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My (37F) babysitter (16F) has been babysitting for me for about 2 months. She’s a very sweet and quiet girl and is good with the kids (4F and 8M), we’ve only had small problems here and there but nothing major at all. When she first started babysitting for me I had asked her if there wer... | YTA she’s a child she didn’t know and your very rude about it she also called stating she wasn’t feeling right and you said to try and hold out. You put your children and that young girl in danger shame on you. ###### |
Throwaway cuz said friend uses reddit.
So I’ve known my friend B for about six months now. We met at work and we get along really well. She’s new to our company and from what I’ve seen, she’s a really good worker and fits the job well.
The other day she invited me over to her place for a girls night. I agreed and c... | YTA She knows how her seizures affect her. You haven’t even seen her have a seizure so you don’t know how severe they are. You should’ve kept your mouth shut ###### |
So I’m from an asian country. Socially to some extent it’s kinda less conservative than some, so people date and have sex and all that without much of a problem, but we’re still generally obsessed with getting into good colleges and going into profitable careers. The top colleges in that regard are American ones like I... | YTA really you could have just said, "We had different goals. So we broke up." And left it at that. Why did you bring up her dating history after you? How is that relevant to the conversation at hand? That is gossip. By saying "she made memories with other guys" makes you sound petty and is slut shaming. ###### |
I am a 35(f) married to a 38(m). We are both the sort of people that like cartoons and other fun stuff, but not to an overwhelming degree. We will both watch cartoons from our childhood together from time to time, and we both like adult animated shows (such as Rick and Morty or Bob’s Burgers). We also both have Knick k... | YTA play is an important part of relaxation. Some people find that release in video games. Some in games on their phones. Some play sports. And some play with toys from their childhood. There’s nothing wrong with him playing with something he enjoys. ###### |
My husband and I will be getting married in August. I have 7 bridesmaids, one of which was supposed to be my best friend, Rachel. Rachel and I have been best friends since we were 4 and I love the girl to death. Rachel wears glasses as she was born with a squint and has an astigmatism.
When the topic came up, I told ... | YTA Or a troll, given how obviously you are an asshole it's hard to imagine this is real. ###### |
My best friend and I are the type to always pull pranks on each other, it's just how our friendship formed and we always get a kick out of it.
For example, he once invited me to a party and told me to wear a costume and when I got there, it was normal attire. I laughed after the initial embarrassment, and like I said ... | YTA on multiple levels.
1. You embarassed your girlfriend by making her wear white to a wedding. You and your friend may love pranking each other, but she didn't sign up for being pranked at her expense at such a public venue.
2. You pissed off the bride by breaking one of the cardinal rules of weddings; only bride w... |
The first time my wife had a miscarriage I was completely supportive and spent several days comforting her. The second time I was also there for her 100%. The third time was the night before a major work meeting with prospective investors, so I offered to take her to the ER and make sure she got to her room, but explai... | YTA oh no you were stressed out you couldn't sleep hmmm I wonder who would be feeling more stressed and completely alone and unsupported in hospital because their SO didn't think they were worth being with during this traumatic time. ###### |
Ok so the title makes it sound bad but read it first. Today is my older sister's birthday and she went to work the whole day and came back and then i ruined it by having a tantrum and locking myself in my room. Why i did it is because of a laptop i was getting. Please read it before you Accuse me that i'm a ego.
I wo... | YTA oh buddy you sound young i understand your feelings but she didnt lash out and throw a tantrum you decided to bud ###### |
My older sister adopted a child from Russia about 5 years ago now, when she was a baby. Her daughter is now 5 and in school. I love my niece, but her development isn’t where it should be for a 5 year old, which causes lots of discussions in our family as to whether she should be assessed or anything.
The night before... | YTA obviously it’s rude to refer to a child as a crack baby, regardless of the bio parents addictions there’s better ways to have phrased it. ###### |
Throwaway account, obviously.
So, I am getting married to my fiance in five months (hopefully!) and am obviously super excited. My fiance and I have been planning, hiring caterers and musicians in advance to the big day, and recently, we were on a Skype call with his side of the family to discuss everything.
So, my... | YTA obviously but hey good thing you let him know what kind of person you are before he married you ###### |
So my sister and her wife were together for five years. They got a sperm donor last year and my sister got pregnant. When they were in the beginning stages of considering pregnancy, advised my sister to let her wife be the one to carry the baby or have her wife’s egg implanted in her.
I said that because two years a... | YTA now is definitely not the time to say "I told you so," and honesty doesn't mean you have to say everything you think. ###### |
So I (26F) do business with my best friend’s (39F) fiancé’s family.
I’m very close to them, especially the fiancé’s mother and have been traveling with her fiancé a lot for business.
He confessed before proposing that he was giving her a “ shut up ring” because she was making him miserable talking about commitment an... | YTA not for not getting involved but for giving her a false answer that you know is a lie. ###### |
My girlfriend (20f) and I (36m) have been living together for about six months now. She has quite a lot of mental and physical health conditions. She has chronic migraines, hypermobile joints that are causing severe pain her wrists, chronic kidney disease and pernicious anaemia, as well as depression.
