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mahuu4457 | [removed] | 2021-11-30T12:19:32.000Z | r5m2rh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | strattera 25mg | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5m2rh/strattera_25mg/ |
mister-kai | I'm erractic, forgetful and anxious person. Undiagnosed adhd. I not sure what would help me the most. If it is combination of things or one specific habit.
I used to meditate daily and/or exercise regularly. When i was, I was the most productive I've ever been.
I was wondering, does anyone have habits that makes your adhd more manageable? | 2021-11-30T12:16:03.000Z | r5m0ss | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Hey gals and guys, what are things that mitigate your adhd symptoms outside of medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5m0ss/hey_gals_and_guys_what_are_things_that_mitigate/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T12:15:48.000Z | r5m0o8 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Auditory processing and meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5m0o8/auditory_processing_and_meds/ |
Pesto_Power | For the past few years, I've been given the huge privilege of having benefits-funded support workers to help with my life. But I don't know how to use them effectively, partly because I feel very uncomfortable with a lot of the potential things I could use support's help with.
In fact right at this moment I'm putting off letting a support worker into my flat, because the other day we'd agreed that we'd tidy up today, but I feel so uncomfortable with letting him organise my flat (especially my bedroom, where I keep a lot of personal stuff) so I'm procrastinating hard right now, even though this slot started a couple hours ago (and now on top of that, I'm feeling terrible for squandering my benefits and for wasting his time).
That's not the only issue I have but it's an example of the kinda thing I'd wanna talk about on this (hopefully not theoretical) subreddit.
I'm wondering if there's a subreddit for people who receive support to vent about their worries and also to discuss how to use their support better. My parents are often full of suggestions of how to make use of my support but I'd rather hear ideas from people who actually receive support themselves.
Thanks.
TLDR - As the title says. Is there a subreddit to discuss how to use support workers more effectively and/or vent about anxiety related to receiving support? | 2021-11-30T12:10:10.000Z | r5lxhc | 1 | 7 | ADHD | Any subreddit for people who have been given support workers? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5lxhc/any_subreddit_for_people_who_have_been_given/ |
Far-Wrap2420 | You start off, feeling so low and confused about why you struggle with things that other people seem to find so easy. Years worth of struggles and confusion. Missed signs from teachers and family members.
You're now a adult, still struggling, only worse now because you're no longer a child. You need to be responsible and find a way to appropriately fit into this difficult world.
You're 30 and have the careless energy of a toddler, you frequently hurt yourself from being so clumsy. You struggle to take in information during meetings, instead fidgeting and fighting mental exhaustion. You have so much anxiety over keeping up with the world that you clench your jaw 24/7 causing deep headaches.
One day, it finally makes sense, ADHD, you're overwhelmed and need to get a diagnosis. Getting the referral isn't easy, doctors can side eye you. Finally you make it to your psychiatrist appointment.
You feel relieved, happy, excited. It all makes sense. You start taking medication and feel a sense of clear and normality that you've never felt before. Here comes the high, finally. Only to be dragged back down again when you tell anybody about your diagnosis.
Why is ADHD so stigmatised? Why do some people believe it doesn't exist. Why does society think ADHD is nothing like it really is. I hope one day ADHD is talked about more seriously, more education is needed.
We all deserve to be taken more seriously and we our children deserve more recognition so they can start treatment before wasting years of their youth with low self-esteem. | 2021-11-30T12:07:19.000Z | r5lvwm | 3 | 13 | ADHD | The highs and the lows | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5lvwm/the_highs_and_the_lows/ |
apolobgod | [removed] | 2021-11-30T12:06:10.000Z | r5lv8i | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone got a link that explains in lay men terms what are the effects of Ritalin in an ADHD brain, both short and long term? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5lv8i/anyone_got_a_link_that_explains_in_lay_men_terms/ |
serioustoken | I haven't started taking any OCD/Depression medication yet, just holding on to the prescription before I understand how would it work in my case.
Any of you who are diagnosed with ADHD but are taking OCD & Depression medication, how has your experience been?
Should I also get a second opinion on my condition with another Psychiatrist and see what they have to say?
And could you also tell me what OCD medication are you on?i.e if you have ADHD too. | 2021-11-30T12:05:34.000Z | r5luwm | 6 | 3 | ADHD | I cannot be give ADHD medication since I have a heart condition. I have OCD too and I have been given medication for that instead. What's the difference in the medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5luwm/i_cannot_be_give_adhd_medication_since_i_have_a/ |
natttsss | I have a hard time paying attention to conversation, and that means I don’t remember much. I got into this habits of believing everybody else when they said a conversation went a specific way, because I don’t really remember how the conversation went. So I believe them.
This could be so dangerous, I feel that I’m really easy to gaslight and manipulate because of that. There were times that what I remember was indeed how it happened and I was right, but I doubted myself and asked someone else if it went like that. I once fell for a guy who was very confident and possibly a little narcissistic, always saw things going on him way and I started to believe him and doubt myself. It was horrible.
Any advice on that? | 2021-11-30T12:02:00.000Z | r5lsrr | 4 | 5 | ADHD | Remembering conversations | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5lsrr/remembering_conversations/ |
DramaticAirline6222 | [removed] | 2021-11-30T12:01:30.000Z | r5lsfa | 4 | 0 | ADHD | Undiagnosed ADHD has ruined my life. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5lsfa/undiagnosed_adhd_has_ruined_my_life/ |
cgosnell5 | [removed] | 2021-11-30T11:51:11.000Z | r5lmco | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for something that may already exist….. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5lmco/looking_for_something_that_may_already_exist/ |
KingOfTheHoard | Hey all, long post but there's a tl;dr at the end.
I've been going through tritration for nearly two months now on Xaggitin XL, which appears to be identical to Concerta.
There have been ups and downs, I went through 18mg, 36mg with basically the same effect. Something happened on the first day of a dose and then it would settle to almost no benefit after that. 54mg is where the benefits started to happen. All the main improvements, concentration, attention, hyperactivity etc.
Probably the nicest thing was I started to notice things I'd never even thought of as symptoms got better. I found putting the groceries away properly to be just... easier. Not the motivation to do it, but just easier to actually do. Like the difference between playing Tetris for the first time, and having played it every day for a few weeks.
However, I was still having a really big problem with motivation (which I understand meds can't always help) and the tritration nurse thought I could stand to go up one more and get more benefits. So we went up to 72mg and I *hated* it. The heachaches and side effects like that weren't intolerable, but I started to get OCD like symptoms. I'd had a bit of this when I first went on to 54mg but it settled. At 72mg I was awful. I felt paranoid, I felt like once an idea got into my head I couldn't get it out again. I'd pace around thinking just talking myself through the idea I was having. I told the nurse and asked to go down to 54mg again.
About two weeks later, 54mg was a bit disappointing. It was definitely doing something, but I was still finding so much out of reach for me. Partly I was worried I'd not given 72mg time to settle like the other doses had. Partly I thought perhaps it was just because since Covid I've been working from home and I'm self employed so I didn't have enough in my life putting obligations on me to actually test the meds.
The nurse felt I wasn't getting the results she'd seen in other patients and it might be time to try another medication and it also seemed to be wearing off too soon, but since something was happening, I could try going back up to 72mg but instead of taking it all at once, splitting a large dose, with a follow up two hours later. I've been on this a few days now and it's a completely different experience to my last time on 72mg.
It lasts longer, no mystery why that's happening. No increase in side effects except for headaches and temperature issues I had every time my dose went up and I no longer feel like I'm trying to get everything done in a tiny window. It's a little too early to tell if it'll be right for me in the long term, but it's such a different experience to just downing 72mg in one go.
Is this really all just a result of hitting the right dose more slowly? Anyone do their meds like this? Any thoughts?
tl;dr
Worked up to 72mg once and hated it. Went back to 54mg and wasn't getting expected effects. Went back up to 72mg as a 54mg and an 18mg two hours later and it's a totally different experience. Any thoughts? | 2021-11-30T11:49:05.000Z | r5ll7o | 9 | 3 | ADHD | Tritration nurse upped me to 72mg Concerta (equivalent) but as a 54mg and an 18mg a bit later, and it's a massive improvement. What's the science here? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ll7o/tritration_nurse_upped_me_to_72mg_concerta/ |
Emzalina5 | It kicked in a 2am for me and I had to get up for work at 7am but I now have a very clean apartment although I am a walking zombie at work.
I managed to: put 3 loads of washing in, steam the floors, vacuum, change the litter boxes, change the bed, polish all the tables, surfaces etc, wipe down the entire kitchen and take out the trash.
Please be proud of me :) | 2021-11-30T11:42:57.000Z | r5lhyq | 69 | 649 | ADHD | When the CLEANING URGE kicks in | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5lhyq/when_the_cleaning_urge_kicks_in/ |
NormalBlogTM | [removed] | 2021-11-30T11:35:08.000Z | r5ldv3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | IVE BEEN DIAGNOSED FINALLY | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ldv3/ive_been_diagnosed_finally/ |
AlostFeather | Phone call with a doctor a couple weeks ago. Literally broke down. "Sorry, we can't even consider the depression talk because you're on Atomoxetine." I cave in and ring my specialist, she has a history of shrugging me off but she actually walked me through the depression checklist, I show up as depressed. "You don't need to keep taking Atomoxetine, let's take you off it". Pog as I hate these meds and I've been forced to take them for like 7 years. "We'll send all this off and get the GP to prescribe you Sertraline". Found out the doctor could have given me antidepressants whilst on Atomoxetine but they just don't wanna try because ooh scary ADHD. Dexamfetamine getting prescribed once "mental health has stabilised". Light at the end of the tunnel.
I want to live. For the first time in months, I can't wait for tomorrow. | 2021-11-30T11:34:57.000Z | r5ldrx | 70 | 679 | ADHD | Finally got a doctor to take my depression seriously! And they finally agreed to change my ADHD meds. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ldrx/finally_got_a_doctor_to_take_my_depression/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T11:34:09.000Z | r5ldcg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I cannot be given medication for ADHD since I have heart condition. I have OCD too and I have been given medication for that instead. What's the difference in the medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ldcg/i_cannot_be_given_medication_for_adhd_since_i/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T11:29:51.000Z | r5law5 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How to deal with a nervous breakdown? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5law5/how_to_deal_with_a_nervous_breakdown/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T11:28:45.000Z | r5lab3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | freshly diagnosed here; How the fuck do i manage school properly | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5lab3/freshly_diagnosed_here_how_the_fuck_do_i_manage/ |
AllAroundAccount | (TL;DR: Did medication give you your motivation back/give you motivation to do things?)
