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I f16 and my brother m29 usually get along well but since i was about 10 years old all responability of his daughter f8 has fallen on me. I love my niece so much, shes always been the sweetest kid and i love to play with her, shes like my mini me, but for 2 weeks straight its just like havinv my own kid.
My brother ... | NTA. Y'all need to have a serious discussion about how much work he's offloading onto you. ###### |
First, my sister and I are twins. We did the SAT during March 14, and we made a deal with each other. Whoever got the lower score would do the other person’s chores for the entire summer break. We both agreed on this, and we asked our mother to enforce it. Obviously minors can’t enter contracts, but our mom is the supr... | NTA. Y'all made a deal, and there's no extenuating circumstances. She just doesn't want to do it.
But for the sake of your relationship, consider calling the whole thing off, unless you want to spend the rest of the summer having this argument. ###### |
We have been married for 7 years. The first half, at least was pretty rough. He kept several flirtationships hidden. Some went too far. We have worked on things and it’s been pretty quiet but I know I still have some lingering trust issues. A few days ago he started messaging the woman that cuts his hair to see if she ... | NTA. Wtf. Your husband has no respect for you. If this is something that you are uncomfortable with, and you have expressed this to him, and he continues to do it, he is not being fair to you at all. This is not normal behavior, and in my opinion, borders on emotional cheating. The fact that he dismisses your concerns... |
Yesterday was my \[24f\] birthday. My boyfriend already said he'd take me out for dinner to celebrate since last week, and I let my family know maybe 3-4 days ago. (for those of you wondering about lockdown, I live in a country where we have had restrictions relaxed as new cases have been in the low digits for a month... | NTA. Wtf? How can they seriously expect you to want to spend your birthday with them when they haven’t cared for the past 10 years? You want to spend it with someone who actually cares about you and that’s completely fine. Plus, you invited them to dinner tonight so I don’t see their problem. Clearly they’re jealous. ... |
When I was still dating my wife I spent a christmas at her place and with her family. They had this bullshit rule that I couldn't see teh family opening up their presents so they told me to wait in the basemnt. I didn't think it would tkae so long but it took 2-3 hours.
My gf's sisters' bfs were down there too. The ... | NTA. Wtf kind of rule is that? If that's their tradition then they shouldn't invite non family, or maybe don't do gifts while you have company. They were incredibly rude especially since you and others brought gifts to exchange. What the hell are they getting each other that their guests need to be kept in the dark. #... |
I know it’s a weird title, sorry. Also on mobile so layout might be strange.
So around a year ago I (M15) was diagnosed with Leukemia. Six months later and I was having a life saving bone marrow transplant. I was in the same room for a month, tired and sleeping 6 hours a day and 12 at night. I have now (almost) fully ... | NTA. WTF is wrong with your mom? ###### |
Recently we found out some information about my brother in law’s baby momma. The pair is separated, but not divorced, and share custody of their children. My husband’s sister told us that his brother’s baby mama showed up at her house driving drunk, with the children in the car. This woman and his brother have three ch... | NTA. Wtf is wrong with your husband’s family? It is absolutely their business that their very young relatives are being put in dangerous situations. ###### |
Keeping somethings vague because otherwise, they are too identifiable
My husband and I have known each other for 12+ years, married for 7. We have kinky sex lives, and I am not straight (bi), I dated women before him. But we have always had a monogamous relationship. About 2 years ago he started kidding about a th... | NTA. Wtf is wrong with him. Talking dirty is one thing, sending dick pics and nudes of your wife without her permission or knowledge is an entirely different thing. What a douche. ###### |
Needless to say, I've bee dating this girl for a month and granted sometimes she likes to dress a little tomboyish every now and then but she lives an hour away and when she gets ready to leave my place to head home, I always find her putting on one of my outfits and trying to wear it when she heads home and I'm not j... | NTA. Wtf is wrong with her? I thought you were going to say that she wanted to take home one of your sweaters or something (I disagree with even doing that, but I would at least be more sympathetic), but taking whole outfits? That's... weird. Definitely not okay and you are right to be upset. ###### |
Okay, so a bit of a backstory here: I’m a teenager, so naturally i still live with my mom (my parents are divorced). I tend to have problems sleeping that result in me staying up until like three am. This doesn’t affect my energy throughout the day or anything, it’s just what I need to do to actually be able to sleep. ... | NTA. Wow. That is....disturbing levels of breaking boundaries. ###### |
So my parents have been having issues for as long as I can remember, but the last few months it has gotten worse. Today my parents called me (F21) and my little brother downstairs to announce they're getting a divorce. My dad was adamant in saying "this is your mom's doing, I don't want this, all the hurt is on her", w... | NTA. Wow, I am so sorry you had to go through that. Your mother is clearly unhappy in this marriage, and you’re incredibly strong for resisting your father’s attempts to emotionally manipulate his children in an attempt to force her to stay. ###### |
I (25f) have recently gotten engaged to my girlfriend (24f) and both of us are very excited. We have been dating since college and have a house and have adopted a child together. We are both very excited to get married and are planning on doing so as soon a Coronavirus is over. Recently I got some messages on Facebook ... | NTA. Wow there's a lot here. Firstly, congrats on your engagement! Your fiance sounds like a lovely, lucky woman. Secondly, screw your family. They don't get to say awful things to you and the woman you love all the while expecting to party on your dime.
Don't invite them.
