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(Posted on behalf of someone who doesn’t have reddit - I’ve been discussing this all day with her)
My (57 F) daughter (32) recently gave birth and called and let me know hours after the birth. I was the first person she told but I think it’s strange she didn’t ring me immediately. She didn’t have a long labour and was... | YTA. You aren’t entitled to anything. It doesn’t matter how long your daughters labor was. If she didn’t call you until she had a minute, that’s all you need to know. As far as waving through the window? Nope. Your daughter will let you know when she’s comfortable with guests coming to see the baby. End of story. ####... |
As a bit of background. When my son was 17 he came out to me and my wife. I accepted him but my wife didn't this lead into a big argument between him and I vs my wife that almost ended physical. It ended with me and him packing our bags in moving in with my parents for a while. After 2 weeks she and I had a sit-down an... | YTA. You aren't neutral, you're on her side. No one is obligated to forgive their abuser even if they've changed. I do feel for you though and am grateful you did initially try to help him. Still though, he doesn't have to reunite with someone that made him miserable. ###### |
I (26M) live with my girlfriend (26F) of two years in Paris. She’s French, and I am American.
My job is 100% in English. I can say a couple very basic French phrases, but that’s it. Nothing more.
My girlfriend is totally fluent in English as she attended college in the UK, so there is no communication barrier ther... | YTA. You are underestimating the mental load that she has taken on. How do you deal with all the paperwork, bills, finances etc when you don't speak French? What about when you go out with your friends? Or when you go to a restaurant? Do you expect her to translate everything for you? Or do you expect everyone else ar... |
Diagnosed with a kidney disease that ended up shutting my kidneys down back in 2017 and ended up on dialysis which has been a marathon of surgerys and hospital visits due to complications. I am on the waiting list for a deceased kidney but still looking at another 2-4 years before getting an offer. I’ve had several fri... | YTA. You are not entitled to his body parts. I'm very sorry for what you're going through but that doesn't mean he owes you something. Also TA for making it sound like your life is more valuable because you have kids and he doesn't and trying to make him sound shallow by saying this will interfere with travel plans. I... |
I've worked at this company for 3 years. my 3 year anniversary landed on the same day of my SO proposing and to top it off I'm getting promoted. I was expect at least something from my coworkers. like small party, gift, nothing fancy.
I was pretty hurt when I came in that week to find nothing. there were congrats and ... | YTA. You are not entitled to a party. The fact that you cried to your fiancé about not getting a party and then having him basically TELL your coworkers to throw one is actually ridiculous. You should be embarrassed about acting like that. Also, you should’ve asked before taking someone’s food home. It’s common courte... |
I've been going to see the same stylist for about a year before coronavirus. We had a lot in common (by coincidence, I happened to be visiting his hometown a great deal that year because several friends had moved there), but I guess in retrospect this friendliness was probably part of his 'sales patter.'
After the loc... | YTA. You are getting way too mad over nothing. Literally fighting to keep your business alive during a pandemic will keep you busy. Don't take it so much to heart. ###### |
Last year, my daughter was in 5th grade and my son was in 1st grade. Their elementary school has an earlier pick up time for 1st graders than 5th graders, and I work an hour away from their school. Consequently, I chose to put my 5th grader in afterschool care at the YMCA and to bring my 1st grader home to be cared for... | YTA. You are emotionally abusive. Go home, hug the fuck out of them and stop putting pressure like that on your kids. ###### |
So this whole situation is ridiculous, and she's technically my ex gf I suppose.
My 30 m ex chloe 27 of 6 month's has a medical condition called fibromyalgia, she used to be 5'1 and 180 pounds, but since got down to 140 pounds via diet but no exercise.
I always said no exercise would come back to bite her in the ... | YTA. You are clearly the worst personal trainer in the world if you think somebody can just shrug off fibromyalgia and start going hard in the gym. Your ignorance about medical conditions is astounding and the advice that you give people is so bad it's going to get somebody serious hurt or perhaps even killed.
You di... |
I’ve been living with my roommate for about 2 years now, we have a really nice arrangement and get on well. When we both moved in, we both had boyfriends. She broke up with hers soon after, and I’m still with mine. Initially when we moved in, we had an agreement that we’d only have sex if the other one wasn’t home as t... | YTA. You are basically using your boyfriend as a sex doll in some petty ass pissing contest between you and your roomie. You are very much the TA. ###### |
A bit of background: I was involved in a bit of bad stuff. Let's say I did some illegal things. Like "sell sweets". But one day I got caught and got taken to prison. This was around the time my son was born. Now my wife was scared for her life and divorced me and moved out of the house we lived in.
Now I had come out ... | YTA. you are absolutely TA. let's break it down
• you got your wife and child involved in illegal acts.
this goes without saying. if you've changed enough to see how wrong and bad and blah blah blah it is, where is your apology to her for putting her through that?
• the second you went to jail, your wife divorced ... |
My stepdaughter and I don’t get on too well. She’s 18, and I’m 27, so she massively dislikes that there’s an age gap between her father and I, he’s 35. My boyfriend and her mother were together until about 3 years ago, when her mom left and literally just never came home. She’s heard from her about 5 times in the past ... | YTA. You are a stranger in HER house. It’s not your house. You just got there. That’s her house where her mother and father lived. Her mother abandoned her and the first thing you say to her is she’s the reason her mother left??? That’s extremely fucked up and there’s something wrong with you for feeling in any way ju... |
My daughter in law, Katy, is currently 37 weeks pregnant with my first grandchild, a baby girl. I really love Katy, her and my son have been together about 6 years now and I have a good relationship with her, but we’ve recently come to a head on this discussion.
