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"value": "okay" }, { "start_time": "60.83", "stop_time": "63.22", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "so how are you doing today" }, { "start_time": "63.96", "stop_time": "64.79", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "quite well" }, { "start_time": "64.98", "stop_time": "65.56", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "feel good" }, { "start_time": "65.655", "stop_time": "66.415", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "that's good" }, { "start_time": "67.49", "stop_time": "68.78", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "where are you from originally" }, { "start_time": "69", "stop_time": "71.73", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "los angeles california here" }, { "start_time": "72.3", "stop_time": "72.91", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "really" }, { "start_time": "72.95", "stop_time": "73.42", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "mhm" }, { "start_time": "75", "stop_time": "76.08", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "one of the few" }, { "start_time": "76.445", "stop_time": "79.525", "speaker": "Participant", "value": 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"stop_time": "99.915", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so that's a full time job huh" }, { "start_time": "100.375", "stop_time": "101.435", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "do you travel a lot" }, { "start_time": "101.91", "stop_time": "107.115", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "uh somewhat we can we went to israel about two months ago um" }, { "start_time": "107.945", "stop_time": "111.665", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "for a pilgrimmage with our church yeah so i would say yes i've traveled a bit" }, { "start_time": "112.91", "stop_time": "114.44", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "i'd love to hear about one of your trips" }, { "start_time": "115.34", "stop_time": "122.29", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "uh well most recently we like two months ago went to israel for a pilgrimmage we were gone about nine days and" }, { "start_time": "122.75", "stop_time": "127.34", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "it was fabulous it was we spent the first five days in chorazine" }, { 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will i'll talk to just about anybody" }, { "start_time": "212.365", "stop_time": "215.325", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "just because i enjoy learning about other people" }, { "start_time": "215.9", "stop_time": "216.96", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "that's good" }, { "start_time": "218.425", "stop_time": "219.945", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what do you do to relax" }, { "start_time": "220.9", "stop_time": "222.09", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "222.28", "stop_time": "227.65", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "most of the time like by the end of the day after i've cooked dinner and we've had dinner together as a family" }, { "start_time": "228.42", "stop_time": "233.6", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um i there's a word game on the computer that i like to play for a little while and then" }, { "start_time": "234.125", "stop_time": "238.495", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um watch t_v have a cocktail with my husband" }, { "start_time": "239.215", "stop_time": "242.245", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and just relax that's what we do and you know" }, { "start_time": "242.615", "stop_time": "245.185", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "'cause we have a lot going on we don't stay up too late so" }, { "start_time": "246.215", "stop_time": "248.015", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i like to watch crime dramas" }, { "start_time": "248.78", "stop_time": "249.58", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "nice" }, { "start_time": "251.405", "stop_time": "253.645", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what are some things that make you really mad" }, { "start_time": "254.8", "stop_time": "256.54", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "256.675", "stop_time": "260.535", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "really mad probably not a lot um" }, { "start_time": "262.31", "stop_time": "268.435", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i get frustrated with for example my daughter does not clean up her room" 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me like really angry" }, { "start_time": "293.595", "stop_time": "295.925", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "haven't i haven't haven't felt that" }, { "start_time": "294.095", "stop_time": "294.585", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "okay" }, { "start_time": "299.085", "stop_time": "300.965", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what's the best thing about being a parent" }, { "start_time": "301.98", "stop_time": "305.6", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um contributing to society helping uh" }, { "start_time": "306.815", "stop_time": "307.635", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "helping" }, { "start_time": "308.17", "stop_time": "312.05", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "to raise um responsible people i guess um" }, { "start_time": "313.535", "stop_time": "317.51", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and of course the love and the affection and the um" }, { "start_time": "318.4", "stop_time": "322.78", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "the fun and the excitement that goes with it of all the stages that go" }, { "start_time": "323.075", "stop_time": "326.435", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i mean like really right now i'm in a stage where my children" }, { "start_time": "326.9", "stop_time": "333.765", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "are either adults or teenagers i only have i have one eleven year old and the rest are all teenagers and adults" }, { "start_time": "334.195", "stop_time": "339.255", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so it's really fun because we're able to um talk about current events and" }, { "start_time": "339.685", "stop_time": "344.61", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "all kinds