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Dooty28 | Not sure if this is normal or what, but it seems to get worse as I get older. I’m a mom of two- mid 30’s. I can’t do dishes, clean my house, drive for long distances, etc without the use of music. It doesn’t sound too terrible except I need to have the music super loud to block everything else out, including my husband’s voice, kids asking me for something, etc. | 2021-11-28T19:45:37.000Z | r4ckr4 | 14 | 40 | ADHD | The only way I can get anything done is with music | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4ckr4/the_only_way_i_can_get_anything_done_is_with_music/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T19:39:40.000Z | r4cg1t | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Set a timer whenever you're cooking anything, even boiling water | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4cg1t/set_a_timer_whenever_youre_cooking_anything_even/ |
leapdayjose | [removed] | 2021-11-28T19:38:05.000Z | r4cerj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just got my routine set up in my calendar. I was genuinely surprised by the mental relief. Good ol' cognitive offloading for the win!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4cerj/just_got_my_routine_set_up_in_my_calendar_i_was/ |
AltheaHoward | Hi! I was wondering if anyone had any recommendations for self-help books that worked for them? Specifically for developing habits. For example, Atomic Habits, would that book help/apply for those of us with ADHD?
I know that for me, applying minimalism to my life helped a lot because it was less clutter to deal with on a daily basis. (I can’t remember which books I read about minimalism though.)
I would greatly appreciate any suggestions! | 2021-11-28T19:36:19.000Z | r4cdc1 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Self-Help books | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4cdc1/selfhelp_books/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T19:26:23.000Z | r4c5g7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Self Help books | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4c5g7/self_help_books/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T19:25:22.000Z | r4c4nd | 1 | 0 | ADHD | What are the benefits of an official diagnosis? | 0.4 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4c4nd/what_are_the_benefits_of_an_official_diagnosis/ |
StarkLady112 | Hi everyone, my BF started taking Adderall a few months ago and has been experiencing higher sensitivity to cold, particularly in his hands. He's a pretty avid gamer, both PC and console, so I was hoping to get him a pair of gloves that will keep his hands warm while he games. Does anyone here use anything like this? I know he would prefer fingerless gloves but I'm open to all suggestions. Thanks! | 2021-11-28T19:20:51.000Z | r4c11j | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Gaming gloves for cold sensitivity? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4c11j/gaming_gloves_for_cold_sensitivity/ |
AC3R665 | I am going to switch from Adderall XR 30MG (Prasco) to Focalin XR. I had taken other forms of Adderall IR/XR and they either don't work well or just suck and make me easily irritable or angry (especially if I drank caffeine products), Activis XR was the worst on that. I don't want to make those kinds of mistake, so I'm asking what is the best generic brand for Focalin XR and what pharmacy carries them? I haven't looked too much into Focalin XR, however I did took the brand name when I was in middle school and it did helped me out a lot. Recently went from Vyvanse -> Adderall XR -> Adderall XR + IR. For what it's worth I live in IL. | 2021-11-28T19:20:29.000Z | r4c0qv | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Best Focalin XR Generic Brands? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4c0qv/best_focalin_xr_generic_brands/ |
Routine-Ear-8481 | [removed] | 2021-11-28T19:19:09.000Z | r4bznt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta to Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4bznt/concerta_to_vyvanse/ |
superhero_zer0 | Hi all, I (32F) just finished my first month on 30mg of Vyvanse, and I honestly could not be happier. At first I didn't think I felt much but once it settled in, I realized how my emotions are so much better regulated and my brain feels a lot more organized. My work life has seriously improved, and I cannot imagine going back to who I was before.
However, when I went to pick up my refill for the next month, I was absolutely blown away by the cost. My insurance covers some, but it's still about the same as having another car payment. I know there's not a generic form (yet?) but I'm wondering if anyone has found a cheaper option. I absolutely plan on contacting my doctor to discuss options because holy hell. Like I said, I seriously didn't know I could feel this good, and I know that it's worth it. | 2021-11-28T19:18:55.000Z | r4bzhw | 15 | 9 | ADHD | That's expensive... | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4bzhw/thats_expensive/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T19:17:13.000Z | r4by5h | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Difference in batches Teva | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4by5h/difference_in_batches_teva/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T19:16:04.000Z | r4bx9m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adhd Relationship dynamic | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4bx9m/adhd_relationship_dynamic/ |
waffleworld94 | I am managing to get a decent amount of sleep (6-8 hours) at night despite not falling asleep until 1 or 2 am most nights, but no matter how much/little sleep I get, I always wake up feeling sick and groggy and like I never got any sleep in the first place. I'm trying magnesium at night to see if it helps, and I'm making sure to drink a lot of water and have a snack before bed, but I still wake up feeling like utter crap. I can't take the Ritalin without a meal or I get really sick, but it's hard to eat soon after waking. I'm getting fed up with how long it takes me to be functional each day, I'm usually not capable of anything until close to 12 or 1 pm. Im a stay at home mom since I lost my job in March but my son needs way better than what I'm giving him and I can't be jobless forever. What helps you feel more refreshed in the morning? | 2021-11-28T19:12:28.000Z | r4buc2 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How do I get quality sleep? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4buc2/how_do_i_get_quality_sleep/ |
FireDestructor | [removed] | 2021-11-28T19:08:14.000Z | r4br0f | 8 | 1 | ADHD | I need help with knowing whether I have ADHD and on who I should go to for a diagnosis. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4br0f/i_need_help_with_knowing_whether_i_have_adhd_and/ |
blabbedybloobla | The only thing that gets me through college is getting to listen to my music in my car on the way to college. I hate it, I've been in the same town for 8 years now, I'm going to college with the same people I went to elementary school with. I'm taking classes for a major I switched out of, and my ADHD is at it's all time worst. I can't even think straight, I'm constantly bombarded by thoughts, and when I tell people I'm tired, I can't even explain why.
As much as I'd love to drop out, I know it wouldn't help. I've sucked at every normal "minimum wage-type" job I've had. I'm just trying to get through this day by day but I don't know how I'm going to sleep tonight when I'm so paranoid about going back tomorrow. | 2021-11-28T19:02:26.000Z | r4bma1 | 4 | 8 | ADHD | Dreading going back to college tomorrow | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4bma1/dreading_going_back_to_college_tomorrow/ |
Lolocaust1 | [removed] | 2021-11-28T18:59:28.000Z | r4bjko | 26 | 131 | ADHD | I finally took my first dose of Ritalin at 30. The difference is astounding. Now I am filled with lament about how needlessly hard the past 3 decades have been | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4bjko/i_finally_took_my_first_dose_of_ritalin_at_30_the/ |
Routine-Ear-8481 | [removed] | 2021-11-28T18:58:18.000Z | r4bil9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta to Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4bil9/concerta_to_vyvanse/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T18:49:28.000Z | r4bbgo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Recently got diagnosed with ADD and psychologist suggested to do some sort of theraphy. Is there anything else that can really help other than meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4bbgo/recently_got_diagnosed_with_add_and_psychologist/ |
ThrowRAbestje | 20F. ADHD-PI. Im one of the ones thats was super “book smart” while i was younger in school but my ADHD really started to take a toll in high school and exposed my horrible work ethic and study habits.
