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https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/forums-etiquette-give-support-to-receive-support/td-p/122159 | [
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"content": "<p>Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading. </p>\n<p>From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our <a href=\"https://www.beyondblue.org.au/connect-with-others/online... | Forums etiquette: give support to receive support | 17-11-2015 | Hi everyone, particularly any new members who may be reading.
From time to time, we get contacted by members who are unhappy that they haven’t received a lot of replies to their posts. Our
work very hard to make sure that all newbies are welcomed when they first post, and we understand that it’s a big step to post for the first time on a forum like this, especially if you aren’t feeling great.
It’s important to remember, though, that these forums are a community of real people, just like you, not a one-on-one support environment like going to see your psychologist.
To get the best out of being here, one of the best tips we can offer is
Being a good community member means:
You don’t have to feel obliged to solve the problems of others: that’s not what we’re here for. But you can offer empathy and what you’ve learned from your own life experiences, even if it’s just a line or two, eg.
Try to develop an interest in the journeys of others here on the forums. You may be surprised at how good being an active, caring member here can make you feel.
For those of you who have had good experiences giving support here on the forums,
on your journey.
| Chris_B |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/cardiac-worry-franks-sign-ear-lobe-creasing/td-p/576437 | [
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"content": "<p>Hi all,</p><p> </p><p>I thought I was doing ok lately on the health anxiety side of things, I’ve been eating healthier, loosing some weight and feeling good about myself. However, I was scrolling through TikTok and a random post came up about ‘Franks sign’ curiosi... | Cardiac worry - Franks sign - ear lobe creasing | 12-10-2023 | Hi all,
I thought I was doing ok lately on the health anxiety side of things, I’ve been eating healthier, loosing some weight and feeling good about myself. However, I was scrolling through TikTok and a random post came up about ‘Franks sign’ curiosity got me so I ended up watching the reel. It spoke about people having diagonal creases on their ear lobes meant they would have some form of CAD. Insert panic as of course I have deep creasing on my ear lobes. I ended up googling too
and it’s a thing. I’ve never heard of it before but apparently it can be an indicator. I spoke to my husband who is very blah about things and he said you’ve already had checks done so I doubt it relates to you.
I had a CT angiogram in 2020 and it showed 0 calcium markers and I also had a stress test last year which was fine. Obviously I am unfit but didn’t show anything. I looked at old photos from last year and I did have creasing but a few years ago not so much 🤷🏻
thought it was due to putting on weight over the years but yeh I’m just in a bad way now. I can’t get any cardio checks done as I don’t have symptoms and they won’t do another CT scan on me as it’s only been a few years. My cholesterol is slightly elevated but has been for a few years and dr thinks stress can cause it to be elevated at times.
sorry to vent but I was just freaking out. I’m trying to calm my mind that I have in fact had checks done within the last few years.
has anyone heard of this before?
or am I the only one it reached just to
stress me out unless it was a sign.
sometimes I hate myself when I get like this.
| Lostworrier82 |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/past-issues-cause-fear-and-trust-problems-in-current/td-p/576285 | [
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"content": "<p>I am 53yo female, divorced and been in a long distant relationship for 14 months. My boyfriend is 12yr older than me.</p><p>I have grown to love him and know he loves me too. We planned to have a future and build a family together with his 13yo daughter.</p><p>His... | Past issues cause Fear and Trust problems in current relationship | 10-10-2023 | I am 53yo female, divorced and been in a long distant relationship for 14 months. My boyfriend is 12yr older than me.
I have grown to love him and know he loves me too. We planned to have a future and build a family together with his 13yo daughter.
His daughter accepted me and loves me, I love her too, I don’t have any kid of my own and been living in Aust by myself, no relative. At times I feel alone, my BF and his kid mean so much to me.
Due to special circumstances, we still live apart and we have been working together to make our reunion happen as soon as possible then settling in Australia.
At the early stage of this relationship, my BF noticed I got fear and trust issues, and said once being together these issues will be cleared.
I introspected myself and realized my fear and trust issues came from many betrayals and disappointments from past relationships.
I can tell he trusts me fully and rarely questions me about who I meet or be friend with. I normally tell him upfront about the people I am interacting with.
My problem is, I often doubt, worry, feel jealous and mistrust while I am not around him in the time being. I often feel anxious when he absent for 3 or 4 days without calling or texting me.
My friend says I require his time and attention more than he gives and suggests me to adjust my needs rather than requesting him to give me more time because it is likely that is how he is naturally.
At first, he showed understanding, however few days ago we argued and he was very upset, he said “THIS IS THE THING HE DOES NOT WANT IN HIS LIFE, HE DOES NOT WANT TO BE WITH A WOMAN WHO DOES NOT TRUST HER MAN”. To me, his action was a wakeup call.
I realize my fear and trust issues have caused severe impacts to our relationship and made him feel pressured, being controlled and uncomfortable. Worse than that I would potentially cause a break-up and lose this relationship.
I gave him time to calm down then offered an apology on the yesterday, I also told him I realized the negative impacts of my issues on our relationship and will seek professional help. He responded to me which is a good sign.
We have been through thick and thin between life and death together and still stand strong by each other until this day. This relationship is worth fighting for.
I now seek counselling support from Next Step to help improving my fear and trust issues.
Beside seeking professional help, please I also need advice and suggestions/ideas on this forum or from someone has similar issues about how to improve this. Thank you. | MayaUyen |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/ocd/td-p/576507 | [
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"content": "<p>Hi there ,</p><p>my first time putting anything up on a discussion board but feel for the younger people dealing with OCD, i was diagnosed with Pure O OCD three years ago when i was 50 and not going to lie it was an extremely challenging period in my life with a b... | OCD | 14-10-2023 | Hi there ,
my first time putting anything up on a discussion board but feel for the younger people dealing with OCD, i was diagnosed with Pure O OCD three years ago when i was 50 and not going to lie it was an extremely challenging period in my life with a brief stint in hospital, but as challenging as therapy was and is eventually there can be a freedom that can help release you from the prison within your head . it was only after being diagnosed that i was able to look back and see how much of my life was driven by OCD , the best advice i was given at the time was to educate myself on OCD first as i think that is a massive step forward to be able to understand what is OCD , second and the absolute most important thing was to find a therapist that is experienced in dealing with OCD as lots claim it but i dont believe some are well enough trained in that specific disorder , the third thing for me was being able to open yourself up at therapy and do the work as OCD is very paradoxical , facing your fears with the help of your therapist i believe was the best way , i wanted to write this for the people new to this disorder to give them so hope so that they can find the courage to seek help and move forward and not let OCD dictate their lives, there will be some difficult days but they will get better ! three years ago i was on medication and having rigorous therapy and now i am off medication and touch base every now and then with my therapist and feel much better , OCD along with Depression still challenge me but i have the tools and the understanding of the disorder to calm myself down much quicker , there is light at the end of the tunnel you just have to make the first step, to the people caring for someone with OCD remember if you find it hard, imagine how they must be feeling not being able to understand themselves , so i tell you, you only need to help them by being understanding and not necessarily having to understand the condition , i think it is also important that the people caring for them get up to speed on the best way of helping an OCD person as it will be just as difficult for you because often it will require you not to offer reassurance.
anyway i wish everyone here who is suffering to go and get help because it is there and whilst not perfect it will help ALOT !! | Paul301 |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/tips-for-showering/td-p/576796 | [
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"content": "<p>Hello!</p><p> </p><p>I struggle with taking showers.</p><p> </p><p>I was wondering if anyone has any tips on:</p><p> </p><ul><li>how to stop being afraid of showers?</li><li>And how to stop procrastinating/how to stay consistent?</li></ul><p> </p><p>The feeling of... | Tips for showering | 18-10-2023 | Hello!
I struggle with taking showers.
I was wondering if anyone has any tips on:
The feeling of being wet and naked just makes me panic. I don't know why. I ger dizzy and nauseous and start freaking out.
I don't know how to just do what I need to even tho I don't want to or I'm scared to. I used to have alot of discipline in the past, but now it just dissappeared out of nowhere.
| Alel |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-can-things-feel-so-wrong/td-p/576752 | [
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"content": "<p>I am a teacher, and a student today told another teacher that I slapped her across the face. I didn't, I wouldn't ever do something like that. I am so scared that she may have told either other teachers or other students. Either way this could destroy my career... | how can things feel so wrong | 17-10-2023 | I am a teacher, and a student today told another teacher that I slapped her across the face. I didn't, I wouldn't ever do something like that. I am so scared that she may have told either other teachers or other students. Either way this could destroy my career if anyone believes her. I really don't need this added to everything else. I am feeling so frustrated and alone right now. I am just tired of feeling like everything is a major thing regardless of how big it is. I just want it all to go away and be happy again | K_Ley |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/my-head-hurts/td-p/576741 | [
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"content": "<p>Hi, I’ve been feeling really alone lately and get tea anxious and stressed about little things constantly and my head hurt from always being anxious and stressed. I get episodes where I can’t do anything and my head just throbs. Every time I’ve asked someone for h... | My head hurts | 17-10-2023 | Hi, I’ve been feeling really alone lately and get tea anxious and stressed about little things constantly and my head hurt from always being anxious and stressed. I get episodes where I can’t do anything and my head just throbs. Every time I’ve asked someone for help they just say oh me too! Or you’ll get over it. I just don’t know how to cope or what to do and I feel really lost and alone and I don’t have anyone to help me. If anyone has any strategies or advice I would really appreciate it | I1C2D3T4A5 |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/health-anxiety-about-teeth/td-p/7895 | [
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"content": "Hi, I've always had anxiety but in the last 2 years have also developed health anxiety and am constantly worried I have something wrong. Today though has been exceptionally horrible with concern that my teeth will fall out. Now i do need some fillings and some rednes... | Health Anxiety about Teeth | 01-04-2022 | Anxiety_is_who_ | |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/not-sure-how-to-feel/td-p/576619 | [
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"content": "<p>So this is a weird post in that I am not sure if anyone will reply or if anyone will be able to offer any advice. A close friend of mine discovered a injury on my leg from two weeks ago and immediately asked if I had done it myself. She knew that I had been stru... | not sure how to feel | 15-10-2023 | So this is a weird post in that I am not sure if anyone will reply or if anyone will be able to offer any advice. A close friend of mine discovered a injury on my leg from two weeks ago and immediately asked if I had done it myself. She knew that I had been struggling recently but I didn't think I had given her any reason to think that this was a possibility. I actually ended up lying to her and telling her it was an accident but not sure she believed me. I am now on 9 days of not having those thoughts, so I don't want anything thinking that. Is that wrong? | K_Ley |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/depersonalisation/td-p/576687 | [
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"content": "<p>hey, thank you for the replies on my last discussion. I think they will be really helpful.<br>I just wanted to come on here and ask if anyone else has experienced this symptom. does anyone else suddenly forget where they are, who they are, what they are doing just... | depersonalisation | 16-10-2023 | hey, thank you for the replies on my last discussion. I think they will be really helpful.
I just wanted to come on here and ask if anyone else has experienced this symptom. does anyone else suddenly forget where they are, who they are, what they are doing just randomly? sometimes I forget I even exist, or that I am human or real. and im just kind of floating around. but suddenly you realise you have forgotten everything about life and panic sets in. almost like a numbing pain in your body. this I think is one of the scariest symptoms I’ve had. forgetting reality and feeling like im just a soul floating around in space without a thought in my head. it kinda feels like zoning out but much more intense, and you’re brain is empty, you forget the space around you and you can’t really snap back into reality?
| emem0 |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/regarding-anxiety-again/td-p/576633 | [
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"content": "<p>ive been so worried about my health recently. whenever i get even the slightest ache in my chest, my anxiety dials it up to “youre gonna have a heart attack and die right here” or “something is wrong you might be hospitalized” and it really makes everything worse.... | regarding anxiety again | 16-10-2023 | ive been so worried about my health recently. whenever i get even the slightest ache in my chest, my anxiety dials it up to “youre gonna have a heart attack and die right here” or “something is wrong you might be hospitalized” and it really makes everything worse. im constantly checking my pulse, massaging my chest, anything to convince myself im fine. im perfectly healthly, as i had a checkup not too long ago, but it still doesnt stop the anxieties creeping in. my parents say im fine, and that does help for the moment, but a bit later i sometimes am thinking the same things again. it really sucks, and i dont know how to deal with it.
im a christian, and im constantly worrying that im not good enough and im not doing enough for God, and i hate how it makes me feel. it borderline ruins my day, because i then think that i’ll never get to live with him in heaven. im also scared of there being no god or eternal life in heaven, and just dying and never having another coherent thought or doing anything meaningful. it scares me that i’ll either die, and never know, or i’ll be living for eternity in heaven forever and ever. i dont know how to discuss this with my dad, and i am not sure how to improve myself and be more christian.
it bugs me everyday, how i constantly worry about my health, and worry over whether i’ll die and never wake up or wake up in heaven. it makes me feel sick sometimes, and occasionally it makes me feel sad and depressed, but i dont how to bring this all up with either my parents or my therapist. what do i do? | mimikkyu |
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"content": "<p>So I eat at 9am, 1pm and 6pm everyday. Then I eat yogurt at 7pm and take sleep medication at 10pm. I was also told by my psychiatrist that I have to walk and go out more. This is going to take me a long time since I got agoraphobia and emetophobia. </p><p> </p><p>... | Constantly have to recover from simple tasks | 26-09-2023 | So I eat at 9am, 1pm and 6pm everyday. Then I eat yogurt at 7pm and take sleep medication at 10pm. I was also told by my psychiatrist that I have to walk and go out more. This is going to take me a long time since I got agoraphobia and emetophobia.
