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gingeralewhore_ | i am 22F and have been diagnosed with adhd for about 6 months. something i’ve become hyper aware of recently is my inability to self regulate my emotions. i’ve been doing some research about it and found that it can be related to adhd, as well as anxious attachment trauma. i definitely believe that I lack the ability to self regulate my emotions and often get stuck in that spiral and am unable to use logic to pull myself out and calm down. once i start crying (even if it is related to something minor) i get stuck in this spiral and literally cry so hard that i begin to hyperventilate, even when i logically know that the issue is not that serious. it’s becoming a problem in my relationships and makes me very frustrated with myself.
I was just wondering what methods y’all have found that work to self-soothe or self-regulate your emotions? | 2021-11-24T13:56:49.000Z | r15qxp | 91 | 347 | ADHD | methods for emotional regulation and self soothing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15qxp/methods_for_emotional_regulation_and_self_soothing/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T13:56:04.000Z | r15qfn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I want to find out if I have ADHD, but I’m afraid of talking to my parents about it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15qfn/i_want_to_find_out_if_i_have_adhd_but_im_afraid/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T13:53:42.000Z | r15ol9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Genomind / myogenes / Genetic testing for medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15ol9/genomind_myogenes_genetic_testing_for_medication/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T13:52:47.000Z | r15nwr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I want to find out if I have ADHD but I’m afraid of talking about it with my parents | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15nwr/i_want_to_find_out_if_i_have_adhd_but_im_afraid/ |
aspectedbenethicc | About me: recently diagnosed with rapid cycle bipolar 2, no surprise. Psych suggests I might have ADHD, Inattentive type. Huge surprise. I join this subreddit, feel so seen and validated by nearly every post, and now I am in the process of getting a diagnosis/medication.
So for the past nearly two years, I have been unable to sleep without some kind of stimuli. Usually it's YouTube videos or Twitch streams, and my brain has gotten so used to it that it seems to have little to no adverse affect on my sleep (according to my FitBit anyway). In fact, I struggled with insomnia quite a bit before this, and this (along with my bipolar meds) has actually seemed to help my sleep to some extent.
But even so, I know this isn't sustainable. There has to be a better way that doesn't involve me having headphones in my ears all night, the sounds of video games blasting through my brain as it tries to rest. I already search out ways to watch videos, play games, or listen to music or podcasts every single waking moment of my life. How am I supposed to get away from this? Why can't I seem to be satisfied even when I sleep?
It's possible that this has nothing to do with ADHD, but I just feel like it might considering what I've learned about ADHD brains feeling dopamine starved.
I don't even know if I'm looking for advice here, but maybe I just want to know...does anyone else do this? Or did this? What can I do to start moving away from this? Any help or support would be so welcome. I'm very happy to have found this sub and thank you so much for reading. | 2021-11-24T13:51:54.000Z | r15n89 | 6 | 6 | ADHD | Sleeping with Stimuli | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15n89/sleeping_with_stimuli/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T13:49:18.000Z | r15lbb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I want to find out if I have ADHD, but don’t know how I should approach | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15lbb/i_want_to_find_out_if_i_have_adhd_but_dont_know/ |
thepizza4uandme | A reminder to my American friends who are traveling to pack your pills! Try to pack them somewhere easy to access so every time you think “shoot, did I remember my pills?” you can just check!
Another reminder: you do NOT need four extra pairs of underwear! One extra is good but don’t pack as if you’re going to shit yourself every day!
Good luck and happy Thanksgiving! | 2021-11-24T13:40:16.000Z | r15ero | 11 | 88 | ADHD | Remember to pack your pills! | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15ero/remember_to_pack_your_pills/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-24T13:39:57.000Z | r15ej9 | 7 | 4 | ADHD | Zoloft + ADHD | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15ej9/zoloft_adhd/ |
ogDante | So to make a long story short, I’m serving my conscription service and I’m sitting in the military psychiatrist’s office (for those who served know that any medical treatment in the military is trash) so I tell the guy my what’s bothering me, and what I told was that my life is constantly interrupted by ADHD, I’m impatient, I’m fidgeting a lot, I can’t stay focused at all, and smallest things distract me causing me to drop all of my hobbies and that leaves my life with lack of results and achievements. That’s why I feel depressed all the time. Idk whether he’s right or not to prescribe these drugs to me. But I feel like it’s better to take care of the bleeding first being the ADHD and then the wound being my depression. What do you guys and gals think? | 2021-11-24T13:38:00.000Z | r15d90 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Psychiatrist prescribed me anti-depressants but I feel it’s my ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15d90/psychiatrist_prescribed_me_antidepressants_but_i/ |
Sharoxnb | Hey,
I have a question. Is it possible that you can create a tolerance for the medicines Methylphenidate and Dexamphetamine after a few weeks/months. I am really curious about this. Because they say you cant create a tolerance. But from my experience and the experience from a friend of mine we think that it can happen. Does anybody know it it is possible to create a tolerance for this sort of medication? That you need more after some time of it does not work anymore?
Thankyou very much. | 2021-11-24T13:36:49.000Z | r15cgr | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Tolerance medication | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15cgr/tolerance_medication/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T13:34:04.000Z | r15aks | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Breaking coat hangers | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15aks/breaking_coat_hangers/ |
overwhelmedtoad | Hello everyone!
As the title suggests, both me (22) and my boyfriend (22) have adhd. We work very well together and rarely fight due to a deeper understanding of each others difficulties, but of course struggle like any other couple. Our adhd presents similarly and by extension the issues we have. We solve this by communicating A LOT daily and clearly expressing our feelings and thoughts.
If I get heated I walk away and come back to express myself in the way that I want to. We both try really, really hard. We will also soon move in together and plan to adhd-ify our home, which will of course bring its own set of difficulties for us.
An example from yesterday is that both me and him forgot the laundry in the washing machine, only remembering at bedtime and having to re-wash stinky soggy clothes. We have a lot of moments like this.
We forget conversations or things that happen on a regular basis, so our conversations can be full of ??? When did that happen? What? You never said that did you? I have a tendency to repeat myself a lot and have gotten comments about it that are a bit hurtful, but he appreciates it and does the same although to a much lesser degree, so thats a really great thing for me. We both tend to take small things personally sometimes and get hurt, but instead of repressing it and thinking it is silly, we voice these concerns and talk it through. We also do chores the other one hates, like how I hate vacuuming while he doesn't mind, and how he hates doing the dishes while I don't mind that one. We also remind each other about self care, like brushing our teeth or taking showers.
What are the difficulties you face as an adhd couple and how do you solve these issues? I'd love to hear your experiences since I have mostly read about couples where only one of them has adhd! | 2021-11-24T13:29:12.000Z | r1573e | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Being in a relationship when the both of you have ADHD. What are your experiences? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r1573e/being_in_a_relationship_when_the_both_of_you_have/ |
nixon6 | I took a break off medication 4 days ago. I work somewhere that taking this prescribed medication could cost me losing my job unfortunately. It’s something I’d been planning for awhile but so stressed because I know how shittt I usually feel and love how productive and full of energy I am while I’m on my medication. I’m on day 4 of not taking it and I don’t feel actually that crappy. I haven’t had any moments where I’ve been stressed out for not taking my medication. I feel like my mind is clear. I have been going to the gym and have enough energy through out the day. I’m actually shocked. I might start taking my medication when I go back home (I’m a shift worker) to help be more productive through out the day but I’m really surprised with how my body and mind has been reacting to the no medication. I’m even just as chatty with people and personable. I’ve had a few moments where I’ve blurted things out at people that maybe I shouldn’t have but it felt good and natural. The medication allows me to be on top and super focused with what I’m doing. I love taking the medication but it’s good to know that I may not have to take it forever. | 2021-11-24T13:27:50.000Z | r1566h | 11 | 4 | ADHD | Took a break from medication 4 days ago. | 0.7 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r1566h/took_a_break_from_medication_4_days_ago/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-24T13:21:11.000Z | r151n9 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | US based question: What kind of jobs with health insurance can a 69 year old uneducated man do with untreated ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r151n9/us_based_question_what_kind_of_jobs_with_health/ |
AlternativeFrosty171 | I’m primarily inattentive and have had an adult diagnosis (M30). A few months ago I got an oura ring. My ADHD affects me through inconsistent sleeping, inability to turn off doom scrolling and not keeping track of whether I’ve done certain things like exercise. I was skeptical of things like Oura Ring but have found that it’s really kept me aware of my sleep time blindness at night. It measures my sleep and how much I get on a nightly basis including movements. I’ve noticed after a few months, I doomscroll a lot less and that having numbers holds me accountable (almost like a video game)
Is there anyone else who uses Oura on this subreddit? What are your experiences with it so far? | 2021-11-24T13:20:13.000Z | r15107 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Oura ring and ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r15107/oura_ring_and_adhd/ |
Solid-Version | I’m worried that whatever I choose, I’ll have all the enthusiasm at the start then like everything else I do I’ll lose interest, start dragging my feet or even quit.
