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| {:Oh I just relax over the weekend playing Red Dead Redemption 2 and eating takeout pizza because my 9 to 5 schedule as an office drone kicks my ass so hard that I end up sleeping until midday Saturday and then Sunday rolls around and I have to go to bed early so I don't miss work early in the morning\" sounds a lot like my boyf. sometimes it's hard to get him to go out with me, but like someone else's reply to you, relationships involve compromise. some weekends we never leave the house. other times we find something new to go do. it's all about balance. i've seen some similar responses where you claim they misunderstood you, but i still think this is an important point to make, especially since you now have a woman's perspective who is in a successful relationship. problem is that most women want guys that are even better and more experienced than they are. Most girls aren't going to look twice at a guy who has lived a more boring life than they have unless the guy is lucky enough to have been born with his genetic stats maxed out maybe i'm not most women, and i understand what you're saying and where you're coming from, but i have to mildly disagree here. maybe i'm just one of those people who likes to take the reigns of the relationship and i do enjoy getting what i want most of the time, but i actually liked that my boyfriend lacked experience that i've had for years. this meant i could show him how to do certain things and introduce him to new hobbies. getting with someone who has already done everything i've done, or if we like the exact same things...there's nothing to build on there. 1/2 |
| text2/2 - when i met my boyfriend, he drove a lemon that some crackhead stole the catalytic converter off of, lived with his mom, worked at Starbucks, was sort of a gooner and played video games all day. i still fell in love with him. it was only after a few years of being together that he now has a really good job that he worked really hard to get, wants to start a family and is committed to providing for us. i didn't stay with him because i was hoping he'd change. some of these things, like playing games all day, he still does haha. and i really don't mind if that never changes about him, as long as he doesn't neglect our future family for it. when women meet you, they don't want you to be perfect. we're looking for somebody we'd be willing to spend the rest of our lives with. that typically isn't a model or some robot dude who wants to go out every weekend or works the perfect job or..whatever. and i'm not perfect either. we're not with each other because we're \"perfect\" for each other. we're with each other because we choose to be, and can tolerate each other for the rest of our lives. also the looksmaxxing department lol - when i met him, i definitely was attracted to him but never thought much about his appearance. nowadays i truly think he's the most handsome man who has ever walked the Earth, and he's not even fit or anything. i just love him. |
| texthaha i enjoyed reading this. though of course you know i have to disagree. this whole crafting thing has always been a hobby for me, just not in terms of felt until recently. he watched me do it one day during parallel play and was interested. now he's trying to make a stuffed banana slug lol. i didn't mean to get him into it. sometimes you like things you don't expect to like. i didn't expect to like a dude who lived with his mom and worked at Starbucks when i met him, but what the hell. Both them know on some level that the other is just playing a role to get what they want out of this. But as long as no one makes too much of a stink about it, they'll both pretend not to notice. damn dude this is just depressing. i mean there's compromising, and then there's whatever the hell this is. truly hope this type of relationship doesn't fall on anybody's lap here. That's what relationships are. Compromise. Day in, day out. No one really gets what they want, but they get some watered down flavor of it. i wouldn't say that's entirely what a relationship is, but definitely does involve this compromising aspect. we both get what we want a lot of the time, probably me more than him because he's truly happy pleasing his woman. but i don't think either of us would be happy if we both never got what we wanted, and didn't give each other what we know the other wants. it makes both of us happy to please and deliver to the other person. speaking of watered down flavor of it, i guess that part is true. we always fight to give each other the last sip of whatever soda we shared, and it's pretty watered down at that point. by \ i mean trade the cup between us by the half-sip until it runs dry. |
| textkhhv has an ex Is this a bot? |
| textDont have to ask her on a date but see if she wants to study for these exams |
| textbe the gay son mother dies last Easter sister is nearly 50 and’s raised my youngest brother and ain’t got ovaries no mo younger brothers ain’t got no car ain’t got nowhere nice to live ain’t got no job ain’t got no bitches I’m the only one in a position to have kids and not be trapped in massive poverty the instant the kid pops out. I feel like everybody who doesn’t know I’m gay in my family is kinda looking at me trying to figure out why I don’t hang around with women, the ones that do know are dropping hints they want nieces and nephews. The worst part is I wish I could but I can’t stand spending more time than necessary around women. I really don’t have what it takes to overlook them being devoid of and against hobbies or the dumb shit they think is cute but is really fucking annoying. I hate being me, help |
| textyounger brothers ain’t got no car ain’t got nowhere nice to live ain’t got no job ain’t got no bitches You have money. Lend him a car and find him a job. Its wealth. Can't you transfer it."} |
| {"text":"Sone or a gay mother and a gay grandfather. Dude having kids ain't off the table because you are gay, sometimes procreation is more important than what you want. If this is a subject that bothers you than you should consider having kids. Good luck man, you won't regret it. Also I had a few older gay men who acted almost like uncles to me, great male role models so don't worry about being a bad dad. |
| textJust don't worry about having kids. Noone wants to have a gay dad. I'm sorry but you will fuck up your kids life. |
| textI can't quit porn. I've tried for a decade now. Every day I goon. I don't know what to do. I am at a loss."} |
| {"text":"One thing I never see they mention is sleep. You cannot quit addictions without a solid sleep, because it hinders your self-control. Most addictions wreck sleep and even when the addict gets the upper hand, they still have bad sleep habits. If nothing else is working make sure this isn't the problem. |
| textgooning and fapping to porn are two different things do you fap normally to porn or do you goon? if you're gooning you gotta cut that shit out asap, that thing fries brains as for the porn, well, a lot of people live with that, like social alcoholics or casual marihuana consumers, it's not the best but it's livable."} |
| {"text":"only legitimate answer desu"} |
| {"text":"thank you, honestly."} |
| {"text":"it's fucking hard man. i joined a support group more than a year ago and it's still a struggle. gonna start keeping in touch with an accountability partner daily. after a decade, your brain circuits are toast dude. it'll be basically impossible to stop without rewriting your dopamine paths. my advice to you is to go out into the middle of nowhere for a month. bring food water and a couple books, nothing else. it's going to fucking suck accept that first. take no pleasure in anything except exercise, the sunset, sleeping, and whatever books you brought. hopefully this will reset your mind"} |
| {"text":"I talked w/ my bf about how we've fallen out of our relationship because of our phones and being online. I ended up going to a local bar/arcade last weekend with my brother and bf since we had nothing else going on. I ended up reconnecting with some old work friends and had a great night. we ended up smoking weed and going back inside and having more fun. I overanalyze when stoned and by the end when my bf wanted to leave i went to dab up my friend and my brother poked fun at me for it. I was stoned but i took it way too seriously and panicked that i was doing this friend thing wrong. am i doing this relationship thing wrong too? I have a lot of goyslop hobbies but you only live once so who fucking cares. he has his slop interests too- i never judge. He always seems to dog me for what I enjoy but i never dog his interests. ive been thinking of the type of friends i want in my life, like those who dont dog me for my interests even if they dont like it, and I wonder if Im wrong in thinking hes gotta do the same too. I was talking about a situation im in with an old friend group that does that, and when we got home he pulled up a reel that was making fun of the jews. oh my god its always the jews i know lord. theres nothing wrong with a jew joke but when im talking candidly about something thats been biting me, hes kinda my only outlet. and when that happened i was so offended and confused especially because i was high. I needed someone to talk back and give me good advice like I give him when he struggles but instead i got a jewslop meme shoved in my face mid convo. shit hurt anyway am i fucked? we have a cat- it stays at his house and i love him to death,maybe thats the only thing thats holding me back from taking a break. I talked to him about bettering our health and lives and going out and he told me to trust him and he will take the lead on things but i never see him taking the lead on those specific ideals I want in a partner. am i wrong in thinking that? |
| textI'm so happy the noticing has gone turbo mainstream."} |
| {"text":"You just have to leave him and take the cat. Israel sabotaged your relationship, it's time to leave him for a Jewish woman has stolen his heart. |
| textHe sounds dumb. Like too dumb to be trusted as a partner. |
| textIsrael also wont let me take the cat cause i still live with my parents and they dont want any pets in the house. so leaving would be leaving the cat too sadge yeah i get its a cat but stiill sucks to think about. esp when i come over and he has a goofy personality. but i see how the cat acts around him compared to me when i visit and i wonder if its cause his time is spent staring at his computer playing video games with his friends and not spending time with the cat at this point if femhitler existed lowkey think he wouldnt think twice leaving me for femhitler cause i confront him with these questions and he usually gets upset. we are both massively retarded but im more of a pushover and he hates when i analyze and ask questions about our relationship |
| textmy bf Faggot. |
| textHas your sister been treated better than you as a dude? I mean your parents letting her get away with stuff or blaming you or expecting more from you etc. My hunch is that is happens far more often than the opposite |
| textif I had to choose which one I'd toss to the wolves, it would be you, because I know you'd make it. He wouldn't. Except she was never faced with that choice IRL, wasn't she? It's just a very loose metaphor when you think about, isn't it? It was nowhere near anything like that? |
| textThe youngest child often surpass all their older siblings. It happens in even patriarchal communities. The daughter gets spoiled and the lapdog son-in-law is treated better than even the heir. It depends on family to family but the overall trend remains. |
| textNta but the metaphor makes perfect sense to me. It's less about being faced with the choice, metaphors are never meant to be interpreted directly. The emotional reasoning behind them is what they signal. So \"If I had to throw one of you to the wolves I would, because you'd survive, he'd not\" translates as: (I believe you are more capable to look after yourself, you are more matured/skilled/stronger than your sibling. Your sibling is less mature, less skilled, and weaker. And as mother I have to nurture the weak, not the strong\""} |
| {"text":"Which makes sense too btw. That's exactly how functional mothers are supposed to behave. Top priority is support for the weak, it's just in them as a rule. Strong individuals still require support or guidance however. Usually this is where female support ends and mother's care ends, because she can't go any further. Father steps in, and it's usually the father figure who supports the strong and guides them on how to aim or use that strength. |
| textThe youngest child often surpass all their older siblings. Yeah that's my life story, I surpassed the eldest and the middle. Unfortunately my family was brutal so I don't feel good about surpassing them, I feel more of a survivor's guilt for it. I wish they could have broke out the cycle and I tried to tell them and point things out and alert them to self sabotage or mental landmines but they don't take heed. They're not stupid either, eldest is smarter than me. Middle is more wild than me. I just don't get it. |
| textI need ideas /adv/. I need to ask a girl out on a low pressure hang out. I don't know a good place, as it will likely be after 8ish when I'm free most days. I also don't have good words, I end up sounding like it's a hypothetical, too indirect or if I fix that in my head I sound like I have no social grace and am being too direct. What has worked for or on you in the past? What can you do after 8 that says \ Should I try and schedule on a day I can get out earlier? |
| textIf this thread is alive early afternoon tomorrow I'll let you all know how it went. I have good report with her so no matter what she will be nice. Anyways she said in the past she was open to going and doing something. Thanks for the help I need to gas myself up and do it. Now this has become an accountability thread kek."} |
| {"text":"bump"} |
| {"text":"I need to ask a girl out on a low pressure hang out. just do it? Girls aren't something you need to place on a pedestal- in fact they hate that simp shit. hey I like you, can I ask you out to do X,Y,Z Yeah? Okay, lets exchange contact info. then go from there. Don't be a tryhard weirdo. What can you do after 8 that says \"this is just no pressure, just have fun\" this seems quite late- some women would feel concerned about staying out. But if you must, it depends on both your age and position in life I suppose. What has worked for or on you in the past? when I did a night date, we went to a local beach pier- where there was a local, 24/7 coffee and donut shop near it. I bought two fresh donuts for each of us to enjoy and she really liked it as we ate it while having an evening stroll on the beach pier. It was a donut date for that cutie. Then I rearranged her guts at my place after that."} |
| {"text":"All good advice. It's less a pedestal than I always worry about blowing up my spots or friend groups if it's not taken well ... Last thing I need I getting a reputation for normal human behavior. Also pier date is going on the list."} |
| {"text":"Time to send it."} |
| {"text":"What do? I really want to break up but I can't bring myself to do so since I'm an incel and probably won't ever find one again. We're currently long distance and I just cant bring myself to send the break up text. Problem is I also have a side chick who will probably leave if I don't break up fast. What do? I thought of just ghosting my gf so I don't have to send anything. Maybe that's easier. We've been together for 1.5 years. I'm at a loss here. |
| textHaving a gf has nothing to do with being an incel |
| textI have never approached a girl. Both of them pursued me. And I just basically stumbled into it. |
| textI'm an incel With a girlfriend But I'll never find anyone else But I have a side chick waiting You can't keep your fucking story straight for more than ten seconds at a time, can you?"} |
| {"text":"The most attractive trait to women is already being in a relationship, so if you can get a gf it becomes much easier to get another one."} |
| {"text":"I'm in almost the exact same situation except I don't have a side chick and I don't really care about never having another relationship again, because quite honestly, this is a huge waste of time and demands all of my energy. I'm just constantly miserable and tired and I'd rather be lonely instead. I also kind of think she's an annoying normalfag. Can't break up with her though because I still don't want to break a girl's heart. |
| textHere we share tips and experiences with cheating on our partners QOTD: dating apps, save or not? Which ones do you use? |
| textnice fiction, you will never be a woman though |
| textYWNBAW/male hands at anything I say on here I am used to it |
| textfrom the female pov Nobody cares. Women can literally bend over on the side of the road and somebody would come up and fuck them. A lot more strategy and logistics go into it for men. |
| textI've seen a lot of bnwo and really want to bottom for bbc but my gf would be absolutely grossed out if she ever knew the slightest detail what's the best way to find a nice gentleman who is drug and disease free and will be friends afterwards but will still thuggrape me like I'm in prison once a week"} |
| {"text":"I think gen Z is demonizing cheating like it's the biggest sin ever to do like there is no redemption etc. however I think you are still a pos and it just tells about you. No I won't be patting you on the back"} |
| {"text":"My whole life I've struggled with organization. I couldn't sit still, I couldn't concentrate for more than 20 minutes in class, I got bad grades, and studying didn't usually change things—it cost me a degree. I can't get organized, and even when I do, I rarely stick to it. I've started more than 10 different subjects and given them up. Loud noises bother and distract me. Only when I discovered modern study techniques did I get good grades and receive positive feedback, which made me more interested in everything, but I'm still disorganized despite getting ten study days before. |
| textThere is a test for ADHD, but you need to go to a special doctor. Costs like 150 bucks |
| textI have the same issue and unfortunately, nothing has worked for me. Thousands of dollars down the drain in supplements and drugs and diets, etc. Not even adderall works for me The closest relief I can get is tons of espresso with iodine drops and uridine monophosphate and ginkgo biloba mixed in but it only bumps up my concentration by 30 minutes at most and costs a non-significant amount of money to get quality ingredients. Unfortunately the modern world was designed to cull people like us. |
| textmeant to say significant amount of money* itsover for adhdcels |
| text31 y/o American male here looking for advice from those who have made it out of wage slavery. I spent most of my teens and twenties as a drug addicted gamer and in the past 5 years have managed to crawl out of that hell. After crashing and burning many times, I've finally secured a job paying 115,000 a year, and managed to move back in to my families basement and can keep expenses minimal (1000-1500). What is the best strategy to retire quickly? I'm perfectly content with never buying a home/getting a camper van and vagabonding around North America, or living in latina america/South East asia. I just can't imagine working like this into my 40s. I'm fine to put my head down for the next few years and live a basic life if it means freedom in the future. Welcoming tips from anyone who has made it or is close? How can I leverage my roughly $5000 a month to gtfo? |
| textWith how things currently are, considering the US economy is teetering on the edge of another depression, I wouldn’t plan for early retirement being a possibility, especially on that salary. Living out of an RV/camper is the most realistic route, but you’ll still need money set aside for when it inevitably breaks down, not to mention contingency for if you get robbed or sick. Are you going to pay for health insurance? Are you planning to stay alone, even have pets? You’re going to need at least a million in liquid cash to safely live out your days. |
| textGet a remote/online job, get a credit card, max it out, get your passport, move to Mexico. Merida in Yucatan is my suggestion, rent is cheap, food is good, women are beautiful. Credit scores don't exist out there so it's much easier to make something with what you've got out there."} |
| {"text":"finish my boring work from home job at 5 pm go for 40 minute walk in the cold evening while listening to a podcast and stopping to buy Coke Zero drive to burger king to eat 2000 calories of food drive home drinking coffee absolutely no energy to do a single thing every single achievement or accomplishment is a gigantic amount of work away plan to read a book later but it's pointless plan to learn a technical subject through a tutorial but I know it's a displacement from real work plan to go to gym later in evening for a boring light weight day considering switching jobs but I'd have to move to a more expensive area and commute to work and save less money and have worse living conditions My motivation is so low. I am rudderless and have zero network or any external motivation. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text. |
| text2000 calories in one meal Try eating less? |
| textYeah I feel that. I want to DO something not just find something to kill time until I work next. But even engaging in my hobbies most of the time just feels like I'm desperately trying to escape being bored, not like I'm working toward some kind of goal. I have no motivation to create because I don't want anything. I just want to go to sleep and never wake up again lol."} |
| {"text":"stopping to buy Coke Zero drive to burger king to eat 2000 calories of food drinking coffee absolutely no energy to do a single thing gee i wonder why you have no fucking energy to do anything. have you ever considered eating real food instead of sugary processed dogshit goyslop? you might just start having more energy to do stuff. retard"} |
| {"text":"You might have seasonal depression. Maybe when the weather gets better, you will be able to meet some friends while walking."} |
| {"text":"have a career have a job comfy and remote, ends at fucking 5pm independent live alone cries and bitches about wants to ruin everything You dont know pain. Throw it all away and ruin everything, you deserve it."} |
| {"text":"im 32 i just fled the USA for having 50k in debt, got 2 opportunities, paris culinary school all paid, i can start from zero, school + stipend, where i learn for 9 months and then work for 9 months. dont know the pay, but i got accepted quickly, but start work in saudi arabia after my 9 months in paris. or Aviation mechanic, its in australia, brisbane, not accepted yet, but high pay, 4 year degree + guranteed job with free travel, didnt hear from them yet. all paid for + stipend, i thought about getting my pilots license on the side using the stipend money from both things, but i cant acceptt both, only one. my dream was always to be a muisican/artist, like gorillaz, make music and comics, i stll do that but im 32 i have to giv e up on that dream."} |
| {"text":"32 is not too old to start over, but it is the age you need to be damn sure what you decide where you staying at atm? paris culinary business is notoriously brutal also, wait, they pay you to study that stuff in Australia?"} |
| {"text":"its a saudi scholarship program, i have dual citizenship, the australian one is not sure yet, its at a school called aviation australia, im currently living with my parents, they dont know about my situation, they think im only visiting. paris starts soon, march 2026."} |
| {"text":"So, pretty sure I got doxxed a year and a half ago, I got no concrete evidence, just mental clues in my mind. Everything is stable in my life right now. Is there a reliable way to check anything of myself or my family members on the dark web or is it a lost cause if I'm not even sure what I'm looking for?"} |
| {"text":"You can search for some info on the dark web, but you'd have to be more specific about what got doxxed. If it's just like name and address, that shit is all on the clearweb"} |
| {"text":"By clearweb do you mean google and social medias? Nothing comes up and I didn't get anything sent to me. I won't go into details, but I had the most minimal social interaction when this happened unfortunately. Right now I get attention and choosing signals from women, but in my previous neighbourhood I was a shut-in and was 100% a target of something. I was an adult already as well. My mind was 100% playing tricks on me too, but one way or another I drawed attention to myself. The point is that, since then I haven't seen anything comprising of me come up. But I do live with this defeating feeling. I did tell all of this to a good therapist for those 18 months straight, but there's only so much he could help me."} |
| {"text":"My girlfriend said I am really bad at being a dominant man but I can't help it. I want to be sweet and loving and supportive to her but she just reads this as being a bitch. How do I adjust my mindset to stop being so corny? |
| textI dont give women a pass on this idk shit. And why should OP's girlfriend give OP a pass on it, if he is making her take 100% of the decisions and do 100% of the thinking? (Or are you OP?)"} |