Due to COVID, the hospital Katy plans on delivering her... | YTA. You are a manipulator. You waited until your son was away from his wife, and then attempted to strong-arm her into complying with your wishes. To make matters even worse, you targeted a pregnant woman, who is already in a vulnerable state due to hormones, etc. I doubt this is the first time you’ve done something ... |
My friend was just died in a car crash last week. She was dating this guy [18M] for a year. He is also my friend.
He has been in a lot of emotional pain. I was visiting him. I wanted to help him get over his loss by showing him his relationship was not so perfect. So I showed him some texts that his gf sent to me abou... | YTA. You are a HUGE asshole. Your friend was confiding in you, even if she shouldn’t have been talking about him behind his back and should’ve said it to his face. Not only did you screw over your DEAD friend, you ruined any positive memories he had of her that you could’ve let him keep and caused him more pain. #####... |
My brother started dating this new girl and I realized I recognized her from AA. I’m not an addict, but my lawyer recommended I attend some AA meetings to help strengthen my DUI case (and before you get on my ass for it, I made a mistake months back and got through it). I know it’s her because I remember her very uniqu... | YTA. You are a GIGANTIC asshole. Do you not know the definition of the word ANONYMOUS? It is completely wrong to reveal anything people talked about in those meetings! That is their safe space and you just violated it. ###### |
So my sister is older than me. She had two failed marriages due to the men cheating and had three kids between those. She works as a baker, cook, caterer at our local university. She has a trailer that was rent to own and she struggles a lot. She was in college but “took a few semesters off” when she got pregnant the f... | YTA. You are 22. You should get a job so that your grandfather can retire. If you are trying everything and can’t get a job right now that’s different because the world is a tough place right now. Does not sound like you are.
I get that you don’t take criticism easily from your sister but she is right and concerned a... |
My daughter needed a hair cut so we went to the salon. The hairdresser had bright pink hair and her whole entire ear pierced. My daughter was very fascinated by this. She mentioned that she would like pink hair and was going on how she would also like many earrings one day too.
My daughter was adamant she wanted pink ... | YTA. You and your husband should make decisions about your children together. ###### |
My daughter never knew her dad.
I met my now boyfriend ten years ago, but because of his addiction and personal issues, we were on again off again.
For the last two years, I didn’t see much of him because he was doing rehab and serving out his probation term.
We reconnected near New Year’s Eve 2019 and he’s reall... | YTA. You and your BF are picking and choosing your faith. The Quran doesn’t exactly approve of premarital sex but y’all are living together. Ooookay. Don’t force your beliefs on your daughter, especially when you’re not that strong a believer yourself. ###### |
13 years ago my family won a wrongful death lawsuit for the death of my husband and as part of the settlement my daughter gets access to a trust fund when she turns 21.
The trust fund would give her almost $40,000 a year until she turns 30.
I feel like that’s a lot of money for someone that would be 21 when it start... | YTa. You allowed your child to drop out of high school and think that’s okay? What happens when she turns 30 and the money runs out, she has no education, and TikTok has been shut down? ###### |
My older sister (K) and I are both attending the same college this year, I am living in the dorms (as a freshman) and she is living in an off-campus apartment. I was all packed up and excited to go until K came into my room the day we were supposed to leave to tell me she was doing remote learning this semester. She s... | YTA. You actually had the choice to stay on campus but chose to go back to your home, it’s all your fault, next semester you can try to go on campus again ###### |
I’m deeply ashamed of this but 10 years ago I had cps called on me. There was no abuse but we were trying to be vegan without cooking, I was very uninformed, and my kids weren’t getting proper nutrition. I took classes and we transitioned to vegetarianism and as of right now my boys are 12 and 13 and perfectly healthy.... | YTA. You acknowledge that your children were in danger, and she was right to call CPS. This woman did what was necessary to keep your children alive and well. It would have been hard for her to do. It may be hard now for her to have a relationship with the children knowing that she would also have to have an amicable ... |
My (23M) best friend (23M) bought a house, i moved in and pay him 'rent' every month to cover part if the bills.
I have been with my girlfriend (21) for 5 years and she has pretty much always lived with me at my mums and didn't pay rent (she does have a full time job) because she wants to save money. When i moved in ... | YTA. Yes, your mate might have a double standard for his girlfriend - but it's his flat, he is allowed to do that. Also, you simply assume that his girlfriend doesn't contribute. It's very likely that she does give him money or contribute by buying groceries for him directly.
Regardless of what's going on with his g... |
My mom and wife don’t really get along. My wife said she doesn’t like my parents because they have no morals and they aren’t the greatest people but they aren’t like abusive or cruel or anything. My wife tried to ban my mom from our house because of something that had nothing to do with her and she tried to make it int... | YTA. Yes, yes you did. And I would really like to know what this 'thing that had nothing to do with her' is because I have a strong feeling it is a much bigger deal than you're acknowledging. ###### |
No. I´m not working as something cool like a cop or firewoman or something, unfortunately.
I've worked a lot with horror for the better part of our 5 year old kid´s life.
I do horror events/houses during the halloween season and have, among other projects, some horror themed gigs going on throughout the year (Movie... | YTA. Yes it's normal for young kids to have nightmares but your daughter is dreaming of the characters you are making. Clearly this is having a negative impact on her and you should (at the very least trial) not letting her in the workshop and see if her nightmares improve. ###### |
My stepdaughter (25f) is staying with my (40m) wife (44f) and I temporarily. My son (15m) stays with us every other week. He has online classes while the rest of us have to go to work so he’s alone at home for a good while.
Last week he decided to make a video and used my step daughter’s bras as props. He dyed them,... | YTA. Yes bras cost that much!! Especially good bras!
Either pay for them or expect for there to be tension in the house. It doesn't matter what your wife buys. Her daughter bought other bras that are more expensive.
