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So, my (22f) bf's (23m) family lives in the apartment next to us. And his brother (17m) visits a lot. That's fine, but recently he spent a whole 6-7 days here. I was never asked if I was okay with this. He left on Friday afternoon and is already wanting to come back over for an indefinite amount of time. I both have ex... | NTA
Your boyfriend should respect the fact that you both share the same space and that you have social anxiety issues. If he wants his brother to hang out at YOUR apartment as a "visitor" for days on end then maybe it's time you found a new place ... or a new boyfriend. ###### |
So I (f18) have gone bra less for almost 2 years now. I wear bralettes or sports bras on the occasion, but you won’t catch me in a padded bra. For what it’s worth, I’m super flat anyways, and most of the time people really can’t tell the difference.
On to the story. I was invited yesterday to a small bbq with close f... | NTA
Your body is your body, noone else.
A. He should not be looking at his cousin this way.
B. Your aunt should not be trying to sexualise you and your cousin.
C. If he had the issue he should have stepped out and away, rather than letting his Mom make a scene. And if he didnt say something and she kicked off does... |
This is my first time posting and English is my second language so bare with me.
My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years. We have 3 dogs and during quarantine we came to the agreement that he would take out the dogs and I would cook, do dishes and laundry because I am high risk and our state is in bad shape -als... | NTA
Your bf is really getting used to not having to do much all day. A lot of us will have rude awakenings when everything opens up again and we have to go back to doing things all the time.
I don't like to dance around issues so I would probably tell him that his dirty lazy ass needs to shower and that if he can't ... |
Six months ago my now boyfriend broke up with his ex and immediately started dating me. We moved in together and really started going hard in our relationship. Throughout these past six months he has been in contact with his ex. He says it’s to make sure she’s okay and not in a horrible mindset after their breakup. He... | NTA
Your bf is actively lying to and emotionally manipulating his ex.
He is doing the same thing to you, by telling you all of this is to protect her feelings. He clearly doesn’t give a shit about her feelings.
He’s hiding your relationship and talking to his ex and lying to her face.
Red flags are abundant here..... |
Unfortunately, my bird died peacefully from old age in the last month. I had been expecting this for a couple of weeks but I was still devastated. Now, this was my own bird. I paid for her myself, fed her with my other birds every day, and paid attention to her every day as well. My sister has never been interested in... | NTA
Your anger is justified. Your sister sounds nasty. ###### |
Throwaway account for privacy reasons.
My (18M) girlfriend (19F) found out about 4 days ago that she didn’t get this dream job offer that she got an interview for. I spent the next day and half consoling and comforting her, after which she thanked me and said she felt better. The following night, I found out I got ele... | NTA
Your accomplishments have nothing to do with her failures and vice versa. She can be upset for herself and still manage to be supportive and happy for you. ###### |
Background & Context: I have a FT job in healthcare where I work a steady 45 hours weekly. Now due to recent additional stressors are work it’s more like 50-55 and I am mentally, physically exhausted after working all day and dealing with the additional stress/frustration/constant policy changes.
Years ago, prior ... | NTA
You’ve done more work than needed. It seems like she wants both of you to launch the business...If you don’t have the bandwidth, that’s okay. ###### |
So my (19f) boyfriend (20m) was on the Ps4 last night playing GTA with his friends. I was sitting on the couch watching him when he started talking about me.
They were asking him gross questions and he was *answering* them after I kept throwing stuff at him trying to get him to stop.
He started talking about the se... | NTA
You’re being exploited. If you’ve ever sent him anything risqué, he’s probably shown others. He had the balls to tell *YOU* to chill after all this? Please leave him before you experience some real shame. ###### |
I'm 19, living with my parents. I have a small part time job that gets me around $800 a month, I give my parents $400 a month for bills, food and miscellaneous things around the house. I pay for my car registration, fuel and any other bills that directly involve me. I try and save as much as I can, and they know that I... | NTA
You’re already giving them half of everything you get, plus paying for your own things. You can’t be saving much.
Your parents should WANT you to save. You’ll need money for emergencies or just things you want. Plus funds to move out of their home one day. ###### |
So, where I live, the one exam which determines if you can go to university will be taken in a few days. I collected every worksheet, every texts, judt everything over the last 3 years bc the teachers said this could all be important for this particular exam. I gave my friends permission to use everything I collected t... | NTA
You've taken the last three years seriously and worked hard for this test so you can plan your future.
Whom you let in to share your work with and whom is privy to your dedication to your education is completely up to you.
You had the same opportunity as your friends and foes to prep for this final so there's... |
So my mum started randomly coming into the bathroom to wash her hands, brush her teeth, go to the toilet etc while I was in the shower. I asked her to stop because it made me uncomfortable. she said she would stop but recently she’s been coming in more and more casually again and i got pretty annoyed at her.
Me: can y... | NTA
You've explained to your mother that her coming in during your showers makes you uncomfortable and she should respect that. I've seen from responses to other comments that your showers aren't excessively long and there's another bathroom if she's desperate so there's really no reason for her to be coming in. ###... |
Hello Reddit, cutting straight to the point I had twin babies last September, a boy and a girl. Me and my boyfriend had a babygirl 3 years prior. Neither of us are religious but his family sees baptism as a part of culture and family tradition, so we agreed to please them this way. After all, we currently live in Franc... | NTA
You're right - they are your kids and you do what you wish in this regard. MIL has no say in it. At all.