Hi.
Long time lurker here.
Long story short, and as not to add alot of fluff in the post, I'm wondering if medication helped you find pleasure in doing certain things you may have felt as being tedious even though it may have been a hobby once and once were entertaining on it's own.
I'm asking because I havent been medicated since I was like 5-6 years old and I was put on ALOT of different stuff and just recently got in contact with some doctor people at some doctor place and in case they decide medication is the way to go I guess I'm just curious (Depending on the medication ofcourse) if it might help me with motivation, especially in doing things I used to enjoy with or without medication.
I've noticed over the years how things are less and less stimulating/entertaining, even things I used to love (I know it's key sign for depression too but I'm somewhat certain it's also a ADHD trait that goes hand in hand, and I feel generally fine) and I'm wondering if medication was a miracle for some, if someone find joy in their hobbies/interests again after being put on a certain medication.
I guess I'm trying to make myself look forward to the chance of maybe finding back to my creative self I used to be and seeing as it's just been going downhill without medication I don't see how it can hurt to atleast try.
Thanks for reading :) | 2021-11-30T11:27:42.000Z | r5l9qq | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Question about medication and motivation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5l9qq/question_about_medication_and_motivation/ |
twofruitynames | Hello! I am currently a 3rd year student in a branch civil engineering having to do with all the systems that go into a building (electrical, plumbing,heating etc) . But I do not enjoy this field of study and I wouldn't enjoy working as an engineer after graduation. I formerly dropped out of an industrial design engineering bachelor's after first year because I felt the field was way too creative for me and couldn't really handle it. I am struggling to find a passion that can develop into something I'd be able to do for work. I have the wonderful chance of applying to a uni program in another country and start my life over. I just neeed to manage to find a career that I want to pursue. Or at least something that I won't hate..
So how did you choose your study program?
Or what job do you have right now and are content on it?
(A bit about me: I enjoy languages and did good in math and algebra, open to learning anything pc related , love organizing and planning things,when meeting with people I either get very anxious or am very extroverted and bubbly , never know which one I'm getting tho) | 2021-11-30T11:26:03.000Z | r5l8w4 | 9 | 2 | ADHD | How to choose a study that you actually like? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5l8w4/how_to_choose_a_study_that_you_actually_like/ |
the_oracle_of_wifi | I think it's because unlike IRL conversation I can't just show up and get it over and done with. I have to do this back and forth for days/weeks and there's no immediate reward for being responsible--just the anxiety and stress that comes with composing emails. idk is it just me????
Does anyone have tips for getting their sh!t together?
Most days I don't even have the energy to open the laptop. (sigh) | 2021-11-30T11:23:36.000Z | r5l7jm | 3 | 12 | ADHD | It's so hard to manage emails??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5l7jm/its_so_hard_to_manage_emails/ |
FeministLovely | So I'm talking to a therapist, referred by my trauma therapist, for ADHD. And my question is quite simple: what are the types of therapies this institute provides in individual therapy for ADHD adults? And the therapist goes: It really depends on every client, you come over and we ask a lot of questions, and depending on that, we tell you where to go from there. I go: I understand, but specifically, what type of psychoeducation are you providing for these clients? And she goes: It wasn't discussed with (your trauma therapist), she said you'd mostly have a couple of questions and that's it. And we went back and forth for 10-15' like this, and I swear to y'all it took every fiber of my being not to scream at her over the phone. First it was my rejection sensitivity coming out (does she not want to work with me?; does she not think a brown foreigner will understand her fucking terms?); then it was a quick wash of disappointment (how is she even fucking allowed to do this if she knows nothing?); then it was the distraction (could she be nervous? I wonder what she's thinking); and many other things. In the end, the only example she could possibly provide was Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, but I mean, she's her own worst PR person. She's done this for a while and handles ADHD groups with her knowledge, but honestly, I think I experienced all the feelings known by humans minus extreme sadness and extreme happiness during that 50' phone therapy session.
How can an ADHD therapist keep repeating herself even if she does not understand my question? Which, I mean, an adolescent could. Is it poorly covering her ass or is it just a distracted morning? Does she not know we're prone to impatience and frustration? It's moments like these, where I feel like even if I'm not hurting other people with my anger, I feel it, and it takes away any potential joy of interacting with others, even if said others are meant to help us. It can be so tiring not to be understood, or to (purposefully) be misunderstood by others. It deepens the divide. | 2021-11-30T11:19:12.000Z | r5l55h | 4 | 3 | ADHD | The rage is REAL (and hard to tamper off) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5l55h/the_rage_is_real_and_hard_to_tamper_off/ |
AntsInMyIcedCoffee | [removed] | 2021-11-30T11:19:12.000Z | r5l55b | 2 | 15 | ADHD | Was diagnosed years ago, took my first pill for it today… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5l55b/was_diagnosed_years_ago_took_my_first_pill_for_it/ |
Independent_Finger52 | I start my day by trying to eat some sort of breakfast, then take 36mg foquest, 50 mg zinc, 50 IU vitamin D3, and about 1000 mg of omega 3’s. 20 yr F, 5’2, 112LLB.
I’m curious what everyone has ‘perfected’ their morning routine to look like to have the most productivity.
Thinking of adding CBD, perhaps vitamin C, but unsure of that as I know acids will breakdown stimulants faster.
What meds/supplements/vitamins you use, if you take those multiple times a day, start w a workout, end your day w a workout, whatever you have found to make your daily routine the best it can be with adhd!
I have combo, primarily inattentive adhd :) | 2021-11-30T11:15:32.000Z | r5l36v | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Your ADHD daily routine for best results? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5l36v/your_adhd_daily_routine_for_best_results/ |
AstemioDaBirra | Hello all, I'm a 31M from Italy and I'm being evaluated for ADHD (I don't have a definitive diagnosis yet, but my psychiatrist said, and I quote "99% you have ADHD, you are a textbook example of it", and she's currently also evaluating which kind of medication I should use.
I've been reading stories of people that took medication and were able to turn their lives around. When I was a kid, I hated maths with all my heart, but in the past 5-6 years, I've been reading about maths stuff that would want to explore (mainly in the field of IT and programming). The problem is that I just cannot keep my concentration on it.
My question is: when you got your medication and were finally able to concentrate properly, were you able to discover or re-discover stuff that was previously impossible for you to do, and actually found it quite enjoyable? | 2021-11-30T11:12:12.000Z | r5l1f8 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Did medication make you love something that you previously hated? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5l1f8/did_medication_make_you_love_something_that_you/ |
popcorntalia | Hi i have a question. I went to see a psychologist today to get a diagnosis(i went to a psychiatrist before and he said i do have adhd but it wasn't like a real diagnosis? idk) and im very upset rn because the psychologist didnt listen to me at all. she wanted to hear from my mom first(im 20 tho) and after listening her she was pretty sure i had ocd but i've never showed symptoms of it at all. she kept asking questions about ocd and only believed when my test results came negative. at one point i said the behaviours she thinks ocd-related may be about sensory processing disorder and she said she didnt know what it was???
she said i have major depression, which makes sense but she also said everything i think adhd-related is actually is about depression and i made up my adhd and believed it too much. also said since my notes were good all my life it is impossible for me to have adhd. it makes no sense to me. should i keep seeing her?
i also insisted on having an adhd test and the results were pretty high but she said it wasnt important. | 2021-11-30T11:09:32.000Z | r5l00p | 7 | 2 | ADHD | should i keep seing my psychologist? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5l00p/should_i_keep_seing_my_psychologist/ |
observendespise | I'm irrationally nervous. I don't know what to expect and it scares me... I'm 99% sure I'm an ADHDer due to all my symptoms, not to mention speed used to calm me down. I'm unable to function due to the disabilities that come with my traits and I've been desperate for an explanation, reassurance and help for the longest time. I wanna study. I wanna be able to work later on. I want a clean apartment. I want to be able to follow through with projects. I wanna be able to maintain relationships. I want a functioning brain. I've fought so hard in a fruitless battle to get there for years and being told it's probably ADHD has been such a huge relief. My shame levels have dropped. My hopelessness has decreased. But now that it's happening I want to chicken out. I don't know why it's so scary but I need support... | 2021-11-30T11:00:41.000Z | r5kvb0 | 2 | 6 | ADHD | Assessment starting tomorrow | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5kvb0/assessment_starting_tomorrow/ |
Far_Greenthrowway | I recently began concerta and I never had expectations as to what to expect so I don’t know if it’s fulfilled or not to be honest. I was prescribed 18mg to start of course but my doctor says I’ll probably need more due to meds never really affecting me in the past. First 3 days I felt not too much. Slight loss of appetite and maybe a little better at concentrating and less rapid thinking. I tried 36 today and I ended up going for a mile hike and spent 8 hours cleaning but nothing else lol. I was hoping to be able to get motivated to do school, interests and such but once I started cleaning I was locked and ended up way over deep cleaning. I guess my question is what all does concerta do for you? It’s a stimulant but nothing feels stimulated. | 2021-11-30T10:59:51.000Z | r5kumt | 11 | 4 | ADHD | What does concerta feel like for you guys? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5kumt/what_does_concerta_feel_like_for_you_guys/ |
Existing-Debate-403 | I don’t know if this is related to my ADHD or not but I have a serious issue with constantly being overly aware of literally everything. I know that it probably seems backwards for someone with ADHD, as you typically associate ADHD with zoning out and forgetfulness, but let me explain.
I can’t think of a single time in my life where I felt truly present. It’s almost as if I experience everything as a second-hand observer. It’s incredibly difficult to explain but I just feel like I am an observer of my own self. Because of this, I feel extremely aware of everything all the time. When I zone out, I am sort of aware that I’m zoning out. But it’s not like I’m aware of it because I’m choosing to zone out/continue zoning out. I’m aware of it because I feel like I am observing myself zone out. It is terrifying because it makes me feel like I’m not in control of my own self, like my concious self exists independently from my actual brain. The zoning out thing is just one example; it applies to basically everything. Like for example in conversations my lack of impulse control and distractability typically results in me cutting people off, blurting stuff out, hogging the conversation, oversharing, and just rambling on jumping from topic to topic. I hate that I do these things and always feel bad about it and I’m sure people get annoyed of it. Even worse is that usually I’m completely aware that I am doing these things, but am still entirely helpless to stop. I end up just observing myself do these things and fixating/overthinking internally continuously as it happens.
