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clear We should avoid destructive rank games We should comport ourselves with the |
composure of an alpha monkey with nothing to prove in the company of equals Adopting this |
as a lifestyle may be the most successful strategy to achieve sustainable happiness |
The Healthy Dominance Mindset |
Never depend on the admiration of others There is no strength in it Personal merit cannot be derived from an |
external source Epictetus |
When a baboon ignores the status hierarchy the members of its troop will kill it Similarly |
if you flout the status hierarchy you could alienate yourself from others Therefore dont |
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recommend that you completely ignore or go against it do however recommend reinventing |
yourself as a coolheaded alpha It all starts with a little imagination |
It can be helpful to internalize the mindset of being everyones parent Parents usually feel |
like they dont owe their kids submissive displays Given that a healthy parents dominance of |
their offspring is not based on competition but on a desire to teach and guide imagine |
yourself to be the Mom or Dad to every person in the world Im not asking you to patronize |
people Just be as relaxed as you would be if everyone was your child and you were the only |
adult present |
You want to be a good parent even to a bad child In Japan mothering has been described |
as patiently molding the intractable Children and infants can be inherently stubborn but this |
is best countered by persistence and patience Even mother chimps reprimand misbehavior |
without bearing any grudge They offer reassurance and comfort after disciplining their young |
They do this naturally Use this philosophy with adults Adults can be as tricky and immature as |
children but rather than aggress against them patiently mold them Be a father or mother |
figure Like a good parent act permissive yet authoritative |
Just as a good parent doesnt owe their children submissive displays neither does a warrior |
owe their fellows submissive displays They are too busy either risking their life or resting |
Take on the rugged exterior of a special forces commando a mythical god or a legendary hero |
You have corrupt governments to topple and dragons to slay You have no interest in minor |
squabbles and infractions When you are with friends envision yourself as a champion who has |
just bested a mythical monster like the Minotaur Jabberwock Medusa or Cerberus Now that |
you the gladiator are resting between feats you do not have the time or energy to raise your |
eyebrows hyperventilate or smile nervously Feel free to rest between your heroic efforts |
Given the chance you would do the selfless intrepid thing so take the heros poise and grace |
for yourself right now |
My Experience with Serotonin Supplements |
What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of |
him Viktor Frankl |
used to be clinically depressed As a preteen cut myself with knives As a young adult put a |
gun in my mouth on a few occasions sat on a story rooftop ledge intending to jump a few |
times never followed through with suicide though would tell myself that wanted to tie up a |
few more loose ends in my life before fully committed know what serotonin depletion feels |
like and that a person is willing to do almost anything to escape it |
have never been to a psychiatrist and thus have never been prescribed an antidepressant |
but have taken an overthecounter nutritional supplement called SAMe It is similar to other |
mood enhancing supplements like HTP Ltheanine and Saint Johns wort and is available at |
most drug stores took SAMe for two months in my late s because wanted to find out |
what high serotonin levels felt like wanted to experience happiness for a few weeks to |
understand it and attempt to recreate it later after going off the drug Without question |
it made me a joyous more composed personwhile it lasted |
Chapter Serotonin Optimism and Cooperation |
Like an antidepressant eg Prozac Zoloft Celexa etc SAMe increases serotonin |
availability at the synapse In doing so it also fortifies the GABA guard mentioned earlier |
inhibiting the amygdala It takes two weeks for SAMe to elevate mood appreciably but felt |
that noticed changes with the first few doses felt lighter on my feet happygolucky and less |
stymied by social concerns completely stopped worrying that other people might think that |
looked too calm |
After days of taking it woke up in the middle of the night feeling euphoric had been |
slightly scared of the dark since childhood but suddenly felt completely safe in the dark |
walked through my home without turning on any lights found myself sitting on the carpet in |
the darkest places and reveling in my fearlessness stayed awake for three hours just walking |
around outside in the shadows feeling intensely happy Interestingly even a single course of |
antidepressants can end phobias lifelong bad habits negative quirks and antisocial behaviors |
Since that night have not been afraid of the dark |
That Wednesday night from to am was a vertiginous and ecstatic experience Nothing |
remarkable happened and was all by myself but it was the happiest night of my life All my |
social status concerns disappeared replaced by pure excitement for the things going on in my |
life at the time didnt realize it that night but was filled with pure gratitude |
continued to take the drug for six weeks On it was less abusive but more insistent and |
decisive was demanding of people but direct rather than passiveaggressive so people |
complied would say exactly what was on my mind without sugarcoating it People liked me |
more respected me more and treated me like was charismatic was more personable |
more outspoken and craved interaction instead of shrinking away from it |
While on SAMe started making natural eye contact with people for the first time in my |
life even sought out eye contact It came easily and my eyes didnt dart away was more |
extroverted and started assuming leadership positions in group projects People also started |
laughing at my attempts at humor despite my jokes not changing Confident delivery made all |
the difference |
When was on SAMe didnt talk or think negatively Bad experiences were very short |
lived and didnt keep them active in my mind didnt trash talk others even in my head |
Most of my previous insecurities felt like faint memories felt like such a different person |
on SAMe that at one point asked myself Why were you so afraid of your friends and |
coworkers before |
would take one pill in the morning and then come home in the evening needing another |
Sometimes would take one and then lie down on the couch and wait for it to kick in As the |
stiffness in my brow jaw and sneer melted away could feel the tension in my mind slowly |
evaporate This was my first clear indication that facial tension negative emotion and |
serotonin all hold hands But the relief was not just in my face My whole body felt light and |
easy as if all my trigger points had been excised wondered whether having increased |
serotonin levels had healed them |
Interestingly serotonin increases the threshold of activation for latent trigger points In so |
doing it eases the chakralike modules in the body soothing you Its role in muscular relaxation |
is why low serotonin is thought to be a major player in fatigue headaches gut tension heart |
problems muscle pain joint pain and diffuse discomfort Now that couldnt feel the tension |
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was less neurotic For example increased serotonin levels are also known to curb nightmares |
panic attacks and unhealthy eating and noticed these as additional side effects |
A couple of months passed by and a fledgling business venture initiated with some |
acquaintances turned sour So sour that felt gutted Within a month my hairline receded by at |
least an inch realized that my underlying biological trauma had resurfaced from beneath the |
artificially elevated serotonin felt manic anxiety for hours on end and had significant trouble |
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