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0,0,0,0LADYX,0,Excuse me sir but I can't help but notice that you're on your phone.,Weak,You should describe the problem more clearly here and describe the repeated noise from their phone,,No,Consider including the Express skill upfront to make it clear why you are approaching this person.,"Excuse me sir your phone is not on silent and you keep getting alerts, I'm having a hard time staying focused with the noise it's making. ",No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,Excuse me sir but I can't help but notice that you're on your phone.,Yes,,Excuse me sir but I can't help but notice that you're on your phone.,"The utterance is vague and does not explicitly mention the issue of the loud text notifications, which is the core problem. It fails to clearly communicate the disturbance being caused, hence the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance does not clearly express the issue with the guest being on their phone, therefore the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
1,1,1,0LADYX,2,Right. I would like to kindly ask you to please set it to vibrate if you can.  ,No,,,No,,,Weak,,,No,Connecting your request to a positive outcome might make the person more likely to agree. ,Right. I would like to kindly ask you to please set it to vibrate if you can.  ,Weak,"Negotiation by saying ""if you can,"" is not necessary at this stage, stick to clearly asserting your request. ",,apple,No,"Couching your request in the phrases, ""I would like to kindly ask"" and ""if you can"" make it seem like you're unsure that you deserve to make this request.",Right. Will you please set it to vibrate? I would really appreciate it!,Yes,,Right. I would like to kindly ask you to please set it to vibrate if you can.  ,,,"The utterance is polite and indirect in expressing the need for quiet, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.","The utterance does not connect the request to a positive outcome, which could make the person more likely to comply, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance is weakened by the phrase ""if you can,"" which makes the request seem optional rather than necessary, hence the rating for negotiate is Weak.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance appears hesitant and overly polite, which may convey a lack of confidence in making the request, therefore, the rating for confident is No.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
2,2,2,0LADYX,4,But we're at a library and we're all here to do work.,No,,,Weak,"When you use the express skill, you should focus on using 'I statements' and express how the situation you described impacts you.",,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,But we're at a library and we're all here to do work.,Yes,,But we're at a library and we're all here to do work.,,"The utterance does not effectively convey your personal feelings or how the situation impacts you, as it lacks the use of 'I statements.' Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
3,3,3,0LADYX,6,But we'll still hear the sound of your incoming texts.,Weak,"To make the describe skill more effective, you should include why the behavior is problematic ",,No,Consider using the express skill again here because you can't expect the guest to read your mind or know why the sound of the texts is a problem,But we'll still hear the sound of your incoming texts and it is disturbing me while I'm trying focus on my work. ,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,But we'll still hear the sound of your incoming texts.,Yes,,But we'll still hear the sound of your incoming texts.,"The utterance fails to explain how the noise is disruptive or why it matters in the library setting, thus lacking effectiveness in conveying the issue, which leads to a Weak rating for describe.","The utterance does not clearly convey your feelings or the impact of the noise, therefore the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
4,4,4,0LADYX,8,You can also feel the vibrations on your phone too right? ,No,,,No,,,Weak,"When using the assert skill, you should clearly state your wishes without beating around the bush or asking rhetorical or indirect questions",,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,You can also feel the vibrations on your phone too right? ,Yes,,You can also feel the vibrations on your phone too right? ,,,"The utterance hints at the issue indirectly rather than stating your needs or wants clearly, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
5,5,5,0LADYX,10,"Sir please set it to vibrate. If I can hear my phone vibrate, i'm sure you can as well.",No,,,No,,,Strong,,,Weak,You can strengthen your reinforce skill here by being more clear about how the outcome will positively benefit both you and the guest ,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"Sir please set it to vibrate. If I can hear my phone vibrate, i'm sure you can as well.",Yes,,"Sir please set it to vibrate. If I can hear my phone vibrate, i'm sure you can as well.",,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not clearly communicate the positive outcomes of the requested action for both parties, therefore the rating for reinforce is Weak.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
6,6,6,0LADYX,12,It's okay.  Thank you so much!,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,No,"Consider whether the guest's behavior was really ""okay,"" you can thank them without excusing the behavior.",Thank you so much!,Yes,,It's okay.  Thank you so much!,,,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance may imply acceptance of the guest's disruptive behavior, which does not convey a confident stance in addressing the issue, therefore, the rating for confident is No.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
7,7,7,0LADYX,14,Same to you.  I have to commend you on how kindly you reacted.,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,Same to you.  I have to commend you on how kindly you reacted.,Yes,,Same to you.  I have to commend you on how kindly you reacted.,,,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
8,8,8,0LADYX,16,Yes I agree. Lately it's been hard to agree with anyone but you're definitely one of a kind!,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,Yes I agree. Lately it's been hard to agree with anyone but you're definitely one of a kind!,Yes,,Yes I agree. Lately it's been hard to agree with anyone but you're definitely one of a kind!,,,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
9,9,9,0LADYX,18,"Same here. Where you're at, that's always a plus.",No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"Same here. Where you're at, that's always a plus.",Yes,,"Same here. Where you're at, that's always a plus.",,,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"At the library, a guest has the phone on loud and we can hear every time they receive a text.  "
10,10,10,0MF2GE,0,Hi! So I ordered a Blue Moon but you brought me a Samuel Adams. This is the second time.  Is everything okay?,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,Hi! So I ordered a Blue Moon but you brought me a Samuel Adams. This is the second time.  Is everything okay?,Yes,,Hi! So I ordered a Blue Moon but you brought me a Samuel Adams. This is the second time.  Is everything okay?,"The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,I went to dinner with my friends and a waiter brought me the wrong beer for the second time.  I had asked for a Blue Moon but they kept bringing me Samuel Adams.
11,11,11,0MF2GE,2,I know it's a great beer. In fact I usually drink that too if there's no Blue Moon.,No,,,No,Using the express skill here will help the server understand why this problem is important to you and may motivate them to agree to your request ,I'm confident I ordered Blue Moon twice because that is the beer I really wanted. I'm feeling frustrated that you brought something else twice instead of telling me you didn't have Blue Moon. ,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,I know it's a great beer. In fact I usually drink that too if there's no Blue Moon.,No,Staying mindful means holding your ground and avoiding being distracted by the server's comments about how good the other beer tastes.,I'm confident I ordered Blue Moon twice because that is the beer I really wanted. I'm feeling frustrated that you brought something else twice instead of telling me you didn't have Blue Moon. ,,"The utterance does not convey your personal feelings about the mistake or how it affects you, therefore the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance shows the speaker getting sidetracked by the server's comments on the beer instead of addressing the mistake, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,I went to dinner with my friends and a waiter brought me the wrong beer for the second time.  I had asked for a Blue Moon but they kept bringing me Samuel Adams.
12,12,12,0MF2GE,4,Well I appreciate that. You could have told me that when it happened the first time.  Right?,No,,,No,Using the express skill would communicate to the server why this situation matters to you. ,Well I appreciate that. I'm disappointed that you did not tell me that when it happened the first time so I could order something else. ,Weak,Your questions should be directly related to your goal of getting the beer you ordered. ,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,Well I appreciate that. You could have told me that when it happened the first time.  Right?,Yes,,Well I appreciate that. You could have told me that when it happened the first time.  Right?,,"The utterance does not convey your personal feelings about the situation, therefore the rating for express is No.","The utterance does not directly address the issue of receiving the incorrect beer order, therefore the rating for assert is Weak.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,I went to dinner with my friends and a waiter brought me the wrong beer for the second time.  I had asked for a Blue Moon but they kept bringing me Samuel Adams.
13,13,13,0MF2GE,6,No worries. Why no Blue Moon? I'm just curious.,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,No,"Consider whether the server's behavior really caused you ""no worries,"" you can be kind and still stay confident in your request. ",I appreciate your apology. I would like to order another beer since you don't have the one I asked for. ,No,Staying mindful means maintaining your position and avoiding being distracted onto other topics like the beer supply chain,I would like to order another beer since you don't have the one I asked for. ,,,,,,"The utterance does not maintain the speaker's position regarding the incorrect order and instead gets sidetracked by inquiring about the reasons behind the mix-up, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance lacks a confident tone because it downplays the mistake by saying ""no worries"" and expresses curiosity rather than assertively addressing the error, therefore, the rating for confident is No.",social,I went to dinner with my friends and a waiter brought me the wrong beer for the second time.  I had asked for a Blue Moon but they kept bringing me Samuel Adams.
14,14,14,0MF2GE,8,What other beers do you have?,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,Weak,"When your initial request is denied or not possible, consider using the negotiate to ask the other person for alternative solutions",,apple,Yes,,What other beers do you have?,No,Being mindful means maintaining your position and coming back to your original goal. ,What beers do you have that are similar to Blue Moon?,,,,,"The utterance does not directly address the issue of receiving the wrong beer nor does it suggest a resolution to the mistake; instead, it passively inquires about other options without negotiating a solution for the initial error. Therefore, the rating for negotiate is Weak.","The utterance does not demonstrate mindfulness as it does not address the mistake with the order or reiterate the original request for a Blue Moon, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,I went to dinner with my friends and a waiter brought me the wrong beer for the second time.  I had asked for a Blue Moon but they kept bringing me Samuel Adams.
15,15,15,0MF2GE,10,What about Samuel Adams? They have different flavors.,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,Weak,The negotiate strategy is often most effective from a self-respect perspective when you ask the other person to generate alternative solutions. ,,apple,Yes,,What about Samuel Adams? They have different flavors.,Yes,,What about Samuel Adams? They have different flavors.,,,,,"The utterance does not effectively engage the waiter in generating alternative solutions to the problem of receiving the wrong beer, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Weak.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,I went to dinner with my friends and a waiter brought me the wrong beer for the second time.  I had asked for a Blue Moon but they kept bringing me Samuel Adams.
16,16,16,0MF2GE,12,I'll try the Boston Lager. ,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,I'll try the Boston Lager. ,Yes,,I'll try the Boston Lager. ,,,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,I went to dinner with my friends and a waiter brought me the wrong beer for the second time.  I had asked for a Blue Moon but they kept bringing me Samuel Adams.
17,17,17,0MF2GE,14,I don't have to pay for the other 2 you already got me though right?  Because I ordered the Blue Moon but you brought me the other 2 without explaining what the issue is.,Strong,,,No,,,Weak,"When using the assert skill, you should clearly and concise in stating what you are asking.",,No,Including a positive consequence with your ask increases the likelihood that the person will agree.,I don't have to pay for the other 2 you already got me though right?  Because I ordered the Blue Moon but you brought me the other 2 without explaining what the issue is. I hope we can resolve this so I can feel comfortable coming back here with my friends in the future. ,No,,,apple,Yes,,I don't have to pay for the other 2 you already got me though right?  Because I ordered the Blue Moon but you brought me the other 2 without explaining what the issue is.,Yes,,I don't have to pay for the other 2 you already got me though right?  Because I ordered the Blue Moon but you brought me the other 2 without explaining what the issue is.,"The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.",,"The utterance lacks clarity and conciseness in stating what is being asked, which is why the assert rating is Weak.","The utterance does not include a positive consequence with the ask, which would increase the likelihood of agreement, therefore the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,I went to dinner with my friends and a waiter brought me the wrong beer for the second time.  I had asked for a Blue Moon but they kept bringing me Samuel Adams.
18,18,18,0QBQJM,0,"We have been friends for a long time and I really want to be your best man, however, you can't expect me to pay the entire cost of travel and accommodation.",Weak,Try to stick to the facts of the situation and not mix in feelings or judgments. ,,No,Using express here would help your friend understand why this is a problem for you and motivate him to help find solutions. ,"We have been friends for a long time and I really want to be your best man, however, I'm feeling stressed because I cannot afford to pay the entire cost of travel and accommodation on my own. ",No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"We have been friends for a long time and I really want to be your best man, however, you can't expect me to pay the entire cost of travel and accommodation.",Yes,,"We have been friends for a long time and I really want to be your best man, however, you can't expect me to pay the entire cost of travel and accommodation.","The utterance includes personal feelings and a judgment about what the friend should expect, which deviates from a purely factual statement. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance does not currently express your feelings or personal perspective on the situation, therefore the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
19,19,19,0QBQJM,2,"When you expect me to pay to fly across the country to be at your wedding, it makes me feel like you don't care if I'm at the wedding.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"When you expect me to pay to fly across the country to be at your wedding, it makes me feel like you don't care if I'm at the wedding.",Yes,,"When you expect me to pay to fly across the country to be at your wedding, it makes me feel like you don't care if I'm at the wedding.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
20,20,20,0QBQJM,4,"I'm not just a guest at your wedding, I am your best man. I would appreciate if you could help shoulder some of the cost of my flight or accommodations.",Strong,,,No,,,Weak,You could be more specific in using assert to let your friend know exactly how much help you need and also directly ask rather than beating around the bush,,Weak,You could more directly share what the benefits would be to both of you if he was able to help pay for your costs. ,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"I'm not just a guest at your wedding, I am your best man. I would appreciate if you could help shoulder some of the cost of my flight or accommodations.",Yes,,"I'm not just a guest at your wedding, I am your best man. I would appreciate if you could help shoulder some of the cost of my flight or accommodations.","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.",,"The utterance does not strongly convey the extent of assistance needed or directly request for specific help, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.","The utterance does not strongly convey the mutual benefits of the speaker's attendance as the best man, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Weak.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
21,21,21,0QBQJM,6,I would be overjoyed to be a part of your wedding if you could find it in your budget to help me be there. It would certainly help ensure that I can be there.,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,I would be overjoyed to be a part of your wedding if you could find it in your budget to help me be there. It would certainly help ensure that I can be there.,Yes,,I would be overjoyed to be a part of your wedding if you could find it in your budget to help me be there. It would certainly help ensure that I can be there.,,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
22,22,22,0QBQJM,8,I understand your budget is tight and so is mine. How about your consider it a loan that I repay in kind when I invite you to be my best man at my wedding?,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,apple,Yes,,I understand your budget is tight and so is mine. How about your consider it a loan that I repay in kind when I invite you to be my best man at my wedding?,Yes,,I understand your budget is tight and so is mine. How about your consider it a loan that I repay in kind when I invite you to be my best man at my wedding?,,,,,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
23,23,23,0QBQJM,10,How about you help shoulder the cost of the flight and accommodations for your wedding and I'll do the same for you for my wedding.,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,apple,Yes,,How about you help shoulder the cost of the flight and accommodations for your wedding and I'll do the same for you for my wedding.,Yes,,How about you help shoulder the cost of the flight and accommodations for your wedding and I'll do the same for you for my wedding.,,,,,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
24,24,24,0QBQJM,12,"I really want to be at your wedding, without having to borrow money from someone else, if you could help with my flight or accomodations.",No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,The argument is hitting a dead end and negotiation can help turn the tables to get the other person's input or generate new ideas. ,"I really want to be at your wedding, without having to borrow money from someone else. Do you have any other ideas about how we can make this work?",apple,Yes,,"I really want to be at your wedding, without having to borrow money from someone else, if you could help with my flight or accomodations.",Yes,,"I really want to be at your wedding, without having to borrow money from someone else, if you could help with my flight or accomodations.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,"The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not effectively open up the conversation for negotiation or alternative solutions, which could potentially lead to a more productive discussion and mutual agreement. Therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
25,25,25,0QBQJM,14,"Perhaps, you could just pay for my accommodations while there for your wedding/",No,,,No,,,No,,,No,The conversation is hitting a dead end so reinforcing the ask with the value of the relationship can help to achieve the goal and also preserve the relationship,It would mean so much to me to stand next to you as your best man and I really want to support you as you start this next phase of your life. Would you be willing to pay for my accommodations for me to be there?,Strong,,,apple,Yes,,"Perhaps, you could just pay for my accommodations while there for your wedding/",Yes,,"Perhaps, you could just pay for my accommodations while there for your wedding/",,,,"The utterance does not effectively reinforce the request by highlighting the value of the relationship, which could help in achieving the goal while maintaining the friendship. Therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
26,26,26,0QBQJM,16,"We have been friends a really long time and you have asked me to be your best man, I'm not just any guest at your wedding.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"We have been friends a really long time and you have asked me to be your best man, I'm not just any guest at your wedding.",Yes,,"We have been friends a really long time and you have asked me to be your best man, I'm not just any guest at your wedding.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
27,27,27,0QBQJM,18,"I would really appreciate even a small contribution to my cost to be at your wedding, since you made me your best man.",No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,apple,Yes,,"I would really appreciate even a small contribution to my cost to be at your wedding, since you made me your best man.",Yes,,"I would really appreciate even a small contribution to my cost to be at your wedding, since you made me your best man.",,,,,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My best friend is getting married and wants me to be his best man. He expects me to pay for my own flight and accommodations, which are expensive, even though he knows I am tight on money right now."
