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seeker: My parents live in another country and they cannot come here to my place because they dont have a valid visa.. supporter: Oh.without a visa i dont think they can enter in to the country..I can see the pain you are going through.. seeker: Is there any other option for me to consider? supporter: I think if you can go for hiring a personal nanny..if you can afford it..What do you say? seeker: I am little low on budget and cannot afford a nanny for my kid..or i cannot afford day care centers.. supporter: Oh that is a problem..ok you can try for applying child care assistance provided by the government to help you take care of your expenses..can you do it? seeker: I think i can search for it and work on it..This is a good idea..	Affirmation and Reassurance
supporter: I wish this virus ends soon. But believe me everyone have similar situation these days supporter: Did they try any online job? seeker: No online computer skills, but they now learned where to get some basic training. supporter: This sounds good. Wish to learn soon supporter: I am mourning for my grandpa and my uncle that they gone for the Covid. supporter: You should be happy that you have them seeker: I'm so sorry. I feel a little better talking about this. My family tries to help other family members but we can only do so much. That's when I got frustrated (helping them with unemployment)	Others
supporter: I'm well. What's going on? seeker: I just wanted to talk about my recent heartbreak supporter: What happened? supporter: What happened? seeker: My boyfriend cheat on me with my close friend seeker: i wouldnt say close tho seeker: but because i know her i had warned him about her]	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: He is in 4th grade. supporter: How is his report card looking? seeker: Ok. Average to below average. He has a good heart but he just doesn't like school. supporter: I can understand that. I hated school to. supporter: Have you tried talking to his teacher? seeker: I worry that he is falling behind. I think he will be ok but I also worry about him. seeker: We have talked about a month ago. His current teacher is out with a medical condition so with remote learning and and her being out, it has been tough.	Affirmation and Reassurance
supporter: Have you tried reading? I find reading motivates me sometimes, too. Sometimes too much thinking alone leaves me digging a hole for myself. seeker: I used to get a lot of pleasure from reading and would always have a book on the go. Now reading feels like a chore, as if I am making myself do it. supporter: I sometimes force myself to exercise when I get sleepy when I shouldn't be tired during the day. seeker: That's a good idea I could definitely try that. seeker: I suppose that is a little weather dependant though. supporter: Maybe try YouTubing? There are a lot of interesting channels that talks about science, technology, personal health, ... etc. That can be beneficial to you and worthwhile. seeker: I do watch a lot of youtube, but it's mainly true crime I am into. I always forget there is other content on there other than what is in my subscription box.	Providing Suggestions
supporter: You will find a job if you are determined enough :) seeker: People were let go every Friday for the last month. I was hoping I had another week to try and save up. supporter: Do you have enough money to keep going? seeker: I am looking around the house trying to find things I can sell just to get me through the next week as far as groceries and I think my phone bill is due too. seeker: I really don't. This came at the worst time. seeker: I don't know what to do. supporter: I think that selling your old possessions is a great idea	Reflection of feelings
supporter: Yes I worked a dead end job for ages when I was younger and sometimes you just feel stuck seeker: How did you push past that job? supporter: I am going to be honest a little luck was involved I managed to impress a customer that came in and ended up applying at their work. seeker: Are you still with that job now, enough to consider it a career? supporter: I would say so I am an insurance broker, it has only been a year or so but there seems to be room to move up. You can find something too seeker: Is there any advice for getting out of my situation? seeker: aside from luck that is	Question
supporter: You can try gig worker, being on Mturk can bring some decent money if you're diligent seeker: Anyone tips for Mturk? I'm new to this. supporter: I only work after office hours now so I aim for good paying gigs. Back when I had more time, I just did any gigs available seeker: Any suggestions for gig work? supporter: Do any work you can get, it's all about speed and willingness seeker: Thanks for the positive vibes, but my future looks dim unfortunately. supporter: I understand, it's hard to be positive right now	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: I'm going through a divorce and it's just a lot to deal with. supporter: Divorce is tough. Have been through it myself. Especially tough, I would imagine, in these times. seeker: Yes, it is especially hard because I live far away from all of my family and I am unable to visit with them. supporter: Do you have any support in the area you live in? seeker: No, I do not really have any support in the area I live. supporter: I'm glad you reached out. Having support is something we all need. Zoom and being far away isn't the ideal support I'm sure. seeker: Yes, it's not ideal, but it is nice to have support even if it is over the phone, Zoom, etc.	Self-disclosure
seeker: what am ii supposed to do in this situation supporter: have you spoken to any friends or family members about how you are feeling? seeker: yeah but there not helping about anything supporter: has anything changed recently in your life that you think might be contributing to this feeling of depression that you are having? seeker: yes i lost my job last month supporter: I'm sorry to hear that. my friend lost his job about 6 months ago and he was also feeling a similar way. I think this is to be expected when you have a sudden change in circumstances however this by no means undermines the seriousness of the issue seeker: so i have joined groups i thing i will be better soon	Providing Suggestions
seeker: We had friends in common and I feel they liked her better than me. supporter: So you went through a breakup, and feel that the friends you had in common prefer her to you, so you don't want to see your firends any more, am I understanding correctly? seeker: I have a fear they laughing at me behind my back, you know what I mean? supporter: do you have any evidence they are laughing at you or not liking you? or is it a feeling you have? supporter: I know sometimes I think someone feels a certain way about me, but if I ask them, it turns out not to be true, and it clears the air. Sometimes it's just in my own head. seeker: I don't know how to explain. I have a feeling everybody even on the street are laughing because of my breakup with partner. supporter: i see	Question
seeker: yeah I take breaks in between. supporter: Yea this pandemic has me not as motivated to seeker: But sometimes a lot more breaks or longer breaks than intended or I should seeker: yeah definitely. Sorry to hear that. seeker: It's like everyday is the same and I can't go out to refresh my mind or have a change of pace such as going to the gym or go out for a run seeker: whereas before the pandemic, I can switch gears that way and come back refreshed seeker: like going out to the movies and coming back with renewed enthusiasm	Self-disclosure
seeker: Any other suggestion you might have? supporter: Getting involved in a new hobby, or something you used to enjoy, can be helpful seeker: I don't have any hobby per say.. but I would like to travel new places.. supporter: That sounds like so much fun! seeker: I will plan for some travel.. supporter: That sounds like a great idea. I know it's hard now but I think you'll start feeling better soon seeker: Thanks for you suggestion.. have a good day.	Others
seeker: I work around food all day and it makes me hungry so I have been sneaking bites of food when no ones looking. I am afraid. I will get caught supporter: So, you are feeling guilty that you've been breaking the rules and your conscience is catching up with you? seeker: Well yes. that is correct. but the food looks sooooo good. how can you no eat? supporter: Well, you won't be able to eat if you get fired ;) I can understand the temptation though - I used to work fast food and I would steal fries sometimes supporter: Do you ever have any sort of compulsion to steal other things or is it just food? seeker: see you do it too!!!!! seeker: just food. like fries	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: lol definitely! Currently I pay $750 monthly if I purchase healthcare on my own but only $163 monthly through my work supporter: Goodness .. I do not have to pay anything. Also our prescriptions are fixed at about ten pounds each. supporter: I think maybe your job dilemma would be easier if you moved to a different country :D seeker: I would lose about $3000 monthly leaving my job supporter: You might be able to make that much from home though. And what's life if you don't take the odd risk? seeker: still there? supporter: Yes I am :)	Question
