[
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0000",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Severely depressed girlfriend, needs help. What can i do?\n\nPOST: My girlfriend is having a lot of emotional issues lately. She calls me nearly every night deeply upset, it usually takes me an hour or two to calm her down. She wants to seek medical help, meaning a therapist, or a counselor of some sort. Her parents have agreed sort of, but have taken no action. I am worried because it has gotten to the point to where she is severely depressed and thinks about hurting herself and throwing up sometimes because she doesnt feel good enough, she just as of a few months ago got over a eating disorder. I want to get her the help she needs but i obviously cant pay for it by myself. I dont know what i can do.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " serverely depressed gf, needs help from a therapist or doctor but her parents wont help, what can i do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0001",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Am I [20/M] judging the girl I'm seeing [20/F] too harshly for the actions of her friend [~20/F], or is it legitimately a dealbreaker/red flag?\n\nPOST: I met \"Liz\" about a month ago. We have been on a few dates since then and have really hit it off. Although we haven't labeled anything yet, we're probably on the way toward becoming an official item and have made plans to attend a formal event together at the end of this month. \n\nThe only problem is Liz's friend, \"Annie.\" I didn't know Annie that well until recently, but the more I learn about her the more negatively I feel toward her. When choosing who I associate with, I am very concerned with morality and ethics. Annie has done things I find highly unethical, including stealing (from both our university and someone at a party) and seriously considering lying about having a disease in order to circumvent our school's requirement for undergrads to live on campus. While I don't agree with the living on campus rule, I would never get a fake doctor's note and pretend to be sick to get out of it. I disapprove even more of the stealing, and I think it's important to note I wouldn't know about it unless Liz told me - she mentioned it kind of casually, and while she doesn't do it herself or think it's really okay, she definitely isn't as bothered by it as I am. I don't know exactly how close Liz and Annie are, but they seem to be pretty good friends and are in the same relatively small major at our school.\n\nI have a rare medical condition that would be a dealbreaker for many people, and I've seen plenty of stories of other people with this condition getting into/staying in bad relationships simply because they're afraid nobody else will want them. Although I wasn't explicitly looking for a relationship when I met Liz, and wasn't unhappy being single, I'm worried my judgment is being clouded by Liz's acceptance of me and my inexperience with relationships - I had never been on a real date before I met Liz, and have never been in a relationship either. I really like Liz and she really likes me, but her friendship with Annie is making me question her character and values.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " potential gf's friend is kind of a scummy person. Is it fair to judge someone for their friend's actions? How should I talk to Liz about my doubts?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0002",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Reddit, what are your best, or possibly worst, camping experiences?\n\nPOST: For me, about a year ago a few buddies and I went up to a cabin out in the middle of nowhere that very few people know about.  Our hike most of the way was through a big old winter storm coming in. Upon arrival and a few beers we decided to take our liquid courage into sledding form.  Eventually I ended up slamming into a tree (fortunately without injury).  After that we all sat around smoking cigars while looking at a mountain across the valley, and we came to the dead set conclusion that some maniac mountain man was hiking the damn thing pretty close to sunset, and thought he was for sure in for a very cold night in sub zero temps.  After that we moved our efforts into the cabin and made some delicious dinner consisting of cheese bratwursts, onions, green peppers, and whatever else we could find.  Once bed time rolled around one of my buddies tried to stumble up the ladder to the loft of the cabin, and ended up slipping off and falling around 8 feet right onto my back.  Didn't even care at this point and just started cracking up for the next few minutes.  All in all just fun with a bunch of guys in the middle of fucking nowhere.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Sledded into trees, convinced ourselves a rock was climbing a mountain, and made some damn good food in a blizzard.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0003",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [25F], Him [32 M] 2 1/2 years -- How do you thank someone who has been taking care of you when you're ill?\n\nPOST: About two weeks I broke my leg. My boyfriend has been kind enough to let me inhabit his couch/apartment until I'm well enough to climb up the stairs to my own apartment (no elevator in the building). I can't even really go out and hop around on crutches because I sprained my wrist in the accident too and crutches wear me out fast because they get too painful.\n\nHowever, I am feeling increasingly more terrible about this. He has a very stressful job and trains for triathlons as well. He doesn't really have the time or energy to be dealing with me, but he's treated me with nothing but kindness and compassion to my every whim. He does SO MUCH for me!! Cooks me food, sacrifices his couch/privacy, lugs me to and from doctor's appointments, gets me water, gets me stuff from the store, checks my mail back at my apartment, keeps me company, comforts me when I'm depressed and upset about all this... today he is cooking me a favorite meal for my birthday...\n\nI try to keep up being courteous to him and everything, and try to be as thankful as possible to him. But sometimes I just get grouchy and stir crazy with being kept indoors and I am not as nice with him as I could be. After I snap at him or I'm cold to him, I feel absolutely terrible about it, like right now. \n\nAnyway, the point I'm trying to arrive at, is how on EARTH do you EVER even BEGIN to thank someone for all of this??? Like.... holy crap, we're not even married and he's doing all of this for me. How will I ever repay his kindness? how CAN I?? Does anyone else have experience with this type of situation or know someone that does? I feel so guilty and lucky and awful and thankful.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Somewhat bedridden, my wonderful boyfriend is taking care of me and doing so much for me. How do I ever repay him for such a deed???",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0004",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [20F] have gotten to know [21F] for a few months, I think we're into each other but I can't tell. How do I slyly find out if she's single?\n\nPOST: I joined this organization at my college and this girl was in charge of a lot of events for it. I got to know her as an acquaintance and nearly (!) a friend over the past few months. She's really wonderful and I have a huge crush on her. I know she's bisexual, but I don't know if she has a girlfriend or not. \n\nThe strangest part is, I feel like we have some kind of connection. I know it sounds weird but I know there is something between us. I feel like she's into me as well but I don't know if she's single or not. I can't tell from her Facebook whether or not she has a girlfriend, and I don't want to ask. Any advice for finding out if she's available and into me?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I like a girl and she might like me, but she also might be taken. How do I figure this out?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0005",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [M, 20] am to go through an arranged marriage at age 30 if I am still single, but I am no success in relationships.\n\nPOST: So I'm 20 years old now, and my mother and I came to this agreement a while ago that if I am still single by the time I am 30, then she is to arrange a marriage for me, with a woman from my home country. I don't really know why I agreed to this, but it's not like I absolutely hate the idea. Or maybe I do, I don't really know.\n\nI've never actually ever had a relationship. A bunch of small things have built up the mindset that I have today, and even though I like myself, it seems like nobody else does. I find it difficult to be happy, when I'm always worried about why I can't find \"the one\" or something.\n\nI guess my life is pretty swell if my worst worries are just troubles of the heart.\n\nNo girl I've ever liked has ever reciprocated my feelings. From the first girl I liked to the most recent one [F, 17].\n\nOne of my friends told me I was a sort of sicko, because I'm in college now and I was into a girl who was still in high school.\n\nIs there a way that I can change my thinking process, or is there something I just might be doing wrong?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Gonna be in arranged marriage at 30. Never had a girlfriend. Don't know if I'm doing something wrong.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0006",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Need some advice on breaking up\n\nPOST: So I think it's time for my GF and I to call it quits. A little back story first.\n\nI'm 26, she's 23. We've been together for about 9 months but we've been friends for about 2 years prior to dating. We've had our problems from the outset of dating, most of which we worked out. I've recently been thinking that she probably isn't \"the one\" and I actually tried to break it off last Friday. Instead of breaking up, we ended up talking about everything for a few hours and I thought I had made a mistake.\n\nI should have gone with my gut and stuck to my guns.\n\nNow I don't know what to do, I realize that no matter what I do, I'll be a bigger asshole in the end and I'm willing to accept this, but I just don't know how to break it to her again? I'm worried that if I do it face to face again, the same thing might happen, but not doing it in person seems very impersonal and cold. \n\nDoes anyone have some suggestions?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Tried to breakup with the GF last week, after a long talk we decided to keep trying, this was a mistake and I still want to break up",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0007",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [19 F] found the guy my friend is dating [22M, 19 F] on Tinder\n\nPOST: As the title says, I found the guy my friend is dating on Tinder, and he was active one day ago. They've been dating for more than a month now (maybe 2 months?). Since they're not exclusive, normally I wouldn't tell my friend but I know that she wants to become exclusive with him, and he took her virginity. My friend also really, really likes this guy. I think it would crush her if she knew. \n\nShould I tell her? It's also the week before finals and she's very stressed studying for her final exams and papers. In the meantime I have taken a screen shot of the evidence. I was planning on telling her after finals are all over...\n\nThanks!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Guy dating friend (also took her virginity) is active on Tinder and I don't know if I should tell her or not (or when).",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0008",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me a [18m] first year university sudent fell for another [18f] 2 months everything has been going well except she moved away, to study a different degree.\n\nPOST: Like the title says we went to uni together, we stayed at the same college. We got to know each other quite well. We became very good friends and the relationship started escalliting quite quickly.  We had a few fights while we were together at college, nothing to big. \n\nWe were both looking to study dentistry in the future, little did we know we both received different late offers from different universities. \n\nI decided I wanted to stay in my current course to experience it and confirm what I want to do in the future and expeience college life as I would be moving back with my parents. \n\nShe decided to take it, and moved of out. She is enjoying her course, we talk daily via Skype to try keep the relationship going. We've made plans to travel to one another when it's convenient for both of us so we can meet. I want to try make it into the same uni she is in just so we can be together. \n\nI would say I am fairly good looking as I have been chased after quite often by the other gender. I have had quite a few flings through out my life and early days of uni. \n\nI have been out to the club's and tried picking up girls to get my mind off her. I have been successful but I don't feel satisfied so before we got anywhere serious I kicked her out. I'm not sure if this is because of how much I liked this pervious girl and I miss her, or its my regret of not doing what I truly want. \n\nI like to think it is the first, I told her about it. She has been the first and last thing on my mind since the first day I met her. Talking over Skype she keeps dropping hints that she wants a long distance relationship. I want this to work out for us, even if it means me moving half way across the country to be with her.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " we met at college, she moved away to study dentistry. She wants a long distance relationship, I want to move to be with her next year.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0009",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [28F] with my ex [27F] of 5 years, wants to know about my status but won't ask.\n\nPOST: We broke up in June over text then made it official in Sept of this year. We broke up because of long distance after college opportunities separated us.\n\nNow that we are in a transitional phase of our lives we still text (only) about what we are doing and what is next in our lives. Well I have gone out of state to be with family and friends considering it is the holiday season. \n\nWhen I tell her I am hanging out with a friend she always jump the gun and thinks I am seeing someone special. In her round about way she has told me that if I am seeing someone that she won't text me anymore. \n\nAlso, for some odd reason she chooses not to communicate via phone, Skype, or in person. We have met twice in person and both visits ended well with a warm hug and great conversations. I'm not sure what is going on considering we still share two dogs, share a few accounts, and we both have not deleted the thousands of pictures we have.\n\nI want to be with her but I feel like we are too far apart and I guess I don't know what to think because I don't talk to anyone about it. Please be kind with your words/comments.\n\nThank you.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I want to be with her but I feel like we are too far apart and I guess I don't know what to think because I don't talk to anyone about it. Does she want to stop texting or is this finally it?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0010",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice\n\nTITLE: Can an employer refuse to offer a check as payment?\n\nPOST: I am trying to find if there is any lawful documentation stating that an employer must offer a check. Right now my company only offers direct deposit as payment, and states simply \"they can't\" cut a check (and we have a full accounting department that has the ability to physically print checks, so that is not an issue.) \n\nNormally DD wouldn't be an issue, however, the way the DD works, the payment hits the account nearly 3-5 days after the pay stub is made available, dependent on the bank.\n\nExample:\nPay period is 1st-15th, the 15th falls on a Saturday. The pay stub won't even be processed until the following Monday (17th), then it takes 2-3 business days (this is mostly dependent on the bank at this point) for the money to actually hit the account. \n\nThis happens almost every pay period, and it is even worse when there is a holiday on a Monday, because everything is pushed back even further.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I am trying to find some sort of legal webpage/document stating that an employer must issue a check as payment (and that direct deposit be just an option).",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0011",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice\n\nTITLE: Should i even go there?\n\nPOST: The First post \n\nThe boy/man i like age 21 male , is someone who is a volunteer at my local establishment im age 23 female He is really funny, we get along like a house on fire pretty much from the get go. Ive always thought of him to be attractive but never anythig more - I thought he was gay. We've always had a bit of a flirty banter and we've spent a lot of time together (only at the establishment he volunteers and i visit as a \"young person\") \nAnyway. I recently found out he is only \"questioning\" his sexuality and has a sexual intrest in me. (He called me beautiful- d'aww.) \nThe only way we'd be able to have a relationship is if i was to become a volunteer (something i WAS going to do anyway - but this is pushing me), but i have that nigle in my head of his questioning sexuality. What would i do/how would i feel if he wanted to be with a bloke?(man) but we were together?\nShould i even go there?\nWhat if we get along really well as friends, but a relationship wouldnt work?\nIve also told him A LOT about my past.. (Which i thought i was comfortable doing because i thought he wasnt actually interested in me) which i may have not told him/held back a while if i had known\n(Though he called me beautiful after all this..) \nHELP!!! What do i do - do i try it? \"Life is too short for regrets\" or just.. Remain good ones? (Friends)\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " guy who likes me might be gay but wants to persue a relation with me as long as I volunteer at the place I visit. Ive also told him too much about my life.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0012",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [28 M] with my [24 F] girlfriend moved to a new city. She hasn't found a job yet and is running out of money. How do I gently motivate her?\n\nPOST: We moved across the country because I got a really great job offer and we agree'd we needed a change of pace from our home city/state. She is waiting for her final credits for her masters degree to go through inorder to apply for a specialized license in her field (thus allowing her to apply to places - you need this license to get a job in her medical field) She has a few weeks left before she can even start applying for full-time work, and is slowly running out of her savings since she has no income currently. \n\nI pay for most things (which I don't mind about, rent, internet, utilities etc.) and wasn't sure if by doing so I was enabling her to not get a part time job. She is very comfortable day-to-day, has no worries or bills, but has recently been complaining about overwhelming feelings of anxiety, worthlessness, and a slight depression. \n\nI try to remain positive and suggest going out and doing things/going to events, but during the week while shes home all day, she reverts back into not having any fire under her. I have been suggesting getting a part time job, and have friends that gave me numbers and places that they know of or have friends at that would interview her, but she seems completely removed from it all. \n\nShe will simultaneously complain about not having the money to do anything, and also that she's not sure about a part time job because it might complicate her job search for full-time work when she starts. I was contemplating asking her to pay for more, to kind of pressuring her into having to have an income. Anyone else have any tips or anything for dealing with this? I don't want to offend her, I just want her to get on her feet and not feel so overwhelmed. I think getting a part time job would solve a lot of that for her, it would get her out, meet people, have some money, give her a goal towards getting out of it to her full-time job in the field she went to school for.\n\nThank you in advance!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Girlfriend and I moved across country, she is waiting to get a full-time job because of credits transferring, but now is running out of money and is feeling depressed. Trying to figure out how to motivate her.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0013",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: How would you deal with this situation if you were in my shoes? (Do you live the life you want, or the life others want you to have? Does love conquer all?)\n\nPOST: Dear Reddit,\n\nThis is my first post, I'd really value and appreciate your answers! \n\nI'm female, 20 years old. Born/live in Australia, both parents Lebanese.\n\nI have been dating the most amazingly fantastic creature of all time for just over a year now, though the relationship is doomed because of my parents' hate towards him (despite them never meeting face to face with him before).\n\nReasons they hate him:\n\n**1.** He's Jewish (My mother says the biggest betrayal I could ever do - EVER - to her is date him [she has never mentioned this anti-Semitism before])\n\n**2.** He's 29 (Nine years older)\n\n**3.**He's different (Mohawk, unique tastes and lifestyle, just... different)\n\nBefore he came along, I never knew I could feel this amount of love, care and admiration for someone. He is perfect in my eyes, flaws and all. I'm crazy about him, hanging out with him/kissing him/hugging him never gets old.\n\nIf I carry on with the relationship, I will be disowned by entire family. (Father already ignoring me, relationship with my mother already in shambles... I've never had a close relationship to either of them.)\n\nIf I end the relationship, I will make my parents happy and will show respect and understanding towards them, but will never know where it could have lead and will lose my best friend, will be forever devastated, (may find someone else just as good????).\n\nI am working and saving up money to move out by the end of the year because I disagree so strongly to how my parents have acted, it's just terrible living in this house.\n\nI am under an incredible amount of stress and rarely sleep well, I go to great lengths to not be in a room with my parents.\n\nThanks, I hope someone can give me some good advice, I'm really struggling to find people who can help shed light on what's the best thing to do, and so is my boyfriend.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Would you live out the life you want i.e keep dating the person of your dreams (would love conquer all?), or do what makes your parents happy, i.e stop dating someone for them?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0014",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice\n\nTITLE: Girl [21/F] that I [21/M] was dating is now coming back from abroad, need advice on things going forward.\n\nPOST: Throwaway account here, just in case.\n\nSo I'm going to be entering my senior year of college this upcoming fall semester. I was dating a girl (we'll call her Julia) for a few months near the end of 2015 and I'd say we really enjoyed being with one another. She then went abroad for the spring semester and said that she thought it would be best if we were both single while she was gone. I had difficulty with it at first, but adjusted and had some casual relationships with different girls over the rest of the school year.\n\nI recently met a different girl [20/F] who I've hit it off with very well (we'll call her Mikaila) and we've talked every single day since we exchanged numbers a few weeks ago. I would love to see where this could go, but the semester has already ended at this point, so I haven't gone forward with it.\n\nIt turns out that \"Julia\" and I are now going to be interning in the same city this summer and I'm not sure I want to restart that relationship as I'm very interested in \"Mikaila\".  What would be the best way to express this, just be straight up with \"Julia\" and say that I'm not looking for a relationship and would like to remain single? \"Julia\" isn't the type that would just be okay with a casual relationship and would want something more meaningful. I just feel like saying this makes me look like a scumbag and I don't want to compromise my friendship with her.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Girl I was dating coming back from abroad, I'm interested in somebody else as well, unsure of how to proceed.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0015",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [17 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of almost 7 months, best friends since 2012. Posting pictures many think are inappropriate.\n\nPOST: I am male and have been dating a female for 6 months going on 7 here soon. Do you think its unreasonable to not allow my girlfriend to post pictures of her thighs and hips in her underwear or a picture of her upper body in just a bra on an Instagram account with 110 active followers? She thinks of it as her body and she should be allowed to do whatever she wants with it I.E. post pictures of herself where ever. I agree with that completely and all humans should be able to do things like that, I am very with her on that and am a very big humanitarian, but when two people are in a committed relationship I feel it is different however and it should be obvious that you shouldn't be posting pictures of that sort. The bottom line is that it makes me uncomfortable and frustrates me to no end. If I were to let it slide and have her keep it up there for say a couple weeks and i forgot, if I scrolled past it I would go mad and have her delete it. For some reason I think it is different if I am in the picture however, If we posted a picture both shirtless wearing pants and her wearing a bra I wouldn't think much of it because it shows that we are dating. What do you think? Explain.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Girlfriend posting revealing pictures boyfriend thinks is inappropriate, has her delete them. Thought? How could I convince her I'm in the right?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0016",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Please help reddit... I had my wisdom teeth out Tuesday, dry sockets in all sockets developed Thursday, today some bastard gland on my neck is swollen like a tennis ball, everything I swallow feels like razor blades, and I'm going overseas in a week\n\nPOST: Warning, this is a repost because I'm paranoid.  Also, I'm anatomy stupid.  I think this is a gland. Its on my neck in the area you would feel if you were checking your pulse on your carotid artery.  \n\nPlease if there are any dentists type do you know if the tonsil swelling is normal after developing dry sockets? i had the first medication applied Thursday, I'm going back Monday. On Thursday I had a fever so bad it was 89 degrees out and i was still shivering even though I had on full sleeves and pants, a coat, had a small heater blowing on me, and was under a blanket. My teeth were clattering so much it was hurting the sockets. Migraine was so bad I couldn't walk.  Since the medication my fever has reduced drastically but my throat now hurts so bad its difficult to describe. Even swallowing my own spit feels like razor blades in my throat. Gargling salt water helps a tad but even hydrocodone does not relieve this pain. I am leaving America in a week and I am scared\n\nThe reason this is freaking me out is because I can not remember having any gland or tonsil swelling ever in my life, even as a kid.  It's the weekend now so the dentist is gone till Monday :(\n\nI just need to know if this sort of thing is normal or if I should go to an ER or something?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Wisdom teeth out tuesday, dry sockets developed, medication applied, uncontrollable crazy fever, now swollen glands.  Also my breath smells like ass ",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0017",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Do You Have Any Hotel Horror Stories?\n\nPOST: I currently work the front desk in a hotel. I don't think this is my worst story, but it is the most recent and awfully infuriating. Today a lady demanded her money back because, according to her, a piece of bed spring that was hanging out of the bottom of her bed injured not one, not two, but three of her family members. I guess the first injury didn't convince the other two so they had to jam their legs against it as well. The lady was also a member of our corporation's membership program, so they knew exactly how to complain if they didn't get what they wanted. These complaints would damage our score in the corporation and could cause some penalties, so it was just easier to give the lady what she wanted. We credited the money back to her debit card. The family had a 1 PM checkout, but by 2 PM they were still hanging around and in no hurry to leave. I finally lit a fire under their asses. When they did leave, they had three cars fully packed with what couldn't have been less than 12 people. They were in a 4 person room. For three nights. The housekeeper, who was supposed to get off at 3 PM, then spent the next 4 hours cleaning what had to be the most disgusting thing I ever saw. They left: 4 HUGE garbage bags of trash that were spilling across the floor, cigarette butts all over the floor, weird, smelly stains in the bathroom and tub, and, of course, no towels, washcloths, or tip. And the bed spring was fine. The lady then had the nerve to call for the rest of the day complaining that we never credited her account. I tried to explain as calmly as possible that the process takes 48-72 hours to go through, but she would hear none of it. I found out later in the day that she complained through the membership program anyway.\n\nSo, I ask you reddit, what are your hotel horror stories, whether as an employee or a guest?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I work at a hotel and accommodated a woman who, it turns out,  trashed her room. She complained anyway. Tell me your hotel horror stories.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0018",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Dear gamers of Reddit: How much is too much?\n\nPOST: Hello gamers! I (20) am the devoted girlfriend of a gamer (24), and let me clarify this first: I have absolutely no problem with him gaming. (I actually prefer gamers vs. non to date.) I used to game when I was younger, so I can understand the appeal.\n\nAnyway, my boyfriend informed me last minute that he would be hosting a two week long LAN at his house. This means limited contact (except for a few messages informing me that he is still alive) and he pretty much refuses to have a phone conversation with me because he is with his bros and it is always a \"bad time\". \n\nTwo days before this, he just finished a week-long camping trip with his other (male) friends.\n\nSo my question to you is: how much time should be allotted to gaming when one has a girlfriend? Do you think it should increase/stay the same/decrease when one is attached? I understand the importance of male camaraderie, but is it unrealistic for a woman to want her boyfriend to slow down on the \"bro time\"?\n\nLadies, I would also like your thoughts.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My boyfriend spends a lot of timing gaming and being with his guy friends. What would you consider \"too much\" time spent away/with others?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0019",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Where's the best place you've ever worked and why?\n\nPOST: I worked for Superstore when I was 15.  I was hired onto the grocery department, and was trained by a guy named Kyle on my first day of work. Let's just say that him and other guys weren't the best influences.....\n\nHere's a list of what we did that made this job awesome:\n\n* First day of training Kyle takes me into the back and shows me how to use my knife to cut open bags of chips and candy so that we could eat the \"damaged merchandise\" . \n\n* Jalape\u00f1o pepper eating contest (won $20 bucks then puked EVERYWHERE)\n\n* Water fights: We'd use the hoses to soak each other unexpectedly. Best memory I have is when the manager on duty came into the back produce area to see me soaked from head to toe...turns around and walks out the door without saying a word. Hilarious.\n\n* Palet jack relay races: We had manual, electric, and lift jacks in our warehouse. So we'd race the electric ones down the back hall, jump off and ride the manual ones back to the main warehouse area, then jump on the electric one and find a way to lift ourself to the top shelf to grab the flag. I won by pressing the emergency stop button on my buddy's electric jack. ;)\n\nI loved working in the back fridge alone at times, just stocking shelves. It was peaceful. And the rowdy times were awesome too. For a 15 year old guy who didn't have many friends at the time and was very strict to the rules, I gotta thank these guys for showing me how to have fun. Best first job ever.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Worked at a grocery store when I was 15 and had an awesome time eating food, and hanging out with  older guys who were a terrible influence.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0020",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: How do I get/help my wife to femme it up a little?\n\nPOST: I love her and this is not, **repeat not**, a deal-breaker but I'd like her to be more feminine. She grew up basically feral, has no female relatives any less feral, and is too embarrassed to talk to her friends.\nFeral's kind of a strong word, but I think I'll stick with it. The weird thing is that we have a young daughter who is princess/frilly dress/heels/hair/makeup obsessed - and who has a better sense of style than her mom. Weird.\n\nShe takes little care of her hair - getting her to actually have some has been an issue. I'm thinking about brushing her hair every day both to show her its possible for it to look nice (it is really thick and lustrous) and because it seems a nice, intimate contact thing to do.\n\nI'm also going to buy her some perfume that I like. She couldn't care less but is open to it.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I'll brush her hair and keep her in nice scents, but anyone got any other ideas on how to feminize my wife a bit?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0021",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice\n\nTITLE: Ladies, have you ever been dating a new person and kissed someone else?\n\nPOST: Hi, so the title speaks for itself. Have you ever been dating a guy and kissed someone else? Why did you do it and what did it mean to you?\n\nI (M22) recently started dating this girl (F22) we had been on a few dates and things were going well then she had to go out of town for a few weeks. We talked everyday while she was gone and then a few days ago she told me she had kissed another guy on her last day out of town. Before she left we had talked about how we both like each other and we don't want to see anyone else and she says she was drunk and immediately regretted it. I know I need to make a decision myself on what to do but I was just looking for some input from people who have been in a similar situation.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " ! Girl I am talking to kissed another guy while out of town after we talked about only seeing eachother. Would like to know why she would do this",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0022",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My [21f] boyfriend [22m] friends are excluding him [22m,21m] after he invited them places together\n\nPOST: I just don't understand why this happens. It's happened to me before too. \n\nMy boyfriend Ben* has been friends with Tim* since they were 5 and Jo* since they were 16. Tom and Jo never hung out alone. Ben recently invited Tim and Jo out all the time because Tim broke up with his girlfriend. They saw a movie together and went out together about 5 times with Ben Tim and Jo and other assorted male friends of Ben.\n\nNow Tim and Jo see each other all the time and don't invite Ben. This really upsets Ben. They go and see movies and go out clubbing. Ben just invited Tim somewhere and he told him that he already has plans with Jo. \n\nBen is justifiably upset. I am just wondering why this happens. It may sound really silly but i have had this happen to me before as well. I am confused. It seems really rude. I have always been inclusive instead of exclusive and when I organise anything I always invite everyone I think may want to come even if I know they won't. I have never done this to anyone ever. But it's obviously a common thing.\n\nI'm just wondering why. And how to go about fixing this? Ben is so hurt. Is it the kind of thing you just leave it and don't say anything? Ben has already mentioned that he was kind of hurt about it to Jo but they still aren't inviting him.\n\n*shitty made up fake names\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " my boyfriend invited his two best friends out a lot in a medium size group a handful of times now they hang out alone and don't invite him. His hurt.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0023",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [22 F] with my best friend [25 M] 3 years, If you're a nervous wreck, is telling someone how you feel about them over text appropriate?\n\nPOST: I've liked this same guy for an embarassing amount of time. I've been trying to ask him out, but I get so nervous (in a good way!) around him...plus we both talk a lot so it is hard to get a word in (lol). \n\nWe are both very close and are good friends, but I want to be something more. Would it be appropriate to tell him how I feel through a text or private message? Just wondering what opinions others may have about this. \n\nWould you be offended? Would you be doubtful of what the person was telling you? How would you overcome the nerves and tell them in person? Any thoughts/opinions/insights would be very helpful!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I get so nervous it is hard to stay focused on what I want to say. I feel that texting might help, but I am not sure.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0024",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Looking for advice on how I [16M] could get my crush/friend/prom date [17F] to actually like me/want to date me.\n\nPOST: So I've liked this girl for quite some time (~1 year) and only recently decided to do anything about it. I got her number, we started talking/texting a lot, and finally, since the timing worked out, I decided to ask her to prom. She says yes, everything is going well, and we even decide to go out on a date (at least, I would call it a date) before the dance, and after that she even suggests we do it again if there's time. \n\nYesterday I decided to propose the idea of dating after prom. She tells me that she isn't really interested in me like that, likes me as a friend, yadda, yadda, yadda, you know the story. The \"friendzone\" as it is not-so-affectionately named. \n\nAny advice on what I should do from here? The dance is coming up on Friday, so any advice relevant to that would be great, but I'd appreciate general advice as well.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I like this girl, asked her to prom, she said yes, I suggested dating afterwards, got friendzoned.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0025",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My son (12M w/Aspergers) can be... difficult. My husband of 1 yr (35M) gets angry, loses his temper. I'm (38F) at a loss.\n\nPOST: Husband and I have been together for 2 years, married for 1. He's very sweet to me and we have a pretty good relationship. Arguments are infrequent, but a constant source of tension is his relationship with my kids.\n\nHe's always found it difficult to relate to my kids (10M, 12M), but moreso with my eldest because my eldest is not an easy child to deal with. He's just been diagnosed with Aspergers (something I'd suspected since he was a toddler, but that's another story). He can be whiney and doesn't let things go, which just comes off as spoiled. Except for a speech impediment, he appears totally neurotypical. \n\nSo, on to the reason for my post -- I just need a sanity check. \n\nTonight, we'd planned to take the kids with us to a party and it so happened that no other kids would be present. The kids were going to hang out and play\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My husband of 1 yr loses his temper (punching things, shouting, slamming doors) with my 12 year old son who has AS. Am I being overprotective or not protective enough?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0026",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [25 M] with my GF [25 F] of 11 months, lied about sexual history, didnt tell me her EX was diagnosed with herpes... I'm not angry?\n\nPOST: Me and my GF have been going out for around 11 months. When we first got together i asked her how many partners she had in the last year. She said 1, her ex. We then had sex without a condom based on this information. She got tested a month later and had chlamydia. I never tested positive. She told me her EX must have cheated.