| {"text":"She shouldn't. Hence my whole point. It's give and take. You should be able to give opinions and suggestions just as well as the opposite party. The only reason why I'm using women as an example is because they're the main ones who sit around all day, not doing shit, and then it's all idk's when 6pm rolls around. If OP is operating like this then he needs to get his shit together but if he's not and his woman is being a infantile moron with choices and decisions then she needs to pull her head outta her ass and actually say what she wants like an adult. Personally I've been with too many women who think giving input is like asking her to plan the entire trip, pay for it, and figure out what we're doing. No, im just asking what fucking hotel you want to stay in. Not hard. |
| textMaybe say that to her. Tell her you aren't interested in being an asshole and that's not what you have in mind for your relationship, so if that's what she wants she'll never get it from you. I think male willingness to self-objectify and feed into the toxic expectations of their gfs out of a fear of losing them is a big part of the problem. |
| textYeah good idea, she likes to push this idea that I'm mean because I like it and I tell her no, I'm mean because you don't listen or consider anything and it frustrates me. Like she'll do inconsiderate/stupid things and then wonders why I'm ready to put a foot up her ass (I wont) it's tiresome cause it saps my energy making the problem worse cause now she's upset I dont wanna do anything with her."} |
| {"text":"Just do what you did when you were single. Women want to be an accessory to your life not the center or driver. Women, just like dogs, get very stressed if their male doesn't make his own decisions or fails do anything. It's just instinctual, and not something they mentally choose to do. Men get into a relationship and they dump their responsibilities and independence on their woman like she's their mom, they hate that. This includes the little responsibilities too, like choosing where to eat or doing your laundry. Basically, women want to do literally nothing for you except get fucked, pampered, and worshipped by you. |
| textI've been wanting a relationship for a while now, but all the ones where we connect well, there's always a reason why we can't be together or some resistance from the guy's end. Do men deep down not actually want women who are genuinely into them? I don't want to sound whiney or anything, and that seems to be the fundamental factor. It doesn't matter if they don't know what I look like either so I know looks don't really play into it much even if they are physically attracted to me |
| textit's expensive and says that the girl's mental health (or lack thereof) is going to be a persistent problem over the course of the relationship |
| textI’m a bit older, and I am going to give to two pieces of wisdom. I read the entire chat, some people saying you are attractive or not, some saying easy, or coming in too aggressive, not femenine. Some points were made, it was a nice chat. Here is what’s going to happen. 1) whatever you are looking for, whatever you have expressed here to us, and the things you haven’t said, will come straight right at you, as soon as you quit searching for it. So many times I’ve been wanting something, very hard. By doing that I was pushing it away. The mechanics of it are under scientific study and investigation, but what all cases have in common are that our RAS (Reticular Activating System) in the brain tells your subconscious that you currently lack what you are looking for. And your subconscious runs the machine, no intelligence, it gets the “lacking” message and it will make everything in it’s power to comply to the message being received. In recent studies they simply asked two groups of people whether they considered themselves to be lucky or unlucky. Then hid a bunch of 100 dollar bills in plain sight on a street they had these people walk by. The people answering that they thought of themselves to be unlucky walked right passed the money. The people that considered themselves to be lucky found bill after bill. Experiences like this are gold to the subconscious, as they feed and reassure the mental image they have of themselves. I’m an analytical person who loves data, this is why I’m telling you little details, but we could go on much much deeper. 1/3 |
| textFor the purpose of your solving your problem, just know that The Best Things In Live Come When You Least Expect Them. You know exactly what you want. Now stop searching. Let it come to you. No deadline, no rush. Don’t wait for it to happen, and when you’re so into other things and begin to feel fulfilled through other means, this what you desired so much before will make itself available to you. There are no shortcuts, but if you want to help the process, which is completely optional, don’t ask for that person you want, that is, don’t project lack. Instead be grateful for the awesome boyfriend you already have, thankful for how much he’s into you, thankful for your amazing relationship. Careful, this is a double edged sword, as I tell you the secret to make it happen, will you truly manifest it? Will it work? Don’t doubt yourself or the means by which you will obtain what you want. Simply feel gratitude with honesty. Feel that you already have what you want, feel it only, don’t think it. This is a feelings game, not a reasoning match against yourself, feel that your desired person is already here with you. 2/3 |
| text2) I can tell you my life story to illustrate how I came to realize and understand this, but I’ll give you the straight answers, no fluff. When it comes to relationships, be intimate or not, there’s a subtle or not so subtle power struggle, as someone else pointed. Here is the truth about intimacy: you will drive your partner crazy if your give them your all without fear, all of your laughs, all of your vulnerability, all of your honesty, as long as you also communicate through your personality that you don’t need him. Examples, you are having the best time but you have to go, you leave to your duties with without hesitation. He’s not answering you, you don’t get emotional and mad, don’t be faced. Do this from the beginning and you will not only make clear that you are whole without him (through which he will feel the most magnetic towards you) but you will also effectively manage your inner world and emotions with balance. Live your life together, but don’t be dependent on him, and he will be more and more dependent on you. The best relationships are full of genuine love rooted in a choice of being together, not a need. No two people’s need will ever be the exact same, but you can both equally choose to be with one another. Not because you need him or he needs you. But quite the opposite. The real freedom of choice relies on deciding to be with someone, only because you genuinely want to, not because you need someone. And choosing someone that you want with freedom is much more powerful than choosing someone who you need of. 3/3 |
| texti really like what you said here. when you want something desperately, sometimes you look at it from a place of lack, so you are telling the Universe that you lack that. what you want, wants you first. you want it because you already have it in the future. |
| textso i broke up with her because she didn't believe me over some stupid stuff, now she isn't posting nothing on any of her social media so i guess she's sad, should i pull up to her house? i'm now programming a letter which contains well a fucking letter and some drawings i made of her, also a drawing her little niece made about us two. |
| textMan I use to do the same thing with my ex. Do you want to know the truth? She isn't cutting her friends or family out of her life. She is also letting those people speak into her life constantly. So at the end of the day you can say fuck her friends but the minute you get off the phone with her she is already asking her friends what to do. It is just the way with some women."} |
| {"text":"so what should i do anon? i want to pull up to her house and have a serious conversation about this"} |
| {"text":"i want to pull up to her house and have a serious conversation about this Then do it. If you don't want advice but reassurance to go do something reckless. Then just do it. But I did ask for advice. I said what should I do. We've been telling you that, but you are just stuck on this one idea. No one here can unseat that except you. So stop worrying about what anons think and just go drive."} |
| {"text":"Don't. You forget about the bad shit when she is gone. Also women are vindictive and if she does get back with you it will probably be for revenge. |
| textshould i pull up to her house? dude....no. i'm not implying at all that you're abusive but that kind of behavior reminds me of my ex boyfriend. i'm aware that's just from one sentence but please don't do that OP. women find that aggressive if you don't contact us over text first or whatever. i know back in the old days before phones were a thing this *might* be appropriate, but i'd even prefer a letter that would take weeks to get to me over this shit. she thought i had done some kind of love spell or witchcraft on her to make her like me, just because I once told her I had a photo of her in my wallet, and another time I pinned it on a corkboard and lit some incense... hahaha. quoting this because in some ways this is a form of witchcraft if you did this before officially getting with her, i'd say you were subconsciously manifesting the relationship. not a bad thing btw if that's actually how it went down lol. the way you talk about this sounds like you did all that before getting with her, where did you get the photo of her from? maybe you took it yourself while y'all were together? just wondering. |
| textWhy are so many people addicted to porn? Ever since the modern development of gooner culture I've noticed it's hard for me to go a day without jerking off. With alcohol it was easy to cut because it costs money. With porn not only is it free but it's fucking everywhere. I'd go as far as to say it's not unlike me to jerk off 4x on a solid day off from work if I don't have any plans. It's clearly detrimental to my time but how come I can't kick the habit? I genuinely get so horny I can't focus and it's causing me to get rashes. |
| textNo the intimacy is important and needed for the relationship unless you're low libido or otherwise agreed to it not mattering. It's what makes it different from having a platonic relationship. Sex is not only important for the relationship but in general. If you can't have sex in the relationship then the relationship is redundant. And the intimacy not being reliable as intended or promised is only part of what makes the relationships not worth the expected effort. You sound like the boomers who had to go to prostitutes because their wives made themselves ugly or wouldn't fuck them. Trying to lie like this and downplay sex doesn't change how important it actually is. You might as well have said the reward for having a job is working for your boss. The pay is just a small barely significant part of it little buddy."} |
| {"text":"Contact with women is biologically impossible if you dont have it before uni ends so porn is the only way to fullfill the most basic need your body has until you can afford to quit your job and come back to uni for 2nd try which likely wont be until you're in your 40s/50s |
| textwhy are so many people addicted to porn? People now have instant access to EVERY conceivable kind of porn they could ever dream of looking at, and some theyve never even dreamed of. Pictures, videos, animations, comics, fucking vr experiences and LIVE performances. Not only that, you can experience it on a pocket sized device you can take anywhere. Go to the bathroom, in the bedroom, anywhere. You dont even need a laptop anymore. Just an internet connection. All of this available in an instant without ever having to communicate with a single other soul. Its amazing we manage to do anything at all with that intense of exposure. We where never meant to experience this. Our poor little chimp brains get fried by this stuff. Of course its addictive, you can experience one of the best feelings on command using only your hand. Why wouldnt you? Its not going to get better either. Take care of yourself. |
| textFallacy. Just because things take effort it doesn't mean they are valuable. Friends offer you a context in which you can be what you usually are not able to be, they segment your life, so if you feel like shit at work or home you can recover with them as a space. Hobbies tell you both about your ability and your relation with the things you interact with. It's not about them being costly, it's about being important. Money is toilet paper. People crave it because it's the fuel to their hedonism. It's not that things being expensive is the reason they go for them, they're after the reaction of other people about them. |
| textlike others who had really good points, i think it's just easily accessible and doesn't use much effort to get to. vs having sex, which does use a lot of energy, especially if you're the dom. this cycle creates a dopamine loop that is very easy to get addicted to. also let's face it - jacking off to porn is nothing like having sex, and in some ways, both are more pleasurable than the other. of course porn will never replace sex, but you can choose exactly what you want to watch and do when browsing adult sites. verses having sex with a partner is pretty much the same every time, unless you go out of your way to change things. there are also some fantasies that i want to watch but wouldn't personally live out myself. i'm mostly out of the grasps of porn, i watch probably once every four-five months or so, just for the hell of it i guess. i will tell you this - quitting porn was extremely easy for me as i found other and more productive things to do. and after a few months of not watching porn, i stopped objectifying people including myself. and looking back on my old porn habits and what i would watch, it's like...dude. what the fuck was i doing. you only get one life. don't waste it gooning for god's sake."} |
| {"text":"walk by a woman to get to a vending machine she looks into your eyes with a look of sheer horror How are you supposed to respond to this?"} |
| {"text":"How are you supposed to respond to this? Put on a gay voice and then act really offended that she looked at you like that. I've done this a few times kek |
| textwhen women look at you they are into you go for it |
| textDon't take it personally and go about your business as usual?"} |
| {"text":"that's not what shaming is |
| textwhat can I do? I can hardly do what I enjoy or study because I feel constantly watched. I worry people plot stuff against me. yes I tried meds and psychs and it didn't help. what can I do in the meantime to combat this? I'm considering breaking up with my new bf and quitting college because of that and I know it's a bad idea. please help."} |
| {"text":"Are you open to asking someone to be a reality checker for you? It doesn't work for most people but select few with enough insight and a bit of research can benefit from this. If you have someone you really trust. It has to be your idea to though. |
| textI'm in my mid 20s going back to college after a ~5 year break. Thinking about majoring in electrical engineering instead of CS/Math like I was doing originally but I'm nervous. When I was in high school my electronics and physics classes went poorly. Do you have any advice for what to study/try out to see if I actually have what it takes for an EE degree now? |
| textMy drunken co-worker at a store went back to school for that and worked in a power plant or some shit for way more money, it's a good idea."} |
| {"text":"What do electrical engineers even do?"} |
| {"text":"fix/maintain/build industrial electrical equipment like in factories etc"} |
| {"text":"Is it possible? Apparently people out there exist who have no friends and are perfectly happy with that. That is not how I am at all at the moment, but I need to figure out how to become a loner. I tried for several years to make friends, trying different things and trying over and over again. Long story short, I conclude that I lost the ability to and it's not going to happen. The loneliness is not something I am coping well with at the moment. So how do I lower my social need? |
| textApparently people out there exist who have no friends and are perfetctly happy with that its a birth trait, I don't know if it can be learned by others Long story short, I conclude that I lost the ability to and it's not going to happen. giving up on something you want is for weak stupid bitches |
| textI found that playing video games helps, form attachments to fictional characters and you don't really need those real connections."} |
| {"text":"giving up on something you want is for weak stupid bitches It's even more stupid to keep trying on something you have evidence will never work. |
| textHi 4chan, I dont frequent this board or website but I really need any help I can get. Today I was walking my golden retriever at a park with my family, everything was fine, until a random black dog (most likely a pit bull or pit bull mix) ran over to us and started attacking my dog. (I mean full on BITING!) My mom did her best to defend our dog, and eventually the white couple who was the owner of the black dog rushed over and apologized. We.. were quite shocked to say the least. The couple scooped the black dog up and left us there. We checked our dog for any injuries, which at the time we didn't see. Fast forward to back home, when my sister found a gash on my dog's arm. We rushed her to the vet and got her antibiotics and ointments. As you can probably guess, my whole family is pretty upset about this whole situation. I don't have the slightest clue on how to find the couple again, since I have such limited information. My plan is to find them somehow and make them at least pay for my dogs medical bills. And if anyone read my rant up to here, do you have any tips or advice on how to identify people online (Twitter, Facebook, instagram, etc) ? I would be grateful for anything, really. :( Thank you again. The information I know: -The dog was black and had white spots (unsure about the white spots, thats according to my sister) and is most likely a pit bull mix - Owners were a white couple , with the woman having long hair and both being taller than 160cm. -The location of the incident If anyone on here has any tips on identifying who these people were, please let me know! I appreciate any help :) I know it feels a bit impossible to identify someone with such little information, but I'm betting on the people on here who know a lot about being internet sleuths. |
| textPost all of this info on your local Facebook page, that's how most people are found. Poor doggy. Hope the owner gets their genitals ripped off by a Somalian."} |
| {"text":"Gee, let's see - a white couple in an unnamed city. I'm sure one of us can come up with their names with all that information"} |
| {"text":"I have the city and location where it happened dw"} |
| {"text":"LMAOO THANK U XD"} |
| {"text":"Your dog is a pussy maybe he should stay home"} |
| {"text":"And tomorrow I'm going to walk into the place and talk to someone. My question is, should I bring slightly more embellished resumes into the place? I already submitted one online. It's an upscale restaurant/bar and I am just applying to be a busser. I'm banking on the fact that outside of the periods that aren't NEETing, I put my spells at a local prestigious university for a big-brain degree (Computer/ Data Science). I also have some service industry stints listed on there. I'm a pretty well-dressed and well-spoken guy in person too. I don't really know what to say for my NEET periods outside of saying I did IT projects online, but if that were really the case, I would put it on my resume. I didn't have the boldness to lie like that. Should I? |
| textwhat to say for my NEET periods there are millions of ways to explain, just ask your friendly neighborhood AI for a list daytrading busy helping building my brother's house from the ground up played poker for a year at the nearby casino self trained on reactJS by doing personal projects wrote crypto smart contracts for startups backpacked thru asia tried for several [ur fav video game] e-sports teams sold doner-kebab out of a food truck"} |
| {"text":"what to say for my NEET periods Lie and tell them you were a caretaker for a family member with a serious illness. This has worked for me twice. Just don't name the illness (act like it's a very sensitive topic, don't oversell it though) and remember to drop casual references to your family member at work if you get the job. I would pretend that I had to take calls from my aunt, then step outside and vape (lmfao) for two or three minutes, then come back inside looking stressed and worried. |
| textDon't put sabbatical. What is always do is say \"I had taken time off to study x y or z\" if they ask and say nothing of it on the resume."} |
| {"text":"I have some gaps, part of the gaps were filled watching a family member's kids, and taking care of a dying family member. I just embellish the length of those activities to fill the gaps. Half lies. |
| textDo NOT tell them you where playing fucking video games for fucks sake. That's the most pathetic excuse ever. I tried out to be a competitive video hame player but I couldn't even do that. so.... you just sat around playing games and have nothing to show for it? my kid ratio went up we'll let you know"} |
| {"text":"I'm a painter and recently got kicked out of my storage unit for using it as a workspace (to paint in). I called around and every storage company has a policy against \ in a storage unit. There are rentable art studios, but they start around $50 per hour, vs. the $49/mo I was paying for the unit. i thought about building a structure out in the woods, but it's a serious crime to destroy public land, and my idea would qualify as that. I asked my neighbors if I could rent their garages, but they are all using them for storage. i really need something 8'x5' with a flat level floor, power outlet, and private. Budget is $300/mo"} |
| {"text":"first off good for you for making art. I love you OP. Unless your art is shit. Don't show me your art in case it's shit. second off, ask all of your neighbors if they know anybody. if that fails, make a bunch of facebook/craigslist/etc ads. your best bet is someone's garage. |
| textthank you for the advice and kind words. I think you're right about a garage being the key here. I'm seeing some condo-style garages, and it's great because I can access them 24/7 without bothering someone in an attached home with garage door opener noise. i didn't realize I could make ads requesting it, so that idea is pure gold and exactly what I was looking for. Lucky to have come across a fellow art lover so quickly! |
| textCan't you just rent out a shitty office space? I see some locally for like 400 a month im sure there is cheaper."} |
| {"text":"Is it true that the more men that a woman has had sex with, they lose their ability of how they form a strong emotional connection?"} |
| {"text":"Why does it slightly increase on 21+?"} |
| {"text":"They dont lose it its just a general blanket determination from looking at patterns in ratchet women and ignoring the ones that break the mold. That webm is essentially the same bullshit. Most girls in the sex work industry do not think like that. Theyre more interested in partying and getting fucked up. They dont give a rats ass about their mom or their dad for more than 6 seconds and will happilly go out with the next guy ready to buy them shit."} |
| {"text":"Not really this is chud mentality. It makes it harder to form meaningful connections in the short term with romantic partners, but in the long term not really. That said high mileage girls are high mileage for a reason."} |
| {"text":"I used to fuck prostitutes once a month before meeting my GF. one a month for almost 10 years that's over 100 prostitutes. the problem is that I never used a burner phone since I didn't think I needed it. sadly now I get spam texts from prostitutes advertising their services. I get these messages every couple of months. I try to be transparent with my GF but I have to keep my phone on mute and I'm always paranoid about this, fortunately I have always managed to delete them fast before she could notice. blocking them does not work because they use new numbers all the time. anyone else in this situation? What should I do? note: prostitution is legal here (europe) and I'd go as far as saying its not even a taboo, its fairly common for guys to visit the local brothel for quick fuck every now and then when they feel horny, I am not worried about my GF thinking less of me for having visited prostitutes, the reason I want to hide it is that I am worried she will misinterpret the text and think I'm cheating on her. |
| textyour phone # is fucked get a new one. you don't even have to lie as to why, you're getting spammed too much and want to start fresh. |
| textjust say to her that you need to get a new phone number because you think you're being targeted by spam and scammers then get a new plan or provider or get your provider to get you a new number."} |