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EDIT: Looks like you're not married. If that's so, she's not even your mother in law so she has even less say in what you do with your kids (not that the inlaws should have any say anyway...) ###### |
Basically, I accidentally knocked my friend’s appliance off the kitchen counter, shattering it. I told him I would order a new one, no problem. But now he’s saying he’d rather have the cash. Only problem is he’s insisting on $40 more than the price I’d pay on amazon for the exact same make and model. WIBTA if I said it... | NTA
You're responsible for the value of the item that you broke. Any"upgrades" are on him. ###### |
My husband is working from home, I’m a stay at home mom, although I do freelance graphic design.
At work, my husband had a secretary/assistant(he flip flops on what he calls her) that he apparently relies on very heavily. Because when he started working from home he started asking me to write things down for him, remi... | NTA
You're not his secretary. If he needs one in order to be able to work then I'm sure his secretary is so working from home.
It's his job / his employers job to make sure he and they have the capacity to work....so they should provide the software to enable them to communicate easily...
You still have all your u... |
To cut a long story short, I made a bit of a fuck up and thought I had approval to do overtime so I ended up doing an extra 70+ hours of work last month on top of my regulars. Unfortunately, I have not been paid these hours and didn't have approval for paid overtime and my manager has said there isn't anything they can... | NTA
You're not from the US it seems so my initial thoughts are not valid here.
If you are paid a fixed rate and the company expects you to work more for no extra pay, then I see no reason to not work less to make up for it.
Just don't get caught. ###### |
so my younger sister (11) has a habit of stealing from people. if anything goes missing, the chance of you finding it in my sister's room is 80%. i have this red jumper that i love and i didn't get it back from the wash. i knew it had been washed because it saw it on the line outside. i had a hunch it was my sister wh... | NTA
You're not an official government agency lol. You don't need a warrant. It's not like you were reading her diary or anything. You were retrieving your property.
Also, it sounds like your sister might need some counseling. If this continues, it'll be big trouble later in life. ###### |
My brother and I are very close. When we need advice or just to talk we turn to each other for support. Same with my sister.
My brother married his wife in April of 2019 and have begun trying to have a baby. My brother called me yesterday and told me that they went to see her doctor and he told them that they should ... | NTA
You're not a doctor, however a doctor advised them of exactly the same thing.
It's such a big risk they're taking, that it becomes such a selfish one. ###### |
So for contexts I(26f) watch this elder lady(81f) while her son and daughter in law are at work
So they have a pool that is fenced off so unless you go threw the house or the back gate you can’t get it it. Well while I was watching her these kids came up and asked to go swim and I told them no as I didn’t want to watc... | NTA
You're not "ruining" anything. It was a misunderstanding and that should have solved the problem, full stop. That said, "someone" being home should not be broadly defined to also include "lady we pay to watch Mom." The idea that "someone" needs to be home suggests that the "someone" will have some kind of respons... |
I've recently been having some dental problems like pain and black spots on my gums and teeth pain, it's been going on for a few months and I've brought it up with my parents and asked if I could go to a dentist. They've repeatedly pushed it back saying I'll be alright in some time, but when I do bring it back it up th... | NTA
You're in pain, and they should care about that.
More than that though, the longer you leave it the worse it could get. Which, if cost is their main concern, could quite easily drive up the price they eventually have to pay. While also doing more damage to your health. ###### |
My kid’s birthday was in the middle of February and his father, who lives states away didn’t send anything.
Every time they were on the phone before my son’s birthday, his father said he had the present and was going to mail it, when it was closer to the birthday, he claimed he mailed it. Then after my son’s birthday,... | NTA
You're going above and beyond to make sure your kid has a good relationship with his father.
The father should be grateful and not getting mad at you. He's the asshole in this situation. Who doesn't have time to mail a gift? ###### |
My boyfriend \[29M\] and I \[23F\] have been together for 4 months but known each other a few years. He earns roughly double what I do and lives in a nice apartment by himself, I have a nice enough apartment with 2 housemates. His apartment is a lot closer to our respective workplaces than mine and as a result of this ... | NTA
You're already paying rent for a place. You cannot stop paying rent there.
Isn't it totally normal to spend a bunch of time in the early days at one or the other person's place? Four months is those early days. Even if it weren't a question of your inability to afford two rents, it's a weird thing to ask for re... |
I’m an Indian woman (21) who was born and currently living in Australia. I have a younger brother (18) who is severely disabled and requires 24/7 care. My father is in my opinion incredibly controlling. Everything I do needs to be run past him, he approves who I’m friends with, he controls when and why I leave the hous... | NTA
You wouldn’t be ruining your brother’s future. Your father would be. Just like he’s ruining your future by controlling everything you do.
Holy shit girl, your home life sounds horrible. Run away right now. You are entitled to happiness and freedom. ###### |
( On a throw-away account because she has my main account)
So my girlfriend has been talking about moving into her apartment for about a year now. I've thought about it and I don't think it's a good idea because she doesn't have a bathtub
I have a health issue that causes me a lot of pain. Pain that I've discovered c... | NTA
You wouldn't be breaking up over a bath, you'd be breaking up over her not supporting you in accessing something that helps your medical condition, when she easily could.
Even if your apartment is terrible and she for whatever reason can't live there, then you try to find a new place that had a bath, like you su... |
When I (40M) was with my ex (45F) she had a 5month old, I met her daughter 7 months into the relationship, we were living together within 8months of dating.
My exs daughters father wasnt around.
I was with my ex for 10 years before our firstborn and then 4months after our firstborn she was pregnant again, we have tw... | NTA
You were in this girl's life for years. You opened your door to someone in need. This is a very nice thing to do. ###### |
Throwaway on my friend’s account.