Now as an adult trying to decide on a career path i just feel so behind. Im interested in healthcare and maybe being a nurse one day. But part of me is seriously doubting how capable i am. Im so forgetful and it takes me a while to adjust to the swing of things. When it comes to new work environment i find that something that people would consider “common sense” i screw up on
How do you deal with feeling like youre not smart or capable enough to accomplish big goals?
I have so many dreams for myself but tbh they feel like pipe dreams sometimes bc of self doubt. Its hard to really see myself being a successful person one day when i struggle sm with basic everyday task like cleaning and time management. The doubt has grown so much that sometimes I question if medication would even make a big difference for me. | 2021-11-28T18:45:45.000Z | r4b8i3 | 3 | 4 | ADHD | How do you deal with feeling like you’re not smart enough or lack common sense due to ADHD? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4b8i3/how_do_you_deal_with_feeling_like_youre_not_smart/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T18:44:21.000Z | r4b7cw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Worried waiting for my Assessment Results | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4b7cw/worried_waiting_for_my_assessment_results/ |
CatEli89 | I've been taking Vyvanse for a long time, probably around 8 years, and I've been on 70 mg for a little while now. It still works but lately I feel like it's less effective (just noticing more symptoms throughout the day). My psychiatrist mentioned that sometimes skipping a day helps. However, when I skip my meds I feel lethargic and like I don't function as well as normal for at least half the day or more - I'm assuming because my body is just accustomed to them.
Seeking advice to discuss options further with my doc. Has anyone else had an experience similar to this? Do you feel like skipping meds for a day helped or did you end up switching medications? (Switching meds also makes me nervous - Concerta and Focalin didn't work well for me in the past, etc.) Any advice or shared experiences ya'll could offer would be amazing!
Apologies if there's already a thread about this somewhere. I couldn't find one that mentioned Vyvanse or similar. Please link anything I missed, too. | 2021-11-28T18:34:27.000Z | r4az7d | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Advice/Experience with Using Same Meds Long-term | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4az7d/adviceexperience_with_using_same_meds_longterm/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T18:33:35.000Z | r4ayfo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Self-Help books | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4ayfo/selfhelp_books/ |
Organic_Meat8267 | Hi, I've been lurking for a while but haven't posted. Mobile user, if that matters. This sub has done a lot for me (21f) just by knowing that I'm not alone in this, so I'd like to say thank you before getting into the depressing stuff. This'll probably get pretty long, so I'll put a TLDR at the end.
So, for some backstory, I've been depressed as long as I can remember. I tried therapists and meds but nothing helped at all. My brain is simply wired to want to be blown out.
When I started reading up about ADHD it felt like something just clicked. Learning the term "executive dysfunction" was like my entire life had just been summarized for me and it felt good. I feel validated here. I started looking into ADHD specialists and even have an appointment set to try and start meds (took over a month to fill out a 5 minute questionnaire, typical).
I know that I desperately want medication because I know there's nothing I can do for myself. No amount of planning or self discipline is going to make my brain function. However, I'm terrified. I'm scared of seeming too eager and being written off as a junkie, scared that I'll lose the precious few things I like about myself once I'm on them, and mostly, I'm scared of nothing working at all because if nothing works, I'll end up homeless, in jail, or dead.
That being said, there's a big part of me that doesn't want to "get better". I don't want to pay for medication just to get out of bed my whole life. I don't want to start functioning just to still be miserable. I don't want to live in a society where daily life is my version of hell on earth. But that's all that's left. There's not a place I could go that isn't saturated with everything I'm not equipped to handle.
I guess my real question is why? Why even bother trying when there's no joy in anything I do?
TLDR: How do you function in a society that only impairs you? And how do you even find the will to try? | 2021-11-28T18:33:14.000Z | r4ay5i | 13 | 1 | ADHD | How are any of us supposed to live like this? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4ay5i/how_are_any_of_us_supposed_to_live_like_this/ |
jedrider | To me, Vivance seems like a boutique drug, especially considering it's cost and, possibly, it's availability in other places. Are there any other ADHD medications that could be considered as a replacement?
Also, what makes Vivance different from these other drugs, I would appreciate to know. Thanks. | 2021-11-28T18:30:25.000Z | r4avqw | 7 | 1 | ADHD | If one is use to Vivance, what other Meds are similar? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4avqw/if_one_is_use_to_vivance_what_other_meds_are/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T18:27:31.000Z | r4at8c | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse cost/switch to Adderall Rx? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4at8c/vyvanse_costswitch_to_adderall_rx/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T18:24:58.000Z | r4aqyu | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Concerta helping with focusing/attention, but not executive dysfunction? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4aqyu/concerta_helping_with_focusingattention_but_not/ |
miahammgirl | I have been searching through posts to see if anyone else has posted concerning switching from Adderall to methylphenidate but I didn't find what I was really looking for. The questions are at the bottom and bolded if you don't want the background.
Some background:
**TL;DR:** Insurance companies suck and made me try methylphenidate before getting mydayis even though Adderall did a great job of alleviating my symptoms it just didn't last long enough.
**The long version:**
I got diagnosed in May and have been on 25 MG Adderall XR since July and the dosage has been fine but if I take it at 8 AM after eating a full breakfast and having a single shot latte it only lasts until 2/3 PM. This is not nearly long enough considering the fact that I am currently in law school. So I went to my doctor and we decided to switch to Mydayis.
Well, since insurance companies love to be dicks and don't necessarily understand how drugs work, they denied the prescription for Mydayis because I hadn't been on methylphenidate yet. This is something my doctor and I had been somewhat prepared for and the alternatives were either having to take an Adderall XR in the morning and an IR in the afternoon or now trying the methylphenidate. I don't like the idea of trying to remember to take two pills (considering I can hardly remember to take my one dose of Adderall) so we went with trying the methylphenidate first so I could get prescribed the Mydayis.
Also for reference, I generally struggle the most with time blindness, switching between tasks (I literally just want to focus on one task all day until it is completely done which is not helpful at all during law school when you're juggling like 50 MILLION different things), and distractibility.
**This brings me to my question(s):**
**(1) Does methylphenidate make everyone else feel like a total zombie with no emotions and like you're basically feeling like you've dissociated the entire day while getting stuff done?**
**(2) Does that feeling eventually go away or is that just it?** I'm not the biggest fan of feeling disconnected considering I am also diagnosed with C-PTSD and while the C-PTSD is generally pretty well managed, I have enough fun trying to not dissociate too badly when I'm triggered.
**(3)** **Does this happen to everyone when they first start methylphenidate or for those who have switched from Adderall to methylphenidate is this just an adjustment thing?**
**(4) Since I'm used to the way Adderall really helps with my symptoms, I can't tell if the methylphenidate is actually doing something or not. Is this something other people have experienced and is there an adjustment period?** Other than getting up to pee every 30 minutes, not being hungry AT ALL the entire day, and having an actually quiet mind, I do not notice any of my main symptoms being alleviated.
Any experiences people have with switching from Adderall to methylphenidate is appreciated. Also, any tips in general for coping/getting stuff done while I'm having to deal with unnecessarily trying new meds is appreciated.
Also for anyone on Mydayis, if you wanna share your experience that would be awesome! | 2021-11-28T18:20:30.000Z | r4an8s | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Insurance made me switch from Adderall XR to Methylphenidate XR before I could get Mydayis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4an8s/insurance_made_me_switch_from_adderall_xr_to/ |
benjamin020928 | That's right, I'm sure many of you will be able to relate. I rarely reach my goals on anything, I can set up a great plan and a business idea and what not, but I can't follow through with it. Even if it feels like what I'm destined to do, and I feel very optimistic at the moment. When this problem keeps happening all the time, at some point you're going to hit a wall and give up. That's kind of where I am right now.
