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[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-29T17:47:36.000Z | r519pu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What does neurotypical and neuro divergent mean? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r519pu/what_does_neurotypical_and_neuro_divergent_mean/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-29T17:46:32.000Z | r518wg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is This ADHD? (I read the rules) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r518wg/is_this_adhd_i_read_the_rules/ |
throwawayanon5268 |
I always have trouble pacing myself. New hobbies, jobs, etc. It causes me to burn out quickly. How do you pace yourself and not burn out so quickly? I want to know everything or see results at once and idk how to slowly follow the dopamine instead of plunging head first. Right now I'm very interested health, herbs, crystals, homesteading, gardening, canning, etc. I'm also into meditation but I can't seem to slow down enough for it. Then I'm trying to lose weight, but I tend to get aggravated it takes too long, develop an eating disorder then binge eat and be back at point one.
TLDR idk how to pace myself and burnout easily advice needed | 2021-11-29T17:43:21.000Z | r516cs | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Advice on pacing yourself? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r516cs/advice_on_pacing_yourself/ |
LordBaNZa | I spend so much time thinking about things I want to do. Whether it be chores, personal projects, creative outlets, or work stuff I often find myself going over in my head what it would look like a thousand times, but the percentage of those I ever actually do is tiny. I know that I could do it, but figuring out how to find time to do it and then sitting down and focusing on it long enough seems near impossible most times. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this? | 2021-11-29T17:39:06.000Z | r512yy | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Getting out of your own head and doing the thing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r512yy/getting_out_of_your_own_head_and_doing_the_thing/ |
throwawayanon5268 | [removed] | 2021-11-29T17:37:53.000Z | r5121e | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Advice on pacing yourself | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5121e/advice_on_pacing_yourself/ |
MacaroonExpensive143 | [removed] | 2021-11-29T17:36:26.000Z | r510vh | 251 | 438 | ADHD | Should I still take my adderall if I’m sick? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r510vh/should_i_still_take_my_adderall_if_im_sick/ |
rezidivv | Hello everyone,
with 21 years I got (finally) diagnosed with ADD and my doc also prescribed me ritalin (10mg). Apparently, starting to take ritalin is quite a self-experiment at the beginning to find the right dose that works for you. My doc told me to start with 5mg and I can take up to 20mg per day (the daily dosage could increase at a later point) to slowly find out if and how the med works for me and how much I need.
Since I'm in this "test phase" now, I wanted to ask other people with ADD or ADHD on Ritalin or Adderal (or similar), especially those diagnosed as an adult, to share their experiences.
**Maybe you can answer one or the other of my questions.** **You really don't have to answer everything, you can also answer single questions or just write whatever you like to share about this topic without using the questions!**
**- Did you also have to experiment with the dosage at the beginning? was it complicated?**
**-How do you know if the dosage is too high/low?**
**-With which daily dosage did you start?**
**-How much is your daily dose today?**
**-Do you have to take it daily or as needed?**
**-How do you know if it actually works?**
**-What were/are the positive effects you could notice in particular?**
**-Did/do you have negative side effects?**
**-Did the effects change over time?**
**-For those who struggle with addictive behavior: Are you ever tempted to abuse the meds (taking a higher dose, ...)? How do you resist?**
Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I'd be so grateful if I get a few answers! | 2021-11-29T17:32:48.000Z | r50y16 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | My psch doc just prescribed me ritalin and I have a few questions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50y16/my_psch_doc_just_prescribed_me_ritalin_and_i_have/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-29T17:28:12.000Z | r50ugq | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Does it get worse when you’re home alone | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50ugq/does_it_get_worse_when_youre_home_alone/ |
Glitchy_Boss_Fight | Hey all. So I was in the military for much of my adulthood. I never sought testing as my job was very active and focus for long periods never was a problem. I then left the military and found out that the VA does not test, cover testing, or even diagnose ADHD. I now have insurance and some income and I'm wondering if anyone has successfully been diagnosed and received medication treatment as an adult. I am seeking medication as I'm already doing all of the non medical remedies such as exercise, meditation, and cutting caffeine. I see some online places but they seem really scammy.
Any help appreciated. | 2021-11-29T17:27:50.000Z | r50u6i | 4 | 0 | ADHD | Adult ADHD testing USA? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50u6i/adult_adhd_testing_usa/ |
Grey_Hedge | So I (21 F) have been on 50 mg Mydayis for about 3 months now. I’m not unhappy with it. First time I took the 50 mg dose it was like someone was sorting all of my thoughts into a filing cabinet and I could have organized thoughts throughout the day and have plenty of energy to get off my rear and get things done. I like how long it lasts and it helps me process information much better ( because I suck at that). It has a very easy come down which helps me wind down my day. It has been a godsend for my working hours and many people compliment me on how attentive I seem. I have the capability to complete difficult tasks but the small and mundane tasks seem impossible. I do have a good amount of focus with it. But if I take it for a while without 3-4 day breaks I start to feel somewhat depressed and unmotivated. I had previously been on Adderall XR and despite it being similar to Mydayis, it was a completely different experience. I had laser sharp focus and was crazy motivated. I always outperformed my coworkers at my job and could get any small task done. But I became tolerant to the original 10 mg dose I was prescribed and 20 mg reeked havoc on me with my anxiety always being sky high and I had obsessive compulsive episodes that would leave me in tears because I just wanted to act like a normal person. My hair-oriented fidgeting was out of control back then. And my perfectionism became my downfall, resulting in many mental breakdowns while at work. Mydayis has felt like a more gentle version of Adderall in a way. I have some focus, yes. But it’s also only a small increase in anxiety. Which is much easier to deal with. Since starting Mydayis, I’ve made a very close friend, I’ve obtained my driving permit, and received a massive promotion at work. But many things have fallen by the wayside. And it sucks. Because I needed a lot of motivation to reach certain goals or to keep up with certain things in my life. I enjoy being busy all the time. But some days I just feel drained. So I’m contemplating whether or not I should talk to my psychiatrist about switching medications. I have an appointment with him later today but I’m just very unsure. I do worry about how it will affect my job and if there will be benefits in the long run.
Has anyone else ever felt this way on stimulant medication? And did you benefits from changing to a different medication? I do not have the option of switching to Strattera or Wellbutrin due to being under evaluation for Epilepsy and previously having a bad reaction to Strattera. | 2021-11-29T17:25:00.000Z | r50s0n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Should I experiment with changing my medication or stay with what I have? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50s0n/should_i_experiment_with_changing_my_medication/ |
Samirah5924 | hello everyone! a brief story, and a few questions some of you might be able to help in answering!
(bg info; 18F. asd/adhd. possible illicit use c/w. I spent an hour writing and checking this and it’s 4am. tl;dr at bottom. Long.)
this story totally doesn’t include illicit use, (advise if not allowed because I’m not sure) I’m not encouraging that, the backstory behind this includes six years of study out of fascination and a friend with eyes. (it’s a funny joke about how I’m obviously asd/adhd)
the backstory. I’m eighteen and AFAB. my parents are very “but we do that! that can’t be (insert asd/adhd/depression/anxiety here)!” if you know what I mean. I’ve been told since grade school that I could do so much better if just applied myself, and I’ve been, simultaneously, somehow, a pleasure to be in class, and a nuisance. over my grade schooling experience I was sent to three psychiatrists by three schools, told I was gifted, and shoved into the back of the class so I wouldn’t disrupt other students.
enter high school, I spend two years at a bad school, and transfer. there, at the new school, I met the most supportive people I have ever known. there have been rough patches, as I’m sure a lot of people on this sub would know, but these last couple years have been amazing. (not in any actual way, but more that I’ve had people on my team.) yesterday though. yesterday. I received the best early Christmas gift I could ever receive. I’m aware this bit is iffy, but the last two paragraphs might explain how this feels. and the next definitely will. a single dose of Concerta. (also known as methylphenidate, a stimulant used to treat adhd. for those that might not be familiar.) my friend wanted to see how I’d be on it, but also explained that it’s kind of the only way i’ll be able to 100% be sure and quiet the part of my brain telling me I’m incompetent without paying 500$ out of pocket for a specialist appointment and being assessed. (and that’s the quote WITH my health insurance. wth?)
and the result? I had the most incredibly eight hours I have ever experienced! my first glimpse of clarity I have had in my entire life. I could sit still, I conversed with my friends without interrupting, I was able to stay on task and on topic! my rage? dissipated! my constant feeling of self-loathing? gone and not missed! I have literally never felt so amazing, and I wonder, is this how I was supposed to function throughout my eighteen friggin years on this planet?! and it was just mundane tasks, should I be this excited? woah
has anyone had the same experience? or anyone feel like sharing their medication story? I’m really curious to hear if it’s standard, similar, or a massive deviation from the norm, because I have been walking on freaking clouds!
I’d also, if possible, like to hear stories of anyone that’s been in any kind of similar situation and has had to advocate for themselves in the absence of anyone supportive or practitioners aware of barriers to diagnosis, because I’m worried I’ll encounter it and freeze. I think my 27 slide powerpoint on how diagnosis has been skewed against girls from the start that I created in two straight days, as in 48 hours almost consecutively, entirely text in the original design would be enough, my friends have had a good old laugh about it.
now for the promised TL;DR;
yesterday was my first day on adhd medication and it was amazing.
my questions;
- has anyone experienced anything similar with late diagnosis?
- has anyone got medication stories they’ like to share?