28,28,28,1OAA3V,0,"you know for sure i hate what you doing, i have warned you several times but you just wont stop it",Weak,Stick the facts of the situation and try not expect the other person to mind read what you're talking about ,,Weak,Clearly express how the behavior makes you and feel and the impact it has on you ,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"you know for sure i hate what you doing, i have warned you several times but you just wont stop it",Yes,,"you know for sure i hate what you doing, i have warned you several times but you just wont stop it","The utterance is vague and assumes the other person knows what is being referred to, without clearly stating the specific actions that are problematic. It also relies on the assumption that the other person understands the speaker's feelings, which may not be the case. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance does not fully convey the depth of your emotions or the personal impact of the behavior, therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,collecting money from my bank account without asking and also taking out money from my purse without my consent
29,29,29,1OAA3V,2,"taking money from my bank account is not the way to go, even if you need money and you do not have it, why transfer money from my account when ever I am asleep, isnt that stealing?",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"taking money from my bank account is not the way to go, even if you need money and you do not have it, why transfer money from my account when ever I am asleep, isnt that stealing?",Yes,,"taking money from my bank account is not the way to go, even if you need money and you do not have it, why transfer money from my account when ever I am asleep, isnt that stealing?",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,collecting money from my bank account without asking and also taking out money from my purse without my consent
30,30,30,1OAA3V,4,"well you making it sound like we haven't talked about it several time, there is a budget and if you have any expense then fit it into the budget, its much more easier that way but no you don't, you go behind my back to collect money",Strong,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"well you making it sound like we haven't talked about it several time, there is a budget and if you have any expense then fit it into the budget, its much more easier that way but no you don't, you go behind my back to collect money",Yes,,"well you making it sound like we haven't talked about it several time, there is a budget and if you have any expense then fit it into the budget, its much more easier that way but no you don't, you go behind my back to collect money","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,collecting money from my bank account without asking and also taking out money from my purse without my consent
31,31,31,1OAA3V,6,"you know thats not the only thing, how about how you have left me stranded multiple times by taking out all the money inside my wallet without informing me",No,,,Weak,You can strengthen your use of the express skill by including how these actions and consequences have made you feel. ,,No,,,No,Using reinforce here would help provide positive consequences for the partner to change their behavior. ,"You have left me stranded multiple times by taking out all the money inside my wallet without informing me. If you would stop taking the money without asking, I wouldn't be in these situations where I feel helpless and I would feel less anger and frustration towards you. ",No,,,apple,Yes,,"you know thats not the only thing, how about how you have left me stranded multiple times by taking out all the money inside my wallet without informing me",Yes,,"you know thats not the only thing, how about how you have left me stranded multiple times by taking out all the money inside my wallet without informing me",,"The utterance does not clearly convey your emotions or reactions to the situation, therefore the rating for express is Weak.",,"The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not provide positive consequences or encouragement for the partner to change their behavior, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,collecting money from my bank account without asking and also taking out money from my purse without my consent
32,32,32,1OAA3V,8,"no you not sorry, you have cost me several embarrassment because of that, you take money from my wallet last minute and i leave thinking i have money an when its time to make use of it i always feel shock and surprise with the outcome",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,apple,Yes,,"no you not sorry, you have cost me several embarrassment because of that, you take money from my wallet last minute and i leave thinking i have money an when its time to make use of it i always feel shock and surprise with the outcome",No,"Being mindful means staying focused on achieving the goal without getting off topic, since the goal is achieved, the conversation should end. ","Thank you for your apology and agreeing to stick to the budget, talk to me about making transactions, and not taking money from my purse without asking. I appreciate your willingness to change. ",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,,,"The utterance does not maintain focus on the goal of addressing the issue of taking money without consent and instead expresses the speaker's feelings of embarrassment and shock, which is why the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,collecting money from my bank account without asking and also taking out money from my purse without my consent
33,33,33,24A9KC,0,"Hey, can we talk? We need to have a serious conversation about how you treat me.",No,,,No,,,Weak,Nice assertion of needs! You might try using a gentler opening to reduce the odds of your coworker responding with defensiveness. ,"Hey, can we talk? I'd like to talk with you about our interactions at work.",No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"Hey, can we talk? We need to have a serious conversation about how you treat me.",Yes,,"Hey, can we talk? We need to have a serious conversation about how you treat me.",,,"The utterance begins with a request for dialogue and expresses the need for a serious conversation, which indicates an attempt to assert your needs. However, the rating for assert is Weak because the suggestion implies that the approach could be perceived as confrontational, which might not be as effective in asserting your needs without causing defensiveness.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"""My co-worker takes advantage of my good nature and sometimes convinces me to do part of their work for them even though I'm busy with my own stuff"""
34,34,34,24A9KC,2,"Don't take this the wrong way, but I feel like you take advantage of my kindness at work. I can't keep helping you with your work while doing my own.",No,You might want to Describe the situation first so that you and your coworker can start on the same page with facts about the situation.,"Last week you asked me to do your work for you, which made me feel frustrated. I can't keep helping you with your work while also doing my own. ",Weak,Try focusing more on your feelings - those can't be argued with!,I feel frustrated when you ask me to help out with your work. I can't keep helping you with your work while also doing my own. ,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"Don't take this the wrong way, but I feel like you take advantage of my kindness at work. I can't keep helping you with your work while doing my own.",Yes,,"Don't take this the wrong way, but I feel like you take advantage of my kindness at work. I can't keep helping you with your work while doing my own.","The reason for the rating is that the utterance could benefit from a clearer description of the specific situations where the co-worker is taking advantage, to ensure both parties understand the context and facts of the issue. This would help in starting the conversation with a mutual understanding of the events that have led to the feeling of being taken advantage of.","The utterance does not focus enough on your personal feelings, which would make it more subjective and less open to challenge, hence the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"""My co-worker takes advantage of my good nature and sometimes convinces me to do part of their work for them even though I'm busy with my own stuff"""
35,35,35,24A9KC,4,"No. You do this all the time. At first it was just once in a while, now you'll ask me to do your work whenever you don't feel like it. It's not right or fair.",Weak,Using specific examples helps with sticking to the facts. ,"No. I was willing to help you out when your requests weren't very frequent. You've asked me for help much more often lately, such as [insert specific examples here].",Weak,"Stick to ""I"" statements when expressing how you're feeling. ","No. I was willing to help you out when your requests weren't very frequent. You've asked me for help much more often lately, such as [insert specific examples here]. I feel like I'm not getting the same support that I've been giving you, which is making our relationship feel one-sided.",No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"No. You do this all the time. At first it was just once in a while, now you'll ask me to do your work whenever you don't feel like it. It's not right or fair.",Yes,,"No. You do this all the time. At first it was just once in a while, now you'll ask me to do your work whenever you don't feel like it. It's not right or fair.","The utterance generalizes behavior without providing specific examples, which could lead to a perception of bias or lack of objectivity. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance does not focus on personal feelings using ""I"" statements, which weakens the expression of your own emotions. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"""My co-worker takes advantage of my good nature and sometimes convinces me to do part of their work for them even though I'm busy with my own stuff"""
36,36,36,24A9KC,6,"No, it's not right and I do not want to continue doing this. I've come to you first because I walk to work something out between us, but if you continue to use me I'll have no choice but to go to our supervisor and complain. I don't want to do this, but I will if we cannot come to an understanding.",No,,,Weak,"Try sticking to your personal experience and ""I"" statements when using the Express skill. ","No, I don't want to continue to have a relationship with you that I feel is one-sided.  I want to work something out between us because our relationship is important to me and I don't want to escalate this situation unnecessarily. ",Strong,,,No,The Reinforce skill can help remind people that there's a positive side to honoring your request.,"No, I don't want to continue to have a relationship with you that I feel is one-sided. I want to work something out between us because our relationship is important to me and I don't want to escalate this situation unnecessarily. Please do not ask me to help with your work tasks again. Alternatively, if you ask for help, I'll ask that you help me with something in return. This way we can both have a more positive working relationship.",Weak,Negotiation can be more effective when presented as specific options and with non-threatening language.,"No, I don't want to continue to have a relationship with you that I feel is one-sided. I want to work something out between us because our relationship is important to me and I don't want to escalate this situation unnecessarily. Please do not ask me to help with your work tasks again. Alternatively, if you ask for help, I'll ask that you help me with something in return.",bear,Yes,,"No, it's not right and I do not want to continue doing this. I've come to you first because I walk to work something out between us, but if you continue to use me I'll have no choice but to go to our supervisor and complain. I don't want to do this, but I will if we cannot come to an understanding.",Yes,,"No, it's not right and I do not want to continue doing this. I've come to you first because I walk to work something out between us, but if you continue to use me I'll have no choice but to go to our supervisor and complain. I don't want to do this, but I will if we cannot come to an understanding.",,"The utterance does not focus solely on personal feelings or experiences, as it includes potential actions and consequences, which dilutes the expression of personal sentiment. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance does not highlight any positive outcomes or benefits for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance could be perceived as confrontational and lacks specific alternative solutions, which makes the negotiation less effective, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Weak.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"""My co-worker takes advantage of my good nature and sometimes convinces me to do part of their work for them even though I'm busy with my own stuff"""
37,37,37,24A9KC,8,"Here is one solution. You do your work and I do mine. You can no longer push your work onto me. I'll help if you really need it, but you will not continue to take advantage of my kindness.",No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,bear,Yes,,"Here is one solution. You do your work and I do mine. You can no longer push your work onto me. I'll help if you really need it, but you will not continue to take advantage of my kindness.",Yes,,"Here is one solution. You do your work and I do mine. You can no longer push your work onto me. I'll help if you really need it, but you will not continue to take advantage of my kindness.",,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"""My co-worker takes advantage of my good nature and sometimes convinces me to do part of their work for them even though I'm busy with my own stuff"""
38,38,38,24A9KC,10,So we have come to an understanding? You agree with me?,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,So we have come to an understanding? You agree with me?,Yes,,So we have come to an understanding? You agree with me?,,,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"""My co-worker takes advantage of my good nature and sometimes convinces me to do part of their work for them even though I'm busy with my own stuff"""
39,39,39,24A9KC,12,Thank you as well. I'm glad we could work this out between ourselves.,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,Thank you as well. I'm glad we could work this out between ourselves.,Yes,,Thank you as well. I'm glad we could work this out between ourselves.,,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"""My co-worker takes advantage of my good nature and sometimes convinces me to do part of their work for them even though I'm busy with my own stuff"""
40,40,40,2HA2UP,0,"you know you are my friend and i wont lie to you ever, i just want to say what you doing is wrong",Weak,"Try to avoid using extreme language, like ""ever"" - this can move the conversation away from facts.",You know you are my friend and I don't want to lie to you.,Weak,Try focusing more on your feelings - those can't be argued with!,You know you are my friend and I don't want to lie to you. I want to tell you that the way that you talk to me about your situation with your in-laws has been upsetting to me.,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"you know you are my friend and i wont lie to you ever, i just want to say what you doing is wrong",Yes,,"you know you are my friend and i wont lie to you ever, i just want to say what you doing is wrong","The utterance uses absolute language by saying ""I won't lie to you ever,"" which can detract from a factual discussion and may come across as overly dramatic or insincere. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance does not strongly convey your personal feelings, which is why the rating for expressiveness is Weak. To improve, you should emphasize your own emotions, as they are indisputable and can strengthen the expression of your perspective.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
41,41,41,2HA2UP,2,well you trying to make your husband choose between you and his family is certainly not the right way to go you know,Weak,Try being more specific with your Describe – examples help!,"By doing [insert examples], it seems to me like you want your husband to choose between his family and you.",No,Expressing your feelings in this situation might help your friend understand your perspective.,"By doing [insert examples], it seems to me like you want your husband to choose between his family and you. This is painful for me to hear because I care a lot about you and your husband.",No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,well you trying to make your husband choose between you and his family is certainly not the right way to go you know,Yes,,well you trying to make your husband choose between you and his family is certainly not the right way to go you know,"The reason for the 'Weak' rating is that the utterance lacks specificity and does not provide concrete examples to illustrate the point being made. It makes a general statement without delving into the details of the situation, which would be necessary for a stronger description.","The utterance does not convey your personal feelings about the situation, therefore the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
42,42,42,2HA2UP,4,but you have always hated them right from the start and nothing they have done have ever been pleasing to you,Weak,Try being more specific with your Describe – examples help!,"You expressed frustrations about your in-laws early on in your relationship, like the time that [insert examples].",No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,but you have always hated them right from the start and nothing they have done have ever been pleasing to you,Yes,,but you have always hated them right from the start and nothing they have done have ever been pleasing to you,"The utterance makes a broad, generalized statement without providing specific examples or evidence to support the claim, which can be perceived as biased and lacking in detail. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
43,43,43,2HA2UP,6,"its true, not everyone can cope with your attitude, the problem is you wont admit that you are wrong, you have never been tolerant around your inlaws, you always shun them and you down play everything they do",Weak,Avoid using extreme language like “never” and “always” – these are easy to argue with.,"You've struggled with your inlaws in the past, like when they [insert example]. ",No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"its true, not everyone can cope with your attitude, the problem is you wont admit that you are wrong, you have never been tolerant around your inlaws, you always shun them and you down play everything they do",Yes,,"its true, not everyone can cope with your attitude, the problem is you wont admit that you are wrong, you have never been tolerant around your inlaws, you always shun them and you down play everything they do","The utterance uses absolute terms such as ""never"" and ""always,"" which can be perceived as extreme and may not accurately reflect the entire situation. This can make the statement seem biased or exaggerated, leading to a weaker rating for the description. It's important to use more nuanced language to convey a balanced view that acknowledges the complexity of human behavior.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
44,44,44,2HA2UP,8,"the other day at your birthday, you were very rude to your husbands parent, and you feel they trying to drain your husband financially when you know for sure he cannot abandon his family in their point of need",Weak,"Using non-judgmental language will be more helpful in this situation. Also, try to avoid telling someone else how they think and feel.","The other day at your birthday, you acted [insert objective behaviors you observed].  ",No,Expressing your feelings and the impact that this situation has on you directly will help keep the conversation on a more productive track.,"The other day at your birthday, you acted [insert objective behaviors you observed].  This made me feel sad for you and your relationship with them.",No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"the other day at your birthday, you were very rude to your husbands parent, and you feel they trying to drain your husband financially when you know for sure he cannot abandon his family in their point of need",Yes,,"the other day at your birthday, you were very rude to your husbands parent, and you feel they trying to drain your husband financially when you know for sure he cannot abandon his family in their point of need","The utterance is rated as Weak because it includes judgmental language and makes assumptions about the person's thoughts and feelings, which can be perceived as confrontational or accusatory. To improve the rating, it would be beneficial to use neutral language and avoid making claims about the individual's internal state or motivations.","The utterance does not effectively convey your personal feelings or the impact the situation has on you, therefore the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
45,45,45,2HA2UP,10,"why not se how selfish and self centered you have become, you forget so soon how your husband parent sacrifice so much when his business was about going bankrupt and safe him from financial ruin, today the table turn and you acting so heartless towards them",Weak,Try using more non-judgmental language here and focusing on the facts.,I can't help but think about how your husband's parents helped him when his business was about going bankrupt. ,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"why not se how selfish and self centered you have become, you forget so soon how your husband parent sacrifice so much when his business was about going bankrupt and safe him from financial ruin, today the table turn and you acting so heartless towards them",Yes,,"why not se how selfish and self centered you have become, you forget so soon how your husband parent sacrifice so much when his business was about going bankrupt and safe him from financial ruin, today the table turn and you acting so heartless towards them","The utterance is judgmental and uses emotionally charged language, which can be perceived as accusatory and biased, rather than sticking to an objective recount of events. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
46,46,46,2HA2UP,12,"they got you a gift and you had to publicly embarrass them because its not expensive enough to your taste, thats rude and heartless",Weak,Try using more non-judgmental language here and focus on describing the details - think about what a video camera would see.,"They got you a gift and you said ""This is not to my taste"". They seemed embarrassed because of [insert specific behavior, like crying or verbally expressing embarrassment]. ",No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"they got you a gift and you had to publicly embarrass them because its not expensive enough to your taste, thats rude and heartless",Yes,,"they got you a gift and you had to publicly embarrass them because its not expensive enough to your taste, thats rude and heartless","The utterance includes subjective and judgmental language, which could be perceived as accusatory and lacks a neutral description of events. It does not simply describe the actions observed but also assigns negative character traits, which is why the rating for describe is Weak.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
47,47,47,2HA2UP,14,"you are not being truthful here, i see how you treat people you feel are not in your class or level, you not a very nice person",No,,,Weak,Try using more non-judgmental language here and focusing more on your feelings - those can't be argued with!,It upsets me when you act this way.,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"you are not being truthful here, i see how you treat people you feel are not in your class or level, you not a very nice person",Yes,,"you are not being truthful here, i see how you treat people you feel are not in your class or level, you not a very nice person",,"The utterance does not effectively convey your personal feelings and instead comes across as accusatory, which is why the rating for expressiveness is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
48,48,48,2HA2UP,16,"I am beginning to reconsider our friendship, because who knows tomorrow and how you would treat me, if you can treat your in-laws in such a way",No,,,No,Expressing your feelings in this situation might help your friend understand your perspective.,"I feel concerned about what this means for how you would act towards me moving forward, so I would like to have some space between us in our friendship.",Weak,Keep your Assert clear and focused on what's happening in your relationship with your friend.,I would like to have some space between us in our friendship.,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"I am beginning to reconsider our friendship, because who knows tomorrow and how you would treat me, if you can treat your in-laws in such a way",Yes,,"I am beginning to reconsider our friendship, because who knows tomorrow and how you would treat me, if you can treat your in-laws in such a way",,"The utterance does not express your feelings directly, therefore the rating for express is No.","The utterance lacks a direct assertion about your needs or wants in your relationship with your friend, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
49,49,49,2HA2UP,18,"you treat your maid like a slave, you have had to hire several maid because they kept on quitting, and same goes to everyone that ever worked for you, you not a good person and you should change starting with your In-laws",Weak,Avoid using extreme language like “never” and “always” – these are easy to argue with.,"There have been other times that seem similar to this, which makes me think that there's a pattern. For example, there have been several times that your maids have quit and they stated to you that it was because of how poorly you treated them. ",No,Expressing how you feel about this situation will help keep the conversation on track and focused on your relationship with your friend.,"There have been other times that seem similar to this, which makes me think that there's a pattern. For example, there have been several times that your maids have quit and they stated to you that it was because of how poorly you treated them. This makes me feel concerned about how you might also treat me.",No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"you treat your maid like a slave, you have had to hire several maid because they kept on quitting, and same goes to everyone that ever worked for you, you not a good person and you should change starting with your In-laws",Yes,,"you treat your maid like a slave, you have had to hire several maid because they kept on quitting, and same goes to everyone that ever worked for you, you not a good person and you should change starting with your In-laws","The utterance uses absolute terms such as ""like a slave"" and ""you're not a good person,"" which are strong and accusatory, making it easy to dispute and less effective in conveying the message constructively. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance does not effectively express personal feelings about the situation, which would be necessary to maintain a constructive dialogue about the relationship with your friend. Therefore, the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
50,50,50,2HA2UP,20,"I feel you should apologies to your in-laws and your husband as well, you should change your character as in whole, try and be nice to people more often",No,,,No,,,Weak,Keep your Assert focused on your relationship with your friend and try to avoid using judgmental language.,"These patterns of interacting with people have negatively impacted me. I want you to be kinder towards me, such as [insert examples here].",No,Remind your friend of the benefits that would come with honoring your request.,"These patterns of interacting with people have negatively impacted me. I want you to be kinder towards me, such as [insert examples here]. That would improve our relationship and would make me want to do nice things for you more often as well.",No,Try providing an alternative for your friend when you make this assertion.,"These patterns of interacting with people have negatively impacted me. I want you to be kinder towards me, such as [insert examples here]. That would improve our relationship and would make me want to do nice things for you more often as well. The alternative option is that we take some space from one another.",bear,Yes,,"I feel you should apologies to your in-laws and your husband as well, you should change your character as in whole, try and be nice to people more often",Yes,,"I feel you should apologies to your in-laws and your husband as well, you should change your character as in whole, try and be nice to people more often",,,"The utterance includes judgmental language and broad character assessments, which can be perceived as confrontational rather than supportive, thus the assert rating is Weak.","The utterance fails to highlight the positive outcomes of reconciling with her in-laws, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance fails to offer alternative solutions or approaches for reconciliation, focusing solely on the need for an apology and character change without considering other perspectives or options. Therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend has been having family problems with her inlaws of which she has bee on the wrong but wont admit and  try to reconcile with her inlaws
51,51,51,6MM46P,0,what exactly happened to my car the other day you took it out?,No,You and your friend might not agree on the facts. It is important for you to be on the same page.,"Yesterday when you took out my car, you returned it with a dent in the door. You did not tell me that anything happened when you returned my car.  The auto shop quoted me at $100 to fix it. I want you to be honest with me that you damaged my car. I also would like you to pay for the costs of the repair.",No,If you friend knows how you feel about the situation they might responding better by giving you what you want and being more empathic.,"Yesterday when you took out my car, you returned it with a dent in the door. You did not tell me that anything happened when you returned my car.  I am hurt that you did not tell me this happened.  I wish you would have told me about it. The auto shop quoted me at $100 to fix it. I want you to be honest with me that you damaged my car. I also would like you to pay for the costs of the repair.",Weak,"Split the assert into its two separate components (the admit goal and the reimbursement goal) and be very clear with what you are asking for. 