So I (26F) have a sister (22F) who I’ll refer to as Lily. When I was 17 and my sister was 13, our father passed away and we were left with a pretty big sum of money each that would cover university, rent, groceries and the down payment of our future house (we were given the same amoun... | NTA
You were both given the exact same opportunities with the money given. You used yours as intended and she wasted hers. That’s her choice.
Not she needs financial aid / student loans to finish school. That’s entirely her fault. She made her bed, now she has to lay in it. ###### |
I am not English so sorry for any mistakes or missunderstandings ahead of time. I am 27M if that is relevant and the woman was in her early 20's.
2 days ago on Saturday I woke up at like 2 AM(So technically sunday morning I guess) by what I can only describe as weird moans outside my window. When I looked outside ther... | NTA
You went WAY above and beyond as it is. I wouldn't want a drunk stranger in my house, and if I was super drunk and a stranger came outside and brought me into their home I would be TERRIFIED!!! ###### |
A few weeks ago I (M16) took the online AP Physics 1 test, at home due to quarantine. My parents were both out at the time. While I was in the middle of the test, around the start of it, my brother (M19) decided to go into a room across the hallway and play a video of rock guitar music at full blast even though I made ... | NTA
You told your family you had your AP exam that day, and I'm assuming beforehand as well. Your brother was TA for being selfish and still blasting music when he knew you had an exam. You had every right to be angry that you failed because you couldn't focus from his loud music and you telling your dad was the righ... |
Using a throwaway. Short one for you guys. My sister has kids and they are lovely. I love being an aunt. I see them twice a month and try to keep up with what they do. However, my partner and I don’t personally want kids of our own. We are childfree and instead to stay so. My sister is really disappointed by this and k... | NTA
You told her multiple times you decision. She didn’t respect that decision so you told her again in a blunt way. Your choice not her’s. ###### |
Kind of a long one. Just moved into an apartment it's barely been two months. Way it's set up is the downstairs part is rented to an old lady, the upstairs part is a three bedroom space that's perfect for my family. Recently just moved in after moving to a whole different state.
The old lady has had a problem with us... | NTA
You signed a lease for that space, it's yours. But, there's a message in their continued desire to help relocate you. You'd be taking a risk by not working with them, bc they probably will not renew if you do not, so all you're doing now is delaying the inevitable until the lease ends. ###### |
Ok, backstory here I am 14 F. My mom is 40F and my aunt and uncle are both in their late 40’s.
They have been in our house for the past two months because they felt “confined” in their apartment. Ever since they moved in, it’s been hell. And since my mom works really late (8pm) it’s easy for them to hide it.
They c... | NTA
You shouldn’t be getting treated like that in your own home. You especially shouldnt have to give up your bedroom just because they like it better. The TVs being on at the same time wouldn’t affect each other, especially if they are not both using the satellite/cable connection at the same time. ###### |
Back story: My 13 year old sister suffers with anxiety and wants my mother to drive her around for hours. We were sharing a car that I bought, the mileage was rapidly increasing, I had to rely on my mother to pick me up as she always had the car. I cut my losses, gave my mother the car and purchased a new car.
Presen... | NTA
You should not let your mom have keys to your car.
If all that's wrong with her car is a break light those are extremely easy to replace yourself.
Your mother is only enabling your sisters Horrible coping mechanism and not helping her. ###### |
My husband has been pissed at me for 2 days over this and I’m starting to wonder if I’m really in the wrong.
My family is close friends with our neighbors, especially the wife and I. We talk pretty much every day and she’s been a huge support to me since we moved far away from our family last year. We talk about every... | NTA
You should keep the confidence of your friend. She probably needs to have someone to talk to without it getting shared. Especially since your husband knows her husband. ###### |
Alright so. Within the span of a few months of moving into our new house, with a generous three toilets for each family member, my mother has clogged her own toilet. And refused to unclog it. Or even make an attempt. She insists it's too far gone for her to deal with, but refuses to accept any help in fixing it, mine o... | NTA
You should have stomped in her room and screamed “who RAISED you to live like this?!”
Your mother isn’t embarrassed, she is in denial about her shit problem.
OP, buy your mom a poop knife and call it a day. ###### |
I (F 15)come from a very conservative family who 100% believes you should be married before sex. I am a sucker for approval and I respect my parents so am still a virgin. My boyfriend (M 17)is not, and he has been pressuring me to sleep with him. I have repeatedly told him no, and one day he explodes saying that I shou... | NTA
You should have sex because *you're* excited to have sex, and if somebody doesn't want to date you because they want sex and you don't, then you should wish them well and let them go.
The fact that he called you an "ungrateful prude," suggests, strongly, that you're better off without him. Don't be so afraid of... |
This story starts around February 2020,
So class finished and i told him how i felt about him. I didn’t realize that his friends were watching me from the back of the class. I think i embarrassed him and he yelled at me saying something along the lines of, “eww no.”
Later that day i got barrage of texts from him, “How... | NTA
You shared the screenshot and had a private conversation with a friend. That friend is in the wrong here. She had no business sharing the information you shared with him/her.
Also he did it to himself. He was the one who was a jerk. Your friend shouldn’t have shared what you told her in confidence but it’s not l... |
For reference I’m black and he’s white.
A couple weeks ago I confronted an acquaintance (we’ll call him M) of mine over his constant use of the n word. In the past I would just ignore because he’s a friend of a good friend of mine and we never hung out much, except occasionally with our mutual friend.