of stuff that's going on in the world and you know have have uh" }, { "start_time": "345.08", "stop_time": "347.77", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "challenging discussions and that sort of thing" }, { "start_time": "347.97", "stop_time": "351.24", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so it's it's a different level than when you're taking care of babies and" }, { "start_time": "352.08", "stop_time": "354.03", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know changing diapers and that kind of stuff" }, { "start_time": "354.47", "stop_time": "355.34", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "uh huh" }, { "start_time": "355.86", "stop_time": "358.04", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what's the hardest thing about being a parent" }, { "start_time": "359.135", "stop_time": "362.275", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "the hardest thing is that it's twenty four seven" }, { "start_time": "363.71", "stop_time": "364.49", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "365.545", "stop_time": "366.865", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you're never not a parent" }, { "start_time": "367.04", "stop_time": "370.67", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know it's and so you have to accept that and that's i remember when i first" }, { "start_time": "370.89", "stop_time": "373.22", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "with my first child um" }, { "start_time": "373.62", "stop_time": "379.28", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "thinking you know when i brought him home from the hospital this is it i mean there's no going back you you cannot" }, { "start_time": "379.845", "stop_time": "383.385", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um change i mean i guess you could if you did something horrible but" }, { "start_time": "383.89", "stop_time": "388.76", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i mean under normal circumstances you can't change um that and it's a permanent thing and" }, { "start_time": "389.32", "stop_time": "389.86", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "390.925", "stop_time": "392.405", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "it it it uh" }, { "start_time": "392.64", "stop_time": "396.63", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "in some ways it takes away your freedom but in other ways it give you a different sort of freedom" }, { "start_time": "397.77", "stop_time": "398.8", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "i see what you mean" }, { "start_time": "399.81", "stop_time": "401.93", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "there are always tradeoffs in life aren't there" }, { "start_time": "402.005", "stop_time": "402.615", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "mhm" }, { "start_time": "403.395", "stop_time": "404.315", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "always" }, { "start_time": "405.18", "stop_time": "407.59", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "who's someone that's been a positive influence in your life" }, { "start_time": "408.65", "stop_time": "409.6", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i'm sorry" }, { "start_time": "409.92", "stop_time": "410.93", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i didn't get what you said" }, { "start_time": "410.4", "stop_time": "413.35", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what are some things you like to do for fun who's someone that's been a positive influence in your life " }, { "start_time": "413.34", "stop_time": "417.69", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um some of the things that've been a positive influence in my life most importantly my church" }, { "start_time": "418.3", "stop_time": "420.12", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um and my faith" }, { "start_time": "420.485", "stop_time": "423.755", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "uh but also my husband he's been a really um" }, { "start_time": "425.045", "stop_time": "427.405", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "he's kind of he's very" }, { "start_time": "427.58", "stop_time": "432.125", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "like logical thinking and very you know grounded" }, { "start_time": "432.515", "stop_time": "436.875", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so when if i get emotional or i get upset about something he's always" }, { "start_time": "437.54", "stop_time": "442.65", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "we balance each other out likewise if he's upset about something i'm able to balance him out" }, { "start_time": "442.96", "stop_time": "445.94", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "it's been a that's been a a great gift in my life" }, { "start_time": "450.245", "stop_time": "452.105", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "how are you at controlling your temper" }, { "start_time": "453.18", "stop_time": "458.83", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um i don't i i don't think i'd be categorized as somebody with a a temper" }, { "start_time": "459.2", "stop_time": "464.07", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um occasionally i i occasionally i get angry but i don't like have like" }, { "start_time": "465.01", "stop_time": "467.12", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "rarely do i have outbursts um" }, { "start_time": "467.8", "stop_time": "472.59", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i'm more more likely to you know to say what i feel not let it build up" }, { "start_time": "473.17", "stop_time": "475.4", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so with you know like my husband and i don't" }, { "start_time": "476.26", "stop_time": "477.91", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "rarely fight like have" }, { "start_time": "478.29", "stop_time": "479.6", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "arguments that are" }, { "start_time": "480.26", "stop_time": "483.53", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "yelling and screaming or anything like that it almost never happens" }, { "start_time": "484.08", "stop_time": "489.73", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "because i i like i said i'm more of a type of person that communicates on the spot so if i'm thinking something" }, { "start_time": "490.35", "stop_time": "493.25", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i