I just feel so stuck in my career, I feel absolutely nothing for my current job to the point where I do not want to progress in it any further.
Anyone else feel like this? | 2021-11-24T13:18:01.000Z | r14zjq | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I want to change careers and get back to studying something I actually care about but.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14zjq/i_want_to_change_careers_and_get_back_to_studying/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T13:17:09.000Z | r14yzx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Lowering/resetting tolerance? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14yzx/loweringresetting_tolerance/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T13:12:07.000Z | r14vqc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Lowering/resetting tolerance? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14vqc/loweringresetting_tolerance/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T13:10:41.000Z | r14uub | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just took desvenlafaxine for the first time | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14uub/i_just_took_desvenlafaxine_for_the_first_time/ |
PotatoesOnMyPotatoes | Hi everyone, so it was recently suggested by my friend that I could have ADHD. I just thought I was lazy human but turns out I have an issue focusing.
So I went to see a psychiatrist for a proper diagnosis and I leave the appointment being prescribed prozac ?????????
I am so confused how will an antidepressant help me focus ? I am on prozac for a month and if that doesn't work then I will try ritalin according to my psychiatrist.
Has anyone else been prescribed an antidepressant for ADHD? | 2021-11-24T13:06:02.000Z | r14rtt | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Antidepressants for ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14rtt/antidepressants_for_adhd/ |
Sharoxnb | [removed] | 2021-11-24T13:04:12.000Z | r14qlg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Tolerance medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14qlg/tolerance_medication/ |
Sharoxnb | [removed] | 2021-11-24T12:53:20.000Z | r14jh8 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | My meds are working less | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14jh8/my_meds_are_working_less/ |
More_Change184 | I will soon wrap up my BSc in Business Administration, and I'd really like to enter a job where my ADHD can thrive, but have no idea where to start looking :/
My courses haven't helped much in deciding what works and what doesn't. Stuff like HR I find incredibly boring, because people stick with behavioural theories that have been discarded in psychology since the 80s. On the other hand, I could indulge in my Finance courses all day, since there's increasingly complex models to explore, but my ADHD makes it basically impossible to perform even simple computations correctly on a somewhat regular basis.
I'd really like to become a consultant since I hear you get to work on different cases on a regular basis, which at some big companies, you may even choose yourself. It sounds like an exciting, challenging, fast-paced job with high stakes and changing environments - basically THE perfect thing to do. However, I'm worried I'll be confronted with anything Excel or putting together balance sheets, because I know they require detail to attention and my ADHD WILL mess it up.
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Currently I'm helping out as somewhat of a generalist at a startup (which I LOVE), but it's unlikely that will turn into an actual job. Does anyone have any suggestions/experiences to share? Thanks in advance <3 | 2021-11-24T12:51:52.000Z | r14ilt | 4 | 5 | ADHD | ADHD'd business people: what jobs would you recommend? | 0.78 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14ilt/adhdd_business_people_what_jobs_would_you/ |
burningreddit13 | My husband has ADD and since we’ve been together, it’s gotten pretty obvious for him first, and then for me, that I probably have it too. I struggle with a lot of things he can relate to and some other things. I’ve been researching a lot in the past years and it just makes sense. The thing is, where I come from, it’s basically impossible to get diagnosed as an adult. You have to have documents from a doctor saying you might have it from your childhood. And I don’t have that, because it just looks different in girls and nobody got the idea of me having ADD when I was a child. Also, the doctors here (like in the whole country) mostly don’t even believe in adults ADD. And I’ve gotten to a point in my life where I’m just lost and depressed, because I don’t know how to handle things. I lose interest in everything, that I get obsessed with within hours. I can’t keep the apartment clean, I don’t look after my self as good as I should, I can’t get myself to cook, I don’t get shit done, I don’t see the purpose in starting anything, knowing I won’t finish it anyways. I have so many ideas in my head but don’t even think about starting anything. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I might get a depression from this.. if it’s not already one. It’s not that I want medication or anything (I mean if it helps, ofc) but I just want help. I want a professional telling me how to handle things and what to do with my struggles.. | 2021-11-24T12:43:40.000Z | r14dku | 17 | 26 | ADHD | No chance to get diagnosed. Feeling lost.. | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14dku/no_chance_to_get_diagnosed_feeling_lost/ |
polar_carrot | [removed] | 2021-11-24T12:39:56.000Z | r14bdo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Distinguishing Left from Right | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r14bdo/distinguishing_left_from_right/ |
Theostry | Seeking advice - I'm considering a smartwatch/fitness tracker to help with my various ADHD nonsense, but it's all new to me and I'm drowning in options.
People who use them, what do you recommend? Features, brands, models, apps? What's genuinely helpful and easy to use, and what's just counterproductive clutter?
Interested in things like alarms and reminders so calendar integration is good; fitness tracking to help motivate me to exercise; tracking sleep, stress/heart rate, menstrual cycle, etc.
Any insight would be much appreciated! | 2021-11-24T12:33:09.000Z | r1473q | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Wearable health tracker/smartwatch recommendations? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r1473q/wearable_health_trackersmartwatch_recommendations/ |
m1sutaaaa | I'm diagnosed with bipolar disorder and am pretty sure I have it. I heard from a doctor that anywhere between 50 to 90% of people with bipolar disorder also have ADHD. That's why I kept thinking on how ADHD could manifest in my case, only to realize that I have had severe executive dysfunction i.e. forgetfulness, difficulty with planning and time management, dependence, unable to break down big tasks, etc. since childhood.
I'm going to get tested for ADHD next year, but I fear that my case might get scratched off as I'm not necessarily inattentive nor hyperactive.
What's your take on this? | 2021-11-24T12:27:18.000Z | r142vu | 21 | 32 | ADHD | Can a person with ADHD have executive dysfunction but not inattention or hyperactivity? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r142vu/can_a_person_with_adhd_have_executive_dysfunction/ |
KingEdwards8 | [removed] | 2021-11-24T12:27:07.000Z | r142rn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD meds with Antidepressants. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r142rn/adhd_meds_with_antidepressants/ |
Particular_Brain6353 | When I was little I was just told I was a devilish little prick. I could never keep my attention focused on any task and I had a tough time with anything I wasn't interested in. I never got diagnosed for ADHD because my dad thought i would be treated differently. Looking back on it I now hate him quite a bit for it, because I would have gotten the help I desperately needed.
High school went okay. Did poorly at things I disliked, did okay at things I did. I was horrible in social situations, so when I met some friends who smoked I fell into it completely and became a stoner. After high school I spent 2 years working in kindergartens near minimum wage jobs in Denmark and then I got into the teachers education. I thought I had the patience and affection to teach kids, but after I've stopped smoking, stopped being an addict, I've realized I cant be a teacher right now. Which means I'm a 23 year old man without any kind of education other than high school.
I've heard a lot of people who self medicate are suffering from ADHD. Tuesday im going to the doctor to be sent to a psychiatrist to be diagnosed.
My question is, will it even help. I feel too low already. This is the first major hurdle of my life and i don't think I can handle it. If i do get medication, how will it help. I honestly dont think anything can pull my out of this absolute tailspil my life is in right now.
How did medication help you pull back up, because right now, I really cant see the light. | 2021-11-24T12:26:04.000Z | r1422k | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How will medication help? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r1422k/how_will_medication_help/ |
Madtramp | [removed] | 2021-11-24T12:24:24.000Z | r140zj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Friendly reminder…unclench your jaws and drink some water. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r140zj/friendly_reminderunclench_your_jaws_and_drink/ |
inan0812 | Add/switch morning vitamins to some kind of gummy vitamin and take your meds at the same time.
You might not remember specifically if you took your meds, but if you always do them both at the same time, the gummy taste will linger for a least a few minutes and serve as a short term reminder that you did take your meds.
Works for me anyway. | 2021-11-24T12:23:35.000Z | r140gp | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Having trouble remembering if you took your meds? | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r140gp/having_trouble_remembering_if_you_took_your_meds/ |
DustyLemonTree | I only work a few days a week and on the other day I don't have anything to do.
I stuggle to decide when to wash up, when to exercise, when to have another coffee, ect. I end up procrastinating because I just get stuck with when I should do each thing and just sit scrolling on my phone for hours.
I know that exercising early mornings works best for me but for the last 1.5 years I've been too tired to wake up earlier than 7 and it takes me a few hours to be able to function as I've only recently overcome a burnout. Problem is if I don't exercise first thing, I spend the rest of the day wondering when I should exercise and I procrastinate everything else till I have.
Does anyone else struggle with this and how do you over come it?