He would say ... | NTA
You say a racial slur, especially around someone who's black, and you deserve whatever happens next. ###### |
AITA For Yelling at a Trans Coworker?
I (22F) have been working at a clinic with Samantha (25F) for the past few months. Recently, Samantha came out to me as a Trans woman (male to female for anyone unaware), and has been super close to me ever since. I don’t have any problems being friends with her, and can understan... | NTA
You said "please don't touch me"
Co-worker continued to touch ~~me~~ you
I'd be upset too, if I were you! ###### |
So I've been playing guitar for almost 9 years and have gotten pretty good. I figured I would save up some money and treat myself to a nice one after using a $150 craigslist buy for awhile. So i bought myself a $1300 epiphone jumbo size acoustic/electric. It has an electric tuner and stuff and had 2 amp ports but is st... | NTA
You offered the guy a free guitar and he thinks you should have spent $500-600 of your own money on a new guitar for him. He's got issues.
My husband has a couple higher end nice guitars and a couple cheap (but still decent) guitars. The cheap ones make him just as happy to play.
If your friend doesn't want y... |
So two weeks ago, my husband asked my opinion on cosigning a loan for his sister. I told him that honestly, I didn't like the idea at all and to please not do it, for consideration of our financial future.
His sister had her last car impounded twice for whatever reasons. The prior one to that, she wrecked and was then... | NTA
You need to separate your finances from your husband. He is showing very poor judgement and endangering your financial future. And you need to look into why she needed you guys to help with the rebate check because she has a car now. Either she is not the one driving the car, or that rebate is somehow associated ... |
Two other friends and I decided to go on a trip this upcoming September to Universal Studios for Halloween Horror Nights. I've never been and have been invited the past two years but couldn't make it due to money reasons. This trip isn't cheap, we'd be staying for a week at a hotel on site, food, plane, and park tick... | NTA
You made the right decision for very valid reasons. We'd be in a better situation if more people were willing to forgo planned vacations like you did. ###### |
Hello! Longtime listener, first time caller.
I (29m) work a property management job that I hate. I have to evict people and we’re in the midst of a pandemic. It’s really soul destroying.
I got a message from an old friend that offered me a job once he purchased a new business to oversee two similar stores and run t... | NTA
You looked into it to see if it was viable before proceeding, there’s literally nothing wrong with that. ###### |
My school has decided to continue with a graduation ceremony despite current events. They have given each student 1 ticket that allots 4 people entry into the ceremony.
I have essentially two separate families, one with my father and stepmom and the other with my mom and stepdad. Father and stepmom live in another st... | NTA
You logic is reasonable. If your bio-dad doesn't like it, then tough titties.
Your job is not to make everyone happy. Your job is use sound judgement in making decisions. ###### |
Posting on sisters behalf
My sister, let's call her Aly, lives in an apartment building with 2 others, Ava, her sister, and Mia, an acquaintance.
The lease expires in June but since Mia has finished school she has opted to move back with her parents while still paying rent. When Mia left (early-April) she left food ... | NTA
You know when someone would eat my food, I'd calmly, sometimes a bit annoyed, request they replace it....Not throw away their food, they might not be able to replace, in a tantrum
Mia sounds like a spoiled brat ###### |
So my ex and I have split our custody with our son. I told him all week that I’d be really sick this weekend and wouldn’t be physically able to take care of our son. Either him or my mother would watch him. I knew I was having a medical abortion towards the weekend (now) and didn’t know how bad it’d be, but also didn’t... | NTA
You knew it was going to happen, you told him and made plans so that your kid would be looked after.
"He finally got a job" then he should have made appropriate arrangements with the new job if he knew he was going to be in charge of looking after his kid. Sounds like he should also consider "being a parent befo... |
So I am a 16 year old male who is half white half Japanese. My dad was scouted to be a English teacher in Japan where he met my mom which they had 2 girls and then moved back to Canada and had me. I have dual citizenship for japan and Canada I can go to either freely. Not counting this year but every march we would spe... | NTA
You just taught that weeb a lesson in Japanese. At least he knows better now. ###### |
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now.
When we were getting to know each other I told him that I had no plans of getting married in future. He laughed it off as me being young and he was sure I would change my mind about it. I was 22 back then.
He met my family and friends when we started a ... | NTA
You have told him multiple times that you don't want to get married. If he didn't want to be embarrassed, he shouldn't have proposed in public. ###### |
I'm 21f and I been with my boyfriend since freshman year of high school. I love my boyfriend and I do see having children and a house. I don't like the idea of marriage. I told my boyfriend this many times. Two weeks ago he proposed in our apartment. I said no and we fought and I went in the guest room. We haven't sp... | NTA
You have the right to not want to marry. But it's best that you two figure out how important getting married or not getting married is to you, and whether it's worth throwing away a relationship over. ###### |
First up, context: I (29, X) have 2 younger half siblings (21 and 18). I was born when my mother was quite young, and my bio-father was never in the picture. My mom met my adoptive father, who I consider to be my actual father, when I was about 4. They married and my siblings came along. My dad legally adopted me when ... | NTA
You have the right to live your truth, whether that’s your sexuality, parentage, or whatever else. It’s sounds an awful lot like your mom is ashamed of the situation and is passing that hot potato o to you.