supporter: Have you thought about talking to an administrator at your school? seeker: I hope so. But I feel like this could have been handled better. seeker: Not yet, there is a waiting list to talk to an academic advisor. supporter: that is all the more reason to be frustrated, i commend you for having to deal with that! seeker: Thanks. I feel like my head is going to explode though. The remainder of the semester is going to be online. supporter: Have you thought about talking to a close friend or someone you trust about these stressors? seeker: Yes, I talked with my friend about it and she said don't worry. But I can't help it.	Affirmation and Reassurance
supporter: That's so cool! I've never been on a plane and I've never been anywhere north or west of Pennsylvania. I've been in every state from PA down to Florida, but nowhere else. I really need to travel more! supporter: That sounds like a beautiful area. Have you considered going skiing, snowboarding, or snow tubing since you live right near Blue Mountain? seeker: Omg, yes. Travel! I've been to some really strange places. It's awesome. lol supporter: I went snow tubing at Blue Mountain once. It was so much fun! seeker: I haven't, but maybe I should! I teach, and I always have students who work there. lol seeker: Come to think of it, they might sabotage my tube. lol seeker: That's a really good idea though. Thanks. I always see groupons for tubing, too.	Providing Suggestions
seeker: Well mostly he'shaving problems affording rent too and I can't help him much and it sucks that I can't help him ata ll supporter: Ah, i get it. So what I'm understanding from this is that you feel helpless in this situation and that's what's making you anxious? seeker: Yes supporter: Can you tell me a little more about how this feeling of helplessness is affecting you personally? seeker: It makes me feel sad and lost. I'm afraid he's going to lose his apartment supporter: Does it bring back memories of another time where you felt helpless or is this the first time you're feelling this way? seeker: No it doesn't	Reflection of feelings
supporter: and in that case you are no worse off seeker: This is very true. It does help to realise that I am not the only person in this position right now! supporter: what have you been doing at home now that you aren't working to keep busy? seeker: I have been keeping in touch with friends and family on social media. It is a lifeline but I would still really prefer to be back out there at work! supporter: i agree! there's nothing like real interaction. it's good that you are keeing in touch with people, many people are feeling isolated right now seeker: Do you think that this situation is going to be over anytime soon? It would really make a difference to me to think that it was. supporter: the 1918 spanish flu pandemic was followed by the roaring 1920's -- so i think if history repeats itself we will be good!	Providing Suggestions
seeker: I see. Yes I do enjoy knitting. I just don't feel like I have time to do that. supporter: I can understand how you feel that you don't have time. seeker: When I do have time I feel too exhausted to do anything else. supporter: Parents need to learn to take care of their own needs first before their children. Only then can you be truly available for anyone else. seeker: You're right, I need to find time for me. supporter: Indeed, once you free up some time for yourself, I bet you'll start to feel better. seeker: Do you have other suggestions?	Providing Suggestions
supporter: I can understand how you could feel sad and left out but its your life. I think you know whats best for you. Its not like you are 16 seeker: THat's true but they have been so distant and i don't know how to bridge the gap. supporter: I mean you are 29 give me a break . You are very mature and know what makes you happy and you have had some time to explore the world so to speak. Give me one moment to think of a solution supporter: are they close friends or just friends supporter: Either way have you been able to have a heart to heart and be like I love xxx and I value our friendship how can we work together to make this work? seeker: My best friends, I also left the major city that we all lived in. With COVID, i havent had a chance to meet other friends. seeker: That's a good approach. I should try it.	Self-disclosure
seeker: I am not doing well. I am very worried about my son's chances of recovery after so many relapses and frustrated because I know there is really nothing I can do to change things for him. supporter: You must be very frustrated from feeling unable to do something. seeker: I am. He is a different person when he's not on drugs but when he is using he can get really mean and he scares me. supporter: I remember when my mother was having end of life mental declining issues. I understand feeling as if the person is changing and having unusual moods and mood swings. supporter: Do you have anyone you can talk to? seeker: I try not to think about the situation, because I don't see him since he lives in another state. But I can't get everything out of my mind. And yes I have my husband to talk to, that helps some. It's when I'm trying to sleep or when my husband isn't home that's the worst for me. supporter: You are feeling the way anybody in your situation would fee like. It must be helpful to have a husband who listens and can be supportive when he is there.	Question
supporter: I believe that it could be a new career option. seeker: yes supporter: I believe that you can succeed for sure. seeker: thanks, I will try to find some providers supporter: The key to success is having a positive attitude and believing in yourself. seeker: or I could start doing that on my own seeker: Awesome. I will keep in mind and I agree with you	Self-disclosure
supporter: Do you have any family, girlfriend, boyfriend, children? seeker: I have family and a boyfriend but they all live far and I have not seen them in while. supporter: Not seeing your closed ones or simply being apart from them can be more than enough to make us feel depressed or blue. supporter: Have you tried doing videocalls with them, for example? seeker: Yes sometimes. I don't tell them how I feel though. I don't want them to worry about me. supporter: I understand. However, there is nothing wrong with telling them that you are sad because you miss them. Something as simple as getting it off your chest can already make you feel better. seeker: I suppose. I just worry that I will make them sad too. It's hard time for everyone.	Reflection of feelings
seeker: yes supporter: It is very difficult to know what to say. It is a big worry and I wonder if you can be happy in your new environment if you can't be sure that what you've left behind is okay supporter: Is it possible that you are worrying unnecessarily though? seeker: no seeker: only worried most about my mother, she will not leave dad supporter: Have you considered looking into other forms of help that your parents could have when you are not there? There are organisations that could check in on them seeker: she feels more happy while seeing me	Affirmation and Reassurance
supporter: Have you broken up yet? seeker: No, I am so mad but I don't want to break up with him. I told my best friends that I never want to see her again though. My boyfriend and I have plans to get engaged this month. I am furious at him though. supporter: I think you should postpone the engagement as infidelity during marriage is far more painful supporter: You are strong if you are able to forgive him though because I know I wouldn't seeker: I have never been so blind sided. Maybe I should reconsider! I have had a guy after me for at least the last year but I never cheated! I really wanted to though. supporter: No you should never cheat, because you would be on the same wavelength as your boyfriend. Instead, if you like the other man then you should go where your feelings take you :) seeker: I am thinking that you are right. I feel like my whole world is upside down and I have wasted all this time with the wrong guy and the wrong best friend. I also wonder who else he might have cheated on my with.	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: I guess, it cause of my fears, that I can miss the new friends. supporter: Multi player games help I would assume. Do you play with people you actually know sometimes? I am sure that you make a great friend so we can explore areas of meeting new people, I can tell you that I am not having the easiest time keeping up with friends and I am certainly not meeting new people in person very often myself. seeker: Almost, I play solo. Yeah, I undertsand your message. You said right things. supporter: Okay so perhaps play with people as opposed to solo. Do you think it would be worth a try? seeker: Yes, I need to try it. I guess it's one of the best way to solve my problem. Thanks supporter: You are quite welcome. Perhaps I can play as well. Is it easy to catch on or are the games you play difficult? seeker: Yh, it kinda difficult, cause need to know some staff, before you play it.	Question