I get why this happens. Our brains dopamine system is not "normal" in the way that it constantly seeks new stimulation and is easily bored. When we're at the beggining of a project we're going to feel optimistic about it. About halfway through, some of us will have completely abandoned it and moved on to something else. In the long run, that can be pretty destructive.
I am sure almost all of you in the ADHD community have experienced these ADHD phases. It just keeps happening to me, and it's always completely new things each time. From programming to rubiks cube to art, you get it.
Enough about failure, how about the people that actually do make it through these phases and complete them? I would like to hear how you combat this issue, and how you're able to follow through with the projects you start.
TL;DR how do you actually complete the projects you start, with ADHD? | 2021-11-28T18:15:31.000Z | r4aj2r | 4 | 24 | ADHD | Not being able to complete/succeed at anything. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4aj2r/not_being_able_to_completesucceed_at_anything/ |
ageathas | Hey!
I am in the process of getting an actual diagnosis, but I am 100% sure I have add/adhd (and so is my psychologist).
I have been doing extensive research on adhd, and came to the realisation that my little brother has a lot of the same symptoms as me, that really interfere with his life. (Extreme procrastination, fidgeting and not being able to pay attention to anything that doesn't interest him for starters.) I feel like he's got a lot of problems in school that could be helped though, but he is still very young.
My parents however are extremely against the idea of getting him diagnosed or looking into it. They feel like he won't be able to do his schoolwork if he has the idea that he has adhd, as it'll give him the opportunity to use adhd as an excuse to not do his homework or fail to study on time.
He's 13, I'm 20. Should I try and get my parents to look into it and maybe prevent him struggling the way I did with no accomodations by the school? Or would it really be best to just leave it be for now since aside from attention issues at school he seems to be doing fine and the diagnosis may wrongly affect him since he's still so young and maybe can't choose for it himself? | 2021-11-28T18:14:22.000Z | r4ai4z | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Should I make my parents look into my bro's potential adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4ai4z/should_i_make_my_parents_look_into_my_bros/ |
GuyLily | [removed] | 2021-11-28T18:10:06.000Z | r4aep3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to Books | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4aep3/how_to_books/ |
hannahclipse | So masking who you are is very taxing. Especially at work. You gotta pretend to be detail oriented, thorough and on task.
So be yourself every chance you get that doesn't hurt your quality of life. Overshare with people who know you and your condition, allow yourself to get into your temporary obsession! You don't need to completely change yourself (because ADHD can't be changed).
Let yourself be you, and cope when you need to. | 2021-11-28T18:08:11.000Z | r4ad43 | 29 | 125 | ADHD | Masking is difficult. Be yourself whenever you can. | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4ad43/masking_is_difficult_be_yourself_whenever_you_can/ |
freehk2047 | I’ve been having a difficult few weeks, it kinda sucks. So I’ve been diagnosed with both and I noticed when I’m having severe depressive episodes, I lose most functionality and can’t do shit and literally act like a sick person and rest for a week… but at least my adhd is temporary cured lol - I’m less jumpy, I tend to get distracted less(maybe because I wasn’t trying to be focused on anything I’m the first place), I miss having ideas and thoughts jump around constantly, now my brain feels foggy and my heart feels empty.
Honestly I rather keep my adhd and be happy | 2021-11-28T18:03:13.000Z | r4a8v3 | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Depression supreme/cure adhd symptoms | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4a8v3/depression_supremecure_adhd_symptoms/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T18:01:34.000Z | r4a7je | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else’s depression suppress their adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4a7je/anyone_elses_depression_suppress_their_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T17:58:15.000Z | r4a4iy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else’s depression suppress their ADHD’s symptoms | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4a4iy/anyone_elses_depression_suppress_their_adhds/ |
Igatsusestus | Many people describe adhd-like symptoms during and after pregnancy. They call it mom brain or pregnant brain. As a psychologist, I wonder why it is like that. I know the answer most likely is 'hormones' but what does it exactly mean? What hormones or neurotransmitters, in what part of the brain?
I wonder...if we have a thing that causes this during pregnancy (a temporary state, sympotms appear AND dissappear), can there be an actual cure for ADHD? | 2021-11-28T17:57:28.000Z | r4a3vk | 3 | 0 | ADHD | Any ideas why pregnancy triggers ADHD-like sympotms? | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4a3vk/any_ideas_why_pregnancy_triggers_adhdlike_sympotms/ |
Honest-Net207 | [removed] | 2021-11-28T17:55:52.000Z | r4a2lj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Withdrawals | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4a2lj/withdrawals/ |
Bubbly-McB | My husband has undiagnosed ADHD, and likely a sensory processing disorder. I apologize if its offensive to say he has ADHD, without a formal diagnosis. He is an AMAZING husband and father: supportive, thoughtful, and hardworking!
I want to find ways to help him with what he feels is his biggest setback as a dad.
Our usually happy go lucky 3 month old daughter has been VERY fussy for the last week and a half.
My husband hasnt handled it well..
Loud noises really get to him, so the screaming and crying sends him up a wall. The overstimulation causes his so much agony. He gets frustrated. Phrases like "That's enough!" to our *3 month old*. Then is takes him some time for the frustration to go away.
I know he needs an MD. What are some things we can try to help get him through the screaming/crying fits in the meantime... are there things to help him decompress once the crying stops?
Also, what type of MD should we start with?? | 2021-11-28T17:54:53.000Z | r4a1r6 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | How to help husband with ADHD issues due to crying baby | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4a1r6/how_to_help_husband_with_adhd_issues_due_to/ |
Sprinklesarelife | I have very bad self confidence. I constantly think husband is just not into me anymore. Our sex life is non existent, he’s 39 I’m 35 and we have a baby girl. We finally had our aha moment that I have adhd and am being treated for it. I never realized or thought about me having anxiety due to the adhd. I always thought I was pretty even.
Anyway.. saw he had been watching porn. I’m so hurt. I have gained weight due to Covid and not moving much but am working on losing it. Down 8lbs! 17 left to go! I have asked so many times for sex and it’s always the same, I’m too tired or not in the mood. I stopped asking.
And now my anxiety is so out of control. I feel like the drugs I’m taking for my adhd is exacerbating my anxiety and my head is out of control. I hate myself. I can’t help but think it’s me. I’m all fairness, I do occasionally watch porn and masterbate bc I need sex. But for me, I’m not watching it for men or women. Im watching it to help turn me on so I can finish myself. But my anxiety w him watching porn is all the gorgeous porn stars with their beautiful bodies wishing he didn’t have a fat ugly wife.
Please help. Trying to not cry out of control. | 2021-11-28T17:51:22.000Z | r49yzw | 22 | 26 | ADHD | Trying to not cry | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49yzw/trying_to_not_cry/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T17:51:00.000Z | r49yon | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Help please! Impulse control is putting me in debt | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49yon/help_please_impulse_control_is_putting_me_in_debt/ |
allvys | My biggest struggle is punctuality and keeping track of time for things that matter.
I found that setting alarms for things that require punctuality, and setting them MUCH earlier than I instinctively feel urgency (aka last minute...) does wonders for my timeliness!
