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radio-duck | Hi all,
I (24F) have been diagnosed with Autism and ADHD back in September. One of my main problems with how Autism and ADHD affect me is that I can't do a task without simultaneously doing something else. For example, my SO was eating a slice of pizza at Costco and the only way I felt comfortable having a good convo with him/felt truly present at the table was if I was tearing up a receipt into small pieces and putting it together like a puzzle. It's really hard for me to listen to a new album or watch a movie without doing something else entirely.
If you also struggle with this, can you give me some advice? Since I was diagnosed so recently, I don't have a lot of tools in my toolbox to help me cope. I could really appreciate any advice or products (fidgets or anything) that have helped you. Stimming is also new to me even though I've done it my whole life without realizing it (like pulling out hair when I was younger). It's really getting to me how much of a struggle this :/ | 2021-11-23T16:27:41.000Z | r0gzyb | 7 | 3 | ADHD | focusing only when doing something else entirely | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gzyb/focusing_only_when_doing_something_else_entirely/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T16:27:17.000Z | r0gzn0 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Finding it hard to eat due to combo of medication side effects and emotional distress. Wound up in hospital yesterday. Is there anything different I can do to manage this better? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gzn0/finding_it_hard_to_eat_due_to_combo_of_medication/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T16:17:59.000Z | r0gs9h | 49 | 37 | ADHD | I'm starting to wonder of ADHD is the reason I'm overweight. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gs9h/im_starting_to_wonder_of_adhd_is_the_reason_im/ |
riggycat | I've been trying lots of treatments with my psychiatrist, and none of them have been particularly effective, at least until today. I dragged myself out of bed at 6am for class, took my new meds, got dressed etc etc, then got to class at around 8am. My calc class is long on tuesdays, so I was mentally preparing myself to slog through it until my professor actually started teaching. Somehow, I was paying attention, and not only was I listening, but I was also actually *learning*! IN AN *ACTUAL* CLASSROOM! Not for six hours after class staring at the same page of the textbook, not the night before the test, but *IN CLASS*. It was nearly the best feeling I've ever experienced. I completely understood indeterminate integrals. I could even answer the teacher's questions with confidence. After a month of ADD and Depression keeping me from going to class, calculus was a breath of fresh air! I'm starting my homework now, and am confident that it'll take me no more than half an hour. I'm indescribably happy and motivated to complete my studies. Hopefully I retain this clarity long enough to finish all of my tasks today. | 2021-11-23T16:16:22.000Z | r0gqzy | 3 | 20 | ADHD | After hurting for years, I finally had a success in an academic setting! | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gqzy/after_hurting_for_years_i_finally_had_a_success/ |
bleak-bookworm | Hello, I am sorry if this type of post is not allowed but I need some help and advice for my younger brother. He is currently going through the process of getting a diagnosis for ADD/ADHD but it is incredibly slow and has already been dragging for years at this point. The waiting list for our local CAMHS (UK based) is 3 years, or so we’ve been told.
He is 12, turning 13 in a few months and has recently began struggling in school.
He forgets his school bag, books, homework, and really struggles with his working memory and remembering things. I (21F) care for him most the day, both parents work. We’ve talked about it and forgetting these things is really stressing him out, because he worries he’s going to forget something important.
I want to know what tools you use to help remember the little tasks throughout the day, what worked best when you were a kid…I don’t have adhd so I am trying my best to research and understand but I’m at the end of my rope when both the school and doctors are saying “we can’t help” or provide resources to help until he get the silly little piece of paper confirming what we already know. | 2021-11-23T16:14:40.000Z | r0gpju | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Help with working and short term memory in teenagers? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gpju/help_with_working_and_short_term_memory_in/ |
Time_being_ | I feel so awful, I forgot to wish one of my oldest friends on their birthday recently. It was a day where I just lost track of time, and I didn’t even text them. They aren’t a big birthday person but they have been struggling with their mental health lately and I feel like I’ve just added to that.
Overall I’ve been managing my ADHD much better in my personal life, but sometimes things slip through the cracks and I think in this instance I might have really screwed up. | 2021-11-23T16:11:37.000Z | r0gn5i | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Forgot my oldest friend’s birthday | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gn5i/forgot_my_oldest_friends_birthday/ |
Kdiskskkakdbd | [removed] | 2021-11-23T16:09:16.000Z | r0gl5o | 1 | 1 | ADHD | how many of you also have an asd diagnosis? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gl5o/how_many_of_you_also_have_an_asd_diagnosis/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T16:08:19.000Z | r0gke8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Why can I not get myself to go to scheduled doctor appointments | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gke8/why_can_i_not_get_myself_to_go_to_scheduled/ |
catniq | I avoided taking meds ever since my initial diagnosis. And thought that maybe I can get through life raw. I finally tried meds. Because my new therapist plan for me to only use them on days I need to be productive. I told her that I would prefer my weekends and day off to be meds free & she’s fine w that.
