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TransportationNo3472 | I have a prescription for generic Strattera (40mg) and the side effects have gotten so bad that I threw up at work last week, and I’ve been afraid to try again, since I ate beforehand and everything but I was still sick. Its been maybe 4-5 days since I’ve taken my meds, but I already feel like I’m sliding back into the habits I’ve had before (not cleaning room, forgetting stuff 1-2 seconds after I put it down, daydreaming at work for 15-20 minute intervals, etc), but I’m so scared of throwing up again, or being too sick to do anything again that I haven’t taken them. I also have this weird aversion to taking pills/ drinking water that I can’t seem to shake, and that’s been making it harder.
I’m going to try and get the dosage lowered on Monday- calling on my break, but last time I tried, they left me on hold for so long I just gave up (like 1hr)
Does anyone have any tips that might help in the meantime? | 2021-11-27T19:10:33.000Z | r3ki1s | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Tips on staying consistent with meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3ki1s/tips_on_staying_consistent_with_meds/ |
6ixtrillz | My elementary school I went as a kid has their own psychologist. I got diagnosed with moderate ADHD in grade 5 (Canada). I was on medication from grade 5 to grade 12 (high school senior for my American fellows). Great grades. Well-liked by students and teachers.
Many of you on here went through your childhoods and early adulthoods undiagnosed and then having to pay outta your pockets to just get diagnosed. Bless your souls. Most of you guys kept it together undiagnosed unknowingly. Admirable, really.
I was unmediated in college because I’m stupid and irresponsible. As you would guess, I flaked out after my sophomore year aboard in the States.
Back on the medication since ever, planning to attend a technical college for the Computer Systems Technician Program. I notice that coding is not too bad for my medicated ADHD mind.
I love this subreddit. I will follow with great interest😂 | 2021-11-27T19:06:28.000Z | r3kesc | 5 | 52 | ADHD | Surfing this subreddit makes me realize how really lucky I am | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3kesc/surfing_this_subreddit_makes_me_realize_how/ |
ForeverAddicted123 | Hi everyone,
I am a recently diagnosed ADHD guy ,25 YO. I am on Ritalin SR 20 mg for the past 2 months and it used to give me a good (automatic) focus but isn't working the same way anymore . I could just go, take the meds in the past and could start working with focus and get stuff done.
I have stopped getting the highs and It now does not work for me unless i practice deep breathing, mindfulness or meditation. I feel I have to meditate and be mindful and be very careful that I dont get distracted after taking the medicine so that I can keep my focus on work. And if I slip up, i will be distracting for 4-5 hrs easily on my phone. If I take higher Ritalin as suggested by doctor, it gives me terrible terrible headache lasting for 4-5 hours . (No Amphetamines in my country)
How do ADHD meds work for everyone here? Do you take the meds and just start working without distraction ? How can I control distractions and work better with ADHD meds | 2021-11-27T19:06:13.000Z | r3keln | 3 | 3 | ADHD | ADHD meds don't work without meditation! (HORRIBLE HEADACHES too ) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3keln/adhd_meds_dont_work_without_meditation_horrible/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-27T19:02:11.000Z | r3kbc2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is anyone prescribed a stimulant as well as benzos? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3kbc2/is_anyone_prescribed_a_stimulant_as_well_as_benzos/ |
Amicdict | [removed] | 2021-11-27T19:01:09.000Z | r3kahz | 0 | 1 | ADHD | You don't have to normal™ly live to enjoy life. Also intelligence is culturally subjective. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3kahz/you_dont_have_to_normally_live_to_enjoy_life_also/ |
FaithInStrangers94 | What are some jobs that require a thorough analysis of things (that aren’t economic/financial because I’m not a fan of those fields)
Or at least jobs where my natural predilection to analyse things won’t just be an issue as if has been with most previous jobs which are focused on executing rather than the analysing.
I’ve figured that I should try to make lemonade after squeezing these lemons in my eyes for long enough…
What do you guys think? | 2021-11-27T18:59:40.000Z | r3k92y | 10 | 11 | ADHD | What job would allow me to capitalise on my natural tendency to over think and over analyse everything? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k92y/what_job_would_allow_me_to_capitalise_on_my/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T18:58:47.000Z | r3k8fl | 25 | 6 | ADHD | How do you guys manage (to stop spending your damn money!) your finances? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k8fl/how_do_you_guys_manage_to_stop_spending_your_damn/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:56:09.000Z | r3k6d5 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How to revise with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k6d5/how_to_revise_with_adhd/ |
Kvartar | I could not see it before I took a long break and came back to the same job but in another company.
I was interested in products and learning about them when I started few years ago, I wanted to help people with my knowledge.
I learned as much as it interested me. I don’t care to learn more on the subject. My new colleagues are enthusiastic about learning more, I couldn’t care less. The rota tasks my manager gives are painful to do as they bore me so much.
I hate that I can’t be myself but need to keep in customer service mode. I tried to make myself like ot again but it’s as if my brain just decided one day ‘boring! over it now.’
I want to get out of that industry, but I can’t think of anything else that interests me and I need an income. | 2021-11-27T18:56:07.000Z | r3k6cb | 1 | 4 | ADHD | My job became painfully boring | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k6cb/my_job_became_painfully_boring/ |
avattt | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:55:57.000Z | r3k67v | 1 | 1 | ADHD | If you take medication for ADHD, did your doctor make you take an antidepressant for a while first? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k67v/if_you_take_medication_for_adhd_did_your_doctor/ |
sitwayback | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:53:37.000Z | r3k4f4 | 144 | 412 | ADHD | Blood pressure / “true” ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k4f4/blood_pressure_true_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:51:51.000Z | r3k338 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Constantly failing; recommendation to succeed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k338/constantly_failing_recommendation_to_succeed/ |
drekoho | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:51:36.000Z | r3k2w1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it just me or you guys also imagine scenarios and people when alone and talk to them? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k2w1/is_it_just_me_or_you_guys_also_imagine_scenarios/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T18:50:13.000Z | r3k1ta | 11 | 0 | ADHD | I think me and my stepsibling might have adhd.. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k1ta/i_think_me_and_my_stepsibling_might_have_adhd/ |
lobotomyfan | i’m a barista at a high-volume coffee shop, but we rotate between who’s on machine and who’s on register for each shift. i work 5-6 days a week, and have classes on my days ‘off’.
i’ve been put on mostly cashier shifts for whatever reason as of late, and i’m getting ridiculously burnt out and exhausted. it’s too loud in the shop to hear orders, and the fact that everyone is wearing masks doesn’t help; i already have auditory processing trouble as it is.
my insurance is also jerking me around about covering my medication, so i’m all sorts of screwed up with that too.
does anyone have any tips for handling this sort of environment? i can’t change jobs or switch to doing non-cashier things, so i have to figure out a way to make this work, but it feels like a gargantuan task and i’m at the end of my rope | 2021-11-27T18:48:16.000Z | r3k0ce | 2 | 1 | ADHD | cashier/customer service work | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3k0ce/cashiercustomer_service_work/ |
lacelaceylace | God this gets on my nerves, I hear it enough. “If you really care/were interested/wanted it you’d remember”. No! That’s not how that works! I can’t pick and choose what to remember. If so, tell me why I remember dropping a certain spoon on the floor and not my own birthday at times.
Even with things I enjoy, I forget. I like playing Animal Crossing and forgot to play on Thanksgiving though I wanted to. I like stamp collecting but forgot to bid on a stamp I like and missed out. If I could pick and choose, I’d easily forget the more shameful parts of my life or the gruesome things I’ve learned.
Cut me some slack, it feels like my mind is deteriorating with every passing day. | 2021-11-27T18:43:31.000Z | r3jwuf | 63 | 742 | ADHD | Stop assuming because I forget I don’t care | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3jwuf/stop_assuming_because_i_forget_i_dont_care/ |
AlertDraco | Hi so I recently just started my Adderall 10mg x 2 daily prescription just under two weeks ago, my first few days on the medication were great, I felt focused, extremely patient, would do chores whenever waiting on someone else to leave or what not, my insecure inward thoughts were completely gone and no longer struggled to get out of bed, and no longer felt the need to rush things to get them done. Now for the last 3-4 days I feel like the medication is much more subtle, it’s still easier to get out of bed but not anywhere near the same margin as before, I’m not necessarily dreading doing things but I’m also not starting things proactively like before, I also started fidgeting again like shaking my leg as I write this ( I don’t know if that affects anything), and my insecure thoughts are creeping back. I don’t know if this is normal and the medication is meant to be more subtle, or if I need a higher dose, I’m just scared to ask if I may need one as I don’t want to become tolerant to something I feel like I need to help me function on my own, I want to feel like the normal healthy productive person I felt on those first few days. Advice would be greatly appreciated! | 2021-11-27T18:43:10.000Z | r3jwmc | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Is my medication working? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3jwmc/is_my_medication_working/ |
Jeleniiix | Hello, I need your advice.. I have had a terrible earworm for a few days now. Of course I know, when a song is stuck in your brain. I also already had a normal earworm in my life. But I got this song in my head from the point of waking up to going to sleep. Sometimes the song changes, but some song always plays in the "background of my brain", no matter what I do. When I focus on something, it's gone for a moment, but as soon as I take my attention away from something, it comes back. It's not an auditory hallucination, just a constant earworm. It really drives me crazy :-/ Does anyone have that too? And how do you get rid of that?
Thank you | 2021-11-27T18:37:13.000Z | r3js2k | 7 | 3 | ADHD | How to get rid of the constant earworm? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3js2k/how_to_get_rid_of_the_constant_earworm/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T18:36:42.000Z | r3jrpi | 1 | 3 | ADHD | What do you do to pass the time? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3jrpi/what_do_you_do_to_pass_the_time/ |
FaithInStrangers94 | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:34:43.000Z | r3jq9l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What jobs would allow me to capitalise on my tendency to overthink and over analyse everything? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3jq9l/what_jobs_would_allow_me_to_capitalise_on_my/ |
Hungry-Lobster921 | Switched from Adderall XR 30mg to Vyvanse 70mg last month.
