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I enjoy singing but I am VERY bad at it admittedly. I have no pitch or tone but I like to sing alone in my room usually to songs or I’ll even do karaoke by myself I know I’m bad but I like doing it, it’s fun and a stress reliever. I moved in with an roommate a couple months ago and he hates my singing (I don’t blame h... | NTA. You were only singing hardly crime of the century. Do what you enjoy! Definite over reaction from your room mate. Maybe look for a new room mate who isn't so weird about you singing to yourself? ###### |
I am a full time security guard and a full time college student. I work for a private company, that has a strict no trespassing rule. We have a basketball court on the property and during rounds tonight I found two men (Caucasian males earlier 40’s) and two young boys (maybe around 10yrs old) playing basketball. I told... | NTA. You were just doing your job. ###### |
So the other night the girls parents were over at my house and I decided I would be somewhat of a nice person and make everyone a nice dinner even with the rocky past I have with them. (They don’t agree with me traveling for work a month at a time)
Well whenever I would leave the living room to check on things in the ... | NTA. You were giving an olive branch to people who do not respect you or your job. You were attempting to be kind but clearly they are childish. I think you can be kind but firm and ask someone to leave. ###### |
So today I resigned from my job. I't was apparently a 'graduate position' and my first job out of college. As soon as I joined the company, the head of my department quit and 4 weeks later once she actually left, I was in charge of the department. I was responsible for all the clients accounts and was extremely stressf... | NTA. You were given more responsibility than you had agreed to beforehand without being offered another position or pay raise. On top of that nobody taught you how to do your job. To have the audacity to try and cut your pay to below minimum wage after that is just despicable.
You gave them a fair warning that it was... |
My gf and I moved out of state in with my dad a few months ago so we can get settled before we move out on our own again. We have a three month old baby.
My baby hasn't been sleeping very good the past few days. She's been colicky. This afternoon, i finally got her to nap while laying on my chest. My dad put left ove... | NTA. You were doing something important that couldn't be interrupted, and you told him so. I think it's fair, and if he doesn't, he might to consider what it would be like to spend the rest of the day with a screaming, overtired baby. ###### |
I (48M) recently won the lottery. Before you congratulate me too much, it was a local state lottery and certainly not a Mega Millions or Powerball jackpot. However it is enough to help me buy a moderately priced house and my take care of my debts with enough left over to have an investment account. I don't plan on q... | Nta. You were broken up and bought the ticket with your own money!!! Keep all your winnings and stop talking to your ex!! Congratulations on a win!!! ###### |
My husband and I (early 30s) extended our lease for 6 months back in February, planning to buy a house between then and July. Our landlords are selling our house, so they will not extend further. Unfortunately, my husband was furloughed, so we’ve put the house hunt on hold until he’s landed a new gig.
We live in the s... | NTA. You were *never* going to get the unit they origonaly offered, getting you into their house was always their plan. If it wasn't they wouldn't have rented the unit. Well done for not falling for it. ###### |
Hi Reddit,
I know the title sounds crazy but I just want to know if I’m in the right or wrong.
A couple of months ago, My ex girlfriend came to visit me while I was sick at home. We had been in the breaking up stage for months, with no end in sight <she did not want to let go>. I had moved on emotionally and re... | NTA. You warned her that if she didnt leave youd call the police. Actually doing it let her know you're serious for the future if she tries something again. ###### |
My mom just unexpectedly died from cancer. This has been the most difficult experience of my life, and I really needed my boyfriend to fly home. I voiced that I would pay for his ticket, but he replied that he thought it would be better if I flew to his place on our already planned trip in a week. I have three kids who... | NTA. You voiced your need and he has dismissed it. That is an awful to have in a partner.
If I was in this position I would honestly tell him that if he can't be there for your most desperate time in need, then he can keep his ass away for that June 6th trip.
I'm so sorry for your loss and I'm sorry your partner i... |
We are unemployed due to COVID-19 and trying to save and budget our money.
My girlfriend just excitedly told me she just spent over $300 in house plants for a house we rent expecting me to be happy as well. Needless to say, I got a bit angry and told her that it was a really dumb financial decision at this time.
No... | NTA. You two need to have the money talk because if you arent on the same page financially, this relationship is doomed. ###### |
So this happened before lockdown... normally I hate giving wait staff a hard time because I get that their jobs hard...