But everytime I eat, I go bathroom, or I go outside for 1 minute as exposure, I have to sit down and think about it for hours on end. I feel like I can't do more than one thing a day. I mean thinking about what I'm going to eat before the time comes stresses me out.
Why do I always have to mentally recover from such simple things? And why does it ruin or occupy my whole day even tho it's only a 1 minute task?
This is honestly scaring me because what if this is all I'm capable of handling? What if eating, going bathroom, showing, going outside, waking, everything, will always be too hard?
What if my brain is broken and I'll never be able to do anything without needing breaks? | Alel |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/pending-legal-woes-and-anxiety-depression/td-p/575222 | [
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"content": "I recently got picked up having 4 capsules at a pub. It's my first offence. Since this I've been spiralling hard. I was already having anxiety issues on daily basis. I can never relax. Feel like I'm faking my way through life. I lost my father to suicide in 2018. I k... | Pending legal woes and anxiety/depression | 26-09-2023 | nash1984 | |
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"content": "<p>Hi I was have problems with mental health like anxiety tired depressed no happy.. all this happened from one thing I was had a bacteria in stomach Called Helicobacter pylori long time it make all problems for body after I take medicine I feel very gd no mental he... | mental health | 05-09-2023 | Hi I was have problems with mental health like anxiety tired depressed no happy.. all this happened from one thing I was had a bacteria in stomach Called Helicobacter pylori long time it make all problems for body after I take medicine I feel very gd no mental health problems so if u want feel happy don’t share anything from any one and if u have married every couple months check ur stomach | loulou89 |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/work-stress-anxiety/td-p/575145 | [
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"content": "<p>I have had IBS for years which work knows about so sometimes I am late to work or have to take extra sick days. I have also recently been diagnosed with fibromyalgia (which includes ibs) and also a unknown cysts that could be magliant. My mental health and memory... | Work Stress/ Anxiety | 24-09-2023 | I have had IBS for years which work knows about so sometimes I am late to work or have to take extra sick days. I have also recently been diagnosed with fibromyalgia (which includes ibs) and also a unknown cysts that could be magliant. My mental health and memory has declined recently and work has noticed it. I have changed my duties and hours to see if it helps. I was supposed to have a procedure a few weeks ago to find out what the cysts are however the hospital cancelled and has rescheduled it in a month. Work has asked me to reschedule it due to staffing issues. This is seriously stressing me out. Can they ask me to reschedule? If I do I would be put at the end of a pretty long list and I need to know what is happening. I am constantly in pain and stress makes it worse and I am not performing at 100% which I normally do. I don't know what to do | Ms_P |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-and-depression-because-of-my-situation-in-my-family/td-p/575052 | [
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"content": "<p>This is just me writing it out because I can't talk to anyone about this. Mid 2022, I had a fairly big argument with my mother. My parent's have been divorced for a while so I'm okay with that. My dad has always been in the picture but would never listen to anythi... | Anxiety and Depression because of my situation in my family. | 23-09-2023 | This is just me writing it out because I can't talk to anyone about this. Mid 2022, I had a fairly big argument with my mother. My parent's have been divorced for a while so I'm okay with that. My dad has always been in the picture but would never listen to anything that I had to say about my mental health. And my mum was amazing, and she would listen to me, but then she would go on and tell her new partner, my stepdad, and then he would just laugh at me that it made me feel very embarrassed and I ended up not talking to my mother about this anymore. Then, when this argument about all of this happened mid 2022, I eventually ended up moving out in November 2022. Again, my mother wasn't happy with that, but what was I meant to do. Now, I have been living in my own house since November 2022 and looking after my grandmother. I'm not sure what to do because I am in the centre of all arguments in my family. I started that argument with my mother and then everything else in my family just began to crumble. So, I really focused on my work in childcare centre and my study in university and college. I hope this makes sense, but it's very much a rant. But this is my life.
| Philip123 |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/dpdr-depersonalisation-derealisation-at-university/td-p/575030 | [
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"content": "<p>This is a rant because I can't tell anyone in my life what I am going through, so I want to write it here. The rant is directed at the teachers who judge me at university, because I occasionally appear a tiny bit abnormal or spaced out. Because I have DPDR and I a... | DPDR Depersonalisation Derealisation at University | 23-09-2023 | This is a rant because I can't tell anyone in my life what I am going through, so I want to write it here. The rant is directed at the teachers who judge me at university, because I occasionally appear a tiny bit abnormal or spaced out. Because I have DPDR and I am managing my debilitating and frightening symptoms while trying to appear normal in conversation. Masking.
Depersonalisation disorder is a hidden illness and it is frustrating to have this through university because I can't tell the teachers about it due to stigma. They think I am 'only suffering from anxiety' and judge me because "they have anxiety too".
DPDR fluctuated with stress level. Fact. Imagine being in final year and juggling a lot of competing priorities - it would cause a lot of stress, particularly if there were also life stressors and fatigue involved, correct? So it is logical to suggest that the symptoms of DPDR increase during this time also, making it nearly impossible for me to navigate my studies at no fault of my own. This is NOT my fault and I am tired of teaching staff treating my like I am lazy because I appear normal sometimes, or treating me like I am incompetent because I appear anxious and scattered sometimes.
The anxious and scattered version of me is the DPDR me. It is NOT an accurate representation of who I am in the real world, when I don't have all of these stressors happening. It is NOT an accurate representation of my intellect, or my academic capabilities and it is NOT an accurate representation of my attitude towards my degree or the university. I care very much about my degree and my future career. That's a part of the reason why I am so stressed. Because I actually care. I am NOT lazy, incompetent, unstable, slow or stupid. That is the DPDR you are judging, not ME.
I have a hidden disability - a legitimate disability! One that makes every day a living hell and I am in SO much pain, trying my best to get through each day and then smile and have conversations with everyone as though I am fine at university. I am not fine. If you only knew what it was like under this high level of symptoms, you would fully understand and be supportive. You would be crying after one day of this hell if you felt it. I can barely function each day right now. If I make it to university I only speak with teachers the whole week. So thanks for discriminating against me and making me feel ridiculous and stupid in the only interactions with people that I can manage to have. Cheers. | CountingCrows1 |
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"content": "<p>Hi, this is my first post on here. I struggle with DPDR and anxiety, but the past few days I just haven't been able to get over my negative thoughts and existential anxiety. </p><p>It's like I'm scared to be alive, but also scared to die at the same time. I also k... | Anxiety and DPDR help | 01-03-2023 | Hi, this is my first post on here. I struggle with DPDR and anxiety, but the past few days I just haven't been able to get over my negative thoughts and existential anxiety.
It's like I'm scared to be alive, but also scared to die at the same time. I also keep having really intrusive thoughts of 'how am I even alive', 'why do we live', 'what's the point of feeling good'. It's hard to remain positive because I just don't feel real or alive, and I'm scared that I'll never feel better, but then I get scared that I'll feel better and actually have to live my life. Anyways, I guess I just need help with these thoughts because they're making me feel pretty depressed. | plushelephant |
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"content": "<p>I was diagnosed recently with severe anxiety and depression. </p><p> </p><p>I'm scared that no matter how much I overcome my anxiety and depression, it'll still be there. Even if it won't be as bad, just the thought that it'll be there forever, makes me feel broke... | Afraid anxiety will stay for the rest of my life. | 21-09-2023 | I was diagnosed recently with severe anxiety and depression.
I'm scared that no matter how much I overcome my anxiety and depression, it'll still be there. Even if it won't be as bad, just the thought that it'll be there forever, makes me feel broken beyond repair.
I don't want to spend the rest of my life adjusting to the anxiety and depression to fight it. Fighting it everyday for the rest of my life seems exhausting.
I'm also deadly afraid that I won't be able to handle it and go crazy one day. I'm so scared of becoming a lunatic or so messed up.
How do I live with this? I don't want to be conscious of it forever that it drives me crazy.
Please help. | Alel |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/feeling-lonely-in-a-sharehouse/td-p/574740 | [
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"content": "<p>I recently moved out of home at 20 into a share house and I’m feeling really lonely. It’s pretty ironic because I left my mums house a week ago because it was a toxic environment, but moving has made me feel even more isolated. <br>I live with 5 other people and t... | Feeling Lonely in a Sharehouse | 17-09-2023 | I recently moved out of home at 20 into a share house and I’m feeling really lonely. It’s pretty ironic because I left my mums house a week ago because it was a toxic environment, but moving has made me feel even more isolated.
I live with 5 other people and they are insanely quiet. I wake up; silence. I go to bed; silence. It kind of creeps me out a bit, even though I am a shy introverted person, hearing nothing has been freaking me out.
It has also made me feel quite lonely, especially on top of being away from my siblings and mother (even if we don’t have the best relationship). I don’t have any friends and now I hardly ever see my family, so I am having a hard time coping.
I see a psychologist once a month but it’s becoming too expensive. I don’t know what to do because I’ve already signed a lease and ideally I don’t want to go back to my mothers house. Any advice or support is appreciated. | stell_a178 |
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"content": "<p>It has been several years since this incident but yet I cannot seem to shake the anxiety and worry that has plagued me since. It all happened a few years ago when I had decided to leave a company I had worked at for over 6 years across two continents. At the time ... | Anxiety over a negative experience at work | 10-09-2023 | It has been several years since this incident but yet I cannot seem to shake the anxiety and worry that has plagued me since. It all happened a few years ago when I had decided to leave a company I had worked at for over 6 years across two continents. At the time of my resignation I was so elated and happy to leave that toxic environment that in an attempt to be proactive I had made a copy of data to facilitate my handovers (a common practice when I was working for the same company in a different part of the world) and also to retain various sources of personal information that had been stored on the laptop over time due to taxes and etc.
This led to a whole complex situation (disciplinary hearings) where I was accused of multiple things, and there were attempts to invalidate my rights to work in Australia. To add to this, they seized my hard drive in question that had my personal data along with the data I had made a copy of to do my hand overs. I had to get lawyers involved and was in the end told to compromise and sign their expectations. In the end, I never actually got to tell my side of the story because they kept changing what they were accusing me off.
Since then I have had bad anxiety and sometimes get panic attacks that just stop me from moving forward with my life. I keep conjuring situations in my mind where my previous company is out there just bad mouthing me to everyone and destroying my reputation. Which in my line of work is important because I have to deal with multiple people and build connections. | justinian_ii |
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"content": "<p>Last year I was doing well in school and even got some awards. I could tell that I was happier then and my grades definitely reflected that. At the beginning of this year I had my first few assessments and I did not do as well as I thought ~ 70 for each unit. As t... | My Grades are bad. I am too sad to study. What do I do? | 14-10-2023 | Last year I was doing well in school and even got some awards. I could tell that I was happier then and my grades definitely reflected that. At the beginning of this year I had my first few assessments and I did not do as well as I thought ~ 70 for each unit. As the year progressed I started seeing my grades plummet to the 60s and 50s. And for the first time, I failed a few aswell. I still fail to study more in my room and instead resort to video games because I am too sad to write something or solve anything. I don’t know how to get back on track. | mordecai |
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"content": "<p>Hey, I am a 25 year old.</p><p> </p><p>just jumping on as I have got the worst anxiety about having a brain tumour, I have been to the doctors as I have been having severe dizziness and balance issues for over a year now. I got all my bloods tested and everything ... | Brain tumour worry | 15-10-2023 | Hey, I am a 25 year old.
just jumping on as I have got the worst anxiety about having a brain tumour, I have been to the doctors as I have been having severe dizziness and balance issues for over a year now. I got all my bloods tested and everything was really good, she has told me it could be my health anxiety which could be the issue but I have been spending hours on Google and it has told me the worst as I am showing symptoms of a brain tumour I am getting back on medication to see and if not I will need to get a scan which I am really really worried about… has anyone had this experience if so would any one have any tips | ds4 |
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"content": "<p>Hello I am 59 years of age - I have had awful health anxiety for 22 years after a series of past medical traumas. Initially I was always going to doctor looking for reassurance whenever I had any symptom but found this just added to my anxiety so now I am a total a... | Health Anxiety - How Do You Manage? | 26-12-2021 | Hello I am 59 years of age - I have had awful health anxiety for 22 years after a series of past medical traumas. Initially I was always going to doctor looking for reassurance whenever I had any symptom but found this just added to my anxiety so now I am a total avoider of doctors or medical tests now - will only go in case of emergency now, if at all because I just find the medical environment so triggering and traumatic. My last visit I had to take a valium just to get through the appointment.
