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She is upset with me for refusing to change my running pace now that she can't safely match it anymore.
I feel for her because I know it has to be hard to go through all of the bodily changes and give up something like this which has been a part of our relationship since we started dating nine years ago, but...I am ... | YTA. The purpose is keeping your pregnant wife company. You know, the one going through all the physical changes to bring another part of you into the world where all you had to do was have an orgasm. ###### |
My husband's friend and his wife are pregnant and expecting a boy. They recently told my husband that they want to name the baby after him.
When my husband and his friend where teenagers, his friend was involved in a really bad accident while they were riding dirt bikes. If my husband had not been there that day his ... | YTA. That would have been a huge honor for your husband, and what a special connection he could have had with this little boy. You sound oddly jealous about their new baby. ###### |
So yesterday was my roommate's birthday, and we live in a college dorm together. We spent the whole day hanging out and concluded the night by smoking a joint together with another friend. We all got really high, and she went to go fuck this guy she's seeing. Me and the mutual friend stayed up for a while and talked ti... | YTA. that is like wearing a bikini to go swimming and getting mad when someone splashes water on you.
you said if she had asked you wouldn't have cared... you weren't involved. you have no right to say it is nonconsensual, like they involved you or something. ###### |
My girlfriend recently moved in town into her cousins apartment. We will call the cousin Amy. They split the rent 3 ways, between my girlfriend, Amy, and Amy's girlfriend. They have been splitting the rent this way for 2 months, but yesterday, Amy had a talk with my girlfriend saying that I need to start paying rent si... | YTA. Something needs to change. Spend more time at your place with your girlfriend. Your girlfriends roommates didn't sign up to live with one extra person. If you are over there taking up space all the time you need to pay up or spend more time elsewhere. ###### |
I don’t know if this is a regular occurrence, but I went into the kitchen last night about an hour after I told my girlfriend I was going to bed. She always pumps before bed so I assumed that was what she was doing.
When I walked into the kitchen she was sitting at the table and she picked up the bottle she pumps into... | YTA. People will are fine with the partners putting their mouths on their gentials... but somehow breastmilk is where the line is drawn. Get over it. ###### |
(Posted on behalf of someone who doesn’t have reddit - I’ve been discussing this all day with her)
My (57 F) daughter (32) recently gave birth and called and let me know hours after the birth. I was the first person she told but I think it’s strange she didn’t ring me immediately. She didn’t have a long labour and was... | YTA. Noooo, grandma, your daughter's birth process is not about you. The first hours and days after giving birth are not about you. She doesn't owe you anything - it's about her and her baby. ###### |
Laptop was nearly 4 years old. I was going to get a new one anyway and just wipe and donate this one, but this girl I’m semi friends with accidentally spilled liquor all over it, which ended up breaking it.
She was super apologetic and offered to replace it with a new one for close to $2,000. I know for a fact this p... | YTA. Its unfortunate that you can't donate it, but allowing the person to put themselves in hardship for something when you are not disadvantaged (you were going to upgrade) is definitely a jerk move. ###### |
My friend is deciding between two offices of the same company. One is in San Fransisco, and the other is in New York.
Instead of considering factors such as career progression, cost of living, social scene, etc.... he literally said he’s choosing the New York office simply because they have a much more traditional bu... | YTA. It’s his choice. I’m sure the dress code speaks to much more, such as lifestyle and prestige. He doesn’t owe you to lay it all out.
Is there a strong reason you see that he should be choosing one over the other? Your post makes it sound like all things are equal, so why shouldn’t dress code be the deciding... |
My cousin (18f) and I (21f) were never really close because she was the beautiful darling girl of the family while I was just the "smart" one. It also doesn't help that we were just two different people.
My cousin is known to use so much photoshop and makeup on all of her pictures to make herself look older than she... | YTA. It's not a matter of not being supportive. It's a matter of you acting like an absolute self righteous jerk. ###### |
My MIL is pretty narcissistic and I did not marry the golden child. She blatantly favors her older son and she is always condescending towards my husband because of financial issues. SIL (married into the family, not her daughter) and MIL are extremely close, like they go on girls weekends pretty frequently, on family ... | YTA. It kind of doesn’t matter whether or not their relationship is creepy, since it is absolutely none of your business. You could have said nothing. ###### |
So my ex has reached out to me to talk, but she doesn't want to hang out unless I'm willing to apologize for the thing that we broke up over.
It was a few years ago. Her little sister wanted to walk when she graduated high school, but by that time she had lost the use of her legs due to a spinal cord injury. She broug... | YTA. It is the school’s responsibility to make accommodations.
You sound lazy at best, ableist at worst, and you definitely sound like the AH.
YTA. ###### |
My boyfriend is a very gross eater, back in his home country he was raised primarily at a farm by his dad where no one really cared for even basic hygeine/eating ettiquite. No, I don't care if his elbows are on the table at dinner, I'm not that pedantic. I don't really care when his hands are dirty when he eats or if h... | YTA. If you had an issue, you could have gotten up and moved. ###### |
My (32F) sister (34F) only eats super plain food. She sometimes boils unseasoned potatoes as a snack. She boils all her vegetables. She only eats plain crisps. She doesn't season anything, ever, even chicken. If a recipe calls for 4 chillies, she'll use half of one, or omit it entirely. When I went to stay with her ove... | YTA. I'm sure it's annoying, yeah. But you offered to cook her dinner, and then refused to make it in a way she would like. Yes, yes, I know, yoghurt, but from experience with people that averse to spice, that often doesn't make a difference. Make a small side batch of mild curry, make something different, or don'... |
So in our drama class, we decided to host a play. The play goes around the central theme of twins being mistaken for each other and deciding on taking advantage of that. The entire play is based on the fact that the twins are identical.