- and! does have advice on self advocacy in the absence of a person to support them through the process of recieving any kind of support, or the much needed diagnosis? my friend might not be using their doses, but they should be, and I should not. lol. | 2021-11-29T17:20:14.000Z | r50o7p | 1 | 1 | ADHD | questions about medication! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50o7p/questions_about_medication/ |
Odd-Sea-2104 | [removed] | 2021-11-29T17:18:30.000Z | r50msn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Finding your passion | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50msn/finding_your_passion/ |
CommonSenseNotSo | Hi all! I just started taking vyvanse, 20 mg tablets this past week. I am about to turn 40, and this is my first ADHD medication. I was diagnosed almost 20 years ago, but I decided to wing it since I hate medication lol. I feel like Vyvanse has helped me in these past couple of days to have mental clarity, but now it's the fourth day and I feel like it's wearing off a bit. Is that common? Does it maybe have to do with stressors in my life? Today I've been more fidgety and unfocused then I've been in the last couple of days, and I don't want Vyvanse to lose it's efficacy yet because it's helped me more than I've ever thought possible. Is 20 mg too low of a dose? Tell me your thoughts and thank you so much in advance :-)! By the way, I wouldn't say that I got that initial euphoric feeling when I first took it. I just felt clear headed for the first time in my life which, in and of itself, was quite euphoric I guess. | 2021-11-29T17:15:06.000Z | r50k1z | 10 | 1 | ADHD | Oh Goodness, Please Tell Me My Vyvanse Isn't Broken... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50k1z/oh_goodness_please_tell_me_my_vyvanse_isnt_broken/ |
Spirited-Golf-2938 | Today, just like every day I need to be focused, I have taken my medication ( Adderall XR 25mg). This time specifically I feel very off. My head feels foggy, I feel disconnected from my own body in a way. The way I'm feeling right now is very hard for me to describe, but it's almost as if I'm dreaming. Maybe disassociated is the word I'm looking for. I'm not sure what I can do to fix this, and the only cause I can think of is the coffee I drank an hour or so before taking my pill. I still like to enjoy a cup of coffee every once in awhile, so it's not the first time I've mixed the two. If anyone has any advice for getting rid of this weird feeling that reality might be a little off or second guess whether I'm dreaming or not every 20 minutes itd be greatly appreciated. | 2021-11-29T17:09:27.000Z | r50fin | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Don't feel right on meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50fin/dont_feel_right_on_meds/ |
doimakeucringe | Hi there, about a week ago my now ex-boyfriend (29F) and I (24F) broke up for good. We initially broke up in March and have just kept finding ways to circulate back to each other so essentially never really ending until now. The longest we have gone without talking since March was a max of 3 weeks. We were together for about a year and a half all together. We went through a lot together in our relationship and I honestly thought we would end up getting married. Things ended last week in a rather negative and toxic way (he slept with someone while we were talking and I’ve found out that he has asked other people to hangout even though the reason we broke up is because he wants to be alone and focus on himself and get better at setting boundaries in all areas of his life).
I am not looking to get feedback or advice in the direction of us talking or getting back together. We are done and that’s how it will stay.
What I do want advice on is how to deal with my paralyzing anxiety and hyper focus on the break up while at work or school. I have deleted my social media accounts off my phone to eliminate that distraction but I just feel like I have a suffocating amount of anxiety and sadness towards this situation that I can’t seem to let go of. I just feel sick to my stomach. I also see a therapist weekly, journal and know that time heals most things but I am just really struggling with this one. Any kind / helpful words would be appreciated. | 2021-11-29T17:09:20.000Z | r50ffq | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Break up anxiety | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50ffq/break_up_anxiety/ |
LeopoldDDoggo | [removed] | 2021-11-29T17:09:01.000Z | r50f7i | 1 | 15 | ADHD | It's finally over... | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50f7i/its_finally_over/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-29T17:08:56.000Z | r50f4y | 1 | 2 | ADHD | The listener | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50f4y/the_listener/ |
Oohhloverboy | [removed] | 2021-11-29T17:05:17.000Z | r50cah | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just started Methylphenidate(Ritalin) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50cah/i_just_started_methylphenidateritalin/ |
aziatsky | hello i have adhd combined type since my entire life.
my dad has also been apart of my life since my entire life.
he has been really cool and epic. no one in my life ever says "just use a planner" or anything like that. they always ask and try to understand; when they dont understand, they say "i guess i would have to have it to understand."
the point of this post is because i am really grateful for this.
thats it.
also i start treatment thursday.
p.s i love you | 2021-11-29T17:02:51.000Z | r50acf | 5 | 43 | ADHD | My dad is actually really supportive and i love him (also i start treatment thursday) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r50acf/my_dad_is_actually_really_supportive_and_i_love/ |
iForgot2Laugh | Finally getting my evaluation today (yay!) and I’m really looking forward to getting some help. I’ve been told that ADHD doesn’t look the same in females as it does in males, which is why they often don’t get diagnosed until they’re older. However, I’m curious to know what made anyone, regardless if you’re male or female, get a diagnosis as an adult. Did you notice you weren’t behaving “normally” compared to others? Did another person suggest you may have it? I’d love to hear (read) your stories!
Edit: well, evaluation is over. New to all the lingo but I’ve got the inattentive type. I knew I was right to get looked at, even when I was dismissed by family about how I just need to get organized. Will be starting medication soon and hopefully that will help me. Thanks everyone for the responses! I’ll continue reading them as they come in! | 2021-11-29T16:54:12.000Z | r503if | 32 | 20 | ADHD | Those who got diagnosed as an adult: What made you get evaluated | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r503if/those_who_got_diagnosed_as_an_adult_what_made_you/ |
internaldebris | TLDR; supervisor emailed me yesterday as an FYI that she's scheduling a performance review which is on the books for tomorrow. we've had conversations in the past about my lack of responsiveness and how I complete some things last minute. I want to know how best to prepare for this performance review and what to expect going into it. I graduated in 2020 and this has been my only job out of college, so I have almost no idea what to think or what I should prepare to say.
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I graduated college in 2020, and was hired as a temp at my current job in June 2020, and was transitioned to a full time employee in April 2021. At this point my responsibilities changed to much more long term projects, rather than the short term data entry-ish jobs I was doing before. Then this summer is when I began to realize how difficult this job is for me - I had to manage several long term responsibilities that don't have any 'deadline', while also ensuring I complete the requests from supervisors that have hard set due dates. My supervisor noticed it looked like I was playing a lot of catch-up and not responding to emails quickly enough. I told her that the change in responsibilities had been difficult and I am still adjusting. She assured me that there is no stupid question and to not hesitate to ask if I was ever confused.
Then came end of summer/early fall where there was some improvement on my end, but I definitely don't think I realized the urgency behind some projects/emails from colleagues outside of our group. My supervisor pointed this out again and I did my best to take action/respond to emails where the person reaching out couldn't move forward without my response. I truly believed I had improved in my ability to assess an emails importance and decide when to deal with certain issues. However, about 2-3w ago, my supervisor mentioned again that I am not responding in a timely manner and this is creating more work for other people. At this time, I was genuinely upset because the problems she mentioned were things that I had already confirmed as complete but either her/other colleagues didn't realize I had confirmed and ended up doing more work for no reason. Or, I had intended to respond to a non-urgent email but my supervisors had been looped in before I had a chance to do so.
Now I have a performance review tomorrow and I don't really know what to expect. I have never had a performance review before, and this is my first 'real' job, and I really do want to improve. I think over the past few months I've realized this isn't the best position for me (primarily because I don't really enjoy the work, but also the nature of this job is just not compatible with the way I work). Additionally, I am 24 years old and 1.5 years out of college, and all of my colleagues are >30 and have had years of experience in this sector of work before. Sometimes I feel like I am expecting my hand to be held too much, but then sometimes I feel like that's okay considering I encounter new professional issues nearly every day.
Anyways, now I'm freaking out about this performance review and am not sure what I should prepare to hear from my supervisor, or what I should prepare to say or respond with? Is this a time where I provide context for the things my supervisor has problems with? Or is this a time where I just acknowledge I see the issue and am committed to improving? Thanks so much in advance for any advice! | 2021-11-29T16:51:20.000Z | r5014m | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Preparing for a performance review | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r5014m/preparing_for_a_performance_review/ |
Enthusidragon | [removed] | 2021-11-29T16:45:32.000Z | r4zwfw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Procrasti-nation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4zwfw/procrastination/ |
fuze9000 | So I've been on Vyvanse for about 2 months now, slowly increasing with my doctor to find my right dose since I haven't had any side effects and I'm kind of a bigger dude (6'1 ~230lbs). I've had the appetite reduction which is good since I'm losing weight, I've had the insomnia which is bad since I'm a student.
Recently though I've been getting nauseous, and I think it's because I've been having it early in the morning before I eat anything. Has anyone else experienced this? Did your doctors advise you to eat before consuming Vyvanse or any other adhd med?
TLDR: Vyvanse makes me nauseous when I have it on empty stomach | 2021-11-29T16:45:27.000Z | r4zwcz | 3 | 1 | ADHD | A surprising side effect of Vyvanse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4zwcz/a_surprising_side_effect_of_vyvanse/ |
Pearlifactaion | On February 9th, 2019.
Just as the pandemic started here in the U.S. and the day after my birthday I got a concussion for the dumbest fucking reason.
I left the birthday cake from last night's party at a Drag show with friends in trunk of my car cause it was 20 some odd degrees outside and had more space than my fridge.
I wanted to indulge in my inner fat kid and have a slice of the raspberry chocolate birthday cake for breakfast. I went downstairs got the hatch back of my trunk open, but for some reason the pistons didn't work properly in that moment and after lifting the door up over my head I let go and it started to slowly move back down without me realizing it. As I lean forward to pick up the cake box, the door comes down at the same speed and the top of my head makes contact with the solid metal buckle that latches the trunk door. I didn't hit it hard enough to welt, I didn't pass out, it only left a red line for a mars and made me feel a bad sting in my scalp. I curse a bit at the misfortune and grab my cake box before heading back upstairs to my apartment.
Nothing seems out of the ordinary, but I feel tired as I'm eating my slice of cake and getting ready for work, but I just think that it's because I was up till 2am having fun and I just didn't get enough sleep that night.
I get to work early to buy some energy drinks, getting 2 for $5 cause the sale is worth it and I can drink the other the next day... But I drink both... Cause I'm so freaking tired I feel like I'm gonna pass out.
Neither of them work, I still feel physically and mentally exhausted. Then the dizziness hits and that's when I start to realize something was very very wrong.
I get myself to the hospital cause I wasn't about to wait for an ambulance and the place was only one road away, no turns needed.
I get their safely.
I get a confirmation by the doctor that I have a mild concussion, and that it should get better within 1-2 weeks. I think that's not too bad, but.. after two weeks it is so much worse and I start to worry. I find out that I got the 35% chance of having a prolonged concussion, despite me only having a minor one.
I couldn't work for 6 month, my physical therapist helped me through it and that's all I felt like I had the energy to do, practice my physical therapy, attempt to clean then stop when I got dizzy. Go for short slow walks till I got dizzy, then lay in bed most of the time feeling heavy brain fog and sometimes experiences actually paralysis, both mentally and physically. (Luckily only for super short periods of time and only when my head injury was stimulated.)