So just wondering if anybody else has similar anxiety and wondering what strategies you use to cope or manage? | HisOwn |
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"content": "<p>Today I must admit I am struggling and have been for a while. I read some statements of affirmation I had written last year and it really helped. Just being here and being honest has also helped me as well. But, gee it’s hard work. The anxiety just ebbs and flows.... | Some days are a struggle | 09-10-2023 | Today I must admit I am struggling and have been for a while. I read some statements of affirmation I had written last year and it really helped. Just being here and being honest has also helped me as well. But, gee it’s hard work. The anxiety just ebbs and flows. | Jo_____anne |
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"content": "<p><span>I work a retail job and I am quite frankly I am sick of it. I have been there for over 5 years now and I am getting tired of having to ask to be moved and changed up constantly. Yes I know we are short staffed and need to give the new staff a chance to learn... | Retail job rant | 10-10-2023 | Losttwentysomet | |
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"content": "<p>I’ve been experiencing leg aches, neck hotness, back pain, blurry vision, muscle twitches and a tight diaphragm. I am terrified I have fibro. All my tests have come back clean, but of course fibro doesn’t show on such tests. I have always had extreme anxiety, depr... | Anxiety or Fibro - Very Scared | 11-10-2023 | I’ve been experiencing leg aches, neck hotness, back pain, blurry vision, muscle twitches and a tight diaphragm. I am terrified I have fibro. All my tests have come back clean, but of course fibro doesn’t show on such tests. I have always had extreme anxiety, depression, panic etc, and over the last 6 months its gotten worse. Through this journey I discovered I have a bulged disc in my neck and lower back, as well as scoliosis and kyphosis. Regardless, I am still so scared I have fibro, as so many of my symptoms line up. I hope it’s just health anxiety and physical manifestations of that. | tlinn26 |
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"content": "<p>There is a candle in our community burning pwerful beautiful and bright that is the unity we have as a community to make a difference for aborigganal and Torres strait islanders. We must stand as one nation under the banner of peace and harmony to build a better m... | Aboriganal and Torres strait Islander Blue Flame | 11-10-2023 | There is a candle in our community burning pwerful beautiful and bright that is the unity we have as a community to make a difference for aborigganal and Torres strait islanders. We must stand as one nation under the banner of peace and harmony to build a better more prosperous future for those in our community that are disadvantaged and underprivaleged who are struggle to close the gap they also need to better health care and stronger education outcome we can stand agianst the tidel wave and face adversity we have the power and fortitude to change Australia for the better to open the door to new possibilities not close the door on future allies which are the proud Aboriganal nation .
This community has beautiful artists with beautiful paintings. There langauges are so diverse that there is more than 150 tribes that exists with in this proud culture. They have different kind of bush foods we can learn and grow many that don't exist on any other continent. We have flora and fauna that don't exist in any other country australian cooking has changed for the better with the introductions of these foods
It is important to stand with the down trodden and against predjiduce.
This is our 1 chance to change australia for the better and stand against injustice. We can only change tide one stone at a time one grain of rice at a time. People think we don't have the power to change things in life we have a chioce to change derection towards a powerful prosperous future lets stand and walk towards forgivness and peace not towards more difficulty and struggle this is our chance to stand up for injustice and find the strength in our selves to turn the scales.
There is a run around Australia that is being done to show the power and derversity of our nation. It is important to know which derection to run in life which path is more powerful and prosperous in life I choose to stand with my brothers and sisters around the country to give them a vioce and an opportunity to rise to there adversity to help them in there time of need and heart break.
We must choose to forgive and not look to the past but look at the change we can make for the future to change to a more powerful prosperous future with clean energy possibilities and an opportunity for every person that walks through the door we are all humans with feeling and emotions . I have been discriminated against I am a person of a disability.
Hold out your hand and walk with those who need you most and be brave and help
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"content": "<p>Hi everyone<br>\n<br>\nNew member here - my first day actually.<br>\n<br>\nI too suffer health anxiety. people always ask what's bothering you? what causes the anxiety? I know very well it's health issues. Apart from how i feel health wise I have a pretty good lif... | Not sure if FIBROMYALGIA or ANXIETY....please HELP? | 01-06-2018 | Hi everyone
New member here - my first day actually.
I too suffer health anxiety. people always ask what's bothering you? what causes the anxiety? I know very well it's health issues. Apart from how i feel health wise I have a pretty good life and nothing I should feel fearful about.
I've had Health Anxiety for at least 10 years.
Im wondering if its mainly or all anxiety or if it may be FIBORMYALGIA?
My symptoms are:
* Sore/aching legs, feet
* Sore/aching lower back
* Sore/aching stomach/pelvis area
* Sore/aching and sometimes stinging bladder area
* Sore/aching rectum area? THIS CONCERNS ME THE MOST
I have had two cystoscopys and a colonoscopy and they found nothing of real interest. Ive had about 10 blood tests recently, urine tests, bone density scans, x rays, ultrasounds etc and nothing is ever found.
I do have scoliosis but besides that nothing that can really warrant constant aching day and night.
I worry and obsess about it all day and everyday.
Does this sound like health anxiety? Does anyone have any tips that WORK....and/or want to talk to me about it via email?
Feeling pretty down and hopeless
J | James2018 |
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"content": "<p>Hello I really need to talk to someone </p>\n\n<p>During my first marriage I was subjected to the worst kind of cruelty from not only my husband but also from his mother who encouraged him to beat me up sometimes very badly.</p>\n\n<p>I was beaten up because my fi... | Past issues causing anxiety | 10-10-2023 | Hello I really need to talk to someone
During my first marriage I was subjected to the worst kind of cruelty from not only my husband but also from his mother who encouraged him to beat me up sometimes very badly.
I was beaten up because my firstborn was a female, not a male like that family wanted, like it was my fault
My ex mother in law labeled me unfit as a mother while she beat her sons.
She told me I deserved to be beaten up, and to stop complaining
She is dead now and so is my first husband but that hasn't stopped the memories of that awful time
4 years I will never get back
How do I ever forget that time 40 years ago , I need to move on and I have a wonderful man now in my life but not even he knows the hell I'm going through
I may have to go into hospital again, I have a wonderful psychiatrist but I haven't really opened up to him as I couldn't put it into words the torture going on in my head
Please can someone advise me ? | Amanda 1956 |
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"content": "<p>I have finally decided to leave my job because there is too much pressure to do more, go faster, be perfect etc and I just can't handle it anymore. </p><p> </p><p>I am the only employee and work closely with my boss.</p><p> </p><p>I had planned to stay until the end... | Advice Please? How to quit job without burning bridges? | 06-10-2023 | I have finally decided to leave my job because there is too much pressure to do more, go faster, be perfect etc and I just can't handle it anymore.
I am the only employee and work closely with my boss.
I had planned to stay until the end of the year (as we haven't started booking for 2024 yet), so there would be no argument from my boss about having too much work for her to handle alone.
However, she is already pressuring me about doing extra days and covering for her holiday in April 2024 (which isn't even finalised yet), so I need to tell her I'm leaving ASAP. So that she only books what she can handle for 2024.
So what am I supposed to tell her when she asked why I'm leaving?
I'm not good with confrontation so I'd like to avoid lying but I can't tell her she's the problem.
Also, when would be best to tell her? At the start or end of the week?
Thanks in advance for any advice.
Please wish me luck... I really don't want to have 'the talk' about quitting but I know I have to leave... | Aussie.Girl |
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"content": "<p>I live in a community housing where there are 20 people on my floor with 2 washing machines and 2 dryers.</p><p> </p><p>I do my washing on a sunday if I can last out that long.</p><p> </p><p>I am forever thinking what if I go to do my washing at the equipment is b... | Washing day causing great stress | 07-10-2023 | I live in a community housing where there are 20 people on my floor with 2 washing machines and 2 dryers.
I do my washing on a sunday if I can last out that long.
I am forever thinking what if I go to do my washing at the equipment is being used.
I know this is no big deal but its truly ruining my life its all i think about.
Please give me some advice | ozziebear |
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"content": "<p>There are those times in life where we can't see the candle or the light out of our dark path.</p><p> </p><p>We are always guided and protected by the circle of love and the beautiful relationships we have with our family and with those we love and adore you must ... | The powerful and loving connection of family | 09-10-2023 | There are those times in life where we can't see the candle or the light out of our dark path.
We are always guided and protected by the circle of love and the beautiful relationships we have with our family and with those we love and adore you must always and forever hold your family close and stand unified as one body and one mind.
There love is always there to light my path in the darkness so you can find hope and the light where it shines bright like a beacon bringing the ships back to shore in the turbulent turmultious ocean to a peaceful and calm where there is serenity and peace for all who seek it.
Jion us on this journey love and compassionate connection. We need to walk together on this beautiful journey towards the sunlight on our boat to a peaceful and more prosperous future.
I was at my mum's birthday and said would you like to give a speech I thought about it long and hard then I decided to go in the other derection and I decided to dance and show my skills as a performer and I enjoyed my self listening to the music and laughing and dancing with my wonderful and beautiful family.
There is times when you have fear but you must have faith that all will come right.
I thought I would walk around my community and have beautiful conversations with everyone and talk to them about there lives and there day always look outside yourself and look at how you can support and show love to other's and the most vunerable in the community and society.
It's you that can make a difference to your community and society
The power exists within us to step outside ourselves and make a difference to those we love in our society and our community.
The power to unify the community is in your hands and remember you have a choice to make an endeminable difference to others the power is in your hands.
Leadership is not inherited it is earned through hard work, persiverance and discipline .
Remember to treasure and love your family and always be appreciative and ther love and guidance.
Show love and share a meal with your family and be the change maker not the destroyer
That is how you make a true difference to those you love and care for.
Compassionate humanity is always the right pathway and that is the path we need to take to heal and bring peace and harmony to our community.
Remember to hug and embrace your family and love them with all your heart.
The power comes from being together in society with all the love, joy, laughter.
It doesn't matter if you become a comedian because it unifies people us as a society because laughter is the best medicine.
Remember to love your family through the difficult times so you can celebrate the great time.
This is what I did on the weekend
PS I love you and always appreciate those who look after you.
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"content": "<p>A month ago I got diagnosed anxiety and depression I had a rough 2 weeks once starting meds and then come out of a cloud feeling better.</p><p>I then went back to work and am worse than ever</p><p>shaking hot and cold vomiting </p><p>this is resulting in more anxi... | Advice for anxiety spiral | 08-10-2023 | A month ago I got diagnosed anxiety and depression I had a rough 2 weeks once starting meds and then come out of a cloud feeling better.
I then went back to work and am worse than ever
shaking hot and cold vomiting
this is resulting in more anxiety and loss of appetite. I feel week and stiff all over. Tried breathing and stretching but I only feel better for a little and then anxiety come back. Any suggestions would welcome | Bella87 |
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"content": "<p>I started out life with high functioning anxiety and depression, survived that way until I had my first child and post natal depression (6 years ago). These days I feel like I can still present as high functioning to most people, but inside my home and day to day ... | Life feels overwhelming | 22-09-2023 | I started out life with high functioning anxiety and depression, survived that way until I had my first child and post natal depression (6 years ago). These days I feel like I can still present as high functioning to most people, but inside my home and day to day life I am struggling. I lost the high functioning part in my personal life and now people close to me can see the cracks (really just my husband and kids, not that the kids know what they’re seeing).
I get the stuff done that is urgent, like the laundry and groceries, the kids are well cared for, my husband is involved in childcare and chores. But whenever I have a moment with no urgent needs I just end up wasting the time – numbing, scrolling my phone. The list of things that need doing seems never ending, and despite wanting to make progress (like fixing a leaking tap or replacing a light globe) I just can’t seem to find the energy to start. It’s like life is overwhelming and the never ending list of things that need to be repeated every day or week is overwhelming. I know I need to improve my self care, but no matter how hard I try I can’t seem to make progress, I don’t get as much sleep as I need, I don’t eat well unless it involves feeding the kids too, I’m not as active as I’d like to be. I know I will feel better if I improve these things, yet I don’t. I also don’t have enough fun in life, mostly because I don’t know how to have fun, I don’t really know what my hobbies are.
For the last couple of years I’ve always talked to my psychiatrist and psychologist as though I’m doing okay, yes I have anxiety but a normal level for things that were happening in life, yes I’m tired but I have a baby. To them I would have presented well with good insight. I really did believe I was doing well, but now I’m not so sure. What is a normal level of anxiety or stress? I see my psychiatrist next week, and a new psychologist in 3 weeks, but I’m not even sure how to explain to them what the problem is. I don’t feel like I can articulate it well. It’s like I want to be better but can’t do the things that I need to do to achieve that because I’m working so hard to stay afloat.
Has anyone else had this experience? What helped you? | StartingOutSlow |
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"content": "<p>I know how pathetic this sounds and there is so much more in the world to worry about but I can't get over this issue.</p>\n<p>I have a 65\" smart tv which is now out of warranty</p>\n<p>Every now and then it goes blank for a few seconds.</p>\n<p>This is causing s... | This sounds ridiculous but it is creating great anxiety for me | 05-07-2018 | I know how pathetic this sounds and there is so much more in the world to worry about but I can't get over this issue.