What are the little things that you do to help work around/with your ADHD? | 2021-11-28T17:48:40.000Z | r49wtn | 4 | 1 | ADHD | What are your ADHD life hacks? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49wtn/what_are_your_adhd_life_hacks/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T17:42:47.000Z | r49s4p | 6 | 2 | ADHD | impulsive decision making | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49s4p/impulsive_decision_making/ |
babylondylan | I started with 30 mg around 7AM in the morning. Then switched to 50 mg and started working again. It worked wonders but i felt that my girlfriend got the shit end of the stick as i would start to crash when i got home from work. Not optimal, so i talked to my psych who told me to experiment with a 30 mg booster. I take my booster at noon. It was fine the first two days, but then it started to turn sour. A lot of doubt, derealisation, anxiety and dark thought patterns. Not at all talkative. Some of this also happened when i was on 40 mg Ritalin XR, and was why i switched to Vyvanse (which was night and day in comparison - my main problem with the Ritalin was being overly irritable all the time, this has yet to happen on any dose of Vyvanse)
So my question is to those of you who had to downgrade your dose. Because i suspect that is the issue. How did it feel when your dose was too high? | 2021-11-28T17:42:30.000Z | r49rw3 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | After a few days on 50 + 30 mg Vyvanse i just feel depressed and anxious. Should i switch to 30 + 30 mg? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49rw3/after_a_few_days_on_50_30_mg_vyvanse_i_just_feel/ |
andpierres | so a few months ago, I moved out of my parents house for hopefully the last time, eager to be back in a space where I feel comfortable & in control so I could get back into pursuing things I enjoy + my art side business that I'd been totally neglecting for. maybe over a year or so now? it's just been one long rut and I was so so eager for a change.
problem is that it's persisted, even months later. I'm fully medicated (wellbutrin + adderall) but even w/meds I still can't seem to get my motivational issues under control. I work full time & have a lovely and understanding roommate who I know never judges me for my many weird little adhd quirks, but it's almost like being comfortable has made it even harder to motivate myself to get things done.
The first time I moved out years ago I was constantly doing things, I was working and going to school AND still pumping out art and maintaining my business despite the awful environment I was in. I hit a rut when I had to move home, it got better for a few months here and there, and now it's the worst it's ever been. It makes me almost romanticize the times where I was utterly miserable b/c that seemed to be the only time where I was getting anything significant done. Which is uh, not a great feeling, lol.
I dunno. It's hard not to feel like, at some point, it's a fundamental problem with myself as a person & that's why medication and etc doesn't seem to help. The meds DO help with a lot of things, my emotional regulation has gotten a lot better and when I CAN focus the adderall definitely helps maintain a more reasonable level of focus/helps me stay calm, but I'll get excited and plan out things to do while my meds are working and then the next day it's just, poof, all motivation gone! and then I go to work and I come home exhausted and the cycle just keeps repeating over again.
Sorry this is so rambling lol. Basically I wanted to know what sorts of habits or methods have been helpful for those of you who have had similar crippling issues w/self motivation. Lists & breaking things down don't seem to work, I've tried planners and stuff (even ones gifted to me by friends cus they thought the sentiment would help motivate me to use them...) with no luck, apps like Habitica helped a little but I couldn't keep up with them & they didn't have the kind of specific tools I needed...
Just any advice would be great really. Being painfully aware that I'm making myself miserable and continuing to set myself up for failure by not pursuing things yet still not being able to push myself to do anything abt it is a constant feeling and it's really been taking its toll. 😣 | 2021-11-28T17:38:22.000Z | r49ols | 1 | 1 | ADHD | issues with motivation/commitment even while medicated... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49ols/issues_with_motivationcommitment_even_while/ |
IAmTimeLocked | Right, so whenever I walk into the living room and my housemates are actively engaging in an activity (rather than just chilling), I feel *so* conscious about not fitting in and being unwanted. It could literally be a room of the people that I love and trust the most in the whole world and I could still get that feeling.
So the reason for my post was to see if people can relate and if they have any methods to deal with that?
For me, I try and find an excuse for being in that room, like getting a glass of water and trying a micro-interaction, and hope that it leads to overt acceptance. If not, then I go back to my room and can't really do anything unless someone comes in and checks in on me so I get that acceptance.
I feel like a major factor was being bullied and feeling left out as a child, but I can see why RSD could also be a big factor in it (though I haven't done toooo much research on RSD). | 2021-11-28T17:33:07.000Z | r49ket | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Walking into a group setting, alone | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49ket/walking_into_a_group_setting_alone/ |
MeringueKey4889 | [removed] | 2021-11-28T17:31:25.000Z | r49j1p | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone ever get that nervous energy and want to smash everything they see? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49j1p/does_anyone_ever_get_that_nervous_energy_and_want/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T17:29:47.000Z | r49hmc | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I re-organised my business's order board, when I really should have been working on the things due ON the board. Felt good though. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49hmc/i_reorganised_my_businesss_order_board_when_i/ |
Mr3cto | Hello all, I’m an adult with ADHD who has a child with ADHD. My child was diagnosed a few in the ago (I was already aware before hand due to my own struggles). I’m looking for advice from anyone on activities to help from anyone that has a child under 10 (but older than 5) with ADHD. I’m looking for stuff that can help keep my child occupied longer than 2 minutes besides a video game. Stuff that can be done alone, together ect. I figured someone here most likely had a similar situation and may know of some stuff to help keep my little ones mind focused for a bit while also having fun/learning possibly. Thank you in advance for any advice! | 2021-11-28T17:27:45.000Z | r49g04 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | New to the thread, looking for advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r49g04/new_to_the_thread_looking_for_advice/ |
kelzium | I have been trying to have more routines with my ADHD, however trying it may seem. I'm looking for advice on how you go about your day to day life and what morning routines can pick start your day. So far I usually wake up and go to the couch for a couple of hours, then have tea and breakfast, then go back to the couch. I know this isn't ideal so I'm looking at what to fill those gaps of mindless scrolling with. | 2021-11-28T17:19:03.000Z | r498tj | 3 | 1 | ADHD | What is your morning routine? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r498tj/what_is_your_morning_routine/ |
1TapsBoi | [removed] | 2021-11-28T17:18:28.000Z | r498cf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | After over a year of stress and countless false promises, I've finally been diagnosed and proscribed medication! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r498cf/after_over_a_year_of_stress_and_countless_false/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T17:15:57.000Z | r496ek | 9 | 7 | ADHD | Feeling like giving up on therapy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r496ek/feeling_like_giving_up_on_therapy/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T17:14:40.000Z | r495cx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What is your morning routine? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r495cx/what_is_your_morning_routine/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T17:14:14.000Z | r4950m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Losing My Mind Along With My Voice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4950m/losing_my_mind_along_with_my_voice/ |
Leahb93 | Hi lovely community.
Feeling real frustrated that I have three papers due by December 2nd and I find myself doom scrolling on TikTok or compulsively/impulsively shopping. I think a lot of folks who identify as neurotypical/are non-ADHD aligned don’t understand that “self sabotage” (in quotes bc it’s not our fault we have this challenge) is actually a symptom of ADHD. Just venting, but words of empathy/encouragement would also be great. It’s after mid semester fatigue and feelings of wanting to give up. :( | 2021-11-28T17:12:44.000Z | r493un | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Strugglin guys | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r493un/strugglin_guys/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T17:11:38.000Z | r492zb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adult adhd in the workplace | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r492zb/adult_adhd_in_the_workplace/ |
LowResolutionBrain | TL;DR: Ask therapists about sessions on a sliding-scale rate. They will adjust their cost/rate based on your income/ability to pay, and therapy costs will be greatly reduced to something you can afford.