When I first took the meds the first thing I realized my senses weren’t as sensitive as they were before. I was so surprised by this. I was so used to picking up everything that this was such a foreign thing for me.
I also noticed my mood was also slightly better. Like not crazy euphoric but good enough for me to actually do things.
What helped me stay productive while I was not on meds was basically taking a lot of breaks in between my work tasks. I was able to do all of my tasks with minimal breaks and if I chose to! I can even go through them without a break!
I was so surprised to be able to do all of these things.
Crash wise, I just felt extremely sleepy.
Side effects I’ve been feeling (currently on day 3: decrease in appetite, feeling thirsty)
Moods: This feels like I drank coffee and it actually works (coffee makes me more calm and sleepy)
So it feels like I am calm w a better mood, slightly sleepy but very productive. | 2021-11-23T16:05:17.000Z | r0gi35 | 8 | 7 | ADHD | Day 1 on Ritalin | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gi35/day_1_on_ritalin/ |
beebobboop | [removed] | 2021-11-23T16:04:24.000Z | r0ghfm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Any advice regarding the evaluation process? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0ghfm/any_advice_regarding_the_evaluation_process/ |
OkPerspective2084 | TLDR;
Severe ADHD, but also:
Everything above 7mg of Vyvanse seems to be too much for me.
Vyvanse only lasts 4-5 hours (starts wearing off at 3h) for me.
Is that possible?
Feels kinda weird to me. I am not sure what to do.
My case is kinda weird I guess.
I was diagnosed with severe adhd last year.
I will turn 25 years old this november.
Pretty weird that I wasn't diagnosed as a child, but it is what it is.
My psychiatrist started me off at 30mg of Vyvanse.
At first it felt amazing..!
Time slowed down around me and I felt calm the first time in my life. I could just sit there and eat an apple while looking at it & smelling it.
But after a couple of days these amazing effects faded. What was left was a pounding heart & racing thoughts. Also some anxiety.
My physician upped my dose to 50mg. Even 60mg.
It got worse and worse. Then, out of frustration, I started opening up the 30mg capsule and taking less than that. 20mg. 10mg.
Turns out that everything above 7mg gives me these weird effects.
7mgs definitely give me some benefits. But I don't know if that's how it is supposed to be.
Also, Vyvanse always only lasts ~4-5 hours for me.
No matter the dose. | 2021-11-23T15:58:16.000Z | r0gckj | 3 | 1 | ADHD | 7mg of VYVANSE but severe ADHD..?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gckj/7mg_of_vyvanse_but_severe_adhd/ |
starbunny02 | 19f Just took a manager position at my current job which meant a lot more hours. Recently I have really been struggling with separating my time at home and time at work. It was so bad recently that I had anxiety induced insomnia. I read that 50 percent of people with ADHD struggle to hold down a job. Does anyone else feel shitty for struggling with jobs that aren’t even that intensive. I feel like because of my ADHD I can’t live in the present day but I’m always thinking as if my day is actually what’s going on in the next few days. Does anyone else struggling with separating days. Since I’ve been working so much too I really struggle with doing chores around my home. Laundry hasn’t been done in way to long and I just feel like I can’t do both. Are there any types of jobs other ADHD folk find best suited for those with ADHD. Is retail a struggle for some of you as well? | 2021-11-23T15:57:26.000Z | r0gbxd | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Trouble with ADHD and transitioning from work and home. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gbxd/trouble_with_adhd_and_transitioning_from_work_and/ |
Doozay | Hey Everybody! So I have been on Adderall ODT for a couple months now and am not really into the correct swing with my medication. My biggest concern is with Caffeine. Celiac has already robbed me of so much of what I used to love, and I really dont want to let ADHD take the last semblance of a routine from me. Ive been doing morning Americano, 1 tab then 2 hours later into the afternoon i take my second tab. It has seemed to work best but it just seems so wrong? Sometimes the meds work, sometimes they dont, and sometimes i just feel jittery.
Im on Adzenys 3.1 mg. Any thought or advice on how to balance these things? Still in the figuring out what works stage. Thank you! | 2021-11-23T15:56:23.000Z | r0gb4e | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Medication Routine and your morning regimen | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gb4e/medication_routine_and_your_morning_regimen/ |
indigocolour | So I have been working for this horrible company as a boring office job worker for about 3 years now. I hate every day there and I hate my boss, who takes joy in stressing me out all the time. I have some very mild experiences with IT and I would love to learn programming or coding. But I just CAN'T START! I created an account on self-learning website, I flagged helpful videos on yt to watch later, I did research on recourses....but I am just completely paralyzed.