usually communicate it right away instead of letting it build up" }, { "start_time": "494.295", "stop_time": "495.235", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "that's good" }, { "start_time": "496.07", "stop_time": "499.21", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "when was the last time you argued with someone and what was it about" }, { "start_time": "499.475", "stop_time": "503.545", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um usually i'm arguing with my older son because he" }, { "start_time": "504.205", "stop_time": "505.025", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "505.44", "stop_time": "506.68", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know he thinks he knows everything" }, { "start_time": "506.805", "stop_time": "509.895", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "he's twenty one years old so he has the know it all mentality " }, { "start_time": "510.435", "stop_time": "513.445", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and i'm just telling him that he doesn't know it all and" }, { "start_time": "513.665", "stop_time": "515.935", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know as life goes on he'll learn more" }, { "start_time": "516.245", "stop_time": "519.275", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "he's very confident and very self uh" }, { "start_time": "520.295", "stop_time": "525.88", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "self uh what's the word self assured and so he thinks that you know everything he does is correct" }, { "start_time": "526.52", "stop_time": "527.3", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and" }, { "start_time": "527.615", "stop_time": "530.055", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "he still has a lot of learning to do that's all" }, { "start_time": "530.455", "stop_time": "531.805", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "that sounds really hard" }, { "start_time": "532.055", "stop_time": "532.725", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "mhm" }, { "start_time": "532.905", "stop_time": "534.395", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "it is it can be mhm" }, { "start_time": "535.175", "stop_time": "536.745", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what do you think of today's kids" }, { "start_time": "537.985", "stop_time": "540.155", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i think um" }, { "start_time": "540.375", "stop_time": "542.835", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "that many of them are um" }, { "start_time": "543.31", "stop_time": "546.39", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "spoiled and live in an environment of uh" }, { "start_time": "547.455", "stop_time": "549.335", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "of instant gratification" }, { "start_time": "549.89", "stop_time": "550.63", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "551.405", "stop_time": "553.215", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "which i think is gonna be" }, { "start_time": "553.545", "stop_time": "557.845", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um detrimental to the to the future of this country" }, { "start_time": "558.42", "stop_time": "559.72", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "but um" }, { "start_time": "561.275", "stop_time": "565.695", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know given that with all the technology we have there's really not any way to go back so i" }, { "start_time": "566.31", "stop_time": "571.035", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i have um hope that um" }, { "start_time": "571.415", "stop_time": "572.455", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "they will" }, { 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like i mean i worked for many years in a as an administrative manager at u_c_l_a and um" }, { "start_time": "1050.81", "stop_time": "1056.885", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know once you get a project done or you get your whatever month end stuff done or if there's a lot of different things" }, { "start_time": "1057.112", "stop_time": "1061.097", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you have to meet deadlines there's uh that feeling of like yeah i got it done you know" }, { "start_time": "1061.547", "stop_time": "1065.277", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so i think that would be you know for me the most um" }, { "start_time": "1066.347", "stop_time": "1067.437", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "most recent" }, { "start_time": "1067.997", "stop_time": "1068.467", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1068.947", "stop_time": "1071.687", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "way of feeling good and feeling you know" }, { "start_time": "1071.932", "stop_time": "1073.502", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "like feeling accomplished" }, { "start_time": "1073.892", "stop_time": "1074.532", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "mhm" }, { "start_time": "1075.457", "stop_time": "1077.017", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what's your dream job" }, { "start_time": "1078.102", "stop_time": "1080.052", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "dream job hm" }, { "start_time": "1081.952", "stop_time": "1084.732", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i think i've already lived it i'm also a birth doula" }, { "start_time": "1085.137", "stop_time": "1086.037", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and um" }, { "start_time": "1085.972", "stop_time": "1086.602", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "really" }, { "start_time": "1086.922", "stop_time": "1088.342", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "yeah and um" }, { "start_time": "1088.977", "stop_time": "1093.767", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so i've attended a lot of births and now i really only do it for family and friends" }, { "start_time": "1094.367", "stop_time": "1099.79", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and um it's the most rewarding thing you could possibly ask to be involved in" }, { "start_time": "1100.26", "stop_time": "1103.21", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "the birth the bringing of new life into this world so" }, { "start_time": "1103.66", "stop_time": "1105.6", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i