I want you to be honest with me that you damaged my car. I also would like you to pay for the costs of the repair.",,No,,,No,,,banana,Yes,,what exactly happened to my car the other day you took it out?,Yes,,what exactly happened to my car the other day you took it out?,"The utterance seeks clarification and understanding of the events without making assumptions or accusations, aiming to align on the facts with the friend. Therefore, the rating for describe is No.","The utterance does not convey your emotions regarding the incident, therefore the rating for express is No.","The utterance does not strongly convey your needs or wants regarding the situation with your car, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
52,52,52,6MM46P,2,"dont call that minor, my bumper fell off when i took it for a ride and when i take it to the mechanic there were series of fault which wasnt on the car before you took it out",Strong,,,No,,,Weak,"I don't think there should be an assert here at all - stick to your original assert, not a new one of asking them to change their language. ""There is more than just an additional little scratch on my car. The bumper fell off and, when I took it to the mechanic, there were series of fault which wasn't on the care before you took it out.""",,No,,,No,,,banana,Yes,,"dont call that minor, my bumper fell off when i took it for a ride and when i take it to the mechanic there were series of fault which wasnt on the car before you took it out",No,"Don't let your conversation partner throw you off your goals, be mindful of what you are asking for and stick to it like a broken record.",My bumper fell off when i took it for a ride and when i take it to the mechanic there were series of fault which wasnt on the car before you took it out.,"The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.",,"The utterance does not strongly assert your needs or wants about the given context, as it is more focused on correcting the language used by your friend rather than directly addressing the issue at hand. Therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,,"The utterance shows that the speaker was thrown off by their conversation partner's downplaying of the situation, leading to a loss of focus on the main issue at hand. Therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
53,53,53,6MM46P,4,"how rude of you to say such nonsense, i trusted you with my property and then you misuse it, my tires are all worn out, dont know the kind of stunt ride you took my car for",Weak,Misuse is not specific. You and your friend might have different ideas of what it means to misuse a car. Replace that word with the specific details you are unhappy with.,,Weak,"Don't attack your friend, they are likely to get defensive and less likely to give you what you want. Instead, talk about how you feel. ""I feel hurt that you don't believe me when I say you returned the car in different condition than when you borrowed it.""",,No,,,No,"It is important to give your friend a reason to give you what you want. They are clearly getting defensive, so this might help ease them into being more honest with you and considering paying for the repair.","I feel hurt that you don't believe me when I say you returned the car in different condition than when you borrowed it. There are scratches and dings that were not there before you borrowed the car, and the bumper is falling off. I would like you to be honest with me about what happened, and to help pay for the repair. I won't be mad and we can talk about how to prevent this and improve communication in the future.",No,,,banana,Yes,,"how rude of you to say such nonsense, i trusted you with my property and then you misuse it, my tires are all worn out, dont know the kind of stunt ride you took my car for",No,"Stay mindful of your goals, even when you get frustrated with your friend, defensive, feel attacked, etc. ","I feel hurt that you don't believe me when I say you returned the car in different condition than when you borrowed it. There are scratches and dings that were not there before you borrowed the car, and the bumper is falling off. I would like you to be honest with me about what happened, and to help pay for the repair. I won't be mad and we can talk about how to prevent this and improve communication in the future.","The reason for the 'Weak' rating is that the term ""misuse"" is vague and subjective, which could lead to different interpretations between you and your friend. To improve clarity and specificity, it would be better to describe the exact issues you are unhappy with, such as the worn-out tires and the undisclosed accident. This would provide a clearer understanding of the situation.","The utterance does not effectively convey your personal feelings about the situation, therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,"The utterance does not provide a constructive approach or incentive for the friend to be honest and consider reparations, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance reflects a loss of composure and a focus on expressing frustration rather than addressing the issue constructively, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
54,54,54,6MM46P,6,"really, same car i regularly take for mechanic check up, there were mud in the engine compartment, like where did that come from",Weak,"Stick to the same describe you gave in the beginning, as your friend is changing their story up. ""You told me that there was a minor scratch on the car that wasn't there before you borrowed it."" ",,No,Let you friend know how you are feeling. It lowers their and your own defensiveness.,"First you said you returned it with a minor scratch. Now you are saying nothing happened to my car. I am feeling a bit confused. Can we get straight on the facts? When you returned my car there were scratches and dents, the bumper was falling off, and there was mud in the engine compartment. None of these things were there before I let you borrow my car.",Weak,"The assert came off as argumentative and judgmental in tone. Might be better as ""How did mud get in my engine compartment?"" But in general I would suggest stating this as a fact and sticking with your original ask. ",,No,,,No,,,banana,Yes,,"really, same car i regularly take for mechanic check up, there were mud in the engine compartment, like where did that come from",No,"Stick with your original goals, use emotion regulation skills to help.","First you said you returned it with a minor scratch. Now you are saying nothing happened to my car. I am feeling a bit confused. Can we get straight on the facts? When you returned my car there were scratches and dents, the bumper was falling off, and there was mud in the engine compartment. None of these things were there before I let you borrow my car.","The reason for the weak rating is that the utterance deviates from the initial description of the damage and introduces unrelated details, such as mud in the engine compartment, which distracts from the core issue of the car being dented. The suggestion emphasizes the need to maintain focus on the inconsistency in the friend's story regarding the car damage.","The utterance does not clearly convey your feelings about the situation with your friend and the car, therefore the rating for express is No. The suggestion implies that directly communicating your emotions would be more effective in reducing defensiveness for both parties.","The utterance comes across as confrontational and accusatory, which weakens the assertiveness. A more effective approach would be to directly state the observation of mud in the engine compartment and inquire about its origin in a neutral manner. Therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,,"The utterance shows a lack of focus on the original goal of addressing the accident and instead gets sidetracked by the presence of mud, indicating a lack of mindfulness. Therefore, the rating for mindful is No. The suggestion implies that maintaining composure and staying on topic would be more effective.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
55,55,55,6MM46P,8,my drive way is concrete and there was no such thing as rain,Strong,,,No,Let your friend know how you feel about how the conversation is going. This will help you stay mindful and increase the chances of you getting when you want.,I feel hurt that you are telling me I am imagining things. I take good care of my car and know its condition well.,No,,,No,People need reasons to give you what you want. Your friend might be worried about the impact of being honest on your relationship.,"I feel hurt that you are telling me I am imagining things. I take good care of my car and know its condition well. I want you to be honest with me that you damaged it and help pay for the repairs. We can stop arguing and move on with our friendship. I won't hold a grudge, I just want you to be honest.",No,,,banana,Yes,,my drive way is concrete and there was no such thing as rain,No,,"I feel hurt that you are telling me I am imagining things. I take good care of my car and know its condition well. I want you to be honest with me that you damaged it and help pay for the repairs. We can stop arguing and move on with our friendship. I won't hold a grudge, I just want you to be honest.","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.","The utterance does not convey your feelings about the situation with your friend and the car accident, therefore the rating for express is No.",,"The utterance does not provide a clear incentive or reason for your friend to be honest about the accident, which is necessary for effective reinforcement. Therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,,"The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
56,56,56,6MM46P,10,you ruined my car and I am sending you the bill of the damage you caused it,Weak,"My car has dents, scratches, mud in the engine compartment, and the bumper is not falling off. If I drive it I risk something else happening to it because it is so damaged. ",,No,,,Weak,"Be specific with what you want of your friend. ""I am sending you the bill and I would like for you to pay it back.""",,No,Give your friend a reason to pay the bill.,I am sending you the bill and I would like for you to pay it back. Then we can put this behind us.,No,They might be more likely to pay the bill if you show you are willing to be flexible with them and consider their circumstances.,I am sending you the bill and I would like for you to pay it back. Then we can put this behind us. We can talk about a timeline for this that works well for you if money is tight right now.,banana,Yes,,you ruined my car and I am sending you the bill of the damage you caused it,Yes,,you ruined my car and I am sending you the bill of the damage you caused it,"The utterance is overly dramatic and personalizes the incident, which may not accurately reflect the extent of the damage. The suggested description provides specific details about the car's condition without exaggeration or personal blame, making it a more accurate and objective account of the situation. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.",,"The utterance lacks clarity on the expected action from your friend, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.","The utterance does not provide any positive reinforcement or incentive for the friend to pay the bill, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance is confrontational and does not show willingness to be flexible or consider the friend's circumstances, therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
57,57,57,6MM46P,12,"oh yes you did and you know it, i already found out the truth because Jenny told me what you guys did the other day, but here you are lying to my face",Weak,You could tell your friend exactly what Jenny told you. ,,No,,,No,,,No,They're almost giving you what you want! Or at least the reimbursement part of it. Provide reinforcement to help make this more likely.,Thank you. I appreciate you being willing to work with me on this. It means a lot. Can we touch base tomorrow after I send you the bill?,No,,,banana,Yes,,"oh yes you did and you know it, i already found out the truth because Jenny told me what you guys did the other day, but here you are lying to my face",No,Stay with your goals. This utterance moved you farther away from it.,Thank you. I appreciate you being willing to work with me on this. It means a lot. Can we touch base tomorrow after I send you the bill?,"The utterance is confrontational and accusatory, which may not facilitate a constructive conversation. By focusing on the lie rather than the incident itself, it can provoke defensiveness rather than resolution. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.",,,"The utterance does not provide reinforcement as it focuses on confrontation and accusation rather than encouraging honesty or resolution, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance demonstrates a lack of mindfulness as it shows the speaker being carried away by emotions and confrontation, which moves them away from a constructive resolution, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
58,58,58,6MM46P,14,"you just wont admit what you did, that really awful and I thought you were my friend but its clear to me you not",No,,,Weak,"Make less attacking statements and more statements about how you feel. ""I feel hurt because honestly is a really important characteristics of my friendship with you, and that is being broken right now.""",,No,,,No,,,No,,,banana,Yes,,"you just wont admit what you did, that really awful and I thought you were my friend but its clear to me you not",Yes,,"you just wont admit what you did, that really awful and I thought you were my friend but its clear to me you not",,"The utterance does not focus enough on expressing personal feelings and instead comes across as confrontational. To strengthen the expressiveness, it would be better to emphasize the speaker's emotions and the impact of the friend's actions on their feelings. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
59,59,59,6MM46P,16,"thats the best you can say, if you can lie to me about this then i dont think we can continue to be friends",No,,,No,,,Weak,"Instead of setting this contingency, replace with an express. ""It is hard for me to trust you when I think you are lying to me.""",,No,Your friend is giving you what you want!,"I really appreciate you being willing to help out with the repair costs even if we disagree on some of the facts. That makes me trust you, and I see you value our friendship.",No,,,banana,Yes,,"thats the best you can say, if you can lie to me about this then i dont think we can continue to be friends",No,"Stick with your goals, ignore the rest.","I really appreciate you being willing to help out with the repair costs even if we disagree on some of the facts. That makes me trust you, and I see you value our friendship.",,,"The utterance does not clearly express your feelings or needs regarding the situation, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.","The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not reinforce rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance does not maintain focus on the speaker's goals and gets sidetracked by the other person's actions, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
60,60,60,6MM46P,18,"its clear to me that your ego wont let you give in to your mistake, but I am still sending you the bill for sure",No,,,No,,,Weak,"Drop the judgments (stuff about the go, ""for sure"") and stick with the ask. ""I will send you the bill. Can we follow up tomorrow?""",,No,,,No,,,banana,Yes,,"its clear to me that your ego wont let you give in to your mistake, but I am still sending you the bill for sure",No,,I appreciate you respecting my decisions. I will send you the bill. Can we follow up tomorrow?,,,"The utterance includes personal judgments and a confrontational tone, which weakens the assertiveness. Therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,,,"The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,my friend borrowed my car and hid the fact that he had a slight accident and dent my car
61,61,61,6UIHKC,0,I'm not happy with you any longer because you're owing me a lot of money promising to pay back soon but you haven't. ,Weak,"Be more specific with how much money, and how often, your friend is borrowing. ""You owe me $1,000 from the last time I lent you money. You promised to pay it back within a month, but it's been 6 months."" ",,Weak,"You are not unhappy with your friend, but with what they are doing. Be specific about that. Also be specific with the emotion that you are feeling. ""I am frustrated that I keep lending you money and don't get reimbursed.""",,No,,,No,,,No,,,banana,Yes,,I'm not happy with you any longer because you're owing me a lot of money promising to pay back soon but you haven't. ,Yes,,I'm not happy with you any longer because you're owing me a lot of money promising to pay back soon but you haven't. ,"The utterance lacks specificity regarding the amount of money owed and the frequency of borrowing, which makes it less effective in conveying the gravity of the situation. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance does not clearly convey the specific emotion you are feeling towards your colleague's actions, which is why the rating for express is Weak. You should articulate the precise emotion, such as frustration, to accurately express your feelings about the situation.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
62,62,62,6UIHKC,2,"You sound very ridiculous, I'm confronting you to pay me and you're asking for more money",Strong,,,No,,,No,,,No,Give them a stronger reason to give you what you want!,I'm confronting you to pay me and you're asking for more money. I am not going to give you more money. If you pay me back what you currently owe me we can discuss another loan.,No,,,banana,Yes,,"You sound very ridiculous, I'm confronting you to pay me and you're asking for more money",Yes,,"You sound very ridiculous, I'm confronting you to pay me and you're asking for more money","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.",,,"The utterance does not effectively encourage the colleague to repay the debt or deter them from asking for more money, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
63,63,63,6UIHKC,4,"Currently, I need the total money you owed me urgently because I have pressing needs I have to solve. Can't you change for ones?",Strong,,,No,,,Weak,"Say no again. ""Currently, I need the total money you owned me urgently because I have pressing needs I have to solve. I cannot lend you more money until I am paid back what you owe me.""",,No,,,Strong,,,banana,Yes,,"Currently, I need the total money you owed me urgently because I have pressing needs I have to solve. Can't you change for ones?",Yes,,"Currently, I need the total money you owed me urgently because I have pressing needs I have to solve. Can't you change for ones?","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.",,"The utterance does not firmly establish your boundaries regarding lending money, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
64,64,64,6UIHKC,6,It is better you have what to give me at this moment and I want to know how you intend to pay the rest of the money as soon as possible. ,No,,,Weak,"This doesn't make much sense, it might be hard for your colleague to understand. Also, it is important to be specific with what you mean by ""better."" It is better for you, but not really better for your friend! You might use express with, for example: ""I appreciate that you are willing to give me what you are able to in this moment.""",,Strong,,,No,Using reinforce will help your colleague accept a no and pay you back sooner.,I appreciate that you are willing to give me what you are able to in this moment. Can we come up with a plan for how you will pay back the rest of the money? Then we can think about how to get you the money you need for your expenses.,Strong,,,banana,Yes,,It is better you have what to give me at this moment and I want to know how you intend to pay the rest of the money as soon as possible. ,Yes,,It is better you have what to give me at this moment and I want to know how you intend to pay the rest of the money as soon as possible. ,,"The utterance lacks clarity and specificity, which may lead to confusion for your colleague. The term ""better"" is also subjective and not clearly defined in this context. To improve the expressiveness, you could articulate your appreciation for their current ability to repay, as suggested. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance does not effectively reinforce the desired behavior of repaying debts, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
65,65,65,6UIHKC,8,"You sound nice by saying by the month end but I urgently need money now, so I'm considering weekly payments ",No,,,Weak,"Express your appreciation for how they are behaving, not something about them. ""I see and appreciate that you're trying to pay the funds back by the end of this month.""",,Weak,"Be specific what you want something from them. ""Can you pay me back in four weekly installments rather than one lump sum at the end of the month?""",,Weak,"Be more specific than just nice. ""I know it is hard for you to pay me back and I see how hard you're working to do that. I admire your integrity and it makes me trust you more.""",,Strong,,,banana,Yes,,"You sound nice by saying by the month end but I urgently need money now, so I'm considering weekly payments ",Yes,,"You sound nice by saying by the month end but I urgently need money now, so I'm considering weekly payments ",,"The utterance does not effectively convey appreciation for the colleague's behavior or intentions, therefore the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance lacks clarity on the specific terms of repayment, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.","The utterance lacks specificity and does not effectively acknowledge the efforts of the other person in trying to repay the debt. Therefore, the rating for reinforce is Weak.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