I have a 65" smart tv which is now out of warranty
Every now and then it goes blank for a few seconds.
This is causing such stress and anxiety for me that I hardly watch my tv anymore. I know this sounds so childish and I need to grow up but when it happens I totally fall apart.
I wish this did not affect me the way it does. What do I do I can't call for help as it only happens about every 2 weeks.
Please don't put me down but any advice on what I should do would be so appreciated it. Should I try to live without a tv perhaps? | ozziebear |
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"content": "<p> I wish this wasnt the case but things are getting overwhelming for me again . The world just seems a lonely place at the moment. I have friends who i seen on the weekend and i do get relief then. Its when i get back to being by myself that i crash. I have an... | Feeling overwhelmed and need to talk. | 06-06-2022 | I wish this wasnt the case but things are getting overwhelming for me again . The world just seems a lonely place at the moment. I have friends who i seen on the weekend and i do get relief then. Its when i get back to being by myself that i crash. I have an appt with my psychologist today and had GP appt but he cancelled on me . I have had recent life events that have really made me distraught and lonely the main being a relationship breakup.
Im also unhappy at work and i feel like everything is so grey for me.
I have been a life time sufferer of anxiety and depression and being 56 it has tired me out. Im actually quietly proud of how i have managed to keep going and get as far as i have . Im scared about where i will end up from all this as i dont know where to turn . I have tried all my life to be a good person and think i have been .. I have always helped where i could and been a good citizen.
My family seem to have a history of depression and anxiety but i feel i have copped the worst of it . Ive always been oversensitive and let things affect me. I just want all this anxiety and depression to go away.
I have turned to these forums recently and its been a help to me . My anxiety and depression just gets so tough at times.
Where do i turn too in this place i just want to be happy again and want the same for others. Brett
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"content": "<p>After talking to my psychiatrist about my thoughts and how I'm finding it hard to handle the side effects of my medication, she told me to try getting a psychologist. </p><p> </p><p>But I'm not being paid by centerlink and don't know if i ever will unless I work, ... | Can't get a psychologist and I'm scared | 05-10-2023 | After talking to my psychiatrist about my thoughts and how I'm finding it hard to handle the side effects of my medication, she told me to try getting a psychologist.
But I'm not being paid by centerlink and don't know if i ever will unless I work, which I can't because I'm struggling with severe depression and anxiety. So I can't afford to get a psychologist and I'm afraid I'll never get better.
What if I can't cope or do this on my own? What if my anxiety and depression keep coming back? What if I do things wrong? What if I'll never get over my fears and my trauma?
What if I go crazy?
I really feel like I need a professional to talk to.
I can't stop stressing when things like this happen. I'm just constantly overthinking.
I can't believe in myself to get through this. I feel like I need someone to tell me what to do and how to think. | Owlingo |
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"content": "<p>About 6 months ago I had bed bugs so i paid an exterminator to come and get rid of them.</p><p> </p><p>still to this day i am forever pulling my bed apart to see if they have returned, which they have not.</p><p> </p><p>Is this anxiety doing this and should I disc... | Is this anxiety | 06-10-2023 | About 6 months ago I had bed bugs so i paid an exterminator to come and get rid of them.
still to this day i am forever pulling my bed apart to see if they have returned, which they have not.
Is this anxiety doing this and should I discuss it with my psychiatrist, I am obsessed. | ozziebear |
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"content": "<p>Hey all</p><p>I'm Riss</p><p>I have Anxiety and depression. And am about to go into hospital to get my medication changed its a privet hospital and I don't know what to expect. I also have to leave my 2 and 4 year old at home with there dad whitch I'm sad about.... | Medication | 06-10-2023 | Hey all
I'm Riss
I have Anxiety and depression. And am about to go into hospital to get my medication changed its a privet hospital and I don't know what to expect. I also have to leave my 2 and 4 year old at home with there dad whitch I'm sad about. There is also the fear of never feeling good again. Please any advice will be great
| louies |
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"content": "<ol><li>So last year my father told me to help him send a file on his phone and when I had his phone I saw this app which had a bright red love heart on it. The app looks suspicious. But other than seeing the app, he hasn't displayed any other suspicious behavior that... | Should I question my father if he's cheating again? | 05-10-2023 | Thank you! | redpanda13 |
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"content": "<p>There are many times as a nation we face great adversity but we as a nation must rise to the challenge and never let our difficulties defeat us. There have been times in history when our nations resolve has been test and I feel this is one of those times . The dec... | Unification of a nation and great leaders | 19-10-2023 | There are many times as a nation we face great adversity but we as a nation must rise to the challenge and never let our difficulties defeat us. There have been times in history when our nations resolve has been test and I feel this is one of those times . The decision for the voice was a going to be a great pivot in our society opening the opportunity for better outcomes in the future for Australia.
I want to take you back into history where similar more profound decisions where made.
There have been great leaders in history like abraham Lincoln or Martin Luther King who also stood on the presopose of there powerful ever canging decision in history.
Do we as a society take a step back and let others make the decision for us or do we make the powerful decision ourselves.
When history looks back at the vioce decision do you think we have made the right choice. We always need to stand behind our people and always lend a hand and give strength. There are many turning points in history where we go down one path or another I feel this is one of those times.
You must stand with our aboriganal brothers and sisters and give them the strength to stand and keep walking on the path of justice and rightousness. I feel that everyone has a right to the decisions they make but I feel this decision could have been a powerful support to aboriganal communities.
You must always walk in another persons shoes to go through what there going through to feel the hardship and difficulties to truly know what there life is like.
Always look at things from another's prespective and realise that you need to look and care about other people who are struggling through hardship and difficulties.
We need to stand as one nation to stand against the tide of history to help cange our nation for the better so we can all live in a powerful prosperous land where the opportuntities are open to all who wish to have it.
You mustn't pass judgment on others if you don't know there situation you must always come from a place of love and understanding and always look after the vunerable and disadvantaged.
It is still with in our power to make a change and a difference to our vunerable aboriganal communities you just show you care and stand with this powerful aboriganal community.
There are many beautiful artistic paintings that are part of the culture. There are more then 150 langauges that are spoken no where else on earth. There is many bush foods that are grown no where else on earth.
We as a society have a decision to make and I choose to stand with my brothers and sisters and offer support and guidance in there time of hardship. There many communities that would be feeling sad at this time.
I want to say to everyone light a candle to symbolise hope and renewal of our nation.
We hold the light with in our hands to light the path to a more powerful future it is up to the decisions that you make that will giude out of the dark with a candle into the light.
Stand together and show love and forgivness to all and remember you are never alone in the dark always walk towards the beautiful light.
I stand and pray for aboriganal communities at this time and I wish you a more powerful beautiful future.
Stand as one nation under god to a beautiful more powerful future
Abraham Lincoln
| Elephant86 |
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"content": "<p>hi, I’ve been struggling with dpdr, anxiety and as a result of that depression for about 3 months after a bad trip. I honestly see no way out. I’ve gotten checked everything checked physically and go to a phycologist 1-2 times a week now. It’s extremely hard for m... | Depersonalization and existential anxiety | 14-10-2023 | hi, I’ve been struggling with dpdr, anxiety and as a result of that depression for about 3 months after a bad trip. I honestly see no way out. I’ve gotten checked everything checked physically and go to a phycologist 1-2 times a week now. It’s extremely hard for me to live life and get out of bed. my attendance at school has dropped from almost 100% to like 30-40%. I used to be a straight A student now I’m failing almost every subject. I used to be the happiest most energetic girl ever, always going out with friends. now I can’t even get out of bed.
it’s the most horrible feeling in the world. I’m missing out on the best years of my life. I’m loosing all my friends. sometimes I feel like I’m dead and everything is in my head. my family and my friends feel like fakes, I feel no connection with anyone. when I speak to people it’s like I can’t understand or process anything they are saying. like my brain is shutting down. it feels like this can’t be my real life. this must be a dream or a coma. I think I’m going insane. I get constant panic attacks. everyone is telling me it’s just anxiety, but what if this is all in my head and I’m telling them to tell me that it’s okay? that sounds crazy right? I feel like I’m psychotic or schizophrenic. I get horrible nightmares and sometimes I even hallucinate when I wake up or when I’m about to fall asleep.
I’ve told my therapist all about this and I’ve been prescribed an antidepressant. but the thing is I don’t think I’m anxious or depressed I think I’m actually going insane but I can’t explain it properly? and even if this is dpdr/anxiety/depression I don’t think I can ever be me again. i can’t even remember what normal felt like. I terrified and I’m just coming on here to see if anyone has tried medication for dpdr and if it helped at all? because I can’t find anything online.
sorry this is a bit long. xx | emem0 |
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"author": "user-id/49254",
"content": "<p>Hi, I have the worst anxiety over upcoming surgery on Friday. It’s to remove collapsed bones from my right dominant wrist (proximal row carpectomy). I’m terrified of the recovery, I’ll be in a cast for 6 weeks and a splint for 4 weeks, I’ll also need physio. I’m s... | Anxiety over upcoming surgery | 10-10-2023 | Hi, I have the worst anxiety over upcoming surgery on Friday. It’s to remove collapsed bones from my right dominant wrist (proximal row carpectomy). I’m terrified of the recovery, I’ll be in a cast for 6 weeks and a splint for 4 weeks, I’ll also need physio. I’m so anxious, I’ve been awake since 2am. I guess I’m scared of the unknown, I have a phone consult with the surgeon on Wednesday, I told the office I had major anxiety about the surgery so they booked a phone consult in | Blueberriesarey |
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"content": "<p>I am 28 now and I'm still without direction for what jobs I want to do, I'm only thinking of trying retail and I'm not overly keen because so many people say it's a bad pathway, while with academics I'm not a study person but my only educational interest is nutrit... | Why I'm feeling anxiety nowadays | 13-10-2023 | I am 28 now and I'm still without direction for what jobs I want to do, I'm only thinking of trying retail and I'm not overly keen because so many people say it's a bad pathway, while with academics I'm not a study person but my only educational interest is nutrition related, but it's not to say I'm one hundred percent to even want to try it even if ever, but at the same time being a dietician is more interesting then anything else from University, I just wouldn't see myself being the person to achieve it or do it as a job, so it's sort of silly to mention or make it seem like it's a considerable possibility because I mostly rule it out with me
I feel so challenged because I don't have much cooking skills and I also have to one day live after my mothers gone and manage my diabetes and I don't want a life of eating quick and easy un healthy foods for many reasons, my doctor says I might be able to get un diagnosed with my diabetes because it's in such good remission so that's one break through I'm hoping I can relieve with my challenges
I don't know how to find accommodations if I needed to know if ever, and I wouldn't want a future of rent quality in comparison to a mortgage, I definitely don't want to live with strangers, only family or a marriage type of situation would be what I'm wanting, I wouldn't know how to pay bills online, I was told paying bills at the post office is becoming a thing of the past unfortunately
I always had my mother doing laundry and I've helped her on occasion but don't feel like I am at a level to just know what I'm doing alone with all the fabrics and colours and how to operate the washing machine and how much softener and detergent to use, but maybe Google can tell me this? maybe it's not that complex, I have a basic sense but still
I wouldn't know how to deal with the bank people on the phone and figure out how to resolve anything like with cards or financials or even what to say either
I don't have the highest self esteem with people that I find to be rude or bully, I worry I can't handle life's adversity and conflicts or that If I don't have my twin brother if I'll know how to resolve any issues on my own
I also worry I will never make friends finding anyone I like but I also see a lot of friends superficial to come and go, So I'm more family minded, Worry I'd never have a girl that's attractive and with the right personality or someone that would be a long term suitable, also general insecurity with intimacy
| Albert_247 |
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"content": "<p>I am in my 50's and suffer from childhood onset anxiety</p>\n\n<p> </p>\n\n<p>During my life it became so severe I ceased my working life 10 years ago and fell into the grips of depression just to add to the fun.</p>\n\n<p> </p>\n\n<p>Over my journey I have tried ... | Lack of Effective treatments for Anxiety | 20-10-2023 | I am in my 50's and suffer from childhood onset anxiety
During my life it became so severe I ceased my working life 10 years ago and fell into the grips of depression just to add to the fun.
Over my journey I have tried psychological treatments such as CBD, psychoanalysis, mindfulness etc - all of which were of no assistance with my anxiety.
I have also exhausted the pharmacological avenue via multiple psychiatrists giving me every med under every relevant medication class and also off-label meds that were designed for diverse illnesses.
It is pretty damning that the last
of meds specifically aimed at anxiety came out 60 years or so ago.
I am left with having to accept that there is simply no meaningful help out there for treatment resistant severe anxiety. My lot in life is to endure the continual suffering for however many years I have left.
It is a blight on medical research that with all the advances made in multiple areas anxiety is the poor cousin with no progress for many decades.
| PickoB |
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"content": "<p>I live with a mum that's always anxious. She always says her anxious and intrusive thoughts out loud. Which, as a child, caused me to think the same way. </p><p> </p><p>I now have severe anxiety and depression. As well as agoraphobia and emetophobia from watching ... | How to stop being affected by anxious people | 20-10-2023 | I live with a mum that's always anxious. She always says her anxious and intrusive thoughts out loud. Which, as a child, caused me to think the same way.