supporter: Is there anything specific going on in school that it making you anxious? seeker: Yes, I have a large project I must complete for one class, a very important exam for another, and for another my professor is quite incompetent and might cause me to fail that course. supporter: Okay, so from what I have read you are anxious because you have a project and an exam going on and you are struggling in another, is that correct? seeker: Yes, that is correct. It's caused severe anxiety for me. supporter: I can tell just from these few messages how anxious you are about these things. supporter: I am currently in college too, and I completely understand the anxiety around your project and your exams. seeker: Yes, it's very unfortunate that things turned out this way. I might have the project and exam dealt with, but the one with the incompetent professor makes me want to slam my head on the wall.	Providing Suggestions
seeker: Just me and my daughter. supporter: Many landlords understand the struggle and are allowing tenants extra time when they can't pay. Is that the case for you? seeker: I don't know, they seem understanding but who knows how much longer? I just hate this unknown. supporter: It sounds like the stress of the unknown is really getting to you. I have definitely felt this way over the past year too, You aren't alone. When I start to fell stressed, I take a few deep breaths and focus on what I can control. seeker: Yes, I keep pushing on. Thank you for your understanding. supporter: In your case, you can control how many applications you fill out. And it sounds like you are filling out many. I believe if you keep doing that, you will find a job. seeker: That is what I keep hoping.	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: Which one do you do personally? supporter: giving task is my favorite :) seeker: What is a good example? supporter: Telling friend to drink 4 glass of water at once, making bed in 30 seconds, finding particular content on laptop in specific time(30 sec or45 sec) seeker: Those seem pretty interesting. Thanks for the advice supporter: No problem! Is there anything else that I can help you with seeker: No, I think you did a great job giving advice.	Others
supporter: Not at all. It is very easy. Easier than flu shot seeker: Oh, good. That does make me feel better. Thank you for that. supporter: Your welcome seeker: I hope once she's able to be vaccinated, I'll be able to get back in the classroom for learning. Then maybe my grades will improve seeker: Covid has had me very anxious the past year. School hasn't been as easy as it used to be, and I've been worried about my mom getting it. supporter: Definitely. I am assuring you will be fine very soon. seeker: Thank you for saying that. This has made me feel much better.	Others
supporter: That is a really worthwhile goal and I genuinely think that you can achieve it if you stick to your guns. Please try not to let one bad year put you off perusing your dream seeker: Thank you for talking with me, it's been really helpful supporter: You are most welcome. We have five minutes left if there's anything you'd like to talk about in addition to what you have already told me. supporter: Perhaps you could tell me if you feel a little more positive now? You do sound it seeker: I am definitely feeling a bit more positive after this conversation seeker: I think it's good to put things in context and focus on the future, as you said supporter: I am glad to have been able to help. We all need someone to talk to during a time like this	Providing Suggestions
seeker: Bye supporter: You are welcome. Best of luck! supporter: I believe you have to end the conversation as I am not able to. I am here to keep on talking too if you would like. seeker: One more question, did you stop drinking alcohol completely or did you go about your consuption? supporter: I have done both; I have gone periods of 6-12 months having nothing to drink and then when I could control it I would allow myself to have drinks on special occasions. I tried not to drink during the week and only once on the weekend at most. seeker: That sounds like a good plan. I hope I will also come up something that can work for me. Also, will try seeking help from my doctor. seeker: Thank you once more. Bye	Others
supporter: Awesome! Let me know if there is anything else I can do to help you in these tough times. It can be useful to take some time to relax too :) Maybe eat a favorite food or talk with a friend or go on a long walk to destress :) seeker: I will try to go and meditate on you teach me now thanks supporter: Awesome, meditation can always help make complex problems feel a bit simpler. And it is okay to feel upset right now, as long as you realize that things will get better, and that you have lots of people supporting you! supporter: Anything else i can help you with? Or are you going to go meditate now? seeker: No for now thanks talking with you supporter: You're welcome! Hope you have a wonderful week :) Always good to chat seeker: Thanks	Others
supporter: yes, i feel the sdasme way too seeker: We had not thought of such a difference between us. supporter: Yes, so many differences seeker: Nowadays, we only chat on and not try to go out. That makes us excited and enjoyed. supporter: hmmm, that sounds fun seeker: But it seems boring and thinking of making a plan that suits all. Do you have some experience of going tour with friends, so that I can get some idea from you. supporter: yea that will be boring on the long run, just try and mix it up	Information
seeker: Hello Bob, nice to meet you seeker: I would like to talk but not sure if I can I will try supporter: How can I help you? seeker: I am a caregiver and i can only come back and forth supporter: Please do your best. That is all I can expect. supporter: Can you elaborate? What do you mean by that? supporter: You're doing great by contributing to your own cause on Christmas Night.	Question
supporter: Doesn't hurt to check them out. seeker: yeah that's very true. I've never heard of that before so thanks for the tip. supporter: Youre welcome supporter: Is there anything else I can help you with today? seeker: also I'm not sure why this is making me feel so angry I think it's the stress of the situation. you mentioned what I can do to relax at the end of the day, do you think this will help see things more clearly? supporter: Skill share can help you learn new skills and try out yoga or mediation. seeker: yeah I read that yoga I can be really good for your health and your mental well-being.	Information
seeker: Yes, that is exactly how I feel. I was deserted, I feel unlovable, like no one will ever want me again. supporter: Please don't think that! I have been in this situation and I know how awful it is but I also know that it will pass. seeker: It doesn’t;t feel like it will pass. It feels like it will only get worse. I don’t want to go to bed alone. I won’t be able to sleep tonight. supporter: Would you be able to go and visit friends or family members? Get some support? seeker: My family is out of town. My friends were also his friends and he told lies about me so they wont talk to me. I want to just get drunk and go to sleep. supporter: Oh that is not a good idea. Do you think you have an alcohol problem? There are support groups out there who could help you. seeker: I never drink alone but I feel so bad now and afraid of being alone.	Providing Suggestions
seeker: Yeah that's true. I do tend to go straight for the most difficult option sometimes! A walk is probably a nice thing to do, especially now the flowers are all starting to come out supporter: And being out in nature has a way of restoring something basic in us. seeker: Yeah, I do like being outside. Sometimes I can go days without leaving the house so it will probably help to go outside supporter: Do you meditate? seeker: I don't, it's not something I have ever tried. Do you think it might help? supporter: Yes, it's great to take a few minutes to quiet your mind and appreciate being in the now. seeker: Maybe I'll give that a try this evening, see if it can help calm me before bed	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: i feel wrong by the situation supporter: I understand how you feel. I am estranged from my mother. Is there any chance you could reconcile? seeker: I'm sorry to hear that. I hope it gets better. We are in family therapy but he refuses to apologize supporter: There is a good deal of therapy available for your circumstances. Do you think you should try a different kind? seeker: what other options are there? supporter: There is free therapy available for people who feel that they cannot get along with one or both parents. seeker: I am already in therapy with him but it doesnt seem to be helping that much	Affirmation and Reassurance
supporter: Great, thank you. What can I help you with today? seeker: My buddy can be an asshole when he is drinking. I was just expressing his in the hit. I guess you are to help me with that situation? Not sure how you are supposed to do this but give it a shot. supporter: Have you tried talking to him about his drinking? Is he otherwise a pretty good friend when he's sober? seeker: Yeah he is a good friend and it doesn't happen all that often but often enough. He knows that he has to cut down. He has talked about laying off the booze but once he starts, he is the kind that drinks to get drunk. seeker: How old are you and where are you from? seeker: male or female? supporter: I'm a early 30s woman from Michigan, and I actually used to have a problem with my drinking as well. People kind of pushed the problem aside though because drinking is so socially acceptable.	Providing Suggestions