She’s been stru... | YTA not all health problems can be cured by eating a salad and going for a jog. She didn't choose to always be in pain. ###### |
So we wanted the internet to settle this debate. I've been staying with my friend Kate for a little while at her beach house. We've been best friends since college, so obviously boundaries have kind of gone to the wayside. Kate has two daughters who are 18 and 16 and the 18 year old's boyfriend was visiting. His famil... | YTA no wonder the boyfriend's parents don't like either of you if you don't have boundaries when other people are around ###### |
I (21M) like to be naked at home. I’m most comfortable when I’m au naturale, and I refuse to apologize for it. My sister (25F) has been having some financial difficulties due to the current situation, and she asked me if it was okay if she crashed on my couch for a bit. She’s my sister, so of course I said yes. Lately ... | YTA no one wants to see their sibling naked. ###### |
My daughter (16f) is really introverted, and doesn't really play any sports, so my husband and I decided to fill up her schedule with afterschool activities every day. She has robotics two days a week, tennis practice three days a week, and band practice for two days a week. She was strongly against it, but went along ... | YTA my goodness. Let her be herself and do what she enjoys. That's productivity. As it is, you're forcing her to hate things that she may not have hated otherwise and ruining your relationship. Rather destructive, not productive ###### |
I have an 18 year old daughter from a 1 night stand , at the time the girl (Claire) was pregnant I begged her to get an abortion since I was in no position to raise a child but she refused and after she gave birth to (Rebecca) she screwed over me by filing for child support. I have never been late on a payment, but I a... | YTA mostly for the fact that it’s been 18 years since she was born and it is painfully obvious that you are still seething with resentment over the mere fact that she exists.
Additionally, in the US at least, your income and assets are taken into account when determining what financial aid she will qualify for so you... |
My apartment complex has a strict no smoking policy which includes you can’t even have cigarettes, pipes, vapes, or anything on the property.
My neighbor is a young girl, looks college-age. I was walking by one day and saw her window was open, and there were a bunch of bongs in her apartment.
I pondered it and ende... | YTA mind your own fucking business, why in the hell would you tell on someone for something that literally does not bother you in absolutely anyway? That's amazing ###### |
My (28M) parents own a beach house. We stayed their for a couple of days to celebrate the 4th of July.
The house has two bedrooms. My parents stayed in one. The other room was for me, my girlfriend of one year (32F), my brother (34M), and my little sister (23F). The room has two double beds.
After dinner, I took a ... | YTA lmao. She doesn't have to sleep in the same bed as your girlfriend and you're an adult with self control. It's not your sisters problem if you're a child who can't control himself. ###### |
I(35M) have a son(13m).One days as my wife(32f) made a chicken sandwich for him, he told me that he didn't want to eat non veg anymore. But we didn't allow him to, since proteins are necessary for children to grow up and my son needs that at this age. When he is 18 he can do whatever he wants.He told me that he is fed... | YTA let your son eat what he wants to. You can get plenty of protein on a vegan/vegetarian diet. Take this as an opportunity to bond with your son and research some recipes the whole family might enjoy. You can also substitute things to make a veggie version of whatever you’re having for you son. eg, making spaghetti ... |
This happened a year ago, but my son still brings up how embarrassing it was so I'm trying to get some perspective here. We live in a gated community that has a semi-public pool. Only people who live in this community or their guests can access the pool.
One morning I went to the pool with my son, who was about ten at... | YTA just get over your insecurities as you said it's been years and you're thinking about this woman's boobs ###### |
My dad and mum have recently moved (permanently) to sunnier shores and gave me the house. There's a whole lot of details revolving around that 'deal' which isn't really necessarily to mention for this post but long story extremely short, I'm on 'probation' for awhile and then it will officially/legally mine. The point ... | YTA it’s your sister and you should’ve asked first or at least told her. have fun repairing your relationship ###### |
A little context, I still live in our small family home with just my parents. A year or so ago my father had replaced the canvas pictures in the stairwell with naked images of my mother, nothing conventionally rude but sideboob and back / ass shots. Probably would look really tasteful if it was literally anyone outside... | YTA it's their home. If you don't like their decorating choices, get your own. ###### |
My daughter is currently in her second year of college and has all around been doing great, making me and her father very proud. Because of the insane cost of tuition (almost $40 thousand a year) and the fact that we run a fairly successful car rental business, we agreed that as her parents we'd cover up to three quart... | YTA It's her life and her name. You being "furious" with her wanting to change her name shows that you don't care about her feelings, you just care about what YOU label her as.
Of course it's your money and you choose how to spend it, but you're being petty as hell. ###### |
I know this is a weird hang up, but I was raised by my grandparents and they never used the word "pregnant" because to them it was almost like a dirty word. It was basically seen as vulgar. Everything was always "she's going to have a baby" or "she's expecting", so over time I developed an aversion to saying "pregnant"... | YTA It was seen as vulgar because the actions leading to it were seen as vulgar and unmentionable. Pretty much anything to do with proof of womanhood was seen as vulgar. Menstruation, pregnancy, birth - it was all considered scandalous. In several religions and cultures these things are seen as dirty, that women ne... |
So this’ll be a real quick post, but I’ll try and get a bit of backstory into it;
My (38F) sister adopted her daughter and my niece Jennie when she was 3.
For whatever reason Jennie has never been the smartest bulb of the bunch; she failed literally every subject she took other than religious education and catering.
... | YTA it sounds like Jennie has some learning disabilities. Calling her names like “ditzy” isn’t ok. Parents comparing and contrasting their kids disabilities isn’t ok. It’s not a contest to see who has it worst. ###### |
My wife of eight years and I have a seven year old son together, seven since May. We've had our rough patches, but I can say with certainty we've never had any major disagreements about how to raise our son.
We were out shopping a few days ago and split up to cover ground more quickly. Once I'd grabbed the things I wa... | YTA it is absolutely not inappropriate to bring your child into the bathroom when they're still snatching-sized.
edit: changed appropriate to inappropriate because I apparently don't know how to type. ###### |
I have sensory processing disorder which means I am extremely sensitive to light and sound. My family does not seem to care and are always very inconsiderate: screaming, keeping bright lights on, etc.