So I went to dinner at a tgis with my boyfriend. We ordered starters, mains and drinks all at the same time. Starters and drinks came and it was fine. But slowly we ran out of drinks and we were in ... | NTA. You tried to pay for the starters and drinks. You weren’t walking out on the bill until they finally gave you attention to flag you down and pay for food you didn’t receive. Thats BS. It was fair to walk away. A good restaurant would have comped your food for the shitty service anyway. ###### |
I'm married and have a 10yo son and a 11yo step-son. I don't have much of a relationship with my step-son's mom. I don't think she likes me. Fortunately, my son and step-son grew up together so they get along, go to the same school and hang out with the same friends. I went to go pick up my son from the park and my ste... | NTA. You tried to get a hold of her many times, and you wanted your step-son to be safe. ###### |
I live by a strict...rule(?) of confidentiality. You tell me something and tell me not to tell anyone I will take it to my grave. I expect the same thing back in any of my relationships with people. Obviously its discussed and the trust is built and what not. If I hear back something I have shared with you from someone... | NTA. You told them something important to you in confidence, and they told others. That is extremely toxic behavior. You were right to drop them as a friend. Don't listen to others who say you are wrong. They aren't you. You were the one this happened to, and it was your choice to make. ###### |
Some days ago one of my long term “friends” called my mother a cow for no reason in our group chat. He had been saying that to me and some other friends some for some days prior and we told him he was going too far and to stop because it was rude. He kept doing it and I once again told him to stop and that I’d fight hi... | NTA. You told him to stop. He did not. It's not just insulting your mom here, he clearly doesn't respect **you**. ###### |
Weeks ago my friend Paul, who is a first time dog owner, told me that his puppy seemed a bit sad and didn’t want to play. I told him to go to the vet and have it checked because it could be something. He said he would do it that weekend. The next Monday I asked him how his dog is doing and what the vet’s diagnosis is. ... | NTA. You told him repeatedly what he should be doing and the potential consequences... He didn't listen. ###### |
My fiancé has been jobless for almost an entire year now. I am currently working two jobs (roughly 65 hours a week) and am frequently exhausted when I get home. With our current situation, I have asked that she do most of the cleaning because I usually don’t have the time to do it properly and I don’t want to live in a... | NTA. You think it's bad now, it's only going to get worse later. You'll be happier with a hires cleaner minus a gf. ###### |
I live with a sibling, we have been roommates for a while. Their luggage broke down years ago, not long before I bought a set for myself for a little over a $110. Since then every time they go out of town they insist on using mine. I personally don't use them often whereas they go out of town a several times a year.
... | NTA. You spent a lot of money on it. They should buy their own. ###### |
Hi. So my whole life I (f16) have loved the taste of coffee but I have a sensitivity to caffeine. Normally I order decaf because it's so little caffeine it doesn't really negatively affect me. Today I went to a local chain coffee shop and ordered a decaf coffee. I was careful to mention my caffeine sensitivity and doub... | NTA. You specifically mentioned you have a caffeine sensitivity and ordered decaf. Your friend is an AH for downplaying it and not taking your health seriously. Honestly she sounds like a bad friend. ###### |
Recently broke up with my gf because she was super abusive. Her sister is also abusive towards her fiancé and it comes from their abusive dad. A couple days after we broke up, the sisters fiancé texted me and asked what happened. I told him how abusive my ex was and I gave him examples of why. Less than a week later, h... | NTA. You spared him from a horrible marriage. No one should be in a relationship like that. ###### |
AMITA
This might be a long post, so bear with me.
So my step dad works remotely due to COVID, but because of the significance of his position, he has to go into work Monday and Tuesday. I work 6 days a week, I'm up by 5:30 and out by 6:15ish, he's meant to be out at the same time.
The first time my mom asked me ... | NTA. You shouldn’t be EXPECTED to do it. He should set multiple alarms if he can’t get up or use one of those super loud alarms or something. I’m so perturbed by the idea of a grown man expecting someone else to wake them up. ###### |
Hello!
My sister said I could use her throwaway account so I didn’t have ties to my personal one. Also on mobile.
My husband’s sister, my SIL, is due to get married next month. The venue is allowing her wedding but they had to heavily adjust the guest list. My daughter was set to be the flower girl and my husband an... | NTA. you shouldn't have to chauffer your daughter 12 hours over to a wedding you won't be attending, immunocompromised during a pandemic or not! they know she's a child and will want her parent after being at a wedding for hours, right? SIL is insane. ###### |
My (16m) mom is registered as a foster mom for emergencies. We've had many kids stay at our house for short periods of time. Usually it would be one kid at a time. However, last year, my mom was asked to temporarily let 3 kids stay with us. The mother of the 3 kids recently had a psychosis and the kids had no other fam... | NTA. You shouldn't have 8 people living in a four bedroom house. Obviously it's depending on who you ask. But they're already near/in their sixties and will not be able to properly take care of these three children plus your siblings at that age. That also depends on who they are but it seems like you're concerned for... |
Hi, I had to get this off of my chest because I’m still stewing about it. This happened yesterday.
My state is slowly lifting covid sanctions so my parents decided to drag me and my brother to a plant nursery. Afterward, we stopped by my parents’ friend’s house to drop off some trees we had bought for them. We were o... | NTA. You should've driven off and told them to get an Uber if they want to stay. ###### |
I’ll try to keep this short and simple. I have 2 kids, 5 grandkids.
Carlie—has 2 kids, lives with me and has always lived close by. I’m very involved in my grandkids lives. I’ve always been the main childcare provider and as stated above, they live with me for the time being so I’m around them a lot.
Meg—has 3 kid... | NTA. You should tell Carlie that if she's concerned her kids are being shortchanged she should remember how much professional childcare is.
Also the time you spend with the kids is way more valuable than chocolate and plastic. Carlie sounds entitled, you sound like a fantastic grandmother. ###### |
A year ago, my grandfather passed away. He was the family patriarch and it was hard on all of us, but especially myself and my sister who he pretty much raised after our father passed.