| {"text":"this isnt even an issue at all everyone knows how common scams are nowadays, you just say your number must've been leaked - leaks happen all the time say it was tied to playstation account or your gmail or leaked. |
| textget a different phone number not even a real problem you just don't want to take like literally one hour out of your day"} |
| {"text":"give me pros and cons"} |
| {"text":"remain single until you're happy with your life and perfect maybe your life can only be complete with another by your side? this just become happy by yourself is the same as saying just give up because if you're perfectly happy single then you will no longer want a companion. but this is an oxymoron because you won't feel completely happy and fulfilled until you find love. this advice is torture. it has harmed millions of lonely men and women. |
| textFreedom to do what you want whenever you want. With a gf, you won't have as much time to fuck around."} |
| {"text":"Pros -You can live very care free -Living with parents is totally fine -If you live fairly frugally you can keep doing that no worries -You can weave in and out of social circles no problem , theres no real accountability -You can fuck hookers Cons -Youll probably think about having kids a lot cuz yeverything you work for and your bloodline will have nowhere to go Comment too long. Click here to view the full text."} |
| {"text":"Alcohol can perfectly replicate everything that family, friends and lovers do it doesnt work women dont even know how you feel you need to stop making them into these demigods superior to you with magical powers, they have no clue what is your name or what you're feeling they are just flesh and blood and have no clue how some old man they passed by is feeling about being a 40 yo virgin, they only care about verbal communication and people they speak to and know names of |
| textLiving with parents is totally fine weird someone must have forgotten to tell mine this |
| textI'm sick of pressuring myself to study the hardest bullshit to find myself in the same wage bracket at jobs. I know there are people who manage to do jobs anyone thinks of as getting paid for nothing. I wanna try one of those and I want to meet beautiful girls in the process. What degrees and career paths do beautiful rich girls choose, so that I don't end up suicidal over stress with nothing but autists and pressuring assholes as the only support available? |
| textmale early 30s can't get it fully hard since July before that could get it up almost on command. was able to go 3 sequential rounds with my ex sometimes thought it was a mastrubation problem I use porn sporadically but like not like full on gooning hired a hot hooker for a B2B and a condom BJ in December, got hard enough for a condom, but far from fully. extensive bloodwork from a few days is almost perfect, only white cells were a bit up. Wierdly enough, I stopped drinking daily during 2025 and lost a bit of weight(was in my ITM range at all times). I still smoke but like a third per day what I used to. Also did a 180° on nutrion/diet. Only thing left is a T test, a part from that I'm lost. |
| textAt some point it just doesn't need to go hard anymore. It's the circle of life. Other things will grow in importance to you. |
| textI honestly don't have a problem with that fact of life, I had always kind of a expected it, but I didn't imagine that it would be such a disticnt switch. Like I can literally pinpoint the week it started happening. |
| textI still smoke ding ding bad for blood flow. vasoconstriction + clogs vessels with shite quit and do cardio, and have your women enjoy maximum dick |
| textI get it that smoking is extremely bad, but to have such smoking related problems at early 30s? I wasn't even a pack a day guy during my 20s."} |
| {"text":"Just get some viagra from your doctor or order bluechew. You are getting closer to death so some things arent flowing full power anymore. Comes with the territory. Accept it and work with it rather than treating it like a switch you can flip. Im also 30 and ran into the same stuff. Taking that stuff put me right back into the horny monkey I was nutting twice and going full jackhammer"} |
| {"text":"I literally can't quit my job because I'm scared of going up to my boss and telling him I wanna quit. I cant make eye contact, I cant string sentences together under pressure... It wasn't always like this, so what changed? Did my testosterone drop, am I depressed, went through something traumatic that I didn't take note of...? And most importantly how do I go about reversing this?"} |
| {"text":"There's a notice period in the contract. I'll still have to work for at least a week after I quit, possibly more."} |
| {"text":"Oh that sucks, you now *have* to go through the more difficult process of looking someone in the eye and telling them something they don't want to hear |
| textProbably anxiety, if you took xanax you would literally stop giving a shit and would probably tell your boss that he is a cunt to his face |
| textThats odd, because in this case you have nothing to lose. I nearly had a panic attack building up the courage to ask my boss for a raise because if he said no id have to find a new job because theres no way i could keep working for him knowing im underpaid. The way i got through it was knowing that now that i feel the way i do, the only way i can possibly not feel that way was to tell him. I was mentally stuck in this position that i had to act or be extremely miserable from now on. So decide that you are going to quit and just be sure of it. Your own brain will fuck you up to a degree where you'll just be unable to not tell him you're gonna quit. |
| textmodern jobs drive people crazy the underlying quasi-slavery veiled in fake cordial relationships is a system of control where you can't act according to your own interests. punch your boss in the face on your way out."} |
| {"text":"I wish my wife was more interested in sex be me, 27 marry cute blonde girl, super sexy, Christian, whole package year into marriage fuck her maybe once a week am the only one who initiates often get turned down ”I’m too tired sorry” goes on and on about how she feels bad, tries to console me always insist it’s fine, don’t want her agreeing to it if she doesn’t want it just want her to want it when she says yes, get the impression she’s just pitying me, or trying to keep me happy fuck her anyway because so horny, it’s really fun, feel bad afterwards next day get horny again rejected advances make me feel like a pest, want to just stop asking Comment too long. Click here to view the full text."} |
| {"text":"You're implying that OP's FORCING, as in physically pinning her down and raping her while she's screaming about she doesn't consent to it, dumbass."} |
| {"text":"low IQ coping, unable to handle evidence that refutes their false worldview , looks for any low IQ excuse to ignore the evidence showing that they're wrong. lol. |
| textSo, yes. |
| textHaving sec when you don't necessarily want to in a marriage is not rape, Andrea Dworkin. It's part of the give and take of a relationship sometimes. Rape requires violence and/or forcible coercion. Take that 'all sex is rape' shit elsewhere. |
| textactually no, but since you brought to my attention, I left a reply there proving that what I said in is right. and you'll be totally unable to refute anything like you have been so far in your replies to me."} |
| {"text":"how do i avoid this call and make it a real-life interview? i told this dude if we can meet in person and i don't know if he would want to kek. |
| textYou should maybe just openly state that you have a speech impediment (stutter) and would feel more comfortable to have an in person interview (as this might be easier for both sides) but you of course would be more than ok with doing it by call, so just don't be too surprised that you stutter! You just wanted to make that known right away so noone is thrown off or uncomfortable."} |
| {"text":"yeah i just got rejected kek i hope some day someone would care about me i can do the fucking job i just can't talk properly sometimes but it doesn't affect my skill at all"} |
| {"text":"just sing instead of talking during the call he may like it"} |
| {"text":"The first thing that came to mind was beta blockers might help. People usually take them for things like public speaking anxiety. Apparently they also help some stutterers. Can’t hurt to give it a try."} |
| {"text":"How do I communicate online with the general public via text? I find it difficult because people expect me to act one way, but apparently the way I communicate is boring, \"NPC\", \"like a robot\" \"no personality\" as I've been told. Is it because I don't like typing the same way they do? I don't like typing or acting like normies do because I find it cringe, but if I don't then no one will continue engaging with me, and if the conversation continues for longer, it always ends up with me being bullied / teased / made fun of for being cringe. And then I don't know how to defend myself which makes me look even worse. How do I defend myself again online attacks and bullies? |
| textOh god it just happened again, a girl just called me a dumbass and I didn't know what to say so I just pretended that I was AFK but I was secretly still reading their messages."} |
| {"text":"be me mum checks grades one F the horror! goes on about how im never gonna make it in life, that she wont support a lazy retard like me been getting this shit slugged at me weekly for damn near 6 years internalized it never intended on making it to 18 anyways no friends to care about me anyways is it over? am i being a faggot for overreacting? should i just do it?"} |
| {"text":"antichrist this environment makes all the difference, just make it out of that household at least"} |
| {"text":"Just start working part-time earlier when you reach high school and don't give up on taking vocational courses in anything, whether it's IT or manual skills. Consider having autism or ADHD and need someone to help you study."} |
| {"text":"\"became mentally ill\" more like saw your country being sold down the river and saw the writing on the wall"} |
| {"text":"She won't support you. It may be a phase for her, but you can't rely on surprises anymore. Sadly, you will have to get a job. Cheer up, at least you have a solid reason to move through life. Get a girlfriend and good friends to supplant your mom's love, literally everyone is like this. |
| textIt's really fucking good to accept failures in your life, that way you learn failure doesn't say anything about you. When I studied medicine I was failing all my organic chemistry tests, The failure was a motivation to get the book myself and read it, and I enjoyed it and got a fucking A in the last exams. I went back to school doing CS last year, I ebbed and flowed with math because the lecturer was fucking shit at explaining and I found no motivation in their shit, they were always amazed when I pulled saves. I also literally got an F at some JS course and had given up on learning but I managed to pass anyway. It means fucking nothing, if anything it's indicative of your true alignment in life, what inspired you etc."} |
| {"text":"I want to groom my girlfriend into being ok with us having threesomes with other women (but obviously not other men lol). I already have a plan of how to do it that I've started carrying out and it's going well so far, but I wanted to hear your advice, especially from people who have done this to see if any of it sparks any good ideas. If you feel like bitching you can come in here and do that too"} |
| {"text":"Being an exhibitionist doesn't make her bisexual. You can't change someone's orientation. Suggest it; she's either interested or she's not; if she's not, it's over. |
| textI want to groom if you don't care about the moral aspect or the potential guilt, get her into hard drugs. mdma can make unexpected sexual stuff happen with the right people, and don't underestimate the power of cocaine. I've seen it turn decent girls into total sluts."} |
| {"text":"I want to groom my girlfriend into being ok That is not what grooming means. It doesn't mean making someone okay with something, it means getting someone to the point where, despite them not being okay with it, they let you do it without protesting. If that's your goal, okay, but you should state that."} |
| {"text":"good idea . I know that wouldn't work for us but I can see why it's a good idea in general I mean ideally cause her to like it, or failiing that cause her to be willing to try it once and not do it anymore after that if she doesn't like it. |
| textShe will be fucking other dudes before the year is through. Be ok with all of it or none of it. |
| textHow can I purposefully start an argument to cut off a friend of mine? I'd not like to be associated with them anymore because they're chill with a bunch of people that actually hate me but I was desperate for friends so put up with it initially. Asking specifically because they're a huge pushover, so just being rude wouldn't work. They do have a partner if that helps any. |
| textA likes B B likes C A doesn't like C Why is that a reason for A to break with B?"} |
| {"text":"this. just block and ghost."} |
| {"text":"Why do these people hate you?"} |
| {"text":"*You* need to cut *them* off. Stop expecting them to take responsibility for what you want to do."} |
| {"text":"personally I have had great results with just the second step"} |
| {"text":"Sometimes during my 20s I shifted from optimism about the world to realizing it's ALL doomed. Nothing I praised society and international organizations for is actually working for a positive outcome for the future population of this Doomed Earth. It's rotten to the core with humans ongoing being denied the fundamentals of existence such as clean water, proper nutrition and a faith to deal with the natural turns of life with. Originally we started out with all these rights. Then as they were formulated we lost them. All this energy and sacrificed lives that went into invention, prevention, curing, increased output - it's all for nothing. Nothing is better about more people stacked closer together for a shorter amount of time due to a unsustainable infrastructure supporting it. Getting the cash to buy the games is not what life is about. I'm thankful for not having brought life into this world and I'm regretful for not having realized what a living hell this world objectively is. How to erase and rewind this realization to not feel a need to blackpill those who are working for the world leaders goals? |
| textOriginally we started out with all these rights. says who? when? humans have been mistreating each other from the start. the right to proper nutrition was never a thing, the weak have always fed the strong. realizing it's ALL doomed stoicism can be of some help why give a fuck about things you can't change? |
| textwhy give a fuck about things you can't change? If people knew they would not fall into the trap of praising the next bird flu vaccine or the next renewable energy scam. Like we did have renewable animals to pull ploughs and carts, they were fueled with renewable grass fertilized with their own manure. Then someone invented something unsustainable and it all went to hell. We're trapped having to fulfill the demands of society to keep this vicious cycle going. Many people completely unaware of the evil nature of it. Some willing to ostracize or otherwise silent the ones speaking the truth. I guess here is where the feeling of damnation enter. I can't disregard it. The propaganda about \"being nice\", \"doing the right thing\", \"working hard\" etc is everpresent. The end seems obvious: it must collapse to become good for real. But that's bad to wish for for obvious reasons. |
| textIf money and time were of no issue; what behavioral, psychological, and therapeutic practices could someone take to become a normie that fits in? |
| textworrying about \ is for high schoolers in the real world theirs a tribe for every spergtype |
| textWhat is the tribe for those suffering high amounts of social anxiety towards men, women, children, and elderly? But they also lift weights and groom themselves semi-well(I hate getting haircuts). |
| textBut normies get to have sex which offsets the misery. |
| textHonestly good question. I'm not sure I would do much different. I'd eat out a lot more and get my medical condition the best care it can have worldwide but that's about it. The social part of things won't get any better. I might hire a personal cleaner, personal trainer, and personal chef, and a therapist that can pretend really, really well that they care about me. Basically pay for a mommy. That would be nice. I cannot function well on my own it seems |
| textIf your goal is to be normie, you have to socialize as much as you can. Go out and try to make friends/gfs, then you will make mistakes that you can learn from and try again with other people. |
| textHow are you meant to meet people in a discord server? Few times I've tried to join one it's a bunch of people who clearly already know each other, super cliquey, impossible to try to join the conversation without people acting like you're interrupting"} |
| {"text":"interrupt until they get used to you (usually 3-12 months). this is how it works in real life too"} |
| {"text":"Title. Basically I’m turning 27 next month and my entire life has gone to shit. I have zero friends, I can’t get a girlfriend, I can’t get a job, and I hate myself with a burning passion. I finished school to get my EMT certification but I can’t even pass my final exam after taking it three times. I have zero motivation to study because of all the things I’ve mentioned, and I have severe OCD/depression that makes my daily life a living hell. I’m still living with my parents and I know they’re waiting for me to get my shit together but I legitimately cannot do it. Every time I try to study I just cannot focus at all because of all the baggage and failures in my life, as well as the fact that I’m just extremely lazy. I have absolutely nothing going for me in life. All I do is sleep until midnight and then go to the gym, then go home and go back to sleep. My entire life feels pointless and at this point I feel like my only option is to off myself to escape myself and all my failures. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do? I know people are just going to say “lock in” or “sink or swim” but I just have zero energy or motivation to study or anything when I fail at everything I do like making friends, getting a job, getting a girlfriend, etc."} |
| {"text":"If you ever need to speak or voice call with someone, im here. I relate to some things you are going through. I will be at work soon, can i ask you what is OCD like for you? It is different in everyone, i am curious and do you have a therapist anon? I hope these questions arent too invasive. I am younger than you, but i feel the struggle of being with family still. It is hard, i want to make myself look and present well, even in front my own family in which i should be more relaxed. I have AVPD. It is difficult, but i would recommend you continue to live, if I made it far I believe you can too. Its corny but true"} |
| {"text":"I have pure OCD so I get constant intrusive thoughts of shit I don’t want to think about, like my brain constantly makes me think of things I would never do like sex with family members/pets, etc. it has sucked the joy out of all my hobbies and I can’t really enjoy video games anymore cause of it. I just don’t see the point in continuing to live anymore. I can already tell my future will be subjected to me living by myself in a one bedroom apartment. I can’t get a girlfriend and my time is running out fast so the more likely option is that I’m just going to end up alone. I’m not a very good looking guy (despite what my mom says, but it’s my mom so), and I’m just generally a more sensitive, soft spoken person which many girls don’t like. I’ve had one long term girlfriend in my entire life and I still think about her every day despite us breaking up over two years ago. I’m also 100% positive I’m autistic so I find it hard to talk with people and girls seem to have this mind reading ability where they can just tell there’s something off with you no matter how hard you try to hide it and act normal. I have zero motivation or drive to study when nobody wants to be my friend, every girl I try to talk to rejects or ghosts me, and I can’t get a job despite applying almost every single day at different positions on indeed. I’m also incredibly lazy and I just don’t care about my life anymore cause I feel like I literally have nothing to live for. If I offed myself the only people who would care would be my intermittent family. I have literally nobody outside of them that would even know I was gone except for maybe one or two people I talk to at the gym sometimes. I just feel like my life peaked in my teens and it’s all downhill from here, and even if I somehow lock in and improve myself by studying I still won’t be able to get a girlfriend or many friends because there’s something fundamentally wrong with me."} |
| {"text":"Your crush is out there living her life and enjoying the winter, going out with friends, socializing, having fun, making memories, forging meaningful connections and getting ahead in life, while you are here shitposting about some relationship bullshit nobody cares about on a beautiful winter's weekend. Any last words anon before you inevitably end it? |
| textGrim |
| textJust turned 31. I'm a bit tired. It's getting to the point where people start asking me where's my \"gf\". \"You are a good looking guy anon\". I work from home. It's incredibly hard to meet new people. I've been doing voluntary work at this ONG, and thanks to it I was seeing a girl last summer, but I wasn't into her so I broke it off. She was 19. I know I should get out there more, but the issue is there's nothing to go do. already go to church, but church is anti social at it's core. There's no community. only thots go to gyms, plus they are expensive.( home gym master race) I like art and have been to art events, but arthoes should be in a insane asylum, non ironically. This weekend there was a ONG charity activity and the only cute/hot girl there was...17. It's legal here btw. Not even my type either way. There was another activity today but I, for some reason, got the flu, just at the right moment... I went to University and only met ugly girls. I don't want to sound like a whinny bitch, but I see short guys, with hot girlfriends all the time here. It's crazy. I just never cross paths with decent girls, but other do. I'm 6'0 btw if that helps. It's a numbers game, but I have no way to be around the right women. inb4 cold approaching I've tried it and got digits, but it is fucking insane and never leads to nothing because I am a stranger to those girls. It's retarded thing to do. I need to look into more stuff to go do, but I also have to keep working and shit, do time is limited. May God help me"} |
| {"text":"I know and it's killing me inside. When I finally give up it will be more than over for me. |
| textYour love just waits to unfold anon. |
| textwaiting for women to make the first move keep waiting anon. any day now. |
| textI need advice from ESL anons. I’ve been on 4chan for almost 10 years and I still struggle with basic english grammar and probably a lot of other stuff I’m not even aware of. I can read and understand spoken english just fine (I only watch english youtube videos now and I can watch shows without subtitles), but when it comes to forming sentences or speaking, I sound like an idiot. For most of my life, I didn’t care about talking to people. I only wanted to play video games and watch anime without waiting years for fan translations. A while ago, my attitude changed. I met some friends who speak english and I really like them and enjoy talking to them. Texting on discord is fine because I have enough time to check my spelling and fix any mistakes before posting, just like I did with this post. But when we’re playing something and I need to say/write things quickly, I either say something wrong (but understandable) or say nothing at all because I don’t know how to phrase it. That’s why I started to care. I know native speakers and people with good english hate dealing with someone like me and I want to change that. I don’t want to lose my friends because of my lack of discipline and effort! So what’s the best way to learn english grammar properly? I’ve heard that khan academy has a good grammar course, but I’m not sure if it’s the best option. Still, it’s probably better than some clickbaity youtube videos. Any advice would be appreciated. You can also laugh and call me names, I deserve it for my laziness and lack of action |
| textI won't read subhumans wanting to learn ingrish threads."} |
| {"text":"read more books you can improve a lot of conversation skills and everyday slang and stuff watching movies/seeting tv shows, playing videogames but for actual grammar, nothing beats a book if you're not one to read buy your favorite book in english, that way you'll both know what it's talking about even if the language gets hard at points but also you'll get entertained. but a lot of books is recommended"} |
| {"text":"Why not download Duolingo and use that for a while. Not that I have ever used it but apparently it's the best language learning app. Native English speaker here btw |