I’ve been really struggling with this lately because it makes me feel like since I’m aware of all my symptoms that I am doing them on purpose. I know I’m supposed to accept that my ADHD is out of my control, but it’s so hard when I feel like I should be able to stop myself once I am aware of things. | 2021-11-30T10:54:11.000Z | r5krq9 | 63 | 262 | ADHD | Hyper awareness is making me go crazy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5krq9/hyper_awareness_is_making_me_go_crazy/ |
kitohdzz | I've been recently diagnosed (for three months now I guess) and I'm finding it hard to cope with many things, mainly the excessive overthinking and the anxiety that comes with it. I also have aspergers.
Before this I didn't know why I was like this, and never really knew how to deal with all of it. I've found some things that help ( along with my meds and therapy and stuff) but I was wondering if you have any suggestions.
Some of the things I've found:
Guided meditations by Michael sealy.
Nature sounds simulators. (Sleep better tonight)
Baby sensory videos on YouTube.
Thanks for your help! | 2021-11-30T10:45:25.000Z | r5knh9 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What are some of your favorite ADHD relief apps or videos, meditations, etc. That aren't necessarily targeted towards ADHD but that have worked for you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5knh9/what_are_some_of_your_favorite_adhd_relief_apps/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T10:43:05.000Z | r5kmcp | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Is it my girlfriend's ADHD or is it just bad behaviour? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5kmcp/is_it_my_girlfriends_adhd_or_is_it_just_bad/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T10:30:12.000Z | r5kfp6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it always so hard to get medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5kfp6/is_it_always_so_hard_to_get_medication/ |
sylph_breeze | Sorry for formatting, I’m on mobile.
I don’t often get crushes or like people enough to get into relationships. However, recently I made it official with someone that I really like and I’m really happy at the moment because of it. The issue is, I feel like I’m hyperfocusing on the person and the relationship, to the point of abandoning everything else.
I’m a university student, and finals are rapidly approaching. I have a lot to do for school and my job, but instead I’m spending my not-so-free time with them, or daydreaming about them, or messaging them, etc.
The hyperfocus makes it feel like nothing else really matters right now. Since I’m getting my dopamine fix from them, my motivation for everything else is at an all time low.
I guess I’m just wondering if anybody has any tips for pulling myself out of the relationship hyperfocus (without pulling myself out of the relationship ofc lol) so that applying myself to school and work is a bit easier again. | 2021-11-30T10:12:53.000Z | r5k6mj | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Hyperfocusing on my new relationship | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5k6mj/hyperfocusing_on_my_new_relationship/ |
somecasper | I don't always make good decisions, but when I do, I absolutely nail it--though usually with my teeth and the seat of my pants skinned bare.
Case in point: Nine years ago this morning, I was scrambling to finish work so I could rush down to the courthouse. That last part might make me look kind of bad, but let me rewind. A few days earlier, in an entirely non-romantic context, the topic of marriage came up. Guys let me tell you, I know how to woo. So of course, I said "well we should do it. And not like an engagement. Let's do it right away"
(I regret to inform you that insurance coverage may or may not have been a precursor to this, but then again, my heart is often heading in the wrong direction to get to the right place)
"Right away" turned into "this Friday," which brings us back to me--late as always--now rushing to pick up wedding rings on the way to the ceremony.
We have been through impossible pain, incredible adventures, and a long slow boil of a two-person family that I can unequivocally say (with apologies to my blood relatives) has made me safer, saner, and better than I could have ever predicted.
My wife got me the day I clumsily imposed marriage on her, she got me on the day I kept her waiting at the courthouse for our lunch break nuptials, and she--mercifully--still gets me today.
I hope if you haven't found your battle buddy, that you do soon. And if you have, take a minute right now to appreciate them.
Because I don't think I would have made it this far without mine, and even saying that feels like a lie to my younger self who believed in solitude or death; and if ADHD hadn't blurted and barrelled me to the finish line, he might have gotten his wish. | 2021-11-30T10:11:17.000Z | r5k5to | 4 | 13 | ADHD | An ADHD love story with a happy ending | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5k5to/an_adhd_love_story_with_a_happy_ending/ |
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BobHawkesBalls | So my wife was diagnosed with ADHD, and on learning more about the condition, she convinced me to get diagnosed too. Long story short, I scored a -8.87 on the tova test, aka “u ADHD AF, fam” was essentially the diagnosis.
Thing is, prior to this, she let me try her dex, and…. It was like heaven. My mood, my capabilities at work, my creativity, my patience with my sons… everything improved.
I started writing music again, I killed it on work projects I’d been putting off, heck even my 5yo started sleeping in his own bed during this period, and it felt like I had finally found the equilibrium I need.
My wife though, says I was getting manic, and started feeling guilty for letting me take her dex. My psychiatrist has prescribed me Ritalin, which doesn’t seem to help me, and so far is making me crash hard in the evenings, like depressed hard.
I’ve spoken with my wife about it, and have considered asking my psych to change to dex, however I’m worried that what I’m experiencing may just be withdrawals from the dex, and my body is getting used to Ritalin.
I’m dunno, I guess I’m feeling a few different emotions.
Sad at losing that feeling…
Shame for potentially getting hooked on something I shouldn’t have had…
Indignant at the whole process of getting the the meds in the first place…
Invalidated in my emotions…
Anyone dealt with this before?
I read a post the other day where a guy commented at how a lot of the complaints wives have about their husbands just sound like symptoms of depression in men, and I can’t stop feeling like I’m being ignored and treated like some junkie by my own partner, when I’m reality, she probably just feels guilty for giving me her meds, and concerned for my long term wellbeing.
Sorry for the rant. | 2021-11-30T09:58:39.000Z | r5jyx4 | 11 | 2 | ADHD | Weird situation re meds, looking for advice… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jyx4/weird_situation_re_meds_looking_for_advice/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T09:54:58.000Z | r5jwyu | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How to get through the time it takes until you have results. I'm already struggling and I haven't even had my first appointment yet. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jwyu/how_to_get_through_the_time_it_takes_until_you/ |
Independent_Finger52 | Hello,
20yr F, diagnosed at 20 w severe adhd, combo type, mostly inattentive though.
I work as a paramedic, and started on concerta, went from 18 mg to 36, and still felt it wasn’t effective enough or lasting long enough for my shifts (pretty sure I have an increased metabolism speed)
Moved to 32mg of Foquest (concerta but supposed to last 16 hrs). The dose feels less effective, but seems to last longer and feels relatively the same as concerta.
I’ve been taking vitamin D, zinc, omega-3 and foquest every morning, and I still feel it is not effective enough. My dr does not want to increase my dose due to size (5’2, 112 pounds).
I am a student, and have found meds helped me in school and at work, but I feel like it could still be better since noticing the increase of executive function/concentration after medication.
I also attend therapy for more help and tips from her.
Any other tips for helping with my adhd? Or what to say to get my dr to try one more dose increase?
Willing for more supplements, trying your daily routine, whatever weird trick you have.
TLTRD: 32mg foquest not effective enough, dr won’t increase. Therapy, meds & vitamins aren’t doing enough. How can I get an increase in meds or other things to help? I want to improve motivation, concentration and executive function. | 2021-11-30T09:54:33.000Z | r5jws3 | 19 | 5 | ADHD | ADHD Med Doses- extra supplements/help? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jws3/adhd_med_doses_extra_supplementshelp/ |
ButtisLove | [removed] | 2021-11-30T09:46:43.000Z | r5jsvh | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Up to 50mg Vyvanse for about 2 weeks. Feels like nothing is happening. | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jsvh/up_to_50mg_vyvanse_for_about_2_weeks_feels_like/ |
reusablerantingacc | I (just turned 17) got diagnosed with ADHD 2 weeks ago and Bipolar Disorder 2 & Insomnia last year. It's overwhelming and very shocking to me since I was fine before the pandemic with a little bit of self loathing because I was always described as someone with attitude problems which ended up being ADHD.
It's been two years and I still can't function properly specially now that we have online classes. I procrastinate and end up hating myself. Knowing that I have mental illness have taken a toll on me and I just want to take a break from school before I enter college to really take the time to accept and learn how to live with ADHD and BD2. Do you think I should take a gap year? I remember them saying that I can take a break from school if I have to but I'm not sure since I have shitty memory.
Anyway, my anger issues are worsening because of the accumulated stress and I wanna die. A while ago I asked my sister (11) to put our pups (1½month) back in their cages because I was done taking photos of them to post when we sell them and she was ignoring me. The puppies were already crying since they were in an unfamiliar environment and our room (mine & my sis) already smelled of piss and dogs. I asked her nicely thrice with probably about 2 minutes gap in between but she was watching TikTok on her phone ignoring me. I was losing patience since the puppies were uncontrollable and biting everything. I kept repeating and repeating it since I had to clean our room. I shouted at her and counted until three. She didn't budge and kept ignoring me. She was even ignoring my mother. I couldn't do anything because she said that I was like that too. (My father also says that and I hate it.) I feel like they're enabling her and not to play the mentally disabled olympics here but I have ADHD so procrastination is unavoidable for me back when I was younger. Now that I'm older I do whatever they ask of me immediately if I can but I am even more hard headed when I tell them that I don't want to do something that they ask me to do.
I ended up bringing the pups down myself because I was about to burst and when I went back to our room, I asked her to wash the mop because our pups pissed on it. (For some reason they piss on every rug that they see so I think they're considered potty trained? We don't use the mop to clean piss since we have a rug for that) She kept ignoring me and proceeded to scribble on her notebook. At this point I snapped because I felt very disrespected and I was mad since we both share the room so why doesn't she help? I ended up hitting her at the back of her head and threw her notebook & pen. Some of the pages tore. She does this to everyone in the house. It's really annoying when she deliberately chooses to ignores us. My father even shouts at her too but she keeps doing it every. single. fucking. day.
I know I was wrong. I'm the older one and I should have controlled myself. I shouldn't have hit her. I should've just shut up since I ended up doing it myself anyway. Shouting and hurting her will only give her trauma and make her hate me. I hate myself for snapping and hurting my sister but at the same time I also hate that my parents are enabling our youngest just because she's just a child and that I was like that too. She doesn't have mental illness like I do; she's just a prepubescent teen with raging hormones. I feel angry and I don't know if my feelings are valid. Do I have the right to feel angry? Do I have the right to think that my parents are enabling our youngest even though they say I was like that too? If that's what they think then should I tell my parents to get my younger sister checked for ADHD too? But then, my mother, even though I got diagnosed with ADHD, still say that I'm just lazy & undisciplined and still tells me to just suck it up and do whatever I have to do.