My little sister is scared of the dark. To combat this, she has a HUGE LED light. It lights up my room (directly acros... | YTA it doesnt sound like you’ve tried solving the problem yourself. Closing your own door or wearing a sleep mask or something. Even reading through your comments you want everyone around you to accommodate your needs.
I get it sucks but your sensory issues with lights are exactly that. Your issues. People wont alwa... |
Throwaway to maintain privacy.
So I got bored during quarantine and decided to try out some weed lube (with THC in it). I told my boyfriend that I had gotten some new lube and asked if we could try it and he agreed. Side note, the pack it comes in does have a cannabis logo but the bottle itself does not.
Anyway, af... | YTA in several ways.
> Side note, the pack it comes in does have a cannabis logo but the bottle itself does not.
Hemp based lubes, such as Wet's Hemptation also brand with a cannabis leaf. Acting as though the packaging is a substitute for informing your partner is disingenuous, at best.
>Now he’s upset. He says... |
I’m a 24 year old male, and I have a very tight knit group of 5 friends. We are all the same age and every summer since we were like 19, we always would go on some sort of summer trip. When we were younger, we went on road trips to hiking locations, amusement parks, or concerts/music festivals. Last summer, we flew to ... | YTA if you're all such great friends it doesn't matter where you go if you go together. The fact you are thinking of going somewhere that you know he won't be able to afford is a bit of a shitty move on your part.
Maybe offer several options including some cheaper places and see which he goes for. If he goes for the ... |
My mom had me at 14. She went off to college at 18 and I stayed behind with my grandparents who raised me until I was eighteen. She wasn’t really in my life and I don’t feel like much was lost. My grandparents were still young and I was raised with my uncles and aunts who weren’t too far from my age. She ended up remar... | YTA if you send your kid to another middle school away from his/her friends for your own reasons. I think the kids should come first. Is he/she aware of their step-uncles/aunts and their relation to them? If yes and they are cool about it, then they should go to whichever school is best for them, not for your convenie... |
I’m a 24 year old male, and I have a very tight knit group of 5 friends. We are all the same age and every summer since we were like 19, we always would go on some sort of summer trip. When we were younger, we went on road trips to hiking locations, amusement parks, or concerts/music festivals. Last summer, we flew to ... | YTA if you exclude Bob. Why don't you all chip in to subsidize the trip for him? That's what my friend group has always done for our one friend who has a lot less money than us. ###### |
So I was due for Botox and fillers yesterday. My husband was out of town on an emergency business trip and my daughter’s nanny had quit during the lockdown period.
I had the option of my mother in law coming over but she tended to let my daughter have cookies, soda, and chips behind my back, so I really didn’t like t... | YTA if you can’t see how bringing a young girl to your plastic surgery/cosmetic procedure appointments won’t impact her own self-esteem. Kids are our mirrors. They learn by watching you and your husband and they learn in very black/white terms. So if the lines on your face are bad, the lines on her face are bad, too. ... |
I’m a 24 year old male, and I have a very tight knit group of 5 friends. We are all the same age and every summer since we were like 19, we always would go on some sort of summer trip. When we were younger, we went on road trips to hiking locations, amusement parks, or concerts/music festivals. Last summer, we flew to ... | YTA if u don't really care about ur friend.
I get that u want to go further now but if u plan on bringing all ur friends u should be considerate and think about him too.
doesnt really sound like good friends to me. ###### |
I was visiting my parents in the suburbs for a few days. I live in an apartment in a big city, so I enjoy getting to spend some quiet time in the burbs once in a while. It was a gorgeous day so I decided to sit out in the backyard and read for a while. The neighbors two houses down were outside with their kids and I co... | Yta if it was not past 10pm and they were on there own property they can do whatever they want as long as it is legal and THEY ARE KIDS they have way too much energy and are probably trapped in side all day. And you said it yourself you have a short fuse with kids put some headphones in next time. ###### |
My SO and I are moving in together in a few months. We are going to find a new bigger apartment together.
He has a cat. I'm not an animal person at all. I'm afraid of cats, dogs, ferrets, hamsters, you name it. I'm the kind of person that cries when a dog comes near me. When I'm over at his place, he puts his cat in... | YTA if i were him i would choose the cat. ###### |
Me (M38) and my gf (F23) have lived together for 3 years. She didnt go to college, and she wasnt very popular in high school. She hasnt made many friends in the 3 years we've been together and I dont mind. I work, she stays at home. Its fine for the both of us.
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A few days ago I came back from work to see... | YTA I’m afraid - the way you describe her doesn’t suggest you love her, it’s more like she should be grateful to you because she didn’t have any friends before you.
If you treat her with the level of respect you’ve shown her here then you shouldn’t be surprised that she’s looking elsewhere. ###### |
It was my birthday yesterday and about a week ago my wife asked me what I wanted to do / what to have the our kids ( 11 m, 13 f, and 15 f) get me (she gives them the money then they gift it to me) . I told her that I didn't want do anything for it and that the perfect birthday for me would be me being able to spend the... | YTA I was somewhat open to your request until this:
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>I told my kids thanks for saying happy birthday and told them to not try to speak with me for the day
Dude, you’re a grown ass man and a father. Having a birthday doesn’t entitle to shun your children for an entire day. ###### |
My cousin and I went to the same college lived in the same city. She has turned 30 in March and has been freaking out about being single.