I am afraid to start, because I'm scared that I will find out that I'm **bad** at it. That would mean that I will never grow and never escape this hellhole I am profesionally in. That would mean that I am stupid and a failuire and good for nothing, at least in my head.
But I am also afraid to start because I'm scared that I will find out that I'm **good** at it! Because then it would mean that I could have started YEARS ago and by this time, I could already have a career and good money, but I didn't start years ago and I am just basically suffering for no reason, while I could have done so much by this time....aah.
Why do I have to overthink everything to this recidulous extent? I just can't get myself to start even on one lecture...why am I like this :D
EDIT 1 DAY LATER: thank you guys for the overwhleming amount of support. Yesterday evening I have finished first 1 hour lecture on HTML. I will try to continue at least 30 minutes/day for as long as I can! | 2021-11-23T15:55:30.000Z | r0gafm | 64 | 302 | ADHD | I am paralyzed by fear of failing and therfeore I will never start | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0gafm/i_am_paralyzed_by_fear_of_failing_and_therfeore_i/ |
terraaamisu | Mine is not being able to find something because my family didn’t put it back where it goes. The wrath of 3 suns engulf me specially when I’m hyperfixated and hyperfocused on doing something that requires that item for me to continue.
My boyfriend’s is servers letting his drink go empty. He always asks for another one while his is still halfway full for this reason. He absolutely hates not having a drink (usually beer) with his food. He can go from the most charismatic enfp to a karen in .3 seconds if this happens.
What’s yours? | 2021-11-23T15:54:34.000Z | r0g9nl | 10 | 8 | ADHD | Struggling with emotional dysregulation causes us to get particularly angry at things that may seem trivial, what’s your adhd pet peeve? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0g9nl/struggling_with_emotional_dysregulation_causes_us/ |
Super-Strawberry8916 | Background, I have ADHD, 41/f, diagnoses 6 yrs ago and life drastically changed on medication and with awareness of my diagnosis.
My sister is 37 and we are close, frequently venting to each other about life in general. Lately I am realizing that a lot of her problems sound like... well, me before medication. Like most recently, an important email she needs to write (really important actually, to Department of Licensing for her business), that has been sitting in her inbox for over a week. She keeps opening it up, gets overwhelmed by all the questions, gets anxious, and then shuts down. So today I am going to sit down with her and help her go through it step by step because she is getting final notices that DOL needs this info.
It isn't the only example. I see a lot of things in her life, some of which she asks for support with and some of which she does not, that remind me of the dysfunction of my life 10 years ago, before meds.
I don't know if adhd is genetic. We also have an aunt with adhd. I feel like, if my sister DOES have adhd, her life could drastically improve with medication.
But I'm not a psychiatrist or a therapist or anything like that. I don't believe in "diagnosing" friends and family based on my own experience or stuff I have read. I don't know if she will react defensively and end up getting in one of our infamous "sister fights," which totally would suck.
I just think maybe she should look into this because I see her seeming dysfunctional. And I want her to be happier. She seems so frustrated with herself and her life.
I'm open to any thoughts or suggestions... seriously. | 2021-11-23T15:53:03.000Z | r0g8h9 | 41 | 72 | ADHD | Would you tell a close family member that you sometimes wonder if they also have ADHD, if it would help them? | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0g8h9/would_you_tell_a_close_family_member_that_you/ |
bubblepop92 | Out of sight, out of mind. I hate that the object permanence also counts for people and loved ones.
My friend birthed a child 3 months ago - I live in a different city now - But I've could've easily cleared one day off during a weekend and visited her and seen her and the baby. I've never seen their child and she's deeply hurt.
She's told me before, that she feels anxious when speaking to me because I don't reach out to her often enough. As in, almost never. I'm so anxious about it. Not only her, but damn do I feel like the biggest turd in the whole world. Last time I texted her was april, to her baby shower.
She knows I have recently been diagnosed with ADHD, but she doesn't really.. believe in it? I don't want to get into that, that's her pov and I'm not going to argue with that. She's a good friend non the less and has a warm big heart. It's just incredibly stressfull - messaging, taking initative, remembering to answer people back, calling them .. I feel bad all the time about it. | 2021-11-23T15:51:32.000Z | r0g7ay | 2 | 11 | ADHD | Venting: I feel so bad for forgetting people | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0g7ay/venting_i_feel_so_bad_for_forgetting_people/ |
misslindso | I'm trying my best to understand adhd. I'll never fully understand it though because I don't have it.