66,66,66,6UIHKC,10,Actually I feel sad about all this because I gave you the money at once but you're breaking it in parts which would make the money not useful to me to solve my problem at once ,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,They are giving you exactly what you want.,Thank you.,No,,,banana,Yes,,Actually I feel sad about all this because I gave you the money at once but you're breaking it in parts which would make the money not useful to me to solve my problem at once ,No,Stick with the ask/negotiation.,"Thanks, that works ok for me. I appreciate it.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not effectively reinforce the desired behavior of repaying debts in full, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance does not focus on addressing the issue of repayment directly and gets sidetracked by expressing personal feelings, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
67,67,67,6UIHKC,12,How much do you intend to pay weekly until you pay the last penny you owe?,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,banana,Yes,,How much do you intend to pay weekly until you pay the last penny you owe?,Yes,,How much do you intend to pay weekly until you pay the last penny you owe?,,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
68,68,68,6UIHKC,14,How many weeks do you think it'll take you to complete the total payment because I'm considering if you should increase it a bit,No,,,No,,,Weak,Keep your assert to just one ask. In this case you are wondering how long the payment will take and also vaguely threatening to increase it. ,,No,You're getting when you asked for!,"I appreciate that, thank you so much.",No,,,banana,Yes,,How many weeks do you think it'll take you to complete the total payment because I'm considering if you should increase it a bit,No,"I appreciate that, thank you so much.","I appreciate that, thank you so much.",,,"The utterance presents a question and a subtle suggestion rather than a clear assertion of your needs or boundaries, therefore the rating for assert is Weak.","The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not provide positive reinforcement or encouragement regarding the repayment of the debt, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not align with the speaker's goal of addressing the issue of unpaid debts and instead potentially enables further borrowing, therefore, the rating for mindful is No. The suggestion provided does not relate to the context or address the issue of being mindful in the conversation.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
69,69,69,6UIHKC,16,I would really like you to maintain this weekly payment as you've agreed to pay the fixed amount. I won't want any disappointment from you this time! ,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,banana,Yes,,I would really like you to maintain this weekly payment as you've agreed to pay the fixed amount. I won't want any disappointment from you this time! ,Yes,,I would really like you to maintain this weekly payment as you've agreed to pay the fixed amount. I won't want any disappointment from you this time! ,,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
70,70,70,6UIHKC,18,"I'll be very happy and  relieved if you could stick to this agreement and finish the payment as we've agreed. Trust me, with this, I'll always help you whenever I can.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,banana,Yes,,"I'll be very happy and  relieved if you could stick to this agreement and finish the payment as we've agreed. Trust me, with this, I'll always help you whenever I can.",Yes,,"I'll be very happy and  relieved if you could stick to this agreement and finish the payment as we've agreed. Trust me, with this, I'll always help you whenever I can.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague keep borrowing money from me without completely paying her old debts, and she don't feel ashamed to come asking despite I've confronted her several times about it. But I don't know her to refuse lending to her because I have it and can't lie I don't have any money "
71,71,71,7DSZUA,0,"its quite alarming how you have changed over the years, everyone else is seeing this but apparently you are not",Weak,Try being more specific with your Describe – examples help!,"You used to [insert example of past behavior], and now you [insert example of how it's changed]. Other people have commented on this to me, such as [insert people who have mentioned this concern].",Weak,"Try focusing more on your feelings with ""I"" statements - those can't be argued with!","You used to [insert example of past behavior], and now you [insert example of how it's changed]. Other people have commented on this to me, such as [insert people who have mentioned this concern]. I care about you a lot, so I feel concerned and upset about this change.",No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"its quite alarming how you have changed over the years, everyone else is seeing this but apparently you are not",Yes,,"its quite alarming how you have changed over the years, everyone else is seeing this but apparently you are not","The utterance is vague and lacks specific examples of how the sister's behavior has changed, which would make the description clearer and more impactful. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance does not strongly convey your personal feelings as it lacks ""I"" statements that would make the expression more personal and impactful. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
72,72,72,7DSZUA,2,"you obviously should be making a good examples to others, my kids look up to you and seeing you like this is killing me because I cannot watch you destroy your life like this",No,,,Weak,Try using more non-judgmental language here and focusing on your feelings.,You are so important to me and it's painful for me to watch you struggle this much. I also know how much my kids look up to you and I feel concerned that they might start smoking too.,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"you obviously should be making a good examples to others, my kids look up to you and seeing you like this is killing me because I cannot watch you destroy your life like this",Yes,,"you obviously should be making a good examples to others, my kids look up to you and seeing you like this is killing me because I cannot watch you destroy your life like this",,"The utterance does not sufficiently convey your personal feelings in a non-judgmental way, therefore the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
73,73,73,7DSZUA,4,"you yourself at the mirror, look back five years from today, there is serious difference and you know it, you not treating yourself right and your body might just break down soonest if you dont do othing about it",Weak,Try being more specific with your Describe – examples help!,"I can see the negative impact of smoking on your body. For instance, [provide specific examples].",No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"you yourself at the mirror, look back five years from today, there is serious difference and you know it, you not treating yourself right and your body might just break down soonest if you dont do othing about it",Yes,,"you yourself at the mirror, look back five years from today, there is serious difference and you know it, you not treating yourself right and your body might just break down soonest if you dont do othing about it","The utterance is vague and lacks specific examples that illustrate the negative effects of smoking on your sister's health. It relies on general statements without providing concrete evidence or details that could help your sister recognize the severity of her situation. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
74,74,74,7DSZUA,6,"even if you think it has nothing to do with it, why not at least get to see a physician and know for sure if anything is wrong",No,,,No,,,Weak,It's helpful to be very clear with your Assert - express this as something that you would like to happen.,I would like you to see a physician and know for sure if anything is wrong.,No,Remind your sister of the benefits that would come with honoring your request.,"I would like you to see a physician and know for sure if anything is wrong. That way, you and I can both have peace of mind.",No,,,bear,Yes,,"even if you think it has nothing to do with it, why not at least get to see a physician and know for sure if anything is wrong",Yes,,"even if you think it has nothing to do with it, why not at least get to see a physician and know for sure if anything is wrong",,,"The utterance does not strongly express your desire for your sister to see a physician; it is phrased as a suggestion rather than a clear expression of your wishes. Therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.","The utterance does not emphasize the positive outcomes of seeing a physician, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
75,75,75,7DSZUA,8,"you  were full of life when we were young, we had series of adventures together, you were the positive ones and you had great idea about how you want you life to be like but today look at you",Weak,Try using more non-judgmental language here and focus on describing the details.,We had fun together when we were young and now I'm noticing that I don't see you smile as often.,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"you  were full of life when we were young, we had series of adventures together, you were the positive ones and you had great idea about how you want you life to be like but today look at you",Yes,,"you  were full of life when we were young, we had series of adventures together, you were the positive ones and you had great idea about how you want you life to be like but today look at you","The utterance includes judgmental language and a negative comparison of past and present, which can be perceived as critical rather than descriptive. To improve the rating, it should focus on specific details without expressing disapproval, thus the reason for the 'Weak' rating is the judgmental tone and lack of neutral description.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
76,76,76,7DSZUA,10,"no you not, you are 30 years older than you look, you always feel tired, you now look old with pale skin and you wont admit it",Weak,Try using more non-judgmental language here and focusing on the facts.,You've often told me that you feel more tired than you used to.,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"no you not, you are 30 years older than you look, you always feel tired, you now look old with pale skin and you wont admit it",Yes,,"no you not, you are 30 years older than you look, you always feel tired, you now look old with pale skin and you wont admit it","The utterance is judgmental and uses harsh language, which may not be constructive or supportive in addressing the issue of smoking addiction. It lacks a focus on objective facts and instead includes personal opinions about appearance and denial, which can be perceived as accusatory. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
77,77,77,7DSZUA,12,"why cant you see that all this recent condition only started when you took on the habit of smoking, I am trying to help you here",No,,,Weak,Try focusing more on your feelings - those can't be argued with!,I feel frustrated when we try to talk about this together and really sad when I think about how it's impacting our relationship.,No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"why cant you see that all this recent condition only started when you took on the habit of smoking, I am trying to help you here",Yes,,"why cant you see that all this recent condition only started when you took on the habit of smoking, I am trying to help you here",,"The utterance does not strongly convey your personal feelings about the situation, therefore the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
78,78,78,7DSZUA,14,"the other day you just collapse and refuse to get medical help, its getting worse by the day, why are you refusing help",Weak,Try sticking to the facts here.,"The other day I watched you collapse and when I tried to call for medical help, you refused. ",No,Expressing how you feel about this situation will help keep the conversation on track and focused on your relationship with your sister.,"The other day I watched you collapse and when I tried to call for medical help, you refused. I care about you and this kind of thing makes me feel afraid for your health.",No,,,No,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"the other day you just collapse and refuse to get medical help, its getting worse by the day, why are you refusing help",Yes,,"the other day you just collapse and refuse to get medical help, its getting worse by the day, why are you refusing help","The utterance includes an emotional appeal and expresses concern, which may not strictly adhere to factual statements. It also includes a question that implies judgment on the sister's actions. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak because the utterance could benefit from focusing solely on observable facts without incorporating emotional elements or implied judgments.","The utterance does not convey your personal feelings about the situation, therefore the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
79,79,79,7DSZUA,16,"why not see a doctor ad when he says you fine then the rest of the family could be rest assured that you fine, everyone is worried sick about you",No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,Remind your sister of the benefits that she would get if she honored your request.,"why not see a doctor ad when he says you fine then the rest of the family could be rest assured that you fine, everyone is worried sick about you. You could also feel more confident in your health.",No,,,bear,Yes,,"why not see a doctor ad when he says you fine then the rest of the family could be rest assured that you fine, everyone is worried sick about you",Yes,,"why not see a doctor ad when he says you fine then the rest of the family could be rest assured that you fine, everyone is worried sick about you",,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The reason for the 'No' rating is that the utterance does not effectively remind the sister of the personal benefits of seeing a doctor, which would be a form of positive reinforcement. Instead, it focuses on alleviating the family's worries, which may not be a compelling motivator for her.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
80,80,80,7DSZUA,18,for the sake of mom and dad just see a doctor once and give them that assurance that you fine,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,bear,Yes,,for the sake of mom and dad just see a doctor once and give them that assurance that you fine,Yes,,for the sake of mom and dad just see a doctor once and give them that assurance that you fine,,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
81,81,81,7DSZUA,20,"you dont want them to always be thinking about you, considering their age, i believe getting them rest assured about your health is also good for your health, they love you too much you know, you have always been their favorite and seeing you like this break their heart",No,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"you dont want them to always be thinking about you, considering their age, i believe getting them rest assured about your health is also good for your health, they love you too much you know, you have always been their favorite and seeing you like this break their heart",Yes,,"you dont want them to always be thinking about you, considering their age, i believe getting them rest assured about your health is also good for your health, they love you too much you know, you have always been their favorite and seeing you like this break their heart",,,,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
82,82,82,7DSZUA,22,if you love them you should considering doing this one thing for them considering the number of sacrifices they have done for you,No,,,No,,,No,,,Weak,Try using less judgmental language - that will reduce the odds of your sister responding with defensiveness.,"I know that you love them and don't want them to be concerned. If you go to the doctor, they will feel much more at peace, which I know you care about.",No,,,bear,Yes,,if you love them you should considering doing this one thing for them considering the number of sacrifices they have done for you,Yes,,if you love them you should considering doing this one thing for them considering the number of sacrifices they have done for you,,,,"The utterance may come across as judgmental and could lead to a defensive response, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Weak.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My sister struggles with smoking addiction and this has been having negative effect on her health but she wont admit , she wont see a doctor nor does she want to reduce or quit smoking"
83,83,83,MFQI4L,0,I know you are my mom but you are beginning  to annoy me with your attitude,No,"You can consider using the ""Describe"" strategy here to help set up the situation and explain it in objective terms","You've been involving yourself in my family's affairs recently, and when you do so I feel annoyed",Weak,"phrase the situation in ""I"" terms (first-person) rather than ""you"" terms (second-person)",I know you are my mom but I feel annoyed when you get involved in my family's affairs,No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,I know you are my mom but you are beginning  to annoy me with your attitude,Yes,,I know you are my mom but you are beginning  to annoy me with your attitude,"The utterance directly expresses personal feelings without objectively describing the situation, which does not align with the ""Describe"" strategy. Therefore, the rating for describe is No.","The utterance does not strongly express your feelings because it focuses on your mom's actions rather than your personal experience, therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
84,84,84,MFQI4L,2,"its not about sharing experience, I have my own ways of dealing with my family matters and i dont expect you to intrude every time there is a problem",Weak,You should try to describe the situation in more objective terms based on what has actually happened,I have successfully dealt with my family matters on my own in the past and i dont expect you to intrude every time there is a problem,Weak,You should describe your wants more explicitly,"its not about sharing experience, I have my own ways of dealing with my family matters and I don't want you to share your experience in these moments",No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,"its not about sharing experience, I have my own ways of dealing with my family matters and i dont expect you to intrude every time there is a problem",Yes,,"its not about sharing experience, I have my own ways of dealing with my family matters and i dont expect you to intrude every time there is a problem","The utterance expresses personal feelings and boundaries rather than objectively describing the situation, which may not provide a clear, unbiased account of events. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance does not clearly convey your personal desires regarding your mother's involvement, hence the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
85,85,85,MFQI4L,4,"telling my kids what to do after i have given them an instruction even though it goes contrary to what i said, whats that exactly",Weak,"You should try to speak in specific, factual terms rather than generalizations",The other day you told my kids to do something contrary to my previous instruction,No,"You can consider using the ""Express"" strategy here because it goes well with your description of the events, and helps make the description more useful","when you told my kids what to do after I had just given them an instruction even though it was contrary to what I said, I felt frustrated and stressed",No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,"telling my kids what to do after i have given them an instruction even though it goes contrary to what i said, whats that exactly",No,Don't get off topic by bringing up a previous incident and asking about it / instigating another argument,The other day you told my kids to do something contrary to my previous instruction which made me feel frustrated and stressed,"The utterance uses vague and generalized language without providing specific examples or clear facts, which leads to a Weak rating for describe.","The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not currently employ the ""Express"" strategy, which would enhance the description of the events and make it more impactful. Therefore, the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance deviates from the present conversation by referencing a past event, which could lead to further conflict, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