Your friends have never encountered such p... |
My friend has had a crush on me for years now and knows that I do not reciprocate the feelings and nothing will ever happen between us.
I generally feel uneasy and uncomfortable with people saving my pictures on their phone as I find it really creepy.
A few months ago I found out he did that and even put my picture as... | NTA. WOW that is creepy. You're not overreacting at all. ###### |
I spend a lot of time either working from home or running my business from home so my wife and I decided I could use a spare room as my office. I turned it into a sort of library/office over the years and on top of all my bookcases and shelves I've placed models and figurines that I've made and or collected. [These are... | Nta. Would she rather you spend Friday night at home painting models, or out doing body shots with the guys? ###### |
Hi all, this is a throwaway and I don’t really know how this works but I’ve been having an issue with my fiancé and her family.
Background: I am a part owner in a pretty upscale American restaurant in the United States. I have been engaged for a little over a year, the virus took a toll in our plans. I have been with... | NTA. Would it have been a nice thing to do? Yeah. Are you in any way obligated to do that? Not really. ###### |
So me and my fiancé are doing some work in our backyard, so for the past week or so I’ve had to take our dogs for walks through the neighborhood about 4 times a day, always walking past the same house right across the street from us.
The first few times, i noticed a dog barking when i walked by, but didn’t think much ... | NTA. Worst case scenario, they find the dog is fine. Otherwise, you save a dog. Ring it in. ###### |
this happened last year but it got brought up again recently and opinions are split. more like 'are we the asshole'
context: i grew up in a country where usage of the word 'fag' is very lenient. i also grew up in a family of smokers. this is important because where i live, 'fag' is common slang for a ciggie. i didn't ... | NTA. Words have different meanings sometimes to different cultures. Not your place to impose your own interpretation based on your culture when in someone else's. ###### |
Am I about to rant over a muffin? Yes! I live in a pretty big household. I have 6 other siblings. So when my sisters made muffins last night, I’d already eaten so I decided I wanted one for the morning. But I knew my siblings would’ve eaten them all by the time I woke up and didn’t feel like risking it. So I hid one wi... | NTA. Why????? Why would he lick a muffin and put it back???? Why would he RECORD IT???? What was there that he could possibly gain, just fucking eat it and get it over with good god ###### |
Obviously I know what my diagnoses are now, but I just wanted some other verdicts on this. And for reference, I am 18f.
When I was four years old, I was diagnosed with mosaic Turner Syndrome (TS). I won't get too into this, but basically I knew that I was 'different' because of all the medications I had to take and do... | NTA. Why would your mom hide your diagnoses from you? Even as a minor, you deserve to know what exactly is going on with your body, because it’s your own body. ###### |
My(28f) sister(20f) arrived in Canada for her first degree last September with the help of my uncle who gave her about $5500 to take care of her rent and other expenses at least for the first semester. The plan was for her to also get a part time job to support herself because her program consisted of only 4 classes a ... | NTA. Why would your mom expect you to pay her bills? If she wants to bail her out, that’s on her, but you should never be held responsible for her. ###### |
So, basically, for the past month, I've been planning a cross country move back to my college town. I had some plans to stay with friends, and get there on July first so I can move in.
When I told my mom I was moving out, she was somewhat upset with me with how sudden it was, and was upset I didn't give her enough tim... | NTA. Why would she assume she would be going? It's very odd. ###### |
We're 28. We're dual citizens of the US and the place we currently live. We both have cushy jobs with a multi-national, but back home I used to drive big rigs and busses, my side job here is a home-call mechanic. Her side job is as a fixed wing medivac pilot.
She might fly planes well, but she can't drive cars. She f... | NTA. why tf she's so worried about driving faster? Are you guys late? Or does she like living stupidly dangerous? ###### |
My gf’s birthday was today and she wanted to do a social distance get together with our friends (With our city having a really low amount of COVID cases they relaxed a lot of restrictions). Our mutual friends consist of us, and two other woman: and we all met in high school. Our one friend, let’s call her M, recently g... | NTA. Why should you have to be around someone who clearly caused you some trauma, honestly those friends should try to understand your perspective on this. Though to play devil's advocate for a moment, did he change? Also did the friend who's dating him know about how he used to bully you? ###### |
Today I had someone confront me about my home made face mask. I made a standard face mask with 2 layers of cotton fabric. To make it look cute I added some lace to the front of it. It doesn't affect the functionality of it as far as I know.
I was told that face masks are safety and not for vanity. I was told it's wr... | NTA. Why must practical things look utilitarian? We might as well make masks look good, we’ll be wearing them for a while. ###### |
So my girlfriend and I can’t see each other in person so we’ve been doing video chats during dinner and stuff like that. We have a words with friends game going and also she’ll sometimes play me at chess online. The thing is with chess is she’s one of those chess nuts who spends a ton of time practicing and reading mov... | NTA. Why is she your girlfriend if she belittles you this much? She can't be enjoying your chess games for any reason other than that she's kicking your ass. I guess she really likes making it clear how much better than you she is, and when deprived of that opportunity she throws a fit. ###### |
I (24M) still live at home, I'm aiming to move out within the next two years.
My sister (18F) usually lives with my dad but has been spending more time with us, shes been with her boyfriend for 3 years, I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2.
My mother is obsessed with the idea of having a grandchild, she wont... | NTA. Why is it that some parents feel it’s okay to bully their children into reproducing?