At the funeral, I was most focused on my mom, my sister and making sure everything went as planned. I guess my sister noticed what peo... | NTA. You should probably refer her to a therapist. This is a strange fixation to have that could have been triggered by grief. ###### |
Hello all. I'm on mobile, so sorry for any formatting errors on my part.
Me (30M) and my girlfriend (28F) have been together for 3 years and we have a baby girl that will soon be turning 2 this summer. My girlfriend wants to get our baby baptized and I am fully on board with this.
I am an atheist now but I grew up Ca... | NTA. You should never be forced to go somewhere that makes you feel uncomfortable and unsafe ###### |
Title pretty much says it all. My friend was checking on my cats while I was on vacation (this was last year). Basically I was supposed to pay her $20/day for the week.
Then (while I was on vacation), apparently she somehow ran over the light post in my yard. It broke in half and she tore out some of the underground e... | NTA. You should file a claim against her auto insurer to recover the cost of your deductible. If she is insured, her auto insurance should cover property damage she does with her vehicle. ###### |
I ordered some food from UberEats and receive a message stating that it should be delivered in no later than 30 minutes. Sounds good.
I leave a note stating that I would prefer to have the food left in front of my door. I live in an apartment complex, and not all couriers are familiar with the layout, so I include ins... | NTA. You should contact Uber Eats and get a refund. ###### |
So we were all at dinner once and my brother asked why we didn’t say grace, because his girlfriends family said grace.
My mom said that we could say grace if he wanted to, and so we did. Now she wants us to do it every night before dinner, but I just refuse to. She always seems annoyed when I refuse to join the famil... | NTA. You should be allowed to just bow your head and think about other things while the rest of the family takes part. ###### |
A few days ago, my (16F) mom (50) told me that she recorded me singing in the shower from outside the door. Later, one of her friends was over and asked me if I would sing. My mom said that she showed him the video. I didn't say much then, but today, I brought it up and told her she shouldn't record me without my permi... | NTA. You should be allowed to have your boundaries without being shamed/yelled at for it. ###### |
So for context I (16F) live with my mother and two younger brothers.
My mom sometimes enters the bathroom while I’m occupied in it. This doesn’t happen every single time i’m in there, but over the years she has done it quite a lot.
I take around 30 minute showers. Sometimes she needs to use the restroom or she need... | NTA. You should be able to shower in peace ###### |
My dad passed away last year on my birthday, I was very close with him and am still getting through this loss. I had told my husband and family that the only thing I want for my birthday this year is to just be left alone and mourn if I need to or to relax and have some time to myself. I don’t want to fake being happy ... | NTA. You set a reasonable boundary. You do not need to cross the line in the sand. I am sorry for your loss. ###### |
I (21F) had a friend who constantly meets random men online, which is ok but many of the guys she's met have ended up threatening her or stealing from her. We were talking about dating apps when I said the guys she meets make me uncomfortable and I don't really want to be around them. She seemed to understand and was o... | NTA. You set a boundary that she agreed to, then crossed it knowing you were uncomfortable. It would be different if she'd been going out with the guy for a while, but not a stranger. You're in the right. ###### |
I (24f) have a 6 year old son. I’m a highschool dropout and my family cut me off when I was pregnant with him. when I was kicked out my friend took me in so I wouldn‘t be homeless. I started working on retail and got back on my feet ,I‘ve been renting an apartmant for 2 years now and got a better job
I started doing d... | NTA. You screwed up, but you did what you needed to do in order to get your life together and get your son back. You deserve to raise your son and he deserves to be raised by his mother if that’s the healthiest situation for both of you. Fuck what your family says. If they can’t be supportive, cut them out. Your son d... |
I (20F) have been dating my boyfriend (24M) for about 4 months now. This is our only real problem right now.
The small arguments we had, he refused to talk about it and 'solved' it by getting me flowers and chocolates, or another gift. The first time I thought he was maybe nervous, or wanted to keep the peace since t... | NTA. You say this is your only issue, but it is a BIG one. It's an indicator that he has no intention of facing his own flaws or learning how to communicate with you in a healthy or productive way, especially about important things like respecting your family.
It's really sad that he has developed a belief that mone... |
I've been saving up in order to move out in order to escape my mother for my own sanity. While checking my online statements with my bank app I found out my mom has taken over $700 out of my account, not counting the 200 i loaned to her.
To say I was pissed is an understatement but I'm too afraid to confront her, so ... | NTA. You saved up the money for yourself and it's your money. Nobody has the right to use it without asking you first ###### |
It takes 2 people 2 hours to open the store properly. My teammate wasn’t there at 9. I texted him at 9:15 asking if he was on his way. No answer. I went into solo mode in case he didn’t show up. He finally responds almost 2 hours later saying he was distraught over his childhood friend getting killed in a car crash. I ... | NTA. You saved him from getting fired, and is now mad he got written up. ###### |
Okay for background information, I’m 18F and just recently lost my virginity a month ago. I’ve been regularly sleeping with the guy since losing it. There was a day where the condom broke and it made me start thinking about getting on birth control so that I’m double protected, I was a little hesitant at first because ... | NTA. You said it, sis. It’s really none of her business, and you’re doing the right thing by not bringing the person over if your mom doesn’t allow it. Being on birth control (or alternatives) is a good thought too. But no, it’s absolutely normal to be having sex and her making you feel guilty about it is probably jus... |
My bf of 2 years went on a camping trip right before all the lockdowns and quarantine measures started. He went with 2 girls from his college outdoorsy club that he doesn't know very well and who I've never met. I'm not gonna lie, I wasn't super thrilled about that, but I didn't say anything cause I know that was just ... | NTA. You said it yourself, he has already established that bed sharing is a boundary for him, and you agreed. Violation number 1.