would say that's probably" }, { "start_time": "1106.005", "stop_time": "1108.655", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "was my was a dream job and i didn't know it" }, { "start_time": "1108.935", "stop_time": "1113.485", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i trained much after you know i did my managerial stuff and um" }, { "start_time": "1114.365", "stop_time": "1119.04", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "was awesome it is and was awesome so i don't work at at a hospital anymore" }, { "start_time": "1119.19", "stop_time": "1121.46", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "actually the hospital that i worked at is now closed" }, { "start_time": "1121.82", "stop_time": "1122.61", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "but um" }, { "start_time": "1123.5", "stop_time": "1125.57", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i like i said i do it for family members" }, { "start_time": "1126.15", "stop_time": "1127.65", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what made you decide to do that" }, { "start_time": "1128.325", "stop_time": "1129.495", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1129.915", "stop_time": "1132.575", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i attended a friend of mine's birth by accident" }, { "start_time": "1132.65", "stop_time": "1137.65", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "she uh she had had the same o_b as i did with all my children" }, { "start_time": "1138.47", "stop_time": "1139.85", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and um" }, { "start_time": "1139.955", "stop_time": "1144.685", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i came to bring food for her husband when she was in labor we were you know close friends" }, { "start_time": "1145.275", "stop_time": "1146.225", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and" }, { "start_time": "1146.665", "stop_time": "1151.31", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "her labor picked up quite a bit when i got there you know she wanted me to stay she didn't want me to leave" }, { "start_time": "1151.54", "stop_time": "1156.695", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i hadn't planned on it so that was the first birth that i had attended outside of you know myself giving birth" }, { "start_time": "1157.275", "stop_time": "1159.195", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "which is a whole different experience" }, { "start_time": "1159.69", "stop_time": "1164.69", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so after that i was really interesting interested in possibly study un nurse midwifery" }, { "start_time": "1165.02", "stop_time": "1165.45", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "uh huh" }, { "start_time": "1165.47", "stop_time": "1170.65", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "but then i discovered this thing called being a doula which is really gives you" }, { "start_time": "1171.32", "stop_time": "1175.965", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "even a lot more hands on uh one on one contact with the patient which is what i like" }, { "start_time": "1177.095", "stop_time": "1180.445", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so i trained to do that at at a hospital in inglewood" }, { "start_time": "1180.565", "stop_time": "1183.215", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um about fifteen years ago" }, { "start_time": "1183.325", "stop_time": "1186.345", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "'cause my son is fifteen and he was a year old no sixteen he was a year old" }, { "start_time": "1186.83", "stop_time": "1187.9", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so um" }, { "start_time": "1188.89", "stop_time": "1189.34", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "yeah" }, { "start_time": "1190.42", "stop_time": "1190.96", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and i've been" }, { "start_time": "1190.965", "stop_time": "1191.965", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "how hard is that" }, { "start_time": "1192.86", "stop_time": "1193.85", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1194.03", "stop_time": "1197.98", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "well it can be challenging in terms of hours it depends on how long the woman's in labor but" }, { "start_time": "1198.65", "stop_time": "1200.58", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "uh and you know also like" }, { "start_time": "1200.8", "stop_time": "1207.89", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "for me i always tell my friends and family if they want me to be their doula that i cannot guarantee a hundred percent i'm not doing it for business" }, { "start_time": "1208.36", "stop_time": "1216.12", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and that way and because of that i don't have like back up doulas that in case i'm sick or unavailable somebody else can fill in for me" }, { "start_time": "1216.6", "stop_time": "1223.645", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so um but so far it's been that all the women that've asked me i've been able to be there for some reason so the" }, { "start_time": "1224.037", "stop_time": "1224.527", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1225.687", "stop_time": "1230.807", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "the uh the only one that i missed was one a friend of mine from church she wanted me to go with her second baby" }, { "start_time": "1231.017", "stop_time": "1234.507", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i was with her for her first but the labor went so fast she didn't even call me [laughter] " }, { "start_time": "1234.597", "stop_time": "1236.287", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "it was in the middle of the night she was like " }, { "start_time": "1236.297", "stop_time": "1236.727", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "wow" }, { "start_time": "1236.797", "stop_time": "1240.677", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "two hours of labor she wouldn't even if she had called me i wouldn't have been there in time [laughter]" }, { "start_time": "1241.262", "stop_time": "1242.242", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so