Yes, it’ll cause drama, but it’ll blow over. Sit down and tel your parents that you’re coming clean with ... |
So my sister was due to get married before the coronavirus struck and closed everything down so her Hen do was planned before hand but I couldn’t go/afford to go due to uni commitments and lack of funds, which she was fine with and understood. Obviously it was cancelled and they’ve ended up rescheduling the wedding in... | NTA
You have plans that existed well before you knew about the hen do. ###### |
I was talking to my mom when the topic of kids came up. I am 27 years old Male and she started asking me when I was going to get married. I told her I broke up with my gf and I dont want a relationship for the time being. As a matter of fact I never want kids ever. When I told her this, she accused me of being insensit... | NTA
You have no responsibility to have children, or a relationship. You don't owe that to anyone. It's your life, you do you. <3 ###### |
AITA: Last night my boyfriend took it upon himself to let our friend group hanging out in discord know that I really don't send him nudes. (I've been through a lot and have ptsd, and I don't trust technology. He knows I'm uncomfortable with sending nude pictures of myself and we see each other on a decently regular bas... | NTA
You have everything to lose, and nothing to gain, by sending him nudes. It is not, and has never been, a duty to do this in a relationship. ###### |
So since September 2019 I have payed for feeding, bedding, the stable box and done all the daily work an care that comes with having a horse. The owner is a sweet girl in her 20s and her parents was paying for the horse up until then.
In September she fell, the hores were injured and she got scared, her parents then a... | NTA
You have essentially been "renting" the horse. If they want to move the horse, then you need to stop paying.
Also, you could probably pay a much more modest fee to ride someone else's horse on an hourly basis.
These people are taking advantage. Tell them you would no longer be paying their horse's costs. ####... |
Over the coming few weeks I've (25f) been tasks with a painting project in the house. That's fine however I have pretty bad ADHD, and not getting side tracked is really hard. On top of that I have sound sensitivity and a macaw who will screech randomly. I find that I can allow myself to stay focused and in the zone if ... | NTA
You have a challenge on your hands, though. Your mom is a "void-filler" meaning silence is psychologically disconcerting. People who have that problem cannot take being in a space without noise & chatter.
Can you play the podcast or music over a speaker? ###### |
This actually happened at Christmas, but my sister brought it up today.
We have most family dinners at my dad and step mom's house. Just for clarification, my stepmom and I have a decent relationship. However, she has this one rule that drives me crazy. Any time we have a holiday dinner, she expects the girls to do... | NTA
You handled it well and you set a good example for your daughter. It's wonderful that your husband is on your side and is also setting a good example to your kids. ###### |
I recently finished my internship and I offered them to hire me. I enjoyed my time there and hoped I could earn some extra money over the holiday season. My boss and colleagues liked to keep me but the management insisted that they would not hire anybody.
Fast forward to this weekend. I get a message from my boss that... | NTA
You had to have someone who'd be open all 4 days. If your gf wasn't available for all 4 days then she wouldn't be a good candidate. If your gf is upset over it then she needs to understand that this was just a short job that needed to be done on those scheduled 4 days. ###### |
Just to preface this, my wife is wonderful and almost never gets me upset, and I’m just making this thread to see if I did something wrong and need to apologize to her.
So I was talking with my two friends, one who just moved across the country, and we were planning a gaming night to catch up and spend time together.
... | NTA
You had plans. She had plans. She didn’t say anything until after both your plans were in place. If she wanted you to cancel she should have said something earlier. ###### |
Me and my husband are trying for a baby right now and his parents know about it. They told my sister in law I guess, we don’t have a bad relationship even tho we live far away, we still talk. She called me and brought up the baby topic, asked me if we were really trying and I told her yes. She asked “why now? There’s a... | NTA
You had every right to tell her to mind her own because spoiler alert! It's none of her fucking business. ###### |
I (F50) have two adopted siblings, Ray and Emma (20). I love them to death and since I have a significant amount of money and am child free I decided to pay for their college education. I set it up like a scholarship essentially, I would pay as long as they both kept their GPA’s at 3.0 or higher. They agreed to this al... | Nta
You had a mutual agreement and she didn't meet the conditions.
Are you going to start paying again if her grades go up? Because that could be a good incentive. ###### |
I(20f) live with my bf(24) and I’m allergic to cats
Last week I came home to find him on the couch petting a very chonky cat. He knows I am allergic but told me that his friend needed to get rid of it so he took it. The cat sheds its fur a lot and my eyes burn, I’m constantly sneezing and I break out in hives. My bf a... | NTA
You guys did not discuss this decision. He did it without you knowing but fully knowing you are allergic. Putting the cat on the bed is the cherry on top. Unbelievably insensitive. ###### |
I am stripping the floors in my condo got association approval, during normal hours and my downstairs neighbor is banging on walls and on pipes and screaming. I am upgrading my wooden floors and changing cabinets. I tried to talk to him to tell him that this is temporary noise for the project but he yelled that "I drov... | NTA
You got it approved and one can assume you’re doing it at reasonable hours. Hope he enjoys the 30 days of noise, by then you’ll probably be done lmao ###### |
I’m upset because my boyfriend and I just finally moved into our first house. I believe it’s just as much mine as it is his, but he’s treating it as if it’s only his. *He never asked me in either situation, just offered it up and then told me afterwards.* He has offered up a place to stay to his sister and her boyfrien... | NTA
You get to have a say in who is living in your space with you and you get to decide how things will work financially. But realistically if he has done this before I don't know what you expected to happen now that you moved into a house. ###### |
My family lives in an apartment building. Everyone works from home at the moment so I have a lot of time to cook which is one of my passions. Our neighbours both work in a hospital, she's a doctor and he's a nurse. So I asked them if they would like some food and they said yes. So the last few weeks I always froze heap... | NTA
You gave them a helping hand and they bit it. Yes, their sleep is important but so is your daughters birthday and I believe this is the case of 'sounds like a you problem'. I would understand if she complained as like 10-12 pm but she has no right to complain at 1 pm, it's your time as much as hers and she needs ... |
First time posting and on mobile! I (35f) have been with my SO (42m) for ten years. I don’t plan on getting married, but we’re committed to each other. He’s not the best with money management or adult responsibilities (making appointments, calling to repair things, paying bills on time or at all, etc). With the recen... | NTA
You flat out told him what would happen if you had to file for him. He agreed and now he’s shocked you’re doing what you said? That money is for bills and to feed his childish ass.