With that said, what are ways I can support my kiddo while he's at home? Any tips/tricks? Does any kind of clutter throw you all off? Should I label stuff like drawers/bins? I'm just trying to set him up for success as he gets older. He's on Vyvanse which tbh, miracle drug. Can't change my mind. Infinitely better than Adderall.
He is currently on restriction with his video games because he just could go hours and hours... And then I'm literally reminding him 15 times to empty the dishwasher and then I get pissed off. It's an entire cycle and I'm over it - over it in the sense of I hate getting upset/angry when I know there's a legit reason. Blah.
Help? | 2021-11-23T15:49:58.000Z | r0g62x | 7 | 2 | ADHD | HELP: Mom here with a 9 y/o with ADHD - Combined. Need ideas for things... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0g62x/help_mom_here_with_a_9_yo_with_adhd_combined_need/ |
86throwthrowthrow1 | I just logged into work and discovered a meeting was nearly 30 minutes underway (I knew about the meeting, but hadn't realized it was at 9 - we never have 9am meetings!) I've unfortunately was late to/missed a couple other meetings that were held over my usual lunch break. I work slightly later than most of the team, but 99% of the time it isn't an issue.
For those also rocking this remote-work life, any tips or tricks for staying on top of meetings, especially at more off-beat times in your day? This does not feel like a good look and I want to fix it. | 2021-11-23T15:47:31.000Z | r0g493 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | How do you keep track of meetings and appointments? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0g493/how_do_you_keep_track_of_meetings_and_appointments/ |
useme606 | I feel like the depression i feel is because of my executive dysfunction, but she put me on prozac anyway.
Not asking for medical advice, just sharing:
I was on it daily for 11 days. this is apparently a tiny dose of only 20mg and all it does is make me wake up with a tmj headache every day. I'm moving to every other day for a week, then every 3 days for 9 days, then every 4th day until gone. | 2021-11-23T15:47:06.000Z | r0g3w2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Psych put me on prozac instead of stimulants. didn't feel right, so weaning myself off: | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0g3w2/psych_put_me_on_prozac_instead_of_stimulants/ |
doglover81819 | I am currently studying for major licensing exams for my work. I've been diagnosed with adhd, I believe it's been 4 years ( I could be wrong). I have been off and on struggling with studying for these exams. In the beginning, I was reading all the material then taking the practice questions, quiz and mastery exam. But I don't feel like I'm retaining the information at all.
I've started having the reading on one screen and the practice questions on the other, and it seems to help little bit. But I'm still not retaining the information.
There are 3 different exams, ones starting in less than 4 weeks. And I want to get enough knowledge and studying down so I can pass these exams the first try.
I haven't tried the pomodoro technique, but I tend to want to get things done right there then stop in the middle of what I'm doing. I do most times get distracted, but I've limited my distractions.
Any tips or suggestions for studying that can be helpful? I'd really appreciate it. | 2021-11-23T15:46:12.000Z | r0g370 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Study Tips for ADHD... help please | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0g370/study_tips_for_adhd_help_please/ |
fishh17 | I have generalised anxiety and I think I recently developed a panic disorder and then eventually got diagnosed with ADHD. My 2 demons just constantly do opposite things that sometimes it is VERY hard to manage. My adhd cant focus on anything for long enough but my anxiety cant think of anything else but stress so its just a constant struggle of the mind.
Last night I was looking at a bloody pretty little liar analysis theory and because of other subconscious issues that happened the same day, it triggered my anxiety and fear and i had major hyper tension but while this was happening my brain went into an overdrive and I had absolutely zero almost minus control over my mind (worse than usual). No matter how hard i tried, i could NOT stop thinking about different theories and this probably sounds normal but it wasn't because my mind went from one thought to another in less than a second, there was no stop, i don think even my brain could process the speed of my thoughts and that just worsens my anxiety!