um" }, { "start_time": "1241.862", "stop_time": "1242.542", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "[laughter]" }, { "start_time": "1242.537", "stop_time": "1244.557", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "it went really fast but other than that" }, { "start_time": "1244.802", "stop_time": "1245.802", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know um" }, { "start_time": "1247.577", "stop_time": "1251.842", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "yeah i've been been been able to attend all the births of people that have asked me to do" }, { "start_time": "1252.492", "stop_time": "1254.622", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what's one of your most memorable experiences" }, { "start_time": "1255.89", "stop_time": "1256.86", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1258.84", "stop_time": "1261.675", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "in all of life or in your job" }, { "start_time": "1262.265", "stop_time": "1263.415", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "whatever comes to your mind" }, { "start_time": "1263.795", "stop_time": "1266.255", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "uh probably my my own birth" }, { "start_time": "1266.56", "stop_time": "1268.73", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i mean my the birth of my own children" }, { "start_time": "1269.89", "stop_time": "1271.51", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "how did you feel in that moment" }, { "start_time": "1272.555", "stop_time": "1273.635", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1274.09", "stop_time": "1275.55", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "like there's an extreme" }, { "start_time": "1276.525", "stop_time": "1280.025", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "sense of joy excitement relief" }, { "start_time": "1280.24", "stop_time": "1282.02", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "because of course you're out of the pain" }, { "start_time": "1282.715", "stop_time": "1286.81", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and then like it's just it's just a matter of you know" }, { "start_time": "1287.11", "stop_time": "1288.75", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "going forward from there but it's" }, { "start_time": "1289.595", "stop_time": "1293.715", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "it's like something you can't explain it's it's just it's awesome" }, { "start_time": "1294.315", "stop_time": "1295.495", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "after you give birth" }, { "start_time": "1297.13", "stop_time": "1299.12", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "that sounds like a great situation" }, { "start_time": "1297.19", "stop_time": "1300.125", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and i have experienced both ways i've done both um" }, { "start_time": "1300.632", "stop_time": "1301.642", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "natural and" }, { "start_time": "1301.992", "stop_time": "1305.102", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "my last child was via c_section so i've had both" }, { "start_time": "1305.872", "stop_time": "1308.182", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "both um experiences" }, { "start_time": "1309.692", "stop_time": "1310.262", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "mhm" }, { "start_time": "1312.632", "stop_time": "1313.932", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "is there anything you regret" }, { "start_time": "1315.157", "stop_time": "1316.197", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1318.892", "stop_time": "1322.432", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i with my third child i had kind of a crazy nurse she was a little" }, { "start_time": "1323.047", "stop_time": "1327.397", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "psychotic but other than that we laugh about it now but when i was in labor it wasn't funny" }, { "start_time": "1328.087", "stop_time": "1329.007", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "[laughter]" }, { "start_time": "1328.092", "stop_time": "1329.892", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and um she" }, { "start_time": "1330.757", "stop_time": "1335.402", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "she was not there when the doctor i mean it was my my third child was" }, { "start_time": "1336.242", "stop_time": "1339.642", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "born very quickly after he broke the water and oof" }, { "start_time": "1340.277", "stop_time": "1343.787", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "my husband was there but she was not nor was the doctor and she got in a lot of trouble" }, { "start_time": "1344.547", "stop_time": "1346.977", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "because i only had like two contractions after that" }, { "start_time": "1347.087", "stop_time": "1348.067", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "oh no" }, { "start_time": "1347.352", "stop_time": "1348.802", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "my daughter was born in the bed" }, { "start_time": "1349.602", "stop_time": "1352.672", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so for me it was great 'cause i didn't have to go through any of the labor but" }, { "start_time": "1353.522", "stop_time": "1355.502", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um i'm sure they weren't happy" }, { "start_time": "1355.727", "stop_time": "1357.597", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "to fill out a lot of paper work after that" }, { "start_time": "1358.677", "stop_time": "1359.127", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "yeah" }, { "start_time": "1358.677", "stop_time": "1359.127", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so" }, { "start_time": "1360.987", "stop_time": "1364.027", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what advice would you give yourself ten or twenty years ago" }, { "start_time": "1366.802", "stop_time": "1369.512", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "now would i give mysef for ten or twenty years ago" }, { "start_time": "1370.782", "stop_time": "1371.682", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1375.517", "stop_time": "1377.827", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "ten or twenty years ago i was probably more" }, { "start_time": "1378.517", "stop_time": "1379.667", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "not as