I was having heart palpitations and anxiety on adderall and that is why I asked to switch vyvanse has been better no heart palpitations no anxiety, but I notice I am a lot more tired.
I don’t want to switch back because the side effects caused way to much stress. I’m wondering if there is anything anyone takes to promote wakefulness or a combination with another med and Vyvanse.
I will note although I am a lot more sleepy my focus is good and I am able to accomplish the work I need to. I just hate feeling tired. | 2021-11-27T18:33:28.000Z | r3jp9f | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Excessive Daytime Sleepiness on and off meds. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3jp9f/excessive_daytime_sleepiness_on_and_off_meds/ |
coszette | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:29:55.000Z | r3jmcr | 185 | 337 | ADHD | Safe to say I will never know Left from Right - ADHD Related? | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3jmcr/safe_to_say_i_will_never_know_left_from_right/ |
MomKat76 | I love decorating and Christmas and totally overdo it with multiple trees. The obvious struggle is execution of ideas! I’ve been using the “timer” method and have 4 trees done and one left, with bins lying around everywhere. I have zero motivation to finish. I thought maybe my ADHD friends could use a place to help encourage each other to help with motivation when we need that final push.
It’s ok that we don’t get it all done in a day or in a logical way like our other friends! Let’s just try to enjoy the process together. Share about your decorating themes, tips or words of encouragement!
(I just realized we can’t post pics here!) | 2021-11-27T18:29:46.000Z | r3jm8u | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Who else is decorating for the holidays? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3jm8u/who_else_is_decorating_for_the_holidays/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:20:25.000Z | r3jeyl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What are some of the main and major symptoms of Adhd. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3jeyl/what_are_some_of_the_main_and_major_symptoms_of/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:12:56.000Z | r3j92i | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Alcohol and methylphenidate? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3j92i/alcohol_and_methylphenidate/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:11:27.000Z | r3j7z4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else have trouble eating enough? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3j7z4/anyone_else_have_trouble_eating_enough/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-27T18:10:30.000Z | r3j77h | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Alcohol and Ritalin? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3j77h/alcohol_and_ritalin/ |
firecrotch725 | I’m hoping to get advice from people who will understand my child. You have been there and understand her the most so I’m hoping you have good advice and tips for me.
I have a 12 year old daughter with ADHD. She also has anxiety and has a huge problem with impulse control (both diagnosed by a neuro psych).
She recently had been lying a lot, is a bully to her friends, and laughs at inappropriate times. She isn’t a bully to be mean, she thinks she’s acting cool and most of the time she acts without thinking, terrible impulse control.
How do I handle this in a way she will understand? How do I handle her lying? I feel like traditional avenues don’t work because her brain doesn’t process things the same way. What do you wish your parents did with you?
I appreciate any tips you can give me. | 2021-11-27T18:02:57.000Z | r3j15p | 7 | 9 | ADHD | I’m a parent who needs advice | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3j15p/im_a_parent_who_needs_advice/ |
CategoryTurbulent114 | Yes, including the sink, toilet and floor. And the tub. I work nights and got up today and made myself do a cleaning project before work.
Background: I’m a Nurse Practitioner and my pcp won’t prescribe medication for adhd, even though we both know I have it, because I’m “too successful and you don’t need it.” So I have to force myself to do The Things. | 2021-11-27T17:56:15.000Z | r3ivrb | 9 | 110 | ADHD | I cleaned my bathroom!!! | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3ivrb/i_cleaned_my_bathroom/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T17:53:14.000Z | r3ite5 | 9 | 35 | ADHD | My psychiatrist went on vacation for the holidays and forgot to refill my prescription first. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3ite5/my_psychiatrist_went_on_vacation_for_the_holidays/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T17:45:07.000Z | r3in2v | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I need help.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3in2v/i_need_help/ |
BigChungus21002 | [removed] | 2021-11-27T17:43:48.000Z | r3im38 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Cool video | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3im38/cool_video/ |
PersonalPenguin28 | I'm watching Blown Away: Christmas on Netflix. No spoilers. I just keep thinking that Edgar has ADHD. He always finishes first, sometimes forgetting elements. The judges asked him if he considered re-making a piece, and he was like, "yeah, but I forgot, honestly". He's super bouncy and energetic in the interview portions.
I feel like watching him in the hot shop might be what it's like to watch me work. | 2021-11-27T17:38:54.000Z | r3ii9u | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Relatable Content | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3ii9u/relatable_content/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T17:34:07.000Z | r3iepw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I don't know how to say this... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3iepw/i_dont_know_how_to_say_this/ |
Skorobogatiji | [removed] | 2021-11-27T17:27:47.000Z | r3i9ur | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Do you often feel bored and want to change that? I have our article that can help you with that | 0.25 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3i9ur/do_you_often_feel_bored_and_want_to_change_that_i/ |
KateSureIsMyName | To everyone here I'd like to say thank you and keep going.
Thank you for making me realise I had ADHD and giving me the confidence to get a diagnosis. Thank you for sharing all of your ups, downs and symptoms. They all helped me to validate my issues and work around or with them. Thank you for always being funny and honest about your day to day troubles. It helped to take away the shame and humiliation I felt for years.
For those of you here who aren't yet diagnosed or who are struggling with your diagnosis please just keep on. Stay here and read a few posts a day. Read the memes, they're relatable, sometimes funny and sometimes painful but always educational. If you need help or adjustments don't feel bad asking for them. And make sure you do. You're not being unreasonable, you're not being a bother. You're advocating for yourself and helping the community, too by asking for what you need. Even if you've yet to be diagnosed. It's a long process and you don't have to wait 2 years to start asking people around you to give you space or to start organising your house to better suit your brain. Those things are free and your right as a human. Fucking never feel bad for it.
If you're on meds please take them when you need them. Because you do NEED them if youre prescribed them and you find that they help you. Never let anyone make you feel like you don't. They're not a crutch or a band aid. Your brain may have as many as 80% more many dopamine reuptake transmitters than the average person. If this is the case for you then it means you cannot hold dopamine in your brain as long as others. This can be a severe deficiency. Most drugs plug those reuptake transmitters to hold the dopamine for as long as regular brains. This isn't a band aid or temporary solution to poor behaviour. It's a very, very serious genetic condition that your drugs can almost entirely treat. NEVER feel bad about it. Take them if you need them. They can be life saving. Learn about your specific meds and work with them. If you're prescribed meds and they help you then embrace them and anyone who makes you feel weird about taking them can go fuck themselves.
TLDR; Thank you all, anyone feeling bad make sure you use this sub to help you normalise your requirements and advocate for yourself, anyone on meds don't feel bad. Take them if they help you and own it. Fuck the stigma. It's based on lies, ignorance and bullshit.
Happy holidays everyone :) stay safe and make it easy for yourself this year. Not for everyone else around you. | 2021-11-27T17:25:54.000Z | r3i8g5 | 1 | 5 | ADHD | Everyone in this place | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3i8g5/everyone_in_this_place/ |
Key-Tie5572 | i go through though time right now.
i went to uni in September and i dont like it anymore. and there are 2 things that makes me mad. First one - if i quit then it will be another thing i quit. Second one beeing another 3,5years at uni i dont like.
if i quit what am i going to do? will I be satisfied that i wasnt able to finish it? how am i going to find a job which i like?
it stresses me out. all the time. it follows me. always. and im so exhausted. everobody around thinks i am mad and i need to calm down. or settle down.
yeah but it aint that easy with this kind of brain. it feels like i must find my purpose. my meaning of life but as it is not coming im getting even more and more stressed and depressed. such a downward spiral and i dont know how the hell i can get out of that.
i am paralyzed to make any decisions cause i have mixed feelings about everything.
i have the will to do something with the situation but it too difficult.
please tell me i am not the only one that goes through this | 2021-11-27T17:21:47.000Z | r3i5a3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | though time/paralysis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3i5a3/though_timeparalysis/ |
pastatuite | I recently got prescribed Adderall XR 10mg. I have an alarm set every morning for 10 am to take it so that by 11 pm I can take my night meds and go to bed.
But here I am, 11 am, and I have no clue what to do with myself.
I have nothing particularly important to do until like, 1 pm? My husband is still sound asleep, so I don’t want to rummage through the room cleaning and wake him.
But also I’m still so new to it, and I don’t want to skip days because I want my tolerance to go up so that the side effects go away.
And it’s almost every single morning, and I throw myself into an anxiety attack because I’m not productive. My hearts beating just a tad bit faster and a tad bit harder, and I feel like I need do things to compensate with that.
Now reminder, I’m not working or going to school at the moment either. I’m just sort of existing, applying for jobs, that’s about it.
Does anyone else experience the same problems or am I just unmotivated? | 2021-11-27T17:18:53.000Z | r3i310 | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Taking meds early, and I don’t know what to do with myself. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3i310/taking_meds_early_and_i_dont_know_what_to_do_with/ |
Lavender354 | Hi everyone !
I (22 F) just was diagnosed with ADHD (like yesterday). I've suspected I have ADHD for a few months now, and I talked about it with my psychiatrist, who told me I indeed had some clinical signs of ADHD. So we went in with the testing (one questionnaire + one clinical assessment) and he told me that I meet enough criteria to get the ADHD diagnosis. The problem is, I also have cPTSD (for those of you who don't know it, it stems from repetitive abuse during childhood/teenagehood causing some form -in my case!- of traumatic amnesia : I don't really remember much of my childhood). So fact is, I didn't have much memories from my childhood to meet the "before 12 yo" criteria, I tried to remember as much as I could but idk like the main point of my post it that, now that I have a diagnosis, I feel like I was faking my whole interview and the whole testing, even if somehow I'm still convinced I have ADHD cause I really meet a lot of the diagnostic criteria.