supporter: I think you need to think carefully about what you really want. If you feel like this then I would suggest you do talk to her about it, however you may be best talking it through with a friend or family member first seeker: That's not a bad idea. I think I will speak to one of my friends about this ,he's normally pretty good with that kind of thing. supporter: yes it's really good to talk it through with someone first just really understand if trying to restart your old relationship is the right thing to do for you. seeker: I think I conversation has actually helped me understand my motivations a little better. you have also given me some good suggestions so thank you for that supporter: I'm happy to hear that. supporter: you seem like a really decent person and I'm sure you will make the right decision and I'm positive you can get past this! seeker: Thanks for the conversation. It really helped.	Others
seeker: daily my stress very high seeker: my body and my mind very tired seeker: my family happiness daily challenges supporter: Music is a great stress relief! Excercise is great too, for releasing those happy endorphins! Both music and exercise really help me deal with my stress levels! seeker: ok supporter: You are having stress in your family as well? seeker: what type of music	Providing Suggestions
seeker: hmm so you prioritize the quick tasks? supporter: this pandemic most definitely has caused frustrations for everyone supporter: yes, it makes the list of things to do a little shorter and not as overwhelming seeker: i think when I can GO places to do things with other people it will be easier to be motivated/active seeker: i have tried breaking jobs down into smaller tasks that does help, you're right on that seeker: but it breaks my heart that i have not touched my art and sewing! i had all this "extra" time over this past year, and couldn't crack into it seeker: have you any other ideas?	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: Situation is as described above; have an addiction issue which led to prison time. Trying to get back on track. Youtube channel is to share things I learned about religion as I took a deep dive with the time I had. Sorry, not wanting to share name. seeker: People told me I should become a minister or write a book. The Youtube channel is to share the insights. supporter: Oh no problem regarding the name. I'm sure that you could be helpful to so many. And it must be difficult getting back on track into the wide open world. seeker: America is unforgiving of mistakes initially. But we were a country founded on cast offs from other places. seeker: Assume you are in the States, or no? supporter: For sure! It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders! supporter: I am in the US yes.	Question
supporter: I like him too lol. seeker: You sound like someone I'd like to smoke a spliff with In a moderated manner of course, in relevance to the topic I opened with supporter: But I don't get to vote for London mayor. Only if I were a London resident or nearby would I (sorry for tortured syntax) seeker: Prescriptive grammar is fascism, use whatever words in whatever order you like seeker: Ironic given that I just watched My Fair Lady the other day supporter: Haha I don't indulge these days, except for once in a blue moon :P seeker: You've got those weird drug shops in the UK, with synthetics and all that	Self-disclosure
seeker: Thanks for the idea do you have any more tips? supporter: i think you need to take help from your family or friend those who know all about your studies seeker: Thanks for helping me I might pass the exam after all. supporter: your welcome , thanks for sharing your problem seeker: Your welcome! supporter: any time seeker: Bye!	Restatement or Paraphrasing
supporter: Ah yes, this has been especially obvious during the pandemic hasn't it? Too many people not following the social distancing rules seeker: well, you could say that. seeker: take christmas, for example. people give everyone else gifts out of obligation supporter: Do you feel that the pandemic has made you feel worse? Or have you felt like this for a long time? seeker: a long time. more as i age. i'm actually tired about hearing about the pandemic, really. it is all people ever talk about. seeker: more people are probably dying of obesity seeker: eating themselves to death	Providing Suggestions
supporter: I hope I have been able to give you a little perspective on your problems! Is there something else you'd like to talk to me about today? seeker: I think you have helped step back. Sometimes when you are in the middle of it you can’t find a way out. supporter: That is very true. Try and remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel. supporter: Thanks for talking and have a lovely rest of day! seeker: Thank you. You too. I guess I should go try to be present with my family. seeker: Please enjoy your day supporter: Yes :)	Others
seeker: im thinking of calling the cops supporter: I think if you talk to her again and tell her you are looking out for her best interests it may help open a conversation. supporter: If you do end up calling the cops, at least you will have tried to speak with her first. seeker: i should tell her that i am thinking about calling the cops, at least seeker: or maybe not cuz she might tell him seeker: then he can get rid of it. seeker: i think she is working with him, maybe, or at least covering for him	Question
seeker: Yes, exactly. supporter: You are an extremely good and loyal friend and I am so proud of you. Most people would have left her. seeker: Thank you. That's really important to me. She was starting to convince me that I wasn't a good friend because I wasn't there for her right now when I had problems of my own. Real problems - like my daughter's engagement breaking up. supporter: However, it is time to take the hard road. YOu are going to have to say with LOVE because its not always what you say but how you say it. Give me a minute to please type it seeker: Okay, thank you. supporter: You are going to have to sit her down and say I need to be honest with you. I have always been there for you but you are not willing to take my advice or others advice and quite frankly I just can't do it anymore. IF you want to remain friends I need you to grow up and realize the world doesn't revolve around you or even me. Right now I could really use a good friend. I am going thru A LOT OF Sh** and I don't need this in my life. So seeker: I think that's a good idea. I'll try that.	Others
seeker: Every time I would bring it up he would dismiss it. I just don't know what to do. How can I get him back? supporter: Maybe you could try to talk to him about seeking help for depression? Talking to someone close to him or even a professional would help him immensely. Talking to a counselor would help him learn ways to cope with his feelings. seeker: That is a good idea. I want him to get back to being himself. He is like a different person right now. It's scary. supporter: I understand completely. Depression runs in my family and if it goes untreated, can scare anyone that is involved. You can try suggesting that he talks to a close friend, family member, or counselor to talk about how he is feeling and ways to cope with it. Sometimes medication could be a good way to fix the chemical imbalance that can cause depression. seeker: I will try to help him, he just doesn't want to seem to talk to my anymore. Do you have any suggestions on how to approach it with him? supporter: You could start a conversation by saying that you just want to check on him and see if he is okay and how he is doing. You don't want to start the conversation by immediately telling him to get help, as he might just get defensive. seeker: That is a good approach. And you don't think I will further upset him?	Providing Suggestions
seeker: Yes sometimes. I don't tell them how I feel though. I don't want them to worry about me. supporter: I understand. However, there is nothing wrong with telling them that you are sad because you miss them. Something as simple as getting it off your chest can already make you feel better. seeker: I suppose. I just worry that I will make them sad too. It's hard time for everyone. supporter: Totally, but remember than they are there for you whenever you need them. seeker: Yes that's true. Do you have any suggestions on what to say? supporter: I bet something as simple as "Hey babe, I really miss you. I can't be glad with your abscence" could make your boyfriend feel loved while at the same time relieving you. seeker: That is true. I believe I have a problem showing vulnerability.	Reflection of feelings
seeker: they are good people i thing the problem is with me supporter: why? you think you are non-social? seeker: yes i'm seeker: i also have this mentality of trying to stay away from trouble by not keeping friends supporter: sounds like a good impulse supporter: staying out of trouble is a good habit, I mean. seeker: really?	Question