\n\n9 months later I snooped on her and connected dots to figure out that she had another \"fling\" while things with her old BF were fizzling. Completely understandable, however she hid this from me because she thought i would \"think less of her\". This is where she got the chlamydia. I'm of the mindset that your past doesn't matter - what matters to me is that i made a decision based on a small set of information and was lied to.\n\nWhile i was snooping i also found a text from her EX (from ~2 weeks earlier; so 10 months after they broke up) telling her that he had herpes but has since had other girls she he was letting her know and possibly blaming her - she didn't even think to tell me and she didn't even think to get tested.  I was pretty upset by this and made her get tested, her test is today.\n\nAnyway - I cant help but think that i should break up with her over these two things. However, i'm honestly not \"mad\" at her. I just feel like the trust has be set back a fair bit. Is my reaction wrong/irrational? I really do love this girl, but shes also my first major relationship so I may have \"first love\" syndrome or some shit. Just looking for unbiased opinions.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " GF lied about a partner between me and her ex. Didnt tell me her ex was diagnosed with herpes after they broke up. I'm not angry, but feel that the trust is lacking on my end. What do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0027",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: A distant family friend [22M] recently casually asked for my [21F] number, and sent me a text a month later - what does it mean?\n\nPOST: This is a family friend I've previously barely ever talked to (not in a mean way, just in a 'we hang out with other people' way). Thus it made me do a double take when he very casually after saying hi at one of these gatherings said, 'Oh, I don't think I have your number, do I?'. I gave him my number, because it would have been rude not to.\n\n1 month later, I get the text, 'Hey Apple_crumble1, this is [insert name] how have you been? Haven't seen you in a while :)'\n\nNow this is a little odd, because we barely ever see each other anyway, not like this is unusual.\n\nI sent a reply along the lines of 'Not bad, studying for exams mainly. You?', and a few minutes later there was a response like '[blah blah, talking about exams] Do your parents let you go out much, like Friday, Saturday nights, or are they very strict?'\n\nIs this a prelude to asking me out, or am I reading too much into idle conversation? I don't have much experience with this kind of thing.\n\nFor the record, I'm not interested in him in that way in the slightest. If it is a prelude to a date, any advice on how to prevent such a request/let him down gently without directly saying 'I'm not interested'?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Family friend asked for my number and sent a text. Is he about to ask me out, and if yes, how do I prevent this/say no nicely?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0028",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/jobs\n\nTITLE: Unemployment office told me I was unemployable... now what?\n\nPOST: I was laid off in December and have been on unemployment ever since as such I am required to attend 're-employment seminars' at my local unemployment office.  At the last one we sat down with consultants and they went through our resume, job history etc and they go through the database and suggest jobs for you to apply to.  The conclusion of my consultant was that I am unemployable...\n\nMy problem is I have a solid work history doing project management in the construction industry before making the jump in manufacturing and product development.  At my last position I had a 5 person engineering in our Shanghai plant reporting to me and on an org chart was on the same level as the Plant General Manager reporting to the CEO and President.  I won national level awards for my product designs and closed multimillion dollar contracts with Fortune 500 companies.\n\n**The issue is I don't have a degree.**\n\nI was told I should start applying for entry level jobs and remove a lot of my achievements and dumb down my responsibilities and such.  Normally I would think this is insane but after applying for hundreds (literally hundreds I keep a log) of jobs and still not getting anywhere I am willing to give it a shot even if it means taking a job I'm not happy with.\n\nI am consistently told 1.) I was overqualified 2.) Even though the job I apply for is exactly what I was doing before I'm not eligible because I don't have a degree or 3.) No response.\n\nThe easy answer here is 'go back to school' and as much as I would love to do that I can't.  I currently live out of my car since my apartment lease came up for renewal and I couldn't provide proof of income (unemployment doesn't qualify), can't get financial aid because my father makes to much money and is a believer in the 'you pay for your own way' line of thinking which I tend to agree with but screws me in this situation.  Student loans aren't really an option because Stafford loans won't cover tuition and I don't have enough credit history to be approved for a traditional loan.\n\nI'm kind of at a loss now and becoming really discouraged so any advice would be great.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I am unemployable because I have been working at a high level of business without a degree and can't land an interview to prove myself",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0029",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I (F24) cheated on my boyfriend (M28) of two years. He forgave me but now he's asking if he can sleep with another woman so we're \"even\" - What do I do?\n\nPOST: Two year serious relationship.  I'm a 24 year old female, he's a 28 year old male.\n\nI cheated in the very beginning of our relationship.  It was the first month we were exclusive and I slept with an ex.  This has been my secret for the past two years and the guilt recently overwhelmed me.  So I told my boyfriend what happened.  He was extremely upset with me and almost broke it off.  \n\nIt's been a couple of months and our relationship is finally back to normal.  However, last night, he told me he thinks it would be fair if I allowed him to have sex with another woman since I had sex with another man.  \n\nI immediately started crying.  I fucked up so bad.  He said it's not about revenge but I don't understand.  **He's been the perfect boyfriend over the past two years.**  He was faithful, sweet, kind, loving, and now he wants to fuck another girl just because I fucked another guy.\n\nI have a really bad feeling the girl he wants to have sex with is a chick he just met at college.  I haven't met her yet but I get the feeling that's who he wants.  I'm so afraid he's developing feelings for her.\n\nHas anyone ever gone through this?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Boyfriend wants to have sex with another woman since I cheated on him.  He's been the perfect boyfriend.  I really fucked up this relationship.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0030",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/loseit\n\nTITLE: Flatlined libido? Please say I'm not the only one & should I be worried? [Possibly NSFW]\n\nPOST: Hi loseit,\n\nI'm sorry if this isn't necessarily relevant to weight loss, but it's the only correlating change in my life. If I'm doing wrong by posting here, please feel free to scorn me.\n\nI've noticed over the past six months, whilst losing weight, that my libido has completely flatlined. I've searched everywhere for information on it or people with similar experiences only to find that weight loss has had the complete opposite effect on the majority of other people, with only breadcrumbs on information on a decreased libido.\n\nWeight loss is the only thing I can think of that could be causing this. The relationship with my boyfriend is better than ever and I still find him thoroughly attractive, I just can't find sex engaging. And it's not just the physical side, the idea is doing nothing for me either; it's like I may as well be a eunuch. The first month of this happening I thought it might just be an off month for me; but six months down the line and it's beginning to worry me considerably. Should I consider seeing my GP about it?\n\nHave any of you guys had a similar experience, or have any suggestions as to what may be causing it?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " flatlined libido since losing weight, weight loss only correlating change, could it be causing it & should I seek medical advice?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0031",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: friend of friend [17 F] with a person she doesn't know well [23 M] met at a concert\n\nPOST: The friend (M) is concerned for her friend (V).  She said that they met at a concert and prettymuch immedietly started making out.  She doesn't know the guys last name, where he lives, etc. and wants to sleep with him.  I'd consider myself a pretty sex positive person, and if you wana do the do, then by all means.  However, I can't help find it strange that (despite being legal, 17 in new york) that she'd be getting involved with someone 6 years her senior while shes so young.  She doesn't have the best history with dating, and it seems destined to fail and potentially dangerous.  I know it's a fuckload of 'not my buisness', but, can't help but be a bit concerned as I did work with V and know her a bit. \n\nI guess normally I'd try and say that people need to learn from mistakes, but knowing she has a history of sexual abuse and mental health issues, and the fact that it may just be flatout dangerous to her health/well being I can't help but be a bit concerned\n\nBeing a 23 year old guy, I can say that yes, V is cute, but holyshit would it feel weird as a 23 year old to be with someone so young/immature and feel kind of concerned for the guy's character.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Where is the line between learning from mistakes/life experience and trying to help someone avoid potential physical harm?  What do you even say to people to try and help protect them from sketchy decisions?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0032",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/college\n\nTITLE: Going to this Uni's counselor, I need some help...\n\nPOST: I have been studying for the SATs for several months now because I plan on taking the test on May 4th. The University that I am planning on going to is Kean University and I am going to see the counselor; although, I have some idea as what to ask I would like to know what you (College veteran, people who has gone through this whole college process already) think I should make an imperative to ask. I want to major in Economics so if any of you who is or has studied Economics would like to give me advice as to what I should ask concerning this major so that I fully knowledgeable on the matter.\nI will be eternally grateful.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " What should I ask the student counselor to this University I want to go too regarding college itself, Economics, and SAT scores.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0033",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: [28/M] I have been talking to someone recently [25/F] and things seem to be going well, but when is a good time to bring up my past?\n\nPOST: Let me explain what I meany by my past. As a child I was emotionally abused starting at the age of 10 and ending when at the age of 16 but those years still take a toll on me. I'm not afraid of people at all but it's very hard for me to become emotionally attached to people because of this. I'm still very self conscious about myself but I don't let it show and I have a very hard time trusting people right away. In no way am I sad or bitter though because I tend to have an upbeat attitude and am a very outgoing, optimistic individual.\n\nI've had relationships before but more than not I was treated like garbage in those relationships, especially my last one when my ex would sometimes physically strike me as well as well as continue saying things like \"you know you can't leave me since no one else will ever love you.\" I always told as a kid that I was worthless and useless and that no one could love me anyways so I just assumed this was all normal.\n\nIt's been about 3 years since that and I still feel the toll it's taken on me but I've been talking to this woman recently for nearly a month and things seem to be getting pretty serious between us. She's cute, sweet, funny.. she's pretty much everything I'm not used to. And that's what's killing me. It's really, really hard for me to get emotionally attached to her because of my past and that's definitely not fair to her because she's treated me so well. I wish I could say I was joking when I say this is the first time I've actually been treated this way but it really is.\n\nShe knows nothing of my past at all because I didn't want to reveal anything that might scare her off. When would be a good time to sit her down and talk to her about everything I've been through and how it might be hard for me, at least at first, to become emotionally attached and how it might take time?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Emotionally abused as a child, I had horrible past relationships, I've found a woman who treats me right and want to know when I should explain to her about my past.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0034",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: [Update] I am m32 in the UK trying to save my marriage.\n\nPOST: [Original post] ( So here's the update. After one short counseling session, therapist was late, and multiple conversations There may be hope for my marriage.\n\nThe big thing is She says she still loves me as a friend, but not as a husband right now. This is due to unkept promises about relocating to the UK. Of which I reminded her the only thing that kept me from resigning from my job in the US was her request. I realize most of you advise me against doing this. \n\nShe likes to refer to a lot of things as I'm not to let you, meaning me, \"Destroy this\". To which I've had to also come back and say that this was a 2 Way St., I'm not feeling one who screwed up so I need help fixing it from you. \n\nToday she told me that she bought a house, got the down payment from my in-laws, as long as I was kept off the title of the house. Which I said that's completely bullshit. If anything they should be encouraging us to stay united not encouraging us to be divided. Which got me back to the point of I had a good thing going there before I was called away to do my United States work to which she didn't want me to resign from.  That she was criminalizing me (for lack of a better term) For doing what she asked me to do. \n\nWhen I got here I found out that she spoke to divorce lawyer, and I managed to through open communication back her from that ledge. And she is giving me three months to get my \"shit together\".  I.e. find a job and settle in the UK, which I'm very much actively pursuing.\n\n But my real question is from a group of strangers who know nothing more than the ramblings of this hopeless person what are the chances that I'm able to save my marriage?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Right now cohabitating with my wife managed to convince her not to divorce me just yet is giving me three months to get my \"shit together\" Hoping for some Reddit insight",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0035",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/tifu\n\nTITLE: TIFU by trying to flirt with a customer at work\n\nPOST: I'm a cashier at BJs, but I'm not going to say where to protect my anonymity.\n\nSo this really cute girl and her mom got on line. I was praying to god that I'd get to ring her up, and not the person behind me. I figured if it was meant to be then she'd end up at my register. Turns out I got lucky and I noticed she was next on my register. She was wearing a shirt with a bar code on it that read \"Check Me Out\" above it. Immediately an idea on how to flirt with her sparked into my head. So after her mom handed me their membership card, I tried scanning her shirt. When it wouldn't scan (for obvious reasons) I said, half jokingly \"Oh no, you're not scanning properly. I'll have to get the item's number.\" She giggled and smiled at me. But her mother looked at me and said \"You're disgusting!\". Then she took their cart, grabbed her by the arm and went to another line. Later on a supervisor came up to me and told me they got a complaint that a customer was \"uncomfortable with the way I was talking to their daughter.\"\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Tried to flirt with a girl at work by scanning her bar code shirt. Got called disgusting by her mom and got yelled at by my supervisor.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0036",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [18 M] with my boyfriend [24 M] 4 months dating, I lied.\n\nPOST: I met this guy on grindr(gay hookup app) and we hooked up one day when I went to a college visit in Michigan. The first night we had sex, but he came for second night and we just talked until we both fell asleep. We decided to keep in touch until I graduated high school and came to school there. (I was still 18)\n\nEver since then we have been texting and face timing everyday(building trust etc.) Since then I have asked if he has hooked up with anyone since we met and he said no. 1st red flag. He has hooked up with someone, he didn't know I'd remember but he told me a month into our relationship. I figured at least he was honest and didn't think too much of it.\n\nRecently I went to New York by myself to tour the city at night because I had never seen what it looked like before, I live in NJ. In the end I ended up calling him because I was at Penn station and it was about 4 in the morning. I made up this story that I came to new York, met up with my roommate & his older brother, we went to a hookah bar, and they got drunk so I left. the story itself wasn't very believable and he caught on and told me he had a hard time believing me, and hung up.\n\nI texted him and told him I was sorry that I lied and I promised I'd never do it again. He sent me a picture of his gay hookup app of people messaging him and told me that he was at a hookups, house right now and I told him I wanted to keep trying with him either way I didn't care. He said he wasn't mad at me but in turn he would not apologize for hooking up, lying, and he would not delete his app. I accepted the consequences for my lies and told him that I still wanted to keep trying with him. Since then he un-followed me on instagram and I don't know how to start a conversation with him anymore, everything I say will just sound like another lie to him. I haven't tried texting or calling him ever since then.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " How do I earn his trust and understanding back? & how do I start a conversation with him. He's very intimidating.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0037",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Husband's [33M] family realized I [32F] used to be a porn actress. All hell broke lose.\n\nPOST: It happened when I was 19-21. I was never famous or very successful. I acted in a few videos by some studios and the videos are online. I can't take them off as I had contracts which gave the studio the legal right to the videos. They're on a couple of premium websites and a few of them are on PornHub and other free websites. They aren't super popular or anything and they are under stage names. I told my husband before we got married and showed him the videos. Nobody else knows on his side of the family. It has never got back to me, nobody has recognized me ever really until now.\n\nSo a few weeks ago my husband's cousin [29M] has found the videos somehow (I imagine he watches porn 23 hours a day). He emailed the link to the videos to my husband, which he shows me and we decided to play dumb and say it's not me (it was over 10 years ago that the video was shot and the video quality wasn't that high on the link). So he calls him and tells him that he doesn't like the joke. The cousin apologises and says that he thought it would be funny. We thought it's over.\n\nThis morning, he emailed everyone in the extended family with links to high quality videos (I imagine he has tracked down the source of the videos and bought high quality copies). This was the video that he sent to my husband and other videos as well. He then says in the email that \"It's who you think it is\". Also says that they would have loved to know the truth before allowing \"this girl\" part of the family and around our children.\n\nSo as soon as this happens, we had phones ringing asking what's going on. Multiple emails saying they don't want their children/teenagers around me any longer. Multiple people deleted me as their Facebook friends and some have taken the liberty of posting some really hurtful status updates like \"the girl we accepted as part of our family was in fact someone who swallowed someone's sperms in front of camera\". If someone sends this to where I work I could even be fired.\n\nHonestly we haven't done or said anything. We don't know what to do.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I played in a few porn videos. Someone found it and sent it to my husband's family. They reacted in the worst way imaginable. We don't know how to respond.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0038",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice\n\nTITLE: (20/f)Really needing advice about my boyfriend's (18/m)lack of communication\n\nPOST: To start out- I'm using a throwaway to prevent people I know from noticing a request for relationship advice.\n Secondly, I know how quick many redditors on here are to suggesting a breakup. That is not on the table for me, I am asking for tools to repair and enhance the relationship car, not advice on how to total it and find a new one.\nAlso, please do not make the mistake of using our age as a fit reason why this is not a genuine problem. It would insult my emotional intelligence, and I hope for open minded advice.  I recently graduated from the same High School that he is currently a Juniour in.\n\nWe've been dating for three years now, and are eachother's best friends. We enjoy many of the same things, yet our opposite personalities compliment eachother quite often, and in most ways. I am sensitive and feeling, excitable, and perceptive to when something is bothering him. He is reserved, calm, and I suppose, \"logical.\" My Boyfriend is basically a Vulcan.\nHe *never* shares his feelings about a problem, like ever. I can sense when he's preoccupied by a problem, and whether or not I inquire, or leave him alone to have space about that sense, he never opens up to share it with me. \nUnless it's something trivial, like \"I don't like the smell of that Febreeze.\"\n\nI have told him, when we have argued in the past, that I really need him to open up to me more, if he at all can. Because while I understand that people are different, and don't like to share on every topic, it can definitely be said that cramming every thought and emotion into a bottle is unhealthy. It reduces me to tears to think about how there's problems trapped in his mind that he has not even considered bouncing off of me.\nBefore anybody asks, no, I have not ever acted in such a way to make him not trust my reactions to his innermost thoughts, were he to try and open up to me once.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Boyfriend keeps emotions and thoughts locked up, I want to be a comfort to him, and to help him realise that sometimes, talking *can* be a good way to solve a problem or reduce his anxiety.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0039",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Tried something new, not sure how it went.(M20)(F20)\n\nPOST: Told my real close friend that I am into her, and not sure how she has taken it, me and her have been real close for a while, but unfortunately she has a boyfriend, who she hasn't been on best terms with recently, but they seem to be getting on again. So I told her after I left her place, and from what I know, if girls aren't interested they will usually tell you right away, and let you down easy, or just completely destroy you, neither has happened.\n\nShe just hasn't replied, at all, nothing, I let her know roughly 24 hours ago and still nothing, so anyone got any idea to what might be going on? The only thing I can think of is that shes just consolidating herself about what to do next, like choosing what guy, but that's just me being stupidly hopeful.\n\nAny idea?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Told my friend I'm into her about 24 hours ago, she has a boyfriend who shes on rough terms with, still no reply, whats going on?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0040",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I (23m) have never had a relationship and I am terrified and I have no idea what to do should that day come\n\nPOST: So.. this may not be the usual post here and I am not even sure if this is the right place since I am not even in a relationship and never have been, but that is kind of the point.\n\nSee, I am 23 years old now, I am a guy. I have been severely bullied throughout my childhood and teens, to the point where I never even ever had the chance to come close to something like a relationship with anyone at all. Well there was that one time that a girl kissed me, once and I am relatively sure that was out of pity after hearing that I had never even kissed anyone before.\n\nLately I have found myself feeling more lonely than usual and I have been thinking about the what-if's.\n\nI don't have any sort of experience on how to even have a relationship. None. Zip. Nada. Even if by some act of god I would find someone that I like that likes me back and stuff happens. Then... what? Maybe the problem is that I don't even know what to expect out of a relationship anymore, all that I do know is that I feel the primal urge for... that someone special, but I don't even know anymore.\n\nI have a hard time even putting my problem into words or even what I expect any of you to answer me. It's not like this is something you can read a handbook or manual or \"Relationships 101 for Dummies\" on. This is something that I should have learned naturally in my formative years but through circumstances out of my control that never happened.\n\nHow would I even go about explaining this to a hypothetical, prospective someone... that I know about as much about relationships as a newborn. That I have less experience in those kinds of things than most 12-year-olds.\n\nAt this point I just feel so terrified of it, that I am honestly considering that I should just come to terms with the fact that I will probably be single all my life and forget about it, find something else to fill the figurative void in my figurative heart.\n\nI guess the\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " is: What IS a relationship? What do people do in a relationship? What should I expect out of such a thing? Do I even need to worry about it?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0041",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [17 M] the past two weeks I've been hearing things that aren't there, and i have don't know when i'm dreaming or when i'm awake!?\n\nPOST: i've noticed this happening lately, when i have my headphones on i'll hear a deep gutteral voice call out my name from the other room, i'll walk in and no one will be there  no one is home. \n\ni have never taken any illegal drugs (i did take lexapro for about two years when i was 14-15 for anxiety and depression) i have an uncle who is a diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic. i have read that it is hereditary so i'm not sure what to think.\n\nyesterday, or today i don't know it felt like i was dreaming while i was awake. i saw stars while the sun was out but saw my family as clear as day. \n\nI drove to work and all the other cars were frozen in place. i just drove through them like ghosts and when i got to work it felt like i was shaken awake out of bed because my manager called asking where the hell i was.\n\ni'm really confused right now, i have a therapist i see once a month, i bumped the meeting up next tuesday which was the earliest she could see me. i've taken break from work until i can figure this all out.. my question is how should i approach my therapist about this? she told me upfront if she thinks i'm a danger to myself or others she has to report me to the police. i don't want to be locked up in a insane asylum. how do i tell her this without being taken away???\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " hearing things that aren't there, seeing things, can't tell the difference bewteen dreaming or being awake.. how do i tell my therapist i think i may be schizophrenic????",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0042",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/Pets\n\nTITLE: I received a goldfish that I do not want, what should I do with it?\n\nPOST: So this morning I woke up, and there was a note that said \"There is a birthday present outside, here is a bucket for it.\" So I went outside and found that there was a goldfish in a bag filled with water. So I put the bag in the water to get the two waters the same temperature. I then asked my friend who gave it to me the story about it, and long story short, they won a fish at the county fair and gave it to me for my birthday. But since I don't want it, I don't know what to do with it. Any help?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Friends gave me a fish from the county fair for my birthday, and I don't want it. What do I do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0043",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice\n\nTITLE: My girlfriend 19f and myself 19m have been dating for over a year now and still fight all the time, I am not sure what to do. (tough situation)\n\nPOST: My girlfriend 19f and myself 19m have been dating for about a year and a half now. To try and make a long story short, her parents got divorced right after we met and got together so I am her only \"go to/family\" because her relationship with them has been destroyed and the parents treat her horribly now. We are both in college and do not have similar attitudes and most of our hobbies are very different. She does not get along with others very well but I can make friends with a bug. I am the dominant one in the relationship and she has been the dominant one in her past relationships so this causes problems between both of us as I'm sure you can imagine. For months now we have been fighting more than ever and it all seems to come from me not spending the amount of time she wants me to spend with her, but even when I do this we (mostly me) are only happy for a few weeks and then this process repeats. Another thing I would like to mention is that I am very focused on my future and career and I spend most of my time working, studying, taking care of any leadership positions I have, and working out. Those are my passions and I feel like it would be selfish of me not to take advantage of all the opportunities I have been given.  This relationship is very unhealthy for the both of us and I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions or advice? Please help all suggestions are welcome.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " me 19m and gf 19f have a relationship I feel is unhealthy and I am her only \"rock\". I am not happy with where we are.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0044",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/loseit\n\nTITLE: Lose It: Long time, no see. Help!\n\nPOST: Hi Lose It!\n\nSo I'm male, low 20's., and 5 foot 10. Used to way 260ish -- now 185ish. I have been \"stable\" (+/-) a few pounds for 1.5 years. \n\nI only do cardio. Always scared of the weights, don't know how to do them, don't/can't get a gym membership. I now will try weights, and this is where you come in.\n\nI have a dumbbell set, and some open space, and that's basically it. Can anyone suggest some exercises/routines of what I should be doing with my very very limited supply of weights? Again no room for a bench press and shit like that. \n\nWhat I'm looking for is links to videos on YouTube etc...where I can throw them up on my computer and do the exercise while they are doing the exercise in my room....that way I can't \"learn\" and do things properly in the comfort of my own house.\n\nI also plan to continue 45-60 minute cardio 5-6 times/week (post-dumbbells). Any help is appreciated.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Starting back up, this time on dumbbells. Post some links of online video routines of trainers working out with dumbbells so I can learn.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0045",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [19 M] with my GF [19 F] broke up after almost 3 years, hard time staying friends\n\nPOST: We broke up for college last year and I know I had a rough time, going from constantly seeing a best friend to not even communicating. It was an understandably mutual decision as we were both going forward in life, but it still hurt a lot.\n\nAnyways after a few months of college, I thought I was done with her. Then she began drunk texting me quite often. I was civil at first then ignored them as I realized it was just hurting me and going nowhere. So I got over her again.\n\nNow that we're back for summer, she's been wanting to hang out with mutual friends as we were all close. I thought I was at peace and had gotten over her but just seeing her again ruined my day. I felt (and still feel) like I'm going through the breakup all over again. \n\nAvoiding her is out of the question since my best friends are close friends of hers as well. We were all one big happy family and now there's this awkward rift between my ex and I that is stemming from my confused feelings and was damn near palpable to my friends when we all got together today.\n\nAlso, I would never want to leave my friends, especially because of her.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Ex and I broke up. Due to joint custody of the friends, we'll see each other more than I can handle. Feels like my heart is breaking all over again. ",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0046",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/Advice\n\nTITLE: Have a crush and want to take it the next level. How should I proceed?\n\nPOST: OK so I like this girl (She is a junior and I'm a sophomore in highschool) and she was dating this guy I was friends with when I first met her. They broke up about 2 weeks ago and my friend keeps saying that he is over her. I'm not gonna lie this girl is a little bit out of my league but I really think she likes me because one day last week we were talking in the hallway and she randomly asked to see my hand, she then proceeded to write her number on my hand. I had never previously asked her for it so I found it a bit weird, once again I'm not gonna lie I'm not exactly a Laddies' man. Fast forward about a week nothing has happened other than talking to each other in the hall and texting daily. Homecoming is coming up on a couple of weeks and of course with my luck it is girls ask guys. I thought to myself, \"Screw it, I'm just gonna ask her.\" This was yesterday, of course some other asshole asked her that morning. (I don't see her until lunch.) This guy is one of her ex's from last year and she said she might give him another chance. This guy has a little bit of an advantage over me because he is also a junior, taller, plays guitar, and has a sweet beard. I was texting her last night and asked her if she was with that dude and she said no, but I'm thinking about it. I replied, \"I'm going to warn you, and I speak from personal experience, the relationship ended the first time for a reason.\" She then texted back, \"You're right.\" The best I could think to say was, \"You do you, but consider this fair warning.\" No response. I'm really stumped here and honestly have no idea what to do next.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I like a girl and was gonna ask her to homecoming but her ex did first and doesn't know if she is gonna take him back.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0047",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [M/19] am gonna be meeting up with my ex [F/17] in a couple of weeks about maybe getting back together - how to approach it?\n\nPOST: We dated for about a year, getting together while we were both in sixth form (UK, not sure of the US equivalent) and I broke it off a couple of months after leaving for university (I live away from home, about a 3 hour drive) pretty selfishly as I wanted to experience the life of a single lad at uni. After enjoying myself for a bit, I realised how much I missed her and took her for granted, you know the little things like having somebody to talk to all of the time, somebody to depend on and her in general. I isolated myself from all of my friends and eventually became depressed about the situation as I discovered she had practically wiped any existence that we even knew eachother.\n\nThen, out of nowhere we suddenly begin texting again, leaving me completely and utterly confused about where I stand with her. To make sure I didn't end up becoming depressed again, I made my feelings absolutely clear that I wanted her back and essentially issued her an ultimatum, to which she responded saying she knew what I was going through but claims a lot has happened and that I need to understand that she \"isn't saying no\".\n\nI come home for a couple of weeks at the end of March and she wants to meet up and see what happens.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I'm still in love with this girl and I don't want to fuck up again. Please, tell me the best way to approach this and not make a twat of myself again.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0048",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Girlfriend aka wifey (31F) and I (23M) has been in a 11 month relationship. She has lied, cheated, and keeps stealing from me. I feel so hurt today. Please help a fellow redditor as I'm not sure what to do with this relationship :'(\n\nPOST: I'm hurting so bad right now and am very disappointed at Lauren. Today she stole some of my prescription (again) today. As far as we have been in this relationship, she is very opportunistic when she steals from me e.g.  Money, my prescription medications, etc. At this point, I have to hide most of my valuables from her. \n\nFrom the cheating standpoint; Lauren has slept with her ex, RJ, early on in our relationship. RJ and Lauren have been dating for 12 years with an 11 year old daughter, Annie. Thing is, she doesn't generally like women and prefers having guys as friends. Also she keeps in touch with former flings post break up. I always find out or \"catch her\" after the fact as she isn't forthcoming to me. She expresses remorse to me long after an argument breaks out from this. This includes flirt text through FB, phone, pics sent, etc. \nWhat hurts me is that she tries to cover up/lie her way out of it or somehow turns it around to me. \n\nI haven't given anything less than the best of me, all of me, in this relationship. I support her and her daughter and have sacrificed alot to keep/maintain this relationship. I'm not saying I'm perfect or a saint either. I harbor these trust issues inside of me because of her past actions. However, I can proudly say I never have done anything remotely close to what she has done to me. In a way, I see myself healing her heart from her past and always push her to do the right thing and be the best she can be. \n\nTwo question(s) that concerns me:\n\n1) How should I approach her with the stealing situation? \n\n2) Is this relationship too toxic to even save?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Girlfriend, lies, steals, cheats on me. How to approach her opportunistic stealing habit and/or is this relationship too toxic to stay in? ",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0049",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance\n\nTITLE: eBay account hacked, not sure what to do next\n\nPOST: Part of me loves eBay, the other half hates it. A few days ago, my eBay and Paypal accounts were both hacked. Thankfully, I got my eBay account back. The hacker listed 20 or so copies of Adobe Acrobat, of which 7 sold, two people bought one each, and one dude bought 5. Obviously, I don't have the items to actually sell, so I filed to cancel the orders. I messaged the people who bought them alerting them to the situation and that I don't have the products to sell. However, there was some internal error and I had to log in to my PayPal account in order to issue the refunds. This is where things get messy. After 3 or 4 days, I've not heard back from any of them. I can't get into my PayPal account as that was breached as well and I've not had luck getting back into it. I'm at an impasse. Should I use my own money in order to issue the refunds even though I don't have access to the nearly $600 this hacker scammed these people out of, or should I leave things as they are? I don't think I'll be able to get back into my PayPal account as the email address I used for it all those years ago has been long since lost to time (domain for host got sold).