You are also TA for not raising your 15 year old kid to respect people's belongs and not destroy th... |
Throwaway as daughter uses social media
I have two kids one 18 year old and one 19 year old. The 19 year old who is my daughter was an affair baby. The mom cheated on me and had her. Later her mom passed away and I decided to adopt her. I also adopted my 18 year old son. I treated them both as my own.
Over the pass ... | YTA. Yeah, your daughter sucks for bullying him and under normal circumstances I'd ESH it all day but you just told a girl that her past is a fucking lie in such a horrible, horrible way. Her world just came crashing down. Yeah she was a jerk, but no amount of teenager jerkness justifies what you did. ###### |
So this all started a long time ago, my father re-enlisted after 9/11 to gain the benefits of the post 9/11 GI bill. Which for those who don’t know thatallows you to select one of your family
members to receive essentially a free education at a public college paid for by the government.
At least that’s what he told me... | YTA. Yeah you do sound ungrateful. Most kids don’t get the luxury of having their parents pay their tuition. Your dad didn’t break any promises; he even took out a loan to pay for your entitled ass to go. You chose a school outside the requirements of the GI bill. If it was so easy to look up, why didn’t you do it bef... |
My friends and I were driving and came across a homeless dude. None of us had any cash on us. He looked decent enough. Didn’t look like he was on drugs or anything so I tossed him my credit card and told him to go buy food. My intention was to cancel the card after 30ish minutes I figured since he was homeless he could... | YTA. Wtf ?? So you planned on giving him your card to buy whatever then signal it as stolen so you don’t have to pay for real? It may have led him to be arrested too. You are a jerk.
Next time go to a atm and give him some money so he can buy himself food. Also apologize. And don’t try committing fraud. ###### |
So my ex and I divorced when my kids were 2 and 1. I admit I wasn’t the best dad at first and I went a few months without seeing them which prompted her to take me to court for child support which she she gets from me every month now.
Now my ex keeps the kids and I see them when I can. I work out of town so sometimes... | YTA. Wow. Nice touch calling in your mommy to fight your battle. I can’t imagine why it didn’t work out with your ex. ###### |
This happened a few years ago. I was at a waterpark with a few friends for my birthday. It was a group of 15. We all planned to just pay for ourselves and have a good few hours, but one of my friends decided he would pay for everyone as a gift to me. I tried to talk him out of it but he insisted on spending nearly $600... | YTA. Would it have really killed you to spend the ticket money you would have spent anyway to buy your friend a meal? I get he didn’t have to spend $600 dollars on everyone but you were being ungrateful. The fact that you stay up late at night thinking about this just goes to show you subconsciously already know you’... |
Before you judge, please read everything (I kept it short). I am not blaming him for this.
Yesterday, my son (16M) confessed to me and my wife that he is gay. My wife was counseling him telling him its ok and that we will love him no matter what but I was just speechless. I know it’s not his fault he is gay, and I def... | YTA. Why would it upset you? He can still have a family to pass on your VIP family name on, and he's still a man. You're a homophobe, that's your problem, which makes you TA. ###### |
(Throwaway account for a friend, I'll answer any questions I can)
Background:
I (21F) am 6 and a half months pregnant with my (22M) partner of 6 years.
We already have a 4 year old together, who was an accident but he is the best thing in my life.
The 3 of us are living in 1 room at my partner's mum's (54) bungalow, ... | YTA. Why try for another baby if you cannot financially provide. What’s the outcome you are hoping for here? 3 months time there’s a baby and MIL just has to get over it? ###### |
My daughter (13F) has very long hair, down to the middle of her back. She always wears it down and she doesn't always wash or brush it and it looks very ugly and messy. Seeing as she isn't responsible enough to take care of her own hair properly, I offered to cut it. After all having long hair can take up vitamins and ... | YTA. Why in hell would you mock your kid’s feelings? What in the hell is wrong with you?
And what is up with your ridiculous “vitamins and nutrition” comment? Did you actually start believing the lies you told your daughter to convince her to cut her hair? Or are you actually that woefully uneducated? ###### |
My 49-y-o cousin put my 90-y-o aunt up to informing our family that his 23-y-o daughter died from a drug overdose.
Of course, I sent my cousin my unconditional condolences right away without asking any questions.
Then I looked at his FB page.
“John” posted that prior to his daughter’s death, he spent 13 hours in the... | YTA. Why exactly do you need this information? ###### |
My friend draws art in her spare time and frequently does commissions. I asked her if she could draw something for me and she charged the standard price, which I found a bit steep. I asked if she could just count this as doing a favor for a friend and do it for free and she laughed and called me cheap as a joke.
I did... | YTA. Why do you think you're entitled to her time and talent for free? ###### |
My friend (Lets call him Kenny 17m) posted to his instagram his new computer he built and his caption was "I can't believe I actually was able to build a computer by myself" his computer setup was just meh, it looked like any average modern day setup. Everyone in the comments was congratulating him saying stuff like "B... | YTA. Why do you have to be crappy and make people feel bad about things they feel proud of? Why do you need them to feel worse about their accomplishments? Sure it wasn’t the best cpu ever, but he did it on his own. He should be proud of his hard work. Everyone starts somewhere. You should apologize. ###### |
My son got married last night, no one in the family was happy about it, but it is his life and no one was anything but respectful over it. My wife hates our new DIL. It really was never a major event, but she finds her very annoying and feels like our son has pushed too hard to make us like her. DIL has been rude in th... | YTA. Why did you two even go if you were just going to cause a scene ? ###### |
After my son married his husband, I always assumed I would never have grandchildren ( I only have him and his sister, who’s husband is sadly infertile ). However they recently told our family that they are thinking about raising a kid.