We decided on doing this play because my best friend has an identical twin, and t... | YTA. I say this because you had already cast those roles. You say that "we still had to hold an audition for fairness", but this isn't actually the case. You held auditions so you could be justified in your choice.
In these circumstances, the honest thing to do would have been to announce that the twin roles were... |
I (22f) have a younger sister who is 19. When we were both young teenagers, we went through a lot, and our dad ended up leaving. Our mom turned to drugs and alcohol, and my sister and I responded completely differently. I threw myself into my academics and school work, and my sister went down the same path as our mom. ... | YTA. I know it was well-intended, but you invaded her privacy and she told you in confidence without even knowing it was you. How can she trust you now knowing you don't trust her? ###### |
A few months ago, my 24 year old daughter was diagnosed with Crohn's disease. She has been taking prednisone to help with the inflammation so that she can keep foods down. Prednisone is not to be taken long-term, so her doctor wants her to start on a biologic drug called Humira. I am very much against this, because the... | YTA. I have Crohn’s disease, and if it wasn’t for biologics I would be dead right now. I tried to go with natural remedies as long as I could and ended up doing more damage because I refused the biologics at first. Your method is wrong. This is a real disease, and not something you can just “overcome”. It never ... |
I(24M) am getting married to my gf(25f) next year in tuscon on our anniversary . I sent out invites to the wedding to people in my friend circle . The next day another friend of mine announced to the group that she was getting married at the same place a month before i am getting married. I felt that people would atte... | YTA. I didn’t know toddlers could get married.... ###### |
Earlier this year we sat down and had a talk about marriage. It's something we both want, and we agreed that we'll get engaged sometime before the end of the year. I was very clear to my GF that it will happen this year but would not give her a more specific time frame than that because I want it to be a surprise when ... | YTA. I did this to my now fiancée and made her cry. This was a total asshole move by both you and I. I made up by doing an awesome proposal but I acknowledge this was one of the stupidest, cruelest things I’ve ever done. ###### |
My wife of eight years and I have a seven year old son together, seven since May. We've had our rough patches, but I can say with certainty we've never had any major disagreements about how to raise our son.
We were out shopping a few days ago and split up to cover ground more quickly. Once I'd grabbed the things I wa... | YTA. How in the world was in inappropriate!? Leaving an unattended 7 year old would be inappropriate. Even sending him into the men's room while she wasn't right outside waiting but in her own bathroom would've been inappropriate. Please explain how being in a bathroom with someone that is your parent is inappropr... |
When my husband and I got married, we agreed that he would work and I would stay home and raise our kids.
Now we have two kids. Our son is 17 while our daughter is 7. Our daughter has special needs ( don’t want to get into it too much). We have a part time babysitter to help out with teaching her how to socialize.
S... | YTA. He literally sat you down and begged you to get a job and you were... offended? Jesus Christ. ###### |
My sister is 21 and I am 36M.
My parents died a few years ago and left their estate and business to me. My sister has a trust fund she can access when she’s 25. Until then, I am paying for all her expenses, including college tuition and if she wants to eat out or go shopping.
My sister and I have had a great relatio... | YTA. First you act like you ARE her father, and second, she is now old enough to make her own contraceptive choices.
Do you want her getting pregnant?
Generally when an adult tries to get contraception, they are being responsible about stuff they are going to do anyway. Deal with it. ###### |
My wife and I had a baby girl about 8 weeks ago. I love her, but to me she looks like any other baby I've ever seen. I don't think she looks like either myself or my wife, which is fine. I don't think she should at this point, and even if she never does, so what? It's not a big deal. However, my family is different.
... | YTA. Dude. You know exactly why you're the asshole here. Your wife's told you. If it's not that big a deal to you whether the baby looks like you, fine: just say that she's her own person, and you look forward to watching her grow. Don't go out of your way to reject the connection. ###### |
I work as attorney. I focus on criminal law so I'm pretty versed in other areas of law. My partner has a friend ("Diana") who loves giving out legal advice even though she is not a lawyer. For example, another friend of my partner said she might be fired soon. Diana claimed that an employer can't just fire you without ... | YTA. Attorney here and quite honestly, most criminal law attorneys know next to nothing about transactional law, unless they are white collar crime defense attorneys. Even then, I find it insufferable to hear your insinuation that you’re “pretty well-versed in other areas of law,” because it’s just incredibly unlike... |
My husband and I will be getting married in August. I have 7 bridesmaids, one of which was supposed to be my best friend, Rachel. Rachel and I have been best friends since we were 4 and I love the girl to death. Rachel wears glasses as she was born with a squint and has an astigmatism.
When the topic came up, I told ... | YTA. Are you serious? She can take off her glasses for your photos. But for the service itself, do all the bridesmaids have to be Vogue models? I guarantee you’re the only one who cares about her glasses. You are about to lose a friend for life. ###### |
My 19yo son is about 6ft and needs to lose about 20 pounds. He was always skinny, but I suspect his eating habits got bad while he was at college and he just wasn't working out. He's been home since March and I've been egging him to go to workout with me. He doesn't want to. We had a 4th of July picture taken of us and... | YTA. And your 9 year old isn’t much better. ###### |
My late wife passed away three years ago, I been married with my current wife for 6 months now.
My son (15) disrespects my wife and would always hurt her with his words.
I tried to get him to get used to his new life but he always says he can't wait to leave.