\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " my eBay and PayPal accounts were hacked, hacker sold products on my account before I could get it back, order cancel requests error'd. What do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0050",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [25M] want to move to another state for a job while my pregnant fiance [23F] refuses to even listen to me about it\n\nPOST: My fiance and I have been together for 3 years now, when we first starting dating we talked about our plans, we each wanted to go to finish school for our respective careers and I have had plans to move away for the past 10 years now as soon as I got the chance and she agreed that we should one day. Well due to some issues that I wont get into here I was unable to finish school and my fiance wound up dropping out and not not going back despite claims that she wants to. We've both been struggling to get by thanks to our decisions and I convinced myself that my dreams of leaving had been shattered due to some mistakes.\n\nWell due to our combined income being less than 40k a year as it stands I've been looking for a better job that I can support us with when I finally found one. It will require me to go out of state for 6 weeks of training and then transfer to another state to work in, I will be making 45k a year if I take the job and they have informed me that there are raises every 6 months which in several years will put me closer to 60k a year. I told my fiance about the job offer and she instantly become upset and told me that she doesn't want to leave her family and has no intention of ever leaving she also told me during this argument that she was late. A couple of days later we bought a pregnancy test and it came back positive, we're going to be parents. Now I feel that this job is necessary to take care of them as I will be making more than both of us starting off. She is now using this as more of an excuse not to leave. I have to let the company know by the end of the week. She told me that if I take the job that we are done. I don't want to leave her or the child but this job would be great for us, I also don't like that she is now against ever moving away as we agreed that we should one day and she knows that I am miserable here. I have no idea what to do here...\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Got job offer out of state making more than we make combined, girlfriend is pregnant, she says if I take the job we are done/",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0051",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/loseit\n\nTITLE: Didn't do too well over Christmas break.\n\nPOST: Basic Info:  M 19/6'0/233 lbs (105 kg).\n\nSo around the middle of November I decided that I need to make a change in my lifestyle before my weight gets to out of hand.  I started counting calories, running with the C25k program, doing pushups, sit-ups, and other exercises.  I had been doing very well and had lost over 10 lbs going in to Christmas break.\n\nThen I go to my grandmom's house to celebrate the holidays and of course my grandmom being amazing like she is cooks really good food.  At first I promised myself that I was only going to cheat on Christmas day and I did that during the first half of the week.  After Christmas I pretty much crumbled, eating an entire large popcorn with butter all by myself when we went to the movies, eating way more than I needed too, didn't run or do any exercise for that matter, etc.\n\nI get back home and was scared to get back on the scale to see how much of my lost weight I had put back on.  I was expecting to have gained 3-4 pounds back, but it turned out that I had gained 7 lbs back.  I felt awful.  That was over half of the weight that I had worked so hard to lose.\n\nSo now I am posting here hoping to get back on track or something.  I don't know maybe I am just ranting right now because I am fairly upset.  I don't know if any of you have gone through something similar to this, but if you have I would appreciate any info or experiences you have.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Was doing really well with weight loss, slipped a lot over Christmas break and gained back over half of the weight I had lost.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0052",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me 21 M with my girlfriend [21 F] of 3 years, and i broke up because i subconciously wanted something new.\n\nPOST: Names: Jessica (Ex); Michelle (Current GF)\n\nI was with Jessica for over 3 years and i broke up with her because i started feeling like the relationship was gradually falling. I became friends with Michelle that was alot of fun and i enjoyed being with and going out with and ended up asking her out after a drunken night as payback because i was angry at Jessica. Slowly she started sleeping over and then gradually moved in by herself without me telling her to move in. Its gotten to the point that i really do not wanna be with her and i want to get back with Jessica. she knows this and wants to get back with me as well but i cant kick this girl out of my house. i try over and over and she ends up coming back in because im too \"soft\" i guess you can say. I miss Jessica so much and i really want HER to be with me. Its been about 6 months that i've been with Michelle and i want it to end for good but i really do not want to hurt her cause she ends up crying and i give in... what can i do? One and for all.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Broke up with my girfriend for a new girl, she now lives with me and i cant get rid of her to get back with my ex! What can i do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0053",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [33/f] with my [36/m] together 2 years. Question about finances.\n\nPOST: I have a great boyfriend in a lot of ways. However, currently I earn six figures and own my own house and he is living with me. At times he's offered to pay for the electricity bill which is really nothing.  Maybe not relevant, I also have children that I provide for and am their sole parent. Anyway, he doesn't earn much so it's never bugged me and I've never asked him to contribute. I should mention he does by household goods and groceries frequently.\n\nWell, the other night he mentioned he wanted to buy something that costs approx $1,000 to replace a broken iPad. My thought is if he can afford to but something fun for that amount he should be contributing financially. Thoughts on this?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " bf lives free in my house but now wants to spend $1k on something fun. Should this be rubbing me the wrong way?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0054",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice\n\nTITLE: Girl said yes to lunch date, but I don't think she has an actual interest?\n\nPOST: Me, whom is a 20 year old male figured I would take the shot of asking out my crush (18F) in a snapchat conversation. It went in the lines of this\n\n\"We have a lunchdate when I get home, just so you know\"\n\n- \"Haha \ud83d\ude0a\" (embarassed smiling emoji)\n\n\"I take that as a yes?\"\n\n\"- Absolutely \u263a\"\n\n\"Date it is then\"\n\nWhereas she stopped replying and I haven't had any reason to pursue any other conversation with her, just some minor that she kills by ceasing to reply despite the ends being loose to continue with if there was the desire to talk more. So I am confused, does she have an interest or am I wasting my time being toyed with despite her not being that type of girl? I am abroad now and discussing the specific lunchdate would across as weird momentarily but of course I will within a short future.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " girl said yes to lunchdate but seems to have no interest in talking to me - not a mutual excitement so to say. what is likely cause? will bring specifics about the date within short future to either confirm or abort.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0055",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My (F15) relationship with my dad (40) is falling apart due to his girlfriend (19)\n\nPOST: Okay, my parents got divorced about two years ago. They were both cheating on each other. They got new partners relatively quickly (about 2 months after everything was final. ) What gets weird is my dads girlfriend (now fianc\u00e9. ) is only 19. She went to school with my sister (20) and she's been like a family friend since they were in 7th grade. She is now beyond rude to us (my sister and I, and our brother who is 8) She hasn't finished highschool, and has no job. She had a 3 year old who's father is not in the picture. Sometimes she comes home smelling strongly of marijuana and sometimes of alcohol. While I think if she wants to smoke, that's fine, but I think it's really inappropriate for her to come home to her child while buzzed. I've talked to my dad countless times about how it makes me uncomfortable, but he sees no problem with it. I've talked to him about how she says rude things about my sister (calling her names, complaining about how she lives with our dad still, etc. ) but he still does nothing. My dad is starting to act like her and it worries me. He could have a wonderful woman, but he's choosing her, and his relationship with his kids is at stake. I'm too embarrassed about it to talk to anybody else about it, so is there anything I can do to try and make him see where his kids are coming from? Or should I just leave him be and hope that he sees that she's not the best thing he could have? Please help.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My dads girlfriend is beyond rude to my siblings and I, and I can't handle it. My dads acting like her, and he won't listen to reason. ",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0056",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice\n\nTITLE: Am I wasting my time with her? Need advice\n\nPOST: Let me explaine my situation (Sorry if I make mistakes, english isn't my first language). So I'm a 20yo male, been dating this girl for 3-4 months and it's my first relationship. I've known her for 3 years and she has been treated like shit by her 2 other boyfriends in the past, I should also mention that she is on heavy anti anxiety meds and has depression (this will seems like an important detail)\n\nAnyway hear is why i'm asking this - everything was just perfect until about 3 weeks ago, at first the contact was constant, we would text everyday and with time it became more rational and we'ed text a bit through the week before we saw each other. This all stopped after one date where she told me the L word for the first time - one week no contact, and when i texted she replied 1 week later. The thing is, we still saw each other on a date, and she was affectionate and all, but then BAM she goes cold on me by text again but a week and a half latter we see each other again and it's all normal in person again.\n\nI have confronted her about this, asked if everything was ok but she gave me very vague answers like \"I'm the kind of person who needs to think about there problems before asking for others people's oppinions\" and \"You can talk about anything with me\" (In my head I was like : wtf, you never answer your phone and text when the planets are aligned) \n\nI should also add that I left the country for a month and a half 4 days ago (maybe that has somthing to do with her distance? but shouldn't it be the opposit?)\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My girlfriend's words contradict her actions, this could be her messed up head (or just mine) or somthing else, some advice would be lovely",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0057",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: I'm At My Wits End\n\nPOST: Here's the situation. I live in a house that my husband and I are buying. My best friend lives with us and pays rent. He has lived with me for many years, even before my husband and I were together. We generally all get along. The problem is my best friend's cat. I've found a new home for my cat because his cat was terrrorizing it. My best friend has told me straight up that he will move out if I ask him to get rid of the cat. But the cat has destroyed my couches (not declawed) among many other pieces of furniture, and shits and vomits in our floor every day. He goes in the litter box AND he shits in the front dining room, the office, the kitchen, whereever he pleases. The problem is, with the economy the way it is, we cannot afford to live in our house if my best friend moves out. So its like we are being held hostage by this cats behavior. My best friend refuses to do anything about it. Every day he has a new excuse. He calls the shitting \"accidents\" when it is clearly just a behavior problem that we've accepted for over 3 years now and will not go away. I've bought the spray that you spray where you don't want the cat to go, it doesn't work. We've tried to lock the cat in my best friends bedroom, he gets out. Not to mention the fact that my best friends' girlfriend's puppy is now living with us and has pissed and shit so much on our futon in the guest room that it is ruined. But that's another subject. What do I do? I am so close to just moving into an apartment and waiting for the house to be foreclosed on - but my husband doesn't want to do that.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My roommates cat is terrible and he won't get rid of it, and I can't afford for him to move out.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0058",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My girlfriend[19F] Won't have sex with me[18M]\n\nPOST: Hey /r/relationships, I think I'm gonna lose my mind. It's been around two years with my girlfriend whom I met in highschool and she refuses to have sex with me. I mean oral sex, feeling up, anything. She does a moderate sex drive and I can turn her on, but she refuses to do anything other than make out.\n\nI honestly love her, but it's making me lose my mind and made me do things I regret(Exchanging pictures). I just don't know what to do, her position seems to be final and I just can't see myself without her. I tried to think about the thought without her and I just couldn't see it; I'm worried that she would find someone else and then end up having sex with them(I know im pathetic). \n\nHer reasoning for not having sex is due to her religion; she comes from very religious parents, but her siblings are the exact opposite of her. The furthest we've ever gone is me rubbing the outside of her underwear and her giving me a hand job for a minute, then later crying about it to me because she felt \"guilty\". \n\nReddit I dont know what to do. I really dont. I can't see myself without this girl, but she's so prude and it's stressing me out and making me insane.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Christian girlfriend of two years refuses to have sex, love her and can't see myself without her, but can't stand not having sex.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0059",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/self\n\nTITLE: Help with court procedures on speeding tickets\n\nPOST: So a few days I get pulled over for doing 46 in a 40 (end of the month quota time) and a ticket is issued. I get pretty lucky on these next parts. \n\n1.The ticket says 54 in a 40 so that is obviously different from what he told me.\n\n2.From where I turned out at there isn't a speed limit sign for quite a ways up and going the opposite direction (which is the way I usually travel on this road if I do at all, was just picking up my boss that day) turn into 55 to start getting into highway traffic.\n\n3.Went to go check for speed limit signs and the only one was spray painted out. (thank you random teenager!!!)\n\nSo how do I go about this now? Court date is the 20th. What questions should I ask the judge, should I even mention the officer told me the wrong speed? I feel like they'll take his word over mine even though I took notes of the conversation right afterwards. What about there not being a limit sign anywhere where I came off from?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " got a speeding ticket and know I was in confines of the law due to technicalities. How do I handle the court",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0060",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [29f], husband [31m] losing weight fast, obsessed with weightloss products, suspended from work over Internet use (regarding this), is there any future in our relationship?\n\nPOST: I'm on a throwaway, since my sister has an account here.\n\nNewlywed, been married 6 months now. For the past 6 weeks, my husband's been losing weight, he's been refusing to eat, or eats very little, spends hours on the 'net reading about weight loss treatments or how to lose weight.\n\nHe was suspended from work on Tuesday for 2 weeks for misuse of Internet, he admitted to buying weightloss drugs online, using the company Internet, he's got to go into a meeting on Monday to discuss this.\n\nHis libido seemsto have gone, doesn't want sex, just spends hours and hours exercising, sits obsessing on the iPad over weight loss treatments, has even worn one of my bikinis whilst taking selfies - he claims its so he can see his weight loss in action. I found 20 selfies of him in a pink bikini of mine.\n\nI asked him last night why he's so into this weight loss and he said \"I'm fat, fat, faaaat, I'M A fat idiot who needs to lose some weight, I stink, I suck at being good, if you know what I mean.\"\n\nI think he means being healthy when he talks about being good.\n\nThen I asked him if he'd go for counselling with me and he said \"God, no, counselling, they're just trying to push their views on you about being fat. Its a con.\"\n\nI found him online at 8 this morning using our credit card to order some Cialis and weightloss pills, we argued over it and he told me \"i'm fat youre gonna fucking lose it that i used our credit card but what the hell.\"\n\nI feel like his weight loss and obsession with losing weight is turning him into someone else and am not likeing it.\n\nSo, any advice on how to deal with this further?\n\nI know i could divorce him, but isnt it too early, and marriage has bad times as well as good to work through?\n\nNeeding help... and its welcomed a lot!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Husband obsessed with weight loss, spends hours obsessing over it, I think he has body issues, he wont go to counselling.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0061",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [19 M] interested in a friend [19 F] known for a couple of years, who says we probably wouldn't work out because her parents are racist.\n\nPOST: Honestly, this girl is amazing and so far shes already more of a interesting person, than my ex. I like everything about her, and I did confess but what confused me is, she never really rejected me based on her thoughts. She only said she things we could never be more than friends and if we did, become more her racist parents would be a problem. ( I am African American) she is (Trinidadian of Indian descent). \nThe only issue I have with this is because she never told me what she thought about be besides saying a that I'm an awesome guy before saying the rest. \n\nIt also confuses me because I know she is very much an independent woman and a free thinker, so I can't seem to picture her dating a specific type of guy so her parents wont  cause problems. Perhaps she has a weak spot for family and I understand.\n\nSo am I wasting my time? My best friend told me I should just take it slow (Kind of not focus on it) and see if any thing changes through out time and if not then just move on.\n\nEven after that rejection we still talk perfectly fine as much as we did before.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Amazing girl, I would love to have a chance to date but her only reason that she gave for us not being able to be together is because of her parents' racial views.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0062",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: in a relationship someone who suffers from depression. putting stess on my happiness. is this a healthy relationship?\n\nPOST: I (M17) am in a relationship with my GF (F17). We have been dating for 2 years. Over time her emtional and mental issues have become more apparent. She has horrible self confidence issues, horrible mother/daughter relationship, and lots of other Type-A depression symptoms. Obviously this puts stress on me. I try to make her happy, tell her she beautiful, everything you can do. And none of it helps. She is very unloving and self centered concerning her own issues.\nDESPITE all of this: I love her. I really do. When she is happy she is amazing. \nAnd I want to help and be there for her more than anything.\n\nThe question is: is it healthy for me to be in a relationship with a person who suffers from depression?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " When it gets down to it, is it Healthy to be in a relationship with someone who suffers from depression( especially at the age of 17). Even if you are in love, where do you draw the line?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0063",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [25F] with my boyfriend [25M] of 2 and a half years. Our parents (mine in their mid 40's, his in their mid 50's) haven't met yet, and we're not sure if we should facilitate that or let it happen naturally. What do you guys think?\n\nPOST: So, my boyfriend and I have dated for 2 1/2 years. I've met his parents, and he's met mine. We pretty much always lived about 15 minutes away from his parents, so we see him a lot. About a few months ago, my parents moved into the same city, about an hour away. We've brought up having them meet, but we're wondering if that's something you're supposed to facilitate, or if it's less awkward just to let it happen naturally.\n\nWe're both in our first \"serious\" relationship, so we both never had to have parents meet before. They'll probably like each other. They're all nice people, I think. Just don't know if it's more awkward to make it happen or let it happen. They've both expressed an interest in meeting the other before, but since my parents are an hour away, it's not likely that this can happen naturally. So, I'm not really sure if it's best to just wait and let it happen, or what. I guess I am a bit curious, but I don't want to make anything awkward or anything. What do you guys think?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Is it awkward to try to facilitate our parents to meet each other, or is it best just to let it happen naturally? Does anybody have any experience with this? I wouldn't mind hearing some parents meeting parents stories :)",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0064",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [21 M] with a girl I was seeing [20F] for 2 months went on exchange. Another girl [21F] has come into the picture.\n\nPOST: I met this girl a while back (October), clicked super well on every level and really enjoyed spending time with one another. But she went on exchange and she's gone for a year, but we talk everyday. \n\nMeanwhile, Ive started to see this other girl, and were exclusive (Met her around the same time but recently started putting more effort into it). We enjoy each others company and do a lot of similar activities and my friends really like her. \n\nIm confused as to what to do... Ive been trying to live in the moment and focus on what is right here and now but its hard to not drift back to her and think of what it would be like when [20F] comes back. At the beginning I chose [20F] who went on exchange. But as I get to know this other girl better [21F] I'm not so sure.\n\nHas anyone else been in a similar situation?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Girl I liked [20F] went on exchange for a year (if she didnt leave we would be dating), things with other girl [21F] are getting more serious. What advice would you give?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0065",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/college\n\nTITLE: I'm picking high school classes for next year, how important is a 3rd year of a foreign language for the college I want to go to?\n\nPOST: Hello reddit. I'm in need of your help. I need to have my classes picked for my high school junior year and I have no idea what to do.\n\nI live in Nevada, and I want to go to the University of Washington, Seattle right out of high school. Next year I will be in my junior year of high school, so I'm picking classes. Here's my problem:\n\nI'm taking the hardest classes available in my school. The problem is, I suck at my foreign language class. I already have 2 years of French. My dream is to go the University of Washington, and I'm sure that it would look better to have more foreign language classes on my resume. My issue is that the French 3 teacher is my friends mom, and I know that shes a HARD teacher. I am most likely going to fail if I take a third year of French.\n\nI need to know how important it is for me to take a third year of French. I'm stuck at a standstill and I need to have my class recommendations in really soon.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I want to go to University of Washington. I suck in my French class. How important is it that I get a 3rd year of French?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0066",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [20's F] with my father [60's M]: I'm scared he may be an alcoholic and I don't know what to do.\n\nPOST: I think my father may be an alcoholic, but I was hoping someone who may have experience or some knowledge about it can help me out and help me figure out what to do.\n\nMy dad has a steady job and has never had drinks at work/ work functions.  However, recently I noticed that his beer intake has grown.  He drinks about six to eight 16oz (about 96-120 oz total)  cans after he gets home from work.  He's not verbally abusive/physically abusive, but he does get hard to understand and I worry because I feel like I have to take care of him and make sure he doesn't do anything stupid like fall over/ trip and fall when he's cleaning. \n\nThe reason I'm writing this mostly is because today he drank an entire bottle of wine by himself along with 4 16oz beers, and he already asked my brother to go get him another 4 pack.  \n\nHe used to drink a lot about 10 years ago, but he stopped and then started again in the past 4-5 years.  His intake has grown tremendously, from two 8oz cans a day to now what I've described.\n\nI have anxiety, especially when it comes to things like this so I don't know what to do. If I bring it up he will get upset, but I don't know what else to do? Is he an alcoholic? Am I overreacting? Please help. I don't know what to do.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My father drinks beer everyday after work, and gets drunk on the weekends. I'm not sure if this is alcoholism, and if it is I don't know how to bring it up. I'm mostly concerned for his health.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0067",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My girlfriend had an old boyfriend stay in her room the past two nights. She seems to think that's ok.\n\nPOST: They are using the same bed, and did last night as well. \n\n(I am 21, she is 18 with the mind of a 30 year old)\n\nwe were OK tonight, but it had been bothering me the whole day, so with my friends advice I told her exactly how I felt about the situation (Thretened, amazed that she would think this was ok, ect.). She responded with venom, and turned every point that I made into something against me (that I am being selfish, who gives you the right to blah blah blah).\n\nThe only reason I was OK with this (she asked me) was that I really thought she would find him another bed to sleep in.\nI am so incredibly stupidly in love with this girl it's not even funny. I dont care if it ends, I just want it to end well so we can still talk.\n\n(back story)\n\nI am a romantic who opens themselves up to a person complealy when it comes to a committed relationship.\n\nwe have been dating for seven months\n\nFor the last month or so, she has been distant and wanting more space\n\nThis week we had a fight about \"space\", and I have been laying off as much as possible, letting her engage me. I stayed over Friday night, and we had a great Sunday morning, untill she rolls over at tells me that he is coming up up in a few hours. from that point on, she was very cold and distant.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " my partner wont admit that this is an incredibly shitty situation to put me in. how do I make her see that without pushing her further away",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0068",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge\n\nTITLE: No Christmas Bonus? That's ok.\n\nPOST: A little background first: I am a secretary and work for a small family owned company that has been in business for 33 years. I started this past year, taking the position on as a second job. It is common knowledge at this company that for the first 31 years every year at Christmas time all the employees were given a full bonus, which was a check for 40 hours - essentially an extra paycheck worth one weeks pay - as well as hosting a company wide Christmas party at a local restaurant with an open bar. Last year, in the company's 32nd year, they were struggling with money and were having problems with several employees who were eventually let go for various reasons, but they still managed to give a bonus to everyone for 20 hours, so half of a paycheck, which in my opinion was still generous given the circumstances the business was facing financially and was a show of good faith to their employees. This year the company has been doing significantly better and could have afforded to give full 40 hour bonuses to the 10 employees that work there, however they did not. Now, I'm not by any means saying that they HAVE to give bonuses, cause well frankly they don't. Plus I have only worked there for 10 months, but a precedent had been set over the past 30 years, so a gesture would have been nice, one of the owners didn't even wish anyone a Merry Christmas when he called from his house in Florida. So we were all feeling a little bit like Clark Griswald. \n\nSo my revenge: Being one of the two members of the office staff, I had a pretty good idea early on that there would be no bonuses. And as an underpaid, frustrated employee I decided to seize my moment and enact my revenge. I have a large family and always like to send a Christmas cards to them, spending at least $50 in postage each year. So one day about a week and a half before Christmas I addressed all of my envelopes brought them to work, and used the stamp machine in my office taking about $53 off of the account. $53 is far less than a 40 hour bonus would have been, but damn it felt good.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Company I work for didn't give Christmas bonuses after doing it for 32 years, so I used the prepaid stamp machine to send out $53 worth of personal Christmas cards.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0069",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [M 23] think I'm falling for someone [F 23] I shouldn't.\n\nPOST: About early January I began dating this girl and i never really thought it was going to go anywhere. But i think I'm falling for her. She's one of the most amazing girls i have ever met in my entire life. She's beautiful, smart, happy, and she makes me feel....i guess. Happy. It's not like a \"I need you in my life happy\" but more of a \"You make me better in so many ways happy, when you smile, my smiles bigger.\"\n\nI've only been seeing this girl for about 2 months. But here's the kicker. She used to be a really good friend of mines ex-gf. Well not really a CLOSE friend. But just a good friend that i know and used to hang out with. \n\nThing is, i don't know if i should break it off with her. I don't want to. But it seems like shes losing friends because of it, and i don't want anything bad to happen to her. Especially if it's because of me. \n\nShe tells me she doesn't care. But I'm sure she does. I just want to see her happy, she deserves it. \n\nWhat should i do guys? I really don't want to not see her anymore. But i don't want her to lose her friends because of me.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " dating friend's ex-gf. She's losing close friends from ex-bfs side because of me. Don't know if i should end it. I think I'm falling for her.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0070",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: I need your help Reddit. I'm getting screwed by American Family Insurance.\n\nPOST: I need your help Reddit.\n\nI was recently in a car accident where the other driver was at fault. They turned through a stopped lane of traffic turning into a parking lot and hit me in the second lane. Their insurance agency accepted fault for the accident. They arranged for me to get a rental car and are paying for the auto body repair at the shop my dealer recommended. \n\nNow here is where I ran into a problem. \n\nI have limited liability insurance on my car because I worked like a boss and saved my money up and paid for it out right so I would not go into debt. I took the risk of not covering the cost of damage to my car for when I am at fault because I have a clean record of driving and am willing to replace my car with a Junker if I wreck it. The amount I have saved not covering my car is enough to buy a replacement car. Anyways, when I picked up the rental car that the at fault insurance company (American Family) paid for, I had to sign for the coverage that the rental company (Enterprise) offers, and is $13 a day, since I do not have full coverage. Makes since. I contacted the at fault insurance company (American Family) and explained this to them and explained that this expense is a result of the accident that their client caused and that they should take responsibility. They flat out said they understand why they should pay for it but they do not have to. My car will not be out of the shop for another 2 weeks and I will end up getting stuck with a $300 and something bill for the insurance. \n\nI am a student and just paid for classes and have to pick up books this week and can not afford this. Please tell me if I have any options. The logic of how they can get away with out paying for this escapes me.  By the way, my insurance company pays for rental insurance when their client is at fault.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " American Family Insurance is screwing me with a $300 bill for rental insurance that was needed due to their client hitting my car.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0071",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [M 20] and my GF [F 19] of 1 yr started dating as Christians, I have recently lost my faith, and I know that she will break up with me if I'm not a Christian.\n\nPOST: We have been absolutely inseparable since we met 2 years ago at college. We were best friends all of freshman year, and decided to start dating our sophomore year. It's been absolutely wonderful, and throughout it all I've always considered myself a Christian, even if it was on a lesser scale than her faith. \n\nThere would be times where she would break down in tears about how we never read the Bible together or how she didn't feel that she was growing in Christ, and so on, and I would sincerely feel awful and try to be a better Christian.\n\nSo this past summer we are studying abroad in different countries, and at the beginning we would use the summer apart to \"find ourselves\" spiritually. It's been weird having conversations about (lack of) faith over skype and stuff, so we've kinda ignored it. Her faith has stayed the same, while I've pretty much confirmed that I'm agnostic. \n\nI need to tell her at some point, but it's so hard. She's been my best friend for two years, and one of only a couple friends I have at college. It will be a very lonely semester if I decide to tell her.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My GF and I will most likely break up if I tell her I'm not a Christian, and this will destroy my social circle, as most of my friends I met through her. I don't know how to handle this.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0072",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/Advice\n\nTITLE: How can I get over feeling so insecure and aggressive?\n\nPOST: Hey everyone,\nI'm dealing with some pretty strong emotions lately; I'm going to see my doctor on Wednesday but I need some advice from people who've felt similarly. I blow up at the smallest incident, and I feel like my friends are wary of me for it lately.\n\nI'm in a stressful school program, where I feel pressure to be perfect constantly. I quit journalism to get into illustration, and now that I'm here, I feel like I've sacrificed my chance at being \"successful\" for doing something I love. People tried to talk me out of my career change, and still expect me to go into law because I'm an aggressive debater and an idealist.\n\nReally, I just want to express myself. My highest goal is the security of \"fame\" or \"success\" and to me it's dependent on how much people like my work. I never want children or a monogamous relationship because I don't want to risk my chance at being \"great\". (Also, I'm poly so more people is awesome.)\n\nI'm incredibly insecure, and was brought up with loving but \"I'll give you something to cry about\" kind of parents. I had a great childhood, but often felt neglected and threatened. I've tried therapy but never felt like I could let my guard down with any of my three therapists. I have a history of \"melodramatics\", and self-harm. \n\nI would rather make myself uncomfortable and be known as a \"good person\" than be happy and have others hate me for being selfish. I don't take chances because there's the risk that I'll ruin my chance at being liked/cool/successful, and people will stop talking to me.\n\nAnyone have any advice?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I'm super insecure and have been exploding emotionally at people. My friends and family are concerned with me acting out, and I want to be happy without needing others' approval. Help?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0073",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [18F] gave my boyfriend [22M] an ultimatum, was I wrong to?\n\nPOST: So Joe and I have been dating for a few months after meeting online. It's been going pretty well so far, considering we live about 2 hours apart and are both busy with school. Because of this, we are in an open relationship. Both of us are free to sleep with other people if we use protection and tell the other person about it. This has been working, no problems so far. \n\nI've returned home for the summer, which means that the distance between us is now even further, 5 hours, so we can't see each other as frequently as we used to. We had a talk about what we were going to do over the summer. Both of us agreed that we'd continue the open relationship we had now, but there was an argument over condom use. \n\nI told him that if he at any point didn't use a condom we would break up and I didn't want to see him anymore, which I thought was fairly reasonable. However he didn't know if he could keep that promise, arguing that if he got super drunk or something he might forget but he'd always get tested before sleeping with me again. \n\nI got really upset that he couldn't even promise me to have safe sex and told him there were three options: promise to use a condom, he always does and everyone is happy; promise to use a condom and break the promise, which means break up and no contact; or don't make the promise, we break up but stay friends. \n\nWas I wrong in making these absolutes? Joe got really upset and indecisive like he always does when it comes to choices, saying how he doesn't want to lose me but doesn't trust himself either. I feel bad making him choose an option he doesn't like, but I also feel like I'm not asking for too much.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " told BF that he had to use a condom when sleeping with other people or else we would break up, but BF doesn't trust himself. should I have been less harsh?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0074",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Need [M/29] advice on how to support a girl [F/30] I fell very hard for\n\nPOST: Recently moved back to a city I moved away from 3 years ago, and met this beautiful girl at a softball tournament. Turns out she was just separated and going through a divorce, but that didn't stop us from talking daily and going on outings together. After 2 months she gave me her apartment keys, and we started seeing each other more and more. She just started her CPA program, and is incredibly stressed and busy now. I totally get this, and have to go back to school myself soon. The problem is she is INCREDIBLY independent. After she confessed how hard she was falling for me over the weekend, I get a text yesterday saying she won't be available until the end of December. Obviously I'm hurt...but how do I not ruin anything by asking her about times we can be together or talk. I just feel like I'm walking on eggshells to not stress her anymore. Any advice would help a lot!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Met girl if my dreams. She's in school and suddenly says we can't see each other. How do I support her or say it doesn't matter to me until she's done?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0075",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/jobs\n\nTITLE: So I got an interview regardless of not having experience and they say experience is a must...\n\nPOST: I feel like I'm being given a huge opportunity here. I applied to a sales/csr postion because I had the customer service experience and I got an email back with the generic, \"we're sorry\" message because I had no sales experience.\n\nWell apparently I did a very good job of writing a convincing email back and not giving up. I effectively sold myself in the email and later on the phone so they gave me the last available slot they had for an interview.