I now have severe anxiety and depression. As well as agoraphobia and emetophobia from watching my mum freak out everytime she was nauseous or going out.
I am working on overcoming these thoughts, but my mum just makes things worse as well.
My mum wouldn't leave me alone even as a grown teen because my mum always says "what if smth happens". The times where I was left alone at home (because my family went next door to my relatives), I had panic attacks (that at the time I didn't know were panic attacks).
Now I don't know what to do. I'm taking antidepressants and I'm working on my anxiety and depression.
But I feel like my mindset is so ruined that I never feel better even tho there is evidence that I am doing better (like now I can go bathroom alone without being afraid or make my own food or eat without feeling sick or sleeping without thinking in going to die)
I just don't feel better and my brain still feels the same as before.
Wasn't what I went through supposed to mean smth?
Wasn't it supposed to make me stronger and give me a new life?
I want to go out by myself and have fun.
I want to see people without panicking.
I want to do my daily tasks without getting burnt out or overwhelmed so fucking easily.
I want someone to tell me that there is a better life for me, so I can know I'm not wasting my time trying. | Alel |
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"author": "user-id/49356",
"content": "<p>idk what to do anymore i keep over thinking and i cant get it off my mind i need help yet i have no one to talk to</p></div>",
"date": "20-10-2023",
"url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/depressed-girl-loosing-herself/td-p/576946"
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... | depressed girl loosing herself | 20-10-2023 | idk what to do anymore i keep over thinking and i cant get it off my mind i need help yet i have no one to talk to | astraluvsrhys |
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"content": "<p>I’m just trying to change habits that have not been good, I particularly get anxiety when Im driving in unfamiliar places and in stressful situations, it would be good to develop some strategies to feel better!</p></div>",
"date": "20-10-2023",
"url": "htt... | Trying to change habits | 20-10-2023 | I’m just trying to change habits that have not been good, I particularly get anxiety when Im driving in unfamiliar places and in stressful situations, it would be good to develop some strategies to feel better! | Guest_9210 |
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"content": "I have a new manager who has the mind of a 12 year old boy I am the youngest and he’s the oldest at my work I have been given the silent treatment for over a month and I’m just feeling depressed and alone and went to my HR lady she didn’t seem to take my side and she... | Is this Bulling | 20-10-2023 | mollyprice1128 | |
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"content": "<p>Hi all. I've been feeling pretty lonely lately so I thought I would turn here for some advice. I'm worried almost all the time to the point of physical illness. Even leaving the house can be enough to set me on edge. Social situations make me especially nervous, a... | I feel like a failure | 17-10-2023 | Hi all. I've been feeling pretty lonely lately so I thought I would turn here for some advice. I'm worried almost all the time to the point of physical illness. Even leaving the house can be enough to set me on edge. Social situations make me especially nervous, and I tend to replay them in my head for days afterwards. The
There have also been a few issues at home, and my family has praised me for being so calm and collected through it, when in reality I'm far from it. There's just a lot of pressure to live up to their expectations and not add more to their plate. There's no one to talk to about it and it makes me feel like an imposter. I lie every single day and no one really knows me. I feel like a failure. And I worry about the day everyone else realises I am one as well. | _Gigi_ |
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"content": "I just bought a house by myself and am moving out of my parents home in my late twenties but ever since I bought it I’ve been so upset. I know it will be good for me and that I need to start gaining independence, etc. but I love my parents so much and am devastated to... | Anxiety over moving out of home | 06-02-2022 | CeeCee33 | |
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"content": "<p>I feel this is weird and very specific but Ive had a singing teacher for a number of years who is also a counsellor, they often use counselling methods in lessons saying that singing often brings up difficult emotions, which it does. I am quite socially anxious an... | Am I wrong/ out of line? | 01-10-2023 | I feel this is weird and very specific but Ive had a singing teacher for a number of years who is also a counsellor, they often use counselling methods in lessons saying that singing often brings up difficult emotions, which it does. I am quite socially anxious and well often talk about things in lessons, often the discussion is too short and leaves me a bit unsure of myself. I actually don’t like discussing my insecurities much, it can help but it’s often caused me to cry in lessons. The teacher recently broke up with her husband stating emotional abuse and when I mentioned my mother not showing emotions much because she’s English, the teacher said no, that’s abuse very definitively and criticised my mum as a person that she’d dealt with in person. I was a bit shocked, she is certainly not abusive but very loving (just doesn’t tell you how she feels) and it really upset me, she will often be at concerts my teacher attends. I felt ashamed that I’d made my mum seem awful and wrote an email to the teacher telling her the reasons why my mum is the way she is and that she’s not abusive and that my husband (who she called manipulative) was not. The teacher thought I was stepping over a boundary and looking for counselling, which I wasn’t. I couldn’t sleep after this, I was a few days out of my period and it stressed me out so much that I called her to explain that I wasn’t looking for counselling, I was just really upset that she’d said my mother was abusive. She was quite angry at me and at the same time accused me of two things that I’d done which had upset her in classes recently, one which I can understand over a very silly joke that I acknowledged at the time but the other was completely fabricated.I felt completely gaslit and that it was all my fault for blurring boundaries but I feel that she’s always blurred the lines and breached my boundaries and perhaps she shouldn’t use counselling methods if she doesn’t want her students to feel like they can bring things up. She’s now put up a very ‘professional’ wall and won’t apologise for calling my mum abusive or acknowledge it, it’s all my fault.
I feel quite destroyed over this, it’s really affected me, I feel like I can’t judge or trust people well as it is without someone I’ve worked with for so long making me feel like this. Her moods have been unpredictable in the past couple of years too, I don’t know what to make of her. I’ve also caught a couple of lies that were weird and pointless in the past. | Rosella12 |
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"content": "<p>I’m bipolar 2, recently stopped working due to a work place incident, living three hours from my two sons who I see briefly for one night every fortnight. I’m so sick of battling my mental health, I feel like I self sabotage everything and constantly struggle to ... | I don’t want to fight my mental health anymore | 30-09-2023 | I’m bipolar 2, recently stopped working due to a work place incident, living three hours from my two sons who I see briefly for one night every fortnight. I’m so sick of battling my mental health, I feel like I self sabotage everything and constantly struggle to cope with the situation I’ve found myself in.
the truth is I don’t see any positives in the future and I’m tired of having the generic discussions with mental health professionals and family. | Samc87 |
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"content": "<p>I don't want to spend the rest of my life dealing with anxiety, depression, fear of change and struggling to do every task in life. </p><p> </p><p>I want to be someone who doesn't have anxiety and depression. Who doesn't get scared of change and doesn't overwhelme... | I don't want to cope with it. I want to get rid of it. | 30-09-2023 | I don't want to spend the rest of my life dealing with anxiety, depression, fear of change and struggling to do every task in life.
I want to be someone who doesn't have anxiety and depression. Who doesn't get scared of change and doesn't overwhelmed by every task.
I know things get easier. But that still means I have to deal with it. When I want it to go away forever.
What do I do? | Alel |
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"content": "<p>It starts off with anxious thoughts, \"what if something bad happens\", \" what if everything is going to be hard for the rest of your life\" or \"what if you won't be able to handle this for much longer\"</p><p> </p><p>The it goes into self hatred, \"your a toxic... | Why does my mind purposely try to scare myself | 30-09-2023 | It starts off with anxious thoughts, "what if something bad happens", " what if everything is going to be hard for the rest of your life" or "what if you won't be able to handle this for much longer"
The it goes into self hatred, "your a toxic person", "your fake" or the hardest "your purposly making yourself sad because you like being mentally ill"
I don't know what to do or belive anymore. What if I'm actually making myself mentally ill? | Alel |
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"content": "<p>So I recently got diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression. I had to go into psychiatrist care and take medication. I'm now at the beginning of taking new medication and it is working well. I am still working on some fears of mine like emetophobia and agorapho... | Struggling to move on | 28-09-2023 | So I recently got diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression. I had to go into psychiatrist care and take medication. I'm now at the beginning of taking new medication and it is working well. I am still working on some fears of mine like emetophobia and agoraphobia. As well as working on my anxious and depressive thoughts. I still find it hard to do simple tasks that I am more than capable of physically doing them, just mentally draining for HOURS.
For the most part, I am doing really well. I stopped having panic attacks and major depression. But I'm finding it hard to move on from what I went through. I'm afraid it might happen again or that it's something so serious I shouldn't just continue with life. I don't want to revolve my anxiety and depression around my whole life but I'm also afraid that I won't be ready if it come back. I don't know what this feeling is. I still got so much work to do and to heal from so much, but all I feel like doing is sitting on my phone for the whole day. I can't stop thinking about what I went through and what was happening before.
| Alel |
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"author": "user-id/40238",
"content": "<p>Hi</p><p>I was just wondering if there was anyone else out there with adult adhd who finds it hard to keep existing freinds or making new freinds ,which can lead to loniness.?</p></div>",
"date": "16-09-2022",
"url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/an... | Adult ADHD , | 16-09-2022 | Hi
I was just wondering if there was anyone else out there with adult adhd who finds it hard to keep existing freinds or making new freinds ,which can lead to loniness.? | shayne w |
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"content": "<p>Hi my name is Carmen and I am scared of ageing as I am 67 and getting lined and wrinkled </p><p>My worry is that my partner is going to find someone who looks like a supermodel </p><p>I do have grounds for this ...a few years ago he was having an affair with a gir... | Anxiety of a possible failed relationship | 23-09-2023 | Hi my name is Carmen and I am scared of ageing as I am 67 and getting lined and wrinkled
My worry is that my partner is going to find someone who looks like a supermodel
I do have grounds for this ...a few years ago he was having an affair with a girl who worked with him , 3 hour long phone calls every night, him getting angry at me for daring to ask questions about his work
The list goes on, evidence of an affair was virtually slapping me in the face | Amanda 1956 |
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"content": "<p>In the age of ubiquitous screens and virtual realms, can the digital embrace of online children's therapy rival the age-old, face-to-face therapeutic odysseys?</p></div>",
"date": "27-09-2023",
"url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-effect... | How effective is online children's therapy compared to traditional methods? | 27-09-2023 | In the age of ubiquitous screens and virtual realms, can the digital embrace of online children's therapy rival the age-old, face-to-face therapeutic odysseys? | PaulWatkins |
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"content": "<p>Hello everyone,</p><p>I’m struggling with Asbestos OCD, and thought this a good place to connect.</p><p>I bought some vintage workwear pants that were made in the 50’s, from a lovely vintage store.</p><p>It suddenly occurred to me that they were still using asbes... | Asbestos OCD | 24-09-2023 | Hello everyone,
I’m struggling with Asbestos OCD, and thought this a good place to connect.
I bought some vintage workwear pants that were made in the 50’s, from a lovely vintage store.
It suddenly occurred to me that they were still using asbestos in the 50’s, and my OCD has been triggered as I’m incredibly anxious about these pants now - as i have been wearing them around my children and washing them with other clothes.
I am feeling as though everything is ‘contaminated’ and its all consuming and anxiety provoking.
if anyone has any support to offer it would be greatly appreciated- thank you. | Rosyrain |
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"content": "<p>Hi, </p>\n<p>Last year I had a falling out with a friend. It was a messy, awkward and confusing falling out. Very soon after, this person deleted me from their social media accounts. Unfortunately we have the same classes so I see them frequently. Every time this ... | falling out with a friend... and seeing them everyday | 03-04-2019 | Hi,
Last year I had a falling out with a friend. It was a messy, awkward and confusing falling out. Very soon after, this person deleted me from their social media accounts. Unfortunately we have the same classes so I see them frequently. Every time this person, sees me, they physically turn the other way and avert their gaze. This small action hurts me to no end. Although the falling out happened last year, I find that I am constantly thinking about it, playing out what happened in my head and every time they avoid me. I can't help but feel the thing that made us fall out was very trivial, though rationally I know I should respect their decision. Emotionally I feel anxiety, guilt, anger, confusion...
I feel anxiety any time I have to go to university because I know I will see them, even if it is just a brief passing at the corridor, because I know they will avoid me. I am living week by week mentally figuring out how many times I will see this person. I make elaborate plans to try to walk a longer way etc. to avoid them. The fact that I'm racking my brain over this makes me feel guilty.
Although I am very embarrassed about this, I've shared this with some close friends (though I do not go to university with them) and family. They have been very supportive. However its 1 year later and I am still anxious about it. My friends and family have expressed confusion as to why I'm still so worked up about it, and I agree with that, and the fact that I still am makes me feel even more guilty. I'm trying to cope by exercising and hanging with my partner, but at the end of the day, or whenever I have a moment to think, this fills up my mind.
It is so exhausting. I just hate that I'm worked up over something that really began from something so trivial, but has wallowed in my mind for a year now. This kind of situation has happened to me before (three times!) where I've had conflict with a friend and felt anxiety every time I saw them. During high school this happened too and it left me in depression for two years until high school ended and I did not have to see them anymore. So this time around, do I have to wait until I finish university for my anxiety to end?