I used to be non stop on the go until the pandemic (in an unhealthy way) but now without stress, I can't organise easy days and it's so unmotivated and frustrating | 2021-11-24T12:08:14.000Z | r13qth | 5 | 2 | ADHD | On your days off, how do you decide what order to do anything in without procrastinating everything? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r13qth/on_your_days_off_how_do_you_decide_what_order_to/ |
Lilythebillygoat | I just got a new pair of wonderful noise cancelling headphones and I'd love to know, what songs or albums give you that good sensory stimulation and help you focus, or make you flap your hands around or whatever it might be. All genres welcome!
To start off, I'm currently listening to Butter Sugar Cream by Tomggg 🙃 | 2021-11-24T11:55:28.000Z | r13ir5 | 10 | 2 | ADHD | Share your favourite stim/sensory albums or songs with me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r13ir5/share_your_favourite_stimsensory_albums_or_songs/ |
rolza | I don't know what to do. I've already scheduled an appointment tomorrow with my therapist and another one next Monday with my doctor.
I think my medication is not working anymore (Concerta 36mg), or maybe I'm picking maladaptive coping habits from working at home and dealing with the daily stress from my work.
I like my job so much, and I think I'm lucky to have one that is in my area of experience and that is fulfilling for me to grow as a professional. The thing is, I have a lot of tasks that involve paperwork and reporting constantly and I'm struggling a lot with those tasks. I know that I can do it, and do it well, but when I try to start I get derailed and can't even push my self to finish them.
Now, I'm having a breakdown as I'm almost 2 weeks behind of my work and been trying to push myself to finish without success. I've been pulling all-nighters with no progress, I've tried to sleep and get up early to finish, I've tried to keep a schedule, I've tried dividing up tasks; no success.
My boss knows that I have ADHD, she's open about it and she also told me to reach out if I'm struggling with something. But even with that support I can't avoid feeling like a failure and fearing that my struggles won't be understood if I speak up.
In short, I don't know what to do. The stress of doing no progress at all is eating me up inside. I feel like a fraud.
What also stresses me, is that my appointment with my doctor is until next week. And I need to do progress now. | 2021-11-24T11:54:07.000Z | r13hz6 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | I can't manage to finish an important task that is halting my progress at work. Help 😞 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r13hz6/i_cant_manage_to_finish_an_important_task_that_is/ |
cascario_97 | Hey guys and girls!
So I'm 23 y/o and about half a year ago I met an adult patient (psych rotation in med school) and he told me about his struggles with ADHD. And then it hit me. So many of his symptoms resonated with me, I wasn't even aware that this condition can persist well into adulthood.
So I did some research on the symptoms, diagnostic criteria etc. and ADD fit myself like a glove. I felt like for the first time in my life there might be an explanation for why I'm never able to pay attention to what others are saying if it isn't deeply interesting to me, why I always procrastinate on assignments, why I cannot concentrate at all without fidgeting, why I damaged 3 different cars because I was just in my own head not paying attention to the road at all, why I was chronically late to every appointment that wasn't life or death, why I nearly couldn't continue med school 3 times, because I lost my attendance record or forgot to go to a rotation, why sometimes I couldn't do shit (like studying, dishes, even showering is hard sometimes..) and sometimes I was so focused on work loosing all sense of time and getting really angry when someone disrupts me in that state of mind...
So I went and got an evaluation last week. Fun fact, 2 minutes before I got there I crashed my bike because I was running late and were in my own head, not paying attention to my surroundings yet again. I got my results right now and every test is "negative". The psychologist told me, when I came into the room, told her about my life and symptoms (sadly I forgot to mention a bunch...) she was pretty sure I'd have ADD. But due to me performing too good on the tests and me not having major "problems" like busted relationships and being on the verge of failing med school I basically couldn't have it. I looked at my scores and most scores were just 1-2 points short of reaching statistical significance, non significant nontheless. The only questionaire that was indicating ADD was the CHILDHOOD questionnaire, which should be the most important one I thougt?
I just got home and I can't shake the feeling of invalidation. I thought I finally found the red thread, connecting all my problems I had during my life. Now, I just feel like all the problems I suffered from are in fact MY OWN fault because I'm too lazy, disorganized, inattentive and unreliable as a person...
I really don't know if I should get a second opinion, or if I should accept and trust the outcomes of the test because after all she is the professional, not me...
Thanks to everyone making it that far, have a nice day! | 2021-11-24T11:45:31.000Z | r13cw7 | 81 | 204 | ADHD | My evaluation was negative, now I feel completely lost... | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r13cw7/my_evaluation_was_negative_now_i_feel_completely/ |
MoonsyMango | to preface this, i was doing great. i finally started my concerta, eating regularly and actually cleaning, my ocd was getting better and my depression symptoms were being managed more easily… that was until i woke up from a nap a few hours ago to a MOUSE on my BED!!! ON MY BED. yes there was a LIVE MOUSE SLEEPING NEXT TO ME ON MY BED IN MY NEWLY MOVED INTO APARTMENT. i dont leave food out and mop and sweep regularly, no clutter. then my cat found a SECOND MOUSE… i am mortified and have been dissociated for about lets say a few hours… i cannot believe this is real and when i tell you i am mortified that is an aboslute understatement. i live alone on the second floor and i am in shock.. i have never even seen a mouse and BOOM i wake up with one SLEEPING BESIDE ME???? wow. i cannot fathom that this is real i am genuinely in shock i honestly cried so hard that i vomitted i am just in absolute utter shock. there is also MOLD forming on my wall.. this is my first apartment since i moved out of an abusive household and i really thought i had everything in check.. guess not because wow i am not doing well. i am terrified of my apartment. thanks for reading, im going to go and cry now but have a good rest of your whatever you are doing :-) | 2021-11-24T11:40:08.000Z | r139qy | 9 | 5 | ADHD | MOUSE in my BED ruined my progress mentally | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r139qy/mouse_in_my_bed_ruined_my_progress_mentally/ |
Twigstory | Before my diagnosis and medication for ADHD, I spent over 25 years on various anti depressants and anti anxiety meds. But even then, I would sit in my room feeling horrible about myself and having waves of anxiety.
Depression says, "Why are you just sitting there instead of doing something like a real person? Why can't you get your shit together? You suck, you're a loser and this is your lame life forever.. " Anxiety says, "Everything is falling apart! You have to do something about it right now! And, also, you have to make a phone call."
What I noticed after treatment with Adderall, is that I'm still not perfect! I still have a messy room (that I think I should clean and I don't). But I don't feel bad about it; it doesn't make me feel hopeless anymore.
I thought with medication I would become super-productive, and suddenly DoAllTheThings! My overall productivity and focus is much better. But, in a lot of ways, it has just helped me feel ok about being a real person that has great qualities along with some imperfections: I always have been (and so are you!) and that is a wonderful thing! | 2021-11-24T11:38:55.000Z | r13916 | 4 | 12 | ADHD | Am I real person yet? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r13916/am_i_real_person_yet/ |
thellamasc | I feel like I break my chair a lot more than other people.
I fidget about a bit and a tap/jump my leg all the time. My chair just started breaking down, again... and i started to say to myself "why me, why is it always my chair that breaks down" and I wondered if me moving about a lot because of my ADHD might have anything to do with it.
Sorry if this is not actually a thing/not relevant or whatever, I just thought of it. | 2021-11-24T11:21:52.000Z | r12z1i | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do you break your chair a lot? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12z1i/do_you_break_your_chair_a_lot/ |
Earth_to_Sabbath | It's absolutely brutal, waking up around 2/3am then awake for a couple of hours, then finally asleep around 5/6. Puts me in a terrible mood, I turn to coffee to try and wake myself up for work which makes things I normally struggle with much worse. Snappy at people, mind fuzzy. All in all the worst part of it for me, trumps bad life decisions any day | 2021-11-24T11:16:36.000Z | r12vvo | 108 | 176 | ADHD | If I could get rid of one symptom, it would be the insomnia | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12vvo/if_i_could_get_rid_of_one_symptom_it_would_be_the/ |
SubstantialBakedBean | Fuck. I'm so pissed off, I've been so good at making sure I stay on top of the important stuff in life even if other things slide. I'm also angry at the DVLA and their totally archaic methods of communicating with people, but ultimately this is on me.
I missed my car tax. Would have cost me £30 to pay. This year has been messy, we moved house just under a year ago so I had to go through the changing my address on everything important stuff and I thought I had it all sorted.
At the start of this month (11 months after moving), i remembered my car MOT was due soon, so I went to check my documents to find the actual date. I noticed that my vehicle owners form had my old address on it still. Heck, better change that asap as this information being out of date can be fined up to £1000. So I did just that, and then a week later I get a letter though the door: "your car tax is overdue". Normally the DVLA send reminder letters but I hadn't got a single one so this really upset me, I thought it was only a couple days overdue but it turns out my car has been untaxed since May. How could I have missed this? I'm so upset at myself. There was a lot going on in the summer, I was in the US for two months around then also. Even if they had sent the reminders to the right address I wouldn't have received them because I wasn't in the country. Why couldn't they have sent a god damn email??? Or have my number??