My son has always wanted to go to college, he's aiming to ... | YTA. An appropriate consequence for teenage backtalk is more along the lines of no car privileges or taking video games away for a week. Not threatening the kid's life ambitions.
Also, how long were you and your wife together before you got married? What steps did you take to introduce her to your son? Did you ta... |
My friend has desperately wanted a pair of Vans Classics but can't afford £60 for them. Today we met up and she had a pair on which I was surprised at but she was so excited to finally have a pair. I asked her where she got them from and she said eBay. I commented on the fact she's said she can't afford a pair but she ... | YTA. 2nd hand shoes gross you out, but I'm guessing you've used a public toilet.. ###### |
It’s as simple as that. We like each other, we support each other, we do things for each other often. It irked me that he needed me, his wife, to sew a button on his pants because he didn’t know how (that was his explanation about why I should do it.) It felt demeaning in that ‘because you are a woman and I am a man ... | YTA. “We like each other, we support each other, we do things for each other often.” Well, I guess that’s not true. ###### |
So my daughter’s 7th birthday was last month and my mother-in-law got her these dolls called LOL dolls from target. They looked like mini versions of Bratz dolls but I didn’t think anything of it as they looked like regular dolls. These dolls happen to be my daughter’s favorite toys and I actually bought her more of th... | YTA.
You are right to be concerned. But you also need to respect that those dolls didn't belong to you, they belonged to your daughter. And you need to consider not just the impact on your daughter if she figures out the dip in water thing, but also the **impact on your relationship with your daughter caused by t... |
My (28M) fiancee (26F) found out it was probably going to be extremely difficult for her to have kids, if not, impossible about a month ago after a couple of tests & doctors appointments & whatnot.
She new for A MONTH & didn’t say a single word to me.
I didn’t even find out about it from her. I found out ... | YTA.
Look, i get that you have anger here. You wanted to have kids and your fiance just found out that's not possible and you're feeling a keen loss here. I'm a father myself - i cannot fathom what you're going through.
But your hurt and upset and anger? ***How can you take it out on the woman who just found ... |
My GF has asked for space after our recurrent arguments and stated her family was angry w/me for some of what I said. But we have continued to text and call throughout said space. So yesterday I figured I'd go to her house (while she was not there) to visit them and just to blunt the blow of their anger toward me. N... | YTA.
Do not drop in to someone's house uninvited and stay for hours.
Do not drop by someone's house during a pandemic.
La k of direct comments by her family upon you arrival mean they are polite or want to avoid confrontation. Not that they were excited to have you come spend hours at their house against the... |
Context: I go to uni and draw as a hobby and as a way to get some money. I did various drawing lessons when I was younger and Im a very qualified and talented artist.
So my aunt(42f), uncle(40sm) and my cousin(6m) are staying at my house(parents house), and today my cousin put his filthy kid hands at the sketch of a ... | YTA. "Sketch of drawing" not the drawing? Screamed "many times"? You are too much. ###### |
My parents are really good looking. Like you’d think they were movie stars if they walked past you on the road.
I’m a 15 year old girl. Recently, I’ve started to notice that I’m quite plain looking as compared to my family. I stand out as the ugly duckling in family photos. Even people who see my with mom or dad find ... | YTA. You absolutely crossed a line in accusing your mother of having an affair with absolutely zero evidence to support that accusation. ###### |
For the record my wife knew what an asshole I was when she married me and therefore consented to all of these pranks. I probably do more to her but when she wants to get even she is straight up vicious.
I have six year old twins who just started virtual kindergarten and one of their first project was to do a science ... | YTA. This isn't a science experiment, it's a prank that caused embarrassment to your wife and was done without her consent. ###### |
This happened a few years ago. I was at a waterpark with a few friends for my birthday. It was a group of 15. We all planned to just pay for ourselves and have a good few hours, but one of my friends decided he would pay for everyone as a gift to me. I tried to talk him out of it but he insisted on spending nearly $600... | YTA. In a situation like this, you should have gone ahead and shared or asked what he wanted and paid for it in exchange for him paying for your ticket. It was extremely socially awkward of you not to and I see why it keeps you up at nights.
So glad that burrito was worth losing a friend over. ###### |
My bedroom is in the bottom floor of my house about 10 feet away from my sisters bedroom, meaning I can smell and hear everything in it. Everything is usually fine regarding this except for the fact that she pisses her bed nightly when she's in 6th grade. I normally can't say anything about it because my mom defends he... | YTA. 12 year olds don’t just piss the bed because they are lazy; enuresis is a medical issue. She likely told your dad that she was being lazy because she was too embarrassed to admit that she wasn’t able to hold it, or that by the time she woke up it was too late.
Don’t be mad at your sister, if anything, be ma... |
My daughter and her husband (34 and 33 respectively) just went through a second failed IVF cycle.
At the realization that they failed yet again to become parents, her husband was devastated. They live in New York but he said he’s going to extend his business trip in South Beach and stay with a friend for a few weeks t... | YTA. It’s disgusting that you would withhold help for your daughter because she had an abortion before she was ready to be a parent.
Not wanting to give her money is one thing and perfectly fine; not wanting to give her money because she has an abortion 13 years ago is disgusting. ###### |
Earlier today, I had orientation for a new job. It was basically just a candy store in a local mall. It's not much, but I figured that it would beat my dead-end call center job. Me and a small group of other new hires arrived and were given a basic lesson on customer service and handling the cash register, but then cam... | YTA. Absolutely you embarrassed yourself. If it wasn’t a meal break, you shouldn’t have left the store. 10 minutes is not long enough to walk down to the store, order food, eat it, and come back . Spilled cheese and greasy fingers are just the icing on the cake. Incredibly unprofessional. ###### |
I have an 8 year old daughter, and to make college more easily accessible for her, my ex wife and I each put money into a shared fund for her. My ex wife and I do not get along, but we make an effort for the sake of our daughter.