| textI've done that for most of my life and I can read and listen, but I still can't write without sounding like a retard. It's not even about fucking up, I just want people to understand me better Thanks for your kind words, but I used chatgpt to make my post more understandable. Right now I write without any help and as you can see, my english is not really that great. and most of my people don’t bother their ass learning another language Because everything is in english nowadays. Besides japanese, there is no reason to learn a foreign language if you just want to consume media. Nothing wrong with that. When I use chatgpt, yeah. I've done that for over 10 years. Still don't know how to write basic sentences. If I can, I watch or read in english. I already have a few books in english and reading them feels natural to me. but for actual grammar, nothing beats a book That's why I'm asking for recs... Comment too long. Click here to view the full text."} |
| {"text":"Keep a journal where you write down everything that happened to you that day. Ask any AI chat bot to correct and explain your grammatical errors until you master it. By the way, I speak five languages. We're in the 21st century, it has never been this easy. |
| textYo, I'm in America. Can a hospital refuse to service you if you still owe them like a gazillion dollars from the last time you were admitted but had no insurance?"} |
| {"text":"It's really not that complicated. Non life threatening = you can exist without dying Life threatening = you will die if you don't get ___ treatment"} |
| {"text":"It's really fucking easy - are you going to die from the disease or condition or not? And if the answer is \, there's a sub-clause of \"are you going to die today? This week? This month?\" boobs done Elective surgery, so non-life threatening. pneumonia? Potentially life-threatening disease. Blood clots? Life threatening condition. But you've already had tests to know this so they've already admitted you. Broke my elbow? Non-life threatening condition"} |
| {"text":"Broke my elbow? Non-life threatening condition Seriously? You know how many people in the past have died of broken bones before modern medicine was a thing?"} |
| {"text":"No. How many?"} |
| {"text":"I am basically my single mother's father now if you know what I mean. What will the repercussions be? |
| textBut it's what we knew."} |
| {"text":"Sounds hot."} |
| {"text":"if you know what I mean. I don't. |
| textis this some \ bullshit? |
| textStick her in a home. They do have an expiration date. Oh... show her how to find the information herself if you can't arse it. The U-tube is full of these guys. They want you to buy their foam rollers which essentially is just a rolled up foam mat for camping. (ignore the troll, jannies will recognize it isn't advice sooner or later) |
| textCan a regular poster on 4chan be nurse? I fucked up so bad picking CompSci only to find out there no job openings because A.I (actual indians) And I talked to counselor and only said I could only get my bachelor's in Nursing."} |
| {"text":"Robots are going to replace nurses. Become a college counselor."} |
| {"text":"That's a good job. I think coders will still be needed in time but they won't be paid like $200,000 right out the gate anymore."} |
| {"text":"A regular poster on 4chan can be anything. If you want to become a nurse, then go for it. If not, work wherever you can get a job"} |
| {"text":"Nursing* is a good job, and will be in demand."} |
| {"text":"There are many professions that may want you to be a graduate (because that says something about your ambition and discipline) but don't care what you studied. Banking, Sales, Management, Real Estate, Stock Market, Retail, etc etc etc |
| textShould I feel disgusted if I find out the person I'm on the phone with is taking a shit as they're talking to me? |
| texttaking a shit as they're talking to me? Yes. Hang up."} |
| {"text":"It depends on who it is. If it was my girlfriend, I would find that arousing."} |
| {"text":"I answered a call from my boss while taking a shit once. He was like, \"what are you up to at the moment\" and I said \"actually just taking a shit\" and he laughed and moved on. Answered a call from a friend one time, he asked me \"bro are you in the toilet right now, I can tell by the echo in the room\" and then we laughed and talked about what he wanted to call me about."} |
| {"text":"back to /b/"} |
| {"text":"Be impressed that they can multitask"} |
| {"text":"I need a job. I havent worked in three years due to a life threatening illness that left me rather frail and with anxiety. I have a useless University degree that I have never exercised. I'm stumped, maybe I should just return to school in my early 30s for a new career? Please help me think |
| textThere is no helping you. It's over."} |
| {"text":"i refuse."} |
| {"text":"Sorry to hear that anon. I have a useless University degree that I have never exercised. Just like most people, it’s okay I'm stumped, maybe I should just return to school in my early 30s for a new career? If you feel the need to do it and can support yourself, then go for it. Self improvement is always worth pursuing, especially if it can improve your financial situation. Please help me think It’s hard for me to do that when I don’t know anything about you. What illness do you have? Do you have a physical disability? What are your living costs? Do you live with your parents? |
| textSorry for the late response. With my treatment, I was able to put a type of cancer into full remission. I'm a lot better than a year ago, but the medication has left me a bit frail. I'd rather not take up retail or anything near my area as it is dangerous and full of insane people. I am fortunately living with my family, but can feel the pressure on me without them saying. As for skills, I have basic IT skills and some paralegal experience. |
| textThere are loads of jobs that don't might prefer someone with a degree but don't particularly care what it's in. Banking, real estate, stock market, sales, retail management, etc etc etc"} |
| {"text":"i like fixing computers and im good at it, im also good-ish at fixing other things but its mostly computers i like to fix. i want to make a career of it but none of the computer repair places nearby are hiring. they are far away anyways. my town is somewhat small but has a senior population, and they do happen to be pretty technologically illiterate. i have on a few occasions gotten paid to help a couple of them out with whatever tech stuff they're trying to figure out. ive been thinking about starting my own little business centered around that kind of thing. do i go for it? is there something better i could/should be doing instead? |
| textwtf is there to fix, you literally just replace components? computers aren't fixable for decades, and every kid can pull out a graphic card and put another. that's no skill to base your life existence on |
| text50% of new businesses (of any type) go bust in the first year - almost always because the owners may know all about their subject (computers, dog grooming, whatever) but nothing about running a business. Learn Small Business 101, either from a CC class or by reading books. Google \ |
| textGoing to post my stats since I can't make an objective description of my own 30m australia/European citizenship 6'7 white lean muscular from gym long brown hair, brown eyes have moles everywhere from the sun terribly crooked teeth been poor my whole life most I've earned is 30k usd in one year, most years much less massive proclivity to depression and negative thoughts constant anxiety very likely autistic with OCD Comment too long. Click here to view the full text."} |
| {"text":"just straighten your teeth bro, it will fix you tremendously i never had enough money to do it and my parents didn't give a fuck, so i did it too late to be relevant, but it helped |
| textThis is very common in pozzfailia |
| textYou don't even have a bad life crooked teeth Ez fix poor Everyone's poor. Somehow you're not doing worse possible disloyal gf Basically every gf. Good luck getting anything better"} |
| {"text":"have moles everywhere from the sun skin cancer"} |
| {"text":"i want someone evil who will fufill by crush fetish"} |
| {"text":"Do something rash and get put in a facility Profit"} |
| {"text":"I'm in my mid-twenties, and I am a failure genetically, spiritually, socially, romantically, academically, financially, physically. I am far past the point of recovery, and I've lost all hope for my life. What is there to do now other than just an hero myself? inb4 just be better bro"} |
| {"text":"Finances are the only thing in that list that actually matter. The rest are government psyops to compel you to breed."} |
| {"text":"Do you feel hatred towards the person you say this too? You utterly deluded wretch. It’s only ever out of compassion. It always has been."} |
| {"text":"I won't read threads with such an unpromising start. Ask for advice on one thing next time. |
| textspiritually,academically, financially, physically. All your fault, everything else is a dice throw that you lost. |
| textI'm in my mid-twenties, and I am a failure genetically, spiritually, socially, romantically, academically, financially, physically. I am far past the point of recovery, and I've lost all hope for my life. Is that your Tinder profile? It might need work |
| textSuicide is not an option. And if you’re thinking about hurting yourself, remember that your life is far too valuable to give up in that way. I know it hurts right now and it feels like nothing is getting better, but you don’t have to carry all of this on your own. You need to know that sometimes our brain makes us believe that we don’t matter. But the truth is, you do matter. There are many people who love you, for example: your family, friends, bf/gf, pet, etc. Don’t erase your story; just turn the page. Your life doesn’t end here, it’s only just beginning. |
| textNevermind, 4chans Email verification service is so faggoty that I might just kms. |
| textmy advice if u wanna kys would be to try and remember something you wanted to do as a kid just fuckin do that or join a fishing boat crew, military, fly to another country, etc there's that WWOOF program where you can do a small amount of work in exchange for room & board, you get to meet people i've heard good stories from people who did that |
| textI'm a shut in."} |
| {"text":"nothing to lose, right? isn't that the point? may as well do something drastic with an uncertain outcome, rather than a certain one |
| textI have quite a lot to loose in the shitty town I live in, such as my life. |
| textWhat do? |
| textwowie |
| textthis may as well be a vent post, dude |
| textGoes to TikTok for dating advice Thinks the videos there help Normie faggot I keked |
| textOkay, well here goes. I always wanted a relationship since my teen years. I was too shy in high school to talk to any girls, so it never happened then, but I remember most of my peers dating. It's usually around this time when people have their first experiences with dating and relationships. Later on, there were women throughout the years I was interested in, but they were all taken. I feel like there's a certain kind of love that you only really get to experience at a younger age. Like the intensity of a first love. Everyone's figuring shit out, and everything feels new and exciting. That chapter has a certain cultural magic to it, and feeling like you missed it can feel like you missed a rite of passage. By the time you reach a certain age, most people have been there, done that. I have a coworker who met her boyfriend at 17, and she's planning on moving 8 hours away to live with him and eventually get married. She told me they talk the entire time when they're not working, and will plan visits. I remember all the things she'd say about him - how much she loved him, all the expensive gifts she'd buy for him, and how he was her world. She once told me that she'll be with him forever. I heard them talking on the phone at work and they seemed to have amazing chemistry - not a dull moment, full of laughter and flirting. It makes me wish I could have experienced that kind of deep, intimate love. Anyway, it's given me a lot of grief on what I missed out on. It seems impossible to meet new people, and I feel like at my age it's a turn off for someone else if I'm honest about experiencing everything for the first time."} |
| {"text":"Go on a date"} |
| {"text":"This might be a dumb question but it's bugging me and I can't think of anywhere else to ask it. Do other people really feel satisfied just from doing basic shit like chores around the house? Not in a deeper sense, of course, but just like a good feeling from doing it? I'm struggling to think of times where I felt at all satisfied or accomplished and I struggle. It's insane to think other people get a dopamine hit from doing the dishes. I know people will say it's like the internet frying your brain but, even as a kid, I remember another student getting really pumped up and excited when he passed a test and later I got an award for scoring the highest in our grade or whatever on the same test and I really didn't feel anything from it. I'm not sure I even showed my parents. I remember thinking he wasn't the best student so it was probably just because he was worried about failing but maybe something is just broken in my brain that wasn't in his. I feel like my only real emotional motivation for doing things is to quell the dread and anxiety from them not being done. The only time I can recall feeling satisfied is one semester, my Grandpa was in hospice, and I found it a good enough excuse to phone it in even harder than usual until like the last few days when I had basically nothing done all semester besides most of the exams and had to stay up day and night until I finally scraped together passing grades. |
| textDo other people really feel satisfied just from doing basic shit like chores around the house? They do. I’m not one of them, but people like that exist, and it’s usually people with functional or highly-acute senses of spatial awareness who enjoy it. (Spatial awareness is what is sounds like, constant mental awareness of outside envrions, things outside their body). So for people like that, their room or home for example becomes a 1:1 extension for their mind. If their room is cluttered, their mind feels cluttered. If their house feels or looks depressing or chaotic, their mind feels depressing or chaotic. So when they do chores or clean or tidy shit up, they feel immense satisfaction from it. Those same people by the way, if you choose to befriend them, live with them, or date them will always get angry or upset with you if you don’t help doing chores or make messes for them to clean up. To them it feels like deliberate attacks on their mind, because that space you share was their mind-extension, and you are treading all over it and/or showing a lack of care for it. Also this, adhd etc etc. I have it too. And its the reason why most if not all of my personal relationships went to Hell, because adhd means enjoying chaos and mess & involunatrily forgetting about how others might feel constantly = I caused problems just by existing lol. Adhds can ‘mask’ it and put in 1,000% extra effort but it costs the life of your soul. Autist’s mask their ‘face’, their social disability. Adhds mask their ‘hands’, their cognitive disability. And normies have no idea what either world is like. |
| textDo other people really feel satisfied just from doing basic shit like chores around the house? Some people do, yes. Most of us simply recognise that they're essential and get on with them without complaining."} |
| {"text":"It's really gay when people use the term normies unironically Whatever it is that you call \ just sounds like a sad, apathetic person who's okay with living in filth and mess. I'm unfortunately the same, but it doesn't help to give it a name and say oh I have ADHD. You need to do something about it. Rewire your brain, be a better person. Those people who care about their environment arguably have much better lives and actually respect themselves, while you take the \"I don't care about anything, I don't even care about myself\" route In short, you call it having ADHD, I call it - that you're both depressed and gay. Work to be better I feel awful while doing it. Every fiber of my being, wants not to do it. You know when I feel satisfaction? When I talk about how I did this good thing with people. Or when I want to have somebody over and I feel like I can. Or the next time I go out I need some clean clothes and I have them, or the next time I'm hungry and want to cook I have cooking utensils to be able to make my food. At THOSE times I feel the satisfaction. While doing the activity itself I feel fucking awful. But do it enough, and like a cat - you can connect the dots between getting washed and being clean; one is awful, and one is great, but it's required you go through both. |
| textwhile you take the \ route I think that you’re jumping the gun and presuming more than you can fairly judge, but that’s fine it’s not like I attached the nuances or an autobiography to my post so you couldn’t know lol. I don’t take that “i dont care about anything/myself” route. I do a lot better now, have a job, a clean home and a functional marriage and kids. I care now and I cared back then at my worst. “Care” doesn’t change the malformed pre-frontal cortex that adhd has. You can care until your heart bursts, nothing changes. In short, you call it having ADHD, I call it - that you're both depressed and gay. Work to be better We can call it whatever we want. I know that’s what other people did and typically do: “Lazy”, “Unfocused”, “Uncaring”, “Deficient”, “Inconsiderate”, “Wrong”, “Deadbeat”, “Loser”, “Helpless”, “Your own worst enemy”. etc etc. See, I never pitifully identified with any of those sad labels, other people just really, really loved to put them on me. Why? Because that’s how I appeared on the outside, and it was easy for them to do that. On the inside was a different story. For me that four letter label ‘adhd’ perfectly summed up the entire shape of my mental block that I had my whole life that went undiagnosed and that I got socially dragged through broken glass for, even though I always wanted to do better and better but never knew how because I didn’t know what was even holding me back. And what was holding me back was a disability I had no idea I had the entire time, and when I got my diagnosis, I got treatment, and I got access to better ways to solve problems in my own way and that’s what I did and continue doing now. If someone else despises the fact I own my own disability and instantly assumes I’m just using it to “excuse” myself, i don’t dont care. I know the score, they don’t."} |
| {"text":"There can be some satisfaction in getting a chore done and out of the way. There's also - if your mind and personality work this way - pleasure in ANYTHING done well. And many people find routine brainless chores an opportunity either to think about things or to zone out and rest their brains |
| textMy life completely fell apart the last two years. Bad things just kept happening one after the other. It started to seem intentional like I was cursed or something. Whenever I tried to be hopeful some new catastrophic event would happen like clockwork. I literally started to keep track of the timing because more often than not it was the next fucking day. I don't know what to do. I've never felt like this before and I never thought I would. Shows what I know. There has to be some way to recover from this. To come back when you're at your lowest point but things just keep getting worse. I know there are people who have done it. Probably on this board even. I've made so many mistakes, done terrible things and hurt people that I love, but I want to change, I want to make my life better, I don't want to be saddled by guilt and the constant fear that something terrible is going to happen tomorrow because I dared to hope today that it wouldn't. Help me. I'm genuinely concerned for my safety at this point. I'm considering trying to get myself hospitalized because I might actually blow my brains out if things keep going the way they are now. I'm asking for help on fucking 4chan that's how desperate and out of answers I am. |
| textThis, also sometimes you just needa fuckin eat. I had shit sleep for half a year and I turned into a fucking animal but it probably was because I was grieving and running away from the pain, throwing my life away in some aspects, deciding to live on the road. Get in touch with the darkness. It will always be there with you. Do something drastic, change your life completely without thinking of the future. Not in a bad way but a way that can help you transform. Buy a ticket to a foreign place you've always wanted to see, learn a new skill. I didn't think it would affect me that much, but I took a metal shaping class a coupe years ago and even though I did it once I still think about it as a really big point in my life, just some class I spent an afternoon in. It's so weird what can make us happy. Sometimes you can find hilarity in monotony as well. Simple things can be full of such insane hilarity. Imagine living in a place where no one understands you and you have to focus on every detail to get by. It slows your days down, puts you in the present and you can appreciate so much more in this life. The present, try looking at the present, not all the bad shit that's happened and may happen again (often our worst days are ahead of us as well as our best) |
| textOP here . More bad news, permanent hearing loss in both ears. Dont even know what caused it, I don't work in a loud place or use headphones. Yay."} |
| {"text":"Man, I cracked my knee and lost my favourite bike (CBR1000rr) at the same time, can't run anymore and lost a real good job opportunity because I couldn't walk for shit for the first six months after surgery. Strapped to a bed unable to move without feeling a funny amount of pain brought me to the brink too. Just get strong and find someone to get you through this shit. It will get better soon or later."} |
| {"text":"Eh, don't worry about that one too much. You're expected to lose your hearing as you age. Plus they're working on some new treatments that can bring some of it back. |
| textWHAT?! GET A TREATMENT FOR THAT CANCER BRO! |
| textI decided to fuck my motorcycle's exhaust pipe because I'm a virgin and wanted to hump something so I could vaguely understand what sex is like, as I mainly jerk off lying down, when a jagged bit of rust got pulled off and scraped my cock. It drew blood. How do I go to the hospital, giving I possibly got tetantus and will need to explain this? |
| textTell them the truth you retarded forever alone fag |
| textThis. It could not withstand the heat. |
| textimmune as a child Anon there's swathes of people who DONT even have the small pox vaccine let alone lock jaw unfortunately. Kek, next time invest in a flashlight OP it's cheaper than the exhaust + hospital visit. Or just lay on top of your off hand till it falls asleep then jerk off with it. Its practically like an entirely different person. |
| textI can give you an absolute guarantee: the people at the ER see things a hundred times more embarrassing than that every single week. Please just go. If you have to, tell them you tripped over something in the garden and landed on something sharp. But really: they've seen far worse."} |
| {"text":"At least tells us the model of the bike."} |
| {"text":"I realized around two years ago that one of the only ways to achieve success in life is through having connections. Success largely depends on running into certain people. I unfortunately realized this too late. Since then, I am now only befriending people in the hopes that they would give me something in return (ie jobs, clout, academia, etc). There are people who I hang out with, and buy drinks and gifts for just because I think they are useful to have as friends. I even mark down their birthdays to appear like a good friend who cares about them. I fucking hate living like this and the dishonesty eats me up inside, but it feels like my choices are slim. The idea that you can just apply to a cushy job, or start a cool promising project on your own is a delusion. You need to meet people who already have something going on, and then you need to worm your way into their lives. I also try to never make any of these friends meet each other. College/uni is a great place to enroll in just for this purpose. I am sure some of my fellow zoomers here can relate to this post. Any thoughts?"} |
| {"text":"wtf are you talking about ? godamn niggers"} |
| {"text":"Oh, I see"} |
| {"text":"Thriving in society, getting a good job, a healthy wife, and financing successful offspring is all that matters in the end. You don't need any of this to survive At most, offspring that produces offspring to ensure a \ survival but after that nothing guaranteed |
| textVery good video, for once That thumbnail cracked me up, even if it's misleading clickbait"} |
| {"text":"How to handle rejection from women?"} |
| {"text":"I rejected several women Fuck off"} |
| {"text":"Suppose that what you say is true. Does that mean it's useful to date a woman who doesn't like you and isn't attracted to you? Do you think that's a recipe for a happy relationship? Or is it better to be with a woman who does like you, and is attracted to you, and about whom you feel the same way? Without rejections, how do you identify that person?"} |