Keep your foot down on this one OP. ###### |
My roomate and I aren't the most well off people but I like to save a bit of cash and buy the good stuff. Butter instead of margerine, fresh instead of packaged. It's like the ONE thing I splurge on to try and be healthy.
I asked if it was cool to have our own shelves in the fridge since we often buy similar things a... | NTA. Why is it fine for him to eat your food, but the second the shoes on the other foot he packs a sad? This will hopefully teach him some boundaries! ###### |
I know how I might be wrong. Calling my wife out in public, adhering to a sexist stereotype, etc. I know hoe she might be in the wrong, lying and adhering to a sexist stereotype.
So, let’s start the story. Yesterday, a couple of my friends, my wife and I were video chatting. Casually, someone asked who was the bread... | NTA. Why is her friend asking about her finances and why is she lying about them? ###### |
Last summer, I signed a one-year lease on a three-bedroom apartment along with two of my friends. All was well for two weeks until one of these friends accepted a job offer in another city and wanted out of the lease.
Myself and the other friend managed to find another temporary roommate for 8 months but this temporar... | NTA. Why is he not sympathetic for your side? He caused the problem, it's his problem, he should be solving the problem. ###### |
Hi, I had to get this off of my chest because I’m still stewing about it. This happened yesterday.
My state is slowly lifting covid sanctions so my parents decided to drag me and my brother to a plant nursery. Afterward, we stopped by my parents’ friend’s house to drop off some trees we had bought for them. We were o... | NTA. Why drag you along and leave you no way to get back when you have to work the next day? They could have dropped you off and returned, rather than keeping you stranded there *for hours*. ###### |
So me and a friend rent an apartment together. Her mom recently just came to stay for a little bit because her water is off in her house. Recently I found out that her mom has been using my things.
For example: My spray on deodorant, toothpaste, bodywash, shampoo, towels, loofah, etc.
It grossed me out because I don'... | NTA. Why does she not have her own stuff to use? That is just weird. ###### |
I (16f) found out a few days ago from doing an ancestry kit that my dad isn’t my real dad . That wouldn’t have bothered me that much but it turns out that my biological father was my mother’s ex boyfriend who my mum cheated on with my dad.
Bio dad didn’t know my mum was pregnant until after I was born as she ended it ... | NTA. Why do parents even lie about this stuff? It's only going to lead to drama down the line... ###### |
My f17, Brother in law m37,
He has been violating my privacy lately, :going into my room without my premission, taking my phone without premission, he's been all around bossy and asshole.
When he found out about me posting about him online, he said he'd tell on me to my sister, but he didn't.
After what happened I set... | NTA. Why did you delete the video? You WANTED proof of what he was doing, right?
The antidote to lies is not fear, it is the truth. ###### |
I was a vegetarian for 3 years, and since been a vegan short over 3 years. My old sister a vegetarian for around 6 years and my youngest sister a vegetarian for around 4 years.
My parents are divorced and my sisters and I live with my dad and see my mom probably once a week. My dad has been a vegetarian for as long a... | NTA. Why are people like this, it’s not cute. ###### |
So I sometimes make desserts, majority cakes, but I haven’t really been able to do so in the past few months because of school and work. However, because of the things currently going on in the world, I’m not working at the moment so I’ve had a lot of free time recently. Just two weeks ago, I was finishing decorating a... | NTA. Who volunteers somebody else’s time without even talking to them? And then your cousin has the nerve to badmouth you about it? The level of entitlement here is insane. Your cousin should have realized she messed up not asking you before, and went and bought a cake to fix her own mess. ###### |
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My brother decided to propose and had me help pick it out. We decided to get her one with a middle stone that was 2.5 carats, with a baguette on each side that was about 1 carat each. Brother proposed she said yes but she was upset, saying she expected a bigger ring since he makes enough to buy her 5k rin... | NTA. Who the hell turns their nose up at a 40k ring? Shit. If anything she should have protested that he spent that much!
You just saved him some heartache. ###### |
My dad’s friend, “Carla,” recently lost her appartement due to the virus. We had a spare bedroom so my dad asked me (16m) and his girlfriend if Carla could move in and we both said sure. No one had any symptoms but just in case we disinfected the whole house before and after she moved in and she took a shower as soon a... | NTA. Who tf does Carla think she is? ###### |
This guy I worked with asked for a ride home after our shift, we both live in the same town, so I said sure. He said after work he had to get somethings at a store close by.
work ends we get in my car and I needed to stop for gas. I get to the gas station and fill my tank, I paid by CC at the pump. After I am done fil... | NTA. Who steals from someone doing them a favor? Assholes, that's who. ###### |
This is another of those super low stakes situations that we both find hilarious but also feel so correct on.
Several years ago (yes years), I was toasting myself a bagel. I asked my wife in the other room if she would like one and she said yes. So I made two. I asked her what she would like on her bagel. She said jam... | NTA. Who knew? I like jam on an everything bagel haha, so frankly my mind is being opened as we speak.
Edit: how on earth did this comment get so many upvotes haha ###### |
My MIL (mother in law) is coming in 2 weeks and staying with us for 2 days while she visits the Eye Hospital...which I was completely fine with. However, she called today and wants to bring 3 of the grandchildren and extend her stay for 4 nights. We already have a 15 month old and 2 children from my husband's previous ... | NTA. Who is supposed to watch the extra kids while MIL is visiting the hospital? Unless the answer is your husband than the other kids can visit another time. ###### |
So me and a friend rent an apartment together. Her mom recently just came to stay for a little bit because her water is off in her house. Recently I found out that her mom has been using my things.