I don't know anymore. I'm so confused. I really am. Please tell me what to do. Also, how much does the doctor tell our parents every session? My parents don't tell me what the doctor tells them after every check up so I'm scared. I want to get well but at the same time I don't want them to know everything. Therapists are different from psychologists right? Do I have to tell my psychiatrist about my anger issues or just go to a therapist to deal with my ADHD and ai??
I will apologize to her later when I simmer down. I'm in a state of self loathing. I will accept any form of criticism. I know that I am not a good older sister to her and I feel really sad.
TL;DR:
• Should I take a gap year to really understand and accept my ADHD and BD2?
• Should I tell my parents to have my sister checked for ADHD too because they say that I was also like her when I was younger? (She doesn't listen and deliberately ignores us when we call her which angers us.)
• Is it right for me to think it's unfair that my parents are enabling our youngest? Am I allowed to think that way?
• How much do doctors tell our parents after every session?
• Therapists are different from psychologists right? Do I have to tell my psychiatrist about my anger issues or just go to a therapist to deal with my ADHD and ai?? | 2021-11-30T09:46:00.000Z | r5jsj2 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Should I (17f) tell my parents to get my (11f) sister tested for ADHD too if they say that I was also like her when I was younger? Also need advice for acads and therapy | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jsj2/should_i_17f_tell_my_parents_to_get_my_11f_sister/ |
Shinkoko | i never really talk about my adhd so this is my first post, but I've just noticed i tend to ramble a little too much in conversations. usually It's fine, I've learnt when to stop if I feel like i'm losing people and in general people have a laugh, it's ok. But at times, I feel like I accidentally make it all about me or in other times which are more professional or with aquaintances, I tend to overshare and hog the conversation. And I feel terrible about it after. So i was wondering if there was something could do about it. About meds, i refused treatment rn, they may or may not be causing my hair to fall and since I'm still 18, and i get by in school so I don't wanna be on them yet.
*also, pls excuse any gramatical errors, not my first langauge and I wasn't the best in english subject* | 2021-11-30T09:45:18.000Z | r5js79 | 6 | 8 | ADHD | Are there any ways you guys use to stop rambling and stick to a point, in meetings or general day to day small talk? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5js79/are_there_any_ways_you_guys_use_to_stop_rambling/ |
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DDT126 | [removed] | 2021-11-30T09:26:37.000Z | r5jirr | 0 | 1 | ADHD | The cleaning hack works | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jirr/the_cleaning_hack_works/ |
halloooo00 | Not diagnosed, hoping someone would relate. Been trying to figure out what is wrong with me.
I can’t do anything. I literally don’t even do my own laundry. I forget about laundry until I realize, and even then I don’t even do my own. Room is a mess. Constantly want food. I don’t read. I’m terrified of going back to school. Can’t lose weight. Losing motivation to go back to being a gym rat.
It’s like I wanna fix my life and I can’t. I’ve made a huge list of things, one of them being laundry. I’ll write it down on my to do list, I’ll either do it once or twice then forget about it or I just get the same things I usually get done which are things like “gym” “drink water” “get to work” “pray” “call customer service” “shower”
Even those things I sometimes don’t end up doing. It’s so embarrassing, I can’t even do laundry. I’m a 21 year old girl. I do have good hygiene otherwise, I shower, brush, look good on the outside, but no one would guess that I don’t even do my own fucking laundry.
I’m
Tired of this and I know I can’t fix it because I have tried and I can’t fix anything. Over and over. Been trying to lose weight for ages, I developed a compulsive overeating problem. Can’t get good grades. I need help. Idk if my health insurance is even good enough.
I’m so lost. I was bawling my eyes out today. I’m so stressed. Overwhelmed over basic life things. I don’t know what to do, I have tried everything. Constantly trying and trying and failing and daily for four years is going to make me insane and depressed. I am going crazy I look normal on the outside but I am going insane trying to fix my stupid life | 2021-11-30T09:24:08.000Z | r5jhko | 30 | 75 | ADHD | I cannot get anything done. I’m going crazy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jhko/i_cannot_get_anything_done_im_going_crazy/ |
1Om6evsN7g | [removed] | 2021-11-30T09:18:52.000Z | r5jf1b | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta dosing: alternating between 18 and 36 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jf1b/concerta_dosing_alternating_between_18_and_36/ |
TransArhaz | I've been reading about adhd and autism for a while now only to realize how so many traits I have (most of which are masked in public, some with no effort as they have been adopted owing to a disciplinarian upbringing, while others are painfully hard to maintain so much so that I would rather isolate myself for an avg of 20hours a day to manage a day) are symptoms of these. It was so stark that even my denial and self gaslighting didn't succeed- there is only so much you can ignore.
Eventually, I thought I should pursue a professional diagnosis ( which was mostly triggered by a bad episode wherein I was quite done with myself), only to be told, after spending so much time, money and emotional & psychological labour, that my symptoms (including the cognitive ones) were "all symptoms of anxiety spectrum", ocpd (which relentlessly makes people sound like crazy, fussy, difficult, disordered people online) and emotionally unstanl personality disorder (which I could find nothing of online and only redirected me to bpd). That's all. I wasn't given any reading material or any guidance from there.
This was about a month ago and there hasn't been a day when I haven't thought about how every doc or assessor I have been to in the past 7 years ended up making me feel worse about myself, than better.
This particular assessor had this to say when I was trying to understand why she ignored a lot of the other adhd symptoms - "maybe years later and after a lot of therapy, the adhd may show".
Like wtf is that? I don't need years of trauma to spend on docs who dismiss the list of 40-50 odd traits I have myself taken the pains down to list out for them nor do I have the money to afford the crazy fees.
I feel incredibly angry and confused and lost and I don't know what to think. I've just given up on pursuing a professional diagnosis, also because, in the end, it's not like I have anyone around who won't stigmatize me with it.
Edit - I guess what I want to know is - Is it possible to have so many of the traits and be diagnosed with multiple personalities fit and still not be ADD/Autistic? | 2021-11-30T09:18:04.000Z | r5jemc | 4 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD/Autism or...? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jemc/adhdautism_or/ |
nnaoam | There's a workaround in WhatsApp that allows you to make one or multiple chats to yourself only, each with their own name.
All you need to do is
- warn someone in advance that you're going to add then remove them from a group
- create a group with just you and them
- immediately delete them
You stay in the group on your own, and you can still change the group name etc. Mine is called "Me" and it's one of my most frequent chats, I use it to quickly send myself images I need to open in other devices (whatsapp web is your friend) or documents/files I need to have at hand in the near future but don't necessarily need to keep (like return authorisation QR codes I need to have scanned at the post office with a return etc).
Your messages don't appear twice (unlike other platforms that allow you to message yourself where they do) so you don't need to worry about having two copies of each file etc. | 2021-11-30T09:10:04.000Z | r5jap2 | 83 | 344 | ADHD | Protip: you can make (multiple) WhatsApp chats to yourself if you want to "just have something available" | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5jap2/protip_you_can_make_multiple_whatsapp_chats_to/ |
Both-Language-7347 | [removed] | 2021-11-30T09:08:25.000Z | r5j9wd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I need help reading | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5j9wd/i_need_help_reading/ |
RedPanda_13_ | Age 24, female.
I just need some place to share my story, and all the things that are currently happening in my life as I am coming to terms with this new diagnosis. I've tried talking to my family and friends, and while they try their best they're not able to truly understand why this is so hard on me some days.
This post will probably end up being mostly a brain-dump as I don't think I'll be able to properly structure it, but if you take the time to read it, it will be very appreciated.
*(After finishing writing the post I realize you can probably just skip to the "The Now" part for a type of TL;DR)*
**The backstory**
I've been struggling for most of my life without really understanding what was bothering me. Most of the time I was told I was just being lazy or difficult, and while i did try to fight these statements most of the time, I ended up believing it.
I got bullied for a lot of reasons, and the trauma of it left me with an extremely bad social anxiety. I would have daily panic attacks at school, where I would take 5 minutes to go to the bathroom, have my breakdown, cry my eyes out while being careful not to make noise so I wouldn't be found. Eventually I'd clean myself up, make sure my eyes weren't puffy, and walk back out like nothing happened.
I can't really remember how, but about 3-4 years ago I finally managed to convince myself that daily panic attacks at school was not normal. I was struggling. I needed help.
That was probably the hardest thing to admit to myself. I needed help.
After years of depression, anxiety and feeling like an alien I could take up the space to say this isn't how it is supposed to be.
Now I realize that I am very lucky to have such a good communication with my doctor. I got to my appointed and told her I believed I had social anxiety, and explained what was happening to me. She never had any doubt that I needed quick help so I could get trough school and get an apprenticeship in my new interest. Programming, if anyone would like to know.
My doctor sent out the referral for a therapist immediately and prescribed me some anti anxiety medication. It took about 4 months before I got into therapy for treating social anxiety, and after about a year I agreed with my therapist that I had good enough control of my anxiety that I could stop going to appointments.
And for a while it did work. But things were still off and I had no idea why.
In comes tiktok... Yes, yes I know. Roll your eyes and groan or do a little happy dance about the things going on there, that isn't the point. I saw a few videos that popped up about ADHD in females and it's symptoms and a few things started to click. I was one of those who were misinformed about ADHD and thought is was the hyperactive small boys who couldn't sit still, even if my sister had been diagnosed with ADD. But the things they were talking about in the videos hit way too close to home, so I started doing my research.
How does ADHD present in girls at a young age, what are the different symptoms and how does one actually experience them, and so on and so forth. I think I spent about 2 months just researching and looking for anything to go against the theory but I could not find a single thing I didn't have multiple examples of.
So back to my doctor I went. I got my referral to a psychiatrist who specialized in adult ADHD diagnosis and after 6 months I finally got my appointment.
I don't think i have to tell you guys about the nerves I had beforehand, it was bad, most of you late diagnosed already know it.
But as I got into the office and started talking, the guy had no doubts. I had done my research, gave examples of what I had done in childhood that could be written of as symptoms and how it affected my daily life at work now. He didn't even need to have my parents come in for a talk, he'd gotten everything he needed and I left there with a prescription for 10mg of ritalin (slow release of the dosage type) and a time for my next appointment.
**The now**
Now there's been about half a year since I first got my meds, and while the first few weeks were amazing as I discovered how much easier it was to just.... exist... while medicated it's definitely not as easy anymore as I am learning how I am different from the rest and how hard it is to fight for my place to not give 400% all day every day.