Either way, I later get a letter from a debt collection agency about an £80 fine that I'd heard nothing about before. At this point I contact the DVLA and ask them if it's legitimate, to which they respond that the debt collection agencies only get involved if I don't respond to their original fine. Clearly that was sent to my old address too. WHY DIDN'T THEY EMAIL ME? Surely the new owner of my old house would have thought to send back these letters with the message that I was no longer at this address??
I wanted to argue the fact I never got any of these letters, but that would mean telling them I never updated my car ownership form. Then I'd be fined again. This is all on me and I hate it.
TL;DR I missed my car tax and got fined because I didn't keep track of the date myself. I relied on reminder letters which were sent to my old address because I hadn't updated my car ownership form, and I can't tell the organisation what happened because I would be fined for not updating my car ownership form | 2021-11-24T11:15:49.000Z | r12veh | 2 | 2 | ADHD | My disorganisation just cost me an £80 fine and I can't contest it because if the organisation knew the reason, it would cost me a £1000 fine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12veh/my_disorganisation_just_cost_me_an_80_fine_and_i/ |
Crustymangina69 | It’s going to sound disgusting but I really struggle looking after myself by cleaning my room having a wash brushing my teeth etc I don’t know why , i don’t know if I’m lazy or if it’s just something to do with my ADHD but I want it to stop
Has anyone got any suggestions on how to get into a routine please 🙏 | 2021-11-24T11:12:03.000Z | r12td0 | 5 | 4 | ADHD | I’m struggling to look after myself😖 | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12td0/im_struggling_to_look_after_myself/ |
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DustyLemonTree | I'm considering not going through the NHS anymore and using Ciconia Recovery otherwise I'll still have at least a year before I can see anyone.
Does anyone have any experience with them? (Ciconia Recovery)
Also, has anyone had any experience with being assessed/getting help through the NHS and also privately? What was the difference? Do you recommend just going privately to speed up the process?
This is the first time in my life I can finally get help for myself and its already taken over a year to get my GP to just listen and the NHS so far with my referrals have been really bad *(loosing forms, not notifying me of being accepted for several months, sending letters to the wrong address, sending me I circles when I call up).*
I want make sure spending all of the money is going to pay off if I go private so I can actually get some genuine good care and not have to wait more years to start actually being able to live my life with support.
Thank you in advance | 2021-11-24T10:58:41.000Z | r12lse | 7 | 1 | ADHD | I'm considering not going through the NHS anymore and going privately for my assessment - I feel so lost with what to do, I don't want to make the wrong decision | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12lse/im_considering_not_going_through_the_nhs_anymore/ |
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Junkmatt | It's not an overstament when I say that I'm fuming right now.
To give some background, the kid who said it used to be the class nerd and was know to be really smart, like *really* smart. But over the last 2 years he has changed a lot.
He is still known to be very smart but he is also like an excerise freak who goes around telling people they should start working out and stuff. He's like the stereotypical vegan who tells everybody they're a vegan and that you should also become one, but for exercise.
And now I don't have a problem with encouraging people to excerise but he does it in a very toxic way. Me however, I'm known as the computer nerd whos short and not very strong. I do try to exercise, was able to start a routine where I ran 3km 3 times a week.
However now that school has started and the weather is getting worse I have lost the routine.
Now back to what happened.
He was doing arm-wrestling with some other kid, who later on would agree with him and his "ADHD is fake" take. He (not the "adhd is fake" guy but the other kid i just mentioned) challenged me to arm-wrestle as a kind of half joke. I accepted and lost pretty hard but that was expected so I laughed it off.
But then it started. I'm going to make it easier for my self and call the "adhd is fake kid" Ed from now on and the kid who I arm wrestled Dave.
So Ed told me he thinks my ADHD is fake. I didn't hear him because just as he did that my teacher told me to go back to my chair. I asked Ed to repeat what he said because I heard him say something about ADHD.
He then starts telling me his totally deranged theory of how ADHD is fake and that it's just that your attention span is bad because you play to much videogames and watch youtube all day instead of exercising. All while I am completely dumbfounded and Dave is laughing because "i look so confused lol".
He also says that I should try not playing videogames or watching youtube for a whole week and excercise instead and then my ADHD should be cured or something I don't know.
Now both of them obviously know nothing about ADHD, I mean they didn't believe me when I told them people with ADHD can have better focus than people without if it's something they enjoy.
Now I had been listening to him for a minute or so and apparently my teacher noticed I wasn't working and went to tell me I should get back to working. He stod and listen to what they said for a while and first he said "oh he is probably just trying to say the right things to make you mad" but then Ed said that he wasn't doing that and started explaining his "theory" to the teacher.
*AND THE GUY TOOK HIS SIDE*
*HE ACTUALLY AGREED WITH ED*
And then for like 10 min he sat there and disscused with Ed and Dave about how before the internet he would have no students with attention problems and that even after the internet became a thing he had noticed how students who lived on the country side never had attention problems unlike students who lived in areas with good internet.
I literally sat there and listen to them completely dumbfounded. I didn't even say anything I just listened and after a minute or so I just turned away and started working again, all the while they kept discussing how ADHD was fake *right next to me, a kid with ADHD.*
They didn't even ask me about my perspective they just sat there and discussed something that they didn't understand at all next to me, a person who *literally has that thing they are discussing and calling fake*.
This has made me lost all the respect I had for that teacher. I don't know what to do man. I don't know if I should tell anybody about it or if there is anything I should know.
I've even started doubting my self and found my self thinking "what if Ed was right".
I'm just confused. | 2021-11-24T10:50:20.000Z | r12hl2 | 18 | 27 | ADHD | Somebody in my class told me ADHD is fake and the teacher took his side. | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12hl2/somebody_in_my_class_told_me_adhd_is_fake_and_the/ |
ETAB_E | Hey all - so 36m here going (finally) through the full assessment after all these years. One of my concerns about meds is my exercise. I do around 5-7 high intensity gym sessions a week (too many at times but it keeps me regulated) and I wondered how you have got on exercising and medicating. What if any effects have you noticed, heart rate changes etc?
Thanks 🤘🏼 | 2021-11-24T10:47:31.000Z | r12g53 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | High intensity exercise | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12g53/high_intensity_exercise/ |
Junkmatt | [removed] | 2021-11-24T10:44:47.000Z | r12ep7 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Somebody in my class just told me ADHD isn't real and the teacher took his side. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12ep7/somebody_in_my_class_just_told_me_adhd_isnt_real/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-24T10:44:16.000Z | r12efv | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Vocal tic/stimming? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12efv/vocal_ticstimming/ |
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Dougalface | I'll try to keep this short. I'm in the UK and last year I was assessed for, and failed to get a diagnosis of ADHD - largely it seems because I didn't show sufficient symptoms as a child.
18 months later my life remains a total train-wreck for all of the reasons I'm sure we're familiar with on this sub. Bottom line I'm enormously unproductive and constantly reliant on others as I drift and stumble through life.
I already have a diagnosis for ASD but it seems that the main reasons I'm struggling are distinct from the traits associated with ASD.
I've done what research my inattentive brain and 60-second attention span will allow and am convinced that I have ADD / inattentive ADHD. I'm desperate to address this through medication (I've tried all manner of non-prescription approaches - exercise keeps me level to an extent but is largely off the menu currently, caffeine has helped a little - primarily with short-term motivation if not concentration - but not enough to allow me to function "normally"....).
I intend to contact the assessment centre and ask for a re-assessment / 2nd opinion / any help they can give and will be questioning the legitimacy of the need for childhood symptoms in the diagnostic process as I feel this is what's really let me down.
I'm interested to hear from anyone who's got a diagnosis without childhood symptoms, and whether they are considered necessary for a diagnosis everywhere or whether this is just in the UK.
Thanks :) | 2021-11-24T10:35:40.000Z | r12a1c | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Childhood symptoms and getting a diagnosis.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r12a1c/childhood_symptoms_and_getting_a_diagnosis/ |
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walmartbunker | [removed] | 2021-11-24T10:17:41.000Z | r120j8 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | my therapist is nice but very square | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r120j8/my_therapist_is_nice_but_very_square/ |
Swiatek7 | Does it almost always take you forever to fall asleep?
If so, then how do you cope with it?
Are troubles falling asleep actually linked to ADHD?
I was shocked when I learnt that my non-ADHD brother and many other people put their head on the pillow and within 5 minutes are asleep.
For me it is so much effort and takes me so much timer before I start sleeping. I lose so much energy in order to get some rest, which is pretty ironic. | 2021-11-24T10:15:31.000Z | r11zet | 7 | 1 | ADHD | How hard is it for you to fall asleep? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11zet/how_hard_is_it_for_you_to_fall_asleep/ |
Yoshi9105 | sorry in advance for the long post, I'm mainly venting but was hoping someone might understand my struggles so at least I know I'm not entirely crazy.