86,86,86,MFQI4L,6,you are trying make my kids rebelious as you begining to spoil them,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,"You can consider using the ""Reinforce"" strategy here because it shows your mom the positive outcome of what listening to you would bring",It would be a lot easier on me as a parent if you didn't give my kids conflicting instructions ,No,,,otter,Yes,,you are trying make my kids rebelious as you begining to spoil them,No,Keep your focus on your ultimate goal of having your mom be less involved in your family matters -- don't make assumptions about her behavior that could distract from this,It would be a lot easier on me as a parent if you didn't give my kids conflicting instructions,,,,"The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not demonstrate the use of positive reinforcement towards the mother's behavior, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance includes assumptions about the mother's impact on the children, which could detract from the speaker's main objective of setting boundaries with their mom. Therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
87,87,87,MFQI4L,8,"what about my husband, when ever we have any little issue, i wonder how you find out about it, you just come in and try to tell us what to do like we are children",Weak,You should speak in more explicit and less generalized terms and stick to the facts,In the past you have also made comments about issues my husband and I have had with each other,Weak,You should state your feelings more explicitly ,"what about my husband, when ever we have any little issue, I feel confused when you just come in and try to tell us what to do. This makes me feel insulted and patronized",No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,"what about my husband, when ever we have any little issue, i wonder how you find out about it, you just come in and try to tell us what to do like we are children",Yes,,"what about my husband, when ever we have any little issue, i wonder how you find out about it, you just come in and try to tell us what to do like we are children","The utterance is vague and uses generalized statements without providing specific examples or sticking to factual information, which leads to a Weak rating for describe.","The utterance does not clearly convey your personal feelings about the situation, therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
88,88,88,MFQI4L,10,the only thing i want now is for you to give me some space and allow me be the woman i am,No,,,No,,,Weak,"You should be more specific about what ""giving some space"" looks like so that your mom knows exactly what you want from her",What i want is for you to give me some space by not giving my children conflicting instructions and making suggestions to me and my husband,No,"You can consider using the ""Reinforce"" strategy here to explain the benefits of how your mom changing her behavior will improve your relationship","What I want now is for you to give me some space and allow me be the woman I am, which would make me feel so relieved and less overwhelmed, and feel more understood by you",No,,,otter,Yes,,the only thing i want now is for you to give me some space and allow me be the woman i am,Yes,,the only thing i want now is for you to give me some space and allow me be the woman i am,,,"The utterance is vague about what ""giving some space"" entails, which may not clearly communicate your needs to your mom, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.","The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not include positive reinforcement or explain the benefits of the desired behavior change, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
89,89,89,MFQI4L,12,"exactly, I am not trying to make you an outsider but i am a woman and i deserve to take care of my family without any ones input",No,,,Weak,You should express your desire to not make your mom an outsider in more explicit feeling terms ,"exactly, I don't want you to feel like an outsider but i am a woman and i deserve to take care of my family without any ones input",Weak,You should ask clearly for what you want differently from your mom ,"exactly, I am not trying to make you an outsider and at the same time I would really like to be able to take care of my family in my own way without your input or suggestions",No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,"exactly, I am not trying to make you an outsider but i am a woman and i deserve to take care of my family without any ones input",No,Don't get distracted by talking about what you deserve as a woman and instead stick to the concrete goal of having your mom be less involved,"exactly, I don't want you to feel like an outsider and at the same time I would really like to be able to take care of my family in my own way without your input or suggestions",,"The utterance does not strongly convey your feelings about not wanting to make your mom feel like an outsider, therefore, the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance does not directly state your needs or boundaries regarding your family space, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,,"The utterance gets sidetracked by discussing the speaker's rights as a woman rather than focusing directly on the issue of the mother's involvement, hence the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
90,90,90,MFQI4L,14,"just so you know, if there is any time we need your input on our family issue i would do well to get you involve",No,,,No,,,Weak,Be more specific about your ask for help in these situations,"Yes, and when a time comes up when I feel like I do want your input, I would also appreciate it if I could ask for your advice",No,"You can consider using the ""Reinforce"" strategy here because your mom may not know that you also would really like and value her opinion in some situations ","just so you know, if there is any time we need your input on our family issue i would like to be able to get you involved, and it would make me feel very close to you to know that I could ask for your help in these situations",No,,,otter,Yes,,"just so you know, if there is any time we need your input on our family issue i would do well to get you involve",Yes,,"just so you know, if there is any time we need your input on our family issue i would do well to get you involve",,,"The utterance is vague and indirect about when or how you might want help, which makes the assertiveness weak.","The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not currently acknowledge or encourage the positive behavior of the mother offering help, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
91,91,91,MFQI4L,16,i promise you I would be the best to my kids and teach them same way you have taught me,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,Weak,You can try framing this in a way that reassures your mom's concerns,"I hear that you also want what's best for my kids. In the moments where I don't want advice or suggestions, I want you to know that I will do my very best to parent them and teach them in the same way that you taught me which was so helpful",otter,Yes,,i promise you I would be the best to my kids and teach them same way you have taught me,Yes,,i promise you I would be the best to my kids and teach them same way you have taught me,,,,,"The utterance does not address the issue of intrusion or set boundaries, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Weak.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
92,92,92,MFQI4L,18,"I know how peaceful you want my marriage to be, and i promise nothing would come between my husband and I",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,otter,Yes,,"I know how peaceful you want my marriage to be, and i promise nothing would come between my husband and I",Yes,,"I know how peaceful you want my marriage to be, and i promise nothing would come between my husband and I",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,my mom always like to intrude into my family space and try to school me on how to manage my family
93,93,93,NX3BAM,0,"I went out for drinks with a colleague from work, nothing more, nothing less. I am not dating anyone from the office as a coworker has reported.",Strong,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,"I went out for drinks with a colleague from work, nothing more, nothing less. I am not dating anyone from the office as a coworker has reported.",Yes,,"I went out for drinks with a colleague from work, nothing more, nothing less. I am not dating anyone from the office as a coworker has reported.","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.",,,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
94,94,94,NX3BAM,2,"I feel like this wouldn't be an issue if it was one of my guy colleagues, which is why I think this suspension and investigation are a misuse of company resources.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,You can consider using the “Reinforce” strategy here because your boss may need more buy-in to see how your solution will be better for them,"I feel like this wouldn't be an issue if it was one of my guy colleagues, which is why I think this suspension and investigation are a misuse of company resources, and that suspending me based on this information alone will hurt the company’s productivity ",No,,,otter,Yes,,"I feel like this wouldn't be an issue if it was one of my guy colleagues, which is why I think this suspension and investigation are a misuse of company resources.",Yes,,"I feel like this wouldn't be an issue if it was one of my guy colleagues, which is why I think this suspension and investigation are a misuse of company resources.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance does not effectively reinforce rewards for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
95,95,95,NX3BAM,4,"I would really appreciate it if you didn't suspend me. If the colleague came forward to corroborate my statement, can we stop the suspension and investigation?",No,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,otter,Yes,,"I would really appreciate it if you didn't suspend me. If the colleague came forward to corroborate my statement, can we stop the suspension and investigation?",Yes,,"I would really appreciate it if you didn't suspend me. If the colleague came forward to corroborate my statement, can we stop the suspension and investigation?",,,,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
96,96,96,NX3BAM,6,"There are no allegations of workplace romance or public displays of affection, which makes this allegation a complete sham. There is no way that anyone can justifiably suspend an employee for simply having drinks with a colleague.",Weak,Be more factual and less subjective / emotional in your description,"There is no evidence of workplace romance or public displays of affection, simply that two individuals got drinks together, which is a common occurrence among colleagues. There is no rule in the company policy against this.",No,"To refrain from getting argumentative, you could try inserting some “Express” strategies and stating your feelings and opinions plainly","There are no allegations of workplace romance or public displays of affection, which makes this allegation a complete sham. There is no way that anyone can justifiably suspend an employee for simply having drinks with a colleague, and this expectation is not a part of our policy. I feel that it is unfair to hold us to standards that are not included or outlined to us in our company policy. ",No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,"There are no allegations of workplace romance or public displays of affection, which makes this allegation a complete sham. There is no way that anyone can justifiably suspend an employee for simply having drinks with a colleague.",Yes,,"There are no allegations of workplace romance or public displays of affection, which makes this allegation a complete sham. There is no way that anyone can justifiably suspend an employee for simply having drinks with a colleague.","The utterance presents a subjective opinion and emotional language, suggesting bias and a lack of neutrality, which is why the rating for describe is Weak.","The utterance lacks a clear expression of personal feelings or opinions, which is why the rating for express is No. To improve, you could explicitly state your feelings about the situation.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
97,97,97,NX3BAM,8,"There was no improper conduct and if a coworker alleges that there was, they are lying.",Strong,,,Weak,You should avoid starting your opinions as fact,There was no improper conduct and I feel disappointed as though my statements are not being taken as seriously as my coworker’s.,No,,,No,You can consider using the “Reinforce” strategy because it makes it more clear to your boss what you’re goal is out of this conversation,"There was no improper conduct and if a coworker alleges that there was, they are lying. I would really like to come to a solution where I don’t get punished before an investigation is completed.",No,You can consider using the “Negotiate” strategy because it shows your boss that you’re willing to give a little to get something and work with him,"There was no improper conduct and if a coworker alleges that there was, they are lying. How can we come to a solution that doesn’t result in me getting punished before a result is found to the investigation?",otter,Yes,,"There was no improper conduct and if a coworker alleges that there was, they are lying.",No,Try not to get distracted by starting to talk about the coworker that reported you and stay focused on your goal for yourself and your own job,There was no improper conduct and I feel disappointed as though my statements are not being taken as seriously as my coworker’s.,"The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.","The utterance presents your perspective as an absolute truth rather than as your personal viewpoint, which does not effectively convey the subjective nature of your experience. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,"The utterance does not include positive reinforcement or encouragement regarding the situation, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance does not demonstrate a willingness to work with the boss or offer any concessions, therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance gets sidetracked by addressing the coworker's actions instead of focusing on the speaker's own situation and defense, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
98,98,98,NX3BAM,10,"At the very least, I should be suspended with pay. This practice of suspending coworkers without pay could incentivize employees to falsely report anyone they don't like for workplace romances.",No,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,Weak,Try to be open and non emotional about alternative solutions to show that you are being collaborative ,One potential alternative solution is to suspend me with pay. This practice of suspending coworkers without pay could incentivize employees to falsely report anyone they don't like for workplace romances.,otter,Yes,,"At the very least, I should be suspended with pay. This practice of suspending coworkers without pay could incentivize employees to falsely report anyone they don't like for workplace romances.",Yes,,"At the very least, I should be suspended with pay. This practice of suspending coworkers without pay could incentivize employees to falsely report anyone they don't like for workplace romances.",,,,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.","The utterance fails to present alternative solutions in a collaborative manner and instead focuses on potential negative consequences, which is why the rating for negotiate is Weak.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
99,99,99,NX3BAM,12,"I would feel much better about this situation if I knew the allegations against me or that there were better policies in place that didn't automatically punish anyone accused of inter-office relationships, just for getting drinks after work.",No,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,"I would feel much better about this situation if I knew the allegations against me or that there were better policies in place that didn't automatically punish anyone accused of inter-office relationships, just for getting drinks after work.",Yes,,"I would feel much better about this situation if I knew the allegations against me or that there were better policies in place that didn't automatically punish anyone accused of inter-office relationships, just for getting drinks after work.",,,,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
100,100,100,NX3BAM,14,I would like to know a timeline for the suspension and investigation. This information would make me much more willing to comply with the investigation.,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,I would like to know a timeline for the suspension and investigation. This information would make me much more willing to comply with the investigation.,Yes,,I would like to know a timeline for the suspension and investigation. This information would make me much more willing to comply with the investigation.,,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
101,101,101,NX3BAM,16,"Perhaps, you could tell me about how long the average investigation into similar allegations have taken?",No,,,No,,,No,,,No,"You can consider using the ""Reinforce"" strategy here to provide a potential reward for your boss negotiating with you.","Perhaps, you could tell me about how long the average investigation into similar allegations have taken? I would feel much more secure in this job position if I could gauge how long I will be without pay, and may need to look into additional support so that I can feel financially stable during this time.",Strong,,,otter,No,"You can stand to be more assertive with this request of your boss, rather than making a more passive suggestion",Could you then tell me about how long the average investigation into similar allegations have taken?,Yes,,"Perhaps, you could tell me about how long the average investigation into similar allegations have taken?",,,,"The utterance does not provide a potential reward for the boss negotiating, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance lacks assertiveness and comes across as passive, which does not convey confidence effectively, therefore, the rating for confident is No.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
102,102,102,NX3BAM,18,"I feel like I wont be able to pay my bills and will have to look for work elsewhere, without knowing how long the investigation will take.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Weak,,"I feel like I wont be able to pay my bills and will have to look for work elsewhere, without knowing how long the investigation will take. I like this job and don't want to look for alternatives, so it would be helpful to have a timeframe for how long I should expect to be out of work.",No,,,otter,Yes,,"I feel like I wont be able to pay my bills and will have to look for work elsewhere, without knowing how long the investigation will take.",Yes,,"I feel like I wont be able to pay my bills and will have to look for work elsewhere, without knowing how long the investigation will take.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The reason for the rating is not provided as the suggestion is 'nan', indicating that there is no specific feedback given to explain why the Reinforce rating is Weak. Without additional context or a suggestion, it is not possible to infer the reason for the rating.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
103,103,103,NX3BAM,20,I would like to be compensated for the time I am suspended if and when I am absolved of any wrong doing. I should not be punished for something I did not do.,No,,,No,,,Weak,"You can try phrasing your ask more assertively, using ""I want"" rather than ""should"".",I would like to be compensated for the time I am suspended if and when I am absolved of any wrong doing. I do not want to be punished for something I did not do.,No,,,No,"You can consider using the ""Negotiate"" strategy here because your boss has denied your request for pay several times already, so it may be helpful to turn the problem over to them for a potential solution",I would like to be compensated for the time I am suspended if and when I am absolved of any wrong doing. I should not be punished for something I did not do. How can we come to a compromise on this? ,otter,Yes,,I would like to be compensated for the time I am suspended if and when I am absolved of any wrong doing. I should not be punished for something I did not do.,Yes,,I would like to be compensated for the time I am suspended if and when I am absolved of any wrong doing. I should not be punished for something I did not do.,,,"The utterance does not strongly convey your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,"The utterance does not attempt to engage in a negotiation or offer alternative solutions, therefore the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My boss has told me that my employer is going to suspend me, without pay, pending an investigation into an inter-office relationship. I went out for drinks with a colleague and one of our coworkers saw us out and reported us, even though we were just hanging out as friends."
