don\u2019t think I should be ostracized because of my religious standpoint and not wanting to participate. I host parties all year long with friends and family, I help them out in practical ways whether it be financially, materially, or just listening or lending a helping hand. I don\u2019t think that my relationship to others should be tarnished because I didn\u2019t buy a $25 gift for someone that they probably wouldn\u2019t have needed or wanted anyway. \n\nSo AITA because I don\u2019t celebrate Christmas and I don\u2019t want to participate? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ditxU4w908pYZomxLiAvpCAKey7DpOQD", "post_id": "aosdov", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my amazing boyfriend due to social pressures", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 93}, "title": "WIBTA if I broke up with my amazing boyfriend due to social pressures?", "text": "I'm a legal secretary. I love what I do and I'm good at it, and I'm very happy with my salary and benefits. I was able to pay off my student loans from my BA early, and I'm completely financially independent. My needs are met, plus a little extra fun money and a vacation fund I manage to meet my goal on every year. I actually love the pace of it and always having twelve different deadlines to meet, I find it very invigorating. Honestly, everything about my job is perfect except for the way that people perceive it. I've gotten a lot of reactions along the lines of \"Oh, really? That's not what I would expect from you,\" probably because I am an outspoken feminist and people don't expect me to be in a job that's considered \"women's work,\" especially one where there is the perception that I am subservient to a male attorney. *I* know my job is more than making appointments and fetching coffee (not that there's anything wrong with that either,) but I have to admit that these little digs get to me. I've got pages of information on law school bookmarked even though I'm certain I don't want to be a lawyer. Usually it's enough for me to be happy with myself, but it absolutely stinks to be told repeatedly that I should be doing \"more.\"\n\nAnyway. One of my lunch buddies is an attorney and a couple of months ago he said he had a friend who would be great for me. I met him for coffee and we hit it off like I had never done before with anyone, and within a couple of weeks of the best dates and conversation I've had in my life, we decided to date exclusively. And my new boyfriend is, you guessed it, an attorney.\n\nHe doesn't even work at my firm, but the optics are terrible. And let me tell you that people have not been shy at all about pointing it out. One woman in document services told me I can quit and be a housewife now that I've \"pulled one.\" I've been asked how short a skirt I had to wear to get his attention. I know for a fact that there's been plenty of talk going around of me being a gold digger. Worst of all, someone started a rumor that I trade oral sex for longer breaks. Even my own mother told me that maybe now I should think of quitting and getting into \"a more family-oriented mindset.\"\n\nI don't want to give up on this relationship because my boyfriend is truly amazing. I know it's early, but I want to see where this goes. He's got a kindness to him that is so modest and genuine, and has such a wonderful outlook on life, and I feel like our personalities complement each other a lot because I am more bombastic while he is a bit softspoken, and I just...really like him. And knowing that people see me as a gold-digger who hikes up her skirt to get attention from some sleazy attorney absolutely kills me. I don't want people to think that I \"pulled an attorney.\" I don't want to have to deal with the sideways glances and whispers that stop the second that I enter the room. Part of me wants to end it while it's still early so there will be as little hurt as possible. I don't want to be two years into this relationship and be dying inside because I'm \"that girl\" at work. Would I be the asshole if I threw in the towel and said \"You did it, society, you beat me down.\"", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 84, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 93}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "blGDIIA2xXFpJMq6SYdMJEIFF7eL37MT", "post_id": "b0xvib", "action": {"description": "not listening to my swimming instructor", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not listening to my swimming instructor", "text": "Back when I was about 8 years old or in primary school, I had tons of tuition and enrichment lessons, as would any Asian kid. During the swimming lessons I would take a mouthful of water before resurfacing to spit it all out fountain style. I know that sounds pretty disgusting and tbh it is, but not for me back then. During a lesson, the swimming coach finally had enough of me for not listening to him to not do the aforementioned action and for the second time, grabbed me and splashed water in my face for more than a minute, last time was shorter, I could hardly breathe and when I got freeze ran to my mom and never went back, despite the main swimming instructor apologizing for his friend's actions and offering to teach me alone by himself (he was a much nicer guy overall). This happened in a public pool btw. \n\nI chose to never return there or see the coaches ever again after running away. But AITA for not listening to my coach and pushing him to splash water in my face for a minute which resulted in me being unable to breathe?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "51ZdfbHilITAPOrNjTJMHuGSSbCoZb3w", "post_id": "a50km4", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be with an underclassman", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be with an underclassman?", "text": "So for a little bit of context, I'm a senior who just turned 18. A sophomore hit me up a few months ago and we've been chatting on and off during the elapsed time. Up until recently things have been relatively tame, but last week this chick started getting flirtatious/sexual with some of her snaps. I tried ignoring them in the beginning to see if she would get the hint that I dont like her. Over the weekend she tried confronting me saying how I've been completely ignoring all of the work she's putting into our \"relationship\". I have made sure, or so I thought, that she didnt think we were a thing because I've been in a legitimate relationship for over a month now.\n\nI told her that's she's a good person and all, but I just dont like her that way. I mentioned the fact that there is a 3 year age gap, on top of the fact that I have a gf. She completely blew her lid, saying how I've been using her and how she's going to ruin my relationship. The kicker is my gf knows about this and thinks its absolutely hysterical. I was just wondering AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wM3yHljLktG55SH1evBAMolK465QGlKQ", "post_id": "b8u9qs", "action": {"description": "shaming my autistic professor for being honest", "pronormative_score": 150, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for shaming my autistic professor for being honest?", "text": "Hello guys, this is a little weird, I don't know much about autism so I don't know if what I did was wrong or not, everyone seems to think I was an asshole, you tell me what you think.\n\nI'm currently on my second year of college and I happen to have a class with a professor that I know has Asperger Syndrome. He seems like a regular guy, he's a good professor and overall chill dude, but he tends to give his opinion about \\*\\*everything\\*\\*, he makes weird harmless comments like ''Wow your glasses are too big for your face'', ''You walk weird'', ''Your hair looks messy'', etc. In my case he just told me in a regular basis that I dressed ''weird'' because I always wear a jean jacket, I didn't pay him much attention and usually just laughed or ignored him, and pretty much all of my class did the same and didn't complain even if they felt bothered.\n\nWell, a few weeks ago, we were in class and I needed help with something and he suddenly said ''Wow you have a moustache'', I'm a girl so I felt a little embarrassed that he said that to me, but as usual I just laughed and shrugged it off, but then I think he noticed it bothered me because he started telling me the same thing everytime he saw me, even in front of the whole class he referred to me as ''the girl with the moustache'', day by day I literally shaved my not even visible moustache because I didn't want people in my class to laugh at me or my professor to comment on it, but nope, it didn't work.\n\nLast week, when he commented on it again I decided to call him out on it, it went something like this, P for Professor, Me for me.\n\nP: Wow you still have your moustache.\n\nMe: Yeah, so do you, everyone does, I also have eyes and arms.\n\nP: Yeah, but it's weird when women have moustaches.\n\nMe: It's not weird, it's natural.\n\nAfter that he kinda just laughed and left, and I thought it'd be the end of it but NOPE, every single class he commented on it, and even people from other classes knew about it. Today while at class I overheard him tell people some other things, I heard him tell a girl that she had a zit and a friend of mine that he was fat, he shrugged it off but he seemed a little upset about it, so when the time came for him to make fun of my ''moustache'', I told him that I was disappointed in him, when he asked why and I told him that I was disappointed that he was making people feel bad because of their physical attributes, he remained silent for a moment and then he said that he had Asperger and that he can't control what he says and just walked away.\n\nAll my friends told me that I was an asshole for telling him that and that I should've let him say those things because he has Asperger, the cherry on top is that apparently today is World Autism Awareness Day, I swear I didn't know but I still think that he perfectly knew what he was doing and he knew he was making people upset, so AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 144, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 150, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QzWwRT2RIaWGmTfAX5BICCkD3k6e6kOK", "post_id": "alv4f0", "action": {"description": "wanting to go solo packbacking without my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to go solo packbacking without my boyfriend?", "text": "Hi, I\u2019ve been with my boyfriend for 8 years now and have really grown up with him. We have a solid relationship and rarely fight. It\u2019s always been a dream of mine to go travelling and after a really difficult year involving the loss of my dad to cancer I think travelling alone is what I need. \n\nMy boyfriend is really supportive of my idea to travel Europe for 7 weeks and has said he\u2019ll meet me in my last stop and have a holiday together before flying home. The issue is more that my friend says that if I want to travel on my own it means I don\u2019t love my boyfriend and I should break up with him. She says it\u2019s because if I truly loved him I\u2019d want to do things with him and that she thinks he\u2019s pretending he\u2019s ok with it when he\u2019s not. She thinks I should go with him. I always felt that if a relationship which isn\u2019t co-dependent is the strongest. \n\nAm I the asshole or is she the asshole? It\u2019s putting a strain on our friendship and I\u2019m worried that maybe my relationship isn\u2019t as strong as I think it is.  \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9mMv4jGUpMPF7RjjQyjd6QDpmrnhzNsR", "post_id": "audj7n", "action": {"description": "having one of my friends text my Anti vaxx mom about why her being an anti vaxxer is wrong", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for having one of my friends text my Anti vaxx mom about why her being an anti vaxxer is wrong?", "text": "So, if you\u2019ve seen my comment history, you\u2019d know that my mom is an anti vaxxer. Fun. For moths I\u2019ve been trying to convince her through text that having this mindset could severely make her youngest son ill. She didn\u2019t listen to me, saying stuff like \u201cthe CDC is being constantly sued because of vaccine injuries\u201d and shit like that.\n\nOne day, I decided that if she wasn\u2019t gonna listen to me, she MIGHT listen to someone who can easily get data that my mom is wrong. So, I asked one of my friends (let\u2019s call them \u201cCream\u201d) to text my mom and confront her about her horrible way of thinking. Cream agreed, and I gave them my mom\u2019s phone number.\n\nCream basically said, in one big text to my mom, \u201cHey, I\u2019m one of [insert real name here]\u2019s friends. He\u2019s been really concerned about you being an antivaxxer, and I have some data here which could be useful in convincing you that having this mindset is wrong. As a mother, I know that you\u2019re concerned for your son\u2019s\u2019 safety, but you\u2019re putting your youngest child at risk by not vaccinating him.\u201d\n\nAn hour later, my mom responded, and she was PISSED. She basically told Cream a story about a friend she knew whose two month old baby died after getting vaccinations, saying that Cream should be lucky that \u201ctheir child isn\u2019t dead\u201d Cream is the same age as me, and surprise, ISN\u2019T EVEN A MOTHER. The only reason my mom said that thing is because she most likely thought Cream was referring to themselves when they said \u201cas a mother\u201d, when in reality, they were referring to my mom. She basically concluded by saying that Cream had to stay away from me, or else she\u2019d launch an investigation on Cream for \u201cinteractions with a minor\u201d. (My mom considers the age that someone isn\u2019t a minor anymore at 21. Tragic). \n\nCream was sort of afraid initially due to the response, but calmed down after a bit and didn\u2019t blame me for anything regarding the conversation, thank god. But then, my mom texted me, saying that a stranger texted her about her personal life, and that she wanted nothing to do with me because she thinks I \u201cbetrayed\u201d her. I apologized to her, saying that I only did it because she refused to listen to me. She never responded, and I don\u2019t even know if she read my apology.\n\nNow, I just have to know... am I the asshole here for what I did? I really wanna know your thoughts on the matter. Thanks for listening.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rHQNgYKTvZWDNTfkTjMXG1OYy08Q7Fuz", "post_id": "azyo5a", "action": {"description": "trying to get my kid to work", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For trying to get my kid to work?", "text": "(English isn\u2019t my native language so sorry if I mess up.)My son is in his teens. All he does is play his computer. I just want to get him to work like his brother (son 2) and not sit inside and waste away. He had to take over the house and start doing all chores instead of my other son that works. This morning while they got ready for school I put 100\u20ac on the table and said, \u201cHere you go son 2.\u201d He was visibly upset and seemed to look at it in disgust. I wanted to throw it in his face so he could get motivated to work! He needs to start working. He is 14! He\u2019s going to have to start being independent soon and I want what\u2019s best for him. AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yJJspocyQbI8oUbwjmx5CIum0UivIOyy", "post_id": "b6mpqq", "action": {"description": "resenting my ex's apology", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for resenting my ex's apology?", "text": "Some context: My ex \\[23M\\] and I \\[21F\\] dated for 3.5 years, broke up in February. It was a long time coming from December when he essentially accused me of trying to cheat on him with a high school friend of his. I wasn't and the accusation hurt me so much that a lot of the love I had for him kind of shriveled up right there, despite him expressing remorse about doubting me. That was the big nail in the coffin, but there was a longstanding history of us just not meeting each other's needs with varying degrees of both us being the asshole at times.\n\nRegardless, he still wanted to be together and \"come back\" from it. We lived together, I was in no place to move out and I wanted to believe that such a long and otherwise really good relationship could come back from that. The truth was I couldn't come back from it, and we mutually broke up 2 months later. During this time is where the apologies in question happened.\n\nWe have very different views on what makes a genuine and good apology, let alone if one should even be given, and we've discussed it at length. He asserts he doesn't believe in apologies. He does believe in accountability and reconciliation, so while he communicates that he is regretful about how things ended up and hurting me, he won't just say \"I'm sorry\". His rationale is that \"I'm sorry\" is how people deflect consequences and accountability, and real accountability is \"making sure it never happens again\"..\n\nThus, all of his apologies hinge on him making up for the transgression by bettering future interactions on the same terms. I find this unsatisfactory since he used that line as we were breaking up, when those terms of us being a couple no longer exist. There is no longer any context where he can, by his own logic, make up for it. Sure we're amicable, but it's not as if he repeat the transgression and accuse me of cheating on him a second time! He also kept saying \"I wish it wasn't this way, but you're a very smart girl and I know I'll never have to worry about you \\[succeeding\\].\" Which just felt odd to me and was not at all comforting.\n\nI've told him that not hearing \"I'm sorry\", along with his views + actions, has made me feel repeatedly over the years that he isn't actually remorseful and is incapable of acknowledging he hurt me. We've argued recently about apologies again because I brought it up. I shouldn't have bc it was bitterness-fueled, but I basically expressed everything here and he still didn't budge on his apology or views.\n\nAITA for thinking this final apology rings hollow?\n\nTL;DR: My bf of 3 1/2 years, now ex, doesn't believe in saying \"I'm sorry\", but tries to apologize with \"It won't happen again\". Since it definitely won't happen again, we're not dating, this apology seems almost like a cop-out to me, among other things. I feel my pain and response to him went and is going unacknowledged, so I'm kind of resentful despite us still being in contact and otherwise friendly.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aEd5KE2WeE8hEeHrjChJnDEzHBCIt2r9", "post_id": "an3gcp", "action": {"description": "playing drums during the day", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for playing drums during the day?", "text": "Two years ago I bought a drumkit because I wanted to find a hobby that I enjoyed and that was good for relieving stress. At first I didn't realise how loud drumming was really going to be, and fair enough; it's loud.\n\nAs you can probably guess, the neighbour started complaining about the noise due to it preventing him from being able to sleep since he works night shifts. (For the record I live in a semi detached house but my room is on the other end that isn't connected to the neighbour and our house is on the end of the drive.) I was a little annoyed but I understood that listening to a drummer that has no idea how to play for hours would be really annoying even during the day.\n\nI made sure to play during the weekend and during the weekdays I'd only play for about a hour and a half after 4 but before 7 as I assumed that was a reasonable time. Things were alright for a while and as I got better, it didn't sound as bad as I learned to control how much power I put into my hits.\n\nHowever all of a sudden (after a good year of nothing) he started complaining again because his adult daughter moved in with them and she works graveyard shifts as well and can't sleep. By this point I'm working a 9-5 job so by the time I get home I can only really play for up to an hour before it's 7 and I stop. I want to soundproof my room so it's not as bad but I get my first paycheck on the 25th which means that until then I can't do anything about it.\n\nI've had problems with being able to play since October up until about 3 weeks ago because my cymbals cracked from shitty playing and it started becoming difficult to play for longer than 10 minutes without my arms cramping up due to those cymbals being uneven and difficult to hit. Keep in mind that drumming for me at this point has become a part of my life. Without it I have no other way to vent and I can be rather irritable. \n\nPoint is, I feel like I've already toned down my play time to a reasonable amount during a reasonable time of day and he's still finding a reason to complain about it. Soundproofing might not even help all that much because you'll still be able to feel it. This means I can't play again till I'm able to afford the stuff I need to keep the noise down because if he reports me I could get fined or they could even take the drumkit away, and I've sunk over \u00a32k into it at this point.\n\nAITA for wanting to enjoy my hobby even after I compromised the hell out of my schedule for my neighbour? Honestly at this point I'm considering just giving up on the whole thing because someone's always gonna have a problem with it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aENyUMiWRuzddS4Li3yV9nrq2f4U0Wir", "post_id": "a1631n", "action": {"description": "removing my ex friend from a groupchat", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for removing my ex friend from a groupchat?", "text": "So I have had this friend, let\u2019s call her K, for about three years now. We\u2019ve never really argued or had any spats, but I guess looking back a lot of parts of our friendship were rather toxic (she would demean me a lot and was generally a super negative person) Anways 6-8 months ago I added her to a groupchat with all of my closest friends because I wanted her to get to meet them and talk to more people she had stuff in common with! It went great at first and everyone got along and I was really happy to see my friends like each other! About a month ago K and I got in a fight. It was over her new boyfriend and how I didn\u2019t necessarily like him too much, which she called me out on because I would be quiet any time she brought him up and ignored every insta post with him. She lashed out at me and said I didn\u2019t know anything about him or their relationship and claimed I was jealous that I wasn\u2019t talking to her as much. I calmly explained every reason I was upset at the time and I thought that was the end of that. After our fight she started lashing out at me in the groupchat. She would say I was a shitty person, send tweets I made to the gc to mock me and would change the topic literally every time I talked. I tried to bring it up to her but she wouldn\u2019t even text me back. The last straw was when she said in the groupchat she didn\u2019t feel bad that I was assaulted so I simply removed her and blocked her on all forms of social media. She texted me almost immediately asking why I removed her and that she was upset because she was friends with a bunch of girls in the chat. Should I have just kept my mouth shut like I had before and tried to keep peacemaker for the sake of the friend group?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ttIQw637JqHIJofspcsalp5xNBM3XZt9", "post_id": "acd1kx", "action": {"description": "ignoring my girlfriend's calls for three minutes while calling my friend", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my girlfriend's calls for three minutes while calling my friend?", "text": " I was on the phone with my friend and we were having a conversation when my girlfriend called. So I started wrapping up the conversation but ignored answering her. Then she called again 2 minutes later and immediately afterwards the third time she called again, which i answered. Then she told me that I put my friends above her and asked what would happen if it was a life or death situation. She said she can't trust me to rely on her if her life is in danger and got really mad at me and hurt. I feel really bad about it. I didn't want to hurt her but I didn't know it would hurt her so much. It this really that much of a hurtful thing to do? I tried explaining to her I just wanted to wrap up the convoy with my friend.\n\ntl;dr Girlfriend is really mad at me for not answering her calls for 3 minutes while I was talking to my friend on the phone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Bfvt3f04hXykWFG5pGGY9NzXtiqem65h", "post_id": "a9sz5o", "action": {"description": "limiting my son's Fortnite play", "pronormative_score": 32, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA if I limit my son's Fortnite play?", "text": "I have done nothing yet. I just want a younger perspective on this, preferably from gamers. I have lost some of my perspective.\n\nI'm a middle aged man. I used to game my ass off, probably as much as one can without losing touch with school and other responsibilities. I cannot do this much anymore because, work/school/other things hold my interest more. The next Elder Scrolls will suck be back in for about six months and then I'm good for a while.  FWIW, we are a PC gaming household.\n\nMy 10 year old like many kids loves Fortnite. I see some problems with it from an addiction standpoint as well as from a financial standpoint. The Vbucks model is problematic to me as a parent because it is too easy to want to spend all one's money. We have not had any major problems with this yet, but every season, I get more requests for Vbucks and the desire to buy more things in-game and not just enjoy the game for what it is.\n\nHis practical access during the school year (because we have a regular regimen of after school physical activity- BJJ and gymnastics) is about one hour of screen time per day, plus maybe 10-20 minutes of YouTube time right before a reasonable bed time. However, I am thinking of limiting his Fortnite time. I think there are many other games that are healthier and do not stimulate this constant need for what I see to be bullshit skins and spending Vbucks.\n\n​\n\nAITA if I limit fortnite play to every other day?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 28, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 32, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LMeqoiCv4d0KnEQLQgzfVFfjpwyKXcrI", "post_id": "azaxpz", "action": {"description": "revealing how much money we received as wedding gifts", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for revealing how much money we received as wedding gifts?", "text": "The actual event took place 13 years ago when my spouse and I got married. We were both relatively young and we had a small but nice wedding. One of the guests was my spouse's uncle Joe (FIL's brother) and his wife and two kids. After the wedding, my FIL asked my spouse to reveal to him the gift amount of all of his blood relatives (ie, his side of the family). Apparently, FIL's family has always kept track of wedding gifts (and other celebrations). \n\n​\n\nMy new spouse and I felt hesitant at first but FIL was quite instant that it was tradition. So, my spouse did reveal how much everyone on his side gave, but the only guest that stood out was uncle Joe. For the record, uncle Joe gave $100 for 4 people (ie, $25/person).\n\n​\n\nWhile my SO and I didn't care about the amount, and we didn't even discuss it among ourselves, my FIL was offended. Over the years, FIL gave considerably more to uncle Joe and he took the $100 as a sign of disrespect. We asked FIL to drop it, but he called his brother and they had a big argument and haven't spoken since.\n\n​\n\nSO felt horrible and tried to salvage the relationship with Joe but Joe  gave us the cold shoulder. It felt awkward and we eventually stopped having contact with him as he made no effort to maintain the relationship. \n\n​\n\nWhile SO and I feel we were the assholes for ever revealing the $ amount of their gift, we aren't quite sure if ESH or maybe their asshole status supersedes ours?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "u1HpEn9dij80y86kSYPnRmppkdyBOWoa", "post_id": "b5hqpc", "action": null, "title": "AITA Want to go to concert at Friend's Hometown, don't want to bring said friend.", "text": " A little background on me: I'm a white cisgender girl who miiiight be bisexual??? I like a trans girl. I go to an art school in a well known city that isn't too famous.\n\nSo a little background on this friend: He's white, cisgender, straight, your basic guy. Let's call him Jeff. However, Jeff's not attractive, although very kind, he has a kind of a weird personality that can turn people away (I don't mind, I think he's sarcastic, and that's funny to me.)\n\nI met Jeff through my roommate at a college I used to go to. I found out through my roommate that he had a crush on me, and that made me feel extremely awkward. Jeff and I both dropped out of that college and seeked other ways to make ends meet. We live in different cities that are hours away, and the only way to get to eachother is to take a somewhat expensive train ticket. We do this once a summer, but I kind of dread it. My sister thinks his family treats me like a potential girlfriend and I kind of agree. Which is also awkward.\n\nI feel really awkward because I like this trans girl, but only two other people know I might be bisexual because of this. I feel like he might get a bit upset if he found out. Because he thought I was straight as a nail. I might just be reading too much into this - What do you guys think?\n\nThere's this concert at Jeff's hometown and I really want to go but... Jeff found that the band was performing at his city and he also knows it's my favorite band. He wants to go together and the tickets cost are only a few bucks. He's even willing to pay for the train ticket. I feel like I'm an asshole for not wanting to go with him, but what the hell is this asshole to do? Welp, I'm willing to take your verdict- And any advice. Go for it mofos!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4vXoHz689lW5l7koLTykcEhnQcyLHM0o", "post_id": "9t9yun", "action": {"description": "being honest with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 343, "contranormative_score": 73}, "title": "AITA for being honest with my girlfriend?", "text": "Last night I was hanging out with my girlfriend and another one of my friends. Let\u2019s call my friend Jim. \nJim thinks my girlfriend has an attractive friend and he was asking my girlfriend to set him up. \nAfter this, my girlfriend asks me if she thinks her friend is more physically attractive than her. That\u2019s an uncomfortable question, so I didn\u2019t want to answer, but she kept insisting that I answer and that I be honest. \nSo, I told her that I think her friend is more physically attractive. Then she started crying for an hour and told me I shouldn\u2019t have said that, even though she told me to be honest. She said she wishes I would have lied, even though she was telling me to be honest multiple times. She made me leave and doesn\u2019t want to talk to me for a few days. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 73, "OTHER": 329, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 14, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 343, "WRONG": 73}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SjvUQCYjf1r4nJKeC8PmpbAymA7ijDPO", "post_id": "a03wnv", "action": {"description": "telling my mom not to share my brothers medical problems", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom not to share my brothers medical problems", "text": "My parents have 4 kids: my older sister(23), myself(21F), and my two younger brothers(19 and 17). My sister and I both moved out within the last couple years, so my brothers, who have never gotten along, are the only two kids still there. Without going into detail, my family dynamic is screwy. Myself and my brothers don't usually talk to our parents beyond the surface-level \"how's life?\" kind of stuff. My sister gets along with my parents a LOT better than we do, but she isn't oblivious to what we had to put up with.\n\n​\n\nWell. My sister, mom, and I were sitting at the table when my mom disclosed that my 19 year old brother had recently(within the last month) been diagnosed with clinical depression and has started medication and solo therapy. Before I go on, let me say that I am extremely happy that he is open to accepting this kind of help. My parents tried a similar thing with me when I was 16 but insisted on atteding every session, which just exacerbated the problem. I know this is at least part of why I feel the way I do about this whole thing.\n\n​\n\nAnyways, I told my mom that I'm happy that he's getting the help he needs, but I'm a little uncomfortable hearing this from her. I told her that this is his struggle, and a very personal one at that. I made sure to express that I know she needs a place to vent and how I understand that it must be tough on her as a mother, but knowing my brother I don't think he'd want us to know, at least without him knowing we know. She looked a little hurt, but said she understands and appreciates the honesty.\n\n​\n\nOf course I care about my brother, but he is his own person. I live out of state so we only see each other a few times a year, but he's vented to me plenty. He knows I'm there for him. On one hand, I'm glad I know because this could open the door for me to continue to help as a part of his support system. On the other hand, I know my brother. If he wanted to include us in this, he would have.\n\n​\n\nMy mom has always wanted a close-knit, big, happy, nuclear family. But we are not. My sister says I was too harsh, but I truly don't think my brother would want us in on this, and if he did he would include us in his own way, when he's ready. I want to respect his privacy, but after this conversation I'm struggling to define the line at which family overrules privacy. Should I apologize to my mom? Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jSRVD5keZbtHY7eZfzptGb3cO6RseDLt", "post_id": "b4xc4b", "action": {"description": "telling a straight guy that his opinions on lgbt-related topics don't matter", "pronormative_score": 83, "contranormative_score": 147}, "title": "AITA for telling a straight guy that his opinions on LGBT-related topics don\u2019t matter?", "text": "Sorry for any mistakes, English isn\u2019t my first language.\n\nI recently started working at an LGBT youth center. Aside from organizing a lot of fun events, we also try to educate people about different things (sexuality, STDs, queer history, etc.) and take care of various kids who have trouble at home because their parents don\u2019t accept their sexualities. It\u2018s honestly a wonderful organization and I just love working there.\n\nThe other day I met up with some friends. I talked about how much I love my new job and they all agreed that it sounds great. There was one guy however (he\u2018s a friend of a friend, not sure why he even brought him along) who didn\u2019t really... understand the point of the organization. He said it\u2018s not right to segregate children from each other because of their sexuality and there\u2019s no need to send them to different youth centers since every center can essentially do what we do too.\n\nI tried explaining to him that not all youth centers do what we do and that it\u2019s important for young LGBT kids to have safe spaces but he disagreed. At some point I really didn\u2019t feel like arguing or justifying their importance to a random dude anymore so I just said \u201eAnd what makes you think a straight guy\u2018s opinion on this subject matters?\u201c\n\nHe got super offended, telling me he can comment on whatever he wants to despite being straight and that if the roles were reversed I\u2018d call him homophobic.\n\nI didn\u2019t think much of it at the time but now I\u2018m wondering if my reaction was a bit extreme. For the record, I don\u2019t actually believe someone shouldn\u2019t be allowed to state their opinion because of their sexuality but sometimes it might be better to just LISTEN to people from marginalized groups and not add your own two cents, especially when you have no idea what you\u2019re talking about.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 117, "OTHER": 79, "EVERYBODY": 30, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 83, "WRONG": 147}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "cg6yw16f3hdSlg9aofQs4jM6DfLG7rVt", "post_id": "b3i7sa", "action": {"description": "getting pissed at my friend for breaking my guitar and how he handled it", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed at my friend for breaking my guitar and how he handled it?", "text": "Hello everyone! Last thursday I let my friend borrow my newly stringed acoustic guitar for his music class final because it had lighter gauge strings and thus easier to play. A short hour later he returns with the guitar, new strings broken. I tell him it\u2019s no big deal, I\u2019m not mad, I just want him to pay $30 for the new strings. He agrees so we take it to my local guitar center to get fixed up. \n\nFast forward to this tuesday. I went in and asked on monday when the guitar would be ready since i was leaving town for spring break on wednesday and wanted to take it with me. The tech said it\u2019d be ready tuesday so I let my friend know ahead of time that he\u2019ll have to take me around noon to pay for and pick up my guitar. Tuesday comes around and it\u2019s noon and I hear nothing from him. An hour later he texts me and it turns out he was busy having sex with his girlfriend and now couldn\u2019t take me because he had class. Now I\u2019m pretty mad because I don\u2019t really have any time on wednesday to deal with it and I had told him before hand so he\u2019d be ready. \n\nNow it\u2019s wednesday, I was leaving at 2 in the afternoon but I had a final at 11am so he said he\u2019d pick up the guitar for me in the morning and drop it off. He picks it up at noon and goes home with it instead of driving it to my house and dropping it off. It is now time for me to leave and he\u2019s busy writing an essay he should\u2019ve done earlier and I have to leave without my guitar. I am, at this point, fuming. The one thing I asked for was for him to give me my guitar back before I\u2019m gone for a few weeks on vacation. \n\nI let him know how mad I am at him and then both him and his girlfriend text me saying how rude and unreasonable I am being and how much of an asshole I am. Now I\u2019m even more upset because I feel like they don\u2019t even give a shit about me, my feelings, or my property.\n\nSo, reddit, am I really the asshole? :(", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vblTed2TME4DoFrHBpksKOPQKLvOO3Dy", "post_id": "b0cmjq", "action": {"description": "wanting a prenup strictly towards my government retirement", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting a prenup strictly towards my government retirement?", "text": "I've been with my fiancee for a total of 6 years now. With most couples, there were many ups and downs, and a couple close breakups. She is totally the light of my life and being with her makes my life that much more incredible.  Every time I bring up the subject of divorce, and my opinion that men seem to have to foot the bill, even when the other half is working, it leads to an argument. \n\n​\n\nHer stance on it is that she was with me and supported me when I had nothing ($500 and a 200,000 mile Honda civic to my name) and she is with me now making a very comfortable amount of money with a retirement and that if I'm worried about divorce, we shouldn't get married.  In the unfortunate event of divorce, I'm all for actually splitting the assets 50/50 since we go out of our way to even split major expenses. My thought process is, I wouldn't go after her retirement, why should mine be on the table? In my line of work, I have numerous co-workers who lost upwards of 10-15 years of their retirement due to divorce (C.A)\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to protect my retirement?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9FpwzdUOQWXGEzJqjPfol7xJ4vv3sIZT", "post_id": "axdusv", "action": {"description": "keeping my neighbor's car ransom", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for keeping my neighbor's car ransom?", "text": "I live downtown in one of the few areas with housing. The street has pay parking but many (not all) of the homes here have driveways. We have no lawns, so the driveway is between homes or a home and a building.\n\nI moved here four years ago. I didn't have a car (nor know how to drive) back then. My neighbor who I only know in passing asked me if he could park in my driveway since I don't use it. He doesn't have one. They have a family of 5 and I'm just on my own, so why not save them some money? I agreed.\n\nAnyways, in September I finally got my own wheels and made mention to my neighbor I need the driveway now. My driveway fits two cars front to back, but it's not a perfect situation since one car needs to move to let the other out/in. He wasn't too pleased but it's my driveway and he conceded this fact. He stopped using it.\n\nFor a little while at least. Many times I'd find his car in my driveway over the last several months, at least once a week. I had to use street parking in the interim. I would knock on his door, even get in touch with his landlord, and either get no response or a \"I'll sort it out\" which leads nowhere.\n\nTo get to the point, two days ago my neighbor parked in my driveway. He parked just deep enough that I could park in front of him, blocking him in. He came by screaming and I refused to move it until he compensated me the $272 in parking I've accrued. I've kept parking tabs, took photos of his car in my driveway, etc so I have proof of his bullshit. Technically what I'm doing is illegal (it's considered a road obstruction) but it's been two days and he has not retaliated, at least not yet.\n\nAITA for being petty like this? He and his family have had to use mass transit since. I don't plan on moving until I get my nearly $300 back or cops come and tell me to I guess. I won't budge otherwise.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aXXMOitQo2oDrL0lmjpgFyy0UyB9a1Wm", "post_id": "asco4l", "action": {"description": "being mad at my gf for not supporting me while depressiv", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my GF for not supporting me while depressiv", "text": "i am on mobile and have a german textcorrectur, so please be nice about the capitalization. Also: throwaway.\n\nSince a few years i feel sad, motivationless, a few others sympoms and have the occasional Suicide thoughts (you all know what Depression is, thats why i will casualy omit my Symptoms)\n\nI have a GF now for a few years. Finaly i had a Realisation and want to search for help with my Depression and, obviously talked to my GF about that issue, that i want help, i will contact first my Family doctor and than a psychotherpeutic. She was furious. She said i can do that but cant Count on her in this case. she dont think i am depressiv, i was always in a bit blue mood. thats just my character, she wont drive me to the docs (i dont have a Drivers license (but here ist not a big Thing, as i live in a big City and am perfectly fine using the superior german public Transportation), nor does she want to know anything or have anything to do with my Treatment as it is, how she calls it \"Mumpitz\", Mumbojumbo would be the English equivalent.\nI got mad at her, we are together for years and she wont Support nor try to understand my Situation. i cant demand her to Support me, but it would be nice. SO i said something like: if you dont want to help me, maybe you shouldnt be with me. She left and drove to a friend of her. \nToday i got called from this very friend of her that i am selfish and an asshole for breaking up with my GF (which i didnt. i talked hypoteticaly about it, as a figure of speech).\n\nTL;DR\nRealise i have Depression, GF wont Support me, i went mad about it, get called an asshole\nAITA (and selfish)?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zQMOga6l79ICSOUeOAj7Jm6bmIUKofuj", "post_id": "b6rjwi", "action": {"description": "not trying to communicate with my family", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not trying to communicate with my family", "text": "Backstory. so my mom got remarried and the man ended up being an a****** he ended up abusing me and when I told my mom she ended up not believing me. With time my mom started to hate me and my stepdad took advantage of that by starting to sexually molest me while I was under age. Needless to say this left me with wild depression, anxiety and even the S- word. By the time I was time my parents wanted me to basically leave the house and they made it clear so by the time I was fifteen I was already working. My depression became so bad that eventually I ended up going to a therapist against my mom's wishes because it was making me so depressed my stepfather had basically cut my communication with my family and my mom had encouraged my half sisters to hate me. With my therapist which was a god-sent. I learned to get some self-confidence back and it was able to separate myself from my family but I wasn't able to move out until I finish college and find myself a full-time job. Now that I'm gone my family wants to make this fake Happy Family Image which I'm sick and tired of. I still love my mom but I can't be around them. Should I give him a chance again am I in the wrong should I let things go since it's been years?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tVtvl89Vfd2phe0oE3zXeLKAWVdViS0s", "post_id": "b4nhf0", "action": {"description": "trying to do my work and talking to my friends about it", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For trying to do my work and talking to my friends about it...", "text": "This incident happened about 3-4 months ago...  \n\nI'm in math class and my teacher was out because his wife had cancer and he had a replacement. I feel bad for him... My mom has cancer so I know how it may feel. Now let's get to the story. \n\nPeople\nFT: original fun teacher\nST: substitute \nMe: a flying rock\nAsa: asshole kid\n\nThe Day was starting like any other. We had the substitute and she was only known for teaching the social studies element of teaching. I swear I'm making it sound like I'm from the avatar. While going into the class I was at my desk talking to my friends while FT was gone for like 3 Months. \n\nMe: *talks with my friends*\nST: do your work!\nMe: I'm confused with the work. \nST: ask your friends. \nMe: guys do you know how to do this?\nMy friends try to explain it... \n\nI try to do my work and I kept on talking with my friends. \nST: DO YOUR WORK!!!\nMe: I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO DO THIS, I AM TRYING TO DO IT BUT I DO NOT UNDERSTAND!!!\nAsa: shut up squeaker. \nST: GO TO *Vice principals* OFFICE!!!\nMe: FINE YOU B***\n\nI know I may I have been rude And she doesn't deserve this. I tried to be a good student and I've stayed at the vice principal's office until FT came back. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tafwFvNAqhH1NPIpotMCJFiRNAXaZyEz", "post_id": "aj9flw", "action": {"description": "yelling at my sister for not seeing our imprisoned elderly father on his birthday", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA For yelling at my sister for not seeing our imprisoned elderly father on his birthday.", "text": "Just had the worst knock out drag out fight with my sister, who decided to not vist our almost 60 year old dad in prison. Our dad is serving a life sentence without the possibility of parole. He will never live a normal life or get to experience freedom again.\n\nShe has been going back and forth between forgivness and condemnation for literally decades. Sometimes she forgives him, others not. We had planned to do something special and have him see all his kids and grandkids in the span of a few days, like a birthday week. She agreed to this, and is now backing out.\n\nIn the 90's my dad was hired to beat up, scare a known stalker and convicted rapist who was harrassing another mans wife. Dad ended up killing said man and another accomplice of his when things go out of hand. My dad accepts full responsibility, but hes still a man with a lot of love for his children.\n\nMy sister is also preventing her kids, who love my dad, from going.\n\nI am furious. Is she the asshole or is it me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2g3JQHuNYmRIfhjLyJ5a4wYEwX8ULfGr", "post_id": "aodvcc", "action": {"description": "listening to Gorillaz when my mom said to listen to \"christian\" music instead", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for listening to Gorillaz when my mom said to listen to \u201cChristian\u201d music instead?", "text": "I\u2019m on mobile, sorry for the formatting issues. \n\nHi, I\u2019m just very confused at the moment because of a conversation I had with my mother, we were eating at the dinner table last night. and we were talking about our day and my mom had a question about why I always put on my headphones, and I said \u201cWell I like listening to music it helps to forget about some things, and it can be relaxing sometimes.\u201d and she asked \u201cWell what type of music do you listen to exactly?\u201d \n\n\n\nThen I answered \u201cPop, such as Gorillaz, Wild nothing, and Two door cinema club\u201d Then my mother asked another question. \u201cCan I listen to one of these songs you always listen to?\u201d So then I did I showed her one of my favorite songs called DARE, then 19-2000, She then asked why I don\u2019t listen to Christian music, \u201cWell I don\u2019t find it as interesting as other songs, they are all kinda the same\u201d then she kinda looked bothered that I was not listening to Christian music like her.\n\n\n\u201cYou know, all the music you listen to is just made by people who don\u2019t believe in god, or anything. and do you think god would like you listening to music made by people who don\u2019t believe in him?\u201d I just answered \u201cWell I don\u2019t think so because well, it\u2019s just music it doesn\u2019t harm anyone.\u201d She then just let\u2019s out a sigh and left the table, did I do anything wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AkynRxOloutJ7PjzB4xDalrlk2JapolY", "post_id": "a9uxuw", "action": {"description": "not talking to my recent ex when he's suicidal", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "AITA for not talking to my recent ex when he\u2019s suicidal?", "text": "Background: I fucked up and cheated on my ex with three different people, despite the fact we had a discussion early on where he told me he had PTSD from infidelity in his last relationship and I promised that wouldn\u2019t be an issue, and I have a psychology degree so should have understood that better than most. I won\u2019t make excuses other than we all have our traumas and I fucked up.\n\nAnyway, when he found out, he tried working through it with me for a couple of weeks but it blew up when I texted one of the people I cheated with to let him know what happened and he saw that as a slap in the face. Another complicating factor was I found out I had genital herpes and he was afraid he caught it (turns out he didn\u2019t).\n\nHe said I was a bad person and was throwing a pity party for myself over my reasons for cheating and some other angry and hurtful words, then blocked me for two months before reaching back out to me recently when he found out I had continued talking to his mom.\n\nHe says he forgives me and is sorry for the hurtful things he said and did and would like to sit down and talk like adults and let it go and be at peace for his mental health. He claims to still be troubled by it and still feels suicidal, but I don\u2019t feel this is my responsibility at this point or that I have to forgive him for the things he said or see him again to talk.\n\nTL:DR - Cheated on ex with three people, he got angry and blocked all contact, now wants to talk and let it go for his mental health, but I don\u2019t feel I should have to.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rVMKAIGuPyq59SnpIC18E4LeoLe21dNF", "post_id": "atehu2", "action": {"description": "talking about wrestling", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for talking about wrestling", "text": "I work at a company with my friend, B. We work in separate departments but meet up on one of breaks to chat. Lately, I have also taken an interest in pro-wrestling, and B has made it clear that she does not want to talk about wrestling, and random side-bit that comes into play later, a few positions have opened in our company that we are both interested in applying to.\n\nMy slip-ups on wrestling (all on our break):\n\n1. Another coworker who also likes wrestling came over and he and I talked at length about it. Once he left, I apologized because I didn\u2019t realize how drawn out that conversation would get.\n\n2. I mentioned I was irked because a wrestler that is similar to B got booked poorly. Ended, talked about other stuff.\n\n3. Talked about how my mom freaked out when I mentioned I may want to try out wrestling. Point of it was how my mom freaked out.\n\n4. Mentioned how I found it funny that another coworker who is fit and is interested in training for it is worried about being sore, compared to me who is not in shape.\n\n5. I showed her a video of a wrestling fan in a Q&A having a comical breakdown. The only relevance to wrestling is that it deals with wrestlers. [Reference](https://youtu.be/jKECiyIsq3I)\n\nNow about the job positions, I was thinking about two, the Trainer position and Inventory Specialist. After consideration, I figured Trainer wouldn\u2019t be a good fit since I wouldn\u2019t be a good advocate for the company especially in front of new hires. B thinks I\u2019d be a good fit, and mentions it each day for about the past week, even though I\u2019ve voiced my concerns about trying to promote the company in a good light. Now B is also interested in the Inventory Specialist position I\u2019m applying for, which I said I could see her doing.\n\nThis conversation happened today:\n\nMe: You\u2019re gonna be disappointed in me, I don\u2019t think I\u2019m going to apply for Trainer\n\nB: Okay, just be aware both me and C are both applying for it\n\nMe: Wow geeze, way to lay the smackdown on me, listing off all the competition\n\nB: Well I just think you\u2019d be a good fit for the Trainer position\n\nMe: Okay, can we respect that I may not want to apply for Trainer?\n\nB: Can we respect that I don\u2019t want to talk about wrestling?\n\nI will say that I\u2019ve slipped up a bit with the wrestling remarks, and  I did apologize after, but I feel like at least 3 of the points above aren\u2019t really ABOUT wrestling, and yeah, I won\u2019t talk about it anymore, but is it really appropriate to throw that at me when I\u2019m trying to ask for some space on trying to find a good job for myself? B\u2019s first line kinda struck me a bit and not sure how to take it. It\u2019s either:\n\nA. She doesn\u2019t think I can get it, which irks me a bit because friends should be supportive.\n\nB. She\u2019s threatened by me and trying to make me think twice about applying (I hate this idea, since it feeds into ego, and I really try to avoid that).\n\nWell, that\u2019s the lot of it. Am I the asshole, is B? Maybe we both are", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "FUDoVl8OIQc8YJsF1M6KBXXImVZnh6J8", "post_id": "alxq4k", "action": {"description": "flat out ignoring a mentally handicapped person", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for flat out ignoring a mentally handicapped person?", "text": "From August 2018-December 2018 I had dated a girl who worked a job as a special needs caregiver for a low functioning autistic teenager. Throughout this dating period she would occasionally give this teenager her phone and text me. I always played along. Ever since breaking up with this girl, she did not take it well (late night phone calls, drunken texts, and constant begging, etc\"). I told her she needs to stop contacting as I was creeped out (I didn't tell her that part).\n\n​\n\nWell today I received a string of texts from this teenager through my ex girlfriend's phone. I assumed these were all set up by her as a cry for attention and ignored them. Later I received a long winded text from my ex expressing how much of an asshole I am for \"flat out ignoring a mentally handicapped person\".\n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m4wJazxA7r08YuMJrdADBcTEyXfkqNpJ", "post_id": "b4q7gl", "action": {"description": "ruining my Baptist HS' homecoming hip hop theme", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ruining my Baptist HS\u2019 homecoming hip hop theme?", "text": "For reference I went to a private, Baptist school, in a fairly large city in the south, with a majority white student body. There were only 60 kids in my graduating class, and about 200 total in the high school. \n\nHomecoming is a BIG deal to our school. Big competitions between grades and tons of stuff that didn\u2019t really matter to anyone else except us. We loved it. I think it ended up getting so competitive my senior year, that they took a lot of the stuff out after my class graduated. Just people taking it way too seriously, I being one \n\nOur grade, they decided on the costume theme for our music day as hip hop. \n\nI heard some of my boys say they had decided to dress as the mother fucking NWA, and come to our BAPTIST SCHOOL as the NWA for homecoming. This was toeing a strange racist kind of line. None of us were extremely rich, but none of us were poor I\u2019ll give you that much, and we did not identify with the struggles of the NWA in any shape or form. This felt like a really bad scenario all around, and I wanted to put a stop to it, I felt like it could really reflect poorly on our school if word got out about it, I was also low key worried that some idiot may come in black face. \n\nFirst I took it to the lead girl who was a student and had headed all of this up. I told her my concerns, and she basically said I hadn\u2019t helped with input up until this point so why did I want to change it so badly now. We talked together with the teacher who was leading our grade, and she understood but didn\u2019t think it was worth changing. That\u2019s when I took it to the vice principal. This was a day or so before we were supposed to execute this theme. \n\nHe was not happy, he was not happy it was approved and he was not happy that he hadn\u2019t heard about it. Also this guy was a dick, and he always gave me trouble about everything so I hated him. I wasn\u2019t kissing his ass, and I wasn\u2019t throwing my friends under the bus, I was genuinely worried we would be the next story on the news if this came to happen. \n\nSo finally everyone starts accusing me of being an asshole, and thinking I was \u201cHolier than thou\u201d and saying that I ruined the theme. Saying I thought I was such a good Christian but really I was out hooking up with girls and doing general misbehaving. I didn\u2019t think I was a good Christian. It had nothing to do with my morals being superior. I just really thought it was a stupid idea, and I didn\u2019t want us to all be the next laughing stock of the south. \n\nWe avoided the crisis, we checked down to a Christmas themed homecoming, and ended up taking first place. It was forgotten about by all in a week, as kids so often do. \n\nI\u2019m 21 now, was 18 ish then. \n\nWas I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pXEgMi8dScNkET1A3pPAdckhGrsmd3k3", "post_id": "ay32ia", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to be friends with her ex", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to be friends with her ex?", "text": "Heyo, don\u2019t know if I\u2019m posting in the right subreddit or not. Sorry for had formatting, I\u2019m on mobile.\n\nMy girlfriend and I have been together for a few months now, and she makes me incredibly happy. She originally had gotten out of a bad relationship a few months prior me asking her out.  This ex, let\u2019s call them X, has just started hanging out with her again. Let\u2019s call my girlfriend G.\n\nSo G and X have been hanging out for a while, which I\u2019m fine with. I\u2019m a bit jealous, but fine. But X seems really really close with G, almost... too close. X is baking G food, buying them gifts, etc. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable since I know they still have feelings for eachother. (G told me.) \n\nI\u2019ve tried going up to X, but she\u2019s incredibly fake. She\u2019ll be really nice and joke with me, and even start to even bring ME things to get her to not hate her. I don\u2019t really know what to do, since I don\u2019t want to be an asshole to her for no reason, especially since she\u2019s been so nice to me lately. \n\nI\u2019ve talked to G and she understands, but she assures me nothing is going to happen. I\u2019m actually kind of afraid that I\u2019m the rebound... I don\u2019t really know what to do since I don\u2019t want it break it off with G. \n\n\n\nThanks. If you have any questions let me know.\nBison\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2sssXlmV4WHL25pnGpCZuB5i2We7zVKR", "post_id": "a8wbuk", "action": {"description": "shouting at other people's children because they were misbehaving and causing a ruckus", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for shouting at other people\u2019s children because they were misbehaving and causing a ruckus?", "text": "So context: My(M19) family and a few other families (we\u2019re all Asians) went on a holiday together. So the families only know each other because my younger brother(12) is school friends with them. \n\nDue to our large group there are obviously going to be a lot of children about 11 in total aged 8-13 all boys. When travelling from place to place it was more convenient to rent a bus. So how it happened is that the young kids rush to the back to take the last row. As there\u2019s only 5 sears on the last row it\u2019s basically a first come first served basis. So the rest of the children would have to sit elsewhere in front of them.\n\nSo what happened is that the last 2 rows were occupied by children and I was sitting on the third last row with no one next to me. The bus ride to our next destination was quite long so I decided to take a nap. But half way to dreamland one of the kids(M8) was kicking my seat. So I politely asked him to stop. He then complained that it was because i reclined my seat a bit to lie down and sleep. Of course I told him he could recline his too. This was when I noticed the problem.\n\nThe children were arguing because the row at the back couldn\u2019t recline their seats as it was the last row. So they took their frustration out on the children(younger than them) sitting in the row in front of them. And of course this was then taken out on me because I was on the third last row. The adults on the trip are pretty laid back and let their kids run a bit wild so I felt quite annoyed that the kids couldn\u2019t solve this problem.\n\nAt first I tried to get their attention so I could give a solution, but of course, kids enjoy bickering and ignored me. So due to a long ride in the bus, and probably some frustration, I shouted at the kids to get their attention and told them quite angrily \u201cThose that want to sit in the back you chose there so don\u2019t complain when those sitting in the second last row recline their seats. If you don\u2019t like it go sit somewhere else on the bus!\u201d \n\nSo I was probably very loud and pissed off because all the adults turned to look at me. Later my parents told me that even if the kids were in the wrong I have no right to shout at them. It puzzled me a little because \n1. I sort of solved their problem \n2. Where do I draw the line between being responsible for these young children due to being an older \u2018child\u2019 and helping solve their arguments. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HUaBQlPbP3lmvUKA1jWdk6fHt8okyCxC", "post_id": "ax86hk", "action": {"description": "refusing champagne and chocolate covered strawberries", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for refusing champagne and chocolate covered strawberries?", "text": "Me and my fianc\u00e9 went away for the weekend. I called the hotel before hand to confirm our reservation, let them know we have our pup with us because they have dog specific rooms and ask if I could purchase something nice to surprise my fianc\u00e9 to be placed in the room for when we arrive. The front desk said they could provide champagne and chocolate covered strawberries. When I asked how much it would be the agent asked if we were celebrating anything? I told him our engagement and to my delight he offered the gift on the house. \nWhen we checked in the agent ( a different one from my earlier call) went through the regular welcome/confirmation spiel \u201cMr. Smith we have you staying with us for 2 nights in a pet friendly room...\u201d so on and so on.\nMy fianc\u00e9 wasn\u2019t at the desk with me so I quietly asked the agent if they were able to put the gift in the room. The agent looked blankly at me and frantically at her screen. She told me she had no notes of the champagne and chocolate covered strawberries. She apologized and offered to bring them the next evening. I was so bummed they made a note of us having a dog ($150 fee) but not the gift I was willing to pay for i sarcastically told her not to worry about it several times making it known it wasn\u2019t \u201cok\u201d. So at this point it was a bit of scene and it became apparent to my fianc\u00e9 something was wrong. As we walked to our room I explained the situation and she  said I didn\u2019t have to make the front desk agent feel so bad about it and make a scene. So I guess IATA. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "De6k8BWkQUfm5XLcmpDtZNIlC3ZvsleN", "post_id": "b8kh31", "action": null, "title": "AITA because my husband works more AND does more housework than me?", "text": "I know, I  sound like the bad guy, and I feel guilty sometimes so maybe I am. \n\n**Housework**: He does the dishes (daily) and I do the laundry (one or two days a week). I hated it and spent a lot of time on it, he doesn't mind it at all and knocks it out in 20 minutes. He has 0 sponge hygiene, which freaks me out.\n\nI'm in charge of laundry, and tbh I do let it pile up. Usually it's no big deal, but recently he ran out of clean underwear and I felt terrible.\n\nNeither of us are super tidy but I'm worse.\n\nI sweep, tidy, and clean the bathroom. Husband mows the lawn, does projects around the house, and goes grocery shopping. He doesn't mind any of these tasks, but overall he puts more hours into housework than I do.\n\n**Work**: He works 40+ hours and I work 15-20. He makes tons of money and I make a pittance. However, his job is just a job, whereas my job contributes to the world and our community, so I don't feel like my job is intrinsically inferior. \n\n**Parenting**: We have two kids, a toddler boy and an older girl. My husband does a bit more of the hands-on parenting of the toddler when he's home, but because he works more than me, I'm still the primary caregiver most of the time. It evens out pretty well. \n\nBut our daughter, I feel like I'm raising her alone. They don't get along. I'd say 85% of what he says to her is telling her what to do and criticizing her. She and I are close, she trusts me, and I'm a very active mom.\n\nWe also homeschool, which is important to both of us. She's pretty independent, but I do a fair amount of hands-on teaching, plus all the background work of planning etc. He does none and doesn't like to hear/talk about it (but still wants me to do it). She is thriving academically and has many friends and activities and is quite confident and popular. He does very little driving, appointments, playdates, etc.\n\n**Mental and physical health**: I'm a low-energy person and he's medium-high. I struggle with depression and anxiety and sometimes it makes things hard to get done. I have worked VERY hard to take control of it and learn coping skills. I'm a hundred times more functional than I used to be and I continue to improve.\n\nI also get migraines, and it's hard to keep up on things when you regularly lose 1-2 days a week.\n\nI'm also pregnant right now, but honestly things aren't that different when I'm not pregnant.\n\n**Social time:** He goes out three times a week with friends. I'm happy to support it because it helps him de-stress, but it's a long day for me with the kids.\n\n**Sex:** We have a very active sex life, including when I'm tired and even sick/in pain. Sometimes, it really is a choice between x household task and having sex, because either one will wear me out, and he always chooses sex. Sometimes he still gets annoyed about the household task not getting done anyway.\n\nSo reddit, AITA? Sometimes I feel guilty, but other times I feel like things work out somewhat fairly. You tell me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mSZwqjqxMcSNwrUGzx1OIlBMbNZun965", "post_id": "b61s50", "action": {"description": "not wanting my son to attend a relative's funeral", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA ? I don\u2019t want my son to attend a relative\u2019s funeral", "text": "Tl/dr: a memorial will be held for my SIL, she will not be embalmed or \u201cprettied up\u201d I don\u2019t want my son there.\n\nThere is a lot to unpack here, but I\u2019ll try to be brief.\nSIL died and it was a shock to the family and my husband(her brother) is having serious \u201cignore it\u201d issues\n\nShe was incarcerated before the death and we (meaning her brother and I) were not kept in the loop about her failing health\n\nWe did not tell our now 8 yr old son she was arrested, just that she lived too far away to see us. We both decided it would bring more questions we couldn\u2019t really answer...and well, at this age kids will volunteer such information in any conversation or activity  REMOTELY involving jail ( like passing his school SRO and telling her, or playing monopoly or something)and nothing definitive was proven... bail just could not be made.\n\nSon is aware she has died\n\nAnyhow, first there wasn\u2019t going to be a memorial, then Minds were changed  and now there is... but it\u2019s not going to be a \u201cproper \u201c funeral. It\u2019s more of a chance for immediate family to see her and make the adjustment of not seeing her because she was in jail, to we won\u2019t see her ever because she died ( pulmonary embolism). \n\nShe will not be embalmed or \u201cgussied up\u201d to look like she\u2019s sleeping as she is to be cremated, not interred all but her face will be covered with just a sheet to hide the autopsy scars because she is to be cremated.\n\nI don\u2019t find it wise that his last memory of her be a pale corpse with discolored lips and all. I\u2019m not sure how I or my husband or my older son are going to deal.\n\nWe\u2019ve had pet deaths over the years ending with a funeral and all, so death isn\u2019t a foreign concept, however not seeing his aunt after so long like THIS could be past trauma and go into catastrophic nightmares.\n\nMy husband has been \u201cchecked out\u201d since the news and is suddenly making noises as if our son is coming. He will be too distraught to wrangle our son and I can\u2019t be there for the family, and keep tabs on an eight year old.\n\nI also don\u2019t want him there because even I tried to keep him away from the viewing, 8 year olds are curious creatures and will steal a glimpse the first chance they have.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VT4vSs84MFXWfnr3szvs8vGMC1mJf7n8", "post_id": "azyo03", "action": {"description": "bringing a first date back to my place", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for bringing a first date back to my place?", "text": "I'm a male that has been living with two female roommates for the past few months. I met both of them when I was in a long term relationship, that has since ended. Since this relationship ended I've been getting back out there on tinder and have had some luck.\nAbout a month ago I met this girl that I really liked and after going on a few dates, I invested her over to watch TV and then sleep over. Apparently my roommates had an issue with me bringing over a \"stranger\" to our house. They said that I should wait months before I do (which I though was an exaggeration) and at the time I believed it was an issue with us spending that much time in the common area and that they were mad that they had an interaction with her. \nSo the other night I went on a date with this girl who I had met on Tinder and had been texting for about a week. The date went very well, and we got pretty drunk, and since we were close, we ended up going back to my place. (It's important to note that one roommate had family visiting, but Im not aware of them being really religious). We tried to be as quiet as possible that night and the next morning. Knowing that it would be inappropriate for this girl to have interactions with my roommates and guests, we waited until everyone left before leaving my room and house. We really tried to be as courteous as possible. \nWell I got a text later that day stating how disrespectful and fucked up it was to bring a girl over and that if having casual sex in my room was important to me then I should move out.  I understand that this is our home, so if there are any rules, then we all have to abide by them, but I don't think it's fair to say that I have to wait long. Of time in order to bring over a guest to my room.\nSo am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h80wtDZxGtvAuahVYNtPTxe6Z8oekFWa", "post_id": "aquq4h", "action": {"description": "calling my elderly mother out for enabling my brother", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For calling my elderly mother out for enabling my brother?", "text": "My mother is a very generous to me and my siblings. She does not have very much money but she loves us all and would always try to help us all if she can. When I had some tough times, she helped me out financially, so I am not going to be a hypocrite and say that she should not help any of my other siblings. One of my brothers, whom I am fond of, is extremely feckless. He's recently acquired a property and has been spending several weeks renovating it. He's doing it full time. He has no job and no money and has bills coming up. My mother was worried that he would get into trouble, so she gave him some money. When my mother said this, I started laughing at her. I wasn't mad because she's a grown woman and can do what she wants with her money. She's helped me in the past, so I don't feel that morally, I can't say anything about her helping one of my other siblings.\n\nHere's the thing. Despite having had financial issues in the past, I have always worked. There was always money coming in and I have done my level best to support myself. Now, my mother, who has no pension and is surviving on savings, has funded my brother's attempts to, amongst other things, set up an artisan food business, a micro-brewery, and a tour company. All have failed. There is no possible way for him to repay her any of this money.\n\nWhen my mother started talking about helping all her children when they were in need, I started laughing. I pointed out that my brother owned a substantial asset, a property, and was perfectly capable of earning a living. He was refusing to do so because he knew perfectly well that our mother would bail him out. She has done so for decades and would continue to do so. When I suggested that she cut him off, she got really upset and started telling me that I had no idea what it was like to be a mother. I admit that I cut her off at that point and pointed out that as a father, I had the same responsibilties that she did and that if my son pulled the same shit my brother was doing, he would be out on his butt. Not because I didn't love him but because he needs to learn to be self-sufficient. I pointed out to him that one of my other siblings would be happy to pay my brother a decent allowance just to look after the family home but there's no way he would do it because he is lazy AF. That he's never been made financially accountable for any of his plain batshit insane schemes. I told my mother that if she left everything to my brother, he would burn through all the money in a couple of years and then find himself up shit creek without a paddle because she would no longer be around to bail him out.\n\nMy mother started crying and said that I was being mean to her. That she is an elderly lady and had a lot on her plate. This is true. She's caring for some relatives who are sickly.  Now none of this was said in anger. I was laughing when I said this because I knew that nothing would change and I just couldn't say nothing this time. We have had this conversation so many times before. I usually keep my mouth shut and say nothing but this time I couldn't let it go because she compared me to my brother and suggested that we were the same. I have made some terrible financial decisions in the past but I have got my finances back on the level, have never not worked, and have helped my ex raise our son. I am financially stable, have a decent job, and realistic plans for the future.\n\nMy mother has been financially generous to me in the past, so I have no axe to grind as to whom she leaves any money she has left to. But what worries me is that she is going to run out of money to support herself, and even worse, when she passes, my younger brother, whom, despite his fecklessness, I am fond of is going to be totally f***** because he's never been held accountable for his reckless financial behaviour. I admit that part of me realises that she's never going to chance and neither is he. Given that, am I the asshole for making my mother cry by pointing out that she's enabling reckless financial behaviour by my brother which may screw the rest of us (if she runs out of money) and will surely screw my younger brother when the money runs out and he has no viable means of earning a living?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LKtxl5JLBGEjIuavo2EwZYO99AgFpmIP", "post_id": "b9yirw", "action": {"description": "not fighting the guy who groped my gf", "pronormative_score": 27, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not fighting the guy who groped my GF", "text": "Me (25, M) and my GF (23, F) were walking down some pretty quiet street in our city. All of a sudden, I see this guy reach out and before I know it he grabs my GF's ass for a second and she makes a gasping noise. He walks away but as he does he turns and winks at us. My GF and I swear at him and call him a creep and all that but he shrugs them off and just walks off down another street.\n\nI asked my GF if she was okay and say we should report the incident. She says she doesn't want to that it's 'no big deal', and despite me asking again if she sure she was okay she said she wasn't that bothered. \n\nAnyway, when we get home I ask her once more if she is okay, as she's been quite quiet and I'm afraid she might be very upset. She says she's very upset that I didn't try to beat the guy up after he grabbed her ass and just let him walked away.\n\nNow she's not talking to me. Now, I don't feel like I should've attacked him. For one, I could have been arrested for assault as it wouldn't be in defense. Secondly, I'm quite a skinny guy at 150 pounds and he was BIG. By big, I mean he was built like a boxer, thick muscles and all. \n\nDoes this make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EIi3cT8BMrnFQFYTZ7ZQDg6bHnztxu1C", "post_id": "aldi5t", "action": {"description": "jacking off while I thought my girlfriend was asleep", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for jacking off while I thought my girlfriend was asleep?", "text": "Okay here's the story. Sorry I'm on mobile and I'm heading into school so it might be a jumbled mess. Last night, I couldn't sleep so I grabbed my phone went to the downstairs bathroom and jacked off. Came back upstairs to my girlfriend asking if I wanted to have sex to help me sleep. I said, shit I just jacked off. I thought you were asleep. This is when the argument broke out.\n\nA little history to understand both sides:\nWe've dated 2 years. Lately we've slowed down on sex (she says this is my choice and not hers, she says she's always wanting to have sex). Its more like a once a week or longer type of situation these days. We used to have sex like 3-4 times a week. I could make a million excuses on why there's a lack of sex recently but it mainly just comes down to the fact I work construction and go to school and Im exhausted Monday thru Friday. Im never super in the mood to fuck. And on top of it all my girlfriend has been gaining a bit of weight of the last year. Its not like I'm not attracted to her because of this but she just seems to,botg care about her appearance anymore. I made the mistake of saying something about it last night. We were arguing and I told her she doesn't even try to get me in the mood. These days she's always in her grungy pjs and only seems to initiate when she's wearing these clothes. So I fucked up and said she needed to work on herself, hit the gym and try to be more sexy with initiating sex. I said this all in the heat of the argument. That was a dick thing to say but over the last six months I've bought her a gym pass she never used once. Done diets with her even though I don't need to diet. I've never flat out told her to lose weight before last night, its always been herself saying she needs to lose weight.\n\nAnyway the fight blew up real quick. I said some stupid shit and so did she. She told me I should feel like a piece of shit for jacking off when my girlfriend is laying next to me. I kept telling I thought you were asleep. Then she went off on me saying no guys do this shit and that I'm weird and then she was asking what kind of porn I was watching. I jacked off for literally 5 minutes.\n\nI don't know, I think what it comes down to is my girlfriend and I sitting down and talking. I guess I might just be venting here so I apologize for that. But really id like to know if jacking off last night because I couldn't fall asleep while I thought my girlfriend was already asleep, if that's makes me an asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "o2yz3sYLfWpajXZkhTDrJwihdS79LolI", "post_id": "b021l6", "action": {"description": "thinking my family should diet with me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for thinking my family should diet with me?", "text": "So I am a 17 year old who lives with my 2 brothers who are 5 and 6. I personally am trying to lose weight but me not being very in control of my own eating makes this a nightmare, this is mainly due to what kind of food is around the house and it's my own fault for just not eating right (also doesn't help that i'm pretty picky when it comes to healthy food) and exercising. \n\nI've been trying to get my family to help with it since in my mind if they support me with it maybe my brain will finally kick the whole \"LOSE WEIGHT\" thing up to 11. But it isn't easy due to my Step-Dad who refuses to budget around healthier food and brushes it off as \"too expensive\" (If they just stopped buying so much junk food and made sure to portion the food correctly it'd be a lot easier). Right now i can't buy food for the entire family due to me not having a job at the moment and the only thing i get is a monthly SSI check which i use to get things for the month (not what it's intended for but it's what i use it on). \n\nOn top of this my mom and dad collectively refuse to stop making sweet tea out of pure habit i guess and i did stop drinking it but once it was really the only thing to drink other than tap water i got tempted to start drinking it again. While this is mainly a thing for me to lose weight it's also out of protection for my brothers simply because i don't want them to end up getting made fun of at school (Like I did for years) because of their weight. So i'm going to reddit to see if I truly am the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xIOpZNIHcqX5WBd27O4S2voBugmAyhK7", "post_id": "b4z2oj", "action": {"description": "not giving up cooked breakfasts for my dieting girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving up cooked breakfasts for my dieting girlfriend?", "text": "My girlfriend has been doing a new diet.   She can only eat between 12-8.  She asked me to not eat around her during her fasting hours, no problem.  The issue at hand however is that we live in a smallish apt and after a bit she also asked me not to cook food during her fasting hours as the smell makes her hungry.  I told her that I\u2019m not sure I could do that, but would at least give it a try.  \n\nI\u2019m a big breakfast fan.  Eggs and bacon is top 5 for me easily.  I made an attempt to just stick to cereal and instant oatmeal, but it really didn\u2019t take long at all for me to get dead sick of it.  Also I never really realized how much popcorn I eat with a late night movie, I definitely miss it.  \n\nI\u2019m trying to be supportive, but it seems a little unreasonable to me that I can\u2019t cook myself breakfast in the morning.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cwnKbPfVSJ2kikKIPpRCdTzoRjcEjjps", "post_id": "af61pq", "action": {"description": "wanting my friends to plan", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for wanting my friends to plan?", "text": "Okay so I have this group of friends with 3 other people and just for name sake I'm gonna call my friends Josh, Amy, and Kate. Ever since we all met each other in order for us to hang out me and Amy would have to plan everything everytime we hang out, we would have to plan what time, where we would eat and what we would do after and we are usually the ones asking them to hang out. Everytime we would ask suggestions on what we should do Josh and Kate would usually say idk, or tell us that they are good with anything and when we are planning that's doesn't help at all. So me and Amy gotta find out something all four of us would like. \n\nRecently Amy got mad when I said I want to hang out. She went on a rant about why we always have to ask them to hang out with us and why they never ask us to hang out with them and why we always the one doing all the work just so the rest of the group will happy when we hang out. So we told the other two that if they really want to hang out with us then they plan everything for once. They were alright. So the day before we asked what's the plan and they gave a list of like 12 restaurants to chose from and told us to pick one and figure out what we will do after and they told us they can do anytime after 12 and told us to pick a time. Idk if that's just me but it sounds like they didnt do any planning and we are gonna have to plan everything. \n\nSo after they gave us the list of restaurants I said I was fine will all of them (trying to let them choose) a few hours late Jake texted and said have yall choose a restaurant and Amy was like we can do to Chilis if yall want. Nobody responded then Amy texted again and said \"So like are we doing anything or not..?\" Kate then said chilis \"we're going to chili's and hanging out idk what else to say\" Amy said \"...what time?\" Then Jake got mad and said \"\u2606Kate and me dont even want chili's and we gave yall options to choose from, so choose anything else, we ain't doing shit\n\n\u2606I assume that Kate and him have been talking in private \n\nI got mad and called them out on how me and Amy always making the effort to hang out and they do nothing. Adding on to that I said \"I'm sorry for asking yall to plan for once I guess that was too hard for yall\" (which I then apologized later for saying something rude like that.) There was this whole argument and in the end we resolved the argument and hung out with no problems\n\nI know it's such and small and dumb thing to argue over but I just wanna know am I out of line for wanting them to make a effort to hang with us and getting mad when that's what they came up with. I had no problem with planning but was it a mistake to bring it up and call them out on that in the first place.\n\n(These are my good friends and we resolved the problem and I dont hate or dislike them over this but it's just like... why dont yall ever come to us for once. We also have no problem with planning but we LITERALLY do it every we have ever hanged out)\n\n(Also when me and Amy ask them to hang out we are like: \"So Saturday I pick yall up at 1 and we go eat lunch at x restaurant then we will go to the mall for a few hours and we can go to my house and watch x movie. Does that sound good for you guys?\")\n\n*in the end me and Amy still ended up planning everything*", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "l1QW560Qp2vKskabinvPX9D3xyRI0iyF", "post_id": "b152tj", "action": {"description": "getting a sex doll", "pronormative_score": 45, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for getting a sex doll?", "text": "I [26m] have been dating gf [25f] for 4 years now, living together for 2. Generally, our relationship is pretty good - we rarely fight and our life together is fulfilling in all aspects except our sex life. Like most relationships, we started off having sex once a day, but that quickly tapered off. Around the 6 month mark she informed me that she does not enjoy sex that much, and would prefer it to occur around once a week. I would like it to be more frequent than this, but I respected her wishes and I generally initiate once a week. \n\nHowever, throughout our relationship she has enjoyed using her vibrators/dildos without me (yes, I have asked to use it on her and she has turned me down) 3-4x a week. I don't have a problem with this necessarily - of I course I wish she was using that energy with me, but I get that sometimes people can be in the mood for masturbating and not sex. I watch porn regularly and she doesn't like it, but hasn't explicitly asked me to stop. \n\nThat leads us to the issue -  recently, I purchased a sex doll for my own use. It has a face, but it is clear that it is not a real human. I enjoy it more because, for me, it feels more real. However, gf freaked out and told me to get rid of it. I feel like this isn't fair to me - I spent a good chunk of money on it and its not exactly returnable, and to me it seems like its basically the same as the toys she uses. After all, she has a dildo and it certainly isn't shaped like my dick. \n\nAITA for not wanting to get rid of this? (For the record, I'd much prefer to not use it at all and just have sex with her, but again, she doesn't want to)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 33, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 45, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5sTwJW9UnvnNhj2FFMuhSWCKAKFZsWAK", "post_id": "agea6d", "action": {"description": "having a no girls rule in my house while I help my friend get back on their feet", "pronormative_score": 48, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For having a no girls rule in my house while I help my friend get back on their feet?", "text": "My friend recently has been through a rough patch and lost his place. I offered him a spare room in my house to help him before he finds a new apartment. I just got home today to find two females I do not know in my home. I asked him why there are so many people in my house as this place also has my mother, wife and two kids. He just looks at me like I busted him. \n\nWe get into it a little bit and while he\u2019s done nothing wrong to make himself at home, I feel uncomfortable at the thought of strangers in my home. While the room he\u2019s in has some privacy, it\u2019s far from an apartment or a space to share with other folk. \n\nAITA for kicking the girls out and placing a no girls rule? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 42, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 48, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jBtNHsb55ZHugslhTgZ4tBym5XqlJDcj", "post_id": "ad64pg", "action": {"description": "staying friends with a white supremacist", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for staying friends with a white supremacist?", "text": "I\u2019ve been close friends with \u201cBob\u201d for about 20yrs (since grade school, we\u2019re now both middle aged). Since the last election, Bob has become open about extremely racist views I never knew he had. I\u2019m not talking \u201cwants to build a wall\u201d but full-on Daily Stormer reading, whites are superior, global Jewish conspiracy type of shit.\n\nInitially I\u2019d have (calm) arguments/debates with him about it. However, it seemed like this was just encouraging him to talk about his idiotic views, which maybe wasn\u2019t worth the rare times I could convince him of any point. Lately, I just ignore the vast majority of racist/political things he texts me and only talk to him about normal things (hobbies, etc). I still occasionally mock him for thinking he\u2019s oppressed despite being a white dude from an upper middle class family, having an advanced degree, and a very high income. It\u2019s hard not to.\n\nOn one hand I tend to think it\u2019s pretty lame to cut people out of your life over different viewpoints, doing so would reinforce alt-right narrative that liberals can\u2019t openly debate their views, and I\u2019m not sure what real positive difference ending the friendship would make. \n\nOn the other hand, he holds some terrible beliefs and as long as he\u2019s voting to advance them that counts as acting on those beliefs in my book.\n\nAm I the asshole for continuing to have and enjoy a friendship with someone despite them being a self-described white-supremacist?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zV5XC5mwAxwj11VSK6vpEutVbibMZBVK", "post_id": "aq9asd", "action": {"description": "ghosting an aggressive sales company", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting an aggressive sales company?", "text": "On Sunday, I was walking through home depot and was blindsided by one of their partner companies wanting to talk about a new AC unit in my home. Mine is rather old, and the lady was nice enough, so I gave her my information and asked her to send me something to read over. She tried to pressure me into scheduling a quote visit, to which I said the weekly schedule it tough and people aren't always at the house so I would have to get back to them.\n\nSince Sunday, they have called me 5 times including voicemails. I have ignored all of them as I'm really not interested in getting locked into a sales pitch over the phone. The fourth call was to \"confirm my appointment for today at 12pm\" which I never agreed to at all. The fifth call, just now, was to call them back because the technician was standing at my door and no one was home.\n\nI assumed the \"hey we are sending someone to your house tomorrow at noon\" was a ruse to get me to call back, but apparently they did actually send someone and now I feel bad for that person (who probably didn't know that the 'customer' didn't actually schedule a visit).\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AKc9lJFkwjIcSpYlnGyYsp8JLX7RvCaA", "post_id": "ak1rze", "action": {"description": "lying about sleeping with another person", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA - Lying about sleeping with another person.", "text": "\n\nI met a girl online (Omegle) she lived in America and I live in the U.K.\n\nShe had a boyfriend, we spoke platonically for months but soon found we had a lot in common. Without consulting me or mentioning anything, she decided to end things with her boyfriend and pursue a relationship with me. \n\nFor a few weeks we got closer, began to flirt and started to plan to meet each other. \n\nShe then decided she had made a horrible mistake ending things with her boyfriend and tried to get back with him, he rejected her. She made me aware of her thought process and decided it was too crazy to end a relationship with her boyfriend for someone she hasn't met, which I guess is understandable. \n\nFor approximately a week her and I got closer once more, not as close as before. Although I felt rejected and that any relationship we might salvage is only a result of her ex rejecting her attempts to reconcile. \n\nI went out with some friends in a bar around this  time and met another girl. I went back to her house and decided I didn't want to do anything with her, I was drunk and upset by recent events so I went home. \n\nOut of anger and spite I lied to the American girl and told her I had a one night stand, and that I was over her. \n\nMonths later the American girl and I reconciled and decided to pursue a relationship. \n\nAfter around 6 months of being in a relationship now with the American girl. She admitted to me that she slept with someone on the night I had lied about my one night stand. I told her that I had been lying the whole time and she doesn't seem too bothered about this. \n\nI'm struggling here. I know I shouldn't have lied about sleeping with someone. The truth is though that I felt too guilty and hurt to sleep with someone but she did so with no issues. \n\nWas the asshole thing lying about it or was the asshole thing actually doing it as a response to me doing it?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0iwE6E0bftp9RM3tqfPgkJrdJLGC2vsu", "post_id": "a1sl91", "action": {"description": "abandoning my friend of 7 years", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for abandoning my friend of 7 years", "text": "A few months ago I (m15) went to my friend\u2019s (m17) house and he told me that he thought he was bi. I supported and accepted him but when he told me he also thought that he liked me I tried to nicely tell him i just saw us as friends. Regardless, he attempted to kiss me and ask me really strange questions relating to my dick. This bothered me but I ignored it at the time and we continued to hang out with each other. When I got moved into his school he wanted to hang out with me and my friends a lot and they all hated him because of how creepy and annoying he would act toward me, (also they knew about what had happened at his house.) At Halloween he was continuing his creepy shit he would say to me, ( calling me his \u201clittle bitch\u201d, hinting at liking me, weird shit like that,) and after it my friends and I had had enough so I haven\u2019t talked to him since.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i9tKyyTlZ9QeAfL02hUkOMz8ruHqxd0y", "post_id": "b6km16", "action": {"description": "cutting a sleepover short over a doll", "pronormative_score": 28, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for cutting a sleepover short over a doll?", "text": "A little bit of backstory and throwaway account to avoid the coworker seeing this.\n\nI was raised alongside my best friend as our mothers grew up together. I trusted this man with my life and he always came through for me. He was the godfather of my three children and I'm the godmother of his two .Three years ago, he passed away in a car accident but before he did he left my daughter (then 11, now 14) an American girl doll that looked like her. She doesn't like dolls, hates them actually and was planning on giving it to her cousin but when she found out her godfather died, she kept it. It sits in it's box on a shelf in her room and anyone who comes into her room gets told not to touch multiple times. Even her brothers won't touch it when they're trying to push her off because she will break down.\n\nNow that the backstory is out of the way, here's the situation. \n\nMy coworker (Myra) wanted a weekend to herself and asked if her daughter( 13, Stacy) could have a sleep over with my daughter, Grace(14), I agreed. My sons had to go to their grandmother's house along with our dog before Stacy could come over and Grace wasn't really wanting a sleepover but was convinced into doing it by one of her friends. Stacy got told the rules of Grace's room which included not touching her doll. Everything was hunky dory until Saturday night when Grace found Stacy playing with her doll after she went to the bathroom. An argument ensued that ended with Stacy throwing the doll on ground and storming out. \n\nLuckily, the floor was carpet and the doll was okay but Grace was bawling her eyes out. I called Myra and told her I'd be taking home Stacy early because of what happened and when I was dropping her off, Myra was pissed but said nothing about it. I thought she was upset her weekend was ruined but understood. \n\nWell when I came into work on Tuesday( I had Monday off), apparently Myra had told everyone in the office that I had kicked her daughter out for playing with a toy my daughter said she could play with. I was able to explain my side of the story but people still think we (Me and Grace) overreacted by kicking her out. Am I the Asshole here or just overreacting. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 28, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 28, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TQ5tkyf1PI1R52KnWt8980qI9sXvjanN", "post_id": "asv82p", "action": {"description": "telling a kid drinking water from a vodka bottle to leave my science fair stand", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a kid drinking water from a vodka bottle to leave my science fair stand?", "text": "Not much to it, but it's been baffling me for a while.\n\nEvery year I (15M) run a stand at a local science fair as part of a school club. Starting from a few years ago, my mum started to invite some of her friends and their children to volunteer at the same fair. \n\nThe only people stationed at my stall were myself, and two of my friends. About halfway through the day, some of my mum's friends' kids come over since their stands haven't been getting much traffic and they were told to take a break. Mine was a bit busy at this point, but I didn't have a problem.\n\nAbout 15 mins pass with no issue, but there's about seven people total sitting around in the tiny stand at this point, and traffic is increasing. I still didn't say anything, until one of the kids (~17M) whips out an empty vodka bottle filled with water and starts drinking from it. I tell him to put it away, but he ignores me. \n\nThen, a teacher from my club walks past and sees this happening. She gets (understandably) annoyed and asks me to tell the kid to put it away (the issue was that although this kid wasn't in the same school as me, my friends and I were in club uniform and strangers were looking weirdly at us weirdly). \n\nI tell the kid to put it away, and he again declines. So I tell everyone that since traffic was increased, there wasn't any room to loiter here anymore, so they all had to leave. After saying this a few times, they all leave after a little grumbling. \n\nI totally forgot about the whole thing until a few weeks later, my mum says her friend called her and said her kids had been crying because I kicked them out of the stall. So the question is, am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VrKjTgNznG1Wz5PZv42bTpOZGgaNsZtb", "post_id": "af5c5e", "action": {"description": "not letting someone sick sleep in my bed", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting someone sick sleep in my bed?", "text": "One of the people I live with has some pretty bad acid reflex so when they eat large amounts of acidy foods or they don't take their medication they get pretty bad moments where they constantly throwing up. I don't know all the details, but when he goes through these moments that is what he says. Well a few nights ago he was having a very bad moment where every other minute or so he was throwing up, mainly just stomach acid though, and couging a lot. He usually sleeps in his bed with his partner, but he didn't want to that night because he didnt want to wake her with all of the noise he was making, so he asked me if he could sleep in my room, in my bed and I said no for the following reasons. \n\n1. My room is not connect to a bathroom or near a bathroom in the house and I kind of don't want vommit in my room. I know it might be rude to assume he'll vommit in my room but, he does somethings I consider odd and gross when he's having these bad moments. He doesn't like just sitting in the bathroom for extended periods of time, which I understand and respect, so instead he'll just carry a towel around with him and throw up in that instead. I personally find it absolutely disgusting, but I get that he has a medical problem, so usually if he's doing that in a room I'm in I will leave rather than asking him to leave. However, I dont want him to do it in my room, I really don't want vommit soaken towels in my room and I especially don't want them on my bed.\n\n2. He has been known to leave these towels just lying about. I have been in his car and seen the disgusting towels not just left in his car for extended periods of time, but also on top of things such as books, blankets, and other things in his car. Im afraid that if he was puking into towels in my room, he would not have the respect to keep the towels off of my stuff. \n\n3. In general, I just don't like people in my room when I am not, and I get that may come off as a bit snobbish or rude, but it's just a pet peeve of mine.\n\nAfterwards talking about the subject a few people (albeit mainly him and people who don't live with him)  think that I should have given my room up despite what I consider extremely valid reasons. So reddit, am I in the right, or am I the snobbish asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aGJiYlkw8X1XntH3bpUAXnlUU8yIc1Kn", "post_id": "az7elv", "action": {"description": "warning my past assaulter's new girlfriend of his past", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I warned my past assaulter\u2019s new girlfriend of his past?", "text": "I only ask because she has a child. If my boyfriend was of any concern, being a parent, I\u2019d want someone to tell me so I can make sure my child is protected. I haven\u2019t spoken to him in years, maybe he\u2019s changed, but risking a child\u2019s safety just doesn\u2019t sit well with me. Should I reach out to her or should I mind my own business? \n\nI never reported what he did to me, so I have no legal proof or recourse to back it up. I\u2019d have to just hope she trusts me. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j2sBF7OnUKvtVD8UeIBf7ISmxEpPgPrs", "post_id": "b75rxo", "action": {"description": "purposely getting a girl's car towed", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for purposely getting a girl\u2019s car towed?", "text": "At my school you have to pay for a parking spot. However the school doesn\u2019t really check or enforce this policy unless someone brings up an issue. I hadn\u2019t been to school for the whole week because I was sick for 3 days and I just didn\u2019t want to show up before spring break. I decided to show up today to pick up a project that we had to do during break \n\nAs I was pulling up I noticed a girl parked in my assigned spot.(when I picked my spot I picked one of the ones closest to the door). I told her that she was in my spot. She apologized and said that she had just recently started driving to school and didn\u2019t know we had assigned spots. She said she had been parking there all week and no one said anything. She said she didn\u2019t want to move her car because that would make her late to 1st period, but she would no longer be parking there. I moved my car to the end of the parking lot, furthest from the school. I knew I was probably going to be late but I don\u2019t do anything 1st period so I didn\u2019t really care.\n\nWhen I walked in I was late and had to sign in at the office. There the assistant principal told me that since today was my 5th tardy for the month I would have to serve a 10 minute detention after school. I then threw the girl under the bus and told the assistant principal that she was parked in my spot and that was why I was late. The assistant principal erased my tardy and gave me a pass to class. At lunch he told me to move my car to my spot because the car there had been towed. They made an announcement contacting the owner to move their car but the girl had gone out to lunch in her friend\u2019s car and didn\u2019t hear it. After school she saw my car parked in my spot. I pretended to not know what happened and told her the spot was empty when I came back from lunch ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MxIsP083q1hOSluSHHXswJCm2lEMEwMO", "post_id": "ac681u", "action": {"description": "not communicating as much with my roommate and liking her as a friend as much as she liked me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not communicating as much with my roommate and liking her as a friend as much as she liked me?", "text": "Hello, this is my first time posting here, I hope I do it right. Post might be a bit long.\n\nSo, I was in my first semester of college very recently and I got paired up with this girl. We hit it off well at first. We had stuff in common and had similar experiences going into college. \n\nThis seemed great and people thought of us as perfect roommates, but there were times where she deeply made me uncomfortable. In the first week or so, we both had horrible times adjusting and were both very stressed and sad. I had to wake up for class early and I made a little noise. I felt super bad bc I could tell I was so I left a note for her apologizing and I was going to be more mindful and make less noise when I wake up early. When I came back to the room, she started screaming at me. She said how horrible I was for making noise and went over to my side of the room and rattled my clothe hangers and screamed \"This is the noise you were making! They sound like fucking skeletons! Can you fucking imagine how scary that is for me?!\" And stomped around the room saying thats what I did. Honestly, I knew I made a bit of noise but she was exaggerating. I felt hurt and scared so I just apologized profusely and instead I'd lay out my outfits at night and shower at night and pack for class the night before to minimize noise. After that, I've made such little noise and she told me I don't even realize you are waking up. She still went to an RA to get to move out and told her she had PTSD which made her unable to have noise in the room (I'm pretty sure she does have PTSD and talked about her life before) but never got a single room bc she refused to talk to therapists as school to get a doctors note. She eventually apologized but this whole incident made me really upset and made me blame myself for stuff to come.\n\nWe generally got along well, but I found myself getting annoyed by things she did. She'd inject herself into every conversation and hit on guys and drunkenly talk about cheating. (while in a relationship with a guy back in hs) She also didn't hang out with me bc she found a friend group early on and that was good. I was happy for her, but at the time, I was still struggling and while I left the room a lot, I'd go back to chill out. She always came in with her friends and they were nice to me and we'd talk a bit, but my roommate would make comments? She'd have a tone that was kind but sounded rude? I am also in a LDR with my bf and was skyping him during this hard time and she'd always make comments how I'm always talking to him? I call him twice a day, one to just talk abt our days and then another time to say goodnight. I also would offer to hang up if it bothered her that much and sometimes she would say hang up and sometimes shed be ok with it. I didn't mind that much she always had people in the room at first, but she never asked me beforehand if they could come. She told me to always tell her before I invite people over and I agreed and asked the same or just a little heads up, but she never did.\n\nHer boyfriend and her are less than 2 hrs away and both have cars. He visits sometimes and its ok with me, I even leave the room all day and only go back to sleep so they have privacy. Her bf doesn't talk to anyone except her and pokes fun at some kids at my school. If I say hi, he doesn't respond or if I ask how was the trip, no response. However, my boyfriend visited once and we dont have our cars up there, so it's an 8 hour train ride or bus ride for us. My roommate knew my bf was coming and I even offered to sleep in a friends room or the campus center because of her sleep problems for a night and she said ok. We rested at night before we went to sleep somewhere else and my roommate came in drunk and demanded we watch her rap and then bragged about her fluency in Spanish. My bf was exhausted for having travelled so long in an unknown place and just watched for a bit and awkwardly complimented her and we left. The next morning my roommate was unsure what to take as a class, she really wanted to try Spanish she said.My bf said she should try it out and if it doesnt work out, there is add/drop. She later left and came back after my bf was gone to tell me how rude he was. I asked what happened and she said that he was overstepping and acting like he knew everything when he encouraged her to take Spanish. I was really confused because I didnt perceive this as rude at all, but I told him and he apologized. She later would tell me this made her uncomfortable when he visits so I should just go to see him instead. She later talks shit about my bf to me months later. It really hurt, but I wouldnt say anything. Id just kind of say I need to go out of the room to avoid this conversation. She even brought up that he was jewish to call him weird for having a bar mitzvah. this hurt, because my father is jewish and she knows it too. \n\nI eventually got a solid group of friends and we hung out a lot and I was barely in the room. My roommate's group fell apart in less than a few weeks and I invited her sometimes to come along with my group, but she ended up complaining or asking sketchy questions to me about my friends. (sketchy as in kind of racist, my friend group consists of black girls, a latina, and a jewish girl and I'm asian) She said that my friends who were black look exactly the same and was confused at first, BUT THEY LOOK NOTHING ALIKE! Different hairstyles, skintone, facial features and height! I stopped inviting her bc they made my friends uncomfortable and she'd always say she was dependent on me for social interaction which made me feel weird. I was in the room even less after that. She also talked badly about her old friend group all the time.\n\nA lot of other stuff happened, like her kicking me out of the room so she could study. Her blaming me for getting her sick even though we were both in different states for thanksgiving break and I wasn't sick. My boyfriend visited for the last time before the semester ended and she kicked us out so we slept in a different friend's dorm. Her making a scene at my birthday surprise party my friends threw. I eventually told her everything and I needed to leave. She took it well but said if she knew earlier she would alter her behavior. I felt bad bc I did not say anything to her, except once (but was shut down) about the stuff she did and how it made me feel. I felt bad because she saw me as one of her closest friends and told me she relied on me and also did really nice things for me sometimes and said such nice things about me and I didn't communicate until it built up. I also felt crazy for thinking she was bad bc all the nice stuff she did so that was another reason I didn't say anything and I was also scared of her. But it still makes me feel like an asshole for not being direct until the end.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GxNFpSmwTibmIZc0UYPreENNu1dInQVv", "post_id": "aoazci", "action": {"description": "being annoyed and scolding my husband for blasting his dumb music", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AItA For being annoyed and scolding my husband for blasting his dumb music?", "text": "I know this sounds stupid but hear me out. My husband gets amped up to get shit done by listening to music. Cool, so do I, makes things seem to go faster. My problem is that he walks around the house blaring rap on his Bluetooth speaker. First of all, sometimes I just want peace  and fucking quiet. Secondly, I don't like most rap. but preferences aside, and the main reason it upsets me is that it's full of derogatory and inappropriate language that I don't want our 8yr old daughter listening to. I've explained this to him several times, he says okay and turns it off.\nThen does it AGAIN. And AGAIN. This has been going on for a good 4 months and I'm seriously so aggravated over it!\n\nThis is like an every other day thing and guess what day it is? I told him *again to turn it off or go to his workshop in the basement. He says \"okay jeez!\" like I'm overreacting. I told him to \"get a fucking pair of headphones before I run over the damn speaker with my car. I'm so sick of repeating myself!\" I don't ask nicely anymore because I'm just so fed up, but I didn't yell either. How many times do I need to say something? Was/am I overreacting or AItA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qML805TMkQdgyOZpNIbraIqhmFOpCwjq", "post_id": "a2f8ac", "action": {"description": "ending things with my gf of 3 years to live the van life", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I end things with my GF of 3 years to live the van life?", "text": "So here\u2019s my story, my girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, and we\u2019ve spent all of the past 2 and half years living together. I have loved every second spent with her but I\u2019ve had a huge change in my way of thinking due to the extreme levels of stress on my body and mind because of the pressure to make money and pay for rent, utilities and all of the extra stuff we get that is honestly never used. I\u2019ve talked to her about it and told her that when our lease is up on 4 months I refuse to live anywhere that will tether me to an area.  She got really upset but refuses to give up on her current lifestyle to adapt with mine, I know it sounds messed up but I\u2019ve come to a realization that I can no longer live a sane life doing the same shit every single day. \n\nWould I be the asshole if I move on? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ndv1QWhprOhHULsBsrHof8QM7aFWihk1", "post_id": "al8kkz", "action": {"description": "choosing my work over a camping trip", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Choosing My Work Over A Camping Trip", "text": "Hi All. Long time reader first time poster. This has been an issue that has eaten away at me ever since it happened.\n\nSo I lived with two other guys for about a year at the time this happened. The living dynamic was mostly positive at first. We were all graduate students in a wildlife conservation program at a medium sized university. We were all friends spending time hiking together, taking classes, and helping each other out with our research projects. However, as time went on I noticed some things about them I didn't really care for. \n\nThe first roommate we'll call Greg. He was a Marine before returning to college. He has a very nasty attitude about people. He belittles undergraduate students in our program and even some of the other graduate students. He has a very do-no-wrong mentality. When we first moved in together he made it clear he did not want to talk about issues because \"feelings are gay.\" Which I though little of at the time because I didn't think we'd have any problems. I like to think of myself as a somewhat decent human being and never had problems with roommates before. \n\nMy other roommate Steve and I became close friends almost instantly. He and I did almost everything together: working the same part-time jobs, birding, video games, etc. But as our friendship progressed I started feeling drained by doing everything with him all the time. At times he wanted to hang out and I just wanted to relax and what Netflix on my own. He would get angry many times when I wanted my personal space and would end up not speaking to me for days at a time. Then, like nothing, he'd start talking to me again like nothing was wrong. This also happened a lot when I went home to see friends. I live about 2 hours away from my university and still went home once or twice a month to spend time with family and old friends. I became frustrated with this after having it continuously occur. Despite needed a night to myself every now and again, I still considered him a good friend and being shut out became very hurtful. I tried speaking to him about it several times but he would just lie and saying \"nothing was wrong\" and continue to ignore me until he deemed it okay to talk to me again. Eventually I decided it was in my best interest to distance myself from him for my own sake. I still considered him a friend but just not as closely as I did before. \n\nAnyway, back to the incident at hand. Steve, Greg, and Greg's girlfriend Stacy were planning a camping trip at Stacy's family's property this past July. I had initially said I'd go. As a graduate student, I was responsible for several big conservation projects for my adviser over the summer. I was responsible for coordinating field work involving bat research. The research I was doing was funded and included my own master's thesis. My thesis has always been something that loomed heavily over me and something I took very seriously. The week before the camping trip the weather forecast got crazy. It was going to rain every day that week. When it rains we do not conduct research. It does not however change the fact that there were strict deadlines for research activities to get done. Despite this, I still thought I would be able to go camping. It was still early in the season and I had a few weeks to catch up. As the week progressed the weather forecast became more clear:  It was going to be clear Friday - Monday (when we were going be camping) and the following week was going to be all rained out again. My adviser and I met on the Thursday before we were supposed to go on the camping trip. He expressed his concern for me to be able to finish my research activities in time. In the field of conservation, you do research when you can do research whether that be during the week or the weekend. I knew what I had to do...\n\nEven still I was really worried that my roommates would not take it well. I was concerned that both of them would get angry with me about it and not speak to me for weeks. I had so much anxiety about it that I spoke to my girlfriend, my parents, and other friends about it to try and come up with a way to make them understand where I was coming from. In the end, I thought that it would be best to sit them down that night and discuss it with them instead of just texting them. That night (Thursday), the rain cleared and I actually had the opportunity to go to do research so I wasn't able to be home until 10 PM. I was concerned about giving them little notice so I texted them that I wanted to speak with them both when I got home. Steve continuously pressed me as to why, so eventually I sent a long text message to the both of them telling them I couldn't go. Neither of them responded. When I got home that night, Greg was sitting in the kitchen. He looked at me angrily and said nothing. I smiled and asked \"Do you want to talk about it\" to which he flat out responded \"No.\" I left and went to my room depressed and anxious. \n\nThe next day, I got a text from Steve saying that he was done with me. That he wasn't going to be my friend anymore because \"I obviously have higher priorities than my roommates.\" He began listing times I was able to go home to see my friends but couldn't find the time to spend with my roommates. He also was frustrated because it was such short notice and that it was hard to afford to go. He continued to tell me that everyone agreed to pool 50 bucks a piece to pay for gas, food, and booze (which I had never heard or agreed to). I offered to kick in 20 bucks for gas but he refused it. I told him that he was being selfish and that I was just a bad weekend. I expected them both to understand because they were in the same field as me, both pursuing their masters degrees. I thought they knew how important field work... \n\nAfter that I felt alienated in my own apartment. Neither of them spoke to me for months after. I was depressed and anxious all the time. In response I started going home more because I didn't want to be in the apartment. The used this as an excuse to say that their point was proven, that I had the time for others but not them. I eventually ended up moving out and don't really speak to them. \n\nAs you can probably tell, I haven't been able to let go of this... AITA? \n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bM6xY7PKff890DP2HHhksmpufANArI2b", "post_id": "anhrja", "action": {"description": "farting at a funeral, then nervously laughing", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For farting at a funeral, then nervously laughing?", "text": "I am beyond embarrassed. My aunts funeral was yesterday and during one of the eulogies (there were many people who each had long speeches so it lasted a long time) I had the worst stomach ache. I had a milkshake the night before and pancakes for breakfast so I think thats what caused it.\n\nI was in and out of the bathroom all day, but we were all supposed to sit for the eulogy. I felt intense pressure in my lower stomach but I was afraid of standing up and farting in the person behind mes face. Plus I would draw attention to myself.\n\nMy strategy was to wait for a moment of noise or music and muffle the blast. There were a lot of people around so no one could link the potential smell to me.\n\nDidnt work out. \n\nI timed my release to a moment when I thought my grandpa would start speaking again, hes loud so it would be a great opportunity.\n\nWell, as soon as he was about to start talking he covered his face to wipe tears away. I completely missed my shot and ripped titanic ass in a silent, solemn ceremony while my grandpa was crying about his dead daughter. This fart lasted almost 5 seconds. 5 seconds of continuous \"Brrrrrtttttt\".\n\nThis fart was arrogant in how loud it was, it wanted people to turn their heads. The pews were wood and provided my ass with no cushion that could suppress the fart. It echoed across my pew as my ass shook. I completely misjudged how loud it would be.\n\nEveryone knew I did it. My mother looked at me with disgust and my father started silently laughing.\n\nMy face went from lily white to cherry red as I closed my eyes and started laugh crying. My grandfather waited until i stopped, and looked me dead in the eyes for 10 seconds before proceeding.\n\nMy mom was infuriated with me for farting and laughing and interrupting my grandpa. I feel terrible about it since my aunt was her sister. But its also something i didnt do on purpose. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XyrMuIhCaJLdfFmEX5FtfUvz1PpthQ1Z", "post_id": "ay6os9", "action": {"description": "cutting contact with my dad", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting contact with my dad?", "text": "I\u2019m thinking about cutting contact with my father, completely. \n\n\u2014My Dad is a very difficult person to live with and miserable to be around. \n\u2014He only talks to me only when he wants to criticize or put me down. \n\u2014He has unrealistic expectations and constantly moves the goalposts. He\u2019s rarely, if ever, praised me. Nothing is ever good enough in his eyes. \n\u2014He has forgotten several of my birthdays. He even ruined three of them. \n\u2014He always has to be right and have his way. Even if it means hurting the other person. Would never apologize.\n\u2014He has hit my mother a few times during arguments, especially if they got heated. \n\u2014He always tries to control my life and criticize my decisions. Even from afar. \n\n\nAt Thanksgiving (last year but one). When I accidentally knocked over a dish. He berated me and called me stupid in my own house in front of my wife. At that point I told him to get the fuck out of my house and told him that I never wanted to see his face again. Yes it was embarrassing scene but once again I stood up to him. \n\nI know his childhood wasn\u2019t easy growing up in extreme poverty with a single mother and in a dysfunctional family but it doesn\u2019t excuse the abuse that he\u2019s put my family and I though.\n\nBut seriously am I an asshole or a bad son for cutting contact with my dad?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aNjHelgwR5mlWpTGHACCtBq3DpMPyuSX", "post_id": "b84j69", "action": {"description": "taking a stack of Magic: the Gathering cards", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for taking a stack of Magic: the Gathering cards?", "text": "So this happened this past weekend at PAX.\n\nThe area where most of the \"official\" (paper) Magic games were taking place had a table to the side where people were dropping off cards that they didn't want after playing games. For the most part these were lands, but there was a bin labled \"Unwanted Cards\" that people would put non-land cards they didn't want. Mostly these were commons, some uncommons, with land/tokens mixed in.\n\nThroughout the weekend I would stop by and look through the cards in the Unwanted Cards bin to see if there was anything I wanted. Other people would do the same, sometimes at the same time, just looking through the bin.\n\nSaturday night I walked by the table, and there was sombody (let's call him \"Ned\") going through all of the cards. He had taken all of the cards out of the bin, was looking through them, returning just the land/token cards, and stacking all of non-land cards to the side that he wanted to keep.\n\nI walk over and look in the bin.\n\n\"That's just lands and tokens\", Ned says.\n\n\"What's that stack?\", I ask, pointing to the cards that he put outside the bin that he is going through.\n\n\"Those are cards I'm looking through\", Ned says.\n\nThen a player comes over to drop a big stack of cards in the bin. Ned intercepts the stack and puts it aside, not in the bin.\n\n\"What about those?\", I say, pointing to the stack of cards that were just dropped off, but never made it into the bin.\n\n\"Those are mine\", Ned says.\n\n\"But they were just dropped off and you didn't let them make it to the the bin\", I say.\n\n\"I know\", Ned says. \"I'm looking through them next\".\n\nNow I don't think that's fair (and yes, I know I'm talking about a silly card game, whatever), so I reach over and grab a chunk of the stack he had put aside, and walked off.\n\nHe wasn't happy. I didn't care.\n\nTL;DR: Some dude was taking all of the free cards intended for the community, so I grabbed a bunch that he had already gone through, and walked off.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KGemn4TxWXd7ZpD8qfXMcfJP8Gxn05ZW", "post_id": "b3chmh", "action": {"description": "wanting to control my daughter facial quirks, and stifle her creativity", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 37}, "title": "AITA for wanting to control my daughter facial quirks, and stifle her creativity?", "text": "My daughter is 10. I love her dearly. She\u2019s smart and creative, a million times smarter and more interesting than me. \nShe enjoys reading and drama, and has friends but doesn\u2019t like to spend too much time with anyone in particular. \n\nWhat she does like to do the most is create movements or oddities with her body. She\u2019ll practice practice practice until she can do it, and then find another thing to practice until perfection. \n\nI wouldn\u2019t mind so much if she chose things like beat boxing, or hand clap games, gymnastics or something similar. She isn\u2019t interested in perfecting handstands or cartwheels or making music or learning dance steps. \n\nWhat she perfects is eyebrow raising, eyeball moving, ear wiggling, nose flaring, raising her leg sideways to her body, twisting her arms behind her head, bending her fingers backwards, walking in unnatural ways and her latest - getting her top lip to cover her nostrils. \n\nIt might not sound like a big deal, and it isn\u2019t. But it\u2019s ugly, especially the covering the nose with your lip one. \n\nMy sister and mother both do it out of habit and that\u2019s where she saw it and decided to do it too. \n\nThe eyebrow raising, nose flaring etc doesn\u2019t really bother me but I do have to tell her to stop sometimes because she\u2019ll incessantly tell me to look, and it\u2019s the same thing over and over again. \n\nBut I explicitly told her she isn\u2019t allowed to do the nose to her lip thing because it doesn\u2019t look nice. But telling her to stop just makes her do it more. What\u2019s more, my sister encourages it because she knows how much it irks me. My sister said I\u2019m stifling her creativity by telling her what she can and can\u2019t do with her face.\n\nBut being able to do these facial things and weird arm and leg movements has no positive benefits I can think of. I can think of negatives though, like her hurting her joints when moving in unnatural ways.\n\nQuite simply, I don\u2019t want her to do this. I want her to use her tenacity for something useful, or energizing. \n\nI\u2019ve told her she\u2019ll be punished (no tv, no phone, or something similar) if I see her do the nose thing again. \n\nAITA for wanting to control what my daughter does with her facial features? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 36, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 37}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rPif489Ypu4nmWyeaCwsckjWUwb0cPgF", "post_id": "b8oagx", "action": {"description": "showing my 2 year old daughter a giant anaconda eating a bunny", "pronormative_score": 42, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA For showing my 2 year old daughter a giant anaconda eating a bunny", "text": "Monday is my father daughter day. This past Monday I took my daughter to the zoo. It went about like you'd expect. We had a blast, but I wasn't sure how the snake habitat was gonna go. We tried it, and she winced a bit at the bigger reptiles. No major freakouts. We get to the giant anaconda, and it's very obviously devouring what was once a cute bunny. Daughter looks away in horror. I stay and watch, daughter in my arms. Eventually my daughter starts watching with the same amazement I had. We moved on, and daughter quickly forgot. She loved the primates and acted like a monkey the rest of the day. \n\nI get home later, mom says I probably scarred my daughter for life, and I'm an extra big AH for doing that so close to Easter. I think mom might be right. I feel kinda bad now. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 42, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fDuXBmxwQiksWcFMxr6iAaREUfM0WQN1", "post_id": "afdak2", "action": {"description": "being mad about my roommates guests fucking all night in my living room", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad about my roommates guests fucking all night in my living room", "text": "So my roommate had friends come over last night before they all went out and she asked me if I was okay with them staying the night and I said yes. \n\nIt gets to about 1am and they all get home and I\u2019m a pretty light sleeper so I\u2019m awake which is fine until about 5 minutes later the whole house starts shaking and i know they\u2019re fucking on MY couch in the lounge room. We could also hear everything as the house is very old and has thin walls. They eventually stopped but I was woken up again at around 4 to them at it again which really pissed me off. \n\nI can hear my roommate have sex at other times because of the thin walls and all that which is fine because she lives here but I just feel like being a guest that\u2019s not okay. I understand that it\u2019s a part of house sharing but feel like that\u2019s a pretty selfish and disrespectful thing to do in someone else\u2019s house. \n\nAITA for being mad that I was woken up and had to listen to random people having sex on my couch", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RdR9QQGK3DFJ707HySRyBGyqVCPfZTMg", "post_id": "aozb40", "action": {"description": "being mad at my boyfriend for not trusting me about being where I say I am", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my boyfriend for not trusting me about being where I say I am?", "text": "I, 29f, have had my location shared with my 40m boyfriend for months now. I never think about it. I have nothing to hide. He lives 3 hours north and I often drive up after midnight when I get off work and want to have it shared in case something happens.\n\nI work weekends till midnight. He knows this. He knows my schedule. I was with my family from noon till 2:30 PM today and left for work. That\u2019s obviously where it would show me at.\n\nHe texts me about an hour ago demanding me to FaceTime him followed by a screenshot of it showing my location at some random location. I am at work. I work for a company that has members sensitive information. I cannot be on the phone inside the secured area, aside from texts and social media and stuff. (Weird rules, I know). I tell him I am not able to FaceTime him but tell him I have been at work since about 3:15 this afternoon, and the only thing I could do was send him a photo. \n\nHe tells me he doesn\u2019t want my \u201cg*d damn photo because you have plenty of photos you could use to be lying to me\u201d. I tell him I\u2019m leaving for lunch shortly and will call him. He tells me not to worry about it because he\u2019s already shaking, angry, sad, frustrated, and upset. I didn\u2019t respond. I, in turn, restarted my phone thinking maybe the location just hadn\u2019t updated. He texts me \u201coh so you turn off the location now?? Good one. Clutch move there.\u201d I send a screenshot showing I didn\u2019t stop sharing my location followed by a bunch of question marks. He sends a half hearted text laughing about his name in my phone. I don\u2019t respond.\n\nInstead, I turn off my location. I had already told him when he first sent me that message that him questioning where I am and not believing me when I\u2019m completely honest makes me want to turn off the location period. And he told me to go for it, and said he never asked me to turn it on to begin with.\n\nDo I have the right to be angry? AITA? \n\nTLDR; at work, location didn\u2019t update on boyfriends phone, he confronts me, doesn\u2019t believe me, tries to laugh it off making fun of his name in my phone after the fact.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5qmUWNvWHMGLwFLuopJVmT4dCR1oEZAA", "post_id": "9zk3ua", "action": {"description": "going overboard with my mum", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going overboard with my mum?", "text": "Just for context my Dad and I are pretty sure that Mum has some undiagnosed depression/ anxiety that she doesn't see in herself, so we try to be gentle with her mostly.\n\nMy mum has been drunk texting me and harassing me lately about how my degree is taking too long. I have opted to study part-time and have changed courses twice before (Engineering > Engineering > Comp. Sci.), so that I can work and live away from home.\n\nWhen my Mum drinks too much she gets really angry and takes it out on Dad and me. I don't really think living there would be healthy for me since I am being treated for anxiety. I have said as much to both my parents.\n\nMum sent me a video that was titled \"Your friends are making you depressed\", talking about how trying to please your friends leads to unhealthy lifestyles.\n\nI pointed out to her that I don't have anything to prove to my friends, they choose to be friends with me. I said \"I constantly try to get approval from you and it's draining.\" Then I said \"You try to seek validation through me and it makes you angry and sad, I hope you watch the video with this context\".\n\nDid I go too far? She kept texting me hateful stuff after that about how I don't forgive her for trying to be my mother and weird self guilt stuff that always ends up making me feel angry and guilty. I didn't reply to any of it.\n\nTL/DR: I thought my response was measured, basically just flipping what the video said from friends to family relationships. I tried to be curteous but I worry that I called her \"exhausting\" and have made her upset which she will take out on my Dad.\n\nDoes anyone have any advice or tips?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "igegjmbbh6Sstb4qXsuLJAr5A33BC6Nt", "post_id": "acbhkr", "action": {"description": "avoiding interactions with my boyfriend's brother's new girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for avoiding interactions with my boyfriend\u2019s brother\u2019s new girlfriend?", "text": "\n\nSo, I\u2019ve been dating my boyfriend (Charles) for a little over a year, and he and his brother (David) who is a few years older are very close. We have spent a lot of time with David over the past year as he was getting over a breakup, and I have come to really care for him as a person. We finally talked David into using the app that Charles and I met on just to get back out there, and after a few dud dates, 2 months ago David found a girl he seemed really excited about. Charles and I were super happy and excited to be able to double date and not make David feel like the third wheel. From what David told us, she was awesome and I was happy to possibly make a close female friend (of which I\u2019m lacking in this town because I have moved around a ton in the past few years). \n\n \n\nAs you might expect, meeting her (Abby) went much differently than expected. Charles and I invited them on a double date to dinner and an arcade, and I spent the entire time feeling like *we* had intruded on *their* date. She constantly interrupted me and Charles, always had to 1-up our comments, and the only time she addressed me directly, it was to tell me why a game I like is stupid. She didn\u2019t ask a single thing about me or Charles, though we made an effort to ask her about her life. She\u2019s not shy, either. Our server accidentally got the wrong kind of light beer, and instead of wasting it, I just decided to drink it and clarify when I ordered another. Abby kept repeating that I didn\u2019t get what I ordered and for me to give it to her so she could go get the right beer. No amount of \u201cno really. It\u2019s fine.\u201d affected her, and she ended up snatching it out of my hand (already half empty) and marched over to the waitress. She\u2019s also obsessed with her \u201cconnections\u201d to some local bars/restaurants, and feels the need to drop that into nearly every conversation, even if we were NOT talking about that. She\u2019s obsessed with being older than Charles and I, frequently dropping things like \u201coh, you\u2019re too young to know what ___ is\u201d when I was in the middle of commenting on that very thing. \n\n \n\nWe have hung out a few more times but each time seems to get worse. I have a holiday birthday known for drinking, and Charles and I invited them to come out with us to celebrate, being very clear that if they wanted to primarily celebrate the holiday or had other plans, that we would have dinner some other night. Abby insisted that she would use her connection to get us a rather expensive table at a bar. Well, most of the night it was just me, Charles, and David at the table because Abby had run off to other parts of the bar with her friends that she had invited to my birthday celebration (important later). Charles and I would have left to do our own thing, but David would have been left alone, so we stayed and hung out with him. When it was time to go home, we had to get an UberXL on a holiday night because her friends needed a ride too (surprise!) so we waited forever and spent much more $$ than I expected. While working out the Uber arrangements, David and Charles got into a disagreement about getting an UberXL or 2 Ubers. I\u2019ve seen them do this kind of thing many times before, I told them both to stop arguing and that we\u2019d deal with the money in the morning, and to just order the xl. Abby did not like what I said, and walked over to her friend to call me a bitch and complain that I don\u2019t know David and shouldn\u2019t be telling him what to do (all obviously loud enough for me to hear). \n\n \n\nBasically, I find her incredibly off-putting, rude, and I just don\u2019t enjoy spending time with her. Charles is a bit more forgiving (and I think is afraid of losing his brother), but he would rather not hang out with her either. David continues to ask if we want to hang out, and is starting to notice that we have backed off from double dates. I don\u2019t want to stop Charles from seeing them, and I don\u2019t avoid things like Christmas where everyone is around just because she\u2019s going, but I kind of feel like an asshole for \u201ccausing a problem\u201d now that David seems happier. AITA for avoiding spending time with her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sCsgsGvXq6ktTUHldofFCuYYEqTwbAWr", "post_id": "acoefs", "action": {"description": "not being excited about my girlfriends job prospects", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being excited about my girlfriends job prospects?", "text": "Backstory: I met my girlfriend (who is in vet school) while she was rotating through my place of work in Ohio (zookeeper).  She goes to school in California and before we started dating she knew I took a job in Florida. We decided to give it a shot and are crazy about each other. \n\nShe is looking for work in the area I\u2019m in but has also applied to places in Michigan where she is from just in case (I have no reason to believe she is doubting our relationship) So far she has only heard back from one clinic in Michigan. I wasn\u2019t all that enthusiastic about it and clearly upset her. I don\u2019t want to hold her back by any means but I just can\u2019t find it in me to be excited for her. Again, I know she needs to do what is best for her coming out of school but I just can\u2019t fake happy. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NPbRrDmq4ZpUdkfR19mkjFkY8sS0SR2b", "post_id": "adjw48", "action": {"description": "getting a co-worker fired for something I also did", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for getting a co-worker fired for something I also did?", "text": "This is something that has been burning away at me for years.\n\nBack in High School, I worked at a grocery store that is fairly popular in the Midwest. I was promoted to the Dairy Section within a few months of cashiering. This new position was heaven. I was only 16 working most nights all on my own with set responsibilities.\n\nWell after a few months I started to get bored of my new position and started to abuse my power. I would drink the milk and eat yogurt and throw it in the garbage compactor without anyone knowing.\n\nCue co-worker who I will name \"Ted\". Ted started in the Frozen department which has it's own cooler of frozen goods next to where the dairy cooler is. He would frequent into the Dairy Cooler to hang out and chat. \n\nOne day I caught him stealing raw cookie dough and eating it in the cooler. He pleaded me to be quiet about it. I assured him I do it sometimes too, but make sure you do it very seldom and throw away the evidence. Hours later, I caught him telling a mutual co-worker about how they can take whatever they want out of the dairy cooler. I stepped in and told them that to be careful. I don't want to get fired for this.\n\nTed then said, \"Check out this f****t trying to act tough. We will take what we want or we will report you for stealing.\"\n\nThe next few weeks were complete hell. They were constantly coming in and taking shit, and just leaving the trash in the cooler forcing me to clean up after them. I was finally done with that shit. One night I intentionally left open packages of cookie dough in easy to find hiding spots. The next morning my boss called me asking who was responsible for this. I told him that I see Ted from Frozen leaving our freezer every now and then. Not sure why. That afternoon, I came in for my shift and my boss was still there. I told him my \"theory\" of Ted maybe taking them.\n\nThe company decided to put Security Cameras outside the freezer door to know the coming and goings. I was leaving early one night but told Ted to help himself. I will be working in the morning so I can clean up what you leave. He was excited about that.\n\nThe next day I was told Ted was fired for stealing food from the cooler. They have him on camera going in and out several times with at least 3 empty yogurt containers and an empty package of cookie dough. They said they have enough evidence to assume he has been the sole thief and was immediately let go.\n\nMy friends say I am an asshole for sabotaging someone else for basically doing what I was also doing. AITA?\n\nTldr; used to steal dairy goods while working until co-worker joined the company and also started to steal dairy goods. He blackmailed me into keeping his secret and cleaning his messes or he will out me as the thief. Was able to get all the blame put onto him and got away with it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "I2KoUhY1HKhnXtRpaEa9EM5TOwTLn5z1", "post_id": "ar071d", "action": {"description": "calling someone who brought up how depressed they are with no prior context an attention whore", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA For calling someone who brought up how depressed they are with no prior context an attention whore?", "text": "?\n\nI am a highschool student, and in class one of my peers walks in and just starts talking about about how depressed he is without anyone prompting him, he went around to people seeming like he was trying to get attention and sympathy points whenever he could. He came to my end and I stood up and said \"Dude, shut up you attention whore with no pimp, the only person who gives a fuck is yourself\"\n\n  \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nrToIcpAeNtXQ2Uxu5nBD5wpRpWC9hYa", "post_id": "ak8gcz", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend that I still love my ex-girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend that I still love my ex-girlfriend?", "text": "A little background, there is a girl from my past that I dated for a long time ago. We broke up about 6 years ago, and it really fucked me up and my life in general for a long time. I\u2019m still getting over it in fact, and I still get pretty depressed about it every now and then. But in the last few months things have been finally looking up, and I started dating this girl that I really like, someone I\u2019ve known and sort of had feelings for going back to even before I met my ex. I really like her a lot (honestly probably love her.)\n\nBut I still think about my ex a lot and feel a lot of pain over losing her. Not in the sense that I would rather be with her than my girlfriend, but it still hurts. I have a certain personality disorder to where I form attachments to people differently, and my ex was the first person I\u2019ve ever known in my life that ever actually loved me and treated me well (I came from a pretty abusive family.) A lot of the times I feel like I\u2019m grieving someone that died rather than someone that broke up with me.\n\nAnyway, I go to a therapist who is very good. She\u2019s told me I should find someone trustworthy to talk to and get support with for the feelings I have for my ex, that it would be helpful for me. And I figured, why not my girlfriend since there\u2019s no one else I trust more than her. She also understands me better than anyone else that I know, and I don\u2019t want to hide anything from her in the first place. I feel like I owe it to her to be honest about my feelings.\n\nSo I asked her last night if we could talk about something, because there was something I was having a hard time with and I needed to talk to someone. She already knows about my ex, actually my girlfriend was the first person I ever talked to about it in depth to after the breakup (we\u2019ve been friends for a long time actually before we dated.) Anyway, I told her that I was having some troubling feelings about my ex. And she just basically asked me, like what? I didn\u2019t really know how to explain it. I said something basically like, that it hurts that she\u2019s gone still and I really miss her. At which point she looked kind of taken aback. I can\u2019t really remember the whole conversation, I was really anxious during the whole thing so it\u2019s kind of a blur. She basically asked me what my feelings for my ex were, and I said it\u2019s complicated, but yes I do still love her. She was really quiet after that for the rest of the time we were sitting there, and I tried to elaborate but she didn\u2019t say anything else after that.\n\nI tried to just end the conversation about it there, and I asked her if she wanted to watch TV or something, but she said she had to go home that she had things to do. I tried texting her last night and today, she didn\u2019t respond when I asked if everything was okay last night and has been pretty short with me today, like one word answers the couple times she replied to me today.\n\nI feel really bad, I didn\u2019t mean to hurt her feelings, I just wanted to do the right thing, but I feel like I caused a problem and I just sort of feel like a dickhead in general.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "DunNsnkteqKfvGha8aBy8zY1C5L0Yawv", "post_id": "axm5jc", "action": {"description": "putting my comfort over anothers", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA For putting my comfort over anothers", "text": "I went to orlando in a big shuttle bus and I was unlike enough to meet a very fat man who took my friend's middle seat after we got to a stop. The man complained that since he was leaking out the seat and people were hitting him as they walked by. My friend is very nice and just accepted the situation. The fat spilled in both of our seats, my friend needs half the seat while I need the whole seat. His fat made my seat uncomfortable so I would move around to fine a comfortable position. My movement ended up squishing his fat and he snap at me and told to sit still. I said no, I didn't bother looking at him. \n\n We text to talk because we didn't want to talk over him but that annoyed him ( the vibration every time we got a text so we put it on silent, then the brightness of our phones even though it was day time and our phone had no brightness!!). After a while I snapped at him and told him to suck it up, he gave a aggressive look and I gave him a peak at my pepper sprays. That shut him up.\n\nThe man decided that he wanted to sleep, we were relieved until he started snoring and spreading out like a starfish. My friend already scolded me for my lack of patience with this guy so the first two times we politely told him to get off but the third time I threaten to pepper spray his throat. The man stopped for 30 mins then did it again. I wanted to nap off the annoyance do I faced the window and put my knees up ( I was still only in my seat), this super squished his fat making him yelp. I then asked him why he was still touching me. He ended up switching seats with the guy in the two seat row. \n\n​\n\nMy friend believes I should have treated him with care but I believe people like that needs a piece of reality.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UEPf9DeQkL94ufBtj6CfBpR4sty6y3fu", "post_id": "b0jseh", "action": {"description": "creating a gift out of a gift given to me, and giving it back, but... better", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if i create a gift out of a gift given to me, and give it back, but... better?", "text": "I havent dont this yet, going to, but wanted to consult AITA community if it was a asshole move before i did it.\n\nMy S/O recently gifted me a little notebook of about 200 pages (A6 size, just in case..) and he wrote on a few pages expressing his feelings towards me, and i personally found both the book and the pages very nice...\n\nbut here is the thing. im horrible at gifts. totally the worst. id never know what to give someone. but i had an idea.  I may be moving away for collage, and we may never see each other again, so I decided i didnt want to \"dirty\" the book with school notes or doodles. so i began writing everything i liked about him, taking about all the memories we had together etc. im about 20-30 pages in by now but here is my dilema.\n\nI wanted to give him that same book, but with all the 200 pages filled with our memories.\n\nbut. would i be an asshole if i gave him the same book? it hits my heart a little bit. but asking if what im planning would be justified?\n\nalso, if possible. educate me with better gifting ideas!\n\n\nTL:DR : S/O gives me empty note book. I want to return it, but filled with our memories. AITA if i use the same book?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kZPOtcdH7fYYx4t76isPFbnQuMAsD9mn", "post_id": "awtjto", "action": {"description": "being wary of my boyfriend who still seems pretty hurt about a girl who he loved but couldn't marry because he was a different ethnicity than her? she couldn't abandon her family at the time and he said if he could have supported her at the time she would have", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being wary of my boyfriend who still seems pretty hurt about a girl who he loved but couldn\u2019t marry because he was a different ethnicity than her? She couldn\u2019t abandon her family at the time and he said if he could have supported her at the time she would have?", "text": "He like went to her wedding with her new husband and everything ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iI8eDDMYp0ENQ12BBuc9g6x5dVlgPfFx", "post_id": "ayz0gf", "action": {"description": "accidentally breaking someone's glasses because they sent an embarrassing email to all of my friends", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for accidentally breaking someone's glasses because they sent an embarrassing email to all of my friends.", "text": "So basically what happened was that one day I left my computer open to go to the bathroom. LW(lets call him) then proceeds to open gmail, type an extremely embarrassing and somewhat sexual email and then proceeds to send it to put friends. The next day (24 hours pass and he doesn't say anything) and i happen to open my sent folder and see the email. \n\nI automatically know its him and when I go to confront LW he admits it and just laughs. In my anger to go to shove him away and his glasses fall and one of the hinges break. He now wants 50 dollars for a replacement. \n\nAITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ETeyXnlbhOHqNpCxrCdm8FzRkuVyFwnU", "post_id": "b69umi", "action": {"description": "not calling 911", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not calling 911?", "text": "Would like a little insight on this situation from the pros here about an incident that happened at the retail store i work at a couple weeks ago.\n\nSo a woman came speed walking into my store, she didn't look hurt or anything, just a little wired and wild eyed. She didn't have any shoes on but had socks. And the conversation goes something like this:\n\nGirl: (calm but sturn) I need you to call 911.\n\nMe: what happened? Are you alright?\n\nGirl: I dont feel safe in my own house.\n\nMe: Okay! Ill call dispatch, their a couple blocks away, they'll send a cop down here to help ya out\n\nI got no idea whats really goin on here, she wants me to talk to them and refused to speak to them herself. So i got no idea what to tell them, and i dont want things to escalate. Anyway, the talk ended up going like this:\n\nGirl: so your gonna call dispatch instead of 911?\n\nMe: Just seems like the best move here...\n\nGirl: (rolls her eyes) ugh (kinda scoffs)\n\nThen she walks out! Keep in mind this whole thing maybe lasted a minute or two. She then stands outside the building for another 10min i swear on a phone of her own. I figure if someone really needs the help then why would it matter? Am i the asshole here? Something just seemed odd about the whole thing in the end.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "213DWrIHZhVsRJEqCjOR3VZncsAtRs0y", "post_id": "aqpv3b", "action": {"description": "ending a casual relationship on Valentines day", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for ending a casual relationship on Valentines day?", "text": "I moved back to my home town at the beginning of the year and met a girl who I went to highschool with but never had much interest in (lets call her \"Anna\"). Anna and I met at a local bar and ended up hooking up that night, then would continue to hang out / sometimes have sex about 2-4 times a week. Since I was only going to be in my town for 3 months I always assumed it was a casual relationship, however Anna did not feel the same way. Today (Valentines Day) I met her briefly and told her I would rather be friends than have a casual relationship, but when we met my mind blanked and I couldn't come up with any definite, logical, reasons why. Anna ended up driving me home and she seemed very hurt, I felt like I was a terrible person, and at this point we will probably not be friends as I believe she doesn't want anything to do with me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EMeZCCuBLCxeIQutaqWUQLIq9Q2HR9aJ", "post_id": "b8tlsp", "action": {"description": "asking my spouse to help with the house cleaning", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my spouse to help with the house cleaning?", "text": "Asked SO to help with general house cleaning as she complaned that it is always in a less than pristine state due to two kids and two dogs and day-to-day life. \n\nYo which she replied \u201cyou (kids, dogs,me) made the mess so you clean it up. You just want a maid to clean up behind you\u201d\n\nI\u2019m not asking for a maid, simply asking for some help with an issue that is clearly important to her. Even the kids help clean the house every weekend, but we can only do so much. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EPlzunhH4HxDVoUw17r4g24IjCPmx2pT", "post_id": "9yu867", "action": {"description": "being brusque with a person who may have aspergers", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being brusque with a person who may have Aspergers?", "text": "A guy in our social circle either is often negative or overly focused on things, such that he'll hijack conversations and beleagure points until its just kind of awkward. I've been there too (and still do this from time to time) so I originally tried to bond with him at parties and such and steer the conversations to more constructive topics.\n\nBut it feels like he's not interested in exploring interpersonal connections and often uses people as a sounding board (often unwillingly) and harbors some political views that I find distasteful.\n\nSo I've kind of resolved to keep him at arms length and be polite but not really engage him. I can tell that he's picked up on my change of attitude but I feel like:\n\nA) you reap what you sow, and if you say a lot of negative things people won't want to engage, and\nB) maybe he is on the spectrum and I'm not framing this correctly\n\nWhat would you do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dUV6ggJtvqsG6Pd0ynowsut1EFgplsoF", "post_id": "b4shzu", "action": {"description": "blocking clingy girl", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking clingy girl?", "text": "So this happened a few months back, I added a girl on snap and we started talking, we exchanged selfies and made small talk, I called her cute and flirted a little then she suddenly started acting like we had been dating for years and sending me hearts and I love yous constantly, so I ghosted and blocked her. Am I the asshole or is she just kinda clingy and creepy?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ceHHgTaFqYa3MjFZjcRtGcoA53b7WoPL", "post_id": "aian3r", "action": {"description": "convincing a homeless man in Baltimore to move to Florida", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA - Convincing a homeless man in Baltimore to move to Florida", "text": "I'm sitting in a coffee shop in Baltimore that is frequented by the homeless community in the area. The shop is flooded at the moment because the weather outside is cold to a point where it's unsafe to loiter outside. I come here fully expecting to chat with whoever sits near me, so I don't mind it as long as the conversation doesn't totally derail the work I'm doing. Anyway. Today this guy came in and showed me $200 and said he's trying to get a ticket to NYC because he heard its a good city and can I help him schedule one online. Of course, I can't schedule him a bus ticket online with cash - so I told him where the nearest Megabus/Grayhound station is and he thanked me and asked me if I thought it would be cold in NYC. So I proceeded to tell him that he should skip NYC and get on a bus to Tampa Bay instead. He told me he's never heard of Tampa Bay, so I proceeded to minimize my work and pulled up photos of Tampa to show him, explaining that it would be a lot warmer than Baltimore and certainly warmer than NYC. After about 20 minutes now, the guy is walking around the coffee shop asking everyone if they've ever heard of or been to Tampa Bay. And after about a half hour now, I think I've got this guy totally convinced to go to Florida instead of New York...sooooo....yeah I did find some entertainment in convincing this guy to change his travel plans....but AITA for convincing this guy to change his plans for a warmer place?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6KnmrLLPp8nE2PwQsRDGB755D147IWqE", "post_id": "ac0pz3", "action": {"description": "not wanting to drive my sister home", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to drive my sister home", "text": "Hey all. \n\nA pretty dumb teenage question incoming, bear with me. \n\nI've gotten my drivers license and have a spare car to drive, thanks to the graciousness of my parents. I now love the freedom it brings, but I must say, I dislike driving. Driving makes me so very anxious and I'm paranoid whenever I get behind the wheel.  \n\nMy parents told me that I was going to be getting my license because they wanted me to drive in order to get a job. I wasn't super thrilled (about driving, not the job), but they were being very generous in paying for all my expenses so I didn't complain and got it. \n\nHere's where the problem comes in. \n\nBoth my sister and I are in high school and pretty close in age, but she is younger by less than a year. We aren't close however and (in my eyes) she insults me and acts passive aggressive towards me, and if I defend myself, I am called sensitive (that is a whole other seperate AITA). Because of this, I generally avoid her because she makes me question if I should be getting hurt, and I just want to avoid getting angry. I've spent my time trying to make things work with her, and now I *really* don't want to spend time with her.\n\nI drive us to school without complaint. We're both going to the same place and it isn't costing me anything, as much as I don't want to be around her, and she is too tired to talk. There are also rarely any cars on the road. \n\nAfter school is a different story. She is very involved in a school sport and needs a ride home from school daily, at a pretty random time between 4-5:30. My parents are pretty fed up with her when it comes to this as they used to have to plan to try to make time to get her whenever she called, and the times weren't very predictable. They also believed her attitude to be disrespectful and it led to a couple blow-out fights in the house. Because I now have a driver's license, the responsibility has fallen to me. My parents pay me $5 for the trouble every time, which is *a lot.* But I still despise giving her rides as it's usually when the most amount of cars are on the street and she insults me on the ride back, which she calls her humor. I'm usually also involved with something else at home and I have to drop everything to get her. She has also, on multiple occasions, called me to give her a ride and then planned things with other people, making me drive to pick her up only to learn that she had made other plans. My parents have punished her for this.\n\nHere's where I'm an asshole: once I over a friend's when she called, and I wasn't available to get her. When I got home, she was there, and I learned a friend of hers had dropped her off. Nowadays, about 2/3 of the time, when she calls (especially around 5 when traffic is *really* bad and a parent is close to coming home to pick her up if I don't or a friend doesn't) I pretend to be doing something else in the hopes a friend will drop her off. Once, recently, it didn't work out so well and my sister waited half an hour in the cafeteria for my parent to pick her up. \n\nMy parents confronted me about it, saying that they were already paying me $5 for this and that I should be more available, and that if I don't step it up, they'll make it a requirement. I agreed with them and said I would start trying harder to make time, and I will. Deep down though, I hate having to drop everything to accommodate her, and I don't feel sorry for ignoring her calls. I don't think she should be committing to this thing when everyone in the house has to bend over backward for her. I realize though that my parents are paying for *everything* and are just asking me to do this one thing and that there's a very large chance that I'm just being an asshole. Any help?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nztMzErllxq3Uuak9sBawiUJxTHoXnPV", "post_id": "a03n52", "action": {"description": "thinking my friend's wife deserved to get cheated on", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for thinking my friend's wife deserved to get cheated on? (Hear me out please.)", "text": "I have this group of friends that have been together since freshman year of high school. (We're currently late 20s.) Two of them (we're going to call them Hannah and Jack) have been bff's for most of that time. Naturally, they're the only ones who never realized they were in love with each other. We all decided to kind of stay out of the drama and them them work it out for themselves.\n\nStarting about a year and a half ago, we all *finally* thought they were about ready to hook up. They'd rented a house together, got a dog. *Eventually* they were going to figure it out, right? Along comes \"Jasmine\".\n\nJasmine isn't a bad person, per say, just emotionally immature and selfish. She can be very kind, and is bluntly honest, which I generally like in a human. Jack and Jasmine met through tinder and were both supposedly only looking for a FWB. But she pressured Jack into a more commited relationship than he was ready for, never really tried to become friends with the rest of the group (most of us have S.O.'s that have integrated just fine), and then complained that we were mean and cliquey and were trying to take Jack away from her. ... Naturally, her biggest issue was with Hannah from day one. Jasmine was consistently trying to drive a wedge in between them, to the point she tried to secretly move in with them for a while. (Thank goodness Jack saw through at least *that*.)\n\nThree months ago, Jack went to Jasmine's to talk to her about the trouble she was causing with the rest of us. We all thought he was going to break up with her. Imagine our surprise when he shows up a few days later to the pub saying they'd run off to Vegas to get *married*. \n\nHannah was a mess, but tried to keep it together and be as nice to Jasmine as possible. Jack, to his credit, did draw a line in the sand that Jasmine had to back off a bit, and for the most part the drama calmed down. \n\nA couple of weeks ago, Jack and Jasmine got into a huge fight and Jack went over to Hannah's to have a  drink and cool off (a bunch of us were already there). When we left, they were on the back porch talking and smoking. Apparently, some time after that, they hooked up. Multiple times. And it looks like it's going to become a regular thing until Jack leaves Jasmine. \n\nIt was wrong of Jack to cheat on Jasmine, I know that. But Jasmine saw what was happening between Jack and Hannah when she first started dating him, she just decided to disregard it and take what she wanted. When she finds out she's going to be crushed. But honestly, AITA for thinking she set herself up for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "aObUryTYpp9z0lywG3FEAYyD48PHx4WT", "post_id": "amn2xk", "action": {"description": "laughing at my mother's financial trouble", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I laugh at my mother's financial trouble?", "text": "So over on r/entitledparents I made a post detailing how I get a good laugh occasionally out of my mother's phone tag issues with debt collectors/IT/Customer service what say you, and a good point was brought up to me.\n\nI was told that I really shouldn't laugh at my mother's financial trouble and it was seemingly suggested that I should help out more since her behavior could be stress and such.\n\nLong story short, my mother is in financial trouble largely because she gives everyone she owes or that have a say in her money in every way the classic Entitled treatment-I.e\n\nTo be clear, we never had financial issues when I was a child, in fact we wanted for nothing-she's always been this way to people.\n\nShe yells at, belittles and threatens them all in the name of how she is a \"good person\" \"contributes to society\" \"volunteers\" ect and so deserves to be given what she wants on a silver platter. She has gone as far as threatening her banks with shooting them up (she is banned for life from those banks.)\n\nI grew up with her as an Entitled Brat assuming this kind of behavior is okay, and only now in my Mid 20s do i realize how disgusting her behavior really is, I started to hate her behavior and feel shame and a lack of confidence in public when I was a teen still however...but she's my mother I didn't WANT to feel dirty just being associated with her.\n\nTL;DR I am a recovering EB with an ever horrible EM and I sometimes like to secretly laugh at the misfortune she has wrought for herself Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aGPLBSnXMU137tcXwt7586n15Jc8t3RI", "post_id": "as73cf", "action": {"description": "throwing away food my mom gave me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for throwing away food my mom gave me?", "text": "I am a college student for the first time living away from home. This year has been hard on my mom with me out of the house and kind of culminates into her giving me food. When I was living at home I gained a lot of weight through unhealthy eating habits. Since then I have lost a significant amount of weight and feel much healthier. Either my mom is trying to sabotage this or she really doesn\u2019t listen. When I go home for the day to see her, she loads me up with food. I am not against food. I love when she gives me  chicken or veggies. However she gives me mostly junk food. I always tell her that I don\u2019t need it and will just give it away. I have told her hundreds (not exaggerating she has extremely bad memory) that I don\u2019t like Chex Mix. Yet every week I get a box of Chex Mix. I have now just started throwing it out. AITA for doing this as she is just trying to help? I sort of feel like she\u2019s sabotaging me because she knows I have problems with healthy eating habits. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MOtFEyREIxcDZ8KnlTuO1qogPrqZVz0G", "post_id": "a3492s", "action": {"description": "not helping my mum with house chores because I want equal rights first", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not helping my mum with house chores because I want equal rights first.", "text": "Background:\n\nI live in a strict Indian household with my parents, they are really against me moving out .\n\nEveryone has a job, however I commute further so I end up getting home later than everyone else.\n\n​\n\nI (22f)  have no issue with helping around the house, or if my mum tells me to do something I do it no questions asked. But my dad is really adamant that I help her in the kitchen more as she makes dinner nearly every night and does the majority of household chores and gets tired.\n\n I have another older brother who also lives at home but no one ever asks him to lift a finger apart from mowing the lawn every so often in summer. I get told that I should help my mum simply because I am a girl, and I am against this type of misogyny. A lot of fights happen because I think that everyone should help equally and it not be based on gender. These fights often happen when I refuse to do what my dad tells me to do \"Go clean the dishes\", \"Help your mother\" etc, when everyone else is sitting down not doing anything. \n\nMy mum agrees with me, but has been raised to agree with whatever her husband says basically so she won't cause any arguments. But no one else in my family will stand up to him, he drinks a lot and sometimes comes home drunk demanding food in the middle of the night and my mum has to wake up and get it for him even though I tell her to not put up with that.\n\nBut a part of me wants to just give up and give in and just do what I am told essentially as I don't like to make my mum do everything, (she doesn't ask me to do much because I come home with only a couple hours before I go to sleep and she likes that I'm kinda fighting for equality.) \n\nAm I the ass hole for not helping out my mum more just because my dad told me to?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5GbmsLirb6X5qxoP7zxpF7DpHCKC7513", "post_id": "aod88i", "action": {"description": "making a joke about a threesome", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA if I made a joke about a threesome?", "text": "So to make this as short and sweet as possible, my girlfriend was wearing a shirt from a different university and I made a joke saying she got it from her secret girlfriend. The conversation went on (both of us thought it was funny) and then I made a joke that if they ever offered room for one more I would happily oblige and then my girlfriend got mad. She explained that it was wrong to have a thought like this and I shouldn\u2019t want to sleep with other women even as a fantasy. I explained it was just a fantasy and nothing I intended on actually bringing up and it just got ugly from there. I\u2019m somewhat hurt she got mad at me for this because it is something personal and she made me feel like I should be ashamed of ever thinking  about it. Also I have NEVER even hinted at us doing something like this and we\u2019ve already been dating for almost five years. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j86p7tEd4O7GqErGasgENcCogUSNYncZ", "post_id": "auc5fi", "action": {"description": "calling out my ex stepdad on FB", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling out my ex stepdad on FB", "text": "A little backstory, my mom married my ex-stepdad when I was 4, divorced when I was maybe 12 or 13. They had two kids together, my younger brother and sister, so even after the divorce, we would all go to visit him, because we (my other sister and I who weren't his blood) grew up only knowing him as our daddy. When I was 15, my ex stepdad remarried a cunt and my sister and I were basically banished from their home. The last time he was actually in my life was my sweet 16 birthday party when I asked him to present me and be my first dance. The last time we chilled for any amount of time was when I first bought my house (age 20) and he called out of the blue to stop by. We smoked, he bitched about his family, and then he left. I realized I was literally just a place for him to waste some time. I felt used, but whatever, at least he thought of me. FF to my brother just gets married. I haven't seen my SD in years, so when we see each other at the wedding, I literally give him a quick hug and he tries to talk about how he found some of my old social security cards or something, I tell him that he can send me whatever, I haven't moved in 17 years, then we left. This social media back and forth happened shortly after the wedding.\n\nScreenshot of the FB conversation: [https://imgur.com/9AuAdiH](https://imgur.com/9AuAdiH)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NLbe3GfXEOj4UufMqDnTLHGPx71N0XCA", "post_id": "atlx4l", "action": {"description": "secrelty being upset my 19 year old friend decided to keep her accidental pregnancy?\u200b", "pronormative_score": 35, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for secrelty being upset my 19 year old friend decided to keep her accidental pregnancy?\u200b", "text": "My good friend has recently given birth to a beautiful, healthy baby girl. Everybody is ecstatic for her and can\u2019t get enough of her cute newborn. I\u2019m happy for her as well, but I don\u2019t quite feel the JOY that everybody else seems to be experiencing. I can\u2019t help but think back to 9 months ago, when she was set on terminating but allowed her (religious) mother to convince her out of it. Though I completely respect that it was ultimately HER decision and will support her regardless, I can\u2019t help but feel quietly angry about it. She was attending a big 10 college, is smart, beautiful, and had what seemed to be a bright future ahead of her. I know that teenage pregnancy doesn\u2019t automatically \u201cruin\u201d a woman\u2019s life, but I\u2019m afraid she won\u2019t ever return to school and instead choose to maintain a steady job/care for her child. I feel all our friends are so entranced by the \u201cmiracle\u201d of life that they aren\u2019t seeing the potential reality behind the cuteness. I\u2019ve only voiced these fears to my boyfriend and I would never tell her my true thoughts. I just want to know..am I an asshole?\n\n​\n\nEDIT: This may not be relevant but I forgot to mention that this was the result of a hookup and the father is not going to be involved. When she discussed abortion with him, he threatened to murder her if she went through with it and is basically a psychopath.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 20, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 35, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9k6mfpoTmQxxB1dvYWai6b1czVLgSy67", "post_id": "b8pla6", "action": {"description": "dropping my umbrella near a new car", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for dropping my umbrella near a new car?", "text": "I have a toddler who needs a leash. We actually just got one two days ago, but I didn\u2019t have it with me because it was an unusual day and he didn\u2019t sleep last night so neither did I and I forgot to put it in the bag. Seriously this kid is a runner and it\u2019s terrifying.\n\nSo I picked him up from the babysitter and went to go grocery shopping before getting the dog from the groomer. We had an extra half hour to kill and we both needed cuddles after a longer than usual day, so I got him out of the car seat and moved him to the front passenger seat where there\u2019s more room. Partway through cuddles and story time, a red coupe pulled into the spot immediately to my right, and the driver stayed in the car on her phone.\n\nThe groomer called and said the dog was done. It was pouring rain. I opened the car door, opened my umbrella (little one person only purse umbrella, it\u2019s almost too small), and set my kid standing on the ground holding onto my pant leg. I stood up, went to put my phone in my pocket, and my kid dropped my pant leg and gave me that look, the one that says \u201cI\u2019m about to make a run for it.\u201d I dropped the umbrella so I could grab his shirt before he could run off into the parking lot.\n\nThe driver\u2019s window of the coupe opened up and this older lady with a speak to your manager haircut flipped out at me. I\u2019m apparently a careless millennial and I need to be careful because she has a new car and I\u2019d better not have scratched the paint. I said \u201cI\u2019m sorry, I kind of have my hands full and Kiddo was about to run into the parking lot.\u201d She just yelled more about how millennials like me don\u2019t know what things are worth and in her day they would have spanked a kid for running off and I\u2019m clearly as shitty a parent as I am  a person. I couldn\u2019t get away because I had to get my purse out of the car and my phone in my pocket and I\u2019m trying to do it all as fast as I can without god forbid dropping my umbrella again and she made my kid cry because she was so angry. Finally I made it into the grocery store, and by the time I got out she was gone and my car had a fresh scratch. Ducking Karen.\n\nI\u2019m about 75% sure the umbrella never even touched her precious car. There were certainly no scratches on the paint if it did touch it. The parking lot was basically empty - I was one of three cars in my row, and there were four empty spots closer to the stores all next to each other. She didn\u2019t have to park right next to me, but I did drop the umbrella and it could have scratched her car, and as angry as Karen was she clearly thought I was in the wrong. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oAVqgEhNtSOXCh6fiKKYZNGXGR5pmTzO", "post_id": "a052cm", "action": {"description": "contemplating cutting my family out of my life", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for contemplating cutting my family out of my life?", "text": "Sorry it's kind of long and looks like shit cuz mobile... \n\nIn all honestly I was pretty lucky growing up. Military father, stay at home mom, dickhead older brother but all in all great childhood. I'm currently divorced and have a son with my ex wife. We live in separate states (she moved) and things aren't exactly good between us so times are hard with that but that's not the case in question. My family (Mom mostly... Dad is cool) are in constant contact with my ex wife. It's like they're best fuckin friends or something. I can understand wanting to know about your grandson but we're talking daily basis, small talk, all day type shit. There's no possible way the subject is constantly him. At best I get a few texts a month or maybe a phone call. I know I could make more of an effort to stay in touch with them but honestly not much goes on in my life so there's not much to talk about. \nThe situation came to a head recently when she was invited on a family trip to see MY grandmother and it was never even mentioned to me. I haven't seen my grandmother in a long time and I would've loved to go as she is getting up there in years and may not be around much longer. When I confronted my Mom about this she essentially blew me off telling me that she can invite whoever she wants to go on a family trip or to her home. This obviously upset me considering this is the woman who took my son from me. I agreed that yes she can invite anyone she wants but that didn't explain why I was excluded. She didn't reply for a couple weeks then messaged me like nothing happened. I decided this wasn't a hill to die on and let it go. Then comes Thanksgiving... a FAMILY gathering that I, once again, was not invited to. When I tried to call my son to wish him a happy Thanksgiving and see what he was up to I got no response from my ex wife. She does this shit a lot so I tried to brush it off and wished my mother a happy Thanksgiving instead. She told me that my ex was currently driving 7 hours to their house to spend Thanksgiving with MY family instead of her own.\nAt this point idk wtf to do. The relationship with my Mom has become toxic. When we do talk I bite my tongue but I feel like ripping her head off for treating me like shit.  I feel like my ex is driving a wedge between us and there's nothing I can do about it so I've been considering saying fuck it and just cutting that negativity from my life. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ivS8ODOEnOgSfQx2rGW3Y6yHgkeWZoz3", "post_id": "aa0haa", "action": {"description": "things going wrong in my relationship causing him to end it", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for things going wrong in my relationship causing him to end it?", "text": "I only recently discovered this subreddit so I\u2019m posting this here.\n\nI (34f) met a guy (31m) last year.  Our relationship was 10.5 months long.  He moved in with his best friend (56m) back in May the 1st) and things declined from there.\n\nLong story short we went on a motorcycle ride that scared me.  He asked me what was wrong twice and I only told him after the 2nd time he asked me.  The next day we talked and he understood why I got scared.  He then told me I couldn\u2019t ride for a few weeks but didn\u2019t explain himself.  I told him \u201cI think we need to think about what we want from the relationship and try to fix things\u201d.  He ended it the next day telling me \u201cI can\u2019t trust you to communicate with me\u201d.  When I texted him I was trying to open communication and that never happened.  Breakup was July.\n\nWe got back together in August and I told him I would have the threesome he wanted and brought up a few times.  That didn\u2019t sit well with me 2 weeks later in September and I told him I changed my mind.  He broke up with me immediately because I didn\u2019t want to have 1 anymore.  He told me \u201cyou put my dream on the table and took it away.\u201d.  But he denied that being why he ended it and said I was fickle, irresponsible, and untrustworthy.  He also told me that I fucked up and asked if I knew what that meant.\n\nAm I the asshole for both those things?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bnceHmizHCVmgkW6K40MR7uCLZzuoNDb", "post_id": "b8a5ow", "action": {"description": "wanting to go to the college of my choice", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to go to the college of my choice?", "text": "There\u2019s a lot of details here, so bear with me.\n\nI\u2019m a senior in high school and I just got all of my college decisions back. It was a tough year in general, but luckily I got accepted into a really great university that is hovering around top 15 in the US.\n\nFor about a week, I was celebrating figuring out the logistics of being able to go there. I should have seen the issue at this point, as my dad (not my custodial parent) kept reiterating how I can think about going, depending on the financial aid package.\n\nFast forward to Saturday, I find out I would end up paying a lot. It\u2019s private, so not a huge surprise but still disconcerting. I\u2019m unsure of what to decide - I haven\u2019t committed to anything.\n\nOn Saturday we got into an argument when he made it clear that the public state schools (which are good but don\u2019t stack up to the private one) were my only option. He told me that he wouldn\u2019t pay anything towards the private university (He\u2019s pretty rich. He makes easily 3.5x what my mom does, and lives in a $3 million house - the university knew this when making the FA package) Since then I have contacted the FA office and described the situation, so in many ways the cost isn\u2019t final. I think it was an asshole maneuver to help me with my application and essays for said university while knowing in the back of his head that he would never endorse it as an actual option, but whatever.\n\nYesterday, we went at it again. He\u2019s done this in the past so I\u2019m not shocked, but he complained how he \u201cpays for everything\u201d (child support) and that my mom spends her money \u201cgoing to Hawaii every year\u201d (a straight-up lie). At this point I tried to ignore him, but he kept escalating which led to me making a few comments in bad taste.\n\nHe then yelled how I was an \u201cdisrespectful\u201d child (My mom laughed when I told her this) and that even considering the private university was \u201cthe most ungrateful thing I\u2019ve ever seen any kid do\u201d. IMO, this is where he is trying to justify his stance of forcing me into a university, and also sort of gaslighting me. \n\nI should mention that he went to a public university in my state for his undergrad (paid in full by his parents), as did my mom, but they disagree a lot on this.\n\nIn the aftermath, he was still very pissed off to the point where the borderline emotional abuse made me feel unsafe at his house. I\u2019m currently making plans to stay at a friend\u2019s house for tonight and I don\u2019t plan on letting him continue to disrespect a decision that is entirely up to me. It\u2019s my life, not his.\n\nI realize that money is a huge factor for college, but he\u2019s already made it clear that his contribution would be $0 and he won\u2019t co-sign on any loans. Fair. I\u2019ve already had multiple people offer to co-sign as they are confident I\u2019ll be fine. He doesn\u2019t have to do anything - but he\u2019s still fuming. Even if it\u2019s coming from a place of care and concern, I can\u2019t excuse his behavior and no matter what school I choose. \n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gJSkmr0hGVx4YGkZmHJTD2PoCUvrAVH9", "post_id": "apjdvo", "action": {"description": "ignoring my ex when she tried talking to me on campus today", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my ex when she tried talking to me on campus today?", "text": "So we broke up about a month ago, and it didn\u2019t end badly but we were pretty close and serious. \n\nI haven\u2019t talked/texted her at all since, and we go to the same college.\n\nI saw her walking to the halls today, and I completely ignored her. She waved and tried talking to me but I just kept walking. \n\nShe texted me a few hours ago and said she was hurt because I acted like she didn\u2019t exist, after all that we\u2019ve been through. I haven\u2019t texted back and probably won\u2019t. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kVPYm3DqyRJy296m2LEzj1ayq9St45yv", "post_id": "b8oool", "action": {"description": "refusing to drive 4hrs before work in the morning to pick up my new mother in law", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA? Refusing to drive 4hrs before work in the morning to pick up my new mother in law.", "text": "I (M27) try very hard to avoid inconveniencing people. I also dislike being excessively inconvenienced by those around me (crazy right.) I think most people share that.\n\nMy partner (F20) and I got married within the past few months.\n\nWe all live and work in the same city.\n\nMy mother in law says she \"has\" to take her car into the specific dealership she bought it from, for some maintenance. Which is 2 hrs drive one way from our city. So she is planning on driving down before work Friday morning to drop it off and asked if we would pick her up and bring her back for work in the morning.\n\nWork starts at 7am for my wife and I(we work at the same facility)\n\nThis means we would have to get up at 2:30AM! To get ready in half an hour and be on the road by 3AM!  \nI guess I'm being a bit overdramatic as I could potentially call in late to work and get there at 9 which would be doable as my job is good to work with me but I would just have to stay later to make up for it. That would still mean we would have to get up at 4:30AM..\n\nI told my wife that I absolutely would not like to do it, basically said I wouldn't do it. I think it's a very inconsiderate request to make and I'm almost offended that she asked.\n\nI feel like most posts on this sub probably know the answer but I'm just wondering if people think that I should be willing to do favors for my family even if they are a big inconvenience at times...  The crazy part is that I bet my MIL would do it for me if the roles were reversed.. the only thing is that I would NEVER ask someone to do that. I would figure something else out.\n\nTLDR: MIL asked my wife and I to pick her up in a city 2 hrs away and bring her back before work starts on Friday morning. Work starts at 7AM. I said no because it's unreasonable imo. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NTO7k9XXB9OUw2msRHi7W0qyc1lsBaR4", "post_id": "b6au83", "action": {"description": "being mad my boyfriend texted my brother", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for being mad my boyfriend texted my brother?", "text": "My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 5 years and living together for 4. We are currently getting ready to move about 90 miles away from where we live now. \n\nWe were considering buying instead of renting so I was checking up on my credit score on credit karma and noticed that my older brother still has me listed on his credit card. I used to live with him and his wife and they paid me to take care of my niece full time. The card was for nanny stuff or emergencies. I moved in with my boyfriend straight from living with them so it\u2019s been at least 4 years since I used the account and I don\u2019t even have a card anymore but the balance still shows up on my credit report. It\u2019s not a huge deal just something I figured I should mention to him. \n\nMy brother lives on the other side of the country now so I see him like once a year but we text pretty much every day. Last weekend my boyfriend said I should ask him to remove me from the credit card account and I said I would when we talk on the phone. He\u2019s supposed to call me tomorrow. I also have some special beers that I\u2019m supposed to mail to him I just haven\u2019t got the chance yet.\n\nI was away on a work trip until this morning. My boyfriend asked me again last night if I\u2019ve texted my brother about the credit card and I said no I will ask him when we talk. I didn\u2019t think anything else of it until just now when my boyfriend informed me that he texted my brother yesterday and said \u201chey man we\u2019ve got your beers! also, can you take emilyjobot off your credit card?\u201d My brother responded \u201ccool I\u2019m super excited! I\u2019ll talk to emilyjobot about it.\u201d \n\nI am LIVID. I think it was completely inappropriate for him to text my brother about something that has nothing to do with him- especially something money related. He says that we are at a point in our relationship where our finances are so intertwined that my business is also his business and that he thought I would probably forget to bring it up to my brother anyways. \n\nAm I overreacting or did he overstep?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uNxyKO9Q4vCYch6BD76EmjwTl1uDtomQ", "post_id": "ajsri4", "action": {"description": "not figuring this out on my own or am I just overthinking it", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not figuring this out on my own or am I just overthinking it??", "text": "Okay so about a month or two ago two of my friends got together. Kay that\u2019s cool I had mixed feelings about {FEMALE REDACTED} (I will be referring to them as such MALE REDACTED and FEMALE REDACTED) but overall I was cool with it happy for them, they looked good together. So last Thursday they broke up after {MALE REDACTED} had been cheating for about a week. I was and still am pretty close to both of them they tell me pretty much everything but I had no idea he was cheating. The other day (Tuesday) I got a text from {FEMALE REDACTED} asking \u201chey did u know anything about {MALE REDACTED} cheating I had no clue and as such I respond say such the next day day goes by as normal and at the end of the day I run into both {MALE & FEMALE REDACTED} so I decided to go talk to {MALE REDACTED} Because I know he will leave earlier and I saw him by himself once he left I went over to {FEMALE REDACTED} as soon as I got over to her I can see that\u2019s she\u2019s talking about {MALE REDACTED} and she\u2019s talking mad shit like stuff about his dick and then his family so I can see she\u2019s still pissed I mean it was less then a week so I understand but this is where I can\u2019t decide who the asshole is (hence why I\u2019m here) is {FEMALE REDACTED} or {MALE REDACTED} the asshole I say this because {MALE REDACTED} didn\u2019t say anything mean about her in fact anything he said was nice and sounded genuine he also seemed like he was upset about it as well. It is also a possibility that I am an asshole for being so leaned towards {FEMALE REDACTED } see as I may have feelings for her I\u2019m not quite sure of that myself.\n\nI apologize for and miss use of words, punctuation or any other grammatical errors I did this in gym so I kinda gave up on that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oDEJxIwg0vyozFhs1y5NKxguypGpxjDg", "post_id": "b40l1o", "action": {"description": "refusing to go to a party when I was only invited if I \"don't cause any problems\"", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to go to a party when I was only invited if I \"don't cause any problems\"?", "text": "So in my group of friends, there is a guy who isn't really my friend but hangs out with my friends. I make it a point to kind of avoid talking to him because he is usually pretty rude to me. He thinks that its a joke to call me a slut or say I have no standards, but its not really a joke when you say it to someone who already doesn't like you.\n\nI have told him to stop.\n\nMy friends have told him to stop.\n\nHe doesn't. \n\nSo anyway, a friend of mine who just joined our group invited me to her birthday, and I was pretty happy about it until my girlfriend texted me that the girl throwing the party had texted her about me. So I asked what it was about, and my GF said that this girl wanted to make sure I wasn't going to start any problems. This confused my GF so she asked what she meant by that. Apparently the girl said that i always get so butthurt when the guy mentioned above jokingly insults me. My girlfriend knows she hasn't been around our group long enough to know that he always does that kind of stuff to me, and we have a long history of him \"jokingly\" hitting and sexually harassing me, so she tries to explain the situation, but this girl doesn't care and just wants my promise not to start anything. So me and my girlfriend get pissed and just say fuck it because she didn't even deliver a similar text to the guy. I'm definitely not going.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O7MjREQmfC4eq2tEFUxzNKLtMOesefvj", "post_id": "ajo5z2", "action": {"description": "cutting out a family member that has a traumatic brain injury", "pronormative_score": 71, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for cutting out a family member that has a traumatic brain injury?", "text": "I don't know where he falls in line for cousin, but he is my grandmother's sister's grandson. He is a few years younger than me (I'm 35) and I met him maybe a handful of times by the time I was 21.\n\nWhen I was 21, he chose to attend the same university I was attending. He stayed with my grandmother a few days before the dorms opened and seemed like a really good person. I don't know if it was an act or if he was severely corrupted during his first semester of college tbh.\n\nHe got his first DUI during homecoming weekend, so mid-way through the semester. He pleaded first offense and AFAIK the charges were dropped. He seemed fine the few times I saw him on campus after that. But I graduated the following May, so I can be certain.\n\nHe failed out after his third semester, blaming it on \"not being ready for college\". He moved home and got a job at a gas station. Within a month he'd gotten a second DUI. He also ended up getting fired from the job because he was drinking on the job and also didn't pay for the beer.\n\nOver the next 10 years he amassed a total of 5 DUIs. He also developed a nasty cocaine habit. Both of which had landed him in jail numerous times and lost him countless jobs. He was \"fortunate\" (if you can call it that) that he never injured anyone else and that all of his DUIs were single vehicle incidents or he was simply pulled over.\n\nTwo years ago he decided to kill himself because his addiction was so out of control. He wrote letters to his family members and apologized for his terrible behavior. He then drank an entire \"bar sized\" bottle of vodka and did a lot of coke. He got behind the wheel and ended up causing an accident. A child was killed. My cousin ended up in a coma for several months, barely surviving.\n\nHe has a traumatic brain injury. He has the mental capabilities of a young child. He has never been to court for the death he caused, nor will he ever be held accountable for his actions. He sits at home, watches TV, and receives assistance to survive because he cannot provide for himself. He lives with his mom and dad.\n\nEver since the accident, the family has come together to hold fundraisers and they make a big deal at reunions about praying for him to improve as much as he can. At first I politely declined to get involved. Then I declined pleasantly. Then I declined directly. And yesterday, after being told I wasn't being \"Christian like\" and that I was raised \"better than that\", I declined hostily.\n\nI have not had any contact with my cousin since his accident. I prayed for him, but I did not visit him or donate to his care in any way. I see him as a murderer. I will never see him as anything but a murderer. His sister told me yesterday, after verbally attacking me, that he's suffering daily for his actions and I replied with, \"He should be.\"\n\nEveryone seems to be treating him like he's absolved of his past actions because he's had a traumatic brain injury and I don't subscribe to that bullshit. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 65, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 71, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WM17eXtoPIbsLOwS4WQsrBU9lSyLwHdu", "post_id": "amo4gz", "action": {"description": "smashing the car windows of a guy who keeps sending my girlfriend panties", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 42}, "title": "AITA For smashing the car windows of a guy who keeps sending my girlfriend panties?", "text": "The title is as accurate and straightforward as I can put it. My main reddit account is linked to my rl so im using a throwaway.\n\nI have been dating my girlfriend for five months. Its usually difficult for me to maintain relationships this long due to my own personal issues. I am very much into her and she makes me happy. I am very protective of her.\n\nFor the past month shes been receiving womens panties from a highschool classmate who had a crush on her. She is in her early 20s so we believe he just now sought her out or found her. He sends her messages on social media asking her to wear the panties and send them back to him.\n\nShe has told him numerous times to stop and at first she blocked him, but that didnt work as he keeps sending more packages. She has told him to fuck off numerous times and he wont listen.\n\nShe has filed a police report and we even have footage of either him or someone he knows (in a hoodie and couldnt see face) delivering the packages to her doorstep, to avoid a return address since we said we were calling the police. Nothing has happened yet and she doesnt want to spend money on a lawyer to get a restraining order.\n\nI messaged him on facebook. I told him to not contact her again or he will regret it. He told me to do something about it, and said that I was \"jealous\" of him (I have no idea what he means by this). He said that he could kick my ass irl.\n\nI began leaving messages on his social media pictures. Then he blocked me.\n\nHe posted that he worked at a local Petco. I went to the store and in the parking lot saw the same bmw we have on video dropping off packages.\n\nUsing that, I followed him home and watched him park on the side of the street next to his home.I waited until it got dark, and I smashed his windows in with a collapsible baton. I then threw some panties (new obviously) in the drivers seat and left as the alarm went off.\n\nI told my gf not to worry about it anymore. My father is a retired leo (corrections) and when I told him he was furious at me as I committed a crime. I doubt anyone saw me or could recognize me as it was very late and the guy would be exposing himself as a pervert if he reported me.\n\nHe knows I know where he lives now and I believe he will stop. Time will tell. This may sound crazy to a lot of you but I am telling the truth. It took me forever to muster the courage to do this.\n\nBut was I in the wrong, should I have just waited until the police finally did something?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 31, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 42}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "eJB1lv3P4TDlQi2UmuFFtJWy8xzRUouN", "post_id": "ar2h5o", "action": {"description": "being upset at my best friend for dating my ex", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For being upset at my best friend for dating my ex.", "text": "Sorry for the formatting, I'm on mobile because I don't have a computer. For a bit of context, I have very low self-esteem and I have a history of horrible depression due to problems in my past. I'm the kind of person that when anything goes wrong, no matter how little of it is my fault, if it IS my fault, then I try to take the full blame.\n\nI had dated this girl for two years starting in highschool, and at the time, as far as I could tell, everything was going great. I had gotten a decent paying job, and a house that we can live by ourselves. Everything I thought was going perfectly to the point where I was going to propose to her on Christmas last year. Then one day in November, I come home late one night to find a note on my couch saying that we were through. I was so devistated that I've nearly committed suicide twice now due to the overwhelming guilt and sadness.\n\nFast forward to a couple of months after she broke up with me, I meet her coming in with a friend at a place that we hanged out. She and my friend were already best friends even while we were dating so I didn't think anything of it. Later that night I finally talked to her alone about things that had been bothering me about our breakup, and how I regret all of the things I did wrong to her, and she apologises for not telling me what was wrong while we were together (during the time we were dating, she kept things from me as to not upset me because work had me stressed out, which I completely understood.) Then when my friend comes to check on me and her, I noticed something odd on how they were acting. They were very close to each other, VERY close. When I had asked my ex about if they were dating at all, she said no, but come the next morning when I asked my friend because I was extremely paranoid about it and I needed confirmation, he said that they were.\n\nThey had been lying to me for two months.\n\nI've never felt more betrayed in my entire life, and I've now fallen into the deepest pit of depression I've ever been in. Due to the pain I tried to commit suicide a couple of days ago after learning the news (I found out almost a week ago.) I honestly don't know what to think anymore and don't know what to do at this point. When I confronted my \"friend\" about it he acts like it's no big deal, and after consulting with my family, they've told me to just move on. Am I truly in the wrong for being upset? I await my judgement.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EdlmVuSAY436sNv4TaYofafC6NMmBfDz", "post_id": "b27223", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate her boyfriend can't be here all the time", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my roommate her boyfriend can\u2019t be here all the time?", "text": "I (20f) live with two roommates, Mary (22), who is rarely around and whom I don\u2019t know very well, and Mia (20), who is one of my best friends. Mia has a boyfriend, Mark (23) who I\u2019m also good friends with. However, Mark is at my apartment all the time, sometimes when Mia isn\u2019t even here (he has a key). He cooks, showers, and does multiple loads of laundry here. \n\nIn theory, this would all even out because Mia would do all this at Mark\u2019s apartment as well, but that rarely happens. So, Mark just uses our utilities and shared food without paying anything, and it\u2019s started to bother me a bit. I\u2019m also a little annoyed that I almost never get to hang out in the common spaces of my own apartment because they are always there. This also means that I have to wait to use the kitchen/bathroom until he is done a lot of the time. They are also pretty loud until they go to bed and start right up again in the morning. I\u2019m also uncomfortable that I can hear them being physical all the time.\n\nHowever, I have people over sometimes and it can get kind of loud, and so does Mary. So, Mia would probably bring that up if I tried to talk about Mark. And maybe it would be overstepping to try to tell her when she can have people over. But I feel like it\u2019s a different situation because he basically lives here. I just don\u2019t know if it\u2019s enough of a problem that I wouldn\u2019t be overreacting to talk to her about it. And I don\u2019t want to ruin friendships over something that isn\u2019t that big of an issue. Would I be the asshole if I told her he can\u2019t always be here and that it feels like he\u2019s living here for free?\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t2CK70gxkm6i6KkzeYuNsBrc7JTX5zwc", "post_id": "ayeyqo", "action": {"description": "leaving my girlfriend when she says to even though she is crying", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I leave my girlfriend when she says to even though she is crying?", "text": "One detail before I go on, me and my girlfriend are both 15. With that, read on. \n\nSo, little bit of backstory. I know my girlfriend has been having some family issues for a little while but she won\u2019t tell me and she won\u2019t budge either. I do care about her, obviously but I\u2019ve chosen to respect that decision rather than push to know. For the most part, she\u2019s been alright.\n\nHowever, today, I get on the bus and it\u2019s crowded so I can\u2019t exactly make it to her. She sits down next to someone and I can tell somethings up. But cause it\u2019s just a random person, I didn\u2019t feel comfortable going over to her and asking what was up. I decide to just wait with my friends and I chat with them until the person sitting next to my girlfriend leaves the bus. I go over to her and ask \u201chow is she and stuff\u201d. It\u2019s obvious that somethings up. She quiet, she looks upset. We\u2019re getting to my stop and she won\u2019t tell me anything. She does however say that it\u2019s my stop and that should get off. I say that I want to make sure she\u2019s ok before I leave. At this point, she\u2019s crying, wiping her tears away. I\u2019m horrible in these situations. I\u2019ve never learned how to deal with someone crying so I usually end up sitting there like an idiot. I go past my stop but I say to her, \u2018if you really want me to go, I will go\u201d. She says to go. On my way out, I tell her best friend (who hasn\u2019t noticed - in fact, I\u2019m the only who has noticed I think) to keep an eye on her and make sure she\u2019s fine. I then proceeded to leave the bus and walk home.\n\nAm I the asshole for leaving? Should have I stayed? What should I do now? To be honest, any advice would be helpful. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xc8dWTz3qSTd3nlbA9sIfCnWkxjP4orY", "post_id": "b6y1yp", "action": {"description": "not going to my brother's birthday party", "pronormative_score": 46, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going to my brother's birthday party.", "text": "I will preface by saying that I am an alcoholic, and I relapsed two and a half months ago after almost a year sober.  I'm slowly working up to a year again with help from my support system and the good people over at r/stopdrinking.\n\nYesterday was my brother's birthday, the big four-oh.  There was a party.  My brother has been one of my biggest supports in my sobriety, so I thought that since I was invited there would be no alcohol considering my relatively recent relapse.  I don't expect him to cater to me.  I just assumed due to his support.  Last minute he texted me that his wife had turned it into a BYOB party.  I said I would drop by, but probably wouldn't come inside.  True to my word, I went.  When I arrived I texted him I was outside.  He and his wife came out to greet me and I gave him a hug, told him happy birthday, and gave him his present.  We chatted for a few minutes.  He said he understood that I couldn't come in.  She said she was sorry for doing the BYOB.  She wasn't thinking.  I told her it was fine, because the party was for my brother.  Can't expect them to cater to my needs simply because I can't control myself around alcohol.  She asked if I wanted to come in for cake, and I told her it probably wasn't a good idea since everyone inside was drinking.  We made our goodbyes, and I came home.\n\nThis morning I woke up to a text from her saying that it was rude of me not to at least stay for cake and whatnot.  She said that my brother was \"extremely hurt\" by my not being there for his fortieth.  She said that as strong as I am, I should have been able to be around alcohol without losing control since we had had a St. Patrick's day lunch and she and my brother had been drinking then and it didn't get me then.  I explained that two people having a green beer across the dinner table is different from a house full of people drinking.  She said that she was upset with me for acting selfish.  I apologized for any unintended hurt I might have caused.  I have yet to talk to my brother about supposedly hurting him as he's sleeping off a hangover and hasn't answered my text.  I don't know where this whole thing came from, because they've both been super supportive of my sobriety.  Normally I would suspect drunkenness on her part, but she sent the text this morning.  It was what woke me up.  Regardless, I'm wondering if maybe I should have sucked it up and just gone to an AA meeting or something after hanging at the party for a bit.\n\nSo, Reddit...AITA for bailing on my brother's fortieth birthday to avoid the temptation of another relapse?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 46, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ofuc5cgyGfzfYodteZkwnCBkC3Yg8eqL", "post_id": "apce7r", "action": {"description": "not letting my dad use my car to pick up my uncle from the airport after a snowstorm", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not letting my dad use my car to pick up my uncle from the airport after a snowstorm?", "text": "I'm living at home with my parents, and my uncle's flight comes in tomorrow morning and we're expecting several inches of snow tonight and tomorrow in the Pacific Northwest.\n\nI'm worried that my car (2000 corolla) wouldn't do well in the snow and might crash, but it seems to be the only car with fully functioning safety features.\n\nMy dad just asked to borrow the car because it was \"nicer\" to pick up my uncle with, but I later learned from my mom that my car may actually be the safest bet. Our 2000 Passat has seat belts that don't work and our Acura Legend doesn't have any airbags.\n\nI hate to admit it, but my primary concern however, was dinging up my car, as it's my first one, and the safety concerns came secondary. AMTA?\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QhGbVf979MYB4xava6xIrTPjFic4UkWZ", "post_id": "aihfow", "action": {"description": "no wanting to go / support (emotionally) my big brother's wedding", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for no wanting to go / support (emotionally) my big brother's wedding?", "text": "So a little backstory, my brother (28) have been dating this girl for about 3 years. As far as i know, she's his first girlfriend and to be honest - i don't like her. I always treat her with respect, but I don't work my way to be friends with her. \nSo, this relationship: It was ALWAYS in each other's houses. She would spend the 3 to 4 days in my grandparents house (he lives there) every two weeks, and he would do the same thing in her house. \n\nSo around december, my mom tells me that he was going to marry his girlfriend. I was shocked! First: even though they are together for a while, they never spend more than 2 weeks together  and ALWAYS had my grandmother's credit card to help them out(paying for EVERYTHING). They never gone through any hardships that a normal couple do, they never lived together to see if they are compatible to do so. \n\nWhen I ask her why in the world they would do something so stupid she said \"It's because it's easier to move to europe as a couple\". It seems that he'll be trying to do a master in education (he graduate in biology) and she'll be finishing her college there. They would spend around six months here and then will see if they succeed in entering in their respective colleges. \n\nAnd the last straw for me: They are gonna live in my grandmother's other apartment with her paying all the bills!!\nNow, my family (mother side) is not poor, they have a good wealth and something like that is possible to them, but i got so mad that he's marry her and expecting our elderly grandparents to pay!! I am REALLY angry at him, to the point of thinking skipping their wedding! My mom says i should be nice because she'll be family, but oh boy Im PISSED.\n \nAm i in the wrong to be angry? should i suck it up? Is it really that bad not going to their wedding? I really feel like this is the stupidest thing i ever heard him saying, but im afraid i'm biases because i really dont like my brother (personal reasons). My other brother (26) also thinks it's stupid, but my mom is excited to go to their wedding.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nUk4sXC9QeKwqFJtoHn5HtRgGkCahGHr", "post_id": "aozzde", "action": {"description": "breaking up with and not wanting to talk to my ex girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with and not wanting to talk to my ex girlfriend", "text": "Me and my girlfriend broke up recently. Our relationship wasn't good for a number of reasons but namely that our mental health clashed too much for us to be happy. \n\nI have severe depression and she has really bad anxiety. Throughout our relationship I was putting my needs on the back burner when she needed me because \"a depressive episode isn't as bad as an anxiety attack\". This mindset only made my depression worse. \n\nEventually I broke up with her because I realised I wasn't happy anymore. We stayed  friends to start with but had a hook up a few weeks after I broke up with her since then we've been ignoring and avoiding each other. \n\nAbout two weeks ago she got admitted to hospital with a high fever. I knew some friends were going to visit her so I didn't go, not knowing where we stood and not wanting to ask. \n\nThe other day, however, she messaged me, just asking how I was. I asked why the late message (since it was 2am) and she started to talk about how lonely she'd been at the hospital. And how \"i guess no one cares about me as much as i thought\". Obviously I felt bad for her, but it ws exactly this kind of talk that made my depression so bad I had to leave the relationship. \n\nI told her in no uncertain terms that \"I don't want to listen to this anxiety ridden self consciousness over and over again\" and that \"I'm not your therapist\". She responded that she only wanted to talk, but that she gets it. \n\nAm I the asshole? I feel like it \n\nTLDR; I broke up with a girl over her anxiety and then refused to talk about to her when she got out of hospital because it makes my depression worse. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "orL2l5lEpHs1sQra43KXYf7tlEBvOcPj", "post_id": "agrxu7", "action": {"description": "not being sad that my little brother is dead, and not wanting to travel across the country to go to his funeral", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA For not being sad that my little brother is dead, and not wanting to travel across the country to go to his funeral.", "text": "My little brother and his family were recently involved in a car crash, he was dead on impact, along with my nephew. I feel no sadness, no joy, no anger, no emotions at all when I think about it. The most feeling I can muster about this is that he was unlucky. He was hit by a drunk.\n\nI didn't hate my little brother, I had no animosity towards him, and we even had somewhat of a good relationship. We kept in touch through social media frequently as we lived in different parts of the country. Yet now that he is dead I just do not care.\n\nMy father is asking me to travel across the country, take off work, and pause my life to attend the funeral. I told him that I simply don't want to go as I have a lot going on right now, which is mostly true. He says that hes not going to tell my mother I said that, and hes begging me to come.\n\nOn reflection I don't think I would care much if my father died either, or my mother, or the rest of my family. I think about it and nothing really strikes me. My father and sister are both upset at me for not wanting to attend, especially since in their minds my reasons are unsatisfactory. AITA.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "F1WSCpp6IknXD60k6WjPkXeTM740gSqQ", "post_id": "awk9c0", "action": {"description": "being a bit upset after not getting a present from my best friend when I turned 30", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being a bit upset after not getting a present from my best friend when I turned 30?", "text": "I even debated making this post, so before you judge by the title, let me explain my POV.\n\nI got a really close knit group of friends (4 people) and 2 have turned 30 before me. For their 30's, the group collected 450 Euros from each other to buy the person that turned 30 a nice present (Fancy watch/something memorable).\n\n​\n\nBy the time it was my bday (granted we were working on a big project in another country) I didn't receive anything from my group of friends. I was kind pretty sad about but I don't think I should bring this up since it would be a douchey thing to do?\n\n​\n\nI basically just want to know if I should change the way I think about this incident and move on or if I should bring it up at some point?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0ydeFvIwypInPbVwSNngZVGKritEyoXi", "post_id": "ac1xee", "action": {"description": "giving my friends tv back to his ex fianc\u00e9", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For giving my friends tv back to his ex fianc\u00e9?", "text": "Last year my friends fianc\u00e9 left him a month before the wedding. I let him move into my spare bedroom until he figured things out. The day he moved in he was already on tinder, and had a new girlfriend within two weeks. Then five months later he decided to move in with her in her parents basement, and moved out without even telling me. He left most of his stuff including his tv he took from his ex\u2019s house and his guns. Being a suicide survivor I was not comfortable having the guns in my house, a fact he was well aware of, I asked him constantly for a month to come get the guns until he finally did. Fast forward eight months later I was talking to his ex at a wedding, since i was friends with her well before ever meeting him, and told her the tv was still at my house and she could take it if she wanted. She took me up on the offer since it was originally her tv. Three months later his current girlfriend shows up at my house unexpectedly demanding the tv. I explain to her why I don\u2019t have it anymore. Both of them later text me calling me an asshole for giving his stuff away, and messaged his ex saying she stole from him. In my opinion you can\u2019t move out of an apartment and leave your stuff there until you feel like picking it up. Why should my house be any different? Especially since he didn\u2019t even ask or tell me he was moving out ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mLa5NksSvOclyzLlcPCXpbm2BeEmHEFa", "post_id": "a8ct0x", "action": {"description": "breaking it off with me fiance", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking it off with me fiance?", "text": "The thing hated about him, literally just this one thing, was his aggressive driving. Last year while I was in the car with him, when someone was trying to cut him off, he swerved in front of them while they were speeding by him. I told him if he ever acted aggressively like that again, we would be over. Yesterday, while were crossing the street (not in a car), a car was driving very slowly down the street and was not stopping. I stopped to let the car pass while he kept walking. The person didn't stop and he flipped them off and slammed the hood of their car. The person got out of the car and was ready to fight him, but returned to their car. \n\nIn the moment, as I watched him do it, I knew it was over. I could not be with someone who refuses to stop for a car that was obviously passing by slowly or someone that needs to act that way toward a stranger that wasn't driving recklessly or anything. \n\nI feel like I sound like a petty asshole. We've been together for about three years, but this behavior seriously sets me off. I personally, loathe that behavior and would NEVER even think to do something like that on the street. I honestly I think it's really disgusting. Am I an asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ABWydCXFeL5l7S1zve1PLYbDN0Q6jsJC", "post_id": "ahk6xi", "action": {"description": "being annoyed about a stranger clapping during a movie", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed about a stranger clapping during a movie?", "text": "Alright, so I\u2019m going with my two brothers to see the new Aquaman, and so we get our tickets, our snacks, and get to our seats. Im sitting down and the movie starts. We get about 15 minutes in and the title card appears. When it does, a lady about two rows in front of us starts clapping. Loudly. However, if it was just this one time it would be understandable, you\u2019re excited about the movie and I get that. But about five minutes later, it happens again,\n\nand again\n\nand again. \n\nAt every key scene, every action sequence, every romance scene, every cool cinematic, this lady starts clapping loudly as all hell. After the movie, I express my extreme annoyance to my brother about this lady, and he calls me a killjoy and says that it happens all the time at theaters in larger cities and that I have no right to be annoyed. I disagree. I paid for a movie, and I want to be able to enjoy it damn it. But my sisters agree with him, saying that because I occasionally make casual conversation with them *AT HOME* sometimes during movies means I don\u2019t get to be upset. Few key notes with that. I only do it if I don\u2019t understand what is going on and I feel that I missed something, and I always stop if requested. However, I can see where they are coming from and have to ask, AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eovh3ERiZqgWJixm5jAz0CegChEbcQuu", "post_id": "b4ekdx", "action": {"description": "ditching my friend's summer plans for an internship", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ditching my friend's summer plans for an internship?", "text": "I'm 14m, my friend Ben is 15m. We're both freshman now, sophomores next year. And the thing about Ben is, he's rich- like 'I don't know why he goes to a public school' rich- and he knows how to use his money to have a hella good time. For a freshman in high school, that is. And I love fun, but my career comes first. I want to go into economics. So I emailed local econ professors, financial firms, etc, asking if I could help out and do an internship. I know it's a long shot, but I am a bit of a math whiz- I've taken honors algebra 1 and 2, honors geometry, precalc, and ap calc and am now taking ap stats as a freshman- and am taking AP Macroecon, so I hoped there was some chance. I didn't get any emails back in a month, so I thought I knew 100% I wasn't getting an internship. I wasn't too bummed, though, since I knew Ben was planning a blast this summer. I told him I'm in for whatever he has planned, since the internship thing hasn't panned out. What he has planned includes:\n\n- Hanging out the country club, which entails golfing (very badly), swimming, riding around in a golf cart, etc\n\n- Flirting with cute girls \n\n- Watching a 'Netflix bucketlist' that has a total of 27 shows and 29 movies. \n\n- Going to Argentina in July \n\nEtc. You get the idea.\n\nAnd I was really looking forward to this. \n\nBut just 3 weeks ago, I got an email from a professor saying he might get me an internship. He was morbidly late, but I'd still take whatever, so I replied back and scheduled an interview, which was Saturday. Just today, he emailed me I got the internship, so I had to tell Ben I had to cancel the summer plans. He said I could get an internship any time and I'd essentially just be pouring coffee this summer. I said that's true, but the way I see it is, if I do grunt work this year, I can make some connections, and hopefully work myself up before next year. He was understandably upset, but I don't think I'm in the wrong here for wanting to pursue my future career.\n\nOr am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SoQKAHw4MaIDF57uZeCtu2RQTCgrsYUw", "post_id": "9x4gl9", "action": {"description": "not cutting a streak with my friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not cutting a streak with my friend?", "text": "So my two friends got into a fight and they stopped talking to each other. I\u2019m really close friends with one of them but not the other. Let\u2019s call the one I\u2019m close with Amanda and the one I\u2019m not close with Sarah. So Amanda says to stop my streak with Sarah because Sarah said hurtful things to Amanda and she said a loyal friend would do that for her. I didn\u2019t see the situation as a big deal and thought it\u2019s not really my problem so I didn\u2019t cut off the streak with Sarah. Amanda keeps pestering me to cut off the streak with Sarah and when I say I\u2019m not going to because I don\u2019t want to and don\u2019t see the need to, she calls me an unloyal friend and gets mad at me. Am I the asshole for not cutting off the streak with my friend because my other friend said to? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Nc71LIgzgvE3Jw5O7N9HvwCDwfXgfMZw", "post_id": "b66sjr", "action": {"description": "not allowing smoking breaks at my work", "pronormative_score": 44, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA by not allowing smoking breaks at my work?", "text": "I work at a restaurant as a manager.  Also for the record I am a non-smoker.  There are only a few employees that smoke, which are the older folks in the morning.  We also had a manager that smoked too, but recently left.  So now the only people that smoke in the restaurant are the few older employees in the morning.  It used to be a problem with the manager because he could sneak out every few hours to smoke.  I didn't like that because he left the store unattended.  The older folks will beg for a smoke break after lunch, and then go sit in their cars and smoke for a bit.  It's annoying, and I would sometimes give in for the sake of getting along.\n\nWith the manager who smoked gone, I thought it was time to institute a new smoking policy.  I wanted to enact this rule in fairness to all employees right now, and for the future.  Right now the rule is:\n\nNo smoking is permitted on the property at all.  This extends to any time before, during, or after your shift while you are in uniform.  If you are uniform and are smoking, you must leave the property to do so.  There are no more smoke breaks at the restaurant.  If you work long enough to get a break, you can use your break to smoke.  \n\nI have a few reasons for this:\n\n1) Fairness to other non-smoking employees.  It's not fair to allow some employees to take a short break and not work.  I feel this could be seen as favoritism towards certain employees, and that could cause others to feel resentment towards the management or the smokers.\n\n2) Image and Look.  We work in a restaurant serving food.  Seeing someone smoke, or smelling someone reaking of smoke, could put someone off their meal.  I know it sure does for me.  We want to promote a fresh and clean image, and I think seeing someone smoke can ruin that image.\n\nThis isn't directed at any one employee in particular, it's just a good time because there aren't very many smokers right now.  Out of the 4 employees that smoke, I ran the idea past them.  2 of them are okay with it, and say it might give them a good excuse to quite.  One was upset but said they will deal with it.  The other is super upset and wanting to put in his two weeks.  He got all in my face saying it's discriminatory.\n\nSo here is the AITA part.  I am completely unsympathetic to smokers. I have never smoked in my life, nor will I.  I understand it's an addiction, but I don't think that's an excuse.  If I can go 5 hours without a cigarette, I think you should too.  I don't think it's discriminatory to say to a smoker that you can't take a smoke break for your 5 hour shift.  Tell me, am I the asshole for not allowing smoke breaks anymore and making it harder to smoke on our property?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 44, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Kkh6oTVlSN4kq4jhcZE4ANU2oG50eyUR", "post_id": "b8b4zq", "action": {"description": "telling my Indian (adopted) friend that she shouldn't have an indian wedding", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 80}, "title": "AITA for telling my Indian (adopted) friend that she shouldn't have an Indian wedding", "text": "Ok so I am Indian. One of my close friends, Jenn (we met in college) is getting married. She was born in India but was adopted when she was 2 years old to a white family. She wasn't really raised in Indian culture and (according to her) didn't grow up around a lot of Indians and has only been to India once since being adopted. She was raised Christian but is not really religious. Apparently growing up her parents tried to give her her Indian food and celebrated a few Indian/Hindu holidays to try and connect her with Indian culture but there were all very surface level and from a white perspective. . \n\n​\n\nThe guy she is getting married to is not Indian. He is half black half white. They are both kind of creative artsy quirky types. Jenn has decided that she wants to incorporate many Indian Hindu style elements to her wedding. Now Jenn is a sweet girl but she honestly doesn't know much about Indian culture. Everything she is doing is based on research off the internet and since I am her closest Indian friends she keeps on asking me questions about Indian weddings and traditions, where to get the best Indian clothing, etc. It's honestly rubbed me the wrong way. She is literally picking out parts on Indian/Hindu culture that she likes and incorporating it into the wedding and then if she thinks something is weird she doesn't include it. She is also including all these spiritual Hindu aspects that she doesn't really understand because he thinks they are \"cool\" . It's like a big quirky art project to her. \n\n​\n\nSo I decided to tell her that I honestly don't think she shouldn't have an Indian wedding because she doesn't understand it. I was just being honest because it came across as tacky to me. The wedding is still in the planning stages anyway beside the venue and date  so I thought it was best to tell her earlier. However, she then broke down and started to play the victim and said I didn't know what it was like to be adopted and she wanted to feel connection to Indian culture. She then said she didn't want be to be her bridesmaid anymore and is now ignoring my texts. \n\n​\n\nAITA here? Honestly I just thought the whole thing was messy. If it was just wearing an Lehenga (dress) and sari it would be fine but she is incorporating so many Indian elements to the wedding that she doesn't understand at all that I felt I had to say something. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 77, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 80}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rtWUb0kuq0L9cX5kbWUqRx9ddQ1nSBVM", "post_id": "am2qqi", "action": {"description": "refusing to go into my girlfriend's kitchen", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to go into my girlfriend's kitchen?", "text": "We're late 20s, have separate apartments, and spend equal time at each other's places.\n\nShe's messy. Nowhere close to hoarder/true slob level, but just.... clueless maybe, to certain cleanliness concepts.  And I'm no neat freak myself, don't really mind clutter, will have some crumbs here and there in my kitchen, and last nights dishes in the sink. but hers is... just gross. I've brought it up many, many times over the years. Given advice, been understanding and helpful etc. I can deal with other stuff like clothes on the floor, lid never being on the toothpaste etc. But the kitchen stuff just makes me feel repulsed in a bad way. \n\nCaked on gunk to the floors, weird crumbs and residue in the little crack and corners of the counters, slimy cabinet handles, smelly refrigerator, the works. I go in as little as possible, to grab a glass of water, help chop something for dinner, I'll even take out the garbage and sweep up the loose stuff on the floor. But otherwise I block it out of my mind and pretend it's not there. Just glancing into it and seeing the stuff stuck to the floor makes me feel icky inside and lately I just say I can't go in there, I can't relax at all if it's in my view. \n\nShe gets pissed and extremely sad at me every time I bring attention too it. Says she's so busy (no more than an average person working 40 hrs/week), I'm being overly critical because it's not my place, I'm not perfect either, I'm a dick for hassling her for it etc etc. I've said that's why we could never live together on a couple occasions (brutal honesty), and that's made her cry each time. She's a total sweetheart in just about every way, so this makes me feel completely awful. \n\nShe does try to clean, she'll sweep/vacuum and lightly wipe stuff down. And uses the dish washer at least every couple days so no moldy dishes in the sink thankfully. But this place needs a  TON of elbow grease. On a couple occasions I have sucked it up and scrubbed a portion of it, like hardcore clean. She wouldn't even notice if I didn't point it out. \n\nShe's thankful when I do it and says wow how did you do that. She just has no idea and I've run out of ideas about how to get her to work on it, like to read about what a mop is or whatever. Or that when you spill something sticky, clean it up really well immediately. I'm not interested in taking that level of cleaning into my own hands anymore.\n\nSo am I the asshole for totally refusing to go into her kitchen?\n \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j3unYS3uHY7Mv6q2tqKrPGbfXct0om3N", "post_id": "am9oj6", "action": {"description": "not ordering my mom food when I did", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not ordering my mom food when i did?", "text": "So for some information at the beginning, i am 19 and live with my mom and little sister.\n\nMost of the time i am the one making dinner because i am better at cooking and i like to do it most of the time.\n\n​\n\nNow around 5PM my mom asked me to make dinner again and i told her that i didn't wanna do it this time, because my sister didn't eat home and i just didn't wanna do it this time.\n\nSo we both got some soup leftover what i made yesterday, around 8PM i wanted to eat more but i didn't want more soup or bread. So i order some snacks from a vietnamese restaurant like spring rolls and a steamed bun.\n\nAround 8:30PM i get the food and immediately my mom comes downstairs and ask me what i have, i told her i ordered some food. At this moment she gets pissed at me and asks me why i didn't ask her if she wanted some food too.\n\n​\n\n(I know that i live with my family and that i live under her roof, but it kinda annoys that everytime i make something or order food that especially my mom wants it to. I wanna try to make a poke bowl for a long time now, but i know that when i am going to make it she is going to make it a dinner thing so i need to make alot then.)\n\n​\n\nBut back to the story... she gets pissed and says that she is really hungry so she wants some to, i then asked why she didn't make something herself if she was so hungry and her answer was \"Because you didn't make anything\".\n\nAt this point i just give her half of my spring rolls and go upstairs.\n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZkRAHdFzGGVkE1aCRQlGhCSYMyony6ZT", "post_id": "axfdqf", "action": {"description": "letting our housekeeper use our car service to get home from work every day", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for letting our housekeeper use our car service to get home from work every day?", "text": "I need to provide some background. I am posting from a throwaway but I think it's still important to use the real towns so an idea of the distance involved that our house keeper was travelling every day. \n\nWe live in La Jolla, California outside San Diego. We live in a pretty big house overlooking the ocean and we have had a housekeeper who comes four days a week to do basically whatever we need her to do. I love her to death and she fits right in even though she's only been working for us since the new year. She lives in El Cajon which by driving is about 45 minutes away. Her son drops her off every morning since he works at Scripps but I found out her combined trip home in the evening was taking her almost 2 hours. She was walking, then a bus, taking SDMT, transferring, another train and then either walking the rest of the way home or if she was lucky her daughter would come pick her up from the El Cajon stop. \n\n\nMy parents basically pay for a car service for my brother and I since they aren't ready for us to drive yet. It's kind of like a personal uber that I can use whenever I want. I have no idea how much it costs because I basically make a call, a driver shows up and takes me wherever I want to go. I guess my dad get's the bill at the end of the month or whatever. \n\nWell when I found out about our housekeeper's trip home I told her it was crazy and I just started calling the car service for her every night that she worked for us. I thought it was crazy that she had to take care of our house all day long then spend 2 hours doing nothing then go home and take care of her own house. I thought it was a very generous thing to do and 1:15 minutes minimum savings was huge for her. I also feel its a better use of the car service than my brother going to get hookers and weed downtown which is what he uses it for. \n\nMy dad just got the February bill for the car service and he freaked out. He basically told me that if she wanted transportation, she should have negotiated for it. I told my dad it's meaningless to us because we have so much but it means the world to her. My dad told me that he already pays her 1.5 times the going rate for a housekeeper. He told me to stop immediately. \n\nI feel so bad because I feel like she counts on this time now and I can't be the one to take it away from her. But my dad made me feel so bad by getting mad at me, that I don't know what to do. \n\nAm I the asshole for starting this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jysBTIW9NIztu6GSSduFBEQVYE7UsqHg", "post_id": "att992", "action": {"description": "telling my brothers GF she cant have the kids stay the day", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my brothers GF she cant have the kids stay the day?", "text": "Pre Pacfic North West snowstorm my two nieces (8 and 2) are sick and possibly my nephew (less then a year old) are sick. My brothers GF (BGF) brings them over daily because its a quick stop off before school. Yes, she sends the oldest to school a few days while being sick. Then she keeps the youngest home at my house, not her house, and has my mom watch the kid all day. Then she starts keeping the youngest home but leaves her at my house for my mom to watch her. \n\nAfter a few days my mom gets sick from this. The snow storm hits. As everyone is worried about power going out a BGF does not have a fireplace she brings the kids over incase the power goes out. Myself, my mom, and my GF are now trapped in a house with them. This last for 4 days. The snow stopped falling two days ago. In that time I almost lost my shit with the constant kids running around, screaming, and yelling. BGF parked the kids in front of the TV the whole time, right outside my room and sat at the table to study. She pawned the toddler off on my mom who was sick and should have been resting. \n\nThey dont leave until later despite being able to as they dont have a car stuck down a hill like I did. When they finally leave I had to tell my mom she needs to tell them no, they cant come over again until shes better. She sent them a text message stating so.\n\nToday I was just about to head to the door to leave for work when BGF walks through the door with the kids. The first thing I say to her is \"I hope your not keeping the kids here today. My mom is sick and needs to rest.\" \"Oh she is?\" \"Yes and she hasnt slept all night.\" and I walked away. I was told they stayed for nearly 3 hours after this.\n\nMy mom is in her mid 50s, doesn't work (laid off, would need to go back to school by that time she would retire anyway), and does not have healthcare insurance. \n\nAITA for looking out for my mom and telling my BGF to not bring her sick kids over, and to give my mom a break to get better?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LHZAV3t1DKCNKLxN1AIXbxhziCg3Fgve", "post_id": "abibpq", "action": {"description": "cutting off my best friend of 10 years after her grandpa's death", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my best friend of 10 years after her grandpa\u2019s death?", "text": "This is rather long as I feel that some back story is required but I would really appreciate some insight into my situation. \n\nPosting from a throwaway since she also uses reddit. \nMy ex best friend and I had a really great friendship for the past ten years. Like y\u2019know, I thought we\u2019d still be friends until we were 80. \n\nI do freelance writing and over the past few months, I\u2019d been getting requests for far more work than I could handle. She had just been moved to part-time at her job and needed some extra cash, so she asked if I could assign her some writing work too. I was hesitant as she had previously flaked on a 9000 word project before. \n\nRegarding the previous incident, I had given her a 3 week deadline and asked every two days how it was coming along, whether she needed help, etc. I had my suspicions that she wasn\u2019t getting as much done as she was letting on, but I thought surely she wouldn\u2019t fuck me up like that. I assured my client that my friend was very responsible and could produce high quality work (and she could, when she wasn\u2019t procrastinating) to which my client agreed to let her take on the project. I\u2019m sure you can see where this is going and sure enough, during my 12 hour (10am to 10pm) shift on the day before it was due, she told me that she couldn\u2019t do it. She sent me 1000 words that I couldn\u2019t even use as she hadn\u2019t even followed the instructions I had given her. \n\nAt the time, she was going through some shit so I decided to just drop it. She was my best friend after all. So when I got home after work that day, I had 10 hours to jam out a 9000 word project. \n\nFast forward to the most current incident, I agreed to give her a project which was due in a month from the date of assignment. Again, I asked every single day whether she had started, whether she needed help and told her that she needed to let me know ASAP if she couldn\u2019t finish it. A week before it was due, we had organised for her to come over and we would work on our projects together. \n\nShe had originally stated that she would come at 6pm after work. At 5pm, she messages me and says that she\u2019ll go home to pick up some stuff, then come over afterwards. I had a feeling she wouldn\u2019t come but I had anticipated it earlier on anyway. At 10pm she messages and says that she\u2019s way too tired to come since she\u2019d been at work and that she needed to sleep. \n\nSo now I had about 30,000 words worth of projects to complete by myself within a week. I\u2019m having a full blown meltdown at this point cus I\u2019m aware that I shouldn\u2019t have entrusted her with my stuff.\n\nThe next morning, my sister shows me that my friend hadn\u2019t been sleeping but instead went out and got drunk. She uploaded some drunken photos and videos of herself to her Snapchat and it\u2019s at this point I realise that she\u2019d blocked me from seeing them. \n\nSo not only did she flake, she also lied which was a double smack in the face. I really thought of her as my own sister. I tried to just leave it and try to get over it, but ended up blocking and deleting her off everything a week later. She called me to ask me what happened but thought I was kidding around. When I made it clear that I knew she lied and tried to hide it, she immediately says \u201cok I can\u2019t do this if you\u2019re gonna fight with me cus I\u2019m in the middle of something now\u201d. So I just hung up and we haven\u2019t talked since. \n\nThe reason I\u2019m asking if I\u2019m the asshole is because her grandpa passed away on Christmas Day and I didn\u2019t message or say anything to her. Before our fight, she told me he was very sick and that she was pretty cut up about it. \n\nObviously my reasons for cutting her out of my life aren\u2019t limited to this one event, but this seems to be the place where I should draw the line. My work is extremely important to me and it seems like she doesn\u2019t care about my professional reputation or my clients. \n\nAm I justified in wanting to just cut off all contact with her? Should I have said something about her grandpa? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fcWyvX5581HFGj3Hp0Sbyr8qtKJwqjqK", "post_id": "a043u5", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend's dad that his son was doing drugs", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my boyfriend's dad that his son was doing drugs?", "text": "My boyfriend wasn't doing drugs, it was his little brother.\nI was visiting my boyfriend's mom when my boyfriend's brother walked in, high. His mom doesn't care, but his dad is really religious and doesn't live with them. They both told me that I shouldn't tell his dad, but I never promised or indicated that I wasn't thinking about it. It's not like they entrusted me with a secret, right?\nI'm just scared for the kid. He's going to be going to a prestigious school and drugs could throw his life out of line. He would lose everything if someone found out. His dad would be understanding and do his best to fix him without getting him kicked out of school. I just thought that it was his son, and he deserves to know. It doesn't matter if his ex-wife doesn't care.\nMy boyfriend is currently not able to take care of it and he doesn't know about it. I don't plan on telling him. I have my reasons.\nIs it absolutely not my place? Should his dad know? I just don't want this kid's life to be ruined from drug use.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oEtbBMrp68EP7Ae9y2oAZfleMOY1mzcb", "post_id": "9wgitv", "action": {"description": "telling my friend that his rap demo isn't good to put on sale which resulted in him not leaving his house for two weeks", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend that his rap demo isn\u2019t good to put on sale which resulted in him not leaving his house for two weeks.", "text": "Let me give some backstory.\n\nMe and my friend (let\u2019s call him Ron) have known each other for more than 10 years since school and he is a very intelligent and creative guy especially in film making.\n\nA couple of years ago, he suddenly left college unexpectedly and said that he is pursuing a career in music. Note that he said music not rap so I assumed he was going to play a guitar or a cello and have a prestigious career in an orchestra or writing music because Ron is an incredibly intelligent guy.\n\nNearly a year goes by where I haven\u2019t heard from him and he gives me a surprise call saying how am I and that he wants to show his music album off to me and a couple of my other friends from our old social group back in school.\n\nIt was good to see Ron although he looks really tired but brings it up on his laptop to put it on the speaker and my jaw drops. \n\nIt\u2019s bad. Really bad. He was trying to be a Lil Pump knockoff. He mumbled through the whole song on a mediocre, generic rap beat about cars  and money for 2 minutes and then went \u201cuh\u201d for the last 20 seconds before it fades out.\n\nMe and my friends go quiet because we weren\u2019t expecting this low quality from Ron. He asked how we liked it and a few of my friends went \u201cEh\u201d and \u201cAlright\u201d but my big mouth told him bluntly about how he\u2019s mumbling and that there are no lyrics.\n\nHe argues with me about that there are lyrics and that this is today\u2019s style of music. I then told him that he wasted a year on making this and that\u2019s went he went quiet and I decided to leave.\n\nI think my choice of words could have been better because he has taken it bad. He probably knows that the end result was bad but didn\u2019t want his closest friends to tell him that. Was I in the wrong for saying it was cheap Lil Pump and that he wasted a year of his life? Am I the asshole for giving my opinion that he asked on a  friend I really think can be successful in any other field except for rap?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nwSt41sL9trhyhCrRr5UJxkLbQAK4L4V", "post_id": "ao3164", "action": {"description": "trying to help a friend with a girl", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA trying to help a friend with a girl", "text": "So my friend has liked this girl for atleast 3 months. And has these episodes of depression about it. So me and a group of friends tried to help him out. We DMed the girl to DM him. (not the smartest idea but we are in 9th) She ended up getting upset and i think we broke him because of that. I feel bad about trying to help, and think i ruined his chances with her. What do you guys think.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dXbxMEvoq5fVYLwlzjrhptSUtMf09U20", "post_id": "9ttjuj", "action": {"description": "ghosting a gay \"friend\"", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a gay \"friend\"", "text": "I (25M) first became friends with P. (24m) when I was still together with my ex-girlfriend. Things seemed normal at first, I tried to be as supportive as possible when he came out to me, and even when he later confessed to me that he had a crush on me. I made it clear that I am not gay and nothing would ever happen between us, but I tried to be as nice as possible about it. He seemed to just accept that at first, but a few weeks later send me a lot of texts about how attractive he found me and how much he loved me and wanted me. I told him that his behavior was super inapproriate and that I did not want any contact anymore, which he then tried to turn around to me being a homophobe, then he tried to get pity from me because he was so alone and felt so unaccepted because I did not want him.\n\n​\n\nFast forward a few weeks and things have ended with my ex. I start spending a lot of time with a friend (lets call her A.) who happens to be in the same social circle as P., which leads to us having contact again. I want to give him a second chance, and things seem to have improved at first. Recently however, things started to get a bit weird again. First he wanted to go on activities alone with me, which I did not think of as odd, but then he wanted to help me with a paper I had to write and while I was at his place tried to turn it into a sort of date. That made a lot more sense to me later when I found out that he had asked A. if she thought he might have a chance with me now that I was single.\n\n​\n\nThings somewhat escalated when we went drinking two weeks ago with some friends and two people who did not know P. yet. At this point A. and I are officially together. P. usually gets drunk really fast, and after he had his first drink started to make inappropriate comments and attempted to flirt with me so hard that I chose to change seats. He followed me to where I was now sitting, and continued, up to the point where when he went for a bathroom break, the two people who did not know him beforehand asked me if he had a crush on me. All of this in front of my girlfriend.\n\n​\n\nAs we were leaving he insisted on giving me a hug, even though he knows I do not like hugging people, and pulled me in really close and, calling me by an affectionate name that, while it has no translation to english, I can assure you no one has ever used outside of a sexual context. I felt super uncomfortable.\n\n​\n\nHe texted me the next morning and we basically talked a bit about how he was uncomfortable with there being more people then he had initially thought, while I tried to tell him that he had made some weird comments and I thought his behaviour was not okay. The next day he texted me trying to make smalltalk, I have not yet replied to that because neither I nor my girlfriend want anything to do with him after the way he behaved. Usually I hate it when people just ghost others, and I would normaly not want to do it that way, but I believe he will just try to turn around anything I say to him to me being the problem, and I just really do not want to talk to him because of the way he makes me feel.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "L6pzDMy8g6hUsRFzaf5Vf5OjT99HxSpk", "post_id": "a1lx9o", "action": {"description": "helping a Stranger off the Freeway", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for Helping a Stranger Off the Freeway?", "text": "About six months ago I was driving on the freeway in the number three lane when an SUV in the fourth lane lost control, fished tailed into my lane then back across his lane hitting the shoulder and flipping over. I didn't see what caused him to lose control but I watched everything after that and stopped to make sure nobody was hurt. My friend that was with me called 9-1-1 (emergency hotline) and I ran up to the vehicle and one dude was trying to climb out with a fucking tall can in his hand. I don't know if he was drunk or woozy from the accident but he was slurring his words and couldn't really stand straight. I already took beer from him and stashed it but then this dude I don't know was like 'can you do me a favor, amigo say you were driving?' I responded 'FUCK NO!!!, but if you want to get out of here I'll drive you.' So he stood there drunk for a moment and said 'are you sure you won't say you were driving?' I could not fucking believe it, anyway he ends up getting in my van and I dropped him off a few exits away.   \n  \nHe did not hit anyone else, he SUV was only blocking the slow lane so AITA for helping a stranger off the freeway to avoid a DUI?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JxlbD5mscEUX0E2Xu2vaZ0wZHb4qIyhd", "post_id": "a5g2jr", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend the truth because I thought it was best to be honest", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA I (24M) told my girlfriend (25F) the truth because I thought it was best to be honest.", "text": " \n\nSo my girlfriend asked me recently what I thought about her looks. We've been dating for a month or so now and honestly we have not talked about looks too much. When we met, I did say she looked cute and i've been calling her cutie ect and stuff when we are messing via texts.\n\nBasically this girl is like my best friend and girlfriend, we live close, do the same things and have the same hobbies. Few drinks on the weekend and going out, but really we LOVE playing games on the PC extra.\n\nNow she isn't a 10/10 i'm an honest person. She's about a 5/10, but it's totally fine and her personality is a 10!\n\nThe other day she asked me what she thought with her looks. and what do I like about her. I tried to avoid it and said good things about her and tried to move the convo on. Then she asked me what I thought on how could she look better.\n\nI told her the honest truth and she broke down. I was comforting her telling her why i'm still dating her and why I think she's great. She asked if I could ever think that she could improve on her looks and I was again being honest and said no.\n\nThis hurts but I think being truthfully honest about the situation and at the start of the relationship is better.\n\nNow we are still talking but it's obviously not the same, can anyone tell me if I should have lied? I tried avoiding the convo but to no avail...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PJaI11IKkUDKPcXTM2pT8hHOwh8Wn7cp", "post_id": "apwx86", "action": {"description": "putting my name in an office raffle", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for putting my name in an office raffle?", "text": "I work in a small office (5 People) of an HVAC company that gets really busy depending on the season. We were having a mild winter and the rush was manageable so I had some vacation time approved for the first week of Feburary - a black Friday deal with inflexible dates. I work a stressful position and though we were not busy as a company my desk was swamped through the Summer, Fall and Winter.  I am super grateful my boss was kind to approve that time for me and she was excited for me to have a chance to unwind for a bit. \n\nUnfortunately, the time I was away was a major cold snap for the Pacific North West and the company was just slammed. \n\nToday\u2019s dilemma:\nWe had a vendor give our boss a pair of tickets to a high profile comedian; our boss passed and suggested that we do a draw amongst ourselves for the tickets. She added that \u201cWe were all so busy last week that we deserve a treat\u201d. I was quite outspoken that it would be something that I would like to go to. My co-worker asked me if I wanted to be in the draw. \n\nThe long and short of it is I won the tickets and now I feel guilty because everyone worked so hard while I was away and it was made worse by me not being here. No one seemed to be that upset by me winning and a couple of people didn\u2019t know who the performer is. \n\nShould I set them up to be raffled again? Should I accept it because it was offered to the whole office? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a890DOVnDCxkG7ebmUFX1lTwdsAKsJgZ", "post_id": "avo6qv", "action": {"description": "waiting for my friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for waiting for my friend?", "text": "So, TL;DR (i dont care enough to write so much), my friend asked if i wanted to play stardew valley on the switch. she started playing botw, so i asked her if she still wanted to play stardew. and she said she was sorry, she got caught up in botw and would message me if she wanted to play stardew valley. so i waited for about 3 hours. Yes. I WAITED for THREE HOURS for the message, and then I go on my switch, and it says she's offline. I go on discord and ask her why she's offline. She responds with:  \"I was playing BOTW and didn't have my phone, chiiill.\" Now granted, it may have come off as rude, as this is what I said:  \"are you there? you're not responding to my texts so I WOULD assume you are asleep but you just got off botw, so...\" but i did follow it up with: \"sorry if i came off as rude, i was just getting kinda mad because i texted you on like 4 different places and you didn't respond. sorry for spamming you lmao.\" Am I the asshole for wanting to play some stardew valley?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QPqPh0uH4OwNXpsXraB3mbI5hJtqFokC", "post_id": "agesgj", "action": null, "title": "AITA my friend is constantly insulting me and making me depressed", "text": "i was friends on discord with this one guy who was like 22, he actualy was a good friend. i am 15 year old and we both live in seperate countries so we speak english. i met him over league of legends and i added him becouse he was a good player and pretty kind. he invited me to his discord group and we just kinda opened ourselfs and stuff. i know him for like 6 months, and he was constantly telling me realy depressing stuff about life, it kinda forced me to think about the life and made me forever depressed. today i wanted to play a ranked match with someone, so i asked on discord another guy, he didnt have time, but my friend asked if he could play, so we did. while loading we discussed the game plan, i said we should play safe he agreed and stuff. later in the game we started loosing, hardly, and becouse i was just a support (nami) i couldnt do much but watch how he runs in 1v3 under the tower and then blamed me for not going in. keep in mind he agreed to play safe. he called me a pussy but i didnt rly give a shit and went on. near the end of the game i told my friend that i was frustrated becouse we were losing and i couldnt do anything but watch, and then he started telling me that i could have been more agressive early. problem is, i was facing champions that not only deal alot of damage but the also immobilize you, for a looooong time, so smart choice, for me was to play safe and stay behind. he proceeded to call me a pussy the rest of the game, and insulted me about how bad i am. we proceeded to play another game, this time i was adc, but he kept talking about the mistakes i made last game, quite forcingly trying to tell me how bad i am over small mistake. i told him to stop insulting me but he kept going on and on. at this point i was getting frustrated, not from loosing (becouse i was actualy winning) but becouse he was basicaly forcing those words in my face. i told him that i would quit the voice chat if he wont stop. he told me again how big of a pussy am i and that i cant take a criticism. he then started criticising my whole life, how my jokes are \"racist\" and made some made up lies about things that i never said, like dog rape and that i like it or somethin, which i never said! i left the voice, and he proceeded to insult me in game chat. my whole team was telling him to stop and that he is toxic while he was trying to convince them that im toxic and kept repeating  the same shit he was telling me for 15 minutes. then he suddenly told me that i didnt get the joke, like dude you were realy going so far it couldnt be considered a joke. after that he blocked me in the game client and proceeded to tell me how wrong i am on discord, he kicked me from the server and i blocked him before he could say anything else than \"it was just a prank\" which it obviously wasnt.\n\n​\n\ni didnt realy feel like posting something game related here but he took it outside of games and started actualy insulting me as a person. im posting this becouse i feel realy guilty and i just want to know if i have right to remain guilty or not, as im not sure if it realy was a joke or not.\n\n​\n\nPs. sorry for typos and text format and stuff, english is not my national language and im pretty new to reddit, i was also writing this at 1 am.\n\nplease leave your thoughts bellow, thanks", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4KvZhyvUfT5mfaR1lEbJF5iYt5mZOOFI", "post_id": "ac97xo", "action": {"description": "moving out", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I moved out?", "text": " \n\nThis is partially a WIBTA, and partially a rant because there\u2019s a lot I need to get off my chest. TLDR at the bottom. Here we go!\n\nFor a bit of background, I live with 4 other people. My SO, my SO's mother, her roommate, and her roommates daughter (7).They'll be refereed to as SO, M for SO's mother, R for roommate, and D for his daughter.\n\nMy SO and I are renting a room out of M\u2019s house, for roughly $500 dollars between the two of us. M is a bitch, R is a slob, and D is a spoiled brat. I absolutely can not stand living here with them.\n\nR\u2019s room, which is down the hall from ours, is so dirty and disgusting we can smell it from halfway down the hall. He doesn\u2019t clean, he steals my cigarettes, doesn\u2019t use soap washing dishes which leaves greasy pots and pans for us to rewash, and constantly begs for money to buy beer. He wastes any income he has on whatever his daughter wants. \n\nD is fairly well behaved for a 7 year old, and all of her shortcomings aren\u2019t hers to blame, but R\u2019s for not teaching her. She stays up late into the night playing fortnite with R, hides her homework so she can go home and play games, soaks up my internet running Netflix while she sleeps, throws her toilet paper in the trash across from the toilet, and won\u2019t eat anything but candy because he allows it, already causing her barely new adult teeth to rot out.\n\nR and D have separate rooms, but D\u2019s room is so full of whatever shit she wants, that she still sleeps in Rs room. Which I feel being a single father, sharing a room with your daughter when she\u2019s 7 is a bit inappropriate. But maybe thats just me. That does though lead to me and my SO sharing a tiny ass room between two adults and one whole room left unused because of D. \n\nM is where it gets tricky. As said before she is my SO\u2019s mother, and would particularly be the one that I would screw over. She isn\u2019t too terrible of a person and I don\u2019t want to dislike her due to the fact that she will in time be my mother in law. The thing is, she constantly bitches about R and D to no end, but refuses to do anything. She won\u2019t get them out, she won\u2019t take D\u2019s room away. She\u2019ll just complain. She\u2019ll complain and bitch about everything. The most recent being me leaving a single pot on the stove. I get a text at work from her going off about how there are a million dishes in the sink. There were quite a few dishes in the sink. ONE of them was mine, and that ONE was the only one there when I rushed out the door already late to work. Did I mention R will hoard our entire kitchen in his room and bring it all out at once, tossing it in the sink? Yea. He but the blame on me. So she bitched and bitched all day about how she won\u2019t clean after grown adults, if she has to clean messes she wants more money. She knows my income is tiny, and that Im about to be a full time student. It\u2019s entirely disrespectful how she handled it, immediately calling me out over text without trying to assess the situation at all. And this shit will happen at least once a week. I\u2019m getting sick of it. \n\nNow to the WIBTA part. M is struggling to make ends meet on the house, which I believe is the only reason R and D are still there. She gets the majority of money from me and my SO. When I first moved our plan was to move out asap, but I decided I wanted to take it slow and give her plenty of warning so she could make arrangements for a new roommate or however she wanted to handle losing our income. But now after nearly a year of being treated with complete and utter disrespect, I\u2019m about to say fuck it. I no longer want to give her that luxury due to the way I\u2019ve been treated here. I\u2019m about to come into a monthly stipend for school from some benefits that I have. Enough to get a decent apartment. The second that money is in my pocket, my plan is to move out within the month. If my SO and I were to leave with hardly any notice, she would more than likely be forced to sell the house. Would this make me the asshole?\n\n​\n\nFor clarification, this is not an official landlord-tennent situation. There's no drawn up papers, official agreements, or leases. We all pay her under the table rent month to month to live in her house.\n\nTLDR: Awful roommates, \u201clandlord\u201d treats me like shit, if I were to move out with little notice, she would no longer be able to make her payments, and would in turn lose the house. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dKbZHG9RGdCPq8IOaZB7zDMP4IZJBBHT", "post_id": "b3o06t", "action": {"description": "rejecting men shorter than me", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for rejecting men shorter than me?", "text": "So recently I've joined good old tinder looking for love and have been chatting to a few guys. Theres one guy I'm talking to who seems cool but from his profile I have no idea how tall he is, so I just ask him. He gets all weird and cagey and lets me know he's 5'9. I sent back something like 'ah rip I'm 6ft' and he replies back 'so?'. I then kinda told him I just didn't really want to date anyone shorter than me and he launched into how I'm a horrible shallow person and I'm like every other girl wanting a guy that is at least 6ft. Not going to lie his rant kinda shook me a bit. \n\n​\n\nLike maybe it is shallow but god damn I just want to feel like a female for once and feel small and protected. I feel like bloody Sasquatch with all my friends who are like 5'2. \n\n​\n\n(Really curious to see what the response to this is)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VvhnEd4m2CmSjRVSu3Da4Ref4KeQosuW", "post_id": "b4z5ww", "action": {"description": "cutting off my mother because she wants me to Divorce my Wife, even though she's Pregnant and it's not mine", "pronormative_score": 61, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "WIBTA For Cutting Off My Mother Because She Wants Me To Divorce My Wife, Even Though She's Pregnant And It's Not Mine?", "text": "Four months ago, my wife of five years cheated on me. She went out with several of her colleagues, had far too much alcohol and ending up sleeping with one of her male co-workers. I ended up finding out the next day, when she got home and confessed everything. She was so genuinely regretful and seemed terrified of losing me, that I ended up forgiving her.\n\nHowever, we're now facing a different problem. My wife is pregnant and we both know it's not mine; I'm infertile. My wife swore that, if I wasn't comfortable raising another man's child, she would be willing to get rid of it or go it alone. The thing is, we've both desperately wanted children from the start. IVF wasn't something we could afford and we're fairly certain we'd never be able to adopt. After a day or so of thinking it through, I told my wife that I wanted to keep and raise the baby. \n\nMy wife is now roughly four months pregnant and we just broke the news to my parents. Knowing about my fertility struggles, it didn't take long for my mother to connect the dots and realize that the baby wasn't mine (I had gone to her after my wife confessed for advice). She didn't take it well AT ALL. Since she found out, my mother has been constantly telling me to divorce my wife and let her raise \"the mistake she made\" on her own. When I refused and told her that I want this baby, she switched to instead guilt tripping me about how the baby's real father will want to be involved. (Spoiler alert; he doesn't. He doesn't want kids and refused to even talk to my wife after she told him she was pregnant.)\n\nShe's gotten worse over the past couple of days. She was so supportive when we considered using a sperm donor last year, so I'm utterly baffled as to why she's suddenly decided that I shouldn't raise a child that isn't mine. Last night was the final straw. She decided it would be A-OK to give me the ultimatum - make her get an abortion or divorce her. No. Fuck no. I love my wife more than anything. Yes, she made a mistake, but I am not going to hold it against her. I've known about this baby for a little over a month and I've already grown attached, even though it isn't mine. \n\nMy mother's behaviour is driving me up the wall. I haven't let my wife see any of the messages she's sent me yet, though I worry she might start harassing her about an abortion soon. I'm considering cutting my mother out of my life until she pulls her head out of her rear. This behaviour isn't okay and I'm not having her upset my wife over a mistake we've both moved on from. Yet, I hesitate to actually cut her off because...she's my mother. I love her and I desperately want to see her come around.\n\nWIBTA if I cut my mother off for this?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 54, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 61, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O2EojkOSiaocEtlx9VRD8BtIEEDsP0J5", "post_id": "ba33b1", "action": {"description": "not liking a girl", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not liking a girl?", "text": "Characters\n\nMe = Me\n\nOLG = Obsessed Landwhale Girl who's a catfish\n\nF1 = My friend 1\n\nF2 = My friend 2\n\nBackstory\n\nOLG liked me a lot. I was oblivious. Recently broke up with Ex (it was a nice breakup so like no hard feelings) and there was a party soon. Was @school when I get a message off F1 saying \"OLG is gonna try and come onto you at the party\". I had never thought of OLG like that & I was a little surprised.\n\nI'd never actually seen her in person. On insta, she was hot. I thought might as well pop-up and get to know her, as friends. We started talking on Wednesday and the party was Saturday. I never made the conversation sexual. I had a rave on Friday.\n\nMain Body\n\nHer convo was dead so I thought I'd just speak on Saturday.\n\nNow, on pills, I get stupidly confident and the result is I pull more girls than normal. This did result in me taking a girl back to an airbnb and sleeping with her. It was all consensual and we both had fun so I didn't see an issue here (I still speak to the girl as a friend).\n\nI left the airbnb at like 12:00, when the owners said we had to leave and went straight home and slept till 19:00 meaning for the afternoon, I was unable to respond to messages. I thought any normal human would understand. I wake up to a stupid amount of missed calls and messages from a number not saved in my contacts. I read the messages and deduced it was OLG. I sent a message saying something like \"Hey, sorry, I was sleeping, see you later :)\". Nothing flirty.\n\nI get to this party at like 21:00 and everyone is already fucked up so I start drinking. I see F1 and F2 and they rush straight over and tell me how OLG has been chatting shit about how I lead her on and then didn't answer her calls. I'm tipsy at this point and really didn't care. I had saved the snap messages so I could prove I didn't lead her on. Then one of our mutual friends comes over (a female) and goes all Karen on me saying I'm a dickhead and that I should 'give her a chance'. I thought to myself, a girl likes me, I might as well give it a try.\n\nI don't approach her for a little while but when I do, I realise HOLY FUCK SHE'S NOT WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE IN THE PICTURES! It's too late though. She see's me and goes \"omg hiiiiiiii! Where have you been hiding all night?!\". I start doing small talk but keep it all non-flirty as to make sure I don't give off the wrong impression. Me, F1 and F2 have a signal that basically means 'get me the fuck out of here'. It's literally just getting eye-contact and opening your eyes wide at them. F1 rushes over and gives some shitty excuse as to why I need to come with him to another room and yay I get to stop talking to OLG.\n\nI talk to F1 and F2 about how she's a massive catfish and they agree. I avoid her as much as I can.\n\nLook in comments for rest of story.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F2DaGfhDqLgzzQcKkcn5vIKepOrOVvLR", "post_id": "ay0qu4", "action": {"description": "telling my terminally ill friend with brain cancer that before he dies he will be retarded with no memory", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA For telling my terminally ill friend with brain cancer that before he dies he will be retarded with no memory?", "text": "so its really hard on everyone in our community when we found out my friend and classmate has terminal brain cancer. in an attempt to make himself feel better he saw an old roast me post on reddit of someone dying of cancer and thought it would be funny so he asked his friends to roast him and his cancer as hard as they could without holding back. I really didn't want to do this but he kept insisting so finally I said: \"whats the point of roasting you? you're going to be mentally retarded and not remember anything soon before you die anyway.\" This made him legit cry, and the reason is he thought he would be himself until he died, it never occurred to him he'd lose mental function, which he probably will. He's been sad every since I said that and idk what to do, AMITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KEQUYgLgPyJC1SknsGVKcON4YtGkEZ9K", "post_id": "ap6l8u", "action": {"description": "not getting a job", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not getting a job?", "text": "16m my mother wanted me to get a job to help and I was all for it i had actually tried when I was 14 but there was too much red tape involved and my mom said just to wait. When we began to talk it over I asked to use the car as the place I would be working is about 5 miles away. She said when I started paying for gas I could but until then I needed to walk. The place is 5 miles away by freeway and im a bigger dude so by the time I got to work I would be a mess. I said no I couldn't do that unless she gave me an advance and she blew up on me calling me ungreatful and a piece of shit. After all the things I did for her over the years she said that to me. The next day I figured we would talk when she got back but when she got home she said call your dad he need to come get you and gave me my unenrollment papers from school. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XsbZ0X3atmmeb1qFkxJ3qLUqfzivdMiq", "post_id": "al4u6i", "action": {"description": "not wanting my daughter to spend time with my in-laws", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my daughter to spend time with my in-laws?", "text": "I had my daughter two months ago and she has only seen my husband's parents a couple of times despite the fact that we live in the same small town. The reason being that I don't want to see them whatsoever. \n\nThroughout my entire pregnancy, particularly the last few months, none of them made any effort to spend time with me. When I tried to make plans, they would say they were busy and not try to reschedule. I live in my husband's hometown away from my family and friends, so I found this to be a very lonely period in my life.\n\nHis step-mom offered to throw me a baby shower, but didn't want to pay any fees to have it held at the bars and restaurants she suggested. The fees weren't terribly high, but I'm on a strict budget, so I couldn't pay them myself. She and her husband are rather well-off, so I was surprised she wasn't willing to pay the extra $50-100. My husband's mother ended up offering to host the party instead. His step-mom called me in complete hysterics because his mother wanted to plan the party, since it would be at her house. I felt very uncomfortable being between them, and was grateful anybody wanted to plan it at all, so I stayed out of it. Other than she shower, his step-mom only ever talked to me to try to go to my doctor's appointments. I found it really uncomfortable since I was often told to be undressed from the waist down and they asked about my vaginal discharge and other very personal things like that. I let her come to one of the appointments and she embarrassed the hell out of me by being so over the top and loud the whole time she was there. She also took pictures the entire time, which I didn't appreciate since I only had a sheet covering my lower half and my shirt was pulled up exposing my stomach. My husband agreed and said it stressed him out having her there. I didn't let her go after that. She wanted to be present for the birth and was really insulted when I said I wasn't comfortable with that. \n\nFast forward to the baby being born, I was in the hospital incredibly uncomfortable and miserable. I had finally built up the courage to try going to the bathroom for the first time, and his step-mom came barging into the room. My husband asked her to wait outside because there is no real divide between the bathroom and the room in that hospital. I knew I wouldn't be able to use the bathroom with her waiting and let her in the room. She came in and immediately started covering me up more, saying I looked indecent, as I was in a bathrobe. His dad only kept them there for about five minutes, he reeked terribly of beer. When his mother came to visit, she was so excited to see the baby that she didn't listen to a word I said. I was telling her about the labor and delivery and she never once looked at me or responded to what I was saying, then she left. \n\nHis step-mom called every day after I came home from the hospital and I said I wasn't ready for guests. She threw a crying temper tantrum and his dad called us to complain that we were keeping her granddaughter from her. She was apparently upset that the baby wouldn't know the sound of her voice. I caved and let her come over. When they did, I excused myself and sat in another room with my dogs whom I hadn't spent time with since giving birth. My husband stayed in the room with them the whole time. I thought the visit went fine.\n\nWe went to visit his mother at her house. I asked her not to kiss the baby since it is flu season, but she ignored me and kissed her all over her face. I was very frustrated and left soon after. \n\nA month after the baby was born, it was Christmas. I didn't want to go to the big family gathering for fear of germs, but his dad said we had to. So we went to not cause any drama, but my pediatrician recommended not passing her around because there were going to be so many people there. Everybody was heavily drinking, so I decided when I walked in that nobody would be holding her anyways. His step-mom asked to hold her, but I said I would be more comfortable holding her myself with everything going on in the room. I sat there talking to his family for two hours while they all opened presents, I received none. I decided not to care about it and just moved on. We left and I thought that, overall, the gathering went well.\n\nHis step-mom texted me around midnight that night and went off on me for not thanking them before I left. I apologized and thanked her through text, though I thought I did in person. She went on to tell me how I'm so ungrateful and she does so much to include me, but I never appreciate it. She said how rude I was for not spending time with them when they came to my house. I told her I understood that she was upset, but didn't think this was the best way to handle it. A month has now passed since that happened and she has yet to try to talk to me. His dad asked if we could all gather for dinner, I said no thank you. I was so insulted by what his step-mom said to me and do not want to socialize with them until I get an apology.\n\nI posted a picture of the baby on Facebook recently, and his mother commented on it saying, \"I can't wait to see her soon! I'm not as excited to see you two, sorry not sorry!\" I have no idea why she said that, maybe she thought it was funny. I've assumed that is how she felt from the beginning and have no interest in spending time with her now. \n\nI personally don't see why I would let my infant daughter spend time with them. They have no respect for me and no interest in what is going on in my life. My husband feels caught in between me and his family. I don't know what to do at this point. She is their only grandchild and they are making me feel horrible. I don't want to see them and I do not want to send her off without me. She is too little and that would stress me out way too much. Am I the asshole for not sucking it up and avoiding them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aStlQJ8Oi8RhDjtTQWg5wPPUkgGPMA4j", "post_id": "a6r4wz", "action": {"description": "wanting to spend New Year's Eve with my boyfriend instead of my best friend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to spend New Year\u2019s Eve with my boyfriend instead of my best friend?", "text": "My best friend and I have spent the past 5 New Years eve\u2019s together. It\u2019s sort of our tradition. She moved away a couple of years ago to a different state, so for New Years either I\u2019ll go down to her state or she\u2019ll come up to mine. She\u2019s headed up her for a football game before New Years and wanted me to come back down with her. Side note; She\u2019s also moving to a different country this summer for college. I\u2019ve recently started dating this guy and have already made plans to spend it with him, I figured she would want to stay with me because she had fun with my friends last year and I wouldn\u2019t really want to ask my boyfriend to come down with me because he wouldn\u2019t know anyone besides me and it would be uncomfortable.\n\nAm I being the asshole? She\u2019s trying to guilt me saying \u201conce again I\u2019m leaving the country soon whereas you can see him more than me\u201d it\u2019s one night, I just want a New Years kiss? And she\u2019s totally able to spend it with my friends and I.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RqYh3Bksk9QSZIrNucF3eXelJkVBDYZ5", "post_id": "adu9na", "action": {"description": "wanting to drop out of HS despite my dad not wanting me to", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to drop out of HS despite my dad not wanting me to?", "text": "I know some people are going to read the title and completely my assholeness off of that, but let me give some context.\nAlso, apologize for any grammatical errors. English is not my first language.\n\n\nSchool has *never* been my strong suit. I've always struggled with keeping up with the others and the social aspect. I cannot sit down and learn for eight hours. It causes me extreme distress and anxiety, sometimes to the point where I will go to extreme measures like vomiting or punching myself to stay home. I cannot tell you of a time where I was happy being at school or had a grade higher than a D in the past 5 years. I really do try my best but I get anxiety attacks when I have to talk to people, including teachers. I know teenagers are cruel, but can you imagine getting called slurs for most of the day because of the gender you like and identify as? \n\n\n\nMy parents bring up the one year I was actually doing fantastic, but that was back in third grade and it was to impress a boy. But last night was my breaking point. I slept for 3 hours and the rest of the time was me balling my eyes out about how I didn't want to attend school. I'm already eight credits behind and in my sophmore year. I'm going to take two extra years at this rate. I've asked for help, tutoring, alternative schooling-you name it. I was diagnosed with bipolar and borderline personality disorder. Im taking medication for it too. Doesn't help me in the slightest. I hate disappointing my parents who just want me to do good in school and risk getting grounded over it. I've just reached my breaking point with public school.\n\n\nI took online summer school to get back 2 credits I lost freshman year. I procrastinated at the beginning but excelled later on. I think I'm going to drop out for online school. No college will accept me with my current GPA, so I either get a GED or finish my diploma online. The paperwork is pretty much all filled out, I just need a parental signature.\n\nI get it, school is hard for everyone in some aspects.  It's exceptionally hard for me. I do understand where my dad is coming from though. I go to the same HS he went to as a child, and he wants me to graduate from it as well. He wants me to have a good future for myself and get good grades so I can a good adult life and experience things he wasn't able to like college. When ever I talk about dropping out, he understandably gets emotional. He's tried to help me with my HW so I can atleast try to get DS, yet I quickly fall behind again. I can tell how bad my grades are hurting him. It would hurt him more if I dropped out considering how close we are. \n\nSo AITA for considering dropping out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G3VjiJXCK0WEcNTxXOaswOz84ntp28O5", "post_id": "apzbmv", "action": {"description": "being pissed that my 44 year old mom is pregnant", "pronormative_score": 47, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA for being pissed that my 44 year old mom is pregnant?", "text": "I can't even believe I'm typing this shit out. I apologise if I offend anyone.\n\nI'm the oldest sibling at 21 years old. I enlisted the second I turned 18 and been self sufficient ever since. I have a younger brother  who is 15 years old and still lives at home. I understand that this ultimately doesn't really affect me. \n\nI kind of figured this day would come. My parents don't believe in abortion/condoms and I've received the \"how would you react if we had another child?\" since I was 13 (note: I'd always tell them it was a fucking retarded move because my little brother and I wouldn't be around, they can barely seem to get on their own two feet financially as is, and because their relationship has always been somewhat rocky).\n\nAnyway, today I get a video call with my family telling me the news. I tried not to show my anger in the hopes that my soon-to-be sibling won't see how much of an asshole I am, when watching it in the future, but like I've told them for the past decade- I obviously wasn't enthusiastic.\n\n\nI hate to say it, but upon reflecting for a bit, my mind can't help but take the \"not my problem\" route. This situation just seems too dumb for me, and I don't really want to be involved.\n\nAm I the asshole, Reddit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 35, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 47, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JVy4NXmNDqMupaLcPt7uXyVl7BFPT6RB", "post_id": "aehzuq", "action": {"description": "telling my family they are selfish", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my family they are selfish", "text": "So before i get into it i will give a bit of background.\n\nMy wife and i had two sons before we got married. we were both in our early 20's when she got pregnant with my oldest son. At the time she got pregnant we were in a \"friends with benefits\" stage as we had split up. Before either of us new she was pregnant i decided to leave the country and Travel for a year. It happened very quickly, from the date i decided to go to the time i left was less than  months. She was extremely upset when i told her i was going but we weren't together and were fighting a lot at the time. I really didn't see a future for us. When i was a few days from leaving she told me that she could tell me something that would stop me going, however, i never found out what it was.\n\n​\n\nTurns out she was pregnant. I had been gone about a month when i found out she was pregnant. She told me to continue my travels and enjoy my year that the child would be there when i got back. I thought about it for a few days and decided the right thing to do would to be come back. So a few days later i was on a flight back. To this day i do not in any way regret coming home. We talked when i got back and decided to try work things out for the sake of the child. In fairness it was me who ended the relationship as i was going through a lot of things mentally (I had a horrible childhood), so i was happy to give it another go. Knowing i has a child on the way i went full steam into finding a way to provide for my family.  I got a job and fast forward a few years later i have had several promotions and was making good money. I was providing for my now two sons and wife but i was deeply unhappy. \n\nI was working 50-60 hours a week to make sure they needed for nothing. Then in 2016 my mental health issues spilled out and i became suicidal. I look back now and see that it was always there from my childhood just below the surface. I ended up leaving my job cause it was killing me inside how much i hated it. My mental health got worse and i was hospitalized for my own protection. After a very long stay in hospital and a lot of counselling and hard work plus medication and now i m doing a lot better. I know for those 2 years i was sick i put my wife through hell, her not knowing if i would take my life was extremely tough on her. She became the provider for the family while i was unwell and she still is to this date.\n\n​\n\nSo now my issue (finally!)\n\n​\n\nIn September of last year i went to university to follow a dream i had since my childhood. The degree i am doing has a big workload. I had consulted my wife about this before i took the course and she agreed i should do it that we would make it work for the 3 years. Since i have started i constantly get pulled away from doing college work. I barely get the chance to stay late to study as my wife keeps taking overtime so i come home to take care of my sons. Once at home i try to study but the kids are constantly needing attention. They are both between 8-11 so they are big enough that i don't need to keep my eyes constantly on them but not old enough that they can mind themselves. I am barely getting a chance to study and i am exhausted trying to balance everything. As a result i am failing my course. I want to tell my wife she needs to put me first and do less overtime. She also constantly goes over to her sisters house leaving me at home saying the kids are in there rooms so i should be able to study. My sons been the age they are constantly fight so i do have to stop them and cant get to study constantly for a few hours.\n\nI constantly gave up things i was interested in, went without so my kids could have whatever they wanted. paid all the bills so my wife could mind the children. I think it is time for them to give me the freedom to do the degree. WIBTA to say to them that i gave up everything to give them what they wanted and now its they're turn to give me what i want for three years?\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZGJeYbkkQEGAMe52I4rlutlEd65NzvDn", "post_id": "b3w6fw", "action": {"description": "letting my wealthier friend pay for me on evenings out", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For letting my wealthier friend pay for me on evenings out?", "text": "I have a group of friends that I go out with some weekends. On occasion, we go to clubs and such. I'm a broke-ass college student, and so I sometimes decline to go out if I know the cover charge or other expenses will be too much for me too afford. One of my friends, who co-owns a small firm and has money from investments, always offers to pay for me. I didn't really feel bad for the first time or two, but it's gotten to be quite a few evenings that he's covered me for. I'm never dishonest, and will cover myself when it's in my budget, but it's gotten to be a regular thing. Should I be more insistent on not going out when I know I can't afford it? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "We9FMrYxPnQApngVuvlGmaqe85nuVVkl", "post_id": "axawso", "action": {"description": "pointedly not wearing a seatbelt when my dad drives recklessly because if we get into a wreck I want him to have the guilt of killing me", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 47}, "title": "AITA For pointedly not wearing a seatbelt when my dad drives recklessly because if we get into a wreck I want him to have the guilt of killing me?", "text": "First I want to mention that I am 24 years old, so not a child. But I am still in the car with my dad quite a bit. However my dad has always done this thing where if you say anything that upsets him while he\u2019s driving, he SLAMS on the gas and drives as recklessly as possible to intimidate you into shutting up. He does this no matter who is in the car with him, and has done it ever since I was a kid.\n\nWhen I was younger, my mom reminded us to put our seatbelts on whenever he got in these moods and always double checked to make sure we were wearing them when he stepped on the gas. For about ten years, I have ignored this request. I feel like if he\u2019s going to drive recklessly and put everyone in danger to prove a point, I\u2019m willing to let him kill me so that he has to live with the guilt of killing his daughter for the rest of his life.\n\nI know this sounds harsh, but I absolutely HATE people trying to bully people into agreeing with them and he\u2019s always done this. I want him to see how dangerous his behavior really is.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 39, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 47}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qTfWInhT9g2BpOjSbTivzOEWcIRyuQEm", "post_id": "b6romg", "action": null, "title": "AITA in my friend's break up?", "text": "I (mid-late 20s, female) until recently was part of an extended friend group that imploded as a result of a break up. Here's the summary:\n\n\n\n* My best friend and his girlfriend of 5 years broke up at the start of the year\n* He and I had just booked festival tickets overseas; even though he'd asked her if it was okay, I was worried I might have something to do with it (he said not)\n* It was not long after the girlfriend had tried to initiate a threesome with me which I bailed out of \n* I was aware of other relationship issues they'd had so was shocked but not surprised about the break up\n* Turns out she'd accused him of emotionally cheating on her with me (which he'd then lied about when I'd asked), and the GF + one of my previous best friends pretty much got together with our extended friend group and ousted the two of us without warning\n\nSo over the next few weeks:\n\n* I felt like I got shoved into the \"other woman\" narrative (I would have expected better from our group than to buy into this bullshit)\n* I felt blind-sided by the whole thing - there hadn't been anything going on between me and the BF so emotional cheating was a big accusation, esp when I didn't really see him alone and you could have read through all our messages - nothing untoward\n* Initially I was getting the message I had no friends left bc of this, but in fact some were still fine with me and just didn't handle the initial get together the way I would have liked (i.e stick up for me at the time)\n* The GF and my old best friend (of 4+ years), months down the track are still not speaking to me, blocked on social media etc\n* Some of the other friends had existing issues with BF, so it's weirdly convoluted now who does/doesn\u2019t see each other\n* Other friends then said they\u2019d thought BF had a crush on me for months prior to break up. They thought I knew; I tryed to figure out if I spotted anything weird at the time but I really don't think I did\n* Immediately post-break up BF and I stayed pretty normal in how we interacted with each other, eventually he admits he did have a crush on me and it comes out he has done some lying about that too\n\nThere's so much more I could add. One big thing for me was my old best friend accusing me (behind my back, this is all second-hand) of being manipulative and never taking blame for anything, and I'm worried about there being some truth there...but also, aside from not booking concert tickets with this guy, I'm not sure what actions I could have taken to make the situation play out differently. I'm also generally a believer in the idea of \"his relationship, his problem\", so even though it turns out he did have a crush on me, I'm not sure how that's my fault... let alone their other pre-existing relationship issues that being my fault. Am I the asshole???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RUZqt0Qg41gpIbX4Q8jobrOiWrPUdgbu", "post_id": "axngza", "action": {"description": "potentally trying to get out of rent payments", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for potentally trying to get out of rent payments?", "text": "As a quick background, I am living in a shared appartment with a very close friend of mine since November '15 and as the title suggests I sometimes had trouble paying my rent on time, especially in the earlier days when I started my apprenticeship. We talked about this and my rommate said it wasn't a big deal as long as i tried to pay it back as soon as possible, which i did. Most of the time i just payed double the rent a month later. But due to stupidity or severe lack of money i missed out on a few. I was pretty sure I missed only three and he trusted me on that.\n\nA few weeks ago i finally had enough money at the end of the month to pay him back fully. Wich felt really good, because, even though we never really talked about it, it was a huge weight on my chest for the entire time.\n\nToday he checked his accounts and found that I am still missing two months of rent, I double checked, and he is right.\n\nSo whats the big deal just pay him back, right?\n\nNo, here is the problem I thought about a lot everytime it came to paying back rent. In about mid 2016 his girlfriend basically moved in with us, it was never really offical but she had a key, slept here every night and so on (which is not a problem at all, as far as I am concerned, I like her and we get along very well) but she lives here rent free.\n\nShe at the time, and still, does not have a lot of money available and I never talked about how we shoud maybe rearrange rent distribution, since I am basically paying part of her rent.\n\nSo would I be an asshole for addressing that i might not owe him anything since I payed half of the rent for his girlfriend for about two years?\n\nI am really hesitant about this because I don't want to get into an huge argument over money, just doesn't feel right, but simply paying doesn't either.\n\nI guess I just want to know if i have any moral ground to stand on or better just suck it up and pay.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nJBTEbpu7ZE6HwgDCeoskGZpPBXnTY6a", "post_id": "ahgfr9", "action": {"description": "making my sister pay for a broken Switch controller", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I made my sister pay for a broken Switch controller?", "text": "So I've just come back from being away for a few months. I knew I'd be traveling during this time and wasn't sure how much time I'd have to play with my Nintendo Switch, so I left it at home (my mother's home). \n\nMy sister (17) and her boyfriend (18) enjoy using it so I said they could play with it when they wanted whilst I was gone. It's probably the most expensive thing I own and I love it to bits, it's very rare that I'll splurge on something like a game system. So I warned them several times to be careful with and if they broke it then I'd expect them to pay and replace it. They're not little kids and are pretty responsible teenagers so I wasn't to worried.\n\nObviously I get home and it's broken. \n\nOne of the joy cons is drifting, essentially one of the control sticks is stuck forward slightly, it's so bad that it's essentially unusable. I've looked it up and it's a pretty common problem which can be solved with some electronic cleaner but sometimes you just need to get a new controller and they're expensive. They probably left it out and it's collected dust under the control stick.\n\nI asked about it and they said it was like that when I left, it definitely wasn't. I played it with them the night before I left and it was fine. This really pissed me off because they're not taking responsibility for it and it means they knew about it and didn't try to fix it or anything.\n\nSo I'm going to try some of the fixes but if it doesn't work would I be the asshole for making them play for the replacement even though it's something that could have happened if I'd kept it with me?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "shMVUKr9qnldSDkhMHigtZpqZyCFE7cS", "post_id": "al5ia5", "action": {"description": "ruining friendship by reporting that friend's ex threatened suicide", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ruining friendship by reporting that friend\u2019s ex threatened suicide", "text": "\nSorry for bad format, on mobile and this is my first post \n\nFor context, I\u2019ve been friends with (we\u2019ll call my friend M) M since fifth grade. She\u2019s always been kind of a bad friend but nothing that I didn\u2019t realize to be shitty until after this\n\nI\u2019ve known her \u201cboyfriend\u201d since fifth grade as well. He seemed fine, always has\n\n(this is long after this, we\u2019re all teenagers now)\n\nM says they both have depression (which I\u2019ve always doubted, judging by their behavior, but you never know for sure and this should always be handled properly)\n\nTwo years ago they got together and then broke up (she left him for another guy and then got back with him a WEEK later) \n\nIn August they broke up again and then M claimed he kept harassing her, to which I said \u201cI can get him to stop\u201d and \u201cthen tell him to leave you alone\u201d\n\nShe says \u201cWell I still care about him. Remeber that he isn't just my ex. He was my bestfriend. And even before we got together he cared about me a lot. \u201c \n\nThat didn\u2019t sound like she wanted him to leave her alone, so I ofc called her out for it. Then she said that he threatened to kill himself.. didn\u2019t believe it, but it should always be handled seriously \n\nShe said he sent her a picture of pills that could be anything but she didn\u2019t want to send me the picture.\n\nTold our councilor and ended up ending our friendship because of it, somehow. Was it an asshole move? I haven\u2019t spoken to M since it happened and I haven\u2019t seen her ex in class for months, nor have either of us talked about each other.\n\nSo, was I an asshole, and was there a better way to have done this?\n\nTL;DR\nFriend said ex was harassing her and threatened to kill himself, told adults and ruined our (bad) friendship ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lndMryt5NnGiYKKlXe4HN6ZmUeieh9S4", "post_id": "av2r1y", "action": {"description": "not helping another friend when they are being killed", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping another friend when they are being killed?", "text": "I know it sounds like click bait, but I need some perspective here. Usual on mobile formatting blah blah blah.\n\nMy group of friends have been playing a new game (Apex Legends) a bunch lately and this happened last night. We drop into a city and immediately start fighting 2 other groups. We kill them, but another group shows up at the end when we have no health. I down one guy, friend L downs one guy, but the guy that I down has downed out other teammate (friend B). There is still one guy around somewhere, but friend B is right next to me, so i start to revive him. Friend L gets in a fight with the remaining guy from the other team and is killed, but i finish that guy off. Shortly after that, another squad pulls up while friend B and I are healing and wipes us. \n\nAs we are going back to the main menu, Friend L tells me that I should have went to him and found the last guy before I started to revive friend B. He says it in a way that makes it sound like advice, but I think it is a way at him being salty about dying and me not helping immediately. I told him I was reviving our other squad mate that was right next to me, and he just says that I should have found the last guy before reviving. I said \"whatever, hindsight is 20/20\" and he said \"it's not hindsight, it is what anyone should do in that situation\". I am getting annoyed and say \"whatever buddy\" (in a condescending tone) and he flips on me and says I don't need to get mad about it, he was just giving his advice.\n\nThis is the thing that annoys me the most, since he is the one who brought it up and used the guise that it was just advice, but I know what he was getting at. This friend could sell sand in the desert and is really good with words, when I get kind of flustered and feel like I can barely speak my native English in these situations. It was dropped later on, but I could tell that he was still pissed off and truthfully I was also. \n\nSo, AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ecohsJwL3b6LurxnwAcYc7kiOBDGGSHt", "post_id": "auc86c", "action": {"description": "asking my friend to pay damages", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For asking my friend to pay damages?", "text": "So - I own a boat, a new one without a scratch on it. I\u2019m not rich or well off by any means, I work very hard for my things and take pride. I also enjoy inviting friends to enjoy the fruits of my labor. I have new friends I befriended and invited them on the boat. I let one of them drive the boat because they said they want to buy one for themselves.\n\nThey drove us right into an oyster bed. Damages from bow to stern. Exposed fiberglass and all. They felt bad, apologized and all that. But after that - not a peep. I got my estimate for the repair and now I feel like a douche for even trying to approach them to see if they can either cover the entire amount or at least pay half. I feel that I\u2019m entitled to at least half because I\u2019ve worked really hard for years for this as my reward and now it\u2019s damaged. But the other side of the coin is - they meant no ill and it was an honest mistake on top of me allowing them to drive in the first place instead I could have just said no. I make more than they do combined so that\u2019s another reason I feel bad for accepting or even asking for them to pay.\n\nAm I the asshole for taking their money to repair my boat? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cvMjoJXxttsNHq9jorMzsnKo6wdAtA9V", "post_id": "a4syuv", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to treat my stuff better, even after he offers to replace it", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my BF to treat my stuff better, even after he offers to replace it?", "text": " As a bit of background my BF makes more money than I do, comes from a richer family and is very experimental. He likes buying things, and probably enjoys replacing things if they break down/are damaged etc because he gets to try something new. \n\n​\n\nI on the other hand, am more of a minimalist, I like to have one good version of each thing and treat it very carefully. I expect it to last a long time. For example if I buy a tent, I spent a lot of time researching tents, what I want out of it, look after it and I expect it to last at least 10 years unless something horrible happens to it. He is more likely to be happy if it even lasts 2-3 years. He is more likely to try and cook from sitting inside the tent which in my opinion is too close and would damage the cover, definitely warping and even making holes in it.\n\n​\n\nRecently I bought a second hand car, its small, manual and quite zippy and fun to drive. On long drives we alternate who\u2019s car we take based on how much stuff we need, we both share driving. In my opinion he drives my car \u2018like a rental\u2019 , he obviously has a lot of fun driving it. I don\u2019t love driving and he really enjoys it. But the way he drives it hurts my feelings. To be honest, this is exactly how he treats his own car too. He said if he burns out anything he will replace it. But I don\u2019t want that wear and tear on my car.\n\n​\n\nHe is more likely to drive a car until its too expensive to fix, where as I am wanting to treat it well and sell it in a few years. Am I an asshole for wanting him to drive it more carefully?\n\n​\n\nTLDR:\n\nMy boyfriend and I treat our material possessions very differently. I want him to treat my stuff with a bit more respect, but he says he will just replace it if it breaks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B2sfXbKAboWinKs6tK33aO548eii8YUW", "post_id": "b3bkrx", "action": {"description": "letting my room mate finish", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For letting my room mate finish?", "text": "(We're all college students sharing an apartment/room with each other. We moved in in September, so we've known each other for a while now. This happened several weeks ago with her then-new boyfriend.)\n\nUsually, when they want to have sex, they will ask for the room for a few minutes and lock the door. On this specific occasion, I blacked out drunk at a party the night before and slept like the dead, until the early afternoon. At which point they decided to have sex in our room. I guess in my blacked-out state I had submerged completely under the covers, and they didn't see me in there when they got started. Also, I'm on the top bunk, and she's on the bottom. Apparently, my room mate checked beforehand to make sure I wasn't there (going so far as to climb my ladder), but she still didn't see me.\n\nI woke up well into them having sex. As soon as I woke up, I realized what they were doing, but I could also tell that they had max 30-40 seconds left. Something triggered in me to play dead; I immediately woke up with the thought, \"They must not know I'm here, oh god\". I thought that maybe I could sneak out afterwards. Unfortunately, on her boyfriend's way out, he happened to spot the back of my head. As soon as he left the room, I bolted, but they were both aware by now that I had been in there. We all apologized, laughed, and that was it. \n\n​\n\nToday, one of my *other* room mates walked in on them having sex. I guess the door was unlocked. They were all talking about it a few minutes later, and I joked, \"Wow, (room mate), you're two-for-two now\" and laughed. She didn't think it was funny. She immediately started yelling that it was my fault for not \"making as much noise as possible\" when I realized what they were doing. I suppose that that's true, but I was never mad about it happening in the first place. I pointed out that I had been more asleep than I previously thought humanly possible, and that I only woke up towards the very end, but she wasn't having it. I also didn't see anything, if that's worth mentioning. Still, she said that it's my fault that it happened, and she's mad at me about it. Personally (and this might make me the asshole), it seemed weirder in the moment to start yelling at them for not knowing I was there. I never really raise my voice in the first place (it's a big problem, I can barely even honk when a car's gonna hit me), and I didn't want to have a huge falling out/argument about it (we're a \"sex-positive\" apartment, so I figured that it might be spun the wrong way in conversations about me later). I tried to play it off like it wasn't a big deal (because with all the shit that happens in this house, it's really not). Maybe joking about it made me the asshole, I don't know.\n\n  \nTL;DR: woke up to my room mate finishing up having sex below me, didn't interrupt, a month passes, I joked about it, and she's pissed about it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mQhWxFwyjIA5WdrhZeKJvoc42Epd75au", "post_id": "a7ynbc", "action": {"description": "not putting a Christmas tree up for my 3 1/2 year old daughter", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not putting a Christmas tree up for my 3 1/2 year old daughter?", "text": "I\u2019ve been getting a lot of shit from coworkers and friends because I decided not to put up a Christmas tree this year. We have been going through some financial hardships, so instead of spending money on a tree I bought my daughter clothes and shoes that she actually needed.  What bothers me the most is that they know my financial situation, but they still keep bringing it up saying my daughter is only this age once and I\u2019ll regret not putting up a tree for her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZwxxvXkVUycaBcz8o3XwUMpNR92b3drU", "post_id": "aoriie", "action": {"description": "being angry that my girlfriend shared a bed with other people before me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being angry that my girlfriend shared a bed with other people before me?", "text": "Long story short, my girlfriend went on a cruise with her friends and met a group of guys on board, they became friends and hung out a lot together over the cruise. They got drunk one night and decided it would be fun for 5 of them (2 guys 3 girls) to share a single bed. She ended up sleeping right up against and \"cuddling\" this other guy in the bed the whole night. Nothing else happened.\n\nMy girlfriend and i have been together for a year and a bit, shes 19 im 20 and weve yet to spend a night together because of her strict parents.  Im angry that she did this but she says she had no other choice, there wasnt room in the other bed and she didnt want to sleep on the floor. \n\n​\n\nIs my reaction and are my emotions justified??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1Qxso2eBwenMsuK7mJewnlaFV1aYXaTH", "post_id": "a4p0ia", "action": {"description": "telling my mom how I feel", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom how I feel.", "text": "I\u2019m posting on mobile so sorry if it looks like crap. \n\nThe souring of my relationship really started long ago but I\u2019ll start with last year. My mother was watching my kids while my wife and I went on a date. My daughter got sick. My mom told me about it and I asked \u201cDid you give her anything?\u201d\n\nHer reply\u201dI don\u2019t know? Kids Medicine.\u201d\n\nI obviously knew that was shady so I got in the car and asked my daughter what she was given. She was almost 8 at the time. She said specifically \u201cgreen medicine in a triangle shape bottle\u201d\n\nThat\u2019s Vick\u2019s NyQuil if you don\u2019t know and that\u2019s definitely not kids medicine. \n\nSo my mom lied and it put a definite burden on our relationship. We haven\u2019t spoken much this year and my mom has skipped all holidays and birthdays with us. She\u2019s been spending most of her time with her fianc\u00e9 this year and not had much time for us. \n\nI think so far up until now I\u2019ve been very understanding with her and not asked much of her. \n\nJust this morning my wife was supposed to go with the kids to my mothers house to go suit shopping for my boys. Unfortunately my youngest boy has had a stomach bug and wasn\u2019t feeling well. \n\nMy mother being unconcerned with the well being of my son said \u201cI guess the boys just won\u2019t be in my wedding then.\u201d And then proceeded to swear at me and call me names. \n\nSo I lost it. I hung up on her before I said anything I\u2019d regret in a minute. \n\nI was prepared to leave it at that knowing time would calm her down. \n\nThen she started texting me, accusing me of blaming her for all my problems. She accused me of keeping the kids away from her (despite inviting her to all functions) and accused me of not caring about her happiness and also accused me of lying about my son being sick. \n\nMy response was to tell her that she was being self centered and selfish with her timend that she was the cause of her not seeing my kids. I also told her I was still disappointed in her for lying about the medicine earlier this year. \n\nShe was irate. She told me to go fuck my self and she was done with me. Have a nice life. \n\nAs I was typing this up my mother sent a voice message to my daughter saying that mommy and daddy won\u2019t let her see them and when she turns 18 she can come see her for the truth. Am I in the wrong here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B1V5HAdmJlM15gUSpkVRVlR3qgtXsxC0", "post_id": "b7o8fd", "action": {"description": "frequently talking to a girl in my class but then when the class ended I ghosted her", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I was frequently talking to a girl in my class but then when the class ended I ghosted her?", "text": "I took a film class and started talking to this girl and texting her often. We were hitting it off, talking everyday and I thought everything was great. However, she soon got annoying and being toxic. When the class ended I stopped talking to her. I didn\u2019t really wanted to be associated with her anymore, so I stopped talking to her and texting her. Was this the right thing to do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "czK58HbV0IPOkh0mwwE333Ok2Tc6HINw", "post_id": "aq7van", "action": {"description": "having a friendship ended over a Misheard Word", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Having a Friendship Ended Over A Misheard Word?", "text": "Throwaway Account and Long Post (will answer questions tho)\n\n \n\nHey Reddit! This has been eating me for a while recently as I am approaching my last semester of College as this is also probably a last chance to try and repair a friendship with someone. Granted this had occurred in 2017, and most haven\u2019t been acted upon since Early 2018, however, I still want some outside input on the situation (whether it\u2019s because I want to know that this was a messed up situation or whether I did something wrong). Also sorry in advance for this long thing.\n\nFirst, The Players, ie the people involved\n\nMyself (Fix): was 21F. I am the type of person to have a low social battery due to myself being introverted. I also can get easily emotional and apologize for a lot of things, meaning a lot of them (I rarely say sorry and not mean it). My hearing is also not the best and sometimes mishear stuff and have to ask for a repeat, while also being a bit daft as a board and thus needing someone to explain it plainly to me. Despite this, I try to be a good person and be treated how I would like to be treated. \n\nFriend A: Was a 22M. Was a much calmer personality and liked to see and do different things, and pretty much never seemed tired, as well as seeming to be a tech wizard. However, in some events, he did rely heavily on others to agree to last-minute plans or have others work out times in short windows of time. Seemed to always have a problem that was worse than others.\n\nFriend B: Won\u2019t talk too much on this fella as he is literally important to the event and the effects afterward. I thank this person so much, along with all my friends that stuck around with me through this! We are still really good friends to this date\n\nSecond, The Situation/Story\n\nTo start this off, I should explain that Friend A and myself met in a College class when I first started going to college (2014) and during this period, I was worried about not making friends so tried to puff my chest up with confidence and make the first impression (this died out after the first week of class; I also meet more friends including Friend B during this period). So, we built up a three-year friendship of meeting up with each other and hanging out in between classes or catching a movie and lunch during weekends, sometimes with other people. Along with this, we also did games on some weekends and this is also where I was asked to buy Sniper Elite: Nazi Zombie Army so we could play together. Granted I wasn\u2019t a fan of the game due to me being pretty scared of Horror games (even tame ones) and not a giant fan of Zombie games (also my aim is terrible). However, I took the plunge and bought the game, which we then found out it was buggy and didn\u2019t even work (cause it to be shelved). I also caught a lot of different movies with Friend A, and some of which I wasn\u2019t fond of but still went because I believed that is what friends do; You do stuff that may make the other person happy because, at one point or another, they will do the same for you. I also was getting to know people online and becoming friends with them, while growing in a Discord server. I also tried to talk to Friend A about maybe joining in on some stuff (one of which was an online DnD session, though he turned it down due to it being online and not physical). Along with this, it sometimes seemed that Friend A\u2019s problems were deemed worse than my own problems when we discussed them (ie we both were bullied in Grade School; Friend A was bullied by this one kid and it resulted in him quitting something he loved due to this but would later \u201cbe redeemed\u201d (my words) as he would be having a good High School life, I, on the other hand, was bullied and unfortunately let it dictate my life which might have led to me being quieter and not having a very social able life \\[I was probably a lone wolf type in High School\\]. Both are bad in their own right, but I always felt like my bullying wasn\u2019t as bad as his bullying). Again, everything seemed to be going fine till Spring Semester 2017. \n\nBefore Spring Break, Friend A and I were both looking for places to intern at and it was mentioned by Friend A that he was planning to hear about something over Spring Break (he NEVER told me or hinted at what this was, it was just \u201cI don\u2019t want to jinx myself so I won\u2019t tell you anything about it\u201d). Friend A also mentioned that if he also wanted to go see a movie over Spring Break, to which I told him specifically that seeing a movie was fine, but HE NEEDS TO TELL ME. I don\u2019t know if he blew it off or expected me to text him over Spring Break despite what I had said, but I didn\u2019t text him, thinking to myself that he was busy with his important thing that I knew next to nothing about as well as during Spring Break, I got word from my mother that my grandmother (her mother) had an incident that caused great worry in the family (my grandmother is currently my only living grandparent as I lost my grandfather \\[my dad\u2019s father\\] a year prior in October and it seemed to be leading toward a funeral). With all this stated, I got back from Spring Break, unnerved on the whole situation and worrying about an impending funeral. I meet up with Friend A a day or two after Spring Break and was greet with conceded anger over the fact he never received word from me over Spring Break to make plans. I apologized and told him that I had asked for him to text me when he was available and mentioned I was concerned about my grandmother due to her scaring my family over Spring Break. He blew it off, or it felt like he did as he still seemed quite mad at me over the situation and telling me throughout the day that he told me to text him over Spring Break for plans (AGAIN, He made a big fuss over this unknown important call he might have gotten, so I didn\u2019t want to bother him and make plans with this unknown thing). This resulted in the straw that broke the camel\u2019s back situation. We were sitting in a quiet space (no loud talking) and I was sitting on my computer checking in on some of my online friends as well as working on a Discord server (I think I also was trying to cheer myself up and I didn\u2019t feel like talking to Friend A would be good at that point). I need to quickly explain something hear which is the fact that I do try and hide certain events from my friends, online and in person, unless I deem it necessary for the person to know. This is kinda-of where that second best thing comes into play, where I think someone else is suffering more than me and I don\u2019t need to vent my problems to them. Along with this, I also use a sona to hide myself on the internet which is considered to mainly be fire based but I am usually water-based (this will be important later). Anyways, I was distracted on my computer, working on the Discord server and communicating with friends, when Friend A told me he was heading to the loo. Or so I thought that\u2019s what he said. I told him that was fine and I would head off to class as I had one in a few hours. Some time passed and I texted him, telling him that I was heading to class and would meet him afterward, and packed my stuff up and headed to class. I got there early and was waiting for the next class to get out when I noticed Friend A text me back. This message basically said that I had left him, a depressed person, alone on the garden roof in which he could have committed suicide. This leads to the fact I misheard roof as loo. I was so upset and that\u2019s when the class prior was getting out and in walks in Friend B (I had talked with Friend B so little during the time due to most of my time hanging out with Friend A however we maintained good contact), who noticed something was up and went over to me asking if I was alright. I don\u2019t recall very much of what happened except handing my phone over to Friend B and having him walk me away from class because I believe I couldn\u2019t think straight. After that, it was a blur which ended with me driving home and crying in bed. Looking back on what memories I have of the event, I can vaguely recall seeing Friend A walking up to Friend B and me just walking away. \n\nI don\u2019t recall very much else during that week and had to rely on screenshots I had taken during that period when I was relaying this to a few of my closest friends when I had asked for their opinion on everything (granted I don\u2019t know if they were biased because I was their friend and the situation was fresh). I remember inviting Friend A to see Beauty and the Beast with me and another person, however, it resulted in him complaining about the theater location and me not wanting to make plans after that (I was invited by my other friend and this was not my plan). \n\nSo following this event, Friend A texted me something (don\u2019t have that) with me responding to it with a \u201cSorry?\u201d (genuine sorry, though confused as I didn\u2019t fully know what to apologize for at the time. Do I say sorry for being a bad friend? For not being a smart person and going like \u201cWhy did he say loo?\u201d? For not being a mind reader?). \n\nFriend A: Why does it matter to you?\n\nMe: Because you are my friend and I worry about my friends\n\nFriend A: Why do I believe this is truly the first time for me, in all of the recent event?\n\nMe: I am terrible at social interaction (At this point, revisiting these, I don\u2019t EVEN RECALL being fake to Friend A. Truly I do care about all my friends, and I will openly admit I don\u2019t pick up on social queues and really do require my friends to flat out tell me of stuff. I never did tell Friend A this information, as this is just what I pick up on)\n\nFriend A: My wounds are still bleeding out\n\nMe: I am sorry to hear that and am hoping they get better\n\nFriend A: I can hear the irritation in your tone. Just do something for me, don\u2019t start getting irritated over someone\u2019s plea for help, and if it so happens, don\u2019t c", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "AnJVDVo9Ni7h1211mK4h7NlGZv2FX7K5", "post_id": "am5gl3", "action": {"description": "not wanting my aunt or my mother in my life anymore", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my aunt or my mother in my life anymore (21 F)", "text": "I am a few weeks into my junior year in college when I recently realized thaf I haven't spoken to my mother in almost 2 years and my aunt in almost 5 or 6 years. \nOkay....so my aunt is a begger. Everyone in the family knows that. She can barely keep a job (I think. I've never seen her in work close the entire time I knew her), She steals, she lies, and she was just a bad example when I was younger. Now I understand people talk about blood is thicker than water but I don't care. Even if you're family, If you fuck me over or play me, I will cut ties. Multiple incidents occured when my aunt decided to visit on many occasions. One I vividly remember is the day my dad came home angry. I was in high school so lets say like 15 or 16. I asked him what had happened. Apparently my aunt asked my mother for the pin to the EBT card because she wanted just a little food. My mother gave it to her. Not surprising to me she spent pretty much like $200 or more on groceries even though she just wanted a few things. My dad was pissed and so was my mother. My aunts response: You should have never given me the pin. \nWtf? \nShe gave you the pin because you asked to get A LITTLE food. Not feed you for the next month or two while we haven't even gone grocery shopping yet. The next incident was a couple weeks before me and my dad moved. I love animals. At the time I had a cat that I named Noah. He was the love of my life and everyone knew that. Now I dont remember what started the little argument. There was no yelling. I remember having an attitude because of something she said and I WALKED AWAY FROM HER. I wasn't in the mood to argue. Then she came up to my dads room where I was sitting and said: \"blah blah blah. You need to get over it. You ain't gonna have your cat for long anyways so say goodbye\".\nI fucking snapped and I told her off and made her cry. I didn't care. I knew I probably would be able to bring him and I was already upset about it. Now you want to make me feel worse. That ain't gonna happen. I would also like to add that one day she let him outside and I NEVER SAW HIM AGAIN! I didn't get to say goodbye auntie. When we finally left, I didn't say goodbye to her and I haven't spoken to her since.\nThis is getting long but I am going to keep going.\nNow my mother. She...is okay. I mean if I had a choice I would obviously choose my dad over my mother. She wasn't really there for me. She drinks until she passes out. She also can't hold down a job or an apartment. She never has her own money and when she borrows, she pretty much never pays it back. She goes to jail more than anyone I have ever known. She does and sells drugs, another reason she ends up in jail. She choose horrible boyfriends. I've had much more fond memories of my father taking care of me when I was sick, coming to my rotc competitions, getting me my first pet, helping me with prom, college, drivers test, etc. When I think of my mother, I can remember the times she obviously took my money without asking, her drunk, her making a scene on a bus for literally no reason, asking for money, yelling, and more. I should love my mother but I can't say i do. I mean she can say I love you and kiss me but I remember always just saying I love her back and then wiping my cheek when she wasn't looking. She always ended up disappointing me in one way or another. Not coming to my high school graduation, getting put in jail the day before my archery competition, just not showing up period. It gets tiresome. Now she is in jail. We haven't spoken in a couple of years. I really don't want to speak with her. I know she is going to just end up in jail again as she always does and I am just left here with people asking me \"How is your mom doing?\" And having to tell them in jail and their response be \"What she do this time?\". Am I the asshole for being done?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sLYHALxjvkKlpjDK41kJlseTwwHPbtOl", "post_id": "ana0y2", "action": {"description": "disrespecting do not interacts on non-discourse tumblr blogs", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for disrespecting Do Not Interacts on Non-Discourse tumblr blogs?", "text": "preliminary apologies for formatting as i\u2019m on mobile and this is my first time ever posting to reddit, yadda yadda yadda.\n\nanyways. \n\n i don\u2019t usually follow Do Not Interacts on tumblr (even though i have one on some of my accounts, but i\u2019ll share the difference in a sec).\ni don\u2019t (USUALLY) do it because the DNI\u2019s (that i don\u2019t follow) are on Non-Discourse blogs saying \u201cTransmeds/Truscum dni\u201d and like. sorry but i\u2019m trans and i believe in science so. i\u2019m gonna look at ur fuckin\u2019 stim posts since this isn\u2019t a discourse blog and i need to stim for my panic attacks. the difference between my DNI\u2019s and theirs is that mine is DNI if kink/nsfw/eating disorder blog cause uh. the first two are explanatory and i\u2019m recovering from a moderately severe eating disorder and don\u2019t wanna be exposed to that. plus, i don\u2019t bring up trans discourse on their blogs i just look at their posts. idk. Am I The Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BAu1QfKYKge0gj9LwnPIsBknvELZNUeW", "post_id": "abl44d", "action": {"description": "being friends with someone I don't really like", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being friends with someone I don\u2019t really like?", "text": "Throwaway because people know my reddit account. I didn\u2019t think I was an asshole, but after  thinking about it some more, I\u2019m not sure. This shouldn\u2019t be very long. \n\nWithin a group of friends of mine, there is one person that nobody is really close with, but it seems as though he doesn\u2019t have many other friends then us. Let\u2019s call him Mike for simplicity\u2019s sake. Mike is a little bit strange and is kind of hard to get close with, and upon first meeting him I didn\u2019t really like him. \n\nSometimes, Mike acts as though we are all best friends. The truth is that nobody really knows him that well, but we all continue to hang out with him. Other times, Mike, while he\u2019s with us, appears bored and is on his phone/not participating. That\u2019s fine, he is free to do what he wants, but I have found that it makes it harder for me to get close with him and try to like him. \n\nRecently, he has been talking to me personally more often, I guess trying to get closer, but as I have said it\u2019s very hard to do this because he keeps becoming distant again. Other people have noticed this too, but I always try to defend Mike. I do that because I don\u2019t like talking about people behind their backs. I think what I\u2019m really asking is AITA for mentally agreeing with my friends that he is a little weird, but defending him when they say that and always acting like we\u2019re friends when I\u2019m with him?\n\nI realize that this is badly written and it might get called out as SHP, but I hope somebody understands what I\u2019m trying to say and can judge me properly. If anything needs clarification I\u2019ll try. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2iQFkzSCL7sBcMdhGwjvP47OGpt7BOFf", "post_id": "a1kr4a", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Two people did all the work in a group project", "text": "So to preface this I am in college and we were working on a presentation for the class. There are five members in the group me being one of them. We scheduled a group meeting around a week after we got the project. Fast forward to then I show up with my friend who is also in the group to a nearly complete PowerPoint and all the information and research is done. So to try and actually help on the project me and my friend start to structure this presentation and make it look/ flow nice. A few days later we meet up again and break up who\u2019s presenting what slides before the class. We all talk to the teacher and that escalates to one girl crying saying we left all the work to her while the other said we were lazy and that an email was sent out with the work they had done. I or my friend never seen the email. AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AbYOLpblIapzd3D5Dpla8PsXW1OIQzjV", "post_id": "b2it4x", "action": {"description": "going out for lunch", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for going out for lunch?", "text": "TL;DR\nRefused my boyfriend lunch and went for a restaurant\n\nI am staying at my boyfriend's home these days...\nHe is *very* picky with food.\n\nTo please him, I always eat what he suggests, even if we argue a little bit about food,\nbut he usually cooks low-flavored dishes (white pasta, plain meat etc.).\n\nToday he wanted to cook pasta with lentils, a common southern italy food, that's... Well... Not exactly that appetizing and good.\n\nI bursted, telling him I'd love to eat something tastier for once, that I'd love to eat something *I* want for once, that I'd rather dine out.\nHe told me it wouldn't be a problem if I headed for lunch...\nI hesitated a lot, telling him I didn't know what to do, hoping he'd change something, yet he told me again his stance.\n\nExhausted, I went out.\nWriting at the restaurant, rn.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xALR7ASYnfDCRkWKxY3GxMpRxFb0gdsE", "post_id": "aif5qg", "action": {"description": "refusing to allow my nine year old to change her last name", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 36}, "title": "AITA for refusing to allow my nine year old to change her last name?", "text": "My nine year old daughter carries my last name and wants to legally change it to include both of her parents last names. A recent change of law where we live makes this possible. The other parent and I are separated and they also want this change.\n\nAm I the the asshole for having refused to sign the name change application during a year or two and not wanting to sign it until she gets older? I have no rational argument for this decision, some vague feeling she's too young but I can't say that I believe it would hurt her, even if she would regret the decision later on.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 34, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 36}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "W3IZcS2WIhmBxEzTCowWYh54n4b48tSC", "post_id": "aynr9i", "action": {"description": "selling my depressed cousin weed", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for selling my depressed cousin weed?", "text": "I grow cannabis and my parents are fine with it. They\u2019ve embraced is and have even asked me for pot brownies. However, my uncle and aunt despise my new business and have cut me out of their lives. They make sure I\u2019m not around whenever they visit my parents, they don\u2019t answer my calls etc.\n\nTheir son (let\u2019s call him Tom) is depressed. He\u2019s 17, his family puts a lot of stress on him and expects him to provide because his lazy ass mother won\u2019t work because she \u201chas vertigo\u201d. He has trouble keeping his grades high and has to work on top of all of it. Poor bastard needs a break, and I sell him some weed (for cheap, of course) for him to relax.\n\nLast week my uncle found out and snapped. He called my parents and told them what I\u2019ve been doing. Even though my parents are fine with my cannabis business, they were angry at me for giving my cousin weed against his parents wishes. My parents have been pretty pissed at me and so has everyone else in my family.\n\nSo Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xBfl0vXgnR9sKpD0FwQiUyZRb9V5QQP7", "post_id": "a83rp3", "action": {"description": "not going to my friend's wedding", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't go to my friend's wedding?", "text": "So basically, my last exam of my degree is the day before my friend's wedding. If I was to go to his wedding, I'd have to finish my exam, pack up and drive across state that same day to be there for the wedding the next day. The issue is, I've been studying for my profession for 7 years now, and this is the last stage of a very long degree. It's a big deal to me, and I was really looking forward to being there with my peers on the day of the last exam and participating in the celebrations. \n\n​\n\nI acknowledge that if don't go to his wedding because of this, he'll be justifiably angry and tbh probably so will most of our friend group. I'm just upset about the situation though because while I realise a wedding is a big deal and kind of a once-in-a-lifetime thing, for me so is finishing my degree. I've also only met his fiance once before. \n\n​\n\nI'm agonising over this. I know the right thing is to probably just go to his wedding but I wonder if I'd regret that. WIBTA if I was selfish and stuck around for my own celebrations?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LwKlZNCAe8k6buEkzjayoApnTQTR8DT2", "post_id": "aqprvc", "action": {"description": "not giving my dads wife part of his life insurance", "pronormative_score": 67, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my dads wife part of his life insurance?", "text": "This is gonna be a lengthy and heavy post so sorry in advance. \n\nHere\u2019s some backstory: My dad passed away on thanksgiving of 2018. He overdosed... and his entire life was a huge battle with his addiction. My mother loved him a lot but she couldn\u2019t continue to support his habits so she separated from him when I was 3 years old (20 now). Me and him had an okay relationship... we would keep in contact and see each other occasionally maybe once a month. \n\nAround the beginning of the May he had told me he met this girl and he was in love with her. Look, I KNOW my dad so well... if he wasn\u2019t using I know for a fact he would\u2019ve never fell for this girl. She was an addict as well, half his age, and using him for his money! Then comes May 22nd they go to Vegas and get married. \n\nOn thanksgiving day my dad called me after not speaking to be for 2 months and asked if I would go to dinner with him. It was that day that I found out he was married... 6 months later. Later that night he went home and I got a call around 10pm saying that he overdosed and passed away. \n\nMe and my mom drove to the doctors and the Dr. told us that his wife drove around with his body while he was overdosing because she was crazy high on meth as well. My father could\u2019ve been given medication to combat the overdose but since she continued to drive around he died. For this reason I hate her SO much. \n\nFast forward to the end of November.. we start going through the things that need to be done and I find out that my dad listed me as his only beneficiary for his life insurance. He had an amazing life insurance claim because he was a longshoreman for 23 years. His wife was upset, and I assured her that me and her would both continue getting medical insurance for life, and I would allow her to pick up his last checks and keep them (around $5,000).\n\nHERES THE TWIST! I get a call from her saying that she\u2019s going to be suing me for half of the life insurance so that she\u2019s able to put herself through rehab. I told her that not my responsibility and that if my dad wasn\u2019t high all the time he wouldn\u2019t have married her. I\u2019ve had to go through so much with this woman. She didn\u2019t even go to my dads funeral then the next thing I know she\u2019s asking for half of his life insurance?! \n\nAITA here?!!!!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 66, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 67, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7f0j0fKazcE4AzmtCiJxSIKxuupbSjQT", "post_id": "b8cad2", "action": {"description": "unplugging my sisters PlayStation because of her constant insults", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for unplugging my sisters PlayStation because of her constant insults?", "text": "(Not a SHP, I swear)\n\nSo my sisters an asshole. Period. I constantly get insulted by her and I literally can\u2019t do anything to fix it bc, as most parents do, the little sibling always wins (she\u2019s 14, I\u2019m 16, by the way)\n\nSo I kind of just knock something off her desk or do something small to piss her off for shits and giggles whenever she insults me, but today I felt like shit (emotionally and physically- I forgot to eat breakfast with my coffee and it caused me to feel like shit, especially because I don\u2019t normally drink coffee anyways lol), when I get home I usually walk through her room because my stepdad likes to smoke cigars in the living room, and the only other way around into my room is through hers.\n\nShocker, I get the usual insult, this time it was \u201cstop walking before you cause an earthquake\u201d (I\u2019m like 230 lbs, some of its muscle but most of it\u2019s just fat tbh). As I said, I felt like hell today, so I decide to fuck with her a little more by unplugging her PlayStation. She flips shit, and I just kind of chuckle and walk away. Fast forward like an hour and my moms screaming at me to come into her room and \u201cfix her thing\u201d. Apparently there was a hardware update on her PlayStation that\u2019d been going all day and I stopped it. \n\nI got into a huge fight with them about \u201cnot fucking with her all the time\u201d, which pretty much ended with me telling them both to go fuck off, and that I\u2019d start throwing genuine insults around the house to see what they think about it. (Note, the insults have been going for a solid year almost every day and I really don\u2019t fuckin appreciate it, whenever I talk about it I just kind of get blown off) \n\nNow my families talking about my \u201cissues\u201d and talking about me as if I\u2019m some sort of fucking psychopath. I think it was justified in doing what I did, because the constant flow of insults, even from my own siblings, really take a toll on my already low self confidence and frankly I\u2019m fucking sick of it.\n\nAm I the asshole? (Ik this may be a kind of weird one but I just wanted to hear other people\u2019s opinions)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sT3zuCLUgzId4rLRrGIa8S1pq1nb91z2", "post_id": "ast10y", "action": {"description": "not recycling", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for not recycling?", "text": "I'm on the sixth floor of my apartment. There exists a trash chute on every floor. This goes to the garbage room and is collected. If I wanted to recycle I need to sort the recyclables and bring them down the elevator, through the back entrance and across the parking lot to the recycling bins.\n\nNaturally I asked the building manager if there was a better way like taking it to the garbage room. The answer was no and that nobody but staff can go in the garbage room and it's just for trash.\n\nSo for years I had been tossing out the recyclables in the chute. During new years I had some guests over and they saw me toss all the recyclables out with the trash and they called me a jerk and said that I'm the problem with this country.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0aoHAaUFfu8zmpagCjk3ODZzmQfPuY9V", "post_id": "amqnah", "action": {"description": "sort of making a couple break up", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I sort of made a couple break up?", "text": "TLDR: Mutual friend C forced friend A to get back with friend B (A has no more feelings). I tell B (with A's permission) the truth. C goes crazy and tries to show up at my doorstep.\n\nOkay first. Hear me out. This happened almost a decade back, when I didn't know reddit existed due to a lack of a proper computer / internet access and a lack of smartphone. And it's been coming back and getting on my nerves for the past decade so I really just wanna ask y'all.\n\nSo back to it. Characters are as follows\nA - my friend\nB - my friend's ex-girlfriend\nC - a close friend to B, a friend to A and an acquaintance of mine.\nAnd me.\n\nSo back when we were 14/15, A & B broke up with B citing the reason for focusing on her studies, leaving my mate, A to be rather upset and unfocused. But as time passed, A moved on and etc, and has started hanging out with another girl from my school (studying etc.)\nAnd then, we were 16, in (sort of) the middle of the school year, B went to ask A to get back together because B still has feelings for A. A either refused immediately or he said that he will think about it (i think he refused immediately)\nAnd B essentially told C what happened. So C went to A to persuade (AKA annoy in his books) him to get back with B.\n\ni should add that up till here, i had no prior knowledge of what had happened. \n\nSo one day, I went to get A for our group tuition together and saw A and B together in the room, being all lovey dovey. I'm surprised but okay cool, not my business. We leave and I'm left alone with A. And I tease A asking him, how it happened etc etc. And he tells me that C quite essentially annoyed and forced him to say yes to B's request because apparently, it would be better for B since it was the most important exam of OUR lives. (Note: This is what he told me, whether it's true or not, I don't know fully. But I believed so because it seemed right that C would be the kind of person to do so)\n\nAnd of course A tells me that he doesn't love B anymore. Which leads me to wonder what sort of a normal human being does that to a friend or even a close friend? By having them live in the fantasy of imagined love?\n\nBut it's all good, A's secret is safe with me, since i don't see anyone getting hurt. Once again, none of my business. That is until B contacts me, asking if A likes the other girl I mentioned above, and I say no, because I've seen the way they interact. They're more likely to hate each other as best friends more than be in love with each other. And this is where me and B gets closer-ish. \n\nAnd we go on to text each other and she's asking me if A said anything to me cuz A's not replying her as how he normally would (AKA asap and also lovingly) back when they were together. and I'm telling A to at least reply her and just tell her himself. He refuses. \n\nSo fast forward just a few weeks later, B's crying to me while we're studying about how A doesn't seem to love her at all anymore and that she feels so lonely etc. etc. \n\nAt this point, I'd consider myself close to her, and as a friend, I really don't like seeing such shit happening to my friends. So i quietly excuse myself, call A and ask for his permission to tell B on his behalf so that everyone gets to have their answers. He agrees and I go ahead with it. B cries and all and says she expected it etc etc. I'm just yea okay, I hope you move on quickly and I'll be around to help you out with it.\n\nNote: I believe this was at the start / end of our very important exams.\n\nAnd then remember C? B goes to C telling him what happened and that it was over. C immediately goes berserk, goes to find A, give him a scolding (which A promptly ignores cuz he really doesn't like C all that much). And then C calls me to scold me, and threatening to show up at my place, i just kept quiet and ignored him throughout the call. (If I had the spine i have right now, I'd tell him to fuck off.) C then goes on to do what is basically a weekly humiliation of me in front of the school, and I ignored all of this, cuz i really didn't wanna get in on this shit. \n\nSo tell me reddit strangers, AITA? or rather, WasITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bR2hYtLpWNC57jtaYDQbUUL8qrLJdNz7", "post_id": "b3w34b", "action": {"description": "not covering for my coworker today", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not covering for my coworker today?", "text": "It's currently 1:56p and I literally just woke up at 1:06p. I got a text from my coworker at around 10a asking if i can cover for him today. I told him that his request is kinda last minute and im sorry i dont think i can. But then he said that he has \"something to take care of\" today. He didnt say it was important or anything or give me any details about it. Although he did offer me a ride to and from work which is super considerate because i live 20 minutes away. I reiterated that it was kinda last minute and that i need like a day or 2 to know before i gladly take his shift. Cuz hes a great dude and i would usually be willing to cover for him. But from my perspective, today i woke up hella late not expecting to go to work today at 5p. I already covered 2 people last week and worked 5 days in a row from friday to tuesday. I feel like i need a little time off and im already working tomorrow. And ya know, i got stuff to do myself. He wasn't very specific when he said he has something to take care of so it doesnt seem all that urgent. Like i very sympathetic guy if not awkward, but ive been learning how to tell when someone really needs help vs when they are just trying to get a day off. Now that i think of it, i kinda fall under the latter category. So my perspective might be pretty ass, so am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LeSpqODIwOJG68Wn3agY3G5IEStGP7dh", "post_id": "anrthc", "action": {"description": "wanting to tell my boyfriend he's depressed and for him to get help", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to tell my boyfriend he's depressed and for him to get help?", "text": "We've been dating for 5 years and he's clearly miserable. He never finds joy in anything he does and brings my mood down constantly.\n\nI have tried all methods of supporting him, trying to help him work through his problems but I'm always met with hostility or apathy. Nothing has changed and he doesn't want to see a therapist.\n\nI want to sit down with him and tell him how unhappy I am and ask him to consider seeing a therapist.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7cJk9zk0ZTFp19aYspjR1WqizjIuDvA2", "post_id": "b1483q", "action": {"description": "thinking it's wrong for one of my professors to put an entire chapter online as a \"self-study\"", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking it's wrong for one of my professors to put an entire chapter online as a \"self-study\"?", "text": "For context, this is an environmental science class. She teaches her class based off the book. That's fine. She goes chapter by chapter and explains the major concepts to us. \n\nBut she also does this thing where she'll only teach us two chapters, and then expect us to go through the third chapter by ourselves. It's not like she just wants to us to read a chapter in the book and then we'll go over it in class, she expects us to comprehend it on our own. Basically, she tests us on stuff that doesn't ever get mentioned in class. \n\nThat means that I just got out of a test for that class that I'm sure I didn't do as well as I need to. I feel like her exclusion of the content in class is tanking my GPA and everyone else's.\n\nAm I the asshole for thinking this is wrong? Would I be the asshole if I talked to her about this whole thing?\n\nI'm pretty irritated right now so I'm sure I missed something. I'll edit it in later if I remember anything.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OWL6FwIBhIcF5SkGRVPNR4H1Ow5K8uUO", "post_id": "anpshh", "action": {"description": "refusing to cancel a trip with a friend over my gf's insecurities", "pronormative_score": 505, "contranormative_score": 430}, "title": "AITA for refusing to cancel a trip with a friend over my gf\u2019s insecurities?", "text": "TLDR: I (26F) and my gf (30F) has been together for just over a year. A friend who I had one-sided feelings for 5 years ago, planned a trip together with me this weekend, we had invited my gf but she refused to go. Originally it was a trip of three friends. But the third friend backed out. My friend and I still want to go. Everything is booked and paid for. \u2014 but once learning it\u2019s gonna be a trip for two, my gf absolutely refuses for this trip to happen, and instantly told me to cancel. \n\n\u2014-\n\nI (26F) and Friend (27F) has been friends since middle school. Same high school. Same university. We had always been close friends. 5 years ago, I had developed feelings for her, and was promptly rejected. We were/are incompatible and she didn\u2019t return my feelings. We drifted apart for 2 years, I lived out of town for 3. \u2014 but my main little group of friends include my Friend. And she is still one of my closest friends (we had mended the friendship in the recent year). \n\nFor the longest time, we had always talked about taking a skating trip to another city close by. We had done it in first year university and had a great time. We wanted to go skating again. This year I\u2019m finally back in town. We promptly planned it. Invited other people, but they were all busy, and one flaked out. We had invited my gf, she did not want to go. Then we planned the trip for a later weekend in Feb, but my gf wanted to spend that weekend with me instead (even though we live together). And insisted on changing the date of the trip. \n\nSo it was changed to this weekend. When my gf isn\u2019t in town. \u2014- my gf asked us to change it! And my Friend had to rearrange other plans in her life, as had I, to make it work. \n\nThen the third friend flaked. I didn\u2019t tell my gf. It just didn\u2019t occur to me that she\u2019d have a problem with this. I want to go on the trip. So what if it\u2019s a two person trip instead? \u2014 but I didn\u2019t neglect to tell her intentionally. I just didn\u2019t think it\u2019d be an issue with her. Gf never had insecurities about this Friend before. \n\nLast night, she asked me again about the details of the upcoming weekend trip. Fair enough. I was honest. Clarified it was just gonna be two people. \n\nInstantly, gf freaked out. Went berserk. \u2014 saying this is a date instead. A two night three days date. That how could I do this to her. How could I betray her trust like that. \u2014 that this trip I\u2019m taking is akin to cheating. \n\nShe instantly started to set rules and boundaries for my friend and I. Apparently I can no longer take the initiative to talk to her. I cannot hang out with her privately. I am to intentionally drift apart from my friend. \n\nI\u2019m flabbergasted. If I am going to cheat, or had the intention to, it\u2019d be so easy to cover up. Gf isn\u2019t in town. I don\u2019t post on social media. She was even invited to the trip, and, we even changed the date because she wanted more time with me. \u2014 and WHY would I cheat??? If my heart and mind isn\u2019t just set on my gf, I\u2019d have just separated with her. \n\nJust \u2018cause I liked my friend for three months 5 years ago, I have to throw away the friendship and the trip? I can say, without any question, that it\u2019s just pure friendship now. And I do not foresee anything festering. Friend is a friend. \n\nI then refused to cancel the trip. And told my gf we should both reconsider our relationship. She instantly felt personally attacked and is blighted by \u201cYou are considering breaking up with me because of HER?\u201d \n\nNo. I\u2019m considering breaking up with you because of your unreasonable controllingness. Your lack of trust in me. And my sadness that you are forcing me to cut off a good friend. \n\nShe didn\u2019t understand. And she couldn\u2019t stand talking to me anymore. Deleted me via the chatting applications. Told me she will not consider Breaking up with me. I can consider alone. And tell her the results via email. \n\nSo. Here I am. AITA? \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 305, "OTHER": 474, "EVERYBODY": 125, "NOBODY": 31, "INFO": 25}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 505, "WRONG": 430}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K1wxZ3enpRFaQzVSZ4QM289FpLK9k90K", "post_id": "a5ztvd", "action": null, "title": "AITA For not have told to my friend with benefits that I had fucked another guy", "text": "Ok, some context \nI had been \"dating\" this guy (who we'll call Josh just to keep things simple) for about six months and had hella feelings for the guy. One day I ask him what he felt for me and he kind of vaguely said that he didint really have feelings for me, he liked me and loved spending time with me but wouldn't see me as her girlfriend. He also told me that I should try to sleep with other people so I could detach a bit from him. This fucking broke my heart but decided to keep seeing him.\nSo, fast forward to about 5 months after, we would see each other often but he would also keep me in mind that he didn't love me/didn't see me as her girlfriend but just as a good friend.\nI had to go out of town for about three months and met another guy (who we'll call Tim)  who I ended up sleeping with for about three weeks. When I told Josh he fucking stormed off at me on the phone, saying that I was bitch, a liar and that I had fucked up our friendship by not telling him as soon as I started to see Tim, but only after a week.\nThe thing is that me and Josh were really close and would do anything a couple would do, but he didnt want us to be one. I don't really know what he expected me to do ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n7VfjlKniXvQYSra1BweNqnV1q76PauA", "post_id": "acnam1", "action": {"description": "getting into fight", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "Aita for getting into fight?", "text": "My English and History teacher have had a huge grudge against me ever since i was suspended for getting into a fight with another student. They said that they were not accepting any work for the rest of the year from me and that i prefailed there course when i got suspended. I scheduled a meeting with my principals and teachers and my parents. When the meeting occurred the teachers DID NOT SHOW UP AT THE MEETING. I SAW THEM LEAVING THE PRINCIPALS OFFICE BEFORE THE MEETING. Then the Principal said to me and my parents that i should never got into a fight and got suspended and if the teachers did not fail me he would. Me and my parents shouted insults and dissed him the whole way out. I admit it was pretty fun tossing a couple of insults in her face. When we left i heard my principal start to cry and i dont know what that means. Now what should i do, i recorded the meeting so should i show it to my attorney or go to the school board or something else. Suggestions Please", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3C91nFvpEn3zk8ugyBbBx7HZ0ePjF9R5", "post_id": "b9bhk2", "action": {"description": "telling my friend to stop pitying me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend to stop pitying me", "text": "So I had/ still have depression and I used to harm myself. When my friend found out she started saying she\u2019s sorry and always trying to make me happy like sitting next to me and talking to me in a voice you\u2019d talk to a child. I get it that she means good but that\u2019s really annoying. I tried telling her I\u2019m fine but she\u2019s always like: \u201cit\u2019s ok you can tell me anything\u201d \nSo yesterday she really got on my nerves and I told her that if she\u2019s not going to stop treating me like a disabled child I\u2019d rather not talk to her. \nI could tell she was shocked and I just went home. Haven\u2019t talked to her since but I can feel her staring at me during class. \n\nWhat do you think? Should I go and apologize? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LWXniOWTtt3q4B8Ex61oPRrZrAx2EO5k", "post_id": "afkva9", "action": {"description": "politely telling a fellow group chat member not to preach to me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for politely telling a fellow group chat member not to preach to me?", "text": "I just had a girl I\u2019ve been on three dates with (SEVERAL HOURS AWAY) say she\u2019s not ready for a relationship and I\u2019ve been crying a lot. Not to sound crazy but I had feelings for her. I was venting about this in the group chat when\n\nME: \ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d\ud83d\ude2d Some of my friends just convinced me that she\u2019s right when she says I should get over her, and we just agreed not to text for a while, and I am pure cry\n\nTHEM: that really sucks but it probably is for the best ): hopefully things get better soon\n\nME: I know it is for the best. Literally everyone including her has been telling me that for the last couple of days, and I finally listened. It hurt so bad right at first, and there is probably going to be more pain as I deal with it, but at least this way I\u2019ll actually move on and not do the same thing to myself that she was doing to herself that created this situation in the first place\n\nTHEM: I think the lesson is to be careful about getting invested too quickly, especially before you\u2019ve talked about what you\u2019re looking for\n\nME: I\u2019d rather not have anyone trying to tell me lessons to take from this. I knew exactly what type of pain I was risking throughout this process and actively chose to take that risk based on my personal values. I took that risk because I knew I would have to tools at my disposal to deal with this pain if/when it came, and now I\u2019m going to work through it, and that work is going to include some crying and complaining as I let myself feel the pain for the time that it needs to be felt. Please don\u2019t try to preach to me about how to handle these types of things again. If I want advice rather than an ear to vent to, I will ask for it.\n\nTHEM: \ud83d\ude05 nvm I guess, back to the poly stuff (what everyone else was talking about while we talked about this)\n\nME: I don\u2019t mean to go off \ud83d\ude02 I just know where I\u2019m at the process that went into the choices that I made in a way that you don\u2019t because I haven\u2019t posted enough context on this server for any of y\u2019all to, and getting told what I should take from this by someone that does have that full context just rubs me the wrong way, especially while I\u2019m still in this painful place about it. No worries though \ud83d\ude0a\ud83d\ude0a\n\nTHEM: I was trying to help bc that\u2019s what I did with the girl I liked before this one, and especially because no one else answered your message. It rubs me the wrong way to have it taken in such a negative way and I don\u2019t know what else to say about it given that. Good luck with dealing with all of that, it\u2019ll eventually get better no matter what\n\nI didn\u2019t answer. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "guKcwMps7EEoLInnpm3Utt3XG7d9oeEr", "post_id": "9yiaiv", "action": {"description": "asking if someone can make a plate for me at work", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking if someone can make a plate for me at work?", "text": "My company is having a Thansgiving luncheon at each of our offices. We run independent institutional review boards that look at human research and I\u2019m a meeting coordinator (i.e. assist the chair during the meeting and take determinations/minutes/notes on the decision for each study). The meeting I run is at noon today, which is also when my office is having their luncheon (for which I brought in homemade spinach pies). I asked one of our admin assistants if she\u2019d mind making a plate for me since I\u2019ll be at my desk conducting the meeting (our board members all call in). She said to just send an email as to what I\u2019d like but she was a little short with me and I want to know if I\u2019m the asshole for asking, because I feel bad about it. I did say thank you, and will say thank you again but I feel like I\u2019m putting her out a little. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O8OtbaRy7qF7QmJ1zCdsKmnkjeFebxoK", "post_id": "au3lgz", "action": {"description": "getting a single mother fired from her job", "pronormative_score": 50, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for getting a single mother fired from her job?", "text": "This happened about 2 months ago. I have a friend who went to get a check up at my family\u2019s doctor office. He\u2019s a very good family friend, practically considered to be family honestly! Well something happened at the office that made me uneasy.\n\nAfter his appointment, he gets a text on his phone saying nothing but \u201chey\u201d\n\nHe replies and asks who is this?\n\nIt turns out it was the nurse who took his blood and thought he was cute. They start texted and she even sends him selfies... not explicit ones. But definitely suggesting that she wanted to get with him.\n\nThis is so illegal it\u2019s not even funny. She got his number from his medical record because she thought he was cute? He trusted me and told me everything and showed me the texts.\n\nBecause she was a single mother, my friend and I made a deal. The deal was he tells her that she needs to never do that again and he\u2019ll just drop it. \n\nA week goes by and I ask him, \u201c...did you tell her?\u201d\n\nHe didn\u2019t tell her. \n\nSo I told the people in charge of the office and she was fired within 30 minutes. \n\nAm I in the wrong here? Can\u2019t the office be liable for things like this? Thankfully it was my very good friend she did this to and not just an average patient!!! Does this make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 50, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 50, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DAS7qDJo4Z9sCUB8VCWpQn9PFRMtecOM", "post_id": "aqs952", "action": {"description": "renting a $3,000,000 apartment for $100pw", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA Renting a $3,000,000 apartment for $100pw", "text": "A bunch of my friends and I we're looking at renting an apartment. We we're looking at spending $250 per week each max and weren't expecting much.\n\nI work for a developer and I asked him if he knew of anything around for that price range and he said he'd rent us a penthouse apartment (worth $3,000,000+) but his conditions were that we look after the place and that I get the master bedroom for $100 per week and I rent the other rooms out and make him some money back. The others in the flat are paying between $220 and $270 per week depending on the size of the room (mine is at least twice the size of theirs and comes with a huge closet and en suite) Usually this apartment would be worth at least $400 per room if I hadn't got it from my boss.\n\nI haven't told them how little I'm paying for the room and I feel shit for doing so but I feel like they would hate me if they knew the deal we took.\n\nAm I an asshole for taking the deal?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nJ7kGYg48dmB97Vw7iZRy2pLYjpFqdOF", "post_id": "altp5f", "action": {"description": "revealing someone's political affiliation", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for revealing someone\u2019s political affiliation?", "text": "I\u2019m taking a political science class with my former roommate, let\u2019s call her Rebecca.  Earlier last week, I volunteered to be the \u201cliberal voter\u201d in our voting simulation while she volunteered to be the \u201cconservative voter\u201d.  I told the professor it was appropriate because when we used to live together, she had a Republican flag up on her wall and I had a Democrat flag up on mine.  I felt as though that anecdote was relevant and funny.  Rebecca proceeded to approach me after class and said I made her feel \u201chumiliated and isolated\u201d for \u201cout\u201d-ing her as a Republican in front of the class.\n\nFor context, we go to a very liberal school in California (I bet you could name it) and most people are Dem or at least identify as liberal.  I think that she doesn\u2019t want to deal with the social repercussions of her political beliefs, but I also understand that I should not volunteer information about other people that they may not be comfortable with becoming public.  I feel awful about making her feel these negative emotions.  However, she is also a political science major and just attending the university we go to begets political conversation, and she\u2019s not secretive about her conservative ideals.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sE1vpvyLPgFRIpMab8wLSMTwDHg0nA8L", "post_id": "ba71up", "action": {"description": "reporting my former austistic friend to the police for making passive aggressive threats against me on Instagram", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I report my former austistic friend to the police for making passive aggressive threats against me on Instagram?", "text": "Context: We were friend in high school, we were on the volleyball team and I'd occasionally play basketball/go to Sonic with him for a few years after. I've been aware of his autism since we met in elementary school but we had similar interests and I have an autistic brother myself, so I could handle being around him well. He did have a bad temper growing up and holds grudges easily. I kept reminding him in the years after high school that high school was over now and we have no reason to even think about people we went to high school with again. We're now in our mid-20s and our friend group has drifted apart anyways.\n\n​\n\nI moved to Europe for a year in 2017 and that's when I first noticed him making posts against people from his past. As I hadn't spoken to him in a while I didn't feel a need to respond to them. However, starting in 2018 he started referencing me and my friends by name. He started to say things like \"They're lucky I don't punch them if I see them\" and things along those lines. He's posted them every few days for about a year now.\n\n​\n\nFinally, this week he said \"I hate people from my past, never trust a person named u/bruins125 .\" Seeing this I felt the need to call him out. I sent him a message saying that I've been following his messages and that if he needs to talk I'm here and would be willing to meet up again but if he says anymore threatening messages I'm contacting the police. I ended with saying \"Ball'sin your court, hope you're doing well man.\" He never responded to my DM, but instead 2 days later he put on his story \"If the balls in my court I'm gonna strike you on the head with it.\"\n\n​\n\nAnother former classmate I was also friends with at one point stabbed two people in the public library of our home town, one of them fatally. This classmate had been going insane for years before, started off by admiring the Virginia Tech shooter and harassing classmates online (myself included). He also said threatening things to me in the past and I feel like he was looking for me/other former classmates before he did it (the person he fatally stabbed was a year younger than us). \n\n​\n\nI still feel guilty about the attack, as he said threatening/definitely illegal shit to me when he was starting to go crazy and I feel like if I said something the murder wouldn't have happened. I'm now getting deja vu, except now I'm worried this other guy is going to attack me. Some of my friends agree and want to contact the police as well, but others think he's harmless and say he's only saying those things because he's unemployed and lonely. I want to believe the latter, but at the same time I'm worried for both my own and some of my old friend's safety. \n\n​\n\nSo, Reddit, WIBTA? Thanks in advance!", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M96wOKjQZwp4IAqyao4zXMttLxKbW6qt", "post_id": "ayuh2g", "action": {"description": "getting upset over something meaningful", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting upset over something meaningful?", "text": " \n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to spend time with my (now ex) boyfriend?\n\n*Throwaway account for obvious reasons*\n\nI am a college student that lives 4hrs. Away from home. My boyfriend (now ex) was supposed to visit me today and spend time with me till Sunday morning. we get talking and everything, and I'm really excited and looking forward to seeing him. Keep in mind that I have not seen him since January. (It's now March so 3 ish months I haven't seen him.) So we are talking and everything is good when a of a sudden he asks, \"Hey can we actually leave on Saturday around 4pm?\" My smile turns into a frown. \"Why?\" I ask. He avoids the questions with \"just cause.\" Now I'm getting really upset because the only time where we would have time together is going to be cut short. I keep asking why and he says \"Because my friends are leaving on Saturday and I want to say goodbye.\"\n\nNow, im super upset at this point. Reason 1) he's been spending time all this week with his friends till 1-2 am in the morning. Reason 2) he's cutting our time in half just to go say good bye when he can say it before he leaves to see me. Reason 3) I haven't seen him in so long that I yearn for someone to hold and when I get the chance, it'll only be for a night and half a day considering we would be waking up late.\n\nHe calls me selfish, but am I the asshole for getting upset that he's cutting our time in half when I haven't seen him in so long? I miss him and love him and was super excited to see him but then this happens.