I know I need to move on, and I keep telling myself that, but I can't help but feel anxious. | reika |
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"content": "<p>Hi everyone,</p><p> </p><p>I've made a big mistake (under tough conditions). I'm having some serious intrusive thoughts and being incredible hard on myself. </p><p>My mistake is work based and could be catastrophic for my career. I also have information that could... | Big mistake and anxiety | 02-10-2023 | Hi everyone,
I've made a big mistake (under tough conditions). I'm having some serious intrusive thoughts and being incredible hard on myself.
My mistake is work based and could be catastrophic for my career. I also have information that could destroy a business. I'm so torn as to what to do and I don't know how to stop the racing, intrusive thoughts.
Thanks everyone, I'm new to this community but must say the chat feature saved me today! | Basilboy |
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"content": "<p>I've recently been diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression as well as agoraphobia. I've also been dealing with my fear of vomiting, fainting and sometimes weather ever since I was young.</p>\n\n<p> </p>\n\n<p>I'm only on my 2nd week of my meds and i still fee... | Uncomfortable with feeling okay | 03-10-2023 | I've recently been diagnosed with severe anxiety and depression as well as agoraphobia. I've also been dealing with my fear of vomiting, fainting and sometimes weather ever since I was young.
I'm only on my 2nd week of my meds and i still feel on edge or low sometimes. But most of the time, I feel relaxed and okay.
The thing is tho, I don't know what to do with this feeling? Because when I'm anxious or depressed, I have steps and practices to do. But when I'm happy, I just have to live? Why is it so weird to me?
I don't know what to do. Even tho I feel better, I don't see the appeal of going out, doing a hobby or going for a little walk even. I'm just sitting on my phone. All day.
I know meds takes a while to actually work, I don't know how it feels for meds to fully work as I was never got to that point with my last mess. So I'm still quite scared of what's to come before it works or if it actually works.
I'm also afraid that I'll never overcomle my fears as I can't get myself to face them.
As well as accepting I have a chemical imbalance. It just makes me feel broken knowing I'll deal with anxiety and depression for the rest of my life. It just seems like such an exhausting and terrifying life.
I also got alot of bad things going on in life, but luckily not too bad. I have to work on finding a life for myself and getting over my past.
There's just so much, which is quite overwhelming, and being uncomfortable with feeling okay is just pushing me back. I want to make progress but now I have to get comfortable with it? | Alel |
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"content": "<p>Things that scare me or give me anxiety:</p>\n\n<p> </p>\n\n<ul>\n\t<li>Thinking about my past (especially)</li>\n\t<li>Thinking about my present</li>\n\t<li>Thinking about the future</li>\n\t<li>Urges</li>\n\t<li>Eating</li>\n\t<li>Vomiting</li>\n\t<li>Fainting</... | Can I get tips or advice? | 04-10-2023 | Things that scare me or give me anxiety:
I'm just struggling and so many people have gone through this before and I have so much to learn and conquer and achieve.
I wouldn't even have to go through all this, or have to overcome so much things or have to achieve things everyone already has or didn't even have to try for them to achieve it.
If my brain was normal, the only thing on my mind would be teen things.
But no, I have to have
It's so hard to deal with. I'm so afraid of my own brain. I feel so different from everyone around me.
I know I'm not alone but it honestly feels like it.
Don't have to help but tips for any of these things would really help please. I am trying to see a psychologist but I wanted to get a start now until I can get one.
| Alel |
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"content": "<p>Hi, I’ve always struggled with social anxiety and it has been always hard for me to meet new people and make friends. It takes several times before I feel comfortable with someone and all the tasks (except for work) that involves going out my home in a social envi... | Anxiety and advice on mental support | 02-10-2023 | Hi, I’ve always struggled with social anxiety and it has been always hard for me to meet new people and make friends. It takes several times before I feel comfortable with someone and all the tasks (except for work) that involves going out my home in a social environment, often give me a stomachache and the need to go to the bathroom.
I think the main issue is that I’m not feeling confident with myself and I often feel ugly and different.
My situation improved the last years when I had to care for my son and my partner (that suffered from depression in a different way).
Last year I moved here in Australia with my family so that we can stay closer to my partner’s parents and improve her situation, but after a few months she broke up with me and now I feel like I’m at the same point I started 9 years ago, plus the only people I know here are related to her. I spent the last five months just working and staying at home, without seeing anyone after work, except for my son when I got him the weekend. I’d like to change and find a way i can make friends and enjoy my life.
I apologise for my English as is not my first language. | apok90 |
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"content": "I feel anxious most of the time and it's all used to be physical for me but now it's also emotional and as if I feel my brain is turning around or smh. Sometimes I'm feeling sad and even a little depressed. I've never felt like this weird unexplainable sadness before... | Physical Anxiety fear of dying | 03-10-2023 | M_A_ | |
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"content": "<p>TW HEALTH ANXIETY </p><p> </p><p>Ive only gotten covid once or twice. But lately I've been trying to overcome really bad anxiety and I live with a really really anxious mom.</p><p> </p><p>She is saying that the covid vaccine is bad and that covid is really dangero... | Still afraid of covid | 01-10-2023 | TW HEALTH ANXIETY
Ive only gotten covid once or twice. But lately I've been trying to overcome really bad anxiety and I live with a really really anxious mom.
She is saying that the covid vaccine is bad and that covid is really dangerous which is scaring me as well as her which then scares me more.
I can't stop worrying and panicking. I already got the covid vaccine couple years back. But I'm still scared of getting really sick or dying.
Whenver I explain my fears to my family, they just say believe in God. I'm not religious and they don't know that, so it just feels like I have no one that understand how scared I am.
I'm too afraid to read the news about australia and covid bc I don't want to get more anxious than I already am, but I also have an urge to read on it.
What do I do?
Does anyone have any tips for health anxiety and covid? | Alel |
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"content": "<p>I've lost all my friends over conflict & no longer have the option of being friends with them again. I feel like I don't know how to make a new group of friends as I've always been comfortable with all I had and never really bothered with making more friends b... | i have no friends how do i cope with it | 02-10-2023 | I've lost all my friends over conflict & no longer have the option of being friends with them again. I feel like I don't know how to make a new group of friends as I've always been comfortable with all I had and never really bothered with making more friends besides the ones I had. i try my best to keep my mind busy with other things but sometimes with stresses from running my business, studying fulltime combined with the feeling of loneliness can be frustrating. | beny |
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"content": "<p>Hi everyone, I'm at the beginning of a med change after 15 years on the same medication. The last couple of weeks have been hell. The mood the anxiety the worthlessness just seems so overwhelming. </p>\n\n<p>I have always been a go getter and this has floored me.... | Struggles through med change | 02-10-2023 | Hi everyone, I'm at the beginning of a med change after 15 years on the same medication. The last couple of weeks have been hell. The mood the anxiety the worthlessness just seems so overwhelming.
I have always been a go getter and this has floored me. At the moment preparing a meal, cleaning the house takes everything out of me. I worked a day last week and was bedridden for 2 days.
I'm hoping I get some relief soon but feeling very nervous the new medication isn't going to work.
I do hope you are have a day that will bring you some peace and happiness today. | Belblu |
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"content": "<p>I’ve been really struggling with the fear of dying since moving to Australia from the UK. I never had this before then. I’ve had a lot of health issues since being here (nothing life threatening) but out of nowhere I will have these debilitating panic attacks wher... | Constantly in fear of dying | 01-10-2023 | I’ve been really struggling with the fear of dying since moving to Australia from the UK. I never had this before then. I’ve had a lot of health issues since being here (nothing life threatening) but out of nowhere I will have these debilitating panic attacks where I feel like I’m going to die. It’s terrifying. I genuinely believe that I’m not going to make it home. I’m constantly Googling my symptoms, and body checking. I’ve become so hypersensitive to my bodily sensations.
To make it worse, I witnessed someone who died in a motorcycle accident the other day where I was heavily involved (called the ambulance, checked for a pulse etc). I feel awful for him and his family, and I can’t help but feel that this has confirmed that I could just die at any moment. It probably sounds ridiculous and I know my partner doesn’t fully understand. I’m going back to the UK in a couple of weeks time, but even getting on the plane is scaring me in case something happens. I haven’t been able to get therapy due to not having Medicare or the money to afford it so feel it’s gotten worse.
I guess I’m just trying to get my thoughts down and see if anyone has any advice, or has similar feelings to me?
Thanks so much in advance x | Louise1993 |
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"content": "<p>Hi everyone,<br><br></p><p>Struggling to come to terms with having eye floaters. I’ve had them for about a year now (30yo) and my anxiety hasn’t gotten any better as they progress/change. All doctors say my eyes are healthy and they’re apart of life but it’s all I... | Anxiety and Eye Floaters | 20-09-2023 | Hi everyone,
Struggling to come to terms with having eye floaters. I’ve had them for about a year now (30yo) and my anxiety hasn’t gotten any better as they progress/change. All doctors say my eyes are healthy and they’re apart of life but it’s all I think about every second of the day. I’m becoming lonely and slowly isolating myself from others. I don’t like to go outside in fear I’ll see them. I’ve been back/forth with doctors but as I’m young, there isn’t any treatment. I just want to return to my happy self and not focus on them all day long. | AnonymousOtter |
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"content": "<p>I am having severe vertigo problems since 2 months. It always feels like I am floating & walking on marshmallows. Every single day it’s the same. I first started having these when I had a severe panic attack. It stopped for few months, but it again came back. ... | Vertigo caused by health anxiety | 25-08-2023 | I am having severe vertigo problems since 2 months. It always feels like I am floating & walking on marshmallows. Every single day it’s the same. I first started having these when I had a severe panic attack. It stopped for few months, but it again came back. I don’t know what to do. Has anyone experienced something like this before? Or does anyone have any solutions on how I can stop this vertigo. It is affecting me very badly. I went to the gp twice but still no hope. I am scared to get a MRI since I don’t know what will be the result & my health anxiety is making it worse. | AYU_227 |
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"content": "<p><span>I panic during hot weather because I experience anxiety symptoms and then my overthinking and panic makes my anxiety even worse. I have a fear of fainting, vomiting and dizziness. So hot weather is the worst. It's also really hard for me to go to sleep and s... | Afraid of hot weather and summer | 16-09-2023 | Alel | |
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"content": "<p>Hi all being an introvert, I struggle mentally to readapt. My productivity was at its best during the covid period but now, I really struggle with crowd and in person distractions at work. Most of the time, I just want people to leave me alone as I just want to g... | Post Covid readaption anxiety | 16-09-2023 | Hi all being an introvert, I struggle mentally to readapt. My productivity was at its best during the covid period but now, I really struggle with crowd and in person distractions at work. Most of the time, I just want people to leave me alone as I just want to get the job done and go home! Not sure if there are others out there who feels the same? | ThomasJakeLim |
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"content": "<p>Hey folks</p><p> </p><p>Yeah look just anxious about going back to work, all just based on the fact couldn't catch up with someone yesterday. Just cos of medication side effects like really what else does that have to say, to mean its not personal to this person? ... | Anxious about going back to work- copping a big whack from people there | 17-09-2023 | Hey folks
Yeah look just anxious about going back to work, all just based on the fact couldn't catch up with someone yesterday. Just cos of medication side effects like really what else does that have to say, to mean its not personal to this person? I dont get it and now it will spiral and become a big thing- where I'm the perpetrator, and they're the victim. As is always the case with me, even when looking to avoid confrontation to the point of avoiding emotions aha. Which to get back on the point of this section of the forums- does cause anxiety | Guest_1282 |
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"content": "<p>I feel utterly Useless about myself when it’s comes to my parents. <br>\nBack in the day, when I was a child, around teenagers years, struggling to school, making friends, or even do anything because of my father had S*xually abused me and my mother didn’t underst... | Guiltrip from my parents | 16-09-2023 | I feel utterly Useless about myself when it’s comes to my parents.
Back in the day, when I was a child, around teenagers years, struggling to school, making friends, or even do anything because of my father had S*xually abused me and my mother didn’t understand nothing, didn’t protect me and said to me to be quiet about it ( which I didn’t , I went to tell my friends and ended up with the Child protection services).
after a long journey of fosters homes and more homes, trying my best to be a normal person.
Went to tafe <struggling>
went to Oasis Army course < struggling>
Had variety of jobs < struggling >
But I did learned many things about life and humans d
In one of those teenagers years and until now in my 20s , I had enough courage to connect back with my families again.
I thought everything would’ve been okay, they will understand me, the pain I’ve been through.
However, I came to the understanding that my younger sister had also been unsafe with my father. I was shocked and burst out cyring. I requested my older brother to protect my sister and he went to my mother regarding this. My mother however was not supportive and instead blamed me for being a black sheep and breaking up the family.
She’s apologised to me what has had happened in the past.
she said if I still want to call her “mother” then I can’t be talking about these things with my sister again or else she will disappear along with my sister. And never let me see them again.