Then, he gets a deer in the headlights look when you question him about his sleeping arrangement, indicating he didn't intend to tell you about the issue and instead meant to lie and keep... |
My friends and I (20M, we all around 20) go into a group facetime call and just chill and talk on it. Sometimes we play games, but we mainly just talk, we usually call for literal hours.
Theres this one girl in our group call, that has recently started learning how to play the ukulele.
It's great and all, but its rea... | NTA. You requested several times that she stop and she literally *sang over you*. So you muted her and kept the peace. I don't see a problem. ###### |
At a family vacation right now, and I can't stand eating around infants. I'm aware it's not their fault because they aren't capable of learning good eating habits yet, but them getting pieces of food all over their face and their hands, spitting their food and getting it everywhere- just generally being sloppy with the... | NTA. You recognize that your aversion to eating around infants is your own thing and you try to handle it without inconveniencing anyone else. I could see your family thinking you were weird/unusual, but not rude. You can't help your reaction and you're trying to handle it without blaming anyone else. Why is that a pr... |
Growing up, my sister had never been supportive of me. We were never very close. I ended moving out very early because we got into a yelling match about her not picking me up from the airport because she got drunk.
A year ago, I moved to a different state for a job and broke up with my then bf. When she came down to h... | NTA. You really need to stop hanging around toxic people in general, because that's not a normal mindset. I'll say as rslash said once: "it's not on you to forgive her just because she's your sister, it's on her to fix her attitude in order to deserve forgiveness." ###### |
I (23F) help my brother (34M) with running his business. Often, this requires me to learn new skills such as marketing software, writing up proposals, applying for loans, interacting with customers, etc. I do all of this is my own free time and I have never been paid. This has been something I have done for a couple of... | NTA. You put in the work, you get the rewards. Your brother is lucky you are not asking to be out of payroll and that you take the time to help him out. He would have to pay a lot more to find someone else to do it for him. Your mother isn’t the one paying you so why should she care? Ignore her ###### |
So I actually made a reddit account because this has been on my mind a lot lately with the pandemic. I'm currently quarantined in the house with my parents and younger sister. I have a couple of food allergies which, while not severe (i.e. I won't go into anaphylactic shock if I accidentally eat a piece of a pecan), ... | NTA. You purchased food specifically to avoid allergens. The absolute least your family could do is ask permission before they help themselves to your food. If they purchased snacks that were allergen-free themselves, it would be a different story. ###### |
I met my best friend 9 years ago and we've both gone through a lot together. His GF died 7 years ago and I helped put him back together. He was there for me when my parents died. We're like brothers and friends and family have commented that we're like an old married couple. Even during lockdown we've pretty much calle... | NTA. You planned this trip with your friend to celebrate a milestone for you and your friend. You’re allowed to have meaningful relationships with people besides your SO. You’re allowed to take nice vacations with your friends. Your girlfriend is being unreasonable. ###### |
Bit of background, I (20F) still live my parents in the house we have lived in since I was 14. I work full time, and pay approx £300 a month in rent as well as buy everything for myself and contribute £20 a week to food. I want to move out, but am waiting for a couple of friends to finish uni and thought this was the b... | NTA. You pay rent and your own way. It's your home. ###### |
I pay for a spotify premium account. My boyfriend and I shared it, until we broke up. When we broke up, I changed my password because he never made any payments on it.
He says I am in the wrong because he has mental health issues and the music is the only way to calm him down.
I dont think I should have to share be... | NTA. You pay for it and its your account, he just wants to guilttrip you. He can listen to tons of music on youtube for free. ###### |
Quick overview - Been together almost 4 years, he lives in my house, didn’t bring much with him when he moved in, hasn’t contributed much to the home in all the time living here (I replace things that have broken/buy new purchases etc.), he is self employed and doesn’t earn a great deal so only contributes a nominal am... | NTA. you pay all the bills and he doesn't help. when he gets a check for a few thousand he doesn't tell you? thats something to be mad about. he is hiding something from you when he should be sharing. ###### |
When I (40M) was with my ex (45F) she had a 5month old, I met her daughter 7 months into the relationship, we were living together within 8months of dating.
My exs daughters father wasnt around.
I was with my ex for 10 years before our firstborn and then 4months after our firstborn she was pregnant again, we have tw... | NTA. You parented her for like what, 14 years? You are one of her parents. She asked, you didn’t offer. I think it’d be kind of you to allow her to move in. ###### |
I have a dog, she's 6. And very healthy. Potty trained. So she never makes any messes. Unless I'm gone for long hours which is understandable. When you gotta go, you gotta go. I clean it up. No big deal.