For example: My spray on deodorant, toothpaste, bodywash, shampoo, towels, loofah, etc.
It grossed me out because I don'... | NTA. Who in their right mind uses someone else's towel and loofah?! 🤢 ###### |
Me and my husband are trying for a baby right now and his parents know about it. They told my sister in law I guess, we don’t have a bad relationship even tho we live far away, we still talk. She called me and brought up the baby topic, asked me if we were really trying and I told her yes. She asked “why now? There’s a... | NTA. Who does she think she is to tell you when you can have YOUR baby? Smh some people. ###### |
my partner when they were younger had issues with some older men saying they hoped they shaved their genitals. My partner mentioned something today about how bare female genitals make them uncomfy and said anyone who wants to be with someone who shaves is a creep. I asked what purpose pubic hair served, cause I honestl... | NTA. While I understand your partners troubles you are not obligated to stand with them. Also I agree that wether you shave or not isn’t anyone’s business but your own. Of course people can have preferences but it remains your choice. ###### |
I imagine this is going to be a bit of an ESH, but here's the context:
I have a nonbinary coworker, I'll call Ash, who unfortunately had their deadname printed on our weekly schedule for the first few weeks of their employment. They made it very clear to everyone they don't like to be referred to by it, and go by they... | NTA. While I get why you feel guilty about it, it was done to prove a point. And sometimes things like this are the only thing bigots understand. Good for you for standing up! ###### |
My sister been addicted to drugs for about 3 years now, she’s addicted to Heroin and Fentanyl and just start using something called Purple down.
She has down a lot of awful things to get her fixed, like steal money from her family and sell her body, she claims now that she got everything under control which I don’t re... | NTA. While I dont think rehab is always the solution for addiction, if your sister has been telling you she will quit on her own for this long, it's time for her to face facts and get some help. If her fiance has been blind to her addiction for this long, you did the right thing telling him. It wouldn't be right to le... |
We had a staff meeting via zoom few hours ago.
One of our coworkers was in the “protests” and was joining the meeting from there, I tried to ignore the loud noises behind him.
Then in the middle of the meeting, he turned off the front camera and switched it to the back camera and started streaming what was going on ... | NTA. Whether you agree with the protests or not it's extremely inappropriate to join a meeting in the middle of one. ###### |
A couple days ago my wife mentioned that our daughter wanting her ears pierced for her upcoming 7th birthday.
I was caught by surprised with this conversation as my daughter had gotten her ears pierced just the year before. My wife proceeded to clarify that our daughter wanted 3 piercings in each earlobe like herself.... | NTA. Whether or not a 7-year old should have three piercings in each ear isn’t really the issue here. Your wife made a parenting decision, and communicated that decision to a child (thus raising her hopes for her birthday fun) without consulting you first for discussion. So you get no say, and then have to be the bad ... |
So two weeks ago, my husband asked my opinion on cosigning a loan for his sister. I told him that honestly, I didn't like the idea at all and to please not do it, for consideration of our financial future.
His sister had her last car impounded twice for whatever reasons. The prior one to that, she wrecked and was then... | NTA. When you’re married financial decisions should be made together. He asked your opinion and you gave it, then he co-signed the loan anyway, knowing that she has a poor payment history. ###### |
To preface this I'm 23 (m) and she's 20 (f), I quit smoking cigarettes for her when we started dating 2 years ago. That was a deal breaker for her and I respected that and chose her over my vice. Fast forward 2 years and now she's coming into her own and finding herself and wants to "go wild instead of being responsibl... | NTA. When you’re in a relationship, you’re entitled to expressing your feelings on issues like this. If it’s a dealbreaker for you, so be it. ###### |
Hey everyone, I’m a 22 yo girl living in Florida with my parents. I’m the oldest of 3. My parents are very strict asian parents. Lately, my mental health has been slipping from the current events. I find happiness with taking long drives, walking around parks, and being outside in nature. I do so with safety precaution... | NTA. When you have strict parents, sometimes the *only* way to live your *own* life is to go low/no contact.
They’ll only get stricter, since you’re no longer a child that they legally have control over.
They’re gonna get stricter because they have to convince you, an adult, that their word is law. ###### |
For context : My brother and sister in law have a one year old. I have a one and a half year old. I am a stay at home mom. My husband is doing online nursing classes and the majority of his time is filled with studying. My sister in law is working from home since the lock down (she has a desk job that is primarily don... | NTA. When someone asks you for a favor it is on your terms. Why should you pack up your own kid twice to watch her kid while she sits right there? Doesn't even make sense. ###### |
***Happened in October and recently came up in conversation***
I made a reservation at a nice restaurant for my anniversary. Our reservation was for 8:30 p.m. but the hostess said they were running a little behind. After 20 minutes of waiting, a couple walked in behind us and asked for a table. They didn’t have reser... | NTA. When I was pregnant I wouldn't have asked someone to give up a reservation. I wouldn't have expected special treatment for something like that... I don't think I even made a big deal about needing a seat in crowded places. ###### |
So to start with, me (20F) and a guy (19M) we'll call him kai, have been dating for a few weeks, but friends for well over a year. Not a full relationship but definitely on the path. For context I've always interpreted the saying "dont threaten me with a good time" as a sarcastic way of saying "that wouldn't be so bad"... | NTA. When I read this, I laughed because I knew you were saying that "Don't threaten me with not being on this earth because I'd gladly take it!". Comedy gold. I can understand the shock value, and him wanting clarification, but after explaining your interpretation and he still hangs up, is a bit childish. You're obvi... |
So yesterday was my boyfriend's birthday and we had a small lunch celebration with his family. My boyfriend doesn't like chocolate cake while his family and I love it. He likes ube cake, which no one else in his family likes. So I decided to bake two cakes, a larger 10 inch chocolate cake for me and his family and a sm... | NTA. When I read the title, I thought you ONLY made a cake he wouldn’t like. But you didn’t—you went to the extra effort of making a dessert you knew he liked, and another that you knew others would enjoy as well. I would never expect people to eat food they expressly disliked on my birthday, it’s honestly pretty imma... |
So this literally just happened and I personally don't feel I am the asshole but apparently According to everyone else I am.