At the end of last year, my car basically blew up. Completely blew a gasket, broke down ... | YTA!!!
You could have bought a car that was more than enough for your needs for a much, MUCH lower price. You took that money and spent it on a vanity, not a necessity. ###### |
So a bit of a backstory is I’m a (27M) in a relationship with a (25M). We’ve been together for two years now, and I do love my boyfriend. The only thing is that he has a pretty severe stutter. His speech impediment isn’t so bad when it’s just me and him, but his anxiety towards his speech goes through the roof when we’... | YTA! He needs to do this on his own and you’re being really inconsiderate. Yes, it’s going to be awkward. He won’t overcome this overnight, but this is his battle to overcome. Let him do that. ###### |
Celia dumped me last night and gave me a list of reasons why. Some of them I can understand why and I should have been a better boyfriend to her but there is one that I don't get where's shes coming from.
My now ex turned twenty one in November 2018. We had been dating for almost a year. So there's this indy movie ... | YTA!
Her birthday dude!!! You chose naruto and a night with the bros over her, and that says something. I would be pissed if my bf was like jk we are gunna watch NARUTO instead.
Also a movie that got crappy reviews LOL it was Harry Potter which is a classic for many people your age! ###### |
I was cleaning out storage over the weekend and happened to find my Micheal Meyers (from the Halloween movie franchise) and remembered my daughter was having a mask-required, socially-distanced dance recital tonight. After all, it will work better than a bandana, and I thought a little humor could lighten things up. So... | YTA: you wore an inappropriate mask to a school and clapped like a creep at a young girl dancing.
Just be glad they didn't call the cops. And be glad that 'Karen' was willing to put themselves in between a child and someone they saw as a threat. ###### |
Hello AITA,
I've found myself somewhat confused by a recent interaction, and so I thought I'd come to see how wrong I may or may not have been.
I normally live in a relatively major city; there, it is considered quite common that, as long as you keep buying drinks and don't cause trouble or too much noise, you can si... | YTA: I know you didn't intend to be, but you kind of are in this situation. You're occupying a table for 4 hours and leaving a very minimal tip and spending very little money while there. I don't know about where you are, but here in the US restaurants and bars are limited to a small percentage of their occupancy beca... |
My husband's older half siblings hate MIL. My husband and I currently aren't getting along with her either, so honestly we all talk a lot of shit about her. This woman is truly evil and one of the worst people i've ever met, but one thing really bothers me. They call her FIL's mail order bride. MIL is hispanic and FIL ... | YTA: I'm going for YTA as you actually thinking you are being a good person here.
Calling anyone those names are awful you aren't better for drawing a line at the rasist remark when you still openly relish in the sexist ones.
Fine if she is the worst person in the world, cut contact then.
Calling her names and ... |
i(F29) told my (F27) friend/bridemaid she is no longer invited to my wedding.
i had a rule after choosing my bridemaids and that was i will choose everything from their dress to their make up and they seemed on board and to be honest it is my right as the BRIDE because it is MY wedding.
a friend reached out to me pri... | YTA: As a black woman i think you are a complete racist asshole. Black people hair is not like white people hair. We cannot wear the same styles as you because it is not healthy for our hair. Just like white people shluldnt be wearing certain black hair styles because your hair is too weak. At this point I hope sh... |
Am I an asshole if I ask my sister to not come out to our parents two days before my birthday?
My sister is a new baby trans woman. She just started going to a doctor and taking steps to become the woman she is. I've been her support since she came out to me, and have even paid for doctors visits and contributed to he... | YTA; it's a birthday, not birthweek. Why do so many 'adults' feel entitled to long, drawn-out recognition of their birthday? ###### |
My (27M) girlfriend (25 F) the other night mentioned she was thinking of getting a piercing below her lip. I pretty much just said "ok" as I am not into piercings and didn't want to encourage her to get one nor did I want to stop her as it is her choice ultimately.
She asked me what I thought about it and I decided to... | YTA,
You were N T A until you went for this:
>I said "sticking pieces of metal in your body isn't attractive, it's just gross and in my opinion when I see people with piercings they often are the type you see on Jerry Springer or one of those shows."
That's hella judgemental and goes way beyond stating a prefere... |
She takes apart and stitches denim together. Creating jackets and Jean's, cool products. I don't know if I would consider it a business though, considering she only makes only 1 to 2 products. It's hard work I'll give her that, takes about a week to or two to create a clothing product.
She has my gf model some of the ... | YTA, your sisters relationship with her sister is not impacting you and not your business. You asked and were told to butt out, this was a boundary your girlfriend put up that you had zero respect for. It doesn’t take her long and helps her sister out, maybe that’s enough for her. ###### |
My (16f) sister (22F) graduated college this year, and came back home to live with us in the gap year between college and med school. She doesn't have a car or a license; she got her permit twice but "forgot" to get her license before it expired.
While she's home, my dad told her she has to get a job, at a lab, docto... | YTA, your parents are more than capable of setting their own boundaries. If this job is good for your sisters career path then they will probably want to drive her. If you want more attention for yourself just ask them. ###### |
My daughter is 17 and ever since she was 11, she's had an entrepreneurial spirit. She would setup stands, get in trouble at school for sealing things to classmates, etc. It's never really been a problem.