So basically yeah, I feel like I'm faking everything just to get attention or to find some cause for my everyday life struggles, even though I know it's not true? So yeah a bit of a paradoxe ahah I don't really know how to express it better than I just did. I guess a lot of you went through this as well after you were diagnosed, so do you have some coping strategies/things that helped you feel you are valid and not a fraud ?
That would help a lot
PS : sorry if there are any mistakes, english isn't my first language, so let me know if it's like really confusing aha | 2021-11-27T17:17:51.000Z | r3i2a3 | 12 | 7 | ADHD | ADHD diagnosis as an adult and imposter syndrom | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3i2a3/adhd_diagnosis_as_an_adult_and_imposter_syndrom/ |
MenuTime5231 | I'm sitting here reflecting on a cold slow Saturday at work. I feel like there's so many things I could probably do with my time (mostly when it's too late to do them)
But I have this feeling like life would be better if I had someone kind of directing traffic. I've come a long way over time but I still have these lingering things. I feel like I'm looking for my mother. Someone to say "Do this" "Come on time to get up and get to it. We are leaving in 10 mins" "We are going to find another way" "You are going to this thing even if I have to carry you myself" type thing.
Sure my wife can yell at me to get out of bed and get the house clean or take the garbage out but it registers more of overbearing. It is an intriguing feeling.
There's some learned helplessness in here as much of my life I felt incapable of doing things. I don't know exactly what taking care of myself means. A way I take care of myself is by taking care of others but as my wife says "who is there to take care of you" I feel this may describe executive disfunction as well. In any case, it bums me out that even death hasn't motivated me to really push myself to live with what I perceive as purpose. What exactly is it going to take to get my fire back? I don't feel a lot of motivation to do a lot and my thoughts seem like mental masturbation | 2021-11-27T17:09:10.000Z | r3hvkw | 25 | 264 | ADHD | It feels like life would be easier if someone was holding my hand through everything | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3hvkw/it_feels_like_life_would_be_easier_if_someone_was/ |
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Elexxys | I was diagnosed late with ADHD, and I feel like my doctor still doesn't believe it. The biggest thing that he seems to struggle with is that I wasn't diagnosed as a child (I'm 41F, diagnoses of children when I was young was rare as is, and girls always fall through the cracks). I was teased (by my parents and their friends) out of a lot of early signs of it (I was unable to express happiness/excitement like other children and would get WAY overexcited and flap my arms like a bird, and the adults would always laugh and ask me if I was going to fly away), and other factors were just attributed to me being an "active child". My report cards from kindergarten on always seemed to mention "is a chatty child". My homework was always a challenge (had a homework book my parents had to sign off on every day when I was in grade 8 because it got so bad).. I was recruited for the gifted program in high school, which my parents asked me if I'd want to partake in, and I declined (didn't want to be labelled as a gifted child). School was super easy, I didn't study, I aced tests, could do the practical hands on amazing, but never did homework/assignments. I got the obligatory "if you only applied yourself" speeches from teachers (to which I would reply, "I get A's without applying myself, so why?") who always wanted to see the most "potential" achieved.
I didn't really struggle with ADHD until I became an adult. And the older I got, the harder it got. The things that they labelled as "normal" and "everyone struggles with that" were not the same. The migraines, the lack of recall/memory, the need to re-read things 10x before being able to retain it, the depressive episodes... I had so many things labelled as depression/anxiety.
The biggest lightbulb moment, to date, was seeing a post about "Emotional Hyperarousal" for people with ADHD. It included "I'm always tense. I can never relax." as one of the common descriptions for those of us who have these symptoms. This is my life! My entire body is constantly tense, when people are like "you need to relax" I literally have to respond "I physically can't". When I go for massages, the RMT is always like "you need to relax your muscles" and I have to tell them that that is as relaxed as they get, and my body is a mass of knots everywhere as a result of it. My tenseness has always been attributed to deeply rooted lifelong anxiety that keeps me in fight/flight mode. But when I am treated for ADHD, I don't feel anxious, but still cannot relax. Relaxation feels like a myth, I've never felt it.
Does anyone else have these lightbulb moments?? Or struggle with the tense/relaxation and other emotional hyperarousal symptoms? | 2021-11-27T17:08:48.000Z | r3hvah | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Those lightbulb moments about symptoms you've struggled with.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3hvah/those_lightbulb_moments_about_symptoms_youve/ |
aipple19 | Hello fellow Redditors..wanted to share a struggle that I've had basically all my life in hopes of connecting with anyone who can relate. I've struggled with my weight since I was a child and have always been overweight compared to my peers. Somewhere along the way I was able to lose weight (in some unhealthy ways like starving myself) in high-school. That was short lived. Then I lost quite a bit of weight in my early 20's and that was when I was in a very abusive relationship and had bad IBS plus my husband and his family had a really different diet so I adapted (lots of fruits, veggies, baked chicken, all good stuff like that). At that point in my life I still felt fat in certain areas (thighs, belly) but overall was at a good point in terms of weight.
Now I'm 30 and just recently found out I have both ADHD and PCOS which explains so many of my struggles around this issue and how I crave carbs, have low self control over desserts, etc.
I've tried calorie counting on and off and most recently bought a food scale. The excitement and novelty over that wore off in about two weeks.
It's just hard to stick to any plan to exercise or eat healthier/less calories.
What makes me feel worse is how physically healthy my husband is and how everyone in my circle and age group have lost their pregnancy weight and I'm still struggling 2.5 years later post birth to lose it. To the point where I hate thinking about another pregnancy simply because of how I'll put on more weight. Prior to my pregnancy I was in the overweight category (by BMI) but after pregnancy I landed in the obese category.
This post is not to hate on anyone, really! I know weight struggles first hand and have learned to judge people past that. Most recently after a good talk with my therapist and following lots of body positivity influencers on social media, I began trying to love my body a bit more and just trying to take care of it by going on walks and eating a bit better.
However, with covid getting better and us getting back to seeing people again and meeting family and friends, I feel judged and compare myself to others a lot...weight loss is often a topic of conversation amongst my peers and recently someone confronted me about it too. I cried at that moment but truly it was the nicest way anyone's ever approached me about it. It was from a health perspective and how to prevent getting high blood pressure and other diseases at an early age. I don't think anyone's ever said it that nicely, mostly I've just been confronted by my parents or others really rudely to *lose weight* or *you're getting fat* with no understanding or kindness.
Anyway, I don't really have anyone to talk to this about who would understand. Very few people know that I have ADHD but I've been a bit more open about my PCOS amongst my friends.
I just feel like this combination is so hard to struggle with and wonder if there's anyone out there who has these issues. If you have any advice, I'm open!
Thank you for anyone who read this through. 💜 | 2021-11-27T17:07:42.000Z | r3huey | 4 | 3 | ADHD | PCOS + ADHD Weight struggles | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3huey/pcos_adhd_weight_struggles/ |
ImmaTigerPawPrincess | I found my results from a personality test that my therapist gave me before I was diagnosed as ADHD. I think that it clearly indicates how much ADHD affects my life.
I scored very high (99%) on the Openness domain. Open to new experiences, broad interests, very imaginative. Problem number one.
Mix in a little agreeableness (average, 59%) and I go with the flow. Problem number two.
Then we get to Conscientious domain. Well organized, high standards, dependable. I scored 0% overall. ZERO. My therapist said he’s never had anyone score that low. However, a subcategory of that domain is striving to meet your goals. I actually had average scores for that. So basically I WANT to get it together, but I can’t.
Which leads us to the Neuroticism domain. This is anxiety, impulsiveness, self-consciousness, vulnerability to stress, and depression. It’s no wonder that I scored 96%. My whole life has been a constant mouse wheel of desperately trying to have some success but I always end up back where I started, defeated and self-loathing. [test results](https://imgur.com/a/iVB66tL) | 2021-11-27T17:04:30.000Z | r3hs20 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Results of my personality test | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3hs20/results_of_my_personality_test/ |
ArcaneSpellbook | [removed] | 2021-11-27T16:57:08.000Z | r3hm1k | 16 | 149 | ADHD | It's kind of nice being the most versatile mofo you know | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3hm1k/its_kind_of_nice_being_the_most_versatile_mofo/ |
ArcaneSpellbook | I really want to be able to speak spanish. It would be so helpful in so many parts of my life. The issue is that I have a hard time focusing on it long term. I bust out a crap ton of study a week every few weeks and it's not helpful. Plus I want to learn more languages afterwards but not study strategy that I've found works for me. | 2021-11-27T16:53:08.000Z | r3hj0i | 3 | 2 | ADHD | any advice for language learning with adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3hj0i/any_advice_for_language_learning_with_adhd/ |
NaiveAd7059 | I created a checklist of things that I know will make me feel better if I do them, but I haven’t been able to will myself to do them because sometimes I’m either too depressed or it just feels too hard to do. Examples are: exercise, eat breakfast, put on make up etc.
So I decided to make a point system for the checklist and when I reach a certain number of points I will get a reward. My husband is currently unemployed and I am a stay at home mom, so I’d like these all to be free ideas for the time being. I’m kind of stuck because the only thing I can think of is a 20 minute massage that my husband agreed to if I hit a certain number of points.
Any ideas on some rewards that are free and exciting enough to entice me to do the things on my checklist? | 2021-11-27T16:52:40.000Z | r3hiol | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Need help with free reward ideas | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3hiol/need_help_with_free_reward_ideas/ |
Kelekona | There's spoon theory and matchstick theory to describe limited energy for doing things. There's also fork theory for how someone has enough energy, but limited tolerance for things going wrong. Is there something equivalent for how the energy is there, but directing it into productivity is hard?