I walk her 3 times a day. Morning. Afternoon. Evening. So she can use the bathroom and get a lil bit of exercise. ... | NTA. You paid to have your dog walked and fed. And taken outside so he could go to the bathroom. She didn't provide those services. Of course you're not gonna pay her. And good on you for leaving a review, people should know what they're getting. ###### |
I recently re-connected with a friend from high school when her husband was accepted into a masters program at the same university where I am attending grad school. We were both really excited when we found out we would be living in the same city.
However. She is vastly different from the person I used to know. She wa... | NTA. You offered a solution and a viable one at that. None of her “excuses” make any sense. ###### |
My [F26] boyfriend [M28] and I have been together for 5 years now and moved in with each other last summer. My parents are divorced as are other family members, and I just don't like the whole idea of feeling trapped in a marriage.
Boyfriend (who I will refer to as Brody) knew how I felt since when we first began dati... | NTA. You never propose unless you’ve talked about it with them before and know the answer is yes. ###### |
My roommate regularly borrows my car and leaves my car keys in her purse. I had an errand to run and my keys were not on the hook in the kitchen they belong on. I went to look in her purse figuring my keys were in there (they were) and she got mad I looked in her purse. I told her if she didn't want me looking in he... | NTA. You needed your keys and that's where she left them. ###### |
My dad owns a pizza place that was handed down to him from my grandfather.
I've been working at the pizza place my while life, even part time while I got a business degree.
I found out last early last year that my dad had willed the restaurant to my stepmom. His reasoning being she needs to be taken care of after he ... | NTA. You needed to secure your financial future just like he needed to secure his wife’s. Not your fault you did a better job. Maybe offer to buy him out so he will “get something out of it”. ###### |
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years, so I know his family decently well. My boyfriend's family is from NC. We live in NY, separate apartments. His grandpa (who also lived in NY) just passed away on Sunday. They planned a funeral for Friday in NY. I told them 3 of his siblings could stay here since I have a 2 bedr... | NTA. You need to put your personal safety first. Aside from just the health aspect, I doubt they're going to pay your fine if they're caught. Break the news gently and hope they make alternative plans. ###### |
Ok so I may sound like a total a hole in the title but hear me out
Disclaimer for bad grammar I’m upset and writing this quick.
Ok so for the last 3 years I have been aware that my brother goes in my room while I’m at school (he gets home an hour early as he’s in elementary and I’m in 8 grade middle school).
Now I ... | NTA. You need to negotiate a bedroom door lock with your parents imho. ###### |
So a little back story my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I stay at his house 5 days a week and mine 2. I am renting to own my place and he owns his. I have 3 kids from a previous marriage. Now my prior marriage ended when my child’s father had a year long affair and then kicked myself and our children ... | NTA. You need to examine that phrase very carefully. "I want my stuff to stay in my family". That tells me even if you stay with him the rest of your lives, he will not actually view you or your kids as family. Why would you want to subject yourself and your children to that? ###### |
So this is kinda two AITAs but the first happened a month ago and I was confident I was in the right, I'm just double checking because the two events are connected.
I practice a martial art that has weight classes, so I monitor my weight all the time, except when I'm injured or for whatever reason not competing (Chris... | NTA. You need to document and make your boss award how disruptive Ella is on your work. Not sure what country you are in but maybe worthwhile to look up employees’ rights. Have your boss talk to HR regarding their policy of suspensions without cause and how it opens the company to liability and lawsuit. ###### |
i’m 22 years old and in graduate school. my only i come is from part time stipend as a graduate assistant. i don’t have a car, and i’m currently saving towards that as well as dental and optometry work. in order to save, i severally cut down on my food/fun allowance. i live on a very strict budget and after a year of s... | NTA. You need the money for a car and medical expenses. If you give him the money, you might be more screwed then your father. ###### |
My (21F) boyfriend (26M) plays video games until the early hours of the morning most nights. I've suffered from depression for as long as we have been together (2 years), and disruptions to my sleep negatively impact my mental health. I've explained this to my boyfriend and asked him to be quieter when he comes to bed,... | Nta. You need sleep for your mental health. He can't blame you for that
Edit: this blew up thanks guys ###### |
I was with my former spouse for many many years. Turns out he was unfaithful to me for almost every one of those years. He ended up confessing he was in love with my sister and wanted to be with her as well. At first I was crushed and dumbfounded. I felt powerless to stop the situation. Eventually I left my spouse. I ... | NTA. you moved on because they made your life miserable and lost your trust. You have every right to move away especially if it makes you happy ###### |
I like Dominos pizza and order it once a month. I know it’s a bit expensive, I know it isn’t very authentic, I know it isn’t healthy. I also don’t care; for me it hits the spot and I enjoy it.
My housemate and good friend’s Italian girlfriend, every time I get dominos, has to mention how it isn’t actually good pizza ... | NTA. You mentioned yourself - if she makes Indian food in a non-authentic way, you don’t say anything about it. You weren’t toting your dominos around like it was the best Margherita pizza from Naples. This is a very weird high horse for her to be trying to stand on. I think it’s pretty obvious anyone who frequently o... |
Right now my fiance and I are living with my best friend from high school and her husband. They and my fiance have some life differences (no details but nothing major, mainly they're all bullheaded and won't listen to each other). My fiance wants to move out and get on our own. I'm all for it until he said the place he... | NTA. You made a commitment to your dog. Another place will come along. ###### |
Background:
My husband’s (30m) Federal job has taken us first to Oklahoma for several months and now to California. I quit my job and became a stay at home mom to make the transitions easier since childcare is so expensive.