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Does anyone else experience something similar to this? if yes, what helps you make this better? | 2021-11-23T15:45:03.000Z | r0g2a3 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Anxiety and ADHD (brain goes into overdrive) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0g2a3/anxiety_and_adhd_brain_goes_into_overdrive/ |
NoAbilityToConverse | I'm on Strattera/atomoxetine and I don't take it at the same time each day, it's usually within the same few hours though. Sometimes I take it at the same time, other times I would take it 27 hours later when I'm supposed to take it every 24 hours I think. These timings usually range from 11 am to 3 pm, is this a problem? I still take the medication every day. | 2021-11-23T15:38:46.000Z | r0fx6q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Not taking meds at the same time each day | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0fx6q/not_taking_meds_at_the_same_time_each_day/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-23T15:36:17.000Z | r0fvbe | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Can ADHD be a super power? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0fvbe/can_adhd_be_a_super_power/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T15:31:07.000Z | r0fr4o | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What should I do about my meds? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0fr4o/what_should_i_do_about_my_meds/ |
Jumpin_bumpin | [removed] | 2021-11-23T15:27:45.000Z | r0fof3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone have experience using ADHD Online.com? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0fof3/anyone_have_experience_using_adhd_onlinecom/ |
JoeyGamePro | I assume this has been said plenty of times on here but I've been struggling lately and I just need to talk with people who understand what it's like to go through this. For as long as I can remember it's always been one or the other. Either I A) Take medication and perform well both academically and at my job, with the side effects of being emotionally absent and lacking of my normal personality, or B) Not taking medication and being able to express my full range of emotions (although sometimes exaggerated) and feeling fulling engaged with my peers, but at the cost of everything I need to accomplish being extremely hard. It's not even that it's hard to focus all the time... I just. I don't know it's just harder. I can't contextualize it.
I am in my sophomore year of college. Technically still a freshman, and I should actually be a junior but that's a story for another time. I'm just tired. So so tired. I know this is common among a lot of college students, complaining about workloads and how draining classes can be. But I have half the workload as them and I can barely keep up. I haven't taken Adderall since 2016, and my grades have shown it. I feel like it's time I go back to the doctors and re-activate my prescription, but at the same time I don't want to feel like a robot again.
Sorry if I'm breaking rules I just want to let out what I'm feeling. Thanks y'all. | 2021-11-23T15:21:32.000Z | r0fjmp | 3 | 5 | ADHD | I just want to do good while still being myself... | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0fjmp/i_just_want_to_do_good_while_still_being_myself/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T15:20:38.000Z | r0fiz6 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | How to create new relationships and maintain them? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0fiz6/how_to_create_new_relationships_and_maintain_them/ |
trenchcoatfrog | **1. I set a 30 minute alarm window on the app Sleep Cycle.**
The app registers the best time to start waking you up within the window you set. The alarm sounds are so soothing and calming, and if you jostle your phone at all, the alarm stops for a few minutes. It is ***very*** easy to keep snoozing this app, but that's important.
**2. I set a phone alarm 1 minute before the final Sleep Cycle alarm (with additional alarms set for 10, 15, 20 minutes later)**
This alarm is annoying. By the time it happens, I'm already awake enough to know that I'm dreading hearing it. I still end up snoozing it.
**3. The final Sleep Cycle alarm happens.**
This alarm includes vibration so it's not quite as calming. To turn it off, I have to look at my phone and manually do it. By this point, I know if I stay in bed I'll have to the rest of my annoying phone alarms. Plus if I wake up, I get to look at my app and see what my sleep chart looks like.
Doing this gives me at least an hour of extra sleep each morning! I used to have ten alarms set and now I really only need the app plus one or two of those alarms. | 2021-11-23T15:16:42.000Z | r0fg4s | 1 | 4 | ADHD | How I cut my alarm clock snoozing from 1.5 hours to 20-30 minutes | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0fg4s/how_i_cut_my_alarm_clock_snoozing_from_15_hours/ |
oneloudbanana | I'm not sure where I want this post to go, but I just went through a breakup and I'm feeling very...lost.
I just went through a breakup. And I think a big reason it happened is because I got so deeply rooted in this person I just met. I met them after class in Uni and we walked and talked to her next class. The next day I ended up at her apartment and we just spent a ton of time together, stayed on campus until like 3 in the morning. Just talking and walking around.
I should have just left and went to see my girlfriend. Why did I feel the need to hang out with this person so long. Just because they're free for 12 hours doesn't mean I should be there for those 12 hours. I need to know how to say no and how to know when to stop. And they were free pretty much every hour after class got out, for all days of the week. I didn't need to see them every day after class. Why didn't I go to my girlfriend. My loving girlfriend that I know I can trust, my biggest supporter. Ugh I'm just looking back and finding more and more mistakes. 27 months, a really long relationship. A relationship I had put so so so much effort into. Fixing problems that came with ADHD. God, I cannot tell you the amount of effort I have put into helping myself for her. Now it's just all covered up by this huge mistake. All that effort is gone, I have no reason to remember to text her when I get home safe, no reason to remember to give her time when she's upset. A lot of problems I had I fixed and she was really proud of me, and I can't just blame it on ADHD. No, that would be stupid.
Long story short I walked myself into being drunk kissed by a girl, because I was just so nice and decided to babysit her in her own apartment. I should have left, I have to manage my time better. My girlfriend trusted me with her.