104,104,104,PM7MIC,0,"Hey, I've noticed that you've been spending a lot of time on your computer recently and it's been affecting your schoolwork. I'm concerned about your grades and your future, and I think we should discuss finding a better balance between your computer time and school responsibilities.",Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"Hey, I've noticed that you've been spending a lot of time on your computer recently and it's been affecting your schoolwork. I'm concerned about your grades and your future, and I think we should discuss finding a better balance between your computer time and school responsibilities.",Yes,,"Hey, I've noticed that you've been spending a lot of time on your computer recently and it's been affecting your schoolwork. I'm concerned about your grades and your future, and I think we should discuss finding a better balance between your computer time and school responsibilities.","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.","The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
105,105,105,PM7MIC,2,"I understand that you might not be failing right now, but I believe there's room for improvement. Your education is important for your future, and I want to make sure you have the best opportunities. Balancing your online activities with schoolwork can help you in the long run. We can find ways to make school more engaging too if you're finding it boring.",No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,grape,Yes,,"I understand that you might not be failing right now, but I believe there's room for improvement. Your education is important for your future, and I want to make sure you have the best opportunities. Balancing your online activities with schoolwork can help you in the long run. We can find ways to make school more engaging too if you're finding it boring.",Yes,,"I understand that you might not be failing right now, but I believe there's room for improvement. Your education is important for your future, and I want to make sure you have the best opportunities. Balancing your online activities with schoolwork can help you in the long run. We can find ways to make school more engaging too if you're finding it boring.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
106,106,106,PM7MIC,4," I appreciate that you've finished your homework, but it's not just about completing assignments. It's about maintaining a healthy balance. Spending excessive time on the computer can affect your overall well-being, and it's important to have time for other activities, like physical exercise and spending time with family. I want you to have a well-rounded life and not miss out on important experiences.",No,,,Weak,I would suggest to use express more heavily to express appreciation and understanding of the other person's point of view. ,I appreciate that you have finished your schoolwork. I can see that you know the importance of that and are responsible of your learning. ,Strong,,,Weak,"Instead of only listing alternative activities that the son coulding be doing, take a step further and list out some benefits of doing exercise. ","Activities such as physical exercise could be a great social tool as well (if computer serves a social functioning for the son). At the same time, you will have better physical health, feel more energetic, and can do more fun stuff with you friends while getting good grades. ",No,Negotiate is about knowing what the other person wants and offer solutions that can help both parties to each an agreeable goal. ,"I appreciate that you've finished your homework, but it's not just about completing assignments. It's about maintaining a healthy balance. I understand that computer is where you communicate and socialize with your friends. At the same time, there are many ways of socializing that can strenthen your friendship while bring you other benefits. Are you open to talk about those alternatives?",grape,Yes,," I appreciate that you've finished your homework, but it's not just about completing assignments. It's about maintaining a healthy balance. Spending excessive time on the computer can affect your overall well-being, and it's important to have time for other activities, like physical exercise and spending time with family. I want you to have a well-rounded life and not miss out on important experiences.",Yes,," I appreciate that you've finished your homework, but it's not just about completing assignments. It's about maintaining a healthy balance. Spending excessive time on the computer can affect your overall well-being, and it's important to have time for other activities, like physical exercise and spending time with family. I want you to have a well-rounded life and not miss out on important experiences.",,"The utterance does not strongly convey appreciation or understanding of the other person's perspective, therefore the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance does not strongly reinforce the desired behavior because it lacks specific encouragement for engaging in alternative activities and their benefits, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Weak.","The utterance does not actively seek to understand the son's perspective or offer a compromise that addresses both parties' needs, therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
107,107,107,PM7MIC,6,"I'm glad you're open to finding a compromise. That's a positive step. I think your idea of finishing your work before using the computer is a good one. It ensures that your responsibilities come first, and then you can enjoy your computer time without feeling guilty. Let's give that a try and see how it works for both of us.",No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Weak,Add in more reinforcers for the son to motivate behavior change. ,"It ensures that your responsibilities come first, get good grads, you can enjoy your computer time fully, and most importantly, I'll be off your back (if the son finds this type of conversation annoying or bothersome)!",Weak,I suggest you to re-state your goal and the other person's goal before start finding solutions. ,"I'm glad you're open to finding a compromise. That's a positive step. I think your idea of finishing your work before using the computer is a good one. It ensures that your responsibilities come first, and then you can enjoy your computer time without feeling guilty.  My goal here is for you take advantage of the education and prepare for you future and I also want you to have fun. And I understand that computer and relax time is important for you. Let's make a plan so that both of our goals will be met",grape,Yes,,"I'm glad you're open to finding a compromise. That's a positive step. I think your idea of finishing your work before using the computer is a good one. It ensures that your responsibilities come first, and then you can enjoy your computer time without feeling guilty. Let's give that a try and see how it works for both of us.",Yes,,"I'm glad you're open to finding a compromise. That's a positive step. I think your idea of finishing your work before using the computer is a good one. It ensures that your responsibilities come first, and then you can enjoy your computer time without feeling guilty. Let's give that a try and see how it works for both of us.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance does not provide sufficient motivation or positive reinforcement for the son's behavior change, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Weak.","The utterance does not restate both parties' goals before suggesting a solution, which is essential for a clear negotiation, therefore the rating for negotiate is Weak.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
108,108,108,PM7MIC,8,"I'm glad you're willing to try the compromise. I completely understand that school can sometimes feel less engaging. Let's definitely work together to find ways to make your school experience more interesting and tailored to your needs. We can explore different learning approaches and extracurricular activities that align with your interests. Your education is important, and we'll do our best to make it more enjoyable for you.",No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Weak,"Lean more heavily on reinforcing the desirable response-in this case, is the compromise. ","I am glad that you are willing to compromise! I can see that you did not completely ignore your schoolwork, and quite the opposite, you have been putting into the effort to make sure school work is on track . ",Strong,,,grape,Yes,,"I'm glad you're willing to try the compromise. I completely understand that school can sometimes feel less engaging. Let's definitely work together to find ways to make your school experience more interesting and tailored to your needs. We can explore different learning approaches and extracurricular activities that align with your interests. Your education is important, and we'll do our best to make it more enjoyable for you.",Yes,,"I'm glad you're willing to try the compromise. I completely understand that school can sometimes feel less engaging. Let's definitely work together to find ways to make your school experience more interesting and tailored to your needs. We can explore different learning approaches and extracurricular activities that align with your interests. Your education is important, and we'll do our best to make it more enjoyable for you.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance does not emphasize the positive behavior of agreeing to a compromise enough, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Weak.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
109,109,109,PM7MIC,10,I really appreciate your willingness to work together on this. It means a lot to me that you're thinking about your future. Let's explore some exciting learning opportunities and activities together. ,No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,grape,Yes,,I really appreciate your willingness to work together on this. It means a lot to me that you're thinking about your future. Let's explore some exciting learning opportunities and activities together. ,Yes,,I really appreciate your willingness to work together on this. It means a lot to me that you're thinking about your future. Let's explore some exciting learning opportunities and activities together. ,,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
110,110,110,PM7MIC,12,"You're very welcome! I'm thrilled that we're on the same page, and I'm here to support you in any way I can. Together, we can create a balanced and fulfilling path for your future. If you ever have questions or need help along the way, don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here for you.",No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,grape,Yes,,"You're very welcome! I'm thrilled that we're on the same page, and I'm here to support you in any way I can. Together, we can create a balanced and fulfilling path for your future. If you ever have questions or need help along the way, don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here for you.",Yes,,"You're very welcome! I'm thrilled that we're on the same page, and I'm here to support you in any way I can. Together, we can create a balanced and fulfilling path for your future. If you ever have questions or need help along the way, don't hesitate to reach out. I'm here for you.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
111,111,111,PM7MIC,14,"Thank you so much for your kind words. It warms my heart to hear that, and I'm truly grateful for the opportunity to be your parent. We'll definitely keep the conversation going, and I'm excited to see you thrive as we work together to strike that perfect balance. Your happiness and success mean everything to me.",No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"Thank you so much for your kind words. It warms my heart to hear that, and I'm truly grateful for the opportunity to be your parent. We'll definitely keep the conversation going, and I'm excited to see you thrive as we work together to strike that perfect balance. Your happiness and success mean everything to me.",Yes,,"Thank you so much for your kind words. It warms my heart to hear that, and I'm truly grateful for the opportunity to be your parent. We'll definitely keep the conversation going, and I'm excited to see you thrive as we work together to strike that perfect balance. Your happiness and success mean everything to me.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
112,112,112,PM7MIC,16,"You're very welcome, and I'm touched by your words. It's a joy to see you grow, and I'm excited about all the wonderful things you'll achieve. Remember, I'll always be here for you, cheering you on every step of the way. Let's continue this journey together with love and support.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"You're very welcome, and I'm touched by your words. It's a joy to see you grow, and I'm excited about all the wonderful things you'll achieve. Remember, I'll always be here for you, cheering you on every step of the way. Let's continue this journey together with love and support.",No,"I suggest the conversation to stay on topic, which is to continue to brainstorm solutions and compromises that can help both parties to attain their goals. Right now it seems to be going off track a little. ","You're very welcome, and I'm touched by your words. It's a joy to see you grow, and I'm excited about all the wonderful things you'll achieve. Remember, I'll always be here for you, cheering you on every step of the way. Let's continue this journey together with love and support. What are some school clubs that you want to join?",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance does not address the issue of the son's excessive computer use and neglect of schoolwork, and instead offers general encouragement, which is not directly relevant to the immediate concern. Therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
113,113,113,PM7MIC,18,"I love you too, more than words can express.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"I love you too, more than words can express.",Yes,,"I love you too, more than words can express.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
114,114,114,PM7MIC,20,"Our bond is incredibly special, and it brings me so much happiness as well. ",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"Our bond is incredibly special, and it brings me so much happiness as well. ",Yes,,"Our bond is incredibly special, and it brings me so much happiness as well. ",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My teenage son has been spending an excessive amount of time on his computer and neglecting his schoolwork, despite my previous attempts to discuss the importance of balance and responsibility."
115,115,115,QNESOJ,0,I have already purchased a flight and hotel for a trip to Hawaii based on your approval of my vacation. Now you're telling me I have to work on days you already approved for that trip.,Strong,,,No,It is important to bring up the describe event or fact and it's implication on you so that the other person can understand why you think this conversation is important. ,I have already purchased a flight and hotel for a trip to Hawaii based on your approval of my vacation. Now you're telling me I have to work on days you already approved for that trip. This suddenly changed my plans and the financial aspect of it is stressful for me.,No,,,No,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,I have already purchased a flight and hotel for a trip to Hawaii based on your approval of my vacation. Now you're telling me I have to work on days you already approved for that trip.,Yes,,I have already purchased a flight and hotel for a trip to Hawaii based on your approval of my vacation. Now you're telling me I have to work on days you already approved for that trip.,"The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.","The utterance does not explicitly express feelings or emotions about the situation; it simply states the facts of the situation and the resulting conflict. Therefore, the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. I’m afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
116,116,116,QNESOJ,2,"I understand that deadlines can change, but canceling or rescheduling this trip would cost me thousands of dollars.",No,,,Weak,"Similar to last comment, provide more details regarding the financial stress that the changes might cause. ","I understand that deadlines can change, but canceling or rescheduling this trip would cost me thousands of dollars. I'm already stressed out about my finances and this will add to that. ",No,,,No,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"I understand that deadlines can change, but canceling or rescheduling this trip would cost me thousands of dollars.",Yes,,"I understand that deadlines can change, but canceling or rescheduling this trip would cost me thousands of dollars.",,"The utterance does not provide a detailed expression of the financial stress caused by the changes, therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. I’m afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
117,117,117,QNESOJ,4,Perhaps I can work overtime ahead of the trip and be reachable by phone for emergencies only during the trip.,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,The boss showed signs of compromise. Reinforce this behavior by saying thank you.,Thanks for your understanding and willingness to come up with alternative solutions. Perhaps I can work overtime ahead of the trip and be reachable by phone for emergencies only during the trip.,Strong,,,grape,Yes,,Perhaps I can work overtime ahead of the trip and be reachable by phone for emergencies only during the trip.,Yes,,Perhaps I can work overtime ahead of the trip and be reachable by phone for emergencies only during the trip.,,,,"The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not acknowledge or show appreciation for the boss's willingness to compromise, which would reinforce the positive behavior. Therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. I’m afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
118,118,118,QNESOJ,6,I can't be fully present for work or during work hours on my vacation.,No,,,No,Express your feelings and preferences will help the other person understand you more and help reach a agreed upon solution. ,I can't be fully present for work or during work hours on my vacation. Vacation is the time for me to rewind and recharge before I can return to work feeling ready and refreshed.,Strong,,,No,Maintain behavior change to the direction that you want to see. ,I appreciate you having this conversation with me and trying to figure out a solution. I can't be fully present for work or during work hours on my vacation.,No,,,grape,Yes,,I can't be fully present for work or during work hours on my vacation.,Yes,,I can't be fully present for work or during work hours on my vacation.,,"The utterance does not convey your feelings or preferences regarding the situation, therefore the rating for express is No.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance does not encourage or support the desired behavior of respecting previously approved vacation time, therefore the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. I’m afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
119,119,119,QNESOJ,8,"As the person who approved my vacation, maybe you can rally the team to pick up the slack in my absence.",No,,,No,Expressing is a way to continue validate both your and ther person's needs in the situation. ,"I understand the urgency of the situation regarding the upcoming deadline and I also feel frustrated because my vacation time was not honored. As the person who approved my vacation, maybe you can rally the team to pick up the slack in my absence.",No,,,No,,,Weak,Negotiation works best when it states how alternative solutinos can meet both parties needs and goals.,"As the person who approved my vacation, maybe you can rally the team to pick up the slack in my absence. This way I can enjoy my time during vacation, the team will meet deadline on time, and you will be the boss who kept his words and respect employee's personal time. ",grape,Yes,,"As the person who approved my vacation, maybe you can rally the team to pick up the slack in my absence.",Yes,,"As the person who approved my vacation, maybe you can rally the team to pick up the slack in my absence.",,"The utterance does not directly express your personal feelings or needs regarding the situation, but rather suggests a solution that considers both your needs and the needs of the person you are addressing. Therefore, the rating for express is No.",,,"The utterance fails to propose a clear alternative solution that addresses both parties' needs, which is why the rating for negotiate is Weak.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. I’m afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
120,120,120,QNESOJ,10,I am willing to train anyone who would be involved with taking over my tasks while I'm away.,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,Maintain behavior change and the directions of the conversation. ,Thanks so much for being open to rallying the team to hep meet the dealine while I'm away. I am willing to train anyone who would be involved with taking over my tasks while I'm away.,Strong,,,grape,Yes,,I am willing to train anyone who would be involved with taking over my tasks while I'm away.,Yes,,I am willing to train anyone who would be involved with taking over my tasks while I'm away.,,,,"The utterance does not reinforce behavior change or direct the conversation towards a resolution, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. I’m afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
121,121,121,QNESOJ,12,Just to confirm that I am still approved for my vacation in light of this conversation.,No,,,No,Express help build a common ground where both parties can stay on the same page. ,Thanks for spending the time problem solving with me. I feel supported and relieved that I can enjoy my vacation. Just to confirm that I am still approved for my vacation in light of this conversation.,Strong,,,No,Maintain behavior change. ,Thanks for spending the time problem solving with me. I feel supported and relieved that I can enjoy my vacation. Just to confirm that I am still approved for my vacation in light of this conversation.,No,,,grape,Yes,,Just to confirm that I am still approved for my vacation in light of this conversation.,Yes,,Just to confirm that I am still approved for my vacation in light of this conversation.,,"The utterance does not convey any personal feelings or emotions about the situation, therefore, the rating for express is No.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not reinforce or encourage the boss's approval of the vacation time, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,I had a trip planned to go to Hawaii for the holidays and my boss approved the time off at the beginning of the year. He has just told me that I will need to work on days he approved for my vacation. I’m afraid I will lose thousands of dollars I have already spent on my vacation.
122,122,122,R6MUYJ,0,"I've told you once before to please stop falling for these romance scams and making international phone calls to Nigerian scammers, costing me hundreds of dollars every month.",Strong,,,No,State the impact of the described event.,"I've told you once before to please stop falling for these romance scams and making international phone calls to Nigerian scammers, costing me hundreds of dollars every month. This stresses me out. ",No,,,No,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"I've told you once before to please stop falling for these romance scams and making international phone calls to Nigerian scammers, costing me hundreds of dollars every month.",Yes,,"I've told you once before to please stop falling for these romance scams and making international phone calls to Nigerian scammers, costing me hundreds of dollars every month.","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.","The utterance does not effectively convey the speaker's emotions or personal impact of the situation, therefore the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating."
123,123,123,R6MUYJ,2,"I'm literally married. There are countless articles online about these romance scams and how they target middle-aged or older women, like yourself. You're in a vulnerable state and I worry you're much easier to take advantage of.",Strong,,,Weak,Express your undersanding of your mom's situation is also important.,"I understand that you might be lonely and that this man is providing a lot of emotional support for you and making you feel loved. 
I'm literally married. There are countless articles online about these romance scams and how they target middle-aged or older women, like yourself. You're in a vulnerable state and I worry you're much easier to take advantage of.",No,,,No,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"I'm literally married. There are countless articles online about these romance scams and how they target middle-aged or older women, like yourself. You're in a vulnerable state and I worry you're much easier to take advantage of.",Yes,,"I'm literally married. There are countless articles online about these romance scams and how they target middle-aged or older women, like yourself. You're in a vulnerable state and I worry you're much easier to take advantage of.","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.","The utterance does not sufficiently convey an understanding of your mom's emotional state or situation, which is why the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating."
124,124,124,R6MUYJ,4,"I want you to stop making international phone calls while on my phone plan. If you want to get scammed, you can pay your own phone bill.",No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,To ensure that both parties goals are being considered when coming up with the final solution. ,"I want you to stop making international phone calls while on my phone plan. If you are lonely and would like to date someone romantically, we can work together to get you on the dating market locally. ",grape,Yes,,"I want you to stop making international phone calls while on my phone plan. If you want to get scammed, you can pay your own phone bill.",Yes,,"I want you to stop making international phone calls while on my phone plan. If you want to get scammed, you can pay your own phone bill.",,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,"The utterance does not show consideration for both parties' goals or interests in finding a solution, as it presents an ultimatum rather than seeking a compromise or understanding. Therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating."
125,125,125,R6MUYJ,6,"I would prefer you stop talking to him, but I can't control you. All I can do is tell you to stop using my account to make international phone calls. I will have to remove you from my account if you make any more international phone calls.",No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,help mom to see your point of view and come to a middle ground. ,"Thanks for understanding my concern. It is very costly. Say that it is not scam, it might be good to continue on email but still be careful a out anything related to money.
I would prefer you stop talking to him, but I can't control you. All I can do is tell you to stop using my account to make international phone calls. I will have to remove you from my account if you make any more international phone calls.",No,,,grape,Yes,,"I would prefer you stop talking to him, but I can't control you. All I can do is tell you to stop using my account to make international phone calls. I will have to remove you from my account if you make any more international phone calls.",Yes,,"I would prefer you stop talking to him, but I can't control you. All I can do is tell you to stop using my account to make international phone calls. I will have to remove you from my account if you make any more international phone calls.",,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance does not actively encourage or support the mother's behavior or choices, but rather sets a clear boundary regarding the misuse of the phone plan. Therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating."
126,126,126,R6MUYJ,8,"I am not paying for any of the calls going forward. If you want to make international phone calls, you will need your own phone plan.",No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,To strive to meet both parties' goals.,"I would prefer not paying for any of the calls going forward. If you want to make international phone calls, you will need your own phone plan. as your daughter, I will help you find financial assistance. ",grape,Yes,,"I am not paying for any of the calls going forward. If you want to make international phone calls, you will need your own phone plan.",Yes,,"I am not paying for any of the calls going forward. If you want to make international phone calls, you will need your own phone plan.",,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,"The utterance does not attempt to find a compromise or a solution that meets both parties' goals, therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating."
127,127,127,R6MUYJ,10,If you make one more international call to this romance scammer I am removing you from my phone plan.,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,maintain behavior change,"Thanks for being willing to reduce the frequency of contact with him. 
",No,Negotiation can make the other person feel heard and more willing to move towards you. ,"You can have some time to think about this and other alternative solutions such as using email or finidng a parnter here locally. if you still want to talk to him, we might need to come up with ways to ensure that he is paying some of the phone bills.",grape,Yes,,If you make one more international call to this romance scammer I am removing you from my phone plan.,Yes,,If you make one more international call to this romance scammer I am removing you from my phone plan.,,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance sets a clear boundary and consequence for the behavior, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance does not attempt to negotiate or make the other person feel heard, but instead issues an ultimatum, therefore the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating."