After six months I got a part time desk job at the health department and was able to save myself from homelessness. It's obviously been a while, but I have come to realize that I am not able to function the way I use to, it feels like everything is such a heavy mental struggle to get through, I get into ADHD paralysis a hell of a lot more, I'm more indecisive, my home is becoming a dragons hord of Doom piles, my dishes are two doom piles on their own and I maybe only have like.. less then a dozen that are clean right now, even though I've try to get all go this clean, I feel like my brain is just fighting with me constantly and I get hardly anything done or just make things worse. I do my laundry out of shear worry that I'm not gonna have enough clothing for work.
My life has become a complete and utter mess and overwhelms me every moment I wake up to see it.
I'm mentally exhausted all the time, getting way more headaches than I use to and they're not because of the concussion, I'm talking the ADHD headaches, you know the ones.
I forget to drink water a lot more than I use to, I feel like my focusing stamina has been decreased all the way back to when I was a kid.
I have started to talk to my therapist about all of this and at first I thought my mental health was disrupted by my concussion due to the fact that it made my emotional state far more volatile than before, but I made a full recovery, so what is going on that makes me feel like I've lost control of my life and it's gradually spiraling into disarray.
It wasn't my depression even though I feel more depressed over this shit, it wasn't my bipolar disorder even though I feel like an emotional wreck, it wasn't my anxiety even though I was experiencing more of it due to my environment and situations in life. It wasn't my PTSD even though I was getting triggered more easily after the concussion, but it slowed down after my brain settled again after treatment.
I started checking out ADHD TikTok on YouTube after seeing that guy that started calling ADHD D.A.V.E. (which I liked a lot better) then I started seeing a lot of connections, I had distanted myself so much for so long from ADHD, because I thought all the other mental health illnesses that I had carried for so many years were actually the main problem, when now I could see that ADHD was one of the focal issues of my mental health and it's stability, but there was one major problem.
I felt like something was seriously off, something seemed drastically different and now for the first time I could actually see what it was.
My ADHD symptoms had gotten worse, a lot worse. I had a good handle on them for the 13 years of being unmedicated for them, I learned how to handle my brain, but now I was faced with a drastic and almost monstrous change, the symptoms became overwhelming, my controller has diminished so much that I feel like I can barely make my life function, my attention has gotten much worse, I'm stimming five time more than I use to, my brain is a hurricane of everything possible and nothing at all, ideas don't stick around as much, I can't even get ahold of them like I use to in time to write them down.
It's not only aggravating but it's also becoming debilitating, I feel like I can barely function and it's all compounding my other mental health issues and making them worse too. I don't want to treat all of them at one, but ADHD was always my first and foremost issue. I was diagnosed somewhere between the ages of 4-5, it has been a part of my whole life, as long as I can remember.
So now that it's like this, I've spoken to my therapist about seeking someone to prescribe me ADHD medication.. they acknowledge that I have had a diagnosis for ADHD as a child, but now they want me to be reevaluated as an adult as if they need to confirm that I actually still have ADHD and this isn't just something else. I understand the paper trails are kind of necessary in the medical and mental health field, but still. Now I have to wait almost a full year just before I can be seen by a neuropsychologist just so I can have confirmed what I already know is a fact and has never changed, just gotten worse.
For the first time in 13 years I actually feel like I need the assistants of medication, even though it aggravates me that I need that kind of help, but i can't let my emotions and shame get in the way of making actually positive change to help me overcome the ADHD demon that possesses my body and makes it so hard to gain control and be a responsible and fully functional adult.
I'm 33 now and go the first time I feel like my ADHD has gotten to the point that it feels like it's preventing me from being in control of my life, it feels like an actual disability now, not just something I have to work around when it's being a little extra. There's a wall I have to climb every single day and it's exhausting. I live alone so I have no one here that can help me be accountable, I want to invite someone over to help me so I can clean and body double, but I'm so ashamed of my living situation and the state of my place that it prevents me from doing that. It doesn't help that the only friend I had here that understood and also has ADHD has moved away and couldn't even come over anyways cause they're at risk from COVID.
I'm getting to the point that I'm willing to hire a cleaner to come over and help me clean for a couple hours a month, but I also don't have the money for that either.
There's no support groups here in my area for people with ADHD and I'm feeling like I'm inches away from the edge of the deep end.
It took so long to climb my ass out of that pit and now I might be falling right back into it.
I know that this is a lot and in a lot of ways I feel like I'm just emotionally dumping on all of you. It makes me feels selfish and inconsiderate, but deep down I know that being able to talk about my troubles to others and utilizing the tools I have to have outreach to others that might understand me is a selfish act, but I have every right and reason to be selfish when it comes to my mental health. I should do the right thing and seek the help I need and talk to others that might have similar experiences and possibly answers.
It's self care.
I don't know when I'll be able to get the assistance I actually need, but I'm hoping it's possible for me to at the very least keep myself from going over the edge into darkness till I can at least get my first does.
I shouldn't have neglected this part of me for so long just because of the stigma and lack and health insurance. Even if it would have put me into Dept, I should have still tried.
I still need to have all of this confirmed by a specialist, but I've had to live with this mess for most my life and now that I'm noticing a hug drastic difference between before and after my concussion, it only makes sense that getting a bad bonk on the head has led to my already differently wired brain to get shaken up and have a few thing come loose and start to act up.
I hope I can get things worked out.. Sooner rather than later. | 2021-11-29T16:43:23.000Z | r4zups | 1 | 1 | ADHD | The possible affects of a Concussion on my ADHD brain. (My story.) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4zups/the_possible_affects_of_a_concussion_on_my_adhd/ |
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Nacho_Cheese_17 | In my childhood i was diagnosed with PDD-NOS. Basically its a waste-bin saying: yes you do belong on the spectrum we just don’t know where. This got a new name a few years ago and now its called ASS. Yupe, it’s fun explaining that.
I’ve had medication for this. These came with a lot of side effects. Which is why after two years i stopped using them.
Ever since I’ve struggled a lot with my mental condition. Sometimes it goes well for months. But it can also go horrible for months.
They won’t give me medication that is more generally used to manage ADHD, because I’m not diagnosed with it.
I know that for some people medication really helps, for others it doesn’t. I’m just wondering what you guys would do in my situation. For reference, im 21 years old. I got my driving license. (They make u pay another 800 bucks if you have ADHD) so i don’t think a label would bother me much at the moment. | 2021-11-29T16:32:15.000Z | r4zlwx | 8 | 2 | ADHD | Is a diagnosis worth it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4zlwx/is_a_diagnosis_worth_it/ |
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45and290 | I kept ducking a simple task for the past month. I know it’s there. It’s simple, but I couldn’t even start it. I finally completed it yesterday and emailed it off. Early this morning I get a reply with a simple follow up question. I started to reply and then stopped myself.
“If the person I’m talking to knows I’m a procrastinator, then I must delay my reply, even though I can totally do it in 30 seconds.”
That’s what my brain told me. I hate it. | 2021-11-29T16:15:50.000Z | r4z8w6 | 2 | 8 | ADHD | Am I now faking procrastination because I think someone else is expecting it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4z8w6/am_i_now_faking_procrastination_because_i_think/ |
addhalive | Hello :))
Lately I can't hyperfocus on anything. I have so much things I have to do but also things I really want to do, that I'm normally passionate about. But everything I try to start seems too boring, not stimulating enough. Even watching a movie or a show annoys me very quickly.
It's so frustrating because for the first time in years I have the time to pursue my hobbies or to try new ones but I just can't. I just watch my to do list all day trying to motivate myself. I end up stressing all day about everything I didn't manage to do.
Normally I get days like this but also other days where I hyperfocus (not often on "useful" things but I least I do some thing). Do others have longer phases like this ? | 2021-11-29T16:13:49.000Z | r4z7c3 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Lately I can't do anything | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4z7c3/lately_i_cant_do_anything/ |
godpeac-3- | Sorry for the clickbait, but I thought I'd use other people's experiences to finally take control of my life.
I hate the direction my life has taken right now. I'm living with a roommate I can't stand and work a job that I absolutely hate. Unfortunately, in order to live the life I want, I must run the rat race. I choose not to take medicine because I don't want to be reliant on it, so I go about more natural methods like following a quite strict and structured schedule, meditation, yoga, things of the such.
Since my executive function is so jacked, what are some things you've done to force the issue in order to live the life you've come to love?
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tl;dr: A bunch of decisions have me in complete distress and my living and occupational situation aren't making it any better. What have you done to drastically change your life to live on your own terms? | 2021-11-29T16:13:24.000Z | r4z709 | 8 | 0 | ADHD | I Hate My Life | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4z709/i_hate_my_life/ |
meubem | I lose my debit/cc/DL almost every time I needed to use it. I’ve found my cards in the laundry bin, inside the washing machine, in my car, in my mom’s purse, in my own purse (didn’t think to look where it belonged and assumed it was lost for good), in my partner’s wallet, at Target, under the driver seat, under the passenger’s seat, in a drawer, under my bed, and lastly in the fridge.
Thankfully I didn’t need to replace any card this year (but I did come close to reordering my driver’s license).
r/ADHD peeps, how often and where did you lose your stuff this year? | 2021-11-29T16:11:41.000Z | r4z5ns | 31 | 14 | ADHD | ADHD year in review: how many times did you lose your card(s) this year? | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4z5ns/adhd_year_in_review_how_many_times_did_you_lose/ |
throwaway_thursday32 | Sorry it's a little long, there is a little bit of storytime in there. But the title says it all.
I (33F) and my SO (36M) have extensive family and friends. We both have ADHD. We travelled a lot (before COVID) and so did our loved ones, so everyone is all around the world (literally... a good quarter of my step family live in Australia and we live in Western Europe. Noone currently lives in our country).
I always had bad social anxiety and kept too much to myself because I was too ashamed of forgetting things/people, masking my ADHD so much I didn't talk much and generally acting like a careless individual (even though I think and stress about people daily lol, you know the drift). I want to change that and that starts with... keeping in touch with people. Me and my SO *suuuck* at it. We are fortunate to have very understanding relatives... but the lack of connexion is weighting on us. Plus now that there is a lot of little ones in the family/friend group, I am scared that if we keep this up, we won't be part of their lives and only be remembered as the mysterious uncle and aunt that visit once a year but don't feel like family. And I am pregnant so I am also thinking about our future child's social life and what kind of exemple we'll give (especially as he may also have ADHD, as we learned after our recent diagnosis).