The guys my cousin goes for are consistently out of her league. And it shows too, she is excited to post about them they want to keep it on the dl.. and are never “ready for a relat... | YTA I see quite a few couples where, would you go by your system, one is dating down. So I guess there must be other factors...
If you meant that she goes for guys who are douchebags, that's an entirely different thing, and something you wouldn't say in a way that makes her feel bad about herself.
And yes, definitel... |
This is my first time posting on here. This shouldn’t be too long of a post.
Our oldest son is 19 years old, he is a sophomore in college and goes to a small school about an hour away from our town. Last sunday, we got a call from him saying that he needed some money. I’m actually surprised he called his mom and not ... | YTA I know you feel it's not a big deal but hiding something like this from your wife is a slippery slope towards distrust and marital problems. Instead explain the situation and explain how you want it dealt with and come to a compromise on how you should address this with your son, if at all. ###### |
Son is 14M, cat is 3F. My son’s bedroom is one the third floor of our house, so it’s basically a finished attic. Early in the morning, a thunderstorm rolled in. It was pretty brutal, and it shook the house especially up in his room. I yelled up to him to come downstairs to the first floor, just in case something happen... | YTA I forgive you for what you said in the heat of the moment, but then you didn't fix it afterwards. A cat's life is also irreplaceable. Your son's life is worth more than a cat's life, but that doesn't make a cat's life any more replaceable. The fact that you treated cats poorly in childhood and do not care about ca... |
My girlfriend can definitely be a little too outspoken sometimes and I wish she could tone it down because we're both in college right now and primarily dependent on our parents, so don't bite the hand that feeds you. My mom doesn't like my girlfriend very much but she was doing some spa stuff with her friend and invit... | YTA I don’t really get the Puritan reference? Do you think you gf is being a prude? It is gross that they had sex where other patients now have to come in and receive care. That’s super unsanitary and defiantly disrespectful to the other patients.
And also why was your mom even telling your gf that story?? I do not ... |
Okay so this title makes it sound really bad but it’s not as cut and dry as it seems.
I’m (21m) a senior in college but am doing a five year program. I have two roommates in an off-campus apartment, two dudes that I’ve been friends with for years. They’re both graduating in May, only staying for four years. People ... | YTA I don't understand where you're coming from. If you don't want to have a potentially romantic/sexual situation with a roommate, then don't. It's not that hard. ###### |
When my daughter was nine, she and her brother had spilled juice on two books and the head librarian went up to me and said “Ms. X, this book is all wet and it’s all damaged and I am very upset. Do you know what may have happened?” I saw immediately that it was a chapter book and got upset at my daughter in front of th... | YTA I already thought you were TA for getting that upset at a nine your old for ten dollars when I know adults who have treated books way worse, but when she offered to pay it with money she was given therefore was hers in other words when she tried to take responsibility you got mad at her that’s behaviour you should... |
My gf gets very bad period pains and everymonth it's the same old shit. She's always whining and moaning to me about it like there's something that can be done about it and she went crazy last month because I said it's it's a coincidence that everytime she's bleeding from her vagina my ears always end up bleeding too. ... | YTA how you wrote everything down comes across as super douchey my guy. She's legit bleeding and yeah it's not nice for you but it sure as Heck ain't good for her. Next time just the flowers and chocolates and respect. ###### |
My roommate and I (both 20f) don’t know each other that well. We have mutual friends who both knew we needed roommates at the beginning of the year, so set us up. We’re not in the apartment at the same time very often, so I wouldn’t say we’re friends, but we don’t dislike each other.
At the beginning of last week, my... | YTA holy wow.
1. Who the fuck leaves puke for a week and doesn't clean it?
2. Especially if it was puked on the bed?!?! I own a waterproof mattress protector and I'd clean that shit immediately to make sure it doesnt soak through. Or at the very least throw that shit away?
3. How did you stand that smell for a w... |
I've always facetuned my photos, even before I met her. I feel like every one our ages (26 & 23) who actively use Instagram regularly are guilty too, I'm just open about it. My wife is now refusing to speak to me after I posted a pic of us, and I edited the pic to make her look thinner. I have told her that I do no... | YTA holy shit. what a dick move. if it was blemishes or dark circles, whatever. but NEVER imply you would change or prefer someone at a different weight ###### |
I(14F) was bored today, so I decided to pull this prank on my brother(16M).
I mixed some ghost pepper paste in his toothpaste. The prank worked well, initially he thought something was wrong with his toothpaste but then his mouth started burning hard and he ran for the milk. I though it was pretty funny.
I thought ... | YTA his mouth was burning. He was in pain. Why is that funny to you? ###### |
I (33M) have been married to my wife (32F) for the past 5 years. 6 months ago my wife decided to undergo rhinoplasty (nose job) surgery due to not liking the shape of her nose for several years and also to repair a deviated septum (although the primary reason was cosmetic). I personally didn’t think she needed the sur... | YTA here. It’s okay to feel not enthused about the situation but you gain nothing voicing it to your spouse who is already anxious. ###### |
My 8yo is all boy. We were at Target buying some new clothes because he's growing and I let him decide what he wanted. He came back with nothing noticeable pair of girl shorts. The ones that are inches higher than boy shorts. I thought it was a mistake but he picked it out. The shorts were grey and neutral and not pink... | YTA He's 8. He doesn't care about gendered stuff. He saw comfy shorts and you denied him comfy shorts. What does it matter what part of the store he got them from? It's not like he's the first boy in history to wear something labeled for the other gender. ###### |
I (18M) was in a pub in Paris France last weekend, and was having a good conversation with a girl I'd just met.