Of course I’m extremely exited about this, so he has been keeping me updated on wha... | YTA. Why did you think you should throw your opinion out there? This isn’t your child. It’s not your family. He doesn’t discuss it with you anymore because you clearly think this is a discussion you can and should be a part of, and it’s just not. ###### |
I teach high school chemistry, but also a few introductory classes at the college. This occurred in the fall semester. Recently, some other science professors and I gathered for the fourth and were discussing students who weren't meant for college and were obviously forced by parents. I told them this situation, in whi... | YTA. Why did you call on a student who has trouble speaking in public and being put on the spot and then nastily shame her for...having trouble speaking in public and ending put on the spot? ###### |
I have sensory processing disorder which means I am extremely sensitive to light and sound. My family does not seem to care and are always very inconsiderate: screaming, keeping bright lights on, etc.
My little sister is scared of the dark. To combat this, she has a HUGE LED light. It lights up my room (directly acros... | YTA. Why can’t you close your door? Or get a sleep mask, or a curtain for the doorway?
Stealing other people’s stuff is not right or justified, even If it bothers you or you asked nicely for them to change. Stealing is wrong. There are better ways to deal with your condition without burning your bridges at home.
T... |
I’m deeply ashamed of this but 10 years ago I had cps called on me. There was no abuse but we were trying to be vegan without cooking, I was very uninformed, and my kids weren’t getting proper nutrition. I took classes and we transitioned to vegetarianism and as of right now my boys are 12 and 13 and perfectly healthy.... | YTA. Why bring up drama from a decade ago? ###### |
My gf has been working on improving her health and skin and one of the thing she’s doing is trying drink enough water each day. I don’t keep track of it but she seems to be doing pretty well, I always see her drinking water. But the issue is... she still drinks a can of soda once a week or so, sometimes less. I noticed... | YTA. Who named you soda police?
Her efforts aren't "literally useless" if she has a soda once a week. Haven't you ever heard of moderation?
A few sodas a month are not cancelling out all her efforts. Good lord.
This has to be a troll, right?! ###### |
So my friend has struggled with infertility for many years. I really feel for her and her efforts on becoming a mother. She told me that her and her husband in the process of adopting a baby. A girl a few cities over is eighteen and pregnant and has reached out to Facebook adoption groups in the area and they connected... | YTA. When you say "That's a little weird" what you are really saying is "*That isn't your baby*" and she knows that. It's an opinion, know when to keep them to yourself ###### |
I apologize in advance for any grammatical errors and weird formatting. I'm on mobile and not a native speaker.
For context me (29f) and my hubs (30m) are medical professionals so I take these things seriously. I've explained to my 6yo (let's call her D) what allergies are when one of her classmates from preschool had... | YTA. When you lie to your children, they learn that they can’t trust you. If you want your child to grow up and respect you, you need to set a good example and that means being honest with her. ###### |
My daughter (14) had anxiety problems ever since she was little but it was not severe. 3 months ago, my daughter changed drastically. She stopped eating, talking to us or her friends and her marks dropped. We were really concerned and her teachers strongly suggested we take her to therapy which we did and she was diagn... | YTA. When my depression developed during my second year at university, my grades plunged. Bad. I’m an honors, straight A student and started failing several tests.
I’ve been in therapy for a year and a half now and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. The reason she’s opening up and becoming more social is... |
No. I´m not working as something cool like a cop or firewoman or something, unfortunately.
I've worked a lot with horror for the better part of our 5 year old kid´s life.
I do horror events/houses during the halloween season and have, among other projects, some horror themed gigs going on throughout the year (Movie... | YTA. What's the matter with you? I hope you're trolling because this reads like you don't care about this child AT ALL. ###### |
Throwaway because I don't want this tied to my main.
My girlfriend is a talented musician. She plays multiple instruments and has an angelic voice. She's dedicated her life to this excruciating task, and it's truly paid off.
My sister has 2 boys, a 10 year-old and a 8 year old. They are extremely active and love r... | YTA. What? You offered up an expensive piece of equipment to a child and then left him unsupervised. You are 100% to blame.
If the kid had dug it out himself I'd probably say your sister should pay. But you literally put it in his hands. Duh. Earth to OP. ###### |
I admit, I do regret it a little but I'll give full context so you can understand. My gf has been writing since she was around 10, and has improved a lot. She primarily writes fanfiction but recently has branched out into original work. She has a decent ish following, and her writing isnt half bad. I supported her all ... | YTA. What you said was selfish and hurtful, and you know it. You clearly said it because you resented the time she was spending on things other than you, which makes you sound like a child. ###### |
A bit of context , my daughter is 14 years old with no disabilities whatsoever , however , she’s extremely terrible at her schoolwork and often get low grades. My wife and I always tried to help her but she just won’t listen to us. So today we were eating dinner and I asked her to put rice on the bowl. Now , I do all t... | Yta. What the hell is actually wrong with you. The kid dropped a bowl ON ACCIDENT. Do you even care about your child at all because it doesn't sound like it.
>my daughter is 14 years old with no disabilities whatsoever , however , she’s extremely terrible at her schoolwork and often get low grades. My wife and I alw... |
we had been talking online for a couple of weeks, she seemed like a cool person and we seemed to get along really well. I drove about 20 minutes to go pick her up. As soon as she stepped in the car the Vibe was way off. She wouldn’t really speak, and I felt like she was sort of ignoring me while constantly texting on h... | YTA. What the fuck? Why didn't you say something to her at least and drive her back home? You could have even made an excuse that there was an emergency then driven her home and just cut off anymore contact. Instead you left her sitting in a theatre wondering where you went with no ride home?