For example, I was going to do the dishes. If I had dove into just doing the plates and bowls, I might have been able to, but the resistance was that I wanted to do mugs and they should be done before food dishes and I ended up not getting to them before mom did. If I had done the plates and bowls, she would have gotten the mugs anyway. | 2021-11-27T16:52:16.000Z | r3hieo | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Is there something like spoon theory to describe how hard it is to get started with executive dysfunction? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3hieo/is_there_something_like_spoon_theory_to_describe/ |
orvilleshrek | [removed] | 2021-11-27T16:50:34.000Z | r3hh44 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | newly diagnosed, looking for advice on getting through grad school finals while waiting to see a psychiatrist | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3hh44/newly_diagnosed_looking_for_advice_on_getting/ |
DGDDesdemona | Hi all, I'm currently in a gap year and after months of being so incredly down and insecure about my future and what study to follow I finally feel like I have a plan.
From feeling incredibly worthless to finally feeling like I have a direction is an absolutely amazing feeling!
I want to follow the study of Sound Design however I don't have enough experience or knowledge in order to be accepted into the school, so I was thinking about doing a program that prepares me for the study and hopefully gives me enough portfolio material and experience to be good enough to follow the study.
Besides the study I really want to get into it at home with self study but the problem I face and always have faced is that my motivation to continue will slowly drain away.
Time and time again I'm convinced I found the thing that I want to do only to have it end in me having 0 interest in it anymore after a small time period.
I just want to be able to focus on something and grow to be good at it however I feel like I am just unable to do that.
I stopped taking adhd medication about a year ago because I feel like a bag of potatoes on it and that it drains my personality and creativity.
Anyways, back to the question:
Do you guys have advice for me that helped you with keeping up your motivation to pursue your goal for longer periods of time without your interest in the subject slowly degrading?
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this, I really appreciate it! | 2021-11-27T16:43:04.000Z | r3hbbg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do I keep up motivation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3hbbg/how_do_i_keep_up_motivation/ |
GamerShay | Hi all. I've been in this community for a few months now since when my therapist proposed the idea that I MIGHT have ADHD and whether I would like to have it checked and diagnosed.
The first time she mentioned this I thought "no that's not me", without really knowing a lot about it. I set out to learn about it through healthcare sites, youtubers like How To ADHD and this subreddit.
Suffice to say I wasn't recognizing everything that was said. For example, forgetting everything. I tend to forget very selectively, like dentist appointments, bills and work related agreements but I don't forget conversations I've had with people, words that were said, names or all the small details of my favorite video game.
That, and me just being a critical person in general, caused this imposter syndrome in me as many have already related with in this subreddit.
I was diagnosed officially last week, to my simultaneous suprise/non-suprise.
I thought it might be a good idea to ask everyone what symptoms they do not relate with to show that not every single ADHD-case is the same.
I'm looking forward to your replies! | 2021-11-27T16:41:38.000Z | r3ha8g | 3 | 3 | ADHD | What symptoms do you not recognize? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3ha8g/what_symptoms_do_you_not_recognize/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T16:39:46.000Z | r3h8uy | 5 | 4 | ADHD | If I take my Meds for to many days in a row I have a mental breakdown from being so productive. | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3h8uy/if_i_take_my_meds_for_to_many_days_in_a_row_i/ |
MenuTime5231 | [removed] | 2021-11-27T16:38:29.000Z | r3h7yp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Life feels like it would be much easier if someone was kind of holding my hand through it. Anyone else feel the same? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3h7yp/life_feels_like_it_would_be_much_easier_if/ |
WiteXDan | Over the last few years I feel like I've tried every teached productivity technique from workshops I went to, but for this problem all of them were barely useful. Might help for a few days, when fully focusing, but it will either feel like a torture when keeping doing it or I will not notice when I accidentaly turned on reddit for 5th time in last 10 minutes. I know that habits take long time to help, so I am mostly venting and looking for advice how to make them more bearable.
RescueTime, blocking website, hiding phone, pomodoro, meditation and changing enviroment are the examples of what I've tried, but they take so much of my willpower that I get tired and stop working instead. For some reason working 9-17 from home is much easier, than reading one chapter of a book or writing a project description.
There were many days when I cycled between 5 different social media, just refreshing and watching same post over and over. When I managed to go back to work it took me minutes or even seconds before compulsory alt-tabbing back to browser.
Today is next day when I told myself in the morning that I will study, but now it's 5:30PM and I still haven't finished watching my 1,5h lesson. Also sorry for chaotic writing. Days like this do this. | 2021-11-27T16:36:28.000Z | r3h6ge | 5 | 3 | ADHD | How do you make yourself to not check social media every 30 seconds? | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3h6ge/how_do_you_make_yourself_to_not_check_social/ |
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KillerKween19 | [removed] | 2021-11-27T16:28:49.000Z | r3h0mz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Whomever is taking meds that work for you, what is it like? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3h0mz/whomever_is_taking_meds_that_work_for_you_what_is/ |
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ManjoBan | tl;dr Made Thanksgiving dinner (Cornish hen, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, stuffing, brussels sprouts) by myself, and had it on the table at 4:57. Thank you Adderall!
I (31/M) was diagnosed with ADHD at 29, spent 1 year on Ritalin (20-40mg XR + PRN as needed), and I had VERY mixed results. 50% of the time it worked okay, 50% of the time it made me feel like a zombie. About 4 months ago my Psychologist prescribed me Lexapro (20mg) and Adderall (20mg XR + IR as needed). Time management and multitasking have always been EXTREMELY difficult for me.
This is the first Thanksgiving my partner and I have spent alone...ever (thanks COVID). She has been crazy busy in her PhD program, so I said I could cook dinner, and I would have it on the table by 5pm. She looked at me with the "Sure, I will plan for 7pm" eyes, which is totally fair because I ALWAYS underestimate how long things would take. Always.
I took a 5mg IR at 1:30pm (on top of my 20mg XR at 8am) and started cooking. I had 5 things going at once: Cornish hen and stuffing in the oven, cranberry sauce, mashed potatoes, and brussels sprouts on the stove. I felt focused, had a checklist of what was prepared, what needed to be, and a few notes about my recipes. For the first time in my life (and I mean my entire life) I was **not stressed out** by all of the things I was doing. I actually found it extremely fun and very satisfying.
I finished mashing the potatoes and had the food plated at **exactly 4:57**. My partner was absolutely astonished. We sat down to eat, and I just stared at the food. My partner asked "What's wrong?" and I responded "Nothing. Absolutely nothing. For once, everything is right." and I almost started crying. The tears welling in my eyes were ones of pure joy and disbelief.
Thank you Adderall, and I hope all of you beautiful people out there can find the help you need to feel the way I felt on Thursday. | 2021-11-27T16:26:20.000Z | r3gyux | 10 | 43 | ADHD | I made Thanksgiving dinner and almost cried. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3gyux/i_made_thanksgiving_dinner_and_almost_cried/ |
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Green-Jacket-8033 | How Am I always behind on Uni work? I barely pass anything, and If I do my studying always consists of staying awake the night before and try to learn everything( keep in mind I study biology). Furthermore, I am the only one who has not made a single friend, but I am aware that I am very shy and closed off. I am undiagnosed, and I am sorry if I come off as If I am self diagnosing, I just have not gotten the guts to push through to getting diagnosed, mostly because I know no one will believe me or doubt me and Because I recently moved and I do not really know what to do. I do not need extra time in exams, I just need help studying and To not have to repeat the year by failing 3 classes. | 2021-11-27T16:11:18.000Z | r3gnrl | 1 | 3 | ADHD | University | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3gnrl/university/ |
batboiben | why can't i have an aesthetically pleasing, clean desk AND remember to take my medication at the same time. i take my time to organize all of it in its own space and make it neat... but no matter how hard i vow to keep it there and remember, i end up having to put it right in front of my face anyways, or else ill forget. same thing with my mini backpack i bring everywhere!! i can't be like "okay, i dont need this today, im gonna take it out to give me more space for something i might buy" because ill forget to put it back the next 10 times i DO need it.
i really frustrate myself lmfao. adderall has not seemed to help with this so far. | 2021-11-27T16:10:08.000Z | r3gmy1 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Organization is impossible sometimes | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3gmy1/organization_is_impossible_sometimes/ |
New_Adagio_3635 | I (m23) am in a relationship with a woman (23) since about two months now.
We really like each other and we both want to make this relationship work.
We had a talk lately of how we see our future in this relationship and what our needs and wants for the relationship are.
We agreed to think about these things and have a mature talk about it the next time we meet.
I try to think about it in a very constuctive way and I really try to put my thoughts into words.
However, I do have a hard time to think of a need that I have and not fall into hyperfocus about it and completely miss the point of what I was thinking about, or even overexagerate something and make a bigger deal out of it than it should be.
Sometime I am not really able if the need that I have in mind is really something rational or something I am overthinking.
I have the tendency to hyperfocus on a person when I'm in a fresh relationship.
Do you have any advice on how I can distinguish my needs in a relationship from irrational ones? | 2021-11-27T16:06:11.000Z | r3gk69 | 7 | 4 | ADHD | Relationship needs and wants | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3gk69/relationship_needs_and_wants/ |
drago-awoken | I am a filmmaker and I am upgrading my MacBook Pro to one of the new spiffy M1 Pro machines, but my brain keeps going back and forth on getting the 14-inch or 16-inch size. It feels like EVERY TIME I think I make a decision, my brain is like, “Yeah, but what about THIS factor???” and I am back to square one. I’ve returned 2 machines so far and it’s starting to feel ridiculous and I just want to MAKE A DECISION ALREADY, but I can’t help it…
This is more of a vent than anything, but do you guys also experience this kind of indecision?? How do you deal with it?? | 2021-11-27T16:03:42.000Z | r3gid3 | 2 | 8 | ADHD | ADHD-induced indecision on making a big purchase = much stress. Send help. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3gid3/adhdinduced_indecision_on_making_a_big_purchase/ |
Justapoorboy55 | Here’s the first post from a new group blog with some different insights from different voices that this community might enjoy. This one talks about three different kinds of psychiatrists you might run into out in the wild.