Recent hair-pulling exemple: I am shy of 3 months pregnant and me and my SO struggled to remember to even *announce* it; we wanted to make a cute digital card to send to people via mails and whatsapp. Just a photo and text over it, guys. The only reason we managed to send it was because I stressed so much about it as to not forget and I kept reminding SO, who is even more forgetful about these things (but I am more forgetful on other things so we even out? *\*sigh\**). Of course post-its, alarms and *rewriting the reminder* *everyday* *on my agenda* didn't speed up the process... ho and we still didn't send it to everyone!! People wondered why we waited so long to tell them. "We forgot for 3 weeks straight" is starting to sound stupid (even though it's the honest truth *\*sigh\**).
Christmas is coming and we won't be able to travel much, so I want to send gifts, cards and video messages. I want to keep regular contact for the years to come.
what I've done so far to help the process:
* putting important dates in my agenda and in my phone (doesn't help much)
* keep a shared doc of gift ideas I gathered from talking to people/going shopping
* buy some gifts I know I want to give *in advance* (epic fail when those were foods...) as well as packaging (epic fail when it turns into hyperfocus... I looked at wax seal stamps and cute enveloppes yesterday guys, send help) + having a designed space to store them.
* stopped making so much DIY gifts and cards (I rarely finish them)
* sometimes I give gifts whenever, as to do it right away instead of forgetting at the due date
* if traveling is in stock, organise everything when I hyperfocus on it (usually right after the decision) and keep the buying of tickets to my SO once the visit is confirmed by relatives (he stresses over transportation and I don't... wtf are our brains, people...)
* one single app to share pics of little ones in the family so we never miss out on the kids's events and they won't miss ours's (as long as we take and send the pics lol)
I wish I had a virtual assistant who would do the buying, packaging and sending in my stead so I would have a fighting chance at success *\*sigh\**. Do you have tips? For people living in Europe, do you know of useful apps or services that helped you? | 2021-11-29T16:10:31.000Z | r4z4qg | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How do you keep up with relationships maintenance? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4z4qg/how_do_you_keep_up_with_relationships_maintenance/ |
OkBoat | Did any of your fixations stick around? If so, what? And why do you think this one stayed, and how do you feel about it?
Personally I had about a month and a half where I was obsessed with hiking. I talked about all the places I wanted to go and loved the idea of hiking the AT but after that was gone I just...kept doing it! It was relaxing and fun and a good workout and I'm so happy I could keep up with it. | 2021-11-29T16:06:35.000Z | r4z1ib | 27 | 4 | ADHD | What hyperfixation stuck around? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4z1ib/what_hyperfixation_stuck_around/ |
_SheDreamsInRed_ | When I'm trying to concentrate, I listen to a lot of movie scores (I'm obsessed with the Dune score right now) and also a lot of metal (particularly instrumental metal like Animals as Leaders). I was curious if any of you use music to help with your ADD like I do, and if so, what do you listen to?
I have Spotify, Pandora, and YouTube. I would love to hear your playlists. | 2021-11-29T16:06:04.000Z | r4z13q | 16 | 4 | ADHD | Music is my biggest inspiration. What are some Spotify playlists or artists you listen to to help you concentrate at work/school? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4z13q/music_is_my_biggest_inspiration_what_are_some/ |
6ftm | I know some people have it much worse and I'm not complaining about that but to be referred by my GP and then get told it's a 2.5 year wait to be seen by a specialist or £1000 to go private just sucks especially after finally building up to actually speak about it with someone
Not needing anything just wanting to moan more than anything | 2021-11-29T16:02:09.000Z | r4yxya | 1 | 1 | ADHD | 2 and a half year wait | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4yxya/2_and_a_half_year_wait/ |
BrandosSmolder | Instinctually, when I need to focus -- whether that be on writing a work report or writing a text -- when sitting down I always have to rock back and forth, as if I'm on a porch swing. If others are around, I can contain it but it's harder for me to focus without doing it. Sometimes I'm anxious when I do it but often times I'm fine and am just trying to hone in.
I've done this my whole life and am now in my 30s. It's never been much of an issue. I work from home now and before I worked at a startup where this would have just been seen as eccentric.
But I wonder if anyone else does this and if there's any reason behind it. | 2021-11-29T16:01:26.000Z | r4yxe5 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | I rock like a metronome anytime I need to focus and am unsure of why. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4yxe5/i_rock_like_a_metronome_anytime_i_need_to_focus/ |
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The_Emperor_D | Diagnosed with ADHD last March and started on 30mg of Vyvanse. This was upped to 40mg within 6 weeks and I was doing well on this dosage for a while.
Starting in September, work/life stresses started to push through and I found myself getting really depressed and irritable some days. I was experiencing feelings that I never had felt before. After talking with my wife and parents, they suggested it could be my medication. I did my research and saw that many people were experiencing the same mood changes I was and that it was a side effect of Vyvanse.
Just talked with my doctor and they said that seeing side effects this late when I didn't have them back in April is very uncommon. I told him that I was stopped taking my medication to see if it would change my mood. So far, I see a difference and am able to sleep much better, so we decided to not take my medication for a week to see if there was a major difference.
Has anyone had this experience? If so, did you switch to another medication and did that one help more or less? | 2021-11-29T15:57:44.000Z | r4yu8w | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse and side effects? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4yu8w/vyvanse_and_side_effects/ |
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Due_Independent4457 | I scheduled my first adhd consultation for two weeks from now. My therapist tried to refer me to a psychiatrist but they were booked until next year so she recommended i call my doctor-which i did. However, i know some issues specifically require a psychiatrist to be diagnosed. Is adhd one of those? Am I expecting too much of my doc if im hoping he would be able to diagnose me? Or am i just going to get referred to someone else? | 2021-11-29T15:53:59.000Z | r4yrei | 4 | 2 | ADHD | What kind of help can I expect from my pcp? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4yrei/what_kind_of_help_can_i_expect_from_my_pcp/ |
jillianbrodsky | And no, I’m not talking about the psychological or physiological costs, though those certainly exists. I more mean the literal monetary cost. Because while things like SSI and SSDI exists, I feel like they don’t really factor in a ton of other stuff like
•Washing your hands, blowing your nose, and using lip balm way too often, due to sensory issues, and therefore spending a lot more money on soap, tissues, lip balm, and moisturizers
•Not having the energy to make anything to eat, so it’s either order takeout or starve
•Having to buy certain products or clothing due to sensory issues, which are often times more expensive
•Having to buy some sort of electronics for the sake of noise-cancelling or noise-reducing because you can’t focus and have noise coming from all directions (especially if you live in a small apartment near a bunch of loud people or loud outside noises like trains, bc that’s all you can afford, and you’d love to live somewhere else but you just can’t)
•Having to spend so much more on organizational stuff so you can be functional
And that’s not even mentioning the fact that certain places to live can make seasonal depression worse, which exacerbates a lot of other symptoms, which makes everything worse. But not being able to afford living anywhere else.
And I know there are things I can individually do to help some of that, but it still doesn’t change the fact that for my paychecks I have to dedicate so much more for things I can’t really help. Like am I predetermined to fail because it costs me more on average just to function and live?
And I know that not everyone on this sub deals with everything I stated, since I also have GAD, severe depression, and ASD, but I feel like due to comorbidity with ADHD, some of you can relate.
Anyway, this was just a rant because I’m so Tired. | 2021-11-29T15:53:27.000Z | r4yr0o | 1 | 14 | ADHD | I feel like people underestimate the cost of living with mental illnesses | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4yr0o/i_feel_like_people_underestimate_the_cost_of/ |
SlumpedShoob | Do you guys have any tips to kinda limit the come down of adderall? I feel really depressed the next day and overall just don’t feel myself. Do you guys find working out helps?
There was one time where I didn’t show up to any of my classes and called off from work for the first time in forever.
I guess it just kinda sucks that I feel on top of the world when taking it and then the next day I don’t even know who I am.
At least I’m able to get things done though, right? This is the only way I’m able to get my course work done and be productive at work. | 2021-11-29T15:49:46.000Z | r4yo9r | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Reducing the symptoms of crash from adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4yo9r/reducing_the_symptoms_of_crash_from_adderall/ |
SeteDiSangue | Just spent 1K on suits instead of writing my law school admissions essays over break. My brain was convinced we need suits for our future law career… and not the admissions essays.
Thank god I called my mom this morning to ask which $700 apple watch I need to match my non-existent jewelry that I ‘need’ because a few people on the internet said it helped their ADHD.
Why am i like this. | 2021-11-29T15:48:31.000Z | r4ynbl | 184 | 725 | ADHD | Avoidant Impulse Buyer | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4ynbl/avoidant_impulse_buyer/ |
ScawedyCat | I think I may have adhd, but it seems like I won’t get a chance to ge assessed any time soon. (My mom thinks adhd exists, she just doesn’t think /i/ have it) So for all intents and purposes, I will assume I do and try to deal with it on my own.
I’ve tried schedules and alarms but they haven’t worked much. The only thing that has helped has been my mom being on top of things, reminding me of appointments and things i have to do. I think it’s not ideal considering my age, so I’m trying to find other ways to deal with it.