The bartender came around and said that they'd be closing in 10 minutes, but I didn't want to leave, so I thought to myself that if I ordered two pints for myself, he couldn't kick me out as I had still had... | YTA Gross. The correct response when the bartender says “we’re closing” is to pay your tab and leave. You acted like a rude, entitled little boy. You might as well have said “ I don’t see you as a human being.” ###### |
A few months ago, my 24 year old daughter was diagnosed with Crohn's disease. She has been taking prednisone to help with the inflammation so that she can keep foods down. Prednisone is not to be taken long-term, so her doctor wants her to start on a biologic drug called Humira. I am very much against this, because the... | YTA Get off facebook mom groups.
>I raised my kids on them and I believe that with a strict diet and consistently taking dietary supplements,
If your diet work why does she have crohns..?
>I've done research on natural remedies
You know what they call natural remedies that work? Medicine. They call them medicine... |
I have never done this before, so apologies for any issues.
My son (14) drink ALOT of water. If we don't regulate it, he will drink 3,4, or 5 bottles of water a day. He just says he is really thirsty.
The problem is tap water in our area is terrible so he can't drink that, but buying so many water bottles is inanel... | YTA get a water purifier. You can get pitchers for pretty cheap. Your son is drinking water and you are wanting to ground him. He’s not drinking sugary soda or booze, it’s water. ###### |
My ex and I have three boys. The middle is 9 and has been dying to go to sleep away camp with his friends (you have to be 9). That shit cost an arm and a leg for three weeks. I paid most of it and two of the weeks came out my custody time.
A few days into camp, he calls me up crying to pick him up. He is home sick and... | YTA for your reasons, you’re not the asshole for not picking him up though.
This is a chance for him to have a good time and he’s outside of his comfort zone. So homesickness is normal. He’s 9. And honestly, at 9, kids need to know that their parents will be there for them whenever they need them. That’s how it work... |
I'm getting married next month. 6 months ago, I decided on a bridesmaids dress from amazon. I told each person individually what they were to get. It was cheap. Everyone ordered it and recieved their packages a while ago.
Except one girl, however. She decided to order it 4 months ago rather than 6. I know she was losi... | Yta for your attitude about it. There was no point her ordering the dress at the same time when everyone else did as she was losing weight and it might not have fit. She didn't leave it last minute she ordered it 4 months ago. There is no reason to be so uptight about this because despite it being ~YoUr DaY~ the whole... |
I turned 18 and my parents want me to vote for the person they are voting for. I told I was going to vote for the person I wanted because I am 18 and can do what I want now. They told me that as long as I lived in "their" house I had to do everything they said including who to vote for or move out on my own. I told the... | YTA for wasting the police's time. Your parents telling you who to vote for is not something they can or will do anything about. ###### |
My son has long hair. Never been for a cut nor trim till today. When it's looked after, he looks great and everyone comments on it. When it isn't, he looks terrible and... well everyone comments on it. I actually love his hair and wish things were different but he's just not into taking care of it anymore. But still wa... | YTA for violating your son's bodily autonomy, and taking away something that was important to his self expression and identity. If he isn't caring for his hair, a better approach would have been to take him to see a stylist who could give him some pointers, or to purchase some new hair products for him and show him so... |
My wife and I recently had a baby so tensions are high and it’s a very emotional time for everyone. She isn’t alright with my mom babysitting because of some emotional instability and she’s probably right about that. I know my mom can’t babysit and I’m alright with it but yesterday she said she doesn’t want the baby ar... | YTA for twisting your wife's words. Because this
> She literally said that she thinks there is something mentally wrong with a man who has a wife who acts like a child and constantly needs to be comforted and cared for like a child.
is not the same as
> I think it’s fucked is that my wife doesn’t think she deserve... |
The title, it just seems weird to pretend like it’s no big deal to invite an unpredictable softball team worth of people who openly disrespect the bride.
We can easily do a courthouse micro wedding that will make our parents happy, have a nice meal and take a beautiful Bubble-Vacation.
I want the marriage, I don’t w... | YTA for trying to marry someone whose friends abuse you this way. What the hell are you doing to yourself? You're driving right into a fire and you can't even tell! ###### |
Hello all! I am using my son's Reddit account after he told me about this group. Please don't "like(?)", as I don't want my son to see this.
So my son got a physical today, and he's in the 27th percentile in terms of weight. I was disappointed, to say the least. I and my wife are fit, why can't he be? He's 14 by the ... | YTA for trolling ###### |
So I'm not going, no matter what you guys say. I'm just curious if it makes me an asshole or not.
With my first wife, I was the excited Dad who couldn't wait to have kids. Even to the point where I wanted to catch the baby. Big mistake. Seeing my baby come out of her traumatized me so much that I couldn't have sex wi... | YTA for trolling ###### |
My gf says I'm an asshole since I complained about a restaurant online and in person for this. We went to a restaurant and everyone there was mexican and we were the only black people there. We tried to order our food and nobody there spoke English. I speak really bad spanish but I tried. This fucking pissed mr off, yo... | YTA for trashing reviews and for being ignorant about languages in your country.
Did you have a menu in English? Do you have the ability to read said English? Do you have all or some of your digits?
Good. Now next time you don’t speak a language and want to order their food at a restaurant, take the menu, point to... |
So my husband and I have been together for 4 years and married for 2. He has a 12 year old daughter who lives in another state with her mom.
Recently her mom lost her job and they got evicted from their apartment. Stepdaughter now wants to come stay with us like she normally does every summer. However this time she w... | YTA for this:
>It’s a goddamn pandemic and if he thinks he should be with his ex instead of his wife then he’s made his choice and I’ll have made mine.