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First off, I'm 30f, not officially diagnosed yet but I'm 90% sure I have ADHD (inattentive or combined). My brother was diagnosed as a child and that took all the attention away from me so I ended up masking the hell out of life. I've been in therapy on and off since I was 12 and have accumulated 6 different diagnoses (including 2 personality disorders) over the years only to realise this past year it's probably all caused by undiagnosed and untreated ADHD.
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**TL;DR** is basically in the title. I feel like managing my current symptoms would be a full-time job but I can't afford not to work, so I'm stuck in a catch-22 and I'm massively overwhelmed trying to break the cycle.
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I was working on disability when I was still living in my home country (Switzerland) since I was believed to have BPD and AvPD. I moved to the UK 2 years ago doing it on my own, and it's been going okay so far but I'm starting to struggle again. I've never been at the same job for more than 1-2 years, ever. Now I'm 1.5 years into my current job and they've put me on review for performance issues (I work in customer support so very target driven). I love my job and the company so I don't want to leave but it's been so hard to keep up and make my head focus on the rather boring task of replying to the same 15 questions for 9 hours every day. I enjoy being in touch with customers but I get annoyed because I'm bored as hell. I also don't necessarily want to leave because I know I'll have the same issues again with my next job anyway.
They're not being helpful with reducing targets or offering another role, or even more variety ("only if you hit target" -.-) but they're giving me time to figure out some tactics to "get me back to normal". I'm scared that their "normal" is too far out of reach for me at this point, but I've decided to try. I used to be able to over-perform, so it must be possible again, right?
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Anyway, now I've started looking into ways to manage my ADHD but honestly I'm sooo overwhelmed. They ask me weekly about my progress meaning well, but I'm not even sure where to start. My executive function and motivation and focus are so bad, not just at work but in my private life too. I can't even cook for myself. I don't exercise. I always forget to drink water. And no matter how tired I am during the day, I can never fall asleep before 2am which leaves me with 5-6h max. of sleep a night when I naturally need around 8. Even brushing my teeth is hard. I've also developed stress-related tinnitus which has got worse again as well.
I know I have to change my ways but I just can't. There are so many things I both want and have to do but no matter how much I want to try, I just *don't do it*. I'm so frustrated. I know I have to manage my ADHD outside of work to function better at work but because I'm so stressed at work I have no energy to deal with my issues outside of it. It's a vicious cycle.
I feel like managing my ADHD and getting back on track would be a full-time job right now, but I have to figure it out on top of a demanding, target driven 40h work week. I have to keep calling in sick because I'm too overwhelmed to be dealing with customers, my brain just shuts down. And I had my first panic attack in months 2 days ago. They're going to run out of patience and fire me eventually. I think right now they're holding off because of the law (ADHD counts as a disability in the UK) but eventually they'll have a good enough argument if I don't get better, especially since I don't have an official diagnosis.
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I'm scared I'll always be like this because in that case, what's the point. I feel like I'll always be useless. And I can't afford therapy at the moment. I'm on a year-long waiting list to get an ADHD assessment but this doesn't help me right now. :/
I'm tired, man. I'm so, so tired. | 2021-11-24T10:11:05.000Z | r11x2i | 6 | 5 | ADHD | I'm massively overwhelmed with managing untreated ADHD while working a demanding full-time job | 0.78 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11x2i/im_massively_overwhelmed_with_managing_untreated/ |
JohnnyBacci | Recently moved from Canada to France where treatment seems limited to non-existent, and my current medication (Vyvanse) is unavailable. I moved here with a generous supply that I've been carefully rationing for five months now, but am now coming precariously close to the end of my medication. I still have access back in Canada, but it's impossible to mail controlled substances to Europe, and it's unlikely that I'll return to Canada anytime soon. Even though I've been increasing the amount of days off, while also reducing the dosage, I'm finding it all quite difficult and grim to adapt.
I was diagnosed as an adult, so I've lived and managed most of my life unmedicated, but it's really discouraging to try and go back now that I've experienced what life can be like with help.
Does anyone has any experience or advice or strategies for coping with life sans medication? | 2021-11-24T10:06:14.000Z | r11uf7 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Any recommendations for managing without medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11uf7/any_recommendations_for_managing_without/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-24T10:01:18.000Z | r11rp3 | 5 | 0 | ADHD | Slight shame after seeing nurse | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11rp3/slight_shame_after_seeing_nurse/ |
Mockingbirdmama | Hi all, I just discovered this community tonight and read through a lot of stickied posts so I can see I am definitely in the right place.
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My daughter is 10, in 5th grade. She was dx with ADHD during the early pandemic time, but it's been apparent for a few years more than that.
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For context she's on \~7.5mg of Focalin XR daily. She had been seeing a therapist for a few years but unfortunately the therapist moved out of state.
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My main issues are
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1) she is often resistant to take her meds. Especially on non-school days she wants to just zone out and not be "on", which I understand and empathize with, but it's not feasible to have her floating all over the house and property not being aware or responsible for herself and the tornado she leaves behind. For ex. We have a preschooler and toddler in the house so we can't have her leaving scissors out, leaving containers open, etc
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2) I try really hard to help her stay on task but she often ignores or forgets to use my cues. I keep a whiteboard next to her chair at the dinner table with a checklist of her daily tasks (take meds, feed cat, empty backpack, check HW etc). In her closet I have labeled every shelf and bin so that everything has a place so that she can put away her own laundry and find it later (mostly to be able to dress appropriately for the weather). But more often than not she doesn't look at the whiteboard or only looks at it once and then never checks it again. Her closet ends up in random (to me) piles and her tasks don't get done.
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3) Messiness, now I'm definitely not the most tidy person out there, so I don't think my expectations are that high, but my daughter is content to live in filth. It scares me for her future when she's (hopefully) living on her own. She's a HUGE book worm, it's like her super hero ability. She's been reading since 2 years old and can easily read a whole chapter book in 30 minutes. But the downside of that is that her bed is filled with books every night and she sleeps on them. That goes for any other hobby she's into that month. I once pulled a snow globe out of the bed she had just slept in, and she's cool with it. It doesn't bother her sleep at all she says. Again, it seems like a safety issue to me, neatness aside.
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We (me and her dad/my husband) obviously love her more than anything and want her to be happy and succeed in life but at many times it scares the crap out of me to think about her future. It often feels like her lifestyle (if that's the right word) is not compatible with adulthood or even the upcoming high school years. All we have ever wanted for her since I was pregnant was to provide her with any and all knowledge we could so that she can prosper in life. With ADHD in our lives it feels like there's someone or something thwarting our attempts. | 2021-11-24T09:53:04.000Z | r11n7e | 7 | 2 | ADHD | Any advice for a mom of a daughter with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11n7e/any_advice_for_a_mom_of_a_daughter_with_adhd/ |
ikkeetnavn | I'm not asking for medical advice, but just looking for people's thoughts and experiences out of curiosity because of my own recent experiences.
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I took Concerta 18 mg + ritalin 10 mg in the afternoon for 6 months. It changed my life, and I stopped feeling like a total mess. But two months ago I started feeling depressed (lethargic, crying) and my psychiatrist decided that I should stop meds. She figured that I had been given a slightly too high dose.
The next day my depressive symptoms completely disappeared. But I still feel calm and organized - and I never felt like this for longer periods of time before starting meds last spring. Every day I have been waiting for the crash to come, but in a way I still feel medicated.
Have any of you experienced something like this before? I expect that I will go back to my "old normal" eventually, but could I just be riding on new brain connections for now or what's happening? I never felt normal like this without meds | 2021-11-24T09:49:28.000Z | r11lfb | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Wondering if meds can kick start your own dopamine production? Stopped meds and still feeling great! | 0.71 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11lfb/wondering_if_meds_can_kick_start_your_own/ |
Cherrytros | Can anyone else relate? This goes for a lot of other things too, but I use games specifically as an example because it's something I'm supposed to enjoy. It's really frustrating because I like them, but I feel like I can never talk to anyone about them because I always have to add "but I never finished it" and then they ask me why, but I don't know? | 2021-11-24T09:45:42.000Z | r11jhc | 82 | 102 | ADHD | I can never beat videogames | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11jhc/i_can_never_beat_videogames/ |
HistoricalGarbage384 | I’ve never been diagnosed with ADHD but I’ve seen a lot of things about ADHD that I relate with. One thing is out of sight out of mind. I have simply just forgotten that people and things exist. I forget that I have brothers and sisters because I don’t see them. So sometimes my gf will be at work and I just forget she exists.
This leads to today. I was looking through my drawers and found a jacket that I haven’t worn in awhile and my gf asks “why haven’t you worn that to work?” And I responded with “I forgot I had this because I haven’t seen or worn it in awhile.” This then lead me to tell her that I have literally forgotten that I have siblings and then I said sometimes I forget you exist. This made her extremely sad and upset because she has bpd and thinks that she is forgetful or that I don’t love her anymore. Now I feel horrible and hate that I told her. I know it’s not her fault she thinks that way and I support her no matter what, but it makes me feel so bad about myself because I don’t even know if it is ADHD. I hate making her feel bad about herself but I just want to talk about what I struggle with.