[This post](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/r0ek0e/listened_to_some_therapist_on_reddit_led_to_my/hlru0sd/?context=3) is the story. And I guess a lot of it can be marked down as ADHD? Not all of it, some of it was just...dumb. But the things like becoming hyper fixated on a single person, forgetting to text my girlfriend when I was there, just...forgetting a lot of things. Why couldn't I just run back to my girlfriend. Why did I keep a secret for so long. Ugh.
**tldr**; got hyper fixated on someone > breakup
Edit: I guess I just wanted to tell a story, I don't truly understand whats going on. | 2021-11-23T15:10:58.000Z | r0fbtd | 21 | 8 | ADHD | I just get attached so easily | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0fbtd/i_just_get_attached_so_easily/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T15:08:55.000Z | r0fa3c | 2 | 6 | ADHD | I always thought | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0fa3c/i_always_thought/ |
RottenRoots | Hey there! I hope you're having a lovely day!
So I am a 22yo woman with have generalized anxiety and on Instagram, I keep being shown content related to ADHD and as I relate quite a lot to it, I suppose Instagram algorithm just keep recommend it to me which makes sense but which made me question if I didn't have ADHD too. So I wanted to ask if anyone has both and how it feel like, what are the symptoms we might expect from someone with ADHD but which are "hidden" by anxiety (I hope what I am saying makes sense). I am currently seeing a therapist but for now I've seen her only once, I am planning to ask her about the possibility of me having ADHD once she knows me more but I am still however a bit since I am scared of her not taking it seriously. So yes, I hope to find here on Reddit some guidance, someone with a similar feeling!
(EDIT: spelling) | 2021-11-23T15:08:34.000Z | r0f9u6 | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Anyone with ADHD and generalized anxiety? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0f9u6/anyone_with_adhd_and_generalized_anxiety/ |
Plenty_Unit_9875 | It's definitely my most prominent stim, and it's extremely helpful. I just can't focus on things without doing it. In fact, I'm doing it right now as I type (thank god I learned how to type without looking at the keyboard). Anyway, it's been a blessing and a curse. I rely on it a CRAP TON to focus. Like, it's hard for me to focus on reading (for studying art, reading a news article, or when I'd work on school), because I couldn't sway my head while I read. Of course I do the other things, like shaking leg, fidgeting with my hands, and swaying from left and right, but head swaying is the most powerful. But yeah, most things you could think of that requires active brain power, so listening to music, talking to people, listening to people, solving math equations or any other problem at that, daydreaming, etc.
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It was annoying throughout my entire life to listen to people ask me why I did it. I didn't really know why I did it until pretty recently. It always made me seem a bit more of a weirdo than I'm already seen as, and I'm sure it's partially what I'm known for to some people. There were points in my life where my family members tried to help me stop, but it didn't work, at all. The only time I stopped doing it so much was when I was taking ADHD medication.
Another form of stimming I do that I think is related is rocking myself on my bed while listening to music or just thinking on the bed. Others are shaking hands and squealing while watching shows like DBZ and Naruto and just imagining my characters doing stuff, chewing off parts of my lip (not to an extreme extent though, just enough to make them pretty dry), humming, singing, drumming on everything, and the last one from the top of map head are these weird shutter type things I HAVE to do sometimes.
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TL:DR Stimming is a big part of my life, and it can be helpful and hurtful sometimes. (to be honest, I don't even know why I made this post.
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Reference to what I mean by Stevie Wonder head swaying: [https://imgur.com/gallery/qVSFMMz](https://imgur.com/gallery/qVSFMMz) | 2021-11-23T15:08:31.000Z | r0f9sv | 6 | 4 | ADHD | I sway my head like Stevie Wonder in order to do most things that require thought. | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0f9sv/i_sway_my_head_like_stevie_wonder_in_order_to_do/ |
thepursuitofsanity | Hi folks. I’ve recently started using Roam Research for my notes, and it feels like it’s going to be a really amazing tool for my ADHD brain. I’m wary of the perpetual but fleeting “new tool high” but I’m excited to learn more about it because I see a lot of possibilities. I am curious if other people use this tool and if you have any tips for maximizing it? | 2021-11-23T15:06:18.000Z | r0f80z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Roam Research | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0f80z/roam_research/ |
i-readit-on-reddit | I (30F) recently learned that I have ADHD and figuring that out blew my mind. All of a sudden, my “quirks” started to make sense. But I also realized I’ve built a career out of my coping mechanisms.
For example, I’m obsessively organized and minimal (can’t lose things if I don’t have them), live and die by my Google calendar (because I can’t remember where I’m supposed to be), and take ridiculous notes (or else I can’t pay attention and totally zone out).