\n\n(We broke up after the argument and honestly I'm content with it but I'm also in pain because of the fight as well)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8cp1JoyoqItfo3V7qdI4cAtH5gYSLjjc", "post_id": "b1yqcb", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to cancel plans (drinking) to stay with me when I am having a bad depressive episode", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA because I want my BF to cancel plans (drinking) to stay with me when I am having a bad depressive episode?", "text": "I (20F) have been depressed for a while. I think about 5-6 years. I\u2019m dealing with it and fighting it everyday. I have seen 5 psychologists 3 psychiatrists and have been in hospital 2 times. I have also taken 7 different antidepressants.\n\nI mean, I\u2019m really busy with it. I try to get better. Sometimes it gets really bad. Not that often. I estimate once every month. Sometimes more and sometimes less. \n\nI have a boyfriend (22M), we\u2019ve been together for 6 months now, so not very long.  Before we got together I was honest about all my problems and that I will be annoying sometimes. And that I will need help and support. I gave him time to think about all that and he chose to be with me.  \n\nWhen I\u2019m sad I can usually deal with it on my own. But sometimes it gets really bad. (When I really believe everything is lost and there is no hope and I should just.. end it). In those moments I really believe those things. I can\u2019t see a way out. I panic, I cry, I think about doing it.\n\nI don\u2019t think I will ever do it honestly.\n\nTonight is a bad night. I want his support. Being with him helps. \n\nBut he\u2019s going out drinking with his friends. To a party he said he didn\u2019t even want to go to at all. I asked him and explained it but he\u2019s not coming over. He said that he promised he\u2019d be there.\n\nI feel like if he would explain the situation to that person he promised they would understand he can\u2019t be there one night.\n\nI understand it isn\u2019t fair or fun for him either. Being with someone who is sick like this. It is hard but all the good moments are worth it. I am not sad 24/7.\n\nI\u2019m not close with anyone else about my depression. I have friends but not close enough. I am to my psych ofc.\n\n\nI\u2019m not sure if I am right about all this. AITA?\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PSLrYzQ6tLtbtfvnylnEEFXLkOIfECuu", "post_id": "amwv51", "action": {"description": "wanting to reject the 'easystreet' life my parents want to give me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to reject the 'easystreet' life my parents want to give me?", "text": "Background: I'm 28f, hubby's 28m, 2 daughters (3&1) and a third on the way. \n\nI don't even know where to start. Obligatory 'this is long and rambly' apology.\n\nGrowing up, I thought I had a pretty good childhood. It's only since I met hubby that I've started to come out of the fog. Still struggling with it, because now I can't tell if some of the shit that happened was wrong, or if I'm being an ungrateful brat.\n\nMum & Dad were that couple that never wanted kids (Dad had a pretty dramatic childhood, Mums a textbook enabler) but as long as I was able to pull myself together and act like an adult, I was pretty alright in their book. \n\nAfter some pretty bad bullying, I ended up begging to leave school part way through year 11, which they allowed, as long as I either studied or got a job. So I did both. Worked full time hours at McDonalds and studied at TAFE (Australian version of community college I think?). Always worked 1 or 2 jobs from there until they moved us to where we currently live when I was 17, and they bought a Resort. I started working there on Front Desk, and I'm still there now. I like it, it is pretty cruisy, and allows me to spend time with my girls while they're young.\n\nHubby's a mechanic by trade, and currently working for my Dad (not using his trade). Dad got sick for a while and was struggling to look after the business on his own, and hubby was looking at leaving his last job, so they figured hey, two birds one stone. He now wants to leave to take on another apprenticeship, related to his first one but a slightly more specific field.\n\nTo try and cut a 28 year story short, there's been a lot of decisions that were made when I was a sweet summer child and fully believed my parents were geniuses and would never do anything to harm me.\n\nE.g:\n- Bought a car worth roughly $4,000 off them for $10,000, since it was the one they lent me and I was scared to be without a car where we live (I trusted it was worth that money without checking, my fuck up)\n- Paid for said car with a loan from them for the full amount, which was taken off one of their credit cards and I paid that back, with the interest included\n- Haven't been paid superannuation since I started here, because they reassured me that I'd get a payout when they sold the business and they'd look after me (needless to say, it's looking unlikely)\n- Only just got my own contents insurance because they assured me my whole life it wasn't worth the money and was a con\n- We bought the apartment we live in off them without a deposit, effectively gifting us $50,000. Amazing, yes. But that money was apparently owed to me through the way their tax is organised, and it definitely, 100% wasn't a favour. Until we moved in. And it's been thrown in my face ever since.\n- Told my husband today that he shouldn't leave working with Dad to get this second trade because 'trades aren't worth anything' and 'his pay was going up next week anyway'. (Was never about the money, we're actually taking a pay cut to do it)\n\nObviously, there's been a lot more, but this is a bit of a snapshot. \n\nLong story short, I trusted them implicitly for so long, and now I'm watching Dad literally drink money down the drain and Mum not be able to say anything. I feel like I want to cut all lines of dependance to what I see as a sinking ship, to try and protect my family and girls. But my God do I feel guilty. So....AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CSVEcEwqQKHL5DIc8NFeUM8JPHb3uKwQ", "post_id": "af3hfc", "action": {"description": "resenting my family (especially my mother) for breaking my trust", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for resenting my family (especially my mother) for breaking my trust?", "text": "This one is kind of a doozy so strap in.\n\nBackstory, my family are kind of irresponsible with money imo, my sister is aged 30 with tons of credit debt and my parents have large debt, some of it their fault and some not. I have some intense medical issues that have cost lots of money over my life, but luckily I seem to be towards the end of needing expensive treatment, and I also have a trust created by my grandparents to help with my medical situation (in their will they split their money 4 ways, 1 each to my sister and I and 2 to my father.) Because the money that I spend on food/entertainment and most of all medical costs (over 40k last year) is in a trust that my parents are the trustees of I do not have direct access to the accounts to see how much money is there at any given time, and here lies the problem.\n\nRemember how I said my sister has debt? She needs to ask my parents for assistance a lot to pay bills or if an emergency comes up, even though she got the same amount of money as me she still ran through it in under a year while going on 3 vacations etc. Recently (past few months) ive found out that my mother had been taking money from my trust to help my sister out without talking to me, this upset me and I began to distance myself, which upset my mom and she started saying stuff like \"I've done so much for you and I mess up one time and its the end of the world.\" \n\nI get yelled at, or at the very least have people aggressively raising their voices at me, at least a few times a week specifically around me not being super friendly to them. I have never really felt at home with my family because of differences of opinion but to be openly told that the way I feel is wrong and that I should \"think of how other people feel too\" is just too much.\n\nI recently have been having much more issues with suicidal ideation and when we had a \"family meeting\" to discuss household affairs and I said that I would like people to be more quiet around my room because loud noises cause me physical pain(I have tinnitus) and that having no place to be comfortable was stressing me out a lot, my sister's response was \"so because you cut yourself your feelings are more important than mine?\"\n\n\n\nThe truth is whether I'm the asshole or not I cant be comfortable around my family when I know there is a clear favorite (my sister) and when they have violated my trust so many times, I just feel they dont respect me as a person, not from their words but their actions. Can you guys just tell me if my mother is correct and I am the problem?\n\n\nTLDR: Parents take money from me to help my sister, tell me im being disrespectful for being upset at them for taking said money, sister clearly does not care about my well being if it goes against her preferences, am I the asshole for resenting my family?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XRTxs9vGu2ztK5o4bqw7mnQec35aiLoP", "post_id": "b66jdo", "action": {"description": "ruining friendships to prove a point? calling out a best friend of 10-15 years for what I believe to be right", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA - Ruining friendships to prove a point? Calling out a best friend of 10-15 years for what I believe to be right", "text": "So I had a friend (a really good friend at the time) for 10-15 years and he was in a relationship. We had a large group of friends that hung out \n\nIn this group of friends, I started to see that he was hitting on other girls and I confronted him about it because he had a girlfriend. He said he was \u201csharpening his fang\u201d incase he ever broke up with his girlfriend, and his girlfriend was accepting of it.\n\nIn the end I realized he was harrassing our girl friends groping them and even sending dick pics and I thought \u201cwait what? This is not normal\u201d. So I confronted him. Because all the girls wouldn\u2019t confront him personally but would send me screenshots of his behaviour.\n\nOnly thing that happened was we got into a shouting match, he was insinuating that I was putting women on a pedestal (like r/niceguy behavior) but I just thought this was abnormal behaviour and I belirve in girls and guys just being friends in a group\n\nHe ended up sending our text conversations to everyone (excluding key parts of course) but it became very dramatic. I wanted to send all the screenshots of what girls were saying about him (how he was sending them dick pics and saying he was on break with his gf) with their screenshots as proof but all my friends said I was making a big deal out of this\n\nI still think its wrong, but maybe Im the asshole? I never talked to his girlfriend about it but they broke up later on, I ruined all my friendships in this group because I called them all cowards for not doing anything about it. I called the girls cowards for not standing up to him more affirmingly to let him know that it was not acceptable if thats how they felt\n\nI\u2019ve been told many times \u201cthats not how you should end a 10-15 year friendship though\u201d but I could really care less about that or him. I care that I was the only person that viewed this as a problem, maybe Im the odd one and an asshole? Im not a r/niceguy for just wanting people to behave civil, right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Vn796BSLvFPXrBhB6zvlZGm885BBkUhz", "post_id": "a17tmp", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend at her birthday party", "pronormative_score": 100, "contranormative_score": 37}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend at her birthday party", "text": "\nUsing a throwaway and changing some details because she is a redditor. In the title I say girlfriend but we never had the conversations that defined what our relationship was. I had been seeing this girl for about 3 months, the last month and a half we have been spending almost every day together, she would stay at my house or I would stay at her house 3-4 days a week, so I had just assumed that we were exclusive and that the conversation defining our relationship was soon to come.\n\tHer birthday was a week ago and she was having a birthday party that weekend to celebrate it. She asked me to come over and help make some food for the party, so I arrived at her house a few hours before the party had started. I had just assumed I would be spending the night over there since we hadn\u2019t seen that much of each other (besides on her birthday we went out to dinner and had a great time) that week because of the holidays, so I brought a bag with a change of clothes and a toothbrush, ect.  So I helped her set up for the party and her friends and co-workers start to arrive. This was my first time meeting a lot of her friends and the night was going really good. It was a small party maybe 10-15 people, her friends all seemed really cool. The whole night she had been giving me a lot of attention (sitting on my lap, holding my hand, taking me aside to kiss) until her co-worker \u201cbob\u201d showed up. As soon as he walked in the door she got really excited ran over to him and gave him a big hug. After this point she began to completely ignore me and was pretty much hanging off of \u201cbob\u201d. She had introduced me to all her friends before bob had arrived but after he arrived she was just all over him.\n\tI try not to get jealous, but watching this person who I care about flirting with someone else can really get to you. after about an hour of her ignoring me and flirting with this other guy I was starting to get angry, so I stepped outside to have a smoke. From the front porch you can see into the living room and I watched her and bob go over to the couch and she sat in his lap and began to kiss him. At this point I was pretty drunk and very angry, so I called an uber went inside to grab my back pack and as I was at the front door she came over to me and asked were I was going and I yelled at her \u201cI\u2019M FUCKING DONE WITH YOU, GO BACK TO  BOB!\u201d and went home.\n\tThat night I received a bunch of calls and texts from her calling me an asshole and that I ruined her birthday party, I didn\u2019t respond to her. The next morning I called her and told her I was going to come over and get my car if she wanted to talk. When I got there we talked and she said that she didn\u2019t feel like she did anything wrong because we had never talked about being exclusive and that I was overreacting. I pretty much told her that I guess it was my mistake for assuming we were exclusive but what she did was still fucked up and that we are still over. This past week I have been receiving messages from her and her roommate calling me a piece of shit for ruining her birthday party, and that I am over reacting. Maybe I shouldn\u2019t have yelled at her in front of people but I feel that making out with someone in front of the person you are dating is an asshole move.\n\nTD;DR: girl I was dating made out with her co-worker at her birthday party so I broke up with her in front of her friends.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 99, "EVERYBODY": 19, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 100, "WRONG": 37}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8VCsoE9B8zSh4z65OoCwdEyAir6ufVHv", "post_id": "a7d3bk", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out/expose a John after witnessing my roommate bring prostitutes home", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move out/expose a John after witnessing my roommate bring Prostitutes home?", "text": "I (31F) live with my boyfriend (31M) and his best friend (30M). His bestie, let's say John, who I held in high esteem and also considered a good friend, has brought home several prostitutes from Tinder while I am at the apartment over the past two months. Go-go boots, mini dresses, tons of makeup- John brings them straight to his room, and has even tried sneaking one around the back deck. John has also been dating a local woman (25F) on and off over this time, who I have hosted at my dinner parties, on Thanksgiving, and have befriended while she is often over. We live in a developing country, where sex tourism is thriving, and many expats find hooking up or dating local women much easier. He is a staunch libertarian, believing that he can choose to do what he wants within his moral framework, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone/trespass on anyone. We had a respectful chat, and he apologized for me for making me uncomfortable in my own apartment. Now that I have been exposed to his actions, I still feel uncomfortable \"keeping his secrets\" from his girlfriend. He argues that it's not a secret, it's simply his private life during their 'break ups', comparing it the privacy of one's bank account. He also told me that his girlfriend would freak out if she even knew he had the Tinder app on his phone, which he admitted he keeps hidden. I feel guilty that I am an unwilling player in his game. Am I the asshole for wanting to move out? I know that will put my boyfriend in an awkward decision to choose between his GF and BFF. Am I the asshole for wanting to tell his girlfriend? Moral obligations aside, I just feel anxiety \"faking\" it in front of her, knowing there is something her boyfriend has done that would hurt her. He says he always does what's best for him and I should do what's best for me. I'd love to hear from libertarians on the issue of prostitution, especially of escorts that come from developing countries or impoverished backgrounds.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kQ8JbhPqb3ym0rejtXv0lPO4UsTTyooP", "post_id": "ba88b5", "action": {"description": "wanting to get a nose job", "pronormative_score": 53, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting to get a nose job?", "text": "So, I\u2019m a 17 year old Jewish girl. Profoundly Jewish, like I have zero non-Jewish relatives and my surname literally means I\u2019m descended from the first high priest, Aaron. (If he was a real guy, but who knows.). Anyway, I look exactly like a person with this heritage is expected to look: really curly hair and a huge nose. By huge, I mean HUGE. It\u2019s enormous for my face and it has a big bump in the middle. I\u2019ve been made fun of mercilessly for it ever since middle school. No guy has ever wanted to be more than friends with me because of my nose. In 10th grade I heard a guy I had a huge crush on talking to his friends about how big and ugly it is and it honestly scarred me for life. \n\nI\u2019m graduating high school this year and my parents have offered to get me really special. I think they were expecting for me to ask for a trip. Instead, I asked for a nose job.\n\nThey\u2019re both really upset. They\u2019ve been telling me this means I\u2019m rejecting my Jewish heritage and that I shouldn\u2019t want to change because that\u2019s just giving in to the bullies. The Jewish heritage thing is big for them. We live in the South and we\u2019re the only Jews around for miles. They\u2019ve told me off a lot for trying to act like my goy friends to fit in. But honestly my heritage has brought nothing but trouble, I\u2019m tired of people feeling my hair for horns and the anti-Semitic remarks have increased a lot since the 2016 election. \n\nI don\u2019t want to denounce being a Jew and I consider myself a Jew both culturally and religiously. I just want to have a chance in college. I want to be able to go about my business without people making fun of me. I want to be able to date guys like a normal person. \n\nMy parents are still really upset. My mom is giving me the cold shoulder. I feel like the asshole.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 53, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jzWWlUMESe0RlarKxH79bwygsEx05hte", "post_id": "atl3aa", "action": {"description": "keeping on headphones (without music) and not wanting to inquire further about my co-worker's stress and clearky audible sniffling", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for keeping on headphones (without music) and not wanting to inquire further about my co-worker's stress and clearky audible sniffling?", "text": "My co worker wants a divorce from her jobless mentally unstable co dependent husband who tells her she needs to get a better job and cannot even contribute to the mortgage. He just left his 3rd high paying job this year because \"his feet hurt\".\n\n3 of her sons live at home, youngest just graduated, neither is paying rent.\n\nShe is completely co dependant herself and personally I feel doesn't know what else to do with her life except be mentally and verbally abused.\n\nEveryday she has to interject about \"XXXX quit his job today!\" and \"he's really declining mentally, Im losing my mind too!\". Every day for the past two years. There is not a day that goes by, not exaggerating....\n\nShe is SPINELESS and I can't take it anymore. I throw on my head phones as soon as she comes to her desk. I change the conversation as often as possible because she is negative Nancy more and more.\n\nI think the thing that rubs me the wrong way so much about her situation is that I know how hard it is to walk away from an abusive situation that you are living in, but I know how easy it became once I started making changes for myself.\n\nI have given her little advices here and there but she doesn't truly want help -- not yet.\n\nSorry for the poor writing quality, I was trying to hit the main points. AITA for not caring????", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Pv2dD9d1jYm7XGU3RBVdxqVNbiwRlZLr", "post_id": "aq8y1g", "action": {"description": "reporting noise in a block of flats", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For reporting noise in a block of flats", "text": "I live in a block of flats that has a 24/7 concierge. \n\nSince the 11/02/19 there has been someone in the block that starts playing music really loud at 12:00 in the afternoon and it can be heard everywhere in the building.\n\nI reported this to the concierge, who deals with everything in the building to see if anyone else reported the noise. \n\nHe asked me what kind of music?\n\nI replied does that really matter? I can hear it in my flat.\n\nThe final thing he said was I can't do anything before 23:00 because I can only report it to the council after then.\n\nIm I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZPCfunVPVSqiY155VWYRFuKEX0gUAAO5", "post_id": "b3js4z", "action": {"description": "wanting to kick my roommate out", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to kick my roommate out?", "text": "My roommate (29F) and I (30M) have been living together for quite some time, about two years. She is generally quite nice to be around albeit a bit messy (usually leaves a messy kitchen), but lately things have taken a bad turn. While we have never taken to discussing in full what she does for work, I believe her to be a sex worker. She uses very careful dialogue to describe her employment to random people but anyone with half a brain can tell she is an escort/prostitute. \n\nVery recently she met a guy she really hit it off with and things have been going very well for them. Which I am happy for, I want her to have love and a nice life! However, because of the relationship she no longer wants to work, since it would be disloyal to her relationship. No work means no money, so she has been late on all her bills with excuses like \"she will get a job soon.\"\n\nHere's the deal. I get it. You were a sex worker and you found love and now you're on hard times. Fine. I can hang with that, hell I can even help you skirt the bills a bit while you get it sorted out. My problem is that at every turn when she isn't with her boyfriend she is doing coke and getting drunk constantly. That doesn't look like she is trying to find a job. That doesn't look like she's doing anything. That, I have a problem with.\n\nI work 40 hours a week and I clean the house. It sucks coming home to a giant mess in the kitchen while she's just been doing blow all day while I'm the one paying all the bills. Just doesn't add up. I want to kick her out, but I feel like if I do that she's just going to roll into her boyfriend's lap and he seems like a really nice guy with his shit together. He even has a kid! I don't want to be responsible for all that energy just getting dumped on him. So what's the verdict here reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "d3ikHmybo2MNVcNylBpZigjXx37UZT4o", "post_id": "am95nb", "action": {"description": "asking my fianc\u00e9 to have his daughter leave our house this weekend", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my fianc\u00e9 to have his daughter leave our house this weekend?", "text": "My fianc\u00e9 (M43) and I (F21) have been together for two years. Lots of people can\u2019t get past the age part, but I would ask that you ignore that for now\u2014I just added it for a little extra context. I am an incredibly helpful and kind stepmom type of person to his 13 year old daughter (but I\u2019m not quite viewed as the stepmom, it\u2019s a funny in between). I take her and her friends to and from school, to dance every day, help with homework, make them food, do all the grocery shopping , etc. I bust my ass every day to be the best family member/stepmom thing possible. \n\nSo this week, I have had an insanely busy schedule between my full time school, teaching piano, helping with his daughter, cleaning the house, and still trying to take care of myself. I am worn thin to say the least. Every weekend, his daughter and all her friends (which is always a lot, she\u2019s pretty popular) come over and trash the house, and no one is responsible for cleaning up besides me. We have tried to work some sort of cleaning/chore list out, but so far it has been very unsuccessful. Because the house gets trashed every weekend, weekends are not exactly relaxing for me\u2014in fact, they\u2019re quite the opposite. Having his daughter and her friends at the house causes me insane anxiety, and I always feel like I have to be trapped in my room because it\u2019s so uncomfortable for me to be around the kids (because I\u2019m pretty close to them in age). Yesterday I spent the entire day doing homework, driving carpool, cleaning, working, that I didn\u2019t get to work out (which is really important to me). Meanwhile, my fianc\u00e9 is watching movies and played 2 hours of tennis. \n\nI am so worn thin that this weekend I needed some peace to myself. My fianc\u00e9 is on a road trip with his brother and I am to stay home to rest. His daughter thinks we are both on the trip though, and because the house is empty, she is not allowed to have people over or be over here at all. \n\nFast forward to me right now hiding in the master bathroom trying to make an escape while 15 teenagers are blasting music in our living room. She has obviously broken the rules about not being over here, and doesn\u2019t know I\u2019m here. I am so so bummed and I\u2019m crying because I\u2019m so exhausted and just wanted to have some peace to myself.  \n\nSo would I be the asshole for calling my fianc\u00e9 to have his daughter leave?\n\nTL;DR: Would I be the asshole for secretly asking my fianc\u00e9 to arrange for his daughter and her friends to leave our house?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0R2Vnvyo8jR1AiYjzvvriatmITGoP4rB", "post_id": "axmlr4", "action": {"description": "wanting to take a date to Outback steakhouse", "pronormative_score": 120, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting to take a date to Outback steakhouse?", "text": "So last week I met this really cool girl in a class I transferred into. We texted back and forth over the week but since we were both busy we didn't get a chance to go out. We sort of set up an informal plan to grab dinner after our lab last night. \n\nI suggested we go to Outback since I really enjoy it, its somewhat affordable and it was a quick drive from the shuttle parking lot. She said she would rather eat glass than eat at Outback. I asked her where she wanted to go so she suggested like an overly expensive, farm to table restaurant that was almost an hour drive away. It was already going on 8 and I was starving but it also meant that I wouldn't be at home until at least 11 with all the driving and I had an 8AM class this morning. I agreed to go but it was clear that even me suggesting Outback had killed whatever spark had been there. \n\nWe said our goodbyes and she sent me a text while I was on my home that said \"thanks for a miserable time, lets never speak again.k.thx.bi.\" I was literally dumbfounded because the girl I was texting with last week didn't even seem to have such stupidity in her vocabulary. \n\nAm I the asshole here? Maybe I'm not hip or whatever, but am I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 119, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 120, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bkoZKjudrhNyhGlRbftgGjgNO9raU0FL", "post_id": "apzaeu", "action": {"description": "using tinder to find friends even if I'm not gay", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for using tinder to find friends even if I'm not gay?", "text": " \n\nI just moved to a pretty rural county in Florida from Boston. I don't know anybody my age M(23) in the area and go to school about an hour away in Orlando at UCF. I am currently looking for a job in the area to get to know people, but have yet to really find anything. I am trying to put myself out there, but it is becoming very difficult to make any friendships here.\n\nSo I decided to turn to tinder. I am a straight male, and have had some matches with girls in the area, but nothing has really worked either. So I turned my preferences to both male and female, because I tend to get alot more matches with guys than girls. In my bio I do say I am not gay and just looking for friends to hang out and drink with. It has worked much better, but is it an asshole move to use a dating app to find friends?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xMR75KVFDwSKUJG28I5vvupxQZp7WF28", "post_id": "ba8fwb", "action": {"description": "resenting my siblings and losing a mother-daughter relationship with no will to save it", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for resenting my siblings and losing a mother-daughter relationship with no will to save it?", "text": "I\u2019m on mobile and I\u2019ve been really debating on how to ever ask this.\n\nI\u2019m adopted, I was adopted a few months after birth. My mom had a friend who was going to abort the baby unless my mom wanted it. So I came into the picture. It was just me and my mom for a very long time. Everything was great. Uncles, cousins, aunts, my grandma.. everyone would visit us. Our house was just the one to gather at.\n\nAt some point I asked for a sister. This is my biggest regret. Eventually my mom began fostering children. Most of them were rather troubled and came from bad homes. I didn\u2019t mind this but slowly all attention left me. Of course as a child this hurt me. I never complained though, I understood these kids needed help. I said nothing.\n\nA couple kids later my mom moved in a girlfriend (Wes). Wes was awful, jealous of all of us in the house. She complained constantly about the kids, got into screaming fights with my mom. I hated it. Not long after she became physical with me and would hit me and such when my mom wasn\u2019t around. I never mentioned it to my mom because ever since she began bringing kids into the house she was only ever stressed. I thought Wes made her happy. Then during an argument Wes showed up at my moms job and outed her. She had to quit because of the treatment she received from her coworkers regardless of working there for 8 years at this point.\n\nWhen I was about 13, roughly two years after Wes left I told my mom that she beat me. My mom got upset and didn\u2019t believe me. I don\u2019t think to this day she does.\n\nFast forward. I\u2019m now 18. I have four other siblings and she doesn\u2019t know how to raise them. She has raised three entitled children and never disciplines them. Technically I had to raise them for the most part of my teenage years. I care for two of them but I don\u2019t see them as siblings. The other two I couldn\u2019t care less about. I hate them. They\u2019re practically leeches on my family. My mom knows hardly nothing about me anymore because I stay in my room to avoid the *constant* screaming and cursing that ensues. My mom used to never scream. I wasn\u2019t a problem child when I was young but I did struggle for a couple years as a teenager. I don\u2019t feel like her child when her favorite is present. He\u2019s eight and acts like he\u2019s three. He talks like a baby when he wants to be spoiled and throws tantrums. The other is violent. He tells my mom no and has said he wants to kill her. He\u2019s seven. He physically lashes out at the others if he gets mad while playing. I resent them. My mom is a great woman, she\u2019s not abusive, she tries... but I think she bit off too much than she can chew. Family never wants to be around anymore and they\u2019ve ruined everything. I can\u2019t find a drop of care for the worst two and I\u2019m almost indifferent with the other two. I know I shouldn\u2019t hate them and if I wanted to mend things bad enough not to give up but I\u2019m so so tired. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PIeQrr6sIuVHwabpjeoHtszdYcgIO4a7", "post_id": "b45i3q", "action": {"description": "telling someone that all his beats sounded the same", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling someone that all his beats sounded the same?", "text": "This happened a little while ago, but I feel bad about it, and I want to know if I'm in the wrong.\n\nBackground:\n- I am a music producer, I make electronic music, so I feel I know a decent amount of producing, although not the same genre.\n- This kid goes to the same school, and is pretty popular, most people know him (I'll call him John).\n- He makes rap beats, which I don't know as much about\n\nSo a lot of people follow him and like his beats, including one of my friends, who is, apparently, a fan. My friend pulls up John's beats quite a bit while we are waiting before school, and he plays them off his phone and shows me. I usually tell him that John's beats are good, but I don't like the genre: big genre difference in what we produce. \n\nOne day I was taking with my friend, and I told him that John's beats all sounded the same to me, because that is what I honestly thought. This is most likely because my friend plays John's beats off his phone, which doesn't give the best quality playback. (I listened to them later and they weren't as similar as I thought, although still pretty similar imo.) \n\nAt this time, my friend, the fan, says \"You want to tell that to his face?\" and jokingly I said sure, because I didn't know John was walking up to us. My friend says \"Ok, let's tell him\" which I then started saying \"nuh nuh nuh nuh no,\" but my friend walked over to John and told him that I thought all his beats sounded the same. Since this is true, I wasn't going to deny it and I said \"yeah, they sound similar to me.\"\n\nLater, John posted on his Instagram which said \"Being told all your beats sound the same is the worst fucking criticism you can get.\" Now I heavily disagree as a fellow producer, there's much worse things you can be told, but my friend showed me this and I felt bad (and still do), because it was never my intention to hurt John or attack his beats.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "N8iQFHCUsBtA8z8EkSrwOKj6Q780BRlW", "post_id": "acem8d", "action": {"description": "not wanting some space w my Spotify playlists", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for not wanting some space w my Spotify playlists?", "text": "-\tWife and I have Bluetooth speakers all through the house. Listen to music every afternoon cooking dinner together. Wife and My musical tastes overlap moderately. \n-\tuse Spotify. I love my Discover Weekly, have been using it for a couple years. I take the songs I like best and add them to a special playlist; I am very proud of this playlist and think it\u2019s awesome.\n-\twife recently started following me on Spotify. Today we are driving, she\u2019s added a bunch of songs from my playlist to *her* playlist. Like a chunk of the songs added. \n-\tNow we are listening to music and idk if we are in her playlist or my playlist. \n\nTold my wife I wanted her to delete at least *some* of the songs or else at play them in different order, she\u2019s pissed. \n\nAITA for wanting wife to find her own music to bring to the table from any other one of a billion places? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "k3dMatJeEujtUQo86VYAaYJiN4k12omM", "post_id": "ba33ec", "action": {"description": "befriending a guy just because I thought his female friend was cute", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for befriending a guy just because I thought his female friend was cute?", "text": "This happened a bit over a year ago. I had just gotten into lifting weights some time before that so I'd go to my college gym regularly. There I'd often see one of the Chinese international students with a Chinese girl who'd usually go around the same times I went.\n\nThe girl was really cute, really my type, but first of all I thought they probably were a couple and if they weren't I still wasn't sure how to get to know her. \n\nTo make progress I decided to approach the guy and told him that I'd seen him around and asked him how he managed to convince his girlfriend to work out with him because it seemed impossible with mine (that was a lie since I was single at the time though). Not his girlfriend he told me, just a friend and that they'd had to take an introductory course when they started and then just stuck with it. \n\nSo I'd continue seeing him around, said hi, talked now and then, helped each other out when he or I needed someone to spot, and then we'd also hang out outside the gym sometimes and became friends. \n\nI also got to know the girl and while she is very cute I found that our personalities didn't seem to match at all so I never asked her out or anything. \n\nStill friends with the guy now and we see each other somewhat regularly. Just wondering if I was  an asshole for my initial actions and intentions. Never told him about it either.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wEEopQcDai1lBms7p88tVTO29RBg4VB3", "post_id": "b7wv4t", "action": {"description": "entering my roommate's room and confronting them about their cleanliness", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for entering my roommate's room and confronting them about their cleanliness?", "text": "TL:DR I went into roommate's room behind their back and found that the condition of their room is likely causing a busted a/c unit, along with spiders and roaches in the apartment.\n\n*Important pre-context:* roommate isn't just some random person. They've been one of my closest friends for about 15 years and they recently moved in with me because they were having some financial trouble (by *trouble* I mean reckless spending and no personal budgeting to the point where they couldn't handle their rent on their own).\n\n*Also important to note:* while we're generally comfortable acknowledging each other's personal space at this point, I totally get that it's not typically okay to go into somebody's room without asking first. They've told me since they've moved in that if I needed anything for the common areas that they haven't yet unpacked or we initially didn't think we'd have room for, I was welcome to go into their room, and 'rummage' through their boxes to get it. I still feel like a shitty person for going in though, so I'm having trouble deciding how to feel about and approach the following situation.\n\nBefore they moved in, I was already aware that their cleanliness isn't all that great. So I made a point to make sure we had an understanding that I don't care what they do behind closed doors in their room and bathroom, as long as they respect the common areas and to keep in mind that my apartment has been known to host spiders with a cockroach or two (gross, I know), especially during warmer weather. Because of this I've always been super anal about making sure my place is clean, as in no food or dirty dishes lying around, no clothes on the floors, nothing that could potentially make these asshole critters think I'm running a buggy-brothel. Basically I told them, obviously it's your room, your bathroom, do what you want, but be mindful about the basics.\n\nIt's been about three months now. Their door is always closed and we're on completley opposite sleep and work schedules, so aside from the weekends, it's rare that we even cross paths. Noticed a week ago that the central air didn't seem to be cooling. I had this problem last summer, so I told my friend that if it got too warm or stuffy, just open their window and let me know that way I'm not trying to force the air unit to overwork with windows open. They insisted they were fine, but okay. Air seemed to be okay for a few days until it this week, I noticed it again. Except this time the register was reading under 60 even though my bedroom and the living room felt like a sauna. Asked them if they had the window open, and if they noticed the warmth at all. They said no, they were fine. Figured I'd just put in a maintenance ticket tomorrow morning and have them look at. Brushed it off, turned the unit off and opened all the windows knowing I went through this with them last year.\n\n*continued in comments due to length*", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KQfqY4NupcgQR1hVwCQsSbpJonQFgW9H", "post_id": "aliqmh", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she should get tested for stds", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend she should get tested for STDs?", "text": "  \n\nLast semester my close friend and now roommate started a casual sex/FWB sort of situation with a guy in her class. It was on and off because this guy was a major dick who constantly tried to convince her she had feelings for him, called her stupid and made fun of her body. She would get upset at him and block him, but then he would find ways to talk to her and say he just wanted to be friends, only for them to fuck again and him to start being a dick to her again. He heavily implies that he has feelings for her all the time. Also at the beginning, he asked her to get on the pill so they could have at it without condoms (she refused, by the way, but this is relevant.)\n\nShe makes a new friend and the friend is complaining that there\u2019s a guy she\u2019s been wanting to date but he keeps saying \u201cI want to commit, but I don\u2019t know that I\u2019m in a place for it. Just give me a few months.\u201d He\u2019s been doing this for over a year, and she\u2019s turned down some amazing guys as a result. Eventually, the two realize they\u2019ve been complaining about the same guy. They also realize he regularly fucked them right after the other. \n\nThey go to confront him, he gaslights them, says stuff like \u201cI fucked her to make sure I really liked you\u201d and is just generally a terrible person\u2014no shock. I wait outside for them for support, and to make sure they were safe and drive them back to the apartments. On the way back they\u2019re making a bunch of realizations, like \u201cOh my god, that\u2019s why he was in such a rush to get me out of his apartment last weekend,\u201d \u201cThat explains the condom I found one time!\u201d etc. \n\nRecalling these incidents, my friend goes, \u201cGod, he could have half a dozen girls on rotation and none of them might even know\u2026\u201d and the other girl goes, \u201cHe wouldn\u2019t be above that!\u201d As my friend and I are going into our apartment after saying goodbye, I tell my friend, \u201cMaybe you should get an STD panel done, just in case.\u201d Allow me to reiterate that she and I are very open about our sex lives. My friend simply goes, \u201cOh yeah, good point. I\u2019ll make an appointment.\u201d The other girl overhears me saying this and gets furious:\n\n\u201cAre you implying that I have STDs? That jackass stole my virginity!\u201d\n\nI apologize profusely to her, explaining that I didn\u2019t think she had any STDs, rather that there\u2019s no way of knowing how many girls were involved, and that given his desire not to use condoms, he might have something. She gets even more mad, calling me insensitive for suggesting that she was further duped and for bringing up such a sore topic so soon. I apologize again since it is, after all, a very fresh wound and I understand why she\u2019d be upset.\n\nShe and my friend haven\u2019t talked since, and I feel like I am partially to blame. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "luZB3mNCxwoFSPwpJabDzWorIoNIkZG8", "post_id": "b5m0pq", "action": {"description": "wanting my money and my pictures", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting my money and my pictures?", "text": "So some back story. I hosted a room for Anime Milwaukee at the Hilton fir a weekend, nearly everyone paid up within a few weeks, except for the 5th member of the room who I was even being generous and took 20 bucks off pictures taken of my Crowley cosplay.\n\nFast forward nearly 2 months later and I have yet to receive any money or even my pictures from the 5th member. I have repeatedly told him I need that money so that I could pay off what I owe to the card company and even after having his buddy who was the 4th member of the group offer to pay his amount, nothing from this dude. I called him out on Facebook and I'm getting called an asshole by him and his new girlfriend for calling him a deadbeat debtor and laying out our drama on the web. So am I the asshole for wanting the $80.82 or I should make it the original $100.82 to pay off the card and wanting my pictures for the con?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NJXUJqhSe3N1igq4EhysVVAsIrhtY0JJ", "post_id": "asc389", "action": {"description": "taking a parking spot", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for taking a parking spot?", "text": "If you've driven on a college campus then you know parking garages are cut throat. In a full garage, a parked car directly in  front of me turned on their reverse lights about to free up their spot. At the same time, a car searching for a spot \\~1.5 car lengths ahead of me put their car in reverse and backed up to the spot (no reverse parking allowed on Campus, this car would have to be where I was in order to legally park). She then waved me to go around her so she could have her car where I was in order to park in this spot. I just laughed at her, while we maintained eye contact through her side mirror. She is now screaming (not sure what, my windows were up) and flipping me off. She then backs as close to my car as she possibly can (thus blocking in the neutral third party car just trying to get out of their spot). And she stares at me, waiting for me to leave. I just smiled and shrugged (I know this can be particularly frustrating when you're mad at someone and they just smile at you). She gave up after about 30 seconds and drove away, alleviating the parked car and giving me the spot.  This is the point where I wondered if I technically should give her the spot? I mean I was pretty certain that one isn't entitled to a spot behind them but her conviction really seemed convincing. However, sh decided to reverse her car again, parking it perpendicular to my recently parked car and rolled her window down. And I quote: \"You are a bad person. You are a piece of shit for this.\" I just smiled and laughed again \"I'm a bad person because you didn't get your parking spot? I guess it's so, I'm evil.\" She got peppered up by this also, raising her voice \"Do you know what karma is? You're cursed with bad karma for being an asshole. Fuck you.\"  I had to get one last question in; \"Why would you think it is okay for you to reverse into a spot?\" \n\n\"BECAUSE I SAW IT FIRST YOU FUCKING IDIOT\" she screamed as she sped away. \n\nI started to insult her, but before I could get the first syllables out she was gone.\n\n​\n\nAITA here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JEwvmwImPqtV7p3xA0KTwfyFuipt7bGj", "post_id": "atmjad", "action": {"description": "asking for an open relationship", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking for an open relationship?", "text": "Early on in our relationship my GF and I discovered sex was quite painful for her. She said she had only 1 previous partner so she was unsure whether it was from being her first time at the time but we quickly confirmed this was not the case.  \n\n\nWe were still intimate and things led to sex here and there but less and less so from either her not wanting to hurt or me not wanting to hurt her. We looked into our options medically and psychologically. Both of us had seen a documentary on Vaginismus some time back and believed it may have been that. We looked into treatments, tried dilators, as well as numbing agents, switched condoms in case of latex allergies and even looked into extended or alternate methods of foreplay.  \n\n\nAfter a while my GF stopped trying. She stopped the treatments we were trying and discontinued looking into anything else. The intimacy fell off somewhat but we were still affectionate, sex stopped entirely. This continued for a few years with her avoiding the issue until one day a friend in an open relation propositioned me.  \n\n\nI had reassured my GF that I loved her and had no intention of leaving her due to her medical condition on many occasions, that being said I thoroughly enjoyed sex, especially with her. So I brought it up. I explained to my GF that I had been propositioned and though I would prefer having sex with her, seeing as that was not a viable option was the only reason I would seriously consider having sex with someone else. After a couple weeks we had agreed to give me a hall pass of sorts, I had gotten the friend to get tested for STDs to take that worry out of the equation after which we arranged our get together.  \n\n\nLong story short, the sex didn't happen. I learned some things that made me call it off. Over the next two weeks my GF became more distant then broke up with me. AITA?\n\n​\n\nThings I think people might ask about:  \nMy GF and I were mildly size incompatible. I am of above average girth and she was below average size. (lil humblebrag)  \nShe was unable/unwilling to fit me in her mouth and her handjobs were terrible. So, anything I did was not reciprocated.  \nShe was adamantly against butt stuff, so we did not try it.  \nThe relationship lasted 6 years. We confirmed that sex was painful for her all the time at 3 months.  \nShe stopped being willing to try treatments at 2 years. I was celibate for the remainder of the relationship.  \nWe (us+doctors) figured the problem was either Viginismus or Vulvar Vestibulitis but were unable to confirm either.  \nShe did have some signs of possibly having been sexually abused but I figured she would share if she felt comfortable and wanted to so I didn't ask.  \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4IWOm5QUOJEp6EXsc3Zc6TEYAZTatI52", "post_id": "b3w9hb", "action": {"description": "not choosing a mate's side in a conflict between two close friends", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not choosing a mate's side in a conflict between two close friends.", "text": "So two of my friends are in a conflict for the past 3 months by now. We are doing our masters together and we know each other for almost 2 years by now. Both of them are part of my closest friends, while he is part of a (male) buddy group of 4 (including me), she is just one of my dearest and the person I can about everything (e.g. family). Their conflict started with an argument about sustainability and to be honest I don't know too much about it for sure, since both sides have told me their part of the story and since they are quite different. I always told both of them that I want to be friends with both of them and therefore I won't pick a side in this.\n\nNow today a lot of people from my master were at our library, since everyone is working on their thesis. So that's her, me, and a couple of other friends. Starting today we have a stand at our university selling wine (we have those around the year and it changes from wine, to beer to mulled wine, depending on the season). He, being at work in another part of the city asked me if I wanted to meet up and have a wine. Where I was like \"sure thing, I am here anyways, looking forward to it\". and he told me he would be around at 7.30. After that he asked me if I know about someone else who's at the library and if they would come aswell. So at the time I didn't know who's at the library and I didn't care since I was knee-deep in several articles about crypto economics. So I told him that I don't know. Another friend of mine then messaged me because of something different and we talked about it and I asked her if she wanted to meet up and have a wine aswell. After that the group grew and grew, without me really knowing about it. And in the end it included the friend he is in a conflict with. So when he wrote me he's on his way know I told him where we are and who is with me at the moment. He just replied something like \"phew\", realizing the other friend would be there. To which I replied \";)\". Half an hour later (he should have arrived like 10 minutes after those messages) he sent me something like \"Nah, maybe some other day, I do not have the patience for that. Not coming at all is easier than the confrontation\". I didn't reply immediatelly and he sent me another message saying: \"if you had given that piece of information earlier I could at least have saved the time I spent on the way here\".\n\nI'm not sure what to reply, since they both know my stance of being friends with both of them and not even wanting to have to choose. Also I told her, that he was coming, and she was like \"sure, I don't have a problem with that, I just won't talk to him. But we are like 10 people, so I dont have to.\". So in the end I am asking you... AITA?\n\nEDIT: Spelling in the first sentence", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MWSGJazF5Sm15cVCTOGYFxm5IAXogRta", "post_id": "avx0c8", "action": {"description": "applying to the my friend's dream school", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for applying to the my friend's dream school?", "text": "Hey everyone. Throwaway for semi-obvious reasons, and as always, apologies for formatting since I'm on mobile.\n\n\nI'll try to keep this short. I'm a high school senior at a public school, and we've all been going through the college application process for the past few months. I'm in a friend group of six people, and we've all been supportive of each other throughout the months of applications and now through decision time.\n\n\nLast December, I realized that I really liked one of my friends' dream schools--a school that I had told him I wasn't originally planning on applying to because of the city it's in. I texted him asking if he was okay with me applying, and he said it was alright, so I did. We don't know who got in yet, since they don't release it till early April.\n\nToday, one of my friends told me that he is resentful of me for applying. It's a quite small school, and therefore it's unlikely that they would accept both of us, and I have somewhat higher test scores, which I think he's worried might edge him out in the college's decision between us. I feel really guilty, but I don't want to withdraw my application, since I really like the school--I'm hopefully visiting it this weekend and I'm super excited. But this has all been a recent change of opinion on my part, so I think he may believe I applied on a whim, and I see his point. He's not been very nice to me over the past few weeks, and I now know why--but he's not mentioned this at allto me since I applied.\n\nI'm really at a loss about this. I tried to keep this short, so if anyone needs more details, I can provide them.\nThanks everyone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YVthsjzTQBxYhMjEGJcGqxhqHAsC00KB", "post_id": "ad98sc", "action": {"description": "walking in front a person recording at a wrestling meet", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for walking in front a person recording at a wrestling meet?", "text": "I'm at a youth wrestling meet, this place is seriously packed with hardly any room to move. My 5 year old son and I were headed to our seats in the bleachers after his match and another spectator told us we couldn't go through because the person next to her, I believe they were together, was recording a match. I stood there for a second and then picked my son up and said \"Sorry if I'm a jerk,\" and then walked through. \n\nIt should be noted that a wrestling match at this level can be as long as 5 minutes, and I couldn't guarantee that another parent wouldn't be recording a match by the time she was done. \n\nReddit, am I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t0PDCDBCJDyZr4Ui9kSTurfYs9V1iy8v", "post_id": "aoef2x", "action": null, "title": "AITA", "text": "Okay formatting is probably gonna suck because I'm on mobile and sorry in advance for spelling and punctuation.\n\n\nThis might get long. Today I slept all day from 9am from 4pm and the reason why is because I have a 1 year old and our sleep schedules got messed when she was sick last week now to the story. Will come up later\n\nMy bf got home from work and kept trying to wake me up knowing I didnt go to sleep until early, because I texted him telling him. Well he finally stopped and ended up going to a friends house which is fine. I called him when I woke up and he asked if we needed anything. I told him no but I'd like some ice cream and he said okay he would try. \n\n He gets home about an hour later tells me what he did all day and then I wash his clothes like he asked me to. He works in a dirty job and can't hold or play with our daughter until he washes up and I asked him, why didnt he just take a bath while we were asleep and he said because he doesn't like going out after taking a bath okay whatever.      \n        So we talk for a while I asked when he was gonna take a bath he said he'd go then. so I sit down to feed my daughter whose breastfeeding and and up falling asleep when I wake up he's talking on the phone in the bathroom and I assume he's taking a bath when I go in there he still hasn't and has drank a number of beers and was visibly drunk which he knows frustrates me.\n         So I was already a little upset but I've learned to get over it because he doesn't care that I dont like it. Then he gets in the tub and starts talking crazy and talking about work but hes going from one subject to another and i get confused and he says hes hungry and so I make him a pizza and tell him it will be 20 minutes and then I see him open another beer which makes me mad and I tell him hes drunk and it upsets me when he does and he turns it around and makes me feel bad about telling him hes drunk.\n    I leave and come back 10 minutes later and hes laying down nearly drowning so I try and get him up before he dies in the tub. And he tells me to stop being so mean to him and I tell him I had to yell because he wasnt getting up when I was nudging him. But then he started passing out again and I get mad as hell because I'm crying and trying to talk to him and I pour his ice cold 25 oz. Of beer on him and slam the door he screams \"wtf is wrong with you?\" and starts getting out. He then gets out and goes to bed as I'm still crying with my daughter in my arms and he doesn't say anything. I tried to get him up to eat but I didnt try hard I'm losing my mind this is the only thing we ever really fight about. And he's an amazing boyfriend and father in ever other aspect of our relationship but I dont know if I can take not even sleeping I'm my bed with him when he drinks because he has accidents\n He also broke his face in 3 places about 6 months ago because he got drunk in the tub and fell and he was even mad I made him go the the hospital because he was coughing up blood and now has hospital bills.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4flI4syjmRt7fOqkDwd16ri5iOReu7r0", "post_id": "az12xg", "action": {"description": "flipping off a woman on the street last night", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for flipping off a woman on the street last night", "text": "This is going to be fairly short, so I don't think I need a TLDR. I'm also fairly sure I was the asshole here, but I'd like some feedback anyway.\n\nIt was fairly late at night and I was walking back to my room. It gets pretty deserted around here real fast after dark, so there was barely anyone around. I had headphones on and was pretty much just daydreaming about my bed, so I don't notice her at all until she started waving her hand, not quite in my face but a short distance away.\n\nI'm a bit confused, so I take off my headphones and ask, \"Hey, can I help you?\"\n\nLady: \"I'm sorry, I don't feel comfortable walking alone with you around. Could you please cross the road and walk on the other side?\"\n\nI totally understand her being concerned about her safety, but I was tired, hungry and  had a frustrating day, and I guess it just rubbed me the wrong way. I got pissed off and said, \"I'm not going across the road twice for you. Feel free to do it yourself if you like. I'd be delighted to walk far, far in front of you, though, so you can keep me in your sight. In fact, let me get started on that.\"\n\nI started storming off, and from behind me she calls out to me to wait. I flipped her off and put my headphones back on so I couldn't hear her anymore.\n\nI felt really guilty about it once I reached my room and the frustration wore off. I am a major feminist, and I totally understand her concerns. I guess I just had a bad day, and when she asked me I took it the wrong way.\n\nWow, on rereading this, I feel like a colossal asshole. Lady, if you're reading this, I'm really sorry. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "unjbcCSKGUul5PfKJHiHe5YtxsP0NS0m", "post_id": "b6dh24", "action": {"description": "leaving my job after 5 months to pursue more education", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for leaving my job after 5 months to pursue more education??", "text": "Very recently, I put in my two weeks notice with my boss after having worked at the company for 5 months. He didn\u2019t give me the best reaction, saying I \u201cshould have told him I was thinking about grad school during my interview\u201d and that \u201cmaybe if you had told us, we would have chosen someone else\u201d. Well, if you would have chosen someone else, then why didn\u2019t he ask what my short term plans were? I\u2019m pretty sure during an interview he\u2019s the one asking the questions, not me. Plus, I really wasn\u2019t sure at the time whether I\u2019d end up leaving soon or not. I was genuinely interested in the position. In my opinion, my boss should\u2019ve been more supportive since I\u2019m a young guy still trying to figure out what to do with my life. The company definitely has enough money to survive without me, and his response showed just how little he cares about the growth of the people beneath him. The work policy states I have the right to terminate my employment at any time, so AITA for resigning so soon?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "T8S4WjoDQJQ8mzdvOoLx5hQvzv5lOhVF", "post_id": "alaply", "action": {"description": "not wanting to stay out past midnight watching people play games", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not wanting to stay out past midnight watching people play games?", "text": "This is long and rantish and im sorry. My main questions are at the bottom.\n\n\nSo every Tuesday my boyfriend goes to our friends house to watch movies. Usually they'll play games til around 7, then start a movie and at the latest be done by 10. I started going with him when I lived with my parents still so I had a curfew of 11pm. Reasonable. Then we moved in together, and started working tuesdays so i had to stop going. I was okay with it and every once in a while id have a Tuesday off where I can go watch movies. \n\nSide note: he also has game nights at our apartment 2-4 times every week that usually last past midnight. I have issues sleeping so its hard for me to fall asleep with a lot of noise and when he comes to bed eventually. \n\nSo today I was getting off at 2 and he gets picked up near me at 4, so i decided to go. I cant have my phone out at work, so I never got any of his messages which he knows. He first tected me saying movie night might be cancelled, which happens sometimes. Then he said WE were going to play games at friends house. We do this sometimes too, and try to wrap up around 10 so no one has to drive very far at night (the farthest someone lives from friemds house is 40 miles/about an hour in our area even at night)\nI texted him when I got off saying id be okay with that. \nSo we show up at friends house at 4:15, its not 12:30am and they decided to play smash for 8.5 hours. Never inviting me to play, they didnt stop for food, and they only played the same fucking game the whole time. \nThis isnt the first time its happened and hes even called it a \"date night in\" before. The closest thing weve had to a date in the last 8 months is one of these movie nights we went to see a movie in theaters. He has work every week day and has to get up at 5:30am and complains about being tired all the time. \n\n\nSo now to my questions\n\n1. Would I be an asshole if I told him he needs to stop having all these game nights past 11p?\n\n2. Would I be an asshole if I told him he both A) needs to be WAY more clear as to what \"we'll\" be doing if plans get cancelled and B) i will not be going out with him and his friends unless I know whats going to happen?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8ycV7zopJlLvKXmIdHFf8GnvlliuWvTd", "post_id": "a6mkjq", "action": {"description": "being upset", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being upset?", "text": "My bf is a 30/m and I\u2019m a 25/f. \n\nHe doesn\u2019t compliment me and takes little jabs at me when he can. \n\nFor example, I got a Brazilian wax last month. He never commented on how smooth or nice it felt. I even was like mmmm I like how soft my vagina is and he looks at me awkwardly and says nothing. Three weeks later he was like wow, did you shave recently because it looks stubbly like it\u2019s growing back in? I was like what the fuck kind of weird fucking question is that? \n\nAlso, I was wearing nice lipstick for a holiday party and my lips looked freaking good and I did my makeup all nice. He doesn\u2019t say a word about my makeup or anything but later says wow, you got some food on your lip. And when he kissed me he was like mmm... you have some dry skin on the side of your lip. \n\nI just started to wear more makeup. I was nervous about looking terrible but I like doing it and wanted to get better. Literally the next day after I start trying to do my makeup more we are watching a movie and he comments on how this girl on TV is wearing way too much makeup. He has never said that about any tv character ever. \n\nHe also said he knew my Boobs were fake cause they\u2019re too perky (no one has ever in my life made any negative comment about my tits) and sometimes when we lie down he tried to smoosh them down to make them flatter. He also won\u2019t touch my boobs unless I ask him to. \n\nHe also made some shitty remark at my holiday party. I dressed up all nice and my friend put his scarf on my head and my boyfriend leans over and says jokes on him, your dandruff is all over his scarf now.\n\nAlso, he has lots of trouble cumming when fucking me. He fakes orgasms at times. He initiated sex but stops often in the middle and says he can\u2019t get off because he jacked earlier that day. He mentions trying to workout more to help him be better and have better sex. I workout often and ask him to join me and he often declines. \n\nHe regularly takes over a day to respond to my messages also. \n\nI never make him feel bad about anything. I always am positive, happy, and every time I see him I make sure to thank him for something or compliment something about him. He says he loves me because I accept him and he can be himself with me. I dunno why I never feel that way with him though. He goes to an event of mine. I thank him five times for going out of his way to be with me and tell him how much I appreciate it. \n\n**TLDR: am I the asshole and being too sensitive about my boyfriends little negative remarks and difficulty with as ?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ri8Tqcp0pNJ9Wif650Fs6OxBENJEfX5R", "post_id": "9vl2bs", "action": {"description": "apologizing to my ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA for apologizing to my ex?", "text": "So my ex and I have been broken up for two years, we dated for three years. I broke up with her because we were in a long distance relationship for 2 months (we both had to go different colleges) and I felt extremely depressed (being in a new environment, not knowing anyone or anything, being alone) and confused about life. So I messaged her telling her I wanted a breakup, telling her my situation and she basically didn't give a shit. So after breaking up with her and even though she didn't care about me, I instantly regretted it and felt even more alone, wondering how someone could be so cruel and uncaring after I spent 3 years with them, and fell into an even deeper depression. I felt so bad I even had thoughts of self-harm. Five months later I felt horrible and I felt so alone, so I texted my ex, telling her I really missed her and that I loved her and she coldly told me to stop contacting her. I've sent her a few texts over the years but I think she blocked me and is mad at me since she hasn't responded (though the texts I've sent are very friendly). Thing is, I think things have really cooled down, my depression has gotten better, and since we haven't talked for over a year, I was wondering if I would be the asshole to try and smooth things over and possibly get the relationship back or is she the asshole for not even trying and listening?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MoJJGKSMtz3Nf6wnUREhB4B00tG8G8c4", "post_id": "aldfim", "action": {"description": "not wanting a classmate to use my stuff", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a classmate to use my stuff?", "text": "Hello everyone,\n\nI wanted to ask for your opinion on the following situation:\n\nI started college this summer (in my country, you start college at around 16 y/o so that's the age of everyone including me in this story), and of course, new class, new people, some you'll like, some that you don't, whatever. But this one guy keeps annoying me.\n\n​\n\nHe continues to just take my stuff without my permission, and I'm not sure whether I'm the asshole for getting upset.\n\nIt happened a few times already, with him just taking away my electric eraser in art class after I told him I didn't feel comfortable to lend it to other people because I already nearly broke it once, and was afraid someone else might would, and that it was nothing personal (also he didn't really need it, our teacher does offer normal erasers, I just tend to press really hard with my pencils, and because it takes more force to erase my strokes, I often wrinkle the paper, hence I use the electric eraser). I am sure that I wasn't at fault for being mad in that situation, but then this happened:\n\n​\n\nSo, I tend to make long summaries about topics for studying, because that's the way I learn best. They contain my notes, and everything I think is important from Word documents, handouts and books, and they take a lot of time. I share them with a friend, and she shares hers with me so I don't have to make one for every class, and I made one for our last Chemistry Exam. I didn't have much time the weekend or the days before the exam, so I wasn't sure I knew everything and minutes before the test I'm anxiously reading through this printed-out summary I made, and this guy walks up to me and asks me a question. I already know I'm not going to know the answer and interrupt him, saying that I don't know, and continue to read my summary. He then grabs the paper and yanks it out of my hands. \n\nMe: \"Uhm, what the heck?\"\n\nHe: \"I'm just looking for the answer, I need it right now\"\n\nMe: \\*getting upset bc this isn't the first time and I don't know shit for this exam\\* \"Yeah, well I need it too. And it's mine, I worked hours on this, I want to read through it now because I don't know everything either, and you didn't even ask. Give it back to me.\n\nHe: \"I just need to loo it up\"\n\nMe: \"The exam literally starts in like two minutes, we don't have the time to both look through the whole thing. I need it, you can't just take my stuff! Give it back to me now!\" \\*grabs it back\\*\n\nHe: \"Wtf chill I just wanted to look for the answer to my question\"\n\nI then ignored him and proceeded rereading everything. It wasn't like I was looking through the page that he wanted to read too, then we both could have looked at it. I wanted to finish the part I started reading then, because I couldn't remeber the stuff there.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for not letting him read through my notes? I kind of feel bad, I understand that he maybe was nervous too, but he wasn't polite about it, and if we had more time I would have let him borrow it to look it up. \n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "60xc2KdTFurpqci8Ai6lt1Av8Gbvn1PL", "post_id": "am3fe9", "action": {"description": "skipping the line", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for skipping the line?", "text": "I have to go to the post office frequently at the end of the work day to send out certified mailings. And because it's the end of the work day, the post office is often busy with up to 15 people in line at a time. Now most of these people are waiting to pay for postage or buy a book of stamps, but my items already have postage on them. That means all I need on my part is the certified mailing ticket date stamped with the post office stamp. I can achieve this by walking up to the counter and asking one of the USPS workers for the stamp. This does not interfere with the clerk's ability to help the customer already at the counter and takes less than 5 seconds to complete. So AITA for bypassing the line?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4R4VwmD5fTjlvMuEYswyGNTHNY6Sl4Kv", "post_id": "as7ys4", "action": {"description": "batting away a lady's hand when she tried to touch my hair", "pronormative_score": 122, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for batting away a lady\u2019s hand when she tried to touch my hair", "text": "Some important background information is that I really don\u2019t like being touched. I used to cry and scream when I was a kid and strangers tried to touch me. I\u2019ve gotten better with it as I\u2019ve gotten older but it still makes my skin crawl. It\u2019s also important to know that my natural hair color is a little unusual and my hair is really long. \n\nI was at the grocery store standing in like when I feel someone tugging on my hair. I turn around and I see this lady holding on to the end of my hair in one and and her phone in the other, trying to take a picture. She drops my hair and I instinctively take a step back. \n\nThis obviously isn\u2019t word for word but, to my best recollection, this is the conversation we had:\n\n> Me: What are you doing?\nLady: Your hair is so pretty! I wanted to take a picture to show my stylist so that she can dye my hair that color. You must let me take a picture!\nMe: I\u2019m really not comfortable with that and I\u2019d really appreciate it if you didn\u2019t touch me again. \nLady: You can\u2019t have hair like that and expect people not to touch it. It\u2019s just too pretty. Here, let me take a photo. \n\nAt this point, the lady reaches out to grab my hair again and I instinctively bat her hand away. She looks shocked for a second and then starts to get angry. \n\n> Lady: How dare you hit me. I was just trying to take a photo to show my stylist. What\u2019s wrong with you?\n\nNow everyone is staring and I\u2019m starting to tear up so I drop my basket and walk out of the store. I told my husband what happened when I got home and, though he agreed that the lady was being rude, he thinks I escalated things by batting her hand away. He thinks I should\u2019ve just walked away. AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 122, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 122, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iucUSN245AtfryKa7ZU1UxkJdkxIC9k1", "post_id": "a5a5f2", "action": {"description": "making out with one of my friends", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for making out with one of my friends ?", "text": "so it was this summer. We're both 16. We're not too close friends. Last day of school I was so emotional and she was too. We drunk couple of beers and started making out. One day later we met at the park and kissed a little bit top. Then I grap her ass and she said \"don't do it.\" and didn't do anything. In the evening we started texting and I want some nudes from her. She said that she can't do it, I was totally fine for me and I kinda felt that what we did, it was wrong. I told her I don't wanna see her for a long time and it was disgusting. She said she love me and she wanna hug me, she wanna text me, emojies and lots of bullshits. Then she told this situation whole class and now my whole classmates hate me, don't want to talk with me. I know what we did it was wrong but we did it together. And the worst part they are still talking with her and they just hate me. I really don't know why do they hate me. Am I did something wrong? AITA ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "H66ovajLCyFAd56J0L7MwKcRgrg8eDt3", "post_id": "agkjpt", "action": {"description": "canceling a tinder date to go see another girl", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for canceling a tinder date to go see another girl?", "text": "I was talking to two girls on tinder, (Sophie and Mary). I went to three dates with Sophie and i'm going to see Mary for the first time today. The problem is that Sophie said yesterday that she wants something serious, now I feel bad because i'm going to see Mary. I also want something serious and i really like Sophie. We planned the date with Mary before I knew that Sophie wanted something serious. \n\nWIBTA if i called Mary and said is better to not meet? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "beXOhCmmMvxKNSoSYLWZ1w0BC4ELXMTF", "post_id": "abiihp", "action": {"description": "\"yelling\" at my neighbors", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \"yelling\" at my neighbors?", "text": "A bit of background. We moved into our house a year ago. We only have neighbors on one side. When my husband met them they introduced themselves as the fun neighbors. The are probably 30 years older. A few weeks later we turned on the sprinklers one morning after a hot period. Have never used them before. We go to the store and as leaving lady neighbor asks if we knew they were on and I said yes, we turned them on because of the past heat. She says, \"oh thank you, I was painting\" we say sorry right away, I guess the ones nearby hit her? We go to the store and our ring goes off. She has taped the county approved times to our door. Since then we do the approved time, hardly anyone in the neighborhood adheres to this.\n\nAnyways I feel like they ignored us a long time and we've finally gotten back into saying hello. Last night was the second new year's here. We live in a hoa community and fireworks are illegal in the state but definitely not enforced. Second year in a row they have set real, big fireworks off on their driveway. Our houses are maybe ten feet apart. I didn't say anything last year but this year one went crazy and ended up in our backyard. It bounced, went off and shot out everywhere really low.\n\nI got fed up and went outside. I said \"hey can you guys cut it out? That last one just went off in my backyard.\" The guy neighbor said \"happppy new year\" and I said \"seriously, it's 9pm, I have a baby sleeping, come on\" Then the lady neighbor said \"whaaaaat?\" I just said \"very neighborly\" and went inside. Now I know we will be back to ignoring each other and I'm just wondering AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OrmGRTTw85nIeumKxyK0Fb178JyCfwmM", "post_id": "aozqod", "action": {"description": "letting a resident know they weren't being nice to me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for letting a resident know they weren't being nice to me", "text": "Context: I work at a assisted living home in the kitchen during lunch shift I have to set all the tables (theres about 12 tables most are full), make coffee and get menu slips set up some of the residents are early so I talk with them a bit while waiting for the cook to be ready to serve lunch at noon, I serve alone at first until someone is not too busy and helps me after all the food is served I go prepare a cart to start cleaning up dishes when the dinning room is mostly empty after that I clean all the dishes take out the garbage and leave\n\nI'm usually a bubbly and somewhat silly person at work I am female so my voice is higher pitched ,I'm kinda seen as a granddaughter as they find me cute despite being 18 ,I do have ADHD and this also plays into the story in a way\n\nNote:this happened quite a while ago and I only remember most of what I said\n\nI'm serving food at a table and a lady at the next table mocks my voice and calls it annoying so i walk over to confront her saying\n\n\"Lady I dont appreciate being mocked\"\n\nShe calls my voice annoying again \n\n\"You say that as if I can change the way I speak either way that's not very nice of you and I dont appreciate it\"\n\nI walk away and continued serving others\n\nA different time she got annoyed by me moving my arms a bit kinda like a penguin something I do unintentionally wen I'm waiting for more people to serve or something to do I simply said that I couldn't help it that much but that I'd be careful \n\nSince both she has been extra bitchy and expects coffee immediately she brushes off my apologies  and she's caused me stress and frustration that would all go away if she'd lighten up \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pPWot4r6YsJirolWFmChInlxHCQvwabC", "post_id": "aza0vy", "action": {"description": "doubting someone with brain damage", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for doubting someone with brain damage?", "text": "Backstory: i work in a small retail store. There are only 5 of us. Store manager, 2 assistant managers, and 2 cashiers. I am a cashier, the person in question is an assistant manager and was hired about 4 months ago by a temporary store manager while our boss was out due to surgery.\n\nThis person has caused issues in our store from the very beginning. Money mistakes, paperwork mistakes, improper stocking, etc. It has caused a lot of extra work for the rest of us. His explanation for all this is a brain surgery/brain damage issue from 4 years ago. Fair enough, although he did not disclose this when he was hired. We've all done our best to help him. He's been trained and retrained. It's just not sticking. \n\nThough he's been driving me nuts with basically still having no idea how to do his job, I've been patient and kind due to his condition. I figured he really just couldn't help it. But lately I'm beginning to wonder. For one, a lot of his mistakes really just look like he wasn't even trying/paying attention to what he was doing. I've ignored that feeling because i am definitely no expert on brain damage. I don't know what it's like for him. It's some comments he's made recently that have me straight up pissed. The other night he made several math mistakes on the paperwork. We can't leave things incorrect so i pointed them out (gently), and he responded by basically saying he didn't care, the store manager could sort it in the morning, and he didn't care if he was fired. He has made similar comments at other times, both to me and other employees. \n\nIdk, i feel like a giant asshole for judging someone who has a serious medical condition, but I'm not even entirely sure that's the problem at this point. I can no longer tell if he genuinely has trouble understanding things, or if he just has no desire to do his job. I am constantly having to either do his job, or explain his job to him, which isn't even my place because technically he is my superior (i am trained for his position, but haven't taken it on due to availability issues. On paper he is still above me though). Am i an asshole and just need to have more patience? Let me know if more info is needed. Not trying to be vague, the post just got long.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tYBKnv6OJOWWMBbplXrAv7chUWVxqXlb", "post_id": "a04bxv", "action": {"description": "no longer talking to my Father after he walked out on my family", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for no longer talking to my Father after he walked out on my family.", "text": "So two years ago, my parents split up suddenly.  Long story short, my father was having an affair with a woman in another country and decided to pursue that relationship and leave his 43+year marriage in the dust.\n\nThis was a traumatic on my mother, whom I pretty much took care of afterwards for months until I moved away to another city. Anyways, he pretty much packed up his stuff and left without saying goodbye to my brother or I. Everything about my childhood made sense to me in how I grew up and all of the tension in our household and it just all clicked to me. He gambled hundreds of thousands of dollars away, he always disappeared on business trips, we never went on any vacations or did anything as a family.\n\nWhen my father walked out, I didn\u2019t hear from him for a few months. After then, the only time I heard from him was when he would email me about how he\u2019s cutting auto insurance, health insurance, cell phone, etc. as if he was trying to get me to talk to him or something. Every time he threatened to drop something, i did what I needed to in order to get my own coverage since i didn\u2019t want to play his game.\n\nAbout a year and a half later, he finally called me and I blew up on him.  I called him out for not being there when growing up and how I have no real memories of our family doing anything but arguing and blamed him for it. I got left with picking up the pieces of the family and rolling with it while supporting myself in the real world with no one I could fall back on.  I told him that I never wanted to speak to him again and that him being out of my life at this point is the best thing for me. I also told him that I would never treat my future family and kids the way he did and that he will never meet them.\n\nTLDR: Dad divorced my mom for his mistress and walked out on our family all the sudden. Broke my mom, broke my family, cleared up a lot of stuff in my childhood.\n\nAITA for cutting off my dad from my life? He was the one who walked away and I was the one stuck with putting what family I had left back together.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X5VX61ttAglqlJ6DIVSuJpYhKslvPjtY", "post_id": "b2pbt8", "action": {"description": "being a bitch with my teacher", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being a bitch with my teacher", "text": "Because of my large MS size we have to spend time in the classroom for gym for 6 periods. Me and my gym teacher are less than best friends because my mom questioned why i lost my gym grade after an injury halfway through the quarter despite taking tests. During our time in the classroom we've been spending time on google slides projects on fitness. Usually the boys in my class would go to the locker room before getting dismissed by a male gym teacher and we went to the class. After 2 periods of us doing that we stopped. My Mom questioner why i had a 80 as a performance review even though gym was a pretty easy 100. My gym teacher said it was because we didn't show up to class on time. After reading the email my teacher was being very rude and said several times,\" Should I tell your mother you were here on time, should i text your mother. After she said that to me I just kind of looked at her awkwardly. She didn't stop \"Should I text your mother, answer me\" I dryly said, go ahead. She kept talking about how I was late the other days and how bad my work was and how i didn't hand in my project despite having a couple more days to finish it. For every insult i just said, \"Tell it to my mom, she'd be glad to hear it\" Am i the asshole for being sarcastic with my Teacher", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Wacarm3dfGGrGlIFxZdKkK7gsvBmUSdS", "post_id": "as4sl4", "action": {"description": "telling her it's embarrassing that her mom doesn't speak English", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA for telling her it's embarrassing that her mom doesn't speak English?", "text": "So I was talking with a few people at this club meeting at college (it's a club related to our culture) and this one girl started bragging about how her mom didn't speak English despite living in America for 20 years. She was like \"I'm so glad she chose not to assimilate and keep the culture alive at home\". I told her that that's not something to be bragging about, that's actually embarrassing and she shouldn't be proud of her mom having to be dependent on a translator for everything. She then went off on me, called me \"white-washed\" and said that there's nothing wrong with her mom not knowing English.\n\nYea maybe I went a little too far with insulting her mom, but I don't get how you're proud of something like that. It's like bragging that your mom is illiterate. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ERulOQT2ITbzAEUD56xkqbtZlxUfTnlE", "post_id": "a9pfoz", "action": {"description": "getting mad at someone for forgetting something I told them to grab right before we left", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at someone for forgetting something I told them to grab right before we left?", "text": "I am currently on vacation with my family and as we left the hotel room I asked my mom if she packed a charging cord so we can use the battery we had. She said yes and we left the room. Fast forward about 45 minutes when we get to where we were going, she\u2019s in one of the gift shops looking at a 25 dollar charging cord. I ask her why she\u2019s buying it and she explains that she forgot the cord in the hotel room. I get a little irritated and ask why she said she had it in her bag when she didn\u2019t. Both my parents get very defensive and essentially overpower me from talking even though I know that if I had done the same thing, they would have made me feel bad the entire day about it. AITA?\n\nTo add context: my mom insists on carrying the bags when we\u2019re out and about. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7OzPfFPVV5t3pvgnSfx0cCep2DoTrhIX", "post_id": "avzue4", "action": {"description": "paying too much attention to hungry kittens on my gifted vacation", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for paying too much attention to hungry kittens on my gifted vacation??", "text": "This actually happened back in December of 2012, when I was 14 years old. I guess I\u2019ll start off by saying Im an animal lover, and I love cats in particular. I come from a mildly poor family. I\u2019ve never had to miss a meal or anything drastic, but \u201cpleasure\u201d spending was rare in my household. I am very close friends with an upper middle-class family, since I am the same age as the two sons. We were, and still are, best friends. Anyways, they made plans to go on a family vacation to Kauai, HI, and knowing my family\u2019s tight budget, they very generously surprised my sister and I with plane tickets to join them. They payed for everything- hotel, fancy dinners, souvenirs, even private surfing lessons! It was amazing, and I was excited to see all the cats that roam the island. My sister and I were extremely grateful, and we made sure to express that profusely. At one point, we were beach-hopping, and we visited a  beach that was famous for having black sand. As we were walking towards the beach, I noticed a pair of malnourished kittens. At that point in my life, I don\u2019t think I had ever seen an animal in that bad of shape before. Regardless, It broke my heart, so I stopped to feed them some leftover chicken from my sandwich. The rest of the family and my sister stopped for a second, and then continued to the beach while I stayed behind. I was not far at all from the actual beach, maybe 50 feet or so. I stayed with the kittens feeding them and petting them for about half an hour or so, until everyone decided to head towards the next beach. When we got in the car, the dad, who paid for everything, was very angry at me and proceeded to yell at me for not being on the beach with everyone, instead choosing to be with the kittens. He said, \u201cI did not spend $600 for you to play with cats. You could have stayed home and it would have saved me the money.\u201d I was completely taken aback, because it hadn\u2019t even occurred to me that I might have been doing something wrong. Still, I apologized and everything was fine. But I still wonder- despite his angry use of wording, was he right? AITA for stopping for the kittens and not enjoying the beach with the rest of the group? After all, he was the one who paid for everything.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "p5TmhIxHmVR4b2WJku2IrlVRNArXepAG", "post_id": "aoffoz", "action": {"description": "insulting my nonbinary ex gf", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for insulting my nonbinary ex gf", "text": "First up, I support the LGBT. \nCharacters:\nMe\nMy ex\nHer friends \nMy best friend\n\nRecently I broke up with my girlfriend. The reason was that she was too demanding, and wasnt giving much back.\n1 month after the break up they come out as nonbinary.\nThis all happened in summer break, so for others it looked as if they came out and I broke up with them afterwards. \nAll their friends came after saying i was transphobic. \nThe worst part is that they were also my friends. When i explained some of them believed me and others still hate me till this day.\nMy best friend even stopped talking to me until i explained.\nSo later i did something I am not proud of. I found out they spread the rumour that I broke up with them because they were nonbinary. I said some nasty things like: You're not special you are just a tomboy and some other things.\nIm conflicted. I feel like I overreacted, but they did ruin some of my friendships.\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "f0lqYjuYy8jrzGC1ongjb2uN4xaRLkyE", "post_id": "b8mqsa", "action": {"description": "only paying half of repair costs to my friend's phone", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for only paying half of repair costs to my friend's phone", "text": "When we were drunk I was messing about and throwing my hands around. My friend walked up behind me and I accidentally hit their phone out of their hand and it smashed and now is unusable.  \n\n\nIt cost them $75 to repair and I've said I'll pay half. They are saying I should pay all of it. AITA for only paying half or do you think we were both at fault?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TBdJd3xhMR9xkHPsRZlfRkzXbgjMIrLd", "post_id": "a2ltv2", "action": {"description": "being upset at censorship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for being upset at censorship?", "text": "A little background: \n\nMy friends and I have a discord server for messaging and talking to each other. Recently, we learned that one of our friends, the server owner, had created a chat filter that automatically deleted messages if it contain one specific word (I think it's important to note that the word is not offensive nor a slur, nor could be interpreted as either). When my other friends and I found out about this censorship we were upset that out friend thought he had to right to limit what we could say, and he was reluctant to give a reasoning behind his ban.\n\nWe recently learned that the ban was put in place, because it reminded the owner of a \"dark time in his life\". We have all acknowledged this fact and have agreed to monitor out usage of the word, however the owner still refuses to remove the ban. Even though we now know what the word means to the owner and have promised to be more considerate of what we message each other, we still feel that it's not the owners' right to monitor what we say, considering that the server was made for all of us to talk to one another, and some of us see this as an abuse of power.\n\nAITA in this situation or is the server owner?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KFaKdPCuoDKWSinIlHwFKyW2qNOHSCxf", "post_id": "amxfme", "action": {"description": "ignoring my \"best friend\" after she made me upset on my birthday", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my \u201cbest friend\u201d after she made me upset on my birthday", "text": "Hey guys, this is my first reddit post and it might be a bit of a log one so just fair warning. Let\u2019s yeet this \n\nSo I just turned the big 18 a few weeks ago and was throwing a house party to celebrate with the people who mean the most to me. Me not knowing my limits, invited over 70 people but let\u2019s not talk about that.\n\nSo my \u201cbest friend (let\u2019s call her Janet) has previously expressed how she disliked about 90% of the people I invited to my party and labeled them as either \u201cbitches\u201d or \u201cdouchebags\u201d (when they\u2019re honestly some of the most lovely and genuine people I\u2019ve ever met) That ticked me off but I decided to let it go because everyone is entitled to their own opinion.\n\nJanet had said how she wasn\u2019t gonna come to my party if a coworker of mine that I had invited was there. She made the effort to go off at me multiple times about how she never saw me hang out with my coworker and how I\u2019ve never talked to her about it. (For context, Janet and coworker had a falling out the previous year) \n\nFirstly, I\u2019ve known my coworker for over 4 years and I told Janet that she didn\u2019t need to know about every single person I am friends with and I wasn\u2019t about to justify why I invited 70 different people to my house. So Janet went on and on and I tuned it out, seeing as it was my birthday and I invited my friends.\n\nFast forward to my actual birthday and the day before the party. I was ecstatic as I was finally a big boi. My family and I were celebrating with some dominos and champagne when I got a message from Janet. The message said and I quote, \u201cHey, boyfriend and I are coming for the party tomorrow but not for long because of the other people invited\u201d \n\nThat hit hard, I started crying on the spot. My family was confused out of their minds and told me I had enough champagne for one night (which was probably true) I just replied with a simple \u201cK\u201d and ignored her \n\nSince she had sent the message, I was hurt and angry so I started ignoring her a bit (seeing as she would only message me about her boyfriend or if she needed something) and if I would reply, they were blunt and short.\n\nAt the party, I was still quite upset but trying to put it behind me, I decided I won\u2019t let it ruin my day. My coworker couldn\u2019t make it and Janet was quite happy. She walked in like everything is normal and I smiled and gave her a hug and then pretty much ignored her again for the rest of the night. She left about 2 hours after she arrived and I was M A D\n\nTo think that Janet couldn\u2019t put aside her petty bullshit with other people for one night to celebrate her so called \u201cbest friends\u201d birthday broke my heart.\n\nA few days later, I was out with a really good friend of mine and wasn\u2019t really looking at my phone much. As I got home, I saw I got 3 messages from Janet \n\n\u201cHow do you print photos at Kmart\u201d\n\n\u201cI don\u2019t appreciate being ignored\u201d\n\nAnd the last message being a paragraph about how I need to get my priorities right \n\nI sent her this long ass paragraph letting the last 6 months worth of bullshit off my chest. I told her how upset I was when she would constantly ditch me for her boyfriend when I dropped so much to be able to be there for her. I talked about how she bad mould all my friends and then explained how upset I was about the stuff leading up the my birthday. I did also apologise for how harsh I was right after because I was in the moment and fired up \n\nHer reply was \u201chave a nice life xo\u201d\n\nAITA here?! Should I have handled this differently? Am I in the wrong? \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xJuBqIhVqI2eRFFyXegsoLg518LeDaZ9", "post_id": "azjz8a", "action": {"description": "making my ex kneel down and beg me while crying", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for making my ex kneel down and beg me while crying?", "text": "I promised myself to never be an A ever again.\n\n​\n\nSo, today I was hanging out with my ex, he was my first bf (I was his first too). When we were younger and dating, we were 12 at that time. I used to make him give me 20 euro every week on Monday at 8:00 and if  he was late or didn't have it, I would leave him or not talk to him. He was so used to apologise to me even without a reason, because his worst nightmare was that I will leave him. \n\n​\n\nFor a 12 year old he really used to like/love me a lot.  I used to tell him that I love him too I never loved him but I did like him a bit, he is really the most handsome human being I ever met in my entire life (he got more handsome now, he even made muscles he looks older), I used to automatically stare at him. Also I liked how fun he was and how a lot of girls liked him. It was never his fault, it was my fault, I was just a horrible human being. \n\n​\n\nAfter a year of dating, I accused him that he likes another girl as a reason to dumb him. He really was so broken, he even used to follow me when we are done at school and swear for hours that he doesn't like her. He stopped after that and changed school. \n\n​\n\nYes I was that horrible.\n\n​\n\nSo, we got into contact again after all that time. when we were hanging out today everything was fine until, he said ''my heart still beats when I see/look at you, I still love you a lot. I thought I forgot about you''. I didn't know what to say so I said ''its better for you to forget me''. Then he said that we should give each other a new chance, that we were good in the past, that we are a lot older now and can have a serious relationship. Then he asked me if I like him, he said that I also used to like him a lot and that what happened was because of being young, that I shouldn't have believed others.\n\n​\n\nThen I saw he was trying to hold his tears he looked miserable. Then that's when he started to beg me, he literally started to cry a lot,  he became silent for some minutes. that's when I realized I destroyed his life. He said that he misses me a lot, that he was me in his dreams, that he always thought of me. Then he said he just one chance for us, he even hugged my belly and kneeled and cried more. He said that she shouldn't have met me, that if he knew he will become like this that he would have never met me. \n\n​\n\nI didn't know what to say, he didn't even wait for my response, he was embarrassed, he just stood up and left without saying good bye. \n\n​\n\nI am not asking if was the A in the past because I clearly was but now, AITA? was it my fault he knelt down and cried? \n\n​\n\nWe are both 16 now btw.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5M8KklfAIN4stp9AQYtzqI215IvaBp5l", "post_id": "aehhun", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Booked Prize Holiday", "text": "Hey All, so I have a conundrum... \n\nA colleague from work and I attend the same gym, recently they held a competition to gain member referrals. \n\nSo a few months ago I went into the draw to win a holiday - return flights and accomodation for 2. My Colleague also entered an upon entering he turns to me and says \"I will take you, if I win, hahaha,\" after a lol, I said sure I will do the same... Anywho some time has passed and as fate would have it, I WON!\n\nUpon my win, i turned to my colleague and said I guess we are going on holiday. He responded saying \"its ok if you dont want to take me.\" and i said \"no no its all good\" :) \n\n2 months passed since this conversation and my bestfriend has asked me to be bestman in his wedding and I have booked the trip for me and my bestfriend a week before his wedding as a surprise. \n\nI also haven't told my collegue and dont plan to, I am just hoping he doesn't remember. \n\nAm I just an asshole... ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1tJ6K7Vu8LuTF4Qgbc23EpBl3gRrQwng", "post_id": "autfah", "action": null, "title": "AITA Constantly posting Snopes articles on FB posts...", "text": "So many posts I see on FB are FAKE. Scratch that, most are fake. Like that weak/strong wolf pack photo... [https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/wolf-pack-photo/](https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/wolf-pack-photo/)\n\nI link Snopes articles so often I feel like I am just making everyones time on FB so much worse. I am the Debby-downer, the party pooper, the kill-joy. No one likes to get Snoped! No one wants to see that yellow link on their post proving they are ignorant, reposting, non-diligent twits. ; )", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v1hzRJvE11qsyhyoneDoJTCXOTP3lK4h", "post_id": "a9e4f5", "action": {"description": "ending a friendship of 8 years by deleting her number and quitting all group-chats she is in? I sometimes feel bad about it but I'm so relieved I have cut this person out of my life", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ending a friendship of 8 years by deleting her number and quitting all group-chats she is in? I sometimes feel bad about it but I\u2018m so relieved I have cut this person out of my life.", "text": "*Obligatory apology for using mobile, making this post so long and not being a native speaker*\n\nSituation: \nI (24f) was friends with a girl (25) since 2010. We befriended at a time where I didn\u2019t know I was an introvert and that it is totally okay that I am not people-y etc. (had no self-esteem because I was so awkward, had no introverted friends who\u2018d understand me, spend my weekends alone, you get the idea) and she lifted me up, made me feel better about myself, got me out of my shell. After some time I actually gained my self-esteem, made more friends, met the love of my life and was more outgoing and confident. I first thought she would be happy and proud that I \u201emade it\u201c and finally loved the person I\u2018ve become - just like she seemed to be. I was very thankful and we had a very good time since then. I also met and befriended her friends, we were a wonderful group.\n\nAfter we completed school in 2013 and had to choose what to do with our lives, the contact stayed but she started acting weird. Would cancel plans we had for weeks hours, sometimes even minutes before the get-together and  often without a real reason (e.g. \u201eI suddenly don\u2018t want to go to a restaurant, I have difficulties choosing what to eat.\u201c \u201eMy mom wants me to clean the house.\u201c - ?!). That went for years. It pissed us off and we stopped making plans with her (we still invited her but in 90% she would cancel it on the same day and we wouldn\u2018t be surprised and disappointed).\n\nWhat made me think she hates me:\nShe had a best friend since we knew each other. I know him as long as I know her and naturally we became friends, too. One day she suddenly went apeshit crazy and yelled at him and he called me after that. I was shocked as I never saw her acting this way and couldn\u2018t think of a reason. He then said that she asked if they could meet for a bbq and he asked, if I could join them - she began accusing him that he liked me more and said something that really hurt \u201eWhy is she always so overrated?!\u201c. She made hints on this topic before (\u201eWhen you are there, nobody talks to me, I get ignored. Could you stop wanting to be the middle?\u201c). I never had the feeling that I\u2018m being the \u201ecenter of the conversation\u201c (I\u2018m introverted as I mentioned, I hate being in the middle and she should know that). But eventually I stopped talking to people when she was there so that she could be the center of attention. I really don\u2018t need peoples\u2018 approval. \n\nWhat made me snap:\nWe were on a festival together last year and she started acting terribly. A friend and I arrived on wednesday to get a nice camping spot (festival started on Friday). It was exhausting, but eventually we found a spot after hours of searching and discussing with other campers. We were proud and sent pictures. She started going crazy that the place was shitty, even threatened to sell her tickets if we stayed on that spot. I felt like being hit in the face. We could not move, there simply was no other space for a group of five. When the rest and her arrived she started yelling at us two in the middle of the night and acted like a total bitch. We ignored her after some time and the rest of the festival was fantastic. She never apologized but started behaving like the friend I knew, well, up to that point. \n\nThis year we went again to the festival and she started behaving the same way, being passive-aggressive while planning how to get there etc. I snapped and deleted her and the groups we\u2018ve been together in - I just didn\u2018t want her to ruin the festival again. \n\nI didn\u2018t answer to her calls or bother explaining anything to her - I was and still am done with her and don\u2018t want to see her anymore. And I\u2018m pretty sure she exactly knows the reasons but wants to pretend everything is fine and that we\u2018re still close friends after last year\u2018s incident. She eventually started talking shit about me but I don\u2018t care. Our mutual friends ended contact with her over different situations (many don\u2019t even know about me breaking the contact) and those who know me wouldn\u2018t bother anyway.\n\nThere were many more occasions that lead me to the conclusion that she hates me but I don\u2018t want to make this post any longer - sorry for that \ud83d\ude05 but if there are questions I\u2018ll answer them.\n\nBut AITA for not explaining anything to her? Should I reach out and tell her what went wrong? Or should I continue being happy without her knowing my POV? I often dream about us talking about it, but I think she won\u2018t be as rational irl as she is in those dreams \ud83e\udd37\ud83c\udffc\u200d\u2640\ufe0f\n\nThank you for reading this mess. And happy holidays if you celebrate them \ud83d\ude07\n\nTl;dr: I found out a very good friend of mine hates me and everything I do is either overrated or shit. I quit contact without explaining anything to her. I\u2018m sure she thinks I\u2018m dumb and that nobody talks to me about what she talks behind my back. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0ngUdC72BTPk2R5zre7S5cIsM01Tfjlx", "post_id": "9u03zk", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend for ghosting our FaceTime plans", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for ghosting our FaceTime plans?", "text": "So I\u2019m at my parents\u2019 house (across the country) and we planned to FaceTime today while they\u2019re out. Fast forward and my boyfriend did not let me know that he\u2019d be hanging out with his friends for longer than he had anticipated yesterday. After an hour of waiting for him, I sent him a text letting him know that I\u2019m frustrated and hurt. He responded by saying sorry I\u2019m out with friends. He\u2019s been out for like 9 hours and I asked if could just say hey I need to go FaceTime my girlfriend so I\u2019m leaving. He said oh sorry I\u2019m mid conversation. That was over a half hour ago. He still hasn\u2019t tried to rectify what I feel is a mistake. Am I the asshole for being angry or am I being petty? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hnfbm291NIAqiPxFnamAmwldI9lNxIxR", "post_id": "ba6b4d", "action": {"description": "firing an Insubordinate but hardworking employee without pay", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "WIBTA If I Fired An Insubordinate But Hardworking Employee Without Pay?", "text": "I am a senior manager at my uncle's company. I am struggling with the decision to fire a junior manager who has been downright disrespectful but good at her job. Lets call the junior manager \"Cruella\".\n\nMy uncle is an asshole and that is why none of his children help in running the company- they all work outside the country away from him. My uncle controls all power in the organisation and micromanages everything.  However, he is old and has only me to leave the company to. I mention all this because I have reported the problems that Cruella causes and my uncle does not do anything because she is his favorite. I also do not have the power to fire her until few weeks from now when my uncle's retirement date comes up.\n\nI have 3 managers under me and Cruella is the only one out of them who disobeys my orders, especially if it means that she has to work for me. My uncle gave her control of a division of the company that is very new and profitable, and this has gotten to her head. She refuses to give reports that would help us maximize efficiency and profits in the division. She only gives reports when she feels like. The irony is that when she needs help and has exhausted all options, she runs to me. I have cautioned her numerous times but she never cooperates knowing that only my uncle has the final decision and power to punish her. \n\nMy uncle covers for her because he wrongly thinks that she is making the profit for the division she controls. She gets her staff working like clockwork and she works hard. However, she costs the company about 30 cents on every dollar of profit as her delayed reports deprives us from adjusting on time to certain costs. The issue here is that she did not set up the division- I and my uncle did. She also is not good with numbers as I have to correct her reports consistently.\n\nTo show you how nasty Cruella can be, she even got rude to my uncle's oldest son (my cousin). Can you imagine that she had the nerve to try to remove my uncle's son (who is a silent partner and technically her boss) from a staff meeting? Of course, my uncle covered it up and apologised to my cousin for her. That was when I decided that I would fire her when I have the power. Also, my cousin gave me his blessing to fire her after that incident as he was pissed with both my uncle and Cruella. \n\nCurrently, I am thinking of firing her and not giving her either a severance pay or her would-be last month pay.  I truly want to punish her for being insubordinate and for abusing the favour that my uncle has shown her. The funny thing is that we are in a country that has very weak labour laws. I can fire her without any problems. \n\nWould I be the asshole if I fired her without pay?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "l8wkB5htTXe1daTM1EySBw0ASGXWL4vd", "post_id": "ap6k5t", "action": {"description": "calling the sheriffs department/pet control on my neighbors", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling the sheriffs department/pet control on my neighbors?", "text": "So the neighbors have a dog that is always running around free. I don\u2019t have a problem with it ever since he\u2019s a sweet dog that comes over for snacks and rubs. However this weekend we got hit with a snowstorm and the dog was outside in the morning before I went to work. \nI brought him inside since it was below 10 F due to windchill and snow pouring down until his owners got home from work since I thought he escaped. It\u2019s been a whole two days and there still not back. I\u2019m sure if I wouldn\u2019t have taken spot in he would\u2019ve possibly died from being outside for over 24 hours.\nThe neighbors are friendly people and I have never had any problems with them, but I just feel like they don\u2019t deserve this dog and I\u2019m planning on calling the shelter on Monday or possibly reporting it to the Sheriffs. While they are nice leaving your dog outside is inexcusable. So AITA for contacting the sheriff/shelter to come take their dog away?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "43wCFP0Nb3OkcRq7iILwD1yud4Tvm2bE", "post_id": "aj23ys", "action": {"description": "being annoyed by financial demands of friends getting married", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed by financial demands of friends getting married (standing up in wedding)", "text": "I was asked to stand up in a wedding by a casual friend/ex coworker who I've known about 10 years. We aren't overly close and I live several states away. I would say we go on average 6 months to a year without even really acknowledging each other, most years. He needed a woman to stand up on his side because his bride will have a guy on her side, so they needed to balance out the genders. She's having 12 stand up on her side, he's having 10, So he picked me. I was flattered and said yes but had NO IDEA how much this was going to cost me.   \n\n\nThey are going ALL OUT. Expensive dresses ($300+ before taxes and alterations),  I need to pay for travel and hotel while I'm in town for the wedding (\\~$800 conservatively). The bachelor party is in another state and the hotel he chose is $300 a night (\\~$1300  for 3 nights + airfare, before taxes). None of this counts all of the side charges that I have to spend (hair, makeup, shoes, undergarments, bachelor party activities or gifts.)  \n\n\nSpeaking of gifts, their registry is full of $200 bowls, a $500 duvet cover, $600 sheet sets, $200 a set china. I know that etiquette says you should spend as much on a gift as they are spending on the meal for the reception and I want to give them something nice and not be a penny pincher here but this all seems so over the top.  \n\n\nI know this is all pretty standard, but I'm feeling like an asshole for feeling like I'm being taken for everything I have right now. I'm not a rich woman, I live alone and pay my bills on my own, I have an average paying job and don't live a fancy life myself. We are casual friends and doing the math and assuming I participate in the bachelor party, I'd be in for about $3500 .... for someone else's wedding.\n\n​\n\nAm I The Asshole? I feel like the asshole. But I just don't have an extra $3500ish. It would even be different if I could end with saying \"but I love him, he's a great friend,\" but I can't even really do that. We're casual friends. I know it's on me for saying yes initially but I had no idea they were going to go balls to the wall.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ae6te9KoRjKVWgUcNwhj6tdcOMFnHpHc", "post_id": "b55zfn", "action": {"description": "telling my friend she can't move in because of my ex", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my friend she can't move in because of my ex?", "text": "Kind of misleading title.? Sorry, I couldn't fit all this into one sentence.\n\nThis hasn't happened yet, but one of my best friends is planning on moving in with me in mid May and for the most part, I'm pretty eager. We briefly lived together while she was still looking for an apartment and it wasn't too bad. She's moved 3 times since last August because her roommate was flaky and ended up getting them both evicted. Anyway, living with me would finally give her a dependable place to live.\nMy only reservation about her moving in is that she's best friends with my ex girlfriend, to the degree that my ex has come up to our city just to visit her, which I always dread but try to come to terms with. I'm worried that if she moves in, my ex will stay in our apartment whenever she visits. Just that thought gives me anxiety. In fact, my ex is going to be in town this week for her Spring Break, which is why I'm here on reddit. We have plenty of friends in town who'd be willing to host when she's visiting; they've done it before for other friends. \nI thought a lot about this when my friend briefly lived with me, but since I knew it was temporary, I never communicated it with her. Sometimes I heard her on the phone with my ex and even that annoyed the hell out of me. It being late March already, I'm worried I'll be TA for giving her an ultimatum kinda close to when she is supposed move in. \n\nSo, will I be TA if I tell my friend that if she moves in, my ex can't stay with us (or even be in the apartment) when she's visiting? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lJ8vpOYX7LU4omDQuQeoq1W5nLUUhbFc", "post_id": "ahydts", "action": {"description": "refusing to apologize for political comments I made in public", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for refusing to apologize for political comments I made in public?", "text": "So this friday me and my friends went to this youth center thing we like, like we always do at the end of the week. We basically fuck around and play some games and just shoot the shit. This place is part of the museum/library in my city, and as such, often holds art exhibits.\n\nApparently, the new exhibit is some really left-wing political thing, with posters about \"masculinity\", \"intersectionalism\" and other stuff, which logically shouldn't be allowed there, since this youth center is municipally owned, and is considered an apolitical space, meaning that the youth centre is not allowed to endorse or promote political stances. Despite these rules, the whole place was plastered in left-wing propaganda shit, including a whole section on Karl Marx and class struggles.\n\nSo me and my friends, who run the spectrum from left wing feminists to anti-immigration rightwingers, all joined in and started making fun of the posters, reading them out loud to each other and mocking the exhibit. We were having a laugh, taking the piss out of the stupid shit on the posters, and I posted to my snap story, basically trash talking the posters. I especially singled out the Marx and class related posters, since I'm fiercely anti-communist, and actually got rather upset that they would allow this stuff here. Do it at a private business, say it online, or whatever instead.\n\nI basically went off on the posters, shittalking Marx and communism in general, and a girl I know quite well screenshotted the story, and appeared to have gotten fairly upset with me. Things are already shaky with this person, so I fired back in a private snapchat story, explaining to anyone upset that I stand by my post, and went further to say that I've never met a good or honorable communist in my life, name-dropping a person I know she's friends with, one who has also groped my best friend without her consent, and calling that person a \"commie asshole\".\n\nI deleted that post after a while, since I didn't want to actively name and shame a person, even if I honestly want to kick him in the teeth everytime I've met him, but I still stand by my post, and made it clear once again that I think supporting communism basically makes you an idiot in my eyes. She's still upset with me it appears, and she hasn't talked to me since I refused to apologize. \n\nAm I the asshole here, for taking a stance against what I perceive as communist propaganda, angering a friend in the process, and firing back by shit talking communists as people, singling out a guy she's friends with as an example?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JFtiDhtxYn0HiKtYzAZCPRjZtj8GAUTn", "post_id": "a070df", "action": {"description": "hooking up with a girl my friend wanted to hook up with", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for hooking up with a girl my friend wanted to hook up with", "text": "Basically my friend group and I went over to this girls place for some drinks before going out to a bar and before we left my friend said \u201cI\u2019m definitely going to hook up with her tonight\u201d. Later in the night he got kicked out of the bar and this girl and I ended up hooking up. He was pretty upset when he found out because I think he wanted their hook up to turn into something more(just speculation he hasn\u2019t talked to me since that night). As far as I know there wasn\u2019t anything going on between them before that night \n\nSo am I an asshole ? \n\nBonus: am I an asshole if I try and get something going this girl ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5fpVSdaHqN3nHOVjODzIWpQSlZhy1Rfh", "post_id": "b1h1xv", "action": {"description": "wanting to date a girl a good friend of mine has a crush on for a while", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to date a girl a good friend of mine has a crush on for a while?", "text": "My buddy used to have a big thing for this girl that we both know and whether it be him not making the right moves or her not being interested nothing came of it. I have since developed feelings for her too but don\u2019t know if I\u2019d be an asshole to proceed with them. My friend and I don\u2019t talk about our relationships with each other but he seemed like he was doing pretty well with someone he met off tinder.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SbJskyAp6W17iFsCkMnUdxlrdIVH4qx4", "post_id": "ahfpo5", "action": {"description": "being mad at my mom for borrowing money and then not returning it", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my mom for borrowing money and then not returning it?", "text": "Just to make it clear, im female, 17 y/o\n\nLet's start with the fact that my family never had any real problems with money. My mom works as a teacher and my dad used to work in a school as well, but doesn't have a job at the moment. \nI never really had to be economical, but I love saving money and knowing I can afford to treat myself with a nice piece of clothing or a fun gadget, as my parents won't buy me anything unless I really need it (especially when it comes to clothes and technology)\nI don't have to accualy work for the money I save, It mostly comes from my relatives (dad's side). Always when we visit they give me some and tell me to treat myself, so I consider it mine only. \nNow my parents will sometimes borrow some, when it gets tight. It's usually not a problem, as I know they'll return it eventually, but they have a really different attitude towards the \"dept\".\nMy dad doesn't take much or often and whenever he does, he keeps apologizing and he always returns more than he took, but my mom\u00a0 sometimes takes all of my savings and doesn't return the money unless I keep asking and reminding her all the time (often she doesn't even ask as she knows where I keep the money)\nA couple of months ago, she took the money she KNEW I was saving for a Kindle. At the time I didn't have enough yet, but now, If I had the money from before, I would.\nI have talked about getting a Kindle for quite awhile now and tried mentioning subtly how much I am missing and how it would help if I had the money for before but she still hasn't made any move to return it.\nMy brother is in college, so that adds to the expense, but college in my country really isn't that expensive (I live in Europe).\nShe just bought some new shoes and a dress, so I know she can return it, but just doesn't think it's that important. And anyway, she always has money for cigarettes and a beer...\n\nAm I the asshole for getting mad at her for this? Will I be the asshole if I confront her? And also, should I consider the money I have as family money, not mine, as I don't feel like I had to do much to earn it, only visit my relatives from time to time I guess?\n\nTL-DR Mom likes to borrow money from me, but doesn't feel like it's important to return it in time.\n\nDisclamer: I love both of my parents and I feel really bad about talking about either of them in this way, but this is something that has been troubling me in quite some time and I would really like to know if I am a bad person for feeling this way.\nAnd also thank you if you took your time to read this, as I feel like this will for most of you seem like some spoilt kid complaining (If so, feel free to judge me in the comments, it's why I came here)\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LhQhxfk6oHIPmR8NAUDOLKE1YUvWed5c", "post_id": "af1n4q", "action": {"description": "parking in the neighbors unassigned parking spots", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for parking in the neighbors unassigned parking spots", "text": "Background: I am 2.5 months into owning a condo after previously renting an apartment for years. The condo community is primarily retired or close to retired people. I myself am in my mid 20s. I have received multiple \u201cnotices\u201d from my neighbor that I have been parking in their \u201cspots\u201d. The lot is fully unassigned parking with way more spots available than residents.\n\nNow to the actual story...  \n\nDays before I moved in I went on vacation and parked my vehicle in the condo parking lot. I unknowingly parked next to a large amount of vomit. With it being 3 am and my vehicle going to be there for multiple days I decided to stay in that spot. I return days later to find a cardboard sign on my car saying \u201cplease clean up\u201d written in a very certain style. I\u2019m aware that it looks like the vomit came from me (it did not). No biggie though I just throw away the sign and leave the condo area. \n\nFast forward 1.5 months. I am now all moved in and really enjoying the condo life. A friend of mine stops by to take a coffee table and tv stand that I no longer need. As he is putting the coffee table in the car, the neighbor comes by and asks when he will be leaving. He says he will be leaving shortly. Once again no biggie. He takes out the other table after a few minutes and sees the neighbor is parked in the \u201cdriving\u201d area of the parking lot waiting for him to move. This is my first actual \u201crun-in\u201d with the neighbor but it\u2019s not really an issue at this point. Days later my girlfriend who just moved in the prior day is unknowingly parked in the neighbors \u201cspot\u201d. And here is where the story starts. The neighbor shows up at my door and the first thing she says \u201cwhat is with that [License plate state] car\u201d in possibly the rudest tone I\u2019ve ever heard. I respond that it is my girlfriend and she lives here. The neighbor states she is old and can\u2019t walk well ( she is semi-old and walks fine), but we will take care of it and I close the door. It\u2019s 7:30 at night and we are in the middle of dinner. We certainly were not going to move her car since 75% of the parking lot was open and after she complained about where a guest of mine parked. \n\nAt this point the neighbor has complained about 2 people parking in her \u201cspots\u201d over the course of 3-4 days. I am a little frustrated since the parking lot is fully unassigned parking. \n\nFast forward a few more days. I arrive home from work in the afternoon to see the neighbor,  \u201cwho can\u2019t walk\u201d outside chopping ice from the parking lot. She has also left a plastic box with a sign that states \u201cNo parking ice melting zone\u201d. This is certainly unusual but I\u2019m leaving 5 minutes after I get home so I really don\u2019t pay attention to what she\u2019s doing. I arrived back home after it had been dark for a while and ended up parking in the spot next to her \u201cice melting zone\u201d because there were cars in what she would deem \u201cmy area\u201d. Hours later I come out to my car and the sign is on my windshield and the box and ice pick are sitting right in front of my garage. Safe to say I am stunned. My girlfriend takes the box and ice pick and sets it in front of the neighbors garage and proceeds to rip up the sign and throw it in the box... one would think it would end there, but it doesn\u2019t. We come out a few hours later and the box and ice pick have been set right in front of my car. Unbelievable. I toss the box and pick right towards their walkway entrance. At this point I\u2019ve had it with the neighbor and her antics. \n\nI also happened to take a picture of the sign and sure enough it is the same exact style as the original sign on my car from earlier in the story. This lady has now placed 2 signs on my car over the course of 2 months. This is more signs on my car over these last 2 months than over the previous 10 years before I moved in. \n\nA couple days later due to people parked in \u201cour area\u201d, my girlfriend has to park in the neighbors spots. We go outside later that night to find the neighbors vehicle parked right next to my girlfriends car and 1 foot away at most. This is clearly intentional by the neighbor. There were no cars at least the next 3 spots over...\n\nThis is all that has occurred so far. I have tried calling the condo association manager however, he has yet to answer his phone. \n\nAre we the assholes for parking in the neighbors unassigned spots?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PQwErq5L0q53F77pSGMawoS69daUxs99", "post_id": "as4lyn", "action": {"description": "wanting to break up with my gf", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to break up with my GF?", "text": "My GF is 42, Im 43. She has a 17yr old daughter and an 18yr old daughter. I have a 17yr old son that lives with his mother, but visits every weekend. GF allows her daughters to have BF\u2019s spend the night and a daughters friend move in and has WRECKED the bedroom she stays in, then they all smoke weed on the porch every night. Nobody has a job worth anything. (Part time at Saladworks, part time at Ann Taylor, Part Time at Merry Maids). My GF asked me to move in about 10 months ago when it was just her and her 17yr old (then 16) who graduated HS early and was planning to go to college. I moved in and rented my paid off home out. This 17yr old has perpetually been getting in trouble with the law as soon as school ended and  does nothing except give attitude as well as refuse to do anything around the home. I\u2019ve stayed out of most everything to do with their personal lives as I feared overstepping boundaries. Finally, today we have discovered she is pregnant. I have made no secret that I am done raising kids and the thought of irresponsible people getting pregnant makes me furious, I had a vasectomy years ago and have spent the majority of my life trying NOT to get anyone pregnant. Of course I said get an abortion, institute some rules and then enforce them. Everyone is pissed at me now. I am a new realtor after owning my own successful business for 20years and have zero plans to raise any more kids. My GF works for me in my new business ventures and all I can see is her having to take off work all the time for this new infant (if they don\u2019t have an abortion). I admit I have always been a ruthless boss with little tolerance for calling out or basically anything that interferes with making money and I foresee problem after problem on top of the nonstop problems that arise every week. (Oh yeah, we complained about the blunt smoke that wafts into the house so they open all the windows and then cover up with blankets and put space heaters under them. Of course I pay the power bill)\n\nTL/DR: AITA for wanting to break up with my GF because her irresponsible daughter that lives at home is pregnant? AITA for suggesting getting an abortion?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "reJUDnBk3FhCPeRpHHDpj27qQlYq5DJJ", "post_id": "abv0y4", "action": {"description": "refusing to go to gaming parties because I'm tired of losing all the time", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to go to gaming parties because I'm tired of losing all the time?", "text": "Once of my circles of friends and I have been playing video games for decades and we have made it a point into our adult lives to periodically meet up to play games a couple times a month to play the games we did when we were younger, and to try out some new games as they come out.\n\nAs time has gone on the amount of time I can dedicate to games has diminished greatly.  I am married with a child on the way, and between family and work obligations I probably only play a few hours of games a week compared to the 2-3 hours a night I was playing several years ago.  This isn't a big deal for me as games just aren't the priority they used to be, but the rest of my gaming buddies still play almost as much as we did as kids.  They are all a bit younger than I am and have plenty of free time and disposable income to dedicate to the hobby.\n\nAs a result of all this my skills at games have dropped off while they are all still very skilled at the games we play resulting in me losing every single game we play so hard I might as well have not even bothered playing.  I am not bothered by losing.  Even when I was at my peak I was pretty average within this group so its not like I was winning all my games or anything, but I actually can't remember the last time I finished a game in the top 2/3rd of the scoreboard.  \n\nNow this hadn't been a major issue initially because we also played a lot of co-op and non competitive games like Rock Band, and some others which was great, but lately the group's focus has been on competitive games.  Primarily they want to play some old school shooters and the new Smash Bros.  Well for context for those that know Smash over the course of 10 matches I only managed to take 5 stock off my opponents in total.  They obliterated me so completely that by the end of the last match I just wanted to jump off the map so I could end the game quicker and save us all the time watching me get beaten to death.\n\nRealizing I wasn't having any fun I started asking around to see if maybe we could play some less competitive games, but the group as a whole really wanted to keep playing those games for now.  I totally get it.  If they are having fun I have no right to demand a change just for my sake.   I sent the following message in the discord for the group of 12 players as a result.\n\n*\"Hey guys I'd like to sit out the next meetup since there will mostly just be Smash and CS being played as I'm just not having as much fun playing the competitive games like I used to.  I can't really keep up and play them very well.  I'd still love to join you guys later on when there are more co-op or casual games to play though.*\n\nA few members were understanding about it, but a couple of the others started messaging me asking me to keep going and to stop being a sore loser.  I tried to explain to them that it wasn't about losing, but about the extent to which I was losing and that I wasn't having fun basically being a punching bag for everybody in game all night long.  I was then accused of being overly dramatic and immature because I can't handle not winning all the time.\n\nSo am I the asshole here?  I kinda see why they think I'm a sore loser, but I just don't see it that way.  I still lost a lot back when I was good at the games, but at least then I was keeping up with people and able to play the games and have fun.  Am I supposed to just suck it up and keep going to these things if I'm not having fun?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ilEg7g3uhKgfh4JLB5L43X2FnaIULQCu", "post_id": "9w5hmr", "action": {"description": "wanting the foreign exchange student gone", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting the foreign exchange student gone?", "text": "A little background:\nWe're hosting a foreign exchange student for the school year, he is 15 going on 16 and I just turned 16. I share a room with him.\n\nFirstly, he always is picking on my 4 year old half brother, bothering him, etc. It is already hard enough trying to correct my half brother's behavior that he picks up from his dad's house, but with the exchange student bothering him constantly, good moods go out the window. Secondly, he eats a ton, he thinks he can just help himself to other people's food, and I mean food other people have set aside for themselves. He expects us to clean up for him, for example, we have a bird who was screeching a lot the other day, so I stuck him in the bathroom, and the exchange student goes in to take a shower and comes out to tell me the bird pooped in the tub, standing there like I should be rushing to go clean it up. He will just leave his messes laying around, be it in the bathroom, the kitchen, or the living room, he will leave wrappers, cans, food, etc laying around. He will eat food in the room we share, and is always eating crackers, so his bed is full of crumbs and he hardly cleans it up. He has the bed closest to the door and will always leave his shit in front of the door, so it is a challenge to open the bedroom door sometimes. He will also play Fortnite on our Xbox, which I don't really care about, even if I don't like the game, but he will cancel other peoples' games/updates for his Fortnite updates, and will sometimes just loaf up the game then sit/lay on the floor and scroll through his phone.\n\nSorry for the long winded post, it began more a vent than a question.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yNQDwISUq9xnlp6jtSDE1JYRF1lajixP", "post_id": "b0odft", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to propose after almost 2 years and 9 months", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my bf to propose after almost 2 years and 9 months?", "text": "We have been together for almost three years. We say we want to get married and we currently live together. He said last year that he was going to propose and didn't. March of this year and still no proposal. Am I the asshole for thinking the next step in the relationship is to get engaged?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 4}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MnsbHKR2aUL7Qmt8zZVPj3MypgbN6ixf", "post_id": "ag0phn", "action": {"description": "choosing weed over my (now) ex-girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for choosing weed over my (now) ex-girlfriend?", "text": "Okay so I will try to keep this as unbiased as possible. Basically the title is the reason my ex-girlfriend keeps telling me the relationship ended.\n\n**So to start, heres some background info that may be important:**\n\n-  We were friends for a year, then we were together for a year.\n-  Weed actually helps my anxiety. I use it recreationally too, but I wouldn't say that's the main reason I smoke \n-  My ex has told me in the past she would rather me use prescribed anxiety meds rather than weed\n\n**Beginning of the relationship:**\n\nWhen we started dating I was a fat stoner. I smoked multiple times a day. She smoked too, but not as much. In the beginning of the relationship, she told me we should both cut down on weed. I agreed because I was under the impression she would leave me otherwise (which was an actually possibility if you know her). So I stopped smoking for months. During this time I told her I wanted to smoke still and she told me she'd be okay with me smoking like a couple times a month and only around her, so I agreed because I didn't want to lose her.\n\n**Towards the end of the relationship:**\n\nSo recently, we just moved into an apartment together. After weeks of being deep in thought, I had come to the conclusion she was being controlling (this is just what I thought, this is why I'm going to you guys) so I told her that I was going to smoke more anyways and she was reluctantly okay but still wanted me to limit myself. So I did.\n\nThen out of nowhere she tells me she needs to talk. She told me she was deep in thought and cannot marry a stoner and told me if I don't completely cut weed out of my life then we couldn't be together. I told her that telling me I can't do something for the rest of my life wasn't going to work out and we both ended the relationship.\n\n**After the breakup:**\n\nShe is now telling me that smoking more caused me to become lazy and stop planning dates with her, but I only started smoking when we moved into an apartment and were low on money. I had friends that provided the weed btw. I warned her that we wouldnt be able to do much, but she still told me I was bad for not taking her out. During this time I spent $20 on weed and she told me if I really cared about her I would have used that to take her out.\n\nShe also told me that I prioritized weed over her. I tried re-assuring her that she was my #1 priority during the relationship, but the fact that I did choose to leave makes me question that and feel like an ass even though in my mind it was more of a freedom thing than weed.\n\n**tldr:** Ultimatum: Either you cut weed out of your life completely, or you lose me. I chose her\n\nBut why I feel like an asshole is basically because ultimately I did choose weed over her. Even if I had personal freedom in mind, it still came down to me saying I want to smoke more than I want to be with you. I'm still trying to get over her and its been a couple weeks. I don't know this just sucks\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4AWnjAh2bPcDrAenuja7hLlYlU5tohaM", "post_id": "afrual", "action": {"description": "stopping communication for someone that was suicidal", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for stopping communication for someone that was suicidal?", "text": "Ok this is how it started out. I am in 11th grade back in 2013 and just got transferred to a new school because of bullying and my friend became friends with someone who just transferred to my former school. I messaged her and we had a bit of a friendship now lets go to 2018 where this all starts.\n\nI am currently in college and she is in high school 12th grade to be precise. I tried to date her before and she said no I accepted that and later she became a lesbian. I am fully supportive with her choice. We had generally talked day to day but when she would be upset, I would ALWAYS take her side and tried to calm her down. This would work and I tried to make her feel better. She would also talk about killing herself and I told her not to as that would make people feel horrible.\n\nMay of 2018 she had gotten a girlfriend and we were friends on facebook. I like always supported her choice and continued to be friendly with her. Every now and then I would see if she wanted to meet up and hangout, This never happened. She would post on facebook that she needed help with certain things and I always tried to give her information on where to buy this or sell that. \n\nNow in June of 2018 this is where my patience was no more. She was extremely upset and said she wanted to kill herself and said it would be better (this after she had a girlfriend who never was seen on her facebook by the way). I tell her to calm down and that we should meet up to talk about this(I was hoping that meeting a friend would help her calm down more). She blew up on me after that.\n\nHer: You have always been trying to date me and wanting to meet me and never leaving me alone.\n\nHer: my girlfriend says I should call the cops on you for trying to meet me.\n\nBy this point I gave up and told her off.\n\nMe: I have been trying to help you and I don't want to date you I even tried to help you sell stuff. So fuck off and leave me alone.\n\nI then blocked her on facebook and haven't talked since.\n\nJanuary 2019 I had checked on the old messenger where we would talk and I saw a message from july 2018. I no longer have the message but to sum it up she said no she really doesn't have friends anymore for being a jerk and yelling at them.\n\nThis was my horrible experience. I don't really care what people think of me here I just had to let this out someway.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hfnJlfEzKacmLc8SADpqM3cAMTMWqrs7", "post_id": "ak5bgz", "action": {"description": "bailing on a Date Mid way through it because she was fat", "pronormative_score": 49, "contranormative_score": 80}, "title": "AITA For Bailing on A Date Mid way through it because she was fat?", "text": "Met this girl on tinder and she looked really hot, all face pics though which was suspect and they had a good amount of filters on the pics from what I could tell. I didn't care too much because basically every girl uses filters on pics and she was funny and had a nice face. We met up last night at this resto/bar place and right when I saw her I was like WTF this girl is huge. Like 250 lbs probably, I'm 6'1 and she def weighed more than me, I gave her a hug and we went into the place. I was pretty bummed out about this but she was really happy to see me and had an outgoing personality from what I could see so I just thought I'd stick it out. But just staring at her more as we were talking and I knew I couldn't do this anymore and didn't want to waste any more time here with her as I'm not attracted to fat women. She went to the washroom and I texted my buddy to call me in 10 mins pretending our other friend had a medical emergency and is in the hospital and I need to get there. So he calls and I play the part on the phone, apologize to her profusely and quickly pay the whole bill and run off into the night. \n\n​\n\nI went straight over to my buddy's place (same one who called) to have some brews and catch the end of the Raps game and I told him what happened and he's like bro that's a dick move, you're an ass but was kinda joking when saying it. But it got me thinking am I an asswipe for this? Also she texted me this morning saying she had a good time and asked how my buddy is doing. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 63, "OTHER": 49, "EVERYBODY": 17, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 49, "WRONG": 80}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5mB4Bk8XrIHwXUSUiQLI2ctkUhsA60Y0", "post_id": "ayywok", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my wife for singing the family up too many extra curricular activities", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my wife for singing the family up too many extra curricular activities?", "text": "This all started about two weeks ago. While I am not a religious person, my wife and I want to get our daughter baptized. We grew up Catholic so we\u2019re used to writing a $400 \u201cdonation\u201d to the church and keep it moving. But this new church she wants to be apart of is methodist and they don\u2019t want money, they want some sort of commitment..like be a member of the church. This requires one meeting once a week for 5 weeks.\n\nThen they asked her to sing in the church choir which requires us to now have to go to church on Sunday. This is an issue because she works 3shift so she will work 12hra straight and then go sing a church. On top of all that, she signed up my oldest daughter for all these extra curricular activists\n\nMonday- feee\nTuesday-dance\nWednesday- tee ball\nThursday-choir\nFriday-free\nSaturday -tee ball\nSunday- church\n\nI basically have no time to relax. She blames me for being too introverted. But I feel like I have no time to relax. She said I\u2019m selfish and she\u2019ll surf taking the kids to stuff. In all fairness, we do take turns taking my oldest to these events ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xE47EAOKLW6zRA8ERbbze3uol2tMmSFG", "post_id": "aht3zd", "action": {"description": "not throwing away pictures of my Ex-Wife", "pronormative_score": 652, "contranormative_score": 41}, "title": "AITA For not throwing away pictures of my Ex-Wife?", "text": "I'll try to make this simple. My Girlfriend (30f) and I (36m) have 100% custody of my 5 year old Daughter. My daughter's biological mother moved out of state to pursue a career opportunity. \n\nA little background - my Ex-wife left me over 2 years ago for someone else and hasnt been much of a mother since. My current girlfriend has effectively raised my daughter with me for a little over a year and has done a tremendous job as a step mother.\n\nMy Ex-wife moved just a couple of weeks ago and now my girlfriend and I have 100% custody. As a \"parting gift\", my ex made a scrap book for my daughter with pictures of my daughter, my daughter and her mother, and lastly.... my daughter, my ex and myself. There were 2 pictures total that included the 3 of us. \n\nI noticed my girlfriend tearing something apart and my daughter telling her to \"STOOOOP! SHE WORKED SO HARD ON THAT!\"\n\nNot knowing what was going on I stepped over to see what the commotion was all about. This was the first time I had seen or heard of the scrap book, and was unaware of its contents until I witnessed my girlfriend removing all of the pictures that displayed my ex-wife. She was even throwing away pictures that didnt include me and were of my daughter and her mother only.\n\nI abruptly put an end to the destruction, and have been on non-speaking terms with my girlfriend since the event. (8 hours ago) I have tried to explain that I dont want the pictures for myself, and have even stored the in the garage in a box that I keep with all of my daughters report cards and neat school projects and art. However, my wife thinks we should destroy all evidence of my ex, even though her current leave of absence is not guaranteed to be  permanent. \n\nShe was raised similarly and I asked her how she would feel if her stepmother threw away all pictures of her biological mother, just because she moved. She agreed that she would be upset, but argued that it doesnt matter now that SHE is the one raising my daughter. \n\nI'm so lost as to why she thinks this is ok. It's like jealousy and ego have gotten the beat of her and her true self has disappeared. I'm so dumbfounded by it that I'm not certain that I'm not seeing this clearly. Am I missing something?  AITA?\n\nTLDR- my girlfriend doesnt want any pictures of her stepdaughter's mother in the house (anywhere, even in storage) because she is raising my daughter, and bio mother doesnt deserved to be remembered.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 643, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 652, "WRONG": 41}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "39IThyjLv13XVd4jItTj3WpMLTbLk7qh", "post_id": "aij69z", "action": {"description": "not wanting to reciprocate oral", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to reciprocate oral?", "text": "Let me give a bit of background here. I was raised in a household where waiting until marriage to have sex is a big thing. And I\u2019ve always liked the idea of being a virgin until marriage anyway. Well, I met my current bf and told him this (as I had lost a lot of potential dates because I feel this way) and he said he was completely fine with it.\n\nFast forward 5 years, he\u2019s slowly been introducing me to stuff. At first I would push it away but he\u2019d insist and in the heat of the moment, stuff felt good so I let it happen (not saying I didn\u2019t give consent because I did let it happen and enjoyed it so no complaints here). He\u2019s only fingered and given me oral, that\u2019s it. For a while I\u2019d feel guilt after stuff but now I\u2019ve been learning not be ashamed of my body and doing certain things. However, when it comes to doing stuff back, I never feel confident enough or am always worried of getting caught (still live at home and my parents are nosey and love to pop in announced every so often to see what we are doing). If I get caught, it will ruin my life (I\u2019m Hispanic so all this in my culture is huge). I\u2019ve tried to do some stuff back but I feel awkward and uncomfortable and he always wants to push me to do it but I just can\u2019t.\n\nNow lately he\u2019s been getting angry at me for not reciprocating. I\u2019ve told him my reasons and that I just can\u2019t and really just wanna wait to get married to continue doing stuff. I don\u2019t DEMAND anything, I\u2019ve even told him not to do stuff to me anymore since he gets mad I won\u2019t reciprocate. And I\u2019ll often stop him and shit just to avoid arguments. So I thought he was over it and a few days ago initiated and I tried to stop him but he kept on, assuring we won\u2019t get caught. I gave in. He wanted me then to reciprocate and I told him he know the answer to that and that I didn\u2019t make him do anything to me (even kept refusing but he kept insisting) and he got mad at me again and basically ghosted me all of today. It got to the point where I said no multiple times and he didn\u2019t stop insisting until I said he was making me uncomfortable.\n\nWe are not teenagers and haven\u2019t been for a couple of years. I feel like at the beginning of the relationship he respected my decisions and then it gradually went to making me come into understanding myself sexually but then wanting to push past where I\u2019m comfortable. A lot goes through my head: getting caught, not doing it right, not having experience, feeling guilty afterwards, it\u2019s hard to explain. But I tell him and he just says it\u2019s bs because why can I get it and not give back? And I\u2019d agree if it wasn\u2019t for me expressing exactly how I feel and not demanding he does anything to me (even push him away) to avoid the argument. I can do what he wants me to, I just need time and the proper conditions (not living at home, married, etc so I don\u2019t have a guilt following me that eats me up). Anyway, I\u2019m rambling.\n\nAITA for not reciprocating?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x5B9HNbWMlV4eNdZKWBw6L9AhT6qBYin", "post_id": "9woz70", "action": {"description": "asking my roommate to not keep coming in and out of our room every 2 hours in the night to make coffee", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my roommate to not keep coming in and out of our room every 2 hours in the night to make coffee?", "text": "           My roommate is a nice dude, a bit awkward like myself, and he is a huge night owl. By night owl I mean he falls asleep during the day (often drifting off from exhaustion) because he lies in his bed and does all his homework and plays video games there during the day. I have a pretty good friendship with him and he is a good roommate most of the time, and we are both pretty understanding.  \n\n          But he comes into the room during the night because his coffee maker is in here and he slams the door and his coffee maker is loud as shit. This would be fine if a) it didn\u2019t happen every 2 hours during the time when I am trying to sleep and b) I wasn\u2019t such a light sleeper and didn\u2019t have trouble falling back asleep. \n\n         Would I be the asshole if I suggest that he \n\na)stop coming into our room at night\n\nor b) adjust his own (atrocious) sleep schedule\n\nor c) take his coffee machine with him \n(It\u2019s definitely portable, could fit in a backpack easily with plenty of room) at the beginning of the night so that he doesn\u2019t come back and forth into the room every 2 hours?\n\n    Which of the three would make me the smallest asshole? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QkXrm0MIv0V7qOjdODYi1ESPpElyHDpQ", "post_id": "atuh3j", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my mother and her husband", "pronormative_score": 355, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my mother and her husband", "text": "I am 46, from Switzerland and come from a pretty dysfunctional family. \n\nWhen I was 9, my parents divorced and I went to live with my mother and her new boyfriend, whom she married a year later.My stepfather was extremely abusive to me and my sister, both emotionally and physically, and my mother (and the rest of the family) always looked the other way. My mother and him had a son, and he was never abused. I left the house when I was 18 and moved out of the country but kept in touch with my family sporadically. \n\nOver the years, my stepfather changed a lot, attending AA meetings (he has not had a drink in 15 years) and has expressed his regrets for treating us the way he did. I thought I got over my childhood issues and could move on with my life, until a recent incident : last September, my sister, half-brother and I were summoned to a family meeting. There, my stepfather announced that he had contacted a lawyer to ensure that when he dies, his money would not end up in my sister\u00b4s and my pockets. \n\nBasically, according to the law, if he dies before my mother, she gets half of his estate and my half-brother gets the other half. And then, when my mother dies, what she owns gets divided into 3 equal parts going to her 3 children. But my stepfather sees that as unfair and he does not want the part she\u00b4d get when he dies to go to anybody else but to his son. He asked my sister and I to sign a letter the lawyer wrote which said we would give our part of the will to our half-brother.\n\nOf course, we refused. My brother looked embarrassed but did not express any objection. My mother, as always, was silent. Seeing how we would not sign it, my stepfather asked us to think about it.\n\nFast forward and here comes Christmas, and we are all again reunited. The subject comes up and my stepfather becomes very irritated when we tell him we would not budge. That same night, all the abuse I suffered as a child started to resurface and the next morning, I decided I was going to pack my bags and leave. My stepfather was not there so my mother took the brunt of my anger : I told her that I would never forgive her for not protecting us, that she was as guilty as he was and that I was going to do something that I should have done when I was 18 : break up with them and never see them again. \n\nMy sister respects my decision but my brother said I was being too harsh and asked me to reconsider. Apparently my mother and stepfather are devastated by my decision and have tried to reach out to me, but I am very reluctant to accept them back into my life. I don\u00b4t think I could ever forgive them. And it is not even about the money, I would actually prefer they donate everything instead of starting this drama.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 355, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 355, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WpuTmrCIS14TL2DcynIqSXy6fN7psdHI", "post_id": "b0wp96", "action": {"description": "indirect spying", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for indirect spying?", "text": "We're in an open relationship but have a lot of problems with our marriage currently, the problems were not caused by our open marriage. \n\nI told him that while it's not outside of our agreement for him to see other women that right now I don't feel like we're as close as we could/should be and when he meets other women it's hard on me because he's getting closer with them when I feel we should be working on becoming closer. \n\nI used our shared computer to look something up and noticed in the search bar that he'd visited a personals site. I did not click and snoop on him, instead, I hopped on my personal computer and browsed the site and found two posts that I absolutely know are his. \n\nI plan on having a talk with him about it, but, AITA for snooping, even though I didn't pry into any of his personal accounts?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hlXHRH11eApTkbCbKV7NkcXn37SSJvlL", "post_id": "ag2ppx", "action": {"description": "literally just standing in front of a door before someone else", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For literally just standing in front of a door before someone else?", "text": "So, this is my girlfriends story, she just wanted me to submit it for her under the alias A.A.:\n\n\"Oh boy do I have a fun little story to tell about a terrible experience with a little a-hole at my school!\nFor context, this boy admittedly wasn't a normal kid, he had behavioural issues. He has outbursts, giggles at people's pain, and makes bets only small children would make. Thing is, while he is certainly a special ed kid, he doesn't have a special ed teacher with him, unlike this really nice girl at school with extremely mild autism. Him not having a teach actually leads him to slack off since nobody watches him, and he tends to be disliked be a lot of kids, though that doesn't justify this story...\nSo, it was Friday morning, I was in art class and all packed up to head out to my next class. I stepped to the door, and as I was the first one there, I stood beside the door knob, to make exiting as quick as possible. There was about two minutes to spare, and this kid comes up to me, and gets right in my face, telling me to move. Of course I said no, because I was there first and had no reason to agree since he was being rather rude...\nHe got mad and asked me to move again, with more authority in his voice , and I said no again. I was already getting grumpy from this kid, and before I know it shit hits the fan. He starts berating me with insults! Calling me a \"jerk\" and a \"terrible person\" all because of where I was standing! I calmly asked him to please calm down, and he proceeded to say \"Don't talk back to me! You're a girl!\"\nThat, made me feel like absolute shit if I'm being honest. At this point, three other kids tell him he's being very rude and ask him to stop. Unsurprisingly he starts going off on them, calling them jerks as well. That day we had a sub, who reached between us, not to stop us, but to flip the lock so the next period could get in. Such a great sub. I had to lean out of the way for the sub to reach the door lock, so the second the sub left, the boy just elbowed me till I moved and said \"Was that so hard?\"\nI was tearing up at this point, looking down and trying to hold it in. And he just giggled at my tears! Then the bell rang, and he was still berating another student! He delayed the exit by a minute! So why did he want the spot in the first place?!\nSo we left, I walked begrudgingly to my next class, Spanish, and sat down, looking down and trying to stay strong. My friend came and sat near me, asking how my day was going. I looked at her, and she instantly shifted to concern, and as I tried to explain what happened, I broke. I start crying uncontrollably and my Spanish teacher along with my friend had to calm me down. I explained what happened to the best of my ability, and my Spanish teach emailed my art teach. This Tuesday is my next art class, and I am not excited for the outcome ...\"\n\nMore to come whenever all this is over, and we see what happens. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UHxx5q2CIuEvXp2RZNS2nsYR34P3vUx3", "post_id": "a4qstk", "action": {"description": "snapping and getting confrontational with my Mum's friend's son", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for snapping and getting confrontational with my Mum\u2019s friend\u2019s son?", "text": "On mobile, sorry for formatting etc.\n\nSo, a bit of context - I am a 15 year old guy, pretty tall (about 185 centimetres), pretty skinny, but a bad temper (not a short fuse as such, more a long one attached to a large pile of C4), which I got pretty good at controlling. I mostly just want to be left alone, actually,My Mum has a friend with 3 kids, the oldest is an 11 year old boy, who we\u2019ll call Harold, and 2 daughters (9 and about 7), who I don\u2019t mind. I don\u2019t like Harold very much, but I tolerate him, because he has abandonment issues from his Dad (his Mum and Dad are divorced, but he cared much more for his 2 sisters. He recently stopped caring so much, and has spent more time with his Mum).\n\nSo, my Mum had them over, along with a friend of theirs. I have virtually no interest spending time with them, since we share no common interests. Harold, however, considers himself a \u201cgamer\u201d (i.e he plays Fortnite on the Xbox), but I play Portal, Darkest Dungeon etc. on my PC. My Mum bitches at me if I don\u2019t play \u201cwith\u201d him. I\u2019d got fed up of him asking me to download Fortnite so he could \u201ctry it on PC\u201d, and decided to just cut my losses - I\u2019d rather not play and not have him bother me.\n\nSo I head downstairs, and I\u2019m hanging out in the living room, and I\u2019m playing some Daft Punk on an Echo, when Harold comes in on one of those stupid hover board things (yes we have one, no we don\u2019t use it often), which belongs primarily to me. He proceeds to bash into the sofa, leaving a mark on it. Then, he changes the music to Cardi B. I call him hilarious, then put the album back on (I was pissed, as I was right in the middle of Harder Better Faster Stronger, and I had to start it again). He complains, somehow doing the mental gymnastics that he had put it on first. I put my phone down, and stand up (a full head taller than him, even with the board), and tell him to leave, getting in his face. My temper was flaring up at this point. He refuses, and starts shouting (everyone else was a good few rooms away, laughing loudly), so I outshout him, once again telling him to leave. He doesn\u2019t, so I lift him off the board, and put him down, telling him to (you guessed it) leave. He doesn\u2019t and things get \u201cphysical\u201d. I put \u201cphysical\u201d in quotes, because there was virtually nothing he could do to hurt me, and I wasn\u2019t hurting him, put I was mocking his arm swinging. He threw a weak punch at my stomach, which just bounced off, andI shepherded him out of the door. He didn\u2019t get my Mum or anything, so there\u2019s that.\n\nI felt at the time that I was completely in the right, but looking back on it now, I feel like what I did was unnecessary, especially with the age difference. I also feel that the reason he hangs around me a bit is because he looks up to me a bit. Look, I know I was a bit of a bellend, but I think I was understandably so.\n\nQuick note - I hadn\u2019t had a great day. I had shit schoolwork, shit lunch, and had a headache. I felt like this was the straw that broke the camel\u2019s back, because I\u2019d not had a proper temper outburst for about 8 months, which, oddly enough, also involved him, but he was the asshole on that occasion.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wGJxgE16bnrDGamCkwrgdKuXyQ53TORP", "post_id": "b9bh7s", "action": {"description": "asking my sister to tell her boyfriend to stop ringing her", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my sister to tell her boyfriend to stop ringing her?", "text": "Hi all! \n\nLong time lurker, first time poster on this subreddit! I'm currently in a bit of a pickle and seeking opinions.\n\nTo preface this, I am an insomniac and so it takes me a while to fall asleep. That initial moment of falling asleep is so crucial for me because if it gets interrupted, I end up staying up longer and there goes my productivity the following day. I should also mention, I share a room with my 3 sisters. \n\nThe sister who this post is about, has a boyfriend who she's been with for a few months. They talk every day and every night. It's gotten to the point where they fall asleep on the phone together and if the call drops, he rings her back. You would think common sense would prevail and he would assume she is sleeping, but no. He rings and rings and rings.\n\nNormally I just suck it up since I'm already awake and there's no way of me going back to sleep. But last night was the final straw for me. It was 1 am, I could feel myself drifting off to sleep, and he fucking called her!! She eventually picked up and was whisper-speaking to him. \n\nI've had it with the ringing. I want to approach her and ask that they enforce some boundaries for e.g. No calls past 9pm. WIBTA for asking her to create some boundaries when it comes to phone calls? \n\nTIA", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lx14RAY9KO1SywQs26kVm5pYRFUGywVe", "post_id": "a48q5n", "action": {"description": "believing we need cancer and disease to control population", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for believing we need cancer and disease to control population?", "text": "Sometimes I wonder if we need things like cancer and disease just to keep our population from exploding.\nI think China until recently has taken the best stance on only allowing people to have one child. They foresaw the dangers of overpopulation not only to the world but to their own country and did something about it. Anyone on here who's lost someone to cancer or disease would probably think I'm the a****** but I think the world would be a lot worse off if it wasn't present. I don't think that as a species we deserve to be cured of all illness until we can control our population responsibly. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4a4GQtCkdBtiZTxKtgG1WN3qGNi4zs1L", "post_id": "aunscx", "action": {"description": "not checking in on my grandmother who raised me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For not checking in on my grandmother who raised me?", "text": "My grandparents (on my mother's side) practically raised me until I was 13. During that time, my grandfather passed away and my grandmother deteriorated. Then my mother passed away and she got even worse.\n\nI was removed from her home and sent to live with my father's parents. I haven't talked to her for almost 2 years. (I'm 20 now)\n\nI think about her often, but her memory is going and she hardly remembers my name. She is living in a group home, her son (who I don't have contact with for reasons) checks up on her. She for sure doesn't remember the abusive things she did to me and my siblings and I don't want to make her remember them. I also don't want to relive them.\n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to contact her? She's in her 70s now and I feel like I'm just waiting for the day that I hear she died. I'm comfortable with never talking to her again.\n\nShould I contact her regardless? At this point she's a very frail old woman. Is she even responsible for what she did in the past due to her growing mental illness? AITA for not giving a shit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MkO9EatytnnPAbuDR3bM5wSTLDrIE7wW", "post_id": "adzcp4", "action": {"description": "being mad that my sister goes to a private school", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for being mad that my sister goes to a private school?", "text": "For context: My sister is in grade 3, while I am in high school.\n\nSo basically, my sister, was falling quite far behind in her school work. My parents thought it was the teachers as she (apparently) has dyslexia (never been officially diagnosed but she shows alot of signs, so understandable). After doing alot of school searching and hopping, my parents were somewhat angry that no school they desired would take her (they obviously went after ones with high reviews, however the only ones with placements left were more...undesirable), so they put her into a private school, costing around 600$ per month, in the hopes that she gets more 1-on-1 time and help with her work, due to overall lesser amount of classmates and the like. I was obviously annoyed by this, but their defense was that I have never struggled with grades (Which is true) and never needed any help with work. This wasn't helped by the fact that they changed after 2 weeks at the new private school, and chose an even more expensive private school afterwards, which is almost double, at 1200$ a month. While I understand that she needs more help than I do, I can't help but feel tossed to the side as my sister gets this special education I wasn't allowed. I still think I would benefit If I went to private school at this stage, but of course my parents deny it, claiming that my grades are good enough that it wouldn't benefit me. (And it's not a money problem; my parents earn quite alot and could easily afford for me to go aswell). I admit (maybe selfishly) would love to be able to put on my resume/CV that I went to a private school; and I am sure I WOULD indeed benefit grades wise if I went.\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XQEUaeMgl6ImDmTXnEIwtj9PkfTOjQii", "post_id": "adwvwl", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to tell me who is he going out with", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting my bf to tell me who is he going out with?", "text": "Hi everyone,\n\nI've been living with my boyfriend for six months. We had small fights and misunderstandings, but we were always able to solve our problems. Except this one:\n\nFew days ago, I was at work and  was texting my boyfriend at the end of my shift, told him I was coming home soon and asked him where he was. \nHis reply to my question was kind of odd, he just asked when he was supposed to be home. I insisted on getting an answer, so he told me. But he didn't want to tell me with whom he was. \n\nIt made me not only angry but also scared. Later that evening we had a discussion about that, when he told me that I have no right to now where he is or who is he with, that it's his private sphere. So I got that disgusting feeling in my stomach,because I started to think that he's hiding something big from me. I really love him and I want to trust him, but something is fishy here. \n\nHis friends are really important to him and I know that. I also have nothing against him being outside without me (I mostly don't have time to go out and don't enjoy it that much) but I always wanted to know where I could find him (although never even tried) and he never really wanted to tell me. This was the first time he straight-up refused to reveal his company. \n\nSo i would like to ask you (especially men on reddit) am i wrong? Is he right? Do i really have no right to know? \n\nTLDR: Boyfriend went out last night and didn't want to tell me with who. Am I the asshole for asking?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NmoB5UTTGl3oFkjoqUZTk86pSob1kBRD", "post_id": "as75u7", "action": {"description": "throwing amy off the edge", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for throwing amy off the edge", "text": "I was playing minecraft skywars on my phone and i teamed up with a girl named amy for that round until it was just us two. We wandered around the map for a while until she killed me without notice. I was a little upset for like 2 seconds since it's just minecraft obviously. We met again at the spawn in the lobby and she looked at me and slowllyy walked into the \"team\" skywars. (I never play team mode, I hate it) but it was 1:30am and i felt like following her. On one hand it was because we were probably still teammates and on the other hand it's totally just because I wanted revenge because she killed me without warning. So the game started up, I emptied the chests on my island blah blah and i IMMEDIATLY start searching for any. Conveniently she was on the island right next to mine. I didn't interact with my teammate at all I just immediatly started building towards her island. She hadn't noticed me building to her since she was focused on her own bridge and her teammate was nowhere in sight. I dropped down behind her and immediately threw her off the edge. She turned to see me during her fall but it happened so fast I doubt she even noticed it was me. Felt like I just killed my best friend. Then get tammate came out and threw me off the edge and i opened reddit to tell everyone what happened", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lYgppRXRSJ8HveQBxNuQJ06DVoFPbSpz", "post_id": "acq1e8", "action": {"description": "not being concerned that my fiance is mad that I ate most of the string cheese", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not being concerned that my fiance is mad that I ate most of the string cheese?", "text": "Ok so me and my fiance live in Georgia but she is originally from Wisconsin. Her mother sent us a few things in a package for the holidays. In this package there was Wisconsin String Cheese. The package came and she had 1 piece of cheese and then flew to  New York where I am from and where I was visiting my family. We then fly back on the NYE. I didn't touch the cheese until the 2nd where I had 2 pieces. I had  2 more pieces on the 3rd and then 2 today. She then sees that the bag has 2 left and gets furious. I can't help but laugh. I didn't know how many pieces were originally in the bag because it was already opened by her, and there isn't a set number in these bags. I also didn't know that she was so attached to this cheese until she flipped out. She's also been talking about getting into shape and eating healthy so I didn't even know she wanted it that bad. AITA for laughing because she got mad that I ate so much cheese that her mom sent both of us?\n\nTL;DR: My fiance's mother sent us Wisconsin String Cheese and I unknowingly ate most of the package. She got furious and I laughed because I thought it was funny that she got mad over cheese. AITA for laughing?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qsVWpN3okXNlOBZMWWOniw5pxZrkdux0", "post_id": "b5h4gv", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go out on date night", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AItA for not wanting to go out on date night?", "text": "A little back story. I have a bad case of mono. Not sure if I got it from my new girlfriend who doesn't think she ever had it or my nephew who had it last fall, or some rando sneaking in my food and giving it to me, whatever the case I got it bad.\n\nAt it's worst I was sleeping 20 hours a day, jaundice skin, inflamed spleen, beach ball neck, and had trouble lifting anything heavier than a Harry Potter book. \n\nI am getting better and I have actually been back to work, but if no one keeps me up I fall asleep 4pm. On Friday my girlfriend and I went on a date night and I ended up falling asleep at the store we were shopping in around 630. Today she wanted us and her daughter to go to a movie at 4. I figured if I drank soda I could stay awake and be caffeinated enough to drive home after without falling asleep at the wheel. \n\nSo we went out and had some ice cream. While getting ice cream I went to the theatre website to get tickets, but it turns out the movie isn't until 5. I told her I didn't feel comfortable staying out that late yet. At this point I am already tired enough to fall asleep and I am just forcing myself to stay awake because I want to spend time with them. I offer to hang out until the movie starts but she doesn't want to. She suggests skipping the movie at the theatre, driving back to town renting a movie and watching something at home.\n\nIf we did this, the movie would still not start till after 5 but now we would have a kid who was told we were going to the theatre and then got denied that we have to watch the movie at home with. So I would rather cut out and go to bed at this point. We make plans to go see dumbo this weekend and I ask her if we can hang out tomorrow, but instead she gives me attitude and insists I don't want to hang out with her so she will just see me later.\n\nIDK, I see it as I don't want to fall asleep at the wheel and die on the way home, but she makes it seem like I am an uninterested asshole leading her on.  \n\nAm I being an asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "J5tw3oUFH4dK0YPoHJtMy4BLzB8KIbnw", "post_id": "b8vxlc", "action": {"description": "asking a girl out, that my best friend happens to be crushing on", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked a girl out, that my best friend happens to be crushing on?", "text": "For context, me and my friend, (we'll call him Bill) are both 23. We lead pretty standard lives. Every weekend Bill and I get Qdoba, it's our favorite restaurant. And theres a girl who works there who is genuinely good looking. And Bill is really attracted to her. Problem is, Bill isnt the type of guy to ask a random girl out. But I most definitely am. So reddit, WIBTA if I asked her out? \n\n(On mobile sorry for formatting)", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "x32GSDqgXHZjkAfum87UVv7j1lJTf22H", "post_id": "a6m6w3", "action": {"description": "constantly giving shit to a kid who might be autistic", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for constantly giving shit to a kid who might be autistic?", "text": "So I will first specify that I am still in high school and attend a vocational high school, and at this school every single student is supplied with an iPad. (Hella spoiled I know)\n\nAnyway, in my shop of Plumbing and Heating, theres this kid who I will call Steven. Steven is quite oblivious to how he shows himself to others. Hes an unabashed fan of Pokemon and Dragon Ball and countless other anime. Hes so oblivious that he demands us to call him either Goku or DarkFire instead of Steven because we have multiple Steves in our class. During shop time, hes constantly on his ipad watching this shit, to which he misses valuable info from lessons. This has made him so laughably incompetent in shop that its sad. I will note, he is not innocent. He will act like an asshole, and we all give him shit equally for that.\n\nMe however, I\u2019m a very easy person to irritate. A person can easily tick me off by the way they act, and the fact that Steven misses so much information and doesn\u2019t seek it out out of pure laziness pisses me off so much. So I have constantly given him shit. Constant. Even when others weren\u2019t. I wasn\u2019t even realizing it.\n\nNow here I sit, 11 at night and I\u2019m barely able to sleep. I\u2019ve thought over how Steven acts, and from previous friends and their knowledge, Steven is 100% somewhere on the spectrum for Autism.\n\nI can barely sleep right now because I just realized I\u2019ve been bullying a kid who might have autism for the past month or so.\n\nI will also mention he survived cancer, so thats also there for making me the morally wrong one.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9Y2e9fRUHYB7pDWKTYsXr25emYS3qkFi", "post_id": "antz3c", "action": {"description": "not taking my fianc\u00e9's last name unless he changes it", "pronormative_score": 46, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not taking my fianc\u00e9's last name unless he changes it?", "text": "I honestly have no idea if I am being an asshole or if I'm being reasonable. I'm getting married in August to the love of my life, I can not tell you how insanely in love and happy I am with this man. But my an unlucky twist of fate, my first name rhymes with his last name! (Think Julia Gulia from The Wedding Singer)\n\n​\n\nI know I could keep my name, but I love the idea of sharing a surname and sharing that name with our future children. In the sweetest gesture I could ever imagine, my fianc\u00e9 has offered to change his name from Harty to Hart, so that the rhyme isn't so obvious and jarring. It's an idea we completely fell in love with, and we're even planning on getting little anatomical heart tattoos after the wedding to commemorate the day! (We're big tattoo folk)\n\n​\n\nNow here's the tough part. His family and my family have been judging us pretty harshly about it. My brother thought it was outrageous so ask a man to change his name. My fianc\u00e9's brother thought is was ridiculous, that we were throwing away the family history, and that we might as well change our name to anything if we were going to do something so crazy. My partner is very sweet and he obviously takes this very much to heart.\n\n​\n\nI'm honestly lost about what to do. Every time I've mentioned my possible new name (with the rhyming Harty) to people, they always laugh a good bit and it makes me very self-conscious. I don't want to feel awkward about my name for the rest of my life! But I also don't want our family to think I'm pushing my partner into this. \n\n​\n\nI suppose most importantly, my partner seems 100% happy with the decision, but I don't know if I'm expecting too much. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 37, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 46, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dk5OVxUQWuaYa7ghUneaIs4IewvLqWnJ", "post_id": "a4p546", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend how one of our boyfriends leaving the relationship impacts me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for Asking my Girlfriend how one of our Boyfriends leaving the relationship impacts me?", "text": "So, I am in a polyamorous relationship with 3 other people, two boys and a girl. One of the menfolk... we will call him Cthulu, got in a fight with my gf's mother yesterday. I don't know much about the context, or even what transpired as I wasn't there, but as a result he decided to leave the relationship. He posted his departure in both of our groupchats, and then left the chats themselves. \n\nFor some context, I am the most recent addition to this poly group, so I feel that my position is really unstable within it. I felt the need to reach out to my gf and ask her how Cthulu leaving would impact she, the other bf, and myself's relationship. She said she wasn't sure, and I said OK and told her to keep me posted. Besides this private question, I decided to stay entirely out of the fight. I didn't have enough information to have any sort of opinion, and I didn't want to force myself into a conversation I didn't belong in. I never privately dm'd Cthulu, because I felt that doing so would more likely get me tangled in the drama than it would make anyone feel better. What is more, this isn't the first time that he has threatened to leave over a small fight, and it is generally frustrating whenever he does it, so I doubted I could be very consoling.\n\nToday, Cthulu messages me and tells me I made the fight about myself, and that asking how his leaving impacts me is selfish, especially since I didn't dm him or try to comfort him. I'm really confused, because besides asking my gf about how the fallout would shift things, I stayed entirely out of it. Was that selfish? Am I an asshole for keeping to my own business within our relationship and not trying to mediate situations I didn't know much about?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WrRKlhVAN0cBcVrdcTwL53R05ogcaJEg", "post_id": "b28w4t", "action": {"description": "not joining my friends in a trivia club", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not joining my friends in a trivia club?", "text": "My school is part of a regional program that hosts trivia tournaments every year. I participated last year and our team lost miserably. My friends both joined the club this year, and I took part in the first practice this year. However I did not enjoy the practice and realized that maybe the club wasn't for me. I told everyone that I was unlikely to come to the next practice (which was against another school). The day of, my friends asked me if I was coming and I told them I wasn't interested in the club any longer. The team lost the practice. Now the first actual match is coming up and my friends want me to participate. They told me that the team will likely lose without me and that they want to win this year very badly. I told them no again. When they asked me to do it as a favour I said that it wouldn't be fun and to stop asking me. My friends seem upset with me and are convinced that they will lose again this year because I no longer play. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uoXiesZF6grmiMeEPeNf42VwHqMLpuzZ", "post_id": "ay1ojw", "action": {"description": "stopping catering to my sister's ednos", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I stopped catering to my sister\u2019s EDNOS?", "text": "My sister (21F) has a displayed disordered eating for about two years now, I\u2019m pretty sure it\u2019s stress-related and I\u2019ve tried to help her out as much as I can. She\u2019s fainted from low blood sugar several times, she only eats an average of 1 meal and snack a day, and she often throws away the food I meal prep for her lunch. \nI\u2019ve tried sitting her down and asking her what goals she has (if she wants to be slim, get fit, be healthy, have a butt, idk) and have taken her to the gym to show her workouts and what a nutritionally satisfying diet looks like several times. I\u2019m not qualified in nutrition but I have a personal interest due to starting weightlifting and such. I\u2019ve encouraged her to seek out therapy and offered to drive her to a clinic so she can get professional help. Or see a nutritionist. She refuses to admit she has a problem, my advice to her tends to be ignored. I  called my own doctor to ask what I could do, and he basically said I can\u2019t force her to do anything since she\u2019s an adult. She\u2019d have to come in herself for any sort of treatment. \nSince I\u2019ve been living at home with her and our parents since Jan, I\u2019ve been trying to cook meals for everyone\u2019s lunch, stock the fridge and pantry with snack foods, make dinner a couple times a week, and overall just be helpful/supportive as much as I can since I\u2019m the only one who doesn\u2019t have a commute to and from work. But what annoys me is that my parents seem to enable her eating habits by telling me to buy x food because my sister ate it this week, instead of addressing the problem.\nMy sister will binge on a certain food for days until it\u2019s gone but if I try to buy the same foods again, she will not touch them. She has a very limited list of foods that she has deemed \u2018healthy\u2019 and she will eat but if I prepare them in the wrong way, she also won\u2019t touch them, (for instance, chicken is healthy but if I flavor/season it with something she doesn\u2019t consider healthy, she won\u2019t eat it). I\u2019ve asked her what she would like to eat repeatedly. I\u2019m getting really frustrated at this point because she will straight up ignore me and pretend she didn\u2019t hear my question and I\u2019m exhausted trying to find new foods she will actually eat or work around it. It\u2019s basically a guessing game of what\u2019s going on in her head. The lack of communication is what really irritates me. I\u2019ve been spending a lot of time either cooking last minute alternates or stepping out to buy foods when she suddenly decides she won\u2019t eat y or z foods, when last week y and z was acceptable. \nI know it\u2019s a mental health issue and I feel like the jerk for resorting to this, but WIBTA if I stopped trying to cater to what she eats and just say: Fuck it, this is what I made for today. Eat it or leave it. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TLZdotNTiK60RyoW14PL3jh2ueQjclDP", "post_id": "b2y817", "action": null, "title": "AITA? My husband of 4 months gets sent to prison for a year while I travel with friends", "text": "So, my husband of 4 months loses his case and gets sent to prison for a little over a year.  This is a very difficult situation for both of us.  I\u2019m super stressed and the way I handle stress is to travel.  So I wrote him telling him that I was going to Disneyland for the day with a guy friend who is coworker (he has never met him).  Then I wrote to tell him that I booked an all inclusive trip to a beach in Thailand with my GF, nothing crazy going on, just some shopping, snorkeling and chillin on the beach.  I also went to Colorado and Utah for skiing trips with my GFs and I have an upcoming trip to Japan to visit my mom in a couple of months.  \nHe is freaking out and was like I thought travel was something we would do together.  He asked me if the situation was on the other foot how I would feel?  I asked him what was I supposed to do while he was gone?  Just sit around and be miserable?  So am I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7SOtxDflV9WiOLnC10SqbjhgPWEqWsSE", "post_id": "b841oq", "action": {"description": "using brothers ex-wife for goods and services", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for using brothers ex-wife for goods and services?", "text": "Yes I know the title sounds sexual lol.\n\n​\n\nAnyway, my brother has an ex-wife, who's husband owns a a business. My husband has been sorta-friends with ex-wifes husband for quite some time, and I became very close to the ex-wife in her time with my brother.\n\n​\n\nAnyway, my they offer us free shit from his business from time to time, and my brother has a huge problem with it, cause she doesn't want to see the stuff we get from them all over facebook, and have our family comment on how nice it is. It feels to him like me and the family are supporting his ex (who was not very nice to my brother, but always nice to me) and not him.\n\n​\n\nAITA for wanting to keep using their services? He does good work and it's free, plus my husbands friendship with him predates any of this. Im just confused on what to do...\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6wrPQaAEpwxAe64z9jm40ODXgdAncQqs", "post_id": "b7lsq5", "action": {"description": "rejecting sb who was trying too hard to be my friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for rejecting sb who was trying too hard to be my friend?", "text": "(Sorry if i make grammar/suntax mistakes, english is not my primary language)\n\nSo there is this girl in my class, let's call her Helen. I don't think we could ever be friends as we're really different people (she's not loud at all, a little childlike for her age etc), but she is a nice person and I've always been kind towards her. The problem is that for the past few days, Helen had been trying too hard to get my attention. She would agree on every single thing i said, interrupt me when i was talking with my friends about a tv show/singer to say that she loved it too (she sits behind me in class and it could get pretty weird, especially when I didn't even know she was there) and many more things. It kinda made me cringe but i kept being polite towards her, avoiding her without making it too obvious and doing all the things you're supposed to do when you're stuck in a situation like this.\n\nHowever, she did not get the hint and kept acting this way. It got to the point that whenever she saw me alone in the hallways, she approached me trying to start a conversation, which resulted in me making excuses to leave. Another time, she wanted to show me something on instagram and i saw that my account was her top suggestion. It was creepy.\n\nAnyway, me and this girl have a mutual friend, ''Lena''. She is not one of my best friends, but we're pretty close. When I asked my friends for advice. they told me to talk to her, as she is one of the most trsutworthy people I know, and so I did. Lena said that she had already noticed and suggested something along the lines of ''Look, I am gonna talk to Helen, tell her that I've noticed the way she acts towards you, that it seems like you are trying to avoid her as the way she is trying to approach you is really weird and that you two are really different and it is okay that she are not in your friend group, as you like her as a person anyway''\n\nI thought this was the best solution and I agreed. However, when Lena spoke to Helen it didn't go that well. Lena told me that Helen looked a bit sad but kept her feelings to herself and told that it was okay. Now, Helen won't talk to me at all in class. \n\nMy friends told me that this doesn't make me a bad person, because if I was one I would ignore Helen/straight up tell her that I am not interested in becoming friends with her, but I still feel a little guilty. So redditors, what do you think, am I the asshole here?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9HuMgYQsgG4HCnJd9CkQgUEMaEj5GWZ2", "post_id": "b8tuq5", "action": {"description": "constantly asking my friend in a long queue to get food for me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for constantly asking my friend in a long queue to get food for me", "text": "he is totally fine with it, and i pay him right afterwards, but people have been telling me to stop doing that as its basically cutting the queue... but im not physically cutting the queue? it seems pointless to wait 30 mins when i could just walk up to my friend and tell him what i want in 5 minutes", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WFjW4gh9Oi2tZZ4sckNaiBWhzz3KMgqH", "post_id": "a39fls", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend over text", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For breaking up with my girlfriend over text.", "text": " In junior year of high school I hadn\u2019t really had a girlfriend up to that because of my really bad anxiety. Eventually I just said what hell what have I got to lose and after I found out this girl liked me we started talking. Long story short we started dating \n Anxiety, however, had other plans. I felt physically sick and missed almost three days of school. In this time I had seen this girl three time in school since we\u2019ve started dating the rest had been over text. I decided I wasn\u2019t ready and needed to get help for these issues before I was ready to go into the dating pool. \n After we had been officially dating for a week and those three days I missed and a Saturday passed I decided to break up with her on Sunday. I decided to do so over text seeing as 85% of our relationship had been over text. \n I probably should add that she took it extremely well and completely understood and respected my reasons and we are still friends today.\n\nTL;DR: I broke up with a girl over text because most of the relationship was over text.\n\n(Also for anyone wondering I did get help with the anxiety thing and I\u2019m good now.)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pGITdn5DK5t8RxX5h5uIqqibl8Gh3DPg", "post_id": "awyqdo", "action": {"description": "reporting my coworker for getting high in the middle of work", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I reported my coworker for getting high in the middle of work?", "text": "Basically the title says it all. I work at a family owned pizza place and on Saturdays there\u2019s a girl (let\u2019s call her E) who also comes in to work. When it gets closer to closing time our boss sends her back to help us clean up (I work as a cook and she answers phones)  it all she actually does is dry dishes for about ten minutes (which is actually great) but right after she just goes out back and gets high. She\u2019ll come back in stumbling around and laughing her ass of, doing absolutely nothing for the last hour to hour and a half of work. My boss is unaware because he stays up front but would I be the ass-hole for reporting her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cOGGB2oBseo2n2AMHflCoyjhapISvl87", "post_id": "aih81f", "action": {"description": "telling my mom she was being loud", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA if I told my mom she was being loud?", "text": "I'm 14 and this happened yesterday.\n\nMy mom really likes football and she gets excited whenever there is a game on TV. She was watching a football game yesterday on the TV in our living room. I was in the kitchen which is behind the living room when she starts screaming at the TV, probably from something going on in the game. It had happened multiple times before in the same day and I hadn't said anything about it. This time I said, \"Mom, you're being too loud.\" She gets up from the couch and walks over to me. She starts yelling at me and basically says how \"football is one of of the few things she enjoys in life\" and how I'm \"trying to steal her joy of football\". Was I being mean to her by saying that? Did my response warrant her yelling?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2RgD6iFlEuttJiESHgH8XplfiX4SVnmT", "post_id": "alyaku", "action": {"description": "wanting to split a check 3-ways when with a couple", "pronormative_score": 47, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for wanting to split a check 3-ways when with a couple?", "text": "I was hanging out with a friend and his girlfriend. We decided to get a cab and agreed to split the fare. When it comes time to pay I'm suddenly expected to pay for HALF despite there being THREE people in this equation. The friend claimed that he was paying for his girlfriend so therefore it was only being split between me and him, but that still means I'm paying 1/6th more to _also_ cover his girlfriend, right? \n\nAm I the asshole for wanting the cost split per each person involved? Or since the cab fare isn't calculated per person am I the asshole for trying to pay less on a fixed cost?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 47, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "91Cvj5MjhQvV7tZj79ppsGgm402pQrla", "post_id": "b74v51", "action": {"description": "getting my coworker fired for sexual harassment", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting my coworker fired for sexual harassment?", "text": "This happened about a year ago. I keep hearing that whoever got my former coworker fired is such an asshole. Only out for themselves. Most people don\u2019t know what happened. The executives have been pretty tight-lipped, thankfully.\n\nFor about three years, this coworker would make comments or whistle if he was walking behind me. He would press himself up against me if I was climbing a latter. He said he was trying to make me feel safe, more comfortable because I am really afraid of heights. His reasoning wasn\u2019t believable because of the comments and noises he would make. He also tricked me into looking at a dick pic. Once on a trip to another location, he pulled off on a dirt road, \u201caccidentally\u201d touched my boob and commented about how nice it felt, then told me we could get paid to fuck. When I said no, he got out and took a leak. I was terrified.\n\nHe told me about the various employees at other locations that he slept with and other things they did. He made comments about all different women all the time. I\u2019m pretty sure he\u2019s a sex addict.\n\nThe thing is, I\u2019m terrified of confrontation. I was also afraid the executives would choose to believe him o er me. So I only clearly told him to stop after years of this. And I only told my boss after making a comment about him and getting prodded for what I was talking about. He was gone in less than 24 hours and wasn\u2019t told he was fired due to sexual harassment. He was informed his behavior didn\u2019t line up with company values.\n\nSo am I the asshole for not being clear about saying no because I was afraid and then getting him fired for it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xQXa4VO3psd9lTzjkKOB6Vn1xUYRz1GN", "post_id": "b8envm", "action": {"description": "not going visit my uncle in rehab", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA if I don't go visit my uncle in rehab?", "text": "Some backstory: I live in the south (read: Louisiana).\n\nI got a decent size family of about 30ish people, for reference. Now, before my grandma died, she was kind of the glue that held the family together. We went for the holidays and the \"holidays\", if you know what I mean.\n\nI don't attribute the family drifting to anything negative, honestly. People got older, a cousin got married and moved to Illinois for work, my brother got into a college over in Wyoming, that sort of thing. Hell, I moved several hours away myself on a promotion with my job and met my wife.\n\nWell, we made a half assed effort to get together for major holidays after her passing. A time or two a year, we managed to get most heads under the same roof, but I guess it was never really the same.\n\nWell, two years ago, one of my younger cousins finally got married. She had a really pretty wedding relatively close to the hometown and everyone in the family made the trip to go see her and experience her wedding. It was great, because I brought my then-girlfriend and had her meet the family.\n\nThe wife and I got engaged afterwards.\n\nMy wife is enormously well liked in her hometown and ended up inviting around 600 people for the wedding.  I ended up inviting about 40 people to the wedding, including the family.\n\nHere's the kicker. 9 people I invited showed up. My immediate family, a friend and her spouse, and an aunt and uncle (not drug head).\n\nI was angry, truthfully, because I got RSVP's from most of them saying they were coming and they just...didn't come. I got no message from anyone.\n\nMy wife spent 10 months planning this wedding.  Our wedding cake was frankly was one of the most delicious cakes I had ever tasted. The reason I mention the cake was because my brother had taken a large chunk of it for some family members and I caught him and took the cake from him. I told him very frankly that if the family wanted cake, they could have drove their happy asses down here and gotten some.\n\nAfter that, not really much happened, honestly. Like I said, nobody has spoken to me.\n\nWell, the rehab thing comes into play because my uncle after 18 years of serious drug use after his wife died has finally hit rock bottom and is checking himself into rehab to get help. My mother called me and asked me to go see him and to let him know I care (his rehab is really close to my wife and I's home).\n\nMy uncle was in a really bad place when my wedding happened. I don't necessarily blame him for not coming because he was hospitalized with gang-green in his leg. So me not visiting him is just a shot at his children and the rest of the family, WHO BY THE WAY DIDN'T GO SEE HIM EITHER, SO THEY DON'T GET TO USE THAT AS AN EXCUSE, K?\n\nI declined visiting him. My mother is LIVID about it, and I'm sure if my family was speaking to me, they would be too.\n\nAm I the asshole here?\n\n*A lot of pertinent info (I think) is missing b/c of AITA's 3000 char limit.*", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WteLA6NgDTUS2iPonjL8QQNoiRqYdULK", "post_id": "9yput3", "action": {"description": "not answering my ex email", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not answering my ex email?", "text": "Sorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language. \n\nTwo weeks ago I received an email from an ex I hadn\u2019t speak with in 5 years. \n\nI met him in college and we dated for a couple of months. Looking back now I can see that he was a terrible boyfriend, never listened to what I said or seemed interested in my hobbies, while I spend many very boring hours doing the things he wanted to do or hearing him speak about himself (he got a HUGE self-esteem). But I was young (21) and he (23) was one of the hottest guys I had ever spoke to, so I didn\u2019t mind being the giver in our relationship. Everything was fine until the day we tried to have sex. Tried because there was no penetration, just mutual masturbation. However he thought I might got pregnant and panicked, breaking up with me as soon as I got my period confirming that I was indeed not pregnant. We haven\u2019t speak or met since then, five years ago. We don\u2019t have any friend in common and he doesn\u2019t has any social media account, so I don\u2019t know anything about his life nowadays. \n\nAnd then, two weeks ago and out of the blue, he send me an email saying that he thinks about me a lot, asking for me to forgive him and commenting about some aspects of my life that he can only know through my social media accounts. \n\nHonestly I hadn\u2019t thought about him in years and now, after having dated more boys and experienced how real love feels like, I can see how one-sided our relationship was. He was never genuinely interested in me, only in my body and having someone who will listen to him speak. I wondered if I should answer to his email but I have no interest in having any kind of relationship with him. \n\nI usually try to be nice with everybody and reply all emails, but remembering how many times he told me that he loved me only to get in my pants and how much it bothered him when I did not reply to his texts immediately (even when he wrote them way after midnight), I can\u2019t help but smile :)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Qp2h88VnxdWg769vKCOvdAF2k0aa1uAc", "post_id": "aq0w07", "action": {"description": "going to the same sonic 3 days in a row and paying in change", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to the same sonic 3 days in a row and paying in change?", "text": "So I\u2019m laughably broke right now, I mean like scraping change out of the couch to get sonic-broke. \nI obviously don\u2019t have a car, so there\u2019s a sonic up the street from me and if I go tonight it\u2019ll be my 3rd night in a row to buy $3-$4 worth of sonic that\u2019s paid for with mostly nickels and dimes, with the occasional quarter. The main issue here is that it\u2019s been the same lady that brings out my food, each time I awkwardly laugh and apologize while putting a pile of change on her tray, and might I say I always make sure there\u2019s a couple cents extra then what the actual price was, so that I positively don\u2019t underpay. Anyway, each time I\u2019ve gone and had this interaction with the sonic lady she looks super pissed and I when I say thank you she just walks away. Am I an asshole for paying in change? I\u2019m debating whether to go right now because I\u2019m afraid she\u2019ll spit in my food or something. Contemplating just having some sleep for dinner to skip the whole thing, but 2 Jr breakfast burritos after a hot shower sounds really nice also. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "489PFzmMQApCRnCg5pIlwQhbmFkauCKQ", "post_id": "b9xtyw", "action": {"description": "sucking up to the boss to be promoted over a more qualified candidate", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for sucking up to the boss to be promoted over a more qualified candidate?", "text": "I work at a startup as a programmer. I'm a decent programmer, but my real interest has always been in the business side of the operation, so I've been trying to get promoted. Problem is, there's this woman at my job who's the around the same age as me (25), let's call her Jenny, and a far better programmer than me. I knew I couldn't beat her for a promotion with my programming skills, so I considered my other options. She's really shy and doesn't have that much social skills, but I've always been a pretty extroverted, social person, so I started a two-part strategy: 1) I found ways to become more productive and optimize work time, so I could get all my work done quickly and then have free time 2) with this free time, instead of going home, I used it to zuck up to my boss, becoming pretty good friends with him.\n\nJenny obviously caught onto this, but she couldn't do shit since she's shy and has bad social skills. Ultimately, I ended up getting the promotion. After this, she left me a note on my desk saying I 'played this unfairly' and that she's a much better programmer. \n\nI wrote her a note back pointing out the promotion was to a management role, not a programming role, and besides, befriending your boss isn't unfair at all. \n\nAm I in the wrong here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rPnGvq6WcVWWjPDI22D70U6lrpphiGUH", "post_id": "b05xhy", "action": {"description": "telling my friend he is being unfair to his kid", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my friend he is being unfair to his kid?", "text": "I know I shouldn't intrude into people's lives, but I feel I should say something in this case because I feel it's not fair for the kid.\n\nLong story short my friend is divorced and is sharing the custody of his kid (2 year old)\u00a0 50/50 with his ex. The thing I find wierd is the fact that the custody is not every other week its every other DAY.\n\nThe kid is being moved around and sleeping at a different place every night because they dont want to miss out on time spent with him. \n\nI said that I taught it would stress the kid out,but they said since he's young he'll get used to it and won't know any better growing up, so I let it go. \n\nI'm not a parent and I don't normaly have to deal with kids so I don't know if this is normal but it sounds very chaotic for a young child. \n\nAITA for thinking I sould tell him to rethink the kids schedule?\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WCUx9yYL3rJ01zRH2pBfUPMfjgDls4m5", "post_id": "ad7ud5", "action": {"description": "wanting to tell a close friend he needs to get his S*** together", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting to tell a close friend he needs to get his S*** together?", "text": "Backstory: lets just call him Jay, he\u2019s been a very close friend since early in highschool and we are both 20 now. Jay has never been great with girls and has alot of trouble putting himself out there due largely in part to lack of confidence. He also is lacking direction in life and seems lost(which is not necessarily a huge problem now but can become one in the near future)\n\nI hang out with jay on a near daily basis, and not to act like i know everything or I\u2019m some kind of social genius, but its very easy to see where he goes wrong. He puts very little effort into presenting himself well (dresses poorly and somewhat poor hygiene. He also is very lazy and unmotivated, smokes weed very often and drinks often. His physical fitness has also tapered off and he\u2019s looking rather fatherly at a young age. \n\nNow i get it, who am i to judge his decisions and lifestyle?\n\nWell heres the catch, jay complains very often about how he hasnt had sex in a very long time and has a mostly negative outlook on most aspects of his life. Ive tried to give friendly encouragement for him to possibly present himself differently to people (girls in specific) if what hes doing is currently not working. He is generally bad at recieving constructive criticism and advice, and usually reverts to \u201ci dont want to have to change myself to impress someone\u201d yet he constantly complains and directs his negativity about the situation to his friends. \n\nI think jay is a really great guy and has so much to offer, hes a very knowledgeable and interesting guy. Also very generous and loyal. I want my friend to be happy and find someone thats good for him but at the rate hes going he CONSTANTLY gets ghosted by girls and this does nothing but worsen his mental state. \n\nMy main problem here is trying to find a nice way to tell him that he needs to rethink alot of things in his life. I think the only way to get through to him is to tell him the hard truth: he needs to dress better, take better care of himself, and learn social cues from girls better, although i am certain he will take offence to this\n\nPersonally i dont think its about \u201cchanging himself to impress people\u201d because his personality is great and i wouldnt suggest him to change anything about that, but its certain lifestyle choices that are clearly holding him back from being confident and successful in the social sphere. \n\nI feel like by not telling him these things his confidence will never improve and he will continue a downwards spiral to isolation\n\nSo, AITA???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dlBP1X5RfHU44qU3Xn5Cr3WMzmdufTvS", "post_id": "amon6z", "action": {"description": "hooking up with an old friends younger sister", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For hooking up with an old friends younger sister", "text": "I'm 23 and recently an old friends younger sister started talking to me and hitting on me. The last time I saw him and his sister she was 9 and we were 14. I never really talked to her back then she was just around when I hung out with him back then. But now she just turned 18 and for some reason has taken a huge interest in me. Her  brother doesn't know that she's super into me and she wants to hook up. Her brother and I were alright friends back then but haven't talked in 10 years except for a rare occasion a couple years back when he came to my dad's funeral. So knowing this is it still wrong to hook up with her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "orVZ24sWQKrdOJyaxznxXUuq7485H6xX", "post_id": "b9qh8x", "action": {"description": "reading a private conversation of my classmate and found out that they were talking shit about me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for reading a private conversation of my classmate and found out that they were talking shit about me?", "text": "So a classmate of mine asked me if she could log into my phone's messenger quickly so she can send some messages to her parents. But she forgot how to log out. I was casually browsing internet when I found out that she forgot to log out. I was intrigued and curious, so I read some convo with her friend, who **was** dating my boyfriend today. Turns out she was talking trash about me and my boyfriend. Her friend, mainly talked shit about her ex-bf but I got dragged into the convo, saying I was \"ugly\" and phrases like \"why would she replace me with that kind of girl?\" \n\nI was very disappointed in both me and that classmate of me. I thought we're chill and cool because we often talk and laugh about things, I actually considered her as a close friend. \n\nAnd then she found out I read their private conversation and of course, she was angry at me. I couldn't say anything because at first hand, it was my fault. But if I haven't read their conversation, would they stop on talking trash about me? \n\nLater on that day, they also apologized via chat. But they didn't stop. I already apologized and owned up to my mistake. But they didn't stop on nitpicking me. They were continuously posting some shady stuff about me. Even right after her friend apologized to me, she posted some nasty stuff that was obviously directed to me. So I tried to confront her about what she was saying against me and she only said \"It's my account and I can post whatever I like to post. I think it's only fair.\" \n\nI stopped talking to the two of them, for the benefit of my mind and myself. But nowadays, they still can't get over the fact that her ex left her and dated me months after they broke up. They are always trying hard to act like everything's fine. They still continue to post shady things from time to time, when they get the chance. They're trying to start ~~fake~~ nice conversation with me, but I don't want to be involved with them anymore. \n\nTL;DR: I read a private conversation of a classmate of mine. Found out they were talking shit about me and my bf. I apologized, they also apologized. But they didn't stop on posting some shady stuff that was obviously directed to me. Stopped talking to them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7UADEPdNLulYRc6L44LxSkMSHcGp4W2D", "post_id": "ao0gpq", "action": {"description": "not inviting my friend to my birthday party", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting my friend to my birthday party?", "text": "So I have this friend (code name: Sam) who I met on the first day of 10th grade (American high school) and we didn\u2019t really hit it off originally. Since we were sitting next to each other we talked about our majors (this high school has majors). We were both arts majors so we liked to draw. I had a more semi realistic style and she had a more simplistic style like Charlie Brown. (This is important for later on) \nI had only thought of Sam as a classmate I got along with at that moment so I didn\u2019t really think of her as a friend, more like an acquaintance. \nI\u2019m not very social and I don\u2019t talk as much with people unless I am needed to or I trust the heck out of them so that if I say something rude or bad I can trust them to call me out on it. \n\nSam wasn\u2019t really on top of all her assignments so she didn\u2019t really do a good job in the classes we had together. A pet peeve I had was when she always asked for help. At first I gladly helped her, but then when i kept helping her I felt like I was doing a step by step process for her projects as if I was doing the project for her. At some points she would ask for the answers instead. I tried so hard to multitask by helping her and doing my own work. I was exhausted. Also when I tried to break free from her to try to work on my own she would  be like \u201cugh fine..\u201d In a rude tone. From then on I would tell her to ask the teacher because I just couldn\u2019t deal with her any more. (Note: when in group projects usually our group did all the work while Sam just drew her characters  or looked up images and memes of cartoons she liked.)\n\nI never realized how rude she was. She would sometimes say she didn\u2019t like my art because it was too realistic and that I should draw more cartoony. Other times she would threaten me with friendship whenever I said I didn\u2019t want to do something or just work by myself instead of a group during projects. It would probably go like this. \n\nSam: do you wanna group up? \nMe: uh I think I just want to work alone on this. Sorry. \nSam: I thought we were friends. I thought we could work together... \n\nI hated when she did that because it felt like she was trying to manipulate me. Whenever I was around her,I felt like my energy was being drained. \n\nI once tried to confront her on this but she denied it and kept saying, \u201caren\u2019t we friends? Why would you think I would do that?\u201d\nThen I said she was doing it again In a slightly angrier tone but she panicked and told me to keep it down as we were in class and she didn\u2019t want people to hear. I just shut my mouth and walked away back to my desk. \n After that she keep talking to me as a if nothing happened.\n\nNow to the assy part. My birthday was coming up and I didn\u2019t want Sam to find out or else they would probably ask why I didn\u2019t invite them to a party. I didn\u2019t have a birthday party in 2 years because I was self conscious about having people come over to my house. I\u2019m a very boring person so I don\u2019t really know how normal teens have fun.\nI only invited people I felt I could trust with my heart in their hand. I don\u2019t really feel comfortable telling Sam about the party. AITA for not telling Sam it was my birthday and inviting her? \nAm I an ass for thinking she\u2019s annoying and wanting to avoid her?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZEQeLWTgAv5PAOOhNRo4reGlPaG21EBb", "post_id": "a87lj0", "action": {"description": "having dwindling interest in a girl because she falls asleep texting", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for having dwindling interest in a girl because she falls asleep texting?", "text": "Basically the title. I\u2019ve been on like 10-11 dates with this girl, and on the 4th or so date I mentioned that one pet peeve of mine when texting is when the other person falls asleep without saying goodnight, as it makes me worry. She expressed that hearing that made her feel bad, and said she\u2019d try not to do it again. Since then, probably over 80% of days she still seems to fall asleep without saying goodnight. It\u2019s not really a thing I can empathize with, as I never get so tired that I fall asleep while texting someone. I was curious about any thoughts you might have regarding whether this is normal or not.\n\nIt kind of makes me more disappointed because she expressed that she\u2019d try than if she hadn\u2019t said anything at all. It\u2019s not a dealbreaker for me necessarily, I\u2019m just wondering whether I should be more understanding and just get over a small quirk like this, or whether I should view this as lack of follow through. I really like her a lot in basically every other way.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xsFlWRhYO6dPaIpugNJw24TrOhaTiLai", "post_id": "aghmvk", "action": {"description": "asking for gas money", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for asking for gas money?", "text": "A new roommate from out of state moved in to my apartment\u2014since she doesn\u2019t have a car she is asking if she can carpool with me in the mornings from our apartment to the university so there is technically no difference in drive time/distance for me (basically she would be along for the ride). However, I barely know her yet (though she seems friendly enough).. would it be fair for me to ask for gas money? Or not, because I would be making the drive either way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tqRIlowPW9DUDitPpNbWf6ujsFEOe6KL", "post_id": "b90x2h", "action": {"description": "locking my cats in my bathroom while I sleep", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for locking my cats in my bathroom while I sleep?", "text": "This is no longer happening as I moved to a bigger place. But when I first moved to a studio apartment my cats would not let me sleep at night, having fights on the bed or making noise as soon as the sun came up. Thankfully I tried locking them in the bathroom at night and it worked like a charm. My two cats are rescues and I give them the best life I can. Being able to keep them happy and also be able to sleep made me proud so I uploaded a video to youtube explaining how I got to do that. But people left comments saying that I am an asshole for doing that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UR3TVqfGsdcYnsIHdTh9PYYgr2LJuvOE", "post_id": "a6jwoj", "action": {"description": "deleting ex-coworkers from Social Media", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for deleting ex-coworkers from Social Media?", "text": "Told my wife offhand that I was cleaning up my social media by removing anyone that has quit the company I work for recently and she said that I was an asshole for deleting friends.\n\nQuick backstory, I work in a warehouse and the turnaround rate is insane. Guys will come and go every few months. I\u2019m friends with a lot of the crew and once a new trainee adds one of us, they add all of us. \n\nNo matter how close or cool I became with the new guys, I still deleted them if they didn\u2019t work there anymore. I just feel like there\u2019s no reason for us to keep in touch anymore and I know I\u2019ll never honestly attempt to hang out with them.\n\nSocial media is pretty much just a median we use to find people to switch days with. \n\nSo am I the asshole for deleting \u201cfriends\u201d that have quit the company I work at?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FS92ANcQ5NqEKjAv93hct9PPSbLuZii0", "post_id": "9ztq4h", "action": {"description": "not letting my girlfriend spend 600 dollars on a new gaming computer for me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not letting my girlfriend spend 600 dollars on a new gaming computer for me?", "text": "For a little bit of context, my computer is basically a heap of junk as it overheated and ruined my power supply and my graphics card. My girlfriend is amazing at saving money, and this year for black friday we went out and she picked out a new laptop and got a new phone. After she was done she turned to me and said, \"Okay, now let's go grab you a computer and get out of here.\" And I had no idea she was planning this. We walked over to where they were and the only one then had was 1690 dollars and we both agreed it was too much, so we payed for her stuff and left. \n\nThe real problem was when we got home. She found a nice computer for 600 online and started to buy it. I told her no and that it was too expensive and she shouldn't spend that much money on me, especially when I havent really done much for it. She insists that she really wants to do this for me. We go back and forth for a while and it culminates in her yelling at me that I'm too difficult. And shes been upset with me since.\n\nI truly feel like I dont deserve the new computer. It isint that I didnt appreciate the gesture, but she worked really hard to save that money herself, and I would just feel guilty for accepting it.\n\nSo what do you think reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZsfZay9qmJBSwyLWuFuqmkkBBLMJU3W0", "post_id": "b6y6vb", "action": {"description": "spying on my wife after she lied to me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for spying on my wife after she lied to me?", "text": "My wife and I have been married for 12 years. About a year and a half ago I suggested buying a home. I sat her down and explicitly asked to make sure that she was cool with buying a home together. She said that she thought it was a good idea.\n\nShortly afterwards she left her laptop open on the couch and I happened to see messages in which she was talking to her friends about leaving me. I read the conversations and found that she had been putting a plan together to leave at the very time we were negotiating for a home. I confronted her about the messages and she said that she was just feeling overwhelmed, that she loves me and doesn't actually want to leave me.\n\nI started spying on her: reading her messages with friends, inspecting her browser history. I observed her \"lie\" to me on several more occasions. She had developed an infatuation with a coworker and was considering leaving me for them. Two of her lady friends (one of which I have been friends with myself for ten years) expressed excitement about her crush and wanted to more details - who he was, how they were flirting, what she was going to do next. I was angry that they never considered my marriage or my welfare despite also being my friends.\n\nAbout that time, my wife had become increasingly despondent. I was concerned for her wellbeing and thought that there might be a serious mental illness going. My goal became to get her to see a psychiatrist. She consented with my helping her in doing so. Information I gained through spying helped me avoid triggering episodes while we found her help.\n\nOnce she had the support of a psychiatrist, I revealed that I had been spying on her and that I knew about her crush. She was horrified that I had spied on her and she asserted that her crush meant nothing.\n\nThe same friends attacked me for violating my wife's privacy. I explained that once my partner had broken our trust, I needed to know whether my partner was telling the truth. There were situations where, had I not, I would have been some catastrophic life decisions (buying a home, having children, moving, etc). The ten year friend even suggested that I was a psychopath for thinking that spying is \"ok\". I don't think spying is \"ok\", but I feel like I was forced to spy by my partner's irresponsible behavior. I have guilt, so clearly I'm not a psychopath.\n\nI broke off those friendships. My wife is on medication and has been diagnosed with some serious mental health issues. I'm not sure where we'll land land in our relationship, but I want to support her as she gets well.\n\nI have been trying to be responsible for myself. I'm seeing a therapist. I am sad and angry, but they don't think that I am crazy or broken.\n\nI feel like I did what I had to do to survive and to get my wife the help she needs. The beating I got from our friends infuriates me. My wife continues her friendship with these people and every time they come up I feel rage. Do you think I am the asshole for spying?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 11, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nuYuzX5T0tx8kukbRv2HiXJyu9yc8YRC", "post_id": "a6ncgm", "action": {"description": "letting my (ex)boyfriend/roommate decide without asking to let people in my house", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for letting my (ex)boyfriend/roommate decide without asking to let people in my house", "text": "So my ex (sort of)/roommate called me after 1am to \"ask\" if he could bring 2 random people to my house because he wanted to smoke weed. I get it I love smoking too but right now I cannot because of an upcoming job opportunity. When he called to \"ask\" I told him I was uncomfortable having these 2 randoms in my house to spend the night and he flipped shit and basically yelled at me about it. Am I the asshole for disagreeing with having people I never met come to my house and spend the night just because he wants to smoke? He literally never asked me before telling them yes and then he tried to guilt me into it by saying he would just drive home drunk then. Which I totally disagree with especially since he has done so once before. Then he hung up on me because I disagreed and he won't even answer my calls now. I think I'm in the right to disagree and it was wrong of him to decide for me before asking. Btw I have anxiety, PTSD, bi-polar disorder, panic attacks, and depression. I don't trust people easily and he knows all of this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GCFZNnP8WUdOAImBshs5UZD04NuNxsPc", "post_id": "aodgje", "action": {"description": "giving my sister a copy of my favorite book", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for giving my sister a copy of my favorite book?", "text": "My sister is about to turn 15, a freshman in high school and, according to my mother, very immature. My sister has probably always been a bit behind her peers maturity-wise. She played make-believe games up into middle school and recently left a sleepover because she was so embarrassed by a kissing scene in one of the Harry Potter movies (the one where Harry and Hermione appear topless but no nudity is shown and the whole thing is very blurry).\n\nMy mom has always encouraged this behavior. The only friends she let my sister have over were her age and just as immature or, in most cases, several years younger. She was NEVER allowed to have older people over. After the Harry Potter incident, my mom called her friend\u2019s mom to scold her, and forbade my sister from being friends with that girl. I 100% blame my mother for my sister\u2019s immaturity and social awkwardness (she has almost no friends and my mom making her cut off the ones she does have isn\u2019t helping).\n\nWhen I was my sister\u2019s age, I read Jack Kerouac\u2019s On the Road and found it very moving. It inspired in me a sense of freedom and a desire to escape from the overbearing clutches of my mother. Since I\u2019ll be out of town for my sister\u2019s birthday, I decided to give her a copy of the book as an early birthday present, hoping it would do for her what it did for me.\n\nMy plan did not work. My sister didn\u2019t get the book at all and was so upset by it that she went crying to my mom. I was surprised she had such a strong reaction to it. I was an immature kid when I read it too and was scandalized by a few aspects of it, but still found it quite touching and enjoyed having a \u201csecret\u201d from my mom. My sister is also a very strong reader. My mother is now furious at me and threatening to let me have almost no contact with my sister.\n\nI\u2019m obviously extremely disappointed in my mother. I\u2019m also somewhat disappointed in my sister. I clearly overestimated her maturity, and I wish she could have been more normal about this situation. She didn\u2019t have to like the book, but I wish she would have just gone to me if she was upset by it. Then again, I guess our mom has always been her only form of support. I love both of them, but I\u2019m fairly certain their relationship is unhealthy. I don\u2019t know if this matters, but I am 19.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F0ZKp1i5YjDQXQywX04eY4Ytgz8Mga2t", "post_id": "9x5pc7", "action": {"description": "refusing in-laws generosity", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for refusing In-Laws Generosity?", "text": "So, I've been in a relationship with my man for 18 years (10 dating, 8 married). Ever since we became serious, my in-laws have constantly showered me with gifts.  And gifts. And gifts.  He is an only child and would tell me its just because his mom always wanted a daughter but the sheer amount of gift giving was just insane.  I would regularly leave her house after visits with bags of brand new clothes/doo dads/food/etc I would never use. The holidays were the worst: they can't give one bottle of perfume - they give 3.  Not one sweater - but four.  Bags and bags of just \"stuff\" I would never use. \n\nHis family are Filipino immigrants and I always chalked it up to cultural differences but then I started noticing that my MIL has a severe shopping amd hoarding problem.  I feel like the immense amount of gifts is really just a symptom of a larger problem. \n\nI've now given them a grandchild and its bags and bags of toys for him.  EVERY VISIT. I specifically requested a limit of 3 or 4 toys last Christmas explaining that we live in a small apartment, and that other people wanted to get him gifts too and we just couldn't handle too many things. My house is VERY minimalist and I like it that way. They literally showed up with 6 shopping bags full of toys and laughed us off when I reminded them of our limit.  It felt so disrespectful. \n\nMIL is very involved with the local Filipino Retiree social association. They throw parties literally every weekend and will use any excuse for it. And these aren't like \"dinner parties\" or anything like that.  These are full on \"DJ playing Macarena while we eat bad chicken at thr \"fancy\" ballroom at the local La Quinta off Route 34\" with full on themes (Pink only today! 80s night! Crazy hair night! Etc etc) and gift bags and so on and so forth.  Every. Weekend.  \n\n I'm now pregnant with #2 and MIL is chewing at my heels to throw me a baby shower.  She has already basically admitted to my husband that this shower is for \"her friends\"  meaning the Filipina biddies of her senior group. \n\nFirst of all, I don't really need anything.  Secondly she lives far from MY friends and family.  Thirdly I'm not into a \"sprinkle\" when my friends already helped me out with kid #1 at my first baby shower.  Fourthly what she would throw is NOT my scene and Finally she has basically already admitted it would be for HER friends. Its not even really for me I feel like, just another excuse to throw a party.\n\nIf she wanted to do a little dinner party and have family or something I would be down for that but I absolutely know what she has in mind; an insane and massively unnecessary baby shower.  That I'm sure she would also buy me a dress for. \n\nThe family is so supportive and we appreciate all they have done for us but at a certain point I find their generosity very self-serving.  Am justified in this reaction or am I the ungrateful asshole? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ToleUewcwoMmAwQps9gm6NddEcUSdSyZ", "post_id": "af5xje", "action": {"description": "saying \"I'm tired of your shit\" while my friend was being a snake", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for saying \"I'm tired of your shit\" while my friend was being a snake?", "text": "So this happened not too long ago, about 3 or 4 days. Me and my friend, let's call him Doug, wanted to play some PlayerUnknown's Battlegrounds Duo's. He told me to hop in the discord server so we could communicate with comms and play some dumb stuff on fredboat. We hopped in to a game and I was asking him to talk in discord and he responded with hisses, like really loud hisses which hurt my ear a bit. The match went on and he wouldn't answer my questions with a single word. He just kept hissing as a \"response\" to my questions for about 2 - 3 games.\n\nNow this isn't Doug's first time doing this sort of behavior when we play games, it usually happens when he's memeing in Rainbow Six, and other games. He would talk normally, he's fine in the head. We're good friends for about quite some time, years in fact. But to me I just clicked during the 3rd game and told him.\"Alright, I'm done, I'm tired of your shit it's quarter past midnight and I'm stuck with someone who's hissing to talk.\" And I just turned off my PC and went to bed. The day after the incident I noticed that Doug has blocked me on Steam, Ubisoft, Discord, etc. So I'm quite flustered as to why he would do such a thing.\n\n​\n\nWould really like your guys' feedback on this, I would really appreciate it", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "e40SerxJctyFsjyNPjlEBu9E1Cx0uuna", "post_id": "9yp1p8", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get something for a hotel guest of mine", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get something for a hotel guest of mine?", "text": "I work at a slightly upscale hotel, we are really guest service oriented and are supposed to go all out and do whatever a guest asks. I absolutely do this when I\u2019m on the clock. However, tonight after I had clocked out, I had changed clothes and was hanging out in the lobby. My third shift auditor asked me something about a reservation I made and I stepped behind the desk to look at it and answer her question. I then went and sat down on the couch and started playing on my phone. I also had a blanket wrapped around my shoulders because I was very cold lol. \n\nA guest who had been walking out of the elevators saw me walk away from the desk and sit down. My coworker had a phone call, and so instead of waiting for her to finish at the desk he walked up to me and asked me to go get him some plates and silverware from the restaurant. I just looked at him for a second cause work was rough and I was a little out of it. I said as politely as I could, \u201cI\u2019m sorry, I\u2019m not actually on the clock right now, (coworker) will be happy to help you when she finishes up\u201d. He made a really disgusted face at me and kind of scoffed a little bit before walking over to the desk.\n\n AITA? I\u2019m really tired and I didn\u2019t want to walk all the kitchen. Plus, I\u2019m in full street clothes, jacket and leggings and sneakers, nothing like my formal work uniform, with a blanket on me. I felt bad about it afterwards. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y4YlXBRCsVDoBwpaMWL5oMt6XthQAmmR", "post_id": "arr2le", "action": null, "title": "AITA: my sister accused me of stealing from her wallet when I didn\u2019t", "text": "My sister, mother, her kids and I live in one home together. My mother takes care of my sisters 4 children while my sister works as an Rn. I help take care of her kids, clean, -\u2018s cook  when I am not working. My sister and I work at the same place as well but different areas so we rarely if ever interact in the workplace. My sisters daughter competitively does cheerleading. My sisters friends daughter also does. It is not uncommon for them to stay over the night of a competition. Sisters friend stayed over last night after a competition hey did not get home from until around midnight. I was asleep by nine pm last night. For this competition my\nSister took out 200 hundred dollars for gas, admission, food, vendors etc. we shall call sisters friend M and her daughter E.  it is important to note M has no income coming in, and E has stolen weed and other things from another friends  home. Before today we\u2019ve never had issues of money just disappearing. \n\nMy sister was already in a pissy mood when I woke her up to make sure she wouldn\u2019t be late for work this morning. She yelled at me this  over it. Later in the day I was delivering clothes to the residents on her wing which is part of my job. I was still ticked off at her this morning so I didn\u2019t say anything to her. My sister decided now, I\u2019m front of other employees and coworkers of mine, that it would be an appropriate time to screech that 40 dollars is missing from her wallet. She asked if I took it borrowed it and didn\u2019t tell her. I would never do that. In instances I have borrowed money it\u2019s been from my mother and small increments in circumstances where the card reader won\u2019t take my worn out card. I repay her the same day. I don\u2019t carry cash on me and if I have to borrow it from my mother I don\u2019t just assume I can take it, I ask. \n\nThis is not the first time my sister has said something inappropriate at work that I have gotten spoken to about. My sister was told before  if she needs to speak to me about something not work related it need to be in private. When my sister screeched at me today I told her I can\u2019t believe you would accuse me of that. I kept reiterating that this is not an appropriate place to do have this conversation. I don\u2019t want to get written up for something we were already spoken to about because she can\u2019t listen. In front is several aides and housekeepers she yelled at me to STEP OFF!!! I just walked away from her shaking and didn\u2019t engage her further. \n\nI am humiliated by her behavior. Her poor behavior is a reflection on me. Know she\u2019s making it look like I\u2019m a theif when I\u2019m absolutely not is disgusting. We have a coworker A, that accuses people of stealing from her and over the summer she accused me of breaking  into her locker. The whole building has swipe cards and cameras, including in the locker room and I obviously was cleared of any accusations from the situation with A. My sister knows how deeply those accusations for A hurt me and she essentially just did the same A did! \n\nMy mother thinks my sister spent all the money after doing the math of receipts my sister had from yesterday. I think my sister is a slob and misplaced it. Or even that sisters friends daughter who is a known theif might have taken it.  Im not voicing those feelings or accusations because I know how it feels to be wrongfully accused without proof.\n\nReddit am I the asshole here for being embarrassed and wanting to report my own sister to Human Resources for telling me off at work ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "28PUZZ5lkshmG9NPDxVfUTs4R505P4Vp", "post_id": "ao2aii", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hang out with my SO's friends again", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I don't want to hang out with my SO's friends again?", "text": "Hello all. For context, I'm 22/M, SO is 24/F.\n\nTowards the start of our relationship, I had a political disagreement with my SO and her friends. It's about feminism. Basically, I'm pretty progressive on this front (eg. don't just believe that the tampon tax should be abolished, but believe it should be subsidized; encourage female-only STEM scholarships despite it negatively affecting my funding and chances at career progression, you get my drift), but I do not want to label myself a feminist because I reject a lot of the mainstream ideas, eg. \"The Patriarchy\" and #MeToo, and I actually think that feminism's distinct lack of nuance on the gender debate actively hurts men from unprivileged backgrounds. SO and friends are \"smash the patriarchy\", \"all of men's problems are just unforeseen side-effects of their privilege\"-style feminists. There, that's the background context, hopefully you aren't already judging me/them based on that difference of opinion, my question on assholery is specifically about the next bit.\n\nSo, SO and I have had a short heated conversation about it - we didn't really get the chance to go in detail at the time, so she really didn't understand my views (we have done that since and she's okay with them). A few days later, I'm meeting a bunch of her friends for the first time. It's a dinner party, we came over and I cooked entrees, it was pretty nice until one of her friends suddenly brings up feminism and says something to the tune of \"but OP isn't a feminist - right?\". Suddenly, it turns in to what feels like a pile-on from my point of view. I can't really get a word in edgeways against five people, anything I do say gets ignored, this surprise attack has left me unprepared and I'm not getting my views across properly, just arguing about the legitimacy of studies they're quoting or the wage gap etc. \n\nIt feels like playground bullying tactics - one of them says (referencing a previous conversation) \"you like Star Wars right? But not every part? So then why do you call yourself a Star Wars fan but not a feminist?\" and the crowd goes \"OOOOHHHH\", then swiftly moving on before I can explain the difference between being calling myself a fan of something and aligning with a political movement. I get asked why I'm a woman hater (???), and again other questions are coming my way before I can think of a good response. I'm in an unfamiliar house, meeting a group of people for the first time, and they're ganging up on me unprovoked. This goes on for 20-30 minutes.\n\nEventually, the conversation dies because a few of them have to leave, it's just me, SO, flat owner and her SO left. We go out to the pub, SO can tell I'm feeling pretty shitty, then goes away and comes back proudly proclaiming that she's asked her friend to not talk to me about feminism again because it's clearly upsetting me. Frankly, this makes me somewhat more pissed, but I haven't said anything about that yet.\n\nNow - am I justified in not wanting to see these people again? I expressed this to my SO, and she said that they were really important to her and would like me to give them another chance, blamed it on one particular member of the group being a bad influence but tbh I don't see how 24 year olds can use the \"bad influence\" excuse any more. I think they probably did just see me as a woman hater, and saw this as a victory over the patriarchy or something, or at the very least are completely oblivious to the situation they put me in because they've all themselves lived lives of utter privilege (privately educated group, all of them). AITA if I refuse to spend any more time with these people? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "163A6ItzroGMdUfnsiCGrfsSVvFppAcu", "post_id": "al89s1", "action": {"description": "being angry at the person I dated for not telling me that she had feelings for someone else", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being angry at the person I dated for not telling me that she had feelings for someone else?", "text": "A few months ago my ex (she broke up with me) asked if there's a chance that we could start seeing each other again. I agreed, and first time we've seen each other we talked about how would that relationship look. She said she just wanted to date for some time, without any big commitment, and see how things would work out. I asked if she's sure she woulnd't get bored/angry with me like the last time and what if there would appear someone else in her life. She said she's sure and that I'll be the first one to get to know if that happens. I said ok, let's try. \n\nSo after some time it started going pretty well, we've cuddled and even had sex, so I thought it could work out. But then she started to avoid seeing each other. I was pretty upset about this, as I knew something was wrong. So I've texted her (twice) to reassure that she wanted to continue this relationship. She responded that she just has a lot of work to do right now, and there's really no time. We've not seen each other for two months, and all that time I was still thinking about her, feeling bad that she didn't want to meet up (work wasn't really an excuse as we live really close each other).\n\nAter that two months I've texted her and noted that she was really indifferent towards me. She said that she knows that I'm upset by that she wanted to start seeing each other and then ignored me, still stating it was induced by having a lot of work. I knew it couldn't be just it, and as we were talking about the real reason she eventually admitted that she fell in love with someone else. I wasn't really shocked, not even angry. I felt relieved as I knew that it is definitive end of this relationship. What I was angry about is that she didn't tell me earlier. I've spent 2 months overthinking the situation, hoping that it's just temporary thing. I've confronted her about this and what she said is: 1. She's not in relationship with him, and 2. As we were not in real relationship too, she wasn't obligated to tell me, nor she wanted to. So we argued, I just said that she has no respect for others, she showed no remorse at all.\n\nSo AITA for confroting her about that she lied about the reason why didn't she want to see each other and that she didn't end the relationship earlier, especially that I've been asking her about its state?\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fNvP5ldSY3HQLQ7rPl17RNdpppTqbSgz", "post_id": "a3fomy", "action": {"description": "ditching my friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ditching my friend?", "text": "Context: my school has a break from 12 to 115 and i was at home studying for a test as i didnt have class. Now theres 2 friends in this story. 1 well call Mary the other well call Lisa. Ive been friends with Mary for quite a while now and she just introduced me to her friend Lisa on tuesday. We never really talked or hung out before.\n\nNow for today. I was at home studying when Lisa texts me asking if I was at school. I texted no but i can come and she said alright meet me at the cafe. I asked where Mary was (as theyre rarely not together) and she said mary ditched her , followed by a bunch of jks. So i go to school and am there by 11:50. I walk into the cafe and i see Mary with her friends and decide while waiting for Lisa to answer where she is to sit next to them. Than i see Lisa come into the cafeteria with one of her friends and look at me. I signal her to come, thinking she knew Mary's other friends as well, to join us. She didnt respond. I felt bad , so i walked up to her and jokingly said \"hey, marys right there she didnt ditch you\" ( im running on 3 nights of no sleep from finals so im not thinking straight for reference ) as i thought she didnt know where Mary was or something. Than i go back to sitting down and text Lisa again \"come join us u look lost lol\" and she didnt answer. Finally , her and her friend left the cafe, and i asked mary \" hey, does Lisa actually talk to anyone else on this table \" and she responded with no. Thats when i knew maybe i should ve followed lisa. I text her one last time where shes at and she leaves me on read.\n\nAita for essentially ditching her? I thought she knew marys other friends and invited her to join us and even asked where she was to join her instead?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ofVnrjsppNVEbzRHgmuTDoZjGQHZI3CR", "post_id": "a519cy", "action": {"description": "not wanting my boyfriend to watch porn after I send him videos", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my boyfriend to watch porn after I send him videos?", "text": "My boyfriend always asks me to send him videos of me naked/us having sex/pictures etc. If I am honest, I don't want to send my boyfriend videos anyway because I don't enjoy it or feel comfortable. I enjoy us having sex, and feel uncomfortable, but not with taking nudes.\n\nAnyway, I caved and said I will send them, if he doesn't watch porn after i send them. (e.g. not watching porn for a while after I send it). It just feels insulting to me if he gets off to other girls after I went through the effort to give him something that makes me uncomfortable. I am not asking it forever or anything, but near the time I've sent him things. I'll trust him if he says he will not.\n\nNote: we've been together for many years and live far away.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IXFLlfHJSmywZmAbIBYzTVKWenuFbKKX", "post_id": "aywzrd", "action": {"description": "mentioning this specific kink to my wife", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I mention this specific kink to my wife?", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nI (M27) have a sort of a doctor kink. In like... a roleplay sense, not to be TMI. My wife (F29) is deathly scared of doctors and I do not exaggerate when I say she avoids them at all cost.\n\nWill I be the asshole if I mention this kink of mine to her? Our sex life is generally pretty fulfilling, so it's not like I will die if we never do it. I'm just very much into it and if there's a possibility it could happen, I'd be thrilled. But I don't want to scare her off, make myself look like a freak or appear selfish. \n\nShould I mention it at all?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l7ufoEIezG5WZskgYnCnnBLzEtFUfOyX", "post_id": "arke1o", "action": {"description": "telling another passenger to close their window shade", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling another passenger to close their window shade?", "text": "I'm on an 8-hour flight from Amsterdam to Chicago, flying during the day (Amsterdam time). I'm sitting two seats away from the window, and the flight attendants turned the lights out for everyone to sleep. Pretty much everyone in the plane has their window shades down except this one old guy to my right. I ask him nicely to close it, and he goes 0-100 with a rant about how he wants to read and can't see the text. I told him he was disturbing other passengers trying to sleep, and he said that doesn't make sense because it's daytime outside. The flight attendant comes over and says that he can't force the passenger to close his window...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vfvHthkkyVeSeva9fJXagWV1SnTyL7aK", "post_id": "aix54x", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Some members of my extended family give my kid used clothing as christmas gifts.", "text": "They love my kid and give my kid a ton of shit,  both new and used.  They are sweet people and I love them.  The stuff is from online mommy swaps and such.  The clothing is very gently used, but I would never give someone used clothing as a gift, no matter how nice it may look.   I would just give them the clothes and scale back the amount of shit I gift to them on Christmas. I would never mention this to them,  and I'm still grateful,  but I would never give someone used clothing,  especially something I didn't personally own.  \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jbvlN53lYNFN9sG5yTXFdwTuVcwaJZCV", "post_id": "avb8df", "action": {"description": "filing a formal complaint against another student", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I file a formal complaint against another student?", "text": "I volunteer at the womans center at the university I attend, the other student is one of the paid (student) staff at the center\n\n​\n\nI am an ex sex worker - she knows this.\n\n​\n\nDecember we discuses fund-raising, one of the fund-raisers was for a local shelter that deals with sex workers. She was very vocally against this saying \"we are supposed to be for women, not people like that, they know what they are getting into and deserve everything they get.\" One of the other volunteers spoke up about how often sex workers were assaulted, she said that she doesn't care and repeated that they knew what they were getting into, and that it took away from real assault victims like \\*\\*her\\*\\*. At this point I spoke up saying that I was feeling attacked as she just blamed me for my assault. She immediately back peddled and claimed that \"this is just my belief about \"those women\" and that she didn't mean \\*\\*me\\*\\*.nope, can't say sex worker and not mean me. She then said she has the right to her opinion, but I have to understand that she didn't mean it that way. She apologized for me \"taking her wrong\", it's BS and I'm not happy.During this meeting she also sais that she would never be able to give pro-choice info because its against her beliefs (not a religious belief, she's an atheist), she didn't know it but someone present had an abortion. She was reminded that in the mandate we are a pro-choice center and she can't try and bully people out of their decisions. She said once again that this is just her belief and that she should be allowed to have whatever belief she wants but she will just have to leave her beliefs at the door. As we were all leaving the school, she stops me in the main area and demands I forgive her and give her a hug in font of about 30 students, knowing that if I said no I would look like an asshole.\n\nI complained to the head of the center, but she is a student and doesn't have any control over anything. She brought it up to the school staff member that is in control of hiring and the budget, but so far nothing has been done about it.\n\nMy next step is to lodge a formal complaint against her. I been resistant in doing this because 1) I would have to come out as an ex-sex worker to more people and 2) I am a mature student in my 30's whereas she is in her early 20's and it kinda felt like complaining against a child\n\nShe has now applied to be head of the center and it looks like she'll get the job because sh'e manipulated the student union into backing her by saying we've discriminated against her by not allowing her beliefs (again not religious).\n\nI am very afraid that she is going to say something to someone who has been through those things when they have come for support. If was younger and still in sex work when she said that to me it would have devastated me and I probably would not feel safe at the school.\n\n​\n\nWill I be an asshole if I file a complaint against her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D8p6W3XnxcpD0zE7DZV9yOKZdmjALHQO", "post_id": "app9dj", "action": {"description": "telling a girl I'm not remotely attracted to her", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl I\u2019m not remotely attracted to her.", "text": "My friends and I are having a conversation about how I handled a situation at the club last weekend.  \n\nOn Friday night we went out to the clubs and when we where in line a girl tapped my shoulder and told me I was cute I said thanks and then ignored her because I was in conversation with my friends. We get into the bar and see that the debit machines broke (classic now you need to pay the 3$ atm fee) I go to the atm across the bar because it was empty.  While getting my cash the same girl threw her body in front of the machine and tried hugging me I brushed her off and told her I wasn\u2019t interested. \n\nFast forward about 30 minutes I ran into a girl who is in one of my classes but haven\u2019t really talked to that much so I offer to buy her a drink.  At the bar ready to order the crazy girl comes back and asks if I\u2019ll buy her one. Now I\u2019m kinda getting annoyed with her and tell her to leave me alone as I\u2019m trying to talk with the other girl. \n\nAnother 10 minutes goes by me and the girl from my class are dancing together and at this point I\u2019m not even thinking of the crazy girl anymore until she comes up to me from behind and starts hugging me. Now I\u2019m really pissed and without even thinking I turn around and tell her \u201cI\u2019m not even remotely attracted to you so fuck off\u201d \n\nAfter that she never came back to me and I enjoyed the rest of my night. \n\n\nTLDR: girl kept on trying to hit on me/hug me at the bar so I told her I\u2019m not remotely attracted to her.\n\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1w2Up5ycFBS4EW851LhJavfdoq2foyRY", "post_id": "avn71i", "action": {"description": "deciding the spelling of my son's name behind the dad's back", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for deciding the spelling of my son\u2019s name behind the dad\u2019s back?", "text": "I realize this is such a stupid problem I have but I\u2019m killing time atm and wanted to make my first post on this sub.\n\nBackground: my son wasn\u2019t planned and so my bf first asked me to terminate. I told him that I would- under the condition that we break up afterward cause I knew I would resent him for his choice. He decided we should keep the baby and stay together. He wanted absolutely nothing to do with the pregnancy. He kept telling me how he wish he could just fall into a coma and never wake up. He didn\u2019t want to see any sonograms. Didn\u2019t want to touch my stomach. Didn\u2019t want to talk about anything baby related until a month before he was born. Now that my son is born everything is great and our relationship improved drastically. My bf loves our son to pieces and is a great dad. \n\nNow the problem.\nWhen my son was born in India we didn\u2019t have an English name for him yet. We needed a name for his birth certificate so I gave him an Indian name(I\u2019m half Indian) and we decided we would put his English name down when we apply for his American/Australian citizenship. \n\nWe finally agreed on a name and we were onboard for Sterling. We have until our son is 18 to apply for either American or Australian citizenship so of course we\u2019re in no rush so nothing is set in stone yet. NOW almost a year later bf wants to change the spelling to Stirling. I think that spelling is absolutely atrocious. I argue that it\u2019s ugly, and I still have some resentment from him wanting to terminate our son in the first place.  He argues that I already got to choose his Indian name and Sterling was too common of a name (is it though?) \n\nI saw that he had a point. But every time I had to write down Stirling I physically cringe. I just don\u2019t get how he\u2019s okay with Sterling and suddenly switches to Stirling a year later. He\u2019s stalling on the Australian citizenship paperwork so I figured I\u2019d go and turn in his American citizenship first so I can solidify the spelling.\n\nMy family + friends think Stirling is ugly too and should just go ahead with my plan. So I need unbiased opinions from the Internet.\n\nTL;DR\nMy bf wants Stirling and I want Sterling. I think I have naming rights cause he wanted to abort the baby. He thinks he has naming rights cause I chose his middle name. WIBTA if I solidified the spelling by applying for his citizenship before my bf does?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5462gvZM8lK2xpesEaU323bvqt8P3fSd", "post_id": "aenvz3", "action": {"description": "asking my friend to be a little cleaner while at my house", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my friend to be a little cleaner while at my house?", "text": "My friend and I are pretty tight. We hang out often, and I truly enjoy their company. However, every time this person comes over, they put their feet (with shoes) on my furniture and leave their trash everywhere. They decided to buy a couple of bags of candy yesterday, and I'm still finding candy wrappers everywhere in my living room. \n\nI'm not a clean freak AT ALL but I do rent out a very nice house. We have beautiful wood floors that my roommate and I work really hard to keep looking nice, and an awesome kitchen that we like to keep clean. More than once we've had the floor sparkling clean and she's come in with her muddy shoes on despite being politely asked many times to take off her shoes-and ruined it. \n\nAnother big one for me, she throws her used feminine products into my trashcan without wrapping it in anything, so I've cleaned bloodstains that weren't mine out of my trashcan more than a few times. It's getting really old. \n\nWould I be the asshole if I stopped inviting her over or ask her to be a little cleaner when she's at my house? It's gotten to the point where my roommates have said something about this particular person being over. Or am I just overreacting? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OJgEKGc5bWtioZJkiLq9VgWnU3D3Gnxu", "post_id": "b28ck1", "action": {"description": "being too busy for my LDR girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for being too busy for my LDR girlfriend", "text": "Me (22M) and my girlfriend (20F) met online with no intention of dating. But we hit it up unexpectedly and eventually we start dating. Problem is she's in a different country, but we make it work. We take time to call each other. We enjoy each other's company.\n\nLife is great, until I start school again and have to deal with school and timezones getting in our way. We compromise and settle on calling at least once a week. But recently, I've been too busy for once a week. She keeps asking me to call, but I'm either doing something or just too tired to hold a conversation. This goes on for a couple of weeks, where we either don't call or we have an extremely short talk before I have to hang up. \n\nOne day, she blows up and me, saying that I should take some time for her. I get upset and don't respond to her rant for a few days to cool off. Before I can respond, she writes me a long text saying she can't be with me anymore and breaks up with me, saying that she's not a priority in my life. \n\nI love her, I just genuinely cannot afford the time and effort for her at this moment. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JPGCch7qIINVb7dJPr9g97QnEghHGE61", "post_id": "awzvbw", "action": {"description": "taking my friend's lighter and throwing it away", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for taking my friend's lighter and throwing it away ?", "text": "I think I'm the asshole but let me tell the story anyway. Basically we're teenagers(16 years old) we are a group that consists of around 7 and 1 of us smokes a lot, we know it's not healthy to him so a lot before my other friends would take lighters and throw it away from him and stuff. He never got so serious about it he'd get pissed but nothing to serious.\n\nI usually don't care so I just watch and laugh it off as he's never really pissed about it. One day I just took it from his backpack and I hold it for a good 10 minutes while he kept saying i should give it back and it's a dick thing to do and my other friends of course encouraging me to throw it away. In the end I threw it away and he started saying it really pisses him off and he's not going to stop smoking, he'll just buy a new one.\n\nNow I usually don't bother if he smokes or not but my friends still do and a lot do they take away cigarettes and stuff away from him. I think back about it and I'm not able to completely decide if it was an asshole thing to do. We are still really good friends.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rGAkS764mKxBDz9D90TMtIoOr7kVAxOx", "post_id": "akq4fz", "action": null, "title": "AITA in this relationship/ break up with a mentally ill person?", "text": "I was in a long distance relationship with my ex, Josh. Josh and I met online after the low point in my life where I was in a mental hospital for a week on suicide watch. Josh had mild schizo typical tendencies and had been hospitalized helped me to feel better about myself. We we're friends for a few months and he kept asking me to be his girlfriend but I was nervous that his mental illness would be a problem in the future. After a few months of friendship and a few inquires to date I decided to give him a chance because our friendship was really close and he hadn't had negative symptoms of his illness for years before he met me. \n\nDuring our relationship I felt like I had to sacrifice a lot but I didn't complain about it. He was on a ton of meds so he had a bedtime, we are two different races and he refused to do anything that had to do with my culture bc it made him \"uncomfortable\"  (music, tv, holidays) but I was always expected to go to his family holidays and he would be offended if I didn't eat enough. \n\nAbout 9 months in to our relationship he was hospitalized for a strong paranoia. I missed talking to him so I called him in the hospital after a week. We talked for five minutes and I felt like he was just trying to brush me off. I went to visit him at home when he got out and I noticed his family was acting so strange around me, but I decided not to take it personally. \n\nTwo weeks later, he comes to visit me (100miles) in a snowstorm. He claims he's having an episode his exact words were \"not ok, can't talk\". So I cuddled him, told him I loved him and he was safe, and tried to love him as best I could. He scooted upwards so I was laying on his groin and not his chest and he started humping my face and when I asked wyd he pulled his dick out like he expected me to suck it. We had sex in the middle of his nonverbal episode and after he didn't want to cuddle. I got us some dinner and wine and tried to make casual conversation. Whole time he's not talking. I'm getting stressed so I start drinking wine like crazy. I probably finished 1/4 of the bottle right then. I start reading this thing I found online that's supposed to be cheesy and cute for couples and suddenly He calls his mom and dad (he's 24 I'm 20) to meet him halfway (50miles) IN THE WORST SNOWSTORM OF 2018 at about 11pm at night.  He leaves, doesn't say goodbye, and that was that. \n\nThe next day, Josh dumps me via text. He claims that I was fucked up for drinking wine and acting like he was being childish (which I never said) when he was having an episode of psychosis (he kept repeating \"I'm fine\"  so how TF was I supposed to know? He threw himself a pity party and claimed that he was \"the runt of the herd and would die without his parents\" and \"I deserved a rock\". He blocked me on everything and we never spoke or will speak again. \n\nI didn't want to make him feel like I was minimizing his condition. At the time he was what I thought was the love of my life. He was right though. I did deserve better. And I'm very happy in my new relationship, but I still think of Josh. I didn't think he was a burden and I hate that I unintentionally made him feel that I didn't care enough about his mental health. But I'm also angry about the nonverbal face humping sex before dumping me via text when he told me he loved me and saw a future with me everyday up until the snowstorm. \n\nSo WITA in that relationship? Or was it just a shitstorm? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hVqzwbLE1dQDyNRFpGIRb9vpyWKNDyGq", "post_id": "a3kpz5", "action": {"description": "spending my money on Christmas gifts for friends before buying them for my own family", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for spending my money on Christmas gifts for friends before buying them for my own family.", "text": "I\u2019m 17 and I work for a pretty shitty part time wage (8.24/hr 20ish hrs per 2 week period) and I got paid recently. I bought gifts for four of my friends for about $30. I was confronted last night about spending that amount of money before buying gifts for my family (who are hard to shop for, since they don\u2019t show interest in most things). I still have like $90 in my bank account, but my mom berated me, asking how I was going to pay for their gifts. I said I will, and went to bed.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1QGAkuqYWKiyCcU3HMCJhxpyDAjAJX5H", "post_id": "b8effp", "action": {"description": "being upset when my wife was negative about a job opportunity", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being upset when my wife was negative about a job opportunity?", "text": "I\u2019ll try to keep this short and to the point.    \n\n\nI am the sole income for my family. I don\u2019t like my job, am overweight and stressed the F out. I have a high income. I have recently been looking for other jobs with a more variable income and one job that I had initially dismissed made an interesting offer to me. Essentially, my interview went well enough that they stopped the interview and offered to fly me out whenever I wanted to meet with them and decide if I wanted to join the company. \n    \nI text this to my wife and she immediately wants me to call. I have no intention of working for this company but am legitimately flattered and excited that a company liked me enough to pay my airfare to fly me across the country. That\u2019s a first for me. My wife asks, \u201cisn\u2019t this the job you said you wouldn\u2019t take because of x, y, z?\u201d First words out of her mouth. She then proceeds to basically say how bad of an idea it is. I get pissed and get off the phone as quickly as possible. \n\n   \nShe realizes that she made me mad and apologizes for making me mad but not for not being supportive. I\u2019m not taking it anyway and I made that clear. I just wanted a pat on the back because I thought it was cool and some affirmation which I was needing.\n   \nBTW - her dream from day 1 has been to be a stay at home mom. When we got married I closed my company down and jumped in with a larger group because it was the responsible thing to do. When we had our first son and she wanted to quit I jumped jobs twice in 6 months and nearly wound up in the hospital because of the stress. A new position at work came up with more stress and more pay and I took that because I want to take care of our family. I have a history of putting the family first even though my dream is not to make a lot of money but to work on a winery or distillery. It really hurt me that she thought that she needed to tell me why this commission only job was a bad idea. I obviously know but just wanted her to be excited for me. She keeps saying that she trusts me to make good financial decisions but I feel like if that we true she wouldn\u2019t feel the need to crap all over this job.\n\nI got home and we fought. \u201cMy opinion doesn\u2019t matter and from now on I just  won\u2019t say anything.\u201d \n\nSo, as I go to bed in another room tonight, AITA for valuing her opinion but hating her timing? She is always like this when I bring something new that might be the least bit controversial. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Pp5rodP8kujLrqhQFShL87d7hULd6a2f", "post_id": "aqyeon", "action": {"description": "ending a friendship because they are still friends with my ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ending a friendship because they are still friends with my ex?", "text": "Buckle up, I have no idea if this will make sense at all so bear with me.   \n\n\nContext: I'm 25F and so is my friend, I'll call her M for simplicity. We were best friends in high school but immediately after graduation we lost touch despite going to different colleges in the same city. This was due, for me at least, to the fact that our friend group had a lot of toxic drama that I was honestly happy to get away from after graduation and because college was my first real time of liberation where I spent 4 years exploring the world outside of our tiny high school and making friends with people from different countries and viewpoints. M and I started hanging out again and maintaining regular contact in our senior years, about 4 years ago now.   \n\n\nFor all 4 years of high school and for the first 2 years of college, I had a boyfriend who I'll call T. T was 2 years older than us but was integrated into our friend group. It took me a while to realize this, but T was extremely emotionally abusive to me. I could go on forever about the things he did, but to avoid writing a novel I'll just say that he performed textbook emotional abuse on me (and one time even physical as he thought it would absolutely hilarious to shoot me point blank with a BB gun and then laugh when I cried) that took me years to unlearn. Even today, there are times where the things he said and did to me impact my very happy, healthy relationship. He made my life an absolute hell before, during, and after our breakup and that shit stays with you even when you don't want it to sometimes, especially when you listened to someone consistently insult and degrade you during your most formative years.   \n\n\nNow, the issue: ever since \"reuniting\" with M, it has been made clear to me that she has maintained a friendship with T. At first, I didn't think that she was aware of the shit he did to me so I approached her (this was about 3 or 4 years ago now) and let her know that he abused me and suggested that I was really uncomfortable with her being friends with him.  She, along with some other friends of ours, agreed that he's just generally a really unpleasant person to be around and was horrified by some of the things he did to me so I figured that was that.   \n\n\nExcept, it wasn't. Periodically through the past 4 years I would hear through the grape vine about the fact that she was still maintaining a friendship with T and would talk to him in a group chat, invite him to outings and parties, etc. I would also hear about how he still bemoans our relationship and refers to me exclusively as \"bitch face\" when he is not spreading vicious rumors about me, 5 years later. Each time I would again approach her and express my discomfort and reiterate what he did to me and each time I was met with \"well, I feel bad for him because he doesn't have anything else going on in his life.\" And it's like, ....! Maybe he doesn't have anything going on in his life because he is just an unpleasant person!!! But I digress.  \n\n\nIn the past year/year and a half, I had barely heard of him until recently. I live across the country currently but informed M that I would be coming home for 2 weeks and asked to hang out. She told me that she was busy. I then found out that in fact she would be busy because she had invited T and some other friends to her apartment. This is when I started to get upset for real. I calmly approached her again and explained that I just feel extremely hurt and insignificant because I have continually expressed to her my discomfort over her relationship with T and she has repeatedly disregarded my feelings on the matter and then went and invited him to her place over me. She then turned it back on me, explaining that she was uncomfortable with me asking her to end her friendship with T because T reached out to her in college while I didn't. From there the conversation devolved into her telling me that she's an adult and can choose to be friends with whomever she chooses (true) as long as she's not hurting anyone (true) and that things are only this way because I did not speak to her for most of college (I did not speak to any of my high school friends for most of college, and none of them hold this against me because they understand that life happens) and because about 2 years ago I approached her with some concerns about her relationship with her current boyfriend (which she immediately corrected & I accepted).   \n\n\nI understand that I have no control over who she chooses to be friends with. But she is making me out to be a horrible person because I have decided that for myself, personally, I cannot be friends with someone who maintains a relationship with my abuser -- however infrequent -- and then justifies that relationship to me by saying that it's all because he reached out in my absence. It is especially baffling to me because M is ultra-feminist to the point where she literally studies feminism for her doctorate so I just have a hard time understanding her desire to be friends with him in the first place. But I accept that if that's her decision, so be it, but for my own sanity I can't be friends with someone like that.   \n\n\nReddit, AITA?   \n\n\nTLDR: My friend from high school is still friends with my emotionally abusive ex boyfriend. I expressed that I can't be friends with someone who intentionally maintains a relationship with him and ignores my discomfort over the matter. Friend turns it back on me, saying that I'm being controlling, unhealthy, and insufferable and that her friendship to him is justified because ex-bf maintained contact with her during college whereas I did not.   \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0U5WXQnrjAOb91qyFI0gK7wIsIMUGDW7", "post_id": "avpl8b", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend not to invite his little sister", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my boyfriend not to invite his little sister?", "text": "For Christmas, my [21F] parents bought my boyfriend [23M] and I tickets to a popular movie series themed exhibition. My mum asked if that'd be a good idea, I said yes, and she gifted the tickets to him. \n\nI've said we should book it soon, since there's always a long wait, and he said he wants to wait till the school holidays so he can bring his little sister, who is 10. I'm not a fan of children. I've obviously always been nice to his little sister, and we've done things with her before, but I wouldn't have spent this much time around her. I feel like it'd ruin what was supposed to be a present for me and him. \n\nAlso to note: we're in a LDR and the exhibition is half way between where we live. It's not like we spend every weekend together, so this time together is even more important. \n\nSo, WIBTA if I asked my boyfriend to not bring his sister? I feel really uncomfortable and anxious around kids (he knows this) and I wouldn't be able to enjoy the exhibition or the time with my boyfriend, since we'd have to babysit his sister.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fS4sOqsf3AqbCWGjRBtg4y0Bs0wdFcSI", "post_id": "al9aaz", "action": {"description": "demanding one of the two garage spots in the house that I pay the same amount of rent for as my two roommates who have parked there for the past 3 years", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for demanding one of the two garage spots in the house that I pay the same amount of rent for as my two roommates who have parked there for the past 3 years?", "text": "I live in a house with three roommates and a two-car garage. We all pay the same amount of rent. Two of my roommates are a couple and have lived here since before I moved in. We will call them S and K. There are 4 cars to the household: S's, K's and my two cars (one of which is a convertible that I am selling and have moved to the suburbs to keep it off the city streets as registration has expired.) S & K have been parking in the garage for the past 3 years/since I signed the lease. I have parked both of my cars on the street for the past 3 years.\n\nWhen I first moved in, I asked S about the garage parking deal. He replied that he and K paid extra for those spots. Well I had just recently discovered that they have never paid any extra monthly cost for those spots. If anything, they paid for two garage door openers at $30 each.\n\nLast week, while they were on vacation, I asked if I can park in the garage while they were gone. I now realize how fucking  amazing it is to have a garage spot in the city of Chicago especially in the dead of winter when it's about to be -20/-50 windchill for the next two days and snow all over the ground where street parking is extremely limited as the Chicago tradition of \"dibs\" lives on with vigor.\n\nAfter they got back, K asked me to move my car from the garage so she can park. Instead of moving my car, I asked if they would be willing to share the garage with me seeing as we all pay the same amount of rent. K told me that S needs his spot because all his heavy and expensive work equipment stays in his car. She then asked that she and S have a couple of days to discuss their options. I said sure and agreed to allow her to park while I was away at work the next day and overnight. A few hours later she asked for my work schedule, obviously with the intent of sharing her garage spot with me. I gave her my schedule.\n\nWhile I was at work the next day, I texted  her my schedule as requested (I realize I probably shouldn't have). She also said she would need the opener back as my suggestion of her sharing boyfriend's (S) would not work because she and he have different schedules. She also said that I would have to purchase a third garage door opener from the landlord. I said we can discuss the garage deal when I get home from work the next day.\n\nA lil about our schedules:\n I am a bartender who works late nights and usually stays at my boyfriend's until the next day after my late shift. She currently works from home along with S except for the times when he travels for the day or sometimes week. Sometimes for a day a week, a few days a week or for a whole week. But despite all of our schedules, I think it is my turn to have a garage spot for me and only me as long as I am in town. I am willing to let her park while I am gone but for her to move her car everytime I get back seems all so unrealistic to me.\n\nWell, I am home now and parking on the street while her car is still in the garage. I was hoping to have our discussion but she was busy on the phone and working from home. Then suddenly they were due to leave to go to a friend's house for a few hours. As much as I would love to park my car in one of their spots, I think that would be very rude as we had not had our discussion yet.\n\nJust as they were ready to leave, she asked if I had the garage door opener. I said yes but I would like to have a discussion with her about it when they get back. I realize I should have just given her the garage door opener seeing as she had paid $30 for it. But my instincts told me to hold onto it until we have our discussion. I'm pretty much holding it as collateral and I'm sure she knows this.\n\nAITA in this situation? \n\nI can see me being an asshole by not giving her back the garage door opener yet but I am willing to give her $30 for it as I intend to park in the garage for at least the next year. In fact, they claim they may move out in 4 months so it'll only be for that time that she will no longer be able to park her car in the garage. More so, I want to request that parking spot is for me and that we do not share it as she had it for the past three years.\n\nI feel like it was inconsiderate of them to not even give me the option to park in the garage since I have been living here. That it is inconsiderate of them while I walk a block or two home by myself with a knife and mace gripped tightly at 3 in the morning on some nights that I get off work from the bar. There are a lot of rapes and muggings in Chicago at night. Inconsiderate that I have to move both of my cars for street cleaning which I've received several hundreds of dollars in parking tickets for since living here (my fault, I know.) I feel they are being selfish. There was a time I had to jump start my car to move my out of the garage so one of them can park after they got back from a previous vacation. In fact, they never even offered for me to park my car while they were gone, not once until I asked. It seems they feel entitled to both spots because I don't know, it was theirs before I moved in? Becuase they are a couple/team? Becuase they paid $30 for each garage door opener? Are they entitled?\n \nI strive to be a generous and selfless person but I think sometimes this causes me to sell myself short as others walk all over me. \n\nThere's no way I'm the asshole... right, guys?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yuOzyVSrKuOyyEvE8O0E7H7iPis7nNzT", "post_id": "a5i891", "action": {"description": "storming out of a family gathering because I'm tired of being used as tech support", "pronormative_score": 122, "contranormative_score": 35}, "title": "AITA for storming out of a family gathering because I'm tired of being used as tech support?", "text": "This post may be a bit long as the issue was the culmination of years of behavior that all came to a head the other night.\n\n**The Background**\n\nAt a very young age (about 8 or 9) I was already more tech savvy than anybody else in my family.  Shortly after this \"gift\" was discovered I became the go to person when anything computer related would have issues.  Now when I was a kid in the 90s and there were only a few computers between all my extended family this meant the occasional reboot, antivirus sweep, or OS reinstall a few times a year.  No big deal.  I was happy to help my family, and I was building a skillset that would land me a career in IT that I happen to enjoy very much.\n\nThe problems started about 8-10 years ago as more and more members of the family started getting computers, internet connections, and game consoles in all their homes.  Suddenly the standard greeting for my family was \"where is OP?  we've got some things we need him to look at while he's here.\"  So instead of joining in on the fun I would have a laptop, xbox, and a couple phones thrust into my arms as they went back into the other room to have fun.  As shitty as that sounds at that time in my life I still enjoyed learning about the tech and was still happy to help.  Just a bit less happy than before now that I was missing out on more of our family functions.\n\nSoon after this pattern began a few of my relatives started giving out my contact info to their friends and neighbors whenever they'd complain about some technical issue.  So I start getting texts and phonecalls several times a week from people who want me to drive out to their house and fix their stuff.  After a few times I actually started quoting rates for my services.  This caused some drama with a few of my relatives who claimed they were ashamed and embarrassed that I would dare try and charge for my time when all I did was \"hit a couple buttons and bam it works!\"  My response of \"if it is so easy then why don't you guys go do it?\" was met with silence for several weeks.\n\nAfter this I started to distance myself from these family gatherings and pushing back a bit on the tech support front by telling them they need to take it to a shop or something for more complicated issues.  This mean I would only be doing a few quick fixes and then I would join in on the party for the gatherings I chose to attend.  Sadly this was a temporary improvement as a few of my pushier relatives (the drama queens from the previous paragraph especially) demanded I take a closer look and \"stop being so lazy\" because they didn't want to pay a shop to look at their issues.  This was about 2 years ago and I simply told my parents I'd be going home and will no longer be coming to family events.  My father wasn't happy about it, but he seemed to understand and accepted my reasons.\n\n**On to the potential asshole event** \n\nFast forward to this weekend and my father is hounding me to go to an event at my grandfather's house.  It is my uncle's birthday and he specifically was asking if I'd be able to attend.  I was hesitant as I didn't want to deal with the drama from other attendees when I suddenly \"reappeared\" after 2 years.  Eventually they wore me down and I agreed to attend on the condition that I not be turned back into tech support for the day and simply left to enjoy the time with my family.  They both enthusiastically agreed so I went.\n\nHonestly the start of the party was great.  I got to see family that I had only briefly seen in the last 2 years, and I got to hang out with my grandfather and uncle both of whom are my favorite relatives to hang out with at these things.  I even got my uncle a couple bottles of his favorite beer that is pretty hard to find so he was pretty excited about that.\n\nUnfortunately this all came crashing down later in the evening when one of my drama queen aunt's was in a nearby room with my grandmother and a few of my female cousins.  I overheard the following said loudly enough that I know she knew I'd hear it.  \"Sure is a shame OP thinks he's too good to help his family with their computers now that he's a big shot IT nerd huh?  I brought my laptop just in case he decided to be an adult about this, but (my dad's name) said to just leave it in the car since he won't fix it.\"  (I know this isn't word for word since I lost some of it in my moment of rage, but it is pretty close I am fairly sure to what was said.  \"IT nerd\" was definitely used as that moment is burned into my memory now.)\n\nFull transparency here.  I lost my cool.  I know I should have just walked away, but I was seeing red here.  I stormed into the room and basically whisper yelled at her.  The basic breakdown because I only clearly remember the very end of my outburst here.\n\n\"I was this family's tech support bitch for almost a fucking decade.  It was fun when I was a kid, but after a few years of not getting to spend time with my family because you are too fucking dumb to take care of  your devices I was sick of it.  I was sick of you giving random people my number thinking I would spend my limited free time fixing their shit too.  I came out to spend time with (Uncle, and Grandfather) not to spend that time sitting in the garage working on your piece of shit laptop.  (Aunt) you are a massive entitled cunt, and I hope I never have to see your disgusting face ever again.\"  I then grabbed my things and went home ignoring the barrage of texts and calls I received for a few hours following my exit.\n\nThe aftermath is that though most of my family can sympathize with how I have been treated, and even got some apologies for past behavior...a good chunk of my family including my grandfather say I should apologize for the outburst even if I was in \"the right\" on it.  I disagree, but I am not really upset at them for thinking that.  I've been accused a few times of ruining my uncle's birthday which I apologized to him for.  And he seemed to accept the apology and still wants to hang out with me outside of family things so I am happy to hear that.\n\nProblem is I can't help this nagging feeling that I was way out of line for going off on her.  Like I know her behavior was shitty, but was my response a few steps too far?  Should I have just said a few quick goodbyes and gotten the hell out of there instead?  I honestly don't know now.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 122, "EVERYBODY": 22, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 122, "WRONG": 35}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OJ9GbfgvsbyRqDV3BYlym3ddhWOoPHiD", "post_id": "agd76q", "action": {"description": "lying to a girl so she'd stop talking to me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for lying to a girl so she'd stop talking to me?", "text": "So I guess the title is pretty much self explanatory.  There's a girl I've known for about a year. We've been on and off flirting or in love for most of the time. Anyway, I think we were \"on\", we had a pretty emotionally intimate few weeks, and we've been talking and cuddling a fair bit. It's common knowledge that she has strong feelings for me, but I'm more on the fence. Sunday we hung out, and I realized I didn't like her company. Something about her, and what she was talking about just annoyed me.\n\nWe said goodbye, and when I got home I basically wrote her a message basically saying I need space indefinitely and that if she sees me I don't want to talk to her. I said I had some issues to soften the blow, since I basically told her, and intended to mean that I don't really ever want to talk to her again, even though I'm doing great. \n\nI also made no secret of that I was still gonna be hanging out with basically everyone else I know, and that I'd be going to the same places me and her usually go to. I lied to get her off my back, since just saying \"piss off, leave me alone\" would be pretty rude, even if that was basically my whole point. \n\nI said I'd talk to her when the \"issues\" were resolved, but tbh I don't enjoy her company anymore, and I'm probably not gonna talk to her ever again, especially since I'm busy with work, and just went on my first date with another girl today.\n\nAm I the asshole for lying so she would leave me alone without any discussion, so I could focus on another girl I like, work and because she's starting to annoy me, and I don't want to speak to her anymore?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YuasijzK2rJuAPTnzcdneYPTQZWt30nK", "post_id": "a766ms", "action": {"description": "proposing to my girlfriend (now fiancee) with a ring I originally gave to my ex-fianc\u00e9e", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for proposing to my girlfriend (now fiancee) with a ring I originally gave to my ex-fianc\u00e9e?", "text": "I know from the title it sounds less than great but please read the whole post. \n\nLong story short, I was engaged to this girl like five years ago. In hindsight the engagement was impulsive and basically a last ditch effort to save the relationship. Predictably, things didn\u2019t work out. She gave me back the ring. (She literally had the things for like two weeks and barely wore it). \n\nI initially planned to sell or pawn the ring. I don\u2019t know why I didn\u2019t. I just kept  postponing it and it never got done. \n\nFast forward to now. I have an amazing girl that I\u2019m completely in love with. We talked a lot about marriage. The only issue is that I\u2019m having to be a lot more careful with my money. She also wants to have a baby relatively soon so there\u2019s that to consider. \n\nI decided that I already have a ring that\u2019s basically in new condition. I still could have sold or pawned it. But my now-fianc\u00e9e and I had talked about rings and stuff as well and this was really close to what she said she wanted. So I don\u2019t know. I guess I romanticized it in my mind thinking \u201cthis is the girl that should have had it all along.\u201d  Maybe that\u2019s stupid, I don\u2019t know. \n\nAnyway I proposed with it. What I didn\u2019t realize was that my ex actually follows my fianc\u00e9e on Instagram (why, I do not know!) and so she saw the ring. She, being the lovely person that she is, goes and DMs my fianc\u00e9e to say that she thinks that\u2019s the same engagement ring she got. \n\nMy fianc\u00e9e confronts me all upset. I was honest and told her what happened. I immediately offered to buy another ring but she wasn\u2019t having it. She even said she needs to think about whether she still wants to get married. That stung, as you can imagine, and I\u2019m hoping (praying) she was just talking out of anger. \n\nHonestly, my ex moved like two states away after we broke up. I never expected them to get in contact with each other or I would never have put my fianc\u00e9e in this position. Again, I love this woman to death.\n\nI mean, is this really the worst thing in the world? And bad enough to get possibly dumped over??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OPJ0VSDYsZMuBZx1AjiwcVeAB8HkqhF1", "post_id": "a0p00j", "action": {"description": "publicly bringing abuse to light online", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for publicly bringing abuse to light online", "text": "The is one reditor (who remains unsaid) who reports \"being glad his girl is stabbed\" and is a complete manipulator.\nMany people say and belive he is lying but I want to know if telling others via socials is wrong.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dP3WBGN0JYv9l60RAkAGHgXc5SWLqNva", "post_id": "b8xuwn", "action": {"description": "yelling at my aunt for telling my family I was in therapy", "pronormative_score": 273, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my aunt for telling my family I was in therapy?", "text": "I've been in therapy for a few months now for childhood trauma and have been keeping it pretty private (as in my sister, my parents, my best friend, and my boss are the only ones who know I'm in therapy.) I have a huge family that know about what I went through as a kid, but I'm not close with anyone in my extended family aside from my grandparents and a couple of cousins, all of whom I wouldn't tell about my counseling.\n\nI found out recently that my mother had confided in one of my aunts that I was in therapy. She said she needed to speak to someone for support and while I understand, I was pretty pissed at her that she told someone in my extended family that I make it a point not to talk to. We've talked it through and she understood why I was upset, apologized, and has gone out of her way to prove she won't talk to anyone else about it.\n\nUnfortunately, the aunt she told I was in therapy has decided to tell everyone in my family - I'm talking cousins, uncles, aunts, grandparents - the whole nine yards. Not only that, she's embellished a lot of details about me being bipolar and having the mentality of a 13 year old (I'm 21 and I'm being treated for PTSD and generalized anxiety).\n\nI found this out yesterday and, to put it lightly, I was boiling mad. I called my mom and asked her why she said all those things because I assumed that's where my aunt got the idea. According to my mom, all she said is that I was in therapy to deal with trauma. I believe her because we've already had this fight and she was genuinely sorry for telling anyone anything.\n\nI called my aunt right after. I know I should've taken the time to calm down, but I was fuming. I asked her what gave her the right to tell anyone my business and lie about my mental health. She said she was sorry and that she just wanted my family to be sensitive to me.\n\nI'll try to condense what I said but I essentially said this is why I don't talk to you and that my mental health is my business and I get to choose who knows what. I told her to call everyone and apologize for lying about me. She said she didn't mean to lie and I told her that was bullshit because she put more detail into the lie than if she had told everyone the truth.\n\nA couple of hours later I got a call from my grandparents saying I made her cry and I should apologize to her. I told them I wouldn't because she had been lying about a very private topic to me to the entire family. My grandparents said I was being immature and I said \"Well you all think I have the mentality of a 13 year old so what do you expect?\"\n\nNow I'm getting \"We love you\" messages from my family along with scripture quotes about two wrongs don't make a right and what not. I'm getting the sense that my extended family thinks I'm in the wrong but I don't think I was wrong for standing up for myself. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 267, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 273, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kYjkCKLjjUw5C7nuPDnt5s8NlWTN4V2G", "post_id": "b0fdtp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to take a girl to prom", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to take a girl to prom?", "text": "Last year I took a girl to prom due to being a family friends daughter. I don\u2019t  really know her except when I met her once, prior to last years prom. I didn\u2019t have a terrible time, but I surely didn\u2019t know anyone that was there. I met another couple and kind of talked to them here and there, but it wasn\u2019t all that. I tried making the best of it, but again, I wasn\u2019t comfortable in the whole situation all night. \n\nSo, here we are at almost another prom and she wants me to go with her again. I\u2019m not sure what to do because I don\u2019t want to hurt her feelings, but I don\u2019t want to have a repeat of last year. I find it easier to just not go, since I don\u2019t know her so well. But the family friend is someone we see quite often so it may be awkward now. \n\nNever posted here, so hopefully this fits and isn\u2019t too ridiculous to post. Just wanted to know if ITA or maybe it isn\u2019t that big of deal??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E65FUjVYlEmawEgd4X1GonlUTnjJsedL", "post_id": "avrrg4", "action": {"description": "calling a stranger out for repeatedly wiping their Nose / Sneezing & putting their Hand back on the Subway Pole", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for Calling a Stranger Out for Repeatedly Wiping Their Nose / Sneezing & Putting Their Hand Back on the Subway Pole?", "text": "Morning rush hour commute, some dude standing up was blatantly sick. People usually aren't huge when a sick person is on a crowded subway for obvious reasons, but people understand that some people don't have the luxury of just taking off of work.\n\n​\n\nThis guy though kept sneezing in his hand and rubbing his nose with the same hand - probably about 3 or 4 times. Instead of using his free hand, he kept using the one he was holding onto the subway pole with - something that many other people touch. After the \\~4th time of this, I basically just said \"dude, can you either sneeze in your other hand or not touch the pole after you do it with the same hand. you're going to get everyone sick\".\n\n​\n\nThis was as we were approaching the station. Guy gave me a look like he was surprised and after a brief pause goes \"okay bro ,not a huge deal\" and got off the train.\n\n​\n\nAITA for calling this guy out publicly or should the guy used better discretion? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ti4u7CPkMNe0Tx05xAicQEtM2NC2y1Pb", "post_id": "ad10si", "action": {"description": "ditching a rape victim who I gave a ride to", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for ditching a rape victim who I gave a ride to?", "text": "Some years ago I used to pick up hitchhikers from time to time as I had to travel long distances for my work. Once I picked up a woman who at first seemed normal but 10 mins or so into the journey started speaking about how she was recently raped. Although I was sympathetic I got disturbed by the conversation and somewhat worried that she might falsely accuse me of rape. So when we pulled in so she could go to the toilet. I drove off and left her. It wasn\u2019t something I did easily but she was obviously a disturbed young woman and I felt my safety being threatened.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Gso4QhkrMQL6mGcOb4p0hoyzmZhcj64y", "post_id": "aykja0", "action": null, "title": "AITA for literally, physically cringing at the sound of my mother's voice?", "text": "She's always been so overbearing, hovering, and when you give her the opportunity to talk, she overstays her welcome quite often. She's never lost an argument, because she just raises her voice until you give up. All throughout my childhood I had to deal with her nonstop, and today, just the sound of her voice made me hang up the phone. Sorry for the short-ish post, too, just want to know where you guys stand.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zkzyJ8IZ6u2GjvmOSRASrHq03dWXfgch", "post_id": "aq0eod", "action": {"description": "buying a 25k car without telling my GF First", "pronormative_score": 50, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Buying a 25k Car without Telling my GF First?", "text": "Some back story on my income here not trying to brag just give context; I'm M28 made 250k in 2018 and she's F24 and makes about 50k. To celebrate a incredibly hard and successful 2018 I wanted to treat myself and I've always wanted a vintage Mercedes convertible to cruise in during the summer. My buddy let me know about a month ago that his uncle in Alberta was selling one for 30k, I talked him down to 26k including shipping the car with a company to Toronto. Car got here last Friday and my GF was over and I'm like lets go outside I have a surprise and there she was a beautiful classic convertible Merc my GF was like wtf is this when did you buy it? I told her I got it a few weeks ago but it just arrived like 30 mins ago off the truck. And for some reason she was super pissed, said that I should have told her about it first and we could have made the decision together and said I'm an asshole for not consulting her on a major purchase like this etc. We don't live together but we are talking about that and have been together for 2 years. She's been super pissed/annoyed at me for this and has called me a dick multiple times. \n\n​\n\nSo AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 49, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 50, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "I6RvMQXZ8gI48MgAJiDNk5NuyRuoV77v", "post_id": "atw3sl", "action": {"description": "refusing to give my parents money for my siblings tuition fees", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to give my parents money for my siblings tuition fees?", "text": "Okay, so I\u2019m Filipino and in our society, especially if you\u2019re the breadwinner, you\u2019re expected to support your family once your start working. \n\nI\u2019ve recently graduated and landed my dream job, and the pay is good especially at an entry level job in my country (only been working there for a couple of months). I still live with my parents but I\u2019m planning to move out after saving up for my own place. Now since I still live with them, I pay my share of the bills which I think is fair. My parents have recently found out about the exact amount of my salary (I refused to tell them in the first place, I didn\u2019t want them getting any ideas) and are now pushing me to pay my brother\u2019s university tuition amounting to 45,000 php/sem + all the miscellaneous fees (side note: my monthly salary doesn\u2019t even reach 30k). I refused because it\u2019s my money and I told them my siblings aren\u2019t my responsibility AND also planning to live on my own, so it\u2019s been a whole week of endless fights and passive aggressive comments about how I\u2019m not helping them with money problems, etc and now they said if I don\u2019t pay for it, then I need to find a place of my own by mid-March. \n\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DByVOxIpyTCeCEVWqsZZ002smxxO1lcY", "post_id": "a6721o", "action": {"description": "being triggered that my best friend still keeps in touch with someone who willingly ignores me and won't give my stuff back", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being triggered that my best friend still keeps in touch with someone who willingly ignores me and won't give my stuff back?", "text": "I've known my best friend (let's say Pablo) for almost 15 years. He, like myself, is a bit of an acquired taste as a friend. Hes a bit bullheaded and doesnt communicate well.\nAnd the offending party is a guy named (let's say Tony) who at the time I  knew for 2 years.\nI have trust issues with people because my last group of friends basically stabbed me in the back repeatedly without remorse, Stole a gf from behind my back and then made it impossible to stay friends.\n\nTony was originally my friend exclusively and I later introduced him to my group of friends. He was one of the first guys in our group to have his own place, needless to we hung out there a lot.\n\nWe became fast friends with a lot of common interests and later on I had no problem letting him borrow stuff like small amounts of money or reading material. I also drove him a lot of places for personal stuff because he didnt have a car and I just wanted to help him. (We bacame friends because I offered him a ride home so he wouldn't have to walk in 98\u00b0 Fahrenheit weather in pants.)\n\nNear the end of the friendship Tony, Pablo and I are hanging out. We used to fuck with Pablo, jokingly,  because he was behind us in the pilot program (he started later so this is natural). But he switched to a fast track school and became an instructor before us. So we were having a discussion about some regulations or practices and Pablo points out that Tony was doing something incorrectly. But instead of being cool and double checking procedure, Tony flips out. Telling Pablo hes retarded and that he definitely doesnt know what hes talking about. I defend Pablo non aggressively by saying \"Hey man he just got the certificate saying that he KNOWS the material. Dont just write him off like that  let's check the procedures\". So we check and Tony was wrong and we kinda just sat there in silence for a few minutes before Pablo and I take our leave. Tony never apologized for speaking disrespectfully. But it was a single incident and we never brought it up again and continued to hang out. This should have been a man child red flag.\n\nNow I'm not a perfect human being and I have my own share of problems and I have my own growing to do. And when my home life got hard sometimes I would \"retreat\" to Tony's place away from my problems. I understand in hindsight that's fucked up for using his place as an escape. It could make him feel all sorts of things.  Like being used and not feeling like a friendship is real definitely count among them. I now see that.\n\nBut instead of being a real friend and trying to talk to me about my problems or addressing the issue with his place, the Tony ghosts me. \n\nI get that I might not be an easy friend to have, I'm an acquired taste. And if you dont want to be friends with me. That's cool and it's your choice who you want to be around. That doesnt make me mad. \nWhat made me mad was that he was holding on to a bunch of books that I loved. I tried to get in touch with him (texts, voicemail) to get my stuff back, all while apologizing for using him like that and seeking to make reparations. \n\nHe would never answer. \n\nThen i found out he is still regularly hanging out with Pablo.\nWhich is an entire other drama filled tale^^. But I digress.\nThis hurt me. Because not only did he ghost me but hes hanging out with my friends?! To whom I introduced him to no less.\n\nSo I ask Pablo to get my stuff back for me on several occasions to which he just glosses over and basically forgets my request. He doesnt like confrontation. Not that I considered it one because it was my stuff and I just wanted it back. This annoyed me but it wasnt sacrilegious in the name of friendship. So I just continued to ask him to recover my possessions. \n\n Let's establish here that my mom helped Pablo's mom a shitload in elementary school. From taking Pablo to school, feeding him and housing him when his mother went to Colombia regularly. Hes been a fixture in my life a very long time. My family loves Pablo like a son and I love him like a brother. \n\n2 years later I am now only just getting my stuff back, not even all of it, after repeatedly asking and now I find out that he STILL hangs out with this guy and his fiance. \n\nTo make this even saucier at some point Pablo needed to be loaned money. His well to do side of the family refused to loan him the money even though he is an exceptional student and he promised to pay it back. But instead of asking his other best friend James or Myself to help. He goes to scumbag Tony. Claimimg that it was because no one was meant to know.\n (he was ashamed I get it but hes been financially troubled his whole life so it wasnt like James and I didn't know he was constantly pinching pennies to live)\n\nSo quick summary thus far. Not only does he keep in touch with someone that intentionally doesnt care about me, he then gets a loan from the offending party that my parents definitely would have given to him no strings attached. This hurts my feelings\n\nSo when I talked to Pablo about how his friendship made me felt. He basically chalked it up to \"It's a problem between you guys, not me\"\nThat's what really hurt.\n I'm a loyal friend. If you don't like someone, I dont like them.\n If you someone messes with you. I'll jump at the enemies throat. \nNow I dont expect that from people but i do expect some consideration for my feelings. Especially from friends.\n\nNow i know as an adult i can't tell Pablo who to be friends with. Ofc that's wrong. But it does hurt my feelings that Pablo still regularly keeps in touch with him and took a loan from him when he has 2 best friends (James and I) that would do anything for him. \n\nThe only saving grace for Pablo right now is that he didnt invite Tony and his fiance to his bday party because he knew it would upset me if I was there and they showed up. \n\nAITA for wanting to confront him about this in a more direct way? I dont want to lose my friend because I know he will be difficult about it, hes very stubborn. But it eats me up that he hangs out with this guy. Especially when I have trust issues when it comes to friends. \n\nTLDR: AITA for being mad at my friend because he still keeps in touch with a guy that I introduced him to? Who then later ghosted me for personal issues between us and then wouldn't give any of my stuff back willingly.\n\nI might be feeling oversensitive but if I call you my friend I'm expecting mutual respect for one another and a bit of consideration about personal situations.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "x1Y2pp4gSJnow9TcZPDokJCiXPyX4MdY", "post_id": "aog4j7", "action": {"description": "waiting for my bf to get out of the bathroom", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for waiting for my bf to get out of the bathroom?", "text": "Okay so this morning my bf wakes me up around 630, getting out of bed. So he goes upstairs and I try to fall back asleep but I cannot. So I go upstairs wrapped in my blanket, waiting across the hall for him to come out of the bathroom so I can run into him for a hug. (My favorite hugs) and he comes out of the bathroom and asks me \u201cwhat the fuck are you doing\u201d and proceeds to call me a freak for standing outside the bathroom door. He was acting like I had my ear pressed up to the door and I was like listening to him pee or something. I just wanted a hug. AITA? Is that creepy? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "43sSmixTBrgEvmpKmzIPbRDd9WC9SYmQ", "post_id": "auv323", "action": {"description": "telling my friends they're lazy for not donating blood", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 58}, "title": "AITA for telling my friends they're lazy for not donating blood?", "text": "My school had a blood drive today and I'm really passionate about donating blood.  My mom has had a couple of close calls in her life that were saved due to blood transfusions, and thus I get easily annoyed when people don't donate if they don't have medical, athletic, or religious excuses.  I try really hard to spread the word out in my school, so was irritated when I learned that my close friends didn't donate solely because \"they didn't feel like it.\"  I told them that if they don't have an excuse like listed above, then the only reason they didn't donate was because of their own negligence and laziness when it came to finding the desire and time in their day. Keep in mind that our school gives excused absence for the classes we miss, and that you are free to donate anytime during the day, even after school, so that everyone can come during any free time. They said I had a superiority complex just because I donated, but they don't know that it has impacted my family on a more personal level.  My intention isn't to make them feel like bad people because they didn't donate, but just to drive home the fact that they could help save lives if they just took a few simple steps. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 58, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 58}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7Jyo1w6zOYFrf5MOieu8jC9HUaPqwZrG", "post_id": "a3lqv0", "action": {"description": "being upset when my bf kept fucking me after I told him I didn't want to without a condom", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset when my bf kept fucking me after I told him I didn\u2019t want to without a condom", "text": "My long-term bf and I were having sex and I\u2019m on a hiatus of my birth control and had brought two condoms but one we used and the other he messed up putting on so we couldn\u2019t use it. I told him \u201cI don\u2019t want you to fuck me without a condom,\u201d but he said \u201cwell I\u2019ll fuck you for a bit more\u201d and then proceeded to keep fucking me. He knows having unprotected sex gives me terrible anxiety up until I have another period. \nIs this a red flag? Or AITA?\nWhen I was visibly upset he didn\u2019t stop until he paused for the third time and saw I was still visibly upset so then he stopped. After I explained why I was upset (because I\u2019d been raped in my early teens (he knew this)  and it brought back bad memories) he said he was sorry and that he felt horrible. \nWas he just drunk and it felt good? Am I overreacting? Should I have not said anything cause he\u2019s my bf? I do trust him. And I love him. This instance was just so unlike him and made me extremely uncomfortable. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oUWKxIiExlIvwBHGkKhZuvLjcc5Ot3oS", "post_id": "ase4kh", "action": {"description": "not accepting rejection", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 127}, "title": "AITA for not accepting rejection?", "text": "I'm cutting to the point, i don't like getting rejected. the moment a girl rejects me any relationship or connection we have is dead to me. I know its harsh, but it's the truth. Ever since I started being interested in girls, all they do is reject me or \"see me as a brother\", Im not interested in sticking around for that tbh. It happened to me last week, with a girl i thought I had a chance of getting with. It crushed me, and i blocked her everywhere. One of her friends went up to me a few days later and got in my face about how i'm immature and how I threw her away and don't value her.\n\nI just walked away from her. I'm so fucking sick of this shit happening to me, rejection is fucking horrific at this point, and all I get for not accepting it is shit. I don't even lash out, i just do what's best for everyone and cut contact with them, and still I get shit on for \"not valuing them\" and shit. I just don't want to waste my time and energy on lost causes. Anyway, are they right? Am I an asshole who doesnt value girls?\n\nEdit: didnt expect this huge reaction. apparently i'm an asshole because I think it's ridiculous for girls to expect friendship after basically shitting all ofer you, and that they are then entitled to ruin your reputation if you disregard them from that point on. I expected some blowbakc, but not such a united front against torturing yourself after already getting assfucked by rejection", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 126, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 7}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 127}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4xHrrnrdLbuzYj3WYWuCsbEKbhSebLtQ", "post_id": "b4qz08", "action": {"description": "demanding that my girlfriends gymnastics routine be less \"sexy?\"", "pronormative_score": 70, "contranormative_score": 941}, "title": "AITA for demanding that my girlfriends gymnastics routine be less \"sexy?\"", "text": "I truly want an honest opinion so I'm going to include all details I can w/in char limit, even ones that aren't flattering to me. \n\nI've been dating my GF for about a month. honestly I feel much stronger about her than she does me, but I'm hoping she comes around. She is on our university gymnastics team and is an incredible athlete. I went to her meet this afternoon and was freaking shocked to see how much of her floor routine had \"sexual\" elements. She did her routine to \"p'on da replay\" and as an example she crawled on all fours, she shook her ass, she did this thing where she went up and down her body with her finger (including her breasts) and then acted like her finger was sizzling. And during all this, her teammates cheered. I was blown away that this sort of sexuality was not only allowed but encouraged. \n\nAfter the meet I told her I didn't think she should do that sort of stuff. She told me that it was normal for gymnastics and that her routine had been worked out for years with coaches and choreographers. I told her it was normal for strippers who danced for dollar bills. She told me I didn't get it. I told her that I didn't understand what was to get, I was her boyfriend and it was my job to look out for her. She told me \"you are literally and asshole and way overstepping your bounds!\" I told her that I didn't want to fight and she said it was too late. So instead of her going on a romantic date I had planned, she decided to hang out with her teammates. I am so upset because I was counting on seeing her tonight. \n\nBased on what she said, am I the asshole for thinking her routine should be less sexy and telling her so?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 929, "OTHER": 44, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 26, "INFO": 8}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 70, "WRONG": 941}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PQoMVtL6HtDcxjOrJlNngBodB043d3nb", "post_id": "b93g6i", "action": null, "title": "AITA: roommate annoyed by weed and accuses me of lying about it", "text": " \n\nFor context, I smoke weed and my roommate doesn't. I don't smoke in the apartment to be considerate to her. One day a couple months ago I messed up. I got kinda wine drunk and lit a joint in the front room. She confronts me about in a civil and respectful way and asks that I don't smoke again inside b/c of the furniture, etc. I apologize and say I understand, it won't happen again.\n\nFast forward to last weekend, I have a couple childhood friends visiting. My roommate leaves for the morning. We pick up weed, come back to the apartment to roll the joint, then head outside to smoke it. We did not smoke inside the house; we simply rolled the joint on the kitchen table and left the apartment building.\n\nWe come back later in the day and chill and watch tv. My roommate comes back and doesn't say anything. The next day, I ask her if she knew where my foam roller was, a regular question, and I could tell something was off. I asked her \"are you ok?\" and she says \"well, I wasn't gonna bring it up because I already told you once to not smoke in the apartment and you did again\" and I respond \"no, I didn't. And why wouldn't you tell me, you should tell things so I can address it.\". She then continues to imply that I did smoke in the house because she \"knows what it smells like because she's a dentist\" I repeat, \"I didn't smoke in the house. Maybe you smelled it because we had it with us\". In a super condescending tone she says \"I know what it smells like and I left and came back and it smelled like weed.\" I said \"well, i don't doubt that you smelled something. But now you're accusing me of lying and that's hurtful\" and then she started rambling about how if the dental school finds out, it'll be bad for her and she has loans blah blah. I'm not sure what me smoking weed has to do with that, but she somehow turned it to make it like I could potentially damage her career. Then she said \"I don't even want it in the house but whatever\".\n\nFor background, I have tolerated a lot of her bs including her mom staying with us for a month, randomly bringing her dog when pets aren't allowed, and asking me to leave work because she was stuck outside without her keys, plus a handful of other times where I had to get her out of situations because she lost her keys.\n\nAm I in the wrong here? I feel like she is terribly out of line and that she disrespected me by insinuating I was lying to her. My plan was to assert myself to her and tell her straight up you disrespected me and I can't tolerate that. I want to see what other people might think.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uF13GvZJf1hpqPBKwuuIIXjssLsxfvt8", "post_id": "b4lkja", "action": {"description": "not wanting to listen to my brothers shitty retellings that he insists are funny", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to listen to my brothers shitty retellings that he insists are funny?", "text": "Firstly, i already feel mildly bad about it because there is a special case in this event.\n\nFor what feels like the dawn of time my brother would often come to me and just start spouting out a random story of some people i dont know in some situation i have no context in and then hed laugh and tell me its funny. Every once in a while he actually delivers it well, but very frequently its so bad it feels like hes butchering a childrens book. I hate having to pretend its funny or that i really care. I dont know if i *should* care, if i should I feel like i should encourage him to improve his delivery, but I really dont care enough to do that.\n\n\nI have recently shot down any chances he has had because he very frequently rambles on and on and its annoying and im usually in the middle of something i dont want to take my attention from to listen to a shitty retelling. Just now he told me \"I think i want to be a comedian\" And I groaned internally cus he has no skill in delivery. I lightly acknowledged it and continued doing my own thing. He then said he wants to share a joke hes written up, and while i knew it being written probably made a difference in whether or not it was bearable, i just didnt have the mood or energy to consider sitting through him butchering another story and insisting its funny. I didnt want to tell him its not funny, cus every time i have done that he just scoffs and acts like im a dick. I even mentioned how he has shitty delivery. He got pissy and blamed me for having a short attention span.\n\n\n\nI can understand putting my feelings aside to let him have some attention but we interact in plenty of other ways that i find constructive and actually build relationship. We play video games together, we go out and explore together. We talk and share things in other ways. I take pictures for him to post on instagram. All this does is feel like hes ripping my attention and shoving his arm down my mouth to feed me a piece of regurgitated faceboook.\n\n\n\nIf i SHOULD be the one giving him attention... how the hell do i do it constructively? when he obviously sucks ass at delivering funny stories?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nOiX3U7JYmK6XKASpLJuFyp1Y2wTnWFB", "post_id": "b65znj", "action": {"description": "telling someone my friends crush", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA For telling someone my friends crush", "text": "So basically, I'm in a group chat with a bunch of friends and my crush. A year ago I wasn't really friends with my friends, i just had a laugh with them every now and then.  We had to do a science project that involved taking selfies with things, so I did. I shared the project with the friends, we were all working together, and didn't think much of it. Thing is, back then (I feel) I had really bad personal hygiene, and I am still insecure about my appearance. \nOne of my friends has really cool software skills, but with great power comes great responsibility and he was not responsible. He started just photoshopping my face into things, public things that I won't go into too much detail about. I was really embarrassed, but so desperate to seem cool I didn't say anything. Then he stopped. Until recently he sent the template he used and it's awful, just a picture of my disgusting dirty face and greasy hair. I then told him how much I hate that picture, and we laughed about it. He didn't change the picture of the chat (my face) cause it was a private chat, and I assumed he would not use it again.\nI made a group chat with my crush in it and a bunch of friends, including him, and everything was going swimmingly. Then he, with full knowledge that I had a crush on this girl, sent the template. Now I definitely fueled the flames by saying how much the picture made me want to oof myself, but that didn't stop everyone (including my crush) from downloading the picture and posting it everywhere. So in a stroke of righteous anger I asked how his crush (using her name) was, and if she was still ignoring him. Then I deleted it because I felt bad, and literally no one but the people who already new saw it. I know this because they were all asking who it was.\nNow all my my friends  (apart from one guy who is saying it was justified) is saying I'm the asshole for saying the name, and that he was crushed DESPITE me saying that it was just retaliation for sending my ugly mug to my crush knowing I hated the photo.\n\nSo, AMITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Bp2pfmf9j1KwD1jq5LsMY9D1WpW5yUYc", "post_id": "b53e3v", "action": {"description": "hating my grandpa", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I hate my grandpa", "text": "Obligatory mobile mention\n\nB is brother, Gp is grandpa, me is self explanatory,\n\nSome backstory first, my brother has a bit of an anger issue but it's not easy to trigger it's more of a he gets extremely mad. My grandpa doesn't follow the new time rules where it is illegal to beat the shit out of children.\n\nSo enough backstory on to the actual story, B and C were playing in the kitchen and C started calling B names. C knew that B was extremely self conscious about his weight and that's what he was verbally abusing him with. So he told him to stop. When it did not stop he lightly punched him. Knowing that he could get him in trouble he over dramatically started crying . This prompted Gp to walk out with a belt and proceed to beat him with the belt. When my brother fell to the ground he started kicking him, my brother started begging him to stop when my uncle stepped in. So am I the assault for hating my grandpa", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YueOdoxpgjdRW8u4UmrgpalrMkH7HVif", "post_id": "b1nfc4", "action": {"description": "getting upset when my boyfriend tells me he doesn't want me to hang out with him and his friends last minute after he invited me in the first place", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting upset when my boyfriend tells me he doesn\u2019t want me to hang out with him and his friends last minute after he invited me in the first place", "text": "I get ready to go and he tells me he would rather he and his friends just hang out. I wouldn\u2019t mind if he had said that in advance or before I was going to leave. I just told him it upset me he waited to say that. He said he shouldn\u2019t feel bad about wanting to spend time with his friends.  I never told him to feel bad I just said I wanted to be given more of a notice...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3zJTlCwPekbQpG5fccElE1gWgtFkoIHq", "post_id": "a0zw0l", "action": {"description": "being a flamer and troll", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being a flamer and troll", "text": "I posted \"Change my mind\" memes to a bunch of subs, criticizing them, just to be mean.\n\nI have NO idea why I did that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zrveL0A9CafY8SqiWQUlmpVrutNbHye1", "post_id": "asesrt", "action": {"description": "accidentally insulting someone's dead mom", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for accidentally insulting someone\u2019s dead mom?", "text": "So this just happened and I feel really bad about it, not super long but bare with me.\n\nThis guy and I are kinda friends, not really friendly but we get along well enough. We\u2019re in class and he makes a joke about my girlfriend, I follow up with a joke about his mom. That was a huge mistake, apparently his mom is dead and I didn\u2019t know about it. After I found that out I immediately apologized, but he said you can\u2019t apologize something like that. He was super angry and I don\u2019t really blame him, after class he slapped me (it hurt but I really don\u2019t blame him he reacted the way I probably would\u2019ve.)\n\nI feel really bad, AITA?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nO9dFMwjPXpgE997JIDiIyTRmKBH1Hrr", "post_id": "a5957d", "action": {"description": "not dating people who have mental issues", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not dating people who have mental issues?", "text": "I have a personal rule to never date a person who is depressed or suffering from any mental health complications. I don\u2019t want to deal with them especially since I am not the most stable myself when it comes to my emotions (although I do not suffer from anything as far as I know).\n\nI previously dated a self proclaimed autistic person and she was a manipulative bitch who tore apart my life. So, with this as my previous experience, am I really the asshole for not wanting to date people who have mental health issues or claim to suffer from mental health issues? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E2bnaTwv4UjY1wIns6ZXxhgat8rS9fgG", "post_id": "aedund", "action": {"description": "telling my mom that Im going to move out if she doesn't leave her husband", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA?? For telling my mom that Im going to move out if she doesn't leave her husband.", "text": " Okay a little bit of background, Im 19 and live with my mom(Cindy), step dad(Dave), and step sister(Beth,16). Last year Beth ended up having to move in with us because her biological mother kicked her out. Because she didn't want to move in with us, and would've rathered live with her boyfriend, she told police that I molested her and my parents beat her. Still tho, she came to live with us. Ever since she's moved in she's caused drama, arguments and tension. David had always been a heavy drinker, even before Beth moved back in. But after she moved in David began to drink way more, and he's pretty much an alcoholic. Now David has never provided for me in any way shape or form. Not financially, emotionally or physically. \nAnd now that I'm older and still at home, I pay rent, my own car insurance and I buy my own groceries (which I keep on my own labeled shelf.) David and Beth continue to eat the groceries I buy for myself, even tho my mom already grocery shops for the family and they both work and are totally capable of buying their own groceries. And whenever I bring this up David yells at me and tells me that I'm an ungrateful child. Yet I have nothing to thank him for. He acts like I should just give him respect because he's my mom's husband, but he's never shown me any ounce of respect. He even got drunk and passed out on the sofa, missing my highschool graduation. I've also tried very hard to form a relationship with both Beth and David, I've asked Beth to go to the movies, beach, mall and to get pedicures many times and everytime she's declined. Ive tried to have conversations with David or ask him about his day, but once again I am repeatedly shot down. David is almost always drunk and grouchy and will get mad over the littlest things, like if I don't wash one plate(yet he'll leave piles of dirty dishes in the living room), if I accidentally make too much noise(yet he used to vaccum outside my room at 8AM after I just worked a 12 hour midnight shift). He's always yelling or nitpicking about something and Beth is always going out of her way to be inconsiderate. Beth will take all the body wash, shampoo, conditioner , pads, etc out of the bathroom closet and stash them in her room and then yell at whoever asks to use them. \nOverall, the household is just really toxic for me and everyone is always on edge. I feel like living in this home is bad for my own mental health, I've brought this upto my mom many times, and she continues to tell me to get over it. I finally told her today that if she doesn't leave, or there's some form of serious attitude change, for my own sake I need to move out. \nAITA?\nTLDR; my step dad and step sister continue to treat me terribly even tho I've actively tried to build a relationship. I gave my mother the ultimatum of them or me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6KtdYQJm7TuCXvMiFOE6K9zkAzLudNaV", "post_id": "ai2siv", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to get a dog", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my bf to get a dog?", "text": "To start this off, I (23 yr old, works full time) love animals, and I currently have two cats that that only I take care of. My boyfriend (23 yr old, works full time) just moved in with me in my house around September last year. Been going great, but lately he's been pushing to get a dog. His family owns a pack of little dogs, and he's started to miss them, and I get that. But I know after the novelty rubs off of owning a dog I'll end up being the one taking care of it, walking or training it.\nI feel this will happen by how he treats chores or household activities. He doesn't. The way I've been trying to do them is alternate who does what, but that hasn't been working. I'll do the chore (ex:dishes), and be like \"It's your turn, I did them yesterday.\" And he'll just be like i don't want to do them tonight/I don't have the time (he spends 10 hours a day playing videogames), I'll do them tomorrow. But its just been me doing dishes, doing laundry, taking out trash, tidying up our room, making the bed, ect. With making the bed his reply was that I was the only one bothered with it being messy. To his credit, he didn't have to do any of this when he lived with his parents, his mom was a stay at home mom and did it all.  I had to show him how to do dishes and laundry, so he couldn't use that as an excuse any more.\nHe says the dogs helps him with his anxiety, and I understand. But I'm pretty sure his mom was the one to take care of them. When I mentioned it, he was like \"I know how to take care of a dog and train it\" but that's not my problem with it.\nSo reddit, would I be the asshole if I told my boyfriend i dont want him to get a dog till I can see he's reliable enough to take care of it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GpUReVQ4vERB8UhXbcTXYCUYwaO9vF48", "post_id": "arcvi3", "action": {"description": "refusing to honor a request from ex-friend and his gf to not go to an event", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to honor a request from ex-friend and his gf to not go to an event?", "text": "Throwaway for reasons.\n\nSo for context, I've been friends with this guy(we'll call him A)about two years. Done travel together, see each other all the time, never really fought etc. He is bi, and I am gay though im not sure how relevant that is since we've never expressed interest in each other.\n\nAnyway he has this girlfriend. We'll call her X. She usually doesn't come on the trips or events me and A go on but I never thought much about it. One time we did all three of us go to a movie and X seems distant/ignoring of me. After I got home, I messaged A asking if everything was ok with me and her. His reply; \"yeah she's just never liked you is all.\"\n\nThis made me really sad and I asked if there was anything I could do to try and change that. He said not really. When I pressed for an explanation, he told me she thought I had an \"obnoxious sense of humor\". Well alright.\n\nFast forward a few weeks, A and X are planning on moving and I wanted to do something with A before he left. I kept trying to organize a get-together so I could say good bye but he kept cancelling. I at first thought he was just busy with moving, but it turns out he was just going to events with X. All fine. He offered another date for us to get together and I said sure, fine. He said sorry if me cancelling is a problem and I said \"nah it's fine to change plans just try to be sure before you cement a date haha\". And to this he reacted very aggressively, telling me to fuck off, that he never got on my ass when I cancelled, etc.\n\nI didn't really know how to respond as I tend to shut down when faced with aggression, so I just didn't respond. A few days later after no contact, I did apologize. I said I was sorry if I was short with him, and that I understood the moving process was hectic. He ignored me. After three days of no response and messages left on read I was feeling pretty goddamn shitty, between learning his gf hates me and him being so cold to me, my anxiety got the best of me and I unfriended both of them. They were moving across the country anyway and I figured neither of them wanted to talk to me.\n\nFast forward about a month, I was supposed to go to a Valentine's Day party hosted by a mutual friend of us, geared towards singles and friends who needed company on that day. I live in a very conservative area and my dating life is pretty dry, so I was really happy to get invited back to the event. \n\nAfter discussing with the group different supplies I planned to bring to the party, out of the blue A messages me, telling me both he and X feel weird about me going since they introduced me to the group, and asked me not to come. He also added that his gf was recently diagnosed with a fairly serious illness.\n\nPanic set in and I immediately responded that fine, I wouldn't go, and that I was very sorry to hear about X's condition. I messaged the friend group that I wouldn't be able to attend this year after all. It came as very sudden change which prompted the party host(Q) to message me asking what's up. I told her that me and A were fighting and since he planned on going I didn't want to cause trouble(I didn't mention X was sick as I felt it was not my place). That's when I learned that A had actually blocked Q some time ago and Q basically told me fuck them, and to come anyway. \n\nI messaged A back saying sorry, I'm going, to which he replied that I was a selfish POS and blocked me. In the end, I didn't go. I still feel shitty and feel like I could have handled everything better,  could have been more sensitive to the gf, and lost a really great friend in the process. So AITA here?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yhafvohYZiuUJjNSNhr3WN5JnbdAYzXo", "post_id": "b2lcaa", "action": {"description": "not giving up my table and wanting to eat alone", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not giving up my table and wanting to eat alone?", "text": "I am traveling for business in NOLA and on my last day of business, I went to the original Cafe Du Monde. There were about 50 people waiting in line at 9:45 on Monday morning, but I was able to get seated at the small table (smaller than 2'x2') with 4 seats in about 20 minutes - a rather short wait. On a side note, there's a much shorter separate line for \"to-go\" line. I have never been here before so after I got seated, I realized it's cash only. I tell the waiter I'm going across the street to pull money out while leaving my backpack and carry-on at the table. I come back within 5 minutes and a couple next to me tell me they had to ward off people trying to take my table/belongings because they thought I had left it behind. I told the couple thanks so much for looking out for my table/belongings and ordered my beignet and chicory coffee.  \n  \nA few minutes after my order arrives, two elderly women come by and asks if they can sit at my table. I told them \"no, there will be another table that opens up. I'd like to sit alone.\" They responded, \"no, we're going to sit here because there's a lot of people and it's busy.\" I don't know or believe if they waited in the \"table\" line because the only way to get a table that I noticed is to be seated by a waiter - my guess is they came from the quicker to-go line and found my table with 3 empty seats. After I tell the older women no again, they begin to pull chairs to sit, but the couple next to me quickly grab their stuff and say they're leaving while offering their table. The guy tells me in a snarky tone, \"I hope you enjoy your trip.\" \"I sure will,\" I responded. The older women were then joined by two other older women who asked if they could share the table, and the original two older women bad mouthed me about how rude and mean I am. I ignored it, pulled my laptop to take up the whole table, enjoyed my breakfast, and left within 20 minutes.  \n  \nI waited in the longer line and want to enjoy my breakfast alone. I didn't want to be sitting at a table stuck listening to their conversation or socialize out of politeness. AITA for refusing to share my table?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8cfXBlDWIURTD4dc5ASI3V0CtInEZOrY", "post_id": "aomkbs", "action": {"description": "quitting a non-profit over ethical questions", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for quitting a non-profit over ethical questions", "text": "Basically, I started doing non profit work and the leader of the group did some things I questioned. Her phone was stolen while we were out one day, and the whole team went to the house where it was, and she ended up actually entering the person's home while their 5-6 kids were all over the place. At this point we were well aware he was a more serious criminal.  \n\n\nI said I did not feel comfortable with the way we handled that incident, and she understood.  \n\n\nA few days ago she took some photos of sleeping homeless people and posted them on facebook, without visible faces. I said this bothered me, and she launched a series of personal attacks unrelated to the question of this action. Her only relevant reply is that there are no faces unless they agreed, and she admitted to not getting those other sleeping people's consent. I think this is a downright ethics violation, and I don't debate questions of ethics.  \n\n\nShould I have stayed? I felt like even if this was ethical it was an unfair way to treat vulnerable people, to say nothing of what might have happened to her if they woke up to a lady taking their picture on the street.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sItNaHTqBs0UdJuak3UAXB6Unu9skq9Y", "post_id": "a7djlc", "action": {"description": "thinking there may have been a small possibility my UTI was a STD", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking there may have been a small possibility my UTI was a STD?", "text": "So this has really been fucking me up mentally the last few days and I just wanted to know what reddit thinks. \n\n​\n\nBasically to preface this, I was seeing a girl but we weren't completely tied down because she had just been through some really scary medical situation and wanted to hold off till February (its hard to explain why February unless i go into what exactly the medical issues were) before possibly making a commitment. Now I was completely ok with this and I absolutely loved every bit of her company that I could get. I wasn't really actively trying to see/hookup with anyone else but I was aware that she had some goals and things she wanted to do before being monogamous which for her is a huge deal to hear because she hasn't really been the monogamous type in the past. Yes I know this is an odd situation, and would need a lot more explanation to understand it more, but everything was talked about openly and communicated.\n\n​\n\nSo we had hooked up a couple times, unprotected, but she is very consistent about getting STD check ups about every 3 months. Other than her I have only been with 1 other person in the last year (this girl being like 4 months ago) and that was protected. \n\n​\n\nAfter our last hookup about a month ago, she explained one day after going to the store that she picked up some condoms because she actually wanted to make sure she was keeping me safe with all the unprotected sex she had been having previously. As weird as that sounds, I thought it was very endearing that she would do that because we both dislike condoms, but she went out of her way to do that. But a couple weeks later I started feeling a little uncomfortable itch feeling down their in my junk. Now I figured this was a UTI because I've had a couple myself in the past because of my own medical issues related to my junk since I was young. However, with what she said previously about getting the condoms, I won't lie I got a little nervous. Not even because I may have gotten an STD, but more because with her medical issues that she was/is dealing with, her immune system is in pretty rough condition and I was hoping that someone she was with had not passed something on to her in between checks even though she's pretty selective with who she sleeps with.\n\n​\n\nI went to the doctor after about 4 or 5 days of the feeling not dissipating, and actually the day I went to the doctor, we called and talked and I mentioned that I had gone to the doctor cause i felt like I had a UTI. I also mentioned that I was getting some routine blood work but that I wonder if they would check if it could have been an STD and she said probably since they took a urinalysis so they could at least check that out even though it wasn't a direct STD screening. \\*\\*Now this is where shit went all wrong.\\*\\*\n\n​\n\nI hadn't gotten word about any of the tests for over a week, but she sent me a text saying \"So you never told me what was going on with your junk especially since you brought STD into the equation\" and I told her that I was just waiting still for the tests back so I could tell her. So she starts texting me that it's pretty fucked up I didn't tell her that I was having unprotected sex with anyone without telling her, but I told her I havn't, just her, and even the girl I had sex with before her was protected. However she insisted that even thinking that I may have had something even for a second and didn't tell her was really fucked up. I tried telling her I did tell her when we talked a week prior that I thought it was more than likely just a UTI (Which it was btw) and very unlikely it was an STD, and that I had brought it up because I just wanted it to be known that I had said something incase it was so I could let her know right away, but she just started shutting down on me super hard.\n\n​\n\nAll of this was done over text, and I had asked numerous times if we could please talk about this over the phone because I don't do well with important conversations like this over text and end up just writing walls of text, but she never would let me. \n\n​\n\nThe texts just ended up turning into me trying to tell her that I wasn't trying to scare her with this, wasn't trying to hide anything from her, and that I was just trying to communicate with her about what was going on, letting her know incase it was worst case scenario. However she would just keep telling me I was missing the point, that the fact she has/had to worry about an STD or anything is a huge deal breaker even if it was a false alarm and that the alarm for an STD should have never been rung in the first place. \n\n​\n\nAnd that's one of the biggest things that's been fucking me up. I really want to know the point that I was missing, but I could never get her to talk to me on the phone or in person so that we could talk it out. I feel like such an asshole for bringing up that it might have been an STD even though I even thought it was super unlikely, but with her immune system complications, I was worried and just wanted to make sure. But now the person I was super comfortable, could talk about literally everything with, and felt like I could really be myself around wants nothing to do with me and i'm absolutely fucking \\*\\*wrecked\\*\\* right now. So am I the asshole..?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DVo3HxoOAN6RUuNAgM4R8enfSLWXGF6z", "post_id": "b037ag", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to move out", "text": "Hi,\n\nI am 17 and living with my mother, grandmother and sister. Last September, my sister broke into my bedroom and stole over $3,000 worth of electronics. My mother did nothing about it, not even make her pay me back (or say sorry and my other sister who lives in North Carolina asked if I wanted to come move down there with her and I asked my mother and she wasn't so happy. So, am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AGJcXiEKww6YgOqr2NM2YhJLuKwMkzun", "post_id": "akl8gz", "action": {"description": "never wanting to be cuddly with my fiance", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for never wanting to be cuddly with my fiance?", "text": "Quick disclaimer: my fiance is the love of my life.  I feel lucky to have met the man, he is a sweetheart and a gentleman and he makes me very happy.\n\nThat being said, he is FAR more cuddly/physically affectionate than I am.  He is always wanting to hug and kiss, and I'm starting to feel like an asshole for not being the same way.\n\nI am the opposite.  I feel almost claustraphobic when things get cuddly.\n\nHe always says he understands when I rebuff his cuddle advances but I can tell it hurts him.  Like he thinks it means I don't love him as much as he loves me.  So reddit, I gotta know, AMITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D1knAkWpYlCLR4KCuYyJ9jrGtwRs7IpD", "post_id": "auef7j", "action": {"description": "complimenting a woman by telling her that she has cute feet", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for complimenting a woman by telling her that she has cute feet?", "text": "The other day I complimented a woman whom was wearing sandals by telling her that she has cute feet. AITA for saying that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eMajBiFu7v5k6IFq5dpoIQY3cRqQq3dg", "post_id": "azgdzq", "action": {"description": "suggesting my service for a small fee to cousin", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA to suggest my service for a small fee to cousin", "text": "I am an intermediate level hobby photographer - I say hobby, because it's my passion and I am studying to become full time software developer, but I do work hard on my photography skills because I want to pursue my passion as a small side business in the future. I am confident in my skill level.\n\nMy cousin recently went and opened her own real estate company with her former colleague, I support them on social media (follow, as they are building a public base) and today they both uploaded their headshots, captioned with their experience and why your property is their passion.\n\nin short, the photos look terrible. I can't tell if they did it themselves or if they got pulled over the table by another photographer, but their portraits were cut out quite badly and pasted on a coffee coloured background, the lighting of their portraits also is very patchy and my cousins two front teeth appear to have a discoloration, upon zooming a bit closer it is because some pixels were corrupted and turned into a yellow block.\n\nThis sounds pretentious, but I know I can do better. I started portraits 2 month ago, free for other friends who needed headshots and I needed models for practice.\n\nwould I be the asshole to suggest her to redo their headshots? I really like my cousin and want to support her, but I believe those two images do her work a disservice and makes their social media look unprofessional. the other pictures on the account are stock photos, so their quality is quite good\nI would offer a small package, like 3 headshots which they select from all photos of the shoot and I edit them. So maybe around 40\u20ac per person plus my transit there\n\nmy mum said to not \"stick my nose in other peoples business\" but I want to be taken seriously as a photographer and also help my cousin", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PYBWtumT1Qm8lgEt6ZTbeoAxocDsmt14", "post_id": "b416f0", "action": null, "title": "AITA If a make my friend think that her girlfriend wants other guy", "text": "Hi,\n\nThis is the situation, my friend (25M) started dating this girl (21F), and he deeply loves her, but he is a bit insecure of her love to him. She recently started to upload pictures to her instagram where she shows herself much more happy and atracctive. So I think she might just be having a good time with my friend and that is reflected in the photos, but my friend keeps worring about it. I also told him that (when i where an asshole I think) something like that happened to me when I was dating a girl, I started feeling better and that reflected on my photos, and after that I accepted that in my mind, I was in fact trying to show me in a better shape for other girls, a couple weeks later we broke up. So I told him that maybe it is exactly what is going on (and she want another person in her life), but maybe not. Anyway he is feeling heartbroken.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QmiGLfBafkEvoKbLq23Dd8iUoRFchfpA", "post_id": "ahvzp1", "action": {"description": "snapping at my partner for arguing with a delivery guy", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for snapping at my partner for arguing with a delivery guy?", "text": "Kind of a massively stupid and petty situation really. My partner and I decided to order takeaway last night to be delivered. We ordered pretty late in the evening from a Chinese place, and I said that the time that I thought that the food would be pretty late (we live in the outskirts of a major city and Chinese food always arrives really late and generally cold here), he said \"it won't be, they've given themselves a generous timescale to get here so I'll be annoyed if it's later than that, it's their fault for not doing their jobs if it is\"...\n\n​\n\nLo and behold, the food is late. Lots of huffing and puffing from him \"you need to call them and complain, this is ridiculous, terrible service, blablabla\"... until 20 minutes later, it arrives. I was doing something upstairs at the time and could hear him speaking to the delivery guy... for much longer than it takes to grab a bag off someone... and the dog has started howling and wailing because he's starting to raise his voice so I come downstairs to hear him absolutely tearing a strip off this poor delivery guy \"This is absolutely disgusting, you can't treat paying customers like this, this food has been sat in your car and will give me and my wife food poisoning now, I paid (x) for delivery and you've let this down, I want a refund, blabla\", this poor guy was just stuttering apologies until he just handed him the bag and high-tailed it. My partner then picks up the phone, rings the restaurant and starts demanding a refund (they don't give him it). I was *mortified.* I'm really not a confrontational person, but I've worked in minimum wage customer service jobs and have been made to cry by people using that type of behaviour and my blood just boiled. I snapped (which I regretted instantly, I am not good at arguing) and said \"That was really embarrassing, you didn't need to take it out on the guy delivering it, you knew that it would be late\", he turns to me and says \"You always take other people's sides, now it's the Chinese guy, I have a right to complain as it's his fault. My clients will complain if they receive anything less than 100% service so stop defending other people.\"... he's a the director of a big firm, not exactly the same!! To top it off, as predicted, the food is cold, I warm mine up and offer to do the same to his which he declines, saying he'll eat his \"overpriced, disgusting cold slop\" which he does while complaining continuously. I was actually quite upset and a bit teary at this stage, we'd had a lovely day most of which had been about buying his birthday presents(!!) and it really just ruined it for me so I ate my food and said that I would go to bed. He told me I was overreacting, being childish and unsupportive. I went to bed because I didn't want to argue. Now he's not really talking to me apart from to ask me to make drinks, bring items, etc...\n\n​\n\nReddit, AITA for getting upset over a Chinese takeaway? I think we'll get Greek next time...\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DDh3aPQrPEKNfLgYth364GvWvopho0LZ", "post_id": "a47k8c", "action": {"description": "taking back my weed from my mother", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for taking back my weed from my mother?", "text": "I got my first paycheck from my part time job and naturally i spent half of it on weed ($80).\n\nI got a co-worker to deliver it to my home where my mom lives while I worked a particularly long shift. I paid for 6 grams but when my mom gave me the bag I weighed it and it came out to 4.75 grams. She told me she took \"a pinch\"\n\nI told her to give it back and she passive aggresivly shoves it in my hand.\n\nShe argues that because she always gifts me some of her stash when I ask, that taking a little would be fair, and that she is my mother.\n\nI argue that she makes more than me anyway, she had the right to refuse me when i ask, and that she never asked me first.\n\nSo, fellow redditors, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sA4U3VToUtKR23GSpnOrOyHJcfZWFfu9", "post_id": "aca8pz", "action": {"description": "wanting to drop the godparenthood of my husband's youngest nephew", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA (or are we the a*) for wanting to drop the godparenthood of my husband\u2019s youngest nephew?", "text": "Shortly before Christmas my husband reset an old iPad that my mother-in-law wanted to give to her youngest grandson - also my husband\u2019s second godson - for St.Nicolaus day. Something normal to do, if you give a used device to somebody else, especially a kid, isn\u2019t it? So after he finished that, I wrapped it up nicely, added some chocolate and sent it to my brother-in-law\u2019s place by mail, as we live in opposite sides of the country.\n\nOn the night before Nicolaus day my brother-in-law calls my husband while we were driving home from evening grocery shopping. (So I was able to listen to the whole conversation as the car took the call.) My brother-in-law yells at my husband for resetting the device. \u2018All the games for the boy are gone! The boy wants to play right away!\u2019 My husband asks why he is not just downloading the games again from the play store? \u2018It\u2019s not working! Fix the problem NOW!\u2019 But we\u2019re driving. My husband tells his brother he can\u2019t do anything right now. He should try to download the games another time.\n\nA bit later that night - we were just having dinner - my brother-in-law calls again and my husband didn\u2019t pick up the phone as he wanted to have dinner in piece after a long day at work. That lead my brother-in-law to leave a very rude, aggressive voice message, telling my husband that he ruines his son\u2019s life. And that he would send the iPad back to us on our expenses if my husband didn\u2019t fix the problem at once. Later that night my husband writes him a message. Just a short research online - turns out that the play store was a bit busy and slow that night. He told him that and that he is tired of just hearing complaints about how he acts as godparent. That he is thinking to just let that rest, because apparently he can\u2019t do anything right. So Christmas won\u2019t be any presents from us.\n\nA few months before that iPad incident, we had sent the boy a birthday card with money which had got lost or stolen in the mail. We then transferred the money to their bank account a day late. So we\u2019re really horrible people! Previous presents we chose were not the right ones. Either the wrong toy (lego instead of playmobil) or too small, I guess, because \u2018the boy wants to save up some money to get something good. So just send cash.\u2019 We also refused to travel all the way through Germany to attend the boys first school day celebration. We really didn\u2019t feel like a stressful two days trip for hundreds of dollars right before my work started again for a lunch and a picture. We both have demanding jobs. Instead we bought all the school books the boy needed. But we always hear about us not being there for the first school day. (BTW: My brother-in-law and his second wife didn\u2019t come to our wedding because of his work. They never visited us at our house. And if they ever come to my in-laws\u2019 house, it\u2019s because they payed the trip for them). And I received some very rude messages from that boys mother blaming me for ruining the boy\u2019s first school day.\n\nSo the day after Christmas my husband gets this text message from his sister-in-law. She tells him that we\u2019re pathetic to take out the argument with his brother on the boy. That he is mean to not sent him a Christmas present. She also demanded from my husband to \u2018call the boy and tell him in person why he doesn\u2019t have a godfather anymore\u2019 - which my husband didn\u2019t do. He is really tired of his brother and his crazy (ex)wives.\n\nBut seriously: Are we mean for ending that drama? Is there a way to keep contact with a 7 year old child without having to deal with his crazy parents? I honestly don\u2019t see a way to separate the relationship of my husband with his youngest nephew from that with his brother. Apart from that my mother-in-law just told us on Christmas that the other godmother of the boy already broke off contact with them a while ago as they got into a fight with her too.\n\nNow I\u2019m a bit worried because the 70th birthday of my father-in-law is coming up next month. And probably my brother-in-law will also be there. He has a bad temper - obviously. And he started yelling at his grandmother\u2019s funeral a few years ago when his ex-wife showed up to pick up his two older sons. And being pregnant now I really don\u2019t feel like being in a crazy situation like that. My family members never lose their temper in public. So what\u2019s your advice? Sorry about the long story and thanks if you read till the end.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Lhg1bPlOIv3PK48AqCIr4CSApasXqWwm", "post_id": "aa5j38", "action": {"description": "not wanting to work part time whilst I'm at university", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to work part time whilst I'm at university?", "text": "I had a heated debate with some family members last night about myself looking for part time work during my studies. Both of these have worked since they left school, have been tax payers, and are nose to the grind stone type of people since they started working (also neither of them went to college and come from skill labour / property admin jobs). I'm currently a college/university student who due a scholarship and student finance (based on my own financial situation), I don't have to work to support my studies.   \n   \n   \nA bit of info to paint a picture of what kind of student I am. I've had a summer internship every year since Year 1 of my degree, I've been active in 2-3 extracurricular clubs (1 very relevant to my field of study), and after this next academic year I'll be starting a 1 year placement with a major company in my field. So not a slacker by any means. I also worked full time for a few years before going to university, and worked part time during my pre-university course (1 year long).   \n   \n \n\nThe subject of part time employment came up last night and I mentioned I don't need to get one as I am financially stable currently and can last until I start my placement. Their arguments were that I have lived too long a life of leisure (their words), I need to work and save money, people in life don't get governments grants paid into their banks every year they have to work for it, I'm avoiding paid work (even though all the internships I've had and will be doing are entirely my choice to undertake).  I should show a good work ethic by getting a part time job and putting it on my CV will show I'm proactive. \n\n \n\n \n\nMy argument was that I'd rather take the extra time I have to not work and put it towards other activities and relaxing before I start my full career, I don't need the money, the trade-off between doing 1-2 shifts a week and not having the money leads me to choose not to work. There is no room on my CV for a part time job, employers in my field don't care how many pints I've poured or tables waited on the weekend, they care about my technical knowledge and experience relevant to the role (which I can show via my internships and extracurriculars). I know this is true because I have been for 2-3 interviews already, 1 of which I got offered my upcoming placement, and not once did they ask about my previous work history. It was all technical knowledge about my field, and my knowledge of the company. \n\n \n\n \n\nI think they are annoyed because I can get by without working on grants/loans, and they see themselves as honest hardworking people who are funding my \"leisure time\". Even though in a few months I will be starting a 1 year placement with a massive company who make a major impact on their industry. I do feel guilty however, as I have friends and a partner who have to work part time to support themselves, and I know how stressful that can be. Although, I don't think I should be made to feel guilty and like I'm not being a productive person because I'm not putting myself through menial labour 8-16 hours a week when I don't have to. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gdDkJWEeQ0bCbf0UiiFouDLeEq9tPDpD", "post_id": "amtu6l", "action": {"description": "wanting a wedding even though I have a child", "pronormative_score": 69, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting a wedding even though I have a child?", "text": "My partner and I had our daughter earlier than we'd planned. We'd only been together for about a year, so we held off on getting married because we didn't want to get married just because we had a kid.\n\nShe's 5 now and my partner and I are ready to get married. We are putting money away and saving up for a wedding, but both our parents say we're being selfish to spend this money on ourselves when we could just elope and spend the money on our daughter.\n\nWe are not hurting financially by any means; in fact, we both work in a field with healthy salaries, job security, health insurance, and a massive discount for our daughter if she eventually decides to go to college. We live a modest lifestyle but our daughter never goes without and we have savings and such. We're saving up using a separate fund so we don't touch our emergency funds.\n\nThat said, I do understand that we could use this money on our daughter to take her on a trip or something, but my partner and I have both envisioned ourselves having a traditional wedding and it's something we both want. Are we assholes for spending this money on ourselves instead of our daughter?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 63, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 69, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zcd6WEM7AVGE0NJZvRkJkHQUdo5lPuul", "post_id": "ai9d98", "action": {"description": "proposing to my girlfriend in a way she would hate", "pronormative_score": 49, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA for proposing to my girlfriend in a way she would hate?", "text": "Standard I'm on mobile so apologies for formatting. Tl;dr at the bottom in case I end up waffling on.\n\nI (22M) am planning on proposing to my girlfriend (23F) by this time next year. \n\nSo backstory, my girlfriend (L for reference)is obsessed with weddings. She has an obsession with watching wedding tv shows (especially ones focussed on the dress) and loves pricing up hypothetical weddings. All of this I'm completely fine with as I know I want to marry this girl and I think the world of her and marriage at this stage would have been a natural thought process regardless.\n\nThe reason that is all relevant is because she basically has an entire wedding planned out for if/when she gets married. I myself have no preconceptions about what I want for the wedding as long as the food is nice and there's at least one or two good beers on tap so I've said to her if/when we get married, she can basically plan it all. (This is not me burdening her with an incredibly stressful job, she beamed ear to ear when this suggestion was made, if she does want my help and input I will happily help).\n\nAlso she is a shopaholic. She shops at every opportunity she gets and it is her favourite way of passing time. \n\nIn discussion about weddings etc she tells me she has said her dream would be to shop for her own engagement ring. I myself want it to be a surprise when I propose and pick out the perfect ring for her to show her how well I know her and for it to be a surprise.\n\nNow, she can be fussy when it comes to jewellery. She is always grateful when it is bought for her and wears it when the person who bought it for her is around, but you can tell when she actually likes something or not as long as you aren't the person who bought it for her. Noticeably, she won't wear it unless that person is around. Hence why she has always wanted a watch but has never bought one due to how picky she is.\n\nRecently, when shopping I have noticed if I go into a shop to look at watches for myself I have noticed that she will get bored and look at rings so I have started playing a game of 'guess my favourite watch' as she will return with 'guess my favourite ring'. Because of this I have a list on my phone of every ring she has pointed out as her favourite and because of this I feel I could find a perfect ring. \n\nBasically I want to surprise her when I propose to her and sweep her off her feet by doing what she deems impossible and give her the perfect ring to go alongside what will hopefully be a perfect day for her. So WIBTA for risking messing it all up by doing something she explicitly said is the opposite of what she wants?\n\n\nTl;dr: my girlfriend has always dreamed of shopping for her own engagement ring but i want to surprise her with a well thought out perfect ring.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 35, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 49, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t1pTyBNLD1OXMvtdD9TBQ187R4nVYGsY", "post_id": "az69b3", "action": {"description": "not tipping 50", "pronormative_score": 112, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not tipping 50%?", "text": "I was out at a bar last night. I ordered two drinks and my total came up to $13. I asked for my check and gave the bartender $20 dollar bill to pay my tab. The bartender thanked me and walked away. She went to the other side of the bar and never came back with my change. I had to flag her down to ask for my change. She got upset and was like \u201cWow you really want the $7 back? Wow!\u201d \n\nI was planning on tipping her, just not $7.  The person I was with said I just should have let it go and let her keep the change. I wasn\u2019t rude, I just asked for my change in case she forgot. The bar was pretty empty so maybe it was a slow night for her. \n\nAITA for not giving her a $7 dollar tip on a $13 dollar tab? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 110, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 112, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tArrt8bCmDdt6sku8yiRtn1zzCxj6Uuc", "post_id": "ba3fun", "action": {"description": "being frustrated at my bf for not taking the trash out", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being frustrated at my BF for not taking the trash out?", "text": "Background: I'm a stay-at-home girlfriend because of my disability. I absolutely hate it and wish I could work, but nonetheless I stay home and do the housework. \n\nSo, I do the cooking, vacuuming, dishes, toilets, other cleanings, the shopping, and make sure the bills are paid on time. The only \"chore\" I ask of my boyfriend is the trash because when it builds up it deterriates my mental health and makes it hard to do the other things I do.\n\nWhat gets me is that he said he would do it, but then doesn't. I even left for a week once and NONE of the chores he said he would do was done. Its not the trash I'm upset about, its the fact I feel lied to.\n\nIt's been 4 days since he said he would take out the trash, and I asked him nicely for the 4 days. I finally had enough and sent him this text:\n\n\"Why did you lie to me about the trash? For 4 days you said you would do it. Its the only \"chore\" I ask of you. It feels like you brushed me off and slapped me in the face while at it.\n\n4 days. I bet if I leave for even a week nothing would be done again.\"\n\nTL;DR Am I the asshole for feeling betrayed and lied to for asking my boyfriend to take the trash out, his only chore, and he ignored me about it for 4 days?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9lJhp0D3Iwem8Va3R9L85nZnNELms9YG", "post_id": "alz2al", "action": {"description": "going to sleep when I am talking to a friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to sleep when I am talking to a friend?", "text": "I don't really know how to start this, but I started this account to assess this issue. Basically, I have a friend (T) who I talk to often, but recently she's kept me up later than I am supposed to. T and I are childhood and family friends that go way back. I've known her almost my entire life, but recently our relationship has become less and less healthy. We talk every day and if I don't talk to her, she will get mad. Our talks used to be more dispersed and healthy, but the past few years she will call me toxic or get angry at me for not replying to her in a day, or if I'm actively talking to her that day, a few minutes. Because of this, I have been staying up much later than my body needs.\n\nI have sleeping problems, but I don't want to label it as anything serious without a medical expert. Basically, I can't fall asleep before four or so hours pass, meaning if I go to bed at around 1, I go to sleep at around 5. Again, that's not exact because there are times where I can fall asleep in maybe an hour or two. As a student who actively wakes up at around 6 in the morning, this isn't healthy for me at all. I used to take this sketchy form of melatonin to help me sleep, but it often affected my learning and overall mood so I stopped taking it. \n\nT knows I have problems with sleeping and has known for a while, but she chooses to ignore them. I honestly don't remember when this started but I know it was a while ago. When I talk to her, I'm not allowed to stop talking to her. If I tell her I have to do something, she'll give me a passive aggressive response or go on a rant how I'm always leaving. I experience really bad anxiety when it comes to people I love being mad at me, so usually I submit to what she says and apologize.   \nDuring the summer, I had an awful sleep schedule and pulled all-nighters and all that good shit while I could. Again, sleeping never comes easy for me so it wasn't really something I worried about. It was fun. However, because I stayed up so late, I was often staying up later than her. Either that, or she will end up falling asleep. I do care about her, so often I would tell her to go to sleep because I knew at the time she couldn't stay up late. This often resulted in her yelling at me for trying to get rid of her. All my attempts usually ended up in the same place. \n\nOnce school started again and I realized I wouldn't be able to get away with going to sleep late, I started to do things that might help me sleep better. First, I started taking the sketchy melatonin pills, then I started to put my phone across the room so I'm not tempted by it. I know that once I go to sleep, it'll be hard to wake up in the morning. I know I suck at waking up early. T, however, started to stay up later, resulting in her getting angry at me every night I tell her I have to go. The nights when I actually took melatonin, I physically couldn't stay up past 12 or so, but she didn't like that I would tell her I had to leave at around 10. I hated leaving her on read, and any time I would, she would assume I'm tired of her and that if I was, I should just tell her. Once I stopped taking melatonin, I felt like she took advantage of my sleeping patterns. She would guilt trip me into staying up later or get mad at me when I tried to reexplain why I needed to go to bed earlier. Because I'm often busy with school and other things, I can't talk to her until maybe after 7 pm on weekdays. Only about a week ago I reinstated that I am going to go to bed at around midnight (though I often run through the whole 'thirty more minutes' sort of thing), and she kind of complied to it. She has accepted it a little bit more than she used to, but she still calls me heartless and rude when I can't reply. I honestly feel really bad about the whole situation because I've talked to friends and family about this, and they tell me to leave her. I do love her and cherish her as a friend, and I know she does too, even though she hates showing affection or any love towards me. This entire thing has been weighing me down for months now, and there's a bigger story with everything that happened. But I want to know, am I the asshole for going to sleep while we're still talking, especially when I don't get to talk to her during the day much?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yCyP21JjU4IACiqpP6wj3ITRNjKEtYuy", "post_id": "b2y2d5", "action": {"description": "saying how I really feel about my friends friend? now my best friend won't talk to me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for saying how I really feel about my friends friend? Now my best friend won\u2019t talk to me", "text": "Me (27f) and my best friend \u201cLucy\u201d (27f) have been friends since middle school. Literally went through puberty, life changes, everything together. We are complete opposites (I\u2019m a minority, she\u2019s not. we have complete different taste in music movies men every possible thing) but still through everything we manage to have so much in common. She has this other friend who she\u2019s also been really close with since middle school, let\u2019s call her Jane. Her and Jane have more generic things in common (race, similar family issues). Me and Jane were never close but since we all went to the same schools I\u2019ve known her in passing, and she\u2019s nice, I\u2019ve had no issues with her. When we were all around 19 we were all drinking, partying and living the yolo lifestyle. Jane ended up getting dependent on alcohol, and Lucy let Jane stay at her family\u2019s house , Jane had sex with Lucy\u2019s brother and denies it, has stolen from her, is a habitual liar, and much more but I guess since they\u2019ve been friends for so long she can\u2019t cut her loose (she\u2019s even said something along those lines).Jane recently got back from rehab again, and Lucy told me that she hates janes current boyfriend. I ask her \u201cis it because he\u2019s scummy ?\u201d She says yes. I say \u201cwell Jane is kind of scummy too but that\u2019s my personal opinion\u201d .... I\u2019m just going off of everything I know about her and what Lucy has told me. She says I was rude and what I said was unjustified. I apologized, but also I feel like I wasn\u2019t that wrong ? Maybe I\u2019m being bias and for sure their relationship isn\u2019t my business, but now she won\u2019t talk to me. And even though I am sorry and said I was, I\u2019m not sorry for what I said, I\u2019m sorry she was offended. AITA for what I said ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wK6Can4A1d3jyQmmyQOH6u5jjckukMwZ", "post_id": "art5ez", "action": {"description": "ghosting a friend who was fairly nice to me but tried to steal my photography", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a friend who was fairly nice to me but tried to steal my photography?", "text": "I take photographs as a hobby (nothing serious I just think It's fun and I have fun editing photos) and I had a friend maybe half a year ago who was pretty nice most of the time and we had a lot of fun playing video games and talking together. He was taking a digital photography class and asked if I could help him with it to which I replied sure thinking he meant judging photos or help with editing or whatever but instead he asked me to send him my photos to turn in as his.\n\nI immediately got pissed and said some really really mean things to him and totally blew up on him, and I said something like \"you're not gonna steal my art\" to which he replied \"I'll steal whatever I want\" to which I blocked and completely ghosted him.\n\nmaybe 5 months after that he hit me up again and I asked what he wanted to which he replied something like \"I need more lols\" or something unapologetic like that. I blocked him again and now thinking back on this, I feel as though I was too harsh on him and shouldn't have blocked him, and I probably got too offended and he probably didn't realize he really made me feel. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K4sMiRyLBGzAmtocKskG3jHETnR4y0T0", "post_id": "aj9kza", "action": {"description": "suggesting that child abuse is not the correct response to a kid running into traffic", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for suggesting that child abuse is not the correct response to a kid running into traffic?", "text": "https://www.reddit.com/r/KidsAreFuckingStupid/comments/aj4nk0/as_a_parent_i_would_have_had_a_heart_attack_and\n\nIn the comments of this post, I replied to several people seemingly advocating beatings for the little girl, suggesting that the mother is more at fault. See my comment history for my comments and the scores, as well as the responses. I feel like I must be missing something big, or people just reflexively downvote when they see unpopular comments?\nI just never expected advocating against child abuse would net me my most downvoted comments I guess.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FDZjZ3V5LzLMpPeDtjiyGUjX9VSWx5RQ", "post_id": "ayzfpq", "action": {"description": "setting a limit to how much my mother in law can visit", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I set a limit to how much my mother in law can visit?", "text": "This is complicated.  We live in his mother\u2019s old house.  She gave it to us when she moved for work.  I was blown away by the gift, but i didn\u2019t know what I was getting into.  \n\nShe visits almost every weekend.  I\u2019m not exaggerating.  She just shows up and stays until Sunday.  I have two kids and she\u2019s an awesome grandmother to them so I understand her wanting to be around them.   But holy fuck is she getting on my nerves.  She always has some unasked for advice or some complaint about the way we are keeping the house.  It\u2019s driving me crazy.  \n\nI want to ask the husband to stop letting her come so often.  Maybe once a month, but no more every weekend.   She gave us a house though and I know it\u2019ll be a tough sell.  He\u2019s a mama\u2019s boy and likes having her here.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NBm0CRAEKYoHS3tI8AhQO1OaKi0PfCmn", "post_id": "a2615i", "action": {"description": "thinking my wife should defend me to her mother", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking my wife should defend me to her mother?", "text": "The MIL is a difficult one. Speaks Russian and English, lives in Australia. Had her to come visit at our place for a bit away from AUS. Generally I'm a very domestic guy, cooking, cleaning at lot. House is generally very tidy. MIL and wife were doing some cooking in the kitchen while I was lounging and using my phone. MIL is basically telling my wife that I'm a lazy good for nothing and I clearly look after myself (in Russian so I can't understand). Wife didn't consider telling her she's wrong and I do lots of things, but did inform me later what she was saying. I even cooked them an entire meal the night before. AITA for expecting my wife to stand up for her choice of partner? At least defend me? The MIL uses Russian to speak about me infront of me so I can't understand.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8jNBx2Bj5AGDlcoo8Vq9pafKxESHuRfV", "post_id": "b83j35", "action": {"description": "not returning my engagement ring", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for not returning my engagement ring?", "text": "My ex fianc\u00e9 and I got engaged July of last year.  It was such an amazing night, he surprised me by taking me to the exact spot we met and got on one knee.  It was straight out of a romance movie, I have never been happier in my life.  That happiness extended through out most of our engagement until January.  \n\nThat\u2019s when he said the words that everyone dreads hearing, we need to talk.  He said that he had actually been second guessing himself throughout our entire engagement and he thinks that we are making a mistake.  I was floored.  I had no idea he had been feeling this way while I was in soon to be wed bliss.  \n\nI tried to talk to him about wedding jitters and how it\u2019s normal to feel this way before a big commitment.  I told him that we were in love and there\u2019s no mistake in that.  His mind was set though, I\u2019m not sure who he\u2019s been talking to about this, but I really doubt he came to this conclusion on his own.  I hoped that if I gave him some time and space that he would come around and see the real mistake he was making.  So I moved back to my parent\u2019s.  \n\nI\u2019ve tried to keep in touch at least through texts and online. Sometimes he responded in short bursts, sometimes he would not respond at all. I\u2019ve given up hope at this point.  Then out of nowhere last weekend he reached out to me.  We talked a little and it was like part of me came back to life again.  I was so happy again, but only for minutes this time.  The real reason he was reaching out was because he wanted my engagement ring back.  It was like soaring up into the air only to slam back down to the ground. \n\nI stopped responding to him.  I honestly can\u2019t believe he would even ask.  It\u2019s like what we had meant nothing at all to him and now all he cares about it cashing out.  This is my ring.  He gave it to me and it obviously means a lot more sentimentally to me than to him.  It represents our relationship and even if it had a painful end, I don\u2019t want to part with it.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZmiGKAmbdIjzsRStNXtcUSmbaKKrUPId", "post_id": "aibybh", "action": {"description": "calling out my Younger brother", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Calling Out My Younger Brother", "text": "I have a younger brother who has been diagnosed with ADHD. He'll be going into High School next year and he still struggles to follow most social conventions. He doesn't wear deodorant, bathe, or change his clothes to the point where he looks physically dirty and you can still smell him after he has left. Additionally, my parents bought him a pair of nice noise canceling headphones for his IEP. Now he NEVER takes them off and is constantly watching commentary videos and refuses to engage with the people around him. When he does take them off to talk to people he's not polite. We were on vacation and my mom was trying to point out to him something pretty. He takes off his headphones looks at it excitedly, turns around and says \"Wow Mom, that's a whole lot of I don't care!\" Then goes back to watching videos. Another time we went mini golfing and he purposefully putt his ball into the water features and laughed at my dad while he watched him wade into the water to go get them over and over again. At school, he never turns anything in without my parents breathing down his neck comparing his completed homework to emails the teachers send them with a list of his assignments. His attitude and tantrums continue at school to the point where he's gotten multiple detentions, and got kicked out of the school band for his behavior (he got a detention for telling a girl \\[our neighbor\\] that her pet was going to die after she shared with the class that she got it over the weekend).\n\nI'm a perfectionist and I've always had high standards for myself and others. In my eyes, my little brother is out of control. My parents let him get away with everything, and he knows it (especially my mom). They've stopped disciplining him and my mom uses his learning disability as an excuse (he's medicated), and now he uses that as an excuse too. Whenever he misbehaves he tells her that he forgot to take his Focalin and she lets it slide. I know he's not popular and the other kids at school bully him (behind his back I think) because of the aforementioned. A girl in his grade told me that she feels bad for him, but also doesn't because he's \"mean\"(This seems to be the general consensus from people I've talked to). I get frustrated with him and often and short like telling him \"\\[his name\\], you need to take a shower!\", or making a snide comment when I notice he's been wearing the same outfit for a couple of days. I also tease him (i.e. saying nothing and mouthing words at him when he has his headphones on to confuse him). These AREN'T the only interactions we have, but admittedly we never had a great relationship so I don't know how to talk to him about this in a way where he wouldn't take it the wrong way. I've tried in the past to talk to him seriously about it and he became very offended and defensive (More so than he was with the teasing). I talk to my parents about it but they get annoyed with me complaining about him so much, and think I'm being too hard on him and all these things just come along with being a 14 year old boy. I worry about his mental health between me at home and the kids at school, but it also doesn't feel right to me to just let him keep going, and I just get so annoyed with him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "On5Ntkf7YGPGIO8kk2cHBBLTt83ASxz0", "post_id": "b31wfu", "action": {"description": "distancing myself from my best friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I distance myself from my best friend", "text": "Here is some background:\n\nI'm in the same class as my best friend and his ex-girlfriend.\n\n​\n\nMy best friend, let's call him John, was dating a good friend of mine (Eve) while I was getting closer to his best friend (Chloe). \n\nMe and Chloe got a lot closer but nothing conclusive came out of it.\n\nI told my best friend about it and told me to see about me and Chloe later.\n\n​\n\nOnly after a party with John, me and friends, Chloe admitted to having feelings for John, and he didn't hesitate to leave Eve for Chloe.\n\n​\n\nMoreover, after another evening, John cheated on Eve with Chloe, something I blame him for, knowing that Eve was very fragile...\n\n​\n\nAfter that story, I realized that I was doing a lot more for our friendship than John was doing... and that he was hiding a lot from me.\n\nIn addition, me and Eve got closer and formed a couple. (another story for later)\n\n​\n\nFinally, I have become very close friends with other people I see much more than my best friend.\n\nIn the last few months, I had to deprive myself of seeing them, to see John and Chloe.\n\n​\n\nFor the first time in a week I haven't talked to my best friend and, with Chloe, they seem to resent me for it.\n\n​\n\nAITA to distance myself from my best friend?\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0JFfXgms29XxuFAqUPAor0cRb06QKxxb", "post_id": "b1g3jp", "action": {"description": "letting my gfs dog be a deal breaker", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for letting my gfs dog be a deal breaker?", "text": "Hi. I'll try to give as much information as possible here, but it's a lot of backstory. I'll answer as many questions as possible in comments if applicable. Sorry for the long post.\n\nMy gf and I started dating back in August. I knew she had a dog and I was okay with that. In September we moved in together and...her dog wasn't with her. I asked her where it was, she said it was with her nephew.\n\nA long chain of events later, we end up moving in with her nephew briefly. And so I got to meet and interact with her dog...who turned out to be a major asshole. I was bitten four times (two of which broke skin) in that timespan by her 150lb mastiff/St bernard mix. If the dog had more interest in taking a finger or hand off, it easily could have.\nNot only is it snappy, it isn't well behaved. It constantly barks. It has to be quarantined in the bathroom every time someone comes to the door. I'm afraid to take it on walks, let alone interact with it at all. It has separation anxiety and makes a mess if left alone. It growls at me if I look at it funny and won't let me come near my gf. It has snapped at her nephew's kids before and has been a nuisance in general in everyone involved's lives. Except my gf. She's had it for a decade and the two of them get along just fine. (It tolerates other people to a very varying degree.) This dog means a LOT to her, and I know it does. \n\nHowever, we decided we wanted to get a truck and trailer combo and live out of it for a while, because rent here in Quebec is rediculous- and we wanted to go out and do something we never have before in either of our lives (we're in our mid 30s.) We were originally going to take the dog with us, but I lobbied against it. \nI think it's unfair to have two adults AND a massive dog living in a tiny trailer if all three parties don't get along perfectly well. And because we're in Canada, having it be an outdoor dog isn't really an option. Even if we were somewhere warm, I don't trust its temperament to not run off into the sunset or attempt to do something destructive. I'm not a big dude, but I'm not tiny- but even I can't, with utmost confidence, restrain such a huge dog if I needed to. Walks with it are more like the dog walks me type of deal. \n\nWe found a nice spot to stay at for the spring with our trailer and have both found jobs. GF is talking about getting her dog out here to live with us when it's warmer, but honestly I won't budge. The dog makes me uncomfortable to a huge degree.\nI told her that if she were to bring the dog here to where we are, that it'd be a deal breaker for me. And that would kill me. I just can't imagine spending my time in a small trailer with a dog that can't stand me, being on edge constantly. It's a huge (literally) responsibility that we aren't equipped to handle at this time in my opinion.\n\nAITA for letting this dog be a deal breaker for us? Am I being unreasonable?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PPeVvAk0gChNyUTpbvehdmSScf59QJf8", "post_id": "aeccl2", "action": {"description": "ignoring people who never try to reach out to me but still consider us to be friends", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring people who never try to reach out to me but still consider us to be friends?", "text": "Recently I've noticed that a lot of people I try to do things with don't ever message me unless I initiate conversation. This pisses me off to no end, especially because I used to be very close to these people and it feels very degrading to have to constantly reach out just to be ignored again. AITA for ignoring them purposely until they initiate conversation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4hvW8nUQlhMC0B8sMTOO5XTUgjZNdqFD", "post_id": "ag2dsr", "action": {"description": "going against my housemate's requests", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for going against my housemate's requests?", "text": "So for some context, my housemate and myself worked the same job over Christmas. It was only a seasonal thing but over this time I developed a friendship with our manager and we still talk despite the job being over. My housemate doesn't have too high of an opinion of our manager due to her seeming snappy over small things my housemate was or wasn't doing at a few points during the work period. So I understand the dislike. However, as none of this snapping was directed at me, I feel no reason to dislike her. \n\n​\n\nAnyway, fast forward to now, my manager and myself have planned to go out for drinks at some point and she asked me if she'd be able to crash at my place because it's far easier than her having to either get a taxi home (she lives in a different town) or have her partner come and collect her at like 2am. I said yes, thinking that it would be fine but asked my housemate to check that this would be okay anyway, we're all students and I wanted to check I wouldn't be bothering anyone with deadlines. My housemate told \"No. I do not like her\"  Even though she'd literally just be crashing in my bedroom and my housemate would likely have no interactions with her. \n\n​\n\nCompletely understand that no one wants to be woken up in the early hours of the morning by drunk people or whatever but to be told I can't have a guest crash at my house purely based on the fact that someone else doesn't like them seems kind of ridiculous. So, Would I be the asshole if I ignored the fact they said no and proceeded to let her crash at my place anyway?  \n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Xljq3941zfRY2Levza8w1SYlX8HpBo4l", "post_id": "aeiph9", "action": {"description": "not inviting my family to my wedding...but inviting my friend's family", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for not inviting my family to my wedding...but inviting my friend's family?", "text": "So here's the thing. I'm not getting married yet, and I'm not engaged, but my friend is getting married soon. We were talking and she asked me if I was inviting my extended family to my wedding. I told her no, and she seemed a bit shocked. I then went on to tell her that since her family is close to me, they were definitely coming. She found it kind of funny, but honestly seemed pretty concerned.\n\nTo give some context: I would absolutely invite my mother, and my grandparents. I wouldn't invite any of my 16 (8 by blood, the other 8 married in) aunts and uncles, any of their children, and not my even my sibling. My sibling hasn't made an effort to keep in contact with me since they moved to the other side of the country. My aunts and uncles tend to be attention seekers, and rude.\n\nMost importantly though, they also don't help my grandparents, who are dealing with a lot right now since my grandmother has dementia, and my grandfather had to retire to take care of her. I love my grandparents and stop by all the time to see them, and it breaks my heart that the have about 50 grandkids and great grand kids (ages range from almost 40 to 3), and none of them stop by or even call. I kind of blame their parents since they don't either, but I try to be understanding. \n\nI only have one aunt who I would even consider inviting, but I don't want to since she has a personality disorder and attention seeks all of the time.\n\nIt just wouldn't make sense to me to invite them since they've never made an effort to be a part of my life. On the other hand, my friends family invites me to family gatherings, takes care of me when they have the chance, and legitimately put in the effort to ask me how my life is going. I would definitely invite her extended family, who practically treat me like their child.\n\nBut then again, I see lots of other people who invite their family who they aren't close with, and I feel like a jerk. Like, I should just put up with it because I should at least give them the opportunity to be involved in my life. If they found out my friend's family came, they would probably be really hurt, especially my aunt. \n\n​\n\nTLDR; my family isn't close to me, but my friends family is. I kind of feel like I would just have to put up with it and invite them. WIBTA if I didn't?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wuf2bHi9ThA9oJPQq0HxJJWeH7Tmivsp", "post_id": "awyp9z", "action": {"description": "breaking a 7 year friendship over a guy", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking a 7 year friendship over a guy.", "text": "Long story short my toxic best friend of 7 years slept with and faked being pregnant 6 times to him. I'd been talking to him for 6+ months and me and him where kinda dating. idc about him in the end he fucked up as well. After I found out and told her don't talk to me she went around to my family and friends talking shit about me. Also on numerous occasions in public places made a scene by grabbing on to me trying to force me to talk to her or hug her. I know she fucked up but I feel bad over ending 7 years of friendship.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UpSo537lQkEkzEyqq6l6AXceymqzbS3Z", "post_id": "azzp5t", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my dad", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my dad?", "text": "Burner..\n\nI'm a college student that normally walks to school and anywhere else I need to go.  I can't drive due to a medical condition.  I have a mandatory event for school about a 20 minute drive from where I live.  I live with my parents in order to save money and they wanted this arrangement. \n\nI asked my dad to drive me and then pick me up and he agreed.  He's retired, and not doing much. The event starts at 830 and ends around noon.  The night before, he tells me that he decided to play golf the day of.  He can still drive me, but he said he has to drop me off about half an hour early so he can get to his golf course and be sitting around until the starts.  I'll also have to get myself home, which either means a very long walk using Google Map on my phone, or trying to find a nearby bus station and getting as close to home as I can.  Normally I would use Uber but I recently cancelled my CC because of fraudulent charges and the replacement hasn't arrived so I can't rideshare.  Dad knows this too.\n\nI'm a bit mad because my dad plays golf at least 3 times a week and can play whenever he wants.  I also told him about this weeks ago and he said he wasn't busy.  He told me that he had decided to play at the last minute and he told me I'd have to get myself home, so he clearly hadn't forgotten.  \n\nI appreciate what my parents do for me, especially b/c I can't drive, but I rarely impose on them and this is something I have to go to.  I get that my dad is retired and he worked hard his whole life so he could retire, but AITA for wanting him to not play golf this one time?  Is he TA for changing his plans at the last minute and drastically inconveniencing me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "26Inwtf5ryrBiY86nbaZRIhSPvFA7JLS", "post_id": "adqg2s", "action": {"description": "commenting YTA on any thread nowadays", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for commenting YTA on any thread nowadays?", "text": "Seriously I hardly see any constructive criticism, in the fear of being downtooted. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "vMsMwmCGATyfY8DkOo1F98OC0LRRdTbb", "post_id": "agufjj", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk in Spanish to non native speakers", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk in Spanish to non native speakers?", "text": "I started thinking about different scenarios in which strangers have asked me if I spoke Spanish and found that I'm okay with it when it's a native speaker but not if it's a non-native speaker. There is also a racial/ ethnic tell in these interactions as the non- native speakers have been white whereas the native speakers have a skin tone similar to mine (brown). \n\n​\n\nWith native speakers it's typically people who could be my parents and they like to talk about their family to me as they learn about me and where I am from.  Two non- native interactions have been as followed:\n\n​\n\n1. The man on the bus is asking the brown folk if they speak Spanish until someone says yes. I say no and observe him talk at another girl who said yes. He says he used to live in Mexico and had a girlfriend from China while the girl gives a polite smile and doesn't say much. \n2. The woman who asked me about God on campus. She was trying to learn more about me and asked me if I spoke Spanish. I said yes to be polite and she switched completely to Spanish talking about how she wants her children to speak Spanish and that she was going to go to Mexico to build houses with her family. \n\n​\n\nTo be clear, I am not fluent in Spanish and in all these scenarios I'm not comfortable participating with either kind of speaker. I don't have many native speaker friends to ask so I started wondering to myself why I was annoyed at the non native speakers the most. I should be more open to practicing my Spanish so I don't lose it and it's great people are learning new languages but something about a non-native speaker asking me if I speak Spanish annoys me so much. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Z4KPpMCywOFFAfmwIg8SQM557KexAo8n", "post_id": "b55qe9", "action": {"description": "not doing HW after I witnessed NZ shooting vid and was depressed", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for not doing HW after I witnessed NZ shooting vid and was depressed", "text": "So some context: Night of horrific shooting, I\u2019m doing homework and am about to start my social studies while I\u2019m on twitter and see the video.  It\u2019s horrific and I\u2019m depressed. I know I have HW do tomorrow but I honestly can\u2019t focus or study after seeing that. I know that my teacher will understand and I\u2019ll probably do it later. I go to school tomorrow, and my teacher gets mad at me. He gives me a 0. I\u2019m very upset but what can I do. I go home but then realize that even after that he went and told my parents that I had not done my homework. My parents are very angry at me and do not understand even after I explain. I\u2019m extremely mad because to begin with this wasn\u2019t even my fault, and I got a 0 and my parents got mad at me. I\u2019m in a shit mood and decide to email my teacher. This is the email I sent him: \n\nHonestly, I think what you did today was very messed up. \nPut yourself in my shoes. I don't know if you have seen the video but it is very depressing and horrific. Now imagine your 14 and watching this at night time while your parents are also asleep. You probably won't understand, but I can promise you if any other kid in the class had been in my situation, they also would not have been able to focus/ study. Ok so now you (should) understand how I'm not to blame. But here's what makes me upset and disappointed. Not only did I get a very bad grade on my test and homework, but I probably also have to remake the homework. So it's already bad enough. But then, of course, you had to tell my parents so they can also get mad at me and I get in more trouble for something that wasn't my fault, to begin with. I honestly don't know how I was supposed to handle this situation differently. I really don't know man. \n\nI\u2019m in a bad mood and write this out of anger, shock, disappointment, and sadness. Soon it is spring break and I go on vacation. I come back and go to school. He tells my parents that your son has sent me a very disrespectful email and he\u2019s in trouble. After I hear this I\u2019m actually shocked. Like how low do you have to get to do this to some poor student who hasn\u2019t done anything wrong and is going through a lot. Now my parents are mad at me and when I go to school tommorow I\u2019m gonna probably be in trouble. Idk what to do but AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JPWOjbTnOHNCV7gQ6X1WmcgUWuk0ByuF", "post_id": "aug5ts", "action": {"description": "asking my friend for my money back", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my friend for my money back?", "text": "So obviously this seems straight away like I shouldnt be the asshole but I'll explain the full situation. A good few months ago my friend unfortunately lost his job and therefore wasnt earning any money. Now he has a girlfriend and a kid and had already planned a trip away. So because he was short on money he asked if he could borrow the money for the trip and he would pay me back. Seems fine right?\n\n So he gets back and everything gets back to normal except I notice he never mentions the money. Now Im a very giving person to my friends. They have all given me more love and friendship through my hard times than anyone ever will so I feel I owe them my life so for this reason I never felt to ask for the money back.\n\nFast forward to the present and him and his girl have had a child together (previous child was from his girls past relationship) however he still hasnt gotten a job and I am going to Florida in June so I need money for that. Flights, Villa, Park tickets etc. So the other day I asked if he could get the money for me and I even said he can pay back in parts. Nothing was said.\n\nProblem is I feel bad because he has two kids that need caring for and I dont want to see them go without just to pay me back on the otherhand I do want the money. Any help?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KI6MDaH3zBAk1VfVv49MHP7u6oRI6rxf", "post_id": "ba9gfh", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA About asking to not discuss religion with friend", "text": "Ok, here me out, and yes I'm intentionally being a bit vague\n\nBackstory\n\nI am was raised Catholic and confirmed into the church (own choice). However in the last year and a half I have grown to really hate the church due to all the coverups and hypocrisy. I believe in God, but not in the church if that makes sense. I am currently attending a private religious school that is different than Catholicism. While I respect the religion, and others beliefs, there is a lot of hypocrisy as well. Obviously many pray a lot, and while that is great for them, I do not find it helpful to get me through a difficult time. I am resentful over religion and a big dislike of my church is how often I have been blasted for being bisexual and how I will end up in hell for it. It took be a long time to admit it to myself, and I honestly hate myself over it as it is, so I don't appreciate the judgement from others on top of it. \n\n​\n\nOne of the people here talks about religion a lot, and how she wants everyone to see God, and go to Him and how I should pray when times are tough, but is also homophobic. She has no idea of my orientation, nor the fact I am somewhat resentful of religion as a whole. While I respect her religious beliefs, I am getting sick of being told to pray and turn to God because I don't find it comforting. I've been on the fence about telling her to not discuss religion with me, but she does know I believe in God, just doesn't know that I'm not religious. WIBTA to ask her to not discuss religion with me? I feel like if I ask her not to I am squashing a large part of her personality and feel awful for doing that. But on the flipside I don't like hearing about it. I am just torn if it is worth creating tension for the next year til graduation (and if I would be an asshole for squashing her personality) or just sucking it up and keeping my mouth shut. She's a very sensitive person as well, and I know she means the best when she tells me to pray which is why I am hesitant to say anything (and the fact I'll bring judgement)", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "T5IUUzUXpMSKwN2BYJMqnNat0MSOSyDw", "post_id": "aailul", "action": {"description": "pretending not knowing how to fix something for my in-laws so it doesnt become my responsibility next time", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for pretending not knowing how to fix something for my in-laws so it doesnt become my responsibility next time?", "text": "I am the first call for handy man stuff for my in laws. Their 40 year old son is capable but \"too busy\" to be bothered. I assembled furniture for them early on...now i am the first call for furniture stuff.  I installed a faucet...then I become  the one to fix anything plumbing related.  The list goes on and on.  Now, an outlet isnt working.  Of course, I can replace it in 15 minutes, but the time to go to home depot to buy the outlet, and make the time might be about 60 to 90 minutes. I shrugged and said I wasnt sure what the problem was.  Btw, I dont consider myself handy. I just follow instructions or youtube for troubleshooting. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "I6kJhvPKjpBRt3jlQoLxcjiiQPerWfFf", "post_id": "b1tqw1", "action": {"description": "wanting to copyright strike my friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to copyright strike my friend?", "text": " So back in 2018 I made an intro for one of my friends. So everything was good, but then he started to backstab me and betray me. He spread lies and false information about me, saying that I DDoS people and send illegal content, which is 100% bullshit. He even blocked me from commenting on his videos and correcting the info. He knows the information is false but he spreads it. I told him like 10 times that he's lying, but he doesn't listen. He didn't post videos for awhile and I made it clear he wasn't allowed to use my intro again because of what he did. I uploaded the intro on my channel before he used it so I could claim ownership of it.\n\n​\n\nYesterday he uploaded a video. It had the intro I made for him in it, and it was a \"try not to laugh vine compilation\". All of the videos in his video are 100% stolen. He didn't ask for permission, didn't even give credit. It's like 5 videos. So I said I was going to file a DMCA to YouTube. But then my other friends told me I was being a dick for wanting to take down his video. I didn't submit the DMCA yet but I'm still wondering if I should do it.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y6WrlqqpSL0yVXxlILjWbrtDCxPorbM0", "post_id": "b05f7z", "action": null, "title": "AITA gf pissed that I self pleasured.", "text": "So day started with me saying something inviting as I was in the mood for sex , we go out and have a nice day , when we get home I get the old I'm really tired , and then presumes to cuddle up to me and sleep , I know that nothings going to happen so I head to the shower to do the job my self , make a snack and watch some TV too before bed. Morning rolls around and she asks why I came to bed so late , I feel no need to lie so I say watched TV had some food and sorted my self in the shower , I'm now being ignored because if it was her and I didn't want sex she wouldn't masturbate because apparently that's disgusting.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 177, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 183, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XJGpN6zS2WniXQq805VIr7ZwibJKQ33t", "post_id": "b4z4ue", "action": {"description": "saying the word \"girl\" instead of \"woman\" in conversation", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for saying the word \u201cgirl\u201d instead of \u201cWoman\u201d in conversation?", "text": "This happened just last week.\n\nI was talking with my manager (I\u2019ll call her Steph) and another co-worker of ours (Let\u2019s call him Brian). Brian was telling us about some of the great pro-bono work he had recently accomplished in helping recent immigrant refugees assimilate and succeed in America, through various events he puts on at work.\n\nWhat I wanted to say next was- \u201cI know a girl who has done similar work- and would want to get involved.\u201d \n\nBut all I was able to get out was- \u201cI know a girl-\u201c because Steph interrupted me and says, \u201cWoman.\u201d \n\nIt took me a few seconds to even comprehend what she was saying. I expected her to say something else, and I had to repeatedly ask her to clarify why she was saying the word \u201cWoman,\u201d before she finally said \u201cYou said girl, and the correct term is Woman.\u201d \n\nTo get over the awkwardness, I just changed the term and moved on- however since this has happened I\u2019ve been really bothered about being forced to change my vocabulary. \n\nI didn\u2019t use \u201cgirl\u201d in a derogatory way, and if I was referencing a guy I wouldn\u2019t have used the word \u201cMan.\u201d It also signaled to Brian that I was in the wrong, when I don\u2019t feel as if I did anything wrong. I\u2019ve experienced conversations where the word \u201cwoman\u201d has had negative connotations in the past as well, so I feel as if I\u2019m just playing catch-up to pander for whoever I\u2019m speaking to by changing my word choice. \n\nBecause of everything above, I\u2019m not planning on changing my word choice in the future. Help me out reddit- AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S4wy6URQMGhnZUx9KIdTm8NnEhHzktwu", "post_id": "b34kn6", "action": {"description": "not forgiving my brother for attacking me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not forgiving my brother for attacking me", "text": "Just some background, during this time, I was struggling with a lot of issues such as my own personal mental health, school, and we were moving out of the area at the time as well as lived in a bed bug, mouse, and roach infested house. This isn't very important, but I feel it adds to my hatred.\n\nSo back in June, my older half brother of 32 years old (I was 17. 18 now) got really drunk because my almost 60 year old dad likes to party with him at our house. He doesn't live with us, but my dad loves him there. I never really liked him around, to be honest. Sometimes he's funny and I know he's my brother, but he's had a myriad of drunken blow ups where he would physically attack anyone who dares make him even somewhat angry. I knew for a fact something was going to go down that day because he was already coming after me a few points like getting in my face and stuff. I told my dad to get him out of there, but he refused. Well later that night, they started fucking around and knocked over the T.V. in the living room. I came out saying \"What the fuck happened? The fuck is wrong with you guys?\" Then he got angry and started insulting me and my girlfriend (who wasn't even there. I'm not sure why he started going on her), and I came back with some reply that I forgot what it was. He didn't like that. His reply was to throw me through my door and almost stomp on my face. I'm no weakling, but I honestly felt too scared and shocked to fight back. He got off, but I ran out of the house to call the cops. They did nothing, and I just slept at my girlfriends house that night. I've never felt so weak in my life. It just added to all my anger and bitter hate and I have never forgiven him for it since.\n\nDid he come back? Yep. And not too long after, he and his now ex girlfriend destroyed the kitchen. Only then was my mom mad. He still came back though. The first few months of our move, he even lived with us. Wasn't really improved as he still antagonized people in his drunken state, and even threatened to... Well i can't even say what threatened to do to my underaged girlfriend to my face.\n\nThis was all months ago, and now he lives with a new rich girlfriend and her kids. He has apologized a few times, drunk, but possibly sincere, but he's apologized lots of times. He even apologized after the first time he did it. Whenever my dad brings him back here, I get furious, as he's the only one who wants him back. Everyone says \"He's your brother. Forgive and forget\", but I feel like I never get time away from the dude, and it makes me angry seeing his face after what he's done, and everyone else knowing about it. I am working on moving out, but I do have to ask, am i the asshole for not forgiving him?\n\nInb4: Yes, we are all super fucked up.\n\nI'm sorry for any sloppy writing. I had to pack a crap ton into this and I wasn't sure how to do it the best way. Shakespeare, I am not.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZxUYZoHN2QR6FLux9WmXMh0AH7DGnm8n", "post_id": "b5ovbo", "action": {"description": "making snarky comments about my classmates out loud? am I a bully", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for making snarky comments about my classmates out loud? Am I a bully?", "text": "There's only 16 students in my class and it's kind of dominated by this ignorant, arrogant guy. Today we got out posters evaluated and it wasn't good... My best friend put her hand up and said ''I think that if we had known that we didn't HAVE to compete in the competition, we might have done a better job.'' It was my entire country competing in this and I was personally terrified of it as I have anxiety. So we didn't do a good job on purpose. We wanted to lose. Anyway. This guy goes. ''Oh suuuure! I ruined my poster so I wouldn't have to compete! haha! God forbid having to show my poster in front of people!'' My best friend was devasted, she had been humiliated in front of everyone. I said loudly, without looking at anyone: ''Oh sure, why don't you step a little more on people while you're at it.'' (Might be a danish expression)\n\n​\n\nI feel that was justified and okay. But then I had a classmate come tell me that I am bullying this other dude. I was shocked. We have a severely overweight guy in my class, who always STINKS (bad) and has ''snow' falling out if his hair. He's perverted in a disgusting way and always practically rubs his belly against everyone. He picked his nose in class, while snot ran down his fingers. I gagged loudly, when he did this. One time i asked my friend something and he started answering. I told him ''shut up, I can't hear what friend is saying. jesus.'' and another time he asked what our project was and i said something along the lines of ''Oh we are feeding the mice shit, to see if it has an affect on their CO2 and methan outlet.'' while rolling my eyes. I just wanted him to leave.   \n\n\nI'm obviously not being nice, but is this bullying? I never say his name, we actually has a code for him...  \nI can come with more examples if you need more information. I really don't want to be a bully, but I'm so sick of these people and since I wasn't the only one, I kind of thought it wasn't a big deal (palm face). I'm sometimes a little harsh, that's how I was raised, I don't notice it until I see people looking at me like: O.O", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VpTfu0h3zm26cbWj72Yv3qDlPh36yAyJ", "post_id": "b91vkz", "action": null, "title": "AITA Women got mad for falling asleep", "text": "Hey All, \n\nI\u2019m currently seeing a young professional lady living on the west coast and I\u2019d say things got serious recently. We get along and have a lot in common, and typically don\u2019t fight. Some background her parents are pretty strict while she was growing up and I assume this didn\u2019t help the below.\n\nFastword to now - after some texting the other night she really needed to go out and get an item from a local store (that had to do with both of us)... close to midnight. I offered to go with but she said it will be ok (mind you the neighborhoods here are pretty safe). She then shared her location with me (something that\u2019s never been done with me) and said \u201cjust Incase\u201d. \nI get out of bed and go on the couch because it\u2019s already 2 hours past when I typically sleep and turn on the TV. About 15 mins go by and I\u2019m periodically checking my phone but there isn\u2019t much movement. At this point my eyes are heavy. I accidentally fall asleep and wake up at 3am to a giant wall of text of how it\u2019s fucked up I couldn\u2019t stay awake for her to make sure she\u2019s ok - and much more. \nI have apologized but it doesn\u2019t seem like that is enough. I am trying to be empathetic and fit myself into her shoes but In the same token it seems a little overkill on her part...\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4IFMwKjEvTcN5Jv0c7ZBP2jWZveNJwyl", "post_id": "b7wlif", "action": {"description": "taking back my bagels after neighbor acted entitled", "pronormative_score": 84, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for taking back my bagels after neighbor acted entitled?", "text": "**TLDR: Neighbor complains that I've given her and her kids ugly bagels, so I stop informing them when the bagels are ready. Kids no longer come by.**\n\nI make bagels on weekends, and I've always shared them with my neighbor and her kids. I text her when they're done, and the kids come over to my apartment, where I let them choose the ones they want. Sometimes they hang out and chat, other times they just leave with bagels in tow. Usually the mom doesn't come, and I remind the kids to take one for her. \n\nLast weekend I was already running late when I was taking them out of the oven, so I didn't text the neighbor. I just grabbed four and put them in a bag that I hung on their door knob. When I get back to my apartment, I see my neighbor has texted me asking if she can come by. She comes with her kids, holding the bag I'd left them. She takes out one of the bagels, and accuses me of purposely giving them the ugly ones. I am in awe. I ask her to give me the bag so I can take a look, and then I tell her to get out. Now she is in awe. Amazing.\n\nThe assholish part is that the bagels are mostly for the enjoyment of the kids. I know that they were not doing the complaining, as they like the \"ugly\" bagels because they have extra crispy ends. When they were standing by their mother, they looked extremely uncomfortable, and the girl looked like she was about to cry when I kicked them out. Although the kids are free to come by on future weekends, I don't plan to text my neighbor anymore, so they don't have a way of knowing that. They didn't come by this weekend and it made me a little sad :(\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 84, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 84, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TGwosGbnQ2hhMKFf6U59i5LH0LusOUUH", "post_id": "a5oeht", "action": {"description": "being upset that my boyfriend keeps going on international trips to visit another woman", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my boyfriend keeps going on international trips to visit another woman?", "text": "My bf has never left the country before now, two months ago he got a passport and went to Budapest to meet with a woman who he calls his \u201cbusiness partner\u201d. He stayed three days. Now he\u2019s going to the USA to meet her in Jan, staying for 5 days. He blows off the chance to go on any trips with me, even though I\u2019ve offered to pay but seems to jump at the chance to go with this other girl. AITA for being upset? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FArN8gqp9wEIAHc7xhfLYPwKAbgvAPOv", "post_id": "ac4l0g", "action": {"description": "sitting on my neice", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for sitting on my neice?", "text": "Today my sister and her two daughters came over to my place. We'd been joking around about a blackhead on my neice's nose for a few weeks (her mother started talking about it). Anyway, the neice said no to us getting it for her.  We were joking around about sitting on her and getting it, like we did to each other as teenagers, and then we did.  Her mother and I sat on her and held her arms (her mother tried first and then I did).  \n\n\nThinking about it now I think this was wrong as while it was a joke etc., it did violate her bodily autonomy (she is 13).  I called my sister now to discuss and it turns out the neice and the other neice were upset about it.  I offered to apologise and do whatever to make it up to them but my sister said no.  She believes the neice is being 'a drama queen' and that it's 'just a blackhead'.  I agree with yhis on the one hand but I also think it's a dangerous precedent to set.  \n\n\nI don't know if I'm overthinking it or what.  To be clear, the neice wasn't hurt, but is upset about it.\n\n\nWhat do you think and where to from here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "DZpyrlT4OTm4PPThykWTlSL0PqlNRQuC", "post_id": "aad5fk", "action": {"description": "not wanting to invite my fiancees best friend to our wedding", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to invite my fiancees best friend to our wedding?", "text": "My fiancee and I have been casually discussing our wedding plans. We don't want a big ceremony and all that due to 1) we're kinda antisocial 2) we think its financially frivolous to blow money on a wedding/dinner party/ open bar. I don't want his best friend & his family there at all. His best friend is the definition of fuck boy; refuses to work, doesn't parent his 3 kids at all, depends on his gf for his weed money, etc. His kids are horrible and his gf is so compliant she just kinda does whatever he says. That being said, I don't want them there because I'm pretty sure they'll ruin it. The kids will be running amok, his best friend will be trying to get everything he can and the gf will just be there. I feel like its supposed to be our day & a bunch of bratty kids & their loser parents shouldn't ruin it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aAi9u7He0uZCW3aGX5vjz48dQfLaSwxF", "post_id": "ar96s9", "action": {"description": "ending a toxic friendship", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ending a toxic friendship", "text": "Sorry For bad formatting on mobile\n\n\nI\u2019ve had a friend for a while now and we got into an argument last night. He\u2019s kind of a douche but he\u2019s also a really fun guy to hang out with.\n\nHe is a pretty big douche to people when it comes to making fun of them and making jokes about them. He takes things way to far in that respect (there is this kid that no one really likes and we all kind of pick a little fun at him sometimes, but he takes things way overboard with him. He says things like, your poor, your always riding someone\u2019s dick, calls him an albino monkey, and is just a dick in general), he feels that it\u2019s ok for him to dish out all of the shit, but whenever someone says something negative to him he immediately goes on the defensive and will throw back ruthless things at you, and he is just a dick in general. \n\nAlthough he can be a pretty fun guy to hang out with, I don\u2019t want to paint him like a monster, because he is not. He is really funny in that he can most of the time make some kind of joke that will make anyone laugh and feel better, and he would definitely fuck someone up if they messed with one of his friends.\n\nSo the reason I ended this friendship with him, was last night me and my friend who also hangs out with him, started talking about he can be a jerk sometimes and kind of cross the line. So this conversation was getting a little bit angry and he cam over and attempting at making a joke but was just stared at by us. He then walks away looking confused and I get a text later asking if I\u2019m mad.\n\nI tell him that yes I am mad at him because he has been taking things to far over the last few months. Then he immediately comes back and says that I\u2019m not special, I shouldn\u2019t be getting special treatment, and that someone else doesn\u2019t take it personally like I am. Now take into consideration that this person has been around him way longer than any of my friends have so he has an almost impenetrable skin when it comes to him. \n\nThen we start to go back and forth, me staying strong and telling him that he fucked up, and him taking a bunch of different little things to try and validate his argument, that he was not in fact wrong, that I was being over sensitive. So about an hour later we are still going at it, but at this point I\u2019m just done with him already. He hasn\u2019t proved anything to me except that he can\u2019t take responsibility for his actions.\n\nAnd another thing that irritates me is that he gave two of my other friends apology\u2019s because they didn\u2019t stand up for themselves and call him out on his shit. But he can\u2019t just simply say I\u2019m sorry to me because I was the one that blew up on him. \n\nSo I didn\u2019t want to end this friendship at all, I really liked being around him most of the time, but it\u2019s when he is constantly going off on someone and crossing the line that makes me mad.\n\nSo I\u2019ve presented my case, and it\u2019s time for you guys to decide: Am I the asshole for ending this toxic friendship and getting made at this kid for being a dick?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E1AJPveAEBoQDiNUBZx2xm65AfkhnU3H", "post_id": "avrb9s", "action": {"description": "drinking the freshly made coffee", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for drinking the freshly made coffee", "text": "AITA for drinking the freshly made coffee when there is already a pot of coffee that was made an hour ago? I'm in an office of 30 people btw.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "drQSnmmh3zZfFXdhYCMsy2OaDBGZUfZp", "post_id": "au0289", "action": {"description": "asking for JOE FESTA", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA; asking for JOE FESTA", "text": "VIP parking for \u201cExpecting Mother\u2019s\u201d.  This REALLY pisses me off.  1.  If anyone needs to walk a few extra feet it\u2019s an \u201cexpecting mother\u201d.  2.  Just because I was born without a uterus doesn\u2019t mean that I should get punished with secondary parking.  3.  An \u201cexpecting mother\u201d did nothing special.  She had sex.\n\n\n(While I did post it this is from a Facebook group I'm in from our favorite poster...JOE FESTA)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ZQLHDoi17tMmmfL0pPF0Ea25pwh4su9B", "post_id": "axt5ey", "action": {"description": "keeping my dd away from her paternal grandparents", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for keeping my dd away from her paternal grandparents?", "text": "My husbands mom and stepdad have another granddaughter who\u2019s a year or so older than our dd. They have absolutely spoiled her from the start. My dd is 10 months old and her grandfather never asks to see her, only posted her pictures on his Facebook after I unfriended him because he constantly posts pictures of other granddaughter with loving captions. When my SIL posts pictures of other granddaughter, he comments things like \u201cthat\u2019s grandpas baby\u201d etc. Nothing on the pics my husband posts. I\u2019m always finding out they are buying stuff for other granddaughter constantly. Never for ours.  My husband says I just shouldn\u2019t worry about it and not be upset but I am very upset. I do not want my daughter to ever feel like she\u2019s not loved as much as her cousin and she will because it\u2019s blatant. I\u2019d rather her not see them at all. My husband thinks that\u2019s wrong, Am I? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xIFh2zbUt6wFUkhcqpxBK0BhWLwFG6BU", "post_id": "axn7hf", "action": {"description": "kicking someone from my game", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for kicking someone from my game?", "text": "I was hosting a game of Stardew Valley Co-Op and was inviting players from the public discord. Things were going well until I got this one player who immediately asked if there were any girls on the server. One of the players responded in the affirmative and he immediately started hitting on her. He did nothing else besides that. Followed her around the game talking to her, asking her where she lived and other personal questions.\n\nI told him to stop and just play the game as he was contributing nothing to the game and, to be honest with you, he was kind of creeping me out a little. I told him his actions were inappropriate and that he needed to stop. He ignored me and kept at it. So I kicked him from the game.\n\nWhat makes me think ITA is that the other two players, including the girl he was bothering, immediately left my game after that. They all got to talking on the public discord which we were all members of and agreed to play a game without me. Was I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yHnzZZdYW5EKIuvcLWa05DUD5ogznVgC", "post_id": "b01dty", "action": {"description": "leaving my date after she arrived at the diner with her child", "pronormative_score": 220, "contranormative_score": 86}, "title": "AITA for leaving my (20M) date (20F) after she arrived at the diner with her child", "text": "So I am a college student, so is this girl. We met on Tinder and have been talking for a month or so. She said she didn't have an Instagram but did use Snap.\n\nAnyway, fast forward to just a few hours ago, we met for the first time (we were both looking for a relationship and not a hook up). She is beautiful, smart, and charismatic. She had a very nice body too, although in some of her photos she had a 'weird line' down her abdomen that I figured was inappropriate ask about as I only knew her for a month.\n\nSo, we had plans for dinner tonight at a local diner. I got there before her, and went to a table. About five minutes later she comes. I was confused as I could almost 100% guarantee it was her but was like \"it can't be because this woman has a child\". Then, she comes up and says \"Jack?! Hey! It's Melissa\" I kinda nervously said \"hey..\" in a confused way. At first, I figured maybe she was babysitting or this was her unmentioned brother and thought wow she really is into me for still keeping our date (I don't mind kids as I am an elementary education major). Nope.\n\nShe said \"This is Mike, he's my son!\" I was shocked. I just looked at her and she said \"Yea, hes my bundle of joy. Had him at 18\" I said \"Are you serious?\" and she was like \"Yea!! But it's no big deal, if I put him on his iPad he wont make a fuss, and, by the way, sorry for never mentioning him! Sometimes things get hectic in my life\"\n\nI just stood up, looked at her and said \"I'm sorry, I don't think this will work out.\" She was like \"..oh, but I really like you\" and I just said \"Im sorry\" and left.\n\nNow, part of me feels dickish because I have never done that to a girl and try to hold respect for them, but I felt \n\n1) totally lied to \n\n2) betrayed (in a weird sense). I wanted to start my own family some day with a woman who hasn't had kids. Obviously if I was in my late 30s or 40s I would expect it, but I am just a college junior.... plus, I don't want to take on a 'father' responsibility should our relationship get serious over the next 2, 3 years\n\nSo, Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 206, "EVERYBODY": 66, "NOBODY": 14, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 220, "WRONG": 86}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jO4e8UUk8t8i0EY2JrkNdzHbsKiFSeJl", "post_id": "aqj4fe", "action": {"description": "not trying to be friends again with and old friend who won't change", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not trying to be friends again with and old friend who won't change", "text": "So for context I've known this guy for the better part of 9 years and for most of it we've been pretty close buds, but after school (around 17 years old) we drifted apart for about 2 year or so.\n\nIn the last couple of years he's tired to reconnect with old friends and everyone is more than happy to but I'm not.\n\n I went to visit him a couple times and his room would be littered with food packets and bottles, when I ask him what hes is doing in life, like work, school work, ect he just say nothing just games and drinking, this rubs me the wrong way. \n\n I recently found out he sits at home at his parent (which I can't blame him for apartments are not cheap in my area) claiming benefits which he spends all within the first 2 days.\nAlso talking to his dad when he came in the shop I work he told me his son had spent about \u00a3200 of their money on a game on add ons because he could wait for his benefit cheque.\n\nI've honestly tried to be friends with him again and even help him but I think our life styles have changed to much for us to have the friendship we once had back in school but I'll still play games with him and such just for old times sake.\n\nSorry for bad grammar and spelling I'm dyslexic af", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gJX0yCs1Ey4bxstdTQSw589Gea5XclDs", "post_id": "asei77", "action": {"description": "ending my relationship because my GF did not trust me after 5 years", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ending my relationship because my GF did not trust me after 5 years?", "text": "So i just ended my relationship of 5 years because my ex-GF was always saying stuff like \" Why are you looking to that girl \" when in reality i never looked... I always try to treat other people the way I would like to be treated , even more if that person is my GF but for some reason i never gained her trust in me. I never cheated on her, i never treated her wrong, i've met all of her family and vice-versa. She always says that i'm speaking to other women , but in reality its just my FB notifications. Yesterday we were in my bed watching some Harry Potter movies and she was going through her gallery on the phone and in the corner of my eye i saw what it look like a photo of her with another guy and i asked if i could see the photo... Oh boy she freaked out... Long story short , i just asked if i could see the photo ( she never showed me ) and after years of being in a relationship with her never trusting me, i decided i had enough...\n\n IATA for wanting my GF to trust in me after 5 years relationship? \n\nShe sent me sooo many print screens talking to her friends saying i was the one to blame , I\u00b4m just confuded and i decided to finally create a reddit account and \"vent it out\" to reddit. \n\n​\n\nP.S - Sorry for any english mistake, not my native language. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZD6ffP3C6aznQ7Z9TEUeFQs9vUKtGzSu", "post_id": "alybro", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Wife disappears since midnight last night after complaining of a creep at her bar.", "text": "My wife didn\u2019t come home last night after complaint about a creep. On my way to work, I found her car at a restaurant we frequent. \n\nI called some friends of ours to see if they\u2019ve seen her at all, and they said that she was last seen trying to leave a bar while trying to get home, but a creep was trying to take her home.\n\nIt\u2019s been 20 hours and she hadn\u2019t responded until she woke up and said I was being possessive.\n\nWe did not get in a fight last night, I work mornings and she works nights. I made her dinner to heat up when she got home. She said she ran into a friend (that I\u2019ve never heard of [F]) and she was the one who told  her to ignore me all day.\n\nI legitimately thought she got raped or murdered because she never does this. \n\nNow she\u2019s calling me a possessive asshole.\n\nAm I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 99, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 100, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "llahrvPGvOEJRpEOT37hIG9MPyQ06Zm8", "post_id": "an7s1k", "action": {"description": "not giving my friend my textbook", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't give my friend my textbook", "text": "I share a class with my friend, they ordered a book but its lost somewhere in fedexland. I knew that she would need the book so I brought it the first time for her to take pictures. Lately I haven't had the motivation to do anything. I was suppose to take pictures of  five chapters this weekend but I only got one done. I plan to bring the book tomorrow so she can do it, I am aware this is a dick move but I couldn't help. I also have the class recordings I havent sent but I havent listen to them either \n\nThe test is on Friday so I am nervous she'll want to take the book with her and I would say no because I plan to cram all week.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HHGdxg7CJXEqgzyvDxjocVkI8PvYoOut", "post_id": "am8ou2", "action": {"description": "getting upset over losing a video game", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for getting upset over losing a video game?", "text": "So, this morning, my mom and i were playing a  Jeopardy! video game. (If you don't know, It's basically a trivia game, there's questions and if you know the answer, you buzz in).\n\n​\n\nNow, all my life, this game, i hate playing it because i always get so frustrated because if there's a question i know, and someone else knows it. I never can buzz in. It's always so frustrating. I hate losing at games like this.\n\n​\n\nBut, i typically perform well because i have a broad range of knowledge. I know a little bit about everything.\n\n​\n\nUntil Today. We played Jeopardy, and the categories were absolute crap. There was, like European history, Greek letters, and not one thing i knew shit about. But, in each round, there were categories she knew, 70s music and country music, because she grew up in the 70s and loves country. I don't.\n\n​\n\nSo, it was pretty much nothing but me getting beat, and the few questions i did know were common knowledge and she beat me on it. Then, there was one question, it asked about my all time favorite band and favorite song, i asked her to please let me have it. I begged her, but she didn't. She stole my answer.\n\n​\n\nI only had, like, 400 points, she had around 3000. There were about 3 questions in a row i knew, but didn't buzz in since i couldn't risk the points loss. The second round was no better, the country music one came up. I asked if she could at least give me the answer to one, so i don't feel like such a dumbass. So i could at least have a chance. I've been far ahead when we've played, and let her get a question in out of fairness.\n\n​\n\nBut she didn't. i was pretty much on auto-pilot then on. I just huffed and sighed at every question and just set the controller on the floor. I played on my phone during, i just didn't care. I was honestly pretty upset, i wanted to cry.\n\n​\n\n I ended up with negative 5000. So, i threw the controller to the ground and left. She said she felt guilty for winning, and didn't let herself win. She bet all her points on the final and ended up with 0 so i didn't lose.\n\n​\n\nSo, am i the asshole here for acting like this? Should she have played nice and let me get at least 1 question right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2uwrf74gXRsYXSvmfuJPukSi7xtMa1mX", "post_id": "akqvks", "action": {"description": "not telling my ex why I broke up with him", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not telling my ex why I broke up with him?", "text": "Oof, didn\u2019t think this would be my first post on Reddit, but here we go.\n\n3 months ago I broke up with my then-boyfriend (let\u2019s call him B ). I\u2019ll go into more detail about that but first some background. We met when I told my friend (K) that I really liked the idea of D&D. K then introduced me to his D&D group, among them was B. I joined their party and this friendship group became very important to me - as a non binary AFAB person, finally having a predominantly male friend group where I could kick back and be more masculine was very liberating. \n\nAfter 2 years of knowing each other B and I admitted to having feelings for each other. Things went great for the first month, but then we hit rocks.\n\nTo cut a VERY long story short, he didn\u2019t listen to my concerns about the relationship and often wrote them off as me over thinking. Among many things, he clearly wasn\u2019t comfortable with my gender identity. B wouldn\u2019t use my preferred pronouns and never confronted his transphobic best friend when he flung his unwanted opinions on me. B was also much more serious about the relationship than I was. I didn\u2019t expect it to last that long as I was going to be moving 6 hours away in less than a year, B on the other hand thought we were in it for the long run. I only realised this when, after only 2 months together, he told me he was planning to give me a family heirloom for our one year anniversary. \n\nFinally, sex. This was my first sexual relationship and his second. I asked him to take things slow since I had no experience, and he did... for the first few days. Without going into detail he was constantly touching me without asking. He would want to do new things and when I said no, I wasn\u2019t ready yet, he would say \u2018but you said a week ago\u2019 \u2018but you told me back then\u2019 etc. I only got to see him once a week, if that, and he didn\u2019t like that. He would get upset if I was working a weekend shift and eventually I just felt like I owed him sex, since I might not see him for another fortnight and that obviously upset him.\n\nDespite all this, B was not a bad guy. He was very caring and we\u2019re still friends. At the time I didn\u2019t really understand what was wrong, I only had an overwhelming sense of panic and knew I had to end things with him. I wanted it to be mutual, so I explained how he obviously wanted to be dating a girl, which I was not. He denied it. I explained that my causal dating and his seriously relationship approaches were not compatible. He refused. Eventually I was forced to the last resort, and this is where I become the asshole\n\nI broke up with him over text. Yes, I know that\u2019s terrible, but hear me out. I didn\u2019t mean to. He told me that he was going to take me out to dinner, and I knew there was no way I could see him in person before then. I didn\u2019t want to break up with him after he had bought me dinner, and I didn\u2019t want to do it before hand and then have to either go to dinner anyway or find a way home. I sent him a message saying that we needed to have a serious discussion next time we met. He asked me to tell him what was up, I told him it was a conversation that needed to happen in person, he insisted we talk now and it happened from there. In the end, the only way I could make him agree to break up was by telling him I didn\u2019t love him anymore (not true, but by that point the anxiety the relationship was causing me outweighed my affection for him).\n\nI\u2019m writing this post now as I\u2019ve had time to look back on it all, and recent events have left me wondering if I owe B an apology for how I handled things. I never told him about the sex stuff, and given his dismissiveness for the other problems I don\u2019t know if he realises how much they contributed to the break up. Now that I understand what happened better, should I talk to him about it? To give him a real explanation as to what happened? We\u2019ve gone back to being friends, but only within the D&D group. Do I risk ruining that fragile friendship, and in turn the D&D group, to do what\u2019s right? Is it right to give him an explanation, or is it too late? AITA or are his feelings about it all not my problem?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oZQ5ZivhFB1fRSahy4JOmpZQlKBo01sp", "post_id": "aznzwi", "action": {"description": "telling my new housemates to stop complaining, then rejecting their apology", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my new housemates to stop complaining, then rejecting their apology?", "text": " I (29M) live in an old five-person house - the place could definitely use a cleanup, but it's by no means abnormally messy. It's always been a welcoming and drama-free house.\n\nA new couple (25M, 23F) moved in a few weeks ago. They're generally nice people, but they\u2019ve repeatedly raised many issues about the house. I could name 10-15 without too much trouble, but a few examples include:\n\n\\- the internet is too slow (10+ times)\n\n\\- there's too many spices / bottles etc on the kitchen shelves (10+ times)\n\n\\- the bin / stovetop / cupboard / drawer / fridge etc is not clean enough (I've lost count)\n\nThey certainly have a right to be happy in their own home, but I feel like I'm constantly being nagged. I eventually asked Guy to tone it down a bit - he was surprised, but we had a good chat and I thought that was the end of it. Happy days.\n\nFast forward a couple of days, Guy goes out of town for the weekend. Girl comes to me and insists that they were, in fact, not complaining. She said that \"not having a filter\" is part of her personality, and that her \"goal\" in life is actually to become \"even more annoying\" (your guess is as good as mine). She insisted that I had misinterpreted her comments, or that she hadn\u2019t said them at all.\n\nAfter ten minutes of this I was getting quite frustrated. Trying to put things into perspective, I told her that she had complained more in the past few weeks than every other housemate combined over the past year (not proud of that one, but it\u2019s true). She said if it\u2019s such a big problem then they\u2019ll move out. This felt disproportionately dramatic but I backed off.\n\nShe then group messages the house saying \u201cIt\u2019s been brought to my attention that you all have a serious issue with me and Guy\u201d. She reinforces that it only \u201cseemed like\u201d she was complaining, and she\u2019s sorry if we misinterpreted her \u201cjokes\u201d or \u201csuggestions\u201d. Not only was she dramatically escalating a minor disagreement, but also implying that the issue was entirely with us. Instead of accepting the \u2018apology\u2019, I doubled down and made it clear that I stand by what I said.\n\nLater, hoping to diffuse a bit of tension, I cleaned out the kitchen shelves and hoped that it might be seen as a peace offering.\n\nGuy gets home from out of town - he\u2019s angry. He\u2019s under the strong impression that I waited for him to leave for the weekend then ambushed his girlfriend with accusations. This is simply not true. She insists that I started it and has very much painted me as the asshole, calling me things like smug and \u2018the worst kind of person on the planet\u2019 (because I stood my ground). He seems oblivious to how dramatic she\u2019s being. She also told me off for cleaning the shelves, claiming that I\u2019d missed the point.\n\nMy other housemates (30F, 31F) are staying out of it as best they can, and aren\u2019t willing to back me up in case it creates a bigger rift in the house. This is a bit frustrating, but I respect their decision.\n\nAm I the asshole? How do I best deal with this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5X1tUrzNF2fvMPn9D0zBXOjz0ONM4JCf", "post_id": "b4s6la", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to go out", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my bf to go out?", "text": "\nNeed to know whether im crazy or what. Me female [22], dating a male [23], i have dated him in past (1yr) and i was a mean/stubborn person therefore we broke up but he wasnt an angel himself. After going back in and out of getting back together we have started to date once again (1month in). We dont really truth eachother as i have heard stories from him of him doing certain things with girl from a club and how many times have they done it which still bothers me because i don't understand why would he tell me these things in detail and that friend who has a gf did it with the friend of that girl... The real question is, he wants to go out with his friend and him and another friend(single) wont be drinking, also there will be a third person who has a gf but he has always cheated on her and have done certain things with my bf with other girls while we were not in relationship which i obviously am aware of.\n\nSo am crazy for not wanting him to go out in two weeks time? He wanted to break up with me over this because i go out... and he doesnt, he has never ever went out while being in rel with me and he does not drink whatsoever. I have drank and went out, its not unusual for me. Also i have mentioned that i find it weird that he wants to go out sober and he doesnt even dance and in a club where all girls dress like..... . So once again am i going crazy lol\n(His reason is because it was the single guys birthday,  so after dinner they want to go out) and i asked why club? And his answer is to dance and have fun... sober? A guy who doesnt dance? Or everrrrr goes out? \n\nBit of a backstory: right now our rel is unstable as we are only back to dating properly after a year or on and off. We dont do much together, he works and then goes to gym so basically in the end he comes home at half 9 in the evening, he eats we talk and or intense cuddling, then we basically sleep. He has work on the weekend too which i end up not seeing him at all which i was used to from the beginning. In the end we dont rlly do anything just feels like he doesnt want to lose me and thats it. On that note, i used to live in another town and i moved back home because i decided to get away from him but he basically manipulated me into saying that we should look for a place together and that he wants to be with me, before me moving back to my moms place he didnt even talk about moving in together again until i moved further away from him. I just always feel worn out, i think im just in love with the past of our first year relationship and this person im with right now is a complete stranger... should i give more time? Am i coocoo ? Help a potentially crazy lady out lol. Probably this post is all over the place as im emotional at the moment, sorry.\n\nTL;DR: So am crazy for not wanting him to go out? He wanted to break up with me over this because i go out... and he doesnt, he has never ever went out while being in rel with me and he does not drink whatsoever.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YPymzkEmgZcKfYjrvHCfCTYIM7h76Nzy", "post_id": "b6sgx0", "action": {"description": "not lending a buddy some cash", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not lending a buddy some cash?", "text": "A high school bud called me up outta the blue and asked me for about $3000. He wouldn't say what he needed the money for and only said he was \"calling a friend in a time of need\". He said he called the other guys and got some help from them. He promised to pay it back in pieces over the the course of the year.  I've know this guy for over a decade but we've grown distant over the years and maybe speak once every few months. We were close in school but we haven't met in over 4 years since he moved far away. He started a new business and tried to rope me in but the pitch seemed like an MLM scheme (I might be completely wrong about this); and I was busy with other project anyway. But that didn't sour our already frail friendship and we spoke a couple of times since then. He's a very social guy and has a ton of friends who are very well off than either of us. My wife thinks he was out of line. She thinks considering our history, he could have been open to me about his reasons rather than just demanding 3k, no questions asked, by end of the day. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jq5ohQcp0CSYKO8RX5RvhRjU1QgVKO7t", "post_id": "a7if7h", "action": {"description": "treating both my parents to dinner for their Christmas gift", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for treating both my parents to dinner for their Christmas gift?", "text": "I'm 19, and my family is really hard to buy gifts for. My Dads interests are football and rewatching Seinfield episodes over and over. My mom's is giraffes and God. When I was younger, this made gift giving easy, especially when I was on a budget given by my own parents. Buy a football movie. Buy a giraffe plushie. Easy peasy.\n\nHowever, as I've gotten older, I've been more stumped for gifts. My family at some point got tired of gift giving and decided to only ever do \"stocking stuffers\". This rule is in title only, as it literally never holds true on Christmas morning. Well, this year I have my own job for the first time ever. A part time retail job. Not great, but it's a college student job and I dont mind it. Since I now have an income of my own, I decided to do something a bit less traditional. Not throw away crappy gifts that are as impersonal as a Christmas card, something nice.\n\nI decided to put aside about 150$ to treat both my parents to dinner(wherever the hell they want) something I knew they would love since they constantly talk about family \"togetherness\" despite being questionably dysfunctional. However, my mother will not stop badgering me about buying things for my father, even though I've told her that I have a big gift for both of them this year. She is upset with me that I have not purchased anything physical yet as \"evidence\" that I have thought of them for Christmas this year. (They dont know I'm taking them out as my gift)\n\nShe seems to be already insulted by this prospect. I worry that they will resent me for this gift and I am concerned if I should just instead opt for doing traditional gifts instead.\n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zT6O8g8xJ2K6y80aMuv4xR30Rge1nrM7", "post_id": "a3sxr6", "action": {"description": "saying my sister in law is putting on weight", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying my sister in law is putting on weight", "text": "So basically to lay the foundations of story I need to explain that I (m23) my brother (m25) and my cousin (f28) are always ripping on each other constantly. Our whole relationship revolves around poking at each other in a joking manner and making fun of each other. \n\nWell one day I was in a bad mood and the jokes were getting a little too close to home, I didn\u2019t mind too much as I\u2019ve crossed the line a few times with my playful insults too. But then, my sister in law decided to join in and said some things a little more hurtful so I slightly snapped and made a remark about how she\u2019s put on weight since she got married. As you can imagine she didn\u2019t like that one bit, got really offended and excused herself from the room and started crying. \n\nMy brother called me a dick and said that was out of order. I didn\u2019t understand why everyone was so outraged. She knew that we all insulted each other and that if you received an insult you sling one back. Am I really the asshole for treating her the way I treat my bro and cousin. I feel like she thought she could get away with no return insults because she \u201cisn\u2019t part of the group\u201d or something. \n\nTL;DR me and my bro are insulting each other, my sister in law insults me, I insult her back with a bit of hurtful truth on it and suddenly I\u2019m the asshole.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mkVzz9k5AEQ8UbWbXNrXcVrcCd0tDSNH", "post_id": "9z8i04", "action": {"description": "sleeping with my ex-roommates fuck boy", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with my ex-roommates fuck boy", "text": "I lived with this girl for about a month while I was waiting for my apartment to come available.  Nearly 9 months after I moved out I met her fuck boy.  He talked to me randomly as I was walking on campus and we ended up getting coffee and fucking that night.  She had talked to me about him, but he was never a serious boyfriend and was never going to be.  She had been fucking this guy for about 6 months.  He was seeing other girls, but she wasn\u2019t seeing other guys.  I knew exactly who he was but he was cute so I fucked him anyway.  She ended up finding out and treated me like shit from then on.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "su6qoAs5kovdfaM9Lm6AzRLxR6RkKXYQ", "post_id": "b6kb7d", "action": {"description": "not giving up my seat immediately", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for not giving up my seat immediately?", "text": "So I was just on the bus spaced tf out with earbuds in so I had no awareness of my surroundings. A lady with a walking stick got on the bus and I was in a priority seat. I didn\u2019t notice her because I was daydreaming and I didn\u2019t know if she was saying anything to me because of my music (I was really jamming to Magic Shop and that song just takes me to a different dimension). Basically she was standing near me and I was oblivious to it. The lady next to me smacked my arm and yelled at me for not giving up my seat (this wasn\u2019t the lady with the walking stick, this was a different lady sitting next to me). So obviously when I snapped out of my daydream I noticed the woman and immediately got up and apologised. The lady who hit me looked pissed and was probably muttering about lazy teenagers or something but I couldn\u2019t hear her because I was still blasting Magic Shop through my earbuds. I kinda felt like an asshole because that poor lady had to stand since I wasn\u2019t moving but I knew it wasn\u2019t really my fault since I was zoned out and didn\u2019t notice her. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YEuLYqvvC4mZ9gzk8HsZ88bdGmjbR6O4", "post_id": "b48bgo", "action": {"description": "paying a woman to stop singing", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for paying a woman to stop singing?", "text": "This happened years ago, but it's Friday afternoon and I'm bored, so let's do this.\n\nThere used to be this woman who sang on the subway platform, and she was just terrible.  Like she sort of had this classical sound, but her voice was weak and totally off-key.  I would see/hear her almost every day, and just get annoyed again and again.\n\nI think the anger built up, because one night I was out with my wife and some friends, and there she was, mutilating something from West Side Story, iirc.  And. The. Train. Would. Not. Come.  Finally, I broke from the pack, went over to her, and said, \"If I give you a dollar, will you stop singing?\"  She looked predictably hurt, and confused, and said something about having classical training.  I just told her that I don't know much about music, but something is definitely off here.\n\nSo she took the money, and stopped singing.  Meanwhile, my wife was **mortified** (to this day, if I mention it, she gets freshly pissed off again).  Another friend said, \"Joelman0, I'm not sure if you're my hero, or the world's biggest asshole.\"  I really didn't care, though, as long as the singing stopped.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "D3lyukzTZnlJLcUzPIjajZ6NG5BjrfMP", "post_id": "b2yij5", "action": {"description": "asking for a weekend a month off from work when I was explicitly hired to work weekends", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for asking for a weekend a month off from work when I was explicitly hired to work weekends?", "text": "So for context, I am 18 years old and have been working four months at a retail chain. I don't want corporate to get me so let's come up with a good fake name... I'll go with Call*Bart\u2122\ufe0f. I work full time as an overnight stocker and frankly, it is very monotonous. I've struggled with mental health issues and my doctor even tried prescribing me medication when I was 13 but I was scared of that idea and haven't been checked by a medical professional since. Working 10-7, 5 days a week, has been emotionally taxing to almost my breaking point several times. I have never called off for myself, I called off twice because road conditions made it impossible to leave my house (rural area of upstate NY baby) and once for my ill mother and mentally ill sister to take care of them (mental illness is a big thing in my family, my dad is medicated for it as well.) \n\nA big problem I never foresaw working weekends was my friend group. I mostly spend time with two friends, Matt and Kade (don't care enough to give y'all fake names). I've spent every Friday night into Saturday morning at Matt's house for well over a year, and we've been regularly hanging out since we were 4 years old. Kade is almost always there as well. Matt is a confident, attractive, well-adjusted individual who has supported everything I do my entire life. I'm nervous, meek, submissive and non-confrontational. He has helped me through all of these problems. I have spent exactly one night at his house since the start of the job, and have not seen either of them in 2 months.\n\nI don't expect them to be able to give me a weekend off or lower my hours in order to give me the time I need to fully recover, but would I be the asshole for even asking? I was asked to cover weekends specifically and said I could do it. I'm just not sure how much longer I can persist like this. I'm really scared of the future if it's always like this for me. Also, does anyone who works for Walmart know if there are programs that would give me the mental rest I need? Thanks everyone.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2WgAXhooga1a6kqcdxnUyhWtVSrmPtTU", "post_id": "ayuhzy", "action": {"description": "sabotaging a possible rental house for my parents", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For sabotaging a possible rental house for my parents?", "text": "New to reddit, so I apologize if the formatting is off. So a bit of background. I\u2019m new to my career (I\u2019m a lawyer), and moved back home to live with my parents. Where I\u2019m working is about five minutes away from my parents house, and they had the room, so it wasn\u2019t a big deal. \n\nMy parents, who are close to retiring, want to knock down our house in six months in order to build a bigger house for their retirement. The house we live in now only has two bedrooms and they \u201cwant more room for future grandchildren.\u201d So as a result of this demolition, they will need a new place to rent for a year as the new house is being built (I will be moving in with my girlfriend in six months, so no issue there). \n\nMy boss is an extremely influential person in the area I live. She has been amazing to me for the short period of time I have worked there. We really have a mentor/mentee relationship going, and I genuinely enjoy going to work every day. I told my boss about my parents knocking down their house and needing a place to rent.  My boss mentioned to me that she has a vacant house on the same block as her own that she rents out. \n\nI (stupidly) mention to my parents that my boss has a house she rents out, and that it may be available. They become extremely receptive to the rental, and begin questioning me about the particulars. Now this may not seem like a big deal, but my family is slightly insane. My dad has an explosive temper, and by explosive I mean there\u2019s a reality that the neighbors could call the police. He is never physically violent, but the man has a voice that can shake a house. \n\nThe more I think about what I have done, the more I realize that I may have messed up. My parents begin questioning me every day about this house, when my boss only mentioned it in passing. Then my parents passingly run into my boss in town. They had never met before. My parents introduce themselves, and then immediately ask about the house. \n\nAfter learning about this encounter through my boss, I confront my parents. I tell them that I\u2019m not comfortable with the situation and it is putting my professional life at risk if something was to happen. I tell them that if they do not drop this, I will voice those concerns to my boss. My parents become extremely insulted by this and will barely speak to me. To make matters worse, they are struggling to find another rental house in the same neighborhood  due to the fact that we have a dog. There has even been talk about them wanting me to move out (not a big deal, but still a slap in the face). Am I the asshole here? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0iBl0ZTwaiygDiGjPNdC84thJQkAXfIh", "post_id": "b4zi6f", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend there are more important things in my life than her", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend there are more important things in my life than her?", "text": "My gf and I are long-distance, since she's attending a local state uni while I got into a college out of state. The college I go to is notorious for grade deflation and overworked students, and plus I have lots of other commitments. So while I do make time to talk to my girlfriend, she always says it's not enough. \n\nShe's been getting on my case about this recently. I call her every day, usually on speakerphone when I work out or drive, but she always says I don't spend *enough* time with her. Yesterday, I asked her what enough is specifically. She says at least 2 hours daily. I don't think it's feasible, and told her so. She got pushed off at this at told me she should be my first priority. I don't think so, and told her so. She accused me of not caring. I explained to her, I'm a double major, D1 tennis player, on the debate team, and have a portfolio to manage. I told her I take time out of my day every day to talk to her, and that she should be happy about that instead of asking me to spend more and more time with her. She got angry at this.\n\nAita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "67Ohl6AqshBh6tTM0oA86NPKSkRIIpFB", "post_id": "aj3zvk", "action": {"description": "going off on my Sister in Law, who struggles with mental illness and drug addiction", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for going off on my Sister In Law, who struggles with mental illness and drug addiction", "text": "*I want to preface this post by saying that I've been on the fence about whether to post or not. I re-wrote it twice because I don't want it to come across like I'm looking for validation. I'm not. I'm feeling incredibly guilty right now and think I might be the a-hole.*\n\nLast weekend we had dinner at my inlaws' house. Much to my chagrin, my sister in law was there. To give some background on her, she's recovering from a meth addiction. Years ago she hit rock bottom and we ended up with custody of our nephew. There was a lot at play in him coming to live with us (mental instability, actual physical abuse, etc.), but the straw that broke the camel's back.\n\nWhen we got him, he was a timid, nervous and anxious little kid. He would flinch the instant anyone turned to talk to him or tried to hand him something. He was scared to tell us when he was hungry or thirsty and was constantly asking if he was behaving. It was heartbreaking. \n\nToday, he's a tremendous young man in his early 20's. He has his associates degree and is very independent. He shares an apartment with my oldest son, so my wife and I see a lot of him. We're both so proud of the adult that he's become and we try to make sure that we support his dreams. We truly see him as one of our kids, and we'd do anything to make sure he's living his best life.\n\nUnfortunately, his mother can crush his spirit in a heartbeat. All he wants is her approval, and she shames and rejects him constantly. Over the course of her many recovery attempts, she made a conversion to Christianity and her views became ultra conservative. She rants against abortion and the lgbtq community. My nephew happens to be gay, and she makes it clear that she doesn't approve. \n\nBack to the dinner. She went off on one of her tangents at the dinner table. Then she tried to turn her rage toward my nephew but I quickly shut her down. I didn't say anything, I just snapped my fingers and pointed at her with a pretty outraged expression. It was awkward but it diffused the situation.\n\nAfter dinner she went outside to smoke a cigarette, so I followed her outside and tried to talk to her about what happened. She made a snide remark about my wife and me taking everything she loved away from her (referring to the custody fight over my nephew) and I just erupted. I can be very direct when I have to be, and I felt like it was appropriate in this instance.\n\nI could feel the emotions swelling inside me and boiling over. Every bad memory from all those years ago came back to me. It felt like I was back in my hallway, listening from outside the bedroom door while my little nephew cried and begged God to fix his life. I know I said some very harsh things but they were all true. And honestly, it felt cathartic. I didn't yell at all. I just spoke in matter of fact tones, but I was harsh.\n\nAt first my SIL didn't say a word, she just stood there with tears rolling down her cheeks. My wife came outside just in time to catch the tail end of my rant. My SIL went inside and grabbed her purse, then came back outside and told us, \"I'm trying my best.\" Then she got in her car and drove away. We left shortly after her and spotted her pulled over on the side of the road, still in the neighborhood. She was sitting in her car with her head hung in shame. I felt a massive wave of guilt roll over me that I still can't shake. I wanted to stop and make sure she was okay but my wife told me to keep going.\n\nSince then I can't shake the feeling that I bullied someone who's struggling. When she wasn't addicted to drugs, she was a caring and empathetic human being who loved everyone, but especially her son. Her life has taken several erratic turns, and I'm truly rooting for her to get it together. But I felt so desperate to protect my nephew from her in that I couldn't think straight. My inlaws aren't upset with me at all and my nephew actually came over and thanked me for standing up to her. Still, I feel so guilty for my actions, and for how I made her feel.\n\nAITA for going off on my SIL who's recovering from a serious meth addiction?\n\nTL;DR: I went off on my sister in law this weekend. She struggles with mental illness and is a recovering drug addict. I'm feel like the worst person in the world right now. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UiqSwJfGX5OUY42S4DA5W7LDNpOsit2y", "post_id": "alq8fr", "action": {"description": "jot going to work 2x when yesterday was -50 and today is -25", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for jot going to work 2x when yesterday was -50 and today is -25 ?", "text": "Some things to note, still trying to recover from a slipped disc in my back, was out 3 weeks worked a full week last week (4/9 hour days and a 4 hour shift on friday). Switched to 6 hour days this week for the time being till i get feeling better. Theres more than that but just curious what you all think", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z3LVgeRbTrtJxT4zDe9uarB3tm0tLBKJ", "post_id": "avrsd2", "action": {"description": "using my gf's allergy to my advantage", "pronormative_score": 36, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for using my gf\u2019s allergy to my advantage?", "text": "My girlfriend has a tomato allergy, but thankfully, not one that would be life threatening. She would, however, be sick for a few days, and in high enough concentration, break out in hives. \nWe like going to Blaze Pizza since she enjoys the white or pesto pizzas, but we have a few requirements of them. They would need to change gloves, use a clean peel and paddles, and a clean cutter.  Now, in case you\u2019ve never been there, Blaze makes personal pizzas in a line system, kinda like Chipotle, where several people would man a certain station of the line. Because tomato sauce is such a prevalent ingredient, and a lot of people handle the pizza, inevitably at least one person will make a mistake (e.g. using a cutter that was just used on another pizza). When this happens, they\u2019ll usually apologize and remake the pizza.  Then they let us keep the old pizza (which I save for later) and sometimes they\u2019ll even give us a gift card for a free one. Seriously, I\u2019ve gotten so many free pizzas out of this. \nAm I wrong for gaming the system like this (and also causing their line to slow down sometimes)?\nNote: I never try to get them to intentionally make a mistake. We always tell them our requirements in detail. I just see it as a happy accident when it happens, which is most of the time. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 24, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 36, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iEio3lUIytCJemKXFZy9wUXrwLaL6CEL", "post_id": "awfa5o", "action": {"description": "blaming my (ex) best friend for having sex with my adult son", "pronormative_score": 71, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA for blaming my (ex) best friend for having sex with my adult son?", "text": "Throw away account obviously. But if she sees this and knows I'm talking about her. Good.\n\nI (41) have been best friends with her (32) for 8 years. Since my son was 12.\n\nMy son (20) had just had his first big real heartbreak ever. I told her about this. In detail, she's my best friend. (We haven't lived near each other in a couple of years and she came to visit last summer and he was home from college) I thought they were weirdly friendly considering he's my son and she knew him as a 12 year old but they are both friendly people.\n\nWhen I noticed him constantly texting her and knew how vulnerable he was feeling after above mentioned heartbreak I asked him if something was going on? He said no, I didn't want to intrude too much but asked her to \"cut back\" on the friendly chatter with my kid. She said okay.\nShe goes home I notice they are STILL texting constantly. I mention it to him again and he loses his shit saying I'm being controlling. So I tell her thinking she's an adult and a mom and will understand. I say hey I think (my son) is getting the wrong idea and you know he just had his heart broken. I know this sounds silly but I really need you to respect my friendship and my concern for my son and just cold turkey stop talking to him.\nShe was very apologetic, said she didn't realize, okay, done.\n\nThis was last summer.\n\nToday I find out they are still talking. I get upset confront them both. Find out they HAD SEX LAST SUMMER. MY best friend and my son.\n\nWhat the fuck.\n\nAm I overreacting here? I find this very predatory on her part and disturbing. I've always noticed that she tends to like to lead guys on and I try and stay out of it. I was concerned there was some leading on flirtation going on from the beginning which is why I confronted her and said please stop \n\nNot only have they had sex, it was ONGOING. He flew out to see her behind my back! All of this while she's talking to me like none of this is happening and he's doing the same.\n\nHe says it was stupid, it's over, they are only friends now.\nThis is a grown ass woman with a divorce and 3 kids. He's a 20 year old college student who has had very few relationships in his life. \n\nShe knew every detail of his recent heartbreak. She knows way more about him than he knew about her because she's my best friend and we talk about our kids!\n\nTell me straight up am I being an overdramatic momma bear or is she a predatory selfish bitch?\n\nBonus points if she sees this and knows it's about her because fuck you. \n\nTL:DR my best friend (32) had sex with my son (20) and an ongoing \"relationship\" behind my back and expressly against my asking them both to cut ties. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 62, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 71, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KcWd2ANORnAoHizgHNA8pi30NeYAHZgy", "post_id": "al88fj", "action": {"description": "following normal business hours", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for following normal business hours?", "text": "Hi reddit.  \n\n\nSo I've been living in this house (5 bedrooms) for a couple of years. People have come and gone and the group we have right now is pretty good, we get along well. But I feel as though some of my roommates, and one in particular, is really inconsiderate.  \n\n\nI live in a converted room just next to the kitchen, and sharing a wall with the living room. I understand these are common areas and I never want to make someone feel as though they can't use them, but whenever someone is in those rooms, I can pretty much hear their entire conversation. They know this because I've (playfully) heckled them before from my room. I also understand that everyone has different schedules as we're all students or working shifts, but I feel as though this is even more of a reason to be more considerate of others sleep schedules (because anyone might be sleeping at any time). \n\n​\n\nSo one of my roommates is recently single, and has been having guys over often at all hours. No, it's not the sex noises. But yesterday, for example, I woke up at 1:45 to an unknown man's voice in the kitchen. I could hear her talking as well, and as I fully woke up I heard music playing (albeit quietly). She decided to start cooking at 1:30 in the morning. I won't pretend to know her schedule, but she's often sleeping in late and regularly works closing shifts (10 pm). I'll admit I'm not the deepest sleeper, but my problem comes when I've already been asleep for a couple hours and then get woken up, and suddenly am no longer tired enough to sleep, especially with noise going on. I eventually fell back asleep when they went upstairs, but then woke up again when she came down to flip whatever she was cooking, and half an hour later when the oven alarm went off (she clearly has a phone, why couldn't she use that?). I also worry because in the past this particular roommate has left the stove on overnight (she did/does drugs) and I think now my body wakes up to everything in fear of it being the tiny click of the stove reheating. \n\n​\n\nI understand the kitchen is a common area, and people use it at all hours. But am I wrong in assuming after midnight (at the latest on a weekday) should be somewhere where you go grab a glass of water, make a quick midnight snack and gtfo? Not meal prep for the week while listening to music.\n\n​\n\nI've tried talking to her about this, having texted her. Her responses in the past have been, \"I get it you need to be up in the morning but not everyone does\" (at 3 am after inviting a bunch of friends over on a Friday night knowing I had an 8 am start on Saturday). She has also told me to stop being passive aggressive by texting her to quiet down (it's 2am, I'm in bed and naked. I'm not getting up and dressed to tell you to be a decent person). Last night I messaged her telling her \"You've woken me up twice now, I have work early tomorrow. It's not weird that I'm going to wake up to the sound of a strange man in my house.\" and she didn't respond. Haven't seen her since. I work shifts but most days with 8am-10 am starts. I'd love to wake up at 6-7 and make breakfast and enjoy my morning, but always find myself sleeping in til the last moment because of the disruptions. She keeps making it about how different people sleep at different times. Am I wrong to assume that I should have decent sleep when following the schedule of standard 9-5? I want to function during normal daylight hours.\n\n​\n\nI am planning on moving out in the summer in either case. Just want to know if I'm asking for too much in wanting \"quiet hours\" that conform to a normal 9-5? (i.e 10-7) \n\nAny advice on how to proceed is appreciated.\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HT82E9oqMd6Cy4OlaNgAkp8YsGddR5CH", "post_id": "as9nk4", "action": {"description": "choosing to watch the season of GoT without my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "WIBTA If I choose to watch the season of GoT without my girlfriend?", "text": "Obligatory \"I'm posting on my phone so sorry for formatting\"\nTldr at the end, turned out longer than expected\n\nBackground - So with the new and final season of Game of Thrones looming my girlfriend of a few months and I have decided to rewatch everything to refresh our memories and hype us up.\n\nNow the problem with this is that I don't intend to watch the newest season with her. A few friends and I have this little tradition with watching GoT where we go to one of their houses each week and watch the new episodes as they come out. This has been going on for a few years and we've been pretty pumped to watch the finale together for just as long now. It's great fun and a good way to see them as I don't get the chance all that often.\n\nI mentioned this little tradition of ours to my girlfriend before we even started watching GoT so that she wouldn't be surprised by it, however when she brought it up last night she seemed pretty upset that I hadn't changed my mind about not watching the newest season with her and with my friends as intended.\n\nSo WIBTA if I choose to stick to tradition and not watch the newest season with my girlfriend?\n\nTldr: Girlfriend is upset that I'm choosing to watching newest season of GoT with my friends as we have a tradition for it, even after we plan on binging it up until release.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Lz2sXNildxHCZ2k1iDt7GxNDBhI50sLt", "post_id": "ajseh3", "action": {"description": "pursuing legal action", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for pursuing legal action?", "text": "Unfortunately, I\u2019ll have to keep this vague and short to remain anonymous.\n\nI\u2019m current in a dispute with someone regarding damages, of which I believe is highly unreasonable and I feel the law would agree with my position. However, getting the law involved would certainly open a lot of problems for this person.\n\nBefore this had occurred, I felt that we had good relationship, and I sincerely wanted us to come to an agreement between ourselves amicably.\n\nI attempted this for a month, initially getting no response, but I finally started receiving them when I mentioned I would be taking the matter further. The responses I received were quite resentful, nor did I believe that their offers were anything near sensible.\n\nAlthough I sure they already knew, I did mention multiple times that if things went south, they could find themselves in a much worst position. In the end, they provided me with a final offer, stating that any further correspondence would be forwarded to their lawyer.\n\nDespite being their best offer, I still couldn\u2019t find it reasonable and now after a month\u2019s time going back and forth, messing me around, I lost my patience with them and began the legal proceedings.\n\nThey have now caught wind of this as have attempted to reopen our discussion again, wanting me to cancel the proceedings, matching my lowest offer, now in a slightly more friendly tone. At this point, I\u2019m no longer interested and want to continue this for two core reasons;\n\n* I feel that they could repeat this event to someone else in the future and I\u2019d like to be some form of incentive to prevent them from trying it again.\n\n* Although I\u2019d like my money returned to me, it\u2019s not really a huge deal to me anymore and I\u2019m more motivated by the fact knowing that they\u2019ll be facing bigger consequences going forward.\n\nAm I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IAPrnxZdkSBHy3TEVsdCKIDXZTBt26kx", "post_id": "ap9qx5", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Got rid of bff of 9 years.", "text": "Ok so I'm on the phone and I'm not on here often so sorry if the spellings or layout is shitty. \nI'm very awkward at starting off stories but here we go.\nI had a best friend for 9 years. We'll call him J. Now J was my only friend in school and out of school for years. I wasn't a social person and preferred to stay indoors. J didn't have many friends either so we did most things together. However, he used to hit me, lie to me, was mean to someone who became my friend a little while later -who I no longer see-. But when I said I no longer wanted to be his friend the teachers would make me be his friend or he would guilt trip me. I met him in reception. -Reception is preschool for anyone who doesn't live in Uk- and we were friends till year 8. -7th Grade-\nI liked him less and less as we got older. I saw him hit his dog multiple times even bite it at some points and then J would complain to me when his dog acted vicious. \nJ hit other people like his sister. His sister was really small for her age and had a problem with her eyes. However all she did was things younger sister's do. Annoying sure but she never deserved to be hurt. \nJ also guilt tripped people, lied about suicide attempts and cutting. He called me names like \"slut\" Or \"stupid\" etc. But I felt bad when I stopped being his friend. He even went to my gf to get her to get me to unblock him. \nI felt bad because I knew he doesn't have many other friends and he gets picked on for being gay or trans. But I struggle to believe what he says because of how many times he's lied. \nSo I don't know.. am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hhLSDO0l03Vo1HCQB204u9FzPRWo4qNe", "post_id": "adan2t", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend?", "text": "It must feel to her like it's out of the blue, we met at uni and were dating about 2 years but graduated 6 months ago. I walked into a job I had lined up in London, she went to her home town and got a temporary position in a supermarket. Initially our plan was that she stays at home for a couple of months to pass her driving test and then moves to London and we both have jobs and separate apartments in London. Then as it slowly became 6 months not the planned 2 the plan morphs to become the same apartment in London, then it became only me with a job and her contributing from her substantial inheritance while she looks for that perfect job. \n\nAnd one day recently I just decided that I don't want that. I actually want to be dating someone who is an independent woman not a stay at home girlfriend  who has a top degree but doesn't know what she wants in life. As far as contributing financially, I'm hugely sceptical - for our entire uni career she never touched that money, I'd invite her on dates (the rule I work by is one person invites the other, gets to choose the place and then pays, I find this is a good way to feel like one of you is treating the other but also gets to budget it by choosing a venue), but she'd never invite me, I'd invite her to the movies, to shows, night in with take out and a film, buy random gifts etc, but I don't feel like it was even closely matched by her wanting to do things with me. Partly because she didn't want to to dip into that fund and had no other money. But honestly it's not about the money, everything we ever did, we did because I suggested it, even our conversation felt like a constant stream of me trying to be funny and witty and her laughing along, or me discussing a film we watched and trying to analyse why it was amazing/awful and her agreeing. I genuinely still don't know what her dissertation was about because it's \"hard to explain\".\n\nSo there I was with this girl who is very sweet, very pretty but I just feel like I get basically nothing from this relationship. Its not bad just empty, like playing ping-pong with the table up so you play against your self. It's pretty fun for a long time if you like ping-pong, but eventually you want someone to challenge you. And teach you something.\n\nSo now I'm worried I've broken some poor girls heart (she's very upset) all because I think that sometimes I also deserve to be treated like a princess. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bmVt6QRvcnmYpMCIXPiVSD7kq1Lk7lIA", "post_id": "b40dxa", "action": {"description": "giving my roommate a taste of his own medicine", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for giving my roommate a taste of his own medicine?", "text": "Okay so I stay in a one room dorm with two other guys. For the most part, we are really good friends and hang out all the time, it's just that living with each other in such close space has it's ups and downs. \n\nOur first semester, I got away with only one class before 10 once a week and I didn't have a job. They both had to get up early. While they were up they would turn on one of the lights to get ready by, talk to each other, and even use a hair dryer. I usually got woken up for a few minuets, burried my head, and went back to sleep. \n\nNow second semester, I have a job and a.m classes. I get up about 6:30-7 every day, most days I am out of the dorm before they wake up. One day a week I cross over with one of them. I figured, since turning the light on, and making noise was okay for them, it would be okay for me, right? Wrong. I am not purposefully loud at all, I try to be pretty far away from a fucking hair dryer. I only turn the light on when needed, otherwise I use my flashlight. \n\nNow one in particular is mad at me because he says I make to much noise and the light is to bright when they did it every fucking day even after I asked them not to. On the day when I had cross over with my other roommate (this morning) him and I talked quietly a little, and my roommate said it was completely innappropriate and we were rude as fuck.\n\nI feel like if they were even worse every single day last semester even when I asked them to just do their hair in the bathroom, me making as little noise as possible and following an even kinder version of rules than the ones they set is perfectly acceptable, and my roommate is just being way to sensitive.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0Y6NhBjJAuRGBsM3GxIH0ux72YeqedKl", "post_id": "apxz1s", "action": {"description": "telling my mother and boyfriend off for worrying about me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mother and boyfriend off for worrying about me?", "text": "I was diagnosed with leukemia in December and it's been quite rough. I have just begun treatment and I'm trying to graduate at the same time. It has been very stressful but I have tried to keep it together and be positive. Being posititive has been the hardest part and that leads to fights between me and those who are closest to me.\n\nMy mother is constantly on my case about my diet and doctors visits. She is always telling me what I should eat (including alternative medicine) and giving me books about cancer. I have no interest in changing my diet and adding anything because I have just started my treatment and my doctors don't recommend anything else (like curcumin which my mother insisted I take as pills).\n\nToday, after a routine doctors appointment, my mother asked if I told the doctor that I have been feeling bad lately. I told her no, I was starving and just wanted to get out of there. She was telling me that I should have told him that and that maybe he could have given me something. Since I have complained to my doctor previously and he has told me that it's normal and the pills are working, I didn't think he could do anything. I was quite stressed already and told my mom not to get on my nerves and she hung up.\n\nSame thing happened when my boyfriend asked about the doctors appointment. He told me that I should have told him about how bad I have been feeling. He took it to next level and said hurtful things about me. That why do I even go to the doctor if I'm just going to sit there quietly (I go there every week to get my blood drawn and checked) and made me feel useless. We got into a huge fight because I am really stressed and couldn't hold my temper. I was feeling like nobody really cares about my well-being and they just want me to lie so they don't have to worry. My boyfriend even told me that I should have lied to him about talking to the doctor so that we could have avoided the fight. \n\nI know that they are worrying but they are just adding to my stress and I couldn't take it anymore. Am I a bad person for it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jp1wNbTgS4B7xkDRVaJCGZrHLdRgOz8c", "post_id": "ap2vyv", "action": {"description": "trying to save money for valentine's day", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to save money for valentine's day?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have decided that we would spend valentine's day on February 18th as our schedules are extremely busy. She works at a flowers shop that is non stop during valentines, and I work full time while attending uni full time.\nLast year I surprised her at her shop with some treats during her valentines day shift, but this year, I have 2 major exams the following day and work the graveyard shift prior.\n\nI stated to a mutual friend that because of our late celebration, I'd be saving money on our date and gifts as prices for valentine's day items will substantially drop in price the day after. On top of that, the flower shops will also drop prices for roses. (Yes she works at a flower shop but still loves to receive them.) This mutual friend has now told my girlfriend that I am  purposely prolonging valentine's day so I won't have to spend money on her. \n\nI am now currently trying to justify my pov as to why I stated my money saving ideas while trying to tiptoe around hurting her verbally. Moral of the story: fuck valentine's day. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FVYBPFSSLGk8KmYclqmGfoPVMiMRdDqz", "post_id": "b5jlo5", "action": {"description": "cutting ties with GF (now ex) of several years for my own wellbeing", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting ties with GF (now ex) of several years for my own wellbeing?", "text": "I'll give the short synopsis of what's up:\n\nBeen together for a few years. Moved in together quickly.  Did everything for her, including all cooking and cleaning to the point that she got dependent.\n\nI stopped seeing my friends because she couldnt deal with us \"not spending time together.\"  She said if I loved her I shouldn't want to be apart.\n\nI just didnt want her to feel hurt. I felt like it was my job to make her happy and take care of her. I completely ignored my own needs.\n\nBreaking point was she came home one day out of the blue and said she was attracted to someone else, that we needed a break, but she didn't want to break up or for me to move out.\n\nThat broke me. I packed my shit and was out.\n\nSince then shes been freaking out, accusing me of hurting her mental health, of not being a good boyfriend. I finally told her flat out, this isn't a break because you aren't going to change.\n\nShe tried to call me in the middle of the night and sent me messages begging me to pick up.\n\nI haven't spoken to her since then. I feel so worried that I'm hurting her. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gKceVHWJ1wk9nFNmMfQdZo3XYCvL7l8V", "post_id": "altkkt", "action": {"description": "calling my girlfriend's sister out on her hypocrisy", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling my girlfriend's sister out on her hypocrisy?", "text": "Background: Both my girlfriend I 16 16, we started dating a little under a year ago. She has two sisters, one is 15, the other is 13(?). Her father is in the picture, but only superficially (he doesn't really do anything when it comes to parenting or care), the youngest sister has multiple learning disabilities that've been untreated (not going to go in depth for a multitude of reasons), same thing with my girlfriend and the middle sister. Her mother is the one who handles pretty much everything, and her mother (my girlfriend's grandmother) helps whenever there's a need.  \n\n\nStory: The middle sister has been very much a trouble child. She has yelled, pushed, and hit both her mother and my girlfriend, the youngest is not included in this, and the middle sister is scared of her father. She (the middle sister) has berated my girlfriend multiple times to the point of curling into the fetal position and has also physically fought with her too. She doesn't put in any effort with her classes (she's in 8th grade, don't want to go into depth for legal/length of post reasons), and has been doing this for a couple years. She has caused my girlfriend a great deal of trauma, to the point that she's afraid of going to a psychologist or psychiatrist because she thinks she'll be put into an institution for what she says. The reason I know all of this is because her mother treats me like a peer, rather than her daughter's girlfriend (which is something that concerns me to a decent degree). She has lied about minuscule and important things directly to her parents', her sisters', and my face. Her lies usually deflect blame on any negative events involving her to her family and random events.  \n\n\nMy question: Do I stand up for my girlfriend and her mother? I'm not blood related, and I'm only 16, and it seems out of place to call her out as I'm not truly related to her. However, I think that this is an exception to that rule.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ot9hZd4xCheYLxhbfOV3U3yAkN2JL0wo", "post_id": "avq8g5", "action": {"description": "cutting off one of my best friends when she needs me most", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for cutting off one of my best friends when she needs me most?", "text": "Now, the title sounds like the basic \"this friendship is toxic\" sob story, but theres a little more to it, so I'm gonna make this short and to the point. On mobile so sorry for any formatting issues.\n\nSo my best friend (known now as \"K\") and I dance together and the group is so close, we are basically sisters. Me and K have a duet so we are a little bit closer, we have also been best friends since we were 8 and 9 ( I am a year older than her) \n\nSo K started grade 9 this year (I know, a yute, shes 14) and shes changed for the worse. She used to be chipper, and upbeat, had very religious beliefs and an overall classic \"good kid\". Now, shes hanging out with the wrong crowd that peer pressured her into drinking, and drugs(weed and crack), and sex, and shes always moody and doesnt take anything seriously anymore. Shes also failing 3 classes\n\nI know people change but I dont like my friend has become. Everyone knows her as the drugged out slut. I love her obviously, but she wont listen to me when I tell her she cant keep doing this and going down this path. I've been telling her all year, and so has my whole dance group, and it's only gotten worse. I think if I back off and stop being friends with her she'll realize the mistake she made on her own, and hopefully get back on her feet. \n\nI need to know if I would be an ass to stop being friends with her when she needs alot of good influences around her right now. So, WIBTA? \n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vWjKBGR92QEjOna6yzApEKBpfjvG9jG5", "post_id": "ajxc4c", "action": {"description": "defending people seeing Spider-Verse for John Mulaney and then hiding from the backlash", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for defending people seeing Spider-Verse for John Mulaney and then hiding from the backlash?", "text": " I'm the-dracologist in [this exchange on Tumblr](https://kwitehilarious.tumblr.com/post/182306910856/tumblr-go-see-into-the-spider-verse-for-miles) (I can't link to my own version because I've hidden my blog to avoid the backlash). The gist of it is that I found a post by someone called thotvengers saying it was racist to see Into the Spider-Verse for anything except Miles Morales. Someone had already added a meme to the post telling thotvengers to chill, so I added to the chain by throwing in my two cents. I said that there is no wrong reason to like a good movie.\n\nOne of thotvengers' friends asked them if they could drag me for what I said and thotvengers said something along the lines of \"Go ahead; I want to do it too\". I felt ganged up on and was scared that I might become the target of the next Tumblr witch hunt, so I decided to flee that situation. Deleting a Tumblr post does basically nothing so, I hid my blog, blocked thotvengers and their supporters, turned off anons, and closed my DMs.\n\n​\n\nAfter seeing such intense backlash, I've started to doubt myself. Am I racist? Is what I said harmful? Am I a coward for running from this situation and not letting them respond to me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LXNb0tiQVTOyCI2fn7ye2iqMC0mY06gN", "post_id": "b56sl5", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend of two years because she's decided to abstain due to her parents finding out", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA for breaking up with my girlfriend of two years because she's decided to abstain due to her parents finding out", "text": "So I'm a bit lost at the moment.\n\nMe and my girlfriend have had a great relationship over the past two years and I've made a lot of great memories but she's religious and I'm not. I've always respected her views, went to classes and church occasionally but I don't think I ever see myself changing. \n\nRecently though (yesterday) her parents have found out that we've been having sex after all this time and have spoken with her and she's decided to abstain. We met up yesterday to talk about it and I stupidly said that I would to try work things out but in reality and with more time thinking about it I can't see it working in the long run. Plus I don't feel that we would be getting married anytime soon.\n\nIt seems like such a crazy thing to break up over, but sex is an important part of a relationship and it's not something I'm willing to wait out so I guess we're not compatible. I feel like such an dickhead to break up with her because of this but I don't want to string her along for the next few months, get no sex. Then make the breakup worse because we might fight over this and shes thinking that it could work out.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mA1zfADojgaYqjI6qbXhfKwePmQ5URXe", "post_id": "ap5vqs", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to church with my family, despite me moving soon", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to church with my family, despite me moving soon?", "text": "I feel like this is a common one that a lot of people go through. I was always forced from a young age to go to church with my family. At first, around the ages of 4-13, I really didn't mind, I even enjoyed going. After a while, though I started to feel like it was just a waste of my time. At around 14 I told my parents I didn't really want to go to church anymore, I was not enjoying it and a lot of stuff happened inside of the youth program that even looking back now was pretty messed up. They said that I was a kid and I could make my own decisions when I'm 18 and an adult, but until then I had to go, it was not a choice. Of course, I didn't like this answer and we had multiple arguments about it for the next few years almost every Sunday. Them forcing me to go only drove me further away from the church as well as themselves. I am 19 now and now have some say over if I go to church with them or not (it seems like a 50/50 shot). problem is when they do let me stay home, it's not without a solid guilt-tripping. Most of which is along the lines of \"I'm not going to have you forever, come spend time with me.\" I usually tell my parents that I'm 100% willing to spend time with them, I would just really prefer if it was not at the church. I do actually plan on moving across the country soon as well, so, me spending time with my family right now is pretty important to both of us. I should also mention that roughly half of the time I do go to church just to spend time with them, I just don't want to go every week.   \n\n\nI feel like a compromise between us would be the best thing to work this out, but I want to know..\n\n**AMTA** for not wanting to go with my family even though I'm moving soon? Are my parents the assholes for guilt-tripping me for staying home? Or do they have a valid point because I am leaving soon?   \n\n\n(sorry if this was a mess of a post, first time posting something like this on Reddit)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "agM5FQbMXRVF8MhSelSRmvBT7N8Erzbr", "post_id": "am4z3d", "action": {"description": "being annoyed when my bf takes forever to text back", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed when my bf takes forever to text back?", "text": "If he\u2019s in a good mood, he\u2019ll reply immediately. he isnt one of these people who doesnt check their phone regularly, sound notifications are on and even when he\u2019s at work he normally replies within an hour. but when he\u2019s in a bad mood, he will take 12-16 hours to reply, or sometimes doesnt reply at all, even if it\u2019s a direct question. \n\na couple of times, he has ignored my calls and texts for an entire week, then called me back and said \u201csorry i\u2019ve been really busy with work\u201d - yet later admits to procrastinating a lot. I can see he has either read the message or is online every five mins yet just ignores me. I dont think i do anything to deserve this, at least he has never told me \u201ci was annoyed at you because of...\u201d he just says oh no there\u2019s nothing wrong i\u2019ve just been busy...but there is obviously something on his mind. \n\ni\u2019m really getting fed up of these periods of little to no contact, and i dont know how to handle it. i\u2019ve tried outright asking him why he does it; what\u2019s bothering him; i\u2019ve tried giving him plenty of space but it\u2019s exhausting and it fucking hurts. being needy just makes it worse, my automatic response when i sense him avoiding me is to try harder but i can tell this makes it worse so i try not to do that. \n\nif we were casually dating this wouldnt bother me but we have been serious for 8 months and i am really fed up of the sudden hot/cold fluctuations, it makes me feel like an idiot and all my friends think im stupid for not breaking up with him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XW2ivGQmEJCuvoGUPKETiWwHg2H0Zrl1", "post_id": "a4t6wq", "action": {"description": "wanting to tell my ex's new boyfriend she's cheated on him", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to tell my ex's new boyfriend she's cheated on him?", "text": "Simple enough, but I'll tell the full story if you want to hear it. I'm so incredibly torn on this and can't figure out what to do or whether or not I would be an asshole for potentially destroying a relationship and this poor guy's trust issues forever.\n\n​\n\nShort version, I have one hundred percent certainty that my ex has cheated on her new long term boyfriend. She was incredibly unfaithful to me, and the boyfriend before me, and the list goes on. Her new boyfriend lives in the apartment above me, and I listen to them have sex every night.\n\n​\n\nLong version: I am currently a fifth year in college. My sophomore year, a freshman girl and I started dating. The start of the relationship was suspicious in itself because she had been dating a guy for two years and then started \"seeing\" me without telling me that she had a boyfriend. I found out about two weeks into us regularly hanging out and her taking me to a concert with tickets she won. She broke up with him and we started dating.\n\n​\n\nCut to about a year in, and I go abroad for two months and I start to notice some issues. She stops responding to my texts, starts giving me one word replies. I start to worry a bit, but I'm so hopelessly in love with this girl at this point that I just find every excuse to say things are okay.\n\n​\n\nI come back from abroad and I notice things are very different. She talks constantly about different guys she's friends with, and things build and build and build until one day I walk in to her room (i had a key to her apartment since I came over all the time) and see her laying in bed cuddling with another guy. They weren't making out or having sex or anything, but still, cuddling. He leaves, and she pours her heart out to me telling me how much she loves me. I convince myself it's okay. \n\n​\n\nTwo weeks later, We're about to go to bed at her place, she puts her phone down on her desk and I see that she has sent a text to the same guy saying \"goodnight, I love you.\" full stop. Same thing happens, she loves me and only me, I convince myself things are okay, we move on.\n\n​\n\nSomething similar happens with FIVE DIFFERENT GUYS. FIVE. I shouldve broken it off after the first, but like I said, i was so emotionally dependent on this girl that my mind did so many gymnastics to convince myself that things were okay.\n\n​\n\nEventually, after a year of this, she breaks up with me. About a month later, she starts dating one of the guys she was telling me not to worry about. This was back in October of last year. She went abroad herself in March of this year.\n\n​\n\nAbout a month ago, an acquaintance of mine that went abroad with her who was good friends with her says he wants to talk to me because he needs to vent about something and didn't know who else to go to. So I see him and he tells me everything. That they used to be friends but he's seen how selfish and immature a person she is and he couldn't stand to be around her. That she was in this relationship with this boy the entire time yet she wouldn't stop talking about how she was convinced her project partner liked her or this other guy or this other guy. Then he drops on me that while they were at a club, he saw her making out with a random guy on the dance floor. He went up to them and broke them apart and dragged her out of the club. The first thing she said to him was \"tonight didn't happen.\" This guy has absolutely no reason to be lying, and I know him to be a very honest and trustworthy person, so even though I might be biased, I can assure you that I trust him 100%, and if he said she's done this, I'm pretty confident she has.\n\n​\n\nThe next day, she had that same friend take a picture of her next to a sign that said \"LOVE\" and SENT IT TO THE BOYFRIEND. The fucking day after she cheated on him.\n\n​\n\nShe's now back and her and I are both in our senior year, while her now sophomore boyfriend lives on the floor above me. We're not friends by any means, but he's such a nice guy, and, in my humble but biased opinion, he deserves much better than her. But, meanwhile, she sleeps over his place, directly above the room I asked her out in three years ago, and I get to listen to them fucking, EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT. I'm currently typing this at 1am because I can't focus on my homework over the sound of the thumping.\n\n​\n\nI want to tell him everything. Everything she did to me, everything she did to the previous guys, and everything she's done to him. I want him to know so that he doesn't make the same mistake that I did. Would I be justified in calling him down sometime and telling him everything, or am I just acting on impulse? This has been wracking my brain for months and any guidance would really help.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lu5oDj6OHpdZzXlOI0sHY8aCWgExHtEG", "post_id": "a714r5", "action": {"description": "moving on after being an abuser", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA for moving on after being an abuser", "text": "I have had 3 serious girlfriends, now 4. My first relationship was in college and that ended when I went to grad school. I cheated on my grad school girlfriend with my ex. I cheated on my grad school girlfriend with a lot of people. I wasn't ready to be tied down. When she broke up with me, I tried to get her back in any way I could. She says now that this was stalking. I held her down one time and she says that I choked her but I don't remember these things so clearly. I do not think she's lying, I just don't remember how everything went down. That was a very hard break up for me and I didn't date anyone seriously for a long time after that. I was definitely an asshole to other women but nothing too serious. Then I met my third girlfriend. I was an asshole to her at first and I cheated on her but she stuck up for herself and I quickly fell in love with her. We were quite a match made in heaven. But she never seemed to fully trust me. She had very bad anxiety attacks being with me. At first, I started just holding her down but then it became more physical. I ended up bruising her multiple times and then hitting her in her face giving her a black and blue eye. I wanted the relationship to end. When she finally was leaving, a lightbulb turned on in my head and I realized how awful I was treating her. I begged for her back. She took me back but she never could forgive me. She kept breaking up with me and getting back together. I think she became abusive towards me. She became more and more unstable. I still think she is the one that brought out the worst in me. I went to anger management, I'm better now and she finally broke up with me. A week later, I met someone else and we started a relationship. I had pretty much checked out of the old relationship so it's not like I've moved on too fast.\n\nAnyways, I'm doing better in this new relationship. I feel calmer and better and I've learned a lot from my past. I feel bad for how badly I've treated those two girlfriends in my past but I can't be living in the past forever. I've learned and I've grown. I'm sorry they're still hurting. My grad school girlfriend has written articles about abuse and trauma since she's a psychology professor now. She's blocked me from everything. My recent ex, I don't know much about her because she's essentially hidden from me. I tried to contact her to check in on her but she blocked those advances as well. Look, I know what I've done is wrong. I feel guilty about it every single day but I feel better where I am in my life and idk if I'm an asshole for being okay with who I am after everything that I've done.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5TUzrA4Kl6erl0cV32Sq1r7Anx0lciz5", "post_id": "a9we1p", "action": {"description": "telling an acquaintance that I know his girlfriend is cheating on him and doesn't even consider them in a relationship anymore", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA If I tell an acquaintance that I know his girlfriend is cheating on him and doesn't even consider them in a relationship anymore?", "text": "So my girlfriend is the real friend of both parties and I know them by proxy. F is cheating on M on the basis that he just hasn't been very communicative to her or meeting her needs recently. Whatever, I couldn't care less on passing judgement. The problem is I have no ill will toward M and it just feels cruel of me to know he's having his time wasted with this girl. We've spoken to F about being open and honest to M but she always has an excuse; \"I want to do it in person.\" \"It's too close to the holidays.\" \"I knew we wouldn't have a lot of time together and I didn't want to tell him and just leave.\" It's been about 2 months where she's going around like she isn't in a relationship while he thinks everything is fine. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "euz1qb053hDiUgut1AKCurz0pAtftGgg", "post_id": "a8ver9", "action": {"description": "telling people about my breakup", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling people about my breakup", "text": "So a little while ago I had this girlfriend (we\u2019re both 16), and she decided to get really flirty with my friends to the point where she\u2019s asking for their dick sizes for \u201cpreparation\u201d. She never talked to me like that and I was pretty miffed because she started getting all over them. \n\n\nAnyway, we become distant, and then she texts me telling me she\u2019s breaking up with me because there\u2019s \u201cvibes\u201d and she doesn\u2019t even mention the shit she\u2019s done. So the next day people ask how the relationship\u2019s going and I told them it\u2019s over. They ask why and I tell them \u201cShe broke up with me because she liked other guys rather than me and she didn\u2019t even have the dignity to tell it to my face\u201d\n\nShe hears this from other people the next day and starts losing her shit and torments me about how much of a shit boyfriend I was and that I have a small dick (which I never showed to her and never had a directly visible erection, and some people that saw us when we went on dates said I seemed really caring for her all the time) and says that I\u2019ve made her life really shit because some of the boys that she isn\u2019t sucking off are giving her a little bit of shit about it, which I\u2019ve told them to stop. I\u2019m wondering if I\u2019m the asshole here because it\u2019s to the point where she says I made her depressed because I stated a harsh truth that she found hard to digest.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QWdZXXfbO9sW5UfvBS1vT6izT5ZfuIiu", "post_id": "akznuy", "action": {"description": "choosing my girlfriend over my parents", "pronormative_score": 95, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for choosing my girlfriend over my parents?", "text": "I [18 F] had been seeing my girlfriend for about a year in secret, because my parents had always been pretty homophobic. She\u2019s brought a lot of happiness and purpose into my life, and I\u2019m extremely grateful for her. However seeing her is difficult since she lives an hour drive away from me, and I still have a strict curfew. \nTwo days before my 18th birthday, I decided the amount of lies I had been building around my life to my parents was becoming too stressful of a burden on me, and I finally told them everything. Obviously, they reacted badly. They were angry that I had been lying to them for this long, and saw the whole thing as some taboo love affair. They don\u2019t really believe I\u2019m gay, and think it\u2019s some weird phase that will pass. I tried telling just my mom and begged her not to say anything to my dad, but of course she did anyways. He has been the worst in the situation. Telling me that as a lesbian I was going to live a sad and empty life, and that I\u2019m still too young to have things figured out. \nThey both decided to give me an ultimatum, either forget that the girlfriend ever happened and continue on as usual, or leave and destroy my family. I\u2019ve always felt some resentment towards my family, and have expressed wanting to leave home many times, but it kills me seeing them hurt by this. I know that they love me, and I love them. If I were to leave, I\u2019d stay with my girlfriend\u2019s family, they are very kind to me and have always offered to help me out in rough times. Moving in with them would be difficult as I would probably have to drop the classes I was taking a community college (they weren\u2019t for a degree or anything, just for fun) and maybe quit my job since the commute would be a strain. But, if I stay at home, and never see my gf again, I feel that I will be deeply unhappy. I don\u2019t want to hurt my parents, but I can\u2019t figure out what the right thing to do is, and whether living with my gf\u2019s family will help me find some happiness.\nAlso, I\u2019m currently in DEP for the Navy, meaning that I have a contract but am still waiting to ship out. I am supposed to leave in July, but I have the option to go earlier since I graduated high school early and just need to submit my transcripts. I am seriously considering moving up my ship date if I am to stay with my gf, to avoid becoming too much of a financial burden. I am pretty self sufficient however, I pay for almost all of my own expenses, and can continue to do this. Despite all of this, I can\u2019t just ditch my family with clear conscious, and they have put a lot of shame and guilt for doing so, emphasizing how much pain I bring them.\nWhat do I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 93, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 95, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nE0S4yiuXjqKT6EzF2UvbP6EQ6h7FBsB", "post_id": "aw3gd6", "action": {"description": "not being in the mood for sex with my partner", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being in the mood for sex with my partner?", "text": "*Sexual content*\n\nI am going through a really tough time now, financial, studies, family, everything. When I feel stressed out, I do not want to be touched especially sexually.\n\nHowever, my boyfriend has a really high sex drive, and I feel the need to keep him happy. I ended up hurting myself last week because I tried to get into the mood for sex even though I did not want to, for the sake of pleasing my boyfriend. The pain after that was excruciating. I feel so pressured because he likes touching me sexually like my breasts,butt but then he denies that its sexually and that he's trying to be \"close with me.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5KGbgemQvqwUtE2Yzux8WPmy0Rd6n4oP", "post_id": "b9vpvk", "action": {"description": "despising one of my best friends because she got into law school", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for despising one of my best friends because she got into law school?", "text": "Initially, I know the title reads as me being the asshole, but I don\u2019t know what to do.\n\nMy best friend of almost 10 years has been in law school for about a year. I also want to go to law school once I graduate after taking a few years off to work, but she went directly into law school from undergrad. \n\nAs soon as she even started studying for the LSAT she would always rant to me about how hard it was. To make it worse, I go to a college across the country from where she currently lives, so most of our interactions are on Snapchat or phone calls. In the beginning, she would snapchat herself studying for the LSAT and preparing her applications to law school all the time. I supported her through it but once she actually got in to law school, it got worse.\n\nLiterally 90% of her Instagram posts are about law school. She\u2019ll post to her story about eating cheese and caption it something like \u201ccheese > law school\u201d. Her captions always have to mention law school to the point where it\u2019s driving me nuts, because every time we actually do talk on the phone about my law school plans, she\u2019ll say something condescending like: \u201care you sure you want to do it? It\u2019s so hard. Please don\u2019t do it.\u201d\n\nNot only did I support her and continue to deal with her law school life 24/7, but I would expect her to at least reciprocate the same for me. I went to a top university for undergrad and she went to a state school (where she also happens to attend law school). Not like it matters, but saying \u201cit\u2019s so hard, don\u2019t go to law school\u201d feels like she\u2019s telling me I can\u2019t do it, even though I made it to an incredible university and have been working my ass off while studying so I can get those extracurriculars in. \n\nNow I\u2019m literally triggered every time she posts about law school on Instagram or sends me a Snapchat of her \u201cgiving her first law school presentation\u201d or \u201cgetting an A on her law paper!\u201d I\u2019ve supported her but now I\u2019m just kind of tired and feel like I\u2019m faking my excitement for her because she\u2019s overdone it at this point. All she ever talks about is law school and I understand that it\u2019s a huge achievement and big part of her life and she deserves bragging rights, but it\u2019s gotten to the point where it\u2019s just ridiculous.\n\nTLDR; my best friend got into law school and will not stop posting about it or telling me about it. Even though I\u2019ve supported her throughout the process, she knows I want to go to law school too and constantly tells me to avoid it or not to go. It feels condescending and I feel like she thinks I couldn\u2019t handle it but she can.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2c9oQCNauMFxXQ4qftK4vxEu3BVgQTAV", "post_id": "ats5ny", "action": {"description": "asking my friend to relax and take it easy", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my friend to relax and take it easy?", "text": "So my friend and I are at uni together and recently she's been doing things that has been really bugging me. The other day we were having a debate and she suddenly tells me she doesn't want to deal with it anymore and I should shut up and drop the subject, completely shutting me down.\n\nThen later we were in a class me, her and some new friends (people I know and she doesn't). I introduce her and sit down. During a discussion i say something funny which gets a decent reaction, but she suddenly exclaims \"why do you have to always try to be funny?\"\n\nSo naturally I'm already a bit annoyed with her but I shake it off cause i'm naturally very thick skinned and little things like this don't bother me.\n\nHowever a couple days later she texts me about this very trivial dilemma (whether or not she should swap places with someone for a presentation cause her professor asked her as a favor). She was acting like it was a life or death decision and kept giving all these pointless pros and cons like what if the examiners are tired at the end of the day, etc. Since I was already a irritated and i didn't wanna deal I just said, \"it's really not that big a deal, flip a coin if you can't make up your mind\".\n\nShe snaps back at me and says, \"it may not be a big deal to you but it obviously is to me. You can't just dismiss my problems when all I wanted was an outsider's opinion\".\n\nI didn't want to deal with an argument so I just gave her options and told her to let me know what she decides. Since then we've both been a bit cold towards her. I don't know if i should apologize or should be expecting an apology. So tell help me out, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9mITxsszQDL4mRNb5yL1uEQivYcuyi5Y", "post_id": "b30zd5", "action": {"description": "watching bodies in the morgue", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for watching bodies in the morgue?", "text": "My grandmother is a pathologist with a pretty important position in a morgue. By pretty important position I mean she\u2019s a chief of the whole place. \n\n\nIn short, I wasn\u2019t blessed with skills to become a pathologist even though it was my dream since I was like 10 (I\u2019m 22 now)\n\n\nBuuuuut since my grandma is one she routinely allows me to go to the morgue with her and look at the bodies/watch post-mortem sections/observe pathologist work such as making samples out of dead organs/tumors etc.\n\n\nIt is extremely interesting to me - not only on the medical side of things (although cutting a 3kg tumor was highlight of my life probably), but also on more spiritual level as I\u2019m deeply interested in all things death. \n\n\nNo, I\u2019m not a psychopath. I\u2019m simply fascinated by death, I think that a lot of people are.\n\n\nEither way, by watching the bodies I mean that my grandma will allow me to go to the \u201efreezer\u201d with her and then open the body bag and look at the body.\n\n\n I don\u2019t do the opening or touching of any kind, she does, I just watch and she explains to me how someone died, what is an indication of that on the body etc. Mostly it\u2019s causes like surgery gone wrong or something since the morgue is part of our local hospital. \n\n\nAnyway, I shared that info with some colleagues the other day and some of them were super excited and asked me a lot of questions but a lot of people were weirded out and said it\u2019s an extremely disrespectful, \u201eassholish\u201d things to do and then I shouldn\u2019t be talking about it openly. \n\n\nI don\u2019t see how interest in the scientific side of death is a sign of being an asshole, but now I\u2019m kinda wondering if I\u2019m doing something ethically wrong.\n\n\nSo, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1UMcy17Q5PjVznAFquYtdpl1t0XVbb7p", "post_id": "a1rr3o", "action": {"description": "refusing to fix my parents' tech problems", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for refusing to fix my parents' tech problems?", "text": "This actually happened last year, but I want an outside opinion on the situation.\n\nFirst, a bit of background. Since I was young my tech illiterate parents always came to me for IT support for very basic things. This got even worse when I got a GCSE in IT, so I always had to fix problems, no matter how easy or basic. This included:\n\n\u2022 Pressing reset on the router\n\n\u2022 Plugging the ethernet cable back into the TV when it came out\n\n\u2022 Finding files on their computer\n\n\u2022 Deleting Facebook posts and other showing them how to work the site, despite not using it myself\n\n\u2022 Installing apps on their phones\n\n\u2022 Attaching files to emails\n\n\u2022 Setting up every new device in the house (printers, laptops, TVs, etc)\n\nI had to do all of this and more multiple times as my parents refused to learn how to do basic IT tasks themselves. Every time I had to reset the router or save a word document I would say something along the lines of \"You should really do this yourself\" to which they would reply with \"Why? We have you to do it\". \n\nLast year I decided to stop. My Mum came to me with something basic I'd had to do several times before and I told her to do it herself or get my brother to help (he pretends to be tech illiterate to get out of this sort of stuff). Then she  got upset and started saying how we were a family and should help each other, to which I said you shouldn't need help with this, you've been using this stuff for years. My Mum was off with me for a while and basically guilt tripped me into helping again and said something along the lines of \"we provide everything for you so you should help us with this\".\n\nAs of today I still have to help with phone and computer problems, although they have gotten slightly more independent, but still \"need\" my \"skills\". Next year I will be (hopefully) going to university several hours away and I know they'll still try to get me to fix their minor problems, making me wonder if I shouldn't have given in.\n\nI have no other issues with my family, but this really did and still does annoy me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "42LfK0CiAOZeLpboU87QMoLeDDDYXuUp", "post_id": "akjmnv", "action": {"description": "cutting of a friend of ten years", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting of a friend of ten years?", "text": "For ten years, \"A\" and I were pretty much best friends. We'd roomed together in college, hung out all the time, and talked just about every day.\n\nOver the years I began to notice that she had some not so great tendencies. She was diagnosed with adult ADHD and as such was forgetful, and often times a little... gross (she hates bathing and works a very messy job). I know I am not perfect, I, myself have OCD and struggle to keep it under control at times. We both left school at the same time, her to be closer to home, me to get my health and finances in order.\n\nThere's a history of her being super inconsiderate about my material stuff and not respecting my time. When she came to visit me at home, where I lived with my parents while I tried to save to go back to school and move out, she would probably break something once a visit. I worked a minimum wage job and had to pay rent, my food bill, and a portion of the utilities at home. She was paid just under twice what I was, didn't have to pay rent, and was given her car by her mom. When she would visit, she'd do things like jump into my bed and break my box spring, or throw herself into my desk chair and snap off the back of it, or ignore that I asked her to be careful with an electronic and toss it off my bed. I tried to bring these things up to her, but she would shrug it off and say \"they're just things.\" I lost a lot of my pay having to replace what she broke.\n\nThe time thing is worse though. I work three jobs, go to school full time, and have volunteer requirements for my scholarships. But every time we make plans, she's really late. I've been very patient about this, the only thing I ask is for her to let me know when plans change. I have days where I call off work an hour early, or plan a volunteering gig for half a day so I can hang with her. And not only does she get there two hours late, she doesn't let me know. The worst thing is that she then gets mad at other friends for missing the train and being late because she doesn't feel like waiting. She also complains that college is a \"waste of time\" and \"useless,\" despite the fact that after getting my shit together, I went back to school and became a model student and I really care about what I do. I try to explain but she forgets and says she can't help it because ADHD just makes her late.\n\nI must have explained a dozen times why these things bothered me so much, and she refused to listen. But if she got upset I did something and let me know even once, I made *sure* never to do it again. I'm not perfect, but if I caught myself, I apologized and righted the situation. I never had to be told twice.\n\nAnd in the last year or so, there have been two major incidents:\n\nThe first was her going house hunting and inviting me to join the roommate party. I was totally down for this as I live in a dorm rn. As a group we decided our needs. Mine was \"I can't afford more than $400 a month for rent.\" Along with transit, food and utilities, that was as much as I could do. We had a list of places we were looking for, and only one was out of budget--about $600 for each of us. That was the one she chose. She refused to go with our second option that met all our *needs* because she'd have to park at the bottom of a hill, which she didn't *want*. I was devastated--I'd already cancelled my housing contract and had to beg to be let back in. She wouldn't listen when I explained that I was upset. Six months later, my now girlfriend, N, suggested we move in together when we finish school. A got mad at me, and tried to sabotage my friendship with N. Now N makes me really happy. My ex was really jealous all the time, and so having a partner who's very sweet to me and comfortable with our relationship is *great*. But A specifically got jealous that N was \"taking her place\" since A and I were supposed to move in together. But she didn't respect my needs...\n\nThe second is what I can only call her... temper tantrum. Having ADHD, she's forgetful and would ask me to remind her of things. I have a decent memory so if she asks me once, I can remember for months or years. She has the memory of a fly. One of her things was that when she visited, she had to remember to keep her wallet out so she could put her ID away when she was leaving. She was feeling grouchy that day, but as she was packing up, I reminded her to keep her wallet out. She threw her bag on the ground, yelled \"I don't want to get my wallet out!\" and then, no joke, threw herself on the floor and wouldn't move for ten minutes, complaining that she had to do *so much stuff*. I'd asked nothing of her the entire visit. We had snacks, listened to music, and sketched. She'd spent the entire day complaining about her mom not being interested in the same stuff as her. And how it wasn't her fault her parents had money and that didn't mean she had a great life, and her parents pushed her to try activities she didn't like, like basketball camp. (I grew up in a trailer, eating food from food banks. She often complained about how no one understood that she didn't *ask* to be financially comfortable and that people shouldn't judge her on the fact her parents were wealthy enough to own two houses.) Worst of all, when she fell, she broke the closet door of my dorm and refused to help pay because it was an \"accident\". I had to wait for ten minutes while she sat there and complained about how awful life was and she wouldn't move. I was literally trapped in my room.\n\nAfter these incidents, I started to feel really uncomfortable around her. But she kept explaining that it was all because she has ADHD. She doesn't *remember* when I tell her things that upset or hurt me. She can't help that she doesn't get places on time or is heavy handed. She doesn't shower because she gets distracted (which I didn't go into. the OCD kills me because she doesn't wear deodorant because she forgets and she doesn't shower more than twice a week. she works with animals. she sits on literally freshly laundered bedding all the time). It was all because of ADHD. I hesitantly let it go on a few more months.\n\nThen, a couple months ago, we had scheduled a day to get together. Finals were about to hit, it was the year anniversary of my grandfather's death, and I was having a rough time. I explained that it was really important to me that we hang out - I needed to do something fun. She was gonna swing by after a family breakfast, which she scheduled *after* she scheduled our hangout, and we were gonna go to the mall. We were texting through the breakfast and I messaged to confirm the time twice, and then: \"**let me know if plans change**.\" I was volunteering that morning with friends and said goodbye and left early to get changed and ready to hang out. I waited for *two hours* for her to contact me. I texted her three or four times, called a handful of times, and she hadn't responded even once. She called me back at 3:30 and explained \"oh my mom made me late and I didn't let you know because I didn't want to feel bad about it.\"\n\nI stopped talking to her after that. Except for to try to explain why I was upset that she'd done it again--where she ignored everything I said and accused me of having her \"walking on eggshells\" because I would bring up finances when she broke my things or when the rent thing happened. I feel gross about it because we've been friends for a decade. But she just forgot whenever I tried to explain that the things she was doing hurt me.\n\n**Seriously TL;DR**: \"Friend\" of ten years refused to respect my boundaries or comfort zone, caused financial troubles, was never on time, blamed everything on ADHD, and then got mad at me for saying I was upset. \n\nAm I just being insensitive about her disorder, or am I right in feeling used and cutting her off? Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bwP6jj0nESy3VqshIemlw02HvY5wHrce", "post_id": "atccm0", "action": {"description": "not doing chores around the house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not doing chores around the house?", "text": "I'm a teenager right now, and for as long as I can remember I've never had to do chores with any regularity. Sometimes my parents will tell me to dust, fold laundry, etc, but they'll be dissatisfied with the job I do and redo it themselves. I'm interested in learning how to do laundry and cook dinner and stuff, but every time I try my mom stops me and tells me to try another day. They're constantly reminding me of how I don't help out enough around the house but I can't really figure out how I can.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "stO7ZtD7yOIflnwYvdeYWYAfb3YyVubo", "post_id": "aw4oyp", "action": {"description": "not working", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not working?", "text": "My job is really chill and a lot of the time I dont have much work to do. I am really busy outside of work and sometimes take extra long breaks and work on personal things at work. Should I tell my boss I need more work to do? Or is everyone doing this..", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vbyDwzcnNtoyrll691mWJsHhXPP0B0SQ", "post_id": "axrr9y", "action": {"description": "ratting out a cheater on my calc test", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for ratting out a cheater on my calc test.", "text": "I spent nearly 2 days studying for this test. We were taking the test and I noticed the dude next to me was using his phone on the test. He did this on the past test as well. So once I finished I wrote down in the bottom right corner on my test \" snitches are stitches but I studied really hard. The man in the ( described him ) pulled out his phone. \n\nAfter 5 minutes my friends come to tell me that the professor caught him and failed him.\nAm I the asshole for ratting him out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M5gX69JLQ4OKH8DaBYJCt25nWy5ujZrW", "post_id": "9yhrht", "action": {"description": "expecting my oil change appointment to be kept", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for expecting my oil change appointment to be kept?", "text": "I made an appointment to get my oil changed at 9:00am at a nationwide car care center. It didnt get completed until about noon. I asked why it took 3 hours to get an oil change and they said that they had to finish the people ahead of me before they could do mine.\n\nI said \"but i had a 9:00am appointment. I was here at about 8:55 and I expected you to start working on my car around 9:00.\" The guy replied \"thats not how appointments work. An appointment just gets you the next spot in line.\" I replied that this is not how appointments work and if that is how they do business I'll get get my oil changed somewhere else. And this went back and forth a few times with me asking what the purpose of having an appoint is if i just have to get in line like everyone else and him saying that its like that at a doctors office and me saying that he goes to shitty doctors and blah blah blah.\n\nAs he was ringing up my ticket he asked if I would like to apply for their branded credit card. I asked why he would try to offer me a credit card when I had already told him i wouldn't he coming back? He just gave me the keys and told me to get out. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BPIMtaWkeunpOxedL7NyFmY7TC763CoE", "post_id": "apknqm", "action": {"description": "being annoyed that my disabled sister doesn't do anything", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed that my disabled sister doesn\u2019t do anything? (Read for full story)", "text": "So my sister has a few physical and mental disabilities. Nothing too serious, like she\u2019s aware of everything, it\u2019s just that she has a 9th grade learning level and and her JRA is pretty bad. But not all the time \n\n\nAnd this is why i\u2019m making this post. She stays at home all the time during the weekends watching netflix. She only comes downstairs if she\u2019s hungry and she doesn\u2019t even wash her dish (We have a strict \u201cwash your own dishes\u201d policy at our house) and if someone asks her to help with anything, she suddenly has a spitting headache that can only be cured by watching more Riverdale. She doesn\u2019t do anything at all. My family is very religious and my mom makes it a point to go to church every sunday. Except her. She only goes to church on Christmas, Easter and when we sponsor food (Church goes from 9:00 am to 2:00 pm, so people sponsor lunch)\n\nI feel like it\u2019s unfair that one day she\u2019s totally fine to hang out with her bf for 13 hours but the next day she can\u2019t come downstairs to help me and my mom cook for 30 minutes.\n\n\nIt\u2019s really annoying at times, especially when I\u2019m really tired, like after a track workout or after the Good Friday service (Total time of 9 hours of strict prayer) and there are dishes in the sink but she can\u2019t because she\u2019s to \u201ctired\u201d\n\n\nAm I the Asshole for being annoyed at my sister?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 7}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dUIj5PpGg12ig1C847PjQXzlSsjutUFq", "post_id": "9xx0ie", "action": {"description": "not liking somebody, despite having no reason to", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not liking somebody, despite having no reason to?", "text": "There's a girl at school who is, in all honesty, really nice to everybody and is super popular. I just don't like her, I find her quite irritating to be around (for no apparent reason) so I don't initiate conversation but I am never rude to her if chooses to speak to me. My friend thinks I'm an asshole for not liking someone who hasn't done anything wrong and its mean because I talk to others but avoid her, but I think I have a right to avoid whoever I want and I don't need a reason to not like someone, and I'm not an asshole because I haven't actually done anything to her. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K8ot5CpxC6ta2riAcuN8RledInMfDOD0", "post_id": "ak5mhb", "action": {"description": "pointing out to my obese aunt that her day hike to the Hollywood sign wasn't that big of an achievement", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for pointing out to my obese aunt that her day hike to the Hollywood sign wasn\u2019t that big of an achievement?", "text": "Hello AITA...\n\nBackstory: I have an aunt who is only 6 years older than me so in many ways we were raised like brother or sister or cousins. She and I have never gotten along, like ever. So in the last few years she gone form fat to massively obese. She won\u2019t be weighed but she could be 350lbs and I wouldn\u2019t be surprised. She is also on this massive kick that she\u2019s as hot as any other girl, she\u2019s super healthy and she can do anything that everyone else can and she\u2019s fat and proud. That would be awesome if it were true but she lives like a fucking hoarder, she watches thousands of hours of Netflix and rarely leaves her room and always bust my parents data cap and pays no rent. \n\nSo like last weekend miraculously she and her friends did the hike up Mt Lee (to the Hollywood sign in LA). Awesome, I\u2019m glad she did it and I think she wouldn\u2019t be such a miserable person if she got out more. Honestly.\n\nBut we were at a family dinner last night and she was just bragging up a storm about how amazing the hike was and how she\u2019s so experienced now and she was giving people advice on hiking. Mostly I was ignoring her but then my mom said \u201chey you know lib235sgh is training to do the half Ironman in Colorado this year!\u201d \n\nMy absolute idiot aunt just launched into me how \u201cohhhh that\u2019s nice but you aren\u2019t really don\u2019t aerovic work like I do unless you\u2019re going up hill!\u201d I told her I was like yeah but I just ran 10 miles right before dinner. She again said that \u201cyou realize that doesn\u2019t REALLY count right?\u201d \n\nI lost my shit. I told her she went on a day hike that at worst  should take 3 hours and it took she abd her pig friends all day. In fact they didn\u2019t even make it down until after dark. That doing a hike and getting passed by grandmas and toddlers isn\u2019t really something to write hone about. She accused me of fat shaming. I told her to call it whatever she wants. She stormed off to her room.\n\nEveryone thinks I should apologize but I just hate her condenscing attitude towards everything I do. I went to go into the Navy seals next year and fitness as beeb a huge part of my life. For her to talk down to me because she\u2019s done one hike...EVER...caused me to lose it.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NtYtVeqLbvKf1CmNKhiJ3JrPsuBQbwYA", "post_id": "b6jx01", "action": {"description": "not providing my mother my travel details", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I don\u2019t provide my mother my travel details?", "text": "My husband (31m) and I (30f) are headed out on our honeymoon in a few days after being married for about a year. My mother has requested a daily itinerary be provided to her and I don\u2019t necessarily want to provide it. \n\nIf fact, we haven\u2019t told our parents were we are going for the honeymoon. His parents would likely book tickets and join us (like they did to his sister on her honeymoon, even staying at their same AirBnB) and my parents are likely to freak out since we are going to Jordan and it\u2019s a \u2018terrorist\u2019 country. Even if we did tell my parents, my mother is the type to rub it in to my MIL that she knows where we are going and she doesn\u2019t. \n\nMy relationship with my mother has always been tense. She used to read my diary in high school, monitor my bank account in college to see what I was spending my money on, etc. This led to me being more closed off and not as forthcoming with her, since she would use what she uncovered to get me in trouble. \n\nWould I be the asshole if I don\u2019t provide her an itinerary? I wanted to check in before putting down a blanket \u2018No, I\u2019m not providing that to you\u2019 to make sure the decision isn\u2019t clouded by the past. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QQcGV5KtKzlL0QVh4Z9yjlD9MbIjWsCP", "post_id": "ai8rnu", "action": {"description": "giving my partner an ultimatum to work on mental issues or leave me and our child", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving my partner an ultimatum to work on mental issues or leave me and our child.", "text": "Late last year my partner confessed to me that she had been cheating on me with one of her best mates. \n\nWe have an amazing two year old daughter and I thought a great little family, it turns out that she had been suffering from depression and anxiety badly since the birth of our daughter and found comfort in a relationship with another man that she had know since highschool ( we are in our mid 30s). That relationship turned sexual and quite serious. \n\nWe made the decision to work together on our relationship and I thought had been making progress. I found out last night that she has been messaging this other guy again and confronted her about it.\n\nThe excuse she gave me is that it had been a long time since she had talked to him but was feeling depressed and didn't feel she could talk to me. Last night I gave her an ultimatum to seek help with her mental issues ( with my support ) or walk out the door..\n\nDoes that make me an asshole? \n\nConfounding factors. \nI looked at her phone \nI probably have focused more on our daughter than her \nShe has a long history of mental issued that I know about. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lBUYWw3zsv2OKY7vbl1pQ2IjJy2t8gjW", "post_id": "a6d1ib", "action": {"description": "liking a photo of Machine Gun Kelly and his girlfriend on Instagram", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for liking a photo of Machine Gun Kelly and his girlfriend on Instagram?", "text": "As simple as that. My boyfriend was in the living room tonight. Said \u2018okay what the fuck?\u2019 Walked into the room. Goes \u2018so you know when a girl catches her boyfriend liking photos of hot girls on Instagram? What the fuck is this?\u2019 And shows me the photo set I liked. (MGKs latest photoset on Instagram) He\u2019s legitimately upset over this. AITA here??? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sdPpIWAd6mxHJaiu19WGM5SwK90jbxoq", "post_id": "ar6zbo", "action": {"description": "calling the Bible the Bibble in front of my friend who turned christian heavy in one day", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling the Bible the Bibble in front of my friend who turned Christian heavy in one day", "text": "Here's some backstory: me and this person are friends and do favors for each other but today for some reason he came in with a Bible and acted completely different\n\nSo while on the computers with my friends we looked up a joke from Aqua Teen Hunger Force he looked at us with the coldest stare when the \"you dare question the words of the mighty Jimmy\" part came up and on the cherry on top for the situation we got in trouble from the teacher for not respecting the Bible.\n\n then when me and some friends were messing around with each other he pushed us away from each other and read some part of the Bible after that saying \"a Bible can change you but you can keep being as demonic as you want\" then I asked how we're being demonic once again he just gives us the death stare\n\nAnother thing he did was tell on us for calling the Bible the Bibble\n\nIt's not that I want him to stop this I actually kind of liked him this way because before he was just reenacting dead memes but now he's just getting in the way of me and my friends fun\n\nSo AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7oE3s0kOKePztCF9h9KPVzGTHJChhVsR", "post_id": "b6l9ou", "action": {"description": "sending my food delivery back", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Sending My Food Delivery Back?", "text": "I had placed an order for food delivery at 1 p.m. since that's when my lunch hour begins. However, the delivery person called me at 12:40 p.m. saying he arrived with the food. I told him I had my order set for 1 p.m. (preordered and scheduled earlier in the day), and I was unable to receive the food because it was too early (I was in the middle of work).\n\nFor some additional context, the restaurant is a 10 minute walk or 5 minute bike ride from where I work. If it was within 5 or even 10 minutes, I could have requested to take lunch slightly early, but 20 minutes was too much of a time difference. The conversation between the delivery driver and myself was polite, although he was a tad confused as to why I couldn't get the food, but I'm still wondering if I was in the wrong.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ztd9NEgfOVHoSrQhBy10XGuoOSbGTJNL", "post_id": "ab2x8s", "action": {"description": "wanting to spend NYE home alone, saying no to an invite from the neighbors and possibly hurting their feelings", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to spend NYE home alone, saying NO to an invite from the neighbors and possibly hurting their feelings?", "text": "UPDATE:  I went to the party and had an amazing time!  Felt loved, met new people, ate good food, had a few drinks and genuinely had fun!\n///\n\nI came home for the holidays.  (I am mid-30\u2019s, just divorced/sad, having a real hard time, no children.)  Usually my younger/single sister comes home too, but she is spending the holidays traveling.  My parents left today (Dec 30) to spend NYE on a cruise.  I didn\u2019t want to spend the money (and didn\u2019t have the deep desire) to join them or my sister.  (Separate topic!)  Being alone for a few days in warmer weather (here).. it\u2019s kind of what I wanted.  I\u2019ve had a real shitty year.\n\nSo here\u2019s the thing.  Our neighbors, who are super close to my parents (not so much to me), and have been amazing and supportive through the years, are insisting and insisting that I come over to their house for New Year\u2019s Eve.  I don\u2019t want to go.  There are parties in clubs and in bars in our city, and maybe at the last minute I go to one of them on my own, but as of now I don\u2019t want to go anywhere.  I want to spend the evening by myself, devoid of small talk and fake laughs, without having to get all dressed up for anyone.  I want to make myself a nice and healthy dinner, cry if I need to, go to bed early, and wake up early on Jan 1st, make a nice healthy breakfast, work out, ride my bike to the pier, you know, just do healthy lonely people stuff. \n\nI have been avoiding the neighbors during the time I\u2019ve been here because I just don\u2019t want to talk to anyone.  And I\u2019m afraid that I\u2019ll start crying any minute if they ask how I\u2019m doing.  They already complained that why was I neglecting them.  Pretty much scolded me for not coming over to say hello the day I arrived.\n\nMy controlling mother will be curious to know what I did for NYE.  There are cameras all over their house.  She already warned how \u201ccrazy and wild\u201d NYE parties get around here, how many people die in car accidents, how many women get roofied, and how it would be \u201cso nice\u201d if I just spent it with the neighbors.  I am a grown woman but now that I am divorced, seems that I am a child again.  (Separate topic!)\n\nToday, I kind of implied to everyone while the neighbors were over, that maybe I couldn\u2019t make it to their party, and they looked at me hurt and weird and asked what I was doing instead.  I lied and said I was going to one of the restaurant parties.  Bullshit and it was obvious.  Am I an asshole now?  \n\nAm I an asshole for declining the neighbor\u2019s invite?  When I stay home they will see my lights on, know I\u2019m home, and wonder why I didn\u2019t join them.  How do I explain that I just want to be alone?  (They don\u2019t seem to get the concept, they\u2019re always happy and coming over to talk with my parents and when they\u2019re not at their house, my parents are at over at theirs.  They are super sociable, vibrant, loud, friendly.  And they love to drink.  I see people having fun but I don\u2019t have fun.  I am uncomfortable.)  I just don\u2019t have the same relationship and I\u2019m not interested in going there at all.\n\nI feel guilty because they are so nice.  And here I am, a jerk, it seems.\n\nAITA for saying no to their invites and visibly staying home during their party?  If I\u2019m not an asshole, am I just ungrateful?  What the hell is wrong with me?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7gQKjDlAkkOc6ZHfuyQwpn4WNLdr1Flv", "post_id": "at4ais", "action": {"description": "asking my roommate to get out of the bathroom", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my roommate to get out of the bathroom?", "text": "Every morning Monday-Friday I get ready for work from 6:30 to about 7:15. Then I\u2019m off to work. He usuall leaves around 6, so it\u2019s usually not a problem. \n\nToday, he took the day off from work and I had no idea. So i shower, cook my breakfast, then when i come downstairs, he\u2019s in the bathroom. Pretty frustrated because he knows I work full time, I ask him if he can hurry up because I\u2019m gonna b lay from work. \n\nIt was awkward and i don\u2019t think he understood why I was frustrated. Am I the asshole for being mad that he was interrupting my morning schedule? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "q6xmRwVhDwEmKhn3OoMnaCKcsJBQ4pjn", "post_id": "a6n0ty", "action": {"description": "not wanting my fianc\u00e9's children to sleep in our bed", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my fianc\u00e9\u2019s children to sleep in our bed?", "text": "My fianc\u00e9 and I have lived together for a year.  She has 2 great kids, an 8 year old boy and a 6 year old girl and I love them both. I don\u2019t have any kids of my own and the parenting thing is pretty new to me. I like to think I took to it pretty well, during the day hours I spend lots of quality time with them, make their food, do their laundry, and I really try to go above and beyond for them so they feel comfortable with me. We have lots of fun together. Where I feel like I suck as a step parent is being super uncomfortable with the children being in our bed. It\u2019s bothered me from day 1 and I\u2019m afraid to say anything.  Sharing a bed has always been probably my favourite part of a relationship, to me it feels so intimate.  You might think, well that\u2019s okay you like the time alone with your lady and there\u2019s nothing wrong with that... well here\u2019s where I\u2019m probably the asshole.. I don\u2019t even like them being in the bed while we aren\u2019t in it. It\u2019s OUR bed, they have their beds (that I spent hours building).  There are of course circumstances where I understand the kids need their mother at night, be it nightmares, bed wetting, or illness. But on a day to day basis it makes me super uncomfortable climbing into a warm, pre slept in bed.. right now it\u2019s 2 am and I haven\u2019t been able to sleep because of it. So reddit I ask you, is this normal for a step parent or am I a huge jerk that doesn\u2019t deserve these awesome kids?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LvfdZ8dcKwcqatPg2dlK1zlEVxg6AYKR", "post_id": "b8s84f", "action": {"description": "not sharing my price of happiness with a Don Draper wannabe", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not sharing my price of happiness with a Don Draper wannabe?", "text": "I have been looking to buy a car for around 4 months, but the heat is on:  I have to buy one by Friday afternoon or else.  It\u2019s a hard deadline.  So tonight, I test drove a minivan and a large part of my soul dies when thinking about spedning $25k on something I don\u2019t enjoy but is highly practical.  It\u2019s likely the answer. \n\nRight across the street was an Audi dealership, and I wanted to see a Q7 before I made a final decision.  No regrets or second thoughts if I buy the minivan. I walked in and asked the saleswoman if they had any used Q7 models, and she said yes.  Long story short, she spent 30 minutes showing me a car, and I quite liked it.  Enough that I wanted to weigh practical and smart for 1/2 the price versus fun, enjoyable and a little irresponsible in my mind overnight before making a final decision.  So, I said \u201cCan you put together an offer with your best foot forward so I can think about it overnight?\u201d  We go and sit down, and she says \u201cI will be back in a minute.\u201d\n\nI thought maybe she printing something out or whatever.  I look up and I see some mid-30s little man introduce himself and sit down and open up with \u201cSo I hear you have a Q3 and you hate it (semi-true:  love the car, but entirely impractical with a family so I hate that we have one with 2 kids).  I also hear you are comparing the Honda Odyssey with a Q7.  You have to ask yourself, \u2018What is the price of happiness?\u2019\u201d\n\nI do?  Thank you my sage dispenser of wisdom. \n\nSo you can imagine how the next 90 seconds went.  I then promptly told him \u201cShe has done a great job, I was interested in the Q7 but your little lecture made me realize I can\u2019t ever buy a car to help your bottom line.  All I asked for was a confidential quote, not a lecture, so I could spend an hour walking home and mull over the pros and cons.  You gave me nothing and destroyed her potential sale.\u201d  \n\nI then spent 5 minutes apologizing to the lady for wasting her time saying that all I wanted was a quote so I could price up the pros and cons and figure out the decision.  After 11 hours at work today, I didn\u2019t need a lecture from a pint sized Don Draper wannabe that didn\u2019t have any actual numbers attached to it.  I felt bad for wasting her time, she had to bring in the idiot manager to the conversation.  It wasn\u2019t her fault. Now I am at home doing research on used Q7 carsthat she basically got me interested in, but I will never buy it from her.  \n\nAITA if I eventually buy a Q7 not from her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iJ9oDVYxvCAPWQsPk8cFbbgcmZsm8Ysw", "post_id": "aw8opp", "action": {"description": "asking my roommate to either control his cat or get rid of it", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my roommate to either control his cat or get rid of it?", "text": "My roommates cat was recently in heat, so she was spraying EVERYWHERE. The whole house smelled like cat piss, to the point that my other 3 roommates and me couldn't bear it. She would spray on coats left out, blankets on the couches, the couches themselves, EVERYTHING.\n\nShe even would even waltz into our rooms and spray on dirty clothes, which would take at least 3 washes to get the smell mostly out, and even then it would still linger.\n\nAt one point he was too busy with work to change her litter box for a while, so she would even come into my room and deficate all over while I was gone at school or work.\n\nSo, I asked him to either spay her (she's 12 years old so he's had plenty of time to do that), keep her confined to his room or remove her from the house (she lived with his parents before anyways). \n\nHe told me that she's a cat and she's gonna spray every once in a while, and that he would clean everything she sprayed on (he didn't, or left it smelling for days). His grand solution to her getting in my room was to \"close my door.\" \n\nI don't feel I should have to close my door every time I walk in and out of my room because of his cat, and regardless, my door doesnt fully close anyways. \n\nI didn't want the cat to begin with, and my other two roommates who were ok with the cat and I didnt know she wasnt spayed before we moved in. We even moved into a place a little farther away from campus because they allowed pets...\n\nAm I the asshole here?\n\nTl:dr, cat pissses on everything, roomate wont do anything about it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3horum6wEvmUYzEeAPKND0lzddfFz2ba", "post_id": "9ugilx", "action": {"description": "trying to make up with a person that probably doesn't want to see me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "WIBTA for trying to make up with a person that probably doesn't wanna see me?", "text": "So there are two parts of this short story. \n\nFirst part: I was really into a girl, and I overstepped by showing too much persistance. I asked her out 3 times, she said no all 3. The last time she got really mad at me, like really really mad. I felt bad and I felt like an asshole. I decided to cut all contact with her, but 6 months later I still feel shitty and I want to call her (with no intent to try out with her again, just call her to ask how she is/etc). \n\nWould I be an asshole if I try to call a girl (with no other intention, just to call her to see how she's doing) who denied me before?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8Z9Uff5dcvOgOfn5GErbmS6uq0CtIa8t", "post_id": "9xyvr1", "action": {"description": "not offering a refund", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not offering a refund??", "text": "Just sold a guy something in completely working order, he tested it and everything - he did say he needed it for a separate purpose but I didn't have much knowledge about it so I couldn't say whether it was suitable or not for it, he was happy with everything though, paid me and went. Later on, he texted me saying that he needed a return since it wasn't suited to what he was wanting it for; me being a private seller on Facebook Marketplace told him sorry, but that I don't do returns and I'm not obliged to by UK law unless the item wasn't as described (which it was, and he checked everything). AITA for not giving him the refund?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "axzPijyELT4TKt6bvIeub7Pt5t63VL46", "post_id": "asc9or", "action": {"description": "making a joke about sex", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for making a joke about sex", "text": "I have a friend, Sam. We met in school and remained friends after school. Sam is bisexual, and a year ago let's everyone know that their pronouns are now \"they/them\" instead of \"she/her\". Ok, cool. I do my best. \n\nSam had been dating exclusively women for awhile, gone through a dry spell, and had just started seeing someone again. This person also went by they/them, but had male parts and presented as a man. This is important to the story. \n\nNow, Sam calls me up to tell me about this new boo. Im in an oddly weird place that night, and let them know. I try my best to be enthusiastic, but I'm just falling short. In the time I've known them, I've talked about dozens of new people with Sam. It's hard to drum up enthusiasm sometimes when there's a new person every two months. Then, it gets on to sex. Again, trying to be cheeky, and just continue conversation, I say \"jumping back on that dick again, eh.\" \n\nSam takes great, great offense at that. I meant it purely from a literal context: after a long time of sleeping with people without dicks, theyre quite literally, back on that dick. Apparently that is not what Sam takes it to mean. I'm being transphobic and bigoted. \n\nI concede that what I said was tone deaf, and although I don't completely agree with Sam, I figure it's better to just apologize and be more careful next time. But essentially this ruins our friendship. \n\nWas I really THAT much of an asshole, Reddit?  \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WC8FG0NDNNbp8mJ4mkA038miW6wsliSJ", "post_id": "9x3z2q", "action": {"description": "cutting off my toxic brother", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: For cutting off my toxic brother", "text": "My wife and I are not well-off so we live in a small apartment with two bedrooms. To make ends meet and have money for what we like, we have to have a roommate and for the past year my brother has been filling that need. \n\nWhen he left his last place it was because his old roommate and him had a falling out over financial reasons and his roommate broke his laptop and started all this other hateful shit. They were evicted because neither of them continued paying rent there. I was worried about him so I wanted to take him in until he could get back on his feet and find somewhere else.\n\nWe moved him in under the agreement that he would move out given notice when we ask him too, because my wife may get pregnant or for any other reason. He paid half of the rent and half of the utilities. Him and us both expected that it would only be for about six months or so we weren't too concerned with long term plans as we felt he would soon find another roommate and be on his way. \n\nMy wife was not a fan of moving him in, but we needed him at the time to make ends meet so we had to compromise. He'd said some stuff in the past about not really supporting my decision to get married but we were past that, even though it made my wife lose respect for him entirely, we would still hang out around the house and do double dates with his girlfriend or whatever. \n\nThe problem really was that he never really respected our boundaries. He felt like we were equal partners in the apartment even though we made it clear multiple times that he was staying in our spare room and that he wasn't entitled to it. \n\nHe was not a good roommate. We let him have his own space, even though he was astonishingly messy, he kept it in his room for the most part. He was a fan of marijuana and hallucinogens but we were okay with that as long as he kept it out if the house and didn't talk about it. And BOY he could not shut up about it. He brought people over without asking, shady people. He made guests uncomfortable and would not stop trying to flirt with the wife's completely uninterested friends. He constantly wanted to argue politics.\n\nFastforward to a year he lived with us. My Sister in law got into a college nearby that my wife and I attended so she needed a place to stay until she could  find an apartment. We let her stay on our couch. We didn't give him a choice, she needed our help. He was fine with it and we all got along for about a month before he started to get weird. He became infatuated with the Sister in law. Kept asking her to go to bars with him. She was made very uncomfortable. \n\nWe asked her if she would stay with us and cover his share if rent and bills if he moved out. She said yes.\n\nSo it was time we ask him to move out. We told him we needed him to figure out somewhere to go in the next 2 or 3 months.\n\nI tried to help him, gave him listings of places to check out and stuff like that, but he wasn't making any progress. One month went by and he started to resent us for replacing him with my SIL. He rarely was home and when he was all he did was talk shit about how we needed him and he didn't need us and how he could be out whenever he wanted to. So I called him on his bullshit and set a day that he needed to move out one month from then. After he actually put in an application he realized that his eviction was keeping him from being able to get an apartment (no shit). So I extended his deadline again.\n\nAt the end of the set deadline nothing was boxed and he started staying at our parents place at night. So we packed his stuff, respectfully labeling and boxing things up. Communicating everything in the process.\n\nI rented him a truck and helped him move all of his stuff in with the parents. He never stopped talking shit about how evil we were. \n\nI kept trying to get through to him and he finally said what he needed to say for me to never want to speak to him again. \n\nHe told me he thought I was being whipped by my wife. He said he doesn't respect me and my relationship is doomed to fail and he won't listen to me until I get a divorce. He said he hopes my wife never gets pregnant. He honestly believes that my wife and I are cheating on each other. He developed a bunch of conspiracy theories as to why we kicked him out but refuses to accept that he was a bad roommate. He's become completely toxic, and his only goal is to fuck up my relationship to my wife. \n\nI had to block him off of social media, and I refuse to answer his calls or texts.\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AphiTaBTYnAxDFlO3KMbWKprU9laQLzq", "post_id": "b7t28e", "action": {"description": "asking my uncle to help out for once", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA If I asked my uncle to help out for once.", "text": "Firstly I'm on mobile so be kind. Also my Family is Hindu which is relatively important.\n\nRecently my grandad passed away and we had to do everything to sort out the funeral and so on including all of the extra traditions that my grandma wanted.\n\nThroughout this all and beforehand my uncle has had some bad mental illnesses, I don't know which so sorry if you wanted to know. But it makes him struggle in day to day life. This has lead to my mum to do all the work and I'm scared for her as she is clearly suffering from doing all the work herself. Recently after the main funeral and when other financial things had to be sorted out my mum was left with all the work.\n\nThis climaxed when yesterday my grandma said my Uncle was doing all the work (not much if any) and this really hurt my mum.\n\nI've talked to my mum and she doesn't care about appreciation but just wants help with the funeral and me and my brother do what we can and want to talk to my uncle about it.\n\nGiven his mental health and how he isn't helping but getting congratulations WIBTA if I told him he has to overcome this and help.\n\nInfo: On the day of the wedding my uncle was able to control himself and this is why we think he has to grow up and help. I am 15 , Uncle is late 40's. Thank you for any help. If any more info is needed just ask.\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lIeN89wRKBOiDQAmDPGOiFSNbbqgcgTV", "post_id": "ash45a", "action": {"description": "calling a guy out for being obnoxious and causing a group of friends to become awkward", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling a guy out for being obnoxious and causing a group of friends to become awkward?", "text": "So, for a bit of context, I'm an English major, but I've educated myself a lot in regards to vegan diet because 1. I'm fascinated with biology and anatomy, 2. I believe you can never have too much knowledge and 3. Because my ex was a vegan and I wanted to be able to cook something that would be nutritious and appropriate for her diet. I'm not claiming to be an expert, but I'm not oblivious either.\n\n​\n\nIn my year, there's this guy, let's call him Seb. He's tolerable. I have no choice anyway, since we have a lot of mutual friends in our year. From the very beginning though, you knew the guy is vegan (one of those who can't shut up about it). And I'd like to stress, I have absolutely nothing against vegans or vegetarians.\n\n​\n\nThe situation happened some time ago when me, Seb and couple of other people from uni went out for a couple of beers. The convo goes on as I remembered I had a ham sandwich in my backpack. As soon as I take a bite out of it, he goes \"What are you doing?\". Confused, I answer \"Eating?\" to which he goes \"Would you mind not eating this in front of me?\". \n\n​\n\nTo just calm his bitching, I go \"Oooh, okay. Sure\" and get up to sit elsewhere. As I get up, he goes \"I can't believe you can eat that. That's disgusting.\" So me, being a smartass that I am, I answer \"Actually, it's quite tasty.\". He starts ranting about how I'm eating something that used to be alive and slaughered, how he hasn't eaten meat in three years already, yatta yatta yatta. Tired by his lecture, I just go \"Look, I respect that you don't eat meat, good for you Seb. Could you respect the fact that I don't eat fake meat?\"\n\n​\n\nHe starts yelling that he's not gonna \"respect\" someone eating a murder victim in front of him, that I'm disgusting and how can someone claim to love animals if they eat meat, that humans don't need meat and that's just our barbaric nature to murder and eat the flesh etc. I replied that if I had a week I wouldn't have time to explain how wrong he was, that if he's not replacing the proteins he's not consuming from meat by something else he's killing himself, that if humans weren't omnivores, we wouldn't have fangs to shred meat etc.\n\n​\n\nThe argument went on for like an hour, to which he, when he ran out of things to yell, just got up and left without word, leaving everyone baffled. Now, any time somebody is offering to hang out, he's asking if the \"murderer\" is gonna be there, and refuses if the answer is yes. People who witnessed it feel I was right in this regard, but the situation in the group has become very awkward. Should I've just kept my trap shut and let him rant to not spoil the evening or did I do the right thing for calling Seb out? I'm confused at this point, cause the aftermath is just tiring at this point.\n\n​\n\nTl;Dr: Called a guy out for being an obnoxious vegan asshole, should I've bitten my tongue and let him rant or was I right for standing up to the wanker in question?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bqkbTKMgG5HbBGDXGstETGRSiZnvgNdk", "post_id": "aiwrnh", "action": null, "title": "AITA / Are My Parents the Assholes for not letting my sister drive/volunteer abroad?", "text": "I feel like I should do something in this situation. My parents won't let my sister drive when she is 16, because car insurance is too much(2500$ average anually). My parents also won't let my sister volunteer abroad alone, as it is too expensive and the will worry about her. Right now, my sister is 14 and is throwing a fit about it, and crying and yelling all over the place. So I wanted to ask, am I the asshole for not saying anything? Or are my parents the assholes for not letting my sister do what she wants? Or is my sister being entirely unreasonable? My sister brought up volunteering abroad and driving less than a week ago, and is already throwing a fit. If you have any questions, to help judge me better, please ask. I don't know who is in the wrong, and I want you guys to help me. TIA.\n\nSorry for formatting, I'm on mobile.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SBJMzk08vOV5PAXDb5l3iSqx7yq3JgKk", "post_id": "afojro", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go on family holiday", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go on family holiday?", "text": "So it's my parents 40th wedding anniversary this year, and my brother suggested that we take a 10 day family beach holiday to celebrate.\n\nSome background, all my siblings and I are all grown and have flown the nest. They all have their own families including young children and whilst I'm in a (fairly new) relationship, I have no intention of having any children.\n\nThe past year or so I have been doing a lot of travelling to new places, and my intention was to do more of the same this year, and beach holidays are not my thing. So having to pay for myself to go on a beach holiday with my family with 4 children(2 of which are under 1) was not on my agenda.\n\nWhen my parents asked me, I said no, however they keep asking me and making me feel guilty every time I tell them  I'm not going. \n\nSo my question is, AITA for not going on holiday with them?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KbYrT6UrXfbBHD8QJkLMtBZnhSzhQFH8", "post_id": "b0jlmp", "action": {"description": "lying to my girlfriend about my time in the military", "pronormative_score": 59, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for lying to my girlfriend about my time in the military?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now. She\u2019s smart, amazing, beautiful, the whole package. However, is a huge pacifist and doesn\u2019t like how I was in the military for many years. Recently, we were eating a delicious dinner when she asked me about my experiences in the military.\n\nI served two tours in the Middle East, was discharged due to an injury that I have since recovered from. I\u2019m more than happy to discuss anything about that, but I immediately became hesitant when she asked me if I had ever \u201ctaken anyone\u2019s life.\u201d \n\nI was silent for a couple of seconds before replying, \u201cno, I was lucky enough to not see much action.\u201d She seemed satisfied and moved on, the thing is I have, it\u2019s something that still sits with me to this day. On one hand I feel bad for lying to my SO, on the other hand her strong distaste for killing makes me believe she would respond badly.\n\nAm I the asshole for lying to my girlfriend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 40, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 59, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Xx4hw0ev5Y0YJuvR7qwYEnT8LL6VTHUv", "post_id": "anouiv", "action": {"description": "not wanting to meet my friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to meet my friend?", "text": "I've always had a huge crush on my friend (we've known each other for 2 years) but the entire time he was dating someone else and he moved away a while ago so I never made a move. But over the summer, he started getting really flirty with me after he told me he broke up with his ex. It sounded like it had been a couple of months so I reciprocated and in no time we were sexting. But about a couple weeks later, he texts me saying how devastated he was because his ex had come to visit & stay with him in his city and it turns out that she slept with another guy immediately after they broke up. \n\nAfter that he we stopped talking for 2 weeks and then he started flirting with me again. I asked him if I was a rebound or if he just wanted to fool around and he told me that it was neither for him, he was always attracted to me and now he has a crush on me. We then left it at that but kept sexting each other and having these intense conversations. \n\nBut a month later, he started to get really distant so I called him out on it and he told me that he was just dealing with the consequences of the summer. I felt sad because I realised that he probably wasn't over his ex and I was just a rebound so I asked for space. He said that I definitely wasn't a rebound but he gave me space anyway.\n\nDuring our time away from each other, I realised that he wasn't that great a friend and he wasn't being fair to me. He was always super flakey and I remember when I once told him my mum was sick he took 3 weeks to reply. And it felt like he just wanted me to stick around and fill in these voids for him.\n\nA month later we spoke again and he said he wanted to \"go back to what we were\". I said that I wasn't sure I wanted to do that because I was still hurt from everything. At this point he'd reply at his own convenience so I got really anxious and I felt like I didn't matter to him at all and blocked him. He then texted me on Instagram and we had a long conversation - I said that it was too late to talk it out now and then blocked him there as well.\n\nTwo months after that, he came back to my city and asked if I wanted to meet him - I said no way not at all and asked him to respect my decisions. He told me that he understood but he showed up at my university anyway. And so I hid. \n\nHe eventually left and I went home.\n\nBut I'm curious, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eu8QekOJZCz7QUotZIlH1FHzABfg0yK8", "post_id": "aafwt1", "action": {"description": "yelling at my mom for using my debit card", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my mom for using my debit card", "text": "I'm visiting my mom for the Holliday's, and she's been struggling financially for a few years. She has multiple sclerosis and is unable to work. My sister is also severely autistic and needs around the clock care. I let my mom add my debit card to her online delivery apps. I only asked that she inform me before using it. I've been waiting on a late direct deposit and money was scarce. As soon as it finally hit. She immediately request that I zelle her $100. I did without complaining. She blew threw that in a few days and requested constantly that I get a grocery or meal here in there. Again, I did so without complaining. But I guess my frustrations finally boiled over when I saw a $30 uber eats charge on my bank app. I firmly told her that I'd like to be INFORMED if she's going to use my card. She took that as an attack on her and told me I was being \"rude\"", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Q594ZxEjLImBAz2KCCamYuSSvRKid3uU", "post_id": "as1ipm", "action": {"description": "leaving my girlfriend behind to join the army", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for leaving my girlfriend behind to join the army", "text": "Now before I start, I\u2019m on mobile so formatting may be a bit rough\n\nSo I\u2019m an 18 year old guy who\u2019s been dreaming of joining the military my entire life. Since as long as I can remember I wanted to join the army or marines or whoever would have me. \n\nToday I go up to sign all the papers, pick my job, and officially swear In to the United States Army. I\u2019m very proud of myself and my family and friends are too\n\nHowever my girlfriend isn\u2019t so happy. Now she has some anxiety and separation anxiety, something I\u2019ve been aware of since we started dating (roughly 6 months, I know not that long but long enough for me to catch some feels.) I\u2019ve told her since the beginning that I was going to leave and join the army. I told her I was going to go no matter what. She said she had no problem, and she was happy for me. \n\nUntil Friday, she told me she had a problem. That I\u2019m a selfish asshole who only cares about his dreams and not her. (Keep in mind this is our first argument in six months of dating.) that I could give two shits about anyone but myself. That I shouldn\u2019t sign and I should wait a year to make sure she gets settled. Make sure she\u2019s happy because she\u2019s gonna miss me so much. \n\nI get it she\u2019s scared, so am I. I just don\u2019t think I should wait an extra year when I\u2019m this close. She\u2019s begging me, literally begging me not to go. As I type this I\u2019m breaking down because I don\u2019t know if I should sign \n\nI just need someone to tell me (other than family) if I\u2019m right or wrong. Any advice or just straight up calling me an asshole will help. I just need to know what an outsider would see. Sorry if my formatting isn\u2019t great, or if I have some grammar errors. It\u2019s just been hard and I\u2019m not too worried about that right now. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zxxqfu6r1MWHKXREa8iMSewChkds9qVa", "post_id": "azy9rt", "action": {"description": "not giving people a reason for me transferring schools", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving people a reason for me transferring schools.", "text": "So earlier this year I had started a school, this was a different school than my friends had gone to. From the start I knew it wasn't the right school for me. I kept at it for awhile even though it made me quite depressed. I asked my parents if I could move schools and they refused or said they would talke later. Everyday I came home from school upset and sad and quite frankly a mess. My parents must have done something because they asked me if I would be up for transferring in a few weeks ( great parents btw). I didnt expect this and I of course accepted. Now I had to figure out how to tell the kids in my grade since my twin brother still goes there and would occasionally have friends over I couldnt just bale. The two acquaintances that were there were sort of avoiding me for some reason so I thaught this wouldnt matter to them as much. I told one and he didn't care at all, like at all. What a relief but the other did and he was really mad at me demanding a reason for me not continuing obviously I couldn't say I hate the school and I have no real freinds and all my freinds are at another school so bye. I just said my parents were making him he hated this answer yelling at me for a better one. I said I am sorry but I had no choice. I thought it wouldnt matter to this kid as much cause he was avoiding me so much but it did and it hurt. I feel bad for him but if I give him the answer he will refuse and say I was his freind. I don't want people saying it was stupid I leftm because I suffer from depression and anxiety and there was an underlying thing to this whole school and plan. Sorry for bad spelling or puctuation typing from phone.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ShD6kJNmzPiUlnwsOh3ePPC5rumO95Gz", "post_id": "af38k0", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend, that just moved closer to me, over texts from 8 months ago", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend, that just moved closer to me, over texts from 8 months ago.", "text": "Backstory is necessary:\n\nI go to college 3 hours away from my home town and I was in a year-long relationship with a girl that was still living at home (both 20).  I always had suspicions that she wasn\u2019t over her ex.  Not just suspicions but proof from her words and the fact that she got excited when he asked her to hang out (and would hang out with him alone from time to time). \n\n Over the summer I took a study abroad course for 6 weeks.  In that time she broke up with me and hooked up with her ex.  Long story short, we patched up some obvious problems and got back together.  Although I was having second thoughts about the whole thing I acted like I was fine in order to not relive the situation.\n\nGF (along with a little encouragement from me) decides to moved into an apartment a few blocks away from me.  About one week goes by and I could tell she was acting strange about her ex.\n\nWhat I did next I am not proud of, but felt it was necessary so I could put my worries to rest for good.  One morning when she was in the shower I opened her computer and read the text conversion she had with her ex.  What I found was a conversation that spanned from the time we started dating up until about 4 months into the relationship (well before I went abroad).  The conversation included her saying things like \u201cI miss you\u201d \u201cyou will always be my best friend\u201d and \u201cI miss having sex with you\u201d.\n\nMind you, these texts were from about 8 months ago.  However, I could not find it in myself to forgive her and I felt as though I will never trust her again.  After all she was texting these things to her ex while telling me that she loved me and that I was the only one for her. I broke it off cold turkey about 2 weeks ago and haven\u2019t seen or talked to her since. She is furious that I persuaded her to move near me and broke up over something that happened a while ago.  The way I see it, our relationship is ruined and she needed to get out of the house anyway, therefore I don\u2019t really feel guilty for it. Am I the Asshole? Honestly asking.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "F8JJxkGdaAWBcf8IBTr1IUoO2Z9JRpLG", "post_id": "ai5waf", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Roommate issues", "text": "Hi so I live in the UK staying in a student flat at university. I live with one other girl in a 3 bed flat so we have a spare room we use for some storage (it\u2019s not full , we still have our rooms ).\n\nThe girl I live with is .. unusual. She was deaf when she was younger so has problems speaking and some unrelated social issues. She\u2019s \u2018 normal \u2018 in every other sense.When I met her last year we lived with 4 other people who were mean to her for example mocking her behind her back.\nI saw that she didn\u2019t deserve her treatment as I have always been socially awkward too and befriended her ;we chose to live together this academic year .\nI am on a different course (psychology bsc ) to her and her course is very vocational. Therefore, she has a LOT more free time than me. \nI\u2019m a very clean person but I\u2019m not always very tidy as I don\u2019t have the time. I\u2019ll be stuck in my room ,essay -writing for 8 hours at a time some days . When I do have time to tidy I will do a complete wipe down of everything and make the flat look clean and organised.\nShe\u2019s not the brightest and doesn\u2019t seem to understand that germs are invisible ( she has never bleached our toilet or anywhere for that matter).\nShe seems to think me leaving a notebook on the side or 2 ( clean, recently washed) coffee mugs is enough for her to barge into my room and shout at me. Sometimes I\u2019ll leave washing up for that day until the end of the night to save water and time , as I actually cook . She only knows how to reheat things and therefore has almost no dishes . \n\nThe other night I had been working all day and did not even have time for a shower which I hate to do . So about 7pm I go in the shower, she is not home. I think, like every weekend, she has gone to her parents\u2019 to be closer to work. I come out of the shower in my towel, still in the bathroom. I hear the front door and her mother\u2019s voice . I feel awkward but can\u2019t leave because I am half-naked which I wouldn\u2019t care if she saw as I live with her but not her mother ( and later her father soon followed) . So I leave things as they are in the bathroom in the interest of covering up quickly and run in my room in my towel while they are in the kitchen. She has a habit of waiting outside of the bathroom while I am in it which I find extremely rude.Moments later , her mother goes in OUR bathroom and complains that there is a towel on the floor that I had been using as a bath mat ( the floor was still wet) . My room is next to the bathroom. I\u2019m peeved but say nothing of it .\n\nHours later I get a Facebook message when my flatmate has left again \u201c could u do me a favourr and be a bit more tidier please\u201d .She then goes on to say that I CAUSED her anxiety because I am sometimes too busy to tidy straight away . Nothing is ever left for more than a day ,2 max when I have multiple assignments.\nI\u2019m mad at this point , she has been rude for weeks, ignoring me and being impolite to my guests if I ever have any over . They notice it too. She is also extremely passive-aggressive, she slams doors,stomps about at night and barges past me. She also throws my toiletries off the shelf in the shower onto the floor because it \u2018 annoys her\u2019.\n\nBasically, I replied to her saying that it\u2019s my flat too (I found it for us) and that while I recognise I can be untidy I\u2019m not going to spend extra time I don\u2019t have to make her happy. I certainly don\u2019t need to please her parents . That\u2019s not their business. I said if she had such a problem that she could endeavour to empty the bins more often as I always do it and wash up , perhaps later than she would like. I\u2019ve never seen her treat other people like this before and I can kind of understand why she received the bad treatment in our first year. She is rude and frankly has no social skills.\n\nSo , AITA for standing my ground? I live under her passive-aggressive dictatorship every day when I\u2019m just trying to get my degree.\n\nNote : when I do have little free time she shouts \u201c why can\u2019t you tidy now\u201d on my often one free HALF day a week . I explain that it\u2019s my free time and I don\u2019t want to waste it tidying very minor mess.\nSorry another edit , this is not a validation post. She is shouting bully because I told her I need more time to work than she does, she always seems to be out . 9/10 I bite my tongue and say nothing to her.\nShe is also disgustingly filthy , I think she doesn\u2019t know how to clean . I clean and tidy her mess CONSTANTLY but when she has to do it once because I\u2019m ill or busy she acts like a martyr.\nEDIT: Okay the other day my flatmate was banging on her door really hard, I went out to ask if she was okay, I helped her in her room because she was drunk and couldn't open it. She said nothing.I also rang the landlord to fix it for her. In the morning, she had shut the kitchen door and was studying in there when I went in silently to make a coffee, she shouted saying she was working...We have an office and full work desks in our rooms. Not only that but she has now hidden the toilet roll and washing up liquid (which I bought), I went to buy more and caught her POURING IT DOWN THE SINK. I think there's something more going on with her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SELoRICYRlTPmUSgt2oQFWqhL4LpzAUY", "post_id": "arcoh0", "action": {"description": "getting pissed off at my sister for not letting me having a bath last night and rejecting her fancy chocolates she on my bed for me", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed off at my sister for not letting me having a bath last night and rejecting her fancy chocolates she on my bed for me?", "text": "Context:\n\nWe were coming home together from work yesterday and I said,\n\n\"Ah I can't wait to have a bath tonight.\" (I have long baths. Also we only have one bathroom between 6.)\n\nAnd so follows this conversation:\n\nHer: \"Oh but I want to have a shower since I'm going to [city] tomorrow for the weekend and I rarely get to have a long shower.\n\nMe: Fair, I mean have one before me then? I'm planning around 9pm after mom goes to work.\n\nHer: Eurgh but I want to have one then... I don't want one later because my hair will be wet.\n\nMe: ...I mean you have time between 8-8:30 when mom doesn't use the shower.\n\nHer: I don't want it then because I want to exercise. Look, I'm trying to work around you.\n\nMe: Don't you mean I'm working around you? But whatever it's not that deep, you have a shower whenever. I'll just have a bath after.\n\nHer: Why are you being such a bitch about it? \n\nMe: Uh wtf I'm not? \n\n[Circumstance change a little later. We get home and dad has painted the bathroom door so neither of us can use bathroom until after 9. And she's going to meet a friend.]\n\nHer: Right I'll be back by 9 and I'll have a shower then you can go after me. \n\nMe: (bit annoyed that I'll have to wait for her but I don't fancy having an argument about it) ok.\n\n[She doesn't come back at 9pm. It's half 9 and I'm wondering whether to just have one. But then I don't want to deal with her anger if she comes back. And I don't want to bug her with messages either or she'll get mad at me for cutting her time with her friend. So I wait. At half ten I'm deliriously tired and call her and she's like \"oh I've just seen the time! I'll come back now\". I'm way too tired to wait till she's done showering so I get ready for bed.\n\nHowever I'm already angry at her for being annoying. And whilst I'm in the bathroom  (her bedroom is next to the bathroom), she says, after I leave, that she didn't hear me flush the toilet. I'm like wtf. And am annoyed that I have to double check. I have flushed the toilet. And I'm like...]\n\n\"I did flush the fucking toilet you stupid idiot who wouldn't let me have a bath and made me wait forever.\"\n\nShe's like \"But I didn't hear it!\"\n\nI'm like: \"oh fuck off mate.\"\n\n[I'm super mad. I see my pillow and she's got these fancy chocolates on my pillow. I don't particularly like fancy chocolates so I'm cranky, tired and angry...]\n\nMe: Who gave you these chocolates that you didn't want then??\n\nHer: Oh yeah you bitch, that's what I did. Yeah.\n\nMe: Well I don't particularly like them anyway. Do you want them back?\n\nHer: Just throw them in the bin. You know, since I didn't buy them for you or anything. \n\nMe: But what the fuck? (At why tf she got me chocolates when all I wanted was a God damn bath)\n\nHer: Oh just fuck off. \n\nMe: Well fine then I'll just throw them in the bin! (I don't).\n\nWe haven't spoken and she thinks I'm an ungrateful bitch. Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "AjXKVMlnOEsa6A6etNTbFhHXeF3Z00UB", "post_id": "austr6", "action": {"description": "not letting ex-roommate in", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not letting ex-roommate in?", "text": " \n\n**TLDR on bottom**\n\n2  years ago, in college, I helped this girl out by taking her lease(sub-lease) for a room. She had 3 months left. Lets call her Sarah.\n\nWe agreed on a move out/in date and notified the landlord. No big deal right? Well, 3 days before move in date, she texts me and says she has to stay for  another month because of a trip. I'm like wtf? My buddy has people  moving in and I have no where to put my things. On top of that, we agreed on a date.\n\nHere's what she said:\n\nSarah: Well, we never had anything in writing and I need the room until mid June.\n\nMe: Well, I really have no place to go, can we work something out if you're going to be gone anyways?\n\nSarah: I don't know, I have a lot of stuff and I leave right away.\n\nMe: Wtf? Seriously? I'll be homeless and my friend has people moving in also. My stuff is all over his place.\n\nSarah: I'm not sure what your point is.\n\nMe: We had an agreement. Can't you put it in storage?\n\nSarah: No. Sorry, but hey thanks for understanding.\n\nMe: No.... I don't understand, what the actual fuck?\n\nSarah: Yea, you can talk to Bob(Landlord) about if there's an issue.\n\n​\n\nBob was no help. He basically said, since we have nothing in writing, she's still on the lease. I was pissed but what could I do? If I back out, it could be impossible to find a decent place.\n\nSo, whatever, I dealt with it and crashed on the couch for a month. I finally moved in. But, that's not all. A month later, she came by to  visit a room mate and bursts into my room without even knocking. I was just watching TV, no big deal, but still fucking rude and I know  she did it on purpose. She had a smirk on her face and was like \"Oops,  sorry.\" And closed the door.\n\nA few months further down, she came by and said she wanted to go grab something in one of my room mates rooms.\n\nMe: Too bad, I can't let you just walk into someone's room while they're gone to dig around for something.\n\nAs she was about to explain herself, I slammed the door in her face with a big smirk on my face. She pounded on the door and said WTF, and of course, called me an asshole. I laughed and said, pound it once more  and I'll call the cops. She left quietly but complained to her guy friend. Later, he tried to give me shit about it but I'm like fuck that, if something disappears, who do you think everyone will blame? So, he let it go.\n\nShe cost me a shit load of hassle and trouble, I feel like it didn't really make up for it totally, but I don't feel bad at all.\n\n**Am I the asshole?**\n\n**TLDR;**  I helped this chick out on her lease by subleasing. She changes move in  date on me and pretty much says tough luck pal. So, I had no place to  live and put my stuff for a month. I had to get a storage unit for a  month before I could move in. She even burst into my room without asking  a month after, while I'm there. A few months later, she comes by, I  didn't let her in and slammed the door on her face. She, of course,  called me an asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oHFwQbSpaDoklIgNSr7ymKFOBPBab6Ud", "post_id": "b0190j", "action": {"description": "helping my grandma install her new tv", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for helping my grandma install her new TV?", "text": "So i went to my grandmas to help her install a brand new TV she had bought. She\u2019s a hoarder so her tiny house is filled with random junk crowding the spaces and making it hard to walk around. \n\ni was taking the tv out of the box and my elbows kept bumping into stuff stacked against the walls and said \u201csorry i keep bumping into things.\u201d When i said this she looked kinda sad and self conscious and said, \u201csorry, it\u2019s kinda crowded in here if you haven\u2019t noticed.\u201d \n\nRight after this, i was plugging in the wires for the new tv and there was that set of wires with a green, red and white cable, and i couldn\u2019t tell what it was so i said, \u201chey what\u2019s this plugged into, it looks like something old so we might not need it,\u201d to which my dad replied, \u201cdon\u2019t remind your grandma of how old she is, she uses old \nstuff,\u201d and he looked kinda mad. \n\ndo these things i said make me an asshole? i didn\u2019t mean anything negative towards her, i was just trying to help her with the TV. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hW0H1LjrGVBuj61K5m4KyT1j2m4JU22L", "post_id": "b6s2p7", "action": {"description": "not tipping baristas when they pour me a house coffee and plate a muffin", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not tipping baristas when they pour me a house coffee and plate a muffin?", "text": "And yet, I usually feel compelled to give that bartender a buck extra for my beer.  \n\n\nI'll add: I'm not well off by any means! Also: not poor or feeding dependents...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OxpgbMvYWreOhSJjfFsfsm0UVzkMNzRF", "post_id": "b1ptdl", "action": {"description": "purposely waking my husband on weekend mornings", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for purposely waking my husband on weekend mornings?", "text": "Ok, the title sounds bad, but hear me out. My husband wakes up at 4:30am for his Mon-Fri job. He\u2019s always been a morning person, so this isn\u2019t a big deal for him. This means that \u2018sleeping in\u2019 on the weekend for him is 6am - only a few times has he slept till 7am. \n\nOn my weekend mornings, I usually wake early to roll over or use the washroom. When I do this, I check what time it is. If it\u2019s close to 5am, I\u2019ll \u201caccidentally\u201d wake my husband. I do this because I know when he checks the time, he\u2019ll leave to go watch tv or play video games and I will get the bed to myself and actually sleep in. He finds the couch very comfortable and regularly falls asleep in it on these mornings, which is why I don\u2019t feel bad doing this. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "S66fhqdUtSqgxdeWhdUdeXjXhaFQywKX", "post_id": "agv4ow", "action": {"description": "telling my dad to stop talking to my mother in law", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my dad to stop talking to my mother in law?", "text": "Okay, so basically my dad (m45) started talking to my mother in law completely out of the blue a few days ago, it was over Facebook, and very late at night. Normally this wouldn\u2019t concern me but my mother in law just announced to everyone she was getting a divorce, and my dad has a history of cheating on his partners,I don\u2019t know what to do, he was talking a lot of crap about my mother to her too, and I just feel like that crosses the line. My mother and my mother in law see each other a long t more than my dad does, and I feel like he\u2019s just either being petty by trying to make people hate my mom, or he\u2019s attempting to cheat on his current wife with my mother in law? I feel like I should go completely no contact over something like this, and it\u2019s just giving me a lot of anxiety.  Any advice would be amazing ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3xEEjc0zXkgBwyCzcTzv8o7vmRtKVzC7", "post_id": "aksvx3", "action": {"description": "being my reaction towards my ex suicide attempt", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA I\u2019m my reaction towards my ex suicide attempt", "text": "So he (22m) survived. \nA little back story:\n We had been friends for 7 years. Around November we became sexual. I really wanted something casual, but because we had such a long history as friends I felt like I was supposed to love him.\n\nBut i could never get over that hurdle of not feeling a strong connection to him. Eventually he asked me to be his girlfriend and I agreed.\n\nWe dated for 2 months and then I cheated. He found out by going thru my phone. I didn\u2019t deny anything and told him I think we should break up. But he just wouldn\u2019t take no for an answer.\n\nI know I fucked up, but at this point I was telling him \u201cthis is a red flag if i cheated on you in the beginning you should take this as a sign i probably won\u2019t respect you in the future.\u201d\n\nNope, he just didn\u2019t get it. The next few days he kept hitting me up trying to find a solution for us to work things out. When I finally started to get bitchy he got my point. \n\nThat\u2019s when they cryptic messages started, i suspected he might do something drastic so I began forwarding certain texts to his dad.\n\nHe told me he was planning something so that\u2019s when I called his dad, but I had work to go to. So it was in his hands now.\n\nSo idk how he attempted but he\u2019s back home now. I feel awful knowing that I caused him to feel so low. I had a panic attack at the gym because our song came on. I love him i just no longer wanted sexual relations.\n\nAnyways we are in the process of giving each other our stuff back. I asked if i could buy a video game i know he doesn\u2019t like that I\u2019m very fond of. He went off on how he sold it when he was planning to kill himself.\n\nI became one wordy and said i didn\u2019t want to talk about this and I\u2019m uncomfortable.\n\nHe hit me up again saying he found the game but right now i just feel so shocked and uncomfortable I dont want to respond.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "BwCJBUASVlBVKwVtYfuptNJK8ox9rK8K", "post_id": "at9kee", "action": {"description": "not wanting to wanting a relationship with my estranged sister", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to wanting a relationship with my estranged sister?", "text": "Some minor non relevant details have been very slightly changed, this does not effect the story in any way. This is also my first ever post and is on my phone so please go easy.\n\nFor some background my dad was in the army, was abusive along with my mother in various ways. We moved around alot and eventually they split, with my mother moving back to our home country.\n\nMy family was then spilt effectively with one sister staying with my dad. This created a horrible relationship which carried through into our mid twenties. I have absolutely no desire to rekindle the relationship due to what has happened. \n\nShe is very toxic, stealing from all family members, passive agressive and in general making my life a living hell by making me out to be a bad person. I understand our childhood did'nt set us up for the best start but as adults she continued this toxicity. Regularly starting fights and running back to my dad, rinse and repeat.\n\nHowever my mother has made me feel guilty for not wanting too, so my question is am i the asshole for wanting to protect my own mental health and not want a relationship?\n\nAlso sorry i'm terrible at coherently telling a story but really need some clarity.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wRrRYZuzzaNVd2GHwBeN7he6pimw9Jmf", "post_id": "b2as47", "action": {"description": "yelling at my mum for not caring about my future", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my mum for not caring about my future?", "text": "Little backstory: I basically can\u2019t talk to my parents about anything because if I even begin to, my 5 year old sister will start screaming because she\u2019s not the centre of attention and if she\u2019s asleep or not there, my parents are too tired to fully pay attention to what I have to say (which I don\u2019t blame them for seeing as they both work and taking care of my sister is a really exhausting thing to do) \n\nI (17F) am in the process of looking for a suitable university to go to (I\u2019m in the UK). I have an open day in a week and today I reminded my parents about it. That\u2019s when my mum asked me if she could go with me. \n\nThe thing about that is that I wouldn\u2019t mind my mum going, but that would mean my 5 year old sister had to go as well. I told her that I wouldn\u2019t want my sister there because I don\u2019t want her messing about while I\u2019m trying to find out more about my future (I basically decided I want to go to this uni but I\u2019m going there to find out more) because that\u2019d be distracting for both me and my parents. \n\nShe got a bit mad at me saying that but I think it\u2019s reasonable. She went on to say that when she went to my brothers uni open day last year in a different uni there was a lot of things for little kids to do. That\u2019s when I lost it.\n\nI started yelling about the fact that this is my future I\u2019m talking about and all she seems to care about is the fact that my sister could have fun at my potential future university. I don\u2019t want to be overshadowing in that day in the way that my parents focus on my sister all day to make sure she\u2019s okay instead of focusing on my future, which the day is basically supposed to be. \n\nI know that the day is basically for me to find out more info not my parents, but I\u2019d still appreciate it if they could at least pay a bit of attention to it since they don\u2019t really listen when I try to tell them about it myself.\n\nDid I overreact? AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cDvmAyaRHgd8JZc2EHUfXgE2IgXR1yGB", "post_id": "b95o0b", "action": {"description": "reporting an african-american guy to neighbors for walking down my driveway", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for reporting an African-American guy to neighbors for walking down my driveway?", "text": "Today my SO texts me about a guy walking down our driveway:  \nSO: Just chased off guy who walked down our driveway on a cell. \"Oh Im lost.\" Yeah sure.  \nME: What did he look like? I'll make a post on [Neighborhood App] for ppl to look out for.  \nSO: Black male, ~6', dreads. Mid 20s.  \nME: Long or short dreads?  \nSO: Long. He left walking east down [Street] toward [landmark].  \nME: Do you remember what he was wearing?  \nSO: No    \nMy Post: SO caught a man on his cell phone walking down our driveway. He said he was lost. Our driveway is long but you can clearly see our garage at the end of it - not possible to think its an alleyway or something. Description: Mid 20s, long dreads, African-American, about 6' tall. Left walking east down [Street] towards [landmark].  \nLater I get a DM: I wanted to reach out to you about your post and I thought about doing in on the post but I dont want you to feel attacked. Your post obviously reflects your experience but it doesnt really offer any information for the community.  \n1) You may think its obvious that your driveway is not the alley. I know that in your life time you've made a turn while distracted and thought to yourself \"why am I going this way?\" Especially if he was on the phone.\n2) Im assuming that when you husband spoke to him he turned and walked away. Im sure you would have said otherwise. Im interpreting that you don't believe what he told your husband?  \nYou could be describing a misunderstanding but posted it like a violation. Now you have everyone looking out for a 6 ft tall 20 year old black male with dreads? That\u2019s like saying a 6ft tall brown haired white male and from what you said this person didnt do anything wrong. I understand that you were obviously disturbed but I want to ask you to be cautious about creating situations that will allow for continued profiling. I hope that this makes sense and again it sounds like you were disturbed but we're on a neighborhood website and have a responsibility to protect all of our neighbors.  \n    \nWe're a house in the middle of the block, the driveway ends like a typical driveway. It's 100 feet long, our house lining a side with neighbors chainlink fence lining the other side. No way a distracted person would mistake that. We HAVE, as I said in my response, alot of criminal activity in the neighborhood like car break ins, burglaries, mail theft, car theft, and shots fired. Cops light up our street often and we've been told to stay in hour home a few times, like when they thought a suspect was hiding IN OUR GARAGE.  \nI posted to the Security and Suspicious Activity group. This guy's behavior was suspicious considering our neighborhood's history. I gave all information available. I try to be mindful about race relations etc in our area because it is an issue, but obviously I'm not perfect and if my white privilege made me unintentionally caused an instance of racial profiling I'd like to know and adjust my future behavior accordingly.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 6}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qpxJaXzlzzDStmLqcZmaWT4q86g39wrd", "post_id": "b65vaq", "action": {"description": "being cold to my ex-fianc\u00e9 and demanding a paternity test after her infidelity", "pronormative_score": 823, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "AITA for being cold to my ex-fianc\u00e9 and demanding a paternity test after her infidelity?", "text": "So, right now I'm in kinda a shitty situation. I've been treating my ex-fiance pretty cold and demanding a paternity test for the child she's caring. All of my friends are saying i'm being a major asshole but I don't feel that way, heres the story.\n\nI knew my ex for almost 10 years. We go back all the way to high school and have been friends. After we graduated I said fuck it and asked her out and we became a couple. We dated for almost 6 years before she came to me and told me she was pregnant. I won't lie, I loved her at the time and this was actually quite exciting to me so i proposed. She, however, seemed super worried. I sat down and talked with her about it. I told her that even if she did decide to terminate the pregnancy I would be by her side and still wanted to marry her. She was super awkward about it but decided to keep the child and accepted my proposal.\n\nThese past 7 months have been a roller coaster. She moved in with me and we began getting ready for our daughters birth and we were planning on getting married after she is born. That was until a few weeks ago. An old acquaintance from high school reached out to me. I was never good friends with him but he said that he felt guilty about letting an innocent man suffer for his and my ex's mistakes. This guy claimed that he was the father of my ex's child and that my ex had been lying to me. It turns out that my ex and him got reacquainted about a year ago and started having sex. around the time my ex got pregnant they began having unprotected sex. He is not lying about this. He sent me photos of them together and showed me texts between the two of them. I was able to get my ex's phone and confirmed they were real. Along with this, he sent me a string of Facebook messages of my ex admitting to lying to me because I make more money that the real father and she would rather I care for it.\n\nSuffice to say, I was fucking pissed. I confronted her, she cried, I cried, it was a mess. In the end I broke it off then and there and evicted her from my apartment. She's in the process of moving out now but I have not said a single word to her. I have pretty much told her that I want her out of my life. I also demanded a DNA test the minute the child is born. If it is mine, i'll help her support it. If not, then I am never seeing her again.\n\nI've been cold to her. Her and her parents has tried multiple times to \"work it out\" with me but I've refused any contact with them. At one point she got all of her friends together to try to talk to me and I kicked them out of the apartment with threats of calling the police. Any time she's tried to \"Reconcile\" i've shut it down,\n\nMy friends are saying i'm in wrong here. According to them she's pregnant and because of that I should at least be helping her till the baby is born even if it isn't mine. I disagree fully. But I could be wrong. Am I letting my own emotions hide the fact from me that i'm an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 818, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 823, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eB1F2lBQUSPtuWgB29YDltttcJP9lgGO", "post_id": "a5vhgs", "action": {"description": "being laissez faire with my younger siblings lack of wanting to go to school", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being laissez faire with my younger siblings lack of wanting to go to school?", "text": "I'm 21 years old, out of the house, and looking at getting into my next job. I've distanced myself from my family on account of it being a huge toxic mess where absolutely everyone in it, from my 14 year old brother (one of the persons in question) down to my dad, is incredibly terrible to some degree, with the most of it coming from my narcissistic, lazy dad who refuses to discipline the kids. I also have not been around due to military service for 3 years, so realistically I couldnt have been around much anyways. This has resulted, officially, in them (a 15 yo sophomore girl and a 14 yo freshman) essentially flunking their current grades on account of how little they go to school (which was somewhat an issue when I was going to high school as well, though that was moreso due to lack of transportation than lack of initiative) and, unofficially, my middle brother (was 17 and in continuation school) dying in October from a drug overdose.\n\nSo, the issue: the kids dont want to go to school. They go to bed at unreasonable hours, they go back to bed when they are woken up, and one of them will actively insult and scream at you whenever you attempt to stir her up from bed past waking her up. It is abundantly clear to me they dont care, and the way I see it, I can show them they can always use me as a resource to get them to school, but I'm not in a mood where I'm going to basically drag them to water and make them drink. I can see the flip side of the arguement being that they're family and I should be looking out for them being their older brother, but I dont think I can do much when they dont even listen to or respect my mom or dad, and my dad gives them active reason not to care: when my mom disciplines them and takes stuff away (namely their phones or game consoles), my dad will go behind her back and give them right back...or let them go on the weekend when they were told they cant do anything, or let them have friends over when they were told they cant, it's a huge parental issue in my opinion. \n\nI'm of the opinion that, frankly, the kids are fucked due to their lack of care and the lack of my dad being a solid husband and father. I dont want to be screamed at when trying to help the kids out and I dont want my life to have to revolve around trying to make them care about something that not even my dad cares about, so my question is this: AITA for being laissez faire with the kids on their lack of care for getting to school?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K1qDmOjKAIufisdPik7XHJ8qOD5DPC9Q", "post_id": "a2vni2", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I didn't want to drive 2 hours to see him this week", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend I didn't want to drive 2 hours to see him this week?", "text": "For the past 3 years, with the exception of 4 times, I've driven 2 hours each way, once or twice a week to see my boyfriend (and driving is my least favorite thing). I was even doing it when I wasn't working and was in school full time. Hell, after I'd gotten into a car accident I didn't see him for 2 months because I needed to recover and then find a new car. Whenever I go out there we just sit around and watch TV. He rarely even wants to go to the movies and I typically prefer to spend my days off doing stuff, even if it's just chores around the house, sitting tends to make me antsy.\n\nThe past few weeks I've been feeling particularly exhausted, mentally and physically, from work and school and finals are coming up, so I told him I didn't feel like making the drive this week and asked if he minded coming out. He got pretty irritated and I'm having trouble not just saying fine and driving out. \n\nAITA for saying I don't want to drive out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WY30bX7z4bxdHTp6m1ql5Wx13zEeTh2j", "post_id": "b20qvc", "action": {"description": "saying goodnight when I'm not even going to sleep", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for saying goodnight when I\u2019m not even gonna sleep?", "text": "We really like each other -friendly- (not sure if it\u2019s not platonic anymore), just for some backup on why I feel guilty. \n\nHe seems distant from me nowadays, but I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s intentional like last time -told him not to do it anymore- and so I have this vibe that our conversations aren\u2019t as close anymore. \n\nI hate \u201cfake\u201d conversations, especially with someone I should be fond of talking to. At the end I was just feeling sadder and sadder every minute we kept on going for that kind of convo and just all of a sudden said goodnight and left. \n\nAfter many hours, I\u2019m still awake and wish I could just talk to him but now I can\u2019t because I told him I was gonna sleep. A total dick move I know. \n\nI just feel like an asshole for thinking he deserved it for a second as well. He didn\u2019t eve say anything but \u201cokk\u201d when I said I feel like he is distancing himself from me today. \n\nSo am I even actually an asshole given the circumstances? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "7CNMmoIcGi8BbLhRZjzzl3NxNN1hEE4F", "post_id": "albbxl", "action": {"description": "trying to find the cost of ring which my so gifted me on my birthday", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA for trying to find the cost of ring which my SO gifted me on my birthday??", "text": "Me (27) and my SO(28) are together for 8 years. My SO gifted me a 925 Sterling silver ring on my birthday. The price range for Sterling silver ring in my country starts from 15 USD. That is all the information I gathered from internet. \n\nI had already asked my SO for price of this ring twice, but he didn't tell me. I know the shop from where he bought the ring. I am by nature a curious person and now my curiosity is kicking me in to go to that shop and ask for price. But I don't want to hurt my SO's feeling and I know once I know it's price I could never hide that fact from my SO. \n\nI even planning to share what I discovered on internet. Don't know how he will react. But am I really asshole for trying to find the price of my ring?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 25, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EB6Z6r19kue2IqrA4zZOMVRNUpPiTihv", "post_id": "akms0o", "action": {"description": "telling my mum to stop giving out her number", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my mum to stop giving out her number?", "text": "I'm on my phone, so sorry for formatting issues. Throwaway account.\n\nTo give some context to the title, my parents split up a year ago and my mum was devastated, without getting too far into it, she's been struggling to handle it. She has however, thankfully, got a lot of people around her to support her. She goes out multiple times a week, and a few months ago agreed with a friend they'd try to meet up every weekend, they often go out when they meet up too. \n\nSince she's started going out more, she began telling me about men she got chatting to. At first I was just happy to hear her talk about something other than my dad, I liked the idea that she may be starting to get over it and be open to the idea of a new relationship, but then it escalated. \n\nIt became at least a weekly thing that a new guy had approached her, flirted with her, and she'd then inform me she'd been talking to them over text. The thing that gets me though, is her talking to me about these men has now turned into constant complaining about the inappropriate things they say to her, or how they want to date and she isn't ready to date. Often she'll say they said inappropriate things whilst they were out, and then as you'd expect, they'll behave the same way when texting her. She tells me way too much information about what these guys said, and I've already nipped that in the bud because nobody wants to hear about the intimate details of what these men want to do to your mum in the bedroom, she still tries to tell me often but I shut it down straight away. \n\nBut my main point is that I'm getting to the point where I'm fed up of listening to her tell me about all these men trying to get with her, and the sexy talk they try to engage her in, when she's giving out her number to people already doing this stuff in person - What does she expect? She always has an excuse when someone asks her why she gave them her number (because she doesn't just tell me this stuff), and it's always playing off like she had a totally innocent reason to do it, like she wanted them to tell her about fun things happening in the area (as opposed to just googling it?) \n\nI've heard her friends say she's leading men on just to stop talking to them in a few days and she denies it and says she isn't interested in them and she isn't ready to date yet, but I believe she probably is leading them on. I've been out with her before, one on one and with her friends, and whilst she has sometimes been approached by interested men, this is happening all the time now, and giving out her number when she knows they're interested I feel is definitely making them think they have a chance. I feel she must be doing something whilst she's out with her friends to be getting all of these men talking to her, and I feel a bit bad for the guys who seem actually nice, who want to go out on dates, because they think she's interested too.\n\nThe thing is, if I tell her she should stop giving out her number, I don't know if that makes me an A-hole because I'm inserting myself into a situation she seems, ultimately, okay with. Nobody has explicitly said to her \"Well, what do you expect? If you don't want these guys to try to sleep with you then stop giving them your number when they've clearly shown signs of wanting to sleep with you.\" But I feel it's because everyone feels she's enjoying the attention from the men. She definitely uses it as a confidence boost, she'll start saying stuff about look at what my dad's missing and she can get guys still. It's helped her stop obsessing over my dad so much, which is why initially none of us thought anything of it and liked she was coping better. I don't think anyone wants to stop her having fun, but at the same time, none of us want to hear about the vulgar things people say to her, or how she's been asked out and how crazy that is as she isn't even interested, every time we meet up. I really don't know if this is something I should let her navigate herself, or if it's a good idea I say something to her.\n\nShould I tell her to stop giving her number out? Should I just leave her to it? Is there a better way to handle it?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s3jhjoxMDK5Pe7TRZB1PGI9qyKhmi0kl", "post_id": "9vo56q", "action": {"description": "wanting to cut ties with my depressed friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to cut ties with my depressed friend?", "text": "I worked with a guy and kept in contact with him over the years. The last few years he has gotten very depressed, mostly because he is lonely and isolated. He is hyper focused on finding \u201ca mate\u201d and has a very skewed perception of what a relationship should be. Basically he wants someone to take care of him and make him happy, but it comes off in a bad way. ANY positive interaction from a single female is his signal to try and woo her. He refuses to become friends with people, especially those who are in relationships because \u201cwhat is the point they are already taken.\u201d He used to talk to me about how he was sad nobody loved him and I\u2019d help him through the worst of it since he was my friend. But lately it has gotten worse. \n\nHe tried getting multiple types of help, but nothing did any good despite multiple medication trials to the full dose for the appropriate time frame. I keep telling him to talk to a doctor or a psychologist, but he doesn\u2019t see the point because that won\u2019t help him find a girlfriend. He had intentionally overdosed on his medications before and I\u2019m worried he will do it again. At the same time I\u2019ve put my foot down about not helping him with a relationship anymore because he needs to figure that out himself and any sort of formula or set of actions he wants me to give won\u2019t make a relationship work. He told me he only was continuing to talk to me because I helped him figure out relationship stuff.  I told him off for that and he apologized.\n\nSince then I\u2019ve hosted him and he insulted my home, my food, my state, my partner, and my appearance and continuously expressed displeasure at all options I had given him. This is not the friend I knew before.\n\nEvery time I talk to him he always says he is terribly sad and has nobody to talk to, but he is absolutely miserable to be around and I don\u2019t know what to do. \n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to be done with his depression and for wanting to stop talking to him altogether even though it looks like he could really use support? It\u2019s been almost two years since it got worse.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NgTCexje75HtTifbSOQC7CWLOHxUKRdV", "post_id": "av8u9o", "action": {"description": "stopping talking to my struggling friend to save my own mental health", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA If I stopped talking to my struggling friend to save my own mental health?", "text": "Okay sounds pretty bad already I know but hear me out.\n\nI have an online friend who I've been talking to for about three years now. During said time I have been there for her no matter the situation and had to talk her and several of her other friends off the ledge multiple times. She used to be really kind to me and I really loved her.\n\nNow however something in our friendship has changed. She's always taken her anger out on me whether it be through picking fights or just insulting me randomly. I know it's because there's no one else around to be the target of her anger and she's going through a really hard time. But it still hurts to hear some of the things she says. Especially since I've been trying to help her. It's gotten to the point that whenever I'm at work and can't message her she thinks I hate her and won't believe me when I try to explain.\n\nShe has professionals around her to help her so if I leave it's not like she has no one to help her through the tough times. I tried leaving already earlier this month but ended up staying because she made me feel guilty for trying to go.\n\nThough I love her I can't always be there for her. I have a life outside of my phone and I don't want to feel guilty for living it anymore. And on top of that I've been feeling like I'm coming apart and sinking to this dark place in my mind. I can't juggle trying to keep myself happy and being there for this girl 24/7. \n\nDoes it make me an asshole to abandon this girl?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "csJHlMWIUC5lg4i573nh0Bd3hDHlbd4a", "post_id": "al2kjr", "action": {"description": "lying to my now-husband about being pregnant? it's five years in, we just had our first baby and a great marriage but the guilt just eats at me night and day", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 150}, "title": "AITA for lying to my now-husband about being pregnant? It's five years in, we just had our first baby and a great marriage but the guilt just eats at me night and day.", "text": "I literally just found this sub today and I hope I am following all the rules. I am not looking for any sort of absolution or advice because really nothing can be done at this point. I just want to know if the feelings I have are justified...hence: am I the asshole. \n\nSix years ago I was 22 and started dating the absolutely most perfect guy on the planet. Saw sparks immediately, fell hard for him within the first few dates, he says he fell just as hard. We had an amazing first year courtship. I mean literally out of a fairytale romance novel. I was so in love with him I could not see strait. \n\nSo exactly one year in, his high school sweetheart shows up on the scene with a baby she claims is his. The timing of it was right from the last time he's seen her (kid was about 2 years old) and she claimed that she didn't know who the baby's father was at first but now was certain it was him and she needed him in his life. This part of the story could go on for pages but fast forward to the baby wasn't his, DNA test proved it. It was some sort of crazy girl shakedown because the real father wouldn't buy her a car or some such craziness that people get themselves into. \n\nI was so relieved and figured our relationship would continue unabated after this minor bump in the road. However the baby scare freaked him the fuck out. He claimed he was still in love with me but he'd seen into the face of fatherhood and commitment and he just wasn't ready and broke up with me. I was devastated beyond words. Like couldn't eat sleep, eat or even breathe. He went off on a summer vacation sold travel around Europe by himself. About two weeks in, I decided I couldn't be without him so I texted him that I needed to talk. He didn't respond right away so maybe two days later I texted him back that I was super late, was probably pregnant and I wasn't asking for him to come back, I just wanted him to be aware. I 100% was not pregnant.  \n\nHe called me immediately and asked what my plans were. I told him that I planned on getting an abortion but I felt like he should no. He told me to not do anything rash and that he would change his ticket and come home as soon as he was able. So when he got home he told me that he loved me, that he wanted to be with me, that his ex-GF scare wasn't my fault and he was sorry he bolted and that he wanted to keep the baby. I really hadn't planned for that happening that quickly. \n\nSo perhaps fortunately I got my period maybe two weeks later and was able to convince him that he blood was probably a miscarriage. I told him I was too scared to disappoint him and pretended to drive myself to planned parenthood where I concocted a fake miscarriage story. He never asked for any proof but he was deeply upset that the \"baby\" didn't make it. \nI pretended to be upset by the \"miscarriage\" too.\n\nWe pretty quickly both realized that it was probably for the best and our relationship more or less picked up where it had left off before. We aren't not perfect by any stretch of the imagination but I truly love him. He supports me in my career, he's amazing, he's wonderful and I can't live without him. We got married about 3.5 years ago.\n\n\nSo in December we had our first baby, an amazingly beautiful little boy who we both adore. My husband is amazing father and is willing to sacrifice just about any material good so I can be a SAHM. Everything we have is amazing. He's in the Navy, we live in an amazing little beach side community in California, he's a wonderful dad. I could not ask for more. \n\nBut I know in my heart all of it is based on a lie. Am I the asshole?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 150, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 150}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XoSq5jMDJdxUEnOJlx6s3QoQMIkeM007", "post_id": "ayafau", "action": {"description": "not being comfortable around a person who I believe has a crush on me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being comfortable around a person who I believe has a crush on me?", "text": "New alt account for obvious reasons. \n\nI'm [18F] one of two girls in a seven person group. One of the guys, who we'll call David, treats me differently from the other guys and the girl in our group in ways I won't elaborate on, but it does involve excessive staring, constant agreement, and general following around. David does not do this with other people in our group.\n\nI've known David since we were kids, but didn't interact from middle school until the beginning of this school year. After waiting several months to observe this, (approximately half a year) David's different treatment to me still hasn't changed and I generally feel uncomfortable around him.  I asked a person in our group if they knew anything about it and they essentially agreed with everything I said, saying they were afraid to make assumptions as well. \n\nI feel awful because David is a really nice guy. But I just can't help feeling uncomfortable around him. It really bothers me when I hang out with him one on one and it doesn't seem like the other group members have a problem with him because he really doesn't have anything wrong about him. \n\nAITA for being generally uncomfortable around David and feeling like he treats me differently from others and thinking he might have a crush on me? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cWWk9RrQWqzXm5aVlW9fRYUBsSaAtcde", "post_id": "aeofpq", "action": {"description": "leaving from work leaving only one guy to scramble to function", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving from work leaving only one guy to scramble to function?", "text": "I was supposed to come in today at 12. I\u2019ve been working there since 8 in the morning because he wanted some stuff to be done before the store opened. That is fine. The boss was also supposed to come in a 12. He never showed. This is a place where it functions smoothly only with at least 2 people. I was supposed to leave at 4 because I came in early and the boss knows that. I left at 5 but I feel very guilty for leaving only 1 guy there. It\u2019s not like I\u2019m doing anything productive after but I still feel very guilty.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pxVSHTEbTLvaoA4k659GIdMcOIOAsBbi", "post_id": "apq6rc", "action": {"description": "getting permisson from my bosses son", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA because I got permisson from my bosses son?", "text": "Okay context: I forgot something in the place I worked at but I realized that it was missing after I put the security code in and locked everything up. So I decide to text my bosses son (who's a co-owner so is also my boss in many ways) and he provided me with it. So I go in and get it, delete the code off of my phone as I don't need it anymore. But then his mother calls me asking why and then proceeds to yell at me because now they have to change everything. Honestly they can just say they changed the code and I would be none the wiser because why would I try to go back with what I think is the old code right? But that's besides the point, the point is shouldn't she be mad at her son for giving me the code? He could've just said no and I wouldn't have mind. I'm just confused about this and really upset.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "b6FQlnsSdU5hUeyakot1jTVSbp8HTDkS", "post_id": "agaitj", "action": {"description": "leaving a guy's place in the middle of the night", "pronormative_score": 42, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving a guy's place in the middle of the night?", "text": "He was snoring. I laid there for an hour trying to ignore it, but in the end, I had to give up. I get up really early for work ( I own a small business, so it's a big priority, not just some job where I can show up tired or call in sick). I live a block away from him, so I'm imagining my nice quiet bedroom that I pay rent for, sitting empty, just down the street. I got dressed, woke him up, and kissed him goodbye because I thought that was decent. Probably didn't help that I ran into his roommate, who thinks I'm shady for some reason, on the way out.\n\nThis was the second time I stayed over. The first time was not a problem. I did not notice any snoring. Maybe he doesn't snore every night or maybe I just fell asleep before he did and slept through it.\n\nHe texted me a couple days later and said he was salty that I left. I explained why, just as I did above, and he could not handle it. Pointed out that it didn't seem to be a problem the first time. That he didn't want to be with someone that couldn't stand being next to him. I said we could work something out. Ear plugs or whatever, it's not a big deal, it just was that night so I left. My opinion is that he's taking the fact that I left as a personal offense when it wasn't actually personal at all. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 42, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zX0dLEMuIW8RZtnB1Xj2kP1SATgjnOuW", "post_id": "am95u0", "action": {"description": "not trusting my bf after he left me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not trusting my bf after he left me", "text": "So sometime in high school my bf of 3 years(5 now) left me for another girl. When he broke up with me he said it was because he wanted to focus on school. I soon find out he asked out a girl that i used to be friends with in elementary, but she and i grew apart. \n\nShe rejected him because she only saw him as a friend and felt weird dating an ex of someone she used to be best friends with.\n\n He wanted to get back together and i told him i needed some time because i felt that i at least deserved the truth when he broke up with me.\n\nAfter some time and a long talk we got back together. I told him it might take me a while to fully trust him again because of what happened and even before we started dating i've had trust issues with my dad and brother (he knew about these issues). I asked him to please be patient with me and communicate our emtions. He agreed.\n\nI had trouble telling personal things and believing certain things he said, and i said all i needed from him was reassurance. He was good on his part.\n\nSome months pass and i feel like im almost there but not quite yet. Eventually we get into a spat and he felt that by taking him back i should be able to fully trust him by then. I know its been some time since then and we are in good spot rn, but the thought has nipped at the back of my mind since. Was i wrong for taking so long to to fully trust him again?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WGg27p7jOz7iRnBSrDR3JG74M2KecwhJ", "post_id": "atst43", "action": {"description": "making her uncomfortable", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making her uncomfortable?", "text": "On mobile, bear with formatting please.\n\nI straight up was in love with this girl. We lived a few towns away though (like a good 15-20 minute drive). We talked every night over ft and fell asleep together every night for about 2 months. Eventually I fell for her\n\nI let her know how I felt, knowing full well that she wouldn\u2019t be very comfortable but it was killing me trying to keep it a secret. I loved her so much and just wanted to show her that I would always be there for her. \n\nShe decided to never talk about it but dropped subtle hints and sometimes not so subtle hints that she liked me. (One time she straight up asked if it ever seemed like she liked me and I said sometimes. She replied by saying that those were her favorite times. I thought this was good news) \n\nWith the Sadie\u2019s dance coming up soon, her friends were trying to get her to ask me and she said that she probably would, but we\u2019d just go as friends. I said of course and secretly hoped this would be the first step to actually being able to spend more time with her in person. \n\nShe asked me about my feelings for her on ft one night and I elaborated. She then was teasing me by saying that she would block me and I wouldn\u2019t be able to communicate with her ever again. I thought she was joking until she blocked me on everything except my contact. When she asked for last words I said \u201cI love you\u201d as a last ditch effort to stole her. (Talking to her was my favorite part of every day and it always made me happier) She said that she didn\u2019t want to block me now but she did anyways. She seemed like she didn\u2019t want to either but she still did. \n\nHave her space for a week and then got one of my friends to talk to her to see if there was any reason why she did. She got pissy and yelled at my friend. Left her alone for another week and one day she unblocked me and said she was sorry. I said that a reason before hand would\u2019ve been nice but I get it. Long story short, she said I was annoying and clingy, I also made her uncomfortable and she didn\u2019t want to talk to me anymore. \n\nI fell kind of bad but at the same time I feel really hurt because she played with me knowing full well how I felt about her. She led me on even though she didn\u2019t like me. Idk how to feel and I want to apologize and also yell at her. I loved her so much and she tore my heart out. Just needed a place to vent and see what you guys think. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yWlACRvtBftomT1hbqhZVeDUutHuVE7n", "post_id": "b6gbwv", "action": {"description": "pulling my daughters ear after she pulled the dogs", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for pulling my daughters ear after she pulled the dogs?", "text": "Sorry, English is not may first language, so sorry for grammatical errors.\n\n​\n\nI live with my husband, daughter(5) and our dog.\n\nMy aunt and her husband were over for a visit, the men doing\u2026 man-things in the garage, while I was in the livingroom with my daughter and aunt. \n\nMy aunt has always been a sweet lady, but very pampering of her own kids, like it\u2019s the world end if they get a scraped knee. She has always been, its your job to protect them from the world. \n\nMe on the other hand, I\u2019ve always been; live and learn. I like to guide more than shielding and let my daughter experience it on her own.\n\n​\n\nAnyway, onto the event.\n\nWe were in the livingroom, daughter was on the floor cuddling with the dog and just petting in general.\n\nI was on the couch with my aunt and we were just talking about general stuff, how have you been, how\u2019s the kids and such. \n\nSuddenly there is a small yelp from the dog, I quickly get ready to leap over if something happened, but dog just gets up and leaves the room.   \n I asked my daughter what happened, and she tells me she was petting his ear and he made a sound.\n\nI make a motion for her to come over to me and she does, \u2018cause I can see she is upset and not sure what she did.\n\nI ask again what she did in details, she explains she was scratching his ear and pulled it to get more space to do the petting.\n\nI\u2019ve told her before, not to pull on the dog, tail, ears, paws and such. It hurts the dog and makes him uncomfortable.\n\nI try to explain this a few time and she keeps asking why.\n\nSo I go, what do you feel about this. And I proceed to gently grab her ear, just having a hold of it, no pressure at all, and does a small pull. Automatic her head follows, to relieve the pressure and I let go.\n\nI ask her again how she felt about that. Not good is her response, and I ask what she thinks the dog feels, and she goes; not good again.\n\nHere the tears slowly starts coming, \u2018cause she now realize she brought pain to the dog and feels bad.\n\nI take her on my lap, gives her a hug and says its okay, now you learned something new and that\u2019s good. \n\nWe sit there for a few, before she is okay again and wants to go play with the dog to make it up for it. \n\n​\n\nThe moment my daughter steps out the room, my aunt lets go.\n\nWhat a horrible mom I am to inflect pain on my daughter, I should be ashamed, never allowed near kids again, the dog needs to be put down, horrible living conditions and so on.\n\nI cant even remember all she puked out, I was honestly just sitting there in shock.\n\nSince I didn\u2019t really respond, she got up, called her husband that they were leaving and walked out the door, while threatening she would call the child protective service.\n\nI\u2019m just lost for words on how she reacted, and tbh question if I did something wrong. Welp? \n\n​\n\n**TLDR; Daughter petting dog, pulled its ear, I pull hers(gently) to teach why it was bad, aunt goes on a rant how bad of a parent I am.**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VpD9RJloTWicAm1pGDH3l0hzFNEvT2vD", "post_id": "b4e832", "action": {"description": "telling my parents my bf and I won't split rooms at my cousins wedding", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for telling my parents my bf and I won't split rooms at my cousins wedding?", "text": "Background: my Catholic parents popped out 6 kids. Myself (eldest, 26F), three kids who play no part in this tale, my sister Mary (22) and my sister Liz (19). All names changed! I have a partner of 2 years (Abe) and Liz has a partner of 1 (Luke). \n\nMy cousin is getting married in a few months and we are all traveling there and staying in a hotel for 2 nights. Mary had initially asked if Liz and I would be cool with all sharing a room in order to keep expenses down. If Abe wasn't coming, that would've been A-OK. But he is and obviously we planned to just get our own room. Ditto Liz and Luke. So Mary is stuck getting her own room solo. Sucks, but she's has a job when she is home from college (full ride). \n\nMy parents told me tonight they wanted Liz and I to get a room with Mary and have Abe and Luke share a second room. To avoid scandal and not having our behavior reflect badly on our youngest siblings, to help save our souls, and to ease the pressure on Mary's wallet. That is the order those reasons were given to me. Liz and Luke are cool with this. \n\nI'm hella not. My parents haven't expressed concerns about where I sleep in the last two years, knowing I spend 9/10 weekends at Abes place. They're also cool with Luke and Liz living together. To say anything now seems hypocritical at the very least. I don't think it is fair to anyone aside from Mary. And my parents are control freaks who left me with emotional trauma that I'm still trying to work through. \n\nAbe will follow my lead as this is my family we are dealing with, as I would if the situation were reversed. Liz doesn't want to create drama and Luke agrees. \n\nSo, Reddit. WIBTA if I told my parents to pound sand? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cjTLV9cEn2xTSqKktTHljwfhe8cgu0UP", "post_id": "b5qwgm", "action": {"description": "making a big deal out of a small one", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for making a big deal out of a small one?", "text": "I have a friends group with 2 others where we would chat and play games together. We were very much just regular people having different fun conversations as you would in a podcast. We met online each one of us, and have been friends for the past 3 months. We all live abroad from each other.\n\nOne day, I decided to ask them both if they would be interested in joining a new free game with me when it releases a few weeks later. It was free for a few days. They reply with a curious yes and said they are up for it. Fast forward a day behind the release window and I realize it's 45 gb big. For a demo, it's a large amount. What's important here is that I don't have alot of internet package on offer. For what I'm paying, that amount is 10% of my package, so I go to them with reluctancy and tell them that this is alot and that I would accept to download it if only they would join me. I'd explain that I'd rather pay for the session than the game itself. I explicitly made that clear and they both said they'd join so I stopped being silly.\n\nI was late by a day as the service just bugged out so I had to postpone the download. It worked out fine for one of them so she got to try out the game first if she wanted to and she did like 10 min and that's it. The other couldn't make it at all sadly but life happens so I completely understood. Mine got done the next day and I waited for them to come online. I get a message then that she thought the game was boring and that she didn't want to come online to play it again.\n\nI was immediately put off by it. I went to ask if she would join me regardless to play together like the plan because that's what I wanted but she continues to say nah. I complained with a \"that was a waste of 45gb\" and she goes to tell me something like \"just delete it?\".\n\nI'm grouchy for the next week and the other 2 are just talking regularly and keeps including me in but I didn't reply. I then let it out that I was still mad about the case. Before the whole argument started, I mentioned that I didn't want this to become big and that I only wanted her to at least understand what she did and that we'd just move on after this. I even claimed I was the bad guy here so I did not expect anything in return. They both go on to ask me to explain. I do and it then just becomes this pointless argument because I try to explain my issue but she still thinks it's something else. That I'm mad because she doesn't want to play the game. I'm mad that we agreed to play together and she went ahead to play it before and then just left me. I would have been 100% acceptable if she got bored of it during the session but not on her own. \n\nAt the end, she left the group and I don't know if she understood yet what's happening. I guess my only hope was that she at least understood. The other guy didn't pitch in at all. Am I the asshole for making this issue when my only desire was to make sure it doesn't happen again?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "FYONKFreh7v9pN9LS2LveNzzETmTRNSA", "post_id": "b1cck8", "action": {"description": "feeling betrayed", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for feeling betrayed?", "text": "The person I love and have had a relationship for several years with now lives in Denver. We are on a break, and we haven't spoken in a while, as she needed the space. We intended to re-establish our relationship eventually, but time will tell. Anyway, feel free to refer to my first posts on my profile for full context.\n\nMy friend moved out with her, and still currently resides with her. Since they've lived together, he's developed feelings for her. He's pursued these feelings, but I don't know to what extent. I don't believe it's at all being reciprocated, however what gets me is that he would do this. I feel betrayed that my friend who has been very close to both of us, and has been in the middle of our separation and situation this entire time has done this. To make things worse, he made us all believe he was gay.\n\nHe's going to come visit us, and I have been feeling rather hostile. I don't intend to do anything, but the feeling is there. I love this woman, and he knows this. So, what the fuck?\n\nAITA? Yes. But, I believe they're both just as much if not more. Thoughts? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xMbnoR1cFC1G31rCXev6Pcgaeg46C3U1", "post_id": "amczq7", "action": {"description": "going after my Ex-bestfriend Girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Going After My Ex-Bestfriend Girlfriend", "text": "Throwaway BTW (Hopefully they don't use reddit O.O)\n\nOk, I should start off with some background information. Some details are going to be changed just so people who know me don't match the details...  Disclaimers aside ON TO the history. **NOTE Backstory is SUPER LONG and I made a TLDR for backstory.**\n\n​\n\nFirst off we're all 17. This involved 3 people mainly: me (Male), my ex-bestfriend (I'll call him Adam also Male), and the girl(who will be called Grace, she goes to a different school to me and Adam), also a few of our mutual friends. Adam and Grace have been friends since late elementary/early middle school.\n\n​\n\nThis story starts back in summer of 2017, I started getting into Dota 2 and my friend caught wind of this and invited me to join a group made of our mutual friends made out of people from our school and Grace.  It was pretty chill and we had fun. I kept my interaction with the group at a minimum and played the occasional game with them. I mainly just played with Adam or my other friend. \n\n​\n\n\\[Note: at this point they are NOT dating\\]\n\n​\n\nJump forward to December, Adam and I had planned to the annual Anime convention (we usually go together and get a hotel).  The convention was going fine and we were having a really good time. In the middle of this Adam gets a text from Grace saying that she was at the convention too \\[Her older Sister and her also LOVES anime and they go every year so it was nothing new\\]. We met up with her and hung out as a group of 3. This was my first time meeting her and actually talking to her. It was pretty awkward at first because Grace and I aren't what most people considered socially skilled. I kept my conversations mainly with Adam and Adam talked to Grace. I didn't really talk to Grace as I didn't really know too much about her. So later that evening it turned out that Adam had plans and left early because he had family obligations. \n\n​\n\nSo now it was just Grace and I walking back to the convention hall because she needed to wait for her sister to pick her up, and it gave me a good opportunity to get to know her. We hit it off amazingly (at least in  my opinion), it turns out that we went to the same middle school (DUH!) and we heard a lot of good things about each other through other friends. We had a lot of things in common and our personality matched very well. We ended up waiting 3 hours for her sister and I stayed with her because I didn't feel comfortable leaving a girl in the middle of a city we both hardly knew. what was going to be small talk turned into a fun 3 hour conversation that could easily kept going on if her sister didn't arrive. She and her sister invited me out to dinner when she was picked up and which I gladly accepted because I wanted to get to know Grace better, turns out her sister is an amazing person who I also got along very well with also. Dinner went great and we left on a good note. I called Adam later and spent a few hours talking to him on the phone just chilling and laughing about the days events.\n\n​\n\nFast forward a bit. A couple of weeks have past and I have gotten closer to Adam as friends and Grace and I became really good friends.  I invited Grace out to the movies and asked Adam to tag along because it was a thank you for dinner and since me and her met at the convention I thought have a really good mutual friend would be cool.\n\nA few more weeks pass.\n\nAt this point I was infatuated with Grace and was head over heels for her. TBH i kinda idolized her as she was my \"ideal girl\". At this point our Dota 2 group was also starting to hang out in real life and it became a regular to just hang out and have fun together. As time passed and i got to know Grace better I decided I should stop being a wimp and ask her out. I call up Adam and as we were talking it slipped out that I liked Grace and I told him I planned to ask her out and what did he think. He said good for you man.\n\n​\n\nThe next day, he offhandly told me that he and Grace have been secretly dating and they have been for a month.. I didn't even have a chance to ask her out yet and I felt betrayed and kinda in denial. I texted her about it and she said it was his idea and that nobody knew not even her best friend, I was the first one to find out. I wanted to cry but I kept cool and supported them. She still to this day doesn't know that I liked her and I still somewhat still do.\n\n​\n\n# SKIP TO HERE IF TOO LONG ON TOP BUT I RECOMMEND READING IT. BACKSTORY TLDR: Met my best friends childhood best friend who turned out to be my ideal girl and good friend, we hit it off really well. 6 months later, told my best friend that I was going to ask her out and it turns out they've been dating in secret at his request for a month.\n\n# \n\nNow onto the part where I ask you all on whether not I'm an asshole. Now I was really good friends with a girl who I like so I couldn't just cut her out of my life because we're in the same friends group and I liked talking to her though I tried to keep things platonic which is easy for me because im antisocial. I only hung out with her whenever it was a group thing and I tried to keep my one on one interactions with her on a only when necessary basis which is hardly ever.\n\nOne event happened where after a group hangout with the Dota 2 group was ending, Adam  and Grace were going to walk back to Adam's place and since I live the same way I asked Grace if I could tag along instead of leaving after them because I had to walk anyways. Grace had no problem with it since it meant all three of us got more time to hang out but Adam got upset and called and Uber for him and Grace. (A lonely walk back home.) Adam later blew up at me on the phone about how I was trying to get in the way of him and Grace and that he hinted to her to a romantic walk back after the group hangout and that Grace didn't get the hint and was the only reason Grace said yes. He said that Grace would appreciate it if I backed off and let them have their own time and stop butting in. He was also mad that I talked to them during the group hang out since he was treating it as a date with grace.\n\n​\n\nI felt super terrible and I sent an apology to Grace saying that I didn't know that she felt that way and if I was being a bother for both of them it wasn't my intention. Grace called me up right away to ask me what the hell I was talking about and that she didn't feel that way at all. She honestly didn't get the hint of the walk and thought just wanted me to tag along as well and that she never considered me a bother rather the opposite. Grace and I had a long talk that night and despite her insistence that she didn't know what Adam was talking about and she was worried about me because I sounded really panicky in the apology I sent her. Her and I left the conversation on a good note and the conversation is still a secret to Adam to this day.\n\n Eventually life got in the way and she started only going on dates with Adam and I started looking to move on to other girls and try to get over Grace (I actually was successful and ended up dating another girl for a little bit but that ended because we didn't have the same interests and she wanted to focus on her academics. It ended on good terms.) .\n\n​\n\n​\n\nAnyways what destroyed my relationship with my Adam was he doxxed me in retaliation and he revealed that he was angry at me for a long time and it's been building up and he thought I used our friendship to get closer to Grace, which in my opinion might be biased but I that thought didn't even occur to me, I honestly hope I didn't because I didn't think I did. He ended up apologizing for the dox and I forgave him but its been awkward ever since. I haven't talked to Grace in a while.\n\n​\n\nI thought I moved on but what sparked this post was the other day when I was hanging out at lunch recalling a story to one of my female friends. Grace and Adam and the rest of the Dota 2 walked up to me because they haven't seen me in a while because I had a different schedule and I just switched lunches to match theirs. Grace moved to have a one on one conversation with me just asking about how life was going and how school was for each other we were pretty close. After they left my female friend said I was being way to close with Grace and that she felt the attraction between us. I patched things up with Adam but I still feel guilty and an Asshole.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nSorry for the long post!!!!!!!!!! I really didn't mean for it to be this long but once I started typing I couldn't stop -.-", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dvimjYa6qeBhGHj7ykdJ9v3dhmyoV2dm", "post_id": "agevcd", "action": {"description": "ghosting a friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA Ghosting a Friend", "text": "Last year I became friends with two girls through work. Let's call them Mary-Kate and Ashley. \n\nI met Mary-Kate first and we have a lot of superficial things in common. Similar hobbies, similar food habits, similar taste in TV. We always had lots to talk about, though she rubbed me the wrong way at times. Ashley came along a little later and we had more core similarities. Closer in age, similar stages of life, similar religious and political viewpoints, though our friendship was a slower build, due to her being an introvert. \n\nA few months ago, Mary-Kate left the job and while she quickly lost touch with Ashley, she still sent me regular texts about her new job. We went out to dinner a few times and she always claimed that she missed me so much. Meanwhile I noticed that the workplace was happier without Mary-Kate. Everyone seemed relaxed and less on edge, including myself. \n\nRecently, Ashley let slip a petty comment Mary-Kate made about me. Nothing serious enough to confront Mary-Kate, it was a comment about how I don't dress well and would be a poor shopping companion for Ashley. I have a quirky sense of style and this comment hurt a lot more than I'm sure Ashley expected. I've found myself pulling away from Mary-Kate, responding to her texts with the bare minimum. I keep replaying the friendship and find I'm downplaying her supportive moments and highlighting her melodramatic moments. \n\nI know a petty comment about my fashion choices isn't enough to end a friendship, but AITA for allowing this petty comment to make me reevaluate the friendship? And AITA for ignoring the possibility that Ashley intentionally told me about Mary-Kate's comment? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xJWqGqBBjjSbMMSI8IBQheLf7Iax8pKZ", "post_id": "avl9o2", "action": {"description": "not being excited over a \"surprise\" my boyfriend brought home", "pronormative_score": 102, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for not being excited over a \u201csurprise\u201d my boyfriend brought home?", "text": "My boyfriend (25M) and I (23F) have been together for almost 6 years. We have lived together for 3 1/2 years and have a child together. We have both grown complacent and comfortable in our relationship, but still love each other. It took me a while to understand being thoughtful is not in his nature, but I\u2019ve come to accept it and love him anyway. \n\nWhile I was at work today, he texted me and told me had a surprise for me. I got a little excited, but didn\u2019t think anything of it. When I got home, I noticed a to-go container in the fridge that contained some fries and a burger that had been eaten off of. When he got home, he went to the fridge and said \u201clook what I brought you!\u201d He pulled the to-go container out, much to my dismay. He explained he and his Mom went to lunch where she took a few bites of her burger and told him to bring the rest home to me. My feelings were hurt and I said \u201cWell, thanks. It\u2019s nice to know I\u2019m worth your crumbs.\u201d His feelings were instantly hurt and we got into a huge argument where he made it clear he didn\u2019t want to talk to me for the rest of the night. I asked why his feelings were hurt, I was the one whose feelings should be hurt. He explained he thought he was \u201cbeing sweet\u201d and figured I could take the burger for lunch or eat it for dinner tonight. It would be one less thing for me to worry about. I told him I was thankful for the burger, but to maybe not get my hopes up next time he has a \u201csurprise\u201d that are someone else\u2019s scraps. I asked how he would feel if the roles were reversed. What if I told him I had a surprise for him and he came home to a half-eaten hot dog. He argued he would \u201cbe happy\u201d with it because it was a gift from me. We rarely argue, but we are currently still not speaking. I really don\u2019t feel like I was wrong for not being excited he brought me someone else\u2019s leftover lunch and called it a surprise. \n\nTLDR: my boyfriend of 6 years brought me home his Mom\u2019s leftover lunch and was mad that I wasn\u2019t more excited/ grateful. \n\nAITA for not being excited over this dang \u201csurprise\u201d?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 79, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 23, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 102, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2kLvahSkuJhANB5vzjbtISqyHaA19k2P", "post_id": "b7cdgc", "action": {"description": "telling my Husband to stop forcing music down our daughter's throat", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 132}, "title": "AITA for telling my Husband to stop forcing music down our daughter's throat", "text": "My Husband is a pretty skilled musician and plays numerous instruments and composes on the side. I never really cared for it, but I recognize how much he loves music so I don't try to mess with. He often spends hours practicing his instruments which I'm fine with.\n\nHowever, he's been pushy since my daughter has been born. Instantly when she was born he made her listen to music. Maybe made is too harsh. He just played music for her, either on his phone or with his instruments. He said it's to give her \"perfect pitch\", apparently it's when you are trying to give the kid the ability to tell pitches just by hearing them. It's accomplished by letting them listen to music (husband says it's certain types of music, like Jazz or Bach) and they'll gain that ability. I'm fine with that and it's actually working which is cool.\n\nMy daughter is now just 4 and he wants to give her an instrument to play. He gave an introduction to lots of instruments and told her to pick a one she wants to learn. She wants to learn, but I'm against it. I say that it's strange to be forcing instruments down her throat at such an early age and that we should wait until later for her to choose by herself what she wants to do--whether that be sports, video games, or music. But she should decide. Not my husband. My husband insists that she should start early but I think it's just too much for her. What if she doesn't like it and my husband keeps forcing her to play the instrument? What if because she was forced she wouldn't like to play music? I'm hesitant, and he's still insisting that she start to play music.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 132, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 132}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1MfByEMjLSMB7l3xdaxKPU07rGy4JrEd", "post_id": "9uiqgl", "action": {"description": "calling the non-emergency number on a panhandler", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling the non-emergency number on a panhandler?", "text": "I work retail for minimum wage in a shopping center close to Detroit. There's multiple businesses here, the biggest being Walmart. I frequent that Walmart nearly every other day, especially while on break at work, to either socialize with some of the people there or to grab some lunch. Usually when it gets late, around 10:00PM, you can find at least one person there begging for money, although you usually don't see the same people there often.\n\n\nLately, there has been one older woman, around her 40s, that has been begging (panhandling) around the entire shopping center, whether in the parking lot harassing people at their cars or waiting to people to leave the stores. For context, it has been raining this whole past week or more and she was wearing bright white shoes. I looked at her, assumed she was being deceitful and not actually homeless. Shes asked me two times while leaving Walmart for $5, no reason given. I'm used to being asked for money and told her that I don't carry cash (which is true) and I'm sorry.\n\n\nToday, I left work to grab some food across the street. She was in the parking lot, yelling at people getting in their cars for money. I recognized her and walked a different direction to avoid her. However, on the way back, she was very close to my storefront and noticed me. She yelled out, \"Excuse me ma'am, could I have $5?\" I ignored her and kept walking and went back inside.\n\n\nLater on, I decided to take my lunch break and left the store to eat outside. She saw me while in the middle of accepting money from someone and called out to me again.\n\n\nAt that moment I had dialed the non-emergency for our local police station and they sent someone out immediately. She followed me up to the counter and began talking towards me, in front of a coworker and an assistant manager.\n\n\nThe first thing she says is, \"Did I offend you? Did I offend you?\" She started telling me that in the Bible, it says you should give to the poor. She says I don't know what her situation is, she isn't harassing me, I could have told her to stop, ect. She said she could take my job if she wanted to.\n\n\nShe left, but a minute later comes back in and asks my coworkers if they called the police on her, and they told her no (true.) She then asked who I was on the phone with. I told her it was my boyfriend and put it on speaker for her to hear. I basically told her that I'm tired of telling her no, and that she is making customers at my store and the surrounding stores uncomfortable.\n\n\nBefore she could leave again, an officer had already pulled up and came inside. He pulled her outside, came back in, and said he sent her on her way but unfortunately she's allowed to panhandle outside in the lot. Although he reassured me that she would even trespassing if she came into the store again as he warned her that she is unwelcome.\n\n\nTLDR: AITA for calling the non-emergency line and having an officer tell this serial panhandler to leave me alone, and does it make a difference whether she was actually homeless or not?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TEFzUlO2noZCMUlmgdjoJLLr67VKrdUW", "post_id": "awhhts", "action": {"description": "changing someone's instagram password for using my email", "pronormative_score": 278, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA Changing someone\u2019s instagram password for using my email", "text": "I got an email that \u201cmy\u201d account name had been changed. Since I didn\u2019t have an account under the supposed name I checked it out. \n\nIt wasn\u2019t my account so I dm\u2019ed the other person, \u201cHi it\u2019s actually [name]. Do you want to change your email?\u201d To which he responded, \u201cNo I\u2019m also actually [name] bitch.\u201d\n\nNow this user appeared to be a kid so I decided to use this as a learning opportunity. I changed his password and deleted his recovery phone number. I then gave him a bio which said, \u201cdm me @[my account] with your email so I can change it for you.\u201d", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 275, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 278, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YPHaKY8YHwB2cEocwVmkaAN9QFr9g1La", "post_id": "ay359l", "action": {"description": "offering costumes to my neighbour for World Book Day after she said she \"suggested\" to her daughter to pick a character who wears normal clothes", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for offering costumes to my neighbour for World Book Day after she said she \u201csuggested\u201d to her daughter to pick a character who wears normal clothes.", "text": "Backstory: It is well known in my circles that I am a costume enthusiast and will usually make a costume from scratch and will take every given opportunity for dressing up. I\u2019m also a bit of a nerd, so there are quite a few book character costumes knocking about the house (some fairly obscure). That said, I will fuss over anyone, especially a child, who makes even the slightest attempt to dress up. I think it\u2019s one of the perks of childhood to have a bit of fun without judgement and it is only to be encouraged.\nToday: Moms at school pick up (5-6 year olds) we\u2019re discussing what the kids are dressing up as. My neighbour tells everyone how she just told her daughter(just 5) to pick a character that wears normal clothes, because she wasn\u2019t going to spend any time on something only to have her daughter change her mind on the day  (the downside of raising a daughter who knows her own mind, but this is not what this post is about). The neighbour then complained that the daughter will have to carry the book around with her so that other people would know which character she was.  Later on in the day, it occurred to me that if her daughter did change her mind at 7am on the day, it might be useful to know that we have a couple of costumes they could use. So I literally texted her with that: We have such and such costumes, in case you want them. \nHere is the response:\n\ni am perfectly happy and she is perfectly happy.the book is one that she likes and means something to her and the girl she identifies with.i generally prefer books about real people.the only issue is whether people will recognize who she is but can\u2019t really let that influence it\n\nI now feel like I have offended her. I clarified that it was in case she changed her mind, obviously, but still. \nI am fond of her and our children are very close. There are ideological disagreements but ultimately we have more in common than not. \n\nSo, did I assume and make an ass of myself or was her response OTT? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CwZmZNouItX1ZgDjDuTv0LdShfsBW1Q6", "post_id": "a3apqq", "action": {"description": "asking for time back I didn't get paid for", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking for time back I didn't get paid for?", "text": "Started a new job a while ago, good colleagues, decent pay quirky boss who let's me get on with my job. Sometimes I have to at 6am in the morning or 9-10 pm after hours. All fine. Had to travel to a client visits which required traveling out on a friday and coming back on a thursday or flying out on a thursday and coming back late on Saturday, flying out Sunday evening coming back during the week. \n\nNow with Christmas coming up I asked for time off and HR told me I didn't have that many days left and I argued that 3 of those we in exchange for three days from weekends I worked with no pay. minutes later I get called into a meeting with HR, a senior manager I don't report to and the boss. The boss challenged me for asking for these three days as something \"unheard of\", citing that every company he worked for it was the norm that traveling included extra hours. As an important member of the team this would be expected of me. I argued that after hours or extra hours were one thing but working saturdays and sundays is entirely different. He said he needed time to think about this and later sent me a message to say that I can have the three days back. \n\nNow he barely greets me in the morning and avoids small talk. \n\nI enjoyed going to work but now I feel like shit when I come here. \n\nColleagues had been in the same situation but instead of speaking up they complain behind his back. \n\nNot sure how to get the sour taste out of my mouth and get the relationship back to normal.       ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "68DcqMSycqI3593GywbWRXPl1qCtCzo3", "post_id": "at5eol", "action": {"description": "asking if this guy was a school shooter", "pronormative_score": 61, "contranormative_score": 29}, "title": "AITA for asking if this guy was a school shooter", "text": "Hear me out before you judge.\n\nI\u2019m chatting with this white guy (this is relevant) from my dorm and I mention I\u2019m Jewish. He immediately asks if that means I majored in economics. \n\nI got annoyed and said well you\u2019re a white guy, are you going to shoot up a school?\n\nHe got really pissed and called me a racist and stormed out. He told a bunch of other students and they all got pissed at me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 60, "EVERYBODY": 19, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 61, "WRONG": 29}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l0p9OpSAitfuFip4xXA5jLRCUmidfpXk", "post_id": "afev4q", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my girlfriend for wanting to go out with her friends when I visit her at uni", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my girlfriend for wanting to go out with her friends when I visit her at uni.", "text": "**AITA: This is legit my first ever post on reddit so if I format this horrendously then im really sorry I have no idea what im doing.**\n\nSo basically my girlfriend and I were together for about 3 years. We met in school and eventually got accepted at different uni's, about 1hr and half train journey with two changes with long waits. The train journey cost about \u00a330 a time, which is super expensive for me as I'm not well of my student loan is awful. I didn't care about the price because I was always happy to go and see her. Now here's a few things for context:\n\n1. It was ALWAYS me that travelled down to see her because her uni course was alot more intensive and I agreed to go down to save her the time of travelling so she could work.\n2. I went down fortnightly, sometimes weekly, so this was a good \u00a3100 a month on travel. and then another 50-100 on going out to eat/food/drinks ect.\n\nAnyway, so at the beggining of uni she was super sweet, very affectionate and always greatful for my visits. But then things started to change a bit. I'd come down and visit as usual, but instead of spending most the time with me she'd dip and out the dorm and go and chill with her new friends. Now this wasn't bad, im not Kim Jong un, she has freedom to do what she wants and isnt obliged to spend time with me. But me and her friends were not even remotely on the same level about anything. She went to Cambridge and I was at a non Russel group uni. Not that this matters, but her friends were alot more intelligent and we shared little to nothing In common with each other so I didn't really enjoy sitting and trying to talk to them, especially when I'd come all the way down and spent alot of money to see HER, not her friends.\n\nI tried my hardest to join in and enjoy myself but it just wasn't enjoyable. Now here's where it gets to the AITA part. She knew that I didn't enjoy spending time with her friends, and she got to see them all week as they lived in the same dorms, so at first I just kinda went \"hey look, I've spent alot of money and time and effort getting down here, and I want to spend time with just you, and be together and spend quality time\". And \\*expectedly\\* I got a responses of \"wooowww so I can't have friends/you're not even trying/I really want you to like my friends/I want to spend time with them too\". And in true sensitive me fashion I was all like \"ah okay sorry will try harder sorry love you\".\n\nTHEN it progressed throughout the year and got to the point where one night I went down to see her and she straight up went \"Hey we're all going out tonight so wear your nice shirt\" And I was just like \"nah im not going out man, I don't bounce off them, they don't like me (they thought I was a \"chav\") I've come down to see YOU, not spend time with them. I see you once a week, why can't we just chill together\". To which again I got the usual \"you don't want to spend time with my friends, they're really trying with you, you're just looking like you don't like them\". Like this really isnt a money issue, or a time issue, but the fact im busting my fucking nut trying to get money to come and see you, and you don't even appriciate it enough to spend time ONE NIGHT of the week alone with me.  Like AITA? Am I being unreasonable? She got me fucked up, I genually don't know if I'm being an asshole or not. Anyway this happened a handful of other times, same arguments, put a tad strain on the relationship and eventually she broke up with me because \"thing's weren't the same anymore\".\n\nBut yeah, was I an asshole? \n\n​\n\nSorry if I formatted this wrong, im new to reddit and that, thanks guys.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CNHcjvHTSBRuyGjSj0c7VtyoOuyuMBtF", "post_id": "9vsd4f", "action": {"description": "being suspicious of my Co-Worker's Domestic Violence Story", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Being Suspicious of My Co-Worker's Domestic Violence Story?", "text": "So I'm going to try to include as few details as possible in this story because I don't want this getting back to my co-workers/friends.\n\nI bartend and generally have a good relationship with my co-workers. I consider some of them among my best friends.\n\nOne of our newer bartenders broke up with her boyfriend who was cheating on her. She still lived with him so they had to make that work for awhile. \n\nRecently she came in crying and told a pretty awful assault story. Not going to delve into specifics but I consider it like [Greg Hardy](https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/early-lead/wp/2015/11/06/horrific-details-emerge-from-greg-hardys-domestic-violence-case/?utm_term=.c7051aacc4c8) level assault (without the guns laying around on the couch). The type of shit that's truly horrific and made me want to throw up. \n\nRight away I encouraged her to talk to the police, because what he (allegedly) did should land him in prison for multiple years. I was legitimately concerned that her life was in danger. She claimed that she didn't want him to lose his job.\n\nI believed her because I'm inclined to believe domestic assault victims. However, today she was discussing some of her new dating prospects and one of our (female) co-workers approached me and said that she was suspicious of her story, which I had was also starting to question.\n\nThis was because of a bunch of different factors:\n\n1. She's been telling so many people about this horrific assault. Like not just all of my co-workers but regular guests as well. Like this isn't just \"my boyfriend slapped me\" shit. That's horrible enough but what she's describing is WAY worse.)\n2. She doesn't want to press charges. Now, I know this is common in cases of rape and DV but it just seems incompatible with reason 1. Like I understand why women (and people in genera)l would want to keep this inside but she's told so many people that she barely knows. That seems like a weird disconnect to me.\n3. She spent like 30 minutes yelling at him on the phone while we were closing down one night this week. Given what she's described, the last thing I would think she would want to do is provoke him because someone dying did not seem out of the question given the story she told.\n4. There were no signs of trauma on her body. Not impossible when considering the story she told, but definitely unlikely.\n\nIt's mainly the first two things that I listed which don't make much sense when combined with each other. She's definitely the type of girl that loves drama which in my mind means she could easily be lying or exaggerating. But she's also a pretty tough person so I wouldn't doubt that maybe she's just managed to shake it off remarkably well.o other \n\nTwo other co-workers told me tonight that they doubt that she was telling the complete truth. I'm not sure if she's telling the truth, lying, or just exaggerating, but I feel guilty for not believing her completely. I would never actually say this to her unless there's some confrontation that escalates things, and I'm continuing to outwardly support her, but I have my suspicions on the inside.\n\nAITA for not believing her completely? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WIsWsQS4lNJxprJTxFILf90Z0UF2HGHr", "post_id": "avkbtf", "action": {"description": "not getting my husband dinner", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA\u2014 For not getting my husband dinner?", "text": "So, this evening on my way home from work, I decided to grab something for dinner rather than cook. Before deciding where to go, I attempted to call my husband. Mind you, I have a 20 minute commute from work to home. I made 4 attempts to call him while on my way home with no response.\n\nAfter no response, I grabbed dinner for myself and headed home. \n\nAm I the asshole for not getting him something as well? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "eHm1LovQY9x3K27zduDTRY5Ccu1QYgxr", "post_id": "anz62c", "action": {"description": "making a Joke about my Pregnant Coworker", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Making a Joke About My Pregnant Coworker", "text": "For background, my coworker and I are on the same project (we are business consultants) and have known each other for 4-5 months and are generally friendly to each other on a day to day basis. My coworker is pregnant with twins and is in the third trimester of her pregnancy. As you can probably guess she is noticeably pregnant. Today we and another coworker on our team were walking from our office to a neighboring client's office which required us to take a strangely narrow escalator. If a normal escalator can fit two people side by side, this one's width is about half that size.\n\nAs she boarded the escalator she said to us \"Wow, this is a tight fit\". And I, without missing a beat jokingly replied \"Yeah, I guess it's a good thing you're not having triplets then\"\n\nShe laughed. I laughed. The other coworker did not laugh and had a scowl on her face. Later today the other coworker pulled me aside saying my comment was offensive and I shouldn't have said what I said. I took it in stride and said I would apologize to my pregnant coworker (she left early so I'm planning on doing so tomorrow just to be safe).\n\nI personally don't believe what I said was offensive. Getting bigger while pregnant is normal and people who have triplets get bigger than people with twins. In my mind, it wasn't so much as a fat joke as it was a matter of fact joke. Though I can see why a woman's changing body size could be a sensitive issue. But I do feel like I gauged the situation, knowing from previous conversations that my pregnant coworker is a good sport and seems to take shenanigans around the office well.\n\nDoes assuming my pregnant coworker wouldn't be offended make me the asshole. Or does her being a good sport about things justify my seemingly inappropriate joke?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SYf5nwPlVKP67rnakwgojwSMQczDtYqn", "post_id": "ajchr3", "action": {"description": "yelling at my grand aunt", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my grand aunt.", "text": "Some background info: I'm ex catholic and my grand aunt is the one who used to take me to church. I stopped going to church a few years ago and my grand aunt has been trying to force me to start going to church again. I find it really annoying but I usually just ignore it.\n\nI had just come back from a camp so I was really tired. My grand aunt tried to force me to church again and I got really pissed off. I shouted at her and told her to get lost, she then started to argue with me about church. I really couldn't take it anymore so I told her that I thought she was crazy and delusional. I feel really bad about it now but I really can't bring myself to apologise.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sCtehmsj1Swsq59msERdhFJ9ebMjfhOM", "post_id": "araw1w", "action": {"description": "not caring about spreading the flu", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 57}, "title": "AITA for not caring about spreading the flu?", "text": "I had to take my mom to the hospital because she was having trouble breathing and turns out she had the flu. I was visiting her and a nurse came in with a mask on and asked me if anyone had talked to me about putting one on. I told him that I\u2019m fine I have already had the flu this year. He said it\u2019s more for seniors and kids who are more vulnerable to it. I told him that I wasn\u2019t putting a mask on and he can\u2019t legally make me wear one, and he got an angry look on his face and left.\n\nI\u2019ve already had the flu this year so I don\u2019t even see how I could spread it to someone else if I don\u2019t make physical contact with someone who has it. I shouldn\u2019t have to worry about other people catching it, it\u2019s not my concern or my responsibility. If you get the flu, drink plenty of fluids, get rest, and if it gets worse go to the doctor. It is not my problem if you cannot take care of yourself.\n\nI\u2019ll concede I was probably an asshole for how I talked to the nurse, but I don\u2019t like it when people imply or tell me I need to do something that I\u2019m not legally obligated to do.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 57, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 57}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dpEwt9AIWMMAVuqnhlgwqJeCqcEqyU0u", "post_id": "a6ocyd", "action": {"description": "preventing my gf from doing cocaine with randos", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for preventing my gf from doing cocaine with randos?", "text": "My girlfriend and I are on vacation in Barcelona. We were out with friends, getting pretty turnt. Met a German anarchist at the bar who gave some people in the group rum with MDMA/ecstasy dissolved in it. I didn't partake because it was sketchy to me. We continue on... They decide to go to a club. Along the way my girlfriend keeps telling me I should get a cool black leather jacket like German guy and I say nah that's not my style but she keeps bugging me bc she says I would look good in it and I'm still like nah dude not me. We continue on... German guy almost gets in a fight and my patience is wearing thin. I don't really want to dance at this point but I'm still planning to be along for the ride. At the club cover charge is high and girlfriend casually mentions she wants to do cocaine in the club with German guy.\n\nI lost it and demanded we leave German guy and leave this club. We do. Girlfriend and I argued on the street as she still wants to dance and I want to go home. We part ways - I go to the hotel and she goes dancing with her remaining friends. I was still really upset at the way she treated me but the fight didn't seem like too big a deal yet. \n\nCut to 7 AM. She returns from the club and slides into bed expecting everything to be cool between us. I'm still a little upset so I pull away from her touch. The arguing starts up again... She calls me a square and I tell her to fuck off and leave the hotel to go walk off my anger. Now I'm back at the hotel and she's gone off to her friend's place to deal with her own emotions. She's not responding to my messages.\n\nFor context - normally we get along really great and love each other and don't fight. Also, she takes anxiety and depression medication which is less effective when she drinks. She has been doing more reckless drinking and taking drugs lately which has me concerned. We have been talking marriage plans too.\n\nSo, AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "421TyLu5tqKJqDZ99amEUm7ZIc0FMUKs", "post_id": "ar95zz", "action": {"description": "refusing to split bonus for reffering my acquitance to company I work in", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to split bonus for reffering my acquitance to company I work in ?", "text": "So there is one guy that went to college with me, that I would not consider close at all as we barely spoke during that time.\n\nWell I think somehow we got into small talk and he was interested in position I do and I proposed that I can reffer him and the bonus we can split 50/50. He refused this saying its enough for him to get accepted and he is not even thinking about any bonus. I said fair enough, let me then at least help you with all the info you might need for interview and all the details about our position and he proposed alright lets just get wasted one night and we will be settled.\n\n​\n\nFast forward few months later he got accepted and after two months I met him at christmas party where I just wanted to talk about how he likes it so far have some drinks, just casually. Now I mentioned that in one month (as he has to be in the company at least three months) we can finally go celebrate that and get drunk. But he right away started with this refferal and so that we can split it right ? while I really did not want to discuss it there and make an argument I somewhat went with it but said that ok lets see as soon as the money comes.\n\n​\n\nNow the money came and I refuse to split it as we had some arrangements first time and I had plan for those money. He acts as I somewhat did not surprise him and karma is for free and stuff that should make me feel bad.\n\n​\n\nAITA for not wanting to share this ? Its not huge amount but its something that will cover something I planned. It is mostly about principle as to not let people do what they want with me and standing the ground.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Nh5OgZpcyTghkk4bgEdVAemTgceipSzq", "post_id": "am6q9s", "action": {"description": "dumping my gf after finding out she's been using tinder while studying abroad", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for dumping my gf after finding out she's been using tinder while studying abroad?", "text": "I found my gf was using tinder while studying abroad in Europe for 5 months. We had been together for a year before and I found out 3 months after she left to study abroad. I was planning to visit her and decided to look for her in dating apps before spending a considerable amount of money in our trip as we were making plans to go visit Paris and Madrid. She claimed it was for making friends only ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9K1g32R5Ah5taa4YzlbZilqcV0p8bAj8", "post_id": "9x5fbe", "action": {"description": "expecting my gf to come to my concert after she had suicidal thoughts", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting my gf to come to my concert after she had suicidal thoughts?", "text": "As bad as that looks in the title, there's a bit of explaining I have to do.\n\nI'm in my school's hs orchestra, and I'm at the highest level. It's not necessarily an outstanding achievement, but it's something I'm proud of.\n\nThe night before my concert, I had to stay after school to practice. My phone was dead and I left my charger at home, so because I wasn't allowed to leave, I called my mom from a friend's phone and asked her to bring my charger and a pair of shoes.\n\nOn my break when I was able to charge and check my phone, I had 8 messages asking why I hadn't said goodbye after school and why I hadn't been responding to her texts. She even texted something along the lines of, \"Winterierthree2, your phone better be dead or I'm going to be fucking pissed\"\n\nI was understandably angry, an argument ensued over text, and things got kinda bad, with both of us cussing and being mean to eachother.\n\nShe plays the sax, and she's playing with another orchestra, she just didn't have to go to practice, so I was able to talk with her later about it.\n\nThe argument was partially my fault, I admit, because I was still frustrated with her after she apologized, because she had no right to be that rude when there's no way for me to remedy the situation, or even respond.\n\nShe ended up crying about it, I said I was sorry and she told me she was thinking \"bad thoughts\", meaning suicidal ones.\n\nI stayed as long as I possibly could to apologize to her and console her, even being late to the stage where I was going to perform. I made sure she was alright by the time I left and that she wasn't going to hurt herself. I told her she should come watch my concert so she isn't in here sitting all by herself. I also texted her this a bit before we performed. Keep in mind this argument had been taking place in the band room, 10 steps away from the auditorium where I was performing.\n\nShe didn't show up for any of my 30 minute performance.\n\nAt this point I'm a little pissed. I came to all of her marching band competitions, even when I hadn't been feeling well mentally, about 6 or 7 in total, driving upwards of 45 minutes each way. I also stayed for her part of the concert that was right after mine.\n\nI come back into the band room to pack up my cello, and she's chilling with one of the band teachers, talking and laughing and playing her instrument. I had worked on this music for months and was proud of my performance, and she didn't see any of it.\n\nAITA for expecting her to be there for me? She has told me about times where she's had these suicidal episodes, so this isn't the first time it happened. I suspect ITA, but I'd like to know what you guys think.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i7kKsbmoGYci9EZopLnPX0JFQNQlakD2", "post_id": "a5l5jn", "action": {"description": "not being sad about my best friend's uncle dying", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not being sad about my best friend's uncle dying?", "text": "My friend (A) and I have known each other since 1994 and have been really ingrained in each other's families for over 20 years. Needless to say I know most of their family secrets - one of which involving her uncle (U)...\n\nWhen we were kids, I was always warned to not be alone with U because he was \"weird\". I remember noticing that he was always around when we were swimming in the pool, and particularly enjoyed throwing rings in for us to dive to retrieve. I always thought he was funny, but wasn't around him enough for him to play a significant part of my childhood.\n\nFast forward to the summer of 2017. A is getting married, and she asked her sister to be her matron of honor and me to be her maid of honor. We were expected to share the responsibilities of helping A with her wedding plans, as well as putting together her bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc. However, it became apparent in the very beginning that I was in it alone when her sister had full-blown mental breakdown. Like, lost-her-job-and-put-into-mandatory-therapy mental breakdown. \n\nBecause of the unfortunate situation with her sister and the fact that I was spending more time than usual with A, she eventually let slip that her sister's problems were the result of childhood trauma. I assumed she was referring to their parent's short addiction stint (they've been clean for 20+ years and doing fantastic) but no, she was referring to U sexually assaulting every female in her family. Every. Female. His sister (her mom), his daughter, and all of his nieces...all of them except A (I'm pretty sure she doesn't remember as a defense mechanism but she says it never happened). Despite all of this, he was still invited to the wedding. Admittedly, it was very hard for me to act as if I didn't know anything, as asked, especially when I noticed him sharing cigarettes with A's sister numerous times during the reception. \n\nSo two weeks ago, when we learned that he had stage 3 cancer in his lungs and brain, I felt nothing. Actually, not nothing, I felt vindicated. I felt he finally got what he deserved after years of traumatizing every woman in his family. The thing is, though, everyone's flocked to his side. Additionally, they are all posting these long, emotional rants about how unfair it all is, coupled with dozens of photos of them with U throughout the years on social media. I honestly cannot roll my eyes hard enough.\n\nBut I get it - I get that people feel the need to make amends with the dying and choose to only remember the good times. However, I do not think that it's necessary to forgive someone of such grievous crimes, especially ones that have had such lasting effects. They are sanctify him in death and guilt tripping everyone who didn't go see him before his passing - even A's sister, who is still very unstable.\n\nI've kept my mouth shut, but I've made it clear that I will not be attending his funeral despite my friend asking me to be there for her. I have also been very tight-lipped with my condolences and attempt to change the subject whenever she brings him up. \n\nI feel completely justified in my response, and I don't feel like an asshole at all. However, I would like to hear others' input to help me better understand how my reaction looks from an outsider. It's a very delicate situation and I don't want to make it worse with my incessant apathy.\n\nAITA?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lGw072V4Xwhi1pyPMZyRuYooimFtw5H6", "post_id": "aylgtg", "action": {"description": "wishing my boyfriend Complimented me more", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Wishing My Boyfriend Complimented Me More?", "text": "It may seem like a really stupid or silly question, and I\u2019m sorry for that. My boyfriend and I love each other, we show it in different ways and I get he isn\u2019t the most expressive person in the world. I just wish he would compliment me more. He does compliment me, when we\u2019re having sex or I dress up pretty (he insists that I\u2019m pretty no matter what- but only mentions it when I\u2019m dressed up). \n\nIt just makes me feel insecure sometimes, because my want extends to my hobbies. I\u2019m an artist, although amateur, and I want him to tell me if he likes my art but he doesn\u2019t give it a second glance. Even if he hates my art, I wish he would acknowledge my work. \n\nMaybe I\u2019m just silly and stupid for wanting to hear his opinion and compliments more,  I\u2019m sorry for rambling either way. So, am I the asshole for wanting to hear those things from him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "i87EmICUSV1rKhcPsJ4a5aIVmdP0AKhl", "post_id": "b0j205", "action": {"description": "telling my ex's new boyfriend that she is manipulating him", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I (24M) tell my ex's (25F) new boyfriend that she is manipulating him ?", "text": "So my ex and I had been together 4 years and broke up 6 months ago. Since then she found a bandaid relationship with a guy (Jack) to help her cope with loneliness. \n\nHowever, we still texted everyday and I had no idea of Jack's existence. She had been telling me how lonely she felt and we got into talks of maybe getting back together, because we admitted to still being in love.\n\nI recently discovered Jack existed and he is of course very jealous of me. \nWhen she told me about him, she then broke up with him.\n\nHowever, they actually got back together behind my back while still maintaining an ambiguous stance with me.\n\nI found out she has been lying to him about not seeing me anymore and lying to me about not being in a relationship with Jack anymore. \n\nI know for a fact that if I leave them alone she will hurt him (not because I am a jealous ex, but because she has psychological issues).\n\nI have already decided to cut her out of my life as of today, but will I be the asshole if I tell  Jack the truth for him to decide for himself if he still wants to be with her?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8DreQOyoGF4eIxR13MBVxx00W8Y7hqbk", "post_id": "afbyqp", "action": {"description": "being upset with my girlfriend for not getting her driver permit", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my girlfriend for not getting her driver permit?", "text": "First, some backstory: I\u2019ve known my girlfriend for about a year and a half, \u201cdating\u201d her for a little over a year, and been official for 4 months. Since we\u2019ve met, I\u2019ve been the sole transportation, since she finds Ubers/taxis to be expensive and scary. She lives 23 miles away, which makes things a little difficult.\n\nBack in October 2017, I mentioned that if she would like to learn how to drive, I\u2019d love to teach her and help her get her license. As she\u2019s the type to shut down under pressure, I didn\u2019t push it since I wanted her to take it at her own pace and I didn\u2019t want her to feel uncomfortable. She\u2019d avoid it whenever it came up in conversation during the following months. However, I did have her practice in a parking lot a few times throughout last year. \n\nMid last year, I voiced my concerns that driving out to pick her up just to take her to a grocery store down the street was becoming quite a strain, and even though I\u2019ve never asked her for gas money, I mentioned that it would be helpful if she could pitch in for gas, which turned into me being an asshole for not asking in the first place. Mind you, I hate asking for compensation when doing a favor, but driving 80+ miles a week adds up very quickly. Since then, she\u2019s given me ~$20 every now and then, which helps.\n\nCome October of last year, I purchased a car that I absolutely treasure and was uncomfortable with having other people drive. I mentioned to my girlfriend that I might not be able to teach her how to drive in my car since I couldn\u2019t afford risking something go awry, which caused an argument about me breaking my promise on teaching her how to drive. She mentioned that I was the only one she was comfortable with and that she won\u2019t be able to learn with other people. I told her that I\u2019d help her get her license, and once she does, I\u2019d be more comfortable with teaching her in my car.\n\nAfter that, she said she\u2019d work on it. There\u2019s a DMV in a town 20 miles in the opposite direction of where she lives from my place, and I\u2019ve offered to take her there if she\u2019d like to get her permit, since we both work M-F 9-5. (Side note: my job is an hour and a half away, so I leave and get home well outside of normal DMV hours)\n\nEvery time I have brought up the idea of taking her to the DMV for just the permit, she says that she doesn\u2019t feel ready. She\u2019s studied for it for hours and has taken the practice tests many many times. (Side note 2: She already got a permit when she was younger, but it expired a couple years ago).\n\nLast night, she mentioned that her sister will be teaching her to drive today with a quick drive around the block. I said that I don\u2019t really support that idea, since she\u2019d be at a huge risk in case something happens. I also mentioned that I would happily take her to the DMV in the morning if she\u2019d like to get her permit before driving on a public road, which led to an argument about how I don\u2019t appreciate all of the effort she\u2019s made and that what she\u2019s doing \u201cis just not good enough for [me]\u201d\n\nSo...... am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gBCdpMcRPsROnLDweyAJVQe4UuwaImno", "post_id": "ai9z6j", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Accidentally got \"friend\" kicked out of group?", "text": "This happened a few years back, but still bothers me and has me wondering if I messed up or if I was doing the right thing.\n\n\nI met my friend (let's call her 'Erica' in this scenario) in roughly 2011 in a writing group on another site.  We quickly became really good friends and while we had periods when we didn't communicate much, we were always able to pick right up where we left off.\n\nIn early 2016, I joined a group that Erica was part of, as well as the rest of our core friend group.  Excitedly, she asked if I wanted to pick up our writing where we had left off before which I said yes to.   Somewhere along the way, Erica had picked up a new friend that we'll call 'Jonny'.   Myself and the rest of our core friend group noticed that Erica would reply to Jonny's posts immediately while the rest of us were waiting for several weeks to get a reply (I once waited about a month, after she kept telling me that she was busy and was always too tired after class to do writing; I'm not an asshole, I understand life offline came first, but I'll admit, it sucked to see her bust her ass to respond to one person while blatantly ignoring everyone else).  Eventually, Erica wrote some pretty harsh things about a mutual friend and I confronted her about everything.  I tried not to be an ass, just asked her to consider the feelings of our mutual friend and imagine how she would feel if the roles were reversed, asked her to be respectful of other's time, etc..  We had been friends for 4+ years at the time and had literally NEVER had a disagreement, so I was trying to fix things before it blew up on all of us and ended up ruining some friendships.  \n\nErica immediately stopped responding to me altogether and I saw that she had unfollowed my tumblr, where this writing group took place, but was still being active on her blog.   I asked the admins of the group to reach out, see if maybe it was a glitch or something as tumblr is known for bad programming.  They made a very generic group-wide post about how we were all supposed to follow each other, and said that if she wasn't following my blog again in a few days to let them know.\n\nA few days went by, she wasn't, so I told the admins.\n\nNow, I had no idea that they had already been having issues with Erica since before I even joined this group, so when she disregarded the admin's rule, they kicked her and Jonny (who they were also having issues with) out of the writing group.  \n\nWithin an hour if that, I had received vile messages from both Erica and Jonny, calling me a variety of names, saying that I had gotten them kicked out because I was jealous and petty because she just didn't want to write with me anymore (which I would have been fine with, if she had ever actually opened her mouth and said as much).  My now-apparently-former friend stood by silent as Jonny released a good amount of my private information, including my location and IP address - which was pretty scary as I've always been very careful about guarding that kind of information and only letting people I trusted know my real name or where I live.  Erica knew that, at the time, I was dealing with a pretty serious stalking situation and was being extra careful with that information and yet she still said nothing about it. \n\n\nIt seems like every few months since this happened, I go through cycles of wondering \"Did I screw up? Was I being super petty?\" and get the urge to try reaching out to Erica again to apologize for my role in it all (which I know would be fruitless; I've already tried it once and never did get a response)\n\n**TL;DR:**   A friend cut off all contact after a disagreement, and the ensuing confusion ended up with her getting kicked out of the group.  AITA for speaking up? Does the blame for how this all shook out truly land on my shoulders?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wfsXDo9iGQRnjb3RZnvhYBCZ3zLkJP5v", "post_id": "b2mh5z", "action": {"description": "telling a friend to give up on a girl he says he's in love with and generally speak with her less", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For telling a friend to give up on a girl he says he's in love with and generally speak with her less?", "text": "I have a friend who lives in a different country so I really have no say in what he does in life but I feel like an asshole every time I talk to him about this girl.\n\nSo here's the story, my friend is super close with this girl in his country to the point of calling her his best friend. He's also madly in love with her. But there's an issue. She's his cousin's ex girlfriend. \n\nI keep telling him that a relative's girlfriend, much less one you walked in on having sex with said relative is a no go zone. Add to that he's confessed more than once to her and she's told him she's not interested in him in that way. \n\nThe more he keeps her close the way he does the more I see him moping in the chats we're in together and the more he messages me about how much he wants to be with this girl. Frankly speaking I don't think she's worth his time but that's me. \n\nI have told him before that in my opinion he should see less of her and generally work to remove her from his life if all it's gonna do is hurt him the way it does. The couple times I've brought this up he gets defensive and recently tried to defend wanting her by changing his story to say she's his cousin's FRIEND'S ex and that she hates the guy. But every other time he's talked about her he's said it was his cousin's ex. \n\nSo Reddit, am I the asshole here?\n\nTL;DR : Friendo is hung up on a girl that's his cousin's ex girlfriend and she's not interested in him.  I think he should slowly remove her from his life because she's doing nothing but hurting him. He doesn't like that idea and I feel like an asshole for bringing it up. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8QiRr6AKdG8UFe5Z18HmQ6lCvq4XyBaV", "post_id": "b1m7r2", "action": {"description": "being essentially rude to my mother and refusing to open up to her", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being essentially rude to my mother and refusing to open up to her?", "text": "So basically, I feel that my mother condemns my emotions and is just not pleasant to be around. I remember when I was younger I told her stuff and then the next time we had an argument (we have those ALL the time, it\u2019s honestly exhausting), she\u2019d insult me about it. For example, she found out I was harming myself, and basically screamed at me for 3-hours straight about how if this got out to \u201cauthorities\u201d she\u2019d be \u201cblamed\u201d and she\u2019d \u201chave a record\u201d. She says a few times before in arguments that she wishes I was dead. As a result of all this, I just show no emotion to her, and am really just flippant to her sometimes. She says this hurts and she loves me,but it is really hard to believe that when the next argument we have, she\u2019ll say something that really hurts. She\u2019s going through a lot (my dad died 1/18, she\u2019s still grieving about that), and it doesn\u2019t help that I\u2019m naturally annoying (ADHD), but I just don\u2019t think it\u2019s fair to displace her feelings on me, especially when it\u2019s my own mother telling me she\u2019d disown me or whatnot. \n\n(NB: please be honest, if I am TA, tell me. Be truthful. Thanks) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zNls5K7DPHxsfgIyciaTxDHQunleEvZi", "post_id": "a8hrtu", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my sister's for Christmas", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my sister's for Christmas", "text": "My sister is my only real family and she lives about two hours away.  She really wants me to visit for Christmas and I really don't want to go.  \nI already went there for Thanksgiving! She lives 2 hours away with her boyfriend and his family.\n\nI hate their trailer.  I can't really drink there because it's 2 hours away.  I won't spend the night because I can't sleep around other people.  All the furniture is used and uncomfortable.  There is a yard for my dog and they like hanging out with him, so that's a big plus.  It doesn't have a stove or oven.  She bought a grill but you can't make the type of meal I want with just a grill.  \n\nI really want a great dinner.  We went to Hooters by her place for Thanksgiving because that's what her boyfriend wanted. I had a menu in mind and everything.\n\nI don't want to go.  I'd rather stay home with my dog but it's super important to her.  I don't celebrate Christmas. I dislike Christianity and capitalism.  Christmas is not important to me.  I just don't usually have time to prepare huge elaborate meals.\n\nShe loves Christmas and has gone all out decorating. This is her first real Christmas with her boyfriend in their place.  She's really really really excited about it.  I told her I didn't want to go and she got everyone we know to guilt me about it.\n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to go to my sister's place for Christmas?  Also am I the asshole for telling her I don't want to go?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C5swzgYyJ36YYCsViKn0F5S964R5BtjI", "post_id": "9w6gyj", "action": {"description": "feeling resentment over a gift", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for feeling resentment over a gift?", "text": "Now I too roll my eyes at the spoilt, bratty people who complain about gifts \"not being good enough\" in r/relationships- I am not looking for advice, more of a reality check.\n\n\nMy husband is kind but a bit oblivious at times. Yesterday he took over the eight year old laptop of his sister and saw that the charger cable and battery pack were missing. With a smile he told me that replacing those two items would be my \"Christmas presents\". Meanwhile he gifts himself an \u20ac800 graphic card for his gaming PC.\nFrankly I would rather not receive anything. AITA for feeling ungrateful?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9CDrDgyKPAydP9d7s7IKhAlXvGjHsSbt", "post_id": "b1yqot", "action": {"description": "resenting my ex and not wanting to be friends", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for resenting my ex and not wanting to be friends?", "text": "A week or two ago my exgf broke up with me. It started from me talking to her about how we had a disconnect in our relationship and something needed to change. She felt the same way, but she didn't think the problem could have been solved so we broke up. That's okay, I can accept that as answer and there isn't much I can do to change that. The previous month or so had been pretty terrible for us, we kept getting in fights and we were gradually losing feelings. \n\n​\n\nPersonally, I attribute this to the lack of motivation put into the relationship. I poured my heart out in the beginning of Feb and tried to schedule dates, buy presents and other things. None of them were reciprocated that month, our last date was in January. She stopped calling me and texting me as often, I was always the one trying to initiate conversations and I was getting tired of it. I'm not great at controlling my emotions, so there were times when I would get frustrated and confront her about these things, which always resulted in the same answers. They usually boiled down to her being busy or other random excuses. I think I was generally mad that she always seemed to have time for her friends (sometimes she even lied to me about when she was free) but could never be bothered to schedule any dates. I also stopped emotionally leaning on her because it felt like she just stopped caring. \n\n​\n\nSorry for that long rant, here comes the actual scenario/question thing. I was recently talking to a mutual friend and she mentioned that the reason she wanted to break up was because she felt like she kept trying to make it work and I wasn't helping it work. This really boiled my blood, because she sent me a long text after we broke up apologizing for \"emotionally using me\" and now she's trying to make it seem like I didn't try. FFS she got some friend a valentine's day gift and forgot about me.\n\n​\n\nI can see where she's coming from regarding my frustration towards the end and how I could have been mean, but to say I didn't try is a whole different story. I don't know, maybe I'm just really angsty or something. She still wants to be friends and I was considering it at first, but after hearing that I don't want her in my life. \n\n​\n\nTL;DR: I put a lot of effort into trying to keep our relationship going, after breaking up with me, my ex told her friends that I didn't try or reciprocate the feelings she gave.\n\n​\n\nIf I need to edit anything for clarity let me know, I ranted pretty hard so some things might be unclear.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x2tMOYPQaEPtajxxYXzvg4AJseITJH0R", "post_id": "an4wtg", "action": {"description": "pulling over the car if my brother starts backseat driving", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I pulled over the car if my brother starts backseat driving?", "text": "I see my family a lot and get along with them great for the most part.  One thing that drives me crazy is my brother, who tends to be something of a know-it-all.  He absolutely loves to assert himself as being smart, and tends to get very competitive about.\n\nOne of the ways this manifests is with backseat driving.  I don't drive him often (we're both adults and neither of us live at home/with each other), but when I do, it crops up, especially if he's in a bad mood for whatever reason.  These are not comments that are necessary reminders, they're usually pissy little asides like \"You didn't have to let that car go ahead of us, you know\" or \"You don't have to change lanes yet, but whatever\".  Dumb shit like that.  I've asked him to stop before and he's always said \"I'm not being snarky, I'm *helping* you.\"\n\nNeedless to say, I hate this, and I honestly find it distracting as hell.  Probably the worst case of this happened a year ago, when it was pouring horrible rain during a three-hour drive that he wouldn't stop commenting on.  He kept insisting this was for our own safety, though he didn't at any point offer to drive in the downpour.\n\nThere is a family event coming up that is going to be 1) about a ninety-minute drive, and 2) really early in the morning, so he will probably be cranky.  We might all be able to go together (in which case, our dad would drive us over), but if we can't, I may have to drive him.  If he starts in on it, would I be the asshole if I threatened to pull over?  If he kept going, I'd pull over and say some variation of \"Either you drive us the rest of the way or you stop talking.  Every time you make another comment, I will pull over again.\"\n\nI realize this makes it sound like I'm chastising a child, but at the same time, I legitimately don't know what else to do (other than just not driving him, period, which would cause a rift with my dad/the rest of the family).  He knows I hate this and won't stop, so this is my best idea to get him to cut it out. WIBTA if I did it?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zCrE2qaEXMiZMjRFMVUHJKKjtGTDsXQ3", "post_id": "a4ssgt", "action": {"description": "not wanting my gf to hang out with her male friend", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my GF to hang out with her male friend", "text": "My girlfriend of 6 months has a friend from high school that she likes to hang out with. Most of these are in a group setting but some are one-on-one. \n\nNormally this wouldn\u2019t be a problem, as people have friends of the opposite sex.\n\nBut this feels different to me because when we were first starting to date I asked about this guy and she mentioned that he has said multiple times that he\u2019s in love with her. \n\nShe says that it doesn\u2019t matter because she\u2019s been friends with him for so long that she doesn\u2019t see him romantically, but I still don\u2019t like the idea of her hanging out alone with a guy who has admitted to being in love with her. \n\nAm I the asshole for telling her that I don\u2019t want her to hang out with him? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2nkFjdBWHlfFosA5YyC1sE72sBG7HPSu", "post_id": "abslui", "action": null, "title": "AITA My sister didn't ask her only sister in law (my wife) to be in her wedding", "text": "This one's a little different I'm more asking if my sister is the asshole instead of me. \n\nMy sister is getting married and didn't ask my wife to be a part of the bridal party. My wife is very upset and says that this tells her that my sister doesn't consider her to be part of the family. I understand why my sister didn't ask her only sister in law to be in the wedding. It's not like they're super close and she had a lot of cousins and friends who she's been close with for 10+ years standing up with her. \n\nMy sister can be an asshole at times. I've seen her give condensing answers to my mom when she asks how wedding planning is going and if she needs any help. But there are also times when she'll go above and beyond to help you when you're in need. \n\nI feel like I'm too close to the situation to judge it. And I'm also super ignorant when it comes to the expectations of events like weddings.\n\nSo is my sister the asshole for not asking her only sister in law to be in the bridal party or is my wife being overly sensitive?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rbsfI9aS5zACs3FMkE7K55cx77B4080h", "post_id": "an3j2i", "action": {"description": "reporting a bullying incident of another person niece", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for reporting a bullying incident of another person niece?", "text": "Dude I went to high school with(we\u2019ll call him G) posted on his Snapchat story last night \u201canyone got younger brothers/nephews under the age of 10 that wanna make money to beat up the kids bullying my niece since the school won\u2019t do anything. Making her cry everyday and she\u2019s 6 like this ain\u2019t right\u201d. His post kind of pissed me off, like regardless of the situation I don\u2019t believe you should advocate for violence against kids, so I made a mocking story(leaving out the bullying info) of my own saying a grown man shouldn\u2019t be saying things like that. \nOfcourse G sees my post and confronts me about it. We go back and forth for a little but not much ground is gained for either of us. He\u2019s saying \u201cshe\u2019s being bullied why are you not on her side\u201d and \u201cit was clearly a joke\u201d. While I\u2019m still in the belief that no one should publicly ask for children to get harmed and that it wasn\u2019t a joke. I ask him repeatedly to remove the post(he\u2019s got a pretty bad record so this will just add on) but he doubles down and post another story saying how it was a joke, BUT he never removes the original furthering my belief it wasn\u2019t a joke. \n\nI\u2019m going to the police station to report the bullying but since I don\u2019t know her name or the schools name I\u2019ll be forced to use G and his post as my only lead/proof. I told G that without any names he\u2019d have to get involved to which he tells me \u201cit\u2019s not your family so don\u2019t get involved\u201d. I really want to prioritize the girl being bullied and let G act a fool online but I feel my hand is forced. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "901NViWLj8OuG3bRDlUl0cOIuugShcFl", "post_id": "ar3lry", "action": {"description": "getting mad with how mom spent my money", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad with how mom spent my money", "text": "So early today I transfered my mom 100 dollars to be spent on groceries and to get a cab (the cab is 10 dollars). I gave her a list of things I wanted that didn't even total thirty dollars and and told her she could spend the rest on stuff for the family. She was already going for groceries when I asked her about this.   \nI live in her house but I pay an agreed upon monthly rent. I haven't missed any rent and I sometimes eat their food but when I do I replace it.  \nAlso, there's a shiny new bottle of Vodka in the fridge, a lot of the health food she eats that I DO NOT like, and I think she went out for lunch because my sister never tags along to do groceries and they were gone 2 hours longer than groceries normally takes.  \nAm I in the wrong for being mad that she didn't get ANY of the stuff I wanted and didn't end up spending any of her own money on groceries when she originally headed out to do just that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S8kIlIxlfn2oLVKCHVuu38MZdEwhlKDy", "post_id": "az782a", "action": {"description": "walking along a wide sidewalk, and a large group of men are walking in my direction", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA I'm walking along a wide sidewalk, and a large group of men are walking in my direction...", "text": "They are all socializing with each other as they walk. However they are taking up the whole sidewalk, and this is an extra wide eight-foot sidewalk too. The grass is wet and I don't want to have to step off into it and deal with wet smelly shoes unnecessarily. So I hold my ground. I skim the right edge of the sidewalk as tight as I can so as to give them plenty of room.  \n.\n\nThe guy closest to me along the outside of his group barely moves to make space for me. This results in our shoulders colliding pretty hard. I held my stance pretty solidly because.... in that moment of realizing that the guy wasn't gonna give me space, that he expected me to step out into the grass so he could maintain his social position...well I felt a sense of\"wtf!? I'm walking on the edge here and you're gonna try to force pressure me into going out into the grass!? What am I a peasant that you get to walk all over? Bullshit I have a right to exist here too\". So our shoulders hit pretty hard since neither of us gave way.\n\n.\n\nI just kept my eyes forward and kept walking my line. Didn't look back. I was worried what I might do if the guy tried to make something of it when, in my mind at least; he caused it. The group had plenty of time, saw me coming from way down the sidewalk, yet they didn't make that two or three feet of space that my body would've needed to walk along the edge there.\n\n.\n\nDon't get me wrong, I appreciate the desire to walk side by side. That is why when I'm in a grocery store and there is a family walking side by side, I make way. Even if it means stepping aside out of the main walkway and into an aisle to let them pass. Basic courtesy right?\n\n.\n\nSo am I the asshole? What would've happened if I had decided to bend down and tie my shoe; would they have knocked me over entirely? It it *right* to let the mob push people around?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sVA6c3aUhrnTlp0RJFkdT5lcsEXi43Wl", "post_id": "an9lc9", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help my brother pick his classes", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA If I don\u2019t want to help my brother pick his classes.", "text": "\nMy mum wants me to help my Brother pick his classes for the 9th grade because I\u2019ve already been in the 9th grade but I don\u2019t want to do it because I hate being the experiment child. I picked his classes for eight grade despite not getting to choose mine then getting stuck in a stupid class I didn\u2019t need to take. When I could have taken health or comp sci. And not only that. I\u2019m not ahead in math but my brother is and that infuriates me even more. I don\u2019t want to help him because I had to figure out everything for myself but I\u2019m supposed to lay a path for my brother. And not only that my mum is letting him take higher classes but she didn\u2019t think I was good enough to do it. Despite the fact I always get all A\u2019s or high B\u2019s.\n\nAnyway am I the asshole for not wanting to help.\nPls don\u2019t be rude just honest", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kJ8Uwahn1xwkLiDNfDpn371E8I74ah5v", "post_id": "ax5wcz", "action": {"description": "expecting birthday cards from my kids and wife", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for expecting birthday cards from my kids and wife?", "text": "Recently I had my birthday, it was an uneventful one and not a milestone. I know money has been tight and we are trying to stay afloat but, nothing from my elementary school aged kids or wife. Due to the money situation I knew that I wasn\u2019t getting any gifts. I would have thought she would have had them make cards, get cards or something... instead I got a birthday hug from my oldest and that wraps up the day. It\u2019s depressing me to think that no one cares and getting bitched at for being depressed. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r6vA8ojLSBSRSM3RDR17nfeXWStDDPw4", "post_id": "ay4q75", "action": {"description": "breaking my friend's earbuds", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking my friend's earbuds", "text": "Yersterday, I was sitting down on the ground during a free period in school eating a nut bar. My friend , I'll call him \"B\", approached me and started to jokingly harass me for a bite. \n\n\nB: GIVE ME A BITE *proceeds to mess with me a bit\n\n\nNormally, I play along with it and we have a laugh. B had his earbuds plugged into his phone with the wire flying everywhere during the commotion. He grabs my foot (I had sandals on) and tried to take my sandals. We struggle for 2 secs before he pulls back on my foot. The earbud cord get wrapped around my leg and gets tugged on hard. He tells me that I broke them bc the wire inside ripped from the tug. I immediatly appologize and say that I'll try to pay him back. Btw the earbuds were 10 dollar ones. He demands I get him new ones and takes my earbuds (my earbuds are s8 note earbuds) from me. He also demands that they be delivered to him before thursday and if not he'll claim mine as his. \n\n\nI'm not scared of fighting him bc im a lot stronger than him but im a lot shorter than him lmao. On top of my initial AITA, should I cave in to his demands. \n\n\nAITA for accidentally breaking his earbuds", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Nk6pFmRCJI390NLZXPtNuhFoJcnPcHNI", "post_id": "b3jewz", "action": {"description": "confronting my friend about her behavior and deciding to sever the relationship", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for confronting my friend about her behavior and deciding to sever the relationship?", "text": "Context: Became really close friends with a coworker this last summer. We had lunch together and grabbed coffee almost every single day. Back in January, she told me that she was meeting up with guys on Bumble/Tinder. At this point I had a mini panic attack after realizing that maybe I had feelings for this woman and I couldn\u2019t possibly go about living life asking \"What if...?\".\n\nA few days later, we met up for coffee and had some of the best conversation I\u2019ve had over a span of about 4-5 hours. At the end of the evening, I explained how I felt about her (probably terribly executed). Didn\u2019t ask for a response because it\u2019s not easy to be put on the spot like that. We went our separate ways. \n\nSince then, she\u2019s been keeping all social interactions to work and everything seems fine during these times (mostly). However, now she essentially refuses to communicate or interact outside of work anymore. \n\nAITA: The other day I asked for her help to understand the situation that was going on because I really felt like I was losing a friend. She responds saying that she\u2019s been avoiding the conversation because she figured it wasn\u2019t worth it to hash out. \n\nI responded with a book of text explaining how her behavior has made me feel insignificant and then ended by saying that her comment about the situation not being worth it to hash out was all the understanding I needed to know where her mind was at. Overall I\u2019ve just felt alienated. \n\nDeciding to cut ties until she properly acknowledges the situation.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QSQ4Wq5ug3aG4wW14xo9LcEU1Zdk7ejV", "post_id": "9ta2u3", "action": {"description": "giving out granola bars during halloween", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for giving out granola bars during halloween?", "text": "This year I completely forgot to prepare for Halloween. By the time I got home, there were already groups of kids making their way around the neighborhood. The only snack I had was nature valley granola bars. I can\u2019t help but feel terrible because of the looks of disappointment of the kids\u2019 faces. Should I have gone out to buy candy? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uDAWSEkSrhZWiVFrqkGAXSkbfECWT9iY", "post_id": "a0ga9o", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I dealt with / plan to deal with what happened at Thanksgiving?", "text": "I thought about posting with a throwaway, but f* it...\n\n     \n**Here's what happened when we attempted to celebrate Thanksgiving with my parents:**\n\nWe drove an hour on Friday to celebrate Thanksgiving with them.  We arrived around 5pm.  We said hello and put the Jello salad we had promised to bring in the fridge.  I went to the restroom, and we both offered to help my mom with dinner preparations a couple times.  She responded to both of us \"not yet, I'll let you know\" and shooed us into the other room.  We then attempted, unsuccessfully, to engage my dad in conversation.  It seemed that things were off and he was already angry even before we arrived.  Dad gave us some very short, non-answers with angry/upset body language (crossed his arms, tight jaw) and returned to watching (scowling at the) TV.  So, I decided to look through the Black Friday ads in preparation for a Christmas shopping trip coming up with my mom.  My husband got out his iPad and started browsing for laptop deals for his sister.  \n\nDad then started angrily putting things on the table, and made a snarky comment to both of us about \"waiting on us hand and foot.\"  I responded calmly by saying \"we've both offered to help mom and she's told us both multiple times she'd let us know when she needed us.\"  My father's response was to flip us off and start yelling at us that we were both \"genuine pieces of shit\" along with additional profanity.  I folded up the ad I was looking at and put my recliner back down.  My husband closed his laptop, looked at me and said \"so, are we leaving then?\"  I looked at him and said yes.  Dad was still yelling something while we stood up and walked out of the room to the kitchen.  On the way out, my husband said \"I think _Dad's name_ is... we're going to leave...\"  Mom looked at me and said \"What happened?!\" and I answered saying \"We're leaving.  Dad is exceptionally angry and it's clear he doesn't want us here.\"  I then told her that they could keep the Jello salad we had brought and we'd figure it out later.  As we were putting our shoes on by the front door, we could hear Dad yelling at Mom that he \"never, EVER wanted the two of us invited to their house EVER again.\"  \n\nWe sat in the car in the driveway for a couple of minutes before leaving.  I texted my mom \"We love you.  And we hope Dad has a better evening now that we aren't there to upset him.  You can call later if you want to talk.  Don't feel obligated.  I'll text when we make it home safe.\"  Then I texted again when we got home.  The only contact I have gotten is \"Glad you're safe.\" \n\n \n\n**What I think plan to do:**\n\nMonday morning (tomorrow) I plan to call her work number and ask if she's okay, and/or if she needs somewhere to stay.  \n\nMonday evening, assuming my mom reacts how I expect she will, I intend to contact my extended relatives to ask them to contact me directly about family gatherings (see the why / additional background below).  We will still go to my Grandma's even if my parents plan to attend.  \n\nUnless there is some type of apology and acceptance of accountability for my Dad's behavior, I will be assuming that the Christmas shopping trip my mom and I had planned is off and I will likely cancel one or more days I had planned to take off work along with the massage appointment we were planning for our last day of the long weekend.\n\nWe send Christmas cards every year.  We'll probably still send them one but I haven't decided yet.\n\nWe both have birthdays in January.  I would probably just wait to see if they say anything.  If not, then the decision is already made for us.  If they try to pretend nothing happened and attempt to make plans, I expect that we will decline.\n\n \n\n**Why / Additional Background**\n\nIn 2008, before we were married, I pressured my parents to go to family therapy because an explosion like this from my dad happened on at least an annual basis.  Sometimes more often.  My parents and I went to several sessions, but at what became our last session, they stormed out.  On the way out, my dad let loose a string of profanity directed at the therapist and at me.  After that happened, I attempted to address it directly via email since they wouldn't talk in person.  I laid out everything I'd experienced and observed.  I called his ex-wife (prior to my mom) a bitch for cheating on him, but other than that, no profanity in any of my emails.  My Dad's initial response was mockery in reply at first (\"what a diatribe\").  In a later email, he disowned me.  Eventually they convinced my extended family that I was suicidal and my extended family got involved to try to \"fix it\" and all the pressure landed on me to apologize and \"make nice.\"  Then, at our first in-person experience with them, we met at a restaurant for my dad's birthday.  Due to a miscommunication, they believed we were 30 minutes late.  They didn't say anything about it to us, but acted upset all night.  I later found out because they had ranted about us to the extended family and my cousin told me about it.  While I was post-processing from what just happened this weekend, trying to decide what I was going to do, I re-read those old emails.  I had somehow convinced myself that things were better, but after re-reading them, extremely little has changed.  I'm struggling with why I agreed to make peace back then.  Frankly I could easily resend them with more recent examples, but I already know how that played out so attempting to get them to engage rationally is unlikely to work.  \n\nSince 2008, my husband and I have generally walked on eggshells around my dad.  We've been \"rewarded\" with an ongoing list of demands from my parents to be present for events they find to be important while my dad's behavior seems to indicate that our presence bothers him.  When we are around them, my dad's behavior is often passive aggressive (a lot of sighing, eye rolling, gritting his teeth, etc.) or downright rude (commenting openly about his distaste for our choices) or even including very long winded, angry (often political) rants and needling to try to get a rise out of us (which we've never taken the bait and engaged with him).  When we're just around my mom, things are generally okay.\n\nFor anyone worried about my mom's physical safety, Dad has never been physically abusive.  And his health has deteriorated this year to the point where I'm fairly certain that even if he wanted to try, my mom could easily get avoid any attempts without trouble.  If my mom reacts how I expect (based on past patterns), she will say that this is \"because of his depression\" and expect an apology from us for whatever we may have done to upset him, and/or for leaving which I'm sure she'll refer to as \"storming out,\" and/or for something else I have yet to guess.  I'm hoping that by starting the conversation by asking if she's safe / if she needs help, maybe she won't jump straight into what she may believe we did wrong.  I have been legitimately worried about her emotional well-being for years, but any attempts to talk to her about it have been unsuccessful -- she always says everything is fine and deflects or points it back on me/us and how I/we have caused the most recent experience with my dad.  **Assuming she does that again, I don't really want to spend a long weekend shopping with her so she can \"work on me\" to apologize and \"make nice\" all weekend.  But I worry making the executive decision to cancel our shopping trip if that's her reaction might also make me the asshole.**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KrmDttcD46wdOICCLaHP3fmbAB6LMrLS", "post_id": "9xzm2a", "action": {"description": "freaking out on my girlfriend for asking if she can talk to her ex", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I freaked out on my girlfriend for asking if she can talk to her ex?", "text": "My current girlfriend and I got together from her picking me  over another guy (let's call him Jake). So I'm a very insecure, and overprotective guy and she really makes me happy and all that. But I also get very jealous easily because I never see her. \n\nMy girlfriend, before me was talking to Jake while also talking to 3 other guys. She said she did it because no one could give her what I could give her so she felt that she would go to other guys to get that attention. But she's also not a very trustworthy person because she constantly lies to tell me what I want to hear. So I've never really felt like enough. And we get into fights often for this very reason. I guess i have trust issues. That's fair, but I really don't want to leave her. But she makes me so happy at the same time. Happiest I've ever been. So it's not as simple as just leaving her. I would be broken. She makes me the happiest guy alive but also the worst at times. \n\nSo today I was at my family's Thanksgiving and we are talking all this \"lovey\" stuff and smiling and sending pictures and constantly telling each other how much we like each other and stuff like that. Casual stuff. But then she asks me a question that just pushed every bone in my body. She asked me if she could talk to Jake again after blocking his number. When her and I met she never stopped talking about the guy, every little quality she would brag about. But she never shows me off like she did to him. And when she asked me that I had a panic attack and I was really angry and sad. My family asked me what's wrong and I couldn't tell them. This happens alot and I'm not sure why. \n\nI told her that I'm done caring and that I'm done with feeling jealous and told her that I'm not enough for her. And I was actually scared she would like him again. Because one relationship didn't stop her from getting another before. But I really just told her multiple times how much I hated that and how mad I was and how unimportant I feel. And now after the fight and we are semi okay. I need to know if I am in the right or in the wrong, or tell me if I don't deserve her at all. \n\nAlso my first lengthy post on any subreddit, so I apologise for the difficulty, if any for reading. Thanks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Pnn0OhS6bJm2LpB2928JuYpSZFfNB865", "post_id": "azfrx4", "action": {"description": "not wanting my girlfriend to have a \"queer platonic partner\"", "pronormative_score": 57, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to have a \"queer platonic partner\"?", "text": "Sorry, I've found myself in a pretty odd situation.\n\nFor background context, I've been dating my girlfriend for around two years. For the first year or so, all was normal and our relationship was totally great, and then she went on a hormonal birth control pill. Her sex drive plummeted, and around sixth months ago we had a talk where she confided that she was really uncomfortable doing sexual things any more, and that she was only doing them at all because she felt like she had to for my sake. I apologized, since I obviously didn't want her to feel that way, and we've been pretty much celibate since then (I told her we should only be doing sexual things if she was interested in doing them). She started seeing a counselor for that two months ago, and I'm hopeful that in time things will return to normal there.\n\nIn addition to the above, I have felt like our relationship has been lacking in emotional intimacy for the last while. Two nights ago, I decided to try to bring up how I was feeling to her, and told her that at times it has felt more like she has been my roommate than my girlfriend, and that I'd really appreciate if we could try to spend more time together. She was receptive and the talk felt pretty productive, we set a date for the two of us this Thursday. \n\nAfterwards, though, she told me that a friend of hers asked her on Monday if she would be interested in the two of them being \"queer platonic partners\", and she asked me for my permission to say yes. I asked her what that meant, since I had never heard of the term before, and she described it as \"a platonic relationship with a lot more of an emotional commitment\". I told her honestly that from how it sounded I wasn't comfortable with it.\n\nShe told me that she might be explaining it badly, and that she'd appreciate if I could google the term and read up about it and then talk to her again about it. I did, and google described it pretty much the same way that she described it. We talked last night, and I tried to explain that I didn't mind if she had close, emotionally involved friendships, since that's none of my business, but that choosing to label it with a \"relationship\" word felt like it was crossing a line for me (especially since my girlfriend is bisexual). I also said that I was feeling kind of insecure in our relationship at the moment, especially because of the intimacy issues I raised the other night, and hearing from her right after I talked to her about that that she wanted to enter into a deep emotional commitment with someone who wasn't me felt kind of disheartening. The conversation ended with her agreeing not to say yes to her friend.