Please no one hate on her it’s not her fault she thinks that way. I love her so much and she loves me it’s just hard sometimes.
Side note I want to get tested but idk how or even where to start. | 2021-11-24T09:37:41.000Z | r11fcf | 2 | 2 | ADHD | I told my gf I forget she exists sometimes. | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11fcf/i_told_my_gf_i_forget_she_exists_sometimes/ |
Mr_ADR | Never in my life have I felt this apathetic about everything.
I am finishing up my year at university but, to be honest it has been such a struggle for me to find the mental strength for weeks now. I fr fr have no strength nor the focus to be able to finish my school work; Heck! I don't even care that i haven't been getting any of my work done. I feel as if I have just given up. If any brains out there ever felt like this before, how'd you guys get out of this?
M23 and medicated. | 2021-11-24T09:37:25.000Z | r11f86 | 3 | 6 | ADHD | Have any of yall been feeling extra lethargic lately? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11f86/have_any_of_yall_been_feeling_extra_lethargic/ |
weebcantsocial |
Should be add to be exact, it’s like adhd except the hyperactive part, I can sit still if I have to, just can’t quite focus on a single task like others do.
I looked up the symptoms and I’m match pretty much all of them. The most obvious sign is my struggle with homework, i can’t focus on finishing it without distracting myself every 5 minutes. It’s usually cause of me craving for my phone, but even when I really restrict myself to not use it, my mind would still come up with all kinds of very random thoughts. I’ve had moments where I’m just really frustrated on wondering what’s wrong with me.
I’d always leave my work to the very last moment, like only doing a weekend load of work until it’s sunday night, which in most of the case resort in me staying up till midnight, then giving up on submitting them on time or not submitting at all, and just go to bed. Ive been in this scenario countless times yet I never learn. I keep telling myself to change but during times when I’m supposed to be doing homework, I play and forget about what’s more important.
I get distracted by noises around me when im trying to work, like in a test i can’t help but notice the person next to me breathing heavily with their stuffy nose, just blow it into a tissue ffs.
I’d say I have a wild imagination, with me being able to visualize vivid images in my head. I looked up hyperphantasia, might have that as well. I would always entertain myself with it while doing mindless tasks, like when I’m heading somewhere on foot, I’d imagine the streets and buildings getting wreck by giant robotic arms, sound childish, but to me I see them like those stunning visual effects scenes from sci fi movies, I’m not some sociopath, I just find it to be cool. Some people may have something similar like imaging a ninja doing parkour across lamp posts on a ride as a kid. I would still do that, just instead of ninjas it could be literally anything. I can even make myself giggle if I imagine something funny, which could be just about anything that’s stupidly random, I have some sort of the so call gen z humor.
This ability bugs me even when I’m trying to sleep, with my head imaging all sorts of things constantly it’s hard to rest my mind. I’ll have to spend at least 10 mins rolling in bed every night to fall asleep, but that’s only because I’m always sleepy. I have a really bad sleep schedule.
I don’t have a lot of friends, none even. Yet I’m quite talkative in a conversation. So I like to talk to myself a lot when I’m alone, almost to the point where it’s like talking to imaginary friends, I just haven’t come up with names for them yet. Yes, I do feel lonely sometimes but it does help.
Me being bad in studies and isolated from others really fucked me up, with me getting anxiety and depression occasionally. But don’t worry, it’s not getting worse. And I no longer have any dangerous thoughts which I once had.
Thanks for reading the whole thing internet stranger | 2021-11-24T09:33:49.000Z | r11dc7 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | I might have adhd, just wanna tell you about it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11dc7/i_might_have_adhd_just_wanna_tell_you_about_it/ |
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Acyone | TLDR : brain think too much. many ideas. what do? keep track of ignore? i clueless
For context, I was diagnosed with adhd and am medicated with long release meds.
This morning, I got up and immediately my mind went berserk :
- hey how could I invent a fictional world with realistic inhabitants? That must be hard, Tolkien is a genius
- this app on my phone isn't connecting correctly. I need to fix it *proceeds to think about how to do that and planning to do so later in the day*
- that world building idea must have a writing system! How do you invent one of those?
- oh I really need to organise my clothes
- hmm do I need my car today? Where will I park?
- etc etc
I barely have time to just take a shower and drink some coffee, and I already need 2 hours to do everything I want to do... And it's like this all day every day...
I'm afraid of forgetting about these ideas, so I write them down but that only contributes to feed my growing monster of a to do list, which in term will paralyse me of procrastination later...
How do you cope with this? Do you just let the thoughts slide? (But then maybe good ideas are gone!)
Do you have an archiving system to keep track of those?
This is an issue I don't have a solution for... | 2021-11-24T09:30:31.000Z | r11bld | 7 | 39 | ADHD | Too many ideas, not enough time | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11bld/too_many_ideas_not_enough_time/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-24T09:28:27.000Z | r11aji | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Helping an ADHD friend with chores | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11aji/helping_an_adhd_friend_with_chores/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-24T09:27:08.000Z | r119u9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I might have adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r119u9/i_might_have_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-24T09:19:22.000Z | r115ty | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Ran out of my normal pills and now I can't get anything done. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r115ty/ran_out_of_my_normal_pills_and_now_i_cant_get/ |
CutieTea36 | He has ADHD.
Was only recently diagnosed.
I go to this thread a lot and try to understand as much as I can about ADHD but I feel like I’m never going to be able to help him as best as I can because I always show my emotions in difficult situations.
When he got diagnosed with ADHD in order to cope he decided to only think about and concentrate on logical solutions to any problem.
I’m a psychology student so I definitely understand why he has taken this approach to the discovery of his ADHD as the logical based living approach developed after a few days of just pure depression as he realized the effect adhd has had on his life.
He will analyze every single situation logically he has shut off all emotions and refuses to even acknowledge that emotions are a real thing instead he insists that everything is a maths or a science problem.
For example we were talking about plans for Christmas today. He doesn’t want to spend Christmas at his grandmothers house so I said he can just spend Christmas with my family. To him the possibility of spending Christmas with my family seemed to emotional so he decided to apply to work on Christmas. To him working was the only logical thing he could do to get out of Christmas with his grandmother(I have spend Christmas with his grandma before so I suggested he tell his grandmother that he spend Christmas with me as he has never spent Christmas with my family before.)
Last week he told me that emotions are just socially constructed and that my degree and passion is just an exploitation of society and that psychology isn’t real it’s just a selfish act to get money. Obviously this upset me a lot especially because once I finish my degree I want to work in a legal aid clinic doing social work for young offenders in the criminal justice system.
I’m naturally a very emotional person, my entire life all I have tried to do is help people in every situation. I have literally travelled the world doing social work, teaching English, building schools absolutely everything so I am very very much an emotional person.
I have known my partner for over 4 years. We are high school sweethearts so I really have been with him through every major decision and every major life event since we were teenagers.
When we first met he was very closed off and 4 years later he still absolutely hates it if I see he is vulnerable (the school he attended was very toxic and if any of the boys showed any sign of emotion or vulnerability they would be bullied). Because of this it is very understanding why he reacted this way to his diagnosis.
Before his reaction to his diagnosis he was extremely open to me and was very aware of his emotions and mine, I worked super hard to get him to open up to me and be more vulnerable.
We have been fighting a lot recently because of his shift in logical thinking and my very very polarizing emotional thinking. He doesn’t understand why I am reacting the way I am because he is shutting down his emotions because of his diagnosis. I have tried to explain this too him but he just doesn’t understand.
After doing research I know that I have to be patient. I know I have to try to be understanding. I just can’t help feeling hurt and upset after every fight. | 2021-11-24T09:19:22.000Z | r115tx | 5 | 2 | ADHD | I’m really struggling at the moment to not feel hurt or upset because of my partners behavior | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r115tx/im_really_struggling_at_the_moment_to_not_feel/ |
BirdAdjacent | Part rant, part advice seeking:
I have a case study/ research paper due next week. It was assigned weeks ago, so naturally I only started this week. Every moment of work has been exhausting and excruciating. I have no passion for this project. The entire course has been painfully full and impossible to engage with.
And now I am expected to produce a fairly large and deeply researched paper.
If it was just the writing of the paper that i needed to to, it would be done already. Writing = happy brain.
But the researching, the scrounging for information i genuinely have no interest in, and the endless hours reading incoherently written academic papers for source material is KILLER!!
It is my "wall of awful " or however the phrase goes. It is standing in my way of competing the project. There is no way of avoiding it. I have to do it. I want to succeed in the class. ( I neeeeed to succeed because failure is awful and painful )
I am stuck between the imoveable object and unstoppable force of hating the required work of this project and and intensely fearing failure.