Did she not contact you... |
My wife is a full-time nurse, a mom of two young children and in school for her masters degree. I also work a full-time job and I’m training for a marathon. She pretty much lets me run whenever I need to and I occasionally get to hang out with my friends. She’s pretty good about not saying anything when I need to do wh... | YTA. What on god's green earth would possibly make you in the right here? Your wife is doing an insane amount of work and you act like it's a favor to take care of your own kids. You asked her a question when she was trying to sleep then got pissy that she didn't bring it back up of her own volition...I guess because ... |
I have a 8 year old son who has an awful stutter. My wife used to have a stutter but grew out of it so we've been hoping for the same but thought it would be best if we just got help with it. My wife organised it and was suggested a Mr Timothy 'Surname'. All we knew was that he was good at his job and was 31. Awesome, ... | YTA. What is there to explain? Timothy is a man, that’s all need be said. ###### |
My fiancée and I are getting married in October and I couldn’t be more excited. Currently she’s unemployed because her job permanently shut down due to the lockdown so the income comes from me and her unemployment. I make good money so I don’t care if she gets another job, I can support us.
Money is a little tight lat... | YTA. What exactly do you want her to wear to your wedding? An old dress? Because $350 for a wedding dress is cheap. ###### |
I took my son (8y.o) to the toy store today at the mall to reward him for doing well with his home schooling. While we were there I told him he could walk around the store and pick what he wanted. I pretty much just followed him around.
This store has no music and due to size you can pretty much hear all conversatio... | YTA. What does your 8 year old son know about that? Protect him from what? The ”fetish” was in your brain. As an adult you pieced together what might be going on in your head. Your son probably had no such thoughts, because he’s 8. There was nothing inherently sexual about what they were doing, you connected the dots.... |
My step sister doesn't have a strong or sexy female role model in her life. Our relationship has its ups and downs, but on several occasions she's admitted she wants to learn more from me about make up, clothes and the like. Her mom is a pretty sleazy character and I have no idea why my dad's with her. Still, I can't l... | YTA. What a weird gift to get someone. It’s like going “you look too hairy”. Not to mention teenage girls are already insecure enough without having to look “sexy”. Just. Ew. Dude. Read that back to yourself and remember she’s 17. Not 25.
And I have no clue what waxing or shaving has to do with being a strong female... |
I divorced a few years back, I had daughter(Jenny) and one son from my past marriage. Her mother and my childrens did not take our separation well. They hates my wife(Lisa) also they kind of banished her from all family functions.
Lisa and Jenny were once best friends, I never thought I will fall for her but it jus... | YTA. Well If I understood correctly than you cheated on your wife with your daughters best friend and now you expect them to accept her with open arms. You are one big TA. ###### |
While my girlfriend was out of town, one of our cats peed in a laundry basket of her clothes. There was a lot of pee. It was really gross.
She is upset, however, because I did it without asking first, although she was hard to reach where she was. She says she would have washed them and not thrown them out. There were... | YTA. Washing machines, laundry soap, and enzyme cleaners (that kill the strong cat pee smell) exist for a reason. You need to buy her new clothes because you are the asshole. And lazy... just wash them! ###### |
My girlfriend and I are not ready to have a baby for several reasons, but we love each other and I don’t know how else to say this but we have sex a lot. So she takes birth control. However, she has been known to forget to take a pill here and there. She’s not proud of it, ofc, so that makes it harder for her to tell m... | YTA. Use condoms. ###### |
Hi! So, my friend had invited myself and some friends to brunch at a local café for her birthday. I'm conflicted, because since we were invited to specifically brunch at this place, and of course, were expected to bring gifts (as you do for birthdays). I would accept if she had mentioned that we were paying for our own... | YTA. Unless someone specifically says ‘my treat’ then assume you’re paying. An invitation does not guarantee a ‘this is on me!’ ###### |
My wife got into a car accident a year ago and has been in a wheelchair since.
Since then, she’s refused to go back to her job, even though they have adequate accommodations.
She also has let go of herself; she’s skinny to the point she’s gaunt, and she never does anything productive around the house.
She used to b... | YTa. Uh, people in wheelchairs still wear shoes... ###### |
I’ve been with my husband for 7 years, his younger brother is 20.
In all the time I’ve known my BIL he’s not shown any interest in women.
His browser history is full of men on men (he gave me his old phone and didn’t wipe it, shouldn’t have snooped)
He gets very awkward around other men and has a weird obsession wi... | YTA. To be perfectly honest, it does sound like your BIL might be gay, but either way it's not really your business. All you can do is let him find out himself and support him. ###### |
Around the holidays, I got my friend and I tickets to a broadway show for January, as my gift to her. She was apparently excited to go.
Then a week before the production, I got very sick. I went to the doctor and got diagnosed with the flu. They said there was no way I could go to the show, even after resting a week, ... | YTA. Those tickets were a sunk cost. You were never getting your money back whether you went or not. Sure it's nice if they could have been used, but the fact they weren't changes nothing. Grow up. Not your friends job to do anything with those tickets. ###### |
My (F 38) husband (M 36) have been married for over 1 year. He has 2 kids with his ex, a daughter (7) and a son ( 4). I have no kids, nor do I want any. But I do love my step kids. They came to visit us after quite some time, as they couldn't come over during the lockdown.
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My stepdaughter, Kate\* (name ... | YTA. This wasn’t your place. Tooth fairy is kind of a cultural thing that clearly her mother was excited to share with her daughter. She even put glitter on the $5 for goodness sake. That shows care. You had no right to stamp all over that.