I wanted to know from people who have managed their adhd unmedicated, how did you do it? What helped you the most? | 2021-11-29T15:47:07.000Z | r4ym9y | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Dealing with with adhd unmedicated | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4ym9y/dealing_with_with_adhd_unmedicated/ |
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Deer-Ugly-0122 | hello, this is my first post here so i hope i'm doing it right... sorry for any weird wording, english isn't my native language.
so, im 23 and a woman (in case that's relevant), i heavily hyperfixate on friends/crushes, and i guess i'm looking for help/advice because fixating on my friends also means i might just lose interest on them one day and that's terrifying and unfair on them, i don't want to hurt them and i don't want to stop feeling the way i feel for them while i'm hyperfixated but it all feels like a bubble that could pop at any time and mess everything up but i dont know if i'm exaggerating or what. i guess i'm scared and feel like my own emotions are unreliable...
so i guess my questions are... does anyone struggle with something similar? if you hyperfixate on friends/partners, what happens when the hyperfixation stops/changes? have you dated someone you were hyperfixated on? how did it go? how long has been the longest time you've been hyperfixated?
i guess i'm just looking for other people's experiences on this very specific subject
and i hope someone will answer because i feel lost and broken
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here's more context/depth to what i mean, it's long and tedious and more of a rant/vent than anything else, i am sorry:
this is all specifically in relation to my best friend who i am hyperfixating AND crushing on, we've been friends for 2 years and i've been crushing since the begining, i know it's not a very long friendship but it's been so intense emotionally, never felt this strong about someone before so it's all very intimidating, specially now that i know i have adhd, idk what came first, the crush or the hyperfixation, maybe both, i don't know.
i feel like my emotions and feelings are unreliable, egoist and unfair, i feel like i can't trust myself, bc what if im not crushing?, what if im just hyperfixating really bad and maybe tomorrow it will all end?, what if i confess and then my feelings go away?, that's the reason why i haven't confessed even though right now i feel like i want to spend the rest of my life with them, help them with all of their health issues (they're disabled), assist them in everything i can, i wish i could straight up devote my life to them, they deserve someone who will do all those things for them, but what if my feelings are that strong just bc of hyperfixation? if i hyperfixate on another friend, will all these feelings just... go away? i hate myself for believing in the possibility of my feelings just changing one day because my adhd just decided to focus on someone else and all of this i feel rn will be gone.
i feel like an asshole, it isn't that they're unlovable or not a good person, it's that my brain doesn't work the way i wish it would and i can't trust it.
they have told me they often think about how i will stop hyperfixating on them some day and i'll "see" that they're not everything i think of them bc they don't offer anything to the friendship we have, even though i have never felt the way i feel about them with someone else, they are always there to help me, they've done so much good for my mental health (most other friends i've had did the opposite lol), they are the biggest support i have probably ever had and they always keep the conversation going, very important point bc i love talking but i'm super bad at keeping up conversations, i always want to talk but most of the time i don't know what to say, but with them, there's always something to talk about, and i feel like i'm the best version of myself because we are friends, my life would be so much different (in a negative way) if we hadn't met... if something most of the time i feel like i'm the one who's not offering enough in this frienship. but are my emotions real and valid?
you might have noticed that i feel like being hyperfixated isn't a valid way to love someone, maybe i'm wrong, maybe i'm right, i don't know... this is all very new to me.
I also struggle a lot with imposter syndrome, not only in "competitive" enviroments like work/collegue, i always feel like everyone think a lot better about me than i deserve and than i am. i stress over my friends and family realizing just how big of a fraud i am. i feel like all my feelings are a lie and i'm just going to end up hurting those around me and they don't deserve that, and i don't deserve them. so i think that bleeds into my relationship with having hyperfixations too.
my best friend thinks i only like them so much because i'm hyperfixated on them, and that validates my fear that it's all fake and my brain is making me belive i love them when in reality i only have an hyperfixation, i hate that my friends have to think about stuff like that because of the way my brain works. it's not fair on them.
i just want to apologize to them because they dont deserve any of this.
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Maybe im making a big problem out of something really simple, i don't know, emotions are very hard and i guess im just having a rough time.
i hate hyperfixating on peope because it makes everything harder and i dont know how to handle or navigate my emotions and im tired and sad that i can't trust my brain with my own feelings because they can be so erratic. i just want a little bit of concistency and i want to stop going to bed at night crying over stuff like this, i dont even know if this will make sense to someone else or if its just a mess with no real meaning. i just want to have feelings that i can trust. | 2021-11-29T15:37:51.000Z | r4yfq6 | 7 | 4 | ADHD | need help regarding hyperfixating on friends? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4yfq6/need_help_regarding_hyperfixating_on_friends/ |
dathomar | Tl;dr - How can I deal with snack/caffeine cravings when my meds wear off at night?
I'm working with my doctor, trying different meds. I was on Bupropion for a number of years, but lately it just sort of stopped working as well. I tried Strattera a few years ago, and it didn't really work. More recently, I tried Ritalin (did nothing) and Adderall (did a bit, but not much). Now I'm trying Vyvanse 60 mg and it actually seems to be working.
I don't know what the "surge of productivity" is supposed to feel like. That said, my brain will start to head down the well-worn paths and I can almost physically feel my executive function kicking in. I think, "I want to play video games," but then my brain goes, "No, I need to do the dishes," and bam, I want to do the dishes and go do them. I get that feeling of satisfaction from having done something. I take the last piece of candy from the bag and think about throwing the bag away. My brain is like, "Nope. Nope. Nopenopenopenope." Then, my executive function says, "Actually, it's not that hard to ball it up and throw it in the garbage can. You're walking past it anyway." I go and throw my garbage away.
I would drink caffeinated beverages, pretty consistently, throughout the day. I hate the taste of coffee, so it's been tea and soda throughout my life (like, several liters a day). I tried going without, cold turkey, and I couldn't function at all. I also have tended to snack a lot. Packet of saltines? Gone in one sitting. Can of olives? Gone in one sitting. I can make a box of triscuits or a family sized bag of chips stretch to two or three snack times. Cheese doesn't stand a chance.
Since starting my current meds, those cravings have, pretty much, disappeared. If I go the whole day without getting something sugary and caffeinated, it's okay. I actually drink water, now. I don't snack at all. I've lost weight. It's great.
Around 6:30 to 8 pm, my meds start to wear off. It's fine - I try to do most of what I need to do during the day and just collapse into video games at night. Getting off the phone to help get my kid ready for bed is a struggle, but I'm getting it done. However, my "don't drink caffeine" streak ends. I start guzzling the sugary drinks. I make myself a huge plate of nachos, even though I definitely had enough for dinner. Is this just something that I'm going to have to live with? Are there some good strategies, out there, for dealing with this? I'd like to, at least, cut out the caffeine (mostly because of the sugar that comes with it). | 2021-11-29T15:34:11.000Z | r4yd0v | 8 | 4 | ADHD | Avoiding snacks/caffeine when my meds wear off. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4yd0v/avoiding_snackscaffeine_when_my_meds_wear_off/ |
CaptainFlood | What are some tips you have for keeping on top of healthy habits and new hobbies? I've tried to get into drawing for years but I never stick with it. I know its flawed logic but I hate not being perfect at something when I first start it. My brain is aware that I need practice in order to improve but I can't get past the idea that if I'm not prefect, then there's no point. Minor inconveniences are like mountains. Is this something I just need to brute force myself into doing or is there a gentler way of going about it? I'm on Strattera right now but the main thing I get out of it is being able to focus in class. | 2021-11-29T15:30:17.000Z | r4ya65 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Sticking with habits/hobbies | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4ya65/sticking_with_habitshobbies/ |
ShadowlightLady | The first semester is coming to an end and I’m failing half my classes. The more important ones algebra, chemistry, history, and English. I’m doing geometry again because I failed last semester at least I’m passing it this time. I refuse to look at my grades because they hurt me. I know I shouldn’t use my phone because it will distract me but it’s the only relief I have in this hellfest. Even when I stay after or before school I still barely manage to finish one thing. My mom won’t let me on medication again because she’s worried I’ll get addicted I’m a teenager and the effects they had on me couldn’t possibly make me addicted to them. I keep forgetting some things in algebra and I can barely remember when doing a test. Chemistry is so boring I can’t focus on it all I often fell asleep during the class. When we’re not doing cool chemical projects it’s just like math but with science. I was never good at English I always had a bad grade in it. There’s so much work I’m missing from history it was just one missing work until it turned into a huge pile. I don’t want to fail and I don’t know what else to do to help myself. What should I do? | 2021-11-29T15:27:05.000Z | r4y7op | 2 | 5 | ADHD | I’m behind on my school work and I’m losing hope. Help | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4y7op/im_behind_on_my_school_work_and_im_losing_hope/ |
_C4_ActhaupYT | Whatever I do, I cant stop throwing stuff. I remember when I was in middle school, (before I started taking my meds) I thought it was funny to throw a water bottle into a crowd.(because why not **¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯** ) It ended up hitting someone and I got suspended for 3 days, :( Still to this day even when I'm NOT on the meds, I still feel like throwing stuff, not at random people, but if I'm with my friends I think its funny to throw random shit. Like one time I threw a waffle fry from chick fil a at the back of my friends head for no reason lmao. They say its getting annoying as fuck and I'm trying to stop but I genially cant. But anyways how do I manage this and stop?(I take Adderall xr not sure if its important in this situation) (P.S Im not throwing out of anger) | 2021-11-29T15:24:11.000Z | r4y5id | 4 | 3 | ADHD | How do I manage this? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4y5id/how_do_i_manage_this/ |
4myownbad | So I was diagnosed recently - this past summer. And everything I’ve struggled with my whole life finally makes sense. One of the major ones for me is overstimulation to certain noises. I really have a hard time with repetitive, grating sounds when I’m trying to concentrate on something else. Typically, it’s someone’s loud chewing when I’m watching a movie or something.
But I had an experience last night when I was flying home. Normally, I’m prepared to deal with busy environments of people and I’m not bothered. I actually like it. But it’s when people cross the line into behaviour that I’m not mentally prepared for because it’s…just not the courteous thing to do. We were stuck on the tarmac for 4 hours waiting to take off, which was already rough. My mom and I were also moved to the back of the plane next to the bathroom, so I had people constantly standing right next to me. Then this man in front of me on the plane starts playing Netflix out loud on his phone and it drove me into sensory overload. It really upset me and my mom didn’t understand why I couldn’t just ignore it.
I don’t know what I should have done, because in these situations I’m literally in tears because it’s so grating and overwhelming for me. I tried listening to music with my headphones but I could still hear his movie. I know most people would be annoyed, but still be able to ignore it. But I can’t, it’s like it’s all I can focus on. Has anyone else had a similar experience? I wish I wasn’t like this, and as much as I try to work on it, 4 hours in a small space with all these people really pushed me to the edge.
Anyways, I don’t know what I’m asking here besides if anyone can relate and what they would have done or what they usually do in these situations? | 2021-11-29T15:19:53.000Z | r4y2bs | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Dealing with auditory overload / hypersensitivity | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4y2bs/dealing_with_auditory_overload_hypersensitivity/ |
Mother-Mayhem | Hi everyone! I am 49 years old and just got diagnosed with ADHD two months ago! I am slightly butthurt over something and would love some thoughts.