I've seen a lot of comments on here from people who want therapy but can't afford it. However, a friend of mine disclosed some very interesting information to me that no health care provider ever told me about. I live in Canada and there is an option to get a therapist through the provincial health care system, however the waitlist is LONG in my province, so it's not an option for people in crisis or want help now. There is however another option. This may depend on the Country you live in, so I encourage you to call around and do some research.
You can get therapy on a sliding-scale rate. What this means, is that they adjust their costs/rates for therapy sessions based on a person's income and ability to pay. This makes therapy more easily accessible to those who can't afford their regular rates. My friend seen a therapist whose rates were somewhere between $150 - $200 an hour that were reduced to only $50 a session based on her income. I had no idea this existed. I was feeling defeated and ready to give up until I learned about this. I had make a post just in case someone else has this as an option available to them but simply didn't know it existed! | 2021-11-28T17:08:10.000Z | r4903f | 1 | 2 | ADHD | PSA For people who can't afford therapy due to cost / financial situation, this may help you! It changed my life! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4903f/psa_for_people_who_cant_afford_therapy_due_to/ |
shoefacelace | So this morning I went to take my medications, and for some reason apparently 5 remaining pills was the magic threshold that finally alerted me to the problem: my 90-day Vyvanse prescription, which was filled in October and should have lasted into January, was almost gone.
I had a low-key panic attack over the possibility of finishing the semester without the medication that single handedly saved me from flunking out, frantically searched my apartment (for what I don't know--its not like there were going to be 60 Vyvanse randomly scattered about), and quadruple checked the pill bottle and all my receipts. Everything says "quantity: 90" and I did not get quantity: 90.
When I was relatively calm, I called the pharmacy. After being put on hold for like 10 minutes to speak to someone higher up, to my relief they treated me like a human being and seemed to believe me. They explained that because it's a controlled substance, they'll have to check their safe, counts, and cameras, and if they can see they only dispensed 30 they'll give me the rest. The manager that can do that will be in tomorrow so they'll let me know then.
So I'm a little calmer now. I think things went as well as possible so far, all things considered (i.e. they didn't treat me like a drug abuser or seller). But guys, I'm so damn scared they won't have a surplus or something and I still won't get the rest of my prescription. For one thing, Vyvanse isn't cheap and I paid for 3 months worth, but that's the least of my concerns tbh. It's also the end of the semester and going without my most important medication will be extremely difficult. And finally, my biggest fear: they determine I AM in fact abusing or selling my medication and I get in some sort of trouble or never get prescribed stimulants ever again.
Also, I considered the possibility they were stolen but I've mostly ruled that out. I live alone, so it would have had to be a break in or one of the apartment staff. Plus I keep my Vyvanse in the same place as my Adderall (used as an evening booster) and I counted those and they're all accounted for. I would think someone would steal that over the Vyvanse.
Idk, I'm trying to just relax and wait for tomorrow because I don't think there's anything I can do til then. But I'm kicking myself for not noticing sooner. How did I not realize I didn't have 90 pills?? Until they were already practically gone??? I guess lesson learned to count my pills immediately when I get home from now on. | 2021-11-28T17:07:12.000Z | r48zbm | 3 | 5 | ADHD | I think the pharmacy gave me 30 instead of 90 Vyvanse... I'm so nervous they won't give me the rest. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48zbm/i_think_the_pharmacy_gave_me_30_instead_of_90/ |
otter_annihilation | [removed] | 2021-11-28T17:05:02.000Z | r48xj8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Accidentally took my Vyvanse 60mg twice today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48xj8/accidentally_took_my_vyvanse_60mg_twice_today/ |
nonchalance77 | I absolutely exhaust myself. My career fell apart and I’m now toggling between two options. I cannot make up my mind.
Meanwhile bought a bunch of stuff to start scrapbooking my old photos. Then, I never did it. Just lost all interest after buying the stuff.
I decided I wanted to create a haunted mansion. So I bought a dollhouse that needs to be put together. Damn thing wasn’t cheap. Now I don’t want to do it anymore because it seems too hard. I do this with hobbies and Careers. I’ve collected degrees, certificates and other awards and then,…… I sit and watch Downton Abbey instead of being productive.
I’ve needed to fill out a health questionnaire for three weeks and I cannot bring myself to do it. It’s isn’t even difficult. My cope is shutting down and getting sleepy. I will work myself up about something dumb, feel guilt about not finishing something and just go take a nap. I’ve been like this since I was a kid.
I’m not hyper. Anyone else like this? I’m sick of myself. I’m fairly accomplished and feel like I squander opportunity because I literally cannot commit to anything long term. 😑 | 2021-11-28T17:00:59.000Z | r48u03 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Here I go again. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48u03/here_i_go_again/ |
ZestycloseMovie4744 | [removed] | 2021-11-28T16:59:55.000Z | r48stt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Lefts and Rights? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48stt/lefts_and_rights/ |
mrjohnwuffles | Okay I don't know what wack health care system I'm in, but my psychiatrist can't diagnose me but we've talked about adhd and he's prescribed meds.
I took a psych test about 6 months back and I got a provisional auditory processing disorder. adhd was mentioned but not diagnosed because I was severely depressed at the time and most doctors accounted that as to my lack of focus.
Anyways, I think I'm calm on Concerta or if anything zero effect so maybe that's a good thing?
(it's actually so infuriating I can't get diagnosed. I'm so grateful for my psychiatrist he's amazing but finding someone who can an adhd specific testing is so expensive) | 2021-11-28T16:59:14.000Z | r48sa2 | 12 | 3 | ADHD | Does being calm on Concerta mean I have ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48sa2/does_being_calm_on_concerta_mean_i_have_adhd/ |
AgentMonkey | I'm undiagnosed, but have a very strong suspicion that I do have ADHD. I've already informed them that I want to discuss the possibility of ADHD and get referred to a specialist if necessary for evaluation. But, I'm worried that my concerns will be dismissed. I've been keeping a list of reasons I suspect I have ADHD, but does anyone have any tips on ensuring that it is taken seriously? I've read too many stories of people who are dismissed by their doctors. | 2021-11-28T16:58:40.000Z | r48rtm | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Have an appointment with my doctor tomorrow | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48rtm/have_an_appointment_with_my_doctor_tomorrow/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T16:57:14.000Z | r48qnr | 5 | 2 | ADHD | teachers think i'm plagiarizing. but it's just a hyperfixation. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48qnr/teachers_think_im_plagiarizing_but_its_just_a/ |
dinorawrdino | This girl (24) and I (M25) have been talking for almost a month now. We already met twice and it was nice. We already agreed to take things slow since she's not yet ready to commit. We already made date plans until early next year which is actually nice. She is a busy person but recently she quit her job and now has a lot of free time. When we're out together, she's really cheerful and she mostly do the talking and I really love that about her. But when we're chatting, I'm the one mostly taking the effort to ask questions and keep the convo going and she usually replies one liner or after a long time. I understood when she was busy with work but now that she isn't, she's actually taking longer to reply than before and today she never messaged or even replied to my message when I tried checking up on her. A few days ago, she said she kinda want to be left alone and I respected that and didn't hesitate cuz I felt her social battery might've been drained but I found out she's active posting stuff on her socials so sometimes, I just feel that she's uninterested but it might be her condition as well and I personally need to learn more about it.