I bet you’re real fun around Christmas. You gonna tell her Santa is a myth t... |
I know it's 100% my fault I left my glasses on the floor. I had 2000 things running in my mind, so to read stuff in small print I took them off and placed it on the floor next to the couch so noone could damage it. After wards, I saw what we had. Aka a fancy fit bit and new. I then ran to shower, as we returned from a ... | YTA. This post literally doesn’t make any sense. Also your comment that you put your glasses on the floor so they wouldn’t get damaged is asinine. The floor is where you put things where they WOULD get damaged. You sound super bratty and entitled and younger than your 13 year old stepchild. ###### |
Throwaway because my roommate uses Reddit. Anyway, this past weekend I moved with my gf into a new apartment with a friend of mine. I've moved a few times over the past couple years and I hate it every time. Now that I'm doing a little better in life I decided to hire movers to avoid some of the hassle of the larger it... | YTA. This lady is a professional mover so she likely knows what she's doing better than you do. Bulky furniture doesn't even take herculean strength for two people to move regardless of their sex, I'm weak af and I can carry a couch or a bed easily with the help of another person. You assumed that she was weaker based... |
This happened some time ago but I still think about it from time to time and would just like to know if I was the ah in the situation.
When I was 18 my parents decided to end their marriage of almost twenty years. They decided to release this information a bit before Christmas on my final year of high school.
The c... | YTA. This isn’t about you. I understand it was tough on you, but asking them to be miserable for a few more months so you could maybe do well on exams is a tough ask. ###### |
Let me just preface by saying I live with 5 other people. So, because of this we have different rules set in place to keep the house orderly and clean and whatever else. Some roommates including myself weren’t doing their chores on time. During one of our bi-weekly meetings my roommates wanted to have a rule set in pla... | YTA. This isn't some random attempt to shake money out of people; it's an attempt to get people to do their chores so that other people don't have to either do them for them or put up with the consequences of the chores being undone. You're already taking things from other people without their permissions when you don... |
At the local grocery store and in line at the deli. Several customers standing around waiting their turn. I go to get a ticket and pull number 27. They are now serving number 21. I step back patiently to wait my turn. They call and wait on No 22, and then 23. When they call number 24 no one steps up. Hmmm. Must have ... | YTA. This isn't how lines work. If you were in a physical line and the person three spots up left, would you have ducked in line ahead of the two people in front of you? ###### |
My 14yo son goes to a private high school. Very pricey and the vast majority of the families are loaded with money. Money is no object to them. My son happens to get a partial scholarship so I can afford his education.
A lot of the kids at his high school do a semester of studying aboard. Usually in Australia and Swi... | YTA. This is the perfect time to go over financial planning/management with your son. So many of my friends didn't have parents who taught them this and they ended up in horrible debt and taking on loans they couldn't afford. ###### |
I [19F] have been living with my boyfriend [18M] and his parents and his sister [18F] for a couple of months. His parents were out. His sister was sick. It got worse. She threw up on herself and hadn't showered in a couple of days. She was sweaty, dizzy, and weak. After she threw up on herself he helped her to the bath... | YTA. This is a joke right? What was he supposed to do? Let her sit there with vomit all over herself until her mom got home to help? Why didn’t you offer to help if you were so uncomfortable? Jfc why are you sexualizing a sibling relationship ###### |
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This happened last Christmas and I want to know if I am the asshole
Recently my daughter married and gained two step kids from her husband. she has been spending a lot more on those step kids than her own son because apparently my daughter thinks that step kid are being treated unfairly by my daughters side... | YTA. This has to be a troll, right? No one would just be this randomly mean to kids, right?
If there are x number of kids in a family unit and you are giving gifts to them, don't give everything to only one of those kids. It's rude. They don't always have to be completely equitable, depending on just life and what th... |
My best mate Kyle and I have been friends since college. There is a group of 7 us who met playing Magic the Gathering and stayed very close, even though two moved away we still connect over online gaming etc. We're a very closenit group. EDIT: I am the only girl of the group, I am a 25F.
Kyle just got engaged to Sara... | YTA. This girl did your friend a favor. She was nice and wanted to include you, probably at the expense of not having one of HER friends or family members up there. If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it. However, if you turn down the request, you don’t get to whine about how you aren’t included.
Also, in response ... |
I have a 15 year old daughter, and a 25 year old stepdaughter. They did not grow up together and they don't like each other very much. My husband thinks his daughter is an absolute princess, so she can be something of a spoiled nightmare. SD has been married for a year and I always suspected my daughter had a crush on ... | Yta. This entire post is you making excuses for your daughters bad behaviour. Your daughter was trying to ruin her sisters marriage. Your daughter needs to learn to behave far better! ###### |
My daughter and her husband (34 and 33 respectively) just went through a second failed IVF cycle.
At the realization that they failed yet again to become parents, her husband was devastated. They live in New York but he said he’s going to extend his business trip in South Beach and stay with a friend for a few weeks t... | YTA. This entire post is littered with absolutely terrible parental takes. I cannot believe you are so unwilling to support your own child through a period of turbulent mental health just because you can't be a grandparent like you wanted to. It sounds like the "need" for everything to "line up and be perfect" isn't y... |
My husband and I have three children, Fern (5) Willow (3) and Sibyl who is 4months.
My husband for the past two years has been going to the gym, religiously for 4 days of the week (Sat, Sun, Tue and Wed) so he’ll get up at 4;40, jog to the gym which is about 30mins and then be back around 6;30.
His timing would be pe... | YTA. This dude wakes up at 4 to make sure he has free time to do what he enjoys and still tags you out at 6 so you can have a break AFTER working all day and is being told by you he isn’t doing enough? That’s not cool. If you don’t work and don’t like mornings you should adjust your schedule to make it easier on yours... |
Hi, I know how the title sounds, but here's the story. One of my (23F) close friends (24F) is a fat woman. I think she is absolutely gorgeous inside and out, but she does struggle with obesity and losing weight and very serious self-image problems. She talks about it with our friend group very frequently, and I know he... | YTA. They’ve been dating for 2 months, obviously he’s okay with her weight. You’re just being a douche. I don’t blame your friends for not wanting to talk to you. ###### |
I (51m) married my wife (46f) six years ago. We now have four wonderful boys (5, 3, 2, 4months). I also have a stepdaughter, who I'll call Ellie, who is almost 15.