\n\nMy question is, with no sales experience outside of probably selling my car, how can I land this job? I'm nervous as to what kind of questions they'll ask and how I can not sound like a huge buffoon when I have to reiterate to the supervisor that I have no professional sales experience.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Landed the interview for a sales job with experience required and I have no experience. Recruiter for their company knows this and still thinks I'll do fine. How can I impress the supervisor at the interview?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0076",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [20M] broke up with my [18F] girlfriend of 3.5 years. Wondering how to deal with the loneliness.\n\nPOST: Ok, so I have posted about this before. My girlfriend and I split after she told me she was unhappy. Come to find out she had been talking to another guy for about a month before hand and kissed him at her sisters wedding. She had been telling me that we could try again down the road but after finding that out I told her I don't know if I would want to but maybe we could be friends.\n\n I have tried to be nothing but nice to her, I told her that I forgive her and that she doesn't need to feel guilty for feelings she can't control and the only mistake she mad was not telling me sooner. I then went on to say that there is still a place for her in my life as a friend if she would ever feel comfortable with that. I really wanted to keep things on good terms because our families are somewhat close and I still care about her. Unfortunately she never replied and now none of her family members will really talk to me. The last thing I heard from them was her mother telling me that my EX does not hate me. \n\n   I felt better after we initially broke up but now I find myself getting very lonely at times. It feels like half the people that cared about me have just sort of disappeared. I saw her post a picture of herself yesterday and she looked very happy. I just don't understand how someone can go from caring about someone to forgetting about them so quickly. I have tried to surround myself with friends for the most part but I always know at the end of the day its just going to me sitting alone in my room wishing I had someone to talk to :/\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Broke up with girlfriend of 3.5 years and have tried to be nice. Keep getting feelings of unshakable loneliness.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0077",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/loseit\n\nTITLE: Fitness trackers and actual calorie consumption\n\nPOST: Like me, I think the majority of people seeking to lose weight have a larger issue with overeating than not moving enough.  It's the same old thing we always state and restate - it's easier to just not eat the 300 cals of cookies than jog for half an hour.\n\nSo why are so many people thinking a fitness tracker is going to help them lose weight?  Eating 2500 a day, and being keenly aware that you're burning 2500 a day is not going to change anything.\n\nI tried it myself, and it didn't help *for me* - not without eating less - which I can do without a fitness tracker.\n\nSo here's the issue, and my question... Is there a fitness tracker that will alert and remind me on my wrist how many calories I have left to eat in the day? \n\nThis information being always readily available with a tap or a swipe would highly drop the barrier to checking MFP (which I know is already low, but considering I'm struggling with this...).\n\nSo far, it seems fitness trackers simply only track an upward marching \"calories burned so far\".  Which is not THAT helpful for weight loss when diet is far more influential to the process.\n\nI'm not an app developer, but it seems trivial to me to just make it an option/screen data point available on the tracker that just pulls from the app or MyFitnessPal.  It's ONE number, and everything else is already synced anyway.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " fitness trackers only count calories up, they don't tell you how much left you have to eat so you can make better eating decisions on the fly. I want to be able to check my calories left like I check the time.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0078",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/college\n\nTITLE: Need advice on my college path\n\nPOST: I have an AA degree and recently transferred to a university. I applied to major in English with a specialization in creative writing and got in but I realized I wanted to major in a STEM degree, more specifically computer science or engineering. The college im at won't let me because I don't have the pre reqs. So now im going to be stuck at an overpriced university doing a non STEM degree which i dont think the money ill be paying is worth it. My long term goals after college is to be able to work from home and start a business. My original plan with the English degree was to write scripts for movies with a friend mine who is finishing his degree in film studies. Like i said before, i don't know if an English degree at this university will be worth it.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " University im at is expensive. English degree might not be worth the loans and debt. Wanting to do STEM field major. Should i go to community college and get those pre reqs in?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0079",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My friend[F48] i no longer comfortable with hosting me[F32] and my BF[M28] when we are in town because my BF will be in the apartment without me.\n\nPOST: Ok I have known my friend for 10 years and we are very close.I bring my BF(of 4 years) and child(M2) to town and we plan to spend the weekend. She offers we can spend the night. Great. We are both supposed to go to a party friday with a mutual friend. My BF wants to hang out with his own friends and not go to the party. Next day he will probably be hang over and needs to rest. \n\nShe then asks, \"let me get this straight? Is he gonna be in the apartment without you?\" She feels weird about this. So I told her we find somewhere else to sleep, and I will see her at the party instead. She often sleeps here. I even hold her head while she was sick and she stayed here.\n\nBonus info: she have a BF and he recently moved into her apartment. He is supposedly ok with us staying. Everybody gets along fine other than this hiccup. \n\nAm I so pissed of how she treats me. Am I overreacting?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " my friend offers we can sleep in her apartment while we are in town. My BF is not allowed alone in the apartment while we stay there",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0080",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: How to Cope up with breakup\n\nPOST: My boyfriend [25] and I [20] have.. Had I guess been dating for almost two years now. It was a very on and off thing. We broke up almost a month and a half ago and we got back together after 2 weeks. \nThis time things were different. He bought up his concerns and when we got together I made sure that his concerns weren't there anymore and I tried really hard to be an amazing girlfriend.\n\nI put in a lot of effort and today he got upset because I wasn't able to hang out when he was free. And he straight up said that he wasn't happy and I wasn't trying which hurt so much for so many reasons. He said we should be in an open relationship and I said I'm not going to go down that road and broke up with him. \n\nI know it's the right thing to do but idk how do deal with being single, having no one to send messages to and not having to talk to him. How do I keep myself distracted and not talk to him. I have no will power and that's why I keep going back to him. This is the only relationship ive been in. Also, my birthday is in 10 days so I would like to deal with this shit as soon as possible\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " broke up with the only guy ive been with. Want to move on but dont know how. Also need help finding something i can distract myself with",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0081",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/pettyrevenge\n\nTITLE: Don't have any empathy after I injure myself working for you, guess I'll follow the doctors advice to the letter\n\nPOST: First i will apologize iin advance for formatting since I am on mobile.    \n  \n  \nSo 2 months ago to the date I injured myself at work twice in the same week. As a result I've spent 4 weeks off work and have been seeing a physiotherapist daily since.  Now it's bad enough when you imply I am faking it and I should suck it up in conversations even thought the m ore serious of the 2 accidents was caught on camera. So company policy is heartless and 4 day after being out on leave my private insurance will be cut since I'm no longer working. Dick move but I can live with that. But once I do come back to work and you write me up because I'm not smiling and looking happy.(I don't know about you guys but happy and smiling is probably not even in the top 50 words I would use to des rube someone in constant pain.) Then you threaten to dock me the time I spend icing my injuries from my pay and complain that working 3 hour shifts to accommodate my physio is a problem and mention you won't be able to give me hours if I can't do 4 hour shifts. That's when we have a real problem.  \n  \n  \nDoes it surprise when after my last doctors visit I have a medical note saying I can only work 3 hour shifts 3 times a week. And another stating I have to ice each injury for 15 minutes every 90 minutes. So I guess I now have to punch in and Ice myself for 30 minutes work for 90 minutes then reapply ice for another 30 minutes then work the last 30 minutes. That's so much better than when all I asked for was to ice myself half way through my shift.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Injured at work. Boss threatens to dock pay for applying Ice. Now has to pay for applying ice twice during shift.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0082",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [25M] am dating [25f], unsure if she wants something serious or casual; how to find out?\n\nPOST: I have been dating this girl for a few weeks so far, but I'm not entirely sure where it is going. I think we work well together, and I am honestly fine whether she wants something serious or casual. Slight preference to something more serious since we match up so well though.\n\nHowever, I can't really figure out what she wants. We haven't had sex yet, we have only kissed. Which I am fine with, I have not tried anything, since I want to do it 'right' and she also seems to be a bit apprehensive about it since she doesn't want us to move too fast. At least, that's the vibe I am getting. So that makes me think she's looking for something serious.\n\nHowever, some other things make me thing she wants to keep it casual. She every time says that we are just hanging out, she invites me to a bunch of things with her friends (guess you can see this as both a good thing and a bad thing) instead of trying to make one-on-one time. We still hang out just the two of us, though. She also says it takes a long time to actually like someone and hasn't been in a serious relationship for two years.\n\nI thought about asking her flat out \"So where do you think this is going?\" but I'm not sure if I want to do that so early on. I just mostly want to know if I should start opening my heart, or keep it shut. So how would I go about that? How do I find out what she wants/what do you guys think her angle is?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Dating a girl, going well, but unsure what she wants.  don't want to fall for her if all she wanted was to keep it casual.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0083",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/tifu\n\nTITLE: TIFU by being concerned\n\nPOST: This actually happened a few months back but whatever\n\nBeing a reasonably hygienic person, I tend to shower from time to time. So on this gloriously rainy and generally disgusting day in Ireland I decided to wash myself before heading to bed, my girlfriend decided she was going to clean our room a bit while I was in the shower which was great.\n\nFast forward to me being in the shower, soaping it up, having a real good time, when suddenly I hear the most ghastly and terrifying wail I have ever heard in my life. What the fuck is after happening? Images of the wardrobe after falling on my girlfriend flashing through my mind.  I immediately jump out of the shower and hurry to the bedroom (almost slipping) and barge into the room, face alight with worry & concern, boobs bouncing with urgency, shouting \"ARE YOU OK? WHAT HAPPENED?\". My girlfriend turns to me, utterly confused \n\nGf : \"What?\"\nMe: \"I thought I heard you scream. Are you ok?\"\nGf: \"Yeah I'm fine, I was just singing.\"\n\nJust singing.\n\nWe stand silent for a moment allowing what had just happened to soak in, maintaining eye contact. Soapy bubbles dripping from my hair down my body. Mutually embarrassed and equally amused we laugh it off and I return to the shower.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Thought something horrible had happened to my girlfriend and ran to her to see if she was ok while completely naked. She had been singing.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0084",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My(21F) boyfriend (25M) just walked out on me.\n\nPOST: We've been dating for 6 months, knew each other for over a year.\n\nWe had gotten in a big fight about two months ago because he was paranoid I was cheating on him (even though we'd spend almost every night together). We split up for a few days and got back together, but it was never the same after that. I guess just knowing he doesn't trust me at all, for no reasons other than his own insecurities and paranoia, has made me start questioning our relationship.\n\nAnyway, I'm trying to make it work because I really care about this guy. He's super sweet, and he really doesn't have a lot of friends or support system. I want to be there for him. But after that fight I just can't get those feelings for him anymore. I never feel like having sex anymore, when we're together I don't want to cuddle much or be intimate. I like being with him but I just can't get in the mood anymore. \n\nToday we were hanging out in my apartment and he was asking me to cuddle. After some back and forth about it I laid down next to him and he asked if something was wrong. I told him the truth, that I just didn't feel the spark anymore, but I wanted things to work out and I still wanted to be with him. His response was just getting up, getting dressed, and leaving. He texted me a few minutes later saying he'd call me in an hour when he's cooled off. \n\nI just don't know what to do. Should I even try to salvage this relationship? I want him back but I can't help but feel I'd just be prolonging an inevitable break up. I don't want to string him along either...\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Can't get intimate with boyfriend anymore, he's not too happy about it and isn't sure if he can stay with me. I don't know what to do.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0085",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/tifu\n\nTITLE: TIFU By Getting Herpes and Destroying My Phone\n\nPOST: Basically after helping my father to build an amazing, quality hand-built dock on our vacation home's canal-seawall; I nefariously sneaked away to smoke a pipe with an old hippie who did work there regularly. This was against my better judgement, and I would later find I would eat my words \"that was just what I needed!\" as I passed the pipe that was chalked black with what could only be years of dank marijuana. And dank it was... Fast forward to Today and I'm racking my mind as to what finally gave me Herpes Simplex, and then it comes to me; it's the same reason my phone was in my pocket when I fell into said canal, and has to buy a new phone for $287: TO SMOKE WEED!\n\nas a growing adult; you now when it's a sign you should stop doing something for a while and grow a little!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Adult male, father doesn't like weed, smoked weed with hippie worker at vacation home, fell in canal with phone when getting number from hippie, realized his dirty pipe gave me herpes.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0086",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I've lost the love of my life.\n\nPOST: Truth is, that I'm not coping at all. He ended it, just short of being together a year, completely out of the blue for me, and it has crushed me ever since. I haven't eaten for 4 days, and I just don't care for my life anymore. In a matter of days I have gone from a bubbly girl [19], doing everything she could to succeed at uni, to a wreck, who can't even bring herself to look in the mirror.\n\n Without him [19], I feel like nothing. After my restless nights, I always wake up to the dread and realisation that it is all over. I want him back but I don't know how, and I just don't understand why this all happened. 2 weeks ago we would have just finished having our most passionate sex for a long time.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I just feel used now. The night before he ended it, he told me he loved me, less than 24 hours later, he expected me to just be okay with it. ",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0087",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice\n\nTITLE: I'm conflicted between my social life and my fitness\n\nPOST: I leave for college in about 4 weeks, (I live in California now and I'll be out in Colorado) and I'm having trouble deciding whether to go to my martial arts classes (muay thai) that go from 7:00pm to 10:00pm, or hang out with my friends who I won't see for the next couple months.  Normally I could balance both out during school, because I could go to the gym and no one would be doing anything that night.  But now since it's summer most plans happen around 7 and I find myself free only once everyone has gone home.  I love being around my friends but I also love the feeling of working out and I have a lot of fun during the classes as well.  I'd really appreciate some outside opinions.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " leaving for college soon, love working out but also love being with my friends, and near impossible to do both during the night.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0088",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Why does my (24F) boyfriend (25M) of four months make these kinds of comments to me?\n\nPOST: I know we are all human here, and we all find people attractive. I'm happy to discuss beautiful people with my SO, but over the last few days a few comments just seem unnecessary. Why do you find it necessary to tell me that you like the way some reality show girl moved her mouth, (\"Ooo, I like THAT.\") Or, when discussing acceptable age differences in relationships, tell me that you would gladly fuck a 15 year old but not date her. This stuff feels hurtful but I cannot intellectualize why. It feels very sexually aggressive and almost disrespectful.\n\nIs it unreasonable that this stuff makes me uncomfortable? We have been dating for about 4 months now, and I feel like this is just a sign of sloppiness. I reacted in the moment to his comment about that girls mouth, saying \"okay cool, I'll leave you to look at girls mouths and I'll head home.\" and then he will cling to me saying \"no, don't go,\" kissing me, telling me he loves me..... I've also noticed an increase in the amount of \"play\" kissing (I don't know if other people do this, but it's just a playful kinda mouth thing...) versus actual kissing. I've been staying over his apartment (or he stays with me) most every night since we became monogamous. I'm wondering if this is all a sign that he is just comfortable and expects me to be there all the time. Maybe some distance would be good. I'm afraid though that he will interpret me spending less time with him as a decrease in affection, however...\n\nWhy do some dudes act like this? I am not sexually inhibited. I casually sexed a good deal while single, and I can recognize an attractive man. But I don't feel compelled to inform him in the way he seems compelled to inform me.\n\nSo I guess my main curiosities are: Is this a typical dude thing? Is it a sign of comfort level in the relationship? Is he being rude or am I just projecting my own insecurity?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " After 4 months of dating I've noticed my boyfriend making frequent-er sexual comments about other women and acting more playful than sexy with me.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0089",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/travel\n\nTITLE: Filming my travels without taking a whole host of electronics\n\nPOST: Hey,\n\nThis summer I'm taking part in the Mongol Rally, and last weekend there was an organised film festival event. Now I'm not planning on entering the event next year, but I would like to put a video together for memories sake etc.\n\nHas anyone done any filming whilst travelling in remote areas? I'm not wanting to take a load of stuff like a laptop, multiple chargers, different cables and all that on the trip itself, so if anyone knows of any compact video camera's (nothing big and fancy necessary), that are of a reasonable price (I won't say cheap because if it's worth it I'll pay out a bit more anyway)?\n\nIdeally we'd plan to connect to computers in cities to create space on internal memory/memory cards, but that may not be possible in some areas (Kazak steppes for example), so being able to take some additional storage would be useful. I do have a 3TB external harddrive that I could upload onto, but the video-camera would need to be able to link into the directly without my laptop etc.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I need a video-camera/camcorder at a reasonable price, not too flashy and with substantial memory/expandable memory.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0090",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I'm [23 M] with my gf [19F] 1 year, I find it very hard to open up emotionally, and it hurts her.\n\nPOST: I'm an extremely logical person, and I'm passionate about certain particular things: language, philosophy and literature. So much so to the point where I'm borderline neurotic (if I don't understand something fully, or if it interests me greatly, I will often not stop until I've achieved whatever I've wanted to achieve. Here's an example: I'm studying French, but I got frustrated at not understanding all the grammar, so I spent 3 days, 10 hours minimum each day, studying the entire grammar book.\n\nI'm in a long distance relationship and we talk regularly. She admitted yesterday that she doesn't feel warmth from me, I come across as quite cold to her, as I (unintentionally) direct the majority of our conversations towards my interests. Admittedly, she is more interested in me than I her, but that doesn't mean we don't feel the same way for each other.\n\nI don't have a high emotional intelligence. I'm good in social interactions, but romantically, I almost explicitly express my feelings through love, or humour.\n\nI really want to improve my emotional intelligence, but I don't know how. I want to make her feel appreciated. I would like to talk about how I feel and not just ideas, but the words don't come. To be blunt, with regards to these aspects, I'm emotionally retarded.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I'm extremely abstract and, although willing,  I find it hard to associate with my gf on a deeper emotional level.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0091",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [17M] with ex [17F] of a few months, I feel like I've gotten over the breakup but I think about her so often\n\nPOST: I'll try to be brief. Met this girl at the beginning of the year through a mutual friend. We hit it off right away and started seeing each other. She was my first real girlfriend, first kiss, we told each other we loved each other, typical stuff. Were together about 4 months, official about 3. Went to different schools so we saw each other between 1 and 3 times a week.\n\nThe breakup was really unexpected, to me at least. I've spoken to her since just twice, both times shortly after the breakup because, honestly, when she broke up with me, my mind was going a million miles an hour and I barely heard a word she was saying, so I just talked to her to try and get a better idea of why she ended it. Haven't seen her in person since.\n\nWe've been broken up now for 5 months and, while I think I've gotten over her, I find myself thinking about her a lot. Pretty much every day. I sort of feel like I miss her, but I'm honestly not sure sometimes if I miss her or if I miss having someone, if that makes sense. It's worth noting I go to an all-guys school so I don't have any particularly close female friends.\n\nMy question is this: Is it normal to be thinking about her so much so far gone when we have had essentially no contact since we broke up.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Short relationship (my first), broke up, no contact since, can't stop thinking about her. Is this normal?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0092",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/jobs\n\nTITLE: Interviewing for over a month for a position I just learned (during my f2f interview on Monday) had already been filled. They said they couldn't decide between our candidacies so they're looking to hire us both.\n\nPOST: This is my first post, so I apologize if this has already been touched on. I couldn't find a similar post so here goes:\n\nI was recruited for and have been interviewing for a position for about a month. They seemed highly enthusiastic, I made myself extremely available for interviews so that they all happened in relatively rapid succession in mid July and they asked that I come in for a face to face. The job is in the Netherlands (I live in the UK) so I bought a ticket to meet the first week of August. \n\nThe interview went great. I met everyone in the small company, we got along famously... and then they mentioned that one of the guys I had just met had been hired a few weeks before and technically filled the position I had been interviewing for BUT that they had been unable to choose between the two candidacies so they were looking to hire us both.\n\nI don't know what to make of this situation. How did this guy get hired so quickly? Does this mean I will be considered expendable if the company realizes an extra person is unnecessary? Most importantly, should I email the interviewer and vocalize my concerns? If so, how should I phrase it?\n\nIt's worth noting that at the start of all this, they emphasized that they needed someone who spoke French (this guy doesn't, but I do) and that they were interested in branching out into social media if I would be interested in taking on the challenge (but in the f2f interview, I was told there was already someone who did that and \"maybe I could help him\"). I don't have loads of experience in the working world yet and I tend to just be grateful someone wants to hire me, but now I'm afraid I'm being scammed or led on (or maybe I'm just overthinking it and being excessively paranoid)...\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Interviewing for a position that I found out in my face to face interview had already been filled but they want to hire me too. I am concerned I will be expendable. Also noticed other inconsistencies with the job responsibilities.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0093",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Issues with my father\n\nPOST: Since I was very young My father [49] has been very emotionally abusive to myself M [17] and my family (Mother [48] and sisters [16] and [12]). I grew up with a lot of self esteem problems. Basically when we did things wrong as children, rather than using things like \"time outs\" he would resort to belittling us, and telling us how worthless we were. As I got older my self-esteem and social skills have improved so much thanks to some terrific people in my life. As my self-esteem has grown, my relationship with my father is become rather bitter. We fight constantly, and while neither of us really hold a grudge it's never really resolved either  making each fight much worst than the last. I used to try to be the bigger person and apologize for upsetting him(usually when I did nothing wrong), but that never got me anywhere other than   him acting as though he deserved more than my apology. I'm pretty laid back person, but when ever he talking down to me, or even worse  my mom or my sisters it enrages me. I think of all the years of low self-esteem and depression I went through. The hard thing is, he isn't some heartless monster. He loves us a lot, and he gets really upset after he hurts us. I really want to help him, but I don't know how to get through to him.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I really want to improve the relationship with my Dad, but I don't know where to begin. He is very emotionally abusive to our family, and he not only hurts us, but himself as well.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0094",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Girl [25] I'm [24M] seeing is into really hard drugs and partying and sees me as boring because I'm not.\n\nPOST: So this girl I've been meeting with for the past month or so is great, really into her. However she is a seriously hard partier, hard drug fuelled raves and what not 3 or 4 nights of the week and whilst this doesn't bother me so much, she says I'm really boring for turning down her offers to these events. Her saying this recently has really started to bother me. I want to be exciting and be involved with this part of her life but truth be told I don't really have the balls to try taking the heavy stuff she does and I think me going to these events tagging along with her group sipping a beer isn't really going to help the 'boring' image of me in her head.\n\nAdvice on how to approach handling this situation reddit? Her words of describing me as very normal and a bit boring have hurt me a little worst as it's had time to distil in my mind. Am I boring because I don't like snort cocaine nightly?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Advice on my situation please; girl I'm seeing thinks I'm boring because I don't like hard drugs and partying like she does",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0095",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice\n\nTITLE: 2 of my friends were dating, one cheated and they broke up.  I'm having a rough time with it.\n\nPOST: Here's the story (we're 21/22 year old females): My friend (\"C\") since preschool started dating a girl (\"S\") that we knew from girl scout camp. S had been dating a guy, broke up with him, and they started dating on the down low about 2 years ago.  I found out after the summer had ended and was shocked, but got over it.  The three of us were good friends, but I'm obviously closer to C, who I've known most of my life.  \n\nC and S were working together at the same camp this summer, I didn't come back this year because I had an internship.  A few weeks into the summer (they've been dating for almost 2 years at this point), S says she's kind of into this other counselor and just needs some time ALONE to think about their relationship, etc.  So they go on a \"brea.\"  C is crushed, but goes with it.  They get a weekend off, and S comes back with hickies all over her, and it comes out that she's been hooking up with this other girl.  \n\nSo I hear about all this and it just hits me really hard.  I'm shocked at first because I can't believe S would do something like that, then freakin pissed at S for hurting C so terribly.  I almost called S and cussed her out, but stopped myself.  I visited camp for a night the day after I found out.  I got the whole story from C, and S had the balls to come up and say hello to me like nothing was wrong.  I was relatively friendly considering the situation, but underneath I was still pretty livid.  \n\nAs some time passed, I was less angry and more sad because I had lost a good friend in S and never really got a chance to hear her side of the story.  But now I don't feel like I can talk to her without betraying C.\n\nSo I'm really at a loss of what to do.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Friends dating each other, one cheats and they break up, don't know what to do about the friend I lost.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0096",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [22/F] told my boyfriend [26/M] that I love him and he hasn't said it back.\n\nPOST: My boyfriend and I have been together since late February or early March 2014. I said \"I love you\" to him a while ago (probably in August?) and he hasn't said it back. He has said it a couple times when he's been drunk but I don't know of that counts. He is always doing and saying other things that make me feel special and loved, but I feel like something is missing because he doesn't say he loves me.\n\nI have told him that it's hard for me to feel like things are one sided and that I don't make him feel the way that he makes me feel. He was very understanding but he still hasn't said it to me. I have not told him that I feel like if he doesn't love me by now, he isn't going to.\n\nIt's frustrating because I want to say it to him so often because he does all these little things that just make me so happy but I'm afraid of the awkwardness and hurt feelings that will follow when he doesn't reciprocate. \n\nI do not feel like I should break up with him at all, as every other aspect of the relationship is awesome and I'm very happy. Am I making too big of a deal about this?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I dropped the L bomb and my boyfriend has not said it back for a few months. I don't know if I am more upset than the situation warrants.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0097",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My Dad [59M] married a woman [52F] who is driving our family apart.\n\nPOST: I'll [25M] try to keep this short but concise. My dad has been married to this woman for over 8 years. She has serious mental issues (not professionally diagnosed) and has been driving a wedge between him and the rest of our family ever since. She consistently causes drama between herself and family members and my dad refuses to see it. He is very dependent in his relationships and is scared to be alone. She starts fights between his family and friends and manipulates him into always taking her side. He's lost all of his friends and is disconnected from a lot of family members because of her. \n\nI'm not sure if he doesn't see anything wrong with the things she does or says, or is so scared of being alone that he won't admit it. I think there's a chance he isn't happy but won't leave her for fear of being alone and/or because of the financial implications of a divorce. \n\nIt's to the point where his immediate family is done putting up with her for his sake. We want to confront him and tell him this woman is a poison his life, but I am not optimistic any good will come of it. He's so scared of being alone that I believe he wouldn't divorce her no matter what and would end up losing the rest of his family to stay with her.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Dad is married to a woman who is a cancer to his life, want to confront him about it but am scared it may do more harm than good.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0098",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My coworker [22 M] and I [21 F] have been hooking up consistently for almost three years.\n\nPOST: Not a very interesting story, but it's been confusing enough for me to post, and I don't know where to go from here. My coworker and I have been hooking up consistently for about three years now, even when we would be somewhat seeing or interested in other people (though haven't dated anyone else.) We've never really talked about it, but we're really close and spend time hanging out together (going hiking, going to parties, etc.) but we've never considered dating (at least I haven't.) \n\nThe other night we were walking home from a party and things got heated and then he stopped and said that we should talk soon and that he was \"thinking of me differently.\" We haven't talked about it sense but yesterday while we were leaving work he said \"I love you,\" while we were saying goodbye and hugged me for an unusual amount of time, and that was somewhat atypical though it didn't seem super serious. I'm just really confused because this has been happening for so long but when we're around each other it's like nothing has really changed. Not sure what to make of that night or what to expect.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My coworker and I have been hooking up for years but the other night he said he's been thinking of me differently, don't know how to read that.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0099",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: BF always jokes that I'm not good enough.\n\nPOST: F 23. M 24. 2 Years.\n\nMy BF is always making comments and hints about my weight and hair and then posing them off as jokes. He constantly hints that I need to loose a little bit of weight. Perhaps 10 ibs. This is fine b/c I've always thought I've been a little chubby. \n\nBut not my hair. I love my short hair but he really wants me to grow it out or get hair extensions. He's always joking around about how beautiful girls are with long hair. \n\nOn New Years Eve, we went out and this girl who had short hair, got extensions and he joked around that I should too.\n\nI don't want to be coerced into doing something I don't want to do. I really love him and vice versa. He's been such a positive influence in my life except for this. I'd hate to change for him, but I also want to be attractive to him. I'm kind of at a loss here. \n\nShould I just grow my hair out? Lose the weight?\n\nOh and problem number 2: I think he likes that girl that got extensions. He's always comparing me to her in a joking manner. At times it does hurt. Other times, I think I'm just being a pussy for letting it get to me. \n\nShould I just ignore all of this? Am I overreacting?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My BF jokes that I should lose weight and grow my hair. And that I should be more like this other girl. :/",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0100",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Right person, wrong time?\n\nPOST: I'm in a right person, wrong time situation right now and it's a very hard, sad thing to sort out. We have been dating for a year and a half and at the end of the summer I'm moving away to the UK to attend a prestigious law school for three years and my boyfriend has three years left of his degree in Canada. He's the first person I've ever loved and we get along so well. I consider him my best friend, we talk everyday, and we're just easily compatible. Our relationship isn't perfect and neither is he but nobody is and I could see myself being with him and being happy for a long time. However, studying law and studying abroad has always been a dream of mine and I've worked really hard to get this so it's an opportunity I can't pass up. It doesn't change the fact that I have to end this amazing relationship with a guy I love. I hate the thought of him being with another girl but I know it'll happen and I'm terrified of losing contact with him and becoming strangers. I wonder how long it'll take for me and for him to move on. Do you think if we were to meet again at the right place and right time in our lives we could be together again?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " in love with my boyfriend of one and a half years but I'm moving across the world for my dream education opportunity and we have to break up. Right person, but wrong time in my life.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0101",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: I want to move into an apartment with some of my friends but have no idea how to convince my parents. What would/did you do/say?\n\nPOST: Dear Reddit, \n\nI am a 21-year old male who, along with two other friends, want to move into an apartment together. All three of us are still studying. One of us has already gotten permission from his parents. It would be hard but not impossible financially - I work in a pet store one day a week and me and one of my to-be roommates both study IT and there's always some way to earn money in that sector. If necessary, we also have a backup plan to earn some extra bucks that I'd rather not share here. Due to several reasons, I can't tell my parents about this. \n\nMy main motivation for wanting to move out is the fact that my parents are moving far away from where I live now, making my daily commute to and from school (with public transport) a 2 hour one instead of a fifteen minute one, plus the added downside of leaving everyone and everything I know for a small village in the figurative middle of nowhere. They also keep telling me that I am not prepared for the real world and this, to me, would be a great way to learn how to function completely or almost completely autonomously in society. \n\nThe problem is that I don't know how to convince my parents to let me go through with this. I'm inclined to do it anyway even if they don't want me to, just because I need a place where I can get away from them and it's impossible if I'm stranded kilometres from every place I know. What I would like to know most is how you would or did convince your parents to let you move out, as well as any advice for someone who's planning on moving out.