seeker: I can't leave this convo until 15 minutes is up supporter: Oh dang well I guess we'll just wait then seeker: i was feeling good but now i'm depressed again, trapped here in in chat bubble loop. what if my dream job is out there and someone just snagged it? seeker: help! I don't like being trapped in places supporter: Don't worry there'll be plenty of opprtunites. You have a unique set of skills that nobody else has seeker: ok, you're right, you're right. just another minute left, i can do this seeker: it's like fear factor	Affirmation and Reassurance
supporter: Moving on from a toxic relationship is important. seeker: why .. ?? seeker: great supporter: My spouse is Narcissistic and I woke up to the understanding of the abuse. seeker: how to feel after breakup?? seeker: ohh okay supporter: Most of the time, I feel confident about the breakup but there are times I become insecure.	Self-disclosure
supporter: Does that loss still affect your day-to-day life or do you feel like you were able to handle those feelings in a healthy way? seeker: I am still feeling the effects of it today. I don't know exactly how to cope properly. supporter: It sounds like you're still struggling with that loss. That is entirely normal. seeker: That's great that it's normal....but I'm not sure how that's helping me. supporter: It sounds like you're looking for a way to handle these feelings in a healthy way. Am i right in that? seeker: I guess so. I'm not sure where to start or even if I need do. seeker: to	Others
seeker: I like museum jobs or jobs that work with animals, but all of those require years of experience that I can't get because no one will hire me supporter: Oh okay, well while looking for job try not to put yourself in position where you take deep breaths and let your mind at piece. Patience is everything. Sometime in life we all have our patience tested, but that is OK because at the end the results are better than anything. supporter: I mean try to put yourself in that position. seeker: That is true. Maybe it just isn't the right time. Maybe I need to learn something before I find a job that I need to do supporter: Of course! Everything comes at a perfect time, and we have to learn to be patient, and while waiting we can indulge in other activities that we like. supporter: While doing your online job maybe you can work in activities that build experience for a job you want to do next time. seeker: I volunteer once a week with animals	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: I love flowy dresses for that reason seeker: do you do anything else when you are feeling bad about yourself? supporter: I like a nice facemask and a bubble bath, do you? seeker: I like doing my makeup and getting dressed up, even if I have nowhere to go supporter: That is a good thing to do .. great for the self esteem. Maybe buy some new jewellery too? seeker: I like the idea of pampering myself. That is something I don't do too often seeker: and I need to do it more. Perhaps I will feel better then	Providing Suggestions
supporter: That's a great idea, I'm glad you're looking into things to do in the meantime. seeker: I'm going to miss the people I worked with as well. supporter: Unfortunately, this is such an isolating time and losing some of that contact is going to be an adjustment. I can completely understand that. seeker: Yes. it is. I know that we'll get through this whole thing, but in the meantime it's just so crazy making and anxiety inducing. supporter: I can definitely relate to that. The amount of anxiety this has all caused is more than I could've ever imagined. The important thing is that we reach out and talk about things in order to help reset and deal with what's going on. seeker: For sure, these times are so scary. supporter: We'll get through it. You seem motivated to find a new job which is half the battle. And construction is a good field to be in, everyone needs the services you can provide.	Restatement or Paraphrasing
supporter: oh i'm very sorry to hear that. but the great thing about having worked in a kitchen is that there are a lot of skills you can use in other jobs seeker: All the restaurants are closing, and the ones open gotta duty to keep the employees they already had. Where else are my culinary skills gonna be used? supporter: i understand that losing a job sucks and i can sense your frustration at the situation but there are other opportunities out there, and you don't need to be thinking only in the culinary field seeker: All i have done is cook, my whole adult life. I dont know how to do anything else. supporter: time management, resourcefulness, being able to think on your feet and manage multiple things at once are skills i'm sure you use and developed in the kitchen, and those are skills you can take anywhere seeker: Wow! Never thougt of it like that. But still, i dont have a clue where those skills would be useful. All i know is the kitchen. supporter: don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure there are a lot of things you can do. of course if you want to stay in the culinary field, you might need to get creative in the short term. have you thought about finding opportunities to be a private chef? or maybe even make pre-made meals to sell for people who don't want to or dont have time to cook for themselves?	Providing Suggestions
seeker: I have checked his email folders and we have talked about his over the top usage of porn and online dating sites. He has admitted that he is in fact a sex addict! Should I hold on or should I let it go? Just find someone else that I can actually trust? supporter: First of all, I have a fre questions to ask supporter: Does the idea of him being sex addict change how you feel about him? seeker: What's the fre question? what is fre? seeker: Not necessarily . Just the trust issue really. supporter: I would say you should cut tie with him. Being into porn is a serious issue but what's more important is he lied to you about that seeker: We've known each other for years and have been friends for a very long time.. We dated on and off and things just seem to always go back to this weird off place.	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: That's hopeful to hear! Thank you! Do you know if there's another stimulus check coming? Those have helped me so much. It's also amazing what a kind person, who really listens and wants to help, can do for your well being as well! supporter: I have heard that another one is coming, and this one should be better than the last one. It's all dependent on income, so anyone that makes less than 80k a year should be getting the full amount according to what I've heard. I agree, they did help! Would that ease your burden a little bit if the next one comes soon? seeker: Great! I will definitely qualify if that's the case. I would be able to pay rent if we get this check soon. It's been so hard making ends meet. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed I feel like I can't breathe. Any tips for that? supporter: Hang in there, I'm sure help is on the way and your positive attitude will help carry you until then, you seem like a really strong person. For me, I try taking really deep breaths and even meditating if it gets really bad. Have you ever tried anything like that? seeker: That's so kind of you to say. I try to stay positive and be strong but I often feel like I'm failing. It helps to hear words of support that I'm going to make it through this tough time. I've never meditate before. Do you listen to music or just silence. I would love to give that a shot. I try to take deep breaths. Oftentimes it helps but only for a moment. Maybe mediation could help me overall for longer periods of time. supporter: You're not failing as long as you're still trying and not giving up. All we can do sometimes is pick ourselves back up and keep plugging along. There are a few apps available that have calming music, stories to listen to, or even breath exercises to try. They are all over the app stores. It definitely helps me! Meditation has been proven to help a lot of people in stressful situations. seeker: That's so true! I'm going to write that down and post it on my fridge! Those are the words I'm going to live by for the next while. I'll look up some apps! Thank you for being such a great listener and supporter. I feel so much lighter and hopeful. I can't believe how much this has helped me. I look forward to chatting again soon. Thank you so much! You have no idea how grateful I am to you right now. I won't give up!	Self-disclosure
seeker: Hi there, I really need someone to talk to. My partner has been cheating on me and I feel totally worthless. supporter: oh my goodness. I'm so sorry to hear that. when did you find out? seeker: Only very recently. I answered his phone and it was her! When I confronted him he admitted it. supporter: that's a hard way to find out. are you still in the same house? seeker: Yes because for financial reasons we have to be. Our relationship is really strained though and we are sleeping in separate bedrooms. supporter: i can't imagine what you are going through, but separate spaces sounds like a very good idea to me. seeker: It is made worse by the fact that we are in lockdown and so can't really see other people at the moment. Do you think I should try and break away for good?	Affirmation and Reassurance