Recently she's been working really hard on some side hustles along with her job. I didn't really understand what sh... | YTA, you're a thief and you just destroyed any trust your daughter had in you. ###### |
So yesterday was my roommate's birthday, and we live in a college dorm together. We spent the whole day hanging out and concluded the night by smoking a joint together with another friend. We all got really high, and she went to go fuck this guy she's seeing. Me and the mutual friend stayed up for a while and talked ti... | YTA, you said that they could make noise and it didn't wake you up. They did nothing wrong. ###### |
I have 3 kids. My 7 year old son, my 6 year old son and my 7 year old daughter.
We went to visit My mother in law who blatantly prefers boys over girls. When we got to her house she said we had presents and the kids got all excited. She got my oldest son a remote control car, my youngest a 30 dollar lego set, and my ... | YTA, you just punished your son for MIL behavior. Buy daughter a new toy but more importantly tell MIL if she pulls this crap she will not be seeing her grand-kids Then follow up! ###### |
I have a dog that I brought into my marriage. Love him to death, he has always been my right hand man.
Now my wife and I have two amazing little girls, 3 and 6, light of our lives. Recently we found out that our eldest is allergic to dogs. So much so, that she’d have to be drugged daily just to be around the dog. It’... | YTA, you had an awesome choice for the dog and didn't take it? Once you've decided to re-home it's about the dogs well being, not your kids. And I'm sure seeing the dog would be fine, it'd probably be better than never seeing it again. ###### |
Hear me out pls!!
My (20M) girlfriend (20F) had started a facebook page about a year ago. She posts her own memes, random texts and art on it. It was initially not a problem and I was proud of her, even supported her by liking, commenting and sharing her posts to my page that was bigger at the time.
Recently her page... | YTA, you freed her of your relationship. ###### |
My friend recently lost 100 pounds, a mile stone she’s been looking forward to for a long time after an extended bout with illness that precluded weight loss.
She’s as excited as I’ve ever seen her about anything and the day she passed the 100 milestone she went out and bought a lot of crop tops and bikinis and start... | YTA, you don’t have to “earn” a style of clothing. If wearing crop tops makes her feel good and she likes how she looks in them then she gets to wear them. ###### |
So my GF technically has an account with Disney+. Someone ended up creating an account using her email address (it wasn't the account creator's fault, it was a fuck up on Gmail's end). She's never used it because she has no interest, and I didn't either until recently.
Some context from my GF: "About a year ago I star... | YTA, you did not pay for it. You should've informed them about the mistake and made your own.
Add: This is why I dont use gmail nor hotmail. ###### |
I just casually happen to be a gay person of color who happens to be with a really white American man. I don't even mean spicy white, I mean... Straight up Nordic. He is blinding white.
I'm biracial and I include sunscreen as part of my every day life. My boyfriend NEVER uses it. And with his skin color, I get anxious... | YTA, you can't mother him. The longer you're together, the more appropriate it is to take the "I don't want you do get skin cancer because I want you to live a long life" approach. But it's way out of line to apply it without his consent like he's a two year old. ###### |
So we’ve been staying with my parents for five months. After about four months they said we had to go, but I pointed out that they legally couldn’t make us leave because we were considered tenants under the law. Both of my parents just snapped.
My dad went down and filed the papers but they want us out before the cour... | YTA, you and your wife. They let you stay with them, then when they want you to leave, you pull some legal-ease and refuse to go?
Of course they’re making your stay awful, and if your wife refuses to leave, that’s on her.
Your poor parents. ###### |
It's literally 5 minutes of music and 5 minutes of commercials. I don't understand it, so I asked my roommate why she got a radio when she can just get Spotify. She said, "Because I wanted to." I asked her again because that isn't really a valid answer. She said that again. I asked her once again, to which she says, "I... | YTA, why do you care? You're not "asking about her hobbies," you're berating her choices, accusing her of being "defensive" when she stands up to you, and then coming on Reddit to ask people to validate your poor treatment of your roommate. ###### |
I (19F) got my boyfriend(20M) of 3 years a switch back in January as a gift. We're both university students so money is kinda tight, but I saved up and I was finally able to buy it for him because he'd been talking about it for about a year. It was $600 for the switch, a game and the tax, so it wasn't exactly a small g... | YTA, when you buy someone a gift it’s their property, and you can’t tell them what to do with it. ###### |
I (18M) was in a pub in Paris France last weekend, and was having a good conversation with a girl I'd just met.
The bartender came around and said that they'd be closing in 10 minutes, but I didn't want to leave, so I thought to myself that if I ordered two pints for myself, he couldn't kick me out as I had still had... | YTA, what do you think ‘closing time’ means, it most certainly doesn’t mean order two drinks and sip them over the next 5 hours whilst the wait staff want to go home. It means we are closing, finish the hell up and go home / somewhere else. ###### |
I was recently spending time with some old friends from high school. A girl who I didn’t know too well was there. I knew she had gotten pregnant while we were in school and had then gone off to college. We were talking (her kid had not been mentioned), and I asked how old he was now and how often she sees him. As soon ... | YTA, what a rude ass question with built in implications. ###### |
I'm 18 (turning 19 in November). Someone posted some art in a fandom community I am in late last year and it was great so I made a twitter account to follow the artist. Big-ish account. He's 24 (almost 25) and I quickly developed a crush on him. He's so nice and handsome and humble, replies to every tweet and dm, that ... | YTA, were you planning to keep this up for years potentially?? ###### |
My parents invited My brother (22M) for dinner as we hadn't seen him in a while. I (20F) was weirded out because he brought his roommate to a family dinner. Halfway through the night he drops the 'boyfriend' bomb. See my best friend had asked my brother on a date (just the earlier that day!) and he said yes. She's has ... | YTA, were you even listening to him?