I have always gone running in the mornings, and often my favorite time for running is right when my youngest tends to wake up. My wife usually gets the kid... | YTA. They’re not her kids. Why is she making meals for 4 toddlers while dad plays around outside? Why don’t you get up early to go for your run so you can take care of YOUR KIDS? Selfish, selfish selfish. & You sounds like you don’t like your stepdaughter, the way you talk about her vs the boys. ###### |
I (51m) married my wife (46f) six years ago. We now have four wonderful boys (5, 3, 2, 4months). I also have a stepdaughter, who I'll call Ellie, who is almost 15.
I have always gone running in the mornings, and often my favorite time for running is right when my youngest tends to wake up. My wife usually gets the kid... | YTA. They’re not “her siblings” if she’s “your wife’s child” sorry fam but she’s either your kid and you care about her and your sons equally or you leave her alone as you clearly don’t like or care about her ###### |
I (48M) have a 16 year old daughter. According to her, she’s had issues with disposable pads and they supposedly “irritate” her and she thinks she gets an allergic reaction to them.
She’s heard of something called Thinx period underwear and she came to me and asked if I would be willing to order her a pair because th... | YTA. They're like $40, ya miser. Buy your kid the period panties, admit you don't understand how periods work, and upgrade to overnight shipping as a way of apology. ###### |
I went to an old friend bday party, met some new people and some guy was telling me and two other girls that his baby mama is ugly. I automatically thought since babies usually have features from both parents that would mean he would be calling his own baby ugly and that what I said to him. Everyone looked at me, one g... | YTA. There are some things you just don't say in public. ###### |
Well yeah...so I have a pug who’s turning 12 next week. About a month ago I asked one of my coworkers who has a side business baking custom artistic cakes if she could make one for “my baby.” By which I actually meant my dog who I affectionately refer to as my baby. I thought she knew this.
It doesn’t help that my dog... | YTA. There are people out there that specifically bake things for dogs. She bakes cakes with standard ingredients for humans. Her business isn’t tweaking things to make them more palatable for dogs, it’s perfecting her recipe for human tastes.
You’re both an idiot and an asshole. If you leave her “bad reviews” that ... |
(This all happened pre-pandemic btw). I am a single mother to two kids 14f and 2m. My daughter has been struggling a lot recently especially since myself and her stepdad (my son's father) split, because he was more of a dad to her than her bio dad. She's been increasingly unreasonable since then, plus she's a teenager.... | YTA. There are a variety of reasons for a particular brand to be more comfortable or work better, and you are supposed to be the grownup. ###### |
so this just happened like an hour ago during my online class....
During the class, the lecturer briefly explained that we are having another upcoming assignment which due like in 5 days. So, the whole class started to panic/worry since we’ve been catching up with tons of assignments this week. and then there’s me try... | YTA. Their responses make it seem like they have been fed up with your behavior for a while, or you timed it very poorly. My point is your classmates responses make it seem like you behave this way regularly and they're done with it, or they don't appreciate the excess stress you put on them with your "joke". It's als... |
So long story short my ex and I were living together and we broke up. She hadn't moved all her stuff out, including furniture, kitchen appliances, etc. We had a very sudden and explosive breakup and she packed up her clothes, makeup, and other essentials and moved in with her brother. So her brother called me and asked... | YTA. The things you threw out were small and petty and some, like the souvenirs, are irreplaceable. You admitted it’s taken long to find a place due to the pandemic so you likely just didn’t want to see that stuff and the reminders of her.
I don’t know the value of what you tossed vs what they “stole” from you but yo... |
My daughter was in 6th grade a while back and her teacher would grade assignments on expression, grammar and quality. She wrote a poem about Thanksgiving and she got a "B" on expression, "A" for grammar, and "A-" for quality. She was bothered by the "B" on expression and I said, "I think it's because you didn't write y... | YTA. The teacher clarified what happened. You shouldn't have assumed in the first place, and you certainly shouldn't have insisted when the teacher said otherwise.
Piece of advise here: trying to same a child into expressing gratitude for the family in this way can easily have the opposite effect in the long term. Yo... |
My husband and I have got 3 kids, 4, 7, and 11. All boys, so you can imagine the terror. I’m basically at the end of my rope after months of “virtual learning.” They’re not learning anything beyond fighting each other and causing messes.
So my husband works really long hours and I’m a SAHM. The ridiculous thing is th... | YTA. The reason they treat these hundred dollar Switches like they’re replaceable is because you’re replacing them. This is how you enable their behavior and encourage it to continue. ###### |
Okay so I remember when I was at the gym one day and I was looking for a song on Spotify to jam out to while my workout routine. This lady started circling around me and pretending to look at her watch (she doesn’t have one LMAO) and she finally went up to me and was like “Can I use this machine because you’re not usin... | YTA. The person sitting around hogging the gym equipment is the entitled one in this situation. Not the woman politely asking you to move. ###### |
I have a 20 year old daughter. Shes always struggled badly with her mental health, all stemming from her dad passing away when she was 7. The way she’s always dealt with this is eating. Last year she went through a stage where she’d stay home from university simply to order a McDonalds, and this happened every day with... | YTA. The only thing you're gonna achieve with this is her having an eating disorder. You are JUST LIKE my family, et voila, 2 years ago I had some nice little anorexia. If she's not overweight, than apparently she's eating the amount her body needs. And as long as she's not life threateningly obese, it's NONE OF YOUR ... |
I helped nominate a colleague for a prize in our field in late 2019. He was made up about the nomination. The award is to do with management and leadership. However in recent months he has really dropped the ball about managing the company during COVID-19 causing lots of his employees including me stress and anxiety ab... | YTA. The nomination was for a past year which you said the manager excelled in. I think it is unfair to retract based on the managers performance in a new year. I assume there will be nomination for this year and you can choose not to nominate him. ###### |
So I'm a guy, and I've never been catcalled.