He had every chance in the world to act like an adult and do things he needed to do. You’re acting more like a mother to him than a... |
My (15M) family wants to make a "family" youtube channel. My 5-year-old sister is a huge fan of these Disney parody channels. I think its called like TotalistTv. Basically they do real-life parodies of disney highschool and superhero things. I at least think it is really cringe, but I get its aimed at kids so whatever.... | NTA
you don’t have to participate in this especially because it’s very public and doesn’t suit your interests. ###### |
This happened a while back, but it’s been bothering me lately and I really want to know if I was wrong.
I (16f) work at a coffee shop. It’s a part time job and I like that I can make my own money and buy myself things without having to ask my parents.
For the most part I get along with all my coworkers. But there’s... | NTA
You don't want to get touched, then you shouldn't get touched.
My only advice for the future: Don't wait a couple of months until you speak up. ###### |
Throwaway for very obvious reasons.
I'm a guy. One of my close female friends is the type to go through "phases" of hobbies. Our friend group (a mix of guys and gals in their late twenties) has been very supportive of her interests. We bought paintings when she took up art, we ate all sorts of cupcakes when she sold b... | NTA
You don't owe your friends $50 to see nudes and start a fight with your girlfriend...
If you don't want to see em (seems like the case), don't look and don't pay ###### |
I (20F) live with my parents and older brother. I’ll be honest - I do not like him. We do not get along. He’s annoying and intruding and loud and I could go on. I try to just ignore him.
For April fools day yesterday, as a “joke,” he decided to hide the pain medication I take to deal with my periods. I have horrible ... | NTA
You don't fuck with another person's medication. Ever. ###### |
Pretty much I’m a senior in college [22F] and have no prospects of a love interest. I have always wanted to have kids and have a family ever since I was little. My mom [50F] keeps pressuring me to find someone and have kids so I can give the family grandkids. I keep telling her that quite frankly I don’t really want to... | NTA
You do you. Mother has no say in it. ###### |
I (M) have 3 kids with my ex wife. My daughter (17F), who is the second oldest, is turning 18 in November. 18 is a significant milestone, so I think that when your kid turns 18 you should get them a major gift. When my son (21M) turned 18, I got him a motorcycle.
So with all this happening, I thought it would be nice... | NTA
You didn't suggest it to her, it's what she wants. Good on you for being thoughtful. Your ex needs to accept that her daughter won't be a carbon copy of her and her values. ###### |
This was years ago. I was a server and one of my fellow servers left his book with 100-ish dollars cash in it and forgot about it, pregnant server found it (in front of me) and decided to keep the cash and cut me in. Being friends with the server who left his book, i yanked his chain about "forgetting something" and e... | NTA
You didn't get her fired. She got **herself** fired by stealing from a coworker. ###### |
For context, I bought a new cast iron skillet and still trying to get the hang of using it to cook a nice melted cheese sandwich.
I thought that I should be sweet and make my wife breakfast. I’ve did this for a number of occasions these past couple of weeks but today was the one that made me rather pissed.
She came ... | NTA
You did this as a kind gesture to your wife. Just stop making her breakfast and tell her to cook herself if she wants perfection. ###### |
I (22 F) Went on a coffee date with this guy from tinder after talking for about a week. On the app it said that he was also 21.
When I got to the coffee place he looked kinda like his pictures but a little younger making me question his age. So, I decided to ask him if he wanted to get a drink later. He started acti... | NTA
You did the right thing, he could have been a minor. ###### |
So my dog is 4 years old and I just found out she has cancer. The vet said that it was caught early and that with surgery and chemotherapy it’s very likely that she’ll have a full recovery and live a full life like she never had it. The only thing is that she estimates it would cost between 9-10k for the treatment. I... | NTA
You did exactly what you should do when you get a pet and you started a savings account so that you could afford to take care of it. This is *your* money that you saved specifically for this purpose, and she's your pet.
Girlfriend should just be happy she's with someone who is capable of helping her financially ... |
My (f22) boyfriend (m24) wants me to pretend to be religious and occasionally go to church with his family in the future, for fear that his mother would disapprove. He mentioned it when he found out about my atheism a few weeks after dating, and I was fine with it but now it just feels wrong.
On one hand, I understand... | NTA
You can't be an asshole for your own beliefs, but a good amount of relationships do not last when the family doesn't like who they are dating. Just be very careful with this situation. ###### |
There's an unofficial rule in my house that if you're cooking an evening meal from scratch, you make four portions of it.
Unfortunately, this limits _everyone_ to what my dad likes. And he is _very_ limited in that regard.
No pasta, no vegetarian meals, nothing too "foreign", and nothing "unusual. Basically he'll acc... | NTA
You can still make enough for them but then it's up to them to eat it. You're not excluding him, he's excluding himself. ###### |
I was having lunch with a friend of mine when the topic of dating came up, I told her I wasn’t dating anyone right now and was keen to get back out there.