Other thing my mother said to me, I have to forgive my father, and if she wants to see him, it’s not my business, and she’s promised me to protect my sister. Plus also stop being depleted and depressed about the past.
she also mention, that she feels like I want her to die because I’m taking her husband away. I AM THE ONE that DESTROYED the family. everything was my fault.
Now I have no idea what to do, I’m trying my best to cope and learning with my depression for years, I feel guilty about talking protection with my sister.
in the end, I’m the black sheep of the family that made everyone stressed out because I cannot get past my past and wanting to protect my sister in my way is wrong for my mother.
I think I should stop talking to my family in general. But I’m being honest, I don’t know what to do. | ShennyChavez |
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"content": "I'm 29 years old and have recently been diagnosed with epilepsy. \n<p>My first lot of seizures were nocturnal and only happened during my sleep. I had restricted driving instructions to only drive during certain day time hours and to keep well rested. I was.seizure ... | Anxiety linked to Epilepsy. | 14-04-2014 | My first lot of seizures were nocturnal and only happened during my sleep. I had restricted driving instructions to only drive during certain day time hours and to keep well rested. I was.seizure free for 6 months before having my first day seizure last week with only my 1yo niece and 7yo daughter with me. Lucky I was at home, but I can't forget how scared my daughter was or becoming conscience and having paramedics standing over me. She should never of had to deal with that, to call 000 and care for her crying 1yo cousin. I'm so scared of putting her through that again. I also fear having a seizure at the shops, or on the train. I'm too scared to go anywhere alone with the kids.
And on top of that, I've lost my license so feel a loss of independence and I can no longer take my kids to their gymnastics or swimming classes. I feel like I'm letting them down. My 7yo says she understands, but it hurts her and there isn't anything I can do. The sports centres aren't accessible by public transport.
My husband is a big help....when he's Home. He works away for a few weeks at a time. He is looking for a local job, but until then he has to work.
I'm hoping someone here can give some advice on helping me deal with my fear of having seizures. Thankyou. | Axete |
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"content": "<p>Hi,</p>\n\n<p>I live in a small coastal town, lived here for 12 years. 2 years ago a couple moved in next door, both real-estate agents. I'll only mention the man, as I've never talked to his wife.</p>\n\n<p>A bit of context here is that I suffer from LPTSD and tra... | Falling apart; abusive neighbour | 18-03-2022 | Hi,
I live in a small coastal town, lived here for 12 years. 2 years ago a couple moved in next door, both real-estate agents. I'll only mention the man, as I've never talked to his wife.
A bit of context here is that I suffer from LPTSD and trauma from having been bullied and abused as a child over many years, and I've got 25 years of therapy trying to have a normal life. I'm still today struggling with social anxiety and I'm painfully conflict shy. I wouldn't dare to try to fix a wrong order at Maccas.
After two years of mostly verbal abuse (trees, bushes, our chickens, anything he doesn't like) it culminated last Wednesday with him assaulting me in my driveway (tree dispute where he doesn't like councils' decision). Reported it to the police, of course, but i'm concerned not much will come of that unless he attacks again. I now live in constant fear of waiting for when he'll attack next.
The incident last week has left me completely destroyed. My neighbour has always been aggressive and abusive, to everyone in my household and people visiting, to council and others. And now I'm shaking like a leaf, afraid to be in the house, to be outside the house, to come and go, I can't sleep without hefty pills, and I'm on two different anxiety meds just to stay upright. It's been over a week, and I feel I'm losing it.
So my question is; what to do next? I've done all the obvious things, police, council, lawAccessNSW, seeing psychologist, GP, but no one can do anything. We've talked about selling, but a) that's hard on the kids, and b) unfair to those we sell it to. Abusive neighbours are perfectly allowed to be abusive, it seems. And I'm running out of strength, this anxiety and the very thought of having to live with this is just so overwhelming. Has anyone had to deal with something like this? | ShelterIt |
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"content": "<p>Although I gained my counselling qualifications last year, I haven't had much work in private practice and would like to work for an organisation before my skills dwindle. </p><p>On Friday I had an online interview, where the questions come up on the screen and yo... | Anxiety after job interview | 10-09-2023 | Although I gained my counselling qualifications last year, I haven't had much work in private practice and would like to work for an organisation before my skills dwindle.
On Friday I had an online interview, where the questions come up on the screen and you are recorded as you answer them. I found it stressful and feel I shared too much of my life experience.
You see, I'm seventy-two years old and I know it sounds ridiculous to be starting a new career at my age but I'm fit snd healthy and I have had enormous life experience. Unfortunately, I don't have the confidence to match it and I have trouble with negative thoughts although I meditate regularly and try to practise mindfilness. At times, I despair of ever finding my niche yet my strong determination keeps me going, even though I often fail.
I'm not sure if anyone else has this problem but when I defuse my thoughts, I feel empty just like I did when I first gave up smoking. I try to keep busy and exercise regularly but find I'm always staving off depression.
| Richju |
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"content": "<p>Hi, I’m 42(m) and in a long distance relationship with a lady in another state. I fly to her, or her to me most weekends. I’m very much in love with her, both of us have had prior marriages. We are both professionals in very different industries. Last week, she to... | Hyper focus on potentially the wrong person | 12-09-2023 | Hi, I’m 42(m) and in a long distance relationship with a lady in another state. I fly to her, or her to me most weekends. I’m very much in love with her, both of us have had prior marriages. We are both professionals in very different industries. Last week, she told me she wants to go for a holiday for two weeks with another man, whom I have never met. She tells me he is just a friend, and cannot understand why I told her that it upset me. Since then, I have told her that if she wants to go, then she should in fact go. Now I’m overthinking, cannot sleep, and I’m crazy anxious, to the point where I’m unable to function properly. Trying to quash the feelings internally, as she believes this all belongs to me. What do I do here? | Overthinking_m3 |
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"content": "I want to know about feeling anxious even though you’re on antidepressants. I having been taking antidepressants from 5 years, actually things were good but now I’m getting anxious even after taking medication. Is it okay to feel anxious still you are on meds? Or Is ... | Feeling anxious | 24-08-2023 | Prinair | |
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"content": "<p>At times I tell my anxiety to stop, go away, leave me alone. I thought it might be good to put it into a post. Feel free to write your own letter. </p><p> </p><p>Dear anxiety,</p><p>I've has enough of you & you need to leave. I am a strong, confident, positive... | Dear Anxiety | 10-04-2023 | At times I tell my anxiety to stop, go away, leave me alone. I thought it might be good to put it into a post. Feel free to write your own letter.
Dear anxiety,
I've has enough of you & you need to leave. I am a strong, confident, positive person & you come in & try to take it away. You always pounce when I'm a little vulnerable & you just keep pick, pick, picking at me until my thoughts go round in circles. Well, you won't win. I know your game & I'm not playing.
Go back into your little hole, you won't get the better of me
Cmf | CMF |
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"content": "<p>We are all created different because if we where all the same the world would not be a diverse wonderful place that is how we have different cultures and societies all over the world. There are counties all over the world that celebrate different idea's and concep... | The beautiful acceptance of our unique world | 28-08-2023 | We are all created different because if we where all the same the world would not be a diverse wonderful place that is how we have different cultures and societies all over the world. There are counties all over the world that celebrate different idea's and concept.
The beauty and wonder of multicultural celebrations
when you travel to Mexico you have the celebration of carival in brazil with there diverse food and beautiful rich history and culture. The do speak a different language to us but that isn't a bad thing it is your chance to listen and learn about a different culture then your own. Have you ever had mexican food like a burrito or a quesadilla just for fun it is wonderful exploring a different culture or people.
The next place we are traveling to is china the have an ancient culture and langauge which is about 3000 years old. Tere laungauge is known as a pictographical language where instead of words like english you write in pictures which is a bit of a challenge ill admit. There is there wonderful diverse food have you ever tried mongolian lamb or sweet and sour chicken they are very different to what you have in Australia.
The next place I want to show you is india where the speak hindi and tamil which has a culture about 5000 years old. There is festival called depavili which is also known as the festival of light where you light candles on the night of the festival of lights to bring powerful good energy into your heart and your life.
The diversity we share is powerful and being different is beautiful. Show love to those who are different and your life will be richer and more spendered then you imagine.
We need to celebrate our melting pot of a country and look at our differences as a strength not a weakness.
There is great power in accepting our differences as a country and a community.
Everyone is different and unique in this world and love your neighbour with love and compassion.
I wish everyone peace and harmony in the universe
Thank you and have a wonderful day!!!
| Elephant86 |
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"content": "<p>Reaching out to get some tips on how to help a friend who has anxiety when changes occur and then socially isolates to ‘cope’ then the pattern repeats. </p></div>",
"date": "27-08-2023",
"url": "https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/how-to-help-a-fr... | How to help a friend with anxiety | 27-08-2023 | Reaching out to get some tips on how to help a friend who has anxiety when changes occur and then socially isolates to ‘cope’ then the pattern repeats. | Guest_2954 |
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"content": "<p>Hi,</p><p>I feel super stuck and uncertain and I’m worried it’s going to be like this forever. I’m currently a full time junior accountant studying accounting at uni part time and I’m so miserable. I wake up in the middle of the night so anxious I feel like I’ll t... | I’m terrified I’ll never be happy at a job | 16-08-2023 | Hi,
I feel super stuck and uncertain and I’m worried it’s going to be like this forever. I’m currently a full time junior accountant studying accounting at uni part time and I’m so miserable. I wake up in the middle of the night so anxious I feel like I’ll throw up and when my alarm finally goes off there’s a 40% chance I’ll immediately start crying. And I’m so terrified I’m just doomed to be like this forever.
every other aspect of my life right now is honestly amazing but I am so miserable because of my job, and I feel guilty because it’s not even really that bad and I just don’t know what to do… the work isn’t that hard, I have stable hours, I get a pay raise every year, my managers are nice and I have the same/similar schedules to the people I care about so I can see them more often. But I have no friends here and I just feel evil and sad all the time.
I know deep in my heart this isn’t meant for me and I should quit but I’m terrified of losing the stability and worried that I’ll just feel like this no matter what. Especially with uni started back up I just feel swamped and I can’t do it anymore, I knew from day one that this isn’t right and now I’ve been here for over a year. I just don’t know what to do and I need some advice.
thanks | yourfav |
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"content": "I'm 45 and running out of excuses for not attending things....got a headache, feeling sick, the baby's not well...not cutting it anymore. So I've been pushing myself to go to public places such as restaurants, concerts and shopping centres and it has resulted in me ... | Running out of excuses | 06-04-2013 | lidia | |
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"content": "Hi, I came off medication after over a decade on the drug for depression/ anxiety/ ptsd, Very, very gradually! At first all these interesting emotions started to emerge, I’d been completely blank emotion wise for the duration of being on medication. The great thing i... | Overwhelming anxiety | 26-08-2023 | BastMade | |
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"content": "<p class=\"\"><span class=\"\">If you had planned a holiday to another state for a niece or nephews 1st birthday party and spent loads of money on flights, and you were staying with the parents of said niece or nephew, with the understanding that the people you were s... | Don't make me feel guilty, please. | 26-06-2023 | Not_Batman | |
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"content": "<p>I feel nervous posting this because I worry what people will think. Still, I'm trying to speak up about things these days, because sometimes good things do happen through discussion.</p><p> </p><p>I've pretty much been on a restrictive diet my whole life. I was bo... | Scared of getting help from Eating Disorder professionals | 25-08-2023 | I feel nervous posting this because I worry what people will think. Still, I'm trying to speak up about things these days, because sometimes good things do happen through discussion.
I've pretty much been on a restrictive diet my whole life. I was born with really bad food and chemical sensitivities that impacted my behaviour and physical health - yes, I was the kid whose skin would melt off from using soap. As I got older, and had a tonne of therapy, my food sensitivities lessened but I could never eat a so-called normal diet. Not even a normal healthy diet. I had to watch what I ate, cutting out all the amazing things in the world like sugar, grains and carbs. This was not something I just decided because of food fear or something - these were medically prescribed diets by professionals who knew no other way to manage the gut/physical issues I had. I never liked the diets but they made a really big difference for me. For example, I don't exactly know why, but at one point rice made me feel really paranoid.
Fast forward to my late teens and I stumbled across a great nutritionist who got me to do all these (expensive) tests to look at my gut health. The test showed I had really shit gut health - no wonder I felt so crap and couldn't eat anything. My 'gut' feeling had been right! After lots of supplements and more elimination diets, my gut is much better. I can tolerate pretty much any food, but I still have to watch not overeating grains, dairy.
I also started experiencing body image issues and figured out how to lose a bit of weight as this made me felt better. I did it pretty slow, over a year and a half.
Now, I'm sick of having anxiety about food, wondering if will make me sick again. I also don't like my fear of weight gain and still plan to lose a little more. I want to get help but all the psychologists I've seen so far are convinced it's all in my head. They completely ignore why I had to be on those restrictive diets and just assume any reaction to food is my imagination. Their solution to body image issues is also to make me put on weight - which is really annoying because I have spent a year and a half of my life dedicated to this and I feel better. I want to get to a point where I'm not anxious about food and have a better self image, while still achieving the weight I want.