He doesn't want to go live with his ex. He wants to *see his daughter.* Do you really not comprehend that?
You're within your rights to not want the ex-wife livin... |
Today, while walking home from work, I decided to stop by the blackberry patch that grew next to the sidewalk on the way to the apartment building I live in to pick some blackberries. I was wearing a long skirt that covered most of my legs, a tank top, and my hair was in a bun, making me look a bit like I used a time m... | YTA for this fake af story. Troll. ###### |
My 49-y-o cousin put my 90-y-o aunt up to informing our family that his 23-y-o daughter died from a drug overdose.
Of course, I sent my cousin my unconditional condolences right away without asking any questions.
Then I looked at his FB page.
“John” posted that prior to his daughter’s death, he spent 13 hours in the... | YTA for thinking you were owed anything. The man just lost his daughter. It was incredibly insensitive of you to demand answers right then and there. He's grieving. You're also the AH for arguing with everyone in the comments. What's the point of posting here if you're not willing to accept the judgements? ###### |
I BARELY ever get to see my daughter (14) and bout a month ago her mom finally started letting her come to my house on the weekends. I had an extra room and so i just put a bed in there and a dresser and im letting her decorate the rest. Me and my daughter have gotten into a few arguments about me "slut shaming" her, b... | YTA for thinking a dreamcatcher is witchcraft. Holy hell man. Are you the person who thinks rock music is witchcraft too? ###### |
I don’t even know where to start with this
I (f21) have recently been invited along with my mum and brother to a “secluded cottage getaway” by my mums brother, my uncle. My uncle, Graham, has a wife who to put it nicely is a nut job and two children who I adore.
My uncle put this cottage possibly in the worst way po... | YTA for the way you declined. A simple “Unfortunately, we have mad other plans for the month of August” would have sufficed. You insulted his happy place, his vacation home, and he has every right to be pissed. ###### |
My late wife passed away three years ago, I been married with my current wife for 6 months now.
My son (15) disrespects my wife and would always hurt her with his words.
I tried to get him to get used to his new life but he always says he can't wait to leave.
My son has always wanted to go to college, he's aiming to ... | YTA for the way you are approaching the situation.
You are trying to use money to control your son.
His behaviour might not be ideal but put yourself in his shoes. New woman ensconced in the place of his mother, she's in his private space (he didn't ask her to clean his room - that could be considered invasion of pr... |
My wife (38F) recently decided that she would like to lose some weight. I (38M) think she is beautiful regardless of weight but if she wants to lose weight that's fine too. We could definitely both stand to have better eating habits.
Yesterday she informed me of this plan and asked if I would be "supportive." I tol... | YTA for the song and basically mocking your wife. I’m curious as to why you didn’t choose to just voice what you thought you could do to be supportive instead of turning it into a game. Support your wife ###### |
My roommate is allergic to avocado. As far as I am aware, it is not an anaphylactic allergy and they do not carry and epi pen.
They have asked in the past for myself and our other roommate to be conscious of their allergy, which 95% of the time we are.
Today they pulled me up for leaving traces of avo on a chopping... | YTA for the snark at the end, and throughout, tbh.
If you had washed the board, put it in the sink, or even sent a text “hey I used the red cutting board to slice avocado and didn’t get a chance to wash it yet!” then you would be in the clear.
They’re not asking you to monitor their allergy, they’re asking you to ... |
I'll just try to keep this short. I have these two friends and they are a couple. They're literally obsessed with each other and spend every waking hour together. The problem is in the fact that they look very similar to each other — creepily similar. Essentially, if you saw them out on the street, you'd assume they we... | YTA for the reasons they stated. Who cares what random strangers think? If they're really your friends, support them. ###### |
I am 33 years old and my nephew just passed his written drivers test and now has his permit. Unfortunately my brother and his wife work a lot of hours and don't have much time to help him, so my brother offered to pay me to teach him.
I gladly accepted and my nephew is an awful driver, and I don't mean in the sense t... | YTA for the racist comment alone. ###### |
Me (25M) and my (27F)girlfriend got into a heated debate about my (24F) roomate. Its not what it sounds like, my gf and roomate are very good friends. Ok, so my roomate is very filthy and I find myself doing most of the cleaning around our home. Even my girlfriend cleans up after her. My roomate will cook and leave eve... | YTA for the pattern of behavior, not for this particular instance. To her credit, your girlfriend seems to realize this.
>My girlfriend said it wasnt about not coming for dinner, it was about constantly enabling my roomate.
The GF is exactly right. Your roommate probably *did* need a babysitter for this activity, bu... |
My family and I belong to a small gym with a 6 lane, pool often times since it is shallow there is no lifeguard on duty and when there are most of them are chill. So my wife and 3 kids, 5m, 11f, and 9m all went to the pool, half of the pool was closed due to a class and the lane on our left was being used by a guy swi... | YTA for telling your kids not to follow rules.... Dude, I can't believe you went to her manager over this ###### |
My friend is deciding between two offices of the same company. One is in San Fransisco, and the other is in New York.
Instead of considering factors such as career progression, cost of living, social scene, etc.... he literally said he’s choosing the New York office simply because they have a much more traditional bu... | YTA for telling him he is idiotic. He obviously doesn’t have a preference for one city over the other. The other things you list are obviously important to you, that doesn’t mean he has to prioritise the same things. Dress is a good indication of the work culture so maybe that is important to him. ###### |
Many months ago, I promised my son that I am going to buy him a laptop because he wanted one really badly. However, after seeing his terrible school marks I decided that the laptop will cause nothing but distraction so I ended up not keeping my promise. My son was devastated obviously but he moved on after some weeks.