| {"text":"How to handle rejection from women? serious answer: you have to reprogram yourself. it starts with words, ideas, then turns into a mindset. accept and embrace that rejection is a GOOD thing, because it means you actually had the balls and tried. better suffer the rejection sting for 10 minutes than endure a lifetime of what-ifs and regrets because you waited for signs or cockblocked yourself by overthinking. of course we aren't machines and getting rejected 10 times in a row will wear you down and kill your self-esteem, so you have to have some success once in a while. that's why you probably have to lower your standards. yeah, maybe you'll have to fuck that fattie or older woman. the good news is that, when you eventually succeed, the self-esteem boost and field experience of what works and doesn't will incrementally help you get a more attractive partner next time. it's a game and you have to level-up yours |
| textOptimal build: Your parents arrange for you to marry your cousin while you were 5. |
| textlol |
| textAs the title reads but context below: Met this girl and we really hit it off, she's very much my type physically and mentally. we discussed meeting up for a date sometime next week. She said we have to meet in my town because she lives with her parents, I asked why that would be a problem and she just looked at me and got very close and said I was autistic for not understanding that she was flirting with me. I am not autistic. I'm pretty sure she implied us having sex later and this is both exciting but also very stressing. Last time I had sex was 4 years ago and it was awful because I don't like when people touch me. I have avoided intercourse since that experience but I can't miss a chance with her if she escalates. She's really something, never in my life have I had a girl start talking to me about who Chris chan is and how she loves watching lolcow channels. Anyways how do I overcome this anxiety? We're meeting next week. How do I avoid a sympathetic NS spike? |
| textI think relationships are more about the person and mutual activities than the sex anyways and they all include some sort of touching brainiac |
| textYeah, trusted people may touch but that takes time, did you even read the text? |
| textlunch and an event in the evening (?) is a long time for a first date. If things are going well then after lunch I'd recommend suggesting to her that you go back to your place (you can just suggest something dumb as a pretence like \"do you want to go back to my place to play a videogame/to see that thing I was telling you about earlier/ to watch a movie\" ) and have sex with her. If you wait until after the end of the student even thing in the evening then you might both be too tired and have spent too long around each other for a first time."} |
| {"text":"Just tell her \"Look, I really like you, but do you mind if we take it a little slower?\" and then work up to sex gradually over the next few weeks. She'll be fine. |
| textif you're going to use a condom, practice beforehand. you have to be able to put it on in a few seconds, without thinking about it. muscle memory will prevent anxiety and awkwardness when the moment comes to put it on with her."} |
| {"text":"My gf of two years admitted I’m “the most cringe bf she’s ever had” but assures me it doesn’t change how she feels about me This shit sounds offensive as fuck. Am I wrong to be paranoid she will dump me bros"} |
| {"text":"admitted If you push her to, a woman can tell you anything you want to hear"} |
| {"text":"Am I wrong to be paranoid she will dump me bros Yes. This is just banter."} |
| {"text":"no"} |
| {"text":"If her actions show you that she's devoted to you, the you've nothing to fear. Talk is cheap, anyone can say anything for whatever reason. In a lot of cases, people say things for no reason at all, and in other cases people misspeak. What \"cringe\" means to you means something else entirely to someone else. One of the craziest things you'll learn in life is everyone has a different 'mental dictionary'. People draw different emotions or projections out of words than (you) do. And when it comes to women and the words that come out of their mouths, their words are always lacking depth. They just talk to talk, that's why you're never supposed to take what they say seriously. Only take what they feel seriously. If she starts with \ Immediately detach your emotions and instantly assume there is no emotional depth to what she says next. \ does not mean anything significant at all. If you pry and pry and try to get her to dig deep she'll just outright tell you \"you're the most eccentric boyfriend I've had, the 'weirdest' (in a good way). You're interesting.\} |
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| {:then why does it keep happening?\we'll talk about it\" before he left for work this morning and I've been stewing on it all day. He knows I'm not crazy like that. Why won't he listen to me? |
| textShe should hike in a bright color not camo. Never know when you're going to fall off a cliff and someone will need to locate your corpse or you forget it's deer season. |
| textKinda sorta. I just like to wander around and take pics of anything cool I find. I just like moving around in nature mostly and the animals are a fringe benefit. It's like 20 degrees out, but I still get scratched up wearing layers. Maybe if I didn't try climbing over or crawling under stuff I'd be fine."} |
| {"text":"Wow you weren't kidding about getting hurt easily |
| textYeah, it's kinda silly sometimes how I won't even feel something scratch me but when I get home and change I find a cut that bled. |
| textI don’t really know what I’m doing or where I’m going. I turn 24 next month especially as of late I’ve been feeling extremely suicidal. I spend a lot of time thinking about it or doing something violent, my depression has gotten worse to the point of not leaving my house. I’m going to finish my undergrad before law school soon but I can’t will myself to leave my room to go to class. I make money through my side job as an army reservist to tide me over but I just feel a lack of will to do anything. I go in to therapy and whilst it has helped, recently I have plateaued and my therapist has recommended getting a ptsd screening for shit that happened to me as a teenager. I’m at a point where I don’t feel well and I don’t know where to go if I should go anywhere at all. This sounds retarded but recently I watched an anime recently (picrel) and despite the character being an ass the whole time, there’s something tangible that I want there that I don’t believe I will attain, authentic and inexperienced love. I’ve been in one relationship and am not a virgin though she was only in it for sex and it kinda burnt me put on romance for a bit but this show kinda set something off in me that I’ve wanted. I grew up in homeschool and never got to really experience any of that and though I shouldn’t be a bitch and complain, I think about what I lost out on often even now 6 years later. I want that experience at love and connection or something like it, fuck I hate myself so much. I binged the whole series and now want to stick a revolver in my mouth and paint my wall red. I just feel so out of it, despondent and lonely. I don’t know what to do in regards to any of this shit I just feel like a fuck up. |
| textI want that experience at love and connection or something like it melodramatic pity party pretentious suicideboys vibe aside, you're 24. You've still got so many opportunities to experience life like how you desire. That's why these anime trope exist, because many people can feel relation to the experience depicted in it. Whimsical and innocent love/crushing. You have to make moves in life so you can expose yourself to more opportunities like that. If you stay in your room all mopey all the time, you're literally letting time wash away as well as those opportunities. There's a Hayase running around out there and you're in here hiding. I just feel so out of it, despondent and lonely. realize that this is the default feeling of life. You aren't alone either. Those fleeting happiness moments are what everybody chases throughout history. You are no different in this era. Being in this default state should motivate you to change it. You know that high you get with a new love and fling. Why do you choose to just do nothing about it? You know damn well there's a Hayase out there somewhere and I want her too. If you aren't going to find her, I will I go in to therapy seek medical help, and get your body numbers checked out. Maybe its a genuine imbalance somewhere. If all good, try exercise. Running and weight lifting."} |
| {"text":"Yeah you’re right. I can throw this fucking pity-party shit all day but it won’t help, no one will come and save you at the end of the day. As someone told me at boot camp you just gotta man the fuck up. In truth it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to go to a medical professional either, truth be told I haven’t felt right since boot camp happened over the summer, maybe it’s because I got a concussion or something else but it’s only right after that when I started isolating and shit, not that I passed the course I was thrown off for self harm and need to go back but yeah I should get that looked at maybe. And yeah I do want to change things, at least on a personal level (truth be told I think my country’s fucked and will be plunged into a civil war within the next decade if not this decade) but I shouldn’t let that stop me from living. I already give my life to the state so why not live a little as well? Thanks for writing this regardless anon that did help"} |
| {"text":"but I shouldn’t let that stop me from living. yeah bro- you know how you can affect the macro side of things? By focusing on the micro- the shit you can affect. So focus on your life. Do the best you can. Try to bring positive into the world- even if its dark- don't make it more toxic. because I got a concussion or something else but it’s only right after that when I started isolating and shit yes, seek medical help. Get checked out. If its mental, like I said, try physical fitness. It certainly helps me get out of my funk by lifting weights at the gym or running for miles. I already give my life to the state so why not live a little as well? I'm a soldier too. Don't let this profession (or attempt at it) dictate your life experience. I did this shit for money and physical fitness. I don't let it shape my life or my perspective of other people. I have the capability to live this sandbox how I want and I damn wont live it moping around. Even though the world and people around me want me to. I intend to live the most fulfilling and fun and satisfying life I can while I am still here fighting. I owe myself that. My family and parents that. My previous lovers that. My ancestors that. I won't give up fighting you know? Don't sweat 24 as you've got this time to fail and try again. Try all cool things! I hope this brings some new perspective OP. |
| textThat did help provide some more perspective yeah, it’s always easier to bond with a fellow soldier regardless of MOS. Yeah you got a point there’s really nothing we can do when it cones to outside shit, best focus on ourselves first. I gotta hit the gym anyways to get ready for summer courses and other shit but it would help me mentally, I know when I worked out everyday I definitely felt sharper and more stable compared to after getting injured where I didn’t work out for a while. Once again thanks this did help. Just needed to give my head a good shake though not literally lol |
| textI broke up with my ex 2 months ago and it still sits in my mind. She was the first woman to ever say she loved me that wasn't family, but with that was a lot of fighting, issues stemming from her own traumas i.e. Esteem issues and using me as as a bank, forcing me into sex a lot, calling me fat ( I am fit), Drinking all the time. It was not good for me and I am still incredibly grateful I decided to call it when I did instead of years later with a kid, wife, house etc. She came back asking for forgiveness but I knew nothing could change her as I had tried over the time we were together so I said no. My Social was public and I saw she was still looking at my stories a week ago and it caused me to feel awful. But I was really bad about stalking her social after it just seeing her was definitely causing me to completely regret calling it, a lot of that was probably from my relationship with my mom (she left when I was 16) causing issues still. Since the day I called it I regret it and only just the few days I woke up saying fuck looking at her but it still has set in my mind. Seeing her profile change knowing she is still thinking of me fills me with a ton of regret and pity, and I know stopping my cyberstalk is gonna be for the best. Any Advice? Also looking for some /lit/ that could further help me kinda fix my own mind."} |
| {"text":"Google \"six questions to fall out of love\". Ask yourself those questions. You're welcome. |
| textObviously stop stalking her, you already know this though. I read meditations after I broke up with my first gf in a very similar situation, I feel it helps you think about shit more logically. |
| textI won't read yet another how to move on thread. The remedy, of course, is to redirect one's attention, but OP is clearly a subhuman moron who will never see it that way and therefore nothing can be done. |
| textforcing me into sex a lot The horror |
| textThese memes are so gay. The whole point of it is to look at the handsome person in it. That's it. There's no meaning or substance or anything. The caption is a facade. |
| textShould I stay away from it? |
| textI assume almost no one goes to /b/ anymore except discord groomers who want to find minors to blackmail and extort (sextortion rings like com / 674 ) or groom into becoming a tranny so yes but you're probably a 30 year old tranny discord groomer yourself trying to make /b/ seem appealling to young teenagers who find \"evil\" edginess appealling"} |
| {"text":"Mmm I really only use blue boards the post quality on NSFW is abysmal. NTA but I mostly post on /ck/ and /tv/ because I love cooking and classic movies/celebrity talk. I also like /v/ and the related boards. Sometimes I like going on /int/ but since I’m from a small Euro country I feel like I’m namefagging and the mods on there are terrible. I wish there was a SFW random board desu You should try going on random boards and making threads about things that interest you. The last thread I made was a really comfy twilight zone one on /tv/ asking for similar shows and discussing 60’s cinema."} |
| {"text":"The only board that will make you lose faith in humanity faster is /soc/"} |
| {"text":"I browse drawthreads and music threads, funny /vp/ threads and some silly meme threads on s4s :)"} |
| {"text":"Yeah well, the real world isn't really giving me anything or anyone to relate to si here I am |
| text24. No degree some community college (Got accepted into 4yr as well). Stopped going because I had no direction/desires for college ever so I started working at 19. Life at 21 I realize $15/hr not who I want to be forever so I tried stocks but lost $5k (AMC/Gamestop hype etc..) I never learned the skills to trade properly so it’s my fault but I learned about myself emotionally so it wasn’t a complete loss of money just an expensive lesson. I don’t really like school I never have really not because I’m bad I just wanna get to the money making part lol. I did ok but lack of direction or desire caused me to stop going honestly and always half effort the work and stop around start of Covid. Looking for advice on what paths to pursue in general or those who have similar traits as I. -Great social skills (can talk to anyone people tell me their secrets or life often men/women) -Can think critically to solve a problem -adjust to any environment -hard worker/obsessed with fulfilling a task in the best way possible I deem beneficial -not a physical laborer type of guy -Like reading when beneficial |
| textidk real estate |
| textGreat social skills Why not get into a sales job? They earn shitloads of money, a lot of sales jobs get paid a salary PLUS commission. So you basically get a cut of every sale you make. Some salesfags get 200-500k yearly depending on the company they work for and how good they are at their job. |
| textEverything requires a degree now |
| textI just wanna get to the money making part lol so does everyone in the world, throughout history my guy. Realize the competition is even more cutthroat than decades past. You are no longer competing with your local peers, but now even GLOBALLY. So you have to be on top of your game 110%, because its really is true that some Pajeet somewhere is willing to slit someone's throat to get a chance to bite at something you're too lazy to get. but lost $5k this shit is pocket change as a normal financially-literal adult in the USA. I throw this amount around playing with buying and selling stuff. If you learn about money, this should be nothing to you. An average adult with a family pays around that every month for bills and a mortgage- so if you're already freaking out at that, what more later in life? I had no direction/desires for college ever you need to learn what college is for. It's for wealthy people to form connections with other similar peers for business later on. They join secret societies and lean on each other in these places. If you're poor and need college to survive, you will learn it will be a place to teach you how to become an employee. So treat it as such. Do some research about what jobs you can see yourself being satisfied in doing and learning what steps in college you need to take to get there. Looking for advice on what paths to pursue you're 24- you're young, but not that young anymore. If you don't get a move on, you'll be 30 and be really behind. So start thinking of a satisfying work to do and a life to live- then start to plan then make moves to achieve that. Stop messing around and actually get your life basics in order: food shelter companionship purpose you need to be panic mode right now because time is always moving, day by day. Another day passes where you are behind."} |
| {"text":"So I am fucked and I am stuck at home with a disability pretty much for life, I can't go out and get a normal job with normal hours even working from home due to migraines and inflammation fatigue and no one wants to hire some special case anywhere that pays enough money to live on it seems And the market is already saturated with talented tech people out of work not like I have any skill there, and so many people are generating AI porn from space age computers I can't even try to sell smut to rich sick furries So is there any way for someone that fucked up to make enough money from home to live or survive? It would be probably years before disability decided to send me money so until then do I just straight up die? I don't have support to live the neet life. |
| textto migraines and inflammation fatigue You should really consider trying a six-week carnivore diet and see how it goes. From what I hear in real life, these are two of the issues people most often manage to resolve. You might brush me off, but what do you have to loose? |
| textmigraines and inflammation fatigue Have you been to a doctor to diagnose the issues that might be causing this? Are you morbidly obese? |
| textTried carnivore for a few months, it helped a little with some of the joint inflammation but overall didn't make any drastic changes in pain frequency or with my labs Several, it's a diagnosis of lupus combined with some possible mixed connective tissue issues and hypermobility/EDS My body is pretty much just haunted |
| textlupus Why didn't you just put that in the op? That's a much bigger issue than just some migraines. Talk to your doctor about possible in-person work. Tech is overly saturated but you can still get a job if you're actually good at it. There's also other shit like copywriting and streaming/content creation, but that's a far less stable income. Best of luck, anon."} |
| {"text":"Bumpy ride! 1/10 I (29)match with Filipina American girl (28) lets call her chelsea, on bumble at 4am, talk a bit, asks to meet up (its now 6am april 2024) meet up, she looks skittish, little on the edge, doesnt leave her car, has the window cracked a little lets me in car after an hour of talking. we go to have breakfast at some random place. she walks in, looks around, spots some people, she leaves immediately (im like uhh wtf??!) we go to her place. one room duplex with a cat, and barely anything in it. she plays with the cat, cute right, but she picks that cat up and throws it, hard. looks like it got hurt. i bring it up and she says thats how she plays with the cat. the cat comes to me. tells me the cat is her life, that she ran into the highway once and she had to sprint and jump to get her we talk, watch anime, she then asks me if i want to do something me: like what her: sex we have sex. missionary. she makes no eye contact, recoils when i try to kiss finish, talk a bit more I leave. strange girl, feels off. adds me on discord, asks me over again, i tell her she obviously going through something, to heal before dating/having sex again Comment too long. Click here to view the full text."} |
| {"text":"nooope. Chris."} |
| {"text":"Alright well good luck man. I'm going to bed. I hope things get better for you my dude. You should also think about sleep. It is important. |
| textthx man, night |
| textWhat in the actual fuck, did I actually type 2 years of experiences on /adv/ hahahahaha Lexapro is crazy. |
| textBPD |
| textI managed to get my first ever girlfriend, we have been together for 4 months now. I saw a photo of her ex she didn't delete on her phone. The dude was tall but really chubby, looked so soft and nothing like me. I got a jacked physique but I am shorter. I wondered how she did such a 180 on her dating type. Then I looked at the groin of her boyfriend and it was a massive bulge. Now I know, the guy was PACKING. I am not. My dick is rather thin and a bit below average. I am now really fucking insecure. Why would she be with me? Does she even feel good with my dick? Will she start missing her hung ex? What do you do in this situation?"} |
| {"text":"Lol you are so mad, why? that no woman has ever faked an orgasm with *them*; and then their girlfriends tell me that they fake them all the time! Imagine not being able to tell. Women are lazy by nature, if they're initiating sex and jackhammering my cock it's not because they're that committed to the bit. As it is, surprisingly few men actually know how to fuck. |
| textImagine not being able to tell. You can't either, chum, you just think you can. All men think they can. They're all wrong. |
| textYour cuck fantasy is boring |
| textmad projecting much? Nobody believes your porn larp here you can stop pretending |
| textIm hanging this on my wall |
| textRecently broke up with my gf. I was completely in the wrong and now I’m going to lose all my friends |
| textDo you actually want to be done with the relationship? Like 100% completely? Or do you just not want to do deal with the consequences of your actions? |
| textYes I want to be done with the relationship. I also do not want to deal with the consequences of my actions |
| textFuck. I think she recorded our conversation and is going to send it to people I know to humiliate me. I guess I’ll find out soon |
| textYou're gonna lose your friends, not because of the break-up, but because they're all going to see what a spineless coward you are. If you live in a big city, you can probably just cut them off and never see them again. |
| textThat’s the plan. |
| textif you want a gf, you have to pursue her is there another way? I don't want a gf that doesn't care about me, I want somebody that pursues me and makes me feel desired |
| textstatistically women will not pursue you unless you're in the top 15% of men the cheat code is this: you don't actually have to be the top 15% of all men in the world, just of all men that the girl is aware of or sees on a daily basis so a girl who is on dating apps - well you have to be the top 15% on there the girl that only hangs out with friends, be the top there the girl who clubs: be the top there choose your niche, and be in that top percentage of men there so instead of trying to be the top of all men on the internet (way too many try and be the top of a physical place or activity |
| textyou will need to actually show off that you're rich. then some women will approach you. they will just be gold diggers though."} |
| {"text":"I don't care she's a gold digger as long as she likes me"} |
| {"text":"im a broke loser but what worked for was being surrounded by women (university), they naturally talk a lot so i just autismaly shared all my interests and that got them interested so really just bee yourself but make sure you have a lot of options"} |
| {"text":"ok well buy some dumb shit rich fags like such as a rolex, some high end clothes, and maybe a shiny new sports car. make a dating profile with an emphasis on those things and you will have some gold digger whore hit you up soon enough."} |