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Want to move out from my parents so that I don't have to move with them with two friends, financially feasible (living alone is, paying for my studies isn't) but I don't know how to convince my parents.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0102",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [21 M] have been interested in this girl [18 F] on my work since last year and we talk a lot but I am not sure if she is interested.\n\nPOST: So it all started last summer when we met at work and she was this girl I did not notice to much since she is not that kind of person who you just notice at first.\n\nAnyways we talk sporadically during work and under the summer through facebook sometimes but I never got the vibe she was super interested since I had to start all conversations so I kinda dropped it. \n\nNow during spring we started talking, **a lot**. We added each other on snapchat and we basically write everyday through snap or chat and I am definetly interested. I even got the balls to just ask her if she wanted to go eat and catch a movie or something and she said yes!\n\nWe are gonna se each other next week but I am that kind of person who still don't feel good about it. Never been in a realtionship before and I can't understand signs from girls, if I ever get them and I am not sure if she likes me back or not. I am not even sure how to handle this \"dating\" thing we might get going and what to do.\n\nI am probably overthinking this and it might be obvious but I just need some output by others so what do you think? If you want more details I can add no problem.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " A girl from work I like but not sure if she likes me back. Agreed to a date after I asked her. Thoughts?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0103",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: What jobs should I apply for?\n\nPOST: I recently graduated with an M.A. in English Composition and Rhetoric with an emphasis on technical/professional writing. From my numerous jobs, internships and volunteer positions I actually have several years of experience with event planning, managing a team, fundraising, doing research and analysis (in both academic and business settings) and professional writing and editing (I have written several grant proposals, training manuals, press releases and other documents for real-world implementation and I have edited or assisted on several national publications). \n\nI love planning events like academic conferences or charity galas, but I can't imagine a life of primarily planning weddings and sweet 16 parties. I have applied for a few event planner jobs at local universities, but they are few and far between and the competition is fierce. I have also applied for jobs doing technical writing or corporate communications/PR, and some research analyst positions, but again these seem hard to come by. I would love to work for a non-profit, but none in my area are hiring right now (though a few have said I will be their first call if they ever do hire, because I already volunteer for them and they know I rock). I wouldn't mind writing advertising copy or doing market research, but I refuse to do direct sales. I am stuck in my general geographic area (central oklahoma).\n\nSo, what other types of jobs should I be looking at? Are there any kick-ass careers that haven't occurred to me but that would be a good fit for my skills?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " If you don't read this you won't know my skill set, so your advice will be crap. Oh, and if you are going to make the obligatory Starbucks joke,at least be original and funny.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0104",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Is anybody else sickened at the current state of our education system?\n\nPOST: Upon coming to my state university about 3 years ago, I realized just how far behind my school district was compared to a majority of other students coming from different districts.  Where they had graduated > 90% of their original class (with an average GPA of about 3.0+), my graduating class was about 1/3 of the size it was intended to be (we started with 330ish, graduated about 135).  Every other district was about 2 years ahead in the curriculum compared to my high school.  My school district was in a highly urban area, where a fair portion of the student body survives on the \"free lunch\" system.  Our educational system (at least in Iowa) is currently experiencing wide spread budget cuts.  More and more I feel like, even my own siblings, are at a disadvantage when entering college because of the decline in the quality of education.  This isn't even considering the vast majority of people I know that will never make it to college simply because the system has told them \"it is not for them,\" and they repeat that sentiment.  I feel like I'm ranting, but I honestly feel like, unless you come from a \"rich\" high school today, you can be so far behind your peers upon entering college, that trying to compete with them academically becomes an even greater challenge.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I feel as if more than the \"under-achievers\" are suffering as a result of poor quality education in K-12, that can have an adverse affect when attempting to pursue higher education.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0105",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance\n\nTITLE: I need to find a way to gain money for this month's rent. Only this month!\n\nPOST: hello I'm not sure if this is the appropriate subreddit. I am 19 years old and a full time student in college. Just some background. I was planning on getting a summer job but I got swamped with summer school. Unfortunately my school crammed two summer semester and I could no longer work due to the amount of homework and studying I had to commit to. I took summer A which has already ended and now I am in summer break. I decided since I've worked extremely hard to gain a gpa of 3.2 ( doesn't sound that high but it took me a lot of work) that I deserve a break. My mom how ever does not agree. She got mad at the idea and will now charge me rent. Should I apply for a job?  I'm already getting work study for this coming fall semester which starts  august 29. I need to gain money for just this month. She is asking for approximately $500.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " finished my summer semester. My mom doesn't like that I'm not doing anything and is now charging rent. I'm getting work study starting aug 29. How can I gain money for just this month?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0106",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskDocs\n\nTITLE: I would like to try and help my Grandmother with her COPD but I need help understanding some things\n\nPOST: Hi, my grandmother is 76 and a long time smoker, I would say that she is underweight, I don't think she eats enough. I'm not sure how long she has had COPD, at least a year.\n\nShe has trouble even moving to a different room sometimes, she will get out of breath if she moved too quickly and sometimes she has to stop in the middle of going up the stairs.\n\nIt's very sad to see someone I care about who loves gardening and has always been the one to care for everyone else, lose her ability to do these things. She spends most of her days just watching TV.\n\nAs I can see online, this condition isn't curable, only slightly manageable. She has pills, and a breathalyser for this.\n\nSomething I would really like cleared up is:\nTwo doctors told her she was unable to take steroids (but I gather these help a decent amount?) and one told her it was a good idea. The doctor who she is most comfortable with told her no, so she has gone with that decision. But if it would help her I think she should get them? What makes someone ineligible for this?\n\nShe has been told she can't have oxygen in her house to help her symptoms because she smokes and it's dangerous.\nI have tried to get her to stop smoking, so it doesn't worsen the condition and also so she could have oxygen but she won't. She told me that when she stops, she can't breath as well. For instance, when she first wakes up every morning she coughs like she needs to cough something up but is unable to, but after she had a cigarette she feels a bit better.\n\nSo following that, another thing I would really like cleared up is: Is this common when stopping smoking, is there any sort of withdrawal systems that will make her feel a lot worse in the short term? But will she maybe feel better in the long term? She thinks it is too late for her to stop.\n\nThank you all so much, that was a lot of text, sorry.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " my Grandmother has COPD, currently takes pills and breathalyser, I'm wondering what other options she has. I just want her to be able to move a bit without feeling out of breath, she feels useless.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0107",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My[19f] boyfriend[20m] of 1 and a half years just broke up with me. Need help handling it.\n\nPOST: Hello lovely people of reddit!\n\nMy first boyfriend and love broke up with me today. We were together over 1 and a half years. I know I'm only young, and I have a lot going for me, but I can't stop crying and I don't want to feel like this anymore.\n\nAbout 1-2 months ago, I started becoming depressed again. Nothing like my past episodes (which were before we were dating), but there was a notable change in my personality. I was quick to get angry at my boyfriend. Then my boyfriend starting checking out of the relationship, which only made matters worse.\n\nI can't help but feel so angry and upset with myself. If I had got a handle on my sadness, we'd still be together. If I was the old me he'd still want me, because we were very much in love at that time.\n\nHe only broke up with me today, but since I have already been so down lately, and have never experienced a break up before, I'm finding it hard to cope.\n\nIf you kind people could give me some advice I would really appreciate it. I know I'm young and I'll move on, but unfortunately that's not tackling my sadness right this second. What can I do to feel happy again?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My boyfriend broke up with me. I was already feeling depressed but with this on top I'm not sure how to cope and feel better. Any advice?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0108",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [27F] met a guy [36M] I actually really like and we've been talking for a short while. I'm relationship naive and want to know if I should be straightforward or patient with his seeming lack of interest\n\nPOST: He seems like a really nice guy and I'm pretty into him. We met online, but have yet to meet in person despite talking for about a week. He comes off really reserved, a military guy, and he struck me as different because he was the only guy I met from from this online thing who *wasn't* 1) only looking to just to seeing what happens 2) or avoiding something serious. He seems to really want to find something substantial. \n\nThe problem is his signals are strange. I compliment him a lot when I rarely ever do that. I flirt a bit. I initiated talking offline in text and phone chatting. I feel like I'm giving way too much effort thinking that maybe he is shy or a little guarded. I don't really know what I'm doing or what to look for, but I feel like he should sometimes say \"you look pretty\" when I send pics or be trying to get closer to me. He just seems really passive despite saying he's got his fingers crossed with me and he's happy we're forming a connection. I backed off of texting today because he was giving me nothing even though we had a really good convo last night, but then he told me \"text me whenever, I always have my phone on me\" and wanted me to add him to Facebook. I'm confused.\n\nI was thinking of just asking him \"are you into me or not really feeling it because it kind of seems like you're not really feeling it\", but I don't know if I should do that or just go silent or do something else. I'm really scared of investing time in yet another jerk. I have never met a guy who was genuinely interested in me besides trying to score a one night stand and it just hurts. I want to find someone who has some sort of passion towards me.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I met a pretty stand up guy who is fairly guarded and reserved and I don't know if I'm wasting my time or if I should have a different approach with him",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0109",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [26 F] with my bf [38 M] dating for 4 months and i think he might be depressed and i'm confused HELP!\n\nPOST: Long time lurker and finally had the courage to post as my introvert self cannot make sense of anything as i'm clouded with emotion.\n\nSo he said that he loves me early. (from his culture this is normal, i took it as he likes me a lot so i don't have a big issue about it). He has a kid and lives with the kid when we started dating, everything was good, i didn't had problems with it as he is giving me enough time and attention. recently he gave up the kid to the ex wife (legal issues) and they aren't divorced yet, the kid will live with the mom but he will still  be able to take her from time to time. \n\nHe never wanted to talk about these issues with me as he doesn't want to drag me to his problems, but from time to time i make him open up. The problem is this affected him so much and he said that it depresses him so much. I was a bit surprised cause in my background, guys dont have much dependencies on living with kids.\n \nwhat bothered me alot  is that he told me he is now uncertain of what will happen to his life. and yet he asked me to move in with him just few weeks before all this happens. It made me feel that he might be using me to just escape from what depresses him. I wanna be with someone who really wanted to be with me and not bec he is depress and needy. \n\nShould i be more patient and wait til he got used to living without the kid or is this a sign that i should end things soon.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " bf gave up living with his kid,is depressed and was not certain about his future and im confused if he really wanted to start again with me",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0110",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [22 M] with a girl I met [18 F] we had sex last night and I don't want to meet her again\n\nPOST: I met this girl (18 years old) about 2 months ago and she started to chat with me (22 old boy). Every single conversation that we had, messenger, phone, texting she was the one who started. I never started a conversation, because I'm not interested in her. I couldn't image a relationship with her. My single interest was to have sex with her.\n\nLast night we went out, and she invited me into her house, we stayed in the bed, we kissed, then we had sex. At the morning I told her that I need to go to work, after that she continuously sending me text messages, she called me twice and I think that she thinks that I want to have a relationship with her or she thinks that we are already in a relationship.\n\nAs I said, I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with her because I'm not interested in her. She once asked me what if we would be together? I told her: \"you're cute, but I cannot image a relationship with you, I want to remain friends. No offence, okay?\". I couldn't tell her directly: \"Hey girl, I don't want to be with you, but let's f*ck, alright?\". I have tried to be nice with her. After that she stopped texting me, but after a while, she started again. I don't want to tell her the reality on the phone, or in a text message, I want to meet her, but I don't know when. Should I wait a couple of days, ignoring her messages, or to respond after a while, like I did before?\n\nFrom my point of view, my goal was reached, I slept with her. I thought that she wants the same, just to have sex.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " We had sex last night and she think that we're together and I don't know how and when to tell her that I don't want a relationship.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0111",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I (21 m) was dumped by my girlfriend who I had a kid with after 2 years.\n\nPOST: It's been a month now and she's moved on but I still love her and it's hard for me to accept. I wish I could just move on myself but being the way I am, it's hard to meet new people and open up. Our son is 8 months old so things in the relationship moved rather quickly. I can help but feel worthless over this. I guess I'm not sure what to do, I've been trying and trying but every time I go to pick up my son it just gets harder and harder to see her. I'm afraid my son will think of her new boyfriend as his dad instead of me, even though I'm doing my best to see him overt day and take him over night. It just hurts so fucking much. I guess I don't know who to turn to to get these feelings out so I guess I'll just post it here and hope for the best. I'm here asking if you guys have any advice for moving on in my situation, considering my son and everything.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " girlfriend left me after two years, we have an 8 month old son together, she moved onto a new boyfriend, I'm struggling with my feelings for her. Need advice for moving on considering the situation.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0112",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My girlfriend (20/F) broke up with me(22/M) because she turned lesbian\n\nPOST: So, after 5 months she figured out she likes girls . She's been thinking about that for a long time and after meeting a certain girl, she decided she is more happy with girls rather than boys.\n\nNow, the problem is that I lost a soul mate. She is the first to understand my problems, first that I opened up to, not just as a girlfriend, but as a person. She knows more about me than my parents. All that I had planned is now lost, I am lost, I don't know what to do and how to deal with this. I am too emotional to just forget some one that I loved with all of my heart, and even tho she did all of this to me, I still love her and care for her.\nReddit, what should I do? How do I get over this? I've taken some pills to calm myself down, but I don't want to be on pills...\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " GF breaks up with me because she decided she likes girls, broke my heart, lost my soul mate. Need help to get over it, if possible.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0113",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [23 M] with gf [21 F] of 14 months, best break-up ever (?)\n\nPOST: I've been a lurker for some time, but now I want to share my story with you.\n\n---\n\nThis morning, I broke up with my girlfriend of 14 months.\nI was so afraid to tell her that I don't love her anymore, but I took all my courage and knocked on her door.\nI started to babble about how much I'm sorry for doing this and that I want to end the relationship. Tears were shed and after a few minutes she turns to me and says: 'It's okay.'\n\nShe smiled at me and hold my hand to reassure me that everything's gonna be fine.\nI wasn't prepared for such a reaction and I just started to ball my eyes out for a good 10 minutes or so. She sat beside me, her hand on my shoulder and telling me that everything's gonna be okay.\n\nShe stayed calm and comforted me\u2026although I was the one breaking her heart. After half an hour, I decided to leave her alone and went home.\nI was standing in her door when she smiled at me and said: 'Hey, we can still be friends.'\n\n---\n\nBack at home I started to get a bad feeling about this and started to rethink my decision.\nI'm still sitting here in front of my computer, bewildered at what happened this morning.\n\nI don't know what to think of it...\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I [23 M] broke up with gf [21 F], she took it like a champ and in the end I was the one crying my eyes out.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0114",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me, (23F) adopted at birth and birth mother (??F): anyone else with experience with birth parents who are looking to get in touch with them?\n\nPOST: I was told when I was 11 that I was adopted at birth by my parents, and it's something I don't really think about. It's just very natural to me that the people who raised me are my parents, so I hardly thought about my birth parents.\n\nSo this week my birth mother found and got in contact with my mom. Informed her of some health problems she has that may be genetic, and said my half sister, apparently older, would like to chat with me sometime.\n\nIt hasn't hit me how I feel about it yet. I'm starting by looking objectively at the situation. I don't know anyone else who was adopted, so I don't have much experience with such a thing.\n\nIf you have any questions about my situation, feel free to ask. I just am not sure how much info is necessary, and my situation is relatively simple.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Have any of you ever had an experience meeting birth parents later in life? Did you go through with meeting them? What was it like? What factors contributed to you wanting/not wanting to contact them?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0115",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice\n\nTITLE: Dispute with my landlord before moving in, need help!\n\nPOST: Hi, so I applied to move into a flat a while back, signed the lease, paid the deposit and application fee, and was just waiting on references. My bank (HSBC) took 4 weeks to produce one as initially they were only giving statements and were not producing the reference in the form the landlord wanted. They finally produced it this week and my landlord said i can move in on the weekend. However, he says that as it has taken 4 weeks, he wants me to share the cost of the rent for the past 4 weeks before I move in. Is this okay to do? He had not passed over they keys or allowed me to move in until the bank had produced the reference, which was held up on no fault of my own. He is refusing to allow me to pay rent from just my moving in day. Can I get some advice on whether he is being fair or if there is something I can do?! Thanks! (I live in the UK if that is relevant at all)\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Took 4 weeks for the bank to produce a reference for my landlord so I can move in. Landlord wants me to pay half of the rent for those 4 weeks.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0116",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice\n\nTITLE: Looking for some advice on sex with my girlfriend.\n\nPOST: Hey TwoX, I kind of would like your opinion or advice. Throw away because well, Incredibly personal.\nMy girlfriend and I have been dating for a few months, And we've only had sex once. When we started dating, Were totally open with eachother and she told me she'd only had sex one time, And So I was completely fine with waiting. On halloween though, She was excited to give it a try, Bought lingerie, We rented a hotel room while we were out of town partying, And long story short, We tried to have sex.\nHere's the problem, While we did sort of have sex, And I tried to do as much foreplay to make her comfortable and enjoy herself as possible, She didn't seem into it. When it actually happened it was more of a, her wincing alot and me asking alot if she was ok, And when she'd wince i'd try to pull out, And she'd try to pull me in, But afterwards she confided that all it did was hurt. She even said it hurt for two days after the fact.\nNow i'm completely ok with waiting as long as she wants or needs to. I'm not dating her because I want to have sex with her, I'm dating her because she's an amazing beautiful individual, Both mentally and Physically, And ever since we got together everything just kind of makes a bit more sense. She's fantastic, Honestly the girl of my dreams.\nBut I also worry, Because we had a talk and she said she is kind of scared or nervous to try again, And while I would wait, well, forever. I do worry that not having a healthy sexual relationship might sooner or later cause some problems, So here I am for advice, with a few questions.\nWhat's your opinion on the situation?, And if any of you have experienced the same sort of situation or feelings of physical pain, What did you do to get past them? Should I be worried about this situation at all?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I love my girlfriend but sex hurts her and she's scared to try again. How can I make sex something we can both enjoy?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0117",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Figured out my [M22] college 'family' will be seperating much sooner than I'd like. Pretty depressed about the whole situation.\n\nPOST: I'm really blindsided by this whole thing. I was under the assumption that I was going to be living with the people that were basically my family for the past 2 years until next spring. I recently got word that the people owning the house we re living in want to sell the house in august. I figured we d all have the summer together still but now it seems like the people that I was closest with are going to be leaving in 2 weeks. I seriously haven't cried in years until today. Like I said these people have been like family to me and have helped me do much in getting over my anxiety and depression and becoming the person I want to be. I'm just shocked by this situation now and kind of terrified that all of the positive things I've learned are going to fade away once I go seperate ways from my roommates. Some of them will stay in the city Im in. Others I might never see again. Thinking about finding another place to live makes me want to throw up right now. I knew this would happen eventually...just not like this. I'm not sure what advice I even need right now. Im afraid that Im not going to find another place to live like this or group of friends like this again. I'm afraid my life is going to fall apart after this summer. I'm afraid of feeling alone and weak like before. I just want the fear to go away.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My long time roommates that have helped me through rough times are parting ways and I'm afraid that Im going to be very lonely/depressed.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0118",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice\n\nTITLE: Coworker won't talk to me after I called in sick\n\nPOST: Title gives the gist, here's the devil in the details. I work at a sort of vocational school. If you are sick, you're supposed to call it in. That's because they need to find a substitute instructor or just postpone the class. Well, one morning I woke up, felt like crap, and called the office. The person I talked to actually wasn't in admin but is one of my colleagues. Why she was answering the phones, I don't know. As she was asking me questions about not coming in to work (feel like I'm gonna puke, don't think its a good idea for me to speak in front of office executives) when suddenly--I puke. On the phone. So she quickly relayed my condition to the staff, they need to get a sub trainer pronto.\n\nI have laryngitis and some kind of flu. As soon as I can start talking and I don't feel like my insides are on fire, I email the office to let them know I am coming to work that day.\nThis coworker sits in the cubicle next to me. I apologize to her and tell her how embarrassed I was she had to deal with all on the phone. But she doesn't even look at me or acknowledge I am there.\nNormally, I'd say 'eff it' and get back to work. However, she is a nice person and we often chat because we sit together. We are work colleagues and professional but also have a civil relationship. No romance, we like to keep the chit chat to work stuff-great. But that is out the window apparently. \n\nHelp me, reddit! What can I do or say to at least get things back on track and we can make dumb jokes at our other coworkers expense?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Coworker who is usually chatty got to hear me get sick on the phone and won't talk to me now that I'm back.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0119",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I'm [F/19] going to a Halloween party tonight that my ex [M/19] will be at. Help.\n\nPOST: [Here] is my post where I basically detailed everything about the relationship.\n\nWe broke up about three weeks ago. I saw him two weeks ago when he gave me some of my stuff back. Other than that, I haven't seen him at all, even around campus.\n\nThe party is at his fraternity house, and I was invited by a different brother. I asked a lot of his brothers if I should go and if it would be appropriate for me to go and they've all said yes. They are all my friends as well. I said I didn't want anything to be weird and I was met with \"it's only weird if you make it weird. And he will have to handle it like a reasonable adult because we have mutual friends.\"\n\nI could not go to this party but it's Halloween and I need to get out of my apartment and go. I feel like this is just something I have to do. \n\nI really could use some advice or wise words on how I can handle this situation. What if he tries to talk to me? I could \"what if\" all day, really. What should my mindset be? Help.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Recent ex will be at a halloween party that I'm going to, need help on figuring out how to deal.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0120",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Help Challenging a grade based on stupid human error.\n\nPOST: I just looked up my grades for my previous quarter in school and realized I failed a course.  I was certain I was going to pass it and I start to look at what is wrong, and then I find I have a missing grade where my final assignment (worth a lot of points) should be.  After a little more poking about I find the following e-mail:\n\"Sorry I wasn't in class this morning, my roomate hadn't realised I was back from the weekend and turned off my alarm.\nAttached is my final music theory assignment.  Please let me know if you want a printed copy (on any media, within reason, of your choosing) and when you'd like it.  If just this attachement is enough, also let me know.\nSorry about this mixup, see you in class Wednesday.\"\nSadly, I found this message still sitting in my drafts box.  I figured it was because that day (just after finishing the e-mail) the fire alarm in my dorm building went off and I didn't hit send.\nMy question is this: do you think I have any hope of challenging this grade based on this incident?  If so, how would I go about it (contact professor, or department head, or dean)? If not, why do you think not.\n\nThanks for reading.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " didn't send e-mail with final assignment on accident due to fire alarm resulting in failed class.  is this sufficient grounds for a challenge to the grade?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0121",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/books\n\nTITLE: I havent read a book in ages, I need a recommendation.\n\nPOST: I have never been a big reader, but now it is summer and I have a lot of time on my hands and I really want to get back into it. Here is some background. The only books Ive ever read for pleasure were Harry Potter and some other kids/young adult books when I was young. Most recently I read the Hunger Games just so I could get back into a reading habit.\n\nWhat Im looking for is something to move past the young adult level, I want something with a little more depth to it, something I can sink my teeth into, that will make me think but also not bore me to death (I am easily distracted). In high school my favorite classics taught in class were *A Farewell to Arms*, *A Tale of Two Cities*, and *To Kill a Mockingbird*.\n\nIm not necessarily looking for more classics, although if there is one you recommend please share. I've heard much about The Dark Tower series, thats currently what Im considering the most right now, any opinions? Basically the main criteria is that I want something INTERESTING and not too difficult.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " please recommend a book that is interesting and not too difficult, but has depth to it and moves beyond the young adult genre.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0122",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My [24M] gf [24F] is visiting an ex [24M] that she considers just a friend\n\nPOST: I met this amazing girl a 2 months back and things have never been better. She also has this friend, I'll call Matt, who she used to date a couple years ago in college. She was going through some tough times and became super close with his family, and her and Matt ended up breaking up but still staying close.\n\nRecently she went out of state to visit him for a few days, then see his family for the rest of the trip. The whole trip was set up before we met, and she's mentioned many times about him just being like a brother now. I have no issue with her being friends with him, or even visiting. Matt has roommates and she's sleeping in his room on the floor on an air mattress. She sends me snaps of her helping him with physical therapy and he's shirtless. I just don't want to see that. Again, I 100% trust her, and believe her when she says it's platonic, but it still makes me uncomfortable. How do I talk to her about this and express my feelings without coming off as a jealous boyfriend-type?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " gf is spending time with an ex that she assures me is just like a brother. I want to be okay with it, how can I?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0123",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice\n\nTITLE: [20/M] feels that relationship with [19/F] is falling apart.\n\nPOST: I have known my current girlfriend for almost two years (as coworkers), on a personal level (friends, dating) for 7 months and officially in a relationship for 2 weeks. She is an amazing girl and I truly care for her. However lately all I have been receiving is one word responses in texting, all plans being canceled, and talks about how another guy (whom she has only known for a few months) is always there for her whenever she needs somebody. She is going through some problems with her family and I have been trying to keep that in mind but honestly she is making me feel like shit. I have gone out of my way to make sure she knows that she has someone who cares about her and it seems like she is going out of her way to make sure I know that she doesn't care about me. I have tried to talk to her about it but all I get in response is her telling me I'm making this into too big of a deal and that I am being immature about all of this and that she doesn't want me adding on any extra stress. Tonight has been a low point where she told me that she is pushing me away and even went as far as remove any trace of our relationship from Facebook (stupid I know but the effort was still intentional). \nI have no idea what to do or how to talk to her about it because every time we do she always tries to pin blame on me and I have to even go as far as apologizing for bringing it up just to get her to stop arguing. \nPlease help reddit, I really care about this girl but it seems like she could care less about whether or not I am in her life at this point.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Girlfriend treats me like shit and goes out of her way to make me feel insignificant all while calling me immature for trying to tell her to stop hurting me.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0124",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I'm 32, husband is 35, and he has recently registered for several casual sex/fling websites.\n\nPOST: I'm 32, my husband is 35 (almost 36), and we've been married for 10 years.  I have access to his e-mail because he gave me his password, but he must have forgotten that he gave me his password because he has recently registered for 4 or 5 of these \"casual dating\" websites.  So far, he hasn't cheated (that I know of). I don't know what to do. He constantly says he loves me and we have a pretty good sex life. Do I confront him? Wait until he cheats? Get out now? I do LOVE him.  I want to be with him and I want everything to be okay. Part of me thinks that if he hasn't cheated then I should just let it slide, but I know that I don't deserve this.  I am lost.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Husband has registered for several dating/casual sex websites despite being happy married (or so I thought). I don't know what to do.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0125",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/tifu\n\nTITLE: TIFU by falling asleep\n\nPOST: This happened this Easter's Eve. I was at my friend's place with him, and his girlfriend. It was getting late, naturally, I started to doze off. I woke up the next morning before them, and left. Around three o' clock that day I get a call from my friend. He started the conversation with, \"Some shit went down last night\". Which confused me. All we did was get a little high, and watched Goodfellas. What shit could have possibly gone down? He then tells me that he woke up to me \"sleep peeing\" on him, and his girl. He told me that he started to get really hot in his dream, he woke up to find the heat source to be my urine. As naturally as I dozed off he punched me in the stomach thinking that would wake me up. Instead of waking up I said, \"unlock it\", for some reason only the sleep gods know of, and continued to pee. After I finished relieving myself on my friend, his girlfriend, and their bed I walked to where I had passed out, and laid down to continue sleeping. I've always slept walked, and would occasionally sleep walk into my parents room. A handful of times I ended up sleep peeing in their closet, but it hasn't happened since I was around nine years old. This is by far the most embarrassing event in my life so far. For some reason that I'll never be able to wrap my mind around my friend, and his girl weren't mad, in fact they even invited me over the night after I had defiled them in my sleep, and theirs. I didn't accept their invitation due to the fact I won't be able to look them in the eyes for a while.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I fell asleep at my friend and his girlfriend's place and ended up sleep walking over to their bed and proceed to \"sleep pee\" on them.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0126",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice\n\nTITLE: She suddenly stopped talking to me after years of friendship. What does it mean and why is she doing this? [18m] [18f]\n\nPOST: after transferring to Boston, I went to school with this girl for 3 years, and its our last year before I leave to California. I've been always close to her as a friend almost her only close guy friend. Ever since I confessed and got rejected, things became awkward, but settled down really quickly and we were good friends again. \n\nBack to our old relationship, its only been weeks since I noticed her changed behavior to me. She won't initiate conversations anymore, look at me, or anything. Rarely when we come across, she simply says Hi or Bye and walks away. Hate isn't a good word, but more of discomfort and distanced feel.\nWhy did this happen? What does this mean for her? I'm having really hard time figuring out what I did wrong..\n\nI thought it might've been the stress of college applications, but she gets along with few other guys. (I would know, because she showed me that type of behavior)\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " best friend with a girl. after a short rejection that passed super quickly and returned to normal relationship, she suddenly stopped talking to me/texting me.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0127",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [23M] with my girlfriend [23F] of 11 months, she keeps trying to discuss politics with me but I'm afraid if she finds out how conservative I am we'll break up.\n\nPOST: We like each other a lot. I'm not sure if I would go so far as to say I love her, but I can see that happening in the future. We are very compatible in many ways, but politically we couldn't be any more different. She is very liberal, and I am very conservative. It's just she doesn't know it (or at least I think she doesn't). I have tried as much as possible to avoid controversial topics or change subjects if she brings them up, but with politics being the news so much now, it's getting very hard, especially when she directly asks how I feel about X issue. \n\nIn some cases, I'll share my views with friends or family, but I'm always careful. I don't see her as someone who could accept my views given how much I know they bother her. I'm afraid she would think I'm \"intolerant\" and \"out of touch.\" I could be wrong, though. \n\nPart of me wonders if I should just be honest. Something else I've thought about is just telling her I don't want to discuss it. I'm not sure this would work because of how politically active she is. I know that every couple is different, but has anyone else ever had a similar problem? If so, how did you deal with it? Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Trying to find ways to not discuss politics with my girlfriend anymore. I'm afraid that if it keeps coming up she'll find out how conservative I am and will want to break up.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0128",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Is this irony? And what should I do?\n\nPOST: So backstory, my girlfriend and I have been together for almost 15 months now and we're in a long distance relationship (about 2 hours apart). Now I get to see her a few days out of the month and it started getting hard. So I decided to transfer, even if I didn't really want to. She kept telling me to do what I wanted and that I probably wasn't doing the right thing. She always wanted me to transfer but I guess she didn't want to feel guilty about me leaving just for her. And she kind of guilts me into coming home, saying that I like partying more than her. But I am deciding to come home anyway. So anyway she got an email from her guidance counselor tonight about applying for a full year study abroad at Oxford university (another country). And now the only thing holding her back is me. I want to be supportive and tell her that she should follow her own advice. But I really don't want to lose her. I can't help feeling selfish for wanting her to stay.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Only thing holding me back from staying at school is my girlfriend. Only thing holding her back from studying abroad is me.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0129",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of over a year, I broke up with her 4 days ago, feeling regret\n\nPOST: I won't try to make this too long. I was with a girl for about 16 months, and I'd say we had a pretty healthy relationship the whole time. I could tell she always gave 100% to the relationship and would have done anything for me. She is sweet, hot, funny, and very outgoing. \n\nAbout 10-12 months in, however, I couldn't help but feel like things just weren't connecting between us like they used to; I didn't feel the way I thought I SHOULD feel with such a great girl. Sometimes things with her would be great, but a lot of the time I would find myself wanting to be alone more than wanting to spend time with her--basically just plain disinterest. These thoughts would come and go until they came to a head last week. I decided it was best we end things. She told me she would have worked it out, but I didn't want to string her along when I was so confused with my feelings. \n\nWe haven't spoken since. I realize it is only 4 days out, but I am terrified that ending such an overall great relationship without working through things was the worst decision of my life. I am conflicted between telling her how I feel now while there's still a chance for her to return, or waiting and possibly missing that chance. I can't tell if this is a case of the normal post-breakup regret, or if I just didn't know what I had until is was gone. \n\nAny input/stories of your experience with post-breakup regret would be much appreciated.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Broke up with long term girlfriend because of my little desire to put in effort, worried I will regret it. Need advice.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0130",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice\n\nTITLE: [19F] My boyfriend's [25M] mom is controlling\n\nPOST: Background: My boyfriend and I have known each other for a year and have been seeing each other for about 5 months. We recently made our relationship official. His dad died about 6 years ago, and as a result still lives with his mom to take care of her. We live an hour and a half away from each other so we can only see each other on the weekends. He usually comes to my place and stays for the whole weekend.\n\nThe problem is that his mom always wants him to be home with her. When he's with me she will constantly text him telling him that he needs to clean/do chores, give her rides, and even to come home. She questions him about where he is and why he's gone all weekend. When I asked him why she does this, he said that it's because she's alone in the house, but he is with her all during the week and his sister comes home from another city for the weekends. He isn't a mamma's boy and isn't over-attached to her, but he will sometimes leave my house early because his mom expects him to be home at a certain time. I feel frustrated because he is old enough that he doesn't need his mom to monitor and police him! I want to say something about it, but it isn't my place to get involved with him and his mom's relationship. I also feel somewhat selfish; his poor mom is a widow and I'm sure her wanting him to be home has to do with his dad's passing. I don't want to keep him from his mom at all, but I know this will become more of a problem as our relationship progresses, especially if we want to get serious.\n\nHow should I handle this? As I said I want to confront him about it before it becomes a bigger problem, but I can't help but feel it isn't my place and I'm not sure how to go about it.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Boyfriend's widowed mom always wants him to be home. I don't know how to confront him without feeling selfish.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0131",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: If you quit a job, is the employer required to pay you? If so, is there a time frame?\n\nPOST: I know, I know- most people right now are trying to get a job.\n\nAnyway, I have the opposite problem. I quit my job on August 23rd and promptly walked myself down to USPS to send a (receipt requested) letter to notify them to send my last paycheck to my home address versus direct deposit.\n\nWell, it is now the day my direct deposit would have been received so I decided to check to make sure they received the letter. Turns out, they have refused it and it is in transit back to me.\n\nSo now I'm left scratching my head wondering if I'll even get paid for the few days I worked before I quit.\n\nHas anyone ever dealt with something like this? Are there any legal statutes on my side in this situation? [I'm in NY, if that helps...] Or do I just get shafted if they decide not to pay me? How long can they wait before they're required to pay me if they are required to do so? *AHH SO MANY QUESTIONS!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Do I get screwed if my former employer doesn't want to pay me after I quit, or is there anything I can do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0132",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance\n\nTITLE: Opening Roth IRA related to expected income\n\nPOST: Hi, personal finance!  I have read the breakdown provided on the side about IRAs and have researched the difference between the two, and still can't find a straight answer on my dilemma.  \n\nSo the current situation is this:  I am 28 years old and I made $95,000 last year.  My job has a $50,000 base salary then the rest is commission based.  I currently have loans to pay (auto and school), I have an emergency fund, and a comfortable amount of cash in my checking account.\n\nSO - I know now is a good time to start saving for retirement.   Based on my income, and the implications of being able to withdraw tax free in my retirement, the Roth seems the obvious choice.  \n\nHowever, I keep making more and more.  And should I hit my goals this year I will be above the income limit for a Roth ($116,000).  So my question is - Should I open the Roth now with the knowledge that I may be over the threshold this year or within a couple years?  Will I be shooting myself in the foot by then having two separate IRAs. Can they be combined?  If not will I have hypothetically a Roth worth for example $10,000 from late 20s and then a traditional as I grew into a higher salary?  I have heard of back door contributions  - is this the answer?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Should I open a traditional instead of Roth since I expect my income to be increasing as the years go on?  Is there down side of starting a Roth a year or two before I become financially disqualified for it?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0133",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: [31 M] paranoid with gf [30F] 3mths. Sends an email which never arrives. Sobers up, won't tell me what's in it\n\nPOST: She goes away on holiday. The morning she's due to come home she texts saying she's drunk and horny can't wait to get home and may need to have sex in the airport. Brilliant. Followed by a text saying that she has sent me an email which I should read before I pick her up. No email arrives. She replies later 'probably just as well!' I say she could just copy&paste into a msg but she doesn't reply.  \n  \nAnyway, she was drunk and while I got those messages in the middle of the night, later on in the day, I'm still a bit curious. So I text and ask and she replies but ignores the curiosity.  \nI pick her up at the airport, and though she travelled with a big group of friends (about 10, mostly all couples), she's on her own and her eyes are bloodshot. She's obviously tired but I feel she's a bit distant - like she won't let me push the trolley for her.   \nI decided beforehand I wouldn't mention the earlier text as I wanted to give her a chance to bring it up herself - she doesn't. Unsuprisingly, no shenanigans either. She's tired so I let it go.  \nAnyway, I'm chewing on this all day and realise I can't wait any longer so I text and say that I think she should tell me what was in the email. She says it was deleted when she sobered up. I say I think she should tell me what was in it, she also refuses. I say then I'll continue to think the worst, she says it was a topless photo. I ask if she's deleted it, she says she has. \n  \nIt does make some sense about it being a photo, except:\n* she has sent me a photo before  \n* but through MMS, not email\n* she could have been straightup about it being a photo, and not an 'email' right from the start  \n\nAnd that's where it stands...\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " She says the deleted email was a nudey pic. I don't believe her and I'm having an ol' freakout",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0134",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: 31(m) and 28(f) in a relationship that isn't really a relationship. Not sure what's going on here and looking for insight.\n\nPOST: I don't know if this is the right place for this question.. but I'm finding myself in a very confusing situation with a girl that I've known for about 6 years. To provide some background information, when I first met this girl she had a boyfriend in a long distance relationship, we hung out regularly and became very good friends. After awhile though.. our friendship began to turn into something much more intimate. We settled on describing it as \"friends with benefits\".. but even then we weren't sure. Essentially, we were a couple without being a couple. Even a friends with benefits scenario wasn't quite accurate. We went on regular dates.. we went out to dinner, movies, went on trips .. spent every waking moment together practically.. all under the tacit understanding that we weren't a couple and that we weren't in a relationship together. This carried on for about 1 1/2 years .. and yes .. she maintained her long distance relationship while this went on.. I'm a horrible person, I know. Eventually, her boyfriend found out, they split. She moved across the country shortly after and we lost contact.\n\nFast forward to two years ago. She resurfaces and occasionally visits the state I live in.. whenever she does, we always fall back into our old ways. On some occasions we're just friends, on other occasions we're more than just friends... and on other occasions still, we're once again a couple without being a couple.\n\nFast forward to two weeks ago.. we hook up again.. we go out for a romantic dinner, caught a movie, stargazing etc. etc. the next day, she casually mentions that she has a boyfriend and that she feels bad .. not because she has a boyfriend, but because she doesn't feel bad about having a boyfriend. No matter what we do, we always find that we come back to each other without ever knowing what we're actually doing.\n\nI'm oblivious when it comes to normal relationships and even platonic friendships, and yet I continue to find myself in this twisted mess of nonsense... I don't really know what I'm asking here, but has anybody been in a similar situation that can offer insight?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Me (31m) and her (28f) finding ourselves in a situation where we're in a relationship together that isn't really a relationship.. and I have no idea what's going on.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0135",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [15 M] don't feel good enough for my [16F] amazing girlfriend\n\nPOST: I have been dating the most amazing person for 5 months (I know it's not at all long but it's my first relationship). Her name is Rachel and she is everything I could have asked for; she is absolutely gorgeous, intelligent, creative, and insanely kind-hearted. Her and I were friends for a year before we started dating. I feel like I'm not worth her time. Everything in my mind tells me that I'm not good enough.\n\nShe never gets to spend time with anyone because she is so busy. Every possible state test and final is coming up for her and she has been so stressed (She has had Star Testing, District Write, AP testing, random, 8-day testing for Juniors, AND finals will be coming up soon). I understand she has a lot on her plate and admire how much self-motivation she has, but I keep having to cage up my emotions because she isn't very fond of couples expressing physical relationships in public.\n\nI am totally fine with her not liking public displays of affection, but it is starting to get to me because I never get to see her alone and express my feelings more. It wouldn't feel real if I did it over text; I would much rather do it in person because then I would have to come out of my shell a bit instead of hiding behind a phone.\n\nThinking about it, there are two points of contention. \n\n1.) Her and I never get to spend meaningful time together\n\n2.) I have low self-worth\n\nBeing high school students, this will probably all get better over summer when we have time, but I have been really thinking about it recently and it's been stressing me out a lot. Is there anything I can do to lessen one, if not both of the points of contention? Jesus I hate my teenager hormones.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I don't get to express my feelings around my girlfriend because we never get meaningful time together and I also just don't feel good enough for her. Is there anything I can do or do I just have to wait it out?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0136",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I , 27M, am having money issues with GF, 24F\n\nPOST: Been dating my GF for 2 years now and we share a 1 bedroom apartment. We agreed on a few things before we moved in together. \n\n * I would pay rent, 740/Month\n * She would cover utilities and internet 100-200/Month\n * We would split groceries\n\nI work almost full time and go to school part time, full time again next semester. She works 1 night a week and spend the rest of her time training her horses. So the money she makes goes to the horses, while the money I make goes towards everything else. \n\nI understand that I make more and as such can contribute more, but 100% doesnt seem fair at all! I've talked to her about this several times, but nothing has changed. \n\nHow do I get her to find a second job?! All I can really think of is threatening her, but I don't want to do that. I love her very much, but I am getting very tired of getting up early to go to a job I hate and going to school while she gets to get up late every morning and go about her day as she pleases. \n\nI understand that we are in this together, but I just want to feel like I am being treated fairly.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " GF isn't contributing to the bills and it is really straining me and I need to find a way to get her to find a second job!",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0137",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [19F] lent my bass guitar to my now ex-boyfriend [22M]. I'd like it back, but he's ignoring me.\n\nPOST: A couple weeks before we broke up, I lent my now ex-boyfriend my bass guitar so he could record a song (it's a nice bass and he's always loved playing it). He lives two hours away from me, so after the break-up we planned on meeting before one of his weekly choir practices, which is half way between us, so he could give it back.\n\nThree months later, I don't have it. We've planned on meeting many times, but he's cancelled each one. Now, I haven't even heard from him in weeks\u2014he hasn't answered my calls, he's blocked me on Facebook, he doesn't log into Skype, and didn't answer me when I messaged him via his music page on Facebook. Instead, he posted a status about all the cool bass lines he's been writing.\n\nAs you can imagine, I'm quite frustrated. I know he had a hard time with us breaking up, but it's been months and he's still acting like a kid. I've never been in this position; what's the appropriate way to handle this? Threaten to get police involved? Call his mom? I don't want to be a crazy ex-girlfriend.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Lent my bass to my ex, who lives 2 hours away. Whenever we make plans to meet up, he cancels. Lately, he's been ignoring me altogether. What do I do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0138",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [19 M] am confused about what a romantic relationship actually is.\n\nPOST: Hello /r/relationships!\n\nAs the title implies, I have been wondering what a romantic relationship actually is.\n\nI so far haven't had any mutual relationships (or any non-mutual ones that I know of), of this kind. This means my assumptions are mostly based on fiction, second hand information and common sense.\n\nI have experienced attraction and I guess I have experienced what most people would call a \"crush\" to some extent. Romantic love to me is a very fuzzy concept. From what I understand it is not simply attraction and also \"more\" then a \"crush\".\n\nRecently I have been wondering if I might have experienced romantic love without actually noticing it as such or putting that label on it. While what I suspect might have been romantic love doesn't really satisfy the implications of fiction/second hand experience on this topic, the pattern in which I have experienced it leads me to find it reasonably likely to be exactly that.\n\nI would describe it as a desire to be known and to know the other individual completely, combined with over average caring about their wellbeing and experiencing the presence of the other as unusually pleasant. It's not tied to any desire for sexual/romantic behavior, while physical contact, as in hugs and simple touches, is experienced as pleasant.\n\nNow, all these things are to some degree part of any normal friendship to me, and considering how everybody is making such a huge fuss about romance, I would expect a more distinct difference.\n\nUsually I wouldn't care and just ignore the topic until things develop naturally, but there is a reasonable chance I will be moving in with someone I might have romantic feelings towards who is currently in a relationship with someone else and while I would really enjoy this persons company, I would like to avoid the potential drama/feeling-like-shit due to unreciprocated love I am lead to expect due to the knowledge available to me in case I actually do have these feelings.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I am confused and in need of confirmation that what I am experiencing is or is not romantic love. Anything from personal stories to psychological descriptions might be helpful.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0139",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [27M] with my father-in-law [55M] of <1 yr, wants to put my name on his business-related documents\n\nPOST: I have a PhD in chemistry and my father-in-law is starting a business that helps companies write grant proposals to get R&D money from the government. He wants to put my name (and PhD title) alongside his on business cards and other marketing stuff related to the company, since a science PhD lends credibility. The thing is, I don't actually have anything to do with this company and I'm worried that if any of his business deals go sour or if he leaves people with a bad impression, it could affect my reputation and future career prospects.\n\nI let myself be pressured into allowing him to list my name on his website as someone who does consulting for his company, but not as an employee or partner. He just sent me a business card that has my name listed alongside his and some other random PhD that has nothing to do with his business. I want my name removed from this, and excluded from anything else going forward.\n\nHere's the problem: my wife [24F] things that my refusal will cause a large blow-up where her family will accuse me of \"not caring about family\" and other such nonsense to guilt me into consenting. This is exactly what happened when I stopped my wife from unknowingly signing as a guarantor on a business loan for her brother that we wouldn't have been able to afford to repay if things went wrong.\n\nMy wife thinks we need to make up polite excuses to get out of this. I just want to tell him that I'm not comfortable having my reputation attached to a business that I have no part in. Technically, being employed by another company is a violation of my current contract, so these cards in the wrong hands could get me fired.\n\nAny advice on how to deal with this would be appreciated!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " FIL wants to put my name and PhD on his business cards. I am afraid this could negatively impact my reputation and career.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0140",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: On/Off partner [18 F] broke up with me [18 M] again. Now only wants to be friends.\n\nPOST: Okay so my friend and I developed a physical and romantic friendship at the beginning of the year. We discussed dating, but put it off, given that as long as I've known her she has been unable to date someone for more than a week or so. Her reasoning is that she doesn't feel like herself while in a relationship. However, emotions got the best of us and we started dating a few weeks after it began. \n\nAfter about two months, she broke up with me, saying she didn't feel like herself. I was upset but I came into it knowing it would happen. We continued talking after it, and about a week later I invited her over to my house to see a movie. While we were watching the movie, I kissed her, much to her surprise. It grew more heated and I ended up becoming her first time that night. She later told me that she had expected us to watch the movie as friends and didn't think that was going to happen, but was alright with how it turned out given that she was still attracted to me.\n\nFor about a month after that we began dating again, not as boyfriend/girlfriend, but as \"monogamous romantic partners\" as she called it. It continued like this until the prom, where she asked me out again. For a few weeks it was fine, but I noticed she was starting to get stressed out about it again. We had a talk about it and decided it would be better if we broke up.\n\nNow she doesn't want to hang out with me for awhile, and is more distant than the first time this happened. According to her close friends (theyre also good friends of mine), this is because she still has feelings for me. She knows something will happen between us if we hang out and she doesn't want to go through another break up again.\n\nSo Reddit, I need some help. I don't want to date my friend again, given that it doesn't turn out well, but I want to get back into that position of romantic friends. Any thoughts?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " On/Off romantic partner wants to distance herself from me because she still has feelings for me and doesnt want to be hurt by the break ups again.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0141",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice\n\nTITLE: I [18/m] am in love with a classmate [17/f], but she has a long distant relationship\n\nPOST: Hi,\nlike the title says, I'm very in love with her. She is in a long distant relationship, and she thinks that her boyfriend will break up with her (because she want's to go au-pair to another coutry).(Don't get me wrong, I don't want her to quit her boyfriend for me, I only wanted to say this)\n\nShe and I have many things in common, and a few days ago she invited me to her appartment, to give me some films I wanted. I was there for about 1 1/2 hours, and we talked the whole time with each other. She said I could come over any time I want. I liked it very much. I frequently write with her, too, end then we end up writing for 2 hours or so.\nShe's also very kind to me, but I don't know how I shall interpret this whole thing, I'm confused right now, but I really love her.\n\nI didn't tell her yet, because I don't want to make her to force (don't know an other english word) her to make a decision.\n\nWhat should I make, should I wait and see what happens with her realationship? We're in the last scholar year, I don't know if I'll be able to see her after school as frequently as now.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " She's an a long distant relationship, she said it's unlikely that this relationship will last long. I love her, but don't know what to do.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0142",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: I have been seeing and old friend's sister for a while. He doesn't know, Am I handling this right.\n\nPOST: Hi Everyone,\n\nNever quite been in an askreddit situation until now but I think this is a good time to start. I'm 25 years old and I have been seeing a high school friend's, Let's call him Jack, 20 year old sister,call her Jill, for over a year now. Jill and I haven't really hidden it from anyone around us but somehow I am almost positive he has no idea about us. Everyone is worried to tell him because he's very protective. We've never really hung out around him specifically because we were concerned by his possible reaction.\n\nI was fairly close friends with Jack in high school but since then other than a few random parties or something we haven't really spoken very much. He brought Jill to a party well over a year ago and we hit it off. We have so much in common it's scary and she's everything I would look for in a long-term relationship except the brother approval snag.\n\nTonight I was rolling(used ecstasy) for the first time and it caused me to kind of sit and evaluate relationships with people around me. I am generally an introverted person and very caged with emotion, despite feeling very strongly. I realized how I really feel about this relationship and came to the conclusion I needed to tell him. \n\nWe maintain several mutual friends that we are both close with so I am trying to be tactful. I sent him a text message a few minutes ago and was looking for feedback if I am handling this right. Also, anything you guys think I should talk about him with when he gets in touch with me?\n\nText: Hey Jack, It's mks7800. I know we haven't spoken in a long time but I think we are overdue to talk about a few things. Let me know when you're free on Aim/Facebook/Phone/out for a drink and I'll let you know about a few things.\n\nI appreciate if anyone reads this. Any advice on this somewhat sticky situation is very much appreciated.\n\n-mks7800\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I have been seeing my old friend's sister and it seems he's the only one that has no idea, He deserves to know.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0143",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My wife's feelings have changed after 6 years, do I try and make it work for the sake of our kids?\n\nPOST: I'm a 28 year old male and I've been with my wife (38 y/o) for almost 6 years- we have a 3 year old girl together and two older kids (7 and 9) from her first marriage that I've raised since they were toddlers. My wife has collectively took every bad thing about me like a sword and stuck it right through me...I've only looked at her thru loving eyes even when she did things that hurt me I always looked at all of her positive qualities, every day, all the time. So much so that I had NO idea that she felt the way she did! Should I try to work it out for the sake of the kids, especially my baby daughter who is the star of my life or just finally let go? I came from a broken home but I was born and didn't meet my father until I was about 7...I harbored a lot of resentment towards him and I don't want the kids having that same resentment towards me because I'm not choosing to leave, but how can I stay in a home where I'm not wanted?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Stay with wife for sake of kids? Will they resent me even though I'm being forced out? Her feelings have changed after 6 years and she only looks at the negatives, can I even change her back?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0144",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [28M] and my wife [25F] are in a dry spell. Having trouble coping with my PG-rated marriage.\n\nPOST: We've been married 4.5 years so far. Both each other's first. I'm relatively normal as far as upbringing, struggle with mild depression at times. She has reproductive/hormonal medical issues, currently being treated, Also a history of childhood sexual abuse, but she's extraordinarily strong and has coped with this very well.\n\nLast time we were intimate was in December 2013. Before that, October 2013. Before that, June or August 2013. Been gradually slowing down since we were married. Aside from the sex we're mostly fine, relationship-wise. She says it's likely due to her medication, and medical conditions. I can accept that. \n\nMy problem is that it's starting to affect my well-being. I'm depressed and anxious often. I'm losing emotional connection and distancing myself. My advances are pathetic and hopeless, and just make her feel worse for saying no.\n\nI often feel like she doesn't consider me attractive although she says she does.  It doesn't help that she's openly said she thinks \"naked men are gross\" (meaning to me she doesn't like penises, which I can also understand considering her history). I have let her know this hurts me, and she hasn't mentioned it again, but I keep thinking \"honey, how would you feel if I said 'breasts are disgusting!' Except yours, yours are great.\" It's playing on my mind a lot lately.\n\nI need some advice on getting through this. I don't want to be driven by my sexual needs. Masturbating/porn doesn't help, it just makes me crave the real thing more and I personally think it's disgusting and selfish. I don't know if I want advice or commiseration here, but it's to the point I'm considering looking into some kind of drug to \"neuter\" my sex drive for the time being.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " We haven't been intimate for a while due to medical (and possibly emotional) issues. Need some advice in how to cope and not go insane and maintain a good relationship with my wife while we work it out.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0145",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Why is affirmative action needed in the United States?\n\nPOST: **Serious answers please**\n\nAffirmative action benefits select racial/ethnic minorities in the college admissions process over others, particularly those of African, Native American or Latino descent. Affirmative action is intended to promote the opportunities of defined minority groups within a society to give them equal access to that of the privileged majority population and is justified by helping compensate for past discrimination and exploitation.\n\nHanding out diplomas on a gilded platter doesn't seem like the solution to socio-economically disadvantaged groups in the US. It benefits a select few and reinforces negative stigma in all racial groups ( [Check your privilege] ). It would be more effective to rehaul public education ( **NOT** the Common Core!) starting ground up. (Since the synaptic density within the human brain is greatest during elementary and junior high schooling years,  [See critical periods] younger students haven't formed misconceptions about what they can or cannot do, and are more receptive to learning.) \n\nI have been told (in lieu of my own disappointing college results, and [Kwasi Enin's] very impressive ones) that future success depends more on invested efforts rather than the institution that one attends. Following that logic, AA should have negligible effects on a student's career path and success.\n\nWhy, should one student be privileged to pursue education at a top institution that denies another student of comparable academic merit based on different ethno-racial origins?\n\n* **I am not trying to detract from Kwasi's academic merits.**\n* **Yes the careers of many prominent individuals, like our President, have been made possible by AA. I don't begrudge that. But the success of a few will not improve the lives of many.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I think AA is objectively unfair and the wrong approach to making amends for past abuses by the government to certain racial and ethnic minorities. ",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0146",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I'm [m/21] going to hang out with a girl [20/f] who I had/have a crush on since High School..we were friends in HS, but I haven't seen her in a few years and I want things to go a different route.\n\nPOST: Hey reddit, so as the title says I've known this girl for a good number of years. We're both in college in the same city but different schools. I haven't seen her in about 3 years since HS, and I always had a big crush on her. We we're good friends in HS as I was an ugly pimply duckling. But I have now grown and do look a lot different (better wise). \n\nI recently texted her to hang out and she's responded willingly and wants to meet up to hang out. I don't want this to seem as I just want to be friends but I don't want to full on get on her either, just play it cool for now. So I'm more confident now conversation wise, and interesting wise but what subjects should I avoid that seem \"friend zone\" friendly, and what should I avoid that says let's be friends.\n\nI haven't been single in about two and a half years and have been alone for about two months now so i'm pretty new to this game. Thanks for all yer help!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Texted an old HS crush to hang out. She said yes. Need advice on how to approach the hangout w/o getting friend zoned like I did in HS.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0147",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps\n\nTITLE: three weeks into the break up with my ex-gf (long)...\n\nPOST: New to reddit here, so hello. A friend of mine told me this was the place to go to when you're dealing with unwanted emotions. \nAlright, straight to the issue. I'm stuck in introspective mode. I (age 21) broke up with my gf (age 23) a few weeks ago and i'm going through the motions; guilt, longing, acceptance, \" fuck it, i'm free!\"-mode, etc. We were together for around two years and it was a long distance relationship. Our relationship was never easy. Three months after my previous (1 yr) relationship i initiated the relationship. I was looking for something casual because my previous relationship didn't end on the best of terms and she was looking for something more serious. I told her from the beginning that I wasn't ready for anything serious but I felt like if i didn't tell her what she wanted to hear I'd lose her. She's one of those brilliant shy types. Here's where it gets complicated. Right after we start this relationship I have to move. I couldn't afford my place, wasn't getting enough hours, wasn't in school, not really going anywhere in life,etc; so I moved back in with my family. We both had bad experiences with LDR, the answer seemed pretty obvious. We remained friends, I went back to school & figured out my major, our relationship became one of those on and off relationships. We would break up, then see each other and get back together. We kept breaking up because of the problems that come with a LDR. Everyone-including the participants,was getting sick of it.\nAs i said before, i ended up breaking it off a few weeks ago. She kept telling me that we could make it work but nothing was changing. I felt, and feel, like our relationship was preventing the other person from enjoying our youth. It was exhausting. The unnecessary jealousy, the constant dream of eventually being physically together, etc. \nWhen we had problems i would reassure her, and myself, by saying \" In __ years we'll be able to be together. Other couples have done it!! That could be us!\". \nFuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu. I probably sound like a douche.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " 3 weeks into a LT/LDR break up with an amazing chick. Feeling emo/venting/trying to buck up.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0148",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice\n\nTITLE: [23/m] Attached when I shouldn't have been, and now she [23/f] has a boyfriend. She wants to stay friends. How to move on without affecting her?\n\nPOST: I broke up with a long-term girlfriend shortly before she left overseas so that we could get some matured perspective on our relationship and future together. \n\nSkip ahead 18 months -- We very frequently kept in contact all the while that she was abroad, and she was always vocal about her affection towards me. I never had any desire to make a move towards any other women while she was gone, and I felt that I had personally gotten the perspective on our relationship that I had initially been looking for. \n\nBut now she's picked up a boyfriend abroad, and naturally there's some disconnection between us. \n\nAnyway, I'm looking to move on with my life, but she still wants us to remain close friends.\n\nI don't think it's fair that she ought to be punished for starting a relationship with somebody else, considering she was single, so I feel guilty about completely cutting communication from her -- but I personally don't want to video call her anymore like she wants, for the sake of my own feelings and attachment. \n\nHow best to move on without implicating her? \n\nFWIW: \n\n* Her and her new boyfriend don't share citizenship of each other's home countries. They'll either need to get married after ~4 months together, or live out the rest of their relationship long-distance. \n\n* I'm abroad in a separate country all together, and won't be returning home for another 12 months; giving the decision to cut all contact some extra weight.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Cut all communication from a close friend for 12 months at least, because she's moved on and I still have feelings for her?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0149",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/self\n\nTITLE: Need help--strange etiquette dilemma. Please read!\n\nPOST: Okay, so here's my story: 9 years ago my boyfriend died. He had been out of contact with his family during most of the time we were together, and they lived across the country so I had no opportunity to really get to know them at all. When he died, I flew across the country to go to the funeral and I was able to meet his mother, father, and sister. I was all kinds of messed up at the time and I have since lost everything that I ever had regarding the whereabouts of his family. I have periodically searched the internet to see if I can find them, and recently his little sister opened a FB account. I really want to get in touch but I don't know what to say, and I don't want to upset the family. I should mention that his family was very gracious with me and they were thankful of my relationship with him, so I know that they don't hate me. What do I do? Do I send this girl a message? What should it say? Thank you for any insights.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Should I send a message to my dead boyfriend's sister, who I recently found on FB? What should I say?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0150",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [19 F] with my roommates [19-21F]. One of our roommates is awful.\n\nPOST: Hi, first off, sorry for the formatting; I'm doing this on mobile. Second, I don't if this is going to come off petty, but I'm out of ideas. \n\nI'm a sophomore in college and currently living in an apartment with 4 other girls. Three of the girls I knew my freshmen year and we decided to live together. When we looked for housing, our ideal apartment only had 5 bedrooms left so we had to have an extra roommate placed with us. We were all ok with this as most of us are laid back. However, when we first met our roommate we found out she was an exchange student. \n\nWhich is no big deal, but some of her lifestyle ideals are different because of the culture she grew up in. First, she doesn't want anyone talking or using the living room past midnight; which is pretty much impossible for college students living a college lifestyle. Second, she wants the doors to be locked at all times, and gets angry when someone leaves the door unlocked. These first two rules are livable, and my roommates and I all try to be as quiet as possible after midnight and lock the doors when leaving or before bed. But recently she has wanted to keep the heat at 73 degrees. We're living in the Midwest so the average temperature outside is about 20 degrees Fahrenheit. By keeping it at 73, we are increasing our electrical bill astronomically. Last month is was $300. This roommate also has a space heater that she leaves running constantly. One of my other roommates tried to counter this by turning down the heat whenever she could. This still uses a lot of electricity as we cycle from hot and cold. What can I do about this reddit, are there any options? We all signed separate leases, and there's not a way to switch roommates. I just can't afford to keep paying $60 a month for electricity. Ideally the temperature would be around 65-68 degrees but she says anything lower will make her sick.