I've gotten a lot more control over my emotions! I used to get angry and snap at people for the smallest things without really knowing why myself. Now I can realize that I am overstimulated and take the breaks from people and unwanted distractions when I need them.
And probably the thing I am most happy about is that I can finally just *work.* Yes getting started on things I don't have a burning interest for is still hard, but usually I can work around it where I start on an interesting thing and work on the not so interesting thing on the side. Makes it just kinda happen without me realizing.
So now that I've made sure to make it clear that things are better, I need to just put it out there that I am still in a type of grief over not getting the support I so deeply needed.
I wasn't being difficult and lazy when I was saying "I wan't to do it, but I just can't!" Because I really couldn't.
I wasn't crazy when I said "I don't know why, but I just don't *see* how messy my room is!" when my parents kept nagging me about how my room was absolutely bombed.
I wasn't lying when I was in class and was doodling or playing games on my phone or school pc and said it was the only way I could actually pay attention.
And even with all these confirmations and my diagnosis to back me up I still have to face the fact that the people around me will still look at me in this way every single day.
It still sucks, but I am slowly getting trough it. | 2021-11-30T09:03:58.000Z | r5j7m6 | 11 | 4 | ADHD | Recently diagnosed at 24, just looking to share. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5j7m6/recently_diagnosed_at_24_just_looking_to_share/ |
kultaid | So I know there is a rare side effect of methylphenidate called priapism where you get a boner for long periods of time but is there a side effect where it shrinks and gets hard almost like constricting I don't feel it when it happens I just notice it has this happened to anyone else and should I be worried I have a doctor's appointment coming up I just wanted to see if anyone else had the same problem on concerta because I also started a new antidepressant and want to narrow it down any info helps | 2021-11-30T09:03:53.000Z | r5j7kk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Question about side effects of concerta for Men 18+ | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5j7kk/question_about_side_effects_of_concerta_for_men_18/ |
Scorncob | I’ve been noticing that the more stressed I am, the more my procrastinating and other ADHD problems get worse. I’m really bad at managing my stress levels though. What works for yall?
For context, I’m a 21 y/o college student. So I’m mainly stressed about school work. But honestly, any responsibilities stress me out. I’ve seen how when I start a new semester I do really well at starting and finishing my work early and quickly. But as the semester goes on I get super lazy and do all my work last minute instead. Managing stress has always been hard for me, so I know how to recognize it, but just not how manage it well. Any advice or tips are super appreciated!
Thanks in advance! | 2021-11-30T09:01:27.000Z | r5j6ap | 8 | 4 | ADHD | What helps you manage stress? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5j6ap/what_helps_you_manage_stress/ |
Soggy_Present_4217 | HELLO!, first time poster,,,I am 18 and unemployed and haven't got ANY experience I need a job but everything is just so PLEH! so many steps and things have sub steps and sub steps have sub steps. for example, writing a CV: I need to overcome procrastination to open my laptop, then, I write but what do I write? and where? and a reference?! How do people just know how to write a fricken CV. anyways I have completed step number 1 and now I am stuck. #REJECTIONSENSITIVITYSUCKS. I am now overcoming the dilemma of do I mention my ADHD - what if they are ill informed it could all go to shit OR they understand it and can help me. Its kinda a gamble I dont want to risk... ESPECIALLY in New Zealand where ADHD is referred to as ADD and is caused by bad parenting. \* sarcasm \*. ANYWAYS any tips on overcoming rejection sensitivity when handing in a resume which sidenote - I don't have ANY experience! so it is rather bare lmao anyways aany tips would be fantastic. Have a great night :))) | 2021-11-30T08:47:19.000Z | r5iz0u | 3 | 2 | ADHD | why is getting a job so hard with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5iz0u/why_is_getting_a_job_so_hard_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T08:46:49.000Z | r5iysl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can adhd be treated with pure amphetamine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5iysl/can_adhd_be_treated_with_pure_amphetamine/ |
Scorncob | [removed] | 2021-11-30T08:46:08.000Z | r5iygg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What helps you de-stress? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5iygg/what_helps_you_destress/ |
lilbabyroro | [removed] | 2021-11-30T08:42:54.000Z | r5iwv9 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I need an accountability buddy to study with. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5iwv9/i_need_an_accountability_buddy_to_study_with/ |
beaglesquad | This feels like a weird to ask but I wonder if others are also struggling with developing a consistent sleep schedule. Any ideas/suggestions?
I know if I just stuck to a schedule for a week it would become a habit.
Looks like there was an app called Wave Sleep that let you match up with others but I don’t think it exists anymore.
The other (non)options are sleep retreats for $6k - out of my budget lol. | 2021-11-30T08:39:50.000Z | r5iv89 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Sleep schedule accountability partners | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5iv89/sleep_schedule_accountability_partners/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T08:35:02.000Z | r5ispb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to fix Executive Functiom: do thimgs that require Execurive Function | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ispb/how_to_fix_executive_functiom_do_thimgs_that/ |
memetrashz | So I was put on adderall at a young age of 8, I’ve been taking adderall since I turned 18 and have never had any issues until I turned 18. after I turned 18 I began to have slight memory loss, it started out with me messing up words to me forgetting what small things were such as a stroller or other objects/easy words. I went from 10 mg to 5mg after experiencing these issues but I’m still experiencing memory loss even when I don’t take it for breaks (only taking adderall during school). I’m honestly unsure on how to regain a better memory again. | 2021-11-30T08:29:44.000Z | r5iptp | 8 | 2 | ADHD | Memory loss after 10 years of adderall | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5iptp/memory_loss_after_10_years_of_adderall/ |
whydidicomeupstairs | What paper works best for you— plain, dotted, lined, square?
1. What system (if any) do you use, and how have you adapted it to suit you?
2. Am I the only person who feels self-conscious while journaling my day? I suddenly feel all 13 and “this is dumb”, and get embarrassed EVEN THOUGH I AM ALONE.
3. Do you ever feel your brain goes too for your hand to capture your thoughts? Have you ever managed to deal with that
4. Lastly, and weirdly, which hand do you write with?
Not research, am just nosy.
I’m left-handed, and moving from a trad bullet journal to a Hobonichi-style 6-ring binder planner means
- I don’t have to mess around with layouts
- moving dot-grid to square-grid was s revelation
- i can move pages as I need to.
Thank you!
Just curious. I go square-grid to control the VERTICAL and the HORIZONTAL.
edit: oops | 2021-11-30T08:26:32.000Z | r5io64 | 8 | 7 | ADHD | If you maintain a notebook or journal as your “external brain”, I have (seemingly arbitrary) questions! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5io64/if_you_maintain_a_notebook_or_journal_as_your/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T08:23:46.000Z | r5impz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to fix Executive Function: Do things that require Executive Function | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5impz/how_to_fix_executive_function_do_things_that/ |
yuuuuup7 | So I'm 20 female and I've been been diagnosed with ADHD combined and it's really put my entire life into perspective and changed my whole thought process when I look back on my past. That's kind of sent me into an existential crisis and I have had a lot of trauma in my life and and I spent 8 years recovering from trauma while more just kept piling on And now after this diagnosis it seems like all the things my parents and people around me knit picked me for are manifestations of ADHD that was never addressed or managed. I am on medication and working with my therapist but looking at my results I've noticed that every single one of my executive functions are screwed, like there is not one out of the seven that is normal and I'm really struggling with the fact that no part of that works. Overall it's relieving to have a diagnosis and medication has helped tremendously, but I still am processing the fact that this is the rest of my life, that this is a chronic "disability?" I'm grieving the person I could have been, and handling resentment and frustration against my parents and other mental health professionals that failed to help me growing up and that I've had to go through this entire process by myself. | 2021-11-30T08:22:51.000Z | r5im8s | 1 | 3 | ADHD | All seven of my executive functions are screwed. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5im8s/all_seven_of_my_executive_functions_are_screwed/ |
bradleygh15 | Just as the title says; I was rediagnosed with adhd(was diagnosed as a kid so my memory is a bit sparse with that lol) in June, got on strattera in September and was doing amazing, I was sleeping normally, waking up normally and just basically focused in on work and school to the point where I'd finish stuff early and read the rest of the night. Flash forward to mid November and i can barely concentrate. I'm not doing 36 hour days but I'm not going to bed 12-8 anymore and I'm pacing alot more trying to either gain the energy to concentrate or remember wtf I'm supposed to be doing. Now I live in Ottawa, so from like October 31st onwards it's been getting colder and colder until like probably 2 weeks ago it was what I'd call "winter" weather(minus the -40C temps and massive snow falls). So im curious if anyone experiences this like me or it's just a coincidence or something! 😊 | 2021-11-30T08:18:51.000Z | r5ik56 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is symptoms getting worse based on season a thing? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ik56/is_symptoms_getting_worse_based_on_season_a_thing/ |
nacifra | From January to October 2020, a rhythm game was my hyperfixation. This ended up causing a lot of strain on the extensor tendons on my fingers during the summer, but I didn't think much about it and kept going. My fingers never got better and kept being painful because of my static overuse.
Managed to reach out to a hand clinic after more than a year of constant pain and lots of desperate rehab attempts with ice, tape, compression gloves and a lot of other stuff. She gave me a wrist brace and told me to avoid keyboards for at least 2 weeks, and then she'd see if I got better. Got a controller so I could keep playing games, but I don't have enough patience to relearn games I already know with the controller. I keep giving in to myself and keep playing one of the games that don't even have controller support.
I'm not really sure what to do. I *know* I mess up for myself and that I'll just cause myself more pain in the long run by not sticking to this. I'm trying to stick to it, but I can't. Video games are practically my therapy, so skipping my PC completely isn't an option. Any advice?
**TL;DR** I destroyed my hands because of keyboards, medical professional told me to not use them for 2 weeks to let my hands rest, but I can't stick with it. | 2021-11-30T08:16:21.000Z | r5iiuu | 5 | 1 | ADHD | I have destroyed my hands and can't stick to my treatment | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5iiuu/i_have_destroyed_my_hands_and_cant_stick_to_my/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T08:14:37.000Z | r5ihuk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does any one notice their symptoms get worse during certain seasons? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ihuk/does_any_one_notice_their_symptoms_get_worse/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T08:13:42.000Z | r5ihcp | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Music that helps ease your brain | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ihcp/music_that_helps_ease_your_brain/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T08:13:14.000Z | r5ih3k | 2 | 1 | ADHD | People shouldn't be using things meant for people with ADHD, autism, SPD, etc! | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ih3k/people_shouldnt_be_using_things_meant_for_people/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T08:08:54.000Z | r5iere | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Music that helps ease my brain | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5iere/music_that_helps_ease_my_brain/ |
Homosexual_Lynx | So, pretty much for around the past 6 days I've been having a lot of trouble sleeping,I'm talking like 3 hours of laying down,countless positions,etc.