To people here, can you tell me if what she's doing is just normal? I really want this to work since I really like her and I don't want to assume or do anything without knowing everything so I'm open to suggestions about what should I do. Is there anything I can do for her to be more open to me? I want to understand her more. If you need more details, just ask in the comments and I'll try to answer them. Thanks in advance guys! | 2021-11-28T16:54:08.000Z | r48oaq | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Currently going out with someone with ADHD and I need help to understand her more | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48oaq/currently_going_out_with_someone_with_adhd_and_i/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T16:53:24.000Z | r48nqp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Highly sensitive person | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48nqp/highly_sensitive_person/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T16:44:24.000Z | r48gqg | 2 | 2 | ADHD | What is ADHD in daily life? And what made you realise you had ADHD? Besides a visit to a professional. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48gqg/what_is_adhd_in_daily_life_and_what_made_you/ |
misslindso | ETA: He has a rainforest shower head with a removable head. He has an echo dot he takes in there for music. He has sensory issues and has been in and out of occupational therapy since age 3. He always 'graduates' though, which is great! Someone reminded me of something I did for him when he was a toddler - a visual schedule. Y'all should have seen this thing - my best work yet as a mom. Pictograph photos with velcro dots with their own doors to open/close once completed. I think this will be helpful.
ETA #2: [Made him his visual schedule with his input.] https://imgur.com/a/7JDFKT1).
Original Post:
I don't know how to ask this eloquently but here we go... For years now, basically since he started school, he's just not been a fan of bathing himself. When he was a baby/toddler - he loved baths. I don't mind him doing a bath once in awhile & I guess if that's what he needs to do, fine but his bathroom (the guest/main floor bathroom) only has a stand up shower. He'd have to use the tub in my bathroom, all the way upstairs. It just seems like so much extra work imo. He has a meltdown if I don't turn the water on for him and it turns into an argument/battle & I have been refusing to give in. He's old enough to be able to turn the handle. I have talked, yelled, etc. in order for him to take a freaking shower. This summer, I did an experiment to see how long he'd go without showering... You guys... Two weeks. Two. Weeks. That can't be normal, right? Like, is it a boy thing? Is it his adhd? I'm so confused and lost on how to handle this. He literally has zero issues once he's in there and in fact, says after he gets out, "mom I feel so much better." I wish I could bottle up that feeling he has to give him. Transitions are hard. I even have them on specific days of the week and a specific time so he won't go into doomsday mode. I really am at a loss for how to figure this out. | 2021-11-28T16:40:47.000Z | r48duk | 344 | 388 | ADHD | Why won't my 9 y/o shower? | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48duk/why_wont_my_9_yo_shower/ |
Moby-WHAT | We had to read Harrison Bergeron in school once. The teacher's lesson was about the moral/societal issues but I super connected with Harrison's dad. I kept telling people I also felt like I had an implant in my ear/brain "scattering thoughts" and keeping me "from taking unfair advantage of...brains."
If you want to read it, it's under a 5 minute read.
http://www.tnellen.com/cybereng/harrison.html | 2021-11-28T16:39:47.000Z | r48d2b | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Me as a student trying to explain how I felt to adults | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48d2b/me_as_a_student_trying_to_explain_how_i_felt_to/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T16:38:10.000Z | r48brs | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Vicious Procrastination for the Win Cycle! How do I stop? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r48brs/vicious_procrastination_for_the_win_cycle_how_do/ |
bonvajya | [removed] | 2021-11-28T16:32:50.000Z | r487g8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone have any tips for overspending? Retail therapy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r487g8/anyone_have_any_tips_for_overspending_retail/ |
Actually_a_bot_accnt | [removed] | 2021-11-28T16:27:48.000Z | r483ai | 0 | 1 | ADHD | How does your brain react to different types of chemicals? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r483ai/how_does_your_brain_react_to_different_types_of/ |
Used-Independent-727 | I started Concerta yesterday morning. Every morning I jump on the scale, it always says 164lb. Like, every morning! Even at the doctors. Well this morning it said 159! Holy cow, 5lb overnight? Could this just be water weight? I made sure to watch my water intake. TMI, I’ve had diarrhea about 20 minutes after taking the pill. My appetite was still there yesterday, but instead of eating 2 huge bowls of spaghetti, I ate 1 normal size. No random snacking.
I am Female, 5’8 and pre kids, I was 125lb. So like, I’m not mad about the weight loss. And totally ok with it. I workout too.. so I hope it stays off.
I guess I’m just here to say.. wow. And my house is clean. Life’s good. Would love to hear your stories on Concerta. | 2021-11-28T16:20:36.000Z | r47xdc | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Crazy overnight weight loss on Concerta???! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r47xdc/crazy_overnight_weight_loss_on_concerta/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T16:20:32.000Z | r47xbf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Routinery is a good routine app for ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r47xbf/routinery_is_a_good_routine_app_for_adhd/ |
vixxenbarb | EDIT: I wasn’t talking about what the auto moderator thought I was, but I did learn something new today! That actually validates what I went through a bit more.
Okay so I’ve been thinking about this for a while now and I need to know if its just me or something that we all experience. I did read up a little about the correlation between rejection sensitivity and ADHD but I’m not sure if it’s to the same extent I took it to. This post might be a bit long, so feel free to skip to the end for a TLDR. Also I apologize if I word anything weirdly— I haven’t been as articulate lately.
I am VERY sensitive towards rejection. My entire life I’ve been called soft and unable to take criticism because I’d either get angry and act rude towards the person criticizing/talking about me or I’ll get super sad and sulk about it. Honestly, I knew I was a sensitive person but my latest incident really highlighted how much growing I still need to do.
Just to clarify I just turned 20 years old, so I’m still learning about myself. But a couple of months ago, I attended a coworkers party and I guess I forgot to say hi to some of my other coworkers friends (in typical adhd fashion—I walked passed them and only said hi to the person I recognized but I could’ve sworn I actually acknowledged them). I entered a room they were all in, and realized they were talking about me. Okay, no biggie. But I was also cross faded and a tad bit overstimulated so I was a bit socially awkward, and I also bumped into one of the girls when trying to leave the room. When I did so, she made a shady remark about my appearance and the whole room laughed at it. The room consisted of 4 of my coworkers, and their friends they brought to the party. The whole night I was hyper aware of any conversations and my friend and I were communicating via texts since it was so loud at the party. I remember the girls staring at me and shouting “get off your phone.” You see where I’m going with this— basic high school bullying…. Except we’re adults.
Now I know any normal person would’ve either confronted them or brushed off the comments and went about their life. That’s what I should’ve done but instead, I felt so ashamed, hurt, and embarrassed that I quit my job altogether. Fortunately, it was only a retail job so finding a replacement was no trouble. I just feel like I shouldn’t have run away from my problems. I was afraid that if I go back to work, word would spread about me being the weird one at the party & I just can not bear that type of judgement. What also bothers me is the fact that those who were talking bad about me in the room still said goodbye to me and were fairly polite in my face, which should’ve told me that they’re not worth the headache i caused myself. So yes they would’ve talked about it at work, but they wouldn’t have acted any different towards me. It’s just the fact that they could be judging me that bothers me.