| {"text":"For context, I'm a white man with a white wife. However, I will very frequently have intense erotic dreams about traveling in Asia and meeting Thai, Viet, Chinese, Japanese and Korean women at bars and clubs. It always ends in sex: passionate, romantic intense sex with asian women. I will hear those high pitched \ squeals the real asian women from asia make during sex. Those high pitched squeals are like music to my ears, in the dream I can hear those yellow sluts while feeling their tight asian cunts squeezing the hell out of my bwc. I will wake up with a terribly stiff erection, even if my wife is in bed with me. From time to time, I'll try to relieve my yellow cravings with wmaf porn. I've thought about visiting asian escorts, just to live out my fantasies without having to upset my wife. I know my wife knows I have asian exes and despises asian women: she thinks any \ will try to steal me from her. Really one of my most shameful fantasies is a threesome with my wife and an asian woman. The bottom line is, my white dick craves yellow. I can't fight it. I want to smell Chinese puss again, I miss the college days. Am I just fucked or is there a cure to yellow fever? I just want to stop the dreams and constant sexual thoughts any time a halfway attractive asian woman is near me."} |
| {"text":"lmfao never seen this uncle terry clip"} |
| {"text":"I've thought about visiting asian escorts That probably won't scratch the itch. Asian escorts are usually old an ugly. You can sometimes find a young girl just doing it in university for extra money but it's rare. Also what you're really looking for is the sense of easy conquest, that sense that she's melting for you and letting you get away with doing things to her she wouldn't let others do just because you're white. For that , you really need to just hit on an asian girl in public then get her number and take her out for a drink or dinner and feel her up during it. Or hit on an asian girl at a bar when you're on a business trip. Or get an asian sugar baby at one of various sugar baby websites like seeking arrangements best of all though would be to satisfy and sexually groom your white wife into being ok with you having threesomes with her and an asian girl. you can only do this if your wife is really head over heels for you and you have her sexually wrapped around your little finger though e.g. if you can easily make her orgasm multiple times in a session just from fucking her with your dick. You'd have to do this by making her turned on by your sexual appetite. and you'd have make her associate you having heightened sexual desire for her with you having sexual desire for other women. E.g. if you're watching a movie together and a scene with a sexy woman comes on and you get turned on and start feeling up your wife, getting her used to and comfortable with you having normal male desire for other women e.g. if your wife asks you \ you say \ and grab your wife's ass and start feeling her up and make her force you off.. Again, this is high difficulty and most men won't succeed unless their wife really sees them as their hero and is satisfied with them. |
| textYou want to talk with someone that left for an Asian let me know |
| textI think he's probably a pretty chill dude who's liked in some places. The obsession over their looks is bizarre especially if you're white and if you're cheating for one that deserves to be made fun of. |
| textmeet a 9/10 girl on tinder seems almost too good to be true meet her in person get an erection immediately because she's so hot and acts very submissive speaks kinda weirdly repeats a lot of the same points over and over again seems to have a very hard time understanding very basic concepts turns out she's retarded like literally, she has mental retardation, tells me she went to special needs class and everything, lives on government assistance etc. she tells me she loves me and blah blah and wants to be my girlfriend Im feeling really conflicted about this. Is it a good idea to make her my girlfriend and try to help her or should I just pass. |
| textmake her my girlfriend Just need to get the basic stuff out of the way first. Do you feel like she can consent or is she so retarded she doesn't even understand sex. Only Ask cause you said very hard time understanding very basic concepts Secondly could you actually sit down and have a deep in depth conversation that satisfies you? It is fine if you don't, but I would say that you might be looking for a FWB Lastly, if literally any of your friends or family met her for longer then 5-10 minutes would they know? Cause if they can then you are going to be known as the Retard Fucker. That is not a label you wash off. |
| textJust need to get the basic stuff out of the way first. Do you feel like she can consent or is she so retarded she doesn't even understand sex yeah she told me she had sex with her exes and she would like to have sex Secondly could you actually sit down and have a deep in depth conversation that satisfies you? No Lastly, if literally any of your friends or family met her for longer then 5-10 minutes would they know? hmm no, she really manages to come off as normal quite well, it took me like 20-30 minutes to realize"} |
| {"text":"Nta I feel like you're good to go. I know a girl in who isn't quite with it enough to be independent, basically mentally 12 but at the same time someone with the normal desires of a 28 year old woman. She has a husband and kid last time I checked."} |
| {"text":"Unless op is gay no relationship is perfectly unequal. The best she could hope for is someone to treat her equally"} |
| {"text":"I need good reasons to quit neet life my brain is turning to jelly and it seems harder and harder to leave months are going quicker and quicker but its too comfy"} |
| {"text":"its not comfy but contentment slipping into concessions"} |
| {"text":"How to study? I haven't been in school in forever and I wasn't really a good test taker back then. I am working for certifications and I want to learn how to properly study."} |
| {"text":"ask gpt then do what gpt tells you give all homework to gpt"} |
| {"text":"be me M20 Had a beautiful online gf at 18 then lost our 8 month relationship because I wasnt feeling it Regrets it to this day and I should have kept loving her through the hard times Crawled back to her and every time I said I loved her she got mad then eventually blocked me Now im 20 Lifes been going downhill since the break up Thinks about her every day No friends Cant drive and got fired a year ago but no more jobs in walking distance Hot twink body boring face nobody wants me Family looks down on me I crave sex but super afraid to meet or talk to anyone irl Tries to find a new hobby to brag about on the internet so im liked Diagnosed Autistic and lying about going to college so my dad wont be mad I want to buy more substances when I turn 21 in a month and I wonder if I somewhat like being pathetic cause im so used to being a nobody"} |
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| {"text":"You got more years id just wait it out."} |
| {"text":"neat, you should put it in your diary. Unless you need some sort of advice, otherwise it looks like you’re going to continue being a loser but one with addictions when you turn 21."} |
| {"text":"be me, M18 9:38 PM last night decide to text \"are you dtf\" to a friend from my TJ Maxx job (F19) She's openly wanted to have sex with me for weeks we just haven't gotten around to doing it yet, so I'm confident she'll say yes She responds with \"wdym\" have to explain what it means, say \"do you want to hook up\" She responds with \"um not now\" So basically, was it because I used that fucking abbreviation she got icked out? I just realized I think that's milennial slang but I wasn't thinking of it at the time. I was/am an incel to this point so still using sex haver terms from when I read them at 8 years old."} |
| {"text":"Those Moroccans are far from fake, they hang around with these girls in city centers and shopping malls and central bus stops doing fuck all, just making noise and laughing and playing music and making stupid jokes. Usually these are teenagers through bachelor age people. I'm not saying that OP should avoid complimenting, but you're assuming that op literally just met her. He wrote in the post \"she's openly wanted to have sex with me for weeks\} |
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| {:Islamophobe\Zionist\Trump supporter\shouldn't show my face\" in public anymore. I am terrified to go onto campus for classes tomorrow because I know I will see several of these people there and I'm scared of being attacked. What can I do? Should I just wait for the anger to die down, or can I take legal action somehow? |
| textbeing this retarded that you think OP's post is real"} |
| {"text":"double down and wear a trump hat, tesla shirt, and cargo pants. if approached reach into your backpack and hold your hand in there. do not threaten but appear threatening. best of luck."} |
| {"text":"Dont post on social media you clown. I only talk politics with like the two people in my life who can talk about it without going bezerk. Posting political opinions online for anyone to see is fucking retarded. Live and learn dumbass"} |
| {"text":"Good investment. It'll pay off when the wind blows the other direction. You'll be seen as the rare honest and based guy. Fake people are every day afraid of being called out, that's why they get so angry. |
| textKill yourself, zogbot And I am right wing |
| textBe me Go to publix to pickup sub and get groceries Go to sub pickup, hear my name get called by a womanly voice Look up and see my best friends girlfriend that I've known for 2 years, but have only ever interacted with when he was around No smile, no warmth, kept my distance, and said \"wassup\" Her face goes from smile to blank and then she turns away Did a 180, and walked past her to go shopping I think I reacted this way because I know she only really knows me because of our mutual relationship with my friend. She would probably never interact with me if we didn't know each other through my friend. I am worried I probably fucked it all up from this interaction. What should I do now? Pic related, my autism helmet. |
| textYeah, I'm not very good at being a person. I'm more of an observer. A pair of eyes if you will. When an actual person tries to interact with me, I draw blanks and my threat response gets turned on. |
| textJesus Christ, this was hard to imagine. Why do you think you are this way? |
| textI was pretty social up until I went to this ghetto school in 8th grade. Ever since then, I associate all people as potential threats. Funny enough, I met my friend back when I was still social. Safe to say, I probably wouldn't be friends if we met after 8th grade."} |
| {"text":"Lmao You fucked up big time. You KNOW she went home and told her version of events to the boyfriend/your best friend. Now you are the bad guy. Have you talked to your friend since?"} |
| {"text":"Yeah, he literally called me a minute or two after the initial encounter. Said his gf told him I acted like I didn't know her. Said she laughed at it or something. I'd prefer her to laugh at me than actually feel offended desu. But then when I saw her again in the parking lot, she didn't really look at me at all. Idk man, I'm just bad at this human being/social creature thing."} |
| {"text":"How do teens and early-20s people have the time and resources to travel so much? I'm in my late 20s and on dating apps, and it seems like every other girl has been to five continents and visited half the states in the U.S. and they frequently vacation for months at a time, etc. How is this possible??? Growing up, we weren't poor, but we certainly didn't have the money for extravagant vacations. We took day trips within driving distance, sometimes spent a night at a hotel in an adjacent state, and I once went to Disney World. But, these chicks seem to be taking like four month-long vacations every year. Do they not have jobs? Do they put it all on credit cards? I'm genuinely baffled. Only now in my late 20s after accumulating enough resources and getting a very good job with a decent allotment for time off am I starting to consider taking 2-3 weeks to visit Japan, and I think that's pretty cool, but it seems to be comparatively trivial. Also, do dudes travel this much too, or only chicks? So many questions. |
| textI am not religious at all. I do not believe in angels or demons or an afterlife, etc. I just believe in doing good by society and your people. I'm also racist and have strong traditional values."} |
| {"text":"parents' money i'd say \"studying abroad\" is another reason but that requires going to an expensive school that their parents are also paying for i am also viciously jealous of these women. one of the replies here claims it's mostly white women but i disagree, it is literally just any chick whose parents are overpaid and underworked. so fucking retarded lol |
| textwell actually i went there for a job, got fired and then drifted for 6 months til i got another one. logistics were that sometimes I slept in a mcdonalds or a park. logisitics for fucking at a hostel is you go to the shared shower room or a love hotel. Eventually I got my own place and she stayed there. Hostels are great, I made a ton of friends there, it's good for business networking, friendmaking, and finding love but don't put too much importance on it because people are in vacation mode even if they stay for a month or more. The girl I fell in love with was stayed at multiple farms for months and then stayed with me for a month. She would use her card filled with daddy's money to buy my groceries. I met her as soon as I got a job and when she broke up with me I went crazy and eventually lost my job. You're thinking too rationally about this. People will favor experiences/travel over savings and will travel without an emergency savings or thinking about their future. I have friends who saved and have good jobs and go on 1/2 week trips to places but they'll never have the experiences I've had living in foreign countries for years, just throwing my previous life and caution to the wind and living even if I don't know where my bed is the next night, or if I have to leave a cockroach infested hostel to stay at a girl's apartment. |
| textI've heard of situations like this before, but didn't think they were too popular. \ (meaning various countries in south east Asia) is kind of a cliché for what you do in your gap year (between school and university). Everybody does it. Living as a poor person in a foreign country just doesn't appeal to me, idk why people do it for so long Because there are lots of interesting places to visit. Palaces, temples, monasteries, etc."} |
| {"text":"I totally get your confusion OP. The 20 yo art student I fucked had a tattoo, took LSD, and travelled alone for months in asia and fucked a mid-30's guy living in a hostel (me). When I was 20 I was jacking off to hentai, playing video games in my childhood room trying to pass a physics exam in a junior college, working retail. Never thought I'd travel. this is me"} |
| {"text":"do i really need friends? i feel zero compulse to have friends. i do feel strong compulsions to have a girlfriend though. like i dont mind just rotting inside all day, not even doing anything just reflecting and thinking."} |
| {"text":"You need someone who'll come to your aid when shit hits the fan. If you have siblings or copious amounts of money you really don't need friends."} |
| {"text":"how would knowing that saves my life?"} |
| {"text":"auxiliary power unit"} |
| {"text":"Sure the idealization of a girl friend can make you feel invisible, But that is a phantasm and the reality is that human being are not made to be alone. You need friend and I saying this for me before you because I know how the idealist road end."} |
| {"text":"I have few pleasures greater in life than being in a place with people that i know like me. And being able to go up to them and they're happy to see me is amazing. Friends are based |
| textHow fix neck? |
| textThere could easily be a million different things wrong with your neck. But for a start, try tying a noose around your neck and tying the other end to the back of a car. |
| textMewing helps in some cases. And if you can't mew you should at least try to fix that."} |
| {"text":"I have tried mewing and nothing changed, I think I might have my head and chin too far back naturally. Even AI is trying to gaslight me that's not possible, and all you have to do is hold your head high, up not forward, which I think is bullshit. If I push my head forward my ears are still align with my shoulders and I feel my airway open up slightly too |
| textSleep with your head hanging off the bed and a hundred pounds weight tied to your ears |
| textTie a rope around it. |
| textI had no idea things were THIS bad holy shit. I genuinely didn't know man. Wow. When you realize it is like how TF did I get here?"} |
| {"text":"I won't read attached documents (I'm not your secretary or editor). Make a succinct request for advice next time."} |
| {"text":"be me go sit down at a table in the cafeteria looks like nobody was sitting there dude comes out nowhere yelling hey man can I have my seat back Do I move or no?"} |
| {"text":"Squeeze your ass muscles but it's 50/50 whether you'd actually just shit yourself."} |
| {"text":"If one wants to save a seat while going to the counter, one indicates that by leaving something on it or tilting it into the table"} |
| {"text":"but it's 50/50 whether you'd actually just shit yourself lol oh god if I had a dollar for everytime that happened to me xD"} |
| {"text":"Why the long face?"} |
| {"text":"I won't read be me threads because they indicate a disorganized mind that can't accomplish anything. Make a succinct request for advice next time."} |
| {"text":"Is it morally acceptable to keep seeing a girl who wants a committed relationship with me, when I know I don’t want one with her? I would be completely honest with her from the start: there will be no relationship. For the next seven months, I’m stuck in a place where I’m mostly alone and bored. Being close to her makes my days easier, and we genuinely enjoy each other’s company. I’m not looking for someone else, partly because I’ll be leaving this town in seven months anyway. What I’m struggling with is the moral side of it. If I’m clear that what I can offer is only sex and companionship — no commitment, no future — is it ethically acceptable to continue seeing her? Or is the right thing to do to walk away, even if that means choosing seven months of loneliness? The complication is that when we were seeing each other, she told me she could imagine being with me for the rest of her life. We’ve already dated for three months."} |
| {"text":"Is it morally acceptable to keep seeing a girl who wants a committed relationship with me, when I know I don’t want one with her? No. There's not really any point in saying anything else: no, it's not okay."} |
| {"text":"no absolutely not women decay fast and have a limited amount of time to lock someone down. being deceptive and stringing them along is asshole behavior full stop"} |
| {"text":"Or is the right thing to do to walk away, even if that means choosing seven months of loneliness? Oh no! Not seven whole months! Bitch made OP."} |
| {"text":"Actually good, advice all people are selfish even her, for wanting me"} |
| {"text":"I love how the retarded stickman has retarded deformities I can just HEAR the dumbass speaking way of his guy xDDDD"} |
| {"text":"How do I remove my sexual shame and be comfortable with me being a horny man with needs like anyone else?"} |
| {"text":"I watch porn all the time and I don’t feel bad about myself. My guess is that your shame is rooted in something else other than your desires. Do you have a job? Are you self sufficient?"} |
| {"text":"There’s nothing wrong with feeling shame from being horny. That’s normal, but also you’re human. You deserve a good girl. Feeling shame is good. Make it let you be a better person."} |
| {"text":"I’ve felt the same way sometimes. You deserve all of it though. To touch someone and be touched. Whether it’s the brush of someone’s hand on your back or pushing a girl’s loose hair behind her ear. Sex too. Feeling all of that and wanting it isn’t shameful. Nothing wrong with what you need, man. Hope you know that one day."} |
| {"text":"Knowing doesnt matter in his case."} |
| {"text":"So waht does matter then?"} |
| {"text":"me, lifelong chud 1/2 year into a relationship the girl is a gem, maltreated but a gem fumbled few times as shes my first one, yet she still stayed with me (for todays standards thats rare ig) loves me really much, literally had dreams of us having kids etc recently some dramas involving one massive bad touch fumble i did long time ago she keeps coming back to it i cant do anything bout it, ive apologized already and constantly improving there were temporary brake-ups because of her goodnes gracious great intuition and friend advice (one of the temps was even caused by me getting mad on her sitting with \"collegues\" who only talk against me) she really meant this break up but idk how to tell, she still calls to check on me similar stuff happened before but i dunno Is it over? Am I evil? Ungern von Sternberg, help me..."} |
| {"text":"She's crazy. That's all there is to it."} |
| {"text":"ignore her and she'll be crawling back, you seem to be a cowardly fag |
| textI'm having my first bisexual experience in the form of an invitation to a MMF threesome with my roommate. What advice does /adv/ have for me? I think it will feel good, but I don't really have any experience with guys. He's an attractive guy though and the girl he's bringing is cute too. He wants me to fuck her, eat her out together, then fuck her again double vaginal with us using the cum as lube. |
| textGross, disgusting and cuck pilled. You and your buddy are simps for a psycho BPD chick. |
| textRude :/ |
| textYou and your buddy are simps for a psycho BPD chick. who isn't?"} |
| {"text":"Rude :/ Better to be rude than crude. And you’re crude as fuck and deserve the rudeness. You go on /adv/ to talk and ask about using gay semen for lubricant to fuck a whore in some awkward homo worship ceremony held for a psycho chick who has the two gay boys wrapped around her fat pinky finger."} |
| {"text":"You sound jelly."} |
| {"text":"Women have become extremely fucking picky over the years searching for their fucking chads. How do I find a woman that actually wants a real relationship?"} |
| {"text":"Yeah unfortunately they all want a \"whatcha doing girl\" black guy with brown and black dreads and eyedrop tattoos. Dorks like you and me only belong in the cuckold tier. Fucking sucks because our parents told us with a good job and education we'd meet the right one, but the black guy who is a \ type of guy is taking everything away from us. Only way we could ever change that is to convince God to change our lives completely starting with us growing up in a broken single mother home in the hood, and then do basketball, and then we should be there. |
| textWhat men get wrong is that women are not attracted to absolute value (your total compensation, height, strength) but your COMPARISON value to other males in her social circle. That's why in one friend group which is handsome, tall, well-connected you might be an incel, but in group of other with men with less social standing who are less attractive you might be the chad without changing a single thing about yourself. For a latina who came from the ghetto as a white man you are comparably better than her entire social circle, while you might be considered a subhuman by a attractive blonde cheerleader from a sorority"} |
| {"text":"For a latina who came from the ghetto as a white man you are comparably better than her entire social circle, while you might be considered a subhuman by a attractive blonde cheerleader from a sorority"} |
| {"text":"So basically what you're saying is, for an ugly chud like me, I would have to find a woman that finds me the most attractive man she's ever seen in her life."} |
| {"text":"Total. Cope."} |
| {"text":"I live in a third-world country and I’m currently enrolled in a 4-year university program for art and animation. The problem is, my university is very far from where I live. The daily travel is exhausting, expensive, and draining me mentally and physically. I told my parents that I believe I’m capable of learning on my own. For art and animation, what really matters is the portfolio, not the degree. I feel like I could use the time I waste traveling to actually improve my skills, study online, and build a strong portfolio to get work. I also red some reddit post on /animation where some dude asked for advice regarding the same issue, on which almost all of the replies where talking about making a portfolio because their skills were already on top compare to other industry grade animators, and l believe it's of same level as with me. My parents don’t agree. They say I must finish college no matter what, because a degree is “security.” Now I’m stuck between burning out every day just to attend classes, or risking everything by leaving and betting on myself. I’m really confused and need honest advice. |
| textI don't know the animation industry. If you are correct that portfolio is the only thing that matters, pursue that. Be 100% certain that this is true first"} |