So here's the story.
My brother has 3 kids all under the age of 5. They have had head lice atleast 4 times, this time I think makes the 5th time they've had it.
We ALL know EXACTLY where it co... | NTA. What. The. Fuck.
They're assholes for sending their kids to head-lice place.
They're assholes for making someone else clean up.
They're assholes for thinking you're an asshole for not cleaning up for them.
They're mega assholes for sending their kids to head-lice place more than once.
God this is making me a... |
My nearly 12yo daughter has developed an interest all things beauty related. She is constantly going on about changing her hair colour, getting her nails done, makeup and even piercings.
At first I was accommodating to her wanting to experiment with her appearance. I allowed her to get blonde highlights done, bought h... | NTA. What you’re doing is parenting and it is your job not to give in to all your daughter’s demands, particularly when they permanently affect her body. You’ve already allowed her to get away with a lot (as is your right) but now you’ve given her a boundary, you need to stick to it.
And who knows, when she is 18 or ... |
For the first time in ages (because of corona) me and my girlfriend went to a VERY nice fancy restaurant. This is important because normally I woudn’t make a fuss but since the food was so nice and very expensive i made an exception.
We go to the restaurant (she is driving). When get there they are about to close, th... | NTA. What the hell, she just wanted you to not have dinner because she couldn't be bothered to turn around? And now she's mad at YOU? Is this a major anomaly or is she always this awful and selfish? ###### |
30 years ago my grandfather dug a well. It supplies our home and has a pump to supply water to a mini water tower thing to give our homes water pressure.
Another person built a house nearby and there was an agreement for them to plumb into our fresh water supply for limited domestic use: Cooking, cleaning, toilets etc... | NTA. What the heck is the point of filling and emptying the pool? Is this some pool maintenance strategy I’m not aware of? ###### |
My (34f) husband (33m) has terrible allergies. This time of year his nose is always running. This is not his fault. However, what he uses to blow his nose blows -my- mind. Bathroom and hand towels (his and mine), kitchen towels, shirts, my sweaters, socks (both clean and used)- anything. And on top of this, he leaves w... | NTA. What the fuck? Seriously? Wipe your nose in a hanky or a tissue and literally nothing else why did you even need to ask this question? Your husband is disgusting. ###### |
Throwaway, because SIL knows my main account.
My (36F) SIL (32F) is an extremely unlikable person.
She often takes advantage of her disability and eating disorders. As in, if you were arguing with her, she would pull that card on you. Or if she was being extremely rude and mean to you, she'd end the conversation wit... | NTA. What she said, only a week after your miscarriage, is inexcusable. Also, it’s not b/c she’s anorexic or disabled, it’s because she’s a crap person. If her husband separated from her b/c she cheated, that’s on her for cheating.
Also, what’s up with your husband defending HER after what she said to you (and knowin... |
First time poster, standard on mobile disclaimer.
I am not close to my mom. I am the scapegoat child and she dismisses my thoughts as if they don't matter. She is also a fundamentalist Christian, doesn't believe in COVID and thinks the government lies to her all the time.
She told me yesterday she had close contact t... | NTA. What she is doing is dangerous. If she was any simpler, she would be sold in the produce section. ###### |
I want to start by saying my sister and I don't have the BEST relationship.
She didn't meet me until she was 18 because my mom had her has a teenager and put her up for adoption. Her adoptive family provided for her but even though her adoption was an open adoption they hate that she has a relationship with her birth ... | NTA. What she did was pretty shitty. A day before the wedding like seriously?!
I suggest you dont call her at all for your own sanity. She didnt hesitate then why are you hesitating. ###### |
This happened some time ago but I haven't mentally resolved this yet, so now I am asking Reddit to hopefully give me some closure!
I (M) once hosted a home party for my best (guy) friend and about five girls that came along. I know all of these people so I was fine with it, But during the party, some of the girls aske... | NTA. What kind of jackass thinks he can just invite strangers to a friends house? ###### |
My husband and I (24m and 21f) are expecting a baby boy in August and a lot of the family wants to come visit us once he’s born to see him. One family member is my cousin, Nicky (21f). Nicky and I are close in age and pretty much grew up together. She’s always been a very entitled and mean spirited person because her p... | NTA. What kind of a person threatens to shake an infant? Your family are the AH for tolerating that and saying it was just a joke.