\n\nAm I being the asshole here? I know there's some aspect to this that's founded in my being insecure, but I'm not sure if I'm being an asshole about it or if it's reasonable to be uncomfortable with labeling a friendship that way.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 49, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 57, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4FdPBGmQzMreiQrIbCGzWA48Nfa1KjtY", "post_id": "asyw5k", "action": {"description": "not going out of my way to sign my exes car title", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not going out of my way to sign my exes car title?", "text": "AITA? Throwaway account because my ex reddits. \n\n​\n\nWe divorced in May of 2018. I will be short on details, but she did a lot cheating and a lot of lying. She also gaslit me quite a bit. I could have been a better husband, I recognize this, but I am still pissed off at her.\n\n​\n\nDue to the multitude of lies (Including not signing her service of divorce, and trying to skip out on our court date) I don't beleive anything she says. There are frequently other motives involved for her contact to me. We have been no contact  per my request since our divorce. She has emailed me once to say \"Sorry\" on our wedding anniversarry, and has mailed over important documents that were still going to our old address, where she still lives. Therefore she can be occasionally resonable.\n\n​\n\nI recently got an email from her asking for me to sign over the car title to her. As background, I had the loan released from my name prior to the divorce so long as she fulfilled the obligations of the credit agreement. This was a risk, but the car was not underwater so provided she didn't wreck without insurance it the loan was small enough that reposession would cover the cost.\n\n​\n\nHowever, I don't trust the emails. She says she \"does not want to meet because I don't trust the mail with a car title\" and also did not provide any evidence the loan was discharged. I told her in no circumstance are we meeting. I learned recently a gun nut co-worker of mine talks guns with her and she may have purchased a gun recently. A revolver. We had never owned a fire-arm. I think I am being paranoid, but still. I refuse to see her. She was able to provide me with a notarized letter from the bank that discharged my responsibility same day, but since then I have not received anything in the mail.\n\n​\n\n Am I the asshole for asking for proof and refusing to do her a favor?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CVOMFOsiaXxKGWoUOpQrspna7sp2cUvs", "post_id": "aw18a2", "action": {"description": "not being able to move on", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being able to move on?", "text": "My family is odd. We have the ex-military photographer, the ex-military artist, the tattoo shop owner, and the parent of four.\n\nAnd me, the autistic novelist. Cue the origin story.\n\n​\n\n\\--\n\nAs a kid I was trotted out like a new toy whenever I did something smart, tossed aside like a broken one when I did something autistic (\"acting out\").\n\nAt 15, I was solicited by my father to show him my chest. My immediate thought was, EW. Told him off, didn't do it. Mom took his side, grounded me. Six months later at 16, I became the victim of 15 years of child sexual abuse. Ugly misery was had by all.\n\nBefore blocking me on social media in 2016, Dad tried to add me to a fake account. I told him what he did had never been acceptable, and that I wanted a father and not a monster. He blocked me faster than I could block him. I'd been friends with the parents' shared account, and both siblings, to try to \"keep the family together\" and forgive them.\n\n\\--\n\n​\n\nI can't let the whole \"my dad is a pedo and my family believes him\" thing go. Those four grandkids he's got are easily going to be targets. But my mother and tattoo shop sibling are willing to lie to God about my dad, and the parent sibling and I had such a meaningful chat in October that I ended up getting shingles from the stress. Shingles. From stressing out over the one person I thought I'd protected adequately.\n\nStatute of limitations is no help now. Dad will never talk to me again, thank God. But every time I see that happy family schtick, I want to puke up my guts. I'm not happy; I didn't have an adequate childhood. I see things on TV about loving fathers, doting mothers, and sincerely want to harm myself. I can't let it go.\n\nI want to let it go. But sometimes my anger gets its claws into me, and I throw shade at the only sibling I still talk to, because I know Mom and Dad are watching. That sibling is a flying monkey. \n\nThe family is a tight ball of suck, and even though I got out, I can't quit reminding them how deeply they fucked me over. I'm told to \"let it go\" (DO I WISH I COULD) and forget how bad my parents gaslit me, neglected me, and kept me under their thumb to the point my mother tried to vicariously live through me while torturing me.\n\nI got taken down hard, for God knows what kind of reason, and my sibs got everything they wanted, including a father who didn't touch them at night. I got blamed for every emotion I ever felt, and I struggle to get out of bed sometimes because I see how happy they are and I seethe. I'm envious, I admit it. I needed the right kind of childhood. I got hell.\n\nI can't let it go because I recanted to keep my family in their home, and sacrificed myself for people who never gave a damn. My acts were wasted; my mom told me she would've killed herself. Great, make me feel worse about my choice and even more conflicted. \n\n​\n\nThey treat me like I'm an asshole. If I'm constantly reminding them of what awful people they apparently still are, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ThhKcHhVPO1kxEccUOPeBb9Ku9FKgWNN", "post_id": "ayleq8", "action": {"description": "participating in the school musical", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for participating in the school musical?", "text": "This is an argument between me (18F) and my SO (18M). I'm a senior in high school and he is a freshman in college. We've been in a long distance relationship for the past 7 months. I told him that I was going to be in the school musical before practices started. I told him when the practices would be and how long they would go on for. His only response of disapproval to this was \"ewwww.\"\n\nNow that practices have been going on for a month or so, he gets hurt and angry at me every time I have them. He says that I don't think he's important and I don't put effort into our relationship because I don't spend enough quality time with him (time where it's just me and him talking and neither of us is doing anything else at the same time). I work 12 hours a week and practices take up 7.5 hours a week currently. I spend more time in school than he does because I'm in high school, but I am able to text him during school and during practice when I'm not busy. I spend quality time with him on the weekends and in the evenings after I have work or practice. The musical will be over in mid April.\n\nI've participated in the school musical every year of high school, and it's something I really enjoy. I didn't mean to hurt him at all. That wasn't my intention. I know that relationships take a lot of work, so I'm still trying to spend as much time with him as I can.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ak1IL1h6Ge61zar8uQ4GTaHRdwQBpeKi", "post_id": "amb8h4", "action": {"description": "calling a mentally challenged person a loser", "pronormative_score": 25, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For calling a mentally challenged person a loser?", "text": "Listen, I know the title sounds rough but give this a read. I'm a Junior in high school and in my physical education class they're is a kid who is mentally challenged. He is able to switch classes by himself and be there on time so he doesn't have a designated aid that stays with him. My physical ed class is the average level class and this kid is also in there. My school greatly stresses the \"Everybody is equal\" message and I obviously agree with 100% but there are some flaws. We had class the other day and we were playing Knock-out. Everyone in the class treats him as you would treat anyone else and no one really has any problems with him. He was playing knock-out with us and everyone was used to him and his antics but today was different. He was constantly telling the girls to \"suck my d*ck\" and was saying \"you f*cking suck\" to everyone in line. He came over and spit at a few people in line (me included). I tried my hardest to shake it off and not say anything to him. Towards the end of the game it was him and one of my friends left but my friend made the last shot which meant he was out. He began saying stuff to my friend and I eventually said \"You're being a loser dude\" He got very upset and told my teacher who came over to me give me a \"talk\" about being rude. I tried explaining that he was saying much worse things and that if everyone in this class should be treated the same then why isn't he receiving a talk but she kept ignoring it and just kept telling me I was being childish and rude. I was sent to the office to talk it over with my vice principal but he agreed with me surprisingly and let me off the hook. What are your thoughts? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 25, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gWd9eRbTJqSYiCdreLvmkZbueVdVoblo", "post_id": "b74147", "action": {"description": "telling off my best friend for his depression", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling off my best friend for his depression?", "text": "My best friend and I have been friends for about 10 years now. He's been through alot of hardships in his life since I've known him, like his father disowning him, having his money stolen by a close relative, working a tough unforgiving job and never having a girlfriend. I've stuck by him through 10 years of hardships, always there no matter the time of day to be someone to lean on or talk to or vent.   \n\n\nAt the beginning of our friendship, he would have breakdowns every couple of months or so which was understandable as things would pile up. Lately, I can not have a conversation with him anymore without him spiraling into a depressive meltdown. We used to talk all the time but now I have begun to dread seeing his message bubble pop up because I know it'll turn into a 2 hour pity fest. He doesn't even ask how I am anymore. I have not been enabling him all these years, as I've constantly been there to support but always suggesting that he should see a therapist or make some changes in his lifestyle to avoid some of the drama that surrounds him. He used to see a therapist for a while but then he lost his health insurance so his depression has been very bad as of late and I feel like I am his only support system now.  \n\n\nI am getting married in less than a month so I'm in the chaos of planning my own wedding right now (which he is aware of). Last night he messages me with not even a hello or how are you doing but straight into his problems, which as of now and for the last few years has just been a self pitying cycle of \"why won't anyone date me, its because I'm unattractive/undesireable etc\". Long story short, I ended up telling him that I was sorry and that i have my own stresses right now and that I just couldn't deal with his issues on top of my wedding planning. I told him that he really needs to go back to seeing a therapist if he really is spiraling this badly everyday because I won't be available for him forever like this. He initially got upset but then apologized \"for burdening me with his shit all the time and he'll keep it to himself from now on\" and stopped talking to me.  \n\n\nI feel bad because maybe I could have gone about it better, I don't want him to feel alone and he really is a great guy outside of these episodes. AITA for not being there for him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aPbqA5PdgTHASFcQegfspzXakhThVVls", "post_id": "agc1np", "action": {"description": "putting my social life before my job", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for putting my social life before my job?", "text": "Backstory: I'm turning 16 very soon (woo!) and aim to get a job ASAP after that. \n\nHowever, being a teenager, I still wanna enjoy myself, and being that I'm still supported by my parents, while it's nice to have, a stable income is not exactly a primary concern for me. \n\nIf my future boss were to call me on, say, a Thursday and say \"hey, we need you in on Saturday evening, can you do that for me?\" when I've had a party planned for then for the past few weeks, WIBTA to say \"nah dude, I can't come in that evening\"?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m19CxbVZ91CoAm2mK0VOD77yPyy8sbRf", "post_id": "aag8hx", "action": {"description": "not being able to eat food that my husband burped on", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being able to eat food that my husband burped on?", "text": "I have Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and I do take meds for it, they help to an extent. I have a hard time around food and germs.     \n\nTonight my husband and I went out for Italian food. He was sitting across from me at a short table and burped on to my side salad and bread without covering his mouth or turning to the side (before the other food came). I tried to tell myself that the burp didnt hit my food but it definitely did. I didnt say anything but he  noticed that I wasnt eating it. I'm sorry but I physically cant eat something that I saw someone burp on, I just can't. It's hard to explain but to me it feels extremely dirty and I have a visceral feeling of disgust towards the food after. \n\nHe got mad and told me that I better eat it and said  that his friends and family would tell him to leave me for not eating it. My husband doesnt chew his food enough and eats extremely fast which causes him to burp excessively. He also gained a lot of weight, he is obese now and that causes acid reflux which made the problem much worse. Usually I can avoid him burping on my food but tonight I couldnt. I still ate the pasta when it came because that hadnt been burped on. \n\nI want to know if I really am that horrible for not being able to eat it. I understand that he didn't mean to and I wasn't mad at him ( I asked him to please cover his mouth next time but he said that he didnt know he was going to burp)  but that doesnt effect whether or not I can eat it. If it turns out that I am the AH it doesnt change anything since I still would not be able to eat it due to my OCD but I'm curious. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XbiCg6EMkt8dxeX1zPWi0iwXQZufFEn5", "post_id": "afb1lp", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend for giving me a ride home", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend for giving me a ride home", "text": "I work partime at a local shop. And on weekdays I usually work 4-10. Since its the cold season some friends have offered to give me rides home,  but i kindly refused.\n\nThat would be the end of it if it werent for my super nice friend that constantly offeres me rides.  Im fine with refusing him,  but the way he reacts to my refusal is too much\n\nHe makes a scene,  like in a loud voice says \"AW COME ON DUDE, ARE YOU SURE ITS NOT THAT FAR! \" while we are working. And people would stare. He then throughout the time he would come up and say \"ARE YOU SURE, LIKE ARE YOU REALLY SURE? \" I get that he is being nice but its annoying. \n\nI enjoy walking home, The cold feels nice, and I get to reminisce on the day and get to think. Ive told him already but continues to persist. \n\nYesterday I took him in the back and talked to him in a semi serious tone that he needs to know when no means no. Afterwards he seemed deflated and I felt bad,  like he was being a good guy maybe I shouldnt have been so harsh. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0odmjtWey2Qvq9LTnVb1qmzV8JLtBaqo", "post_id": "azl980", "action": {"description": "bringing up my gf's sudden weight gain", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I brought up my gf\u2019s sudden weight gain?", "text": "I know it\u2019s winter and everyone packs on a few extra pounds, but my gf has gained probably 40lbs since December.  She makes no effort to exercise.   I keep offering to let her use my guest pass on my gym when I go.  She always turns me down.  \n\nI don\u2019t want to hurt her feelings, but she looks like a completely different person from when we first started dating.  I care about her, but I\u2019m losing my attraction.  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 3}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DrgZ7r5ejBzRZ3xIMH9qeOC2KCDlomG3", "post_id": "b1cj5j", "action": {"description": "blocking a younger user who wants to befriend me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking a younger user who wants to befriend me", "text": " \n\nOne time when chatting on Discord a new member quipped that they were 36 and still a virgin in an offhand manner. Like we would\u2019ve done for anyone else we told them it\u2019s nbd to not have done the do at that age and the topic moves on. They have a habit of keysmashing and inappropriate innuendos but at that point I didn\u2019t see a reason to cut contact with them\n\nLater they got into a rather ugly exchange where they even called a mod ridiculous for stepping in, then maybe realised how childish they sounded and quickly dropped the subject. After backreading the entire debacle I had no qualms about blocking them for real so I didn\u2019t have to see their messages on Discord.\n\nWhen they found out by accident they proceeded to make several vague comments about being ignored and feeling bad in the server until people finally asked them what was wrong. They then announced in the public channel that I\u2019d blocked them which led to a flood of DMs asking me what was going on. By this time I was mortified about the whole issue especially that others got dragged into it.\n\nI later found out that they\u2019d said in another channel that they\u2019d just turned 18. They were a whole year younger than I was! There was no reason for them to disclose their actual age online, or for me to take them at face value, but I couldn\u2019t help feeling a sense of disorientation since I hadn\u2019t made allowances for what they were doing because I didn\u2019t know they were so young, and suddenly having to do so threw me off.\n\nWhen I finally unblocked them at their request they started off by saying that they looked up to me, and me blocking them made them feel like I was angry or disliked them. I explained simply that I didn\u2019t hate them, I merely blocked them because I was known to be confrontational on certain issues like the one they got into a disagreement about and I wanted to prevent that. They didn\u2019t seem to accept that reason and kept asking me if I would unblock them from now on, that they want to \u201cform a relationship\u201d with me. They said that people had refused to talk to them in the past before and that they were \u201cthe odd one out\u201d irl because of their religion, so they wanted to make friends online. I pointed out that they had friends among other members of the server, I just wouldn\u2019t be one of them.. They didn\u2019t want to accept this either, so in the end I had to end the convo and block them again because it was getting nowhere.\n\nThe day after I got more DMs from mutuals saying that the person had messaged them saying how I \u201cstill hate them but it\u2019s okay I understand\u201d. It still leaves me with an unpleasant feeling even though this happened last Oct because they seem convinced that I loathe their guts. I occasionally wonder what would\u2019ve been different if I\u2019d unblocked them and let them \u201cform a relationship\u201d or whatever they meant by that, and if I might have been too hard on them given their relatively young age and what seems to be inexperience with online communities. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CCiGEkfakpb4ZvgS0GeBXvF3ovrWUKq0", "post_id": "aqtqfl", "action": {"description": "not appreciating my mom", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not appreciating my mom", "text": "My parents got divorced 12 years ago. My dad started using drugs and my mom had a new relationship about once a month and we moved in with a new boyfriend about once a year.  One of these boyfriends was incredibly creepy and I told my mom I didn't feel comfortable with him at the house.  My mom told me I couldn't live at home anymore (I was 14) forcing me to live full time with my dad and his girlfriend who were always high on meth and couldn't provide basic necessities. Turns out I was right about the creep boyfriend and my mom ended up getting a 15 year restraining order, which she still has never admitted to (despite me being a protected party on the order). \n\nI ended up living with my paternal grandparents.  My mom has a good job and my grandparents weren't my legal guardians and don't have a ton of money.  When I first moved in, my mom kept paying for my health insurance and cell phone. When I was 15 this stopped and my grandparents took care of me. I got my GED equivalent and started community college at 16 and worked at a doctor's office to pay for school, food, gas, etc. with help of my grandparents. I barely spoke to my mom until I transferred to a top university at 18, at which point my mom reentered my life.  This is when she began taking credit for me getting into this school, apparently telling people at her work and family friends she helped me with my applications and essays helping me to get in (my mom never even saw an application let alone helped me with one). My mom sent me the odd $100 but my grandparents kept paying for my phone and I paid for everything else with student loans, grants, and scholarships. I moved in with my mom after college while I waited to start law school, she helped with my phone bill and didn't make me pay rent (which I am very grateful for) while I worked to pay my other expenses. \n\nI started law school and my mom paid for my flights home for the holidays so I could spend them with her and her family.  She also paid for a flight home for me to interview. However, all rent, tuition, etc. was paid with student loans and money I made working as a paralegal during law school. My mom let me stay with her one summer during law school so I could intern somewhere in her area and not pay rent, she also rented me a car so I could get to and from work. While I was studying for the bar my mom told me I could stay with her.  Her ex-boyfriend who I had a good relationship with helped me pay for my bar prep and to get a car. My mom wasn't with him at the time but obviously if they hadn't dated this wouldn't have happened. \n\nThe day I started studying for the bar, every hour I would get a call to come downstairs to help her do something like move furniture or watch her try on new outfits.  Anytime I would say I needed to study she said I was lying to get out of helping her. Needless to say, I wasn't getting any studying done. My mom kicked me out for \"disrespecting\" her (per my mom no one has any respect for her so I cannot provide you with specifics as to what I think she meant by that) and thankfully I was able to stay at my maternal aunt's. Meanwhile, my dad got sober and he and I started rebuilding our relationship. My mom constantly fought with me about my relationship with my dad and my maternal aunt that summer. I moved out of the area for work and things with my mom got better. However, my brother moved home and now any time her and my brother fight, she calls me and tries to involve me in the fight. Every time this ends with my mom wanting to talk about all the sacrifices she made for me and how she never did anything for herself - this always seem out of left field to me since, again, these convos are about her and my brother.  Also, for some background, my mom dated all sorts of guys regardless of how they treated me or my brother, she buys all sorts of designer clothes, goes on all sorts of vacations, always has a new BMW, meanwhile from age 14 until very recently I was constantly concerned about whether I would have enough money for food, gas, utilities, etc. She then compares her sacrifices to my \"selfish\" father and wants to talk about all the \"terrible\" things he did and tell me what a \"piece of shit\" I am for wanting a relationship with him.  She tells me all she has ever done has been there for me and that everything I have in life I owe to her. Today I finally said I couldn't be spoken to this way anymore, that she made a lot of mistakes too not just my dad, that I am tired of being manipulated, and that what I have, I worked for. Am I the asshole for saying/ thinking these things I mean it is true that she has helped me out in many ways? I am grateful for what she has done, but I don't agree that I owe everything to her or that she has made many sacrifices for me, but she seems so convinced I am starting to worry that I'm the asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YS7NWdG0n9UmRkGZ6d4IDznyXA8Er9rV", "post_id": "ba5dpg", "action": {"description": "refusing birthday gifts from family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing birthday gifts from family", "text": "First time poster, on mobile. Please forgive any format errors.\n\nAs title says, AITA for refusing birthday gifts from my family? This has happened a couple times in my adult life and seems to be specifically birthday gifts I refuse. Let me explain:\n\nI hate presents of all forms because they stress me out! First things running through my head as I unwrap a gift is 1. Where am I going to put this? (I'm a minimalist due to how often I move) 2. Did the purchaser incur financial hardship for this gift? (the economy is hard where I live) and lastly 3. What was the environmental footprint of this product (child labour used or from country without labour laws. Can this item be easily recycled etc). I know this makes me sound a bit nit-picky but I get to choose what enters my home because I will be the one maintaining it.\n\nOnto the gifts. I was raised in a divorced family and Christmas was usually pretty contentious because the parents tried to out buy each other. As a youngin' I didnt know well enough to separate the items I wanted between the parents and sometimes ended up with two of the same gifts because heaven forbid the parents communicated with each other. This was obviously blamed on me for wasting parents money (hence #2 from list above). I learned to ask for one item from each person at Christmas and kept it at one per person and that was all I expected.\n\nAt Christmas when I receive a gift I didnt ask for, it's easy enough to pass it onto a friend or sibling. But birthdays seem to be more difficult because family will buy me random items no one has any use for. I've told/asked/begged them not to buy me anything because of reasons above but they seem to take as a challenge and will buy some abstract items. I know they mean well but I've come to the conclusion that if I didn't ask for it, I don't accept it. So AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QZFsqodoOLKb7KJ1AdS1EDSE27KdD7U1", "post_id": "acdli8", "action": {"description": "having sex in my Friends Bed and leaving her House Messy", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Having Sex in my Friends Bed and Leaving her House Messy?", "text": "So I know the title sounds horrible and just from reading that any sane person would say YES YOU\u2019RE THE ASSHOLE, but let me explain further. Last week my one of my best friends (D) went on vacation. We had previously discussed me staying over her house for the weekend so I could have sex with my fwb and watch her kittens, and our other friend (J) would take over for the kittens the rest of the week. J has a key to D\u2019s house while I use the spare key they keep hidden. So D goes on vacation and all is going well, my fwb comes over and we do our thing and he spends the night with me. The next day, D texts me \u201care you planning on staying in my house and banging all weekend?\u201d and I replied \u201cyeah probably\u201d. Then suddenly she\u2019s telling me about how she\u2019s uncomfortable with it, which I absolutely understand and I said that i would ask him to leave which he did. She then tells me that she was just joking about letting him over her house and that she didn\u2019t think I would actually do it. So I feel bad because it\u2019s already happened and she\u2019s uncomfortable with it, and I tell her I didn\u2019t realize she was joking as she seemed pretty nonchalant about it when we discussed it. The whole week goes by and even though she\u2019s still on vacation and we\u2019re chatting here and there I can still get the sense that she\u2019s mad at me. I left her house on Sunday with some of my stuff there and a little bit of a mess that I had fully intended on cleaning up before she returned. Since I\u2019m a procrastinator I waited until the day before she came home to go clean up and get my stuff. I go to her house early in the day to find that the key I was previously using wasn\u2019t there so I texted J to see what happened. She says she moved it into the house because she didn\u2019t want someone to find it. I ask if I can get her key so I could clean up and she tells me \u201cI\u2019m going there to feed the cats later\u201d. I tell her I still need the key and she tells me she\u2019ll just do everything. I really didn\u2019t want her to because I knew what mess came from me and what didn\u2019t, but she insisted she do it and refused to give me the key. Fast forward to yesterday, I started my first full time job that they both know I\u2019ve been terrified about for weeks and they don\u2019t even ask me how it went, then I see them on Snapchat hanging out together. The only thing D texts me last night is \u201cdid you use my pillowcases\u201d. Today I wrote to them that I was upset about this and D snaps at me saying she feels disrespected that I had \u201cplayed house\u201d in her home and didn\u2019t clean up after myself. She also tells me my Christmas gifts to the both of them sucked when I was under the impression we were only giving small gifts to each other, and also accuses me of smoking her weird which I didn\u2019t do. I think she was just on a roll. So reddit, I feel like the asshole but am I? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "82kLzME9jwiAuCgOigTLfdZVOMHipzHL", "post_id": "a2mn6d", "action": {"description": "making my wife scrape the shit off her own boot", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making my wife scrape the shit off her own boot?", "text": "AITA for making my wife scrape the shit off her own boot, she said she stepped in it on way home from school with kids and left it by the front door for a fortnight, then she mentioned about getting a new pair of boots, I told her no she can scrape it off and wear them,(this woman won't touch raw meat, and left cat shit on the bed for me to clean up after a 12 hour shift) I stood there in the corner of the room watching her scrape it off.\n\nI await judgment.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IuUiACaDYclgrm0YVSRqzUtofmK7QKUu", "post_id": "b6znqz", "action": {"description": "kicking roommate out", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA Kicking roommate out", "text": "So i just recently kicked out my roommate who was a friend from college. The individual would never clean anything and yell at me for the place being dirty when i had finally been fed up with cleaning all the time and relaxed on cleaning the bathroom as much and doing the dishes for him all the time. \n\n​\n\nWell then things got interesting he decided to date one of our mutual friends after about a year ago he hated her guts for breaking up with his old college roommate. so i helped repair the friendship and then a year later after i explained my feelings towards her to him he decided to then tell her about my said feelings and ask her if he wanted to date him instead.\n\n​\n\nSo now they are dating which whatever i dont really care about that but what i do care about is he disclosed my personal feelings to her without my permission. So they are still currently dating and he has given her a key to the apartment without getting my permission first. She is over 5 out of 7 days of the week some weeks. i can hear them having sex in the shower daily I am fed up at this point. So we talked about the situation he basically had an attitude of not my problem and kept the same habits i confronted him about. \n\n​\n\nSo i then have a surgery and haven't really talked to him while i was recovering from the surgery so he eventually tells me we need to talk so we do. He then proceeds to interrogate me as to why i haven't talked to him in 4 weeks and that im an asshole for not accepting their relationship and i cant get a word in before he interrupts me so i pull out an eviction letter telling him to leave in a month and a half and he hasn't spoke to me since. Am i the one in the wrong here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "liELjVHH2q7qGIZtjaaPbVAzO0hoWkQm", "post_id": "ay5pyx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to your grandma's funeral", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to go to your grandma's funeral?", "text": "Disclaimer, I've haven't been on many dates and am probably one of the most socially awkward people out there. In fact, this story is about the first ever official date I was on. \n\nI'll call him Steve. So I work at a grocery store in a bakery and I fry donuts about twice a week. That's where I met Steve. He worked overnight stocking frozen items, so we work relatively close to eachother. It started out with some friendly chatter that turned into some flirting. And after a few days, a coworker in the bakery telling me I had a secret admirer, Steve if it wasn't obvious. We exchanged numbers and eventually made some half hazard plans through texting. \nThe date isn't planned or anything, and we just go to a restaurant to eat. It's all fine, though I'm sure I do come off as pretty awkward. He paid too, which I'm not a fan of. I don't like when someone pays for me because then I feel like I owe them something... But it's whatever. \nThen I feel things get a little weird. We do discuss some second date ideas over text. Mostly due to how he talked afterwards as well as a few instances, I just don't think it'll work out. \nHe texts me that his grandma passed away and very heavily implies that he wants me to say I'll go with him. \nWe've only been on one date though, and it was only okay in my mind. We weren't really in a relationship and I definitely didn't know his grandma. And I certainly wouldn't actually ask him to go to a funeral with me. So I just don't tell him I'm going. I assume he gets the picture, but he still brings it up another time anyway. \n\nThat's not all even. It's been about three weeks and we still didn't go on a second date. So it's doubtful we'll have anything more going on, right? We're still texting though of course and he brings up that his friend is getting married soon and he wants to bring a guest. He doesn't ask me though. Not YET at least. But by during my shift and asks me in person. Now I'd say Steve is a pretty nice guy. We don't have much in common and he's actually about ten years older with me. Which is also another reason I felt awkward towards him (found out how old he was on the date). \nSo he proceeds to ask me to go with him to the wedding. Again, we're not in a relationship, only been in one date, and I actually don't want to be anymore serious with him. \n\nA few other things happened and we just ended up completly distancing ourselves from eachother. I don't actually see him at work anymore either thanks to shift chsnges.\n\nBut the question of course is, an i in the wrong here? like i said at the beginning, I haven't been on many dates, so its hard for me to discern. So I'm fully open to your opinions. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yGtunWg4MSrE5h6ftf2LxB6BBbbrtlqB", "post_id": "a5wx5m", "action": {"description": "asking my passengers to split the whole cost of gas money from a long road trip", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for asking my passengers to split the whole cost of gas money from a long road trip?", "text": "So this started back around Thanksgiving. I drove my older brother, my eldest brother, my older brother\u2019s girlfriend, and my best friend back home for Thanksgiving. We all currently live around DC and we went up to the northeast for thanksgiving. Both ways the trip was 9 hours since there was a lot of traffic, and gas was expensive. All in all the total cost of gas was about $120 both ways. There was some local driving over the Thanksgiving weekend but I covered that cost myself. After the trip, I talked with my eldest brother and we agreed that everyone in the car other than myself would split the cost 4 ways for gas. Everyone seemed fine with that. However, I was driving with my older brother today and he told me that it was a bit unfair to ask all the passengers of the car to split the cost of gas. His reasoning for this was that unless I had bought a train ticket or something like that, I would\u2019ve made the drive anyway and would\u2019ve had to pay for that much gas with no help from them. He said I should\u2019ve covered about half the cost myself and made everyone only chip in about $10-$15. I understand his reasoning since we\u2019re all tight on money. He\u2019s a recent college grad, and both myself, his girlfriend, and my friend are both still in college so we all are struggling for money. My thought though is that since I did most of the driving (except for the last half on the trip back to college) that that should be considered since it\u2019s an exhausting drive. I feel a bit bad about it now, but ultimately I\u2019m not sure if I\u2019m the asshole or not in this situation.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MoTWs8rJLvMIPM31EysGEOdkUS4kgXda", "post_id": "b5hqk5", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be around my 19yo's boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be around my 19yo\u2019s boyfriend", "text": "My daughter insisted we have dinner with her boyfriend. Through dinner, he hardly spoke to her, or looked at her, never mentioned anything that they both liked or did together. He spoke about himself a lot, but then we asked him to, to get to know him. He obviously tried to impress us, talking at length about a psychologist he reads, political commentators he likes and follows, advanced classes he takes, how he\u2019s an Eagle Scout, etc. our daughter was uncharacteristically bashful and obviously smitten. The next time we were supposed to have dinner with the two of them it was the same thing; he barely looked at her or acknowledged her, talked about his politics and what some famous writer says. His politics are the opposite of ours, but we politely listened. The philosopher he reads has made statements about women \u201cknowing their place \u201c which is troubling. We only objected out loud to one thing, he made an outrageous statement about something we easily disproved with a quick web search. Our usually forceful, opinionated, liberal daughter just meekly sat there. \nThe first few times they were both home from college (the same one), he said he didn\u2019t have room for her in his car and that was fine, we thought it was odd he would fill up his car with guys, but not offer his girlfriend a ride, but we didn\u2019t really mind getting her anyway. After Christmas break, he actually offered to take her back with him, but kept changing the time and ended up going at least 4 hours later than the original plan, part of that with her sitting on out front porch like a puppy, and then even after I took her to his parents house waiting some more while he worked on his car. Then he did the same thing again on Presidents Day, changed the time 3 or 4 times while she waited on our porch, asked her to come to his house instead and then when we were almost there, he decided go off and get a haircut. My husband and I were livid! My daughter just kept saying \u201cit\u2019s okay, it\u2019s okay\u201d. Then she admitted that he makes everything about him. He doesn\u2019t value her time. She even posted online how she sits like a lump in his dorm while he ignores her playing video games.\nBut, I\u2019m a \u201ccontrolling asshole\u201d because I don\u2019t want to have dinner with him again.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IjuoDHajUCz9sFe75zrqUVotBWdjDBts", "post_id": "a5ined", "action": {"description": "not getting my sister what she wants for Xmas", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for not getting my sister what she wants for Xmas?", "text": "I [24/F] am very blunt with my sister [22/F]. That\u2019s our relationship. Her birthday and Xmas are the same week so usually i combine how much I would spend on her to get one big gift. Every year she asks for skin care products. Frankly they don\u2019t work. She is on birth control and that is the reason she is breaking out. She knows it, I know it, and the doctor has confirmed it. I don\u2019t want to waste money on more skin care products. But she has told me point blank the exact brand she wants. \nShe has really nice, long hair. Obviously we both prioritize our beauty, So if i get her something for her assets am I the ass hole? \n\nTL;DR\n\nSister has bad acne due to medication and wants skin care products for Xmas, i think it\u2019s a waste of money. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "AaAzEqddffz99vkhTPkxKh7FWVrylArI", "post_id": "axh8dr", "action": {"description": "taking my grandson to lunch with my sons Ex-Wife without his knowledge or permission", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA I took my grandson to lunch with my sons Ex-Wife without his knowledge or permission", "text": "TL:DR;  I took my grandson to lunch and invited my sons ex-wife without my son or wives knowledge.\n\nMy wife and I take care of my grandson while my son is at work, he's been divorced for a few years and the divorce was based on his ex-wife cheating and she is now married to the man she cheated on him with. I was going to the hospital with my grandson for unimportant reasons and decided to have lunch there. This hospital is also where my son's ex-wife works. I decided to invite her to lunch with us. My wife would be upset and also knows my son would be very upset if I did this, so I told her to stay home for other reasons and didn't mention this to my son. \n\nThis is my explanation to my son after his negative reaction to todays events: \n\n\" Throwawayson - it is perfectly within your right to withhold your time and Throwawaygrondson from me and unfortunately your Mom who clearly has your back on this issue. That said you\u2019ve said from the get go that you were not going to speak Ill of throwawaygrandson's Mom in front of him. How are you going to explain your punishment of Grandpa to your very smart son. I am truly sorry you feel so strongly on something I did that had no impact on your time with your son. We were going to eat at the hospital cafeteria because I had free food coupons and were there to pick up his things. On a previous visit when the three of us were going to eat at the cafeteria throwawaygrandson had asked Grammie and me if we were inviting his Mom to eat with us. Your Mom said we would not and said something neutral that didn\u2019t bash his Mom. While you have been very clear on your desires in regards to your ex wife I have also been clear I feel it prudent for us to maintain at least a casual relationship with the mother of my grandson. I feel the same with throwaways-other-ex-daughter even though what she did to throwaways-other-son and their family disgusts me as much as what throwaways-ex-daughter did to you and her family. I did not wish her Merry any holiday nor happy birthday nor do we share any chit chat communications. While you and I cannot see this from each other\u2019s perspective we can agree to disagree without exposing  throwawaysgrandson to the depth of the issues between his parents. Regardless of how badly you decide to punish me please do not put any of this on throwawaysgrandson. Today was just a normal fun day with Grandpa that happened to include his Mom. I was the one who text her offering her to join our lunch. I didn\u2019t tell or ask him not to say anything to you of Grammie as that would imply what happened as wrong. I hope we can get past this soon.\"\n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RBXdqUJ3Q1URb8oeO8J1wcef9hHTivPY", "post_id": "anm0ju", "action": {"description": "not letting my BF use my computer", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my BF use my computer?", "text": "Tell me if I'm an asshole, okay? 4 years ago my ex and I built my first rig. I love PC gaming and I wanted something that could run a multitude of games. I also wanted to run some professional programs on it like AutoCad for work. I've been working on building my own business doing interior design and I use these programs along with a few other Adobe products. I invested a decent amount of money on it and time putting it together. It is one of the biggest purchases I've made in my 23 years at the time. I'm pretty proud of it and I think it's really cool. Fast forward about 3 years. I broke up with said ex and am now in a long term relationship with another guy who is also into gaming. I would say it's one of his favorite hobbies, as is mine. As of recent, my work has been very demanding and most of my focus has been on building my business; so less time for gaming. He asked if he could use my computer to run certain games because of how heavy they are and wanted to play online with friends. Of course I said that was fine. But for almost a year, he ONLY uses mine now. It's his primary computer for 90% of anything he does online. He does work on his computer (A Razor gaming laptop) at home sometimes but majority of his usage is on my computer. He doesn't even ask me anymore. I find it annoying that I feel put out by using my own computer, but he's constantly on it. And it wouldn't bother me if it wasn't every night for hours and hours. To the point where his computer time impedes on our chores, laundry, cooking, etc. I genuinely asked him why he always uses mine instead of his and he said \"Because I have to go get my laptop and set it up and all that bullshit\" I've told him that it bothers me and he just gets pissed saying \"Fine, I won't use it anymore; fuck it.\" And gets an attitude. But beyond that, he doesn't take care of it. He sits at the desk and pulls at his beard and runs his hands through his hair, just fidgeting. I find dandruff, beard hairs, crumbs and just trash in general all around my workspace. I have a 85 fucking dollar keyboard that has all of his beard hairs and dandruff stuck down in it. I told him it pisses me off and he needs to clean up after himself. He said he'll do it. And he does somewhat. But after a week or so, it's back to the same routine. I've changed the computer password 3 times just so he will get off my computer. And then a few weeks later I let him use it because I want him to be happy and get to enjoy games too. He says I never use my computer. I said I'm never on it BECAUSE HE'S ALWAYS ON IT! I feel his mentality is that if I'm not using it, it's free game. And that is true but I feel the privilege has been abused and I'm done being nice about it. I'm annoyed. I'm agitated that I have to go behind him and clean up MY DESK, MY SPACE, just so I can fucking use it. Please tell me if I'm being totally ridiculous about this. I have a lot of pride in what I've built and so I just want that to be respected. Am I an asshole for this?\n\nTLDR: Boyfriend uses my computer that I spent a lot of money building and he disrespects the space by leaving trash and crumbs all over it and then gets made at me for telling him to stay off it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sMzOwp7nPY3rQesvcLYSalIt34aV4udg", "post_id": "ajbc0z", "action": {"description": "hating thoughtful gifts", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for hating thoughtful gifts?", "text": "So the thing about me is I like to buy everything I want for myself, because nobody knows what I want better than me. In addition i'm very minimalist, hate 'tat' and this goes to both my possessions, style of my house and clothes. I tell my friends, girlfriend and family not to buy me anything for holidays or my birthday and if they \\*really\\* want to just make sure it's restricted to consumables (booze, bodywash, cologne etc). I'm not a dick about it and say it in as friendlier way as I can \"haha don't worry guys, I don't want anything. Maybe just some nice gin or something if you really want to?\" Despite this my parents regularly buy me board games, toilet books, tops with amusing slogans on that I immediately either give away or throw out (yes I feel like a dick, but I don't want them).\n\nThe person i'm upfront with the most is my girlfriend. I've straight up told her numerous times \"I've bought everything I want. Anything else I want i'm going to buy because i'm obsessive about how I and/or my office looks\" yet she buys me \"cute\" looking t shirts (with cartoons), tops with giant nike or adidas logos on - stuff that I hate and she surely must know after several years I would never buy myself.\n\nI also have a very sleek looking office in our house. I've let her have run of most of it, but for my office i've made it exactly how I want. Really neat white walls with contrasting black furniture and carpet - it looks great. Anyway, my last finishing touch was going to be a nice bonsai on a table in the corner and I kept excitedly telling my girlfriend how much i'm looking forward to finding one, taking care of it and making my room complete. She took this as \"go and get any random plant for as cheap as possible and surprise me\" and presented me with this dying, wilted piece of shit that was covered in 'reduced' stickers (rightfully so as it was almost dead).\n\nWhat I wanted to say was \"WHAT IS THIS HALF-DEAD PIECE OF SHIT!? I WANTED A BONSAI TREE THAT I SPECIFICALLY CHOSE! THIS IS EVEN WORSE THAN THOSE ADVENTURE TIME PYJAMAS YOU GOT ME THAT I'M ALREADY PLANNING ON GIVING AWAY!\"\n\nInstead I said \"Wow, oh my god you're so thoughtful. Thank you so much now I don't need to get an expensive plant\"\n\nI feel like i'm unreasonable sometimes and I know everyone means well, but at the end of the day I just don't want people to waste money on me especially when it's something that I would rather not have.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "h2bLXbQacG2KMmVlPG2FY4jRJU50y79s", "post_id": "a684iu", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend to save my game befor she switches over to her savestate", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For asking my girlfriend to save my game befor she switches over to her savestate?", "text": "Hey Reddit! First time really positing anything. I'm on mobile so sorry for the bad formatting.\n\nHere's the story. I bought myself a switch with Pokemon let's go as a Christmas gift to myself, but I haven't really gotten around to playing much, because of work.\n\nHowever my girlfriend really enjoys playing and even has her em account on my switch. So today I offered her to leave her my switch while I was at work. I still had my game running in the background but really didn't think about it.\n\nWhen I got home I discovered that two days of progress had been lost cause I forgot to save and my girlfriend switched over to her account without saving.\n\nFor me this really isn't a big deal. When she got home I pointed it and told her that I'd be nice of her if she could save my game before switching over to her save state in case I forgot again.\n\nShe got extremely angry about this and told me it was not her fucking problem if I forgot to save my state. Again, I really didn't care about the progress and I really didn't think that this was going to be a big deal. However her reaction shocked me because just saying \"I'll try and remember it next time\" would have been much easier and that would have been the end of it. We got into a huge fight, which actually wasn't about the save state but about considering others, especially in a relationship. Pressing an extra button would be little more effort in comparison to the frustration it would save.\n\nAm I the asshole for getting upset about her hot headedness in this topic.\n\nTL;DR Ask girlfriend to save a game before using my console, she gets angry and we get into a fight that looks like could end our relationship.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "83G3ZXsOc3kBi5qwhNl9dVX7gOAUXQc4", "post_id": "b4dgb0", "action": {"description": "calling the cops on my neighbors", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling the cops on my neighbors?", "text": "On Monday night around 10pm I started reading a book in my living room (Stephen King's Needful Things). I work nights and it was one of my days off so I would be up until 7am because I maintain a nightshift sleep schedule on my off days. \n\nMy fianc\u00e9 was asleep in our bed and I could hear some LOUD af bass coming from somewhere in our neighborhood. The noise ordinance in our area mandates quiet time from 10pm to 6am. Our windows were all closed and I could still hear and feel this bass through our walls. If I stepped onto our porch I could clearly hear all the lyrics of the songs they were blasting. \n\nI figured they would stop eventually, I mean, it's Monday night, right? I let it go on for a while, but eventually the stress and frustration I was feeling towards these inconsiderate neighbors started getting to me. My stress turned into a moderate headache around 2am, and the music was still blasting. It had been going on for more than 4 hours at this point. On a Monday night. Wtf. \n\nI didn't want to go over to their house and say something in case they were drunk and did something irrational or violent (I am a small-framed woman), so I called the non-emergency hotline to file a noise complaint. \n\nTwo cops eventually pulled up, told the neighbors to keep it down, they did, and that was it. Easy peasy... just kidding. After the cops left the male from the household walked into the street and starting screaming \"Fucking PUSSIES! DON'T MOVE TO THE EAST SIDE IF YOU'RE GONNA BE A FUCKING PUSSY.\" etc. Then he started blasting the music again. I did not call the cops again. \n\nIt has been 5 days and every single time this guy comes outside he starts screaming similar obscenities. I went to take out my recycling one day and he got out on his porch and started screaming at me then too, but I just ignore him and carry on with my daily routine. I don't know how or if he knows it was me, but it seems like he might? \n\nSo, am I the asshole? Should I have done this differently? Is there anything I can do to make him stop screaming at our house every hour of the day?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "by194AzINDryBivdIJTXieQaq06m6NpX", "post_id": "ah0wae", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get flu and whooping shots to see my friends newborn baby", "pronormative_score": 48, "contranormative_score": 94}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get flu and whooping shots to see my friends newborn baby?", "text": "My friend (34F) is having her first baby this week. She's always been a little bit OCD about germs and cleanliness, but she just told me if I want to hold the baby I will have to get these two shots. Initially, I agreed to this because she is my best friend and we are neighbors, I know she will need help because she's having a c-section, etc. BUT...I have only ever had one flu shot and never whooping cough. I am fully immunized for the other stuff you get as a younger person. She told me she plans on hiding in her house away from people to avoid getting the baby sick. Other people have questioned her about this and she seems to know it is extreme, but does not care. \n\n​\n\nSo..there is a part of me that understands this, obviously, newborns are extremely susceptible to sickness and I would never expose her to anything. I did not require all my friends and family to get immunized to see my daughter. I did ask that they wash their hands and don't visit if you're sick or have been sick. \n\n​\n\nI guess my question is am I the asshole for not wanting to get these shots and how should I tell my friend? Is there anything I can say to her to make her feel better?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 93, "OTHER": 33, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 15, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 48, "WRONG": 94}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8Yg4n3s2mgsqLRbg4fCTTqoHhv1ZczVv", "post_id": "ajoib2", "action": null, "title": "AITA for a situation where my music producer left after I sent him 21 messages over 7 days being worried about him because he hadnt told me he was on vacation?", "text": "I've been working on an RPG Maker project for about 2 years now, and this situation happened close to the start, but has sort of been on my mind since.\n\nThe guy in question wasn't exactly the most reasonable at times and said some questionable stuff. He wouldn't really tell me anything either.\n\nSo while he was working on one of the tracks for the game, he left on vacation without telling anyone.\n\nI asked where the music was. I sent 3 messages because I normally seperate my messages instead of sending them all at once. This was my mistake and it's just a bad habit I have.\n\nHe didn't respond. Day 2, same, 3, same, until Day 7. I went to go see my cat and came back to 14 messages of him screaming in all caps about how I had sent him 21 messages, being mad because he was on vacation.\n\nI tried to apologise to him, and he kept saying how I had pissed him off.\n\nIn the end, he quit, saying I should try and find a producer who won't get annoyed by 21 messages begging for help.\n\nAITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EK7D9N7dHJyd073xPbj5w3rKluUHxXwO", "post_id": "atpesd", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my nephew's birthday party", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my nephew's birthday party?", "text": "My nephew's birthday is two days before mine. This year my birthday falls on a Saturday. My sister texted me today and said, \"nephew's birthday party is on your birthday this year\". It's his fifth birthday.\n\nI immediately felt my stomach drop and just a sense of dread. I don't like to do much for my birthday, and I don't even want to celebrate with my family, but I want to have the day to myself to celebrate quietly with my boyfriend and enjoy my one day a year that's about me. My boyfriend and I are both very introverted and socially anxious, so the thought of not only foregoing my quiet celebration, but also having to go interact with a bunch of strangers and noisy kids is just the worst. I also don't want to have a super busy weekend and I'm running a half marathon the next day, it'll just be a really stressful time.\n\nI love my nephew. I just don't want to go to his birthday party. Last year he had a big party with a bunch of kids and parents and he didn't even notice I was there (I'm not complaining, I didn't expect him to, I'm just saying I don't think he'd notice if I wasn't there this year). Am I the asshole for wanting to skip his birthday party so I can conserve my energy and enjoy my birthday on my own terms?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mlaXR0Mu9v1FPVy33uJf98AryZS23ovY", "post_id": "agmrc9", "action": {"description": "getting my nipples pierced against my partners wishes", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I get my nipples pierced against my partners wishes?", "text": "For a while I've mentioned the fact that I like the appearance of nipple piercings to my partner of 3 years, I've always wanted to get them done for myself. Everytime I bring it up he shuts the idea down as he doesn't think they're attractive at all. He is a much more reserved person compared to myself and has expressed distaste for coloured hair/tattoos as well in the past.\n\nWith my local piercing place doing a special deal at the moment I bought up the fact that I wanted to finally get them done and he gave me the most awful grimace. I feel very torn as about half the people I've talked to think that I should stick to what I want and get them done for me and the other half think that I'm disfiguring a part of my body that he obviously likes. \n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iWiWJwpL2px78DmCk5bn1uj7BtbyWYu3", "post_id": "agiiku", "action": {"description": "getting mad/frustrated at my girlfriend's constant messes/accidents", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting mad/frustrated at my girlfriend's constant messes/accidents?", "text": "So this is a spur of the moment post and I'm going to keep it brief. My girlfriend is extremely clumsy and has a tendency to leave messes out hoping that I'll clean them. She basically lives in my dorm room because my roommate lives in his girlfriend's single room. But when my parents came to pick me up for Thanksgiving break they made a comment about the mess that I had made in my room. The problem was that it was mostly dirty clothes and dishes that I hadn't had time to get to. I hadn't used any of those clothes or dishes. She's broken three pairs of rather expensive headphones of mine because she either wasn't paying attention or in the case of one such pair fell onto them. She has lost two different computer mice that I've given her so she could play video games. And tonight she asked me to make her ramen. So after I made her ramen and I hand it to her she stands up, with the bowl, to get something. As she goes to sit down she tips the bowl and it spills all over my futon. I just am getting tired of all of this and feel like a massive asshole for feeling this way.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jqDDh6JQ0LCP4NubtrxcUxLIRxTXo5X8", "post_id": "b57iiy", "action": {"description": "refusing to sell my dad's records even though even though my family needs the money", "pronormative_score": 34, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for refusing to sell my dad's records even though even though my family needs the money?", "text": "22 female.\n\nMy dad died 3 years ago. He had a huge collection of over 100 classic rock records (some of which are signed) and some memorabilia and he wanted me to have it because I'm the only one in family that loves this music.\n\nMy mom and my two younger brothers (14 and 12) are a bit short on money. Their storage water heater broke and they don't have money for a new one, and it would take a few months to save up for it.\n\nI promised mum that I'd help them financialy as much as I can (I'm a student but I get enough money from art commisions and work), but even with my help it's not enough. Mum is urging me to sell my dad's records because apparently they'd get them enough money for new water heater, but I refused . Mum is obviously angry at me now and I feel incredibly guilty, but I just can't sell them. They remind me of my dad and bring him back to me a little bit. Plus, he spend his whole life collecting them abd getting them signed and he knew I'd take care of them.\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 34, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "g87D2UpchB43lO07IcDXtdLrvch3UN3N", "post_id": "af9b3o", "action": {"description": "expecting my GF's 26yo son to start adulting and move out is of her basement? he works, pays no rent and plays video games/drinks all weekend. no household responsibilities and his room is obscenely filthy", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for expecting my GF\u2019s 26YO son to start adulting and move out is of her basement? He works, pays no rent and plays video games/drinks all weekend. No household responsibilities and his room is obscenely filthy.", "text": "", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qPkW7quNaTIfiBHIdw1SPhi8FN2uu0dX", "post_id": "b64hsc", "action": {"description": "not making a big deal about my friend coming out as gay", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not making a big deal about my friend coming out as gay?", "text": "One of our friends recently came out as gay to my friends and I. We were all in my car on the way to school when he told us he was gay. He said he came out to his parents the night before and while he was scared of their reaction they accepted him. He said since we were his best friends he wanted us to know too. We all congratulated him for less than a minute and then talked about soccer for the rest of the 10 minute ride to school. He was pretty annoyed and said that this was really important to him and that he felt like we just brushed it off. Him coming out as gay doesn\u2019t change our friendship in any way so I didn\u2019t think there was much else to discuss.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BXGbsdRF4rRAUlrW4e9wLouUeSJO1TQq", "post_id": "b4jjss", "action": null, "title": "AITA because I dont like my best friend's SO?", "text": "If you've seen my previous post you can see it escalated. So to start- my best friend is 'Bob' and Bob's significant other is 'Ann'. Long story short I didnt want Ann at an event I was going for because I didnt like her.  This caused a fight between Bob and I. I admit I might have been slightly dickish to Ann, by throwing shade at worst. But following our fight (Bob and I) I spoke to Anne and apologised which Anne forgave me for. I also assured both Anne and Bob that it wouldnt happen again. I spoke to Bob and admitted that I was a bit dramatic and impulsive and I made a mistake by saying I didnt want to be in the same space as her. Bob, who has been my best friend for 5 years doesnt seem to want to talk to me and doesn't seem like they're going to come around. I also said that if there was anything I could do to fix this to let me know but idk. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "d8yyWUSdN9EDaKRbkivSYhnYXjHMsXDK", "post_id": "9u7hre", "action": {"description": "not lying for my mom", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA by not lying for my mom?", "text": "Mom is hardcore into heroin and other opiates. She has a sugar daddy who pays for everything she needs, including an apartment. She's been getting high on his dime for a long time and somehow he has never noticed. I've always felt it was obvious when her face started changing and she developed track marks. Anyway, someone tipped him off about it and now he's questioning me. I've been ignoring his messages. My mom asked me to lie and tell him she's never done drugs otherwise she'll be homeless. I told both of them I refuse to get involved. They both hate me. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bLyuBUUsitKlglK7YXRgBJAaKFN8EAOM", "post_id": "b7lceb", "action": {"description": "inviting my cousin to my wedding but not his wife", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for inviting my cousin to my wedding but not his wife?", "text": "I love my cousin like my brother, but my fiance and I HATE his wife, and his wife HATES me. She is such a narcissist and I am worried she will make everything about her on our special day.\n\nMy family says I absolutely cannot create a ripple like that, but honestly my fiance and I do not want her there at all.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MO1GFBXKDYvCHsoaAPnLqENUbKpqReag", "post_id": "aqg8vf", "action": {"description": "telling my friend in prison it's ok to be gay for the stay", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend in prison it\u2019s ok to be gay for the stay?", "text": "So a couple years ago I had a severe mental breakdown and was put in a duel diagnosis rehab center since rehabs for just psychological issues are being combined with drug rehabs. While there I met a guy who came in the same day and we became close in those 28 days bc there was nothing but time to talk. \nAfter we got out we stayed in contact and was there for him emotionally when he needed to stay strong to stay off the heroin. I ended up moving states and he fell into a bad relationship that ended with him robbing a bank and his ex gf turned him in for the reward money.\nHe got back in contact and recently has been talking about his future plans of a life with me which I had to shut down bc I don\u2019t look at him in a romantic way.  Since then he had a sexual encounter with a guy in prison and I\u2019ve been telling him to go with it partly bc I know it will take his mind off of his fantasies of being with me. AITA!?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tft80t3nfNWXCMg7WuKmi26ZNYACXD9d", "post_id": "a1qnfx", "action": {"description": "opening my husband's mail", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for opening my husband's mail?", "text": "To give some background, I know of five times my husband has lied to me. The other things were smaller, like lying that he had quit smoking, but about a year ago there was a big lie about money (there were a few lies about the money but I'm counting it as one incident).  Since I had paid for our wedding and the first leg of the spouse visa I arrived on, he agreed that he would pay for the next leg. He had a savings of \u00a37,000 from his late father so we agreed we'd save that and more so that we'd always have enough for the visa and wouldn't have to risk us being spilt apart. \n\nSo one day I opened a letter from the bank that did have his name on it and it said he was over his credit card limit. He had told me he only had \u00a32000 to pay off so I asked him about it and he said the limit was \u00a34000 and he must not have realized how much he was spending. I thought it over and suggested that we use the savings to pay it off because the interest would be a killer. Slowly and painfully, he revealed to me that the credit card debt was actually \u00a38000 and that he had blew the entirety of the \u00a37000 savings. At this point, we were just putting our combined incomes into one account and everything was shared without saying who's was what. So we got counselling and I got a personal account so I could keep my money safe. It was fucking brutal to be lied to in such a way by my partner and to have my sense of security pulled from under my feet. It's been a long road in getting some sort of semblance of a normal relationship going again. \n\nSo that brings us to last night. He saw I opened a piece of his mail and was infuriated because I should trust him completely by now after all he's done to get to work the savings back up (it's not even close to the original amount but he is making an effort to put money on every month). I personally feel like that's quite a tall order and also, all the household bills are in his name, so I feel like it makes sense that I open them since I'm paying them as well. We only get paper bills for the purpose of using them for my visa applications, after all. \n\nSo am I the ass hole? I sort of understand where he's coming from, but like I said, the large money lie wasn't the first time he lied to me. I feel like I have a right to protect myself by checking the letters from the bank and general bills. He says I can see them, but he has to show me himself. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ep8IbPj4aFo9g9YAamz1j1IYowIFDiyY", "post_id": "awz8hr", "action": {"description": "asking for an early Christmas gift", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "wibta for asking for an early Christmas gift?", "text": "For context: I\u2019m 17, my aunt and uncle treated me to a weekend in NYC to see the Museum or Natural History for my birthday. We visited this really cool fossil/gems store where I found an incredible herring fossil that I was dying for (I\u2019m passionate about marine biology) and my aunt generously offered to buy it for me. It was eighty dollars. As I was thanking her, she said something along the line of \u201cat least I\u2019ve got my holiday shopping done early for you!\u201d Which I took to mean hand at the gift would count as my holiday gift. I was fine with this. \n\nOn the trip back today, I asked where my fossil was and she said in her suitcase, so I said not to let me forget that when we arrived home. She said then that she wasn\u2019t giving it to me then, she was saving it for next Christmas. I was pretty surprised but I didn\u2019t say anything other than \u201cSeriously? Ok\u201d. However I think it\u2019s kind of absurd to tell someone that you\u2019re buying something for them and then keep it for another ten months. WIBTA if I asked her if I could have it now?\n\nI\u2019m not sure if any of this is relevant:\nThis may or may not be the case this time, but the last time we were on a trip together without my parents my aunt sent a bill to my parents for the hotel, meals and transportation, which she is probably going to do this time too.\n\nI talked to my mom about this and she said that my aunt did the same thing to her with a necklace, then never actually gave her the necklace.\n\nReally not sure this is relevant, but I\u2019m half Jewish (my aunt and her brother, my father, are not) and I don\u2019t like Christmas at all. Hanukkah is much more important to me (than Christmas, not then the other Jewish holidays, lol) so I don\u2019t really see the point of saving a gift for almost an entire year just to give it on a particular date. \nThanks to all who reply :)\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nF6jOfY0FonaS9Z89TDPH73xFhdlfN4e", "post_id": "atq2by", "action": {"description": "lying to the ACLU and Planned Parenthood donation collectors", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for lying to the ACLU and Planned Parenthood donation collectors?", "text": "I work in the French Quarter in New Orleans. The ACLU and Planned Parenthood will have a set of recruiters on each side of a street I walk down multiple times a day to try to get people to donate to their causes.\n\nThey are there to catch the tourists more than anything. I guess people donate to good causes more when they've had a few hand grenades on Bourbon Street.\n\nAnyways, I completely support their causes so the first few times I would let them say their spiel and then tell them maybe next time (money's tight or else I would). It's finally gotten to the point where I just tell them I already donate to them as I walk past because I have shit to do. I don't have 30 minutes to stop and chat about the problems that plague our world while I'm on the clock.\n\nSo am I the asshole for lying about donating just to get out of the conversation? I would like to stress again this happens almost every single day and they are always rotating recruiters so it's always someone new asking.\n\nThanks in advance. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tKZohGrC9n75mGbzHJgGCDxrjEVnHgJy", "post_id": "an7b37", "action": {"description": "speaking to a friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for speaking to a friend?", "text": "So I play basketball at one of the local teams. Team's great, friendly teammates and a great coach, who will yell a bit but it's fine by me.\n\nSo there is this teammate, we'll call her E. For the past few months she's been getting drunk af, not coming to all the practices cause if uni classes, plus having fun and disrespects our coach a lot, either verbally or by asking from another coach for personal training, when she loses all the layups and easy baskets.\n\nFast forward to why I'm posting this. At today's practice, we sit on the bench and I complement her on her high energy. She's all like \"yeah I really wanna do great today, but he (referring to our coach) will probably say something bad and I won't want to play well\" all I said was that she should allow his words to stop her, instead she should show him that he's wrong. Practice continues as normal, warmup, stretches and then this huge idiocy happens.\n\nWe are sitting on the bench so we can split in two teams and practice some defense. Coach is checking some stuff, E sits next to me and says \"look at this idiot wearing blue sweatpants. Love his shoes, still an idiot\". That made me furious. E used to be our main center, but because of her attitude, we all believe that coach moved her to second center (I'm the third center). I really respect my coach, and that's why I got kind of angry. Also, I got angry at her, because she doesn't try a lot in practice, yet she gets to play a lot, whilst I try a lot at practice and never miss one, yet it would be a miracle if I got 5 minutes of play.\n\nPractice ends and I'm with a teammate that's really close to our coach and I consider her a good friend. I told her what E has told me about our coach. That he called him an idiot, etc, and that she takes her spot on the team for granted.\n\nTime goes by, that good friend and teammate decides to call our coach and tell him what happened. Few hours later, coach calls me. \"hey C, I'm just calling to confirm that this really did happen, cause I called E and she said that she complemented my shoes but did not call me an idiot\". Honestly I was speechless. At the time I started doubting myself. Maybe I heard wrong??? I told him that I'm 90% sure that what I heard was correct and I'll just give that 10% to her, benefit of the doubt. Coach days that he will take this to the board of our team.\n\nWhat I'm worried about is how E will react to this whole thing in tomorrow's practice. Will she come looking for a fight, will she not talk to me etc. I always try to have the best relationship I can have with every person, even if this person, like E, is not considered my friend. This situation is a first time for me. I only talked to my friend cause I wanted to let it out and vent.\n\nSo the real question. AITA for speaking to my friend about this??? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lL3ho317BFls54cSAky4el0O5RWryFHo", "post_id": "aqv6ox", "action": {"description": "ratting on and ghosting my cheating ex friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ratting on and ghosting my cheating ex friend?", "text": "Disclaimer, this happened a good little while ago. Still hurts to think about. It's been eating at me today, cuz valentines day. \n\nHe worked his ass off in the military and used the education to get a job. bought a home at 20. \n\nWe played videogames together. That was the bulk of our relationship. We started when he was in high school. Years and years. A few summers of daily contact. \n\nHe told me he cheated via facebook. He was conflicted but planned to continue. \n\nSo I told his GF, who I had no prior contact with. I gave him some choice words and blocked him. I know there was a shit storm but I didn't follow up. \n\nI miss him. But I also hate him. I hate cheaters. I betrayed his trust, possibly ruined his life, and left him to it. I wish he never cheated. I think I'd do it again with current friends. I don't know if it's out of empathy for the SO or malice toward cheaters, but i can't stand to think about someone i know cheating or being cheated on. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PuWOyOq3i1q8bhRH1rkDZXG86kLtbSsl", "post_id": "b2o1m4", "action": {"description": "accidentally getting my close friend's boyfriend fired", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally getting my close friend\u2019s boyfriend fired?", "text": "Ok so, for starters my (I guess I\u2019d say ex close friend now) started dating a guy we worked with, she actually is the one that got him the job in the first place. Things start to change, everything you shouldn\u2019t do when u date a coworker happened. He was a terrible worker, awful attitude, got in our managers faces a few times.....not a good situation tbh. Sooo fast forward to a few weeks ago, the guy decides to post something about \u201cI wish we could beat up coworkers and not get fired\u201d. Not only did I see this, but many other coworkers see it too that follow him. I find it a little uncomfortable and it kind of pissed me off. So, I mention it to my boss and he already doesn\u2019t like this guy. Basically he\u2019s been trying to find a reason to fire him anyway. My boss goes to the hire ups and said we have to fire him cuz saying something like that causes a \u201chostile work environment\u201d and if he actually got into a fight with someone the company would get into trouble if they didn\u2019t do anything about it. So now the guy got fired, my friend blames me and our friendship is ended all over this stupid Facebook post. Tbh I didn\u2019t want to get the guy fired, I was just pissed off in the moment and wished I never said anything in the first place.  Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rWZMMxc668hRc8Ipx3T0CGmI1qC8epg4", "post_id": "b820ib", "action": {"description": "sending a direct message to my roommate's booty call", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I sent a direct message to my roommate's booty call?", "text": "It's not what it sounds like. So, my roommate was dating this girl for a few years and he broke up with her probably a year ago, but she still comes around once every few months for a booty call. I hate this lady. She annoys me to no end. She's in her 40s and doesn't know how to do the simplest of tasks (like change the toilet paper roll or put the shower head back up). She's honestly dumb as a box of rocks and inconsiderate and she is SUPER sensitive about people not liking her.\n\n​\n\nWell, last night she spent the night and she used the last of the toilet paper and didn't change the roll. And I'm all about making sure people learn on their own, so I used the roll that is under the sink and put it back when I was done, leaving the empty roll. She used the bathroom this morning and there was no toilet paper for her to use, so she finally looked under the sink to replace it. Finally, a lesson learned. But no. That's not where it ends. I keep all my hair supplies under the sink and she took out (or dropped) a box of my hair bleach on the floor and then left it there. This would normally just be another annoyance, but I have cats. So now she's taken this to a whole new level of pissing me off before she's endangering my animals.\n\n​\n\nI told my SO (because he is the person who calmly tells our roommate of the nonsense that he should be dealing with) and my SO let him know about it. This happens constantly when she comes over and nothing seems to change. Our roommate doesn't like confrontation, so I feel like he just doesn't even tell her what she did wrong and therefore nothing gets fixed.\n\n​\n\nSo, WIBTA if I messaged her directly to tell her to pick up after herself when she's in our home?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Rn4iSywgKX8tdWMQDmOzGLZpQQOVmHTW", "post_id": "acbifm", "action": null, "title": "AITA My brother purposely used a maths compass to destroy my laptop screen so I got his art project and smashed it into pieces", "text": "I sold Red Dead Redemption 2 today. I made a post about this and I finally decided to sell it today because I bought it with my money for the PS4. I went to the store to sell it and I got my \u20ac50 from trading in the game. When I came back I saw my maths set on the table and a compass on the table and huge scrapes on my laptop screen. Multiple of them like someone was drawing on my laptop screen with a compass. I asked him who did it and he said my sister but that was impossible because I asked my mother and she said she was downstairs watching TV during the whole time I was gone. I only have 1 brother and sister and clearly my parents didn't do it. So it was clear he did it and it is clear HE did it because I sold a game I bought with MY money. \n\nNow my laptop is ruined. I paid \u20ac500 after saving up and he ruined it. It's ugly now and the screen is all messed up and my parents won't pay for it. I got extremely pissed off because he couldn't even apologize for it, he just lied and he was just there lying down on his bed using the Nintendo Switch I BOUGHT with my money like everything is cool. I'm 17 And he is 16. I got so pissed off so I got his art project that is due on Monday that is made out of clay and smashed it into smithereens and this project took him weeks to do. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 106, "EVERYBODY": 131, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 8}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 106, "WRONG": 154}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6lSQLFOd5hXKhQXrNQAqVEPd0IRcdRMr", "post_id": "ao4ale", "action": {"description": "leaving my maid-of-honor seat next to the bride at her wedding", "pronormative_score": 56, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for leaving my maid-of-honor seat next to the bride at her wedding?", "text": "Best friend got married, I was her maid of honor.\nIt was a destination wedding. My bf (of 5 years) took time off work and we got a hotel room etc for 2 nights in the city the wedding was in. \n\nI did my MOH duties. I bought a dress she wanted, threw her a fun bachelorettes party, stood next to her in church, held a speech at the wedding etc. \n\nAfter church, at the reception, I discovered that while my seat was right next to the bride (there was one long table) , my boyfriend was seated at the far far end of the table. Next to the photographer they hired and next to a family who didn't speak his language. \n\nThe best man next to the groom had his wife (who was not part of the bridal party) right next to him.\n\nI was hurt and annoyed. I suspect it's because we aren't married (they are very religious) but idk what the hell she was thinking. And she could've at least sat him with the younger people, our friends, so he could talk to someone. \n\nWe've been together for 5+ years, we have lived together forever, we've hung out together with my friend lots of times, it's not like she doesn't know him. \n\nI didn't want my boyfriend to feel hurt (and I could tell he was a bit even thought he tried not to show it). After the food had been served, I got up and went to sit in the empty seat next to my bf while the photographer was going around taking pics.\n\n\nMy other\n friend later said it was kinda shitty of me to leave my seat next to the bride. I feel like I did the right thing. \nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 46, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 56, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lN9FTLpFIDKT0FFUkEaNS2OcTYrUxqp5", "post_id": "b85wld", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend time with my parents", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to spend time with my parents?", "text": "My parents moved out of state.  My mom comes back almost every 6 weeks for at least a week and stays with us and to say it's difficult is putting it lightly.  She is hyper sensitive, yet super judgmental and cannot tolerate silence.  She is literally always talking or asking questions. The first day or two we catch up but then it's like, I have nothing left to say.  Then she gets passive aggressive with me and will be like \"okay,  you're making me feel like I'm bothering you\" (because she is, and I resort to one- word answers).  The next day she'll try starting a conversation by asking literally the same question she asked the day before, after I answered it. She will ask me \"what's new? \" every day brought the week. It's too much. \n\nMy dad comes to visit with her about 3-4x per year.  I'm closer to him but even then, after a few days, there's nothing to talk about.  \n\nThey're from this area, lived here for over 60 years, so it's not like we can go sightseeing or I can show them around town.  \n\nIf they visited once per year, my husband and I would make more of an effort to plan things throughout the week and be better 'hosts', but they visit so often we can't do that...when we have our own plans, they act like we're being rude or get passive aggressive, even though they have friends that still live here, a rental car, and can entertain themselves.  \n\nI had to run errands this morning and when I was about to leave, my dad was like, \"um, okay  bye\". I've been up running around doing things since 630 so when I mentioned I might take a nap, my mom (who slept in until 1030) goes \"okay, I guess I'll just watch TV then\"  in a passive aggressive tone.  \n\nThey leave tomorrow and I planned to make a nice dinner tonight.  Of course my dad is busy now and won't be home for dinner, so I'm peeved by that.\n\nI know there are people that don't have their parents anymore or strained relationships and I'm probably going to hear \"be thankful\"... which I am, but after a few days,  I run out of gas socially, and kind of shut down.  \n\nMy parents just make me feel like I'm a bitch. Am I? \n\nTL;DR  My parents visit often and stay with us and get passive aggressive when I need some space or am kind of burned out socially and don't want to talk.  \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2nZxQ2acEO9a8qRY1B2rZNmGGUxiU9Lh", "post_id": "a3va9t", "action": {"description": "not wanting my brother to get a chameleon", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my brother to get a chameleon?", "text": "My brothers a little cunt. He gets home from school, curses at everyone and plays video games literally the whole rest of the day.\n\nAnyways, last Christmas he got a leopard gecko as a pet from my grandparents. He asked for it and they said yes because I honestly don\u2019t think they know how to say no to him. They didn\u2019t even ask my parents if it was ok to keep a leopard gecko and didn\u2019t know shit about the care requirements. I was really pissed so I pretty much ignored the gecko for 6 months. Fast forward, the gecko got MBD (A fatal bone disease for reptiles), and as I am somewhat experienced in reptile keeping, I put the gecko enclosure and my room (My brother didn\u2019t give a shit about me basically stealing his pet or it getting a disease wtf) and I try my hardest to treat it for 2 months. By some miracle it actually worked and I am currently in possession of a leopard gecko. \n\n[Heres](https://www.reddit.com/r/leopardgeckos/comments/8npal2/save_a_leopard_gecko/?st=JPDE1Y62&sh=82fd2099) a link to a more detailed post and there are alot more on my profile if interested.\n\nThis Christmas my brother randomly asks for a FUCKING CHAMELEON and my grandparents are in the process of getting him one. I am absolutely livid.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jnYP1w4Oc9AEyMZzeTvgzoRMYpb8HZXo", "post_id": "aiheco", "action": {"description": "freaking out about my girlfriend move in with another guy", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for freaking out about my girlfriend move in with another guy?", "text": "Little backstory,\nMy girlfriend and I have been together 3.5 years. This guy has been my gf best friend for a little over a year. There has been plenty of times where he has earned my trust around her. My gf and I are currently long distance for uni and it's been tough. She has recently moved back to her old house and there isn't much space for her. She now wants to move to an apartment living off her chick fil a wage. For reasons that aren't important she basically needs to room with him. She has offered to find a third roommate but she has said that even if she can't she's still moving in with him. She has stated multiple times that nothing I say will change that she's moving in with him. I have made it clear to her that I hate the idea of them moving in together. My logic behind my feelings is that with us being long distance, she will start to prefer him over me, not so much in the romantic way more in the way that someone likes their best friend more than their SO. I also have a small fear that they could start to grow feelings for each other and we could split up because of it. Am I the asshole?\n\ntl;dr - Girlfriend is moving in with a guy and with us being long distance it could cause our relationship to end. I am against her moving in with him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pqQwP3AWxeEVJzg7OZxRm1SVGk2uAxbG", "post_id": "b1yfm9", "action": {"description": "opening a strangers car door and getting in", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if I opened a strangers car door and got in?", "text": "Sorry for the strange title, not sure how to summarise this. Basically I get this thing happening to me sometimes, not often but enough to make it one of my pet hates. I'll be passing a car and suddenly the lights will flash and it will beep loudly, usually causing me to jump in an undignified manner. Then I'll look around and some asshole will be meters away with a shit-eating grin. I'm not a confrontational person, and they have plausible deniability in this case, but it seems a lot like they do it purposefully. So I came up with a plan for petty revenge. I would not look around but immediately open the car door, get in and sit down. Then go to get my own car keys and start to put them in the ignition. At this point no doubt the real owner is running up to the car and shouting at me, I will smile sweetly and say \"oh I'm very sorry, this car unlocked just as I passed it so I thought it was my car because mine does that! Oh how embarrassing!\" \n\nWIBTA for doing this? It may backfire if someone made a genuine innocent mistake. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "F9X8NBBMGmmriwwb5vNnURMPdRvzVv6N", "post_id": "aqbccz", "action": {"description": "being a passive actor on a series of disasters", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being a passive actor on a series of disasters?", "text": "Throwaway since the implicated people may be around. The details are kindof vague on purpose to avoid the implied parts to recognize the post.\n\n\nSo, I've been living with this friend of mine, let's call him Bob, for a few years now.\u00a0\n\n\nA few nights ago I found some presence in our place. Nothing like a ghost, more like a ninja that kept emptying our fridge. To be fair, all the food in the house is provided by Bob, but that's not important.\n\n\nNight after night the presence would take away some food. In order to scare it off I made a giant tikki head. The head seemed to worked, until it disappeared.\n\n\nBob had this vehicle parked in his front yard. He found out that the \"presence\" was actually an old friend of his, let's call her Margaret, who recently became in trouble with the law.\n\n\nMargaret was under arrest order by then. She ended up stealing Bob's vehicle along with the tikki head and ran away. Bob didn't care too much, but here things got complicated.\n\n\nBesides from Margaret commiting yet another felony by stealing the vehicle, she was spiriling down to a darker place. She begun to speak with the tikki head, who she personalized as her rational side, allowing herself to be bad by contrast.\n\n\nUnder the influence of the tikki head she ended up crashing Bob's vehicle against a dangerous cargo one, causing a hazardous situation on an entire town.\u00a0\n\n\nThere was a way for me to help the situation but I stood still waiting for my other friend and work collegue, Peter, to tackle down the issue. It was a close call but Peter managed to save the situation and prevent the hazardous content of the other vehicle to cause an entire town to go south.\n\n\nI may be guilt-tripping myself but... Am I the asshole for making the tikki head in the first place? Should I had acted before Peter interfered to prevent the hazard?\u00a0\n\n\n\nThanks in advance", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OqnjW3vW2l0LEipO0KpewifwrdVg72D3", "post_id": "b8pnik", "action": {"description": "thinking my friend is a snake for asking my date for her number", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking my friend is a snake for asking my date for her number?", "text": "I (28M)go to this restaurant I used to work at every couple months or so and have drinks and food at the bar and chat with the employees and the bartender (26M), who I will call Y for this story. I consider Y a friend and occasionally hang out with outside of the restaurant. The management and Y often comp some food and I hook up the employees for great service and everyone is always happy.\n\nI have gone here with female friends and women that I am interested in pursuing.\n\nI came in here over the weekend on a date with (23F) who I\u2019ll call T. It seemed pretty obvious to me we were on a date as it was just the two of us. \n\nWhile I was in the bathroom, T asks Y about me and he says that I\u2019m great and all of this positive stuff. Also Y mentions that he has a girl and things are going great with her, who I\u2019ve never heard of btw.\n\nAfter some drinks were both a bit tipsy and were telling Y about how T and myself are going to a concert soon. Y starts asking T if she\u2019s going to Coachella, which she was considering because her work can often get her in for free, and how he needs more females in his crew. He presses the issue a bit more and tells her to grab his number.\n\nI\u2019m sitting there kinda confused like wtf, seems kinda ballsy to ask a chick I\u2019m on a date with for her number right in front of me. At this point T discreetly looks over to me and says \u201cis this okay?\u201d She was feeling a bit weirded out too. I\u2019m a bit surprised about the whole thing but think maybe I\u2019m just being insecure or defensive and say yea it\u2019s fine.\n\nWe got hooked up real nice on the bill, tipped big, and left. I shared my discomfort about this situation with T and she was super cool about it and said she thought it was strange too.\n\nThe next day Y sends her a text \u201chey, it was great meeting you last night. I hope your night turned out great.\u201d T doesn\u2019t respond.\n\nI think Y was hitting on T, but he apparently talked me up while I was in the bathroom and still hooked the bill up nice. What do you think? AITA for thinking Y is a snake?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Jmyt2ssIzEdR2nMIGTRx6UmP62bICAj2", "post_id": "aonpdb", "action": {"description": "not removing weights on the bench press bar", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for not removing weights on the bench press bar?", "text": "Generally, at the gym, after bench pressing, I\u2019ve always left a 45 pound plate on each side of the bar so the next person (generally benches at least 135) wouldn\u2019t have to restack the 45s.  Today, some guy stopped me and told me that I should take all the weights off next time and looked pissed. There are three bench presses available at my gym so there were two that he could have used. Just to add, this guy was bigger than me (and lifts more). He ultimately took the weights off the bar and used the bar for another bench press type (incline). In ten years of working out, I\u2019ve never removed the one set of 45s as a courtesy to others that lift at least 135. Am I the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Hh8DY037KAe76JDtOQTX7pIImA7pXzGQ", "post_id": "azlu7p", "action": {"description": "distancing ourselves from a friend who lied about abuse and other things", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA (are we the assholes) for distancing ourselves from a friend who lied about abuse and other things?", "text": "TL;DR. Would my friends and I be the assholes after cutting out an extremely emotionally needy person who has been proven to lie about some things?\n\n\nA couple months ago one of my close friends started talking constantly about depression and harming himself. For months we stayed up until 2 am talking to him, walking through his problems. We tried our hardest to get him help but he would never listen. \n\nHe then started talking about abuse, his parents emotionally and physically beating him, and how he felt so low. My friends and I believed he was depressed, but never believed the abuse part. We have been friends since 2nd grade, and his parents have never been abusivo in our presence. Even over discord calls when he would hide his phone because it\u2019s late, they would always tell him how much they love him, we would see them at restaurants in public.\n\nThen a month ago, we learned he had been manipulating three girls at our school into basically giving him stuff for free because of the \u201cabuse\u201d. They called CPS and CPS investigates his house. To this day, his only evidence of abuse is a patched hole in his wall. He says his dad threw a lamp at the wall, but the lamp supposedly thrown has a large base and the hole was small. He constantly changes his story also, at one point saying his dad pinched the hole.\n\nWe were still planning on hanging out with him, as we thought the depression just clouded his mind. Then, one of our friends girlfriends started receiving weird texts from him, very frequently. Telling her how good her art is, how amazing she is, how lucky our friend is to be dating her. Then he starts ranting to her also. \nOur friend told him to stop texting his girlfriend, and he told him to shut up and called him an asshole. That\u2019s when we decided to stop hanging out with him, but it gets worse.\n\nHe decided to try and get CPS to take him and his sisters to a foster home, bombarding them with calls. He tried to tell us that foster homes are amazing, and that\u2019s why he was doing it. We didn\u2019t care, if he wanted to do that to himself sure, but his sisters didn\u2019t want to go. One of his sisters is autistic too, which is even worse. He refused, and kept calling them. They never had enough evidence to take them.\n\nOne of my friends recently hung out with him and watched the punisher, and he texted him later saying \u201cWhen we were watching the punisher some of the scenes.. idk how to describe it.. it.. reminded me of some things\u201d We don\u2019t know if he means he cut himself or he\u2019s been thinking of doing something to our school, but the school never listened whenever we brought stuff to them.\n\nSo basically I\u2019m asking, would my friends and I be the assholes if we cut him out after months of trying to help him? I just feel so drained, as this is the only thing he talks about when we are with him. \n\nThere\u2019s other reasons we\u2019re doing this but I don\u2019t want the post to be too long. If you would like to know I can talk about them in the comments.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OECcyIvHuBredKVEMIuce4XNBNoNf2lV", "post_id": "aafm0t", "action": null, "title": "AITA - wife cheated with ex and she is now angry over trust issues.", "text": "My wife hooked up with her ex and had an ongoing relationship by email behind my back. I want to trust her again, but I am struggling. She is angry because I go through her phone (with her permission).  Has anyone been through this and ever been able to regain trust? And her anger bothers me too, rather than remorseful she says things like \u201cI\u2019ve apologized twice, how many times do I need to be sorry?\u201d ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7dv5fK5mmevK6Au5YgALO7cqqh0xK6PH", "post_id": "9x6c6q", "action": {"description": "not giving out free rides", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA If I don\u2019t give out free rides?", "text": "I am in school with a bunch of people who live near me. 4 of them live in an apartment together, and 3 of those 4 pay me to take them home every day. The deal we made was they would pay me a total of $24 a week, because that is divisible by three and a little less than taking an uber every night. They live about 8 minutes from me. Last night, the one who doesn\u2019t pay to come home (he prefers to go around every day finding rides for free) asked for a ride \u201cbecause I couldn\u2019t find a ride today and you are going there anyway\u201d. I said I don\u2019t care, but you have to ask the guys who are paying. He did not, and just got into the car. No one said anything, but 2/3 paying guys came to me later and said we should not give him a ride again, because he has gotten a few rides with them and the guy they pay in the morning using the same excuse. Am I/are we the asshole(s)? After all, we ARE going to the apartment anyway. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "77kt9rNJGpWIkwvOElls6jVkDnelcjgX", "post_id": "avn66p", "action": {"description": "choosing school over my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for choosing school over my boyfriend?", "text": "(throwaway account, TL;DR at the bottom, mobile user yada yada)\n\nSo I [F18] have been in a long distance relationship with this wonderful guy [M20] for over 7 months now. We met during a summer camp where he was a volunteer and fell in love immediately. After spending 2 weeks together at the camp we went long distance. We've met 3 times since, twice when he came to visit me and once when I went to him. My parents don't know about him and for reasons I'd rather not talk about, I can't tell them. \n\nNow here's my big deal. I want to go to the same university as him (because I wanted to go there from the start and not because he is there). There is an math exam required in order to get a place, and said exam is VERY hard. Now, my math is quite decent, atm I can say that I'd score an 8/10 at that exam. The problem is that I really want to get as high a grade as possible because my parents will never accept to pay for my college, so I need to get in for free (quite limited number of places).\n\nLast week the university started organising some training courses where they show their future students how to approach solving the questions of the exam. So I convinced my parents to let me go to his city and attend those courses every week (a lot of money involved). I went to the courses and afterwards I spent the day with my bf. It was amazing.\n\nThe problem is this. He wants to spend more time with me, and wants a little privacy (which I totally understand), but in order to go to his home (1h train ride away from the University city) we would need to leave the courses early to catch the train. He says he's been to these courses last year and has it all written in a notebook that he can let me have, so I don't miss out. I don't agree with skipping those courses just to spend time with him, simply because 1) they're very important to me, I feel like it helps me understand math a lot better and 2) my parents have spent a lot of money for my education so I can get to that university, last thing I want is to fail myself, or them.\n\nWe talked about this last night, he says he feels like I don't love him and that the sacrifices he made for me were kind of pointless because I'll never do the same for him. We're both committed to this relationship as much as possible, and I don't consider breaking up anytime soon. I love him, but I feel like this is going too far. He says he knows he doesn't want any other girl in his life, but I'm neither ready nor willing to make that statement anytime soon. \n\nSo, reddit. Am I the asshole?\n\nTL;DR my boyfriend wants me to skip (very important) courses to get some private time. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C7y75aK8kgg1Z9geUlWAOnqF6ZMexZ5O", "post_id": "a58vg2", "action": {"description": "avoiding the topic of her ex", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for avoiding the topic of her ex.", "text": "We have been speaking for a few days now and she told me that she has a difficult work life because she works with her ex who she says went off with the other girl they work with. It started as an innocent conversation about work and all of a sudden I got a whole paragraph ending with \"sorry I probably said to much\". On about how he was never truly sorry. I'm very wary about girls thrusting emotional stuff and venting on me. I am someone who would often mistake this for affection and a chance to prove how nice I was. Like a friend zoned nice guy type deal. Plus it was about her ex. I said don't worry about it. She said sure so I replied its nothing to do with me. She then said sorry to have bothered. I'm of the opinion that she could stay chatting Im not sure yet. But if not maybe I dodged a red flag. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1A9fPDOD7QcvEos43qXLFp7sHmHcNWDf", "post_id": "b6k7sh", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Didn't hear the doorbell and girlfriend rang it for 20 minutes, now she's pissed.", "text": "Today I finally recieved my long time desired VR headset Oculus Rift. I was playing with it all morning. She went to the shop and pick up something at university. She forgot her keys and when she rang the bell, I didnt hear because I had my Oculus on plus my gaming headset which blocks all the noises from outside. She rang for 2o minutes apparently and was super pissed at me that Im a cunt and I've done it on purpose. She also tried to ring my phone, but Im used to from work to have it on silent. I would understand that she's pissed, but it made me really angry that she thinks that I've done it on purpose. Ofcourse I didn't, she knows that Ican't hear anything when I put the headphones on and play something. Excuse my english its's my second language and I'm not good at writing stuff.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MyNlpNPzNtdqRvMrTvyJFb9aLQ7OjRPd", "post_id": "a1iuk7", "action": {"description": "not leaving my buddies house", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not leaving my buddies house?", "text": "So me and my buddy have been best friends since kindergarten. We are close enough that we have keys to each others place and it is not unusually for us to just show up unannounced. It is fairly common for me to come home and find a random new case of beer in my fridge and him and his gf in my pool. \n\nSo with that being said, I went over to his house Saturday night after a particularly rough day at work (I'm a cop) because I figured having a good time with friends is much better than being home alone wallowing in self pity.\n\nSo it turns out that he is not home, he had to take off for a work emergency and would be out of town until the next day. His girlfriend is home though and invites me in. I would consider her and I to be friends as well so I take her up on it and come in to hang out. I think it would be important to add that while I liked her and think she was really good for my buddy, I am admittedly pretty shallow with pretty high standards so I don't have any interest in her sexually. So we are drinking beer playing pool/darts and just hanging out. That eventually turns into doing a couple shots.\n\nAfter that we go and sit on the couch. I figure we can watch a couple reruns of the office and I can go pass the fuck out in the guest room. But that is the last thing I remember. I don't even remember getting the show started. I just wake up the next morning with the worst hangover of my life. Splitting headache, so dizzy I can barely stand up the whole thing. \n\nBut what it worse is that I am naked in his bed next to his girlfriend. Obviously and rightfully he hates me right now. And my friends are saying I should have never went in and hung out with his girlfriend alone and put us in that situation to begin with. \n\nBut I can't stress enough, that I had no sexual feeling for her. I did imagine in my wildest dreams that this would have happened. Shit, I still can't imagine it as I don't remember any of it.\n\nSo I know alcohol isn't an excuse, so I am 100% the asshole for sleeping with her. But am I also the asshole for hanging out with her alone in the first place?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "biEHh79aEDliC7jqTydZEmINxzH8rN9m", "post_id": "as2np7", "action": {"description": "disliking my family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for disliking my family", "text": "Before I start: Some people will to be mad because I should be happy  to have a family because some people dont have that privilege but please read.\n\nSo I am 16 (boy) and I have two sisters one is 18 and other one is 7 and I also have a brother 4, all my life my family separated me and my older sister, she would get more toys as kids, more money, more clothes, taken to trips without me (Austria, Spain, etc.). In school we have similar grades but hers are ok because she is older and more responsible so she will fix them, she failed 2 subjects I failed 3 but she didnt take any consequences while I got grounded, my dad took away my PC (this was 2 months ago). She is allowed to bully me, when she does it its funny and its taken as a joke but when I try to defend myself and start joking with her I am \"disrespecting my sister and I shouldnt behave like that\".\n\nMy dad would constantly pick on me because I disconnected myself from the rest of the family and became very anti social (because of my depression, which by the way no one wants to talk about with me). I decided to hide myself from everyone else and use video games (overwatch and csgo) because I need to focus which makes me not think about school and other stuff. I got into Rap due to that type of music being open about depression and family issues.\n\nWhen I was 8 my parents divorced I changed schools which made me lose contact with lot of friends. This was one of the causes for me slowly getting depressed. Their divorce hit me hard, even to this day when I think about it I start to get emotional and it sometimes cry.\n\nMy GP openly tell me that they love my older sister more, which I take pretty hard and even talked to them but they just dont care about my feelings mostly. They constantly talk shit about me and no matter if I do good they will just dont care.\n\nThe same is happening  with my bro. My dad and GP support all his wishes and talk how when he grows up he is going to be super successful and Ill live on his couch. At 4 years he has got: 2 parrots, a bicycle, 2 children sized bikes, a dog, etc. I remember when I was a kid I was asking for 2 things, a hamster and a scooter, they denied to buy me those two. I learned how to skate when I was 8 and that was using my friends spare skateboard, when they found out they grounded me because I wasnt allowed to skate, later on they were ok about me skating after using my Bday money to buy myself my own skateboard (after about a year of me learning how to skate). I bought my first gaming PC about a year ago from my pocket money even though I was asking for it for years (I get about 30$ a month compared to my sister getting 150$ a month) the PC I bought was in total about 700$ (its not that great but it gets the job done) and it took me quite a while to get it because I also use my own money when I go out with friends which is reasonable but my sister gets extra money when she goes out with her friends. It took me 2 years in total to buy myself a PC.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aQu3KwSmqwDOH9kOwOO2tdgdeuOutUf1", "post_id": "av7bc1", "action": {"description": "going through my husband's emails to get the truth about what he was saying to me to my business partners", "pronormative_score": 53, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA if I went through my husband's emails to get the truth about what he was saying to me to my business partners?", "text": "For some context, my husband and I have been together for 5 years. In the middle of these 5 years, we started an online business together.\n\nThe business was my idea, and I was fully prepared to go through it on my own. However, my husband, upon seeing me struggle with some aspects of the business, decided to help me, as he had a lot more knowledge than me in the area. Of course, I was happy to get the help! But he kept repeating stuff like \"You'll never be able to do this without me\" \"I sacrificed years of my life for YOU\"  \n\n\nHis parents had abused him emotionally growing up. I took him into my house (before we were married, we were fairly young), tried my best to give him what he needed. However, taking care of someone who's been through that took a toll on me, and I ended up snapping on him multiple times. I'm not proud of those moments.\n\nThe abuse caused him to become extremely impatient. He would lose his shit every time I did a small mistake, go completely bonkers whenever I would cry due to his outbursts. I began to be afraid of little things. I was scared of giving my opinion (and thus, would default to agreeing with him). I was so scared that it affected all of the spheres in my life.This only caused my productivity to drop like mad. However, because of my drop in productivity, the rest of our team was starting to view me differently. I could've understood if it was just a professional thing, but something about how they were talking to me felt off.   \n\n\n**Here's why I became very suspicious of my husband:**\n\nHe vents to others whenever we have a fight. He'll go up to his friends, his family and just about everyone and give us details about our personal lives. He'd detail nearly everything I've done and said to him. However, I would hold it in, all of my feelings, and I'd rather talk it out in private, just between me and him. This led to our entire circle getting his side of the story everytime, further isolating me socially. I couldn't help but shake the feeling that he was doing so with our business partners as well. I asked him about it, and he lied to me and told me he never revealed anything personal to any of our partner. So, I logged into his emails and read the back and forth between him and the BPs.  \n\n\nAnd here it was. Laid down were detailed facts about our fights, relationships and just generally my flaws as a person. Basically, he ruined my chances of ever starting anew with any of them, as they now have access to parts of my life I never gave him the consent to expose.\n\nI confronted him about this and told him that I went through his email. He immediately went for the divorce and is considering kicking me out of the company(Which is now easy to do, since pretty much everyone hates me - AND he told them I went through his emails)  \n\n\nI feel horrible for breaching everyone's privacy. I feel like an utter piece of shit. But a part of me can't help but think that I was right to dig further?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 53, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 53, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5AhYZL8WbCaWHDrTA4ykJukuRA9fVHwu", "post_id": "a2pp8w", "action": {"description": "walking off and ghosting a girl on Bumble that had misleading pictures", "pronormative_score": 49, "contranormative_score": 79}, "title": "AITA for walking off and ghosting a girl on Bumble that had misleading pictures?", "text": "So, current college student here. I matched with a girl on Bumble recently and we had set up some sort of plan to just meet up and maybe chat a little bit at this holiday thing that usually happens at my college. It's basically a bunch of Christmas lights and organizations trying to sell you stuff. She was already on campus to study and I live outside where they were doing the holiday thing, so it seemed like a no-brainer to meet up there.\n\nAnyway, the sort-of plan was for me to try to find her at the thing, so I'm walking around and after 15 minutes, I see her. Only her pictures didn't show how, well, big she was. She used angles and pictures that hid her size. I don't really respect that, because I lay everything out in my profile (I'm 5'3\", so if we match, you're gonna know I'm short). So I just walked off and unmatched with her.\n\nAITA here? One of my friends says yeah, I should've sucked it up and just hung out with her for a bit, but the other says that if she's gonna mislead people, she shouldn't be surprised if she's ghosted.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 53, "OTHER": 48, "EVERYBODY": 26, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 49, "WRONG": 79}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0iTtEWJmWKVZEE82Nq7JLVEfjUcDuMEz", "post_id": "ataf4e", "action": {"description": "complaining about a 15hr delay in front of flight attendants", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for complaining about a 15hr delay in front of flight attendants?", "text": "So this is through spirit airlines, which I know makes it kind of my fault. Another thing, I have worked in the service industry for some time and I understand service jobs are difficult and people are assholes. I am not the type to talk to a manager or complain, I like to think I\u2019m pretty understanding. So I had a plane booked from Portland to Vegas, and then Vegas to Austin. I missed the check in by maybe 10 minutes (freeway incident, but still my fault I\u2019ll accept), and the gate attendant refused to help, saying there was nothing she could do and that it was my fault for not checking in online (which I couldn\u2019t, since I was traveling with my dog). She walked away from me as I was trying to explain my situation and put up a sign that check in was closed for my flight. Thankfully I was able to catch another flight to Vegas so I wouldn\u2019t miss my flight to Austin. Just my luck, it\u2019s snowing in Vegas for the first time in a decade, so a bunch of flights get canceled or delayed. Mine gets delayed from midnight to 2 pm. I don\u2019t know anyone in Vegas, and it being late at night, and having a dog, finding a hotel for one night last minute seemed like an expense I couldn\u2019t justify. So I wait at the airport, until finally! 2pm! No plane at the gate, no attendant. there was no one to ask. After ~30 min of waiting I strike up a conversation with some other  passengers, and we exchange grievances and just generally bitch about spirit. Not far from us are the flight attendants, who don\u2019t know anything. We eventually notice that they\u2019re cracking jokes about the plane not being here and how unreliable the estimated times are, in front of us. Maybe I\u2019m being sensitive, but to say that in front of dozens of people who have had to spend the night on an airport floor is pretty insulting. So at this point, I get annoyed and it was immature but I start being a bit bolder with my complaints. After talking about my experience with the gate attendant, and all of us complaining about how late the plane is and the lack of information, finally the plane pulls up. 15 hours after the scheduled time. one of the flight attendants comes up to me, asks me what my seat is, and says he\u2019ll \u201ctake care of me\u201d and that he\u2019s \u201cso very sorry\u201d (verbatim) about my experience. Again, maybe me being sensitive, his tone seemed a little sarcastic? This is why I\u2019m writing this. I immediately felt a LOT of guilt and embarrassment and I ended up apologizing to HIM for my incessant bitching. I don\u2019t feel like I\u2019m in the wrong for being upset that I spent a lot of money to catch a flight that I had to wait 15 hours for but AITA for complaining loud enough for an attendant to feel like he should apologize to me? Either way, I think it was pretty rude of the attendants to speak amongst each other that way in front of all the passengers. For now I\u2019m just sitting on the plane waiting to depart and trying not to make eye contact with any of the flight attendants", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JlJ75lQryNe9YpYRZN33N8diqVa0QedD", "post_id": "aphrdb", "action": {"description": "wanting to see my girlfriend naked", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 31}, "title": "AITA For wanting to see my girlfriend naked?", "text": "Made a throwaway because she uses reddit. So I  (23m) have been dating my girlfriend(18f) for some time now. Before you all jump down my throat for dating someone so young, she\u2019s wise beyond her years. It took me a while to admit to myself I had feelings for her because I didn\u2019t want her to see me as some creepy old man, but she is truly amazing. \n\nNow on to my problem. She is definitely the most insecure person i\u2019ve ever met and I truly don\u2019t understand why. She\u2019s 5\u201d5 and around 130lbs. She\u2019s in great shape and goes to the gym practically everyday. Due to stress and medication she hasn\u2019t really been eating so i\u2019ve been trying to get her to do so because she was originally around 165lbs about four months ago(it\u2019s funny though because she didn\u2019t look overweight by any means and now she looks very thin). I am not trying to fetishize her but she has this gorgeous exotic look to her and her skin is this beautiful caramel color. Despite all this, she\u2019s convinced she is (to quote her own words) \u201ca fat waste of space\u201d. She had trouble with eating disorders  when she was younger but went to rehab for it and really struggled with bullying because she used to be obese when she was little. \n\nNow to give you an idea of how much this is hurting our relationship, here is the list of things I am not allowed to do. Take her shirt off during sex even if the lights are off, eat her out because \u201cyou probably hate it but you\u2019re just lying to protect my feelings\u201d (i\u2019m not), touch her stomach in anyway, compliment her because (you\u2019re just lying), or literally see her upper body in anyway. From time to time if she\u2019s drunk or stoned enough she\u2019ll randomly send me a nude or show up at my place and rip everything off and I really don\u2019t understand her hang up because her body is amazing. Like really. Toned stomach and what i would estimate is at least a DD cup (which she hates because she thinks they\u2019re saggy... THEYRE NOT)\n\nAll of this reached a point where I said enough is enough and told her to get help. She went on antidepressants (which have visibly been helping with her overall mood) and started therapy. It\u2019s been months and NOTHING changed. She still turned away if I walked in on her changing, no shower sex, shirt stays on... you get it. So I sat her down and asked her once and for all if she could please make an effort because god.. I want to TOUCH her. I want her skin on mine. Not being able to just hold her is the most sexually frustrating thing i\u2019ve ever experienced and I feel like a teenage boy again. She just started crying (which freaks me out because she literally never cries in front of me) saying that she was trying her best and that \u2018pressuring her\u2019 is just making it worse.\n\nNow I really didn\u2019t think I was pressuring her. I was just asking her to fucking TRY because it really doesn\u2019t seem like she is.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 31, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 31}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zfaTbysA7p5HcKH286p31tIoqG1fgvuO", "post_id": "b6j0wg", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go back to my tattoo artist", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go back to my tattoo artist?", "text": "I\u2019ve been getting tattooed by my artist on a regular basis since 2015. She has tattooed my whole sleeve and now we\u2019re working on my second sleeve. We\u2019ve built a very good rapport over the years and I really like talking with her and hanging out while I get tattooed. I spend good money on her because she does excellent work and it\u2019s worth it to put something I really love on my body. \n\nSo, now to our last session. I\u2019m not usually bad with pain and I never tap out for our tattoo sessions... EXCEPT for the last one. She did quite a big tattoo on the back of my arm and we\u2019d been going for about two and a half hours at this point. I usually don\u2019t eat before I get tattooed because it makes me feel nauseous, but I\u2019ll bring a snack or something, a water bottle, and a sweet drink (like juice) for blood sugar purposes. I started getting really shaky before she was about to tattoo another huge part of my arm (elbow ditch, eek). Like not just kinda shaky, but REALLY REALLY shaky like I couldn\u2019t stop my whole body from shaking hard. I assumed it was blood sugar and I said as much, then finished the rest of my juice. I\u2019ve NEVER felt like I was going to pass out while getting tattooed, except for this time. I\u2019ve never told her that I can\u2019t keep going because of pain. But this day I told her I didn\u2019t think I could keep going because I couldn\u2019t stop shaking. I tried to power through as she did a couple little things on my arm and then I asked her to stop and could we please continue the big piece the next time because once we started then we wouldn\u2019t be able to stop. \n\nShe tried to pressure me to do the big piece because she was really excited about it. And I don\u2019t blame her. The stencil was on and it looks super good and I wanted her to as well. But I couldn\u2019t. \n\nThen from the other side of the room another artist piped up and was like \u201cnext time you come here you better put your big girl pants on\u201d. He kept looking over and smirking at me while I was explaining, as I was being pressured, that I didn\u2019t want to continue for today. Now that did not sit well with me. I was shaking so hard at this point and I thought I was going to vomit. And he said that because I was tapping out. \nMy artist bandaged me and sent me on my way and I drove home to eat something while shaking very very hard. As she was bandaging me she was like \u201caww are you sure you\u2019re okay, you\u2019re shaking so much.\u201d \n\nI felt better later in the day after I went home and ate but I still felt like shit about the situation. \n\nI\u2019m supposed to have another appointment with my artist in April but I\u2019m really not feeling up for it. I don\u2019t want to go. I feel like canceling it. \n\nAITA for feeling like shit about this situation? WIBTA if I cancel our appointment? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fRS1eVGQip2vr79T4evaAnSfcLyuIi8m", "post_id": "b6trr6", "action": {"description": "cutting off a long-time friend after she laughed about my new car", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting off a long-time friend after she laughed about my new car", "text": "My (23F) friend (21F) lets call her Maria have been friends for over 8 years. We met after I moved to the country that I currently live in and was one of the first people that I befriended.\n\nAbout 2 months ago, I bought a new car (A 2012 Fiat 500). It\u2019s not NEW new but I bought it for a good price considering the mileage on it. It is my very first car so I\u2019m very happy about it and love it a lot! About a week after I bought it, I was on FaceTime with Maria and in the middle of our conversation, I told her about the news! I was so excited to tell her because her sister who\u2019s younger than us (19) also bought a car recently (last year) and we were both so excited to follow in her footsteps. \n\nHowever, Maria\u2019s reaction just stunned me. After I told her the news, she asked me what kind of car it was. As soon as I told her, she started laughing at me. I\u2019m not talking about a little chuckle... it was a full on laugh, not being able to breathe and all.. and then she proceeded to ask me if I wouldn\u2019t be ashamed to drive such a small car. I mean it is small but I couldn\u2019t understand why she thought I should be ashamed so I asked her to explain. And then she told me that out of all the cars that I could\u2019ve bought, I picked the cheapest and most insignificant one. At this point, I was so hurt that I just stopped talking while she kept laughing. \n\nAfter a few minutes, I told her that I was very hurt by her comments and that I was expecting more support/excitement from her, as one of my best friends. I thought she would stop laughing after I said that but instead, she just called her sister and proceeded to make fun of me and my car while still on FaceTime with me. \nThat\u2019s when I hung up. She then tried to call me twice after that but I don\u2019t pick up. \n\nIt\u2019s been 2 months and I kinda feel like I overreacted a bit. What she did wasn\u2019t nice but she was my best friend and I cut her off just like that, in an instant. I FEEL like an asshole.\n\nI guess now I\u2019m just trying to get different opinions. So Reddit, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QkUrmBUzhyuT6UNTB9JaUpZzrZTwActw", "post_id": "ar2dgj", "action": {"description": "thinking that promise rings are stupid", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For thinking that promise rings are stupid?", "text": "Yesterday my girlfriend gifted me an expensive (at least for us) promise ring. I didn't really know how to react because A) I think promise rings are stupid, and B) I'm not the type of guy that wears any jewelry. I thanked her and put on the ring for a bit to make her happy until she left. The next day (today) she asked me why I wasn't wearing it. I tried avoiding telling her the truth and just said \"Because I don't want to\".\n\n​\n\nShe got upset by that answer and started accusing me that I wasn't really committed to our relationship or that I'm embarrassed to be seen with her, which is not true at all. I told her the truth and said that it's because promise rings are a stupid idea and kinda childish. It's literally a promise before promising a promise. Her logic is \"why wont you wear a ring now if you're eventually gonna wear one when we're married?\" To me there's a huge difference between a wedding band and a promise ring, but she doesn't see it that way and is upset with me. Am I the asshole for not wearing it and thinking it's a stupid idea?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ee9CF7abqjB9vM6qcensXwTbRWEjZowj", "post_id": "a2gxwq", "action": {"description": "not wanting to get my girlfriends step dads blessing to marry her", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to get my girlfriends step dads blessing to marry her?", "text": "I bought an engagement ring to propose to my girlfriend before Christmas. Her mom and step dad aren't very fond of me. To be open about why its because originally we were long distance. She lived in Texas, I a couple states away from Texas. She was kicked out of her moms last year and she called me to go pick her up while she stayed in a hotel. I did and have been living with her since.\n\nThings are great with her her biological dad and his family love me (already got his blessing) and her aunts on her moms side love me. Its just her mom and step dad. \n\nShe has told me before that I would need to ask her dad and her step dads blessing to marry her. My fear isn't that he says no, after all I am an adult that can live with that. My fear is that he tells her mom, who despises me more than anything, and she calls my girlfriend and blows the proposal. \n\nAITA for secretly not wanting to call this guy?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D4MpoTF8oK65B3KSrF0df2mzg2TDs5r8", "post_id": "a176d2", "action": {"description": "wanting to play PS4 instead of show my girlfriend attention", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 56}, "title": "AITA for wanting to play PS4 instead of show my girlfriend attention?", "text": "Ever since Black Ops 4 came out, I have been playing the game every day during ALL my free time. Since I am a senior at my university, I finish early. So at any given weekday I will play 4-6 hours. I moved in with my girlfriend and she expects that now I show her even more attention through the weekday. I simply don't want to do anything, I just want to play my game. Nothing personal towards her. I told her this is how I relieve my stress. To make up for it, I dedicate Friday's and Saturday's for her where we go on dates - going out to eat and watch movies. But once Monday hits, I spend most of my time through the week playing. My rationale for not showing as much attention is because last year when we dated, we didn't live together and would not see each other until 8 PM or so anyways. So I told her, think of it as the same thing, except I am in the living room and won't be as attentive until later in the night. AITA here? Is she expecting too much? We been dating for 2 years 4 months.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 55, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 56}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uG2S4fjehOxa0p1ye6Cr6mG2m3zCzki9", "post_id": "azlx02", "action": {"description": "killing the arcade version of Dinkey Kong for my friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA by killing the arcade version of Dinkey Kong for my friend", "text": "So my friend is a 52 year d woman and she LOVES Donkey Kong, recently I got her Tropical Freeze for her Switch. She complained nonstop about how it isn\u2019t NEARLY as good as the original version on the arcade. I swear you could mistake her rants, for Cranky Kong dialogue. So because I have Switch online I let her play the original Donkey Kong and she hated it. Now she acts really defensive if I bring it up. I was hoping to prove that TF was surperior, but I didn\u2019t expect to crush her nostalgia.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dGBG30LxquibpZjJlkMJ5HjoGHfGSnnC", "post_id": "aphq0i", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go on a second date with someone who judges me for not loving (just liking) my job", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go on a second date with someone who judges me for not loving (just liking) my job?", "text": "I went on a date with someone who kept asking me about my career as a social worker and if I was passionate about it. I told him I like it but at the end of the day it\u2019s just a job. He talked about how rewarding it must be and how good it makes me feel to make an impact in someone\u2019s life. That part was cool and all but the best reward I can get is my paycheck. I\u2019ve built up a pretty good resume to be able to make more money that what most people think social workers make. I\u2019m glad I can help people and be rewarded by a paycheck that pays for things that I am passionate about: travel, nature, fitness, sports\n\nI told him I was passionate about things but not work. He asked me if I thought I was ever going to find something I\u2019m passionate about. I had JUST told him I have passion but not during work. I was starting to get annoyed because I do have passion. Yes I probably could have gotten into something that fit in more with my hobbies like physical therapy or nursing, but that didn\u2019t happen and it is what it is. I\u2019m passionate about my hobbies and get to do outside working hours. He kept putting words in my mouth saying things like \u201cbut you\u2019re not happy\u201d or \u201cyou\u2019re not fulfilled.\u201d I told him yes I am but a job is a job and I do it to pay bills and the things that keep me happy. He eventually put the subject to rest but I could tell he was being really judgy for not having or looking for a job where work won\u2019t feel like work.  That kind of tells me that he doesn\u2019t value balance or boundaries. Like everything has to be sunshine and rainbows. I\u2019m not sure if I see a future with someone who\u2019s happy-go-lucky all the time. It\u2019s not realistic and we probably wouldn\u2019t be a good fit for each other. \n\nI should add that when I burned out a lot within the 1st year of my career and that\u2019s because I was unrealistic in thinking I could help everyone and would get extremely frustrated when I couldn\u2019t, which led to me hating social work. It took me a while to get to a point where I could set emotional as well as physical boundaries. I had to change my actions and my outlook. I only worked during working hours, never again for free. I told myself that I can only do so much and you can lead a horse to the water but you can\u2019t make it drink. Boy have I led many horses to the water and continue to do so. I no longer get upset when they don\u2019t drink because I know that I did what I could. Also, he\u2019s in his 30s and he just decided to pursue his passion. He\u2019s never actually experienced working a job that he thought he\u2019d love, burning out, and then having to find ways to be content rather than actually loving it so much that it won\u2019t feel like work. I think we\u2019re either in different stages in life (he seems a bit naive) or we\u2019re just very different in personalities. Either way, we\u2019re not a good match. If it\u2019s not a match, why bother going on a second date? So AITA?\n\nTL;DR: Went on a date with a guy who\u2019s too optimistic and thinks that there\u2019s passion in all aspects of life, including work. I disagree and I feel shamed. I don\u2019t think we\u2019re a good fit so I don\u2019t think a second date is necessary. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zMc8bKcQo5BXsFjzs4fPivGyngZ6jf7c", "post_id": "atom7s", "action": null, "title": "AITA I apparently give my friend depression and anxiety.", "text": "Okay so this is gonna be a small one, probably. I go on discord to chat to my friends and other random people. I have this friend of like, 2 years and I apparently gave him depression, anxiety and a low self esteem. Let's jump in.\n\nSo, I come back from Scouts (This group thing) and check my discord sever. I see my two friends fighting with a different friend. Calling her profile picture \"Clicker heroes\" (what ever that is) and making fun of the fact she likes Gacha Life. I ask him to stop bullying her and he flips the heck out. He starts claiming he isn't making fun of her. He keeps talking and arguing with us even though we don't care anymore. It starts to escalate and I end up kicking him and leaving the severs we're both in. He even told me he didn't even want to be in my friend group. He goes into my DMs and calls me a dunce then insults my friends. He gets mad (like he normally does) and claims he has depression and anxiety because of me. I don't even know if he checked or knows the symptoms of those. He always does stuff like this and he even tried guilt-tripping me. I also asked him if he was okay, and he replies with 'My friend who just gave me depression and anxiety: Want me to be your therapist'. This annoyed me so much.\n\nAm I the asshole, or is he over-reacting about this? He sometimes just randomly starts fights over dumb things.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nCfYJHGsW10Sa7IRVXoboJKiVs1LCQ8r", "post_id": "azmf7c", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my co worker for throwing away my drink", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my co worker for throwing away my drink?", "text": "Basically me and a co worker both had polar pops and he accidentally drank out of mine. Now what he then does is not tell me he drinks out of it and throws it at. He then hands me a dollar and says sorry. Confused I ask why he gave me a dollar and says he threw my drink away. I honestly would not have cared if he drank out of it but the fact he threw it away without telling me. I then don\u2019t get to get another drink until like 3 hours later and I get pretty mad at him for the rest of the day. So AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5vcR9VwE8LuqjVtdHoAeakxHb6qo6FHi", "post_id": "axd5vj", "action": {"description": "keeping my promotion at work a secret and pretending to not know anything about it", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for keeping my promotion at work a secret and pretending to not know anything about it?", "text": "Just to be brief I\u2019m a 22 year old college student who hasn\u2019t had many \u201creal jobs\u201d other than some volunteer work in middle and high school. I\u2019ve really only had two \u201creal jobs\u201d while I\u2019ve been in college one at a restaurant and my current job at a well known super store. I was brought into the restaurant business by a good buddy of mine who had been working there for a little over a year as a dishwasher. I was hired on as an additional dishwasher and after about 3 months of me working there I had gotten promoted to be a salad/sushi chef and quickly gained promotions much quicker than my friend who\u2019s been there longer, but there was never any resentment for my quick progression just a type of family love you could say. I enjoyed the kitchen lifestyle and the guys will always be a second family to me, but due to college and the demand for the hours they needed I had to keep my education in mind I had to leave and get a more hour consistent job to get through college. Ive been working at this super store for 11 months so far and within my fourth month their i was given employee of the month and just recently was given a promotion to be a manager of a sought after department on my first try. However, unlike the restaurant I was told to keep this a secret until i was moved over after they had trained someone to replace me in my current department, so that is no problem my lips are sealed. I\u2019m still in my current department and employees over 4 years and over are starting to get their suspicions about who the new manager is and some rumors (not true) of others getting the position are being looked down on and trash talked for \u201cgetting the position\u201d well I\u2019m the youngest manager at this store and no one suspects me because I haven\u2019t been here even a year. So when they start talking about how \u201cmessed up it is that I\u2019ve wanted that position for 4 years and never got it and someone else gets it\u201d I just go along and tell them \u201cyeah that really sucks, maybe you\u2019ll get another department down the road\u201d and \u201cmaybe they just found someone who is better fitted to do that job\u201d. So AITA for not saying anything to my coworkers knowing I\u2019m the manager and I\u2019m the person they\u2019re trash talking for taking the position?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2NHn4jlcdxVbPW1ep8iP9wjFeTJufRvU", "post_id": "abqu65", "action": {"description": "being concerned about a friend who's a doting wife, but isn't allowed to have her own life", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for being concerned about a friend who\u2019s a doting wife, but isn\u2019t allowed to have her own life?", "text": "My very best friend is married to a man (we\u2019ll call him Evan) who I would consider a, \u201cman\u2019s man\u201d if you will. He\u2019s super masculine, a carpenter, hunter, a little too afraid of gay men for no good reason, you know the type. All in all, I think he has a good heart and treats my friend well.\n\nBut. \n\nMy friend is an extremely kind caring person, the type who you wouldn\u2019t find questioning whether or not she\u2019s an asshole, because she just isn\u2019t. And I think Evan might take advantage of it. He says things like, \u201cI can\u2019t do any of the cleaning, she says I do it wrong so I don\u2019t even bother helping\u201d or, \u201cI can only cook ramen, and I don\u2019t feel like learning, but she\u2019s so good at it, I don\u2019t even worry\u201d or, my personal favorite, \u201cYeah I plan on puttin a baby in her soon. I haven\u2019t decided exactly when would be right.\u201d And my friend just laughs these things off.\n\nSo recently I tried to make plans to go to dinner with her, Evan, and my boyfriend. As I broached the topic of these plans she said, \u201cOh no. No way. Evan is watching the football game tonight. There is only a month left in the season, I can\u2019t wait until it\u2019s over so I can stop planning everything around when Evan watches the games.\u201d To which I said, \u201cYikes.\u201d And she got so mad at me, we ended up getting in a pretty serious argument where she kept telling me how Evan does everything for her, and she would never stop him from game watching for dinner, and it\u2019s not about compromise she just wouldn\u2019t tell him what to do. Now my friend is happy, she loves this man, all in all he seems like a good person, but I can\u2019t help feel like his quasi-misogynistic words go a little too far. I can\u2019t decide if I\u2019m an asshole for trying to help someone who (in my independent lady mind) is doting upon a man who doesn\u2019t give too much back. Or if I\u2019m right and she\u2019s suppressed. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NdM03Bw3uLWGQowBN7k9dQUGju38oL5w", "post_id": "ahel01", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help my dying grandpa", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to help my dying grandpa?", "text": "I go over to grandparents house to do schoolwork almost every day. Now, normally I head over there at around 8:00 in the morning.  but my brother wants to start getting to school at 6:45 am so I have to leave way earlier. I usually go to bed around 9 to 10 and because I had to wake up earlier I wasn't able to get as much as sleep and was tired when I got my grandparents house.\n\n​\n\nNow normally I make my own breakfast or my grandma goes out and gets something to eat real quick. I always pay her back if she does go get something to eat. Now my grandpa is bedridden and cannot move a single limb on his own. He has Alzheimers and Dementia. My uncle also lives with my grandma because he never really moved out and when he did my grandparents were getting old so he moved back so if both of them were in trouble he could do something about it. \n\nAnyways, I would like to point out that I have been helping my grandmother with my grandfather for almost 3 years now. So I get to my grandmothers' house pretty tired just to the point where I just cannot keep my eyes open and fell asleep. My grandmother got enraged at this for some reason, calling me a son of a bitch because I was asleep while she was calling me for the help that she normally does. And I just told her I don't really want to do this I am really tired right now and need to catch up on my sleep. She was furious, and called me a lazy piece of shit. I told her My uncle could help her. I normally help with cleaning up my grandpa and turning so he doesn't get bedsores, now I don't think that this is exactly the worst thing in the world, and because he is my grandpa I will do it. \n\nThe thing that made me angry was the fact that everything that I have done for her in the past 3 years was thrown out the window because I needed to sleep just once. I was pissed at first, but I've since calmed down. Another thing that I have now started to notice is she doesn't even know me anymore, about a couple hours later she went out to the store and got some groceries, and she came back with fucking mc Donalds. I am not mad at the fact that it was mc Donalds I'm mad because she brought food in general, and if she really knew me then she would've known that a simple apology would have been sufficient.\n\n​\n\nPlease help me reddit, I feel sort of like an asshole, but if she won't appreciate the work that I do for her and my grandfather then I don't think I want to help out anymore. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vSW0bmGbIrNdx1U5nZj50GEPaOV5sRC3", "post_id": "avk64w", "action": {"description": "thinking my coworkers are assholes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking my coworkers are assholes?", "text": "My coworker\u2019s birthday is today. Mine is tomorrow. I just got an email to everyone from a third coworker, inviting us all out to the bar on Sunday to \u201ccelebrate\u201d coworker whose birthday is today. I am not mentioned. We all have corporately-issued calendars with everyone\u2019s birthdays listed (yeah, I don\u2019t love that), so ignorance is not an excuse. Also, we sit about ten feet apart in the same group. \n\nAITA for thinking this is an asshole move? I\u2019m fighting not to respond to the email with \u201cno thanks, I\u2019ll be celebrating my own birthday this weekend\u201d because I\u2019m pretty sure *that*would be an asshole move. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vTk09WHTofdIupSjBuGZqDp7M2EUZcn7", "post_id": "adz9c2", "action": {"description": "wanting to end a friendship due to a Lisp", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA For Wanting To End A Friendship Due To A Lisp", "text": "I\u2019ve been friends with someone for a couple years, but just recently they\u2019ve developed a lisp where they end their sentences on a higher pitch than the rest of the sentence. It\u2019s really annoying, and if I have to hear it for too long, I literally begin to feel fidgety and sick to my stomach. I don\u2019t know what to do, because I don\u2019t want to be mean, and I don\u2019t want to seem weird and rude for asking them to change it. I\u2019ve been actively trying to avoid them, and at this point it\u2019s becoming more and more difficult to read their texts because I am literally thinking about it with the effing lisp. AITA, and what should I do?\n\nP.S. I\u2019m high functioning autistic. There are a lot of things like this that bother me, but this really takes the cake.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oL6jsEl5V8qprSCRvIE3ZTUM7Vyb48VR", "post_id": "aijusq", "action": {"description": "being friends with a girl in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being friends with a girl in a relationship", "text": "Kind of a shitty title, I know there's nothing wrong with being friends with girls that are taken but this situation is a little different.\n\n​\n\nI met a girl, A, at a club in college almost three years ago. We hit it off almost instantly and became good friends. You know, not super close or anything because she had a boyfriend and I never really had those kinds of intentions with her anyway, didn't want to make her and her boyfriend uncomfortable, we just got along really well.  \n\n​\n\nOver time, our relationship kind of grew. She went through some really rough shit and came to me for advice a few times and I was happy to help her out and listen to her. I started to see her as a really close friend and she felt the same. I started to feel like, deep down, if she was single, I would go for it--but she wasn't, so I didn't dare. I met her boyfriend a few times, even went out and got drinks with him. He was a good guy. I didn't want to hurt them or their relationship. I just kind of brushed it off as a \"right person, wrong time\" type of thing. \n\n​\n\nI didn't feel bad being her friend. I mean, I honestly thought I would. Like, on paper, \"girl you really connect with is super into someone else\" sounds really shitty but it wasn't so bad for me. I kept myself busy with other girls and just generally enjoying being single so it didn't weigh on me much. She seemed really happy with her boyfriend and she seemed happy to have me as a friend so that was it. We kept talking more, hanging out more, about shit that got deeper and more personal but I thought we were just being friends. I didn't think it would affect her very much. \n\n​\n\nI started to see that it did, little details, but I think I purposefully ignored them. Stuff like her always asking our other friends what I've been up to if we haven't talked in a few days, making it a point to acknowledge me when I enter the room etc. Maybe that's nothing, maybe I'm overthinking it. In any case, I brushed it all off. \n\n​\n\nBecause she seemed completely happy with her boyfriend until one day she just woke up and... wasn't? She just kinda broke it off with him. And she has been claiming it's because they've been fighting more, they don't really see eye-to-eye as much, stuff like that. I'm not sure if I believe her or not. I know her well enough to know that she's not always honest with herself. And that maybe some of this has to do with her possibly having feelings for me? \n\n​\n\nI'm not here to ask whether she does or not--I think she does. A few people have pointed out how her behavior around me has changed since her breakup. I've noticed the same changes and I suspect that she does have some feelings for me, maybe she had them for a while now. I'm too afraid to ask because I don't want to answer her if/when she asks me how I feel. \n\n​\n\n What I want to know is if it was wrong for me to become so close with her, knowing that she was committed to someone else. I never wanted to see her relationship fail or to see her (or her boyfriend) get hurt. But I can't help but feel like a total dick for letting myself get close to this girl, thinking it was just a friendship when I knew how sensitive she is, when I knew that we do really connect with each other. Help me out. Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WTGifNw0PHhVVYl0lNafUJcsedKXz9ls", "post_id": "b39zmk", "action": {"description": "asking my upstairs neighbours to stop being so heavy footed", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For asking my upstairs neighbours to stop being so heavy footed?", "text": "So, I live in an apartment complex which for the most part is very well insulted for sound, apart from the constant stomping around from upstairs.\nNow this isn\u2019t just light footsteps that you can hear, and I don\u2019t expect anyone to tip-toe around their own apartment, but it is like they deliberately stomp around as hard as they can, and it\u2019s as if someone is thumping on the walls.\nI have however taken into consideration that they are on the top floor and don\u2019t have any upstairs neighbours of their own, so they may be oblivious to how noise travels down through the floors.\n\nI\u2019ve contemplated going upstairs and asking them politely to try and be considerate when they\u2019re walking (running?) around their apartment, but I struggle with figuring out how to word things in the nicest of ways, and I don\u2019t want to come across as off-hand when I really don\u2019t mean to be.\n\nSo I guess my question is, would I be the asshole for even thinking that I could ask them to be quieter? And if not, how would I even go about asking?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hpr3XH40EHbWbrQXiWuGstnIWprBmRhl", "post_id": "armb4x", "action": {"description": "arguing with a taxi driver", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for arguing with a taxi driver", "text": "I\u2019m from Belfast, Ireland and I manage a bar here. For that bar we have our own personal radio that\u2019s linked to the local taxi company, we\u2019ve been using this company for over a year now. We use it primarily for the regular customers to get home safe and we generate at least 50% of their business.\n\nMy cars in the shop so I decided to use this taxi company after my shift today and rang one with the radio for myself, I got picked up and dropped home to my door. I don\u2019t live that far away, even with a meter running, it should cost between \u00a34-6. Well this driver tried to charge me an outrageous \u00a315 for the drive. This driver did not have the meter running so I\u2019m guessing he was just trying to do some horrible math in his head for mileage or whatever. I said to him when he asked for that amount that it\u2019s too much, it\u2019s usually between \u00a34-6 and then he got angry and said it\u2019s the meter but when I corrected him and told him his meter was not running he got angrier and switched it on very aggressively while kinda shoving my leg in the process. When he switched the meter on from stand by mode it said the fair should\u2019ve only cost \u00a34.60. I called him out on why he\u2019s asking an absurd amount so he told me to just get out of the car while cursing at me. I sank to his level and cussed and argued back because I\u2019m thinking of how many of my regular customers this man has ripped off previously without it being called out. I eventually told him to f*** himself and that I\u2019m gonna speak to the manager of the taxi firm. He then replied with \u201ctry it, I know where you live\u201d followed by some insults. I regret arguing back and I shouldn\u2019t have sank to that level but it truly was because I was thinking of my regulars. I don\u2019t know if this is just one driver personally or the whole taxi company.\n\nTLDR; taxi driver over charged me. My bar creates half of their business and I got angry on behalf of how many of my customers he\u2019s ripped off. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WOlB09cMZuQhJApCpYKZihD45pKtdO1t", "post_id": "b9k2o7", "action": {"description": "suggesting that she take her post down", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for suggesting that she take her post down?", "text": "So Id like to note that this story is from last November-December and things have since settled between me friend and I, but at the time I didn\u2019t know about this sub and only had a couple people to get opinions from (they were very mixed) and I still wonder if I am the asshole in this situation. So here it goes:\n\nSeveral months ago there was a devastating fire that decimated the town right next to mine. Many people, including one of my closest friends, lost everything/almost everything they owned in the fire.\n\nLiterally two days after the fire a friend of mine (who was not directly affected by the fire) posted on her snapchat story (which she has shown me gets 300-400 views on every post) that she got a brand new car. My first thought was to swipe up and say \u201cwoah cool car\u201d or something of the like. However what soon came to my mind was the fact that my two of my good friends lost their cars in the fire, along with many residents of the town. So I sent her a message about it.\n\nI worded it very deliberately to not outwardly attack her for posting this, suggesting that she maybe should post about it later because a lot of people lost their possessions, they probably wouldn\u2019t like to see someone showing off their brand new car. \n\nShe immediately jumped on me, extremely offended at what I said, telling me off, she brought up that I wasn\u2019t directly affected by the fire, therefore I shouldn\u2019t speak for those who were, which I could understand. However she began to tell me that I was saying shes not allowed to be happy and despite me telling her otherwise she insisted thats what I was saying. \n\nI tried to explain to her that I wasn\u2019t trying to tell her what to do, that I just trying to lend perspective that it might be seen as insensitive, but she just warded me off with a \u201cthanks.\u201d\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "YU0j1FOZ5ZmOuop2Nlo1tR3v3nqXncMt", "post_id": "ashdlr", "action": {"description": "not attending my father's 80th birthday party", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not attending my father's 80th birthday party?", "text": "I (50F) was invited by my mother to attend my father's 80th birthday party this upcoming weekend.  They are divorced, but still keep in contact. (he is living with someone, my mom is widowed.)  She offered to fly me to Toronto from BC to attend,  but I politely declined.\n\nI have a complicated relationship with my dad.  I've been reading a lot of r/raisedbynarcissists posts, and while he is/can be a self-centred dick, he's not as bad as some of the posts I've read there.  Regardless, he is often a jerk to me, so I don't feel the need to see him.\n\nA little history: He cheated on my mom and they split when I was pregnant with my second child.  When he missed my (first) child's birthday, I gave him a couple of weeks, incase the mail was late, and then called him to see what was up.  I think, like most men of his generation, he had always let his wife take care of the entire birthday/gift giving aspects of his life, and just never picked up the slack when he left her.  I let him know that I was disappointed that he didn't bother to send his only grandchild a card for his first birthday, and my dad made up some lame excuse about not being anywhere near a place that sells cards.\n\nI then wrote him a long letter, basically telling him that he can choose to be a part of our lives or he can choose to not be.  No pressure, but I was not going to have my kids learn about disappointment from their grandfather.  So, basically, shit or get off the pot.\n\nHe wrote back that he was very hurt by my letter and that yes, he definitely DID want to be a part of my and my family's life. (Spoiler alert:  He did not, actually.)\n\nThis was 16 years ago, and he has probably sent 10 birthday/xmas etc cards in total.  Bonus asshole move: Most of them are just to one of my kids.  Years ago, he flat out told me that I was doing a terrible job as a mother and he actively disliked my older son. (I didn't spank him enough and I was also making him 'gay' by letting him have long hair.) This after only seeing him a handful of times in 10 years.  He somehow expects that my kids are going to jump into his arms gleefully yelling \"Grandpa!\" even though he has remained a virtual stranger their entire lives.\n\nAnyway, this was years ago, we have managed to be civil through a couple of family get-togethers and my sister's funeral.  And yet, he has shown pretty much zero interest in me or my husband or children, unless he's asking for money.\n\nI don't hate him.  I'm not even actively angry at him.  I've just sort of delegated him to be a long-lost Uncle that I might occasionally see.  This very much disappoints my mother who really wants us to be close.\n\nAITA?\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5Z15qU1uGqRC5XY4zcocJW88qpcqqD8T", "post_id": "ab46in", "action": {"description": "downvoting an asshole on this sub", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for downvoting an asshole on this sub?", "text": "I just don't think he deserved that karma after what he did.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xXZuzfTE4T5C5iCZb9tmY7GF0WvIGCWg", "post_id": "b4raew", "action": {"description": "telling my partner to stop hanging out with and texting other women", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling my partner to stop hanging out with and texting other women?", "text": "Our relationship is great otherwise. The main issue is my partner will tell me he\u2019s too busy or doesn\u2019t have time (for me) \u2014 but will turn around and text/hang out 1:1 with other female friends. \n\nThe first time I chalked it up as not a big deal, but it\u2019s happened multiple times since. Called him out on it, but not much has changed. \nAlso, the kicker- I\u2019m never invited because he prefers one on one contact as it\u2019s more personal. \n\nI do know he\u2019s not sleeping with his female friends but there is most likely some light flirting. The breaking point was yesterday when he was talking about one of his female friends while in bed with me, and how beautiful she is etc. He then gets a text from one of his sister\u2019s college friends at 11pm. And postpones our plans so he could meet with another female friend for lunch.\n\nAt this point, I\u2019m just DONE with the female friends. All of it. Told him to stop texting them, and seeing them because his focus, attention and mind is with them and it\u2019s effecting our relationship. \n\nHe said I was controlling, juvenile, and overbearing but will think about it. Am I the asshole?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "icDxX3ND7KesaR4MTuuSS5ruUsj6jXJj", "post_id": "angs2w", "action": {"description": "saying a girl at a bakery should be fired from her job", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 29}, "title": "AITA for saying a girl at a bakery should be fired from her job?", "text": "This is such a vague silly post BUT it's bothering me because it's just an example of things that constantly happen in my family, where I'll disagree with the rest of the family and they perceive me as an asshole, because of things I say. \n\nThis example is about my dad buying pain au chocolate at a French bakery. He told me he asked the girl who worked there what they were called, and she didn't know the name so she said \"bread with chocolate\" instead. My dad told me about this as a funny story but I said \"if I was her boss I would've fired her for not knowing the name of one of the companies products. If you work in a French bakery you should be able to pronounce it. She should lose her job\" \n\nNo one in my family agreed with this, so I was left feeling like the stupid one even though I don't think what I said was mean. It wasn't said with ill intention at all, I was just giving my spontaneous commentary. My family never agrees with me on anything. My sister doesn't have this happen because she's quiet even when she disagrees.\n\n Maybe I should try a new method called \"being quiet 80% of the time and when I speak I only say neutral things in this super soft non threatening angel voice\"?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 28, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 29}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ipr6gPdO7wOZCw7hLxVjP7NbyOvIPQK3", "post_id": "aos08z", "action": {"description": "not taking jewish kids' belongings", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for NOT taking Jewish kids\u2019 belongings?", "text": "In NYC subway train delays are common. I was commuting home on Friday evening and we got stuck underground for a while. \n\nBeing Friday, the sabbath begins at sundown, and it was looking like sundown would happen while we were still stuck underground. \n\nA group of Orthodox or Hasidic (I don\u2019t know the subcategories of Judaism) teenage boys asked if I lived near by and if I could take their cell phones, watches and money from them because they aren\u2019t allowed to carry them once the sabbath began at sundown in the next few minutes.  He even offered to pay me for holding their things. \n\nI felt bad for the kids because their faith is obviously something very important to them and circumstances outside their control made it difficult to honor their spiritual practices. They wouldn\u2019t be asking this of strangers unless they felt it were absolutely necessary. At the same time, a group of strangers asking me to take a bunch of cell phones and cash made me uncomfortable. \n\nI declined as politely as possible, stating that I wouldn\u2019t be comfortable taking their belongings but wishing them the best of luck.  AITA for saying no?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OVZvXjAwebuLJhuacXZKYJmKAYUIAQU1", "post_id": "aohef6", "action": {"description": "getting frustrated with my potential hair dresser", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting frustrated with my potential hair dresser?", "text": "AITA... For background, I was looking to change my hair and I found a local hair stylist in my area who has outstanding reviews and pictures of her work. I reached out to her via email and got an initial response pretty quickly asking if I could come in for a consultation. I replied back asking when she was available and waited three more days for a response back. Only when I double emailed her (very politely) did she reply back. Fast forward, I went to my consultation appointment with her and she said she would text me so we could make an appointment. I waited patiently for 3 days for a text. I decided to text her yesterday asking when we might be able to book an appointment so I could take work off in advance. I got a reply back saying \"she was at work and would text back ASAP\".(Which I totally understand and was happy to wait. She never texted me back last night after that and I am still waiting this morning.   \nI know that running your own business is stressful and Im sure she has a lot of clients and prior appointments which I completely understand. I expected to wait for an actual appointment, but the response time in between is really getting under my skin, and I hate waiting for her text when she said she would text back \"ASAP\" ...\n\nSo am I the impatient asshole for expecting quicker response time? I  genuinely am not sure because I am impatient in general. Should I wait it out or go to another stylist?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QozIa6jEP2tf84szk5qT7BcyJ9pHkSSo", "post_id": "b32lhh", "action": {"description": "pretending to be asleep", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for pretending to be asleep?", "text": "Usually in the mornings I get up early so i can walk my little brother to school. i really enjoy it, when we\u2019re down the street i\u2019ll buy him some food for school or whatever and i really enjoy it. it\u2019s his first year at high school and he\u2019s having some worries and stuff so i walk with him usually to make sure he\u2019s ok.\n\nThis morning i was just too tired. i tried to get up but i could barely open my eyes. he came into my room and whispered \u201care you awake?\u201d and i didn\u2019t want to say to his face \u201ci don\u2019t wanna walk with you today\u201d so i just pretended to sleep. i don\u2019t know if he caught on but i feel kinda guilty. when we first walked together he said jokingly \u201cit gets lonely on these walks\u201d and i think of that every time i wake up late, every time i just think of him walking through the streets alone and i can\u2019t help but feel guilty.\n\ni think that\u2019s everything, i\u2019m 14 and he\u2019s 12, i\u2019m doing Distance Ed so i don\u2019t have anywhere to be during the day when i walk him. this is a throwaway but i failed to make the details fairly anonymous so if he finds this it\u2019s over for my pretend sleep.\n\nso AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bLpz9JqO4BHjSxrXZiiCQxvUeC5ujY9R", "post_id": "b31un6", "action": {"description": "saying the dishes can wait", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for saying the dishes can wait?", "text": "Married with kids. Whoever doesn't cook, cleans the dishes. We alternate putting the kids to bed. I'm usually dead by the end of the work day, so usually only cook on weekends. After I put the kids to bed on a work day my wife asks \"Are you going to do the dishes?\" I told her I'm too tired and I'll do them in the morning. \n\n\"I don't like looking at dirty dishes\"\n\n\"I'll do them in the morning.\"\n\n\"Will they be done before I wake up?\"\n\n\"I can't guarantee that.\"  (If I set an alarm and wake up the baby it's game over. But I didn't say that.)\n\n\"But what my feelings that I don't like looking at dirty dishes?\"\n\n\"Get over yourself. I'm tired and I'll do them in the morning. I don't have anything else to say on the matter.\"\n\nShe starts doing the dishes.\n\n\"Stop doing the dishes.\"\n\nShe keeps doing the dishes and I go to sleep on the couch.\n\nIn the morning I thank her for doing the dishes and she grunts at me.\n\nAITA? I don't know why this bothers me so much.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MrEEFdwVfJZVWvf5q3aImjh6dQ2vKDMg", "post_id": "9yxmfl", "action": {"description": "helping my best friend to cheat on her boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for helping my best friend to cheat on her boyfriend?", "text": "okay so basically this story starts like 2 weeks from now when my best friend ask me to go with her to a bar,when we arrived to the bar we had few drinks and then she start telling me her story about she fell in love with a guy from different country and now she is thinking about leaving her current boyfriend (who is really caring and cool) for a dude who  she barely knew for 2 months,the worst thing that night i were really tired and told her yes,and kinda gave her the courage  to keep messaging that dude,until yesterday nothing were serious,but today she messaged me telling me she is breaking  up with her boyfriend and she might need someplace to stay (she can stay in my house,its not a problem) but were i the reason that this relationship got fucked up? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LjIOHwwYMe76Xjh6ReRTmYSDeMYdNGhg", "post_id": "aphyew", "action": {"description": "reconnecting with my dad after he got out of prison for a felony and introduced him to my kids when my wife and family protested me doing so", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA, I reconnected with my dad after he got out of prison for a felony and introduced him to my kids when my wife and family protested me doing so.", "text": "He's been in prison for 9 years, he got off on parole and I was the first to contact him aside from my aunt.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KLf0JgL8HITAH3dOW7VVqTcR8awHiIbx", "post_id": "avrivj", "action": {"description": "not helping my girlfriend get up on my day off", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not helping my girlfriend get up on my day off?", "text": "My girlfriend and I live together and she works a normal 8-4 job. Right now she has a bad toothache from her wisdom teeth coming in. \n\n​\n\nFor the record, I work the early-as-fuck schedule of 3am to 11am. I get up at 2:30am and roll out of bed. I usually nap when I get home, but the past few days I couldn't. The sleep deprivation starts to compound until I'm a walking zombie. \n\n​\n\nYesterday I went home early due to not feeling well, and by the night I knew I needed many hours of sleep. I decided that tomorrow (today) would be my much deserved day off, the first in months. I emailed my boss.\n\n​\n\nCut to this morning. My GF's alarm starts going off at 5:30am, and I roll over to sleep more. She snoozes it and lets it ring a few more times. Having been used to getting up at 2:30am, I had 3 extra hours of sleep under my belt and the alarm was really starting to wake me up. I had taken sleeping medicine the night before and planned on sleeping through my GF getting ready.\n\n​\n\nShe got up and went to take a shower. \n\n​\n\nI hear my name SCREAMED from the bathroom. Jesus it was jarring. I got out of bed and walk to the bathroom. She starts telling me problems she has about getting ready, asking for my help to get her out the door. Her toothache was making her morning so much worse. She was saying she's late, her car is parked far down the street (we live downtown) I just wanted to SLEEP!!\n\n​\n\nI went back to lay down, letting her complain about the things she had to do and she came out of the bathroom angry. We got into a fight because my \"sick day\" wasn't real and I had the ability to help her.\n\n​\n\nI just wanted my day off to be about me for once, all about me and my sleep. I didn't see why she couldn't just ignore me and pretend I wasn't there. I ended up making her lunch and cleaning the apartment.\n\n​\n\nOh, and if you're wondering, I didn't go back to sleep.\n\n​\n\nAITA for wanting to spend my time off how I wanted to spend it? Even though she needed help? The thing is, her \"help\" was just her having a bad time and wanting me to solve her problems for her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cqxBfSWoJX9MsStyevUtF6rT2bUDFzE1", "post_id": "aadl6a", "action": {"description": "asking a couple not to break check me in front of their kid", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For asking a couple not to break check me in front of their kid?", "text": "There's a large dog park in the city I live in. Went there for lunch today and the one way parking lot traffic was going about 30 mph. The car in front of me slammed on their breaks, immediately threw it into a fast reverse almost hitting my car, and then waived furiously at me to back up three spaces for a spot they'd missed. There was a car behind me and it took a minute but we did it. I parked at a space a while down and saw the people get out of the car (a younger couple and their maybe 12 YO son). We passed each other walking to opposite entrances and when they glared at me  I said \"You really shouldn't slam on your breaks and reverse that quickly in a parking lot\" while continuing to walk away they both started screaming \"You shouldn't be so close to my car! Think about that before you say something to someone!\" I said \"I was offering advice please don't be aggressive\" and that was the end of it but their kid kept looking at me and it felt kind of shitty. Was that uncalled  for on my part or is there a way that could have been better handled?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0259t58B266gUGWLOQ99Cy8rk3w5L4cg", "post_id": "az4sw9", "action": {"description": "not wanting a gay or lesbian couple to adopt my child", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 27}, "title": "AITA for not wanting a gay or lesbian couple to adopt my child?", "text": "I am currently five months pregnant, and for personal reasons I am in the process of working with an adoption lawyer.At my last consultation she asked me if I had a preference for the prospective family.She asked if I wanted a married couple, a single man and or woman, or a gay couple.I told her my first choice was a heterosexual married couple, but I would not be totally against a single person.I then went on to say that I did not want a gay couple.This is due to my personal beliefs, and honestly, more due to the fact that I would be worried about the child being possibly bullied or treated different because of having two moms or dads.Even though I am giving my child up, I feel that I should have a say on who the parents will be, and my personal beliefs should be respected.My main reason for coming to Reddit with this, is because several family members and friends think I am being unreasonable.AITA for having my personal beliefs, and having that affect my preference for who will raise my child?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 27, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 27}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TwGr5kYR7snlsXXnTVBuoAgVHDCyvyMb", "post_id": "b2ubxq", "action": {"description": "stopping borrowing my boyfriend money", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I stop borrowing my boyfriend money?", "text": "We have been together less then six months and he has already asked to borrow money because he has to wait until his paycheck. It wasn\u2019t for anything he really needed. I agreed though, and told him he could, but he went and took out $100 more then we agreed upon. It just seems like he\u2019s always trying to get me to pay for things, or buy him things. Such as texting me pictures of items he wants. He\u2019s not asking directly but I usually don\u2019t know what to say. WIBTA if I told him i can\u2019t borrow him anymore money in the future?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "scPKbIiDG06mJBScjgXp08NTB4toK2E5", "post_id": "aevbaz", "action": null, "title": "Aita Gave my 3ds to my 7 year old beice her mom \"put it away\" because she got frustraited one time in mario kart should i feel salty i dont have a place to say anything", "text": "I mean its her daughter but i feel like i wasted my time if shes not gonna use her toy I hope she is using it i wouldn't know there in a different state but the last time she said she \"put it away\" she in gymnastics so maybe it was just never gonna be her thing..", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JyV8jCUVZ6kWbfQwxHYH7MNjXWikE8FB", "post_id": "b9pkdv", "action": {"description": "getting my Cousin grounded", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For Getting my Cousin Grounded?", "text": "Okay, I'm on mobile, and it's a long one. I'm already an asshole for that \nSo, I have a cousin who is 16 years old. Overall, cool little dude. I'd legit die for him.\nWhen I got out of the military I got to visit my family for a bit. Of course, C wanted to see me. He was acting funny whenever we talked about it on the phone. He and my Aunts were not on speaking terms, and he was accused of something he didnt do, and it was nbd. This was weird, but I brushed it off.\nI tell him whatevers going on, I'll make time to see him, but I dont want to impose on A/E, as it was THEIR house.\nI ask him a bit of what is going on, so I know what to avoid saying. \nC \"Well, A thinks I was having sex, but really I went back to grab my shoes, and GF was in the car when she came back home while were leaving.\"\nSounds a little off, but whatever. A has a lot of stress dealing with sick children all day,so she can get a little upset over weird things. But she always apologizes, and makes amends, and is better.\nI call A and E and ask if it was okay for C to come over and visit. I state that I don't want to invite without asking.\nE says he can come, but GF isn't invited. \nFair deal, I relay the info, and we all go over to hang out.\nA pulls me aside and explains what had been going on. C has been really rude lately (saying she is fat, mean, and doesnt really care about him.) AND HE HAS BEEN HAVING SEX IN MY AUNTS' HOUSE. E (not A) caught them full blown in the act on the couch! Even though they EXPLICITLY told him NOT to. \"Not his house, not his nest.\"\nSo he drives up, and I go to answer the door, a little disappointed in what I had just heard, but still happy to see him. \nGF is at the door first. She quietly shoves some bags into my arms, and walks off to sit down in the corner of the room, and sulks the whole night.\nC comes in and we catch up real quick, then all settle down. He keeps muttering under his breath after everyone but me or GF speaks.\nI ask E if I can go light up in the back with my mom real quick and order some pizza. \"No prob\" she says.\nSo after a bit, my cousin comes out, and asks me for a hit. \nI tell him no, and to go back inside. (He is 16, and isn't allowed to be out on the patio while we are smoking pot anyway, house rules.) \nSo he tells me to duck myself, and asks my mom. She also says no.\nThen this fucker grabs the joint out of MY MOTHER'S HAND, and calls her a cunt.\nI was upset, so we went home early.\nWhen we went to say our goodbyes, He forgot his bag inside, and told M to get it. Not asked, but, TOLD MY MOTHER. \nI said I'd get it because I wanted to say bye to the cat. \nAs I was in there, I put a bottle of juice I had in my pocket in his bag next to where the joint was \"hidden\" (it was pretty obvious, and sticking out of a side pocket.) Then took a pic and sent it to his mom, asking if he's vaping again.\nL just grounded him for a month, but I don't know. Did I go too far?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OkfL6UbNMxeiDHqmmk6JWoAUeb5Vqned", "post_id": "a89742", "action": {"description": "\"breaking up\" with my project partner", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for \"breaking up\" with my project partner?", "text": "For one of my modules this term I have a piece of coursework, in which we can either work in pairs or work on our own. I initially became partners with this guy, David because he asked me and I didn't really mind either way.\n\nThe way this unit works is that the quality of the project should be proportional to the people working on it (so two people should make something twice as good). And now that the Christmas holidays have started I will not be able to meet David until after the deadline, so we'd have to work separately which is a pain (communication is just an extra overhead for project work).\n\nPlus from the time we did work together I had no idea what he was trying to do, it all seemed irrelevant to our project. I think this is just poor communication on both of our parts, but at the same time I have a lot of other units to worry about so I don't have much time to guide him.\n\nThere's not a lot of time to the deadline, and we haven't really started properly, so it's not like I'd be taking any work we did together and leaving him with nothing. If anything, he can keep our idea (because I don't really like it).\n\nIf I didn't have a lot of other coursework and exams to prepare for I wouldn't mind so much, but I'm not smart enough to carry both of us, because I need to put in a lot of time to get work up to standard. All our communications have been odd and broken, and our ideas and plans tend to conflict which is why I feel like I would work better on my own.\n\nOf course I'd feel like an absolute dickhead to break it off this late (even though we haven't yet started), and he will most likely hate me, but I want to get a decent mark. \n\nWhat do you guys think? Am I an asshole? Even if I am, should I still go for it?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "d2DJE2VoyCFpowO2mccT0yiuI7D1Trt5", "post_id": "9zcg19", "action": {"description": "\"going behind my friends back\" because I was worried about them", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \"going behind my friends back\" because i was worried about them?", "text": "About a month ago I had a bit of an issue with an online friend of mine. Basically she felt I was complementing her too much (I called her cute a bit) and asked me to stop because it made her uncomfortable. They also asked if I had feelings for them, to which i said that I was very fond of them and may have had a little crush on them, but since they were taken I would absolutely back off. She thanked me and I thought that was the end of it. but about 30 min later, they pull me into a group dm with another person to basically say that she value her relationship over her friends and that she wouldn't be my friend anymore if I tried to come between her and her significant other. Needless to say I was incredibly taken back by this, since I'd never seen my friend act like this before. So I went to someone else whos also my friend and has known them for longer and told them what happened, because I was honestly worried about her. My other friend told me that she had some personal reasons for acting that way (former bad relationship and trust issues) and told me not to worry about her and that she was probably fine. Cut to about a week later, I notice shes being weird around me. So I message her asking if everything is ok between us, and she tells me that she knows I told my other friend about what happened, and that she felt I went behind him her back and betrayed her trust, and that I should have just talked to her about it. So I apologize for everything, and she says that she wants to take a break from being around me, and that she's  still on the fence about whether or not she still want to be my friend. So ANOTHER week passes and I decided to message her to ask how shes doing, only to find that both them and the friend they dragged me into the dm with have blocked me. AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C1Umq0ouhW3bLu7kSipjb2FID2bZ51gt", "post_id": "b6ncls", "action": {"description": "denying her excuses and telling her boyfriend we were flirting for a month", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for denying her excuses and telling her boyfriend we were flirting for a month.", "text": "So, I met a girl a few months ago while playing online, she was one of my best friend sister's and I rapidly developped feelings towards her. At first I buried my feelings cause she have a boyfriend and I didn't want to mess with my friendship with her brother. One night she text me and we call on a voicechat app and after a few hours of talking about how bad she feel in her relationship, she tell me she like me more than she would want. So i come out and admit that I feel the same way about her and she begin to tell me she would want to be single to date me.\n\n​\n\nDuring the following month it was pretty complex, one day she would call me for like 5 hours straight, the next day she would completely ghost me. Once I get her to understand the way she's handling it is unfair, she began to send me texts at any time of the night or the day, telling me how she like me, how she want to see me etc. So I find a pretty cheap bus, ask her brother if I can sleep at his home wich is like 100 km from her place(900 km from mine), he agree and I plan my one week trip to meet her. During this time the calls and texts continue and every time she would ensure me of how real her feelings are toward me until she finish a call by telling me she love me.\n\n​\n\nThe thing is during this whole time she said me she was not ready to quit her boyfriend, and I told her I understand and it's the reason I want to meet her, to make her decision making easier. A few times she told me she wanted to stop things here using excuses like \"you are too perfect for me\" \"I don't deserve you\" etc, wich I replied it was bullshit excuses and If she wanted to stop here she would need to be honest, and to wait until we meet to take any decision. Every time she would agree and the next day the sweet texts would continue on her initiative. But as the time pass I got a bad feelings about my trip, and I was pretty much convinced I wouldn't see her. Yesterday her brother call me and tell me his other brother won't be able to shelter her for the week I was staying here and we need a solution wich I found. But in her head, the decision was taken cause she have too much distance to travel and she won't be able to quit her boyfriend.\n\n​\n\nHere I stop to be neutral and describe my feelings. It has been like 2 weeks I feel like I'm being used, she needed some attention that she didn't have at home and found it with me. I told her a few times how insecure I am about intimates relationships and she never stopped her bullshit. I felt she violated my trust only to feel loved. In 3 words I felt fooled. So I grabbed my phone and called her boyfriend to tell him she was fooling both of us, that I could provide screenshots or further explanation if he want. Honestly I did it for two reasons : I was hurt and felt the need to hurt her, and he deserve to know she's not trustworthy and willing to emotionally cheat on  him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "k7bVR0YmnyBnpItSjWXwKdA2xXBqsU3r", "post_id": "b62dsy", "action": {"description": "repeatedly correcting my teacher on the Pronunciation of my name", "pronormative_score": 424, "contranormative_score": 35}, "title": "AITA for Repeatedly Correcting my Teacher on the Pronunciation of my Name?", "text": "I'm in my senior year of highschool, living in Canada. I go to a full french high school. My mother tongue (and pretty much everyone else's) is english. However, if we speak in english, we get disciplined. Now this is fair enough, and I abide by these rules most of the time.\n\nHowever, my name is Daniel. Daniel has both a french and english pronunciation. In english it is pronounced exactly how you'd expect, but in french it's pronounced like Danielle. I really hate the french pronunciation of my name, and have therefore asked people do pronounce it as Daniel. This has never been a problem, and all of my other teachers have always been fine with this.\n\nThis year, one of my teachers refuses to pronounce it as Daniel, and refuses to let anyone else pronounce it in the english way. I have asked her multiple times to pronounce my name as Daniel, but she vehemently refuses. I have been disciplined multiple times for this, and have even been sent to see the principal over it. \n\nI don't really care though, my name is Daniel, not Danielle. If she struggled to pronounce it in english, then I'd understand, but english is her first language, so it doesn't apply. She claims that pronouncing my name the way I'd prefer it to be pronounced qualifies as speaking english. I don't see it that way, to me, that's my name, Danielle is not my name. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 26, "OTHER": 409, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 15, "INFO": 10}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 424, "WRONG": 35}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DYiFDnXr2BrBFXm27C2hN48g8bpkeflD", "post_id": "apt6rv", "action": {"description": "telling my now ex-wife's lover's wife that her then husband was cheating on her with my wife", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my now ex-wife\u2019s lover\u2019s wife that her then husband was cheating on her with my wife?", "text": "I caught my wife and one of her coworkers cheating on me, after a few days of being I told my wife she needed to tell him that he had to inform his wife of the entire situation as he was at that point still sleeping with both my wife and his wife and I felt like everyone needed to be on the same page and if I was in his wife\u2019s position I would want to be informed. I told him he needed to tell his wife within a week or I would call her and let her know the situation. He of course didn\u2019t tell his wife so I was the one that had to call her and tell her everything. Now my ex-wife has made me out to be an asshole for it to a majority of our mutual friends. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BaJGSO2QhQiumPDB5WFEBAGzQn0oeelb", "post_id": "b475ay", "action": {"description": "not passing along brothers childhood baby clothes to SIL", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for not passing along brothers childhood baby clothes to SIL...?", "text": "Me and my older brother are both in our 30s, married and have 1 kid each. I have a boy under 2 & hes got a girl who is just shy of starting school.\n\nWhen my neice was born, my mother pulled out the baby clothes from when my brother & i were babies, having saved them specifically for her grandbabies to have. (She bought them for my brother and when i came along, i wore them too.) Sister-in-law wanted nothing to do with them for neice. Most are pretty gender neutral, so when my mom was babysitting and neice needed clothes changed, she would put on some of said clothes (a pair of jeans for example) so she could enjoy the outfit for a while, but SIL would come to pick her up and change her out of clothes before heading home, leaving childhood clothes at my moms house. We never asked wtf but theorized that maybe its because they were too masculine looking.\n\nFast forward a few years and i have my son. My mom gingerly asked if i would like the clothes, expecting more heartbreak over it but i was thrilled & said hell yes. My little guy rocks the clothes pretty frequently & grandma always has a huge grin to see him in them.\n\nNow, i found out my brother & SIL are expecting a boy. So I'm stuck with the dilemma of what to do about the baby clothes. I feel im obligated to offer them to her as they WERE me brothers first, but she has a history of refusing to put baby in them. I worry about it because she is definitely a \"gift horse in the mouth\" sort of person and has told us often of recieving a gift that wasnt the \"right brand\" so she sold it and put cash towards the \"right\" one.\n\nMy concern is if i give her the clothes, whether on not they are worn by future nephew, that she will toss or sell them in the end. If she doesnt want them or they didnt have any more kids, i intended to put them away for my grandbabies to inherit.\n\nWIBTA to not offer her the clothes? Or could i offer them and tell her if she doesnt want to keep forever to return them to me?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "T1XwwyKlD2zN0kY5cHhAAdsBrY7J1Qwj", "post_id": "az6hlr", "action": {"description": "expressing to my bf that I don't really want him talking to his ex", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if i expressed to my bf that i don't really want him talking to his ex?", "text": "My boyfriend has an \"X\" that he's a bit secretive about. He doesn't really like talking about X and when I ask him questions it's like pulling teeth and he gets visibly agitated. He hasn't been with X for 5+ years but they still talk frequently via email since she's moved away. Bf and I started dating 2 years ago and he didn't tell X right away about me. X heard it from someone else and asked him and he confirmed it. Then X said she couldn't talk to him anymore and disappeared. Few weeks later X comes back and says she's sorry for get outburst and then that's that. I asked him about his conversations with her a few weeks ago and he read some of them to me. Literally zero messages involve me. X will mention her husband to him but he has never, not once, spoken to her about me. That makes me so uncomfortable. She asks about holiday plans and he says, \"oh a quiet stay in,\" etc, even though we were out all day with each other. I told him that that made me uncomfortable and he said that he will start talking about he but I feel like it's forced and weird. \n\nI guess I don't really understand how I'm feeling right now, but it's just strange. I love my boyfriend but I don't know about this relationship he has with this woman. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UeFFHH6p3uRgsE1a2XQBijfspPdTNfGL", "post_id": "ar3032", "action": {"description": "wanting to sue an ex-friend for slander", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to sue an ex-friend for slander?", "text": "Hey Reddit. Be fore I get into this, here is some context. \n\nI met this kid through a mutual friend. We where never really talkitive to eachother. One day, he asked me to work on his fangames, as I am an experienced programmer. \n\nOk, so here's the deal. Normally, he says something really dumb, and then it gets into a discussion. Then he calls me names because he is losing the debate. It escilates into a fight and I do say some pretty harsh things, as he does. Then he takes those harsh things and trys to twist them and take them out of context so he can look like the victim. Then goes on to slander me with fake screenshots to further is agenda.\n\nHe is now going behind my back and slandering me, and yet again taking things out of context, and slandering me.\n\nI stopped working on his fan game, and decided I sould release the code for the game to help others with the type of project that it is. He is now claming that I have no right to release code to a game that has been cancelled for a month, even though he has no intentions to even do anything with the code.\n\nI am thinking abkut sueing him, but I'm not sure.\n\nThanks for helping me Reddit.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "151YHIKOah2uxvCU8wN04xzIp9QoUuqH", "post_id": "b5zl8u", "action": {"description": "not telling my gmil that I've been in town since I first came down", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not telling my GMIL that I've been in town since I first came down?", "text": "Background: I do not like my Grandmother in Law, she stresses me out, and my daughters freak out when ever she's around. She is a horrible person in my opinion and she has said multiple things that have pissed me off beyond belief and since I shouldn't rip into her I'll leave it at that if you want to know more I do have a post in another subreddit. I maintain contact because I love my Grandfather in law. He unfortunately has cancer and probably only has a few more years left with us.\n\nSo I live on west coast due to my husband being in the US navy. My family and his family live in the midwest. He left deployment about mid November and I came to vist family mid December. My original plan was to stay until mid January, but after spending time my Father in law and his wife invited me and my 9 month twin girls stay with them till hubby came home.\n\nOf course I took it, but we did go back up to get stuff dealt with so I didn't tell her a lie when I said I'd be going back to Washington. I just didn't think she needed to know that I was coming back considering she was heading to her second home down south. Things were great we only told a handful of people of people I was down. The trouble didn't happen till I accidentally sent a picture of my daughters standing for the first time to my husband's aunt. She's a snitch when it comes to my GMIL. She's been over once and somehow remembers everything they own.\n\nShe confronted my Brother in law who did know I was down he said point blank don't tell GMIL or there would be consequences. She seemed to have kept it quiet until a few days ago, when GMIL apparently got angry that I didn't tell her. Cue vist the following day. She randomly breaks down saying how hurt she was that I didn't tell and ask why I didn't say anything. I wanted to tell the truth, I settled with \"I didn't want to cause friction between you and your son, because I know you two don't get along.\"  Than my GMIL went on a exposition (I guess) about how she's trying to mend that bridge and she's trying to accept My mother in law.\n\nI got out of there quickly as I had a cranky little brother with me whose wisdom teeth are coming in. I don't think what I did was wrong, but he tears really stung. I felt like I had killed an innocent animal or something. I guess what I'm trying to say am I the asshole for not wanting to tell her where I was at.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "RuErnfzK3fR1jLBYjsqlExDJXuGNfOlK", "post_id": "b7v57g", "action": {"description": "wanting my ex to move out of my house", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my ex to move out of my house?", "text": "Hey guys, this is the first time for me ever posting on reddit and english is my second language so bear with me.\n\nThe story is this. Me and my ex M31 have been together for 3.5 years. Last januari i broke up with him because we were only bringing out the worst parts of eachother. I know he doesnt have a new place to live in a week so i let him stay till he finds a place. Over the last few months we had our share of fights, and i gave him a deadline of april 1st to move out. Since the deadline he has been acting really well and really takes my feelings and wishes into consideration. So because he couldnt find a place we talked and i moved the deadline to may 1st. \n\nFriday he got a mail with an invitation to look at a place. So tomorrow we will look at the house. He's concerned that the place will be to small (1 bedroom,1 bathroom) and admitted that he actually doesnt want that house. But i really want him to leave my house, so that i can get back to living my life. Its not that i hate him or anything. I promised i would still be friends with him when he moves out. \n\nSo am i the asshole for wanting him to accept this house and move out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mrSiQFS360LxYOfoGmsBnuCmI80xufVw", "post_id": "9wjh7k", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk about chicken nuggets while my boyfriend and I are having sex", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk about chicken nuggets while my boyfriend and I are having sex?", "text": "\nI'm asking because I got a bit upset with him and I'm wondering if I should apologise Because maybe he was right or I overreacted, I'm not sure... Anyway essentially this is what happened: \n\nSide note: I'm new to reddit idk what's allowed on here aha\n\nI'm making my boyfriend food while he sits on the couch, I don't mind really If I'm honest I like doing nice things for him he doesn't ask too much of me. Anyway then He asks me to sit with him so I straddle him (not to be sexual just cause it's comfy n I like looking at him he's very cute) And he gets turned on (all good I'm fine with that obviously) so I get into it too and blah blah blah y'know what's happening... he asks me to give him a BJ and  I oblige, so I'm there doing my thing and he starts asking if I put a timer on for the chicken nuggets, I say no and I keep going (keep in mind I've made chicken nuggets so many times I know how long they need to be in there and I have a good sense of time) but he doesn't shut up about the nuggets, I'm cooking him food that he asked for and giving him the blowjob he asked for and he's still demanding stuff from me. So I stop and put my clothes on and go and put the timer on the nuggets and he asks for me to keep going with the BJ and sex or whatever. I say no and express that I'm upset and a little hurt that he cares more about food than the oral he asked me to give him. I felt like I wasn't really being considered all that much, it made me feel like I was doing a bad job at both cooking and oral, which even if I was, it's not like I wasn't trying to do well. After expressing that I was upset I obviously didn't want to have sex anymore, but I also didn't want to cuddle on the couch so I sulked on the floor but out of sight cause I didn't want to make him feel awful, I just needed a minute to get over it.\n\nHe did apologise but it was a backhanded apology where he said something along the lines of  'y'know I was right though' \n\nMaybe I'm not very good at oral but considering he's my first partner and I'm his first too, I feel any flaws I have in the bedroom maybe should be discussed or forgiven. \n\nIdk please help me out here, am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "glEF1xB7bzwnbrQQe5wXJew8bzUt6J5o", "post_id": "am9373", "action": {"description": "calling a friend out on his hypocrisy and mentioning his ex", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for calling a friend out on his hypocrisy and mentioning his ex?", "text": "Me and a couple of friends play a game every day, and this friend is one of them. He complains about other people in our group not doing the right thing and not doing everything he says. He had been insulting me the whole game that I was shit at the game, and insults the other people I hang out with.  We were playing with two other people, so 4 in total. I will be ME and he will be F.\n\nME: F get back in your position you are going to make us lose.\n\nF: Jesus Christ dude chill tf out. You shouldn\u2019t be telling people how to play.\n\nME: Says the one who is literally telling us how to do fucking everything every moment of the game.\n\nF: No tf I don\u2019t you bitch.\n\nME: You can\u2019t even go 5 minutes without being a hypocrite. No wonder why (ex\u2019s name) left you.\n\nF: You fucking bitch! \nThen F left the party and the other two people told me I was a major asshole. So, Reddit I want to know, Am I the Asshole?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kUxNMQfnNw2yr7FN38smORaB0g6ElP2C", "post_id": "ao380n", "action": {"description": "questioning my wife's sudden desire to make a drastic career change", "pronormative_score": 30, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA for questioning my wife's sudden desire to make a drastic career change?", "text": "To give this situation some necessary context, here are some details of varying importance.\n\nMy wife is a pharmacist and I work in education. She brings home about $50,000/year and I bring home about $75,000. We're both in our early 30s and have been together for almost ten years now. We're in a comfortable situation financially.\n\nAlright, let's begin with what my wife and I have found to be the bitter truth: she just does not like being a pharmacist. She absolutely hates it. Day after day she'll come home with a new complaint about something a patient or colleague did. One time a patient crumpled up a receipt and told her to throw it away. One time a patient pissed all over the toilet seat. One time a patient licked his fingers before counting money and handed the bills to her.\n\nSo a few months ago, we decided that maybe just dealing with customers kind of sucked. I'd been there and could relate. I asked if she would try working in a hospital (no direct contact with patients), and she agreed to try it out. She has worked there a month now, and the only thing that has changed is the nature of her complaints. She doesn't like her boss and she doesn't like her immediate supervisor. She doesn't like how busy it is there. She actually probably hates it more than her old job because at least in her old pharmacy, she could take a break every so often.\n\nA lot of her complaints are valid. Some of them seem a bit ridiculous--things that have happened to me and didn't even blip on my radar. I think most of it stems from the fact that, again, she really just doesn't like being a pharmacist.\n\nSo at this point we have basically tried all career avenues of pharmacy, and nothing is quite doing it for her. She wants to get into something else. I've repeatedly told her that I would be supportive of her career change if she thought it would make her happier, and she frequently seeks permission from me.\n\nLast Sunday, she suddenly came to me and said she wanted to be an esthetician at a women's spa. This wasn't exactly the most surprising thing in the world, as I know my wife loves beauty products/skincare related fields, but ... an esthetician? I mean absolutely no disrespect to estheticians as I know it's a job that requires a hell of a lot more than what I do at mine, but I can already hear her complaints about future customers. \n\nOf course this is a huge step for my wife. She is horrible at making decisions. I don't want to squash her dreams, as she seems really enthusiastic about this, but I have a really strong feeling that she's making a classic mistake. It's like loving Disneyland so much that you decide to work there, and all of a sudden you're stacking boxes in the back of the gift shop. I feel like her reasons for going into this career are all wrong and that we're going to be back in the same spot in a year, just with a whole lot of new problems and another job thrown into the \"not for me\" pile. And in the time, she will be taking a fairly massive salary hit. I agreed to support us, and I know I can, but the job offer she has is not offering her all that much at all.\n\nI'm honestly inclined to just start bringing up doubts about it, but knowing her personality, she would probably just give up on it. She actually seems excited to work there though and while I don't want to make her feel bad, but I really want to get this off my chest. I'm going against what I promised her, but I have serious doubts about this career choice for her. I'm frankly against the idea and want to tell her but feel like IWBTA. \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 30, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7Di8DlZOaEoQiZIwc361421wjMrZWS04", "post_id": "akj2tj", "action": {"description": "not going through with sex once I saw my dates penis", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For not going through with sex once i saw my dates penis?", "text": "On a date with a guy who ive been seeing, its our fourth date and we're hitting it off so i figured its time to get busy.\n\nIm not exactly a super experienced girl, but i have given a blowjob before so i figured id try again.\n\nAs im pulling down his jeans i see that he has little to no \"budge\" in his underwear so i figure maybe he just needs to get excited but that was.....not the case.\n\nHis penis was extremely small. Im not a size queen by any means, but his penis was erect and was as big as my pinkie finger. If i wouldve blown him it would only barely go past my lips and if we moved on to sex i just think it would be awkward.\n\nI was turned off. He was a big tough guy too so i had this image of him being really hung but in reality his bigness just made his thing look even smaller.\n\nI just apologize and say i feel tired on second thought. I feel bad because i think he knew i was turned off and he looked kinda depressed but he said ok. He is a cool guy but yeah.\n\nTold my more experienced best friend who also knew the guy and she said i shouldnt have bailed like i did. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zXu0KHLtpJrCFyJhR1EGmJUGJBJbwY2y", "post_id": "avjuee", "action": {"description": "cutting a close friend out of my life for how they act due to mental illness", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for cutting a close friend out of my life for how they act due to mental illness?", "text": "My close friend M has (self-diagnosed) bipolar disorder which makes him isolate himself for long periods on end. These episodes happen very suddenly--he'll go from sweet and affectionate to extremely cold and standoffish from one day to the next. Like, we'll hang out as usual, and then the next morning he'll be 'gone': no texts, no calls, nothing. He won't respond to any attempts at reaching out from my side either. Then, whenever the episode is over, he'll bounce back acting like nothing ever happened.\nIt's confusing because during his 'good' times he is very vocal about how much he loves and appreciates me. I adore him as well--I feel a deep connection with him and have always tried to be there for him through whatever happened in his life (family troubles, stressful new job, several moves). \n\nTo illustrate: the latest episode has now been going on since late November, that means no contact at all since then. I texted M the other day asking to meet up because I wanted to talk to him about something that I didn't want to discuss over text, to which he replied (to my surprise) that he could meet on the weekend and he'd keep me updated. Friday comes and goes by, so does Saturday. He then texts me late on Sat asking if I could do Sunday, to which I replied sure, but only in the morning/noon since I had work later in the day. Nothing came after that. Now it's Thursday and I'm somewhat hurt that he didn't even tell me he couldn't make it, especially since I see he is active on social media. I definitely understand that being online doesn't mean feeling well enough to socialize, but I would have really appreciated at least a short heads up. Also, I see him liking lots of tweets about how people with BPD love the ones who stick with them through periods of isolation and how getting mad at them when they ignore you will only make them isolate themselves further. \n\nI understand that he doesn't ignore me because he hates me or whatever, but rather that his illness makes him want to isolate himself. The only real problem I have is that these periods happen without warning, can last very long, and I am expected to just bounce back to 'best friend mode' whenever he does. The current situation has been pretty bad for my own mental health and although it may be selfish, I also feel really upset that I can't help him with whatever he is going through that makes him isolate himself so much. \n\nI am now considering trying to get a hold of M to tell him that I don't want to continue the friendship and explain my reasoning. I thought about taking the current isolation as a hint, so to speak, and just not reply whenever he feels like being my friend again. But that would feel like an asshole move to me. I don't want to hurt him and I wish I could just remain untouched by everything, but it really does take a toll on my mental health and I don't think I am equipped to handle this behavior at the moment. \n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aDM53XTzQJa63nt6rZ1n5IsX9zUOvPi5", "post_id": "acpxtv", "action": {"description": "wanting my money back for a meal I couldn't attend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my money back for a meal I couldn't attend?", "text": "So to begin my girlfriend is 8 1/2 months pregnant. Last month was my works Christmas party, it was a department and partners affair with around 20 people attending. \n\nThe person organising the meal as wanted us to pay in full before the night instead of a \u00a35 deposit before the night and the balance at the end of the meal. Not a problem I paid up \u00a350 for my gf and me.\n\nThe day of the party arrives and around 4pm at work I get a phone call from my gf saying she feels awful and is have Braxton Hicks contractions for the first time while at work ( in a high pressure job). She has had then nurse look her over and she advised that if things get any worse to consider going to the hospital.  Naturally I explained the situation to my colleagues, told them in couldn't attend the meal and left work early to make sure she was OK.\n\nWe didn't end up going to hospital and a couple of days later she was back to normal. I came into work Monday and found out that the money I had paid had been used to pay for a tip and to settle an outstanding drinks order that no one owned up to having. The restaurant had been informed that I we couldn't attend and didn't prepare the food we ordered. I was expecting to lose \u00a310 in deposit for both our meals but I feel the situation was out of my hands and I shouldn't lose all the money. My boss has asked if anyone minds chipping in and thinks he can get me \u00a320 back which personally think is a bit of a slap in the face.\n\nAITA for wanting all my money back minus a \u00a310 deposit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8dzOIqouRTj5glvWNTUquzYs37S4Slqk", "post_id": "a4ctnw", "action": {"description": "calling my friend dumb", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for calling my friend dumb", "text": "I was at my friends house yesterday and we were playing smash bros and he said cloud was the best character in Smash 4. I corrected him saying \u201cbayonetta the best character are you dumb, on every tier list she is considered the best and cloud barely even comes close.\u201d and then my other friend said \u201che was just misinformed not dumb\u201d and they called me an asshole cause of it. Both of them were also really mad for some reason.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pezQLbNb9wWwABzMXogFPVHnA442Q4xF", "post_id": "b6cru6", "action": {"description": "wanting my boyfriend to get rid of his dog", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wanting my boyfriend to get rid of his dog", "text": "Ok, here\u2019s the thing. I am probably the furthest away from a person who would ever consider making someone choose me over their dog but this dog has put so much stress into my life, she was one of the factors in a mental break I had recently. Now one would ask, how could a dog be that bad?? Dogs are the best thing to have ever happened to humans! And I would agree!!! I have two myself, and I work with dogs everyday! But this dog from day one was bouncing off the walls hyper, which is not that bad, she just needs exercise right? Wrong! If she is tired from exercise she gets aggressive, like barking snarling snapping aggressive. She constantly growls at us. She is a bull terrier so it\u2019s not something you can just brush off. I can\u2019t take her for walks because she pulls me down the street. She is resource aggressive so she\u2019ll snap and snarl at my boyfriend, me or my dogs if there is a bone around. I have put up with this because I love my boyfriend and he wants to make it work with the dog because it\u2019s his first and because he knows no one else can handle her but honestly I have no love for her, I couldn\u2019t see myself ever loving her and I wouldn\u2019t want her around children in the future, I don\u2019t trust her as far as I can throw her. She is not a loving dog, she doesn\u2019t show affection all she cares about is food and will kill over it. Today I took her to the dog park and she had been fine up until today, but today she attacked a dog made him bleed I had to drag her out of there everyone was freaking out I was so embarrassed, the other dog was fine but there was blood everywhere. I\u2019m just so tired of her. I can\u2019t see this relationship working with her in my life. She has on more than one occasion tried to attack my boyfriend. I don\u2019t know what to do. Am I being an asshole? Should I make him choose? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KKQ0j7d2eEBa5myUHLy2urrAcQmCnsHC", "post_id": "b6fskv", "action": {"description": "listening to music \"invisibly\" while in public", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for listening to music \"invisibly\" while in public", "text": "I (35M) am hearing impaired, have been since birth. NBD -- with hearing aids I can hear \\*about\\* as well as normal. I do ask people to repeat themselves more than people who aren't hearing impaired do, but I'm 95% sure that people who aren't hearing impaired don't hear as well as they act like they do, and/or are embarrassed to ask people to repeat themselves, etc etc. But that's another topic :)\n\n​\n\nI am also hugely into music; I've been a musician pretty much my whole life, and one thing I love it listening to music at all times when out in public. Blocking out the outside world. Up until \\~9 months ago, that would be via headphones, which make it obvious to people that I am listening to music.\n\n​\n\nBut now I have these fancy new hearing aids that basically make me a cyborg. I can stream anything from my phone directly into my hearing aids. I love it; not having to carry around headphones anymore is just so convenient. It does make the hearing aid batteries die much faster, but it's worth it.\n\n​\n\nWhich brings us to the problem... I always pause the music when initiating interactions in public. Examples: going into a store (I'll pause the whole time I'm in the store), getting on the bus (in case the driver has something to say as I pass by after swiping). Outside of things like that, I keep it going constantly.\n\n​\n\nI live in a busy metro area, and random people try to talk to me pretty often. Usually to ask for money or a cigarette (I do smoke). It is a particular pet peeve of mine when strangers ask for a cigarette; culturally (in the US anyway) they're somehow frequently seen as communal property and among friends, I get that. I will give any friend a cigarette anytime. But not a stranger, and even more annoying than being asked 5 - 10 times a day (NOT exaggerating) is that half the time (again NOT exaggerating) the reaction when I say \"no\" is quite negative, with a sense of entitlement that just pisses me off.\n\n​\n\nNow I have noticed in the last 9 months that people have been trying to talk to me and I frequently don't realize it until I am past them and they are yelling. In general, even though I'm annoyed at what they're asking, and I don't feel I owe them a cigarette, I do feel that as humans they deserve a reply rather than being ignored. If I realize someone is talking to me before I pass them, I will generally say \"can't help you\" because I don't know what they're actually saying, as I have the music going. This answers any query and allows me to keep walking. To be \"more\" polite, I'd have to ask them to hold on, pause the music, ask them to repeat themselves, then say \"no.\"\n\n​\n\nSo my question is about the scenario where I don't hear them and appear to completely ignore them. In the past, my headphones would at least provide a reason why I \"ignored\" them. Now, there are no headphones so I REALLY look like I'm ignoring them. AITA?\n\n​\n\ntl;dr - nope, read the post ;)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JsR7GpUYvdIR4Mi2y4i3m9IMtAzkeB3B", "post_id": "aer830", "action": {"description": "being mad at my gfs guy 'friend'", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my GFs guy \u2018friend\u2019", "text": "Apologies for mobile formatting \n\nI\u2019ll try and keep it short. My GF and I have been dating since early September, with us having a previous relationship in June/July. She\u2019s friends with some guy which I\u2019m completely fine with, until I saw her messages with him. He\u2019s quite clearly obsessed with her and often tells her how much he loves her and that \u2018she\u2019s his\u2019.  I also see her saying how she loves him too and I absolutely hate it. They both know how much I dislike the guy. I\u2019ll often see them together and the guy hugging her and all. I obviously get upset at this and my GF tells me that if I have a problem with it then I need to get over it. \n\nJust a side note, I have been dating her for longer than they have been friends. I\u2019ll be hanging out with my GF and she\u2019ll just casually ignore me and be texting the guy. We were chilling in my basement watching a movie and he FaceTimes her saying how he\u2019s bored at work and she just goes on with it, clearly uncaring for what I\u2019m doing. One time they got in an argument and she was upset at me saying that she knows that I dislike him and it\u2019s all her and nobody is forcing her to talk to him. I always get attitude when I explain that I don\u2019t like him. She always gets to the same point on me having \u2018sides\u2019 although I haven\u2019t talked to the girl in over 2 months. Keep in mind that there was nothing between me and this girl, just that we were good friends and shared the same comedy. I got pissed one day cause we were having a laugh over something she was showing me and a notification pops up and says \u2018I didn\u2019t want to do or say anything cause I saw your boyfriend coming\u2019. She doesn\u2019t know why it made me upset, I don\u2019t know the context of it, but seeing any message like that would make anyone upset. I love my GF dearly and I don\u2019t want this to tear us apart but it just has been getting to me lately, I know this sub is against giving advice but I just don\u2019t know anymore.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZmJryCfzQKv9zoYlfdIry9FoUmvfPLG0", "post_id": "aw7cbd", "action": {"description": "not wanting to bring a friend on a camping trip", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to bring a friend on a camping trip?", "text": "Hi guys - LTL, FTP, my apologies if this is a bit lengthy! \n\n​\n\nMy partner, myself, and a group of about 5 friends have been planning a winter camping trip since last fall. We have a Facebook group we use for coordinating various camping trips throughout the year, and a FB event was created in January for this trip in particular. Everyone is really excited and has been planning and preparing for months. One of us is flying in from out of state just to go on this trip. \n\n​\n\nWe have a friend in this group, let's call him Carl, who has not been that involved. Carl went on the previous winter trip a few years ago and was very enthusiastic about the idea of another one when it was brought up during our last camping trip in September. However, Carl has not been very involved in any of the planning or discussion. He's liked a couple posts here and there, but until this week, that was it. \n\n​\n\nBecause it's winter and we're heading towards the mountains for this trip, the number of cars we have between us that are able to handle snowy conditions is limited to 2 - a friend's SUV, and an AWD sedan my partner and I are borrowing from his parents. Last week, we coordinated rides in the FB group - the SUV is full, and our sedan *might* have one seat open. Carl did not respond to this post in any way, either on FB or otherwise. \n\n​\n\nI want to note that Carl does not drive, and lives the furthest away. (The rest of live within a few miles of each other.) I had begun to assume he would no longer be joining us on the trip, since we leave first thing Saturday morning. On Tuesday, he posted in the FB group asking if there was an open seat for him somewhere and if we had reviewed weather forecasts and driving routes. We'd already discussed both of those things last week. My partner commented that we might have an available seat, depending on how much room is left after we load all of our gear and our dog. Carl did not respond until late last night, saying that he'll chip in for gas and doesn't mind riding with our dog.\n\n​\n\nI'm pretty frustrated that Carl has waited until the week of the trip to figure out a way to get there, and I'm not happy that we will have to be the ones to accommodate him. (My partner doesn't really mind one way or another. He's very non-confrontational.) Carl says he's been busy moving and dealing with an injury, which is why he hasn't been very responsive or involved, but this trip has been a long time in the making and he just started moving last week. In my opinion, if he's busy moving and has an injury, a severe-weather camping trip probably isn't the best idea. \n\n​\n\nAITA for not wanting to bring him on this trip? I have no issue with him going in and of itself, but I'm not happy with having to accommodate him at the last minute like this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "vcAhpdM2zlWeQKx25Ghf6UuGIli4BW1B", "post_id": "axu30s", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Fast Food Experience", "text": "So, little things bother me, and I wanted to just hear it from the horses mouth if I am an asshole for this.\n\nBought some food at the drive through of the fast food place, they forgot the mrs\u2019s drink. Went inside to get it, an employee is around the counter in full uniform. Nobody else is around, anyone that is in ear shot, is very focused on what they\u2019re doing.\n\nI ask the employee, young kid, \u201cHey, they forgot my drink at the drive through it was a...\u201d He cuts me off and goes \u201coff the clock\u201d. and just quickly walks away. I\u2019m just standing there now, kind of like \u201cwtf\u201d, and I say (mostly to myself) \u201cwhatever I guess..\u201d (he\u2019s about ten feet away by this point, and I say it in a normal speaking voice to someone who\u2019d be next to me.\n\nHe walks back up to me and says \u201cI don\u2019t know the drinks here, that\u2019s why I walked away\u201d. Which, my problem with him wasn\u2019t at all about getting me the drink, or even just telling someone else whose on the clock to help me (which is what\u2019d I\u2019d do at my old retail jobs). It was just him abruptly going \u201coff the clock!\u201d and zooming off like I had the plague was jarring. Just a little \u201csorry, I\u2019m off the clock\u201d and not dashing away would have been fine with me. \n\nThen, I notice why he came back up to smooth it over. The manager was behind a partition we both couldn\u2019t see and had an angry look on their face, and definetly saw everything.\n\nThe manager said \u201csorry about that, here\u2019s your drink,\u201d and then said to the employee, \u201cyou can\u2019t talk to customers like that, that was extremely rude you left him hanging, you\u2019re in your uniform at the counter, and regardless if you\u2019re in break waiting for you food, you could have easily let us know we forgot his beverage\u201d.\n\nI was in a rush, and I had to leave as soon as I got the drink. I\u2019m worried I got him in trouble or got him fired, he looked very young and I\u2019m just not that type of guy to want people to lose their jobs or be admonished because we were all young at jobs and made mistakes, and it wasn\u2019t a big deal at all to me, just a little odd and jarring of a response.\n\nSo, am I an asshole for that? I was thinking of calling the location and explaining I was in a rush and I understand he was on break, that I dont want him to get in any trouble. Just worried I did :/.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MWjoxR2KpJ2f0akAdRNKMBaMp3RNqfUg", "post_id": "atr19q", "action": {"description": "leaving salty kids on league of legends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For leaving salty kids on league of legends?", "text": "I was playing a champion in Arurf, a game mode where random champions get to spam abilities. I was 1/9/0, and people were calling me retarded and that I sucked,  just being a holes.  I said \"these are randoms chill out\" then people were going with the a hole remarks.  So I left the match. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "inYA5YJsNxd5Iepo2cxvpB5gTECG7B27", "post_id": "azmw3s", "action": {"description": "throwing my husband a 40th birthday party and not paying for everyone's meal", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "WIBTA if I threw my husband a 40th birthday party and didn't pay for everyone's meal?", "text": "This is a very mild AITA and I get that haha. But I'm planning my husband's 40th surprise birthday party. During the day, him and his buddies will go paintballing, then I rented out the dining area of a little bbq eatery nearby that my husband just LOVES for family and friends (~45 people). I was only going to provide cake, water bottles, and maybe a veggie tray, and thought people could order their own food. It's a place where you go up to the counter, order food, and they bring it out to you, not a formal service place at all.\n\n\nWhen I ran this idea by his step-mom, she said it would be incredibly rude to not provide at least 2 full courses for the guests. In my mind, this isn't a kids party, this is for a grown man and I've always paid for my own food at an adult's birthday get-together. I'm also not wanting to spend $400+ to feed everyone (veggie tray, water and cake is about $100), but would very much like everyone to be a part of it. But now it's sitting in my head that if I invite family and friends to a food place around dinnertime if I would be an asshole for not feeding them. What do you think?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JbvZdUsts59rjfMG7Y0HEqktFLcUC6RF", "post_id": "ax4zju", "action": {"description": "accidentally ending my friend's relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accidentally ending my friend's relationship?", "text": "I have this friend and he (21M, gonna refer to him as John) had a new relationship. One day, his girlfriend texted me and said that she took my number from John's phone without telling him to give him a surprise birthday party, and she asked me to contact with our mutual friends for the party, since she doesn't know any of his friends yet. I said ok. We were planning the birthday party together, like which place to choose etc. Some days later when I was hanging out with John and showing him something on my phone, his girlfriend texted me something about the birthday. Luckily though, I swiped her message on time, and when John was not able to see my phone's screen, I wrote her that John was here and we can talk later. She didn't believe that he was here, so I took a picture of him and sent it to her. Then she got angry and called John, asking where he is. Oddly enough, he lied and said that he's at home studying. She got super pissed, hang up, and sent the photo I took seconds ago to John, saying she's breaking up. John was brutally shocked that my photo end up at her phone, which he assumed I don't know. He immediately thought I had a secret relationship with his girlfriend. I tried to explain myself and showing the previous messages, but without listening he called her and said something about his cheating hypothesis and how he sure it's true. When he eventually hang up, I showed him the messages and calmed him down. But of course it was too late. So AITA?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t1mEVuXAlhk3FF9PxqI40T0aC2NOJpAz", "post_id": "aglh1o", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be friends anymore with someone in a one sided friendship", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be friends anymore with someone in a one sided friendship?", "text": "I\u2019ve been friends with him for almost 20 years, best friends for about 10. Everything was great except for the last few years. We\u2019d hang out all the time, multiple days per week. But every time we would hang out, he would always try to negotiate it out so that I would pick him up (if he felt like going somewhere) or me driving to his house to hang out in his garage (never his house, not even to use the bathroom) where there was no heat, in Wisconsin in winter.\n\nI\u2019d invite him to my house (I lived in 2 separate ones over the last few years) and he never wanted to. If I didn\u2019t want to do the things he wanted, he\u2019d get upset and would not drop it and incessantly call or text until I agreed.\n\nOn the rare occasions I could get him to go for something I\u2019d actually wanna do, he\u2019d decline or end up finding a reason last minute (read: when I was at his house) that he couldn\u2019t go.\n\nThen there was all the small stuff like always giving him cigarettes and borrowing him money that he would pay back whenever it worked for him.\n\nOver the years, there were multiple times I told him I thought it was one sided and that I would appreciate it if he gave a little. At best, he\u2019d try to explain why he couldn\u2019t do specific things. At worst he\u2019d get pissed at me for calling him out on it, we stop talking for a while and then ultimately start hanging out that way again. \n\nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xnmASU72yRKo9JRAOdgE6B3c1tknCaoj", "post_id": "a9qd7m", "action": {"description": "asking the girl sitting next to me on the bus to stop talking on the phone", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked the girl sitting next to me on the bus to stop talking on the phone?", "text": "I\u2019m currently on the bus home, and I\u2019m about 2 hrs into a 6 hour ride. The girl sitting next to me has been on the phone this whole time. She hasn\u2019t been particularly loud or anything, and it\u2019s not like calls aren\u2019t allowed on the bus, but it\u2019s really starting to get on my nerves. WIBTA if I asked her to stop? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "oIpiwEiRZJMMGvikWtGQ9cEGKazwa61K", "post_id": "a4osyd", "action": {"description": "asking someone to get out of my seats", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for asking someone to get out of my seats?", "text": "So we have season tickets for a football game which pretty much just means we have tickets for every home game. These tickets are pretty expensive and we pay a lot to sit we\u2019re we are. Alright on to the issue\n\nSo we have five of these season tickets but at this particular game our fifth family member couldn\u2019t make it. Regardless, we bring all five tickets anyways. So around mid game when we are seated and watching, some random dude sits in the empty seat in our row. Now, we obviously know he doesn\u2019t have the ticket to sit here and frankly we want him to move. \n\nSo I say \u201cExcuse me but you don\u2019t have the ticket for this seat, can you move?\u201d\n\nHe responds \u201cIs there someone sitting here?\u201d \n\nI said \u201cNo, but we have the tickets for this entire row and we would appreciate it if you could move.\u201d \n\nHe responds \u201cI don\u2019t see the problem with me sitting here if no one else is sitting here.\u201d\n\nAfter this, I tell him to please move or I\u2019ll call security. He gets quite pissed and and cusses me out before he finally leaves. So my question is AITA for asking him to leave?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "q3QEmdbNXGT6Kqj1pSAjj10MR4D72KQf", "post_id": "a271pg", "action": {"description": "studying for midterms/finals instead of visiting my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for studying for midterms/finals instead of visiting my boyfriend?", "text": "I am just starting my first year at UC with two weeks left in the quarter and my boyfriend says he feels unloved and lonely  because I refuse to make the trip to see him. Every time we text now it always ends up with him berating me and arguing with me because either I do not text him enough or that I won't visit and most conversations more often than not end with both of us feeling like shit.\n\n​\n\nI live on campus about an hour drive away from my hometown, and he expects me to visit every weekend, which for the first 5 weeks or so, I was. However, my grades were suffering because of it, so I told him that from now on I would not visit him if I had a midterm the next week so that I could use the weekend to study and he agreed. Possibly unrelated, but I can't drive yet and it's a $25 Amtrak ride there one way and reserving a spot on a shuttle which is first come first serve is dubious at best that I will get a seat since they sell out quickly, so it is a hassle in general for me to visit to begin with. Why doesn't he just drive to see me to visit for a day? Well his excuse is that he can't afford gas, what with him deciding to buy a fuel inefficient car for its looks and whatnot.\n\n​\n\nAs it turns out, in the last two weeks of the quarter I have 3 homework assignments including a quiz due on Monday, a midterm on Thursday, and my finals start next week on Wednesday. So of course, I told him that I would not be able to visit until after two weeks when finals are over, even though I didn't visit last weekend because I had a midterm last week too. He is very upset that I have made this decision, and he is constantly telling me how I don't love him and making me feel severely depressed because he doesn't understand that I need to be on campus.\n\n​\n\nFrom his perspective, he is upset that I want to use the weekend to study instead of visiting him because I also go to club events and study groups during the week, as well as spending time with my friends when I go to the dining commons in the evening. So his logic is that since I spend time with other people during the week, I should be spending time on the weekends with him. He claims that I neglect him when I see my friends because I'm not constantly on my phone texting him (but from my view, why would I even want to talk to him when it always just makes me feel like shit).\n\n​\n\nTLDR; I want to spend my last 2 weekends studying for midterms and finals but my boyfriend feels neglected because that will mean that I won't see him for 3 weeks. May be some jealousy and obsession going on, or possible neglect, or both depending on who the asshole is, if any. It is a hassle for me to visit because I can't drive, he doesn't want to visit because he can't afford it. He feels neglected because I don't text him enough as he would like.\n\n​\n\nFrom my view: how does he expect me to keep visiting him when I need to be here working and studying, is it not important that I focus on school? How can he put his own needs before mine, I'm only in college once I need to be here and now, I don't understand. Is he right to keep calling me the asshole?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zOs0MXl7caGwhSdKNsfsn8op23PMCSHx", "post_id": "b5rim8", "action": {"description": "cutting my work friend off without telling her what went wrong with our friendship", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting my work friend off without telling her what went wrong with our friendship?", "text": "So I\u2019ve been at my job for two years now and I\u2019m usually a very reserved, private person. This girl had been trying to be friends with me for the whole first year and when I tried to keep things professional she\u2019d say stuff like \u201cdo you think I\u2019m not cool enough to be your friend\u201d fast forward to months later, we become friends and basically confidantes until I end up dating one of her long term best friends (she set me up and I didn\u2019t know until a month after we started dating) \n\nThings didn\u2019t go so well - he turned out to be abusive and had a completely different story as to why and what the break up was. Turns out she also knew that this person had done underlined issues beforehand that she didn\u2019t tell me about even though I asked her when she was giving him my number. \n\nThing is, I had a conversation with this friend and told her that I didn\u2019t want to get in between their friendship cause she seemed to be genuinely bothered by some of the things he did. She says they\u2019ve been friends for a lifetime but she was hoping the whole thing didn\u2019t ruin her friendship with me instead. I say absolutely not. \n\nI was going through a very hard time after the whole thing and she was very dismissive of my feelings and practically told me she never wanted to talk about it every time I told her I needed a friend (she was the only close friend I had in this new area) she claimed that it felt like I was blaming her and I said I don\u2019t understand why she would think that. I was hurting and just needed someone there for me. Nothing changed. \n\nA month later I find out that she was listening to the guy\u2019s side of the story and when I asked her to help with something I needed from him that he was refusing to give back, she said he\u2019d never do something like that. I\u2019m sure he gave it back to you right? Thing is, I\u2019m good friends with her spouse but I\u2019m still able to listen to both their relationship issues and be there for them without picking a side. She couldn\u2019t do that for me and in the end, it seemed like she obviously picked a side without needing to. \n\nShe still tries to come to me with her problems while at work or just tries to be friendly but I try to smile and just walk away. I even avoid eye contact. The other day, I overheard her telling our other co worker and she told her to keep her distance. I\u2019m sure she\u2019s a good friend she just wasn\u2019t one to me and I don\u2019t think explaining myself to such a closed minded person would make a difference.\n\nAm I wrong? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "brRVaUL72fkBZLaOpeY0qv0sUlJ22UJe", "post_id": "9zfxvs", "action": {"description": "not liking 'Strip'", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not liking \u2018Strip\u2019? (Obesity)", "text": "Little Mix have a new song called \u2018Strip\u2019 and the music video consists of ugly bums wiggling about. Two of the dancers are obese. The message is to love yourself, which I understand. I posted on my Instagram story \u2018this song is nice but I don\u2019t like how it\u2019s glorifying obesity\u2019 and I got a message from a friend calling me disgusting. I then explained my  point (obese people shouldn\u2019t be featured because they\u2019re unhealthy and we shouldn\u2019t promote that) but she still said I was disgusting. The next day another friend told me she walked past a group of girls talking about me, saying \u2018liberaldouche was making fun of obesity in her story\u2019 when I WASNT! My other friends also called me out irl, I explained my point to them. I realise now I should have explained a bit more when I talked about obesity on my story but am I \u2018disgusting\u2019 like my friend said? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gZYV3PBW2YIWVHTXhl5shfHyAl71knuO", "post_id": "aqftnv", "action": {"description": "being bothered that my pregnant cousin is giving her unborn child my middle name", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for being bothered that my pregnant cousin is giving her unborn child my middle name?", "text": "So I learned a few months ago that my cousin is giving her child the same middle name as me. Me and the baby are both girls and my middle name isn't a very feminine name to begin with, it's technically a unisex name but rarely it is given to girls. I found this out from my grandma, who explained she is matching her child's initials with her step children's, which is understandable but my cousin never once asked me about it. (Nor has she told me the baby's middle name) It's not a coincidence because she's even using the same spelling as my middle name and she knows my middle name because all of my social media's (that I have her on) uses my full name. \nMe and this cousin are not very close, we have gotten into arguments quite a few times when I was a kid and she was a teenager.  We never speak to each other, even at family events. This cousin also has a history of snubbing the family when we don't meet her standards. \nI haven't confronted her about this and don't really plan to but am an asshole for being bothered about this?  It's technically not a big deal but it really bothers me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lLz0X6uFhLRNtDU7LVOa2Jxr06nneLDm", "post_id": "b0et0x", "action": {"description": "being very sensitive to my wife's wording about how she ask me to do things", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being very sensitive to my wife's wording about how she ask me to do things?", "text": "We have been married for a long time, married really young, and our relationship is getting colder by the day because finally I made a stance on something that has been bothering me since the beginning. \n\nSay, I'm cleaning the bathroom and at the end of 3 hours work (we have 4 of them), she would say, \"you didn't even change the drawer liners\" (or something that is equally random to me). She didn't mention it before  . She could tell \"change the drawer liner\" and I would have been still fine with it, no \"please\" needed. But that's all she will say, nothing more or less. and when I complain she basically says it means the same thing, you still have to do it, so deal with it. \n\nAnother example would be, \"why didn't you put my phone on charge \" you never  charge mine, I would if you tell me to, but, how you tell me matters a lot to me.\n\nI rage with anger at this, but don't show it. What I'm trying to find out is, this is normal way of talking among couples? Am I being too sensitive for no reason? I never talk to her or anyone this way and believe I deserve the same, specifically since I don't see her talking to anyone else this way. To me, I feel like she shows me no respect and that really, really bothers me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hE292nAwVcvQAWdDDStNJDBOZZhVsQ1s", "post_id": "b1jvhv", "action": {"description": "wanting my husband to get full time work", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "Aita for wanting my husband to get full time work?", "text": "My husband is a qualified carpenter but has been out of work for 5 months or so. He has had work but its only been part time so some weeks he\u2019d bring in a thousand and other weeks maybe four hundred. There has been weeks where he hasn\u2019t had any pay at all and I\u2019ve had to pay off things like our bills in part payments as well as pay rent and food and so on, since his pay usually goes to insurances and his car repayment. \n\nUsually I remain quiet but its very hard to not become passive aggressive and annoyed when I see him doing little around the house and only applying for jobs here. In all he\u2019s applied to maybe 6-8 jobs. It\u2019s also put a spanner in the works for our dream which is to buy property in the middle of nowhere and live like hippies, living off the land. I\u2019ve also had to put studying on the back burner because of this. \n\nWell a couple of nights ago I was at my wits end and spoke to him about it and he got upset because he has depression and anxiety and says he can\u2019t find the motivation to do so and that I shouldn\u2019t complain because he gets paid more than I do working 3 days a week which is true...\n\nSo AITA for getting frustrated at my SO. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z9EQZ1aJWuaKfe4l0Qsjutq9chucKDMt", "post_id": "a9wzj6", "action": {"description": "telling a man he is a creep", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling a man he is a creep?", "text": "well i got a friend request on facebook from an old man that never talked to me before i don't even know how he saw my name from a group i'm in. so i asked my friends that are not in the group if they know him. and one of them said she did get a friend request from him and that he looks at evryones friend list to ad females. so i acused him in private message of adding females and him being a creep and he said i was wrong and mean and blocked me. am i the asshole? imo it is creepy to add people you never comunicated with before and it happens much more that men create profiles just to add women", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6go6arhTHgToOzr1qkGS7Zqzt1Xr41I1", "post_id": "b9uixh", "action": {"description": "getting my friend drunk", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting my friend drunk", "text": " This is my first time posting here so I am not sure if I am doing this right but here it is. So, for the most part my friend and I have been having issues about our drinking habits, we both love to drink and go out and have fun but a lot of the times my friend gets extremely drunk and makes bad decisions. He claims that it is my fault that he is getting drunk and lead him towards making bad choices. It is important to note that once this guy is even a little tipsy he will begin start to binge drink with everyone ON HIS OWN ACCORD without me even being there. What he is trying to say I am the one who get him to that tipsy point where he begins to make bad decisions. I do get excited when it comes to drinking but I never force the booze down his throat. What I mean by excited is that I do hand the man drinks and the occasional \"drink that Sh\\*\\*T boy\". I guess am I the asshole here? I feel like it should not be my fault that once he gets a little drunk he goes crazy or the fact that I even remotely try to have a drink with the guy it all goes to sh\\*\\*t. I don't know let me know. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "UnvioqaLnAf7g0gYXoYpRgEAX4vgSYAD", "post_id": "a5ctl7", "action": {"description": "not liking when my girlfriend gets drunk", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not liking when my girlfriend gets drunk", "text": "My (23m) girlfriend (23f) will occasionally get way too drunk. Its not a crazy amount of times, maybe once or twice a month max. It can get to the point where she cant walk by herself and I have to support a lot of her weight or keep her going in a straight line. Often it triggers some anxiety issues in her and she'll stay up all night hyperventilating while I try to console her. \n\nNone of this would be a big deal if it happened every once in a while but its fairly common, and its only ever been me as the too drunk one like once. \n\nLast weekend I went to a bar with my friends and the girls were gonna get ready together and meet us there. An hour in I'm a little drunk and I get a call from her, cant hear anything. She's muted the call. I tell her she muted it and she hangs up. She calls two more times and its muted every time. A few minutes later she gets there, completely plastered. Her friends kind of hand her off to me and i leave my friend group to help her go sit down (cant walk by herself). I'm visibly annoyed, probably more than I should have been and just tolerate her talking for a bit, very drunk rambling giggling kind of stuff. I'm nodding and smiling but not interested and still annoyed and she asks whats wrong. I tell her \"this is not fun for me\" and a huge fight ensues. My side: she isnt thinking about how her actions affect me or behaving responsibly and this has happened multiple times. Her side: I'm embarassed of her and she knows how to take care of herself.\n\nWe fight, go home and talk it out and both apologize, definitely things i did i handled wrong. \n\nThe next morning she realizes she lost her debit card and her glasses that night. She also fell going down stairs twice and has two enormous bruises.\n\nWe're texting about it that day and both apologizing again but the way she is talking I was very much in the wrong for being embarassed of her and need to take a step back about her decisions. She apologizes for how she reacted to things but not for getting so drunk she cant walk, losing important things, and injuring herself. I know she isnt \"my responsibilty\" but im obviously going to take steps to make sure she is safe and can stay on her feet. It feels like she doesnt realize her decisions affect me too. \n\nLike I said, this wouldnt be an issue if it wasnt a fairly common, one-sided occurance. Am I the asshole for getting annoyed?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nSOzx3HGCqASdE1AtSn0OoojQICpHEps", "post_id": "atbo26", "action": {"description": "not wanting anything to do with my cousins wedding", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting anything to do with my cousins wedding?", "text": "My family on my mothers side all live over an hours drive away from me and have lived there for the past 40 some years. My family used to travel lots to go see them but they never came up to see us, in fact the only time I can remember them coming to see us was once when I broke a leg in a bicycle accident. 20 years later, I\u2019m all grown up I still am not in contact with these relatives nor are they in contact with me, my mother is the second youngest of seven kids so I\u2019m a few years younger than my cousins but they still never tried to start or maintain a relationship/friendship with me even though I have. Now my cousins getting married and my mother is extremely upset with me and frustrated beyond belief that I don\u2019t care to go to her wedding reception nor the wedding. My mom says that I need to keep up the relationships with my family but I don\u2019t see the point if they\u2019re just going to go back to the way they were after the wedding (like they always do). I have plans for the same day as the reception already and I haven\u2019t told me mom yet that I\u2019m not going. \n\nAITA for not wanting to go?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UyVF1z5Lzn9oHLUI5z2rmsTWuSfvuQCO", "post_id": "auyb62", "action": {"description": "considering breaking up with my girlfriend even though she loves me", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for considering breaking up with my girlfriend even though she loves me?", "text": "It\u2019s the start of junior year, and I see the prettiest girl I\u2019ve ever seen, and I immediately am head over heals for her smile, her voice, her everything. Long story short I pursued it and we\u2019ve been dating six months. Then recently I\u2019ve been going through a rough point with my other friends and just stuff in my life has been getting me down. I tend to be very internal, and always pretty positive, so my real feelings don\u2019t always show. But She told me that I hadn\u2019t been myself over text lately and that she felt neglected, that she had \u201cbeen upset with me\u201d. I explained that it wasn\u2019t intentional and I completely opened up about all that I\u2019m struggling with, but her response killed me. She essentially blew it off, saying: \u201cI hope all that works out, but don\u2019t forget about me\u201d and \u201csorry I\u2019m another thing to juggle but if you can\u2019t juggle me I can\u2019t be with you\u201d\n\nNearly instantly all my feelings for her went away, and I felt like I could be anyone and she wouldn\u2019t know the difference. I\u2019m just a guy who juggles her and she is willing to move on if I start to struggle. After six months this was a major kick in the teeth but when I thought about it, it aligned with a lot of her other actions too. There\u2019s a lot to that but the root of it is that I take a lot of hits to my pride and to my own happiness in order to make her happier, but when I really thought about it, I couldn\u2019t think of a time when she\u2019s done the same for me. I think she enjoys what comes with having a partner, but isn\u2019t willing to make any sacrifices for my sake. \n\nIt\u2019s important to understand that I am not a complainer. I would never expect or ask for someone to confess all my problems to, but I feel like I also shouldn\u2019t be scolded for having a down point in my life. But after all that she says I\u2019m her boy and she loves me. That\u2019s where my problem comes in.\n\nI\u2019m sorry for rambling but I think context is pretty important. I know spilling to strangers on Reddit probably isn\u2019t the best move, but I just want a completely unbiased second opinion or two. I\u2019m also aware that since this is all coming from me it\u2019s probably biased, but I\u2019ve done my best to present the truth.\n\nSummary: My girlfriend\u2019s expectations of me are too high and I can\u2019t see us going on for very long term because I just can\u2019t be everything she wants. I\u2019ve tried sticking it out for a while, but I want to break up with her. \n\nAm I the asshole for possibly breaking her heart out of self interest?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GeRFZlsR4K7XUfXvxMSxlFSlYCnOqRxm", "post_id": "atzgwl", "action": {"description": "disassociating myself from my friends", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA If I disassociated myself from my friends?", "text": "My friends like to make offensive and slightly racist jokes. I\u2019m not really OK with this. WIBTA? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x1D1QvCJSJNuejuOjCnfdKr3cLChUIB4", "post_id": "alp40r", "action": {"description": "having concensual sex with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 101, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for having concensual sex with my girlfriend?", "text": "a few things to know before we start this: firstly, it's important to know that my girlfriend has been abused before in a past relationship, which was a few years ago. second, we have had sex before, but pretty rarely (she has never complained before afterwards). third, we've known each other for almost 10 years. lastly, i'm female, her abuser was male.\n\nmy girlfriend isn't asexual, but sex repulsed at times because of past abuse. and i'm ok with just cuddling and kissing, that's totally fine by me. i would never force her into anything she didn't want.\n\nthe other day she practically jumped on me, started touching me etc etc. we did it, showered together, cuddled, all that jazz. it is important to note that i asked her repeatedly throughout if she was okay with what i was doing, if she felt alright and stuff like that.\n\na few hours later however (she'd gone home afterwards), she calls me up and starts shouting at me why i had let her do that, when i knew she felt uncomfortable with sex, and that i should've known she was triggering herself purposefully by sleeping with me. i got mad at her and told her i had no way of knowing what she was thinking. i had asked her multiple times if she was alright, to which she had said yes, as i have mentioned before. had she said 'no' at any point, i would have stopped immediately.\n\nso, am i the asshole?\n\n​\n\nEDIT:  so, here's an update for those who care:  \n\n\nwhen i spoke to her again after about a week, she surprisingly still stuck with her argument that 'i should have known'. i did not expect this. i thought she would have snapped out of it by now. she did say she was being harsh when she called me on the phone and blamed me for everything, and she apologised for it, but she also said at the core she thinks she's in the right.\n\n​\n\nneedless to say, that's a pretty big dealbreaker. we've all established that her actions were not okay, and she was wrong. very wrong, in fact.\n\n​\n\nwe argued for a bit and then decided it would be for the best to take a break.\n\n​\n\ni'm dissapointed in her, honestly. i thought she was smarter than this. i don't know what kind of bubble she's in, but if she's going to stay there, our relationship is over. i did everything i could have possible done to ensure her comfort, but it's not enough for her, apparently.\n\n​\n\ni will do whatever i have to to take care of myself, my own problems, before i play anybody elses therapist.\n\n​\n\nthanks everyone for the support.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 95, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 101, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zece6I2z3AHDtGXJmtOyPJLk0AnQoRD6", "post_id": "apx271", "action": {"description": "giving attitude", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving attitude ?", "text": "So today was a snow day so I took my brother to my uncle's to have fun we live in the same apartment complex and our buildings are connected so no harm , and I was in my room which is technically the guest room, but I've decorated it and stuff and i was just sitting in the room and my uncle screams my name and I rush out and then he does \"call your mom , we were playing around and I pushed him off the couch and his tooth came out\" so I called my mom and she sounds angry and I say \"great now she's pissed\" then I went to unlock the door and then went back into the room And started getting my gaming headset , My controller and my bookbag with all my things and he says \"if you take that home it's not coming back \" And I say \"I don't care now everybody's pissed off\" and then my mom showed up so I left and he goes \"don't come back I'm not letting you in , Not even on the weekends\" but I don't care because I'll just have fun and watch TV with my aunt even though she lives a block or 2 away she still has a console , she still has cable, has everything he has, so Yea AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MB2Rf1WOT7DMihKalp8kIoJgqFvi9OE2", "post_id": "a2c06t", "action": {"description": "giving this guy the cold shoulder", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for giving this guy the cold shoulder?", "text": "​\n\n**SHORT VERSION**: Guy likes me. I am not interested in him. Give him the cold shoulder instead of talking things through. AITA?\n\n**The whole story, below**:\n\nThis summer I was traveling in pursuit of my hobby, let's say underwater basketweaving. I went on a trip to a country where a lot of this happens and joined a group tour with about 40 other people. One of those people was \"Allen\", a man about 20 years older than me (I am female, mid-forties, single).\n\nEveryone in the group is friendly and we all get along since we share a common interest and are traveling together, sharing meals, activities, etc. One night getting off the bus, I am weirdly dizzy and off balance (thanks, jet lag) and worried about being able to walk to the hotel safely, so I explain my situation to Allen and ask him for support. He takes my arm and \"escorts\" me back to the hotel, and I am grateful and thank him. He asks me if I want to go out for a drink and I say no (that should have been a red flag for me - why was he inviting me for a drink when I was already so messed up, I could barely walk in a straight line?!). Anyway, the next day we sit on the bus together, and at first we're sort of becoming travel buddies and that seems cool. But then after a day or two of this I realize he's thinking more than friends, and I'm not interested in him that way. In fact I'm not even interested in being \"just friends\" because I just don't like him at all.\n\nWell, he's super interested in me and always right there, sitting next to me at meals, following me around when we're at museums, etc. He is really pushy, not reading any signals, and I am not happy. So I'm laying awake in my little hotel room trying to figure out how to deal with him in a direct but polite way. How to use my big girl words. And then I'm like fuck it, I am on vacation, I am not wasting my mental energy on figuring out how to be nice about \"breaking up\" with this guy. So instead of talking things through, I just give him the cold shoulder starting the next morning. I no longer talk to him, avoid him, and make sure I'm always seated with other people around me, so there's no spot for him near me.\n\nHe seems to get the point and goes so far to apologize to me for pushing too much and he realizes I'm not into him. It seemed really sincere and insightful. After that I'm willing to be polite and talk to him again, but he apparently misreads that and thinks I'm into him. So I go back to ignoring/avoiding him. The trip ends; everyone goes home.\n\nAt home he starts emailing me, and maybe a Facebook request. All of which I ignore. Including emails asking why I am not replying to him. \n\nThat was several months ago. I just saw him recently at a weekend event. He kind of joined a conversation I was having with someone else, and then he was like \"Oh, are you talking to me now\" and I sort of said meh, shrugged my shoulders and quit talking to him. He did manage to keep his distance after that.\n\nOk, so I feel like I have been SO RUDE to this guy. AITA? And if I am the asshole, why doesn't this guy say \"damn, she is an asshole, I don't want anything to do with her\"?\n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "K10j3EdHeEuTUc13CAygnFbXcZfpNbDV", "post_id": "avvsoe", "action": {"description": "asking my bf to get rid of his exgf's art", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "Aita for asking my bf to get rid of his exgf's art?", "text": "I recently moved in with a wonderful guy (both mid 20s) and things are going great. We moved into a new place together and he brought his collection of art that he planned to hang up in the new place. They are all lovely but two or three of them were painted by his ex gf. This made me feel uncomfortable because they made me think of her everytime I looked at them. I told him how I felt and he said that he wasn't keeping them for any emotional reason like sentimental value, he just likes having art. But he understood how I felt and got rid of them (I think he gave them away) because he didn't want to cause any problems between us. This was a while ago and it hasn't come up again. I am an (amateur) artist too so I've been painting new peices for our house to replace the old ones. \nIt was hardly a fight but it has been weighing on me. Was I unreasonable to ask that he get rid of those peices? I'm worried that I'm just being petty and jealous but I really disliked being reminded of his past relationship every time I went into my living room. What do you think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D17jENiykYVLdAXMARymMXzNthfRii7M", "post_id": "azjblw", "action": {"description": "leaving everything, and everyone behind", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for leaving everything, and everyone behind?", "text": "February 2, I 27m left everything behind in Sweden. I moved across the whole Euroasian continent to South Korea, where I now work as one of the higher ups of a large korean company. \n\n​\n\nFor the past decade I've been saving about 50% of the money, I've made. Which means after I got out of univesity, I had the money to buy a house, a nice car, etc. The only people who knew I had saved a lot of money, was my girlfriend and my abusive parents and of course my siblings. From the age of 13 I started to get intrested in south korean culture, my parents hired tutors to learn the language, and after a few hardworking years, I became fluent in the language. Life in Sweden for me was miserable, my parents were abusive, but supportive for my ambitions. They'd punish me if I got a grade lower than A, they'd control all aspects of my life. Which made me hate them, they are manipulative sociopaths. They controlled everything in my life. All up, until the age of 20 when I moved away to univeristy. There I met my ex-girlfriend. During that time, I studied a lot, my dream was to move to south korea. I had a lot of friends, but nothing meant more to me than achieve my dreams. \n\n​\n\nWhen I finished univeristy, last summer. I almost found a job instantly, I moved back to my parents house, until I could find a aparment. It's during this time, I began speaking to this south korean company, through work connections. The small firm I worked for in Sweden, had a lot of shares, bought by the south korean company. Which meant that, we were partially owned by them, and my boss did a lot of affairs with the larger company. It's here where I get in contact with the co-owner of the south korean company, and he had seen my work. And wanted me to come to south korea for a interview, I went.  \n\nWhen I came back to Sweden, they offered me the super high paying position, in the company. I of course accepted in secret. They told me, they'd pay for the flights and offer me suitable housing. It was a dream come true for me. This was in january. \n\nWhen I told my gf I was breaking up with her,  she started crying. And asked why, I didn't say any reasons. All I knew was that I had a new life waiting for me, on the otherside of the world. A few days later, after I'd packed my things. Said up my position at my job in sweden, and told my parents that I was going on a work trip. I only needed little clothing with me to south korea anyway.  When I got to south korea, packed my things. Deleted all my social media, blocked all my family, friends, numbers. Changed mine. AITA for doing this?\n\n​\n\nTl;dr: Moved to south korea from sweden, told no one about it. Blocked all people I knew in Sweden.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kWIPPfStTqfSLNfKOiRrYOJpI8ZpRRG3", "post_id": "a4l5cb", "action": {"description": "being upset that nobody told me what happened to my best friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for being upset that nobody told me what happened to my best friend?", "text": "So, last friday I found out that my best friend was beaten really, really severely by her abusive ex. I figured something like this had happened, since I know the fucking asshole, but nobody would tell me what happened. If this was something that was kept secret I would understand, but everybody knew before me, even people that barely know her or anything about the situation. It all seemed to deliberate, since I could tell that something was going on, I heard the whispers and noticed the looks they gave each other. \n\nIt seemed I was the only one locked out of the loop, despite her being my closest friend in the world. Anyway, me, her and a couple of friends got wasted a few days back and she dropped the bomb when I saw her body was covered in bruises. I had already pieced it together a few days before, but just hearing this was like a fucking nuke. I completely froze up, the only thing I remember was that everyone seemed really scared, and that I promised to murder him if I ever saw him again. Eventually I got so angry that I went home, and eventually fell asleep, and when I wanted more details the next day, nobody would tell me anything, so I'm pretending to not remember anything, since they obviously were afraid of my reaction.\n\nAm I the asshole for being upset that nobody told me, even though pretty much everyone even tangentially related to our friend group were told about this? I feel so fucking powerless, I didn't know what had happened, so I couldn't be there for her, and to be honest I feel guilty that I got so angry, even if it was legitimate, since I suspect that they didn't tell me this because they were afraid I would react like I did.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PAnrYlkbjBQjZbKoaBBQ6csguQhlNWGH", "post_id": "ab5wrd", "action": {"description": "thinking my friend is sexualizing being a girl/femininity", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking my friend is sexualizing being a girl/femininity?", "text": "not a shitpost or whatever this is something im actually worried about and i cant ask my friends because im scared of being unfriended as transphobic\n\nanyway i have a friend who is trans and shes okay shes not a great friend but nevertheless she is my friend and i do care about her\n\nthe problem that i have with her and her behavior is that from my point of view, she seems to be idolizing/sexualizing being a girl or what it is to be and present as a girl. In our group game of DnD she has stated that her character is either in lingerie or naked, which is weird but alright. This persists however as she constantly is obsessing over lingerie, she has gone out with me multiple times to buy thongs, lacy underwear etc. She's even sent a few posts about this kind of stuff to our group chat. (talking about lingerie, wishing she had an outfit in a picture, looking as cute as a girl in a picture etc.)  I get she just wants to be seen and treated as a girl but i don't think she really understands what that means. It seems like (from my perspective) that being a girl to her is just being sexy or cute, and there isnt much else about it that shes spoken on.\n\nTo give some explanation about her behavior, she is a very awkward and shy girl, there are some things about social interaction that she really does not understand but her intentions seem to be well intentioned. She does not realize often that what she sometimes is not within normal social realms, and I (and i don't have a full grasp on social behavior either) have to point it out to her. \n\nAm I the asshole for thinking this, and would I be the asshole if I pointed it out to her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XPUuQSj2sBmOiKLRNyFYzvQ1L5DeRQ2l", "post_id": "aflzk5", "action": {"description": "trying to keep up with my classes", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to keep up with my classes", "text": "So my brother called me up about a week ago asking me to watch his kid. I explained that I was Busy with homework and don't have the time to take care of an 18 month old, and point out that his extremely responsible 14 year old can baby sit and she would appritate the money probably more then I would. Note that he should know I'd charge him since I've been excepting jobs recently from stranger's lately for $10 an hour (2 less then local minimum wage), I didn't plan on charging him the same as I would a stranger, but the notion of him having to pay made him flip. I told him again eather way I have enuf homework that I don't have the extra time to watch his kid let alone a stranger's wich he had brought up in his rant. \nHe explains how I've been gouging him for money for months now. He brings up that I had charged him for a Polaroid photo around Christmas, note I charged haft the price for the film and only charged because he insisted on taking a photo I loved and wanted for my personal album, and I explained this to him when that issue had originally happened. (I'll admit in that one I was being a bit of an asshole)\nI'm a college student with 2 learning disabilities and can't cut into my study time especially if I'm going to pay for classes just to fill in the gaps my high school left me with. He now believes I don't care about family I guess.\nTL:DR : I can't babysit my brothers kid because of my study's so according to him im an asshole of a little sister. Also he's being a bit of a choosing begger, in my opinion.\nPS. my brother is about 20 years older then me\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Klk8uF59pZ613FV0L95yGZ3QIuBXuVFQ", "post_id": "b74fcs", "action": {"description": "telling my friend to stop mentioning her depression", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my friend to stop mentioning her depression?", "text": "I know this sounds really bad, but hear me out.\n\nI've been friends with this girl, we'll call her Violet, for about a year and a half now. She's a pretty cool person, we share a few similar interests, and she participates in the plays and musicals along with me. \n\nNow, Violet has clinical depression. I'm not blaming her for that. I don't know if she's in counseling or if she takes medication. I've always tried to be a friend for her to talk to, but we aren't the best of friends so I know she has her reservations. She's told me she has self harmed before and also had thoughts of ending her life, as well as a huge amount of self esteem issues. \n\nThis is where the problem comes in.\n\nFor a while, she always would moan and groan about her depression, and how nobody likes her and all of that, but my friends and I would always tell her otherwise. However, this has been going on for the entire time that I've known her, and I know I'm not the only one tired of her complaining that nobody likes her.\n\nSo, a few other friends of Violet's has asked her to be honest when talking with them, (she might have a problem with lying as well), but she took it as they want her to be honest about herself. Yesterday, while we were all getting on our makeup and costumes, she must've gotten upset at this guy who was talking to her, and started yelling loudly about how nobody cares about her and how we asked her to be honest. Even the director noticed, but a friend got her to leave and I asked the guy to just stop giving her something to react to.\n\nIt completely ruined the mood and there was an eerie silence as everyone continued to finish getting ready, but it got back to normal soon after.\n\nThis has become a regular occurrence, and usually we try to laugh it off when she's upset about herself, but it's been continuing so much.\n\nWould I be the ass if I asked her to stop bringing it up when everyone is having a good time?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bYrPw5SMXn0gQlyXtWtGrSX1Y4Iq3Alg", "post_id": "b8cu5n", "action": {"description": "thinking life is ruined after mother being stuck in a wheelchair", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for thinking life is ruined after mother being stuck in a wheelchair?", "text": "Removed violent bits\n\nThrowaway,\n\nI am the son of one of the victims from the recent London incident. My mum had a risk of death initially however after her surgery she is better.\n\nSo the story is; mum's incident resulted in her having a life saving surgery however will leave her paralyzed waist down. (Violent stuff removed so it's short)\n\nSo the doctors told us that the something has gone through her spine. This means she is very likely to NEVER walk again. Now I am more than fucking grateful that's she is alive so so so fucking happy. However, since she will no longer be able to walk I and close family have to look after her. Obviously. \n\nI am 20 and were planning to go to University at a different city, move abroad after graduation and live my life there. After this incident I don't think I can do either of those things. I have to change my university. My social life will take a hit and I'll probably be depressed for a while. Hence me saying my life will be partially ruined because I will now have to be with her (almost) at all times.\n\nNow I love my mum to bits however I just think my life will never be the same because of what happened. I will never ever blame her for this, she means the world to me. I've already accepted that things will have to change for the worse now and I have to live with it.\n\nAm I the asshole for thinking ahead too much and saying my life is ruined?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pSCYys0pGs6jXWZSR3TsGWzqs7hsJF8Y", "post_id": "a3ecww", "action": {"description": "finding my younger co workers insufferable", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for finding my younger co workers insufferable?", "text": "So I work as a designer at a marketing agency, I\u2019m 29 and my co workers all range from 18-26 with my boss in his 40s so it\u2019s a pretty young team! \n\nWhat I want to know is aita for finding my younger co workers annoying? \n\nThey\u2019re unprofessional, nosy, assume because we work together that we\u2019re friends, interrupt every conversation, sit on their phones and do no work when the boss is out, bad jokes, bad music, small minded views and just generally annoy me! \n\nI know they\u2019re just less mature but it\u2019s impacting me enjoying work, it\u2019s a small office so I can\u2019t exactly escape them! \n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XZ59xmiaKWSiac7cFxu4t294SnJUpPjT", "post_id": "ad4m5g", "action": {"description": "being short with my gf and then upset with her for FaceTiming me at 4 am", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: For being short with my gf and then upset with her for FaceTiming me at 4 AM?", "text": "My girlfriend is with her sister who\u2019s visiting. Every time her sister comes she uses it as an excuse to cheat on her boyfriend and party the entire time she\u2019s visiting my girlfriend. My girlfriend has a bad heart, drinking makes her feel like shit for a a week+ I\u2019ve have horrible experiences with her sister, I don\u2019t like her or my girlfriends friends, they\u2019re awful influences and don\u2019t respect me, they\u2019d happily encourage my girlfriend to cheat. I\u2019m not the party type of girl obviously, I don\u2019t like going out until 5 AM getting smashed... It isn\u2019t a cute look to me especially when you\u2019re 25. Anyways.. I told my girlfriend I was going to sleep, she said goodnight and I said goodnight. She ended up calling me at 4 AM which I assumed was to sleep like she always does, but instead she called me to say hi ? And be obnoxious, I\u2019m pretty sure she was either drunk or high because her eyes were nearly closed lol... She claims she isn\u2019t drunk or high, promised me, I said okay and ended up hanging up because I\u2019m tired. I was short with her and now I\u2019m annoyed... AITA for being annoyed by this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AnBj8uautbWSawyCsS0BoBHlg9fa8KkC", "post_id": "aue33o", "action": {"description": "cutting ties with my mom", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for cutting ties with my mom?", "text": "This is a long one, and my first post. Hopefully I\u2019m following all the conventions for this subreddit. \n\nOur relationship took a turn to the worse when I was 16. I came out as transgender to her. She didn\u2019t take it well. The first few months were tough. She mocked me, yelled at me at any moment, and refused to acknowledge me.\n\nShe told all my friends\u2019 parents about me coming out, and my whole family. The dad of my best friend at the time, J, stopped letting me hang out with J. I even caught her talking to her coworkers about me being trans on the phone. Keep in mind, I asked her to tell no one. When I heard her telling her coworker I recorded it and confronted her. \n\nShe yelled at me for being awful and selfish, not letting her have her support network to deal with this.  \n\nThings got worse when I told her about some of the mental health stuff I was going through. I\u2019m [a multiple/plural](https://solipsistful.weebly.com/faq.html). There\u2019s just a lot of people in my head and we all just live together. I\u2019d come a long way since when it first started when I was 14. I was functional and successful, I\u2019m talking straight A\u2019s and never got in trouble. \n\nShe took it poorly. Telling her is the biggest regret of my life. She made me see a psychiatrist and after talking to me for 15 minutes he prescribed me risperdal, a powerful antipsychotic. She was hoping it would cure my trans-ness I think. My mom told me I was hurting my family and friends, and that I should do it for them.\n\nFirstly, risperdal got rid of everyone else in our plurality. They\u2019re gone forever. It also made me incredibly depressed. I almost died. I started failing at school. I begged my mom to take me off them. I even pretended to not be trans for a bit. \n\nA month after they took me off the risperdal, my mom decided to try to put me in a mental hospital. She convinced my family I needed help and they turned my yearly physical into an intervention.\n\nAt this point, the affects of the risperdal on my mood were gone. So I argued I didn\u2019t need to go. She said my friends talked to my mom about how they were worried about me. That I was being a burden to my friends. I found this to be a lie later, but at the time I bought it and agreed to go.\n\nWhen I graduated high school and moved away to college, I started to realize how toxic and manipulative she is. I also starting going to therapy again, this time for my issues with her.\n\nBut despite me asking, she would not apologize for what happened. She said she\u2019d do it all again and doesn\u2019t have any regrets.\n\nThe thing is, she did all that stuff out of a twisted form of love. She was doing what she thought would be best for me. She\u2019s still that woman who raised me and my sister on $18k. But she\u2019s hurt me a lot.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K1rUEA9rVUxFfeSzK7lrBwK8aOiUDdAl", "post_id": "b3cpcu", "action": {"description": "calling my girlfriend a bit too \"sexually needy\" when she's incredibly drunk", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling my girlfriend a bit too \u201csexually needy\u201d when she\u2019s incredibly drunk", "text": "To preface: my girlfriend and I have been dating about 6 months. I\u2019ve only seen her incredibly drunk twice, last time being this past weekend. She and her friends had planned a 3 day \u201cspring break\u201d since all of their school schedules had spring break on different dates. I hadn\u2019t met her friends as they lived in her hometown and I met up with her on the third day, 2 hours away from where we stay for school and drove her back the next day.\n\nWe have a healthy sex life, IMO. Have it 4-7 times a week.\n\nAnyways, I was excited to meet her friends and she told me we were all going to go to a club after knocking back a couple drinks. Awesome. I was happy to attend.\n\nWhen I leave, they\u2019re sober. About half an hour til I\u2019m there, and she tells me they\u2019re all way too drunk to still go out, and want to just stay in. She\u2019s slurring her words and says she drank an entire bottle of champagne. I was a little annoyed that she had gotten that drunk right before I arrived, but I thought it\u2019s her weekend I\u2019m doing this for her, it\u2019s all good. \n\nFirst thing she says when I walk in is to go to the bathroom w her. I do and she asks if we\u2019re gonna have sex tonight. I\u2019m like, lol what? I haven\u2019t even met ur friends yet I\u2019m trying to meet them. I don\u2019t know. \n\nThen I meet them all, it\u2019s a good time. We get along well. However, while we\u2019re sitting in a circle, and she\u2019s on my lap, any time I move my hands off of being around her she\u2019s like \u201cfeldevourer, come a back!\u201d And moves them back around her. Over the course of about 4 hours I go outside with 2 of her friends and we start talking. She comes out after about 15 min and says \u201chey can I have my boyfriend back please\u201d. I start getting rather annoyed as I also wanted to spend time with her friends.\n\nWe go back inside and sit in the circle again. Over the next hour she repeatedly (5-6 times) tries to stick her hand in my pants slyly, but we\u2019re in a group of people. I keep telling her to stop and she does it again like 10 minutes later. Eventually I grab her hand and say fucking quit. She does it again and I get up and sit on the floor. For a little while after that she throws a hissy fit saying I won\u2019t pay attention to her. Before we go to bed she Asks again if I wanna have sex. Where any inclination for me to want to may have been, it was gone now. I said no not anymore and we went to bed.\n\nThe next morning we both acted like nothing was up but it\u2019s been a couple days and I brought it up to her again. I called her too needy sexually when she\u2019s super drunk and that I wasn\u2019t really comfortable. She didn\u2019t really comment at all.\n\nShe isn\u2019t like that sober, but I want to know if I\u2019m being overdramatic. So AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Bd743ZpTFLsz4blf1CgwEvDStiiTK5Q5", "post_id": "ahkox0", "action": {"description": "going to Heaven", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going to Heaven?", "text": "It'll be a long and nuanced post, I'll try to lay all the information as impartially as possible. English is my seocnd language, so excuse me for possible mistakes. TL;DR at the end.\n\nI'am a physician, born and raised in a big brazilian city (1.8 million people). After my graduation I decided to go work in Germany and landed a job a a big Hospital in a small city (30.000 inhabitants). Since I was a foreigner I started with a temporary limited work permit and had to take some examinations to get the full recognition, in the meantime I worked in this Hospital (I'll call this one Purgatory). \n\nBecause of the limitations of my work permit I could only take THE WORST shifts, and for like ten months I had to work 10-12 hours a day from monday until saturday, often also sunday, and at the same time study for my german and medical examinations. I've told at the Purgatory that it was inhuman and that I needed a break to breath and learn sometimes, they always pretended to care but a few weeks later everything went back to how it was. I'm not gonna lie, I've really learned a lot in those circunstances and developed myself fast. Soon I became a key player of the department.\n\nIn my second month, when I was struggling with a different culture and learning a third language, I was once alone at the monitoring station (one step before an ICU) and called a superior for help because of a minor problem. He came and wsa furious at me because I couldn't solve that alone, said that I was lazy and that I only wanted to take money from Germany (note: he is greek) and that I was not interested in learning. Because of that I cried, and we were in front of a patient. After I cried he was ashamed and apologized.\n\nBecause of my restricted work permit I was not allowed working overtime, but I did it anyway because if I didn't I'd lose the job; i did overtime but those hours were erased from the system so the Hospital would not get in trouble.\n\nFast forward, I finally took my last examination and barely made it, but in the end I got the recognition. In the same month I asked only for the best shifts so I could take some well deserved rest and I recieved a huge backleash from the shift planner; he said that it was not the department's fault that it took so long for me to get an apponitment for my examinations and it would be unfair against the others if I took only the best shifts for a month. I resigned with a balanced shift schedule. But then another small problem happend in the burocratic process and my recognition came a week later. As an answer the boss made me go through another month of the worst shifts because back then they couldn't predict when my recognition would come.\n\nA few weeks after recieving my recognition the same greek superior said the same mean things to an assistent that was a good friend of mine. I started having a reasonable working schedule and became an important part of the team because I had a very good development. The department was struggling to find good assistents. \n\nI was dissapointed of beind mistreated for so long, became furious for knowing that my friend heard the same mean things as me and wanted to go to a better Hospital where I could learn more and develop myself more. I sent one single curriculum to a good german University Hospital (I'll call this hospital Earth), where I could also take part on research and better myself even more as a doctor.\n\nI was called for the interview, but as I was underway they cancelled and re-schedule for the next week. When I got home that day I was so upset that I sent three more curricula to the three best german University Hospitals.\n\nOne week gone by and I went for the interview on Earth. I came punctually and they called me 30-45 minutes later. They've said that I made a very good impression, and the boss there made me promise that, if they called me, I would go work there, but he didn't promised me a job on the spot. He would call me at the end of the week after that round of interviews. The promised day came and he didn't call me, then another day, and another, and another. the whole time I've sent emails and called the secretary to try to find something out. Four days later I just wrote to the secretary: \"look, I don't care if I landed the job of not, just please tell me, I don't need a feedback from the boss himself\". The next day the secretary called me and said that I was chosen. \n\nI was very happy and asked for demission on Purgatory. When I spoke to Purgatory's boss, he said he knew already that I was going because Earth had called him. Purgatory's boss said that I was ungrateful after they helped me going to Germany and that I was a small human being for blindsiding him, looking for a job before talking to him in a situation where the department was having difficulties finding good assistents.\n\nAfter asking for demission I tried to call Earth again to negotiate when should I begin working on Earth. I have a wife at home that spends her whole day taking care of our baby that's now 8 months old. Then Earth said that I shouldn't ask for demission yet, they would call me if I landed the job. \"WELL THANKS ASSHOLE IT'S ALREADY TOO LATE!!!!!!!\" I thought.\n\nSo I standed in the cold without a job from Feb. 2019 onwards and without concrete offer from the ones that promised me a job. I've made what every bread winner of a household would do: started spending every single second of my free time looking for work. Then I suddenly recieved an email from the 2nd best University Hospital from Germany (I'll call it Heaven) inviting me for an Interview at the beginning from January 19. In the meantime Earth contacted me back saying that I landed the job (for the 2nd time...), but they could only give me a contract after middle January.\n\nI went to the interview on Heaven, they were on schedule and treated me very well. I clarified that my wife wanted to study medicine in the future, the boss immediatly called the department for student admission (in front of me) and asked if my wife would get a facilitated access to the university. I also said that I teoretically had an offer at Earth and that I promissed going there, but I was unsatisfied with how the process took part, but I was torn between going to Heaven of keeping my promisse with Earth.\nThe boss on Heaven said that he wanted me working for him and he didn't mind, he wouldn'r think less of me.\n\nHeaven took me for a tour in the hospital, they made me talk with an assistent without superiors nearby, she said that the work there was very satisfying and the superiors were kind. Like I said, it is the second best Uni-Hospital of germany.\n\nThen they've sent me back to talk to Heaven's boss again. He said that he already had decided for me, and that I could start rigth on Feb 2019. He also said that he didn't want to pressure me and gave me a day to think about where I'd like to work. He added that I I could wait until the process was done before backing off from Earth.\n\nOn the next day I emailed Heaven's boss saying that I decided myself for Heaven. He immediatly started sending emails to the Human resources and to organize a temporary apartment for me. I've recied copies of the internal emails the entire process, and the formalities are already done and I'll be recieving the contract in my mail.\n\nBut I can't help but feel guilty about both Purgatory and Earth. Purgatory gave me a job and there I developed myself a lot. I've broke a promess with Earth\nAm I the Asshole for going to Heaven?\n\nTL;DR: I'm a brazillian physician that started working in Germany with a temporary and limited work permit in a Hospital that I'll call Purgatory. In Purgatory I developed myself but was badly mistreated along the months required to get my complete revalidation. After revalidation I've landed a job in a way better Hospital (Earth) where they made me promisse that I would work there if called (but didn't give me the job on the spot). Earth backed off AFTER I asked for demition in Purgatory and treted me poorly in the process by not answering my calls and emails and not honing scheduled appointments. Fearing for the financial security of my family (my -for now- stay at home wife and 8 months old baby) I've resumed looking for jobs. In the meantime Earth called me back saying that I've been chosen, after I've got invited to some other interviews. I landed a job in the second best University Hospital of Germany (I'll call it Heaven), they liked me and gave me the job on the spot, and gave me a lot of reassurance and peace of mind along the way and treated me very kindly. I decided that I want to work on Heaven but will only back off from Earth after signing my contract with Heaven.\n\nAm I the Asshole for going to Heaven?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QktBSqmTWpvd5xKWP1zjyTLKDEtlEyda", "post_id": "b0osav", "action": {"description": "not wanting my fianc\u00e9's little brother to move in with us", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my fianc\u00e9\u2019s little brother to move in with us?", "text": "My fianc\u00e9 (22) and I (23) are moving in together at the end of May. Since January 2018, we have been living apart. I got my degree and moved away for a job while she finishes her degree about 1.5 hours away. Now, her brother (19) goes to school in Boston and has an internship in the same city I work in. She made plans with her family to house her little brother June-August with us. He would pay 1/3 of the rent. I am considering two apartments, one with 1 bedroom and the other with 2.  AITA for being against this? I feel like it would create potential issues since we are moving in together for the first time, but her and her family are acting like I should be obligated to take him in with us, despite my objections.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VqVNP79Zg25bNi1Mu1x2rGiDoihV9UxU", "post_id": "a6mgw4", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my family Christmas? tl;dr at bottom", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my family Christmas? tl;dr at bottom", "text": "UPDATE: I talked to my grandpa and hes doing everything he can to keep my shithead father away. Called my grandmother this morning, however, and she's having lunch with my father. She doesn't know how to work speakerphone so she just repeated everything I said, including the time and date of our Christmas. I'm bringing my boyfriend with me and my brother isn't coming. If he shows up i'm either gonna explode or say nothing and just leave. I kinda wanna blow up at him but I think leaving without a word would be better for my relationship with my grandfather. \nA little background: I (20F) am in college, and my paternal grandparents have been helping me financially, like they do with all their grandchildren. My grandfather saved a ton of money for my schooling since I was born, and I'm very grateful . However, this was mostly my grandfather's doing (we love grandpa, he's the real OG). My grandmother is...a bitch. My mother and father were in a custody battle for eleven years, with four of us kids in the middle of it. When my father wanted to stop seeing us, my grandmother said she would stop giving him money if he stopped fighting for custody (my father is 52 and still depends on his parents. Nice). Half of the shit I went through (testifying against both my parents on abuse charges, emotional and physical abuse, etc) would have been preventable if my grandmother would have butted out.\n\nAnyway, so this Christmas I was planning on taking my brother (15M) to see my grandparents for Christmas. They live out of state and we don't see them more than four times a year, so we jump at any chance to see them. However, my grandmother wants to invite my father. I told her neither I or my brother was ready to see him (we haven't spoken in +3 years) and she replied with \"that's so disappointing.\"  I have a hunch that she's planning on inviting him anyway, no matter what time I decide to meet up with them.\n\nAITA for not wanting to see someone who physically, emotionally and verbally abused my mother, my two brothers, my sister, and I? And how do I tell my grandmother that if he shows up I'm leaving?\n\ntl;dr: grandma's a bitch, trying to force my brother and I to see abusive father at Christmas. We don't want to. AITA and what do I do??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X5x9FmZ6MscxphTZGD6fhYr8mksrYRw4", "post_id": "af9aey", "action": {"description": "not caring about my friend's significant other", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not caring about my friend's significant other?", "text": "I'm 14 in 8th grade, and my friend (we'll call her Olivia) recently got in a relationship with another one of my friends (we'll call him Ollie). They really do like each other, so it's pretty cool to see an actual relationship amongst all the bullshit in 8th grade. \n\nHowever, because they're really popular, whenever they so much as speak to each other, a crowd forms and start making a ton of noise. It's getting so bad that Olivia has started treating her classmates like fans, and it's so annoying. I'm sure it's unintentional, but it's still awful.\n\nAlso, because everyone r e a l l y cares about their relationship, Olivia feels the need to keep everyone updated. So, when she walks up to me in the hallway and immediately starts talking about Ollie and their relationship, I'm super annoyed. I honestly just wanna go home, so could you not? \n\nB U T , to be fair, the crowds aren't really their fault, Olivia is handling the best she can cause she's super introverted and Olivia only thinks I care because I'm too much of a pussy to tell her otherwise.\n\nTLDR: My friends started dating and now it's being unintentionally shoved down my throat. AITA for not caring about it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vDb4FheEv1V4XSYXbRFEURl9htAVWywe", "post_id": "b6znui", "action": {"description": "wanting to raise my kids away from my MIL", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for wanting to raise my kids away from my MIL?", "text": "My husband(32) and I(28) have been married for three years. Backstory my husband\u2019s mother had a stroke a few years ago and has no husband or anyone to share her life with so we try to fill in as much as possible. She is still almost 100% mobile. \n\nTo sum it up my husband works out of state during the week and we only get weekends to spend together and he spends at least half if not more of the weekend with her. I encourage it to an extent because she lives alone, though I resent it a bit as it deeply stresses him out but if he chooses to spend the whole weekend with me, she usually causes a blowout fight and does something irresponsible(she once bought a car she couldn\u2019t afford after they fought because he wanted a weekend to himself). God forbid we choose to vacation without her the world might end. We have given up multiple opportunities to do things because she would be very angry at him for spending his vacation time away doing something she couldn\u2019t do. She is very manipulative and will bring up how she\u2019s \u201cgoing to die soon\u201d whenever he wants to spend time without her. \n\nOur house is undergoing a remodel currently and when it\u2019s finished I want to bring up the idea of renting the house out for extra income and moving away. Not out of state just somewhere else. We\u2019ve discussed wanting to start a family soon and have expressed that we\u2019d like to have at least one child before I turn 30 or at least before he turns 35. \n\nThe thing is I find her to be a terrible mother/grandmother. My husband has two siblings both with 5 year old girls and she\u2019s constantly criticizing their parents decisions, disciplining the kids when it\u2019s not her place etcetc. She\u2019s also obviously very emotionally manipulative and she downright abused them all as children. His two sisters don\u2019t even really spend time around her and she makes it a very big deal that she\u2019s so sad about that. I know myself enough to know if she tried to pull the things she does with her daughters we would have a very bad relationship as I\u2019d easily fly off the handle if she tried to treat my children the way she treats her other grandkids. \n\nI feel as if she\u2019s guilting my husband into thinking he has to involve her in our lives and our future child\u2019s life because \u201ceveryone else abandoned her\u201d.  I want nothing to do with it, I feel like we need to start our own lives and she\u2019s preventing that. When she\u2019s spoken about us having children before she already has inserted herself further into the equation than I\u2019m comfortable with especially given that my family isn\u2019t as close I feel it would be unfair to my family to have her involved as deeply as she expects to be. My husband has expressed similar sentiments while frustrated with her but when it boils down to it I believe he will cave to her manipulative ways to avoid feeling guilt. \n\nWIBTA for suggesting I want our lives more separate from her and would like to raise our children without her involvement?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SbTYXZVcGFZsvui0BAbb7tP9GqGPqkBH", "post_id": "axh2qb", "action": {"description": "offering to cover a shift, being declined, and the next day they asked me to work and I declined", "pronormative_score": 112, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For offering to cover a shift, being declined, and the next day they asked me to work and I declined?", "text": "I went into work Saturday night and offered to take my friends shift the next night so that she could have it off. She responded with, \u201cno I should work it. I need the money.\u201d \n\nThe next day she proceeds to text me asking to work it but by that time I had made other plans and told her I could not work it anymore. She lost it on me, and ended the friendship, calling me untrustworthy and that I totally ruined her day. \n\nIf she had accepted when I offered I would have gladly worked her shift, but I felt that by declining my offer that it was understood I would not be working for her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 112, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 112, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xuRORW4w94587kLLnjEimvSplt6B6Aqn", "post_id": "b7bs6e", "action": {"description": "not doing work for my gf's mother", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not doing work for my gf\u2019s mother?", "text": "In the past I\u2019ve helped out my gf\u2019s mom with some of the more physical stuff around her house.  Shoveling her out all winter, moving stuff around her house, some repairs here and there.  I didn\u2019t mind at first, but it\u2019s become a more frequent thing and it\u2019s gotten annoying.  \n\nLast night I was drinking with my gf and I\u2019m guessing my gf thought I was drunker than I was because she sprung the latest job request on me.  Over this last winter several limbs of trees have fallen off into her mother\u2019s back yard.  Now that the snow is melted they want me to cut them up and take them further out into the woods.  I don\u2019t want to do that shit on my day off and told her basically that.  \n\nCome this morning my gf asks when I want to go over to her mother\u2019s.  I asked her what for and she tells me that I said I would go clear out the tree limbs from her backyard.  Trying to play it off like I agreed to it, she says later on during last night we talked about it again and I agreed to do it.  Bullshit.   She tried to talk me into it for a little while talking about how her mom can\u2019t do it and if I did she\u2019d cook us a nice meal.  My thoughts on it are she might not be able to do it, but she can hire someone who can.  Also she\u2019s a nice lady, but I\u2019m not a fan of her cooking.  It\u2019s always been a politely choke it down kinda thing, not really an incentive to go break my back over.  \n\nI guess my gf had already told her mother that I would do this and now she\u2019s PISSED that I\u2019m refusing to. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r2s6UvY8gHkTGpvsqxKxJbf0bzHC8vFn", "post_id": "b034h2", "action": {"description": "reacting harshly", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for reacting harshly?", "text": "I have a very close friend. We've known each other for about a year, but we were like brothers. We always fought about dumb stuff all the time, Android vs. iPhone, Mac vs. Windows, Iron Man vs. Captain America, etc. But every now and then, we had a serious fight. One of us would push the just the right button on the other one and we would both fire up, get super emotional, and insult each other in every way possible. We were both suspect, one of us wasn't better than the other. But about a month and a half ago, right after a huge fight, I grew tired of it and all the fights we'd had. I mean, everyone thinks they're right in an argument they'd just had. So I stopped pretending that these fights hadn't happened and going back to normal as we'd been doing. I just stopped being friends with him. At school, I completely ignored him (not that he reached out anyway) unless we were with our mutual friends, and even then, I only addressed him in a talk. Never by name. Same in any group chats. Recently, college results came back, and I @ him in a gc we were both in with people we both trust, asking him if he got in. He said he didn't and I said that sucks. Another person in the chat asked about another (somewhat decent) college, and he compared it to trash. I told him that he was being dumb for saying that, and because we were both still angry at each other, he told me that it was his choice and that I had no right to choose for him. I told him I agreed and that he could make any decision he wants, but that's not going to stop me from expressing support for this college. Because we were mad at each other, he elevated the argument saying \"no one asked for your fucking opinion\" and \"you shouldn't say anything at all.\" When I stated that I didn't ask him for his opinion about this college, he checked and made a mistake, so I took off the kiddie gloves and implied he was dumb for not getting into his college because I didn't like being told I had no right to speak. I know that was definitely a mistake, and it wasn't cool, but I was already emotional because of our previous fights. He was already saying stuff like \"Go suck your dad's dick motherfucker\" and as a high school junior that doesn't faze me at all, and I told him that he needs to be more sportive when given feedback (not about getting into college but being called dumb for trash talking a good college). That was when he took off the kiddie gloves and made fun of me for a really dark, ugly experience in my life a long time ago that only he knows about (so he not only make that joke but also revealed that info to everyone in the gc). He kept going with the jokes, and I didn't fire back, I just told him he was being disgusting for making multiple jokes on that matter in an argument about whether a college was good or not. The jokes he made hit hard and made me defensive, as well as the other people in the gc (who sided with me), but I'm not sure who is at fault here.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VJR8YWVlf3X4qmoKhbkucqijgiR2NCE1", "post_id": "awnhmg", "action": {"description": "not wanting to commute with my friend anymore", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to commute with my friend anymore?", "text": "My friend has been really attached to her music in a way that really grinds my gears. She blasts it so loud that you can hear it slightly from her headphones and she can't hear you at all. She gets upset when i suddenly disappear without telling her but shows indifference when she does time and time again even if i tell her that it annoys me. For example i left our art program for a few minutes to get lunch and she texted me a sad face even though she wouldnt be coming with me anyway. And she will just straight up leave me behind on multiple occasions *without notice* just because she wants to go home.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BeIS3Zpoj0YNhsOybo9UnFYdWI9Bmn1s", "post_id": "av0qqi", "action": {"description": "telling my new roommates that I want a poster in the bathroom taken down", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if i told my new roommates that I want a poster in the bathroom taken down?", "text": "I'm about to move to a new apartment in student accommodation and when I went there to have a first look at the place and bring some stuff before the real move, I noticed a couple of things that rubbed me the wrong way.\n\n​\n\nSo firstly and most importantly, as I had a look at the bathroom, I saw a poster that at first I thought was just some surfer poster, but then realized that while the woman on it has a top on, it's not covering any of her genitals. Then I realized that it's some playboy poster, and that is certainly not something that I'd enjoy looking at every time I go for a shower or to the toilet. \n\n​\n\nAlso I realized that the kitchen was pretty damn untidy. As in everything full of crumbs and dishes and the like. I'd be fine with a couple of plates lying around, but I would want the table to be somewhat clean and to have space to cook and clean my own stuff.  \n\n\nSo would I be the asshole if I told my new roommates that I want the poster down and the kitchen to be in a better shape as the first thing I say when meeting them? I don't want to botch the first impression, but these things do bug me quite a bit.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uVwcvcOyGQROsGXFMRjVSNYJMBVNOP8f", "post_id": "ax1tub", "action": {"description": "saying I was glad there are children with disabilities at my daughter's school", "pronormative_score": 34, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying I was glad there are children with disabilities at my daughter\u2019s school?", "text": "I was talking with a friend about our children\u2019s schools, and I mentioned one of the things I like about my daughter\u2019s preschool/kinder is that there are several students with disabilities, physical and/or mental. (sorry if my terminology in English is offensive, as I do not have a perfect grasp of the nuance. In our native language I used perfectly polite words for disability/handicap in this conversation.) I see that the children have designated helpers but otherwise are treated exactly the same as all children, expected to perform the same routine and participate in all the same activities, and generally seem to strike a great balance of being assisted without being discriminated against. I thought this was really cool of the school and teachers, and I expressed I was happy my daughter is attending such an environment where she can see and learn that just because people have different abilities, doesn\u2019t mean anything is wrong, and everyone should be treated equally.\n\nMy friend took immediate offense to this. She said in return something like, \u201cif you really respected disabled children and saw them as equals, you would not see their disabilities at all, and you would not even need to mention them being at the school as a \u2018good\u2019 thing because it would be just natural and not worthy to mention.\u201d \n\nI did not expect what I said to be taken as offensive, and I did not mean to say anything in a negative or discriminatory way. Was I wrong / AITA for thinking/expressing this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 34, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C52PuPxQD5szruoA2SE1OEpAXwcd8C8m", "post_id": "ab8jq8", "action": {"description": "reprimanding my Mother in Law", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for reprimanding my Mother in Law?", "text": "My wife's mother and little brother (8 y.o.) came to stay with us for the week. The first night was great and we all got along. The next morning she slept in until 11:00 am while the rest of the house, including her son, woke up around 7. I hung out with the boys (my son is 10) and made them breakfast and took them for a long walk to visit my wife at work to give her some time alone. I assumed she was just tired from her trip and didn't remember to ask if I would take him for the morning. during our morning together I noticed that little bro has a big cursing problem and will typically respond to surprise with an \"oh fuck\" like it came natural to him. When we got home from our walk the boys hung out with me and put together a model car at the dining room table. I ordered some dinner for the family and set the boys beds back up in the livingroom. The following morning was more of the same with her sleeping in without asking if it was okay to watch little brother. Wife was with the baby in the back of the house putting her down for a nap and I went to use the bathroom around 9:30 when I hear the boys stomping and screaming really loudly. I went out to reprimand them but my wife beat me to it and gave them both a good talking to. I asked her to go get MIL up to help with her child. She came out complaining and saying \"my son needs to be watched, what did you expect?\" she also claimed that my son taught her son to swear (after admitting the previous night that he had problems with cursing) then came the attitude for the rest of the day. She made lunch (with food I provided) and pointedly did not offer any to anyone but her son who was at the table with myself and my son. I tried to ignore it and made lunch for the rest of the house. After that she decided to go for a walk apparently and just left without saying a word to anyone and assuming I would just watch her son. (there was a general snotty attitude throughout the day and she would refuse to talk to me) When she got back I told her that we need her to be present and taking care of her son when he wakes up in the morning and I told her that I thought it was very rude to not offer my son and I some of the mac and cheese she made when we were in the same room. She tried to deflect everything and acted aloof like she had done nothing wrong so I told her that I need her to take responsibility for herself, her child and her actions when in our home. I reminded her that in our home we try to treat everyone with respect as well and if I offended her to please let me know so we can work it out. She said nothing and eventually went to bed. This morning my wife texted me and said that her brother woke up and was in the living room playing by himself and had broken her headphones. She looked and her mother was still sleeping in. When she told her mother that we had thought this was going to change she just replied \"oh xavierspapa is just being too sensitive\" I am going to send her to a motel for the remainder of her trip when I get home this evening. Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Oldriq1qNQTHZYW1UgJyNljtx5XudkbZ", "post_id": "aizc9r", "action": {"description": "breaking down and telling my 2 month old new born to shut up", "pronormative_score": 28, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking down and telling my 2 month old new born to shut up?", "text": "My wife and I are new parents. We have a two month old little girl that we love very much. The other morning at around 5:45 AM I began to change her diaper and clothes for the day. Our doctor has mentioned that our daughter has some seriously strong lungs, meaning she can really yell. As I\u2019m changing her she starts screaming at a 15/10 since I\u2019m mid diaper change I can\u2019t really pick her up and rock/soothe her so I remember something our pediatrician told us and that is if you get close to her ear and make a fairly loud Shhhhh.... sound it can trigger a calming reflex. I tried this 3-4 times to no avail. My last Shhh sort of turned in to Shhhhhhhhut up already. I didn\u2019t tell it just said it at normal talking volume. \n\nMy wife was pretty mad at me and accused me of cursing at my daughter. The way I see it is she can\u2019t understand me and it\u2019s not as if I yelled it. And since when is shut up a curse word. It may be a little rude but there are plenty of worse things to say. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 28, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1VLMpaEocqTibIdYAfp8NgutPy0KgG99", "post_id": "a5d19g", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend Christmas with my family", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to spend Christmas with my family?", "text": "So, my husband and I both come from divorced parents who have found new spouses that all live in the same city. We have a toddler and it's their first Christmas where they will really enjoy the concept of Santa and opening presents. \n\nIn the past, we have gone to all the grandparents houses, but this year we have been very firm of spending the day at our house. We announced this last year after spending the entire day driving to 5 different locations. We would only spend max 2 hours at each before we would have to pack up and head to the next house. \n\nIt's terribly awkward always being the last one to arrive and the first to leave. I feel like we always open presents and run. We have even opened invitation for everyone to come to our house, but only a couple of grandparents are taking us up on it. The others seem to be taking it personally. We understand that everyone has different schedules and know that we probably won't be able to see everyone on Christmas.\n\nI just want a nice relaxing Christmas day with my toddler and husband without devoting about 30% to travel.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uVw5sXTHfdEjGXunDEXSVh1AHJFEIYLY", "post_id": "aqq6zd", "action": {"description": "taking markers away from children", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for taking markers away from children?", "text": "I work in a government office and we have a cleaning crew who comes in after hours. We recently got a new crew and I have noticed that the dry erase markers I keep in a jar on my desk are always upside down, sometimes with the lids loose, when I get to my cube in the morning. So, I put them back the right way, but the next day, they\u2019re disturbed again. This has been going on every day for about a week.\n\nI don\u2019t use these markers often, but I need them about once a month to update our office\u2019s information board. I bought them with my own money as the state only provided black and brown markers.\n\nI think what is happening is the cleaning crew brings their children and allows them to use my markers to color while the crew works. The kids don\u2019t disturb anything else or color on my desk or state property.\n\nI feel like I would look like an asshole for moving the markers into a drawer since they aren\u2019t expensive and the kids don\u2019t seem to be destructive. At the same time, I don\u2019t want to have to buy new ones every other month because the kids leave the kids off or use them all up coloring their pages 5 days a week.\n\nWould I be the asshole for hiding them? Should I leave a note or is that even more of an asshole thing to do?\n\nThanks for reading.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MZY2aOZuQ5KkFUDPbYXfTyo9Pt81NeMC", "post_id": "anob4v", "action": {"description": "being tired of doing all the chores", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I'm tired of doing all the chores?", "text": "My husband and I have been together for 4 years and married for half a year. We started living together after a year of dating. From the start, I did all the chores. Laundry, dishes, groceries, cooking, cleaning. It made him happy and I felt glad to make his day easier. He was busy and so was I but he was so good at making his suffering known that I felt like he really needed me. He also has ADD and struggles with remembering and doing mundane tasks. After being \"the ideal wife\" for four years we now have a baby and I'm spread thin. He works full time and I'm in school full time. I don't enjoy the other chores but the one that I just hate and is really hard to do with the baby is take the dog out, especially at night. I just want him to do one thing but if I ask he gets mad. I don't know what to do.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uQnsOvQIXT4oA8T4kWFh4g6KdHZee7kl", "post_id": "9x6898", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed at my girlfriend when we go to the gym", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for getting annoyed at my girlfriend when we go to the gym?", "text": "My girlfriend and I have been going out since June last year and apart from the situation with my family and the restrictions I have on me, we have a good relationship.  \n\nAt the start of this year we signed up to a gym and it was going quite well for a while. Soon enough more and more people started coming at the same time as us and because she has some issues with anxiety, uncomfortable feeling towards and being scared of all boys, we started actually going to the gym less and less; opting to just hang at hers instead. This carried on off and on for a good few months, with us sometimes being able to use the gym instead of us driving away once we saw the parking lot having too many cars. Throughout this whole ordeal I admittedly have felt annoyance at the whole thing. Her reasoning being that she feels like everybody is watching her and that makes her really uncomfortable and what-not. I tried telling her that they're just doing their own thing, etc to which she replies that she knows that but her mind will still think that so she will still have that feeling. I generally accept that and usually we cancel gym for tonight and instead go to McDonalds to get her a frozen coke to make her happy and then just chill at her's until I gotta be home for my curfew. \n\nRecently we cancelled our membership with that gym and signed up to a new one that has much more space and is definitely better. We knew coming into this that the gym would be more busy as it's a more popular gym and what-not. Ever since we signed up almost two weeks ago now, the first couple nights since the membership we didn't enter because she saw quite a few people (mainly men) working out through the window so she couldn't enter at all whatsoever. That night I was like okay, I understand and drove off. The following night we managed to get out off the car and was about to swipe our cards to open the doors when she noped out and said she couldn't do it. I said \"really?\" A couple times because we were so, so close. She got quite upset with me for that and I tried to explain to her it's because we were so close and all she needed was just that one more step, but she wasn't having it. Shortly after I managed to convince her into trying again somehow, I am usually very shit with my words and mess things up but I succeeded this time. This time we got in and it was great.  \n\nFrom then on, we manage to get in the gym but we usually have to wait in the car until the person who just arrived gets in the gym before us, or any people outside enters/leaves and are out of the parking lot. I'm fine with this as it's just a minute or two thing, no drama there. It's just to further elaborate on how she is. \n\nWhen we're in the gym we typically do five mins of cardio and use that time to gauge how many people are leaving/entering the gym and whatnot, and to give the area we want to go to that little bit more time just to see if the people in there leaves within that time frame. If they don't, we either go to the weight room where all the heavy weights and machines are and sorta work out there half-assed, not really amounting to anything. Last night when we went, and a couple of times actually, she expressed that she feels uncomfortable and that she wants to go/sit in the car and that just makes me feel disappointed because I want to work out with her, and annoyed because I know and she knows nobody is looking at her but she just can't get her mind to think that too. Sure every now and then people look around and look for a few seconds but that's nothing (to me), to her that's uncomfortable and I understand why.  \n\nTo sum it up, would I be the arsehole for feeling annoyed/disappointed at my girlfriend? It's been happening for over half a year and admittedly neither of us have made progress besides me being able to do one pull up now. I feel as if we're not getting the best out of the gym because of how she feels during these times. She expressed many times she wants a big butt and to not be skinny as hell and whatnot, but she's also letting herself halt her progress, we both believe that she needs more confidence as that's a big thing that she's lacking (she said) and I agree. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "e3CumhKcYAdz9ZXUSYMxOOsDvrZ1MRTv", "post_id": "ayj38e", "action": null, "title": "AITA when my mom and I get in fights?", "text": "Whenever we get into little arguments, sometimes I mumble how unnecessary it is and then my mom goes \"what did you just say?\" And then threatens to take away all my personal belongings like my computer and phone. I recently got a haircut and ngl the lady did kind of a horrible job and one side of my hair is longer than the other with at least an inch difference. I told my mom this and she started yelling \"no ones gonna tell why do you always complain?!\" And I talk back at her saying it just makes me self conscious that my hair's jacked up. This was in the car and she said she was going to drop me off at a random street. She didn't go along with it though and she just took a U-turn.\n\nI regret some things I say when I argue with my mom but it's from the top of my head and when I tell her that I'm sorry she continues to yell at me. I usually lock myself in the bathroom or my room and try to hit the wall as hardest as I can to relieve my anger (which I do on impulse and idk if that bad). My mom tries her hardest to just make me feel like an asshole. For example, minutes after an argument she runs upstairs and yells at me on why i don't deserve anything and tries to state her counterarguments after the argument which is super awkward and I tell her that but it gets her even madder.\n\nI feel like I can't even talk back to my mom without her yelling at me about how I'm so disrespectful and ungrateful etc. \n\nAita?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vPXsmnMrlnPC4v4OsHSPqFc9AQbNmpfu", "post_id": "9zimlg", "action": {"description": "kicking out our bassist from the band", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking out our bassist from the band?", "text": "AITA? \nSo here's the backstory:\n\nI play in a band, and we've playing together for a year now. We are a four member group, a drum plateyer, the lead singer, the bassist and me (the guitar player)\n\nOur songs are mostly written by me and the singer, but sometimes the bassist will write some too.\n\nWe haven't recorded any albums yet, but we have a few songs recorded semi-profesionaly.\n\nThe bassist claims he is the most talented member of our band (he isn't) and says that he should get more royalties from our shows at bat's and clubs.\n\nWe said that it would be unfair, since each member gets %25 of the royalties\n\nHe threaten to break my guitar more than once, because he says I don't know how to play the guitar correctly (I do know how to play it. I've played since I was 10)\n\nOn Saturday, we had a show on a bar called Morty's. We played a few songs and then we got payed and left, but the bassist says we played horrible and damaged his reputation. He says that we will never be able to play profesionaly, because we give him a bad image, so I kicked him out. The other band members haven't said anything about it.\n\nYesterday, he sent me a text message saying that he's sorry and that he won't do it again, but that's what he said last time we confronted him for dissing our drum player \n\nTL;DR: I kicked our bassist because I thought he was being a prick", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TJ2F7AlcQkAizmqRkF4TvtyTJ3IzOQs6", "post_id": "b95cgx", "action": {"description": "not checking on my friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not checking on my friend?", "text": "Alright, story time. I've been friends with this girl (Who I will refer to as \"F\" for friend)  for about one and a half years. F hangs out with our group of friends often, but usually drifts off to other people to do her own thing for random amounts of time. We're all fine with that, and continue on with our lives without worry.\n\n​\n\nRecently (In the span of the past week and a half), she hasn't really talked and/or made contact with any of the people of our group. This was usual, so I figured she was just busy, or wanted to hang out with others for a bit. We see each other often through the day, and this is the conversation I had.\n\n​\n\nF: \\*Groans, setting down her drawing pencil\\*\n\nMe: Is that an annoyed groan or angry groan?\n\nF: Annoyed. But I don't see why you care anyway!\n\n\\*There was a few beats of silence, trying to figure out what she meant.\\*\n\nMe: You've been avoiding our friend group for like, about two weeks. We all figured you were hanging out with \\*Other friend\\* and \\*other friend.\\*\n\nF: Well MAYBE you should have asked me why!\n\n​\n\nAt that point, I was just confused. We both went home a minute or two after, and neither of us made an attempt to speak to each other. Keep in mind I have high-functioning autism, so social situations like this are a major, confusing problem for me to deal with.  \n\n​\n\nShould I have done something earlier? Should I have asked her what was wrong? What should I say when I see her tomorrow? Am I being an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qq9oA6M9mKIWOjb4uUGLLESOup3C2j3H", "post_id": "anto4i", "action": {"description": "overstepping leadership boundaries of a female coworker", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for overstepping leadership boundaries of a female coworker?", "text": "Context, we work as ski patrollers at a ski resort, meaning we are directly in charge of every person on the hill, the safety of ourselves, staff, and guests. What decisions we make directly affect how guests can utilize the public space and ensure thier safety while enjoying the outdoors.\n\nThere are 3 leadership roles here, our hill captain (runs the entire patrol for the day) 2 side captains (mountain is split into 2 sections, so they are in charge of the crew for thier side) and then the line patroller who are in charge of closing trails, maintenance, etc.\n\nOur side captain suffered an injury and will be out for the remainder of the season, so a newer patroller (the female in question) was promoted and given the chance to lead. She is a paramedic (however she teaches EMT's more than she works in a rig so I've noticed her practical skills aren't as sharp as they should be) and she is about 2x my age. I however have spent 9 years working here as a patroller so I know how things flow,  what to do and when (basically have 7 more years of practical experience at this mountain than she does).\n\nShe showed up late for our shift so I took it upon myself to make sure we could properly open the mountain for guests as it had been more than 30 minutes past the proper opening time and our side of the mountain was still partially closed with crowds growing at the base. I delegated our other patrollers on what needed to be completed (trail sweeps, hang bamboo, basic ski patrol stuff) and sent them off to go get the mountain open and lessen the chance of a major accident.\n\nShe finally arrived at the patrol shack almost 45 minutes late and questioned where everyone was. I told her what had happened and that we were getting pressed to open more terrain because it was becoming a safety hazard and she blew a gasket. Saying things like \"I don't take orders from you.\" \"You're not my boss.\" \"I was given this position not you.\" Etc. Etc.\n\nI tried to explain myself and state that things were not safe. Yet she continued down the road of anger. At lunch time our hill captain pulled me off the hill to have a chat because of how upset she was. I explained my side of the story and then she barged in trying to take over the conversation. The hill captain then took her side  because I was never able to properly explain myself. As a result he decided I was in the wrong because he was the one that put her in charge. He told me to pack my gear and head home.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dTLqd24lbHSzTC1MktKWIGvKzmMecbAi", "post_id": "aubn8c", "action": {"description": "kicking out my creepy roommate so my best friend can move in", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for kicking out my creepy roommate so my best friend can move in?", "text": "I'm 22M and need your help deciding what to do. \n\nSo last year my girlfriend moved out of the house I rent and to help my coworker who needed a place to stay, I let him move in in my 3rd bedroom. My 5yo son also stays over 3 nights a week so my coworker just pays for the room, not half of the rent.\nNow the problem is he's creepy and bothering me, I don't feel comfortable in my own house anymore. He's 35yo and really weird. As mean as that sounds, I just want him out of the house. He doesn't give me any personal space, he uses my dishes and stuff and just stacks them in his room, plays music way too loud. He eats my and my sons food and uses all of my stuff since he barely owns anything. The word at work is he did too many drugs back in the day and it shows. He brings up hard drugs at basically any occasion we hang out, which is every single time my friends come over. He laughs to himself at 3am just starring at the floor, talks to himself and his stuffed animals that he sees as his family. I'm legit scared and don't do things I used to do like just playing video games in the living room. \n\nNow my best friend who usually comes over daily afyer work needs a place to stay too, I want him to move in. I feel bad for telling my roommate he has to leave, but I feel like for my own well being it's appropriate. He has no money saved up and nowhere to go so I feel like I'd make him homeless. We never talked about for how long he'll stay, but for me it seemed like it'd only be a couple months, till he figures his stuff out.\nMy best friend also works with us, so my roommate would definitely know that he moved in.\n\nEveryone I tell about this says I can't do that and it wouldn't be fair. I don't wanna tell them the things he does, bc I don't wanna talk bad about him, in the end he's a nice guy. I didn't bring it up to him yet, just gave hints he should start looking for an apartment, which he's not actually doing. \n\nAITA for kicking him out? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VBG46gw20pNo2OgIyTF3HEjWbXLv9RSn", "post_id": "aytrol", "action": {"description": "asking to get my tips back from this waitress", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "AITA for asking to get my tips back from this waitress?", "text": "Hey guys, \n\nI was thinking about this the other day after having read through this sub, and I've always considered myself to not be an asshole, but I'm beginning to wonder if I was an asshole in this particular situation. It happened a few years back. \n\nI went to a diner that I frequent quite often, and the waitress (we will call her... Fred, I don't know.) and I had struck up a decent rapport after a few visits. She was cute, funny and very.... clumsy? But in a good way. She would always say things like, \"god, I'm so dumb! Sorry, sorry!\"\n\nSo, I always give a good tip, but I thought I would tip more than usual on this one occasion because we had a pretty decent conversation and it had been a good day at work (for once!)Basically -- the conversation in question went like this (I'm \"John\"):\n\nMe: \"Here's uh, here's a little something extra for you to... you know, sweeten the pot.\"\n\n\\*\\*yes, I'm awkward as fuck\\*\\*\n\nFred: \"Ha, thank you John. You're spoiling me.\"\n\nMe: \"Well, you know. You do great service, seriously.\"\n\nFred: \"Thank you.\"\n\nMe \"Anyway I was thinking uh, since maybe we have known eachother for, you know, over a week. I was thinking that maybe we could go like.. on a date. Together, like... water slide or something. You like those?\"\n\nFred: \"Oh you know what... I'm really sorry John. I thought you knew? I have a boyfriend.\"\n\nMe: \"You have a boyfriend? You gotta be kidding me. Why didn't you say something? I've beeen coming here for over a week.\"\n\nFred: \"I just thought you knew.\"\n\nMe: \"Well you're not wearing a sign. That's ridiculous. I want my money back. My tip money\"\n\nFred: \"What? You're kidding, right?\"\n\nMe: \"No. I gave you a lot more tips than... somebody I wasn't interested in. I think at least part of that tip money is mine.\"\n\nFred: \"You HAVE to be kidding me. That's just ridiculous.\"\n\nMe: \"How come you're not dumb anymore?\"\n\n\\----\n\nAt this point, I just pretty much left to go sulk somewhere. I know some of my behavior was wrong, but I can't shake the fact that she was playing a \"dumb\" act all along and took advantage to some degree.\n\nAnyway -- let me know what you think so I can stop having flashbacks of this awkward moment and wondering where to go from here. \n\n​\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "r5hjl8YGj6BGcNmXs0xco14D15HELrrE", "post_id": "a7cgcf", "action": {"description": "not joining my parents at their holiday church service", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn\u2019t join my parents at their holiday church service?", "text": "They\u2019ve invited me and expressed that they want me to go; however, it\u2019s really not my thing. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ScsdDitRNiQKFcRVBQfo0eGbGnUtoEwn", "post_id": "asog69", "action": {"description": "not wanting to loan my bed to a random subleaser", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to loan my bed to a random subleaser?", "text": "I'm trying to sublet my room inna few months and one of my current roommates is adamant about meeting and approving whoever I find first before they move in, which is fine since they'll have to live with the person.\nSo she posted an ad with info and got a reply from someone.\nShe texts me yesterday and asks me if I'm leaving my bed over the summer,\nI said no I'm taking all my stuff with me\nRoommate: I found someone but they need a bed\nMe: I'm not comfortable with that\nRoommate: And if I can't find anyone else to sublease?\nMe: you'll have a lot of responses dont worry\nRoommate: No not at all.\nAt this point I asked when she posted the ad, she never answered that, turns out she posted it yesterday and this is the first person to respond.\nMe: I'm not loaning my bed to a stranger\nRoommate: Mattress covers are a thing. But that's fine.\nShe told me to post an ad too so I posted 3.\nSaid roommate wants to approve and meet anyone I find, but wanted me to just give up my bed for 3 months to a person who's name she didnt even tell me, then proceeded to get short with me when I said no. Am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9L92oc9THcXMVhD9PqPOZFbS4dEw8PW3", "post_id": "ao50un", "action": {"description": "walking away from my potential employer", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for walking away from my potential employer?", "text": "I live in NYC and work as a free lance artist but usually need a day job to supplement my income. I had been having a lot of trouble locking anything down, mainly searching for part time administrative roles, but not ruling out full time because my freelance gigs have been getting harder as I get older. Late nights, etc. \n\nAnyway, I happened to mention my job search to a woman I am instagram friends with and had met once before randomly in the corner store near my house. She said she is looking for someone, a role that plays many hats and to forward my resume. Thinking this could be an awesome opportunity to work with someone I seemed to have a lot in common with I jumped at it. When I met with her for an interview she asked what I expected for salary and I\u2019ll be honest I undersold myself a lot, being pretty new to personal assistant type role at the level she was describing. She almost changed the subject and said the first month I worked would be a trial month and I\u2019d be paid under the table. Being desperate and giving her the benefit of the doubt without pressing hard numbers I agreed to show up the next week for work.\n\nCut to this Monday and I start working with her. She is an entrepreneur and is very eccentric so I tried to write off any weirdness to that, but by day one she had me scrambling with 15 different tasks, every minute asking me to stop to write down another. It started to become obvious that her thinking and behavior was almost manic. When out in public she had no regard for other people\u2019s social cues or couldn\u2019t read them at all. She said overtly racist things about people she worked with and random people on the street. She was overly nice to me and buying me gifts when we went on shopping errands and making promises of trips to Miami etc. I was doing the job to the best of my ability but I couldn\u2019t shake the feeling that something was up with this person. \n\nSo yesterday after working a 10 hour day, running all over the city for her, selling items out of her apartment over craigslist and OfferUp. (She planned to turn her apartment into a photo studio rental space which she told me I would be in charge of booking and could take commission from. I\u2019m not sure this is legal.) she casually mentions that I\u2019m an unpaid intern. I stop and she says yes I assumed you knew this would be unpaid the first month and after that I will pay between 1000$-2000$ a month. All of this expecting me to work full time and emailing and texting me with work tasks as late as 2am I\u2019m the morning. And running this supposed business out of her home.\n\nAfter talking it over with my boyfriend, whom is very business savvy and got mad for me at the fact that he felt I was being taken advantage of, I responded to her 2am work request saying this isn\u2019t what I thought it was. I am worth more and need more to survive and calmly resigned.\n\nShe acted surprised by my text but said okay and agreed to leave things I had left in her apartment at the front desk. I don\u2019t know I guess I think I did the right thing, but I want to know if anyone thinks I jumped the gun. \n\nTd;lr woman expects me to work full time for free and then way less than minimum wage. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "q7bXd415txqeNIIfSeBrHbxrNZArx0h4", "post_id": "b53fbc", "action": {"description": "asking why you mad at me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking why you mad at me?", "text": "I m crossposting this from gaslighting as i need an honest answer\n\nI have been friends with this girl for a long time. - strictly platonic. She often used to make cutting remarks and i kind of used to ignore or laugh it off mostly. In the recent past the following things have happened when we hung out together\n\n1 . She is extremely rude to me for simple things. Eg. hey do u want to get coffee? I ll get it when i want it\n\nWe were outside and i mentioned- hey wait here for a minute let me check if the uber came to the other side of the street. When i came back she had a huge meltdown stating why i left her in middle of street in front of a hotel. Dont you have common sense etc\n3 i asked why are you mad at me. What did i do wrong? - response- don\u2019t be a girl and get all emotional now\n\nWhen i asked why are you rude? Response- i ll stop talking . You are accusing me of being rude\nThere are a bunch of other things like this. I really try to tiptoe around and not get into any confrontation. I try to be nice always.\n\nBut i am not sure if it will make it better.\n\nShe is my best friend and I deeply care about her and don\u2019t want to destroy the friendship.\n\nI came across this term after searching for what to do when some one is rude to you and came across this sub\n\nCreated a throwaway accounts so that this doesnt come back to anyone\n\nIs there any fix for this. I have tried to go as non confrontational as possible but still it comes back. If i let her make decisions she says you cant decide for your self. Grown man acting like a girl . I am 35 years old.\n\nPlease help me", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OHC3OWRIsB8Jh8YeIsoAfEvIf2bxrn2H", "post_id": "avfq2z", "action": {"description": "not attending a christening", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not attending a christening?", "text": "My (37F) husband's (34M) friends (Mark/Sarah) are hosting a baptism for their baby. We don't see them often - a few times/year, usually at Christmas and may one other time. It was more often - monthly? - but since they were married in 2014 Mark has kinda dropped off the radar. Sarah is very much a \"Princess\" and very spoiled. She and I literally have NOTHING in common. Mark is a total braggart and always needs to one-up his friends.The last time we went to their home for dinner (to meet the baby when he was a few months old) I reached my boiling point and ended up getting into a disagreement (not heated) with Mark over how he was disciplining his dog (I run a dog rescue and he was shocking him with a shock collar on a remote and as a result the dog, whom he's raised since a puppy and is happy to tell you how BRILLIANT he is, was now a totally unhinged lunatic. He also flicked the tips of his ears if he didn't listen to him and the dog was visibly afraid of him. He calls it \"respect\"). I told my husband that I didn't want to go to their home anymore to listen to him brag about his house/cooking/baby/what-have-you and watch him abuse his dog. If he wanted to get together elsewhere like a restaurant, fine. Husband has been out him once or twice since for a guys' night with a handful of friends.\n\nWe are very child-free by choice. I dislike children pretty strongly and prefer not to be around them if I can avoid it. There are also no children in his family or mine so it hasn't been an issue.\n\nHusband saw Mark recently at a guys' night and we were invited to their baby's upcoming christening. UGH. Between Mark's stag and their wedding we've easily given them $1,000 in cash just for those two events. Their culture is very 'cash only' when it comes to these events.\n\nI don't want to go. They're all Catholic and I'm an atheist and am strongly against organized religion and the Catholic church in general.\n\nI told my husband I didn't want to go, but he's welcome to. He can say I already have plans that day. He has said he has no interest in going, but probably will \"out of obligation\". He said \"if you don't go that's fine, but it will look really bad\". I said, \"to who?\" and he couldn't answer. To them? Who cares? To their families? Literal strangers to me. I told him it's time to stop doing these things (like becoming someone's godparent for no other reason than to give them cash gifts at Christmas, their bday and Easter - WTF?) out of obligation. I stopped doing that shit years ago. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7Fc4hXhxDxyJ2GXNuIp6Ebh0W7iLsWeE", "post_id": "b5izgn", "action": null, "title": "AITA fir getting banned from a Trans subreddit for saying non dysphoric people couldn\u2019t be trans?", "text": "So here\u2019s the run down, I was a subreddit dedicated to mainly trans memes that I stumbled across, I saw the link and clicked on it out of curiosity. Some of the memes were harmless and pretty supportive until I came across one saying that said that non dysphoric (people already satisfied with their gender) people could be trans. I was kind of angered by this for the reason that this will actually lead to the person becoming dysphoric and that it makes being trans sound like a trend or a choice. So me and this one person start chatting and we\u2019re both pretty annoyed. So then I receive a message saying I got banned from the sub and that the other guys account was deleted. \n\nAm I the asshole here. They marked me down as Rule 1 which is against bigotry. I don\u2019t honk I was being a bigot as I was trying to support the actual trans community, not people trying to tarnish its name as a trend and ruin the lives of actual trans people.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "AIZxVOT4CoTtp4fR3fjdNLZ6xYLnjJXA", "post_id": "b3snxv", "action": {"description": "making my friend hate me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for making my friend hate me?", "text": "So recently my friend with social anxiety had started acting very rude towards me and made it clear we are not friends and that she hates me. This happened because a girl was being quite a cunt towards her and she called her a bitch, and for some reason I sent that screenshot to her. She hates me to death and I want to make it clear I have no interest in hanging out with her anymore but as I was about to tell her I thought, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "pZb7Pg9vzthN1GRMXtpcgqlr6evXXWod", "post_id": "axokak", "action": {"description": "booking a study room to watch my favourite show", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for booking a study room to watch my favourite show?", "text": "Ok, I actually have not done this yet, but I was thinking about doing so.\n\nI do get it that the study rooms are there for people to study but I can never find any space for watching Game of Thrones on campus between classes. Study rooms are generally quiet and you do have the privacy in there to do whatever you want. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "GO9r44whxyFf9TL9XeG6aehj4FnVf2VE", "post_id": "9vhzk5", "action": {"description": "complaining about having to wait too long for my food", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for complaining about having to wait too long for my food?", "text": "I called a local restaurant around 3PM to order fish & chips for take out at 6:40PM the same day. They take my order and we end the call.\n\nI arrive at 6:35PM, pay, and sit down. I notice these 2 guys sitting off to the side and it seems like they're waiting for take out too.\n\nAround 6:40, the staff hands these guys their orders. Once they leave, I ask an employee if they had called in as well. They hadn't. This began a discussion between the employee and myself as to why they got their food before me.\n\nI said to the employee, \"If I call for pickup at 6:40, shouldn't my food be ready by 6:40?\"\n\nShe responds by telling me that they have to serve the customers already in shop.\n\nI ask why they couldn't have timed the cooking so that my food is ready by the time I specify and still serve customers in shop.\n\nShe says that they don't want to cook the food too early so it doesn't get soggy.\n\nI respond by saying that if the food was ready by 6:40 and I were to arrive at 6:50 to soggy food, that would be my problem.\n\nShe then responds with \"That's just how we do it. That's how the boss does it.\"\n\nUnfortunately the boss wasn't there so I didn't get a chance to ask them about this.\n\nTo me, this is about principle. If I were to make a reservation over the phone, I would expect the table ready for me. Serving customers who arrived in person before me is not a reasonable excuse. This is the same thing.\n\nThis discussion went on for about 10 minutes, during which, a stranger said \"Are you serious?\"\n\nSo AITA for talking to the employee for 10 minutes trying to understand their business practices?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VUav6nxXObQqCK2Dy8NKKGLXNrCIDXpR", "post_id": "ay6oi1", "action": {"description": "not making my girlfriend a drink", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not making my girlfriend a drink?", "text": "I come home from a 12 hour shift and my girlfriend has been drinking whilst packing for a trip to Helsinki tomorrow. \nShe\u2019s already a bottle of whiskey down so I ask where mine is.\nI\u2019m told to go to the shop to get some, which I do and we share.\nShe has to be up to drive to the airport early tomorrow (I don\u2019t she\u2019s going with family) so come midnight I make myself a drink and not her as she\u2019s to be up early and in good enough condition to drive.\nShe huffs and goes to sleep, already drunk, because I didn\u2019t make her a drink.\n\nSurely I did the right thing. She didn\u2019t need another drink and I\u2019d have been irresponsible to make her one... right!?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7UkC8ad6WDpqpZL6pDhcLWPPl3Jv4ic5", "post_id": "ak4rhe", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go down on my gf", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Not Wanting to Go Down on My GF?", "text": "We are both 22, been dating for 9 months. We have a pretty good sex life, I think LOL. I basically do everything she wants except for going down on her, after we first started dating and hooking up a bit she asked for it and I just flat out said I'm not into going down on girls. I've done it once before on an Ex and I didn't like it at all. She was disappointed but I can finish her off through actual sex so she was fine with it but still disappointed. Now my gf's vagina is perfect, great looking normal smelling etc. But I just can't do it lol, she does go down on me a lot but she loves doing it and if she wanted to stop I would be fine with that. \n\n​\n\nWe were at her sisters house who's 30, last night and my GF went to the washroom and her sister started berating me about not going down on her ( her sister is a lesbian). Saying that she goes down on me so I have to go down on her, and that I'm not a real man and I'm a immature asshole. Also equating this to abuse somehow lol, I just said I don't want to do it, if she wanted to stop blowing me that would be fine and I wouldn't care. \n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cEMPYHv48Nh3URf41Qpy3KR769x8Txut", "post_id": "atqz78", "action": {"description": "naming my cat Token", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: I named my cat Token", "text": "A few years back I adopted a cat and I thought a really cute name was \"Token\".  I understood there can be a negative connotation associated with that but I really just thought it was a cute name for a cat.  I even hung an arcade game token on his collar.\n\nI had multiple friends or people that I work with me kind of indirectly question the name or bring it up randomly... like I would be with a large group and mention my cat and someone who definitely knew the name would be like \"Oh, what was your cats name again?\".\n\nI really just thought it was a cute name and with the actual token hanging from his collar I thought it was kind of cool... but I ended up just being hesitant to tell anyone his name and wishing I had never named him that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XV7Kr25Cg1TM7GtYXTiaXvb29W7J3asp", "post_id": "aypaa3", "action": {"description": "not wanting to lend my brother my car", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to lend my brother my car", "text": "My brother is getting his car detailed and wants to take my car for the weekend.\nIt so happens that my mother is flying out the same weekend.\nIm younger than him.\nAITA????", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NTZYCUI5XSLi7nmdcrBB7UwJKRd5RMgf", "post_id": "ackc8b", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay my ex money I \"owned\" her", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay my ex money i \"owned\" her?", "text": "First a bit of background. \n\n2 years ago my ex and i decided to go on vacations to another continent, to visit several places and countries on a spawn a month. \n\nWe were living together at that point, buying several stuff for the apartment, form forniture to electrodomestics, you know, the usual \"new couple living together\" stuff.\n\nMoving forward, as the date for the trip draw closer, she asked for a loan on her bank (since her interest rate was lower), and divided the money in half (4.000$ each) to cover the expenses of the trip (Hostels, food, bus tickets, plane tickets, souvenirs, etc) \n\nBad fortune wanted that my visa for travel had troubles and about 2 weeks before the trip i had to buy another plane ticket with another route and again, she paid for it with her credit card (900$).\n\nNow, a week before the date for the vacations, i found out that she was cheating on me so i took some clothes and left that same night. \n\nThe very next day she called me angry demanding some money that i owned for the \"expenses of the month\", saying that it was $400, when i asked for a clarification, the total amount was only for $150 (i paid those 150$). \n\nThat same day she started demanding the total amount for the second ticket (900$) and i told her to go f*** herself. \n\nThe next day, i went to the house to finish pack my stuff and when i checked the laptop, she had talked with customer service and they refund her 750$ of the total of the ticket, checked the time of the conversation and it was right after she called me demanding the full amount. (She knew she was gonna get refunded 750$ and then called me asking for the total amount $900) \n\nWith the money i was gonna use for the vacations i rented an empty apartment, and had to buy everything, from toilet paper to a mattress. \n\nOnce she left for the trip (i didnt travel, she did) i went full Sherlock Holmes mode and found that she was cheating on me for a few months, with several people (4 with hard evidence, several more just speculative)\n\nTl;Dr\u00a0 i found out that my ex cheated on me a week before a big vacations we had over a year planning, left her with all the stuff we bought together she tried to scam me with money twice, and found out that she had cheated for more that a year with several people.\n\nSo, am i an asshole for not planning to pay her any of the money from the loans? Even thought i left her with all the stuff we buyed while living together?\n\nThere are some more details about the way she acted after i left her if you guys want them, but those are the major ones involving money.\n\nAnd im not from the US, so the numbers are just some aproximated convertions", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eJKgmon1UBojVqSoCQUiqdBIW1aLLApa", "post_id": "afg08c", "action": {"description": "missing my close friend's birthday celebration", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for missing my close friend\u2019s birthday celebration", "text": "Excuse my formatting and grammar I\u2019m on mobile. Long time listener and first time poster\n \n \nI [20F] have been friends with Maggie [22F] (not her real name but for the purpose of this post) since high school and have grown very close over the years. I can honestly tell her anything. Long story short, her birthday was this past December and she planned a small party with a mix of friends and family and I flaked last minute.\n \nHer birthday happens to fall on a Tuesday but we made plans to celebrate on Saturday. I\u2019m usually free on Saturdays but that following day I have work early in the morning. During the week we also celebrated going into her birthday by going out to grab a drink and the next day a little gathering with family.\n \nI whole-heartily wanted to attend the Saturday celebration and actually looking forward to it over the course of the week but when the time came I just didn\u2019t want to go. I totally understand that was a pretty douche move on my part and I definitely apologized about it later but now she won\u2019t talk to me and essentially ghosted me.\n\nTL;DR My friend had a birthday celebration on Saturday that I flaked but was present at the previous celebration on the actual day of her birthday and now she refuses to talk to me. Am I  the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IY5thRKyFgIhlxuz6ATiiFgUjURlX6u6", "post_id": "au5iod", "action": {"description": "saying that my friends comment about me was heterophobic", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for saying that my friends comment about me was heterophobic", "text": "(On mobile sorry) \n\nSo a lot of my friends are part of the LGBT community which I am completely fine with. I\u2019m in this group chat with some of my friends and I mention something along the lines of \u201cboy I like, I want a boyfriend, etc\u201d (I\u2019m a female btw) and they start saying things like \u201cOmg hetero\u201d and \u201cImagine being straight... cant relate\u201d and \u201cwe don\u2019t want your straight people problems\u201d. I ended up replying back \u201cguys that\u2019s pretty heterophobic\u201d and they immediately start yelling at me saying \u201cTHATS NOT A REAL THING!!\u201d \u201cYOU DON\u2019T KNOW OUR STRUGGLES!!\u201d Which is true, and I fully acknowledge and understand that but I fell like if it were reversed and I was saying things like \u201cimagine being gay... can\u2019t relate\u201d to them I would sound like a complete asshole, yet when you\u2019re allowed to make fun of someone who\u2019s straight it\u2019s completely fine?\n\nI feel like they\u2019re being assholes to me but AITA for saying that they\u2019re comments about me were heterophobic? \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UfblRenFrJ6H5OL1B8bKPCWAZ10AU85t", "post_id": "ac6nc3", "action": {"description": "calling out two people for doing the \"chat and cut?\"", "pronormative_score": 36, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling out two people for doing the \"chat and cut?\"", "text": "I was waiting in line at a dining hall with a very high-demand daily special, made-to-order burritos. Of course, because each burrito was custom, the line was significantly longer than usual. Directly in front of me was a guy standing alone. About five minutes into my wait, maybe a third of the way through the line, a girl appears, stops, looks around the cafeteria, spots the guy in front of me, and quickly rushes up to him with the classic \"Oh my gosh, how are you?\" and then proceeds to cut at least 10 students. She had obviously just gotten to the dining hall because of how she greeted the guy in front of me; it wasn't like she was already there and asked someone to hold her place in line.\n\nHaving just seen [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vd7XO18qxJg) scene from Curb Your Enthusiasm, I immediately realized that I was falling victim to the dreaded \"chat and cut\" and became infuriated. Admittedly, I was hungry, so I called her out. Here's how our interaction went:\n\n>Me, maybe a little louder than I should have been: \"Yeah, I'm not going to pretend like you didn't just cut all of us in line. So I'm going to have to ask you to the back\"\n\n>Her: \"Excuse me?\"\n\n>Her friend, sarcastically: \"Wow, I hope you just have a great day\"\n\n>Me, done with this: \"Thanks, I will\"\n\nAnd with that, they moved to the back of the line. I didn't see or hear any reactions from anyone around us, but my friend called me out later for what he thought was a dick move. Was I justified?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 35, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 36, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Nmbi6oyuAI4sQbXnAJ9rGLxufs5gTTPI", "post_id": "b3xp5o", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Mother moved in, won't help pay any bills.", "text": "Hello Reddit, I need your help. When my parents got divorced I moved with my mom to her parents house. That was 2007. My grandparents let us live there for many years without paying rent. About four years ago my grandfather became bed-ridden and my grandmother had a stroke. My mom ended up taking care of them for a while but eventually it became too much and she was losing it. I lived in the basement and for the longest time 2011-2014 didn't do right by anyone or help at all. I was caught up in smoking pot, barely working, and caught in a trap.\n\n​\n\nOne day I met my current girlfriend and everything changed. Before I knew it I was out on my own, I had a steady job, and I was saving money too. To do so I had to leave my mom and my little brother (six years old at the time, born to her and her ex-boyfriend). \n\n​\n\nShe always talked about getting out and wanting to get out on her own but never was able to work being that she was taking full time care of my grandparents. I would come back to my grandparents and give her money, try and point her in the right direction.\n\n​\n\nWell as time passed nothing worked, she made it seem like she couldn't do it without help and so I decided I would rent a much larger place and have them move in with me. \n\n​\n\nI also paid for an attorney to take defend her against my little brother's deadbeat father. I also bought her a car and have been paying into it more and more as time goes to get it safe and functional.\n\n​\n\nAll of this was under the assumption that she would help me pay to live here. Well nine months have passed and the arguments are becoming more and more frequent. She works a part time job, smokes a pack a day ($5), and sits on the Facebook everyday after work. It has gotten to the point where I am begging her to help me pay bills and she says things like \"You said you could afford this place on your own.\", \"I told you I would help you!\", \"I am leaving I am not talking to you anymore...\" My little brother is in the middle of this ridiculous situation where I cannot for the life of me get her to jump start her own independence. \n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for insisting that she contribute? She must think that I will just always be a jerk about her contributing but right now all I am asking is for 10% of the bills. Which is just $100. I have spent $10,000 on improving her situation and I get screamed at and disrespected for asking her to be an adult and pull her weight.\n\n​\n\nReddit, I do not know what to do, please help me figure this out.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mwZ2yPHAZkeFutV5QKwvZVqD4Npf6FHY", "post_id": "a8mp15", "action": {"description": "refusing to pay for another iced coffee at brunch because I was under the impression it was a free refill and I wasn't told otherwise upon asking", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pay for another iced coffee at brunch because I was under the impression it was a free refill and I wasn\u2019t told otherwise upon asking?", "text": "What is the social rule? Does the waiter have to inform you that a refill isn\u2019t free after I ask?  Am I wrong to assume that I should be notified that the refill isn\u2019t free? Because I wasn\u2019t and my bill had the cost of two drinks instead of one.  I wasn\u2019t aware\u2014but am I the asshole?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hiCeIc65z3ed05PmxlleFVMiBdy9OPKO", "post_id": "aqn2za", "action": {"description": "wanting my so not to go party on Valentine's day instead of video chatting", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For wanting my SO not to go party on Valentine's day instead of video chatting", "text": "We go to separate colleges, both sophomores. I am going out of town for a college sport so we aren't able to spend time together. Since we can't physically see each other I want to videochat but she says she would rather party with friends. I understand that because she doesn't want to be alone.. But she wouldn't be alone if we were video chatting in a way, AITA for wanting her to stay home and videochat? Also I dont care when she goes out to party, it's not like there won't be more. Obviously I'm not going to tell her what to do either.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ATeNPqLlU1C2F03ZSPxdPv3IjmEWN3ax", "post_id": "b516ha", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with my son for being so clingy and pouting", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with my son for being so clingy and pouting?", "text": "Some background, had my first son two weeks after I turned 20. Split up with his father before he was two, went to collage for two years to get an education so I could support myself and him. Moved back, met a nice guy got married had another child and provide a stable home and family environment for our children. \n\nOldest son is almost 9, he's very sensitive and a very sweet kid most of the time. He is with us 50/50 and compared to his father's home we provide structure and routine and discipline ( consequences for actions not physical dicipline). \nHe is also not very confident and says negative the gas about himself which is heart breaking. I try to be very encouraging and remind him of all the things he's good at and tell him all the things hat I think are great about him. \n\nHe is not very good at entertaining himself and very demanding of my attention, always wanting to be glued to my side no matter what I am doing. Most of the time when he asks me to play with him I do, but sometimes I am busy or doing something with the younger child and can't. If I tell him no he gets super pouty and quiet, or if I give him an alternative suggestion of something to do together he just says no. \nI played with him today while my husband and todler napped, we played outside then we played cards and then after the todler and husband woke up I told him I was going to lay down for a few minutes by myself as I had a headache. Less than a minute later he comes in to my room and wants to snuggle with me and I tell him not right now and he pouts and leaves \nAfter I get up I want to go outside with everyone and play, he's still pouting and says no, because it's not what he wanted to do with me. I invited him out again after a few minutes and when he came outside he just poured more and wouldn't participate with us.\n\nI feel annoyed, I am trying to spend time with everyone and I make an effort to spend time one on one with each child but damn I need to also do things I want to do and have some down time. \n\nAITA ? \n\nAlso not trying to indicate I feel my child is a but hole. I more feel bad like I am not being a good mom if that makes sense?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "681ejE3VSqfmhgVrVWRk39CSI9g2Jzsp", "post_id": "azpjy7", "action": null, "title": "Wibta is just sitting in the title do my post stays here", "text": "Hello. Before we get started, I just wanted to say that I name the people in the story with the first letter of their name, and their class number. (Also, this happened in late August, in Elementary). So, is the teacher the asshole, or is K13 the asshole? \nK13 was sitting at the back table with 4 others, who hadn't understood the math lesson that evening. She was listening to the lesson, when suddenly, she felt a bad pain in her neck. She put her hand on her neck and turned her head to the ground. \"K13, stop making funny faces and get back to work!\" Mrs. Teacher said. Now, you may have thought that K13 would have told Mrs. Teacher that her neck hurt, but K13 remembered an incident from about a week prior. \nK13 was in class when she felt pain in her throat. She raised her hand and asked if she could go to the nurse. She was told no, and after class, Mrs.  Teacher said that she knew K13 struggled in math class, and knew that K13 just wanted an excuse to leave. Mrs. Teacher suggested that it was tonsillitis after K13 told her many times that she was in pain, so K13 went on with her day thinking she had tonsillitis (no, she doesn't have tonsillitis).   \nA few minutes after K13 got yelled at by Mrs. Teacher, S3 asked, \"Are you okay?\" To which K13 replied, \"No, but telling the teacher won't do me any good,\" Sadly. S3 kept asking every few minutes, when suddenly, S3 said, \"K13, your face is purple.\" This is when S3 said, \"Mrs. Teacher, K13 doesn't feel so good,\" To which Mrs. Teacher replied, \"She's fine, it's just anxiety.\" \nAt the end of the day, she talked to her new friend J, who rode the same bus, and was was in the class that K13 was in last year. K13 told J about the incident, and J suggested that K13 should talk to Mrs. (Couldnt think of a name) about it. K13 never got to it though. \nHer relationship with Mrs. Teacher got better, but only by the slightest. K13 typically drew during guided reading class when she felt stressed, which would result in her getting yelled at. She got used to the yelling after a while though. Sometimes K13 would get lectured about getting her work done, and a bunch more stuff that made K13 more emotionless by the second. \nIf you thought that Mrs. Teacher only acted this way towards K13, you'd be wrong. Once, she called D4 to her desk to talk about something. Apparently, D4 hadn't done all of his work, and got lectured about getting his work done. When it was guided reading time, he was still in tears. \nTL;DR: kid gets yelled at teacher during anxiety attack, doesn't feel okay with teacher after. \n\nSo is K13 the asshole, or Mrs. Teacher? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mgWu2OM5IOwtF5EX4GWcPIRqBUUv1gcI", "post_id": "b1ym2q", "action": {"description": "not taking full responsibility for my girlfriend's dog getting out", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not taking full responsibility for my girlfriend's dog getting out?", "text": "So obviously my girlfriend loves her dog very much. Today she gave him a bath and so he had his collar off. Her mom came over and I answered the door. Her dog was excited to see her so when I opened the door he started jumping on her. Her mom moved to the side leaving a big opening and the dog bolted out the door and down the stairs.\n\nLong story short I chased after him getting several bystanders including a policeman involved. They corralled him back to the apartment. He is now safe and sound however my girlfriend is not currently talking to me because I let her dog out. \n\nI apologised but did not claim full responsibility apparently this upset her. She was finishing in the shower when this all happened. I feel like her mom is just a big a part of why the dog got out but also feel like it will get much worse if I express that feeling. I mean she basically side stepped the dog allowing him to bolt. \n\nSo 1. AITA 2. How should I go about solving this? I have sense apologized again and asked about having dinner to no response.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hRoubjO2zUL8qZzfn5lZlkhbbM9E8qY7", "post_id": "asa19i", "action": {"description": "demanding to at least be told the reason for my parents forbidding me to do stuff", "pronormative_score": 77, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA (17M) for demanding to at least be told the reason for my parents forbidding me to do stuff?", "text": "So, this morning, me, my mom and my dad took a ride in the car together to a doctor's appointment when I told them I'd like to sleep over at my friend's place on friday night and asked if they'd be okay with that.\n\nMy mom immediately bursts out with something along the lines of \"Well, absolutely no, you can't!\", which I respect, but I calmly ask why, as I at least want to know the reason for her decision.\n\nMy father immediately follows with scolding me \"Your mother said you couldn't go and you will respect that!\"\n\nI absolutely hate when either of them does this. It infuriates me to no end. Makes me feel like a literal idiot. Like I, for some reason, cannot comprehend the reasoning behind most of their complex decisions. I get it, it sounds bratty and teenage-angsty, but I think I am old enough for my parents to finally indulge me in what they actually mean by \"no\" and not just expect me to follow orders. I live far away from my parents throughout the week (boarding house) and they trust me with other things that require adulting, so I really don't understand why this particular thing is such a problem.\n\nBut anyway, my father also says something about me crossing a line or something, which, again, I don't get. Now I'm getting visibly and audibly irritated, but I still mostly manage to keep my cool and ask why they wouldn't tell me, as I think I'd be able to understand, if they'd just tell me, to which he replies that he doesn't care what I think and I lose my cool. Now we're arguing in the car, but it's mostly just being pissed at eachother, so we don't really move forward from that point on (obviously).\n\nMe and my mom get on with our doctor's appointment and later grab lunch together, where we bring the topic up again, this time both of us calm. She explains to me why I can't go (I won't go deeper into that, since it's an old friend from elementary and both us and our parents have had various personal issues) and I agree that that is indeed reasonable and I will respect that, but also tell her that they could have just told me in the car in like three sentences and we'd avoid the whole stupid arguement.\n\nMy mom explains to me how my dad has just returned from a night shift and was kind enough to drive us to town so that we don't have to take the bus, and it's understandable for him to lose his cool like that, but at the same time I think that I didn't do anything to prompt him to lose his cool like that.\n\nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 64, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 13, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 77, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vFvIvLWchNPAE5ohGUBS9GVoWfI4IcM9", "post_id": "b1npw4", "action": {"description": "putting my Foot down regarding my one day visit", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Putting my Foot Down regarding my ONE DAY visit?", "text": "I live in NYC, and my brother lives with Mom in PA. They can't stand each other. Their arguments are venomous and spiteful, usually with both of them simultaneously being in the wrong. Spending time with them both means dealing with A LOT of toxic drama, but I deal with it because I genuinely love them.\n\nThe condition being, I've stopped spending more than a single day to visit.\n\nI've only visited for more than a week twice, but on both occasions the random petty arguments were constant. To the point where plans we'd made were canceled because of a fight they'd have earlier in the day. Basically I was going on a vacation to do nothing but play mediator for a week.