... | YTA for taking your daughters money.
A better solution would have been to say well it's your money, so you can buy a laptop and you are a very sweet girl for wanting to help your brother.
But if you do, as his parents we will have to say that he still won't be allowed to use it until he can show us he is responsible... |
My fiancé (29M) and I (28F) have been together for five years, engaged for one. About a year into our relationship, we were on a date and he brought up the “celebrity hall pass” question. He picked someone he’ll likely never meet, I picked the lead singer of a locally popular band whose music has been a huge part of my... | YTA for sure
Those conversations are generally meant as a joke, and the chances of you meeting the local band singer are high. That isn't even a celebrity, that's just wanting a free pass to sleep with someone. You happily slept with someone and cheated on your fiancee. How would you expect him not to be upset? ###... |
I (m35) have a 16 year old daughter. I’ve been a single father since she was about 3 years old as I got sole legal custody due to some addiction issues her mother has. We have a really good relationship, but I always worry about her not having a woman to talk to.
Over the past few months she hasn’t really seemed to b... | YTA for sure. If you thought she didn’t trust you BEFORE you read the diary, you can be rest assured that she doesn’t trust you now.
Judgement aside, most parents want what’s best for their kids, and there are better ways to go about this. Have you thought about or talked about therapy for her? It may just be normal ... |
My sister and her partner of 8 years just got engaged. He proposed 4 weeks ago and their engagement party was last night. I am a lesbian and just realised my sexuality a few months ago. I have been seeing a girl and I am at the point where I want to show her off to everybody. Anyway, I brought my girlfriend to my siste... | YTA for stealing the attention away from her engagement. ###### |
I’ve been sitting on this for a while, I haven’t yet told my husband and don’t really want to in respect for my daughters privacy. However I do need some help.
Two weeks ago I asked my daughter if I could use her phone, as my internet was sketchy. She obliged and handed it to me. She obviously had forgotten what she’d... | YTA for snooping in the beginning and you ABSOLUTELY would be the asshole for telling her you saw it. Don’t bring it up it’ll make things even more uncomfortable for you as well as her. As you said, she’s old enough, you don’t control her. What’s done is done, move on. ###### |
My husband and I are selling our house, and we were touring a woman and her husband who are getting ready to start a family. They offered a full cash offer, and it was right at what we were selling the house for, however, they were talking about making so many renovations. For example, the wife looked in the kitchen an... | YTA for several reasons.
1. you're selling the house so you clearly don't care enough to preserve it in its original state.
2. you will probably never see the inside of the house once it's sold, so it literally doesn't matter what changes get made
3. you gave up a huge financial opportunity for your family because yo... |
My wife and I are both 19. We have known each other since kindergarten and have been dating for many years. We got married last year.
Together, we have 3 year-old twins, a girl and a boy.
I joined the army 2 years ago. We are living in subsidized housing on the base. My wife currently stays at home to take care of t... | YTA for saying no instead of asking her to show you a plan of how it would work practically, both in terms of child care and budget. ###### |
My dad's GF recently got promoted at work and I was forced by my dad to give her a gift (some expensive perfume she wanted) and a card. In the card, I wrote, "Hey [First Name], congrats on the promotion! You totally deserve it, and thanks for making my dad happy and for taking care of my brother and him. Good luck with... | YTA for repeatedly posting about your dad’s gf. She sounds like a nice and caring person, and you sound like a dramatic, annoying teen trying to be edgy.
This one:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/h97l4s/aita_for_telling_my_dad_that_i_want_to_move_in/
And this one:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAss... |
A bit of background: I was involved in a bit of bad stuff. Let's say I did some illegal things. Like "sell sweets". But one day I got caught and got taken to prison. This was around the time my son was born. Now my wife was scared for her life and divorced me and moved out of the house we lived in.
Now I had come out ... | YTA for reaching out for the wrong reasons. Did you have any feelings of remorse or guilt over what you put your ex-wife (the reason for calling her your wife even though you're divorced is a bit creepy)? You made her scared for her life and also for her (at that time) baby's. You made no mention of what you wanted to... |
I am planning to go away this weekend to the mountains with my girlfriend. My wife and I have already agreed to end our marriage, but we have not told our daughter yet.
My wife knows I am seeing someone and about the trip. She doesn't agree with what I am doing and feels neither of us should date until we're official... | YTA for putting more energy into a brand new relationship than you are into your daughter’s well being. You’re presumably still living in the house with your family, and your soon to be ex wife is right that it will destroy your daughter if she happens to find out you have a girlfriend. ###### |
We'll call her Liz. Liz has been staying with us for several weeks. I told her the main rules were no politics, no drugs, and occasional rent. I have yelled at her several times for bringing up race and it has caused her and my family to act somewhat strange. Everything came to a head this morning. I was giving her a r... | YTA for putting a song on repeat with someone else (over 5) in the car. ###### |
I married my husband 2 years ago and my relationship with my stepson (12) has never been well. We tried everything but nothing seems to work. His behavior towards me is so terrible, he shouts at me, swears me, and calls me worst “mother” ever.
His 13th birthday is tomorrow and since my daughter (7F) birthday is only... | YTA for overreacting and for thinking that combining their birthdays is remotely OK for kids that age (even more so in a reconstituted family situation) ###### |
Hello, Reddit. I (47M) have been saving for my daughter's (18F) college education ever since she was born. I don't feel comfortable disclosing the exact amount, but it was enough to send her to a good university, buy all of her supplies, etc. My wife and I both went to college, and we were expecting our daughter to go... | YTA for not thinking things through. You waited less than 24 hours before you bought a boat with the college fund. Wait six months, a year. I mean two of my kids took a gap year before college, which they actually found very helpful.