I resent the fact that I center my life around the opinions of others. I mean after all, it’s just work and all I needed to do was show up and do my job until I find another. But instead I quit without a backup plan. Oh and I became severely depressed for a couple of weeks following the incident. The thing is I also got over it pretty quickly, which is why I regret quitting and running. It was such an intense reaction to something I’m sure happens to everybody at some point in their lives. now that I think of it it’s so funny lol. Maybe I also have an undiagnosed mood disorder.
TL/DR: I quit my job after coworkers laughed and talked bad about me behind my back at a party. I want to know if this overreaction to rejection is normal for people with ADHD. | 2021-11-28T16:20:05.000Z | r47wxt | 11 | 3 | ADHD | Adhd & rejection | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r47wxt/adhd_rejection/ |
vixxenbarb | [removed] | 2021-11-28T16:17:59.000Z | r47vae | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and rejection | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r47vae/adhd_and_rejection/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T16:15:06.000Z | r47t0k | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Routinery is a good starting app for ADHD. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r47t0k/routinery_is_a_good_starting_app_for_adhd/ |
SwampWaffle85 | I've always had trouble getting anything done, before meds (Adderall XR 30mg is what I eventually landed on after about 6 months) my life was a mess, literally and figuratively. Now when I think, "I need to clean this, or I should organize this" I actually get up and do it. Quite life altering.
My dilemma is that i want to take a day or two off my meds on weekends, but those are the days I'm not working and actually have time to work on projects and clean and organize what I don't have time for during the week with a 1.5 year old and it now getting dark within an hour of getting off work. If I don't take them I have extreme difficulty getting anything done.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. | 2021-11-28T16:03:28.000Z | r47jfi | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Hard to find motivation without meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r47jfi/hard_to_find_motivation_without_meds/ |
ADHD_throwaway_421 | [removed] | 2021-11-28T15:58:52.000Z | r47fjf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Saved my Dad’s life- I think my ADHD may have played a role | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r47fjf/saved_my_dads_life_i_think_my_adhd_may_have/ |
smartylips | Title says it all. I was finally diagnosed at 19 years old, after struggling my entire life because my parents did not believe in ADHD. Twenty-one years later, it seems like there are still a lot of barriers to treatment for myself and others. What barriers to effective treatment have you experienced? | 2021-11-28T15:51:02.000Z | r479h9 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | What barriers to effective treatment have you experienced? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r479h9/what_barriers_to_effective_treatment_have_you/ |
targaryenwren | My mother is the least ADHD-brained person I know, but her brother and 2 of her 3 nieces/nephews have ADHD.
She's also a scientist who literally studies genetics.
And though she's never denied my neurological condition, it still befuddles her that I, her daughter, niece and cousin to multiple people with the same brain structure, have ADHD. She says I must have gotten it from my father's side (which I highly doubt).
I don't understand the disconnect. My sister (non-ADHD) and I were discussing it yesterday. The denial is just. . . Weird. Can anyone relate? | 2021-11-28T15:50:33.000Z | r4793s | 4 | 3 | ADHD | No Mom, it really IS your side of the family | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4793s/no_mom_it_really_is_your_side_of_the_family/ |
smartylips | [removed] | 2021-11-28T15:49:59.000Z | r478mf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What barriers to effective treatment have you experienced? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r478mf/what_barriers_to_effective_treatment_have_you/ |
smartylips | [removed] | 2021-11-28T15:47:14.000Z | r476hf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What barriers to effective treatment have you experienced? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r476hf/what_barriers_to_effective_treatment_have_you/ |
socialskills100 | All weekend I’ve been an anxious mess to the point where I started doubting if I have ADHD at all. Maybe the meds worked like they would a normal person, making me crazy productive and awake.
I’ve spent all week reading and relaxing because I _finally_ could relax on meds.
Now I’m wondering if maybe my inactivity and holding back stims triggered the anxiety? My whole body is trembling internally but I can only see it on my hands.
I went to my room and started flapping my arms around like crazy and was finally able to take a proper breath. I continued to flex and unflex my fingers without noticing for a while after.
My doctor and I agreed I most likely have inattentive ADHD. But I finally understand the question “do you feel like you’re driven by a motor at all times?” YES. YES I DO.
I’m 21 and was diagnosed in November so I’ve been hiding any signs that could’ve been seen as “weird”. Including stims.
Thoughts? Please I’m going crazy | 2021-11-28T15:45:18.000Z | r4751v | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Could this be the result of holding back stims? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r4751v/could_this_be_the_result_of_holding_back_stims/ |
sarahjeanne15 | Recently had to switch to husband’s insurance (which we can hardly afford to begin with) - and it doesn’t cover name brand Adderall XR. Can’t afford the $230/month cost of medicine for very long.
I’ve tried generic and it did nothing for me, I’ve tried to ration/stop taking the meds but that puts my employment in jeopardy because I’m so forgetful/late/not present…not to mention my symptoms irritate my husband…I have to find a way to afford this medication for now.
The pharmacy just mentioned trying to find coupons or programs online but so far I’ve found nothing because the websites assume that with my husband’s income we can afford full cost medicine. Has anyone found a program or coupon that has helped?
Edit: GoodRx has not given a discount on this med for a couple years now (at least not in my area?). Thank you so so much for anyone offering advice - you guys are awesome! | 2021-11-28T15:44:49.000Z | r474mz | 21 | 3 | ADHD | Can’t afford meds, can’t afford to be without (Adderall XR) - please help with any suggestions! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r474mz/cant_afford_meds_cant_afford_to_be_without/ |
_C4_ActhaupYT | [removed] | 2021-11-28T15:41:34.000Z | r47225 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you manage this symptom? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r47225/how_do_you_manage_this_symptom/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T15:39:52.000Z | r470ps | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I am about to have a panic attack | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r470ps/i_am_about_to_have_a_panic_attack/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T15:37:57.000Z | r46z9r | 3 | 1 | ADHD | is there anyone who has managed to find their niche and start a business from home? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46z9r/is_there_anyone_who_has_managed_to_find_their/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T15:35:37.000Z | r46xhp | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Zinc calming mind | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46xhp/zinc_calming_mind/ |
smartylips | [removed] | 2021-11-28T15:33:31.000Z | r46vt5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What barriers to effective treatment have you experienced? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46vt5/what_barriers_to_effective_treatment_have_you/ |
_C4_ActhaupYT | [removed] | 2021-11-28T15:33:04.000Z | r46vgc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody else throw shit?(or used to) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46vgc/anybody_else_throw_shitor_used_to/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-28T15:28:30.000Z | r46rr2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse making me very hungry - how?! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46rr2/vyvanse_making_me_very_hungry_how/ |
_C4_ActhaupYT | [removed] | 2021-11-28T15:28:30.000Z | r46rqr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody else throw shit? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46rqr/anybody_else_throw_shit/ |
Levangeline | **EDIT:** Thank you all so much for your empathy and advice. For anyone else dealing with this same problem, here's some stuff I tried that worked to help me eat:
- liquid diet (protein powder, meal replacement shakes, and soup)
- small meals more frequently
- trail mix
- eating while distracted by the TV
- light exercise to stimulate my appetite
**Original post**
My mental health has really taken a nose dive recently, and my eating habits with it.