supporter: I understand. I have been in a similar situation myself. Heartbreak is one of the hardest feelings to go through, but I believe in you and your strength. supporter: From what I've seen before, surrounding yourself with good friends helps quite a bit. seeker: Thank you very much. But i can't accept this pain. supporter: I understand feeling that way. Something I do when I am feeling pain is taking deep breaths. Inhale, exhale. Could you do that for me? seeker: I am sorry. I can't chat any more please end of this survey. seeker: Ok. I can try. supporter: I am sorry to hear that. I believe in you, things will be better with time.	Question
seeker: I talk to my family, but the whole family is not doing really fine supporter: It sounds like you feel people think you are complaining when you talk about your Aunt's death making you sad. Is that correct? seeker: yes supporter: Do you feel you are complaining? seeker: yes, I feel like noone wants to listen seeker: I need to do something by mnyself seeker: Can you recommend someting for me to do to feel better?	Providing Suggestions
supporter: Are these mandatory classes for your degree supporter: May I aks what your major is seeker: Yes, I am in a full schedule. The class I might fail is mandatory for my Computer Science degree. That is why I am so concerned. supporter: Is it online in person seeker: That class in particular is online. supporter: Being online makes it harder. seeker: You think so? I kept telling myself that they were supposed to be easier, since its on the computer.	Restatement or Paraphrasing
supporter: Hope you are feeling bit relaxed now. seeker: Yes! I feel a lot better now that I know someone understands how I feel supporter: I am glad that I am able to make you happy. seeker: One more thing seeker: How should I respond to the friends that are ganging up on me? supporter: sure! You don't have to worry about that. that should be their problem. just ignore them or don't give attention. They will stop doing it for sure. seeker: Hmm..interesting because now that I think about it, I believe this could have contributed to the stress and anxieties that I have been experiencing. When I don't get support from anyone I feel so alone, timid and down	Others
supporter: How else can I help? seeker: Not really just the salary was cut into two because of pandemic now they are planning to layoff some staffs which I am scare of, not to affect me supporter: Have you consider becoming an Uber driver or Lyft driver to supplement your income? seeker: Thanks! I am not even thinking about that at all supporter: You can definitely do it as a way to buffer yourself against loss of income. supporter: Does that suggestion help? seeker: Yes! I will consider that,	Providing Suggestions
supporter: naw there's a time thing too :). Anyway, what sort of therapy do you think would be appropriate for you? supporter: To be honest, and I mean this sincerely, I've been through it :( seeker: I believe rehabilitative therapy would be best supporter: It can be very expensive though. In my country you can get it for free but there's a long waiting list. seeker: I have hads a few drinks often but never abused it. thankfully. seeker: Well here you might can get help for free, but it does have to be paid back supporter: Heh be grateful :)	Information
supporter: I've been there too supporter: Expecially with covid, it can be hard realiing you may be alone and it may be frusterating dating someone new supporter: if you really love someone, shouldnt they love you back? did his actions show love? seeker: Yeah, and we have been together since high school so it is really hard to think of ever marrying anyone else. He asked me to marry him but we never made it official or got rings. supporter: if you did get back together and get married, how do you know he wouldnt cheat again? what if you had kids? they would have to see you go through heartbreak supporter: i think its normal to want to marry your high school sweetheart seeker: He told me he never wants kids with me but acts like he would have them someday, somehow? I think you're right.	Self-disclosure
seeker: I have been feeling terrible about the death of my dad. It would have been his birthday last week and that makes it even worse. supporter: Oh no... I am sorry to hear that. It must be devastating. Was it an accident, illness or natural old age? seeker: He was only in his early sixties but he suffered a number of health problems, including early onset dementia. supporter: That is rough, both for you and him. I know it's meaningless to tell you not to be sad, however, you can think that he's not in a better place seeker: I presume you mean now and not not ;). Though I simply am not a believer. It just made me think how meaningless life was. supporter: oh sorry, yyeah I mean now. Life is... fleeting isn't it? I sometimes think it's meaningless too seeker: I do not really know what to do about my feelings. They are not going away.	Self-disclosure
supporter: What caused your anxiety? Is it because you don't understand your class? seeker: No I understand the course work, its just a high pressure environment. Everyone is ranked, so its competitive. seeker: it feels like everyone is secrectly angling to take each other down so they can get the good jobs supporter: I can understand how you feel being such competitive environment. However, the most important is your well being. I think as long as you do your utmost best, there is no need to stress over rankings seeker: The money investment is just so high. I don't want to get out of my 3L year and get a job making barely enough for the loan interest payment supporter: I think salary and growth takes more than just academic result. Take one step at a time, take care of your own health and this exam first seeker: I've always been hard on myself	Others
supporter: Are you still with me? seeker: I have an Canon MkII camera to which of coarse I am searching for an small lense seeker: The time it takes to purchase is gonig to be dependant on an budget. supporter: I see. Have you looked into bartering? Someone who has such a lense may be willing to barter it for something you have, or some service you could offer them. supporter: Locally here we have some bartering groups on facebook, maybe there is something similar in your area? supporter: The other thing you could try is crowdfunding, for example kickstarter, in which you offer some photograply (portrait if you do such?) in exchange for a donation from someone locally seeker: Oh, yes that would help.	Self-disclosure
supporter: That definitely sounds like a rough situation and I'm sorry to hear about it, though I'm glad you decided to reach out. seeker: i unloaded a lot on you but current situations do not feel good supporter: That's what I'm here for. I want to support you in any way I can, especially given your situation. Did you want to talk just to talk? Or we can discuss a way to work through what you might be dealing with mentally? It also sounds like keeping in touch with your cousin isn't helping in any way, so maybe we can talk about how to handle that? I am entirely at your disposal. seeker: she is my age, in a homeless women's, very bad living conditions, she is a mental health client but treatment team seem so to feel that as long as they keep her medicated, their job is done. she has a dx of bipolar and probably has borderline personality. her background is similiar to mine, i cannot abandon her as her other family has done. supporter: That's definitely difficult and it's easy to see why it wears on you so much. As much as you don't want to abandon her, it's important to remember to take care of yourself too. It's like when you're on a plane and the safety pamphlet tells you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others with theirs. You might not be able to help your cousin as much as you want to if you are suffering too much. Are there any mental health resources you've tried for yourself other than reaching out here? seeker: on antidepressant meds, COVID makes it hard to keep in touch with provider, your comparison about the oxygen mask is a good one. supporter: I see, it certainly doesn't help that it's difficult to keep in touch with your provider.	Information
supporter: Dang. he seems very selfish. But I understand how up setting it must have felt. My first husband left me without warning. seeker: I'm sorry to hear that. How long did it take you to feel better? supporter: Awhile. it started to feel a little bit better after I kept telling myself it was about him and not about me, then I started feeling a bit better. But it will take time, the old say is correct, good days and bad days. seeker: What did you do to help feel better> supporter: Started back in to my routine. Work. Church. things like that. seeker: I think it's harder that it's during the holidays because I don't go back to work until after the new year. seeker: I thought we would be spending the next week together at home.	Providing Suggestions
seeker: Thank you. Honestly, I'm glad you're there to reach out to. supporter: We were together for about 5 years. Yes, the loneliness does get very hard. supporter: I'm happy that I can be here to help you and so that you have someone to talk to! I promise to do my best! seeker: Oh wow, that's a long time. And thanks. I appreciate your optimism! I am usually very upbeat and optimistic myself. seeker: Thank you. I really appreciate it. Hopefully I can help you somehow too. supporter: After my breakup, I found that the best thing to do was to involve myself in other activities that I enjoyed in order to take my mind off of the negative feelings that I was dealing with. seeker: The shiba inu in my profile circle is making me smile. I used to have a shiba inu. :)	Others