Let me clarify that I understand it was the holidays and I don't expect therapists to hold my hand or not have a life, but something happened last week that slightly irritated me and I may need a tough love "get over yourself" moment so here goes....
Most of my tele-therapy appointments are at 8 or 9am. Last Monday (11/22), it was 7am. I'm usually pretty good about knowing and keeping appointments but this last appointment, my brain kept telling me it was at 8am. When I was logging on at 7:45am, my computer was giving me problems so I texted my therapist to say as such. When I finally got on, I saw that the appointment was at 7am. I immediately texted, "oh shit...I'm sorry. I thought my appointment was at 8am". This is what bothers me....in that hour between my appointment time and when I realized my error, I got no message from her and even with my sending the text and an email sent a few days later apologizing to her again, she's made no effort to reach out to me. Now, before anyone flames me, I know I messed up but I think if I was a therapist, I would have at least reached out and asked if things were ok.
Am I being too sensitive? | 2021-11-29T15:18:28.000Z | r4y1ag | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Therapist Question | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4y1ag/therapist_question/ |
badoomz398 | Hi everybody,
so I am 23 years old and have a diagnosis appointment next week with a specialist for adult ADHD. She told me we will do an IQ test as well and I am not sure what the result is gonna be used for. I am afraid I will hear a sentence like "No way you can have ADHD while doing so well on IQ tests!", since I was always labeled "the smart kid" and know I usually do really well on IQ tests and stuff like that.
I am probably just being unnecessarily nervous right now, but has any of you had an IQ test in ADHD testing and tell me what that is about? | 2021-11-29T15:18:13.000Z | r4y13t | 33 | 34 | ADHD | ADHD and IQ | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4y13t/adhd_and_iq/ |
Due_Independent4457 | After almost 20 years i finally scheduled a consultation with my pcp. There’s a lot of symptoms and patterns that strongly affect my day-to-day life. But instead of being excited, im just increasingly nervous that it’s going to be a waste of time and im just making up my symptoms- that all the things im struggling with are normal and im just not trying hard enough to commit to things. Is this common? Anyone else feel this way pre-diagnosis? | 2021-11-29T15:15:18.000Z | r4xyz2 | 72 | 262 | ADHD | What if it’s not adhd and im just looking for an excuse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xyz2/what_if_its_not_adhd_and_im_just_looking_for_an/ |
MenuTime5231 | It feels so foreign to me to "take time" for myself or "treat myself". I spend a lot of time focused on others and taking care of others but as my wife said "Who is going to take care of you?"
For me to take time to myself would be taking a month off of work and just coming back when I felt like I wanted to vs having to. That's not entirely feasible to do.
I feel my inability to understand how to truly take care of myself or take proper time for myself holds me back. As a husband and employee I feel I've given myself to a higher purpose than just my needs. I'd really like help figuring it out | 2021-11-29T15:13:19.000Z | r4xxkx | 9 | 2 | ADHD | What does taking time for yourself or treating yourself really mean? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xxkx/what_does_taking_time_for_yourself_or_treating/ |
newarre | My doctor is charging me for every Adderall refill, ever 30 days. The process is 100% online. I go in to the patient portal and click the request refill button next to my prescription and usual within a few hours I get notified it was approved. Then I get a bill. It's a $30 copay every 30 days, that's about $360 a year. That's on top of the cost for the actual medicine. I have insurance, but still, this seems crazy for what probably takes my doctor a few mouse clicks. Is this normal / common? I'm in the US. | 2021-11-29T15:10:11.000Z | r4xvd9 | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Doc charges for every refill, every 30 days. Is this normal? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xvd9/doc_charges_for_every_refill_every_30_days_is/ |
KingSamiSwag | I happen to have a severe case of ADHD and at the same time a severe case of “I’m shit at art syndrome” :). I’m just wondering if these 2 are related since people with ADHD don’t pay attention to details… Does this happen to anyone else?? I keep getting lectured by my teacher that I need to put in more effort and slow down, when I literally have no imagination, or pay the closest attention to details… | 2021-11-29T15:07:47.000Z | r4xtl2 | 59 | 10 | ADHD | Do people with ADHD suck at art?? | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xtl2/do_people_with_adhd_suck_at_art/ |
NoNecessary1121 | my room is DISGUSTING. and i just can’t clean it. this whole entire year i’ve been trying SINCE 2020 i’ve been fucking trying and i succeeded a few times but then it just gets messy again within a few weeks.
i need my room to be clean and i just can’t clean it and i really don’t want to enter the new year with a messy room and i want my room to be clean before christmas and i tried that last year but it was messy for christmas and the new year so i really just don’t want that again | 2021-11-29T15:06:09.000Z | r4xseb | 19 | 17 | ADHD | i cannot for the life of me clean my room!! | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xseb/i_cannot_for_the_life_of_me_clean_my_room/ |
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Bigblack2402 | I (19M) just got diagnosed and got my script. I take it 3 times a week for school and study only. Ever since I started taking it I’ve been waking up at 5 am every morning regardless of if I took my medication the previous day. Is this normal and just me getting adjusted or is this a persistent side effect I’m gonna have get accustomed to? | 2021-11-29T15:03:11.000Z | r4xq43 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adderal and sleep | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xq43/adderal_and_sleep/ |
Sprinklesarelife | Are mondays more difficult for you bc of the adhd? I feel like they’re worse for me than some of my friends and coworkers. Getting my brain back on track takes like all day even though I prepare myself on Sunday. Once I get through Monday the rest of the week is so much easier for me! Productive, less scatterbrained, and less distracted.
Anyone have any advice on how to make mondays more productive? | 2021-11-29T15:02:16.000Z | r4xpfi | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Mondays more difficult bc of adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xpfi/mondays_more_difficult_bc_of_adhd/ |
cattttrannn | I'm so fucking mad at myself. I literally had all of Thanksgiving break to study and prepare for this quiz. I literally sat around doing NOTHING all day yesterday and then didn't even start studying until TWO FUCKING AM. What the hell is actually wrong with me? I kept hyperfocusing on all of the things I didn't need to hyperfocus on and for some god awful reason I literally could not study until it was too late. I literally dropped a class a few weeks ago so I could focus just on this one class and get my new ADHD diagnosis figured out but I literally feel like I have made NO progress.
I'm on medication #2 and I really don't even know what I'm supposed to feel like when I'm on it and I'm not even sure if it's even working a little bit. Last week I was able to get some stuff done like my laundry and dishes that had been sitting around for 2 months, but now I'm not even sure what the fuck I'm supposed to be feeling. | 2021-11-29T15:00:25.000Z | r4xnwi | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just failed a quiz. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xnwi/i_just_failed_a_quiz/ |
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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-29T14:57:26.000Z | r4xlf3 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Having huge issues with donefirst website. | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xlf3/having_huge_issues_with_donefirst_website/ |
violetflowersx | I was diagnosted when i was learning how to write, school at the time was a struggle for me, but i learn how to learn and became the best student in my class and even got in the best university in my state.
But this week i got the worst grave i've ever got and it wasn't because i didn't understand the subject, i knew what i was doing but made some stupid mistakes such as writing a number in the paper but on excel i wrote another number. Mistakes like this used to be really common for me as a child, but with time i manage to notice it sooner.
The main problem with this exam is that we had two super difficult and time demanding questions, but we didn't have enough time to finish it. So, many students didn't even had time to finish the last question and i did everything as fast as i could and didn't have time to revise anything.
My professor didn't care about the struggles we faces during the exam and if the final answer was not exactly like his, the whole thing was considered wrong. I even wrote him an e-mail explaining the situation and pointing out my mistake, hoping he would give me something from this question, but he didn't listen.
So right now i'm desperated, i think i'll fail this class because he won't give more time to do the exam and i could make mistakes like this again.
I'm even thinking if be an engineer was a good choice for me, i love what i do, i love learning it, but right now i feel like i'm not good enough for this. And if i'm not good enough to do this, what am i good enough to do? It seems like nothing is the answer. | 2021-11-29T14:55:32.000Z | r4xjy2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | University is so messed up | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xjy2/university_is_so_messed_up/ |
45and290 | [removed] | 2021-11-29T14:55:31.000Z | r4xjxk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I finally took care of some business after putting it off for two weeks. The person just emailed me. I was about to reply (because I’m in a great mood) then my brain said “don’t reply quickly, she is used to you procrastinating”. So, here I am. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xjxk/i_finally_took_care_of_some_business_after/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-29T14:55:11.000Z | r4xjpm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else having massive problems with donefirst.com all of a sudden? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xjpm/anyone_else_having_massive_problems_with/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-29T14:48:15.000Z | r4xeox | 3 | 1 | ADHD | How do you manage a given week off-medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xeox/how_do_you_manage_a_given_week_offmedication/ |
Sweet_Flatworm | [removed] | 2021-11-29T14:47:48.000Z | r4xed6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do you forget to blink? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xed6/do_you_forget_to_blink/ |
Caimdiamond | Hello everyone, I started my treatment again, last week. I stopped taking Aradix ret4rd on 2018, now I’m taking Concerta, I feel much better but there’s an hour when I feel very sleepy. Also sometimes I can’t eat. Have you ever feel like that, I know that it’s a normal thing, but could you tell me your experience, I was thinking about drinking coffee or something to wake up when I feel sleepy…
Love y’all, this Reddit group majes me feel that I’m not alone | 2021-11-29T14:45:38.000Z | r4xcsg | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Concerta meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xcsg/concerta_meds/ |
LykosHellDiver | How old were you when you realized you were different than others? Grade, age, year?
It was 3rd for me, I was 8 almost 9 and it was 1993. Specifically I couldn't figure out how every understood grammar and how I was SO lost. So I asked my teacher what was going an and she go so pissed. She harshly reprimanded me for not listening and being lazy. It turned out I didn't even have a grammar book like the rest of the class. The volunteer parent handed me one. Days later I was astonished to find that my boom had all of the answers in red! I told my teacher.... who accused me of stealing the teachers addition and screamed at me for being a lazy, cheating brat. I never tried again in her class. Never. I was so humiliated and sad. I just sat and stared out the window and couldn't understand anything at all and just internalized how stupid and lazy I must be.