I am not cut out for this kind of work and it is incredibly disheartening to know that it is a must, bit only in those course, but in further courses I need to take if I am to continue pursuing my degree.
Every time this happens I am on the verge of have a meltdown. It's always overwhelming.
All the other projects I enjoyed. They allowed for creativity and were more hands on.
But. This. This sucks.
I am not a researcher. Not like this. Not in an academic setting.
But. As I said. It's something I need to do.
I guess I am looking for any advice from fellow university students with adhd and how you push through the awful work.
And how you fight the fear of failure/ rejection sensitivity and just get things done without worrying about everything being absolutely perfect.
I am just really tired. In every sense of the word. | 2021-11-24T09:19:14.000Z | r115rj | 5 | 12 | ADHD | Struggling with university courses. ( why cant I hyper focus on course work instead of literally anything else lol ) | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r115rj/struggling_with_university_courses_why_cant_i/ |
whothehellknows123 | [removed] | 2021-11-24T09:16:34.000Z | r1149z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Sitting with mouth and sometimes my nose covered by hood from hoodie | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r1149z/sitting_with_mouth_and_sometimes_my_nose_covered/ |
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MobotixOfficial | I always hated talking and having long conversation with my friends, it wasn’t because I hated my friends or anything it just wasn’t my thing like attention and all that stuff, now ever sense I moved 2 years ago I’ve just been craving attention and ever sense my EX left me I just been 2 YEARS LIKE WTF, yea anyways I hate her guts soooo IDK WHATS F***** WRONG WITH ME anyways have a good day and don’t trip? | 2021-11-24T09:10:40.000Z | r1116x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it just me or do I want attention from my friends and EX? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r1116x/is_it_just_me_or_do_i_want_attention_from_my/ |
undisclosedme | [removed] | 2021-11-24T09:10:25.000Z | r11125 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | hi beautiful ppl | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r11125/hi_beautiful_ppl/ |
_TheFifthDimension | My mind just doesn't sit still. Always buzzing from trivial matter to the next. I have poor working memory often forget things or tasks to do that I thought about just moments ago. It's like switching from one tv channel to the next at very quick pace. Just can't be calm. Like trying to concentrate on listening to 15 TVs at the same time. I think about a movie I watched, then a TV show, then a piece of trivia about it, then want to add to my watchlist, want to watch many videos at the same time can't stay on one video for long because my mind is impatient to click on the others as well. I think about a finance article a medication article, sports news and I keep jumping from one interest to another. I have too many interests in too many subjects and many entertainment addictions. Can't keep up with them all. I find it hard to fight my impulses - poor impulse control. When I read a wiki article I click on a related link and fall into a rabbit hole without reading a single article properly and fully. I am aware that I have to fight against getting distracted, try to stay focused otherwise I just can't progress in life- but I just can't fight my impulses to jump from one topic to another- like an alcoholic who can't quit his addiction even with his best effort. I'm tired of it all. This is why I suspect ADHD. | 2021-11-24T09:07:47.000Z | r10zq8 | 7 | 7 | ADHD | Just pouring my heart out | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10zq8/just_pouring_my_heart_out/ |
childless-dad | Ever find yourself mindlessly scrolling through Tiktok or any other social media apps, unable to put your phone down always needing to scroll to the next post?
I found the perfect hack: give yourself X amount of posts/minutes/seconds to scroll down (without stopping) and once you hit your target you look at the posts backwards till you reach the top again, preventing you from scrolling into a never ending cycle of posts. | 2021-11-24T09:04:54.000Z | r10y88 | 8 | 19 | ADHD | A mindless TIKTOK hack | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10y88/a_mindless_tiktok_hack/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T09:01:51.000Z | r10wkk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | L-theanine + caffeine? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10wkk/ltheanine_caffeine/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-24T09:01:18.000Z | r10w9g | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I told my gf I forgot she exists sometimes. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10w9g/i_told_my_gf_i_forgot_she_exists_sometimes/ |
Doctahhhh | I started trying to study HTML for a website that my father wanted me to do for his company, since I do design which in his mind is the same thing, but, I have three different courses on HTML, and I never start any of them because I always think: "Maybe this one is better than this" or "what if this one is bad and I am losing my time". I really don't know what I can do to simply start, this is happening for 2 months. | 2021-11-24T08:52:00.000Z | r10rat | 4 | 16 | ADHD | I can't start learning stuff because I spend most of the time trying to find the best way to learn, and don't start learning | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10rat/i_cant_start_learning_stuff_because_i_spend_most/ |
Positive_Judge_2015 | So basically, I almost always forget to text people back and it makes me feel like such a bad person. Sometimes I wonder if they think it’s them when it’s actually me. I’ve forgotten to text my friend back for like 2 months and sometimes I will even loose friends over this. Does anyone have any tips on how I can stop doing this? | 2021-11-24T08:50:02.000Z | r10qbt | 3 | 9 | ADHD | How do I stop forgetting to text people back? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10qbt/how_do_i_stop_forgetting_to_text_people_back/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-24T08:47:21.000Z | r10p2j | 4 | 0 | ADHD | How does Strattera or Adderall affect my friends here who have BPD/PTSD? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10p2j/how_does_strattera_or_adderall_affect_my_friends/ |
LiftedStarfisherman | It is okay to not be productive, particularly when you are doing something that you enjoy. Recreation is a very important aspect of self care.
I often forget that it is okay to do something just for me. That it is okay to just sit down and do something that is unproductive for no reason other than it being something that I enjoy. I will wake up and my brain will just be like "Shit, there's this thing that I need to get back to doing." All that I will think about is that thing which I think needs to get done. I forget that the thing actually is not that urgent at all, and that I can always do it later. I forget that rather than sit there and think about how awful it is that I'm not doing it, I should probably find something to do something to relax, and actually focus on doing that for a while.
You can also do something that *feels* productive, but is something you know that you're not going to finish, or have no intention of actually using/implementing in a productive manner. It is okay to not finish things. You do *not* need to finish everything that you start. You do *not* need to make productive (or even unproductive) use the things that you make. To quote Brandon Sanderson, "Journey Before Destination".
So is there something that you want to do that you've been putting off because it is not 'important' enough to compared to something else that you are not doing anyway? If so, go to it. (unless the other thing is too urgent, but I don't think that I need to tell y'all that) Go read that book. Go watch that show. Go make that spreadsheet that seems so dumb and useless, which you probably will not ever open again, but still seems a little interesting and fun to make nonetheless. And when you catch yourself beating yourself up about not doing that other not-to-urgent-but-seemingly-super-important thing, try to remember that what you right now is just as (if not more so) important.
TL;DR Go do something you enjoy for its own sake, for yourself, even if it's dumb. You needn't finish it. Just have fun, and try to remember that's why you're doing it. Relax. It's a *very* important part of self care. | 2021-11-24T08:45:43.000Z | r10o3t | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Go Do Something For Yourself. That Other Thing (Usually) Can Wait. | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10o3t/go_do_something_for_yourself_that_other_thing/ |
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Plus_Midnight_3413 | TLDR - I've just discovered that I have ADHD and feel a bit let down by the response from people in my life and worried that people are judging me for my ADHD symptoms
EDIT - thanks so much to everyone that gave me advice or support, I really appreciate it and I'll take onboard all the advice. My friend and I made up, she said she will be more considerate next time and I realised that I need to stop taking everything as a personal attack when sometimes it isn't.
I've only just recently discovered that I have ADHD and am in the process of getting diagnosed. I live at uni and not with my parents and am 22. My mum is really negative about people having anything "wrong" with them so when I told her about this, she didn't believe me then said things like "maybe you do have ADHD because you won't shut up going on about it" when I tried to explain the symptoms to her. After this, she tried to call me to arrange going to the theatre and meeting some of her friends at the pub over Christmas break and I just said no because I don't want to do nice things with her when she isn't there for me. I had an argument with her and she apologised but wanted me to get over it quickly so I didn't accept the apology and it was super harsh but I felt like it was neccessary. The whole situation makes me feel sad though.
Also, I have a best friend who is there for me more and for the most part is great but I've noticed that she can be passive aggressive or snaps at people at times and we went to the supermarket together and she kept snapping at me whenever my ADHD made me not focus. I started crying after and was upset because it was the same day as things with my mum and also I can't change the way I am and I don't want people to attack me because of it.
Also, I realised that growing up, I'd constantly be masking my symptoms and it would make me anxious to feel like I have to hide myself so now I've decided to stop doing that as long as in class etc I don't distract others and also still try to concentrate. It's way nicer but I'm worried that people think I'm weird for being really restless or blurting ideas out a bit more.