There’s some other interesting posts, too:
1) A (clearly TLP-veteran level) analysis and breakdown of the first episode from the new HBO show [The Sex Lives of College Girls](https://hoarse.substack.com/p/anyone-interested-in-college-girls).
2) A fascinating (and IMO funny) longpost dissecting in riveting detail the [2021 Conspiracy Chart](https://hoarse.substack.com/p/pyramid).
3) An educational post about [the true nature and experience of Dissociation](https://hoarse.substack.com/p/what-is-dissociation), beginning a larger exploration on the nature and diagnosis of trauma and how this clinical term is being devalued. | 2021-11-27T16:00:50.000Z | r3gg82 | 2 | 0 | ADHD | A Primer on Psychiatrist Archetypes | Hoarse with No Name | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3gg82/a_primer_on_psychiatrist_archetypes_hoarse_with/ |
ani_priyonti | has anyone of you given it a try? My doc has prescribed me this for 6 months.
*Trigeminal nerve stimulation (TNS) uses a* ***small, battery powered device*** *to gently stimulate a nerve on the forehead called the trigeminal nerve. Stimulating this nerve sends signals to structures deep in the brain that regulate mood and attention.*
I am a bit scared ig lol. :) | 2021-11-27T15:58:18.000Z | r3geb8 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Trigeminal nerve stimulator (TNS) for ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3geb8/trigeminal_nerve_stimulator_tns_for_adhd/ |
tazijade | [removed] | 2021-11-27T15:50:53.000Z | r3g93z | 2 | 2 | ADHD | How long did it take you to find medication that worked? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3g93z/how_long_did_it_take_you_to_find_medication_that/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T15:45:19.000Z | r3g52x | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Got a new hyperfixation... but... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3g52x/got_a_new_hyperfixation_but/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T15:36:56.000Z | r3fz60 | 7 | 4 | ADHD | What some ways to stay hydrated? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3fz60/what_some_ways_to_stay_hydrated/ |
shortasiam | For the first time in years I'm going to go skating during the winter! Every year I want to go and every year the ADHD stops me because of all the steps involved. This year is even more complicated because of covid but I did it!
Here's what it involved:
Sign up with the community recreation website.
Find my skates.
Take my skates to get sharpened.
Find the public skate schedule.
Get gloves.
Log in online and book a skating time far enough in advance that there is still availability.
Every year I get stalled somewhere in the process and before I know it, it's spring again, but I did it! | 2021-11-27T15:36:49.000Z | r3fz2q | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I'm finally going skating after years! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3fz2q/im_finally_going_skating_after_years/ |
Accomplished-Ad-857 | Hi everyone,
So I was prescribed adderall Xr a little over a year ago, and everything was fine until about 4 months ago. I became really anxious when I took it, heart rate was in the 110 range when sitting, and my heart was constantly fluttering. The heart problems scared me so much that I stopped taking it. These symptoms started once I started a new semester at school, so I think it’s in my head, but I’ve became so hyper focused on my heart that it’s taking over my life. I haven’t taken my adderall in months, but I still feel that same heart fluttering feeling. I’ve went to a cardiologist and even the emergency room and they tell me everything’s fine, but I’m still nervous. My psychiatrist prescribed me vyvanse to see if it works better, but I’ve been too nervous to take it because I’m scared of how my heart will react. I’ve tried non-stimulants as well and they didn’t work. I’ve become obsessed with checking my heart rate on my Apple Watch and taking my blood pressure and it’s all normal. Is this all anxiety or could there be something actually wrong? | 2021-11-27T15:36:38.000Z | r3fyya | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Am I crazy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3fyya/am_i_crazy/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T15:34:11.000Z | r3fx7z | 7 | 4 | ADHD | Why is it that my closest friends/family either believe that ADHD isn’t real or that they all “have” ADHD? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3fx7z/why_is_it_that_my_closest_friendsfamily_either/ |
Nykolaishen | This very well could be bad info but when I was a kid and living at home I was absolutely not allowed to have a t.v in my room and my mind would just go and it would take me hours to fall asleep.
But now I am a grownupman and there are a few specific shows that I can watch/have on in the background that drown out my thoughts but aren't engaging enough/I have watched them so so many times that just turning the show on says to my brain that it's sleepy time. (I also in my grownupman life, smoke some (stuff that isn't allowed to be talked about in this sub reddit apparently) which I understand isn't legal for everyone but that's another conversation)
The shows that work for me are
1. any and all of david attenboroughs documentaries
2. Somebody feed Phil
3. Star trek the next generation (its so bad its good)
4. Brooklyn 99 (but only if you've already watched through it all 10 times)
5. Adventure time
6. I can't really think of anymore ATM but will think a little harder and add some if anyone cares to hear more.
The big one is the david attenborough docs... I've watched them all 100s of times. The ones about plants are better imo. Start with "the life of plants" | 2021-11-27T15:17:53.000Z | r3flaq | 26 | 14 | ADHD | To anyone who has troubles getting to sleep at night | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3flaq/to_anyone_who_has_troubles_getting_to_sleep_at/ |
Additional-Ostrich-7 | We been together for 4 years. I’m currently unemployed and in a hole and need help. I been diagnosed for 10 years and I’m 25, my adhd is so bad that my doctor told me I have the most severe case of adhd she’s seen and she’s been a doctor for 23 yrs.. Also no, I don’t do meds because I get tired and I don’t feel like myself.. I explained this all to her but she keeps writing off my depression (lack of motivation) as laziness. But Its so hard for me to find that motivation.. Any advice is greatly appreciated😔❤️
Also.. this app or community has really helped me stay alive, literally. I feel just so helpless sometimes but when I come here to read some of the stuff it makes me feel like I’m not alone. If you guys can do it then I can to.
Edit: thank you everyone for giving me the view that I understand. I always thought people didn’t care or wanna stand by me, you guys all made me realize YOU live YOUR life. People can only do so much as they have there own struggles. No one likes to help people who don’t wanna help themselves and that hits. Thank you peoples, y’all gave me the motivation to try medication again and tbh I feel hopeful and I won’t let this light you guys lit die. I’m already looking to schedule my appointment. Thank you, you guys are all blessings ❤️❤️ | 2021-11-27T15:16:55.000Z | r3fkl3 | 34 | 20 | ADHD | How do I get my gf to see that ADHD is an everyday(every second)battle.. ? | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3fkl3/how_do_i_get_my_gf_to_see_that_adhd_is_an/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T15:12:45.000Z | r3fhol | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Tried Xaggitin XL to see if it helps. Undiagnosed but 99% sure I have ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3fhol/tried_xaggitin_xl_to_see_if_it_helps_undiagnosed/ |
Adamm991 | Hey guys,
Hope you all doing well
Do you think coffee in the morning 8:30am (100-200mg) can potentiate Ritalin in the evening 6pm?
I think coffee in the morning does help with my attention and work, and I want to use Ritalin in the evening for studying. But I like to make sure it doesn't create more problems by potentiating Ritalin and creating anxiety or disturbing my sleep.
So what do you think about this method?
Thanks in advance
Edit, typo in the title. Meant Ritalin. | 2021-11-27T15:09:42.000Z | r3ffme | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Can coffee in the morning, potentiate Ritalon in the evening? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3ffme/can_coffee_in_the_morning_potentiate_ritalon_in/ |
NateBarnabi | Recently I've been trying to up my own efficiency, meditation, eating healthier, reading books; I've been doing well so far. However, I've found that my brain tends to believe that because I am putting in the work to change my habits, I should automatically be put above other people. For example, I am in high school basketball and after doing all of this on a gameday, and not playing well, I find myself getting extremely irratated that my friends who wake up 5 minutes before the bus leaves, play better than me. Thanks for taking the time to read this and any suggestions would be welcomed. | 2021-11-27T15:02:49.000Z | r3fask | 9 | 9 | ADHD | How to stop jealousy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3fask/how_to_stop_jealousy/ |
Touhidkhan72 | [removed] | 2021-11-27T14:57:32.000Z | r3f6tk | 2 | 1 | ADHD | 2021 Arnold Classic UK | Ehsan Azizi | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3f6tk/2021_arnold_classic_uk_ehsan_azizi/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-27T14:47:21.000Z | r3ezqo | 0 | 1 | ADHD | How do you react to smoking cannabis while medicated? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3ezqo/how_do_you_react_to_smoking_cannabis_while/ |
WhatchaDoinOverThere | Hello! After some months of struggling to function and hitting rock bottom multiple times, I have finally called my doctor who set up a meeting with a psychiatrist. I mentioned conditions I suspect to have- depresion,anxiety and adhd. She only noted depression when setting up the meeting. The main thing I want to focus on first is figuring out whether I have ADHD and was wondering if you guys have any tips on how to talk to the psychiatrist about that? I am very afraid of not being heard or believed, as this is the first time in my 24 years that I started to feel like I can be helped and that my life is worth something. | 2021-11-27T14:46:44.000Z | r3ezbq | 3 | 1 | ADHD | What worked best for you to get the proper diagnosis? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3ezbq/what_worked_best_for_you_to_get_the_proper/ |
rnulched | Just as the title suggests, my meds recently have started making me really sleepy.
A bit of background info: My psych prescribed me adderall XR about 6-7 months ago, starting at 10mg and then moving to 15mg once a day. About 2 months ago we switched from the one dose of 15mg in the morning, to one 10mg in the morning and a 5mg in the afternoon which has worked pretty well for me- up until about a week or so ago.
My meds are making me really tired, generally I feel relaxed after taking them but would never describe it as tired/sleepy beforehand.
I also notice this more with my afternoon dose than my morning, but it happens on occasion with that one aswell.