Side note- I am a 36F, diagnosed at 18 with zero family/social support. Rediagnosed with family/social support 9/2021 | 2021-11-29T14:42:35.000Z | r4xaik | 5 | 4 | ADHD | How old were you when YOU realized you were different from others? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4xaik/how_old_were_you_when_you_realized_you_were/ |
angrymice | I recently started taking Adderall and the change has been dramatic so far. I'm able to concentrate much better at work, and stick to my to-do lists (and create more reasonable expectations with them). That's been awesome!
However, I still struggle with staying up late at night, distracting myself with videogames or scrolling endlessly through the Internet. This isn't insomnia, by the way, I'm tired, and when I finally do go to bed I can usually fall asleep pretty quickly. Instead this is me being addicted to my phone, or doing just one more thing in a videogame (or starting a new one). I wish I was actually doing something productive like reading a book, but that's never the case is it?
I have my phone set up so that it turns black and white at 11:00, but I can always snooze that function for 30 minutes. And I do. And then, suddenly 30 minutes is up. Also, I'm not sure how to do that on my computer, and I'm not sure if I'd want to. I assume the Adderall has worn off at this point in the day (I take it at 6:00 AM when I wake up), which is contributing to my distracted behavior.
Does anyone have any suggestions for this? I suppose it's not the worst. I'm not really tired in the morning, but I also know that getting only 5 hours of sleep isn't the best for my long term health. | 2021-11-29T14:41:33.000Z | r4x9rs | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Newly on medication, still struggling with going to sleep at a reasonable time. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4x9rs/newly_on_medication_still_struggling_with_going/ |
decopper | Seeing my neurologist tomorrow. I have comorbid bipolar and stimulants turn me manic and then highly depressed.
Are there non stimulant meds I could ask about to treat my ADHD? I'm really struggling with executive dysfunction.
I'm working and at school and it just gets really hard without pharmaceutical help. I've tried strattera and it made me sick. | 2021-11-29T14:36:36.000Z | r4x67p | 9 | 2 | ADHD | Can't take stimulants. Am I doomed? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4x67p/cant_take_stimulants_am_i_doomed/ |
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vvrice | Neglecting as in losing interest to take care of the pet like every other thing ever in my life that I first get so into and then lose interest moving on to new things. But this would be a breathing, living thing that depends on me. I feel like I'm so ready for having a pet but everyone around me doubts me especially my parents. They're concerned... I'm just wondering if there is anyone in here with ADHD that owns a dog and is actually happier because of the dog AND takes very good care of them despite the stigma of not being able to take care of anything even ourselves. Like having a routine, taking the dog out, feeding it, giving it enough attention & stuff to do etc. without anyone else helping. I've been interested in dogs my whole life since childhood and researched everything possible, I don't think it was ever a passing interest but something that has always been in the back of my head. Any thoughts on this? | 2021-11-29T14:33:05.000Z | r4x3op | 11 | 8 | ADHD | Can I take care of a pet without the risk of "neglecting"? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4x3op/can_i_take_care_of_a_pet_without_the_risk_of/ |
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throu_way | I have difficulty on concentrating things that I am not intrested in.
my brain feels like it always require some sort of stimulation.
i constantly shake hand or leg if i am sitting. Sitting in general is very hard. I sometimes stand up and walk around while eating or talking.
I cant watch movies without skipping constantly using fast forward. I cant have regular habits and my whole day schedule is absolutely ruined especially after lockdown. I sleep well but sleep hours are ruined.
the thing is I am 21 and I am not really sure its adhd. I thought its just procrastination. but it doesn't seem to improve. My health is recently in decline also.
My whole college is gone like being guilty every minute for not doing enough. It feels like I ma on a constant grind. | 2021-11-29T14:15:35.000Z | r4wr41 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | I might have adhd and I am not really sure about it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wr41/i_might_have_adhd_and_i_am_not_really_sure_about/ |
Calm-Lengthiness-178 | Running doesn't cut it anymore. It's too long and the distance and pace I have to go to feel the benefits isn't sustainable. And actually getting to the gym is difficult.
When I get angry- which is a lot, in concentrated, intolerable bursts- I want to self harm. I want to beat myself to a pulp. I also apparently value my own life and my own comfort as I often fail to actually harm myself at all and just sort of curl up in a ball and internalise it all and fail to sleep or eat or do anything.
Instead, I've taken to exercise. Not a once-per-day-in-the-gym sort of thing, but things I can launch into with a second's notice. Push ups, crunches, burpees and such. But I'm also weak as hell and I reach a point where I'm physically unable to continue and still have mountains of please let me hunt a deer with my bare hands energy left over.
Does anyone else do this and can recommend things? I'm looking to google also, but I hate visiting workout websites because the page is always moving around and filled with ads and other nonsense and they take literally 5 pages of text to actually get to the point. | 2021-11-29T14:15:08.000Z | r4wqs1 | 18 | 2 | ADHD | I'm looking for quick and intense exercises to do for anger venting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wqs1/im_looking_for_quick_and_intense_exercises_to_do/ |
GeoffLizzard | [removed] | 2021-11-29T14:12:15.000Z | r4worl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | A world for ADHD people? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4worl/a_world_for_adhd_people/ |
Bright-Ad-3227 | is there anybody on here coming from a place in the future where they have figured their brains out and have found content essentially with who they are dealing with an adhd riddled life and/or narcissistic abuse? I am 19 and i feel like i’m on the cusp of being able to feel put together and contained but also i feel like it’s all a made up fantasy and i could teeter into a major depression. i went back home for thanksgiving break and by the end of the week i actually traveled backwards in time with my progress in changing my mental space and dialogue back to unstable where i had a lot of intrusive thoughts on dying and wanting to die. i want to focus on the basic conflicts of life and not the conflict of life v death. it’s just sometimes i truly would rather not do life. It’s almost now a part of my personality to hate my own existence and point out the obvious that people tell me to ignore. I really hated myself back home though because of who I am with my parents. i get overwhelmed by their presence even that i can’t think to talk to them i just don’t know what to say sometimes and need a second but they have no space to give bc thats not how their brains work and it just pushes me to be a person i’m not in control of. it’s the reactive abuse and i become my reactions it’s awful. i just wanna know if there’s anyone out there who has actually done it. successfully grappled their own mind, identity, and existence, when ur not “normal”. it’s just hard to fucking ignore or accept. I am not tryna take medication I have a prescription but i feel capable enough to figure myself out but i literally can’t know for sure unless there are people out there who have. I’m not superhuman so it’s not fair for me to think my issues are specific to me albeit very specific but it would help to know there are successful people who got a handle of their shit from a time where they TRULY did not have a handle on their shit. I’m talking no eating, no sleeping, punching the head in frustration just overall chaos. I feel like in 5 years i’ll be put together. | 2021-11-29T14:11:23.000Z | r4wo70 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for a put together person | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wo70/looking_for_a_put_together_person/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-29T14:07:34.000Z | r4wlhx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do you guys walk around your room alot for fun? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wlhx/do_you_guys_walk_around_your_room_alot_for_fun/ |
_Axelotl_ | I recently just started working in a pet store and it’s been my dream job for a while. I thought that everything would be great and I would be motivated but it’s the same as all the previous jobs I had: It’s painful to get out of bed and to get there, working for 8 hours 5 days a week is an absolute nightmare. It’s my third day and I already feel burnt out. I know I can’t quit again but it just feels excruciating. How do nt people do that for YEARS. I just don’t think I’ll be able to and I feel like a failure.. | 2021-11-29T14:01:42.000Z | r4wh7a | 12 | 12 | ADHD | How do you manage to go to work? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wh7a/how_do_you_manage_to_go_to_work/ |
iamelloyello | Okay the title makes it sound bad-- but I mean like, you ever just lightly toss a plastic spoon at your significant other? Or knock off a rubber ducky off a shelf and just stare at your S.O to get a reaction out of her?
I swear to god I don't even realize I am doing it half the time, I think I am being hysterical. She just glares at me and goes: "rude" and "You didn't take your meds today, did you?" Which I think is entirely irrelevant. At 26, and having a kid on the way, I don't want to set a bad example-- but I am curious if anyone else does some weird shit like this with ADHD or if I am just weird. | 2021-11-29T14:01:05.000Z | r4wgrk | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Throwing things at people (let me explain) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wgrk/throwing_things_at_people_let_me_explain/ |
PottyInMouth | Look its even hard to type. I dont feel like doing anything and then get all pikachu face when I see people experiencing stuff.
I dont have friends. I dont know how to talk to people.
I never had a friend to be accurate. Only acquaintaces . The one who move farther in public if they see you.
Obviously no relationships or sex.
I have big ambitions but I dont act on them.
I hate people yet feel for them. I can sympathise and empathiae with others misfortunes.
I cannot stand someones success. Why cant that be me. Oh I know. BECAUSE I DONT DO SHIT
I blame all of it on luck.
I dont understand life. I want to find answer for the why and things life afterlife and god and justice because I know thats the only consolation I have that I might still get happy in the end. Perhaps on another plane of existence
I feel superior and judge people. Not because I feel like they are doing the wrong things but because I dont get to do it or cant try to do it being a coward. Example: Drinking. Smoking. Drugs. Partying. Travelling. You know normal life
I am very very bitter. I have hit the genetic lottery . Short. Ugly. Scarred. Hard of hearing. Adhd . Ocd. Depression. Also poor af. So cant even afford meds much less drink or eat nice.
I hope not for a better life but for everyones life to be more miserable than mine. I am that bitter.
Then I see people with worse lives handling it better. And I feel like I am ungrateful
I am become mess. Destroyer of self. | 2021-11-29T13:59:56.000Z | r4wfld | 7 | 14 | ADHD | [Rant 1 of 1] I feel like I missed out on life. On everything worthwhile. And I do nothing but sit and waste it | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wfld/rant_1_of_1_i_feel_like_i_missed_out_on_life_on/ |
dutchedcanadian | Has anyone had any experience with seeing an adhd specialized life coach? I want to start getting my life together and more organized in a way that makes day to day easier, I’m just not 100% how to go about that…
Are the coaches worth the time and money? Any other suggestions to try before hand?