Another problem is that when I'm left alone like that,i can't get my brain to not start thinking of *Bad,but very much possible imaginary scenario* or *Bad memory*.
I think you know where this is going.
Today in special,i only slept like around one hour,every night i just have continuous bad thoughts and i can't get them to stop,I've tried going to bed earlier,less screen time,etc to no results ,and you would think: ''Just bring it up to your parents and get it checked out!",and I'd do that,but for SOME FUCKING REASON im literally unable to ask someone something like this because i get too scared they'll ignore it.
Oh,and i have 2 exams today,and I'm pretty sure I'm failing one,don't know how I'll bring that up later. | 2021-11-30T07:57:19.000Z | r5i86y | 3 | 1 | ADHD | I don't know what to do. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5i86y/i_dont_know_what_to_do/ |
ender241 | Last Monday my psychiatrist sent my prescription to my GP/pharmacist for me to get my meds changed from Vyvanse to instant-release. This is supposed to take two days, but it has been more than a week, and as of today i'm officially out. Every day of last week i was calling up my GP clinic asking if the meds are ready, and they told me it will be ready the next day. I already took a day off on Sunday so i could use the remaining day yesterday, and in the morning yesterday i went to the GP and they said it would be ready by the afternoon - of course it wasn't.
I'm so aggravated. I have a big grad school deadline today, which is mostly done - but i just need an hour or two to make the necessary finishes. I also have to move today, and i've started the process, but i also need to clean up a bunch to ensure i get my deposit.
Today is not the time for me to go off medication temporarily - especially when its because the pharmacist needs to double check (for 8 days?) i am supposed to be taking this medication. | 2021-11-30T07:57:18.000Z | r5i86n | 50 | 132 | ADHD | I've had to go off my meds for two days due to pharmacist 'caution' at such an important time... | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5i86n/ive_had_to_go_off_my_meds_for_two_days_due_to/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T07:51:55.000Z | r5i5al | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I can't get myself to do chores, paperwork, or any sort of organization. I don't know if I have inattentive ADHD or something else. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5i5al/i_cant_get_myself_to_do_chores_paperwork_or_any/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T07:50:38.000Z | r5i4m4 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | At 37, New ADHD Diagnosis with existing GAD Diagnosis. And how it got missed. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5i4m4/at_37_new_adhd_diagnosis_with_existing_gad/ |
themoneygirl | [removed] | 2021-11-30T07:48:15.000Z | r5i3dv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Isn't this thread problematic when you're a hyper-focuser?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5i3dv/isnt_this_thread_problematic_when_youre_a/ |
non-anonomous-anon | I’m a 17 y/o male junior in high school. My mother has always told me that I have ADHD, and has talked about how my father needs to put me on meds for as long as I can remember. My father was never open to the idea, and since I’ve mainly lived with him my whole life, I’ve grown up believing that I didn’t need it, and never put much thought into it.
I’ve always had trouble with focusing, especially with school work or listening. Listening being everything from a simple conversation, to a class lecture. I feel like my symptoms have slowly gotten more severe as I’ve gone through my school years. This school year easily being the most difficult as far as being able to focus or retain information.
As I’ve gotten older I’ve been more exposed to the world of mental health, and only recently accepted the possibility that I may have a mental illness.
My girlfriend takes Adderall XR, and recently offered for me to try one. I went to school and felt a large difference in how I performed in class and socially. I felt like I was able to relax while still focusing on what I was doing, rather than needing to put 100% focus into the things I did.
I don’t want to come on here and bother people with a long ass post, so I’ll get straight to the point.
I’m asking for help on how to approach my father about being diagnosed with ADHD, and getting a prescription for it. I don’t think he would be open to taking me, especially now that I’ve gone all these years without ever even mentioning it.
Any advice is much appreciated. If any questions, I will gladly answer. | 2021-11-30T07:40:59.000Z | r5hzgm | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Asking for advice/help with ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5hzgm/asking_for_advicehelp_with_adhd/ |
J-Fro5 | I've been on Elvanse (UK name for Vyvanse) for nearly 6 months now and omg why didn't I switch to this sooner?! My only complaint is my sleep. I can usually get to sleep OK, but I tend to wake at 5am. Which sucks. And lack of sleep somewhat negates the beneficial effects of the meds. Even if I take melatonin or diazepam, I still wake up in the night and/or earlier in the morning. The last good nights sleep I had were after I'd drunk wine in the evenings but that doesn't always work either (I know part of it is related to my menstrual cycle, I sleep worse in the last 2 weeks).
I've always been a good sleeper as an adult, get to sleep easily, sleep for 8-9 hours, until going on meds. I got back to a decent sleep quality once I got settled on Concerta. But it's not working with Elvanse.
I don't take anything to help me sleep most nights, only when lack of sleep is having a cumulative negative effect after a while. And even then it only makes a marginal difference.
Cheers! | 2021-11-30T07:26:55.000Z | r5hrsu | 7 | 2 | ADHD | Any tips for sleep when taking Elvanse (Vyvanse)? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5hrsu/any_tips_for_sleep_when_taking_elvanse_vyvanse/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T07:10:19.000Z | r5hiq3 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | A small write up: amphetatation/amphetadreaming | 0.25 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5hiq3/a_small_write_up_amphetatationamphetadreaming/ |
porcelaingnomes | I am a 19 year old female and I often (even moreso in the recent years) find myself overcome with the urge to do certain things.
Specifically, I will all of the sudden become entirely enveloped by urges to, say, get up and brush my teeth RIGHT NOW because I can feel the cavities building up, or clean my piercing RIGHT NOW because I become aware of my hair touching it out of the blue.
I cant shake the feeling to do these things, even if I do them, I am still entirely stuck on it. If I clean my piercing and then my hair touches it again, I just can't stop feeling like something bad will happen if I don't clean it immediately. I am like this with a lot of things that get in the way: if my eyelashes aren't perfectly to my liking when I do my mascara, I will rip them out or take of the makeup. If I leave the house and they aren't perfect, it drives me insane and I feel like I physically cannot stop touching them.
I cant think of many other examples, but I know it happens often. Does anyone else feel like this? It's smothering and it's such a difficult feeling to overcome. | 2021-11-30T07:09:44.000Z | r5hids | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Why do I get so overstimulated? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5hids/why_do_i_get_so_overstimulated/ |
jackpeterson818 | [removed] | 2021-11-30T07:05:53.000Z | r5hgba | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I would love to know how much you guys lose weight with this! I use it trust me it works! lost over 30lbs in less than 3 months | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5hgba/i_would_love_to_know_how_much_you_guys_lose/ |
rosie-elephant | I always struggle to watch the last episode of shows I’m really into. I was wondering if this is just a me thing or if it has to do with my diagnosis. I think maybe it could be me wanting to hold onto a hyper fixation for longer, or having difficulty letting go of the weekly routine of watching it.
It’s honestly annoying because I have like 5 finales that I’d like to watch, but the executive disfunction kicks in when I start opening my laptop to watch the episode. | 2021-11-30T06:57:04.000Z | r5hb56 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Tv show finales | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5hb56/tv_show_finales/ |
elenahhhh93 | I try not to think about these things for too long so this is mostly to get this out there and also for advice if anyone has some. I have changed jobs so many times, either because of me leaving or being fired. I got diagnosed at 28 and have been on medication now for a year and it helps so much.
I just started a new job as an Amazon driver and I feel like it’s great for my ADHD because it’s active and I see different things every day. The issue is, when I have a rough day, I get scared I’ll be fired or that my supervisor is talking about how I’m stupid, which I’m sure isn’t the case, but I’m starting to get down on myself which obviously makes the situation worse. What helps you guys with this? I’ve also been frustrated because every job I’ve really wanted, I lost so now I don’t know what I want to do long term. | 2021-11-30T06:56:48.000Z | r5hazj | 2 | 5 | ADHD | Rant - feeling like they’re not good at any job they have | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5hazj/rant_feeling_like_theyre_not_good_at_any_job_they/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T06:55:28.000Z | r5ha7y | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Rant - anyone else feel like they’re not good at any job they have? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5ha7y/rant_anyone_else_feel_like_theyre_not_good_at_any/ |
cone8042 | [removed] | 2021-11-30T06:48:19.000Z | r5h607 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Could I be getting addicted to my Adderall | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5h607/could_i_be_getting_addicted_to_my_adderall/ |
cutch2 | Hey guys so I think I have ADHD, pretty severe and I’ve never been diagnosed, I’m 20 now. Usually I would just go to my mom for anything Medical but she never believed me when I would say I think I might have adhd. I’m kinda lost on what to do as it really affects my day to day life since I realized there’s something a little more wrong. | 2021-11-30T06:41:17.000Z | r5h1wd | 2 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5h1wd/adhd_diagnosis/ |
GreenBeans1999 | I honestly don't have a lot of energy rn so idk how far I'll get with writing this. I don't know where my limit is but I'm scared I'm starting to get close. I made so many dumb mistakes today and I played them all off as a joke. I'm sick of having to default to that and make fun of myself just to make the pain go away. How the fuck am I supposed to make any kind of difference in society if no one will ever take me seriously? I know I have strengths but what's the point of anything if I can never even convince anyone that my imput might possibly be valid?
Today I got back from vacation and got on the wrong train and rode it for a whole fucking hour without noticing. I'm actually a clown. I feel like I'm just constantly the butt end of every joke in some imaginary sitcom where every time I do something stupid an imaginary audience laughs at me. I try to play it off, and unfortunately I'm really good at it. No one sees me cry myself to sleep at night because that all happens in the deleted scenes. Does anyone actually understand what I'm going through? | 2021-11-30T06:40:13.000Z | r5h18l | 10 | 88 | ADHD | I'm so tired of constantly feeling like the comedic relief character | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5h18l/im_so_tired_of_constantly_feeling_like_the/ |
[deleted] | Hi everyone,
Last year I was diagnosed with ADHD, and started treatment this year. It has been helping a lot, although my dosage was not high enough. My doctor upped it a little about a month ago, and I've been able to focus better, but at a steep price...