128,128,128,R6MUYJ,12,"I'm sure he is a real person, just not the person you think he is. I put you on my account so that you would never have trouble reaching us. This way we had the peace of mind that we could always be in contact if you had any emergencies.",No,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,it is important to not let one party of the conversation feel at disadvantage at the end of the conversation. ,"I'm sure he is a real person, just not the person you think he is. I put you on my account so that you would never have trouble reaching us. This way we had the peace of mind that we could always be in contact if you had any emergencies. Again, if you are looking to date, we can help you with that.",grape,Yes,,"I'm sure he is a real person, just not the person you think he is. I put you on my account so that you would never have trouble reaching us. This way we had the peace of mind that we could always be in contact if you had any emergencies.",Yes,,"I'm sure he is a real person, just not the person you think he is. I put you on my account so that you would never have trouble reaching us. This way we had the peace of mind that we could always be in contact if you had any emergencies.",,,,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.","The utterance does not attempt to negotiate or discuss potential solutions regarding the international calling fees, but rather focuses on reassuring the mother and explaining the original intent of adding her to the phone plan. Therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating."
129,129,129,R6MUYJ,14,"I really wish you wouldn't have contact with them and I wish you were smart enough to see that you are being scammed. Why do you think all of your kids are warning you? However, I can't control you.",No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"I really wish you wouldn't have contact with them and I wish you were smart enough to see that you are being scammed. Why do you think all of your kids are warning you? However, I can't control you.",Yes,,"I really wish you wouldn't have contact with them and I wish you were smart enough to see that you are being scammed. Why do you think all of your kids are warning you? However, I can't control you.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,"My mom recently suffered from a stroke, so I put her phone on my phone plan so that she would have no problem reaching her kids. Recently, I received a call from my cell phone provider about several hundred dollars in international phone call fees on her phone line. As the primary account holder, I have to pay those international calling fees. I have spoken to her before about this and threatened to remove her from my plan but she insists that it is someone she is dating."
130,130,130,TSNCDZ,0,"Hi there, I wanted to talk to you about the noise issue at night. It's been causing me some trouble sleeping, and I was hoping we could find a solution together.",Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,otter,Yes,,"Hi there, I wanted to talk to you about the noise issue at night. It's been causing me some trouble sleeping, and I was hoping we could find a solution together.",Yes,,"Hi there, I wanted to talk to you about the noise issue at night. It's been causing me some trouble sleeping, and I was hoping we could find a solution together.","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.",,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep."
131,131,131,TSNCDZ,2," I understand that you have the right to enjoy your apartment, but it's also important for both of us to have a peaceful living environment. Can we find a way to balance your activities with my need for a good night's sleep?",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,otter,Yes,," I understand that you have the right to enjoy your apartment, but it's also important for both of us to have a peaceful living environment. Can we find a way to balance your activities with my need for a good night's sleep?",Yes,," I understand that you have the right to enjoy your apartment, but it's also important for both of us to have a peaceful living environment. Can we find a way to balance your activities with my need for a good night's sleep?",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep."
132,132,132,TSNCDZ,4," I respect your reasons, and I understand that it might be challenging to make promises. However, I'm also looking for a solution that works for both of us. Can we explore some possible compromises or alternative arrangements that could help address this issue?",No,,,No,,,Weak,"You should try to be more explicit about your ask rather than state that you're ""looking"" for an alternative solution"," I respect your reasons, and I understand that it might be challenging to make promises. However, I would also like to find a solution that works for both of us. Can we explore some possible compromises or alternative arrangements that could help address this issue?",No,,,Strong,,,otter,Yes,," I respect your reasons, and I understand that it might be challenging to make promises. However, I'm also looking for a solution that works for both of us. Can we explore some possible compromises or alternative arrangements that could help address this issue?",Yes,," I respect your reasons, and I understand that it might be challenging to make promises. However, I'm also looking for a solution that works for both of us. Can we explore some possible compromises or alternative arrangements that could help address this issue?",,,"The utterance does not strongly convey your needs or expectations regarding the noise issue, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.",,"The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep."
133,133,133,TSNCDZ,6," I appreciate your perspective on your right to enjoy your apartment. At the same time, I'm hoping we can find a middle ground that allows both of us to have a comfortable living situation. If wearing earplugs or moving out becomes my only option, it would be disappointing. Can we brainstorm other ways to resolve this issue?",No,,,Weak,You can try to weave in your feelings about wanting to be comfortable in your own space when you're connecting to and validating your neighbor's opinion,"I appreciate your perspective on your right to enjoy your apartment -- I feel the same way about wanting to be able to enjoy my own space. At the same time, I'm hoping we can find a middle ground that allows both of us to have a comfortable living situation. If wearing earplugs or moving out becomes my only option, it would be disappointing. Can we brainstorm other ways to resolve this issue?",Strong,,,Weak,You can state your feelings as a negative consequence in more direct language," I appreciate your perspective on your right to enjoy your apartment. At the same time, I'm hoping we can find a middle ground that allows both of us to have a comfortable living situation. If wearing earplugs or moving out becomes my only option, I would feel disappointed. Can we brainstorm other ways to resolve this issue?",Strong,,,otter,Yes,," I appreciate your perspective on your right to enjoy your apartment. At the same time, I'm hoping we can find a middle ground that allows both of us to have a comfortable living situation. If wearing earplugs or moving out becomes my only option, it would be disappointing. Can we brainstorm other ways to resolve this issue?",Yes,," I appreciate your perspective on your right to enjoy your apartment. At the same time, I'm hoping we can find a middle ground that allows both of us to have a comfortable living situation. If wearing earplugs or moving out becomes my only option, it would be disappointing. Can we brainstorm other ways to resolve this issue?",,"The utterance does not strongly convey your personal feelings about the discomfort the noise is causing you, focusing instead on finding a solution. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance does not strongly convey the negative impact of the noise on your well-being, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Weak.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep."
134,134,134,TSNCDZ,8,"I understand that you've made your position clear, and I respect your right to enjoy your apartment. I'll explore other options to ensure I can get a good night's sleep. If you ever change your mind or if there's an opportunity for us to revisit this issue, please let me know.",No,,,Weak,"The expression of your feelings of sadness here could also be used as a potential negative reinforcement, to show truthfully how you feel about not being able to find a solution that helps both of you","I understand that you've made your position clear, and I respect your right to enjoy your apartment, though I do feel sad that we can't come to a compromise. I'll explore other options to ensure I can get a good night's sleep. If you ever change your mind or if there's an opportunity for us to revisit this issue, please let me know.",No,,,No,"You can consider using the ""Reinforce"" strategy here to leave your neighbor with a potential positive reinforcer for being willing to compromise on this issue in the future","I understand that you've made your position clear, and I respect your right to enjoy your apartment. I'll explore other options to ensure I can get a good night's sleep. If you ever change your mind or if there's an opportunity for us to revisit this issue, please let me know. I would be so relieved if we could find a way to compromise in any way.",Strong,,,otter,Yes,,"I understand that you've made your position clear, and I respect your right to enjoy your apartment. I'll explore other options to ensure I can get a good night's sleep. If you ever change your mind or if there's an opportunity for us to revisit this issue, please let me know.",No,"You could give another try at being a ""broken record"" and asking for a compromise again","I understand that you've made your position clear, and I respect your right to enjoy your apartment. I still would really like us to talk about this more and see if we could come to a solution that makes us both feel comfortable. Can we each take some time to think about potential compromises and continue this conversation at a later date? ",,"The utterance does not strongly convey your feelings of sadness or disappointment about the unresolved noise issue, which could serve as negative reinforcement. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,"The utterance does not include a positive reinforcer for the neighbor's potential willingness to compromise in the future, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance does not sufficiently persist in addressing the noise issue directly with the neighbor, which could be more effective in resolving the situation. Therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep."
135,135,135,TSNCDZ,10,"Thank you for understanding, and I appreciate your consideration. I hope we can find a solution in the future. Have a good night as well.",No,,,Weak,You can be slightly more specific about what you would like here in the future,"Thank you for understanding, and I appreciate your consideration. I hope we can find a solution in the future where we can both feel comfortable and be able to have fun in each of our apartments. Have a good night as well.",No,,,No,"You can consider using the ""Reinforce"" strategy here because it leaves the conversation with space for a more positive outcome in the future","Thank you for understanding, and I appreciate your consideration. I hope we can find a solution in the future. I really like living here and don't want either of us to feel uncomfortable in our living spaces if we can help it. Have a good night as well.",No,,,otter,Yes,,"Thank you for understanding, and I appreciate your consideration. I hope we can find a solution in the future. Have a good night as well.",Yes,,"Thank you for understanding, and I appreciate your consideration. I hope we can find a solution in the future. Have a good night as well.",,"The utterance is vague about your expectations and does not clearly express your feelings regarding the noise issue, therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,"The utterance does not currently employ the ""Reinforce"" strategy, as it does not provide positive feedback or encouragement for the neighbor's behavior change. Therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",social,"My neighbor and I have been experiencing issues with noise levels coming from their house late at night. Despite my previous attempts to discuss the matter politely, they continue to be noisy, making it difficult for me to sleep."
136,136,136,U2QCTH,0,Honey you have to learn to always turn down the volume of the TV especially at night because I can't sleep with its noise ,Weak,"Stick to the fact-say how many days a week rather than ""always""-this could sound blaming. ","The past couple days this week you have been watching TV ad high volume at night. I am sensitive to noise and I can't sleep, which then impact my work performance next day.
Honey I would appreciate you to turn down the volumne of the TV a little. ",Weak,Express more about the impact of low sleep quality on the next day,"The past couple days this week you have been watching TV ad high volume at night. I am sensitive to noise and I can't sleep, which then impact my work performance next day.
Honey I would appreciate you to turn down the volumne of the TV a little. ",Strong,,,No,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,Honey you have to learn to always turn down the volume of the TV especially at night because I can't sleep with its noise ,Yes,,Honey you have to learn to always turn down the volume of the TV especially at night because I can't sleep with its noise ,"The utterance is rated as Weak because it uses absolute terms like ""always,"" which may come across as accusatory rather than factual. A stronger description would include specific details, such as the frequency of the disturbance, to convey the message without sounding blaming.","The utterance does not sufficiently convey the personal impact of the noise on your sleep and how it affects your following day, therefore the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
137,137,137,U2QCTH,2,"No, it makes me keep thinking what shows are going on and it disrupts my sleep ",No,,,Weak,validate the husband's needs and the restate yoru needs. ,"I understand that watching TV helps you relax. I want that for you. 
No, it makes me keep thinking what shows are going on and it disrupts my sleep. ",Strong,,,No,,,No,,,grape,Yes,,"No, it makes me keep thinking what shows are going on and it disrupts my sleep ",Yes,,"No, it makes me keep thinking what shows are going on and it disrupts my sleep ",,"The utterance does not effectively validate the husband's needs or clearly restate your own, therefore the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
138,138,138,U2QCTH,4,"Your suggestion is not a good idea to me, I can't sleep comfortably with earplugs. ",No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,Help husband to come up with solutions to reach a compromise. ,"Thanks for being willing to come up with alternative solutions. 
Your suggestion is not a good idea to me, I can't sleep comfortably with earplugs. ",No,important to stay open minded and willing to make comprimises. ,I can't sleep comfortably with earplugs. Unless you have brands or types of earplugs that you think is comfy. ,grape,Yes,,"Your suggestion is not a good idea to me, I can't sleep comfortably with earplugs. ",Yes,,"Your suggestion is not a good idea to me, I can't sleep comfortably with earplugs. ",,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance does not work towards reinforcing the husband's behavior or encouraging a compromise, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance rejects the proposed solution without offering an alternative, indicating a lack of openness to compromise, therefore the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
139,139,139,U2QCTH,6,"The sound of the TV enters all the rooms and it can't allow me to sleep, this makes me sleepy at work",Strong,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,maintain behavior change,"Thanks for thinking of that solution. The sound of the TV enters all the rooms and it can't allow me to sleep, this makes me sleepy at work",No,reach a solution that safisfy both parties,"The sound of the TV enters all the rooms and it can't allow me to sleep, this makes me sleepy at work. What about you closing the door when you watch TV and turn down the volumn, maybe try headphones?",grape,Yes,,"The sound of the TV enters all the rooms and it can't allow me to sleep, this makes me sleepy at work",Yes,,"The sound of the TV enters all the rooms and it can't allow me to sleep, this makes me sleepy at work","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.","The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance does not include any positive reinforcement or rewards for the husband to encourage a change in his behavior, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.","The utterance fails to propose a compromise or seek a mutual agreement, therefore the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
140,140,140,U2QCTH,8,It annoys me when you keep suggesting such to me. Do you know I have headache in the mornings because of this and it affects my work too?,No,,,Weak,"Using ""I "" statement rather than having an accusative tone",I don't feel heard when you keep suggesting these solutions to me. I have bad headaches that affect my work next day. ,Strong,,,No,,,No,help both parties feel heard.,I understand that you want to watch TV and enjoy it. And I would appreciate you if you could see that sleep is important to me. We can both make changes not just me. ,grape,Yes,,It annoys me when you keep suggesting such to me. Do you know I have headache in the mornings because of this and it affects my work too?,Yes,,It annoys me when you keep suggesting such to me. Do you know I have headache in the mornings because of this and it affects my work too?,,"The utterance does not focus on expressing personal feelings effectively, as it leans towards an accusative tone rather than using ""I"" statements to convey the impact on you personally. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,"The utterance fails to help both parties feel heard, as it focuses on expressing personal grievances without inviting a discussion for mutual understanding or resolution. Therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
141,141,141,U2QCTH,10,Is it not better you accept to turn down the volume a bit  especially at late nights so you won't disturb other neighbors too ,No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,No,wiling to make compromises is important. ,"Even if not for me, turning down the volume at late nights so you won't disturb other neighbors too. That being said, I would be open to talk to a sleep specialist and hear what they have to say. ",grape,Yes,,Is it not better you accept to turn down the volume a bit  especially at late nights so you won't disturb other neighbors too ,Yes,,Is it not better you accept to turn down the volume a bit  especially at late nights so you won't disturb other neighbors too ,,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,"The utterance does not demonstrate a willingness to make compromises, therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
142,142,142,U2QCTH,12,"That's better but I want it well turned, I don't want to hear it at all because once my sleep is disrupted, I can't sleep again ",No,,,No,,,Strong,,,Weak,Acknowledge the effort the husband is putting into reaching a compromise. ,"Thank you for being open to trying to turn down your volumn. You are so understanding. At the same time, I wonder if you can turn it down enought so that  I won't  hear it at all because once my sleep is disrupted, I can't sleep again ",No,,,grape,Yes,,"That's better but I want it well turned, I don't want to hear it at all because once my sleep is disrupted, I can't sleep again ",Yes,,"That's better but I want it well turned, I don't want to hear it at all because once my sleep is disrupted, I can't sleep again ",,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The rating is Weak because the utterance fails to acknowledge the husband's effort to lower the volume, which could encourage further cooperation.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
143,143,143,U2QCTH,14,"It would be better if you have any special and interesting programs you want to watch, maybe you should used the TV in the other room and also lower it. ",No,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Weak,negotiation should make both parties see that their goals are being valued during solution generation. ,"It would be better if you have any special and interesting programs you want to watch, maybe you should used the TV in the other room and also lower it. That way I can sleep well and you can enjoy you TV show. ",grape,Yes,,"It would be better if you have any special and interesting programs you want to watch, maybe you should used the TV in the other room and also lower it. ",Yes,,"It would be better if you have any special and interesting programs you want to watch, maybe you should used the TV in the other room and also lower it. ",,,"The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.",,"The utterance does not effectively show that both parties' goals are valued, as it primarily suggests a solution without fully acknowledging the husband's interests or seeking his input, which is why the rating for negotiate is Weak.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
144,144,144,U2QCTH,16,"Yes, I'll be very happy and would be able to enjoy my sleep if you do so.",No,,,No,,,No,,,Weak,Provide a reinforcer for the other party. ,"Yes, I'll be very happy and would be able to enjoy my sleep if you do so. This will I will be less grumpy and more pleasant to be around. ",No,,,grape,Yes,,"Yes, I'll be very happy and would be able to enjoy my sleep if you do so.",Yes,,"Yes, I'll be very happy and would be able to enjoy my sleep if you do so.",,,,"The utterance does not offer a clear positive reinforcement to the other party for changing their behavior, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Weak.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
145,145,145,U2QCTH,18,"It's nice we've reached this agreement, I won't have any issues with you as long as you keep your promise ",No,,,No,,,No,,,Weak,Stronger reinforce,I'm really glad that we reached this agreement and that you are super understanding throughout this conversation. I won't have any issues with you as long as you keep your promise ,No,,,grape,Yes,,"It's nice we've reached this agreement, I won't have any issues with you as long as you keep your promise ",Yes,,"It's nice we've reached this agreement, I won't have any issues with you as long as you keep your promise ",,,,"The utterance does not provide a strong sense of encouragement or positive reinforcement regarding the agreement, therefore the rating for reinforce is Weak.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My husband watches Television with loud volume even at night without minding its a distractions to me and it also disrupts my sleep. He acts as if he don't care although he knows it's disturbing me.
146,146,146,UK4KE7,0,"Hi, I wanted to discuss something that's been bothering me. In our recent team meetings, I've noticed that there have been instances where my ideas were presented as yours. It's important for me that we have a transparent and collaborative work environment, and this situation has been causing some discomfort.",Strong,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"Hi, I wanted to discuss something that's been bothering me. In our recent team meetings, I've noticed that there have been instances where my ideas were presented as yours. It's important for me that we have a transparent and collaborative work environment, and this situation has been causing some discomfort.",Yes,,"Hi, I wanted to discuss something that's been bothering me. In our recent team meetings, I've noticed that there have been instances where my ideas were presented as yours. It's important for me that we have a transparent and collaborative work environment, and this situation has been causing some discomfort.","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.","The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately."