I’ve spoken to my psych about this and he says it may be due to my sleep due to it being a stimulant, but I’ve been sleeping about the same as I was off it, if not more than before (7-9 hours a night usually).
I’m just curious if anyone else has had this issue and what solutions I might try to help so I don’t end up dozing off an hour after waking up and taking my meds or being too tired to work after my second. Thank you for any help! | 2021-11-27T14:38:13.000Z | r3etjt | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Meds making me sleepy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3etjt/meds_making_me_sleepy/ |
lollygagger_london | Hello, a while ago I posted this short comedy about living with impaired exec functioning called 'Russian Doll'… which seemed to resonate here. Thank you all so much again for your feedback which was really useful & encouraging…. I’ve finally (2 years later! after a lot of blood sweat and hysteria) made the rest of the spin off show I mentioned in the comments.
I'd love to know what you make of it. It’s a matryoshka doll of shorts & sketches, which all fits into one half hour comedy pilot that I’d love to get funding to make properly for a channel or wherever. (It’s all been done on no-budget/self-funded while in covid unemployment.
Amazingly it’s been adopted by the UK’s ADHD Foundation. From the Pre-Frontal Vortex to the Frontal Adulting Lobe, the ADHDictionary & 'ADD FML' funny horror tales - it is full of really weird science and silly sketches that have been relating a lot - especially 'Filling' and 'The Finding your oyter card olympics. No budget, 3 years in the making, 25 mins long - please watch and share if you enjoy it - I'm really trying to raise awareness of how hard it is to get diagnosed as a woman in the UK, and how misunderstood it is as a condition. So many more episodes still to film - all about the superpowers we have when we actually function to our full potential... but for now this is it so far: [https://youtu.be/VTdiyPM\_NW4](https://t.co/JzQXwQSBLQ?amp=1)
(link to previous reddit post below - and the 'marbles/bag' metaphor that i love so much!)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/kmdk06/does\_this\_resonate\_with\_anyone\_here\_comedy\_short/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=web2x&context=3](https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/kmdk06/does_this_resonate_with_anyone_here_comedy_short/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) | 2021-11-27T14:35:58.000Z | r3es2u | 1 | 2 | ADHD | new comedy to raise awareness about living with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3es2u/new_comedy_to_raise_awareness_about_living_with/ |
Nickhames1 | [removed] | 2021-11-27T14:33:56.000Z | r3eqpu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it resonable for my parents to shut me in my room for 10 days because I have COVID, when I have ADHD, with emphasis on the Hyperactivity? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3eqpu/is_it_resonable_for_my_parents_to_shut_me_in_my/ |
mrpropane | [removed] | 2021-11-27T14:31:47.000Z | r3epah | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What brings happiness is too hard to achieve, what I CAN achieve brings no happiness | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3epah/what_brings_happiness_is_too_hard_to_achieve_what/ |
cornbreadthedog | Hi there,
My doctor and I had a conversation over text- he put in ONLY 2 weeks of regular prescriptions, and not my adderall (due yesterday). He asked me to call his office on Monday to schedule a follow up.
What does this mean- if the follow up won’t be a week or two, and I’m going that long without my 20mg XR and 15mg IR prescription?
I’m confused as to why he would do this. Does anyone have any ideas? | 2021-11-27T14:31:18.000Z | r3eoz3 | 15 | 3 | ADHD | Doctor refilled all prescriptions but adderall | 0.71 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3eoz3/doctor_refilled_all_prescriptions_but_adderall/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T14:30:51.000Z | r3eon8 | 17 | 1 | ADHD | Curious about looking into ADHD diagnosis (Canada) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3eon8/curious_about_looking_into_adhd_diagnosis_canada/ |
kattycaake | [removed] | 2021-11-27T14:30:01.000Z | r3eo1p | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can executive dysfunction affect things you are excited to do? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3eo1p/can_executive_dysfunction_affect_things_you_are/ |
chimillenial2020 | Hi there. I am switching to Vyvanse after being on Adderall for years. This is my first time switching ADHD meds and was wondering if anyone has had experience with Vyvanse so I can know what to expect. Adderall was okay for me. It did make me feel anxious at times, especially when I first took it and when the meds wore off because Adderall kicked in so fast and wore off so fast. I am hoping Vyvanse will be better. Anyone who can relate or anyone who has experience with Vyvanse, I would love to hear your thoughts. | 2021-11-27T14:14:00.000Z | r3edko | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Switching to Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3edko/switching_to_vyvanse/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-27T14:13:54.000Z | r3edhv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it normal to feel energetic and excited on Biphentin for the first few days? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3edhv/is_it_normal_to_feel_energetic_and_excited_on/ |
HappyLittleTringle | *Note from future me once I’d finished writing this: Shit got long. Sorry. Tl:dr bullets at bottom. Also I'll list here what I go into*
* *Recipes, Why they suck, and how they are actually useful.*
* *Spices, How to build up your confidence in spice pairing.*
* *Sauces, Put it IN your food, not just on it.*
* *Cleaning, Sometimes the best thing we can do is accept things.*
* *Kitchen Gadgets, Useful and fun.*
* *General Tips, Legitimately really useful advice to help improve your dishes.*
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So I first wanted to preface all of this by saying that these will all fail, without a doubt, the time you cook and everything goes “right” is nothing short of a miracle. But that is a good thing. As ADHDer’s when things go wrong is our time to shine. Things have been going wrong everyday since the day I was born because my brain doesn’t brain ‘correctly.’ And I’ll bet a lot of you can relate to that sentiment. But that only means we are sooo much better prepared to jump outside of the structured process and just deal with things because that’s what we’ve been doing since day one.
With that in mind, remember, it’s absolutely fine to fail and I really hope some of you get some helpful tips and advice through this.
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***Recipes can suck it forever!***
Many friends tell me I am a great cook and they are always impressed at how I can just whack something together and it tastes great. The response I always give them, and the advice I give to you now is FUCK RECIPES. Recipes make you less good of a cook. They are a terrific starting point to learn the basics but at a certain point relying on a recipe only hinders even a neurotypical brain.
For us it’s much worse though because of all the ways our ADHD messes with the structured recipe process. The amount of times I miss a step because I just got carried away, or because the choppy choppy is fun, the reading is boring so I gloss over it all and get back to chopping. Or I read a step over and over to not mess it up and the second I turn away from the recipe I’ve forgotten what I’m doing and have to go back to it.
This all just gets too frustrating and sucks all the fun out of cooking because I’m too worked up and annoyed dealing with how bad I’m failing at every step.
And more to the point, to a certain extent recipes don’t even make sense to follow. If you were to google “Mac and cheese recipe,” you don’t find one singular universal recipe for it, you find hundreds upon thousands of various recipes all making the same thing in different ways. And that’s simply because all these people didn’t follow the recipe. By not following a recipe you end up making better food, it’s as simple as that.
That said I use recipes quite a lot, I just don’t follow them.
First of all you need to figure out what you want to cook. And you might already know what you’re going for but most of the time you’ll need some inspiration. Hop on google and look loosely for what you want. Roast beef recipes, burger recipes, party food recipes, healthy chicken one pan recipes, tray bake dinner recipes, Spanish tapas recipes, fake-away recipes, whatever. Then just look around until you think “yeah, I could give that a go.” My go to for this is **tasty.co** just because all the recipes have 5 minute tops videos which blitz through the recipe and show the ideal end result. Don’t have to read anything.
Now that you know what you’re making and have your ‘initial’ recipe, google more recipes for that specific dish and look loosely at what they do differently and more importantly at what’s different that they add. This way you will know the rough process you need to follow and the various types of spices, ingredients and tips you can play around with which will make your version of it that much better. If you need one recipe to keep at hand in case you forget timings and temperatures, that’s fine, I do that all the time, pop it up on your phone and then you have it ready just in case.
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***Spice up your life - Hai Si Ja Hold Tight!***
Another key tip I always throw out there whenever somebody asks, is that you NEED a fully stocked spice cabinet. What I mean by this is just one time go out and get as many different basic spices you can. If you don’t have the space or money to get everything, focus on one cuisine for a while and then expand. For example, want to try your hand at some Mexican dishes? Paprika(regular and smoked), chili powder, chili flakes (generic will work fine but I’d get a few types, jalapeno, and chipotle is a good start, habanero for more intense burns), garlic powder, onion powder, coriander leaf. Sorted, now you have everything you need to start experimenting. Recipes be damned, get some rice and meat/meat substitute and just start bunging shit in, in random amounts until you find what works. By doing it this way, I’ve found it makes it more engaging and less pressuresome. Because if it doesn’t work as well as you hope, “Fuck it, I didn’t know what I was aiming for and I made this, at least it’s edible.”
And what’s more, is to experiment with what spices should go in which part of the meal. So for this I’d put salt, paprika and maybe a bit of onion, garlic, and chili powder in with the rice to give it a more interesting flavour and vibrant colour; and then once it’s cooked maybe some fresh cut up coriander. In the meat, just absolutely everything with some chopped tomatoes, onion, mushroom, black beans and sauces. Boom, you've made a really great beef chili.
Another good tip on what spices to get is to look at the ingredients of an ‘all in one’ spice pack. Look at the list of ingredients on a taco seasoning kit and you now know all the individual ingredients you need to make bomb ass taco seasoning from scratch but tweaked to your own tastes. I will add that I fully recommend grabbing a few ‘all in one’ spice mixes while you’re at it, mainly for ease in specific situations. But the reason you want to have basic spices first is that you can then start just chucking them in anything and everything until you learn what you like. For example, through this I know I prefer a good amount of smoked paprika, and use flakes over powder for my chili; jalapeno for that sweet spice, and chipotle for a more smoky barbeque flavour. I only know that because of trial and error.
Now that you’re starting to get the hang of this one type of food and spices, branch out to other similar things. That way you only need to get a handful of new spices before you’re ready to tackle an entire new food genre. Spanish food is close to Mexican in terms of spices so that’s a good start. To go to Italian food, you only need a few more green herbs. Cajun, American BBQ, both share a lot of the same spices.