seeker: I'm having a bit of a bad time at the moment. I've been with my partner for 2 years she's great. unfortunately my feelings for her changed and we broke up recently. the problem is I think I've made a big mistake and worry that she's moved on with her life supporter: OK, thanks for explaining. Can I ask what makes you think she has moved on with her life? how recently did you guys split up? seeker: About three months ago. I have started to miss her badly. I saw her with another guy when I was out at the supermarket at the weekend. She lives near me so I wasn't surprised but I don't know who this guy is. supporter: So to clarify, you ended things and think this wasn't the right thing to do. You have seen her with someone else and now you think you want her back. seeker: Yeah that's right. I can't believe she has moved on so quickly. supporter: Can I ask, for how long have you thought you have made a mistake by ending things. was it when you saw her with someone else? seeker: I must admit it was only when I saw her with someone else that I started to really miss her. do you think I'm just feeling jealous because we were so close and now I've seen her with someone else?	Self-disclosure
seeker: I'm trying to make money on MTurk and starting a YouTube channel. Money is a big concern for me. supporter: We are on the same boat. Do you have any other jobs? seeker: No. That's my only income right now. It has led to a real crisis of self confidence to me. supporter: Have you considered applying for a job or trying uber drive/ eats? seeker: I have. But I have health conditions that would mean Covid-19 would be very risky for me to get. So, I'm trying to work online. I'm trying to stay encouraged. supporter: I understand how you feel, it's tough not being able to work and earn much money. However, you are doing your best right now and should feel proud of yourself seeker: Thanks. I appreciate that. What do you do to stay encouraged or confident?	Self-disclosure
supporter: It might be just what you need to have something to wake up and look forward to each day. Especially during times like now when everyone is spending so much time alone inside. seeker: It is a spot not filled by humans. seeker: Yes. I suppose. Maybe even two would be better. supporter: I completely agree. Having a dog as a companion has been a life saver to me in so many situations. seeker: I would want him to have a friend this time. seeker: What kind of dog do you have? supporter: Having a playmate for the dog will make it easier to justify leaving when you do need to go back to work in the office. The puppy won't be lonely.	Others
seeker: I have been to this food bank once before, and they actually made me feel very comfortable and welcomed and gave me an information package on other ways the parent organization may be able to assist me. supporter: Yes they are run by lovely people. Ours gave us a pamphlet for cheap and easy to make recipes too. seeker: I am very lucky in that the organization is only 3 miles from me. I will be looking into their rent assistance and employment assistance programs as well. supporter: So, at least it sounds like you have a good handle on this and are doing everything you can to help yourself, am I right? seeker: I have an advantage because I have a professional background in cooking, so I can take random ingredients and turn them into wonderful and nutritious meals. I just need to have the ingredients. supporter: That sounds very encouraging! It's amazing what you can make even with cheap food. Noodles , for instance, are very versatile :) seeker: You are right. I am definitely not going to sit and pout. I am just a bit frustrated with the system.	Others
seeker: Yeah, but I'm also thinking it's not my business. I should just stay out of it. seeker: Well I thought it was good until that happened. He doesn't know. So I just feel gross around them. supporter: Have you talked to your friend about what she did? seeker: Yeah, she doesn't really care because she's not going to tell him. I'm questioning whether I should still be friends with her. supporter: You're definite right to be questioning if this is the sort of person you want to be friends with. seeker: It's hard to stop thought because we work at the same place. seeker: though..	Providing Suggestions
seeker: yes it wont work at all supporter: What else besides unhappy do you feel about this breakup? Often there are a mix of emotions and looking at all of them is important to see the whole picture. People often report feeling relieved, regretful or other emotions with the feeling of unhappy. seeker: there is only thing for my depression is my break up i want to over come but i couldnot . supporter: What are some things that you enjoyed doing before this relationship? seeker: i was going out for night pub ,enjoying with friends supporter: Reaching out to old friends is a great idea to be able to regain some joy in life. seeker: but i cannot face them in this sutiation	Information
seeker: You're welcome supporter: Is there anything that you wanted to talk about? seeker: Ya, I just feel down recently supporter: I'm so sorrry to hear. that. Is there any reason for it? seeker: My best friend and I constantly argue supporter: That's so hard. Was there any cause for the arguing or is it just general tension? seeker: She hates who I'm dating and wants me to leave him	Self-disclosure
supporter: Oh how about just texting or having periodic phone calls with friends? supporter: Yeah the pandemic has really stopped interactions. But that doesn't mean you can't stop talking to people completely! seeker: I try that but everyone is busy with their families today. I don't have a family so I'm all alone. supporter: Oh I see I'm so sorry to hear that. Have you tried doing other activities to make your mind off it? seeker: I tried watching a movie but my mind starts to wander. supporter: For me personally doing online gaming is a great way to interact with others and have fun. seeker: Maybe I'll try that. Any game suggestions?	Providing Suggestions
supporter: Hello! How are you doing today? seeker: im good. getting tired. had a long day seeker: hola? supporter: It sounds like you worked really hard today. How are you taking care of yourself? seeker: im good. just talked to my friend who is going in for heart surgery next week supporter: That must be really hard. I'm glad that you were able to make time for your friend who is going through a difficult time. seeker: thank ya. yeah it's important im there for him right now. he has to be nervous. they're going to open 4 or 5 valves.	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: not confused. frustrated that I have to produce art for marks when I am not inspired supporter: Ah I hear you, education can be both wonderful and difficult can't it? What are you supposed to produce? seeker: painting after painting. like I am an ikea machine, photocopying picasos for A's supporter: I can imagine that that is very frustrating. Would you consider switching majors? seeker: What is life but a stage. Art is life. I love art. seeker: no supporter: Ah Shakespeare, a great favourite. I have had times when I have felt that there was no point in continuing with my studies too but it tends to pass	Providing Suggestions
supporter: Is there any way you feel you can move on from her? seeker: she broke me down like a helpless bird seeker: i can over come from her memories supporter: Were you in a relationship with her? seeker: yes i've been in a relationship with her for three years supporter: If she has moved on from you, as painful as it is, you should move on from her. But that will take time, and it will help to slowly and methodically find a way forward from her. You should not feel like it will happen overnight or that quickly, but distractions and creating a new path for yourself are imperative. seeker: I cound not stop remember her memories, its repeating and disturbing for all way	Providing Suggestions
seeker: Yes he usually only play after he finished all his homework on school days. seeker: But now school is out I just let him play whenever. seeker: But it doesn't make him happier supporter: It is good to hear that the video games did not get in the way of him completing his work. Do you have any other ideas as to what hobbies makes him happy or interested? seeker: I don't know whatelse he wanted to do. It is like he didn't really have a preference. seeker: Thanks for listening. supporter: I think starting with the school counselor is a great idea, I feel she will have more of an idea of how your son functions in school and maybe give ideas to helping his mood.	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: Its totally ok supporter: It seems like you're doing very well despite what happened seeker: I chose not to dwell in the negative but rather be happy and look forward to better relationship both sides in the future supporter: that's absolutely the right attitude. supporter: I believe if you invest in yourself to become a better version, someone deserves you will appear soon seeker: Thank you so much for listening seeker: Absolutely	Others