I also lost both my mom (50f) and my brother (17m) within 4 years of each other when I was 17... | NTA. You made a big sacrifice for him, by staying at home with the kids and moving to improve his career, but he won't make a sacrifice for you. ###### |
Basically my cat is trained to use the toilet bowl, I have two bathrooms in my flat and the cat uses the guest one, it’s always up and clean because the cat uses it and knows how to flush it (sometimes he forgets it), I clean it every day and my cat been doing it for the past 6 years.
My boyfriend just moved in with ... | NTA. You literally trained your cat to use the toilet, which is something that, as a longtime cat owner, I can only imagine has made your life so much easier. Litter boxes suck. ###### |
This happened before the whole corona virus ordeal, but my friend, we will call her L, is still upset about this. AITA in this situation?
Awhile ago at a social gathering L and I were discussing her upcoming birthday plans. I offered to host L’s birthday party if she didn’t have other plans, L quickly shut that down i... | NTA. you literally offered to host a party for her and she turned you down, and now she’s all upset because you made other plans after not being invited to her birthday plans and won’t do anything for her? besides that, you even offered to do something during that day but just couldn’t at night and she was still upset... |
Me 22f and my boyfriend 35m just broke up about 3 weeks ago, we had a really toxic relationship so when I found out I was pregnant I knew that I had to leave and be in a better environment for my unborn child.
When I was packing he was following me and yelling at me so I was sloppily packing things in a rush and when ... | NTA. You lied for your safety and for the safety of your unborn child. He sounds like bad news and I'm sorry your friend told him against your wishes. ###### |
Im on mobile.
Me(F15)
Mom(F36)- “Mom”
Stepdad(M34)- SD
So i’m visiting my mom this week (my dad has full custody and i just visit my mom sometimes) and it’s that time of the month. I’ll try not to go into too many details but basically yeah i dispose of everything the way it needs to be disposed so i didn’t think th... | NTA. You know sometimes I come on this subreddit and actually have to ask myself if I'm dreaming. I have no idea how a wrapper could offend someone. Unless he endured some form of tampon related torture and has enduring trauma, literally the only viable explanation I can come up with. ###### |
Hi Reddit,
I know the title sounds crazy but I just want to know if I’m in the right or wrong.
A couple of months ago, My ex girlfriend came to visit me while I was sick at home. We had been in the breaking up stage for months, with no end in sight <she did not want to let go>. I had moved on emotionally and re... | NTA. You just set down some clear boundaries, and that's good. ###### |
So my younger bro (19) was really scrawny. He's as tall as me (24M) at 6"1, but his build was really small. I think he weighed about 140lbs with 0 muscle. He didn't have any health issues or anything, was just scrawny.
It was no surprise to me when he confided in me that he couldn't attract many girls. He wanted a gi... | NTA. You just helped him boost his morale when he needed it. At least you've been honest with him. 👏 ###### |
Throwaway and fake names
A couple of my friends hung out recently (where we live in a place with less than a hundred cases and masks are still required)
One of my friends, Dylan came with his new girlfriend Ann, who happens to be black, to introduce us to her which we were all fine with and knew beforehand.
I’m m... | NTA. You just didn’t like her because she was obnoxious, that has nothing to do with race. The only racist one was Dylan for saying that black people were like that. ###### |
Hi all,
I’ve worked as a swim teacher for 6 years, and due to this, have seen all sorts of disabilities/mental illnesses in my students. I’m not a mental health professional, but I have had training in recognizing certain crises and how to teach kids with autism/ADHD/etc.
I have a class at the busiest time of day, whe... | NTA. You informed her of the needs her child has learning, and you did nothing wrong ###### |
I'm a 22 year old dude.
So I was in the emergency room last night, and they ended up diagnosing me with something called Epiploic Appendagitis, which I will spare you specific details but roughly once a month a lot of blood comes out and I get extremely bad stomach pain. The stomach pain was bad enough that I felt t... | NTA. You implied a period would be worse. Most of the time men downplay periods, so at least you weren't doing that. Honestly, I don't think what you were saying diminished or trivialised periods, it was just the comparison that came to mind while you were coming to terms with a life long condition. You sister should ... |
My neighbor's backyard is visible from our master bedroom upstairs and most of it is covered by a tree. But we had a pergola installed on our side with a fixture that let us grow plants alongside it. That gave them some extra privacy but I took it down because I had some trouble with one of the foundations. It's gonna ... | NTA. You hit the nail. “If he thinks he doesn’t have privacy he should do something on his side.” It’s your property; he can’t tell you want to do with it just because he’s uncomfortable with his perception of the lack of privacy ###### |
Background: My boyfriend recently passed away unexpectedly. Today was my best day since I found out, but it’s still a struggle getting out of bed.