You are doing the right thing. ###### |
I'll try to keep this short. Me and my long-time girlfriend live together in Florida. My girlfriend is Irish and I am American. I normally fly an American flag in our lawn because I think it looks nice and ties the house together with a dash of 'murican patriotism. Sometimes I fly the Irish flag below the American flag... | NTA. What happened to land land of the free and freedom of expression. You fly your flag ###### |
I'm the middle of three. I have a younger sister (25) and an older brother (30). I'm 27. My parents, over the years, saved up 30k to be split between my sister and I for when we eventually got married, which would be 15k each.
My sister got engaged before me, and they planned their wedding for April 2020. As you can ... | NTA. What happened sucks, but no, you aren’t wrong for being upset about it. Being told that you have $15k waiting for your wedding and then having it taken away would upset most people. ###### |
I had two sons from my first marriage that are now teenagers. I’m remarried and 6 months ago we had a baby girl. This baby is my wife’s first. I totally get what it’s like to be a worried first time parent and it’s not like I’m not worried about certain things, but with others, it’s my third time around. I’ve been the... | NTA. What does she mean you shouldn’t “remind her of your past”? You have two other kids. You’re a grown up. You had a life before her and that’s a fact she has to accept. It sounds like she’s insecure about her own parenting skills and projecting onto you. ###### |
Okay, hear me out. I live in a complex that is built in a circle so its like a track. A lot of people use it to run, walk, etc. I've always used it to run/walk as well. I live in Florida so I usually wear leggings and a sports bra or a tank top. I literally only wear it because it's insanely hot here.
This woman alway... | NTA. What did she expect? Her goal was to make you feel like crap. You don't have to accept that. Good for you. Mayne she'll think twice in the future. ###### |
So, I had this big pot with menstrual cups in it on the stove. The pot was sort of covered with a lid and when I left the kitchen for a few minutes my roommates boyfriend (34) apparently walked in and checked what was inside the pot. He gave me a weird look when I returned, but I didn't think anything of it.
Later,... | NTA. What business has your roommate's boyfriend looking into pots that aren't his? If he can't handle seeing a clean piece of silicone swimming in boiling water, then he shouldn't snoop. ###### |
A friend was just complaining that he got an Amber Alert close to 3 in the morning. I just casually showed him that you could switch it off. He thanked me, and I guess he showed it to a bunch of people.
Eventually that spread until my girlfriend found out that I switched off my Amber Alerts and confronted me about it... | NTA. What are you supposed to do if you get an alert at 3 AM?
No, the missing person is not in my bedroom. I don't intend to get dressed, get into my car, and drive around aimlessly. Thank you for waking me for no purpose whatsoever. ###### |
Okay I know this is weird. Me and my SO just moved into a new 2 bedroom apartment. We planned to make the second smaller room an office. One of our neighbors from the apartment next door introduced herself as we were moving our stuff in. She’s very chatty and outgoing and we hit it off right away.
She says we seem co... | NTA. What an extremely bizarre request. Why doesn't she move HER room or bed? Or invest in some sound dampening stuff for the wall? Or get a white noise machine? She has a lot of nerve trying to tell you where to sleep and bang in your own apartment. ###### |
This happened a couple years ago, but I recently remembered that it happened and can't stop thinking about if I was in the wrong.
I (20F) had just finished work and decided to grab a drink at Starbucks before catching my train home. Two girls (I'm assuming college age) walked in right after me, and as I was waiting in... | NTA. What a strange encounter! You are definitely not obligated to tell any stranger your name. No is a complete sentence. The only person acting contrary to typical social decorum was HER. ###### |
For context, I have tritanopia colorblindness and I've been bullied for it my whole life. I recently told my friend about it and the questions started pouring in - stuff like 'what color is this', 'read this', stuff like that. I have no problem with joking around about it, but they took it too far.
They kept laughing ... | NTA. Weird thing for someone to make fun of and also not okay of them. The best part of having friends is we get to choose who are friends are and it sounds like they’re not much of one. Surround yourself with people who care about you, don’t waste time on those who don’t ###### |
Me - (29M) my wife - Laura (26F) old friend - Shawn (31M)
So my wife and I actually got married in December 2016 so this situation is really fucking bizarre.
An old friend of mine recently got in touch with me after we lost contact many years ago and he saw that I’m married. I didn’t tell him this because we weren’t ... | NTA. Weddings are fun and great and I love going to them but they are not about me or anyone who is not one of the people actually getting married! This is your life! You're allowed to do whatever the hell you want! You wanted a quiet and sudden courthouse wedding, you got one. Done and done. ###### |
I (16M) and my brother (12M) live with joint custody between my mom (51F) and dad (53M).
My brother used to have a friend (we’ll call him A) in elementary school. They were never super close and I have never liked A because he is really whiny and spoiled because his parents are very rich. A has a college age brother ... | Nta. We’re supposed to be social distancing and even if we didn’t have to, why should you have to go camping with people that you don’t like? ###### |
My sister is a single mom, and is also unemployed. She has a 1 month old and just before she gave birth she asked to move in with me because she couldn’t pay her rent anymore and her landlord wasn’t going to let her renew her lease. Now I don’t really like my sister, she’s always gotten preferential treatment by our pa... | NTA. We pay taxes so that people like your sister have access to women’s shelters. It’s not “my house or she’ll starve on the street” if you live in any country with a social welfare system. She needs to apply for welfare benefits and social housing because this situation is unsustainable and you think you’re helping ... |
I know he automatically sounds like TA, but hear me out. I may be TA.