\n\nToday is my brother's birthday, and I've just gotten home. Mom asked why I wouldn't stay for more than a day, so I told her frankly that it was because I didn't want to deal with their constant bitching at one another.\n\nI arrived at 2 this afternoon, and would end up leaving for NYC around 6:30pm. Bro wanted to take a quick nap as he'd just gotten home from work, and Mom wanted to run a quick drop-off errand. She's in crutches right now due to a foot injury, so I tag along in case she needs me.\n\n2 and a half hours, down the drain.\n\nDuring this time:\nMom had to get the file she needed to drop off printed out. \nShe had a strong craving for a Mc'Cafe, and stopped for one.\nWe bump into one of her work friends, another ten minutes down. \nWe finally hit the doctor's office (the reason we left in the first place) and the doctor had left for home. For all the time we wasted she may as well have waited until Monday.\nWe buy my brother's cake and go home.\n\nMind you, Mom knew exactly what time I had to leave, and that we didn't have much time. I don't know if this is what she's doing, but I thought she was just intentionally wasting time to try and guilt me into staying longer. Wouldn\u2019t put it past her.\n\nDuring this time, Dad calls for some reason. It's now 4:30, Mom and Dad are tag-team grilling me on why I won't just stay a bit longer -- with Dad going \"It's not like you're doing anything?\"\n\nI didn't justify to either of them anything other than the fact that I do, in fact, have shit to do and I told them both how long I planned on staying.\n\nWe get to Mom's house and bro is livid. Now he and Mom take their turn to try convincing me to get on a later bus. That wasn't happening, so I put my foot down. We kill what little time I have left to spend time with him by taking pictures, getting them some chicken from a restaurant down the road, and passive aggressive remarks being tossed back and forth between them.\n\nI'm asking if I'm the asshole because my brother genuinely didn't do anything wrong, and Mom pretty much robbed all of his time with me intentionally or not. I didn't want to seem like they could pull these shenanigans to get me to stay longer, so I held on. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hBqcy6Lq2w1l8eViNVu8Qh12tqM4OhfM", "post_id": "ba1ny7", "action": {"description": "telling parents checking into hotel that we found heroin between the mattress in our room", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling parents checking into hotel that we found heroin between the mattress in our room?", "text": "I apologies for the long story and grammar, today was crazy. My mom and her boyfriend came into town today and had a few problem checking in to their hotel. After 2 hours of waiting around for there system to fix they get checked in, and head up to their non-smoking room which wreaked of cigarettes and had  trash so complain. My mom says the place doesn't feel clean, so I decided to check the mattress for bugs as boyfriend comes in. I lift the sheets, look in the seams, and then pick the mattress corner up. I see a little black purse toward the end of the bed and call my moms boyfriend over. He grabs it, opens it, and takes out the first thing in it. It was a bloody rag full of blood, a needle, and heroin. He immediately packed everything up and stormed off to the desk. I was extremely upset about all this because my child was in the room to witness everything and could have played in it if not found.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nI head outside by myself to calm down and I see a car with a mother and her to small kids outside the lobby with the husband checking in near by. I go over to the car and knock on the window and smile. She opens the door a little and I say \"Hello, are you about to stay in this hotel?\" She looked and me and said yes in a European accent. I then told her \"My parent just recently checked into this hotel and we just found heroin in between the mattress, please check between them. I don't want anything to happen to your children.\" The husband notices and start approaching me and I tell him the same thing. I then head back to the room.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nWell the GM granted a full refund after they offered my mom 25% off and they declined. We all head to the lobby to check them out and when finished I approach the desk  front desk lady and say \"You guys really need to be more attentive with the rooms this was totally unacceptable.\" Well the lady and the front desk snaps like I am personally attacking her, \"You are going around harassing guest!\" I looked at her and raised my voice as well and say \"We found heroin in between the mattresses with my son (pointed and my son) in the room that is what is fucking ridiculous!\" She stands there deer in head lights staring at me. I just shake my head in disappointment and walk out. As I am walking out the door someone else with a young child stops me and asks what happened and I tell them.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nWell as my mom called corporate to report what happened and she mentioned everything about our experience except the lady at the front desk yelling in my face. I mentioned it to her when on the phone and she shook her head. I think it was something that should have been added to the shit pile. I just though it was odd she didn't say anything. Was I the asshole or something?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WxmCWXf973zs44NHvb2TkP3wfeahcZqF", "post_id": "agt0h4", "action": {"description": "taking my Dads money", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For Taking my Dads Money?", "text": "For context my dad is absolutely horrendous with money he frequently gives family loans (which they never pay back), gives away old cars. I'm in Uni and plan to move to Metropolitan center, I used to abhor asking for cash since that hurts my pride, but after my dad's latest debacle with a 5k loan I've just been asking for extra cash I don't need but want to save and invest. I plan on taking care of him after he retires because he has no savings and I need a backup plan before he spends more on dumb things. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Cv5lbdyUFL1yN0GOdXzh9Ygbmruwf116", "post_id": "at7xbc", "action": {"description": "telling my band director about improper instrument care", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA For telling my band director about improper instrument care?", "text": "For some context, I\u2019m 14F in the band at my middle school. Almost all instruments that we use are rented and are given back at the end of the year, so we all make sure to take good care of our instruments so we don\u2019t end up having to pay any damage fees (renting the instruments is already kind of expensive I\u2019ve heard). But since around December, one of The clarinets (call her C) has been using an instrument locker right next to me. I thought nothing of it until I noticed her at the end of class simply throwing her clarinet in her locker. Anyone who knows instruments this could be harmful to it. I\u2019ve asked C about it before, only to have her sass back at me \u201cwhat\u2019s the point anyway\u201d or something along those lines. She\u2019s been simply throwing it in since she started using the locker next to me.\nWIBTA for telling my director about the way C is treating her instrument? I don\u2019t want to sound like a snitch. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oFAYieZONMWEZP7rllJs17MuyEugJoz3", "post_id": "aqfd3f", "action": {"description": "excluding my friend from my wedding because she win't exercise", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 65}, "title": "AITA for excluding my friend from my wedding because she win\u2019t exercise", "text": "Hello all, I am in a bar right now with a friend of mine who asked me this question and I figured this sub would be the perfect place to ask.\n\nSo she is getting married soon and wants a friend of 10 years to be included in the photos.\n\nHowever, this friend wants all her bridesmaids to actively lose weight in the months leading up to the photos, so that they can all look fit. \n\nThis woman\u2019s best friend refuses to exercise and continues to lead a veey unhealthy lifestyle.\n\nMy friend wants to remove her own bridesmaid on the grounds that she refused to lead a healthier life and exercise.\n\nIs she the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 65, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 65}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bc288qe6IiD5MQfSh8SCVZrTHWolQfp1", "post_id": "axc45j", "action": {"description": "not getting my cat the most expensiveness test done", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not getting my cat the most expensiveness test done.", "text": "This is an ongoing issue with my vet that I have.  Me and my SO adopted a cat from our local humane society 3 years ago.  She was return after being adopted out to a family that had other pet/children and was labelled as needing to be in a home with no other pets or small children.  Once an animal gets this label it is much harder for them to be adopted out, and she was already a year old, so we took her in and have provided a warm and loving house for her.  In November I woke up on a Saturday to find her hiding under our futon gasping for air.  I quickly took her to the closet vet that was open for them to check on her and give her medicine.  $1000 vet bill later they gave me some meds that she will have to take daily for the rest of her life and the news that she has congestive heart failure which is causing liquid to accumulate in her lungs..  It was roughly explained to be that there could be 2 causes and in order to determine which cause it was they would have to do another test that would cost \\~$700 and I asked if we did the test would we be able to cure her, the vet said \"No\"  The medicine she is on is helping her heart and clearing the fluid from her lungs, if we did the tests they cold give her a more focused medicine that would raise her expected life from 6-12 months to 12-18 months....maybe.  I told the Vet at the time that we wouldn't do the more expense tests and just give her these meds to make her as comfortable as she can.  I've been getting bi-weekly calls from the clinic asking me to bring her bring he back in for more blood work and more testing.  At first I would answer the call but they would always make me feel like a terrible owner for not doing everything they suggest for my cat.  I just got another call from them that I ignored and the voice mail  is them asking me when I would like to book an appointment for some blood work and more tests.  \n\n​\n\nSorry for any run on sentences.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Xhtuih3AOGxHXDEjNJF6Zlyn9Myk7oFb", "post_id": "adc2lf", "action": {"description": "warning the wife about my best friend's cheating married ex without her consent", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for warning the wife about my best friend's cheating married ex without her consent?", "text": "Confusing title, but I didn't know how to clarify it given the rules regarding the title. Anyway, my best friend dated this guy for almost a year. Turns out he was already married, living out a crazy double life, and cheating on her with a bunch of other girls too. This absolutely devastated my friend - he made her believe they were in love and had a future together. In the 4 years that I have known my friend, I have never seen her so destroyed. She was a wreck for weeks, crying non stop. \n\nFast forward about 3-4 months after their breakup, I end up seeing the guy having dinner with his wife (they were both wearing rings, so I presumed this wasn't one of the other \"side hoes\") where I work. I waited for her to go to the bathroom, and told her about my friend's situation and warned her that he was probably still cheating on her with many other women, as he had done previously. The woman furiously stormed out and they started having a screaming match outside, I am not sure what happened afterwards. \n\n​\n\nAnyway, I get home and tell my friend about it, and to my surprise, she goes ballistic on me. She started telling me I had no right to do that, to invade other people's lives, that she was starting to heal and now I ruined her process given that I unnecessarily got involved into a situation that was already done. We had a huge fight about it, and I honestly believe she is wrong to get mad at me. I feel as though I had an imperative to warn the woman, as much as I would if I were seeing someone getting blindly robbed or taken advantage of. Was I wrong to do this without her consent?\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7QNNLdeBPoyzzc9gu6FuQoPN4CSvINot", "post_id": "aba29i", "action": {"description": "going out with friends on NYE instead of staying home", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I went out with friends on NYE instead of staying home?", "text": "16(m). I have stayed home for NYE every year so far. I enjoy being home but my friends have invited me out this year for NYE. I know my dad likes NYE a lot but I also want to be with friends for a change. WIBTA if I went with friends for the night?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mkMEEradnYcWUyMyLMnNDgzFNr99xU9X", "post_id": "b82e88", "action": {"description": "trying to save two seats on a southwest flight", "pronormative_score": 27, "contranormative_score": 62}, "title": "AITA For trying to save two seats on a Southwest flight?", "text": "As the title suggests, I wanted to save two seats for my wife and 17-year-old son. Let me set the stage so that your decision can be rendered with all the facts:\n\nBWI to MHT, Sunday night (yesterday). Southwest flight... yes, I get the rules of boarding. For those that don't know, SW boards in groups only and you don't have assigned seating. You are simply assigned a group and then a number. Groups are A, B, and C and the numbers go from 1-65 (or so). If you are given A 25 you are typically the 25 person aboard the plane, give or take (but the exact numbers aren't important here).\n\nOur meal was a little late prior to boarding so I went ahead and decided to board ahead of my family. As we have done countless times before, I'd just hold a couple seats for them as I know they were right behind me. I had boarding letter/number A45. Southwest flies nothing but 737s with three variations. You either have 143 or 175 seats available. \n\nI sat down in an aisle seat and threw my jacket over the middle and window arm rest. Two minutes later a young woman stopped at my seat, looked at me and said \"I want to sit there.\" pointing at the window seat. I politely said \"Oh, sorry, I'm trying to save these for my son and wife who are not far behind you. Her reply - \"So?\" I said \"But, 60% of the plane is still empty. You literally have the entire back half of the plan to sit wherever you want?\" \n\nShe moved her way in and that was that. Given the characteristics of the players involved, me uttering a single word would have lead to an international incident - that I am sure of. \n\nAITA for moving here? Should I have stood my ground? I get it - open seating. But the plan was, again literally, less than half full at this point. I have been flying for business for over 25 years. I'm quite sure that I have flown more than 85% or more of the general population. Not a fact I am proud of, just a little background to say that I know flying sucks, I know the rules and I also know that sometimes common courtesy supersedes some of the basic rules of boarding. \n\nI am also quite sure that this young lady feels that this was a major victory for the patriarchy, toxic masculinity, stupid old people... whatever battle she is waging (that nobody even knows she is involved in), but, seriously?\n\nTL;DR - Tried to save two seats (middle and window) on a Southwest flight for my family. More than half the plane was empty when someone pushed their way in to seats that I was saving and I decided to take the high ground and just move. AITA or should I have dug in?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 50, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 62}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dQgd2D1K3XeQHyrOUkNRirB1U8aTEn2e", "post_id": "aafw8q", "action": {"description": "getting annoyed that my girlfriend forgot what I looked like", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting annoyed that my girlfriend forgot what I looked like?", "text": "My girlfriend (16) and I (also 16) have been going out for about six months. During this time however, we've only been on dates pretty much once a month. Today I went shopping with my dad at the same place as she was coincidentally going shopping with her sister. She didn't want her sister to know she had a boyfriend, so she texted me saying I shouldn't say anything if we saw each other. She told me she was looking out for me, because it would be cool to see her. I did see her, she was about a yard or 2 away from me, we made eye contact, but she just looked away without acknowledging me in any way. I figured this was just her pretending not to have seen me, but when I called her later she said she actually didn't see me at all. This hurt a bit since we've been dating since the summer and she just looked straight through me as if I was a stranger. I didn't get 'annoyed' annoyed, but I was a little pissed that she just didn't recognise me at all. I told her about it and she said I'm being dumb for getting annoyed. Am I? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LGPO0DmVCDGQac75v6fi7e56aTYcbuCW", "post_id": "apxj9z", "action": {"description": "trying to set boundaries with my toxic sister in law who has stirred up so much drama that resulted in not being invited to my wedding", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for trying to set boundaries with my toxic sister in law who has stirred up so much drama that resulted in not being invited to my wedding?", "text": "My husband and I just recently got married back in September. The past few years I\u2019ve had a really rocky relationship with his sister in law which is unfortunate because we used to be friends and we used to get along well. In the past we have had arguments about her childhood home (we were offered to live there and rent from his mother who still owned the house and I can only assume that she was upset for not being offered to live there first) where she started treating me differently and being rude almost always until I couldn\u2019t take it anymore so I decided to call her out on it and ask her what her problem was. That blew up and we didn\u2019t talk for about a year. \n\nSomething tragic happened and she lost one of her friends and I swallowed my pride to reach out to her and offer my condolences. We started to talk a little bit after that and I thought things would be back to normal. Nope, I was wrong. After that brief period of peace and quiet I found myself in a situation where she felt it was necessary and completely okay to coordinate a \u201ccombined birthday cookout\u201d for my husband and one of his friends (he\u2019s 27 now and we\u2019ve been together for 7 years) without including me in any of the planning process and just decided to text me one day with an invite to the party as if I was random guest. \n\nI once again expressed my feelings to her and was met with a casual response about how it wasn\u2019t a big deal and was just dismissed. My husband, being super non confrontational tried to get me to let it go and assured me that next year would be different and that it wouldn\u2019t happen again next year. Welp, it happened again the next year and this time she didn\u2019t bother to invite me directly - she went straight to my husband to try and coordinate dates and plans and this time he tried to get out of it nicely and told her we had plans and were unable to attend the day that she had wanted to plan for. We actually did have really big plans for that entire weekend that involved working at two markets for the first time that required a lot of attention and time. Then began the manipulating where she turned it all on me, claimed I didn\u2019t want her to have her cookout (not true, would\u2019ve just liked to have been included in planning process for someone I love) and that she only gets to see her brother maybe once a year (guilt tripping him) and that the other friend wanted the party so badly and that they do it every year and don\u2019t understand why they can\u2019t do it anymore. There was a bunch of miscommunication and she ended up calling me names and throwing a hissy fit because she wasn\u2019t hearing what she wanted. \n\nOnce again, I reached out directly to try and smooth things over and we talked it through. She apologized, I apologized - everything was cool and chill. Fast forward to the end of summer where my husband proposes to me. We had talked about getting married for a while and knew it was something we wanted to do for a long time. We had plans to elope with just our parents and my 2 kid siblings (4 & 9) and then have a large reception another day. We told our parents the next day about our engagement and what our plans were. SIL lives with his father so she was there when we announced the news. All is swell and everyone is happy until later that night where I get a text notification in a group chat between me, my husband and the sister in law. She is asking for clarification on the wedding day and why she\u2019s not able to be there. She expresses she wants to be there but is not understanding or respecting our decision to not have anyone else except for parents and my two younger siblings there. My husband has 3 full siblings who are older and then 2 other half siblings who are older. All of the other siblings were aware of our plans to elope and were respectful with our desire to keep it as small and intimate as possible. None of them cared about what we wanted to do, they only cared about whether or not it made us happy. She finally comes out and asks if my siblings will be there and that\u2019s when her demeanor changes from being bummed out and being sweet to trying to convince us to let her be there (she offered to help pay if money was the issue, and tried to find ways to offer something in order for her to be present) to being a complete and salty bitch. She is now offended and sees me as the sole reason as to why she is not allowed to \u201cwitness her baby brother getting married to his love on his wedding day.\u201d I felt bad at first because I can understand how and why that would make someone upset but I reverted back to how I originally felt which was the feeling of not wanting to give in to her selfish needs because it was MY wedding and I wanted to do what I wanted to do. My husband and I had talked it over throughly and he didn\u2019t see an issue with not having his siblings there and was fine with having my siblings present as they played certain roles, like the flower girl and ring bearer. I will admit that part of me did not want her to be present because of our rocky past but that is my decision to make and I have every right to chose who I want to see when I\u2019m walking down the aisle to marry my partner. Children are pure and innocent and my husband and I both adore my younger siblings so it wasn\u2019t a hard decision to make to include them. So, SIL throws a temper tantrum, bitches us out, blames me for everything and proceeds to block me on everything...social media (after she posted a congratulatory post about our engagement) and phone. My husband had fallen asleep when most of the shit hit the fan so he didn\u2019t catch up and respond till the next morning. He tried to respond only to find that he too had been blocked. A few days go by before they talk and she explains to him how he\u2019s changed so much and how she doesn\u2019t even know who he is anymore and how she thinks I control him and everything. She insults me and just expresses how hurt she is by all of it and basically tells him he\u2019s no longer her brother but will always love him. A few more exchanges were made but we\u2019ll never know if she actually received them because she had blocked him after sending her message. My husband then decides, that until she apologizes - she\u2019s no longer invited to the wedding. We never received an apology and she never made any effort to mend things so she never received an invite. We got married and had a beautiful time without her, her baggage and negative aura. \n\nFast forward this past weekend...I received a text message from her telling me to tell my husband to text his older brother to check in on him (recovering addict going through a hard time). We communicate with him quite often and so I decided to check in on him myself - he turned out to be completely fine and sleeping, just had a bad weekend filled with panic attacks and tried to reach out for help and in turn did not get the actual emotion support and help he was looking for. I waited a day and debated on whether or not I should respond. I questioned why she had only texted me instead of texting my husband directly and why she couldn\u2019t reach out to her brother herself if she was so concerned. The next day I decided to respond but it turns out that yes, again...I was blocked and my message did not go through. This infuriated me because I felt as if she had an open line of communication and was able to talk to me or bud into my life whenever she wanted but always blocked me off from responded so I could never react or respond. It just doesn\u2019t sit well with me. I believe I have every right to respond to someone when they contact me - especially directly through text. So I decided to text her through a text messaging app to get my message across to her. The following messages are what conspired after I sent my message. I apologize in advance for the graphic language. Am I insane for reacting/feeling this way or am I actually the one who is the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lM4bMMcAb3nEmS9G5jXRBJhJx5bCdguz", "post_id": "b97ijo", "action": {"description": "not wanting to eat with my friend who likely has an ed", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to eat with my friend who likely has an ED?", "text": "I (22F) have a same-age friend (22F) in college. She's a great friend in many ways - outgoing, bright, and caring.\n\nMy friend has a history of ED (eating disorder), and based on what she described, I think she suffered from bulimia. She also mentioned that she still occasionally binge eats at night but that it wasn't serious. I don't judge her at all for it, and was just happy that she trusted me enough to confide in me.\n\nNow, the problem I have is the stuff she says and does when we're eating together. We frequently have meals together at our university cafeteria. Recently, she's been getting a salad for every meal and compares it to what I eat (usually some bread, soup, meat, rice - I like diversity), saying things like, \"You eat so little!\", \"Look how HUGE my salad is compared to your food!\", or \"You should eat more like me, I'm so stuffed!\" Granted, her salads are pretty big and fills up her entire plate so visually they do look 'bigger' than my food. However, her meal is basically just a ton of lettuce and veggies with no dressing - I can't imagine it being more filling than what I eat. \n\nMy frustration hit a peak yesterday when we dined out for dinner. Again, she ordered a salad while I got a steak gyro. I wasn't really that hungry so I ate half and packed up the remaining to eat later. As soon as I asked for a box, my friend made this shocked expression and said loudly, \"Why aren't you eating more?? You hardly ate anything, girl!\" I was kind of embarrassed and told her that I was full to which she said, 'Yeah right, you ate so little! I'm really worried about you.\"\n\nTbh, I felt (and still feel) so annoyed by that. My friend is around the same weight, if not thinner than me so I don't know she feels the need to constantly judge the size of my meals and feel 'worried' that I'm not eating enough for her standards; after all, without wanting to sound insensitive, I'm not the one with a history of ED!\n\nIt's gotten to the point where I feel strangely guilty if I don't eat a lot in front her. I hate stuffing myself, but I make an effort to clean off my plate every time I dine with her just so that she won't nag me to eat more.\n\nI'm tempted to just not eat with her anymore, though we'd still hang out in other ways. I'm also tempted to say something like, \"Your salad really isn't more filling than my meal. If anything, you should be the one to eat more\" to her the next time she compares our food. Would I be TA if I said that?\n\nAt the same time, I feel like I should be more sympathetic towards her because her actions suggest that she's still suffering from ED, though she hasn't explicitly said anything. I don't want to say anything potentially hurtful or triggering to her.\n\ntltr: Friend who likely has an ED makes annoying comments about how little I eat compared to her (when the opposite is true) and implies that I'm lying when I tell her that I'm full - AITA for not wanting to eat with her anymore and not sympathizing enough?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2mrHcD7h92053lk5n510P6dUaxR446x2", "post_id": "a3qzz8", "action": {"description": "falling out with my cousin because she's bringing her boyfriend to Christmas dinner", "pronormative_score": 43, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for falling out with my cousin because she\u2019s bringing her boyfriend to Christmas dinner?", "text": "A bit of backstory here: every year my cousins family comes round on Christmas Eve and we have food, this has literally been going non since I was born and is an important family tradition. \n\nMy cousins boyfriend is 32 years old and she is 18, she turned 18 a month ago and they\u2019ve been dating about 6 months now. I harbour such a dislike for this man it\u2019s unreal, here\u2019s a few reasons why: he\u2019s alluded to a threesome between me, my cousin and him (This was a few months ago my cousin was 17 and I was 16), he already has two kids that are almost my age, he does drugs and has tried to pressure me into doing them at his place, he\u2019s living at his parents house as he gambles away all his money, he has threatened to murder me before if I ever hurt my cousin and there\u2019s even more than I can\u2019t list. \n\nSo anyway, my mum invited my cousins family round as usual and she said that my cousins boyfriend could come too (baring in mind she doesn\u2019t know half of the stuff he does) and he\u2019s coming round now. AITA for telling my cousin not to bring him although he was invited? I\u2019ve really fallen out with her have vowed not to talk to her if he arrives. \n\nI realise this sounds childish, but i would hate tradition to be broken by allowing this guy to come into MY house. Is this just selfish or am I justified in being angry? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 42, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 43, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vcbTZpUGNeNlsQsz7el6Ury1VoEyvIF3", "post_id": "ava2kn", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend of on-off 3 years because she wants to wait until marriage to have sex", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my (27 M) girlfriend (27 F) of on-off 3 years because she wants to wait until marriage to have sex?", "text": "She\u2019s a virgin, I am not. I knew this going in, but I didn\u2019t think it would be a problem. We\u2019ve never lived together since she\u2019s still in grad school in another state. We\u2019ve broken up once before because of this and other issues, but the other issues got better. I just can\u2019t do the whole no sex thing while she still has 4+ years of school left with no idea when marriage will come. \n\nI asked if we could still be friends because I truly value her friendship, but she declined because it would be hard for her. That\u2019s the part that upsets me a bit because we were really good friends before we were ever a couple. The lack of sex is driving me insane though. I watch porn and masturbate damn near every day, multiple times a day and it\u2019s a nice serotonin boost, but I feel shitty afterward. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uudAV6dI4CbF0mO2gHqMUPHFdkRXcdmI", "post_id": "afb503", "action": {"description": "encountering other assholes with great frequency", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA when I encounter other assholes with great frequency?", "text": "Throwaway.\n\nAlmost everywhere I go people seem to find a way to ruin my day and I'm afraid that it's getting to a point (or maybe it's been there for awhile?) where it negatively affects the relationships in my personal life as well as my self esteem.\n\nA few examples:\n\nThis past week my girlfriend and I took a trip to Disney World to celebrate her graduating her masters program.  If there's anywhere on Earth where I've encountered more inconsiderate, clueless individuals I cannot remember.\n\nFrom what my parents tell me--as I was too young to remember at the time--Disney has really stepped up their game as far as making things quick and accessible for their guests to enjoy the parks and resorts.  We had free shuttles to essentially anywhere we needed to go and could monitor wait times for the various rides through their app.  I was really impressed.  But I was much less impressed with their patrons.\n\nOn one of the busses to a park one morning, a girl maybe seven or eight years old and her parents took the three seats next to us, with the girl sitting directly on my right.  As the windows were behind us and my girlfriend pointed out something off in the distance I had to turn my head to see.  As soon I did this girl turned toward me and coughed the phlegmiest fucking cough straight into my face.  I don't mean a loogie or anything but I was definitely hit with some spit and a lot of her hot ass breath.  I kinda recoiled and the girl seemed to realize what happened but wasn't really mentally mature enough to respond in an empathetic way.  It annoyed me mostly for the fact that we had just gotten there the day before and I really didn't want to spend the rest of the trip sick.  But that's not what got to me.\n\nIt was a complete accident and something I would normally try to save face for but after I'd gotten my face dried off this girl continues to hack up slugs without covering her mouth on the extremely crowded bus.  Her parents sit there chatting and say absolutely nothing to her as she just holds her tongue out her damn mouth and wheezes while I try to hold my breath for the next ten minutes until I can breathe fresh air again.  I'm just sitting there stewing in anger and already feel like my day has reached a breaking point.  When we were exiting I kind of gave the girl a dirty look which she noticed, but it was like a reflex not even an intentional thing.\n\nThere are definitely some things at the park that pissed me off, too.  People stopping walking in the middle of busy areas.  People on scooters driving directly down the middle of narrow foot traffic lanes and lanes for the rides which they then get off their scooters for and immediately hop back on to depart (and I don't mean people with actual handicaps that need assistance for any of this, I mean the ones that seem to fly solo dolo).  Parents with fucking newborn babies out in direct sunlight.  These things may not individually bring me down but they seem to compound into anger that gets directed unfairly towards my girlfriend.  And I don't mean that I get pissed at her directly but just that my anger will sometimes prevent us both from having what should be a good time.  I think what gets me the most is that the people around me don't seem to get annoyed about these things either.  It's like I'm the only one getting upset and now I'm starting to think I may just be the asshole and everyone else has accepted reality when I can't.  The trip was barely spoiled by any of this and we did have a really great time together.\n\nThe bus situation may seem very one-sided so here's another.  On the plane ride home this morning my girlfriend and I each had an aisle seat across from each other.  It wasn't ideal but it was fine for us in case one of us had to go to the bathroom we could just get up and go, no problem.  Well along comes this family of four, taking up two of the seats in the row in front of me and the two seats next to me.  I let the father and younger son climb in and his son takes the window, saying something along the lines of, \"You know how often I have to pee.\"  I just figured maybe I'd just have to get up a few times throughout the flight to let this kid piss.  It was a 2 1/2 hour flight and liquids can travel fast.  \n\nNow, I have to mention that flying has always made me uneasy despite the evidence to its safety and I do tend to get a bit motion sick.  So, we take off and just reach cruising altitude when the flight crew announces like always to remain seated until the seatbelt light goes off.  Well about thirty seconds later I hear the kid say that he has to go to the bathroom so his dad asks me get up.  I point up to the light and say, \"The seatbelt light is still on.\"\n\nHe responds, \"Well he could get up or just urinate here on you,\"\nlike I'm the one being unreasonable.\n\nI just muttered, \"Jesus Christ,\" to myself and got up because I didn't want to deal with a confrontation two minutes into a flight with a decent length.  Well about a minute later the guy's other son who is sitting in front of me also gets up and follows his brother to the back of the plane and not two seconds later the flight attendant is on the horn with the reminder about staying seated.  But they don't actually do shit.  These kids just walk by them through the aisle.  The seatbelt light was on pretty much the entire flight and people continued to get up and use the bathroom with no reprimanding or anything.  We definitely hit a few bumps along the way, too.  Luckily the kid came back and held it for the rest of the flight but why the fuck do people think that it's okay to do that?  I don't want to have my seatbelt unbuckled and then all of a sudden smack my damn skull on the ceiling of the plane.  I get that people have to pee but I don't want to risk a concussion or worse for that shit.  Again, I just kinda stewed in my seat and mentally shook my head at these daredevils until we were off the plane.\n \n So am I the asshole here?  Is it a dick move to let these things get to me?  Occurrences like these are frequent in my life, where I think I'm being fair but somehow it comes back on me like I'm the one at fault.  Should I just have gotten up and let that kid piss?  Do other people just take coughs to the face with an \"oh, well, things could be better\" attitude?  I really don't want to be the asshole at the happiest place on Earth but if I am I need to know.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XxHVBixT2Jtx1DHHwuYcX2UAZOnOeQlH", "post_id": "aswgjp", "action": {"description": "reminding school to not call me Mrs. Husband's last name", "pronormative_score": 78, "contranormative_score": 21}, "title": "AITA for reminding school to not call me Mrs. Husband's Last Name?", "text": "I have reminded my son's school a number of times I am not Mrs. Husband's Last Name (or Mrs. Husband's Last Name Spelled Incorrectly) and to please call me by my first name, first and last name, or Dr. My Last Name (I kept my last name and have a doctorate, before which I went by Ms. Whatevz). \n\nToday they addressed me incorrectly again in a (somewhat tense) email exchange. I couldn't stop myself and ended with \"as I've said before, please call me first name, but if you must, Dr. Whatevz.\" I feel uncomfortable doing that but it really grinds my gears that is been nearly two years and they can't /won't get my name right. \n\nSo... AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 58, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 20, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 78, "WRONG": 21}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "38eMepT1dPCSut4woPhkGmM8cxbUMbiH", "post_id": "arge16", "action": null, "title": "AITA - SO, Sex, and Masturbation", "text": "Long story short: \n\nLast night I was with my GF we were watching netflix and around midnight I tried initiating. \n\nShe said that we better not because it's late and we have to wale up early tomorow. \n\nI agreed and went out of bed, she asked me where I was going, I replied that I was going to quickly take care of myself so we don't stay up all night. \n\nThis morning she didn't seem ok but didn't want to talk. We went on our day, went eating breakfast, theater watch a Broadway show, ate out and went back home. \n\nI insisted a little more about what was wrong and told me that it made her feel like shit that I had to take of myself. It made her feel like she was useless. \n\nI've never said that she was useless. I have been releasing myself for a few decades now, I just thought that if she wasn't in the mood and I am, I could enjoy my alone time. \n\nNow she still feels bad and is still down. \n\nWas I an asshole? Is how she's feeling legitimate, is she useless if I take care of myself? How can I resolve this?\n\nTL;DR: GF feels useless and bad because she wasn't in the mood so I take care of myself.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eDYjnyx56vVpnshZics0J4CMTbAA053q", "post_id": "ac89u9", "action": {"description": "wanting to date my roommate's brother", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to date my roommate\u2019s brother?", "text": "This all started in August when we moved in and I don\u2019t at all believe in love at first sight, but when I first saw him he took my breath away. \n\nBefore my roommate and I had moved in together, we, along with our five other roommates had never met, so we were all trying to get to know each other. \u201cSara\u201d and I clicked right off the bat and became close pretty fast which led to me spending time with her brother occasionally. Every time I saw him or talked to him my heart sped up and I also found him popping up in my dreams. It wasn\u2019t long before I found out that he was interested in me too. I don\u2019t have strong feelings towards people very often, and this is one of those times so I was very confused on what to do. In the past when I be been interested in someone and they\u2019ve been interested in me, I haven\u2019t been able to pursue anything with them because of the situation we were in. I ended telling Sara that I have feelings for her brother after a month and she took it really well.\n\n\nHe and I ended up going on two dates which went really well and we talked about how to handle the whole thing. I hadn\u2019t told her that he and I had gone out for several reasons being; I didn\u2019t have time since she was working and going to school so she was never home, I wanted to see what direction he and I were headed in, and I didn\u2019t want to tell her because it wasn\u2019t serious yet. He is 23, I\u2019m 20, and she\u2019s 18. He and I both agreed we could be mature adults if it didn\u2019t work out. \n\nA week and a half after our two dates, he told her that we had hung out a couple of times and she flipped out. She was mad at me for keeping it from her and I explained that since I had barely seen her for longer than two minutes in the last week and a half, that we hadn\u2019t really had the time.\n\nHe went a bit radio silent after that for a couple weeks before messaging me again. He invited me over and I decided to end things because I don\u2019t fuck with that kind of hot and cold bullshit.  When I went over to his apartment, I was dead set on ending things with him but once I got there and he had given me a valid explanation for why he hadn\u2019t really been talking ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sJPuS3fPfofOxVynAFodRsDovT9X5J4D", "post_id": "9xtn2r", "action": {"description": "telling my brother I'd finish the dishes if he listened to my speach about square dancing then dipping out after I found out it wasn't just a few plates", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for telling my brother I'd finish the dishes if he listened to my speach about square dancing then dipping out after I found out it wasn't just a few plates?", "text": "Title says most of it but a few key details. \nMy speach is about 5.5 minutes long but it took about 10 muinets becasue he kept interrupting me.\n\nHe told me that \"theres was only like 6 plates.\" I came upstairs to see 6 plates plus 6 or 7 pots and pans I'd have to wash by hand.\n\nI washed the 6 plates and told him he had to do the rest.\n\nHes done this like 4 time now and I'm sick of it.\n\nSorry for the formatting on mobile ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4hbeqg2FKX0eIoXFZDRV8rdQotZRDWcq", "post_id": "akkpw6", "action": {"description": "not wanting to live with my roommate again", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to live with my roommate again?", "text": "Sorry if this is long and doesn\u2019t make sense. This is my first post and it\u2019s kind of a long sorry.  \n\nSo, a little background, I am currently a university student and I live in the dorms. My dorm is set up in such a way that there are two bedrooms shared between two students each and a bathroom and a kitchen that is shared by all four. My roommate and I met online and decided that we were gonna live together before the beginning of the year. The other two were completely random. \n\nMy roommate, one of girls in the other room, and I have all become very close friends and are planning on living together again next year. The last girl hangs out with us,  but it is pretty obvious that we are all much closer. We also have had some problems with her the past semester and that is something we really don\u2019t want to deal with again. \n\nLately, our school has been sending out emails about applying for housing. Me and my other two roommates have been discussing our housing options and have a pretty good idea of where we are going to live. \n\nToday, the fourth roommate approached us about living together and things got awkward. We pretty much just said that the rest of us would be exploring other options. She then asked if we could live on the same floor (our school has a special program that lets up to 20 people choose the same floor). I said that I don\u2019t know if it would work out because that might only be offered in certain buildings. I also know if we lived in the same floor nothing would change from what it is now because she would constantly be in our room. \n\nAITA for not wanting to live with her while continuing to live with the other two?\n\nTL;DR I am friends with two of my roommates who I am living with, but we are not going to live with our fourth roommate who still wants to live with us. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "klaRQ8N2k8qf0p9vp0yGm415r4XiQKJQ", "post_id": "b8so0c", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave a negative review for messed up food", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave a negative review for messed up food?", "text": "Went through the drive-through at McDonald's and all of the food but the nuggets was messed up. Burnt fries, a sandwich not actually wrapped and thrown in the bag, burger missing things, etc. Just a mess.\n\n​\n\nMy first impulse was to follow the survey link on the receipt and leave a \"highly dissatisfied\" review with all of the reasoning. \n\n​\n\nI still think it's a fair thing to do but husband thinks it's an ahole move because it doesn't take into account who it could hurt and working at Mcdonalds sucks, someone could have called in sick or whatever. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6U7ZPBJjamM4EqLCgz2lCH0gblgrd69D", "post_id": "an95wd", "action": {"description": "wanting to get a tattoo while traveling with so", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to get a tattoo while traveling with SO?", "text": "My fiance and I are planning on travelling to China in a few months. It's his first visit, while I've been there before and speak the language. I want to get a tattoo while we're there. It would be my third, and I want to add to a piece already on my wrist. I'm a fan of Chinese calligraphy and would much rather get a tattoo in that by an expert than find an artist in the US who is fluent.\n\n​\n\nMy fiance is against it, which has led to a pretty big fight. He doesn't mind tattoos, but he says that A) he doesn't want to be alone in a foreign city while I get my tattoo done (and also doesn't want to sit in the studio). B) He doesn't want me to be unable to do things while I'm healing. C) He doesn't trust me when I say getting a small tattoo on my lower arm is really not a big deal, and that my previous one was only inconvenient for like 10 minutes when I washed my hair. D) I'm being selfish planning something for only me when we're going somewhere together. E) He thinks that I tend to be somewhat impulsive and choose things based on aesthetics rather than pragmatics. This is not entirely false, to give him credit.\n\n​\n\nI love him very much, but this fight is making me question myself a lot. I feel upset that I'm not \"allowed\" to do something, and feel like he wants me to babysit him 24/7 while we're overseas. He also hasn't come up with any things *he* wants to do, which means that I'm tasked with finding over a week of activities, for the two of us. And he doesn't want to go on a bunch of tours. \n\n​\n\nAITA for not being satisfied just letting this go? It's moderately important to me, but I also feel guilty for bringing it up after he's said he's against it.\n\n​\n\nTLDR; I want to get a tattoo while abroad, SO is very against it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UKzB8OLHvQ3gN9nD9t0dkuCzwwnkHywl", "post_id": "au4qj5", "action": {"description": "interrupting my girlfriends nephew during his story time with literal fart montages", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for interrupting my girlfriends nephew (5) during his story time with literal fart montages", "text": "", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kW4SPG4ZnvCewkKnrsiXhxpqYSdTT7g2", "post_id": "9ws7sl", "action": {"description": "complaining about the direction my friend is heading", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for complaining about the direction my friend is heading?", "text": "Ok so I have two really close friends. One of them got a new GF and his behaviors drastically changed. He became flaky and unreliable combined with lack of interest in anything I had to say to him. His GF started making his career/education choices for him. This GF, in my opinion, does not appear to be a good choice for my friend. Having been friends with him for 15+ years I figured I wasn't just bullshitting around. He also lived with me for awhile but moved out very recently due to the following. Bring up how he never cleans up anything. I would talk to my other friend about the choices he was making. Expressing anger and frustration in his change of character and allowing to be manipulated by this new GF (they're engaged btw; they dated for 7 months; he's 24, she's 18). Well the friend I was complaining to decided to go behind my back and tell my friend getting married about all the things I was saying. Naturally he's not going to take that lightly. I also have no idea how he said it to him, but as it sits now neither one of them are talking to me. I found out this happened because for some strange reason they went and complained to my brother about me. MY BROTHER. Obviously he goes and tells me what happened. Now I simply want to know, was I in the wrong for complaining about the choices my best friend was making, because I felt they were wrong for him. Or is my friend in the wrong for betraying my trust and going behind my back to tell the other? Is this an attempt to start drama? Just let me know what you think guys, thanks.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "izyFhKxavfSFGxY2jcs4Grg12HZaUp6E", "post_id": "b0t7uk", "action": {"description": "trying to get my neighbors to turn down their music", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to get my neighbors to turn down their music?", "text": "Am at college right now. I'm not usually a complain-y person and am very low-maintenance. Usually I tolerate noise as I live in a cramped dorm and things get loud on the weekends and I get it.\n\nBut for the past few weeks my neighbors (whom I don't really talk to very often but are mutual friends) must have gotten a new speaker or something because they've been BLASTING music, to the point where it's almost shaking the walls. I put up with it for a bit because they're friends of friends and I didn't want to give them a hard time. But finals are rolling around and I couldn't focus (or really sleep for that matter, will get into that in a sec).\n\nLet me clarify: Quiet hours for us are 11pm on weekdays and 1am on weekends. Usually my neighbors will turn off their music around that time (give or take half an hour). But, along with not being able to focus, I find myself not being able to sleep with it on (even if I have earplugs in, it's THAT LOUD).\n\nLike a civil person I texted them and asked them to turn it down, they said sure, and apparently moved the speaker away from my wall, which helped a bit. But the next day the music was back on again.\n\nI realize I probably should have mentioned it again, but other people had started complaining about it (when I was talking to them) so I decided to message one of my RAs asking her to just talk to them about it. She said sure, the music soon stopped, and then the next day my good friend (read: not even them) came to me saying they're really mad at me.\n\nThey're mad apparently because a) they weren't playing their music during quiet hours (which is true) and b) because now the RAs are on their back when their room reeks of weed and has a ton of it in it.\n\nMy argument is that I didn't know about the weed and they shouldn't really be blasting music so loud it shakes the walls anyway. Am I the asshole for approaching my RA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sG8qvQc6fU6473ERDNRaPI9B6NCl1So8", "post_id": "avdty6", "action": {"description": "stopping seeing a girl because she got too attached", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for stopping seeing a girl because she got too attached", "text": "I have known this certain female for 8-9 years and we have always both had other romantic interests, but have always been good friends and get on like a house on fire.\n\nRecently (circa 18 months ago) we both found ourselves single and I drunkenly messaged her and we embarked on a sexual \u2018relationship\u2019. \n\nI was clear from the outset that I did not see the relationship progressing into anything other than \u2018friends with benefits\u2019 as the \u2018spark\u2019 was just not there, probably because of the fact that we were friends for years before.  She agreed with this.\n\nIn honesty, I suspected for some time the she harboured deeper feelings for me and wanted more in terms of a future, but have admittedly brushed it aside.\n\nI did however reiterate on several occasions my initial position about the future and direction of our \u2018relationship\u2019 and that I could not envisage that I would ever want to progress things.\n\nOn these occasions, she denied having further feelings and expressed she was happy with things as they were (basically with no commitment) and to see what the future held.\n\nRecently, she told me in a text messages that she loved me. When I confronted her about this she denied she was in love with me and said that she simply meant she was fond of me and loved me for how happy I make her.  \n\nI was not convinced by this, however, and told her that I was discontinuing our sexual relationship because I suspected that she was being dishonest about her true feelings and I did not want to mislead her and continue knowing that she truthfully wanted more.\n\nI suspect she was testing the water with saying she loved me to see my reaction.\n\nHer position is basically that she is a big girl and she has no \u2018future plans\u2019 so why cant things continue as they are in the present if we are both content and if it fizzes out in the future, so be it? She is against the abrupt end I have called and got upset.\n\nThe disagreement has led to an end to all contact between us, which I am unhappy about.\n\nTl;dr : I stopped sleeping with a regular casual sexual partner (who i was previously good friends with) because she told me she loved me and i suspect she wants more. We have now fallen out.\n\nAm I the asshole here?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "tdeMO8sfodIsevWs9djRPmJk7MoKyAME", "post_id": "a5f469", "action": {"description": "leaving when things get heated", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for leaving when things get heated?", "text": "My younger brother and I don\u2019t get along well. \n\nHe\u2019s said some really hurtful things to me and my best friend and is always mean to my mom and I. \n\nHe really likes to start shit for no reason, like today I asked my mom, \u201cHey, is (brother) coming with us to the show tomorrow?\u201d.\nShe said yes and I guess my body language gave it away, I kind of slouched and sighed. It really wasn\u2019t on purpose, I was genuinely upset because I didn\u2019t want to deal with him when it could be so much more fun without him tantrumming over nothing.\n\nHe saw me and said something like, \u201cOh, oh, you don\u2019t want me to come? Huh? Don\u2019t want me to come??\u201d while getting right up in my face.\n\nI said this exactly - \u201cNo, because you aren\u2019t being nice.\u201d Then I backed away from him and went upstairs.\n\nHe blows up, screaming his stupid little head off and my parents both start on me as well.\n\nI don\u2019t understand!!! My mom\u2019s favourite thing to tell me is \u201cWorry about yourself, just walk away\u201d, but when I do it, everyone freaks out! My brother can get physical and I didn\u2019t want to get into it. \n\nThe reason I said \u201cNo, because you\u2019re not being nice\u201d is because he honestly doesn\u2019t understand how rude and mean he can be without being told. He will seriously bring up stuff he KNOWS hurts, like he\u2019ll use my friends, school, even my cat who passed away against me and it really hurts! It\u2019s stupid that an ignorant little kid can actually make my heart hurt, but he can. \n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LCEboU3WXt7r7qWTGDVIL9XeH1ykRyn4", "post_id": "b3p8tb", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go away with friends again after strange behaviour", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go away with friends again after strange behaviour", "text": "  \n\nAITA \u2013 I just went away with friends and want to know if I am the A here for thinking they are scruffy. So we went Monday to Friday and on Monday after travelling all day I made food then jumped in the shower, so did hubby and we had a chilled night. Tuesday rolls round and it returns to business as usual going in the shower of a morning, there was a hot tub so sometimes of the evening too, to get the chorine out of my hair and then again in the morning. \n\nMy friend took a bath once and on the Wednesday and her boyfriend once Thursday, I even said if you guys want to use the shower in ours feel free thinking there wasn\u2019t one over their bath. She said oh there is on in the bathroom I prefer a bath. (that I get, not for me but each to their own) \n\nAm I wrong in thinking this is scruffy, they don\u2019t look very clean and tidy and over the years I think it has gotten worse. There were other things that I thought was strange but I was thinking is it a holiday thing like we weren\u2019t doing much so was it so chilled that they were just going to stink it up for a few days being lazy? My husband said nope its gross. Then commented on them bringing snacks to keep in their room and not share? Like going into their room of a night and coming out with bags of sweets and not sharing. \n\nEverything we brought the shared shopping (proper food) and snacks that we had brought were just put in the kitchen, offered and shared same with the beers. I know I don\u2019t have it in me to uposet her be saying anything but husband feels like he doesn\u2019t really want to go away with them again.\n\nAm I the A for thinking I\u2019d rather not going away with them again", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rj5RLfLpod20sIVgSZHPjVYQ9M2Ud9WK", "post_id": "9v7wnj", "action": {"description": "not paying for my friend's concert ticket and ditching him", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not paying for my friend's concert ticket and ditching him", "text": "Backstory, my friend and I have been close for a long time, since we were kids. After we graduated from high school we both went to our local college. I ended graduating but he ended up dropping out.\nNow my career isnt the most well paying job but it is a career i enjoy. While my friend now has been jumping from job to job, going through periods of unemployment. He does not have his own car so every now and again he asks me for rides and normally I say yes unless I'm working or busy.\nOne time when he asked me to drive him about 3 hours to go pick up his lady friend. After awhile i reluctantly said yes but on the condition that he pays for the gas. He agrees and we head out on our way.\nNote that my job doesn't pay very well so taking a 3 hour drive with no benefit for me isnt in my budget.\nLong story short he \"forgot\" his wallet so ended up paying for the trip and it took him almost a year to pay me back. And of course this made me very angry because the trip put me in a hole.\n\nFast forward to just the other day, me and couple of my other friends plan to go see a concert. My \"forgetful\" friend also says that he wants to go and we were all okay with it on the condition that he \"PAYS FOR HIS OWN TICKET\" \nWe all order our tickets online but my friend insists on paying at the door. We all knew where this was going. So we tell him again that none of us were going to pay for his ticket and that we not pay for him if he came up short.\nIts the day of the concert and we part ways with my friend so he can buy his ticket while we stand line to get in to the show.\n\n5 minutes later he comes back and says the magic words \"i forgot my wallet\".\n\n\"Well sorry, we told you that none of us would pay if you didn't have the money\"\n\nHe goes on for about 30 minutes begging for us to cover for him and that he would pay us back, but we all stood our ground. Of course he's not happy about it but hey i could barely afford the ticket myself. \nSo we end up leaving him outside for the whole 5 hour show and he wasn't happy. But the show was great though.\nI've talked to him since then but he's still mad about it.\n\nAITA for ditching my friend and not paying for his ticket?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r077FRACRq3giK3ikE3YLByD4Pl7w0AK", "post_id": "as2d5y", "action": {"description": "giving a girl a taste of her own medicine? was I too harsh", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for giving a girl a taste of her own medicine? Was i too harsh?", "text": "Throwaway account because my actual username would've given me away if anyone had found this post.\n\n​\n\nAlmost a decade ago i used to go to college in my old hometown.\n\n​\n\nMy former hometown had an arrangement with a college a couple hundred miles away, where the local students in my home town would come visit the other college for a week every month or so.\n\n​\n\nA little backstory. The girl was two years my junior, we were friends as kids, but grew apart, and she became an entitled jerk.\n\nCue Friday.\n\nThe college was hosting a party, and like in most colleges, with \\*redacted\\* being no exception, alot of us went ahead and got wasted.\n\nIt's honestly a blur, but i have some memory of great times being had.\n\n​\n\nCome Saturday, the day after a party. \n\nI get out of bed and grab a bite to eat.\n\nI notice there's a bit of a commotion in the hallway leading to one of the girl's rooms. \n\nI overhear something about one of the girls having had an 'accident'. So i move on, and as i leave the building i get pulled to the side by one of the teachers saying they found anon (16 year old college mate) asleep in the local graveyard (the poor kiddo had too much to drink) and as it turns out, he stole my 500ml vodka bottle from my room as i was sleeping.\n\nThis wound up taking more than an hour, with the principal of the college also being called, and basically threatening me, that because someone got my alcohol, i might have a chance of getting expelled.\n\n​\n\nSo. I get to the house, and as i enter the room, there's this girl who i used to be friends with when we were young, but we grew apart, and at that time, was a jerk towards me.\n\nShe somewhat whispered to me as i entered \"throwawaymcbobbins what are you doing here? You're fat, ugly, and nobody likes you!\" \n\nTo which i reply (in a voice much louder than intended) \"Well, at least i don't piss the bed\".\n\nAll my friends in the room heard the remark, and burst out laughing.\n\nShe ran out crying, i felt sympathetic, but at the same time, felt it was a fair reply to what she'd said to me.\n\n​\n\nThat incident still mildly irks me to this day, yet I've bumped into her on a few occasions afterwards, and we had decent little talks.\n\nI hope she's doing well in life.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Beng4bOjNoCpX5SrF60eGHywz9MGLEia", "post_id": "b7hcdq", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk with a relative", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk with a relative", "text": "So there's a relative that I have who is kinda pushy. I say this he always sending motivational messages and biblical passages which is nice and all but there are times that I kinda want to be alone for extended periods of time and I ignore his texts due to that. I don't hate the fact he does this, it's just that I don't know what to say in response when people ask what I want to do with my life and they desire a better answer than I don't know. I can guess what the answer to my question is but I gotta ask am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3NMngiHZxy1W7mxQd3zoVRejIvIMR41H", "post_id": "at8bft", "action": null, "title": "AITA if my wedding is \"too close\" to my sister's?", "text": "My whole family is just my mom, me, and my twin sister. We've always been very close.\n\nI was married once before, I had a big fancy wedding (that tbh I didn't want, my ex & ex-inlaws did). Shortly after we were married he became really abusive and controlling. It was a huge 180 from the man I knew for years prior and it was really traumatic.\n\nThat was a long time ago though, and I've been with my now-fiance 5 years. We had been talking about getting engaged for almost 2 years, but he was in an intense doctoral program and wanted to wait until he was out of school before we moved things forward.\n\nMy sister has been with her fiance for a year. They got engaged before I did. It was a total surprise to her and not something they really had any plans for yet. I was thrilled for her. Likewise, she was vey happy when I got engaged.\n\nBecause of my fiance's work and his research projects, our available windows of time are very small. There's only a couple sets of days each year we can expect him to be free. we originally wanted to semi-rush to do something really small and casual this June, but struggled to find places in our budget that weren't booked yet, so we decided to wait until next June. If we don't do it then, we're looking at waiting a whole other year + because of how hard it is to plan in advance with his schedule.\n\nWhen I told my sister we were going to wait a year, she seemed upset and said they actually were thinking off moving theirs up to sept. 2020. I assured her she didn't need to do anything for mine and I'd fly her in if she needed, etc. She seemed to agree that it would be fine but I could tell she was upset.\n\nThen when I was chatting with my mom and told her our new plans, she started talking about how that could be hard for sister, because it's a lot of money to spend at once. she said she thinks it's cute when people just elope and then do a big reception later and maybe i could do that? Then that there's no need for me to rush into my wedding because we've been together so long it's not like anything about our relationship will change. Then she started to say something about this being my second wedding (and therefore not as important) but changed the subject really quickly.\n\nYeah it's my second wedding, but it's my fiance's first. This is literally a small, short ceremony with a handful of people in attendance. I'm wearing a white sundress and making my own cake. \n\nThey both love my fiance, I know they are excited about me getting married, but I feel so defeated at how they seem to think my actual wedding is some kind of bother. Truthfully I'm a little embarrassed/self-conscious already about having already been married before. I'm trying to not be tacky and have two big ceremonies but at the very least my fiance deserves to have a wedding he's happy with. I'm very in love with a really great person. We want to celebrate that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nNYYdUuVjqybyJwXALw8fPVofq2UGs8D", "post_id": "as76te", "action": {"description": "asking my guest to leave after telling her she could stay as long as she wanted", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my guest to leave after telling her she could stay as long as she wanted?", "text": "A friend asked if we were free this past weekend for her to visit and stay with us. I am 8 months pregnant, fatigued, and we still have a lot to do to get ready for the baby. Initially, I told her honestly that no, we're too busy so maybe after the baby is here. She clarified that she was coming down to spend time with someone she had met online. She only needed to crash at our place two nights and only see us for one afternoon. That sounded doable to my husband and me so I told her she was welcome to stay at our place.\n\nAfter she arrived, I think she realized the guy she had been talking to wasn't really her cup of tea. However, it seemed she enjoyed her time with my husband and me and asked if she could stay longer. My natural propensity towards hospitality immediately led me to say that she was welcome to stay for as long as she wanted.\n\nSome incidences have occurred that have made me regret saying that:\n\n1. On the first afternoon, I treated her to somewhat pricey lunch, as she was our guest. However, for dinner, I paid our bill thinking she would give me the balance for her half later. I was surprised to hear her say \"oh, I should have gotten it. Thanks again!\"\n2. In the evening, my husband and I were resting quietly doing our own activities. However, she seemed to push watching a movie with us even though my husband was clearly watching something on TV. We ended up not doing that and she slept early.\n3. On the second day, since her guy works night shifts, it seemed like she expected to spend the day with us. So we drove to an interesting neighborhood with her for lunch and shopping. She ends up meeting up with the guy just for dinner so ultimately spends only a few hours with him before his work starts.\n4. My husband lent her an unlimited subway pass in case she and her guy needed to take the train more than once. When she got home, she said apologetically that she had lost it. She asked my husband how much was left, and he said two weeks. She said, \"oh no, I bought you another pass for one week. I'm sorry, these things happen.\" I felt miffed she didn't offer at least to pay for the other week.\n5. She has been battling a cold and I'm nervous being pregnant and having a lowered immune system.\n\nIn my mind, she's overstayed her welcome by not being considerate with our time and money. We feel pressure to entertain her (if we're on our laptops, she'll ask what we're doing/reading/looking at and pursue conversation) and she doesn't seem to care to spend time with the person she came down to see or make plans on her own. She also seems to keep adding days to her stay. My struggle is that I made the mistake of telling her she could stay as long as she needed. My husband says that I can't ask her to leave and it's not like she will stay forever. WIBTA if I did ask her to? I don't even know how I would phrase it.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7V05X8PYxZKRwUP196FDqcviqvHVXot7", "post_id": "awr1mf", "action": {"description": "wanting to know how much I hurt someone", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting to know how much I hurt someone?", "text": "A few weeks ago I ruined an amazing friendship with someone I greatly loved and admired. It was because of my unhealthy behavior entirely and I do take blame for that. Essentially, I struggle with mild drug abuse and it is my go to when I\u2019m extremely anxious and depressed. For the last year or two I\u2019ve had a great friend who was extremely supportive through all this. One night, while mixing alcohol and ambien to cope I mentally disconnected and walked to my friend\u2019s house and just entered their home without their knowledge. This is a horrific thing I did and I feel profound remorse and guilt for it. They cut me out and we haven\u2019t been friends since. \n\nNow we have three classes together at university, so I see them fairly often. We also live just two doors apart from each other. We agreed to act normal in person, and thus far we have. The other day we ended up just sitting and talking for half the day while we did school work in the lab. We had normal personal convos and shared shit. So that part has remained true. \n\nBut today I asked if we could have a smoke tomorrow and that I\u2019d bum them one. They snapped and said \u201cWe are not friends. If playing chess is too familiar I will stop.\u201d (Because we still play chess together on the phone). To which I just said \u201cJesus Christ. I know we aren\u2019t friends. If anything Chess reinforces that. I wasn\u2019t asking out of friendship or some shit so dont treat me like I\u2019m some monster. I dont deserve that\u201d Blah blah blah. They just said \u201cSo don\u2019t ask to hang outside of a professional setting\u201d I explained I just had a question to ask and I figured a smoke would be fine because its quick and we\u2019ve smoked together a few times since we stopped being friends. \n\nBut then I followed up and asked for clarification on just how bad I fucked up (not worded in this way but essentially the same thing). Like we once actively expressed love for each other and we\u2019re very caring and supportive of one another. I know what I did was bad and unhealthy, but I didn\u2019t think it was enough to kill everything we ever shared and to fill them with enough hatred and anger that it killed the love and care we once shared. Is this an asshole thing to ask? They left me on read here and didn\u2019t respond. But I\u2019m thinking about asking again next time the chance permits in person. \n\nBut I just don\u2019t know. I feel guilt, I know I fucked up, I know I\u2019m unhealthy, but I dont think I deserve to be treated with the same level of hatred that they give to the people that have literally assaulted them in the past. So the level of guilt and pain I have isn\u2019t to that level, but if they feel that what i did was that horrid then they deserve for me to know that. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fM7MkJp1dmrA2mANq6Vjnh70hrfpyf4Q", "post_id": "b6dn0y", "action": {"description": "making my BF feel the need to delete/stop commenting on girls' NSFW posts", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for making my BF feel the need to delete/stop commenting on girls\u2019 NSFW posts?", "text": "Hi, all. My bf (25) and I (26) have been together for 3 years. We live together and have a pretty solid relationship. We rarely fight, have the same interests, etc. and we are pretty open about a lot of things. I\u2019m bisexual and will often point out cute girls I see. Sometimes we bond over it as we both like the same type of women. He does the same, he will point them out to me, too. However, we are only committed to each other. We have a monogamous relationship. I don\u2019t easily become jealous or upset if he likes other girls\u2019 pictures or anything, because I do the same. And to become upset about it would be hypocritical, I think. And I know he would never cheat on me. \n\nHowever, although we knew we both had a reddit, we never shared our usernames with each other (this one is a throwaway). Not that we were trying to hide it, it just never came up. But, a few months ago, he sent me a screenshot of a funny comment he made on somebody\u2019s post, which gave me his username. I went to his page, not to snoop, but I genuinely wanted to see his other comments, as he is really funny and it was merely for my own entertainment. I wasn\u2019t trying to find anything. However, about 75% of his comments were on other girls\u2019 posts telling them how pretty they are, hot they are, asking for them to post more, etc. And it wasn\u2019t exactly what he was saying that bothered me, but it was how much he was doing it. As I said before, we have pretty solid relationship, but sometimes I feel like he forgets to make me feel wanted. Our sex life is almost non-existent due to medications he\u2019s on, so sometimes my self-esteem takes a hit. I don\u2019t blame him one bit for that, but seeing those comments just made me a little sad, because I wish he would say those things to me. \n\nI confronted him about it by just bringing it up causally. I had said something along the lines of \u201cI found your page..wished I kinda regret scrolling through your comments! Haha!\u201d After I said that he told me how horrible he felt about it, and apologized a dozen times. He told me he realizes that he can get out of hand, and it\u2019s disrespectful to me and he shouldn\u2019t do that stuff. I told him that it was fine, that I just wasn\u2019t expecting to see so much. He again apologized. And told me he should be making me feel good, not strangers. And apologized for lacking in that department with me. A few days later I went back (I know, I shouldn\u2019t have) and noticed ALL of the comments were gone. This was about 3 months ago and today for the first time since then I went back to look (don\u2019t know why. It\u2019s stupid of me) and he has barely commented on any posts in general. And I feel bad because I feel like I may have made him feel so guilty that he stopped using reddit in general. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zoKtHZR7Ati5wbYi8W23opy8Ui00uGMN", "post_id": "ayibe1", "action": {"description": "telling a homeless person to spend the money I gave him on food", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for telling a homeless person to spend the money I gave him on food", "text": "Walking home from the bar last night pretty drunk and homeless man stopped me and asked me for some money.  I pulled out my wallet and the only bills I had were 20s.  I didn't want to leave him high and dry so I reluctantly handed over the $20 and said \"please spend it on food\" as he walked away.  Friend I was with was giving me shit for saying that to him.\n\n​\n\nso what do y'all think", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nrVuOh5dJjqgrcmNk5hhGzr5koKfmEQo", "post_id": "abip58", "action": {"description": "not being excited about my mom's \"new\" relationship", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not being excited about my mom\u2019s \u201cnew\u201d relationship?", "text": "I\u2019m a 25 year old woman, and I grew up as an only child. My parents split when I was 6 years old. My mom never dated, with the exception of briefly getting back together with an ex boyfriend who was living with us when I was around 8 years old. My mom is now 69 years old. \n\nI don\u2019t have a very solid memory of my childhood. I remember certain days or events, but not much. What I do remember from him living with us is not so great though. I remember him yelling at me and my friends pretty frequently over things that didn\u2019t really warrant yelling. \n\nFor example, a friend and I were jumping around having fun in the living room and he told us to stop and we didn\u2019t (because we were 8) and he spilled his coffee in the kitchen across the house and went nuclear on us for it. Claimed it was our fault that it spilled.\n\nAnother time he was yelling at me (don\u2019t remember why) and I went into my room and locked the door and he followed me and kicked my door in (permanently breaking the lock) so he could keep yelling. \n\nBecause of these incidences I\u2019ve pretty much decided how I feel about him. I never really talked about them in much detail with my mom because when he moved out he went to a different state. \n\nNow, I\u2019ve moved out and live across the country. She called me out of the blue one day and told me they were back together. I voiced my concerns and shared my memories and tried to tell her that it made me uncomfortable. \n\nShe said she doesn\u2019t remember those things happening, but that we could talk more the next time we see each other in person. \n\nNow we\u2019re on vacation with our entire family and one of the first things I noticed when I arrived is that my mom is wearing a wedding band. I had to confront her about it and she assured me that it\u2019s just a commitment ring. He asked her to marry him and when she said she had been married before and wasn\u2019t really wanting to do it again, he backtracked and said he didn\u2019t really want to get married either. \n\nI brought up my memories again, and tried to tell her how I felt without making a stink. I basically said that I can be happy for her, but that I\u2019m not sure I want to have any sort of relationship with him myself. \n\nAt this point, she brought up the possibility that my memories are \u201cfalse memories,\u201d which concerns me because, as her only child, I want my mom to believe me and care about my feelings. \n\nShe mentioned that she spoke with him about what I told her, and he said \u201chopefully as adults we can work it out,\u201d but he has not attempted to contact me in any way. \n\nNow our family members are coming up to me raving about how happy they are for her and after confiding in one of them about my experiences and having her completely brush it off, I just answer with \u201cshe doesn\u2019t talk to me about it\u201d to anyone else who says anything. \n\nI just can\u2019t help but have a seriously bad feeling about this whole thing, and everyone seems to be acting like I\u2019m in the wrong and like my experiences with him from my childhood don\u2019t matter. \n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pMvWUslVj0ESlB4V2zW8U5ICeSnJVsYm", "post_id": "b6cz3f", "action": {"description": "using my phone while at a small, live concert", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for using my phone while at a small, live concert?", "text": "Show was live, small venue, acoustic-type singer/songwriter songs. I was sitting in the back row with my partner and two of her friends. I had some online errands to run (shopping). I sat with my phone in my lap, tapping and swiping away. After some time, my date nudged me and asked me to put my phone away (which I did immediately). Now, I don't mind being told to put my phone away and pay attention at all. But my partner told me that the couple we were there with thought it was rude, and she tended to agree. \n\n​\n\nMy instinct was that this (using a phone at a concert) was normal behavior, no more impolite than reading a book in a bar or something. Is this what being an asshole feels like?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jrmxO4gzQZnAPTKBV5BetySPIPRQ4TDT", "post_id": "b2q6rf", "action": {"description": "ending a friendship because of their relationship with my ex", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ending a friendship because of their relationship with my ex?", "text": "obligatory apology for formatting, i\u2019m on mobile. TL;DR at the bottom\n\nmy friend and i had been friends for about 6 years or so. i had moved to a new city and a new school and had no friends. we met in one of my classes and instantly became friends, i was introduced to his inner circle of friends, etc.\n\nafter being friends with him for about a year, i started dating a girl who was manipulative, controlling, abusive, you get the idea. we broke up after being together about 3 years. this part comes in to play later in the story. \n\nfast forward to about 6 months ago, i found out him and ex were friends. i talked to him about how this made me uncomfortable because she was pretty terrible to me. he said he understood where i was coming from and asked me if i would prefer that he not talk to her anymore, to which i said that i would appreciate that very much.\n\nfast forward again to yesterday, i saw them in public together and come to find out they\u2019ve been dating for a few months. i told him that i couldn\u2019t be friends with him anymore because them being together and around me made me uncomfortable. i can\u2019t help but feel guilty for ending a friendship that mattered to me a lot but i also don\u2019t want to associate with my ex. \n\nso, AITA?\n\nTL;DR: best friend of 6 years started dating my tragic ex and i don\u2019t want to be around them anymore.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r0FL4mZ5sbFrecx3SUdz2sjb7ktz1uts", "post_id": "b73wt7", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I reject guys interested in me?", "text": "My friends seem to think so. I'll describe two instances.\n\nOn one occasion, I was at a coffee shop reading The Trial by Kafka, minding my own damn business when a guy sits down at the table with me. I ignore him. He starts praising Kafka and says he didn't know any girls who were interested in that sort of thing, how I must be \"different\". Um, excuse me, wtf? Kafka is an extremely well known author, I literally read Metamorphosis in high school. That's a huge pet peeve of mine, freaking people who act like the well known authors they stan for are actually niche and obscure that only misunderstood geniuses like them appreciate. Fuck offff with that. So without ever saying a word to him, I got up and left the shop. He followed me on to the street saying, \"wow, are you serious right now? What's your problem?\" Then he called me a turbo b!tch and went back into the shop. Who does that? Just sits down at a table where a person is reading and starts talking at them? Weird.\n\nThen on an unrelated occasion, I was walking around downtown playing Pokemon Go. I was doing a raid at a park when a Male avatar enters the lobby. Eh. It was a level 2 I could have easily done on my own. Anyway, we win of course and this guy approaches me saying I should thank him for \"helping\" me. Excuse me, sir, but I'm a level 36 and he was lower than that, if anything, I helped him. Still, we each could have beat the raid solo. (Btw, I did almost twice as much damage, js) Anyway, he tries to engage me in conversation in the most pretentious way possible and does not get the hint I don't want to talk to him. He's literally following me at this point as I'm ignoring him and trying to play. When I see it, a city bus approaching. I know the bus system in my city like clockwork, it was the number 9 and knew it would make a stop at the stop about 50 ft away from my position. There was one person waiting already. Anyway, so when the bus stopped, I took off at a dead sprint, got on and rode it up to Meijer, transferred and went home. \n\nMy friends say I'm wrong for this. I don't see how. Both times I was trying to mind my own business and was very rudely intruded upon. I don't know these people, I owe them nothing. My sister told me I'll never get a boyfriend if I keep this up and that's just fine with me honestly.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 36, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 37, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MdtsMXudeBVKv6mqQOqBF95xrU7rGhRb", "post_id": "a48wa7", "action": {"description": "not going for my friend's birthday party for what I think is a legit reason not to", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not going for my friend\u2019s birthday party for what I think is a legit reason not to?", "text": "For a little context, I don\u2019t use FB at all. I have an account but I have not logged into in over a couple of years. My friend invited me to her bday party over FB, and didn\u2019t decide to text me about it until 2 days before. During this time I was petsitting for two different owners as well as preparing for finals so the last minute invite took a toll on me since I didn\u2019t want to just not go. \nTo make matters worse, one of the cats that I was taking care of has diabetes and AIDS. For a couple of days, I would walk into the house and find throw up in different spots of the house. The third day that I saw the throw up, I had a talk with the owner and we decided that I\u2019d stay there to make sure it wasn\u2019t the diabetic cat that was throwing up since it\u2019d be a serious issue. \n\n\n\nWell, that day happened to be the day of my friend\u2019s bday party which was in the middle of the day. So due to this issue, I texted her and let her know what was going on as well telling her that I\u2019d definitely make it up to her another day. \nWell, since then she\u2019s ignored two of my texts that was me apologizing and asking me to make it up to her. I don\u2019t know if it\u2019s just the hormones that she\u2019s taking that\u2019s making her this way or if I actually fucked up somehow. I just need different perspectives because I can\u2019t see her perspective in this situation at all. I don\u2019t want to lose her friendship but I also don\u2019t want to keep texting her apologizing for something that I had no control over. \n\nTl;dr: I ended up not being able to go to my friend\u2019s birthday party for what I think was a pretty good reason. However, she\u2019s ignored my texts and hasn\u2019t reached out to me in weeks and I don\u2019t know what else I can do to fix this", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FnTsU7m3ksFinjoISmmnmQCV9MZP7n2Z", "post_id": "b1r5m1", "action": {"description": "going solo in a Science Fair even though my friends begged me to be in my team", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going solo in a Science Fair even though my friends begged me to be in my team ?", "text": "I am a high school student who has a passion for Technical and Practical stuff, there was a science fair in my school and cuz I am a nerd I already had a pretty awesome idea. When I listed a group with me as the only member. The idea itself was pretty awesome (Wilson Cloud Chamber). A couple of my friends also wanted to be on the project but the truth is that they always ditch the work and show up on the day being happy while do all the work. \n\nI straight up said no, even though my teacher was insisting me on having a team but I straight up refused. On the Science Fair Day, my project became a hit because actually seeing the project work perfectly was a great plus point. I ended up winning the second prize for it. Now my friends are all bitter that if I had listed their name as well then they would have also won the second prize but the truth is I hate being used. \n\nAITA for refusing to work in a group with my friends on a brilliant idea for the science fair ??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hdK293vZejRqSWgvtTB33XprcLbClLMd", "post_id": "afg4da", "action": {"description": "moving in with a fwb", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for moving in with a FWB?", "text": "TL;DR: I think my FWB might be catching feelings after talking about him moving in for sudden financial reasons. \n\nDetails:\n\nMy landlord informed me over Christmas that since my current roommate is moving out, she wants to start renting out the whole place together instead of the two bedrooms separately. She gave me my 30 day notice to choose if I want the whole place or to move out. It is very expensive where we live. It was not fun to hear after splurging a little more this year on gifts and travel for the holidays.\n\nI don\u2019t have any other friends who are looking to move, I like my current place, and I\u2019m tired of living with strangers.\n\nWell, I told him about my situation and I already knew he didn\u2019t like where he was staying (on a couch.. like I said, expensive). He has been working a new job for the last few months though and we started talking about it. I did view 8 or 10 places and see hundreds more online. There were a few places that caught my eye but nothing that would be better for a price I was happy with.\n\nSince then, I am starting to think he might be catching feelings for me. Just little things like a certain joke or putting his hand on my back while walking somewhere. Nothing serious though. We texted today that yes, he\u2019s gonna move in here. Month to month leases for both of us. He texted me a little later saying he has a gift. \n\nI know some guys don\u2019t like talking about feelings or would maybe be afraid to bring it up. Do I have a responsibility to ask him directly if he likes me? And if he does like me, does that mean I have a moral obligation to not, I dunno, let him get attached? I know I\u2019m not going to want a relationship. I am planning to move out after the upcoming semester is over and I will be able to work full time, and I can look at a slightly higher price range. He knows this is short term. \n\nWhat do you think, Reddit? AITA?\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6MNDHSQ5kcspeWjFiuh7j7HUsCE0Jh31", "post_id": "a8m5ar", "action": {"description": "telling my future SIL's they are no longer bridesmaids at our wedding", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA to tell my future SIL\u2019s they are no longer bridesmaids at our wedding?", "text": "I\u2019ve never had an easy relationship with them- they are several years younger than me. Because of other reasons, there was an extended period of time where we didn\u2019t speak, a number of years ago.\n\nWe\u2019ve very slowly reconciled over the last few years and after my boyfriend proposed to me, I suggested asking them to be bridesmaids as another way of bridging our relationship with his sisters. So we did. This was several years ago.\n\nThe wedding is in the next 6 months. Over the last few months, our relationship with his family has really deteriorated. FH\u2019s grandpa refuses to talk to me and on occasion has completely ignored me (but won\u2019t tell anyone what I did to piss him off. It\u2019s been like this for about 6 years). \n\nIssue 1) FH\u2019s sisters have said if Grandpa isn\u2019t invited to the wedding they wouldn\u2019t come either. After many tantrums and FH\u2019s enabler parents getting involved, Grandpa is now invited. (Not what we want.)\n\nIssue 2) Bridesmaid 1 recently obtained an unofficial boyfriend. 6 weeks ago. She asked if he could be her date to the WHOLE day. We said no (don\u2019t know the guy) but he could come to the evening. She cried and behaved extremely rudely and disrespectfully. Again FH\u2019s parents come into it and suddenly unofficial boyfriend is now somehow invited to the whole day. (Again not what we want).\n\nI feel I have zero control over my own wedding. Neither of the two bridesmaids have been any kind of supportive of helpful. They don\u2019t want to come on my bachelorette party. \n\nI can\u2019t stand to be near them right now. I am not speaking to either of them. As far as I\u2019m concerned they were given a great opportunity and have totally thrown it back in our faces. \n\nFH isn\u2019t keen to de-bridesmaid them because WW3 will kick off. I\u2019m at the point where I empathise (as shitty as this is for me, they\u2019re his family and it\u2019s ultimately shittier for him), but actually I don\u2019t want to spend my wedding with people I can\u2019t stand that have zero respect for us. I\u2019ve put huge amounts of effort in over many years and it is not reciprocated in anyway. \n\nI\u2019ve missed out a lot of detail because I\u2019m frightened of being identifiable. Please assume that throughout all of this they have cried, made unreasonable demands, had a horrifying sense of entitlement, and been downright rude, difficult and disrespectful.\n\nI really appreciate any advice- if IATA please help me to move forward from this without feeling shitty on my wedding day.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "b6C694q0irzNIWj7DP7rKWINIsme1Ru7", "post_id": "al2is8", "action": {"description": "not wanting my Wife's coworker to stay with us for the next forseeable future", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my Wife's coworker to stay with us for the next forseeable future?", "text": "My  wife  called me today and tells me about this 21 year old coworker of hers who left her abusive boyfriend and is now living out of her car because she recntly moved her with him and has no friends of family.\n\nMy wife said she needs somewhere to stay for a few weeks and i told her that its a bad idea for many reasons. My concerns are:\n1. You barely know her. \n2. I dont know her at all.\n 3. Her boyfriend apparently has a pretty big rap sheet and is in and out of jail so i dont want that near my wife, myself, and my house.\n4. I dont want her problems to become ours by having some crazy dude coming by or some other crazy stuff.\n5. A few weeks can essily turn into never leaving or contributing.\n\nAfter telling her my concerns and recommending for her to tell the young lady to either move back home where he friends and family are or go to the womens shelter until she can get her things in order.\n\nMy wife says to me that \" i wish you show more sympathy\". I am sympathetic to her situation but like i said i dont know this women, i can't predict what her abusive boyfriend will do sinxe i do not know him. Ultimately i dont want to make a strangers  own problems become mine.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XA8qWB94FtyIJetNPf0j7R2is8prP0pq", "post_id": "aez57x", "action": {"description": "saying texting the word hell to a girl who turned out to be a full on Christian", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for saying texting the word hell to a girl who turned out to be a full on Christian?", "text": "To begin, this was on Snapchat. She sent me a video of someone putting spoons in their eyes, like a weird human trick. I though it was cool because I\u2019ve never seen it before. \n\nSo, I reply with,\u201d holy hell, that\u2019s impressive.\u201d\n\nShe then freaks the fuck out and tells me how I should never say that and it\u2019s horrible. I was confused at the time so I did say, I don\u2019t believe it\u2019s a bad word. \n\nThen, she unfriends me and blocks me. \n\nAfter, I asked a friend what just happened and he said she\u2019s a full on Christian and hates cuss words. Here\u2019s the killer though, I\u2019ve cussed in front of her before and she had no reaction. \n\nOf course, I feel like I could\u2019ve been a little more nice and said sorry, won\u2019t do it again. But I didn\u2019t think of it at the time. So, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HPLhIA4vttJ6OyJ5D6PGL0TSc30Wvwqn", "post_id": "b4pjog", "action": {"description": "telling a buddy that I thought his dream was a bad idea", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling a buddy that I thought his dream was a bad idea?", "text": "My buddy and I have the kind of friendship where we can be totally honest with each other.  We\u2019ve given honest opinions on each other\u2019s appearance, girlfriend\u2019s, bad habits.  I really didn\u2019t think there was anyone out of bounds, but I think I may have crossed a line I didn\u2019t know about.  \n\nHe was telling me about his idea for a specialty cafe.  I told him that I didn\u2019t think it was a good idea.  That anything that\u2019s not one of the chains it\u2019s going to have a hard time let alone one that targets such a specific customer base and that I think he\u2019s really overestimating how many people would be interested in it.  \n\nSince then he\u2019s been kinda blowing me off.  We usually text each other funny pics or have jokey conversations, but he either ignores me or gives me one word answers.  Are dreams about the future something you should never criticize?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZE17b0ufkBpKW4yAKwRbP9AOHmGynQ7F", "post_id": "axfqmo", "action": {"description": "ending a 2 year long friendship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for ending a 2 year long friendship", "text": "Not a throwaway but I've never really posted anything before. \n\n2 years ago I met my bestfriend and his partner through work. We get along great and I genuinely love to chill with them. But recently I've developed feelings for their partner, strong feelings. I don't want to be /that/ guy and spill my heart out and make everything uncomfortable but hanging out with them just bums me out these days. So I'm thinking of coming clean, and cutting ties with them. I feel like that's the better alternative than me turning bitter and jealous and resenting either or both of them. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jPXoY5VveR2wBdLafBUhyTlaCUkoyA7x", "post_id": "ae01mp", "action": {"description": "not confirming a call time for a phone interview", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not confirming a call time for a phone interview?", "text": "I just need my sanity checked.  \n\nHere's how the email traffic went down:   \n\nHR person: 'Good afternoon blah blah blah...  I'd like to set up a call with you to discuss this opportunity. Could you please suggest some times when you will be available in the next few days?\"         \n\nMe: \"Hello HR person, \n\nI am available to call anytime after 1600 on my personal number. I'm not sure what your hours are, so if there is a better time for you, please let me know.\n\nI spend the majority of my time out of the office blah blah, but I can block out a time of convenience for you and make sure I'm around my work phone at that time. Just let me know when is best for you. My numbers are blah blah\"       \n\nHR person: \" Good afternoon,\n\n \n\nI am available to call you today at 1615. \n\n \n\nI look forward to speaking with you soon\"         \n\n\n\nMe: -never gets call-   \n\n\n(45 minutes later)      \n\nHR Person: \"I did not want to call since you did not confirm.  Are you available tomorrow after 1600 as well ?  Let me know and I can call you then.\"           \n\n\n\n\nSo, forgive me, Reddit. But AITA for not following up? I read \"I look forward to speaking with you soon\" as pretty final that that's a good time, and my word that \"I am available to call anytime after 1600 on my personal number.\" as an implied confirmation.   \n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B5C4PLSb2BxM9JZ6dNhdBvPKt7SnSKje", "post_id": "aawogy", "action": {"description": "not inviting my mom or my grandparents to my wedding", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn\u2019t invite my mom or my grandparents to my wedding?", "text": "My long-term partner and I just moved to another country. We want to get married within the next year for visa reasons (and because we also just want to). \n\nNeither of us want a \u201creal\u201d wedding. We don\u2019t want to spend the money, we don\u2019t want the stress, we hate being the centre of attention \u2014we just...don\u2019t want any of it. We want to go to the courthouse and have a quick ceremony, just us and a witness.\n\nBefore we came to our new country, my mom and grandparents made it clear they would really like to be a part of our wedding if we get married. I told them I didn\u2019t think we would really have a wedding, we just wanted to elope or have a very simple ceremony by ourselves, but they insisted that they didn\u2019t care how simple it was, they wanted to know when because they will fly out for it. \n\nI\u2019m touched that they care this much but my partner and I kind of just want to do our thing and announce it after. The trouble is that if my mom is coming, I have to ask my dad if he wants to come too, and my parents aren\u2019t on the best terms. Then if my dad is coming he\u2019ll want to bring his wife, who detests my mom and whose presence I could do without. My partner has similar qualms about telling his mom \u2014 then he would have to invite his aunt (they live together), etc. It\u2019s complicated and we didn\u2019t really want to deal with any of it in the first place. \n\nAlso, even though they insist they want to come, it feels stupid to me for my family to spend $2,500 on round-trip flights for a 10-min no-frills ceremony, especially my elderly grandparents who are not supposed to be on long-haul flights (though they could solve this through an extended layover). \n\nI love my family and the last thing I want is to hurt them or make them feel excluded. I am also an only child and an only grandchild on that side which puts a lot of pressure on me. \n\nWhat my partner and I are leaning towards doing is having our quick, simple ceremony with just the two of us and announcing it after the fact. We will tell our families we can celebrate with a reception-like party next time we are back home for a visit. Unfortunately my grandparents will counter that by saying \u201cwe might be dead by then!\u201d And I can\u2019t exactly refute that. \n\nI know that\u2019s a lot to process but.....am I being a selfish asshole? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aYdQoFm9hfAucCqN7CygtmGH5ymsQ1zw", "post_id": "ann04o", "action": {"description": "yelling at my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my girlfriend", "text": "Yesterday while I was in a phone call with my girlfriend (LDR), while she was at her college cafeteria, I heard a man's voice asking very politely as if they've known each other for a while (on a first name basis) if he could sit down next to her. After an exchange of words, she stammered, and after a while, she declined. After this, I asked her who this mysterious person was and she told me his name. Being in a long distance relationship, I expected to at least know who she speaks to, for my own insecurities sake. After finding out I had no idea who this guy was, and finding out that they've been talking one on one for a while during school, I flipped out on her. So, the next day, after getting in another phone call, instead of asking how my day was, or just asking about my well being in general, she asks, why do men have urinals. This makes me really angry, so I yell at her about the guy. I yelled repeatedly, why did she do this (not telling me about the guy) and I wondered why she hid the guy from me for so long. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "GG6KJyUb2IzBnaYv2iASFVUidArOI5kD", "post_id": "aeai34", "action": {"description": "letting a woman know she doesn't belong in the mens restroom", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for letting a woman know she doesn\u2019t belong in the mens restroom", "text": "For my brother in law\u2019s birthday (17yr) my girlfriend decided to take him to an amusement park. Because she doenst dare to go in every rollercoaster she asked me and my SIL to come with them. \n\nWe got to the park 10 min after openingtime so it was not really busy. Before we would go deep into the park we decided to go the the restroom so we were ready to go to the rollercoasters. \n\nThere were two restrooms at the beginning of the park wich were both pretty small. Mens restroom had 2 places to sit and one too stand. The standing one was right next to the sink for washing hands. I think the women\u2019s restroom was the same size maybe a little bigger.\n\nSo my girlfriend and SIL go into the women\u2019s restroom and my BIL and me go into the men ofcourse\n\nWe had no line at the men\u2019s restroom and there was a line of 3 women at the women\u2019s restroom.\n\nAs soon as i walk into the men\u2019s restroom a woman walks out. Wich i thought was odd since there wasnt a big line at the women\u2019s. BIL goes to the standing one and i choose the seated ( i always pee seated dunno why) \n\nI was done and there was another woman who came in when i got out and one was washing her hands at the sink. Right next to my BIL! \n\nI then said to my BIL pretty loud: yo Daniel (his name) I wonder how the women will react if we just marched into their restroom?!\n\nMy SIL heard this ( she was waiting in the line by the women\u2019s restroom) and litteraly started screaming at me: \u201cWtf you can\u2019t say that! You should really behave! Fuck off!\u201d\n\nI got mad and said that so was a bitch for screaming at me for no reason. Me and my BIL were really uncoformtable with all these women in such a small place where we were peeing.\n\nAITA for saying that?\n\nTL;DR: said loudly to BIL wich the women in our men\u2019s restroom heard: \u201cWonder what the reaction would be if we just marched into the women\u2019s restroom.\u201d ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uXBImIH8Ei0LIKh0qyRoDOL5Eq2LMSIw", "post_id": "amz6kp", "action": {"description": "being unhappy with my girlfriend after she made me out something to my parents", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being unhappy with my girlfriend after she made me out something to my parents?", "text": "Buckle up reddit, because this ones gonna be kinda long.\n\nMe and my girlfriend have been dating for about a year and a half, and in the beginning, my stance on doing drugs was firm: I would never touch them. Slowly, however, i started to socialize, branch out and hang out in a bunch of different circles, and, one thing lead to another and i ended up trying weed one night while at a friends house. I get what i did was wrong, and I know that i got a good forewarning, seeing on how my girlfriend constantly threatened that if i ever did she\u2019d break up with me, but what happened afterward was well, in my eyes, complete betrayal. I would have respected it if she kept it between us, but she didnt. She gave me a choice. either I tell my parents, or she does, and of course feeling threatened and scared, i shamefully tell my dad over the phone. I understand that its my fault for trying it, and shes told me many of times (well after the fact) that its my fault, and that if i didnt wanna tell my parents i shouldnt have done it, but I still feel like what she did was very wrong. Im still with her and i still really like her, but she basically blackmailed me into outing myself to my parents, (luckily just my dad as he understood my youthful idiocy and didnt inform my mother) and made me lose my circle of friends that i finally socialized and did things with. i feel like i have a right to experiment and try things i want to try, and i also feel like it was out of her bounds to tell my parents like that. Im fine with an ESH or YTA but i just want some clarification. Am i the asshole here reddit?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rOe9qstTENkweOY7L2NxINopQvOwLwJk", "post_id": "aliezh", "action": {"description": "not wanting to plead my dad's case to my brother", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to plead my dad's case to my brother", "text": "So, my younger brother and I both lived with our dad until about two years ago, when he and our dad had a massive blow-up about something, and he went to live with our mum. I'm not precisely sure what the argument was about, but I've gotten the idea that it was something relatively minor or to do with normal parenting (?) from some passing things that have been mentioned by mum and dad, and occasionally my brother. Dad and mum do not get along, at all. They had a messy separation.\n\nMy brother refuses to meet, talk to, or answer the messages from dad in order to talk out the issue. Dad keeps sending him expensive gifts on his birthday and Christmas, and my brother refuses to thank him, refuse the gifts, or talk out the issue (if he finds there is one) with sending the gifts. From what mum has said, my brother refuses to talk about the issue with her, and he refuses to listen to her when she says that he should respond, or thank, or refuse, or talk it out with dad. Dad's bad relationship with mum has contributed, because they can't even speak to each other without having a massive argument, and dad blames mum somewhat for what amounts to, in his eyes, harbouring my brother, instead of forcibly sending him back to my dad. In dad's eyes, I'm basically the only avenue of communication, at this point. Dad has been getting desperate, and sometimes he gets upset and shouts and demands I go and speak to my brother about how he's in the wrong and being childish, and how dad just cares about him and wants what is best, and we get into arguments over it.\n\nI keep telling him no, because I think that would put me between the two of them in the argument, and I don't want to be the go-between for an argument that obviously has them both very emotional, that I don't think I'm equipped to mediate due to how terrible I am at dealing with emotional problems, and that doesn't involve me. Privately, I do think that, regardless of whatever the original quarrel was, it wasn't significant enough to warrant two years of no contact. However, I'm not close enough to my brother to get his whole side of it. Regardless, I don't think it's my place to get between them.\n\nTLDR; AITA for not wanting to be the go-between for a catastrophised familial argument that I am unequipped to mediate and that doesn't involve me, despite the distress it's causing my dad?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PzFaQHgSTtEJUSjnTfK8UEgFr2nxiXWD", "post_id": "axfv82", "action": {"description": "feeling relieved because my best friend moved to another country", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling relieved because my best friend moved to another country?", "text": "For starters sorry if there are typos or grammar mistakes, this is my first post here and english isn't my native language.\n\nWhen she told me she was going to study abroad of course I thought I'd be sad, but later on I realized all I felt was happiness and relief. She has always been a **very** high maintance friend. Always complaining, getting mad for nonsense or acting like our mother.  Once she got mad for not being able to go to her house for which is a 1 hour drive to get to and she has also yelled at me because I electrocuted myself trying to charge my phone (I guess she was worried but that isn't a reason to yelled at me for like 2 minutes straight). She can be very agressive when it comes to different opinions and if she gets mad at you, you better be a psychic cause she won' tell you. I've had to bring her back to earth multiple times because of tinder dates or once hooking up with a guy in a relationship.\n\nAlthough, I've shared amazing moments with her. I've brought her to family trips, we've had tons of sleepovers and shared a lot of \"teen\" moments. Sometimes I feel like I'm being a fake friend but, even thought she makes me go through a hard time most of the time, I still love spending time with her.  She is also very sad about leaving to another country but I'm not, or at least I'm not as sad as I thought I'd be. \n\nI don't know if this happens to everyone or if I'm being a fake friend, but I just think our relationship can grow healthier and happier if we're far away from each other. We still talk every other day and I get excited to hear what she is seeing and doing. She has also tried to videocall me but for some reason I don't feel like it. I wanted to know what you thought about this because I don't have a unbiased friend to talk to about this, so thanks for taking the time to read this :)\n\n(Sorry again if I make no sense, I struggle with writing.)\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wftXNRqJe16KCzB1ZrLMd9EvYL0rm6w9", "post_id": "az09uu", "action": {"description": "not sending pictures to my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA (18F) for not sending pictures to my boyfriend (18M)?", "text": "Hey.\n\nMy boyfriend and I were on the phone today, and asked me for a picture (sexy/suggestive picture, but not a nude). I did send him (only) one last week, and that was it. I surprised myself, because I typically don\u2019t like to show that much skin, or take suggestive pictures. I\u2019ve been self-conscious about my body for years, but he wanted to see. He really liked it, and it made me happy that he liked it. But he wanted another one. I wasn\u2019t exactly keen for sending another, because then he would be expecting daily pictures, and I thought the first time would just be a nice thing. \n\nI told him that I didn\u2019t feel comfortable sending it, and that I\u2019m insecure about my body. He kept pressing for a further explanation when I told him that and attempted to comfort me, say how he loves me, I\u2019m his girlfriend, that I look really pretty and amazing etc. This continued for about 1.5 hours. I asked if he was mad at me, and he said that he wasn\u2019t angry at me, but angry that he wasted his fine and, I quote, \u201cliterally got nothing out of it.\u201d \n\nI felt awful because I don\u2019t like making people sad, but I\u2019m sure he was trying to manipulate me to a certain extent. I really do love him, but this isn\u2019t the only way to express your love. \n\nI told him again that I simply didn\u2019t want to send one, and the cycle repeats. Eventually I started crying (although I don\u2019t think he noticed, I tend to be good at hiding it). He asked me one last time if I was going to send him a picture. I said no. He (finally) accepted my answer, and that he won\u2019t ask me anymore until I decide I want to send it. \n\nI had to end the call due to dinner plans, so the end went like this:\n\nHe said, \u201chave fun\u201d \nI said, \u201cyea, I\u2019ll try.\u201d \n\u201cWhat do you mean \u2018you\u2019ll try\u2019? Please don\u2019t be sad.\u201d \n\u201cToo late, I already am\u201d \n\u201cSorry for making you sad, I really am. I shouldn't have even said that..It was my fault\u201d \n\u201cIt\u2019s okay\u201d \n\u201cNo, I don't want you sad. But I don't know what to do. What should I do?\u201d \n\u201cNot your fault that I\u2019m insecure about my body, I can\u2019t really explain it, I\u2019ve just been that way for years. But, I think just please give me some time\u201d \n\u201cYou look amazing. But that\u2019s just my opinion. Ok sorry, I will give you some time now. I love you, please, have fun honey\u201d \n\nHe has asked me for nudes before, but I clearly set my boundaries and did not let them down, and he respected that, so I feel this should not be much different. But still, it was only just a picture, maybe I was too bitchy and overreacted? I did speak in a normal tone throughout. But, other than this, our communication and transparency with each other is very strong, so I\u2019m not stressed that it will hurt the relationship. \n\nWhat do you guys think? \n\nTLDR: boyfriend asked me for pictures over the phone and I refused-I clearly explained why and expressed why I was uncomfortable, but he kept pressing for further explanations and \u201cwhy\u201d. Took him awhile to accept my answer, but I feel that I could\u2019ve handled this better.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Gu86u7uAI2nAi0xpFwXl0n63iZHU2NK6", "post_id": "aszxpc", "action": {"description": "suggesting we go to a vegan restaurant", "pronormative_score": 58, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For suggesting we go to a vegan restaurant?", "text": "So I've been vegan ever since I could cook for myself, coming up to 13 years now, nearly 14. I'm a bit of a foodie, I love going out to eat and seeing what new up and coming veg options there are because it's 2019 - times are changing and I'm living for it. \n\n​\n\nMy 25th birthday is coming up soon. My mum created a group chat on Facebook that was family and about 20 of my closest friends so we could discuss some birthday plans. We all (most of us anyway, it's a lot of people to get in one place at one time) decided on a date fairly easily, and when it came down to venues etc, I was asked where I wanted to go. There's a new vegan restaurant in my city that I haven't been to yet. They've got veggie steaks, chicken, roast mock meat, pretty much anything you'd get at a fancy restaurant, but vegan. And it's cheap, maybe $30 for a meal and a drink. You'd be looking at $50+ anywhere else. So being the food obsessed being I am, I suggested it. I tried to sell it a bit, linked the menu to everybody and pointed out the diversity of it and that there was something for everyone - even people with allergies and intolerances.\n\n​\n\nMum called me up seconds later and yelled at me for not being inclusive of everybody, and that I needed to pick somewhere else. I asked what she meant about being inclusive, and she screamed down the phone that I was being insensitive and nobody wanted to eat my \"rabbit food bullshit.\" I told her anybody can eat vegan food, and she babbled on a bit more and gave me three options for my birthday - two of which were steakhouses, and the last option being a restaurant with nothing vegan on the menu except a quinoa salad. And honestly, if I wanted a quinoa salad I'd make it, not buy it for $28. \n\n​\n\nShe told me I can forget the idea of having a vegan cake - they were going to make a \"normal one\", and then buy me a cupcake from the local vegan bakery and stick a candle in it while everyone else had \"normal\" food.\n\n​\n\n6 Family members and 9 friends left the group chat too, right after complaining about my suggestion??? Honestly, I feel sick to my stomach. It feels like my own birthday has been taken away from me, and nobody's respecting my boundaries. I don't think I'm being unreasonable here, but the fact that all these people have taken an aversion to this event has me doubting everything.\n\n​\n\nSo, reddit, am I the asshole for this?\n\n​\n\nTL;DR - Vegan wants vegan food on her birthday. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 56, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 58, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zglang8FiFOofYJplWmfqvpUzrWMn8dk", "post_id": "9ycbcu", "action": {"description": "making my husband use an inferior toilet", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for making my husband use an inferior toilet?", "text": "So, I was getting ready for my shower, letting the water warm up, etc and my husband comes in and said he needs to take a deuce.\n\nI told him use one of the other 2 toilets or wait until I'm out because I'm about to get in the shower.\n\nHe goes on this long rant about how it's the perfect toilet, and while I agree, I am very sensitive to smells and his smells are very pungent and will travel far and wide. \n\nHe got very upset with me and is now sulking.\n\nAITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pdrvBGjO3KCAKrm8tdNETixJyegnLyYM", "post_id": "afoaz1", "action": {"description": "getting up to go pee while my dog is asleep on my lap", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting up to go pee while my dog is asleep on my lap?", "text": "I really need to pee but my dog is deep in sleep on my lap. AITA if I move and wake my dog?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qwixeqoi0yaPkWh2xHmy3oBAbi30lmOC", "post_id": "alqkem", "action": {"description": "telling a girl out of spite, that her boyfriend is bad-mouthing about her", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl out of spite, that her boyfriend is bad-mouthing about her?", "text": "A friend of mine is bad-mouthing about his girlfriend behind her back for a long time. Calling her ugly, fat, how attractive he thinks her best friend is, and that he wishes he had a beautiful girlfriend. I finally told her about all that. Of course she\u2019s devastated and he\u2019s super angry at me. I should probably note, that I told her out of spite against him. Yet, I still think it was the right thing to do, because what he was saying behind her back is a form of betrayal, in my opinion. AITA for telling her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4VSQJrHEAqZskOz97kmTB6dLe4hnDfyX", "post_id": "atl3im", "action": {"description": "pushing my close friend to ghost me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for pushing my close friend to ghost me?", "text": "So I have a male friend (I'm female) that I was close friends with for over three years.  I help him through his first breakup and depression, and later he says he was thinking of killing himself if it wasnt for me. We get even closer and get to the point where he says he loves me and wants to date me about 6 months later, of being best friends. Now I liked him so much as well, but the timing was really bad for me, so I said i couldn't then, and we both promise that we will still be good friends, because we matter to each other as human beings. After this is when i start to realize it was my fault. He started a new job and had a full courseload at school, and got really really busy after this point, I am fine with that of course, but when he would talk to me it just felt like he didn't care anymore, and i felt so used, and like our previous friendship didnt matter (when in reality i still loved him, and was probably having a really hard time adjusting to not being romantic anymore, and I know he was too).  \n\n\n I started getting upset, and would ask him if i had done something wrong, and that i felt like he was fading away, and didnt care about me or our friendship, and he would respond less and less, as this went down over the course of a week due to sparadic replies. He said that he felt like i was always upset with him, and it made him not want to reply, which made me more upset, and that he was just having a hard time and was shutting down. And thats fine, but he really didnt feel like he cared, and would reply less and less, and i ended up telling him that \"if we are still going to be friends, we need to talk in person.\" he said okay, and we didn't speak for 2 months  \n\n\nAfter this, I see him in person, and take him aside to talk. He says that he just didn't think i wanted to talk anymore, (respecting my wishes i guess) and that he HAD really valued our friendship, and was okay with trying again. But again, it was like there was no warmth or connection at all, not what you would even feel with a friend :( like he was doing it to be polite. So i invited him to the movies with our friend group later that month, and he bailed due to tests, and we went to see him later that day, talked for a bit and left, but again, it was like we were strangers. I talked to him over message, and told him i still liked him, and he told me he didn't like me at all anymore, but that it would be okay.  \n\n\ni waited a few days, and asked him if he wanted to play a game with me online.  \n\n\nHe just never responded, or to any of my 4 messages after.   \nA month later he said he could talk to me at a event we go to in three months after i send him one last message asking to talk.  \n\n\nTLDR:  \nClose guy friend and I like each other, it doesn't happen, our friendship after romance is hard for me, and i think i screwed everything up and lost a close friend because i pressured him to still be friends. :(  \nAm I the asshole here? Is this my fault :( ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5IWrodEPSvsM8A7iXRlajREklSw56wmS", "post_id": "aczj05", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my boyfriend's friend's NYE party who he has a weird history with/has had a problem with me", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my [28F] boyfriend\u2019s [34M] friend\u2019s NYE party who he has a weird history with/has had a problem with me?", "text": "My boyfriend and I were friends for 4 years before we started dating. He had a friend I had never met who he had expressed to me while we were friends that he really wanted to sleep with her, but it never ended up happening.\n\nFast forward, he and I start dating right around the time that she and her BF broke up. She was bitter that he was in a relationship with me because she was now single and had a thing for him. She went as far as following me on social media and then complaining to my boyfriend about the things I would post (?).\n\nOn NYE, he said that she invited him and I to her party and I declined because I didn\u2019t necessarily feel like spending time with a girl who openly disliked me, wanted to be with my bf and who my bf had told me in the past that he wanted to sleep with.\n\nThanks for any advice!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ShYt7rnDhkRAtsm1TvUXyp9CxXS2UjOd", "post_id": "avtv7k", "action": {"description": "sticking my ankle and foot onto a bus walkway", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA sticking my ankle and foot onto a bus walkway?", "text": "For some context, I was sitting at the middle of a bus, directly across the door. My left foot recently have this ache so i propped it on my right knee, trying not to block the walkway and the stair too much. I also can\u2019t exactly hear well because of an accident with power tools. So anyway, i was sitting there, some jock with a beard and ponytail was ready to get off the bus. He tells me to get my foot out of the way, but since i have bad hearing and the bus was quite loud I couldn\u2019t hear him. Proceed to stomp on my foot and ankle and calls me an asshole. It was also my stop so i get off and he keeps being a twat and yells about it at me. I\u2019m a 16 year old, 5\u20199 and he\u2019s a 30 at 6\u2019 . There was at least 3\u2019 between my foot and the door. Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FY38IaqJNw7TWPjixg5ReXsm1X6Jth9e", "post_id": "ard28f", "action": {"description": "telling my new neighbors to respect my property", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my new neighbors to respect my property?", "text": "**Quick disclaimer, my dad was the one who wrote the letter and who owns the property in question. We've had small problems with our new neighbors who are building a house next door and I want outside opinions on the respectful way to handle a situation like this**\n\nWe have new neighbors who are building a house next door, and from the start there have been issues with them using our property as an extension of their construction site. \nFirst, they asked to use our power and we respectfully declined, because generators exist. \nThen when trucks blocked our driveway we went over and asked them to move. We love on a busy street and they said to us \"give us 2 minutes!\" As we honked trying to get home (we were blocking traffic and didn't want to sit there for that long). They have torn up the grass at the end of our front lawn from driving/ parking on it and also stuck their mailbox on our property. \n\nA few days ago they started to bury their electrical lines/ telephone lines and had to dig up the front of our driveway to get to the telephone pole in our front yard. No big deal, as long as they fix it. They kind of did, they threw dirt over top and called it a day. Now there is an inverted speedbumb and dirt is everywhere. Our driveway is gravel and now that's gone. They also leaned scaffolding on our fence and it's leaning in from the weight. \n\nToday we wrote them a letter asking them to respect our property after months of them driving on our grass and parking on the end of our lawn. It was respectful. We said we're happy with what they're doing with their property but just ask that they respect ours. \n\nAnyways, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s8kzWiJ9nPfhs2BJq5I1LAEnjJbQZNQB", "post_id": "9wko32", "action": {"description": "not buying the fish my dad wanted", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not buying the fish my dad wanted?", "text": "i'm really into fish and fishkeeping. i love oceanography and fresh water documentaries and everyone knows that about me. i started taking care of bettas a few years ago and it's quickly become my \"thing.\"\n\na few months ago, my betta died and i was pretty sad. i decided to prep the tank and do a nitrogen cycle and a bunch of other nerdy fish stuff, which takes a few months. i've been talking about how excited i am to get a new fish for months and finally asked if i could go (my dad doesn't let me drive unless he says i can go to a specific place.) he said he wanted to come with me. we went.\n\ni was looking at the bettas and i immediately found one i liked. i got so excited i texted my mom--the fish reminded me of the one i lost.\n\nmy told me he liked the glofish and this one black betta. i have already told him he would like glofish for months, but he wouldn't let me get a bigger tank to accommodate the glofish. which left the bettas. he straight up told me he wouldn't let me get the betta i wanted. he said it's not my decision because the loft is a shared space. \n\ni understand that, but i've *always* been the fish person. (example: he wanted to get 2 glofish. i had to tell him they're schooling fish and have specific requirements.) i'm the one with the water chemistry tests and fish forums and bloodworms and daphnia and the spreadsheets of eating habits and everything. I've always picked the fish and the only reason i put a tank in the loft was so people could enjoy my fish. he said all the fish i pick are ugly and blah blah.\n\ni didn't say anything, but once we were in the car, he started to yell at me because he said he could tell i was unhappy. i didn't respond, which made him angrier. he dropped me off at home and said he didn't like my energy and left.\n\ni guess i didn't realize he wanted us to pick a fish together. my mom said he was excited and i feel bad. but i also feel like it wasn't right for him to straight up tell me i wasn't allowed to have the fish i wanted when i'm the only one who cares about fish or ever takes care of them. \n\nidk. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "D3myrCg1qVutAJTstui6CewBYeVI52Au", "post_id": "9y8mkz", "action": {"description": "wanting to spend time with my long distance boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to spend time with my long distance boyfriend", "text": "Winter break is coming up and I stay with my parents (still in college) over winter break. My boyfriend currently goes to college in the UK (I\u2019m in the US) but comes home over breaks and lives 5 minutes away from me when we\u2019re both \u201chome\u201d. I haven\u2019t seen him in months but my mom always throws a fit when I want to spend a fair amount of my time with him, since I have seen my parents more than him and I haven\u2019t seen him for months. She insists I make time for her too, which is fair, but at this point isn\u2019t it *my* time? AITA for just wanting to spend most of my time with him when we\u2019re both home? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VE3TyuMkRCtbw9xe0WkFlR28Nvkl5aZH", "post_id": "ac6g7o", "action": {"description": "ghosting my suicidal friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for ghosting my suicidal friend?", "text": "He seemed depressed so I reached out to him and said to call me if he needed to. He called me a few days later saying he was suicidal but I was busy and said I couldn't help and hung up on him. He called a few times more but I didn't answer. I been ghosting him ever since. This happened last year.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HH0FqoWhspANtpkkbJ0Wq5Kcmd73pzHB", "post_id": "b09w3u", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA - social skills question", "text": "Just want to start off by saying I have high-functioning autism and struggle with what is socially acceptable and what isn\u2019t.\n\nSo I\u2019ve been invited though group text to my uncle\u2019s Easter dinner. He hosts every year and lots of people go. \n\nWould it be okay to message him and ask if I can bring my SO? I\u2019ve known him for four years, been dating for six months, getting ready to move in, have animals together. \n\nWould I be an asshole for asking to invite someone? Would I be an asshole for putting someone in that situation, where they would feel like an asshole for saying no? Am I overthinking this?\n\nThank you! ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DAAAorC9lMNCZC8K5jl8jAoPE3Sqme5J", "post_id": "av701o", "action": null, "title": "AITA cheated on my GF after she punched me in the face", "text": "- My best friends girlfriend has a similar birthday to my ex. We booked a surprise holiday for them.\n\nFew days before the trip:\n\n- I was late home from work drinks on Friday night so cancelled seeing GF.\n\n- On Saturday night me we went out for a date then I dropped her home she invited me in.\n\n- Her dad and brother come home 20 minutes later & ignore me.\n\n- I try to apologies to her dad. He swears at me, says her wants smack me and my parents one.\n\n- Exs brother squares up to me. Dad pulls him off. I\u2019m not scared of him but I wasn\u2019t going to hit him.\n\nStuff gets hostile. I leave the house, girlfriend follows me. I said to her we should break up. She disagreed.\n\nWe go on the holiday the following week. \n\n- She is ungrateful and miserable the whole holiday.\n\n- Complains that I forgot her birthday card. I did forget, but I brought her one out there. We argue for 2 hours the night before her birthday.\n\n- I gave her the card at midnight. Signed with a list of 24 things that I love about her (24th birthday).\n\n- She instigates make up sex want me to do oral on her and I agree. \n\n- Few minutes later she\u2019s done then asks to have sex, I struggle to get a condom on a semi.\n\n- I suggest we wait until morning and she says oh you can\u2019t get hard because you don\u2019t find me attractive.\n\n- I get in her, She\u2019s telling me to hurry up, I\u2019m saying I can\u2019t cum that quickly. She\u2019s tugging on my hair and dirty talking to get me there.\n\n- She starts looking like she\u2019s going to orgasm, I\u2019m getting close. \n\n- Right as she closes her eyes she yells out, punches me in the face, and I bite through my lip. Blood everywhere and I had a black eye.\n\nShe says she still had some pent up anger and didn\u2019t want to carry on.\n\nThe next day we don\u2019t mention it. My best mate asked what happened to my face I said I tripped\n\nWhen the holiday was over and I went out on my own and pulled a girl at a club. We had sex in my car. It was a one night stand.\n\nMy girlfriend found out a month later when she went down my phone. \n\nWe broke up. \n\nAITA? Or was our relationship dead anyway and cheating was just a solid reason to finish it? I have never ever hit her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9HC8uQqbVCYsYncynJZbNP9MrgRIjV2z", "post_id": "axv6ev", "action": {"description": "making fun of my gf after she cried about me watching porn with white girls in it", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for making fun of my gf after she cried about me watching porn with white girls in it?", "text": "So I (20M) have been caught twice watching porn by my gf (22F). I'm white, she's black, and we're from the Southern US. The first time she caught me, she kind of made a joke about it since the girl was white and said \"Are you trying to satisfy your fantasy?\" And \"I guess you settled for me\". She caught me watching porn again yesterday and it was a white girl again. She just started crying. My immediate reaction was laughter. I said \"Would you rather all the porn I watched be of black girls, why do you care if they're white? And she explained that she thinks I desire features she doesn't have and never can. I told her she was being a bit of a baby, because she was crying about something that wasn't that serious. After that, she just walked away crying. I did feel bad and apologized. I tried explaining me watching porn of white girls has nothing to do with preference or anything like that. She's one of the most gorgeous girls I've seen, and I love her. I just watch a lot of porn and don't care what race people are, lol. She still seems hurt about the situation though", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "lFQnzXa5s6XGs0OQE0ieWlgHcEPmdfWO", "post_id": "b2chjt", "action": {"description": "cutting off a potential relationship because he still hangs out with his ex", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if i cut off a potential relationship because he still hangs out with his ex", "text": "I (F18) have been on a few dates with this guy and my feelings are really starting to grow, however, he (M18) just got out of a two year long relationship and even longer friendship.\n\nHe swears he\u2019s over her and everything, which is cool but partly unbelievable to me. They hang out actively and it makes me feel a bit weary. Is this just insecurity and me being dramatic, or a red flag?\n\nHis exfwb is also really upset him and I are talking and it\u2019s just been a lot of drama.\n\nI really like him but I\u2019m almost to the point where I kind of just want to let it fade because I don\u2019t feel comfortable with him being SO close to his ex and exfwb.\n\nWIBTA for cutting him off? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "on8cni0CFoVQm4eLs28a0xugQJDFEvR1", "post_id": "b2r6k7", "action": {"description": "not blocking a friend who is being accused of abuse", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not blocking a friend who is being accused of abuse?", "text": " So \u201cMark\u201d was one of my good friends in high school, though we\u2019ve drifted apart since. I went to university far from home while he went to university in our home city. He started dating a guy named \u201cAlex.\u201d I hung out with Mark and Alex occasionally when I was back for holidays. They end up living together, and as far as I could tell, it was a caring and functional relationship.\n\nAfter several years, they broke up. I didn\u2019t know Alex that well, but we are facebook friends and over the years since the breakup I\u2019ve seen plenty of posts about Alex\u2019s struggles with mental health and allusions to past trauma and abuse. I get the impression that he had previous issues with mental health that became worse with an abusive relationship, though he didn\u2019t name anyone.\n\nThen recently Alex made a private post that doesn't go into much detail but names Mark as having abused Alex sexually and emotionally during their relationship. He goes on to say that Mark also abused several other people, and he threatens to start tagging people who remain friends with Mark.\n\nI don\u2019t doubt that Alex has been hurting, but I don\u2019t know the details of what happened and it doesn\u2019t feel right to block / cut off a friend without knowing more or hearing from them. However, at this point we all live far away from each other and I don\u2019t really keep in contact with either of them. AITA if I don\u2019t do anything right now? If I\u2019m ever in town with Mark or he started making contact I\u2019d want to know more, but as it is I feel like I\u2019m not actually a part of either of their lives so I\u2019m inclined to just mind my own business, but maybe that\u2019s just cowardice since I don\u2019t know how to evaluate the accusations and judge my friend.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SNCY4dsYXxmq1oFqF0GnM5ous1je4C8g", "post_id": "aijuoj", "action": {"description": "feeling like I was misinstructed and being pissed", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling like I was misinstructed and being pissed", "text": "I was being instructed to perform a bank transfer to my future university. They told me I had to put my \"personal identifier\" (a code they use to identify students) in \"recipient's details\" on the bank transfer form, which I interpreted as being the name of the recipient. I believe I even asked them if that was correct, but I'm not quite so sure. \n\n\nFast forward almost three weeks and they can't process my enrolment. There is the chance I will lose 3000 pounds in addition of, surely, losing an entire semester I should've began studying. Decided to call the service I used to make the  bank transfer, called Transferwise, and immediately customer support found odd that the name of recipient was a bunch of numbers. He told me that was probably the reason why it didn't reach them.\n\n I've been feeling anxious and mad all this time, of course.\n\nAITA for feeling this way, or was I legit misinstructed? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VGpvYgd8d9Qxoun4VImNrKu3NhMUanv1", "post_id": "aw06i8", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my parents for inviting a preacher to \"heal\" me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my parents for inviting a preacher to \u201cheal\u201d me", "text": "I\u2019d love to believe in God, it just doesn\u2019t work. I promise I have tried I just never feel any connection, I was even baptized Catholic as a kid. Growing up into my teens I fell out of religion, but I never told my mom and dad because I didn\u2019t want to upset them. I recently had a spinal fusion surgery and I\u2019ve been having some complications, like spinal headaches. My dad\u2019s friend is a preacher(or priest, or something) and called my dad saying he wants to come over and heal me. \n\nAs soon as I got the news I immediately kinda freaked out. I do not want this man standing over me doing his holy stuff(no disrespect I just don\u2019t know what the healing is called). I respect prayers and thoughts but this is just too much. I\u2019ve tried talking my parents out of it, my dads annoyed now trying to guilt trip me because they\u2019ve did so much recently to help me and now I\u2019m being ungrateful. \n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HXlBmiSxk6CeSCGfBOiW0T1jdBKT3vlk", "post_id": "a79dwp", "action": {"description": "wanting to know about my (now ex) girlfriend's sexuality", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for wanting to know about my (now ex) girlfriend's sexuality?", "text": "As a preface, my ex-girlfriend and I dated for 5 years. We broke up August  of last year and ended up stop talking to each other altogether at the end of the following October.\n\n\nMy ex recently came out as being a bisexual. This surprised me as she never even hinted towards the fact that she was even as the such. It bothered the absolute crap out of me to know if it was something she had kept a secret from me or not. Not long after I found out, I messaged her asking when she knew this was who she was. Long story short, she was hostile throughout the whole conversation and she ended up saying that she knew for sure for the last 3 years at least.\n\n\nShe said that it wasn't my business, and honestly I wouldn't have pushed so hard if it were with someone that I didn't have so much history with. She also said that the reason she didn't say anything was because I would've made her feel bad. Now I'm not going to sit here and say I was a perfect angel, because I wasn't. It was both of our first relationship and we both made our fair share of mistakes. For the first couple of years, we did make each other feel bad about who we were, but I at least thought it got a lot better towards the end of it all.\n\nSo, am I the asshole for wanting to know if my ex-girlfriend was bisexual during our relationship? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6V65AhF5MCPlkKL3V9jSCGKYuOCHFIFK", "post_id": "b7vbbg", "action": {"description": "asking handicapped relative to move out", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for asking handicapped relative to move out?", "text": "Warning: it's long. I also apologize for the format since I'm on my phone and have spent several days trying to type this out. \n\nFor some context, I (22f) and my husband (24m) have been married for almost 4 years now, and together for 7. His cousin (25f) *was* my best friend in HS and is the whole reason we met.\n\nThis is where I probably should provide some backstory. Her parents were already older when they married and had her, so she grew up surrounded by hospitals and medical problems and never really had a childhood. She's an only child who was basically raised to care for her parents from the start, while battling many medical issues herself (she had scoliosis as a kid and it caused permanent nerve damage and she has rods in her back). Going to college was the only chance she ever had at an escape, and even that was ripped from her after her first year when her father was diagnosed with cancer. \n\nA few years later my husband and I found out that she and her father (her mother was in a nursing home at this point as her dimentia worsened and she stopped allowing help) were in a rough spot financially so we decided, since we were able, that we would take the opportunity to help out. A month later her father (my husband's uncle) passed away. \n\nUpon news of his passing, her landlord immediately evicted her from the only home she's known, leaving her only 30 days to gather all of her things by herself while her hoarding mother is screaming in her ear about every gadget and knick-knack she should save. My husband and I immediately took her in to our home as at this point we're her only living family and he feels responsible for her. \n\nThis is where it gets tricky. As previously mentioned, she's older than both of us, yet has absolutely 0 actual life skills. In the past year and a half she has lived with us, we have become her parents, while she barely lifts a finger. We coerced her into getting her first ever real job working maybe 15~ hours a week (we don't need her money, we're just trying to do what we can to get her on her feet), made her get her driver's permit (that she \"loses\" every time we ask if she wants to drive so she demands we drive her), and cover absolutely all of her living expenses except for her phone. I do her laundry unwillingly as she mixes it in our basket, wash all of the dishes, and do generally every single bit of the household cleaning, minus changing her cat's litter box as I'm allergic to them (I have photo evidence of huge piles of poop just sitting and rotting on the carpet in \"her\" room). We also buy all of the groceries and do all of the cooking for 3 grown adults.\n\nWIBTA if I asked her to leave? We've sat her down before and tried to talk about her helping out, and she started crying about how much her life sucks and generally acts like it's our responsibility to fix.\n\nTLDR; crappy roommate/cousin/best friend walks all over me but has a super sucky life so I feel guilty \n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SbHgqmnBCeukuGN9KWJIV5tEXmFOMuUh", "post_id": "aoglgs", "action": {"description": "staying with my girlfriend after she threw up on my ex girlfriend and other friends", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA If I stay with my girlfriend after she threw up on my ex girlfriend and other friends?", "text": "I haven't been with my new girlfriend for very long, less than one month, so this is definitely a factor that I need to take into consideration. \n\n​\n\nIt was my best friend's, Tom, birthday party a few days ago, so I decided to take my GF Jess to meet all of my friends, and she was down too. We were having a good time, she was getting along well with everyone until I noticed that Jess had been drinking constantly throughout the night and was getting drunker and drunker by the second. \n\n​\n\nNot really wanting to expose her in such a state to my friends, I decided I'd take her home, but she managed to slip away and I couldn't find her for a while before Tom found me and said Jess was throwing up in the bathroom. \n\n​\n\nI was so embarrassed seeing my drunk girlfriend emptying her guts in the toilet, while my ex-girlfriend, Mandy was holding her hair back, both covered in vomit, while Tom, another few friends were also covered in her vomit. When Jess was better, I dropped her at her older sister's place (her parents would kill her if she came home drunk) and went home. \n\n​\n\nUpon awkwardly asking my friends what they thought of Jess, they said they didn't care if I stayed with her, but they didn't want to be around her in situations with alcohol. However, they believe I've \"downgraded\" considering my new girlfriend ruined the night for a bunch of people while she was drunk, while my old girlfriend held her hair back as she practically threw up all over her. \n\n​\n\nI get that what happened with Jess was embarrassing, but she apologized to me and said that she was nervous to meet them so she thought alcohol would help, but obviously went too far, and promised it wouldn't happen again. Still, after what my friends said, I'm thinking that staying with her in spite of that might be a dick move. So, WIBTA?\n\n​\n\nTLDR: new girlfriend threw up on friends because she got so drunk because she was nervous to meet them, friends don't want to be around her, and claim I've downgraded. Will I be an asshole if I stay with her after this?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LsAlFB2EDmVYJZS5jWKjNCf1Gp6onLNy", "post_id": "9uhpy4", "action": {"description": "not attending the funeral for a friend's three day old son", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for not attending the funeral for a friend's three day old son?", "text": "A friend of mine found out at their 12 week scan that their baby was not developing properly. The doctors recommended they wait until 16 weeks to see if there was improvement before making any decisions. The 16 week scan revealed that things had gotten much worse instead of better. The doctors are pretty clear at this point that they do not believe this baby will survive birth. My friends continue to get scans every two weeks which keep painting progressively worse outcomes for their baby.\n\nUltimately they decide to ignore the medical advice and continue with the pregnancy in the hope that everything will work out. They did not consider abortion due to religious beliefs.\n\nThe baby did manage to survive birth but predictably passed away naturally as life support would only prolong the inevitable for this baby.\n\nAs a father myself, I cannot comprehend putting my partner through a full term pregnancy and birth while also having to support my daughter as she witnesses her three day old brother die. On top of that having many medical and funeral expenses which I can't afford. The doctors were crystal clear, this baby would not survive.\n\nThe invitation to the funeral included a sentence about preferring donations instead of flowers to presumably cover medical and funeral costs as my friend is not well off by any means.\n\nI could have gotten the day off work unpaid to attend but chose not to and instead of donating I wrote them a card and made some sweet treats for their 3 year old daughter.\n\nAITA for not attending the funeral and helping with medical/funeral costs?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8qK90Haz7niIOgmv0Sp0Ctg9Cl5j0K3q", "post_id": "b868g6", "action": {"description": "asking that the cab driver turn his meter on", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA asking that the cab driver turn his meter on?", "text": "I usually use Uber but it was a long wait and there was a taxi driving by so I waived him down and my friend and I got in. I'm only a 6-8 min drive away that usually results in a ~$6 taxi but I did what I usually do and offered the driver $10 flat. I do this because most drivers resent such a short fare so I ensure that they know they'll be getting a good tip. Well, the driver puts out his hand and I (stupidly) think he's trying to give me a high five so I oblige him but then he demands I give him the $10 before we move which has never happened before. \n\nI was a bit taken back so I said nevermind, just turn on the meter. He tells us to get out of the cab. I was shocked but ready to get out when my friend just throws him a tenner and says lets go. During the short ride, I find the Blueline number and as I'm getting out, lodge a complaint. I get passed around a few different customer service agents but one tells me that drivers are within their right to demand payment up front. I asked, without knowing where we're going or what the meter will read in the end, how do you know how much to demand up front? No answer and no explanation why for the first time in my 20 years of taxing taxis (never owned a car), I was suddenly subject to paying up front for a service yet to be rendered. I definitely felt like my complaint fell on deaf ears so it just seems to me like the traditional taxi services are not willing to adapt/innovate compared to Uber. Anyways, I never asked him to keep the meter off, just that I'd be giving him $10 for the short ride and it's actually against the law for him to take a passenger with the meter off, so I feel like he's definitely in the wrong but I posted this identical story on another sub and got roasted... so, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BKzeHDNaW8u4ZgtDnjCkZeILrwHOTX5I", "post_id": "aw7b6x", "action": {"description": "getting pissed at my spanish teacher", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed at my Spanish teacher?", "text": "So for some context I\u2019m a 16 year old guy with pretty extreme social anxiety. My first hour is Spanish, and I basically have no friends in it except for one to two people I\u2019m slightly acquainted with. Anyways I\u2019m kinda nervous because today we are supposed to learn how to do the salsa, and that spikes my anxiety. I walk in, and go to sit alone. Our teacher starts talking, and actually gets my hopes up because she says she knows we don\u2019t all want to dance, and gives us three options.\n\n1: work on a worksheet\n2:learn the dance\n3:talk in Spanish \n\nI pick option one, and get to work. The rest of the class basically picks the dance, and I\u2019m left alone doing the worksheet, which I\u2019m totally cool with. I finish pretty quickly, and start working on AP chem instead. My teacher notices and gets upset, saying I should work on Spanish instead. She also asks me why I\u2019m so shy and reserved, I just say idk. She says I have to stop being so quiet. I say ok, what can I do?\n\nShe asks me to do a slideshow for her showing many variations on the salsa. She says she will Show it to the class on Monday. I\u2019m already nervous cuz I don\u2019t want anybody in my class to think I\u2019m a suck up or anything, but I figure whatever and finish it in class and send the presentation to her. I was already kind of annoyed by that but then at the end of class she announces that the people who picked each option will be teaching the other options there part.\n\nSo basically the salsa people teach the people who didn\u2019t do it how to do it, and the worksheet people have to teach the others what it\u2019s about (so basically just me and like one or two other kids). I don\u2019t like this because I get nervous in front of a lot of people, so I\u2019m already kind of in a bad mood. I\u2019m also afraid she\u2019s going to single me out in front of everyone to do the stupid salsa dance.\n\nSo AITA for being upset with my Spanish teacher? Am I taking it too far or am I right in my thoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qSEfbjPfgemhOs91lQJQjn2UFlA8yOtC", "post_id": "aft69x", "action": {"description": "ending a friendship with a guy because of the things he's done in the past, but says he's repented for", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For ending a friendship with a guy because of the things he's done in the past, but says he's repented for?", "text": "Sorry, I'm not quite sure hoe I should have named this post, but that was the best I could come up with.\n\nAnyways, for some background, I met this guy in my first year of high school and our first interaction didn't give me the best impression of him. Let's call him Shane, for simplicity. Shane was in my P.E. class as a freshmen, and that was the extent of it for a good while. That was until I heard through the grapevine that he was tangled up with two of my other friends, John and Mary.\n\nJohn and Mary had been a couple since the 5th grade, or at least that's what I'd heard; so they had been dating for over three years at that point in life where relationships last three weeks. I heard through John that Shane had been telling everyone that Mary had sent him a handful of nude pictures and a video message of her moaning and calling gout his name on Skype. That was something that Mary would never do, and John felt the same way, but It rocked their relationship none the less. He wanted to believe his GF, but asked me and a couple others to see if we could see the pictures for ourselves. Shane was more than happy to brag to us, and show them to us and whoever was in the pictures it clearly wasn't Mary. Mary then asked me to talk to Shane in the one class I had with him to try and make him stop spreading this obviously fake rumor around. I really felt bad that something so shitty happened to them, so I agreed.\n\nI found Shane the next day before class started and I tried asking him to stop, because the girl in the pictures clearly wasn't Mary, and he shouldn't be showing nudes around claim she was. He got furiously mad at me, almost comically so. He tried making some threatening gestures, leaning over me (As he was taller than me), and warning that he'd beat me up if said he was a lair. A friend of mine, Mike, overheard what was going on and tried vouching for my character that I wasn't a lair (Super nice of him to do BTW. he didn't have to step in on my behalf) Long story short, he threatened to beat up both of us and stormed off. \n\nThe problem resolved itself after about a week and John and Mary are still going strong all these years later. Regardless, towards the tail end of that year, rumors started going around that Shane had assaulted a girl at school. I know how back the games of Telephone work in a high school, so I tried getting the general Idea for multiple people I trusted. All the common threads said that he had (somehow) forced one of the girl's in our school's mentally handicapped class to send him nudes. I didn't see him again the rest of that year, or the one after that. I though he'd been expelled or something.\n\nBut in the middle of my Junior year of high school at lunchtime, I suddenly saw him and a girl standing right outside of the classroom I eat my food in. Shane immediately came over and talked to me. He profusely apologized for how he treated me before, and said he was so sorry for all the trouble he put John and Mary through and all the nasty things he said. He claimed to have seen a therapist and gone through a year of anger management, and moved to a new school. Because I'm never one to start a fight IRL, i just accepted it and let him talk. Shane introduced me to his new girlfriend Abby, and offered me his Snapchat and Instagram to chat on sometime. I took it without question. He seemed so genuinely sorry for what he did, so why wouldn't I at least accept it?\n\nOut of some sort of obligation, I added him and just texted a 'Hello, this is ~~BLANK~~ from Mr. Armo's room\". He very quickly started a conversation, and I actually found out that he had some similar tastes in show, movies, game and the lot. I actually started to enjoy talking to him after a while, he really did seem to have changed. He got me into fitness, and some weight loss, and was actually very supportive about it. But that all changed when he just went dark for a year or so, and I didn't hear a thing from him for that time. \n\nThat is until recently when he started texting me again. Instantly he started talking about his break up with the girl Abby that I had met in passing that time before. I tried being a good shoulder to cry on, telling him that it'll all be fine, and that he shouldn't get so down about a high school relationship. But things got wierd. He started talking about Abby like she had planed this break up from the start, saying that she manipulated him and used him like a puppet on a string. He said that she had been playing him while sleeping with two other guys behind his back, and lied to him; telling Shane that her parents knew about their relationship. It sounded off to me, but then he said that she had called the police on him, and she had told him to kill himself. Advice he had apparently tried taking.\n\nI was horrified that these things had apparently happened to him, and tried by best to try and be a good friend for him in this troubling time. But as the week went on, he started getting weirder and weirder about it, and started obsessing about Abby's actions. He started adding to his story and kept saying that he'd die just to be with her again, even though she had apparently ruined his life.\n\n​\n\nSo that's when I realized that in my senior year, I actually had a class with this girl. I was curious about it, as the things that Shane had told me had grown more and more outlandish. I confronted Abby one afternoon and asked her about her relationship with Shane. She was more than happy to tell a story similar to the one Shane had, but with the details different. She had slept with two other boys, but only after Shane had insisted they have an open relationship (after he was caught sleeping with another woman). She had used him for money, but only because he insisted on paying for literally everything, regardless of if she wanted to pay for herself or not. And she had called the police on him, but only after she had broken up with him and he had made threats of breaking into her house and raping her. \n\nI was disgusted, obviously. From the very beginning I had thought his story was suspect, and after what she told me and showed me; there was no denying that Shane was either flat-out lying for sympathy, or was delusional. I texted him one last time, saying that I wasn't judging him for his actions, but I couldn't speak to him anymore. And I deleted his Instagram. But, he still had my Snapchat. Shane began texting me there, demanding to know why I would stop talking to him. I explained in every way I could that after all the things he had done to me, my friends, and those two girls over the years, I just couldn't anymore. We texted back and forth for nearly a half an hour, him very fast and angry, calling me 'fake', and saying that Abby was slandering him and his good name and caught me in her web. That she was manipulating me. After dozens of messages; I said that I wished him the best of luck on getting the help he needed, and said that I believed through the good times we had together, that he could become a better person eventually.\n\nHe said he didn't need help, that the pills weren't working, and that the therapists' never listened (So much for what he told me that day he gave me his info) and said that I was making shit up just because he had depression. I threatened to take screenshots of our messages and take them to his police officer uncle and have me and the girl Abby arrested for \"Slander\" and \"Verbal Harassment\".\n\n​\n\nMy brain tells me that I should be confident that I did the right thing by blocking him and unfriending him. But I need to know, as it's been clawing at me; Am I the Asshole here? I butted in on a relationship that I wasn't a part of, and brought up his past actions that he said he had already made amends for, I just don't know.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8XiaDjbo4kHPNHhWvdleKCThflxaUx2g", "post_id": "af8xu1", "action": {"description": "wanting to leave my husband", "pronormative_score": 44, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for wanting to leave my husband?", "text": "My husband is very sweet and kind. He seems to care about me very much. However, throughout our 5 years of marriage I have given up a lot so that he could do what he wanted, including changing my career, moving across the country, and losing a lot of friendships I held dear for years, not taking care of my disabled mother... He has not done anything of that magnitude for me and considers it a sacrifice on his part just to do the dishes at night. We were briefly sort of separated a year ago while I worked on a different state and I hate to say it, but I preferred being alone and speaking to him on the phone only. \n\nI feel a strange, sad resentment when I consider that this is just the beginning of our relationship. Forever is a long time. \n\nOn top of that, I've had a lot of men interested in me over the past few months, including a guy I'd been friends with for years whom I've grown to care for in a different way. The sexual attraction I'd long lost for my husband was rekindled for my friend. I'm not a cheater, though. At least I dont want to be.\n\nI'm finally in a position where I can support myself without any assistance. I want to leave him and be my own person. But I dont know if this resentment or boredom (whatever you want to call it) is enough. It's not that I dont love my husband... it's that I'm not convinced he understands what love is... or that I really feel happy in the bounds of marriage in general. I dont want to lose him as a friend but I dont want to be married. \n\nSo. Am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 44, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Si1tdll2xlI2naOwHnBs34olFCASB6YN", "post_id": "b7j7j3", "action": {"description": "calling my lawyer on his wedding day", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 191}, "title": "AITA for calling my lawyer on his wedding day?", "text": "Let's call him Sam. I run a prop trading shop (think buying and selling stocks). Sam's not our in-house counsel, but we called him in recently because we're undergoing a merger and he's a mergers & acquisitions expert. Today was his wedding. Beforehand, I told him I'm still keeping him on-call because something important *might* happen, but it's unlikely and 99% I wouldn't be needing to call him. \n\nAnd like I said, it was 99% likely the day would go down with nothing important happening. But unfortunately, that 1% chance came through, and we had an emergency. I won't get too much into the actual legal aspects of it, except just to say it was a *really* big emergency. So I called Sam.\n\nHe was understandably pissed off at first. I still expected him to make some calls and talk to the other company we're merging with, but at first he refused. I told him I understood he was pissed off, but it is his job. He still refused, and I told him I'd let him go if he didn't get on the fucking phone with the other company right now. \n\nHe was really angry, but did it and fixed the emergency. Later, I called him to tell him I was sorry for interrupting his wedding and that he did a great job, but when he picked up, he just called me a huge asshole.\n\nAm I? I mean, I don't think I am, since I told him there would a chance, however miniscule, of something going down and just asked him to do the job I'm paying him to do.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 189, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 191}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EazVMYDja8ZxjyVRK7xEiG0cknDkU0Lq", "post_id": "aqzgl5", "action": {"description": "hanging out less with my friends", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hanging out less with my friends?", "text": "Mobile formatting, English is not my first English, all that bullshit.\n\nI can\u2019t... I just can\u2019t anymore.\nSo, I used to be really close friends with A and B, still am.  The first year, we were all cool, and the second year, (this year) A and B started dating. I have no problem with them dating, but what pisses me off the most is that it just seems like they don\u2019t care about me anymore. Like before, we used to all be one friend group, and we would all get the same amount of attention. B then, this year, it was like they just started to care about each other and completely ignore me.  Like, I\u2019m no attention whore, but then at least respond to my fucking question when I ask you where to eat and stop making out in front of me.\n\nEvery single time we went out, A would start crying for whatever reason, and B would tell me to just go away when she comforted A, and I just wasn\u2019t supposed to participate in any conversation until A stopped crying, but they wouldn\u2019t even let me know whatever the fuck A was sad about, and I was just expected to sit there and think about whatever the fuck I did wrong this time.\n\nThat was when I met C. C was the definition of perfection. She was always there for me, and would actually give me attention whenever we went out, She was nice, really kind to me and whenever I had a mental breakdown, she would always understand how I feel. She was the girl of my dreams, and I soon developed a crush on her, therefore, I started hanging out more and more with her. I foolishly told A and B since they were still my best fiends at that time. \n\nThen D. D isn\u2019t really related to this story, but then A and B dragged D in too so I might just as well tell you her story too. I wasn\u2019t really close with D last year, it was only this year that I finally became close friends with her and really knew her. Turns out, she had a really bad teacher who would constantly bully her. A was her best friend, but since she started dating B she started ignoring people around her, causing D to have no one to turn to. This year, the dating got even more worse, and since she trusted me, I felt obliged to stay with her.\n\nThat\u2019s when all the shit started. One day, A made a snarky comment about how I apparently valued romance over friends and that comment really pissed me off since bitch, what the fuck are you talking about? I value romance over friends? And you don\u2019t? Plus, C already found a boyfriend at that time. (Yes, ouch) I hang out with her since I enjoy her company more than yours. But then I thought, just one comment isn\u2019t gonna ruin our what\u2019s left of our friendship. I\u2019m just gonna let this slide.\n\nAnd then, one day she texts me. \nA: Don\u2019t ignore B.\nM: ???\nA: Don\u2019t always go to C and D and leave B alone. Think of B. Notice B more. Play with B more.\nM: I\u2019m sorry...?\nA: Don\u2019t always say sorry. Do something to prove you mean it.\nM: Do you guys want to do something tonight then?\nA: No.  Do you think something good has happened if I\u2019m saying no?\nM: What happened?\nA: Don\u2019t ask.\nM: Can I help with anything then?\nA: No.\n\nAnd I\u2019m just like bitch what do you want me to do, you told me to care about B more yet you won\u2019t give me the details so I know what is going on and how I can help? Plus, C and D both need my fucking attention more than you do. C was going though a lot of shit at the time and D was is a problematic relationship. So I quickly texted C about this whole situation, and she told me to just put on a mask;pretend like everything\u2019s fine, and just give B more attention. I\u2019m really guilty, as she has been there for me a lot of the times and this time, no matter how much I want to, I still can\u2019t be there for her. I\u2019m sorry for making her go through all this shit.\n\nI\u2019m mad at A and B cause I feel like a healthy friendship is supposed to be mutual attention, you can\u2019t expect to give nothing but just receive attention and get mad when it doesn\u2019t; honey, I\u2019m sorry to tell you, but the world doesn\u2019t work like that. But, I\u2019m also a bit guilty as I\u2019ve never gotten that mad at them and I feel like maybe that\u2019s just not how friends are supposed to be. Plus, I do admit that I\u2019ve changed a lot and I know that A has been feeling sad for a while now because of how much I changed. AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LhAfWTYHWI6oMHRGdcntuLWZk3mYF9Zb", "post_id": "b0nbqk", "action": {"description": "telling a sort-of friend we took a group photo without her", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling a sort-of friend we took a group photo without her?", "text": "This happened a few months ago but it came up again recently, so I'm curious to get some outside perspective. If this sounds like petty drama, it totally is, but I'm working on being less oblivious in social situations so I'm willing to accept a judgement as TA.\n\n​\n\nOne of my best friends since middle school, Leah, got married to her high school sweetheart in November and I was a bridesmaid. Obviously over the years our friend group has changed, but a group of four of us from high school \u2013 me, Leah and Tom and John \u2013 has stayed very close, with me, Leah and Tom attending the same college and even being housemates for a while. Another one of our old friends, Jess, also went to our same high school and college, but she drifted away from the rest of us. All of us, including Jess, were at the wedding, and me and Tom were in the wedding party.\n\n​\n\nFor some context, Jess and Leah were best friends for a long time, even before I met them. I always clicked better with Leah, but I was also friends with Jess because we were in the same clubs, classes and friend groups. We kind of clashed though, and Jess always felt I was \"stealing\" Leah away from her. By the time college rolled around, there was some bad blood between us (though we were always civil with each other) and I was fine with letting her drift away. She also drifted from Leah, but a couple years ago they reconnected a bit, though they aren't nearly as close as they once were.\n\n​\n\nHere's where the potential asshole-ness comes in. At the wedding, I was at a table with Tom and John, plus my SO and a few others I didn't know. Jess was at a table with her parents and other old family friends, but she came over to our table a lot to socialize. At one point, she requested a group picture with all of us plus the bride and we agreed. A bit later, Tom, John, my SO and I grabbed drinks from the bar and noticed there was a beautiful sunset, so we asked the photographer, who was nearby, to snap a quick photo of us.\n\n​\n\nA little after that, Jess came back to the table and asked if we had taken a photo together. Tom said \"No\" and I followed with \"What? Yes we did.\" Sometimes in the past we would lie to Jess about hanging out or doing things without her because she is sensitive, but I always thought was super assholeish to her. I didn't catch on that's what we were doing again. We all ended up taking a photo later in the evening, but Tom and I got in a little argument about it and maintains I should have lied because I, and him by extension him came across as TA since we took one without her. I said we're not in high school anymore and she knows she's not as close to the rest of us anymore so it shouldn't matter. So...AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tDe260fBkMtBOGmFIoF0vjb4Kn78kVoj", "post_id": "akm63r", "action": {"description": "getting free stuff", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting free stuff?", "text": "Well, few days ago, one of the online shopping sites had a sale. I ordered a bunch of things in the morning with the option for pay on delivery on the office address. Afterwards I went to the office and told my colleagues about the sale too. One of the colleague wanted to order too (different order, pay on delivery, office address) and did the same from my account so I get the loyalty points.\n\nYesterday, I got a single package with only the colleagues order receipt. The package delivery person only took the amount that was required for the colleagues order and went away. When colleague opened the package, it contained not only her stuff but my stuff too. They forgot to charge me for my stuff. \n\nI am assuming that as both the orders were placed from the same account, they placed them in the same package and just forgot to add my amount to the receipt. My best friend thinks that I am an asshole for not pointing out the thing but I think that it's a website for a business conglomerate and they don't care about the small amount. What do you think?\n\nTl dr: I got bunch of stuff for free from a website as they forgot to put up the receipt for my stuff. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RlHbTz1LpwhgzNhAUfGFdzgRj9qGNhEQ", "post_id": "adhzmp", "action": {"description": "cutting off a friend of 7 years", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting off a Friend of 7 years ?", "text": "My (19F) Friend (20M) and I became friends in middle school when I one day asked if he was okay. I had realised that he seemed overly happy for him to truly be okay so I asked and he opened up to me about his family issues. A lot of people in my grade at that time knew about my Mother leaving so it lead to a lot of people feeling like I could relate to their family problems. \n\nThis Friend of mine over time developed anxiety and I could tell. His parent was strongly against therapy and left me basically to be the only one hearing him out and helping his problems. I would be there to reassure him constantly for the 7 years of our friendship. \n\nI had the last straw with him when I found out he was in contact with 2 girls who had the goal of ruining my social life. One In middle school who was successful for a few months until I found better friends and one in high school who wasn\u2019t much of a success as I didn\u2019t care for her. By ruin my social life I truly mean spreading rumours that had 0 truth. \n\nOther things he did were things such as calling me \u201cused\u201d cause I had sex with a few guys. \n\nI\u2019m a very VERY loyal person to the point that if my Best Friend tells me about smth someone did to them. I\u2019d most likely cut off that someone. ESPECIALLy if the someone was trying to ruin my friend\u2019s social life. \n\nNow. A few weeks ago I was speaking to a guy who is friends with the Best Friend (20M) I cut off. I had just dealt with my Brother attempting suicide all while I had the biggest final exam at my second year of university. In the past I had also dealt with a Friend who consistently had mental health issues but would not seek help and instead would blame me for a lot of her emotions such as why I was friends with her friends even though we were a trio. Anyways. I was ranting to the best friends Friend about how I felt that individuals who suffer from mental health are extremely selfish. I completely understood that it wasn\u2019t the individuals fault as they\u2019re suffering but their actions tended to lead to selfish behaviour. I have consistently put my own mental health as a bottom priority and propped people up when needed and asked for. \n\nAlso all while I was dealing with a suicidal Brother, he never reached out to ask if I was okay. \n\nSo. Am I the asshole for cutting off a Friend ? Or are my expectations of a Friend somewhat unrealistic ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eSyIjkL58SsnW1y1EXWyNGG52HUHXqTn", "post_id": "b7k5am", "action": {"description": "calling my brother a \"dog thief\" at my sister's funeral", "pronormative_score": 50, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA For calling my brother a \"dog thief\" at my sister's funeral", "text": " \n\nSeveral years ago, I purchased for my sister a very expensive dog to comfort her during her battle with cancer. Sadly, her cancer became terminal about two months ago and she died last week. Last month she went into hospice care and my brother went over to her house and took the dog. At the time, this seemed ok because someone had to look after it temporarily, but now he's planning on keeping the dog. Here is the issue: my sister's daughter, now an orphan, wants the dog and I agree she should have it. I don't think my sister would have ever let him take the dog if he'd told her he was going to keep it and I'm certain she would want her daughter to have the dog. My niece did not initially take the dog because she lives several states away in an apartment but in a few months she will be living in a house. I think the best thing for both the dog and my niece is for my niece to have the dog when she gets a house. She is a responsible girl and the dog is one of her last things on this earth that she has to remember her mom by.\u00a0\u00a0My brother has been like some kind of Disney villain - taunting my niece and telling her he'll never give it back and it loves him the most now. He was not even very close or nice to our sister, even as she was dying of cancer and I now realize taking the dog in the first place wasn't any kind of generosity to help a dying woman - it was an opportunistic dog-napping. Frankly, I am disgusted by his heartlessness. Anyways, at the funeral, I was eulogizing my sister and complimenting our other family members on their kindness to each other and my sister but when it came to mentioning my brother I just looked at him and the only non-profane words I could muster to describe him were \"my brother, the dog thief.\" Thankfully, everyone laughed and it brought a brief smile to my niece. I've talked to some friends and they are divided on who should get the dog so now I'm reflecting on the situation and wondering AITA for calling my brother a dog thief at my sisters funeral.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 50, "EVERYBODY": 10, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 50, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5KBd1lYBlCPNo7IBOOP6FbF6QsABgkOn", "post_id": "b1qrzn", "action": {"description": "being angry at my sister for paying way less than me for groceries and ignoring it whenever I confront her", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being angry at my sister for paying way less than me for groceries and ignoring it whenever I confront her.", "text": "A little insight: I (21m) and my little sister(19F) live together in our parents apartment due to my parents moving abroad because of my parents work. I'm in uni and she is in her last year of high school. We don't have to pay for rent, utilities or internet since our parents want us both to get an education not needing to worry about financials. \n\n We both get the same amount of money from my parents for groceries and overall living. It isn't a lot of money, but you get by easily. Now the difference is that she has all her lunches and  trainings paid while I have to pay for my own since i get a small scholarship every month and do odd jobs sometimes which earns me a little extra income while she doesn't do anything for extra money. \n\nQue the problem, I buy most of the groceries, and I do shopping 1-3 times a week where I buy about 2-3x more stuff than her. Okay I must admit that I eat more at home than her(to save money), but a lot of the stuff we both eat is still bought by me. \n\nShe says that on Tuesdays she has more time so she goes does \"big shopping\" then. However whenever she does do this she buys the cheapest and the minimal amount of stuff and on the following days asks for me to buy extra food.\n\nWhenever I confront her about this she says \"oh I need to save money\" however she has been going to dinners with her friends and recently bought an Iphone X(she got some discounts to it, but still cost a lot for her and she is in debt to my dad for it). \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dyj63kBwevifHN6XL067E3Hln2T1bFTS", "post_id": "a9vjky", "action": {"description": "not going easy on my sister in Smash Bros", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not going easy on my sister in Smash Bros?", "text": "So yesterday, my sister, let's call her Lana, and I got a Switch for Christmas. Along with this console, we got Mario Kart 8 Deluxe Edition and Super Smash Brothers: Ultimate. This morning, we were playing a game of Smash.\n\nPersonally, I prefer to play Smash, and this means that we I am a lot better at it than her. I also had it on 3ds, meaning that I was very familiar with it. The last time she had played a game of Smash Brothers was Brawl when we had a Wii. She didn't really enjoy playing that game either.\n\nWe were playing a few games when the incident happened. I had been winning for the past few rounds, and she had gotten visibly angered. Lana blamed her lack of winning on the fact that I was getting a lot of items. In the moment, she actually said that I was \"stealing\" the items and taking them from her. I had never actually thought of it in that way, as I was just acting on my instinctual knowledge of the game. I tell her that I was not stealing the items, but just picking them up. I got infuriated that she did not blame herself for her own lack of skill, but me. This meant that I probably didn't say it as kindly as I could have.  This did not cheer her mood.\n\nWe play at least 1 more game, and of course, I win. She then puts down the joycon, and walks out of the room. As Lana walks out, she says to me \"just play by yourself.\"\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y6H0NXJ4TCF2tLBSHDYPG0Ged4fW0Rt7", "post_id": "axfyru", "action": {"description": "exposing someone who was harassing me over me letting my group know they were a traitor in a survival game", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for exposing someone who was harassing me over me letting my group know they were a traitor in a survival game?", "text": "I posted a video of someone who had been harassing me and admitting they were spying on my group for another group that had been trying to kill us in private chat. They then proceeded to kill us again and again. Keep in mind this is supposed to be a realistic animal survival game, and it is highly discouraged by the dev of the game to revenge kill and it's against the rules of the game to harass people. I got them and their friend who also was trying to kill us kicked out of the group. I'm kinda questioning if it was immoral to give their account a bad reputation or not.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IMJd5hoqm2eJwUiUmrtnCfI5PvVS7rkg", "post_id": "b646lo", "action": {"description": "ending a friends with benefits relationship", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ending a friends with benefits relationship?", "text": "Me and a girl have had a friends with benefits relationship for about two years. During this time, there have been multiple instances of her having some resemblance of feelings towards me, which I realise are red flags but we\u2019ve discussed it each time and she\u2019s said that she doesn\u2019t feel like that for me anymore. There have also been a few instances of me definitely being an asshole and switching back and forth between wanting to continue the relationship and wanting to stop. \n\nShe\u2019s recently moved to another state for university, and while she\u2019s been away I\u2019ve thought about our relationship a bit. I don\u2019t feel sexually attracted to her anymore, and I feel that it is in everyone\u2019s best interests if the relationship ends. However, when I tried to have that conversation with her she became really upset, and the conversation got fairly heated. \n\nShe\u2019s said that I\u2019ve humiliated her and that she feels as though I\u2019ve \u201chad enough\u201d and have \u201cdiscarded\u201d her. She feels as though I\u2019ve used her for sex and that now that she\u2019s left I\u2019m done with her. I still want to be friends, but I can\u2019t keep doing anything past that. I\u2019ve tried to explain to her that I just don\u2019t feel that way about her anymore and that I think it needs to end, but she\u2019s still very upset.  \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zhq3IdtFY8OH5EAw9ZFoAZgNBb9umC8u", "post_id": "adg1dn", "action": {"description": "confronting my mom for not spending time with me after the birth of my baby", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for confronting my mom for not spending time with me after the birth of my baby?", "text": "Throw away.\n\nI'm a mom with a 3 month old and a 2 year old.  \n\nPrior to giving birth, I was hospitalized with pre term labor.  I was in the hospital for over a month and then released for several weeks before my little one was born.  During this time my family was super helpful with my 2 year old.  My mom and sister took her when my D(ear)H had to work.\n\nI gave birth and everyone disappeared.  \n\nBackground: after my first was born, my mom was at my house every few days for a few months.  Then she babysat her one day a week.  She has spent loads of time with her.  My sister also visited several times.  Everyone came over, aunties, uncles, grandparents, cousins.  When my sister had kids (she has 3), I made a point to go to her house and do dishes, let her shower, play with older kids.  I tried to be present and helpful.  I did this once a week (3 times a month at least) for an extended period of time.  My mom was also there at least every few days for months.  So we have a pattern of behavior here.  \n\nUntil now.\n\nAlso, my mom has recently (in the last year and a half) gotten involved in a national organization, runs a chapter, it keeps her pretty busy so she is most often doing stuff for that instead of coming to see me now.\n\nMy mom has only come a handful of times since the baby was born.  When she comes it's for less than an hour usually.  She had asked me to drive out to her on multiple occasions.  She lives about 40 minutes from me, which is a lot of driving for the littles, but I've done it a few times.  She is always hinting that I should come over.  I'm an overwhelmed new mom who feels like I can barely shower.  My house is a mess.  My baby has horrendous acid reflux.  I'm thinking WTF?!\n\nI have tried to keep asking for help to a minimum in light of all the help I got before the baby was born.  But when I do ask, it's not worth the effort or I can't count on others being there.\n\nI asked my mom to come over to check on me when DH had to go back to work the first day I was home with both of them alone.  I asked a week in advance.  My mom assured me it was no problem, then called me at 3:30 saying she was still in her PJs and waiting for a package to be delivered.  How was I??  I got off the phone ASAP because I didn't want to break down in tears.  The day had gone well but I was super angry.\n\nI asked them all (mom and sister) to come over to help me get ready for my oldest's birthday party (after they declined watching my oldest so we could construct her present).  They said they would be at least a few hours early.  My sister had gone to see my mom and stayed the night before, had an event in the morning that was over by 9-10, so they baked cookies!!!  And came over about 45 minutes before the party was supposed to start with cookies for everyone!!!  I was a mess.  \n\nMy mom has gone to see my sister (I live 40 minutes away, she lives over an hour from my mom) at least as many times as me in the time since I gave birth.  \n\nI'm jealous.  I'm also frustrated.  I am also super pissed that my children don't rank high enough on her calendar for a visit.  She cares more about some stupid organization.  I'm happy she found something she loves, but she won't schedule time with me and I hate it.  I want to tell her we won't see her unless she schedules it ahead and for longer than an hour.\n\nWIBTA if I confronted my mom with this frustration?  Or an I being childish?\n\nMy DH just says it won't do any good and just don't rely on her/them.  But I'm really hurt.\n\nPS... Typing all this out, it seems obvious.  However, I'm wondering if I'm being immature and childish.\n\nTL/DR:  I'm frustrated my mom is not visiting my newest baby as much as she has her other grandchildren and pissed that she is not keeping her word when she says she will come.\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "17OYZvybJi24i8mSUKfRnuLPSh7uukVG", "post_id": "aj2i52", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Caused someone to rear-end the car infront of me", "text": "So I, after a long day of work, get off the train, into my car and exit the parking lot. Imagine the parking lot as follows:\n\nThere is the parking lot on the right side of the street with 2 exits, one further behind (A), the one I took, and one a bit down the road(B). Obviously when exiting the lot you have to wait for other cars on the main road, they have priority. But that street is not very fluid since it is adjacent to the main road with a lot of traffic.\n\nSo I exited the lot at (A), driving in the direction of (B). Stopping, driving, stopping, driving. You know how it is on those slow roads. I come to (B), a Volvo is there, waiting to enter _my_ road. I didn't notice him, well, I *did* notice him but didn't think much of it and didn't pay attention to what he does since he is more or less irrelevant to me.\n\nThe car, which is about 1-2m (~6ft) in front of me, moves, I release the clutch, accelerate, without noticing at first, almost too late, that the Volvo also was accelerating, significantly faster than my Peugeot106. Note that between me and the car in front of me the cap wasn't bigger than the half of the lenght of his car.\n\nYet I notice quick enough, beat the devil out of my breaks and by a couple of cm/in I come to a stop, almost crashing into him. He didn't care about me and just kept driving\n\nI was shook. Adrenaline going and all that stuff. So I did what probably everyone would do, I honked. Not a small beep. No. It was more of a 4-6 second beeeeeeep (that's what my horn sounds like). I followed it up by 3 or 4 smaller, 1-2 second honks.\n\nThat is what did it. He probably got distracted by my honking and rear ended the other car. I'm not sure if that is what _actually_ did it, the way he drove I wouldn't be surprised if there was another reason, but I am pretty sure it was because he was distracted by me. They didn't need me, since a rear-end is nothing really debatable at those speeds (walking-pace), no one was injured and I didn't wanna make a big fuss or anything so I left. \n\nI feel partly responsible, but my reasoning is that if he didn't cut me off none of that would have happened, and an experienced driver shouldn't get distracted that easily. (then again an experienced driver might just have let him slide in and get over it\n\nI'm not sure, so I wanna ask you, am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JHAZ8PRNTpGdkVUpyzQF0KG4BkJGVfhW", "post_id": "aar1ka", "action": {"description": "not letting my sisters boyfriend stay at my place", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not letting my sisters boyfriend stay at my place?", "text": "Background, my sister has been with this guy for a month, I\u2019ve met him a couple of times and he seems an alright guy. \n\nShe\u2019s moved in with myself and my wife temporarily whilst she gets herself back on her feet after a break up. She pays a small amount towards bills and buys her own food etc which is fine. \n\nWe enjoy having her live with us, however, we live in a place that\u2019s barely big enough for two of us let alone three and I don\u2019t know whether it\u2019s just me but I feel uncomfortable having a person I barely know stay at my house. \n\nTonight, she came home late after being out drinking and assumed I wouldn\u2019t be up, came into our lounge with him and asked me whether he could stay, with him stood next to her. I point blank refused, stating that it was nothing against her boyfriend but there\u2019d been no discussion and it had annoyed me to the point that I raised my voice to her, something I haven\u2019t done since we were young. \n\nAnyway, he got a cab home straight away and now I\u2019m sat here wondering if I\u2019m an asshole.\n\nAITA? \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tXza4Kem3UltbEQUBYZXBjQxk7vxhT8a", "post_id": "b9kbe6", "action": {"description": "telling my mom that we need better equipment", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom that we need better equipment?", "text": "So just now, I opened the dishwasher to find nothing but dirty dishes and the dishwashing pod exploded onto a bowl. I told my mom that we need better pods and she got mad at me by telling me that \"I did it wrong\". I told her that it exploded onto a small bowl, not the muffin pan I put in there. She took the pans out and told me to put another pod in. These pods were 1 dollar per 200. My mom cares more about quantity over quality. So AITA for wanting better equipment for my chore?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ii1Fq2hZQobDDbmcXo32y5j55WdoBh47", "post_id": "als64l", "action": {"description": "sleeping with a married woman", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA: Sleeping with a married woman", "text": "After meeting drunk at a party, this woman came on to me and only after kissing me mentioned that she was married. She rationalised it by it being her choice so it\u2019s ok and I was complacent. I ended up waking up in her bed the next morning but nothing happened. \n\nWe have mutual friends, so spent a lot of time around each other because of that. At one point we were walking back from a group event alone and she kissed me again, she admitted that she liked me and pressured me to admit that I liked her. This was true, I was just trying to keep to myself and making a poor job of it. \n\nThis same thing happened a few times but nothing ever happened. \n\nUntil one night we were drunk at an event and argued about the situation and how I didn\u2019t want to be a home wrecker. She told me that I shouldn\u2019t feel bad because she\u2019s putting more on the line by wanting me. We both got upset, I went back in to the event and drank more. \n\nThat evening, after a few more drinks she came on to me again. Somehow she justified spending the evening together because it\u2019s unlikely we\u2019ll see each other again so it was like \u201cgoodbye\u201d. We ended up at my place and slept together. Of course I wanted this, but my thinking brain lost it\u2019s ability to stop it happening.\n\nIn retrospect, I can\u2019t live with myself for it and it\u2019s fucking me up. Am I right in thinking I\u2019m the asshole for allowing it to happen?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 17, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "JicpF5AwldDzT9Bk5DYin2Kep5HaimBA", "post_id": "ardkg6", "action": {"description": "not wanting to babysit my autistic brother", "pronormative_score": 51, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to babysit my autistic brother?", "text": "I am 26 F. My brother is 7. I have no children of my own by choice. I don't want kids, I don't like kids. I love my little brother from a far. That's the best I can do. My mom gets overwhelmed by him. She's a SAHM. My dad works. They are both in their 50's. \n\nI don't think I have any obligations to them, or my brother. It sucks that they're in this situation, but they chose to have children at their advanced age despite the risks. So really, that's a them problem. Why should the decisions they willingly made when I was already grown have an effect on my life at all? \n\nI know that might sound harsh, but they never did me any favors. I'm not equipped to deal with any children, let alone a special needs child, which is why I'm not having children, so I don't think it's fair that they try to guilt me into trying to minimize the consequences of their actions. \n\nReally, I'm not fit to be around this boy. He starts making these obnoxious noises and I seriously have to restrain myself from acting impulsively. There have been several times when he has physically attacked me and I don't know how to deal with that. I don't want to hurt him, but it enrages me so I just lock him in his room until my parents come back. I think that's a better alternative than beating the absolute brakes off him, which is my inclination. \n\nYes, I'm awful. I shouldn't be around children. No responsible parent should ask me to babysit. I rest my case.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 21, "OTHER": 41, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 10, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 51, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GAr0ToiFcg9WtL5cQuOlsPyCH18jcIYW", "post_id": "au65pb", "action": {"description": "telling an acquaintance to stop sending me random Instagram posts multiple times a day", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told an acquaintance to stop sending me random Instagram posts multiple times a day?", "text": "I have this acquaintance I've known for a couple years. I run into him once a month or so at the college we went to but I never actively want to see him. Multiple times a day (from two different accounts) he sends me posts about things I really have no interest in. I've never acknowledged these posts and I've also muted him. I just delete the messages without even reading them. He even does this with my close friend who's also his acquaintance. I also have a strong notion he may have ASD and misunderstands the level of friendship we have... WIBTA if I told him directly to stop sending me messages? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YA5qS6bqBq7ql6aW3om877Veu7lgH2Wj", "post_id": "9v5486", "action": null, "title": "AITA fro pouring my drink over my friends head ?", "text": "This happend a couple of years back.\n\n​\n\nwe were at a party standing outside and couple of my friends are smoking. I (as a non-smoker) tell them I have no problem with it as long as they don't blow it directly into my face. one of them takes this as a challenge and blows it into my face anyway. Jokingly I tell them that next time i'd pour my drink over their head, naturally one of them immediately  blows another puff of smoke into my face and I instantly pour the drink over her head. She gets pretty mad yells at me and walks away. \n\n​\n\nAm I The Asshole ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tby5EbSnBt2josPiygJObDyFekAwUm6U", "post_id": "aa3yce", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my mentally ill girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my mentally ill girlfriend?", "text": "So my girlfriend (21/F) and I (23/M) had been dating for 2 years with a 2 month break in the middle because of a lot of shit going on in my life which she accepts and we\u2019ve both moved on. \n\nEverything was great until a month or so of getting back together when she started to question me about everything, make me feel bad for going out to see friends, made me ask permission before I do literally anything like clean instead of calling her or being at her house. I felt trapped and then the arguments started. If I said that something bothered me then a full blown argument would erupt as to how I\u2019m wrong and she\u2019s right. It\u2019s like trying to punch down a brick wall, it hurts and it doesn\u2019t work. \n\nThe arguments and frustration got so bad that I punched a hole in my wall (stupid I know) and kicked her out so she would go home and leave me alone to cool off because that\u2019s one of her favourite things to do would be to follow me if I need to cool off for a minute. \n\nIt was a brand new argument every week and to be honest I started to expect them they were getting so frequent. I asked her many times during this period to seek help and try to talk through her emotions but she did nothing. \n\nBecause she did nothing I left and she started seeing a psycho-therapist a couple of times a week. We have been apart for a couple of months now and she\u2019s proclaiming how she\u2019s now better and wants to get back together. When it was good, it was amazing but I still see the person who did all that stuff to me so I\u2019ve said no. \n\nShe\u2019s tried so hard to better herself and I didn\u2019t get back into a relationship with her, does this make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7ACvf6WsSixXjxBzLBv70w8P5aUC1vyN", "post_id": "arrs70", "action": {"description": "not feeling super bad about some kids from my school getting into a car accident", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not feeling super bad about some kids from my school getting into a car accident?", "text": "Throway because I don't want this tied up with my main, or my alt.\n\nI'm gonna try to keep this short and informational.\n\nOkay, so I'm in high school. Let's get that out of the way. I live in smalltown-middle of nowhere. Everyone knows what happens to anyone at any given time. Kinda like one of the towns in a Hallmark movie where city girl meets small town boy.\n\nOver the weekend there was a car accident involving two kids. These two kids are the ones everyone knows, but not everyone *actually* knows personally. \n\nHere's how it starts. My friends know them pretty well, and were blowing up the groupchat about this, and that's fine, I understand they're worried, but I don't know guys well so I refrain from saying anything. I ask if they anyone knows what caused it, because we had some snow last week and there was a little ice on the roads yet. Someone replied saying that they were allegedly high. They were also (confirmed) to be on Snapchat while driving (friend was Snapping them while in the car). At this point I just say \"oh\" and keep to myself and start thinking \"It's these guys, they probably were driving high.\" Now at this point I am thinking \"Sucks to be in an accident but they were on Snapchat and possibly high while driving, so, while they didn't deserve it, they're generally nice guys from the few interactions I've had with them, they learned a lesson.\" Now I don't feel super bad about this, because, it *is* their fault for recklessly driving. AITA?\n\n​\n\nAlso, sorry for being all over the place. I'm not the best at structuring paragraphs.\n\n​\n\nTL;DR- I don't feel super empathetic for some guys from my school were (allegedly) high while driving and using Snapchat. I don't hate/despise them, I just think they learned a lesson they needed to. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "V9buQqqDuHNNtNQeBOgD69ZHi4SJsT4T", "post_id": "ayl6zw", "action": {"description": "telling my fianc\u00e9e my bonus was lower than it actually is", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA for telling my fianc\u00e9e my bonus was lower than it actually is", "text": "I receive an annual bonus. I got notified of the amount and told my fianc\u00e9e an amount that was a less than the actual amount. My best friend called and my fianc\u00e9e was around at the time. I told her I expected it to be a certain amount but it was less than that and then shared the ACTUAL amount. My fianc\u00e9e brought it up tonight, two days later, that he is upset because I didn\u2019t tell him the actual amount. AITA for sharing with my best friend and lessening it when I told my fianc\u00e9e? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 14, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "APtymfSbNsfjlPAJBb1GQ9Dmt45qEWr8", "post_id": "an3mwg", "action": {"description": "getting angry at a girl who tried to tell a new student to not speak to me because I'm \"annoying\"", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting angry at a girl who tried to tell a new student to not speak to me because i'm \"annoying\"", "text": " \n\nBackstory: This girl (who we'll call L) used to be my friend until we had a nasty argument (will talk about that later if people want it) and has decided to hate me. A few of my friends have turned against me and now hate me as well. The thing with my school is that i am socially isolated ,with a few friends, and in our argument she now \"understands why no-one likes me\". Given in mind that i have yet to see a reason why i am hated, I struggle to see her point but honestly, THAT pissed me off.\n\nSo we have maths together and she sits near me. L brings a new girl who we'll call E (exchange). I say to her, being nice,: \"Oh you have a new friend.\" in a cheerful way. She death stares me. I'm talking with the girl next to me when i hear the following conversation:\n\n\\>L:(to E)Oh by the way don't speak to him he's annoying\n\n\\>L's cockshite friend( a massive prick):Yeah he's annoying\n\n\\>My old friend who hates me now(they all sit together near E):Oh YEAH I think so too\\*looks at me\\* oh SORRY(she obviously didn't mean it)\n\nI'm staring at them this whole time and puts me in a crappy mood.\n\nEnd of day: I confront her when L makes a new group chat and invites me to it\n\n\\>Me: What\n\n\\>L:You can leave whenever you want but i still deserve to talk to my friends.(I removed her from a previous chat)\n\n\\>Me: I at least want to know why you said that to your friend\n\n\\>L: She deserves to know\n\nThen, she hits me hard,after hours of arguing, with:  \n\\>L: I genuinely thought you were a poor person who had been discriminated against because of the colour of your hair (ginger) but i realised i was wrong i'm just not gonna make a fuss about it.\n\nsuddenly a lot of her friends tell me to calm down and i'm told to stop being immature (yes i was cussing). I'm then told My old friend who hates me now has always hated me but she \"tolerated me\" before.\n\nJudge me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0fTNFOAgaCa0sJcH9LK0CDeQfStASK4m", "post_id": "azvd5j", "action": {"description": "not telling my parents that I started taking meds", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not telling my parents that I started taking meds?", "text": "I've dealt with depression for 7 years now, I basically just bareknuckle brawled my way through it for most of that time. That was until a few months ago (I was 18 at the time). I had to take some sort of psych test and an interview for a job. In the interview the person I was talking to said that I scored a little high and wanted me to head to Boise to take a more in depth test. So I came home told my parents and told them when I was headed down (we live in Oregon). My mom had shopping to do and my dad was checking out a new car so they came with me. They dropped me off where I was supposed to take another test. It didn't take too long to get in and take it. After that was done a therapist called me into his office and gave me different ranges for how severe somebody's depression was. He said severe was considered 90-110 and I had scored a 120+, he then proceeded to tell me he would not recommend me for the job. Not only that but he recommended me to start therapy and medication. After all this I left the building and called my mom to tell her I was ready for her to pick me up. When they showed up I told them about my issues. This is the first time my parents had heard anything about it, and my dad kept trying to convince me I was fine for the next few hours as my mom still had shopping to do. That night I drove home in the new car while my parents took my dad's truck home. When we got home we had yet another several hour discussion about where I was in life. And my dad seemed to finally accept what was going on.\n\nFast forward a few months, im now 19, I have a full time job and i had started therapy (which I was paying for). It was helping a bit but it wasn't changing how I was feeling for the most part. So i set up an appointment with a doctor so i could see if i needed meds. When i went in I told the doctor what was going on he asked me some question and told me he was going to start me off on a low dose of citalopram, from there he slowly worked me up through the weeks until we found a dosage that helped. Throughout this process I didn't tell me parents, not because I was intentionally leaving them in the dark but I had moved out and was paying for all of this myself. At some point I was staying at their house for the night and I brought a bottle of my pills so I wouldn't miss a day. My dad came across the bottle and went didn't talk to me for the rest of the night. In the morning my mom asked me about the pills and I brought her up to date on what was going on but ever since then my dad has talked to me less and when he does he talks to me like I'm completely unwelcome anywhere near him. Did i do something wrong here? Am I the Asshole?\n\nSorry if the format is odd I'm typing this on my phone", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fpBrN4lIf0IXoVEwCCUQMaMe1hrcbkg0", "post_id": "a52hld", "action": {"description": "not giving a friend money", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving a friend money?", "text": "So, a friend asked me if I could Venmo her Forty dollars today. She told me it was alright if I didn't. I told her that I don't feel comfortable doing that and I would appreciate it if she didn't ask me for money. She told me it's fine, but I can't help feeling like I'm a huge, total dick for not helping her out. It's not that much money, but I feel like an asshole for not doing it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "26Tgryq8ik0EyZMQUDLQXrpc3RsiTleC", "post_id": "ba0wb0", "action": {"description": "telling a coworker I don't find him attractive", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for telling a coworker I don\u2019t find him attractive", "text": "So there\u2019s this new guy at work and I was in charge of training him and showing him around. He\u2019s around my age, (early 20s), and he seemed like a cool guy. \n\nI would always say hi to him, and we would do small talk, which I do with everyone that works with me. I\u2019ll admit, sometimes i get told I can be \u201ctoo friendly,\u201d but I don\u2019t think I was being flirty with him at all. \n\nThis wasn\u2019t an issue where he was filing a report for harassment or anything, but he pretty much told another coworker that he thinks I like him, and that \u201cshe\u2019s cute, but I have a girlfriend.\u201d \n\nWhen my coworker told me about this, I felt like if I stopped being friendly it would seem like I did like him and was mad about the gf, but it also bothered me too much to let it go. So i talked to him about it. \n\nHe said maybe he misunderstood, but he thought I got too touchy at some points, which shocked me, seeing as I\u2019ve never touched him, or even shook hands with this guy. He also mentioned how I was always giggly with him, and yes but I laugh at EVERYTHING, not just with him. I calmly denied it and apologized if he thought I was coming on to him.  He pretty much rolled his eyes, and went, \u201cyeah, okay,\u201d in a sarcastic tone. \n\nI was annoyed, bc to me it seemed like he was trying to act like hot shit, so I just told him I didn\u2019t even find him attractive, and might\u2019ve made unnecessary comments about his height. He pretty much told me to fuck off, and my manager found out about all of this. \n\nNow this is where I felt like the asshole, because i had been there longer, my manager automatically sided with me, and there was a small instance where she insinuated she might fire or transfer, even though I was the one who made the mean comments. \n\nOne of my other coworkers said I was an asshole, and commented on how tough he must have it, seeing as he just started. Up until this point, I felt like ESH but AITA??\n\nAlso reading this back to myself, I feel like the whole situation is extremely childish, but I don\u2019t know how to go about it. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8DkJSWPgQV0xzVlEOzf6gDV780E8J8MV", "post_id": "b6ckt4", "action": {"description": "telling someone to stop trying to get into AP art", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling someone to stop trying to get into AP Art", "text": "Basically, there was this girl (let's call her Tiffany) in my art class that I considered a friend, she and I were connected through three other people, were in a group chat together, had hung out a few times, and had worked together until I quit. She, in my opinion, was creative but lacked in drawing ability, but I kept this to myself until we were setting up schedules for our senior year of high school. I was invited, face to face, by my art teacher to take AP Art during my senior year if I wanted to, but, as it was going to be a new class, she didn't know what it would be like. She told me specifically that she only wanted to pick people that she thought would pass, as she wasn't going to be the one to grade it, but the school board was. She explained to me that it wouldn't be much of a learning experience, but more so a class to build a portfolio for art school. I planned on going to a medical school for psychology, so I ended up declining.\n\nTiffany, who was *not* invited to take AP Art, kept bringing it up how much she would like to take AP Art and that it was her dream to go to art school. I don't want to lie to people and push their hopes too high, so I just kind of told her that it sounded like a cool idea and that I hoped it works out for her. For the next two weeks, she proceeded to talk to our art teacher, whom I'm actually close with, about AP Art and if she would be able to take it next year. Our art teacher, at first, tried to spare her feelings and told her that Art 3 would be a lot more fun and that she should take it instead, but Tiffany insisted that she wanted to take AP Art each time, only for our teacher to ask her to bring in some art that she could see and decide if she could. Tiffany never would bring in the art she promised, but always tried to show off her mostly empty sketchbook (besides a few unfinished anime heads and bodies with no good sense of anatomy), to which our art teacher said wasn't really enough to really tell whether or not she was ready. Our art teacher and I both knew she really wasn't, and so she just pushed her to take Art 3 instead.\n\nTiffany would then try to talk to me about how stupid our teacher was and that she *deserved* to be in AP Art. Eventually, I got sick of her complaining, and I got mean. She called our teacher a terrible artist with no sense or talent, and I snapped and told Tiffany that her art was lackluster and that if our teacher felt that she wasn't ready to take AP Art, then she probably wasn't. Tiffany, and suddenly a couple of our mutual friends, started getting distant. I'll get into that in another post, but in this scenario, was I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dILkYIk0kSrySyI1O9qwGPScBBmbSIN5", "post_id": "9y2111", "action": {"description": "not wanting my wife to go to law school", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA if I don't want my wife to go to law school?", "text": "Background, I am 28M married to my wife (29F) for 3 years. She has worked as a legal secretary for a law firm in our city for some time, and they are now offering her tuition reimbursement for law school. This would obviously be great for her earning potential, but it throws a wrench into our life plans, the main one being that we were planning to start trying for a baby soon.\n\nMy wife and I are both ready for a baby, and we are pretty much right there at the pivotal moment of the timeline we had discussed several times throughout our relationship/marriage. But obviously law school is very difficult under the best of circumstances and it seems absolutely out of the question that she would get pregnant/raise a newborn while trying to go through this rigorous schooling. As a result, she wants to postpone starting our family until she gets her degree.\n\nAITA for being absolutely opposed to this? All of our friends have kids in preschool and going into elementary school already. I don't want our child to have no friends because they are so much younger than our friends' kids. But that is a small worry in comparison to potential fertility issues. My wife is almost 30 already and I know that is a ticking clock. I'm also worried that we'll end up with a ton of additional debt and nothing to show for it if her employer doesn't actually pay (for example if she doesn't get good enough grades.) Right now, we're comfortable and financially ready to support ourselves and a baby. We have a good amount of money saved up and honestly we don't *need* her to become an attorney. Her job is really good enough as it is. I just worry that she's going to end up leaving our life goals in the dust because she's trying to climb that ladder.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "URypNcwWVP7iqO0MeYzUDd9kNqGC3ptR", "post_id": "aouri6", "action": {"description": "worrying about what they think", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for worrying about what they think?", "text": "My husband and I get along really well. We\u2019re very alike in most ways. One of the only times we disagree is when there\u2019s some kind of event I say we are supposed to go to. Neither of us are very good at being social. \n\nWe don\u2019t really have any friends we hang out with. He\u2018s somewhat friends with a couple people at work, but he doesn\u2019t hang out with them outside of work, and a he sometimes plays xbox online with a guy he used to work with, and the only people I am close to and really spend much time with are him, our 8yo daughter, and my 15yo sister. \n\nSo with all that sort of explained, my husband really dislikes social situations, they make him exhausted trying to pretend to get along with people and just feeling awkward the whole time. My family though, has a get together at my grandma\u2019s whenever anyone has a birthday, it doesn\u2019t matter how old they are, so there are parties every month or two. The cousins and aunts and uncles are all there hanging out and we usually go off in another room and sit since it gets so crowded in the kitchen/living room area. We usually only say maybe 10 words to other people and we mostly just talk to my sister. It usually ends up being a 2-3 hour ordeal with eating, then gifts, and then cake. \n\nSo now there\u2019s another party this afternoon, I\u2019m at work right now, and my husband texted me and said he\u2019s not in the mood and it\u2019s stressing him out the more he thinks about it, so it\u2019s an automatic no from him. He\u2019s said no before and so he\u2019d drop me and our daughter off (driving gives me serious anxiety), but I hate having to explain why he isn\u2019t there. He says he doesn\u2019t care what they think, but I do. So I always have to make excuses like he\u2019s tired or doesn\u2019t feel great. I\u2019d try to explain to my family but I feel like they\u2019d just think he\u2019s a jerk or something, because they wouldn\u2019t understand, even though they all know that we don\u2019t talk much to other people when we\u2019re there anyway. Honestly I don\u2019t really want to be there either, but I feel like I have to. \n\nSo am I an asshole for trying to get him to go to these things with me? Should I just give up I worrying about what they all think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X8bcCzfwgb5avn6pyr7XeCrgKSW1SYQZ", "post_id": "azy5dx", "action": {"description": "causing a fight about visiting him", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for causing a fight about visiting him?", "text": "Some backstory is i (21F) am in a long distance relationship and have been for over a year with my boyfriend(24M). I\u2019ve been trying to plan a second trip there for the majority of the year and he\u2019s always had an excuse as to why I can\u2019t come. \n\nWe talked about me visiting in June for two weeks. Before that I wanted to go before i started uni in may and so i told him which months i wanted to visit and he denied all of those months. When he talked about June it wasn\u2019t set in stone but it gave me a general idea of when to book off school so I\u2019ve kept that entire month free just in case. About a week ago he told me that he is going to visit his best friend in texas in June which started a fight because we had both agreed on me going there in June. He then told me he has no memory of even talking about me coming in June.  We got into a fight and i basically told him that I\u2019ve wanted to see him for a year and i called his friend unreliable because she kept making empty promises to fly him to texas. He got very defensive and told me that he hasn\u2019t seen her in two years and he saw me last year so he would rather see her. \nFast forward to Friday and i had to leave to another province in an emergency because my sick sister had a seizure and was paralyzed from the waist down.She recovered the best she could and got feeing back in her body and i went home the following Sunday. I messaged him and he told me he was in bed. I said goodnight and that i loved him because it\u2019s not unusual for him to go to bed early, it was daylight savings so he was now two hours ahead.  An hour later he hits me up and starts talking about another best friend who had just broken up with a fianc\u00e9. This dude hasn\u2019t talked to my boyfriend for the majority of the year. My boyfriend is excited to be in touch with him and then tells me that he will be going to that friends place for a week. I tell him to hold up and that I\u2019ve been trying to come there for a year and this guy shows up and you visit him in a hot second? So a huge fight about it breaks out and I basically say to him that I deserve the same respect that he gives his friends. He ghosts me and now I\u2019m left to wonder where i went wrong?\n\nAm i the asshole for causing so many fights about this subject that lead to our breakup? \n\nTLDR; Started an old fight about trying to visit him for a year. Ended up with me being ghosted after i called him out on visiting friends places for weeks. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UCe7D3aUUJahmETbA6tIFO1zhRBcIKJw", "post_id": "a8s2vw", "action": {"description": "telling my mom that I loved the time we spent living with her manipulative ex-boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom that I loved the time we spent living with her manipulative ex-boyfriend?", "text": "So my parents have been divorced ever since I was 6 (am 14 now). My mom got together with this boyfriend around March of last year, and because of some money issues, moved in with him just a few months later. I didn't especially like him at first. He was just a weird person with a stupid sense of humor, and totally didn't understand me at all. Plus, his house was a solid 40 minutes from my school, which sucked. However, over time I came to really enjoy living with him. He was really well intentioned, and had a lot of really cool hobbies that made him an interesting person (vinyl collecting, retro video games, art, making electronic music, MTG, and even more). I really enjoyed being with him. However, come May of this year, my mom broke up with him and cut all contact with him. Their relationship had been seemingly sort of rocky for a but, but I figured that it would be ok. However, they did break up, and after the break up, my mom said that he was emotionally and verbally abusive. I noticed that he would cry quite a bit, but I chalked this up to just him being emotional. I now think that this may have been manipulation, but I'm not 100% sure. He would also say some pretty demeaning stuff to my mom when he was angry, but my mom topped him in that regard. Apparently, he would also kick her out of the house after fights when me and my sister weren't there, which I didn't know until after the break up. That's all I know, but there may have been more abuse that I didn't know about. Either way, all contact was cut with him, and we moved on. My mom was homeless for a bit after this, so I stayed with my dad, who confirmed that the boyfriend was abusive. Eventually my mom got an apartment, and the relationship was never really mentioned, except occasionally by my mom to roast him.\n\nThat's the backstory. 2 weeks ago or so, I confessed to my mom that I missed her ex boyfriend. The time I lived with him holds this special place in my head. It was the happiest I've ever been, the closest I've ever been to my family, the best I've been treated by any adult ever. I loved being with him. I miss the days where I'd play the PS2 with him. I miss his cat. I miss my old bedroom. I miss his yard. I miss him coming to cheer me on at my soccer games. My life isn't bad now, but it was great back then. And I confessed some of this to my mom. She freaked out at me for it, called him an abusive piece of shit, and said that I was just as bad for missing him the way I do. She took my phone away, and specifically said she won't get me the Christmas present I wanted the most. She's still mad at me for it, and I understand why, but at the same time, I don't. I don't think that he was a horrible person, but he did treat my mom like shit sometimes. But he was always awesome to me and my sister, and I loved him. I don't even know if I should apologize to my mom, because I feel like I did nothing wrong. But at the same time, my mom was abused (or at least feels like she was). I don't even know. Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "f3RxMnQr3avyTGjCS5pqMD43cjbk6VFe", "post_id": "alwtwt", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give up my housekeeper", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to give up my housekeeper?", "text": "Created an account to ask this.\n\nSo my husband and I have 2 kids, a large house and 2 dogs.\n\nWe worked really hard to afford the lifestyle we have, and have always held ourselves to high standards.  Up until 3 months ago we both worked, had a nanny for the children, a housekeeper and also paid for a yard care service and dog walker.\n\nThen my husband got a fantastic promotion which meant he was making more money on his own than we were making by both working. He asked if I would like to stop working and focus on the children. I accepted. \n\nNow he wants to let go of the housekeeper too. I am annoyed as I didnt agree to that. \n\nMy reasoning is that looking after the children is a full time job. I dont feel he can dispute that as we paid someone to do that as a full time job and we never expected the nanny to keep up with the house as well! I make breakfast, change nappies, cook, do dishes, take the kids out to parks, swimming lessons and other activities. He never helps with dinner/bath/bed and I dont think he would help with the house either. I dont want to feel frazzled all the time and be cleaning when I could be reading to the children or doing fun activities with them. It's not like I dont do any tidying. The housekeeper comes 3 times a week and mostly deep cleans, I feel the deep cleans would never get done if not for her. He would complain if it was not done.\n\nHe says I'm acting like a spoilt princess. I told him if he felt that way then he could do the lawns and yard work himself. He said he is too busy and that's why he pays someone else to do it. He said if I'm not working it should be my responsibility to keep the house. I didnt agree to that! I wanted to stay home to spend time with the children not to mop floors! \n\nI know other people do both, and I acknowledge that I am in a very privileged situation. The spoilt comment really struck a nerve.\n\nAITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "489ZHuCoyR7GWcV4SXbwBtOfUybhtIPQ", "post_id": "a5xor4", "action": {"description": "freaking out and reporting to HR that a man used the women's bathroom at my workplace", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 49}, "title": "AITA for freaking out and reporting to HR that a man used the women\u2019s bathroom at my workplace", "text": "Hi everyone.\n\nI am a woman who works in a predominantly male company. Our building has two floors and a bathroom on each floor.\n\nThe men\u2019s bathroom experienced some issues today and there was a sign on it telling men to please use the upstairs bathroom while the downstairs one is being fixed.\n\nI obviously work downstairs.\n\nThis morning I was using the bathroom when a man came in and went into the stall next to me. I\u2019m not sure what he was doing but I did not hear him urinating.\n\nI immediately finished what I was doing and jetted out of there (without even washing my hands).\n\nI went to tell my boss and he instructed me to report it to HR.\n\nI have filed a complaint to HR and I have a meeting with them tomorrow morning to discuss the matter but they\u2019ve been filled in on the gist of it.\n\nAm I an asshole for reporting a man for using the women\u2019s restroom?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 48, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 49}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "eOPosmrsZXjMyH5Iq3Ji1FR3wCSBMA2Z", "post_id": "b90ewr", "action": {"description": "not iniviting my best friend from middle school to my 18th birthday", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not iniviting my best friend from middle school to my 18th birthday?", "text": "(First of all 18th birthdays here are not like in america or other places, you become legal and it's like a big deal.) Ok so this starts in august 2018, my best friend from middle school invited me to his 18th birthday and i was very happy to come but on that day my team had a football tournament so i couldnt come. And on the february of this year it was my birthday and i didnt even invited him cause i felt like he would not come cause i didnt come to his birthday. But now 2 months later i feel like an asshole for not inviting him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zPtOhnaE2C8FNiadezKOcUtjKLOD1CXZ", "post_id": "apg7lw", "action": {"description": "ignoring a friend who has been ignoring me", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I ignore a friend who has been ignoring me", "text": "   Backstory: Me (male) and the friend (female) has been friends for 3 years. We were both into anime and video games so we had got along pretty well. We were both single back then. Then, she got a boyfriend at July of 2018 and she would always talk about how great he is and how smart he is. I didn't find that annoying, though. \n   FF a month or two later, they broke up. Turns out the guy was only dating her for fun. She got really depressed for a while and I was there to cheer her up. Then, on November, she started dating with the guy again. I wasn't totally against it but I personally still couldn't forgive the guy for what he did back in July but I still approved of their relationship and helped them get closer because she was happy.\n   But lately, she's always with her boyfriend all day and pay less attention to her friends including me. Back then, she and her friends were inseparable and were chatting about things all the time. Now, she spends 99% of her time just sitting with her boyfriend all day long. Friendship between me and her had also lessened. Back then, we would talk about the things we've experienced and minor things we happened to witness during the day. We would also buy each other food at least once a week. Now, we just sit on our school bus and just mind our own things. She don't even make small chats with me anymore and whenever I try to start a conversation, she would just flat out ignore me. So, I've been thinking maybe I should just stop interacting with her unless she needs my help.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uXP59TFWbYzqfWkVtcj38ecQN4dkNAWX", "post_id": "alfet9", "action": {"description": "wanting to keep my money while I live with my parents", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting to keep my money while I live with my parents?", "text": "So a little context: I live way down in the country where it\u2019s very disrespectful to disobey your parents. My mom wants me to live with her until I go to college a year from now. While I\u2019m living here she wants me to pay bills and give all my extra money to help her out. \n\nI desperately want to move out and get some real life experiences before devoting my life to one goal. Now that tax time has come around she\u2019s expecting me to give her my money to pay her overdue bills. I\u2019m trying to save it to move out.\n\nAm I in the wrong for wanting to save my money?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jNdekiA7vDWk5VDtsShkF7NJQLvGLGJU", "post_id": "aue6hr", "action": {"description": "starting telling my gf she needs to clean the apartment", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I start telling my gf she needs to clean the apartment?", "text": "This is so awkward.  We\u2019ve only lived together for 2 months now.  She\u2019s just so fucking messy.  I\u2019m not a neat freak.   I don\u2019t mind a little mess. It\u2019s just insane since she moved in.  \n\nIt\u2019s not just clothes, she will leave half full plates of food around.  It\u2019s like she wants to attract rats.   \n\nI\u2019m not a neat freak, but I clean up after myself like an adult.  Our place is gross since she moved in and I think it should be on her to clean in.  A lot of it is really gross to the point I don\u2019t even want to touch it.  I want her to clean the apt.  I don\u2019t want to have to clean up after her.  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ln5hP34yrwqFkAwHOk90sSZxzIA5hc8R", "post_id": "axrh03", "action": {"description": "not doing my friend's homework", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not doing my friend's homework?", "text": "It's Sunday afternoon and I'm chilling on the couch watching a Football/Soccer match. Suddenly, I get a text from my friend (we'll refer to her as A) asking me for help on an English project. Btw I was born and currently live in a French speaking country in Africa (Ivory Coast) but I grew up in England so I was the only person that spoke English fluently in my class. But pardon me if I make a couple errors here and there.\n\nA: \"Hey S (me) can you *help* me with some English work pretty please?\ud83d\ude0a\nMe: \"Sure, I'll see what I can do.\"\nA: \"Thanks so much! I'll send you the details in a hour.\"\nMe: \"K\"\n\nAn hour and a half later, I'm chilling on my bed watching Football/Soccer vids. Text from A. It's a photo of her work and the orders.\n\nA: \"Here it is.\" \nMe: \"Wait, I'm supposed to help you or do it for you?\"\nA: \"Could you do it please?\ud83d\ude4f\ud83c\udffe\"\nMe: \"When is it due?\"\nA: \"Wednesday.\"\nMe: \"I don't know but I'll see what I can do.\"\nA: \"Great!\"\n\nNow maybe it's just me and maybe you disagree. But for me when you have work that's this important; if someone says that they don't know, considering the fact that you know that they also have tons of work to do, you should consider it as a no and at least *try* to do SOMETHING. Then again that's just my opinion. Here's a little bit more info: We're on the last week of a little 2-week break. And I was absent on the last day before the break due to sickness meaning that all the homework they gave for the break had to be done pretty late cause I was too sick to do so. When she asked me for that favour. I had done nothing yet. Fun fact: Our class also had an English project that we hadn't even started cause no one in the group would cooperate so we're going to do it tomorrow cause it's due tomorrow. Like hers. So I just talked to her today and told her that I really didn't have time to do it.\n\nA: \"What? Why didn't you tell me earlier?!\"\nMe (in my mind): \"Girl you had 2 weeks and you waited when you had 3 days left to tell me so you don't you even start with that BS.\"\nA: \"What am I supposed to do now?!\"\nMe: \"Maybe I could *try* to do it by text and send it to you so it's quicker?\"\nA: \"Okay do that.\"\nMe: \"No promises.\"\nA: \"Sure thanks!\"\n\n*Wrong move*\n\nAs I come back from home my mum tells me that I still need to read the school book that I didn't read during the break. I didn't read it cause like I said I was sick and they told us to read the book on the day when I didn't come so I didn't even know that there was a book to read. The book was at least 500 pages long so according to the teacher you would have to read 33 pages every day to finish in time. So I had to start tonight. (I told A that) So I'm a couple minutes into reading and I receive a 30sec long voice message from A telling me that I should've told her that I wouldn't be able to do it and that it was really  not cool from me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "etinRXn8r6Nce3qMFikQUR1nmgNAJ2MO", "post_id": "avple4", "action": {"description": "refusing to lift something heavy for a woman as a man", "pronormative_score": 650, "contranormative_score": 583}, "title": "AITA for refusing to lift something heavy for a woman as a man?", "text": "I was asked by a female coworker to lift something heavy in the kitchen while I was working at my desk, but when I got to the kitchen, it was filled with other women having a conversation during working hours. I was offended that she would go out of her way to ask me while I was working just because I was the nearest available man, so I refused. The other women were clearly offended by my decision and some thought I was joking, so I kept on refusing until one of the women gets fed up and lifts the dang thing with ease. I thought one of them should have done it in the first place.\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 501, "OTHER": 624, "EVERYBODY": 82, "NOBODY": 26, "INFO": 25}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 650, "WRONG": 583}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GwAB8voTgqLVgD2YDWRR3IVeperQeoPJ", "post_id": "as40lm", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my mom. my parents are divorced and she uses my brother and I to get thing from my dad. we are put in the middle of there communication and disagreements and I just blew after it happening", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my mom. My parents are divorced and she uses my brother and I to get thing from my dad. We are put in the middle of there communication and disagreements and I just blew after it happening.", "text": "My parents have been divorced for ~10 years and they are both horrible at communicating which puts me and my older brother in the middle of my parents. I see my dad about once a month and we had just spent the weekend when I came back and got dropped off at my moms house. I had a doctors appt. which I had to go to and as soon as I got in the car with her she yells at me.  \nWe didn\u2019t text her over the weekend and get the money she needs from our dad to help pay for our medicine. For at least 5 years we have reiterated to stop putting us in the middle of there divorce and handle it themselves.  My dad hasn\u2019t responded to my moms texts and emails about this and my brother and I are afraid to ask him for it. \nI just got mad at her because she uses us for this and has for a long time and I want her to just use the resources she has. She also got mad at her for us not texting her while we are with him and only do when we need something. We live with our mom and see her almost everyday and the relationship is very different with her than it is with my dad. We usually don\u2019t talk to her when with our dad because we are busy doing other things and don\u2019t have the time. I just exploded on her because I\u2019m sick of being used for this and I am mad at her for getting mad at us for us not talking to her while we are with our dad who we see 2-3 days out the month. Thanks for reading my rambling sorry if it got repetitive. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JU48daGHRzKRO1X9qjIMF4tGC5IPDHvV", "post_id": "b84i9l", "action": {"description": "suggesting to a friend that I contacted with a potential investor that, should they sign a deal, I should receive a symbolic cut", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for suggesting to a friend that I contacted with a potential investor that, should they sign a deal, I should receive a symbolic cut", "text": "TLDR: Connected my wife's friend (who's looking for investors in real estate) and my friend (who has a lot of free cash to invest in real estate). I suggested that I should receive a small cut if they sign a deal. My wife thinks that's not what friends do.\n\n​\n\nFull version: this weekend I was helping out with some manual work to my wife's friend, let's call him David. In a month he wants to leave his day job and start his real estate enterprise, which would involve finding apartments, buying them, finishing them up himself (or renovating) and either selling them for a higher price or furnishing them and renting their rooms. I'm no expert in it but he does seem to know his thing and, from what my wife tells me, David and David's wife are quite the venturesome types. Even though they have two small kids, they also started a small side-business a few years ago (while also working full-time jobs) which they intend to sell in a year or two to focus on real estate. David is looking for investors, since he doesn't yet have the financial capacity to buy multiple apartments himself and really kick it off.\n\n​\n\nAfter hearing this, I reached out to an old friend of mine, let's call him George. George been very successful in the past 15 years and is definitely a millionaire, likely a multimillionaire by now. He's by far the smartest person with money that I know. He's been a good friend of mine but we don't live in close vicinity so nowadays we see each other 2-3 times a year and speak too little on the phone for me not to have a guilty conscious about it. Anyway, during the past few years, he also started to invest in real estate but doesn't know our local market. He invests mostly abroad and if it's local, he lives in a completely different part of the country anyway so he focuses on his operations there.\n\n​\n\nBoth gentlemen seemed very keen in talking to each other. If not to strike a deal then at least to exchange experiences. George is starting very slowly, since he's currently got his main business to run and David wants to go all in within the next few months but is only on his first investment now. So, they're both learning their new trade. Therefore, I connected them - exchanging their email addresses and phone numbers.\n\n​\n\nI did mention to David that if they strike a deal, I'll probably be wanting a small cut, like 1000 USD. He replied with something along the lines of, \"of course, that's obvious.\" However, my wife does think ITA because that's not what friends should do and literally forbids me to bring it up again because she would feel ashamed by it.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA?\n\n​\n\nPS. My first ever post on reddit \\^\\^ Be kind, please. Especially since English is not my first language :)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "D701ZIlwaIu7vs0NNNFh5xTqDDZL6eMA", "post_id": "9t7mgw", "action": {"description": "telling my wife's friend that she's being a bad friend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA if I tell my wife\u2019s friend that she\u2019s being a bad friend?", "text": "To preface this I haven\u2019t actually taken any action just yet, but wondering if I should. \n\nSo I went out to a work friends leaving party/Halloween drinks last night, and the wife didn\u2019t want to be home alone with it being Halloween and there been who knows what out and about. Plan was my wife\u2019s friend was going to come over and they\u2019d order a take away and hang out. \n\nWife\u2019s friend ends up cancelling the last minute and wife spends the evening alone, doesn\u2019t tell me because she didn\u2019t want to ruin my night because she knows I would have gone straight home. My wife also didn\u2019t eat because she was upset to the point of just losing her appetite. \n\nThis isn\u2019t the first, second, or third time that my wife\u2019s friend has cancelled last minute and it\u2019s got to the point of when my wife\u2019s friend does turn up it\u2019s more of a pleasant surprise. My wife has been growing increasingly frustrated with this, and it\u2019s going to get to the point where my wife kicks off herself at the friend or just breaks ties completely, which I don\u2019t know would be a bad thing, but my wife does value the friendship. \n\nI\u2019ve been contemplating sending my wife\u2019s friend a message kinda just explaining the situation and hoping it will kind of kick the friend into gear, but I don\u2019t want to put my 10cents in where it doesn\u2019t belong and I don\u2019t want to say something like an asshole and start something between my wife and her friend. \n\nWhat do you guys think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4Csgc11GdWY1XraQrxh2MiyuvdRx6Ci7", "post_id": "axuog5", "action": {"description": "not believing in god", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not believing in god.", "text": "So for backstory this story takes place not too long ago. As you can guess from the title I am an atheist  and have been for a very long time. So during this  story I went on a trip to an indoor sport with a summer camp program.\n\nMe=me\nK=kid (who used to be my friend)\nC=Coach\n\n\nSo I was on the soccer  field and was sitting  on the bench waiting  to be put in. While I was waiting, I was listening to some music.\n\nSo me and my friends have a game where  we try and guess each other's passwords. \n\nMe: I bet you guys can't guess my password. \nK:It's probably 666!\nMe:Why would that be my password. \nK:Because your a devil worshiper \nMe: 1st I'm not a devil worshiper  \nK: Yeah you're  just an idiot \nMe: How am I an idiot\nK: because you're  an aethist\nMe:Stephen Hawking is an aethist, is he an idiot\nK:He was smart about science, dumb about religion \n\nAt this point he is basically  yelling and the coach comes over and hears the kids argument.\n\nC: You shouldn't  call anyone  an idiot because  of their religion. Now if someone  was being crazy and then blaming it on your  religion  then they're  the idiot. \n\nNow the next day I were in a cafeteria  talking with my friends. I am looking  at my photos  and look up and realized that K was walking towards. I put down  my phone and continue talking. \nAs I'm talking he interrupts  me. \n\nK:My mom says I can't talk  to because you're  an aethist. \n\nNow at this point I just left the room because  I was that angry. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TPmDAaJjfuWvkgvMqq8vqQarUwDRPr0e", "post_id": "apn5zp", "action": {"description": "not wanting to move out", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to move out?", "text": "So obviously there are two sides to this story and I can't go into all the details but essentially my three housemates asked me and my girlfriend to move out without any warning. The reason being that me and one of my housemates were having some trouble. The main issue here is definitely that we were not communicating about the problems we were having. I am a busy human and work 40 hours a week while also going to school full time for the most intensive subject at our University. I will often come home stressed during the semester to find said housemate has invited several people over to drink and have a good time. This is all fine and dandy but I have asked several times for this roommate to text me and let me know people are over so I can be ready for that when I get home, which never happened. I was extremely frustrated by this (and several other small things) and I'm sure it was apparent but I never said anything rude. I admit there were times where I was bitter but I would always keep it between me and my girlfriend. I'd like to again recognize that I am definitely at blame for some of these things and that I shouldn't have neglected to communicate for so long. The thing that has really gotten to me is that for the last month I was certain that things were getting much better and was actually beginning to feel like me and this housemate were getting along great! I don't really need to get into the specific details, but essentially they sent my girlfriend a Google document out of the blue that said they were frustrated with some things and that they wanted me to move out. The things on the list were really manageable and easy for me to fix, this really confused me especially because they hadn't brought anything up before. After further investigation, one of my other housemates informed me that the housemate that I was having problems with was the one that was really pushing for me to move out and that she gave them a him or me situation. I then found out that this housemate, instead of talking with me about the issues she was having, talked with anyone who would listen about how terrible of a housemate I was, some of the things she was saying were true but some of them were blatantly untrue. Because I haven't talked about my problems with said housemate to anyone but my girlfriend, all of my closest friends have turned against me because they have only heard what she has had to say, this obviously hurts. my co-workers knew about the problems she was having before I knew, folks that weren't in town knew about this before me, people I had never talked to knew about this before I had a clue. \n\nI would like to respect the wishes of everyone in my house but I feel like I've been ganged up on and not given an opportunity to change/defend myself. \n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to hold my ground and not move out?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XwiJ5J3t7ltJ131PvP8F2d232rLlgzaE", "post_id": "awzi0a", "action": {"description": "telling my sister that breastfeeding and co-sleeping with her 5-year-old son is creepy", "pronormative_score": 75, "contranormative_score": 49}, "title": "AITA for telling my sister that breastfeeding and co-sleeping with her 5-year-old son is creepy?", "text": "The title basically says it all. My sister and I are only a year apart and were raised the exact same way. Thing is, she\u2019s a bit hippy-ish. Which is fine, but it\u2019s gotten more extreme since she had kids. (I\u2019m a mother of one myself, so I get how your beliefs can evolve when you become a parent\u2013but IMO she\u2019s really out there on a lot of topics). \n\nEvery Sunday we try to get together at my parents\u2019 house and hang out, have dinner, etc. (We all live fairly close by and my parents are getting older so it\u2019s been a nice little tradition). \n\nSo I guess my sister was doing a feeding in my parent\u2019s room. I guess my mom didn\u2019t know and so she walked in. I didn\u2019t hear but she apparently said something to my sister about how she thought my nephew was getting weaned. They ended up getting into an argument about it. I (regrettably) went into the room see what was going on. My sister was raising her voice and, i thought, crossing some lines with how she was speaking to our mom. I got annoyed and I told my sister that she can\u2019t expect everyone to be okay with her continuing to breastfeed and sleep with a kid who should be in kindergarten (she\u2019s homeschooling him for now) and that it is a bit creepy. \n\nThat\u2019s when she ended up calling me ignorant and taking my nephew (and my 7 y/o niece) and leaving. She didn\u2019t even sitting down to eat dinner, unfortunately.\n\nOverall it was pretty awful. But everyone else (meaning my parents, brother, and sister-in-law) are took my side and said I just verbalized what everyone has been thinking. I still feel bad though because, I mean, she\u2019s my sister. I\u2019ve texted her, but, predictably, no response yet. \n\nAnyway, I know this might be sensitive topic for some people (and I don\u2019t feel like dealing with any drama, hence the throwaway). But I also want honest opinions and I\u2019m willing to apologize if I\u2019m wrong. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 44, "OTHER": 71, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 75, "WRONG": 49}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uGmBekcv5BJeKPsnrvJupA0xYOe69NxV", "post_id": "ajxyoy", "action": {"description": "not wanting to do anything sexual with my girlfriend while I'm sober", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not wanting to do anything sexual with my girlfriend while I\u2019m sober?", "text": "She\u2019s really crossed and wants to have sex. I don\u2019t feel comfortable because I\u2019m mostly sober. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0Vulmm3Ghx6i8pHYFyYZZdwWYjoi83Io", "post_id": "a6osy0", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend to refrain from talking about our exams for just three days", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my girlfriend to refrain from talking about our exams for just three days?", "text": " Well my girlfriend and I are both uni students. We're currently in the middle of our finals and we are both extremely stressed out. Although I also had to go through a lot of stuff this semester, she really stressed herself out and I was always there for her. Literally every single day she would tell me that she's exhausted and that she wants to kill herself and etc. I also had my own problems but I just kept it inside because I felt like I would be burdening her.  \n There were signs that she was a self-centered person. During the beginning of our relationship, she was so burdened that she literally lashed out everything at me. While I was trying to sooth her down, she acted all normal in front of our friends and I had the feeling that she didn't really respect me as a human. But I just got over with it because I knew how much it burdened her and I didn't want it to be a big deal.  \n Then quite more recently I got accepted to this thing that I was desperate to join. I was so happy about the news that I instantly told her the good news. At first she congratulated me but then literally 5 minutes later she started telling me how I should be thankful for everything that I had because I grew up in a household where I was provided with everything I needed. It's not as if she came from an extremely poor household and couldn't even afford our tuition fees (It's about 5k per year without scholarships). She just feels the burden on herself. That completely ruined my mood because I HAD to feel sorry for her. But I just forgot about it.  \n Now finally just a day ago, she was complaining about her GPA as per usual (which is still above 4.0 and mine is around 3.5) and I lost the last straw. I was already too stressed out, felt depressed, suicidal and all that emotional crap stacked up like a pile. I just couldn't take it anymore. So I politely asked her if we could just stop talking about our exams or anything study related just until the end of the semester (which is in three days). She got royally pissed at me and started guilt trapping me about how selfish I am and even mentioned the wealth thing (just for clarification I come from a middle-class family) which pretty much has absolutely nothing to do with it. We're still fighting atm but now I'm confused. Am I being the asshole over here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iYV2aPpJ9JeP5UePyJfqLz0dPEZgVTau", "post_id": "acy5al", "action": {"description": "cutting out a depressed friend for being negative 24/7", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for cutting out a depressed friend for being negative 24/7?", "text": "I met him (I'll call him Jeff) in school and initially thought Jeff was a pretty chill dude to talk to, so with both of us being into gaming I asked for his Steam profile. We then started playing regularly until half way through school when he randomly stops showing up altogether. During this time we rarely talked or played together, I figured whatever is happening I'll just let him have his space. He ends up telling me that he is homeschooled now and that's why he isn't showing up in school anymore. We play on and off on PC until late summer after the school year. Just before the next year of school I ask him about homeschooling and where he goes to etc because I wanted to try homeschool for personal reasons. He tells me I need to talk to a school counselor during the year and see if it is right for me. Wasn't a big deal to me at the time so initially I left it at that.\n\n​\n\nVery late into summer maybe a week and a half before school starts I really just want to get into homeschool and not go to public school at all this year. I pressure him into telling me the program he is in and he never budged, he eventually pretty much told me to \"fuck off\" and go to the counselor because it's probably not right for me. I can understand where he was coming from so I wasn't that mad. Me and my parents contact a local homeschool and before you know it, I'm in.\n\n​\n\nI decide to tell Jeff I got into a homeschool and it's been going fine. I ask again what homeschool he went with and he finally tells me that he actually just dropped out. I was reallllly disappointed in him for dropping out for no reason and for lying about being homeschool. Despite this we end up becoming really good friends talking to each other almost daily on Discord and playing cs:go. However things started to go downhill. After playing with him for a few weeks he starts to go into some small detail about him and his family and why he dropped out and I'm sitting here and listening to him and helping him however i can for the next few days. Some time passes and i end up visiting his house twice and pretty much everything he told me was an over-exaggeration. Most of the things he claimed ended up being either false or stretched out of proportion.  \n\n\nHowever most of this probably stemmed from him recently becoming depressed. So I decided to ignore it and just play games like we intended to do in the first place. Then he randomly obtains this huge insane unreasonable ego on how he used to be a god at CSGO and have better aim than a big majority of pros in his \"prime\" consisting of playing at 45 fps on a laptop with an office mouse. As you can see it just doesn't add up what so ever. Now when we que into games he's constantly complaining about his mouse and mousepad. Saying that if he just had the best peripherals for him that he'd suddenly soar to the top with minimal effort. It honestly just does NOT work that way. You find a flagship mouse and you adjust to it and practice to get better. But he thinks just because he obtained a ton of hours previously that he shouldn't have to practice a ton or adjust. He frequently blames teammates and even me. I rarely have a good time playing with him anymore and no matter what I try to do he refuses to change his thought process.  \n\n\nSo I decide to completely block him on discord, steam, and my phone. Because for me playing with him was a chore and mentally degrading. I can't really force myself to play with him much longer. But I'm worried that I didn't do the right thing and that maybe I should've stuck with him and helped him overcome this \"phase\" of sorts. AITA for essentially ending our friendship?  \n\n\nTL;DR: Decent person who became a good friend eventually ended up being depressed and really negative towards himself, his abilities and the people around him. Got too much for me and I blocked him.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bm5KVm6O2YKcsPCGfYOcrsClMF6QOsDC", "post_id": "auvxe6", "action": null, "title": "AITA: roommate lost new jacket, is mad I want him to pay me back.", "text": "My grandma got me a new Ralph Lauren jacket. I let him borrow it a while ago. I have been asking for it for awhile now (like 2 or 3 months) and he has kept saying it's just in his car and he will get it when he cleans it.\n\nTonight he tells me that someone either stole it or he left in California. It was $125 new and the jacket was still in excellent condition when I let him use it (probably wore it like 8 times).\n\nHe tells me I'm being a dick because:\n1. I never wear it\n2. I didn't pay for it because my grandma got it\n3. He doesn't think he should pay retail price for it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZVtt3nSaAHkGgvPJtHVqEhunUfpkhXcM", "post_id": "b9r826", "action": {"description": "not going to graduation and possibly making my classmates pay extra", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn\u2019t go to graduation and possibly made my classmates pay extra", "text": "In two months my class is graduating. They are all excited about it. I am not. I really don\u2019t want to go. I don\u2019t have any friends and I won\u2019t enjoy it the least. There is so much group pressure surrounding it, and theres a lot of money to be paid. We have to pay for dinner and then 7 tickets to the party. I have bought my 7 tickets and am now supposed to sell them to 7 people, but I don\u2019t have any friends. So I have now paid what equals to around 100 dollars for these tickets that I am not able to sell. I will then have to pay  200 dollars for the dinner. \n\nI have now decided not to go. I have been to stressed and anxious about it. I cry everytime someone mentions it.  Of course, I now want my money back for the 7 tickets and I don\u2019t want to pay for the dinner I\u2019m not going to. It is possible they now have to pay for that, but slit by 30 people I don\u2019t think it will be that much. I still feel like an ass for not telling them sooner, but I have really bad social anxiety (diagnosed, I go to a therapist). I have postponed this because I hoped I could deal with it but I can\u2019t. I am not even sure I will be able to tell them I am not coming because of my anxiety. My whole body shakes by the thought of writing to them about this. I feel like they will hate me. I don\u2019t know what to do. \n\nIt will probably end with me paying everything and then not going, but I don\u2019t want to throw that money away. They have never asked if everyone is going, they just assumed it. I am trying to summon the courage and write to one of the planners that I won\u2019t be coming. I am not close to anyone in my class, we never talk. I am the outsider. I don\u2019t want to ruin my graduation by forcing myself to be there and then just try to not cry all day. I can barely sleep because I am so stressed and anxious about the graduation party. I have cried myself to sleep over this more than a few times. I just don\u2019t want to go. \n\nSo WIBTA if I now told them that I am not coming? Even if it means they might have to pay a little extra? My 7 tickets they will be able to sell because they have a lot of friends so they will get that money back, they just have to split the 200 dollars between them which would be around 7 dollars each (if they even have to pay that, it is possible they created a larger budget and would have to give back a little money). \n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f4c80gQ5B8e1t2vtcgSEBTX6sad7rBA1", "post_id": "arm3bh", "action": {"description": "not notifying my employer for overpaying me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not notifying my employer for overpaying me?", "text": "So first job out of college for a pretty small company that I have now been working with for about two years. The company is disorganized, poorly managed, abusive to employees, and generally speaking not s fantastic work environment and for that reason I have accepted a new job in June. However, over the last year, there have been 4 instances in which I was overpaid due to clerical errors/ incompetence on behalf of my employer and each time I have notified them and had to pay them back. \n\nLast Friday I logged into my 401k account and noticed they had overpaid me (by several thousand dollars) into this account (the previous overpayments had been to my checking account). I am worried that if I tell them I will have to withdrawal the money and be responsible for taxes and penalties. \n\nAITA if I don\u2019t tell them and just keep the money even though this will be the 5th error in a years time? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KYiNEn5BbpRC0ZAAC4BMN6aXLmauYdZG", "post_id": "aruhle", "action": {"description": "declining game invites (for video games. obviously) because the people I play with are not as serious or competitive as I am", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for declining game invites (for video games. obviously) because the people I play with are not as serious or competitive as I am?", "text": "I\u2019m a HUGE gamer. Like LED lights, devoted gaming room kind of gamer. I play a lot on PS4 because most of my favorite games are on there. I also have a PC that is currently broken so that\u2019s also why. But while playing on PS4, I realize that most of my friends are either my uncles who play games (and also have a life don\u2019t worry they\u2019re not that kind of people. They have jobs) or my parents friends kids. My brother isn\u2019t old enough to understand video games and my uncles have lives (as previously mentioned) so they don\u2019t take it seriously, and my parents friends get out of school later than I do. I want to make money off of games, I want to pursue my dreams since I first played Minecraft or whatever came first. So, recently, I have been making up excuses to get out of playing games with people because they do not match my skill. After typing this out, a feel like an a-hole, but apparently I need he opinion of the internet too.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FFkgNalB4EF2kerSZpG0aUXRdxpXU4Ti", "post_id": "b987qa", "action": {"description": "not letting my heroin addict brother stay at my apartment", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my heroin addict brother stay at my apartment?", "text": "First time poster here, small time creeper, mobile user, shitty format, here comes the background info.\n\nTl;dr at the bottom for you skimmers and creepers out there. \n\nMy brother is 21 (the same dude from the title), and has been fighting a heroin addiction for a little over 3 years, give or take some time due to shitty memory. \n\nHe has a history of stealing from family members, including myself. On one occasion, I was staying out of state at my mom's to pick up a car I had been working on. I had about 10 dollars in cash, to top off the tank to make it home (home being 300 miles away). I had some extra in my savings, as a safety net. \n\nWell the night before I was set to leave back, my brother went into the room I was staying in, and took the crisp $10 bill out of my wallet, to buy whatever he could with it. \n\nThis pissed me off, and I confronted him about it. He denied, (of course) and my mom believed him.\nI just let it go, and chalked it up as a loss.\n\nFlash forward a few months, and he is staying with my younger sister (she's 24). She tells me that she has to kick him out, because he's fell into the wrong crowd again and is smoking heroin in her home. My sister has 2 biological sons and 2 stepsons, all under the age of 11. My sister and brother-in-law were not having it anymore, which I don't blame them. \n\nHe then goes back with my mom, who continues to coddle him through all this. She has bailed him out of jail 4 times, paid off multiple drug debts he's had as well. \n\nNow that we have all the pertinent information, let's talk about tonight.\n\nMy brother is staying in the same city as me with our father (our parents divorced back in 2012), and apparently have not been getting along. My sister called me tonight to ask me what was going on, because my dad was kicking my brother out for stealing his van, and stealing for other people. \n\nMy brother messages me and asks me if he can come over. I told him I'm already in bed, because I have to open at work tomorrow morning. \n\nHis reply was how he doesnt have anywhere to stay, which isn't the truth. We have a ton of extended family (cousins we grew up with) who have been willing to help him out. \n\nHe asks me if he can spend the night, which I replied with no, explaining that he needs to get some help, and that he has burned me in the past. I don't trust him alone in my apartment. I have worked hard for 2 years to get my apartment and have the few nice things I have. \n\nI am in no way, shape or form well off. I make minimum wage in a state that is considered poverish, and I don't live in the nicest of part of town, either. \n\nSo reddit, \nAITA for refusing to let my brother stay at my apartment?\n\n Tl;dr: I told my heroin addict brother he can't come and stay at my apartment because he steals. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FIdlIlysvJZrBntvgRpK4XwNixC4ZrER", "post_id": "b7wqqz", "action": {"description": "asking my dad to put his phone down while he's driving", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my dad to put his phone down while he\u2019s driving?", "text": "My (17M) dad (44M) has a long history of using his cell phone behind the wheel. On more than one occasion, I\u2019ve looked over and seen him texting and looking at Facebook whilst driving his car. My philosophy is that you should put the iPhone down as whatever random crap you\u2019re doing on it can wait until you are finished driving.  When I tell him it scares me, he says \u201cIt\u2019s fine\u201d. I disagree. If you are traveling at 55 mph, and you are looking down at your phone for 5 seconds, you will travel the length of a football field with no eyes on the road. Sounds scary, right? Texting drivers are also 6x more likely to cause an accident that those who are drunk. AITA for expressing my concerns?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uIBkUzjD8bp26ptygMYSeJXbvcISmbKj", "post_id": "b7ayj1", "action": {"description": "not telling my boss I'm being considered for a promotion on a different department", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't tell my boss I'm being considered for a promotion on a different department?", "text": "I've been working on this company for a year now and my position is literally a bullshit job, I have a minimum amount of responsibilities and I'm treated like a child (I'm the youngest in the department). I've asked several times for more things to do, told my boss (let's call him Pete) to give me a chance to prove myself and he only tells me to \"be patient\", my coworkers say they've been there and that I should wait, but I feel stuck here, I've even been looking for other jobs for a while. Someone from a different department told her boss (let's call her Sarah) that I have potential and they should transfer me, so they have given me small tasks and I've tried my best to excel.\n\nRecently the Sarah told me she wanted me to work with her, but to don't tell Pete about it yet, that \"someone\" will talk to him. I told everything to one of my coworkers and she said I'm going behind Pete's back and it's unprofessional and unethical. I don't want to get on Sarah's bad side by doing what she explicitly told me not to, but I don't want to disrespect my current boss. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XYB06zfLyWXqrqpcJYevU3a9olUKkFip", "post_id": "b3r49f", "action": {"description": "forgetting a friend's work schedule", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for forgetting a friend\u2019s work schedule?", "text": "I\u2019m the mom friend. You know, the one who coordinates everyone\u2019s schedules so we can all go out to dinner or whatever. \n\nThis friend told me a week ago she works Friday and is off Saturday. Well, last night, I sent a text in the group chat asking if everyone is free Friday. She didn\u2019t pipe up but left a passive aggressive comment in a different message thread. She hasn\u2019t responded to any of my messages of apology or offer to buy breakfast as amends. AITA for thinking she should get over it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kcdOCGzCRxOeNNQshFu0PYXMprH2qdke", "post_id": "ankoei", "action": {"description": "not wanting to spend time with my father", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to spend time with my father?", "text": "English isn't my first language, so sorry for the mistakes. \n\nFirstly, some context. My parents met when they were in school and my mother got pregnant of me when she was only nineteen years old, they never got married or anything. When I was very small (6 or 7) they broke up for the first time, I don't really remember why or when, but they started dating again. \n\nEverything was fine until 2015. Then, a few days before my birthday my mom told me she was looking for places to live because she and my dad broke up. She told me that the relationship just didn't work and she wasn't happy, she even cried (this was the first time in my life that I saw my mom crying this way). I was only fourteen but I understood, I just wanted them to be happy.\n\nNow, the real problems. Like I said, it was my mom who told me about this, my father simply wasn't there. He never really talked about this with me until I started the conversation. My mom found a place less than a month later and I moved with her. Both of my parents were destroyed and I asked them both to go to a psychology, they said no. I really think my mom moved on, she's very strong. Sadly, my dad isn't.\n\nMy emotional state was, as you can guess, no the best and everything was jus too much. Even without this, I cry VERY easily, like once a day at least (yeah, I know) so every f*cking time we had a discussion I cried. And e v e r y t i m e he got mad at me. He said stuff like \"whatever YOU do\"(you=me and my mom) \"what SHE says\" (My mom, obviously). I got pissed off every time. \n\nMy parents still text, mostly to talk about me, and my father insulted my mom and called me a liar in that first year. In the next year we had another big fight and he threw me out, he told me to take my stuff and don't go back ever again. I didn't because when I want stubborn becomes my second name. He apologized and promised to never do something like that again.\n\nOf course, he did. Months later I called him, I don't even remember why, I think I needed something that was on his house? No clue. The point is that we started arguing and, again, he told me to never go back. And, once more, he apologized. \n\nThe most recently thing that has happened is related with the pension he gives my mom, which is extremely low (only 150\u20ac). My mom had to take a job in another part of the country, so I lived with my dad that time, we had a few fights but everything was kind of fine. When my mom came back she told me that those two months he didn't give her anything, not a single cent. According to a lawyer my mom talked to, he must do it. We had another fight related to money a week ago, for a trip I had to do.\n\nImportant thing, I go to his house every other weekend and live in his house like a month every year.\n\nBy now, after not only this but a lot more, I'm sick of this. He behaves like a fiveteen year old and I have enough of my own teenager sh*t. I don't want to spend my time like that. Is it me? Is he in the right here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5DklVZo2EHLPIRlgNB90SP4vcd4wlLJF", "post_id": "axc26m", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend his friend can't stay with us", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my boyfriend his friend can't stay with us?", "text": "So my boyfriend and I are currently fighting about this, and I'm not sure if I can be considered the asshole here or not.\n\nSo my boyfriend, (23m, we'll call him PAH for possible asshole) has a female friend (23f, we'll call her HW for reasons that will soon be clear). I (20f) told PAH about a month ago that his friend could stay with us if she wanted to get back on her feet, as it's winter in Canada and not a good place to be a Homeless Woman. (HW). My only condition for this was that she stay off drugs and definitely not have them in my home, and that I get to meet her before agreeing 100% to let her live with us. I even offered to get her a job at my workplace.\n\nFast forward to two weeks ago, when PAH was hanging out with HW. She took him to her friends house and pulled out a bag of coke, and then starting doing lines in front of him. PAH came home visibly upset, because he had asked her on numerous occasions not to do drugs in front of him. Note, I still haven't met this woman.\n\nSince that incident, I was under the impression that he hadn't spoken to HW. Except, apparently he \"gave her shit\" for doing drugs in front of him and they're best of buds now. Also, apparently she's clean again? Either way, PAH texted me while he was at work and asked if he could pick up HW and take her back to our place tonight and have her stay for a while. The length of time wasn't mentioned, so it could be anywhere from a few days to a few months. I have no idea.\n\nSome additional info; I still have yet to meet this woman. At one point between my stating she could stay and now, I was placed on medical leave from work. So we only have PAHs income. Also, had he picked her up tonight, I would have been alone with her all day when PAH left for work tomorrow. Possibly worth mentioning, these two do have a past romantic history.\n\nTL;DR: boyfriend is friends with a homeless (possible former) drug addict. He wants her to stay with us. I disagree. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UbKmN1sMbh78HjsiboSCI5c9GmMcdCNP", "post_id": "atzcxr", "action": {"description": "doubling my tip by adding the cash tip to a credit card even though it was written in on the receipt", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for doubling my tip by adding the cash tip to a credit card even though it was written in on the receipt?", "text": "I'm a pizza delivery driver and I had a customer pull $4 from their wallet and set it on the table while filling out the receipt. They initially wrote in $5 and added $5 to the total but then changed the tip on the card to $4 when they realized they only had $4 on the table. I'm 100% sure that they didn't intend to give me an $8 tip. \n\nNormally, if this happens and they only hand me $1 or $2, I take the extra money. I have to claim $2 as taxable income for every delivery I take regardless of what I receive. And a lot of the time, a $2 tip means I make about the same as if I had just stayed in the store. The way I see it, they took advantage of me by skimping out on the tip (especially if it's a larger, $30+ order) so I return the favor but taking advantage of them and line my pockets in the process. But $4 is a pretty good tip for a ~$22 order, especially to the college campus where this delivery went.\n\nAm I the asshole for taking advantage of this person's ignorance and taking the $4 on the credit card?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3Dt5U15BHxDFeml9XILO2gAy45UvpNbO", "post_id": "a9eq5z", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to use the guest/spare bathroom to poop in instead of our master bathroom", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA for asking my husband to use the guest/spare bathroom to poop in instead of our master bathroom?", "text": "We've had petty fights over this but I just want to know if what I'm asking for is unreasonable or not. \n\n​\n\nSo my husband has notoriously bad-smelling bowel movements because of IBS. It's not super often but happens occasionally when he eats something he's not supposed to and he gets irritated. Anyways, the smell is absolutely putrid and will make you gag. \n\n​\n\nRecently I've been thinking about asking him to use the downstairs guest toilet instead of our main one for all number twos. Part of it is definitely selfish, since I have a lot of nice-smelling makeup and delicate skincare in our master bedroom and tbh I get a bit paranoid that his foul smelling movements are creating lingering smells/poop particles. The other is that I even though he closes the door, I can always smell a bit when he's pooping and the smell makes me honestly gag. There's nothing worse than sitting in bed at 10pm and smelling a tiny bit of poop while you're relaxing and getting ready for bed. \n\n​\n\nAnyways I brought it up to him that I think it would be nice if he started pooping in the downstairs toilet which is far away from our bedroom. He got angry and said that he'll poop wherever he please. I think he's being REALLY immature and childish for \"wanting to poop wherever\" especially when it honestly affects me negatively both mentally and physically. I don't think its a huge ask if it means I could be a LOT more comfortable in my own home. I know I'd do the same for him. Is he being immature or AITA here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mEmZLNtsiDCRpsuWVK5kug6nnLhsgkBn", "post_id": "a8iv2s", "action": {"description": "having a tough time with my brother while visiting home", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for having a tough time with my brother while visiting home?", "text": "As a disclaimer: this is late at night, I\u2019m frustrated, and using a cell phone. I\u2019m sorry in advance for any typos! \n\nSo, I live in a state very far away from my family. In fact, the four of us (Mom, sister (27), me (25f), brother (21m)) are all very spread out over the US. We came together yesterday to go for a wedding. Obviously, we are far apart in distance but I\u2019ve always felt close to my sister, brother, and Mom. \n\nSo, the last few times I\u2019ve seen my brother, he has irritated the HELL out of me. I feel like he chooses to say and do inflammatory things just to piss people off, myself included. No one really puts him in his place, as he is an adult and can do/say what he wants. But, I\u2019m trying to figure out if HE is an asshole or if I am being an irritable asshole, myself. \n\nHere\u2019s a couple of examples from the weekend (one day) so far: \n\n1. My mom asked me about an uncomfortable situation I had told her about involving a strange man.  Basically, just a creep at the bar that I felt weird telling off because he was friends with my coworker. She asked my brother for his advice, and I filled him in on what happened. He immediately told me what I SHOULD have done \u201cjust tell him to fuck off!\u201d To which I replied, it\u2019s a little more nuanced than that. I have a new job, didn\u2019t know my coworkers who I was out with well, and he was a friend of theirs. He scoffed and said he would have just told him to fuck off anyway. This was a situation that I was already feeling really self conscious about, and I kind of snapped at him and said that he didn\u2019t understand the reality of the situation, though I would have loved to have done what he suggested. \n\n2. Shows me a new tattoo that he got. I said I liked it. It is the start of a sleeve, and was really well done. My mom said she liked it, but hoped he would wait to get a job to complete the sleeve, just to ensure employment (he\u2019s in college). He immediately responded \u201cI\u2019m going to be tatted from head to toe, just watch. See me when I\u2019m 70\u201d. I said okay, good for you. I also have tattoos. I said I liked your tattoo. Our mom loves you and just was having a normal mom reaction. Not sure if he was just defensive or what. \n\n3. He brings up politics every opportunity he has. We have very different political views, which is fine. But I feel like he baits me into these discussions and just tries to piss me off. Like, tonight he brought up how he \u201cLoves the death penalty\u201d and I said, okay. He knows I feel differently, but won\u2019t stop. \u201cI think we should kill anyone who does something terrible. Why pay to keep them alive?\u201d I try to stay out of these, but eventually get sucked in. Or he talks about how he thinks he has the solution to school intruders, and I\u2019m a teacher. I try to give him my perspective but he absolutely won\u2019t listen to me and continues to spout. \n\n\n4. He uses profanity in insane excess. I\u2019m not a prude by any means, but he literally cannot say a sentence without saying fuck, regardless of the audience. I get irritated and say something, and he gets in my face. \n\n\nI don\u2019t know. When I read back, these seem like normal tiffs. But, they are much more numerous than this. Im discouraged because this past year, I\u2019ve seen him three times and am constantly annoyed. My boyfriend can\u2019t stand him and I frankly don\u2019t blame him (he threatened to beat him up for no reason while drunk when he met him). I wrote that off as him being a defensive, dumb 20 year old (at the time) but now I feel like the behavior is more consistent. \n\nAm I an asshole sister who is being impatient with my brother? Or is my brother being douchey? Do I need to get over myself, or talk to him about his behavior? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1p7bDnsKnO9piWemMfq95TUStsF9Gqrv", "post_id": "as2560", "action": {"description": "wanting to end this friendship", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to end this friendship?", "text": "Backstory, because it helps explain my mindset a bit: I\u2019m diagnosed with clinical depression and have been through a decent amount of trauma in my life (extreme bullying throughout most of mu childhood & an alcoholic parent) which has led to me having a decent amount of trust issues. In the past two years I\u2019ve broken off 3 very close relationships in very painful ways because of toxicity; it\u2019s taken a bad toll on my mental health, and I am going to therapy. \n\nSo the person I want to break the friendship with is called C. C has been a friend for about a year or so now & usually we get along pretty well. However, C also is really quick to make assumptions and has said that I \u201chave it better off\u201d because I \u201c\u201donly\u201d\u201d have clinical depression and not BPD and Bipolar like they do. I\u2019ve never tried to downplay their mental illness, but when they said this one night I told them this really hurt my feelings, and that I don\u2019t have to fight to be true about my experiences. They acted all shocked that I was upset (during this interaction prior, mind you, I didn\u2019t show any upset because we were at a party & I was deeply self-conscious) and when I asked for an apology they used the whole \u201cI\u2019m sorry YOU got offended\u201d routine. That kind of stuff isn\u2019t only gross but also made me feel bad because I felt like I was being hysterical. \n\nFast forward to now. I moved on because I figured they wouldn\u2019t grow up and give me a proper apology. Yesterday I was dropping a friend off (they were in the car with me and my gf because they can\u2019t drive) and we got into a dumb fight really over miscommunication. I got mad at them because I didn\u2019t want them involved and nearly kicked them out of my car. \n\nLooking back on it now, I feel like my anger is from the prior experience\u2014they never really apologized to me while taking my feelings into account, and I\u2019ve realized the anger is building in me. I don\u2019t want to break it off because it\u2019d tear apart a friend group, but I\u2019m still really hurt. \n\nSO: AITA? I need a second opinion. \n\n(lemme know also if you need more info: I can answer what I can.) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4W3DqnhTEC8yXh0atALboNwvuTtaA2NB", "post_id": "b5edpt", "action": {"description": "asking my friend to stop giving unsolicited advice", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking my friend to stop giving unsolicited advice?", "text": "A few years ago I made a new friend in the new city we had just moved to. We got along well and our kids became friends. She liked to give unsolicited advice about everything, even retroactively. If I ever complained, she took it as an invitation to either give advice or tell me what I should have done in retrospect. She told me I potty trained wrong, that I should have used a sticker system for my daughter\u2019s behaviors (even after I said I tried it and found it ineffective), that when I had a mishap ordering an appliance online I should have gone inside a store to order from a sales person, that I handle tantrums wrong and how I should be handling them, etc. I\u2019d usually explain my reasoning or just say thank you so she\u2019d stop. We otherwise had a great relationship. One horrifying day I discovered that both my daughter and I had lice. I texted her to cancel our play date. She said she\u2019d never had lice before and began sending me links and advice and even telling me how I should have prevented it. I was already overwhelmed and freaking out so I got fed up and I finally confessed that while I appreciated the thought behind her advice, I could no longer accept so much unsolicited advice. She responded that part of friendship means giving advice, and if I couldn\u2019t accept her advice we could no longer be friends. I tried to explain how not all advice is bad, but that sometimes I just wanted to vent without being told what I should do or should have done, but I ended up apologizing to her. She said she\u2019d think about whether we should remain friends. After a few days she ultimately decided that we could not be friends (she texted that giving advice is very important to her in her friendships and she felt like I would be \u201cpolicing\u201d her too much for her comfort) and I lost the only friend I had made in my new city. My daughter also lost her friend. I still think often about whether I handled this wrong. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8Y6dgA2teA4mcYIwoD2TdbwFdnGVbEui", "post_id": "a4dbet", "action": {"description": "calling out an admin of a sub for writing stupid stuff that had nothing to do with that sub", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for calling out an admin of a sub for writing stupid stuff that had nothing to do with that sub (and corrected him on the history of marriage)?", "text": "Someone said I should write this here, so here it goes. Copy/Paste.\n\nTLDR: Subreddit drama, got banned, wanna know if I was in the wrong.\n\n---------\n\n\nI was subscribed to r/gayyoungold (LGBT, couples with big age gaps) for some time now, the sub is not as active as before, but still it was fun. However, yesterday I got banned from it (and thrown out from the FB group) by the admin and I don\u00b4t know if it was exactly my fault. If so, please let me know.\n\nI think that the admin made a fake profile (says u/deleted, no idea if this changes when you delete a post), started a thread and wrote stuff that didn\u00b4t make any sense. The original post and the new profile were deleted, but he posted something similar on FB, you can see it [here](https://imgur.com/a/UBQ7on5)\n\nI replied to it and I honestly didn\u00b4t mean it in a mean way, but now reading back my messages I can see that some folks might think it was (the drugs comment was stupid on my part, I admit that).  [These were the original comments that were deleted.](https://imgur.com/a/9zvgREh)\n\nI got banned and I wanted to see why, since I didn\u00b4t break any rule, tried to prove him wrong about the history of marriage and of course didn\u00b4t know that the fake profile was a mod in disguise. [This was the exchange](https://imgur.com/a/DOm5o9I)\n\nI have to mention that I got banned one time before when I said that a 40+ guy and a 15 years old boy is totally wrong and that sub was not about those things. Talking against pedophilia got me a week off that sub.\n\nAm I in the wrong? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WM3oMOy2t3Gm1fTp1pjh8swNkWf2mRr6", "post_id": "aihbs8", "action": {"description": "hating my brother as much as I do", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating my brother as much as I do?", "text": "So this all started back about 3-4 years ago, my brother has always been an \"edgelord\" reading about serial killers collecting knives being satanist and all that kind of shit, that's not the problem though. About two years ago we kinda shipped him off to my dad's house to leave me(17), my sister(12) and my mother to live by ourselves my brother is 20 going on 21. But before we sent him off we would scream and crash things, even going as far as to wrap his first in a pillow to hit my sister and threats to our lives were a more than daily occurrence. Both I and my brother have high functioning autism, but him a little less function. And as of two years ago he had stopped just being interested in serial killers and now kinda idolizes them and I'm convinced 100% if he was still in school he would've tried to go on a stabbing. But the final straw for me was after he moved out I looked around his room and found bootleg Molotov cocktails in a box and so I confronted him about it and he continued to lie to my face and the only reason I didn't beat his ass then and there was because he had his pet snake around his neck. The snake used to be shared around 4 years ago but after one time he cleaned her tank he put it in his room and called it his snake even though I paid for half of all expenses and loved her just as much and still do. Anyway, when I and my sister go up to my dad's house we fear for our lives and our father's life whom my brother exploits and causes even more mental harm to my highly depressed father. So now I couldn't care less if he was hit by a bus and I'd only pity him if he died.\nTLDR\nMy semi-autistic brother has terrorized my family for years, we sent him to our dads were he exploits him and we found Molotov cocktails in his room he aspires to be a serial killer and I no longer care for his life.\nPs\nHe disowned us all as family, my mother doesn't want to send him to a home.\nI questioned this recently because people tell me to cut him some like for being disabled and because he's my bother but I've tried and I'm done.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "etlK6lAtlsLdnx7ZS1cMalukH1vHhcH0", "post_id": "ay7vht", "action": {"description": "not wanting to cancel my vacation", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to cancel my vacation?", "text": "I live with my parents and brother, and work several jobs to make ends meet.  My jobs are stressful and I am paid little so I exist in a constant state of stress and worry.  I'm pushing thirty.\n\nI decided to take a short vacation towards the end of the month to a city about three hours away from home.  That's the only week where I have a couple days off from all three of my jobs.  I'm honestly going to get away from the family and sleep and have a nice dinner.\n\nOnce I told my parents that I was going on vacation, they told me they were planning on going out of town around the same time as me and they immediately pulled some faces and started suggesting that I cancel or reschedule my vacation until after they come back.\n\nMy brother is in his mid-twenties and has had some mental health problems over the years.  He's doing much better (he's on anti-d's and goes to therapy regularly) but I believe that my parents are still worried about him being in the house alone, and they want someone to watch him.  And I understand that, I do - but I have never taken a vacation for myself.  I want to relax and not worry about work for the first time in years.  And while I'm on vacation I'm planning on meeting up with one of my old college professors and talking about applying to grad school.  My professor already confirmed our meeting date and time and I don't want to back out.\n\nI guess I'm asking if I'm the asshole for not wanting to change my vacation to keep an eye on my brother. I care about him deeply - he's my only sibling - and would be devastated if anything happened to him.  But I want to take care of myself and relax a little.  AITA? My parents keep making me feel like I am.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PISfYhABqzRK6UJxlRqrhffzm9rP1C29", "post_id": "ba1kk5", "action": {"description": "reminding a friend of a piece of art I commissioned", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I reminded a friend of a piece of art I commissioned", "text": "My husband's best friend is a really awesome guy: friendly, funny, and an amazing artist. He has an art degree from a pretty prestigious art school, has worked for a couple of big animation companies as a storyboard artist, and a very big company which rhymes with \"Lisney\" as a PA. He has since moved on to being an independent artist.\n\nHe and I get along great and text all the time. One night I asked since he was now independent if I could commission him to draw a realistic photo of my husband, our son, and I in a comic book style. We went over what it would look like, he asked for some examples of what we would be wearing, and put the whole thing together. He and I were legitimately excited for this project! I then asked him for his pricing and he said he'd do it for free, since when he started branching off on his own I advertised his art on my blog for free which in turn gave him a bit of traffic.\n\nThis was back in November. I told him I wanted to give it to my husband for Christmas, but told him there was no rush. I was really hoping this would be the center piece of the gifts I was going to give him. Since our collaboration I haven't heard a thing from him about the picture. I have a curiously large amount of friends who are artists and know how frustrating it can be having a client hitting them up for a timeline. Also he is doing it for free, so I don't feel like I'm super entitled to pester him for it.\n\n WIBTA if I messaged him and gently ask about it?\n\nTl;dr: Commissioned my husbands BFF to draw a Christmas gift for my husband six months ago. He insisted on doing it for free, and I haven't heard anything about it since.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5fRqmdrvwTjYFwYny2FieVFJWjW2ccMG", "post_id": "au14tp", "action": {"description": "losing my friend over her saying shes anti vax", "pronormative_score": 77, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA for losing my friend over her saying shes anti vax?", "text": "My best friend of almost 4 years just told me she was doing an assignment on 'free range parenting' and she asked if she should be worried about the mothers that are in her class and if they'd be mad at her. She often jokes and likes to make people mad so I didn't think she was serious. \n\nBut then she went on to explain what anti vax means to her and how free range parents think vaccines give children autism. I told her that those ideas make me uncomfortable and then she said that they were true. \n\nI'm used to having different ideas than her, it's one of the reasons I love being her friend. But this is something I have very strong opinions on and never knew she believed in this. \n\nWould I be the asshole for not being her friend anymore because of her ideas that vaccines cause autism?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 74, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 77, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IKgv57cxqoNaxuqSApZKA85yYzHMDRtv", "post_id": "aqrn2r", "action": {"description": "giving my improv teacher feedback", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving my improv teacher feedback?", "text": "So I\u2019m doing a level 4 improv course and I\u2019m not really enjoying it as much as I enjoyed the other levels. It seems like a lot of time is spent on overanalysis and and explanation of pretty basic concepts, and not much performing. In the other levels there was still a lot of talking, but a decent amount of performing, too. I just think - we\u2019re all adults, we don\u2019t need to talk for 10 minutes about what might be funny in a scene and what humour is. We don\u2019t need to overanalyse pretty simple concepts as if they\u2019re theoretical physics. Give us the basics, and trust that we\u2019ll get it and intuit what\u2019s funny - let us learn by doing.\n\nSo after class I spoke privately to the teacher and said I thought there was too much talking. I wasn\u2019t aggressive at all, but I still feel like a douche. She took it pretty well, but was a bit defensive. The thing is, I\u2019m a teacher too (not improv) and I hate when students give negative feedback at the end of the course - I always wish they would\u2019ve told me earlier on, so I could\u2019ve changed things. So I assumed it\u2019d be the same here.\n\nIdk. And now I\u2019m afraid it\u2019ll be awkward next week, I almost don\u2019t want to go back (I have social anxiety)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ckGkggpTBOZcm9s16yVmVuUtdOUlhXf2", "post_id": "av059y", "action": {"description": "not wanting to split bills 50/50 with my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 49, "contranormative_score": 39}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to split bills 50/50 with my boyfriend?", "text": "So a bit of a back story i moved in with my boyfriend almost a year ago. I started paying 50% of all the bills once i moved in and i was completely fine with it.\n\n As the months go by i start noticing how much of a slob he is. Also i start noticing he literally does not lift a finger and because i dont want to live in filth i start cleaning up after him. This turns into me being 100% responsible for all the cleaning and cooking.\n\n So now im feeling like if this is all my responsibility i shouldn't have to pay 50%. Im fine with doing all the cleaning IF its fair. I don't think its fair at this point. I have brought it up to him on several occasions and his response is \"no one is forcing you to do it\" . So am i the asshole ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 17, "OTHER": 43, "EVERYBODY": 22, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 49, "WRONG": 39}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YdvMMdXIlW9KZcssj55NO7YcO1P5O8gY", "post_id": "ambt6b", "action": {"description": "acting out in this situation", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for acting out in this situation?", "text": "Strap in, honeys, this is a long, two year ride. \nIf I\u2019m being honest, I only made this account to post this story for this reason. It came to my mind after a conversation with my sister, and I guess I want Reddit\u2019s opinion. \nBefore I begin, let me clarify something. In my seventh to eighth grade year, I was an horrible, horrible person.\nBottom line, I was bitter because I had some family baggage. My mother mistreated me and my sister in the past and blew up at us. I was also religiously scarred as a kid, and I never actually truly got over that. This led to me being incredibly depressed, negative, and toxic. \nStill, there was someone in my life who I can\u2019t decide on which one of us was worse. Apparently, my family is insisting that this person I\u2019m going to talk about was innocent and I was the only aggressor. I won\u2019t deny that I was cruel to him, but was I really the only offender? Well, that\u2019s for you to decide I suppose. I am ready for Reddit\u2019s just and swift ruling of my pretty damning case. \nI guess what I expect here is either an \u201ceverybody sucks\u201d or \u201cyou\u2019re the asshole,\u201d I just want to know. Forgive me as this was a very long time ago and my memory is shaky. Also, I\u2019m writing this on my phone. I will try my very hardest not to misrepresent things in my favor as I really do just want an answer and to put this part of my life to rest. \nI had a friend. I\u2019ll call him Gean. We met after an awkward incident at his garage sale when my dog tripped me, and he helped me up and untangled me from my leash. I was twelve at this time. It was funny, awkward, and we laughed it off. \nLater, I invited Gene to dinner as my parents were grilling out. He told me he was sick and vomiting. However, later when I went by his house, he was hanging with his cousins. He said he was feeling better, and being the innocent kid I was, I believed him. \nGene never lived in a good neighborhood, but I never judged him for this. His house was small and cluttered but I enjoyed going over there. We became friends and he did have dinner with us and our family a few times. \nHe later told me that he lied about being sick because his cousins didn\u2019t want him hanging with \u201chomeschooled little white girls,\u201d I was incredibly insecure about being homeschooled, and this hurt ms a log. This was my first red flag and I did begin to treat him differently because of this offense. I never ever hang with people who are ashamed to be around me, but in this case, I had no choice. My family liked him. \nIt was no secret that he liked me, but I was young and I wasn\u2019t ready for that. He would make sexual comments my way and tell me he\u2019d do things like \u201cgrab my butt,\u201d and pull down my skirt. I would dismiss them as just him playing around. \nOne day, he told me he smoked weed and, as an innocent homeschooler, this scared me. I never judged him for where he lived, but cursing used to be a criminal offense in my view and smoking weed was even worse. Now, I\u2019m a bit more open minded, but at the time I was heavily sheltered. \nMy parents and sister adored him, and I was a little uncertain. I knew that they wouldn\u2019t be so accepting if they knew what he was really like. Around them, he acted perfect. Still, I wasn\u2019t a snitch, and I kept quiet. \nSo far, I didn\u2019t do anything wrong. Then... I hit eighth grade, my darkest year. I was depressed, sick, and angry. I would frequently yell at my parents and fight with my mother about the way she treated me in the past. I struggled against my religious indoctrination, and I hated everyone. \nMy resentment grew towards Gene and the way he treated me. So, I stopped talking to him. He would come over, and I\u2019d lock myself in my room. If he tried to talk to me, I\u2019d snap at him. My home and school life grew worse and worse, and it was the year I considered killing myself or running away from home. Yes, I was a drama queen, but at the time, this seemed logical and honestly, I just didn\u2019t want to be alive. My life was meaningless without religion, and I was learning that I was socially inept because of my homeschooling even as I went to a school for the first time. I felt worthless and like everyone knew I was a loser. So, I was defensive and cruel. \nGene would tag along when my dad and I when he would take me on our favorite trip. We\u2019d go pawn shopping. I collected knives because I thought they were pretty, and even now I throw knives at a target. This got us somewhat close again. Although, I was cold and distant with Gene. \nDuring this time, I was the offender. I\u2019ll admit that right now. I was cruel to this kid, and I personally don\u2019t think he deserved it after the dumb things he did as a kid. I told him to his face that I wanted him gone and that I was sick of him hanging around. He\u2019d cry to my parents that I was bullying him, but I didn\u2019t care. I knew he had them wrapped around his little finger. \nSee, Gene had a rough life. He lived with a single mom who had been to prison for drugs. So, they fell head over heels. (Keep in mind, my mom was a huge fan of the movie, Blindside. And she wants to do that with every kid with a sob story even to this day) I didn\u2019t feel sorry for him, and I didn\u2019t believe anything he said. I knew who he really was when my parents backs were turned. \nAlthough these were my thoughts at the time, I think, most of why I treated him so horribly was because I knew my parents liked him more than me. He was actually nice and I was a depressed screw up. I didn\u2019t know how to fake it.\nThat was until the fateful day he brought us weed. My sister, him, and I went into the woods and smoked. That was when I realized that I needed something from him. So, I tolerated him. He kept lying to my family, and I\u2019d get so angry but I couldn\u2019t tell them who he really was or I wouldn\u2019t be allowed to see him, thus cutting off my supply of drugs. \nHis cousin started coming around, and would bully my sister. She had a learning disability that rendered her socially awkward. She\u2019s fine now, but he would bully her relentlessly. He called her disgusting, stupid, and told her no guy would ever want to screw her. Only recently have I discovered how badly that effected her. Still, I was a selfish twelve year old who didn\u2019t care about anyone but myself. \nThen, about when I turned thirteen, I got desperate. I felt like I needed a boyfriend to have self worth So, I returned his romantic advances after a year. We kissed, and it was my first. Then, we stopped talking for a while. I got so angry and defensive. Why would he just kiss me and then leave and not talk to me?! So, the next time we talked, I told him I never wanted to see him again and he finally listened to me. \nFast forward to the summer, and I had a huge attitude change. I cried and begged my mother for forgiveness, my dad, my sister, and I did everything I could to change. Life got pretty dark from there, but I faced it with a smile and tried to be positive and selfless. I wanted to live. I wanted to make it up to my family, and I wanted to change and be good. Perhaps, I didn\u2019t deserve forgiveness, but I didn\u2019t care. I just wanted to get out of that slump I stayed in for two years. I stopped cutting myself (yes I did that) Although, I still get tempted to do it. Stupid endorphins... \nI must have been thirteen when I saw Gene again. It had been a long time, and I was with my friend and sister. I told them that I wanted to talk to him, and I tried to apologize to him for what I said. He was awkward, and I wasn\u2019t sure what was wrong. I guess I figured he\u2019d either forgive me or just mutter whatever and leave. I wanted to talk to him further so I asked if I could come over. He said sure, and when I got there, his cousin and two others were there. \nThen, I did something I will forever regret. I got drunk. He and his cousins were taunting me that I couldn\u2019t handle it, and so I got drunk. It was horrible. My apology was ruined because I screwed it up. My sister came later and the same thing happened to her. So, we stumbled home, our parents caught us and yelled at us. \nI tried one more time to apologize and he wouldn\u2019t hear me. He told me to just leave like I did so many times to him. I went home, cried, and got a text from his mom, apologizing. She called me beautiful and told me things would get better. It was weird to hear that from an older woman, just sympathizing with me and telling me that I could get better. It gave me a lot of hope that even past those two years, I could move on. I cried a lot and decided that even if I felt guilty, he wouldn\u2019t hear my apology, and I had to move on. I had done everything I could, but it was over. \nThat was the last time I ever saw him and I hope it stays that way. I know we were both stupid kids, but I can\u2019t help but feel completely overwhelmed with guilt, shame, confusion, hurt, and regret. \nSo, tell me something, Reddit. Did I deserve what I got? Did everyone suck in this situation. Do I deserve forgiveness or did I really hurt this boy? I honestly believe I didn\u2019t as he was pretty heartless. Whenever he got \u201cupset\u201d it was obviously an act. So, I kind of just thought everyone sucked, and I didn\u2019t actually hurt him. Was he completely innocent? You guys tell me. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0QZSnghbHezg0qt00gD2c48hLMTQaexO", "post_id": "ai5es4", "action": {"description": "taking a trip with friends, including a different friends ex", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking a trip with friends, including a different friends ex", "text": "Throwaway because said friends know my Reddit account. Also mobile here so sorry in advanced for the text block. \n\nSo I have a very close group of friends, 3 of us have know each other since middle school, I'll call the other 2 A and B. As everyone's leaving for college, A and his girlfriend (C), who is also a very close friend and on her own a definite part of the group, break up. Me, B, C, and another girl from the group (D) get pretty close after that. We plan a road trip to see each other's campuses and get everyone home for break, just the 4 of us. Between planning and taking the trip, I learn from other friends that A has taken the breakup terribly. Still doing bad months after the fact. We don't cancel the trip, as reservations are already made and we're still friends beyond the fact that A and C dated. A doesn't know anything about the trip, but has accused both me and B of trying to sleep with C on some very flimsy reasons. Based on those overreactions, I have no desire to tell A about this trip, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lZiRt6UZd5qMN8zrcWG9XIxPUyeD7p2x", "post_id": "9vzxwo", "action": {"description": "wanting to make a gofundme to fund a vasectomy for my idiot cousin who keeps having kids", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for wanting to make a GoFundMe to fund a vasectomy for my idiot cousin who keeps having kids?", "text": "The guy is homeless and a complete failure in life, even after multiple family members helping him. He has two kids with one woman, another kid with a second woman, and now a fourth kid with yet another woman. He abandons them as soon as he can, even with babysitters in one instance. \n\nI saw on social media the announcement of the 4th baby, and wanted to post the GoFundMe link in the comments for his vasectomy. The rest of the family thought it would be funny and agreed since he isn\u2019t getting the point to use protection and stop having kids. Am I the asshole? Thank you. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "hlf7pabhgnciCHGvBrirmE96epQvXnuC", "post_id": "afne5j", "action": {"description": "wanting to use my brother's switch", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for wanting to use my brother\u2019s Switch?", "text": "Pretty quick and easy. My family and I bought my brother a Switch for his birthday at the beginning of last year. We usually share game consoles, and I\u2019ve pitched in for other items since then including some controllers and half the cost of remastered Okami. Thanks to my schedule (currently working 3 jobs) the only day I have off with any free time is Sunday. Bro goes to play D&D with a group every Sunday, and usually brings a couple of games (board and console) to play as well. The last couple of weekends he\u2019s been bringing his Switch in case they want to play Smash. AITA for thinking he could leave the Switch behind? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uMOxK7fMw0IrcxkDBbhj5Zd6kHosxMGQ", "post_id": "b5tthy", "action": {"description": "ending a relationship because I hadn't known how bad my mental health issues were", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for ending a relationship because I hadn't known how bad my mental health issues were?", "text": "This is going to be a bit long, so I apologize and will try to be as organised as I can. \n\nI dated someone for less than a month before ending things. To be clear, this person was a really sound human being, all-round good bean, which is one reason why I feel like a huge assehole. The other reason is long and convoluted, which I will explain below:\n\nI have mental health issues that affect my ability to feel romantic and sexual desire. I have struggled with depression since I was 12, but my mom beat the shit out of me for saying I was depressed, so I never sought help, and I may have developed anxiety along the way as well.\n\nAlso, I find it quite difficult to identify my feelings a lot of the time. I just feel an undifferentiated wall of static. It gets a bit troublesome in the sense that sometimes, I know that people probably expect me to feel and react a certain way to something e.g. major news, family crises, but all I feel is the wall of static, so I try to logically reason out what I should be feeling at a particular point in time, and then display the appropriate emotion.\n\nThis tends to complicate romantic attachments. Usually my feelings for people are quite ambiguous and can be reasoned away. \n\nThis worked up to the point I met this person. I was attracted to him and it was reciprocated. I decided to go for it because it felt more unambiguous and I thought it might be fun. Also (and this is where the potential assholery begins) I was feeling slightly reckless and I was sick of my life and I liked the idea of having a boyfriend and a separate life from my abusive mother.\n\nSo we started a relationship. I told him right off that I had issues but I wasn't sure how bad they were and he said okay. It turned out to be very not okay, because I was incredibly stressed out whenever I was with him, and unable to handle any kind of physical affection whatsoever (like hugs or holding hands) (physical contact is a bit uncomfortable for me because of the childhood abuse). I could tell he was hurt by this, but he didn't push it. \n\nIt reached a point where I was doing all I could not to have panic attacks when we went out on dates; he could tell and it was making him miserable. Whatever feelings I had for him just dissolved into a wall of static. I tried my best to be normal and cheerful on dates but I wasn't sure if he was fooled. Eventually I gave up and ended things. \n\nI feel like a huge asshole for inflicting my mental problems on someone else. He didn't do anything to make me uncomfortable and in fact tried his best to accommodate me. And I feel useless for giving up after less than a month, where a better person would have tried harder to make the relationship work. I'm not sure whether or not I'm an asshole, because as shitty a situation as this is, I had no way of knowing it would turn out this badly. (I hadn't dated previously.) AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bkMUaJkqmfJjuT2jUyrM6MIT1OQU4gw6", "post_id": "amhasu", "action": {"description": "letting an old lady get scammed", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for letting an old lady get scammed", "text": "So I cashier at a grocery store that also sells a multitude of gift cards. These gift cards range from 10-500 dollars.\n\nWell yesterday, the oldest woman I have ever seen comes in. I noticed her because she was also the slowest moving person I had ever seen. She hobbled past my register and isn't gone long before she comes back with a handful of gift cards. I think nothing of it at first because they get bought a lot as gifts, and I'm like \"oh she probably just wants 20 on each\" or some other reasonable amount.\n\nNope.\n\nShe throws down 4 Amazon gift cards and says \"I want 500 on each of these\" and I asked her if she was sure. She said yes. So i scanned the first one and she pulls out a fat bank envelope filled with what appeared to be exclusively 100 dollar bills. I scan the second and an error message pops up. I take a deep breath of relief because this means I need to get a manager. I walk over and tell my manager what's up and she agrees that it's a little sketchy. She calls the store manager over, and at this point I'm very happy because I figure it's gonna be resolved and this lady will be okay.\n\nSo he comes over and looks at the situation and asks the lady very kindly \"Hello, ma'm, I just wanna make sure no one told you to pay them with these.\" She tries to interrupt but he continues, \"You know there are all sorts of scams people do,\" and at this point she goes \"I know! I know! I've already fallen for those twice.\" And he just looks at me in bewilderment. It was apparent she was getting agitated, and wanted us to continue. Reluctantly he waved me forward and she paid for the first card in cash. I scan the second and an error message pops up. We can't scan anymore cards! It's a scam blocking thing that prevents large amounts of cards to be purchased all at once. I see my boss visibly ease up, as do I. She was a little angry but it didn't really seem like she knew what was going on. \n\nI still feel guilty about her definitely losing that $500 and who knows what more if she went some place else. I feel like I could have done or said more to inform her, but she was quickly growing irritated. So, Am I The Asshole? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7SUM7TCVQTIo8n9fRbAKhiy6HOB2OTAC", "post_id": "as0n7k", "action": {"description": "being angry at my uncle", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being angry at my uncle?", "text": "My uncle has been researching my fathers side of the family and he created a family tree based on his research.\n\nMy dad and uncle have never been on good terms and my dad never married my mum. I don't teally talk to that side of the family since my grandma died of cancer in 2012.\n\nI was sent the family tree recently and saw that neither me or my father are on it. Both my uncles are and their spouses and children are though. I have not asked my uncle about it nor do I plan to bring it up.\n\nAITA for being angry at this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WVfCvnJ3HgT2FgqZ2jyLYbs3EmPvhLa6", "post_id": "b4huh4", "action": {"description": "completely ignoring my coworker", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for completely ignoring my coworker?", "text": "I'm in my mid twenties, female. The coworker is in his fifties, male. He doesn't speak much English, and I don't speak much Spanish, but I can understand it well enough and can carry on limited conversation.\n\nWe would have little conversations, and were friendly. We'd always say hi, talk about work, talk about some mutual interests (language barrier not insurmountable). But on Christmas he gives me a store-bought card with an obviously romantic illustration on the front. Inside, all in Spanish, he wrote a very touching paragraph about how much he admires my work ethic and smile, and how we are great friends. He also gave me a soccer jersey (though I never mentioned sports to him).\n\nI didn't stop talking to him then, even though the gifts were unusual. I thought \"it's harmless, very touching, but I never intend to reciprocate that kind of affection. Maybe he's just an old eccentric Mexican guy and this is his way of being nice. After all, the rest of our coworkers get along with him just fine.\"\n\nValentine's Day was near, and on my break he comes up to me and starts asking me if I like perfume and chocolates. At this point, I do a complete 180 from my previous thinking and tell him (roughly)  that those kind of gifts I can only accept from my boyfriend (I'm single), and I don't want anything from him. \n\nFrom that point on, I haven't exchanged a word with him.\n\nI feel on one hand that perhaps the language barrier and my cynicism caused me to ruin a friendship. On the other hand, maybe his intentions were never platonic. He's definitely hurt by how I'm treating him, and I feel bad every time I see his gifts. I feel like an asshole, but I also feel naive. \n\nSo... AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5NabXjCIntFO2kGm7hMNpN8aqOlU0mvm", "post_id": "b88kb3", "action": {"description": "feeling really hurt and ashamed when my bf doesn't want to have sex", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I feel really hurt and ashamed when my bf doesn't want to have sex", "text": "​\n\nI hope nobody will be annoyed by the topic. If so, sorry guys. Also if you need this to be NSFW, I'll do it.\n\n​\n\nSo\n\nMy bf and I have been together for 3y now. I love him, and he loves me too.\n\nWe never loved each other at the same level. He's the kind of boy who likes his gf as much as videogames, his passion, or his friends. And I'm the kind of gf for whom his bf is the best thing ever. And this is something I learned to live with.\n\n​\n\nBut, we've had a lot of troubles about sex since the beginning of our relationship. For months, 2y ago, he never wanted to have sex nor to talk about it. During this period I felt so hurt because it felt like he didn't desire me. Time passed, and we started having a sexlife again. We were seeing each other once a month(he was far from me), so, everytime we met, we used to make it, and were happy to.\n\nBut now, we've been living together. Life is good. We laugh, we share our passion, even if we also argue a lot.\n\nSomehow, there is smthg making this life seem.. fake ? = I feel like we act like friends, or \"kids\" only cuddling.\n\nOFC, sex is not everything !! But this is something I can only have and WANT to only have with him. But he does not. He only make love to me when he needs to fulfill his \"natural need\" of sex. But whenever I want to have sex, he refuses. And it makes me feel so ashamed of myself and of my body. I feel so bad for not being able to make him feel desire for me. I feel like the baddest gf for not being able to be cute and attractive to my own bf. To me, he's the most handsome and attractive man ever!\n\nI try my best everyday to be the best gf he could have, and to make him happy. But he never did the same (which I got used to)  And this made me feel like a dog doing his best for his master but not receiving anything from him.\n\n​\n\nSo, everytime he refuses  (For 3 times in 3 weeks, he refused to make love twice. The only time he wanted to make it is when HE asked me for it (the \"natural need\" I was talking about earlier) ) I get really sad and hurt, and ofc, I act this way, which make him rly mad, and we argue. Everytime. I'm hurt, and he's mad, telling me I'm asking for it in a bad moment. The last time I asked for it was last friday. It was our 3rd couple anniversary, so I thought we'd make it. But he didn't want to, saying it wasn't the right moment to do it because he had to sleep early to be ready for a videogame tournament with friends we had during the following WE. Our couple anniversary was not the moment, just like Valentine's day wasn't the moment, and like his birthday.\n\nBeside this, he's a kind bf most of the time. He hugs me, kisses me, and is cute and funny.\n\nI'm driving crazy because of all of this, and I'm developing a hatred of myself.\n\nSo, people on Reddit, PLEASE, HELP ME. I need to have clear opinions on all of this. Now that you have the context : Am I the asshole for feeling hurt & ashamed when he refuses to have sex ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 11, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QEFlJE3sWuXn4t5mSaUz2PzBkvIgSPYH", "post_id": "atqoa2", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend for peeing in the shower while I'm in it with him", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for peeing in the shower while I\u2019m in it with him?", "text": "I\u2019ll start this off by saying I don\u2019t really care what people do in the shower on their own time. I know a lot of guys pee in the shower, and girls do too. If you wanna pee, or brush your teeth, or masturbate, or whatever you wanna do in your own shower, more power to you. \n\nBut my boyfriend and I live together, and we often enjoy showering together. We have a fairly large shower and enjoy each other\u2019s company.\n\nAnyway, more than once now he has decided to pee in the shower while I\u2019m in it. I\u2019ve asked him not to do it. I even asked him not to do it today directly before he did it, but he did it anyway. He stands to the side and aims for the drain, but I still can\u2019t help but think some of it gets mixed with the water swirling around the floor of the shower and I don\u2019t like it. \n\nSo after he did it today, I got out of the shower right away and haven\u2019t been speaking to him since. I know I could solve this by taking my own shower separately, which I do sometimes, but I do like showering together sometimes and id really appreciate if he wouldn\u2019t pee in there while we\u2019re together. Am I overreacting? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 32, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "I0fNfICTf5aNWzpYCKUnyOGjvFsbD3IO", "post_id": "ar3gg3", "action": {"description": "not tipping", "pronormative_score": 21, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not tipping?", "text": "Everyone in this story is American btw.\n\nI went out to eat with some friends a few days ago. The restaurant was pretty empty because we came in around 2pm on a weekday and we got seated right away. We sat for about 10 minutes with nobody taking a drink order until a girl came over and apologized saying she wasn't our waitress, but she thought we were waiting a while and she would find him for us. 10 minutes later our waiter comes out stoned out of his mind and mumbles a few questions at us and we order. We finished eating without ever seeing him again and we had to ask someone at the front to get us our checks which were supposed to be separate but were all messed up. We sorted it out ourselves and I refused to tip him because he did way below the minimum I would expect from someone. My friends over tipped because they thought I was being a dick. I understand working a shitty job and not caring about it at all so I didn't complain to anyone about him, but is tipping really mandatory in this case?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 21, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GTIESxqGgdIf9eSwE4tDR884ubKE7Z1t", "post_id": "b0zras", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to try being independent", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my BF to try being independent?", "text": "Me (F 28) and my BF (25) met online and have known eachother for over a year before meeting, and then started it serious.We've met several times after that. Lately, I've started having concerns about our long term compability. \n\nOne of the concerns is how I feel he is not very independent. He has never lived alone or with anyone except his family. He doesn't cook or clean anything but his room. He doesn't do grooceries, budget, laundry or anything I was taught and grew up with. If I wanted specific groceries or food, I would fix this, while he complains. \n\nIt's not necessarily his fault, I don't think his mother has ever wanted him to do any of this. She cooks dinner every day and seems to fix all grown up everyday things. \n\nAs the relationship progressed I've been clear that I do not want long distance for a long time, and now I have worries about how it would be if we moved in together. Many of them he is very open towards and we talk well about it, but this 'independency' thing does not go well with him.\n\nHe says he feels like I'm calling him helpless, even though I say that the thing is we just don't know how it would be - but that's it important for me to try and find out. I suggested he maybe try and do some cleaning, groceries, make some food. He think's I'm overthinking it and overreacting, and feels I'm talking down to him. \nI'm trying really hard not to, but it's not an easy subject to talk about. \n\nIs it wrong of me to suggest and want him to put effort into doing these things where he lives now? (with his mother) I don't want to risk having to do and teach him all these things if we live together, or finding out he does not like it and me ending up feeling like I need to do it all. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uS5hILgTRICbbBvfpVVFk3P18uEqRJka", "post_id": "b2b4qq", "action": {"description": "being an older guy who pursues younger women", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for being an older guy who pursues younger women?", "text": "I'm 51M and the women I date are usually in their 20s or 30s. I don't have anything against older women and I don't pursue young women specifically for their youth but most of the women I'm physically attracted to happen to be younger. While this frequently leads to issues in my relationships (infidelity, incompatability, attracting manipulative gold diggers, etc.) the way I see it there's nothing wrong with trying to find a relationship based on genuine mutual attraction even crossing age gaps is the only way to do it. I know a lot of people find what I do to be very repulsive for some reason but I guess I don't really see the issue.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 20, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IbC0bqn4mAc7MBkZllMghMyMTdYM8p7v", "post_id": "b9100d", "action": {"description": "wanting more freedom over my personal things", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting more freedom over my personal things?", "text": "Throwaway account and posting this on my phone, so formatting might be bad. \nI am a 19 year old, who currently studies and i spend most of my free time what is offered to me out of studies on my pc. My parents and brother are very strict on everything what i do, going from what do i do on my personal time, financial decisions and limiting my time on certain things i do on my spare time. For context, In the past, i was a student with awful grades, but not with any behavior issues or anything, just very lazy because i wasnt interested in the classes i took really. They didnt care about my performamce, but still liked to control my time to some extent on what i did on my own. Ever since i failed those past 2 years, everyone in my family took a super strict turn to everything on what i did thanks to those 2 failed years. They started going through my phone (looking at my personal things, mind you without permission and by bypassing my lockscreen). They wont allow me to make any financial decisions when i would have liked to get something for myself with my money (going as far as saying gifted money is not even yours, every single collected amount ive gotten now is in my mothers hands) without consulting my brother to see if i can buy it. I cant use any of my electronic devices for more than 3-4hours a day in the evening from 6-10pm, if i go overtime by even a single minute, im banned from my PC for a week and that includes no studies done on it. If i get a single bad grade, even if its out of my control, i cant use any of my electronics for the duration until its fixed. I have to literally ask permission to go over to my friends house if i wanted to. \nI live with my brother, im not allowed to move to the dorms, live with a friend or rent anything for myself. I have no freedom.\nI have tried to talk about it to anyone in my family, but nobody is on my side to get a little more freedom on things i do, going as far as calling me an asshole for being ungrateful that they kept me up this good and helped me keep my grades up. Ive been keeping my GPA on 4.3 since i started all over again for them to see im working hard and school even giving stipends to me every month for my good progress, only to see nothing changing. \nReddit, AITA for wanting more personal room for things i can do, after the 2 years i've wasted?\nP.S i know this post is messy and might have some typos and such but i had to write this in a hurry.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "m4on7O43LJK6OpVXjrnc9WPRWOZHzedw", "post_id": "am39qi", "action": {"description": "refusing to take care of my mentally disabled half-sister", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to take care of my mentally disabled half-sister?", "text": "Recently my mom has decided that she no longer want to look after my 20 year old low-functioning half-sister anymore and have passed that responsibility onto me.  without my input at all. My sister is severely mentally impaired. She is non-verbal and cannot take care of herself at all. I don't know much about her condition as I have never been around her much (i'll explain this later) but from what I know she has never sought any sort of treatment for her and pretty much sheltered her for her whole life.\n\nSo, let me give a little bit of context here to the situation. My parents got divorced when I was 5 because of my half-sister. My dad was overseas when she was conceived (doesn't take a Guinness to put that together) and my mom decided she wanted a new life so she walked out on me and my father. The divorce was quick and in the end she voluntarily signed over full custody of me. I really don't feel like elaborating on this so i'm gonna move on. After the divorce my mom was remarried a month later and my sister was born. I knew almost nothing about her for 10 years after when my mom decided she wasted back in my life (she has made it clear she only wanted me \"back\" because my sister was mentally handicapped). You can tell I never accepted her back. \n\nSo, outside of a passing relationship i've never associated with my mom or sister, until about a month ago. My mom's husband is retiring this year and they want to move to Hawaii. Well, that's gonna be hard with my sister so my mom has decided it's my turn to take care of her. She called me up and told me that she no longer can take care of her and that i **need** to take her in and take care of her. I knew very little about my sister besides the fact she was mentally disabled (since my mom came back I've seen my sister maybe 3 times a year. Every time it was obvious she was \"not there\". I didn't know though how bad it was) so I decided to investigate. It turns out my mom pulled her out of school early to home school her. Along with this, my mom apparently still treats my 20 year old sister like she's a baby and has sought no help for her what so ever. \n\nWell, seeing this along with my relationship to them, I declined. Well,  ever since then my mom has been raising hell. She claims i'm \"betraying my blood\" and that I'm a horrible person for turning down my sister. \n\nI'm not crazy right? She cut me out of her life for her new family and now only wants me to take responsibility when she is tired of it. Am I wrong. Is there some kind of unwritten rule about this i'm breaking? Am I an asshole for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 29, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QJTpH8tZaegIFImzxtYNqcQGajxP7hzx", "post_id": "a9zs6z", "action": {"description": "refusing to tell my future baby's name to my older sister", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for refusing to tell my future baby\u2019s name to my older sister?", "text": "(This isn\u2019t my story but my aunt\u2019s, who asked me to post it here cause she needed other people\u2019s opinions)\n\nI\u2019m pregnant and should be due in a few weeks or so. I learned a while back that my baby was a girl and therefore chose her name in consequence. The only ones that are privy to this information are me and my husband and I\u2019ve refused to share it with anyone else given that sharing your baby\u2019s name prior to their birth is bad luck. \n\nOddly enough, my older sister has been deeply hurt by this, bringing up many times the fact that she had done everything for me during my pregnancy, from letting me live under her roof despite the fact that she had 4 children (forcing them to all sleep in a room meant for 1 person) and that she severely lacked space already. She helped me get my appointments and it is true that if she hadn\u2019t been there for me, I\u2019d most likely have lost my baby. \n\nShe said that she wasn\u2019t asking for much, just wanted to know I trusted her and actually cared about the fact that she helped me but I don\u2019t know, I think she\u2019s just being selfish ? I didn\u2019t ask her to help me, nor did I force her to pack her kids in one room and let me stay there for 2 months. I\u2019m obviously grateful for it but now she\u2019s making a huge deal of me not wanting to tell her my daughter\u2019s name when nobody else knows. She even brought up the fact that I hadn\u2019t made any effort to go see her ever since I left her home, but once again, I\u2019m pregnant and she has a lot of kids so her house is very loud which makes me not want to go there. Couldn\u2019t she just visit me if she wanted to see me ? \n\nTLDR : My older sister is angry at me for refusing to tell her my future child\u2019s name because I think it\u2019s bad luck\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ATweR7XlnZMItfOlx04gzttPzIbo7tV9", "post_id": "au4rwi", "action": {"description": "cleaning my bfs bedroom like he had asked me to", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cleaning my bfs bedroom like he had asked me to?", "text": "A month and a bit ago I (25f) moved into my bfs (25) room, with the knowledge that I'm only staying here for about two months as I leave to go back home to the UK soon. I hadn't a job at this point but we split everything else from groceries to activities outside of the house. I offered to help him around the house, keeping communal areas clean, doing laundry and to tidy his room occassionally.\n\nA few weeks after moving in he asked me to tidy his room. There were like empty bottles and a couple of dirty plates around that I washed or threw away, and other general messes dealt with. When I clean I like to do the job well, skirting boards are dusted, vacuumed under the bed, reorganise to make it neater that sorta thing.\n\nThis morning (a month after) I was wanting to get up and go, it's one of the few days that we both have a day off and can enjoy doing something together. He had gotten back from work much later than usual last night, but I bought him a coffee and we watched TV together. Just as I was persuading him to get ready to go out he started looking for some scrap paper and got angry he couldnt find any. \n\nI realise that it's my fault and I should of asked, I apologised and know that he is tired and probably not in the best mood. I offered to help him replace the things I had moved or at least create a new place so he knew where things were. But he wouldn't help me help him and started yelling that I was in the wrong and that I had to fix it. I hadn't really noticed how different I had made it so was unable to start. I left saying I didn't want this, and that I wanted to spend my day doing something and he could come with me or not. \n\nHe's phoned me a lot since, telling me that I need to apologise and that my apology was weak and that I needed to make it up to him. The phone call are heated I've been calling him an ass, saying I was trying to be an adult sorting my own mistake, he saying that I am really in the wrong and if I were to ask anyone that they would react the same as him. I can't help but laugh when he says that Im not trying hard enough but when I ask what he would like me to do he hasn't any idea. But what's hurting the most is that he's saying I'm manipulating him that I'm making him look worse than he is.\n\nI just don't know anymore ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K6n1nrZAgKVywkDm6AWMm15TkiaJvqk8", "post_id": "azvgyk", "action": {"description": "not suppressing tics in class", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not suppressing tics in class?", "text": "On mobile, sorry for formatting issues.\n\nI have Tourette Syndrome, but my tics are relatively subtle. It\u2019s mostly facial and neck tics for motor tics and humming and tongue clicks for vocal ones.\n\nIt\u2019s entirely possible for me to suppress tics, but it\u2019s kinda like suppressing a cough or sneeze in that it\u2019s pretty unpleasant. If I suppress them for too long, I\u2019ll have an episode of intense ticcing including hand and less subtle vocal tics.\n\nPeople have expressed annoyance at me on several occasions about humming and clicking my tongue in class. While I could stop in theory, suppressing it for two hours straight would be extremely difficult and lead to worse situations after class.\n\nMy perspective is that it\u2019s not realistic for me to put myself through that every day, but I also understand that my classmates all payed for the classes. Like I said, my tics are so subtle and quiet that most people don\u2019t notice them at all, but those who do can get annoyed and distracted. I\u2019m not sure how I can focus on learning if I\u2019m spending the class trying not to hum. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Uvlroi02HZ5QuoEwN2gXHC9DKMRjn8o7", "post_id": "as3c9o", "action": {"description": "requesting my roommate that her daughter use the downstairs bathroom", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for requesting my roommate that her daughter use the downstairs bathroom?", "text": "So I've lived with my roommate for over a year now, we are very similar and the house was great until her daughter (18f) moved in a couple months ago. Her daughter has very poor hygiene which has caused quite a bit of discomfort for me since I have normal human expectations for cleanliness and she has none.\n\nWe have two full bathrooms but the one upstairs is significantly nicer because I updated it when we moved in. Her daughter likes to use the upstairs bathroom but she does not clean up after herself. She leaves fecal matter on the toilet seat, hair covering the tub every time she shaves and throws her clothing in the middle of the floor after she changes. Not to mention she's always sick; she had hand foot and mouth disease, a stomach bug and the flu all within the last month. I'm convinced this is because she doesn't have good hygiene and I'm paranoid I'm going to catch something from her despite my overly cautious frequent sanitizing of the area.\n\nI (26f) want her to use the downstairs bathroom as I'm tired of feeling like I need to wear a hazmat suit in my own living area. Her mother (43f) wants to believe her child can do no wrong and refuses to have a hygiene talk with her.\n\nAITA if I demand she stops using the upstairs bathroom ?  I may request that her mother pay a larger portion of the rent if they don't agree. We're still splitting it two ways even though she now has an extra person living with us. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BAxtrqLV8Ze0CplJVBAlaFZjgfifECSd", "post_id": "alwywb", "action": {"description": "not giving my friends some Girl Scout cookies", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my friends some Girl Scout cookies?", "text": "Bit of context: so yesterday I saw that there were some Girl Scouts selling cookies. I go out and by four because I love Girl Scout cookies. So I\u2019m eating the cookies when all of a sudden one of my long time friends comes up and asks me for some cookies. I reply no, mostly because the cookies are pretty expensive. More come up, and I give the same response.\n\nFlash forward today: I still have the cookies, and I\u2019m walking up to my friends. The Girl Scouts are sick, and my friends want some cookies. Even though they know that I want to keep them, they still want my cookies, so they start bargaining with me, trying to get one for some 30 cents. I start to get annoyed, and I ask them to stop. Instead of understanding, they start to get mad  at me and give me excuses on why I have to give them some. I ignore them and leave.\n\nI feel really bad, because they\u2019re such nice friends, but they also got mad at me because I didn\u2019t give them any cookies. I just feel guilty. What should I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1Ikr40ZhrcQJ1Tq1rky6r2uTJ2ZdSaaE", "post_id": "b69zw6", "action": {"description": "telling a regular customer that he smells bad", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "WIBTA if I told a regular customer that he smells bad?", "text": "I posted this in a different subreddit a while ago but it didn\u2019t get much traction. I bartend and one of our regulars that comes in every day smells absolutely awful. He\u2019s apparently allergic to deodorant but the way I see it, it\u2019s 2019 and there\u2019s definitely deodorant for people who are allergic to the norms ingredients.\n\nI just asked my manager if she would say something, and she responded that it\u2019s not our place to comment on his hygiene. I said that it is our place because other customers can smell him and it creates a negative experience for them. And now it\u2019s part of my job to deal with this disgusting smell every day.\n\nMore details here: https://www.reddit.com/r/bartenders/comments/aonxlg/regular_smells_like_dirty_asshole/\n\nBut the conversation with my manager just happened.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bCygJ1w6ta5pOO7MwvXo38PijSdoPXru", "post_id": "b8cite", "action": {"description": "not filling out my son reading bingo card", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not filling out my son reading bingo card", "text": "Stupid fight between my ex and I. I feel like our son should read because he wants to, not to make bingo on a card. My ex feels like I'm bucking the system because I don't make him pick books on his card so my ex feels all the bingos are on them. It's not required for school just an incentive to read. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "FoJFjT07b5o1PggqevDNd9r92kNFsKiU", "post_id": "ak8iac", "action": {"description": "not giving my cake to my friend a few hours earlier", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my cake to my friend a few hours earlier?", "text": "My mother asked me to bake a cake that is her favorite and my friend coincidently asked for it too. I decided to do twice the amount and give my friend one too, il be giving her the cake around 19:00 when we meet on Sunday on church. \nI told her I was going to bake Sunday morning and give her around that time and she said if I could bring to her house earlier and I said no, my father will use the car and we will meet anyway just wait for a bit. She said I was just \"giving excuses not to do it\".\nThat's the second time this happens. Also over food, it doesn't happen with anything else, the last time she said I always make a big deal over driving when she doesn't live that far and she would do it for me (this last part is true but she doesn't really cook or does sharable things if that is a word so it's not like it would happen).\nI'm very curious on the veredict, I'm trying to give both of our point of view so you guys can judge better:\n1- In my point of view she has a bit of anxiety and wants thing whenever she pleases and should control that. Getting a free cake a few hours later isn't a big deal. \n2 - She drives a lot so driving my house to hers shouldn't be a big deal, it's a 15 min drive (just to go), not actually that long, but put the time I'm going to spend making a free cake she should be more considerate. What do you guys think?\nP.S: We didn't really fight over a cake she kind just layed this opinion and I'm like \ud83d\ude12. And that is the end of it.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rnExsEV4Q0CjBXL3HaelIOUVun1JASsm", "post_id": "a27s3o", "action": {"description": "being friends with a couple hypnodoms", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being friends with a couple hypnodoms?", "text": "Preface: I know it's a niche subject but I think I need an outside view. If I skipped anything important or need to clarify or explain anything just ask.  \n  \nI've had a hypnosis fetish my whole life [28M]. It's hard to explain but I don't think there's a logical reason so I don't think too much about the why. My senior year of high school, my science teacher showed me the magnet fingers bit and it just started an obsession for me. I started reading every book I could find and practicing on anyone who would put up with me. Even ended up taking some classes, too. By my second year of college I had become pretty good and would frequently be asked to hypnotize people at parties (always simple, non-sexual things like name amnesia, sticking hands/feet, whatever...). Some people even started avoiding looking me in the eye lol  \n  \nAnyways, I always wanted to keep learning and made some friends online who, like myself, were into the sexual side of hypnosis (i.e. r/erotichypnosis). During that time I had decent success doing some phone sessions and selling a handful of recordings - it really boosted my confidence and self esteem. I don't do that anymore, and basically drifted away from the scene when college got more intense and the job hunt started up. While I was active though I made two pretty close friends: a mid 40s woman who taught me a lot (she's clinically trained) and a mid 20s woman who used to be a subject. We share other interests too, like music, cooking, and gardening. Both are strictly online friendships, we email a couple times a month just about general life stuff but they'll also occasionally send me scripts they're working on to ask for a male perspective. They're both currently professional hypnodoms.  \n  \nI didn't really think anything of this (sort of like penpals) but I recently (few months ago) got into a relationship [26F] and she wants me to cut off all contact. She knows I'm a hypnotist and it's part of our bedroom life, I've told her before I have a couple webfriends who are professional hypnodoms and at the time she didn't say anything against it - she actually said \u201coh, so that's where you get your ideas\u201d. But today she saw me reading a script the younger one had sent me. For context, the session was supposed to get the guy extremely turned on but unable to use their hands (use your imagination, woof). In her words I'm \u201cbasically friends with two prostitutes and you\u2019re giving them sex tips\u201d. I've never seen either in person, just a few times over webcam, and they both live in other countries. I understand the subject matter can sometimes be explicit but 80% of the time it's just normal stuff like \u201chey I went to Disneyland!\u201d  \n  \nI've told her that I would stop reading over scripts or giving them hypnosis tips or effect suggestions, basically anything that could be considered PG-13+, but that wasn't good enough and she wants me to completely ghost them. They're nearly 10 year friendships and I feel really bad when I think about never hearing from them again. I even let my girlfriend read through every email we've ever sent just to show I'm not cheating or anything. I think it made things worse.  \n  \nI just don't know, I'm so conflicted. Am I the asshole?  \n  \ntl;dr - I'm friends with two professional femdom hypnotists and my girlfriend wants me to cut off all contact.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TaX0Xc9amupaXly1a4xFhHpSDoBDre2o", "post_id": "afs2v5", "action": {"description": "sitting in the middle seat", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA For Sitting in the middle seat", "text": "I'm flying on a Southwest flight (open seating). This particular flight has plenty of open seats.  In theory no one should have to sit in a middle seat.\n\n\nI noticed an open middle seat in row one (significant extra legroom) and took it.\n\nThis is a late flight, and I have to work in the morning so I really value getting home early. I only have a carry on bag so row 1 gets me off the plane and in my car fastest. \n\nThe woman next to me made numerous snide comments about how there were plenty of available seats. I politely told her I value getting off the plane quickly. \n\nSo, AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WPpTaJFdNa9OkKJITF0JI1W8llwNDeJN", "post_id": "ambzru", "action": {"description": "not sticking around after an accident", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not sticking around after an accident?", "text": "I was crossing the street at a fairly quiet intersection.  I waited for the walk signal then started crossing.  I noticed a car was turning left towards me, and not stopping at all.  They kinda slammed on the breaks last second to avoid hitting me (which I appreciate).  I thought that was that then I heard a BOOM.  The guy behind them ran into them hard.  It nearly pushed the front car into me, I had to jump out of the way.  I was gonna stick around to maybe try to help, but I decided there wasn't much I could do.  Also, I didn't really want to be involved.  I know I wasn't at fault at all since I waited for the signal, but I still felt very guilty.  I continued to my destination instead and felt dreadful for the next hour.  AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CMzbFAcTmGZdTOiu2pXVKaUiOFQyi0Mb", "post_id": "9ug353", "action": {"description": "not feeling sympathetic toward my mom", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not feeling sympathetic toward my mom?", "text": "Bit of backstory. I grew up with a father who was recently diagnosed with NPD. I can't remember too many specific occurrences growing up but I always hated him, especially for the way he treated my mom, constantly gaslighting her and making her cry all the time.\n\nWhen I was around 14, my father got arrested for possession of child pornography and went to prison for two years. Mom stayed with him. A while later I started developing severe mental issues including an anxiety disorder and spent two years unemployed while finding the right medication since I was afraid to even leave the house. She was the only employed person in the house so money was tight. \n\nNow my father has served his sentence and is back home on parole. We're allowed internet in the house only because we put a motion through to parole since my only friends were online and my therapist thought it would be bad for my mental health if I lost contact with them. Dad's employed as a cook, mom works two jobs, and I am finally getting better again and even have a part time job that may become full-time soon. I help pay rent and pay for my healthcare and medical bills.\n\nThe thing is, though, Mom talks a lot about how stressful things are for her. She hates if I even bring up things like taking our dog to the vet since she says we have no money, even though I always offer to pay. And then there's her interactions with dad. As a kid I always  stood up for her and tried to protect her when dad would turn on her, which usually pissed dad off and made him accuse us of always ganging up on him. I always stood up for her hoping that one day shed see how unhappy her marriage was making her and leave, with me in tow. I thought the arrest would be the final nail in the coffin, but she stayed. And while he is better now, they still get into fights like that and she still gets really upset but I've stopped standing up for her. I feel like i can't help but feel a little betrayed and stuck. I wasn't an adult when she made the choice to stay and when I finally was an adult, I ended up with severe mental problems that kept me from leaving myself. I had no choice in the matter.\n\nNow when she complains about how stressed she is I find myself not paying attention. It feels like she made her choices and now she has to live with them. We're still friends and we like to go and travel together and do fun things together but it all feels different now. And recently she's been trying to get me to apply for a car loan because we only have two cars and I keep having to take Lyft and I'm the only one in the house with a good credit score, but I put my foot down on that because I don't want to apply for one. \n\nI want to feel bad for her because I think that's the right way to feel, but I just can't anymore. I feel like she chose to add all this stress to her life, and mine, and I never got a say in it. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Im5dqTZhimPvBgLMzoswieMURArhIynY", "post_id": "awf10h", "action": {"description": "going on stress leave and writing an email critical of my boss", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going on stress leave and writing an email critical of my boss?", "text": "I\u2019m on stress leave from a management job. My workload, which already included a high level of responsibility and heavy workload increased in demands several times over a few years, with me telling my boss it was too much a couple times and her only offer of \u201chelp\u201d was to ask me to work more hours, which I was not able to do. I\u2019d been seeing a psychologist to manage the stress, but I was barely holding on.   Lots of anxiety and serious physical health issues. Then my boss resigned and told me the plan was to have me take on more of her workload. I told her I couldn\u2019t and that my psychologist had been suggesting it was in my best interest to go on stress leave. Then I did go on leave. I assume she was pissed. Her boss (ED) emailed me asking how I was doing. I wrote and rewrote a response, but was in such poor mental health that I was breaking down and fighting off a panic attack while trying to.  I realized I wasn\u2019t in the right state of mind to write ED back, so sent the draft to my inbox, planning to revisit it once in a healthier mindset, and after my boss had moved on. Admittedly I hoped to use my boss as a reference if I apply for a less stressful job and wanted to keep things civil for my benefit. After a few days, I decided not to send it at all, and to instead talk to ED closer to when my doctor thinks I\u2019m ready to return in several months. My boss texted me mentioning herself or another manager would be checking my emails while I was off.  I replied that that was fine.  I thought I had sent the draft email to my personal account, but it was in fact sitting in my work inbox. \n\nMy boss contacted me asking if she could give someone trying to get in touch with me about work related questions my personal contact info. I said no and asked her to tell them to contact my term replacement once they\u2019re in place.  I assume she was also pissed about this, but I need space and time to recover.  Yes, I am ducking responsibilities, but it\u2019s the stress related to work that is making me ill. \n\nMy boss did go in and read that email, and assumed I had meant to send it to ED and forwarded it to her.  ED emailed me letting me know this should never have happened, that she was sorry, that more should have been done to respect my needs, etc. \n\nI feel disloyal to my boss, and shitty I had to go on leave and not be there to help with the transition.  I\u2019m sure her perceiving I was ratting her out feels like shit. It was her assumption that lead to ED actually seeing the email, although the things said in it would have been close to what I would have eventually said anyway. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lc9O9MJdTzHUd3TNBaaaBDOyuC7oC432", "post_id": "asyevc", "action": {"description": "losing sexual attraction towards my boyfriend and feeling depressed because he used to be in excellent shape but has been gaining weight ever since", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for losing sexual attraction towards my boyfriend and feeling depressed because he used to be in excellent shape but has been gaining weight ever since?", "text": "When we met 5 years ago, my boyfriend was a martial arts instructor and he was exercising at the dojo 3 times a week. But then he started to work full-time hours since he wanted to be more independent. He hated the job, gained weight on an antidepressant and hardly ever had enough energy to workout anymore. A few years later: he hasn't lose that weight. Eventually, he was only doing martial arts on Fridays. Perhaps I should have forced him to go to the gym with me as much as possible instead of just sitting around with him. That could have made a difference. We only ever went about once a week and neither of us stopped eating unhealthy food. I know we (boyfriend and I) are both responsible for his weight gain to some extent. But nevertheless, I remember how attracted I used to be to him. And if it makes any difference: I would never allow myself to gain fat like that. It would bring me constant shame everyday. (Extra Details: He has love handles now and his face has gotten a little chubby. I used to love the shape of his face: it was like a cute little heart). Maybe this all sounds dumb...but now, I feel sad whenever I look at him. When we first met, I thought he was the sexiest man I'd ever seen outside of a T.V screen. It's not like he's hideous now, but I definitely don't feel as attracted to him as I used to be. He seems to be saying \"Well I wouldn't let it bother me if you got a little fat. So, it shouldn't bother you if I do.\" He calls me shallow for it. That he could probably find another cute girl who wouldn't care. Is it wrong of me to be upset? What would you guys do in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zV1kDkUJ01SRCMWLkzcVBAIm2SW1GMEx", "post_id": "a83mos", "action": {"description": "wanting a reaction for a donation", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for wanting a reaction for a donation", "text": "​\n\nFor the last couple of years I have been on a student loan, as I was studying at university. During this time people I know had started charity drives and every year I have not been able to afford to donate.\n\nThis year I have a job and I am able to donate, which I have done, but with it comes a personal urge for me to let people know that I have donated. While I have not publicly announced that I have donated, I still feel like I did it for recognition to some degree, given the personal urge to discuss this (even when making this post I feel this is me asking for recognition)\n\nWhat I am asking is should I feel like an asshole for feeling this way?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "6asTxK96jo6mJA13utD6b6t2OxYANBQc", "post_id": "b0sclt", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend I don't want his sister to come over every day", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my boyfriend I don't want his sister to come over every day?", "text": "My boyfriend and his sister are very close. We just got a new apartment together this year and his sister is over every single day. For the record, yes, she is his blood sister and I don't think it's a sexual thing. Don't get me wrong, I like his sister she's fine, it's just I feel like the third wheel sometimes like I'm the side chick and she's wifey. I don't know if that comes off as me being petty, jealous, controlling ect? :/", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eZTtJyRPKiaXYRlRwz3IR7k6oV7EoFTa", "post_id": "b4niej", "action": {"description": "not apologizing for something I didn't say", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not apologizing for something I didn\u2019t say?", "text": "So I was outside walking and I seen a neighbor kid playing in loose rocks and gravel and I told him be careful so he didn\u2019t get hurt. Well I got home and I got a text from the apartments manager saying that he can play in the rocks and to apologize to the mother for saying he couldn\u2019t play in the rocks. I haven\u2019t gone and apologized cause I never said that. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l70EVKHN3rF6HWHuAFzmLFR2H00pEvle", "post_id": "9tl6rt", "action": {"description": "liking anime", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for liking anime", "text": "I was just sitting around at the lunch table at school and they were talking about how weebs are trash you know the typical shit when all the sudden \"Hey anon do you watch anime?\" \"Just the vanilla shit you know one piece, one punch man etc.\" and now whenever i sit there i get dirty looks and stuff. Am i in the bad here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LcnBf8sV2ZUcfC8C89tC1OdBmnyzfvME", "post_id": "b49h9j", "action": {"description": "making a silly joke about a friend in a language she doesn't understand", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for making a silly joke about a friend in a language she doesn't understand?", "text": "So I spend a lot of time in what you could call a little community on discord. Most of the people in said community are British but a few of us aren't, me included. (I also speak Dutch) There's one other person who's Dutch so sometimes we make inside joke.\nA friend(she's British), said on discord, with no context: \"I am some famous football guy's name \".\nAs to which I reply in dutch: \"footballer's name is een kut ventje\" which literally translated means \"footballer's name is a cunt guy\" but figuratively I was just calling him a prick. (Could be interpreted as asshole)\nShe asked if I called her a cunt. As to which I replied no, because I didn't call her anything. But quickly after also added that I \"technically did\". I continue to explain. I saw no problem with what I said. It was just a silly comment to me.\nLater I find out she blocked me on discord and removed me from a few other online media but not on facebook. So I confront her about it. I wasn't sure if it had to do anything with it, she told me it did. I still felt like I didn't really do anything wrong because I thought I explained it. I apologised and explained again. That it wasn't even aimed at her and that it was just a little inside joke between me and the Dutch friend. (We all often call each other random rude things but we know we don't mean it and we're all good friends)\nShe said \"I don't give a fuck what you say to the others, but speak fucking english to me unless you want me to badly translate it and take it for face value. you don't know if i've had a good day or a bad day, so maybe use your brain and apply some diplomacy to the shit you come up with\"\nAt this point I felt offended. I replied with: \"We all have shit days. But I can't smell that. I admit that maybe I was a bit rude and I will avoid speaking in a foreign language to you in the future. But given that I made it clear what I said/meant I don't think it warrants you being annoyed at me/ignoring me for the days after. I think given that I explained myself I don't see any issues, other than that I should avoid it in the future.\"\nshe replied back with: \"i mean you know how i feel about some guy (he talks to her like me and the other guys talk to each other, as explained earlier) and you didn't even apologise so i don't know what you expect\"\nI replied saying I didn't fully understand how she felt then and told her I didn't apologise the day before because I didn't think it was upsetting at all. And that I didn't feel like apologising yet again.\nThe last thing she said was: \"Okay\" and I haven't talked to her since just over a week ago.\nBesides the AITA, any advice on how I should go about it next, and how to handle this type of stuff in the future?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nQCUjZflN34VYzrzMFEb7HppyQlZSM1N", "post_id": "asjqiz", "action": {"description": "using my ex for emotional support after surgery", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for using my ex for emotional support after surgery", "text": "Background:Xmas Eve I had emergency surgery that involved me hemmoraghing to the point of coding due to blood loss because of a mishandled ectopic pregnancy. This had been going on from Oct (when we found out) to Feb 5th (when I got off bedrest), & I understand that that is a long time to deal with someone who is in constant pain. My ex left me the day of surgery and refused to visit me in the hospital, but approached me on my birthday later asking to stay friends.  This leads to the current issue. \n\nToday I drove him to a movie and dinner an hour from where we lived. On the drive home we were discussing things and ended up talking about kids and how the bits of me they had to remove have impacted my fertility. We discussed how he felt about the situation, which I listened to him & tried to help him through things. I took that as a cue that I could talk about how this has affected me,the difficulties with sleeping & nightmares that I've been having. He kept interrupting me & bringing the conversation back to himself & how it made him feel, so I just shut up & resumed listening to him because he obviously needed to get everything off his chest... until he told me that him not coming to the hospital was my fault for being a bitch & that I should be more concerned about how the situation made him feel.  \n\nI understand that I was not the best person during those months,that the pain made me a completely different person. I am just now starting to get back to my normal self. I have apologized so many times already & taken him for food, shopping, & pokego to try to make up for it.\n\nHe helped a lot during October and part of November, but when it was obvious that my condition was getting worse, he started avoiding me & starting fights as a reason to leave.  I know that I'm an asshole for bringing that up & calling him a coward for abandoning me when I needed him the most. He's hurting too & I've tried to acknowledge it, but today I just kinda froze him out once I realized that he's not gonna listen to me about how I'm feeling & trying to cope. \n\nWe'd been in a relationship for 2 years & always said that we'd stay friends and try to help each other. Am I the asshole for trying to hold him to that promise & get emotional support from him during this process while I wait to get into a therapist? I've been trying to listen & be there for him, but today I failed hard & I feel guilty as shit. I can't fix the past, but I can try to make it so that I cause him less pain in the future. \n\nTldr: I froze out my ex who is hurting because of my own pain & trauma due to surgery. I'm trying but failing to listen to him & his side of it without feeling attacked & hurt.  Am I the asshole for trying to use him as an emotional support until I can get professional help?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "biM5fjX9IdBWnmc8eFlTGWBerL6uoiOJ", "post_id": "a9n7ru", "action": null, "title": "AITA for this?", "text": "So my husband and I are on a Christmas trip. Today he wanted to go out with some guy we met this morning and I was gonna go but decided not to because I was in a good amount of pain and I wasn\u2019t feeling it. Fast forward around 3 hours and I\u2019m woken up by 5 random strangers jumping on top of me on my bed. I got mad at my husband and told him how I thought that was extremely out of line (especially considering that we both tend to sleep naked, which luckily I wasn\u2019t doing tonight) and how I was in pain and I had told him not to bring anyone to the room and that I didn\u2019t want them there. He is way too drunk and he told me that he kinda got what I was saying but that everyone wanted to have fun and I was ruining it for them and that this is his trip that he invited me to (his parents pay for it for us to be together during Christmas because I couldn\u2019t go to a different place they always go to) and I basically couldn\u2019t tell him what to do.  Who\u2019s right here? I need some outside perspective before we hash this out in the morning. How mad is it okay for me to be, if at all?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OF2FxBg16Ee7Zdq1dn6CLLYjR0I7ltMp", "post_id": "b5wy7n", "action": {"description": "being outrageously bored during this conversation", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being outrageously bored during this conversation?", "text": "So I invited a new friend over but I don\u2019t think I\u2019m gonna do it again because I was bored to tears. This guy frequently went into long monologues that were either preachy or self congratulatory about being strong. I feel bad because it seems like this guy has some problems and really wants to forge intimacy with people m but I really don\u2019t think going on about all these depressing thing is the way to go about it. Is it normal for people to do this? Honestly it felt like being held hostage and there were sometimes he just went on and on and on. I was getting genuinely annoyed and didn\u2019t understand why he couldn\u2019t pick up on my nonverbal cues. I guess I have no frame of reference here so AITA for being bored while this guy poured out his soul apparently?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QBKUK3R1oPbAQWMZoWtI19ksaiGGeKXg", "post_id": "awjwqz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go on a family vacation to be home for my 1 year anniversary", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go on a family vacation to be home for my 1 year anniversary?", "text": "My parents decided, out of the blue, to go on a cruise in July. They even invited another family to go, just so I\u2019ll have someone to be with and not be lonely. The only problem is, I\u2019ll be out of the country during my 1 year anniversary with my girlfriend because of this. She already made sure that her family\u2019s vacation was pushed back a couple days so she can be with me on our anniversary. My parents probably already booked it, knowing them. I told them I don\u2019t want to go, and told them why. All they told me was that I can spend time with my girlfriend when we come back, but I\u2019ll only have one day until she goes on her vacation to Europe for 2 weeks. \n\nNow my parents are trying to guilt trip me to go, even if my girlfriend doesn\u2019t go with us. They said she could go if she can, but knowing her mom she won\u2019t be able to. Which really sucks. This leads me to believe that they didn\u2019t book it yet, which is good. \n\nMy family\u2019s great, but I honestly need a vacation from them sometimes. Based on countless family vacations, it\u2019ll go down the same way as it has been the past 19 years. Not the best. \n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to go, just because I don\u2019t want to miss my 1 year anniversary? Formatting and grammar might be bad here, my apologies. My mind\u2019s racing right now and I can barely think.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AQhhdzscH6J9S0F4PndyB18mMY94zTOM", "post_id": "9uhxtg", "action": {"description": "telling an older lady there was a que", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling an older lady there was a que", "text": "So there was a que of around 15 people waiting to exit the station through the ticket barriers. An older lady around 60 years old walked past the whole que and managed to get right to the front and ended up going in front of me. I said loud enough for her to hear \u201cthere is a que\u201d\nI did feel bad after but she deliberately walked past everyone who was queuing as if her time was more important.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dCnQ72Ar7qIymA9q3brQbIjTl1aXvDEe", "post_id": "ab0izm", "action": {"description": "wanting to move out asap", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting to move out asap?", "text": "I constantly tell my parents and friends that I can't wait to move far far away, I usually phrase it as a joke to sympathize, but it's completely true. After every argument I have to endure I always chant to myself that I only have 3 years left till I can move away. \n\nNow my parents are extremely narcissistic and mentally abusive most of the time and I'm sure I've gained more than a few issues from them, but I can't help not wanting to hurt them. So when my mom brought up me wanting to move out during an argument, purely to guilt trip and manipulate me, it stung. She doesn't understand why I'd want to move out and and thinks that I'm trying to get away from her. Much like she did to her own abusive mother at 12.\n\nI do want to move away, maybe not as far away as possible but still at least a separate town. And I do want to move to get away from my family, particularly my parents. But I dont want my mom to think of me or her as a failure and take it out on my siblings or her health.\n\n I can tell shes trying her best and has recently been a decent mother for the most part, so it hurts even more during this time, maybe she'll get better eventually, but I can't bear to sit around and be her punching bag while she figures out how to be a good person on her own. Maybe down the road I'll come back, but for now I'm set on moving and there's not much anyone can do to change that.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "A1EGT9OlNZ2kObgnk4vZyH4tPBCIDsF2", "post_id": "as4nuq", "action": {"description": "not wanting to work in the medical field, despite my parents pushing me to", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to work in the medical field, despite my parents pushing me to?", "text": "## Note: My other post got deleted for being too long, so heres a shorter version.\n\nOkay, this isn't a single argument, but a string of arguments throughout my life.\n\nMy parents really want me to work as a doctor or nurse. They've been pounding their dream into my head. Before I was even ten, I was watching shows about autopsies and medicine. I wasn't bothered by the gore, but other then the dead bodies, I wasn't really interested.\n\nAnytime I show interest in another job my parents would get really mad. They would tell me that those kind of jobs were useless, and yell at me about how I could never live off those salaries, and how would I take care of my parents? I've never really gotten the chance to explore my interests, because I was scared of getting scolded. I don't think I would be good at anything anyway, so it's useless to try.