Just wanted to get that off my chest haha :) | 2021-11-24T08:42:59.000Z | r10mod | 53 | 163 | ADHD | Feeling let down by how people have responded to my ADHD | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10mod/feeling_let_down_by_how_people_have_responded_to/ |
Sweetcandiee | [removed] | 2021-11-24T08:41:38.000Z | r10lyi | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Finally got a diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10lyi/finally_got_a_diagnosis/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T08:33:49.000Z | r10huw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How hard is it for you to fall asleep? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10huw/how_hard_is_it_for_you_to_fall_asleep/ |
Hazy_Misst | [removed] | 2021-11-24T08:30:03.000Z | r10fsy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta tapering | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10fsy/concerta_tapering/ |
tarotharo | [removed] | 2021-11-24T08:29:02.000Z | r10f72 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Could ADHD be linked to body dysmorphia via hyperfixation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10f72/could_adhd_be_linked_to_body_dysmorphia_via/ |
tuggertheboat | [removed] | 2021-11-24T08:26:57.000Z | r10dzb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking for advice on what to do in a consultation with a history of substance misuse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10dzb/looking_for_advice_on_what_to_do_in_a/ |
VacuumSPP | hey everyone,
this might be a bit random but i thought it would be both fun and perhaps relieving to get it off our chests. what subjects or tasks gave/give you trouble in school and why?
(also i'm aware that school is tough for people with ADHD in general, but feel free to share whatever stands out and if nothing does - "school itself" is a good enough answer!)
i'll start - poems and anything to do with having to read literature.
by poems i mean having to learn some poems by heart as homework and tell them in front of the class later (not sure if this is a common assignment in other countries)
poems were always the easiest thing for my classmates, they saw them as "easy good grades", but i absolutely hated them. i had no interest whatsoever in learning them and the one time i sat down and essentially forced myself to read it over and over, i fell asleep.
similar situation with literature - the books/short stories that were assigned were always so boring that even if i did somehow manage to read them i would never remember anything about them.
please feel free to share your own fun/upsetting/infuriating stories below! perhaps you found some creative ways to get around them or you have ideas how to make those particular subjects or school in general more accessible or easier to "digest"?
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bonus: we were once told to write an essay over two lessons (2 hours basically) in class and i spent approximately 85% of that time doodling on my own hands instead without realising it | 2021-11-24T08:26:45.000Z | r10dvw | 3 | 1 | ADHD | What school subjects/tasks did/do you have trouble with? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10dvw/what_school_subjectstasks_diddo_you_have_trouble/ |
vinnytomo | [removed] | 2021-11-24T08:24:40.000Z | r10cn5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else feel like Neo becoming The One when they take their meds after not being on them for a while? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10cn5/anyone_else_feel_like_neo_becoming_the_one_when/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T08:23:40.000Z | r10c3f | 1 | 1 | ADHD | OCD. Anyone else go to this extent to label and quickly find information? Lol | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r10c3f/ocd_anyone_else_go_to_this_extent_to_label_and/ |
tuggertheboat | [removed] | 2021-11-24T08:15:51.000Z | r107of | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone been denied medication for admitting to substance misuse during your consultation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r107of/has_anyone_been_denied_medication_for_admitting/ |
Gingerbread_Cat | [removed] | 2021-11-24T08:08:07.000Z | r103a2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is anyone else's Netflix (or whatever) 'continue watching' a long list of half watched things that are actually good but you're never going to finish them? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r103a2/is_anyone_elses_netflix_or_whatever_continue/ |
Novadale | I am off my meds for the first time in a long time. I take concerta 72mg. It is my fault for putting off booking my doctors appointment until the very last minute when I was running out. The online booking system was showing the earliest appointment being in a month. I decided to ignore that and email my doctors office directly and they were able to book me in for a phone appointment in a week. During the start of the Pandemic I was able to renew my prescription via Email though at the time they were still setting up the medical video system. My family suggested I go to my pharmacy and see if I can get an emergency week supply explaining the fact that I am unable to see my doctor soon enough.
I had a nap for the first time in a long time usually rare for me to be able to do so unless I am exhausted. I am restless. I find myself bouncing my leg in place one of the ways I used to fidget a lot as a kid. I find myself going to the fridge a lot to snack. ADHD tax and I ended up ordering more snacks from naturebox than I would otherwise unless there was a sale on. I normally wait for sales to order big orders from naturebox. Also a lot of clicking from me actually fiddling with my fidget cube. Anyways I thank you listening. | 2021-11-24T08:07:18.000Z | r102s0 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | It is so weird being of my meds | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r102s0/it_is_so_weird_being_of_my_meds/ |
whyouiouais | At least once a month, I have a day where my brain and mouth just disconnect. No matter how hard I try and make myself clear, what actually comes out either doesn't make sense or doesn't properly get across what I'm trying to say. I end up rambling, often stopping halfway through a sentence to restart to be more clear (often multiple times), and confusing everyone around me. That's not even to say for the times where my mouth starts going off in another direction and I have no idea what I'm saying.
If anyone else struggles with this, how do you cope? I don't mind when it's around friends/people that know about my diagnosis, but when I'm in a meeting and this happens and I can tell the more I talk, the worse I sound, those times suck a lot. I don't think switching to a white board will be helpful. | 2021-11-24T08:03:19.000Z | r100gd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Struggling with days where verbal communication is impossible, advice? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r100gd/struggling_with_days_where_verbal_communication/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T07:47:55.000Z | r0zrg5 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Struggling online school as an ADHD College Student | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0zrg5/struggling_online_school_as_an_adhd_college/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-24T07:45:56.000Z | r0zqdf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone here have BPD/PTSD and take Strattera? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0zqdf/does_anyone_here_have_bpdptsd_and_take_strattera/ |
Diligent-Cash2381 | Hey guys, I'm a self diagnosed 20 yo male with ADHD-pi. Throughout my life I've been suffering with this wretched illness and I was feeling really bad about myself and I was really hard on myself. It never crossed my mind that I would be having an a actual mental problem. Specifically not ADHD ( cus I've always thought it was all about hyperactive children, which I clearly wasn't and the two words preceding hyperactivity in adhd never caught my eye somehow) {adhd is the worst name for adhd ugh}.
But earlier this year, I was just listing my symptoms on Google and it took me to a quora article about this dude who exactly shared mine and that's how I knew I had adhd too. Then I found this sub. Initially I was really really happy to know that I was not alone and there's a whole tribe out there who would be able to empathize with me. Then I found out about: How to ADHD, youtube channel, which if you don't know is an epic legendary channel.
Since my self diagnosis, I've been pretty good to myself. I understood my potential, but I kept working hard and trying. Life was going good. At the same time, something was always keeping me away from reading, watching and listening about ADHD. I didn't care about it too, cus I was honestly in a better place. But for the past couple of days, I was bored and I went through the sub and the YT channel.
And last night I watched this Tedx speech of the channel's creator (Jessica Mccabe) on Adhd. It's a very very moving speech where she breaks out in tears randomly during the presentation and holy crap I did too. I do not remember crying to a youtube video or any video for that matter. At the end of the speech when the audience give her a standing ovation, she begins to cry even more. The top comment under the video was: 'Only people with ADHD would understand why she cried' and that hit me real hard. I was unable to sleep the whole night. All the struggles I had to go through due to this stupid condition flashed before my eyes and I had a total breakdown too. I've never felt this week and depressed before. And all this happened when I was training to have a consistent sleeping schedule. I went to bed at 2 am and wasn't able to sleep till like 4. I had to wake up for college, back at 8 again.
Maybe this was why I was subconsciously avoiding myself from learning and interacting with adhd content and confessions. Adhd sucks man. If you have made it this far, thanks for the patience. This was just a random vent.
[Here's the link to that powerful video](https://youtu.be/JiwZQNYlGQI) | 2021-11-24T07:45:42.000Z | r0zq93 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD DUDE GETS DEPRESSED THINKING ABOUT ADHD | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0zq93/adhd_dude_gets_depressed_thinking_about_adhd/ |
Consistent_Bid_7501 | [removed] | 2021-11-24T07:38:15.000Z | r0zm7n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Why does my vyvanse barely work when i get a good night sleep? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0zm7n/why_does_my_vyvanse_barely_work_when_i_get_a_good/ |
havehave88 | I almost feel like I don’t even need meds. I’d been practicing a dance trick for months and couldn’t get it but as soon as a girl was mean to me I got rlly angry and did it perfectly.. it was like the move was “unlocked”
I struggled at my job until I got angry and ranted abt how I was quitting in my head and how I hated the job the whole day. Weirdly enough I was thanked for being such an amazing worker s bunch of times that day. Ever since than I’ve been a good worker
But like I can’t give things my all w out anger. Ughhhh!!!! But like all my problems would be fixed if I was angry always but I’m generally happy go lucky and carefree … but also clumsy and a mess which can easily be fixed when I’m angry | 2021-11-24T07:37:53.000Z | r0zm02 | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Adhd cured by anger | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0zm02/adhd_cured_by_anger/ |
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