147,147,147,UK4KE7,2,"I appreciate your willingness to discuss this. One example that stood out to me was during our last project presentation when I suggested the new marketing strategy. In the meeting, it seemed like my idea was presented as if it was yours. It's essential for me to address this issue so that we can maintain a fair and respectful work environment.",Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"I appreciate your willingness to discuss this. One example that stood out to me was during our last project presentation when I suggested the new marketing strategy. In the meeting, it seemed like my idea was presented as if it was yours. It's essential for me to address this issue so that we can maintain a fair and respectful work environment.",Yes,,"I appreciate your willingness to discuss this. One example that stood out to me was during our last project presentation when I suggested the new marketing strategy. In the meeting, it seemed like my idea was presented as if it was yours. It's essential for me to address this issue so that we can maintain a fair and respectful work environment.","The utterance sticks to the facts, makes no judgemental statement, and is objective, therefore, the rating for describe is Strong.","The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.","The utterance asserts your needs or wants about the given context, therefore, the rating for assert is Strong.","The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately."
148,148,148,UK4KE7,4,"I appreciate your willingness to work towards a solution. It's possible that there was a miscommunication, and I'm glad we can discuss it openly. I agree that in future meetings, we can make a concerted effort to clearly define our contributions to avoid any misunderstandings. This way, we can continue working together effectively and collaboratively.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,Strong,,,bear,Yes,,"I appreciate your willingness to work towards a solution. It's possible that there was a miscommunication, and I'm glad we can discuss it openly. I agree that in future meetings, we can make a concerted effort to clearly define our contributions to avoid any misunderstandings. This way, we can continue working together effectively and collaboratively.",Yes,,"I appreciate your willingness to work towards a solution. It's possible that there was a miscommunication, and I'm glad we can discuss it openly. I agree that in future meetings, we can make a concerted effort to clearly define our contributions to avoid any misunderstandings. This way, we can continue working together effectively and collaboratively.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.","The utterance offers and asks for other solutions clearly, therefore, the rating for negotiate is Strong.","The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately."
149,149,149,UK4KE7,6,"Thank you for being open to resolving this matter. I believe we've covered the important points, and I'm satisfied with our plan to communicate our ideas clearly and acknowledge each other's contributions in future meetings. I'm hopeful that this approach will lead to a more positive and productive working relationship.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"Thank you for being open to resolving this matter. I believe we've covered the important points, and I'm satisfied with our plan to communicate our ideas clearly and acknowledge each other's contributions in future meetings. I'm hopeful that this approach will lead to a more positive and productive working relationship.",Yes,,"Thank you for being open to resolving this matter. I believe we've covered the important points, and I'm satisfied with our plan to communicate our ideas clearly and acknowledge each other's contributions in future meetings. I'm hopeful that this approach will lead to a more positive and productive working relationship.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately."
150,150,150,UK4KE7,8,"I'm also glad we had this conversation, and I appreciate your willingness to address the issue and work together towards a solution. I share your confidence that our future interactions will be more productive and that we can maintain a respectful and collaborative work environment. If any other concerns arise, feel free to reach out. Thank you for your understanding.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"I'm also glad we had this conversation, and I appreciate your willingness to address the issue and work together towards a solution. I share your confidence that our future interactions will be more productive and that we can maintain a respectful and collaborative work environment. If any other concerns arise, feel free to reach out. Thank you for your understanding.",Yes,,"I'm also glad we had this conversation, and I appreciate your willingness to address the issue and work together towards a solution. I share your confidence that our future interactions will be more productive and that we can maintain a respectful and collaborative work environment. If any other concerns arise, feel free to reach out. Thank you for your understanding.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately."
151,151,151,UK4KE7,10,"I appreciate your understanding and your commitment to open and honest communication in our work environment. It's reassuring to know that we can address issues constructively. I'll definitely reach out if anything else comes up, and I look forward to continuing to work together effectively and positively. Thanks again for your cooperation.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"I appreciate your understanding and your commitment to open and honest communication in our work environment. It's reassuring to know that we can address issues constructively. I'll definitely reach out if anything else comes up, and I look forward to continuing to work together effectively and positively. Thanks again for your cooperation.",Yes,,"I appreciate your understanding and your commitment to open and honest communication in our work environment. It's reassuring to know that we can address issues constructively. I'll definitely reach out if anything else comes up, and I look forward to continuing to work together effectively and positively. Thanks again for your cooperation.",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately."
152,152,152,UK4KE7,12,"Thank you, and I share the same sentiment. Let's work together to achieve great results. Have a fantastic day!",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,Strong,,,No,,,bear,Yes,,"Thank you, and I share the same sentiment. Let's work together to achieve great results. Have a fantastic day!",Yes,,"Thank you, and I share the same sentiment. Let's work together to achieve great results. Have a fantastic day!",,"The utterance explicitly expresses how you feel about the given context, therefore, the rating for express is Strong.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",work,"My colleague consistently takes credit for my ideas during team meetings, despite my previous attempts to discuss this issue with them privately."
153,153,153,Z8REJH,0,"Hey bro, how you been?",No,"You can consider using the ""Describe"" strategy here to make sure that your brother knows exactly what you'd like to talk about in this conversation","Hey bro, I've noticed that you've been going out more frequently than usual lately. How have you been?",No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,"Hey bro, how you been?",No,Make sure to stick to your goals in this conversation and not get distracted by opening up the conversation to other potential topics,"Hey bro, I've noticed that you've been going out more frequently than usual lately and want to make sure that everything's ok. How have you been?","The utterance does not utilize the ""Describe"" strategy to convey specific observations or concerns about the brother's behavior, thus failing to set a clear topic for discussion related to the issue at hand. Therefore, the rating for describe is No.",,,,,"The utterance does not directly address the issue of concern and opens up the conversation to other topics, which is why the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
154,154,154,Z8REJH,2,I'm just asking. We don't talk a lot lately.  ,Weak,You should try to be more detailed and specific with your description to set up exactly what you're reacting to,I'm just asking. We haven't talked in a few weeks and I've noticed that you've been going out more frequently than usual.,No,"You can consider using the ""Express"" strategy here so that your brother knows exactly what you're feeling -- don't assume that he knows without you telling him",I'm just asking. We don't talk a lot lately and I've been worried about how often you've been going out at night and wanted to check in.,No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,No,Try not to get defensive and be confident in your engagement in this discussion,I ask because I've felt like we haven't talked in a while and I wanted to check in since I've noticed that you've been going out and drinking more frequently than usual,No,"Try to add an ""Express"" strategy in to connect the fact that you haven't talked to the goal of this conversation ",I'm just asking. We don't talk a lot lately and I've been worried about how often you've been going out at night and wanted to check in.,"The utterance lacks detail and specificity about the situation, failing to clearly set up what is being reacted to, which leads to a Weak rating for the description.","The utterance does not convey your feelings or concerns directly, therefore the rating for express is No.",,,,"The utterance fails to effectively express the speaker's concerns or feelings about the situation, which is essential for a mindful conversation. Therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance comes across as defensive and lacks assertiveness, which suggests a lack of confidence in engaging in the discussion, therefore, the rating for confident is No.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
155,155,155,Z8REJH,4,Lol.  Yeah I know. I work as well but I can call you from time to time and catch up right?,Weak,Try to be more descriptive with your situation of being busy to help set up your motivation for checking in now,"Lol.  Yeah I know. I've been busy with work as well recently and haven't had as much time as usual to chat, but I can call you from time to time and catch up right?",No,,,Weak,Be more assertive in your ask rather than phrasing it like a passive question,"Lol.  Yeah I know. I work as well and have been busy, and I'd love to be able to call you and catch up when I'm thinking of you",No,"You can consider using the ""Reinforce"" strategy to provide your brother with a positive reward that he can expect for checking in with you",Lol.  Yeah I know. I work as well but I can call you from time to time and catch up right? I miss you and would love to be able to check in and hear how things have been going for you.,No,,,otter,No,Be more assertive in your ask rather than phrasing it like a passive question,"Lol.  Yeah I know. I work as well and have been busy, and I'd love to be able to call you and catch up when I'm thinking of you",Yes,,Lol.  Yeah I know. I work as well but I can call you from time to time and catch up right?,"The utterance lacks detail about the speaker's own circumstances and does not effectively convey the reasons behind their current actions or motivations, which leads to a weak rating for descriptiveness.",,"The utterance is phrased as a passive question rather than a clear expression of your needs or wants, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.","The utterance does not provide a positive reward for the brother to encourage checking in, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance lacks assertiveness due to the passive phrasing of the question, which undermines the speaker's confidence, therefore, the rating for confident is No.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
156,156,156,Z8REJH,6,Why so defensive if I haven't even brought up anything yet?,No,,,Weak,You should try to make statements about your own feelings and opinions rather than the other person's,"I don't want to make you feel like I'm intruding or lecturing you, I only want to make sure that you feel supported and like you have someone to talk to when things get stressful",No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,Why so defensive if I haven't even brought up anything yet?,No,Don't get distracted and turn it around to make it about your brother's defensiveness -- your main goal is to talk to him about his drinking and staying out at night,"I don't want to make you feel like I'm intruding or lecturing you, I only want to make sure that you feel supported and like you have someone to talk to when things get stressful. Would you be willing to talk to me about these things? ",,"The utterance does not clearly convey your personal feelings or opinions, as it focuses on the other person's behavior rather than expressing your own perspective. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance fails to maintain focus on the primary concern of the brother's drinking habits and instead shifts attention to his defensiveness, which is not aligned with the speaker's goal of addressing the issue at hand. Therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
157,157,157,Z8REJH,8,Having a drink doesn't mean I don't agree with it.  I drink too.  Doesn't me an you have to get defensive about it.  Right?,Weak,Try to stick to the facts instead of your feelings about the facts (related to drinking),"I drink too. I've noticed that you've been staying out late at night and drinking more frequently than usual which is unusual for you, so I wanted to check in and make sure that everything's going ok.  Doesn't me an you have to get defensive about it.  Right?",No,,,Weak,"Try to ask your brother more directly to make it clear what you wish for him to do in this situation (open up and talk to you more) rather than making a generalized statement about what he ""should"" be doing.","Having a drink doesn't mean I don't agree with it.  I drink too. I don't want you to feel like you can't come to me for support when you're feeling stressed. I want to make sure that you feel like you always have someone to talk to when you need it, regardless of what it's about.",No,"You can consider using the ""Reinforce"" strategy here to help solidify the negative outcome that you want to avoid by not being able to talk to your brother about his life","Having a drink doesn't mean I don't agree with it.  I drink too.  Doesn't me an you have to get defensive about it.  Right? You're my brother and I care a lot about you, so I would feel so sad if you felt like you couldn't come to me in these situations.",No,,,otter,Yes,,Having a drink doesn't mean I don't agree with it.  I drink too.  Doesn't me an you have to get defensive about it.  Right?,No,Don't get distracted by your brother's defensiveness -- that isn't the goal to be addressed in this conversation. Bring it back to your goal of discussing his drinking and behavior recently,"I drink too. I've noticed that you've been staying out late at night and drinking more frequently than usual which is unusual for you, so I wanted to check in and make sure that everything's going ok.  I don't want you to feel like you can't come to me for support when you're feeling stressed. I want to make sure that you feel like you always have someone to talk to when you need it, regardless of what it's about. You're my brother and I care a lot about you, so I would feel so sad if you felt like you couldn't come to me in these situations.","The utterance introduces personal habits and feelings into the discussion, which deviates from an objective analysis of the situation. It fails to focus solely on the facts regarding the brother's behavior and instead reflects the speaker's own views on drinking, leading to a defensive tone. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.",,"The utterance indirectly addresses the issue and does not clearly state your expectations for your brother's behavior, therefore, the rating for assert is Weak.","The utterance does not utilize the ""Reinforce"" strategy to emphasize the negative consequences of not addressing the brother's behavior, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance gets sidetracked by addressing the brother's defensiveness instead of focusing on the main issue of his drinking habits, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
158,158,158,Z8REJH,10,I was your age too and I was worse.  Would you agree?,Weak,You can elaborate on the facts to ensure that you and your brother are on the same page about what you're talking about in the past,"I hear you, I was your age too and I spent many more nights out partying and drinking with friends and also didn't want to feel like other people were judging me. ",No,,,No,,,No,"You can consider using the ""Reinforce"" strategy here as a way of connecting to and validating your brother's emotions, while also explaining what positive consequences you expect and hope for him by being able to talk to you.","I was your age too and I was worse. This is why I really want to make sure that you feel like you can come talk to me -- I've been in your shoes and know how lonely it can feel, and the last thing I want is for you to feel that way too. ",No,,,otter,Yes,,I was your age too and I was worse.  Would you agree?,No,Try not to get distracted into talking about your own history of drinking and partying -- the focus of this conversation is your brother and his current behavior,"I hear you, I was your age too and I spent many more nights out partying and drinking with friends and also didn't want to feel like other people were judging me. This is why I really want to make sure that you feel like you can come talk to me -- I've been in your shoes and know how lonely it can feel, and the last thing I want is for you to feel that way too. ","The utterance lacks detail and does not provide specific information about past behaviors, which could help clarify the comparison and ensure mutual understanding. Therefore, the rating for describe is Weak.",,,"The reason for the rating is that the utterance does not currently employ the ""Reinforce"" strategy to connect with and validate the brother's emotions or to outline positive consequences, therefore, the rating for reinforce is No.",,"The utterance shifts the focus from the brother's behavior to the speaker's past experiences, which is not relevant to the current discussion, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
159,159,159,Z8REJH,12,I was. You're never been arrested at least.  So yeah I've had it worse.,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,"You can consider using the ""Negotiate"" strategy here to help your brother feel like you're collaborating and coming up with a solution together that helps him feel comfortable",I hear you that you don't want to feel like you're being patronized or that someone is trying to tell you that you're wrong and that they know better. I don't want to make you feel this way when we talk about serious things. Is there a way that I could approach these conversations differently that would make you feel more comfortable and supported? ,otter,Yes,,I was. You're never been arrested at least.  So yeah I've had it worse.,No,Don't get distracted into talking about your own history and bringing up another topic about getting arrested -- refocus onto your goal regarding your brother,I hear you that you don't want to feel like you're being patronized or that someone is trying to tell you that you're wrong and that they know better. I don't want to make you feel this way when we talk about serious things. Is there a way that I could approach these conversations differently that would make you feel more comfortable and supported? ,,,,,"The utterance does not attempt to collaborate or find a mutual solution, therefore, the rating for negotiate is No.","The utterance shifts the focus from the speaker's brother to the speaker's own past experiences, which is not aligned with the goal of discussing the brother's behavior. Therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
160,160,160,Z8REJH,14,I wasn't arguing at all. And I didn't get defensive. Why so negative?,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,I wasn't arguing at all. And I didn't get defensive. Why so negative?,No,"Don't get distracted into arguing about ""he said/she said"" or your brother's negativity and redirect to your goals",I don't want this to feel like an argument to you either -- I apologize for my words making you feel uncomfortable and antagonized. I know that you're a strong and capable person and I only want to help you feel like you're not alone.,,,,,,"The utterance does not maintain focus on the speaker's goals and instead gets sidetracked into a defensive stance about the argument, therefore, the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
161,161,161,Z8REJH,16,I'm actually smiling because I find it funny. I was just trying to be friendly. ,No,,,Weak,You should try to express the motivation behind your actions in a more specific way that relates to your goals,I understand that you don't want to have a conversation that feels tense or negative. I feel the same way a lot of the time and worry that I don't give you enough opportunities to come to me about these sorts of things. ,No,,,No,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,I'm actually smiling because I find it funny. I was just trying to be friendly. ,No,"Don't get distracted by talking about why you said things a certain way or why you found something funny, instead reorient towards your main goal",I understand that you don't want to have a conversation that feels tense or negative. I feel the same way a lot of the time and worry that I don't give you enough opportunities to come to me about these sorts of things. I really want you to be able to come to me when you're feeling unsure or you just need someone to talk to. ,,"The utterance does not clearly convey the specific reasons behind finding the situation funny or the intention behind trying to be friendly, which does not align well with the context of concern from your mother. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,,,"The utterance deviates from addressing the concern about the brother's behavior by focusing on the speaker's reaction, thus the rating for mindful is No.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.
162,162,162,Z8REJH,18,"I appreciate that.  You should never be defensive about anything. No matter what anyone says, I'll ALWAYS be on your side first.  No matter what it is.",No,,,Weak,"Try to phrase your statements in ""I want"" (first-person) rather than ""you should"" (second-person)","I appreciate that. I never want you to feel like you can't come to me or that you need to be defensive when talking to me. No matter what anyone says, I'll ALWAYS be on your side first.  No matter what it is.",No,,,Strong,,,No,,,otter,Yes,,"I appreciate that.  You should never be defensive about anything. No matter what anyone says, I'll ALWAYS be on your side first.  No matter what it is.",Yes,,"I appreciate that.  You should never be defensive about anything. No matter what anyone says, I'll ALWAYS be on your side first.  No matter what it is.",,"The utterance does not strongly express your personal feelings or desires because it is phrased as advice to another person rather than a statement of your own feelings or wants. Therefore, the rating for express is Weak.",,"The utterance reinforces rewards effectively for the other person, therefore, the rating for reinforce is Strong.",,"The utterance sticks to the speaker's goal and does not get distracted by what the other person says, therefore, the rating for mindful is Yes.","The utterance has a confident tone, is effective and competent in conveying the speaker's goal, therefore, the rating for confident is Yes.",family,My brother has been going out a lot lately and my mom has been telling me that he's coming home drunk often.