I just wish I could get help from someone who wouldn't make me give up what's important to me in doing so. | Willowtree_21 |
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"content": "<p>i think i'm losing my mind i've been diagnosed with complex ptsd depression and anxiety i've been to therapy where recently in the last couple of months i had feelings of suicide but i've not let my family know because i have a good life execpt for my mind so i fe... | My mind | 24-08-2023 | i think i'm losing my mind i've been diagnosed with complex ptsd depression and anxiety i've been to therapy where recently in the last couple of months i had feelings of suicide but i've not let my family know because i have a good life execpt for my mind so i feel so guilty complaining about anything and my thoughts have been feeling to tempting and i think i'm losing control and i'm worried because i can't see a future for myself | Meremortal |
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"content": "<p>Hi,</p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure if this is the place to post but I have nobody to talk to about this. I'm 28 years old and got the Disability Support Pension when I was around 17 or 18. It would have been from depression and anxiety which I no longer have any evide... | Anxiety about a possible DSP review | 29-10-2023 | Hi,
I'm not sure if this is the place to post but I have nobody to talk to about this. I'm 28 years old and got the Disability Support Pension when I was around 17 or 18. It would have been from depression and anxiety which I no longer have any evidence for. When I was 20, I got diagnosed with Autism level 2, which I do have evidence of, which explains my depression, anxiety, plus a whole lot more issues I struggle with.
Over the years, I reached a point where I wanted to pursue university, as I was able to work on my mental health and became curious about working. I completed a program to get into university and got into a social work degree which I am doing part time. I moved out of home my first year and my parents also moved away to another state so with the DSP I can pay rent and anything I need.
Here is where my anxiety is kicking in and it is to levels I don't think I've felt before. I'm almost halfway through my degree and I've been having thoughts of having to be reviewe. If I do have one and they cut my payment, I will be forced to either work and do uni, or stop uni altogther and move back with my parents.
I think I could work now, but since I'm at university, I feel like both would completely overwhelming and my mental health would decline much to where I was when I started DSP. I really want to become a social worker. I don't have any qualifications and don't know what else I'd do. The idea that I could be reviewed at any moment or even the last semester of my degree and denied payment is destroyting me mentally. I see a psychologist and am registered with the NDIS and see a support worker, so maybe I could get documentation by them? I'm just scared and afraid that the path I've carved out from being on DSP could be ruined by it as well. | StygianOwl |
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"content": "Hello all I have anxiety and have my husbands mums funeral today. I am extremely nervous as it's a private funeral and my family are there and are quite judgy and in worried about what they will say. I know it's stupid and I should be focusing on my husband and his m... | Nervous and anxious about everything especially funeral today | 28-03-2017 | Sarah8 | |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/returned-to-work/td-p/565351 | [
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"content": "<p>I’ve been on work cover for around 10/11 months due to work place injury, bullying, assault and numerous other things happend I’ve been sent to a new location ( temporarily) while I adjust to returning to work , today was first day back It was hard I was lumped in... | Returned to work | 11-05-2023 | I’ve been on work cover for around 10/11 months due to work place injury, bullying, assault and numerous other things happend I’ve been sent to a new location ( temporarily) while I adjust to returning to work , today was first day back It was hard I was lumped in a role I’ve never done ( receptionist) Recived no training just answer phones take notes which is way stressing when I don’t know clients procedures or even the telephone systems or who to ask for help no one was available despite me asking numerous times for help . I can’t say how I felt after leaving work all of 3 hours work left me sweating profusely and literally panicked state of mind then to top it off I got a snarky email from my nasty return to work co ordinator due to apparently me missing something in a timesheet I submitted and that was my fault given I’ve never had to do timesheets and again no one was around to assist me to complete these tasks . My dad says I should quit and after today I feel I should I I’mvery overwhelmed by today’s awful work day and told my new boss that too . I dread going into work tomorrow , how do others deal with returning to work after long absence and mental health problems I have anxiety and depression Re what happened at my original work site yes I am requesting a new return to work co ordinator | blues23 |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety/td-p/577478 | [
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"content": "<p>Am 87 years old, female. Over the years have suffered anxiety & received good help from an extra hour with particularly kind GPs. At present these Drs have more worries to deal with so am looking for other help.</p><p>I appear confident to friends but undernea... | anxiety | 29-10-2023 | Am 87 years old, female. Over the years have suffered anxiety & received good help from an extra hour with particularly kind GPs. At present these Drs have more worries to deal with so am looking for other help.
I appear confident to friends but underneath moving into groups of people can be worrying. Having a few medical problems lately has brought this on again, I want to get going, but am finding it very hard. | 81oct |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/the-beautiful-story-of-the-falling-snow-flake/td-p/577473 | [
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"content": "<p>The snow flake where falling on all around on the the beautiful forest and the sun was just appearing as the day was comming into been and little bear got up and said yappee it's finally christmas and i getto have wonderful ten presents this year and he was very h... | The beautiful story of the falling snow flake | 29-10-2023 | The snow flake where falling on all around on the the beautiful forest and the sun was just appearing as the day was comming into been and little bear got up and said yappee it's finally christmas and i getto have wonderful ten presents this year and he was very happy.
This was the begining f the story
Santa was in his work shop and one of the elves asked santa what do we get little bear for christmas . Santa says let's give him the greatest gift of all the present of giving and caring for others it is a present of the heart. I will send little bear three animals to give him guidance the white reindeer, the grizzly bear and the white wolf.
Every animal will show him different stories of why gving is important help others in need at christmas.
little bear decided to go for a walk in the forest and then all of a sudden the white reindeer appeared and took little into the forest where the reindeer showed little the animals in the forest that had lees food so little bear and threindeer went to the kitchen and started cooking soup and meals and feeding the poor and talking the community and understanding what the community was going through.
The reindeer said you must always be gratful for the food you have and always say to your mum and dad I love you and appreciate your family at christmas.
Then little bear was back on the path in the forest and the next gaurdian he cama accross was the grizzly bear and the bears was a wizard in the forest. He took little bear to some house that where not finished and they went building and the bear taught little how to build and create things out of timber and bricks.
Gandoff said always be gratful for your hame and always look after it because there are other littles bears in the world that don't have homes and families that love them.
Then little bear was back on the snow flake path
He started walking down the path again and he came to the last creature in the forest the white wolf. The wolf spoke to little bear about hour and always doing the good and rightous path and always looking after and doing good for others in the community. Like she said there are animals in the forest with big hearts and the lways listen to there parents and do the right thing by family and friends.
She took little bear to see all his friends in the forest and they all started to sing christmas songs in the forest and they had beautiful and powerful flame of hope and togetherness.
At christmas light the candle of hope and great tiding and apple pie for al
| Elephant86 |
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"content": "<p class=\"\"><span>Hi All,</span></p><p class=\"\"><span>Sorry for the sulk!</span></p><p class=\"\"><span>Due to my close friendships with 2 close friends in the Quora group, I want to remain anonymous.</span></p><p class=\"\"><span>During our conversation, both of... | Conundrum of Staying | 19-09-2023 | Jimy | |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/afraid-of-never-getting-better/td-p/575885 | [
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"content": "<p>I'm still 2 weeks into my new medication. I still haven't seen a psychologist and I know I need to. But I'm so scared for some reason. </p><p> </p><p>I'm also afraid that no matter how much I go to therapy, or I take care of my mental and physical health or how mu... | Afraid of never getting better | 05-10-2023 | I'm still 2 weeks into my new medication. I still haven't seen a psychologist and I know I need to. But I'm so scared for some reason.
I'm also afraid that no matter how much I go to therapy, or I take care of my mental and physical health or how much coping mechanisms and healthy practices I adapt into my life, I'll always feel like there is smth wrong. Smth is off. I will always feel shitty.
Why am so afraid of trying? I feel so different from everyone around me. I can barely understand myself, I doubt anyone can understand me.
I made another post on here about all the things I still need to overcome, but I'm so scared of doing it alone, but also afraid of going to see a psychologist.
I only saw a psychiatrist once so far and will see them in the future as well. But I never know what to say, how to act, what to do. Why is it so hard? Shouldn't I feel relieved to talk about all this after keeping it all in? | Alel |
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/infertility-amp-depression/td-p/577350 | [
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"content": "<p>Hello, my name’s Elle and I guess I’m just looking for a little bit of extra support. I’m quite involved in my local church and lead a group of adults 25-35. My husband and I have been trying for a baby for 7 years. There’s been a lot of set backs in this process,... | Infertility & Depression | 26-10-2023 | Hello, my name’s Elle and I guess I’m just looking for a little bit of extra support. I’m quite involved in my local church and lead a group of adults 25-35. My husband and I have been trying for a baby for 7 years. There’s been a lot of set backs in this process, particularly during Covid.
During the past few years of this process I think I’ve been quite resilient. Smiling as people share their pregnancy news with me, going to baby showers being ok because my faith has been high and surely it will be my turn soon.
I guess this has really changed in the last 12 months. A lot of the group that we lead are our friends and in the last 12 months - more and more are becoming pregnant after not a lot of trying.
This last month though, has broken me completely. A very good friend opened up to me about how she had been trying for 6 months, and while her journey isn’t necessarily classified as infertility, it started to feeling like maybe she gets it even just a little bit. Anyway she bought up in conversation how a friend of hers broke the news to her that she was pregnant and how she didn’t take it too well and we started talking about how we’d both want to share the news. Anyway silly ignorant me, because a month later - guess who comes over to let me know she’s pregnant. This was 4 weeks ago, when she left I completely broke. She then said something which I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt of not actually realising what she said which was - “you guys plan to split to small group, if you guys take the married/young families group it’s going to be a bunch of guys cause all the ladies are mums so they’ll be in the mum’s group.”
I had already felt like I’m so completely behind in life, and this was such an insecurity of mine. It took everything in me not break.
Which again completely triggered and broke me. I am so happy for her but so so sad for me. On top of this I’ve been thinking of cutting back my hours at work and had someone in mind to take over my role. Fast forward to yesterday, and lo and behold, another pregnancy announcement.
I’m in counselling and she very much wants me to remove myself from situations but it’s also so hard, as I see all these people multiple times a week. I’m also overthinking is this teary state I’ve been in for the past four weeks is passing or something more serious.
Anyway if you read this thanks for getting this far and being a safe place to vent without judgement. I’m sure when I read back on this in a better headspace, I’ll probably sound like a jerk
| ellec |
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"content": "<p>Everyone on earth is on there different pathways in life and we all learn from our own experience and in life we all face different but great challengers in life.</p><p> </p><p>We have to try to figure out how do I heal how do I recover .</p><p> </p><p>What steps ... | On the beautiful and wonderful pathway of healing and compassion | 25-10-2023 | Everyone on earth is on there different pathways in life and we all learn from our own experience and in life we all face different but great challengers in life.
We have to try to figure out how do I heal how do I recover .
What steps do I need to take on my healing pathway?
There are different things that help each of us heal because no two people are exactly the same not even twins. So we have to work out what helps you to heal.
I could be a myriad of different things it could be like me listening to Mariah Carey to relax and stay calm.
You could choose to watch a comedian on TV and laugh. Laughter and joy are simply the best medicine.
It could be taking the dog for a walk or going for a run in the park.
It is totally up to you what you feel helps you to heal with the guidance of your family and your doctor bud patch adams.
You might love to cook a wonderful meal for the family. I love cooking and helping my mum to prepare meals for the family. With my mum I am learning to cook curries which is bringing love and joy to my home.
You could like to do a DIY project like build a table or a book case to help you recover.
All these activities are unique and different and all connect and help us in different ways. there are some people who love pop music but others who love ACADACA these are all different.
We must always love and respect peoples differences and never treat people differently because they are different.
Every one is wonderful powerful and unique in there own way.
For me I love meditation , cooking reading and cycling. This is what they call your cup of tea or what you like to do.
You must find things that bring you peace calm and bring your body and mind back to harmony.
You must not change who you are because you are beautiful you find out what activities work for you and find out what makes you happy. Sit down with your mum, partner and support and figure out the right activities for you .
You must never feel defeated by your disability because the most important word in the word in your ability to acheive the impossible. You look at the mountain and you don't say how high is it and Im scared
You say what steps do I take and who is there to support me up the mountain. You are never alone you have your mum, dad, family, doctor a whole myriad of people who want and wish to support and love you through the difficulties.
Despite the fact of me having 4 disabilities I choose to stay positive and looking towards what I can acheive and not what I can. I will tell you I will never have my divers licence because of my epilepsy but I choose to focus on what I can control.
The main thing is to find your passion find your skill and harness that ability and focus on what you can do and not what you can't.
Everyone has there own super power and own ability Mine is cooking and looking after others. Look deep into your heart and find your inner strength to stand up to your challengers and say.
I will stand agianst adversity and never let it defeat me I am powerful beyond measure
Light a candle and give your family a hug and tell them you love them.
Showing love to everyone is such a powerful superpower.
Everyone is a super hero with all there special powers to share.
| Elephant86 |
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