Plus things are a literal mess right now and it is really hard for college Freshman... |
I live with two roommates. Nobody owns the house, we rebt from a local woman. They recently got a dog with her permission. I told them I absolutely didn't want a dog, but was outvoted. They agreed to the following rules.
1. The dog does not go on my floor of the house for any reason. I just think dogs are dirty, and ... | YTA for not texting them right away. You're not obligated to look for it, but I don't believe at all you didn't have 20 seconds to spare to text them about the situation and letting them know 30 minutes-an hour after the fact seriously endangered that dog's life. It doesn't deserve to be hit by a car because you could... |
It’s a cheap house I want to invest in. Owned by the state currently. I’m doing inspections now, if report ok (I expect some work but ok as in I can afford fixes) I’ll buy cash and fly out and start the renovations. Probably just rent it out but I want it to be nice enough to rent so it’s not probably cheap in total... | YTA for not listening to your wife. Now you both have to pay the price for your big mouth. Learn from this. ###### |
We moved in together recently, and we've been having a conflict over whether or not I should learn how to do her clothes.
I never learned how to do more than a basic wash because none of my clothes require it. I wash everything together unless it's a new shirt and might bleed or it's my workout clothes, but even then... | YTA for not even bothering to learn. She’s right, what happens when you’re too sick to do your chores? Will you expect her to pick up after you? You’re a grown adult, it’s time to act like one. ###### |
So my ex husband and I divorced a little over a year and a half ago, and I started dating someone else. I got with him and since he had been around our daughter while we were just friends, I didn't think much of it. I let my ex know that I was dating this person and that they were around our child since it had been fin... | YTA for not enforcing the rule and then pretending like he's the only one with a double standard. ###### |
My wife and I recently moved to a new city. I took a job with a higher salary, enabling my wife to stay home with our children. We didn't want to do virtual ed, so she is also homeschooling.
Before moving my wife was working from home full time and was sick of her job. Being without a job was a relief for her.
A few... | YTA for not doing anything to help your wife! If "she is constantly tired and seems overworked" why aren't you trying to help her rather than criticize? Why is it only up to her to change, not you? ###### |
I did not include it because she not her mother. Yes. she is her stepmother, but my daughter doesn't call her mom, momma or anything like that unless she is sick, but they have a good relationship and are very close.
So when I had the jewelry made I only included my son's birth date and stone, nothing for my daughter... | YTA for not considering your daughters feelings in this decision. Even though it was a piece of jewelry for your wife, your daughter would still see her wearing it and could feel that you and your wife don't think she's important enough to celebrate. I'm glad your wife corrected it before your daughter found out. ####... |
It's literally 5 minutes of music and 5 minutes of commercials. I don't understand it, so I asked my roommate why she got a radio when she can just get Spotify. She said, "Because I wanted to." I asked her again because that isn't really a valid answer. She said that again. I asked her once again, to which she says, "I... | YTA for not accepting her answer and asking repeatedly because it wasn't enough info for you.
"you can't ever ask her about her hobbies because she thinks she's being bullied" guess what, you just made her insecurity worse. ###### |
My Step daughter is 20 and recently single. She always has been a social butterfly to put it nicely. Her boyfriend left her over cheating rumours which I wouldn't doubt for a second. My husband and I don't share the same views and she's his little girl which is fair enough but I feel like she's too out there. She was o... | YTA for multiple reasons.
1) she's an adult and can do what she likes. You don't get to criticise her for choosing to date after a break up.
2) you went to your husband and complained, as if he was going to tell her to change. What the hell? How did you think the conversation "hey darling, I think your daughter is t... |
(Throwaway account for a friend, I'll answer any questions I can)
Background:
I (21F) am 6 and a half months pregnant with my (22M) partner of 6 years.
We already have a 4 year old together, who was an accident but he is the best thing in my life.
The 3 of us are living in 1 room at my partner's mum's (54) bungalow, ... | YTA for many reasons. You’re already struggling financially now, so I can’t even begin to fathom the pressure you’ll be under with a second child.
Also, your MIL now has to put up with another small child in her already tiny home. You are creating a hostile environment for everyone.
By not revealing your pregnancy, y... |
My wife dated someone when she was in her early 20s for a while who I'll call Dan. Dan is slightly older than her and has always had addiction and mental health issues. She finally cut him off right before we met. He developed an obsession with her, and all but stalked her until we got married and moved away. For years... | YTA for making this up.
No wedding photog worth their salt would include a full spread of you two snogging. ###### |
I threw a customers silicon wedding band in the garbage and all hell broke loose
So I was at work and I found this wedding band on the ground in the afternoon and decided to keep it on the cash register. Come the next morning I see it’s still there so I just decided to toss it. A few hours later mr dude comes through ... | YTA for making the executive decision to throw it away without giving it a few days. Your lack of compassion and fuck you got mine attitude is disturbing ###### |
I know that the title makes my situation sound bad, but hear me out.
So my daughter, who is 15 years old, recently came out to me as a lesbian, which I wholeheartedly support. That was about 3 days ago. Yesterday, she went to see some of her friends (with masks and social distancing) and they hung out for a while. Whe... | YTA for making the assumption that she was out to her friends because she came out to you. Go apologize to her, profusely. Tell her there is no excuse for what you did and you won't make that mistake again. You're probably going to have to re-earn her trust unfortunately. ###### |
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