The key takeaway here is to throw shit at a wall and see what sticks for you. Within months you’ll be enjoying amazing meals you never thought you’d be able to make, and with minimal effort or planning put in. You can literally go, “I have chicken in, I want it to taste Cajun, I’ll chuck this random stuff in a pan with it,” and you’ve made a great meal with almost zero thought or planning.
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***Be a little Sauce pot***
This one is exactly the same process as with spices. I would say get a handle on your spices first as that's the foundation of the meal. If you get too experimental with your sauces too soon everything just tastes like sriracha. Which, I mean, there are worse ways to live but still.
Get a handful of interesting sauces and try adding them in different amounts to stuff each time you cook and eventually you’ll know which ones work well in which dishes. I would recommend as a starting point getting some ketchup, sriracha, mustard, a nice BBQ sauce, and some reggae reggae (I don't know if that’s everywhere so it's basically just a good jerk/Jamaican sauce). And just add a squeeze to things every now and then depending on what flavour or food you’re going for.
In the same vein, experiment with adding stock to more saucy things, and get fancy flavoured oils. If you’re making a large batch of beef chili, add some thick beef stock to it and it’ll really help maximise the beefy flavour. Only thing to be wary of with stock is making something watery so make stock up separately and add it slowly bit by bit. With oils, a neutral oil is obviously useful to have around at all times, but sometimes using chilli oil or garlic or truffle or whatever can really make a dish feel a bit more special and just emphasize a certain flavour. But again, it's fine to not know what you're doing, just pick something and roll with it.
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***The bane of my existence - Cleaning up***
So for me personally, I’ve found that the absolute number one way to appease my ADHD brain and keep everything clean and tidy when I’m cooking, is to just accept that it won’t be clean and tidy when I’m cooking.
People always say to just clean as you go but people are wrong. That’s another task to manage and I’m too busy being over here in the zone making some dope food to worry about it now. So in my honest and personal opinion, I sort of feel we need to cut ourselves some slack in life every now and then and the fact is you’re actively trying to look after yourself and make something positive. Don’t let the fact things get a bit messy take away from that. Try to not feel too bad about it. Yeah it’s a mess but look at the great thing you just made. Mess is temporary, being able to make amazing food is forever.
But I know that’s not ‘strictly’ helpful. And so, here are some actual tips I guess.
Open the drawer below where you’re chopping and hang a carrier bag over it, shut it to lock the bag in place and use it for waste. It’s a legit tip, but I hate it. The bag gets in the way the more full it gets and it’s fiddly to open it every time. Not to mention gone is the age of the spare carrier bag so unless you’re drowning in bag’s for life then this goes out the door pretty quick. As I’ve already said, “Clean as you go,” is useless to an ADHD brain (mine at least) because it just complicates the whole process.
Instead I recommend just being slightly consciously aware of the mess and try nudging it closer to being done as you go so that you have an easier job later on. If the food you’re making has a bag or some plastic waste, try putting your food waste in that; or usually ‘on that’ in my case. Try to just have an area of the work space that you dump the rubbish for now so it's just one area to clean up later. Also if you use a chopping board people say use a tea towel underneath it so it doesn’t move. I use two squares of disposable kitchen roll so when I’m done I can then either move the rubbish on to the kitchen roll to make a makeshift bundle of rubbish for the bin; or I can clean away the rubbish by hand and then use the kitchen roll to wipe down the surface afterwards.
As for the washing up, this will never not be a problem. I put my hot pans straight under the tap to cool them down, throw on some washing up liquid and get the hot water going. Then just drop them in the washing up bowl below to soak until your brain lets you clean them. That way they are much much easier to clean when you need to do so. Also remember that there is no shame in cleaning something as and when you need it.
Also trying to limit utensils and kitchen things used for cooking means that there's less to clean up after. Get an **all purpose chef knife** to chop everything with and chop meat last so that you don’t need to swap knives or chopping boards because of contamination. If you can get some little **ramekins** or something these are great for chopped herbs or spices. Largely because even if they do get dirty and stay dirty for a while, it’s not like anybody ever urgently needed a ramekin. If you are chopping lots of different things for one dish, have **big large plates/ flatish bowls** and put the ingredients in small piles on them once chopped. That way you only have one large thing to clean rather than many little things for each individual chopped ingredient.
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***Make it fun, get some gadgets***
This is very much a personal enjoyment thing but I figured I’d add it anyway. Once you have a good general sense of what you’re doing in the kitchen, have some fun with it. Try to make different and interesting things. And often to do so you might need a gadget or two.
First and foremost, ol’ reliable, the **slow cooker**. With a slow cooker, you can literally cut up vegetables, throw them in with a seared hunk of meat seasoned generously with salt and pepper, add some stock and spices, and leave it on low for several hours. Then make rice or mash potatoes or something as a base for the meal and you’ve created something incredible with such little input. And bonus, you probably won't need the slow cooker again for a while so there is no urgency of running out of slow cookers before you need to clean this one.
I have a **manual food chopper**, which is like a pull cord blender thing. It’s a bit fiddly and has lots of bits to clean but ultimately, if I have to finely mince something or just cannot be bothered with fully chopping and I do not care how roughly chopped something is, bung it in this thing and within seconds it’s done. It’s compact enough to tuck away in the corner of a drawer which is really useful.
The last gadget I have is so wildly specific but it’s worth it to me. It’s a **stuffed burger press**. The main reason I love it is because every BBQ you go to everybody just brings store bought stuff. But with this you can make up your own mince and press it into burgers. Last time I did this one of my friends didn’t stop talking about how good that burger was for a week. (salt, pepper, flour and egg for binding, garlic, smoked paprika, sriracha, jalapeno flakes, all American burger seasoning.)
And it also has a little well maker so you can press a patty, make a well to fill, then press more mince on top to make a super thick, filled burger. One Christmas I did roast dinner burgers for me and some friends with this. Turkey mince burger, stuffed with honey cooked bacon and cranberry sauce, with brie on top.
The point is, which I think is mostly made by that last one, get some gadgets which you will find useful at making things easier for you, or simply find some that excite you into making things that are more fun and interesting to make.
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***Handy dandy cooking advice to help you on your way.***
And lastly I figured I’d share some direct cooking tips to help push your meals over the top.
**Season season season**. Every single thing you make you want to be using a generous amount of salt and pepper before adding anything else. And then when you do move on to more interesting spices make sure you use them enough to taste them without overpowering the core ingredients. And furthermore if you make something and felt it could be improved this is your step one for how to improve it. Try it again but be more generous with your salt, your pepper and all your spices or if it overpowered the meal, this is where you dial it back.
**Organise by Cuisine first, spices second**. My spice shelf is organised with spicy more Mexican flavours on the left, moving into more Italian herbs, then into Mediterranean and Greek, before ending with Indian, Chinese, Japanese type flavours over on the right. Or at least, in the ideal world is naturally it becomes chaos again over time, but when I organise it, this is what I go for. Sure there’s a lot of overlap, and I might need chili powder or flakes from the left side to go in a Chinese dish I’m making with spices from the right; but generally it really helps me having everything grouped by food rather than just spices on the left, herbs on the right, or something like that.
**Cracked rock salt and black pepper** is infinitely better. Have table salt to sprinkle on chips or add to boiling water and ground pepper for little bits of pep on your food, but for actual cooking, rock salt and cracked black pepper, every time.
**Fresh is best.** It’s always good to have dried herbs and spices on hand just in case. But when you’re going all out, stretch for fresh herbs, it can really make all the difference.
**Timing** is important. It seems obvious, make sure your meat/ meat substitute is cooked correctly, work everything else out around that. And generally aside from salt and pepper, it's important to make sure you don’t season it too soon or you can end up burning your spices. This is doubly important for fresh ingredients.
**Garlic** is key. Recipes will tell you to use two cloves for a meal for four and recipes are wrong. You want to be hitting that sweet spot where you can taste the garlic in the mix of flavours but it doesn’t overpower anything. If I am cooking for one I’d use about 4 to 6 cloves depending on the size. Or at least the equivalent of.
Get **Squeezy ingredients**. Garlic and ginger are the main ones, dealing with these fresh and trying to finely mince them is a huge pain. I have a garlic mince I never use because garlic mulches up inside it and then is impossible to get out. Even more so when I forget to clean it for a week and it dries harder than concrete. And so by all means make your life easier, cut this pain in the ass corner and get squeezy ingredients.
**Butter**. This is for when you want to impress somebody or make something really indulgent, add a bit of butter to everything. All the vegetables, pasta, meats. Obviously don’t go absolutely mental with it but butter makes things taste better. That's how restaurants have great tasting veggies.
**Honey** (or lemon I guess). Have some squeezy honey on hand at all times. Basically, when you make food often you will feel it is missing 'something.' That something is usually sweetness or sharpness. Personally I’m not a huge fan of sour/sharp things like lime or lemon so fear they could kill a dish for me fairly quickly. They still work in this context but for me it's honey every time.
It’s the same idea as with sauces. One thing that sauces add, without your realising, is sweetness. Sriracha is a hot sauce with sweetness. Ketchup is tomato with sweetness. Mustard is spice with sharpness. BBQ sauce is smoky with sweetness. Jerk sauce is odd because I've found it varies so much but it’s either smoky and/or spicy, with either sharpness or sweetness depending what sauce you get. Reggae reggae is spicy and smoky with sweetness. But if you want to cut straight through everything and just blow somebody away. Honey.