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Roommate wants to keep the heat at 73 Degrees Fahrenheit when the temperature outside is about 20. None of the other roommates want this.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0151",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: It's Mother's Day, and the emotions have finally hit me (24F) because the mother's I could celebrate have already passed on\n\nPOST: This is more of a venting of sad emotions b/c I have another 2 1/2 at work, than looking for advice. Consolation, maybe. Also, this is a major struggle for me to write now.\n\nI've spent a fair portion of my day checking Facebook on and off, which is naturally covered in Happy Mother's Day things (I even posted one of my own in memory). I also went out to brunch with my boyfriend and saw plenty of happy families enjoying todays specials at XYZ restaurant, as well as at work. But it's finally hit me, and I can't take too much more of it, because I don't have a mother to call up and praise or thank in a way that I know would be understood. (I'm also 5hrs away from where I grew up/where she's buried so leaving flowers on her headstone isn't really an option.)\n \nMy mom died 2 weeks after my 20th birthday. It will have been 4yrs ago in a couple of days, and my grandmother only 16 months and 3 days after her. I was close to them both and I miss them so much every day. I wish I could call them, catch them up on my life, introduce them to my boyfriend, get their opinion on the state of my career just to hear their support, cry to them about stupid work issues, anything and everything. \n\nFewer things make me angrier than when I hear someone bad mouthing their mom (when its not an abusive relationship, mind you) because somethings not going their way, or Mom's not reacting to something in the way they were expecting and are losing their cool. I'm angry at them because I'm jealous of what they still have that I lost- each other's company- and I so desperately wish I could have just one more conversation with her, that their snipping is showing how much they undervalue just that much.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Call your mom right now and tell her how much you love her, because not all of us can and it makes getting through Mother's Day that much harder.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0152",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/tifu\n\nTITLE: TIFU by speaking with a fake accent at the worst possible time.\n\nPOST: Yes, literally today. I was going in for an interview for basically my dream job. I was extremely nervous... Like voice a little shaky nervous.\n\nNow a little background, when I hang out with my girlfriend I commonly use stupid, silly, fake accents when I talk to her because it makes her laugh. I do it so much that sometimes I'll have an entire conversation in my southern (USA) accent or Indian accent. It almost became a habit for talking with her like that... \n\nSo the HR girl, Marie, comes out as I'm waiting and says \"Hey there _____! So glad you could come in today! etc etc\" and reaches out for a handshake. I go \"yeah I'm real excited to be here too, thanks for bringin' me in\" or something like that.....\n\nIn a real heavy, molasses sounding southern accent.\n\nThen I just fucking panicked. What do I do? My brain shut down. I followed Marie into the interview room making small talk. At this point there was no going back. I gave the entire interview in that goddamn accent without exception. And, it actually went pretty well.\n\nSo if I get the call..........\n\nNot really sure what to do.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " used a southern accent out of pure nervousness to answer my interviewers first question, couldn't make a joke out of it and therefore used it for the entire interview.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0153",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Should I [24M] bother dating or am I not ready?\n\nPOST: I'm 24, live with my parents and only make about 28k a year. \n\nI guess I should list positives. I own my car, bought it with cash, have a good amount of money saved up. I started lifting late last year, my numbers are not where I want them to be but I'm still lifting 2-3 times a week. \n\nI'm just worried that I don't make enough money to hold a relationship or have a woman be ok with the amount that I make. I'm not incredibly good looking, pretty short at 5'8, and I only really have 4 or 5 real friends, none of which are women. \n\nWhere would I go to meet women? I'm totally open to just meeting women and knowing them to expand my social circle but I do not know where to go to speak with women without seeming creepy/stalkerish. \n\nI honestly don't know if I'm too ugly, too poor or just not interesting enough for a relationship. Not even sure if I've missed the boat and may be too old to start dating.\n\n I'd like to believe I'm single because I haven't really ever tried going on dates or approach women out in the open but I feel like I don't qualify to try and date because of my living situation/income.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Wondering if I should try talking to women or dating but feel like my living situation/income is barring me from trying.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0154",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [23M] have trouble looking past my [23F] girlfriend's previous long term relationships [4 mo].\n\nPOST: I've been dating this girl four months. Her best friend is the wife of my brother's best friend. It's safe to say that we love one another. We truly enjoy each other's company, we treat one another with respect and trust, we agree on just about everything, we have a healthy sexual relationship, and her family is fond of me and vice versa.\n\nI met her in high school when I was an acquaintance of her first long term boyfriend. He's long since out of the picture considering it was ~8 years ago. \n\nHowever, she has been in relationships pretty much continuously since she was 15. I've had two long term relationships; both lasted between a year and a half and three years. The last long term relationship I was a couple years ago. \n\nShe was single for one year before we started dating. But previous to that she was in a number of long term relationships - each of them lasting 2 or more years. She says she has always been faithful to her boyfriends, and I absolutely believe her. \n\nWe sometimes talk about how good we are for one another, and about our future together. However, I have trouble believing I really am significant. We've only been together a fraction of the time she was with any of them. I sometimes think about the sex she had with all of them (although I know I shouldn't), and I worry that maybe she falls in love too easily. She says she was single the past year because she was tired of dating guys that didn't treat her right, but stayed with them because it was \"comfortable\".\n\nHer past two boyfriends were heavy into marijuana and other drug use (dealers). Last night she said she stayed with both of them because it was easy for her to get weed through them. We were both pretty heavy into drug use for years, but we've both since discontinued all drug use aside from drinking.\n\nShe treats me very well, and I love her, and I want this to last. But how can I convince myself that the way she is comfortable with me is any healthier or different than the way she was comfortable with the rest of them?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I would like to find a way to rationalize the fact that my girlfriend has been in numerous long term sexual relationships before dating me.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0155",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [17 M] with my [17 F] of 2 years broke up. She wants space. How do I get her back?\n\nPOST: We were dating for 2 years and we had no problems in our relationship. I left during the summer to visit family in the mid-west during that time I started to lose feelings for her for unknown reasons. I broke up with her 3 or 4 days before her birthday in september like a fucking asshole over skype.\n\nI saw her again once school started back up and immediately started regretting my decisions. We eventually got back together and went to the homecoming dance and were together for about a 3 week period until she told me the day after homecoming that we should really take a break and focus on our friendship and that she needs space.\n\nIt has been 3 months that I have been over clingy with her and trying to give her that space but I haven't because she was the only person I could talk to about my problems and I just get in moods where she is all I can think about. But within the last 3 or 4 weeks I have been giving her some space.\n\nShe still occasionally tells me that she loves me and I say it back. But a couple days ago I said I love you through text and she told me to not say that, I then asked why and she said \"because we are not in a relationship.\"\n\nI haven't seen her in about 2 weeks. What should I do to attempt to get her back or have her want to talk to me? Do any of you know from experience if the giving space thing works? How should I try talking to her again? She has a Christmas party every year with about 25 friends always and I am in her friend group. Should I try making moves with her there?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I broke my girlfriends heart and am trying to get back with her but she said to give her some space for now. Does the space thing work and how do I get back with her?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0156",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Is she [21] playing hard to get or uninterested in me?[22/M]\n\nPOST: Hey guys first post here. So I'll try to make this quick, I've been out of the dating scene for a few years now and need advice with a girl i currently like. \n\nHer and I met in class and have been talking for not too long a month or so. We have tons in common I have gotten her number and we text every now and then (more on that later.) But I have really I've made the most progress in the past week. So everything explained further takes place in a span of a week. \n\nI've hung out with her a few times. The times we have hung out have been good we seem to hit it off. She's kinda touchy and takes lots of pictures of us (bff on sc if that means anything.) She said things like I'm special for getting to see her act in her goofy way. She even made and brought me a sandwich for when we were studying together. But ever since then she seems less interested in me and we do not text as often. Which is weird cuz that was to me at least the time we hit it off the most.  Before We had been texting all day but now barely at all and remember this is all in a span of less than a week. \n\nMost recently we were supposed to hangout but she said she forgot (which is a big red flag I know) but we did reschedule for another specific day. \nSo is she uninterested? Playing hard to get? Or other?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " hit it off with a girl. After 'study date' that went well communication/interest dropped off a bit. She uninterested playing hard to get or other?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0157",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/travel\n\nTITLE: We've found ourselves staying across from refugee building in Istanbul\n\nPOST: We temporarily have a 3rd floor apartment in Istanbul which is across the street from  what is something like a refugee 'prison' in Kumkapi.  The 'residents' dont seem maltreated, but they are definitely locked in.  While smoking a cigarette out of our window, they started a conversation with us.  It was a very humbling experience.  We weren't able to gather very much, as the security guard(the one with the rifle and the bulletproff vest) pretty clearly told us to stop after a few minutes of yelling back & forth across the street.  The majority of them are refugees from Syria(at least 1 person from Pakistan), and include women & children, and they will be transfered to a refugee camp in 3 days.  Somebody from some window said \"s.o.s.\"  The entire encounter lasted only 3 minutes, but may be one of the most moving experiences in all of my travels.  Given all of the current tensions between the US(our country) and the middle east, we feel obliged to continue to communicate with them, although as they are behind both bars and a hatched grate, it'll probably only be one directional.  We want to express our solidarity to them, and let them know that americans in general are very friendly people, depites all of our political/social problems, problems that a lot of middle easterners seem to clearly extrapolate to the entire county.  Our current plans are to procure some posterboard or something similar with the word [Asabiyyah] ( and put it in our window, and also to see if the guards will let us give their children some soccer balls, as they seem to have a small playground.  Are there any arabic speakers here?  What can we best do to get this point across?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " We're randomly temporarily living adjacent to some Syrian refugees trapped in this complex in Istanbul.  What little can we do to let them know that all people from the US aren't idiots & most are genuinely kind & sympathetic to their situation?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0158",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [20M] with my girlfriend [19 F] 2 years high school and a year in college with a short break in between, lack of trust and communication\n\nPOST: We dated junior and senior year of high school and through the summer before I started college before taking a short break. During this break she began dating my best friend. I was devasted and the friendship was lost. After a month she realized her mistake and broke that off and we began talking again.\n\nSince then we have been a fling for the last year and some change. We have never made it official because she said she didn't want that commitment yet. I planned on dealing with this because I love her. Recently her communication has been less than stellar. I began worrying and decided to investigate.\n\nI created a fake Twitter account and was able to DM her asking about a date hoping to get a no right away. After not replying for a few hours she began asking questions trying to get to know the fake person. I asked if she was with any guys and she said she had just broken something off. She also said she wanted to take it slow. At this point I'm distraught and decide to go see her. She acts like everything is ok until I confront her about the messages. \n\nShe inmediately gets pissed and starts saying she can't believe I catfished her and that I was crazy for doing so. I asked her to see it from my point of view but she refused to finish the conversation. She said she was just playing along to see if it was real and was about to say no when I went to talk to her. I just don't know what to think or do.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " messaged girlfriend with fake Twitter account. She talked to the fake guy and said she had broken it off with some Guy recently. I approached her and there was a fight.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0159",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me (17M) just broke-up with my GF(17F) of 6months. Feeling confused and lost.\n\nPOST: Met this girl at school 6 months ago. I asked her out after leading a strong friendship with her. \n\nBackground info: She regularly went to parties and clubs where she would get drunk. I have never been to a party or gotten drunk. We lead different lifestyles. However, we were really close.\n\nThe break-up: About two weeks ago she began acting odd in my company, not going in for hugs and not wanting to go out as much. We haven't had any form of sexual contact (I'm still a virgin) but we were planning on having intercourse in the near future. 2 days ago she texted me out of the blue saying that we had to chat. She says that she doesn't feel like she is ready for a relationship and that she is sorry. I asked why and she went on a rant about how her ex hurt her and she is scared it will happen again. I said that i understood and agreed that we wont be seeing each other anymore.\n\nWhy am I writing this?: i don't know what to do. I used to speak to her daily, I'm feeling a little lonely and hurt by it all. She is going out clubbing on Monday night with her friends and i feel that maybe there is a reason underlying the break up other than what was said. I want to move on but there is a little voice saying i gave in too easy and just let her go when I shouldn't have. I don't know what to do.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " broke up with girlfriend of six months. I'm suspicious as to why she broke up with me as I feel her reason is a cover up. Now I feel hurt, lonely and lost. What should i do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0160",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Does he [M23] have feelings for me [F22] even though he's focusing on his career?\n\nPOST: I dated a friend a couple summers ago and nothing came of it because he moved abroad for work. His brother passed away shortly thereafter and he didn't end up keeping in touch very much.\n\nHe came into town a few weeks ago and immediately wanted to see me. He ended up blowing off all of his friends to spend time with me and we cuddled and talked for several hours. (He tried to kiss me and I didn't let him, but we hung-out for a few more hours after that.)\n\nHe apologized several times for not keeping in touch better and for abruptly leaving to start his career. He said that he had a lot of fun last summer and would keep in touch a lot better from now on. I asked him flat out if he would've dated me if he'd stayed local, and he said he definitely would've thought about it because we are compatible in so many ways.\n\nHe then proceeded to give me his life plan. He says he wants to spent the next couple years developing his career abroad, but that he eventually wants to come back to the states and start a family. He says he's only had one serious relationship that lasted five years and has only liked two-three girls his whole life. (I was dying to ask whether I was one of those girls, but I resisted the temptation.)\n\nAnyways, he's moving abroad again and is visiting so many exciting places. But he's kept up on his promise to keep in touch. We've skyped once and have plans to skype again next week. He also reiterated that I can text him whenever I want and that it'd be a great way to keep in touch. He answers my text messages fairly quickly whenever I do have something to say to him.\n\nOkay, so I get he's not about to be my boyfriend any time soon. I'm also going to keep dating other people who are more local. But does he have feelings for me? Or am I just a friend who's convenient to cuddle with? I really want to know what he's thinking.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My friend is traveling a lot for work, but seems to show signs of interest in me. Does he have feelings for me, or am I just convenient?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0161",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [22 F] with my BF [21 M] one year open relationship, slept with someone else, not sure if I have feelings for him anymore.\n\nPOST: I go away to school in another country. I come home in May for the summer. Last May, my current BF asked me out (we have known each other for 5 years and have been close friends). I had a crush on him forever so naturally I did say yes.\n\nAt the end of the summer I had to go back to school for my final year. We both decided that our relationship was too young to do long distance. We decided to have an open relationship so we would not have to worry about each other cheating. When I am home for breaks we are completely monogamous, and when I graduate and come home we are going to return to monogamy.\n\nI went the whole school year with not doing anything with anyone else. However, 2 nights ago I slept with someone I have been flirting with for a while. I did not mean to sleep with him but alcohol was involved, and I am incredibly attracted to this other guy. \n\nThis would not be a problem, accept for whatever reason sleeping with someone else made me less interested in my BF. Now I feel annoyed whenever he texts me, whereas before I felt I was in love and I could not weight to come home and be with him. \n\nIs this natural? When I go home to my BF and we resume a monogamous relationship will I get my feelings back? I am worried about how much I enjoyed being with someone else. I feel like a bad person, and I learned a side of myself that I did not know existed.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Open relationship, slept with someone else, lost feelings for current BF. Will those feelings come back when we actually live in the same country?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0162",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/loseit\n\nTITLE: PSA: Endomorphs, ectomorphs, and mesomorphs are not real\n\nPOST: In the general weight loss and fitness community, I frequently hear these terms casually thrown around to explain one's ability to lose/gain/maintain weight at a certain rate. From my tattoo artist who is now a competitive bodybuilder to my SO when we started this journey, it has been a consistent cause of frustration for me, as these terms- as well as constitutional psychology in general- has been discredited for years.\n\nConstitutional psychology was developed by a psychologist named William Herbert Sheldon in the 1940's. He asserted that the human body could be split up into three \"somatotypes\"- the endomorph, ectomorph, and mesomorph. He wrote a book on the topic in the 50's called *Atlas of Men*. Each somatotype was characterized as representing a different temperament, level of intelligence, and overall value. It had/has foundations in racism and antisemitism. \n\nThe three types were described as follows (from Wikipedia): \n\nEctomorphic: characterized as linear, thin, fragile, lightly muscled, flat chested and delicate; described as cerebrotonic inclined to desire isolation, solitude and concealment; and being tense, anxious, restrained in posture and movement, introverted and secretive.\n\nMesomorphic: characterized as hard, rugged, rectangular, athletically built with well developed muscles, thick skin and good posture; described as somatotonic inclined towards physical adventure and risk taking; and being vigorous, courageous, direct and dominant.\n\nEndomorphic: characterized as round and soft with under-developed muscles and having difficulty losing weight; described as viscerotonic enjoying food, people and affection; having slow reactions; and being disposed to complacency.\n\nI just wanted everyone to recognize that though it would be very convenient to have this wonderful defiance of the laws of thermodynamics to excuse the inability or lack of desire to lose weight, they have long since been disproven and to use these terms is intellectually dishonest. Barring other physical disabilities, your body type does NOT determine your ability to lose or gain weight at a relatively normal pace.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Constitutional psychology has been discredited as a serious scientific theory. With a background in eugenics, mesomorphs, endomorphs and ectomorphs as terms can be damaging in one's ability to achieve their weight loss goals.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0163",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [23] am worried she [22] will forget my birthday.\n\nPOST: Me: 23 M\n\nHer: 22 F\n\nTogether for about 6 months.\n\nMy birthday is in roughly a week. She hasn't mentioned it. Should I be worried that she could forget it? She knows when it is, or at least, we have talked about it in the past and so I can expect that she knows. But she hasn't mentioned anything about it in the past 2 months. Should I remind her? Or should I just wait and see if she remembers? If she forgets, what should I do?\n\nSorry if this seems pedantic- it probably is. But my last GF, while not forgetting about my Bday, always had lack-luster responses about it. Not getting bday sex was the least of my worries with her. We were together for a good while, so I don't know if I should be worried about this or not or what to do.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Do I remind gf about my bd, or hope she remembers? If she forgets, what do I do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0164",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Where's a good place to apply for summer jobs?\n\nPOST: Looking ahead to the summer I'm trying to figure out where I can get a job. I'm a 20 year-old university student currently based in the uk, and I love summer, sun, beaches etc. so am trying to find a job that will be near or involve those things. I've looked up a bunch of hotels in bora bora and Greece and will contact them asking if they have any employment opportunities, but are there other locations/hotels/jobs I should be looking at that will likewise allow me to enjoy the best that summer has to offer during my off-time? I am a hard worker, so I'm not simply looking for a lazy summer job, just wanting to maybe travel somewhere where I can enjoy myself a lot in the summer.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " what's a good summer job idea/location for a university student wanting to enjoy the sun, beach and weather of a good summer?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0165",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My gf(15) asks me (M16) questions that are really hard to answer. Advice?\n\nPOST: For example we will be sitting on the couch after we do sexy stuff(not sex, we're still virgins, but we plan on having sex with each other) and she'll ask me if I'll get bored of her after we have sex and asks if I'll love her forever. I have no idea if I will or not, I don't know what the future holds. I just tell her that I won't get bored of her, but in truth I really don't know. Is there any advice anyone could give on the situation?\n\nSome side info: Relationship for 2 months, she's my first girlfriend, and she is completely head over heels for me.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My GF asks me if I'll ever break up with her or get bored of her after we have sex, and if I'll be with her forever. I don't know if I will or not. Any advice?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0166",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [18M] accidentally got my girlfriend [19F] pregnant and she doesn't want an abortion. Looking for advice.\n\nPOST: I made a mistake and got my girlfriend of 2.5 years pregnant. For a bit of background, we have a great relationship, despite our distance - seeing each other is more of a monetary issue, costing about \u00a320-30. She is at University and I am attending College. We usually see each other once or twice a month.\n\nWe got the news today. We are both in shock and don't know what our next step should be. \n\nWe have discussed what we would do if she accidentally got pregnant earlier in our relationship. We have our differences in what to do, I believe due to various factors (money, distance, still being in education) we should have an abortion, however my girlfriend believes she will never get over an abortion. I respect her stance completely and will not push this choice. She doesn't like the idea of putting the child up for adoption.\n\nSo what should we do next? \n\nHow can we keep the relationship going while mitigating the damage this may cause? \n\nWhat would life be like juggling a child, a relationship, an education and a job?\n\nThank you for reading.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Girlfriend of 2.5 years accidentally pregnant, abortion not an option, she doesn't like the sound of adoption. Need to know what to do.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0167",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice\n\nTITLE: My [18/f] Boyfriend [19/m] is always busy and barely makes time for me because his degree is more intense than mine, what do I do?\n\nPOST: My boyfriend (19) is really busy all the time with the copious amounts of work he has to do for his math degree so I only end up getting to see him once a week- if i'm lucky. \nI love him a lot and there are stretches throughout the semester when I do get to see him often and then life is good but there are times when I end up only seeing him if I place myself in his line of vision. A lot of the time I end up watching him do calculus or algebra work where he barely speaks to me. \nAs much as i'd like to talk to him about it, I fear that he'll only think I don't understand the commitment required to his program. That and my lack of patience could make him feel like i'm just being needy. He's a very logical person who only thinks things through without much emotion involved. So budgeting time for me wouldn't make sense to him when calc and algebra assignments take precedent. \nTo be fair, when he is present in our relationship he's very considerate and pays attention to me. He's a very loving guy but he just doesn't understand what it does to me every time he puts me back on the shelf.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " my boyfriend spends a lot of time doing work and doesn't seem to be able to budget time for me. What do I do?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0168",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice\n\nTITLE: Am [23/m] I asking too much from my girlfriend [22/f]? Advice appreciated. [xpost /r/relationships]\n\nPOST: Our relationship has been going for a little over 9 months. Before we started dating I was in the military and now I'm a civilian going to college. Before I started school in January I had a full-time job. Now that I'm in school I'm working about 3 days per week. The amount of hours I get workd fine for me, it gives me time to work on school work and I'm not hurting for money because I have savings and I receive a housing allowance because of my military service using the GI Bill.\n\nShe has no problem with how much I work. But its her family that has a huge problem with it. They feel I should work full time and go to school full time. But Im not doing that. There's no reason to.\nBecause I don't work enough in their eyes I'm a terrible person and they even go as far as blaming me for the problems their daughter is having. She forgot to do something? My faults. She doesn't know what she wants to do after she finishes college? My fault. Etc. Then they have the nerve to criticize every single thing I do or say. I get no respect from them.\n\nI told her unless she tells them that I want to feel respected and welcomed into their home, I will not be going to her house. She thinks its my responsibility to talk to them about it. Even though if she was in my situation she would expect me to talk to my parents about the problem.\n\nWho should it be that talks to her parents? Am I wrong for taking a stand and not going there if I feel that I'm disrespected? Am I being reasonable in being upset about how they treat me? Much advice is appreciated. Thank you.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " girlfriends parents disrespect me. I asked her to talk to them about how I feel. She feels I should talk to them. Help?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0169",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Broke my best friend's heart.  What do I do to make this split a little easier on us?\n\nPOST: My best friend (18M) and I (18F) have grown a lot closer over the past couple of months, and it apparently escalated to a bit more on his side. I have a boyfriend who I love very much, and I have no intentions of leaving him.  The other day, I told my best friend that I wouldn't leave my current boyfriend.  I feel like I completely broke his heart, and I feel awful for it.  I have no way of avoiding him as we have classes together all the time, and I don't know that I even want to avoid him in the first place.  I'm afraid that this will send him back into a depression (for which he's already on medication).  Are there any thing I can do to make this easier on the both of us?  Has anyone else gone through this before and wants to share the story? I need words of encouragement to stay strong and not guilt myself into giving him everything he wants just  because I feel bad for what I've done to him.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Broke my best friend's heart. Both of us are upset over it. What do I do to make things a little easier on the two of us?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0170",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/tifu\n\nTITLE: TIFU by sharing a meme picture in a Facebook group chat\n\nPOST: This happened about a year ago, it came up in my mind because I thought this was a good FU.\n\nAnyway, me and my friends made a group chat on Facebook for the three of us. We decided to talk about ridiculous things, like politics, girls, world news, and how was our day etc. Nothing too bad, just a normal chat.\n\nOne day, my friend invited my best friend's sister to the group chat (at this time, me and the friend were friends with her on Facebook). As starters, I was not thinking straight and said \"What's up X\" (X is referring to my best friend's sister). Without realizing, I posted a picture from my computer that had an internet meme that was a sexist joke to girls. \n\nShe saw the message and picture, deleted me and my friend and my best friend was not allowed to see me for a while (she showed it to her parents).\n\nI immediately felt like shit and apologized to her parents and her herself. They all accepted and forgave me though. To this day, I'm surprised her boyfriend is not angry at me.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Friend invited a friend's sibling to a Facebook group chat, I accidentally posted a picture that was inappropriate and mildly sexist.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0171",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [22 M] with my girlfriend [22 F] together for 6 years, she no longer \"wants\" me\n\nPOST: Hello guys, first post here, I'm hoping for some advice.  \nAs stated I'm a 22 year old guy. I've been together with my girlfriend for 6 years and it was the first real relationship for both of us.. first kiss, first time sex etc.  \nEverything was going fine. We fought, sorted it out multiple times and to me everything seemed fine. I still love her as much as I ever did before.\n\nBut a few weeks ago she started seeming absent. Didnt want to kiss or cuddle anymore unless i initiated it and did not want to have sex at all.  \nI accepted it for a bit, but confronted her about it a week later. She told me that she noticed it too. However she didn't know why it was that way. She says she still loves me, but explained that it turned into a more family kind of love over time.\n\nWe talked everything over, there was a lot of crying, but no real fighting and we decided to just see what happens. I'm gonna leave her alone until she decides wether she wants to break up for good or not.\n\nIs there still any hope for this relationship or should I start dealing with all this? Any tips on how to proceed are apprecciated.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " GF and I were together for 6years, she suddenly didn't want to me intimate anymore and explained her love for me is more like one of a family member. Is it over, or can we recover from that?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0172",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: NOT quite sure if me (29 F) and my boyfriend (24 M) have a future together. Anyone in a relationship Older woman / Younger man/ who can share their stories and advices?\n\nPOST: We have been together for almost 3 years now, and everything has been as perfect as it can be. We are perfect for each other and share a deep love.\n\nBut recently I've been worrying about the future. I've already lived abroad, studied a masters and lived by myself, but he hasnt'd done that yet, and I don't want him to lose the opportunity to do so.\n\nWhenever I tell him that, he says that he doesn't matter for those things, and that cannot wait for us living together. I also worry that by when he wants to have babies I will no longer be able to do so.\n\nIt helps me a lot to read success stories about older women with a younger boyfriend or husband, gives me hope for the future\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " NOT quite sure if me (29 F) and my boyfriend (24 M) have a future together because of age difference.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0173",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Is This Possible...?\n\nPOST: So I was going through the subreddits I'm subscribed to and I was curious as to why there isn't a more organized, simple way to find and subscribe to them. \n\nI would imagine a page with collapsible categories and checkboxes to subscribe/unsubscribe would be much more user friendly. Is this feasible? I understand that there are many subreddits -- so you could only include ones with over 100 or 250 subscribers to narrow it down. Additionally, there could be a preference option to keep your subreddit out of the list if you so choose.\n\nI understand that the admins are busy, which is why the title doesn't say \"For the admins\". I know Reddit has some decent programmers, and quite a few decent minds. Is anyone else interested in revamping the subreddit subscription method? I'm sure there are enough programmers here to start a community project.\n\nI apologize for the rambling nature of this post.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I think the current layout of the subreddits needs to be organized and I would be willing to contribute to a community programming project to get it done.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0174",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/running\n\nTITLE: How do you track shoe prices to get better deals?\n\nPOST: I started \"seriously\" running a few years ago (I'm a slow runner, but by \"serious,\" I mean doing it frequently and entering races). I went to Road Runner and found that the Mizuno Wave Creations were good for my feet. I used to get weird pains before, from an old injury, but they helped me feel much better after a run.\n\nAnyway, I buy a new pair each year, since I put about 300-400 miles on them in 12 months anyway, but each year I was spending like $140 because the new versions had just come out.\n\nYesterday I hit Road Runner's sale and instead of shelling out $140-160 for the newest model, I just bought a way marked down (and UGLY!) version of last year's for $60 bucks. I'm happy about this, but I was wondering if there was a happy middle, where I can spend maybe $90-100 once a current year's model is a little old but not a whole year old.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " What do you all do to find a good price on your favorite model of shoe? What time of year is the good for getting discounts on the current model?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0175",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My girlfriend (21F) dumped me a few days ago. I (21F) am currently fluctuating between seething anger and depression-like apathy. How do I get on with my life ASAP?\n\nPOST: Not much to say. Almost 2 year relationship down the drain. I got dumped on Friday and I felt almost fine for the entire weekend, but yesterday/today I was bouncing around between being furious and not giving a single fuck. I spent the whole weekend doing whatever I wanted to do so I could feel better, and I exercise 40-60 minutes daily. I'm eating healthy foods and getting enough sleep.\n\nI already got rid of everything my ex ever gave to me, and I deleted all pictures/social media stuff. I will not be contacting her ever again, or any of our mutual friends for at least a few months. I guess I just don't know what else I can do to move on. I know some of this shit takes time, but I would like to do anything else that might help while I wait because I hate the overload of angry emotions and the complete lack of feeling that I'm dealing with right now.\n\nAlso, my boobs have been hurting badly since the breakup. Hormones? Vengeful breasts? Why me, boobies?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Dumped. I'm angry or apathetic depending on the time of day. What else can I do to forget everything?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0176",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [24 M] met a girl [21 F] a couple weeks ago at a work function and she seemed cool, so we went to lunch and hit it off, but she lives with her ex.