| {"text":"Even my own university professors say grades don’t matter in art/animation>only your skills and how well your work matches what the industry wants. I fully agree with that. But here’s the real problem, if I ever want to work overseas, I’ll probably need a visa. And most visas become much easier if you have a university degree especially from a recognized institution. So even if the degree is useless for skill, it might still be useful for immigration. Right now, my life is basically having no energy left to actually practice art properly. I can literally feel my skills getting worse because I’m always tired, anxious, and burned out. Still, I have no choice but to carry this pressure for 3 more years if I stay. I want to quit and focus fully on my portfolio, learn online, take commissions, build real experience. But that risks killing my chances of ever working abroad. Staying means destroying my mental health slowly. I applied for hostel but they said l have to wait for 6 months until next admission process restarts. I can only hope it will make things much better."} |
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| {"text":"How do I find friends? I'm a high school student, I'm average - above average looking, and I haven't found a single real friend or girlfriend in the last four years. Everyone around me is too different to make friends, and I honestly don't know how to meet people outside of these groups. I try to participate in all sorts of activities, but it always ends up with me just being the guy in the background who's busy with something, despite the fact that I'm often the center of attention online. Please help. I don't want to rot alone in an empty apartment at 30. |
| textThe real solution is to actually stop being a loser, and I'm saying this in the most loving way I can. People have to get the first impression about you as being a cool funny dude and that's it. People you already know change hard in how they see you but when you get in contact with a new group, fake it so much until you become delusional and you make it. I was a nobody in highschool like bullied severely, moved away for college and turned my life around faking confidence and being a bit funny. |
| textHow do traumatized people develop humor? Have you been through a very rough period that left you with constant unhappiness? How did you pull yourself back? |
| textThis. It's like you're just running from something constantly. On the outside it comes off as you being some insincere child but people who have seen some shit can understand it |
| textHumour is pretty much the only thing I have going for me...hehe, though the things I consider truly funny like laugh out loud is shit that no one else would, laughter is a less of an emotion and more of a physical response so you can still vibe with it even if you're basically dead inside"} |
| {"text":"Adult normalcy and superficial shit goes out the window under trauma, and even moreso extended trauma. That dress right dress you learned from being a student leader in AIT? yeah, gone. Your about face? Gone too."} |
| {"text":"Lel, I trained myself to not laugh even if the situation is funny because job required putting a straight face. Now I'm the weirdo whose always aloof and stands in the back (everyone else moves a bit when laughing). I really want to stop this. I want to see people laugh from things I say. I want to see their faces. |
| textHow do traumatized people develop humor? I put my trauma in my humour And viceversa but to a lesser degree |
| textI have fucked up. I have been wildly negligent regarding my life and as I look around at 31 I see nothing to be proud of. It's apparent now that I was running on luck and stumbling uphill for most of my twenties but it was working out for the most part. By the time I was 29 I had a great job that paid great ($33 an hour but with OT I was making ~$160k/yr). Had bought a new to me car, and even scored an amazing apartment downtown (I live in a relatively small town fwiw) at an even better price. Things were looking up somewhat. I even got clean there for a few months. At the end of '23 is when things took a turn. In an effort to keep this post a somewhat reasonable length I will refrain from going into details about what took place. Long story short I lost my job. I had a work buddy that got into a situation to say the least and I gave him the benefit of doubt which was the wrong move to make and I ended up as collateral damage in the tornado of destruction that was this guys demise. He currently sits in prison awaiting trial. Call it bad luck with maybe some ignorance sprinkled in, doesn't matter, the blow to my life had been dealt. In hindsight I see that if it wasn't that then it just would have been something else. I was precariously positioned at the top of a house of cards that was my life and any major event would have had the chance of knocking it all down. |
| textDespite making nearly three times as much money as I ever had at that job, after a year and a half I was in a worse financial situation than I started. I was living paycheck to paycheck and had about 50-60k in debt between school loans, car note, credit cards, and payday loans. Despite working in a very in demand field it took me three months before I finally got back to work which was almost exactly two years ago. In that time I have worked three different jobs and having quit all of them voluntarily for various reasons. Didn't take long for me to start using again and to make matters worse I've developed absolutely crippling gambling addiction. I lost my nice apartment and had to move back in with mom and dad where I've been for a year now. Every single line of credit I had have all been charged off. Every one. My car hasn't been repossessed but only because they haven't found it I guess. It feels like everything is fucked. And all by my own hand. I've had a lot of troubles in life but not one has been anything other than completely my doing. I know I can't keep living like this, so apathetic about my own existence. I try to count my blessings but end up just feeling guilty. I don't know how to change. I'm scare to think of what it will take to get me to change if nothing so far has been enough. What if there's nothing that will? I'm nearing the end of my rope. Sorry for the novel, I truly appreciate anyone that took the time to read this."} |
| {"text":"It feels like everything is fucked. And all by my own hand. That seems an entirely accurate assessment, to be perfectly honest. But just because you've fucked up in the past doesn't mean you have to *keep* fucking up now. You can choose to stop. You have acquired some self-awareness that you didn't previously have; so use it. |
| textamazing apartment This is where you fucked up. Better luck next time. |
| textI move in a very competitive environment; people betray each other, they envy each other, they make political moves—they're very, very political. Nobody likes each other, and if they do, it's very fake. They stab each other in the back, they manipulate each other, they calculate lies for years, they only attack the weak, etc. What do you do in a place like that if you can't escape?"} |
| {"text":"Fantasize about escape"} |
| {"text":"have oneitis he always looks 10/10 irl and you have to actively avoid looking at him most of the time out of fear of being overwhelmed and making yourself look dumb look up photos of him on the internet photos always make him look unimpressive so you don't get anything out of them does this happen with men too ? i mean probably not. and i mean when someone you like seems magnetic irl and almost makes you feel overwhelmed when you're near them irl, but they just look weird and make you feel kind of weird when looking up photos of them also. i don't think anyone would call him a chad if i were to post a pic of him, but he is literally the one who became my type. that's also why i don't want to date or get close to him or anything, because 99% i'd be the one who cares more thanks to my 120% attraction to him. and i don't want to be in that position ngl. so uh anyone managed to get rid of a long-term crush/oneitis? i'm not friends with him, but he exists in my social circle, so i don't know if i can completely cut contact either. |
| textfuck him right in the bussy |
| textdoes this happen with men too ? I certainly know what you mean - I genuinely can't tell from looking at a photograph how attractive I will find someone irl - but I think this is quite rare. Most men don't seem to have that issue. |
| textShit photography skills Wielding camera is fkn rocket science Git gud n00b Next |
| textWhat actions should I take to stop being a black incel and get a wife and friends? |
| textNigmax, somehow that shit works |
| textliterally just exist while black around liberal white women, they'll start feeling bad for you and fuck you almost immediately"} |
| {"text":"Bleach your skin like Michael and be a white incel."} |
| {"text":"another girl cancelling before we're supposed to go out on a date if you remember my previous thread, this isn't a repeat it just happened again"} |
| {"text":"What advice are you asking for?"} |
| {"text":"Thats because it's easy to set up a date a few days in advance because people always overestimate how much energy they will have at a given point in the future and then when the day comes they want nothing less than having to go on a date. Unfortunately that anon saying you should try meeting up immediately and on short notice has a point because it increases the chance that you catch someone in the right mood to get dressed and ho have a drink right away. |
| textMulti texting as a negative thing is dumb. Sometimes it's a continued though, a new one or a change of correction. I hate the \"you can only send one text thing\" in most contexts I would do it."} |
| {"text":"This is why women ghost Because little boys and their temper tantrums and no one wants to deal with it"} |
| {"text":"You faggots getting ghosted are probably spilling your sperghetti over texts and scaring them off"} |
| {"text":"How do I find an alcoholic gf or at least a gf who likes to drink every single weekend? try the pub The pubs near me are only filled with 50+ year old women where I live. Younger girls go to nightclubs and I ain't going to nightclubs alone that's cringe"} |
| {"text":"not my problem."} |
| {"text":"too much booze in a relationship is not a good thing anon. trust me."} |
| {"text":"The pubs near me are only filled with 50+ year old women where I live. Based. Fuck a 50+ year old drunken MILF and make her your GF."} |
| {"text":"Younger girls go to nightclubs and I ain't going to nightclubs alone that's cringe Just go, faggot. Hang around the bar. You don't need to stay on the dance floor. If you end up talking to chicks just make some shit up like your friends were with you earlier but they disappeared and aren't replying to your texts because they're too drunk. |
| textThose women you think are 50 are just poorly aged zoomettes |
| textI had a rough year, dogs died, mom died from cancer, all of them died in my arms. And I made a rushed and stupid decision, due to not being in a good state of mind, to move to a different state for a year. I thought it would help clear my mind but, turns out, I absolutely hate it, and now I need to stick with it for 9 months, before I can go back. Anyone had to deal with something similar, and maybe has some advice on how to cope with it? |
| textTake some dance classes so you can get some physical touch. |
| textmore like, go to Dagestan 2-3 years and forget. |
| textMy dog died last year and my mom almost died I ended up having to take care of her for however long she is well enough to stay out of a nursing home. I wished I could get away like you but I can't. I guess it's a mixed bag. You would have complaints about home if you stayed too. I haven't been able to get a new dog myself but I think it would help you especially being alone in a new place."} |
| {"text":"I tend to attract asian girls for some reason. I'm a below average looking white guy so I'm not sure why they don't approach someone who is better looking. I have no ethnic preference but I prefer busty girls and asians generally don't have those traits How can I attract girls I'm actually into? |
| textIn real life, I met my ex at work. I would suggest going to touristic areas since many japanese, koeans, chinese etc seem to love to travel |
| textI don't live in a touristy area :( but there are a fair amount of asians where I live"} |
| {"text":"Oh, then don't worry Anon. Just try to dress fashionable because asian girls care about that more than other girls imo, also they normally prefer clean shaven men, probably because their men don't have a lot of facial hair. Get /fit/ but in a lean way, not bulky Other than that just be respectful to them, they get intimidated easily so be gentle when you interact with them but also playful and lighthearted"} |
| {"text":"hey normally prefer clean shaven men not OP but ive heard this many times before from asian colleagues and friends. i have a huge beard and its hilarious to freak out fob asian chicks by standing near them on the train or whatever. they will actually get up and move elsewhere"} |
| {"text":"Kek. I wonder what kind of girls are attracted to beards, because it's certainly not asians |
| textExplain to me how I'm how supposed to find a job. All of these sites like ZipRecruiter, Indeed, etc all seem like dead ends. How the fuck do you find people who are actually hiring and will actually respond?"} |
| {"text":"The only time I've ever used the internet to get a job, and actually got hired from it, was from calling numbers posted on Craigslist. I've had more success with in person contact as opposed to submitting applications on the internet."} |
| {"text":"Try traditional methods like having a friend who get you in or going to the jobs in person, I guess. Maybe doesn't work since \ laws might make them say to you they can't take your cv but maybe you're lucky |
| textBribes, kickbacks, nepotism |
| textI have a girl living in my apartment complex and I see her playing video games all the time on her open window when I walk by. How do I contact her in a non creepy way? I never see her outside and I am not good with talking with strangers. I don't think telling her that I saw her playing video games from her open window outside on the street is a good idea."} |
| {"text":"Thank you! You seem a kind gentleman with your messages. Besides for that, I already knew this, but thank you, still, very much! I don't use social media so I laughed at myself just now for attempting to reach out in vain. If you make any new games I should be playing them :D Thank you! God bless. |
| textI am happy to hear that you will play my future games. I also don't use social media either. Also, your attempt to reach out doesn't have to be in vain. Feel free to send me a friend request on Discord if you were interested in playing videogames together or chatting. |
| textThank you :) I will keep your username handy. |
| textGoing to do it in the next few days, I bought a few small things, overwatch keychain, some gummies and choclate hope that is not too much. Still feel a bit uneasy about it since she would know where I live but I have always just run away out of fear I don't want to do it this time. Should I write that we should play togheter or that I want to taker her out, taking her out seems a bit much from the get go I think but idk much about this stuff."} |
| {"text":"stop creeping on literal children"} |
| {"text":"Whenever I wear sweatpants my dick is always VERY obvious, any ideas for how I could still wear sweatpants without looking like a perv or constantly hard?"} |
| {"text":"Need to see a picture first before we can help you OP."} |
| {"text":"this...post that thicc dick fag"} |
| {"text":"Get better underwear"} |
| {"text":"I have the opposite problem. I am tiny flaccid and wearing sweatpants it looks like I literally have no dick which makes me ashamed because I know women check out mens bulges"} |
| {"text":"wear a long shirt or jacket that covers your crotch"} |
| {"text":"Be me (autistic 20F) Genuinely at one of the lowest points in my life I dropped out of in person college classes I can't keep a job for more than a month due to chronic pain and anxiety I moved to a super rural town with a small population in the south even though I'm latina and I feel alienated >I have a speech impediment I fucking don't know how to approach strangers. At least I'm married, and I'm in a very happy relationship but my husband is the only person I talk to or see. I don't have any family or friends. It doesn't even make sense because I was social and outgoing to some extent in highschool, maybe it's because I was an orphan and I had nothing better to do. I did theater, band, programming classes, and I even used to go out and party. At a certain point I think my brain got to itself, because I'm almost agoraphobic now? How do I fix this or stop this??? |
| textYou are in a shit situation. Let's acknowledge that first. It can often be tempting to assume that we don't REALLY have it that bad, and there are lots of other people out there who have it worse. This is not one of those times. You're in a shit situation. You have your husband, which is nice, but it's seemingly the only good point in your life right now. (Wo)Man cannot live on their husband alone. Let's break things down. Your most important problem is that you have no friends. This means you have no socialising opportunities, but it also means you have no support network and limited options for entertainment. The obstacles in the way of you getting friends are: there are few people nearby you feel alienated due to your latina-ness you are afraid of the outside world and you are afraid of talking to new people your speech impediment is presumably part of what makes you afraid even if you weren't afraid, you don't know in practical terms how to start talking to new people & potentially become friends with them All of these problems are legitimate. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text."} |
| {"text":"How tf did you get married"} |
| {"text":"You are a woman you just had to say hi to a guy to get a bf that is it you have no idea what it is like to an autistic man. I got rejected by over 20 women irl and over 200 online."} |
| {"text":"I'm sad that your relationship doesn't go any further and absolutely jealous that you have a special someone. Sorry I can help you but you manage it definitively in a better than me, good for you I wish you no harm only happiness. I'm only wish I could have the same. |
| textsuper rural town with a small population in the south even though I'm latina you can just approach people however you want. in their imagination you're supposed to have a spicy and extroverted personality and they'll chalk up any awkwardness to you being mercurial and hot blooded"} |
| {"text":"I've got a girl coming over tomorrow night, the plan is she'll cook anything I get the ingredients for, her idea, and I'm a bit nervous about it because she's a lot younger than me. I'm almost 32 and she's barely 20. Set up by some mutual friends, already hung out and spent the night a few times at my place, but I'm still not sure about it. My friend said that she really wants to impress me and it seems that way but even though that's flattering I don't really like it. All the time we've spent together has been great, don't get me wrong. I like her and she likes me too but I'm not sure what to do with this whole thing, mainly because I feel kinda trapped. If I keep it casual then it'll break her heart and be a whole problem with our friends. I don't want to keep it just casual, but the fact that I really shouldn't really bothers me. Having my choices almost forced like that just doesn't feel right, even though it's the choice I want to make anyway. The girl is great and we get along very well, but I enjoy being a single dude with my own house and doing whatever I want, whenever I want. This feels like a step towards being a boring old man if I go through with it. Not to mention I'm sure her family will have their own questions about the age difference, even though we're both white. Plus, I'm not sure what meal to choose tomorrow so that's another problem. |
| textI'm almost 32 and she's barely 20. You seem very fucking autistic. Just say you are 31 and she is 19. Why are you too fucking stupid to use the correct ages? |
| textDo you ultimately want a wife and kids? If so, maybe just man up and do it. If not, just be forthcoming and explain it to her. |
| textFor two days straight just about, had to go buy more condoms Yeah I'm thinking I'll let it develop naturally. Seems like something pretty serious is possible Whatever man, it's more descriptive my way."} |
| {"text":"32/2=16+7=23. Um yeah sweatie, that’s gonna be an ick from me"} |
| {"text":"if it makes you feel any better its either you or another nigga pushing 40."} |
| {"text":"What are everyone’s advice to lose weight? I used to look way skinnier and I’ve gained a lot of weight because of meds"} |
| {"text":"Literally need to count and track calories. That's the only way to do it. Learn all about calorie consumption and burning. These fad diets and exercise plans aren't gonna help you lose body fat if you don't understand how calories work. |
| textYou gotta eat less calories than you need to maintain while keeping your hunger levels in check. The later is the tricky part. Willpower only gets you so far. Though some hunger is unavoidable, that hunger has to be sustainable and you need to have times when you aren't hungry. The hack I found works best is: calorie counting A must, otherwise you will not make any headway Meal selection reduction It is much easier to count calories if you stick a handful, repeatable meals. Can't make every dinner a math exercise. avoid calorie dense stuff Liquid calories must be removed, but also restaurant and takeout meals. Oil is extremely calorie dense and frequently used in restaurants. Food substitution To avoid calorie dense stuff like candy, swap it out with something else sweet that is less calorie dense. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text. |
| textleave /tttt/ cus trannies are annoying visit r9k and /adv/ trannies everywhere |
| textYou're wrong. Try only eating fruit for a few days, you won't be able to do it. And even if you do, you'll lose weight and blood sugar will stabilize. Your brain literally runs on sugar, your body doesn't want fat. It just bogs down the liver. If you mix fat and sugar then you get issues because the fat disrupts the process. Think rationally, which causes weight gain? A big fatty marbly steak? Or bananas? That's what I thought."} |
| {"text":"nigga you dumb as fuck Fructose triggers the metabolic pathways that promote weight gain. because you only found foods high in fructose before winter so your body needed to store energy to make leeway for the upcoming deficit in available food. These pathways even effect things like rats and other small creatures because it's such an old hormonal pathway. Fat doesn't bother the liver you dumb piece of shit, Fructose must be entirely metabolized by the liver. Your brain does not run on sugar, your body only needs around 5 grams of glucose to function optimally and it can endogenously create that supply via gluconeogenesis."} |
| {"text":"Last night I told my bf I was starting to wonder if I might be trans masc deep down, and asked if he would love me if I became a man. He looked at me in silence for what felt like a full minute, and then he said that it was a dumb question. About two hours ago I woke up and he had my stuff packed by the door and he told me if I want to be a guy I had to do it somewhere else. He said I could stay if I'm willing to \ of that \. It hurt me a lot to think he doesn't really love me for who I am, but the situation forced me to bottle everything up and say I won't try changing myself that way. His reaction felt kind of unhinged, and I made a mental note to start looking for my own place. Should I just hurry and move back in with my parents, or is he still safe to live with you think? |
| textImagine pairbonding. Imagine trying to connect with someone who can't connect to anyone except their own mental illness Weak ass mf That's what you sound like. And also what OP sounds like. I genuinely think they should go back to making it illegal for autists to date/fuck. We never had this collective problem with this gender shit back when it was illegal for autists to have sex. |
| textHe should fuck you in the ass ONLY, if you're so adamant about becoming a man. Painful anal will soon make you change your mind."} |
| {"text":"I understand that it can be heartbreaking to \"lose\" a partner. If my partner changed gender, I'd be sad too (and we'd break up). But imagine getting radicalized bcs of that. he's going to join the rightwing now, fueled by you Fucking pathetic |
| textSo what? I think your post is dumb but that doesn't mean you are dumb or that I even think you are a dumb person. I can separate words from identity just fine. Do you struggle with that or something? NTA, but that does sound awfully like you *do* think he's dumb, anon. You kinda undermined your point, there. |