Thanks so much | 2021-11-29T13:59:39.000Z | r4wfev | 5 | 7 | ADHD | Adhd life coach | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wfev/adhd_life_coach/ |
Successful_IceBear | I just got switched Concerta about two weeks ago. The only reason I got switched is because my Adderall started to make me so nauseous it was all I could focus on. The Concerta makes me feel so much worse. I try to take it without food, I feel sick. Try it with food, I can’t keep anything down!
Quick side story: I started on Adderall Ir and switched to Xr when school began (longer days due to lectures, Homework ect.) Xr immediately made me sick everyday so I went back to the Ir and just took two pills a day Instead of one.
I’ve tried multiple antacids to counter the nausea and nothing is working. I was wanting to give the new meds a chance but it’s not even worth it. My old meds got me out of bed most days without making me feel like I needed to accomplish a million things. With the Concerta I have non of the energy, all of the anxiety.
I’ve already messaged my doc to ask for a change, just needed to vent. I’m half terrified that the next pill will have the same result. | 2021-11-29T13:54:09.000Z | r4wbtl | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Already Tired Of Switching | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wbtl/already_tired_of_switching/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-29T13:53:09.000Z | r4wb4f | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Feeling so invalidated and angry watching “How to focus” episode of Netflix‘s The Mind Explained :(( | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4wb4f/feeling_so_invalidated_and_angry_watching_how_to/ |
Significant_Act_235 | I'm wondering, has anyone had any experience working with a counselor who can help guide you in the way of career options/ options for going back to school if the chosen career requires that? I'm a 30/f who just had a baby and due to how much that has worsened my ADHD/and just the current state of the world, would like a career shift, ideally to work from home, but would just like to discuss this with someone who understands the current job market/ can understand the criteria of what I am looking for/ understands the needs of someone with ADHD and point me in the right direction? Has anyone ever found a service like this? Was it useful? How did you go about finding it in the first place? I feel like this is something that might be available to college students but I graduated back in 2014, so I doubt that would still work for me. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated, thanks guys :) | 2021-11-29T13:51:26.000Z | r4w9wg | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Counselor for career advice for ADHD 30s/f? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4w9wg/counselor_for_career_advice_for_adhd_30sf/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-29T13:46:38.000Z | r4w6o3 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | My therapist is 125€ and will charge u fully if u dont cancel 72h ahead and that is stressing me out | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4w6o3/my_therapist_is_125_and_will_charge_u_fully_if_u/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-29T13:42:25.000Z | r4w3vm | 3 | 0 | ADHD | I hate my parents and life because they drugged me as a child | 0.43 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4w3vm/i_hate_my_parents_and_life_because_they_drugged/ |
BigFatBallsInMyMouth | Due to circumstances, I recently switched to an entirely online school. It was good at first, as I could keep up with it in large part thanks to the meds I got prescribed near the end of the last school-year. But after a week of not having access to my PC and not doing my assignments I missed a few deadlines. After that I completely lost motivation for a week or so and so the missed deadlines somewhat piled up.
I have now started studying again, but when I do study I only do 1-2 assignments a day, which isn't great with the missed deadlines. Not only that, but usually after only 2-3 days of studying I take a break for a day. I just feel like my batteries run out energy way too fast. Usually I'd still have to go to school, but now my studying is entirely self-regulated and I just can't make myself do things, even with the meds. My batteries are completely empty.
Maybe it'd be better if the deadlines weren't just recommended, but they are, as it's a private school meant largely for adults with jobs. I feel so much guilt and lack of control. The guilt is mostly because my dad has to pay for it, and I think he has enough on his plate already. I don't want to be burden. I don't even know if I have ADHD and I'm not just lazy. Maybe it's both? I just feel like I should and could to do so much better, but I don't. Everyone else I know is doing fine at school, why don't I? I think I haven't cried from pure stress for years, but I do feel the urge to right now.
Sorry for the messy text, had to get it out. Any tips or whatever are welcome. If anyone read the post, thank you. | 2021-11-29T13:41:38.000Z | r4w3da | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Low capacity batteries | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4w3da/low_capacity_batteries/ |
IAmTheMindTrip | [removed] | 2021-11-29T13:40:47.000Z | r4w2t1 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | What do I say in a job interview? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4w2t1/what_do_i_say_in_a_job_interview/ |
PLayerxthree | [removed] | 2021-11-29T13:39:26.000Z | r4w1vi | 25 | 9 | ADHD | ADHD is the new normal | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4w1vi/adhd_is_the_new_normal/ |
Radiant-Motor- | First of all, I want to state I totally support medication for ADHD and ritalin helped me so much, so this is not an anti-meds post.
I was curious what coping methods any of you use if/when you have had to come off both or either or. For background, I was taking a relatively low dose of methylphenidate extended release and drinking a normal amount of caffeine daily for about three-four months and then suddenly had some problems passing out so my doctor had me stop both abruptly (and my psychiatrist agreed it was best to stop and wait and see how other tests come back). In the interim, it has been pretty awful. My GP told me I'd feel crappy for a few days but that there should be no side effects stopping the ritalin. It has been brutal and my psych basically just said everyone's body is different so I might experience some withdrawal. I've had weird vision again, complete lack of focus, mood disregulation, tremors, and flu like symptoms (no flu though- got a massive checklist of things ruled out at the ER when I passed out). I had a few panic attacks but was largely just exhausted so my sleep was great for several days and I appeared to be turning a corner. Then yesterday... all my worst ADHD symptoms, insomnia, chills, etc. It seems wild to me that stopping both would cause so many issues when I wasn't abusing either and I hadn't been on ritalin for very long?
TLDR: Has anyone ever abruptly stopped these two together for whatever reason (even if it's just like mine where you have to be stuck in limbo until you can find a replacement) and what helped you deal with the symptoms? | 2021-11-29T13:39:00.000Z | r4w1kf | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Coping methods for ritalin and caffeine withdrawal? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4w1kf/coping_methods_for_ritalin_and_caffeine_withdrawal/ |
vesvads | Hello to everyone. After reading this subreddit for some time I made a decision to finally be brave enough to ask my question here. English is not my mother tongue, so I'm sorry beforehand.
I'm facing a problem since my childhood with complete impossibility to study something I'm not interested in. As people here probably can understand, called "verysmartbutlazy". Sometimes I could actually trick my brain in it, creating in head some associations like "this connected to this so prob can make me feel interested in this as well", but now it's almost impossible to do.
I'm getting degree now and have all my courses I was interested in as completely done, even with good grades and something which I was cold to on barely passing. (Should say that these are courses which actually are the definition of this degree.) Was even called by administration where they were in complete confusion, lol.
The point is that as you could guess only the courses I totally can't do are left.
So, I'm completely lost as I don't know how to even start solving this problem. I've tried many times, forced myself to sit for many hours to somehow actually make my brain to accept this information but such forcing can make me feel very sick and even nauseous, like if I would force myself to eat rotten food or do something not on my moral compass (yes, it can feel SO disgusting).
I would gladly accept your advices or tips and read about your experience.
Drugs: Concerta 36mg | 2021-11-29T13:38:42.000Z | r4w1dt | 3 | 0 | ADHD | How to study something you're not interested in? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4w1dt/how_to_study_something_youre_not_interested_in/ |
Dr_TAM | Like did you really make a good profit out of a hobby you learned because of ADHD? Cause sometimes I say I want to improve myself and get out of the mediocre zone to the pro zone to make a good outcome out of one of my hobbies and I'm afraid that I'll stop caring about this hobby and hate it in the future. For me I really have a thing for filming, directing and editing and I really think that I can do better like filming short stories and maybe in the future short movies.
So tell us your story | 2021-11-29T13:35:23.000Z | r4vz4t | 6 | 5 | ADHD | Did you get the best out of your ADHD hobby? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4vz4t/did_you_get_the_best_out_of_your_adhd_hobby/ |
IcepicktotheBrain | I want to really want to reach out to my Accomodations counselor, because I know it would be helpful, but I have no idea what would help me or what assistance to ask for.
What can a college/university and it's professors do to mitigate some ADHD (and autism) tendencies? What helped you whether it be directly from them or what you do privately to help you succeed? | 2021-11-29T13:32:08.000Z | r4vwy9 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | College/University Assistance with Accomodations | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4vwy9/collegeuniversity_assistance_with_accomodations/ |
megaboring | I've been on adderall xr 20mg for 10 years. Occasionally early on, a pharmacy would occasionally sub generic and I began to notice it was not as effective as brand name. So I asked to only get brand name from that point forward. No problems. Then, this past year, I had a change in insurance and had (or chose) to switch to generic only. I know they should be the same, but I feel a difference and was just wondering if I'm the only one or if others have similar experiences. Differences that I notice (it could be my imagination):
1) not as focused; more scatter-brained
2) less productive b/c of #1
3) more acne on face compared to relatively little on brand name
Thoughts? I know I should talk with my doctor and plan to in a week or so at my next appt but wanted to get insights here before I bring it up. Thanks. | 2021-11-29T13:22:14.000Z | r4vqgc | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Adderall XR or Generic | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4vqgc/adderall_xr_or_generic/ |
Fun-Mathematician816 | I see my psychiatrist tomorrow for the third time. She's asked me to tell her what I think the diagnosis is when I see her. At this point I am 95% sure it's ADHD, but I've been put on mood stabilizers for the past 3 months, which to me suggests she believes it's a mood disorder like Bipolar.
I don't think it is. I don't function by phases and my mood doesn't shift randomly or cyclically, so I am fairly certain that is not what this is. I've also been taking the 2 she's prescribed for me and to be perfectly honest, they haven't really helped me at all. I'm just the same with some annoying side effects now (fatigue and muscle pains).
My doctor thinks my symptoms resemble ADHD more and we discussed me asking my psychiatrist to try and put me on Ritalin instead to see if it works for me. I may be overthinking this, but I have been afraid to ask, because I don't want her to think I am just looking for stimulants. I just really think we're focused on the wrong disorder here and would like to try a new treatment instead.
Any idea as to how I should go about it? I'm not asking for anyone to tell me how to get an ADHD diagnosis, I've done all the necessary research and know what I relate to to a T by now. I'm just looking for advice as to how to tell her to look at this from a different angle, because mood disorders isn't really getting us anywhere. | 2021-11-29T13:17:10.000Z | r4vn1u | 12 | 1 | ADHD | Should I just ask? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4vn1u/should_i_just_ask/ |
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