um" }, { "start_time": "1380.127", "stop_time": "1382.367", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "relaxed not as um" }, { "start_time": "1383.782", "stop_time": "1386.672", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "like i feel now at my age that um" }, { "start_time": "1389.262", "stop_time": "1393.732", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "i i don't have the same concerns that i did then i don't worry about" }, { "start_time": "1394.342", "stop_time": "1398.672", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "uh i don't worry at all about what people think about me i don't worry at all about what" }, { "start_time": "1399.042", "stop_time": "1399.622", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know" }, { "start_time": "1400.057", "stop_time": "1405.752", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know like my i noticed my daughter's oh mom you can't wear that because people are gonna say this i just say i don't care" }, { "start_time": "1406.287", "stop_time": "1412.322", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you know but they do because it's still in their frame of mind that that oh mom you have to dress like this and dress like that whatever" }, { "start_time": "1412.844", "stop_time": "1417.129", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so that would probably be it the wisdom that you you achieve with age that" }, { "start_time": "1417.639", "stop_time": "1422.404", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "you you see how life there are so many things that are more important in life than worrying about little things" }, { "start_time": "1423.384", "stop_time": "1424.234", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "that makes sense" }, { "start_time": "1426.824", "stop_time": "1428.614", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "what are you most proud of in your life" }, { "start_time": "1429.404", "stop_time": "1431.364", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "most proud of um" }, { "start_time": "1432.864", "stop_time": "1436.004", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "probably my family my my husband and my" }, { "start_time": "1436.419", "stop_time": "1439.924", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "my children i mean the fact that we've stayed married that we've" }, { "start_time": "1440.124", "stop_time": "1442.194", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "we're an in tact family that" }, { "start_time": "1442.494", "stop_time": "1442.944", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1443.504", "stop_time": "1445.904", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "my kids see every day how" }, { "start_time": "1446.179", "stop_time": "1450.954", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "their friends suffer who come from divorced families or single parents and" }, { "start_time": "1451.644", "stop_time": "1452.744", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "they um" }, { "start_time": "1453.079", "stop_time": "1454.669", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "they actually express" }, { "start_time": "1455.069", "stop_time": "1459.844", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "gratitude sometimes that we are married and we still you know we are still a family" }, { "start_time": "1460.374", "stop_time": "1462.314", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "so i would say that's probably it" }, { "start_time": "1462.909", "stop_time": "1463.949", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "that's great" }, { "start_time": "1465.714", "stop_time": "1468.004", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "what would you say are some of your best qualities" }, { "start_time": "1468.664", "stop_time": "1469.724", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "um" }, { "start_time": "1471.699", "stop_time": "1473.089", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "probably the" }, { "start_time": "1473.789", "stop_time": "1475.749", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "one of my best qualities is" }, { "start_time": "1476.374", "stop_time": "1477.084", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "uh" }, { "start_time": "1477.294", "stop_time": "1480.304", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "being able to listen to people and being able to um" }, { "start_time": "1481.204", "stop_time": "1483.104", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "not be judgmental um" }, { "start_time": "1483.519", "stop_time": "1485.089", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "through the years i've had a " }, { "start_time": "1485.509", "stop_time": "1487.909", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "a lot of experience with um" }, { "start_time": "1489.464", "stop_time": "1493.409", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "people with problems a lot of friends with problems people i know from church and" }, { "start_time": "1493.889", "stop_time": "1495.879", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "it's just taught me that um" }, { "start_time": "1496.679", "stop_time": "1499.629", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "everybody has weaknesses everybody has problems" }, { "start_time": "1500.149", "stop_time": "1503.439", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "and um i don't think i'm better than someone else" }, { "start_time": "1504.079", "stop_time": "1510.879", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "if you think you're better than someone else then that's usually um to me a sign that you don't know yourself well enough" }, { "start_time": "1511.794", "stop_time": "1512.374", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "yeah" }, { "start_time": "1514.369", "stop_time": "1516.139", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "thanks for sharing your thoughts with me" }, { "start_time": "1516.279", "stop_time": "1516.959", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "okay" }, { "start_time": "1518.594", "stop_time": "1521.204", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "okay i think i've asked everything i need to" }, { "start_time": "1521.334", "stop_time": "1521.884", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "okay" }, { "start_time": "1522.284", "stop_time": "1522.924", "speaker": "Ellie", "value": "goodbye" }, { "start_time": "1523.099", "stop_time": "1523.919", "speaker": "Participant", "value": "goodbye" } ]