\n\nI used to be really scared, or have no interest in any actives, other than drawing or writing. But, my parents don't really approve of those hobbies.\n\nI can't say no. I can't say no.\n\nEvery time, and I mean *every,* single, time, we pass by a homeless person, my mother goes off about how that person is suffering because they didn't pursue a job in the medical field. I now really hate thinking about the future, I get really scared thinking about my future after I complete high school. I don't even know what *I* want to do.\n\nI don't know if this kind of behavior is bad.. I've tried talking to my parents about how I feel, but it always ends up in me getting yelled at, and being told I'm spoiled, and don't know how to survive in the real world. I always get told that I'm going to starve to death, or become homeless. I get called a spoiled princess, or dismissed just because I'm young. I start breathing weird and my head feels weird thinking about that happening to me. I don't want to think. I don't.. My parents aren't abusive. They take care of me, and have never hit me.\n\nMy mother has admitted that she doesn't want me to have any other interests, other than medicine, and is purposely scaring me. She's claimed that she wants to chase out my dreams.\n\nThey love me. They just want to make sure I don't starve, and have a secure future. They might be going about this the wrong way, though.\n\nAnother problem, this is also affecting my little sister. They treat her similarly. I remember once she was really interested in the universe, and tried to excitedly talk about stars to my parents. My mother snapped at her, getting all serious, even though we were on vacation. She told my sister that astrology was useless. Apparently, astrologists live paycheck to paycheck, suffering. She also complained that astrology wouldn't help her and our father if they got sick. If I don't work in the medical field, how will I take care of my parents?\n\nTLDR: Parents scare us into working in the medical field, even though we don't really want to.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KzM27vAVujAPHMyFL9RqYZ2xt4R763RF", "post_id": "b4vacu", "action": {"description": "spitting in a douchebag's face", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for spitting in a douchebag's face?", "text": "When I (20M) was in high school, there was this one kid (also my age 20M) who was a douche to me, from ages to 11 to 16 (he didn't stay on until Sixth Form). \n\nHe would always single me out and make me feel a bit shit. Back then I was overweight so he would mockingly say ''Got with any girls?'' fully knowing I clearly hadn't. He was just generally a dick to me.\n\nNow at university I've gotten a bit muscular and way more confident and loud. if anyone tries to give me shit now, I instantly call them out and confront them. \n\nNow I went back to a party of one of my high school friends in my hometown and the douchebag was there. Now I was social at this party, talking to everyone tho I did get a bit drunk as the night went on (though so did everyone).\n\nNow when I went to step outside for a cigarette, he was also there and we made convo, seemed normal and okay. But then he started to get a bit cocky like he used to, he started mocking me again ''Oh you getting girls now???'' with a sly grin on his face, I could tell he was mocking me (and before anyone says he wasn't, HE WAS, I know his facial expressions/tone, he was trying to do the exact same shit). \n\nI then said to him ''You have a problem with me? Cos I'm not going to do that shit in school where we did this passive aggressive shit. If you got a problem, tell me right fucking now''\n\nHe looked really startled and confused, and he said ''No man I was only messing''.\n\nI then spat on his face. He looked even more scared and confused. So then I couldn't help but laugh, and walked back inside.\n\nAll this time I was intimidated by this guy, he was always just a pussy. He wasn't really a bully just a douchebag, but I felt like I had so little respect for him as a human being, that he deserved to be spat on. \n\nMy friends found out i did this and most of them found it funny except one, he said it was too far AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "w7CfbmjQ3J4W2FvsdPznq88O76f1KDZ8", "post_id": "b6a0x4", "action": {"description": "being mad at someone I barely know for trying to \"cure\" my acne", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad at someone I barely know for trying to \u201ccure\u201d my acne", "text": "Here is some background: So I broke up with my ex a while ago and have been on tinder trying to get back out there. I matched with a guy and we hit it off. Our text convos were great and I find him attractive. \nHe confessed to me that he\u2019s been catfished before and was wondering if I could FaceTime him to prove I\u2019m authentic, I obliged, because I\u2019m real. Before our scheduled FaceTime I did warn him I have a lot more acne than in my photos (all of them are over 2 months old) and that\u2019s probably the only thing different about me. He said that was fine. \n\nSo as of right now we\u2019ve met up 5 times. Every single date we\u2019ve been on he has tried to tell me how to make my acne go away. The first time he gave me a suggestion I thanked him and told him I\u2019ve tried tons of things and I\u2019ve seen 6 different doctors about my acne and tried home remedies, etc etc. I also told him my acne doesn\u2019t bother me. I am used to it. Also acne is just the least of my concerns right now. \n\nBy the third date I asked him to just stop mentioning my acne. He said he would. But on date 4 and 5 as well as in our texts he kept bringing it up! \n\nSo after our 5th date I sent him a text saying: \u201cI don\u2019t appreciate how you constantly talk about my acne. If you don\u2019t stop, I will have to stop seeing you.\u201d \nHe then called me and told me he was just trying to help so people don\u2019t assume I\u2019m dirty and don\u2019t wash my face. And that I should appreciate all of his tips and that he cares enough to try and help me with my problem. \nI hung up on him and texted him telling him to leave me alone. \n\nSo reddit, I\u2019ve told a few friends about this situation and they think I\u2019m in the wrong and I should\u2019ve been grateful for his \u201chelp\u201d but I feel I had an appropriate response. So AITA for being upset and ending whatever me and this guy had because he wouldn\u2019t stop talking about my acne?? \n\nAlso sorry if this is formatted wrong! Only my second post, still figuring this thing out. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vNHNFEQjbKhFB4kcY9m2yVuWPkphMgVZ", "post_id": "9v338n", "action": {"description": "ghosting a girl in high school", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a girl in high school", "text": " \n\nThis story all starts junior year of high school.  I was in this class with a girl who I didn\u2019t really think much of.  She was pretty nice, but I would have never considered dating her or anything.  She\u2019d talk to me(emphasis on she\u2019d start talking to me) during class and i saw it as just regular high school chit chat.  I was fine with just being friends with her, and when I say friends, I mean mostly just classmates.  I should probably mention I\u2019m a pretty withdrawn person.  Most of my social interaction came from the people in school and I\u2019d rarely ever go to even my closest friends houses or hang out with them after school.  I could probably count the number of times I did throughout all of high school on my hands.  I\u2019d say that I like to be friendly with everyone but not have very many close friends, it\u2019s just too draining for me. \n\nFast forward to first quarter of senior year.  She texts me and asks if we should start dating.  I said no and we should just be friends.  I was completely serious about staying just friends, but then she texts that we should hang out more.  At this point, I didn\u2019t know what to say.  As I mentioned earlier, I really don\u2019t even hang out with my best friends after school that often and I really didn\u2019t want to hang out with this girl after school, but I didn\u2019t want to sound like a dick about it.  I kept panicking on what to say and so I eventually just didn\u2019t say anything.  I still haven\u2019t replied and this was about 2 years ago.  I think she  may have gotten the message that I didn\u2019t like her but that wasn\u2019t true, I just didn\u2019t want to be super close friends, I mostly just wanted to stay classmates.\n\nThings were kind of awkward around her for the rest of the year.  Like I said before, most of the times we talked she was the one who started talking to me because I usually don\u2019t start conversations with people, so when she stopped talking to me we both kind of stopped talking altogether.\n\nTo make things worse, we were in chemistry together first semester, and at the beginning of the year before all this happened I asked to switch to the other chemistry class because all of my closest friends were in that class.  The guidance counselor wouldn\u2019t let me then because he wasn\u2019t going to have me switch classes just to be with my friends.  I decided to wait until semester to switch because by that time he would have forgotten why I wanted to switch.  So it might have looked like I switched classes to avoid her.  At the time i didn\u2019t think anything of it because I\u2019m dense as hell but looking back on it I think I might have been an asshole.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "elFOXgAZgBbkLopOVs9CEPTOkPiwNmKn", "post_id": "b96qbf", "action": {"description": "not wanting to attend graduation", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to attend graduation?", "text": "The obligatory, I'm on mobile, apologize for bad formatting, blab blah blah. Im also new enough here that I'm not even sure how you guys want it/like it formatted...\n\nThis spring I(21f) will be graduation from community college with an associate's degree in general studies. No big deal, right?\n\nWell my mom thinks it's a huge deal and keeps bringing it up just because I'm the first(and youngest) of our family to successfully go and get any sort of degree. I seriously have absolutely no interest. I'm very introverted so I do not want to do any of the socializing accompanied with it. I also hate the attention I get from this stuff(i even hate my birthday because of attention)\n\nTo make it worse, main campus is 2-3 hours away. I've been there once. If I go to graduation, between practice and picking up my cap and gown, I'll have to go 2 or 3 times that week. \nGraduation is also on a night before I have work(have to get up at 4:30), and I'm running low on time off this year.\n\nMy boyfriend is on my mom's side, I should go and walk across the stage and what not, just to make her happy. \n\nMy grandmother is determined to somehow get my name and picture in the paper when I do not even want to send the school my photo to put on the screen for when they call my name. \n\nSo, tell me, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K5GP4D0UDUL1FXWCGTtpLQYxZaS1d4ZW", "post_id": "ajneku", "action": {"description": "abandoning everything to focus on Guitar", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for abandoning everything to focus on Guitar", "text": "Okay, so this is a weird post maybe. Anyway, I'm 18, and I've been playing guitar for close to 2 years. When I started I had very few friends, though somehow, over the last year or so I've grown a huge group of friends. This is great and all, but I feel like my guitar practice is suffering because of the social stuff, and I'm practicing to actually do something professionally. I'm already balancing work and social life, but when I'm out socializing I always feel like I'd rather play guitar. I used to practice intensely, like 6-7 hours a day, and I'd like to get back to that routine, since I want to get better.\n\nSo, I'm moving out on my own in a few weeks time, and this new place is pretty much ideal to practice guitar. I've made a plan to pretty much shut myself in and practice obsessively until I feel I've gotten the results I want, as well as to work on my guitar mods. The problem is that I feel like an asshole, since this is gonna mean that I'm probably gonna be completely cut off from my best friends for months, willingly at that, despite them not doing anything. Help a brother out, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ckPfAUc1f7MqA0NNw1tvKHEP5eisE2h7", "post_id": "ad69e3", "action": {"description": "losing trust on my friends over a badly-done prank", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for losing trust on my friends over a badly-done prank?", "text": "This is going to be a little long, so there's a TLDR at the beginning:\n\n**TLDR: My friends locked my bike to prevent me from leaving a party, now I feel I can't trust them to be honest with me and respect my boundaries.** \n\nStory time: I'm part of an urban cycling group. We get together, do night rides, and hang out. \n\nIn the last weeks of December we organized our Christmas party in a public park. People brought alcohol, and eventually nearly everyone was wasted, but since I don't drink I was sober.\n\nThere are three people relevant here: Guy A is one of the leaders of the group, he and I get along quite well. Girl A is a member of the group and one of my best friends there. Girl B was a member of another group that was there just for the party. I had never talked to her before, and my interaction with her was mostly her trying to teach me how to dance salsa. \n\nIt was a Tuesday night and I had to work the next day, so at two A.M I said I was leaving. Guy A immediately jumped to tell me I should stay longer an grabbed me, until I had to physically remove myself from him. Then Girl A and Girl B began grabbing me (in a playful kind of way, not violentlly) and chased me away (by the way, during this, I re-sprained a wrist injury I got a couple weeks before, so...). \n\nWhen I returned, someone had put an extra lock in my bike, making it impossible for me to leave. \n\nIt instantly killed the fun for me. Somehow I felt that I was being told \"you stay here whether you want it or not\", and I started getting angry. People floated the idea that the lock had been already there (It wasn't), maybe left by someone who had left already. \n\nThen they opened a box of presents from the group to the group, which were mugs with our names on them. They gave me mine, and Girl A insisted on getting the perfect photo of her and me holding our mugs, which required to get away from where the bikes were and taking like 20 pictures. And yes, I have 20 pictures of her and me holding our mugs. \n\nAnd when we returned, the lock was gone and no one had seen who did it. \n\nI went over the edge. That felt (and still feels) like a cowardly thing to do. Putting the lock may have been a prank, but putting it, letting me get angry over that and then removing it and not owning it up... it made me really upset. \n\nI gave them all a verbal dressing down and left immediately, and when I got home I sent an angry message over our group chat, basically telling them that I expect my friends to be able to respect my boundaries and to have the courage to take responsibility from their actions. Girl A and Guy A got also a message of their own. \n\n...and then I ignored their apologies. That, I think we all can agree, was an asshole move from my part. \n\nAnother guy in the group said he thought Girl B was the one who had put and taken off the lock. \n\nFast forward to this Friday. We got together for coffee, dinner and new year's cake (Mexican tradition). When we talked about the lock incident, everyone seemed to agree that it had been Girl B (though no one had said anything about her before) and that I should apologize for getting angry at them. \n\nI can accept that story for the sake of keeping the peace, but somehow I can't bring myself to believe it. It feels that they taking a scapegoat that they know I can't verify. Remember, I don't know Girl B and I have no way to confirm or deny it, and I find strange that suddenly everyone is pointing at her. \n\nAnd during all the time I was with them I felt closed off, disconnected, like I was with a bunch of strangers and couldn't really relax and let my guard down. It's usually quite difficult for me to open up with people and it took me quite long to be able to be myself with them, and being back to square one and feeling I can't trust them really really sucks. \n\nThere are two things I hate about this: First, the respect for boundaries. If I say I'm leaving (at two A.M, when I have to work the next day), I feel that it should be respected. And second, the whole cover up. Taking the lock behind my back and (what I see as) coordinating a story, makes me feel that the group only cares about not taking responsibility for something that made me upset.\n\nWe were kinda planning a trip to a music festival, and I realized that right now the last thing I want is to be close to them while they're drinking, with no way to leave if I want. \n\nWhat do you think, Reddit? Is my reaction justified, or am I overreacting and being paranoid?\n\n**TLDR: My friends locked my bike to prevent me from leaving a party, now I feel I can't trust them to be honest with me and respect my boundaries.** ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1wbFrZg1uyWGXVZYjUMF9E617pAnzPk0", "post_id": "awhtpg", "action": {"description": "not wanting to stay at my dads house during his custody weekend", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to stay at my dads house during his custody weekend?", "text": "I'm 19 M, and for the last 4ish years I've had to go to my dads house for the 1st and 3rd weekends of every month.\n\nAt first this was fine, and I like visiting him as he was only about 20 minutes away from my first home. Then as time passed the house became less appealing, becoming cluttered, dirty, smelly and generally not clean.\n\nI started hating it because it felt like everywhere I stepped was a stain or garbage. He's gotten better about cleaning up after my eldest sister moved out but now his dog is getting really old (about 11/12 now) and has trouble making it outside to do his business, so you can imagine the stains and smell that would come from not really cleaning up after him properly.\n\nOutside of his accidents, the house itself is just in bad shape. There's mold and grime that was there before he moved in, and it would most likely take a week of deep cleaning to get it where I'm comfortable with staying there.\n\nEverytime I bring up how much I dislike the house and how uncomfortable I am with staying there my dad jokes I don't love him and always ends up saying it's only for two days, and tonsuck it up.\n\nAm I overreacting or being an asshole for heavily disliking my dad's house and despising my dad's custody weekends because of my dislike? I feel bad about it but I can never get excited or happy about going over anymore.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s3Guksk9Bc41RcRQZxYQ6kjokpQIRIEJ", "post_id": "akw0hu", "action": {"description": "not helping with pets", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not helping with pets?", "text": "Sorry for formatting, I'm on mobile yada yada. \nRighto! Launching into it, my roommate and I moved in together a few months ago. Everything is going swimmingly (I think).\nOne of the things we agreed on is that she can bring her cats. \nI established that these are her cats, and I wouldn't help with vet bills and such (already makes me feel mean). I also don't have any plans to help with litter boxes and feedings, or general cat chores (although of course I will if she's out of town). \nMy logic, is that I personally didn't want to have pets because they are a major responsibility, and cost a lot of money. I was okay with her having them, because I knew it would be a deal breaker if she couldn't, and she really wanted them. \nMy roommate didn't complain about this, but she is a quiet person who doesn't like to make waves, and I have a rather strong personality. I always worry that I'm taking advantage of her/being rude and she isn't willing or able to tell me. \nBoth of our ahole meters are pretty skewed because we have obnoxious parents/step parents who were prone to taking advantage of us emotionally while growing up. \nShould I be helping with pets? Would I be the asshole? Now that I've wrote it out, I'm not fully convinced that it belongs on this sub. Sorry if it doesn't. \nSigned,\nA concerned potential asshole.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5FEO6mfYlNuQ1AijVE4Blj2aEoF2xc1W", "post_id": "aut87c", "action": {"description": "taking a Make A Wish Wish", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for taking a Make A Wish Wish?", "text": "Before I start, first-time poster, on mobile, etc. \n\nSo from the title, it\u2019s all like \u2018No way! If you are eligible, you deserve it\u2019 and all, but... I don\u2019t know. I am a 13-year old female with a chronic illness called Granulomatosis with Polyangiitis. It\u2019s an extremely rare type of auto-immune disorder, and only about 1 in 20-30,000 adults  have it. It\u2019s even rarer in kids, and the kids have different symptoms. I put more links to info about it in the bottom. \n\nSome backstory on how I discovered it.\nLast summer, 2018, for 3 days, I felt awful. Throwing up anything I tried to eat, no appetite at all, sleeping about 18 hours a day. We went to Urgent Care, they told us it was just a virus, maybe stomach bug or something. Exactly two weeks later, it happened again. Three days, no appetite, slept. Then felt better. Doctor was out on vacation. The cycle happened 2 more times. They took some more blood tests and said they\u2019d call with the results. As soon as the blood tests came in, they called us and asked why I hadn\u2019t been admitted to the hospital yet. There were multiple red flags, but the biggest one was my inflammation marker was supposed to be between 1 and 10, mine was 140. Went to the Emergency room, IVs, the whole 9 yards. They didn\u2019t know what was wrong, they released me. Over the next few months, they finally diagnosed me. Originally, they thought it was another autoimmune disorder, called Lupus, but all of the signs weren\u2019t there. I got started on treatment, and the thing is- I feel completely normal. Yes, I\u2019m on medicine, but I have absolutely no symptoms anymore. Sometimes I feel like it\u2019s just this made-up thing and I have no reason to take medicine cause I feel fine. My treatment also contains infusions, with a heavy dose of something through an IV for 6+ hours. I am on my 5th one right now, they are split into 4 parts every 6 months.\n\nSo, into the am-I-the-asshole part. Today, during  my treatment, my doctor came in to check on me and told me that if I wanted, I was able to make a wish and have it granted because my disease is on the list of those recognized by the Make-A-Wish foundation. I was surprised. It\u2019s not a terminal illness, and I feel like if I accept, and use it I am stealing from some 5-year old with cancer that\u2019s going to die in two months, and I am a horrible person because I am selfishly using it, when it\u2019s really not that serious and I\u2019m not going to die. Yes, it\u2019s chronic, but the doctors say most people go into remission within a few years. I would just be incredibly guilty if I stole someone\u2019s wish that needed it more. My family if not exactly poor, either. We do travel quite a bit.\n\nAm I the asshole? Or am I just overthinking it? I will try to answer as many questions as I can.\n\n[info](https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/granulomatosis-with-polyangiitis/symptoms-causes/syc-20351088)\n\n[other link](https://www.stlouischildrens.org/conditions-treatments/granulomatosis-with-polyangiitis)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SurUJNHrNARJH0UviJzxwmTHH5mKy4AP", "post_id": "b0wcwh", "action": {"description": "Disapproving of my Friend's relationship", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Disapproving of My Friend\u2019s Relationship?", "text": "My best friend, a 17 (almost 18) year old girl, is dating a 23 (maybe 24?) year old guy. She is in her senior year of highschool, while he would have graduated college by now. \n\nHer parents don\u2019t even know about her boyfriend\u2019s existence because she knows they wouldn\u2019t allow her to see him. I feel like I should also say that he doesnt show signs of being abusive or anything, but they do have sex and she thinks he has possibly given her genital herpes. They also smoke weed together pretty much every time they see eachother, which is something that my friend had been trying to do less of prior to their relationship. \n\nI really dont approve of their relationship, but every time I say something she makes me feel bad about it. She\u2019ll say that I \u201chate every guy she\u2019s with\u201d and that I only disapprove because I \u201cdont want her to have a boyfriend\u201d. Is it unreasonable and rude of me to be bothered by their relationship? Or do I have reason to be put off by it?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IUgnZTyqKPBzmAwDmH9OFmMpyPl8HTm5", "post_id": "aysvn3", "action": {"description": "wanting to go up north with my friends, without my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For wanting to go up north with my friends, without my girlfriend?", "text": "BACKGROUND: \n\nI am 18m and my girlfriend is 17f. We have been dating for a little over a year. \n\nMy friends are 18f (T) and 19m (C), and I've known both of them for longer that I've known gf. We have also gone up north before, even before I knew gf, mostly just to play video games and do stupid teenager stuff. Once before I met gf, once at the very start of my relationship with gf. \n\nI met C in seventh grade, and three years ago C introduced me to T, and we have all been friends since. Nothing romantic or otherwise has happened between any of us, this is important later\n\nNow, over time my gf has become a big part in my life, resulting in me seeing my friends less and less. When they came to me about going up north again, I was excited, but there is one other issue. \n\nGf doesn't trust T. Gf thinks she flirts with me, and wants to sleep with me. Gf has asked me to do things like let her know when I'm seeing T (which I did anyways), and not to hang out with T one on one (which we didn't do much anyways, it was mostly all three of us, C, T, and I). I have assured gf over and over that I have no interest in T, and that in the instance where something did start, I would end it immediately. Despite this, she gets very mad at me whenever I see T and it makes me want to see her less and less in fear of fighting again. \n\nSo when I told my gf that we planned to go up north again later this year, she was not happy to say the least. She has said she doesn't feel comfortable with me going, and has asked me to ask them if she could come along. I love her, but I want to go with my friends and just my friends. AITA?\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CtFpdNrJaAqDuHR2JlhSbyHZRxC1YGiZ", "post_id": "arplah", "action": {"description": "sending a picture of my coworker sleeping on the job to my bosses boss", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For sending a picture of my coworker sleeping on the job to my bosses boss?", "text": "There might be a split here since everyone has different ideas about work ethic or snitching so ill let you fine folks decide if i was the ass.\n\nI work in an office thats somewhere between white collar abd blue collar. There are 6 of us in an office who do A LOT of paperwork there and 20% field work outside.\n\nWe are all paid extremely well for what we do, our field is in demand as not a lot of people know about it so they dont pursue careers in it. So because of a shortage of labor we make crazy money and its very hard to get fired.\n\nSo heres the story. Ive worked at this office for two years. I am pretty much a go getter type of person, and I take pride in my work. I also want to keep a professional work environment at all times. Some people will automatically dislike me for this already but hear me out.\n\nI dont necessarily think everyone has to share my work ethic. But i do think its kinda ridiculous that we can be paid this much money and people still show up an hour late for work. But thats just me and i keep it to myself for the most part.\n\nHowever theres one guy at my office i work closely with thats so lazy and unprofessional that he makes my job significantly harder.\n\nThe biggest example of this is lateness. I get in 30 minutes early as i know we're gonna be swamped and i like to plan ahead. You dont have to do that, but at least get there on time.\n\nThis kid whose worked here for maybe seven months (transfered from another office and has about the same experience as me) shows up consistently late 20 minutes to an hour late each day. This infuriates me as i could really use the help in the mornings and he always shows up when the hard stuff is almost done. And if im being honest it annoys me even when it doesnt affect me. I just think if youre making a lot of money as an adult you have no excuse to be late everyday.\n\nIve talked with my boss about this who keeps saying he'll talk to him about it but nothing is ever done. Its sort of become a new normal thats accepted. My boss is a \"friend\" type of boss who wants to be a cool guy and not make people mad so it ends up being me that has to be the douchebag in a lot of situations.\n\nAnother aspect is laziness. He will outright avoid work. Ill ask him to do something at times and he will pretend not to hear me (literal silent treatment) to the point where i have to get in front of him and meet his eyeline before speaking louder. Then ill get a loud \"OKAY!\" in response. I do this so he cant say i didnt ask for help later.\n\nAlso he plays video games constantly. Like nintendo switch for hours at work. This makes me angry as he could be helping me and im basically doing the work so everyone else can relax and enjoy free money.\n\nFinally, he sleeps on the job with his shoes off in the office. This is the most brazen laziness that i cant stand and ive told him multiple times that he snores and his feet stink. He doesn't care and neither does my boss apparently who sort of just says \"yeah well he wont get far in life\" but doesnt reprimand him with any consequences.\n\nSo finally i took a picture of him secretly sleeping in his socks and sent it to my bosses boss at corporate. He of course confronted my boss about it who got an earful about how hes not managing us right because not only is the coworker sleeping but im going over his head.\n\nNow im known apparently as the office snitch and my boss has been less friendly to me. Ideally i want to get along with everyone but i truly hate lazy people. My coworker basically told other coworkers that im basically a \"bootlicker\". The other guys on my office are neutral or against me as they personally get along with the coworker but dont really work directly with him like me.\n\nIn the interests of fairness ill also point out that at times i could be short with people when im frustrated. Like if we're swamped and i have 12 different projects going on and someone starts asking me a question with an obvious answer ill tell them to ask someone else. That may not endear me to others and i recognize that.\n\nSo am i the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7ZRT7pUFO3aHURMsmIMocXIcu62G07Aa", "post_id": "afhe5p", "action": {"description": "telling disruptive teenagers in a movie to shut the fuck up", "pronormative_score": 20, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling disruptive teenagers in a movie to shut the fuck up?", "text": "I usually don\u2019t care if people are disruptive in movies, especially teenagers because we\u2019ve all been one (I wasn\u2019t a total shit head though), but there were 5 of these teens sitting together beside me. A couple of them were constantly making jokes, yelling, and making sarcastic comments through the movie (all in a shameless loud tone). I tried to let it slide, but by the time it was halfway through my movie, one of them pulled their phone out and played a song at max volume just to try and be funny. \n\nThis is when I snapped and said, \u201cShut the fuck up bro. People are trying to watch a movie, don\u2019t be a fucking asshole.\u201d \n\nIt got really quiet after that, and they didn\u2019t do it again. I\u2019m usually a quiet guy, and I\u2019ve experienced disruptiveness in movies before, but it was never like how these guys acted tonight. I feel like an asshole afterwards, and in hindsight, I probably could have dealt with it better, but I also think that people should be respectful in the appropriate setting. \n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 20, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 20, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ujZ1U9WmzwGKhhP07KjVtWoPTH1NRopj", "post_id": "abaoxg", "action": {"description": "getting too drunk on NYE", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for getting too drunk on NYE?", "text": "Hi all,\n\nMy girlfriend was excited to start the new year with me in sydney, and so was I. I know that she really wanted a kiss when it hit 12. I got way to drunk at a party and her and my best friend got me an uber home. She kept telling me it\u2019s ok but i feel terrible. \nsos", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LEebKxSisMcIIlUqZosCRlMReK3NUD20", "post_id": "9x6uet", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend not to send me videos depicting her cat doing his business", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend not to send me videos depicting her cat doing his business?", "text": "So about half an hour ago, my girlfriend and I were talking about her cat, which we both love dearly. However, she started describing certain things which she likes/liked to do with her cat, such as lightly inserting her finger into his mouth when he yawns (however, she has since stopped doing this as of around a few weeks ago) and filming him while he is using his litter box. Now, the latter concerned me a little, as I believe that cats deserve privacy just like humans. This belief comes from me accidentally walking in on my cat while she was urinating, and she freaked out.\n\nAnyway, when she said this, I politely let her know that that is a little strange. I also told her that cats deserve privacy. She responded to this by saying that \u201cit\u2019s so cute though\u201d and sending a video of the cat cleaning up after himself. I told her that I didn\u2019t want to watch it, and she said, \u201cIf you could get through dissections in high school, you can watch this.\u201d\n\nOf course, I responded to this by saying that I wouldn\u2019t voluntarily watch this if I didn\u2019t have to, and that the thought of watching a cat urinate and defacate unsettles me. Also, I said that no living being should be subjected to that. She responded with \u201cOkay, okay, jeez.\u201d\n\nI might add that I did watch the video, and in it, this poor cat is visibly distressed. I felt very bad for that cat.\n\nI finally told her to stop doing that to her cat and to not send those videos to me any more. She subsequently responded by saying, \u201cIt\u2019s really not that bad, but okay. I\u2019ll stop.\u201d I kind of feel bad about this. Am I the asshole for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2Nh1rw72G76jIam7VXt4nNNs8IklOTT3", "post_id": "9yi7t9", "action": {"description": "serving wine at Thanksgiving with a recovering alcoholic present", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 30}, "title": "AITA for serving wine at Thanksgiving with a recovering alcoholic present?", "text": "My mother seems to think that me brining wine to her home on Thanksgiving is NOT okay, for the sole reason that my uncle is a recovering alcoholic. AITA for taking issue with this? One out of fourteen adult guests has a problem with alcohol and I just don\u2019t think it\u2019s fair to not serve wine for that one person! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 30, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 30}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HIrDuq5VexADYyYFLs1weiZhTKmFDSw9", "post_id": "aqfa4p", "action": null, "title": "AITA because my teacher insinuated I was racist in front of the whole class?", "text": "Okay I\u2019ll try and keep this short\u2014 essentially, my english class was discussing Brave New World (which, for those of you unfamiliar with the book, is about a society strictly based on having sex, doing a drug called \u201csoma\u201d, and playing sports; there are different social castes based on your genetically-engineered attractiveness and intelligence, with the dumber/less attractive being at the bottom with the more attractive/smart moving up the societal chain). My english teacher is known for her rather sour attitude; no one\u2019s jokes are funny, everything must be serious, and she is always the smartest person in the room. That\u2019s fine\u2014 I\u2019m a respectful student, I enjoy participating but I choose to try and keep my head down during English because I know anything she says (even the smallest things) will upset me, as I admit I\u2019m rather sensitive. So she was discussing with us that the test we were supposed to have on the book was being moved back for the time being due to a conflict of schedules. One student asked if we could recreate the project we had previously done for To Kill a Mockingbird, where we dressed up as the characters and interacted with one another for a test grade. My teacher then, with a rather scathing tone, said: \u201cSure, you guys can come in dressed in the different colors of the castes according to what grades you have.\u201d So, she essentially insinuated, if we are using what she said in reference to the book, that certain students are GENETICALLY INFERIOR to other students based off of the grades in her class, and thusly should be publicly coded by the way they dress. Now, of course, the class laughed because this wasn\u2019t that deep/was just a joke. So then, another student says \u201cWhat if I have an N/A in the grade book?\u201d (This means that its early in the quarter, and that no grades are in yet). Thusly, I spoke up. The context of the following statement is as follows: \n1) The \u201cSavages\u201d in the book are a group of non-\u201ccivilization\u201d-conforming people who live on a reservation. They are a mixture of several different cultures and religions (as they pray to Jesus, as well as other religious figures), but the majority of the traditions described and cultural dress within the book are primarily Native American. They are not considered citizens of society, but those who inhabit society (however dumb this is, this is specifically supposed to be offensive and shocking).\n2) The main \u201cSavage\u201d of the book, John, was described several times as wearing moccasins. \nSo, in response to my classmate\u2019s question, I said \u201cWell, I guess you could dress as a (and I used air quotes with my hands, to show both the ridiculousness of the word and the lack of seriousness in my suggestion) \u201cSavage\u201d. I\u2019m not quite sure what you would wear, though I guess you could wear moccasins.\u201d I said this because, since you don\u2019t have a grade, you could jokingly be considered as not being a part of the class\u2014 since the \u201cSavages\u201d are considered to not be a part of society, that was the connection I was making. A couple of my friends shrugged with a few  thoughtful \u201cYeah, not sure\u201d or \u201cMaybe\u201d remarks, and the entire debacle was over. \n... Or so I thought.\n\u201cYeah, I\u2019d be careful saying that if I were you.\u201d My teacher said\u2014 the class thus went quiet. She continued by saying \u201cThat\u2019s a slur and you shouldn\u2019t say that, or refer to a group of people that way.\u201d I raised my hand quickly to defend myself: \u201cWoah, I apologize if it came off in any other way, but I obviously don\u2019t actually BELIEVE any group of real-world people in particular are savages\u2014 I was just referencing the book.\u201d But she cut in and said \u201cYeah, but then you said \u201cMoccasins\u201d so YOU tied it to Native Americans. Native Americans aren\u2019t savages.\u201d Rather than defending myself/talking back, I shut up (because at this point the whole class was looking at me and I was MORTIFIED at the mere thought that anyone would even SUGGEST I would make that connection of my own accord). Then she lectured that we all need to be careful with what we say (with another pointed look at me), and class continued. \nIf this was a simple poor choice of words on my part, I wholly recognize that. It was a dumb, half-baked thought said out loud (half only to myself, even), but my teacher blew it up by saying I had used a racial slur to describe a group of real-life people who are a part of a beautiful culture, rather than referencing the current book being discussed and it\u2019s ridiculous and purposeful outrage tactics (not only in regards to calling a group of people \u201cSavages\u201d ((not only potentially because of their culture, but also because they decided not to take drugs, they still married and gave birth to children, they hunted and gathered for their food, etc...)), but also depicting children preforming \u201cerotic play\u201d, and other absolutely heinous things). So, am I the asshole for saying something insensitive without thinking? Or is my teacher the asshole for potentially misconstruing my words, but also doing so in front of a class of 30+ people? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Mz9sjruUEMILaZpH8GtaZ3eG34cRIgh2", "post_id": "atvk0u", "action": {"description": "wanting to distance myself from friend with eating disorder", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for wanting to distance myself from friend with eating disorder?", "text": "So in terms of a brief bit of context, my friend (23F) has an eating disorder that she was diagnosed with 2 or 3 years back. She's since been in and out of therapy, and whilst she's gotten better with eating, she's still a very insecure person which ofc spawns from the eating disorder. Being her friend thus includes a lot of talking through her problems and trying to help. I want to help and I know I shouldn't be commended for trying to help, it's just what friends do, but I find some of her issues really hard to work through. For example she's very juvenile when it comes to boys - becomes a bit obsessed quickly and the likes. And I'm finding it hard to reassure her over a boy she's crying over whom she's met on a night out only a handful of times. \n\nNow cut to what's pissed me off. I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years 3 weeks ago, and she let me stay at her place for 3 days after just so I wasn't alone etc. When I tried to go back to my own apartment, I immediately broke down and texted her asking if I could come back to which she replied that I need to realise that me sleeping on her floor can't be a permanent thing so we need to try to 'solve' this to get me better. This wasn't great to hear as I was A) very aware that I wouldn't be sleeping on a blow up mattress on her floor forever B) my heart break wasn't really something to be solved, it will just take time and I just wanted the company. Also when I was staying with her, I didn't really talk about my breakup, it was mostly still her problems. She hasn't texted me since I told her she was being really nasty, and I'm honestly very upset that she hasn't texted me at all asking how I am, despite 3 years of me counselling her. So I'm thinking about distancing myself from her, or stopping talking completely. We don't gel much anyway, and this has kind of solidified my decision. So AITA here? Feels a bit narcissistic typing all this out but I just want a second opinion.. thanks so much for making it this far if you did ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eteCpq2SvUxP6ikrEKXMoPKEVSM2Rjj5", "post_id": "9xq0ua", "action": {"description": "not giving my friend correct answers", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not giving my friend correct answers", "text": "I\u2019m currently in 9th grade and recently me and my friend who I\u2019ll call j, had a geometry test. I\u2019ve never been great at math, but me and j had known each other for a while, and we normally work together. I have geometry fourth period which is our lunch time which was split between the test, he asked me for answers. Now I know you shouldn\u2019t, but I didn\u2019t want to be that one kid who didn\u2019t so we did.J was asking me some questions and I was mostly agreeing with what he said. We then went back in and I realized a good bit of my answers were wrong. I went through, changed them, and turned it in. I was planning on telling him I changed my answers but \n\nFast forward a few weeks and we get the test back. I got a b+ which I was happy with, but J got a c+ and was mad, normally cuz he gets mostly a\u2019s. He then told me because I gave him the answers that were wrong, it\u2019s my fault and now he\u2019s telling everyone I screwed him over. Am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "S7b9eN7UMgRsz2WujBCrVOrBN1oJkBXz", "post_id": "ae2hbd", "action": {"description": "wanting to tell my depressed partner that they're overwhelming me", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to tell my depressed partner that they're overwhelming me?", "text": "My partner is currently going through a very rough patch. We're long distance so it makes it  even harder for us. I have my own mental health issues I deal with too, so I definitely understand what it's like to struggle. But it feels like so much of our daily conversations are about how much they want to hurt themselves or how much they want to die. \n\n\n\nThey're currently in therapy and taking meds. They've called crisis hotlines. They're doing what they can to help themselves but all this constant talk and complaining is really stressing me out and is hard on my anxiety. I care for them deeply so I worry a lot and I feel awful because nothing I can do or say will help. I'm worried that it would be selfish if I told them \"hey can you maybe not tell me about how badly you want to die everyday\". I know that they would take it very hard too if I told them even in the nicest possible way. Would I be an asshole if I told them their mental issues are having an extreme bad impact on my own mental wellbeing?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5uRe89PNEWUPkaXUljQgjsqIh9C3oijy", "post_id": "a6npu3", "action": {"description": "confronting a friend for taking Acid", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for Confronting a Friend for Taking Acid?", "text": "I used to be very conservative (morally, not politically) growing up all throughout high school and college, and I have a very hard time coming out of my comfort zone. My first drink wasn't until college, and I only started smoking weed a few years after I graduated. I've never tried any hard drugs or psychedelics, and have no firsthand knowledge of what it does to your brain. \n\n​\n\nMy friend is a very loving and caring person, but this last year she's gone through some hard times. She told me a few weeks ago that she was depressed earlier this year, to the point of being suicidal. She told me that she feels a lot better than she did earlier this year, and is in a much better place. \n\n​\n\nWe've been working with a third friend on an animation pilot, but recently that third friend had moved away and decided he didn't want to be a part of our project anymore. She took it personally and was very upset by this. \n\n​\n\nThis afternoon, she came over and was still reeling from his decision, to the point where she was in tears talking about it. I talked to her and tried to make her feel better. \n\n​\n\nFast forward a few hours, she surprised me and brought me to a VR concert with light shows and a Pink Floyd cover band - something we were both into. She met a group of her friends, and we all walked into the giant dome to wait for the concert to start. Out of nowhere, her friend puts a drop of something on her hand, and she asks me if I want to try acid.\n\n​\n\nKnowing who she is and who her friends are, I shouldn't have been surprised, but internally I became so angry at her all of a sudden. Here she was, not a few hours after me talking her through her emotions and trying to make her feel better, taking acid with her friends. To me and my naive brain, I took it as a sign that she was using acid to try and make herself feel better. Terrified, I excused myself, walked out of the concert and had a panic attack worrying about her and why she was doing this to herself and what it all meant. \n\n​\n\nShe found me outside and I told her I was upset about her taking acid, and she got defensive saying that it's no different than drinking and smoking, and that I shouldn't worry about her. She's had a history of doing drugs in the past, and I have the feeling that she's been using them to escape how she's feeling. She told me that I was projecting my own interpretation of what the drug does to you and putting that on her, calling it unfair.  I told her that I was grateful for her taking me to this event, but that I needed to leave and collect my thoughts. \n\n​\n\nSo basically, AITA for confronting her about taking acid? Is it that big of a deal? Or is it just another thing like drinking and smoking and I'm just overreacting and need to grow up? I'm honestly curious, I'm so confused about how I should have reacted or felt because I've never even seen someone do acid before, so I have nothing to base my reaction off of. I'm just so concerned about her because I'm afraid she's hurting herself by making choices like this. At the same time, I have terrible anxiety and I'm probably overreacting to this. \n\n​\n\nPlease help, thank you. \n\nThanks Reddit.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0CLP0DXqRqFt0ghLOBL3IjBUX9k0o4EI", "post_id": "alk0cz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go on a double date with my wife's best friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go on a double date with my wife's best friend?", "text": "My wife's best friend has a new boyfriend of a couple months. About two weeks ago he told his wife that he was leaving her, after staying in hotels the odd night here and there. She asked if there was someone else, he apparently said no. They're going on vacation together in two weeks while his soon to be ex wife is miserable. \n\nMy situation - my wife doesn't approve of how things went down, but still wants to be her best friends best friend. I am confident in my mind that he is a huge asshole and by going public on social media with each other weeks later they are both assholes. The wife now knows about everything and to me it seems punitive. I am not interested in meeting him and my wife is ticked. \n\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lF4MXoswfMhOzsYCBVoJjWByy3tCdwAS", "post_id": "b2r05x", "action": {"description": "not selling snacks to certain clients", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not selling snacks to certain clients", "text": "I sell snacks at my school would I be a ass if I didn\u2019t sell to known thief\u2019s? I mean this is as in before I even sell to them like if everyone knows they lie and steal. Would I be a dick move to make them pay more for the risk? Would it be a dick move to make them buy through a trusted friend? Honestly I don\u2019t have set rates I sell based on my stock and how nice you are when buying. I mean I\u2019ve given stuff away to nice kids.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3YG5P7iWge9YnLeXgF41hIaH111fZ834", "post_id": "b1j3t6", "action": {"description": "not trying to involve my parents in my life", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not trying to involve my parents in my life", "text": "So, first of all, English is not my native language and I'm on mobile.\n\nAbout me : I'm 24, currently doing 2 Universities at the same time while working as an actress. And I'm also happen to be gay.\n\nMy parents weren't supportive with me at all. I've tried coming out a few times when I was around 14 or so, but it always ended up being a shouting match between us.   \nSo that's one thing they don't really like (they are acting like they are more supporting but I still hear them saying \"fuckin' faggots and stuff like that, while they know I can hear it). They aren't always like that but they know my weak points when they want to hurt me.\n\nTheir second problem is my career. They just can't stand it. I've tried sending them tickets, but I was always met with 2 empty seats ( I work at one of the biggest theaters in my country so there are quite a few seats but theirs were always front row). This resulted, that I don't like inviting any relative or friends to my shows because I'm afraid of the disappointment if they somehow wouldn't show up. If I give them tickets it gives me severe anxiety. \n\nThey know about 1 of the universities I attend, but not about the second (it is related with acting)\n\nAround a year ago I've met someone ( we've been working together for 5 years but we just did not see each other that way) and fell in love. She is 13 years older than me, and has a 2 year old toddler, who I love dearly. We've been talking about marriage and maybe one more kid. We moved together, I have my own place but it's literally a street away from my parents.\n\nBut I'm really really anxious because of my parents.  My gf is the nicest person and they still managed to call her a slut.  \nMy parents have caused me a lot of mental damage. I have had plenty of psychology classes and I'm really about trying to recover myself. But whenever I'm trying to say that they said something rude or disrespectful they just laugh it off and tell me how sensitive I've got.\n\nEarlier this year I tried again, I've sent tickets (where I'm playing together with gf), arranged a nice dinner, where they could meet their \"grandson\" and my love. They said that they didn't like the show, and some random kid of a random woman wouldn't be their grandson. Again, 2 empty seats and a night of crying. Now they reached out to me, because they heard that we've got engaged and we might end up having a second child.\n\nBut I think I've had enough for now. If they can't accept my love and her son, they won't meet our second, because I don't want the little one to feel left out.\n\nAITA? What would you guys do in my position?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "te8tA3Reo6VdLCc1bKoWfs5xPQORfL69", "post_id": "amsber", "action": {"description": "not giving my ex his stuff back", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not giving my ex his stuff back?", "text": "So my ex (22m) and I (24f) had a pretty shitty break up. In the end he threatened suicide while saying I can keep the clothes he\u2019s left at my house. These clothes are a shirt (his parents gave him) slippers (that don\u2019t fit), and PJ bottoms.\n\nI have no problem giving him his shit. But I feel uncomfortable because of how things ended and how emotional he was.\n\nI also do not live at the house where his stuff is, it is at my parents house. I spend most of my nights a few towns over.\n\nI do go to my parents house to do laundry once a week or so. Hence how his stuff ended up there.\n\nI did forget to grab his clothes last week. But since he found out I was at my house he:\n\n- Some how got my mothers phone number and is now calling her for my stuff.\n\n-Had his father (who goes to the same gym as me) approach me to give it to him.\n\n-Hits me up multiply times a day asking for it.\n\nI feel like he\u2019s being very aggressive. I mean he has other shirts and pants and slippers! I don\u2019t want to drive out of my way to my parents house (when i don\u2019t need too). To get his shit. Like can\u2019t he just wait a few more days, until my work week is over (I work weekends thru Monday).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "eBxRfu4VtEHOgvviJNBUKNvlN4xlG29K", "post_id": "ardbf1", "action": {"description": "buying my boyfriend something my ex had", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for buying my boyfriend something my ex had?", "text": "**For Valentines day, one of the gifts I bought my boyfriend was this Brickell Men's face wash that an ex of mine used in the past.** ***It's a really good product.*** Amazon ended up messing up my order so I'm going through a lot more effort to try to get the product and to see if I can get a few more free products for the hassle.\n\nMy boyfriend asked how I knew this men's product was really good, because you know... it's a men's product. I was honest with him. My ex used it and it made my skin feel really good when I used it. To clarify: I really dislike my ex and I am not in contact with him at all. **This product is the only good thing that came out of that toxic shit show of a relationship.** I love my boyfriend and there is no one I would rather spend the rest of my life with.\n\nFast forward to the present day, I bought my boyfriend a gift for valentines. **My boyfriend says he would rather not have it, because it reminds him of my ex and a bad period in our relationship when we were not together.** I feel this is slightly ridiculous because, at the end of the day, it's just a face wash. Like what if my ex also used a certain type of cleaning product or ate a certain food brand that is objectively good, should I then not show that to my boyfriend? He says that this is the equivalent of regifting something from a previous relationship.\n\nI don't like seeing my SO upset over something this silly. **But I think the Amazon manufacturer is going to offer us some awesome free products for messing up the order.** Am I being insensitive? Is there a boundary I'm crossing?\n\n**Am I the asshole?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4A9YknAy5LT9PhZzVQscK9Dqq5kWLoAE", "post_id": "aiin0p", "action": null, "title": "AITA triad relationship gone wrong", "text": "TL;DR  I broke it off with our girlfriend because she tried to break up our pre existing relationship and wanted me to be a financial cucktress. \n\nMy boyfriend of 4 years and I are Poly, last year I reached out to one of his friends of 10 years to try and work towards possibly being in a triad. Since it was my first relationship like this I had 2 boundaries that I put down in the begining. I asked that for the first month we could keep sex as a group thing and that she wouldn't be able to kiss him, then when I was comfortable we could be a normal triad, she agreed. I had some worries that it wouldn't be an equal relationship since they had known each other for a few years longer and had a one night stand before we had got together. \nThings are peachy the first 2 dates until both my boundaries were immediately crossed. I was hurt but understood and didn't make a big deal because I saw how happy he was and wanted to make things work. The first 5 dates we had her sleep over for a couple of nights then would bring her home, each time she'd leave her stuff and bring more until she had moved herself in. At first things seemed great and I was happy to finally have a girlfriend with things in common with me. \nAfter fully moving in things took a turn for the worst. It started with scheduling sex, she was upset I was having sex with him on my own despite her having sex with him exclusively, I expressed to her that that would mean it'd have to be all or nothing. So we went to group sex only again, she of course didn't hold up to that on her side. This also frustrated me because no matter how long he fucked her she'd claim he was too much on me. I tried to make up for this by giving her most of the attention in the bedroom, I am the type to always give oral and foreplay, she on the other hand only would for him. in 1 year she had only gone down on me she went down on me 3 time, it was always interrupted by her chosing to do so when she had a dick in her and was screaming.\nThen it was financial, now this girl had no job, no car, no licence, never cleaned after herself, and expected her dad to pay for her. During this whole relationship I was the one paying for rent, bills, food, car, everything. Each of us had an expensive birthday party splurge, for hers and his  she had her dad pay for hers and I picked up the rest. For his we went with my family to wildwood for a week, the whole time I got told that I ruined the entire trip despite fully paying for it just because I didn't want to go to the beach the first day we got down. Her birthday she had a concert, a party, and a trip to novels. When it finally came to my birthday I was told I had to pay for whatever I wanted to do, I paid for us all to go see ninja sex party in NY. Now for both of their birthdays we went out of our way to flaunt her and make her feel wanted, concert day arrives and the whole drive down she's lecturing and pouting that he isn't holding her and paying attention to her. \nThings start boiling over and things become all time toxic, we are living on top of each other with no personal space. she begins messaging dudes and ex's about how me and him are abusing her. Now mind you she is a habitual cheater, has a body count in the 40s, brags about being a sociopath, and is obsessed with serial killers.  She starts to talk to an old fuck buddy and tries to hook up  after making a story we both beat her. We confront her and she starts cutting herself and saying we don't care enough about her. At this point things are tense I am sick of the controlling behavior and she tries to deflect saying I've suddenly cheated and solely confided in her, he believes her since he's known her longer and it becomes a fight for months. \nAfter over half a year of bullshit I'm sick of it, everyday became a fight and she was telling him to leave me and that they can live with her dad. At that point every time I'd visit my family I'd get an ultimatum.  I get sick of it and tell her she needs to move out. It sparks a huge fight with his mom agreeing with me and ending with him voluteraly commiting himself to a crisis unit. He goes to get his help and the first day his mom takes us up to see him she starts shit with his mom before we even leave and gets told to stay home, she slams the door and sits in the kitchen drinking booze from 11am to 6pm when we got back. At this point she's beligerant and his mom being the landlord kicks her out. Next day I get a message that she commuted herself and that I was on her shot list for not telling her where he was hospitalized. \nNow I'm the first to admit I had jealous patches and am far from the perfect girlfriend but am I an asshole for choosing to break things off. He's since worked shit out with me but she's still insistent that I used her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TAmxaQWzPFLjZy3gBeQFQii0BTQocrT4", "post_id": "akmxrw", "action": {"description": "moving the car seat back a few inches, and then trying to explain my actions", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For moving the car seat back a few inches, and then trying to explain my actions?", "text": "Today on the way to school, I (15M) moves the car seat back a little bit so that I could fit my legs in it. My little brother (10M) moves the seat all the way up. He is 5\u20190 and I\u2019m 6\u201d1, so I felt that  this was fair. My dad saw this and said, \u201cHow dare you,\u201d since he thought that I would crush my older brother, who wasn\u2019t even sitting behind me. \n\nI stayed quiet for a few seconds, but then tried to explain that the seat was all the way forward and there\u2019s no way that I could fit. When I was done explaining I finished the sentence with a slightly drawn out,\u201dOk?\u201d My dad threw his phone at me after this, and called me a disrespectful piece of shit. AITA for this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qlnyCK81nT9N2qV0fHIVWAN2ezevMqOS", "post_id": "9xlrj4", "action": {"description": "not wanting to cook a turkey on thanksgiving for 4 people", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to cook a turkey on thanksgiving for 4 people", "text": "So me and my fianc\u00e9 moved away from home last year, and we decided not to go home for thanksgiving. We are having s few friends from out of town over for dinner on thanksgiving. \n\nI do 95% the cook for the two of us. My fianc\u00e9 isn\u2019t a great cook but I enjoy it. However I\u2019m not a huge fan of turkey, and I\u2019ve never made one. Little daunting to bd honest cooking a big bird like that. \n\nAITA if I suggest cooking something other than turkey on thanksgiving? Maybe some steaks or something else? I just don\u2019t want to spend 4-6 hours on a meal that I\u2019m going to be nervous about screwing up and coming out tasting like dry cardboard and would rather cook something I\u2019ve done before ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oOshoZwcMcvJYAaRKH9a6299hY1Dml0a", "post_id": "b2ui5x", "action": {"description": "telling my friend I don't care about a tv show and that I hate it more because of how much she talks about it", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend I don\u2019t care about a TV show and that I hate it more because of how much she talks about it?", "text": "So I have friend, let\u2019s call her Haley. I met her more than a year ago. Soon after she got super into a TV show. She\u2019s obsessed with it, she\u2019ll watch every episode at least twice when it comes out, rewinds to watch her favorite scenes multiple times and reads fanfics all the time. \nThe show is based on a book series and I read the entire series back in high school.  The show is incredibly different and it\u2019s not my cup of tea. \n\nAnyway, since I was familiar with the characters I would talk to her about them sometimes (book vs show) etc. Soon the show was literally all she could talk about, she would go on for hours at dinner and send me long paragraphs ranting and fan-girling over the show. I listened and engaged in the beginning. But I would change the subject, letting her know I was bored and hope she would get a hint. She did and we would talk about other things when we hung out.\n\nThen the show got cancelled over the summer and that\u2019s when she went back to her old self, she told me to support the show, call the network and ask them to not cancel it. She made a Twitter to try and save the show and urged me to do the same. I was sympathetic but a bit relieved that I wouldn\u2019t have to listen to her rant anymore. Over the past couple of months she brings it up occasionally and I\u2019ve told her straight up that I don\u2019t care and I don\u2019t want to hear it. She would still bring it up - \u201cI know you don\u2019t care but blah blah blah...\u201d \n\nWe had our spring break last week and decided to go to NYC. I couldn\u2019t go sightseeing one of the days where they (her and one of our other friends) visited Central Park. There\u2019s a bench there dedicated to the show and she sent me a huge paragraph fangirling with articles about how the actors were there and all.\n\nThis is what I told her - \u201clook I admire how much you like this show (I was taking about how passionate she is) but I simply don\u2019t care and I\u2019ve heard you talk too much about them that I low key hate them even more now\u201d\n\nHer response- \u201cYou literally just broke my heart\u201d\n\nSo, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fcHzrOxVJJoR3pzSctRuurEhrojrmO9v", "post_id": "b5ftpc", "action": {"description": "wanting my friend to stop wearing his furry getup to school", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for wanting my friend to stop wearing his furry getup to school?", "text": "Hey there, this is my first post so go easy on me\nSo it all starts back in 2018, when my friend (who I will call \u201cF\u201d) claims that he will wear his fur suit on the last day of school. Clarification: I am not in any way shape or form associated with furries, so I just decide to let it play out because it didn\u2019t affect me. Next day, F wears a headband with furry ears attached. I initially thought that it was a one-time thing that would blow over by next week. I thought that, until he wore that same headband for 3 MONTHS! Sure, me and my other friends in our group were starting to get annoyed with his shenanigans, so we decided to confront him. F said that he wouldn\u2019t take off the ears for even the least formal events. I eventually learned to tolerate his...ways for a little while. Starting 2019, he started to wear a fucking tail in his belt loop to every. Single. Class. It drives me up the fucking wall and I\u2019ve asked him multiple times to take it off even for a little bit. Am I the asshole for just voicing my opinion?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "AosswhTPZfHmty1vlJy5HngqD5mA7P5k", "post_id": "aqabqn", "action": {"description": "being honest with a guy", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being honest with a guy?", "text": "So I [23F]matched with this guy [30M]in December and starting talking to him. We had our first date after Christmas and it was good. Went back to his place watched a movie and cuddled and made out a little (didn\u2019t do anything else). I wouldn\u2019t say he was the best kisser, but a lot of the time I felt like he didn\u2019t know what he was doing. Second date we went out to dinner again and ended back at his place, things were getting hot and heavy but then he went soft. He actually admitted he had PE while we were making out on the couch. And when we did have sex i literally could not feel anything. He apologized and I told him that it happens to everyone and to text me again when he\u2019s back in town (he had to go on a business trip for about a week). And we\u2019re texting the whole time and I thought it was going well. Plot twist was that I got an UTI so I had to wait for that to go away. So he comes back to town and we end up going on the third date, we go out to dinner again and it was okay and we go back to his place. But this time I noticed that I was being a little more distant and we watch another movie. Then we head upstairs and start having sex again, but I had this horrible pain, like I couldn\u2019t continue so he basically just fingered me. And I kinda got the feeling he was less experienced then he was letting on.\n\nAfter the awkward sex both times, I texted him the next morning basically saying we were lacking chemistry and that it wasn\u2019t really gonna work. I still liked this guy, but sexual compatibility is important too. So about two weeks later I texted him , being rather blunt and asking if he wanted to try again and work on our sexual incompatibility & I got ghosted. I get no one likes being told they suck at sex, but it\u2019s rarely just one sided and I genuinely wanted to work on it together. \n\nThis was what I texted after a couple exchanges\u201cOk honestly I'm not interested in just being friends, i just felt like we were both struggling with our sexual chemistry. And I wanted to know if you'd be down to work on it together. If not that's fine, we can just be friends.\u201d\n\nTLDR: I broke up with a guy from tinder after two awkward hook ups, but I told him I wanted try again last week. I wanted to improve our sexual chemistry & he basically ghosted me for being honest. \n\nAITA for telling him the truth and wanting to work on it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7la5yb5c1tWBIo98pkP3KngYbpMwbA4L", "post_id": "b5a4v3", "action": {"description": "posting about my neighbor's dog on Nextdoor", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for posting about my neighbor's dog on Nextdoor", "text": "AITA?\n\nI have a neighbor whose dog was seen all over the neighborhood 4x in one month off leash with nobody following behind or looking for him. The dog btw is a 90+lb Doberman, but has a very sweet look to him, but still a really big dog. I finally had enough when the Doberman come into my yard an peed on my bushes. I have an older dog that is very territorial and it drives him insane smelling another dog in our yard, so he is on edge whenever he goes out now. I know that if my dogs were out when this dog came back a fight would ensue. My dogs would likely lose because they are older. My other is a pit who literally would never even show her teeth unless her family was in trouble. I made a post looking for the dog on our Nextdoor app, which is kinda like Facebook, but for a neighborhood. I didn't see anything recent so I posted in there basically saying the owner needed to get this under control. I looked deeper after and ended up finding a post about the dog 2 months prior. The guy tries to defend himself by saying the collar wasn't charged and the dog just kinda goes where he wants. Another guy on there expressed concern for his cats that go out at night sometimes. The Doberman owner chastised the person and said they should keep an eye on their animals. I then commented again on my post saying the guy knew it was happening and still had not remedied the issue. The guy told me I was welcome to come talk to him, but I told him I would likely call animal control for fear of my dogs safety. I know his dog is not aggressive, but I know he would fight back if my dogs attacked him in my yard. I also mentioned he needed to be a better representative for his dog breed, having a pit myself I know the struggle.\n\n​\n\nMy wife said I am a bully for doing this, but I think the guy needs to take responsibility for his animals and be a better owner.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z3Km6qWuIfDL4GdQpeLnoalVqROFp0cV", "post_id": "a4mgqv", "action": {"description": "not going to the movies with my friend", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going to the movies with my friend?", "text": "This is long. And I'm posting on a different account because she's on reddit.\n\nSo, last week, I agreed to go to the movies for my friends birthday on Saturday, at 12:45. Which I agreed to, since it didn't conflict with anything.\n\nOn Saturday, she changed the time to Sunday at 3:45, which I had told her prior that on Sundays from 2 to 4, I volunteer someplace.\n\nShe had already bought the tickets, despite me telling her that I would be elsewhere. Not only this, my mother told me I have a scouts meeting that would occur around the end of the movie.\n\nI texted her within the last hour that I could not make it, since my mother said that she wouldn't take me.\n\nI feel really bad that I can't go, and I really didn't want to miss this, since it was her birthday. Not only that, I had promised her that I would be there.\n\nSo, AITA for not telling my friend until today? And for not being able to go?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zyxG6miKp8kVIWheuxGxquZbxC0WwJVp", "post_id": "annbzb", "action": {"description": "asking my brother to start paying for this house", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I ask my brother to start paying for this house?", "text": "Last year I signed a house over to my brother. We had an agreement that he would pay me 200 a month for a year or so for it. At the time he was having some money troubles, so I told him we'd decide later when he could start paying. We haven't really talked about it since then, but I know he's in a better situation now money wise. WIBTA if I ask him to start paying?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OOEgyHI9CJkeD1Prw89932Uh7FbtbP5t", "post_id": "a8pmbl", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to my Mom's BF's coworkers Christmas party", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to my Mom's BF's coworkers Christmas party?", "text": "My Mom told me( F26) I am coming to the party her Bf was invited to two weeks ago. I told her I didn't want to go and she said I was going and ended the discussion. I don't know any of those people and am not a party person. The day has come and she was all dressed and ready to go and I just woke up from a nap and told her I wasn't up for it and she said she wasn't going and she changed and is making her bf go alone. I feel like I ruined the night. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PMQkR9hakGyzhkABRL2ksgAKjBu4xqNU", "post_id": "au1074", "action": {"description": "thinking my parents should pay for my college", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 19}, "title": "AITA for thinking my parents should pay for my college?", "text": "So when I graduated high school my parents made a deal with me that they would pay for 2 years of my community college with the college fund they had for me and I was on my own for the final 2 years of my bachelors degree. I agreed and thought this was definitely fair. I ended up getting a job my senior year of high school at an engineering firm doing some drafting work and decided to work there part time while attending community college to get my associates in engineering. I didn\u2019t realize this company had tuition reimbursement until about 1 semester before I graduated with my A.S. They ended up reimbursing me for my whole entire 2 years of community college (about 10k). I decided to give this back to my parents and they were very happy as one would imagine. I then asked them if I could put this toward my final 2 years of my bachelors degree and they said no. \n\nThis caused a lot of arguments between us because in my mind they basically didn\u2019t have to pay for any of my college when the deal was that they would pay for 2 years for the college fund they had built up.\n\nThey are pretty well off financially. The summer after I got my A.S. they bought a new house and since then they have been purchased 3 brand new cars just for reference.\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 19}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a4nA3eKl1S6usckKSTqjXg9gNx5sjoTq", "post_id": "aak4mu", "action": {"description": "not hugging my friend's wife", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for not hugging my friend's wife?", "text": "I find the whole fake hugging and fake kiss on each cheek total bullshit with people I barely know. I'll gladly bring it in with the people I love and know well but not virtual strangers.\n\nA month ago I met some friends and in the pub. Over of the guys that I rarely see brought his wife along. \n\nI barely know this woman and when they arrived, she did the fake hugging and two kisses bullshit with everyone. \n\nShe approached me and I told her I don't do fake hugs. She made some joke and tried to put her arms around me so I held up my hand like a traffic cop, stopping her from getting any closer and repeated I don't do fake hugs. \n\nShe looked really embarrassed and everyone looked tense for a few seconds so I said I'd give her a high five with my still held up hand instead. She gave me a sour look and refused. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nD4gAGhPgmtDawpXNSpmbMDuIUjKrX6s", "post_id": "a1zeix", "action": {"description": "not inviting my uncle to my wedding", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I don't invite my uncle to my wedding?", "text": "My fiance and I are having a second go at planning our wedding after briefly breaking up last year -- I was underemployed, we were both struggling with some mental health issues, and trying to plan a big wedding to include my large extended family was kind of the straw that broke the camel's back. I moved to find work, we have been in counseling/treatment separately and together for the past year, but now are back in the same city and planning a much simpler, smaller wedding for February.\n\nWe have limited our guest list to about 25 people for the ceremony and a nice dinner afterward -- 10 immediate family members, and 15 of our closest friends. When I told my parents, they advised me that my grandmother would probably be very upset that my uncle (her son, my dad's brother) isn't invited. \n\nMy grandma is 94, lives with my parents, and still sharp and active. My uncle has poor social skills and is generally regarded in our family as The Most Unfun Person On Earth. Grandma is very defensive of him and hypersensitive to family members excluding him from things. \n\nI have done some soul-searching this week, and I think my decision to not invite him is defensible for several reasons.\n\n* I am not being unfair. We're not inviting my mom's brother (who actually lives in the city where the wedding will take place, whereas my dad's brother lives four states away.)\n* I am not imposing a burden on anyone by making this decision. In fact, I am saving him another costly trip two months after he will already be here for Christmas.\n\nI love my grandma and generally think she is wonderful with the exception of this hypersensitivity about my uncle. Honestly, whenever he is with us, he isn't even nice to her and doesn't act like he enjoys visiting. And there is a part of me that is freaking out a bit about planning another wedding. The last time was such a disaster and I just want everything to be as simple and calm as possible. I am going to stand my ground, but AITA for doing so? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CF5U6n3p5hJHnpwgRxgToU0XjSGnumWW", "post_id": "ah00nx", "action": {"description": "asking my wife what happened between her and our daughter", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 25}, "title": "AITA for asking my wife what happened between her and our daughter?", "text": "Context: my wife and I have a 7-year-old daughter. Something happened between them this morning, but I don\u2019t know what (my wife wouldn\u2019t say). The following is the text conversation that happened after she dropped our daughter off at school:\n\nhttps://imgur.com/gallery/AdEyzUd\n\nI re-read our conversation while editing it for imgur, and I **was** lecturing her a bit. Or, was I? I\u2019m actually not sure. I\u2019m also not a troll or shitposter, and this is a 100% actual conversation between us. I\u2019m having trouble finding the right words to express this situation. Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 24, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 25}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "bXlQtns1f6qbeTesrk1LwNHagRvEs9fs", "post_id": "ba81zp", "action": {"description": "not contacting my biological father after his medical emergency, even though we've been estranged most of my life", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not contacting my biological father after his medical emergency, even though we\u2019ve been estranged most of my life?", "text": "My parents divorce was finalized when I was 6 weeks old. I didn\u2019t meet him until I was 8. In that time, my mom raised me on her own, with the help of my grandparents (she was 23 and he was ten years older)\n\nWhile he didn\u2019t actually physically abuse me, his mental abuse was extreme and I asked the court to not force me to see him anymore when I was 13.\n\nMy mom remarried when I was 15 and he has raised me ever since. He\u2019s truly my hero (check out past posts about my dad) I saw bio dad again when I was 19, trying to see if we could have a friendship or relationship. He ghosted me. Completely. Changed his number and everything.\n\nWhen I was about to turn 30, he and his wife somehow reached to my mom and wanted to start a conversation. I now live 1,000 miles from where I grew up and married my husband. Husband and I were going to my home state for a wedding party my whole side of the family was throwing for us (we eloped after over 7 yrs together).\n\nSaw bio-dad, everything was nice and casual. But after we went home to our state, he added me on FB and wouldn\u2019t comment on EVERY SINGLE THING I wrote that was Anti-Trump. We are very liberal but he just wouldn\u2019t stop, until finally he texted me and said he \u201cWAS SO DONE HAVING A LIBERAL DAUGHTER\u201d\n\nFine, whatever. I barely know this guy. Then my mom called me this morning, saying his wife texted my mom, that bio-dad had a stroke. He\u2019s going to be okay but he\u2019s not really okay. Really encouraged me to call him or his wife...\n\nAfter talking to my husband, he\u2019s encouraging compassion. That when he met bio-dad, he seemed like a guy that knew he fucked up with me (I\u2019m his only child).\n\nI feel very ambivalent to him. But I also feel like my husband might be right about compassion...\n\nThoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "45TfPW7xfouQ1h2fRWbL7nFMKWEDZedp", "post_id": "b5pcz7", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate to be more quiet and stop having people over for the night", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my roommate to be more quiet and stop having people over for the night?", "text": "I live in a dorm where me and one other girl have separate bedrooms and share a kitchen and bathroom. The walls here are very thin. The rules in the dorm state that after 11pm we have to be quiet and people of the opposite sex has to be in their rooms.\n\nShe is really hypersocial and has people over all the time. Which I don't mind in the daytime, but it can be a huge disturbance in the evenings when I'm trying to sleep, especially when her friends or boyfriend sleep over. I also want to mention I'm diagnosed with social anxiety disorder, and this situation is really uncomfortable for me. I've only messaged her a handful of times the months we've been living together because of this.\n\n​\n\nA couple weeks ago I contacted the dorm supervisor and informed him about my roommate. He talked with her, and for a few days she was nice and respectful. She got no punishment even though I told him she'd been breaking the rules. Then she continued like before with the sleepovers. Last night she had the TV on a bit loud, so I messaged her word for word: \"turn down the volume\" and the follow up \"hello?\" after a few minutes with no reaction. After a few minutes she turned off the TV and started having sex. I could hear the bedsprings and the wood creaking, and they're normally not vocal, but this time I could hear the boyfriend moaning loudly. I messaged her again, saying \"are you kidding me?\". No response to the messages until this morning when she wrote a really long and kind of angry message about how she's tried to please me and be respectful and that she has to be allowed to watch TV without me becoming angry. She said she doesn't understand why I'm living there if I can't handle her noise. We went back and forth for a bit, and I get the impression that she's turning the situation around on me. She did make me feel very bad, hence why I'm posting. I told her my main issue with her is that she has people over every night, and she responded \"it's sad you see it that way, but that's how it is\".\n\n​\n\nAm I really being an unreasonable, uptight, controlling asshole here when telling her to be more quiet? Do I just have to suck it up because I chose to live here?\n\nShe also mentioned that maybe I should move out if I think it's this bad. I don't think that's fair to me, considering she's breaking the rules and that my problem is with her and no one else in this dorm. So bonus question: WIBTA if I contact the dorm supervisors again, and potentially get her kicked out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VMBPQSMFBi9bzgY3zXsS5ZLhIrKQYW4F", "post_id": "agtp21", "action": {"description": "surprising my bf at work", "pronormative_score": 51, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For surprising my BF at work?", "text": "So Ive been with my boyfriend for 6 months. He works at a shop (retail, small business, very laid back, when it's slow they let him play Hearthstone on his phone). We don't live together, and he's was rostered on for 4 days in a row, meaning I couldnt see him until after his 4th shift (distance to his place/work makes visits difficult when he has work).  \n\n\nYesterday (day 3 out of 4) I was free and bored out of my mind and decided I would surprise my boyfriend at his work as I had never been there before, but they sell stuff I could use (it's an art supply store). I have never been to his work before, and we haven't discussed it, nor has he ever invited me, or told me not to go there.  \n\n\nWhen I arrived he seemed shocked. Like, when you're somewhere and your ex walks in and the colour drains from your face. He legitimately had the deer in the headlights look. It wasn't busy so he takes me to a quiet corner of the store (it's massive) and immediately starts saying I'm creepy and asking what I'm doing at his WORK and that it feels like I'm stalking him. Note that I have never done this before and I thought it would be a sweet gesture (which I told him). I've never turned up to where he lives uninvited, but going to his work felt like a sweet thing to do, especially since I havent been before.  \n\n\nWe haven't messaged since and I haven't organized to see him after his 4th/final shift of the week yet. Im just really confused because I havent done anything like this before and he hasnt like, told me not to visit his work before. AITA for surprising him? BTW the environment at his work is sooo chill he would definitely not have gotten in trouble for me visiting so I don't think it's that. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 44, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 51, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ssPsoenIWYX4B0iDKPGX0N3yRwU5OlDM", "post_id": "altrtd", "action": {"description": "wanting to do a separate dinner while on 3 week trip", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to do a separate dinner while on 3 week trip?", "text": "Throwaway account \n\nA friend and I are travelling together for 3 weeks. We\u2019ve taken these kind of trips multiple times before and it\u2019s going well.\n\nI love Indian food. He doesn\u2019t. At home I have Indian food two to three times a week. He eats it twice a year maximum. Two days ago a jokingly said I\u2019m craving Indian food, but given that I hadn\u2019t actually seen any Indian restaurants it was just in jest. Yesterday we were in a larger town and I saw multiple Indian restaurants, and I blurted out \u2018one of these evenings I\u2019m going to dump you and have Indian food, as I craving it\u2019. He got terribly offended and said I was being very rude for even suggesting it.\n\nI was surprised by the reaction, and said \u2018no, I\u2019m not being rude. You don\u2019t like Indian food, I love it\u2019.  I was told I should find a restaurant that serves curry and regular food to accommodate us both.\n\nWe\u2019re eaten almost every meal together on this trip. AITA for one wanting to do one meal eating something I love? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9DWR6CBcAg9MIuzgHMNZ9fo2eGcweMiE", "post_id": "as5t6u", "action": {"description": "refusing to let the guy with bad hygiene touch my Uno cards", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for refusing to let the guy with bad hygiene touch my Uno cards?", "text": "First off, any context I write I will put in brackets so if you dont want to read through it, just skip past, as I assum I am going to ramble a bit, I will try not to. Also sorry for my spelling. \n\n(i have an issue with grubby people, I understand and sympathise that not everyone has access to hygiene products or daily showers, but it deeply upsets me. For example, I once caught the person who always borrows a pen putting his hand under his pants to scratch his crack, so I binned all my stationary. This one time I sat next to a girl on a bus who sneezed without covering her nose, snot went everywhere, I got so angry I was shaking and didn't know wether to yell at her or shake her, so I cried. I also boil my cuttlery and plates I use before using them. To summarise, I am a freak. I really hate the way I am but sometimes I find it hard to control)\n\nAny way, me and my college friends play uno at lunch with my cards, I am aware how annoying I get when I keep asking them to make sure that all the cards are facing the same way, that they are in a neat pile, and I later found out from a friend it was super obvious that I check the state of peoples' hands (like, if they are sweaty or dirty nail beds) before we play. \n\nThere was this one guy who was my friend's cousin who was always there because (as his cousin words it) people in his class avoid him when possible, I feel bad for that but, he only ever talks about either himself, or video games, and if our group is focusing on someone else he will talk over and raise his voice till he gets his way. Also he smells like stale ball sweat and has no clue what personal space means.\nI find it hard to hide anger or discust, especiolly ( i really fucked that word, sorry) with this guy, couple weeks before the Uno incedant he farted next to me while I was eating, so I got up, binned my sandwich and walked away. Ever since he would do the biggest fart possible next to me.\n\nSo, we are at lunch, my mate is dealing when we spot him walk this way, we all groan, even his cousin. And he wants to play. Nobody says anything, they all look at me. At first I just say no. He laughs and says why, I try my hardest to be polite, he calls me anal and his cousin is looking at me trying to indicate that I should drop it..... I do the opposit.\n \"FOR ONE (HIS NAME) YOUR HANDS ARE ALWAYS MOIST AND GRUBBY, YOU STIN-\" I get cut off by my partner who is calming me down, but the damage was done and he walked away, his cousin blocked me and my guidence councilor wants a word with me.\n\n\nI know I will get hate, or at the very least mocked for my bad spelling. You are entitled to your opinion. But I really need to know, was I the ass? Does him calling me anal and farting next to me (purposly)  make it okay? Do I owe him a alology? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EOreJFp20RyNLxJ2R6TWRuV1FOZo8SbV", "post_id": "b28sng", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend over sandwich", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA if i got mad at my boyfriend over sandwich?", "text": "so, this story is from a while ago when i was with my (now ex) boyfriend. \n\na lil backstory: i was working full time as well as finishing my last year of high school. we had been together for a while, and he didnt work at all (and barely went to school lmao) so he had plenty of time on his hands. \n\nSO. i was at work, and i got off at 4 everyday (mon-fri) and i texted him on my last break that i was hungry. it was the week that I was supposed to get paid and i was running low on money.  he offered to make me a sandwich and give it to me when i got off work and i thought it was super nice of him. when he picked me up after my shift, i was super excited to eat the sandwich. i mean, i was thinking about it all afternoon. i get in the car and he hands me a bag. inside is what appears to be a sandwich. i take a bite, and i taste nothing. i start to dissect the sandwich and he had just. put BUTTER on the bread. and called that a sandwich. \n\ni mean, i appreciated the thought and the fact that he brought me that food, but if youre going to put so little effort into it, why bother? i was super mad at the time but it wasnt a huge issue, but every time i think about it it makes me irrationally angry. \n\nso, that being said. AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for making me a butter & butter sandwich?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9zTr5Eg5nB9sTIttwd0mdz57AO10Aby9", "post_id": "b34ylm", "action": {"description": "charging for a re-write after I did the initial work for free", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for charging for a re-write after I did the initial work for free?", "text": "Hi all,\n\nI recently graduated this December with a bachelor's in screenwriting. During my last semester, I took on a writing project for a fellow student to help with his senior overview. He's a film directing major, so his assignment was to direct a short film. Typically, the majors will write their shorts themselves, but it's not uncommon for them to consult the screenwriters.\n\nWhen he initially asked me, I was swamped with my own senior overview, as well a huge portfolio review, so I considered asking for payment then. However, a colleague suggested doing it for free since it's important to make connections during school.\n\nI met with him, took notes on his idea, and wrote the 20 or so pages, taking me about 8 hours of work throughout my week. He liked what I had, and that was the end of it. Until last week.\n\nHe texted me asking if I could \"change some things\" as he had some new ideas. I asked what his ideas were, and he basically wants the entire thing rewritten, which is fine because it's his project and he should commit to whatever his vision is.\n\nHowever, not that I'm not a student, I'm busy with the 9-5 and my own projects that I'm working on to further my career. So, I told him I'd be happy to fit it into my schedule, but I'd have to charge him $50 this time. I figured this price was reasonable for a freelance fee that would probably take another 5-8 hours to finish. I'd be working for around $6-10 an hour, which is table scraps compared to what's a standard charge.\n\nHe flipped out on me, calling me a piece of shit, telling me he should sue me, etc.\n\nMy gf and roommates support me, but a couple of my other friends say since I initially agreed to do it for free, I should have continued to do so.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "REqXWpjERzbqPnfcLQSE0DmFwWzW9Opd", "post_id": "ajwgwl", "action": {"description": "insisting my wife stop seeing her best friend and their kids", "pronormative_score": 40, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for insisting my wife stop seeing her best friend and their kids?", "text": "My wife is best friends with a woman who is an anti-vaxxer. We have 3 children under 6. My wife's friend has two kids. They spend time together with the kids pretty much everyday while I'm at work.  My wife is pregnant and I want her to not bring our soon to be newborn anywhere near her friend and her kids. Of course this isn't going over well. She wants to know how many vaccines I want our newborn to have before I'm comfortable with it and I don't have a good answer. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 40, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ODl4kDDGINnmNIDBd7BZgfTSwpLqdlvk", "post_id": "ac2bwk", "action": {"description": "offering advice on tinder", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for offering advice on tinder?", "text": "So I matched with a woman on tinder today and once I saw her bio, I was immediately turned off. The entire thing was about how much she hated 'crybabies' and 'pansies'. \"No this, no that etc...\" \nIt was kinda like r/choosingbeggars \n\nWell I think it's perfectly  acceptable to have platonic conversations on tinder. All I wanted to tell her was that I could understand not wanting to be with a crybaby, but maybe don't focus on the negative so much and talk more about what you do want. Well , it wasn't the first time my big mouth has gotten me into trouble.  I can't post a screen shot of her reply because I unmatched once I read the whole thing. She wrote back a message as long as my arm in under five minutes. \nSaying:\" You dont know what I've been through\" the rest of it was repetitively finding  more creative ways to call me a snowflake  cuck faggot. It was intense!\n\nI only meant to offer some positive feedback, but I clearly overstepped. \n\nTl;dr: told someone to relax on tinder and to try to be more positive, it did not go over well. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "S0Q2zCn4XYANyJtgZRolFMjwbH5kKbJm", "post_id": "atr044", "action": {"description": "kicking out my cousin and making him live in a mens shelter", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for kicking out my cousin and making him live in a mens shelter.", "text": "so we had a cousin who moved in with us after his mum and dad kicked him out. big mistake in letting him in. \n\nhe sleeps in all day, refuses to pay rent and has fallen asleep while babysitting our 3 kids under 5, he also never showers and smokes around the kids. \n\nhe also eats all the food my autistic kid gets for his specific diet. \n\nnow he was refusing to leave and also refusing to pay $100 rent, we got mad and called the police he was forced out and was told to not come back.  he then came back a few days later and demanded we give him is stuff so we threw it out the window and told him to fuck off. \n\nhe is now crying to the family calling us assholes and now I'm worried we are \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M6uECVyl21RfX9sxuKGhvK9766yG6Xkk", "post_id": "b0ugp3", "action": {"description": "not speaking to my friend after she said malicious things about me, because I went home early for my 5 am shift", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not speaking to my friend after she said malicious things about me, because I went home early for my 5 am shift ?", "text": "Tldr; friends neighbor had the hots for me, asked to have a drink with us while me and her were spending the day together. He couldn't make it to lunch, and didnt make it to the pool either. I didn't mind, figured we would rain check. He was finally free around the time I had to head home for a 5 am shift, friend got rude with me and continuously pressured me to stay. Her neighbor also made a rude remark towards me. I then notice her texting him rude shit about me, all after I had just treated her to a nice day. I feel very disrespected. We haven't spoken yet because I wanted to cool off first, but now i am wondering if I should even bother at all.\n\n\nSeems fickle but I'm wondering if I'm missing something, A friend of mine has a neighbor who wanted to have a drink with me because he found me attractive. I agreed because I had a nice interaction with him and thought he was interesting and fun. So She invited him to lunch with us, He couldn't make it due to work, no biggie I didnt mind. She invited him to the pool, he never showed, still NBD. Then around 5 or 530 he said he said he would be back in an hour, and asked what beer he should pick up. I told my friend whatever was fine but she forced me to choose, so I settled on stella. He texts my friend shortly after 8 pm that he wants to head over, when I was already about to head home for my 5 am shift. She gets upset and tells me Im being rude multiple times while continuously pressuring me to stay, because it was rude of me to ask him to pick up beer and not at least have one drink (I didn't ask, he offered).\n\nI apologized and explain at least 3 or 4 times that she knew I had work early and it was my ultimate priority, i previously explained to her earlier in the day I would be leaving by 8 or 9. I asked if we could rain check, but nope. Her neighbor proceeded to open his patio door and make a rude remark to me from across the yard, I then notice that shes slandering me while texting him saying things to the effect of ''omg I'm going to murder her\" among other things.\n\n  To top it off, I had walked her dogs for her on this day because she was hungover, as well as treated her to lunch and Starbucks because she lost her credit card the night before. I cant help but feel incredibly disrespected because I have never treated a friend this way even when they upset me, I simply address it. Now, I'm a very blunt person and I dont want to be a complete dickhead about this when i address the issue, even though I feel it would be warranted.  Personally, I feel I have done nothing wrong by choosing to prioritize my work. And seeing as how I didn't get upset when he didnt show up 2 times that day, I felt they shouldn't be on my ass about being tired. Help me out if theres a perspective I'm missing.\n\nAm i the asshole here ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "b4Tkc3hXG8MhtqRapnnOFAnOi02S8dVX", "post_id": "b9rfdc", "action": {"description": "uninviting my friend from a party", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA if I uninvite my friend from a party", "text": "​\n\nA little context: my friend E has been very toxic towards me and my friend V recently, we are trying to distance ourselves. She also recently ended a friendship with a close friend who we'll call T. \n\nWell, V's birthday is coming up this weekend and I decided to throw a surprise party for V and I have been planning and such. Well, because of one of my other roommates we can't have the party at my apartment so I asked T if he would be willing to host. He agreed. I had to decide who to invite to the party and I thought about inviting E but since the party is at T's house I wasn't sure if that was the best idea. I decided to give it some more thought throughout the week.\n\nAs I continued planning I was still unsure on whether or not to invite E. Well flash forward to last night, me, E, and another friend who is invited to the party, are hanging out. E asks \"what are you guys doing tomorrow\". I'm honest with her and I say \"Well this weekend is V's birthday and so we're throwing a surprise party but it is at T's house\". She takes a beat and without me saying anything else she exclaims \"I don't care, I wanna be there for V\". This annoyed me as she just assumed that she was invited. But whatever, I told her I would talk to T about it. Obviously I would have to ask permission from T because he's already doing a lot for us and I don't want him feeling uncomfortable in his own home and stuff.\n\nA little later in the night she asks me who's coming and I begin to tell her, however, two of the people coming are people that she cutoff as friends (besides T), one of them being my girlfriend and the other a close friend from my hometown. She exclaimed sarcastically \"how FUN this is going to be\". That comment obviously annoyed me because that's my girlfriend she's complaining about.\n\nThe night goes on and I talk to V's girlfriend about E inviting herself and she tells me that V doesn't really want her at the party anyway. I think about it a little longer and I think about how I think it's unfair to T and to me as well because E is putting me in a tough situation because I've already asked for so much from T and he's been incredibly generous, and I think it's unfair to T because you don't get to just end a friendship with someone and then just expect to be invited into their house. Additionally I know that E would be miserable since about one third of the party she doesn't like (it is a small party) and it would just make everyone uncomfortable. So finally I decide that I'm just going to tell her not to come. I sent her a fairly long text message and I try to just be super nice and explain that this isn't an easy situation and I think it would be best if she didn't come. However, it was fairly late and she had already fallen asleep so as of now I'm still waiting for a response.\n\nI don't know, I feel like I'm being fairly reasonable but maybe I'm being unfair, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MHyqkzZQ9tqHCCDLK0X6melfOv0alLcb", "post_id": "b1jcvo", "action": {"description": "not wanting my boyfriend to read my Reddit comments", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my boyfriend to read my Reddit comments?", "text": "My boyfriend knows my Reddit account and I know his. He likes to read my Reddit comments but I never ever read his.\n\nSometimes I'll post a comment on AskReddit, something innocent like \"I had a sandwich for lunch last week\" and a few days later we might be talking and he'll say something like \"I saw that you ate a sandwich the other day\"\n\nExcept I've never specifically told him that I've eaten a sandwich. He only knows that I've eaten a sandwich because he was snooping on my Reddit account. \n\nI know that Reddit comments are public, but I can't help but feel a bit skeeved that he's constantly reading every single thing I post on the internet.\n\nI could make another account, but then it feels like I'm doing something wrong, like I'm hiding something from him. I promise I have nothing to hide, I just don't want somebody reading over my shoulder. I've never felt the need to read everything he posts online, what he does online is his own business. I trust him enough to keep out of trouble. And for the record, I never post anything bad. It's a few silly comments here and there, I'm not posting pics on Gonewild or saying things like \"I'm having an affair on my boyfriend\". \n\nSo I'm torn. I know I'm not doing anything bad, but I still don't want somebody to read it, but I'll admit that he's not doing really anything bad either since it is obviously public. But it still feels wrong and I don't like it. But I don't know if I'm allowed to not like it. It's a very confusing situation!\n\nTo me, it's a lot like him going out to the bar with his friends and coming home and me asking \"Alright, now tell me literally every single story and joke you told all of your friends while I wasn't with you!\" Those comments weren't meant for you! It's not that I don't want him to know any of this stuff, but I'll tell you the stories when I feel like telling you the stories!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4ntv7R4KF5lI5uTbDjww7zi75ebt0xMm", "post_id": "auc56x", "action": {"description": "wanting to spend more time with my girlfriend doing things we both like", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for Wanting to Spend More Time with my Girlfriend Doing Things we Both Like?", "text": "So, let me start with a bit of backstory. When I was a kid, I had no friends, due to multiple reasons such as, Asperger's, OCD and being shy. The only friends I did have we would fight all the time, or would only play with me cause I have a lot of video games and would completely ignore me. Later on, when I was 15, it as well as a number of other things caused me to develop depression. Now when I don't talk to anyone for a while, I break down and have huge emotional episodes. I had a few relationships in the past, all of them over the internet. Some with girls once with a boy who later emotionally and mentally abused me. Then I met my current GF and we've been pretty good for over a year but recently she's seemed more distant.\n\nShe's been having to do a lot such as schoolwork, family and friends. I do get that and I try my best to not have such bad episodes but I do end up having them. When she's finally free, I beg her to please spend time with me doing something we both like doing together. It's gotten to the point where I barter with her in an attempt to do something with me that we both like but I often end up doing something I don't want to do just to get as much attention from her as I can. Often times she won't do anything with me unless it's something she wants to do, regardless of if I want to do it or not.\n\nI get that she needs free time and that it's important to do things she wants to do but I miss when we did things we were both happy doing together. And I know people will think I'm clingy, I do realize that but my GF has said on multiple occasions that she likes how clingy I am\n\nTLDR; GF almost always wants to do things that I don't enjoy doing but rarely the other way around. Gotten so bad that I barter with her and lose pretty much every time.\n\nAITA for wanting to do things we both like to do together or occasionally being able to do something I'd like to do?\n\nSorry if there are any grammar mistakes, I'm not very good with grammar. Also, please be gentle, I have a hard time with criticism but I'll do my best to take everything at face value.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GgYFzOdqDAfcLAhnwVJFTKEpmDjYdf1w", "post_id": "b12ppr", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Read Through My Boyfriends Phone", "text": "This is with an ex boyfriend from a couple years ago and has kind of confused me ever since it happened. We were playing basketball and after a while I wanted to check the time but I didn\u2019t have my phone on me (girls pants have no pockets rip). So I asked my boyfriend if I could check the time on his phone. He says yeah and when he hands me the phone he suddenly yanks it out of my hand and reads the time to me. I\u2019m like.., why are you acting so suspicious and kind of laugh it off but he starts getting upset and says he\u2019s not being suspicious while turning away from me with his phone. I say you\u2019re hiding something aren\u2019t you? And he\u2019s like no I\u2019m not. It finally ends with me asking to see his phone and that if he has nothing to hide then it shouldn\u2019t be a big deal because We regularly had access to each other\u2019s phones anyways. He reluctantly agrees and he stands with me as I go and check his message. It wasn\u2019t a huge deal - he was trying to hide that he was going to try and ferry alcohol back and forth from his roommate to his underage friends. The thing that upset me though is that I had let him know that I was extremely uncomfortable with underage drinking and did not want to support it. It was my boundary with dating him and he said he would respect that and not get involved. \n\nHe gets super apologetic and sorry, I\u2019m more hurt than mad that he lied about this and tried to hide it. When it wasn\u2019t getting through to me he started getting mad and yelling at me for going through his phone and invading his privacy. I thought that it was fine because he gave me permission and was there with me the whole time. He never agreed so I apologized but AITA? \n\nTLDR: boyfriend gave me permission to read his messages after he was being suspicious. Got mad after the fact and when his apologies didn\u2019t work. AITA for reading his phone? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "EU2y4UD8qY7jjtyXhpDc2H7ZxCwb7MPc", "post_id": "a4yavs", "action": {"description": "spending money when my friend needs donations for her irresponsible husband", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for spending money when my friend needs donations for her irresponsible husband?", "text": "TDLR; My best friends husband just got paralyzed and I just bought a mattress and feel really guilty about it since I\u2019ve only donated a certain amount to them.\n\nI have been best friends with this person for 10 years. Let\u2019s call her BF. Her husband will be BFH for best friend\u2019s husband. \n\nI met her when BFH was in jail for his second DUI. He got out in 3 months and he never drove drunk again. \n\nI desperately wanted her to find someone better but pretty soon he grew on me and we all became good friends. They later got married and just bought a house. \n\nMy husband and I have been saving for 3 years now and rarely spend any money. They always give us a hard time for being so stingy when we probably make the most money out of all of our friends. But for Christmas and wedding presents, we dish out a large amount for them. Also, they are constantly buying big screen TVs and cars and motorcycles and my husband and I have hand me down cars and even hand me down TVs (from my parents). They always come over our house and give us a hard time that we should just buy an 80 inch TV like them. All in good fun but a little bit roasty.\n\nBFH got into a motorcycle accident last month and he\u2019s now paralyzed. They will get money from the accident but I don\u2019t know how long that will take in court. Meanwhile we provided a large initial donation, but I constantly feel guilty that we have savings and we\u2019re using it to buy a mattress. BTW, our current mattress is 20 years old and a hand me down so we are overdue. I don\u2019t know how to be their friend anymore. I feel like they should sell their TVs and stuff instead of asking for donations but they ask for money every 2 weeks. \n\nI just bought a $12 sweater that I feel guilty about. At what point should I stop feeling guilty? How can I approach this? She isn\u2019t coping well and she keeps saying that I don\u2019t know what it\u2019s like. He\u2019s in diapers forever, wheelchair, etc. I tell her she is lucky she has so much support. My Nparents would slave us for help and wouldn\u2019t even help as much as she\u2019s getting from her parents. Help!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZRXKt6guY2dx0lC07PlzqHn7nRpqbTcy", "post_id": "aaaufh", "action": {"description": "telling my husband I don't want his mother to visit us", "pronormative_score": 116, "contranormative_score": 31}, "title": "AITA for telling my husband I don\u2019t want his mother to visit us?", "text": "Normally my MIL visits us every spring. She works at a school so she spends spring break with us. She is a kind and sweet woman, but she lets her daughter push her around and is not very bright. I have to keep a close eye on her to make sure she\u2019s not creating dangerous situations for my small children. I like her, but it\u2019s difficult to have her here. \n\nLast summer she planned to come out in July (without asking us first) instead of March with my SIL and her husband as well . Turns out this was all the sisters idea. My SIL has never visited us, never met either of my children. Overall is just a terrible person. I can\u2019t stand her because of the way she treats my husband. \n\nSo basically it went like this: \nSIL: We\u2019re coming out for this week in July. \n\nMe: That\u2019s not a good time for us, Husband can\u2019t take time off work that week. I have plans. Let\u2019s look at a different week. \n\nSIL: No that\u2019s all we can do. So we will be there. End of discussion. \n\nSo I changed all my plans. We set up the beds. Had everything ready for a visit that we didn\u2019t want to host. Then they don\u2019t show up and check in on fb getting on a cruise ship. I have to say I was pretty relieved that I didn\u2019t have to spend a week with my SIL and try to hide the fact that I\u2019d like to kill her. My husband on the other hand was devastated. No one called him or let him know. We had to tell the kids memaw wasn\u2019t coming to visit after all. It was a disaster. \n\nSo now, my MIL wants to just pretend nothing ever happened and come visit us in March this year. I told my husband no. I said I don\u2019t want her here until she acknowledges how badly she and her daughter hurt his feelings and the feelings of my kids. They were completely out of line and I will not ignore that! \n\nAITA for not allowing this to be swept under the rug? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 114, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 116, "WRONG": 31}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n5DLiJoIrzxqh2vRhIW8WSujleDg8S6D", "post_id": "a98tnr", "action": {"description": "telling my partner I didn't want her to be around her sexual assaulter", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my partner I didn't want her to be around her sexual assaulter", "text": "My partner is from a tight-knit community a bit afield. We've been dating about 6mo, a few months ago she had spoke to me about a time when she was assaulted when she was 19 (10 years ago) - She passed out drunk and had woken up with some guys fingers inside her basically. The guy told people she came onto him and half of her friend group believed the guy and effectively silenced her. \n\nWe were at her parents a few months ago and she was talking about xmas eve and how I should come over to her parents and she'd drop me at mine in the morning and we could do something with her friends or sisters. \n\nHer assaulter is also from this town, and they often bump into each other at xmas eve. Couple of weeks ago when we were drunk I said I wouldn't really be comfortable if he might be there, and rather she wasn't either - and that if I was drunk and something escalated I wouldn't be able to control myself. She said that would be 'mortifying for the community' and I said I was disinvited and we didn't really speak about it properly again.\n\nSo now, my first xmas eve alone in almost 12 yrs and she's text me saying she's just getting ready to go meet the girls in that pub..AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "04Ahth26802K3pChsMXLcIvWAkMqrDBz", "post_id": "alttqd", "action": {"description": "taking a potty training break", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking a potty training break?", "text": "Im a stay at home mom and I\u2019ve been potty training my 3 1/2 year old for nearly a year and it\u2019s going nowhere. I\u2019ve tried literally everything to get him to use the potty and he just doesn\u2019t care. Today after once again cleaning up poopy undies I decided I needed a mental health break from potty training, I\u2019m losing my temper far too often. I figured I\u2019d keep him in diapers and then when he poops or pees in them I\u2019ll give him a shower and let him put on his own diaper, to hopefully show him how much easier it is to go in the potty. \n\nI texted my husband jokingly saying that I\u2019m done potty training and I\u2019ve decided to just teach our son to change his own diaper. So my husband went on this huge tirade basically telling me I\u2019m a neglectful mother and that he\u2019ll divorce me if I do this. He told me that since I have so much free time(because I\u2019m a sahm) I need to do more research and come up with more ideas to potty train him but when I say I\u2019ve tried everything I mean literally everything. There is not a single idea on any website I\u2019ve found that tells me anything new. \n\nSo AITA for wanting to take a break from potty training my son? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DN25RT5tutulJZzQsfWiVYefjTWNOCrC", "post_id": "a7bzog", "action": {"description": "just not caring for my folks anymore", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for just not caring for my folks anymore?", "text": "Hey guys. Bit of context here. Back in May, I (25F) decided I wanted to get my childhood hero as a small tattoo. When I decided to tell my folks, there was a massive, and I mean MASSIVE argument. Shit being thrown about like eviction, public appearances, pregnancies, all sorts. My folks are controlling and emotionally manipulative, to the point that I honestly don\u2019t know if I love them anymore. \n\nThe tattoo being denied hurt me a lot, as I have nothing but respect for them. I spoke to all of my friends and my BF (22M) and they agreed they went too far. \n\nMy folks make snarky comments about how my BF isn\u2019t well off, and about how we should always go on holidays because otherwise what\u2019s the point of annual leave. \n\nThey also keep insisting that they prefer me being pregnant rather that have a \u201cdisgusting ink blob\u201d on my skin. They constantly control what I wear, and if it\u2019s not good enough they\u2019ll shout \u201cpeople will think you have nothing to wear, you always wear the same shit\u201d. \n\nI\u2019m sick and tired of dealing with them, to the point where they INSIST I give them goodnight kissies *shudders*, or I get yelled at because \u201cit\u2019s a family thing\u201d. \n\nSo, fellow redditors, AITA for just giving up and not giving a crap anymore about them? Please be as honest and as brutal as you can. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UiYSBjAN860Jpb0QxiBHnXSJWgbp3OUo", "post_id": "aft5yp", "action": {"description": "wanting my boyfriend to put down Smash bros. u while talking to me every once in a while", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting my boyfriend to put down Smash bros. U while talking to me every once in a while.", "text": "So I have been with my boyfriend for well over a year now, we have been pulling off a long distance relationship for a while, and we enjoy playing games online together (which I consider important to the story as a sign that I do not hate video games).\nThe problem started not too long ago after the new smash bros came out, of course we both got it and enjoy it. I play it very casually, during my break at work and at home if I feel like it (but honestly not for long and once or twice a day)... My boyfriend on the other hand plays it morning and after work sometimes going to sleep as late as 4:00 am playing.\n\nSo far I guess is pretty normal for \"gamers\" I suppose, I have done that myself with other games, but here's the thing, he plays while we talk and he would constantly interrupt and completely stop conversations because of something that happens in game. \nI try not to show my irritation but the fact that I could be talking about my day and be cut off by a sudden \"EAT SHIT [insert fire emblem character here]\" followed a \"oh yeah I'm listening... what was that last part tho?\" Is getting annoying.\n\nNot so long ago we had a really serious argument about our relationship, and I demanded for him to take it seriously and put the game down, which he got extremely upset about and proceeded to... lower the volume of the game... yup... unfortunately he smashes the controller so hard I could tell he was still playing and made me explode, he defended himself by saying he is capable of multitasking, but I don't think your GSP is as important as to having an stable relationship.\n\nThings that I know are my fault: \n\u25cf even though we talked things out I never truly expressed how I felt about him constantly playing. I haven't done it yet and I know I should, I don't like hiding things from him but I am afraid of sounding like an asshole. \n\nMaybe there's something I am not seeing, I could be exaggerating, I want to hear your opinion, sorry for the bad grammar English is my second language.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5I87njcVPlVnqENKpaGPXr5OtI5iY0en", "post_id": "ar2unv", "action": {"description": "getting pissed at my husband for having friends over", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting pissed at my husband for having friends over?", "text": "I left work early today because I seemed to have caught the stomach bug being passed around the office. I'm the type of person who normally will work through my sickness, so it's pretty bad if I stay home.\n\nAnyways, my husband, who knows I'm sick and left work early, calls me when he's almost home to see if I need anything. He also says, \"Oh btw, so and so are coming over tonight.\" I told him I'd rather not have company over, given the circumstances. I've barely been able to leave the toilet. I also have to work in the morning, and there's still a lot to be done around the house tonight before we (hopefully) leave on a weekend trip tomorrow afternoon. Plus the house needs some cleaning, and he knows I hate having company over without warning. After again explaining all of this too him, he says, \"Well, they're already on their way over.\" We've been working a lot, so we haven't seen our friends as much lately, but I'd rather not have them over being loud drinking and gaming tonight.\n\nI was hoping to try and explain this to him again when he got home, but of course, our friends walked in the door with him. I'm not the type to cause a scene either. However, now I've pretty much quarantined myself in a room without talking to him. He can't seem to figure out what's wrong with this whole picture.\n\nSo, am I being the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BlgMT4VEKfuychLnH64yqmJCaQldSfsx", "post_id": "al2l78", "action": {"description": "not going to my girlfriends dads funeral", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 281}, "title": "AITA for not going to my girlfriends dads funeral?", "text": "So, my girlfriend is 19, I'm 22. Her dad had suffered from cancer for around 16 years but was severely ill for the past 3. My girlfriend's mum loves abroad so she was his full time carer for her dad and kinda just gave her life to him. \nHe could no longer remember who she is or toilet himself. She just took it all on her stride, I've still never seen her cry and I lived with her and her dad at the end. \n\nHe died one morning when I was asleep and she was kinda in shock I think. \n\n She had to pay for the funeral herself and arrange it all. We different religiously, she is an atheist and I was raised Catholic. Her dad was also atheist and requested to be buried in a cardboard box, no headstone or religious speak. She arranged a woodland burial. \n\nI told her I wouldnt go because it makes me uncomfortable, to me it is awful to be burying him in that way. I understand that it's her choice and totally respect that but when she assumed I'd be there with her I told her that I'd rather not go because it is so far removed from an appropriate funeral, in my opinion. \n\nShe says I'm being selfish and putting my religion before her feelings and our relationship. I told her I'll drop her off, pick her up and support her throughout her grievance but I just don't want to go to the funeral. She hadn't spoken to me since. \n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 281, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 281}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "dMZTN0FXAR3E6UNqmdhOHuZIWum0dobc", "post_id": "a8y0eg", "action": {"description": "ghosting this guy I've been talking to from a dating app", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA if I ghost this guy I\u2019ve been talking to from a dating app?", "text": "So I was messaged on Friday by someone who seemed really cute and from his profile, we had a lot in common. We\u2019ve been chatting since. The only thing I noticed was that he seemed a bit on the immature side, but I thought let\u2019s just talk and see where it goes. Then yesterday he sent me a photo of him when he was out drinking and I realized he looks nothing like his profile pic. Like zero. He looks like a completely different person. So I asked for another picture today (since he\u2019s sober now) and yep he looks nothing like his photos from his profile. He appears older, much heavier and has a completely different haircut + his hair is died a different color. I feel kind of duped, but I also don\u2019t want to be judgemental.  At the same time I feel like being a bit of a different from your profile pic is one thing but he looks like an entirely different person and I just don\u2019t think that\u2019s fair.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CdolPFetQb4VMhCghRuqS4pUkCAS0oBA", "post_id": "agy0pj", "action": {"description": "confronting my girlfriend about her best friend", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I confront my girlfriend about her best friend", "text": "This is going to be a wild ride.\n\nOkay, lets start with a little of a backstory. Me and my friend were out partying one day 2 years ago and started talking to 2 girls we have just met. Call them S and F. Now things happen and I am in a relationship with F like 2 months later. Things happen again and my buddy suddnely is in a relationship with S. Lucky us, huh?\n\nFast forward a few months and S tells me she would rather be with me than with my buddy. As the honest guy I am I tell my buddy because thats a really shitty situation. My buddy and S have a fight but get over it. Of course i also told my girlfriend (F) about it, who went absolutely mental, blocked all communication to both of them and forbid me to see at least S (my buddy by himself was kind of okay although she did definetly didnt like to hear about it if we met up)\n\nI accept that because i love her and i understand the problem because this girl obviously would try to hit on me one day. So its fine.\n\nFast forward more than a year of very little contact to S and my buddy, because obviously he cant always tell his girlfriend that she cant come with us because my girlfriend has a problem with that, so it was easier to just meet up less. We stayed good friends however and it was not that much drama because S and my friend moved away and he had to work on saturdays so he was not around too much. \n\nThen F breaks up with me. It fucked me up but S and my friend really had my back. Friday after work i drove to their place and stayed there until Sunday in the evening. For 5 weeks. They are great people. \n\nJealousy was a problem in my relationship with F for the past 2 years, but we both made kind of irrational petty statements about it. I am guilty aswell and i know that but i promised her to keep away from S als long we were in a relationship and I did. \n\nWell after said 5 weeks we talk to eachother. We can both see the relationship from a different and more objective point of view and decide to try it again because we both miss eachother.\n\nSince my bro and his girlfriend really backed me in hard times i tell F that i am not going to cut ties with them again. I understand if she does not want me to see S, which is okay to me.  \n\nWithin the 5 weeks that we didnt see eachother F met someone she considers her \"friend\". Well idk about that because i think he is a really bad influence and also he's quite obviously hitting on her for the past 8 weeks or so. My girlfriend is totally aware about that and somehow also brags with it a little bit. She told me that he makes around 5k-8k\u20ac a month by literally ripping off people by manipulating the software of cars he buys off private sellers and reselling them. \n\nShe proudly showed me the chats and tbh its really really obvious to me as a guy that hes trying really hard. \n\nThing is: Since jealousy has been such a major problem in our past relationship I dont want to confront her about it because she never gave me a reason to not trust her. But it's not only me being jaelous but also my disgust for this guy about how he earns his money. \n\nALSO: This is kind of a similar situation that i have been in when S told me she wants to be with me and my girlfriend reacted by forbidding me to talk to her. We have now been together for nearly a month now and i dont want to sound like an asshole because the past month our relationship was literally perfect (coming from both of us, we definetly learned to value eachother more)\n\nSo\n\nWIBTA if i confront her about my dislike of her spending time with him?\n\n​", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l3wCA3zj2aBq1sX3Va94d1fqQD4D5q8D", "post_id": "9y08tw", "action": {"description": "deciding to move on from one of my closest friends", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for deciding to move on from one of my(M22) closest friends(F21)?", "text": "Hello, this is a pretty long story so grab some popcorn..\n\nWhen I was around 16, I met a girl playing online video games. I am now 22 and I have never met this girl in person, neither have I heard her voice or follow her in any social media. On the other hand, she has heard me, knows my social media, has pics of me etc. I did push multiple times to get to know her more in real life, her argument was that she was shy. Tbh, I don\u2019t even think she ever told me her real name (Although she claimed multiple times that it is in fact her real name). I\u2019ve seen a few pics of her but the last one I saw was over a year ago. \n\nI care about her deeply because we really connected when we were younger, she knows everything about me and I mostly know everything about her. As we got older we kind of stopped talking as much compared to when we were younger. Often, throughout the years we both got flirty and fantasized about maybe one day getting married and moving in together etc (Keep in mind, I still don\u2019t know anything about her). Fast forward to 2 nights ago, I got a message from her saying she misses me etc. (For the last year, she did this: Texted me once a month, have a convo \\[we always have great convos\\] and after a few hours of texting, she\u2019d ignore me me until approximately the next month). I told her how I feel: I want to and been wanting to get to know her real life version more (her voice, add her in social media like I have friends added, etc). I told her that until she decided to be completely real with me I\u2019d appreciate it if she stops messaging me. \n\nShe then replied and told me she\u2019s sorry for how this friendship has been one sided and apologizes deeply. She then mentions that for the last year she has been extremely depressed due to her Mom passing away, she feels lost and I was her only escape whenever she would text me to talk for a bit. \n\nI was not aware that her Mom passed away, despite how close we are, she never mentioned anything to me. I did notice she was depressed because I can tell, which is why I have always been there to reply back to her until 2 nights ago when I ran out of patience. \n\nI feel like a major asshole for telling her to stop communicating with me at this moment where she still feels down, lost and depressed. I know I was not aware of her Mom passing away but I still can\u2019t shake this feeling of guilt away. She won\u2019t reply to my texts at all. Idk what to do. I stopped trying to get a text back and in my last text to her I told her that I\u2019m still here for her if she needs anything at all. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5VjQZbpij5ca4m7BuLdnGro7U5wqJBWD", "post_id": "a4h5ci", "action": {"description": "badmouthing a delivery service", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For badmouthing a delivery service?", "text": "Sorry for any formatting issues I\u2019m on mobile \n\n\nThis only happened about a half hour ago but, me and two other friends had ordered take out from a local sushi place. When we arrived they told us it would be about a 10 minute wait, no big deal we decided to sit at a booth right next to the till until our food was ready. As we were waiting a delivery driver from UberEats walked in and leaned on the wall next to our booth while she waited for her pick up. \n\n\nSeeing her walk in sparked a question from my friend asking if I\u2019ve ever used the service ( since they just started operating in our city) I told him yes and that I enjoyed using it quite a bit. He began asking more question about how it worked, how long it takes, etc... At this point I could kind of tell the delivery driver was listening in but I didn\u2019t think much of it.  He proceeds to ask me how tipping works. I say that \u201cI tip if they\u2019re nice and if I have the extra money too\u201d I then said however it can be awkward if you don\u2019t tip and then you get the same driver the next time you order. To clarify I tip almost all the time unless the service is really bad or I just don\u2019t have the extra money in my account to do so. \n\n\nSo at that point the delivery driver chimes in and says \u201cI work for UberEats you should really watch what you say\u201d at that point my friends and I are kind of confused. My friend just says \u201cexcuse me\u201d and before he can finish she said \u201cif you can\u2019t afford to tip us then you shouldn\u2019t be eating out or you should order less\u201d I\u2019m a pretty anxious person so I just apologize and turn back to my friends hoping that was it. As I\u2019m turning back to my friends she says that drivers \u201crely on tips to pay the bills\u201d . I can see my friend getting pretty agitated that this point and he blurts out \u201cif you rely on tips to survive maybe you should look for another job!\u201d She seemed taken aback so she turned away and went back to playing on her phone. \n\n\nShe ended up getting her order before we did so as she was walking out she said \u201cbye guys just going back to my shitty job\u201d at that point we didn\u2019t care so we all told her to have a nice night. As we were walking out she just stared us down from her car. We\u2019re my comments mean? Or was I wrong in my assumption that you don\u2019t need to tip? I felt pretty bad after this went down and I just want to know if I was out of line ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bCi4boErI7hg1ujen6EpUS1gw6feZkFB", "post_id": "b7c8lf", "action": {"description": "kissing my friend on the cheek while drunk", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for kissing my friend on the cheek while drunk?", "text": "I  am \\[22 M\\] and I have been in love with my friend \\[22 F\\] for 3 years now. At first I didn't want to show it because I knew she didn't like me in that way. But last year I confessed to her that I want to be more than friends. She told me no and that she would like to remain friends. I agreed because I have never felt so good hanging out with someone and I thought my feelings for her will fade, but it's kinda hard and I like her more and more every day.\n\nI  never had feelings for someone like I have for her. I always try to say how much she means to me and compliment her  because I really feel that way and I thought if somebody told me something like that I would be happy. But I started feeling that she doesn't like getting complimented by me so I asked her if I should stop telling her how much I care for her. She said she doesn't mind it, but I stopped anyways because I had a feeling she doesn't like it. I don't know why but it isn't easy to hold it in me when I am with her but I wasn't really complimenting her the last 3 months.\n\nBut yesterday we were on a birthday party from a mutual friend. I got really drunk and I told everybody that I am going home. She said she would walk me home and I agreed. When we were walking I told her that my male friends often tease me about her because they know I would only like to be with her, but I told her that I told them that we will never be together  romantically. As we came to my apartment I hugged her and told her I love her more than anybody and kissed her twice on the cheek. She went back to the party and I went to bed. I don't remember how she reacted because I was really drunk. We are talking normally since then, but I am afraid I overstepped the friendship boundaries and I don't know if I should apologize to her?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6sMpAY0MJRGipq2B4pNMCuWmOSvBmxEE", "post_id": "b6av79", "action": {"description": "being upset that my gf got too drunk and woke up in a stranger's bed", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my gf got too drunk and woke up in a stranger's bed?", "text": "Might be a long story, some background first: been with her for a year, she's asexual (doesn't feel sexual attraction but still gets horny/has sex) so i don't believe she had malicious intent or did anything. I don't know or trust the guy she was with and I am pretty certain of him being into her. I am just still really upset and feel very wronged even though we have already talked about it.\n\n​\n\nNow, I am not very controlling and I do not like to tell my partners what to do. I only ask that I be messaged when she gets home so I know that she's safe. She did not do that on that day which worried me, I knew she was out drinking which is fine but i just told her to be responsible and not overdo it. Sure enough she overdid it and texted me the next morning that she woke up in that man's bed and was panicking and did not know what occurred before during her drunk blackout. \n\n​\n\nI was upset, angry, full of hate and rage and betrayal and had no idea what to do.  From the scene that she painted me that morning I had thought 1 of 2 things: she cheated on me or he got her too drunk on purpose so as to take advantage of her while passed out. She went to her normal activities that day and saw him and apparently talked it out and it was a big misunderstanding and nothing happened that night. She woke up where she passed out fully clothed, etc. She did a poor job of communicating that with me and I had still assumed i had been cheated on or she had been taken advantage of, both of which filled me with such anger and sadness. We got in a huge argument about it and i told her not to see him anymore because he can't be trusted. Eventually we worked it out to the point where I told her to do what she wants as long as she's safe and to not scare me like that. Since then she is still going out and drinking with him late into the night and it still bugs me. I feel like my emotions got fucked with pretty bad and got the short end of the stick of this whole mess. I am really glad that she's ok and wasn't hurt but this whole thing left a sour taste in my mouth. AITA for being upset about all this? \n\n​\n\ntl:dr: ldr gf got black out drunk and woke up in some guys bed, AITA for being upset still?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y9nmlYFXMeF9hBlMYyLuMZafXY6Oql0W", "post_id": "ablinu", "action": {"description": "double booking myself for plans with friends", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for double booking myself for plans with friends ?", "text": "So me and a few friends have a gig planned for the 23rd feb (a Saturday) one of whom is a friend from home, not uni, and has to get a 3 hour train  journey to my uni city to come to the gig with us. I also made plans with another uni friend for a DIFFERENT gig in Manchester, on the 22nd feb (the friday), which we would stay overnight at. Manchester is not far from my uni city at all, so there\u2019s more than enough time to get home in the morning before the next gig on Saturday night. I told my home friend these plans in a conversation about her train times, to make sure I\u2019d be back in time for her arriving. She then tells me she had been planning on coming to my uni city to visit on the THURSDAY before the gig, to make the visit longer. I had no idea about this and apologised to her that I wouldn\u2019t be there on the Friday because of the Manchester gig with my uni friend, so she would be on her own in my uni house for a night... (side note: she does know my uni friends to an extent so this wouldn\u2019t necessarily be a problem as they would accommodate her no problem). Her reaction was, in my opinion, quite harsh: \u201calright I know where I\u2019m not wanted then, I\u2019ll just come Saturday fine.\u201d I felt awful already but she knew I couldn\u2019t do anything and thought I\u2019d scheduled the gigs perfectly to arrive back in time for her! She\u2019s still mad about it even though I\u2019ve apologised and she knows she didn\u2019t tell me she wanted to visit on Thursday until I\u2019d booked the Friday Manchester gig with my uni friend. Am I the asshole here ? \n\nNote: this is my girlfriend\u2019s story from her perspective. I\u2019m just posting it on my account, hence the first person. Questions will be answered by her. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Qg6gmoDLaUIgYlc2WKd4thAgN5yHKHi2", "post_id": "aqxfni", "action": {"description": "telling my wife we should not let her family drink at our house", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For telling my wife we should not let her family drink at our house.", "text": "So we moved recently away from my wifes family across the country and they come to visit a couple times a year. The last time they visited was for one of my kids birthday a month ago. Her mom and step dad as well as one of her sisters were here as well as my parents.  My parents stayed just for the weekend and left on Sunday and basically as soon as they left her family started drinking. By the end of the night her step dad has cussed at my daughter, we cuss in our house and actually allow our kids to as long as they are using those words out of frustration not in direction of someone else. Her sister ranted about how we should be raising our kids even though she has none of her own, long story on that side, and her mom was rude to my wife because she doesn't like the way our household chores are set up. \n\nA little more backstory on this situation is that for specific reasons her mom came and visited us for about 6 weeks last year, for 5 of those she was here with just us and did not have a sip of beer or alcohol that entire time. As soon as he husband, my wifes step dad, got here he bought beer and tequila and they were drinking. Obviously he has a problem since he can't go a week without a drink. \n\nThey will be coming in in a few months for another birthday and I told my wife I don't want them to drink here this time. Both of the parents will be here as well as the same sister, but this time her other sister is coming and bringing her boyfriend.  He really has a drinking issue, goes out and gets completely smash, cheats on the sister and she had a mysterious injury that we all were skeptical about last year that she claims to have come from a fall. My wife will be close to 20 weeks pregnant when they will be here and I just don't see if being a good combination fo having two kids,a pregnant wife and a house full of drunk people. Am I the asshole for telling someone they need to go a week-week and a half without drinking because I don't like the way the act.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hjLjRiivftOr8Xs6Fb7nOwUJZwzgxHyl", "post_id": "b4x7fl", "action": {"description": "telling my gf to stop faking her insecurities", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for telling my GF to stop faking her insecurities?", "text": "I've been dating this girl for a bit over a year. We were arguing and out of the blue she says \"You don't care about my insecurities\" I know the few things shes insecure about, and I try to help her with them. Then she says \"I'm also insecure about the fact that no other guy will be able to date me or love me, because of how you treat me\" So first of all this caught me off guard, because why the fuck is she having thoughts about being with other people while shes with me? Anyways, I then tell her to stop faking her insecurities because that blatantly isn't true. I then tell her how constantly she boasts about how many guys want her, and she has to curve 4-5 guys to be with me. She then also made a post on one of her social medias that said \"4 guys bought me roses for valentines, and only one of them did something impressive\" and then another screenshot of her friend saying \"Theres single people out there, while you have 4 different dates with 4 different guys\".  I asked her about this, and she said \"Oh baby its just guys that ask me out, but I curve them because I'm with you but my friends joke about it\"  Why is she even bragging about how many guys are interested in her if shes \"insecure\" about it?   \n\n\nAITA for calling her out on her shit?   \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zREqhmB2wt3hEvhB3VAeftRcxbe0Xo25", "post_id": "aqedw5", "action": {"description": "being upset", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for being upset?", "text": "Tomorrow I graduate from high school. I dropped out due to severe mental health issues a few years ago. This is a big thing for me. \nMy brother is my best friend and I really wanted him to be there. \nI called him today to ask where to drop off his ticket and he informs me that he's at the hospital so of course I ask him why and he says his son may be here within the next couple days. I'm happy my nephew is on his way and I'll get to meet him but, I was extremely upset.\nHe didn't warn me until literally two hours ago.. Not even 24 hours in advance. I told him how upset I was that he didn't use his words and say \"hey, I don't think I'll be able to make it.\" Was I supposed to stand up and look out at the audience and be shocked to see he wasn't there?\n\nI'm not sure if I'm being an ass hole... What do you guys think?...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vPCsJgoHKtVGfhOI95kP8337UEb5QteZ", "post_id": "an3epy", "action": {"description": "not wanting my bf to leave me because of his new job", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my bf to leave me because of his new job?", "text": "He quit his last job because of some problems (we had a very hard time\u2026) and recently started working at a new place. His old job included shift-working and so does his new job too. He usually takes the car and drives to his workplace.\n\n​\n\nMe (20) and my boyfriend (24) have been together for more than a year. We used to see each other nearly every second day, sometimes every third before he started his new job. I\u2019m a very sensitive person and definitively NOT made for long-distance relationships. \n\n​\n\nHis new workplace is, like his old, a little bit more than an hour away. With train, you have to travel more than 1.5hrs. Since he works in shifts, he usually doesn\u2019t get stuck into a lot of traffic. His car has some issues, but nothing serious (f.e the radio doesn\u2019t work properly and the paint started to peel off, sometimes the brakes shudder). He only will be working for 6 months to earn enough money for studying at the university in town, which he wants to start this comming summer.  Last week he told me that he wants to move  to the new city because of the shift-work. He asked me for my opinion. I told him I don\u2019t want to be selfish and try to keep him here if he thinks it would be easier for him to move. I didn\u2019t tell him that I actually don\u2019t want him to move, but I got really quiet and didn\u2019t really know what to say. I already feel bad for wanting him to keep here. I always put him and his before me and my feelings and I only want the best for him.\n\n​\n\nWe got in an argument. \n\nI\u2019m a heavy introvert, I usually don\u2019t say much in an argument and rather keep my thoughts to myself.  This time, I told him in a calm voice that I don\u2019t know how well I can handle the distance if he moves away and that this scares me. I also asked him if the effort would be worth, because he\u2019ll only stay for less than six months. He got angry an started to yell at me that he doesn\u2019t know what he should do and if I had a better idea I should tell him the solution. He said: \u00abYou act like I\u2019d disappear completely for the whole half-year.\u00bb I answered:\u00bbfine, then move. Because my opinion and words doesn\u2019t matter anyway\u00bb, this made him even more angry but I know he\u2019s going to do what he wants anyway, so why try?\n\n​\n\nSince he does a lot of selfish things like suddenly cancelling plans in last minute, ignoring me for many hours while playing video games or not answering my messages or phone calls, I got really mad. Also the few last weeks have been rough for me and there was a lot of anger I felt in my stomach, so everything came over me like a huge wave. I screamed at him that it\u2019s also not easy for me because he already works in shifts and we barely see each other. The argument went from the moving-topic to the relationship-topic. I didn\u2019t say anything because everytime when I get angry I start to cry (i hate it), just swallowed his words. He called me selfish and that I don\u2019t understand anything (meaning I don\u2019t understand how bad it is for him to drive to work and back because of the car and the shifts).  \n\n​\n\nWe didn\u2019t spoke the rest of the evening. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tYUnbasS1sYghDT2npZkeu6k2P2qzMTP", "post_id": "b6pos1", "action": {"description": "telling my mom she's creepy", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom she\u2019s creepy?", "text": "I\u2019m on a mobile so sorry if the formatting is weird. \nBasically, I was touring colleges with my parents and we were at an informational session and a boy (about 17) walked in with his mom. He immediately caught my mom\u2019s attention and she started telling me about how handsome he was. I wasn\u2019t a big fan of this so I uncomfortably told my mom to stop and she just smiled and kept staring at him. In the middle of the session she takes out her phone and starts taking pictures of him (pretending like she\u2019s taking pictures of me). I try to get her to stop but she didn\u2019t seem to understand why I was so uncomfortable. She sends the picture into our family group chat (my dad, her, my brother, and me) with the caption \u201cThat boy is so handsome.\u201d My brother immediately freaks out (he\u2019s not with us) and texts me asking what the hell my mom is saying and how that\u2019s really weird. \n\nLater I confront my mom about the picture, telling her it was really weird and sort of creepy for her to do that. She just smirks and asks why and that she doesn\u2019t get it and she thinks it\u2019s funny. I told her no, it\u2019s not funny, and that she shouldn\u2019t be doing stuff like that. She still doesn\u2019t get it and starts saying it\u2019s her freedom of speech to do what she just did. Exasperated at this point I say \u201cYou\u2019re 50 years old and you\u2019re taking pictures of a 17 year old kid!\u201d She immediately gets what I\u2019m implying and she gets very upset. She starts yelling at me telling me I\u2019m ungrateful, that she clothes me, feeds me, and even took me on this trip and how dare I treat her this way. I apologize for what I just said, but I still stand firm that what she did was just not right and now she\u2019s livid.\n\nSo reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Cfio7u92CmLb229sEK6rtqdJjgOztZsi", "post_id": "aoauw4", "action": {"description": "not helping my friend with a place to stay when he is going through a divorce", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't help my friend with a place to stay when he is going through a divorce?", "text": "My close friend just let us know that he will be divorcing his wife ASAP due to his wife's infidelity. He called today wondering if I would be interested in providing a place for him to stay for the time being, but mentioned he would like it to be for 6 months or preferably a year. I live alone in my two bedroom condo but have rented out the second room to friends in the past few years (one due to a canceled engagement).  \n\nWhile normally I would love to help a friend in need out, I am about 3 months into a new relationship and things are going great.  She recently returned to my city and is living with her parents so my condo has become the de facto place for us to spend time together and for her to stay over. I am hesitant to allow my friend to move in with the worry that he (and his big personality) might affect my relationship and future with my girlfriend.\n\nDo I say no? Do I say yes but only offer a short term option? Am I over thinking it? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iVAQPPOmQcWg04xQ9WXHWap651SPjCou", "post_id": "awciaa", "action": {"description": "cutting off my best friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting off my best friend?", "text": "I posted here a couple months ago about a situaton involving my bestfriend. The tl:dr is i had feelings for her. Confessed to her and she apparently didnt so i tried to cut her off and move on \n\nFast foward to last week she gets drunk and admits that shes had feelings for me the entire time with them developing properly over a year ago. We talked about it and agreed we would give it a go considering we both feel the same and wanted to try. \n\nFast foward a few days later and she tells me shes changed her mind and can't do it anymore. I was a little surprised but not really since she has serious commitmend issues. She told me she has feelings for me. A part of her always has and has always wanted to be with me but now she just can't do it and she says she doesn't know why. \n\nI was a bit upset but like i said i know her so i was expecting it a little. We talked for a bit and it ended with me deciding just to completely cut her off (we live with eachother so it will be near impossible) But in my head it makes sense since she doesn't want to pursue anything despite her constantly saying she wants too. She just \"can't\" she wants things to go back to how they were but I don't want to be in this weird 'Will they? Wont they?' State i just want to move on. Am i being an asshole by just cutting her off?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OoLFMCrrOjPcuwkkd8CNKMcjrKzxTnQ4", "post_id": "b9u1b0", "action": {"description": "not helping out a disabled family member", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping out a disabled family member?", "text": "My mom went into foster care when she was young because her father had died and her mother developed schizophrenia. This is the family my mom feels is her \"true\" family as she never had great relationships with her birth parents. The family she was assigned has fostered 3 children that have remain close to the family and has adopted 6 others. One of the adopted children was from Mexico who we will call \"Tyler.\" **Tyler was two when he was adopted and had fetal alcohol syndrome and is on the autism spectrum.**\n\nFast forward 25 or so years. **Tyler went to jail and was put on the sex offender list for abusing a child in his immediate family** which had apparently been going on for a number of years.\n\nTyler's been out for four years now and is close to 40 years old. Unfortunately, **my foster grandmother has lost his birth certificate, naturalization records, or anything that can prove he is a US citizen, so he can't get a job or government assistance**. My mom and her birth sister and their husbands have been paying for all of his expenses for the last four years and for lawyers to try and get new paperwork for him to no avail. **They have reached out and are asking for $50 dollars a month from family members to keep up with his expenses.**\n\nMy husband is still in school, and I'm a teacher. We're both 24. We both have student loans. However, we can afford to go out to eat, go on a vacation each year, and pay for other recreational activities. Is it selfish of us to not contribute money to my uncle?\n\n**TLDR; My uncle is mentally disabled and is a sex offender who can't legally get government assistance or a job because of lost paperwork. He's out of jail and needs financial assistance. AITA if I don't help out?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l9YoNFs5BcFEn4Aar8LPk54w48cgRA5L", "post_id": "b70kp9", "action": {"description": "not wanting to help my homeless cousin", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to help my homeless cousin", "text": "So I have a cousin reach out to me the other day because she's homeless. She's 20 and her mom is mentally ill, and her dad died shortly after she was born. I kept the call short and didn't ask for any specifics about her situation because the truth is I don't want her living with me while she gets stable or whatever. I should add that I still live with my parents, and they don't want her living here either. We've never been close, and my entire family gets weird vibes when she's around. \nShe ran away from home last year and was living with a guy, I think she's \"homeless\" because her and the guy broke up and she refuses to go back to her mom. She's also a high school dropout, has no job, and uses drugs. Before anyone asks, both her and her mom are absolutely leeches. They live off welfare, have never worked a day in their lives, and have no shame about going on Facebook and asking relatives for money. I have relatives in two other states whom in the past have stepped in and offered to help but she ultimately refused and came back to where she grew up. I haven't seen her in a couple years, we've never been close, my parents and I don't want to be in a situation where we offer shelter but later have to kick her out bc drug use or refusal to get a job. We live in a big city, so there are tons of services available to provide food, shelter, housing and job skills if she really needs it. She's not a kid anymore, and I don't think we should be forced to help her just bc we're the only family she has in-state.\n\nTL;DR: I don't feel comfortable helping out my homeless cousin, even though I'm the closest family she has", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GMc2wKydMjuZ0blTTDT3WKysZFbgMStt", "post_id": "b1s287", "action": {"description": "pointing out my classmate's grammatical errors", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I pointed out my classmate\u2019s grammatical errors?", "text": "Normally I think it\u2019s a very assholely thing to do, but hear me out. (Also sorry if this is in the wrong subreddit)\n\nI\u2019m in university and my class has some concerns that we want to raise to the provost or even the principal regarding a professor who\u2019s being forced to leave (but we want him to stay). \n\nWe\u2019ve chosen a few representatives to write a letter which will be sent to the higher-ups, and the letter is supposed to represent our entire class. The letter hasn\u2019t been sent yet, so I asked to read it. And it\u2019s littered with grammatical mistakes/typos. \n\nNow my English is nowhere near perfect, but some examples of the errors include:\n\n\u201cHowever, despite us this...\u201d\n\n\u201cYet, his care and attention did not stopped here.\u201d\n\n\u201che knows well enough to keep our feets on the ground in quite a few occasions.\u201d\n\n\u201cThis school will never the quite the same without him\u201d\n\nI really don\u2019t want to sound mean/offensive but I don\u2019t know if this will ruin our chances of being taken seriously. We\u2019re having a hard enough time arranging meetings and such already.  I know I\u2019m going to sound like a major asshole if I tell them though, since they were already annoyed that I asked to see the letter. Should I just let them send the letter? Or if I let them know what is the most polite way to do it?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lXP93EKf6034kx8Zq6GDaQfH3eLNJsEX", "post_id": "axgqjs", "action": {"description": "hiding my transidentity to my parents", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hiding my transidentity to my parents ?", "text": "I recently discovered that i'm trans. I told it to some friends, and always told them I won't tell my parents about it until it's done, because I seriously think they are transphobic. My dad said that he \"don't like trannies\", from his own words, and my mother struggled so much with admitting that my bisexuality is a thing that I can't imagine how she will react to her boy having to do irreversible actions on his body to become a girl. And they both mocked my FtM ex-girlfriend by misgendering her intentionnally, which is quite easy in french with accorded pronouns and stuff.\n\nBut some part of me tells me that I should tell them about it, because our family had hard time and the least I should do is to he honest with the people I live with and who still feed me and helps me to live. Plus, if they accept it I could seek for help a bit more easily.\n\nBut I don't want to face transphobia and (more) disappointment in me from their part. How egoist is it from me to care of myself more than them, to a point I'll hide them what I am ? Is it justified ? AITA ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kt5rawZvwI5ElREdakVsdlJyhfqeFmpm", "post_id": "asvf3s", "action": {"description": "feeling disappointed that my family havent made an effort to take me for driving lessons even when I've asked and made it clear that my driving test is soon", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for feeling disappointed that my family havent made an effort to take me for driving lessons even when I've asked and made it clear that my driving test is soon?", "text": "I'm annoyed at myself for feeling entitled. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OqMjxdxZF1FTazmusOXSmy8U3CxSmJKL", "post_id": "a2hoix", "action": {"description": "locking my door", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for locking my door?", "text": "I'm 15, almost 16, and I've struggled with depression for the past 2 years, and my parents know about it. The issue is that my parents have done things that might be considered abuse, although I'm not sure. Examples include hitting me or my brother and saying it wasn't hitting, getting mad when I don't respond to texts immediately, and sending me passive-aggressive messages like articles on the dangers of phone addiction. The most prevalent of these issues, however, is not giving me the space I need. I'm very introverted and when I come home from school I'm exhausted and any more social interaction makes me function poorly and puts me on edge. My parents don't seem to realize that, despite my telling them this, and so they constantly come into my room to talk to me. It doesn't matter if the door is closed or if I tell them I need space to do homework. They will open my door and come in to talk to me, and they want my undivided attention.\n\nSo this morning I had no energy to leave the house, and my parents were constantly hovering over me. I kept moving rooms to get away from them, and they kept following me. Finally, I decided I was done and went into my room and locked the door. My parents have always had a rule against locking my door, but they lock their own doors sometimes and when I don't lock my door they seem to think that my room is wide open. So when I locked my door, my parents panicked and were texting me things like \"We're worried about your safety and we want you to unlock your door.\" Considering all the issues I've had in the past with them, I didn't unlock my door, worrying that this was a guilt trip. My dad proceeded to break the lock. He then told me how much he and my mom were supporting me, letting me stay home from school when I felt bad and how he was worried about my safety.\n\nSo AITA for locking the door, or is there something else?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3KxW5AhnvpjdLtmeKrF9PLFqm6w4TOex", "post_id": "ad8c63", "action": {"description": "wanting to go vegetarian when me and my SO move in together", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to go vegetarian when me and my SO move in together?", "text": "My boyfriend and I are still both living with our respective parents, but we expect to be moving out very soon. I'm graduating in Environmental Science this year and as such I'm trying to make an effort to be more environmentally responsible and I thought trying out vegetarianism could be a good step (I don't have an issue with animals being killed humanely for food, but knowing an animal didn't have to die for me would be a bonus!) . Last night, whilst we were out grocery shopping, I offhandedly mentioned 'I was thinking of going vegetarian when we move out', thinking that it wouldn't be a big deal, after all, I'm responsible for what I put in my own body, right? This isn't the first time I've mentioned thinking about vegetarianism, either. My boyfriend was horrified, I could tell he was angry at what I just suggested. He waited until we got back to the car, not wanting to make a scene, then he gave me what felt like a telling off. He said he's been looking forward to cooking in our own place for ages and now I've gone and ruined it. He said that vegetarians were unhealthy as they all look unwell, using my sister as an example (my sister is skinny, but I don't think she looks unwell). He said would never date a vegetarian girl and how embarrassing it would be to be invited around to a friend's or family's house for dinner and for me to have to say I don't eat meat so they'd have to make special arrangements. He also was concerned I'd try and force vegetarianism on him and any future children we have.  \n\n\nI tried reassuring him that we can still cook together, that I'd even be fine with meat being cooked in the same pan or with the same utensils, that it doesn't bother me that he eats meat, there are plenty of couples who have different diets. I said I don't think people would mind catering to a vegetarian, but he wasn't convinced.   \n\n\nIt upset me a lot. Part of me feels like it's my choice what I eat, but then I also feel completely selfish since I know he enjoys us cooking and eating together. Of course I value the environment, but relationships require compromise. He suggested a compromise could be just cut down on meat, or just eat white meat and that there are better ways to save the environment. Would choosing to go vegetarian make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZwiJ2pIqYEqYJDtiSy8o943tAZIFFZIO", "post_id": "aar1f1", "action": {"description": "refusing to meet with male fans after my shows because I was groped", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for refusing to meet with male fans after my shows because I was groped?", "text": "(this is my first ever reddit post so apologies in advance for any spelling or grammatical errors) \n\nAlright so I\u2019m a moderately popular singer and typically after my concerts I usually do little meet and greets and sign autographs with my fans. Only with other women however. The reason being that some douchebag groped me a couple years ago. I had security throw him out, but I still don\u2019t really trust my male fans anymore.\n\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gmym2jYHFGIcER0zusEWQVkSAHKYI29Q", "post_id": "a3k7l4", "action": {"description": "bantering about a streamers stream", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for bantering about a streamers stream?", "text": "I went on [Twitch.tv](https://Twitch.tv) last night to browse through streams. My country is rather small and therefore the \"big\" streamers only average about 50 people at night.  I was bored and just picked the streamer with the most views, because the chat and streamer interaction are usually pretty funny anyways. I hopped into this female streamers stream to check it out and get a feel for the community. She was playing Golf with friends, with really loud music blaring, making her almost unintelligible. The chat was mostly mods and year old subs \"fishing\" for her attention. At this point, I decided to joke a bit and posted the emote ResidentSleeper in the chat. She apparently took it very personally and told me to just leave if I think the stream is boring. She gave me a chat time out for two minutes. After it ran out I wrote:\n\n\"Damn, I tried to leave but fell asleep before I managed to click the 'X'\"\n\nShe perm-banned me while her chat kept asking if I was dropped on my head etc. while she was telling me that I was immature and should enjoy my 5 minute fame. I chuckled and went on my way.\n\nLater this night, I was once again doing the same thing, where I was looking through streams and hopped into the most viewed again. I saw her chatting and wrote \"@(female streamer) Oh god, I almost fell asleep just reading your messages in chat\"\n\nShe told me I was immature etc. while the streamer saw my post and asked what was going on. I said I was just joking, but he got visibly mad, told me to shut my fucking mouth because I'm the kind of dude no one wants in their chat.\n\nI was kinda blown back made me think for a minute. I just left the stream while everyone called me a hater and spammed the streamers name and hearts. I came back 30 minutes later asking why everyone got so mad. I was just told to \"Just stop fucking trolling. Just fucking don't.\"\n\nAm I the asshole? The chat and streamers seem more toxic than me, but this sticks with me for some reason.\n\nTLDR; Joined female streamers stream, joked that it was boring, I got banned. The next day I found her chatting in another stream, said she was boring again and got told off pretty harshly. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ra0HuuE7fV7z7T30wvn7IzG1JCE2akjy", "post_id": "aurjur", "action": {"description": "not leaving my card at home for my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 27, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for not leaving my card at home for my boyfriend?", "text": "I\u2019m 18, I go to school 2 days a week, I get payed today and I just like to go to the cafe near my train station and get a coffee and a muffin. that\u2019s roughly $10. \n\nMy 19 yr old boyfriend who doesn\u2019t work was saying how \u201cI can last one day without taking my card\u201d  saying that \u201cI need to stop spending money on pointless things\u201d \n\nHe has spent almost $100 off of me in the span of 4 days for weed and I always give him money every week and these 2 days I get to myself I just want to buy breakfast\n\nI told him how I felt last night and he ignored me and rolled over and went to sleep. \n\nNow this morning I didn\u2019t leave him my card, and as soon as I leave he sends me messages  about how I know how hard it is for him and that I could\u2019ve gone one day without buying pointless shit because he has no weed today and he could get everything I need today. I told him that I was sorry and he won\u2019t reply to me anymore. \n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 27, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8texOTZW2MC3the7gWr3HV91qzaXZjZ2", "post_id": "b4jx1w", "action": {"description": "gaming a lot", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for gaming a lot?", "text": "I'm on mobile so sorry if the format is bad.\n\nSo, I live with my parents because I'm underage and can't move out. I have school and work as a paper boy currently. This means I get up around 5am every morning, and am out delivering for about an hour every day except Sunday and Monday. When I'm at home, I enjoy gaming because, well, it's fun? Anyway, my dad is getting really upset that I'm \"always\" in my room, and never hang out with them. However, I do stuff with them whenever they ask me too and ask them a couple times a week if they would like to play or board game or do something, and they always decline. I also don't enjoy family gathering because I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety, so I usually end up on my phone while I'm there.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Q11XQy0gM32IYGEj2z9odYP0ExFp3LQj", "post_id": "a8wkol", "action": {"description": "not spending the Christmas with my family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not spending the Christmas with my family?", "text": "Long story short, I was planning to bring my girlfriend home for Christmas, but some days ago I had an argue with my father because he was insisting on giving unhealthy food to my dog, and then it ended up in a fight, well basically it wasn't actually a fight, he choked me and I didn't react to avoid further issues, so my mother and my sister separated us.. I thought about it a lot and decided to spend the Christmas with my girlfriend's family (we swap each year, a Christmas with my family and a Christmas with her family).\n\nIt makes me sad to be honest, not because I wanted to spend time with him, but because my whole family is together, but since he wasn't right and didn't say at least sorry to me I thought that to be absent and quiet was the right solution, what's your opinion on this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Scqb7iQEOhSoSH9mPDijkbsmWmv1hQlH", "post_id": "amligw", "action": null, "title": "AITA?", "text": "So I recently tried to kill myself (that\u2019s a great way to start a post) and I went to one of my closest friends. Obviously, I\u2019m alive and a bit better. I won\u2019t go into detail on how I was talked out, but I am going to get help for anyone who is worried.\n\nIn comes my ex, I told a group chat her, one of our close friends (Which I\u2019ll call P), and myself are in. She instantly called the group. She was obviously freaking out and such, I tried to calm her down and tried to stay on the positive side of things like I told my friend I would do.\n\nShe was having none of it. She got mad and frustrated with me; she didn\u2019t take into consideration that I\u2019m in a tough corner right now. One of my teachers in karate, which I love so very much, had a stroke recently and sent me into a depressive type state.\n\nShe was yelling at me that her and P would never yell at us. Long story short of the call, she was distracted and turned off her mic after I did. I said that I was going to leave the call so I didn\u2019t fling myself back into the state I was in just 30 minutes ago.\n\nShe commanded not to leave. I luckily stood a foot and left. I told P that I couldn\u2019t calm her down and that I knew he would be would get mad too. I left it at that. AITA?\n\nTLDR:\nI almost died and my ex got mad at me that I didn\u2019t tell her and a friend when it was going down. I stood up for myself and left before things got worse.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "z1798pmZRys7CVS3x3aoNTsf19EfDw1A", "post_id": "ax8fp5", "action": {"description": "saying something to hr about team members' anti-pc remark", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I said something to HR about team members' anti-PC remark?", "text": "Throwaway account for a reason. So, this happened a work a bit ago. Guy at work is telling a group about how the demo for a new web site was received by a cross-functional team who commissioned it. Apparently it was well received except the once piece of feedback was (paraphrased) that there were no white people in the home page image. The guy doing the demo is basically mocking the people who made the request for a more diverse image. Now, I know his politics and he can't stand political correctness, but to have him say this out load to a group during a meeting was kinda amazing. The next day one of his direct reports restated the same to a different group. Again, I know this other guys politics and he also is anti-political correctness.\n\nPart of me wants to stay the hell away from all of this, but it's also really inappropriate (in my view) to basically mock someone who asks for a photo to be more diverse. Our company actually has corporate LGBT groups, groups based on your heritage, etc. It goes out of its way to say diversity is a strength.\n\nI don't know what to do here, but the whole thing just stuck me as wrong. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aRo1FsZviZIqRdSbylDC3rSEFcBHrf5j", "post_id": "9yv3c1", "action": {"description": "telling our teacher that my classmate's mother passed away", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling our teacher that my classmate\u2019s mother passed away?", "text": "Today, during class, our teacher tried to make a joke to one of my classmates where he mentioned her mother, it wasn\u2019t a mean joke, it was something along the lines \u201cyou wouldn\u2019t want to bring your work tools and work on your kitchen table next to your mom cooking, would you?\u201d \n\nHe really didn\u2019t mean it in a bad way, he was simply trying to be funny as always, to lighten the mood. What he didn\u2019t know is that my classmate lost her mother to cancer a year ago or so, and talking about her mother always makes her cry, it\u2019s a really sensitive topic for her, which is understandable.\n\nWhen she started crying the teacher got really confused, and when she got up to go the washroom he got even more confused, he had no idea what made her cry.\n\nAt this moment, I didn\u2019t know what to do. I wanted to tell him she cried because he mentioned her mother, but on the other hand, was I even allowed to talk about it? Sooo... I told him, but really discreetly. I just told him \u201cshe lost her mother.\u201d and I could see he felt bad, he immediately went after her to apologize.\n\nAfterwards, she seemed to be angry. I asked her if she was angry at me for telling him about her mother passing, but she reassured me that no, she understands why I told him, she was more angry at what the teacher told her, \u201cI\u2019m sorry I didn\u2019t know, why didn\u2019t you say anything?\u201d he said. I understand why she got upset, because it\u2019s not something you can simply tell people.\n\nI know about her mother because she\u2019s the one who told me. Our classmates know about her as well because she\u2019s also the one who told them. We all know about her because SHE told us. \n\nAnyway, I feel REALLY bad about it. Should I have kept my mouth shut and let her tell our teacher herself?\n\nSorry for any mistakes, English is not my first language. Thanks for reading ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "v4I3MYxXSPYTWTHTaMiLmINVad6YmYV0", "post_id": "ar6wic", "action": {"description": "complaining about secondhand smoke", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for complaining about secondhand smoke", "text": "I have lived with my grandmother since 2016 and ever since then I have been exposed to secondhand smoke. I live there with my dad, my uncle and of course my grandmother. I have an anxiety disorder and I freak out most in regards to health and my well-being. I also have a mild breathing issue which is not diagnosed yet (I have a pulmonary function test next week). My grandma smokes in her bathroom, which is very close to me and my uncles room. I am constantly complaining about it because it makes my chest hurt. Regardless if she closes the door or not the smoke travels all over the house including directly in my room. I have tried to use fans pointing in all directions but to no avail. I spend all day in the house because I am currently unemployed.  I used to have a job but I quit to take care of her because of her growing medical issues. \n\nFor the past few months, I have needed to help her shower because of an injury she had. I don't mind helping her shower but the problem arises when she smokes right before I need to shower her. She will sit in there smoking and I will place stand up fan to try to air it out. No matter what I try the smoke still clings to the air. Most of the time, I just shower her anyway since it is a very fast process but I am really not happy to do so. I recently became ill and went to the doctor. The doctor told me that I have acute bronchitis and ever since I have tried to avoid going anywhere near her bathroom until this clears up. \n\nToday, I am still not feeling well and she asked me to help her shower so I called my father (who was not home) and asked him if he could come home and shower her for me. He said he would so I let her know about it and she got extremely mad at me. She told me that she is sick of my complaining and wants me to move out. I am not one to get into arguments with anyone but every time I bring up her smoking it feels like I am the only one that is is affected by it. My uncle told me to \"stop being a f-ing ass about it\" to which I just walked away.  Everyone in the house is acting like I am the asshole, so am I? I get that she is sickly but I feel like I need to watch my own health at the moment.\n\nTL:DR - Am I the asshole for complaining about sickly grandma's smoking habits?\n\n​\n\nsorry for any spelling or grammar errors, I am not a great typer.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qfyU42PAgohpw00WtrvDWI762ExXuv4j", "post_id": "arcsxy", "action": {"description": "asking my girlfriend to take a second pregnancy test", "pronormative_score": 42, "contranormative_score": 94}, "title": "AITA For asking my girlfriend to take a second pregnancy test?", "text": "My girlfirend and I have been together for three years now. We have been talking abut getting married and having kids for a bit now. She wants to start having kids, I want to wait until we get married. I have been planning on proposing to her, and was going to do it within the next few weeks.\n\nYesterday she came to me with a positive pregnancy test and told me that she was pregnant. I was happy, I wanted to wait, but it wasn't the end of the world that it came a bit earlier than I had planned.\n\nWhen she left for the night, I went out and bought my own pregnancy test. This is not because I don't trust my girlfriend. I do trust her, and I have no reason to believe that she would be faking a pregnancy. However, with big life changing events I always want to be sure that all the information is correct. \n\nWhen she came over today I asked her to take this second pregnancy test just to be sure. She adamantly refused saying that it shows that I dont trust her. She was extremely upset and started saying stuff like, ''If you can't even trust me when I say I'm pregnant how could we raise a child together?''\n\nThis is nto about trust at all to me, this is about being sure. I would also get a DNA test or wHatever it is to make sure I'm the father. This isn't because of trust, it's because I've heard of horror stories and I don't want to end up like that.\n\nShe never did take the pregnancy test, and if she doesn't that could seriously be a dealbreaker to to me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 73, "OTHER": 35, "EVERYBODY": 21, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 42, "WRONG": 94}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "FRugafYrKFz0XrpIYlWmjndmOSNCqR1y", "post_id": "ayugvb", "action": {"description": "\"breaking\" the rules", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for \u201cbreaking\u201d the rules?", "text": "Before I start: I dated someone that I was eventually engaged to, but this is well before the engagement. She comes from a very tradional(aka racist) southern family. I\u2019m Jewish. I would have to put up his racist comments about myself and my family. I would have to put up with him saying I\u2019m only getting my jobs for my religious and cultural identity and overall just listen to him belittle me whilst my partner would tell me to put up with it because her family was important to her. He would also openly belittle minorities in public, openly say racist slurs (including the n word,) and belittle my partner for being LGBT+(and when I stood up for my partner, they yelled at me later for being confrontational.)\n\nAnyway...\n\nWe (my partner and I) were both in college at thisbtime but I was lucky enough to score two really good jobs- I worked for a public radio station in the morning and worked at a television news station during the evening. I didn\u2019t have a great paycheck or anything but I made enough to pay rent and buy food whilst also saving up enough for emergencies, and had saved up a couple of thousand dollars to spend on my family\u2019s holiday gifts.\n\nSo a few weeks before Christmas her father was furloughed. He worked for a freight company (Let\u2019s call them PU) and his wife was a secretary at a junior college- definitely did not make enough to support a family all by herself, in which they lived WELL above their means. I never really celebrated Christmas but told my partner I would celebrate it with their family, and my family decided to celebrate it with them as well.\n\nWe invited them over for Christmas and did the works- we decorated the house with a ton of lights, got a 12-foot Christmas tree, dressed up our 4 dogs, the works. I didn\u2019t tell my partner any of this but my parents and her parents had told me that they instituted a $20 spending limit for everyone, as they didn\u2019t want them to feel bad.\n\nTwo days before Christmas my parents and I hop into game mode. They saw how miserable I was around them and decided to help me out. They bought my partner and I new laptops, my dad got my mom a new desktop, my mom got my dad a PS4, and I went online and bought her dad a $900 scope for the new hunting rifle my partner bought him. When it came to Christmas we all opened their presents and it was nothing crazy- a candle for my mom, a coffee mug for my dad, etc. They start opening our presents and her dad is PISSED. He is the kind of man that considers himself a provider- nobody can upshow him in front of his family and we committed a major faux pas. He immediately sees what we\u2019ve done and just stares at me and my family the whole time. My mom turns to him and says \u201coh, it must be something to do with our religion- I guess we don\u2019t really understand Christmas.\u201d He left furious, without saying a word. My partner didn\u2019t talk to me for weeks.\n\nWe broke up less than a year later.\n\nAre me and my family assholes?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3G6uote6kVPCQ6iDAdDAyKZgCUT5e7ZI", "post_id": "b2j6zu", "action": {"description": "not having a flower girl or ring bearer", "pronormative_score": 35, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for not having a flower girl or ring bearer?", "text": "I know it\u2019s our wedding and I can do whatever with it, but I never knew how many people would be offended that I don\u2019t want their children in the wedding. Ever since I was a kid I dreamed of having two small dogs as the ring dog and flower dog in my wedding. I never wanted kids in the procession or at the wedding in general. As I\u2019ve gotten older, I kind of wouldn\u2019t care if older kids were there but absolutely no little children. I\u2019ve been to too many wedding where babies and little kids make too much noise during the ceremony or completely ruin the first dance or knock over cake or put their dirty little fingers in it or the food. I agreed to pay for 2 babysitters for the children at our wedding in a different room of the venue so they could at least be there, but so many moms have asked me about who was gonna be the ring bearer/flower girl. I told them that no children will be in the wedding, and my friends 2 little dogs who I absolutely adore will be walked down with the rings and flowers instead. I guess that\u2019s the wrong answer because most of the moms look at me like I slapped in the mouth. A lot of people said they couldn\u2019t/wouldn\u2019t come. Even my MoH was a little offended that I wouldn\u2019t even choose her niece who\u2019s not even 3 yrs yet. Am I really the asshole here? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 35, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 35, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qPZWpX8uRiyUlHtszGYpvtptH2mBydjD", "post_id": "alpp2s", "action": {"description": "not hiring my sister", "pronormative_score": 53, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for not hiring my sister?", "text": "I own a lawn care company.  We do everything from mowing, to weeding, to building gardens, any and all things related to a yard.  In the summer, I have some hired help from guys that are on break because we have a lot more customers then.   Currently in the winter it\u2019s just me as most everyone is in uni.  I\u2019m a bit of a perfectionist and go by the philosophy that each yard is an advertisement for the company.  I spend longer than I have to in order to make each yard look pristine, so that the customers are happy, and anyone who walks by will notice. \n\nRecently, my little sister (9th) came up and said it wasn\u2019t fair that I was making so much money and said she wanted me to hire her. She\u2019s never had any experience in yard work.  Barely weighs more than the mower.  Yard work is tough, it wears me out and I\u2019m in good shape.  At first I said flat out no, but I knew I was gonna be out of town the next week so I asked my grandparents to ask her to mow for them so I could see how she did.  It was rough.  The lines were crisscrossing over the yard, she missed a lot of spots, the edging was \ud83d\ude2c.  I can\u2019t let her do that to customers\u2019 yards.  It would make them have a heart attack.  The company is supposed to have a very high standard. I just don\u2019t think she can do it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 44, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 53, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sAgVjW8nLJaTvrmCHkLG1yYohdInS6xA", "post_id": "abpgo8", "action": {"description": "getting my roommate addicted to Juuling so that I could buy pods off her", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for getting my roommate addicted to Juuling so that I could buy pods off her", "text": "At my college, pretty much everyone Juuls/vapes/smokes cigs/dips. It\u2019s really common for students to pick up this habit. I began Juuling the summer before my freshman year. My freshman year roommate had never Juuled before when we met, but she had drunkenly smoked cigs and dipped. \n\nSince we lived in a dorm, it was sometimes inconvenient to buy pods. Myself, including most of my friends, did not have a car on campus. Thus, we would have to walk about 15 minutes to the nearest gas station to purchase packs of Juul pods. This wasn\u2019t always a problem, but sometimes rain or cold weather would make this trek difficult. \n\nTherefore, it became common to buy pods off of other people. For example, someone would ask in a dorm groupme if anyone had a pod they could sell. I would often use these group chats or my friends who juuled for an extra pod. Since it was often difficult to find someone, I had a great idea. If my roommate, who did not Juul, began Juuling, then I would have another person who I was close friends with and in close quarters with for pod purchasing.\n\nI began by offering my roommate to hit my Juul. More and more, she would start hitting it. Also, several of our friends in our circle were Juuling often, so they began encouraging her too. I finally told her one day that she should buy her own Juul, and she agreed that it was a good idea. So I walked to the store with her and the next thing you know, she began Juuling often and was another person I could buy pods off of. \n\nFlash forward a year: this former roommate is now still addicted, and I often see her not only Juuling but smoking cigarettes on her Snapchat. I don\u2019t talk to her as much anymore, but she definitely has an addiction now. \n\nI feel bad for contributing to her addiction, but I also think that she probably would have started Juuling either way at this school. Also, I didn\u2019t literally force her to Juul and get addicted. She had also tried nicotine before, so I didn\u2019t introduce this to her. Am I an asshole for this? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "10Qj9NY2G1tJc2NtrthBbs9RWOvRlLle", "post_id": "9w3uw2", "action": {"description": "demanding a rescue take a foster dog back", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for demanding a rescue take a foster dog back?", "text": "I volunteered for a shelter-less dog and cat rescue (read: animals were rescued and cared for entirely by foster parents, there was no central structure to house them in).   I\u2019m an experienced foster parent and took on a 3 year old male dog as a foster but told them I couldn\u2019t keep him through the holidays because I travel with my resident dog. I pay for food, train at home with him, and shuttle him to and from all of the rescue\u2019s adoption events and potential meet and greets. The rescue spends most of its time advertising the puppies and cars they have up for adoption but rarely post about my guy (and, because this rescue is shelter-less, social media is really the only way people hear about their adoptive dogs). As time goes by, the foster dog has more and more behavioral issues (crate breaking, marking, general destruction), and I ask that the rescue find somewhere else to place him. They tell me that all of their foster homes are full. I take my foster to obedience classes that I pay for, put tons of time into working with him, but things don\u2019t get much better and he\u2019s a constant source of stress. \nFast forward to early December when the rescue posts on social media congratulating themselves/thanking people because all but one of their animals (my foster) has been adopted out. I call pissed off and demand that they place my foster elsewhere, since all of their other foster homes are obviously open. They tell me again that no one else can take my guy but that \u201cthey\u2019re working on it\u201d. I\u2019ve had this dog for six months now and the holidays are two weeks away. I tell them that if they don\u2019t find a place for him by the end of the week I will leave him tied to the railing of the rescue coordinator\u2019s house (empty threat, but they didn\u2019t know that).  Magically by the end of the week, they find an adopter for him, and tell me they will no longer use me as a foster parent and cut all ties. Suffice to say I wasn\u2019t interested in working with them anymore either. \nAITA, because I no longer wanted to devote my time and money to a volunteer position that wasn\u2019t working out and that could have been resolved if the rescue was doing their job, advertising the dog and placing him elsewhere if his current placement wasn\u2019t working out?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZixszurhzIOLAtvBUyqpBVkrbWwNhjDX", "post_id": "axeitw", "action": {"description": "calling out an old fling on dick size in front of his friends", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for calling out an old fling on dick size in front of his friends?", "text": "Context;\n\nI [23/F] went on 4 dates with a guy who is [26]. Said guy is in a band, does some sort of trade and has grown up in the city we live in so he knows a lot of people. We met via Tinder. \n\nWe ended up sleeping together on the 4th date (I'm easy, I know) and honestly it just o.k. so I mildly ghosted him [still responding to msgs but not flirting, telling him I don't want to hang out again, etc]\n\nOn Saturday I was at a bar/pub with a group of friends in Big City. Turns out he was there with his band and some guys he used to play football with. I know others in his band so I waved at the group, smiled at him and went on my merry way to get lit with my good friend Jose Cuervo.\n\nAbout 30 minutes later, I went over to chat with some friends in his group and he starts getting louder and louder spouting gibberish until I hear \"WHAT A WHORE.\" I stopped mid-conversation and looked at him, and he's staring straight at me. He starts spouting off some rude shit that I can't remember but I remember being shocked at what was coming out of his mouth. Stuff along the lines of \"your face just hides your shitty body\" and something about how much better he could do than me. \n\nHe stopped and I was pissed at this point, so I came out with \"You should know you're EASILY the smallest I've ever been with. And the sex fucking sucked.\"\n \nTwo things: I was about 2 rounds of Jose in at this point, am naturally loud and the music died out right as I started saying it. Everyone within a 4 table radius heard, and a few people burst out laughing. The girl he was sitting beside mildly side-eyed him and moved closer to his other friends. Our mutual friend leaned over and whispered that I should probably leave now, and I went to a different bar with some friends and drank the rest of the night away. \n\nSince then, he's been messaging me and calling me a bitch for calling him out like that and he was just about to get laid but I fucked it up for him and I need to learn to keep personal shit like that to myself.\n\nI feel like I was justified after the abuse, but I'm kind of starting to feel bad. \n\nAITA?\n\nTL;DR - slept with a guy, saw him at a bar, he said mean things, i said equally mean things. he had a small peen.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fxu7QH4KfOtclJhLABtevxvMwOoULiIw", "post_id": "agg7ow", "action": {"description": "wanting to not see my family again", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA? For wanting to not see my family again?", "text": "Ok, so using throwaway account because talking about personal stuff. So I am originally from Canada, but I grew up in a very toxic and abusive family. Now I'm in college and I'm taking a language course. I am learning German and one of the program the school offers is a trip to Germany for a couple weeks. Anyways I go to Germany and a few days into the trip I meet a really pretty woman, we talked for a while and I see her almost everyday. The more I talk to her the more I realise how good we get along and how much we are really bonding. But sadly I have to leave. Before I left she gave me her phone number and home adress if I ever decide to go back. I'm now back in Canada since about a month now and we still text, call and video chat eachother. I think I am in love with her and want to see her again. Now the problem is that if I go back there I might not see my parents or family ever again. I don't see my parents anymore anyways so it's not like anything big will change. But am I the asshole to really be considering leaving my home and family just to probably have a loving relationship with I women I have feelings for? I'm also pretty sure she's into me, I can't tell I never had a girlfriend before. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WkOzNwTEqhWmYlbgqp9M92p0bwoRL878", "post_id": "arknss", "action": {"description": "not wanting to meet my dad's GF that's my age", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to meet my dad's GF that's my age?", "text": "I'm 35, an only child, and pretty close to my dad, he lives about 40 minutes away. My parents have been divorced since I was 12 and since then my dad has been with many girlfriends, very rarely alone for more than a month, and he has been married once and engaged once since the divorce.\n\nOk, so about a year ago he started to date someone new and it turns out she is my age (my dad is nearly 60). Previously I have been pretty open about meeting his girlfriends and have tried to get to know them. I even tried to get close to his ex wife and make her a part of our family. But they separated 2 years ago and divorced about a year ago. \n\nMy dad has several times tried to talk to her about me or wanted me to meet her and I have refused. I'm 35 and I don't see a need to meet his girlfriends, especially since we only see each other once a month. However, I just got engaged and my fiancee says I am IATA if I don't let my dad bring her as a guest. We are having a pretty small wedding and aren't inviting anyone we don't see or talk to frequently, so to me it shouldn't be an issue. \n\nAlso, from what my dad has told me, she has yet to tell her family about him. Less because of his age and more because of his ethnicity. To me that just shows that they aren't serious enough that I really need to meet her.\n\nSo, AITA for not wanting to meet her or invite her to my wedding?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "8cvbLe1iv9RU1P47rZ8oWXAo6F3gVrnT", "post_id": "amqgft", "action": {"description": "not allowing my youngest daughter to eat junk food but letting my other kids eat it", "pronormative_score": 39, "contranormative_score": 322}, "title": "AITA for not allowing my youngest daughter to eat junk food but letting my other kids eat it?", "text": "I have 3 kids a son who is 13, daughter who is 11 and another daughter who is 9.My two eldest can eat whatever they want and still stay slim. They eat 3 healthy meals a day and then I let them snack on what they want. They don\u2019t overeat on junk but they do have some most days, maybe I\u2019m a bad parent for allowing this but I grew up eating this way and I\u2019m slim and healthy and they\u2019re fit and healthy too. My youngest however is slightly overweight. I\u2019m a lot more strict with her diet because of this and sometimes I feel so bad allowing my other kids to have stuff that she can\u2019t. She gets really upset about it sometimes. I\u2019ve been honest with her and said that life isn\u2019t fair and unfortunately for her she\u2019s got to watch what she eats more carefully. I do let her have a treat every week because I don\u2019t want to completely make her miss out and I don\u2019t think a small treat once in a while is gonna be harmful to her. My mum lectured me the other day about how it\u2019s not fair for me to let the older ones eat stuff she can\u2019t, she thinks I\u2019m being mean and am gonna cause problems for my child in the future. She says it\u2019s just puppy fat and will come off when she grows but I disagree with her and think I\u2019m doing the right thing for her health. \n\nWhat\u2019s your opinion? Aita or am I doing the right thing? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 321, "OTHER": 27, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 4}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 39, "WRONG": 322}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nJ7Svgpuc5go6VoVdv5BM81u3OQ9ARWX", "post_id": "b1xprt", "action": {"description": "being annoyed / angry at my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed / angry at my girlfriend?", "text": "A bit of context, this is an ex girlfriend who I've not seen for a couple of months now, but for some reason this memory still somewhat stands out to me.\n\nMy girlfriend at the time and me were having a little bit of trouble communicating via text. We often used Messenger / Discord. The problem is, I don't use Discord or Messenger for anybody else, I use Snapchat. (We couldn't text normally due to no signal in my area).\n\nI asked her if she could download Snapchat for me so that I could talk to her more easily (And potentially share snippets of my day with her), and she outright declined, telling me, \"I've not got enough space on my phone to download it.\", I asked her if she could uninstall some apps, and she again refused. This was fine, though somewhat annoying.\n\nNot more than a week later she downloads Snapchat, for a random American she spoke to online (Who had previously encouraged her to break up with me.), And I was angry, that she was speaking to him, and that she would download Snapchat for him, but not me (Her literal boyfriend). She then claimed that she installed it because they couldn't talk on other apps. \n\nI asked for her username, and figured that was that, but no, she uninstalled the app leaving messages unread and a few snaps unopened. Then again, refused to download it again just to check out the messages at least. \n\nTL;DR, AITA for being angry that she outright refused to download Snapchat to talk to me, but would for her American friend who allegedly couldn't talk to her on any other app, then uninstalled it without telling me and refusing to just check my messages on there. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PZbidFFSlx6d0sIzKK0zIv6rZL6cyujA", "post_id": "b7g8ll", "action": {"description": "asking a friend to stop calling me whenever he's bored", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for asking a friend to stop calling me whenever he's bored?", "text": "This morning while I was cleaning my room, someone I'd been playing Garry's Mod with called me on discord, he's been calling me a lot lately and it's started to get on my nerves since I try and hang out with multiple people and he's always calling me a dick and such for telling him I'm going to go and hang out with someone else (after we'd played for over an hour.) \n\nHe called me (I missed the call) and I responded \"What?\" he replied that he was bored and wanted to play and I asked \"Why are you coming to me\" (In hindsight I understand this was rude) he said something like \"You're the only one online, why are you being a dick?\" (Not as elegantly though) and I corrected some grammar because I am just sort of like that and I said \"I'm cleaning my room and you always call me when you're bored\" he replied, \"lol, what's wrong with that?\" I responded with the classic mom sort of thing that goes around \"You're a teenager, I'm sure you can find something to do rather than call me over and over when you're bored\" \\*Again to be clear, he always calls me when he's bored and or spams me on steam/discord\\* he said I sounded like his mom (I was kind of going for that) I said \"before I became your friend, what did you do when you were bored\" because I wanted him to do that, sounded reasonable to me he said \"Be bored\" like what? why... \n\nHe told me to \"clean my room instead of being his therapist lol\" (horrible grammar in the phrase but I didn't correct him) I told him to go and be bored, I'd call him when I was able to hang out or play and then took a stand on the fact that he is also always making fun of me for playing guitar and piano and saying I suck. (I have low self-esteem because I taught myself guitar and stopped piano lessons 3 years ago) I then replied \"Saying it's a joke doesn't fix anything\" because I figured he'd say that when he did that it was a joke when I pointed it out, he'd always say it was a joke and act like that fixed things. He said \"oh come on man, that's just me messing around\" and then he saw what I said and replied \"well my bad, I'm just a dick in general\" and then \"toughen tf up lol.\" \n\nI hate when people tell me to toughen up because I was never a jerk to him before this besides saying I wanted to play something else but when I confront him on my problems that he could fix he said toughen up (decent advice, I do need to toughen up but I still hate this.) I blocked him on discord. He started messaging through steam, a lot more of a jerk now. \n\nThe conversation started out with him calling me a whiny baby shit and to toughen up again and I replied with some cursing and overall made it clear I did care for him as a friend and liked him but wished he wouldn't say mean things and he said I sounded like his girlfriend and I said maybe he should listen to his mom and girlfriend since they made some good points and he said that I was white as f\\*\\*\\* and that he didn't like white people and said bye and that he was also white. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6FjToJAdd23fOkh2nbeMLYyx1zkVe4wp", "post_id": "b5a0w3", "action": {"description": "not wanting my husband to go away for the weekend for his best friend's bachelor party when I'm 37 weeks pregnant", "pronormative_score": 241, "contranormative_score": 35}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my husband to go away for the weekend for his best friend\u2019s bachelor party when I\u2019m 37 weeks pregnant?", "text": "My husband\u2019s best friend got engaged, and my husband is in the wedding party. Because the Best Man has never actually planned a bachelor party before, my husband is doing most of the planning. In his friend group, they usually do a golf weekend. Also, this is likely the last bachelor party in the group as the rest of the guys are already married. \n\nHowever, we have a 2 year old and I\u2019m currently pregnant with our second child and due on August 25th. When he started planning the bachelor party, I told him that planning something earlier in the summer would give him a higher chance of going for the full weekend.  I originally framed it as not wanting to be stuck watching our toddler by myself for a full weekend in my third trimester while he\u2019s out golfing, which was a mistake. \n\nThey finally picked a date for the bachelor weekend. It\u2019s August 8th - so I\u2019ll be 37 weeks pregnant and considered full term. It\u2019s about two weeks before my actual due date. The bachelor party will be in another state, about 2 hours away from where we live (without traffic). On previously golf weekends, he has been terrible about keeping his phone charged and it can be hard to get in touch with him.  Also, while he doesn\u2019t drink, he does smoke pot, and would most likely be smoking the whole weekend. \n\nHe thinks that as long as he gets someone to watch our toddler while he\u2019s gone, it\u2019s fine to go for the full weekend (2-3 nights). This makes me incredibly nervous. I am willing to compromise and let him go for a night plus a day of golf.  I would also stipulate that he has to keep his phone on and charged at all times, and that he would have to stay sober in case I go into labor.  He seems to think this is an unreasonable compromise. I\u2019m of the mindset that there are very few times in our marriage where my needs/wants/desires take priority over his, and that this is one of them. \n\nSo, Reddit, am I the asshole for not wanting him to go to a bachelor party for 2-3 nights so close to my due date? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 30, "OTHER": 169, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 72, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 241, "WRONG": 35}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OnbO6o9g1yaM1vjxXnXJCI9jOS3dgw9j", "post_id": "b01v3t", "action": {"description": "calling the non-emergency police line on my neighbors", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for calling the non-emergency police line on my neighbors??", "text": "I live in an apartment building in TN, USA and have largely enjoyed my experience here. However, the bane of my existence are my next door neighbors who continuously smoke weed inside of their unit which is adjacent to mine. As soon as I get off the elevator on my floor (which is inside, like a hotel), it stinks of weed. To make it worse, we share a wall and I'm assuming maybe some of the vent system too because my bathroom and bedroom that is nearest to their unit smell as well. This happens at all hours of the day, as early as 8am to late at night. I have politely asked management to tell them to stop, which has not worked. I called my city's non-emergency line, and a police officer came to talk to them..but it is still an ongoing issue. I personally do not smoke, and have nothing against people who do smoke. That is their personal choice. My issue is that there are so many outdoor spaces to smoke around like their apartment balcony, the courtyards at the apartment, a park across the street. Literally anywhere else. **I just want them to stop smoking inside.** What do I do here? I want to call the police again, I truly don't want them to get arrested or anything..I just do not want to be subjected to the smell in my own home as well as in all the common hallway our floor shares with them. Am I an asshole if I continue to call the non-emergency police line on them?\n\nAlso, I have not laid eyes on the people that live in this unit once. I am a female in my mid 20s living alone and don't want to put myself in any potential danger. That is my reasoning for not talking to them myself.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "toH6CzEOggjNzT2KOwshCZ1a6EmamgQF", "post_id": "asc5xj", "action": {"description": "wabting to be with my woman as often as possible", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for wabting to be with my woman as often as possible?", "text": "AITA\nSo...for context we've been together for a couple of years and while whe have not legally been married we have been married in the eyes of the old gods...\nHer mother will not accept our relaionship, which would be normal (she is 21 and I am too)8\nThis drives us crazy since she is only officially allowed to leave her home once a week for three hours but she cant go outside....but she sneeks out very often (about 3 times a week)\nAm I the asshole for allowing her to defy her moms wishes or for hoping she can spend more time with me?....\nEverybody seems to think I'm right here but some people support her (or her moms standpoint) over mine\nI feel like it would be only normal to be with her as often even if her mom won't allow it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zDpFL1Ux02QUajG0pR9EgCYk7dVxcJpS", "post_id": "a7bkh4", "action": {"description": "liking to go to parties without my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA because I like to go to parties without my boyfriend?", "text": "Ok so my bf actually has no issue with me usually just going myself. but sometimes I feel like an asshole because I usually don\u2019t want him to go. \n\nI\u2019m a 20yo female, he\u2019s 23 and we\u2019ve been together 6 years. and doesn\u2019t really know my friend group too well. Here\u2019s my reasoning for not wanting him there: \n\n-I\u2019m in college and haven\u2019t really regularly went to parties before a year or two ago. he\u2019s kind of past his partying age, since he\u2019s been doing it much longer than me. \n\n-since he doesn\u2019t know anyone too well, he will stick with me and not really try to mingle. it doesn\u2019t really allow me the chance to break off and talk to people. \n\n-he visibly feels a little awkward, he\u2019s a little older than everyone there. He also doesn\u2019t really fit in too much personality wise. \n\n-feels like I have to sit back with him and chat with him most the time, when everyone else is mingling having fun. I love meeting people and I can\u2019t as much when he\u2019s there. \n\n-he used to enjoy parties with his friends, but I don\u2019t think he likes to go to them anymore. but he would usually take me to them and the tables were flipped, but I usually had a few friends there I would know and hang with. \n\n-I don\u2019t flirt with other guys and my friend group is small enough with a lot of history. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hHB1Ofneus33oOhsq6NecNCwGvIshjpQ", "post_id": "afypm0", "action": {"description": "clipping our cat's nails", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for clipping our cat's nails?", "text": " My boyfriend and I have two kittens one that we call mine and one that we call his, but we both love and care for them equally. We currently cant afford to declaw (and frankly don't really want to just in case they get out). They're really terrible with claw inhibition. I started clipping \"My\" cats nails because though they don't seem to scratch him much, I'm marked up with bright red scratches all over my body. But lately \"his\" cat has been scratching me to the point of deep, red, angry scratches. My boyfriend doesn't like that i clip my cats nails because he's had cats his whole life and think's it's weird even though it helps prevent deep cuts. When i brought up the possibilty of cutting his cats nails as well, showing him scratches etc, he made a fuss about it but \"gave up\" after i asked about it a couple times. Now when I clip both their nails he gets all pissy. AITH for clipping their nails? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LLpP5rXRkF5d0dr0YFpfg1LMPwY8cPoK", "post_id": "azw7ps", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend to stop favouring porn on twitter", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for asking my boyfriend to stop favouring porn on twitter?", "text": "Hey!\nFirst time poster here! English is not my first language so apologies in advance! This is a throw away account but I need help to figure out if I am the asshole here. \n\nSo me (17) and my boyfriend (19) are dating for 7 months now and we have a good sex life (idk how to say it in another way).\nBoth of us have twitter, mutual followers and friends there. Before january there were a few times where what he had liked appeared on my feed and sometimes were girls in lingerie and underwear. I was uncomfortable by this ( especically because some were like tied up and stuff ) so adding to other stuff that wasn't related to that, I uninstalled the app. Then simply told my boyfriend that I didn't really wanted to see that. He apologized that it got on my feed and that was all.\n\nHowever I still go to twitter on my computer once in a while. I saw that occasionally he had retweeted like boobs and models but that doesn't really bothers me. Idk why, but today I felt like going through his likes. A mistake now I see. This time, besides lingerie and underwear there was porn. Like PoRn pOrN. With other stuff of course.\n\nNow, my problem is not that he's seeing that. At all. I don't think porn is cheating or get upset that he likes other girls pics. I know he likes me :) The thing is, he does not have to like the porn. Yet he does. This bothers me and I feel a little disrespect but honestly can't really explain... The account is on public and that stuff can show in anyone's feed. As a couple I think each others choices reflect on the other and especially this nature of content links to me... I think that type os stuff shouldn't be that out there.. But idk...\n\nSo, would I be an asshole to ask him to stop liking porn on twitter?\n\nSorry if this was long, boring or not that deep, but a girl is struggling here...! Thankssss\n\nTLTR: My boyfriend likes porn on twitter. I don't mind him seeing it, just the liking it part. Would I be an asshole if i ask him to stop?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "grbBZCnac0NmoRP6RqBqweYIhuC11HYt", "post_id": "appqqw", "action": {"description": "leaving the D&D Session after disagreements", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for Leaving the D&D Session after Disagreements", "text": "A little backstory first, as always. \n\nI joined a group of friends playing D&D a little over a year ago. A little thing about the DM is that he is terrible at balancing the magic items we get. Some characters are significantly better at combat than others. This wouldn't be an issue usually because I play a Bard (Musical Guy) and my specialty is not combat, but our usual sessions consist of fighting and fighting. When we are not fighting, we are talking with people with ungodly charisma stat that are impossible to persuade. \n\nRecently, we had an offshoot of that campaign in a battle royale style. This is already terrible for my character, but this combined together with some unreasonable calls on plays people wished to do and a specific argument about hitting people with a fireball made me kind of pissed. I also made some vocal complaints about how one character gets a +10000000 to hit on their bows and I can't even heal more than 10 health to my allies. \n\nThen, I just left. I said goodbye like it was just me needing to go somewhere and I packed up my things and left. \n\nI don't feel great about leaving, but I wasn't having fun there and felt like I would have escalated the situation beyond what it was already at and create a larger issue than the game. \n\nTL;DR: I left a D&D session because game balance seems to suck to me, I wasn't having fun and disagreeing many times with players and DM. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fuyyeeMfXxoKtwfZoXK6sTYxhicvXZU2", "post_id": "awaspi", "action": {"description": "not respecting my jewish family traditions for my future son", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not respecting my Jewish family traditions for my future son?", "text": "I come from a Jewish family, but I am not religious. My wife was raised christian.\n\nIn the Jewish religion, a circumcision should be done by a mohel. I told my family that we will not be having that done. They asked if we could do a bris and a naming ceremony, which I also objected to.\n\nI know I am not the asshole for not getting a circumcision done by a mohel, and my family can see my argument, however they have taken deep offense to my reluctance to do a bris and a naming ceremony. They offered to fund it 100%, it just comes down to me not wanting to make a show of my future son's penis.\n\nThey are also refusing to come to our baby shower, as Jews usually wait until after the child is born to celebrate.\n\nIn their defense, the ceremonial bris and naming ceremony is virtually harmless.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kOpUHvuOLEIziWnarpAxyjTQLSk5AKKc", "post_id": "alf3dg", "action": {"description": "defending my mom", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for defending my Mom?", "text": "It seems I will have a few AITA posts today. For context, know that I used to live with my mom, but moved in with my dad after a custody case. My mom is also overweight. My step mom moved in a few months after I did. My dad won the custody case by saying that my mother and brother verbally, physically, and emotionally abused me, which for the most part is not true. I think I deserved what I got because I hadn't gone to school at all, and was all around being delinquent. I also have previously asked my dad and step mom to keep their ill will towards my mom to themselves. Finally, we will call step mom Crown, and mom Katherine. Now, onto the actual story. \n\n​\n\nI was in the kitchen, and Crown was there with dad cooking some kind of pork. We made some smart comments back and forth as we usually do, and I began to clean off the table, getting ready for dinner. Earlier in the day, my dad got a letter for Friend of the Court telling him he would receive no child support from my mother, which angered him. At that point, Crown was angry too. She decided to say, \"It smells like Katherine in here!\" as she pulled the pork out of the oven. I told her to fuck off and stormed upstairs after spilling her drink. Now after writing this, it doesn't sound very believable, but when it comes to people disrespecting my mom, I get very angry. Anyway, she cried after dinner, and I did not eat with them. My dad wants me to apologize. Am I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "k9fCu87hWtR2uYPUYaDB1EIRDwP3BK3z", "post_id": "a2bmwg", "action": {"description": "picking up on a signal from my captain to leave early then looking like a liar to my other captain", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for picking up on a signal from my captain to leave early then looking like a liar to my other captain?", "text": "I had a 3 to 1 am shift. I work banquets and tonight to particularly hard because I got paired with a guy from another union who virtually knew nothing about banquet serving. \n\nI had to carry us all night and did the work of 2. \nI get managed by 3 captains, nightmare in itself but I digress. \nOne of my newer captains, she just got promoted and I\u2019m genuinely happy for her, I like her. Anyway she made it a point to come up to me and tell me she appreciates how I pulled the weight of my partner and she saw what was going on, I thanked her because it truely was hard on me and I\u2019m literally waddling around because my feet are killing me. She knows how bad I want to go home I ran out of energy at 5 and it\u2019s 12. \n\n\nLater on in the night she comes and asks me if I worked the morning shift as they are letting people who did go home first. I said no because I didn\u2019t. No one was claiming it, the people who did work the morning, wanted to stay because the tip pool is nice during the holidays. \n\nShe says okay and walks off to ask others.\n\nNow we are in a group, she asks me again, \u201cdid you work this morning?\u201d She\u2019s staring at me wide eyed and nodding her head up and down as to signal me to say yes so I can get out of there. \n\nI slowly said \u201cyeees\u201d. They captain behind her said \u201cdid u really though?\u201d And this captain is not as empathetic and is a bit of a attempted hard ass. \nShe then said \u201cnope you didnt I can tell, storing that in the memory bank.\u201d \n\nWhat a shit situation. Here I had one of my captains try to throw me a bone and now I\u2019m looking like a liar for taking her up on it. There is a part of me that thinks maybe she wasn\u2019t giving me a signal but there\u2019s a big part of me that thinks she was. \n\nJfc, my dad got me this job and it just don\u2019t want embarrass him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SXkB28vWa3zEc761vDbu2GKrd6eaHsnN", "post_id": "9voese", "action": {"description": "not adjusting this disabled dudes underwear", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not adjusting this disabled dudes underwear?", "text": "So backstory:\n\nMy gym has a lot of fitness classes and has rooms for these classes scattered all around the buildings. Its a YMCA so their naturally  very accommodating for many people with disabilities. \n\n\nI was at the gym and i was sitting by the pull up bar training and one of the trainers, an older lady whom looks to be in her 40s, walks up to me and the exchange went like this:\n\nHer: Excuse me, can you do me a favor?\n\nMe: Depends, whach'ya need?\n\nHer: I need you to adjust this mans pants, hes disabled and his underwear is falling down inside of his pants. I need you to pull them up for me, it would be better if a man did it\"\n\nNow lets be honest, I'm totally down to help a disabled preson who can't do something themselves. The other day a blind dude wanted to deadlift so I grabbed the barbell for him, changed his plates to the weight he wanted to lift, and checked his form. No issue.\n\nIn a situation like that i'd even be willing to get over it and pull up the dudes underwear....If it was absolutely necessary, which in this case i felt it wasn't.\n\nLooking at it from her perspective I can see what she's thinking.  If a girl needs something like that done it would probably make most girls uncomfortable to have a man do it, and a woman would be prefered. However most men just don't care, as a matter of fact many might find a man doing it uncomfortable as well and would also want a woman to do it. \n\nEither way, I didn't feel it was my responsibility to do something for a student in her class that would obviously make me uncomfortable when she is just as capable of doing it herself, especially when its her job to attend to the needs of the class. I felt at best it was a simple misjudgment on her part and at worse her simply pawning a dis-pleasurable part of her job onto me.\n\nSo I politely told her that its no big deal if she adjusts the mans pants and she should do so herself.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ElVvdi5QSZjvIz4m3bqVrKHL44iPvNA8", "post_id": "ahw7pc", "action": {"description": "taking a job half-way across the country, even though my wife wasn't happy about it", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for taking a job half-way across the country, even though my wife wasn't happy about it?", "text": "For the sake of brevity, the title misses out a lot of important information:\n\n**Context** \n\n\nMy wife and I are recently married, but have been having serious issues since the wedding. I'd been bullied and treated horribly for about 18 months at work and had eventually found another job just before the wedding. \n\nIt paid enough that we could afford an apartment together but only because it was a similarly high-pressure, toxic job like my old one. Since I started dating my wife years before our wedding, I'd also been clear that my current career was not the one for me. It was a practical choice pushed on me by my parents. The money was good (banking) but I wanted it to be a stepping stone to my actual passion as an artist. \n\nA week before the wedding, only 3 weeks in to my new job, I was fired. I still can't explain exactly why this happened - if I'm honest I think a lot of it had to do with my mindset after being so poorly treated in my last job. It was the last straw for me. I couldn't go back to banking after being kicked yet again. My wife and I discussed it on our honeymoon and I explained the plans I'd been making to start an art business.\n\nMy wife agreed, but understood that it meant staying with my parents whilst that business got up and running. She was however very cynical. She'd started a business herself and ran in to problems. She thought I'd fail too and asked me to promise that I would look for something else as a back up.\n\nI did, and all the while my art business was immediately in a good place. She and I fought every single day, however. Staying with my parents while I get this business off the ground was not the deal she wanted. I couldn't give her guarantees around the new business and she was afraid. To her credit, my parents are intrusive and our house is small. My dad promised to build an extension but seeing us fighting, decided against it. She was in a tough place too. \n\nI eventually promised my wife that we'd move out before the end of the year (that would mean we're at my parents for a maximum of 8 months). I didn't want to go back to banking but understood that, if I had no choice, I'd have to think about it. \n\nShe was fed up with everything - our fighting, the house, my parents etc and she left me. We kept in brief contact but other than that we were done. \n\n**The job offer**\n\n\nBefore the year was up, as promised - I was offered a job that could finance a new apartment. It was closer to banking that what I wanted and half-way across the country, but it gave me a fresh start and a truck load of money to keep my art business alive whilst I grew it in to something bigger. I never went looking for this job specifically. A recruiter called me about it and honestly, I only gave him a token effort to push the conversation further. \n\nMy wife knew I was interviewing for the job before she left and wasn't happy about the location. I felt that it wouldn't hurt to at least see if I could get the offer - maybe i could use it as leverage for another job discussion? At least it could guarantee us an exit from our current situation.\n\nBefore accepting the job, I met up with her with her to discuss it. As we weren't together and she did t think we had much of a future, she told me to take it. I offered her different options - maybe we could try to keep things going if she visited me every few weeks and I visited her?  I promised that if she did eventually move, that we would go back to our hometown (we live in the same town) together as often as humanly possible. That we could make weekend trips out of seeing her friends and family.\n\nNothing.\n\nI took the job and have been here for the past few months, but before I left we spoke one last time. She told me that I should have tried harder to convince her to come with me. That I knew she didn't like where I was moving to and took it anyway. That it isn't true to myself and that I'm an unpreducatable person.\n\n\n**So finally - AITA for taking this job?**", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gdVpAGjbWcvzIT9AIPgI2E3DIwGPHcFl", "post_id": "aplf4a", "action": {"description": "not wanting my roommate to use my switch console so much", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For not wanting my roommate to use my Switch console so much?", "text": " It\u2019s my first year at college, and like all 1st years living in the dorms in mandatory. I got randomly assigned a roommate who\u2019s usually fine, except for some small stuff I\u2019ve tried to ignore (like issues with room temperature, dishes, the usual stuff). However, I came to school with a Nintendo Switch and over winter break picked up Smash Bros (a very popular fighting game starring popular Nintendo characters from various games), and now my roommate is always playing it. He doesn\u2019t ask to use the console, just grabs a controller from my desk and boots the system and plays the campaign. There\u2019s multiple slots for different campaigns, so his use of the game doesn\u2019t interfere with my progression, except for the fact that he is ALWAYS using it. If he\u2019s in the room and not doing homework, he\u2019s probably playing Smash. At this point, I\u2019m starting to get sick of the game because it\u2019s on in the room so often, and even when I want to play other games on my console he acts offended when I kick him off. I asked a friend about this who said I was being a dick, because his gameplay doesn\u2019t overwrite my progress, but I wanted 3rd opinions. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kl0Zfeb5qnbcgmjBj5ureijoLdU6hxK4", "post_id": "av0g1r", "action": {"description": "being pissed off at being ignored", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "Aita for being pissed off at being ignored?", "text": "OK so, I'm fairly sure I'm an asshole, but I'm not sure if its only me being one. I'll try to be as unbiased as possible.\nOK, so I've been sick for the last few years, and recently got diagnosed with an autoimmune disease, this is kinda relevant.\nMyself and 2 friends meet up for lunch now and again. One of them, we'll call her T, I see a couple of times a week, we've known each other our whole lives. The other I see from time to time, we'll call her F, but we've drifted apart slightly over the last 15 years. Not for any reason other than we rarely see each other.\nI must add that both of them are good kind people.\nSo we met for lunch on Saturday, I wasn't feeling super great, I had been getting sick in the morning, but I wasn't feeling overly crap either. We met at 2, with T being late as always. A few times during lunch when I said something it was ignored and the other two just kept chatting, I really hate this and it pisses me off, but not a huge deal. Around 4 I decided I was going home because I wasn't feeling great but I was also fed up, so rather than ruin lunch by mentioning them talking over me I just said I was sick and went home. I text T later and just said sorry for leaving early, and that I would see her during the week. She replied with no worries (my name) \n\nOK, so fast forward to today, Tuesday, and I ring her saying I have to go to the town and I'd call in if she's about, I call in and she seems a bit off so eventually I ask her if she's OK. \n\nT ' well I might as well say it, but I thought you could have waited till we were all ready to leave at lunch, it ruined the whole dynamic of the lunch' \n\nMe ' yeah I should have, sorry, I wasn't feeling great' \n\nT ' I know you weren't feeling good but you could have waited another half hour' \n\nAt this point I'm getting annoyed as I've already apologised twice, so I say ' since we're being honest I was a bit pissed off about being ignored' then went on to explain \n\nT 'I don't remember that at all, I can't believe you'd think that'\n\nMe ' look it probably wasn't intentional, or maybe I was being paranoid' \n\nShe's getting tears in her eyes and getting pretty pissed, \n\nMe ' I should probably just go, I've got enough on my mind without falling out with people' ( meaning just being diagnosed with a lifelong illness) \n\nT ' we all have things on our minds, not just you' (she is correct, and maybe I need to take a look at myself to see am I thinking about myself too much) \n\n So I left, but I'm annoyed about it. I don't want to fall out with her, but I also don't want to take All the blame. She holds a grudge forever so it will be up to me to call first. \n\nSo, redditors of the world, before I decide to call/text her, is it just me being an asshole or do we both suck. I will accept my judgement. \n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k4JDjOgmQzTwRlKdIDQjXq8WDanB63WW", "post_id": "a51fek", "action": {"description": "not wanting to take Christmas pictures", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to take Christmas pictures?", "text": "My  mother wants me and my sister to take Christmas pictures with Santa even though we both know the truth and I\u2019m in high school and I feel a little too old to do so. \n\nWe also traditionally take pictures in our home and have never done it in public. \n\nShe called us Jackasses and held up recipes of all our gifts implying she intended to take them back if we refused \n\nShe said she would look on Pinterest for another idea but if we couldn\u2019t find one we would be going through with the original plan\n\n\nAm I an asshole for not wanting to go? I want to take pictures I just don\u2019t want to go waste time when we could just do it in the comfort of our own home. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bT6L3imVlmWqr5GU6ymLO5uckqJ675Wy", "post_id": "a35zuz", "action": {"description": "not wanting to sign a building permit for my neighbours", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to sign a building permit for my neighbours", "text": "My neighbour is planning a second story extension on their existing home.  They showed us their plans and said that because of a local council regulation they will have to redo their plans or get our consent to build.  \n\nOur main concern initially was that the structure was going to be too close and then we wouldn't be able to build an extension ourselves without running into the same difficulty.  We asked them to check with the council and see if this is a possibility and they promptly replied that this wouldnt be an issue.  I then rang the council myself to double-check and discovered that what they said was regarding future build was accurate.  \n\nHowever the background that requires us to give consent in the first place was that their planned structure could overshadow our facing windows at certain times of the day.  \n\nWhen we saw the plans initially we asked about shadowing and they said there wouldn't be any difference.  The surveyor I spoke to said that there had been a shadow plan completed and submitted that says there may be increased shadows during the afternoon but not much more duration than we experience now.  \n\nAITA for being annoyed at then not showing  us all the details of their plans?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kwqzyMUSsqHPj7fAERjN2E3Jw8gFDUm3", "post_id": "as4mnq", "action": {"description": "not wanting to change my PIN/phone password at my girlfriend's request", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to change my PIN/phone password at my girlfriend\u2019s request?", "text": "Throwaway because my current gf knows my main account name. \n\nI got my first smartphone (iPhone 4) shortly after turning 15, and soon after started seriously dating a girl in high school. Thinking it would be a cute thing to do, I changed my iPhone passcode to a combination of our initials, and shortly after when my parents allowed me to open a separate bank account from them (same bank, just not a joint account with my parents) I set my PIN number to the same 4-digit number. I started using that PIN as my passcode for just about anything that required a PIN, as I like to keep my passwords the same if not similar across all the things I use. The girl and I dated for about a year and a half, splitting up shortly before the second semester of my senior year started. I \n\nI left that code as my universal PIN not out of anything sentimental or trying to maintain my feelings for her, considering it was a mutual and amicable split. The only reason I left the code unchanged is because it had been the same for almost two years at that point, meaning it was muscle memory to use for everything. \n\nFast forward to today - I still have all those same accounts, and while I have upgraded phone models a few times since then, I have just left the same password. I am now 24 (soon to be 25) and have been with my current gf for just over two years. She found out the meaning behind my PIN shortly after we started dating, and just shrugged it off, I\u2019m assuming as to not start a fight with me and/or hurt my feelings over asking me to change it. \n\nHowever, for the last couple months, she has been sort of passive aggressive about getting me to change the code. Keep in mind, at this point it\u2019s been almost ten years since I had that high school relationship and started using that code. The last time she brought it up a few days ago, I tried to explain to her that I haven\u2019t changed the code not because it means anything to me at all anymore, but because while it would be easy to change my phone passcode, it would mean changing the PIN/passcode on a dozen plus accounts (bank, phone plan, social media, two-factor verification, loan payments, etc) that I\u2019ve had anywhere from the last 9-10 years, which would require a fair bit of work along with trying to remember the new password every time I access one of those accounts. I don\u2019t favor the idea of going through the hassle of potentially getting locked out of accounts and the mess that comes with that for the sake of simply changing my password to get her to stop nagging me. \n\nThat being said, AITA for having a level-headed conversation with her saying she might be overthinking/overanalyzing the now completely irrelevant meaning behind my passcode and that I don\u2019t feel like changing it because of the hassle it would create? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BKhvoNlUWlvhEW7HDeip5OTpqFoLDBPK", "post_id": "afzvpa", "action": {"description": "not wanting to lend my cousin money", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to lend my cousin money", "text": "Sorry this ended up a little long. I just wanted to ask a question but I ended up typing out more than I expected.\n\nSo a little backstory. I (22M) have always been like an older brother for my cousin (20F). We basically grew up together, not living too far away. Spending most of our childhood together, went to the same schools, relying on each other for emotional support through hard ships. She is not always the most reliable person, she has issues with money, relationships, and generally can be flaky. Despite all that I still will love her until eternity. I have a decent job so whenever we hang out, I like to treat her to a meal, or movie, or whatever. She doesn't reciprocate but that doesn't bother me because I view these things as a gift. I'm not expecting to be treated the same way. She has never taken advantage of this, and even offers to split or cover meals occasionally.\n\nShe moved out of their house a year and half ago and ended up with a deadbeat boyfriend. I say that, but he's not the worst guy. Just equally flaky and I see him as lazy, and unable to provide. They ended up having a kid really early into their relationship, and neither of them are working right now. My cousin got laid off, and her boyfriend has a broken leg at the moment so he's on disability. \n\nYesterday night she messaged me asking if she could borrow some money just for a few days ($400). Apparently their electricity went down, the fridge is full of rotting food, and they don't even have enough money for batteries (for flashlights), or candles, or food. The text message I got was a serious guilt trip. I'm letting their kid go hungry because I won't loan them anything. I told them I'd send a pizza over as well as some groceries, but I couldn't lend anymore money because I am broke (it's a lie, but I don't know how else to tell them). The idea of letting them borrow money again makes me uncomfortable. They accepted the groceries and pizza but it feels like I've created a strain in our relationship now.\n\nMy boyfriend tells me I'm being taken advantage of, which I guess is hard for me to see because I are about my cousin so much. I was raised with the mindset ingrained in me that family always comes first. We sacrifice and do anything for each other, but I don't want to loan my cousin money any longer. Am I an asshole because I can afford to but don't want to? How can I handle this without creating a deeper rift between my cousin and I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MYE9gfbnleg20KBUABKkGRWvudWdsNor", "post_id": "axqdiu", "action": {"description": "expressing my dislike of a something my girlfriend did in the bedroom", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA that I expressed my dislike of a something my girlfriend did in the bedroom?", "text": "GF and I (both 30's), been together just shy of 18 months. Have a healthy, regular sex life- there's some repetition of what we do, but probably because we found our groove. \n\nGF gave me a bj, finished in a handy which is pretty uncommon, I guess she wanted to mix it up. I came on my stomach and she then licked it off. I was a bit disgusted by it, I didn't say anything but it was obvious I guess as she picked up on it. \n\nShe pushed me and I just said I didn't know why I don't like it, I just found it a bit, well, icky. She mentioned she gives me a bj to completion at least a couple of times a week and that doesn't bother me and it's essentially the same which is a fair point I guess. However even then she knows I don't like kissing after. \n\nNow she's all upset and I'm a bit cpnfused, we can't always like everything and I didn't say anything or try to make her feel bad. I don't know, I understand this is completely trivial, yet here we are.\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OVtwTlDZgUdkJA8cSXeVbUWqugUCaGwz", "post_id": "b6f60j", "action": {"description": "telling my wife I was disappointed on my birthday", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for telling my wife I was disappointed on my birthday?", "text": "My wife and I have been together for 4 years, married for 3 months.\n\nLast year, for my birthday we went out for dinner. While there, she got upset at me for taking too long while I was drinking my 1 beer because she wanted to go home and sleep. No gift, no card, or sex. I mentioned to her the next day that I was hurt that she didn't even get me a card, and that she made me feel like crap when we were out for dinner by rushing me home. We had a huge argument about it, and eventually she apologized. \n\nMy birthday rolled around again today and I was dreading it. I was working late last night and didn't get home until almost midnight. She woke me this morning at 7 AM by smushing my face and asking me how old I was.  I was extremely tired but I couldn't get back to sleep after - she left for work. I was off so I cleaned & we planned for dinner out at 6 PM. \n\nWhen she got home at 6, she gave me a bag and said happy birthday. Inside the bag was an unwrapped t-shirt with a single piece of tissue paper over it. No card, nothing else. I opened the shirt (a generic gag t-shirt for pajamas) and said thank you, then asked when we'd leave for dinner. She said she was tired and wants to take a nap. She ended up sleeping until almost 8 PM. We took my car, and I googled the directions - she was texting the whole drive. While we were eating, she again says she's tired. I said to her that it would be nice to get a blowjob or even a handy. She said that she's tired and will make it up to me another night... I didn't make an issue about it, but jacking off on my birthday just I dunno, sucks I guess. \n\nWe get home, and she goes to bed. She sends me a long text about how she can tell that I'm not happy and that I shouldn't have such unrealistic expectations, that she's tired and she doesn't want to force herself. I told her that I felt like she did the bare minimum humanly possible, and that when we had this issue last year I made my expectations clear. I said that while I appreciated her getting me any gift at all, I felt like putting it in a bag with a tissue was so low effort it was almost insulting. I told her that a simple card was all I asked for and she didn't bother. I told her that getting my first blowjob of 2019 on my birthday isn't , in my opinion, an unrealistic expectation of my wife but I absolutely wouldn't want her to force herself. Lastly I told her that everything aside, I really wanted to just feel like she cared and wanted to make me feel good on my birthday.. instead I felt like crap. \n\nShe freaked and gave me this huge lecture about how she tries so hard and she's so busy and tired, etc. Telling me I'm nit picking everything and having these impossibly high expectations of her. That I'm spitting on her gift and this and that. \n\nI don't feel like what I was expecting was unreasonable.. a card, maybe a gift, preferably wrapped, and a blowjob. \n\nAITA? Am I nit picking and arguing for nothing? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fvaUSlkPKKIgKpy8ZnDi58miT7k9WqGX", "post_id": "apupap", "action": {"description": "blocking my ex and telling him off", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for blocking my ex and telling him off?", "text": "A little context: I(22F) was with my now ex(26M) for 6 months. At first it was great. We would butt heads a bit, and he didn't show much interest in things outside of his apartment, would make fun of my body hair, and tell me I should work out more, and he started watching what I was eating. I just thought he was trying to help me, and I wanted to help him with his anxiety and therapy in general.\n\n But then, my mom passed away unexpectedly in December and he chose to stay in his apartment and playing video games then come over to my house to be with me. And when I told him I didn't feel supported he told me I was ridiculous, my expectations were too high, and he was the paragon of support. \n\nAnd don't get me wrong, I didn't handle her passing as well as I could have - I was more snappy and had less patience in general - I did try to apologize though.\n\nWell, this leads to him leaving my stuff in front of his apartment in the rain. And I tried breaking up with him then but was so lost that I got back with him. So two months (February) I actually did break up with him because it was no longer a healthy relationship, and he just kept saying I had changed and that he had tried to handle me but couldn't anymore so I told him that he doesn't get to play the full victim and blocked him.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ms8h7NlpFdLlox6qIfkwOutsJyUPXeiz", "post_id": "ag19z3", "action": {"description": "not giving my Husband a Blowjob", "pronormative_score": 169, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for not giving my Husband a Blowjob?", "text": "So let me say right off the bat, me and my husband enjoy a healthy sex life, with the exception of blowjobs. I hate giving them and as a result I only give them on special occasions (his birthday, anniversary). \n\nLast night, he came home after what he proclaimed to be a \u201crough day at work\u201d. Not even 5 minutes after walking in, he started begging me for a blowjob, saying how he needed it to feel better. \n\nI told him no, and then said we could have sex later if he wanted. He got all pissed and avoided me the whole rest of the night.\n\nThis morning before he left for work, I tried talking to him about what happened but he burst out at me and yelled that \u201cas his wife I\u2019m obligated to give him blowjobs whenever he wants\u201d.  I was pretty shocked by this and in the spur of the moment I yelled at him that I don\u2019t owe him anything and that he has no right to my body. \n\nHe stormed out and went to work, he texted me a few hours later that he would be staying with a friend for a few days and that I shouldn\u2019t expect him at home. \n\nI\u2019m really panicking now, I have no idea what to do. AITA for refusing to give him a blowjob? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 166, "EVERYBODY": 16, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 169, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uY61kIiOLijTzpEzPIndDVw0N4LyDk0R", "post_id": "ajhfk3", "action": {"description": "not wanting to be in theater anymore", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to be in theater anymore?", "text": "In theater class our class is essentially made of two groups: Special Education Kids and Popular Girls. Earlier in class, I hit my limit and mentally decided against being in theater. Now, I'm not going to lie, the main reason I don't want to be in the class anymore are the people. I don't enjoy being in a class that people only take because we need art credits to graduate.\n\nAdditionally, today I embarrassed myself more than usual by sitting in the middle of a group of the popular girls on accident, then stuttering while trying to move. I had sat down in my normal spot that I had been sitting in for almost the entire class and I zoned out, sitting down in a group of people. One of the girls said \"Theres not enough space here.\" Leading me to look around and realize that I was sitting in a group. I then proceeded to get up and slur my speech, which I never do. The part that bothers me is that once I got up and moved forward a bit, as to not bother them, I heard one of them mumble something. I can't tell what it was, but theres no scenario where that could be a good thing.\n\nMy point is, I don't like the people there or at least spending class with them. I'm sure I could summarize it better, but theatre is a personal experience for me and I don't like having theater with people I'm not personally close to. I have maybe two friends in the class, and if not sitting near them, I feel like an outcast. \n\nTLDR:\n50% Special Education kids, 50% Popular Girls 1%> Friends in class. Want to drop course because I sat in the wrong place, embarrassed myself, chose to move as to fix mistake and heard mumbling behind my back. Want to quit theater because I don't like the people in class.\n\nAITA for not wanting to be in theater anymore?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "p6tCKMr6vdlJ3rrwAj0LHev33wcdtodn", "post_id": "aw59fo", "action": {"description": "going to see a peep show in Amsterdam with another girl while my girlfriend waited outside", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for going to see a peep show in Amsterdam with another girl while my girlfriend waited outside?", "text": "So my girlfriend (28F) and I (29F) went to Amsterdam for vacation a week ago. Before we left I had told her that I wanted to go see a peep show. I felt like it was one of those things you just have to experience while there. I really wanted her to go in with me but she said she didn't want to do that but it was okay if I did. I tried to tell her that if she went in with me and started to feel uncomfortable we could immediately leave but she said she wouldn't do it. I was torn because I didn't want to go without her but I knew I would be upset if I went to Amsterdam and didn't do it. \n\nFast forward and we are standing outside the peep show, one of those 2euro for 2 mins one. I asked her again if she's sure that she wouldn't go in with me and she said no so I went in by myself. So there I am waiting in line feeling super awkward and staring at the floor waiting. This group of women in front of me start talking to me and ask if it's my first time here. I tell them yes that I feel awkward but I just want to say that I've done it. They told me that it was the same for them, on vacation and just wanted to experience it. They asked me if I was in Amsterdam alone and I told them no that my gf is outside because she didn't want to come in with me. They started laughing and talking about all the sex stores they have been to and showing me all the things they bought. So I started feeling less uncomfortable and had fun talking to them. So it was their turn and they broke up into pairs to go see and one of the girls asked if I would go in with her because the rest already had broken up into pairs. I didn't think anything about it except that it would make it feel less creepy and more like fun bachelorette party or something. We go in and see the girl for maybe 30 seconds before we laugh, say we've seen enough, and then leave. I say goodbye to this group of women and say that I had fun and hope they have a good vacation. I walked outside where my gf was waiting and told her all of what happened. She made a comment about me going in with another girl but it seemed like more in a joking way than a pissed off way and that was it. \n\nWe've been back for a week now and she went out with some coworkers last night and now suddenly she's talking about how it's not okay that I did that. We got into an argument last night but I feel like if she had just come in with me none of this would've happened. AITA?              ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4xRba5h7jGG7SjcV5CeaJFpiKnk8cIYx", "post_id": "axg14k", "action": {"description": "getting pissy with my housemates for being picky about a room candidate", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting pissy with my housemates for being picky about a room candidate?", "text": "So for context, I live with six other people. One of the housemates is moving out in May, leaving us with a space to fill or we're all going to have to shell out for the missing rent.\n\n\nI'm the youngest housemate at 25; everyone else here is in their late 20s or early 30s. We all have to agree to a housemate before they move in, and we don't like to post classified ads for strangers bc it's so many people and such. We prefer to work our social networks.\n\nMy sister's best friend is 24 (I am 25) and I have known her since we were young kids. I've been encouraging her to consider the spot opening up while she finishes her BA at a nearby state college. She warmed up to the idea after visiting the house last night.\n\n I texted our group chat saying she was coming around tomorrow evening and that anyone who might want to meet her could have the opportunity. Someone asked how old she is, I said 24, and two people shot me down because she is too young (admittedly the two people I have the most conflict with). I'm already feeling defensive bc I'm only a year older than that, and I think I'm a good housemate--I pay bills promptly, I do intensive projects around the house, and I keep common spaces clean. Occasionally I nag people about the noise level, but I have the most acoustically vulnerable room in the house and I can't escape their partying (I have other feelings about drugs and sketchy people but I try to be patient).\n\nSince this potential housie is like extended family I am a little more inclined to push for her. Nobody else has mentioned interest in the room, but idk, am I feeling the urgency too early in March for a roommate on the first of May? I know I have a strong personality and am kinda anxious, so maybe I'm overreacting?\n\nAdmittedly I haven't responded in a way to define whether my behavior could determine whether iata, I guess I'm hoping Reddit can reel me in here.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Hqkq4qK01zoaQCzWwXYzQfmKfpyGBhFx", "post_id": "ai2qyu", "action": {"description": "being overly clingy", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being overly clingy?", "text": "We've known each other for about two years now, and I've liked him roughly one and a half of those. For reference, I'm still in high school. We're pretty close as friends go, and I've confessed a couple of times. He's said he doesn't want a relationship until college, but avoids the question if I ask if I have a chance. He responds to physical affection with me where he usually doesn't to others, but says 'I love you' (platonically) to me only when he feels really happy or as a sort of reward, and says I have to earn it. I call him a lot, but his phone's always on DND or he ignores my calls unless he's with friends. AITA if I keep bothering him about this, especially since it's one-sided?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x88wF9bSKjl42TQqBw3dDbdAXxK5gqKA", "post_id": "a9i712", "action": {"description": "choosing to study for an state license exam instead of having dinner with gf family", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA If i choose to study for an state license exam instead of having dinner with gf family", "text": "My gf wanted to invite her father, aunt and grandparents over for christmas dinner/ lunch.  She also planned to invite friends over to celebrate christmas later in the evening as well. Initially she asked me if i wanted to head over to their house and eat dinner their, i declined to study for my exams which is tomorrow (12/26)\nand she decided to go alone but would be back before 8pm or so. \nHowever before she says anything to me she invites everybody over to our house minutes later while on the phone with her aunt. \n\nI ask her why she did this and insisted she wanted to have dinner here and then her family would head home before our friends came. \nI told her this would make my studying very hard as we have no other place for me to sit down and concentrate. \nGf then became defensive and said i had no respect for her family and that i was selfish for not wanting to have dinnet with family. \n\nI will note that i haven't been as responsive or warm toward her family due to an awkward vibe whenever i do try to show affection or really just talk to them. Also the family has broken english and i have a hard time communicating with them in our native language.( i am from the same country but was raised in the U.S)\n\nI am at a loss for words i don't know what to feel, i tried to compromise and went to study at a local starbucks and finish up my work their and come back for dinner with them. But now gf will not respond and presumably is at her fathers. \n\nAny feedback is greatly appreciated! \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XHaN2fyS1UuTmfS2to7SltxupidMX0OE", "post_id": "b97ifd", "action": {"description": "choosing college over building a relationship with my father", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for choosing college over building a relationship with my father?", "text": "This is my first post on reddit EVER but y\u2019all seem cool and this has been on my mind for a long time.\n\nTo explain some necessary backstory, here ya go. My parents got divorced when I was around 6 years old and the court decided that my sister (3 years older than me) and I were to see my father every Monday and every other weekend. Things were going relatively well for a few years until I was nine. It was at this time where things started to get tense and to the point where my sister decided to stop visiting my dad. The reason for this is because our stepmom treated my sister so horribly that she couldn\u2019t stand being around her anymore. And to make matters worse, our father never stood up for my sister. Our mom respected my sisters decision to stop visitation and so from that point forward, I visited my dad on my own.\n\nOnce I was 12, the same thing that had happened to my sister started to happen to me. The cruel treatment and the absence of my fathers support. Therefore, I decided to stop visiting as well because the treatment was too horrible and I felt neglected and unprotected. \n\nAfter that, I lived with my mom full time until I was almost 18 when some financial struggle had forced us out of our home. My family moved to another state that was cheaper but that left me in my home state to finish my last few months of high school. I thought the best possible thing was to ask my father if I could live with him so that I could finish high school. \n\nMy father decided that we would talk about it over dinner with his wife. The dinner was awkward (It was like an interview). And seeing your father after years of separation and after puberty is very alien. Anyways, they decided that I could live with them.  \n\nLife at their house was fine for the first couple months but then towards the end, my step mom began to criticize everything in my life. Literally all my relationships (my mom & sister, girlfriend, friends, teachers). This made everything hard because at that age I was very easily manipulated and so I almost lost all of those relationships. \n\nThen college acceptances came around and I got into the college I had been interested in and I told my dad and stepmom I wanted to go. Instead of encouraging me to go the college (which the has been doing before I got the acceptance), they said that I should stay and not go to college. That I could get a job at home and work on my relationship with my father. When I insisted that I was going to go to the university, they said I had been using them and lying to them this whole time. And said that I was manipulating them for my own gain. Also adding that I wouldn\u2019t be able to support myself and succeed in a university. They topped it off by saying if I accepted the admission that I would be kicked out of the house.\n\nI accepted the admission and was kicked out the next morning.\n\nAITA?\n\nI\u2019m open to questions\n\nTLDR: I chose to go to college instead of rekindling my relationship with my father. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nkM5MIjrCQ4XAxVocZZm4ihkGIUCpU5T", "post_id": "ay524m", "action": {"description": "allowing doctors office to take a loss because I cannot afford surgery", "pronormative_score": 95, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for allowing doctors office to take a loss because I cannot afford surgery?", "text": "Throwaway because I'm ashamed. I'm 23 and still in college, I have no dental coverage cause my parents lost their jobs and the coverage ended. Thankfully they are employed but the waiting period is 6 months. I desperately need to get all 4 of my wisdom teeth out. The surgeon told me it is badly infected and I need to get them out ASAP. The pain was bad but my breath is unbearable. The infection is going to cause me to lose more teeth if this continues. We were talking about having the surgery done tomorrow. \n\nI cannot afford the surgery at all right now. I had to help my parents out with bills when they lost their jobs. I am beyond broke. But I have a job on campus and I love it! I told the surgeon I cannot afford to have them removed right now and they offered a payment plan. It was like $250/month. I could afford that but that's taking food away from me. They offered to do the surgery wisdom tooth removal free of charge. They are a fairly big office but still, someone is taking a loss in order for me to have this done.  \n\nI feel like an asshole because I could always work more and stop buying useless junk food. I made it seem like I was so poor.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 21, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 74, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 95, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sqA38CuIjTiwcfHcyJ99GKchTKI35ZW1", "post_id": "aml6w2", "action": {"description": "having a crush while Im in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for having a crush while Im in a relationship", "text": "Some backstory is that my boyfriend and I have been together happily for nearly 2 years and recently I brought up having sex with others because we aren't able to have sex as much as I want. He said it's fine with him (exact words were \"you do you\") but previously it never would've been okay. \n\nAt work I have a crush on a guy that I sit with, he's pretty cool and the exact opposite of my boyfriend, I want to hit on him but is it ok? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "WbxQxvw7MyrFn8okZLFyhgMFZpVZhnXQ", "post_id": "a367ws", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boss for making me drive to a different work site on my time and gas", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boss for making me drive to a different work site on my time and gas.", "text": "So I work in a small town 45 minutes from the city I live in and he wants me and another person to work in a building on the opposite end of the city around 30 minutes from where I live. So the other person I work with lives in the town and gets to drive on company time and gas (50 minutes) there and back while I'm still expected to show up at 8 on my time and gas.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Mk0OrOsXP9ictfHY8tiuZYdmKPPs9Pdn", "post_id": "ad9bpa", "action": null, "title": "AITA Didn't want to hang out, Friend walked into my house anyway", "text": "Okay so, it was a Thursday night about 9pm, I was leaving my mom's from upstate and had made plans with friend A to hang out, friend A asked if I wanted to get some food but I already ate so I declined. Friend A said he was just gonna go home and chill and I was tired so I ended up doing the same. This was around 10pm. Shortly after, friend B asked if I wanted to hang out with him and friend A, I still wanted to hang out at home, so I said I was just going to stay in. So, after deciding this, I was relaxing at home watching some YouTube videos and had my phone off for a while. I have roommates so people come in and out of the house regularly and the door is normally unlocked. Friend B is a notorious boundary crosser, but I didn't think it would end up with him walking into my home, without having been invited over, and opening my door and saying \"what's up dude\". So naturally, my reaction was confusion, and anger. I asked him why he decided to come to my house and then walk in without my permission as I told both of them I didn't want to hang out. He said that they wanted to see if I wanted to chill. I ended up inviting both of them in because I'm easy going and tend to be a push over. They hung out for a little bit, friend A went home and I let friend B stay over because we had a few beers. The next day, I was frustrated about the situation and texted both A, and B. A quickly apologized, didn't expect B to walk into my house. B responded very aggressively, made childlike remarks and didn't really apologise for the whole thing. He took my reaction very personally when I didn't say anything derogatory about his person, but went over the fact that his actions were disrespectful. I'm not sure if me posting this, or discussing the issue is futile as I ended up inviting them in anyway and I'm posting this because I'm really not sure how to feel about my reaction to the situation/their decision to show up at my house.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TCr7aKtuK0DuF3QKSTyYtXWflAPp0zm6", "post_id": "ak68iu", "action": {"description": "wanting to donate in memory of a kid I went to high school with, but now that I know that they are asking for donations to a charity I disagree with, not wanting to donate? if so, how should I go about it", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to donate in memory of a kid I went to high school with, but now that I know that they are asking for donations to a charity I disagree with, not wanting to donate? If so, how should I go about it?", "text": "So I'm 19, and there was a kid a grade below me who just recently died in a workplace accident (worked for some waste management company and through their own negligence somehow got crushed by a dumpster. Horrible accident, I was heartbroken. I wasn't close to the kid but obviously I'm empathetic and felt bad. \n\nNot having been close to his family but having known his girlfriend, I messaged her and asked if the family had a GoFundMe or if there was a specific charity that I could donate to in his name. She wasn't sure but said she would get back to me. She posted on her Facebook that since Justin was a redneck who loved guns, the family would like people to donate to the NRA in his name. \n\nNow I'm not a raging liberal. I'm very moderate. BUT I really wouldn't want to donate to the NRA. It goes against what I believe in. It's not that guns are bad. But I disagree with a lot of the NRA's stances. That said, I understand it's my choice not donate or not donate, but am I an asshole for not wanting to purely because I don't like the charity they chose? Would it be rude to donate to another charity in his name, or am I better off not doing anything at all? What would you do if put into a similar situation? (If you're republican, pretend it was a woman and they asked for donations to Planned Parenthood, or an atheist and were asked to donate to the Catholic Church, or, you get the idea. \n\nTIA! ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aTokeQebdLpNgOSrPeCz7hVhinJbj7kJ", "post_id": "amyfn2", "action": {"description": "disobeying boyfriend's parents", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for disobeying boyfriend\u2019s parents?", "text": "So I\u2019m a 17 year old guy, boyfriend is 16. Let\u2019s call him James for this. Me and James have known each other since middle school. We didn\u2019t go to the same school, we met playing a bike racing game online and have sort of kept in contact ever since. We started talking more last year, and it turns out we live in the same state. We start dating right before we meet up for the first time. James\u2019 parents are pretty overprotective, so in order to get me over to his house he lied to them and told them I went to his middle school so they\u2019d trust me more. We spent the day together at his house and had a great time, but his parents found out I was actually his boyfriend and they freaked out. They cut all communication he had with the outside world for 2 months, and wouldn\u2019t let him leave the house unless they were with him. He came out to his parents and they gave him the usual \u201cit\u2019s unnatural\u201d stuff. The only thing he had was an old 3ds that he emailed me on. We talked every night and when he finally got his phone and stuff back a few days after his birthday, we set up plans together and I snuck over to his house. I\u2019ve been doing it about twice a month ever since, and we\u2019re planning on hiding me until they lighten up. His parents refuse to speak to me at all, so in my eyes they\u2019re making harsh judgments about me when they haven\u2019t even gotten my side of all this yet. Theyve threatened him with hiding a camera in his room so he sneak me over. They aren\u2019t gonna do it, but I still don\u2019t think that\u2019s a threat you should be making towards your near-adult child. While I understand they have rules, both me and James believe they\u2019re massively overreacting and are ignorant for not listening to anything I or James have said. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gZJHHPn1dYDuiWtgd8xanqilrRHD8K16", "post_id": "aqfetg", "action": {"description": "quitting my high paying job that I hate to follow my passion, but in doing so would mean having to cut off my son? I promised I'd ensure he'd make it through college debt free", "pronormative_score": 158, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "WIBTA if I quit my high paying job that I hate to follow my passion, but in doing so would mean I'd have to cut off my son? I promised I'd ensure he'd make it through college debt free.", "text": "I have been reading this message board for almost a day but with that, this is my first ever reddit post so please forgive me if I make any mistakes. \n\nI am a 52 year old mother of 2 kids, aged 26 (girl) and 20 (boy). My husband and their father was killed in a car accident 14 years ago and I have never dated and obviously never remarried. That is not the reason for this post, just setting some background. I had been a very happy stay at mother who was jolted into reality with no work experience, a near worthless college degree and two school age kids. I was lucky enough that insurance and lawsuit were enough to pay off our mortgage so we never lost our home. But the first two years were a struggle like I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. Through sheer good luck and timing, I got a job working as a receptionist for a large local company. I very quickly saw a massive inefficiency and in my first two months I was able to save the company over a million dollars. As such I was promoted, kept getting promoted, was offered stock and even a chance to buy into the company and now I am now sales VP. It's a miracle from where we were 14 years ago. But I despise my job. I literally get stomach aches on the way into work every morning and have to sit in my car and scream in order to even walk through the door. I am proud of what I've done but my blood pressure is through the roof and I am very unhappy. \n\nA few weeks ago my friend started a local coffee shop and all I want to do is go work for her for minimum wage and tips. She is struggling but she is very happy, she has regular customers who appreciate her and are happy to see her every morning. She has nice men that come in and I'll sit at my desk dreaming that maybe I'll find a connection with one of them find some sort of companionship. A start up coffee shop doesn't have a great shot but even then I could get some experience and work at Starbucks. My company would be willing to buy out my stake but that would have to be my forever money and I would have to (and gladly) cut back to much more of a subsistence lifestyle. \n\nNow on to my two kids. When I started making legitimate money, one of the promises I made my kids was that I would ensure they made it through college. After our two year struggle, I never wanted to see them in debt. My daughter ran with this, went to a local school, lived at home, got strait A's and she is now starting her first year as a oncology resident. My son went to an out of state school, rented a high end apartment he found on Instagram, probably did an incredible amount of drugs, who knows what with women and spent as much money in his first six months of college as my daughter did in four years. The money I'd saved for him was gone. I made a huge error in judgement in thinking he could responsible with his money and I provided no oversight. He was also put on academic probation because he failed every single class. \n\nHis second semester was a little better and I moved him into the dorms, he got a C average and did a little better. Well I just got the grades from his third semester (last fall) and again he failed every class. Somehow he was also able to take out over $25000 in credit cards and maxed every single one of them out and as near as I can tell hasn't made a single payment. I just flew him home and tonight we had an all out brawl with me telling him how exhausted I am from work and now I'm going to have to sell some stocks to bail him out because I don't have $25000 in cash.\n\nHe started crying and telling me how sorry he was and I thought we were having something of a moment so I started crying and told him how much I hated my job and how I wanted to go work at the coffee shop and what that would mean for him. Well instead of having an ounce of sympathy he exploded on me that if I quit and cut him off I wouldn't be able to pay for his debt and I would be breaking my promise that I'd made to him since his dad died (the timing is not correct, but he is correct that I made the promise). He has a terrific way of making me feel horribly guilty and I let him run all over me in the argument. He went slamming doors all around the house, got in touch with his high school friends and I'm not sure if he's coming home. \n\n\nI feel so stuck. I know that my alarm is going to go off at 5:15 and I'll be driving to a job I hate. I guess to wrap this up, would I be the asshole if I just quit tomorrow and cut him off?\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 158, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 158, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XlfKj7dPylw6QiV5v9ivrnuNGqdklmwF", "post_id": "b7dbon", "action": {"description": "teasing my boyfriend too much", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for teasing my boyfriend too much", "text": "Warning I'm on a phone and very tired after this \n\nStuff you need to know: \n1)its long distance\n2)We both live to tease eachother so it isn't really 1 sided\n3)we're both boys (felt like someone will think im a girl)\n\nOk this happened a few hours ago, i was teasing my bf (guess you know what type) online with pics that didn't show much. We where on call before all of this and he left for like 5 mins to do something. Not sure what it was (he clamed that he said brb but i never heard that) so i started whining and being annoying. After a while he said he has to go (he wanted to get me presents) so i said ok (very sadly because i didn't want him to go) and he hung up. I sent him some interesting pics and refuse to show too much (he asked multiple times). He was saying how he would tease me back for this and by nature i said \"try me\". He got mad and went off on me saying \"now i have a unappreciative boyfriend\" stuff like that. I never meant for it to turn out like that. I ended up saying \"i love you and im sorry\" at the end of it he left me on read. Without saying i love you back. I was already having a shitty weekend and this fucked me up even more. \n\nI have been full on sobbing for about 30 min just cause of being left on read. I get a text on Instagram and he sent me a post. I said sorry again and we both got in a little argument. It was about how he thinks i don't care for him. Again i said sorry and tried to fix things up. The last thing he texted it that \"you gotta make it up to me\". \n\nTo be fair i didn't tell him i was sobbing. But he knows im pretty much like a baby when im sad.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nyVBryPfQ51a44p58yIBbwzUZNnUNWqA", "post_id": "a61nlo", "action": {"description": "making my girlfriend return an expensive gift", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA For making my girlfriend return an expensive gift?", "text": "My girlfriend of around 5 years got me a gift for Christmas. She got me a nice new laptop because she knew my old one was slow and she wanted me to have the best. She said that it\u2019s something I deserve. She said that she would return it if I wanted her to and I think I want to. I don\u2019t want to return it because it isn\u2019t nice - it is- I want to return it because I feel like it\u2019s too much for me. I feel like it\u2019s something that I do deserve and need, but I feel like a high end gift like this is something I can\u2019t accept from anyone for whatever reason. I told her I want to return it and she said she doesn\u2019t want me to. Am I the asshole for telling her I want to return it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3RaVvQZ5gQUO86NecR4koLZC78rWm6n2", "post_id": "augcfa", "action": {"description": "telling my wife to pay attention to our 3 year old who left the room sad because \"mom won't play with me\"", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for telling my wife to pay attention to our 3 year old who left the room sad because \u201cmom won\u2019t play with me\u201d", "text": "So here is the back story.  I work full time and sometimes two jobs since my wife won\u2019t work. She says it\u2019s too much to deal with kids and work.  She has been sick today in her defense and I am VERY aware that a stay at home mom job is extremely draining and full time as well.   \n\nHere is where I have some frustrations.  When I was working two jobs she would get mad that I wasn\u2019t doing the dishes or the laundry or cleaning the bathrooms when I would leave at 7 am and get home at midnight or later 6 days a week.  Also she would stress the importance of giving the kids time and attention (which I completely agree is vital).  When I get home during my normal work week (one job only now) I play with the kids, make my own dinner, and then usually do bedtime with the kids and lay in their room till they fall asleep. Then I get to anything I wanted to try and do at home that day and finally sit and watch a tv show or something in bed on the iPad (usually my wife is trying to go to sleep now so I massage her legs while I watch)\n\nSo tonight really pissed me off because she was watching tv and has been sick today.  I\u2019m fine with taking the kids all day on days like this.  I took them to church, played all day, did laundry, and the dishes today.  While I was putting away laundry our 3 year old kept trying to get my wife\u2019s attention while she was cuddling with our 6 year old.  She finally left the room and said \u201cI\u2019m going to bed\u201d.  That never happens so I went to check on her.  She said mom won\u2019t play with me (she said look at this and my wife was too focused on the tv. So then my daughter said \u201cmom, I love you...\u201d and my wife said nothing because of the tv). This pissed me off so I said to my wife that or daughter was sad since she wasn\u2019t getting her attention and my wife shrugged her shoulders like it was no big deal.  This pissed me off so I said that she shouldn\u2019t dare shrug her shoulders like it\u2019s no big deal her daughter was sad.  We started to fight and she pulled the whole I play everyday with them (I don\u2019t disagree with that. She does, but also she goes out weekly with her friends and I always make sure they give her space when I\u2019m home.) I said that\u2019s great but she doesn\u2019t need to play the victim over it and recognize that the fact that a 3 year old felt the need to leave the room and be sad is a big deal.  So am I the asshole here?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tUvNU7FwkwAL9eB7WMjjlGuYaUkRrvoH", "post_id": "a2buzn", "action": {"description": "telling my mom not to buy gifts for a different family this Christmas", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom not to buy gifts for a different family this Christmas?", "text": "This may get long, I will try to summarize at the bottom.\n\nTechnically, there are 3 potential assholes in this scenario, as 2 siblings (Sister and Brother) we my co-conspirators.\n\nSome Background:\n\nMy mother is somewhat neglectful and absolutely narcissistic. When my parents divorced I was 13, and I asked her why she didn\u2019t just let dad have custody and she said to me, \u201cDo you know how society looks at a woman who doesn\u2019t have custody of her own kids?\u201d As an aside, I am also angry at her because I am 35 and just realized I have autism which she probably noticed (she is a doctor) and didn\u2019t seek treatment for because she didn\u2019t want an autistic kid. But I digress.\n\nI do love her. She usually equates love to buying us stuff, and we are used to getting a huge Christmas. Even as adults she usually bought us each something nice we wanted, think washer/dryer or big screen tv.\n\nLast Christmas:\n\nShe prefaced the holiday by starting at Thanksgiving telling us she can\u2019t afford more than $50 each, she wants to do more but can\u2019t, etc. My 3 siblings all have 6 figure incomes and were equally annoyed at this because it is exhausting to watch a doctor who sometimes drops $1000 a week on designer baby clothes for one of the grand kids suddenly claim they are in poverty. We don\u2019t care what she gives us, but don\u2019t want to be guilted.\n\nAbout a week before Christmas she calls me and wants me to help her shop for this family she has adopted. We go out and drop $1500 at Target. She then spends like another grand with my sister at ToysRUs (RIP) Apparently she had a patient come in with a sob story, and instead of referring them to organizations like she should have she decides to help them herself.\n\nI will be honest, I don\u2019t have a six figure income, and at this point was pretty near the poverty line myself. I would be lying if I said I wasn\u2019t wicked pissed about the money. I would like to imagine that if I had more money I wouldn\u2019t have felt this way. But as it was we usually just asked for cash in lieu of a tv or whatever to buy extra Christmas for my own son. When she said she \u201ccouldn\u2019t afford\u201d to give me more than $50 it felt like she was saying she couldn\u2019t help me buy my son Christmas because she had to buy it for them instead.\n\nBut I bit my tongue, and even played Santa to her adopted family by delivering the gifts. And in January I asked her to loan me my rent, and she just paid it outright instead so I did get my Christmas present after all, and was very grateful.\n\nFast Forward to This Year:\n\nShe starts again with how she can\u2019t afford Christmas, this time before Thanksgiving.\n\nI asked her to help me buy a stove, because we literally don\u2019t have one. I have cooked on a hot plate and toaster oven for 6 months. She says it\u2019s too much, but I found one for $400 black friday and she agreed to split it with me, but it counts as my spouse\u2019s birthday gift this year and mine next year as well. Cool. I\u2019m so fucking stoked, right?\n\nShe texts the whole family again earlier this week, and I will just include the good parts:\n\nMom, \u201cSo the family we helped out last year is asking for help again... They brought me a list of items and I\u2019m wondering if anyone wants to help out? Thank you and if you don't want to just say so no problem.\u201d\n\nSister, \u201cOf course they want help again...\r\nLast year was the best Christmas of their life....Someone should tell them there is no santa\u201d\n\nMe, \u201c1. Told ya. 2. If you don't intend to do the exact same thing every year, until these kids are adults then you need to tell them the truth now, \"That the organization that you contacted last year is out of business.\" 3. I might be offended if you hadn't a. Already bought me a Christmas present and b. Didn't already give me a billion things this year. Let's not forget that you have at least one adult child who lives in poverty as the result of undiagnosed mental illness. But, I digress. And finally, 4. I would be happy to shop with you if you want, and deliver like last year.\u201d\n\nBrother, \u201cYeah, you should actually help her fill out paperwork for an organization. Probably too late this year but you're basically setting a precedent for every future year \ud83d\ude02\u201d\n\nLater my mom called me:\n\nSo, she calls me and asks why my brother and sister are being assholes, lol. She does this thing where she pretends like one of us wasn\u2019t involved. Not sure the motive, but regardless I pissed her off and she hung up on me. This is basically what I said:\n\n\u201cYou justify to us not buying Christmas by saying, \u201cI don\u2019t have money.\u201d Which is EXACTLY what you said to us last year. Then you turned around and dropped $2500 on them. It happened, I was there. So, what we want is honesty. Say to us, \u201cI don\u2019t want to spend my money on you.\u201d And stop bitching about how you have no money. As adults we don\u2019t NEED presents, but you act like you want to give us presents, but are just unfortunately stopped from doing so by the fact that you \u201chave no money.\u201d It clearly isn\u2019t true if you can buy a whole other family Christmas. You asked why my siblings are upset, I explained. I am sorry it offends you.\u201d\n\nHonestly, for my siblings I know it is about feeling neglected, they don\u2019t need money, but can\u2019t help but to hear, \u201cI don\u2019t love you,\u201d when our mother starts bitching about giving us money. She did that to herself through years of not being home. There were whole weeks sometimes when we only knew she had been home because there was a stack of blank signed checks on the table. When she was with us she would just throw money at us.\n\nI\u2019d be lying if I said for me the saltiness wasn\u2019t at least a little about the money. I pawned my husband\u2019s wedding ring today so I could pay rent *and* buy groceries. I did forget to mention mom did say I don\u2019t have to pay for my half of the stove. \n\nWhat I really think I\u2019m most mad about is the way she treated me when I asked her to split the cost of a stove with me, vs. how I know she responded when these relative strangers brought her a *prepared list* to their doctor\u2019s appointment; I\u2019m sure it wasn\u2019t, \u201coh, boy, I want to, but I can only spend $50 this year.\u201d\n\nWhen I told my bff the story she asked if my mom was taking lists from everybody.\n\ntl;dr: mom offered to help a needy family last year, this year they brought her a prepared list of stuff they wanted expecting her to do it again and it left a bad taste in my mouth, but maybe I\u2019m just jelly?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zvUkKCqpQY2E2Q86OXnQZ7pU29Z7b4nP", "post_id": "aru2fc", "action": {"description": "giving a guy the finger when he was tailgating me. he subsequently chased me and rammed my car", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for giving a guy the finger when he was tailgating me. He subsequently chased me and rammed my car.", "text": "Hi Reddit, \nI'm at a bit of a loss as to if this is justified by the other driver. Let me explain,I was driving along in the right-hand lane on x road towards a suburb and at 9:38PM Sunday 17th 2019. I overtook a white Nissan x-trail 2011 (travelling at 55kmph, I was travelling at 62kmph) , moved into the left lane after I was 30m ahead with my blinker on legally and prepared to turn left onto a road 500m ahead. Immediately, after I merged the driver (Male \u2013 middle aged) accelerated and began driving extremely close to my back and flashed on his high beams right into my car. I threw up my finger to attempt to get him to stop flashing his high beams and stop following me so closely. I then turned left on to y road after he followed me closely the entire 500m. He followed me onto this road extremely aggressively, his tires screeching as he tried to follow me as close as he could. I accelerated trying to get away from him. I then turned down another road and went down the road trying to escape this car. He followed me again and again accelerated extremely hard at my car. I was going about 80kmph at this point due to the fact I was afraid he was going to hit and damage my car and I attempted to slow down as we got closer to another road, but he refused to slow down. I was forced to swerve onto the right (wrong) side of the road at about 50kmph in order to prevent him from hitting me. He then rammed my car on the back-left side, shattering the left tail light and denting the back bumper badly. It also bent my exhaust. He then got in front and turned onto hull road. I attempted to follow. I followed him onto hull road, and he stopped his car. I pulled in front of his car stopped my car to get out. This was about 9:40PM. I got out of my car and he immediately revved his engine and then tried to run me over by accelerating hard at me. I ran behind my car attempting to avoid getting hit by him as he drove over exactly where I was standing. He then drove off as fast as he could and did not stay on the scene. I called the police at 9:42PM.\n I've never felt so targeted before, and I literally did nothing wrong to him other than the hand sign. I'm kind of at loss as to why he reacted so strongly and was wondering if I'm the asshole here.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8pU4Hz8rd6xGh4yo9hNgCw7kcUJHxZh7", "post_id": "az9ol4", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my parents for not letting me go to a party", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my parents for not letting me go to a party?", "text": "I'm 16 and I live in a relatively small town. My high school isn't very big, so everybody knows each other.\n\nI recently got invited to go to a party at my best friends house. Yeah, of course there would be drinking. I asked my parents if I could go, and they said no. The only reason they didn't want me to go was because they didn't want a guy to do something to me against my will and get pregnant. Now, I know that there wouldn't be many people at the party, and that it was just people from my high school, and all of them were in relationships, and could hold their alcohol pretty well. There's never been a case of anything bad happening at the parties that kids from my school go to.\n\nI argued that it wasn't fair that I couldn't go, as I'd be very careful not to let anything happen. I even told them that I wouldn't drink anything, and that I could be the designated driver for my friends. They still said no.\n\nI asked if they would let my brothers go, and my father said yes! And he even said he would let them drive his car, which is his prized possession!\n\nMy brother's are the same age as me (They're twins, and I'm adopted), 16.\n\nIs this unfair?\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "H9dnrVhw6Nmr62B1yqYTIrK7Go4bblMd", "post_id": "b5fray", "action": {"description": "pressuring my wife about sex and distancing myself because of it", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for pressuring my wife about sex and distancing myself because of it?", "text": " \n\nAITA for being resentful towards my wife for not wanting to have sex with me?\n\nOk so here is the deal. My wife and I have been married for 10 years this summer and in the last 2 years her libido has become almost nonexistent. To the point that we probably have sex once a month and I am extremely hurt and annoyed by this. I have tried a lot of things, and not just sexual things to get her going and nothing works. She has told me that she needs to connect with me in order to get in the mood and so we have had romantic wonderful dates, but when it comes to getting home and being intimate she doesn't want to. I have been patient and tried to be understanding but I need sex in my life.  \nLast time we talked I wrote down what she expected of me and it came down to:\n\nDon't watch porn,\n\nDon't masturbate,\n\nDon't fondle her,\n\nDon't pressure her about sex, just drop the subject.\n\nSo am I supposed to give up on sex altogether?\n\nI told her that as much as she needs to feel connected mentally to have sex, I also need to feel connected physically to feel romantic at all. Her continuous refusal has brought my self esteem to an all-time low and I have told her how much it hurts to be constantly rejected.  \n\n\nSo lately I've been distant. I don't kiss her other than a peck in the lips when she expects it or a small kiss when she asks for one. I've stopped all the romantic things I used to do for her and now that I also work nights she has to take care of the kids all the time like I used to do because she was stressed at work.\n\nWhen I feel like she wants something anywhere close to intimate I just don't act on it. This is possible because when I asked her \"why she never tried to seduce me?\" she said it was the man's job to seduce. When she wants sex all she has to do is a little extra kiss or a certain look and I'm usually up for it right on cue. But now I just ignore it. I don't even say I love you anymore because I feel mad and hurt.\n\nSo here I am wondering if distancing myself so much to make her feel my absence is an asshole move or if I'm right in feeling neglected.\n\nPS: I know she is not cheating, that's not the problem. We have such a tight schedule I would have notice by now and I'm afraid to say that I have also gone through her phone a couple of times because I am desperate for an answer", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zEBkhJ1MbHgKWgy6zd5fXMRkM1caJU3y", "post_id": "b4c47g", "action": {"description": "feeling hatred towards my mother when she told me that I was being overly negative about essentially everything", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for feeling hatred towards my mother when she told me that I was being overly negative about essentially everything?", "text": "My (18F) mother (51F) and I were in a parking lot. She's had a bad fever recently and complains of aches in her body, so I'm often told to prepare a \"cupping treatment\" for her. For those not in the know, cupping treatment is an Asian treatment where cups are suctioned onto the person's body to relieve pain. However, I've done some research (not a lot, I know) and found studies that suggest that cupping treatment might be no better than a placebo. I decided to bring this up with my mom while in the car; it was parked, braked, and the engine was turned off.\n\nWell, she didn't react well to it. She started to yell at me about how I shouldn't be trusting a few studies over millions of people and thousands of years. She told me that I always focus on the negative parts of everything, and that I've been brainwashed by western culture. When I asked her why she was yelling, she told me that she did not feel well from her fever.\n\nThe drive home was very awkward and stressful. My mother pointed out how I'm poor at planning things and that I just don't care enough to succeed in life (which are both true statements), since the event that I drove for was poorly scheduled due to weather and a tight deadline. She has many valid points, but I felt hatred for her then and now I'm feeling awful about that hatred. I feel like I'm just conjuring these feelings to defend myself from having to improve.\n\nSo, Reddit; AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NYnCIlvAR6YspA1ybUDnEUbZSbcE9zcq", "post_id": "b689nf", "action": {"description": "getting myself a GameCube, even though one was already given to me as a gift", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I got myself a GameCube, even though one was already given to me as a gift?", "text": "I just want to start things off by saying that my relationship is long distance. Visits aren\u2019t as frequent as we'd like, but they last a long time. I\u2019m not sure if it\u2019s information that should be taken into account, but it\u2019s worth sharing.\n\nMy girlfriend is an artist. She\u2019s done a lot of art of us and characters we\u2019ve come up with (we\u2019re furries). I figured I\u2019d help make her process more efficient, as she was taking photos and coloring them in Paint at the time. Last May, I bought her a graphics tablet and had it shipped to her house. She was ecstatic to get it. She said she had to repay me, but I told her I wanted nothing in return. Giving gifts is great, and I like being generous.\n\nA few months later, she said she was planning on giving me one of her two GameCubes. My Wii\u2019s disc drive stopped working in 2013, so I wasn\u2019t able to play GameCube games anymore. I refused at first, but was happy to accept it later on. I asked her what models she had. She didn\u2019t know. She was living in a house close to campus, and the other GameCube was at home. I was looking for a DOL-001, but I would have been perfectly fine with a DOL-101 model. They both play games, and that was just fine with me.\n\nI visited her in December, two days after Christmas. She gave me a box. I opened it up to find a model 101 GameCube. That was just fine with me. The thing is, there were no cables and no power source. It was just a system. She apologized and gave me a controller to make up for it. I said it was fine, and took the GameCube home after I left.\n\nAfter looking for cables and a power source online, I decided to ask a friend of mine, who has a collection of over a thousand games, where a good place to look would be, and if third party parts would be usable (I almost always prefer first party but it\u2019s not always an option). He said third party cables would work fine, but a third party power supply could screw up the image. He didn\u2019t know any other places, and recommended looking for another GameCube.\n\nA few weeks ago, I decided to start looking on eBay for GameCubes, specifically DOL-001 models. I told some friends at the house I live in for their thoughts, and they unanimously said that I was being ungrateful by looking for something someone already took their time to give to me. I tried countering back by telling them that looking for the parts by themselves would be too challenging, and that it\u2019d be easier to get a new GameCube, the same advice my game collector friend told me. I asked my girlfriend about it, and she told me she understands and wouldn\u2019t be offended at all. She also said it'd be nice to use the one she gave me as a backup, should my potential future GameCube fail. That was supposed to settle it, but I\u2019m still being called ungrateful by my housemates, and it's starting to make me think that I might be making a moral mistake.\n\nSo, neutral minds of Reddit, I want to know. Would I be the asshole if I got myself a GameCube?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JOP7bwo9NCCnUCs3hbDcdJj4DXhLR8lY", "post_id": "ao16bn", "action": {"description": "flirting with a guy my friend had been into, in front of her, awhile after he had rejected her", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for flirting with a guy my friend had been into, in front of her, awhile after he had rejected her?", "text": "It's easiest to tell this story chronologically.  \n\nRougly 1 year ago: Backstory. I'm on a boozy river floating trip with a Meetup (group of adults that do things together sometimes regularly that can often include strangers). My friend Lindsey, at that time more an acquaintance than a friend, was there as well as a guy I had never met before, Jack. On this trip, I was incredibly blackout drunk, flirted recklessly with a ton of random people on the river, Lindsey was drunk, Jack was drunk, everyone was drunk. I do remember Jack trying to make out with me, and then me stopping him and saying I don't hook up with people in this Meetup because it'd make it weird to come back. \n\nAbout 5-6 months after that (I'm now pretty close friends with Lindsey), Jack asks Lindsey on a date. They go, she has a great time, and she texts me to tell me. She asks me if it's too needy to text him that night and say she had a fun time or not. I say, don't play games, if you had fun, be honest. She tells him. He responds something like \"Great, I'm glad! Me too!\" but then he never follows up to ask her on a second date. She tells me she's unhappy about it, and we don't talk much about it after that.   \n\nAbout a month after that, she hosts an event at her house. I'm there, and Jack, and a lot of our mutual meetup friends (a few who were close to Lindsey knew that she had a thing for Jack). We're all hanging out having a seemingly good time. After, she texts me that she was really upset about how the night went. She felt embarrassed by Jack, because our mutual friends had known she was into him and that he had asked her on a date, and throughout the night she felt he had ignored her the entire evening, and on top of that had felt that Jack was flirting with me in front of her. I honestly told her that I did not feel that way (did not notice him ignoring her or paying extra attention to me), that he had always struck me as a cocky player (like when he tried to make out with me even though I was blackout sloppy), and that if he wasn't into her, he's a clear idiot, because she's amazing and at that time she was one of my closest friends. She texts back a heartfelt thank you, I say a heartfelt no prob girl, and we don't really talk about Jack again. \n\n5-6 more months after that, we're all on an extended weekend trip together (again, with some new acquaintances but mostly a close-to-mildly-close mix of friends now). We're in a cabin in the woods doing lots of drugs. It's my first time doing anything harder than weed, so I'm kinda wired, and at this point in my life I'm also feeling painfully single. Due to the weird dynamics of the people we're on this trip with, I'm drunk and high and want to flirt really badly, and I decide Jack's the guy I'm gonna unleash all this weird energy on, because I knew that at some point he was into me so it should be easy and hopefully not weird. It doesn't really strike me to think about Lindsey's history with him, because there wasn't much of a history, and lots of time had passed. \n\nWe're all playing truth or dare, and Lindsey dares me to \"give a guy blue balls.\" I whisper in her ear that I'm gonna do it to Jack. She laughs back in response The game continues, but I never really get around to doing anything more PG than a footsie with Jack, so no blue balls were achieved (nor attempted).\n\nThe night winds down and we're all smoking weed on the porch under the stars. I get into some dumb argument with Lindsey and our closest mutual friend, so I go inside because I'm emotional (drugs?) and feel hurt. After maybe 10 or so minutes, Jack comes in to see if I'm alright. I invite him to cuddle on the couch with me. At some point it doesn't feel warm enough, so I go to our room to grab a comforter. My suitcase is all strewn out over my own bed, so in my sleepy state I take the comforter off Lindsey's bed (we were 4 girls in a 2 bed, but Lindsey and I were not sharing). I go back to the couch and am cuddled under the blanket with Jack. Everyone eventually comes back inside to go to bed. As Lindsey walks by, I tell her I took the comforter from her bed as a heads up, and does she want it back? She doesn't. She goes to bed, I fall asleep next to Jack on the couch.  \n\nThe next day, we split up and take different cars home. Over the car ride, it comes out over text that she is very mad at me. She feels I betrayed her as a friend by flirting so strongly with someone that had hurt her so deeply.  \n\nThis is where the two sides in the story really diverge.  \n\nShe claims that I knew how badly Jack had hurt her. She tells me that after the party at her house, she cried when Jack left, and I was with her in person and told her the \"You're a catch and he's an idiot\" pep talk to her crying on her bed in her room. She says I knew how badly he hurt her, and how could I do that in front of her? \n\nI tell her that I honestly didn't know he had hurt her so badly. I say I recall her being upset from the party, but it was over text, and I pull up the texts that show it. \n\nShe concedes maybe on the texts over the in-person crying situation, but still doesn't understand how I could be so insensitive to her when I'm the one always claiming that I'm so sensitive. She brings up my emotional overreaction to our dumb porch spat, says I always expect them to be so cautious around me, but why can't I be cautious around her? \n\nI say that if she had any issues with my behavior at any point, she should've just pulled me aside and told me. But instead, we played truth or dare, and she all but encouraged me to go ahead and flirt with Jack. She claims that she did not encourage me. I said \"You dared me to give him blue balls!\" She says she did not pick him, and that when I said I chose him, she nervously laughed because she thought I couldn't be serious, there was no way I'd be so bold and rude to her.  \n\nThis is what gets me - she says starts to feel like maybe I had a point, and maybe I didn't know the extent of how she felt about Jack. But then she says that she called a friend (not mutual) and explained both sides of the story, and the friend validated her. Said that any girl would know girl code means all guys from a girl's history are completely off limits. \n\nI'm confused. She had one date with him, well over half a year ago, and technically, didn't I have a history with him first when he made a move on me? \n\nShe starts bringing up a tally of things she's mad about that go beyond this. Her argument is now about me being a bad friend overall. For instance, she says that when we were on a pub crawl together, I ran away when one of our friends started throwing up and I called it disgusting.  \n\nI tell her my version of that story, but also, \"If you had a problem with that then, you should've brought it up then, because that was a year ago and our memories of it are completely different, so we can't even have a real discussion about it.\" \n\nThis goes on for awhile. We never really reach a resolution. We act like we're kinda okay with things, but she moves across the country a few months later, so we never really tried to fix this fight. We don't speak anymore. I lost a close, close friend from flirting with this guy. \n\nI'm just really curious ... AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pF2aODvNCDSlEs5NRdvbcLYVQ4HKC5fI", "post_id": "au7l42", "action": {"description": "arguing with someone", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For arguing with someone?", "text": "I\u2019m gonna try to keep this as short as possible.\n\nSo there is this person (let\u2019s call her C). C and I got in to a verbal argument. It started when she accused her me of bullying someone (when I didn\u2019t I barely even speak to the person in question) The I accidentally grabbed her bag when u was catching myself from a fall. She starts telling people that I hit her across the face (which from what I just said was not the case). Everyone starts believing C despite the inconsistency of her story (it ranges from me slapping her across the face to me kicking her) no one actually stops to listen to my side of the story and immediately jump to conclusions. I then respond by telling her that she\u2019s a scumbag.\n\nAfter all of the above, I\u2019m now here coming to Reddit to get an unbiased opinion on all of this. So Reddit, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JWhhclcRQVvi433FvOlT79te10wHEGa1", "post_id": "avzd8f", "action": {"description": "removing my partners name off of our group project", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for removing my partners name off of our group project?", "text": "I have a project in school for science for extra credit the project must be handed in tomorrow. Right now it's about 9 pm East.\n\nIn school we both agreed to do the project together on slides so we could hand it in tomorrow. I load up slides and I don't see him on. This is ok maybe he will just show up later? I'm right about finishing the project and he texts me \"I'm about to get on.\" I say \"ok just do the pictures.\"\n\nIt's about 8 pm and I go on the docs to check our project before we send it in. And I see **NOT A SINGLE THING OF HIS**. At this point I'm fed up I remove his name and add pictures.\n\nTl,Dr: My project partner didn't do anything so I removed his name.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B6Y54HiXR4SepC9WvtnBYsri54Htd1HP", "post_id": "a9ssyx", "action": {"description": "being angry with, and considering separating from my Wife because of her past", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 54}, "title": "AITA for being angry with, and considering separating from my Wife because of her past?", "text": "So me and my wife married at age 23, pretty young, we're both 28 now. Anyway, when I met my wife I was a virgin, and she said she was a virgin too, she said she hadn't even kissed a guy before. She is pretty introverted at times, so not hard to believe. Anyway, her friends did make some jokes about her \"past\", which I passed off as jokes. For christmas we went back to her hometown, a small place where pretty much everyone knows eachother. \n\nWe met some of her high school friends, who made comments about me being a \"trade up\", and that she \"finally settled for *one* man\".or something of that nature. I pushed her about this, and she broke down saying that when she was in high school, she had some personal issues, and dealt with them by using sex, since she's always been really straight edge.0 It's a small town, so it's not super many guys, but still a fair bit proportionally\n\nI am furious with her, I don't trust her and I feel like I'm not even that special for her anymore sexually. I'm so upset that I told her I wanted to separate, if only for a few months. She got really upset, crying and getting really angry with me. AITA for wanting to separate from her over this? I feel like just another guy when it comes to sex.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 39, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 15, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 54}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "C44eWzIKIjShbmEphtPFkILiZHBXI5eQ", "post_id": "ahydwp", "action": {"description": "calling out my friend for overreacting", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for calling out my friend for overreacting? (Friend's POV)", "text": "Hello. Before I start, this did not happen to me. This happened to my friend (we'll call her Blue) and since she does not have a Reddit account I'm posting this to get a second opinion. \nA few things to note:\n\n-Purple and Blue are both in the grade under me. \n-We do not go to the same school. I met them through the drama company we're in. \n-There were more people involved in this but if I mentioned them too this post would be far too long. \n\nJust to clarify, I got her permission to post. So without further ado, let's start from the beginning. \n\nSo Blue, this friend (we'll call her Purple), my sister and I were having a conversation in a group chat about what we wanted to major in in college. The conversation then switched to what school we planned to go to. Purple said she wanted to go to a school in New York to \"escape the crappy town we live in\". I told her that we don't live in a crappy town, and she should be happy that we live here and not in the Middle East or some place like that. Blue backed me up and said that her reason for wanting to move so far didn't make much sense. Purple then got mad and told us to stfu. Then in a private chat between Blue and Purple (Blue sent me screenshots afterwards) Purple insulted the schools that Blue wanted to go through, and insulted the fact that she wasn't in advanced classes and said she was \"probably failing\" (Even though Blue actually has straight As) \n\nThe next day at school, Blue told me that Purple had been avoiding her the entire day, and she had turned one of their other friends against her. Blue also told me that Purple had been pulling some of her friends away from her and making them walk her to class. In addition, Purple also walked on the grass to avoid Blue and her friend. \n\nPurple has a tendency to say that she has social anxiety and depression. Blue told me that she's never seen or heard of proof of a medical diagnosis of these disorders, or even of any symptoms of them. She told me that Purple is an extrovert and loves talking to people, and she speculates that Purple is faking these medical disorders for attention. \n\nSo who's in the wrong here? Let me know in the comments if you need any more information on this matter and I'll edit it and add the information. Thank you for reading and stay safe everyone. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "y4dJHQMoYrxpl5558yciUawFHubzsdch", "post_id": "b36veg", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend to pay rent", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTAH for asking my boyfriend to pay rent?", "text": "Me (26F) and my boyfriend (35M) have been together for about 4 years and have lived together for about 3. \n \n\nI am currently looking into buying my first house and am wondering if I would be the asshole for asking him to pay a monthly rent and help with utilities. I am the one getting the loan and am putting down a large downpayment so the house would only be in my name. I think it's fair to ask him to contribute but I also kind of feel like a jerk.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U2Wwl3sW3tiuhO0mgsBSLz9qcAYx1sRw", "post_id": "avogbr", "action": {"description": "accidentally making my gf cry", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for accidentally making my gf cry?", "text": "Throwaway, this happened earlier today, and I felt like this sub could help me out\n\n**Background**\n\nI [21M] tarted seeing my current gf [20F] casually in the fall of 2017. Things got pretty involved within three months and we started exclusively dating 9 months ago. She\u2019s gorgeous, wild, hilarious, sweet, and more than I could have ever hoped for\n\nWe\u2019re both pretty laid back and just want the best for each other, and our relationship has done nothing but improve. We\u2019ve both said we never see ourselves breaking up, and love each other so much. I still feel like we\u2019re in the honeymoon phase well over a year later, she\u2019s my best friend and the most incredible person I know\n\nWe\u2019ve never fought, but a few times one of us has fucked up or upset the other and we always just talk it out, work on it, and resolve any issue without fighting. No bickering or petty disagreements\n\n**What happened**\n\nSo today we were talking and she casually mentions that next weekend she\u2019ll be going to formal with a friend at a fraternity we\u2019re both very close with. I\u2019m unaffiliated so I couldn\u2019t ask even if I wanted to. I just want her to be happy and have fun with friends (though I don\u2019t know her date this semestre). I know she would never cheat on me or do anything like that to hurt me, so this didn\u2019t come from a place of jealousy or trying to be controlling. However, it did upset me for a few reasons\n\n1. She agreed to go without even talking to me\u2014same for her date not asking me if it was chill. Like I said I\u2019m totally fine with her going, but it hurt that she didn\u2019t think to ask me how I felt about it considering I can\u2019t take her\n2. I\u2019d love to get out of town for a weekend with her, but I\u2019m really busy with classes and not working, so I can\u2019t afford to blow several hundred dollars to take her somewhere nice for the weekend. I try to do everything I can to make her as happy as I can, and it made me feel kinda shitty that I can\u2019t do something like that for her\n3. We are both super busy with classes and usually can\u2019t find the time to do something nice like this together, but it makes me sad that we finally had a weekend to get out of town and do something special but she\u2019s spending it to go to an event I can\u2019t join\n\nSo I decided to talk to her about it and basically told her what I just told you, as gently as possible. I started tearing up because it\u2019s so hard for me to tell her that something she did upset me when she\u2019s so amasing that I hate to bring it up. She started crying pretty hard and held me and told me she was so sorry and said she didn\u2019t have to go. I kissed her and said it was totally cool with me to go, I just felt upset. I assured her it was okay and told her how much I love her and we just cuddled for a few hours\n\nI really hate bringing up stuff that\u2019s minor and inconsequential, like I said we never bicker over little things that don\u2019t matter. But I can\u2019t help but feel like maybe I was being a petty asshole and making too big a deal out of this\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W0jGSX5yAxkO0xJc5imxf5ZVAHdl2vGT", "post_id": "adsugs", "action": {"description": "wanting to split rent 50/50 with my girlfriend, while she wants to split 85/15", "pronormative_score": 123, "contranormative_score": 53}, "title": "AITA for wanting to split rent 50/50 with my girlfriend, while she wants to split 85/15?", "text": "I \\[M25\\] have been with my girlfriend \\[F23\\] for 2 years and we're planning on moving in together in NYC, but we are not on the same page in terms of how to split costs. I want to split rent/costs 50/50 but she wants it to be 85/15.\n\nI make around 200k/yr and my girlfriend makes around 32k/yr, which I realize is a big difference. But I have around 250k in student debt and GF doesn't have loans. I have around 10k/month after taxes but I would ideally pay off my loans as fast as possible, so I think paying 7.5k and living off 2.5k is doable. I don't mind living on a smaller income because that's what I've always done until now. GF has about 2k/month of after-tax income. The problem is we disagree on what price range of rentals we should be looking at and how to split the rent.\n\nI was interested in an arrangement where we rent a 2-bedroom with my old roommate for around 1800/month combined (GF and I would share a room and our roommate would pay for her room) so that GF and I would pay 900/each. I thought this is reasonable since 900/month should be doable for her but when I floated this idea she really pushed back hard and said since I'm making a decent salary we should get a better place and split costs proportionally. She looked something up which was a studio at 2500/month and told me we should pay $2100/$400 to reflect our income disparity. I don't mind paying a little more than her, but this kinda cut into my ideal plan of paying off loans fast so I'm torn.\n\nI don't want this to turn into a fight, but her idea is so far off from mine that I don't know how to bridge this gap. Am I being unreasonable?\n\nTL;DR Girlfriend wants to split proportionally but I want to split down the middle, although there is a significant income disparity.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 35, "OTHER": 68, "EVERYBODY": 18, "NOBODY": 55, "INFO": 7}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 123, "WRONG": 53}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vQSPvqKNML2uAR9JjBPNkDpcZtqIHTYB", "post_id": "b4svqd", "action": {"description": "telling my husband to delete things from social media about our personal life", "pronormative_score": 33, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For telling my(26F) husband (29M) to delete things from social media about our personal life?", "text": "Throwaway account for obvious reasons. \n\nMy husband and I are friends on social media. Usually he shares funny memes about anything and everything. Lately he\u2019s been posting about how much he misses having sex before marriage killed his sex life. He shares posts all the time about nobody giving good head anymore. He shares stories that say things like \u201cI wish I remembered what sex feels like, been too long.\u201d And I put up with it for a long time. But I have never been comfortable with it. I toyed around with the idea of telling him to take all of it down, but was scared to overstep. \n\nWell one night after I was dealing with some serious depression and my sex drive was all but evaporated, my husband asked me if I would at least try to do it and see if I enjoy it or if I would just help him get off. I told him that I wasn\u2019t in the mood for anything sexual at all. 20 minutes later, he posted on social media \u201cTurned down again. Ugh. Don\u2019t get married kiddos.\u201d And it hurt my feelings so bad that I started crying because he was once again telling the whole world our personal life. So I told him to take all of it down. And he flipped out on me. He said that he had the right to vent about his frustrations and it\u2019s not like it\u2019s hurting anything and that I can\u2019t tell him what to do with his social media and that it was rude of me to even try to tell him what to do with his own pages. So now I feel disrespected and guilty. He thinks I\u2019m overreacting but I don\u2019t see it that way. \n\nSo, Am I The Asshole for telling him to take those posts down and to stop posting things about our personal life and marriage behind closed doors, since they\u2019re not my social media profiles?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 33, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 33, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oSX9XnN7xEjLT958cv2I8ixz7ys6zAPr", "post_id": "b0lthd", "action": {"description": "saying no to a coworker who never brings her own charger", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying no to a coworker who never brings her own charger?", "text": "I have this coworker who leaves her charger in her car and ALWAYS borrows mine. When at work she is constantly using her phone to call, to watch YouTube, etc that drains her battery. \nAm I the asshole for not letting her borrow it anymore and saying to bring her own? \nShe makes a lot of money so buying a charger shouldn\u2019t even be an issue. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hgqMDy6gnvCn5b9RQ661lt6bXgEoCGA5", "post_id": "b2sv1z", "action": {"description": "sleeping with my bestfriend", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for sleeping with my bestfriend?", "text": "So let's get it straight, I am not. I'm bisexual but my bestfriend isn't. He is straight with little to no fragile masculinity. To be honest, we haven't known each other for a while, he's been my classmate for 5 months but he has been the most wholesome friend I have ever known. Of course, its hard not to fall in love with him, especially with his humor and intelligence. \n\nWhen I was trying to move on with my boyfriend, our chats casually transformed from words of encouragement to flirts. He made it easier for me to move on. Although you can still see that he is maintaining a barrier between us, like he doesn't flirt back when I flirt but still calls me baby and stuff.\n\nI know he isn't serious with his flirting, like he was only messing around. But even so, I wanted to take it to another level. As a joke, I invited him to be friends with benefits with me, to have sex with me, but I meant it deep inside. He agreed immediately, saying he doesn't want to be a virgin anymore, and that sex would be the perfect stress reliever from academics. He was even more excited that me. Sexting, video calling, buying condoms, and he even scheduled a hotel for us to do it.\n\nSo we hit it off, it was the happiest day of my life. The way he talks, he chats, his eyes, his kisses, I just THOUGHT he was mine, that he was in love with me. I was so happy that I told half of my friends about it, and I know I shouldn't have done that especially for something so private, but I was just so happy that no amount of common sense made me do the most reasonable thing to do. \n\nAfter a week, he blocked me on facebook and twitter. It's been 3 months now and he still hasn't messaged me back. I've said sorry in real life and he still won't start talking to me. I just miss my bestfriend and I miss talking to him.\n\nSo he was angry at me for inviting him to have sex even if he was more excited to do it. AITA? \n\n(Please excuse my English, I am not a native speaker of the language.)\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "C3IhVJdl0xGMytWMtQw9yxlCJAJKIYnr", "post_id": "b0g6ow", "action": {"description": "making a spreadsheet of how much my boyfriend eats when he's at my place", "pronormative_score": 143, "contranormative_score": 75}, "title": "AITA for making a spreadsheet of how much my boyfriend eats when he's at my place?", "text": "My boyfriend is a big guy, not fat, but tall and athletic. He eats a lot. I joke that he has a tapeworm. When he's at my place, he goes to town on my food. I honestly have no problem feeding him, or any other guests in my house. I'd be more than happy to whip up a meal, but my boyfriend is a grazer and eats all of my snacks. A thing of Oreos lasts me a month and he will eat all of them in one sitting. Same with cereal, Pop Tarts, cheese, chips, a jar of PB, etc. I don't eat junk food very often so these things last me awhile. I am on a very tight budget, so I can't go out and replace everything he gorges himself on and it irritates that I can't indulge in any treats for a month because he can't control himself. \n\nI have raised this issue with him several times and he just... doesn't get it. He says I'm welcome to anything when I'm at his place, but I don't have a third of the appetite he does so even if I did help myself to my heart's content, it wouldn't have even close to the same impact as him decimating my kitchen. Plus, he makes more money than I do. I've tried to explain this to him but he really didn't get the scope of the issue, so I started to track everything he ate while at my house. I made a spreadsheet that encompassed a single month to demonstrate how much he was eating and how much it was costing me. \n\nMy monthly food budget is $150, he was eating over a third of it at $54. I presented this to him and he seemed really confused? He said he'd give me the $54, NBD. But I don't want money, I want him to not go to town on my food. We kind of got into an argument about it and he called me a weird for making a spreadsheet and said it was passive aggressive. I disagree. Again, I've spoken to him several times and he didn't get it; so I decided to show him with evidence. He's acting weird and says he just won't come over anymore, which wasn't my intention. So AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 47, "OTHER": 115, "EVERYBODY": 28, "NOBODY": 28, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 143, "WRONG": 75}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lV0rnrTIEDRxnXxznViBOdP26M4lc31v", "post_id": "akf7tq", "action": {"description": "asking to switch seats on a plane", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for asking to switch seats on a plane.", "text": "Before we start I realize there is a lot of posts regarding this topic, and in most situations the results lean towards the side of don\u2019t assume people will trade seats with you on airplanes.\n\nFirst flight out of two flights for the day, so it\u2019s a shorter hour long connecting flight on a very small plane. There is a single seat on the left side of the plane and two seats on the right side of the plane. \n\nFlying with American Airlines which does not allow you to select seats even at the time of check-in, only the option to purchase a seat change after they automatically assign you seats. These prices are about $45 USD each to switch. I purchased the plane tickets together and have both myself and my girlfriend listed as the passenger and it auto assigned us in the same row but not next to each other.  Now typically I wouldn\u2019t mind, neither of us are afraid of flying or get sick or anything like that. But we had just downloaded a movie to my phone and wanted to watch the movie on the flight. \n\nI considered the option of paying the extra amount to ensure we\u2019d be next to each other but I figured that if I asked the person sitting in the window seat on the side with two seats to switch to the left side which was also a window seat and they wouldn\u2019t have anyone sitting next to them it would be like an upgrade or equal trade for them and they wouldn\u2019t mind.  \n\nBoarding the flight directly in front of us was another couple in the exact same situation as us, they asked the female in the row with two seats if she minded trading so they could sit together and without hesitation she moved over to the side with one seat. Having seen this made me feel confident I wouldn\u2019t have any issues with my request, especially considering the female in the seat I wanted to ask to trade had just witnessed the situation in the row in front of us. So I asked this female if she would also like to trade with myself and my girlfriend so we could sit together and she just said no. I explained that it was the same row and also a window seat and again she said no. A person from behind her asked clarification if it was just because I wanted a window seat to which I replied to them and said no it was that I wanted to sit with my girlfriend so we can watch a movie together on my phone. The female sitting in my row still refused to move, I sat next to her for the entire hour long flight, more bitter about the situation than I should have been. Neither of us said anything to one another. \n\nI realize this is not a big deal at all, but AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5jrviYdXiJLvdPuTYtDVr04EcuP2Sogc", "post_id": "b6qtzb", "action": {"description": "wanting him to keep his furry in check", "pronormative_score": 524, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for wanting him to keep his furry in check?", "text": "Hi everyone.\n\nMy boyfriend broke up with me and told me its because I'm a horrible person for not accepting him. He's on reddit more than me (first time posting, hi) so he will definitely see this. \n\nTo keep the story very short: I met him a year ago - he was my first real boyfriend (I'm f/late 20s) and told me around our 5th date that he had recently started becoming a furry. Wasn't a dealbreaker for me and I really liked him, so we continued dating.\n\nHe started getting more deeply into it, bought two really scary fursuits for 5400\u20ac (glow-in-the-dark eyes, jesus), asked me to have sex in the suits. Again, I accepted. Personally, I'm not into this whole thing at all but he was and I liked him, so it was all okay on my front.\n\nAround our 6-month anniversary, he started to wear the fursuit pretty much all the time apart from work. That started annoying me because it was summer and super hot and more often than not I would end up having to sleep on the sofa because it got so hot in his bed. He got really upset about it and told me he needed me to buy a fursuit as well so we could be 'mates'. I declined (honestly, at that point it was mostly because I didn't have the money - I probably would have done it for him if he'd pestered my long enough).\n\nOur relationship got worse but then my friend from back home asked me and a whole bunch of friends to dinner since she'd recently had a baby. BF was obviously invited.\n\nHe wanted to go in the fursuit and I told him no. He told me I needed to accept him and not be ashamed of him and I told him that we had agreed he could do whatever he wanted in his or my apartment but not during meetings with my family and friends because most of them wouldn't get it and I especially didn't want to have to explain to my grannie and older relatives.\n\nHe accused me of not accepting him, of being an intolerant and racist 'cunt', for not accomodating him and getting a fursuit on my own etcetc. and then broke up with me. He's been guilt-tripping me on social media and amonst our friends ever since and has made me feel horrible bc of this. The first few months afterwards I was honestly really freaking broken up about it and it's only been recently that I've been getting angry instead.\n\n## ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 518, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 524, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vaTvSOjL8oEgcv3VYfkmR7zhlXOk1YwZ", "post_id": "a3g4o6", "action": {"description": "shutting up my friend who has no social filter", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for shutting up my friend who has no social filter.", "text": "went with a friend to the theater to see Ready player one, it was in an old factory where they used an grated walkway to get to the entrance, one side was a solid plate which i wasn't sure why until i noticed the high heels, i mentioned that to a friend to which he replied \"your walking on the right side already.\" which is fine, its been a running joke in class that I'm the girl in class. \n\nwe were there 30 minutes early so we sat in the entrance hall, where he suddenly starts talking loud enough that the staff could hear it, about Blanc being better than Vert from Hperdimension Neptunia like ass and boobs, etc, from this point I see one of the female staff throwing us dirty looks. and I just cut him off by trying to steer the conversation to the movie. he shut up but left for the bathroom. after coming back he says he took a massive shit, i just gave him a blank stare but the movie was starting so i didn't say anything, commercials running, cue \"put your ad here\" ad and he loudly exclaims HentaiHaven should put an ad there. i just snap and tell him to shut the fuck up, we stopped speaking the entire day. later in the week we started talking like nothing ever happened.\n\nafter him going silent on me for a week i just felt so bad, he even apologized saying that after being bullied at school for his unfiltered topics that he just gave zero fucks about other people's opinion, but mine weighs like a fucking ton for him, so am i correct in feeling like an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rqCMNjVTTdxYlCLsv0YptDJbXq8AE6il", "post_id": "a3ftkq", "action": {"description": "asking a friend to pay for a holiday room they aren't staying in", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for asking a friend to pay for a holiday room they aren't staying in", "text": "My friends and I, 8 of us in total, wanted to go on holiday together in January. We began organising it in October and by November we had booked 4 nights stay in an airbnb costing ~\u00a3150 each. I paid for this initially and have asked my friends to pay me back. However, one of my friends now (a month after we booked) has said that they cant afford to come, accommodation + flights + living costs would be too much for them. \n\nI think that's completely fair but asked them to still pay me for their share of the airbnb since otherwise I end up paying for it. I also said if they found a 7 man airbnb for us to stay in that everyone was happy with, we could cancel the 8 man and stay there instead.\n\nThey're upset with me and are saying we should either cover the cost of them not coming or find another place ourselves but I think thats unreasonable.\n\nAm I being selfish by expecting them to either pay for themselves or find us an alternative?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "nbIUaFjK3jdwKvlEeG8VqdMZxe7NNwir", "post_id": "aytf20", "action": {"description": "not wanting to donate money to my nephews medical cost fundraiser benefit thing or attend at all because he got measles and wasn't vaccinated", "pronormative_score": 239, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to donate money to my nephews medical cost fundraiser benefit thing or attend at all because he got measles and wasn\u2019t vaccinated?", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons. \n\n\nAnyways the poor thing ended up contracting measles due to my sisters obvious negligence...Anyways his hospital bills are like 8 thousand dollars and now she\u2019s requesting help from the family to help cover the cost of his 3 week hospitalization. I am pro vaccination as you can tell and make enough money . I could honestly reasonably give 2 thousand..But the crux of it is I don\u2019t want to ? \n\nWhy should I have to donate money to some one who could have just gotten the vaccine and saved herself the trouble..The thing is if he had the vaccine and ended  up contracting it. I would have no problem giving her the money. She decided not to vaccinate knowing that she could never reasonable afford the bill. Why should our family have to pay when she made a bad choice?  \n\nAlso I\u2019ve done a lot for her in the sense of prepping meals and cleaning her house and caring for her dogs. It seems spiteful but I think she should have to suffer the consequences of her actions. So am I the asshole for refusing to give her money because I feel she was negligent by not vaccinating her son of the first place? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 238, "EVERYBODY": 12, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 6}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 239, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hklMzSMfO1Gr5v2bF5VJjooQBUcTgD5e", "post_id": "afbdpc", "action": {"description": "telling my friend he probably isn't as smart as he thinks he is", "pronormative_score": 36, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for telling my friend he probably isn't as smart as he thinks he is.", "text": "TLDR at bottom but maybe the details are important.\n\nSo for context me and this buddy of mine have been friends since middle school and we are 20 now so we have known each other for quite a while. He is a pretty smart dude in certain areas but almost every person has expertise in certain areas. \n\nHe always ever since I met him thought pretty highly of his intelligence but in the past two months, every time we hang out he has been boasting about his \"intelligence\" for probably 10 percent of the time. So if we hang out for 2 hours he probably spends 10-15 minutes talking about how smart he is.\n\nHe often goes on tangents about \"how he doesn't see the world like the rest of the people, he sees potential in everything and it's like the world is feeding him information and he absorbs it and understands everything\" and how when he talks \"everything is lined up like a machine gun clip with precision and accurate articulation.\"\n\nHe is also very determined that he is going to invent some sort of high tech weapon that has never been made before and he thinks he has the key to building it. While I think it would be cool I think he grossly underestimates the complexity of what he is trying to make.\n\nHe has also told me without ever taking an IQ test that he thinks his IQ is around 140-160 which is 1 in 400 people. And the average American has a 98 IQ. I'd say he is maybe 110 maybe 120 tops because I know a good handful of people smarter than him. He is super arrogant about his intelligence \n\nBut then fast forward we are at my house playing Xbox and we were just roasting each other like all good friends do and he says to me as I'm a decently big guy (230lb 5,11) \"damn man, you got bigger boobs than most of the girls we graduated with\" and I said back a roast I saw from a r/roastme thread that stated \"if I ever wanted to kill myself I'd jump from your ego to your IQ\" and he got genuinely butthurt on how I insulted his \"genius mind\" and that \"I would never understand how smart he is\". And I said back \"your 20 working at a mall, haven't done anything yet to prove your smarter than 140 IQ and I frankly think you over estimate your IQ, your probably not as smart as you think you are buddy, I know intelligence is more than just an IQ but I highly doubt you have an IQ of 140-160\"\n\nAITA?\n\nTLDR; friend often thinks of his intelligence and IQ superior than 99.75 percent of people (yes he thinks he is that smart) with no ever actual IQ test, the average in America is 98. While he thinks he is somewhere in the 140-160 range. I told him in a friendly roast session that I could jump from his ego to his IQ if I ever wanted to kill my self, he got offended and I told him he probably isn't as smart as he thinks he is because he just brags about his \"intelligence\" all the time", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 36, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NxZMrppzfxrBdblfrsLyrQUafeueEX4H", "post_id": "a4a3v8", "action": {"description": "not wanting (maybe not even trusting) my gf to stay over at friends who are males houses or female friends who throw parties and have people crash the night", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting (maybe not even trusting) my GF to stay over at friends who are males houses or female friends who throw parties and have people crash the night?", "text": "A little context -she was in an abusive relationship and raped multiple times and emotionally abused and physically abused for 2 years. She never told anyone, except her last ex of 2 years who pretty much turned away from her and she felt pushed away after and then me.   Her closest friends and family were not told and she hid it. Now me and her live a few states away and don't see each other but every other month or so.  So it's a long distance relationship and I'm not too keen on this. Even with her and her male friends cuz she in the past has told me (before we were dating) how her best guy friend talks about her body her but and looks to his guy friends when she is around but she calls it \"jokingly\" and I think it's disrespectful. She says he's a man whore but her best friend. All this concerns me cuz I don't know if a guy would touch her and if she'd allow it or not say anything cuz she doesn't think it's bad or would just be to afraid to speak up cuz of past experiences and I'm not there to speak up for her. But her staying the night where there is a greater threat to something bad happening again has really gotten between us. Am I the asshole for not wanting her to be in and around these situations? Please help me", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DPZzRvsOcb9hVp6REFeOjBcsrupe9ZPI", "post_id": "b2qsmb", "action": {"description": "not wanting my boyfriend to game on trips", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my boyfriend to game on trips?", "text": "My boyfriend and I see each other 3 times a year on average on trips. The shortest trip being 3 days and the longest being almost 3 weeks, and the average trip being 2 weeks. We live 5000 miles away and each plane ticket costs $500-1,000. When I see him, I want to spend all my time with him. I'm not a talkative or energetic person, and even though I love going out when we can I equally enjoy spending time together, sitting together, watching stuff and all of that. But he likes to play games with his friends online for a few hours which means he is sitting across the room from me talking to his friends. I'd prefer to spend as much time together possible, I'm not sure if this is unreasonable.\n\nI wouldn't care at all if I was living with him, but the problem is that I almost never see him (most important), and the cost of the ticket, and the 10-16 hour flight, him playing with his friends when I am a guest there and don't have anyone there. I thought it would be cool to play together but he wants to play with his online friends and I don't have a computer or good laptop or anything.\n\nAita or being selfish for asking for almost 100% of his time (except when he's at work)?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y6nWnu6BxdnSwK351TWNJtm5UfJdD0oU", "post_id": "a5hyb0", "action": {"description": "beating the heck out of my friend", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for beating the heck out of my friend?", "text": "So I was out with 3 friends. It had been snowing recently here so naturally some of us wnted to snow fight. Well guess what that was not me. I let me 3 friends to throw snowballs at each other and I don't take part of it. I deliberately said I will resume to violence if they thtow snow at me. The next thing I know, one of them takes a handful of snow and rubs it on my face. I turn and I punch him 3 times in the head, and on the third hit he falls to the ground. And then I just leave.\n\nSo  AITA for beating my friend? Even though I deliberately said I would do that if he throws snow at me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TadCXiMyDvZMoylGosRregFvkofoyx6c", "post_id": "asr9ir", "action": {"description": "not helping an old lady up", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not helping an old lady up?", "text": "AITA: an old lady like sat down in front of me at the supermarket. I didn\u2019t know if she fell or if she sat down because it honestly looked like when a kid gets mad and sits in protest. I paused, and the old lady\u2019s helper, or daughter, asked her to stand and she gave this angry \u201cno!\u201d So I moved on. Then another lady asks, \u201cdo you need help?\u201d And the old lady says \u201cyes.\u201d So the 3rd woman helps them get the old lady up. \n\nI immediately felt bad, but like I\u2019m not going to get involved with a toddler throwing a fit. I didn\u2019t think it would be okay to get involved with an old lady throwing a fit either. I guess maybe she actually slipped? It was very odd to watch. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gw6aiYQte7gCFwakw4OZlawjalLGh1Ac", "post_id": "9yjs3e", "action": {"description": "not wanting to date someone who has a NSFW subreddit dedicated to them", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to date someone who has a NSFW subreddit dedicated to them?", "text": "I found out a guy I liked and was sorta dating  has nude pics and gifs of himself stroking himself or exposing his penis. He has hundreds of these pics online and even made his own subreddit. He say he started doing it because he wanted to show of his new body that he worked out for (probably the main reason) and possibly become a pornstar. He showed me his phone that has even more new pics .... like thousands of nude pics on his phone. Am I an asshole for being totally turned off and this basically being the only reason for not wanting to date someone? I\u2019d be friends but I wouldn\u2019t date .", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "imUVGBFxMovZsdBFNJxDXj0bL65zbjvh", "post_id": "b3fzcn", "action": {"description": "doubting a 5 year friendship", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for doubting a 5 year friendship", "text": "I\u2019m 16, and a sophomore in high school.\nOn mobile so forgive my formatting.\n[Insert joke about English being first language]\n\nLet\u2019s get started.\n\nSo, for 5 years me and my twin brother (let\u2019s call him josh) have been friends with two other people (and let\u2019s call the nice one nicef and the mean one meanf)\n\nMe and meanf don\u2019t have a very good relationship anymore. In the 8th grade he would always put me down and make DEAF jokes about my parents since they are deaf. I was fine with it at the time but for a while I\u2019ve been contemplating the seriousness of the things he\u2019s been saying. He always compares my traumatic experiences to something much smaller and insignificant and saying something along the lines of \u201cMy experience is real trauma\u201d\n\nHe is nice to me but I notice he ignores me a lot when ever I try and make him laugh these days and I\u2019ve been nothing but respectful to him. Today I brought it up the problem with him, saying I\u2019m not okay with him making jokes about my parents and constantly comparing himself to me, and he reacted negatively. He said that he was \u201ca changed person\u201d for the better.\n\n(I\u2019ve confronted him about being a jerk two years before this incident and no he hasn\u2019t changed) \n\nA side note: Some of the things he\u2019s said...I have never let go of. One time he told me \u201cI would pick my girlfriend over you, dude\u201d and he had known me for four years and started dating his girlfriend one month before he said that. \n\nHis girlfriend is a dick, and is in 9th grade which is one grade below me and meanf\u2019s grade.\nShe doesn\u2019t understand anything. She cries over someone not bringing her a change of clothes (in the bathroom stall with friends comforting her like it\u2019s a huge deal) and I\u2019m tired of their shit.\n\nAm I the asshole for giving up on the friendship?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "veAVe4yyWQgABfD8MDQXm3u8JvRgrm3B", "post_id": "a2b1h4", "action": {"description": "not wanting to let my cat sleep on my bed", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to let my cat sleep on my bed?", "text": "As the title suggests. I know it\u2019s a very small problem compared to the rest here, however, I feel like it is causing me some conflict which I need another viewpoint in. \nAfter coming in from work, I immediately rest myself onto my bed due to it being such a tiring job. Suddenly I\u2019m immediately surprised by this shit, nose staining odor coming from the right side of my full-sized bed (I was laying on the left side as the charger\u2019s outlet rests there) it was a small but significantly potent piece of shit with a ring of its liquids surrounding its outermost border. No dripping of liquid perforated the bed lining, but it still pissed me off because I\u2019m fucking busy. I usually keep the door closed to my room when I\u2019m not home, but I forgot to shut it before leaving that day (or this day). She usually sleeps with me on my bed every day and I don\u2019t mind at all. Some days I don\u2019t want her to sleep in my room for alternating reasons, but I always give up onto her as she chews the end of the closed door and rattles it with her claws. 1) I don\u2019t want her to hurt herself. She already lost one of her claws due to this behavior before. \n2) on the other hand, I want to use this as a lesson for her.\n3) I also want to seek other contaminated areas around my bedroom area to dispose of unperceived  crap. \n4) buuuuuuut i also don\u2019t want to here her shrieks at 3 am. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "L54HdKarJg97duXQm3KMyj7u1I2YJIhe", "post_id": "aq8dcx", "action": {"description": "not turning on both sets of office lights when I come into work everyday", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not turning on both sets of office lights when I come into work everyday?", "text": "My office has two light switches and has about 30 LED light panels stretching across the office, when you flip one switch half the lights go on, but they are all staggered so the whole office gets light, just not BRIGHT light. When you flip both switches its BRIGHT and slightly annoying to me. Also the walls have huge windows on them so ample natural lighting also.\n\nAnyways, I usually go into the office early in the mornings about 15 minutes early. I usually just flip one set of lights because its too damn early for a BRIGHT office. Ill get my coffee, make some breakfast and get ready to start work. My coworker usually comes in 15 minutes later and flips the second switch. Then its just BRIGHT and I just get slightly annoyed but w/e I deal. \n\nSo this has been going on for probably a year now and I guess I never realized how much it upset my coworker that she had to turn on the extra switch everyday. \n\nToday she had it, I was getting coffee ready and she comes in has a huge *sigh* turns on the second light and says \"Sorry to rain on your parade but I'm turning the second switch on, like I have to do everyday, because you refuse to just turn both lights on!\"\n \nAt first I thought she was being sarcastic, but as she walked closer to me I could see she was genuinely upset. Should I apologize?\nIs she over reacting or AITA?\n\nAlso besides today, I have a pretty good relationship with this coworker, which is also why I'm so thrown for a loop.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DAuMG06zz0ioGKcKfsV0PDlaw5Kwg5sc", "post_id": "afsy54", "action": {"description": "demanding that my husband does not smoke weed before driving to work everyday", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for demanding that my [22F] husband [24M] does not smoke weed before driving to work everyday?", "text": "Update: thanks for all of the insights and support. I really needed to not feel fucking crazy for making such a big deal out of this that our marriage is in question. I am happy to say since our last fight the night I posted this, my husband not only has not driven impaired, but he has cut back on smoking as a whole. We also scheduled therapy appointments, but our local health care is so fucked we were put on a 3 month wait list. Also thank you for keeping me in check and pointing out the flaws in my logic as well. You provided a nice balance of perspective. \n\nDisclaimer: I love my husband a lot and really hope to spend the rest of my life with him, and I am very confused on if I should really care about this so much.\n\nMy husband and I both have smoked weed recreationally before we ever met, however he is considered the bigger stoner of the two of us. I have struggled with him NEEDING to smoke weed every second he possibly can, to the point where he won\u2019t make plans with friends or family because he\u2019d rather stay home, or he will whine and want to leave ASAP. \n\nI have told him that I don\u2019t want to change him, but at the very least he is not allowed to smoke before he drive since this is a safety concern for himself and everyone he drives past. He has started a cycle of making excuses, telling me I can\u2019t control him and shouldn\u2019t ask him to stop doing things that bring him joy (smoking weed), and trying to convince me that he\u2019s not high enough to be a danger, and then giving up and promising to stop and agreeing with me to get me to stop nagging him to stop. \n\nToday my sister told me that the same day he promised to stop smoking and driving, he came home on his lunch break and smoked and asked her to lie for him and hide it from me. This isn\u2019t the first time I\u2019ve caught him hiding it from me. \n\nI confronted him about that and told him it was unacceptable for him to lie to me and I don\u2019t want to be with someone who is so disrespectful (which struck a nerve because his mom divorced his dad over him lying about weed). He yelled and complained and started the cycle again and the went to bed angry with me. \n\nI am hurt because I also smoke and don\u2019t want to be a hypocrite or controlling of his actions. I am caught in this back and forth of not knowing if I\u2019m that nagging wife that can\u2019t allow my husband his vices, or if he is gaslighting me and i should see this as a red flag? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2joAKUlfhbPmP5Vw9vje6dMg82wkikSL", "post_id": "asp9mc", "action": {"description": "wanting to sleep in the guestroom", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to sleep in the guestroom...", "text": "So Xmas 2018 my SO and I are going to my parents house for a few days (they live out of state) and I made sure we are both staying in the guestroom... \n\nJust quick my parents are pretty old fashioned and when I was with my ex for 7yrs we were not allowed to stay together because we weren't married, so with my current SO I called to say if we werent staying in the same room we would get a hotel room because I'm 36 & hes 39. My mother assured me we can, she then went on to say she actually liked my current SO, so no problem. I made this call 2 weeks before Xmas.\n\nCut to the Sunday before xmas and my sister texts me a picture and I notice its in my parents garage and I freak out with joy! She lives far away and rarely gets to visit so I'm supe'd shes in town for the holiday! Then I think, huh, I bet I know where they're staying and call my mom. She informs me that they are staying at the house of course, to which I reply \"cool, which room?\" Knowing full well my mom will say the guestroom. She does and I then ask, what room WE are staying in. Without missing a beat she say, \"well you can stay in your old room and SO can stay in your sisters old room.\" Uh no. Super uncomfortable rock hard twin beds in separate rooms is not how I envisioned my Christmas. Now,  this is usally what happens when my younger sister shows up, I get relagated \"to the back\", my parents always assume Im fine with whatever, most times I'm good, but this time it wasnt ok. I try to calmly explain to my mother that she could have told my sister that SHE & her husband could sleep in the other rooms and she seemed taken aback by that and honestly surprised I even said that. I explain about my SOs bad back and how they can afford a hotel because they make way more than us. I really tried not to get upset, but its been years of taking the backseat to my sister. Hung up the phone and full on cried out of frustration and general wtf-ness. I then emailed my mother explaining why I was upset the most adult way I could with conviction. No reply. \n\nMy SO and I head down to my parents the next day, and stop by a few friends on the way so by the time I get there they are all down the street at a party we are also heading to. I go upstairs take one matress off a bed and bring it into the other bedroom. We are at the least sleeping in same room. Go to the party, have a great time, get drunk, eventually pass out and wake up Xmas morning. We have a great day and when night falls my SO and I pack up to head home.\n\nMy parents are confused and upset that we are leaving, but I calmly explain im not sleeping on the floor again and that I emailed them stating I would be leaving. \n\nThe next few times I talked to my mom she still asked why we didnt stay, as if it was some big friggin mystery. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7STyIkjhSXSHgyCct7lGlm6ic2v4DPa0", "post_id": "a27vlt", "action": {"description": "refusing to pick my friend up from the city", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pick my friend up from the city", "text": "So last night my friend (18F) went out clubbing in the city with another friend (19F) of ours. Originally I (19F) was going to go with them but decided I needed a night in because I had been drinking a lot already this week and was feeling under the weather. Still, I told them both to come over to my place to pre-drink before they left, as per our original plan. Right after I got home from work that evening, I picked up my 18F friend from her house, which was about a 5 minute drive from mine, so she could have more time to spend pre-drinking. Our other friend met us at my house. I was happy to have them over so I could still spend some time with them and it was convenient for them because I live very close to a stop for the bus they'd need to catch in. However, early in the night I offered to drive them to the club instead. This would shave about 25 minutes and a lot of walking off of their trip. They were trying to get to the club before a certain time for free entry so I was glad I could help them out. While they were at my place we had a nice time, chatting and catching up while they drank wine. My 18F friend used my makeup to touch up what she'd done before I picked her up. When they'd finished the bottle of wine she brought, she went raiding my kitchen for more alcohol despite me telling her that I don't usually keep alcohol in the house, though I wished I did have some to offer her. Eventually it was time to go, so I dropped them in then came back to my house and watched a movie before going to sleep.\n\nThis morning I was woken by a phone call from my 18F friend. I asked her what was up and she told me to check my texts. I saw that she had sent me one a few minutes earlier asking me to pick her up from the city, where she must have stayed last night. She told me how she was too tired to walk to and from the train station to get herself home and that ubers were too expensive and offered to buy me lunch to make up for it. I considered it, then told her I was sorry but I didnt feel like coming to get her and I was going to go back to sleep.\n\nI have no problem with her asking, it just seemed like she had an expectation that I would say yes, which she might not have had if I hadn't hosted her and driven her around so much last night. Also, if I wasnt answering my texts I wish she wouldve figured out that I was probably asleep and not called me to wake me up, especially when the reason I didnt go out last night was to look after my health. However, I felt really rude and guilty saying no when she needed me, especially because it's the sort of favour that she would've done for me, it's just that I would never ask her to. So AITA for leaving a friend to make her own way home after a night out?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MkI5VeugsvLgoNHO7N0gVBUrKXN2Vp5q", "post_id": "ar0arg", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with a friend because of the guy she's seeing", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with a friend because of the guy she\u2019s seeing", "text": "Ok, here we go \n\nI have this friend, let\u2019s call her Meghan. She\u2019s single and has been for some time.\n\nShe has a co-worker, let\u2019s call him Glen, who she started liking a bit a couple of months ago. But she did not want anything going on with him, because of several reasons - one of them being, that he has a girlfriend. \n\nTurns out he was also keen on Meghan, and then it started. They flirted very much, to the point where other co-workers began noticing, and she kept telling me, that she was so tired of people talking, and they should mind their own business. Nothing was gonna happen between then, while he had a girlfriend. She was very set on that. \n\nBut the inevitable happened one night, while they were out with their co-workers - they kissed. Meghan felt very bad about this, because of the girlfriend and she did not want this happening again. But still she kept seeking him out and they went out together a couple more times (still while other people was present). \n\nI\u2019ve always been the kind of friend, who says \u201cyou do you\u201d and I\u2019ve never been judgemental any of my friends, when they have made a questionable choice. Because I mean - who hasn\u2019t? \n\nSo I told her, if she liked him, she should stop feeling guilty about it, because she did not know the girl he was with anyway. And I meant that. But at the same time, I told her to tell him, that she did not want to be with him, as long as the girlfriend was in the picture. Meghan did not want to do this, as she did not want him to break it off with his girlfriend because of her. \n\nThis went on for a while. Them going out with friends, ending up flirting, kissing, etc., her saying that it should never happen again, since he wasn\u2019t single, repeat. \n\nI asked her a couple of times, what she wanted this end with, and she didn\u2019t know if she wanted to be with him, and each time we talked about it, she would say that it should never happen again. I told her, that she should stop saying that and just accept that she couldn\u2019t keep her hands off, and stop thinking about the girlfriend. \n\nOne morning, she got a text from Glen saying that he broke up with his girlfriend. In my mind, she should be happy, because now they could be together without anyone in the way. But instead she felt very bad and guilty and she was afraid she had caused the break up - which I told her, that of course she did. That same evening, he got back together with his girlfriend and Meghan was happy about that. I told her that I thought he was a douchebag and that he was trying to have them both. \n\nAnd yes, you guessed it, he has succeeded. Because not only is he still with his girlfriend, Meghan and Glen keeps doing the exact same thing as before. \n\nNow, I am left with this feeling of some sort of anger with Meghan, I don\u2019t know how to explain it. Not because I think he is one of the least stand-up guys I\u2019ve heard of in a long time, but because I have this feeling that she actually likes that he has a girlfriend. Why else would she be happy, when he decided to give it another try with her? And why would she keep being with him after that?\n\nI can\u2019t help but feel some kind of strain on out friendship now, because it annoys me, that she is \u201cthe other woman\u201d right now and seems to like that. Maybe it\u2019s because I have a boyfriend of my own, I feel like this. I don\u2019t know. \n\nBut there you go. So now I need to know: AITA for being annoyed with her for being \u201cthe other woman\u201d and liking it? \n\nTLDR; My friend is dating a guy, who has a girlfriend and I am annoyed with her, because I think that\u2019s the reason she is with him. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OLy8y0Xiglk54ZIVcw7xhNRQQ594VIeV", "post_id": "b9yi6o", "action": {"description": "sleeping over with a friend", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for sleeping over with a friend?", "text": "I (M20) had a sleepover with my friend (f19) recently, we slept in the same bed and cuddled for most of the night. It's well known in our friend group that our relationship is really close, but purely platonic. We also made no effort to hide the sleepover at all.\n\nOne of our friends (M19) found out about it the next morning and got pissed. We all knew he had a crush on me (I'm bi) but every time we've talked it's never gone anywhere. I'm bad at communicating over text, him in person so nothing's really happened with it recently.\n\nHe found out the next morning, got pissed off and blocked me. He also hasn't talked to my friend, cutting her off when she tried to explain and saying some dibs bs or something.\n\nThe way I see it, nothing was moving with the two of us, and I can sleep over with anyone I want. We weren't dating or even really talking to each other, and I'm my own person.\n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ztD9JEDNBMJCS7ZlW9k2TfQyk0Vj7LM3", "post_id": "aeiovw", "action": {"description": "telling my fiance that I love my female best friend", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "AITA For telling my fiance that I love my female best friend?", "text": "I've been engaged to my fiance for about two months, and before that we dated for six months, so we've been together a total of eight months. Throughout that entire time, she has never been comfortable with my relationship with my female best friend who i have known since high school.\n\nMy friend is someone very special, and very close to me. She is smart, caring, beautiful, and an extremely loving and funny person. She honestly does mean the world to me and since freshman year in highschool she has been the one who has been with me through so many events in my life, including my moms passing.\n\nMy fiance has been in my life for eight months, and can't understand the bond that I have with my best friend. She has openly told me that it makes her uncomfortable how I spend time with her. I usually try to change the subject but now that we're engaged shes become a lot more hostile to both me and my best friend.\n\nWhat really pissed me off is that she almost drove my best friend to tears recently over dinner, basically indirectly criticizing her for always hanging around someone elses man instead of finding her own.\n\nI confronted my fiance in private and she just asked me to not invite her to the wedding. I put my foot down and said that I love her, and that the type of relationship i have with her comes once in a lifetime. I may have also crossed the line in the heat of the moment by calling my best friend my soul mate, as i was just trying to articulate how much i love her as it does goes beyond just being a best friend.\n\nMy fiance basically breaks down crying, (she does this a lot to get her way) and says that i must hate her. I say I hate the way you're acting. She then asks what my friend has that she doesn't, and I decide not to engage any further.\n\nLater I tell her the truth of the matter is that I love them both, and I just want everyone to get a long. She says im being emotionally abusive for telling her that I love another woman.\n\nAITA For telling my fiance that I love my female friend, or is she just being unreasonably jealous?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rOhThtPHR3Yen37zXKajVORvDrxg7CWT", "post_id": "b9qz0l", "action": {"description": "not telling my shit teacher about her mistake", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I didn't tell my shit teacher about her mistake?", "text": "First, I'm on mobile. Sorry.\n\nI am a freshman (9th grade) in high school. I have 7 teachers, 6 of whom I don't mind, they teach well enough, and they give manageable amounts of homework. The other one, well, we'll call her Mrs. D. (different name)\n\nIn my state, school is divided in to 4 quarters, 9 weeks each. Last week was the 8th week. I had an 83 in her subject, Biology. It is worth mentioning that I am a GOOD student and had never made any grade below a 96 in science. In this story, grades are due 9th week, day 4.\n\n8th week, day 3: Mrs. D adds in a 112 out of 14 for an assignment, which equals out to an EIGHT HUNDRED PERCENT. It was obviously accidental.\n\n8th week, days 4 and 5: Fully expecting her to fix it, I think nothing of it. Mrs. D does not change the grade.\n\n9th week, day 1: I consider telling Mrs. D, but don't. \n\n9th week, day 2: I tell my 8th grade friend (at a different school) what happened. He says I should tell Mrs. D what happened. I do not.\n\n9th week, day 3: I get sick and could not go to school.\n\n9th week, day 4: (still sick enough to be out) I get on my computer. The 3rd quarter grade has been FINALISED as a 98.\n\n9th week, day 5: I go to school, and there is a 98 on my report card. oof.\n\nIt is worth mentioning that the school admins could change the grade. AITA for not telling her?\n\nTL;DR: Teacher put a grade in as a mistake, didn't check her grades before finalising them, and I got a final grade 15 points above what I was supposed to.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MQNA9rvvXo0dfkLfTcKE2GPNVjkANsek", "post_id": "avup3j", "action": {"description": "refusing to work with a former coworker", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to work with a former coworker?", "text": "I guess it's technically \"Are We the Assholes?\".\n\nMy sister and I work together. We had a coworker who would harass her, tell her things like, 'oh all the guys and I can't WAIT until you're 18\". He would always try to touch and hug her and get rides from her. Beyond all of that, he was shit at his job. He was demoted 4 times within the 6 months he worked here.\n\nEventually, he quit. Told us all he had a better job and wasn't coming back. My sister, myself, and the rest of the girls he harrassed while he was here were elated. \n\nCut to now, he's back. Had an interview with our new manager who doesn't know about any of this and the guy says, 'don't worry, I'll be back'. As he's leaving.\n\nMy sister and I are pissed and will not work with him. Would we be the assholes to tell our boss that, if he comes back, we're quitting? \n\nTl;dr: my sister and I work together, a coworker who harrassed her and multiple other women in our workplace is trying to get rehired under new management. We will not work with him and plan on quitting if he comes back.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "u6Ks6nBOxBF7Z9xAJm8pVKrirL1ZZdZY", "post_id": "av5vdb", "action": {"description": "wanting to live in New Zealand with my dad", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to live in New Zealand with my dad?", "text": "Title. My mom is \"toxic\" and blames everything wrong in our life on me, my brother, or my dad. She freaks out over nothing, and if it is something it is an overreaction. I understand that I am fortunate to even have a mom that takes care of me, but I have a much better opportunity with my dad. \n\nSo, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7pGDG4Ry9Ie4wLKcGxfwsSvHhaBG3g7f", "post_id": "b3j6vr", "action": {"description": "wanting to end a long term friendship due to Distance and unrequited feelings", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For wanting to end a long term friendship due to Distance and unrequited feelings", "text": "I (25M) have been friends with Alyssa (24F) for over 12 years. We've been best friends since middle school and is the person I care most about. This past year she moved to the UK to travel and spent a year working over seas. Our friendship remained really strong and we eventually realized we had some feelings for each other. We talked about getting together and even planned how we'd make it work. I was going to move over there since I still had contacts from my year working there.\n\nShe disappeared for a month before visiting family for a wedding where I was her date. She arrived and called me immediately to meet up for some drinks and catch up. There I decided to ask her out and have us actually start giving it a try. That's when she revealed that she had met someone serious during that time she disappeared. I would normally stop pushing but I figured I'd still give it a shot and asked if her if they were official. if they weren't I'd still would love to take her out. She ghosted me for months. I tried to get in contact and when I finally did she shut me out completely.\n\nShe came back into my life and apologized and insisted that we can still continue to be friends. We had a deep conversation and explained our own sides of the whole incident. I thought we could remain friends. She would eventually be back and we can be friends again. \n\nToday she revealed that she has no intentions of returning back and is going to stay in the UK with her new boyfriend for at least a couple more years. I asked her where I fit into this new plan and she said ideally that I'd move over there and we can explore together like we had talked about before. I said things are different now. She says that she needs me in her life. But her making time for me is during her lunch breaks which are during my nights off. That time I could be investing in other people, being active, and going out on dates.\n\nWe decided to take a break and see if feelings changed. It didn't. I feel selfish. I don't want to manipulate her into returning or be a \"nice guy\" who is ends a friendship because she chose not to date me. I'm just aware that I've lost a lot of friends due to distance. I lost all my friends from the year I lived in London, many other friends from uni because of distance. The friendships that have remained are those I see at least once every couple of months and we text/call often. I've lost relationships due to distance because there was no end date in sight, there was no plan and so anytime I see those same signs I know that in the long run I'll be driving myself insane. As much as I hate not having her be consistently in my life, I feel that it'll be harder having her sporadically appear only through calls or facetiming because I will be comparing everyone to her (which is what we used to do and is what led to us talking about getting together).\n\nAm I the asshole for wanting to end years of friendship because of the distance?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Nb5tMrtOZTNslBnP8pdXNlvd6Tc7eq8y", "post_id": "av3g3y", "action": {"description": "not giving away my hardearned money to family", "pronormative_score": 49, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not giving away my hardearned money to family?", "text": " \n\nThrowaway.\n\nAbout  sometime ago I quit my \"corporate job\" at a mid-level position out on a  whim to go into a venture on my own. I don't have any wife/kids, but I  was constantly belittled, told how stupid I am for quitting such a great job, at  every family-related function someone would say that... (had 2 hour  lunch breaks, 5 weeks vacation, minimal stress, etc.. my fault for  admittedly telling them all of this)\n\nAnyway,  I asked for initial startup funds (mainly it was going to be for  contracting employees.) in exchange for equity... again belittled   or outright went back to the default, \"you shouldn't be starting  something if you don't have the money yourself\" (keep in mind none of  them have ever done... a successful venture out on their own.. or have  experience in doing something similar..even as an employee for someone  else)\n\nit  got the point I where I was sleeping in my small office as I couldn't  afford to pay lease and rent... only person who believed in myself was  my former boss who gave me a lump sum in exchange for equity...\n\nin  the process of being bought out for a few million by a VC firm... and  now family is saying how I am picking outsiders over family.. I don't  want to lose them over money but I also don't want to give them a penny  ive never been in a situation like this?\n\n​\n\n​\n\np.s. they want money to have a downpayment on a new car or want me to take them all on ab all inclusive vacation? My own mother is telling me how its the right thing to do and that money doesn't mean everything?