| textBut imagine getting radicalized bcs of that. He's going to join the rightwing Why are you quoting someone else while replying to my post? I didn't say anything about right wingism. You don't have to be right wing to detest trans ideology. I hate all ideology and think it's for cattle. NTA, but that does sound awfully like you *do* think he's dumb, anon. You kinda undermined your point, there. I didn't undermine my point at all, it was my point to make. I know the shape of my own point, because I made the point. I understand that others can interpret it differently, but I also understand the reason they do this is because they use their own emotional or cognitive biased to make their own interpretations or inferences on what I say. I am able to discern that very easily, but for some reason some other people (typically autists, spergs, or unsocialised introverts) are unable to demonstrate the same basic understanding, lacking almost entirely in the ability to weigh up their own mindset Vs. the approximated mindset of who they're talking to. It's like they just copy and paste their own projection over what other people say and it makes for some silly shit. If I think someone's post is dumb I call it dumb. But I also know they most likely aren't dumb, they're probably average - high intelligence or perhaps even smarter that I am maybe, but that doesn't mean their post isn't dumb. Because people have dumb moments every day, even smart people have dumb moments. That's why I automatically separate identity from words because if I took everything at face value (making 100% judgement calls over words coming out of other people) then I'd be an autist who can't navigate social nuance for shit. |
| textHey frens, need some advice on throwing a milestone type party. I never done anything like this before and so far, it looks like it is causing some head butting with my siblings. So, here is some context. Our father is turning 60 this year and we want to surprise him with his dream car at a fancy venue this coming May. We are all are pitching in but all of our expectations are not matching up with reality. For starters, my father is not someone that likes surprises of any kind small or large. His preference is to have a small intimate regular birthday party. However, my older brother and his wife want to make this into a big event and keep it as a “surprise”. I have the guest list and wanted to share it with my dad. However, I feel like I am going to ruin the surprise somehow by showing this to him. I know my dad doesn’t want a large party but my brother and his wife act like it’s a big deal because they want to show their appreciation to him and whatnot. Ok fine, I guess. The problem is that +40 people are on this list and we are not certain how many will actually show up. My younger suggested a smaller party at home with some caterer but by older brother and his wife said no because dad doesn’t want large parties at home. What should I do? Should I share the list and ask for certain if my father wants are large party or not? How can I relay to them that this is what dad wants without them assuming I “ruined” the surprise? |
| textHis preference is to have a small intimate regular birthday party. If you truly care about his joy do as he wants, you don't have to go along with these shenanigans"} |
| {"text":"Do what your dad wants. It sounds like your brother and his wife are being selfish about this. Why would they want a large party to overwhelm your father? Do they know better and not care what he wants? Are they doing this to make themselves feel better by doing so? How can I relay to them that this is what dad wants Just tell them this is what he wants and hopefully they’ll understand. If they are stubborn and accuse you of being cheap than you already know their true intentions."} |
| {"text":"sup /adv/ How do I find people in 2026 when I have no social media? No Xitter, no Dicksword, nothing but 4chan and [spoiler]Telegram[/spoiler] why you need people I mainly need frens my current friend circle consists of about 6 to 8 individuals, most of whom are just my old childhood pals I still sometimes get in contact with why no social media because it's proprietary, algorithmic feed-based nature is repulsive to me I just don't like how they function"} |
| {"text":"deeper questions for fun. For example, \"what's your biggest aspiration in life? this is a deep question? I ask this to most people upon meeting them. am i starting too heavy? i think of deep questions like something existential or other philosophy akin to what is the meaning of life or something |
| textNot a good idea girl, maybe you're autistic and that's okay - I'm advising you to not put your phone number on 4chan, some people here can abuse that"} |
| {"text":"Not having social media gives normies tons of ick. Seriously you're better off telling them you're a zoophile or pedophile. That's how bad it is |
| textHave you considered meeting real live people in the real world? |
| texthow do that |
| texthow the FUCK do i quit drinking alcohol it feels like it's sapped all the joy out of life i just wanna drink all the time help"} |
| {"text":"I have the exact same problem. I don't find anything fun anymore other than just sitting at my computer drinking shit tons of beers and watching Youtube videos. I don't even listen to music or play video games anymore, let alone do any more \"productive\" or \"meaningful\" hobbies. I've lost interest in everything except drinking. It fucking sucks so bad. |
| textTry hot drinks and weed instead. Being drunk makes you bad at video games. |
| textYou need to ween off it. Start with 1 less drink every week. Pay attention to what you're doing and how much you drink Then at the end of every week drink 1 less. Do this over a long period of time because if you don't, you'll get alcohol withdrawl and that is LETHAL. yes LETHAL. As in YOU CAN DIE FROM THE EFFECTS OF WITHDRAWL. So slowly do one less, one less, one less, one by one. It's a long journey but in the end you'll thank yourself and feel better. Cut off any enabling friends or boozer buddies, don't care how long you've known them for. They will always pressure you to tip another bottle. Take up an alternative drink. Some do milkshakes, some do smoothies, me personally I like making my own fresh pressed Juice with a juice making machine, sprinkle in some vitamins or supplements into it just for extra goodness. Whatever substitute you decide on, pick that up instead of the bottle. Comment too long. Click here to view the full text."} |
| {"text":"one drink at a time focus on the first drink, it's the easiest to skip. the craving doesn't last that long also talk to someone, possibly a professional t. 6months clean"} |
| {"text":"How can i corrupt Solitaire & Casual Games files so it wouldn't open? |
| textDo you mean the actual solitaire.exe file or a save file? And allow me to guess, you wanna fuck someone up that also uses the computer so they can no longer play the games and you're just gonna blame it on the game being corrupt all of a sudden?"} |
| {"text":"Yes, i want to game begin being corrupt so he couldnt play it anymore and yes i mean the entire game. But the problem is that idk what game's file to fuck with, because the core folder of this game doesnt even have the solitaires .exe file. |
| textSorry bratha, that's out of my expertise now. You might have to ask chatGPT for some tips. You could try opening the file in hex editor and change some values in there."} |
| {"text":"aight ty mate for advice"} |
| {"text":"It might help if you tell us what the platform it's on is. |
| textwhere can I find frens of my kind online? i want other 30 or more year old lonely guys, but guys who actually try, not just sit around and shit/doompost like the real incels. i want to get feedback from themabout my rock music im working on and they talk about whatever's going on in their life too, and we care about each other and know eachother by (online) name, trying to make eachother better. i want them to be like rightwing and christian, but not vicious or nazi about it, just antiwoke anticommie, pretty much what would've been \ in the past. in fact i should never be talking politics with them, but I'll know just because they're there already, they're on my side. i know there must be plenty out there but where do they hang out online these days? i am so alone in this modern hellscape. some posts here are made by my kind but then they just vanish and new ones show up, community cant be here. i know of here some deader here spinoffs reddit saidit, dead now x communities youtube comments facebook kiwi none is quite the fit. I'm going insane. |
| textI don't really care about politics and see the problems more as a result of globalization. We need a combination of tradition with a masculine virility and a desire for individual identity strong enough to destroy the system. In that sense the communists are bearable. I don't produce any music though so joining such communities would be a waste of time for me anyways. |
| textcombination of tradition with a masculine virility and a desire for individual identity isn't that rightwing? or rather maga at this point? i think of the right as mostly men and the left as the women and basedboys who think like and live only to support, women. and of course, the ones pretending they're women. when some van halen-like band sings about love between a man and a woman, or just babes looking hot by the pool, the commies would cry that's outdated objectification and sexist or whatever bullshit. plus, most of the right didn't get the covid shot. i can't truly get along with anyone who did, so I can only be rightwing now. in this world doesn't matter if you're political, politics dictated your choices on major tests of your soul."} |
| {"text":"last bump hope someone has something. kiwifamrs seems nice but then i still have to hide it"} |
| {"text":"Form your own club. Be a leader, not a follower. I said club, not cult, just keep that in mind."} |
| {"text":"considered it, but where do i get my followers? I can't promote it anywhere in real life, and I could promote it on the internet if I could find the type of place where that's allowed, but if I could do that, I'd already be home, and not need that would I? Besides that even if I were able to get it started then I have to fight the rest of the world that wants to shut it down or dox me or whatever. i have to find a place that is already there. |
| text30 years old No woman has EVER shown ANY signs of romantic interest in me I just feel so miserable about this. When I was 18, 19, 20, I complained about the same thing and people on the internet (including here on 4chan and even /adv/ specifically) told me \ I've been alive for 3 entire decades and have never been flirted with, complimented, or asked out by a woman. What did I do wrong?"} |
| {"text":"Feel free to ask questions or beg to differ 4/4"} |
| {"text":"I was NEVERRRR taught or TALKED about these issues AT ALL with my parents, love was a TOTAL TABOO in my household. It was insidious. No one talked about it. Two fucking RETARDS who found each other through a friend recommending his dumb sister to my dad. my brother!"} |
| {"text":"I have a trick but it might happen that all of a sudden you will find yourself put off by how clingy they are and how quickly they want to get serious. It's truly an eye opener you can imagine how women feel when they have a thousand orbiters doing that lmao. |
| textAnd I had a gf for 5 long years Ok, normie. |
| textHave you ever asked a girl out or done anything that could result you in getting a gf? No? We're done here."} |
| {"text":"I’m 19 turning 20 this year finishing my second year of school. I originally attended a private 4 year school and struggled my first year. After concluding my first year I took some classes at my local community college from May-Jan. As the fall semester was concluding I applied to re-enter my original school. I tried letting my parents know particularly my mother and she was strongly against me returning. After I got in since I was a former student they assigned me a schedule pretty quickly and so I began to attend classes. My mother lost it and started shouting and screaming and telling me how stupid of a decision this was and while I don’t entirely disagree the approach was a bit harsh imo. I’ve also registered at my local community college for spring semester to avoid this in case my parents don’t allow me to return. With aid and scholarships if I went to the private school I’d be paying $6k in fees which is nothing to scoff at but I don’t think I’m crazy for thinking it’s not a ludicrous price. The reason I would enjoy going to back to my original school is that home I feel very isolated, and it has slowly been eating at my mental health. I understand the frustration my parents hold since I did fuck up in school and disappoint them but I feel that control over me is another reason they feel so strongly about this. Anyways my goal is to move out by 21"} |
| {"text":"You need to work on the clarity of your writing. I’m getting mixed up You should attend community college and get a 2 year degree then transfer to the private school later."} |
| {"text":"I apologize I wrote this post when feeling a little emotional, upon re-reading it isn’t the most concise. To expand I’ve already attended the private four year, during my freshman year. I’ll probably concede to my mother’s wishes and take an extra semester before trying to transfer back my junior year."} |
| {"text":"If she's the one footing the bill, and you're living at home, then my suggestion is to follow your mother's advice. It's not like she's telling you to do something radically different, just stay at the CC for the full two years then transfer. Plus you gotta think long-term in regards to your relationship with your family. Is it worth causing friction over such a small issue? that home I feel very isolated, and it has slowly been eating at my mental health I feel that, but again, if your parents are footing the bill, short of convincing them to see your side or taking out loans, there's nothing you can do, so I say make the best of it."} |
| {"text":"If she's the one footing the bill, and you're living at home, then my suggestion is to follow your mother's advice. It's not like she's telling you to do something radically different, just stay at the CC for the full two years then transfer. I wasn’t expecting her to foot the bill but I was under prepared definitely, right now I’m unemployed so I would most likely had to take additional loans, from her perspective she just can’t fathom why I would choose to get in debt when giving the opportunity to school for free or nearly free. Plus you gotta think long-term in regards to your relationship with your family. Is it worth causing friction over such a small issue? With time to cool off and think more logically about it, it’s probably more wise to bite my tongue and try to keep the peace I care for my parents and respect my mother but it can be difficult when feel overgrown in a home that doesn’t allow for much flexibility. |
| textYou should probably stay in community college |
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| textYou get help, you fag |
| textIm not exploiting anyone its her job and im paying for it chud |
| textgo for guys that have been cheated on they sometimes develop empathy |
| textYeah that's classic Chad"} |
| {"text":"No. Kill yourself"} |
| {"text":"im a woman in uni. Lately in the online space I feel incredibly alone. I don't use discord often nor interact with server people for games/mmos I like, and I feel like a distant wanderer everywhere I go. Im in my 3rd year of Uni and I have had no long term conversations with anyone, and in my classes, nobody speaks to me or sits by me. I do not feel accepted in the real world, or online, I am incredibly embarrassed easily even if I ask for another anon's contact to chat. I love talking to others and making connections, even if they are short term, but I feel as though I do not deserve anything. I was bullied up until high school, and I feel the judging stares and mockery from other peers at my classes. I do not think the teachers are a fond of my ideas I bring to the class, yet I try to type and have a good attitude no matter what. I desperately have to admit I am ashamed of my existence, and I dont know who to talk about it"} |
| {"text":"Fight the future."} |
| {"text":"It's all about finding the people you feel like you belong with, online or offline. I got lucky and during my uni years found that one person, to this day he is one of my best friends, a true bro. Also, if it helps, go with the assumption, if whatever problem people have with you matters, then they'll bring it up with you, and if it doesn't, it's not important, so no point getting paranoid. Fear of something is worse than the actual thing sometimes, in that it does more damage to your mental state. That's my advice. |
| textNot to armchair shrink but that sounds like AVPD. Does your uni have some sort of counseling program? They helped me when i was in the exact same situation as you, i got to do group projects alone, just as an example, which i preferred. |
| textHey, good morning. This really helps me feel a bit better and waking up didn't feel like a struggle. I wish to find someone of a small group to connect with soon and push myself out there more frequently All good, im diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder. I am on medication that helps with my social anxiety and major depression, luckily 3 in total. I have been on meds since I was 12. I recently got diagnosed a month ago and I feel like my condition impacts how I see the world, its a sense of curiosity about people but paranoia at the same time with reclusive negative thoughts. My uni does have counseling, but I am starting fresh with a new therapist, but I see her bi weekly. I prefer to not talk to the counselors on campus, i dont feel a connection with anyone here not even the staff and my hope is private therapy. I have a lovely psychiatrist, he is russian actually and is adjusting my meds. In high school I got to do things alone too, the staff understood my struggles and my lack of social tendencies with my peers. One time, i was dating this boy in early high school who got with me because \"suicidal limited edition pussy\". I dont know how i continue, especially being a lurker on this site specifically but thank you so much for listening to me i appreciate you two"} |
| {"text":"get free games play them, don't like them uninstall them, but still are in my library, I want to remove them can't remove (permanently delete) them from library \"ask EA support stuff\" say people in forums go to the website, there is NO way to find nor ask about removing games from the library apparently the games I want to remove that I get from EA no longer appear in the search What can I do? Thanks."} |
| {"text":"be me very stupid be in work doing paperwork write everything in pig latin fired me sad whad i do"} |
| {"text":"Get a new job. Don't write everything in pig Latin. |
| textI’ve been trying to self improve for over 4 years and have nothing to show for it. Now I’m wondering if I should even bother anymore. I’ve been lifting for 4 years essentially look the same beyond my noob gains I got after the first few months. My lifts went up a little and I’m stronger than I was before but they’re still nothing special and I look like any other dyel. Also I got injured for the first time 2 months ago and I’m losing what little I actually gained from lifting. I feel like I’m just incapable of developing much muscle because I have 6 in wrists and a tiny rib cage, basically the body of someone who stopped growing at 15. Aside from that, I’ve tried skincare, fashion, and different haircuts to help improve my appearance. The skincare has done nothing, I can barely find anything that fits me (usually due to my short height sleeves and pants are too long. Sorry I’m not trying to get a puffer jacket tailored just to have something warm for the winter), and despite trying multiple different barbers no one can cut my hair right because it doesn’t have a common texture. Sometimes it can grow into something decent from the haircut after a few weeks and I take a picture of it to show the barber but they still do it wrong. In any case though, after all these efforts nothing changed in the way people treat me. I have an electrical engineering degree which should be one of the most valuable bachelors degrees but due to a series of unfortunate events beyond my control I had to turn down the best offers I had when I was graduating and now I make a bottom 10% salary for someone with my qualifications. And this isn’t a speculative thing. I had the offers in my hand.) (1/2) |
| textIt’s one thing to be impatient if you’ve been trying to improve in one of these metrics for a few months and haven’t gotten results yet, but when you enjoy zero results across multiple years of effort in a variety of pursuits you start to wonder if you should just go back to how you were before. queue people somehow refuting that whatever I was doing was wrong and it’s impossible for someone to work hard and get nothing out of it |
| texthe fell for the looksmaxx meme Bruh what are you doing? The latest improvement memes are funnymaxxing and ragemaxxing, don't you know?"} |
| {"text":"This isn’t about getting girls. I just want to develop into the version of myself that the child version of me wouldn’t be disappointed in. Most of this is basic stuff"} |
| {"text":"You already criticize yourself over bullshit. Don't you think your child self would be ashamed of that? Let go of a child's expectations. You're at minus 2 now, you must be at zero to see real self improvement. Starting with physical appearance is fine. Your potential depends on your age and your discipline. Your fat distribution is genetic, but the metabolic rate depends on your diet. If you don't cut all the fucking carbs you will not get ripped, if you don't overeat you will never bulk. It's hard and useless. If I were you I would just focus on building strength and endurance for hikes, not purposeless \"improvement\"."} |
| {"text":"Is it bullshit if I’ve been trying for this long and barely have shit do show for it though? I did have abs at one point last year after a giga cut but I lost them during the bulking phase even though I was eating super carefully and had only lean bulked 15 lbs over the course of a year. I’ve tried a lot of different things diet wise, but honestly now I have to focus on rehabbing my back. I cant exist outside of a bed for long periods of time, much less exercise my endurance at the moment but thankfully I’m better than when I got injured"} |
| {"text":"This person has been sabotaging my relationship with my girlfriend in attempts to get her to leave me. He's currently a college student and I know where he lives. How can I affect his life even more negatively? Bonus if it gets him to no longer talk to her. I'm willing to accomplish this by any means"} |
| {"text":"Won't block her* |
| textYou sound really pathetic. Just a whiny little bitch throwing a tantrum flailing their arms relying on manipulation and deceivement to have any self-worth. Empty husk of a person. Worthless |
| textif it gets him to no longer talk to her tell your girlfriend she needs to stop talking to other men or you'll walk away. If she doesn't, then walk away. Simple as. This wouldn't have been an issue in the first place if you dicked her down properly and so good that she isn't thinking of other guys. But seeing as she's talking to others, you probably suck at it."} |
| {"text":"Be a part of it. Based on how you talk proximity would be unbearable."} |
| {"text":"Tell you girlfriend to not speak to him any longer. End of issue. Grow a backbone, anon."} |
| {"text":"I got 8 hours to kill each day at work, what should I listen to to learn something else that can better myself? A lesson on youtube, an audiobook, podcast or something? Suggestions? I want to get educated on something that'll help me get out of this deadend job. |
| textany unique ideas or should i just ask chatgpt? |
| textYou could try taking online courses for thing, for example coding. You could search for better jobs in that time, or for an opportunity like trade school. |
| textno it has to be just something to listen to where i can't see the screen"} |
| {"text":"I installed AntennaPod and mostly listen to a bunch of history podcasts. Finding books you want to read and getting audiobooks of them is also really helpful."} |
| {"text":"maybe comptia training, just dont take notes"} |
| {"text":"Is it a good idea to date a gamer?"} |
| {"text":"yes."} |
| {"text":"NO No? NO!!"} |
| {"text":"They won't cheat because you'll always know where they are. Just sayin"} |
| {"text":"it's not a particularly good or bad idea it completely depends on what the person is like \ the fuck are these threads, man? |
| textAre you also a gamer? Do you play the same type of games? If not, do you have a hobby that you do alone? |
| textIt's been 5 months since the relationship got serious and I can't tell if I'm imagining being unhappy or if I'm actually being unhappy. Like the reasons? I feel like they are valid reasons to be pissed off about. I honestly can't tell if he loves me or if he just gets off to who I am. I'm also scared that I might not be able to find anyone else other than him. I don't know what to do. Please help"} |
| {"text":"It's trueee |
| textIt's trueee It makes no difference whether it's true or not. Even if it is true that you'll never find anyone else, it is much better to be single than to stay with someone who makes you unhappy. If he makes you unhappy, leave. If he makes you happy, then stay with him BECAUSE he makes you happy, not for any other reason."} |
| {"text":"I'm financially dependent on him |
| textIf you can't say \"Let's talk about this relationship\} |
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