Basically I've been feeling extremely irritable and maybe even anxious. By the end of the day, I start to become severely depressed. Now, I'm faced with a dilemma. I've been finally able to do well in school and focus for the first time in my life. If I stop now, I won't be able to focus as well anymore. But if I keep going, who knows where it'll take me.
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Any advice? Is there a way I can still take the medication and lessen the side-effects? | 2021-11-30T06:38:31.000Z | r5h07h | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta makes me depressed, but it's the only thing helping me get through school rn | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5h07h/concerta_makes_me_depressed_but_its_the_only/ |
Puzzleheaded-Fix-396 | Please tell me I'm not the only adhd person that in the past would pop their Adderall (5mg works for me) and then when they got to work would drink a monster cause u need to stay wake and forgot u took ur Adderall, so ur heart is not only racing but ur tired from the coffee but can't stop doing shit cause of the Adderall. Please tell me I'm not the only stupid person who has done that, I no longer drink energy drinks overall cause I would confuse the heart palpitations as an anxiety attack and I knew it was bad for my health. And it was a time I was vaping as well I cut it all out, no longer vape as well. | 2021-11-30T06:37:32.000Z | r5gzmp | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Monster And Adderall together | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gzmp/monster_and_adderall_together/ |
YaBoiWinter33 | [removed] | 2021-11-30T06:24:02.000Z | r5gric | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else able to help others on their work way easier than their own? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gric/anyone_else_able_to_help_others_on_their_work_way/ |
rebcart | Originally posted [in response to "how to train dogs while having ADHD"](https://www.reddit.com/r/Dogtraining/comments/r55od3/training_with_adhd_mine_not_the_dogs/hmm8jso/), thought it might be of interest here too.
In a very simplified manner, typical animal brain pathways work like this:
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(predictor of reinforcement) stimulus -> dopamine spike, resulting in -> activation/motivation of movement -> reinforcement
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The primary reinforcer triggers a dopamine burst depending on expected size of reinforcement, which affects how much the stimulus is predicted to be worth causing a dopamine spike next time. A lack of dopamine spike from a stimulus instead inhibits movement, since that would lead to a non-reinforced action.
Dopamine is also triggered in other types of neurons by aversive events, and by alerting signals that the organism needs to pay attention to to figure out *whether* it's something good or bad that then requires being acted on.
In all of these cases, although dopamine is involved in the actual end result of obtaining the reinforcer, its more global role is earlier in the seeking/motivational systems which help to organise the brain's activity towards or away from specific cues that it determines.
One of the key components in ADHD is issues with insufficient dopamine - either not enough of it is released, or it is re-uptaken by the releasing neurons too quickly, or the receptors are less sensitive to it, etc. This does *not* mean that people with ADHD just find things less rewarding, because the timing of pauses within the dopamine reward *burst* are also important in characterising it as a reinforcement response. What it instead means is that there is a general flattening of background dopamine in the earlier *motivational* aspects of the neurons related to the individual spikes:
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(predictor of reinforcement) stimulus -> insufficient dopamine spike -> brain continues in "seeking system" mode, searching for a stimulus that will provide a stronger spike worth responding to
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* environmental cues that should be focused on to engage with are often not sufficiently stimulating to an ADHD brain to do so, reulting in the brain continuing to search the environment for more stimuli to latch onto - this is seen externally as lack of focus, but also things like working memory issues, problems in processing speech (particularly in distracting environments with lots of competing stimuli)
* "hyperfocus" is nothing more than finally finding something sufficiently dopamine-motivating to engage with, and environmental stimuli that *should* also result in a new dopamine spike large enough to shift that attention away failing to do so
* just because you know you want to do something or that it's going to have a good result doesn't mean you've got enough of a dopamine spike to trigger you into action, compared to a non-ADHD person who thinks of wanting to do something and then somehow miraculously spontaneously does it at will
* short-term reinforcement boosts motivational dopamine spikes more than temporally distant reinforcement. ADHD people have a moderate tendency to favour small immediate rewards over large delayed rewards.
* this is why it's much easier for ADHD people to get unhelpfully stuck into video games, or doing fun "easier" tasks like brainstorming ideas than actually implementing them - the former has a much higher reinforcement history relative to aversive history compared to the tasks we know we "should" be doing and have previously failed at like daily chores, so we're more likely to get a sufficient dopamine spike to repeat them again in future
* adrenaline increases brain arousal, which is why it can suddenly feel easier for an ADHD person to finally get started on a task the night before when the external deadline is looming, and why a self-imposed prior deadline to allocate extra time *doesn't* trigger the adrenaline required to start as much - you know you can move your own deadline which is the much easier response to the stimulus to choose
* ADHD people often report being successful as paramedics or emergency room healthcare staff - while for most people increased stress tips them into over-arousal and impedes function, for ADHD the stress is more likely to bring you to the optimum point of the inverted-U function curve where you can continually activate motion
* unmedicated ADHD people are more likely to engage in risk-seeking behaviour, and to succumb to addictions or binge-eating disorders - activities which are more likely to satisfy the seeking systems in the brain, where for non-ADHD people more of that need is naturally sufficiently met by less risky daily activities
* lack of reinforcement still impedes activity just as much or more; avoidance of in-the-moment situational aversives is *not* inhibited, but distant far-off aversives such as failure to meet future deadlines does not have as much of an impact on promoting avoidance behaviour now as it should
All of this is to say that statements like "make a schedule and stick to it" or "just focus" are based on a fundamental misunderstanding of both how ADHD works *and* how to be a good animal trainer, in this case for the human animal learner. Prior to diagnosis, even if picked up on as children, it is almost guaranteed that the person will *already* have learned experiences of failing to activate for regular daily tasks, such as paying attention to instructions, remembering instructions long enough to do them or prior to a competing stimulus taking over, taking action on reminders, selecting the appropriate one out of a variety of competing stimuli and so on. There is a persistent *lack* of reinforcement for the correct behaviours, because the correct behaviours are not occurring - instead there is regular accidental practising of *incorrect* behaviours, together with external aversives (Why did you forget your hat at school? You still haven't tied your shoes, now we're late for the bus! How did you not realise you needed this signed until the day after it was due?). This is where classical conditioning comes in - the aversives are applied both externally, and also then *internally* in the form of guilt and self-judgement at being unable to take the correct action, and this conditions the entire situation around organisation, planning, and doing the thing that you know you "should" be doing to be aversive in and of itself. Thinking that you *should* do something, or being told you *should* do something that you know you have previously failed at like "make a schedule" is inherently aversive and generates an avoidance response to the *situation itself*, and makes it *less* likely that the ADHD person will have an activating dopamine spike (this is the root cause of most procrastination). This is why, although medication helps greatly with getting functional expected levels of dopamine in place in response to stimuli, you still often need to do additional work to *unlearn* your prior aversive experiences that are also inhibiting your ability to take action by replacing them with very positively reinforcing ones.
You shouldn't set up a dog for failure in training, and you shouldn't set up an ADHD person for failure either. Everything needs to be re-imagined and reframed to become as close to error-free learning as possible. This is why schemes like "Unfuck Your Habitat" tend to be easier to maintain, because they are correctly structured. Instead of presupposing an entire nebulous regime or change in habits that needs to be implemented in its entirety and then stuck to, which is more likely to fail and then generate internal guilt about the situation, it's better to present individual components that are so small that they are minimally aversive to consider, frame them as optional suggestions to look forward to rather than a chore/habit that *must* be done, and to challenge yourself to do *just one*, give yourself positive reinforcement, and then to do *just another one* if you're up for it (and you probably will be when it's sliced down that small!). This is a version of the problem of lumping when shaping behaviours, and instead the good trainer learns how to split/slice them down and to reinforce at every step to progressively build them up into something bigger. Keep self-training sessions short, and repeat in the moment only once you have self-monitored that you are still motivated and eager to keep going, just like you would continuously monitor a dog's behaviour to see if they're still motivated to continue a shaping session or if you need to give them a break before they get tired/frustrated and behaviour starts breaking down. Assistance needs to be given to the ADHD person to restructure their environment to make sure tools required for a task are at hand and the right decision is easy in the moment, rather than asking them to muster up sufficient motivation to figure out *everything* about the situation themselves in advance *and also* then do the required task in one go. Yes, this is what good quality targeted therapy/ADHD coaching is for, to teach us to rewire our own brains by training ourselves using the most efficient error-free force-free learning methods until it becomes second-hand - by contrast simplistic statements like "you just need to focus" drags you out of that beneficial improvement mindset and back into the mire of "well why CAN'T I just focus, what is wrong with me" which is what needed to be unlearned in the first place.
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Further reading/sources:
Function of dopamine regarding motivation, prediction of reward and other things - [Dopamine in motivational control: rewarding, aversive, and alerting](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3032992/)
Trends in ADHD such as predisposition to addictions and preference for instant rewards - [The World Federation of ADHD International Consensus Statement](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33549739/)
Potential dopamine issues involved in ADHD - [Barkley PDF](http://www.russellbarkley.org/factsheets/WhatCausesADHD2017.pdf), [Evaluating Dopamine Reward Pathway in ADHD](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2958516/)
Adrenaline release under acute stress is designed for fight/flight response, [which is supposed to increase hypervigilance at the cost of impaired executive functioning in the moment, eg introduction/references here](https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnint.2012.00066/full) but ADHD children show a blunted adrenaline release under stress, [eg when induced by exercise](https://www.nature.com/articles/pr2003297).
Inverted U-curve concept of optimal neurotransmitter levels, use of medication to bring up from the low end of the curve to the high point - [Dopamine vs noradrenaline: inverted-U effects and ADHD theories (word doc preprint)](https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Florence-Levy-2/publication/5548841_Pharmacological_and_therapeutic_directions_in_ADHD_Specificity_in_the_PFC/links/0912f51294ca957386000000/Pharmacological-and-therapeutic-directions-in-ADHD-Specificity-in-the-PFC), figure in [Could it be ADHD?](https://nordocs.org.au/documents/presentations/2021/ADHD_Adults/Could%20it%20be%20ADHD%20-%20Recognising%20ADHD%20in%20youth%20and%20adults.pdf)
Subsequent inferences relating to commonly-reported suitability of high-stress rapidly-changing careers by ADHD people and how that might relate to the adrenaline response and inverted U-curve are my own. Similarly the inferences of how I would map common ADHD symptoms/complaints against the dopamine motivation pathways to explain their cause, and how I would apply animal training concepts to human behaviour change plans. For training concepts such as shaping, primary reinforcers, classical conditioning, not setting up for failure, why aversives should be avoided in learning etc. see r/dogtraining/wiki for descriptions and links to resources. | 2021-11-30T06:23:35.000Z | r5gr86 | 5 | 11 | ADHD | A rant about useless advice like "Just focus harder!" and how to actually be helpful instead | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gr86/a_rant_about_useless_advice_like_just_focus/ |
Bi_ciuin | I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and I'm currently trying to get medicated. My doctor (DO) wants to prescribe Wellbutrin because it will also help with my depression. The problem is I don't have a problem with depression and never really have. I've been kinda down lately, but I definitely wouldn't call it depression.