His funeral services are tomorrow, and I would love to see him one last time, but there’s an issue. My boyfriend is trans, and his family constantly deadnames/misgenders h... | NTA. You have very solid reasons, and don't even **need** solid reasons. You need to take care of you. Honor him as you know he would have wanted. Funerals are for the living. He would want you to do what makes you most comfortable. ###### |
Follow up on my previous post[here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/di82hm/aita_told_moms_boyfriend_was_being_a_cnt/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf)
Basically I (19m) got into a fight with my mums boyfriend after he berated me for disrespecting my mother for there being clo... | Nta. You have to do what’s best for you and she clearly doesn’t respect you or care about you. She cares more about what a bf thinks and she is the ah. ###### |
My (32m) sister (45f) sister has always been there for me. Because we have such an age difference, she has been my second mother. Our mother is still alive but she dumped my onto my sister to take care of me. With her love and support, I’ve been able to accomplish a lot. We are super close and I consider her my best fr... | NTA. You have the same age difference between me and my sister :) And while my mother was always a wonderful parent, my sister would babysit and help my mother whenever she could. I’ve gotten them both Mother’s Day gifts as long as I can remember. ###### |
I have a babysitter who watches my two young girls while me and my husband go to work. She brings her daughter with her. She’s always been great. One day, she was about 10 minutes late which made me late for work. It’s fine because it hasn’t happened before, and she apologized and I thought we were all good.
A day la... | NTA. You have the right to vent in private to your husband. You forgave her, but that doesn’t mean it didn’t affect your day.
She violated your privacy. AND she had to go back a month before finding anything else about her. If you text with any frequency, that’s a lot of personal texts for her to have gone though. An... |
Restaurants opened up here recently for dine-in. My husband has 2 autoimmune diseases and is a disabled veteran. My mother is 69 and Diabetic and lives with us. I am diabetic and having surgery in 10 days.
My daughter (26) mentioned she was going to eat with friends tonight. I asked if she was going to a restauran... | NTA. You have REALLY valid concerns and there’s a chance for it to be dangerous for you guys. She overreacted to the max.
Stay safe. ###### |
It’s my Girlfriends birthday weekend. My girlfriend told me to reserve her birthday (Sunday) to devote all my time to her. I obliged...
I have some fun and romantic plans for the day. Got a custom cake and a few other goodies.
I blocked off Saturday afternoon for her as well for dinner with her family and whatever el... | NTA. You have put the day aside plus blocked off half of the day before. If she wanted you to give up your Friday she should have said something earlier. NTA ###### |
Just for context: I (F18) have dated a guy (M22) for about 9 months, but never really loved him. He knew it, because at the first time he asked me, I denied, saying that I only see him as a friend. So he told me that if I didn't date him, he wouldn't have a reason to live - I was sooooo worried that I ended up acceptin... | NTA. You have no responsibility to his life or how he is teased; you're just living your life.
Also, just because someone has problems with depression and anger doesn't mean you should selectively closet yourself because you think living your life might cause a reaction in them. If they are reacting to you living you... |
She’s my father’s daughter, and was born shortly before the start of the pandemic. The pandemic isn’t why I’m not visiting, rather due to the lack of a relationship with my father.
My parents divorced when I was very young, and my dad played the whole ‘I’ll make plans to come visit you, but never show up’ game for ye... | NTA. You have no obligation to visit them; he has been putting the minimum possible effort to have a relationship with you. ###### |
My entire childhood and adolescence life I strived to be this independent woman. I am now 27 and a housewife.
The other day I drove to my hometown to visit with a few friends (restrictions have been laxed in my province). We were catching up talking about our lives and having a blast. Of course our careers came up in ... | NTA. You have made valid life choices. Don’t let these women bring you down. Who knows what baggage they are carrying that made them react this way.
Feminism should embrace all choices a woman can make for herself. It doesn’t prescribe a single life path. ###### |
Recently my grandad has been in hospital for a reason I’m not sure I can mention, but you can probably guess. Prior to that he had other health complications so I thought it’d be nice to get all of my cousins to make a video for him wishing him to get well soon and that we all love him. I have a pretty big family so it... | NTA. You have given them enough chances to complete the video and they didn't. You are perfectly entitled to send the video to your grandfather as you have kept the two day deadline. ###### |
My mum has always been pretty dramatic, she is a severe alcoholic and I would have cut her out of my life completely already if it weren’t for me trying to stay in contact with my two step sisters (aged 9 & 10) who still live with her. I (24f) don’t live with them.
She has caused a major string of events this year... | NTA. You have given her a plethora chances and she has thrown each one out the window. ###### |
I recently found out that the ring my fianceè proposed to me with is the same ring he used several years ago to propose to a girl he ended up not marrying. She didn't say no, but she left him like two weeks before their wedding. I don't want to seem ungrateful, but all I can think about is them when I look at the ring,... | NTA. You have every right to want your own ring, that isn't at all unreasonable. ###### |
My son is 5 years older and ever since his first word I've been speaking to him in Arabic just as my mother did with me. He's picking the language up pretty quickly and I'm also teaching him French and German as I know it's easier for children to pick up languages. I've also been teaching him about Islam through bed ti... | NTA. You have every right to teach your child your cultural heritage and language(s). Your wife also has the right to bond with him over her cultural practices as well. Neither of you should interfere with either of you bonding with your son.
Frankly, your wife is probably just jealous. He’s a little boy and he seems... |
Firstly, I know this sounds weird but bare with me.