I’m a program manager at a fast-paced tech company. But the job ironically feels like it’s all stuff that would give people with adhd anxiety (it does). It’s a lot of remembering and organizing details and deadlines across lots of people and projects.
I’m good at it, but I can’t help but wonder if there are other career paths that are better for people with adhd? | 2021-11-23T15:01:42.000Z | r0f4iw | 9 | 2 | ADHD | What careers do people with adhd thrive in? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0f4iw/what_careers_do_people_with_adhd_thrive_in/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T14:59:36.000Z | r0f2lj | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Can anxiety makes the effects of medications less effective? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0f2lj/can_anxiety_makes_the_effects_of_medications_less/ |
Queenside24 | I (23F) started adderall XR (10mg) on Friday. Since then I have worked overtime at work just because I felt like it and I’ve gotten more than all of my daily chores done. I’m assuming this doesn’t last, but what should I expect in the next coming weeks? How long will this productivity craziness last and how bad is the burnout? Will I still be productive when this levels off?
I understand everyone’s experience will be unique, but I want to know yours! Thank you in advanced for sharing your experience!! :) | 2021-11-23T14:57:46.000Z | r0f16j | 1 | 0 | ADHD | How long does the adderall high last? What level of burnout should I expect? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0f16j/how_long_does_the_adderall_high_last_what_level/ |
ForeverAddicted123 | [removed] | 2021-11-23T14:52:41.000Z | r0exd5 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | ADHD becoming worse with ritalin | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0exd5/adhd_becoming_worse_with_ritalin/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-23T14:40:22.000Z | r0eo9l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is anyone else spending Thanksgiving alone? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0eo9l/is_anyone_else_spending_thanksgiving_alone/ |
TheStinkyRebel | Does anyone else really struggle with speaking coherently to get your point across and not pausing mid-sentence to think about how you're going to finish the questions or sentence, or tripping over your own words? I feel like I sit at my desk spending plenty of time thinking about how I want to ask something or tell someone something. But when it comes time to actually walk up to them and talk, it comes out as a garbled mess that I have to spend more time talking to make it more clear of what I am asking. I was never good at speeches in school and absolutely hated my debate class in high school. Also, I'm usually perceived as quiet because when I want to say/ask something I have too much running through my mind I don't know how to convey my message efficiently, even though I know what I'm talking about, so I get discouraged. Any tips on how to improve this?
This is basically why I like texting and email so much more than straight dialogue or over the phone. I can actually spend the time to think and organize my thoughts. I can type something out and read it over a million times to make edits and reorganize it to make more sense. Also probably why my messages are typically long like this simple question... | 2021-11-23T14:39:49.000Z | r0ensv | 3 | 9 | ADHD | Struggling to organize my thoughts when speaking to others | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0ensv/struggling_to_organize_my_thoughts_when_speaking/ |
Cautious-Pea-9074 | Introduction
Uh, hi. While I've been aware of its existence for quite some time, I have never gotten around to getting involved in reddit and it's many facets included. I just created this account a few weeks ago because I have finally, after 8 years of denial, accepted that I have ADHD. I have been working on this post for almost a month now. Not because of this monolithic essay and its size(This took me about an hour to fully write, including breaks), but because I've been so busy with the current life moments going on rn. So, about me. This year, I'm going to turn 24M, I bought my first car for myself,(cars have been given to me thus far), got married to my amazing wife, kept the best job I’ve had yet for a year now with a good wage, and bought my first house shortly after starting this post. I've been laughing at myself lately, because I've been bothering myself thinking that I haven't done a hell of a lot this year.