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 48, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 49, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1Z8JSazDyyZxpWiITeE2aiCGyXPNadeg", "post_id": "b3ivie", "action": {"description": "wearing a hat my ex gave me", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wearing a hat my ex gave me?", "text": "When I was in a relationship with my ex (last May), she had gifted me two hats. Both of the hats have her college\u2019s name on it and she thought it would be cute if I wore a hat with her school\u2019s name on it (we went to different colleges). They\u2019re nice hats and I still like them even though she and I broke up.\n\nNow, I\u2019m dating another girl and she recently saw the hats in my closet. She expressed that she\u2019d prefer if I didn\u2019t wear the hats with my ex\u2019s school on it because it would seem like I\u2019m wearing it because of my ex or for my ex (I\u2019ve never worn those hats around my current gf btw). I don\u2019t really agree with her reasoning and I told her that I don\u2019t care when she wears clothes her ex gave her. She said it was different because the clothes he gave her didn\u2019t have anything that linked her to him (a plain T-shirt, for example), whereas the hat my ex gave me has her school\u2019s name on it. I don\u2019t see it as a big deal and I haven\u2019t even seen my ex since our breakup\u2014I have zero connection with her.\n\nAITA for not thinking it\u2019s a big deal to wear hats my ex gave me?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9fx4k24IoLjLlRuKMEVBazEZp3Q7CWDb", "post_id": "aupl35", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend how I feel", "pronormative_score": 59, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend how I feel.", "text": "Yesterday Me and my girlfriend of 2 years got into an argument about our relationship. We both are in our 20\u2019s and we live together. \n\nWhat sparked the argument was me trying initiate a intimacy night with her. She said to me she wasn\u2019t feeling well and I respected her choice. I decided to get some sleep and just lay on my side of the bed, she knew something was getting to me because I usually hold her when I sleep.\n\nI told her that I wanted to have some alone time with her because it\u2019s been a day we both are free and able to fully enjoy each other\u2019s company. She has a Gall bladder issue and is soon to get it removes due to it causing her not to feel well and she reminds me she doesn\u2019t feel good. Sometimes it doesn\u2019t affect her at all and when I do try to initiate when she\u2019s not feeling like crap, she turns me down and I\u2019ll just accept that and move on and hope for another time however being turned down over and over just takes a toll on me. \n\nShe asked me about my feelings and I just tell her what was on my mind. yesterday I took her out to have fun together because we rarely do, due to our work schedules and time. She works 12 hour shifts 3-4 times a week and I work a regular 40 hour work week, sometimes working on the weekends. She tells me that the only reason I took her out that day was to get \u201csomething/sex\u201d in return and this is what I told her. \n\nI told her that I took her out that day because we rarely spend time together due to work, you deserved to be treated out because you work hard, I do things for you because I care and love you and I don\u2019t expect nothing in return like making you breakfast every morning because I love you and I want you to come home to a meal and not starve when you just worked a 12 hour shift. I clean the house because I know you are tired working. I do all the chores around the house because I know you don\u2019t feel good, I do small tasks for you like getting you a drink from downstairs or Microwaving popcorn so you can watch your tv shows because you mean the world to me and I will do anything for you. I don\u2019t do things to get \u201csomething\u201d in return, I do things because you mean something to me.  \n\nI then proceeded to tell her how I don\u2019t feel cared about, I told her, you don\u2019t say I love you to me unless I say it first, you don\u2019t text me how my day is unless I text you first, you don\u2019t initiate sex unless I do, you don\u2019t do small tasks for me when I ask for it, i.e grabbing a soda from downstairs for me. You don\u2019t take me out or treat me in anyways like I feel cared about unless it\u2019s a holiday. \n\nAfter I told her all that, she just said she was sorry and I just left for work and now I feel like an asshole for telling her how I feel.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 40, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 19, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 59, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c03VlvFAbvh29Vv3XrEzRw1NeXrWZk88", "post_id": "9y3o6i", "action": {"description": "following through with a prank", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for following through with a prank?", "text": "Throwaway for reasons, yknow. \n\n\n\nSo I work at a chain restaurant that specializes in fried chicken from Kentucky. Store\u2019s not in Kentucky but nearby, still in the backwoods. \n\n\nA guy came through the drive thru one day while I was on shift, and orders some bbq chicken. The manager that\u2019s working the drive thru takes his order and immediately comes back to the grill and kitchen area. He tells me that the order that just came in belongs to a known klan member and overall hateful and hated person, and that I should do something to his order and he\u2019ll look the other way. \n\n\nI had some clear hot sauce that I got for Christmas one year. It might have been expired, but it was still really hot. So I grabbed some of that and mixed in a really stiff amount in with some of the bbq sauce. Apart from it smelling like spicy bbq sauce, you couldn\u2019t tell anything was wrong until you actually ate it. \n\n\nLater on, earlier today actually, I learned that the guy whose food I sabotaged was actually a co-chief of the fire department one town over, and he\u2019s actually a really nice guy and has never had anything to do with the Klan. Turns out the manager that told me about him was actually passed up for lieutenant at the department a few years back by the co-chief and was still really pissed off about it. I guess the manager thought I\u2019d really screw with his food since I\u2019m black and the guy was supposed to be in the klan, I dunno. \n\n\nSo, am I the asshole here?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9aeyST9DeGpf3C7vLVJHUwrMdKxsFAIO", "post_id": "9ysqxo", "action": {"description": "wanting to sit down for an hour", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to sit down for an hour?", "text": "My mum's making me feel like a horrid selfish person for doing this but I'm not sure if I'm entirely in the wrong?\n\nToday I had to be up at 6.30 to catch the 7.20 train to get to my 9am lecture. It's about a 30 min uphill walk from the station to the uni, which I have to do twice a day. I had 2 x 2 hour lectures today with no break inbetween apart from the 10 mins to get from one room to another (which is another uphill walk, the rooms are in 2 different areas of the city)\nI got home with an hour before I start my 4 hour shift (which is high activity level, I'm an ice steward) all I wanted to do was grab some food (hadn't eaten today) and chill for half an hour before my shift.\nMy mum comes home and asks if I wanna help her carry bags to the charity shop in town. Usually I'll do anything my mum asks of me, but today I wanted to stick up for myself because I am shattered.\nI tried to explain this and offered to do it with her tomorrow afternoon when I didn't have a shift. \nShe then completely changes, says that she's going to remember this, that I'm horrible and selfish and proceeds to lock herself in her room and cry and refuse to talk to me.\nAm I really that much of an asshole for wanting a 30 min chill period? I was polite about it, she knows how tiring my commute is (plus I struggle massively with the uni degree I'm studying and find it hard to keep up sometimes) but she's acting like I'm a horrible person for saying no for once.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZJmugT9i7jopChF02MmCrm7veiYuIkM2", "post_id": "9yz901", "action": {"description": "ignoring ny uncle", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring ny uncle?", "text": "So, this story has a lot to unpack, and this is my first real post on here but I really needed to share this somewhere unbiased. \n\nFirst some back story. \nI'm originally from Poland (17 F at the moment) and we moved to the Netherlands in 2009 to find a better life than back there. And so did uncle Raphael (mum's brother) who was also my godfather. But he moved a couple of years before us. \n\nOne day, somewhere in 2014 maybe, he got with this woman, let's call her Mal, and got a child with her almost 2 years later. Which I wasn't too happy with because I didn't like that woman, but it's not my place to judge his actions and choices in life. \nThat woman is kind of a lazy one, she doesn't really clean or cook well, and also doesn't go to work. She also has 3 kids from 3 different men, so yeah, those are kinda red flags. \n\nThey ended up having money issues within the year that the child was born, and reached out for help to my mum and their sister back in Poland. But since we also were kinda tight on money then, and my aunt wasn't in the best situation to get a loan or give him a load of money either. \nSo he turned to my grandmother, and she ended up getting the loan for him because he's her poor oldest son, even though she wasn't in a great situation to do so either. \n\nNaturally my mum and aunt confronted him about it because not only does his perfectly healthy girlfriend not work, he also tries to get a lot of money from my grandmother. \n(While I understand that money issues are complicated and really bad, we went here to make our lives better and help out our family back in our homeland, so it's weird that he needs financial help in the \"better world\" from them in the \"poorer world\")\nThat was a little bit upsetting to me as well, but as a 15 year old I didn't really meddle with financial issues. \nThe thing that triggered my strong feelings of disdain is what he told my mum. \n\nFirst he made a Facebook post about how horrible our family is to him, going 2 against one and some of that jazz. So naturally my mum called him to calm the situation down. \nHe ended up telling her he hates her and that he excludes my mum and aunt from the family. And after that he blocked her and my mum bursted out in tears, and no matter what we did to help, she was really hurt by his words. And so was I, to be honest. Those words made me feel like we, and especially I, were unimportant to him unless we do what he wants us to. \nThat was when I made a vow to myself that I'll make him feel exactly this. Being hated by your closest family, feeling excluded and alienated. And I ended up complying with his wish not to be family again. \n\nFast forwarding through the cold war until a few weeks ago, we get to my mum's birthday. And, of course, with his sins forgiven by all but my and my dad (which can be a whole other story), he gets invited. \nI was aware of that and decided to keep things passive with maybe just a tone of obvious annoyance, so the party doesn't get ruined. \n\nUncle comes over with his girlfriend and walks around the room, shaking hands with everyone. The he got to me, and this wasn't purposeful, but I ended up ignoring his hand and kept eating because I thought he was shaking my sister's hand and had time for one more bite. Turns out it was intended for me. \n\nNow my brother won't stop chastising me for not shaking our uncle's hand and still being upset. And now he has everyone but our dad complaining about me still being upset. \n\nAnd yes while it was ride of me not to shake his and and it is fairly petty to hold on to that anger for so long, I feel like I haven't accomplished my goal yet, something in me refuses to let go of the anger. \nNowadays I am aware that he was also a bad person before, and the lack of consequences from any of those events just like the lack of them now just makes me feel angrier. \nIt just feels wrong to let go of so many feelings that have grown over the years.\n\nTldr: I didn't shake my uncle's had at my mum's birthday and am still upset about a situation from 2 years ago. \n\nAm I the asshole for holding on to the anger I felt? I never did anything except blocking my uncle on social media and just ignoring him because I don't do confrontation but I most likely wouldn't be taken seriously, since they just see a petty silent treatment. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "99p29XoZNlLXX0P4soZatTWKVdN3Mpfj", "post_id": "asvonj", "action": {"description": "just throwing away a confederate flag that has been in my family since just after the civil war", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 16}, "title": "WIBTA if I just throw away a confederate flag that has been in my family since just after the civil war?", "text": "Background: I don\u2019t know the exact generation but a great grandfather was in the civil war for the losing side. His cousin was also in the war but for the north. After the war thier grandmother commissioned a photograph of the two of them together with what was left of their unforms and an American flag and a weird version of the confederate flag she had made (it has the flag we know as the kkk flag in the corner and the rest is white and red). My dad still has the picture and he still had the flag. As an aside he took it on pawn stars though the segment was never aired and the historian guy verified that the flag my dad had was the flag in the picture. \n\nMy dad is in hospice and doesn\u2019t have very much but everything he does have will go to me. The first thing I want to do is pitch the picture and the flag. I\u2019m not a racist nor a magaite and I want nothing to do with garbage and racism, and I don\u2019t want my kids to have to worry about this trash as well.\n\nMy cousin is about to have a hissy fit and thinks I should give it to me. I saw no, it\u2019s appropriate place is at the bottom of a landfill. \n\nThis is pretty simple as I see it, but just in case, would I be the asshole?\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 16, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 16}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jypAuRHwZlqYWkLBGIYsDN5VWiY2URte", "post_id": "ak69rb", "action": {"description": "being pissed on the waiter for forgetting my girlfriend's order", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed on the waiter for forgetting my girlfriend's order?", "text": "So here's the story. My girlfriend and I were out and she was very hungry and wanted to eat a sandwich, I recommended her to go to this place nearby where they make great sandwiches and she agreed.\n\nWe came and didn't want to eat in so she ordered a takeaway. (Note: I live in Europe so it's common to sit just down and wait for your order until it's done) There's about 3-4 tables busy out of 20 which means that it wasn't busy at all. About 25 minutes pass and still no sandwich for her, she didn't eat anything that day and she was starving so I get up, approach the waiter and this how our convo went:\n\nI: so hey is the sandwich ready yet?\n\nWaiter: oh yeah no man we are out of bread, is pizza okay? \n\nI: no man it's not, you shouldn't have told me that way before.\n\nWaiter: well I didn't know.\n\nI: Well I'm not the waiter you're the waiter so you're supposed to know.\n\nAfter that the waiter is just starring at me while I ask my gf that we leave. She told me that I should have just left without saying anything but I was mad because she was starving. If it was for me I would be far more tolerable.\n\nSo am I the asshole for reacting like that?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Snr3xEXq08aX0foYoEeZzFjYgu0b6pO4", "post_id": "auu6ij", "action": {"description": "accepting a gifted car from grandparents", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for accepting a gifted car from grandparents?", "text": "I (21F) just moved across the country to live with my grandparents after going through a really rough and unexpected breakup where I virtually lost everything (car, home, job) and had to start from scratch.  \n\n(A little background on my mom:  I got kicked out at 18 and we\u2019ve never really gotten along, and she\u2019s a very hostile and unpredictable person and she\u2019s caused a lot of anxiety and self doubt for me, and when I told her I\u2019d need to move back home she told me no and that I should\u2019ve been prepared for this sort of thing and should be able to figure it out on my own so whatever I moved in with my grandparents temporarily .)\nI recently found a really great job, however it\u2019s sort of far (45 minute commute) for me not having my own car and my first paycheck isn\u2019t until a month from now. My grandparents have been super supportive and have either let me borrow their car to get to and from work for the past two weeks, or have driven/picked me up from work.\nThey decided today that they\u2019d buy me a car for $5k or under that would be completely in my name and I would just pay them each month, as well as pay my own insurance.\nI was excited and grateful and told my mom who responded with (verbatim) \u201cI\u2019m gonna talk them out of doing that because you should be buying your own car. Stop it now and grow up.  Stop taking advantage of your grandparents.\u201d Along with some other name calling & belittling which is typical for her... I just genuinely don\u2019t know if I\u2019m taking advantage of my grandparents and should decline their generous offer?\nSo AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "F3gnu4yNq2Ou4QhFpSUcN6tA5oVRwsce", "post_id": "b4ma55", "action": {"description": "spraying weed killer in my yard", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for spraying weed killer in my yard?", "text": "This is pathetic I know but three of my neighbors have a problem with it. Every year I spray weed preventer/weed killer in my yard. I do it because I don't feel like picking weeds in the Alabama heat in the summer. I also like for my yard to look decent not picture perfect but decent and weed free. When I do spray it, I do it on calm days with no wind. \n\nI was spraying it yesterday and a neighbor came out to express concern. They told me its hazardous to their dog and other pets. They were explaining how it poisons the groundwater. I told them I appreciate their concern but I don't like picking weeds in the summer. Tons of my neighbors hire professionals that spray poisons so I thought I could do it as well. They are starting to do this to everyone. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bL1o6CALxuXiKQp4HGgHjHVPhODdo2GH", "post_id": "awzhh9", "action": {"description": "being rude to a customer who may be mentally handicapped", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For being rude to a customer who may be mentally handicapped?", "text": "Whew! This is gonna take some explaining.\n\n I work at a record store, the mall I work in is the worst mall in the city and is next to one of the city's most dangerous/ghetto neighbourhoods. This is only important for the context of my character and what I put up with daily.\n\nThere is a gentleman who comes in frequently, I have described him in the past as a stage 5 time waster. The only plus side being he does make small purchases here and there. He never remembers the conversations we've had and he'll lose focus while talking to me because he noticed something (e.g. The manufacturer of the tamagotchis we sell.) I only noticed these habits a week after I yelled at him.\n\nBut why did I? Well, he came into the store and made a small purchase (his purchase barely moved the needle on target sales.) Then, as he normally does he started talking to me, now there's no one else in the store and I am at the counter folding band shirts. So I'm kinda stuck. Whatever though, I can work and chat until he gets bored of me. After asking talking about a bunch of unrelated topics he asks me if \"I believe that we landed on the moon\" without thinking I blurt out \"of course!\" He says \"oh well I don't.\" I interrupt him before he can add on to it, \"sorry, I don't mean to be rude, but I would rather not talk about this subject.\" I figure this to be a reasonable response, as the last thing I want to do is argue with a customer about a belief I think is frankly stupid. The customer presses on by saying \"I'm just saying if you look at the evidence... \" I quickly cut him off \"sir I politely asked you not to continue this conversation.\" I'll admit my tone harshened slightly because I felt I wasn't respected. He pressed on \"But I saw this video on YouTube that points out how we didn't have the technology...\" I cut him off again \"SIR. I have asked you nicely twice now. I do not wish to talk about this topic.\" \"But why?\" he presses. \"Sir it's just not something I want to talk about.\" by this point I was absolutely frustrated and was for sure taking a tone with him. He continues \"all I'm saying is if you look at the evidence...\" I snapped.\n\n\"SIR. I DON'T CARE WHAT THE EVIDENCE SAYS I POLITELY ASKED YOU TO CHANGE THE TOPIC AND YOU ARE NOT LISTENING TO ME.\" (The all caps represents the tone not the volume. I don't have it in me to yell at people.)\n\nHe finally left just saying \"jeeze\"\n\nNow I don't know for sure that this man has any sort of handicap, and it is for sure wrong for me to assume he does. But from the large population of mentally handicapped people I encounter at that job I'm inclined to believe he may be.\n\nExcuses aside; Am I the Asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8O7jHhP9RYbTCV2WPpafLEGCjjvKCiyl", "post_id": "a8sj5g", "action": {"description": "telling my roommate he needs to find a temporary home for his cat", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my roommate he needs to find a temporary home for his cat.", "text": "So my roommate rescued a cat a few days ago ( where I live, it\u2019s kinda cold as balls ) and decided to keep it. \n\nI have no problem with him rescuing the cat, but it apparently had fleas and he gave it a few baths.  My roommate has also yet to take it to the vet to get him check out ( you know, no more fleas, has all it\u2019s shots, he\u2019s fixed, etc..... )\n\nI have no issue with him rescuing a cat or wanting to keep it.  The thing is he\u2019s been constantly late on rent/utilities and he flat out told me he doesn\u2019t have the money to take it to the vet.  My roommate is also going to visit his parents out of state so he\u2019s trying to find somebody to watch it ( I can\u2019t bc I work and will also be visiting family ).  I\u2019m also concerned if the cat decides to not pee I the litter box/it spread fleas in his room.  My roommate is leaving in 2 months and I know for a fact he won\u2019t have the money to get his room cleaned before my 2nd roommate moves in.\n\nThere is nothing in our agreement explicitly forbidding him having a pet and my apartment is cool with cats.  Plus I also kinda like the little fluff ball.  But I know he doesn\u2019t have the income to support it and since the cat hasn\u2019t been checked out, I want the cat to find a new temporary home until my roommate moves out.\n\nI own the lease, so I could tell him to get rid of it, but i feel that would be an asshole move.....", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4kToo0hulIDsRbHDytJ2bfnbAFnKjapO", "post_id": "arq6p6", "action": {"description": "not wanting my family at my sweet 16", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my family at my sweet 16?", "text": "For context I\u2019m turning 16 in September so I\u2019m stressing about this way to early. \n\nI\u2019m going to Disney in August (that\u2019s kinda my big 16 celebration if you ask me) anyways. So I\u2019m sitting in the car tonight and I had this conversation with my parents (D= Dad M= Mom B= Me).\nB: I don\u2019t want to have a party this year\nM: you don\u2019t want to have a party for your 16th?\nB: well I just want to have a small party like invite friends and hangout\nSo the conversation goes on with what I would want. I\u2019m an anxious person so my friends are the same. Most of the time the people at the party aren\u2019t there for me it\u2019s to talk to everyone else. So at the very least I want to invite who I want. Like my friends I often have one or two (a bf if I have one) and then yeah so I\u2019d want to invite my friends we hang out for the day and I get cake and pizza. But I was feeling guilt tripped the whole time about it.\nAm I the asshole for wanting to celebrate with just my parents and friends?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sIW4fg7uKi5Wh49OmY3Oo1IxDmRjfeAI", "post_id": "alt0ct", "action": {"description": "kicking my pregnant ex gf out of my apt", "pronormative_score": 68, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA If I kicked my pregnant ex gf out of my apt?", "text": "We've been dating for about 2 months.  A few weeks in she got into a blow out fight with her mother and I offered her to crash with me until they made up, which I thought would be a few days.  It wasn't.  \n\nTwo weeks ago she tells me that she hasn't had her period in 4 months and has been too scared to take a pregnancy test until now and sure enough it's positive.  There's no way it could be mine as I had a vasectomy in my early 20's.  \n\nWe've been having problems since she started staying with me.  It just never really got to the point to where I was over the edge and break up with her yet, but the relationship was likely going to end.  Her being pregnant is the nail in the coffin for it.  The reason I had a vasectomy is because I have no interest in being a father, let alone to another man's child.  I told her the first part of that and the break up was surprisingly easy, or so I thought.\n\nSince then she hasn't made any moves to make up with her mother or move out on her own.  She's tried initiating sex with me a few times, but for once my brain and my penis are on the same page as far as what a bad idea that is.   She also keeps talking in a way that makes me think that she believes we are going to get back together.   I've told her she really can't stay here forever and she says she knows, but then makes no effort to do anything as far as I know.  \n\nI feel like she is just expecting us to get back together and not even trying to make up with her mother and the only way to get that to happen is to kick her out and not give her a comfy alternative.  \n\nMost of the reactions have been in agreement with me when I spoke to my friends about it.  My mother really surprised me though and shamed the hell out of me for wanting to kick her out.  She wants me to try and make it work with her.  I think some of it is because she was a single mother herself for some time, but I really wasn't prepared for her to want me to torpedo my own happiness for a two month long relationship that was already going south.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 65, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 68, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Q6M4f0JBWL3lhvPFkCM0bjMiL5YaxSxa", "post_id": "b90r7o", "action": {"description": "telling my trans friend that I want to spend less time with her", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my trans friend that I want to spend less time with her", "text": "My best friend came out to me as trans roughly 1.5 years ago. She pretty much instantly became hormones but had no surgeries yet. I've known her for only 2-3 years prior to her coming-out due to us both studying literature in Berlin, but we quickly became best friends. These things changed after her treatment started.   \n\n\n1) She's copying me. Not only my style or how I talk, but she'll also hang out with the same friends, have relationship problems when I do, get frustrated with her job when I need to search a new one. All these things would be innocent if they were single events, but the amount of \"coincidences\" is incredible and suspicious.  \n2) Sometimes she's not invited to events. At the start, that just happened (y'know.. sometimes there are group size restrictions, sometimes an old clique meets up after a long time..). On every of these occasions, she would find reason for drama, send me dozens of texts on how the group is excluding her and how this is unfair and any other reason why we should have invited her and how she now feels like shit.   \n3) Very often she wants me to promise to deal with things for her that she can do herself. She almost always agrees that she'll have a change to do it and knows that there is no guarantee I'll do it (its NOT stuff like \"if you go shopping, can you buy xyz for me?\"). I've told her that she basically dumps her responsibilities on me and that it stresses me out, but she simply disagreed and got angry that I denied her simple favors.\n\n4) She has a history of bad friendships and this leads to her often being paranoid and untrusting even towards me. When we plan to meet, she'll double- and triple-check that I'll really go with her. She'll always get a backup even if I promise to be there with her. She'll ask three others to make sure I'll have time and not planned anything with someone else.  \n\n\nBy now, I argue with her at least once a week. She's obviously also getting more annoyed at me or gaining more confidence, as she more and more started to call me out for being a bad friend, not having her back with whatever or how she's disappointed that I don't want to do xyz for her and that I always treat her badly. She also once told me that some of her other friends would urge her that I am an asshole and that she should avoid me, but because she's so nice and believes in our friendship, she still deals with me. I told her in some discussions that if I'm so bad, maybe she should just stop talking to me, but she's refusing. There is also at least on friend who severed his ties to me because he wants to avoid her.\n\nI feel almost constantly pressured into needing to agree with her, think of her, include her, get her into events/parties just to avoid more fights, drama and guilt-tripping. I'm frustrated and stressed, I feel trapped in a friendship thats maybe just not working anymore. \n\nWIBTA if I told her that we should spend less time together and find other friends?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sdQ9EODx6xGoZqpGzndMOebllTD0VkmD", "post_id": "atvbqa", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my dad", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my dad?", "text": "  So this year I have started studying a lot, like leaving home for school at 8am and get home finally at 10pm from cram which leaves so little time. This happens every day except for Saturday and Sunday. \n  My parents are divorced and I am living with my mom's family so to see my father I have to take the bus and the subway which would take at least and hour and half to get there. I know it's not that much but I would like to mention that staying on my father's house is really exhausting I have two half brothers and man they spend their time differently and I'm like running from one to the other back and forth in the house and I can't have my only 2 \"free\" days (I still have things to study at home in those days) to be exhausting too. In terms of communication that leaves me with just the phone but whenever I have called him without having the intent to visit the house I feel a cold tone in his voice so that makes me not wanting to be the one calling but he won't call me ever unless it's birthday or new year and his way of thinking if he isn't calling I ain't calling (I'm 17 in case anyone want to know). \n  I would not get mad about this the thing that changed the situation was that last week at some point I felt a bit bad about the whole thing so I would send him a message to apologise cause I can't visit him cause of studies and I got no reply, nothing. This screwed emotionally my whole week I can't concentrate the least while studying. It got me wondering AITA?\n  Also about the distance I have a strong fear when I use the busses in my city, I get extremely anxious and paranoid like everybody will try to harm me. My city has a bit of a bad name and I have been some times in the scenario of getting threatened for money or my phone even inside the subway in my city with people around and it was at day.\n  I think I covered as much as I could. Also sorry for my grammar. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KDP4OFWaBREjWUopV8RryoRbZIQRPQwI", "post_id": "avi4oo", "action": {"description": "complaining that professor with broken wrists does not grade assignments", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for complaining that professor with broken wrists does not grade assignments?", "text": "So I signed up for an online psychology class at university. Sixty percent of the grade of the course was comprised of 8 different essay assignments (one due every 2 weeks). The rest was from quizzes and such that did not need to be graded by the instructor.\n\n​\n\nThe second week of the course, the professor sent out an email saying she had broken both wrists (among other injuries) and might be late on grading. Completely understandable. However, I had just submitted the first essay when this happened and was eager to get feedback so I could fix any problems for future assignments. I've found in college that even when being careful to read the assignment grading rubric, sometimes a student's interpretation of the expectations for the course are not very clear, so feedback is vital to success.\n\n​\n\nAnyway, by the time the 2nd essay was due, the 1st essay was still not graded and no feedback was provided. I understood that, even if I was a bit disappointed. However, by the time the 5th essay was due, the 1st essay and all other essays were still ungraded and no feedback was provided. I was quite annoyed at this point. I could be failing the course without even knowing it and it was approaching the deadline to drop a course. I sent an email pointing this out and asking if there was any way she could dictate the grades to someone else who could type them, etc. She responded in a furious manner and said I wasn't being understanding of her traumatic situation and there was nothing she could do. I felt **mortified** after that.\n\n​\n\nThe situation ended up being pretty inconsequential as I passed the class with a good grade. She finally graded everything in the last few weeks of the course (no feedback though).\n\n​\n\nBut really, am I the asshole here? I feel horrible that she was injured, but students pay a lot of money to enroll in university courses. If she wasn't able to provide any kind of feedback, perhaps the class should have been cancelled. I'm particularly interested in how professors feel about this situation and how it could have been better handled.\n\n​\n\nThanks so much!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oU8K7bTnDzwX1FaILboIVH9GEk3H6DzM", "post_id": "ah3q3l", "action": {"description": "not wanting to attend my girlfriends sons birthday because I had plans + it would be awkward", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to attend my girlfriends sons birthday because I had plans + it would be awkward", "text": "She wants me to meet her side of the family. I have met her son maybe 5-10 times? We've been dating for a little over a year and she introduced me to him not too long ago. Her son, I like him and all, but I'm not sure he would even care if I was there. He has his other family coming over. Her parents are boring cordial and from what I understand his partner is going to be there also.\n\nI've met her ex, I've never really met her family though. Am I obligated to go? She's trying to keep getting me to go. I just want to watch football with a few people I know.\n\nI don't have any kids, So I don't really know if since I'm dating his mom, I'm supposed to go to his birthday. She's bugging me about it, I would probably go if I didn't already want to do something else.\nActually maybe I wouldn't, I just don't think a birthday party is somewhere to introduce me. I don't know, just feel kind of weird about it. She's actually making it a huge deal now.\n\nTLDR: Girlfriend wants me to attend her sons birthday because she wants me there, and she wants me to meet her family. I don't really want to go, as I want to watch football with a few other people. She's trying to make me feel guilty or says she's upset that I won't go. \n\nDo I owe the right that I should go? Or could I deny? I've been with her for over a year so it's not like our relationship is new. I don't know. I already had plans.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KqSDKU05wolTRz4etQLR2vslLUh6iN9J", "post_id": "axta32", "action": {"description": "not supporting my boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not supporting my boyfriend?", "text": "My (21F) boyfriend (23M) swore in today for the army. I've been upset with the decision to enlist for a while because I feel it was made abruptly and without thinking about our future together. (4 year relationship) I came to terms with it and accepted that it was something he wanted and felt he should do, and tried to focus on the positives. (Like job training in the career he wants, nursing, and education funds)\n\nWell, today he swore in. I couldn't be there as I moved home in November due to my mom getting sick. I saw the pictures on his mom's Facebook page, where she mentioned that he would be headed into the airborne infantry, and hopefully become a ranger one day. For four months while this has been building he's told me he was doing something medical he just didn't know what, he would send me the title as soon as it was official so I could research. I got really upset at seeing this, and texted him asking if it was a mistake or something. When he responded he told me he \"withheld the truth\" because he knew I wouldn't be on board and if \"I waited for your approval we would be going nowhere fast I did this for our future\". I asked him how he thought I wouldn't find out and when he planned to tell me and he said he knew I'd figure it out somehow but he assumed I'd just be happy and supportive that he's doing something he wants to and bettering himself.\n\nSo, AITA for not being supportive of him taking a job we didn't discuss?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "AfEeqLm4xdNgQnrpESpmHDbxttL2DjP0", "post_id": "af51mb", "action": {"description": "thinking that my SO doesn't value the time we spend together coz he doesnt take photos of us during special occasions but does when he's with his friends", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking that my SO doesn\u2019t value the time we spend together coz he doesnt take photos of us during special occasions but does when he\u2019s with his friends?", "text": "We were attending a wedding i got invited to. First that we\u2019ll be attending together. We both looked dashing with our suits on, venue was pretty. We stayed at a fancy hotel the night after the wedding so we could have a little post-holiday celebration together. Bot once did he bring out his phone to document our experience. I\u2019m not a fan of uploading every single activity on the internet. I took a few photos. He didn\u2019t ask for me to share to him the photos I took. Asked him why he didn\u2019t want to take photos of us together. He said he\u2019s just not the selfie kind of guy. Ok.\n\nBF is now overseas with colleagues on training. He snaps photos of them here and there doing this and that. Shares it on the book of faces.\n\nI want to diwcuss this with him when he comes back. Will I be an asshole for confronting him about it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EKUl39J1HiwpQXiSNhkXk5NmGYSA4Nau", "post_id": "b74jrj", "action": {"description": "wanting to report copyright infringement", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to report copyright infringement?", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons, and apologies for formatting, I'm on mobile. For privacy reasons I will not share my main account name (thus the throwaway), nor the other account in question. \n\n\nBackground: I do art. And I always sign my art. Recently, I've found my work being reposted, with most of the time me as an artist being credited. I have no problem with this, in fact, I always feel honored when I see this happen. \n\n\nSituation: someone has reposted my work without crediting me, however my signature has not been removed from the work (so it's obviously not theirs). I cannot comment on their post to publicly ask them to fix the credit (commenting turned off), or take the post down. An OC (original content) hashtag in the description leads me to believe they wish to pass it off as their own. \n\n\nThis has happened once before with the same person. When it first happened, I gave them a warning to please take it down. Nothing changed, I also got no response from them. I post new work, and within a few hours I find it reposted on the aforementioned account, my signature has not been removed, work copied exactly.\n\n\nI contacted them again, this time warning them to take it down within 24 hours, or else I will send a copyright infringement report. These forms are a huge hassle to fill in, and I'm worried that I'm over reacting (especially considering my signature is still on the work), but the fact that they used the OC hashtag tells me that they're stealing my work and pretending it's theirs (which is illegal, I think).\n\n\nSo... AITA for threatening them with a copyright claim? And WIBTA for filing it if the post hasn't been taken down in 24 hours? I'm really at a cross roads cuz... On the one hand, exposure, but on the other hand, its my work...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QmQwQkGhbE13Y9LInDjQSouKL7CrpYHO", "post_id": "9vdtsm", "action": {"description": "wanting to know my bf's family's mental health history before we start having kids", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to know my bf\u2019s family\u2019s mental health history before we start having kids?", "text": "I know this sounds shitty and kind of invasive of me. I am not judgmental and I understand that mental health is a serious thing. My boyfriend and I have been thinking about trying to have a baby soon. I have had a long history of anxiety/depression as well as my father, and his father. I know my bf\u2019s mom has some serious mental health issues. She takes antipsychotics but i\u2019m not sure what for. I have tried asking my boyfriend if he knows anything but he just said no he doesn\u2019t think so. I don\u2019t think he even knows what\u2019s going on with his mom because 1. I don\u2019t think she\u2019s told him. and 2. I don\u2019t think he even knows what antipsychotics are for. His mom talks to herself and he always laughs and goes oh don\u2019t mind her she talks to herself a lot. But I don\u2019t think he even realizes it\u2019s not a normal thing to do. \n\nAnyways, my doctor told me that my anxiety/depression is most likely genetic. I fear my future children will struggle with that alone. Now add in whatever his mom may be dealing with. It worries me to think of having a child that will struggle mentally. Especially since a lot of serious mental health disorders have a genetic component. I have not brought this up to my boyfriend in this context because I do not want him or his family to be offended. \n\nSo, AITA for wanting to know what\u2019s going on? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "r9zIQknSDOhHfFiLvjo2shy0TJXzDILZ", "post_id": "b7b0si", "action": {"description": "ignoring my dad's texts", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ignoring my dad's texts?", "text": "For context I want to start with the fact that my dad has severe bipolar disorder. Like to the point now where he barely goes outside of his bedroom. He lives with my elderly grandma and I worry about how much care the two of them are getting. He spends most of his days buying guitars, listening to music, making spreadsheets, and texting my brother and I. He hasn't always been like this, but it started in about late 2016 and has been escalating since then.\n\n​\n\nIn his texts he talks about guitars and music; but mostly talks about being wronged by the doctors he's seen in the past, that America wants to execute the mentally ill, and that no one understands or loves him. He's convinced that if someone moves out there and devotes all their time to care-giving for him, he'll feel better. That's his end goal. On average, he'll send 7 texts (about 10 lines each) every time he texts me. So when I was texting him more often, it would be constant! He would send 7 texts, I would respond as well as I could in one, he would 7 more texts and accuse me of ignoring most of the stuff he was saying and not texting him the way he prefers.\n\n​\n\nI have moderate anxiety and depression, and also stomach problems, which I am regularly seeing my doctor for. During one of my regular check ups I was having a particularly hard time with this. My doctor asked me what was wrong and I explained and showed her my phone. She glanced at the screen and only had to see the volume of texts before saying \"He's not being treated.\" She continued on to say that those with bipolar can behave like this if they aren't being treated or taking medication and that I need to ignore his messages. The more I respond, the more it encourages his behavior and reassures him not to get treatment.\n\n​\n\nI've started following this advice, and I do admit I've started to feel better. I only respond to short messages or pictures at this point, and ignore all of his rants. At the same time though, in the back of my mind I feel like an asshole for just ignoring the problem. How long am I supposed to keep this up? Forever? What about if I get married? Am I supposed to ignore him then too? From his side, he doesn't really understand why I've stopped talking so much because I haven't really explained it at all.\n\n​\n\nI don't know. Reddit, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7XcQApPfUNYoKcGySwvl29RlTmxYrxWk", "post_id": "b8qmny", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend she needed to make more money", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my girlfriend she needed to make more money", "text": "Been with my girlfriend 6 years, we both work full time but I make significantly more money than she does, because of this I put the majority towards the rent and bills etc..\n\nFrom my perspective this isn't an issue and I'm not harbouring any resentment for it but to be honest I just don't feel as if we make enough money for the life we live at the moment\n\nOn the other hand she absolutely loves her job and in turn makes me happier knowing she can go to work on a Monday without having to worry about it.\n\nHowever she is severely underpaid, and worth alot more than the money she makes which sometimes males things a little tight for us, there have been weeks we cannot afford to go shopping.\n\nWe're not bad off, we have a roof over our heads and if we can't afford it either of our parents would provide a meal when needed, I just don't feel we should have to ask as we both work full time\n\nI'd also like to point out that someone else has asked her if she would like to earn more money and she has said she's happy in her job at the moment so wasn't looking", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tt5GAHU2ctCdgq8MKkT1e1MgPFeZqw91", "post_id": "awwo1u", "action": {"description": "denying a mutual friend of my friend a ride because of how they treated me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA If I denied a mutual friend of my friend a ride because of how they treated me?", "text": "Sorry for grammar and setting up of text, on mobile here.\n\nWould I be the asshole for denying my friend's friend a ride? We'll call this friend who needs a ride MF. MF in the past has really upset me and my family and has started all kinds of shit between my brother and his gf, my sister, and me personally. Now I am generally a forgiving person, however I am no push over.\n\nMy problem here is this: MF wants a ride but has done nothing good for me and only wronged me, but this person is good friends with my other friend (whose house I will be going to) and I feel that denying a ride will make me an asshole. I feel very conflicted.   ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5wm5I0GiT7ulXAbhVZiNF6B08yt9n5bG", "post_id": "av03u0", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Wife wants to go on vacation without me", "text": "My wife is a nurse and works weekends from time to time. I work M-F. Because she is working on the weekends, sometimes I take our son to the local zoo or out four-wheeling in my Jeep, or to the beach. She feels that she doesn't get the one on one time with him like I do. Bear in mind, she works 3-12 hour shifts and has 4 days a week off. \n\nOccasionally, I will go out of town on a Jeep trip (I've gone twice in the past year). I would prefer it if she came with me, but she doesn't really care to \"sit in a car\". I wish she enjoyed the hobby as much as I do, but I understand we don't have to have all the same interests. Sometimes she would want to go, but because we have young kids, it may not be conducive so she stays home with them. \n\nShe has a friend with a kid that is near the same age as our own. Every time this friend wants to get together with my wife, she never wants the family to be included. It's always dinner and drinks with the girls, beach trip with only the kids-no husbands allowed and now, she wants to my wife to bring our son to Legoland for the weekend and I am not permitted to go.\n\nMy wife is saying that I get one on one time with our son and this is an opportunity for her to do the same. I think it is a good idea for her to bond with our kids one on one too.\n\nWe are currently fighting because I think it is unfair/my feelings are hurt because she is taking our son on his first trip to an amusement park and I wont be apart of that memory. My feelings are that if she wanted to bond with him one on one, she could do the same type of things that I do like taking him to the zoo, the local water park, the beach or whatever, just the two of them and then we could do an amusement park as a family.\n\nI told her I wouldn't care at all that she was going if she wasn't taking our son, but again, I am bummed that I won't be apart of the memory. When she was telling our son last night about the trip, he asked, \"why isn't daddy going.\" I wanted to say \"because mommy said I can't,\" but instead I just told him that it was a trip for just him and mommy.\n\nI slept on the couch because she thinks I am being selfish and manipulative. There really isn't a point to fighting because I wouldn't go on the trip at this point, even if she begged me. I asked her if she could name a single one of my friends that makes her feel excluded and unwelcome and she can't. She recognizes that her friend always wants it to be a girls only or no husbands type of deal but justifies it as \"I don't have very many friends I want to hang out with.\" I feel like she is putting her relationship with her friend before ours.\n\nHonestly, if she just said, \"I can understand why you are disappointed you are missing out and I'm sorry,\" it would go really far but to blame me for how I feel is really getting under my skin and escalating the fight much more than it has to be.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 45, "WRONG": 27}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YSZKwhqivhtvmNqTQCWOallS4kci3F85", "post_id": "awm70i", "action": {"description": "being annoyed that my roommate invites over her friends when she's not here", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For being annoyed that my roommate invites over her friends when she's not here?", "text": "I've had a number of problems with my roommate, so I'm not sure if I am biased towards being annoyed with her at this point so I want some perspective.\n\nShe's always been really inconsiderate, and she has recently started allowing her friends to come over when she isn't home. One of them has a key to the house, which I knew when I moved in and is allowed but it was supposed to be for emergencies. I'm not sure if this friend of hers is letting them in, or if she is and then she leaves. They're loud people, and I like peace and quiet. Also, she has an ensuite bathroom, but her guests use my washroom (which is the main washroom) so they don't have to go through her room, and I have to keep that bathroom stocked myself since she doesn't use it. I wouldn't even care about that, but she isn't even here! Why do these people need to be? I don't want strangers in my house unaccompanied!\n\nSo, WIBTA if I told her she's not allowed to do that anymore?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Oc23hq9YXEt5wkGWidU8CPaUcXMIRsp6", "post_id": "b4vtdw", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Former colleague and friend does not want to spend time due to very occasional lack of energy", "text": "Former colleague and friend, we used to spend time together but there was never any romantic involvement from either part. The guy does not like socializing and said that he only had that kind of social contact with me and it's been going on for five years.  Two years ago I got ill and very tired, which shows in my appearance (and I am already 13 years older than he is). My friend then started looking at me differently.\n\nWhen I asked him to do things with me that we had done for several years, e.g. take a walk or go to a football match, he never had the energy because his work was exhausting (which is true). I kept asking him for two years and sometimes he asked me as well but we socialized completely on his terms, and I was kind of OK with that.\n\nEarlier this year he started saying no to every suggestion I made, always with the excuse that he was too tired. However - when I asked him at work he would say that he felt better and was on his way to recover from exhaustion. I asked him very politely to tell me straight up if he didn't want to spend time with me but he assured me that this was not the case.\n\nThen he was asked to do things with another colleague, about his age, and blond (and clearly into him). Suddenly he had the energy to do a lot of things with his colleagues, because they didn't date, they just spent time and did fun stuff together. He always had the energy to do all those things. I asked him again to tell me straight up about our contact and friendship and he again said that he wanted us to be as we always were, spend time together occasionally.\n\nI was very hurt when it turned out that he said to me that he did not have the energy to do things with me but did things with others. I told him I was hurt, he got very upset and angry, looked at me with an almost crazy and hateful glance and told me that I was a passive aggressive.\n\nI did not at all feel guilty and I had no idea what he meant so I asked him to elaborate but he didn't, he just cut off all contact, leaving me very confused and sad just about everything including what is essentially my personality.\n\nMy own reflection now is that his behavior is strange and I don't understand anything. He knows me better than to call me names and we have always had a very direct communication so I don't understand what I did wrong. Is it wrong to ask a friend to be direct and is it wrong to be sad when a friend clearly prefers the company of others but hasn't the spine to tell it straight to your face not even on a direct question? \n\n​\n\nShouldn't a friend be a friend even through illness and aging? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "4Sqjqf9dCwwdnWoLyhV3BHNrqxTRWyEf", "post_id": "axs1y9", "action": {"description": "calling my Ex out on her BS infront of her friends", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling my Ex out on her BS infront of her friends?", "text": "   For reference me and my ex are both 16 and sophmores in High School.\n\n I broke up with her at the end of November 2018, ending our 7 month relationship. I ended it because of some personal issues and overall just us growing distant.\n\nSince then i have recieved a text or call every few weeks basically telling me she still liked me. Qhether these texts were from her or mutual friends. This last weekend we had a short conversation in which i told her i wanted her to stop telling me this because I always felt really akward about it and didnt like it. This was a sunday night. \n \n   Monday at school three mutual friends walked up to me asking what I did to her. I was confused by this but they all shared a similar story, my ex told them all that she wanted nothing to do with me because i was an absolute asshole through text and how I kept leading her on. Mind you i am an emotionally oblivious person and very friendly but i was always clear that i didnt think we should be in a relationship.\n   \n  On Monday night i called he best friend for clarification because i was frankly pissed off about being lied about. After a 20 minute conversation and sent screenshots it was decided that she was lying theough her teeth about me being an ass.\n\nNow comes the moment of questionable Assholishness. Something to preface this, im not confrontational, neither is she, but come thursday i was beyond mad. Four of her best friends had walked up to me and insulted me and one actively knocked my phone from my hands because she was angry at me. \n\n    Thursday morning rolled around and i decided enough was enough. I waited till after 2nd hour, when i knew she'd be at her locker for a while. I walked up and called her out on her BS, she started to deny it and her friends there started to try and insult me. I had known this would happen so i pulled my phone out and showed them the conversation. Her friends all seemed really mad that she lied to them about me. ( I was pretty good friends with some of them before all this.) \n\n    My Ex stormed off saying she never said i was an asshole and said i could believe the people who said she did or i could believe her. Friday morning she walked up to me and said once again that she never called me an asshole but if i believed them over her then i was an asshole.\n\n   Im sticking with what my friends told me she said but i dont know if i handled it well so am i the asshole?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YBdubwyd6UWUDKTvj7lxBW6NSImTtiNz", "post_id": "ayibp8", "action": {"description": "wanting everyone to do equal work on a group project", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting everyone to do equal work on a group project?", "text": "We\u2019re doing a project in my high school English class. We couldn\u2019t choose partners but both of  the girls in my group act like they\u2019re too busy to work on the project. They want to divide the work based on free time instead of having everyone do an equal share. The only activity I do outside of school is soccer and that only eats up 2 or 3 days of my week. I also have a job but I only work weekends and only if I don\u2019t have a soccer game. That means I have 4 or 5 days where I don\u2019t do anything after school. Both of my partners have more extracurricular activities than me and they\u2019re doing a full AP schedule and have another project whereas I\u2019m only taking 3 AP classes. They\u2019re arguing that because I have more free time then they do I should do more of the work as they\u2019re already busy with National Honor Society, French Club and other stuff. I  use most of my time off for leisure but I still think it\u2019s unfair for me to do more then them.  The teacher says maybe this is for the best and the other groups already started working as well so I can\u2019t switch groups.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "X6cjvTtjO2ImkL4wZl3GltCEdVBW0CDl", "post_id": "ami4ij", "action": null, "title": "AITA BROKEN RECORD", "text": "I'm one of three sisters and generally get on well with both my sisters. However, my older sister and I have had a pretty rocky relationship. I don't like her boyfriend*. And so, a couple of months ago I'd have said I was much much closer to my younger sister. And would be confident that she would have said the same about me...\n\nFor Christmas, as sisters we all agree to spend around \u00a340 on eachother. \n\nMy younger sister didn't give my older sister a Christmas present this year. I didn't really give it a second thought on the day. I don't think I even noticed. \n\nIt wasn't until a few days after Christmas that I found out my younger sister bought my older sister and her boyfriend a \u00a3100+ record player. My younger sister is a second year student having to work a part-time job to pay her rent. \n\nI guess I sort of found out when I was sat on the sofa at my Dad's house, next to his phone, and saw a message pop up from my older sister saying \"don't tell [52hertz0] about the record player\". \n\nI didn't say anything because I was confused. Was I getting a record player? Where is this record player?\n\nI decided to ask my younger sister where this record player was, seeing as though I thought we were really close. She didn't give me an answer. Until later when I asked her again before going to bed.\n\nI was initially annoyed that my sisters kept it from me?  Then roped my parents into keeping it from me. There is no previous history as to me reacting badly to not receiving a present of equal amount from any of my family members. \n\nBut ultimately, I felt that trust between me and my younger sister was broken. I was already dreading Christmas and having to hang out with my sisters boyfriend. Plus I just have really bad anxiety and do not enjoying going back to my hometown. So her gesture stung. \n\nWhen I found out everything. I got really upset with my younger sister, who I was suppose to be sharing a room with. I decided to leave and go back to my flat to avoid having to spend the night with her. I left around midnight and it took a while for anyone to realise I'd left.\n\nAnyway. Things haven't been the same since. Was I our of order for leaving the house because I was so upset? I am 24 yo. It wasn't a dramatic tantrum exit. I just knew I didn't want to be in that house where I looked like such an idiot. \n\nThere has been no previous history of me getting upset over Christmas presents. Etc. This just really hurt. I got a gift card from both my sisters together. Not that I am ungrateful for that. It's just a record player seems a little bit more thoughtful. \n\n* I don't like my sister's boyfriend because he has a gambling problem. He calls my sister a cunt. And he generally is obsessed with obtaining money. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "I9s3xJxLpdpHjKRNEqT7ipXd3VHXXh0D", "post_id": "afrp3n", "action": {"description": "telling my sister not to tell my mom that my dad is cheating on her", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "Wibta if I told my sister not to tell my mom that my dad is cheating on her?", "text": "First off, sorry for mobile formatting\n\nBackstory. I\u2019m the oldest of 3 kids. I\u2019m 19, my sister is 17, and my brother is 15. My brother is bipolar and a serious handful to deal with. He tantrums daily, sometimes even multiple times daily. My dad is also extremely volatile, and therefore, my parents have agreed that the best course of action is to leave my brother to my mom. She deals with him every day. \n\nSimultaneously, my mom is a lawyer, and holds the position of legislative counsel to the legislature of my county. She deals with a lot of shit from there as well. My dad recently took over for one of the legislators who retired. He\u2019s been serving as a legislator for 4 months. This technically makes him, at least partially, my mom\u2019s boss. \n\nI\u2019m a super introverted guy. I don\u2019t bother anyone. I just stay home and play video games. I don\u2019t like emotions. I bury them as deep as i can so i don\u2019t have to deal with them. Therefore, I usually come across as a soulless, emotionless guy, who doesnt care about anything. I\u2019ve never had a girlfriend, and I have very few real friends in life. My sister, on the other hand, is very outgoing, and very emotional. She also has severe anxiety, and worries about a ton of things that nobody at her age should have to worry about. She also has had multiple boyfriends, has ton of friends, and she loves to travel. So for her winter break every year, she goes on a vacation, usually with one of our parents as a guardian. This past week, she went on a cruise with my dad. The cruise line only gave them 1 internet connection between the 2 of them, so they had to trade off. On the first of the trip, my dad was getting into the shower and asked my sister for the WiFi. She got suspicious, so she ave him the WiFi, told him she was leaving, then snuck back in. She heard my dad having phone sex with an unknown woman. The night, she confronted him. He said that he never slept with anyone except our mother during their marriage, but she wasn\u2019t sure if she believed him. She still isn\u2019t.\n\nNow I\u2019m in a bind. My brother is starting to get out of hand. My mother is fraying around the edges and, due to extreme stress both at work and at home, I\u2019m worried that this might send her over the edge. Even if my mom manages to take it without cracking, I\u2019m nearly positive that 1) this will end in their divorce, 2) my mom will have to work for the person who cheated on her, 3) my dad will be able to go on as if nothing ever happened. When my sister came home, she said she didn\u2019t want to make this decision on her own, so she talked to me about it. She wanted advice from me about whether or not to tell my mom that my dad was cheating on her. I stay out of everybody\u2019s way, and as crazy as this may sound, this sudden development probably should bother me more than it does. I don\u2019t want to have to go through my parents getting divorced, but at the same time, my mom is turning 50 soon, and my sister thinks that if she doesn\u2019t get out now, she won\u2019t be able to find a guy that will make her happy. The problem is, I\u2019m selfish, and i don\u2019t want to go through the cray. Wibta for telling my sister not to tell my mom so i can just keep going?  ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1YiIGwp2f3M6ZhFhSV8xlo7DhnzCyFxs", "post_id": "ami7gy", "action": {"description": "giving my friend advice and her crying", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for giving my friend advice and her crying?", "text": "So, side note: we were in two speech competitions, and she didn\u2019t make semi-finals in either. I\u2019m speech captain, and she\u2019s new to this.\n\nI come back from my stuff, and she\u2019s somewhat upset, and she goes on this rant about how she\u2019s stressed about her speeches and stuff, and how no one is giving her good advice about what to fix.\n\nAt a certain point, she just looks at me like she wants me to say something. So I tell her, \u201cWell, are you going to sit there crying about it or are you going to buck up and try to fix your piece? If no one is telling you what to fix, then you need to find it yourself.\u201d\n\nShe counters with, \u201cBut I don\u2019t know what to fix. I\u2019ve done everything I can\u2014I\u2019m performing this at my highest level.\u201d\n\nWe went back and forth for a bit before she eventually started crying. I\u2019m not the most empathetic person in the world, so it didn\u2019t exactly faze me. I tried to give her the reality of the situation, but she eventually just walked away and told me that I had no feelings.\n\nAITA for trying to give her advice but making her cry in the process?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MMvrrmr0CRHhmBOfjjwL09zphzUbEjvw", "post_id": "ap5slv", "action": {"description": "getting a friend to pay to have my car cleaned after puking in it", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA - Getting a friend to pay to have my car cleaned after puking in it", "text": "So I was out Friday night, but I had to coach people the next morning and had driven to the club with some of my friends. One of them was turning 21, and had taken drinking a little bit too far - 2 hours in, he was basically trying to get with any girl there was, falling over herself, generally being a bit of a mess. So at this point, me and the others decide that we should probably take him home. We bundle her into the car, and start driving back, but midway through the drive he said that she wanted a McDonald\u2019s, and that she wouldn\u2019t get out of the car unless she got one. I figured that a drunk person could do a fair bit of damage to the car and McDonald\u2019s is like 5 mins away, so I said yeah sure. When we\u2019re halfway there, he says he\u2019s feeling sick, so I grab a plastic bag from my trunk and give it to him. We get to McDonald\u2019s, he gets his Big Mac meal, and we start to drive home - and then he\u2019s sick mainly into the bag, but also around my car. He then also drops a bunch of the burger around. \nSo the next morning, I get a message from him saying sorry about being such a mess, and that he\u2019d pay to have the vomit cleaned up if there still was any. After he\u2019d puked, I\u2019d sprayed some weird anti-vomit spray on the interior and to be honest I couldn\u2019t really notice a smell anymore, but I\u2019m really tempted to tell him that it needs to be properly cleaned.\nBefore I\u2019m judged too much, this particular friend is a bit of a pig in my car - every time he goes for a ride with me and my other friends I always find candy wrappers and stuff in the door pocket, and once he mashed some gum into the carpet which I still haven\u2019t gotten out. I\u2019ve confronted him about it, but he insists it\u2019s not him each time - to be honest, I\u2019m only really friends with him because he\u2019s part of my friendship group...\nAlso, a bit more context - the next day he had his birthday dinner and invited like 10 people, not including me... that kind of made me feel more justified if I do end up asking to have him clean it. Anyway, what are your thoughts?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YhH2ag8W0aw1TqpWCk5cdkGdTJHtlr1m", "post_id": "a9vcbs", "action": {"description": "lecturing my younger sibling about his spending habits", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for lecturing my younger sibling about his spending habits?", "text": "I\u2019m gonna try to keep this as short as possible.\n\nI am 21 my younger brother is 14. My family is not American, we grew up in South East Asia but both of us children are quite westernized due to our education.\n\nMy parents are relatively well off in their country, they can comfortably pay for my tuition to study abroad here in the US, although this hasn\u2019t always been the case. When I was growing up, my parents have just started their own business and we were in a lot of debt and poverty until I was around 10 so I saw a lot of the struggles and grew up to be pretty careful with my own spending, money and needs/wants. \n\nMy brother on the other hand was born when they started to become a lot more comfortable and now they have a lot more spare income to spend on things. I know kids will be kids and shouldn\u2019t have to worry about parents money etc but I feel like my brother is starting to take all of this for granted. The following are some examples:\n\n1. He asks for a trip to the USA each winter to visit me and gets relatively upset when they say no and he complains to me as if he\u2019s entitled to the trip. \n\n2. He got a 200usd pair of Bluetooth headset for his birthday and is now begging parents for 1600usd laptop for school. \n\n3. He\u2019s looking to get some protein for weightlifting and is adamant on getting more expensive brands of protein isolate instead of just regular whey protein. (For those unfamiliar, in the simplest term - isolate is a more refined version of whey with less carbohydrates and is more expensive)\n\nEtc.. \n\nI know a lot of this behavior have been encouraged by my parents and I\u2019m trying to talk to them about it. I feel part of it is them trying to compensate for what they weren\u2019t able to give me.. but I feel this is really bad for him, \n\nI want to explain to my younger brother about why he should be more considerate about what he wants and think whether he really needs something or not before asking for it. \n\nAlthough this is not my money, and if my parents are allowing it then maybe it\u2019s ok? I\u2019m not sure what to do. WIBTA for giving the kid a talk?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YVSscUrEwYYPQbfJNuUJWtnQaKk1ZFe0", "post_id": "a3q2rn", "action": {"description": "not waiting for my husband to decorate for Christmas", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not waiting for my husband to decorate for Christmas?", "text": "We bought a house this year, and I have been super excited to really go all out for Christmas for the first time. I tend to be \"Buddy the Elf\" excited about Christmas, and husband is more muted, but it is still his favorite holiday. He has been pointing out trees that we could wrap lights around, and we stayed in the front yard for like an hour mulling if there was something we could do this year to make the process a lot easier for years to come. (Options ranged from cup hooks under the eaves to running a cable to an outdoor outlet in the middle of the yard, lol.) \n\nAfter Thanksgiving, and one afternoon when we weren't doing anything, I asked if he wanted to start getting boxes out of the attic and we could go put up lights outside. It was too cold, he said, and we could do it in a few days when it was supposed to warm up. Ok cool. A few days later I asked again and he was tired and said not now. Then later it was too dark. Then later he was in the middle of a Rocket League game. It was always something, and always \"not now\" without giving me a time or day that he would be interested. \n\nSo when I got home from work yesterday, I just did it myself. I hauled the ladder out of the garage, hung the lights, got the tree out of the attic, set it up, and was in the middle of decorating it when he got home. He gave me a sad puppy dog look and said, \"you hung the lights without me?\" I told him he didn't seem very interested in doing it, so I just went ahead and did it, but if he wanted he could start getting ornaments and we could finish the Christmas tree together. He got mad and said \"What the fuck is the point?\" Which started a fight. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bpH1lIq0dxbSAzEBoOyAP6wuWIujqQkD", "post_id": "ak7kx9", "action": null, "title": "AITA for my bf & I not wanting to pay for our house\u2019s broken blinds all by ourselves?", "text": "Ok guys, I have a roommate problem here. I\u2019ve never had roommates before so I\u2019m not sure how to go about this, although I\u2019m 100% confident I\u2019m NOT the asshole here but my roommates think otherwise. \n\nMy roommates are my cousins, BTW. Their parents own the house we are living in, I pay her parents rent. \n\nSo... we have these blinds covering our living room windows. You pull them down to close them. Somehow, the screws got loose over time & one morning my boyfriend came over to close the blinds like we all normally do, & they all came crashing down. \n\nWe checked & the holes are now way too big for the screws, so yes it did happen over time. Nothing my boyfriend did caused this, & it was bound to happen to whoever touched the blinds next. \n\nMy theory is that the dogs caused the blinds to loosen, as they play near there often. \n\nI tell my roommates, let\u2019s call them L & J. They think my boyfriend & I should pay for them & that he should take responsibility for what happened even tho she said she\u2019s not blaming him. Wtf? Blame = take responsibility.\n\nThey both agree & now we are stuck. They argue that it happened to HIM, so he should pay for it. They also argued that my dog rests on the bottom part of the window the most, (never touching the actual blinds) so again we should pay for it because my dog likes looking out the window. EVEN THOUGH their dog does it all the time when he\u2019s out of his kennel. It\u2019s not Our fault our dog is at the window all day, looking & waiting for us to come home since she is a good girl & doesn\u2019t need to be kenneled. \n\nALSO when we come home after all this texting about the window, guess who\u2019s right at the window? Their dog. \n\nBesides, we all use the damn window. The reason of my dog using it the most is just stupid to me. Just cause she stares out of it the most..? \n\nShe brought up the fact that I don\u2019t split electricity, water or internet. But the deal was when we moved: L pays for rent, I pay rent, & J pays electricity, water, & internet. Now she\u2019s trying to bring it up for what, \n\nWe also had a dish washer problem months back. We split the inspection cost, but her parents paid all of the fixing themselves. Which was very kind of them & I appreciate it. But to say since they didn\u2019t ask, we should now pay for the blinds that clearly weren\u2019t our fault?? Why bring up the past? She\u2019s saying if they have to pay for the blinds, we will start splitting everything else too since it was caused by my \u201cguest\u201d. \n\nIn her texts she keeps saying she isn\u2019t blaming my boyfriend, but he caused it & it happened to him. I literally cannot continue to argue with such ignorance. \n\nWe even offered to split it FOUR ways, with all of us plus my boyfriend & they don\u2019t even want that. \n\nHelp me, Reddit. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jBofQMR2pnSCNkwB4wZ5LXDktkgXi3XU", "post_id": "arryu7", "action": {"description": "embarrassing a woman in my class", "pronormative_score": 87, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA For embarrassing a woman in my class?", "text": "Hi everyone. Regular poster in need of opinions. Forgive the mobile format.\n\nI'm the head coach at a mixed martial arts gym. In addition to that, I sometimes run specialized classes teaching practical self defense to women, law enforcement and so forth. \n\nThese classes are meant to teach essential skills women can use to **survive** attacks, not the flashy, ineffective nonsense you'd find in some seminars. In short, it's meant to be taken seriously and everyone who shows up knows this.\n\nThis time a woman attended and had an attitude from the second she walked in with someone else, mentioning to other people that she already knew all of this, all this shit was fake etc. I had asked her what she hoped to achieve by coming, and she said her friend had dragged her along. Ok, whatever. Everyone is entitled to learn.\n\nSo as we're going along she's disrupting, asking sarcastic hypothetical questions clearly meant to challenge my credibility and half-assing the demonstrations with a partner which deprived the women paired with her of their experience.\n\nShe essentially rallied some others into a \"why should we have to learn this, we can protect ourselves\" sentiment, which is a dangerous mindset. So I asked her if she would be comfortable pairing with me and simulating a real life scenario in which she'd have to defend herself against an assault, and she agreed. She comes up and I explain again that she'll be in no real danger and I'll stop when she asks, but it will feel real and I want her to show me how she'd handle the situation to the best of her ability and asked again if it was ok. She agreed.\n\nI took her to the ground and pinned her down, explaining what was happening to the class. She tried kicking, flailing at my face and escaping but obviously couldn't. At no point did I do anything to cause her pain, but I was physically overwhelming so it was realistic. She told me to stop, so I did. Take note this is **common practice** with men and women. Hands-on demonstration is essential to learning.\n\nI used the opportunity to teach where she went wrong and what she could have done to the others who were eager to pair up and repeat the drills among themselves. However, this woman took me aside and told me I made her feel humiliated and helpless. I re-iterated the importance of the information and the seriousness of the subject, and told her that the drill was meant to show her the reality of the situation so she'd be open to learning as I don't want her to rely on misconceptions to save her life. She got her friend and left.\n\nI don't think I was an asshole, it was standard practice and misinformation can have terrible consequences. My reaction from women has always been extremely positive because I don't baby those who attend. But I'm also not a woman and don't have a female perspective on this, and I do feel bad because my intent was never to upset her and no one has walked out before. So if I did something wrong, I'll gladly accept that and fix it. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 86, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 87, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IHWqELuAXDN8VI9wdnUDoLrPruf46C9z", "post_id": "a79mya", "action": {"description": "skipping class with classmates only to come back after they had all gone", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for skipping class with classmates only to come back after they had all gone.", "text": "So in short- we had a French test and some people didn't know anything so they decided to skip and not attend the class that day.\n\nBut they didn't just go, they started persuading other students to skip the class too and since they are the \"popular ones\" most of them followed.\n\nWe were left 5 people including me who couldn't skip another class because they would loose their scholarship if they did not attend. (There was one person tho who just didn't want to skip the class, he never skips). But they did not stop persuading and telling us things like one for all (which is ironic).\n\nSo we decided that we should just fake skipping and after the lunch brake we came back to the class.  Now our classmates hate us.\n\nAre we the assholes for having different opinions, for not wanting to follow the group? Should that affect our relationship with our classmates?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QYiEOk6ZONrJIMzo2zInajWkzuoDyhqX", "post_id": "aah9a9", "action": {"description": "wanting to keep my routine when my mom makes plans assuming that I don't have any", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to keep my routine when my mom makes plans assuming that I don\u2019t have any.", "text": "I (24F)  am in a serious relationship to where I spend I spend a good amount of time with my bf (23m) and on weekends (Th-Monday morning)  he has his almost year old son. We are also lucky enough to work together and often have the same hours. \n\nWe have our routine already that on Thursdays we run errands with the baby and spend time as a family. Friday\u2019s we spend time together before either one or both of us goes to work that night. \n\nI still live with my mom(47), unfortunately her husband is currently in another country and we are waiting on hearing when he comes back. Now she manages a university so she has a normal job where she works 8-6pm and I tend to close at my job. SO lives with his dad and brother but it\u2019s much chiller than my place. And lately I\u2019m spending more time there anyway. \n\nSo I\u2019m free to go to my SO\u2019s during the day and then I go to work from there. I change into my uniform there and he lives closer to where we work so I\u2019m less likely to be late. \n\nNow with the holidays having been these past two weeks, she gets out earlier on Thursdays and Friday\u2019s. My usual is to go to SO\u2019s then either go to work, he goes to work or other. So I\u2019m already going to SO\u2019s today per usual, and then I would go to work. However mom texts me that she\u2019s getting out early and will be bringing food. \n\nI go to SO\u2019s for a bit and then go home. To where she had shown up half an hour before she said she would, I was late but she had already eaten and was sleeping while I eat. If she had wanted to spend time with me then I think she could have talked.  I feel like she expects me to just sit home alone and doesn\u2019t take into consideration that I now have plans when I am able. \n\nThe same happened the day before with it being Thursday, I was with SO and baby. We were all trying to nap. She tells me my dad is delivering some chairs to our house. I need to be there to put them inside. I was going to pick them up later that day. So I leave a sleeping baby and SO, race home, dad gets there 45 minutes later than when I was told, then I go back to SO\u2019s to see him before he had to work. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5SKzhYdQhi23BPl9r7r6o10KSD01OrXR", "post_id": "b8wvzi", "action": {"description": "telling a friend to pull up his pants", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For telling a friend to pull up his pants?", "text": "A friend of mine has a habit of dropping his pants in public places.  He doesn't do it on purpose, it's more so the case that the pants fall down on their own without his knowledge. \n\n​\n\nThis has been going on for over a decade.  The pants fall down exposing his entire buttocks, and no he doesn't wear underwear.\n\n​\n\nHe's in his 30s and this has been going on since I knew him in his late teens. For his age I feel it's ridiculous.\n\n​\n\nOver the last few months it's been getting more frequent, this has happened over a number of occasions. \n\n​\n\nI feel bad to bring it up due to how he might react.  He often gets upset due to small issues.\n\n​\n\nIn the past I have hinted at it and he has just ignored it, until this week...\n\n​\n\nWe were going down the street and by chance we saw an actor we knew from a movie series that we watch.  We said that we would go over and approach him.\n\n​\n\nPeople were chatting to him and his pants dropped right in front of the actor and the crowd.  He had no interest to pull up his pants.  \n\n​\n\nSome people just ignored it, while others were laughing.  At this point I felt bad for him, but he was doing it to himself.\n\n​\n\nLater on that week I brought it up as brief as I could,  about him needing to to get a belt and how he is in his 30s. \n\n​\n\nHis reaction was fine at first, until he began talking about it.  He began to get aggressive as he went on.\n\n​\n\nHe blamed it on his parents for not getting him the correct size?  Than went further on and said that I'm a bad friend for judging his appearance.\n\n​\n\nHe continued and said that he'll keep letting his pants drop down because he doesn't care what people think of him.\n\n​\n\nAfter that he stop talking to me.  We haven't spoken since.  I think the entire event is childish and immature.\n\n​\n\nAm I an asshole for even bringing it up in the first place?  What does r/AITA think of this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gbVuMnKxFEvjCvDDYIG8bg9rdiEF6HwD", "post_id": "adeeur", "action": {"description": "leaving my dad when he and my mom had split custody", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my dad when he and my mom had split custody?", "text": "My parents divorced when I was about 3 and my older sister was 6. My dad lived about a good 15 minutes away from my mom which sometimes caused a bit of an issue with leaving school supplies at one place or the other but it was bearable. What wasn\u2019t ok was my dads anger. In about fourth grade he wanted to build a bookshelf and told me and my sister to help him and we both had no idea what we were doing so he just told us to hold it in place. Eventually he got so worked up he just started screaming and cursing and told my sister to go to her room and for me to \u201cplay my fucking videogames\u201d. \n\nThere were other occasions where his anger went over the top but that\u2019s not what I\u2019m here to talk about. While my sister was taking her ACTs he got a house close to my moms and by our school so he would be more accessible which was good at first but eventually my sister didn\u2019t do so hot on a practice ACT and my dad actually called her stupid. With that she up and left. I didn\u2019t want to be there alone with his anger honed in on me so I left too.\n\nThis was two years ago. We still meet up for dinner sometimes but he acts like the ultimate victim. He texts us about how we betrayed him and how we don\u2019t care about his side of the family and then the next day he apologizes and wants us back at his house.\n\nAITA for living with my mom?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VpdmvVfbQNK3UGaCidDdPgYqqK1CgVFY", "post_id": "ac7rk5", "action": {"description": "accidentally saying my mom is stupid", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for accidentally saying my mom is stupid", "text": "This happened about an hour ago, and I'm still feeling kind of messed up from it all.\n\n​\n\nI was doing my homework and finished a good chunk of it, so I decided to take a break and play some league. My mom noticed me doing this and said I have to get back to doing my homework, which I was a little bit annoyed by, but it is true I didn't work for very long, although I did do a good portion of what was due. I sat back down to get to work when my brother also goes to use the computer, and I told him that our mom wanted us to keep working for a little while longer \"because she's stupid.\" Obviously, this wasn't a serious insult or anything, but I was annoyed and it slipped out of my mouth. I felt bad immediately after saying it and said so, but I didn't think it would really bother anyone.\n\n​\n\nNope.\n\n​\n\n My mom overheard and was furious. She came out screaming, calling me ungrateful and, basically, an asshole. I tried to explain that I really didn't mean it, that it just slipped out, etc, but she wasn't having it. My mom then said that if I'm this bad already, in a few years I'll probably be doing hard drugs and ridiculous things like that, since I'm \"always\" betraying her trust and misbehaving now (what she means by this is that I used to do things behind their back, like stay up late on my phone, ditching church, etc). This wasn't the first argument we've had, but it's for sure one of the worst. Although my parents really do try to raise us well, I've always had a tough relationship with them. We just disagree on too many important things to have a healthy relationship all the time. However, I had always thought my dad was the one who hated me. It really hurt to learn that my mom really thought that little of me, but I think she's definitely pushing it by saying I'm gonna become what she believes to be a criminal. What I think is the problem here is that her idea of a bad person is very different from where my boundaries are, so when I called her stupid that must have immediately pushed me into the \"bad\" category. AITA here for calling her stupid?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "CMZ3ttv8Cf7MNOwyOB0BSQonfvmDgviI", "post_id": "awqzoy", "action": {"description": "not telling the waitress at my work we were out of something, leading to my co-line cook walking out", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not telling the waitress at my work we were out of something, leading to my co-line cook walking out?", "text": "Strap in, this is a long one\n\nSo I work at a diner. Ive been working there for about 3 months now. When we run out of something I usually tell a waitress it's 86 and they relay the message to the other attendants.\n\nThis time around, we ran out of gravy. I tell one of the waitresses and they're fine with it, and they make due for about an hour. I get an order from another waitress (W) with gravy. I ask, \"you know we're out of gravy, right?\" She didn't say anything, just looked extremely annoyed, then went up to the manager (B) \n\nHe begins yelling at my co-worker (J). I'm in the back at the time stocking, so I come out and tell B that we ran out and I figured the other waitress would relay the message. This is how the rest of the scenario plays out:\n\nB, angrily: We have some stock in the fridge. If we're out, make some. \n\nJ: What have you been doing? You've just been sitting on your ass all day. You're the manager, you should be helping.\n\nB: Excuse me?\n\nI leave because I don't do extremely well with conflict and wanted to remain neutral, as well as to find the gravy the manager was talking about. The next thing I hear is J saying \"fuck this, I'm out\" and he begins packing up his things.\n\nI had already worked a double that day, so I wasn't about to close as well (this would have been a 14 hour shift). The manager had to close with about 3 hours remaining.\n\nSo, AITA for not telling all the waitresses or the manager we were out? I wasn't even aware how to make it or if we had any to do so. And if I'm not, who is? Manager/co-chef/waitress?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Q9yEgx4Knu5IvE5vd5Gg7ai7PPaeuhKS", "post_id": "b4e1n6", "action": {"description": "thinking \"finders keepers\" applies to thrift shopping with a friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for thinking \"finders keepers\" applies to thrift shopping with a friend?", "text": "Basically, found a Burberry shirt for a good price at a thrift shop while with a friend. It barely fits me so I was iffy at first, but I was leaning towards wanting to buy it just because I thought I could resell it. Friend asked if he could try it on to see how it fit him... I thought why not let him try it on while I think about it, in case I end up not wanting it (I didn't think he'd take this as an admission of me giving it up). He asked me to see how it fit on him outside changing room. When talking about how it fit, I mentioned that the sleeves didn't even reach the wrist but it was \"up to him.\" Now, these three words are what got him really mad at me. I meant it as if it was up to him to decide whether it fit him (because we were talking about size). He thought I meant it was up to him whether he wanted to buy or not. He went back to change and I decided I did indeed want to buy it & thought because I had found it, I had \"dibs\" on it. He insisted that I basically forfeited it to him by then. I ended up convincing him to let me buy it but he thinks I'm an ass.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "0PbWqwgHHI1aYFpKJSw6ATIKhF4iwBfk", "post_id": "a6v1ei", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Punched a girl for fighting my friend. I\u2019m male", "text": "Hi all. I just got out of a behavioral hospital after 6 days. Yesterday, in the gym, one of my friends was attacked by a girl who is probably 6-8 inches taller than her with no warning. She just walked up to her when she was distracted, pulled her hair, and just started smacking her. I ran up and tried to stop her from hitting my friend by punching her twice in the back before a tech intervened. After this, another fight broke out between different people and an autistic kid was sucker punched. This fight resulted in a concussion and bruising to my friend, and a split eyebrow and concussion to the autistic kid. Many techs told me I should never lay hands on a girl, but I consider my friend\u2019s business to be mine, especially when they are not trying to fight and cheapshotted. \n\nIf I need to clarify anything, please let me know. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 29, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O3UKo7w6FvoHZHJUlRn7hIcvCvA3ToEu", "post_id": "aw9hju", "action": {"description": "accidentally shooting my snow on a girl's face", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for accidentally shooting my snow on a girl's face?", "text": "This just happened like a hour ago, Throwaway Account. I don't know how to make a post either so my format might be bad.\n\nSome background info: \n\nI am an 8th grader about to graduate in a few months. So I don't take a stuff as seriously as I should. Also, my transportation to school from home, and back, is by a lady who picks a bunch of other kids up (including me.).\n\n​\n\nMe and my friend were having a snowball fight, it just snowed and its a Friday so it seemed like a good day. So we were having a snowball fight and I threw a mound of snow (like a handful instead of a ball.) at him. I didn't know that there was this girl behind her. Most of it hit him and stayed, but some of the chunks went over and hit her. She got ENRAGED and instantly started screaming at us. It wasn't even like big chunks of snow, just small bits that went onto her left cheek and her hair. I instantly started apologizing, saying it wasn't meant for her and that I have terrible aim. She still started screaming and told me she will report me to either school authorities, or to my parents. She told her mother and her mother, just wanted my mom's phone number, without even hearing my side of the story. I ended up giving her the number, and the mother said that I will suffer. I was kind of annoyed at my self for not having aim and I feel like I will be in trouble.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA or not reddit.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uNKDTW6jY8MbjV5JR1xYMCkT1c1ew9VO", "post_id": "ase75m", "action": {"description": "moving on after my girlfriend broke up with me", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for moving on after my girlfriend broke up with me?", "text": "My girlfriend (15F) broke up with me (15M) last week and I was pretty devastated. It happened like 5 days before our two month anniversary. Granted, our relationship wasn't like what it had been in the beginning but it happens and I thought it would get better but we had a school dance and she was kinda avoiding me so I noticed I didn't feel the same about her but I still wanted to maintain our relationship and I was certain it would get better.\n\nFast forward to last Monday. She broke up with me. I was extremely sad and a mutual friend (15F) noticed. She had just broken up with her bf the week before, but she still offered to come to my house and comfort me. At first I was hesitant but I thought that it would probably be better if I wasn't alone. So we walk the dog and go to my room and I discover that we have so much more in common than me and my ex-gf had. She gave me some kisses on my cheek but I didn't think much of it as she's a very outgoing and loving person. \n\nI bring her home and when we say goodbye I try to kiss her on the cheek but she does the same so we end up in an accidental lip situation but it only lasted for like half a millisecond. That was when I realized she was so much better for me and I kinda had a crush on her. I wasn't over my ex yet, of course, but it dit happen.\n\nFast forward to Thursday and we're hanging out again. We get to my room and 5 minutes after getting there we started making out. It all happened extremely fast but it did feel right. We both confessed our love to eachother and such and it was awesome.\n\nThe next day after school I was hanging out with some friends in the city and they said they suspected me being with the new girl. We promised not to tell anyone but we both couldn't hold it in and I made my friends promise not to tell anyone. They said other friends caught onto it too, so almost our entire friend group kind of knew. \n\nHere comes where I fucked up: I decided to tell my ex. I still don't know why I did it. A friend recommended doing it, and I was afraid my ex would hear from someone else, but I still shouldn't have done it.\n\nNow my ex is mad at me for being over her so quickly and getting with a new girl. She said I am crazy for loving someone else so fast and all that jazz. They are pretty close friends though, which isn't great. But my ex says I am a dick for moving on so quickly and that there is a minimum amount of days between relationships and some more stuff I felt was really weird. She is also saying her and the other girl can't be friends if she goes for me, which really hurts.\n\nSo, AITA here? Is it possible to get into a new relationship so quickly?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tf2L32zWri4RjWL3igFQDE1zQiA6Emjz", "post_id": "ay6zrw", "action": {"description": "blowing off my date on Valentine's day", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Blowing Off My Date On Valentine's Day?", "text": "Now I know the title sounds bad, and it might be, but that's why I'm here.\n\nSo I already posted this story on r/CasualConversation about a month ago, but it was removed. I'll just give you the shortened version of that story.\n\nI'm 25M and I got out of a very abusive relationship a little over a year ago which left me pretty broken (more so than I already was). When I say broken, I mean that I have very very low self esteem, depression, and can overall feeling of worthlessness and that I don't deserve anything, and I've only recently started to attempt to put my life back together. This information is important only because it's why I acted the way I did.\n\nI work in IT and I had fixed a coworker's laptop. This coworker is female and is also very very attractive. After I fixed her computer, I thought that would be the end of our interactions. However I ended up seeing her again a bit later when I tried actually eating in the cafeteria/break room. She saw me and then sat down to talk to me. She was different because unlike most people, she didn't seem to show any contempt for me, which I found strange. I didn't think much of it until the next day when I just decided to eat at my desk and she actually found me and talked to me again. It was revealed that neither one of us had Valentine'a Day plans ( It was February 13th and Valentine's Day was the very next day.) and she asked me to go out with her on Valentine's Day.\n\nI was very very nervous for this since I had not been on a date in forever and thought I would screw everything up. The day comes and I go to my little apartment to get ready for the date. I buy her some flowers and try to look presentable and I soon go to the restaurant. The line was right next to the bar and I could see the main dining area. While in line, I saw her already sitting there and I swear my heart stopped. She was so so beautiful and she almost appeared to be glowing. My anxiety shot through the roof and my only thought was \"she deserves so much better\". So what I did was I stepped out of line and looked around the bar. I found a pretty good looking guy who for some reason, was there by himself and I gave him the flowers and my card and told him to have dinner with her that night, which he did. Once he checked in, I left the restaurant and went home and just curled up on my floor (I live in a very small studio and own no furniture)\n\nThe next day, I see her and she appears to be happy. During lunch, I actually approached her and apologized for my absence and told her the 15 second version of what you just read. She invited me to eat with her and we talked and talked. A couple days later, I asked her out to dinner and she said yes. We had a nice time and then caught a movie and we even had our first kiss that night. We're still seeing each other almost a month later, but I can't shake the guilt of blowing her off on Valentine's Day and I still feel like I don't deserve to be with the beautiful and amazing woman that she is.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NrmbNzxaFPXAMtUGYF5FjSirDbAuoZB5", "post_id": "aitq5l", "action": {"description": "hooking up with a drunk person", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for hooking up with a drunk person?", "text": "Long story short, I was at a party during which I had consumed a good amount of alcohol and was inebriated - not fall-down or blackout drunk, but certainly not capable of safely driving a car. At some point late in the night there was a lot of mutual flirting between me and a girl (\"Jane\") that I knew but was not quite *friends* with; she's a friend of a friend (\"Sadie\"). I could tell while speaking to her that she was about as drunk as I was, and so somehow I didn't think it inappropriate for us to go back to my place and hook up. \n\nShe spent the night, but was up and out before I woke up. I remembered every detail (at least I think I do) but was still a bit surprised at what happened. \n\nWithin a couple hours I'd gotten an angry text from Sadie, calling me a scumbag for taking her friend home when she was in that state. I immediately felt bad (and still do to an extent) and texted Jane to ask if I had done anything wrong or made her uncomfortable. She said I hadn't, but echoed Sadie's feeling that it was irresponsible and that she felt taken advantage of somewhat. And that's the latest interaction we've had. \n\nAs I said, it's upsetting that she feels that way... but I also can't *quite* get myself to think that I was actually in the wrong. I read the signals, we talked a lot, she never seemed anything less than interested. I admit that it's very possible that a misunderstanding could have taken place, given the state we were both in. But the fault - if any - isn't obvious to me. \n\nMeanwhile my roommate says I should not be at all surprised to get a summons over the matter, or if the situation escalates (we're in college, yeah). I think that seems extreme, but I'm biased. Was/am I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "KBb9LGHIP2ibXDRssjm5jQEcGNnSxwYV", "post_id": "b6dyi7", "action": {"description": "telling my friend he is a hypocrite for his actions", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I told my friend he is a hypocrite for his actions?", "text": "TLDR at bottom\n\nI started at a private Catholic boys high school this year and right off the bat I met this kid. He seemed pretty cool at first and we started to get closer. He was very clearly gay from when you talked to him( not being homophobic, that\u2019s just the vibe he gave off). So naturally being around a bunch of rich douches, some started making homophobic jokes about him. He took this very hard and was a mess for days and his grades dropped. He comes back with a no fucks given attitude and proceeds to be an absolute asshole. I\u2019m talking being a dick to teachers, pushing/slapping kids for no real reason and calling innocent kids the same slurs used against him. I want to call him out on this but I feel there is no way to do it without being rude and mean to him. He clearly doesn\u2019t take confrontation well but is very comfortable being a confronter. I don\u2019t want to let him do this to anyone else but I don\u2019t want to mess him up again because he is still trying to recover his grades from when he was gone for like 4 days (it\u2019s a very academically rigorous school). WIBTA if I confronted him?\n\n\nTLDR: Gay friend bullied, misses a few days of school, returns and proceeds to physically and verbally abuse kids with the same slurs used against him", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IhUdBZVANgVZOy0OpN3j2C0cv482u2av", "post_id": "b4neju", "action": {"description": "not talking after finding out about pregnancy", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not talking after finding out about pregnancy", "text": "I'm on mobile so bare with me, and I also just suck at English.\n\nJust recently found out I'm pregnant after going through a nasty break up with my BD. I'm not sure who the daddy is of this little one, and this was unexpected to say the least. Anywho, after finding this out, contemplating my options, me and my ex are trying to work things out.\n\nWell, I wasn't exactly feeling up to discussion with my family, wasn't looking at my phone, was focusing on working things out with him. My sister, who has had a bad abusive past relationship, freaked out and decided that \"if I don't respond by 1:30 she'll drive to baby daddies house herself!\" So of course I responded and said I just didn't feel like talking, and she freaked out saying it was inconsiderate of me to not respond and to make them worry.\n\nShe made accusations of BD taking my phone and stuff like that, which wasn't true at all. After she dropped a few f-bombs, I got snappy back and told her to stop being crappy and she freaked out and basically told me I treat my family like shit and she's never going to help me again etc. And dropped out of my life.\n\nThis is event happening in my life, and I just needed some time to get my thoughts straight. Did I over react? Was I the A?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8zDdjJPOYRp5MXrlIRrcXXlsxxQainN8", "post_id": "9ysk9i", "action": {"description": "not staying up with my gf", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For not staying up with my gf?", "text": "My long distance girlfriend is planning on driving up to see me and her family for thanksgiving, which is an 8-10 hour drive for her. She also works second shift at her job (3:00 PM -11:30 PM) while I\u2019m on a more typical 8:30 AM - 5:00 PM. So she had planned on staying up until late last night so she wakes up late enough to leave today (November 20th) after her shift ends. \nOur typical routine is that I\u2019ll stay up until she gets out of work and we\u2019ll call/FaceTime so we can talk, which usually lasts until 12:00 AM or occasionally later than 12:30 AM. I wake up at 7:30 so I can get ready for work, so I\u2019m I\u2019m not getting an ideal amount of sleep but it\u2019s kind of the only time we can actually talk instead of just text so I deal with it. \nWhen she called last night she lead off with asking when I planned on going to sleep, so I hesitantly said 12, which she said was fine and I should be assertive about it but also said she was disappointed because she had to stay up and would\u2019ve liked to me to stay up with her to keep her company. \nWe talk until a little after 12 and she asks if I\u2019m going to be going to bed and I say yes, which I probably wouldn\u2019t have brought up for a little while if she hadn\u2019t done it first (which is usually how our conversations end up going later than 12). She\u2019s clearly upset by this but remembering that she has told me to be more assertive (more than just earlier, it\u2019s a thing I need to work on) I tell her I love her, which she responds \u201cwhatever\u201d, and after some silence I say goodnight, with the same response, and hang up and go to sleep after another pause. \nAITA for going to sleep and not staying up with her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DqJqUm7X6FrsS8GDoLHCGTew8Bt90Rj1", "post_id": "akdqib", "action": {"description": "getting angry at the girl I'm talking to because she doesn't want to send pictures without filter", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for getting angry at the girl I\u2019m talking to because she doesn\u2019t want to send pictures without filter?", "text": "(Sorry if I make mistakes on beforehand because English isn\u2019t my first language.)\n\n\nTo give a little context, I met this girl on summer vacation and we hit it of pretty good. We have been talking since then but because of some personal issues we can\u2019t see each other so the only way I can see her is through pictures. We always talk via Snapchat and when I ask her to send some pictures without filters she doesn\u2019t want to do it because she says she is insecure, I keep telling her that she is beautiful and it would make me really happy if she would send me one, but she never does and says if you want a girl who sends you pictures without filter all the time look for someone else. AITA for getting angry at her after we have been talking for almost 8 months and she still doesn\u2019t want to?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kVybYaKrLNHpCRbHRbgp6IkPukDGvWku", "post_id": "aytobb", "action": {"description": "asking my boyfriend to take me out to dinner a month after my birthday", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA if I asked my boyfriend to take me out to dinner a month after my birthday?", "text": "I know the title is weird but it's under reasonable circumstances.\n\nMy birthday was in early February and we both worked on the day of (Monday), so he made very nice dinner reservations for the weekend. 2 days after my birthday, he got the call that his grandma was dying so we had to leave immediately the next day. I stayed a week (he stayed two) while she spent the last few days with her family, she died peacefully surrounded by family.\n\nIt's been understandably rough for him, and I've done all I can to be there for him in this time of grieving. A month has passed and he is doing a lot better, seemingly back to normal from what I can tell (of course I don't know how he's feeling inside, and I'm not prying). I don't doubt that he's still hurting and I don't want to stress him out over anything.\n\nSo, which brings me to the question, WIBTA if I asked to re-make the reservation to go to dinner? He told me when we cancelled our plans that he would take me out when we got back. I don't want to be insensitive or rude, but he hasn't brought it at all and I kind of would like to. I want to clarify that I'm not angry or upset about it, I completely understand that it's just not at the to of his priorities, but I would still like to go. Would this make me an asshole?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x5VA3nljXKGiBOosVKJuGedrfOZwpgeV", "post_id": "auwy4b", "action": {"description": "asking my husband to shave his beard because everyone thinks it looks funny", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for asking my husband to shave his beard because everyone thinks it looks funny.", "text": "My husband of 8 years just decided to grow out his beard and try something new.\n\nHonestly, he looks so funny. All of our friends and family agree with me. The other day day I asked him to shave and told him to quit growing it because it looks funny. He was angry and told me that if he asked me to do something with my body I'd call him sexist (Like what?). \n\nI just didn't want anyone to make fun of him. Why is he so mad? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "VftAL0sdtHm3fqr52ZigGqcegvPjcfN8", "post_id": "aq3arn", "action": {"description": "taking my car back that I was letting my mom borrow", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for taking my car back that I was letting my mom borrow.", "text": "My job allows me to take a car home and I pay 200$ a month to do this. My wife drives an older car that we have and I drive the car from work. I have a car that wasn\u2019t being used and about a year and a half ago I let my mom take the car and start paying me for it because she doesn\u2019t have the credit to get her own car. She stopped paying me the insurance portion of the car payment because it was too much probably 6 months ago but she pays me the car note. \n\nJust recently I let her know that I am potentially getting a new job and will not be able to take a work car home so I will need the car back. She lost her shit and states that I gave her the car and she was paying it off through me. I told her she can keep it if she wants to get a loan for the remaining balance left on it. She cannot do this due to bad credit. I don\u2019t think this is my problem. \n\nSidenote: my parents do not work, both on disability and have a car that works, and two that need some work done to get running. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4R8r1H7eD2zkB0mfqEiKDPf8lOYuu3kv", "post_id": "ay1f78", "action": {"description": "cutting ties with a very close friend for confiding in me", "pronormative_score": 60, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for cutting ties with a very close friend for confiding in me?", "text": "I had a very close friend for 6 years, where we would see each other regularly, do activities, have dinners and get-togethers, and leaned on each other for support. Several months ago, he asked me if he could tell me something very personal, and that I would promise to not tell anyone else. I said yes. \n\nHe told me that he is being accused of sexually molesting his nephew many years ago as a child. Now his nephew (who is an adult) is threatening to go public with it. But because he is very close to his sister (his nephew's mom), his nephew will wait until his mother dies to go public. He was very upset that he would lose everything and we didn't talk about this for a few months. \n\nMy ex-friend has always been a very openly sexual person, but I never thought it would be possible for him to actually do this. But there was always this nagging voice in the back of my head that he may have. One day at dinner I asked him point blank to look me in the eye and tell me he did not do this. \n\nHe looked me in the eye and said \"it's complicated\". I felt a burning sensation in the depth of my stomach. We didn't talk for a month or two. In that time, my wife gave birth to our first kid. He came over to say hi and wanted to take pictures with the baby. I told him not to. \n\nAfter a few more months, I told him that we can no longer hang out. I also told him that I needed to tell my wife. He tried to convince me not to, but I didn't want to lie to my wife anymore on why we are not seeing our friend. \n\nAITA? Should I have been more of a friend to him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 60, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 5}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 60, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QQuFLmnV4ae8yRJ4R0scw2xPiXzWdO4R", "post_id": "9xburf", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Girlfriend thinks I'm not supportive enough on calls", "text": "Recently my girlfriend has been going through some pretty difficult things with her friends and family (so I'm pretty much the only person she goes to for support) and she claims I am not supportive enough on our phone calls. She says I don't talk and that I don't even try to offer her support.\n\nNow if this were to happen a lot obviously I'd be the asshole, but my girlfriend calls me an average of 2-3 times a day, most of the time the calls are very long and in the end I usually manage to make her feel better, but sometimes it feels as if I don't even have time to breathe before she calls me and therefore I'm not as attentive as I am other times. \n\nToday she asked me if she's a burden. I told her that sometimes under certain circumstances where I'm very busy or have something really urgent to do it does feel like a burden when she calls, because that's how I honestly feel.\n\n I told her I always try to do my best even if I'm tired because I love her, but she says that I shouldn't even pick up if I'm not ready to be there for her and be very attentive and supportive.\n\nNot one time when she called have I judged her or not at least tried to be supportive, even though I'm starting to think her problems with others stem from her.\n\nShe says I'm not helping her while I feel underappreciated because I always try to do my best.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5X0nE20BUPCMCEw1fo3DvSrXkUfnFwhA", "post_id": "a5k57m", "action": {"description": "sending my friends a surprise gay sex joke video", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for sending my friends a surprise gay sex joke video", "text": "Long time lurker first time poster.\n\nMy friends and I have a WhatsApp group as we\u2019re spread around the country and use it as a convenient way to keep up with each other and general banter. In practice it amounts to sharing music, cheap jokes and idle chit chat\n\nThis fine afternoon, I received a \u201cprank joke video\u201d from a colleague with a misleading headline and seemingly innocent screen image. One of those videos that starts off normal enough and then, WHAM!, two old guys having at it with some good old fashion up close, cock up the bum action. Not exactly safe for work, shocking and for the most part, not exactly what you want to watch on your average day. Cheap chuckle. Flash my colleague on the other side of the office the stink eye and without thinking I forward the video to my friend WhatsApp group with the same misleading headline. \n\nWell! That was a mistake and all hell broke loose. Very long story short. Accusations of being anti-gay, denigrating homosexuals, lacking any kind empathy, being \u201cpsycho\u201d and an immature dickhead (definitely immature). This got to the point where one friend threatened to never see me again. I definitely fanned the flames at first, trolled my friends and played devil\u2019s advocate but realized quickly they were serious and perhaps some of the tongue in cheek comments were lost in text. I leveled with them and things sorta cooled off but with the demand to never make any such \u201cjoke\u201d ever again.\n\nDespite all that, I\u2019ll grant that it\u2019s low brow humor, immature and ultimately disrespectful to someone who is LGBTQ. \n\nBut at the same token, there was no intent to disrespect, it\u2019s a dark humor riff (but barely), there should be no sacred cows in \u201ccomedy\u201d (though you should know your audience - my bad), and the reaction was way out of proportion to the minor slight.  For context, it\u2019s four straight guys - all fairly liberal and got no problems LGBTQ (including myself).\n\nAre my friends overly sensitive or AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "04zwimCOexBUaMYwgoT6Azv0k5h2Fy4L", "post_id": "am558m", "action": {"description": "telling my sister she shouldn't expect our mom to provide full-time babysitting", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for telling my sister she shouldn't expect our mom to provide full-time babysitting?", "text": "My sister gave birth to my niece about 9 months ago and since she's returned to work, my mom's been traveling an hour each way to her apartment to watch her granddaughter all day. They've negotiated the schedule down from 5 days a week to 3 days (my sister works from home one day and her husband another day). I'm due to give birth to my first-born next month and besides the initial few weeks of help, I don't (and would never) expect my mom to watch my baby for me for so long. Granted, I work more freelance from home and my sister works in a corporate office so that's more doable for me. However, my sister and brother-in-law are extremely comfortable financially and can easily afford daycare. They've been contemplating the idea but lagging on actually researching ones in their neighborhood. \n\nIn our last conversation, tensions rose when I told her directly that even if I didn't need our mom's help long-term, she should still enroll her daughter in daycare to spare our 70-year old mom from the trip and responsibility of childcare. Any new parent knows how exhausting it is to watch a baby an entire day alone so to expect free childcare from a grandparent seems selfish and cruel. I also think my mom's put in her time in raising my sister and I and should be enjoying her retirement now, not spending a 2-hour commute to another \"job.\" Maybe I would feel softer on the idea if they were in the same house OR if my sister was actually dropping my niece off and picking her up, but neither of those is the case. My sister made it clear that she would prefer my mom watch her daughter than put her in daycare. She also clearly didn't appreciate my thoughts and said pointedly that that decision was between her and our mom. I said childcare decisions should be between her and her husband, as my mom would never say no to anything they needed (even if it exhausts her). My husband thinks I may have overstepped my bounds as I can't make anyone do anything, just share my opinion. But this is my mom too! AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OdTY7eSWUxsIiFaHH0lRjK0NaAkK6ybl", "post_id": "a6tuar", "action": {"description": "thinking this", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for thinking this?", "text": "My bf of 7 years just told me he was going to move out with 2 other guys from work. Let me describe the situation. \nAbout 3 years ago he moved in with my parents and my sister and I to save money and because his parents were being weird about money. Since then he developed a new past-time of smoking weed, which he started when one of the coworkers he\u2019s moving out with introduced him. \nMy bf has always been one for change and trying new things. He also had told me before that he wanted to move out even if it wasn\u2019t with me and that he\u2019d find a new girlfriend and that I\u2019d have to deal with it since I don\u2019t make as much as him and will be starting my medical program soon. \nAITA for thinking that he\u2019s doing this to move on with his life and that he in turn ITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RE2AWUGswmFBFarEu0ifR6VypAwFMAVU", "post_id": "amlajf", "action": {"description": "telling my gf that my aunt tried hooking me up with her friend's daughter", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my GF that my aunt tried hooking me up with her friend's daughter?", "text": "My aunt texted me \\[25M\\] a picture of her friend's daughters and asked me what do you think, I told my aunt no thank you, I already have a GF. I have an LDR GF \\[24F\\] and my aunt never met her and probably still assumed I was still single. Told my GF about it and she threw a fit saying that she'd never be good enough for my family and broke up with me.\n\n​\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XXOSgBCFrwC1qIPG2PTtE5KCRjqCdeKW", "post_id": "b6m55v", "action": {"description": "\"touching my roommates belongings\"", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \"touching my roommates belongings\"?", "text": "So, for a bit of backstory, I'm a university student who is currently living on an on-campus apartment with a roommate I had not previously met before moving in. Everything was going fine the first semester, although there was a slight (but tolerable) odor coming from somewhere in the room.\n\nFast forward to this semester, and I noticed the smell was getting stronger, and i realized that it smelled especially bad after she showered. It seemed like the smell was coming from her towel, and it then clicked- everytime she would leave the dorm on the weekends (I always stayed), she would bring her laundry bag with her, but her towel was never included. Even over winter break, the towel was just hanging, folded up on a hanger by the rest of her clothes.\n\nAfter a few weeks of trying to deal with the smell, I decided I should just let her know. I said something along the lines of \"Hey, can I talk to you for a sec? Lately, I've noticed a smell in the room, and I think it might be coming from your towel...\"  She didn't take it well; she got very defensive and said she didn't smell-- even though i never said she smelled, just that it might be her towel.\n\nSince then, she's been completely silent with me, as well as being very petty/passive aggressive--slamming the doors/coming in the room just to turn on the light and leave while I'm asleep (she knows I'm a very light sleeper). \n\nAnd then today--I woke up this morning and saw her portable heater on in the room, but she was not there. There have been several occasions where she's turned on the heater and just left the apartment, so I decided to turn it off. Turns out she was just in the bathroom, and when she came back to the room, she was angry and said \"please don't touch my belongings.\" I said \"okay, but you turned it on and then left, and it was starting to smell kinda smoky\" (not like burning, but like an overheated-plastic kinda smell). This turned into an argument between the two of us, where she repeatedly said \"I don't touch your belongings, so don't touch mine\" and eventually lead to her calling several people to complain about me, and even called the campus police, saying i was touching her belongings (although avoiding saying what \"belongings\" it was that I touched). I did not wait for the campus police as I had class, and didn't want to stay in the same room as the roommate who had just previously called someone (before the cops) to tell them that she wanted to choke me--while I was still in the room--because I was \"pushing her too far.\" \n\nSo, am I the crazy one here? AITA for turning off her heater? Or for telling her that the room smelled bad?\n\n(Also, first time reddit poster!-- and on I'm on mobile, so I had some issues and you might noticed I submitted/deleted this several times..)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gCNsV4YruAuIbsQnkvyObtEOSkDxN4P7", "post_id": "akn3i0", "action": {"description": "wanting to go on vacation instead of helping my sister with her infant", "pronormative_score": 793, "contranormative_score": 20}, "title": "AITA for wanting to go on vacation instead of helping my sister with her infant?", "text": "My older sister is going through a messy divorce and she's pregnant. I am graduating college in April and my friends and I are planning to travel from May - August to Europe, East Asia and SEA. We've been making plans for months and discussed the itinerary many times. My sister wants me to cancel the vacation and come stay with her to help with her infant. She's giving birth in April. I told her that I don't want to miss out on this opportunity to travel. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. I do not think I will get the chance to travel for an extended period of time with my friends ever again. Unless we're all retired 60 year olds. She called me selfish. But she had the chance to travel after university with her friends too. I think she's being unfair in trying to deny me this opportunity that she had.\n\n\nBoth our parents are coming over to help her during the first few months. The father of the child is also committed to helping financially. She argued that both our parents are elderly and would not be of much help. But I don't feel like that's my problem to solve. I've been looking at some affordable domestic workers/hired help to do the household chores so that she can focus on the baby but she shot that suggestion down because she doesn't want to pay extra for outside help. She would rather make me miserable for free. I arranged the baby shower that she complained was too small. I know she's family. It's duty. I don't want my future nephew to suffer. Etc. But I do want to go on this full vacation.\n\nSo AITA for choosing to go on a vacation instead of staying behind to help her with her infant? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 15, "OTHER": 777, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 16, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 793, "WRONG": 20}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "j0osJLfYJC4XjQ9lL2O3MM12xnYgoyKj", "post_id": "9w573q", "action": null, "title": "WIBTA got telling my friend to lay back on the relationship posts", "text": "So my[16/M] friend [16/M] has been posting a shit ton of his girlfriend. They\u2019ve been dating for over a year, and I\u2019m really happy for him. It\u2019s not their relationship that I have issue with, nor is it the fact that he posts about it. My problem is like the quantity of posts. Every single day there\u2019s a \u201cShe\u2019s the love of my life\u201d post of her, or a \u201cabsolute perfection\u201d kind of stories/ posts on IG and SnapChat. Look, you want to post about your one year anniversary, or like spending a holiday together or something, I\u2019m all for you, more power to you, but Jesus, it\u2019s happening every day, to the point where he doesn\u2019t even post about anything else. It\u2019s not that I feel jealous about him being in a relationship or anything, it just feels like almost kinda like showing off, or trying to compensate for something. I know I don\u2019t have a say in their relationship, and I don\u2019t, I just was wondering if I\u2019d be an asshole for just talking with him as a friend, and just nicely telling him to maybe to slow down a bit on those posts. So WIBTA for doing that?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7q2r44hFHyDKQLBKQlvlBzHIbqmQZrgA", "post_id": "b2gkg2", "action": {"description": "not always wanting to split the bill when it's always in my disadvantage", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not always wanting to split the bill when it's always in my disadvantage?", "text": "Every once in a while I meet up with a group of people I met online, some of them I can actually call my friends by now and sometimes I meet new people. We do some type of activity together, like an escape room, and we have drinks and go out to dinner somewhere.\n\n​\n\nI'm not a big eater. I usually only have a main dish and one drink and perhaps tea as a dessert. But, as we're a big group, we usually just split the bill evenly so avoid discrepancies. But this means I sometimes pay 6 to 10 euros more than what I actually had. And I don't want to be a bitch about it, especially in front of people I haven't met before. I have a good job and everything, I can afford it, but this just pisses me off after a few times and I mention that I didn't have dessert or any side dishes and only one or maybe two drinks, no cocktails or beers. And everyone is like 'don't be a baby about it'. But man, this happens every time.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole for being annoyed?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uo3h7TT311Yrws2w4FdIWglIxgUSqPsh", "post_id": "aoou1f", "action": {"description": "making a joke to a girl when she may have been upset", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making a joke to a girl when she may have been upset.", "text": "So, quick backstory. I suspect this girl has always kind of disliked me I don\u2019t really know why, maybe she finds me annoying? What will happen is that I ask her the most mundane questions and she kind of snaps at me.  i.e. \n\nme: have you watched xxx show\nHer: *angrily* No\n\nMe: *walks up to talk to a friend she\u2019s talking to* Hey (friend\u2019s name) \nHer: Uhm can you please not interrupt me when I\u2019m speaking (this one is kind of on me for interrupting her, but she didn\u2019t have to snap at me, and I didn\u2019t even know she was talking because she was so quiet.)\nMe: sorry *walks away*\n\nSo what happened this time was she was talking to the same friend again and my friend was kind of giving her a pep talk for the musical she was about to do saying stuff like \u201cyou\u2019ll do great\u201d and \u201cyou\u2019re so amazing\u201d she then turns to my friend and says \u201ck thanks. So as a joke I said \u201cwow you just K\u2019d her\u201d and she turns to me and says, \u201cMind your own business.\u201d Now this didn\u2019t really bother me as I\u2019m used to her saying things like that, but then my friend turned and looked at me and said \u201c(my name) chill out.\u201d And I don\u2019t know what it was, but the way she said it made me feel really bad. So what I want to know is did making that joke make the the bad guy? Was I annoying? She may have also been upset about something and that\u2019s why she was getting the pep talk, but she didn\u2019t look upset, but if she was I know that instantly makes me the asshole. Thanks\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XYiNp1EQUrPjt91HmvV6jBrTTZAQpRpb", "post_id": "az5zfz", "action": {"description": "pointing out her relationship with her brother is weird", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for pointing out her relationship with her brother is weird?", "text": "I\u2019ve been dating a girl for around 4 months.  She\u2019s great.  There\u2019s just one thing that is a hiccup for me.  She has a really strange relationship with her brother.  \n\nThey\u2019re super touchy-feely with each other.  Like over the top.  They cuddle.  Also they have no bathroom boundaries with each other.  She\u2019s told me that she has go in the use the bathroom while he was in the shower.  She didn\u2019t see what the problem was.  \n\nIt just creeps me out and her and I had a conversation about it last night.  She thinks I\u2019m an asshole for even pointing out that it\u2019s weird and not right.   That it\u2019s her family and I\u2019m the one making it dirty. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "saE9dB6d9KtSlLWxPV7Mes3JCULGI7xy", "post_id": "aa5b5x", "action": {"description": "getting sick", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting sick?", "text": "So my boyfriend gets 2 weeks off from work over Christmas/New Years. I got a pretty bad cold and sinus infection like the first day his break started. We had planning to do hiking and going out since it\u2019s hard to find time with his work schedule. Now he\u2019s blaming me for ruining his break. Am I the asshole for getting sick and not wanting to do things? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qJYqYQwANYMf1GRP1VNR1B7n4sZjbxgL", "post_id": "a8rr9o", "action": {"description": "pretending to enjoy Christmas, then leave after all the gifts are open", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "WIBTA if I pretend to enjoy Christmas, then leave after all the gifts are open?", "text": "Christmas at my house is a complete fucking joke, I don't even know why we still do it.\n\n All of us know it's just commercialized bullshit and none of us believe in the real meaning of Christmas.\n\n (We aren't religious, have never been and have never went to church) \n\nit's dec 22 and our fake tree isn't even up yet.\n\n There is no extended family that attends, only the people who live in the house, and we can't all afford to get each other gifts...\n\n my mom just uses my dad's money to buy a few small things for everyone and labels them as if they came from each of us, so that everyone believes they got one thing from each person.\n\nWe all know she does this by this point, it's no secret anymore, everyone knows who bought the gifts regardless of who the tag \"says\" bought it.\n\nI didn't ask for any gifts. I don't any gifts.\n\nI don't care what I get.\n\n I won't be getting anyone else a gift either because I can't afford to.\n\n I'm not going to make them gifts either, I suck at making gifts, no one wants a fucking macaroni sculpture with glitter glued on it as a gift. \n\nI refuse to feel guilty because I can't afford to buy good useful gifts for people and I'm sick of people putting my name on a gift I didn't even buy, and having the recipient say \"thanks\" to me after they open it.\n\nAfter we open gifts, they sit around and bullshit for a few hours and pretend they all loved the gifts, and thank one another...\n\nBy this point I'm finished pretending, I don't want to sit around chatting and acting happy around people that are just so full of shit in the first place.\n\nI used to get a little tipsy during family Christmas to take the edge off, and I'd participate and try to stay out of everyones way, but everyone acts like it's such a huge fucking deal that I'm drinking on Christmas.\n\nThey make me out to be some belligerent asshole and they all agree Christmas wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't for me being there.\n\nIf I go hide in my room they all say is, I ruined Christmas by being \"anti social\" ...\n\nIt's been this way every year for a long time now.\n\nI can't win.\n\nNo matter what Christmas doesn't go well at my house, so this year I want to say FUCK IT...\n\nI'll open my gifts, blah,blah,blah... and then leave, to let them enjoy their fake ass holiday get-together by their fake ass selves. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "60KBoCBa0cmN9y0JDo64EK3PNQxs3UiD", "post_id": "ajgkxe", "action": {"description": "blocking the seat beside me on ttc", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for blocking the seat beside me on TTC", "text": "Okay so typically I\u2019d put my backpack beside me so I can just listen to music and sit by myself. I don\u2019t do this on full busses or if no other seats are available, I just kinda feel bad for it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qwMrDFYsevly58JlLrS44K8MaUPDuwFq", "post_id": "b9j1fe", "action": {"description": "wanting to change registers", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to change registers?", "text": "First post on mobile, sorry for formatting;\nI am a cashier at a big box hardware store with 3 checkout locations (SCO- self checkout, PRO- customer loading area, and GARDEN- outdoor garden). I have an anxiety disorder which makes me go into crying fits when too overwhelmed, and this is a thing all of my coworkers know. I told my interviewer about them, told my direct supervisor about them, told all the cashiers i work with about them. I don't get them often and I'm very vocal about when I feel one coming along and if I need someone to cover me while I ride the attack out in a back office. Most of the time when i have an attack at work i call out the next day due to exaustion and the risk of triggering another anxiety attack, but came in today because i knew no one could cover my shift.\n\nSCO is a major stressor for my anxiety because our checkouts are designed for small items and small purchases, which is the opposite of what most customers have. These are shit machines and I cover all 4 of them. With our busy season starting, I get left alone during rush times and can't rely on getting any backup since, you know, it's rush time. PRO, on the other hand, is relatively slow and is a normal register so it's made for larger purchases. There is a lot of down time between customers so busy work can get done.\n\nI had an attack yesterday at work. It was bad enough I got sent home early despite not having another cashier to cover me. I'm still exhausted and my supervisor, let's call him E, from yesterday was surprised to see me come in (because I usually call out). I told E it shouldn't be too bad today as long as i could get away from SCO, and he told me i was free to switch as long as I got the PRO cashier to agree to switch.\n\nPRO cashier is this girl I'll call N. N has autism and doesn't like how hands on SCO is and does not like interacting with customers (she will ignore and avoid them). I asked her if she would switch and i told her about the anxiety attack, and she said no. Specifically, she did that wince and sucking in air thing before saying \"I don't really like self checkout, and im scheduled down here all day...\" I know a no when i see one and I say okay and go back to SCO. Obviously it's not that okay.\n\nThis really upsets me because I've had anxiety attacks around her before and she was nice to me then, and I've switched registers with her before because i knew she didn't like SCO. In the last 4 hours at SCO, I've had to walk away three times to keep myself from having another anxiety attack, and seeing her do nothing down at PRO makes me incredibly mad. I managed to trade with the garden cashier so I'm finally able to calm down, and now I feel guilty for being upset with N for not switching.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VirFMQkumv3mdXpo1EmWMpbReQz7VC2O", "post_id": "b968np", "action": {"description": "going into my friends room and discovering he his hording problem", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for going into my friends room and discovering he his hording problem.", "text": "About 6 months ago I was living in another country and needed a place to crash for 4 days before I moved back home. My friend kindly offered his place. The night I moved in I picked up the keys from him at the pub and went straight over to his place. he didnt come with me because he spends every night at the pub. I let my self in, find the room and notice a strange smell. I followed it and went into his room. there was take away trash everywhere. it was about knee deep of mc Donald's bags, pizza boxes, all take away junk. there was yellow bottles of something on his bedside table. it was absolutley disgusting and the stench was foul.\n\nI went into the kitchen and there was mouldy pots with flies on them and beard trimmings all over the floor. \n\nNow I never mentioned anything to him because I shouldn't have gone in his room, I was leaving to go back to Australia so I didnt want to be like 'hey I know about this secret, you gotta deal with it. bye' \n\nalso the fact he spends very night at the pub and has this room full of trash makes me think there is something else going on.\n\nI dunno it's been playing on my mind. should have I said something and tried to help in the 4 days I was there, or was it better to say nothing? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Bk1P1NFRsZq13aaPLEqHeO6IhNJAHwzG", "post_id": "a8rlgn", "action": {"description": "not telling my coworker that his fiancee was cheating on him", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not telling my coworker that his fiancee was cheating on him?", "text": "It's quite a lengthy story, but I'll keep it short.\n\n​\n\nSo, my coworker (who we will call Nard), and another coworker (who we will call A), are (or were) engaged to marry. Another coworker (who we will call D), is having an affair with A. Nard, seemingly has no clue about this. At that point, the entire office knew, EXCEPT for Nard (how crazy is that?). At some point, my boss can't withstand this, and he tells Nard as they are outside.\n\n​\n\nAs soon as he comes in, he has a shocked look on his face, almost hurt. It was extremely awkward to tell him that we all knew the entire time. I'm afraid that they will take this to further measures than possible.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA for not telling my coworker that his fiancee was having an affair behind his back?\n\n​\n\n(P.s. D has multiple weapons around the office so I am worried for my life)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5IOHaFx0IePdQxnquCkYkwZgAutkJbdD", "post_id": "auqyyn", "action": {"description": "getting angry with my friend for leaking my nudes", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for getting angry with my friend for leaking my nudes", "text": "Long story TL;DR at the bottom. \nKinda in a rush so writing it really quickly.\n\nMy friend somehow catfished me and got me to send nudes to someone I thought was a girl.\n\nHe shows the whole school my nudes and I don\u2019t find out until the evening. When I found out I was with some friends and they got super angry at him and said if you want us to, we can beat him up.\n\nI said \u201cdo whatever you want\u201d, they did not touch him once but they came to his house and yelled at him a lot.\n\nHe got angry at me for \u201csending them at him\u201d and \u201che could have gotten hurt\u201d and his excuse was \u201cit was all just a joke and then someone overheard me talking about it and made me show the pic\u201d.\n\nAm I the asshole here? I can\u2019t be?\n\nTL;DR: My friend catfished my nudes and said that it is my fault that people are angry with him for it.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 23, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ln0YTZ9X2bkUUKxSuvNWqkwSNUZXrFxf", "post_id": "algp5o", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend that she could just go sleep outside in the cold when she complained about the noise from my fish tanks' filters preventing her from sleeping", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 43}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend that she could just go sleep outside in the cold when she complained about the noise from my fish tanks' filters preventing her from sleeping?", "text": "I have a dozen of planted freshwater aquaria in my place, some of them over 200 gallons of water, and most of them being in my basement which is where my bedroom also is. \n\nMy girlfriend slept over for the first time last night and she asked if I could turn off all the filters because they were preventing her from sleeping. I said no, there is no way I can do that because turning off the filters for an entire night could severely endanger or even kill the fish. \n\nWhen she kept complaining, I said that she could go sleep upstairs on the couch if it really bothered her. She said no that would be uncomfortable as hell and she wouldn't be able to sleep either. I got annoyed so I said, well, you can go sleep outside in the -20 Celsius degree weather. \n\nWe didn't speak of the whole night after that, in the morning she said that she had not been able to sleep at all. I replied that I had slept like a baby, as the previous day had been really exhausting (we went hiking all day).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 25, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 18, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 43}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "GPGwURVhuK2MPBcB8tT1isYDvxvSVxqC", "post_id": "a6uo0k", "action": {"description": "not attending nieces birthday party", "pronormative_score": 34, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not attending nieces birthday party", "text": "Backstory: my sis in law and I haven\u2019t always seen eye to eye. My niece, \u201cL\u201d was the only child in the family for a long time and she was the center of everyone\u2019s world. Cue me getting pregnant with my daughter \u201cB\u201d and having her 2 days before L turned 3. Christmas was the next week and they spent it with us. L was being a typical 3 year old - getting into stuff, whining, tantrums, etc. Sis in law told me that it was because she wasn\u2019t getting the  attention from me that she usually gets. She asked if I\u2019d take L on a day date, just the 2 of us because she was feeling jealous. I said no because I was recovering from a really traumatic labor and taking care of a newborn baby. Sis in law got mad, Christmas dinner fight, the whole shebang. Anyway, that was 4 years ago and it\u2019s the same thing, constantly. L is feeling jealous of my daughter, B. Sis in law doesn\u2019t think that L gets enough attention. \n\nBecause Bs birthday is so close to Christmas and we always had something going on, we never had a big birthday party for her. Just cake and a few balloons on her birthday. L has always had huge Pinterest inspired parties and I\u2019ve only missed one of them because my mom had to be admitted to the hospital the day of and I was the one who took her. Anyway, this year B turned 4 and wanted a party with all of her friends. I scheduled it for beginning of December so all of her friends could come and it didn\u2019t interfere with holiday stuff. Everything went great, B had a great time. Sis in law has decided against a birthday party this year for L because they\u2019re taking her out of town next month for a big celebration. \n\nYesterday was my daughters actual birthday and even though we already celebrated with a birthday party, I still wanted to make it special for her. We had a full day planned: breakfast at her favorite spot, movie, manicure then home to get ready for a Christmas party with some close friends at our house. Sis in law calls me. She\u2019s decided that L does need a birthday party and it\u2019s going to be that night (last night). I told her that we couldn\u2019t make it because (1) we had plans and (2) it\u2019s my daughters birthday, not hers and I don\u2019t think it\u2019s fair that my daughter has to share her special day.\n\nSis in law called me multiple times during our Christmas party, niece called multiple times and left messages, asking why we weren\u2019t there. I feel guilty now that I didn\u2019t even make an attempt to go but I\u2019m upset because I feel like my sis in law scheduled her party on my daughters birthday on purpose. \n\nAm I the asshole? I feel like an asshole. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 34, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oTcu5dwb2uIANADoZhoaYRAww4K13Lig", "post_id": "ayxn9a", "action": {"description": "being upset that I didn't have that much done for my birthday", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that I didn\u2019t have that much done for my birthday?", "text": "I know that the title sounds a bit selfish and whiny, but hopefully it isn\u2019t the case here.\n\nSo, for my birthday all we really did was order a pizza that arrived at 11:30 and watch a half-decent movie. Don\u2019t get me wrong, it was pretty nice, but for my older brother we basically reserved the entire day for him. He got a bunch of (fairly expensive) books and other stuff and then we spent two hours driving to another town to do some stuff  that he\u2019s mentioned wanting to try. I even was up late the night before trying to bake him a cake. It just kinda feels like everything was absolutely perfect for him, but no one really cared about me.\n\nI understand if I\u2019m just being whiny and annoying and stuff, but I feel like he kinda got the better end of the deal.\nI haven\u2019t brought this up with my family. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eJOexghS2zXFCFPS8vSLbkQctjUIERi9", "post_id": "9tobyo", "action": {"description": "not fixing my friends spare phone that they lent me", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for not fixing my friends spare phone that they lent me", "text": "So I broke my phone about 6 months ago, and my friend had a spare phone that they gave to me with the condition that if there current phone breaks, I need to return it to them. So I ended up breaking the new phone, and just bought a new one for myself because it was cheaper. So this past weekend, a mutual friend of ours lost her phone, and they both want me to pay to get the original phone fixed to give to the mutual friend. Am I the asshole for refusing? its the inside of the phone that is broke, not just the screen etc, so I will need to essentially buy our mutual friend a new phone", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2gLsI6ok4P3q3OpZ1mwyGxqHIN9Zj54C", "post_id": "b4wnqq", "action": {"description": "buying season tickets in this certain location", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for buying season tickets in this certain location?", "text": "Four of my friends have been season ticket holders for the local NFL team since 2013, and in 2014, they invited me to join the group. We've been going to every game since.\n\nPrior to the 2018 season, I got married. My wife, being a huge football fan, came to many of the games. I bought her cheap ticket in the stadium and we just stood in the back or I shared my seat with her.\u00a0\n\nDuring this off-season, she insisted that she join in on the season tickets so she could come to every game. Before purchasing her a season ticket right next to the group (we have 5 seats in row, so I was just going to buy the 6th), I asked the group if they minded if my wife joined in on the crew. One of the responses I received (mind you this was from the best man at my wedding) was that \"the only reason he buys these tickets is get some guy time in, and that every other day of the year he is with his wife and kids, sorry buddy\"\n\nAfter this response, I didn't push the subject. I went and started my own account and bought seats 6-7 in the same row. Now he is saying why did I bother asking if I was just going to ignore the responses anyways. I didn't ignore them, I left the group account and started my own account.\n\nAm I being an asshole here or is he being unreasonable?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "okPJhAF7rNaPYkDjoKftRt3JsQOVfVu2", "post_id": "a9v0dx", "action": {"description": "not wanting to buy my mother in law another new telly", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to buy my mother in law another new telly.", "text": "Mother in laws  telly broke and I  said I'd look at it as I bought it for her with my wife about 9 years ago. When I was collecting I was dropping big hints that it's prob not worth fixing and her 4 son's should come together before Xmas and get her a new one as I had bought her this broken one. \n\nIt's not fixable and by now every one including myself has bought her gifts, but she is telling my wife while we are waiting to hear about the repair of the tv  that I said from the start I'd sort her out either way. I've always denied this but now the wife is guilting  me into buying another new tv. What should I do? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E63GE9sk2nQNCtEfSYdtbpTI5j15QHwj", "post_id": "azfuis", "action": {"description": "wanting one day a week to myself", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For wanting one day a week to myself?", "text": "I work six days next week, meaning today is my only day off. I work around 10 hours a day and its physically demanding. Typically I'm so exhausted afterwards that I quite literally go to to the second I get home.\n\nSo last night I get home and my mother calls me and says.. \"Remember how we said we were going to have a family dinner once a month?\" And I reply with \"sure but why are you saying this all weirdly?\" The way she was asking it told me I wasnt going to like what she was about to say.\n\nSo she goes well were going to \"Janes\" house for the dinner. And I said well that's more than an hour away, and I work Monday and I would like to have a day to myself to relax and recuperate from my work week. Because in this instance they want me to ride with them, and I will absolutely be there all day.\n\nKeep in mind I had zero knowledge of this happening until last night, right when I got home after work  before the start of my day off. So they (my mother and her wife) proceed to guilt trip me by saying \"I'll be gone one day then you'll have plenty of time to yourself.\"\n\nWell guilt trips dont work on me and I'm used to my mother guilt tripping me, she has done it my entire life and I hate it. So I told her I'm not going because I worked my ass off all week and I deserve a day to myself. Promptly told them that they made me feel like a shitty person and that I was going to bed.\n\nSo a little context here is that no one listed here is blood family except for my mother. Her wife has two daughters similar in age to me. They got together when I was a sophomore in highschool and to be honest we have never acted like family. I feel like I tried to get closer to the younger sister who is the same age as me, at the very beginning.. But she wasnt very receptive to me and I gave up.\n\nNow all of a sudden they're wanting to act like family and to be honest I just want to go live my life without them. My mother is my family and that's it  I can spend time with her. And it doesn't need to involve everyone else, as well as my entire only day off.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rQTvE9aeziSr9XVhFPtiRJcwxPvdVIel", "post_id": "aqx83s", "action": {"description": "not seeing my mom for my birthday", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not seeing my mom for my birthday?", "text": "So I graduated high school last May, and I quickly moved out of the house. I felt as though I needed to grow up and there was too much going on at my moms house for me to be able to focus on work and going to school. So I celebrated with my mom, her boyfriend, and his kids the day before my birthday. Then yesterday (my birthday is on Valentine\u2019s Day) I went to work 8-5 had the night off from school, so I decided to celebrate just me and my girlfriend and treat her to a night out and celebrate my birthday with just her. So this morning on my way to work, my mom texted me this long paragraph about how on grateful I am and how she can\u2019t believe I didn\u2019t see her for my birthday and how I did the same thing at Christmas (at Christmas we celebrated before Christmas Day, so I went to a buddy\u2019s house). She doesn\u2019t try to plan anything with me so I am assume she doesn\u2019t want to do anything so I go hang out and do something. Am I the asshole in the situation or is she overreacting? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bC24cMDXM9jpBDwwKPvaYNLQzyAlzY2O", "post_id": "arc1xi", "action": {"description": "not wanting to give a coworker a ride", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to give a coworker a ride?", "text": "So I started in this new job and most of the people there are younger than me or around my age, there is this one guy who is the most annoying of the bunch and he asked if I can give him a ride on the way back, thing is I don\u2019t like giving rides to people and especially annoying ones, I like the quiet of driving alone. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mFy3Mo1SYGyWrvBcj1RGqtFNGN9gYtWB", "post_id": "aoj1yi", "action": {"description": "hanging out with a friend who's a girl", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for hanging out with a friend who\u2019s a girl?", "text": "Me (M20) and my girlfriend (F19) have been in a relationship for a little over 4 years now. We\u2019re both attending college about an hour train ride away from one another and make it a point to see each other at least 3 nights a week (Tuesday, Thursday, and Saturday or Sunday) and I always spend the night at her place because she has a cat to care for. \n\nLast Saturday I had made plans to compete in the Nintendo Super Smash Bros Online tournament, and not knowing how long it would take, decided to make plans with my girlfriend to see each other the following day to watch the Super Bowl at my place and then go back to her place after. The tournament ends earlier than I expected it to, and I check my phone to see a text from a friend of mine who\u2019s a girl. She wants to know if I\u2019d go with her to the grand opening of a Milkbar (really good ice cream) in the Harvard area. I say yes, swing by her dorm, and we take the train over together. I\u2019ll preface by saying this before any comments ask: I\u2019m not attracted to this girl, at all, but we have great conversations and I don\u2019t have very many other friends at college besides my suitemates. \n\nIt hasn\u2019t crossed my mind to tell my girlfriend where I\u2019m going or who I\u2019m with, as we\u2019re on the train we just send snaps of our faces back and forth. When we get to the Harvard stop I get a snap asking where I was, I respond that I\u2019m going to the Milkbar opening. She follows up asking if I\u2019m going \u201calone?\u201d I respond with a snap of me and my friend smiling. \n\nWe get in line for the opening and my girlfriend starts sending snap after snap, berating me that I\u2019m \u201cOkay waiting in line for the Milkbar for hours but won\u2019t go to the art museum with her\u201d or \u201cCan do that but act annoyed about going in with her to Forever 21.\u201d Earlier in the week she asked if I wanted to go to the local Art Museum with her on Saturday and I said no because I wasn\u2019t sure how long the Saturday tournament would last for. The Forever 21 thing is true though, I hate going into that store for upwards of an hour.\n\nWhile we\u2019re in line I tell my friend about how my girlfriend is jealous, and she comments about how that\u2019s kinda crazy and I should dump her. I defend her, saying that she\u2019s not always like this and how there\u2019s more to our relationship than just this one instance. But as the snaps keep coming in, it becomes apparent that reasoning with my girlfriend was an impossible\ntask and I eventually stop answering altogether. \n\nFlash forward to today and me and my gf are fine now, but this isn\u2019t the first time something like this has happened with her getting unreasonably jealous whenever I decide to hang out with a friend who\u2019s a girl.\n\nAITA?\n\nTLDR: Hung out with a friend who\u2019s a girl, didn\u2019t tell my gf until we were already hanging out, gf got very upset", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JawliqbMr3vDYGJAdpwsHaLgd9ZuHLB9", "post_id": "9wdyhs", "action": {"description": "refusing to pick up after my roommate's birthday party", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pick up after my roommate\u2019s birthday party?", "text": "This is pretty short and sweet, but my roommate had a birthday party a couple of days ago. I don\u2019t know these people very well and only knew 1 other person at the party, so I didn\u2019t participate much, but they had me pay $60 into the party for my roommate because it was her birthday. I was already a bit bitter about that, but then I woke up to find the house messy and not picked up at all. It\u2019s been a few days now, and it still isn\u2019t picked up, and I absolutely refuse to do it since I already paid for this party and I barely participated in it.\nAm I the asshole in this situation?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5A3MnqWuMYER1q5uBMKwZN3AYxRUcTWp", "post_id": "awq176", "action": {"description": "thinking a cancer diagnosis is more serious and stressful than medical school", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for thinking a cancer diagnosis is more serious and stressful than medical school?", "text": "I\u2019m going to try and explain this in the shittiest way I can in hopes that someone (perhaps a med student/former med student) can help me understand what I did wrong. \n\nI (24M) was told by my now ex (25F) that her world doesn\u2019t stop spinning because something happens to me. I was diagnosed with testicular cancer in September. Went through chemo in November. She broke up with me in December because of \u201chow I treated her.\u201d \n\nI called out her character and told her straight up that I thought it was shitty that I didn\u2019t get a visit after surgery or during chemo. Not just no visit, but she expected me to drive 5 hours to visit her both two weeks before chemo started and again a week after it was over. That\u2019s what led to the break up. I basically said \u201chey, we have different views here. You have no idea what I had to go through and sorry but cancer and it\u2019s treatment should be more important than your med school.\u201d She didn\u2019t think that I was being considerate of the stress she was under while I was undergoing an immense amount of stress and shock. \n\nI understand med school is difficult, but I expected a little bit of care from her. We just finally cut ties today after she finally gave me a chance to talk to her after she broke up with me via text in late December. \n\nAITA for thinking that my situation was more dire and required more support than her medical school?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vWSc4ccW04KsqAtGqVLlESc7bE8bBo6Y", "post_id": "aast06", "action": {"description": "not caring anymore about my parents relationship issues", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not caring anymore about my parents relationship issues?", "text": "Don't wanna take too long on this one, 'cause it'll be really time consuming (mine and yours).\n\nThey have had a pretty fucked up beginning (teen pregnancy, low-mid class families, that jind of stuff) and have been \"together\" 33 years by now. I heard stories that he even got to hit her a bunch of times when I was younger (23M rn) and that kind of problems provoked at least 4 divorce threats, which they backed out (either one or another). Recently found out that he might be dating a co-worker (in fact he actually told it to mom).\n\nI mean, it's not that it wouldn't affect me (emotionally or economically speaking) but I'm tired hearing both of the sides of the story, giving tips to both and see there's no change at all.\n\n Am I wrong/bad son?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Wp3zsvhlAPf07rsmjNERNbE5LE4dGEi4", "post_id": "aymcqe", "action": {"description": "being pissed about $38", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being pissed about $38?", "text": "To cut a long story short, I started my job in November last year, my boss is leaving for a new store and is taking one other staff member with her. I like my boss,  but I\u2019ve only worked a handful of shifts with her because she manages two different stores. Same with the other girl, but because the roster just didn\u2019t have us working together a lot. \n\nThat being said, my coworker wanted to get them gifts before they left. She said we were going to just split the cost of them and that it wouldn\u2019t be a big deal because we hadn\u2019t known our coworker long enough to warrant anything big (we had even agreed we wouldn\u2019t get her anything beyond a card). I just got a message from her saying we all owed her $38 for the gifts she ended up compiling ($228 total). None of us got a say in what she bought, she just rocked up with gifts to surprise them and we all kinda just played along like we had this all planned out. \n\nI live alone, I pay all of my own bills, I\u2019m in debt (car loan), $38 is me eating for a week and a half. One of my other coworkers has two kids that just started a new school and she\u2019s just had to pay thousands of dollars for their tuition, uniforms etc, the others (like myself) just started university and have just spent hundreds on textbooks. None of us were never consulted about a budget, she just spent a bunch of cash, gave us a lame \u201coops! Didn\u2019t realise I spent that much\u201d and is now expecting us to cough up the money. \n\nAITA for being pissed that it ended up being way more than what I had expected to pay for people I barely know?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EOqO6ySnsI5pH74KAsQqL3aUZ6p4C5ea", "post_id": "a5odyh", "action": {"description": "reacting badly to my wife's work plan", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for reacting badly to my wife's work plan?", "text": "I moved my wife and two year old daughter from her hometown to Texas a year ago because I got a job offer that was more than 100k increase in salary than what was offered back there. My wife's job is remote so she took her job here. Now her company is laying everyone off so she is job hunting. The thing is, her job pays about 30k more back in her hometown. She is desperate to work at a higher salary because her friends in the same field are telling her their high paying jobs back home. She told me today that she plans to go back to her hometown and ask I take care of our two year old alone or we switch off care so she can pursue a career there. There's a possibility of switching a new job which is also remote back to Texas in 3 months. I reacted badly. Am I crazy in thinking this plan is insane and we need to keep our family together? I told her to take it easy and slowly hunt for a job in TX but she is convinced she cannot find something to her liking here. The thing is, it's not like we are hurting for income, we are able to save around 50k this year even with her at home. Am I the asshole for telling her that her plan is insane?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "agitqjwCIThd8GV0WUjQaAqnGVVIWCuK", "post_id": "ba53hw", "action": {"description": "pushing on my gf so she finally decides on things when renovating the apartment", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for pushing on my gf so she finally decides on things when renovating the apartment?", "text": "This needs a bit of backstory. My gf got a new apartment from her parents. They asked her to pick stuff for renovation since it was empty - no floor, doors, blinds on windows, no kitchen or bathroom, no lights besides single lightbulbs on wire, nothing. That was about 6-7 months ago. \n\nI moved in about 4-5 months ago. The deal was she focuses on her studies and house, and I help decide on things and look for work since it was a new city. At first I was more at home, so I was cleaning and dealing with her \"student-life\" way of forgetting small things. She's a great girl, but very quiet when problems or decisions arise, so it was getting harder to talk  about the state of the apartment. When I moved in, only the bathroom was done, since her mother urged her to pick one - back then it seemed very harsh and pushy, but the bathroom was nice.\n\nI decided to never push her about things, since at most I thought with both of us it might take a bit more time, but be less stressful. I'm here half a year later and nothing was done. It's her apartment and her parents told her they will pay for renovation, and since she's a student I pay the bills so it's easier on her overall. It's her last year and she had a ton of free time to either work on her degree or the house.\n\nWindow blinds I put in only a week ago, myself, since she couldn't decide on paying someone, and there were non commercially available for our big main window. It can't have blinds and we finally decided on curtains, it took is months. Doors we ordered only 3 months after I moved in and it took another 3 months for them to get here, we'll have them installed in a week, and we ordered them only after visiting the same place few times and always having the same conversation. We had 3 months to paint the hallway before the door came and she didn't decide on any color. No wall is painted in the entire apartment. We have no kitchen since she can't decide on furniture, we visited the same places and always nothing moved, I made a 3d kitchen plan on IKEA's program to show her parents at least something. We sleep on a couch I took with me when moving here, since no bedroom. We only have desks and chairs to work on PCs at home because I didn't want to leave the shop without picking any. And I refuse to put in the money for renovation (besides some smaller things here and there) since it's her apartment and her parents are willing to help her so she can have a nice start (and I help by paying the bills at least). I just think they might get mad at her at some point.\n\nI love her. I do. She's now feeling awful after another of our arguments about the entire thing. Am I the asshole for telling her all this and that she has to make up her mind, since she neither focuses on her degree and is paralyzed when has to work on it nor does she do anything with the house? Am I the bad guy for going mad from living without blinds, doors, and a kitchen?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XsQkMOvv23ICQUxedxkbCKKkxp12jWSk", "post_id": "awried", "action": {"description": "wanting to only adopt a puppy/younger dog", "pronormative_score": 15, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to only adopt a puppy/younger dog?", "text": "So, I have been taking care of my friends dog for a couple of months now and she recently has a healthy litter of 5 pups. Now, I have been planning for quite a while now to adopt a dog myself but I have always longed for a pup.\n\nIts not just about them being cute but also the selfish fact that I'll be able to get much more time with them and I kinda have a gut feeling(not a fact) that I'll be able to bond better if the dog is with me since a younger age.\n\nMany friends have pointed out that its kinda selfish as the senior or maybe older dogs need adoption more than pups as their cuteness will anyway drive their adoption.\n\nAm I being assaholic here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 15, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gxPQ4jRgnDeu3O13JEyJHbRuWSJILHBR", "post_id": "ayeld3", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend I wanted kids but telling my now wife I have changed my mind", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend I wanted kids but telling my now wife I have changed my mind?", "text": "When we first started dating three years ago I was truly open to the idea of having a child. We are now both in our mid 30s and each have a child of our own between 10 and 13.  Now it seems like more work and money than I'd like to (selfishly) invest.  She wants one, I'm on the fence but heavily leaning towards no...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "yk9W2TLqkp0eYc52UtShQZgVMEMm5Unc", "post_id": "aqgrlt", "action": {"description": "getting a tattoo without my boyfriends knowledge? then lying about it being fake", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA after getting a tattoo without my boyfriends knowledge? Then lying about it being fake", "text": "So some background info, I\u2019m 21year old female and have been with my 21 year old boyfriend for 5 years. On Monday I got a tattoo of an outline of a jasmine flower tattooed on my upper left side(completely hidden pretty much unless I turn and lift my arm) since it\u2019s has a significant meaning to me. It\u2019s the national flower of my country and my sisters name is jasmine. \n\nAnyway, I tell my boyfriend after the fact and he starts attacking me and the tattoo, saying I should have gotten something more artistic and tattoos should be pretty and nice for people to look at. So obviously this is my first tattoo and I feel like shit about it and I keep getting his negative thoughts about it so I lie(I know i should) and tell him it was only temporary and his smile reached ear to ear. So I\u2019m like whatever. Anyway today I tell him the truth because like wtf and because I was really liking the tattoo today. And he hangs up in my face and starts yelling at me about it again. Now we just got into another fight and again he repeated his points about how it looks like marker and that a kid drew it. And who gets an outline?\n\nBut the his whole point is that he accepted my tattoo, which he really didn\u2019t. And that I shouldn\u2019t have lied to him about it, which is a mistake on my part but all in all, AITA? \n\nTl;dr: I got a tattoo that my boyfriend thinks looks like shit and I lied about it being fake to get him off my back. Now he says everything would have been fine if I didn\u2019t lie? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tPlghDf4Js066ZArqbSvUvrUnLrc5RmX", "post_id": "avxvtq", "action": {"description": "being racist to my biracial son", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA: For being racist to my biracial son?", "text": "I jokingly called my son a half breed or occasionally my beanerschnitzle in captions on fb and Snapchat \n\n\nMe and my girlfriend have been together for 10 years now. I'm white, she's Hispanic.  Neither of us are racist and both love each others culture. At the same time idk why we both developed a sense of humor about making racist jokes. We deal with racism by making it not serious I guess you could say. \n\nStupid things like if the Mexican station comes on radio in the car  ill look at her and turn it up and well both laugh. Someone knocks on our door that looks Hispanic ill tell jokingly tell her that her cousin is here.   When I'm visiting with her family her dad calls me this name in Spanish I forget what its called but basically means nazi, etc. nothing ever is taken seriously and we always laugh. \n\nI want my son to grow up same say so he doesn't have a chip on his shoulder thinking everyone is racist. Etc. I love being able to make something that's such a big deal in our society a joke. I believe everyone would be better off and not get so offended.   \n\n   \n\nstrange where we live to be in rela ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "kuL65TD1WGvGp5LFcXWba9eh2x6TmZlJ", "post_id": "b8f4a9", "action": {"description": "wanting to close and lock the window", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for wanting to close and lock the window?", "text": "My boyfriend and I went to the store to pick something and as we're walking back some random dude with a dog told us that some guy was trying to Rob people and that he was gonna go fuck him up and that we should stay inside. So the whole time we're walking home I'm trying not to freak out, but he's spending the whole time being fucking annoying with it, asking me if I know the guy who went up to us and when I claimed I've never seen him before he would ask if I'm sure 100 times. He kept trying to make connections to us and the guy, it wasn't helping. Anyway, we get home and I go into the room and close the window Because well, of some person is out there robbing people, why take my chances and give them a direct way into my home. My boyfriend got pissed because he was hot and doesn't like sleeping with the window close because it's uncomfortable for him. But I don't want to take the chance and possibly get put in danger having it open while we're not paying attention or sleeping. I suggested that we turn the cooler on and keep the window closed tonight because I was uncomfortable with it open while I slept. He got mad and asked me why I was so scared and adamant about having it closed. He claims the only reason why I would be that insistent on it is if I KNEW someone was out there and I knew something he didn't. I convinced him finally to allow me to close the window but he was angry because the cooler costs money and I am overreacting. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vVXy49GGZQs9kokgjlm16EfCVTpK8iLf", "post_id": "anu24u", "action": {"description": "threatening a group partner with a zero", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA - For threatening a group partner with a zero", "text": "This happened during an assignment we had to do a couple semesters ago. We are put into groups of 6 and have to come up with a concept and working prototype of a computer program, in our case, an interactive calendar.\n\nSo, we literally have 5 weeks to do this assignment. Its plenty of time, theres no reason it cant be done. So our group meets and we dole the work out between all 6 people. Theres not much work to do, its literally maybe 4-5 hours each. We work out what classes, functions everyone has to write.\n\nThis is where everything seems to go to shit. One group member, lets call him A doesnt finish his assigned tasks. The problem is this program is so small, it really cant be tested until all parts are complete, except for unit testing of functions. A's excuse is he cant figure out how to do it, he is incredibly lost. At first, we try to help, even basically writing one of his two classes for him, walking him through past assignments. At this point, A should be good. The other class uses similar functions and we have learned what these functions need to do in previous courses.\n\nA still cant do it.\n\nWere now 3 weeks until deadline. We dont even have a functioning prototype of the program and we still have to design a GUI and hook the backend into the GUI. We spend another meeting basically walking A through his other class and his functions. Another group member shares with me after the second meeting that this isnt fair anymore and that weve been paired with someone who cant actually program. I feel the same way but what can we do?\n\nBecause we have basically hand held programmed two classes for A, we ask A to do the mock up design report for the wireframes for the app (basically drawings that show the basic app layout). This is possibly the only part of the assignment A does, but, he draws them in a skecthbook, they need to be in digital format (not scanned, using any program, even powerpoint).\n\nA declares he has done his part, someone else gets to translate them to powerpoint. Except that it was agreed A does the whole section of the project since hes doing no programming in a programming class. A absolutely refuses, say were dumping \"all the work\" on him and we have to do it. Another group member finally reneges, and translates the paper drawn wireframes using inDesign.\n\nA also believes he doesnt have to help with the front end GUI because he did the wireframes. Theres a bit of argument, but in the end A walks and tells us they are done and we get the rest.\n\nWe finish the GUI, the program works and we have to write a written report on who did what, with all group members signing the report. I write the \"who did what\" and very much emphasize A has done next to no personal programming on the assignment and only drew the wireframes on his own. A is furious and wont sign it. He wants full credit for their programming.\n\nAt this point myself and another group member basically say we will pull the wireframes from the project, submit it and tell the teacher he has done no work (because if we dont submit the one thing they did, they havent contributed). A basically says he will go to the registrar if we do. We go to the teacher and explain the situation, even admitting they did the wireframe portion but no coding. The teacher basically tells us that if every group member, other then A, signs the doc and everything (including wireframes is submitted), A will only get marks for the wireframes. So if the wireframes are absolutely perfect A will get 10/100. Teacher does advise that A may have an academic integrity case against us if we pull his wireframes and submit without him because he did \"sit in while you coded his code parts\". But the teacher wont give him marks if he cant do even simple functions himself.\n\nAbout a day before the assignment is due, we tell A were submitting without his signature on the \"who did what\" report. But we will submit his wireframes. A doesnt bother responding.\n\nFrom what I heard, A got 7/100 (7%) on the assignment. We ended up with a 77%. A appealed the grade and they ended up giving him 25% on the assignment. (found this out through a mutual friend).\n\nIm putting it down, Am I the Asshole in this situation, should I just have let it slide?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7WHkZpWLeuZCi6ZNbDCxZAJEhHrjfx1Z", "post_id": "asv3u4", "action": {"description": "being \"late\" to turn in a permission form", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being \"late\" to turn in a permission form", "text": "Hey, here's the context\n\nSo I(16M)'m in an organization called deca. I could go on as far as what it's about but that would waste time. Anyway in deca, there are 2 competitions: state and national (aka ICDC). To go to icdc, you have to place top 3 in your event. So Oklahoma deca was last tuesday and wednesday (last week feb 11 or something)  and I got 1st in my event. That friday, our deca advisor (or teacher) said to begin to decide whether or not we're going (total cost is about 1200). \n\nThe next week, on monday feb 18th, I had no school due to school district thing that was scheduled in beginning of year. That night at 11 pm, (i was sleeping), our teacher sends the permission form via email to those who are qualified to go to icdc (as well as parent info form)\n \nDue to an expected snowstorm, our school closes on tuesday feb 19. The advisor then sends messages via remind that she needs those forms signed and a pic sent to her. I would have done it, but I dont have a printer and my parents were working. I thought I could just bring it to her thr next day.\n\nHowever, she sends a message at 2:54 pm saying that she needs the pic at 5pm, 2 hrs away or else we couldn't go to icdc. I text her that i dont have a printer, and she responds with 1. Why did it take u all day to respond and 2. She needs something from my parents saying that i am committing to go and that they are committed to paying the cost (im paying the whole myself).\n\nSo I frantically call my mom to send her an email. She does around 4:10 ish. Afterwards, the advisor says she is still awaiting to get the permission form (I thought she said the email was needed in place of the form). \n\nSo the next morning, I go to give the advisor the form. She scolds me for taking forever to respond and also for making her go over an hour. My mom is mad at me for waiting until last minute to do this.\n\nNow before you put YTA, i would just like to say a few things.\n1. The form was given and due in less than 24 hrs (11 pm to 5pm)\n2. The parent info form says all paperwork needs to be in by feb 21st, \n3. I couldnt do anything until the next day anyway (no printer/parent).\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UQxFYueN1vzU6w1N6JMDPdGWCmWP0voI", "post_id": "amxzh9", "action": {"description": "flipping off a girl texting while driving", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for flipping off a girl texting while driving?", "text": "So I\u2019m 14 and we were in a car with my dad and we noticed this (16?) year old blonde texting. For about 2 minutes. I was getting anxious because here in Saskatoon the roads are very icy. Anyways we stop and I open the window and say to my dad I\u2019m going to flip her off or something. He says no and I\u2019m like fine. Then when we start driving I turn around quickly and flip her off with both hands and she looks all shocked and offended. My dad grounded me: AITA???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Jc31Lx5ImxhNOA8UI36GENSbC7Oj7x2Z", "post_id": "a1g2rh", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend for not telling me what's wrong", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "aita for getting mad at my boyfriend for not telling me what's wrong", "text": "I just had a big fight with my boyfriend for not letting me know what he's feeling. He expects me to just comfort him  if he's upset, but he's never told me what he's feeling. Its really hard for me to comfort people if I have no clue what they're feeling. \n\nHe's gotten frustrated with me when I shut him out when I'm mad, but he expects me to guess what he wants and feels.\n\nI asked him why he like a song so much and he responded with \"whatever\". I asked him \"what are you thinking\", because he also shuts me out when he's thinking. He did not respond. to me, these seem like signs for me to leave him alone. Apparently not. \n\nI did not comfort him. He did not tell me what he wanted. I told him why I was upset. He still refused to tell me what he was thinking about or what he was feeling, other than I should have hugged him and said are you ok. He said \"will you support me if I don't tell you anything\". That was his hint that he wanted me to give him hugs. I took it in a different way (support as in yea I'm ok with you not telling me, but it would be nice). \n\nI feel like if he told me what he was feeling, and asked for what he wanted, it would be a lot easier to help him. It just feels like he doesn't trust me with his feelings.\n\nI'm kinda frustrated, so I can't tell if I'm the asshole.\n\nThanks guys.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "owBPYI6Uoht1NKlY3J7j0lY7vrrcivKb", "post_id": "akrhbc", "action": {"description": "dating a girl that my friend has a crush on", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for dating a girl that my friend has a crush on?", "text": "A few months ago (during the first term of our my freshman year of college), I met a girl who I was really attracted to, but was soon informed that two of my close friends also liked her. It seemed like the situation was putting a lot of stress on their friendship, so I decided not to tell anyone (aside from my dad) how I was feeling, as to avoid drama. A lot of time passed, and neither of my friends made a move, while she and I became pretty close friends. When we flew home for the holidays, we texted all the time, and even skyped a few times. Despite this, I didn't think she was romantically interested in me, and part of me hoped that she would start dating one of my other friends, and everything would blow over. On a few occasions I pushed my friends to tell her how they were feeling so that the situation could be over with. A few weeks ago, though, she confessed to me in private that she had feelings for me. I, not thinking, kissed her in that moment. That night, she said that she'd like to date me, and I concurred, but said that I'd have to talk to my friends before we made anything official.\n\nI talked to both of my friends one on one. The first friend told me that he had moved on to someone else, and that he didn't care what I did with her. The second friend told me that while he was sad that she wasn't interested in him, he wouldn't hold it against me if I started going out with her, and that he would do the same thing. So, following my heart, I took her to go bowling, and we've been dating for almost a month now. \n\nA lot of people (external from the situation) seem to be really mad at me, and tell me that I'm a bad friend for doing what I'm doing. It seems crazy to me to not date someone you know has mutual feelings for you, but what do you think? \n\nAm I The Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Cfy1S20wKPnWxGliPcKCnawm0hRuG6u8", "post_id": "a2f3fw", "action": {"description": "ghosting someone I was friends with since I was 13 because they treated me like shit", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I ghosted someone I was friends with since I was 13 because they treated me like shit?", "text": "I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible. \n\nOver the years they have:\n\n* outed me as trans to their family to test how they'd react when they came out as genderfluid.\n* cheated on their boyfriend, continues to live with him after breaking up under the condition they they won't start seeing someone else while they live there. Guess what they're doing. \n* telling welfare they pay for rent and groceries when they don't, then wasting the money on stupid shit.\n* really added nothing as a friend. If I had problems with my family they'd just jokingly offer to fight them, when they had problems with their family I offered actual solutions. \n* there is a very high chance she stole a game from my sister's boyfriend that caused a huge fight between us and led to me being uninvited to her wedding. There was other stuff going on but that sparked the explosion. \n\nAll around they just never seemed to have matured past 18, even though we're 25 now. Them refuses to finish high school and anytime I try to talk to them about anything that involves acting like an adult they shrug it off. I'm tired of trying. If I point all this out they'll just have a ton of excuses. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UD1AeBoMxb8OoLEU4EYB3U6CBFVOD6Fs", "post_id": "ajt0um", "action": {"description": "denying someone a trip to Japan", "pronormative_score": 39, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for denying someone a trip to Japan", "text": " So there's a bit to unpack here. A couple of friends and I are planning a trip to Japan. We are going to be nine people and we are leaving in about a year. Since we are so many people Pete (not his real name) and I are spearheading this operation. We are doing most of the planning and we've both spent many hours trying to find the best and cheapest to exist over there. I've set up a financial plan and everything including a very basic to do list while we're there. We even had a PowerPoint presentation that we showed the group to make sure everyone has a basic idea what they need and what will happen when we are there. We are the leaders of this group. This will become important later.\n\nSo with all that laid out I can introduce you to Jay (again, not his real name). I've known Jay since ninth grade. We've always gotten along with one another but over the past few years that's started to change. The more I watch and listen to him interact with other people the more I realize he's kind of a bully. He treats others (especially people he doesn't know) like shit and takes tremendous pleasure from ruining other peoples days. He loves to talk shit and tilts anyone playing video games with him. Now I have to say that I fucking love banter. I love talking shit to my friends and them doing the same back. That's just how we show affection. But there's a right way to do it and there's a wrong way to do it. Jay does both. If you stand up for yourself and fire back, he only ever uses light-hearted banter against you. But if you don't and you're too nice to say anything back then he loves to tear into you. And hard. Most of us fight back against Jays comments but one guy in our group doesn't. His name is Pat (I think you get it by now).\n\nPat is a super awesome guy who never really talks shit and is generally just a good dude. But this means that Jay loves to really tear into him. Whenever we play CSGO Jay blames almost everything on Pat and really tries to drive home the fact he is better and Pat is a waste of space (his own words). The more we played the more toxic he got until one night after a game he wanted share a \"meme\" he made so he posts it in the text channel (We use discord to talk). The \"meme\" had the caption \"Can you tell the difference between these pictures?\" with the left side being a picture of Pat and the right side saying \"a failed abortion.\" We tell him that it really wasn't funny and Pat deleted it. Jay then posts it again. Pat deletes it. Jay then spams that \"meme\" as fast as he can. After about 10 to 15 minutes of trying to delete these posts Pat leaves and Jay bursts out laughing. When I ask him why he's laughing he comes back with \"that pussy just couldn't handle it.\" I get really angry with him and chew him out for being a bully. I leave the call and text Pat to say sorry for not sticking up for him earlier and to see if he was okay. He was genuinely distraught and felt like shit. Since then I've been sure to shut Jay up anytime he even talks to Pat since Pat doesn't really like him. That was first big incident.\n\nThe second incident came a week after when Pete and I were discussing Airbnbs. Pete, Jay, Pat, a few others going on the trip, and I were all in a call. We asked the others to ask questions but if they didn't have anything constructive to say they should keep it to themselves. Halfway through the discussion Jay sends us a link to an airbnb in Beverly Hills saying that it's only $5000 a night and we should do this if Japan doesn't work out. We kind of dismiss the idea and tell him that this is 100% happening. He then proceeds to send us more Airbnbs from all over LA that are $5000 per night or more. He interrupts us multiple times and really wants us to change subject to his idea. Pete then tells him that no one cares and if Jay doesn't be quiet he'll server mute him. Jay then says \"well i don't care what you guys are talking about.\" Pete then server mutes him and Jay leaves the server. Not just disconnects from the call but leaves the whole server so hard that he has to get an invite to be allowed back in. 30 minutes later he asks for an invite back into the server and wants all his admin privileges back. We let him back in but give him no privileges. His comment about not caring really hurt Pete and me. Both of us are putting in hours upon hours of research in where to go, what to see, who to meet, etc. We are learning to be conversationally fluent in Japanese by the time we get there so the rest of the group can just relax when they they are there. We both want this trip to be amazing for everyone and hearing him dismiss all of that effort really hurt.\n\nPete and I were pretty done with his bullying and disregard for this trip so we decided we were going to talk to Jay. We didn't want to immediately kick him out the trip so we came up with a list of things he needed to change if he wanted to go on this trip.\n\n1. He's needs to stop bullying people\n2. He needs to understand that we will \"ambassadors of the US\" while we are there so we cannot be rude\n3. He needs to cut the childish behavior like in with the Airbnb fiasco\n4. He needs to learn how to not wake up after 3 PM everyday\n\nWe meet him in person and talk to him about this. We make sure to not bring up Pat and how he feels so the bully so it doesn't get worse. He really didn't seem like he was paying attention but he repeated most of things back to us so i don't know. Pete and I decided that we would see how he acts at the upcoming PowerPoint presentation.\n\nThe presentation is the same one I told you guys about in the beginning. Just basic, but very important, information about the trip. Jay was on his phone the whole time. Never looked up once. Kind of hurt.\n\nAt this point we don't know if we are going to not let him join us. He has definitely limited the bullying but he seems totally not interested in this trip at all and still has his childish outbursts. I don't want to tell him he can't go because I believe traveling is the best way to spend your money and broaden your perspective but it seems like we might have to. I want everyone else to have a good time and I don't know if that would happen if he came along. Would we be the assholes if we told him he couldn't go?\n\nTLDR; My friends and I are going to Japan but one of us is a bully. He calls another friend a \"failed abortion\" and \"a waste of space.\" He has also shown disinterest in the trip and my effort to make this trip happen. We gave him a chance to change but he hasn't really. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 39, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 39, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qbjJ9me5yln3m5Gs2rCNcuok4SxI0ACu", "post_id": "b5loa3", "action": {"description": "telling my mom to shut up about wanting grandchildren", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For telling my mom to shut up about wanting grandchildren", "text": "So i\u2019m obviously using a throwaway just for safety reasons. \n\nAnyways my mom has this tendency to ALWAYS bring up the idea of NEEDING to be a grandmother. My oldest brother is gay so she knows the only kids she\u2019s getting out of him is via surrogate or adopting. (He\u2019s already voiced his opinion on not planning on having kids while he\u2019s in college with no place of his own)\n\nMy sister can\u2019t have babies so same goes for her. \n\nToday, at the dinner table, the discussion of babies come up. Everyone talks about when they plan to start having kids and majority of them says when they\u2019re financially stable. My mom asked me, \u201cwell, OP when are you going to give me BIOLOGICAL grandchildren since -brother- and -sister- won\u2019t be providing me any\u201d. I\u2019m 16. \n\nI tell her i\u2019m not even needing to think about that kind of thing. At this point I was a little pissed off so i told her to basically shut up about me even having kids cause I really don\u2019t see myself wanting any at all. At that point she gets up and storms off calling me selfish for depriving her of being a grandmother and having biological grandkids. \n\nI feel like I could\u2019ve dealt with it a better way but she really pissed me off.  Was that an asshole move of me? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E2m1tRPlzqHv7OYmdEbXjwHySSTTTqbI", "post_id": "a9u2zi", "action": null, "title": "AITA fit paying someone to visit my dementia ridden Grandma instead of me.", "text": "I know it sounds bad from the title alone but I\u2019ll roll with it anyway\n\nMy Grandma has always been kind of a jerk to me throughout my life. \n\nWhilst my Grandpa would always try his best to entertain me in anyway possible, she was the sort of lady who\u2019d not let me touch anything in her house. She verbally abused me not only as a child but as an adult when I accidentally burnt her shed down (different story)\n\nAnyway, after her husband passed 9 years ago she\u2019s been even more of a bitch, demanding to live with me and my wife etc because she\u2019s lonely and finds it hard to live on her own with dementia ( parents are way out the picture, once again, that\u2019s a long story) . Not only did I say no because she\u2019s quite frankly the worst, but also because I don\u2019t want my wife and I to have such a strain on our currently happy marriage.\n\nAs of February this year she\u2019s been moved into a home due to the fact that she can\u2019t care for herself. In order to not appear like a total piece of shit to my 3 sisters I had been visiting her most Thursdays for the best part of 6 months, until I realised she didn\u2019t actually seem to know who I was.\n\nI jumped on Craigslist and managed to find a guy in the local area who was willing for a meagre 10 bucks an hour to visit my nana at her care home and pretend to be family. I photoshopped a few pictures of me and her to include him etc and wrote down a few stories just in case the old bitch decides to partially get her memory back all of a sudden. \n\nIt\u2019s been going on for about 3 months now without anyone noticing, am I the asshole or is this what this old hag deserved in her final days.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IcRdY5CGLb3PSUe0G2GUIRQizpX8vrzD", "post_id": "amh80a", "action": {"description": "probably getting my girlfriend sick days before an audition", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for probably getting my girlfriend sick days before an audition", "text": "I'm pretty sure im the asshole here, but want to know your guys' opinions.\n\nYesterday me and my girlfriend went out to dinner then went to her place to watch a movie. I had a slight headache all day and felt like I might have a fever, but I took some advil and sambucol before our date and was feeling fine for most of the time so I convinced myself that symptoms were nothing. After the movie we made out a little bit, but my symptoms started to get worse so I told her I wasn't up for it and we just cuddled for the rest of the time. I never told her that I might be sick, the only thing I mentioned was my headache.\n\nToday, I have a 105\u00b0 fever and a killer headache so I know that i most likely have the flu or something and I probably gave it to her.\nNow my girlfriend is auditioning for a part in a musical this week that shes really been looking forward too. If she has the flu during auditions she probably won't make the cut.\n\nI told her about how sick I was this morning and apologized for probably getting her sick, and she was so sympathetic and reassuring about it that I feel like I just don't deserve her because I might have messed up something big for her and she is just worrying about how sick I am.\n\nTL:DR Went out on a date with my girlfriend, didn't mention my minor symptoms. Extremely sick today and feel awful about it because of how this might have messed up something big for her and she's just worrying about how sick I am.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "U815ZFEQrdFGFmJUe8ZvYz60DRz0UMT5", "post_id": "astufs", "action": {"description": "considering permanently leaving my depressed husband", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA to consider permanently leaving my depressed husband?", "text": "17 years together, 11 married, and a 4 year old daughter. He has struggled with depression forever. It's cyclical and he has ok times and REALLY bad times. He wont get therapy or meds. It seems worse in the winter.\n\nOur marriage has never been great, he's always hurt me by never putting me first, not showing me love, having a short fuse with me to the degree I ignore most things because I hate making him angry and stirring the pot. When he gets angry he shuts me out for days, barely speaks to me, sits on the computer for any moment he's not working, etc.\n\nIt got so bad last year that I moved out at the end of August. I stayed with my parents for awhile but In November, he was STILL unwilling to make any changes...all of our talks were getting no where. I finally found a very small and cheap apartment that didn't require a lease or deposit so I figured it was perfect to not be so crowded with my parents, and have a space of my own. When I told him I found a place, he got so angry and swore he'd never give me money, he'd rather take all our savings (30k+ I think, he won't tell me how much) and bury it in the back yard and off himself than see me get any money of \"his\" (All our assets are \"his\" because he has contributed most of money during our marriage). I got so hurt and upset and told him I needed just a bit because I was paying all of the childcare out of MY paycheck as well. He said he'd give me $250 a month and that was it (he makes 60k, I make 27k). I asked for a small chunk ($1000) to get started since I had literally nothing but my clothes to bring with me. He was not budging but I kept persisting and he finally said \"do I need to pay you to leave this house? FINE I'll give you the money.\"\n\nThe next day he apologized for how he acted the previous night and gave me the money and said he would go to couple's therapy with me finally.\n\nNow, we've been in counseling since Mid-December and its improving. We have been spending a lot more time together, he's been more respectful, better with our daughter, better with not being on the computer so much, etc. I'd been planning on moving back home very soon!\n\nIn the past 10 or so days he seems to have hit another major down and has totally shut me out again. Barely any contact for days, nothing nice, got ANGRY at me for sleeping/watching tv all night long after having surgery that day and wouldn't speak to me for DAYS after that, etc.\n\nI know his depression is a sickness. It makes me feel really torn on what to do. If he was a jerk I wouldn't feel so bad. I know not all of it can be helped. I do love him. But my stress this past week has been through the roof. I feel sick all the time, my chest is tight, stomachs a mess.\n\nDo I need to give him more time, more help? I wish he'd see a therapist or get some meds but he won't. I don't know how else to support him...when is it enough?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tFbnAJMogT4ODY9OO65djZUMhdumwRNP", "post_id": "aopkmu", "action": {"description": "selling my buddy weed at a slight profit", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I sold my buddy weed at a slight profit?", "text": "My buddy wants to buy a half oz of weed off me. I have a really good connect which means that I can get his half oz for alot lower than market value. Would I be an asshole for charging him 10$ more than I paid for it? It would still be an extremely good price, and tbh if I was to sell it I could for 20-30 dollars more than what I'd be charging him, but would that be kind of a dick move if he's my boy? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BZcac2yds9MFXNU7FYKTNr9YDvDajZb0", "post_id": "al3vyo", "action": {"description": "yelling at my coworker who barely speaks English", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for yelling at my coworker who barely speaks English?", "text": "So I work in a warehouse, usually I try to keep a positive attitude, but recently I\u2019ve been sore so in the mornings I\u2019ve just been working by myself and listening to podcasts\n\nMy coworker, C, is a Mexican guy, speaks little English and most of the time can\u2019t make coherent sentences except religious preachings, and most of the time he will say \u201cbless you\u201d or \u201clord messenger Christian\u201d , and most of the time I just nod and say yes until he walks away, just so I don\u2019t have issues with nobody. \n\nBut this morning, he comes up to me, after we already had a little heated argument yesterday and starts with the preaching stuff. I had one headphone in and I was really trying to listen, but he wouldn\u2019t stop talking. So I cut him off and said \u201chey man, I really don\u2019t care I\u2019m not religious\u201d and he said \u201cit\u2019s not religion it\u2019s about your soul\u201d and we just went back and forth until I yelled at him to leave me alone. My manager came over and we separated.\n\nlater he said ,out of nowhere, \u201cme comprende, you comprende ok?\u201d And I feel like he\u2019s mad but, He\u2019s acting ok, yet I  feel like I was being a dick? I told him to stop talking to me and he kept going on and on and I couldn\u2019t take it! I haven\u2019t apologized yet.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lx2zLU4a422k0WPlok2OFm03oO427Y5x", "post_id": "a0r40a", "action": {"description": "misleading my friends when they ask me to proofread things", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 18}, "title": "AITA for misleading my friends when they ask me to proofread things?", "text": "This post will probably find its way over to r/iamverysmart at some point, but oh well.\n\nI, fortunately, am known within my friend group to be pretty well written. Because of this, my friends will sometimes ask me to proofread the papers they write (I'm in college so there are many). However, a majority of the time I will tell them that their papers are fine, even if I find multiple mistakes, because I just don't want to take the time to correct them. Usually the friends that I find the most mistakes with just have a really weird writing style that I can't fix - I don't know how to help without completely rewriting what they were trying to say. \n\nNormally I'd be fine with doing this if they weren't my friends, like in a peer review. However, I feel kind of bad for intentionally misleading my friends into thinking their papers are ready to be turned in.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 18, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 18}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "T6GGPAO5ZO2qOSHBbixIFwcRx6Ms2VRE", "post_id": "b95p85", "action": null, "title": "AITA my dad bought the wrong tool then cracked the shits with me for it", "text": "Okay so I\u2019ve crossposted this on r/raisedbynarcissists \nSorry for mobile formatting :\u2019( \n\n(20f student)\nSo my dad is big on covert gaslighting to manipulate people. He especially loves kind of stuff that makes you look like the bad guy and paints him as the innocent victim.\n\nThis happened the other night, I work on my car quite a lot and to do a particular job I really needed an impact driver, on a student budget I can\u2019t really afford to buy myself one. My dad when he\u2019s feeling benevolent has bought a few of my tools for me for working on my car so I called him up and asked him if he could help me with getting it. \n\nHe promptly announced that he had gone out that day and spent a stack of money on a tool (far more expensive than what I had needed) to surprise me with as he knew I needed a power tool. He then began to regale me about this tool, a hammer drill (completely different tool from what I needed, commonly used for stonemasonry) and how he was told that it was the best tool ever and it was so expensive. \nI tried to thank him for getting it for me but also gently let him know that it wasn\u2019t going to be suitable for what I need it for. I asked if I could run it back to the store for him and exchange it for the correct tool and get him some of his money back. \n\nUpon hearing this, his tone soured and he quickly began berating me, telling me that he liked this hammer drill and that I was completely wrong and that it would do the job and that no I couldn\u2019t take it back because he had already thrown out all the packaging and gotten it out and played with it. \nTo cut a long story short, he eventually relented and let me swap it for the impact driver but not before being so nasty to me that I ended up nearly crying in the store when I went in for the exchange. \n\nI still feel like the bad guy and I\u2019m so exhausted that he always goes out of his way to do this, with anything he can. When I try to vent about it, people always give him the benefit of the doubt bc he was obviously just trying to do the right thing and I\u2019m just an ungrateful little bitch. \n\nAm I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iaAMBMTwtl5w6O7G97RaVQsf7gPCA4iV", "post_id": "awplof", "action": null, "title": "AITA DENIED A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOOD PERSON AS I LIKED SOMEONE ELSE", "text": "I\u2019ll keep it really short and simple but will change the names of the people for the story (I\u2019ll be Mark, the person I like will be Ella, and the girl who liked me will be Jasmine). I knew Ella for many years before I knew jasmine and I liked her for many years but she never really showed interest in me, until jasmine came along I was getting to know her and was connecting with her really well. Ella didn\u2019t take this well and started to do tell me not to talk to her as she\u2019s weird, and how she\u2019s liked me for awhile and wanted to see if I liked her. Now because I liked her and had recently I liked her and when Jasmine asked me out I said no as I liked Ella and she was alright with it (I think) but it got really weird after that. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "l2mzdLYq8zYxAcH3zwzWNtc6hSc9o53Z", "post_id": "b9groo", "action": {"description": "bringing home a stray cat", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for bringing home a stray cat?", "text": "So I live with 2 roomates, A couple. They have 2 pets, one dog, and one cat.\n\nI came home at 3am from a tinder hook up, singing to myself with a snack in my hands. I notice a fluffy thing on the floor above me and think its someone walking their dog. I stop singing because idk strangers at 3 probably dont want to hear you sing? \n\nI had a weird feeling about it, back up, and it's this sweet and fluffy cat coming down the stairs to me. Me being the person I am, ofc I want to help this little dude out. I have 10 years experience with an animal shelter and gave been fostering a good chunk of that since I lived with my mom who ran the shelter. My experience kicks in, I bring it inside, put her in the bathroom and go to my roommates room to inform them of the situation. I ask for a cup of food as I dont own a cat and am getting food after work for the kitty.\n\nThey complain a little, say sure. Cool I feel good, gonna go micro chip scan this cutie after work and hopefully find an owner, if not I know where to surrender for no kill. And if not that, vax and keep my first pet. \n\nI get to work this morning and they both blow up my phone for me being disrespectful to them and saying how I endangered their pets lives. Which I can understand... however they have refused to vaccinate their dog and cat for over 2 months because one of them doesnt have the money to split the vet bill in half, the other got a huge lump some of money from deceased relative and doesnt work.\n\nThey continue to claim the stray cat is going to give their pets diseases and continue to say how I dont love animals and am selfish and how dare I bring this creature into the home. \n\nI separated the cat, no contact at all or shared litter box. I've dealt with this situation before, except my pets were vaccinated.\n\nI text the one roommate who sits at home and plays games all day that it's their responsibility to vax their animals and cannot put them getting sick solely on me. Probably our worst fight ever.\nI accuse them of not being financially prepared or caring enough to vax their pets to keep them healthy and that exchange lasts a long time of us going back and forth constantly about who is wrong.\n\nI just wanted to help a cat out.\n\nTLDR; I brought home strat cat. Lazy roommate who has unvaxed animals berates me for endangering their animals. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "NmkREaJqHNKVuepsYuwWkpftLTQApN3x", "post_id": "atsvmv", "action": {"description": "getting angry ata friend for calling me an idiot for not getting an irony joke, than getting angry after she shat on my favourite character from a show", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for getting angry ata friend for calling me an idiot for not getting an irony joke, than getting angry after she shat on my favourite character from a show?", "text": "She showed me a photo of this Minecraft cosplay and I talked about how I don't like cosplay, I didn't realize that the cosplay was a joke or something. So she responded with \"are you an idiot? You don't get irony? It's fucking irony\" or something like that. So to stop myself from yelling at her I walked off. Then later on she sent me a photo of reasons why my favourite character (Mineta from bnha) was a horrible character (because we had a talk about Mineta a couple days ago). So I responded \"no one likes their favourite character being shit on so don't fucking shit on mine\". She then respond with \"jeez it was a fucking joke wtf\" \n\nAm I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TUtOF66saRxfdAdzRIq9byNU0mvNUQAk", "post_id": "b2qx98", "action": {"description": "wanting to distance myself from old friends because I found out they're cheating on their sos", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to distance myself from old friends because I found out they're cheating on their SOs?", "text": "I have a group of HS friends that I keep in contact with. 3 girls (including me) and 2 boys. We talked throughout college (we all went separate places) and was able to all meet up a few days ago in Japan for the first time in over 5 years. It was great! We had a lot of fun catching up and hanging out.\n\nWe're all on different schedules right now since we're all doing our own things. My vacation time was over, so I left first and the rest of the group was able to meet up a few more times.\n\nThe 2 other girls and I have our own separate group chat. In it they told me that the 2 boys admitted to cheating on their gfs. One went on an overnight trip with a different girl behind his gf's back. The other basically has 2 girlfriends who obviously don't know about each other. My girl friends said the boys weren't necessarily bragging about cheating, but would deny or change the topic if the 2 girls in our groups called them out for cheating.\n\nWithout going into boring details, life turned out so that I will probably be able to meet those 2 boys again in the near future. But now that I know they're openly(?) cheating on their girlfriends, I don't want to maintain my friendships with them. I dunno, it just makes me uncomfortable. What I specifically want to do is to never schedule time to see them in particular again. If we were in some large group function (like a high school reunion maybe) and I ran into them, I'd be cordial. They already started another group chat with me, but I haven't responded yet.\n\nI told this to the 2 girls. They said I was overreacting. One said she was glad she was friends with them and not dating them. The other said that since we don't know/have never met any of the guys' girlfriends and have no way of contacting them, it's fine. Basically she's saying the situation would be different if the girls being cheated on were people we knew, but since that isn't the case, I don't need to feel uncomfortable remaining friends with the boys.\n\nI consider everyone in this friend group to be pretty good friends. Like I mentioned, we've all been friends since high school, and even though we didn't have the chance to meet up very much in the past, it was just like old times when we finally were able to hang out. I really enjoy talking and keeping in contact with them.\n\nBut AITA for wanting to distance myself from the 2 boys? Am I overreacting? I'm starting to think that since our lives are all so separate from one another, maybe I'm overreacting after all. The people around me have given me mixed reviews, so I decided to ask Reddit.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fVnzK1DcxFPIgZ6Ky5ffcTcKwaJTgo1K", "post_id": "9ve4x0", "action": {"description": "not trying to help the bus driver's crying children", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not trying to help the bus driver's crying children?", "text": "Context: I'm a high schooler who takes the bus. Recently our old bus driver got transferred to a new route so we got a new one, who brings her two young kids (both < 5 years old) on the bus. I've talked with them once or twice before, because \"hey, cute kids\", but that was earlier in the year when the workload was nonexistent, so now I opt for sitting further from them & trying to sleep on the way home since I'm tired. \n\nToday one of the kids was crying, like really crying. The seat next to them was open so I sat in it and said hi to them, which made them stop. Then I said bye and moved to my usual area. The crying resumed a few seconds later, but I didn't feel like talking with them for the whole ride like I used to so I stayed put and made my music louder to drown out the noise. \n\nAm I an asshole for not wanting to help? I feel guilty because I know I could have done something to help, especially since that kid kind of knows me, but didn't do anything past saying hello. I get it's not technically my responsibility, but it still doesn't sit well with me. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bZdubRXNSflW0NsUXo5VlglfyCtMNDR5", "post_id": "b3jlhb", "action": {"description": "agreeing to share an apartment and then reneging", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for agreeing to share an apartment and then reneging?", "text": "A friend (let's call him Dick) was looking for accommodations for school and couldn't find anything in his price range.  Dick and I had been roommates before in a campus residence, where he had the inner room, and I the outer.  He had to pass through mine to get to his.  He asked me if I'd share a place with him and I agreed.  He did all the looking and found a place for us, handled the security deposits etc and financially committed.  I arrived the day before school started and found that he had taken the ONLY bedroom.  I was to sleep in a dining room area that had giant glass doors, so no privacy. The layout was such that he had to pass through this room to reach his (just like on campus).  We were to split the rent equally.  I guess I looked miserable, because his GF said \"He doesn't like it.\"  My friend said that if I didn't like it, I didn't have to stay there.  I think he was pretty sure that I was stuck with it.  But I said \"Thanks!\", grabbed my stuff and left. At that point I would have commuted from my home town rather than stay there.  \n\nI happened to be able to get a much better place, much closer to school, in a much nicer building and move in that same day.\nAfter a few days Dick contacted me to ask me to come back, offering first to reduce my portion of the rent and then to swap rooms.  I was by then financially committed to the new place and couldn't afford to switch, even if I wanted to.  Dick ended up having to borrow money from his parents to survive the semester, and we weren't friends any more.    \n\nThis was many years ago, and I've always carried some guilt about this.  I was lazy in allowing him to do all the work of apartment hunting and was committed to staying until he said I didn't have to.  AITA for not just accepting the result?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "cV49boROatC2kFzOsEJpat3Pgv0ByYGQ", "post_id": "a45xv1", "action": null, "title": "AITA - Give me some perspective", "text": "Hi I'm a 21 year old college student, and I've been in a long-distance relationship with my significant other for over 2 years now.\n\nWe love each other a lot, and I want to spent the rest of my life with her.  I study in University four hours away from my girlfriend and I make a trip home every two weeks so we can see each other. During our semester breaks (Summer and winter) we spend every waking moment together.\n\nThis semester is coming to a close, and I'll be home for 40 days, during which, I'll be with my girlfriend every day from morning to night. Instead of coming home on a Friday, I'll be pushing my return home by one day, to a Saturday, because I'm going on a 1 day ski trip with my friends as a celebration for finals being over. Me and these friends live together, and I hang out with them every single day. (Keep in mind that I hang out with these friends every single day)\n\nWhen I asked my girlfriend if she would be okay with me going on this trip, she was EXTREMELY hurt. I don't think I have ever hurt my girlfriend this much in our entire two year relationship. she is extremely hurt that I am prioritizing my friends, who I see every day, over my girlfriend who I see only occasionally. My girlfriend says it doesn't matter whether I come home one day late, one hour later or even one minute later. The thing that bothers her isn't the time, its the fact that I would consider going on a trip with my friends instead of coming home to spend time with her after being apart for such a long period of time.\n\nIn my opinion, this isn't a matter of priorities. I just wanted to hang out with some friends during a ski trip before I spend my 40 days at home. I keep trying to express this to my girlfriend, but she is just so hurt. I don't know what to do or think\n\n​\n\nAITA????", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LOZPQWQ4iegTYQnKiCHeFqoOd59i5w4D", "post_id": "abqykd", "action": {"description": "cooking meat in the dorm room me and my vegetarian roommate share", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for cooking meat in the dorm room me and my vegetarian roommate share?", "text": "\nSo some backstory. \nCurrently I live in a decent sized dorm room with two roommates. One who hardly shows up, and the individual involved, my vegetarian roommate. \nThis is the first year we\u2019ve been together since I lived elsewhere previously, so it\u2019s only been around 8 month of us sharing a room. \nI come from a very meat eating family, and occasionally my parents send me chicken and such as little presents. This had not been a problem at my old residence, but with my roommate it\u2019s been difficult for me to eat how I normally would have while also respecting her beliefs. \n\nFrom stage 1. she had some \u201cground rules\u201d which I tried to follow best I could. Things like, no keeping meat in the kitchen ( I bought a mini fridge to keep my food separate), don\u2019t cook anything meat involved in the kitchen ( we have a community kitchen a couple floors down, so I would pack up all my food and cook whatever I needed there) just in general when it came to meat, keep it as contained and away from our space as possible.\n\nEarlier this week after coming back from work and having picked up a chicken from home. I messed up and kinda just started cooking. I guess I was just out out it from work, but I grabbed my pots and ingredients and ended up making soup.  Me and my elusive roommate had some and I packed up the rest in my fridge.\n\nI cleaned up as best I could. Wiped all the counters, hand washed everything before a round in the dishwasher.  I removed the pot I had used ( most of the pots and pans were mine) and boxed it away so she wouldn\u2019t have to worry about accidentally using it. But when she came back from classes it didn\u2019t seem to matter how clean the kitchen was. I don\u2019t even know how she knew, my guess is my roommate must have told her, but she got pretty pissed at me. Yelled for a bit before locking herself in her room.\n\nWe haven\u2019t talked in a couple days now, just the passing \u201cHello\u201d before she\u2019s out the door, and when she is here she\u2019s in her room.\nI\u2019ve apologized countless times but I still feel like shit about it.\n\nSo reddit, AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "nWfnxEpVH8Rh7zkq3j4EcjAGxQ4R5KXp", "post_id": "at876t", "action": {"description": "letting my dog eat his own eye boogers", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for letting my dog eat his own eye boogers?", "text": "So my dog is a poodle mix and frequently gets eye crusties that I have to pick off of his face. Whenever I pick them off he really goes after them and licks them off my hand. I don't really see the harm in it, better than wiping them off on the couch or having to get up and throw them in the trash.\n\nMy husband thinks it's super gross and thinks it's really weird that I let the dog eat his eye boogers. I say, they aren't poisonous or anything and he likes them. I've seen the dog eat goose poop, we squirt fish oil in his food, what is the harm in some boogers?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zM9LQpbacVgcj1kKzu4iSc0K6C9kQAI2", "post_id": "ahs08l", "action": {"description": "deleting a photo of my body off of my husbands phone", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for deleting a photo of my body off of my husbands phone?", "text": "This afternoon we attended a child\u2019s birthday party at one of those bounce house play grounds. We were chasing our 2 year old around, climbing on the obstacles. At one point my husband was taking pictures of my butt as I climbed a ladder. When reviewing the photos together this evening I came across the pictures of my butt. There were at least 4. I deleted the one that I thought made my butt look bad. He then asked that in the future I ask his permission prior to deleting a photo off of his phone. I said that I don\u2019t see why that\u2019s necessary when it is a photo of my body. He disagreed and said it was disrespectful for me to do it without asking him despite the fact that he would have no problem deleting it if I were to make that request. I argued that I don\u2019t believe that is a fair expectation as it is a photo of me that made me feel uncomfortable and I believe I have the rights to do as I please with that image regardless of whichever device it is on. That I don\u2019t care whether he would want to delete it or not because it is me and it\u2019s my right to delete it. To be clear he takes photos of my body in compromising positions often and I don\u2019t mind. I just didn\u2019t like the picture and didn\u2019t think I needed to ask his permission to do as I please with my image. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fzy0feCaV9SeUvkFqtChUb6ir3lW5wRD", "post_id": "ahnyl2", "action": {"description": "changing my mind on being a Fwb with my highschool sweetheart", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for changing my mind on being a Fwb with my highschool sweetheart?", "text": "Backstory: Me and her known eachother since 2006, we tried dating but she ended up liking someone else, years later we talk againband tried dating and she still likes her ex, so i stop talking to her, found out by a mutual friend she had a kid with him, then ffw she messages me and asks me to hang out, me thinking she matured because nowbshes a mom i said yes, we hang out she tells me how she feels sorry etc. And shes been wanting to sleep with me for a while. And i told her let me think about it, later on i message her saying sure since im not dating anyone and been on a dry spell, i said why not. But ever since what she did to me and seeing her Snapchat her going out with her friends at bars skipping on days we are supposed to hang out, i honestly changed my mind not only because of that but im also a hopeless romantic and i know imma end up being attached so i messaged her saying i dont wanna go thru with this, if im ever going to sleep with someone its going to be someone who wants a relationship with me, she replies that am an asshole and so on. \nShe just wanted to be FWB nothing more. She clearly said that to me, am i the asshole for changing my mind??", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "G8sv38VimZ5LnFPkDmwjprVlT2P6B5rZ", "post_id": "a51jzl", "action": {"description": "cutting ties with friends that dont care I got robbed", "pronormative_score": 19, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for cutting ties with friends that dont care i got robbed", "text": "So i have a friend group and two of my friends A and B and i are really close and have been friends a long time, friend C and I haven\u2019t been friends as long but I thought we were close too, about a month ago i had a party at my house when my parents went out of town (im 18 years old and my parents knew about the party) my parents have video surveillance in certain rooms of the house and it turns out friend C stole over $1000 cash out of my parents room, i questioned friend C and he said my parents are rich and it shouldn\u2019t matter, obviously i am not friends with friend C anymore... now whats messed up is friend A and B who ive been friends with since middle school dont seem to think its a big deal and say they dont want to pick sides and still hangout with friend C regularly, i told friend A and B that if they want to hang out with friend C and dont care that friend C robbed my parents, i no longer want to speak to them... AITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 19, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 19, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gOUI1lNSHnNNTlJZW8liw0p7zou0Y00C", "post_id": "ar9vx2", "action": {"description": "pointing out tensions between my BF and his employee", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for pointing out tensions between my BF and his employee?", "text": "Woo boy, so my BF and I have been seeing each other for a year. He definately downplays our situation to the ladies and whomever else. On the other hand he has brought me into his fold wi th people close to him. We are not \"Facebook offical\"or anything. He does all the classic gaslight ish shit of protecting his phone, tell me I am \"tripping\" about stuff. I have learned to mostly keep my \"insecurities\" under my hat because we are old (me 47 him 54). He is a public figure and I get that appearing single is easier in life or whatever. Also, he has been married 3 times. Now I dont think he is a cheater but he definately \"works\" people with his charms.  So we go to this conference because he has a nice room in a nice hotel comped. He has his two employees there. I walk into the hotel and reintroduce myself to his one employee. She thinks I am a conference goer and I tell her \"I am here with x\". Her face melted right in front of me. It was so awkward. We went out for drinks later and she was sitting across from him leaning in the whole time. I don't drink and maybe they were just sloppy but I was really uncomfortable with the tension. I told him, that  the intensity of th e eye contact between hima and his employee made me really uncomfortable and he did th e classic thing of saying I am tripping. Now, he told me numerous times that he is trying to get her on full time so she can leave her husband. I thought it was weird that he is involved with th is part of her life but he is a do gooder. He tells me, we share stories... I ask him why he doesn't share stories about me with her about ME and I got told to fuck off. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9P2jQzpTEZVL2TxDX8fYhfzZ3OplvYmW", "post_id": "agke34", "action": {"description": "calling someone out on this (in my opinion) toxic behaviour", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For calling someone out on this (in my opinion) toxic behaviour?", "text": "Image post will be at the bottom.\n\nSo,  my friend has this annoying habbit of posting frown emotes and nothing  else, of course prompting people to ask her whats wrong. It's a childish  move, but not a sin by any stretch of the imagination.\n\nHowever,  when you post \"goodbye\" with no other context, then refuse to answer  your phone or comment when people start calling to ask if you are  alright, I think we move beyond childish into downright emotional  terrorism. I called 5 times in a panic before waking someone else up (current roommate) to go check on her, at midnight.\n\nShe  is sad because her roommate is moving out over what everyone I know  (even the people who don't like my post) agree are issue that the girl  in red caused through her OCD, and plain selfish behaviour. She made it  difficult for the person who had moved in (as a favour to her to help  her make rent in a nice building) to stay, to the point where she's not  leaving. Figured that backstory is important.\n\nAnyways,  this vague \"goodbye\" post sent me over the edge a bit. I have people  who agree it was the right thing to do, and one person saying I was  being an asshole... which made me think of this sub. Figured it's always  good to get a second (or 5th) opinion, so here's what I posted on her  wall. Am I the asshole here?\n\n[https://i.imgur.com/rgB1h1l.png](https://i.imgur.com/rgB1h1l.png)\n\nEDIT:  And I feel I should clarify, the reason it was posted to her wall and  not a message is because I felt her friends who saw that goodbye post  and were worried needed to see it as well. It can be difficult for  people to confront someone on their frankly shitty behaviour, but I find  when someone else brings it up and starts the dialogue, it gets others  to be more forward about it as well. If it was just me, she might brush  it off as me just being crazy. If her friends agree, she might actually  look at her actions and change them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "z0YIbqbhoL5yDwPgjaHlHOEsFOJyYLwl", "post_id": "amijaw", "action": null, "title": "AITA My ex best friend found a new boyfriend and started spreading lies about me", "text": "So me and this guy, call him jerry, have been best friends for almost a decade. Recently, about 6 months ago, he got a boyfriend, call him Ben. Obviously I was happy for him at first then I found out Ben had never left Jerry's house.\n\nWithin 4 months I noticed that jerry stopped showing up to plans we made, and dropped college all together. In general I. Couldnt get in touch with him. It ends up that Ben had moved in with jerry and Jerry's mum without the mum's approval. In the past 4 months they hadn't spent more than 8 hours apart. \n\nOnce I finally got to talk to Jerry alone and ask him if he was okay with every thing that had happened, he actually told me he hates that Ben never leaves, and that he just wanted some alone time. So I told him that he should tell Ben this and take the time he needed. \n\nAnother few weeks passed with jerry not making contact with me or his other friends first, and even blanking messages we sent to him and I find out Ben has still not left his house.\n\nNow I'm a big believer in live and let live, I mostly figure if people really want something to happen they will make it happen, but it was getting to the point I wasn't sure if Jerry was willing to be in this situation, I was fearing he was in an abusive or controling relationship. \n\nAgain, I tried to talk to Jerry alone, and now he's changed his tune. Suddenly he was very happy and never wanted Ben to leave. \n\nI even asked Ben once when I was at Jerry's house, why he didn't leave, or want to spend time apart, and Ben told me he didn't trust jerry enough to leave, \"Im always afraid he'll rethink us and want to leave me\" \n\nThis cemented the idea it was toxic in my mind, so I knew I'd have to bring it up carefully. But I kinda blew it.\n\nA month ago, I found out Jerry and Ben were officially engaged. I messaged jerry asking why he hadn't told me, and why he wasn't talking to me or his other friends (as over those last 5 months he still hasn't reached out to anyone or hung out with anyone without them fighting tooth and nail for it) I also began asking about things like prenups, and Living situations. I asked about these things to make him see that 6 months was not enough to know someone. \n\nI'll admit I did say these things in a harsh way and I can understand why jerry then decided to block my messages on facebook. But we had said worse to each other before and always talked things out, so I figured he would eventually reach out to me and i could apologise.\n\nHowever another month passed and there was no contact, so my other friend (Vincent) messaged Ben saying that we all just wanted to hear from jerry first hand if he was happy and content, then we would all drop it. \n\nWhat you need to know is I had been told by a mutual friend of Jerry and I, that Ben had Jerry's phone at all times and jerry was not \"aloud it\" so to say. This is what sparked Vincent to message Ben. \n\nNow a lot of shit happened after Vincent's message, bit basically jerry said he was happy and to leave him alone and that has wanted no further contact with anyone. While Ben also told vincent that I accused jerry of touching me up (which I didn't) and I acussed jerry or wanting to have sex with me (I also didn't).\n\nSo I found out Jerry had been spreading lies about me, and telling people I had done things to him that simply wasn't true. At this point I finally gave up on mine and jerrys friendship, and sent him a text calling him an ass for speeding lies and blocked him on everything. \n\nI will never be able to be friends with him again but I just need to know, AITA in this situation? \n\n\n\n \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JkcH6YgE3oJzGXOhXhMDd4KZ1ILSoHxm", "post_id": "a8m2jo", "action": {"description": "telling a girl breaking up with me to \"get the fuck out of my car\"", "pronormative_score": 59, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl breaking up with me to \"get the fuck out of my car\"?", "text": "Last night I had the last date with a girl that I have had 3 dates with. We first started talking about 10 days ago, through a friend of a friend. The 3 days we had had, counting last night, went perfectly well. We got along, and didnt argue or disagree very often. \n\nLast night she stopped me in her driveway, at the end of driving her home, to say that things were not working. She then proceeded to tell me why, clarifying that I am \"unattractive\" to her, as well as lacking a satisfying kiss on our last date. That every guy she had ever kissed she had felt \"something\", and that with me she felt \"absolutely nothing\". I really didnt respond besides nodding or chuckling to myself as I felt more and more insulted. \n\nEventually she told me I should say something, I responded \"what do you want me to say, I thought things went great, just get out of my car\". She ignored my statement and started to repeat herself about how she does not like my personality, which I will say again, I did not criticize her or really even comment. After about 5 more minutes of being berated I said \"were done here, get the fuck out of my car\".\n\nShe wanted to be friends with me after this \"break up\", and I knew that would never work. But I still dont understand how her criticism would have led to that. \n\nAlright, I can give some more context in comments if anyone wants it, but AITA", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 57, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 59, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HdCrAqIteG8TlEB6AkQCTYn6ZKnXXP0k", "post_id": "9xtv5y", "action": {"description": "getting up when my dog was on my leg", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for getting up when my dog was on my leg?", "text": "I was laying in bed and my dog was resting his head on my leg, but I realized I had left my phone downstairs, so I got up and went downstairs to get it. But now my dog is on the other side of the bed and not looking at me, and I feel kinda bad. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IYmJxLpaokKArGr8TIHU0AnVaC80d59Y", "post_id": "a7dey7", "action": {"description": "distancing myself because I'm tired of best friend's problems", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for distancing myself because I'm tired of best friend's problems?", "text": "Long time lurker, this is a throwaway account etc.\n\n​\n\nI (27F) and my best friend (27F) have known each other for the better part of 10 years. \n\nAll of her problems can be summed up as lack of communication skills. Sucks, but not terribly hard to fix but she goes through the unending cycle of \"I want to change -> I can't change -> What is wrong with staying in my comfort zone?\". What's worse is that whenever I get the least bit confrontational, she runs away / closes off. For the last 1-2 years, her problems have affected her professionally (getting into trouble with her boss and coworkers), mentally (incl. suicidal thoughts) and health wise (her abusive BF refuses to let her use the air purifier because he hates the noise but insists on smoking inside the apartment despite her asthma), so I've pushed her more strongly to change but all she does is run to new friends who are less familiar with her problems and more likely to just compensate for her (like writing her emails for her).\n\n​\n\nRecently, we met up for supper and when it became explicitly clear that nothing had changed and nothing would change, I told her outright that I was getting tired of it all. She insisted that although she understood how I felt, as a true friend, it was my job to comfort her no matter what her choices were. Taken aback, I immediately argued that wouldn't a true friend tell you the truth as it is and actively help you out of your problems? But she insists that no, and moved on to a different subject.\n\n​\n\nShe's an adult, she can make her own decisions but I am emotionally spent and can't deal with it anymore. If she is hellbent on destroying herself because it is comfortable, I don't see why I should have to hold her hand through it. I have made the decision to become a more \"superficial\" friend and avoid heavy subjects with her. She clearly values herself less than I do her, so what's the point?\n\n​\n\nTLDR; I'm tired of being my friend's psychoanalyst especially when she doesn't listen to advice so I want to distance myself, but she insists that if I were a \"true\" friend I would comfort her no matter what she decides to do. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y8wggoD5xgc99RR6cDdpacnV5Rf1Kyyl", "post_id": "aqqifn", "action": {"description": "feeling this way about my friend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for feeling this way about my friend?", "text": "Back in december my friend and I agreed that we'd go to a music festival in may of 2019. I told him that it might overlap our senior prom, but he said he was fine with that, so we agreed to buy tickets for the festival.\n\nWe both bought tickets, 200 dollars each.\n\nW while after that, I confirmed with him that he'd still go, despite prom. He said he'd for sure go.\n\nA few weeks ago, he said he might not actually go since he really wants to go to prom with his girlfriend.  He asked me if I'd still go without him. Since nobody else listens to the music that would be at the festival, and its a 14 hour drive, I said I wouldn't. He then said he'd for sure go, and that it wasn't that big of a deal.\n\nJust today, he told me he's pulling out. \n\nThis really upset me for a few reasons, 1. I spent 200 dollars on a ticket, and it's nonrefundable. I'd either have to commit insurance fraud, or sell the ticket within a few days of receiving it (since I receive the ticket so close to the date of the festival). So, I might not get a refund for it. 2. He reassured me multiple times that he'd go on this trip with me. I've been super stoked about it since december when we bought the tickets.\n\nAm I the asshole for being pissed at my friend?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6vDnNS4Xn9r8e5CHwrz4OYlj7T9UmA8Y", "post_id": "aiawbf", "action": {"description": "not liking what my parents get me for christmas", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not liking what my parents get me for christmas?", "text": "This is a huge first world problem and a while ago, but I'll post it anyways.  \n\n\nSo a little Backstory: I always were into gaming and nerdy stuff. There is a ton of it online and every time I see something like a figure of star wars or something like that I instantly want it. Looks cool, but mostly not gonna buy it since they can be quite pricey.  \n\n\nMy Parents never really wanted to get me anything like that. As long as I can remember they didn't want me to play video games and always were mad at me when I played them. Naturally now that changed since I was 18, but they still did it in the past and their attitude didn't change about it.  \n\n\nWe had a couple of weeks before Christmas a talk about what to get me for Christmas. My sister got a Mountain Backpack for her trip with her BF to Sri Lanka. And that was about 170 \u20ac for that. So OFC, I give them some tips and clues on what to get me. They reply that I need to give them more detailed information about what to get, since they don't want to get something for me that I won't like again, because that happened before, because they refuse to get me something I actually want. I reply, that they can just as well give me cash, since telling someone exactly what you want for Christmas ruins it. They say ok, they'll deal with it.  \n\n\nFast forward to Christmas eve. I'm German, here we celebrate @ the 24th after eating dinner. Everything was set up, and the exchange began. Keep in mind that for the first time since about 3-4 years, I couldn't get anyone anything since I didn't have a job. So we start, my sister gets her enormous backpack, her BF gets her a trip they can go on together (they love traveling together), my dog gets a couple of new toys and then me. I get a box which some could carry an umbrella or some sort of yoga Mat. My parents get their presents and I open mine up.   \n\n\nThey got me a dart Mat. Something you put under the dart board, so you know how far to stand away from it and it protects the ground. Only thing is, that this was completely unnecessary, since my parents knew that the rug in my room already was the oldest in the house and needed no protection and I already googled the recommended distance from the board and marked it with duct tape. So my parents basically got me something I absolutely had no need for.  \n\n\nOn top of that, it's worth about 10\u20ac and my father even told me that he just stumbled upon it. So they weren't even searching.  \n\n\nI always try to give my giftees (if thats a word) something they wouldn't get themselves, thats like rule no.1 for gifting things, but they still like. My father is into cars for example and I got him a mug of a VW T1 that shows its insides if you warm it up.  \n\n\nI've been thinking about it and every time I try to bring it up with my parents my mother tries to make me feel guilty, saying things like \"another gift wasted\" or \"I knew you wouldn't like it\"  \n\n\nCan't seem to think anything other than my parents wanting to shove it in my face that I didn't want to give them specific directions on what to get me and wanted to punish me for it.  \n\n\nWhat do you think guys, AITA for being a spoiled brat?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XF03THmQzL2fGNFjITKv4bWhaE8HT8Vb", "post_id": "ary4w4", "action": {"description": "ruining the alcohol to end my roommate's party early", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for ruining the alcohol to end my roommate\u2019s party early?", "text": "\nToo long, did not read: My roommate made fun of me and took my charger. Then I mixed his alcohol with water to make it useless for his party that night.\n\nBackground:\nI (21m) am a chemistry major at  a university.  To cut costs I decided to become roommates with another student (23m). Just as fate would have it, he is the popular \u201cguy\u201d at our campus and throws alcohol parties regularly. There are about 5-10 people over each Sunday to party aged from 20-24 (legal drinking age is 21 here).\n\nNow let\u2019s get to the story:\nOn Sunday morning I asked my roommate if he was going to throw another party, and the answer was yes. I told him that I was sick of all his parties and that I had to leave for work early. He told me that he could not change his plans and I should have told him earlier. I threatened to complain to the university that he was serving minors alcohol and then he lost his shit and called me a sissy and made funny of me because I had no friends. He then stormed outside and took my computer\u2019s charger with him. I am usually pretty chill but this made me lose my cool and I decided to get his liquor out and I mixed his alcohol with water so that they could not get drunk that night and make my roommate look uncool. The party rolls around at about 10:00 and after a while they realize that the alcohol has gone bad and leave our flat to go to another party. My roommate has not given back my charger yet and he knows that I need my computer to work (had to borrow my friend\u2019s for today. Am I the Asshole?\n\n*The total value of the alcohol was about $40\n**I made sure that the alcohol was safe and that no one would get sick.\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PRXdXkwW4tZzBvvhTZ2Syt01MjbifZex", "post_id": "asr3jf", "action": {"description": "booking the same holiday destination as my friend's anniversary", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 24}, "title": "AITA for booking the same holiday destination as my friend's anniversary?", "text": "I've recently started dating someone (though we've been friends for a long time) and we decided to take a weekend mini-break, but were having trouble picking where to go. I was having drinks with a friend of mine, and she mentioned that she and her boyfriend were spending their 10 year anniversary in a small town/village, around an hour outside of London. It sounded like the perfect destination, as neither my partner nor I had been before and it was very convenient to get to. \n\nBy coincidence, the weekend we'd chosen to go away was the same as my friend's anniversary trip. My partner asked if I thought they might have a problem with us going to the same town on the same weekend as them. I said it wouldn't have bothered me in the reverse situation, and I doubted they'd care either. Yes, it's a small town, but we weren't booking the same hotel or anything. I doubted we'd bump into each other. \n\n   We booked the trip and I mentioned it the next time I saw my friend. She froze, went very quiet, and became awkward for the rest of the evening. That night, I received a long, angry, text from her (usually, very placid) boyfriend. He said he couldn't understand why I'd chosen to book the same holiday as them, and that I had in effect ruined their anniversary. He also claimed that they when I'd mentioned I was looking for a place to go, they specifically asked me to chose somewhere else, though I honestly have no recollection of this. I think they were mainly upset that I'd decided to take someone I've been dating for two months on the same trip they'd planned for a significant anniversary. \n\n I called to apologise, and he did accept, though he also insisted on providing me with an itinerary of the restaurants they'd booked over the weekend so we could make sure we'd avoid being in the same place at the same time as them. \n\n​\n\nWe spent the entire weekend on edge, worried we'd bump into them, and frankly it ended up spoiling our trip since we were so anxious about it.     \n\n   \n\nAITA for booking the same holiday as my friend's anniversary? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 16, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 24}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "MVlWxuTQdNMtt9Z4k5q4iDboTcoX9SXY", "post_id": "ascdnv", "action": {"description": "sending rent money to my cousin", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for sending rent money to my cousin?", "text": "I get student finance for going to university in the UK but I also work part time in a grocery store.\n\nMy cousin lives in Asia and is working full time and just to help her out I send her some money every month just so she doesn't struggle. It's usually not a lot but it helps with her rent.\n\nMy friend and I got into a conversation about student finance and I told her about the money I send over. She told me that I shouldn't be doing that since it's wrong and basically embezzlement. \n\nI don't really understand why it's so wrong since a lot of the students here spend it on nights out and alcohol. I told her that I'd rather help my family than spend it on something stupid.\n\nBut she got really angry because her parents essentially pay for the money I get and I'm just sending it abroad and at least the money being spent on nights out and alcohol are going back into the country. But when I graduate I'll have to pay the loans off anyway, so it's not like I'm just taking the money?  \n\n\nShe told me to apologise to her since her parents work so hard for the money they earn and I told her that wasn't going to happen because I can do what I want with my money.   \n\n\nAITA? I really don't think I am but people pay so much towards taxes and work so hard for their money.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lSamCk0eyqqBh68iJKr9g0YqBuQcPmTl", "post_id": "aeb1ve", "action": {"description": "hating my 8 year old nephew", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA For hating my 8 year old nephew", "text": "My sister and 8 year old nephew moved in with us a couple of months ago because another one of her relationships didn't work out.  It's the same story with her every time.  Since moving in she got a job and my wife just graduated and started her career, so I am full time student/full time caregiver right now.  The problem I have is my nephew is the whiniest little shit I have ever met in my life.  He shoots my 2&1/2 year old with a Nerf gun then balls like his arm just got broke when he gets shot back.  He never listens to anything anyone says, throws massive tantrums, and literally just sucks at life.  I had so much fun these past couple of years raising my son while my wife focused on school and now I just want to get two jobs to get out of the house.  \n\nMy new daily schedule is basically half the day repeating the same there sentences over and over to my nephew, and half the day pulling my hair out because he doesn't listen.  \n\nThe worst part is, my kid looks up to his older cousin and is starting to act like him.  He was a super happy, really chill, creative toddler.  Now he's starting to act like his cousin because my sister gives in to his tantrums.  I'm at my wit's end with this little shit and I believe he may be the first person I have ever hated this much.  \n\nNow before anyone tells me this is how kids are and all that crap. I love kids, I volunteered at elementary schools, babysat younger cousins, abd I'm even the adult who entertains the children at the family get together because I have more fun with kids than adults at those things.  However I have never in my life seen a kid this annoying in my life.  I truly want to know, AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gGEoOJRDebEXjkfJq1PNL3tKoo9ruJUt", "post_id": "alp237", "action": {"description": "not helping a guy I barely know get on a late bus list", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not helping a guy I barely know get on a late bus list?", "text": "\n\nA little info about how I met this guy is when I moved to my current highschool, and we just happened to be at the same bus stop. We didn't really get to know each other, we just talked about memes 'n shit (sounds kind normie, I know). And hell, I didn't even know his name for the first few months.\n\nSo anyway, a few weeks ago he walked up to me and we started talking.\n\nHim: Hey Vann! Can you do me a favor at school?\n\nMe: yeah sure bro, depends on what it is.\n\nSo he asked me to sign him up for a late bus because he had to do something for ROTC I think. I thought it was a doable task, but then I got to asking for the details of where the list is.\n\nMe: alright who's the teacher's name and what's the room number?\n\nHim: I don't remember\n\nMe: *Wtf.jpeg* Well uh. I kinda need that information to help you.\n\nHim: well I don't remember! You can find it, it isn't that hard to find in the English hallway!\n\nI'm autistic, I get REALLY overwhelmed when I'm given a thing to do and I don't know where I'm going. I just end up cowering back to a place where I'm comfy and not doing what I was told to do.\n\nSo of course I tried to explain that I can't help him without knowing where I'm going. He proceeded to get an attitude like I was in the wrong, which made me feel terrible.\n\nHe ended up asking someone else who's in the same class as him and he got on the late bus.\n\n\nSummary: This one guy I quote memes with asks me to sign him up for a late bus, didn't tell me where I had to go, then made me feel bad when I couldn't help him.\n\nSo tell me Reddit, AITA? This has been stuck at the back of my mind since this happened a few weeks ago.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "C5dQjV6fPkN8qLhxJTYQH8khC8lKQ9zh", "post_id": "axnzlg", "action": {"description": "telling my brother he made a racist comment to my girlfriend and should apologize", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my brother he made a racist comment to my girlfriend and should apologize?", "text": "She is Vietnamese and everybody else in the story is white. For context she grew up within an hour from us, English as first language, and has the same accent as us. I brought her back to the apartment (I live with my brother and two friends in a four bedroom apartment) and introduced my girlfriend to my brother's girlfriend in the kitchen. Everything went well. I told my brother previously that my girlfriend was president at three minority organizations while at college, so she would be unlikely to find certain comments humorous. We walked into his room and I introduced her. Her name is a very common Vietnamese name and is a short, easy to pronounce, one syllable name.   \n\nHe responds \"Chang?\"   \n\nIt got pretty quiet, I made a nervous chuckle and said \"No, her name is x.\" She gives me a look that anybody can read which is basically did that really just happen?   \n\nHe responds \"Chong?\"   \n\nI told him \"Stop.\" His girlfriend nudged his shoulder and told him to stop as well. I'm pretty sure my girlfriend just said \"wow\" or something similar quietly under her breath.   \n\nHe responds \"Ching?\"   \n\nUnfortunately this isn't a made up story. I really wish it was. At that point we just walked away. But now six months later he continues to make rude comments. He toes the line on what I'd say is racist because if we react in anyway he can just say we are overreacting. Just this morning he was mad and saying I've changed and get so offended so easily. I told him to stop insulting us and being so aggressive. He responded with \"Come at me\" \"Threaten me\" \"Its too late\" \"She can eat Sushi\".   \n\nI'm not well versed on social race issues. My girlfriend and I don't always agree on things, but that to me is another racist comment. I tried to explain it to my mom as well as brother how that's racist. My mom thinks its a dumb little thing that we should just get over. I don't think so. It's constant little comments like that. He's just trying to make it tame enough to claim we're overreacting. To me though that is the equivalent to if my girlfriend was black and he said \"She can eat watermelon\" or \"she can eat fried chicken\". It's not cool to me and I want it to stop. He goes about a week of not saying anything horrible and then he just goes off for a day or two. He's always had anger issues but to me he's just being a racist asshole to my girlfriend and then goes in for a second attack if we say anything at all about the first not being cool.   \n\nReddit, am I the asshole for wanting him to stop making comments on her race, stop attacking us for not being okay with his comments, and for him to apologize for the racist comments he's already made? I know he doesn't believe that minorities are below white people or anything supremely racist like that, but his comments are still racist right?   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "I9z5rSkrENqlsHUNr91POZhNStruSOSS", "post_id": "a0apdu", "action": {"description": "posting amateur work on r/piano and", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for posting amateur work on r/piano and...", "text": "So on r/piano i posted a short little piece of music that i came up with in video form. I'm actually a drummer, and i mentioned this, and i phrased the video as being some casual stuff for fun. The video clearly shows some bad/amateur piano playing, but it sounds pretty good to me by ear, and i think i have a pretty good ear for music. Obviously, that's subjective.\n\nSome dude constructively critiqued \"less pedal/reverb?\" verbatim. (I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt that he was consciously being constructive)\n\nI responded verbatim: \"Nah, the reverb hides my mistakes. It sounds good to me\"\n\nSome down votes gave me the impression that r/piano didn't like what i said.\n\nAITA?\n\nAnd for those curious, the piece in question: https://youtu.be/AtZZUYpf4MI", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lZ50K8cv1vtQAUwk5KdzFhMyLLSTiFy0", "post_id": "almqhe", "action": {"description": "trying to wish my teacher a happy birthday", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for trying to wish my teacher a happy birthday?", "text": "I'm in high school in a class that no one really cares about except me and a few of my friends. This leads to a lot of the students being impartial to the teacher since they are forced to be there, creating a sense of \"we don't like you and this class sucks\" for my teacher. Today before class started we saw a few other teachers give our teacher a giant teddy bear. I thought it was because it was my teacher's birthday because she didn't look sad and because I had no idea what else a giant teddy bear could mean. Class ends and its just me and a few of my friends straggling behind with me when I get the great idea to say \"What is the teddy bear for? Is it your birthday?\" while smiling like some kid who found a hundred dollars on the street. She pauses for a bit then says it's because her mother is **terminally ill** and she just found out recently. Well F\\*\\*\\*. No one really knows what to say and we all start leaving. I try to mend it with a \"hope your mom gets better\" and slowly gtfo. My friends are now blaming me for being an inconsiderate asshole but I had no knowledge of her mom and was just trying to make her day better. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LTw3KKd8yZ2eEBq63cQVW9zdf0xPg9yJ", "post_id": "b0viox", "action": {"description": "leaving my boyfriend of two years after he told me he has cancer", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 98}, "title": "AITA for leaving my boyfriend of two years after he told me he has cancer?", "text": "He told me over the phone this past Friday. He has testicular cancer but I can't remember most of what he said after that. I just told him that I don't want to see him anymore. He kept pressing me for a reason and I told him i can't handle anyone else in my life dying of cancer. I lost my brother to it when he was 13. It just keeps bugging me, but I think I have to look out for my own mental health first. I can't handle that anymore.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 97, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 3}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 98}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "QbYUWTpXOYBUwiRMZXHIwYAcsIYrEn5i", "post_id": "b61phb", "action": {"description": "telling my mom not to adopt any more children", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom not to adopt any more children?", "text": "First post bear with me. For context, my mom is 48 years old and over the past few years has been in a couple accidents which have left her with severe back pain and what I believe ( I'm not phycologist) is pain related depression. Now she already has 3 kids. My brother (31) myself (21) and my little sister who was adopted just a few years ago (7). We also currently have in our home a year and a half old baby, who as far as anyone can tell, will almost certainly go up for adoption within the next few months because her deadbeat parents are finally get there parental rights terminated. Now, over the course of fostering this wonderful baby, my mom's back problems have gotten worse and worse, and as a result of that, I and my SO have taken more and more work on for her. Nothing to wild mostly just the heavy lifting and we watch the baby and take care of it a few days a week. Neither of us have any problem doing this AT ALL. My SO and myself love the child, and if we were able, we would raise it ourselves. But we are both to young and not anywhere near financially stable enough to give it the home it deserves. As well as that within the next 2 years we will be moving away to go to college, about 2 hours from our home town. So we cannot keep helping indefinitely. My mom has told us repeatedly that she isn't sure she could do it without us, but she love the baby and wants it to have a good home, and she is very aware of how messed up the adoption system can be here in the U.S and worry's about where the kid could end up. My conclusion with all this information in mind is that she should not adopt the baby, and I have told her so. Doing so was extremely hard, because like I said above I do very much love this kid, but I don't think my mom can go it alone, and I'm soon simply not able to help her. Telling her this honestly broke my heart and hers. Am I an asshole for playing the devil's advocate? I would also like to note she isn't completely alone, but my dad works a job where he is gone 6 months of the year at a time.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XJIw390ywxNA4IdpFm3Db05bBEPniud0", "post_id": "b8kton", "action": {"description": "cooking for my male coworker", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 32}, "title": "AITA for cooking for my male coworker?", "text": "I have a coworker friend who I made spaghetti for a few days ago. My boyfriend met him a few weeks ago at a bowling event thing for my job and he seemed to like him fine when they met. \n\nThis coworker and I have gotten pretty close over the past year and we\u2019ve been teasing each other back and forth about me cooking spaghetti. I\u2019m 3rd generation Italian American and I\u2019ve brought spaghetti to work events 3 times but he always missed it because he was at school or out of the store for some reason or another.\n\nSo we\u2019ve had this ongoing joke about me making spaghetti for him. So a few days ago he randomly texted me and asked about it and I had the ingredients so I made him basically a pot of spaghetti. \n\nI told my boyfriend about it when my coworker texted me to say how good it was and he got pissy with me about it. Now suddenly he has an issue with me having picked up this coworker and driven him to work a few times and with he and I having lunch together and apparently he came to our job once and saw us hug and he\u2019s been upset about it for months. \n\nThe one thing that I\u2019ll admit is fair is that at work there\u2019s an ongoing joke in the store that me and this coworker will get married and have pretty babies together but this was started by an old lady who works there and it\u2019s just good fun. I haven\u2019t been totally innocent because at work we are flirty and I guess sometimes I have gotten a bit too close but I never crossed a line.\n\nI feel like he\u2019s just dumping a bunch of unreasonable emotions on me. I haven\u2019t cheated. \n\nTl;dr- my boyfriend found out I made another guy spaghetti and all of sudden has issues with my friendship with him that he\u2019s held grudges about for like a year. Am I in the wrong here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 30, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 32}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "F6khV7WAY5rqI6T87I56eqkaDmr5GnVO", "post_id": "al4lx2", "action": {"description": "not telling my boyfriend about my vibrator", "pronormative_score": 50, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for not telling my boyfriend about my vibrator", "text": "I got a really awesome vibrator a few months back and didn\u2019t tell my boyfriend. I would use  from time to time and at one point I fell asleep using it, and when I woke up I totally forgot I left it in the bed. Later he came to me with it and asked what it was, he thought it was a vape and tried to hit it, which still I think is kinda funny. I told him what it was of course and he was like super hurt. I didn\u2019t think it would hurt his feelings, but he explained that it sucked I didn\u2019t tell him, and he felt kinda like it made him feel inferior. I can tell it still fucks with him, I feel like a dick. Am I the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 37, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 13, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 50, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "QmAFMRjJoCnvfrNqglgog0x2FMko6DU5", "post_id": "b7odtl", "action": {"description": "charging my friend the going rate to fix/replace his door", "pronormative_score": 40, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for charging my friend the going rate to fix/replace his door?", "text": "So my friend's door is broken and needs it fixed/replaced, I'm in trades so it'd be easy enough for me to fix, however I told him I would charge him the going rate as I would my customers. It's not like he's never done things for me, he's always super generous sharing beers, offering rides and all that. \n\nMy reasoning is that he's in a band and I always pay FULL price for tickets to see his shows. I only see it as fair that he pay full price for my job as well \n\nHe was little taken aback when I said I'd charge him the going rate, I tried explaining that I'm using my tools and my time and if I get injured I'm out of work. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 34, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 40, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SFzN6zSMGolyeePbFQCP5BqaXb8B0GLi", "post_id": "aws6rm", "action": {"description": "telling people my first language is English", "pronormative_score": 48, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for telling people my first language is English?", "text": "I am half-Japanese, half-white, living in Tokyo. I get compliments on \u201chow good my English is\u201d, mostly from Americans. The thing is, I was born and raised in California, I am absolutely *not* fluent in Japanese (my mom moved from Tokyo with my dad and never bothered to teach me or my sister), and Japanese people think I am full white. \n\nI used to just thank people because I didn\u2019t want to embarrass them. Like, I look vaguely Japanese and I\u2019m living in Japan, so naturally they would conclude I am full Japanese.  But then it turned into natural questions of \u201cDid you study abroad in America?\u201d or \u201cDo you study English at [my Japanese university]?\u201d and even more compliments like \u201cYou have no accent!\u201d or \u201cYou sound like a native speaker!\u201d I would have trouble coming up with reasons why I have a perfect American accent while speaking English, and it would basically become very apparent that I was lying, and it would make everyone, including me, extremely uncomfortable. \n\nRecently, someone complimented me on my English, and instead of thanking them, I said \u201cOh, English is my first language, I was born and raised in America\u201d and laughed a little. My friend pulled me aside later and said I had been rude about it. I just don\u2019t know how to handle this compliment. AITA for saying English is my first language?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 40, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 8, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 48, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zmviYPt9Q1IPCYN8Uz98Or9oSIdbiONT", "post_id": "ayp0ev", "action": {"description": "wanting my gf to get an abortion", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for wanting my GF to get an abortion?", "text": "Throwaway acc. Technically asking for a friend.\n\nI have a friend ('James') that is currently 20. He was active on tinder, and a girl that he met on there ('Emma') got pregnant. They practiced  safe sex- the pill & condoms. James wants Emma to get an abortion,  and she says she isn't sure if she wants to do that. They had this massive argument over it. Details below, TLDR summary at bottom.\n\nJames is an international student, from a wealthy background. His tinder profile was pictures of him in sports cars and a pic of him in what is clearly a private jet seat. He has his own apartment and two luxury cars.\n\nWhen they were 'together', Emma would post snap/insta stories that showed the logos of the cars. She would also push him to bring the 'sports car' when they went out. After she discovered the value of the watches James wore, that too also became a fixture of her snap/IG.\n\nJames' grandparents are conservative Christians, as well as the source of the wealth in the family. James is the oldest grandson so he's expected to eventually take up the family business. This means that he's expected to marry someone from their 'class' and from the home country, preferably someone from a major business partner's family. There may be a racial aspect here too- while some of his relatives married spouses from other 'races', they were all from the same 'class', and weren't in line to inherit.\n\nIf James ends up fathering a child with a foreigner who doesn't benefit the 'family' he'll most likely end up not inheriting. He has a younger brother, two male cousins and a near-genius sister, so the grandparents have alternatives. Taking over the family business one day is very important to James- he's been groomed for it since he was born.\n\nJames doesn't think that his 'relationship' with Emma was anything more than FWB. He continued using tinder after meeting Emma, and his snap stories regularly showed him in close contact with other girls (never anything explicit, but 'close'). His insta account also doesn't have any mention of Emma.\n\nI'm personally involved in this because I told James to get tinder when we were on vacation, and because he's the closest thing I have to a brother. Dickish as his behavior may have been, I don't want him to get his future hurt by this. From a more selfish POV, James inheriting the family business is good for me since I know him far better than his brother/cousins.\n\nTLDR  \nJames thinks Emma is only considering keeping the baby because she knows he is from a wealthy family. Fathering a kid at 20 is not something James wants at all, and doing so out of wedlock and with someone from a foreign country will almost certainly lose him the inheritance/family business. James has also been seeing other women while 'with' Emma.  James wants Emma to have an abortion, Emma was hesitant, and they argued about it.\n\nAFAIK abortions are free where they are at, but James is completely okay with footing the bill.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ll2klYadGBXOvwuDtFtXZEkMCFNaKAgE", "post_id": "9tkxeo", "action": {"description": "getting offended by my husband's porn history", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for getting offended by my husband's porn history?", "text": "I'm going to preface this by saying I have been diagnosed with Anxiety and Depression, both of which I feel are having a pretty big impact on the situation.\n\nSo recently my husband and I were having a discussion about famous singers, and we somehow got to Nicki Minaj. He pointed out how nice her ass looked, to which I responded it is clearly fake and it's actually starting to droop down, looking pretty dang bad recently. The conversation moved to the topic of 'Thick' girls and I started getting uncomfortable. \n\nHe mentioned how he's been wasting his time looking at this instagram page of literally obese girls' asses. I don't think it needs to be said that I find it unattractive and a little bit yucky to allow yourself to gain such a tremendous amount of weight, so I got a bit offended when I realized this is what he finds attractive. \n\nI've put on a good amount of weight recently (I'm very upset about it) and I felt almost as though this interest has been spurred by my sudden weight gain. This may seem completely ungrounded, but I used to be a very thin person and back then his porn was filled with girls even smaller than I was. I'm 100% confident he finds me attractive, but his porn history (which he is very open about) seems to be an exaggeration of what weight I'm at, how long my hair is, my outfit, etc.   \n\n\nI'm very confused, and so is he. He has no idea how I could get offended by what he finds attractive, and I have a hard time vocalizing my worries without coming off as crazy.   \n\n\nAm I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lRm9nYgmLUv2Lh5wo2Y2WvaUS6scng7g", "post_id": "auwfzz", "action": {"description": "telling a girl to go fuck herself", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for telling a girl to go fuck herself?", "text": "Alright so I'm currently backpacking in Thailand right now. I met this cute girl in my hostel, we hit it off and went out and got a couple drinks. When we were leaving the bar, I asked her if she wanted to dance. She said she has to find her friend first but she'd love to dance and that she'd meet me there in about 10 mins.\n\nSo she shows up 2 hours later but whatever, I'll deal with it. I go up and ask her to dance she says she needs to get a drink first. So she goes up gets the drink and walks past me without looking at me. For the rest of the night. Anytime I'm near her she proceeds to go in the exact opposite direction. Even if I'm simply dancing with some friends, she would walk towards us and then see me and walk in the opposite direction. So finally at the end of the night, the parties settling down and I see her and I walk up no longer wanting to dance and told her to go fuck herself and then walked away with my friends.\n\nI wouldn't have minded if she said no to dancing or if she simply said alright I don't wanna dance with you anymore. But it's the fact she went out of her way to avoid me at all times that pissed me off.\n\nTL;DR: Ask girl to dance, she says yes, she avoids me all night, I tell her to go fuck herself.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "vJeRPFDkIeKToFDPyVhJGKlNZoVLzbun", "post_id": "avlgn7", "action": {"description": "being upset with a friend for speaking to an abusive ex friend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "Aita for being upset with a friend for speaking to an abusive ex friend?", "text": "There's this girl. She is my boyfriend's ex. She used to be my best friend. She got jealous easy and we drifted apart (She never responded to me) and I started talking to her bf. We became fast friends and she didn't like it. Despite nothing happening she broke up with him because of it. She also tried to ruin my life over and  over. But I won't go into details. Fastward almost 6 months. I realize I'm polyamorous and I'm dating a grilled that I have been for 2 years and her ex. I realize that the girl is abusing me emotionally and cut it off in a not at all rude way. I take all the blame offer to repay her for everything she ever bought me. Etc. She didn't take it well. But I kept trying to appease her cause she meant alot to me still. So she tells me she's been talking to my now bfs ex. And I'm a bit hurt cause my ex knows this girl has cause me so much pain. But I brush it aside. Later that day. Someone comes into our group chat and drops a screenshot of my bf talking to his ex and her flirting. I went to his dms and asked him what the deal was and if I could have the full convo. Turns out that his ex gave the friend of ours a cropped SS in an attempt to break us up. I slip and mention it to my now ex. She apologizes over and over and I'm confused. The next day. Another Friend approaches me. And send me screenshot after screenshot of the ex's plotting to send the ss and to hurt me. I'm livid and end all communication with my ex there. But not before she told me that she cheated on me with this girl. So it bugged me for a while but she wasn't the cheating type and the girl wasn't gay in the slightest. So we concluded she manipulated her into cheating on me cause she hates my guts. Now. I just found out. One of my close friends still talk to her. And I'm upset but he doesn't understand why......am I in the wrong here? \n\nI can give more details if needed \n\n(Also not everyone agrees with polyamorous people but it was consentual on all sides so idk)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "TlEe4pH7tXGNMeWeYj1yAcB3S5F9p2yT", "post_id": "ama851", "action": {"description": "asking my Boyfriends cousin to stop tagging me in random posts they want to show me on Facebook", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA For asking my Boyfriends cousin to stop tagging me in random posts they want to show me on Facebook?", "text": "Okay so a little bit of backstory to this:\n\nI'm not really a Facebook person but I have one only for the sake of connecting with close family and friends, with that being said I don't personally post a lot but I do on occasion have pictures of happy times in my life like family get togethers and birthday outings. Every now and then I like to look back on them but recently I've run into a bit of a weird issue.\n\nWhen I started doing a while back this I quickly realized that for what ever reason my Bfs cousin who I had added on FB a while back has felt the need to tag me and my bf (along some of his family) in multiple random posts that don't even involve me, and not like photos of their family or stuff but like pictures/videos, quizzes, products, etc. Don't get me wrong I appreciate that they want to show me things that they think I would like to see but my FB timeline looks like a clusterfuck build bored of random junk posts. \n\nI did point it out to my BF but he doesn't mind that his cousin does this as he's more into the things his cousin shows him but did understand my annoyance with the fact my timeline had more posts from his cousin then from me, so I figured I would just un tag myself from the mass of posts that really didn't involve me and if his cousin was truly heart broken about it and asked why I would explain my reasoning. I know I could of told them to stop but I am a very anxious person and I don't like conflict and I figured they would get the message and stop tagging me in all these random posts. It was such a minor thing that I quickly forgot about it and moved on with my life, until the next time I checked my FB and quickly realized they did not get the hint.\n\nOnce again my timeline is flood with these random posts and I'm seriously annoyed now and I want to straight up tell them to stop for the love of god but I'm afraid I'm going to come off as a jerk to his cousin who I know would take it as me not liking them.\n\nSo Reddit I humbly ask you would I be the asshole if I told them to stop?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "VWgAmKweVt2JC6vSXN1z06lQUp7iW2Bt", "post_id": "aufcbu", "action": {"description": "dating other people while on a break with my ex", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for dating other people while on a break with my ex?", "text": "**Short background:** I dated my ex for seven years. About a year ago, I broke up with him because our long-distance relationship was stressing both of us out. He wasn\u2019t good at calling or messaging even once a week and was reliant on me for everything. \n\n​\n\nA year went by. We stayed friends. Things got better. Once he was finally on his own for truly the first time, he grew up, his mental state got better, he was more communicative, and we started falling for each other all over again. Well, shit.\n\n​\n\n**NOW:** I\u2019m in Japan for 17 more months. The two of us have talked about getting back together once that time is over because we\u2019re more in love than ever despite everything. I told him we could think about getting back together in 17 months, and ever since I expressed interest, we\u2019ve essentially been acting like we\u2019re long-distance dating again, despite me lightly reminding him that we aren\u2019t dating yet. \n\n​\n\nBut 17 months is a long time and I don\u2019t really want to be alone for all of it. While he has his support system back home, I have nothing. My friendships here are more shallow, my apartment is owned by my employer, I can\u2019t be in consistent contact with my family or even see them, and everything in my life has an expiration date. I\u2019m lonely. In 17 months I go home and start all over again from scratch, and sometimes thinking about that makes me miserable. \n\n​\n\nI\u2019ve made plans to go on a date. My ex is livid. While he hasn\u2019t explicitly told me that I can\u2019t date anyone else, and he also hasn\u2019t asked me to start dating him NOW, he has this mentality already that he won me back, I am already his, and he doesn\u2019t want me to hang out with other guys. His reaction to hearing that I might go on a date was essentially, \u201cFine, go ahead, do what you want. I don\u2019t like it, but if you have to.\u201d \n\n​\n\nOur friends have expressed that they think I\u2019m not being fair to him- if we\u2019re already acting like a couple, by dating someone else in the meantime, I\u2019m just stringing both guys along because I know I have something easy to fall back on. I don\u2019t see it that way. The guy I MIGHT date knows that our relationship would have an expiration date even if things go well because I don\u2019t want to stay in this country forever, and my ex knows that we aren\u2019t exclusively dating. I\u2019m not doing this behind his back, and I\u2019ve encouraged him since we initially broke up to try seeing other people- he just isn\u2019t interested in trying. I don\u2019t want to be alone for 17 months and \u201csaving myself\u201d for someone I\u2019m not yet officially dating again, but my decision to go on a date is clearly frustrating him. I understand how he feels, but I think that unless he explicitly asks me to be in a relationship with him, I\u2019m going to continue acting like I\u2019m single and enjoying myself.\n\nAm I being cruel and stringing him along without even knowing it, or is it fine to date other people while we\u2019re on a \u201cbreak\u201d because of the long distance?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FtEk2xcdD6oDXNRCwDZ3F5PiH5gsEdzN", "post_id": "b0zi21", "action": {"description": "calling out my girlfriend when she asked me to wake her up and ignored me", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling out my girlfriend when she asked me to wake her up and ignored me?", "text": "So, context because I really don't think my title made much sense.\n\nMy girlfriend is a heavy sleeper and she takes morning classes on college. And last night I asked if she needed help waking up today, she said yes.\n\nSo this morning I called her several times (its always like this when trying to wake her up, even before we were dating her girl friends would have to ring her up several times in a row to wake her up). \n\nBy the second message on WhatsApp and the third time I was calling I knews it could take a while so I put it on speaker and went browsing, opened up instagram and she was online.\n\nSo I just said to her:\n\n-Ok, saw you online and didn't bother picking up the phone or answering my IMs, I will just go back to sleep since I don't really have nothing to do for another one and a half hour.\n\nThis bothered me of course. But I know I could have phrased that better. Still, I don't know what I should do. After that she got pissed at me for, in her words, 'thinking she doesn't care about me'...\n\nAnd now she is feeling like she doesn't reciprocate as much to me and got sad about the whole thing... To give more context, this is not the first time she ignores messages from me for a few hours, but that never bothered me, I do it too, I just never did it when I told her to contact me or I could lose an appointment. This is the only time this bothered me and I think I overreacted.\n\nI think I mishandled the situation, but I need some outside input.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZfTNhqdQRGRnYtoN3GA1dyh4LXoBeOfJ", "post_id": "a6lmm7", "action": {"description": "'sabotaging' my co-intern's project", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 7}, "title": "AITA for 'sabotaging' my co-intern's project", "text": "For a brief background, this was during summer internships, which are a mandatory part of our MBA programs.\n\nSummer internships are an opportunity to get yourself a job offer, much before companies start to come on campus looking for candidates. So you are looking at straight 7-8 months of chilled out life, with a job in hand and no study to do while others are freaking out for placements.\n\nSo here goes: Turns out in our induction that there is an opening in HR analytics(her project) while nothing is mentioned about my area (career management & development). My first intuition is that I have to do well on my part, as well as to derail her to have a shot at the job offer. She doesn't know much about analytics, so that makes my job much simpler, because I can pitch in, talk to partners about her project details and implementation which she cannot do.\n\nI systematically push for being a part of her project too, because of the above mentioned agenda and also the pure interest in working on HR analytics, my somewhat favourite area in HR. I take her data, do my own progress, share nothing with her while she is handcuffed to come to me for help, because it is not her area of expertise. \n\nAfter the mid review, turns out that they are not very keen at looking at technicalities of the implementation and all, which has been somewhat of my focus till now. I get an epiphany that if I do a good job on this, she'll get all the credit(it is her project after all) because no one is bothered about the technical aspects. I tell my manager about it, clarifying clearly that I want something end-to-end(MBA jargon) and that I want out if there isn't anything of that kind. He agrees to me backing out of her project. \n\nSo her project is left in a shabby state, because I derailed her progress, and wasn't obliged to share mine, which I didn't.\n\nIt may turn out that I clearly attempted to sabotage her project, but it was out of the need and self-interest of securing myself a job from my summer internship in a good company and to enjoy my last 7-8 months before shitty corporate life.\n \nSorry for the extremely long read.\n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Nk9WhHqp8he6oeWyqqlgIfoBvCMPP2s8", "post_id": "avz1py", "action": {"description": "ending a friendship", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ending a friendship?", "text": "I had a friend, lets call her T. T was a new friend but we had become really close. She had a bf, K. K had cheated on her and broke up with her. T was a mess. After about a week, she wasn't sad, just angry. What did she do? Found K's new girlfriends Instagram and tried to be her friend, when K told T that he didn't want her talking to his new girlfriend or him, she went berserk.\n\n​\n\nMultiple times, she would go through and comment multiple terrible things on many of her posts. Things like: \"Ugly\", \"Whore\", \"Slut\", \"K is going to cheat on you\", \"K loved me first you bitch\", etc. She would also message her and say the same things. This is already too much for me, but then T would do it in front of me and expect me to laugh with her. I always just kinda sucked it up and gave a few pity laughs before redirecting my attention elsewhere. It made me really uncomfortable.\n\n​\n\nAfter 2 months of that, I made the decision to stop being her friend. I told her what i had planned out after ghosting her for two days, a mistake on my part, and she yelled at me for letting *them* bully *her.* She screamed at me that I was someone who just let bullying happen and that she was \"just standing up for myself.\" That was the last straw and I've avoided her ever since. Anytime she gets the chance though, she makes a giant scene of how I was the one who made a stupid decision and that she was being bullied by them. All her new friends agree with her and also do the same thing. Her old friends and my parents think I did the right thing, but I still feel really guilty over it and think I could've handled it better.\n\n​\n\nTL;DR: T dated a serial cheater and when she got cheated on, verbally attacked K's new girlfriend. When I stopped being her friend and associating with her, suddenly I was the asshole. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "u9QRkRnWWtKuXdOd7J5WB94eajSOn6Rj", "post_id": "atfmst", "action": {"description": "giving my best friend a wakeup call because her daughter must go on a diet, ASAP", "pronormative_score": 26, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "WIBTA if I give my best friend a wakeup call because her daughter must go on a diet, ASAP!", "text": "I and my best friend are friends for more than 12 years. We are neighbors and basically see each other every day. We even were pregnant at the same time, and we both were overweight (238 lbs.). \n\nAfter my second child I decided to lose weight and managed to lose 70, 50 lbs. \n\nBy then, it was already a difficult period, because she doesn\u00b4t (want to?) made the effort and I didn\u00b4t push her. But I was doing so well, that our relationship changed. I had that feeling that she thinks that I am now judging her for not losing weight. I was definitely not. I just changed my eating habits and let cake, snacks and soda untouched, when I was at hers (she didn\u00b4t listen when I told her, that she doesn\u00b4t have to serve me these things, I will not eat/drink i anyway). She even nag once in a while, because of my new behaviour and that I should go easy on that. I just thought she was jealous and didn\u00b4t want to argue about it, but sometimes her comments were just annoying. I just did my thing because I felt great for me, and sorry for her. No need to risk our friendship.\n\nAfter years, our kids grew and it was visible, that her daughter (a few months younger then my son) already struggles with her weight. At one point my friend said herself, that her daughter should lose some weight, she already complains that her feets hurt. The daughter had almost 117 lbs. at the age of 8. \n\nI tried to give some advices, carefully since our relationship is already different since my weight loss. I told her only basic things and offered my help. She was not mad at me, she mentioned it first, but she was neither happy about me not being more supportive in that way she thought I would be (to say things like \u201cshe will grow out of it\u201d, \u201cwhen it starts to border her, she will lose weight on her own\u201d). \n\nNeedless to say, that our friendship suffers even more and that\u2019s why I struggle with my decision. Because, I was at my friend\u00b4s house yesterday (after not seeing them for a while) and when I saw her daughter it hits me right in my face. She gained so much weight, I couldn\u00b4t believe this was even possible. Of course I didn\u00b4t say anything, I was just happy to see them. But I am really concerned about her health. My friend\u00b4s mother told me, that her granddaughter has now 172 lbs. at the age of 10. Granny is also worried and argues a lot with my friend, but she just refuses to listen.\n\nI want to tell her to take professional help. First from a doctor, than from a nutritionist, and of course the help of family and friends. \n\n**WIBTA to give my best friend this wakeup call even if I know that this could be the end of our friendship? Or is it just non of my business?**", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 25, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 26, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0ojAWanojtdnh0PxVyxQQm5pNGIDEu9m", "post_id": "b4vfsw", "action": {"description": "\"forcing\" my girlfriend to allow me to explore", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for \"forcing\" my girlfriend to allow me to explore", "text": "So I've been in a relationship with this girl for 1 year, we lived together for half of it.   \nOur relationship was started on the premise her leaving the country and not wanting an *anchor* when she goes backpacking in Asia for 6 months. I'm new to relationships - I've 2 good ones and 2 average ones.   \nThis relationship is by far the best I've had, but I still have a fear of missing out and a fear of commitment. \n\n​\n\nBefore she left she ended up changing her mind during our time together - and wants to give our relationship a serious go for the long run. Honestly I could see it as a possibility, but I can't shake this urge to explore different minds of new girls.. And I know it will only grow - or I will eventually resent her or myself at a later date when the relationship eventually falls apart and I lost my prime time (She's 24, I'm 28).\n\n​\n\nI have been transparent about this, and shared all my thoughts. My biggest concern isn't the 6 months, it's the following 2 years she will study in a city far away from me, and I'm tied down with a job and appartment that I can't sell before another year passes.   \n\n\nFor new-years she gave me an ultimatum, either break up or stay together while she travels. Knowing myself I would be miserable in a long distance relationship, and I would never be able to resist exploring, so I countered by saying that we'll have a break when she travels, and when she comes back we'll rekindle the relationship and see how to progress when the future is clearer. She's then worried I find someone else - so we couldn't agree. . So we broke up..   \n\n\nThere was still almost 10 weeks of living together, and I thought it was a shame that we couldn't just enjoy our time together - as our relationship is truly happy, spicy and fun. So we both caved and we compromised to a solution where I would get two \"green-cards\" allowing me flirt and sleep with two girls while she was travelling (with no romantic feelings involved, and being transparent about not wanting anything serious).   \n\n\nNow we're 4 weeks into her travelling and I met a cute and fun girl that I would like to take on a date. So I asked her if she's still okay with it and I gave it a day before I'd ask the new girl out. The following day I get a heartfelt message that didn't say I wasn't allowed to, but that she felt really bad about me being with a new girl, and that it hurt..  \n\n\nSo here I am - currently making a decision of what I'll do - so I ask you, reddit community - AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "ae5yShJ51kD79LXta0m3Gg3QbJSKFqOw", "post_id": "b72j2v", "action": {"description": "asking my downstairs neighbor to turn down his music in the middle of the day", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking my downstairs neighbor to turn down his music in the middle of the day?", "text": "So, I just moved and my downstairs neighbor LOVES to play music every time he's here. Usually, if I go in the other room and close the door, I cant hear it. \n\nThe first time I asked him to turn it down, it was about 9:45p on a Wednesday and I went down there because the music was louder than usual and I needed to work the next day. He didn't answer the door but he immediately cut off the music. \n\nYesterday, the music was SUPER loud. Like, it might have well been in my apartment, but it was far outside quiet hours (~6:00p and quiet hours start at 10). I tried my best to just leave it alone but no matter what room I was in, I could here it very clearly. So I went downstairs to knock on his door and said \"Could you turn that down? It's really loud and I hate it.\" He didn't come out but he immediately cut off the music and, no lie, left the apartment complex for 2 straight days. \n\nI feel bad about asking him to be quieter outside quiet hours when he's also in his own home. So, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0S1RDZjlXJjvaYwXKmoiDxIE2Nuoj6xt", "post_id": "a7y59p", "action": {"description": "not telling my ex that I was no longer coming down to see her", "pronormative_score": 35, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "WIBTA If I didn\u2019t tell my ex that I was no longer coming down to see her", "text": "Last Friday my then girlfriend told me she had cheated on me a few months ago while I was in another country. This is a dealbreaker for me so I told her we were done, but I made the mistake of continuing to argue with her until like 4 AM. The next day she sent me a message apologizing and thanking me for being a good boyfriend while we were together, which I took as her understanding we were done. I haven\u2019t had contact with her since this. \n\nThe issue is that I bought plane tickets to go spend time with her (we were long distance), which I got a few days before she told me about the cheating. Originally I would be flying down Friday (tomorrow) but I\u2019m definitely not going to use these now, even though I can\u2019t get a refund for them or anything.\n\nA couple days ago I received a letter from her saying that she was sorry again and that she\u2019s excited to see me on Friday. I thought I was clear that we were done but WIBTA if I continued not to have contact with her and not clear up this misunderstanding? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 35, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 35, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CZ9f2ekJZxHW8aiUekZFnVnKylUmow8f", "post_id": "a1px0r", "action": {"description": "ghosting my bff-turned-rapist", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for ghosting my bff-turned-rapist?", "text": "I've been best friends with this one guy for five years. A few months ago he got intimate with a drunk girl at a party and told me the whole story braggingly. It was a very clear-cut case of rape, and he even told me (again braggingly) how he had spent considerable time planning it out in advance. I told him it was premeditated rape; he denied it being rape (\"she could have made me stop\" etc), but admitted that three other friends also told him it was. We never spoke of it again.\n\nIn the following two months I gradually got \"more busy\" and hung out with him less and less, and thereafter ghosted him completely (blocked him on all social media) because of this. A mutual friend tells me he's now very upset and demands to know why I ghosted him. The mutual friend says that no matter the case, no person deserves to be ghosted.\n\nI'm conflicted. I kinda feel justified in ghosting him because he's a terrible person. Then again who proclaimed me judge and executioner?\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1FIG1a8mfV5G4PLCgrDZPvVenmFN6NBe", "post_id": "b3k69x", "action": {"description": "yelling at a friend for using Autistic/retarded as an Insult", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA If I Yelled At A Friend for Using Autistic/Retarded as an Insult", "text": "So this just happened, and I'm kind of fuming about it, but I don't know if I was in the right here.\n\n​\n\nI'm still in school, and I belong to a swim team.  I've known some of these other kids my whole life, and not even recently but for years they've called each other retarded and autistic.  From my having legitimately autistic classmates who I have always considered friends, this has always bothered me.\n\n​\n\nOne of my general friends there was watching two kids whip each other with towels and generally doing stupid things to annoy each other.  He commented, \"Oh, that's so retarded.  You're so autistic.\"\n\n​\n\nI snapped on him and got in his face, yelling that autism isn't a thing to joke about and that it's an insult to people who actually have it and can't control it to use it as an insult, the same thing as making fun of someone with a general infectious disease.  I said whenever he did that it was awful, and that he shouldn't make fun of people who are disabled because they can't control it.  However, this was screamed in his face with a bit of profanity.\n\n​\n\nHe was taken aback and left the locker room without a word.\n\n​\n\nAITA?  Did he deserve it to hear how what he said insulted disabled people?  Am I in the wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vGp7IlWaBegNObqDdZrnSq8kTJr1Ncs5", "post_id": "abiqea", "action": {"description": "telling my tenant to get rid of her cat", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "AITA for telling my tenant to get rid of her cat?", "text": "I bought a small apartment building last year. One of my tenants has a 15 year old cat, which has been living there for its entire life.  I was in the apartment installing new heaters when she told me not to let the cat into the bedrooms. I asked why and she would not tell me, so I let the cat in. I told her the cat must be damaging my property and she will have to get rid of it. She said no and that the cat belongs to her autistic daughter. I have not met her daughter, but I am sure she can live without a cat.\n\n​\n\n​\n\nI told her if she doesn't get rid of this cat I will be raising her rent to pay for damages it WILL cause. Or she can find somewhere else to live.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 26, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "IbQRG2BtD91u62Llm2ZtRpQrDowPdgQL", "post_id": "b8siov", "action": {"description": "telling my parents that I shouldn't be treated like a child. and the rules should change for me", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA If I told my parents that I shouldn\u2019t be treated like a child. And the rules should change for me.", "text": "Sorry for the formatting I\u2019m using my mobile! \n\nSo, I would like to say first that I respect and love my parents as much as I can! I would do anything for them and I do. \n\nBackground story-\n\nCurrently, I live at home because I goto community college and my parents pay for the school. What isn\u2019t cover in financial aid. I have offer to pay it numerous times. They tell me no. Because they paid for everything in college for my sister.\n\nI am a 20 year old in college and I have a part time job. I work around 25-30 hrs a week while going full time to college. My work load is a ton! On top of that I do projects around the house that a 20year generally doesn\u2019t do. Recently I bought them a new laminate floor and fixed our shed up! I did this with my money. I didn\u2019t respect anything in return nor cared. I did this for them.\n\nMy mom torn up our bathroom floor for some reason... so I had to fix that during midterm week. Which I did, though I couldn\u2019t finish my laminate floor because of how she ripped up the bathroom. It was a mess... so I had to switch projects. Therefore my laminate flooring isn\u2019t done.(need to do a closet). She threw this up at my tonight for no reason. \n\nI also pay for my own car, gas, and insurance. They even use my car sometimes... when things break down on theirs. \n\nThings I want to be able to do!\n\nSo I have a girlfriend that goes to college 2 hours away! We alternate weekend on who comes down to see who! (Her family lives close to mine) Now I think I should be able to spend the night at her apartment when I want! Because her parents are fine with! \n\nMy mom get very angry at me for even mentioning spending the night. She doesn\u2019t like the idea. Meanwhile my dad couldn\u2019t care less if I do or not. Though he won\u2019t tell her because she goes ballistic fast... \n\nI shouldn\u2019t have to ask if I can do something with my friends. \n\nOr get questioned on how I spend my money.. (I have a student account from high school that is linked to theirs for transferring money when I was in high school) \n\nSo reddit WIBTA If I wanted new rules for me? Because I think I do a lot of things and deserve theses things. Any advice is greatly appreciated! \n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "SzxLVrfvb8IEEsFHX29dGzwqsakgP6hk", "post_id": "b968pn", "action": {"description": "moving out", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for moving out?", "text": "I just signed a lease with my two roommates to live in the same place again for another year, and the lease starts this fall. However, my plans changed drastically due to a very unforeseen turn of events (it\u2019s family related, but I\u2019m not going into detail due to privacy reasons). \n\n\nBecause of said turn of events, I need to move back home for a while. And by a while, I mean the foreseeable future. Home is in another state. \n\n\nI told my roommates and landlord this as soon as I knew I was moving. My landlord agreed to let me find someone else to take over my portion of the lease. My roommates, however, don\u2019t like this. They agreed to live with me, not someone else. I told them they can choose whoever they want, but they don\u2019t know anyone. I said I\u2019ll find someone and make sure they approve of them, but they\u2019re still not budging. \n\n\nI really don\u2019t want to be stuck paying over $5000 for a year of rent for a place I\u2019m not living in. Plus my share of internet and utilities. The lease hasn\u2019t even started yet! AITA for leaving and expecting to have another person take over my part of the lease? \n\n\n\nTLDR; I signed a lease but have to move, roommates don\u2019t want a different roommate moving in", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ntJmA37Uh69u2M1MkxwMAKFrvIBmow1W", "post_id": "b6rrv0", "action": {"description": "refusing to pick my dog up, in my own home, just bc my sister and niece demand it", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pick my dog up, in my own home, just bc my sister and niece demand it?", "text": "So, a little back story before we get into the main issue. My niece is 4. Her whole life, my parents have picked up their dogs bc my sister and niece don\u2019t want them around my niece. My aunt has done the same for them. \n\nSo here we are, my niece is like afraid of dogs basically. No one has ever taken the time to show her dogs are not bad, they aren\u2019t gonna hurt her. So anytime she comes to my house or moms, or my aunts, my niece demands we pick up our dogs, put them in the kennel. My mom and aunt obey. I don\u2019t. This same situation happened about a year or two ago, and my sister cursed me out, called me every name in the book, all in front my neighbors. I ignored the fuck out of her bc I know how she gets and when she\u2019s like that, it\u2019s pointless talking to her. \n\nSo, today, I walked outside and I see my sister, niece, and grandmas walking over. And I instantly cringe bc I know my niece and sister are gonna want me to pick up my dog, and I\u2019m not gonna want to, so it\u2019s gonna be some bullshit. My sister is also pregnant again, so, moody ya know. I should also say, my dog is super small. A Jack Russell terrier. I was hoping if I ignored my niece wanting us to pick up my dog she\u2019d be ok and shut up about it. She didn\u2019t. My fianc\u00e9 doesn\u2019t wanna have to hear them complain about it, so she picks her up in the kennel to avoid the bullshit. I\u2019m different. I don\u2019t feel like I should have to pick up my damn dog in our own house. My fianc\u00e9 agrees, but she doesn\u2019t want drama. My grandmaw was holding my niece bc she knows how my niece is gonna get if she puts her down. The whole time, my niece is constantly demanding us to put up the dog. My fianc\u00e9 puts the dog in the kennel, and I say not to. My sister makes some remark about I\u2019ll be ok, to get over myself. So I take the dog out the kennel and say she doesn\u2019t need to be locked up. \n\nMy sister begins yelling at me at this point, and cursing at me. So once she gets into one of these moods, I know there\u2019s no having a normal conversation with her at all. So I told them alright, that\u2019s enough, time to leave. And I walked them out the house. The whole way out, my sister is screaming at me. \n\nShe basically said were fucking idiots and we\u2019re stupid. Called my dog stupid. Said we got the dumbest wildest dog (she\u2019s not, she just gets happy when people come over.) She said this is why she never comes over. All while screaming once again, in front my neighbors.\n\nI just said \u201cok, yep. Gotcha. Ok, love y\u2019all, goodbye\u201d. I didn\u2019t say anything mean, or insensitive. But I know there\u2019s no reasoning with her when she gets like this, there\u2019s no having a normal conversation at that point. And I\u2019m not gonna sit here and go back forth with her like that. I\u2019ve also gotten to the point in life where I\u2019m realizing it\u2019s really rare in life that you change someone\u2019s mindset on something. So why sit here and argue? So that\u2019s why I said it\u2019s time to go. \n\nAITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6DftGN64WYhUk1Awvd6HpDGwfYFpOMKs", "post_id": "b9pxlb", "action": {"description": "being peeved that my online scrabble opponent left me waiting for my turn for over 8 minutes in a 10 minute game", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being peeved that my online scrabble opponent left me waiting for my turn for over 8 minutes in a 10 minute game?", "text": "This is very trivial, but I feel it's a matter of common decency, manners and good sportspersonship. There is a certain code of good play at the site, you always say good luck\nto your opponent, some people give their location etc.\n\nI usually play 2 minute fast scrabble games, but had got chatting to this particular player in the lobby and ended up on their friend list. As such, I would often join longer games with people I had gotten to know, chat while playing etc. This game was 10/10, meaning 10 minutes long and you get 10 extra seconds with each move.\n\nAbout 4 moves in, my wait for my next turn stretched to over 8 minutes, the opponent was clearly away from the keyboard. Finally they returned with only about 1 minute left on their timer. They informed me that they had taken a phone call.\n\nI considered it rude that she hadn't either informed me or opted to request to pause or adjourn the game, both of which are game options. I would have done so for any opponent, but especially one I was friendly with. I personally would have been able to play while on the phone, but that's besides the point.\n\nFrom then on, she didn't have enough time to plan her moves, as she is a slow player, so she basically passed and threw the rest of the game.\n\nI expressed my annoyance, that I thought it was rude to not simply write a note to say she had to take a call. It's not as though it was an attached wall phone either.\n\nShe justified that the game was set for 10 minutes, she can use her allotted time any way she chooses. In theory, I agree that she operated within the set time, however I still considered it rude.\n\nIs my thinking unreasonable?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3JLB9ffRSt8J4qfmL9KhTsAbYP2lbCeC", "post_id": "9tb4rg", "action": {"description": "forgetting my friend's birthday", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for forgetting my friend's birthday?", "text": "So, to provide some additional context:\nA friend of mine, who I've known for 12 years now, got another year older on the 28th.\n\nBut I'm terrible at remembering dates, and my awareness of time is so terrible that I regularly forget my own and my family's birthdays.\n\nAnd so, I forgot his this year. As a result, a mutual friend called me an idiot, got mad at me, and hinted at why I'm getting called an idiot.\n\nI realized my mistake immediately and sent an apology message along the lines of \"I'm terribly sorry!! It completely slipped my mind, but, even if it's late now.. Happy Birthday!!! Again, I'm really sorry!!\"\n\nThat message got ignored for the next 24h, then got a \"I know [mutual friend's name] mentioned it to you. If she hadn't, I think you still wouldn't have noticed.\" as a response. \n\nI responded with something like \"Maybe, but that doesn't change that I'm sorry.\" before explaining how terrible I am with dates and ending it with something along the lines of \"But yeah. I can't do much else but apologize for being an idiot again. So: I'm terribly sorry for being such an idiot.\"\n\nThough that message is getting ignored again, so I haven't gotten a reply (yet).", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oHAZxCRZTpGNRHzZHrWqAzNLqkYxEnyK", "post_id": "akuc9d", "action": null, "title": "AITA if i dont like my gf to go over to her sisters apartment whos bfs roomate(his brother) and my gf had sex before we got together?", "text": "So iv been with her for 4 months now and things are going great. Shes sweet and super beautiful and shows me i can trust her but iv been lied to so much in my life that its hard to trust anyone. I was catfished for a year of my life until the girl told me the truth. It was devastating. Iv been cheated on and told about it after the break up and my babymomma a day after we split up slept at her first loves house. \nAnyway she spent the night over there a few weeks ago before i had known about the guy.\nOne day she ask's about my count. \nI tell her\nAnd she tells me I had known about how many shes been with but this time she said names. And then i remember she was over at her second to last guys house (her sisters apt) \nShe gets upset and tells me that i need to trust her but its hard not to think that something is still there. \nShe said it doesnt mean anything and that i seriously dont have anything to worry about.\nShes always at my hip and is always holding my arm hand ECT. \nI really do feel like i can trust her but its just this feeling in the pit of my stomach and i hate it. \nI try to express my feelings because I bottled everything up as a kid and when I would flip all of it would spew out like a volcano to hot to cool \n-iygwim-\nAnywho, AITA for not being comfortable with her being over there? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Li6Wdpjna6GCInFkiISBypYvk9Lqj8EZ", "post_id": "9xn5oi", "action": {"description": "not wanting to pay for my boyfriend's friend at dinner", "pronormative_score": 45, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to pay for my boyfriend's friend at dinner?", "text": "Throwaway because my boyfriend knows my real account. \n\nMy boyfriend has had a rough week, and because I'm so busy with school and work during the week, we usually mostly see eachother on the weekends. Lately because of events and things we've been invited to, we haven't had a lot of nights with just the two of us, either. However, my boss offered me today (Friday) off of work if I stayed late on Monday and Wednesday to help with a big project we were finishing up. So, I texted my boyfriend on Tuesday and let him know that I would be off on Friday, and that I would love to take him out to dinner and then spend the night since he's had such a rough week. I told him I'd take him out for Mexican food (his favorite restaurant, if only for the margaritas). \n\nWe texted throughout the day on Wednesday and he said twice how excited he was to see me and how dinner together sounded really great. \n\nI worked 14 hour days on Monday and Wednesday, stayed late at school on Tuesday and stayed up super late to finish a paper all week so that we could have a date night. \n\nHe texted me Thursday afternoon and asked if it would be okay if he invited his friend out with us. \n\nI honestly didn't want to make a big deal out of it, because he did have a tough week and I wanted him to have a nice night, so I said okay. \n\nWe had planned to meet at his place at 8 (earliest I could do after school last night). Instead, he and his friend headed to the restaurant around 6:30-7 and ordered margaritas and apps, an hour an a half before I could even get there. By the time I showed up, they were on their 3rd margaritas (the 40oz ones) and had had a couple shots and the queso and apps they offered me (because they saved me some) were ice cold. They had placed their food order about 10 minutes earlier, so their food was arriving before I even glanced at the menu. I was a little annoyed but tried to go on with the night. Realizing I would be driving us all home, I ordered a water and a couple tacos. They ordered another margarita and a shot each before we were done eating. \n\nI was so frustrated. I had busted my ass all week to have a nice dinner with my boyfriend, and this is what I showed up to. \n\nThen the bill comes, all on one check, because apparently my boyfriend requested it. I asked for them to split his friend off of it. Politely! I said \"Oh, we're actually separate, I'll get just his\" and gestured at my boyfriend. He asked for them to keep it on one check, since \"we\" offered to take him out. \n\nI still payed the check, because the whole Mexican dinner thing was my idea and I had offered to take him out to dinner. \n\nI ended up paying like $170 plus a tip for dinner and margaritas that I barely touched. \n\nWe went back to his place and his friend hung out until way after I went to bed, because I was exhausted from all of the extra work this week. We didn't even get 5 minutes to ourselves the whole night. \n\nI brought up this morning all of the reasons why I was annoyed by last night, and basically he thinks I'm overreacting and that I couldn't be annoyed about the check when I offered to pay. He doesn't recognize that I felt very put on the spot and that the dinner was not at all what we agreed to or what I was looking forward to. And now we've been pissy with eachother all day over this. Am I really being unreasonable? \n\nTl;dr : Boyfriend and I had a big date night planned, he changed everything by inviting his friend, and I'm annoyed that I had to pay $200 to show up to the restaurant when they were both already drunk ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 45, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 45, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MxO9BCeVLwlEry8vFIrXkKLnaTE78nso", "post_id": "ai1boq", "action": {"description": "abandoning my mom", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for abandoning my mom?", "text": "Hi, first of all I would like to say that if I sound obnoxious, really stupid or fishing for attention to just ignore me. I don't know if I have any self-awareness.\n\nA little bit more than a year ago I (19yo) was kicked out of home by my father. For my mother (51yo) that was the last straw and left my father, even if she still waited a couple of months to leave the family home because of my brother. At the time I was bouncing from friend to friend until I was allowed to stay at the house of my late grandmother. I also feel the need to clarify that my father might have said to leave his house, but I was to one that did it and never came back even if he told me it wasn't serious.\n\nMy mother has suffered a lot and all her life has had her children (me and my brother, who is 16) number one in her priorities. She suffered two decades of marriage only because she wouldn't feel safe leaving us with my father alone. She doesn't have any friends left because of that, so she usually relies on me for friendship (not at all a strict mother). \n\nAfter she separated from him she came to live with me at grandma's house, and my brother bounced from us to him. I'm not the best at home keeping, but I was doing my best and nothing was ever broken or ruined, I had clean clothes and surfaces, and never starved. I feel confident saying I was doing pretty good because nobody had ever teached me anything. But she doesn't see it that way, at all.\n\nThe first months of the two of us living together were me taking care of her, because she was feeling pretty bad and hopeless, worrying about my dad. She took over the house, making it her own and disregarding everything I did, making me like a child, my only space being a tiny room. Even so, she also helped me and made me feel less lonely, feed me and Idk, helped around making everything nice. \n\nThat was a bit of a time ago. Now she still expects lots and lots of emotional labour of me. My house growing up was never a particularly dear place for me and my house now feelt like the first place I could call my own and be happy, but she has taken that away from me. I love her so much and I would give her everything, exept that I already feel like I do. I'm her therapist, I make sure to go out with her and shopping wherever she wants, I bring her gifts to try and make feel better, cook her favourite things when I think she will be tired of work... She tells me things like that \"she feels like she could have separated from my dad a lot earlier and made our childhood better\" or \"the thing that she likes most about their separation is that she feels like she has me back\". I need to reassure her that it's not true, that everything she did was the best, that she's a great mother and to not think about the past even if I know that (even if she had the best intentions) she is absolutely right about her fears.\n\nThis is getting too long but, my mother has done the best she could for me, but I don't want to baby her all my life. I can't voice my problems because they will make her upset, I work for her and my brother (so he can study and her not be worried about money) and I have lost all my space. But she has donde so much for me! I have nowhere to go, no studies, no nothing, but I still have the impulse to abandon them and go away. I know they will suffer greatly if I do! But I kind of feel like I shouldn't be caring for my family, my parents should be caring for me!\n\nAm I being and asshole or entitled brat? Thanks and sorry, feel free to call me out. (If you need more details I will respond, I didn't want to make this even longer). ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JHZS4NHACBytTOVog8BtTPWP7SFZtXcQ", "post_id": "akf3pb", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Girl I'm seeing doesn't want to hang out in public, and I blew up over it", "text": "The situation is I've been seeing a girl that I quite like for about two weeks now. We're not \"dating,\" per se, mostly because of the issue I'll detail here. The thing is that she doesn't seem to want to date me in any public capacity; we hang out and study together but she doesn't allow any PDA, and has told me straight up that she'd prefer it if people didn't know we were together. \n\nObviously this makes me a little self-conscious, but I enjoy spending time with her, so whatever. And I get where she's coming from; we're not really in the same social circle and I doubt her friends would approve, and I'm not going to tell her what to do. What changed things for me is that last night there was a mixer with her sorority, and I expressed interest in going. She said it was Greeks-only. OK. But today a friend of mine told me this wasn't true; he's not Greek and he was there. \n\nYeah, so I kind of snapped. I mean I was really nasty to her about it, angry that she was so intent on hiding me that she lied to me. I just detailed all the petty things that she might see in me that prevent her from wanting us to be seen as a couple. She was very apologetic and started crying. In the moment it felt justified but now I'm experiencing all sorts of regret about how I treated her. I think that I'm probably letting my insecurities and past experiences get the better of me, you know? It's not like she's ever unkind to me when we're hanging out, or insults me or any of that stuff. \n\nSo obviously I feel like a jerk, but my hurt feelings are still there. AITA? Is anyone?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1NPP0iK7yvy6rTtueYTKZRmn4a08pqbu", "post_id": "ai4lye", "action": {"description": "telling my friend that they're not going anywhere in life with their current plan", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA: I told my friend that they\u2019re not going anywhere in life with their current plan", "text": "It sounds bad. I know. But hear me out. \n\nMy friend, who I will call L, myself, and a few other friends of mine were all talking about our plans for after high school, university applications and whatnot. All of us had applied to universities or colleges except L. They said that they were going to do a fifth year. That\u2019s cool. Then they said they\u2019re taking TWO gap years to travel around and explore themselves. They don\u2019t plan to work during this time. Not really my problem. They can figure that out. But they said after they\u2019re not going to attempt to get any degree, and just jump straight into the workforce. They said they want to do freelance photography (which I agreed, you don\u2019t need a degree for) or be an engineer. This is where I had a problem. \n\nEngineering is a super competitive field that is difficult to work in without the proper knowledge and education. I said to them that they\u2019ll never get a job in engineering without a degree. They said they can, with proper job experience. I asked how they would get this job experience without a degree. L was planning to go into engineering on a HIGH SCHOOL CO OP and nothing else. They said they\u2019re smart and believe it would work. I said \u201cjust because you believe the world is one way, doesn\u2019t mean it is.\u201d They seemed really upset and it\u2019s been bothering me for a while.  \n\nSo, I ask, \nAm I the asshole?\n\nEdit: for clarification, L had a very much \u201cholier then thou\u201d attitude about it. Basically trying to say they could be way better then any of us without going to university because they\u2019re so smart and bright. And it was in fact a conversation where we were bouncing ideas off each other. \n\nEdit: alright, I accept my judgement. The way I phrased things was definitely not great, and while I never apologized, it blew over very very quick. It was on a Friday, I didn\u2019t see L all weekend, they were completely fine when I saw them again. The only thing I\u2019m salty about is people insulting me for saying you can\u2019t become an engineer without some kind of degree. Engineering is something that requires a lot of specific skills and knowledge not taught in high school. Idk, if you\u2019re an engineer without a university or college degree, leave a comment. \n\nEdit: I googled it and you legally cannot become an engineer without a degree where I live because of safety reasons", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "uQDPjMGoxXhAYkfNWJetaXSkFrTd4yNI", "post_id": "b6ik5y", "action": {"description": "falling back to sleep after my mother told me not to", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for falling back to sleep after my mother told me not to?", "text": "So I am curious of who is in the right and who is in the wrong here so back story: I am a 16 year old homeschooled boy and I have a cat and a dog since we live in the country. The dog is new and not house broken yet so we are trying to crate train him but yesterday he got into the kitten's food and had an upset stomach all day. So of course last night he shit in his crate. \n\n\nNow I am 16 and I have had a puppy before so even though it was 10 pm for me last night, I got up and cleaned the kennel, got new towels for him to sleep on, found and alternative to the box that has shit on it now, and put the towels in the washer. I had meant to stay up to put the towels into the dryer and go to sleep but by the time they stopped Fini (the dog) was asleep and so was my cat so I didn't want to wake him and listen to him whine for 15 or 20 minutes because it was already past midnight. \n\n\nSo even though I am homeschooled I wake up at 3 am to pack my mom's lunch for work and I am expected to stay up afterwards, even though I don't always do that because I am always tired, today though my mother over slept and I didn't get up to pack her lunch. She complains about her lunch being too small anyway so today she can have what she wants, but on top of that I accidentally toss her sweatshirt into the water bowl from the couch because I am too tired to move and she starts getting upset and calls me lazy for not wanting to get up off the couch. She just sounds really disappointed so after she leaves I try to stay awake out of some version of spite but that ends up going to hell. \n\nI have to call my mom hourly because of reasons and when I do at 8 am she gets upset and says that she will take away the cat and dog if I keep using them as an excuse but I don't think that  am using them as an excuse, at least I don't mean to be.  But the thing about that that makes me really mad is that she said that she cares about my education more than them but when she stay home from work for some reason I get barely any work done because she keeps calling me every five minutes. \n\n\nThis is mostly for a rant but I am curious on who is right or if I need to apologize to her, Im going to go eat now and hope for a reply soon, opinions and critics are welcomed.\n\n   ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7z9ZO5Ws1oJMn19kUAiFcVfX2dEVtxBr", "post_id": "a6q3he", "action": {"description": "not paying light", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not paying light?", "text": "I live in a four bedroom apartment. 4th roommate left a couple months ago. Now logically we split the light in 3s now. I pay my part but roommate 3 doesn\u2019t want to pay all of it on account of them only being there for a few days out of last month. \n\nDo I pay up or should they?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w1WYTOeVwpvKvkfIIq1dwg1ToMUbXC1j", "post_id": "apenay", "action": {"description": "being uncomfortable wound my roommate? or am I making a big deal out of nothing", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being uncomfortable wound my roommate? Or am I making a big deal out of nothing?", "text": "I feel as I might be exagarreting. But everyone I have talked to has told me my roommate is a creep and i should report it to my school campus. \n\nWe are both women sharing a room on our college campus. I tolerate her most of the time..we have had our conflicts but they have been resolved. More like I try to keep the peace and don't make a big deal. But last night I was sleeping and all of a sudden woke up and my roommate was just there standing by my bed staring at me. I of course screamed and said, \"What the Fuck is wrong with you!\" She got scared and turned around to go to her bed. I was justified in feeling freaked out. This all happened at 4 am. She then apologized and said she was trying to tell me that my breathing was a bit weird. That I wasn't snoring but that my breathing was weird. That she was going to wake me up by shaking my bed!\n\n​\n\nFist of all she could of just nudged me to wake me up. Or called me by my name...instead if just creepily standing by my bed staring at me at 4AM! And deciding that shaking my bed was the best course of action! If I hadn't woken up I don't know how long she would have stood there. And honestly I would have let that pass if her previous actions hadn't weirded me out.\n\n​\n\nOne night I told her she talked in her sleep, just joking about it. I wasn't mad...I just thought it was a bit funny. Well the next night she decides to voice record my sleeping and laughing that I grunt in my sleep. I'm not offended by her making fun of the weird noises i make in my sleep but going to the point of recording me in my sleep? That just doesn't feel right. If she felt offended by me just mentioning the fact that she talks in her sleep, she could of just told me. \n\n​\n\nThen a bit later I fell asleep mid day in my bed. I expect to at least have the semblance of privacy in my bed. I woke up form my nap to find out she had taken a picture of me being asleep. She told me this herself, and showed me the picture of me sleeping with my eyes a bit open. This weirded me out again but I brushed it off as her sense of humor. Mind you my roommate is 26 and I was 20 at the time. Who takes pictures of people in their sleep? \n\n​\n\nWe have had some issues before. When we first met since we have another roommate we had an issue regarding toilet paper. Im assuming my other roommate put a poop stained piece of toilet paper in the bin and my 26 year old roommate took a picture of this poop stained paper and sent it to us by text. I told her next time she has a problem or concern to just tell us in person. Instead of sending me someone elses poop stained papers by text. She always complains about my cleanliness and I am quite clean. My other roommate is much more dirty and leaves her pots on the stove. The one time i left it she complained about me...yet she never complains about the other girl. She also got annoyed by my coughing when I was sick and complained that I was being too loud on the phone. I'm always as quiet as I can be. I feel that im being restricted because i can't do anything without feeling her judge mental eyes. Yet the other girl is gross...she constantly farts loudly at any time of the day and yet she doesn't tell her shit. I can go on but I'll stop.\n\n​\n\nAnd with what happened last night I don't know if I am justified in feeling freaked out and calling someone on campus so I can tell her to respect my boundaries. AITA for wanting to clear things up and am I justified for feeling weirded out?\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OJBGgNBxWhzjpp6CYWkYSWseUueU7Acb", "post_id": "b0f9dv", "action": {"description": "saying something on speaker phone when I didn't know I was on speaker", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for saying something on speaker phone when I didn\u2019t know I was on speaker?", "text": "This situation I got myself in has me laughing and a little annoyed. \n\nSo I\u2019ve been seeing a new girl from tinder for a couple weeks but we\u2019ve been hanging out a lot more than I usually hang out with tinder girls. We first met up 2 weeks ago at my house and hung out 5 times already and I weirdly already met her mom who thinks highly of me. \n\nAnyways, we planned to hangout Saturday after she went shopping with her mom. I text her earlier in the day to ask what time she was thinking of coming. I see her call me like 10 mins later but don\u2019t answer because I didn\u2019t feel like talking and I was about to take a nap (Why do people gotta call when you text them... like just text back smh). \n\nSo I call her like an hour later. She says she can come around 6 and I say, \u201cI can\u2019t wait until my tongue is in your pooper again\u201d . I don\u2019t hear anything for a few seconds and I say \u201chello?\u201d and then she hangs up. She texts me 20 mins later and calls me an asshole because I was on speaker and her mom heard and her mom doesn\u2019t know we had sex yet. So she cancelled the plans and idk if we\u2019ll hang again. \n\nFirst I\u2019m thinking wtf was the point of putting me on speaker phone? Why can\u2019t you just talk like normal person and not have everyone around you hear your convo? But then I kinda feel bad because her mom had respect for me now idk if I\u2019d be able to look her in the eyes after that lol. So Am I the asshole?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vb37zfaYLQF5Yb1LxIrAavljtAAxUKha", "post_id": "aq69es", "action": {"description": "being mad at a neighbour who was blowing snow at 5 am", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for being mad at a neighbour who was blowing snow at 5 AM?", "text": "I have an elderly neighbour who snow blows sidewalks and many of his neighbours driveways. It is wonderful! That being said, he was out at 5 am today. He\u2019s typically out at 6 am. I am a deep sleeper so this wasn\u2019t an issue for me. My fianc\u00e9 was not so appreciative. He wants to know if he\u2019s an asshole for being upset at the neighbour for doing a kind act at an ungodly hour. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "1RSRoP61o5GHaLA4TWdiTsvtoIzkNkzu", "post_id": "9wjvpw", "action": {"description": "being hurt that my gf put pictures of her late ex up", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being hurt that my gf put pictures of her late ex up?", "text": "Me (26m) and my girlfriend (28f) of 2+years had a fight a week ago, a big one. I left and came back the next day. She had pictures of her ex up, some of them kissing on the wall in the kitchen and his stuff around the house including in the bedroom, she did end up taking all of it down a few days later. Our child has seen this.\n\nThey were together for a few months 8 years ago, they then broke up and a few months after they broke up he passed away. I know she had kept some of his stuff and I did not have a problem with that. She also does have a tattoo of him on her (her only tattoo).\n\n​\n\nIt may be worth noting that once I left after our big fight, she went through my stuff and found a shoebox with some things my ex of 5 years made. I had tucked that box away when we had broken up and forgot about it. I am totally OK with discarding the box, but was pretty irritated that to find she helped herself to throw out half of the stuff in the box without my knowledge.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA for being kind of pissed, but mostly just hurt, that she had her exes stuff out? Or is it justified because she found my tucked away shoebox of my ex that I forgot I even had? \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "5a8rd31vKEEZtSVI5hLEb6kWXrtPhq6z", "post_id": "a9zkn7", "action": {"description": "telling his girlfriend that he was cheating", "pronormative_score": 252, "contranormative_score": 70}, "title": "AITA for telling his girlfriend that he was cheating?", "text": "I\u2019ve been in a friends with benefits relationship with John for the past five years. During this time it has been on and off, and our arrangement would always stop when either of us were dating other people or in a serious relationship. The rules were that we were always honest with each other if we were seeing someone else, and we would immediately halt if this were the case. \n\nTo give some context, I have known John since I was a kid, as we are close family friends. However, when this agreement began John was adamant that we must keep it a secret as it could be problematic if our families found out. \n\nAfter I returned from overseas in April this year, we resumed our FWB \u2018relationship\u2019. In June, I became suspicious that John was seeing someone else after a mutual friend made a comment about seeing him out with another girl. I asked him about this, and he said that he had a girlfriend while I was overseas but he had broken up with her before we resumed. I found it a little strange that he did not tell me this, but since we had always been honest with each other in the past I brushed this off (big mistake). \n\nA few weeks ago John messaged me and asked me to come over. As I was at work, I told him that I would message him that night. When I finished my shift, I invited him over to my house. He responded and said that he couldn\u2019t, as he was at Bonnie\u2019s house. When I asked who Bonnie was, he said that she was his girlfriend, and that he thought I knew that. I freaked out and immediately blocked him on Facebook messenger. I now know that this was some kind of weird power play, but I am ultimately still confused as to why he decided to tell me this way.\nAfter he realised that I had blocked him, he texted my phone and asked if I was okay. He apologised, and said that he had \u201csome things to work out\u201d. I asked him how long he had been dating her, and he reluctantly told me that he had been with her since February. Keep in mind that I had also seen his family since then, and no one had ever mentioned that he had a girlfriend, nor did I see any posts on social media of John and Bonnie. I was unaware that this girl existed until this moment.\n\nI felt absolutely disgusting and messaged some of my friends to tell them what had happened. Each of them all said the same thing- that I should tell Bonnie. I was hesitant to do this as I did not want to ruin this poor girl\u2019s life. I slept on it and in the morning I found her on facebook (through mutual friends and thankfully Bonnie isn\u2019t that common of a name where I\u2019m from). I sent her a message request explaining the whole situation, and telling her that I had screenshots if she wanted to see them. She was shocked and told me that her and John were actually planning to celebrate their one year anniversary soon (more surprises) and that he had lied to me about when they started dating (not that it even mattered at this point). \nShe asked for the screenshots and told me that she would break up with him the next day. Despite the horrible situation, she was thankful for me for telling her.\n\nA week later I received a message from John\u2019s best friend, Kane, telling me that what I had done was absolutely disgusting. Although he was angry at John, he said that I was in the wrong for breaking up their relationship. He explained that Bonnie was suicidal and that I had caused her serious harm. He also said that John\u2019s mother (who is my mother\u2019s best friend) did not believe that I didn\u2019t know John had a girlfriend. Kane also said that all the mutual friends he has spoken to think the same thing. Obviously this is untrue, as this whole thing wouldn\u2019t have happened if I knew he had a girlfriend. I had to tell my mother what had happened before she heard it from John\u2019s mother, and now this has caused a rift between the two of them.\n\nI honestly thought that I would want to know if I was being cheated on and that telling Bonnie was the right thing to do. I\u2019m not looking for sympathy at all, but I know that I have told the 100% truth in this situation and I have the evidence to prove it. I don\u2019t doubt that John has told a different version of this story to his friends, however I still feel like absolute trash, despite this being entirely his fault. \n\nAm I the asshole for telling her? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 45, "OTHER": 250, "EVERYBODY": 25, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 252, "WRONG": 70}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qEYZGXyNV4jK3IRNEsEkRDfZBS9F5TFI", "post_id": "aslb7z", "action": null, "title": "AITAH?", "text": "Went to a bar: My friend asked the girl next to him how her drink was \"I'm was going to order a whiskey drink how is yours?\". She didn\u2019t acknowledge him so he tapped her on the shoulder. \u201cHey how is your drink?\u201d\nShe responds with \u201cHOW DARE YOU TOUCH ME!! I\u2019m not ok with you touching me!\u201d\nMy friend paused and said sorry while she continued to make a stink enough to get up and go outside. Yelling \u201cI never wanted you to touch me! How dare you pig!\u201d\nThis is where I cut in and said he only touched your shoulder, to ask how your drink was. How is this a big deal? He asked already and wouldn\u2019t have touched you had he thought you heard him the first time its pretty loud in here\".\nThis escalated to the bar tender asking why you would touch her if she clearly didn\u2019t want to be touched? \u201cWell how does one ask if she is okay being touched on the shoulder?\u201d\n\u201cWell you ask fist!\u201d\n\u201cShe didn\u2019t answer when I tried asking her about the drink?\u201d\nI stated he only made contact to find out about the drink. She freaked out saying how it was rape to touch a girl that didn\u2019t want to be touched. \nShe left and went outside but the bartender asked me (who hadn\u2019t said anything directly to her) to pay and leave. \nI again asked why being curious about a drink was such a big deal and was told I was making everyone uncomfortable and should just leave. \u201cWe won\u2019t serve either of you and the only reason we won\u2019t kick you out is you have full drinks\u201d\nI finally was able to try and talk to a bar tender: \u201cif you can explain how asking a person how a drink was was harassment I could and would have gladly leave but I\u2019m confused on how I'm being asked to leave for something I didn't do?\"\n\u201cIt wasn\u2019t how he asked, it was how he touched her without asking first if he could touch her\u201d\n\u201cSo if you aren't sure someone heard you and you touch their shoulder to ask again its inappropriate?\u201d\nI was told to \u201cshut the fuck up it doesn\u2019t matter, I\u2019m making everyone uncomfortable and if the legally could they \u201c would dump my drink to make me leave \u201c\nI gave up my drink and said I was never apart of this my friend was the one who asked the question and touched the girl what about him?\n\u201cHe\u2019s at least being cool about it all!\u201d\nI\u2019m just really confused. I never asked how her drink was. I only stuck up for my friend who was curious about a drink. \nOutside the bar the girl, while I was walking away said \u201cthat\u2019s right you fucking get kicked out\u201d\nThe bar tender told her \u201cto stay quiet they are locking us out anyways\u201d\nIf I\u2019m the asshole fine. I\u2019m just confused on how asking a person how their drink is inappropriate? \nEdited per mods request and fixed things for clarity.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 7}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "k3vAM8A5uhQg8ot3QHV4Qa0lKA87VvEg", "post_id": "aur2sn", "action": {"description": "wanting to not speak to my father after 18 and exclude him from my future wedding", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for wanting to not speak to my father after 18 and exclude him from my future wedding?", "text": "My father and I have a rocky relationship. He wasn't really a big part of my childhood as he was always at work while my mom raised me.\n\nWhen he was home, he was mad at me for being\u2026 well, a kid. I would try and have fun by placing toys in his coffee (I was two years old) and he got PISSED and threw the cup on the ground, leaving coffee everywhere and breaking the glass.\n\nAnother example is when I was doing something with his coffee cup (I can't remember) but I was holding the glass and he got mad. Scared, I ran away and accidentally broke the glass.\n\nDuring my early childhood I was afraid of men because I thought they were all like my dad. Even today my dad gets mad at me for the littlest things, and I'm not sure that I want him in my life.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M1YQmuA7MEs1e171R7aU84Wh5VjeoE92", "post_id": "a7tcep", "action": {"description": "refusing to pick up a shift without an excuse", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for refusing to pick up a shift without an excuse?", "text": "I work at an assisted living community and anyone who has worked in a place like this can vouch for the fact that staffing is ALWAYS a problem. I frequently give up days off to assist but try to keep 1 day a week off for homework/housework/I just need a freaking day. With school being out of session I keep getting heat from my boss and co-workers for not giving up that day, because \"it's not like you have kids or anything, why can't you be working?\".\n\n I am already work 6days a week and some of those are 16 hour shifts as is. Do I owe my company my free time now that I don't have a specific reason to need a day off? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jAKY0cfankrId7YxmCEfPPNX0hwezsfZ", "post_id": "a0crtf", "action": {"description": "shutdowning a potential client for 1 response", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA to shutdown a potential client for 1 response?", "text": "Through LinkedIn, an angelfund/fund/dude: \n\n>Them: Thanks for being on my network. I have a proposition that you might be interested to learn about. What is the best way that I can reach you through?\n\nAt this point I'm like, is this due some of my projects I've been working on... or is it a development task?\n\n>Me: We can talk on LinkedIn or Email if you prefer. What is the proposition related to? Thanks!\n\n>Them: *An introductory of 5 lines. I'm X of X and we specialize in this and that.* I would like do discuss a proposal our core & main focus activities in X from technical prospective. If you are interested, please share with us your cell and I will be happy to call you and address the proposal verbally\n\nI'm still unclear. What the hell is technical prospective. What is prospective. Perspective? What if it was prospective? Must be a typo.\n\n>Me: Thanks, I appreciate your time contacting me.  Is this about a development task? If not, unfortunately I don't think I'm the right guy for you as I'm not X.\n\nThen he goes on and says ~\n\n>Yes, as a development task. Otherwise, why should I bother to contact you? Anyway, if you are interested to talk more about it please provide a cell phone so we can arrange a call.  Thanks\n\nMy just here, at 12:46 AM thinking to myself \"Otherwise, why should I bother to contact you?\". Bitch, fuck you. You could've avoided all that shit from the beginning have had been clear. But you sit and talk about yourself for a decade and for one slight confusion you throw a fuss. Asshole.\n\nSo I reply back...\n\n>You're rude. I don't wanna bother you. Goodbye. \n\nSo?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "LV9fkIV8Oq6sSS0sBENyh3oAxCKu0OTt", "post_id": "b4nyk5", "action": {"description": "suggesting my wife not drink because she's allergic to alcohol", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I suggested my wife not drink because she's allergic to alcohol?", "text": "Some back story for context:\n\nMy wife usually doesn't drink alcohol because she's allergic. Her hands and feet and face will turn red and she says it can be quite painful at times. In the past, when she'd have the occasional drink, we'd have to leave venues or events early because she wouldn't feel good.\n\nWe eventually discovered that if she takes a tablet of Pepcid AC before she drinks, the bad side-effects that she usually experiences are muted enough that we can enjoy a couple of drinks together, which is really nice for me because we can both cut loose for awhile. Plus, she's usually a very stoic, quiet person so it's great to see her laugh a little louder and speak up a bit more.\n\nCue the night where all this came to a head. I was out at dinner with my wife and one of my friends. My wife decided that she was going to order a drink with dinner. I reminded her that she hadn't taken any Pepcid AC and that after dinner, we planned on going back to my friend's house for a night of gaming. I suggested that maybe drinking wasn't such a good idea. She decided to get the drink anyway but couldn't finish it. However, my friend overheard this and I guess he had a real problem with this because later that night he confronted me and called me very controlling and that I had no right to dictate what my wife can or cannot drink. \n\nI tried to explain to him all the info above but he wasnt hearing it. I was so shocked and hurt that he would just jump to this conclusion about me even though he's known me for years. \n\nSo, I dunno. Was I the asshole in this scenario? Was my friend justified in calling me out for this? I'd like to know other people's opinion. If you all find me in the wrong for this, I'm totally willing to apologize to my friend and wife. But I still feel like he didn't totally understand the situation and that it wasn't really any of his business...", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0goKqfpziluFXXlYEcMczpTYG1JQFNLh", "post_id": "b2xq9u", "action": {"description": "staying up after my wife goes to bed and smoking weed usually falling asleep on the couch", "pronormative_score": 23, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for staying up after my wife goes to bed and smoking weed usually falling asleep on the couch?", "text": "Some quick background.  My wife and are mid 30 professionals, together for 7 years with 2 kids, age 4 and 2.\n\n​\n\nSo, my wife has been getting more and more upset lately with the fact that after she goes to bed I like to load my vape and smoke some weed, often resulting in me falling asleep on the couch until I eventually wake up (usually around 4am) and crawl into bed.\n\nI smoked weed before we met and during the onset of our relationship, when I still had a lot of \"me time\".  Obviously as our lives started becoming less about us and more about our family, my weed smoking slowed.  Just recently though, weed became legal where I live and I got back into it, more frequently.\n\nWhen I began smoking more regularly, she let me know, that she has never been a huge fan of hanging out with me when I'm stoned.  I don't see a huge difference in my personality when I smoke, but it is obvious to her, so I agreed that I wouldn't smoke when we were together.\n\nMy wife has always been an early to bed type person (like 10:30ish), whereas I have always been a night owl (1ish).  So, lately I use that time when my wife goes to bed smoke my dope and reddit or watch youtube or movies or whatever.\n\nThe issue she says she has is that I often end up falling asleep on the couch and either she will wake up without me in bed and feel the need to come downstairs and wake me up to come to bed, or when I wake up on my own and come to bed, I'm disrupting her sleep.  My wife is a light sleeper, and in the past would use earplugs and a blindfold when sleeping to block out any possibly stimuli, but sine we had kids she doesn't use earplugs because... kids.\n\nI have tried coming to bed when she goes to bed, but I just lay there watching netflix at a volume that is barely audible until I fall asleep at my usual time, and it is miserable and makes me feel resentful.\n\nWe've talked about all of this and have come to an impasse.  I tried to explain to her that I enjoy the few late night hours that I have to myself to do the tings that I enjoy and I don't feel they have any significant impact on her.  She does not agree and feels that waking up in the middle of the night to \"bring me to bed\" or my coming to bed is a huge interference in her sleep.\n\n​\n\nSo, AITA?  I have no idea and await your judgement.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 12, "INFO": 5}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 23, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OsGWLJ4W16lI5yfxFIh1EZIsJvjaqC9y", "post_id": "ahyg83", "action": {"description": "using my brother's college fund for my own education", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA if I use my brother's college fund for my own education?", "text": "So yeah - from that title alone I sounds like the asshole but there's a fair bit more going on there and I'm in quite the dilemma.\n\nOkay so my direct family consists of me, my older brother, and my two parents. My parents are pretty wealthy, so ever since we were little kids my brother and I have always been told not to worry about college funds, our parents would pay for it.\n\nSo last year, I was still in school and figuring out where I wanted to apply, and my brother went off to college. Now his college is several hours from where my family lives so we don't really hear much from him other than the mandatory \"one text per day\" rule my parents established when they agreed to pay for our colleges. Aaand a couple months into his college, we got a call from one of his roommates.\n\nSo apparently my brother had disappeared the previous day and his roommate was panicking, so he tols us what my brother had really been up to at college. Bro had been using all his spending money on drugs, hadn't gone to any classes since the first week, and was basically wasting money.\n\nAnyway, my mother at this point was freaking out, not just because she learned that her son was messing with drugs but because his roommate hasn't seen him in days and because my brother isn't responding to any texts or calls.\n\nThankfully, he shows up at our door, safe and home from college, and announces that he's dropping out of college. \n\nSo now it's several months later and my brother had been living at home until my parents finally told him to get his shit together. They told him that they were going to use some of the money they had planned to use for his freshman year of college to get him clean and then get him some round flight tickets so that he could see the world, do some volunteering, figure out what he wants to do in life.\n\nBasically, they're giving him a gap year - my parents are traditional and value college education highly, and are still hoping he'll go to college. But now here's how I come into the picture. \n\nThese past few years, I've been really working hard, getting experience, building my resume, and my efforts have been rewarded...in the sense that I have the opportunity of a lifetime, to go to my dream school. \n\nMind, this dream school is NOT college but is ONLY a preapatory school, but is still the best in the country, and will probably set me up for life. It's still possible, though, for me to go just as far if I don't take this opportunity.\n\nAnd in addition: this \"opportunity\" is as expensive as college. Exactly the same amount as is left in my brother's remaining college fund. And thus, my dilemma. If I go, it's going to be from HIS (currently unused) college fund. My own college will still be provided for. Also, my parents have made it clear that these funds are only to be used for education, so he won't be getting any money from this unless he decides to go to college.\n\nSo AITA if I use the money that was originally alotted for him for my own education? If he sticks by his decision, the only difference will be whether I go to my dream school or not. If he changes his mind, it'll be much harder for him to take back his decision to drop out of college. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 7}, "label": "INFO", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ishtAr13NlRoeHAzfUke2trr7rKEmqn0", "post_id": "alaour", "action": {"description": "not inviting friends out", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting friends out", "text": "Hi everyone, hoping to get some insight on a recent issue. I am struggling to see the issue from their POV so I thought Reddit might help.\n\nThe past weekend was my country\u2019s national holiday, with celebrations taking place on both Saturday and Sunday.\n\nOn the Saturday, a good friend\u2019s partner organised for us to go on her parent\u2019s boat as they go to the foreshore every year to watch the fireworks. Just 5 of us were originally going (three of which were high school friends plus me and the other girlfriend whose parents who own the boat). This girl (who I\u2019m pretty close to as we have hung out quite a bit over the last year and she\u2019s great) then suggested also inviting me and my partner\u2019s roommate, and then I suggested just one more friend who lives around the corner from us, as he is is very close to both my boyfriend and my roommate, and we had discussed what we were going to do on aus day previously.\n\nThe day was great and we had a lot of fun, however two girls who went to school with the main group have not been happy. They feel like they are left and out and excluded often. While I get that would feel shit (we\u2019ve all been there) I\u2019m confounded for a few reasons.\n\nThe first girl, who I\u2019m a lot closer with and see more often (social sport) is pretty much always included. However, she is pretty flaky usually bails on 80% of things she is invited to, if not more. Sometimes extremely late as well. My boyfriend hosted a games night in December last year, she was noncommittal about coming doing the whole \u201cooh sounds fun maybe\u201d then waited till about 9pm on the night to text him saying she wasn\u2019t coming. Also in the entire time I\u2019ve known her, she has never once organised a dinner with me or my boyfriend or invited us to do anything. Last year I messaged her a week or so after the games night asking her if she was free to come bowling with the same group who went on the boat and she left me on unread. I made an effort to reach out to ask her if she was okay and if I had done anything to upset her and she said no she\u2019s just been super busy.\n\nThe other girl is very nice but I\u2019m not very close to her as I barely see her. She doesn\u2019t attend pretty much 99% of the things she\u2019s invited to, and like the other girl, I\u2019ve never been invited to do something with her and her partner, despite making several attempts to invite her out.\n\nAs a protest to not being invited on Saturday, both girls refused to come to me and my boyfriend\u2019s party on Sunday, which they were invited to. Again, this doesn\u2019t make logical sense to me.\n\nPlus, as everyone knows with boats, you can\u2019t just invite whoever you want due to finite space. Plus, we were crashing their parents party, and the girl hosting wanted to invite a couple of her own friends she didn't know through her boyfriend. One of the girls indicated to another friend it would have been nice if we did something that everyone could be included in (Sunday?!) he asked her if she was planning on organising something and she said no.\n\nWhile I totally acknowledge it feels shit to be left out of something, it feels just as shitty to constantly be rejected after making an effort with people. Also this was organised by a friend\u2019s girlfriend, who one of the girls would only see once or twice a year. Plenty of times the two girls will organise hanging out with my roommate and their other friend and none of us are invited, so I don\u2019t understand the double standard? Are we the ass holes? Is there something I\u2019m missing?\n\nWe are all late twenties if that matters.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CxaYdjYRUJZMjG8Nygczs3xaIbMUuHCL", "post_id": "a4p1sp", "action": {"description": "suddenly moving out of my apartment, leaving my roommate on the hook for rent", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for suddenly moving out of my apartment, leaving my roommate on the hook for rent?", "text": " My roommate has a lot of anger issues. He yells at me a lot, and on occasion has threatened to call the cops and tell them I'm  threatening to harm myself to get me on a hold. He doesn't do that often, but he's done it enough that I take it seriously. FWIW I am not suicidal, don't self-harm. He knows this. He also know that psych holds scare me.  I'm moving out without any kind of heads up. My friends are going to help me move all my stuff out in one afternoon. Electricity is in my name, as is internet. I'm transferring them to my new apartment. He'll have one day of a heads up to get his own electricity and internet. He can't afford rent without me. I'm not on the lease, but he does rely on my rent payments.  He's a terrible roommate for a lot of reasons. He's a total slob, just disgusting. And while that's a deal breaker for me in a roommate, the reason why I'm moving out on the fly with literally no warning is that he scares me. He's thrown things at me and left bruises. His laziness and refusal to clean up after himself puts my dog at risk. His dog is horribly untrained, and has knocked me down/snarled at me. But really, what it comes down to is I'm afraid he's going to fly off the handle and hurt me or follow through with his threats to call the cops on me. I do see a psychiatrist, but I'm nowhere near being a threat to myself or others. I just get super anxious sometimes. He yells at me a lot, talks down to me, tells me I ruin everything, I'm a bad person, I've ruined his life. I need to move out, I know this. But I've never left someone in the lurch like this before. My friends helped me plan this, and they say it is for my safety. I feel like I'm doing something very wrong. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "alRbPIUxO1OgBlwx8iy32yGOTC2JXBO9", "post_id": "akme6z", "action": {"description": "bugging my dad to give me back my car", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for bugging my dad to give me back my car?", "text": "First time poster and sorry doing this on mobile\n\n\nA little background first: \n\n        \n\n      My father who is 49yrs owns a motorcycle and a 1990's lexus 300. Around this time of the year the mornings are a bit tough here in San Diego,\nSo naturally he has been using his car instead of his motorcycle. \n\n      I live with my girlfriend at her family's house.   I own the ford and she has a honda but she can't drive yet.\n\n\nMy Father was getting new ignition coils for his car (1990's lexus 300e) and he put them back in the wrong order therefore causing a miss fire. He works a lot so he doesn't have the time and apparently the will to go back and fix his mistake. \n\n      So I let him borrow my used ford that I just bought 2 weeks ago until he fixes his car because I know how much it sucks to ride in cold mornings. My gf says its okay if I use her honda car instead. \n\n     2 weeks goes by and he still hasn't fixed his car. \"Okay\" I say \"He works a lot and getting the intake manifold of his lexus takes time\".  So I just text him if he has fixed his lexus. Apparently he want to sell the lexus and buy another used car. Okay fine.\n\n     I text him every other day bugging him about my car and he says he will get it done \"next week, sorry\" ...he says the same things for the next 2 weeks. \n\n     Its been a month now and he still has my car and no work has been done in the lexus . I agree its  100% my fault for telling to use it as long as he needs it but Im I the asshole for bugging he constantly to give me back my car? I just feel a little guilty since he is my dad and he is provided me with so much...but  idk Im a selfish little brat too?\n\n     He knows how to fix his car its just time consuming and tedious. \n\nHe owns a 2001 Honda crb just is you're curious\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "L4O4pNF8G0NfX77G6WUSJybxQjy25yx5", "post_id": "b7232c", "action": {"description": "telling my cousin workers the manager complained to me very loudly about them", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITAH for telling my cousin workers the manager complained to me very loudly about them?", "text": "In my store there are two managers. The main one isn't important to this story. We'll call the other one DL. \n\nNow, EVERYONE in that store hate DL. Hes a pervert, hes creepy and lazy. He loves to make out like he does so much work when he really just shoves all thos responsibilities onto us other workers. It's very well known no one likes him. \n\nOne shift, DL comes into the store clearly in a foil mood and begins to complain about the other staff members loudly in front of customers. Two in particular. Talking about how they hardly did anything the sift before (had a huge delivery and they didn't manage to get it all out) where one of the workers places things, everything he could complain about he did.\n\nNow,I'm on really good terms with the workers hes complaining about and I asked if he had told then he didn't like how they were doing things and he said he had multipul times. I know what a bullshitter this guy is. So I asked them. And he hasn't said a thing. I told both co workers what hed said.\n\nIn the end one of the co workers sat him down and confronted him about it. DL blamed ot on his diabetes, that hed been stressed and he didn't mean any of it. Everyone hates him even more. \n\nI told my dad this and he looked at me like I'd done the wrong with and I was just stirring shit and shouldn't have said anything. But I felt like they had a right to know since it was about their job and it was the manager complaining?\n\nI dont know. Was I the asshole here? Should I have kept quiet?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wb5g0yF12DSHWrVsEnf0L7jqnkBIjZL5", "post_id": "adgpuf", "action": {"description": "wanting my bf to pay his half", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting my bf to pay his half?", "text": "My boyfriend moved to my state to live with me and go back to college.As he had no job here when he moved I paid all expenses for several months totaling several thousand dollars(which I am not especially upset about but it is relevant to the rest).1 month or so after he moved was my birthday. He had no money at the time so I bought my own birthday dinner and he said he'd pay me back when he got a job. Well he didn't. He did pay his half of rent and food to be fair but not his half of utilities,internet, renters insurance,phone bill and never offered to pay me back. He started school and quit his job(which to be fair would've interfered with school due to the hours required) and took less than the full amount of loan money he was offered which meant that I had to cover food expenses by myself every month. Again to be fair he would occasionally contribute but more of the financial burden is on me and I'm Also putting myself through school(and in addition I'm working 20ish hours part time to make up for the fact that I'm paying for more). So I explain to him that he needs to take the full loan this semester and he says ok and that over break he will work more hours(he just stared rating ads online which pays like $100 a month). Well it's been a month and he did neither and break is almost over. In addition, this month he was short on his half of rent by $150 which long story short meant I had to drive 2 hrs to my nearest bank to deposit my Christmas cash to barely scrape by. My last boyfriend did similar things and I think that's why it upsets me because I feel taken advantage of but don't know how to start a conversation about this. He acted like he felt really bad about not being able to pay for stuff before... Am I the asshole for caring about the money?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "GBqk1AFF4KJbtFlD27NIgBXuoV0Cm46p", "post_id": "avysp6", "action": {"description": "walking out of a date with my wife", "pronormative_score": 31, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for walking out of a date with my wife?", "text": "So we arrange to meet at a busy burger place, I arrive on time and look for her outside, then inside by the door. There's a lot of people standing around, I scan the room a couple of times and then notice her waving; she's already got a table, sharing with three strangers.\n\nI come over smiling and say hi, but she's not happy to see me. She says \"That was the most pathetic thing I've ever seen\". I sit down, not smiling any more. I take off my hat and gloves and put them in my pockets. She says something like \"Oh you're mad at me now because I called you out on being dumb?\". I say I'm not dumb, but she insists. I say \"I was expecting to meet you by the door and it's busy so I didn't see you at first\". She keeps arguing. I say this is a date and I think we should be nice to each other, and if she disagrees we can leave. She says \"You being overly sensitive is not my problem\". I repeat that I'm going to leave if she doesn't want to be nice, and she keeps yelling so I start to get up. She throws her hands up and yells \"Really!?\". I walk out and my wife doesn't follow.\n\n----\n\nI'm not sure whether I did the right thing. I know it's rude of her to be so vocally critical and insulting, especially in front of other people. For some reason she thinks if we meet up and she sees me first that I've done something wrong, like I don't care about her or I'm being lazy. I've tried to talk about it but all she says is that I should try harder. She's naturally very observant while I tend to start with where I expect things to be and narrow it down. Obviously I don't think this is important enough to argue about since the extra time I took was maybe 5 seconds.\n\nFor context, the burger place is right by our house and she wasn't in any danger walking back by herself. She says I am an asshole for leaving her, but I feel that the ultimatum \"stop calling me stupid or I'm leaving\" is such an easy hurdle. I didn't want to leave, but I wanted to sit there having a shit time eating an expensive burger even less. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 31, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 31, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aYHQGFdKABGBDTablIwy7XkE1dJNSxAi", "post_id": "b8nw0x", "action": {"description": "refusing to clean my flat mates dishes unless I get paid", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for refusing to clean my flat mates dishes unless I get paid", "text": "I live in a shared university accommodation where the kitchen is checked everyday to make sure it\u2019s clean enough. My flat mate (who I don\u2019t really speak to and am not friends with) left a sink full of dirty dishes and went away for the weekend. There was a notice up in the kitchen saying if it\u2019s not cleaned by the end of the next day each room would be fined \u00a325. I told her that she needs to sort it out and I won\u2019t be paying any fine as it\u2019s all her fault. She said she can\u2019t clean it and asked if I would. I said I would for \u00a324.50 as she shouldn\u2019t have left it out in the first place and we don\u2019t clean each other\u2019s stuff and it\u2019s annoying to see her grim dishes left out all the time. She just ignored me after the request for money. I\u2019m my head a fine will stop her and make her be more tidy. The dishes are very dirty some kind of food still left in them and just water poured on top luckily the window is near the sink so I just leave it open. Should I have cleaned the dishes for free or am I the asshole for asking for money to stop her from getting a fine?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fLuKbEIRGtbszoNPoIdRrrCjN48bXTJ9", "post_id": "atxwwk", "action": {"description": "asking downstairs neighbors to refrain from band practice directly below my bedroom when I am home", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For asking downstairs neighbors to refrain from band practice directly below my bedroom when I am home?", "text": " I live in a residential neighborhood, work full time and taking college classes. I go to the library but many weekends/weeknights I just like to study in my room (do laundry, eat real meals, etc). I'm also on call, so sometimes my sleep schedule is awkward (I work in the healthcare industry).\n\nI loved my apartment until the downstairs neighbors moved in. I have no issue with them as people, but the fact that they play the drums, bass, guitar, keyboards and sing \\*directly\\* below my bedroom. It's an old house. Thin walls. I bought a pair of Bose QCII noise cancelling headphones. It doesn't do the job. I own two fans and a white noise generator. Carpeted much of my room. I still just feel/hear bass and drums no matter what I do. Again, old house (1800s).\n\nThey won't play after 9:30pm on weeknights, but often play from 7:00-9:30 when I'm home. The exact hours I am awake/alert for studying. They'll play all day on weekends occasionally. I get no advance notice (which I've asked for), and they aren't great at checking their phones during performances.\n\nLocal laws aren't clear on how loud you can be during the day. I can say my grades have sharply increased since going to cafe's every night to study instead of going home, but so have my credit card bills. I called the cops on them one day and they were pissed, but I enjoyed being able to study and relax in peace. It was great.\n\n1.) Is it so hard/expensive to just play with headphones when playing solo, or to just play in their own rooms?  \n2.) Is dealing with drums in residential areas just a part of city living? Is playing with mutes really that bad for solo drumming practice?  \n3.) When I say the walls are thin, I mean I can hear muffled conversations downstairs pretty well.\n\nHaven't decided if I ask them to stop playing when I'm home or I just sublet my bedroom. I could handle \\~3 hours of scheduled band practice on a weekend but my course load is quite high to deal with much more than that. I'd be open to exceptions.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zCw5Nc9BOa20XYuz6s1RhAt7JqMg2xEz", "post_id": "a8nv37", "action": {"description": "posting a Snapchat with another guy friend even though I have a boyfriend", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for posting a Snapchat with another guy friend even though I have a boyfriend?", "text": "Background: So I\u2019ve (F25) been seeing this guy (M29) for about 6 months now.  It\u2019s hard to tell how serious we are because he won\u2019t open up with his emotions and quite frankly - I can\u2019t even tell if he\u2019s had a gf before. We\u2019re exclusive at the very least. \n\nSo last night, home for the holidays, I post a Snapchat of me and my male BF for the past 8 years who also has a gf. I didn\u2019t think anything of it honestly, but now as of today, he\u2019s deleted me off Snapchat and won\u2019t tell me why.  I realize this is high-key ridiculous and immature, but AITA? My mom says I should see it from his point of view where I would be upset if he was posting pics of other girls. I mean I feel like I would have at least asked who it was before deleting and ghosting. \n\nThanks for your judgements in advance. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "28OSRtwpcDPRVv4qw85cNFyuCTKAOT6p", "post_id": "ar4or4", "action": {"description": "hating my mother", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating my mother", "text": "She mentally abused me when I was younger and continues to do it to this day, though it has died down a lot. She has also denied my identity as a trans woman, which causes me a lot of dysphoria, epically when I\u2019m gendered correctly by strangers.\nI still live in her house as I am a minor, and I haven\u2019t said \u201cI love you\u201d for at least 2 months. And I constantly remind her that I don\u2019t like being touched, then she touches me more (not sexually).\nWhenever we get into an argument it always ends with \u201cyou shouldn\u2019t yell at me\u201d - mother\n\u201cI haven\u2019t yelled at you\u201d - Me clearly not yelling\n\u201cDisrespectful little cunt\u201d - mother\nSo I just want to know if I\u2019m the asshole", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "e0FpuSQS3OS1988yK7JKYKSPth5U23I4", "post_id": "at90gh", "action": {"description": "\"ruining\" popular neighborhood path", "pronormative_score": 83, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for \"ruining\" popular neighborhood path?", "text": "I recently bought a home in a dead end street. My home is at entrance to the street but the yard/property itself is on the larger side, and the old owners used to let people walk through the yard to reach the connecting street. I guess on reddit it'd be known as a desire path.\n\nNow I'm not a bah-humbug sort of guy. I like having neighbors and I'll say hello, wave, make small talk, etc. However, I also like my privacy and space and I'm a big lawn sort of guy, so I've started personalizing it and have asked numerous people not to cut through my yard. I'm in the process of having a large privacy fence installed around my property to prevent it from happening.\n\nNow if I had many acres and someone was walking along the edge, I wouldn't care. But this is 20 feet from my home, and I feel uncomfortable having so many people go through my yard and I don't want to leave my curtains closed 24/7. It also wore a path in the yard, which is unsightly and I was hoping to set up my lawn ornaments, do some landscaping, etc which wouldn't be possible with strangers coming through. Not letting them use my yard adds *maybe* 2-3 extra minutes to their walk.\n\nA few neighbors have expressed their complaints and feel I'm being unfair. I've gotten a lot of looks and whispers as well. In particular, a family with like 6 kids who used to use the yard are very rude now. I've never been rude or hostile, just asked they don't use the shortcut and am now putting up the fence.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 80, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 4}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 83, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "J10Az5kAOY46W6IbH07WmJqI0hDVQref", "post_id": "akohop", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my family for verbally abusing my dog", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my family for verbally abusing my dog?", "text": "TL;DR at the bottom\n\n\nSo there isn't much context needed here but I have a dog that I've had for 5 years and we are currently living in a house with 9 other people (ages vary) They're all family but the house can only house 3-4 people realistically before it starts to feel cramped so theres always a lot of tension\n\nAs a the dog owner I try my best to keep my dog in line and well bahaved which works because her only major problem behaviorly** is strangers \n\nHowever, she sheds ALOT. I bathe her as often as I can and brush her but i do admit that, due to my horrible memory, I don't do those often enough which leads to hair getting stuck to EVERYTHING (food, clothes, beds, etc)\n\nThis leads to fights amongst my family members and it hurts me to see my dog treated poorly because of something she can't control\n\nShes screamed at, locked into a room for hours, hit (pretty rarely though)\nAnd when I try to defend her and try to keep them away from my dog they start to go after me with the verbal abuse\n\nNow the recent happenings, she loved getting on my bed but now that I've converted to a bunk bed and I'm on the top bunk with my sister at the bottom, she doesn't understand that she's not allowed on my sisters bed.\n\nEvery time I or anyone sees her we tell her to get off and she does with no compliants but she still does it everyonce in awhile and my sister is sick of it. \n\nToday she decided the best idea is to kick her out the room before she goes to school. But my dog doesn't exactly listen to her nor anyone really if she's woken up. It normally takes her a minute or so. So she didn't leave when my sister woke her and yelled at her to get out. She also didn't listen to me when I told her to get out once my sister woke me up. So my sister proceeded to get a broom to coax her out (bad idea because her previous owners used to abuse her with a broom) my dog attacked the broom and refused to budge. \n\nNow I'm annoyed that I was woken up (at that point I had 2-3 hours of sleep) and pissed that my dog is now stressed out and my sister is pissed cuz I need to \"control my animal and stop being a little b***h\"\n\nTL;DR my family hates my dog for shedding all over everything and verbally abuses her and me \n\nAdvice would be nice but I really just wanted to rant..what do I even do at this point?\n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "8YfKqZqyudQ4nWIRMLKCMTIsqbvdtFtI", "post_id": "aicez1", "action": {"description": "hating my 12 year old sister and ignoring her whenever possible", "pronormative_score": 41, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for hating my 12 year old sister and ignoring her whenever possible?", "text": "She\u2019s the youngest of us (we\u2019re four, my other two sisters are 14). I\u2019m the oldest at 21. I\u2019ve felt weird about this situation for a while, mostly because it\u2019s \u201cwrong\u201d to hate family, and because she\u2019s so much younger so I should behave more maturely for my age.\n\n\nEverything is a constant competition for her. She always wants to be the best, and if my other sisters do something to outshine her, they\u2019re \u201cbragging\u201d or \u201cstuck up\u201d. She\u2019s very toxic and like a snake, I guess. \n\nThe other two usually refrain from telling her things because they know Youngest will find a way to use it against them. \n\nShe likes to pick on them. For example, she calls them prostitutes and perverts to insult them. She compares her underdeveloped body to their more developed bodies, and sneers about it (they don\u2019t wanna grow up). She\u2019s stuck up, laughs at their misfortune, and is always causing conflict about something. She\u2019s also mother\u2019s favorite because she\u2019s sweet to mom and does everything she asks for, but tries to undermine us. I always say Youngest is becoming a budding narcissist.\n\nWith me, she doesn\u2019t respect me at all and parrots my mother (\u2018you\u2019re always butting in where you don\u2019t belong\u2019 when I try defending someone), among other things. She has a huge victim complex and always provokes and taunts and is overall nasty. I\u2019ve never met a 12 y/o so evil before. \n\nBecause I\u2019m so sick of Youngest, I\u2019ve been ignoring her lately. If she starts picking a fight, I\u2019ll ignore her. I\u2019ll tell her to stay out of my room, too, and usually don\u2019t share stuff with her or interact the way I do with my other sisters.\n\nI don\u2019t like being unfair and having preferential treatment, but I can\u2019t handle her personality. I can\u2019t handle somebody who would harm others and be so poisonous. My other sisters have their own share of flaws and selfishness but they\u2019re not toxic by putting others below them.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 40, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 41, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "y1OsdXJFL3HZDGnl8fmaysDOnG02pg2v", "post_id": "a7n0ww", "action": {"description": "not letting a stranger sleep in my room", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I don't let a stranger sleep in my room", "text": "Hey everyone! I answer a lot of questions here so it's nice to finally ask if what I am thinking of doing is the right thing or not. \n\nI live in a nice apartment in the downtown area of a major city. I rent this apartment (as in I'm not the owner just a tenant) and three other people also live there (none of them are the landlord). It's a good setup for me as I'm a college student, the room has it's own bathroom, the rent is a bargain, and the guys I live with are pretty cool.\n\nRight now I don't have classes so I came back to my hometown where I am busy studying for finals. I recently got a phone call from a housemate. He told me a friend of his is coming to stay with him for a few days. That is not the problem. It's perfectly normal at our house for this to happen. We have this foldable bed that can be wheeled into our rooms for guests or they just stay in the living room in that bed (what usually happens is this).\n\nHowever, my housemate has asked me if I the guy can crash in my bedroom. And I have a problem with this. I don't know the guy (though he doesn't sound like a troublemaker), it's my room (which I guess sounds petty and probably is but it is my place) and it's not really clean (it's not dirty as I usually clean it weekly but the last week at college was crazy with all the group projects and tests so I didn't have time to clean). Besides, the bed is fitted with my sheets and all. It is worth noting that my housemate says he will make my bed with sheets that belong to him and will clean the room. But I'm weirded out by the thought of him going in there and clean the place, the bathroom and change the bed sheets. I don't really want him to do that. And I don't want some guy I don't know sleeping in my bed. It's weird. Why can't he sleep in my housemates bed or in the guest bed at the living room? It's the way it always is. I don't get why this guy should get special treatment. I would never ask anyone for this.\n\nSo, I'm supposed to call him with a reply today. WIBTA if I said no?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "toSJvLe4N0HzFoXks0JrH6ZBb80NdG4f", "post_id": "azfyn0", "action": {"description": "hiding my Roommate's 3ds charger", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA For Hiding My Roommate's 3DS Charger?", "text": "My roommate and I are currently stuck together on a lease. She hasn't had a valid ID for 2 years. When her ID expired, I kept reminding her to get a new one. She kept putting it off. Neither of us drive, but I found 7 different people who all offered to drive her. However, she was too busy playing on her 3DS to accept any of the rides. She always just said \"I don't want to go right now. Some other time.\" Some of the people offered more than once, but she always refused to put down her 3DS long enough to go.\n\n​\n\nI swear, she is addicted to it. This went on for 2 years. Every day, whenever she wasn't at work, she would just sit in the living room and play on her 3DS from the minute she got home until the minute she went to bed. She wouldn't do anything else. No house chores, no errands, nothing. I kept nagging her about getting a new ID, telling her how much she needs one, explaining why it's important, but she wouldn't even listen to me.\n\n​\n\n2 months ago, her debit card expired, and a new one wasn't mailed. She has no checks because she just never wanted to get any. She can't go to the bank for her new debit card because she needs an ID to do that. So now she has no access to her money. Still, she wouldn't do anything about it. She expected me to just start paying the full rent and utilities by myself, as well as buy her groceries. I can't afford all that easily on my individual income.\n\n​\n\nSince she still refused to put down her 3DS and do something to fix this, I hid the charger while she was sleeping and told her that she can't have it back until she gets a new ID and new debit card to be able to access her money and pay her half of everything.\n\n​\n\nAfter only 1 day of her 3DS being dead, she started flipping out. I mean, she went nuts. She was like a drug addict having a crazy withdrawal. Still, I didn't return her charger. This seems to be working though because she finally went to the BMV to get a new ID. She still needs to wait for it to come in the mail before she can get a new debit card though.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 5, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "El8KH9UXcs5QGazXUJN0GN01dOBG4R6V", "post_id": "ajd2e2", "action": {"description": "not wanting to host a MLM party", "pronormative_score": 12, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to host a MLM party?", "text": "So basically I\u2019ve known this lady for about 4 years now and on and off throughout that period she has tried to recruit me to become an Arbonne consultant. She hasn\u2019t been too hardcore, just checking in one or two (well maybe three to four) times a year to see if I may be interested in being a consultant or purchasing any of their products.\n\nThe last time she contacted me we ended up meeting up because I felt so bad as she is honestly a lovely lady apart from the whole MLM thing. After I turned her down again as \u201cnetwork marketing\u201d is definitely not my thing, she asked if I would want to host a party. Feeling guilty I said I would possibly be interested but never fully committed to a date. \n\nSince then she has texted me a few times asking me to let her know when a good time to host the party would be and I honestly feel so guilty but I keep pushing it for (mostly legit) reasons. The thing is though, I am 100% not interested in hosting a party and after asking my friends, none of them want to come, nor are the interested in buying anything from this company. I could probably convince maybe one or two of friends to come but they wouldn\u2019t buy anything so it would be wasting even more of her time. \n\nI\u2019m going to text her over the next couple of days and let her politely let her know it won\u2019t be happening but my guilt and anxiety is eating me up even though I never fully committed in the first place. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 12, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oye5UelWvvrhOgGV2MqgpwnAbpPIFfuw", "post_id": "apppyf", "action": {"description": "telling my husband to quit his job and look after the kids after we have them", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for telling my husband to quit his job and look after the kids after we have them?", "text": "Just a new account because I want some third person perspective because everyone is mad at me.\n\nMe and my husband have been married for 11 years. I'm 37 and he's 33. I don't want to discourage him by any means but honestly I have a higher paying job than him which pays way more than his 60k$ job. \n\nWe always wanted to have kids and we bith agree that its the righr time because I'm 37 and I'm not getting any younger. He was involved with some start-ups which were a disaster and he lost a majority of his savings. He's just not lucky with money. He always keeps talking about how commercialising space is going to be the next big thing or about how he wants to start a VR based streaming service etc. I tried to be supportive but lady luck jever favoured him and I dont ridicule him for that. But honestly he has little formal education and he's dumb.\n\nBut he's depressed. Now, he wants to start another business. The idea is good enough but it will take a long time for it to be implemented and I'm sure it's going to end up badly for him. I decided that I've had enough of his antics. I dont want him to be depressed anymore. Maybe it's time to think of something doable now. \n\nYesterday he was crying and told me that he wanted to do something but he felt like a complete failure. I told him that he can be a good fathe r to our children and asked him to quit his job and stay at home. I just wanted to make him feel better and wanted him to be more practical. \n\nBut it ended up upsetting him so much and asked me if I resented him. I just told him that his new idea would not work out( I'm an investment banked and I've seen enough people just fail at things) . He just left and hasn't returned. I dont know where he went. I told this to my sister and she told me that was very rude of me.\n\nAITA for being practical? Could I have done this better?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 13, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "fECbNdjM2NZTdP6X8HWhv2kGePGRTK40", "post_id": "b4px4w", "action": {"description": "telling my mom my sister sends nudes", "pronormative_score": 62, "contranormative_score": 17}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom my sister sends nudes?", "text": "AITA if it only slipped??? \n\nMy sister [17] is always talking down on things I [16F] do. She always mentions how I\u2019m a \u201ccatfish\u201d for wearing makeup, and criticizes the way I dress. Which, I\u2019ll admit bothers me but I try not to pay too much mind. And she always runs to tell my mom when I do something \u201cbad,\u201d like getting a tattoo. \n\nBut the other day she keep insinuating that I\u2019m \u201cpromiscuous\u201d because I spent 3 nights away from home, in which I would only come home to shower and leave again. In reality, I was helping a friend who\u2019s mom just had a baby, by driving them around and just babysitting so they could rest. My mom knew this but my sister didn\u2019t. She kept making comments and calling me a \u201choe.\u201d \n\nI didn\u2019t really care much, as I know who am I and my mom knew where I was. But she just kept going on and on about how it looked bad, and saying it\u2019s not fair that I don\u2019t get in trouble for doing \u201cthose kind of things.\u201d \n\nSo I just blurt out, \u201c At least I\u2019m not sending nudes.\u201d I only knew she does because she sent some to a friend of mine, and he was being a jerk asking me to send some too, so he could \u201ccomplete the set.\u201d \n\nMy mom just turns to look at her, and my sister\u2019s face drops. She got her phone taken away and she can\u2019t go out \u201cuntil further notice.\u201d \n\nMy sister and I don\u2019t have the best relationship, so I don\u2019t feel bad that she got in trouble, I just feel bad because of the disappointment in my mom\u2019s face. I feel like that was something my mom could\u2019ve gone without knowing. And now everyone in the house is super tense and I just feel bad. \n\nBut AITA if it kind of just slipped, even if it was out of spite? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 60, "EVERYBODY": 9, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 62, "WRONG": 17}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "c7WHpNwgtwbBiIr4BUXtNKzPzm4PUf6U", "post_id": "ac9vmm", "action": {"description": "not giving my parents money and becoming emotionally numb to them", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For not giving my parents money and becoming emotionally numb to them.", "text": "I really just need to know and what other ways there are to look at this situation. I'm sorry if there is a better place for this, but most other subs seem to be biased towards the child and that wont help me. The background to help render your verdict:\n\nEver since I had my first job my parents (my Father specifically) has asked for money. When I was young and in high school I didn't really think anything of it. We occasionally had some hard times and my mom wasn't always employed so i figured it was my way of giving back. The amount was never all that much either, 50 or so dollars every now and then. \n\nAfter my first high school job, I saved up some money, around 1k, and went to college thinking I would take out some loans and have that 1k to pay for books and be a little buffer. During the end of this year my grandmother passed away leaving my parents and two uncles their belongings and estate to be split equally. This ended up causing my uncles to bicker and fight, but in the end everything was as it should be. Meaning my parents came into a not large, but not insignificant amount of money. Some of this was to be used for me to get braces. My parents made the decision to go through with this and rather than pay the total amount, set up a payment plan.\n\nAs my junior year approached, I was in between jobs and my cushion was gone. I hated it so much but I asked them for 250 dollars to help pay for rent. It killed me inside to do this, but they helped and I was able to make rent. Later on I learned that my Father asked my uncle (his brother that he was still on good terms with) for this money. My mother later on deposited some more money without me asking into my account (somewhere to the tune of 50 dollars a month for 8 months). I told her not to do this, but she told me it was her money and that was how she wanted to spend it. That it was coming directly out of her paycheck every time she got paid and that she didn't want to go through the effort to undo it. My Mom is stubborn.\n\nMy senior year rolls around and my Father gets into a car accident. I go to see him in the hospital the day of and he seems fine and in good spirits. Over the coming months, he takes off of work due to pain and health I believe. My understanding of the situation becomes more and more hazy after this point. All I care about is that I managed to graduate and land a job straight out of college. I start throwing every penny I have at my student loans.\n\nWhile going back to the orthodontist I learn that my parents haven't made any payments on the amount that my braces cost. I take on this debt as well and pay it off. My parents start asking for a bit more from me every now and then, and they only contact me to ask for money. The most being 400 which I am unable to give. I ask them about a budget and to see what their finances look like. From what I can see, they should be able to afford everything without any help from me. I get on to them about asking money from me at this point and begin to get a little upset. I'm working really hard to pay off my loans and pinching pennies but they are unable to budget and get their act together. I stop giving them money at this point.\n\nSome time in the following months two things happen and I am not sure which occurs first. My dad becomes unemployed and he has several digits on his foot removed. I don't know what happened first because I get a text from my Mom saying as much and which hospital room he is in. I go and check it out and again nothing crazy, the doctors aren't sure if things need to be removed or not but they will keep him over night. I go back to work.\n\nI get word that they did end up removing some of his toes. I feel bad but Mom tells me not to worry and that she will take care of Dad. I still get texts asking for money every now and then, sometimes I give them 50 or 70. A year goes by and Mom tells me that my Dad has tried to kill himself. I'm out of town for the week, but when I get back I visit my Mom first. At this point it occurs to me that my parents are living without power, and are behind on rent. Dad planned on committing suicide the around the time the power was going to be shut off. Mom is furious when I see her because according to her, she was unaware that he was asking me for money and that she had no notice that the bills weren't being paid. She tells me he had their only phone for the majority of the time and that now that he was in the psych ward, she had seen the messages from debt collectors. She also informs me that he has been \"talking to other women\" as well.\n\nWe visit my Dad together and she refuses to hug him. I can't really blame her if what she said is true. I decide not to bring this up since he already tried to commit suicide and I don't want to upset anyone further. This is the point where I get really numb to the whole situation. Dad seems happy he's in the psych ward and talks about the warm food and heat they have there. My first thought is that he did this just to get out of his miserable situation at home. I tell myself that's not true, but I can't keep that out of my head.\n\nAnother year goes by and after all this, my Mom goes to work and my Dad sits in his chair in their house collecting disability and doing I don't know what. I continue to get texts asking for money, and a little while later I'll get another one saying they don't need it.\n\nI stopped giving them money and I feel like that lead to this. I feel emotionally manipulated because it always seemed like they were both asking for money. I'm still not sure if what my Mom said was true. I'm emotionally drained and honestly I don't want to see or talk to them anymore. I'm not sure what to think or who is at fault. I am not even sure if I know the whole story.\n\nAm I an asshole for feeling this way and causing all of this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "olNICSmsZCTcw5hCic565BGBNHuYwwWG", "post_id": "at1i8v", "action": {"description": "being upset for the wrong reason when a guy at my school died", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for being upset for the wrong reason when a guy at my school died", "text": "So maybe 7 or 8 years ago in high school, I used to take an IT class along with a few of my mates and this kid who was disabled. He was a nice enough guy, and very timid and softly spoken. I think it was muscular dystrophy that he had so he found difficult to coordinate himself and could not walk. This kid, let's call him Dan, struggled with the IT coursework and I think I'm right in saying (although I'm no doctor) that muscular dystrophy does not affect the brain, so he was just a bit plain old slow.\n\nBecause I was pretty good at IT and had a free period after the IT class, the teacher asked me to spare an hour after each class (twice a week) to help Dan with his coursework. Although I wasn't thrilled at the prospect of losing half my lunch break twice a week, I said yes because I felt bad for the kid and hoped this would give me some sort of extra credit from the teacher.\n\nThis went on for the rest of the year, maybe 4 or 5 months, until we broke up for the summer break. When we came back to school the next year, Dan wasn't there and everyone just assumed he had changed schools or dropped out for whatever reason.\n\nFast forward another couple of months and one day, during lunch period, the headmaster gathered everyone in our year group into the common room. This had never been done before so we assumed there was an important announcement. With a somber look on his face and in a serious voice he told us \"I'm very sorry to have to tell you this, but I've just been informed that Dan Secondname has passed away\".\n\nDan, while not having had many friends, was known to be a lovely guy and liked by everyone so people were understandably upset. Girls were crying and me and all my mates looked at eachother in shock. The headmaster went on, \"it was known to Dan's parents and all the teachers here that he did not have long left and it was his parents wishes that none of you, or Dan, be told that his condition was terminal, so that he could lead as normal life as possible\".\n\nI got to thinking, why the hell would the teacher have gotten me to do all that work with him (I ran the maths, like 30 or 40 hours worth) when she knew full will he was gonna die! I'm also not sure how I feel about Dan's parents' decision not to tell him he was going to die. Pretty sure I'd want to be told of something like that so that I could live my life to the fullest.\n\nSo what do you lot think, am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XViF7ZwHnY8lkBujaG7dV4aSLlbWyahM", "post_id": "avpdgi", "action": {"description": "not wanting go to my fathers funeral", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting go to my fathers funeral", "text": "Im sorry if my grammer is bad, I just suck at english. So just a not so quick backstory my mom got married very young she was 19 and my dad was 30. I was born a year after they got married and my father and his family were extremely contolling and manipulative to my mom. They got a divorce when i was 3 and my mom got soul custody. My stepdad came into my life a few years later and he has been such a blessing the last 20 years of my life. He has gone above and beyond taking care of me and my mom, In my eyes my stepdad is my only father. With that said I havent seen my biological father in atleast 5 years and I would be lying if i said he hadnt tried reaching out. He has tried to gain access back into my life and everytime ive tried to give him a second chance he is nothing short of a manipulative asshole. I got to the point where i blocked all forms of communication with the entire part of my family, that was 5 years ago. They are toxic people and i'm done dealing with it. Anyway to get to the point my biological father died and a friend of that side of my family contacted me telling me that my father passed away. To be frank Im not sad im not angry and honestly I dont care. He's a stranger to me so why would i spend my time and money to fly out to go to his funeral. I got into contact with one of my aunts and very politly told her that i wouldnt be going and that i offer my condolences and she called me a selfish asshole and called my husband and my 3 month old daughter worthless N*****. They act like just because he donated his sperm I have to be apart of that. So im curious AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "07GRfLLaD4UZx9CybfrPGEA42BUgtRNl", "post_id": "aqo523", "action": {"description": "getting mad at the mods on this one minecraft server", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at the mods on this one minecraft server?", "text": "So this happened a few years back.\n\nI was playing on this minecraft server right and I was being teleported into lava with a bunch of other players.\n\nThey kept on doing it after the players died and respawned. The mods removed losing the inventory after you died so my stuff didn't burn up. \n\nI saw a few of the staff team floating above the lava and I got pissed and asked who was behind this. I couldn't get a clear look at there usernames. I didn't really\n\nOne week later I checked the owners youtube channel[I cant find it now] and I found a video where he is teleporting people into lava and uploading it onto youtube. He was doing this with the other staff team and they made fun of me for complaining. I was absolutely pissed, I went on the minecraft server but the owner wasn't on so I went to one staff member who was my friend and started telling her exactly what I thought of the owner and she muted me. I used signs to ask to be unmuted, she said no so I cursed her out, using signs and she banned me for disrespecting the owner. \n\n\nWas I the asshole? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ig16gZNni9jHMQf9Ya28dJRqEgo9vq5N", "post_id": "ar6oue", "action": {"description": "being selfish about food", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being selfish about food?", "text": "Heyo, I\u2018m sorry if this sounds weird, but I just got into a really bad argument with my roommates and they make me feel very guilty.\n\nSome information you might need first: I have been anorexic for about two years, I\u2018m in good therapy and have made progress, but I\u2019m still about 10kg/20lbs under my lowest healthy limit. I\u2019m still very scared of food and I need to control everything about it or I won\u2019t be able to eat it. Recently however I\u2018ve been feeling more motivated to eat and wanting to gain weight. Eating Disorders aren\u2019t something you talk about a lot in my country.\n\nI live in a dormitory with about 50 others and multiple kitchen, however I am not allowed to have and store food in my room, but I do it anyway since eating around people makes me anxious and I cannot keep it down yet. However I really like to cook (common paradox among anorexics haha) and since I obsess so much over food, I\u2018d say it\u2019s really good and everyone always begs for a bite. But since I\u2018m trying to gain weight, I try to make myself calculated portions without cutting out calories.\n\nRecently however, all of my cooking miraculously shrinks. Whenever I leave it unattended, my group of FRIENDS take parts of it or even the entire container if I prepared it for the next day. Whenever I asked them, they never deny it and just tell me I\u2018m being selfish, since they cook too for the group (they do, but so do I occasionally). I was very emotionally distraught by that and threw quite the fit and told them about my issues, but there wasn\u2019t much of a response.\n\nI also keep little snacks I see as safe foods in my room, if I didn\u2019t get enough calories or want to up them for the day. A few hours ago some closer friends out of that group came over to my room since I have a nice TV and we wanted to watch a movie together. After a while one of them suddenly got up and went to my secret stash in my wardrobe, got all my food out and threw it on the bed and began eating. I was extremely shocked he knew about it, but very enraged and snatched most of it away apart from what they had already opened. I told them off and began bawling my eyes out again, but they said I should stop being so selfish and secretive with good food, especially when I\u2018m going to throw it all up anyway. They said that isn\u2019t what friends do and they at least always have the curtesy to offer me food, even if I always decline.\n\nWe now have a big argument and I feel like everyone is against me. I do not necessarily feel like what I do is wrong since I\u2019m trying to get healthy and not die. Is this behavior really that unacceptable? Should I apologize and plan them more in? What should I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Zavfmz6o9phWFDhJEbWNIgljLPxnqfd8", "post_id": "adspkj", "action": {"description": "not paying $14 to keep a friendship", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not paying $14 to keep a friendship", "text": "Note before you read\n\u2022I am on mobile. Sorry.\n\u2022I also just created this Throwaway. Sorry.\n\u2022This happened months ago. \n\u2022This is a long one I think? Sorry.\n\u2022Sorry for the formatting.\n\u2022Also if you the person I'm talking about is reading this I want to you know I'm not sorry. \n\n\nIt all started back in February of 2018, my friends and I have been all excited to find out about this convention that was to be announced. We got the dates and that night we hoped into discord and started looking at hotels. This is where we kinda messed up, They're was a total of 8 of us going, but when we were looking for hotels there was only four of us secured on going(This will come up later.) We find an incredible place with a great deal! It was truly a luxurious hotel the best part, was the fact the convention was 1 block away. \n\nWhen we paid for the hotel it's was pretty pricey and it was non-refundable. All of us went in knowing this. A little less than $400 each for the entire trip 4 days 3 nights.\n\nHere's where I now know where we went wrong. Because we booked the hotel in February and the convention wasn't until October. I told my friends I would pay for the hotel on my Credit card, with the idea that they would just pay me back before we went on the trip I wasn't to strick on the deadline on paying me back but I knew the guys were good for it. The first one who paid was my friend that we met online lived close to the convention maybe a 30 minutes drive but really wanted to stay with us during the whole thing. The other two guys I had went to highschool and till this day still very good friends both paid me before we had left in October. \n\nAt this time we had 3 more people tagging along and because our group is based off of equality, we told them that they wouldn't just get to crash in the hotel we paid for. So asking them for some cash to help pay for snacks and beer and supplies. One had already paid and there was a miscommunication to which he had believed to paid for both him and his brother but in fact we were asking the money from each of them so it was going to be double what they had thought. To them it looks like we're trying to make money off of them. They need to talk more.\n\nThe hotel situation was that since four of us were paying so much we had thought we're paying for style, we each got our own queen size bed and 2 separate rooms, But we we're going to have to get cots and we didn't know how much that would be and the hotel was no help since we booked through a third party. \n\n(If you've made it this far it's not much more I promise)\n\nThe first friend who lived near by informs the group one month before that he had requested the wrong weekend off. All of us were bummed but he said he was still gonna go. I'm thinking okay.. but now we have an extra bed and that frees up the room and all the cots. So he then proceeds to tell everyone how he wants his money back for the hotel. And I kinda said I'm sorry but you knew it was non-refundable. He insists that I have a pot of money and don't have to pay for the hotel until after and he wants his money back for the convention. At this point I've saved up my own for this trip and I wasn't about to pay him out of pocket for him confusing the weekends. But what I told him is that if the other 3 people go it would be enough to cover the cots and his F**k up. But that's when I found out they were all talking and thinking I would just take money from them and use it on weed and stuff. (I'ma smoker but c'mon we're not all bad. Hell most of us are pretty outgoing and Incredible people.) The 3 guys that were going to sleep on the cots all back out asking for their one payment back which I did still have because that was after we had already paid for the hotel back in February. I'm reiterating because it was so far in advance I felt bad for the guy. I told him sorry I won't be able to cover your fees. And he just didn't take it. We ended up having a friend fill in last minute agreeing to pay what the other one wanted for the bed that weekend.. \n\nWe're at the convention and now all 8 of us are there awkward kinda but trying to put it past us and that we we're all just trying to enjoy the con. Fast forward to the last day. He offers to drive us all to go get Thai food nearby. We agree head over and there's only 5 of us the others stayed back. The check comes and it's over a $100 for this one guy who was a week earlier asking for a refund for the trip. So I told him \"I'm not letting you pay the whole thing let me pay some how much you want I have cash\" \n\"No worries, I got it\"\n\"Are you sure\"\n \"yes I'm sure\" \n\"Let me at least leave the tip\"\n\"No no it's okay it's fine I gotchu\"\n\"Thank you man you really didn't need to buy your friends lunch.\" \n\nFast forward to the next Friday which is kinda like half our groups pay day. In our groupchat with friends who didn't even go to the con.\n\n\"Hey ThrowawaySorry, what's your Venmo so you can send the $14 for the lunch I bought you last weekend?\"\n\"I'm sorry. Sure $14? But can I ask why wait until a week later to ask me for money? I had cash on the trip why not then?\"\n\"Sorry sometimes I just tune you out, but yeah can you send me the money I know it's payday. I assumed you were broke because you couldn't pay me back for the hotel room.\"\nThe whole conversation went on for awhile and I tried to hold my composure, and even admitted to being petty.  came back to if I didn't pay him the money I could kiss the friendship goodbye so that's that. I don't talk to that guy anymore, my friends do but it's because he hasn't \"done\" anything to them which I get I'm not asking my friends to stop being friends what I'm asking is Am I The asshole for not paying the $14? Should I have just done it and shut him up or did I do the right thing and stand my ground? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "vPYUiI181NvDcG9dvmize8HCfBDTiKxd", "post_id": "alfnc5", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Delivery Driver Tip.", "text": " \n\nI'm a pizza delivery driver.\n\nYesterday I delivered to my local middleschool. At this middleschool, on 1/2 days, all of the students will pool their funds and buy pizza for lunch. They're good kids who usually tip well.\n\nOn that day, they gave me an envelop marked \"$210.\" This was $200 for the pizza, and a ten dollar tip for me. However, at the end of the night, when I counted the money, the bill was short - there was only $200 in the envelope.\n\nI assumed that someone (whoever counted the money) stole my tip, and figured that I wouldn't do anything about it. So today I called the school to report it, because, you know, whoever stole the tip should get in trouble for that - it was the kids money, after all!\n\nWas I right for doing that? The secretary I spoke to offered to tip me, and I feel like she thought I was just trying to get more money.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YQy3VjJ4NNuDRNJD5ntwaqnNUH1yTCRS", "post_id": "a40gwc", "action": {"description": "insisting on my mom not being present for the euthanasia of pur dog", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "WIBTA if I insisted on my mom not being present for the euthanasia of pur dog?", "text": "Mobile formatting, blah, blah, sorry, blah.\n\nThe dog in question is mostly my mom's, maybe her favorite dog she's ever had. We got him when I was a kid, picked him up off the side of the road,  and he has been an angel of a dog ever since. \n\nUnfortunately his health is deteriorating and it's coming time for him to be put down. He has bad pancreatitis that isn't responding to antibiotics, and prostate issues caused because my mom didn't want to get him fixed. He is incontinent and in pain so I've been trying to bring my mom around to the idea of putting him to sleep. \n\nShe just lost her other beloved dog a couple months ago, and is prone to depressive episodes. Last time we had to put a dog down she went in with him for the process, and seeing him die threw her into an 8 month depression. \n\nI don't live at home anymore, so I can't be there to help if she goes onto a depression again. I have volunteered to go in and be with Scruffy (the good boy in question) as he is put down, but she says she wants to be there. \n\nI know she has a right to be with her best buddy in his final minutes, but if it's going to cause her emotional trauma that will cripple her for months I'd rather she not be there. And there's no way I would let scruffy leave this world without someone he loves with him, I just think it should be me instead of my mom. \n\nWould I be an asshole for pushing the issue? I'd like to be nice and gentle about this, but he has a week max in the condition he is in. \n\nAlso I want to get her a puppy for Xmas but she insists she wants a few months to grieve. Imo the best way to cope with letting go of a dog is a new puppy. Should I try to get her to adopt anyways? \n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "k3vWVNzwjdabRChA30weqLzo1omJSp6g", "post_id": "asbwq4", "action": {"description": "telling a guy he lost his job offer before he learned about it", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling a guy he lost his job offer before he learned about it?", "text": "So I'm a chef and recently did a tasting for a job (this is when you cook for the person hiring). It was kind of strange in that I did it *with* my competition, we were given the same mystery ingredients and everything.\n\nThe guy ended up being really cool and we chatted the whole time and exchanged numbers before I left. He ended up getting the job offer (which I learned about a week later when I texted the guy hiring to follow up); it was disappointing but the guy was very good so I didn't take it to heart. And he's a good guy too, so that helps.\n\nSo a week after that, I get a call from the hiring guy saying that things have changed and now they'd like to offer me the job.\n\nI texted the chef that originally got the job and just asked, \"Hey out of curiosity why did you decline the job?\" because I was wondering if he saw some red flags that made him decide to go in another direction.\n\nHe texted me back. There was a problem with his background check and he's been working with HR to resolve it. He has *no idea* they have offered me the job; he still thinks he's got it.\n\nPretty sure he's calling the hiring guy now to give him a piece of his mind, and now I'm worried that I just fucked myself out of a good job by being nosy. On top of that, I feel AWFUL that he had to hear it from me that his offer was being retracted - I feel like they didn't tell him because if I'd said no, they might have considered keeping him. I apologized to him in the text but he hasn't replied (and the hiring guy didn't answer my call back) so I feel like he's called in to light someone up over this.\n\nI'm swamped with guilt and nerves now over creating this situation. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2yj9PE15ZNFqit2xdU3dAjDKsyENyZHv", "post_id": "b02xhl", "action": {"description": "being mad at my girlfriend for shoving a cupcake in my face", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my girlfriend for shoving a cupcake in my face.", "text": "My girlfriend and I got into a fight. Earlier that day she tried to smash my face into a cupcake because I wouldn\u2019t stop tickling her when watching TV. I dodged and it got on my shirt. I was fine. I changed shirts. No big deal. We moved on.\n\nLater that night we were watching tv with friends. Her Apple watch came on, it said get up and move for a minute. I took her drink and set it on a table. I picked her up and started trying to dance. I was laughing, I guess looking back now I shouldn\u2019t have forced her to get up. But then while I\u2019m trying to dance with her. She says, \u201cFriend Name, cupcake me!\u201d. It never occurs to me that she would try to smash another cupcake into my face so I don\u2019t hesitate or flinch. She leans back with her other hand grabs it and puts the frosting all over my face and beard.\n\nI\u2019m upset by this, she and my friends are laughing. They start grabbing their phones to take a picture of me. I run into my room slam the door and run into the bathroom to get it off. They run in after me and pick the lock to the bathroom to get a picture. I knock the phone out of one of my friends hands then curse at them to get out of my room. I just didn\u2019t want a picture of me with pink icing all over my face. I said the F word like 3/4 times honestly.\n\nI take a shower and go back out there. My girlfriend doesn\u2019t apologize to me or anything. We then get into an argument in front of our friends about how she doesn\u2019t feel like she needs to say she is sorry. She thinks that it was funny and she thinks so did everyone else. So in her mind there is no reason I should be upset about it. \n\nThen we don\u2019t talk about it and at the end of the night. We talk and she still doesn\u2019t feel she is in the wrong. She calls me childish for not letting it go. She thinks I need to grow up. I keep bringing it up because I\u2019m upset that she didn\u2019t feel like she did anything wrong. I don\u2019t know if I\u2019m justified or not. AITA here for not letting it go?\n\nTLDR: Girlfriend smashes a cupcake in my face when I light heartedly make her get off the couch. She thinks I\u2019m childish and in the wrong for not thinking it\u2019s funny. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 5, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "URiwSjoHwXXSYvYjrZxoaTX36JrFiaBe", "post_id": "b9n4wj", "action": {"description": "seeing a Movie without my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Seeing A Movie Without My Girlfriend", "text": "I went and saw Pet Semetary with a friend yesterday. Before I saw the movie, I had messaged my girlfriend some things a few hours before and she viewed them but didn't respond, an indicator that she was mad or annoyed at me for something. As such, I didn't mention I was going to see the movie to her as it seemed she didn't want to talk to me.\n\nAfter I finished the movie, I decided to message her again (even though she still had not messaged me anything), saying how scary the movie was. She then finally responded saying \"wtf why didn't you see it with me?\". I told her that she has said multiple times in the past that she doesn't like seeing scary movies with me for various reasons. We went back and forth a bit with me saying she never once mentioned wanting to see Pet Semetary with me.\n\nShe continued to berate me for a bit, and I eventually said that \"You're acting very controlling\". After this she completely blew up at me and has been very mad at me ever since. Am I The Asshole for seeing it without her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oCwTiZoa01LwXAh7RnwxCtL4sDh8am2I", "post_id": "9w6xtd", "action": {"description": "telling my mom she can't stay with me over Christmas break", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my mom she can't stay with me over Christmas break?", "text": "I've just bought a new house and will be moving in Dec 17. I will officially have the keys about a week before and told her she is fine to stay before I move in but once I'm in I want to be able to have a place I can get away and enjoy my first home with my girlfriend while we unpack and move around. \n\nWe both work really strenuous hours at year end and I really don't want to work a 12 hour day and come home and not be able to just unwind. \n\nI feel bad for telling her no because she has given me a bit of financial help with the home. But she also has the option to stay with my grandparents, or her sister. \n\nSo on the one hand I think I should just suck it up and let her stay, but on the other hand I don't want my first week in my new home to be governed by guests. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "hRLamDt9QSHw73Dw59RewRjCrj2V2hqS", "post_id": "a2iqo3", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my friend over a game", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my friend over a game", "text": "Me and a group of friends get together every few months to play pathfinder. Recently we decided to start a new campaign, because the old one was fizzling out. The person who first introduced us to the game and knew the most about it decided that he wanted to GM a full open world campaign that follows directly off of pathfinder lore, but he didn't want to run a module, he wanted to run a homebrew.\nThe day after the idea came out, I went on a camping trip with the person in question. We aren't best friends, but he doesn't have many friends, so he invited me to go with him.\nOn the second day of the trip, he decided that it would be fun to create my character, and much to my surprise he pulled every single pathfinder rule book out of the trunk of his car. After looking over the classes and races, I decided to play a Tiefling rogue. \nMy friend said that it would be cool to use one of the pathfinders devils/demons as my demonic heritage, and I thought that would be cool. He told me to roll a d20 and after I said my result, he said \"Well, your father can now posses you once per session.\" I told him that was not cannon and that I didn't want a drawback like that and he said that I became proficient with his favored weapon and it was slightly more powerful in my hands, and at higher levels had extra magical damage. \nThe first session started and we were doing an intrigue mission for someone, and while sneaking into a building my father possessed me, and I tried to kill the party. I was knocked unconcious by the fighter and my character did nothing for the next 2 hours. \nWe returned from the mission, and the quest giver turned out to be a god in disguise and she gave everyone in the party, but me, a magic power that they could use at will. \nI asked the GM why I didn't get anything, and\n he said it was my whip, and that he was trying to balance the party. I was annoyed, but I let it \npass.\nThe next session started, and I was alone in a tavern asking around in the main town that the campaign was set in, and my father possessed me, and I killed half of the bar before being taken by the guards into a holding cell. The rest of the party came to rescue me, and when they pulled me out of the cell, the god from earlier came down from the heavens and gave them all an additional magic power that they could use at will. I asked why I didn't get one, and the GM\n said that it was because I didn't contribute to the rescue mission and it ruined the other \nmission. \nI lost my shit and told him that I didn't want to have this shitty father possession thing and I was fine if I lost the whip as long as the party could be balanced. I asked if I could rewrite my characters backstory and if the party could lose these super powerful abilities or if I could gain them (we kept having encounters that were a much higher CR than the party, and the rest of the parties magic abilities allowed them to clear the encounters while I stood in the back and tried to not die.)\nHe said no, and I fudged rolls until my character died so I could created a min-maxed character to try and keep up with the party. \nI wanted to build a monk, but for my race, I wanted to be one of the example races from Advanced Race Guide, and he told me that I couldn't, even though they are cannon pathfinder. I got pissy and created the most overpowered build that I could find. \nHe repeatedly tried to kill the new character, and at one point during the last session I ever attended he had a tarrasque corner me in the middle of the woods and killed my character. I got very angry at the GM and the only girl in the group (who's first ever roleplay experience was this session,) told me to get my shit together. \nNext time we were supposed to meet, I got messages in our groupchat, but no one ever asked if I was coming. I decided not to go, and left the groupchat, screaming at the GM and callung them assholes. \nI know they still meet, and I have made amends with the GM, but the girl has since joined our other campaigns and is snarky and rude to me in all of them as well. \n\nTLDR; I joined one of my friends pathfinder campaigns and he was prejudiced against my character and I yelled at him. \n\nAITA for getting so upset.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lBefqdC8LzsfdF5EdcXgyV9zfR4gUDir", "post_id": "ac8eee", "action": {"description": "being upset with my so for not asking for help and ruining my stuff", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset with my SO for not asking for help and ruining my stuff?", "text": "So my partner and I have been living together for the passed few months and on and off living together for almost a year (staying at each other\u2019s for long periods of time.) I\u2019ve lived alone for almost 3 years and I pretty much learnt how to take care of myself with common sense or biting the bullet and calling my mum up to ask. One of the things I used to call her about was laundry as I have nice clothes and really don\u2019t want to ruin them. \nMy partner however says he\u2019s taken care of himself but that really only means he occasionally cooks for himself and gets himself to bed on time. Other than that everything was taken care of for him at home until we actually moved in together. Even when he would stay at mine I would make sure everything of his was clean and put away because it was my room and it wouldn\u2019t get done if I\u2019d been petty and only cleaned my things. \n\nSince we moved in he doesn\u2019t exactly pull his weight, he\u2019ll usually only tend to do housework when he has a day off and even then it\u2019s usually just the dishes, he\u2019s not once picked up the vacuum, ironed or anything else etc. But is able to put a load of laundry on more recently which I taught him how to do because he has no idea how to work the machine or how to separate colours and fabrics etc. \nOver Christmas I was at my parents house and he was back at our house, during that time he told me he put a load of washing on which I thought was great, I\u2019d get back and have clothes to wear when I was at home. When I got back I\u2019d noticed he\u2019d put a few of my knitted jumpers on to wash, they had dried and had been put on the chair. I then saw that my favourite jumper and another jumper I\u2019d spend a lot of money on had been completely unstitched. I was pretty upset because my favourite jumper was a gift from my parents and at the time they really couldn\u2019t afford it, I absolutely love that jumper. I didn\u2019t get annoyed with my SO though, people make mistakes, I\u2019ve turned things different colours before. So instead I spent an hour fixing the jumper until it looked okay to wear again, the other I just use for comfort now. \nI really stressed to him though that if something is out of the ordinary (t-shirt and jeans etc) then it shouldn\u2019t be done on a hot temperature that it was done on and I\u2019m not gonna be annoyed if he leaves out things like that for me to do because I get they\u2019re hard to wash and I\u2019ve been doing it for years.\n\nSo last night he put another wash on, he told me it was underwear which I thought was fine.\nThis morning I pulled everything out and low and behold the settings were on very high and for exclusively cotton. Long story short I\u2019ve had to throw out a bunch of things I got for Christmas and also 2 of my nice bras because they have been decimated, a lot of the other stuff is discoloured as well but it doesn\u2019t matter cause it\u2019s underwear.\n\nSo now I\u2019m torn, because it\u2019s a nice gesture that he\u2019s done laundry and helped me out, but he didn\u2019t listen to anything I told him and has destroyed a load of my stuff, which he 100% could have asked for help with, and I would have done it. AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "H6Av6HgtTs1k4a9aZP3ACwj4a12cP1vd", "post_id": "aczef6", "action": {"description": "reporting a friend to school due to inappropriately interacting with middle school girls", "pronormative_score": 48, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for reporting a friend to school due to inappropriately interacting with middle school girls?", "text": "TL;DR at the bottom, so introducing myself and the situation, I'm a 17 year old senior who attends an fairly small interconnected high school and middle school, although generally separated in timings. My (former) best friend named Dan, who is also 17 years old and in 12th grade, recently started conversing with a couple of 8th graders who also attend our school; named Kate and May, who are best friends.\n\nDan never really had any sexual encounters throughout high school, nor a serious girlfriend. Recently he has attended the school musical in which he has interacted with middle schoolers much more, and began an unhealthy relationship with Kate. They started talking in October and officially became a couple in December. He asked advice from me whether the relationship could work and whether or not it was correct to date a 13-year-old, to which I protested, and he just started an argument. I proceeded to let him continue, assuming they would just break up.\n\nHowever I felt uncomfortable leaving the situation as it was, I did not want my friend do anything that he would regret, nor have an underaged girl to do the same. I asked May a few days ago regarding Kate and Dan's relationship and according to her they had been very serious.\n\n\nThe next time I met Dan, I borrowed his phone while he was in the bathroom to find out that he was pressuring her to send inappropriate images. Today, the first day at school after winter break, I reported him for harassing underaged girls to the staff.\n\nI broke my friends trust, I betrayed him by reporting to the school staff, and I may have ruined his future. However I was afraid things would escalate.\n\ntl;dr my 17 friend engaged in an unhealthy relationship with a 13 year old and pressured her to send nude photos so I reported him to the school.\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 48, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 48, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mCuHNZaP4jlNqpdX1DijjbjsDCQqqRKl", "post_id": "9yl7dk", "action": {"description": "not wanting to exchange Christmas gifts with my stepmother's family", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to exchange Christmas gifts with my stepmother's family?", "text": "background- i do not have a great relationship with my stepmom, but i do genuinely like her family. we really only see each other a few times a year, as i am adult and no longer live in my home city.\n\nsince she and my dad got married (when i was 10 y/o, i am 27 now) we have been doing christmas eve with my dad and her family, then i spend christmas day with my mom. her family (mother, father, brother & wife) have always gotten me gifts, and i got them gifts in exchange. \n\nnow that i am older it feels uncomfortable for me now to be the only person on christmas eve to open presents, as everyone else, including my two kid cousins, open all their gifts on christmas day. i just feel weird having a roomful of people watch me open gifts. \n\ni just wish we could cut out the stress of exchanging gifts all together. they are all wealthy adults and the women don't work, so they have the time and money to do shopping. christmas shopping stresses me the f out. and while i am always extremely grateful to receive their gifts, the whole process just makes me really uncomfortable. i don't need them to get me anything, but i have no idea how to approach this topic with my dad.\n\nshould  i not say anything and just suck it up and carry on this year as usual?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "sb0PtQTAaHXsN4ceUu0YP8ruQJm3ngxe", "post_id": "awlp0a", "action": {"description": "cutting all communication with my grandma", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for cutting all communication with my grandma?", "text": "Sorry for any spelling and grammar mistakes.\n\n I am bisexual. I came out as bisexual a few years ago, I told my parents about this and they were happy about this, since my brother is gay(important). I have put off telling my grandma about this, mostly because I have a feeling that she\u2019ll say that I am copying my brother. That is was exactly she said, told me that I\u2019m not and I should stop copying him. I kinda feel bad, but I went home crying because how she treated me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lr1a3TpEZaW1UDdoafEf2naZkpmZdua7", "post_id": "at5mny", "action": {"description": "telling my best friend to break up with his GF of 6 years", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for telling my best friend to break up with his GF of 6 years?", "text": "I've been best friends with somebody, we'll call him E, online for about 4 years. He has an online GF, R, who he has met IRL probably once a year that he has been dating since high school.\n\nMe and E are best friends. Like, legit. E also knows I have pretty much had a lowkey crush on him the entire time I have known him. It's NBD; I'm in a lovely relationship ATM and never pressured him into being with me. We playfully flirt often in a friend way but both understand we are each in a relationship.\n\nYesterday, I told him he needed to break up with R. He is about to finish college and move across the country to live with her. I am 99% sure she is emotionally abusive.\n\nI typed that out, with reasonings to this conclusion (tldr; guilt trips, victimizes herself constantly, expects his time on a whim, makes him walk on eggshells, etc), apologies for saying it so bluntly, and empathizing a lot, as I have been in a handful of abusive relationships.\n\nI know he would not be safe or happy living with her and this is only his second relationship ever. But - he knows I am and always will be kinda into him. I hesitated to say anything but he implied last night he was going to propose to her. I genuinely fear for his well being - and I have tried telling him this just short of literally BREAK UP WITH HER.\n\nSorry if this sounds like seeking validation; I know abuse needs to be stopped and intervened, but was I too blunt? He had not responded since I send the message last night. AITA for being so blunt (or for taking so long to finally say anything?)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1fqO43KdQH8wJXSwDxiPbh43dbXtlfg1", "post_id": "b6g697", "action": {"description": "being mad at my sister for deleting my Pok\u00e9mon file (11+ hours) as a \"joke\"", "pronormative_score": 49, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my sister for deleting my Pok\u00e9mon file (11+ hours) as a \u201cjoke\u201d", "text": "So my sister is legally an adult and she thought it\u2019d be hilarious to delete my saved file. I was pretty pissed when I found out and I\u2019m really discouraged from playing it again for a little while. I was really enjoying the game then when I got back from work, I found it out all that effort was wasted.\n\nDidn\u2019t want to fight or anything so after I found out why she did it, kind of just ignored her cause I didn\u2019t want to deal with it. It\u2019s been a week or so and I\u2019ve barely said a word to her. She told my mom that I\u2019m being a douche to her and my mom is lecturing me to nicer and that it\u2019s just a game. But iunno, still low key upset about it lol ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 49, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 49, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "o4tCUUqRQBcoeO2LDUfGevyx33Q4AW3Y", "post_id": "asi730", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend he reminds me of my ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 59}, "title": "AITA For telling my boyfriend he reminds me of my ex?", "text": "We were eating breakfast and he told me I looked pretty and beautiful and I had flashbacks of my ex calling me those things so I snapped and said he reminds me of my ex. My ex was super manipulative and sometimes the words my boyfriend said my ex also said to me. When I told my boyfriend that he reminds me of my ex he got upset and said \u201ccan you get over your ex you broke up with him three years ago and you guys were only together for four months. No one likes being compared to an ex\u201d I got upset after he said that and left and he still hasn\u2019t apologized. AITA for saying that to him?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 58, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 59}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "PgxAXDGWgPBel4hCUIJ5YmKxEtOZi5x0", "post_id": "b1dnls", "action": {"description": "being mad my girl was too fucked up to hangout after shit day", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being mad my girl was too fucked up to hangout after shit day?", "text": "Little back story me and my girl have been for around a year now and we currently live together. The problem I\u2019m having is she refuses to tell me the truth about dumb stuff that doesn\u2019t matter and doesn\u2019t respect my wishes when I ask her stuff. Every time she drinks she refuses to tell me the truth about how the night went. She\u2019ll lie to me about what bars she\u2019s been too, or say she\u2019s only had 1 drink when she is clearly drunk, or that she\u2019s with her girlfriends when she\u2019s with her male coworkers( I don\u2019t have a problem with this I trust and know them) I try and explain to her and we\u2019ve had this conversation at least once a month minimum since we\u2019ve started dating. That I don\u2019t care about the individual events she\u2019s lying about it\u2019s the fact that she continues to just lie to me about dumb stuff that shouldn\u2019t matter and refuses to tell me the truth which makes me question other stuff she says to me. We\u2019ll fight for a little while and then I\u2019ll eventually cave in and cuddle up next to her and fall asleep\n\nAnyways on to this particular event that happened tonight. I was having a pretty shit day at work, 12 hour shift, problems with management, to the point where I told my boss I\u2019ve had enough and they need to start looking for a replacement. I\u2019m texting my girl info about this throughout the day and explaining that I\u2019m just in a shit mood and can\u2019t wait to come home and hang out with her. We\u2019re talking and I say I want some margaritas and to smoke and chill when I get off. Fast forward a little bit and she tells me she\u2019s getting a drink with her sister at her work after her shift and then going home. Another like hour later I ask how she\u2019s doing and she tells me her and her sister have moved to a local bar. That\u2019s fine cool I got another 2 hours at work. I end up getting home around 2am ( we stay up late just about every night 4-5amish we\u2019re both service industry) and she\u2019s obviously passed out. I kiss her on the head and nudge her a bit and she groans and squints her eyes towards me. I ask her how her night was. No response. I say hello 4 times trying to start a conversation which obviously isn\u2019t going to happen. Her eyes are red as hell so I ask her if she had been smoking at the bar and she said no that when she got home took hits out the bong and went to sleep. I\u2019m annoyed at this point because she couldn\u2019t wait the 45 minutes she had been home from the bar for me to get home to smoke with me and be in a state to hold a conversation after I told her that\u2019s what I was looking forward to all night. We talk a little bit more and she tells more dumb lies about like how much she drank which I\u2019m numb to at this point and I tell her to just go back to sleep and I went for a drive to cool off.\n\nI still haven\u2019t been able to sleep because I\u2019m upset that she didn\u2019t have the respect to at least wait for me to get home to smoke so we could hangout after she knows I\u2019ve had a shit day.\n\nThank you reading", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "K9WkPVso9vRjmLM6jV4ZZVjvU4Ju1NlW", "post_id": "acqzch", "action": {"description": "sending food back", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for sending food back?", "text": "So basically this conversation happened on another subreddit and I just need to check if I\u2019m the asshole. I don\u2019t think I am but a lot of people do. The situation is copied from that post. \n\nBasically I just need to know if I\u2019m the asshole for sending food I don\u2019t like but was technically prepared right back and expecting not to be charged for said dish. \n\nI always read the description and I also ask for modifications if any ingredients are in it that I don\u2019t like. I generally know what I like, but yes I like to try new things, I have a pretty solid stomach so if it\u2019s just mediocre I\u2019ll still eat it and just remember not to order it again. Out of all the times I\u2019ve eaten out I\u2019ve sent food back 3 times that I can remember.\n\nHere\u2019s all 3 times just for you:\n\nCrab fried rice at Eddie V\u2019s - it comes with butter and just the description sounded fucking delicious. Cool. We order it. Come out. We both got a hefty spoon full for our plates and taste it. Shit it drowning in butter. Like it tasted okay, but the butter was too much my friend hated it, I didn\u2019t like it, so we told the waitress she asked if we wanted to try it without the butter we said sure. Get that bowl. It\u2019s so bland I could die. This is a $17 bowl of rice I expect it to taste good. It doesn\u2019t. We tell her it was a no go. I expected to pay for one since we did order it twice but she took them both off. she was sweet. Got like a $25 tip on a $50 order.\n\nVeggie Lasagna at Vapiano - description sounded good. It said it had a cream sauce vs ricotta cheese. I\u2019m okay with that. I get it take one bite and I\u2019m like this is not it. I\u2019d have rather thrown it away then eaten it. Like it was bland and fucking gross. It was pretty but it just tasted like dirty vegetables and milk. I refused to eat it. But I was nervous about taking it back but I told the manager anyway. He tasted it. He said he liked it but he can see why I didn\u2019t because it was bland but he doesn\u2019t like strong flavors. He was super sweet and took it off and I ordered something else.\n\nGorgonzola Steak at Olive Garden - I was 15 and stupid and I got this knowing I love cheese and beef. But little did I know Gorgonzola was a type of blue cheese. The menu didn\u2019t state this and I would not have ordered it if I knew it was blue cheese because I HATE blue cheese. Took one bite and then immediately flagged down the waitress because this was not the move. I was 15 and didn\u2019t know they would take it off. But this makes sense since their menu wasn\u2019t explicit in saying it was a blue cheese and the waitress felt my pain.\n\nAll of these times I didn\u2019t know it was going to taste like that. The food was just like surprise bitch I\u2019m nasty. So yes I expect to get my money back because your menu catfished me and I can\u2019t even stomach this.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "puTe7eZTxQp4SlJ7ZRnybqpmIZ4elUN9", "post_id": "aisp1q", "action": {"description": "having one sided sex", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for having one sided sex (NSfW)", "text": "So before we get started I'm the one not getting satisfaction. So here's the situation. I'm trans, and have REALLY bad dysphoria. whenever my SO and I have sex it always ends up being we go foreplay and similar stuff until they're finished then boom done. My problem is my dysphoria is so bad I can't really even take off my pants. and every time they ask if I want some and I say I'm good. they get this kinda sad look in their eyes every time as well when I refuse. they're trans as well but don't have many issues with bottom dysphoria. I don't know if I'm in the wrong.  \nTLDR: I have really bad dysphoria and can't really have sex and I think my partner doesn't like it", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "0yBg4ET4IKF3ulxieY0v7my4G8fcuPCg", "post_id": "awljd6", "action": {"description": "being annoyed with my older sister", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed with my older sister?", "text": "I (19) go to the same college as my sister (22). We get along, but I\u2019m a lot better at making friends than she is so she feels a lot more isolated. A few years back, she was abused and gaslighted by a guy at her old college. The trauma from his actions as well as the abuses suffered later on have caused her to have serious trust issues and also caused her to start seeing things. I\u2019m one of the few people she trusts, but I\u2019m the only one she trusts that lives in the same city. Because of this, whenever she\u2019s even slightly stressed (which happens all the time) she goes to me about it. She\u2019s also convinced herself that she\u2019s awful and that nobody should treat her poorly at the same time, so she\u2019s wallowing in self-pity while also being somewhat abusive to me because as her brother I \u201chave to support her.\u201d She\u2019s been verbally and, once, physically abusive to me and I\u2019m just about done dealing with her problems since she gets overwhelmed so easily. And the way she vents always takes on a whiny tone and she starts talking about how she doesn\u2019t deserve to be treated this way. Not once have I vented to her. Not once have I said \u201cgo ahead and vent.\u201d If I vent to someone, I almost always try to take a deep breath and think about if it\u2019s really worth getting riled up over. We have good times, but lately she\u2019s been getting worse and worse. So, Am I the Asshole for wanting to tell her off or is it okay?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "JWECfd7GQJQhCx1RGzz6uXSR8z35TZcQ", "post_id": "b079tt", "action": {"description": "asking to go live with my biological father", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA If I asked to go live with my biological father?", "text": "First off, I'm on mobile and this is my first post on this sub.\n\nSo for a bit of backstory, my bio mom went to prison for drug related reasons, and my aunt and uncle took my in and have raised me since I wad 2 years old, because my dad is a truck driver and couldnt raise me on his own.\n\nSo when I was in about 4th grade my parents decided to homeschool (at the time I was asking to be). And in 7/8th grade I essentially skipped all my school work because I took advantage of my parents not hovering and the fact it was all online. And now that I'm in 9th, I'm not able to get anything done, I am trying I just cant figure anything out and my aunt cant help, my dad doesnt help cause he gets upset when he explains something and he expects me to immediately understand it, and gets upset when I dont.\n\nAnd now that we've hit financial problems I staarted going with my mom to her job (shes a nanny for two 1 year old boys) and going with her everyday makes it to where I can't get any work done cause I constanfly hear baby's screaming and throwing fits (if your a parent you know how babys go through those phases) and tugging on all my cords for my computer and myself also I have to get up every 5 minutes to do sonthing; making it to where I havent been able to barely get a month of work done so far this school year, and I havent told anyone about it yet. \n\nAnd plus I just want to go get to know my dad and step brothers and family before I turn 18 cause I plan on joining the Army possibly as a Pilot. \n\n(I'm about to be 15)", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "E9oMaxar4nhiwoMwPHOZrkodQKmlayFd", "post_id": "b7jjw7", "action": {"description": "denying a western union transaction", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for denying a western union transaction", "text": "I work as a cashier and we can do western union she wants to send $6000.\n\nAlso we are allowed to deny anyone if we want. \n\nI ask her the normal questions I ask everyone.\n\n1.whos is it for she says a friend\n\n2.where did you first meet this person she said Hong kong\n\n3.why are you sending this money she said for bags\n\nMe and my Manager said we're not comfortable doing the trasaction.\n\nMy dad also said I have no right to judge her and I'm not part of the fbi.\n\nWas I wrong for denying her?\n\nMe and my manager think she was using it to buy counterfeit bags.\n\nI need to add if we did accept the transaction and she got arrested we would lose or jobs and be fined. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "7LWpvnjPJwIzYUoXcfJSfHf08XaFOrdd", "post_id": "ax1ph8", "action": {"description": "turning in my ex to the police when I get the chance", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "WIBTA for turning in my ex to the police when I get the chance?", "text": "For context, I dated a guy for a while but I realized he was very eager to get into my pants. He had mentioned he smoked weed, but I was fine with it because I felt happy that someone thought I was cute. I fell out of love, and I realized I didn\u2019t have the balls to break up with him, so I waited until I could make myself do it. \n\nWe broke up on really bad terms. I told him my sexuality is a part of it. I\u2019m bi and I told him I thought I was a lesbian (I seriously thought so but it turns out I\u2019m super confused) so he accused me of being a lesbian who led on guys for attention. \nHe\u2019s also called me a dyke. Classy. \n\nSo I have proof of him admitting to doing drugs and stealing two shirts (once while on a DATE with me). I wanna turn him in for these misdemeanors to see what it\u2019ll do, but I\u2019m afraid he\u2019ll suspect it\u2019s me and leak embarrassing info I shared to him. My mom is also concerned for my safety, because he\u2019s really sketchy. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 19, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zcBqlgWMIl7pnHujrJkjhooz26krfrGb", "post_id": "adkeky", "action": {"description": "babysitting a dog without telling my roommates", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for babysitting a dog without telling my roommates?", "text": "First, we have six dogs between us and we've been talking about using the Rover app for extra cash (us AND the roommates). They always tell people to bring their dogs over and it's a super dog friendly household. \n\nSecond, we never let her out of our sight, she was our other friends dog and we were only supposed to be watching her for a few hours. Ffw hours later and I texted my friend and said to be careful not to drink and drive and if it came to that then just to leave the dog till morning. She replied by saying that her arrangement with us was for us to keep her late the next day. OKAY. I guess. NOT what we discussed but it was her birthday so whatever. \n\nThird, this dog did literally nothing wrong. She didn't bark, pee, chew on anything, break anything, etc. She was literally a perfect angel. \n\nSo they finally come get her at almost 10 pm (ugh) and the moment they leave our roommate (let's call him A for asshole) says,\n\nA: By the way, next time y'all want to have a dog over in MY house, y'all better let me know.\n\nUs: uhh okay sorry about that. \n\nMind you, neither of them said a word the entire time to us until then and when we tried to explain he just stalked off angrily. Now are we the assholes for feeling hurt because we felt he took it too far? He basically said it in a threatening manner. We have been the perfect roommates, I clean everything and even take care of their dogs and their fish tank and do their laundry. I thought we were friends. We moved in on the premise of it being a friendly agreement as opposed to a landlord/renter relationship. We had the chance to move for free but didn't take it because they convinced us to move to their house in order for us all to save up money. Now I wish that I had and literally next pay check we want to leave. Are we wrong here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "H1iWM94vM34JT8sDu2qhpVZKeSATER2f", "post_id": "b9s82w", "action": {"description": "buying the cheaper book", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for buying the cheaper book?", "text": "My brother send me links for two books he'd like as a present for birthday. There was a 20 euro difference between them and I plan on buying him the cheaper one.\n\nI'm a student who doesn't work much...\n\nAm I the asshole for buying the cheaper book?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "w8rWpHfMk4B13eJ4fuKzfPRXxyCjj89F", "post_id": "aqcc6l", "action": {"description": "keeping work life and social life separate in order to do my job properly", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for keeping work life and social life separate in order to do my job properly ?", "text": "I'll keep it short, But I want to give proper context. I work at a family business, essentially my dad is the owner and I take care of the business every afternoon (he only works at morning) during this time I take care of the whole business, I'm essentially the boss. so all of my \"co workers\" are essentially my \"employees\" for lack of a better term. I find it hard to be serious with people I get along with (big personal flaw of mine) so I tend to be a bit distant/cold with them. Not harsh or cruel or anything, I just try to be firm and not strike up conversations or friendship with them. It's not who I am normally but I find it necessary to properly manage things. (There are reasons why I believe it's best this way but I'd rather not reveal too much personal info on reddit) most of the time the employees just treat me with the same firm atittude once they realize that's how I'm gonna go about my work, so it's all good.\n\nAnyway, the problem is we got some new employees and they're extremely nice. Like they try to strike up conversation often (which I shut down) and they even invited me to go out a few times though I didn't accept. Again, I don't mistreat them or anything, worst thing I do is raise my tone a bit when they don't follow orders. (I feel like follow orders makes me sound like a villain, English isn't my first language) I'd like to know from the perspective of employees with strict bosses: AITA? Or is this an acceptable way of doing things ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 2}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wpUIplKSA6YAQnOdogV7PcCCaJkCl63G", "post_id": "9yb576", "action": {"description": "starting HRT without my parents knowing/permission", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "WIBTA for starting HRT without my parents knowing/permission?", "text": "I'm transgender and am pre-hormone replacement therapy (HRT). I've moved out of my parent's house but am still partially financially dependent on them ie. I will sometimes ask them to help me pay my rent.\n\n\nAbout 6 months ago I came out to them, and received quite a good reaction from them all things considered. They told me they loved me and accepted me, but did not want me to tell any of my relatives. Additionally, they asked me not to start medication till we'd gone on a religious pilgrimage (it's a strange requirement I know but we are quite a religious family).\n\n\nFor the past few months I've tried to talk to them about starting transitioning, but they tell me we haven't gone on our pilgrimage yet. On the other hand, when I suggest trying to organise it they say they're too busy and our schedules don't line up.\n\n\nWIBTA if I just started HRT now and told them about it later? I've tried to keep them as involved as possible with my transition and I don't want them to feel disrespected or that their opinions don't matter, but I also don't want to wait indefinitely to start transitioning.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MrTdG9lutK8p2qg8S9Y0M9TXtIjDHyAw", "post_id": "aqu1jn", "action": null, "title": "AITA for tell my (25f) boyfriend (24m) to drive faster after his 3rd speeding tickets?", "text": "Babe, if you see this, I love you. I feel like maybe we're both being a little stubborn here and I want a gut check. First time posting here.\n\nAlright, so, Will and I moved to my hometown area in April of last year and since the move he's gotten 3 speeding tickets. The first, last summer, on his way to work. The second, last month on our way home from work (we started working together in the fall). The third just tonight on our way into work. He usually drives us to and from work, our commute is ~45 minutes (mostly highway).\n\nWe've had numerous small fights as a result of me giving him driving advice, or in general things I've said in the car. I used to repeat \"we're going to be late, we're going to be late\" whenever we were, obviously, going to be late to work. He told me he didn't like that, I've since stopped. I was the asshole there.\n\nBut in the past he has also made me out to be the asshole for more reasonable things, like asking him to slow down sooner at stop signs/stoplights in the snow. I'm from this area, I've driven in the snow more, etc. He's gotten a little better about taking that type of advice, but now I usually opt to drive us whenever it's snowing. We've talked about how I don't like to be vilified for giving driving advice and he's since gotten better at taking my most of my advice. But not always.\n\nHis speeding ticket from last month was for going 63 mph in a 35 mph. We had just exited the highway and the ramp is a straight shot, downhill into a business area. The ramp is 2 lanes and can be difficult to slow down, most people coast in at around 50 and gradually slow further into the business area. There were 2 cops posted at a closed gas station, we were pulled over and while Will was being ticketed another car was pulled over, so IMO it was a speed trap. But still, Will could been going slower and was going faster than the general traffic. He was in the left lane passing a car in the right, so he was at the very least going faster than them.\n\nSince then he's started slowing down, a lot, whenever highway speeds change to business speeds. There is another, similar area where the speed changes from 65 to 35 on our route home. It's an even steeper hill and almost nobody slows down to 35 right off the bat. I've told him that he should not brake so hard here, and this is where he will not listen to me. I think it's dangerous and unnecessary to slow down and brake so much in an area where nobody else does. I've told him he should just coast down the hill and just make sure he's not going so fast on once we hit the businesses. He says he doesn't want to get another speeding ticket, what if there was a cop behind him, etc.\n\nHis third ticket, that he received tonight (we work 3rd shift), was for driving 82 on the highway in an area that is either 60 or 55 (the speed changes in that area, I can find out for sure if anyway really cares). He was passing another car, this time he was in the right lane and the car he was passing was in the left. He says he doesn't regret passing the car, since the road was going to merge into a single lane and he didn't want to get stuck behind a slow car. Whatever. I think he was going too fast. I don't know that I would have gone up to 82 to pass that car, but maybe that's personal bias.\n\nWe're both fast drivers, we both speed a decent amount and we could both benefit from doing it less. He drives us a significant amount more than I do. But I think he's overreacting. On parts of the remaining drive into work he was driving 52 in a 55... I suggested that he'll be fine driving 5-10 mph over on the highway, and it's reasonable that he's gotten speeding tickets for driving 20-30 mph over the speed limit. But somehow I'm The Asshole.\n\nWe're agreed that I'll drive us into work more often now, but I don't want to feel like the asshole for telling him he's overreacting and to drive faster in certain scenarios. Like, when it's unnecessary or we're going to be late. It might be worth noting that I am usually ready to leave before he is. We've made steps to wake up and get ready earlier, but slip up now and again. IMO his being ready 3-4 minutes later than me is usually why we are ~5 minutes late to work. Sometimes it's me, sure, but it's usually him.\n\nTL;DR My (25f) boyfriend (24m) has two recent tickets (one for 63 in a 35 the second for 82 in a 55). I think he should find the happy medium and drive 5-10 over the speed limit instead of 20-30 over. He doesn't really think the tickets were his fault. But he also thinks he needs to slow down to the speed limit immediately whenever the speed limit changes and has even started driving under the speed limit. AITA for telling him to drive faster when this happens?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "h1TKGYqCteKNHjZLazmRTYVxndTaRcya", "post_id": "aip6ng", "action": {"description": "filling up my mom's \"Popeye's Louisiana Kitchen\" box with fried chicken from the grocery store several times a week", "pronormative_score": 16, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for filling up my mom's \"Popeye's Louisiana Kitchen\" box with fried chicken from the grocery store several times a week?", "text": "Looking for some real judgement here. About 3 months ago my mom was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and really couldn't move anymore, so I let her move in with me. I am broke as fuck and I live paycheck to paycheck so it's been a struggle. At this point we are just waiting for hospice to be approved and the doctors to decide when we move her over. \n\nOn top of all this my mom has never been a nice person, she's still not. She's rude, she's demanding, she's half out of it 90% of the time which makes her even worse. She was abusive to me and my brother growing up. I'm letting her live with me because honestly I hope I get some real karma out of it and maybe some day my life will turn around. I don't have a lot of motherly love for her and really I just tolerate her being around. \n\nHer last real pleasure in life is Popeye's chicken. She loves the stuff. But it's expensive as fuck and very honestly I can't afford to stop there 5, 6 even 7 times a week. So after the first week, every time she'd ask for it, I'd just grab a Popeye's box from the trash, stop by the grocery store (if you buy their fried chicken after 8pm it's literally 1/5th the cost of Popyeye's) and fill up the Popeye's box. \n\nFor a while it was fine and she didn't notice the difference but recently the doctor's have slightly altered her post-chemo medications which I assume means that she regained some sense of taste and she threw a holy fucking fit. She called the local Popeye's and bitched out every one she could. This saved me for a few days because they gave her two gift cards and one this like huge ass picnic meal that kept her in Popeye's for the last few days. \n\n\nI don't know what I'm going to do when the gift cards run out...I really think my thing is to keep buying the grocery store chicken and hope she doesn't notice. \n\n\nso here's the question...\n\n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 8, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "wOKXZyAuhDoYT6iYFljDBKwkEo6gzxLU", "post_id": "ana8p5", "action": {"description": "picking fights at Olive Garden", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for picking fights at Olive Garden?", "text": "The title makes it sound worse than it is. \n\nSo, Im out with my fiance getting a late night meal talking about what to do about invitations and we get sat right next to this tabel with a double date. (Two guys across two girls)\nI don't usually ease drop, but this guy was LOUD. He says something about how he feels sorry for men who marry women right out of high school that look skinney but end up getting really fat. Then I kid you not goes on for about 10 minutes making fat jokes. \"I married a pair not an orange.\" Is the only one I can remember. So I ask my fiance who has a better view how old he looks. Fiance says \"about 30\". I then say, a little louder than I should have, \"Imagine being that old and still sounding that imature. I thought he was a high schooler.\" Well then it basically launches a wierd talking about the other tabel off. Mumbling vauge rude things without making eye contact until his date asked him to stop. We paid and left. Because we had been there before them and we were nearly done before it all started.\n\n\nI think it was petty of me to engage with him. I probably even got a little too heated since we are a couple getting married right out of highschool.  What I'm really asking is was I the Asshole for saying anything to begin with. In the momment I felt like he was ruining my date, but I definitely ruined his. \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "fy1UjiBOEdysp3upduutgRjwWDgbUhG1", "post_id": "ak0g92", "action": {"description": "playing a single mission of the Anthem demo on my brother's account", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for playing a single mission of the Anthem demo on my brother's account?", "text": "If you've visited any of the various gaming subreddits in the last day or two you probably know that the demo for Anthem finally dropped yesterday. You probably also heard about the login problems that the game was having.\n\nMy brother had preordered the game and had been failing to log in most of the day. \n\nApparently he got in long enough to customize his javelin and then the game crashed or something and he couldn't get back in. \n\nHe went to bed and then work. He asked me to waste my time trying to log in so he'd know if the problems ever got fixed. \n\nI finally log in and ( because I'm an idiot) play a mission. I'd forgotten about the friend codes you were supposed to get or I'd have tried to  send one to my account. \n\nI admitted this to him and now he's pissed off because apparently the actual length of the demo is pretty short and I did \"a sizable amount of it\". \n\nAs far as I know he still has all three friend codes and could send one to my account and play it that way but he refuses to do that. So now instead of playing Anthem he's playing Resident Evil 7 that he bought on an impulse buy a couple days ago. \n\nFor the record progress is supposed to carry over to the open demo for everyone but not to the actual game. \n\nI readily admit that I fucked up but I had all but forgotten that I was on his profile. \nI feel like he's overreacting.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "HIVE2ZI6zmUMwYVPukZnR7S1jJGZBj00", "post_id": "a30e09", "action": {"description": "pushing my shared fence into my neighbors yard for him the clean up", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for pushing my shared fence into my neighbors yard for him the clean up?", "text": "Shared fence between me and my neighbor has been dry rotting and falling down for the past year. I have asked him multiple times to split a new one with me and he will not agree to do it. The other day while they were at work I bought and installed a brand new fence, leaving the old fence on his side of the property line for him to clean up. He called the cops and they basically said it was his responsibility. Am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Yvh05m5bjfsjSPOLb2iYKCPqLUTsHiuI", "post_id": "ag54yy", "action": {"description": "breaking up with my girlfriend because I'm gay and making a shitty excuse for it", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend because I'm gay and making a shitty excuse for it?", "text": "I recently broke up with my girlfriend of seven months who I love because I discovered that I'm gay. We are both sophomores in highschool and have been very good friends since our freshman year. We started dating about seven months ago and our relationship has been wonderful. I thought I was bi for along time which she knew and supported me which meant alot to me since I go to a religious highschool. I have never really done anything sexual with her because she was abused as a child and doesn't like that sort of thing. \n\nWhen I found out I was gay I denied it for along time because I thought sexuality couldn't change but I did some research and found out it could. About a week after I stopped denying it I broke up with her by saying \"I just lost feelings for you.\" which isn't true I still love her but in a different way. She blew up at me and blocked me on everything. I would've told her I'm gay but I'm worried that she will tell someone and then I'll get harassed. (People at my school have done this before to other gay people.) I feel like such an asshole for doing this because we really loved each other and I care about her alot. Am I the asshole?\n\nSorry for any grammar errors english isn't my first language", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CSftf4XvwwSpTJpgYBzRZobNQBFe2B0r", "post_id": "ajmcvd", "action": {"description": "continiously telling my anxious gf to stop her stress mechanisms", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for continiously telling my anxious gf to stop her stress mechanisms ?", "text": "So my gf (20) and I (22) have been dating for almost a year. She's a beautiful girl, smart, sweet, funny, attentive and kind. I love her very much and that'll never change, since she means so much to me. \n\nShe's also very anxious and has bad habits (such as scratching) that hurt her (nothing serious). We had an exam session recently so I understood she was under much stress and I didn't say anything. However, I've been telling her to stop doing that since a couple of months and, while I only want her to be alright, she still hasn't stopped and gets mad at me sometimes.\n\nI understand that her anxiety must be taken seriously - and I do take it seriously -, and that such habits can't be stopped by the second but all I want is for her to feel safe and at peace...\n\nI've also noticed that she gets mad at me when I ask her \"Are you sure you're alright ?\"  which I sometimes do repeatedly... I'm starting to think I'm doing this all wrong....\n\nSo... AITA for pushing it ? WIBTA if I keep going ? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TizowM2gwTrDw3DQ3m0gRPUSbxSlAz2F", "post_id": "acmvu2", "action": {"description": "meeting my friends exgirlfriend without telling anyone", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for meeting my friends exgirlfriend without telling anyone.", "text": "My friend (m25) and his ex (f22) are now seperated since three years ( he dropped her because of someoneelse, with whom he's been living together since two years now, without letting his ex know why he left her). I met his ex six months ago, because i was lonely and wanted to get to know her better (Even  before they became a couple). We met regularly and still do and just had an awesome time. But two months ago my friend somehow found out (I never tried to keep it a secret though) and now hes angry at me and tells me that a I'm a traitor for not letting him know. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CDoIUhl2izH8RkDWp1guT4AwLvyiC3lz", "post_id": "b7ob4o", "action": {"description": "being happy someone tired to neck themselves", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for being happy someone tired to neck themselves.", "text": "Before you skip to the comments to say something, hear me out. This is done on a throwaway account cause I'd like no trace of this to my name but I can't get off my chest, also on mobile so excuse any spelling mistakes.\n\nG = Girl I like\nSG = The girl who tried to neck herself\nD = A friend of mine\n\nBasically, I met this G in French and over 20 weeks I developed feelings for G, and she takes interests in my as well so for now we're linking. And after a couple times together SG sees the way we act around each other and talks to me, it goes like this;\nSG: \"What do you have to G?\"\nMe: \"I really like G and she likes me so were linking \"\nSG: \"No fuck off, she's mine\"\nMe: \"No, G isn't yours but yes we're trying to make something work.\"\n\nSG then went off and asked her out, G said no and I was happy cause SG was mentally unstable and G didn't see this. So it's all cool, we continue with our lives like normal. D comes to school one day and I realised SG isn't walking with him like they usually do and D says;\n\nD: \"You know my Lesbian neighbor?\"\nMe: \"Yeah SG.\"\nD: \"She tried to neck herself, I heard SG's parents say it whilst I was leaving my house.\"\nMe: \"Ooh that sounds shit.\"\n\nBut actually this made me really happy, G would finally notice how mentally Unstable SG is and realise she it isn't smart to go out with her.\n\nFast Forward\n\nMe and G always talk between 9 PM and 1 AM and I casually pretending to care to ake the news, the conversation went like this;\nMe : \"Is SG okay?\"\nG: \"Idk, why you asking?\"\nMe: \"Oh, you don't know? She tried to neck herself.\"\nG: \"Oh God, I hope she's okay, that sounds awful, I didn't know.\"\nMe: \"Yeah, I know\"\n\nG didn't text SG to ask if she's okay cause I asked about SG two days later and she said they never talked.\n\nWhat do you guys think, AITA for being happy that the girl I like will be happy and ,in my opinion, safe from this mentally unstable girl even if it was at such a price.\n\nQuick summary for anyone skim reading:\nAITA for being happy that a crucial point was made to a girl I really like but at such a massive cost - attempt to neck herself - that I had no control over but was still happy it happend cause I feel like it took this much to finally make G realise SG isn't a safe person.\n\nQuick note: I myself have attempted to neck myself the past but I stopped any doing it two years ago and helped my previous girlfriend stop it as well so I know how bad it can be that's why I care about G so much.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "5N8nKEWMQ8x4zN7l3YF6LX3WWmQPlK61", "post_id": "acmnb6", "action": {"description": "not being willing to sew things for kids", "pronormative_score": 22, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not being willing to sew things for kids?", "text": "I learned how to sew at a young age and am quite happy with my skills. Most of my wardrobe is me-made, and I take a lot of pride in it. Over the years, I've made various items for friends and family members. It's rare for anyone in my life to come out and request or ask for something specific, but on the occasion they do, I'll take it into consideration and charge them appropriately for my time, skill level, and materials. In the past, I've had requests for things like skirts (easy peasy), and one of my friends comes to me for alterations on her clothing often.\n\nA few weeks ago, a friend of mine approached me with a request to make an Easter Sunday outfit for her two daughters. I politely declined, and gave her the contact information of a friend who delights in making things for children.\n\nMy friend pushed me on it a few times, and eventually I told her this in a message:\n\n>I get why you want me to be the one to make it, and I'm flattered you think so highly of what I can do. It really means a lot to me. But I have to be honest with you: I've found that it's just not worth it for me to make things for children. It's a lot of time and effort to go through the whole process for an item they could only wear once, and especially since kids are not always careful with their clothing, it's easy for them to get ruined. They just grow too quickly for it to be worth it for me.  \n>  \n>I know this may not make sense to you, but think if you'd put hours and hours of effort into a painting for someone only to find it viewed once or twice, and then placed in a room no one goes into. That's what it's like to make handcrafted items for little kids. If it's easier to understand, know that I would also decline making an ornate wedding gown as well.\n\nNow, I understand people are pretty sensitive about anything involving kids, and I tried to be as polite and tactful as I possibly could be. But it wasn't graceful enough, and my friend showed me that. She was polite in the response, but I found out quickly from mutual friends that she (on a filtered post or in a Mommy group or something) blasted me. From what I understand, a lot of the other people who responded to her agreed with her and a few of them went so far as to rip into items I've made (I have a clothing blog and a FB page) knocking on the quality, style, and even going so far as to rip into my looks. \n\nMy first thought? Some people really hate being told no, and others hate being told their child is not the center of someone else's universe even more. But as I looked through those screenshots of people all piling on me, I had to wonder if I was actually an asshole after all.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 22, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 22, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "feqPhhPpc0o1kDOBPDfQQM9JxBO7sdJq", "post_id": "a66u4w", "action": {"description": "being pissed off my girlfriend doesn't want to do anything sexual", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For being pissed off my girlfriend doesn't want to do anything sexual?", "text": "I've been dating my current girlfriend for 2 years. She actually initiated sexual contact with me, she would tease me about using a vibrator and masturbating and stuff. Eventually we ended up masturbating together (she doesn't want to have sex until marriage). She's Muslim and I'm an atheist.\n\nAbout 6 months after we started doing sexual stuff she wanted to stop because she felt guilty because of religion. I said okay and backed off. I would still flirt with her \"Nice ass babe\" stuff like that but I never tried to initiate anything.\n\nThen she eventually got super horny one night and decided to start up sex again. I was like \"cool\". Well, couple of weeks go by and she changes her mind again... Decides to stop having sexual contact. I was a bit annoyed because it felt like she was jerking me around and using me when she wanted sex.\n\nShe doesn't have anywhere near the sex drive I do. I get horny a lot and she gets horny like maybe once a week. I'm starting to feel like she's holding me at bay, telling me she doesn't want it for religious reasons only to break down when she's horny enough, jump my bones, then go back to nothing sexual.\n\nShe's gone back and forth about 4 times now and it's really starting to annoy me.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "3zD1QcnEaJj25OFIAusMKaWZvhfdffpA", "post_id": "alcy5c", "action": {"description": "being annoyed at a coworker giving me a nick name", "pronormative_score": 18, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for being annoyed at a coworker giving me a nick name", "text": "I know this sounds trivial at first, but would love to hear your input please if I\u2019m the one being an asshole in this situation. \n\nI\u2019m working with a woman who I don\u2019t know well at all, have only met once or twice, and has been condescending and disrespectful to me and my other colleague the entire process. She blatantly ignores our emails, and then sends out emails with \u201cmissed actions\u201d or \u201cmissed deadlines\u201d and CCs our superiors, without acknowledging anything we\u2019ve done or our emails on the case. \n\nShe just sent us another email and put all these tasks on us that are legitimately her role, and CCed our immediate superior saying we missed a meeting with her yesterday (which we told her we had to cancel a week ago due to scheduling conflicts.) \n\nOn top of it all, I\u2019m most frustrated at how she shortened my name for a nick name that I never go by. I find it disrespectful in how she ignored how I sign every single email, how I introduced myself, and calling me something that she just wants to call me by. \n\nI don\u2019t want to put my name here, but some examples of how she changed my name- calling someone named Melissa as \u201cMel,\u201d or \u201cKatherine\u201d as \u201ckate,\u201d or \u201cOlivia\u201d as \u201cliv.\u201d\n\nUltimately I feel like she\u2019s using this to belittle me further and make her seem more in charge, but please tell me if I\u2019m reading too much into this. \n\nThank you!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 18, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 18, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dUQTdT4n96PdpBNyz3YhLlJjLuSmDT9k", "post_id": "a5dj5m", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Had an Arguement", "text": "AITA? I was having a convo about valedictorian and stuff and my \u201cfriend\u201d kept saying that these two girls (who are dubbed the smartest) would definitely be val. I said that I hoped I can at least get val and stuff. I start stressing because they kept saying being in clubs are also looked at (which I found out was false info.) and I started feeling like I wasn\u2019t going to make it because I\u2019m not in as many clubs. I get told at home later on that this \u201cfriend\u201d said to another friend of mine who told me she said that she doesn\u2019t think that I would make it. I get angry, call her fake, we argue, I bring up a past argument where she believed someone she for less time than me, she calls me spoiled, we get heated, she says something about how I\u2019ve never accept her different opinions when we barely had any arguments except for the one mentioned with believing someone else and not me. I tell her that I didn\u2019t include my actually anxiety issues in the convo. I delete her number and any form of contact.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "2dYKoudG7xX5yR5btFtyYw8yBQ4M8Gp5", "post_id": "a8e3cs", "action": {"description": "trying to improve my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 26}, "title": "AITA for trying to improve my girlfriend", "text": "Here's some context: My gf [17F] and I [17M] go to a exclusive boarding school. Her dad went to Columbia and is fairly famous. I'm a scholarship student (I get full aid since my mom makes 45k a year) and I've been attending the school since 7th grade. \n\nAnyway, in 9th grade, I almost got kicked out of the school. I'm naturally a procrastinator. I was able to make it work, kinda. What happened is that I couldn't seriously study unless it was *the day of the test* (the exception being history, since I love history). My strategy was to waste time everyday on my phone, jerking off, playing clash of clans. Then I'd wake up really early on the test and study. At first this worked, and I aced the tests. Then the tests got more constant, and I began doing this almost everday. I got sleep deprived, my grades dropped. I was almost kicked out, but I convinced my history teacher to convince the school to give me a chance. This next part is probably stereotypical as hell, but I decided to change my life. I looked at how I was then- unproductive, skinny as hell, unpopular. I decided I had to change all that. I limited my jacking off to once every 2 weeks, joinrf the debate team, signed up with the rowing team, started looking up productivity tips, all that. I asked my only friend at the time to take my phone from me at my at 7 AM until 9 PM, so I could focus on all my stuff. \n\nBy this year (11th grade), I'm pretty popular and start dating my current girlfriend. Honestly I see a lot of me in her, even though she's the next level: never goes to class, has a 1.7 GPA, not involved in any clubs, and has a 1530 SAT on her 1st try with no preparation. Yeah. She's the smart but lazy kid on steroids. She only goes to the school honestly because her rich dad is a huge donor. \n\nAnd this frustrates me. A lot of people stereotype her as a basic bitch or legit stupid blonde. She's one of the smartest people I know, but doesn't gaf and spends her time on her phone out with her friends. Those aren't wrong, but she should spend less time on them. She has the potential but she's wasting it idling away.\n\nI tried convincing, pleading, begging her to do something. I didn't expect it to work- didn't for me- but I hoped. Well, it didn't. So yesterday afternoon, we were hanging out. When I was leaving, I swiped it. At crew practice this morning, I threw it in the river.\n\nI don't regret doing it, but just now I was talking to her, and was so panicked. Like almost in tears and screaming type of panic. I don't think I did the wrong thing, but her reaction makes me feel kinda guilty. \n\nAITA?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 26, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 26}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "FGOa6mvPKRoLZ0BWl1F5HOnJFWtF85Ot", "post_id": "b5iub1", "action": {"description": "blocking someone who sent me a weird half apology", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for blocking someone who sent me a weird half apology?", "text": "A while back I had a pretty toxic friendship with \u201cLynne\u201d. She treated me like a servant, and I put up with it because I can\u2019t stand up for myself. There were a few blowup fights when I reached snapping point and told her how hurt I was, but the cycle would always start over. After one of the fights, I was finally done. I didn\u2019t want to make things awkward for our mutual friends so I tried to keep in touch through texting. The texting followed the same pattern as the real-life friendship did, and I pulled back quite a bit. Lynne didn\u2019t really respond to me much, or reach out on her own. I felt she was being pretty clear that she wasn\u2019t interested in being friends anymore so I did a slow fade.\n\nFast forward about ten years. I get a random text from Lynne, paraphrasing \u201cyou don\u2019t have to respond to this but I don\u2019t understand why we\u2019re not friends anymore you don\u2019t have to respond to this.\u201d I was annoyed because I feel that I did tell her on many occasions the ways she was hurting me, plus she never made any attempts to reach out to me. But I did bottle up my feelings until I exploded on several occasions, so I wasn\u2019t perfect either. I did kinda want to apologize about the dramatic meltdowns, but I didn\u2019t want to respond rashly, so I called my sister to hash out what to do about the text.\n\n40 minutes later, I\u2019m still on the phone and I get another paraphrased text \u201cyou don\u2019t have to respond but if you\u2019re going to do it soon.\u201d 15 seconds later, \u201cfine NOT FINE bye!\u201d I blocked her immediately, which I felt pretty good about until I mentioned the text to a few of those mutual friends. They were all annoyed with me, and said things like \u201cit took so much courage for her to send that!\u201d; \u201coh she just got nervous, don\u2019t be so mean!\u201d; and \u201cwhy don\u2019t you just forgive her?\u201d\n\nI can appreciate that texting someone who hasn\u2019t spoken to you in years would be tough, but I feel like the ensuing hissy fit puts me in the clear. But now that they\u2019re made all these comments I\u2019m less sure, and I both feel like an ass and like I was justified. Ruling, please? Do I suck?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x1g20XIGjuhAT1tS2EIyB7yoNMQPeLQv", "post_id": "alooaf", "action": {"description": "not letting my mom go through my phone", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not letting my mom go through my phone?", "text": "(Throwaway)\n\nRecently, my mom has Been looking over my (M14) shoulder every time I\u2019m near her and on my phone. Normally I wouldn\u2019t mind, it\u2019s not like I have anything to hide like nudes. It\u2019s just some times text my friends about personal issues and sexuality problems, and I don\u2019t really want my mother to be looking over that, sense I\u2019m not ready to talk to her about it yet. I\u2019m just glad it\u2019s not to the point where she\u2019s taking my phone and looking through it. I did get in a small argument with her where I brought up the point \u201cHow would you like it if I looked through your phone?\u201d And she responded with \u201cWell if I pay for it I should get to know what goes on with it.\u201d\n\nSo who is right here? I know plenty of friends who\u2019s parents look through their phones, but they still don\u2019t like it. I just feel I should have the level of privacy everyone gets. But she is my mother and has every right to know what goes on in my life.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 13, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZHifqtJlQOccPFMIqaFpTBRSENtLZqPK", "post_id": "b01nlk", "action": {"description": "telling my boyfriend if I don't want him to be my prom date", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I tell my boyfriend if I don\u2019t want him to be my prom date?", "text": "sorry if this just seems like stupid HS drama but I don\u2019t really know who else to ask!\n\nSo for some context: \nMe and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years and he is one year older then me. I am a senior in HS this year, he graduated last year. \n\nLast year, I went to his prom with him. He didn\u2019t want to dance, and I\u2019m not really close with his friends so it was kind of boring but I was thankful to experience it with him! I convinced him only to dance to a couple songs but he was not into it at all, his friends weren\u2019t either. They pretty much just wanted to sit at their table (it was only my boyfriends friend group) and just talk and make jokes. Which I wasn\u2019t mad about, it wasn\u2019t my prom so I just tried to be there with him. \n\nWe\u2019ve also been to several parties and events and he is the type of person who would rather sit and eat and talk than dance and get \u201clit\u201d lmao. It\u2019s okay because I understand people are different. I can feel awkward like that too but once I get my friends encouragements I just want to be loose and have fun, and it\u2019s awkward with him because I can tell he\u2019s upset if I leave him alone but I know he also doesn\u2019t wanna dance. \n\nSo this year is my prom and I kind of.... don\u2019t want him to go with me. I love him but I\u2019d much rather go with one of my girlfriends who I know I can let loose and be free with. And i want to be with a group of my own friends, and he doesn\u2019t really know them THAT well. I feel like if I go with him I\u2019ll be glued to the chair all night. I haven\u2019t had a really good high school life and I want to be able to end on a fun note:)\n\nSorry this was so long but... yeah, would I be the asshole if I tell him I don\u2019t wanna go with him? He has expressed he does want to go with me and keeps asking if he\u2019s going to be my date but the way he asks he\u2019s saying he does wanna come and has even suggested that he should because I was HIS date for HIS prom. So yeah I\u2019d love ur opinions! ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6BUHyxrhy1H6UA8DboTNyEDMaGIiWs32", "post_id": "b4bdix", "action": {"description": "ditching my \"Uber driver\"", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ditching my \u201cUber driver\u201d", "text": "On occasion I use Uber to go to and from work when I\u2019m just not up for the subway. I work in a busy part of my city so I\u2019m not the best at checking the make/model or license plate when they roll up. Today I wanted to get home to help pull together a party for my husband tonight and got an Uber. Weirdly his picture was further away, kind of a profile (not straight on), and not fantastic lighting. I ignored it figuring I was lucky to even get one when it\u2019s busy. \n\nI was listening to a podcast and noticed a car pull up in front of my office and I just ran to it, opened the door, and said \u201cHey are you X, here for plzstoptalkingg?\u201d He said yes and I just took him at his word. I know my city pretty well so after about two minutes I noticed we weren\u2019t even close to going in the right direction. I check my app and the map wasn\u2019t updating and it never said \u201cpicked up/how was your pick up\u201d. I restarted the app and it just said the whole \u201cwhere do you want to go\u201d I got a little panicked but we were still in the nice part of town so I just politely asked if the typical bridge I take to my side of the city has construction. He just said \u201cI\u2019m following what the phone says\u201d I mention that I think we are headed the wrong way because we are going towards a tunnel not the bridge and he just shrugs. I told him I\u2019d be more comfortable going the normal route and if he just followed a different street I could tell him how to get to my house (which is not reachable by the tunnel). He told me he was taking the tunnel and that Uber would fire him for going off course. \n\nI keep trying to pull up our ride on my app and panic that he\u2019s not listening to me and I can\u2019t see that I\u2019ve been picked up. At this point we are one light away from the tunnel and I ask one more time if he can just take the bridge. He turns around and yells at me if I want to get him fired or what. \n\nSince we were stopped I opened the door, bailed, and snapped a picture of the car when I was on the sidewalk. I got out and walked straight to the police. I gave a statement and made my husband pick me up. \n\nMy husband thinks I\u2019m overreacting and that it was just a guy that thought he knew better than a GPS and thinks I\u2019m paranoid for making a statement to the cops. I know I listen to a lot of true crime and tend to get caught up in my head in unlikely scenarios. Am I an asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OONDJ9S9eX3EyErjpFy76SkYuLHTHILq", "post_id": "b5002p", "action": {"description": "thinking that my boyfriend's excessive farting might quite literally make our relationship toxic", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for thinking that my boyfriend's excessive farting might quite literally make our relationship toxic?", "text": "So I have this boyfriend, that I reallyyyyy like and want to feel comfortable with me... He has a lot of insecurities and I made an effort in the beginning of our relationship of telling him that he could and should be himself around me. But suddenly he started to fart all the time. And I really do mean, ALL the time. Sometimes it doesn't smell, but sometimes it really does. Sort of like sweet and rotten cheese mixed with something like raw meat. I think he might be broken on the inside.\n He doesn't go away to do it. He even does it when we are lying together watching movies - sometimes when I'm doing oral on him. Sometimes it's fun, but it is starting to bug me and it's hard to be romantic. Sometimes we have serious conversations and he farts and waits for my reaction in the middle of it. It's hard to stay focused in such a situation - Especially when I have to hold in a gag because of the smell.\n\nI wanted him to act naturally, but I didn't know it would release this reckoning of smell of all smells.\nAnd now I don't know how to tell him without hurting his feelings. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y4ukLC4BQh2aoaJl7P3eoKOI9QBSour6", "post_id": "9tdh94", "action": {"description": "refusing to do jobs outside of what I was hired for", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for refusing to do jobs outside of what I was hired for?", "text": "So, I work for a travel healthcare company as a telemetry tech. I started at a hospital a few weeks ago, and even though I'm not contractually obligated, I've also been a precepter (sp?) for some transfers/new hires. And I don't mind. It's a challenge, I can help people grow in a one on one environment, etc. Recently during a meeting, my supervisor was telling me about the possibility that since I've trained these people, they would need hours doing the job, and therefore might have to move me to doing secretarial/unit coordinator duties. Which, I usually don't mind helping, but I specifically went to school so that I wouldn't have to do jobs that I don't like, such as a UC, which would be constant phone/call light answering, listening to families and patients complain, bothering medical staff with more phone calls and messages (which I get is necessary, but knowing how hard Nurses and CNAs work, always makes me feel guilty). I expressed my concerns professionally and open minded, but this supervisor has previously gone behind me and messed with stuff like trying to short me on hours, which my travel company would have to sort out. So, I called my recruiter and expressed my concerns. I was basically told that it's my role to help the hospital as much as possible because I want the best possible reference, and then told to think of the manager in a sympathetic light. Basically that I could be their knight in shining armor. But even after that, along with the fact that my job would be miserable, I would almost feel taken advantage of because the people doing my contacted job would be the ones that I trained without asking for more pay (even though I had every right to, but I didn't find out until after the fact).\n\nSo, am I an asshole for looking out for myself? Am I being selfish in all of this? I felt I was justified until my conversation with my recruiter, so now I'm not sure and I feel a little guilty.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6HpbzxRyfuMpGg4ccmYWhE5H47Ll8oPr", "post_id": "b445i7", "action": {"description": "ghosting a friend", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for ghosting a friend", "text": "I was friends with this girl for 7+ years. \n\nThen she had first child and we were low/no contact for a while and after her second child she started reaching out again.\n\nAfter baby number two, I started noticing that she only contacts me when she needs support. For example, when she got kicked out of a playgroup, she called me for support.\n\nThe conversations always started with the pretext of her wanting to call and see how I'm doing and then switching directly to her and her issues before I've said anything.\n\nFor example, she called to say she wanted to know all about my sibling's wedding, talked about herself for an hour, and then hung up when she had run out of time. She never found out any information about the wedding and she never noticed that we didn't talk about it.\n\nI put up with it because her husband travels a lot and she has no other adults to talk to at this point and clearly she just needed someone to vent to from time to time.\n\nIn November, she called and started demanding to know when I was going to have children, something that may never happen for me.\nI explained to her that I did not want to talk about it and that I didn't know if I would ever have children. She kept pushing, saying that I should be able to answer her because I can just ignore whatever else is happening in my life and give her a hypothetical timeline. I explained it a dozen different ways that I didn't want to answer that question and she kept not taking no for an answer. So I said I had to go and hung up.\n\nThis friend had trouble conceiving and always complained to me about how hurtful it was when people drilled her on her baby plans, so it shocked me that she would forget all the pain those conversations put her through and force this conversation on me.\n\nDespite knowing that she has lost her longterm friendships and that she gets no support form her family, I stopped taking her calls.\nShe called me multiple times in November and I texted her that I was too busy with school to have chats and she told me to contact her as soon as I had more free time when I finished school by January.\n\nI know I shouldn't have used the school excuse, but I felt that if I told her why I didn't want to talk to her it would end up being a rather nasty email since my feelings were rather hurt at that point.\n\nI want send her a message now that I've had some time and distance from the event explaining why I ended the friendship since I know that several other friends have ended friendships with her for similar reasons, i.e. her being really insensitive.\n\nIt's now nearly April and I haven't talked to her since I texted her in November.\n\nAm I the asshole for ending the friendship knowing that she's in true need of a friend and has no one else?\n\nOr for telling her that I would contact her in January and never doing that because I've had so much stress in my life that I can't handle her antics?\n\nWould I be the asshole if I sent her a message explaining why I ended contact with her?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "FbLNF2bJUmGsKvsqbxEymWyNfluq5NR1", "post_id": "ajwhx3", "action": {"description": "denying my 2 friends money", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA Am I the asshole for denying my 2 friends money?", "text": "Ok so i know i post a lot on this subreddit but this is a serious issue i continuiously have. So this is basically 2 stories in one but i will start with the least problematic , This kid in my class is pretty arogant. He's in a special needs class despite the fact that he has no mental problems and simply doesn't want to learn anything. On top of that he barely ever comes to school , missing every day that he can. He has a binder that was given to him by the special needs teacher with simple math problems in it. Example: 2+4. \nHowever instead of even doing simple math he decides to talk and goof off during class. The worst part however is that he asks , No , Begs for money. Every chance he gets , \"Hey Jacob you got 2 dollars?\". He asks almost everyday and I'm not even in high school yet so I'll be dammed if I'm gonna spend 2 Dollars every day. Every time he asks for money , if I do give him 2 dollars he says , \"Actually can I get another dollar?\" , It is living Hell During break nowadays. I always have to avoid him , But recently he has asked less and less which is why it isn't too much of a problem anymore , But that was just the icing on the cake. This other kid asks me for money too , but he is WAY worse. He asks for a dollar ,  sometimes two and over and over again if I say no. I pass by him on my way to school every morning and he lives in a \"poor neighborhood\" , I use the word Poor lightly there because his family has multiple children and buys school clothes and merchandise , and distributes spending money to at least two of them. Not to mention the lunchroom prices. That would mean that they set aside 120 dollars for school clothing alone! But I always feel guilty when I say no , on account of him living in a poor neighborhood , regardless if his family is poor or not. He also curses loudly when I refuse , \"Oh my fucking GAWD!\" , Which still doesn't stop me from feeling guilty. My parents and friends don't think I'm in the wrong here but people on reddit are experts on this so make of this what you will.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kw5jtWmgrK9XSegsoUtuNupzQLh7kNW5", "post_id": "a2mnvg", "action": {"description": "getting a player kicked out of a soccer game", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For getting a player kicked out of a soccer game?", "text": " \n\nI play on a co-ed indoor soccer team that meets once a week to play another team in our league. Everything is supposed to be clean and fun. We've played 7 games this season and their seems to be a mutual respect between teams. Except for this last team.\n\nFour of their players were being pushy, tripping players and pushing them into walls. Two of the got blue cards(warnings) but the refs weren't really doing anything else about it and it cause the whole situation to escalate real quick. They got a couple penalties at the start of the second half and my team started flopping, trying to pull more penalties. Both teams were kind of a mess.\n\nAnyways, throughout the whole game this one guy on the other team is playing really rough, swearing at us, flopping, and begging the refs to make better calls. He got a penalty in the first period and continued playing aggressively afterwards. In the second period I'm trying to cover this guy and the ball went over our heads. We both race towards it and he give me a shove (I don't fall over or flop) but the ref whistles and calls it in our favor giving the guy a warning. I can see on his face that hes upset with the call.\n\nAt the point something in my brain goes off. I know that if I push this guy far enough he'll get a red card. So I tell him \"Maybe you should try falling over again.\" He glared and called me a pussy. This is all within earshot of the ref by the way.\n\nPlay starts again and soon enough we are fighting for the ball again. He throws a shoulder in my face and the ref immediately stops play. I tell him real smugly to cool it off. He says \"Shave your fucking mustache you ugly fuck.\" Or something along those lines. Ref gives him a red card and sends him packing.\n\nI feel bad for sinking to his level but I justify it to myself that he was making the game less fun for everyone and putting my team's safety at risk. He should have been taken out of the game earlier in my opinion. What do you think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "a2qz7pMBh8Iup7UPBq83VdE2EB0i5Mdi", "post_id": "b0cyun", "action": {"description": "demanding half my money back", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA I demanded half my money back.", "text": "i was on a snowboarding trip to japan recently and had a real good time, but the last day of the trip did they close the lifts at 11.30 due to wind (open from 8.30 to 16.30 and the wind was 15m/s).\n\n​\n\nSo I went to the counter of the hotel telling them that i would want half my money back cause i only got half i payed for. But they said that there is nothing they can do and i should go to the valley station and talk to them instead. And so I did. I walked up to the counter and said that I think that because i only got half of what i payed for and didn't want to pay full price for half of what i actually payed for. the woman at the counter just said that they don't do refunds, never. so i kept going that half price for a half day isn't wrong and both parties get it as good as they could in a situation like this but she just kept saying, \"we won't do refunds\". at this point am i getting a bit irritated at the situation. at this point did one of the skii patroll step in and started of pretty rude by just saying that \"everyone was informed that there is a risk of the lifts closing and there won't be any refunds\" me pretty confused at this point asked him how and when i was informed about this and he just said that I shouldn't ask such stupid questions and just leave and this is when I made it my mission to get the 2000 yen back of the 4000 i payed. \n\n​\n\nso i went full attack mode and demanded my money back and at the same time running the skii patroll over by just answering his questions and countering with telling him that what he says makes no sense and gave him a counter argument. this went on for 45 minutes when the lady at the register went to get her manager and i pretty much repeated what i said to the cashier to him and after 30 minutes of arguing did the manager just tell me to give him my bank card so he could give me a full refund. \n\n​\n\nafter this ordeal did i meet the cashier at the lokal bar and apologized for my behaviour and told her that she could have any drink she wanted on me as an apology and we proceeded to talk for a couple of hours and before i left did she tell me that i'm not the first, nor the worst. and the fact that i went up to her afterwards really warmed her heart cause that showed that i wasn't mad at her but their policy which she agreed on was a bit stupid.\n\n​\n\nsorry if my english isn't 100%, it is my second language.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WosQnluxEAdk3tdbd85CXRpeluVprdpA", "post_id": "aqqwjt", "action": {"description": "just not bothering anymore", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for just not bothering anymore", "text": "So, background info;\n\nMy biological mom and dad got divorced when i was 2 (spent my time 50/50 at my bio moms and dads still), he met his now-wife when i was 4, and I'm now 21. My dad have problems with alcoholism; neither me, nor my (half)sister noticed anything, until i think 4 or 5 years ago, were my dad broke completely down and went full on alcoholic for a month, wanted a divorce with his wife/ my bonus-mom, and ends up in the hospital because he just binge-drank and he stopped cold. \n\nAt around the same time, I more or less moved out; first at what amounts to a boarding school, then a year off to work where i stayed with my bio-mom (she moved out of country) and now i've been studying at the other end of the country for 3\u00bd years, living at a campus. \n\n​\n\nMy dad still have problems with alcohol - he likes to drink, but he can't handle it for shit. He takes antibus (if you drink you get ill) to stop drinking, but he won't stop drinking completely; sometimes he gets \"days off\" where he is allowed to drink, and isn't on his medicine. \n\nAgain, tho, he can't hold his alcohol for shit, and he's an he usually turns into an idiot when hes drunk; if you point out that hes drunk, he gets mad, and then he and my bonus-mom, and usually my sister ends up just shouting at each other. \n\n​\n\nI don't live at home. I visit like, once a month; i haven't experienced any \"episodes\" in the last month or so, but hes still drinking, and he still can't hold his alcohol, so I'm not holding my breath - and anyways, thats not really important. \n\nUsually, when my dad went off to bed, my bonus-mom would ask me to talk to my dad; tell him that he was being a douche, and would he please not do it again? \n\nI've tried that. Multiple times. Either he doesn't listen, or he listen, but decides my bonus-mom made me do it (which, tbf, she did, but that doesn't change the fact he was a complete twatwaffle all those times) and he becomes angry at her (and she then kinda become angry with me and my sister). \n\nIf I don't say anything, then my bonus-mom think I'm a coward and more or less an asshole for not saying anything. \n\n​\n\nSo, i guess the question here; Am I the asshole here, for just being... done, and not bothering anymore? I get why my bonus-mom want me to bring it up, but it doesn't solve anything - rather, it usually only make more problems; besides, I'm not even living at home. Also, sorry for the wall of text.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1rIA9JyY2devMUmjGsgouMjRvsHxPn6H", "post_id": "ai708e", "action": {"description": "roasting a girl who accused my friend of raping her", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for roasting a girl who accused my friend of raping her?", "text": "I'll be referring to my friend as Rob and the accuser as Sarah. \n\nSo we're all juniors in high school. Rob and I have been friends since 2nd grade. He and I both met Sarah last year, in 10th grade. I'm close friends with Rob and less-close-but-still-friends with Sarah.\n\nRob started dating Sarah at the end of the last school year. He told me about how she slept with him. He also said he expected her to be a virgin since she's super religious, but she wasn't and apparantly lost her virginity to her ex. \n\nAfter a while, Rob breaks up with her.\n\nTwo weeks after that, she accuses him of raping her on snapchat. On snapchat of all places... Basically, she posted on her story how Rob raped her.\n\nNow, immediately after this, I decided I wanted to look into this to see if her allegations held any weight. Of course, I'll probably have some unconscious bias toward Rob, but I like to think of myself as a logical person.\n\nSo, i examined her story. And it just doesn't add up. She used a defense of 'hey, I'm Christian, why would I sleep with a guy?' But remember how Rob told me she wasn't a virgin and said she lost it to an ex? That ex goes to our school, so I asked him. He said yes, they had sex.\n\nNow, I think this is decent. But at the end of the day this is just he-said-she-said. So it wouldn't hold up.\n\nSo I asked both Sarah and Rob their specific sides of the story: when this alleged rape occurred, what led up to it, what happened, after, etc. \n\nSarah gave me a date and time: October 9th, right after getting home from school. So I was checking to see if this was true. And nope, it didn't add up. School ends at 3:22. From the school (according to google maps), his house is 17 minutes away. He and I were texting each other consistantly from 3:25 to 4:13, with no significant gaps of time without him replying back. \n\nAs far as I'm concerned, that's pretty damning evidence. \n\nSo I tried to decide what to do with the evidence. I decided, fuck it. Since Sarah used snapchat, I would too. I created a google doc with my evidence and linked it on my story. \n\nSarah saw this and is calling me a huge dick for not believing her. Am I? Personally I feel the evidence doesn't support her.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "EkK2NYS1J8vVyNHn6nGTTMJmJJyBKAzz", "post_id": "aodc24", "action": {"description": "lashing out at new friends for disrespecting a friend I lost to suicide a year ago", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA: Lashing out at new friends for disrespecting a friend I lost to suicide a year ago?", "text": "Hey there, this is going to sound weird, but here we go. I should also mention that this is my first post on here, so I apologize if I\u2019m doing anything wrong here.\n\nBACKGROUND INFO: I had a friend named Andrew. We were very VERY close and bonded over several things. However, he lived in Vermont, and I live in California. So, we never met.\n\nI have a few more friends that were also friends with him, however they live in Michigan, Tennessee, Utah, and Texas respectively. None of us live in the same state.\n\nOur friend Andrew expresses thoughts of suicide multiple times, leading all of us to contact his parents out of concern.\n\nHis parents thanked us and took him to the hospital where he was put on suicide watch. \n\nWe had no contact with him for weeks.\n\nWhen he got back, and was said to be doing better, he texted all of us to catch up. \n\nThen the next day we found out he took his life.\n\nThat was a little over a year ago. \n\nJanuary, 2018. \n\nHe was a very kind and loving person, and we all miss him very very much. \n\nNow, for the actual story.\n\nI have a new group of friends now, some that actually live in my town and go to my school. \n\nI was talking to them about stuff that had been going on, and we got onto the subject of why I had been growing distant.\n\nReason: Andrews One Year Anniversary was coming up. \n\nI didn\u2019t tell them. They decided that we should all hang out sometime, to try and get my mind off of whatever was bothering me.\n\nWe hung out, like normal, and when they were at my house, I was on Instagram, like normal, and all my friends were posting the date, and hearts, and pictures of Andrew. Then I remembered, that Today Was The Day. I told them all to leave, shitty, I know.\n\nI had been growing more and more distant, until a few days ago.\n\nThey finally confronted me, and I knew something was going to go down.\n\nI was at my friend (let\u2019s call her Maria) Maria\u2019s house, and we were hanging out. It was around 9pm when this conversation started. It was around 1am when it ended.\n\nMy friends (Ashley, Nicole, and Bonnie) were asking me what was wrong. (Those are fake names, of course.) \n\nI told them I missed Andrews one year, because I wasn\u2019t hanging out with them.\n\nThey told me it was normal, and they didn\u2019t understand why I was so upset. \n\nThe conversation went a bit like this:\n\n(keep in mind, this was days ago, and I left the groupchat after. I have screenshots that I can post if needed, this is 100% real.)\n\nA: so... what\u2019s the matter? \n\nMe: i missed andys 1yr because i was with y\u2019all\n\nN: Thats okay, don\u2019t worry, he\u2019d have wanted you to be happy\n\nMe: i can\u2019t do that to him. \n\nA: have you moved on yet, [my name]\n\nMe: i\u2019m trying, yeah\n\nA: so... you haven\u2019t moved on?\n\nMe: at the moment? no\n\nN: that\u2019s unhealthy\n\nB: are you okay?\n\nMe: what do you mean?\n\nN: it\u2019s been a year dude\n\nA: yeah you gotta accept it\n\nMe: i have accepted it, i\u2019m just taking my time moving on and reading through all our texts and emails and praying that he\u2019s finally found peace\n\nA: praying? are you five?\n\nMe: excuse me?\n\nA: you need to accept it. praying isn\u2019t going to bring him back, sis\n\nMe: i know it wont. i\u2019m praying for his soul to have found peace, and for his family to find happiness\n\nB: i didn\u2019t know you were religious\n\nMe: i\u2019m not. i was raised on faith in the after life and eternal peace. not jesus\n\n(For context, my family is agnostic jewish)\n\nB: that\u2019s cool!\n\nA: you gotta accept it broski\n\nMe: i have. \n\nA: you haven\u2019t\n\nA: praying for him won\u2019t help\n\nA: he. is. gone.\n\nN: he\u2019s dead, [my name]\n\nThat was it. My final breaking point. I started typing as fast as I could, screaming profanities through the screen, telling them how they didn\u2019t know him, they can\u2019t tell me how to move on, and how they need to back off, and how i was going to take one more day to remember him, since i was robbed of that on his Anniversary.\n\nMe: you didn\u2019t know him, you weren\u2019t close to him like I was, you don\u2019t know how hard it was for me to lose him and not be able to tell ANYONE about this, because when this happened, ALL my friends were friends with him. no one else knew him, I didn\u2019t have any friends outside of my friend group with him. You didn\u2019t know him, don\u2019t tell me how to move on\n\nA: we\u2019ve all lost people, chill\n\nN: one more day isn\u2019t going to fix anything. He is GONE\n\nMe: no, I\u2019m taking another day to remember him and look through out texts and remember what he was to me, and how he helped me through more than any of you did\n\nN: really, what\u2019d he help you do that we couldn\u2019t have done? \n\nMe: he helped me come out, he talked me out of SUICIDE, which none of you EVER would have done, because you\u2019re too busy with yourselves\n\nB: i\u2019m so sorry, [my name], i had no idea. you should take that other day.\n\nN: no, it\u2019s unhealthy\n\nA: you need to calm down\n\nI kept blowing up, and blowing up, and at this point i was sobbing in Maria\u2019s bedroom, and she hugged me while I was crying.\n\nThey all eventually told me I needed to go to sleep because i was over reacting.\n\nI apologized to them for how I acted the next day.\n\nBonnie was the only nice one, and I will forever thank her for being supportive when Ashly and Nicole weren\u2019t. Maria was also more supportive than I could\u2019ve asked for.\n\nI have trouble opening up to them now, especially since today has been one of the worst days of my life. I went to tell them about it, but they went \u201cOh, same\u201d and moved on.\n\nI can\u2019t tell them ANYTHING anymore. \n\nI\u2019ve had a crush on Nicole for almost as long as I\u2019ve known her, and I told her the other day. \n\nShe said it wouldn\u2019t ruin our friendship, and it led to a conversation, but that\u2019s a whole different post. \n\nSo please, Reddit, tell me, \n\nAm I The Asshole?\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6i66VW4Ny0oGMENvbpKe324Mtn46oz6L", "post_id": "awjgg9", "action": {"description": "wanting my brother to get rid of his rabbit", "pronormative_score": 39, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For Wanting My Brother To Get Rid Of His Rabbit?", "text": "About a year ago, my family got rabbits. We originally had three - brothers - and each one of us had one rabbit dubbed as \"theirs\". For a period of time after we got them, everything went fine. We all took turns cleaning out the hutch, feeding them, filling up their water, ect. \n\nHowever, about six months after we got them, a fox managed to break into their hutch despite the precautions we had put up, and two of them were killed. The only rabbit that survived was my brother's. Shortly after this happened - at my brother's request - we bought a smaller hutch and moved his rabbit inside. As our house is fairly small, the rabbit ended up being moved into my room since I had the most free space.\n\nI didn't really mind as I was assured that my brother would take the main burden of looking after it and, for a while, that's what happened. But barely a month later, my brother just completely stopped. I quickly became the sole caretaker of the rabbit. My brother would refuse to clean his hutch out or even give him water. I would attempt to get him to do it, only for my mum to tell me to do it \"just this once\".\n\nJust this once turned into every time. I have limited mobility of my left arm thanks to nerve damage from an accident and, let me tell you, cleaning out a rabbit with only one arm is HARD. For the past six or seven months, my brother has done jack to look after his rabbit. The only time he shows any interest is when he wants to get him out of the hutch to play. \n\nI'm sick of it. The rabbit isn't even mine, yet I'm the only one who does anything to take care of him and there's a large chunk of my room taken up by a creature that I'm not even allowed to claim ownership over. \n\nLast night I snapped and gave my mum three choices:\n- My brother either takes over caring for the rabbit and stops forcing me to do everything\nOR\n- The rabbit becomes mine and my brother will no longer be allowed to barge into my room to play with it\nOR \n- The rabbit goes\n\nMy brother went into a screaming meltdown (He's 10 and he literally threw a tantrum over being asked to take care of HIS rabbit) about how I'm so horrible for wanting to get rid of the pet that he \"loves\" so much. My mum got snippy at me, telling me that it wasn't fair for me to expect my brother to look after a rabbit when he already has to deal with school and being on a sports team. \n\nI lost it at that point. I am barely three months away from my GCSEs and I'm currently being forced to juggle studies and a part time job. When I get to college, I know my workload will pretty much be doubled. I repeated my points again and told her either she picks an option, or I take care of this myself.\n\nDon't get me wrong, I love that rabbit, but it's getting too much. My brother goes mental if I just take the rabbit out of his hutch to play without calling him into the room to join in.\n\nI am not willing to do all of this for a rabbit that I'm not even allowed to play with. \n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 38, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 39, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "aznrGX3hrD9Y8evF4eG6FwuuoHIuQqOJ", "post_id": "avv5kp", "action": {"description": "not moving an appointment with a coworker that we set 3 weeks ago, the day of the appointment", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not moving an appointment with a coworker that we set 3 weeks ago, the day of the appointment?", "text": "I am currently training someone to cover my job for when I go on leave at the end of march. They have repeatedly forgotten appointments/  told me a day would work for them, then booked it up ahead of time without leaving room for what I needed to show them. We make our own schedules.\n\n3 weeks ago, I booked this person to meet me at 2:20 today and we would drive to where we needed to go, to be there for 3. I have text confirmation. This morning, I texted them that they would have to meet me at the place at 3, (because I had an appointment nearby and it did not make sense for me to back track to pick this person up when they also have a company vehicle so it doesn't really change anything for them, they just have to drive). Nothing else changed. \n\nThey asked \"can we not do it earlier?\" , I said no, thats the time we booked with the place 3 weeks ago. I asked \"can you not make it anymore?\". They tried to say that we had scheduled it for 2pm, but I looked back in our text conversations and we 100% booked it for 3pm and my coworker confirmed. They are going to come for the correct time now but they told me AFTER, they wanted to do it earlier because they were supposed to take a family member to the hospital. I felt like an ass and offered after they told me that to see if we could change the time and they texted me short responses like  \"no Ill make it work\" \"k\" sort of texts back and I feel like they are upset at me. \n\nI decided to just leave it at that with the coworker and not look into changing the appointment.... AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "f9gXtThseO7SeKhmXc5dLwbkNChCLNlM", "post_id": "b9rpen", "action": {"description": "not wanting to talk on the phone with my girlfriend", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to talk on the phone with my girlfriend?", "text": "I've been dating my wonderful, patient, amazing, gorgeous girlfriend for a little over two years. We're both in two different stages of life, so we don't see each other very often--usually, once during the week (if we're lucky) and, on the weekends she doesn't work, we spend all weekend together. I love her and I'm IN love with her. \n\nHowever, I don't like talking on the phone. It just isn't a form of communication I enjoy. I don't like talking on the phone at work, i don't like talking on the phone with my mother, brother, father, or friends. Once in a while to catch up? Sure! \n\nBut with my girlfriend, it's all throughout the day texting, then it's a phone call on the car ride home, then texting all throughout the night, and then a phone call before bed. It feels like it's constant communication, even when she's not around. \n\nI feel like it's like she thinks our phone calls are \"quality time\" where as, for me, it just feels incessant. \n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to talk as much as we do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 9, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1vRhchAg1abih8rr6t7pu0PhfhvEuZw4", "post_id": "a7lbh3", "action": {"description": "getting stressed and angry at friends not responding to my messages for long periods of time", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for getting stressed and angry at friends not responding to my messages for long periods of time?", "text": "I have a friend with some mild mental issues that's going though a rough time and told me that he wouldn't be answering the phone that much (he lives a couple of hours away and that's our only form of communication). When I asked him how long I'd take for me to contact him \"in a normal way\", he couldn't give me a concrete answer (for the record, I know this Isn't some way to get rid of me, every time something bad happens in his life he pushes people away and then tries to act like nothing happened after some time). The thing is, this stresses me a lot. I wouldn't mind a \"contact me in a month and if I'm still feeling like crap then contact me 2 weeks later\" or something of the sort, but an ominous \"I don't know when I'll be better\" tears an emotional hole though my chest and doesn't let me sleep at night. \n\nThis already happened with an ex-friend some time ago; she was going though an incredibly difficult time in her life and just ghosted me, after a couple of days I had a mental breakdown and told her to get out of my life. I guess that was pretty mean, but on the other hand it's not like I don't take into consideration people's issues, why can't they consider mine? It's not like I'm asking for much.\n\nAm I the asshole on this? What should I do if I'm an asshole? Not asking for you guys to validate my opinion, please be honest", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 12, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "i3l3xuz66Xc5ISQkVyr55Xkjv7wN07Iv", "post_id": "a3d5ct", "action": null, "title": "AITAH here for ratting someone out to management at my gym?", "text": "At my gym there is a well posted rule, no cellphone conversations except in the lobby. I am not in the best shape but have been slowly working up my endurance and have been pushing it on the treadmill. The only way I can push it is to focus on my music and zone out. Therec are a ton of empty treadmills at my gym though not all with they best view of the TV screens (they're all see TVs but may not be on the show you want). Now for the asshole question. So while halfway through my run thid guy gets on the treadmill next to me and starts to walk at a slow pace and starts yapping on his phone. I asked him politely if he could stop as it is interfering with my workout and he told me to move if i don't like it. I pointed out the signs all over starting the policy and he said well if you don't life it tell management, which i want going to do mid workout. Somewhat childish i started singing along loudly to my music so that he couldn't hear his call and he hung up. Shortly thereafter an employee walk by and i ask him to please reinforce the rules to the yapper. Instead of the guy just saying Ok i stopped, he got confrontational with the worker who eventually shut down his treadmill. AITAH for ratting him out after he stopped?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 15, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 16, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZRUSdsKlVjkcKMTGQm7Hd51nFZkB1c2I", "post_id": "a8cjl6", "action": {"description": "telling my sister that if she wants to come over she can leave her dogs at home", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my sister that if she wants to come over she can leave her dogs at home?", "text": "Basically my sister is a dog nut. I like her animals a lot, and they are well behaved for sure because hse is an excellent animal trainer(two dogs, two cats), but I am not a fan of having animals in the house (fur, damage, usually smell like shit), and I don't want to worry about them fucking up my place, or having to make it animal safe every time she comes over. I play with them all the time when I'm at her place, so it's not like I hate dogs. It's just that the farthest I could go is a cat in the house, and even that is a stretch.\n\nWhen I told her this she went to defcon five, and started analogizing that it was the same as if she told me that my girlfriend couldn't come over because she didn't go to college, because she has a preference towards having educated people in the house. She said it's basically like we won't let her bring children over, if she had any.\n\nIf she told me I couldn't bring a pet to her house I wouldn't even think twice about it. Am I an asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 29, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kwp5dQYYNU2YHrfiBaKLUR3x6PteJuWc", "post_id": "b30tzk", "action": {"description": "forbidding my wife from hanging out with her friends", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 11}, "title": "AITA for forbidding my wife from hanging out with her friends?", "text": "Didn't know how else to word that title, sorry if it seemed baity.\n\nMy wife, years before we met, was a camgirl. She doesn't anymore but during her time as a streamer made a few friends on the platform, went to a convention, etc. I've met some of these friends, but only the women. And they're good people. We all get along. Many of them still do but most don't, just like my girlfriend.\n\nI learned recently she also made some male \"friends\" through the platform. \"Clients\" as she calls them, they're people who tipped her on the site or would pay for private shows, etc. Red flag #1 is I found out she added some of them to Facebook. I don't like the idea of these people seeing our photos together, photos of our children, etc. Red flag #2 is she plans to go meet with one of them for coffee.\n\nAITA for not wanting this to happen like at all? I think the dynamic is different with a male \"friend\" in this context. They began to know each other under a sexual pretense, something I'm not comfortable with. I told my wife this and she thinks I think she'll cheat when it's the furthest thing from it. I trust my wife; I don't trust these guys.\n\ntl;dr: wife is ex-camgirl, wants to meet some of her former \"clients\" for coffee. I'm against it 100%. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 11}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "dqYRc9zC9XUleolHvy6FyIgZTFJlVYQ3", "post_id": "b8sdv1", "action": {"description": "changing my mind midway through buying a stranger coffee", "pronormative_score": 473, "contranormative_score": 53}, "title": "AITA for changing my mind midway through buying a stranger coffee?", "text": "I stopped by a local coffee place after work today. There was a woman behind me in line with a toddler, the kid was sweet and saying \"hello\" to everyone in line and genuinely brightened my day. \n\nWhile I was standing near the cash register waiting for my order, the woman stepped up and ordered a $4 coffee. I kindly offered to pay and she seemed so grateful and even thanked me twice. Right after, she turned back to the cashier and said, \"in that case, you can add two extra shots and a blueberry muffin.\"\n\nI was so taken aback, I immediately told the cashier that I changed my mind and she could pay for her own order. I walked over, picked up my drink and left without another word. \n\nAITA for reneging on my offer? \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 35, "OTHER": 467, "EVERYBODY": 18, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 13}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 473, "WRONG": 53}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "eTQBI8nNnGZvy5WEkERziVDycov1YdnA", "post_id": "b0alwk", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to an ex friend's birthday celebration", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to an ex friend\u2019s birthday celebration?", "text": "So this guy used to be friends with me and a couple of other people. However, recently he has been making fun of me and my family.  He also one ups everyone in my friend group. He always talks about how he is better then all of us. Tomorrow is his birthday, and he invited me. I lied about having work to do, just to get out of hanging out with him. Am I the asshole for not wanting to go to his birthday?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "n0lX9punMk311z8XOWlNC2V9r23AnZgm", "post_id": "amwjqs", "action": {"description": "saying cunt isn't a gender specific curse word", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for saying cunt isn\u2019t a gender specific curse word?", "text": "So you can check my comment history if you want but basically I think that the word \u201ccunt\u201d isn\u2019t gender specific. To me it\u2019s like any other curse word, but apparently to a large group of people it\u2019s specifically targeted towards women because by me calling someone a pussy or a cunt I\u2019m saying they\u2019re weak so inherently somehow I also mean vaginas are weak?\n\nAnyways not the point of this. I got into this whole argument with this person about this and now I feel kinda bad about it. I personally think I could have been more understanding, but I still stand with my point that cunt isn\u2019t gender specific.\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 6, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "q6fJRm5fMhjCHKE0LezXevMXqA9FedoE", "post_id": "arltvc", "action": {"description": "being upset that my roommmate keeps locking me out of my room to have sex", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my roommmate keeps locking me out of my room to have sex?", "text": "This is my first time posting so apologies if I miss anything. Trying to give backstory so it's gonna be a long read.\n\n​\n\nMy roommmate (let's call him R) and I roomed together in a college dorm as freshmen, and we had a great time. We were compatible as roommates and were good friends the first semester and decided to room again in a shared room in an apartment for sophomore year, which has a living room. We couldn't afford to pay for single rooms. So second semester of freshman year rolls around and R meets a girl and they start dating. They start having sex and spend long times in the dorm, kicking me out frequently which I was actually fine with as I genuinely wanted R to have fun and experience that stuff so I was leaving the room almost every day for 4 to 8 hours for them the first 2-3 weeks, then gradually lessened as they began to calm down the pace to like 4 times a week. R and gf did sleep over a good amount during this semester as well, which was fine. \n\n​\n\nSo we roll around to sophomore year and theyre still dating, and I'm still good friends with R and somewhat friends with R's gf. R and R's gf continue to have sex and ask me to leave often, which I always do. I would say about 3 to 5 times a week this would happen, mostly late at night. This would happen by all 3 of us being in the room and R then would ask me for the room, and I would then go study in the living room until they let me back in 1-2 hours later which was admittedly an improvement from the previous 4 to 8 hours of freshman year. As a side note I did have to leave my desktop and gaming set-up in the room which kinda sucked. They also spent a good amount of time (3-6) hours studying and talking in the room rather than the living room, about 3 to 4 times a week. At this point I am beginning to get irritated as I didn't sign up to room like this and at this point was just wanting to be in my room and chilling without feeling like a third wheel in my own space, especially when there was a living room for them to be in when they weren't having sex. As a result of this, I decided to room for junior year with a different roommate as I'm tired of dealing with the sexile situation. R and I still will be in the same apartment, just different rooms.\n\n​\n\nAnother fast forward to 3 weeks after the start of our second semester of sophomore year, and I'm fed up with being locked out of my room. Now, instead of asking me to leave the room (R knows I get annoyed when he asks me) or giving me a heads up text, they just have sex when I'm out and without knowing when I'll be back. During the first period of the semester, I came in to my apartment and my room was locked and they would be having sex. I would say this happened about 6 times in 3 weeks. I have never gotten a heads up text. Ironically enough I have a key to my room but I just knock and wait outside for them to finish, which is usually about 10 minutes now. I feel uncomfortable being with them in the room afterwards as I know they were just having sex before I interrupted.\n\n​\n\nFinally, last week some mutual friends are over to hang out and R and his gf are hanging out with us. In the middle of it, (we are all in the living room), R and his gf go into our room and have sex for an hour, locking everyone out of the bathroom as well. This upsets me as I think this is rude (as do our friends) and after everyone has gone, I tell R that I'm irritated and need to talk to him about setting some room guidelines. Instead of trying to be receptive or inclined to discuss the situation, R gets upset with me and says that he tries really hard to schedule his sex so that I am not interrupted, even though I was still locked out of my room several times already this semester but for a lesser duration. I then ask him to be more discreet about having sex and to do it when he knows I'm out of the room (side note: R's gf and I have several classes at the same time) which is at least 2 times a week outside of conflicting schedules. I then also ask him to hang out with his gf in the living room when they are studying and talking as I feel it is unfair to have her in the room while I'm there as I feel like I am an unwilling third-wheel and the living room is a reasonable option. In response, R becomes upset and says that he feels we aren't friends anymore, ever since I decided to stop rooming with him. This is his first time saying this and I interpreted this as him using our friendship as leverage against me as a roommate as it was unrelated to what I brought up. Following this, we get into an argument for this reason alongside the fact that he didn't show that he's grateful for all the times I've left the room for him and the fact that I've never kicked him out of the room. He did acknowledge that having sex while friends were over was wrong and he won't do it again. Otherwise, living with him has become super uncomfortable, as both of us think the other is in the wrong.\n\n​\n\nTL:DR; \n\n​\n\nI've been accommodating my roommate and his gf's sex life for a year now and am tired of doing so, and feel like he's in the wrong for expecting me to continue leaving for him when I didn't want to sign up for this living situation in the first place, and him getting upset when I try to communicate my desire for him to lock me out less. I do genuinely want to come home to my room to relax and not deal with social situations and it bums me out when my room's locked and then afterwards someone else's gf is in my room. I don't mind them using the room or R's gf, I just want them to have sex when they know I won't be coming home, and I had already given R 2 guaranteed times a week where I'd be out for 3+ hours. Instead, he just has sex in the room at random points in the day without giving me a heads up and hopes I won't come home during it.\n\n​\n\nHe, on the other hand, thinks I am in the wrong as he feels he deserves time in the room and that I am not appreciative of him trying to kick me out less and for less time, which I admit he does in comparison to the beginning of the whole situation. \n\n​\n\nI'd also like to add that I am an introvert and tend to stay in the room a good amount when I'm not in class, which I feel bad about for R when he's trying to have sex but still don't know if it's my responsibility to leave so that he can have sex as I have been leaving for \\~ a year and am getting tired of it. When it was just him and I in the room we got along fine and I miss feeling like I have my own room and space. \n\n​\n\nAITA for being a bad roommate and being unreasonable?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lhSOti0RGxuzQu4GTP2o573ChZ1JHsdo", "post_id": "aurijh", "action": {"description": "trying to keep my brother from a girl who is way too much", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for trying to keep my brother from a girl who is way too much?", "text": "This will probably be pretty long, I'll include a tl;dr below.\n\nMy highschool aged brother recently started dating a girl, maybe a week and a half ago, who is way too clingy. She made him change his lockscreen to a picture of her, give her his phone password (I'll come back to this) and said \"I love you\" in front of our parents, all within a week of dating. For reference, they've known each other less than a month.\n\nI'll straight up tell you I don't like this girl. I hardly know her, but she is taking over my brother and I can't stand it.\n\nSo once they began dating, which literally was just a \"Hey we're dating now\" type deal, she has shown that she is way too possessive. He got a snapchat in class from a (male) friend, and she wanted to see what it was. My brother basically told her not to worry about it, and she started trying to unlock his phone when he wasn't watching. I'm a little fuzzy on the details, because he has only told me so much. He caved and gave her his password, and now she likes to check up on him. I also know she has read through his texts to me, to his best friend, and I believe to others as well.\n\nHe went to watch a movie at one of her friends houses, and was there a little longer than a movie generally takes. I'm not dumb, but he swears they only made out. I don't care that they did, in fact that is one of the least weird parts of their relationship. When she dropped him off at home after, to go see a concert with me, she dropped the \"love you\" line. He of course said it back. He forgot his phone at her friends house however, and they most certainly went through it. I got a text the next morning, from her (on his phone) to tell him to pick it up.  I don't think he quite understands what he is doing. I think he is only thinking with one head if you catch my drift.\n\nIts probably not my place to say, but I think she is trying to isolate him from his friends. He barely does anything but text and call her. She also needs to know where he is and will call him all the time, before school, after school, even during sometimes. \n\nFor my part, I've advised him against it from the start, somewhat strongly. I think she's crazy, and way too possessive. I've told him so, but our parents don't want to do anything, but they also don't know the extent of it. They plan to have sex in the near future, and I am concerned af with where that will go. Teenagers gonna teenager, sure. But I don't think she is incapable of something truly evil, if you know what I mean, what with how she has latched onto him so far.\n\nTl;dr: My brother started dating a girl, who wants his phone password, wants his lockscreen to be a picture of her, and wants all of his attention all of the time. I want him to break it off, and I've told him so. AITA for trying to stop my brother from dating this girl?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Y3dWqlebbkMJrtQ2l1JkLuUkdgpnIq75", "post_id": "avmhf1", "action": null, "title": "AITA: Family wants to move 20 minutes from my current college and I hate it", "text": "I (F20) currently am going to college around 7 hours away from my family. It\u2019s going really well! The distance from them has been great for me! My second year in, my parents want to retire, and they decided the state I\u2019m currently in would be ideal for them. I understand that, and I even helped them look at great places that were further (around 2/3 hours) from me. Suddenly, my parents and grandparent decide they want to move to a place 20 minutes from me.\n\nFor a lot of people, it would be uncomfortable, but not ideal. For me, it\u2019s different. In my case, my mother and I do not get along well at all. Our relationship is strained, at best. I\u2019m an only child and while I am so grateful for everything they\u2019ve done for me, as a unit my parents tend to be extremely overbearing and controlling. When dealing with just my mother though, her being controlling is the least of my problems. I\u2019m honestly scared that if she moves near me that her previous behavior will start again and I\u2019ll be treated just like how I was when I was 14,15. I told them how I would hate it if they moved so close to me and how it feels like an extreme invasion of a place that was helping me heal and grow (My mother has always lived within 30 minutes from her mother, my grandmother, so me explaining that them moving so close freaks me out is mind blowing to her), yet they decided that the place close to me was their only option. They have the financial flexibility to look at MANY other places, so this place is definitely not the only thing available for them. AITA for considering cutting them all out of my life? Or moving away despite it messing up a lot of my post-graduation plans?\n\nTLDR: parents moving 20 minutes from my out of state college, & I\u2019m scared that my mother will be a big problem for me, therefore I\u2019m considering cutting my ties to them to avoid problems ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 3}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "rT1dROS6iNcHFWebXvWN5Bnf4UnQM1e7", "post_id": "a117nc", "action": {"description": "having a go at my roommate who said I am white", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For having a go at my roommate who said I am white", "text": "So I am mixed race (1/2 indian, 1/2 white british) and I have a few issues growing up such as being called a half caste for most of my school life, having people give me and my parents looks when they took me out, most of my mothers side disowning her when she married my dad, but the worse has been not fitting in during school where there was a massive divide between coloured people and white people.\n\n​\n\nSo anyway during my first year at uni I got put into halls like everyone else and on out first night we started drinking and introducing ourselves with our flat and the neighbors like where we are from and what we are studying, I said I am for xxxxx but they asked where I am really from (I am very tanned so its obvious I am not native) and said I am mixed indian and british. The next day we had to sign up to our local GP and on the ethnicity form she noticed I had selected mixed other and filled out indian/english and she commented how I am bascially white, this was the first time she told me that I am white.\n\nThroughout the year should would bring up that I am white and try to be indian just because I fasted for Diwali and went to celebrations at the temple cause I have done every year with my mum, I mostly ignored her but sometimes it dug deep and bought back memorys of when I would have done anything to be just white. Everytime she brought it up I would tell her that im not white and even showed her a picture of my mum. \n\nOn the last day of term 2 we went to a rock/metal/punk pub for a pub quiz and to get hammered, I love this place but everytime I go I cant help but notice everyone there is white, now where I study this is very rare and is easy to notice. One of my friends bought it up \"Did you guys notice everyone here is white except you criostoir\" to which she blurted out \"He is basically white he just pretends to be darker and I think its kinda racist how he tried to be somthing he is not\" and I just lost it, I couldnt take it anymore I firmly told her (louder then I usually talk and much more angrily),\n\n\"I am obviously not white, I dont pretend to be anything i'm not, I have most of my life not knowing if I am British or if I am indian, white or not and you no idea what has happened to me, I went through 7 years of my life being called the equivalent of the N word, half my family dont acknowledge my existance and most talk shit to me when we have to interact, I have been beaten up for saying I am white or I am brown and I have had enough of your bollocks, if you treat everyone you meet this way you will make an awful nurse and honestly being bi you should know better than to deny how someone feels.\"\n\nI had literaly thought about saying this for so long and never had the guts to do obviously the drinks had some effect on me. She got up and left shortly after with her friends and hasnt spoken to me since (1.5 years), I thought my argument was valid and I was well within my rights to say what I said but according to her friends I put her into a deep depression and gave her panic attacks. Now she has dropped out of uni (we are in 3rd year) and I cant help think if I had just ignored it for 3 more months it would all be okay.\n\nTLDR: Flatmate keeps saying I am basically white even though I am mixed race. Ignored it for 6 months, went to pub she said somthing extra hurtful and I lost it, apparently gave her depression and panic attacks which caused her to drop out of uni.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "x3aXRzVlXIAgrSWuixJnghXRYm4C4JGU", "post_id": "akatys", "action": {"description": "falling asleep during a high school play", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA Falling asleep during a high school play", "text": "A few years ago I was at a theater festival and one of the plays was extremely boring. So my friend and I took a nap during the play and I was woken up by one of my other friends. Apperently I was snoring, but not loud enough to bother others around me, at least that's what my friend said. We all move to get up and stretch before the next play starts. I stand up and suddenly the girl in front of me turns around and starts yelling at me for falling alseep. She doesnt yell at the other girl who fell asleep, just me. I was still out of it because I had just woken up and she asked me how I could be so rude and fall asleep. I told her the truth that the play was boring and she went off even more. I try walking away and she follows me, still continuing to make a scene and screams at me for my sleep schedule (even though we fell asleep at the same time because we had the same hotel room). She doesn't stop her tangent for the next 7 minutes, so I realize she isn't going to leave me alone and I take a seat keeping my mouth shut and trying insanely hard not to punch her. She only stopped after a senior told her to quit it because she could tell how angry I was getting. \nAm I the asshole for falling asleep? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "WEouBJKtz0NvT4zrRwhW0Jbzo92giOuQ", "post_id": "ajmfdk", "action": {"description": "being mad at my partner for working overtime", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 8}, "title": "AITA for being mad at my partner for working overtime?", "text": "My partner has just gotten his first 'proper' job as an undergraduate software engineer at a large company and he is loving the work. Originally he was only supposed to be working 2-3 days a week as a casual but since it's been uni holidays he was put on the full 5 days a week. He is contracted for 7 hours a day which means if he works over time he doesn't get paid. There's been a few times he would stay back late to finish off work, and I understand working in his field that once his mind is in it it's best to just keep working. Hours are logged each week to make sure that he worked the minimum 35 hours (which is what is is payed for). \n\nNow for the problem... This week he had stayed back late two days. I had asked him in the middle of the week to take a half day on Friday (today) since we have people coming over and I thought it would be polite to have him here when they come over. As well as this, we barely see each other through the week so I thought it might be nice if he came home early and we could spend some time together. He said he would see how it goes. \n\nSkip to today and he has no plans on taking a half day. I'm getting angry because it was important to me that he be here for the guests and I'm a little hurt that he would rather work unpaid hours then be here with me. He is saying that this is how salary jobs are and I don't understand anything about how it works. That I need to stop getting upset at him working unpaid hours because he just gets paid per day, no matter how late he stays back. This breaks out into an argument where I'm in the wrong for saying he should only work the hours he is contracted for. \nHe ended up leaving a little earlier than normal and guilting me over text while on the train home, saying he had to rush his work. He says that he will work to how he wants and I need to keep out of it. \n\nAITA for being mad at him for working overtime and not being paid? We live together and share a bank account so I felt like his pay was my business, but should I just keep out of it and let him keep working these extra hours without complaining? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 8}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3Vq2pmWK7tcOJoDDd8mF1KOM0wt3ZKJn", "post_id": "b67oju", "action": {"description": "not paying off a debt immediately even if I was told not to pay", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not paying off a debt immediately even if I was told not to pay?", "text": "Four years ago, a friend of mine graciously offered to help me financially since me and my family were struggling. It was a hefty amount of money (for me, at least) and I am still very greatful for it. I told him I'd pay it back gradually, since I don't have the means to pay it in full, but he insisted that I don't have to. As of now I've paid about 1/3 of the debt and I'm planning to complete it eventually. I'm sticking to a plan that ensures I get to pay him, but I also get to save some money for my emergency funds, which I also discussed with him and he was supportive of it. I've been financially independent from my mom so I have to pay for my own rent, food, insurance, etc. \n\nHowever, even though he still insists that I don't pay him back, I always feel like he's judging me everytime I talk to him about my expenses. I asked for his opinion on what laptop to get, as mine is already deteriorating, and he scoffed when I told him my budget, as if saying I should go lower. I'm also moving in to my own place soon, and I shared to him that the place came semi-furnished already, and he said \"//of course// you had to pay extra for that\" in a very malicious tone. He also tends to be a bit off whenever I go out of town or something. These aren't expenses that I haven't thought through. A decent laptop I need for work, and I still haven't gotten around to getting one 'cause I can't get myself to pay THAT much for one thing lol. It took me months to decide to get my own place because I'm wary of the expenses, but decided to go for it just recently cause even my therapist advised that I should. My trips are also very scarce and very thrifted.\n\nI just don't understand why he keeps saying that I don't have to pay him, but he keeps acting this way whenever I spend for myself. Did he just say it out of courtesy? Am I the asshole for not paying him immediately and spending money instead on myself? Admittedly, I've been taking a while since I only recently started building up my savings since I was stuck living paycheck-to-paycheck at a sucky job for 2 years. But I also don't think I spend on unnecessary expenses since I'm very conscious with my money. I can't help but feel judged, like he probably thinks I can't handle my own finances. Should I just hasten paying off my debt?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1kEJim68iifhr8qe7e7O0fCbOzASH5ww", "post_id": "aoua6v", "action": {"description": "\"pranking\" a co-worker because he does his job like an asshole", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for \"pranking\" a co-worker because he does his job like an asshole?", "text": "Sorry for the wall of text, but this is also a vent post and a lot of his macho-man bullshit has been irritating me for well over a year and I finally had to do something benign enough to not get me fired if caught but enough to hopefully irritate him.\n\n\n     I work in a warehouse that sells and ships various pet  products on mixed skids. A significant part of stacking the skids is that if there are bags being shipped, they arrive to the chutes in a timely manner so there's a decent base to build on.\n\n    And to give an idea of what this guy (I'll call him Ass) is like, he once got nose-to-nose with me because the I was using the only electric pallet jack in the charging area that wasn't uncomfortably slow, on a really bad day workload wise. Ass had put an unsigned note on it so he could replace the other good one he was on when he drained that battery, and me ignoring the note to do my job quick was disrespectful to him.\n\n     Ass decides at his whim that the SOP for doing the only thing he's responsible for (picking bagged product) isn't good enough and has recently started holding entire trucks worth of product until he's picked the truck. His direct supervisors know what he's doing but either don't care because \"his numbers are good\" or are intimidated by him. Even the higher-ups have an idea of how much of a dill-hole he is, but it's the same thing with them.\n     He also leaves damaged product in the location when part of the picking SOP is bringing damages to the specified location, next to where all of the bags are.\n\n     One of my responsibilities is getting items that weren't able to be picked initially out of the overhead storage and replenishing their locations as needed. He had zeroed out cat litter but conveniently left all of the damaged bags in the location.  \n\n       Now for my brand of benign justice.\n\n       Ass leaves his shoes at work, mind that they aren't steel toed because he doesn't want to anymore and work even provided fitted slip-ons with reinforced toes to accommodate him. He'll even take those off more often than not because, shocker, he doesn't want to anymore.   \n\n     After he left I put a decent sprinkling of spilled litter from the damages he left in each shoe hoping that he would be even remotely irritated and inconvenienced as he's made others feel over the last year.\n\nDoes it make me even more of an asshole for resorting to that before going to HR?\n\n     \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IV6Mfs2CgnTp1OI03e0aSE1uidIifjEt", "post_id": "b2d40j", "action": {"description": "telling my parents that I'm done talking to them", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my parents that I'm done talking to them?", "text": "I'm 17 and I live with my parents and my 3 sisters (who are 14, 5, and 3 years old).\n\n  In the past couple of months my parents have started asking me to do multiple tasks and chores all at once, and if I forget to do one of the things they ask me to do, they take my things away (phone, videogames, etc.).\n\n To make matters worse, my parents let my 14 year old sister leave the house constantly to spend the night at friends houses, and when they let her leave, I'm expected to do her chores too, plus I have to take her shift when it comes to watching my 2 younger sisters. (Not that my parents don't help me watch them sometimes)\n\nIt's been really stressful, and it's gotten to the point where I now sneak out at night just to smoke the stress away.\n\nI recently got into an argument with my parents about the things I have listed here, and it ended with them yelling that \"I don't do shit\" and me freaking out and telling them that I was done talking to them in general. After that I've been silent around them (only answering questions and saying \"I love you\" or \"bye\" when they leave for work). ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s2DBKxAowGkX8iIr42wd4kUApf4bvNy5", "post_id": "b1vsvp", "action": {"description": "not wanting my boyfriend to post a video of me drumming on Facebook", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my boyfriend to post a video of me drumming on Facebook?", "text": "\nFirst, some background; My boyfriend and I have been together for about 11 months. I have been trying to learn drums for about 8 months, and so far it\u2019s been going well. I\u2019ve gotten pretty decent, but I\u2019m still really insecure about my ability and I don\u2019t like playing to people. My boyfriend has been begging me to play to him for a good while, but I\u2019ve only done it a handful of times. He is really lovely every time, but I just don\u2019t feel nice when I play for him. I\u2019m trying to work on it.\n\nAnyways, a few days ago it was his birthday, so (among other gifts) I sent him a video of me playing his favourite song (Television/So Far So Good by Rex Orange County)  \n\nHe was over the moon when I sent it. He loved it, and kept sending me texts telling me how incredible it was. We met up for dinner, I gave him his other gifts, and he spent a good part of the meal raving about the video. We went back to his place for a while, then I went back home and went to sleep.\n\nIn the morning, I had messages from friends telling me I was a great drummer, and asking why I hadn\u2019t performed or played for them yet. Confused and panicked, I opened Facebook to see my boyfriend had posted the video, and tagged me in it. I was mortified and immediately panicked and texted him telling him to call me.\n\nHe called, and I instantly started sobbing. I begged him to delete the post. After a few minutes of him telling me the video was awesome and I needed to share my talent with our friends, he reluctantly agreed to take it down. I thanked him and hung up to calm down. I was slightly mad, but more panicked. I understood why he did it but it was still careless, I felt. \n\nAbout half an hour later, he sent me a text, saying that I was being ridiculous and that I\u2019d never told him he couldn\u2019t post it, so how was he meant to know? And besides, it was a gift to him so surely he could do what he wanted with it. He said he\u2019d spoke to our mutual friend, who had agreed I was being ridiculous.\n\nSo, Reddit, am I the asshole??\n\nTL;DR: Am a drummer who is insecure, sent my bf a video of me drumming for his birthday, he posted it on Facebook, knowing my insecurity. I panicked and got a little mad, he thinks I\u2019m being ridiculous. \n\n\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "YhziToucWkV0qdCwNiCySFRHPnZ7xhTC", "post_id": "9uocqi", "action": {"description": "reporting a busdriver that used WhatsApp on his phone while driving", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AItA for reporting a busdriver that used WhatsApp on his phone while driving?", "text": "I saw him on his phone and reported him immediately after getting off the bus. I feel sort of guilty now, because I don't know what kind of consequences he will face. I reported him because I saw it as a threat for everyone (So many accidents caused by using phones while driving) and because i will feel unsafe as i use this busline daily. \nAm I the Asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TQ2gU9pHvbOsMfftCm4zEkpDbbuDqQa5", "post_id": "alqw59", "action": {"description": "getting frustrated over my so fixing and damaging an item for me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for getting frustrated over my SO fixing and damaging an item for me?", "text": "I bought an item that needed a part repaired and my SO suggested we could do it on our own. He is a handy guy so I trusted we could get it done on our own to save money since it's an expensive item (to me) to begin with. I paid $130 for the part and attempted to replace the part myself. After not getting anywhere with it, he asked to take over and I politely asked that he promise not to damage it since it's expensive. It was not damaged at this point. He agreed he wouldn't damage it. Perfect! I figured if he can't, I might as well pay to have it professionally repaired because I didn't want any damages on it. After working on it for about an hour and at the end of the night I looked at the item and noticed some very noticeable damage. It's been a couple hours at this point, why hadn't he talked to me about it? I confronted him and I will admit I was frustrated. What frustrated me is that he avoided telling me the whole evening and he also tried to blame the damage on me when I clearly gave it to him without damage. We argued that night and I explained I wouldn't have been so frustrated if he communicated like an adult and approached me and said hey I couldn't avoid damage. I honestly would have understood it was unavoidable. Instead he tried to say I damaged it myself. He has a track record of being a compulsive liar and he knows this. Trying to work on it with him but this situation didn't help his case. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "muDFyTLuyPfNoNrMYMCZxWR1AaaUmINV", "post_id": "b2qou1", "action": {"description": "not appreciating female streamers that use there bodies to get ahead", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 28}, "title": "AITA for not appreciating female streamers that use there bodies to get ahead?", "text": "Someone made a post mocking hoeish female streamers. I agreed by saying:\nYeah i like your joke but seriously. Too damn many women use there bodies to get ahead other female streamers have. Even spoken out that many of the top female streamers use there body to get ahead. I was banned from my twitch group on facebook for this i didnt think that was very fair so i screenshotteed what happened and posted and people are calling me an asshole who hates women..i was pretty much raised single handedly by my mom who taught me to respect women just not trashy ones am i seriously the asshole here?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 26, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 28}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "qiYADdVMCAPEMEoLb4MAwaTUmZOj38KO", "post_id": "ba0bbo", "action": {"description": "not wanting attention from a forward special needs customer", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting attention from a forward special needs customer?", "text": "Okay so hear me out. \n\nI work food service, and I'm the youngest girl on staff. Sometimes certain customers make me uncomfortable, and my male coworkers don't have a problem letting me hide in the back while they take certain orders. Mostly older gentlemen who flirt a little to hard and can't take a hint, or really creepy guys who ask me exactly when I leave (rarely, the two combined, which is not fun). However, this time I get no help at all. Here's why.\n\nSo we get two or three special needs groups that come in a couple times a week. They're all really nice, and arguably the most polite and respectful customers. I love them. But this one guy is really pushy about getting my attention. The moment he saw me walk in for my shift today, he immediately recognized me and started talking to me. That's fine. But he continued even after started to walk to the back. I chatted, then gently said bye so I could get to work. I clock in, and everything is fine as long as I'm out of sight range. He doesn't try to walk into the staff area, so I just prep. Eventually I have to work the front line, and even though I'm taking customers, he's still talking to me. I'm polite and kind about switching to my customers, but he still gets upset and almost angry. And no one feels the need to do anything about it. I've told him I'm busy in a gentle way. I've told him \"hang on please\". I've made it uber clear I'm working. And he refuses to acknowledge that. He can see that I'm busy, but just gets mad when I try to do my job. He also makes me physically uncomfortable, by leaning waaaaay over the counter to talk to me, and getting as close as he can with that barrier between us. I still don't have a problem with him though, I have a problem with my supervisor. \n\nAs the guy and his group leaves, I'm still in the back. I hear him saying goodbye, and also hear him say \"Make sure that SHE makes my sandwich next time\", referring to me. My supervisor tells him \"Of course I will!\" and waves him off. As said super walks to the back, I'm like \"Hey, I know he means well, but that guy makes it kinda hard for me to work. Can I please work in the back while he's here?\". And she just laughs at me and says \"He's just making up for lost time\" (because he's about twice to 2.5 times my age). And I'm kinda upset. \"No, really, please? I can't get work done because he's talking to me, and he even got mad when I had to do other customer's orders\". My super realizes I'm serious and straight up tells me no, even though there's plenty of work that I could do that doesn't require being at the front. Even though I'm the only person on staff he treats this way, I have to cater to it. It makes me uncomfortable, and it makes my job very hard. She lets me stay in the back for those previously mentioned customers without problems. Am I An Asshole if I don't want to interact with this guy? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RytiBcpjlvLGa1mUFz2REfXafZdjezkn", "post_id": "a4jkgi", "action": null, "title": "AITA for how I handled my relationship?", "text": "I (22F) recently broke up with my ex (19M) and am trying to reconcile my conflicting feelings on some of the issues/arguments we had. \n\nThe TL;DR version of why we broke up is that he would literally scream at me for hours for certain things (off-hand comments that I meant jokingly or nothing at all about, perceived malice toward him when none was intended from me) and would say how much he wanted to kill himself (actually called the cops on him one time to make sure he didn't), punch himself in the head and face Fight Club style, say that I was a horrible girlfriend, that I should drop dead, and other things to the point where I would just be sobbing and agreeing that I was shitty the entire time.\n\nWe dated for 4 or 5 months and work together. We were each other's firsts for everything--relationship, kissing, sex, pretty much anything a couple does. The first month was great, and I was really happy. He seemed pretty happy, too. We spent almost every day together. He told me I was beautiful and that I made him want to be a better person.\n\nTo preface the bad parts, I'd like to acknowledge some things about my ex's past and health. He had multiple blows to the head as a kid, including a perforated eardrum that wasn't treated until the next morning despite it bleeding profusely. His parents neglected him and he had to fend for himself at home alone most of the time. He didn't have much if any meaningful socialization and had problems with nightmares and sleep paralysis. He found out his stepdad wasn't his biological dad until he was 8, and he's only met his biological dad once. His mom's side of the family has a history of epilepsy and he often sees visual hallucinations of moving patterns in random things. There were many times where he would go into an unresponsive state and once had what seemed to be a seizure-like episode (eyes rolled back, completely unresponsive and limp, confused and disoriented afterward). I've asked him several times to see a doctor, but he thinks he's completely fine. A year ago, he was falsely accused of assault by a guy who tried to assault him and isn't sure if he has a criminal record because of how his lawyer worked things out. His days consisted of playing video games and working.\n\nThe Fall semester started up for me and everything got worse. I'd spend every weekend with him and it still wasn't enough time for him, the problem being that I have to drive 45 minutes to campus every weekday and originally was taking 8 classes. When I was with him, we'd have sex every morning and night, even though I usually wasn't in the mood and kind of just went along with it (I'm tired all the time because of multiple health conditions and school, and I have an extremely low libido anyway). This still wasn't enough for him because he was only able to orgasm once each time, but he talked about holding back all the time and it would usually take around 30-40 minutes for him to orgasm once (me being able to orgasm multiple times in the face of this made it worse). He had problems with my communication (mostly the frequency), and I admit that I'm shit at communication and need to work on that. Unfortunately, even when I tried to text or call him once a day, he would forget half the conversations we had or that we had even talked and get annoyed at me because we \"hadn't talked in days\".\n\nAt some point, he just started screaming at me for hours if I did something that wasn't good enough or had a disagreement with him. I'd try to discuss it normally, but yelling freaks me out so I'd just end up crying. This would make it harder to communicate with him, which would make him angrier, and it only made things worse if I said something that wasn't completely agreeing with his emotions. Just to list some things off that he's screamed at me for:\n\n- Saying it was normal to appreciate the beauty of other people despite being in a relationship. This provoked him to kick me out of his house (he lives with his parents), tell me I was a shitty girlfriend for even looking at other people, that I shouldn't date anyone because no guy would ever be okay with that, that we were completely done, that he never loved me, and that me not being jealous if he hypothetically thought another girl was attractive was a reason to break up. When we pulled up to my house and I tried to get out, he asked why I was getting out and that we still needed to talk. He then proceeded to say that he didn't mean anything he had just said, and that he only said them because he was trying to convince himself of those things.\n\n- Asking if there was a way to make him orgasm faster (because it took so much time). He assumed that I knew it took him longer because he was circumcised and that I was guilting him for not having a foreskin. He didn't clarify this until recently and at the time of the argument I had no idea why he was so mad.\n\n- Not responding to his texts because I was asleep, and falling asleep again after he called me to ask why I hadn't responded. I went to sleep before he texted me, he called me after midnight, and I had an 8 AM class the next morning. He proceeded to scream at me for 3 hours, saying I was a horrible gf, that I should never date anyone, that he had never been happy in the relationship, that I was terrible at sex, and that I should drop dead. He again said the next day that he didn't mean any of it and was only trying to convince himself of those things. This time he felt horrible about it and wouldn't stop calling me about it.\n\n- Telling him that I couldn't spend all my time with him and had to focus on studying. He called me and yelled at me for an hour and a half, saying that I hadn't contributed anything to the relationship, that I didn't really love him, and that I was a liar. I said something (I can't remember what exactly; I think I was saying that I couldn't talk to him or that I couldn't deal with his problems because I didn't have time) that supposedly (I didn't see evidence of this later on) made him smash a glass over his head. He then threatened to stab himself if I didn't say, \"I don't care about you.\" I refused for a while because I didn't want to lie to him and really did care about him. I eventually caved and said it so he wouldn't hurt himself. This kept going on until a professor saw me crying and intervened.\n\nI was scared of him and felt that I couldn't say anything to him in case he got mad. I told him he scared me and he didn't understand why because he hadn't physically hit me or anything like that. Whenever he apologized, he would excuse his behaviour by pointing out his neglectful childhood, saying how he couldn't control his feelings, and telling me he couldn't help hurting himself. Sex became more undesirable for me because much of the time I wasn't in the mood or didn't feel well. We didn't use condoms and I got UTIs that sent me to the ER as a result. He admitted that we should start using them after that (he didn't want to before), but I guess he forgot about that conversation. I saw condoms when we went to the pharmacy and started browsing through them with him. He bought some and then said he was really annoyed later on with how I hadn't talked to him about buying them beforehand. I was just confused, felt guilty, and felt bad about it for the rest of the night. \n\nThere were also times when I was in pain during sex, and they got more and more frequent as my stress increased. Most of the time, I willed myself through the pain, but when I told him to stop because of it, he would mope about not getting to orgasm and say that a bj wasn't as good as PIV, so I wouldn't be able to finish him off. He really liked anal the one time I let him try it, but it was extremely uncomfortable for me. The last time we had sex, he told me I should just get over my pain like how he had to get over his loss of sensitivity from circumcision and that I should let him do anal again.\n\nThe way he argued when he wasn't yelling was frustrating, to say the least. Arguments would go on for hours because he had to hear the same point over and over again. He'd also bring up conversations we had already had and come to a consensus on. If I tried to end the conversation, he would dramatically say something along the lines of \"this is goodbye\", walk out, and then come back 5 minutes later asking why I hadn't chased after him.\n\nI realized that all the stress from the relationship was making me feel suicidal to a degree that I hadn't felt in a while and that his behaviour was pretty abusive.  I confronted him about this and he acted predictably at first. The thing he had the most problem with was calling it manipulative when he said, \"I'll just/should kill myself,\" only during times when we were arguing and he was screaming at me. We talked things through and he kind of started to understand my perspective.\n\nEventually, I tried to negotiate a break with him, but he still called me obsessively after we agreed to not contact each other. I guess he got fed up with waiting for something like 5-7 days, called me on my birthday, and started talking about breaking up because he felt like he was in a LDR (right after we spent a weekend together). We had a 3 hour conversation in which he finally agreed to talk to his parents about getting help for his self harm (he wouldn't get it before because he would have to pay for expenses not covered by his parents' insurance). I told him that I'd give him another chance if he got better.\n\nMy parents (I live with them right now) had seen me crying, so I went to explain what was happening, including some of his abusive behaviour. My dad pointed out that he was being selfish and wasn't considering my situation with school at all. My mom was surprised that my ex thought we didn't spend enough time together because him spending too much time with me was pa", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "9TjUnyo3OvUoD2VSpHAhhhs8uobsMkbz", "post_id": "a4nx1m", "action": {"description": "rejecting gifted tickets to a show I didn't want to see", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for rejecting gifted tickets to a show I didn't want to see?", "text": "Before I begin, a little background. I received the tickets I will discuss from a roommate that i2 don't know very well. Further, these tickets came from her mother, who I have met maybe 4 times. \n\nShe first messaged me and my roommates a couple of weeks ago asking for our availability to see a show in town, because her mom was buying us all tickets for Christmas. To be honest, I never replied to her initial message because I didn't know how to express that I really did not want to see the show. I should have definitely said something, however once the tickets were bought but I  kind of resigned myself to going at that point, if just to be polite.\n\nFlash forward to this week, and it was perhaps the worst week of my professional life. I work at a school as a sort of diversity officer, so my weekends are typically time to recharge my batteries. This week I dealt with an ongoing incident of racism and a student being targeted by an administrator, and this next week I can look forward to even more meetings and difficult conversations about this. After an already busy weekend I really just do not want to dedicate the day to a show I don't want to see. I realize it is pretty rude to cancel on the day of, and I expressed as much, but said I would have to decline. \n\nUnderstandably she is upset, but just kept trying to shame me because her mom bought these for us, adding in things like \"This is really and we'll talk about it later.\"\n\nI can see where she's coming from, but I also feel like I'm being asked to please a woman I don't even really know. I think she has a right to be upset, but am I an asshole?  ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "jGmuZlFZ0caqOmTZ20llgIwecIckMw91", "post_id": "akhcau", "action": {"description": "posting a video of me shaking my booty on snapchat while in a relationship", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 14}, "title": "AITA if I post a video of me shaking my booty on snapchat while in a relationship?", "text": "I had a few drinks last night at a college org party and may have been slightly drunk. And, since most of my inhibitions were out the window, I decided to do a dance my friends and I came up with called the Amy Schumer. There are 3 steps to this dance: flip your hair (make it as unsexy as possible), point to your crotch, and then shake your booty (aka twerk). So my friend posted a video of me doing this on my snapchat because why not. We were both pretty drunk tbh. An hour later, I get a text from my boyfriend saying \"so you're just shaking your ass for everyone now...\" And then he seemed really upset. I don't understand why he was. I wasn't shaking my booty on anyone else. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 14}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "xZ5mGHhu4EbLtyDwY89dPwwHOn75DwQH", "post_id": "aq33g3", "action": {"description": "leaving current employer four days earlier than date they set to terminate my contract? leaving for new employer", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving current employer four days earlier than date they set to terminate my contract? Leaving for new employer.", "text": "I work as a QA Analyst in IT. I have a decade of experience, but unfortunately live in a city that is not exactly what you\u2019d think of as a \u201ctech hub.\u201d Last year I quit a company I had been at for about 4 years and since  have been contracting & bouncing around every 3-6 months. It\u2019s not ideal but that\u2019s the industry. \n\nI liked where I was/am currently for the most part apart from management. Team lead was/is an aggressive bully who yelled at me during meetings, stole my work, etc. Wasn\u2019t surprised when my recruiting company told me they weren\u2019t extending my contract. NORMALLY I have found these things out the day of and then have to panic & hunt down a job. But this time I was told with 2 weeks remaining, giving me time to interview and land another gig.\n\nYesterday I was \u201csick\u201d (contractors can\u2019t work from home and have no vacation or sick time so I had no choice but to call in sick to go interview.) Today I let them know that this Friday, not next Tuesday will be my last day. New job wants me to start one day before my contract was supposed to end. But my manager today acted incredibly put out when I gave the news. Said they were going to have to scramble and had no idea that this was my (new) last day since they thought it was going to be next Tuesday. I don\u2019t get it? If they didn\u2019t want me what is the drama? And wouldn\u2019t they think I would be getting another job?\n\nDid I miss something? AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kyNMxlexY0S0K0DeyiMDCMlRmqqdnRe9", "post_id": "ae0rt1", "action": {"description": "feeling uncomfortable around my friend who doesn't agree with me being transgender", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling uncomfortable around my friend who doesn't agree with me being transgender?", "text": "For an incredibly long time now, I've been a trans woman and feel much more comfortable in the state I've transitioned into. Almost everybody I know has no qualms with it and I haven't had any difficulty with transphobia or any mocking behaviour against me.\n\nHowever, one of my best friends is actually quite averesed to transgenderism as a concept. I will preface this by saying I have no issue with people not agreeing with LGBTQ+ values, and understand not everybody is going to have the same views, but it's mainly the things this person has been saying to me that make me feel uncomfortable, not the fact they have these opinions.\n\nBefore I came out as a trans woman, we used to have many heated talks about whether transgender people can actually become the gender they want to be, them having no idea they were actually talking to one of them. This alone made me sort of concerned to even tell them when I had to issues telling somebody else. On top of that, after I had told them, they often told me how it was taking all their willpower to keep talking to me, saying their initial reaction would be to \"cut off all contact with you and think of you as crazy\". I would also tell them how I actually felt not aligning with my born sex, and they often said that if they made the laws it would be \"tough\" and I'd have to live in my discomfort with my sex.\n\nThis made me very uncomfortable and downright not want to talk to them at first out of some strange awkwardness, although I still would. However, they've seemed to start changing recently, telling me I shouldn't feel uncomfortable talking about my gender-related thoughts around them. This is marred by them repeatedly returning to what initially bothered me, they still tell me the same things they always have about how they feel of my dysphoria, and I still haven't shaken off that ill-will. I have no doubt they would change if given enough time, but I just need to know...\n\nIs this a normal response from me or AITA?\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "20xeUMvOkKAwTyFkjmUyWQdAwpGCCzT4", "post_id": "b54j8l", "action": {"description": "hating my Grandma", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For hating my Grandma?", "text": "(Prepare for British words)\n\nI know this sounds absurd, but I have a deep hatred for my Nan (Grandma) for many reasons. To begin with, she went to hit my Mum just befor new years after a dispute about my Nan's manipulative behavior because she refuses to get professional help with my disabled aunt and instead opts to badger my Mum about helping her and guilt trips my Mum if she refuses., she then tried to guilt trip me and my brother because we both refused to see her. My brother forgave her about a month after it happened, but I refuse to, even with her trying to rebuild relations. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "DOQAaAF3EgaFhba1eQep7NPIL0yN2ECb", "post_id": "awtof3", "action": {"description": "kicking my sister out of my wedding during the reception", "pronormative_score": 110, "contranormative_score": 1020}, "title": "AITA for kicking my sister out of my wedding during the reception?", "text": "Throwaway for obvious reasons.\n\nI got married last Saturday. Hooray for me! My sister was my maid of honor. During her speech, she brought up her depression and how my husband supported her through it and how \u201cin that moment, I knew he was the one for throwaway...\u201d (so cliche!). I thought her speech was really selfish. I think it\u2019s super inappropriate to bring up a mental illness during a wedding speech. Not only that, but the entire speech was about her. At MY wedding. 90% of the guests congratulated her afterwards and talked about how \u201cstrong\u201d she was. Nobody was paying attention to me, at my own wedding! Sorry if I sound selfish, but IMO there is a time and a place for this sort of thing. So after the guests all greeted her, I asked her to leave and told her she was being disruptive and selfish. She was really upset but just left without arguing. My parents agree with me. but my husband and all of my close friends think I was way too harsh. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 852, "OTHER": 103, "EVERYBODY": 168, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 27}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 110, "WRONG": 1020}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3Z1tRsrLaxh8OYkucho7xIQskEtG4ubX", "post_id": "a5qy74", "action": {"description": "not agreeing with my gf", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for not agreeing with my GF?", "text": "My girlfriend (30F) and I (26M)  have been together for almost a year now, in the beginning of our relationship we\u2019ve fought over the lack of time spent with one another. Believe it or not it was me that would always express the fact that I don\u2019t see her much. \n\nWe never really had a honeymoon stage, from the start it was always her forming our time around her friends. A few times she\u2019d call our day short to see her friends and one time even canceled on me an hour prior to see her friends.\n\nEventually after many arguments I stopped voicing myself and just stayed content with the few hours I\u2019d see her. \n\nSo just last week she had plans to see her friends and I was sick but encouraged her to go see them; however we met up early that day (her idea) to grab some food before she left to her friends. In that midst we got into an argument over something so ridiculous but around 10 we dropped it and she stated it was too late to go so she stayed the night. \n\nNow flash forward, she tells me that her friends are mad at her and aren\u2019t speaking to her because she didn\u2019t go out with them and she states that since it\u2019s my fault she\u2019s beginning to be resentful towards me and tells me I should fix this. \n\nSo I start messaging her friends that same night, telling them I\u2019m sorry and it\u2019s my fault and I ask for us all to go out and grab food and squash this. \n\nToday my girlfriend states that her friends still haven\u2019t spoken to her and she\u2019s angry/ resentful towards me and can\u2019t be happy. I then told her, maybe her friends need to mature up because them ignoring her for over a week shows just how much they value the friendship. \n\nMy girlfriend flipped out on me and left to her place and I feel like an asshole. So long story short, Am I the asshole? \n\nTLDR: My girlfriend didn\u2019t see her friends on girls night and she states it\u2019s my fault that they\u2019re not talking to her anymore. I tried to reach out to them but my girlfriend still isn\u2019t happy. I finally snap and tell her that her friends aren\u2019t being friends if that\u2019s the case. \n\n(Sorry for any grammar errors, mobile user) ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "B7eVNXZKm74N4h3QDYNgaeZlbRSQZ75t", "post_id": "al6zc0", "action": {"description": "not letting my boyfriend meet my parents till he has a job", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 10}, "title": "AITA for not letting my[29F] boyfriend[25M] meet my parents till he has a job?", "text": "First off, he\u2019s not a bum in any way, he\u2019s just inbetween jobs right now (laid off since early December. He\u2019s in tech/startup), which is why I feel like he\u2019s overreacting a bit. And I\u2019m 1.5 gen? Chinese American (moved to the states when I was in 5th grade), and he\u2019s white, also the first non Asian guy I\u2019ve dated. \n\nWe\u2019ve been together for a little over a year, I was the first one to say I love you. I met his family over the winter holidays since they\u2019re in the same state. And it went really well, his folks are super sweet and your typical laidback Californians. My parents are on the other side, both geographic location and general attitudes. \n\nChinese New Year is coming up, he asked me if I\u2019d introduce him to my parents, they\u2019re visiting and staying with me for a week (bf and I still live separately). I jokingly said not until he has a job, cuz right now my uber Chinese parents would not like the idea of me dating a younger non Chinese jobless dude. Apparently I definitely shouldn\u2019t have said that, cuz it set him off, and he accused me of being ashamed of him and that he wasn\u2019t good enough.  \n\nHe thinks I worry about what people think too much, especially my parents, which I admit I had been growing up but I think I\u2019m much better about it now. It\u2019s just I really like this guy and I want my parents to like him too! And I just don\u2019t think that him not having a job right now (and yes my mom would totally ask him), on top of being white and younger would help. My parents can be very black and white and they would just see him as jobless instead of \u201cinbetween\u201d. They\u2019re getting older too, so I wanna do my best to not upset them or make them worry (especially my mom). My lil sis just graduated med school and is engaged to a guy she met in school who\u2019s also got a shiny asian-proved degree (I forgot what it was, didn\u2019t really bother to remember to make myself feel even worse). Whereas I changed my career to the creative fields in my mid 20s cuz I wanted to pursue my passion, and my parents are still coming around to that. \n\nI just hate that we\u2019ve been arguing over something that\u2019s not even really a legit problem. Cuz he\u2019ll obviously get another job, he\u2019s very smart and hard working. But he thinks it\u2019s about the principle. And I think he\u2019s a white boy warrior who doesn\u2019t understand my cultural background and is trying to save me from being in this mental prison of caring too much. He did say that he\u2019d lie and tell my parents that he has a job, which was nice of him, but I feel like he was just trying to make me feel better cuz we\u2019d been arguing over the past week. I got upset over how this was even a thing we argued about in the first place. Especially when I was gonna introduce him to my parents regardless if he was gonna have a job by next week, and when asked to tell a simple white lie, he could\u2019ve just said, oh yeah I don\u2019t quite get it but I\u2019d tell an innocent white lie for you. Apparently he also thinks that I\u2019m ashamed to bring him around my asian friends, and I told him they\u2019re all in their 30s now, married having kids or about to, we don\u2019t get to hang out as much as you and your early 20s friends. But he didn\u2019t buy that. I mean I do jokingly complain about not being as successful in all the areas in my life as my friends, but I thought he knew that I was mostly joking and being self deprecating! I fell in love with him so quickly in huge part because he got my sense of humor (which can be super crass and something all my exes just tolerated, but this guy loves)! This meeting my parents thing definitely opened up a can of worms which I didn\u2019t even realize existed.\n\nNow I\u2019m super stressed out over my parents\u2019 visit. I don\u2019t wanna upset them or my boyfriend. I know he will lie for me but I\u2019m also gonna feel really bad for him now, because apparently this hurt him quite a bit. And I also wasn\u2019t aware that he\u2019d been feeling like I was ashamed of him for a while now. \n\nTl;dr My white boyfriend thinks I\u2019m ashamed of him for not letting him meet my super traditional Chinese parents till he\u2019s got a job, and he also thinks I\u2019m ashamed to bring him around my asian friends. \n\nNote: I posted this in another sub as well, and people have mentioned that I\u2019m a grown up, I should act like one. But I think part of being a grown up also means you should take in your aging parents feelings into consideration? And me and my boyfriend as younger folks could compromise a bit more? Maybe it\u2019s just my asian upbringing... I guess that part of me hasn\u2019t been very Americanized XD ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 3, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 10}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "sfYbie5Hi8piVKghyVNXTjsDBPFW7DuF", "post_id": "b8fvz5", "action": {"description": "asking for conference info for my stepson", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for asking for conference info for my stepson?", "text": "My husband and I have been married for five years, together for longer. In their most recent custody agreement and in state law stepparents  (including her husband) are legally allowed to be present anywhere my husband or she is regarding the children. I'm allowed to attend conferences, school events, sporting events. Pick up children from our designated drop off with or without him. Attend doctors appointments with him etc. Things haven't ever been friendly but they were very borderline civil (we've been hoping for a more friendly co-parenting experience such as the one we have with our other coparents). \n\nMy husbands ex is primary contact for the school. \nShe did not let us know that there were conferences we figured because she didn't want to have to meet with us. Or maybe she forgot. That's possible too. \nWe didn't approach her about that in any way to start an argument. since my husband works mon-fri I called the office and asked for his and my email to be added to the mailing list so we know when conferences are and could schedule them around her so we didn't have to do them together...trying to be considerate.\n\nThe office told his mom. \nShe got very upset. \nHer husband messaged me upset and pretty mean. He told me to stay away and it wasn't my job to attend these things and I should just let my husband do it and not be involved or she would take away my privileges.\n\nI didn't engage in their arguments. \nthey blocked my number and now she won't even accept anything from my phone including calls or photos from her children and will not acknowledge my presence at any event including in front of the children. \nEven if I'm to pick up the children she will only talk to my husband, while he's at work, because of that experience.\n\nEven though it's legal for me to do what I did, on a personal level, am I the asshole? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "pkOyxkKEmnpNZLHBWCzxe0ZnHnVe4Swz", "post_id": "az0ydl", "action": {"description": "refusing to share my 4 seat table with 2 complete strangers at a restaurant", "pronormative_score": 859, "contranormative_score": 71}, "title": "AITA For refusing to share my 4 seat table with 2 complete strangers at a restaurant?", "text": "So I was recently having lunch with a friend and we had decided to try a restaurant that neither of us had been to.  We had reserved a table but when we arrived, the waitress took us to a 4 person table. I told her that we only had made a reservation for 2 people, she said that this was the only table that they had available for us. \n\nThe table was a small rectangular table, with 2 chairs on each side of the longer sides, with one of the shorter sides against a wall. We sat facing one another, leaving an empty chair next to us on either side. \n\nAnyway, about half way into our meal, the waitress comes up to us with 2 other people behind her and asks us if we wouldn\u2019t mind sharing our table with these 2 other people. \n\nAt first I was a bit taken aback, and really felt obliged to say \u2018yes\u2019 because she was standing there with these 2 other customers. But my thinking was that we had made a reservation, we hadn\u2019t been told that this table would require us to share, we were already into our meals and no effort was made to discreetly inform us of this request or explain the situation. So I said (as politely as possible) that we were in the middle of our meal and would prefer not to share the table. I know this was taking a stand, but my view was that she had made no effort to be fair to us in this situation so why should I bend over backwards and ruin our meal by sharing a small 4 person table with 2 other strangers.\n\nThe waitress looked at me as if I had been incredibly rude and then proceeded to apologise to the other 2 people right in front of me saying something like: \u2018I\u2019m so sorry but unfortunately they are unwilling to share their table we will have to find another place for you. I\u2019m so sorry for the inconvenience\u2019  (this was despite the fact that they had clearly heard me and were a little uncomfortable with the situation themselves). \n\nAfter this whole debacle, we were treated quite poorly by the waitress (she didn\u2019t top up the water, took a long time getting the cheque etc).\n\nAfterwards my friend told me that I should have just agreed to share the table and shouldn\u2019t have been so un-accommodating. But the way I see it, we should not have been put in this position by the waitress. If they had a policy of sharing tables (regardless of whether or not someone has made a reservation), then we should have been warned in the first place before we sat down.\n\nAm I the asshole for pushing back on the waitress\u2019 request and refusing to share our table?\n\nTLDR\nWe had reservation for 2 people at a restaurant, but were sat at a small 4 person table when we arrived. Half way through our meal, a waitress interrupted our meal (with 2 other customers)  and asked us if we could share our table - without any explanation as to why we were being asked. I politely said that we were half way through our meal and would prefer not to share. This was not taken well by the waitress and we were treated rather coldly after this encounter.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 55, "OTHER": 843, "EVERYBODY": 16, "NOBODY": 16, "INFO": 17}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 859, "WRONG": 71}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "RxdWJD5uGmxZ6bQYRmXf59q2SzOIHQRD", "post_id": "aq0hgg", "action": {"description": "sabotaging a relationship", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for sabotaging a relationship", "text": "Hi guys, I've been battling some guilt for a while now and I'm mostly looking to know if what I did was wrong. \n\nSo I started working at my current job a couple of years ago, I was with my long term girlfriend at the time. I'd made friends with everyone in the office including one of the girls in the office I'll call her Sarah. We became quite good friends chatting about things, we worked late together a lot of the time and talked life and relationships, she had a boyfriend of 3 years. I'm 26 she's 22, so we'd just swap stories and had fun. She would complain to me about her problems with her boyfriend and I'd give advice on how to handle things. \n\nAbout a year into this job my gf and I split just before Christmas. I was feeling like shit and drinking very heavily showed up to work still plastered and we just talked all day (it was the holidays so we were basically alone in the office). I agreed to go out for a few drinks with her and her friends met her sister and friendship group even got one of her friend's numbers, let's call her Liz. \n\nWe met a few times for drinks just the two of us and I'd tell her stupid stories then we'd meet friends and go out. I met her boyfriend a few times in this period he was alright just a bit of an arse, he'd ignore her when they were out, chat to girls, nothing too bad and not overly flirty but it upset Sarah. \n\nThis is where it goes off the deep end a bit we started texting pretty much every day it was all harmless at first a lot of innocent questions, but eventually led to us talking a lot about sex, what we each liked etc. I felt uncomfortable and tried to guide the conversation towards more innocent topics, but she kept coming back to it, it spilled into work as well a few emails for the sfw stuff. \n\nShe then got a new job and the office all went out for a night out for her leaving do, I was going away the next day, so I agreed to a few drinks and then heading home. We met with Liz and a couple more of Sarah's mates on the night, I'd gone on a date with Liz and it hadn't gone brilliantly but we were still friendly and the spark was building up again, I was thinking of asking her out. Sarah saw this and basically spent the night draped over me, now I'd had a thing for her since I'd started working there and it was only a couple of months on from the break up so I felt really good getting some attention. We started talking and both admitted we had feelings for each other, but also acknowledged because of her bf we would leave it especially as I was going away. \n\nI went away and the texting continued, at which point she said she was going to leave her bf. I was talking to a friend on the second night, and she told me I was an arse for destabilising Sarah's relationship. I'd thought this for a while and sent her a message saying we should stop talking until she's sorted her head out, she said she wanted to carry on talking and so we did. I'm not proud of that. I got back and she came round and told me they broke up after I sent that text. We slept together that night, then on and off for a month after. I went away again and she broke things off and tried to get back with her bf, which didn't work out at all. I found out that she'd actually left him the day before i got back. \n\nI occasionally speak to Sarah now we've met once or twice and made plans to do other stuff, bit we're both quite busy and to be honest the whole thing has kind of knocked my perception of myself, so I don't really fancy speaking to her because it drudges up bad memories. \n\nAITA here?\n\nTldr; broke up a relationship even when I knew the girl had problems with her boyfriend ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 4, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "EVERYBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mRme3Q1P1GKDMVPA8kLzgjTXsr5eEVXa", "post_id": "b6nvmz", "action": {"description": "not visiting my boyfriends grandparent on mother's day", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA if I don't visit my boyfriends grandparent on mother's day", "text": "This Saturday we are going to a 40th for my boyfriends cousins husband. Sunday we will be at his mums all day and going out for  afternoon tea. His family are planning on visiting his grandparents afterwards but I don't want to go with them. \n\nI'm travelling home to another country next weekend (about 14 hour return journey altogether). I'm an introvert with social anxiety and I know my limits on social interaction. I've got work, driving lessons and uni work to keep me busy from Monday to Friday. I leave Saturday 6th and will be away for a few days. When I get back it will be straight back to work etc.\n\nApart from feeling like I've a lot on my plate I also just don't want to go. I'm not close with my own family and we spend a lot of time with his although not necessarily his grandparents. I havnt seen them yet but I know his mum will question me and make me feel guilty so I want to know whether its fair if I don't go. \n\nMy boyfriend doesn't seem to plan on going if I don't. Its also his grandmums birthday Tuesday so he said if he doesn't see her Sunday he will have to visit her then and assumed I would go with. They do get me a gift for my birthday but they havnt ever made a point to spend any time with me for it so I don't think I should have to visit as its never just a couple of hours, we have never left before 10pm and it's about an hour and a half drive back.\n\nTLDR; No energy or desire to visit boyfriends grandparents on mothers day. AITA? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "kJM66X6jBoTsjV4IGVOLb3cR8d7GUeJR", "post_id": "9zbj5q", "action": {"description": "not wanting my mom to have a relationship with my grandmother", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my mom to have a relationship with my grandmother", "text": "For context let me start from the beginning. In my culture you give either the first born son or daughter to be raised by your parents ( i.e my mom was given).My mom for the first 5 years of life was raised in another country by my great grandmother and aunts. This all changed when my grandmother for some reason wanted my mother back. My mom would tell me stories of her childhood of how she was emotionally and physically abused by both her parents. My grandmother would pull my mother out of bed by her hair for forgetting to wash some trays and make her sit outside at night  to wash them. She would also hit my mother onthe head if my mother did something wrong. When my mom got married to my father they had issues such as my father drinking my mother was also dealing with a difficult pregnancy of my older brother. My mother left my father for a time then got back together. My grandmother berated my mother and took back the gifts she had given them from there wedding. She would also tell my mom she was stupid in taking back my father.\n\nMy grandmother also blatantly has 2 favorite children being my older uncle and younger aunt. My grandmother would give them both thousands of dollars if they asked for it with no promise to pay her back. If my mother asked her for help she would charge my mother double and harass her for every last cent. She also makes it a point to exclude my mom and dad and us me and my 2 brother out of family things. She would also make special visits to see my aunt going out for breakfast and tell my mother she was uninvited to attend. She would also tell my aunt that my mother kids are rude and so disrespectful to her. But when it comes to my cousins there saints in her eyes even though there all rude and stuck up. Its gotten to the point where my father tells my mom that her relationship with my grandmother is unhealthy. I also tell my mom that its a unhealthy relationship cause it causes her to think she a bad mom while in actuality she the best mom. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "btq5rjhceBS1nnYURvWtO9U4Ws5fZxta", "post_id": "9ya9d2", "action": {"description": "enjoying time with someone else and not checking much my phone", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for enjoying time with someone else and not checking much my phone?", "text": "So I have this best friend that I really care for.\n\nToday I got myself The Witcher and was excited to play it. So I ignored pretty much everything that happened around me for about 3-4 hours, just me and some friends talking on discord. After a while someone asks me if the messages he receives are from the class messenger group (because we are classmates and I should get them too). I checked and I find that my sister logged her fb account in my phone (mom took away her phone) so I didn't receive any messages. And here I saw it. My friend telling me that I, again, ignore her for hours and don't respond to her messages. I calmly told her that I didn't do it on purpose, I was doing something. Mind if I tell you again, I didn't even seen them or got a notification. Continues to say that my behavior is foolish and now will do the same, find another things to do so she won't have to respond. It wasn't even something serious in those messages.  I, not even once, questioned her why she responds late. I truly love her but I have some limits. \n\nAITA for not responding to messages? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "lVHDBLasDGTsxHyoaB0ObKpnVg2D5efl", "post_id": "auurn7", "action": {"description": "not wanting to hyphenate my last name with my fiance", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 22}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to hyphenate my last name with my fiance?", "text": "Here's some backstory:\n\nMy fiance and I are best friends. I cannot imagine marrying anyone else and feel so excited for our journey together. We're only 3 months away from our wedding and it can't come soon enough.\n\nWe obviously fight, but have been on the same page and good at compromising with each other. This issue has come up recently, though, and we're both very stubborn with how we feel.\n\nSomething I've always dealt with is an awkward last name. It's unusual and hard to spell and that's just something everyone in my family has gotten used to. As a kid, I hated having an unusual last name, but have since come to embrace and really like it. That said, her name happens to start with the same letter as my last name and sounds awkward together. I have no problem that she wants to keep her name because I'd probably do the same in her situation. I also wouldn't name my kid something w/ this same letter because of the same reason so I get that.\n\nMy problem stems from the next step she's taken in saying that she wants her kids to have the same last name as her. She suggests we either hyphenate our names or  add an initial of her last name in front of mine for our kids. These aren't are initials, but for example, if my name was John Smith and her name was Sally Johnson, she'd want our kids names to be either '[First Name] [Middle Name] Johnson-Smith' or '[First Name] [Middle Name] J. Smith'. Admittedly, those options sound better than what our names would actually be.\n\nShe thinks I'm being unfair because I don't want t compromise. She's saying she wants one thing and I want another and she is offering a solution in the middle that should appease both of us. From my perspective, I've grown up knowing (believing I guess) that my kids would have my last name, the same as their grandpa, etc.\n\nNow, I imagine she's coming to this conclusion because we've had a solid history of compromising. In this scenario, however, I've been stubborn because I don't want to compromise at all. If the two options are a) my last name as is, or b) anything else, I'm going to choose a.\n\nI accept I may be the asshole here, but would love to hear the thoughts of the group and the discussion that may follow.\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 22, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 22}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Yl0054MNmSnr92FNfvhsOykme6TPWNVq", "post_id": "ay7n87", "action": {"description": "skipping town on my roommates", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA For skipping town on my roommates?", "text": " So, I'll try to be as detailed as possible. About four and a half years ago, I moved in with some friends who had gotten married and had a son. Things started off well, but as time goes on, things progressively become more difficult; financial troubles, stress from raising an infant, etc. There comes an eventual point in time where one of the friends has grown to utterly despise me, but they don't kick me out simply because I'm the only one with a steady job and who has a license. They instead decide to have me handle the majority of chores around the house and always take the opportunity to remind me of how little they think of me. The other friend, while not always agreeing with their SO, isn't in a position to do much else beyond join in and apologize to me later on.\n Eventually, the wife finds a great job and is able to get both her husband and I on board. However, after about two months or so, she has to take a leave from her job, eventually quitting, as she is dealing with the recent passing of her father. Her husband decides to quit with her and pursue his dream of being self employed, leaving me to, once again, be the only one working. \n I deal with instances like these for four years, and finally decide I've had enough; in October of last year, I reach out to my family and decide to leave. I wait until everyone has gone to sleep, quietly pack my things, and drive away in the middle of the night. I've been living with my family since then.\n I had decided to leave without telling anyone because anytime I debated the idea before, knowing how I was viewed in the house, I would always be convinced to stay to ensure the family, and especially their son, would have a roof over their heads. I'm innately inclined to help people I care about, and had grown very attached to the son in the four years I was there, and a part of me always feels as though I've abandoned him.\n\n Am I in the wrong for doing this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "diY7h9M3SEshz1x87hlrNNuoryRTSS1O", "post_id": "aobx6h", "action": {"description": "leaving my mother at her happiest moment", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for leaving my mother at her happiest moment?", "text": "So I had a rough childhood along with my mom and half sister (22). My mother always been fighting with my previous step dad in the past, with each time they make up, she would get more vulgar and violent with me. They\u2019ve been divorced for 3 years. \nNow she got back together with him (through we\u2019re still living apart) and bought a new house for the 4 of us, which is far from my school/job. I really don\u2019t agree with him and the effects he does to my mother and family, the room always dies off and stays silent when he\u2019s around. No one is allowed to talk except him and the people he talks to, he oppressed all of us to our own little world with him only being close to my mom and no one else. \nI\u2019m currently 17 and my sister thought that it would be better that we rent out the current apartment we are in and just live here, near my school and job, and near her work. But I\u2019m scared because my mom always repeated to me \u2018I\u2019m her life\u2019 \u2018she would kill herself if I wasn\u2019t here\u2019 \u2018I\u2019m the most important thing in her life\u2019 \u2018I\u2019m doing this for you\u2019. Recently we\u2019ve been drifting apart because I\u2019m trying to cope with the fact that they\u2019re getting back together, I know I don\u2019t like it but I respect that she can live her own life. I just don\u2019t want to be part of this whole problem anymore, it been going on since I was 9, I\u2019m so tired by now. \n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 8, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qrR7yJR5Iyln2NSph1oMNSxwAxZ2Inxu", "post_id": "agodo0", "action": {"description": "being slightly annoyed when my boyfriend gets me flowers", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for being slightly annoyed when my boyfriend gets me flowers?", "text": "I know this will read as pretty petty, but it is a minor issue that I'm really curious about.  \nI'll try to be as objective as possible.  \n\n\nFirst off, I'm crazy in love with my boyfriend. We've been together for two years. He is very sweet and likes to do little gestures for me, like buy chocolate or ice cream and - the culprit in question - flowers.  \n\n\nI love receiving flowers from him. Who doesn't love flowers? However, I've noticed every time he buys me flowers, there's a discount sticker stuck on the plastic, and the flowers are lacking colour and are often droopy and starting to wilt. This bothers me a little because I picture him buying the flowers as an afterthought, or is more concerned with pinching a few pennies then thinking of me first. (For a bit of context, we're not struggling for money) It's possible that maybe he thinks I prefer the discount flowers as I always gush when he gives them to me.   \nI've tried to remedy this by always pointing out my favorite flowers when we're in the shops together. I've done this at least a dozen times and he seems completely oblivious to my hints. I'm afraid of outright telling him I prefer the fresh, pretty flowers because I'm aware of how petty it sounds.   \n\n\nAnyway, I know it's petty, but am I an asshole for wanting nicer flowers?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "3tAoLBxWiG7VxMsrazHWuXUc8KZPcSge", "post_id": "a5m3hd", "action": {"description": "splitting up our group", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Splitting Up Our Group", "text": "So around a year ago I started a YouTube and Twitch channel with my friends where we play Dungeons & Dragons.  \n\n\nWe started getting lucky and looked into doing some affiliate marketing, the usual \"use a coupon code\" type deal. Each month I got a PDF detailing how much we made. Sort of like an invoice. I'd share with them so they knew as well. For a while there were no issues. We didn't make a lot of money but eventually one day in an email they tell me that they wanted access to the back end. My issue with this is that I had some tax documents as well as my credit card information there. Pretty typical stuff but this is also my information so I'm concerned about people having access to some of my private information.  \n\n\nI explain why I can't just give them access, and I make a suggestion: we change the account and go with a more generic account with none of my private information but one they have access to. This way they can have access, and I don't have to worry about my private information being viewed. They tell me that I'm trying to hide things from them, which I admit that yes, but it's my own information.  \n\n\nBefore we can decide either way they decide to part ways. They started a new channel and address me not being there as being that I was 'witholding financial information'. Now people on social media are painting me as being in the wrong. So now I'm wondering if I could've done anything differently.  \n\n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Wq38UGpgjGfiqdSsRDO9hJapmKZDJAnK", "post_id": "akqicv", "action": {"description": "jawing at the kid next door who cries all the time", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for jawing at the kid next door who cries all the time?", "text": "Me and my roommate (24 and 25 yrs old) live next to a married couple and their two very young kids (if I had to guess the older one is like 4-5 and the younger one is like 2-3?) and at least one of the kids cries all the fucking time. In the mornings before we go to work, during the day when we're at home, in the evenings when we get back from work. Just this loud ass whiny crying that goes on for like 5-10 minutes at a time. Honestly sounds like just a spoiled, soft kid whining about something rather than a newborn crying because it's hungry or something. Doesn't appear like the parents are trying to stifle it in any way. I'm only home in the mornings and afternoons after work and in those few hours I'm home I hear this kid crying like 3-4 times.\n\nRecently me and my roommate started yelling through the shared wall, just jawing and joking things like \"Hey kid how bout you shut up?\" We're mostly having fun with it and aren't that mad (although some mornings I do genuinely get pissed off when I get woken up at 7AM by a kid crying when I'm trying to get those last minutes of sleep in).\n\nI hardly see the people, like I said we're out of the house a lot. I've lived here for the better part of the year and genuinely only ran into them maybe 3 times. And we're not doing passive aggressive shit like leaving notes (I've seen this happening in other apartments). We'll just be sitting at home chilling and if we hear the crying we'll say shit like \"Come on kid again want me to come over?\" in a mockingly intense tone. Mostly us just having fun with a shitty situation.\n\nAre we assholes?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 11, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "NkH9Wf8eCljfluwznbBAnFjUZs4uuDGD", "post_id": "aqt334", "action": null, "title": "Aita or is this maybe just a little abusive?", "text": "Okay, I have to preface this by saying that I was the victim of childhood abuse. From the ages of 11-16, I was abused by a group of men, in a party atmosphere. There were several men, but two other females; a girl from my school and her mom (the hooker).\n\nI suffer from PTSD, and other mental issues. I take meds, attend therapy, and try to avoid triggers. I TRY to be normal.\n\nHowever, my SO has a really bad habit of triggering me. He loves to watch wrestling, on his phone, at top volume. \n\nOur bedroom is in the basement, and our bed is sat on pallets, with the bottom being blocked by a sump hole and the top blocked by storage boxes. It's HORRIBLE to be woken out of a dream to this awful noise, with him blocking me in the bed.  (There's a desk really close to the bed, too, so it's not hard for him to do.). I'll try to get him to let me out of the bed, but he'll just say, \"okay\" and keep me trapped there for half an hour or more.\n\nI've tried to compromise, and I've bought him earphones.  I've tried to explain.\n\nNow, I'm considering leaving. I'm reliving the abuse in my dreams every night, and I'm woken up by loud, excited music and men yelling. (You know, the same kind of noises you'd hear at a party where dirty old men trade young girls for sex!) \n\nI KNOW that he has a side too. I get it that this entertains him. But it's hurting me.\n\nSo, am I the asshole? Can anyone help me see his side of it? Can you think of any other ways to compromise?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "W4MOEQvFESWbDSl8ZpJm9baOz9vIt3Ri", "post_id": "ax2u4s", "action": null, "title": "AITA for bragging?", "text": "Ok so to start out your probably thinking \"well bragging yeah you probably are\" And your probably right.  But anyway back in high school it had been a few months after I broke up with one of my girlfriends and we had this mutual friend that was having a sleepover at my house.  Well it got to late night and I he asks if me and her had ever done anything.  I end up answering yes and saying things that we had done(like a dumbass) and rest of the story short he told a lot of people ruining my ex's life but not affecting mine any. \nAlso sorry bad format on mobile and first time poster. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OrKE80iwUio0ITeOrz9Pazny68lQ9PlN", "post_id": "amm578", "action": {"description": "refusing to let my date pay for my food", "pronormative_score": 7, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for refusing to let my date pay for my food?", "text": "I went on a date the other day with a guy I met on Tinder. He was really nice and we had been texting each other for a few weeks after matching. We decided to meet up for lunch so we could eat and chat in a public place. I think this is where there started to be a bit of tension now that I think back on it because he wanted to pick me up for the date. That was nice of him but he was still a stranger to me. I had met him online and wasn't comfortable having him know where I live and having to rely on him for a ride. This was just incase the date went bad. Besides, we live an hour away from each other and I figured it would be easier for us to just meet in the middle.\n\nI was feeling a bit fancy so I ordered some shrimp for lunch. That and I love seafood. He had some kind of steak with potatoes. We chatted for a while and things were going pretty well until it was time to pay. He offered to pay the bill, which was a sweet gesture, but I declined. I had gotten the shrimp, which is a decently priced item. I had gone in fully intending to pay for my own food, but I hadn't previously mentioned this to him. We hadn't really discussed it before eating. I just kind of assumed we'd handle ourselves. We're both college kids so sometimes its rough picking up a big bill. I understood this and didn't want to force him to pay more than he had to. I really appreciated his offer and thought it was a kind gesture, but I wasn't comfortable having him pay so much for me. I mean, it was around $20, we didn't go anywhere too fancy, but it seemed like a lot to me anyway. That's $20 he can keep in his pocket.\n\nIt could have just ended there but he kept insisting he pay and it started to get a little awkward. He kept insisting and I kept declining. The waitress was getting a bit uneasy just standing there between us so I finally told her we needed a minute. I stuck by my decision and told him he didn't need to worry about picking up the check. I told him I really appreciated his offer to pay but I didn't want him to pay for my meal. I figured this was a win because he got brownie points for offering but didn't have to pay for me in the end. He conceded but I could tell the situation put a damper on the mood. He seemed genuinely upset and was acting a bit passive aggressive when he paid his bill. I haven't heard from him since the date.\n\nI was for sure that I was in the right at first but it's been bothering me. Should I have just let him pay for me instead of making a bit of a scene like that?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "khIDSzuoafAa3wLhrP60gduqqtCFNLMp", "post_id": "a026db", "action": {"description": "calling out my fellow associates laziness during black friday", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for calling out my fellow associates laziness during black friday?", "text": "As a preface, my businesses black friday sale (it was on thursday) was a couple days ago, and I'm only here for a short time from a college break.\n\nTHE ISSUE: Yesterday during the post black friday sale me and a associate I know had an argument over work ethics. I was preoccupied with trying to clean up the returned products to make things cleaner for customers to come in and out/trying to assist customers as much as I could. Worker A was chit-chating with the other workers who have a problem with slacking off in the middle of the sale, and in the middle of an isle. Out of rising frustration, I called him out on it saying that they should be focusing on the sale instead of standing around blocking an isle, and to save the long chat for the break room. He snapped back at me claiming that returning the products is not a crucial part of the job, helping the customer is (he had to clarify that point later), he also got on my case that he had helped more people than I did, trying to use my academic leave as leverage, despite the fact that I had worked all summer before going to college.\n\nI took a short break, we apologized, and went on through the sale. Am I the asshole for calling him out on it?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "OiM9zdCVK7dk7blU3psnO8y0gyvHqZ2B", "post_id": "b2zpws", "action": {"description": "calling out my friend on Snapchat in front of other friends for not paying me back", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for calling out my friend on Snapchat in front of other friends for not paying me back?", "text": "So the story is I lent my best friend $1000 about 2 years ago and he ended up leaving the US to Bahrain. He was supposed to pay me back within months of the loan btw not years. We\u2019ve kept contact through out and his excuse has always been that he\u2019s low on cash/trying to get a job whatever that\u2019s fine. Now I don\u2019t use any social media but every now and again my friends would show me snap chats that he posted hanging in expensive clubs or drinking. He\u2019s also living with his parents there who are military. \n\nThe other day I\u2019m chilling with my friends and one of them shows me a snap chat of him bragging about being drunk or whatever, so I asked them for their phone and sent him a snap chat asking \u201c where\u2019s my money dawg\u201d kinda in a joking way but not really. Probably shouldn\u2019t have done that in front of our other friends but I mean cmon. Don\u2019t flaunt how wealthy you are if you cannot pay back a debt. Dick move of me but I could really use that money right now and that was kinda the last straw ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "MzjpLnXTxuCbZ7OWcyFQGSVvKMPyue9f", "post_id": "b7z81h", "action": {"description": "suggesting my friend to make a move on his crush", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for suggesting my friend to make a move on his crush?", "text": "Backstory- We've been buddies since 7th grade. About 9th grade there was a girl  I liked and wanted to ask out. I had a few conversations with her and we (sort of) clicked. At this point I found out that she and my buddy have been close friends for a while and each had a minor crush on the other.\n\nI didn't do anything after that. I thought I would be a gentleman and let him make his move before I did anything. I didn't talk to her much after that.\n\nEnd of 10th grade and he still hadn't made a move. We were set for a movie night three days ago with me, him, her and a few more friends (to celebrate the end of the school year).\n\nAfter the movie me and him went alone to Taco Bell for food (we're both foodies and fans of Taco Bell). As I was shifting schools I figureD that this was the last time I would see him for a while and decided to tell him to make a move.\n\nIt didn't go too well. He started explaining that they were only friends and nothing would happen. I pushed a little further but dropped it after exiting Taco Bell.\n\nIt must have rubbed him on the wrong side because he was in edge for the rest of the night, especially around me and especially especially around her. We didn't talk much for the rest of the night and soon I left for home.\n\nI thought I was doing him a favor but in retrospect I think I fucked up. What do you guys think?\n\nTl;dr- I told my friend to make a move on a longtime crush. Didn't go down too well with him. May have changed the dynamic between him and crush. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oP8mSAoTIMlqwslDu2fVxaaAtgQ9iSrV", "post_id": "aq1hxr", "action": {"description": "telling someone to sit somewhere else if the noises I made while chewing food annoyed her", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling someone to sit somewhere else if the noises I made while chewing food annoyed her?", "text": "This happened a while ago (way, way back in middle school), but the memory just came to mind. This was situated in the cafeteria lunch tables where classes all ate together. God, this brings back so many memories, but as our group of friends were eating food, one of them looked pissed and asked us if we could stop chewing with our mouths open. We did exactly that, and 10 seconds later, she tells me that it drives her crazy to hear noises from people eating, and that we were still doing it. My initial reaction was to apologize, but no one was chewing with their mouths open. We were just chewing. The sounds came from chewing. Chewing apples. I remember that it ticked me off that all 6 of us needed to watch every bite and concentrate on not making a sound for one person\u2019s sake. I told her that she could eat somewhere else if it bothered her, which most of the people at the table agreed with. I just wonder if I was being an asshole for doing so, because I still agree with that, and I wonder if I should reconsider my actions. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uQbKzdmHYjF1F0SaQQVzzhaGzojKFvXr", "post_id": "anev8t", "action": {"description": "not wanting my family to have a relationship with my Fianc\u00e9's former stepkids", "pronormative_score": 9, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my family to have a relationship with my Fianc\u00e9\u2019s former stepkids?", "text": "My fianc\u00e9 (FH from here on out) and I have been together for nearly 4 years, have a 2yr old together (LO from here on out)and will be eloping on our 4th anniversary coming up in just a few months. \n\nFH was married for roughly 7 years to an awful gold digger of a woman, who has 2 kids from her previous marriage. The step kids have a dysfunctional relationship with their mother & grandparents (who they live with), and a long distance relationship with their father & stepmom who live in a different state. FH loved and helped raise these kids as his own during his marriage, until his ex racked up a huge amount of debt (20k+) and cheated on him with multiple guys. \n\nDespite having no custody agreement or rights, FH wanted to keep a relationship with his former stepkids. The stepkids didn\u2019t seem interested. His ex was all game as she used the kids as leverage to get extra money, school supplies and the like out of him and she got every weekend to herself to party. \n\nAbout a year after the divorce I met and started dating FH. It was clear from the beginning that the kids were using FH. I made it my mission early on to make a good impression, be kind and to be a positive adult presence in their lives. It was painfully clear shortly after we started dating that they absolutely hated me. When we got engaged and found out I was pregnant it only got worse. They would blatantly ignore/insult FH and me, trash our apartment when they came to stay, refuse to eat anything we cooked, you name it really.... and then turn around and try to be nice to get money or gifts. There\u2019s waaaay too much to unpack of their bad behavior over the years I\u2019ve known them, so here\u2019s some fo the greatest hits:\n\n-Lying to FH\n-Lying to me\n-Stealing household items from us\n-Stealing gifts I had given to FH\n-Stealing my belongings\n-Stealing a family heirloom\n-Complaining about the multiple birthday gifts, homemade cake, choice of favorite movie to watch, and favorite foods made for dinner of their birthdays because we \u201cdidn\u2019t give them enough\u201d\n-Intentionally damaging the carpeting/furniture in our apartment, costing us a $1,275.00 security deposit and our couch\n-Refusing to acknowledge LO exists immediately after he was born and after not speaking to us for 6 months, then asking us to give them our gaming console (xbox360) and 36in flat screen tv\n-Intentionality tearing up and spreading out shiny pieces of pop tart packaging for LO to find/choke on when LO first started crawling\n-Ignoring/refusing to acknowledge any attempts at contact for a year, and only responding when they want something\n\nthe long and short of it is, they honestly seem to hate LO & I. FH they seem to view as an ATM- ignore it until you want money/stuff. \n\nFH has told me before that he views these kids (currently 18 & 16 yrs old) as \u201chis kids\u201d but understands that he has no right to their lives or a part in it. As their behavior has gotten worse, he has scaled back more and more on contact. As is, they ignore him entirely on all fronts unless they think there is something to gain in it (ie expensive tech,money,etc). I told FH that I understand if he wants to keep contact for sentimentality\u2019s sake, but I do not have any interest in this point in a relationship with them and don\u2019t want them around LO period. I would prefer that FH cuts them off entirely, as every time he reaches out and they snub or use him it hurts him deeply. I hate seeing him crushed like that. However at the same time I feel like keeping an open dialogue at this point, is only leaving them room to hurt FH and by extension our little family. \n\nWhat do you guys think? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xTnWMYsBz6CK9fATKFZQ8zmCD4oBa6UQ", "post_id": "9xn8eh", "action": {"description": "beating up someone for jerking off on transit", "pronormative_score": 17, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for beating up someone for jerking off on transit?", "text": "I want to be clear, I've tried to call the police three times. They never come. I've pressed the emergency stop button on the train, the driver hid in his cab and the dude ran away. \n\nI've seen this guy yelling at women, running up at them screaming, trying to scare people, and jerking off in front of young girls. He's always obviously drunk, usually openly drinking a bottle of vodka, and a couple of times he's been spattered in blood.\n\nI'm asking because I know I feel strongly about this being unacceptable, and I'm totally fed up with the lack of police response. Next time I figure I'm just going to knock him around a bit and throw him off the train. Would this make me an asshole? ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 17, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 17, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "gtptiVTwHk0c1j34lMEhp3IoMR3Wl8Ck", "post_id": "a3ywib", "action": {"description": "letting transgender people compete on the women's team", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for letting transgender people compete on the women's team?", "text": "I am involved on a sports director board and recently a transgender application to be on the sports team came. Although it was a tough vote, I broke the deadlock and voted for the transwomen.\n\nThere was some complaints about this but my attitude is that if women want equality, here it is. Take it warts and all so to speak.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "zmphw1fuAksGpMgE85OYp5QFXfD79HK5", "post_id": "b27zfu", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my girlfriend for eating our poutine", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my girlfriend for eating our poutine?", "text": "This happened last night. My friends, my girlfriend and I had a long night out at the club and decided we wanted to get food. We decided to stop at Smokes Poutine to get a nice triple pork. So we all get our food and then decide to walk home and eat when we get there.\n\nNow, one thing to note is that it is around -10 degrees celcius. Everyone wants to get home because it's cold and we are all hungry. We start walking and then my girlfriend starts to eat our poutine. We are about a 5 minute walk to our place and I start to get annoyed. Our pace has slowed down and the poutine is getting cold. I essentially paid 20 bucks for cold poutine and we all have to be outside longer than we need to. I told her to seal it up and wait 5 minutes but her drunk ass keeps eating it. \n\nAm I the asshole for getting mad at her for eating the poutine?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "LnBc0etZEikT8YOdSnx5mpEPrhRttU6L", "post_id": "ayobbg", "action": {"description": "telling my girlfriend she has to get rid of her dog", "pronormative_score": 68, "contranormative_score": 15}, "title": "AITA for telling my girlfriend she has to get rid of her dog?", "text": "Throwaway because I'm just a lurker with no intention of becoming a regular poster; just wanted some third-party opinions on this particular issue. \n\nA little backstory to set context:\n\nAbout two years ago I started dating the woman I'm currently with. After casually dating for a couple months she ended up getting pregnant. We moved in together shortly after to save money in preparation for the baby. I already owned my home so we decided to move her and her dog into my house with my two dogs. \n\nHere's where the problem begins. She is a nurse working the night-shift. She felt guilty about crating her dog at night to train him properly and basically let him use the restroom wherever/whenever he wanted in her apartment. When she moved in I told her that I would be happy to train her dog as I did with my boys but that we had to start immediately as I did not want him ruining the house and I was acutely aware that we would have zero time/energy to devote to dog training once the baby was born. She agreed but immediately undermined any efforts I made to train him - she would let him out of the crate during his crate time, get upset at me for reprimanding him (spray bottle squirt, a stern NO, and/or a light tap on the nose), and eventually told me that she would just take care of training him. \n\nFast forward to present day. Her dog is not trained at all. He growls at me, has bitten me on two occasions, consistently pees/poops under our bed, peed on our son's playpen a month ago and finally tonight shat in his room at the foot of his crib, waking him up and driving me to post this at 2 AM. I am genuinely worried about our son's health and safety at this point. Her dog is only 10 pounds so his bites didn't do much damage to me but he could absolutely hurt a 7 month old child. On top of that, he's peeing/pooping in areas that our son plays and sleeps. \n\nI have told her for the last 6 months or so, on a fairly regular basis, that we need to find a new home for him as I'm now completely unable to train him even if she would let me and I still wanted to - between taking care of the baby, my two dogs, the chaos of her night-shift schedule, and me hunting for a new job/getting my Master's & CPA I literally just don't have the ability to. When he woke the baby up tonight it was my final straw. I texted her that I would be bringing him to a no-kill shelter this weekend as she had not put any effort into finding him a new home on her own. She wrote back a few angry things and has now stopped talking to me. \n\nI absolutely love dogs and animals in general but I'm down to 5 hours of sleep on a good night. I didn't want it to come to this and attempted to get in front of the issue with her by training before the baby came but, as I said, she interceded. At this stage I'm worried that it's driving a wedge between she and I during a time that's already pretty stressful. \n\nAITA? \n\n​", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 8, "OTHER": 67, "EVERYBODY": 7, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 68, "WRONG": 15}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TF9Rb3jPQ1EMWxFwLjSI44QX4rRZ5tbj", "post_id": "ayvid9", "action": {"description": "being grossed out by my bf's sheets and demand him to throw them out", "pronormative_score": 61, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA[24F] for being grossed out by my bf's[25M] sheets and demand him to throw them out", "text": "I've been seeing my BF exclusively for the last 8 months or so and recently started sleeping over at his place. He has a navy blue sheet set. I noticed last week when I was staying over that it has large patches of blood stains on them. They were navy blue so it wasn't that obvious. I asked him what those stains were, if he nosebleed at night, he nodded. I didn't take an issue with it.\n\nThis week however, while lying on the bed with the sheets, I made a comment on how he should probably get new sheets because those are really large blood stains (1ft x 1ft). He then told me that it was his ex's period blood. I immediately became super grossed out by it and refused to sleep on another woman's, let alone his ex's, period blood stain.\n\nHe changed the sheets, but wanted to keep the sheets because they're perfectly good sheets but have stains. I demanded him to throw them away. We got into an argument. He says ITA because I didn't take an issue with the sheets when he said it was his blood. He's also saying I'm jealous of his ex and is making this all about me.\n\n​\n\nAITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 60, "EVERYBODY": 6, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 61, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "uho486YbuhZbjhVa4mFgAJavGduqrIMk", "post_id": "aop44w", "action": {"description": "wanting to stay home", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for wanting to stay home", "text": "Just today, on a Friday a night, my parents made plans to go on a family trip. I was told last, without any prior heads up. The problem here is that I have tons of assignments to do for school and it will require the full weekend to finish. Had they told me earlier of said plans, I would\u2019ve been able to do some work in advance. As a result, we ended up in an argument where it was decided to cancel the short trip, which was a 6 hour car ride and would\u2019ve lasted the full weekend. Am I the asshole for wanting to stay home and do my assignments?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "Ccg4cqmWT0VYOGt9cLnjUV1bPJYEXsLP", "post_id": "ami9sm", "action": {"description": "being upset that my so prioritized a coworker over me", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for being upset that my SO prioritized a coworker over me?", "text": "Girlfriend and I have been together for a few years. We used to live 5 hours apart and now we 2 (soon to be 5 minutes).\n\nI\u2019m terrible with time management and I\u2019ve been late to see her many times in the past. This usually ends in her being very upset with me.\n\nToday, she was driving to me (which doesn\u2019t occur often) but I told her in advance that I had to give a buddy a ride out of town and wouldn\u2019t be back until 230. The night before, she planned to be here at 3 to give me some leeway. She called me in the morning to tell me that she would be here at 330 because she was going to go to a kombucha bar with a male coworker. \n\nI told her not to worry about the time. I did however voice how it hurt that she was going to hang with another guy. I made sure to acknowledge that those feelings are mine to bear and that she has every right to have whoever she wants as a friend and it\u2019s my job to trust and respect her.\n\nFast forward to me arriving home roughly 245. I called her and she missed the call, calling me back a couple minutes later. She told me she was going to be a significant amount later than normal and that the kombucha bar ending up turning into a longer event.\n\nNow, I wouldn\u2019t be mad if she was running late. And I didn\u2019t like that she was with another guy but I know that it\u2019s unfair of me to let that feeing affect the relationship. BUT, I\u2019m really really irritated that she was late *because* of this guy. She said she had to stay with him because he ordered so much kombucha and she couldn\u2019t leave him alone. She felt stuck.\n\nBut I feel like she had to make a decision between leaving him alone or making me wait. She chose to stay with him. I feel like she prioritized him over me.\n\nWhat hurts the most though is the double standard. She\u2019s been very upset with me for being late. She also would be furious if I hung out another girl. She acknowledges that she would be furious and understands it\u2019s unfair?\n\nSo AITA for being so upset? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Bsv3ElZOkXzS3maBqu14dBqQePgnpCdp", "post_id": "aj3gzv", "action": null, "title": "AITA (Writing in place for my brother) My fiancee keeps wanting me to get a job right after failing from basic training.", "text": " \n\nI'm posting this on my brothers behalf as he's not the most tech savvy and if he were to type it out he'd be here for a few hours.\n\nSo basically, he met his fiancee in highschool; they'd been dating on and off for years until he finally proposed to her. Now she lives on the other side of our state and he frequently drives out there when he can just to see her. She lives at her parents house. Her father is a retired Navy Officer and her mother is a real estate developer. Because of this they are very well off to do. At times this really shows.\n\nMy bother went to basic training and ended up getting put in Med hold around week 7 due to a medical issue and separated/discharged around three months later. If anything, this has given him a lot of discipline.\n\nNow, before he left for basic, about 9 months prior, she broke up with him because of a guy she met on a cruise. He took her back after a few months. Since the start of their relationship, she's frequented one word answers in their texts but always was pretty physically affectionate.\n\nSince he's been back, I've noticed she barely holds his hand anymore and she won't communicate. The most she's asked him is \"have you gotten a job yet?\" and \"when are you getting a better paying job?\"\n\nLast night he finally broke down.\n\nHe called her out on a lot of stuff, she often takes what little money he has for granted and will complain they don't go to nicer restaurants than olive garden. He's tried explaining to her he needs a bit of time after going through basic to get himself put back together. He has frequent nightmares. I'm never going to judge that.\n\nHer response to that was \"suck it up. It's just nightmares.\" and at one point \"can you sleep quieter?\"\n\nWith all this, this was their conversation:\n\nHim: Can you maybe respond with something more than a one word answer?\n\nHer: I've done that since the start of our relationship, i'm not changing.\n\nHim: That's not how relationships work. We need to be open with one another and change is part of that commitment as is compromise.\n\nHer: Look, i'm busy with school and work right now.\n\nHim: Except youre not, your dad told me you lost your job a week ago and you've done nothing but pressure me to get a job.\n\nHer: Ok. I guess I'm just a bad fiancee.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "oJFWs8MDZFs5jEA8D4NrIm5mNaTVINer", "post_id": "a5p11n", "action": {"description": "not telling my roommate that I own a gun", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 13}, "title": "AITA for not telling my roommate that I own a gun (and keep it in our house)?", "text": "I recently bought my first gun and decided not to tell my roommate about it. Part of that reasoning is that I knew she doesn't approve of guns, so it's not like I assumed she would be chill with it. However, I also figured that what I do is my own business, and if I always keep it locked up when it's at home (I do), and neither of us has children over ever, it would never affect her in any way. \n\nHowever, a mutual friend brought it up in casual conversation, and my roommate completely flipped out when she found out. She's told our friends that I am a gun nut and a psycho, and she's demanded either I get rid of the gun or I move out.  I think it's an overreaction, and now we aren't on speaking terms. Is this a line you should never cross without someone's consent, or is it an issue that's no one else's business? If she had kids or I just left it laying around or under my pillow, I'd get it, but... it just seems like an overreaction to me. AITA???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 3, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 2}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 13}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "9qrHff9mB97prydbPu0M6PT4dPcMtW8D", "post_id": "b909c7", "action": {"description": "refusing to be a surrogate for my sister", "pronormative_score": 109, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for refusing to be a surrogate for my sister?", "text": "So my sister and I both have the same condition where our uterus scars really easily and so it\u2019s harder for us to fall pregnant (it\u2019s kind of hard to explain, but that\u2019s basically it) but I went on medication a lot earlier than her so my uterus is a lot less scarred than hers. She\u2019s been told that she will not be able to have kids and not being able to have ivf etc. bc there would be nowhere on her uterus lining to place the egg. She\u2019s obviously devastated and has told me before that surrogacy is her last chance and I\u2019d be the only person she would ask. So she asked me to be a surrogate and so we went to a doctors appointment just to see if I qualify and see what the procedure would be like. The doctor told me that since I have the same condition, but less scarring being a surrogate would lessen MY chances of being able to fall pregnant or have ivf etc. I\u2019m not ready to have kids yet but I know I want kids and am not really willing to lower my chances of being able to fall pregnant when ive already seen the struggle my sister has been through. The doctor said if I do go through with it then they will obviously place the egg on the best place in my uterus. This may sound extremely selfish but I want that \u2018best spot\u2019 for me and my future husbands child and am not quite ready to give it up yet. If I was done having children or knew I never wanted children it would be a completely different story I would say yes. But I\u2019m choosing to be selfish and keep my chances of falling pregnant without risking it and my sister is calling me an asshole for this reason. So AITA ?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 102, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 109, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "BYTmEddbxbSkcKjhYrAvzYdj4NtHCKlH", "post_id": "avdwl3", "action": {"description": "taking home the flowers I got for my coworker after she had surgery", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I took home the flowers I got for my coworker after she had surgery?", "text": "A coworker of mine fell last week while walking on the icy sidewalk and broke her elbow. Let's call her Sheila. Sheila had surgery on said elbow and was out for a few days. On the day she returned, I had flowers delivered for her, but sent to my office. This particular flower shop won't leave the flowers if the person is not there to accept them, and I was not 100% Sheila would be in her office at the time of delivery. Sheila comes to my office every day to visit so I knew she would see the flowers. When Sheila came to my office, I told her the flowers were for her. They are a smaller bouquet that is arranged in a coffee mug that she can use, as she loves coffee. Sheila looked at them sort of uninterested and says thank you, but she can't lift anything with her arm. Mind you, she has another working arm in which she can carry the flowers. She said \"I will just keep them here in your office for now\". Well...it has been over a week now, and they are still in my office. Aside from offering to carry them back to her office, which was waved off, we do not mention them when she comes to visit. I love flowers, and let's be honest, I am a little hurt. I get that not everyone loves flowers, but I can't help feeling bitter about the whole situation. I am tempted to be petty and bring them home with me since she does not seem interested. Would that be an asshole move?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t0vhTGqgViTAnSgnm0PxRzzVt2MCUVIo", "post_id": "b8aywk", "action": {"description": "calling out classmates for talking about another classmate behind his back", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling out classmates for talking about another classmate behind his back?", "text": "So recently I(21) was on a class trip with my classmates(20-25) and a small group of us was sitting and chatting after dinner. The conversation started leading towards a classmate that was not present at the time. \n\nThis classmate is a bit... strange. I suspect he might be on the spectrum. He is not very good socially and has a very stiff and simple way of holding conversations. He also sometimes come off as rude. let\u2019s call him Adam.\n\nHe is also very easy to manipulate. An example here is that another guy in our class showed him a picture of two turtles mating and told Adam that this was cool and funny. Adam then believed this to be true and changed his Facebook header and profile picture to turtles having sex. This guy kept edging him on making him go even further and he would start just showing random people these images. \n\nAnyway we were sitting on this table and the conversation shifted to him. Earlier in the day we had gone through a market and I had asked him to join us. I thought the trip was fine and nothing really strange happened. \nHowever when we were sitting at this table afterwards they got kind of annoyed with me and asked me why I did that when I knew they thought he was weird. I just kind of brushed it off but then they just started talking among themselves about how annoying Adam is and ways to avoid him on other upcoming events the class would partake in. Including like running away when he wasn\u2019t looking. \n\nI thought that the conversation was childish and cruel so I kind of snapped at them to stop saying stuff like that. I said it was a class trip and not a holiday. I admit I might have come across as angry and loud. \n\nThey said that they only needed to vent a little bit because they were stressed about him and didn\u2019t know how to interact with Adam. Also they said I should just leave if I don\u2019t like it. So I ended up leaving. It\u2019s been kind of tense between us after that.\n\nI understand the need to vent sometimes, but I thought what they said was unnecessary and just bullying. They disagree and told me I\u2019m too sensitive.\nI kind of regret doing that now cause maybe they\u2019re right. Maybe I\u2019m just uptight. They have been excluding me as well for the past few days and I just kind of feel really bad about getting angry at them. AITA? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "R7mc4YPZZL8BkjQcvFrhrqoW1LT3sffH", "post_id": "aaswts", "action": null, "title": "AITA gor being upset about the dirty water dripping on the table?", "text": "I am currently sitting at a restaurant with my husband and his friend. His friend works at the restaurant. There is dirty yellowish water dripping on to the table from the ceiling and I am upset! It is on my side of the table about a foot from me and occasionally splashes me. I work  at a restaurant and this would never fly! I told the server and no one has come over to check on us at all?? My husband is unconcerned but he is the type to go in to a restaurant after they forget his ranch in the drive thru. I think it's because his friend works here. \n\nOmg manager literally just walked up to talk to my husband and his friend about the MMA fight that is on but then he walked away!! I have mentioned several times how gross the dripping water is and everyone has brushed me off. \n\nAm I overreacting?? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "CHXWLd3Vd3K3AbgcSkqB1pZPAS7fiRjd", "post_id": "a9lbfl", "action": {"description": "kicking my old neighbor off my WiFi", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for kicking my old neighbor off my WiFi?", "text": "It\u2019s Christmas night. A while back I gave my quadplex apartment neighbor\u2019s brother, who was living with him at the time, my wifi password. They all moved out like two months ago but the guy still loafs around the neighborhood on his pedal bike driving around between his baby mama\u2019s and brother\u2019s new place - still in the same neighborhood.\n\nWell the guy periodically stops by my place asking to bum cigarettes or whatever (usually after 8 or 9PM). I started refusing him after the first time but he still keeps coming by. \n\nWell today, he knocks on my door begging, I refuse him (even though I know it\u2019s Christmas) but I lend him my bike pump since he has a flat. Then he asks me to use my computer to fill out his unemployment and again I have to refuse him, but he says thanks and goes on his merry way.\n\nBut then an hour later my dogs start barking and I look outside and he\u2019s just sitting on my steps on his phone. So ofc I go out there and I\u2019m like what are you doing. And he\u2019s just like, \u201cOh I\u2019m just using your wifi dawg trying to get this unemployment out.\u201d \n\nAt that point I\u2019m pretty bugged and tell him he can\u2019t hang out here like that and he\u2019s just all \u201cSorry, I didn\u2019t know I was bugging and walks off all sad.\u201d\n\nSo I thought to come over here and ask you all if I was being an asshole and should beat myself up for turning out a former neighbor on Christmas. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "psQkwXXEMWjJAqEAZL2sMG8MFT3LWUhT", "post_id": "b9qnjp", "action": {"description": "asking my bf that he could wait for me", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 5}, "title": "AITA for asking my bf that he could wait for me?", "text": "Leaving the apartment is hard for me. I'm [27F] ADHD(-pi) with high fucntioning autism and my bf [28M] is also ADHD(-ph).\n\nHe plays games on his computer a lot and if we're going somewhere together I'll usually wait until he finishes his games before getting ready myself because I never really know how long he will be playing. He does tell me \"10 minutes and I'll be done\" which I'll forget after a moment and just wait because I don't want to nag him. \n\nWhen he finishes his games it only takes him a minute to get ready and for me it takes longer because without my meds I forget what I was supposed to do, in which order to dress up etc. Then he gets a annoyed because he has to wait for me and I get more stressed because I frantically try to remember what I might've forgotten this time.\n\nThe other night I asked him if we could make leaving the apartment a bit less stressful, in other words like when he closes his computer that could be a sign for me to get ready and he could wait a moment before getting ready.\n\nHe got pissed off and shouted why does he have to change his ways and why can't I just start getting ready earlier so he doesn't have to wait for me. He said that's how he's always been and apparently isn't willing to change that.\n\nAm I the asshole here for asking this?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 5}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "X1RKWYVBBnyeR2L2vJcsPC7c9BuHXkrj", "post_id": "arm342", "action": {"description": "feeling like my brother is being turned into a stand-in husband", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for feeling like my brother is being turned into a stand-in husband?", "text": "Hey guys! Occasional lurker, first time poster. Throwaway just in case.\n\n​\n\nSo one bad habit my brother has always had is he tends to end up befriending girls that take advantage of his kindness. As an example: A few years ago he had it bad for a girl who stopped giving him the time of day as soon as he lost his job and couldn't buy her lunch or get her nails done anymore. Once he found another one she was showing up again, expecting to basically be taken on dates that weren't dates. It took her claiming he was harassing her to the boyfriend she was purposely hiding from him when he tried to get money she owed him back for him to realize what was going on.\n\n​\n\nSo I get protective when it comes to him sometimes. He doesn't know how to say no. It's definitely a problem for the men in my family in general.\n\n​\n\nRecently, I was informed by his roommate that this seems to be starting again with a woman he used to worked with. He's known this woman (30ish F) for about two years. At one point, she was his manager at work, though he knew her before this and she helped him get the job. During this time, she started borrowing money from him for things like bills. She'd pay him back, but it would always take a while.\n\n​\n\nA preface on this woman's situation: She is currently married, but her husband's family doesn't like her, and he's in another state in his final semester of college. His mom has threatened to stop funding his college if he moves down to Florida to live with her, so he stays up there. So right now, she's raising 3 (3M, 8M, 9F) children on her own on one income. Two are from another relationship, one they have together.\n\n​\n\nAbout two weeks ago we were going to go out for lunch and spend the day together, and it had been a while since we saw each other. He informed me that he had an errand to run for her while we were out. She needed him to go to one court house an hour away and get her marriage certificate signed because someone had failed to do so and then take it to another courthouse an hour away from there. We ended up not being able to get lunch and spent the entire time together driving to run this errand. All total it took around 4 hours, so long that we immediately had to drop him off to babysit her children until she got home from work. It was here his roommate (his ex, who he makes awesome friends and roommates with apparently, and who I'm friends with) who was joining us informed me while he was in the courthouse that he's doing this \\*all the time\\*. He basically acts like her stand-in husband. \n\n​\n\nIt wasn't until yesterday, however, I realized how many 'favors' he seems to be doing. He watches her kids every time he has a day off, completely for free. He said this is because her babysitter quit and he insists that she's genuinely looking for someone and he's seen her doing so, but that she doesn't make much and so she can't afford most people's asking price.\n\n​\n\nMost recently he lent her $1000 from his tax return to pay her rent.\n\n​\n\nMy brother and I were both abused by our mother and developed a bit of a codependent relationship as a result. In the last few years, we've worked a lot on keeping out of each other's problems and it's improved our relationship a lot. When I tried to discuss this with him, he gets kind of stand-offish and I'm getting some vibes that he thinks I'm inserting myself into his business again. When his roommate tried to talk to him about it, he got angry and they fought.\n\n​\n\nThe thing that finally made me want to ask is that I've been roped into it now too-- I'm currently watching her 3 kids for 8 hours today, on my day off after working until midnight, completely for free as a favor to my brother. He's showing up right after I'm done to watch her youngest so she can take the other two to the movies.\n\n​\n\nAm I right in feeling like my brother is being taken advantage of? Or am I the asshole and need to back off and let him help a friend out? It's not that I don't like this woman-- she's very nice! But I feel like my brother is being turned into a stand-in husband and a free babysitter. This has been going on for weeks. He hasn't had an actual day off in so long he couldn't tell me when the last time was.\n\n​\n\n(Before anyone suggests it, I'm 90% sure he's not sleeping with her. My brother has very strong morals in regards to sleeping with a married woman. Her husband knows what's going on.)", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XgOCUfIPaFjBP93XM7tjpPMi0HewEz18", "post_id": "a8q943", "action": {"description": "having an emotional reaction and refusing to talk to the girl that left me for another guy", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for having an emotional reaction and refusing to talk to the girl that left me for another guy?", "text": "Somewhat long story here. \nIn August I moved into a new house and meet my neighbor, a girl who I will hit it off with. We hung out often and regularly, got drinks, took our dogs out together, went to shows etc. She actually made the first move, one when we were waiting TV together I put my arm around her, then she went upstairs and when she came back down, sat in my lap and kissed me, then looked at me and said \"what took you so long?\"\n\nAfter that we hung out a good bit, obviously. It's really hard for me to fall in love and with her it took me no time at all. I told her I wanted to be with her and she reminded that she had just gotten out of a long term relationship and hadn't been single in years and wanted to take some time before she committed to anyone, but she still wanted to see me and cared for me. I told her I was willing to wait for her if I got to be around her and she said she wanted exactly the same thing. \n\nA few weeks later she told me she had to move out of her place, she was on a probationary 3 month lease and the guy who opened the house decided he didn't want another roommateAnd kicked her out. So she started looking for other places, thinking about moving out of state. I never said it to her but I would've gone with her on a heartbeat. Then she found two potential living situations in town. We looked at one together and she seemed really confident about it but wanted to look at the other one. We were supposed to go together but I had to work unexpectedly and she ended up going alone. When she came home that night she told me what she had decided on the first place but she really wanted to be friends with the guy from the second cause he was cool and they got along, gave me a big kiss, they went to hang out with him and her roommate. \n\nThen I didn't hear from her for about a week. We were supposed to go on our first real date the following weekend but the entire week I barely got a text message and didn't see her at her house. On Sunday, I texted her to see if she still wanted to go out and got no response. Then I was in my back yard with my dog and saw her leave the house with this new guy. The following day, after I got home from work I got a text saying that she \"couldn't continue the romantic part of our relationship\" but that I'm \"one of her favorite people\" and she still wanted to hang out with me. She insisted she didn't stand me up for another guy even though I saw her leave with him and told her so. \n\nI was so stunned and already really drunk that, admittedly, I immediately reacted pretty emotionally. I told her it was unfair and that I wanted only her. I asked her what changed that made him worth her breaking her promise to herself but not me. She asked me to stop texting her for the day, until I had calmed down and I said okay and did. I didn't attempt to talk to her for five days to make sure I was calm as I could be, I know I have a habit of blowing up. \n\nSo I saw her in her back yard and I went outside. She said hey and I waited and played with her dog through the fence a minute before attempting to say anything to her. When I finally gathered myself up, I tried to say, \"you know this wouldn't have been such a big deal if you had just talked to me\" but she cut me off and said \"it wasn't a big deal deal.\" I responded \"maybe it wasn't too you but it obviously was to me.\" Mid sentence she grabbed all her stuff and went inside. When I went back into my house I got a text that said \"I'm sorry for any pain I caused u. I am going to leave it at that. Take care of yourself dude. I wish u the best.\" And then f she blocked me on Facebook, Instagram, blocked my phone, etc. \n\nObviously we haven't talked since then. I tried reaching out a few times knowing it wouldn't work. At some point I got into my old Instagram account and send her a message saying how much I missed her, that I genuinely love her and I hope at some point she decides to call me, but for my own sanity I had to close all kinds of conversation. Then I finished the deed and blocked the last lines of communication that had and deleted her number. \n\nAITA? What did I do wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "6Tnxlhp5dOSc90far6xPSAq36oqfwcQw", "post_id": "as02ay", "action": {"description": "ruining family night because my dad hit my puppy", "pronormative_score": 14, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for ruining family night because my dad hit my puppy?", "text": "so this weekend i was away on a trip, left my puppy with my parents to watch. however, my mom was gone most of the weekend doing her own thing. when i came home last night, everything seemed fine, i thanked them for watching my dog and letting me go on the trip. \n\nevery Sunday night the whole family sits down to watch the walking dead, it\u2019s basically our only family activity. right as the show was about to start, my 3 month old puppy started begging for my dad\u2019s food, because she is so little she\u2019s still learning no. \n\nhowever, he doesn\u2019t say no, he hits her. \n\ni flipped out. i\u2019ve told my whole family a million times to NEVER touch my dog like that. she\u2019s a BABY. she doesn\u2019t understand and needs to be taught in a kind way. \n\ni stormed into my room and stormed off into his, not before screaming about never letting the dog near him and texting me about how i don\u2019t appreciate what he does for me. \n\nAITA??? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 14, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 14, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ktNe5MIPD8guBe9q1zzX1CNmMICuev9v", "post_id": "a3w0of", "action": {"description": "getting mad at my boyfriend for talking about jacking off to the thought of an old crush", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for talking about jacking off to the thought of an old crush?", "text": "I was ordering him Christmas gifts and he brought up the christmas party at work last year and he mentioned a girl that I knew he liked and I saw her and she was pretty flirty with him and treated me like I was invisible. So I don\u2019t really like this girl. My mind wandered to when he told me he used to picture having sex with every woman he encountered (yeah literally every woman) for some reason and it made me a bit gloomy as I connected the two. I went quiet but tried to brush it off and he pushed and pushed and pushed until I told him why I was upset even though I didn\u2019t feel the need to bring it up. so he said \u201cwell yeah babe, when you have crushes that\u2019s how you relieve yourself\u201d so I kinda just pushed him off me and yelled \u201cEW! GET OFF ME!\u201d I really don\u2019t normally react like this but that just made my blood boil. I think I might\u2019ve overreacted but I don\u2019t think he should\u2019ve said that... I dunno. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "O1qcWicRQjswqmvMUlJW7VAkYxqFbnjo", "post_id": "apppnq", "action": {"description": "telling my wife an event started an hour before it did", "pronormative_score": 43, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for telling my wife an event started an hour before it did?", "text": "Starting with some context: my wife and I have been together for 11 years, married for 7. We love each other, and do everything together. We're very happy in all other aspects.\n\nThe area of trouble comes from family events (primarily mine, as she makes sure we're always on time for her family). No matter what I do, we're always 1 - 1 1/2 hours late for my family events. There are always numerous excuses, of which I'm understanding. But us being late has become a trope for us within my family.\n\nMy grandparents had their golden anniversary. We were almost 2 hours late, and arrived when they started serving dessert. Sadly, everybody figured it was typical. When it comes to my family, my wife always thinks we have way more time to spare than we do. For the latest incident, we wanted to work out together before going for supper at my parents. We're supposed to show up at 5. I told her \"Hey it's 2pm. We should work out now so we have time to get ready and get there at 5.\" She kept saying I was a hardass and we didn't have to get going until 3 (1hr to work out 1hr to get ready. Never mind the time in between.) Once again we're late.\n\nI've brought it up. I've argued about it. I've tried to fix it. So I don't know what to do with advice that says \"just bring it up and talk.\" \n\nSo, my Bedstemor passed away. Family mourning starts at 5. It was my final straw, and I told my wife it started at 4. The usual routine happened, and we showed up at 5. She was genuinely confused that nobody was calling us out. When we left, I told her what I did. She's been arguing with me for the past few days saying I'm the most distrustful asshole ever. But I know we would have showed up after the ceremony if I didn't do that.\n\nAITA? What should I do?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 42, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 43, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZS06sf6cZdn839ZFGrxdl0EbeTQ5mlQM", "post_id": "b1zyry", "action": {"description": "saying \"what a legend\" at someones Ex", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 6}, "title": "AITA for saying \"what a legend\" at someones Ex", "text": "So i was sitting at this bar and having a drink, i had maybe 3 beers in the gut and overheard this lady and her gay friend talked about how horrible the ladies Ex was. \n\nFrom what i gathered the guy was dating 3  girls at once and when these girls found out about it, they all ganged up and broke with the said man. But the guy got another girl shortly after 2 days posted it on facebook and tag the 3 girls on the photo.\n \nTo which point i exclamed \"oh shit what a Legend\" they heard this, the bartender heard this and the lady stands up and says \"you'all are the same\" and threw her glass of cocktail at me, her gay friend swore and cusses that im an asshole, the bartender swoops in and asked me to leave.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 6, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 6}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "Hbs9FcPC6HUc1XtmHyCPRXWqKRo5ksol", "post_id": "b14n7p", "action": {"description": "telling my mum I don't want to see her", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for telling my mum I don't want to see her?", "text": "So a couple weeks ago, my parents split up, and it did not go down smoothly so there was quite a bit of fallout in my family and the last couple weeks have been pretty tense. My mum has moved out and my dad is away for work right now (home at weekends) so it's just my little sister and I at home right now. We've been trying to get back to normal now and have been speaking to my mum semi-regularly but she has been talking to my sister and I with a horrible attitude and saying nasty hypocritical things about my dad's side of the family (who haven't even done anything wrong). I've already brought this up to her but she continued doing it so a couple nights ago I texted her saying that, as for right now, I don't want to see her or talk to her. She has told my sister that I'm in the wrong about this and that she expects us to support her and be on her side. It just seems that my mum has some sort of god complex and does not accept or acknowledge that she may be in the wrong or that it's her own fault I don't want to to talk to her. So AITA for making this decision? I don't want it to be long term but I don't really know what to do now as she probably will not try to contact me as she's extremely petty, so any advice would be appreciated, thank you!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ZEa4lFR1BaD9EP5Wve6w2Lr8imNPj1n6", "post_id": "9z25yr", "action": {"description": "ignoring an email from an ex who is now dying of a disease that may have caused our issues", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA For ignoring an email from an ex who is now dying of a disease that may have caused our issues?", "text": "3 years ago, I broke up with a girl I had been dating for 8 years. She became extremely controlling and would steal my mail and cancel cabs so I would never leave the house. If I DID make it out, something would always come up like a midnight emergency vet visit that would end up being nothing and costing me hundreds of dollars. She also conspired with our landlord against me and managed to take all of my savings and forced me to leave an amazing job so I could move back in with my mother.  \n\n\nI've now been with a new girl for 2 years who I love very much and had been nothing but supportive as I got back on my feet and we've now lived together for a year. Life hasn't been kind recently, however, and we have both recently experienced injuries, financial struggles, deaths and a very messy parental divorce.  \n\n\nThese events led up to a suicide attempt by my gf a few months ago and my own suicidal thoughts over the last few months, which we are both getting help for. As I was leaving the doctor's office after being told I'm not fit to work for 8 weeks until my own treatment has a chance to affect me, I checked my email and saw one from my ex since she's been blocked for some time.  \n\n\nShe's been diagnosed with MS and there's a critical lesion right at the base of her brain stem that may have been there for up to 10 years. She's also apologizing for being the way she was while we were together. I don't know much about MS, but I know mood changes and cognitive impairment are symptoms.  \n\n\nRegardless of whether or not her actions were directly caused by it or not, I feel like there's something I should do. At the same time, I'm really not in a healthy mind space and adding this situation could only possibly make things worse. Best case scenario, we make amends and I watch someone I cared for and loved for a long time slowly die. worst case, it's another one of her insanely manipulative tricks and I'd just be inviting more bullshit into my life. Despite that, ignoring such an extreme cry for help is very much not the kind of person I am and ignoring her REALLY makes me feel like an asshole", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "TbuWGcwTMUbIBop5mxuFXjtxHo6Mvo52", "post_id": "b52wjl", "action": {"description": "asking a dude to put some deodorant on in front of some people", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 12}, "title": "AITA for asking a dude to put some deodorant on in front of some people?", "text": "So this happened today. I went studying on my University for my tests this week. I was just minding my own business in the study room when some dude sat next to me. He was like a pretty heavy dude who smelled terribly, like really sweaty. To the point that I could not longer concentrate on my books. So after some time I asked the guy to put on some deodorant. I also said that if he didn\u2019t have any I would have some for him.  After this a lot of people looked a bit weird to me. I thought it was completely normal but some people didn\u2019t think that. So was I an asshole or not? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 10, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 12}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "rq6NZrBdU7WumkN4xMUskt7OVQlktosh", "post_id": "b3l3y3", "action": {"description": "starting asking for gas money", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA if I started asking for gas money?", "text": "Background info: My brother (21M) and my friend (24F) don't have cars and don't drive. My brother is working on getting his license. My friend has had her learner's permit a couple times but she's working through some other stuff so it's not her top priority. My brother's at university, the same one my friend and I both graduated from.\n\nI (23F) have a car, so whenever I do something with either of them I'm the one who drives (obviously). \n\nThe three of us are taking a trip together, about 6 hours of driving total. My friend left some stuff with her aunt that she wants to pick up, so she asked if I could pick it up for her next time I'm there. I'm dropping my brother back at college after his spring break and I asked if she wanted to come with us.\n\nWIBTA if I asked them to pitch in this time (and for future trips like this)? I don't want to spring an unexpected expense on them. I've never asked them for gas money before and they've never offered. Neither of them has a job and I'm working full time, which is why I'm not sure if I WBTA. But it's not a trip I would make by myself and I feel like they should be contributing in some way.", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2C4O0SF02IRFgU9eDv8Rqz5YfYesyw5c", "post_id": "aeb2o9", "action": {"description": "not letting a friend hit my wax cart", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA for not letting a friend hit my wax cart?", "text": "So basically I had a cart and didn't tell him and then he's tripping lol but I was running low.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "4VYOtOzpIQiIHAFxCermB20OWbXDQD2y", "post_id": "aihwdp", "action": {"description": "ratting out my close friend for not doing any work on a project", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA if I ratted out my close friend for not doing any work on a project?", "text": "FTP, LTL, on mobile, sorry in advance.\n\n\nI am in a group project with 4 others, two of which are in my immediate circle of friends, let\u2019s call them T and G. One group member, who is new to my school and not very well liked (we\u2019ll call her B), has not done any work on the project. My other group mates and I gave her plenty of notice about what her role was and when it had to be completed by, but I ended up having to finish it for her (I have done the majority of the work on this project so far). T reported it to the teacher, and B will most likely get in trouble as she is about to do it again for the second portion of this project. I know this does not make me an asshole, as she really has done no work. \n\nMy other close friend, G, has also not done any work on the project. She was assigned a portion of the first half of the project, and I ended up completing it as well. She took on no role in the second half of the project. It was not reported because she is best friends with T, and T did not want to get G in trouble. Like I said, I have done most of the work on this project while G and B have not done anything and T has made some contributions with my help (my other group mate is great though). So WIBTA if I reported G for not doing any work, even though she is one of my closest friends?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "H0pzHHV5yifMnNEWV33Tv1TSUfj3D6KX", "post_id": "avlwuu", "action": {"description": "being a competitive driver", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for being a competitive driver?", "text": "Now let me preface this by disclaiming that I'm not a hoon: I don't drag race, I try to stick to the speed limits, etc. Where my \"competitiveness\" manifests itself (in terms of driving) is not allowing other cars to merge in front of me.\n\nDon't get me wrong, in some circumstances I will let people in e.g. if someone's entering a motorway from an on ramp, I'm not going to force them to come to a complete stop or crash into a guardrail. I just find it frustrating when you do the right thing (wait in a line of traffic) and some d*ckhead cuts in line by zooming up a lane (they know won't take them where they need to be) just to stop before an intersection to merge at the front of the que (essentially buggering up two lanes of traffic).\n\nI will admit, part of it is me being territorial - why should someone who's spent less time on a road than me be entitled to merge in front of me? Clearly they're TA in this situation... right?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 7, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "XmGzKiWAzVgk0VmqlLFDKJo7qCrvUmQx", "post_id": "a9ffq2", "action": {"description": "closing off my dad from my life", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for closing off my dad from my life?", "text": "When I was a kid I really looked up to him, but around 3 years ago he started dating someone that is way too young for him and also someone I know personally. Lets just say she\u2019s not a really good person. Ever since then he\u2019s been like a different person. They got married, had a kid, and now are having another one. I don\u2019t talk to any of them at all, though they do try to talk to me occasionally. I just feel bad for never interacting with them especially on Christmas. He is a completely different person than the one I used to look up to, and I know it\u2019s because of his wife because he\u2019s basically her bitch. He does everything she says no matter what, doesn\u2019t listen to reason, and whatever she says goes no matter how stupid it is. I have a deep hatred for her and I know i shouldn\u2019t let it affect my relationship with my dad but she\u2019s always around him. So basically AITA for never talking to him/spending time with him because of his wife?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "jugvmAnQguPI2QaTBUOAvXvmPjIkfFuM", "post_id": "afqnf1", "action": {"description": "I'm pissing at my bf for trying to have sex with me", "pronormative_score": 13, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA because I\u2019m pissed at my bf for trying to have sex with me.", "text": "I\u2019m a 26F and he\u2019s a 28M and I\u2019m 13 weeks pregnant. A bit of back story is I\u2019m currently out of work on disability due to issues with pregnancy. I have Hyperemesis Gravidarum which is basically morning sickness to an extreme. I lost 7-10lbs my second trimester am on IV zofran and oral phenergan, I have midline IV inserted in my upper arm. I spend so much of time nauseous and dizzy it\u2019s ridiculous. I am running myself ragged to weekly drs appts. I\u2019m so tired. \n\nNow my bf likes to have sex a lot and this has become an issue since we literally have went from sex on a daily basis to every 2-3 days. Today has been 5 days and he asked me can we have sex if I was feeling up to it and I said maybe. I told him essentially I don\u2019t feel like I\u2019m having a bad or good day today and that I would be down to at least cuddle and watch tv at the least. I had already explained that I was tired and had gotten minimal sleep last night. I have my son every other week and I had him all day by myself today which is in and of itself exhausting because he\u2019s 2 and busy af. \n\nMy bf has taken on a lot with the household and with helping take care of my son. He basically takes care of me and my kid right now but he even helps me shower because it\u2019s hard for me to do on my own with the midline in. He works for the DOD and he\u2019s 2 weeks away from being affected by this government shut down. I understand his frustrations and am always an ear to talk to plus this affects our household. He complains about needing to relax and how sex helps him with that. I tell him to go to the gym or get a hobby. \n\nBasically the things that he did and pissed me off was I had told him to ask me to have sex once and let it be that. He had a habit of asking several times or asking me how I felt with the sole intention of getting laid. Which he knows he\u2019s an asshole for. Today he asked me if I was feeling up to it and I said not really. He then later on the evening while we were the kitchen came behind me and tried to pull my pants down. I slapped his hands off of me (not hard) and called him a dick. I\u2019m literally fuming & I just don\u2019t understand what he doesn\u2019t get. It seems so selfish to me to look at your very sick and pregnant gf and constantly try to have sex with them even when they\u2019ve explicitly told you no. \n\nTLDR; Basically I\u2019m wondering am I the asshole for not wanting to have sex with my bf even though he\u2019s stressed or should I just bite the bullet and take one for the team even though I\u2019m literally the furthest thing from horny. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 13, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 13, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "HrDpc9JoORlIFpyUfBRCkrdViWouDcIe", "post_id": "aoy9jj", "action": null, "title": "AITA Got into a big fight with my 'we live in society' 'depression is a choice' aunt. Got blocked by half my family.", "text": "Second post yay lol. I got into a big fight with my aunt today and I am not sure how to feel so I figured I would turn to reddit. The thing you have to understand about my aunt is that she is very 'woke'. She posts super 'deep' things on facebook all day that basically are all just variations of 'phone bad, book good', 'depression is a choice' and 'selfies make you a bad person'.  A lot of these ideals run pretty deep in my family and because of that I was not diagnosed with Depression, Anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder until I was a teenager and demanded help. Needless to say it is a sore spot.\n\nSince then my aunt does not really talk to me in a nice way. Every once in a blue moon she will tag me in some sparkly facebook meme about how 'family is forever'. That is the extent of our nice relationship. More commonly she tags me a lot in pretty offensive memes. Lots are different variations of 'depression isn't real medicine is evil just go for a walk in the woods'. She also tags me a lot in memes where people are on their tech and missing out on life because she knows my passion is computers. Since coming out I have even gotten a few 'If we turn our backs on God he will turn his back on us' memes. I try to ignore it because besides tagging me in the stuff she isn't really that aggressive about it.\n\nWell this morning I woke up and when I checked my Kindle the first thing I saw was a picture she tagged me in. It was a Jesus saves meme.  I mean it would have been whatever but she also typed a bunch. To paraphrase she basically said that my cousin (Her daughter) was really particular about stuff and anxious too but that she got over it and I could too. She said that if I learned to let love in my heart and let her be my aunt (Referring to the fact that I constantly forget to call her aunt) she could help me. She offered to take walks with me because 'it will fix me right up' and told me I could 'find my way back' and be 'a good person again'. Keep in mind I have never done anything wrong to this woman.\n\nI lost it a bit and texted a very long message to her where I pointed out that she thinks social media is evil but only ever bothers to contact me via memes on facebook. I asked why she always posts about how evil being online is and how good books are when she told my mom to beat my butt when I was a kid for reading Harry Potter. I told her that I could not just stop taking my meds and that walking off mental illness was impossible. I told her that with family like mine I didn't need enemies and that she had to stop comparing me to her perfect daughter. I told her off for tagging me and saying stuff like that publicly.  I said I always forgot to call her aunt because she only ever contacts me once in a blue moon to be mean to me so I don't think of her that way. I told her that I didn't care what she thought about me because she never showed me enough love to be important to me.Then I rounded it out saying that she needs to lay of on me being gay because 'If it was not for Alan Turing a gay man you would not be able to bug me about any of this online'.\n\nI didn't cuss or call names(outside of calling her a judgmental hypocrite and mean). It took me over an hour to type (It was a bit more elegant than what I posted above). I was blocked on social media right away and she messaged back that I never need to speak to her again. Her children all messaged me within the hour calling me some pretty nasty names.  I got a few messaged from uncles, cousins that all blocked me. My friend who is on her social media told me she posted screen shots on facebook and made a bit to do about how I never talk to anyone and am 'always alone' and she understand why now.\n\nOn one hand I feel like she is the asshole for always being so mean and judgmental when I have only ever tried to be nice. On the other I feel like I am the asshole for basically accusing her of never loving me. Like everyone took her side which must mean I was the jerk but my family is very much hive minded and they hate anyone different so very likely no matter what was said they would have taken her side. I don't know. What do you guys think?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 9, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 9, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iqArzeDPrAugjOxaVL47C3ZycN1gNveA", "post_id": "9u8mqi", "action": {"description": "bailing out on an attempt to be friends", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for bailing out on an attempt to be friends?", "text": "Mobile so sorry for the formatting. I\u2019ll try make this as clear as possible but a lot happened. This takes place over maybe a year and a half.\n\nI (25F) met D(26F) off tinder. We chatted for awhile and after roughly 2 months she came over real late one night. Didn\u2019t hook up but kept hanging out and slowly started hooking up and seeing each other. I had come out of a fairly serious relationship so we both agreed to take things slow. D would make a lot of jokes about me never being ready to be in a relationship because I was pretty brutally cheated on. At the time it seemed like she was feeling out the potential of eventually getting serious.\n\n6 months later, I do a cute present and ask her out and she says she\u2019s not sure she ever wants to be in a relationship. We continue to see each other casually but things have changed and there\u2019s \u2018tension\u2019 Another 3 months pass and she wants to just be friends 3 days after her birthday. I\u2019m hurt and ask for space. Couple of weeks later we have tickets to a gig and we decided to go together as friends. D finds out I\u2019ve been on a date and sends a bunch of love hearts to this new girl and that girl never speaks to me again. That night we also end up hooking up again.\n\n2 months later she isn\u2019t sure she wants to keep seeing me and again I get over it and start seeing someone else eventually. She calls me late one night and wants to start seeing me again. Can you see the pattern yet? I\u2019m an idiot and chose her. \n\nAt this point, maybe a month or two later, she makes it very clear we can both see other people casually. I meet T(27F). T is kind, loving and so fucking stunning. We have an instant attraction and so much chemistry for two people who couldn\u2019t be more different. We kiss but because of D I\u2019m not sure I want to pursue it.\n\nD decides she wants to just be friends, for real this time. I begin seeing T and happy. D and I are fighting so I kind of just get to the point where it isn\u2019t fun anymore. We can\u2019t hang out because D\u2019s new girlfriend doesn\u2019t trust her around me (so much for not wanting a girlfriend, they had been in contact the entire time D and I were seeing each other)\n\nI tell D it\u2019s time to call it a day and I want to be no contact. Bail out and delete all her social media and all of her friends. I put all mine on private and happily date T. \n\nI know I probably got back into the dating pool too soon every time but we were never in a relationship and she cut things off every time.\nD has some mental health issues and I was always understanding or at least trying my best to accommodate whatever she needed.\n\nAm I the asshole for bailing out on this attempted friendship?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "OK2pVH6IcXnMQ7vFL0fJR5dSnTJ29Q6Y", "post_id": "b3yg4p", "action": null, "title": "AITA Roomate", "text": "My wife and I live with her friend, who's is currently renting a room with us. Her room is attached to ours and she has to go through it to get to hers. I love my wife and have no romantic feelings for the friend. But her friend often walks around in revealing clothes or barely any clothes. She is attractive and after seeing this all day it gets me a bit worked up. With my wife's work schedule, she is in the medical field, I don't see her very often and she just sleeps when she is home. I don't want to do anything with the friend, her personality leaves some to be desired. But they act like you keep I am in the wrong for getting turned on after seeing this all day.\n\nI am all for equality and women can wear what they want but if the way you dress bothers someone, I feel like the considerate thing to do is address it. I would get in trouble if I was barely dresses in front of her. I feel like they took the equality thing to far to their side. Am I wrong?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 2, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "UJBwAOINJuyL9LPsFafITIOCJtbPdXnc", "post_id": "b24y9a", "action": {"description": "revising \"too much\"", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for revising \"too much\"?", "text": "Little bit of backstory: I have major exams coming up known as the GCSEs. I have 8 weeks until my first exam and whilst I try hard in (most) of my classes I haven't been revising as much as I should have been and so for the past 2 weeks I've been roughly doing 80 hours a week of revision. It's a lot but I honestly don't mind so long as I'm left to do my thing.\n\n\nSo it starts with me just doing some physics, there's quite a lot to do so I probably sat there doing it for 3 or so hours, with a little bit of YouTube inbetween. I have a dog who obviously needs walking, and instead of asking one of my 3 sisters, one of which has the same exams as me and was sat around doing fuck all, I was asked. And this is a regular occurrence because my sister's \"cant\" for some reason. I'm annoyed but I agreed to do it once I've finished my work. I was asked at 2 and had finished at 6 so started getting ready to walk him.\n\n\nThis is where my mum goes on a rant about how \"it's too late now\" (barely started going dark) and that \"I always pretend my work is more important than everyone elses\". Bearing in mind that work was a Netflix marathon for one sister, less than an hour of homework for the other and 10 mins of carrying shopping in for the other. Im honestly just stressed about exams and am trying to get enough prep in yet it's hard when I'm being berated for doing things on my own timeframe.\n\nI guess my question is am I being the asshole over these expectations or am I reasonable to keep doing what I am doing?", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XOUgvKC1NKAPWmvGa2ZI6ZuqPCBmHirA", "post_id": "abmf5s", "action": {"description": "ghosting my annoying friend", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 3}, "title": "AITA the asshole for ghosting my annoying friend?", "text": "So here's the deal. I made a friend at school (I'm 18/M) and she slowly started getting really annoying. She always texts me, always asks me where I am in order to join me (clingy), she always complains about everything, etc. We've known eachother for 2 months; the \"friendship\" is still fresh. Towards the end of the semester, I couldn't handle her annoying personality anymore, so I decided that I would ghost her once our exams would be over. So yeah she's been texting me wondering why I'm not replying, etc. I don't feel like making a mess out of this situation hence why I'm taking the passive aggressive route in order to get rid of her. I wouldn't do this if I had known her for a long time, but our friendship is still recent.\n\nThe girl I'm seeing says ITA, but I don't think so. Am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 3, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 3}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KToLy5g4Fq2J6lbM3YpLOUmxYNm9MsCs", "post_id": "b4acpw", "action": {"description": "not wanting to go to the funeral of a distant relative who I never really liked/cared for", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for not wanting to go to the funeral of a distant relative who I never really liked/cared for?", "text": "So, my Grandmother's brother (so Grand-Uncle?) died in his 80's yesterday, and while I think it's sad that that happened, I very pressured to go to his funeral on Sunday and it's making me feel like a huge Asshole for not wanting to go.\n\nSo, for context, I've maybe seen this guy and his family a few times throughout my entire life (I am only 20), and it's not like they lived that far away from the rest of the family. They never went to any of my birthdays, or any of the family dinners during holidays (except for the occasional one or two at some nice restaurants)\n\nThey're very rich, and pretty much isolated themselves from most of the other family, however when he went to the hospital, everyone started acting like he was the crown fucking jewel of the family. My mother drove like an hour there and an hour back out of her way to the hospital like 3 or 4 consecutive days in a row, shipping relatives back and forth out of the goodness of her heart. Even though she never had that close relationship to them, she still did all of that because she felt she had too.\n\nI tried to explain to her that what she did was more than any person in her position should be expected to do, but she thinks that being \"in a family\" is one of the most important things. \n\nI just feel like funerals are meant for direct relatives (people who I actually know in life not \"technically\" direct relatives), people who I was close to, or people that are at the funeral to support them, and none of that applies to me imo\n\nAll I've ever known about him and his family is that they seclude themselves, are rich, and that they never really did much family stuff. The only reason I even consider going is because apparently the rest \"of the family\"(what are we the mob?) will be there and I should show my support for *them*\n\nAlso, for some further context, I'm trans, in the closet still, and super paranoid about going anywhere/doing a anything with people that knew me. Funerals are pretty much the worst thing for me to go to mentally.\n\nIt feels horrible trying to tell my mom how I feel and explaining to her why I don't want to go, but now I think she thinks I'm some kind of monster for not wanting to go. If this was something that took like 30 minutes, just in and out, I would probably do that, but I think everyone is expecting me to go and it's tearing me apart mentally.\n\nAm I the asshole for not wanting to go? \n\nPlease please ask any further questions if it will help, I'm just kind of word spewing on my phone right now so I'm not sure how clear I'm coming across. Thank you.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "iFWiPyoy8EnXorSNsMYJI7Dwm5JqlR2X", "post_id": "avflcl", "action": {"description": "not letting a classmate copy my homework", "pronormative_score": 10, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting a classmate copy my homework?", "text": "So this happened around the 6th and 7th of february I got messaged by a classmate who I talked to from time to time but wasn't a friend or anything of the sort, she sent me a message just saying hello so I just ignored it thinking she just wanted to kill some time. On the next day she sent me another message and asked if I could send a pic of my homework because she couldn't understand what to answer, a little background on her is that she is one of the laziest of the group she rarely attends classes and when she does she arrives late and makes up excuses. So I know that she didn't want to put effort into doing the homework. I end up telling her no and that she could use the pictures of the presentations were sent to the group's chat, she just called me an asshole and stopped texting me.\n\nAm I the asshole? Tbh I think I wasn't but she and her friends seem to think I am. ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 10, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 10, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "ExcksvtVD4nx1D6qiirWpMzUtSnxUuno", "post_id": "9t9i2n", "action": {"description": "not going trick or treating", "pronormative_score": 3, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not going trick or treating?", "text": "So I\u2019m on a diet, and I was considering not going trick or treating with my friends. On Halloween, at school, I told one of those friends that I probably wasn\u2019t going to go, but they wanted me to go. I forgot to tell the other friend. Instead of trick or treating, I went for a nice walk with my family. I kind of feel bad because my friends thought I would go but I didn\u2019t show up, but I enjoyed the walk better than trick or treating. So yeah, with all that said, AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 3, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "s2XdliD8gjB3oKjNrrzx6o2kN0KX6DM8", "post_id": "ammwc1", "action": {"description": "commenting that I didn't fully believe an r/entitledparents Post", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA For Commenting that I Didn't Fully Believe an r/Entitledparents Post?", "text": "So, basically, there's been a lot of fake stuff flooding r/entitledparents lately. That's really the only background anyone needs to know.  \n\n\nSo, I go onto r/entitledparents, and there's a lot of good stuff as usual. However, I come across one, in particular, that mentions a police officer supporting the OC in the decision to send the EP to jail. I liked this story and supported their decision, however, because a police officer stated in a somewhat happy tone that it was the right decision to do so, I didn't fully believe it.  \n\n\nSo, maybe I shouldn't have, but I comment that although I enjoyed the story (which I genuinely did), I couldn't fully believe a supposedly responsible official like a cop would say something like that with friendly enthusiasm. Oh boy, did people get to it quickly. They commented that \"Police officers have feelings\" and that \"The Reddit detectives were here\". I'm paraphrasing this stuff, by the way. Now, I completely agreed with these things and made the point that it WAS completely plausible for the officer to say that, but that I just found it hard to believe. I said that, if I was in the wrong, the OC would know so, and that in that case, I give my sincerest apologies. People continued to reply and post more messages about how I wasn't aware that officers are people. So, to avoid any more conflict (and getting upset enough to reply that I was just stating an opinion and made it clear that although I had doubts the story wasn't true, I still believed that it was plausible) I deleted my reply to the post.  \n\n\nMaybe I shouldn't have posted my opinion in the first place and it could've come out as too forward and rude (I didn't intend it that way). I acknowledge that was on me, and I just didn't realize something so little could make people so upset. However, I don't think it required a negative response to something that I meant to be polite, at least after clarifying once seeing their responses.   \n\n\nSo, you guys out there, you've never disappointed me. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "xlXH1VMi6uuyLCTAjDMTTvRmUy0AN1n3", "post_id": "ac71mt", "action": {"description": "not wanting my boyfriend to shave his head", "pronormative_score": 8, "contranormative_score": 4}, "title": "AITA for not wanting my boyfriend to shave his head?", "text": "My boyfriend of around one year has been growing out his hair the entire time we\u2019ve been together and I love his hair so much. He has long dark brown ringlets that frame his face beautifully and he\u2019s been working for a long time to get them to the right length and basically in summary he\u2019s just always cared a ton about his hair. Now out of the blue he\u2019s decided he wants to shave it all off and won\u2019t even compromise for a cut. I\u2019m more worried about him than I am upset about it because hair grows back and that\u2019s not a huge deal however the fact that he\u2019s always cared so much about his hair and now he just wants to shave it all off without even considering just shortening it has made me worried it\u2019s a little deeper than that. I\u2019ve been trying to hold him off and compromising but I think I may have accidentally made him think that I won\u2019t find him attractive anymore if he doesn\u2019t have his hair (which isn\u2019t true, but I understand how he may have gotten the idea because of how I\u2019ve been trying to stop him from doing it). \n\nAITA for trying to hold him off just a little so he can think about it? Should I just let it go and let him do as he pleases or am I right to want him to think about it a little more?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 4, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 7, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 8, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "IuqyQ6DuaWhRn1wgvpuZGY3UrLsBNfgK", "post_id": "azkk60", "action": null, "title": "AITA: My dad poured my entire soda away because he said I drink too much...", "text": "Background info: 21, lives in dorm on the weekdays and goes home on the weekends to do laundry, I\u2019m currently on spring break, and my parents and I have had back and forth arguments about my weight (I\u2019ve gained 40 pounds since three years ago when I entered college). I\u2019m trying to start exercising again with help from trainers at university, but my parents don\u2019t respect my efforts and keep putting me down which is Not positive encouragement.\n\nJust got out of seeing Captain Marvel (it was awesome btw). I gave my dad my large soda (which was 75% full) when I went to the bathroom to wash my hands after the movie. When I came back out, he had poured out the entire large soda and was refilling it with his Diet Coke. I told him that I wasn\u2019t done with it and it was still mostly full, and he said I \u201cdrink too much.\u201d I literally rarely drink soda anymore except for when I go out with my parents... He said, \u201cYou get free refills because this is a large.\u201d Well, he wasted the first drink, anyway, by pouring it all out when I wasn\u2019t done, so... Anyway, I get I\u2019m overweight, but like.... he took me out to the movies, am I not allowed to catch a break when we go out???", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 3, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 4, "INFO": 0}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1SoRBpYNQgHwT9TDOBgxeEji58xMyh85", "post_id": "abk1qw", "action": {"description": "hating my younger cousin coming over", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for hating my younger cousin coming over", "text": "TLDR 11 year old cousin comes down all the time even though not welcome. Family don't want to say anything for fear of causing arguments and rocking the boat. It's annoying me so much. \n\nAll our family live close and are close relationship wise to each other. \n\nMy daughter is 18 months. My partner works shifts so most evenings I spend at my parents house (my nan and 4 younger brothers also live there) so I'm not home alone. I bath and get my daughter ready for bed there and I take her straight to bed when we get home. I get on really well with them all and my mum tells me how much she loves having us both down.\n\nHere lies the problem, my second cousin who's only 10/11, let's call her A.  She's obsessed with my daughter and comes down ALL the time when I'm there. If her mum (my cousin, I'll call her B) drives past and sees my car she's straight in. The problem is she takes over with my daughter, disregards what I tell her and races to do things before I can. Nothing serious but it annoys me so much. Like changing her she'll 'help' out and I can't even look after my own daughter, or answering the phone, or helping herself to food. We went out to a restaurant today and I said don't take her out of the high chair as I knew she'd paddy and run wild and said as a compromise you can hold her five mins before we go. She didn't listen (with approval for her own mother, B) and so my daughter plays up, she gets bored of her and I'm the one dealing with a tantrum that could have been avoided.  I feel like a shitty person as she obviously loves her and loves playing with her so much but she just really irritates me. \n\nA's own mums allows this. Today again for example B dropped my mum back off at the house. A saw my car was already there. My mum said not tonight A. A said is that cause you've got lots to do? My mum replied yes I have. Then A said to B, oh I'm going see you later.  When my mum expressively said no.\n\nOver Christmas I've hosted my family at my house. B dropped A off soon as she realised they were at mines. She spent all day Christmas day (I didn't even get to escape at Christmas!!).\n\nTo top things off she's always evasdropping on conversations and reporting back to B.\n\nMy mum is too scared to say we don't want Bs kid as it'll cause arguments so she just accepts it. None of my brother's want A down all the time either. \n\nI'm so close to snapping but then I remember she's just a kid. But feel like her mum, B,  should say no to her and not send her down all the time.\n\nIATA for finding a ten year old stupidly annoying and wanting to say something but risk a family feud?!\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "qQLE4Ir1nW6FQfgSh4h93CZN4mvZPbrb", "post_id": "b1vudy", "action": {"description": "wanting my parents to pay me back", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "WIBTA for wanting my parents to pay me back?", "text": "recently, i lent my my parents some money because they were tight due to an overdue bill. however, it\u2019s been a couple of weeks since then and my parents owe me a combined $200. they\u2019ve also been paid since then, so i\u2019m not trying to ask them for money they don\u2019t have. this doesn\u2019t mean i\u2019m ungrateful for anything, i just would like some if not all of my money back. i would be more than willing to ask for less from them as well. i feel like an asshole for even thinking about asking, but i currently don\u2019t have a job and won\u2019t for a while, so $200 is a lot of money for me. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "1YGiRrmSceBidbuJyhzsHLRhzDMOZLz3", "post_id": "9yo4g1", "action": {"description": "calling my (former) friend a thief and cutting her out of my life", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for calling my (former) friend a thief and cutting her out of my life?", "text": "AITA? \n\nJust over two weeks ago, I moved in with a friend (Barb) because I needed a place to crash for about a month. I've known Barb for about 8 months, and she offered me a place to stay with no hesitation. She's been a pretty good friend to me, but like the rest of us isn't without her faults - she's got a history of some very creative lies about situations that (in my opinion) are very obviously lies and don't even need to be made up. \n\nA few days ago, I was checking my bank accounts online and noticed a transaction ~$380 from an airline. I originally thought nothing of it, but began to have suspicions the more I thought of it - Barb has previously mentioned that this is her favorite airline and she only flies with them.\n\nThe same day, I left for work and noticed another large transaction ~$550 on my account from a fruit-based technology company. I don't have any products from this company, but Barb owns several. Throughout the day, I continue to monitor my account. Another transaction of ~$160 comes through, this time from \"PayPal [Barb's first name_last name]\". \n\nI immediately called my bank to report the transactions as fraudulent, and they also reported a ~$100 transaction to Sprint wireless (which is Barb's carrier; I have another mobile carrier). The agent on the line told me that all of the transactions were done online, between the previous night and that morning. \n\nFast-forward to today and I have been keeping silent while securing housing elsewhere, not sure if I should file a police report and risk retaliation or settle for having the bank return my funds, move out, and cut ties with Barb. She left town for the holidays this morning; and texted me asking if something was wrong because I've been acting distant the past few days.\n\nI responded that I knew she had taken my credit card (I naively leave my wallet on the kitchen table while sleeping) and made many transactions on it, that I was angry and feel betrayed, and that I will be moving out by the end of the week.\n\nHer many responses include that she's offended I would accuse her of stealing from me, that she never borrows money from anyone, has been independent for many years, etc. She's even offered to repay \"however much I think she stole from me.\" However, because of the circumstances and her history of not being truthful, I find it hard to believe her (although if I'm completely honest, I'd like this situation to have another explanation).\n\nSo - am I the asshole?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "M3I0Iyc8JMxpyuWX9RTj6FjT4hqVlUJ6", "post_id": "a6w6dc", "action": {"description": "not letting my cousin walk through my room", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not letting my cousin walk through my room?", "text": "I'm a dude. I'm currently on an early Christmas trip with my family. We are staying in an Air B&B. The room I'm sleeping in has two doors: one to the hallway, one to the kitchen. My cousin (teenage, roughly ten years younger than me) keeps trying to walk through my room to the kitchen instead of walking an extra 10 seconds down the hall to the other kitchen door. \n\nI told her I'd like her to stop trucking through my room, but she insists I'm being unreasonable. She says it's unfair that I'm making her walk all the way down the hall to get to the kitchen. I told her I wanted my privacy, but she doesn't care. \n\nNow, I'm not the type of guy to just hang out in the nude, but I do tend to hang loose a bit when I'm relaxing. In fact, the first time she came in uninvited, I wasn't prepared for people to barge in unannounced. I was (unintentionally) showing some hefty crack, so she got a facefull of SAVMikado barge. I'm fairly modest, so I was embarrassed. She thought it was hilarious and didn't know why I was upset. \n\nI could try to make sure I'm not flashing when I'm in my room, but there aren't typically young people in my household, so I'm just not used to a bunch of gremlins romping around the house willynilly. I feel like my privacy is being invaded since she thinks she can just barge through at any time. \n\nIs it unreasonable to want my privacy?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "PmcSFKjffGmkTrPJvja30oBk90OqgMfB", "post_id": "9z0b6h", "action": null, "title": "AITA? Disowned my grandmother.", "text": "​\n\nAITA for disowning my grandmother?\n\n​\n\nSome background: My grandmother had 7 kids. In order of baby daddy:\n\nAunt D (Who we didn't know about until this year)\n\nMy Mother\n\nAunt L\n\n4 uncles\n\nMy grandmother is a  *mess*. She has bipolar disorder (not to say that everyone with bipolar disorder is a mess) among other undiagnosed issues and throughout my mother's childhood she would go on and off her meds randomly. 'On' periods would be ultra-religious, meaning that girls couldn't wear pants and they went to Church 3-5 times a week, she would make sure they were fed.  'Off' periods would mean drug abuse, physical abuse, and leaving her kids to be watched by people who were sexual abuse/physical abuse/neglect threats. Mind you, she mostly abused my mother, the oldest, and my Aunt L, the second oldest. They'd be beaten up because a neighbor kid pissed her off or because some lady at the supermarket was too slow with her check out process.\n\n​\n\nMy mother moved out when she was 16  in the middle of the night, emancipating herself and getting an apartment above a bar by lying about her age and working full nights while also attending class and then graduating high school.\n\n​\n\nMind you, she got better by the time I was born (mom was 20). My mother still has to take care of  her brothers for most of her pregnancy.  She is basically their mother at this point.  She feels responsibility  for making sure they're okay, especially the younger two who have to take meds for issues they have (probably inherited from grandmother).\n\n​\n\nWhile I think that all of this is obviously awful and she clearly only had kids to have servants and welfare money, I understand that she is seriously mentally ill and she needs help. I could have kept her at arms length but remained polite if this was all it was.\n\n​\n\nThe *reason* that I disown her is because when uncle #2 was  14 y/o, he faked sick to get out of school.  Grandmother left the house,  he watched TV in the living room.  She came back and he pretended to be asleep on the couch. When he \"woke up\" he saw that the man that my grandmother had brought back with her was just *staring* at him.  Uncle #2 got a bad vibe.\n\nBecause of this, he  investigated his mother's guest \"creep dude\", also known as CD from here on out, and found out that he was a convicted pedophile. He had a sexual assault against a minor under the age of 10 on his record, I still don't know the exact details.\n\nHe was extra vigilant with his younger brothers and didn't say anything to Grandmother because she wouldn't believe him. It wasn't until he woke up and found CD **in his bedroom** that he told my mother.\n\nMy mother called CPS on her mother and CPS said \"your kids or your pedophile\" (she also lived across the street from an elementary school and was letting him stay there with her). She chose her pedophile. The CPS lady legit cried to my mother, who was only 27 at this point, and told her that she could take as any of her brothers as she could handle. My mom couldn't just choose some brothers over the others, she she ended up taking care of 6 kids (me, my sister, 4 uncles) in a 3 bedroom, one bathroom government owned housing unit. This lasted 5 months until their father (the nicest man ever, who didn't know what was going on) could get them.\n\nP. S. She married the pedophile a whole year later.\n\nP.P.S. When my mother had the uncles, my grandmother brought the pedophile to our front door to meet me and my sister (both about the age of the girl he raped).\n\n​\n\nAgain, she's ill. But how can I trust someone like that to be around me or people I love?\n\nAnd now, the only contact she has with us is when she texts my mother, a lesbian (came out when I was 10),  bible verses that say she's going to hell.\n\nUncle #2 lets her watch his kids. Alone. At her home.  He understands our apprehension and the fact that Aunt L and my mother don't want to be a part of her life, but Uncle #2's wife doesn't seem to understand it and it's frustrating. That woman is not my family and she could get your kids seriously hurt.\n\n​\n\nI saw her at a grocery store recently and she didn't recognize until we were passing each other. She stopped and said hello, but I didn't even look at her and instead walked past without a word.\n\n​\n\nAm I the asshole? She is mentally ill.", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 7, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 7, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "XiBfekIORjs9ZwcO08lawCMayo529LLK", "post_id": "b67g0g", "action": {"description": "dancing around naked instead of having sex with who was supposed to be my hookup", "pronormative_score": 29, "contranormative_score": 23}, "title": "AITA for dancing around naked instead of having sex with who was supposed to be my hookup?", "text": "Okay, I know this sounds crazy. People will accuse me of making shit up, but its all true. Please also try NOT TO LAUGH either, because it's a tad embarassing and also crazy.\n\nSo, I (21M) know this girl (20F) for 2 months now at Uni and I know for a fact she likes me. I could tell when we first met at a party that she wanted to hook up with me, unfortunately I didn't hook up with her then due to other things that happened that night (got beaten up) and since then I've been hella busy, but I have been texting her back and fourth and I know she's down to fuck. \n\nIf anything the waiting made her MORE desperate to get it done and dusted.\n\nSo I went out the other day on a night out and I know she was also going out to thar same club. **Important info - I took alcohol AND also drugs. Smoked a weird strand of weed.**\n\nSo I feel really weirdly buzzed and go out. I see her at the club and we start dancing, then making out. So I suggest going back to hers and she agrees. From this point on, I lost my memory. Maybe I was spiked again? (was picking up random drinks in the club).\n\nSo I wake up with no memory of what happened. I check my phone and see texts from her calling me \"Fucking asshole.\"\n\nShit. I get intense anxiety after that. So I wait a few hours to calm down and call her and ask what I did. She said \"You don't remember?\" and I say no. \n\nShe explains that once we got back to hers, we get naked and make out. As I reach for my condom, I throw it on the floor, get up and start dancing naked. Then I start spinning around and singing \"Pump Up the Jam\". She then promptly tells me to get the fuck out and I leave.\n\nI'm absolutely hysterical but also gobsmacked. How is this possible? What drugs did I take? It was just weed mixed with alcohol....unless it was laced weed or something.....AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 23, "OTHER": 12, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 17, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 29, "WRONG": 23}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "tVmSaEuP5TPEYlEC0jkXsok33Uvw8yCL", "post_id": "9teiaf", "action": {"description": "making my customer pay for something small", "pronormative_score": 11, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for making my customer pay for something small?", "text": "I work retail, night shift, at a convenience store/gas station. We happen to carry donuts, though they're provided daily by another company. \n\nLast night, this customer comes in, and she immediately goes to the donuts, grabs one, and comes to the counter. I'm not that busy at the moment, and she gets there before eating it (not always the case, unfortunately). She digs out a coupon for the donut from her purse.\n\nThe coupon, I'll quickly mention, is a store coupon linked to our rewards card program. It's only valid for the card holder that the coupon is linked to. Which, logically, requires the card to be used to redeem said coupon.\n\nSo, I ask her for her rewards card, and she says she doesn't have it. I say, \"I'm sorry, ma'am, but I need your rewards card to use the coupon, that way if you dropped it in the parking lot, someone else can't use your coupon. She looks at me as if I'm the devil, and says, \"Really? For a donut? You're going to make me go home and get my card for a donut?\"\n\n\"Well, ma'am, you could always pay for the donut, but I'll need the card to use your coupon.\" -Me.\n\n\"I ain't got no cash.\" -Her\n\n\"Well then I'm sorry, ma'am, there's nothing I can do.\" -Me\n\nAt this point, she's really looking like she wants to strangle me, and she pushes the donut across the counter. Then she says, \"You doing a *real* good job, here. You must be proud. Over a donut. For real.\" She then walks out before I finish my response.\n\nFor what it's worth, I'm sympathetic to her. It sucks to have to go home because you forgot your way to pay for something. And for just one donut, it's probably both frustrating and embarrassing. But the donut shop sends a guy out every night to change the stock, and our store is held accountable if the inventory left is less than it should be according to sales reported. Further, I can't just pretend she gave me cash or my register will be short at the end of the night by that amount. The only thing I could do is issue an ICS coupon that we're only supposed to use when our equipment isn't working correctly. \n\nStill, she was so angry, and I can't shake the feeling I was somehow the asshole, here. Am I?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 11, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 11, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "t35mRlFDAtShhGlI9pry8jM31t7rDu1K", "post_id": "ap1k27", "action": {"description": "cringing at my friends performing", "pronormative_score": 0, "contranormative_score": 9}, "title": "AITA for cringing at my friends performing?", "text": "Im gonna say sorry beforehand, Im on mobile and english is not my 1st language. \n\nSo, I sing quite a bit, and I always get extremely embarrassed whenever I sing off key or just fuck up in general. So whenever I see the same happening to other people, I just cant help but cringe. \n\nA few friends performed for a school event a few days ago, and they did a choir piece. They didnt really have enough people, or enough practice to pull it off, so it just sounded really off and weird. I just kinda slinked down into my seat and covered my face cause the secondhand embarrassment just hit me full force. \n\nMy friend says I kinda overreacted, and that those that performed would get hurt by what I did. \n\nAm I an asshole? \n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 9, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 0, "WRONG": 9}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "g1vwF3runQUcvWGDq8wruM92KkT6upNZ", "post_id": "aokhqr", "action": {"description": "giving my brother the silent treatment after I almost broke his phone when playing around with him", "pronormative_score": 5, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for giving my brother the silent treatment after I almost broke his phone when playing around with him?", "text": "I(M24) am on vacation with my brother(M25) and while we are in the hotel room we have music in the background and just mess around being goofy. He takes up his phone and begins recording a Snapchat with his front camera and this is when the problem occurs:\n\nI throw the towel playfully up in the air so that we both get hidden from the camera (I thought it was going to contribute som fun into the Snapchat-video). I didn\u2019t MLB-pitch it, I just lightly threw it in the air. The towel hits his hair and his phone which he then dropped to the ground. \n\nThe phone didn\u2019t break, at least I couldn\u2019t see any visible damage. He goes mad and starts yelling :\n\n-\u201cwhat\u2019s your problem, you\u2019re breaking my phone!!\u201d\n\nI respond \u201csorry, I didn\u2019t mean to. I\u2019ll pay for a new one if it is broken\u201d\n\nAnd my brother yells \u201cyou don\u2019t fucking understand, you\u2019re breaking my fucking phone\u201d and proceeds to bend the phone and throw it straight into the floor, this time visibly breaking both glass sides of the phone.\n\nI was barely in shock because I wouldn\u2019t expect less from him, knowing him as a person/brother. I tell him to chill and that I am willing to pay for a new phone and that he does not need to get mad. \n\nHe then says that I can\u2019t afford it with my poor mans salary and that he makes 12,5k a month while I only make 3,2k a month as a nurse. My brother is a drug dealer and criminal. And is bragging about it in while I went to university for three years. I find that very disrespectful, because I don\u2019t think that you should try to put yourself above other people when you sell drugs/beat people for money.\n\nI tell him that he should see a psychologist to help him deal with his anger management, and he just tells me to stfu and leave. So I take my stuff and go to the beach. He then comes and I just ignore him, and then he asks \u201care you still mad? Stop being so childish, I got more money than you will ever have, don\u2019t worry u got money.\u201d\n\nBasically the rest of the trip goes on while be both ignore what happened and live on with our lives. I don\u2019t know if I could have handled this in a better way, but feel like I\u2019m the jerk for throwing the towel. The main reason I\u2019m on this trip with him is because I\u2019m trying to improve or relationship which sucks because IMO he always gets mad when the world doesn\u2019t resolve around him. \n\nI feel like he\u2019s hopeless and I should just leave him be and never have contact with him again. But you know, hEs My BrOtHeR aNd I lOvE hIm and all that.\n\nSo please enlighten me, AITA for throwing the towel and should just accept that I\u2019m at fault for playing around? Are we both assholes?\n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 5, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "bsvYDWfhs9FZ5piX3k5omv5nuH7AcKkC", "post_id": "avmpzl", "action": {"description": "not meeting up with an internet friend who's coming to my country due to my anxiety", "pronormative_score": 24, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "WIBTA for not meeting up with an internet friend who\u2019s coming to my country due to my anxiety?", "text": "I want to preface this by saying that this friend has caused me serious anxiety ever since he told me that he had developed feelings for me. I don\u2019t want that with him because although we are internet buddies, he sees me in like a greater light than I do or him. He\u2019s told me I mean so much to him and that not meeting with me would ruin his trip to my country.\n\nI already told him not to tell me that because I feel genuinely bad, but he been guilt tripping me by saying that\u2019s what he means and he\u2019s not going to lie about it. Like if I tell you that saying something like that hurts me, would a normal person continue to repeat it??  I think it\u2019s because I honestly don\u2019t think I want to be friends with him anymore. We don\u2019t even share any common interests. I think he\u2019s fallen prey to the halo effect and only likes me because I am good looking in his eyes since my personality really isn\u2019t all that. I don\u2019t know. I just don\u2019t know what to do anymore. ", "post_type": "HYPOTHETICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 24, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 24, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "zdDK6oT6zUqFP0gU3IWjNMpjIXxlHeaa", "post_id": "b4bwe2", "action": {"description": "not inviting a friend who has mono to my party and inviting a friend that happens to be her ex", "pronormative_score": 6, "contranormative_score": 0}, "title": "AITA for not inviting a friend who has mono to my party and inviting a friend that happens to be her ex?", "text": "Some backstory here, I\u2019m having a party tonight and invited the regular crew minus one friend who is confirmed to have mono. It\u2019s a recent diagnosis so she\u2019s still quite contagious, and was confirmed by bloodwork a couple days ago. She has a terrible track record of \u201cborrowing\u201d peoples drinks, smokes, vapes, etc. and since mono is spread through saliva that\u2019s a huge !! Red flag for me right there. There\u2019s over 20 other people coming tonight and I didn\u2019t think it was fair to put them at risk by having her here, not to add to the fact that she\u2019s still extremely sick and not in any shape to be leaving the house. \n\nNow let\u2019s address the ex. They dated for a few months and were on and off for a few more, however majority of the group is still friends with him and his friends. Their breakup was civil and they still talk, and I personally am still good friends with him, so I invited him. To me, it has nothing to do with her not being there. I was friends with her first and met him and his friends though her if that makes a difference. \n\nRegardless of all this, she\u2019s super mad - upset that I didn\u2019t invite her and upset that I invited her ex. All my friends are glad she isn\u2019t coming since I don\u2019t think anyone really enjoys being exposed to mono. I stand firm with my decision but can\u2019t help but feel bad that she\u2019s upset with me. \n\nSo, Am I The Asshole here? ", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 6, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 6, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "irCgFcYQ1bqQN00n2zAMNb1tGWjGoVcv", "post_id": "b0bex1", "action": {"description": "cutting a toxic friend out of my life", "pronormative_score": 4, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA For cutting a toxic friend out of my life?", "text": "Okay this is a long 2 part one so strap in and grab some food.\n\nBasically I have always been a pretty private person when it comes to my mental health (ptsd, depression, anxiety) but I am trying to get my life on track. I spent 2 days straight in bed and realized I didn\u2019t want to live like this anymore so I made a post on social media to explain what I\u2019m going through and how I am going to take steps to get better. I mentioned how I used to be a heavy runner and everything (used to do ultras) before I plummeted into my self hate fuckfest of feelings. And that I want to get back into it.\n\nBasically after I posted this my friend messaged me asking me all kinds of questions about me running and everything and basically called me a liar and saying I\u2019m just making that post to gain pity and attention and clout. She kept going throughout the day saying I was full of shit. And that I have to own up to it sooner or later.\n\nI ignored it for the most part until it was making me really question if that\u2019s how it appeared to everyone else that I\u2019m trying to get pity. Which the only reason I posted it to begin with is to call myself out so I actually change like I want to and in case any of my follows had any issues they wanted to talk about.  Eventually I talked to my love interest at the time and she just urged me to shake it off. Told me to ignore her. That she couldn\u2019t believe the friend would say that. So I was like \u201cokay. Obviously it\u2019s okay for me to be like fuck this person. I\u2019m trying to better myself so gotta get the toxic out of there.\u201d\n\nThen I soon realized. TIFU.\n\nThe friend lost it that I deleted her off everything made a post on social media saying how much of a liar piece of shit I am. And then immediately went to my interest. And started telling her every little thing I have ever said that could be considered unsightly (kinks that me and an ex took part in, I had gone to jail a few times, that I was a recovering addict 3 years strong on Friday 15th woohoo), that I had confessed my love for the friend while pursuing the interest (didn\u2019t happen). My interest was heavily against the kink so I knew that from the start so I didn\u2019t mention it. And with jail I hadn\u2019t gotten around to telling her because I wanted it to be the right time to mention it. She knew about my sobriety and applauded it.\n\nBut basically the interest took her side and everything she said as truth without ever really talking to me about it we spent the morning arguing over it before eventually being blocked by the interest. The friend has never said anything positive to the interest about me and has caused issues, usually whenever I make the friend mad she lashes out on me at the interest. And they\u2019ve only met once. I\u2019ve known the interest for about a year? Am I wrong to think that it\u2019s kinda fucked to take someone\u2019s side you don\u2019t know over someone you\u2019ve known for a year and gotten hella close to in the last 3 months?\n\nso AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 4, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 1}, "label": "OTHER", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 4, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "2AalvCVmmas9JYGBz9pWixdK5XfQcZms", "post_id": "b3wcu3", "action": null, "title": "AITA Because my friend feels awkward?", "text": "Apologies for poor formatting - posting from mobile.\n\nSo a group of myself and 3 other friends (Alice ,Emma , and Emily [fake names]) always hang out at uni, recently myself and Alice have gotten together in a romantic relationship, Emma and Emily pointed out that it was awkward to them if we were kissing or hugging much while we were hanging out.\n\nSince then whenever we're with them in a group we only hold hands and occasionally kiss (only when they're not looking), but sometimes they intentionally try and catch us out by looking away and then turning around quickly. Additionally if we're just hanging out with Emma (if Emily is busy) then Emma says she feels like she's third wheeling if we're so much as holding hands.\n\nAITA for expecting that us, as a couple, should be able to be affectionate infront of our friends, or should I cut out displays of affection and basically pretend we're not together when we're in a group?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 0, "OTHER": 0, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 5, "INFO": 1}, "label": "NOBODY", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 5, "WRONG": 0}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}
{"id": "mlSL31yomoi8f0L1oLWcFTPNAyOd0HMA", "post_id": "arfiuw", "action": {"description": "leaving heartbroken a guy who had a crush on me", "pronormative_score": 1, "contranormative_score": 2}, "title": "AITA for leaving heartbroken a guy who had a crush on me?", "text": "First of all, I should precise that I am a straight teenage male.\n\n\nOn Instagram, there is an account, ruled by guys from my high school, in which anybody from the school can leave an anonymous message. It\u2019s basically used by people who are seeking the account of their crush whose they don\u2019t know the name. A few weeks ago, I noticed that everyone was tagging me in the comments of one of their publications. And it turns out it was because someone was searching for me!\n\nI was kinda flattered. I already know 2 girls who have a crush on me, and knowing this gave me a little bit more of self-confidence. The thing is, I already have a huge crush on someone in my class, and my relationship with her is kinda weird. I don\u2019t know if she likes me back, since there is both signs that she could like me or not. But that\u2019s not the subject.\n\nA few days ago, I received a message from an anonymous user on Instagram. He said hello, asked me how I was, what I was doing... and he quickly revealed that he had a crush on me and that he was the person who wrote the anonymous message on the account a few weeks back. He then asked me if I was in a relationship. At the time, I though it was a girl, so I told \u00ab\u00a0her\u00a0\u00bb that I was freshly single, and didn\u2019t told anything about my crush.\n\nBut then, he said he was in the same class as one of my best friends... which is a class with only boys in it. So I quickly realized I was dealing with a homosexual guy that was too afraid to tell his crush who he was by fear of rejection. But I first pretended not to know. I asked him who he was, but he didn\u2019t wanted to tell me.\n\nTwo days later, I hit me up again . He wanted to go with me to that gig I\u2018m going to in a few weeks, he send me kisses emojis and I started to feel embarrassed. So I told him I had a crush on an another girl. He was very upset to learn that and asked me why I didn\u2019t tell him before.\n\nThe story could have ended here, but I made the mistake to tell him to name of my crush. He recognized who she was, and threatened to go talk to her best friend. Under the panic, I messaged my crush\u2019s best friend and asked her if she received a message from the guy. She told me she didn\u2019t and promise me to not tell everyone if he did.\n\nI then threatened the guy too. I told him that if he didn\u2019t tell me who he was, I\u2019ll block him. He confessed he was a boy, but still didn\u2019t wanted to tell who he was. He then said that \u00ab\u00a0nothing matters now anyway\u00a0\u00bb, and said goodbye.\n\nI didn\u2019t blocked him though. He still watches my Instagram Stories. AITA?", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 1, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 1, "WRONG": 2}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "KmKHS4IijhqDo3hXIX6RLKVUKssxEDOl", "post_id": "ascbp3", "action": null, "title": "AITA - My husband and I are struggling in our relationship. He\u2019s helping my best friend and her husband move. They were friends first. She and I better friends now than they ever were. He opens up to her but not me. I\u2019m struggling to not be mad about it.", "text": "My husband and I have been married for two years, together 5 1/2. He\u2019s the sweetest human being I\u2019ve ever met, most of the time. As time has gone on things have gotten more habitual, obviously. I\u2019ve spent the past 6mos to 1yr trying to get him to understand that the things he does hurt my feelings. He\u2019s not super emotionally intelligent, so I\u2019m not surprised that he hasn\u2019t gotten the message yet. \n\nBackstory -\n\n6 months ago he lost his temper when I woke him up for work one morning and broke something from our wedding that was really important to me. I was done. Ready to pack and leave that day. He convinced me to stay, go to work with him and build some shelving that I had been wanting for the house and we\u2019d hang them together, and work on our relationship and he\u2019d work on his temper. \n\nTo his credit, he\u2019s really been a lot better with his temper. I\u2019m really proud of him for that. But the shelves have been sitting. Well half of them, I hung half by myself but the others are too big for me to do by myself. I tried and they fell. \n\nSo they\u2019ve been sitting, along with our relationship. Every time I look at them I get a little more sad. Every time I mention them he doesn\u2019t react much, but I get the impression he just wants them to go away. \n\nOur friend is now my best friend, but they knew each other first. She and her husband started moving this past weekend into their new home. We offered to go up and help them. Sunday night he brought me home and went back. On our way home, I can\u2019t remember what started the conversation but I asked him if he understood why his willingness to go back and help them (or anyone for that matter) at a drop of a hat, but not take the time to do things around the house when I need help would make me feel upset and hurt. He said yes and asked what else besides the shelves I meant. I was surprised that he said yes so I couldn\u2019t even respond. It felt as though he was purposefully blowing me off because I didn\u2019t mention the shelves specifically, but they were definitely on my mind at the time. \n\n\n", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 2, "OTHER": 2, "EVERYBODY": 2, "NOBODY": 0, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 4}, "binarized_label": "WRONG"}
{"id": "mTtc1GAfpbds5ytTPL8rbcsiw1oNlDXf", "post_id": "b3ucw7", "action": {"description": "spending more time with other people", "pronormative_score": 2, "contranormative_score": 1}, "title": "AITA for spending more time with other people?", "text": "I know the title sounds weird and quite vague, but let me explain:\n\nI have this friend. Let's call her Ponytail. We became friends in late year 7, (which for you non-Brits is the first year of high school here in the UK, equivalent to 6th grade), and we used to always walk around at lunch and break together, just the two of us. We're really close. In fact, she says that I'm her closest friend.\n\nBut about two months ago, (it will be exactly that on the 28th this month!), I got my first boyfriend. So I started hanging out with him and his friends, who I am also friends with, as well as Ponytail. For the first few days, she didn't want to come along because she felt like she was third-wheeling and didn't want to intrude, despite the fact that she wouldn't really be \"third-wheeling\" and more so \"sixth/seventh-wheeling\" because there's me, him, this other couple, this other guy, and sometimes my bf's ex as well as her, so it's not that awkward in my opinion, although it's understandable she feels that way. But anyway, she quickly started coming along with me.\n\nI try to include her in our group conversations, but since she's quite shy, she doesn't really join in for that long normally. And I wouldn't say I dislike her other friends, but I honestly find them kind of... annoying. I mean, I guess they're alright, they're nice I suppose, but they're just not the sort of people I like to be friends with. And even Ponytail herself has told me that she feels they don't listen to her; she says it feels like they're in their own little bubble and she's not included in it. But it isn't that she doesn't get along with my friends and my bf, she says she likes them, but she just doesn't really talk to them enough to know them properly.\n\nRecently, I was hanging out with my bf and our friends, when this girl who I'm kind of friends with came up to my and told me that Ponytail was crying. Obviously, I went over to her to see what was wrong, as she was with us only a few moments ago. I asked her what was wrong, and she was really upset that I haven't been hanging out with her as much recently, and she said I'd been spending \"too much time\" with my bf recently. She also said she felt like I was ignoring her, and that \"if I don't want to be her friend and don't like her anymore, then I should just tell her\" I felt so bad. I hadn't realised she felt like this. So I tried to comfort her, and we carried on with our day.\n\nThe only classes we share are Maths and Form, where we sit next to each other. I spend the whole of lunch with her on Wednesdays and Fridays because my bf has Orchestra and Choir on those days, (he is a very talented musician), so I still spend a lot of time with her. But I just hate her feeling left out when I am with other people, but idk how to include her in our conversations, because like I said earlier, she just isn't a social person, at all.\n\nSo, am I the asshole in this situation? I appreciate your honesty!", "post_type": "HISTORICAL", "label_scores": {"AUTHOR": 1, "OTHER": 1, "EVERYBODY": 0, "NOBODY": 1, "INFO": 0}, "label": "AUTHOR", "binarized_label_scores": {"RIGHT": 2, "WRONG": 1}, "binarized_label": "RIGHT"}