I’m a 15 year old girl(?) and suffering from diagnosed depression. I was crying in my room and my mum walked into my room and started saying things like “be happy!” “You can’t be sad all the time” “it isn’t that bad” “you’re self-pitying!” And I lashed out. I told h... | NTA. You have diagnosed depression so a medical professional with years of training has confirmed your state. You're not making it up, it's real and as someone who also suffers, you have my sympathy.
All of my friends know and understand this is who I am but I did used to say to people. "I had a friend tell me to '... |
So my (f22) bf (m22) mentioned that he and his coworker send weird hentai to each other as a joke. I immediately got annoyed and told him it was inappropriate and I wasn’t comfortable with it. He didn’t think there was anything wrong with it but told me he wouldn’t do it if it made me uncomfortable. He tells me I gu... | NTA. You have a right to be uncomfortable about anything remotely sexual involving another person! ###### |
Some background: My husband has been helping his mother pay for rent/bills for a while now since his father has been out of the picture and there's almost no contact. About a year into our relationship, I was asked for help here and there as well.
My parents are still together and they're better off, so I have been fo... | NTA. You have a point and I think you should definitely have follow up conversations about it. Is he giving her a lot of money? When you have kids, how do you see raising them? Kids are really expensive not to mention birthing them can be expensive if you have any complications. How many children do you want? How are ... |
So my girlfriend told me that she wanted to show me an interesting prayer in her religion (she's Hindu btw and I'm a Catholic). I told her very politely that I will watch her say the prayer and not do it as I don't believe in her gods.
Christianity is based on monotheism and I cannot pray or worship another god, but I... | NTA. You handled this exactly right, you were respectful toward her religion without violating your own religious beliefs. ###### |
I (18F) live with my mom, dad, eldest sister(26F), her husband (23M) and their three little girls(9,7,1) I have spinal problems due to a stair incident in 7th grade. Blah blah blah pandemic keeps me from doctors blah blah losing mobility in hips down blah blah need cane and constant medication to walk normally. I’m ups... | NTA. You handled it very nicely. Your sister and her husband sound like jerks. ###### |
AITA for not changing my wedding date to make my sibling feel better?
My sibling was supposed to be getting married in October of this year. I am planning to get married to my fiancé in October of next year (we picked October as it is near our dating anniversary). Due to COVID19, my sibling is having to cancel their w... | NTA. You had this date and it means something to you. They can choose a different date ###### |
So my (33F) daughter is 16 and my sister is 23.
My sister is obsessed with her instagram, like she posts 3-4 times a day, she’s got an “appearance” and “standards”
My daughter has struggled with her weight for a while, she’s 1.8metres tall (?) And 13stone, our goal is to get her down to 11stone.
My sister took a pi... | NTA. You had the courtesy to call her and ask her first. She is only upset because you called her BS in the comments section. She only removed the photo because she was afraid for her 'branding' and appearing tone deaf. ###### |
Just to preface this, my wife is wonderful and almost never gets me upset, and I’m just making this thread to see if I did something wrong and need to apologize to her.
So I was talking with my two friends, one who just moved across the country, and we were planning a gaming night to catch up and spend time together.
... | NTA. You had plans, and she knew. Trying to get you to break a commitment that late in the game is rude. ###### |
So, I've been living with her for almost 4 months now and recently I started to have issues about my personal space being invaded while I'm working.
Last time it happened I had to make an evaluation online and she didn't stop trying to be all over me or in front of the pc screen so, obviously, I told her to go into h... | NTA. You had me in the first half, not gonna lie. ###### |
Due to current global circumstances all our staff meetings are through a zoom like platform.
While we were waiting for the office manager to get on, everyone was showing off their pets and then the moms in there group started to talk about their kids, etc.
My coworker (35F), lets call her Z, was talking her daughte... | NTA. You had like 1 second to think of a response to someone deciding to humiliate her kid by calling her names in front of a crowd of unfamiliar adults. I think it was a great response that supported the kid without being directly hostile or nasty to the mom. ###### |
This happened last year, but I've had it on my mind for a while lately and want an outside opinion. Last year, I found out I was pregnant and my husband (29M) and I (26F) were ecstatic. An important thing to note is that while we hadn't told some friends and acquaintances about the pregnancy, our immediate families/clo... | NTA. You guys did what was best for you and that’s all that matters. Millions of women - including me - would have done exactly the same thing. ###### |
New account for privacy.
I (39F) have been with my boyfriend (40M) for a little over two years. Recently, I have come into a significant amount of money that would allow me to quit my day job and pursue my dream career, or if saved and invested carefully, retire fully. I haven’t disclosed this information to my boyfr... | NTA. You guys aren’t married so you shouldn’t feel obligated to tell him about this money. I would communicate to him that him being extra friendly with this ex wife is really bothering you. I dont think you should tell him unless you are certain he’s in it for the long run. ###### |
AITA for not helping out my stepmom in caring for my father?
My father and his wife have a 22 year age gap. I don't really have much of a relationship with my dad and maybe call him once a year on his birthday. His health has worsened in the last few years and now needs assistance to perform his day to day normal act... | NTA. You guys aren’t close, and it’s unreasonable of her to assume you’d move to another state to take care of him when he needs it. That’s not how it works, especially when you’re already taking care of your stepdad.
I’m sorry btw. It sounds like a lot to go through. ###### |
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