I was having a conversation, and the topic came up. One of the girls said to the guys specifically, 'you wouldn't enjoy it if you were catcalled'. I said, 'well, it depends, but if some girl were to make a comment about my body looking good or whatever, I would probably li... | YTA. The difference is multifold:
1. You don’t expect to get cat called;
2. As women, the general assumption is that we would be overpowered by a man and you likely don’t feel that way;
3. There haven’t been stories that you’ve probably heard by the dozen about women getting assaulted physically, sexually, and verb... |
So this one is a bit trickier than the headline suggests. I’m getting married next summer and about a month ago I made an appointment to try on wedding dresses. My friend (and would be maid of honor) was there when I made the appointment and agreed to be there. I don’t have too much family or a large friend group so sh... | YTA. The correct response was: OMG I’m so sorry to hear that about your dad! Of course being with your him for the weekend is more important than my dress appointment. Please let me know if there’s anything I can do. ###### |
Just to be clear she has seen the kids. My husband put his foot down and since she isn't super close to the kids I don't have a problem with it. My MIL doesn't like me very much and she would rather not be close to my children and not babysit than have to follow any rules. In general we just don't have anything in comm... | YTA. The conversation you heard was in reference to giving someone a Kidney! Your MIL was basically saying that she has a short list of people whom she cannot love without and your family isn’t on that list. Big whoop. Even relationships within families can be nuanced. Your MIL seems to act accordingly to her feelings... |
Here is a light aita for you guys. It's to settle a years long argument between my sibling and I.( Don't worry we love each other and the story is more amusing than anything)
Years ago, my older sister(25) and I(18) were on a family holiday at an amusement park. She bought a cinnamon roll for us to split. We shared i... | YTA. That’s the equivalent of cutting a middle piece from an uncut batch of brownies. 😂 ###### |
My daughter is 17 and ever since she was 11, she's had an entrepreneurial spirit. She would setup stands, get in trouble at school for sealing things to classmates, etc. It's never really been a problem.
Recently she's been working really hard on some side hustles along with her job. I didn't really understand what sh... | YTA. THAT’S NOT YOUR MONEY. This is **stealing.** I get it if you put it all into HER savings, but neither you or your wife have any RIGHT to her own money that she made herself. This is very selfish and toxic behavior, under the guise of profiting from your daughter. Shame on you. ###### |
My step sister doesn't have a strong or sexy female role model in her life. Our relationship has its ups and downs, but on several occasions she's admitted she wants to learn more from me about make up, clothes and the like. Her mom is a pretty sleazy character and I have no idea why my dad's with her. Still, I can't l... | YTA. That’s not encouragement to take care of herself, it’s criticizing her.
A nudge would have been taking her to get some makeup and some tips at Sephora or going clothes shopping or surprising her with getting her hair done. What you did was pointing out flaws, not encouraging strengths. ###### |
Bf and I are planning our wedding. One thing we thankfully share in common is our distaste of jewellery. It makes us cringe whenever we're around metal accessories hanging on someone's body. Whenever I hug someone wearing a necklace I hate feeling the metal on me.
So my bf and I NEVER wear jewellery. The only exceptio... | YTA. That's petty and controlling as hell ###### |
My brother's son is 20, and he lives about 30 minutes drive away from our area. My brother and his wife separated about 3 years ago, and he moved out of the country, while my nephew stayed here with his mother and brother. When the breakup happened, all of our side of the family tried not to take sides, as there was in... | YTA. That's just petty.
You send all the kids in the extended family a birthday remembrance, not based on your personal relationship but on the fact that you're related. But for this one, you base his gift on a different criteria. An offhand comment made over a year ago that wasn't even that offensive, considering t... |
So my mom died when I was 13 and my dad liked to drink and some jerk called CPS. So they took me and put me in a foster home and it was awful, I just wanted my dad. I had to live their for 6 months and was so depressed I failed my classes and had to make up a year when they finally let me go home, because my dad was a... | YTA. That lady didn't decide on her own to remove you from your father's home. That's not how CPS works. Sounds like your dad's drinking is a bigger problem than you knew, and you have some anger issues, possibly stemming from your mother's death. I think you need some help dealing with your grief. Seek counseling ASA... |
I applied for a job recently but had to attend the interview with a cane because I injured myself when I randomly slipped and fell down a flight of stairs earlier in the summer. Which sucked because I was planning on having the most epic summer ever...
Anyway, I got the job but I suspect it’s because they thought I wa... | YTA. Taking accommodations meant for people with disabilities and treating them as job perks is pretty gross. ###### |
I know this sounds bad, but please hear me out.
My son is doing terrible in school. He is barely passing most of the subjects and just failed an important math exam yesterday. I am extremely disappointed in him. The thing is, he studies, I always see him studying in his room and he did follow my rule of playing xbox o... | YTA. Take it away and hide it. And maybe HELP HIM. All I hear is “he isn’t studying right so I’m going to punish him”. Sit down with him and see what’s he struggling with. ###### |
My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 years. We were both pretty straight edge but over the years I’ve began experimenting more with drugs. She hasn’t. I don’t do anything crazy - weed, shrooms, coke, mdma.
She hates that I do it and was complaining again about it today. She thinks it’s far too dangerous and I... | YTA. Stop justifying your dangerous behavior, period. It's making you do [ridiculous stuff ](https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/ijj88y/tifu_by_sending_porn_to_a_ton_of_people_while_high/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf), for one thing. But the idea that regularly doing coke and E isn't doing 'a... |
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