I have hella anxiety though, possibly tied to living with all of my ADHD symptoms for my entire life without realizing I had ADHD.
I'm not super into the idea of taking the Wellbutrin. I've known a lot of people on antidepressants and it always seems like it takes a ridiculous amount of time to dial in the right one, and the wrong ones seem to make things worse. I've also never been on ADHD meds or antidepressants. I feel like I should be starting with the most effective type. What if the Wellbutrin helps a little. How would I ever know if maybe something else is ten times more effective.
Am I overthinking all of this? Should I just take the Wellbutrin?
The doctor did agree to prescribe either guanfacine or clonidine for my self diagnosed rejection sensitivity alongside whatever else he prescribes. | 2021-11-30T06:20:56.000Z | r5gpjy | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Recently diagnosed, my doctor wants to prescribe Wellbutrin | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gpjy/recently_diagnosed_my_doctor_wants_to_prescribe/ |
Dr-Rumack | Like the title says, I got Adderall as a booster for long days when Concerta wears off.
Does anyone know if this is a normal practice? In my (admittedly limited) research into ADHD medication, I've never seen anyone give both classes of stimulants (amphetamine and methylphenidate) intended to be taken on the same day. Anyone have any insight? | 2021-11-30T06:19:29.000Z | r5gooy | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Prescriber gave me the Adderall as a booster dose for long days when I'm on Ritalin (Concerta). Is this normal? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gooy/prescriber_gave_me_the_adderall_as_a_booster_dose/ |
Sea-Indepeny944 | Adderall thoughts.
Hello. I am a Male(19 years old). Who suffers from ADHD. And I’ve been dealing with a serious issue regarding my mental health. So back in April, I started having issues with ruminating over my past mistakes and actions that I feel guilt over doing. I know those things don’t matter and don’t have an effect on me today because I am a changed man. But I’m starting to get stuck on these things, ruminate on them, and have irrational thoughts regarding the situation.
Yet, after I take a few days off from the medication I am on. I feel a euphoric sense. | 2021-11-30T06:18:08.000Z | r5gnv4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | For those who take medication- What happens when you get back on meds after a few days off? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gnv4/for_those_who_take_medication_what_happens_when/ |
Its_me_icup | Maybe ADHD, maybe I'm uncultured swine, either way I. Bothering other people.
I Break small societal norms on the regular. If I drink a soda, I sometimes belch, kind of loudly. Not on purpose or for attention, it's involuntary. Is it weird for a "medical professional" to belch at work after lunch, probably, but do like people hold them in?!?!? How? Do I never enjoy a cold Pepsi at work again?
I occasionally catch myself picking my nose, realizing I'm picking my nose, and then grabbing a tissue and washing my hands.(I always wash my hands after)
I often find myself standing back and analyzing situations and trying to assess what behavior is appropriate. I have to look strange doing that. I. Literally at work, standing there, trying to figure out how to behave.
I think its weird to adjust your behavior to satisfy other people, but here I am, trying to figure out how to fit in. Probably because it's easier. | 2021-11-30T06:17:27.000Z | r5gng8 | 2 | 4 | ADHD | So I burped | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gng8/so_i_burped/ |
kylesmeats | [removed] | 2021-11-30T06:13:05.000Z | r5gkto | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Americans (or anybody that's had to do this in the American Healthcare System: Can anyone please give a very simple, step by step procedure on how to get through getting a diagnosis and (potentially, depending on what the doctors think) on the path towards medicated treatment? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gkto/americans_or_anybody_thats_had_to_do_this_in_the/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-30T06:10:51.000Z | r5gji5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Could this be ADHD or a Vitamin D deficiency? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gji5/could_this_be_adhd_or_a_vitamin_d_deficiency/ |
rayera_ | My sleep schedule is fucked and it’s taking a toll on my academics and happiness. I stay up super late, normally until the sun rises or right before, and struggle to get up for my classes and am awake for a few hours of sunlight.
One of the biggest reasons I stay up so late is because sitting in bed trying to fall asleep is so damn boring. I always try to wait until I feel pretty tired and struggle to keep my eyes open, but many times I’ll realize I’m fucked if I don’t try and fall asleep right away when I start to see sunlight and hear birds chirping. Often times, I fall asleep quickly and was much more tired than I realize.
How do you deal with boredom of doing nothing while trying to fall asleep? | 2021-11-30T06:07:06.000Z | r5gh93 | 11 | 3 | ADHD | How to deal with the boredom of trying to fall asleep? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gh93/how_to_deal_with_the_boredom_of_trying_to_fall/ |
HalfLucid-HalfLife | I’ve looked into this online briefly and all the results were talking about feeling this sense of satisfaction or schadenfreude at bad things happening to other people, or a sense of pleasure at your own suffering because some part of you feels you deserve it.
This is not either of those things.
I’m talking about the excitement you feel when a new movie comes out that looks awesome and you can’t wait to see, or a new video game, or the next book I’m the series that you love and can’t wait to find out what happens next, or your favourite artist has released a new album. Something like that.
When it happens to individuals I can feel sorrow for them, but if I know them personally it’s likely to be overwhelmed or tempered by this sense of excitement if the bad thing that has happened/will happen will affect my life. If it happens to a country or a community and it’s likely to impact me, I feel it then too. If it happens to me directly without malicious intent, and I have a plan to deal with it, I get it then.
I got it in the 2007/8 recession, excited to see how me and my family would have to make drastic changes to get by and if we would manage while everyone else stressed themselves some extra wrinkles. I got it when I got caught in a storm and almost drowned to death in the sea - my friend was wiped out after swimming for our lives while I bounced around thrilled at the epically frightening experience. I got it after my father died, particularly leading up to the funeral - I knew the entire family dynamic would change after his death and I’d never been on a plane by myself before (going to his funeral) so both of those things had me feeling great. I got it during 2020 a lot thanks to everything that kept happening. I was even forced into temporary homelessness during the lockdown and pandemic, but I had a plan I was fairly sure would work and so even though the uncertainties had me anxious a lot, I spent the whole summer smiling and feeling excited about how crazy things were.
Please tell me this is an ADHD thing, because the sheer glee I felt despite myself when seeing how bad 2020 was getting has me worried at my compassion for fellow humans. | 2021-11-30T06:05:39.000Z | r5gggd | 5 | 4 | ADHD | I get excited when bad things happen: an ADHD thing or something else? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gggd/i_get_excited_when_bad_things_happen_an_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-30T05:59:02.000Z | r5gc9f | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can stop working overtime and picking up extra shifts even though it’s affecting my studies | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gc9f/can_stop_working_overtime_and_picking_up_extra/ |
BL00DBOURNE | I dont know how to tell if i am giving effort anymore. Everything I do i feel like I fail at. And I don't know if it is people or my own thoughts telling me it is my effort to blame even though I felt like I was giving a lot of effort. Every time I feel like I have been making progress something comes along that throws me back to behind were I was before or at least that is what it feels like. I think I may have lost my ability to gague how much effort I am putting into something. There is do much clutter in my brain and I don't know how to get rid of it or ever how to organize it | 2021-11-30T05:57:42.000Z | r5gbje | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Am I trying | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gbje/am_i_trying/ |
JuicyLikeClementines | New diagnosis, no access to medication. Need advice on how to cope until I can get access.
This might be an ADHD thing, it might not. You guys tell me. For all intents and purposes, I can truly function better if my apartment is tidy and everything is (for the most part) in it's place. However, every couple of weeks or so, something in my life will cause me to stress out, which makes it impossible for me to keep track of all the moving parts that I've created, and the end result is an extremely messy apartment. Like it legit looks like a tornado went through it.
Now, here I am, sitting in a pile of stuff I need to clean up so I can function better and feel a little less chaos, but the pile of stuff is making it extremely hard for me to get started on cleaning up, which is more stressful, so I add more stuff to the pile.
I go through these cycles every few weeks, but they're less severe because my stressors were less severe, therefore the mess is less crazy, and the task is less daunting. But at this point, the messy stage started beginning of October and it's just gotten monumentally worse over the last 2 months.
Please help me get out of this loop. | 2021-11-30T05:56:16.000Z | r5gaqf | 1 | 2 | ADHD | How the heck do I get myself out of this self destructive loop? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5gaqf/how_the_heck_do_i_get_myself_out_of_this_self/ |
dsolo01 | So… I’ve been back on meds since September after a ten year hiatus. In a nutshell, covid pushed me to make some career changes, dove deep into running my business full time and was really struggling when it came to being productive at home 😅 that and, reflecting back on the past 10 years, I probably should have explored this further sooner than I did. A bit so great experience with Dexedrine in the past really put me off of considering meds until recently though.
So, during my last bout of Vyvanse, I was on 20mg weekdays and 10mg weekends. At some point I decided around noon to try and take a 10mg (after my 20mg around 8am) and it really wrapped everything up for me.
That said… I used up my prescription a bit early, told my doc, she said not recommended as it can cause insomnia. No insomnia whatsoever. Waiting for feedback from her peers before she’ll let me continue.
ANYWAYS.
Here be the observations on one week off the meds.
I’ve still got the drive/ambition/momentum I built up since taking it. This is a huge personal win for me.
However… my emotional regulation is shotty at best. I’m fidgeting again. And the anxiety is creeping in slowly. That said, I do feel I’ve been able to build up some ability to cope which is so fantastic but maaaaaan…
Flowers for Algernon? I feel like I’m slipping away. What I can’t determine is if what I’ve lost, is who/what I always was. Or if I’m experiencing a bit of withdrawal. A mixture of the two maybe.
Just wanted to share the experience and am interested in hearing all of yours as well. | 2021-11-30T05:52:08.000Z | r5g89v | 1 | 1 | ADHD | No meds for a week | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5g89v/no_meds_for_a_week/ |
snowbengal0912 | [removed] | 2021-11-30T05:50:09.000Z | r5g73r | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Rewind or backtrack | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5g73r/rewind_or_backtrack/ |
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