\n\nPOST: Early in June my workplace had a social event for employees, and I met a pretty girl from another department who seems like the kind of partner I'm looking for. Interested to learn more about one another, we went out to lunch recently.\n\n\u00a0\n\nAt lunch we talked about where we're from, our work, and our hobbies. We got along really well, but what struck me as odd is that she lives in an apartment with her ex-BF. I don't know any details since I didn't want to push the topic on our first meeting. But it seems like a big red flag to me.\n\n\u00a0\n\nI haven't been in a \"first-date\" scenario in a long time, and I've never encountered this situation before, nor known a friend in this situation. Do any of you have some experience to share to help me figure out if this is a relationship worth pursuing?\n\n\u00a0\n\nI'd definitely want to know how long they were together, how long ago & why they broke up, and the reason they're still living together. I'd understand a little better if they were older and more established with their job and household, when it was harder to pick up and move, but they're both young and in school. I know her family lives in town as well.\n\n\u00a0\n\nIf she doesn't care about living with her ex, my fear is that it may mean she doesn't value relationships or invest herself in them as much as I do. Then again, maybe the breakup was recent and they haven't been able to move out yet.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Met someone I'm interested in, but it turns out she's living with an ex. Does anyone with experience in this kind of situation have advice on whether this could ever work out?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0177",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/tifu\n\nTITLE: TIFU by forgetting my wallet.\n\nPOST: This afternoon I planned on meeting some friends at Chipotle for lunch. After I got in the car and was only a minute or two from home, I realized that I left my wallet on the counter at home and needed to turn back and get it. So I got in the next left turn lane to make a U-turn. I make this particular one quite often and since I'm in a small car its not too difficult. But somehow, with the pressure of oncoming traffic, I horrendously clip the curb with my front right tire. First I hear \"CRRRR\", and then \"hisssssssssssssss\", and then immediately see the \"check tire pressure\" warning pop up on the dash.   \n  \nSince I'm only a minute away from home, it's not too big of a deal to drive back and assess the damage. I found that there's like a quarter-sized tear in the side wall of the tire and it's obviously flat. So my brother and I get out the jack and spare tire and do a standard and easy tire change. So we get that done in about 20 minutes and I leave for Chipotle. I get there 30 minutes late, and my friends are done eating and basically just hanging out waiting for me.\n\nAfter I get my food and go to pay, I realize that I never even got my wallet. I had to have my friend spot me.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Forgot my wallet, popped a tire *because* I forgot my wallet, then proceeded to forget my wallet again.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0178",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: A girl [19-ish F] is hitting on me [19 M] but I unfortunately don't like her back. How should I handle this?\n\nPOST: A girl who recently joined the club I'm in in college has gotten particularly close to me and I have good reason to believe she's hitting on me. I've hit on girls before and I know how I act when I am crushing on a girl, and it's not too different from the way she's acting around me. She's a really nice girl and I enjoy her company. However, I don't like her in *that* way. I've been on her side of things before and I know how it feels to try to get close to someone, and worse, I know how it feels to consider someone your friend only to find them removing you from their life when you confess your feelings to them. I know how it feels to walk five feet away from someone you once considered a good friend and they don't give you so much as a nod because you confessed your feelings to them and they shut you out, and I would hate to be that person. And we're in the same club anyway, so that would make things very awkward. But at the same time, I don't want lead her on because that happened to me before and it doesn't feel good when reality comes crashing down on you. It's a tricky situation.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " girl probably likes me, I don't like her back in *that* way, I don't know how to handle the situation. Help.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0179",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [23M] have 'creeped out' my fiance [23F] and don't know how to fix things.\n\nPOST: So my fiance [23F] of 3 years and I [M23] were recently at a dinner with some of her friends.\nAmong those friends was a friend to whom I'll refer as Belany.\n\nBelany organized everything, and was essentially the hostess of the evening.\n\nShe has a habit of dressing, in the most polite of versions, scantily.\n\nNow, being a Hank Hill of a male, it made me very uncomfortable and self conscious to be sitting at the same table as Belany. I did my best to be as sociable and polite as possible throughout the dinner, despite my discomfort.\n\nAfter we left the dinner, I confessed to my fiance that I was very uncomfortable throughout the dinner due to Belany's attire. I told her how I did my best not to let my discomfort either show or ruin the dinner for anybody. 'Was I OK throughout dinner, my love?'\n\nBefore I know it, my fiance has used her superior knowledge and understanding of the English Language to convince me that I'm a creep, that I'm somehow sexually in love with Belany, and that I have bad hair to boot. She behaved as if I had, to a lesser degree, cheated on her.\nJust to be clear, I'm a one-woman man. I'll remove my own manhood before I ever do anything unfaithful towards my future wife.\n\nAm I a bad person? I certainly didn't think so, but the way my fiance received the news that I was uncomfortable during dinner, you'd think I just left her and our first born child to go play the slots in Vegas.\nWhat's the best way to handle this?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My [23F] fiance is very creeped out and thinks I'm [23M] some form of pervert for being made uncomfortable throughout dinner by the way one of her friends dressed.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0180",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [25F] and [28M] got hot and heavy one night but I feel he pulling away from me? He is really \"busy\" or losing interest?\n\nPOST: I've been dating this guy for more than 2 months. We hit it off well and been taking things slowly. We see each other at least once a week and we communicate via text on a daily basis. He would text me in the morning, afternoon and before bedtime. It used to be a lot of texting but we calmed down to a decent \"normal\" amount. \n\nLast weekend, I came over to his place and we become intimate (no sex though). It was amazing to say the least. I thought it would have made us grown closer but after that I have been hearing from him less and less. \n\nHe has told me he is busy with work, classes and moving into a new place. So yes, those are legit reasons to not be as responsive. However, it would take him 10+ hours just to get back to me and I would see him being active on social media. He would leave me hanging when we text, he no longer tells me goodnight, and he hasn't made any plans whatsoever with me. I even offered to help him with the move but he totally ignored it. BUT when he does text me, he apologizes for not getting back to me or he would tell me what he was doing and ask about my day...\n\nWe haven't had \"the talk\" yet and we didn't discuss any plans for Valentine's Day either. Is he slowly fading from me? Is he having second thoughts or should I just continue being patient with him with how \"busy\" he has gotten? -even if he has been just as busy before yet he still finds the time to communicate with me...\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " We get intimate, thought it would bring us closer but I feel he is pulling away from me even if he has legit reasons to his lack of contact.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0181",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Mixed gas & oil in the lawnmower... HELP!\n\nPOST: Okay Reddit, here's the story.  Dad gets a new lawnmower, I see only one tube to put gas into.  I pour it down that gas tube, but I notice that it's smaller than our last lawnmower.  I poured a LOT into it...\n\nWithout thinking too much, I go out and hold down the lever and pull the cord.  The engine starts for 2 seconds and starts and then dies down and kills itself.  I realize that there's another tank separately for gas and oil (was not aware of this...).  I read Google and people tell me to pour the entire mixture out of the oil tank.\n\nI did so and all of it was poured out.  I leave the valve open and let it dry for 36 hours.  I come back and pour in a new oil.  I slowly pulled the cord to \"let some oil into the engine to hopefully clean out the bad mixture that might have gotten in.\"  Then I pour out that old mixture and pour in new oil again for \"clean\" oil.  I go and try to start the lawnmower and it isn't starting properly.\n\nI know what I did was wrong and I don't need people reminding me that I made a mistake, my only question is... what do I do at this point?  Is the motor for the lawnmower totally shot?  What does Reddit think?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Mixed gas & oil.  Tried to start it.  Might've fed it up.  Poured out the mixture and poured in just oil.  Still doesn't work. Help?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0182",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: How do I (F/25) talk to my dad (M/66) about bankruptcy?\n\nPOST: About 15 years ago my parents bought a business together. Due to a combination of factors (recession, competition moving in) the business is no longer profitable. They opened a side business about two years ago that is profitable but a competitor just announced they are opening next year.\n\nBoth my parents work 60+ hour a week, are in their 60s and are barely drawing salaries from the company. This is not sustainable. My biggest fear (and it is selfish) is one of them works themselves into a heart attack, etc and I have to return home and figure out what to do with a failing business. I am an only child so when (and its not if, its when) something happens it will be entirely on me to figure out what to do. Also in that scenario there would be no luxury of time - without both of them working 60+ hours a week the place would come to a halt almost immediately. I'm feeling pretty paralyzed and stressed by this scenario. \n\nI would like to pro-actively talk with my dad this weekend about what to do. My mom has asked me to do this as she does not think she can keep going much longer. I think the first step is having them explore their options - talk to their lawyer and accountant about what it would really mean for them if they declared Bankruptcy (could they keep the house, etc). I realize this is going to be very painful and tough but at least having that information is the first step in figuring out a solution. \n\nLets say they lose their retirement accounts in bankruptcy. It would be awful, but there is no end of sight of them retiring with their current jobs. At least if they were free from it they could get true 9-5 jobs with less stress and continue working with an actual income. \n\nI'm wondering if anyone on here has suggestions about how to structure this conversation? I'm worried my dad will view me bringing this up as calling him a failure, etc. Any help would be appreciated.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My parents run a failing business that is slowly killing them. I want to talk to my dad this weekend about options, but I'm not sure how to structure the conversation.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0183",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Reddit, I need some advice. I am in a tight spot.....\n\nPOST: So my issue is pretty complicated, and I need some advice. We made some crazy financial decisions when I still had a great job, but due to the economy I am now working at a call center for much less. My GF and I currently live in a small town in WV were we both work for $10 an hour (each). I have an opportunity to take a job in NYC for $60K in my field. We have very little money, we are behind on our bills, and I am not sure if we can even get even or out of the hole at our current pay. When I had my previous job these bills were easily paid, but now...... A breakdown:\n\nWe pay: 500 for rent 433 for Car #1 (11K left on loan) 328 for Car #2 (2.5K left on loan) 323 for insurance (Just turned 25) 200 for AT&T (iPhones) 250 for Electricity, Water, Heat 225 Student Loans 100 Internet Cable 19 Home Phone\n\nTotal Bills: $2378 (avg)\n\nOur credit is screwed, we have moved 4 times in 1 year (not our fault, rentals being sold), and we have maybe $300 to our name.\n\nSo here is the question. Do we move to NYC for the new job? I can crash at a friends place for a month or two up there to save up the first few paychecks. Maybe find a place in Brooklyn for like $1,500, cut the iPhones off, cut the cable, get rid of the $433 a month car, pay off the $328 car and go to liability only. Or, do we stay here and just try to make it work, try and spend a year out of the field, and somehow catch up. I am so lost. Help!!!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " We have a shit load of debt, stay in small town with no prospects or move to big city for better job?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0184",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance\n\nTITLE: Question about Credit Scores\n\nPOST: I read through the FAQ, but I don't think it fully answered my question, so I'll ask it here in hopes someone can clarify it for me.\n\nEarlier this week I went ahead and paid off my car.  A couple years ago I was able to pay off my student loans.  I currently pay my 2 credit cards off (one is a personal card I use for business, one I use for personal items) and almost always maintain a 0 balance at the end of the month.  I live in an apartment I rent, so I do not have a mortgage or any other loans out at this time.  I am 100% debt free as of today.\n\nNow I thought this should be exciting.  I can now save more money and use that to invest in other things I've wanted to do but always put off to get to 0 debt.  When I told my parents about it my Dad kind of scared me that I needed to maintain some form of debt that it didn't impact my credit score down the line.\n\nAfter reading the FAQ, I learned there are obviously a lot of misconceptions about what does and does not impact your credit score.  Clearly, failing to pay or paying late has a negative impact, and clearly having a high utilization rate also has a negative impact.  But now that I have paid off my 2 big loans (student/car) will that eventually have a negative impact on my score?  I'll continue using my two credit cards, but I have no plans to buy a house or another car anytime soon so I do not forsee myself taking out another loan for quite some time.  Can someone shed some more light on this or offer some advice?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " As of today I'm 100% debt free, will not having any significant loans such as a house/car/student loans for the next few years have a negative impact on my credit score?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0185",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Reddit! My appartment has mold and our landlord wont do anything about it. What can we do?\n\nPOST: So we have lived in our apartment for several years. We have dealt with the mold since the first winter we moved in (moved in in august and there wasn't a problem). We do everything we can to keep up with it, dri-z-air containers in every room, ionic pro air cleaner, run a fan all night long in the bedroom (burrrr) and I can only clean so much! The windows are old and we have asked the landlord to replace them and they refuse saying that \"it hasn't helped other renters in their units with mold\". They came in to \"check\" the mold, rather they had their maintenance man come in and look at the window sills ask us to clean it then told us he would come back in two weeks to check how quickly it was growing. They did this in June....the dry season...I have taken pictures of the worst of it and sent them to the property management company and had several conversations with the landlord about it. I have taken to every spring doing a cleaning then putting on a fresh coat of Killz but it comes back every year. The mold is under our bed and on the wall that the bed is aginst, behind the desk, in every window and window sill and the sliding glass door, the wood around the largest window in the living room is soft and the paint bubbles during the winter. Im sure we will have to throw out a large portion of our furniture (the one that pisses me off the most is a dresser and desk I have had since I was a child that I love) Moving isn't an option, its nearly impossible to find a place in our town that takes dogs and isn't over run with screaming children. I'm sure this is affecting our health and the health of our dogs but its apartment the landlords aren't going to do anything about it. So, Reddit what can I do?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " We have mold and its nasty. Landlord would rather be slummy and not do shit about it. What do I do about it?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0186",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest\n\nTITLE: I just lied about having a job...\n\nPOST: In May, I graduated from University after 7 years, 4 universities, and 3 road trips across the US. It feels fucking good man. It was a wild ride and I enjoyed it all. There was shit and there was happiness (a lot of both actually). I met some great people that have become family. After graduating, I decided to work one more summer for maintenance at the university. I have grown to hate my job and everything about it, so I decided last week that I was going to move home - something I had planned on doing in august. Today I told my friends that I got a job and that is the reason why I am leaving. Truth is, I don't have a job. I have three interviews in my home city. I'm excited about moving back because I love my city and my family and my friends. But I feel like shit that I lied to these people I consider family. I just didn't want to deal with them questioning me why I was leaving without a job. The problem with the lie - other than I love these people - is that I am a superstitious guy. I hope I didn't just fuck myself in the karma department and lost all three opportunities. Things will turn out alright, I just needed to tell someone.\n\nThanks for reading this wall of text.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I lied about having a job to my friends from university. I feel bad about it, and I think I jinxed myself for getting a job. Oh well.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0187",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [20/M] have a girlfriend [20/F] but I kind of fell in love with a new girl [17/F]\n\nPOST: Hey! Here is my story: I'm in a relationship with my girlfriend 4,5 years now. Last week I've met a girl (that also has a boyfriend), she talked to me at a party. I have not met here since then, but I will meet her tomorrow at another party. It is the final party of her exchange programm. Yep, she is an exchange student and will leave in 2 days...\n\nBut I kind of fell in love. I always think about her. Sometimes we are talking on facebook and she even said that I'm cute. (Don't know if that's much...)\n\nSince I have a girlfriend for such a long time, I'm not really into these flirty things anymore tbh. What should I do, /r/relationships? **Tell her that I fell in love?** **Or is it better to not say anything?** I'm confused because I never thought I would meet someone that attracts me more than my girlfriend.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Met a girl (exchange student that will leave in 2 days), fell in love even though we both have a gf/bf. Shall i tell her about my feelings?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0188",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/Advice\n\nTITLE: I'm being blamed for something I 100% didn't even do..\n\nPOST: Okay, to start I am a 19y/o female who works 9-5 M-F. I was recently informed by my boyfriend that someone unlocked their garage door and home early Monday morning. BUT here is where it gets weird. My boyfriends parent's next door neighbor (who is a little girl, around like 10y/o) comes over and hangs out all the time at the house and garage. They suspected she got a hold of the code (its not like a regular key unlock, its a pass code setup) and got into the house and garage, but never locked it after. When they confronted her about it she blamed it on me and said I was the one at the house that day.. But as I stated above, I work Monday to Friday, 9-5. I was definitely not at the house that day because I work in town which is about 30 minutes away.. \nHis parents confronted me about it and I told them the truth and that I was not anywhere near the house that day nor do I know the pass code to unlock the doors. The only reason I'm asking for advice though is because his parents went back to the little girl, to see if she would own up to it and she blamed it on me again?! I am truthfully upset and kind of angry she would blame it on me, but what should I do? It also kind of upset me that his parents would even think to accuse me.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Got blamed by a 10/yo that I broke into my boyfriends house and definitely did not, how do I deal with this?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0189",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/running\n\nTITLE: Marathon training for fit athlete but inexperienced runner\n\nPOST: Hi! This is my first time on /r/running.\n\nI've been a female (age 21) competitive rower for the past 4 years. I've recently run out of eligibility, and am looking to running for staying in some kind of decent shape. I've always wanted to run a marathon, and I think this is a prime time in my life to try. I've been looking for basic training programs online, but I can't seem to find any that would work for someone who is in good cardiovascular shape but has very little recent running training.\n\nThe training load I am used to is 11 sessions/17 hours a week of rowing/erging. 8 of these sessions are 80-100' of steady cardiovascular work (HR 140-160ish). The other 3 are speedwork (2 sessions of 5 sets of 5' on, 5' off at HR 180+, 1 session of 16x1'on, 1:30off at max speed). I am looking to run a marathon in January. I haven't run much since December (read: one 5-6 mile run every 3 weeks or so), so I don't think I can jump right into a full running schedule that an advanced runner would use, but I also need more volume to maintain fitness than a program that a beginner would use. Ideally, I want be able to run the marathon at at least an 11' mile pace (That's about 30''/mile slower than my steady pace right now). Do you have any ideas on how I could best structure my training so that I don't lose fitness as I'm increasing my running volume? Right now, I'm looking at starting out running 4 days/week, 3mi/3mi/3mi/6mi, and supplementing the shorter runs with about 30' minutes of cardio, as well as throwing in 2 extra days of cross training. I'm not sure how quickly/slowly to ramp up the running mileage.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Ex-rower looking to run. Need a training program that a trained athlete but beginning runner can use to run a marathon in mid-January.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0190",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: I [25M] am slipping into old patterns with a long term friend and crush [24F]. Am I making the wrong call?\n\nPOST: I met this girl, years ago on new year's eve. We hit it off. This is one of those few you meet whom you compare all the rest to. Went on some unsuccessful dates, I'd just come out of a big relationship, and hadn't really processed properly, and things slowly fell apart. We had some minor issues, but it was mostly bad timing and poor assumptions.\n\nFour years later now, we have been on again off again friends, and recently have fallen back into a pattern of long emails, sometimes several times a day, and hang out more and more often. We talk for ten hours without noticing the time go by, and we are extremely comfortable with one another.\n\nShe has had a long term romantic entanglement with a highschool sweetheart, and has only this year really moved away from it. Now I see more of her, she is again more liable for physical contact, and is sweeter than ever.\n\nShe is quite an introspective person and at the best of times liable to conceal her true feelings, she has her reasons, and I don't fault her for them, but this also constantly leaves things in a state of confusion. We're friends, but most of my female friendships don't extend to this level of intimacy, and the ones that do have clear boundaries.\n\nThis is why I'm confused. I understand that many of these things are normal for friendships, buy I can never shake the feeling we have a connection. Am I being mislead, am I simply blind, is she just trying to be my friend and I'm hopelessly complicating the situation? I can't tell anymore, and I can't really seek clarity with her because those kind of conversations are like smoking on a powder keg, and at the end of the day, I don't a row.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " old flame and longtime friend is back in my life, it confuses other relationship prospects, and I'm concerned I'll end up making a mess and hurting both of us.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0191",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [23 M] with my gf [21 F] 3 weeks, Online dating trust issues.\n\nPOST: I met my current gf of about 3 weeks on an online dating website. About 2 days later we meet up at my place, hook up, have a good time etc. The day after we decide to make it a mutual relationship with each other as exclusive.\n\nI am concerned however about some possible red flags that are coming up often and repeatedly. She always wants me to express my feelings about her and I always say that I like her and I want her to be my gf. However, she always brings up being afraid of being cheated on, left for some other girl and not wanting to waste her time.\n\nNow I wouldnt be so concerned about this usually as we are a new couple and all and trust isn't fully formed as that takes a bit of time. However, when we were together at her place I reached for my vaporizer and she was on her phone. she immediately shields her phone from me seeing it. I thought it was really odd and she seemed upset afterwards. I kept asking her whats wrong and if shes ok a few times and she would not tell me why she was acting that way. I left it alone and brought it up the next day. She said she was talking to a guy she had \"a long story with\" and she eventually told me he kept ditching her or whatever and she had given him money a few times to come see her. I was like ok, tried to explain that he probably doesn't care about her in that way and moved on.\n\nShe also continuously browses dating websites still even when I am around her. And has on more than a few occasions talked about her latest ex in great detail and on one occasion called me by his name accidentally.\n\nNow is this some sort of insecurity/self esteem issues or are these truly red flags? or am i just being some sort of insecure/jealous asshole?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Gf of 3 weeks I met online still browses dating websites every day. Attempts to hide conversations with other males from me and still talks about her ex. Insecurity issues or red flags?",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0192",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Reddit, I am a teenager in need of assistance. Help to  avenge your socially awkward teenage self.\n\nPOST: So a little bit about myself. I am a 15 year old sophomore who attends a small private school (<50 kids in high school) and I really need a girlfriend. There was a girl but she has a boyfriend out of state+she has a bit of a crush on one of the seniors, who I truly cannot compete with. But my real problem is that I have no real friends at this school and no girl ever seems to have any interest in me at all. I would like to know why.\nBasically I don't consider myself ugly. I am 6'6\" and 155lbs so I guess I am a bit skinny, but actually am fairly muscular. I have a slight acne problem, but really at this age who doesn't. For the most part I am quite confident and often called the funniest guy in school. And not even in a class clown type way. I am on the State Champion Basketball team and have a 4.0 GPA.\nSorry for the awful OP, I have had a really bad week and am just rambling/making this up as I go along.\nThanks in advance!\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I would like advice on how to be more liked and get all of the ladies, as well as where the hell to get all of them ladies.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0193",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/tifu\n\nTITLE: TIFU by going to court\n\nPOST: This happened when I was a wee lad but remembered it from a recent askreddit post. Figured I'd share here. \n\nI tagged along with my dad to court, so he could fight some sort of ticket he had gotten. Anywho I was about 7 years old at the time and had to take a massive dump, but being the curious 7 year old that I was, I didn't want to leave so I could witness how exactly this court stuff worked. Well me and my dad were on the second to last row in the courtroom waiting for my dads trial or whatever, the last row is where all the cops sit, and beside me is another guy waiting for his court sentence. Now this guy beside me had obviously been waiting for awhile as he was completely passed out. About half an hour passes waiting for my dad to plead his case, when all of a sudden my gut starts to fill up with the gas of a thousand demons. 7 year old me doesn't think twice and I release it in all it's glory. \nThe long wooden benches we were sitting on reverberated the fart 10 fold. It was so loud it stopped the court from proceeding and in the midst of all the laughter and chaos, 2 cops sitting behind me grab the guy who was passed out beside me, and toss him out of court. They had apparently thought he was the one who farted lol. \nMy dad knew it was me but told me to be proud as he said it made the judge laugh whom was apparently a hard ass. That ladies and gents is my fart story.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Went to court, farted so loud the guy who was passed out beside me got kicked out. Halted court and made the judge laugh.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0194",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: My [20m] gf [18f] wants to meet up with a \"kinda\" friend\n\nPOST: My girlfriend of 4 months is from Russia and she has a lot of friends there. One day I was using her phone and a message popped up in Russian on Instagram and I said , oh you got a message. She told me it was a guy she kinda knew that was going to visit our city and wanted to meet up with her. Also I'm pretty sure I'll be out of town when he comes.\n\nShe said they're \"kinda friends\" so they're not even close. He was a friend of her ex boyfriend I think. Usually I'm cool with what she wants to do but it just strikes me odd that she wants to meet up with this guy and she's not even good friends with him, the way she said it he was like an acquaintance. He's just a single guy on work travel visa and they might meet up. When she told me she, said it in an unsure way and that they might not even meet up because she said her friends usually flake but I knew she was just saying that because she could see it striked me as odd. It happened with her female friend that visited with family, but I know they will hang out for sure. He's a single guy and probably hasn't been with Russian girls for a while and he's going to make it happen. \n\nBut I saw online that she commented on his profile asking if he was in town yet. Should I be concerned? Is it none of my business? Is meeting up with a \"kinda\" friend a big deal?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " girlfriend is meeting up with single friend from back home and she said that he isn't even a close friend, they just kinda knew each other. I might be out of town when they meet, feeling a little nervous",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0195",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/Pets\n\nTITLE: My 1 1/2 year old cat has apparently forgotten about the litterbox. Any advice greatly appreciated!\n\nPOST: My roommate moved in in Sept. with two cats, each 1 1/2 years. I have since adopted the slightly-overweight male cat, and roommate moved home 2 days ago and took the other cat with her. Today while doing laundry I found cat turds in my towel pile...and upon checking the litterbox realized that he hasn't been using it at all. It's in the same place, it's the same one he's always used, litter is the same brand. A few hours later I walk by the litterbox and he's pooping three feet away from it on the rug...\n\nMy roommate never really kept the box clean, so could it maybe be that I cleaned it & put new litter in it soon as she left? I thought maybe it could be the absence of the other cat in some way, but they've been separated for up to two months before. He's eating the same brand & amount of food. \n\nHas this happened to anyone? What could be causing this, & how do I stop it before there are secret turds everywhere?!\n(I will add that this is the first cat I've had.)\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " My 1 1/2 year old cat started shitting in random piles of clothes despite his litterbox being in the same location that it's been for months.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0196",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit\n\nTITLE: Reddit, I think I'm ready to switch back to a Windows 7 laptop after switching to OSX 4 years ago. Thoughts?\n\nPOST: So heres the lowdown:\n\nI own a 2006 15-inch Macbook pro. It survived four years of college and the abuse that entails wonderfully. However, It's age is starting to show and I will be starting a new job soon and think it's time to upgrade. I looked into the price of a new Macbook pro 15 inch with all the features I would want (500 gb HD, at least 4 but maybe more gigs of RAM) and it's like $2700.\n\nI bootcamped my mac and installed Windows 7, and it makes me think \"Hey, maybe I could save a whole bunch of money and get an even faster laptop!\" So with that thought, what are some windows machines that are comparable or better in terms of speed?\n\nThe last thing is design. The macbook pro is beautiful and works well. Are there any windows machines that can match that level of design and quality?\n\nNB: I will also use it for some gaming, so something that can play all the latest stuff is a big plus.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Want a windows laptop that has a design as nice as a macbook pro, but is faster and cheaper. And can play SC2 with all the options on high =)",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0197",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest\n\nTITLE: My SO's mother treats us like young teenagers, and I'm sick of it!\n\nPOST: We've been dating for 1 year now, we are both 20 years old and are in college. I always go out of my way to be helpful whenever I am at her house, whether its helping with dinner, cleaning or even taking out the trash. Her mother is always very friendly and lovely to me whenever she sees me, big hugs and kisses everytime I come over. We bought her lovely presents for birthdays and christmas, and have cooked dinner for the entire family a number of times.\n\nDespite all of my efforts to be the best I can possibly be for both my SO and all of *our* efforts to be the best for her family, her mother insists on treating us both as teens who are not ready for simple things like sleeping in the same bed.\n\nI'm typing this out as I lie on the couch in my SO's house, because her mother demanded that we do ***not*** share a room, let alone a bed. She is not even allowed to stay at my apartment that I live in for college, (so much so that after missing the last bus back home at night, her mother demanded that she gets a taxi back home, something that would have cost upwards of $60). It frustrates us so much, when we see my housemates have their SO's stay over numerous nights in a row and we cant even spend a day together without worrying about sleeping arrangements for that night. It's especially frustrating to me due to the fact that my parents loosened their grip on me from 16 onwards, so much so that I would be able to leave for the day to another city 3 hours away and only send a text message to let them know where I was. They trusted me, and I respected that trust.\n\nWe just want to function like a normal couple. We don't want to have to lie in order to simply spend a night together or tip toe our way around when her mother is around. It makes us feel like teenagers dating for the first time. I love her, I just want to sleep beside her and wake up next to her each morning, but I cant, because of whatever backwards thought process her mother has.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " SO's mother refuses to let us sleep together and all around act like a normal couple. It's starting to annoy me (to put it lightly)",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0198",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/relationships\n\nTITLE: Me [19/F] with my mum [39/F], the light bill's in my name but I want to move out. How do I go about that without her freaking out?\n\nPOST: So, my mum is kinda bad with money. Like, really, REALLY bad with money. She is hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt thanks to an old house she bought and then stopped paying for completely, and she owes pretty much every company you could possibly think of more money than I can fathom. \n\nWe moved out of our house a year ago and into a tiny apartment when the house finally got repossessed. Since my mum owed the electric company several hundred dollars, she convinced me to put the bill in my name, even though I had no job at the time. She said it would help me build credit and that she'd make sure it got paid on time, so, being just barely 18 and stupid, I believed her. \n\nRecently, things have gotten pretty bad at our house, with her letting my older brother move in and live for free and pretty much trash the place, and since I have a job now I was considering trying to get my own place. There's also the matter of her starting to get behind on payments, no matter how much I give her from my paychecks, so I'm worried about her racking up debt on me. I just was wondering, what should I do about the lights? And how would I bring it up to her? She gets a bit vicious at even the slightest mention of me being independent (she flipped when she heard I would start paying for my dogs' food) so I was wondering what the best way to broach the subject would be, if at all?\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " Mom convinced me to put light bill in my name, started goofing up again, want to move out but don't really know what to do",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  },
  {
    "id": "tldr_test_0199",
    "instruction": "SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest\n\nTITLE: Not sure what the point to live is. A lot of problems.\n\nPOST: I have had a very Rollercoaster like life. A lot of fun and good memories. Numerous health issues, broken hearts, and unsure thoughts of myself. I've never had a gf and pretty sure a lot of girls think I'm creepy. I dont know what I want to do with my life for a career or anything. I'm only 21. I also am a year from graduating college and I hate my major and don't want to finish. I'm a smart individual with a great memory, but my ability to literally live inside my head most of the time and not in the present affects my social and working skills. I also get periods of bad forgetfulness, where I can't remember how to do things or know things I should.  I have negative self-esteem. \n\nI'm only 21 and I've dealt with type 1 diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, severe cystic acne whole body that required accutane, and I'm certain I have a couple mental disorders like dyspraxia or ADHD.\nMy fine motor skills are a bit off. I literally fear working because I don't want to get one of my forgetful episodes and screw up at work. \n\nI've dealt with a lot of pain and hurt. Constantly being rejected on the dating scene and looking more likely that won't change anytime soon. I don't see a future for myself because I have no idea what I want to do with my life and I'm trapped in a major I dont want anymore. I'm scared to work or do anything significant because I don't want my problems to affect my work and screw up and make myself look stupid. I am on 3 different medications and might need 4. I constantly imagine myself as someone else in a different world. Don't like life right now. \n \nThe only things that keep me happy are to hang with friends and watch sports.\n\nTL;DR:",
    "output": " I'm not happy with my life for numerous reasons and wondering if life is worth it right now. I'm scared for the future and often reflect on the fun events of the past.",
    "generator": "preferred_response"
  }
]