seeker: i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me. supporter: I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful. seeker: i'm not certain. i hear rumors. it would have been nice if my boss spoke to me directly instead of blabbing about this behind my back. supporter: That sounds very difficult that things are not openly discussed. It sounds like you want to be proactive which is good though. seeker: it's awful. this job is too hard for me. getting fired would put me in a big financial hole. my head is spinning. supporter: Have you thought at all about looking for a new job that might not be so stressful? seeker: i am about to start doing that but it's tricky. i'm a radio announcer and if your boss finds our you're looking for another job he can use that as a reason to fire you. there are ways to get around this but it's complicated. small time radio is a difficult mess.	Question
supporter: The key, however, is our mindset and how we approach the problem. If you are afraid about going our during peak hours, you can step outside during non-peak hours. This is just an example. Everybody's situations and preferences vary. supporter: I am frustrated, but I cannot cultivate inaction. Because I have mouths to feed. So I have developed a mindset to tackle the problem by taking all the precautions I possible can. seeker: so you mean maybe leave the house when it's really quiet to begin with? then slowly build on that over time. isn't this called exposure therapy. I think I have read about this supporter: In essence, I know the factors under my control, and I try to control them and work them in my favour. I make it a point not to worry too much about factors outside my control. seeker: I suppose it makes no sense to worry about things you can't control. I think from my perspective that's exactly the problem, not having control. I don't know why this has affected me so much? supporter: Because it's a new situation to most of the world's population! People take time to adjust. supporter: You take care of factors under your control - wearing a mask , social distancing when outside and washing/sanitizing hands whenever you can.	Providing Suggestions
seeker: Yes, my fiance and I are splitting up. supporter: I am sorry to hear that. How long have you been together? seeker: A little over 5 years. supporter: Wow, that is a long time. Breaking up is never easy, but it's especially rough when you were in a long term relationship. seeker: Yes exactly, so I feel like I'm starting all over again. supporter: I know how that feels. It's really hard at first, but it gets easier. There are some benefits to being single after all. seeker: Sure, I will have time to focus on myself and start anew. But, I am nervous and apprehensive.	Providing Suggestions
seeker: Even though neither were my fault, people were not understanding or asked how scary those situations for me were supporter: I am sorry to hear that, people are very quick to judge so it's very unfortunate that you were treated that way. seeker: After my first car accident, the tow truck guy was towing my car to my aunt's garage to hold for auto insurance appraisal. He said to my aunt "sorry for your loss" My aunt said "oh, she's right over there and alive" seeker: the car accident was so bad the tow truck guy thought I had died seeker: but even after seeing my car, friends and family acted like it was just something that happens to everyone. walk it off supporter: Wow, I can't imagine what the car must have looked like then for such a comment to be made. I'm glad that you here and despite going through that trauma that you are still going. seeker: Thanks.	Self-disclosure
seeker: my uncle is here but he not care to me because he was not interested in family supporter: Maybe he just doesn't know how to deal with loss. Some people have a hard time if they aren't sure how to deal with it. seeker: i have 2 close friends.. They are now only my pain relief supporter: You two could possibly become stronger together trying to figure out how to deal with your loss. Was it his brother? seeker: yah. your right.. sorry friend. let introduce my self Jim roger from CA. what about you? supporter: I understand, I have had to rely on other close people many times in my life. Friends are some of the greatest things. supporter: My name is Jason, I am from GA	Self-disclosure
seeker: I do read self help books. supporter: Have the books provided you any benefit? seeker: Not really. supporter: I get the sense that you are pretty depressed over you recent breakup that you have taken pretty hard. I also feel your desire to want to feel better. I think this is a step in the right direction for you to get to feeling better. seeker: I think so too i just do not know where to go from here. supporter: Sometimes it helps in working through these feelings when we reach out to a professional mental health provider. Is this something you have considered? seeker: I have thought about it before.	Question
supporter: I'm sorry to hear that. I have struggled to deal with depression most of my life, so I know it can be debilitating, but I have found ways to help myself. supporter: Is there a specific problem making you depressed, or life in general? seeker: I'd love to hear them. There is one problem in general i'm having that i seem to have always had because of the Depression. I have an extremely difficult time falling asleep.. and whenever I do manage to fall asleep.. i wake up always feeling like crap. I never feel rested no matter how long i sleep. supporter: I have had trouble sleeping in the past and sometimes I still do, usually if it is when I'm nervous about the future. supporter: The number one way I have had to help my depression is to pray and read scripture. I don't know if you are a Christian, but that has helped me a lot. The second way is to have a good friend who will listen, not someone who will TELL me what to do or judge me, but someone who can empathize with me. A good listener is worth her weight in gold. seeker: I've learned that mines not really an emotional thing. I feel like my sleeping issue causes my depression. Because no matter what- i always feel exhausted. Nothing has helped it besides medication. It just sucks always feeling fatigued and energyless. I actually did take up religion here this year to help with the coping that comes with this. It was very helpful for a while there supporter: If I didn't get good rest, then I would definitely feel tired the next day and over time, it would wear me out. I believe medication will help with the symptoms, but it is important to get the root of the problem, why exactly you find it difficult to sleep.	Self-disclosure
supporter: You're absolutely right that sometimes there is a need for medication. My mother suffers from depression as do I. She has to take Effexor everyday for her condition. I, however went through COUNTLESS combinations and never found a relief as helpful as when I write and talk to people. seeker: I also went through a lot of different combinations before ending on on Prozac. I think that different things work for different people. I do not find it very easy to talk to people. supporter: Have you explored other theraputic avenues to synchronize with the medication? seeker: No, I am rather way of 'natural' or homeopathic medicine. Are there any kinds that you could recommend? supporter: You're doing VERY well talking to me! Had you not said anything, I would have assumed that to be the best choice! But if you're an introvert, then my first suggestion is to journal. seeker: I do do a lot of that but I would feel too shy to show anyone my journal. Your help has been invaluable though and I do feel more receptive to other forms of treatment now. supporter: That way you can reflect on what you've written and possibly learn patterns, triggers, moodswings and other information that would help the problem.	Affirmation and Reassurance
supporter: Yes, meditation is extremely useful, and I also use it when I feel stressed seeker: So how I should do it? supporter: Maybe play calm classical music and start slowly reminiscing about the days previous, and your future ahead supporter: or you could just wacth a youtube tutorial, either one works fine seeker: I just don't really like classic music but I can try seeker: Yes probably I will look in youtube how to do it thanks. seeker: Do you think I will lose my job?	Affirmation and Reassurance
seeker: yea im good are u a pyschiratrist or something supporter: No, I'm just a mturk worker but I'm completely willing to talk to you about stuff. Is there anything you had in mind? seeker: i have things about overthinking about my past sometimes she flashes on and off through my mind when some of my collegues express their feelings of emotions through their relationships supporter: Is there someone in your past that weighs on your mind? seeker: The feelings i put for her the emotions its all gone for waste, she was my first love though supporter: Going through a romantic loss can be a lot to process. You will be able to let go some day. seeker: yea i ve watched a lot of motivation to help me relax my self , and i ve heard a lot of people say good things to me , my friends and family :) as time passes ill get much better i guess soo	Information

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