She mentioned that she had a friend that she thinks I would be a good match with and was also looking to start dating too. She took out her phone and showed me a pi... | NTA
You can set whatever ground rules you want. Anyone can have preferences -- e.g., maybe you don't want to date someone more than 2 hours away, or someone who works night shift, or is in the military, or eats meat, or is vegan, etc.
Your preference is to find someone who doesn't have kids. That's fine. Better to ... |
Throwaway because I don't want to be recognised.
Im still on vacation so this is written in mobile. Also english is my 2.nd language se excuse me for any mistakes.
Where I am from traveling is legal. So now onto the story.
I booked myself an apartment for 3 weeks. I have allredy staid here for 8 days. Neighbours came... | NTA
You booked the larger (and I'm guessing more expensive?) apartment. Simple as. If he'd asked once and accepted your no then it would be fine. But he tried to go over your head, and then came back to you. That is out of order.
If I book a hotel room, I don't get to march up the penthouse suite and use their facil... |
So my bf 29 and I 25 have been together for about 5 years now. During these 5 years we had a brief breakup due to some immaturity on both ends towards the start of the relationship and infidelity on his end, however this was all worked on and we’re in a healthy relationship now.
Recently his sister had moved into the ... | NTA
You bf clearly does not believe that cheating is a problem in a relationship. That should be a red flag to you. ###### |
A little background, my som is almost 2 and I post very little about him on social media, not too many photos, because I don’t want his face plastered all over the internet. Anything I do post about him is all private due to my privacy settings so only the people I want to see it can. My SO and I have told all of our f... | NTA
You asked her multiple times. She doesn’t listen. This is the only way to get her to stop. ###### |
Okay, first a little background ... I (21F) live with my boyfriend (25M) in a one bedroom apartment. We technically have a room that could be a second bedroom, but it's very small and currently being used as an office space. We both attend university in DC (undergrad and law school respectively) and have continued to l... | NTA
You aren't telling him he can't remain friends with her. You are telling him you aren't cool with her as a roommate. Which is valid no matter the reason, but that she is his ex is certainly a very good reason to not want her living with you. ###### |
For some context I’m a college student currently studying from home
I was on a call to some of my friends on my laptop when a family member of mine shouted up to borrow my laptop the next day. I initially thought he meant right at that moment so ended up snapping at him but then afterwards I said about my classes whic... | NTA
You aren't responsible for his needs. You could simply refuse to let someone else use your laptop at all, at any time. ###### |
My partner (30m) and I (33f) are buying a house, and he’s never been that great at saving money.
I’m sorting everything out and paying for a lot of things. All of the money is coming from a previous house sale of mine, but he’s chipping in here and there when he can. And he has said that he will try to save as much as ... | NTA
You aren't on the same page regarding finances. DO NOT PURCHASE A HOME WITH HIM. Hash out a budget (inclusive of fun things) and see if he can keep to it. ###### |
I'm writing this late at night so excuse me for any errors.
For context: I'm 14M and lately, my mom has been making my sister sleep in my bed. I value my privacy, and I've literally been babysitting her for MONTHS now. I think that's more than enough time spent together. My room is the only private space I get in the... | NTA
You are the child, not the parent.
Where is this kid supposed to sleep? ###### |
So my boyfriend and I are planning on moving in the next few months but we currently are in a weird financial problem. Basically his parents are both not working and we're not sure if they need to borrow money. I have money saved up in my own savings to pay for a couch from IKEA thats on sale currently but he wants to ... | NTA
You are not obligated to give money to his parents. The fact that you intend to help them out with any amount of money should be enough for your boyfriend.
You can do what you want with your money... ###### |
So yesterday while i was at work my GF tipped a glass full of juice right into my PC, by accident of course. Its a build where the motherboard is "facing" upwards so it got all over there and basicly none of the parts are good anymore. Its about a 1500 dollar machine that i use everyday for school and for gaming.
She... | NTA
You are frustrated at the situation. You need to deal with it in your own way. I know it was an accident but has she offered to help with the replacement at all? ###### |
Okay, I'll try to keep this short.
I'm a digital artist and graphic designer. I've mostly done it for fun until recently, when a peer wanted to commission a piece. This led to a small wave of commissions, which has been great. No issues with what I charge and it's gone smoothly.
It was suggested that I try to get mo... | NTA
You are being used. Do not give away your artwork to this person. There actions in using your work without attribution and delaying their payment to you negates any agreement you had in place. ###### |
I haven't left the house in almost 3 weeks, I HATE shaving. It is probably my biggest pet peeve cause whenever I shave I have stuble literally the next day and it pisses me off. Since my mom and dad have forced me to stay and I'm forbidden from leaving I don't see a need to shave. Its been 3 weeks since I've even to... | NTA
You are an autonomous being and as unsightly as it may be, the beard is clean. ###### |
My girlfriend and I live together. We are both pretty laid back people. Now, my girlfriend is normal weight, a little on the chubbier side but still super attractive to me. Today, she tried out a smaller dress and asked if it made her look fat.