Normally my eating hasn't been affected by my anxiety or depression; I've been medicated (for ADHD) for a year and I managed to overcome the appetite suppression and develop a regular eating schedule.
But lately even the thought of eating has become unpleasant. I'll eat microwave meals or instant noodles or protein shakes so I don't have to do any cooking, and I can still barely get the food into my mouth. I'll eat half a piece of toast and feel almost nauseated.
I *know* I need to eat. My weight is dropping, my digestion is messed up, I'm hitting a huge wall of fatigue in the afternoon. I just can't seem to bring myself to do it.
Any tips on how I can deal with this? | 2021-11-28T15:23:11.000Z | r46niz | 87 | 278 | ADHD | Eating has become an unpleasant chore, and my health is starting to suffer. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46niz/eating_has_become_an_unpleasant_chore_and_my/ |
cyber909 | Animator/artist with adhd here. Well...i say that but i barely draw or animate because im never motivated...
Art is one of the only things i'm practically certain about, i know its something i want to pursue and i'm trying really really hard but i feel like i'm my own worst enemy! Improvement comes with practice but i just cant sit down and muster up the motivation to practice....in school i do countless allnighters to get animations submitted on time and i hate that im making mediocre stuff because of my procrastination. I desperately need tips from other artists!! What helps you get your work done? | 2021-11-28T15:21:17.000Z | r46m2u | 5 | 4 | ADHD | ADHD artists/illustrators, how do you get work done? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46m2u/adhd_artistsillustrators_how_do_you_get_work_done/ |
GhostSnail29 | hi sorry if this is confusing but i am someone who is not diagnosed with adhd and i cannot self diagnose. however i feel like being unable to focus on studying is something many people with adhd struggle with.
if someone managed to find ways to make studying easier and have a certain technique to follow that helps them focus while studying i would love to hear it.
i've been trying for so long but nothing worked so far... i am a medical student and i honestly don't know how i managed to get to this point when i can't sit still for 15min.
i try to avoid making a busy schedule to follow and unfortunatly i haven't managed to keep up with it yet. When start reading something from a book i can't see anything in a page full of words. idk if this makes sense but words don't seem readable unless i highlight them or (like a kid) follow up with my finger so as not to loose track of where i am. if on pc i make the page bigger and/or select what i'm reading at the same time (like highlighting). even if i manage to get myself to read i suddenly catch myself daydreaming and not understanding what i was reading at all.
I keep thinking of way too many things to do and the scenarios accumulate in my mind, hours pass by like this until suddenly the day is over then days, weeks and i haven't gotten much done if not nothing don att all. it's overwhelming at this point and i'm drowning in guilt and stress.
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(if this post is in the wrong subreddit inform me and i'll delete it right away to put it in the right place. thank you for reading) | 2021-11-28T15:18:52.000Z | r46k3w | 1 | 3 | ADHD | unable to study due to inattentiveness ?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46k3w/unable_to_study_due_to_inattentiveness/ |
baw9000 | This is a bit of a rant, but I also want to know if anyone has any solutions to this issue. For some background, I’m a male 20, undiagnosed.
I’ve always struggles to get myself to do things, both things I need to do, but also things I want to do. Hell, I’m writing this post instead of getting out of bed. It’s really frustrating because I want to do so many things like a hobby or something, but as soon as I go to do it, it’s like I lose all motivation to do it, and I end up just doing something else, like scroll through instagram or watch Youtube videos.
It’s at a point where it’s frustrating, and I wish I could just do things without this weird mental block if that’s what it is. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get through this? | 2021-11-28T15:06:10.000Z | r46a3k | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Instantly lose motivation as I’m about to do something, How do I deal with it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46a3k/instantly_lose_motivation_as_im_about_to_do/ |
Nekhi98 | I haven't taken a proper shower, combed my hair, picked up my clothes or done any of my college related work. I feel like I'm in freefall.
Sometimes I gather all my energy and get started with something and then I just stop. I've had a few rough patches before, a few hours/days of 0 productivity but I usually get back into the groove with some effort.
This time it's been weeks. Perhaps a couple of months. I have so much work piling on, and no amount of fear of failure or motivation to succeed is helping. It's like I don't care anymore. I'm exhausted all the time, but I spend the whole day doing nothing. I just pace around the house until my legs hurt and then I lie down watch some videos and fall asleep.
While pacing around, I've been obsessively daydreaming, googling details to make up intricate stories in my head. I end up having intense emotional reactions to these daydreams, though I know it's all made up and in my head. When I get mentally exhausted I stop making up these stories.
Then I get anxious about not doing my work and again get back into a daydream slowly.
Usually, if I'm close to missing a deadline I'll put together something In the last minute but these past few weeks... I've missed multiple deadlines and I just cannot bring myself to care enough to actually do something about it. In the background of my mind there is this constant hum of dread.. I feel like I'm wasting my life away. I promise myself at every instance that ok, I will sit down and get this done now. And I break that promise every single time. I'm so sick of myself.
What do I do stop this? How do I stop wasting my time and get on top of my work? Does anyone here have similar experiences, what did you do to manage such behaviour? | 2021-11-28T14:58:37.000Z | r463oc | 9 | 20 | ADHD | How do I break the cycle of maladaptive daydreaming and get back to my life? I feel like I'm in a near-catatonic state on inaction. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r463oc/how_do_i_break_the_cycle_of_maladaptive/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-28T14:58:17.000Z | r463fq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just started a new job and I just realized I might have ADD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r463fq/just_started_a_new_job_and_i_just_realized_i/ |
adhdripp | I (30f) was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago and have been medicated ever since. I’m currently on 30mg of Adderall and I would always question if it’s working, until now.
A week ago I was scheduled for a refill, but there was a communication issue between the pharmacy and my doctor so I wasn’t able to get my refill until today.
For 6 days I was without my meds and at first it wasn’t a problem, I was able to eat what I wanted, when I wanted, I felt a lot happier and more productive, but I began to spiral. I would start a project and then remember there were dishes in the sink and start that, then I’d see the compost bin in full, stop doing the dishes and go into that, and before I knew it, it’s the end of the day and everything I had done is not even close to being finished.
I would constantly give in to my impulses to the point where I had to delete my shopping apps because I just couldn’t stop buying everything. And the food I wanted to eat? Pure sugar. I had so many chocolate bars, chips, pizza, sweet tarts, I’m surprised I still have my teeth lol. I gained 6lbs in 6 days and was only able to shower for once.
Medication has its drawbacks, but I honestly don’t know how I survived for as long as I did without it. | 2021-11-28T14:55:14.000Z | r46105 | 6 | 13 | ADHD | A week without medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r46105/a_week_without_medication/ |
thesnowstorm17 | [removed] | 2021-11-28T14:48:38.000Z | r45w5k | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Does hyperfocus come whenever it wants to or is there a way to utilize it better? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r45w5k/does_hyperfocus_come_whenever_it_wants_to_or_is/ |
femboy-foxxo | One piece of advice I often hear for when there is a task that you think is too big is to just break it up into smaller tasks. The problem with that for me is something like writing assignments, because those I can't really do broken up without losing my flow or train of thought. What else could I try? | 2021-11-28T14:48:35.000Z | r45w4c | 3 | 1 | ADHD | How do I break things up if I can only do it at once? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r45w4c/how_do_i_break_things_up_if_i_can_only_do_it_at/ |
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