Your shy friend with body issues and anxiety got up enough courage to ask your brother out in a public setting. He said yes to not embarrass her and planned to explain in private. There is NOTHING wrong with that. I have the feeling you're mad he didn't tell her he was gay then... |
While I (37) was an expat in Dubai for my business, I met my current wife (27).
I already had a daughter from a relationship. Her mom is not in the picture. She gave up all custody when the baby was born.
I’m ethnically Middle Eastern but grew up in the US.
My wife however grew up in Dubai. Culturally, Dubai is v... | YTA, together with your wife. She moved out of her country, and she needs to learn to respect people. This isn't about cultural differences but about your wife being rude to those she perceives as lesser. I'm proud of your daughter for speaking up. ###### |
So my GF technically has an account with Disney+. Someone ended up creating an account using her email address (it wasn't the account creator's fault, it was a fuck up on Gmail's end). She's never used it because she has no interest, and I didn't either until recently.
Some context from my GF: "About a year ago I star... | YTA, this is simply theft. Your GF too is an AH. ###### |
I married my husband 2 years ago and my relationship with my stepson (12) has never been well. We tried everything but nothing seems to work. His behavior towards me is so terrible, he shouts at me, swears me, and calls me worst “mother” ever.
His 13th birthday is tomorrow and since my daughter (7F) birthday is only... | YTA, this is a massive overreaction. You say he didn't believe you at first because you don't usually go through with your punishments? I think you need to learn about how to consistently and proportionately discipline a child. You say the relationship has been terrible but the tone of your post suggests you put the... |
(23m) Just started dating this girl (21) for maybe two months now and she came over to hang yesterday. Her cycles are irregular due to her birth control and her periods can range from a month to several months.
Accidents happen and she bled right through her underwear through her jeans. I gave her a spare of my box... | Yta, theyre being cleaned? The blood is dry? You dont think if eventually you lived together your clothes would be washed together?
If you cut yourself would you separate those clothes from the rest of the laundry?
If you want to be with a woman, you're going to have to deal with a woman. If periods gross you out ... |
My sister is almost 30, still lives at home and doesn't have a real job. She wants to become a successful Etsy "couture home decor artist."
Basically she wants buy Made in China junk, decorate it and sell it at 900% markup. I told her Pier One already beat her to it and they're going out of business. Faced with the... | YTA, the way the story is told. I agree with your decision to not invest. But why be so harsh? You could have come up with 100 reasons that you can’t spare any cash, or told her in a much kinder way that you don’t think this is a good business venture. The way you did it, you sound like you ranted, and you simply want... |
My girlfriend informed me the other day that she was going on a trip with the people mentioned above. She said she was taking our son with her and didn’t mention inviting me, hence the title “girls weekend.” I said, word for word, in a smart-ass tone “take pictures of my son when he first sees the ocean.” I told her I ... | YTA, stunning she doesn't trust you to keep her kid when you've been "sober" less then a year and still sound like you smoke and drink a ton. Seriously if you want to ACTUALLY be a fucking parent then stop drinking and smoking altogether cause you haven't proven you can handle it. ###### |
I have a very strained relationship with my husband's family. MIL has a "medical condition" that she doesn't wish to elaborate on, and obviously she doesn't have to, but she throws temper tantrums like an actual child. I only witnessed one but it was very disturbing, she was full on hyperventilating and flailing uncont... | YTA, sorry. She sounds like an awful person, but she has the right to choose the name she wants to be called by, you don’t get to make that choice. ###### |
My roommate has this weird hobby where she listens to FM radio for hours on end. She has several radios, and sets up all these things so that she can pull in as distant a station as possible. Today, she brought home this $200 thing that's the size of my desktop. She was raving about how "good" of a deal it was, even th... | YTA, she didn’t ask for your opinion. After she politely tried to disengage you kept giving your unsolicited opinion. Let people enjoy their hobbies and mind your own business. ###### |
This girl and I (both 20 years old) had a thing during this whole quarantine thing. She sent me photos of herself of her doing different things and videos. Well right now she kind of hates me so were probably not going to be dating or anything again.
She's very paranoid that I'm going to leak her stuff (I have no ide... | YTA, please respect her and delete them. Assuming you mean there are nudes etc in there, She’s obviously worried about people looking at them and doing something sexual when she doesn’t want them to, and you’ve essentially confirmed that’s what you are going to do. ###### |
My daughter is a 16F.
She has recently started practicing witchcraft at her father's and has told me about it.
I do not like this AT ALL. It goes against our religion (I am a Devout Catholic). I have told her she isn't allowed to practice it and she then tells me that the BIBLE involves witchcraft??? She also gives m... | YTA, paganism *is* a religion. How would you feel if one of your parents, or anyone for that matter, were to have told you you couldn’t practice Catholicism.
She is absolutely free to practice her faith in anyway she wishes, so long as she isn’t harming others. You say you “don’t know what else she wants” - she wants... |
I am a single dad raising three boys. My middle is 14 (Brian) and from the outside, is the perfect kid. He's a skater/surfer, gets all A's and B's, very good to his younger brother and his friends' parents and teachers really like him.
I have always been very close with him. A couple of years ago, he started having t... | YTA, Only because I don't think the punishment would achieve anything.