I said she looked amazing, she said I didn't answer the question. So, I sa... | NTA
You answered. She didn't believe your answer, and asked another two times until you told her the "truth". If she didn't want an honest answer she shouldn't keep asking. I hate when people do that crap. ###### |
AITA - I live in a rental house that the owners used to live in before moving so it's pretty nice. There is an in-ground pool that has a heat function, but because of electricity cost my roommate and I rarely use it. I normally swim year around at my gym, but due to the current situation I have started swimming at home... | NTA
You agreed to pay for the increase in cost from **your usage** not his. It's as simple as that, and if he's abusing your paycheck because he's a cheap jerk than feel free to turn the heat off. ###### |
She’s only 20 and is pregnant. She was incredibly upset when she found out as she’s not ready for a baby and isn’t financially stable whatsoever. I felt really bad for her when she was telling me........until I asked her if she was using any protection and this is how the conversation went.
Me: Are you on birth contr... | NTA
You absolutely should have called her out for being irresponsible. Pointing out that her choices lead to her current situation is the only way she might learn and correct future behavior. ###### |
33F, married, financially stable and happy with a couple cats and a senior dog
My mother (67 F) is a cancer survivor and was recently diagnosed with another, more aggressive form of tumor. Considering her history with treatment, the prognosis isn't good.
She and I aren't close. She has untreated mental health issues... | NTA
You Absolutely CANNOT bring a HUMAN into the world to placate a dying woman. Sorry, but that's just absurd.
Edit: anyone pressuring you into having a kid should raise the kid!! Oh, they don't want to do that?? Big surprise. ###### |
My “best” friend of about 8 years is pregnant for the second time. She blames all of her “mood swings” (aka her being pretty rude with words) on her pregnancy hormones. And listen, I get it. You’re more hormonal, you’re more moody, I understand. But that doesn’t give her the right to be downright rude in my eyes.
Whe... | NTA
Yes, mood swings while pregnant are absolutely a thing, and they can be super intense. But, that doesn’t excuse someone being an asshole. Her comments have crossed that line, and it sounds like she’s using the pregnancy as an excuse to say whatever she wants.
Even if the mood swings are entirely to blame on thi... |
So first and foremost I must say my parents are amazing but their siblings and parents aren't as great as my parents are. When I was younger I had always wanted to be with my Aunt's and grandparents to spend time with them yet they would always ignore me in favor of my cousin who was a year older than me. At that point... | NTA
Yeah, never knew how many family members I had til I moved to popular destinations..
On that note, I’d give them one shot. Let them say what they have to say and to each person I’d reply why are they reaching out now when they’ve had X years to try and talk? Just cause they need/should learn their actions had... |
So I actually made a reddit account because this has been on my mind a lot lately with the pandemic. I'm currently quarantined in the house with my parents and younger sister. I have a couple of food allergies which, while not severe (i.e. I won't go into anaphylactic shock if I accidentally eat a piece of a pecan), ... | NTA
Wtf, your mother and father are displaying enormous amounts of ignorance and rudness. I mean, your Dad literally helped himself to food you bought for yourself without asking while your back was turned. That's not normal at all. I would snap if my parents did that crap.
Unfortunately, my advice would be to hide... |
**This happened before COVID-19**
I babysit kids age 2 to 10 since I was 14 (I'm now 16M). I sometimes babysit multiple of them at ones (max 4). Around August last year, there was a woman who asked me to babysit her 5-year-old son on a Saturday, which was alright for me. I ask details like allergies and such when she ... | NTA
Wow, you so much dodged a bullet. She complained to city council?? Mate, if anything had happened to her kid, and I mean anything, as small as a stain on their shirt, she would have been at your throat and made you pay for it.
Also completely fair for you. No jab no play. her decision, her consequences to bear #... |
Yesterday my boyfriend
Now to give you some clarification, its not like I particularly dress for "unwanted" attention. I do dress nice I guess, as in, I like to wear cute flats with a blazer and pretty blouse. But I'm not the type to show my cleavage and bum, and even if a gal did, thats her prerogative. Anyways I dre... | NTA
Wow, just wow. It’s not even you checking out guys it’s you being checked out by them. You have almost no control over that, and it’s unreasonable to expect you to wear like a frumpy sweater 24/7 if that’s not you.
Maybe find someone else ###### |
Background & Context: I have a FT job in healthcare where I work a steady 45 hours weekly. Now due to recent additional stressors are work it’s more like 50-55 and I am mentally, physically exhausted after working all day and dealing with the additional stress/frustration/constant policy changes.
Years ago, prior ... | NTA
Why is she so helpless? I didn’t know how to make a resume until I made one. If she can’t fill out a job application, she probably shouldn’t have a job. ###### |
My boyfriend has a tendency to spend his entire day in discord with his friends when he is home. I normally do not care that he is spending time in their with his friends unless I am spending time with him doing something. He will oftentimes join a voice chat and sit in discord while we spend time together playing vide... | NTA
Why is he in a relationship with you if he can't or won't spend an hour or two alone with you? It's considered rude to be on a phone call or texting other people while spending time with someone. Everyone knows that. ###### |
One of my son’s best friends has been coming to stay with us a lot since they became friends. My son loves sleepovers and I don’t have an issue with hosting (a lot of his friends can’t as they live in trailers).
This one boy, Jackson, is great. He’s a lovely kid, but his mom sends him over without pajamas and he sleep... | NTA
Why does he sleep in his birthday suit? Why not in underwear and a T-shirt? ###### |
Pretty sure that I'm not the asshole but want to make sure.
So my girlfriend (24f) moved in with me (26m) like 6 months ago. I have two cats I got before I met her. Since they are my cats, I do everything to take care of them. Including scooping the litter box every day.
No problems, and then suddenly, my gf decides... | NTA
Why do you want to be with someone so awful? ###### |
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