I (30f) found out today my uncle died. My mom was trying to get a hold of him, couldn't, had police do a wellness check, and it appears he died several days ago.
My mom is beyond devastated, and I'm very sad too. My uncle had a hard life, but was ... | NTA. We all handle grief in different ways. He was out of line for dismissing your feelings. Grieve however you need to and for some, the grief never ends; it just gets easier to process. Look up grief button on google and it details really well how grief affects us as an ongoing thing. You’ve had 3 people who you wer... |
So I created a throwaway cause Ill be reveling some facts that would me easy to dox if I used my normal reddit account.
Im a Civilian and I work for the US Army in Korea. Recently due to COVID19 I was put under what they call a Public Health Emergency which has placed restrictions on what Im allowed to do. One of thos... | NTA. Was she aware about this rule for you? Either way, the taxi seemed to have gotten her home just fine. ###### |
My (F23) cousin (F28) got married a few weeks ago. She paid for flights so my parents and I could be there. They were around 200€ each. She decided I could bring a +1 but she wouldn’t pay for their flight. A few months before I got the invite I started dating my girlfriend Maggie. I asked her if she wanted to be my +1 ... | NTA. Was fully prepared to call you an asshole but your reason for cancelling is that your cousin is being a biphobic asshole. She invited you with a guest and offered to pay for your flight, then revoked your guest because it was too gay for her. No reason you should pay for the privilege of not attending her wedding... |
I went over to this guys house to hook up. I am 19 years old, female, and live with my parents while I attend college. They are strict Christians. I do not have enough to move out as rent is a minimum of 1k a month where I live and minimum wage is 8 an hour. Anyway I got back and my mother took my car and has grounded ... | NTA. Wait, they grounded you and took your car? Um, no, if the car is in your name they can not take that away from you. Do you have a friend you can stay with to get away from them? Your mother sounds like an absolute asshole though, yelling at you in a store for something that is none of her business. ###### |
Two days ago my(22F) dad (52) accidentally found out that I‘m gay. I was listening to music and was on Tinder and didn’t notice that he was in the room. He came up behind me and saw what I was doing. There was no point in denying it (he knows how the app works) and I thought that this might be the time to finally get t... | NTA. wait until you're ready. ###### |
It’s my boyfriends adult sons birthday next week. My boyfriend volunteered me without my permission to clean his entire house. I told him no and he got very mad at me. He has volunteered me to clean other relatives/friends houses too. He said I was being selfish and lazy. I know it’s his birthday, but I’m certain he c... | NTA. Volunteering someone *else's* time and effort isn't a call anyone but the person themselves should be making so casually. If he was so set on getting the house cleaned for his son's birthday, he should've offered himself or *asked* and gone from there. ###### |
I will try to keep this as concise as possible.
My wife and I have been together for going on 27 years. We met at a pretty low point in both of our lives, coming from broken homes and an unhealthy dependency on food. We both probably weighed around 300lbs, and though our weight has fluctuated over the years we both c... | NTA. Versions of this scenario are posted here all the time from both sides; judgement is still the same, she’s an adult, she can either get food for herself or eat what the person who is cooking for the house is making. You aren’t obligated to cook something you don’t want just to appease her. ###### |
I’m gonna keep this short because I’m getting madder by the second.
So me and my boyfriend plan to move in together after New Years. We both live at home with our families right now and we’re just too old for this and need our privacy. The big problem per the title is that his high school age sister has a dog that sh... | NTA. Usually when this topic comes up it's someone wanting their partner to get rid of a preexisting pet to accommodate them. But it sounds like you were planning to move in together prior to him accepting this dog, in which case he definitely should be consulting you and have it be a joint decision. You didn't agree ... |
Last night my partner had a uni exam that went quite late. I cooked dinner and we ate it upstairs in bed.
This morning I saw that he peed into one of the tupperware containers we keep food in after finishing his dinner. I told him it was absolutely repulsive because that's where we keep food. He said it shouldn't matt... | NTA. Urinating in food containers was a thing you expressed to be gross, then he mixed the tupperware containers up so you have to perpetually wonder which one's the pisserware? Yikes.
Can he hold his bladder to get to the cold, far-away bathroom, does he have a medical issue or is he a sloth? Good god, what else is ... |
My mom made the decision on her own to allow my aunt (her sister) and my cousin to move in with us after she lost her job, her home, and essentially became homeless. She never mentioned it to me and I'm not heartless.. I understand what's going on, but they have been here for two weeks now and I cannot stand it.
The r... | NTA. Unplug the internet until he has a shower..If he doesn't like it then simply change the password until he does start to like it. ###### |
Basically I went out on my lunch break and left my AirPods on my desk, keep in mind I work in a very small office with 7 other people who I trust.
When I got back to my desk I looked for my AirPods and I was certain I’d left them on my mouse pad as I always do I checked my draws and on the floor in case I’d knocked th... | Nta. Unless you work with your father and you’re 15, this person has no business trying to teach you a lesson. ###### |
I am not English so sorry for any mistakes or missunderstandings ahead of time. I am 27M if that is relevant and the woman was in her early 20's.