He'd miss the trip. Do you imagine he's going to listen to you more once you're back? Obey the rules? Or do you think a kid that's acting out would be MORE likely to act out now that he knows you can just take away 'once in a lifetime' things from... |
My ex and I have three boys. The middle is 9 and has been dying to go to sleep away camp with his friends (you have to be 9). That shit cost an arm and a leg for three weeks. I paid most of it and two of the weeks came out my custody time.
A few days into camp, he calls me up crying to pick him up. He is home sick and... | YTA, of course.
you paid that money for him to be happy. he is not happy. understand?
it was a waste of money, yes. was it his fault? no no no no.
as a parent you should be prepared to have money go down the drain because of your children, and be prepared to suck it up, and make sure at the end of the day they ar... |
Hello everyone, me and my friends are over this situation now but we still argue over who was the true AH. Please help us!
To start, I am a very unreliable person when it comes to time management and showing up on time. I don’t know why I do it. I would even be prepared early at times but as long as I see that I still... | YTA, of course. You’re consistently late so your friends told you to meet early so you’d hopefully be on time. It didn’t work, of course, and it’d have been nice had they responded when you text them at 5pm asking where they were. But at the same time, you don’t have a lot of room to be mad about this at all. ###### |
My birthday was last night. I had come from work and my husband told me happy birthday and we ate some takeout. He brings out a gift and gives it to me, and I say thank you but put it aside to open later. At the time I was relaxing and watching something. My husband gets annoyed that I don't open it then, but I tell hi... | YTA, obviously. "I just wanted to watch my thing". really? you couldn't stop for five minutes to open the gift he got you? the one that he was clearly excited to give you? ###### |
I think the title makes it sound weirder than it is but here we go. My boyfriend’s brother is working on his masters and in order to support himself, has an OnlyFans where he posts both solo videos/pictures and videos of him with other men. It might be worth noting that his brother is gay. My boyfriend was open about t... | YTA, nothing sexual with partner's close family and friends is an assumed boundary ###### |
i (46m) have a daughter (19f) who has anxiety. She was fine both socially and mentally before, but around age 12/13 something happened to her. I'm guessing its her starting high school that made her start having it, because she'd skip class constantly and fake being sick all the time. This made her social life crumble ... | YTA, not only for your horrendous attitude towards anxiety but for the whole “pill free”, “natural remedies” spiel in the comments. I doubt that’s helping your daughter.
If you don’t want to take medicine yourself that’s on you - you take the consequences - but you suck for projecting that attitude into your daughter... |
My brother just told everybody at dinner he was having a kid, I said “congrats” and kept eating but everyone started crying tears of joy because it’s their first grandchild and I guess my sister is happy to be an aunt but I didn’t care too much and I just let them have their moment
Then he decided to put me in the spo... | YTA, not for your initial reaction, but for saying, "I just don’t give a shit he’s having a baby."
If someone said, "I was getting a promotion," or "I just bought a new house," or "I just won the lottery," the obviously human reaction is to share in their happiness and joy.
When you say you don't give a shit, what y... |
I got engaged recently to the absolute love of my life. Now this relationship was born out of a lot of drama. We met when I was working as an administrative assistant for him, and he was engaged to another woman. There was a lot of back and forth, and no one in the situation was very mature. That's all over and things ... | YTA, not for the bridesmaid thing, but because your general level of assholery supersedes any one specific situation. Also I doubt your sister wants to be a bridesmaid anyway, so this is probably a non-issue and this post is just one big awfulbrag. ###### |
My wife has always been active on social media - more active than almost anyone else I know - and that has not changed since she got pregnant. If anything, it's worse, and the posts have gotten more frequent.
Once we announced she started taking a weekly photo of her stomach to show her growth, but she posts a tons o... | YTA, not for having an opinion, but for expressing your “pregnant bellies look weird, you are embarrassing me with your weird, pregnant stomach, and nobody wants to see that” comments to your wife.
Not everyone has the same hangups that you do about pregnant bellies; this is a “you” thing, and by your not-so-subt... |
I was sitting in my wife’s office when she started talking about her friend who was going through a lot, I was sitting and listening.
Some context, my wife has had a wild past and I told her I don’t enjoy stories including men or anything like that. I wouldn’t talk to her about my past like that with her.
So then sh... | YTA, man. I understand not wanting to hear graphic sexual stories involving your wife but hearing the word *wingman* makes you leave..? That’s an *intense* overreaction. You need to realize that your wife’s past doesn’t make her damaged, it makes her who she is. You shouldn’t have married a person whose past makes you... |
So here in Europe, we don't have a culture of tipping. People here unlike America, pay employees a living wage. I work as a pizza delivery courier to have some pocket money and my location has an American customer who's a regular. He is known to tip 5 quids minimum and would sometimes tip 10 pounds on special holidays.... | YTA, just because tipping isn't required in the UK hardly means it's unusual. Plenty of people still tip, telling someone to "buzz off" over a tip is massively over-the-top to someone just being kind. ###### |
Originally it wasn't a big deal, or so I thought, till we went into an argument over it.
I visit this Chinese teahouse about once or twice a month for a dish, in which I pick the ingredients and one of the cooks cooks and mix different spices into a sauce to be added into a soup in front of me.
I always request a s... | YTA, it's not cool to make a drama and feel entitled to organizing the restaurant's staff and the way they work. ###### |
Aita for bringing up the time my girlfriends dad overcooked a steak awhile ago?
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 2 and a half years. We are both 20. For one of the first dinners I had at her house with her parents and her younger sisters, her dad grilled steaks. He was making New York strips and frankly, he burnt th... | YTA, if you have to ask beforehand for someone not to get offended you usually know that you're going to be offending them. ###### |
This is a throwaway account. I (20F) was at home three months ago when my mom offed herself. She was a vile woman so I honestly didn't care.