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I know that was a lot to read so massively thank you if you did. Even if this helps just one person I’m happy. I really hope some of these tips help you enjoy cooking a bit more and help to make it work with your ADHD rather than against it. And again to reiterate what I said at the start. These are all things which will help make cooking better, easier, and more enjoyable. But they will without a doubt fail from time to time. And that’s okay. We ADHDer’s are wildly resourceful and that's something to be so so proud of. The amount of times I’ve bought ingredients based on a handful of spices only to find out I’ve run out them and can’t do that specific dish anymore; I cannot even begin to count. But every time that happens, because of the loosey goosey free-form jazz approach to cooking I take, I can just pivot into making something entirely different but equally as fun and just as tasty. **Our creative side can really be explored through cooking, the only issue is that at the beginning it’s so difficult getting bogged down not knowing what to do and having to follow strict rules to get better. That's why I wrote this all out to tell you, fuck the rules, add whatever you want to whatever you want, if it tastes bad don’t do it again.**
**Good luck.**
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Tl;dr
* Don’t follow recipes. Use them for meal inspiration first, and then ingredient, spices and process inspiration second.
* Get spices, lots and lots of spices. It helps to start with the spices of one cuisine and nail that first, then branch out to other cuisines later.
* Add those spices to everything until you work out which spices you like best and how to use them to compliment each other.
* Sauces are the exact same, get a load and add them to your cooking. But remember that spices are more important, they are the foundation of the dish, the sauce is the little something at the end.
* Cleaning up is hard. Best advice is to just accept that there will be mess and then to manage that as best you can. I add all my mess to one pile on the work surface and put it in the plastic waste of the food. Then there's much less to clean at the end.
* Pans go straight in the sink after cooking so they can be cleaned easier later. There's no shame in just cleaning the pan you need, as and when you need it.
* Kitchen gadgets can be useful in helping you cook and also in making it more fun to make interesting things.
* For more direct tips to improve general cooking food quality read the last section. | 2021-11-27T14:01:55.000Z | r3e5p0 | 1 | 4 | ADHD | I saw a post about ADHD cooking struggles and wanted to share some tips. | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3e5p0/i_saw_a_post_about_adhd_cooking_struggles_and/ |
chimillenial2020 | [removed] | 2021-11-27T14:01:28.000Z | r3e5dz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Switching to Vyvanse. What to expect? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3e5dz/switching_to_vyvanse_what_to_expect/ |
EmotionalLaborQueen | Hi all -
My 8yo has been taking focalin XR since September, gradually ramping up until we saw an effect in school at 20mg. Unfortunately, he has also been periodically throwing up in the morning - this has happened four times now - once on 15mg and three times on 20mg. The odd thing is it seems to happen in the morning BEFORE he takes his medication. Has anyone experienced this? We are working with a great pediatric psychiatrist, but she is on vacation for the next week and I guess I'm just freaking out a bit (like parents do) :)
The medication has been SO HELPFUL for him - he almost cried the first day he took a good dose because he said it "quiets the noise" in his mind. His ADHD is really severe and he struggles so much and I was really hoping the medication would help. For those of you with stomach side effects - were you able to find something eventually that worked?
Thank you all so much for your help and insight - it was this group that led me to get him tested two years ago and it has been a journey. | 2021-11-27T13:43:48.000Z | r3dtrj | 16 | 4 | ADHD | 8 year old vomiting with Focalin please help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3dtrj/8_year_old_vomiting_with_focalin_please_help/ |
annoyingmfsthroaway | I’ll start by saying I’m not diagnosed or anything but its insane how well ADHD explains most of my behavior. I haven’t been able to find much information online about socializing tho and I would love to hear other people’s experiences.
Ok so I’ve never had social skills or really known how to interact with people, when I was a kid I used to talk a lot but that went away as I grew up due to social anxiety (for reasons unrelated to ADHD). Because of it I never actually learned how to talk to people properly or behave in social situations and now that I’m over it I find connecting to people pretty hard.
When I was a kid I used to talk a ton not in not an incredibly expressive way but it wasn’t threatening or anything because I sounded like a kid. I’m older now but my form of communication hasn’t really changed, my voice is incredibly monotonous and I sound like if I’m debating someone, it’s really annoying because I feel like I come across as pissed off, uninterested, or threatening when that’s really not the way I feel.
I also express my emotions in a different way than what people expect of me, when I’m exited about something small I do weird noises and am extremely energetic, other times with bigger stuff I just don’t visibly react at all. I usually try to “fake” visible excitement so that people understand the way I feel even tho that’s not how I would’ve expressed it naturally, I’m not very good at it tho so it just looks like I’m bored or don’t care at all. This has lead to a few conflicts specially with my family because I don’t have the energy to fake visible excitement and they assume I’m angry or feel hurt by me sounding the way I do.
Also making casual conversation is a pain because I can never focus on a conversation unless it’s something I’m interested in and I almost never talk about stuff I’m not obsessed with, it’s pretty annoying because I just feel a huge barrier between me and the people around me, I feel like I’ve only genuinely connected with my ex girlfriend (probably had ADHD) and my best friend (probably autistic and maybe ADHD) because we share those small interests I’m visibly exited about and don’t have the need to fake any emotion.
I don’t actually know if this is an ADHD thing, I might just be weird but I’ve been able to explain basically all of my behavior through it so I thought I should ask. I would really love hearing other people’s experiences and advice if anyone has any. | 2021-11-27T13:37:56.000Z | r3dq6p | 2 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and socializing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3dq6p/adhd_and_socializing/ |
Process_Flea | [removed] | 2021-11-27T13:32:39.000Z | r3dmu7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it ADHD or just me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3dmu7/is_it_adhd_or_just_me/ |
socialskills100 | The first 2 weeks I was on Ritalin I just didn’t eat but everything else was good! Nausea was worth the peace.
The past few days after taking them I feel like I can’t breathe. It’s not the obvious panic attacks, but more like when you’re just sitting completely still looking dissociated.
It’s a side effect to feel “nervous/anxious”. First I thought it was just my asthma. But I can’t breathe, I tremble and I’m basically immobile. I feel like crying, I wasted most of my day feeling like this.
How do you get out of those panic attacks? I only know what to do with those were I’m pacing around or practically rocking back and forth :( my peace turned to hell and idk why | 2021-11-27T13:31:21.000Z | r3dm10 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I’ve started getting panic attacks when I take my meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3dm10/ive_started_getting_panic_attacks_when_i_take_my/ |
ZestycloseImpress474 | title says it all: i have an apple watch and i want to find a band for it thats friendly to my sensory issues.
i made a scrunchy band, which i thought i would like, but i found that the feeling of the elastic is unpleasant, on top of the fact that if i get the band wet, it will dry super slowly which is also unpleasant.
When i wear the silicone one it comes with, my wrist gets all sweaty, and sometimes even chaffs. it wont stay wet sure, but its not right either.
when i’ve worn a metal belt buckle type band, it doesnt get sweaty and it doesnt stay wet, but it sort of scratches me and squeezes my skin too hard even when its loose.
I’ve also tried those bands that are metal with the stretchy band, and they constrain and scratch too.
so if anyone has recommendations for bands that perhaps dry quickly, dont squeeze too hard and dont scratch, PLEASE link me haha | 2021-11-27T13:14:01.000Z | r3dble | 8 | 6 | ADHD | Apple watch band recs for sensory issues? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3dble/apple_watch_band_recs_for_sensory_issues/ |
OpinionNew7991 | i am diagnosed with adhd and it rly affects my day to day life. my parents refuse to let me get medicated and i understand why they are against it, but it rly makes me struggle. nothing convinces them, so i gave up on trying. but this is so frustrating. i want to study and do my homework but i cant focus on anything. i try again and again but i just cant do it. i love learning new stuff and i‘d love to be studying a lot, but i just cant seem to be able to. if anyone has a tip on what has helped them or what could help me id rly appreciate it :,) | 2021-11-27T13:08:10.000Z | r3d8c3 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | frustrated. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3d8c3/frustrated/ |
cordiformpink | Hello! This survey has been moderator approved prior to posting.
I’m a final year Psychology student with ADHD, doing a project on ADHD, hyperfocus and creativity. I’m looking to study the experience of hyperfocus and how it might relate to creativity, so if you tend to hyperfocus, please consider taking my questionnaire!
The questionnaire should take no longer than 30 minutes at the absolute most, and it’s completely anonymous. You can take it whether you have an official diagnosis of ADHD or not. The only requirement to take part is that you’re an adult! You’d really be helping me out by taking part, and hopefully my research will be able to contribute to scientific understanding of ADHD.
I’m happy to answer questions if anyone has any!
Here is the link to my questionnaire: [https://lancasteruni.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_86yjidUvUoH7i3s](https://lancasteruni.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_86yjidUvUoH7i3s) | 2021-11-27T13:02:48.000Z | r3d56t | 5 | 8 | ADHD | ADHD, Hyperfocus and Creativity: a questionnaire | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3d56t/adhd_hyperfocus_and_creativity_a_questionnaire/ |
visionarytune | I just realised ever since I was a kid I've had memory problems and developed a way to cope with it.
Example - I get a thought to google something whilst scrolling through Reddit, but forget it seconds later, I trace my steps back and go through everything I was reading when the thought occured to remember what it was. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't lol
Do any of you do this? | 2021-11-27T13:00:58.000Z | r3d44k | 5 | 5 | ADHD | Do you do this when you forget? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3d44k/do_you_do_this_when_you_forget/ |
Practical_Disk2987 | Hey guys, just letting you know I’ll see my doctor asap.
But i want info if some of you have experienced it
When i started taking my dose on 40mg
I felt tension and pain on my pelvic area and felt as though my bladder was full but I didn’t wanna pee..
Has anyone experienced it before? And if so why does that happen is it some type if reaction or | 2021-11-27T12:56:34.000Z | r3d1hs | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Pelvic pain and urinating problem strattera | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3d1hs/pelvic_pain_and_urinating_problem_strattera/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-27T12:43:28.000Z | r3cu64 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Took my first two medikinet doses and didn't feel any different | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r3cu64/took_my_first_two_medikinet_doses_and_didnt_feel/ |
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