2 days ago on Saturday I woke up at like 2 AM(So technically sunday morning I guess) by what I can only describe as weird moans outside my window. When I looked outside ther... | NTA. Unless you were ankle deep in snow she wasn't freezing any time soon. You did a wonderful thing by getting up and helping her by getting her sister there and making sure she was not actually hit by a car or anything. The sister was awful, I would have been so grateful and apologetic if I was in her shoes. You did... |
For starters, he uses my car because his is wrecked (not a car accident, he didn't do repairs when needed and eventually everything started failing). I only have my temps because of the lockdown, and I'm giving it another week or so until the lines are short enough for me to be willing to take the driving test. Since I... | NTA. Unless you want to potentially live with a slob in the future you should make it very clear you won’t tolerate that going forward. ###### |
Me and my wife split when our son was around 4ish, I don't want to go in-depth but she got married almost 3 months after our divorce. We split custody 50/50 so I got him 2 weeks every month and summer while she got him for easter and christmas.
My ex's husband brought 4 kids together with my ex and my son, I don't ... | NTA. Unless you are poisoning your son, but it sounds more like he doesn't like his step siblings or step father. You don't have to solve their problems, but it wouldn't hurt to talk to your son about why he doesn't like spending time there. Maybe there are some easily solveable issues that would make things better fo... |
I know I'm the asshole for that pun, sorry.
Ok so here's the thing, shortly before the quarantine, there was a situation at work. We have a scent sensitive colleague who'd been around for a few months. Naturally, there was a ban on perfumes and scented creams so she can breathe. I'm fine with this. However, she starte... | NTA. Unless the person or workplace wants to reimburse you, you shouldn’t have to come out of your pocket to do trials. They should be sensitive to both of your issues. And if it’s incompatible, maybe assign you to separate spaces. ###### |
I’m actually making this post for my mom, because she doesn’t have a reddit account. I’ll show her the results.
Anyways, we went to a Best Buy today to look at TVs because we’re moving, and our TV is ancient and barely works anymore. When we left the store, we heard a dog barking. A dog was left in a car, not running ... | NTa. Uncaring? You mean, like leaving a dog in a hot car? ###### |
So this is going to be pretty short and simple.
As me and my partner have been starting to plan out the birth of our child I told him I want the two of us to have some time to just bond with the baby. As I have been looking up the rules due to COVID we realised this wouldn’t be a problem. I am allowed one birthing pa... | NTA. Ultimately this is about making sure you have as little stress as you can for giving birth, and without worrying about your babies health etc. Her hurt feelings can be soothed after, a bad labour can cause permanent issues. ###### |
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I am a 55 year old man and my wife is 56. My wife recently got a job in it building I worked at for the past 5 years. I make more than my wife for the same job and I am in a hire position than her and I work longer hours than my wife. My wife thinks that it's sexist that I get payed more than her for the sam... | NTA. U have 5 years of experience working for that company, compared to your wife, plus U work longer hours than her. Definitely, you get higher pay, than her. How can it be sexist?! ###### |
So I've been at the same place for 15+ years. Kinda toxic environment with no chance of moving up in the company any time soon. Been looking at another job making more money and about the same benefits since January. Submitted my resume, took their aptitude test and now scheduled for an interview. Nothing promised but ... | NTA. Two weeks is standard. You owe them nothing more.
Do not tell them you are looking elsewhere. ###### |
So me and my wife (Jessica) have been together for 6 years now married for 1. However throughout that time my MIL (Julia) has always been a little on the distrustful side when it comes to me. For reference my wife is full German and I am a Puerto Rican.
It started off small so I never really cared, comments like “So J... | NTA. Tu suegra es una pendeja racista y si sigue con esa mierda no l dejaría entrar a tu casa ni q vea los nietos si deciden tenerlos hasta q deje sus pendejadas. ###### |
Growing up, my sister had never been supportive of me. We were never very close. I ended moving out very early because we got into a yelling match about her not picking me up from the airport because she got drunk.
A year ago, I moved to a different state for a job and broke up with my then bf. When she came down to h... | NTA. Truthfully, people think that you need to be friends with family. You do not. It doesnt matter that she's your sister if she disrespects you. You don't deserve that. At least, I dont think so, based off the information provided. Good for you for realizing that you dont need someone that disrespectful in your life... |
Background: I dated this guy for 2 almost 3 years. At first everything was fine he is literally the smoothest guy I’ve ever talked to, then all of a sudden something happened with his apartment. He said the lease expired and his landlord was doubling his rent if he renewed it, being 19 at the time I believed him. To ma... | NTA. Truth is truth and you encouraged her to make up her own mind. If he wants a different reputation, let him work on it. ###### |
She snapped me late last night. My "friend." She asked if I would get a letter notarized for her. I thought it was a strange request, because I live in Colorado and in this state the signature must match the ID presented.
I asked her to elaborate on the letter. She said the letter said I am the landlord and her boyfr... | NTA. True friends don’t ask their friends to break the law for them and this sounds like something that can very easily be found out. ###### |
I'm working at home now taking calls about people's loans. I got a call from some woman asking some info about her payment history and then requested a copy. So I said I'd send her a full payment report. And then *click click* "Done"
Silence for a bit. And the she asked "Are you sending it?"
I told her I just did. An... | NTA. Tone police are garbage people who are offended by anything short of theatrically fake enthusiasm by customer service workers. They do not deserve an extra second of your self doubt. Unfortunately, you are likely to encounter them from time to time in any customer facing role. ###### |
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