She left completely out of her will and left her estate, vehicles, and everything else to my brother. My brother is a homicide detective and already makes good money.
I had be... | YTA, I'm pretty sure this is a troll but if you aren't then you're a mega AH. You hate the woman but you want her money? Your brother makes more money than you so he has to give away the assets he inherited? You're entitled and heartless. Your brother was rightfully awarded his mother's assets due to his unwavering lo... |
I was babysitting 2 kids, 11 and 13 years old and I took them to the petting zoo. The goats were having sex and the kids were confused and asked me what they were doing and I tried to change the subject but they kept pestering me so I said they were having sex.
They asked me what sex was so I told them. I didnt go int... | YTA, I would’ve fired you too. Birds and bees and any questions about religion, heaven/hell, death, you should not be explaining to children that aren’t yours. ###### |
Title sounds bad but please hear me out
My daughter (Elly) has been doing this thing for the past weeks where she insults herself and expects me and my wife to correct her. Like she'll say she can't eat the dinner we made because she's fat (she's not fat, not even close) and we'll have to go through this song and danc... | YTA, I get that you're annoyed but she's 15, insecure, and looking for reassurance. You're her parent, do better. ###### |
My best friend, Mia, has cystic fibrosis. The average life expectancy for cystic fibrosis is about 37, but Mias doctors don’t think she’ll get to 30. When we were kids and her CF wasn’t something I was hyper aware of, we agreed that we’d be godparents to each others kids.
I recently gave birth to a baby girl, and obv... | YTA, here's the thing. God parents aren't necessarily who her guardians will be. My god parents were a childless uncle, and the wife of a friend of my father's who we barely interacted with as I grew older. My sister's was someone my dad played cricket with and my 16 year olds aunt. In case something happened to ... |
Hello all! I am using my son's Reddit account after he told me about this group. Please don't "like(?)", as I don't want my son to see this.
So my son got a physical today, and he's in the 27th percentile in terms of weight. I was disappointed, to say the least. I and my wife are fit, why can't he be? He's 14 by the ... | YTA, good way to destory your sons self estem in himself and any form of trust he had i. You. Prepare for your son to get distant with you. Who would wabt a parent who only cares about thier body? Its not like he is in any ways a unhealthy weight, just not fit like you. I hope he gets out of such a toxic environment w... |
So I (17m) live with my mom, dad, and sister (15). My mom often leaves for long trips by herself (I believe to get away from my dad and us) and hasn’t been here all week. My dad is a pretty extreme alcoholic and is almost never sober. He’s typically worst in the evenings, when he’s clearly intoxicated (unlike other tim... | YTA, focus your anger on the adult in the situation and tell your dad you're disgusted by *his* behaviour. ###### |
The first time my wife had a miscarriage I was completely supportive and spent several days comforting her. The second time I was also there for her 100%. The third time was the night before a major work meeting with prospective investors, so I offered to take her to the ER and make sure she got to her room, but explai... | YTA, especially since you missed work anyway! She needed you. ###### |
So we are from a country that’s currently dealing with huge disasters, there are legit high percentage of families that can’t find food and shelter because of the recent pandemic, we have electricity shortage, the government is even struggling to deliver water into homes all that with extreme temperature and a joke of ... | YTA, do you seriously believe that only black people in America face racism? BLM is an issue for the whole world! ###### |
My 19yo son is about 6ft and needs to lose about 20 pounds. He was always skinny, but I suspect his eating habits got bad while he was at college and he just wasn't working out. He's been home since March and I've been egging him to go to workout with me. He doesn't want to. We had a 4th of July picture taken of us and... | Yta, did you think this wasn't going to make your son insecure? You're also enabling your 9 year old to fat shame others. You need to discipline your kid and apologize. ###### |
This happened yesterday and I’m still getting texts and calls from people calling me the asshole, my daughter isn’t speaking to me and everyone wants me to apologize but I don’t see what I did wrong.
So context. For Independence Day this year my husband and I decided it would be fun to have a costume themed Fourth of... | YTA, but only for throwing a party in the middle of a pandemic ###### |
I, 7M loves treats. They're my favourite thing to eat. When it rains, I stand out in the garden to get wet, then come in demanding my treats for being so brave. When they come down in the morning, I beg them for treats, they think I'm saying good morning but I'm not. I just love treats so much.
My mam and dad calls m... | YTA, but only because all cats are AH. Furry, adorable, AHs.
And yes, you deserve all the treats 😸 ###### |
I wasn’t ever exposed to girls/women when I was young. My mother died during childbirth, my father never remarried, and I was an only child. I also went to a boys only school. So, I’ve never experienced a person getting a period for a long time.
Flash forward 30 years. My 12 year old daughter is getting her first per... | YTA, but only a tiny bit. She's 12, you've had plenty of time to educate yourself on menstruation issues. While your instinct to have your daughter speak with someone who has experienced menstruation was right, it can come off as you going, "Those are women problems, not going to help you with that." --I completely re... |
Me and my freinds are planning a boys roadtrip across New Zealand, (we cured the disease). One of my good friends called Bryan, recently came out to us as Trans MTF. I am pretty progressive and accept Bryan as a transgender woman. Because of this we have decided to disinvite from his trip and our group chat because he ... | YTA, but not irredeemably so. Coming out as trans is really difficult and frightening, and she's probably really worried about losing friends - it's understandable that you wouldn't invite a woman on a boys trip, but from her perspective, getting disinvited AND booted from the group chat looks and feels a lot like you... |
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