Story
So, to start (well i guess i already started) i was diagnosed as a kid with ADD. I zoned out a lot, struggled to comprehend what people were saying a lot of the time due to losing the concept of language for brief moments, and lack of motivation for completing tasks. I've always been quiet and kept to myself. My wife is the only true friend i believe ive ever made, and i only met her 4 years ago. I was smart in school. I could ace any test, but struggled to pass my classes due to over 80% of my homework being overdue. I was very mature at a young age, and could grasp many adult concepts that would normally elude the kids my age. I got along with older people and enjoyed them far more than people my age, which probably hurt my social skills looking back. I never truly accepted my ADD diagnosis, especially when i was prescribed meds. Adderall was a touchy subject for me to explain to my family. It helped plenty, though. I could be on the same page as everyone around me, and keep up with everything. But i quit at 16, and vowed to never take them again. My problem with the meds was i felt TOO perfect. As if i was driving a Tesla on autopilot. Sure, I'm at the wheel, but I'm not driving. All im doing is watching the road, cautiously waiting for the software to fuck up and either save it, or watch as it crashes around me. Ever since, I've come up with my own remedies to my shortcomings, and slowly began to decline into self doubt of myself and my capabilities. Fast forward to the beginning of this week, I came across a YouTube video (YouTube is life for me rn) talking about adhd and its symptoms and problems. This video made me realise how little about this condition i truly understood, and latched onto the subject, going through Ted talk amer Ted talk talking about the struggles and successes of people who struggle with the same problems as myself. I am not the problem, i am a victim.(After many hours of debating myself on this statement, I feel like “victim” might be too far. If so, I apologize, I can't think of another way of saying it atm) I mean, yes, rn I am getting everything I have dreamed of for the past 8 years. A wife, a house, and a job I enjoy doing. Well, this is how I put it to my very supportive wife. To those of you who watch Naruto, I find that my life is very similar to that of Rock Lee. Lee is very different from the other ninja. He has no ninjutsu, and he has no genjutsu. All he has is taijutsu. While this can at first be perceived as a weakness or a flaw for Lee, which it is, it gives him more time to focus specifically on taijutsu, making him unmatched in hand to hand combat in the chunin exams. Lee, the boy with the most basic of skills of all the ninja, faces one of the most powerful characters in the exams, gaara of the sand. Lee managed to be one of the first characters to get a blow on gaara, and proved to everyone that he is a true competitor that should be taken seriously. I might have lost a few of you here, but what I'm trying to say here is if you don't look at Lee's backstory, you only see that this kid managed to hurt one of the most powerful opponents in the exam, but ultimately loses tragically to gaara. But when you look deeply into Lee's character, you notice that he works harder than any other shinobi. He drives his entire life with a seemingly unlimited explosion of passion. And even after his leg and arm is broken and has been knocked unconscious from his fight against gaara, his unconscious body refuses to surrender the fight, and stands with near dead eyes to face gaara with an unwavering resolve. I relate to this because I, like Rock Lee, must struggle every minute of every day to be even close to the same level of energy and focus as everyone around me. And this fact of life I face is simultaneously crushing and astounding to understand for me. I'm very proud of who I am, and I aspire to be better every day, despite the challenges I face. Now I would like to clarify that I'm extremely blessed, and I know that my struggles don't even come close to what I'm sure you fellow redditors must experience yourselves. I wish you all the best and I'd like to help wherever I can. But going back to this YouTube video (oof, that was a damn long tangent, i hope you guys are still with me here. If not, I apologize) I shared them with my wife. My absolutely stunningly supportive and wonderful wife. She finally understands, like myself, what I've been struggling with all of these years. She spends the next 2 hours looking for ways she can help me with my ADHD and talks to me about how we can implement strategies and solutions to my everyday struggles. This woman is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I can't wait to spend the rest of my life with her.
Problems and solutions
So here, I'd like to explain what I've come to understand about my ADHD and what I'm planning to do about it. I don't know if this will help anyone, but I hope it does. I'm great at receiving feedback, so any comments would be thoroughly appreciated and welcomed. For starters, this sentence right here has been the most difficult part of this entire post. In fact, everything above and below was finished before these sentences, and it only took me less than an hour to do all of it. But now, I need to change my timeline a lil bit(they've been changed already) in this post to match up with today, which is 3 weeks after I started writing this. Yes, this middle part right here that is less than 100 words has taken longer for me to finish and put on paper than the rest of the paper containing over 1000 words. Solution? I need to prioritize tasks and finish them one at a time. What makes this tricky is, how do I prioritize my tasks? They all feel important to me, and my overthinking brain tells me that if I do tasks number 1 and 5, tasks 3 and 8 are going to be less efficient to get done. I'll sometimes even get my prioritization done in my head, but by that time, I've spent too much energy thinking about how to do it, and am no longer motivated to do anything after, which causes me to forget everything that I just worked so hard to figure out. And even if I still somehow manage to remember, my efficient order of tasks might limit me from the tasks that excite me the most, preventing me from even wanting to start. My solution is my wife and a lot of writing down tasks and ideas. Sticky notes and whiteboards are what will be my driving factor for remembering my tasks, and motivation for getting them done. Fortunately, having too many things laid out in front of me doesn't overwhelm me, and even if it does, my wife can help me partition what's important, and what can wait for another day. So conversation is important to me, and I tend to be seen as quiet. My issue here is that half of the time, I just don't know what to say. I can be on the phone with my dad and have entire minutes of dead silence between the two of us because I sit there thinking of what would be an interesting topic to discuss, or go back into the archives of my life to let him catch up to my life story. This is frustrating and just downright demoralizing for my ability to make friends or keep up with them. I'll leave people on read for hours or even days just trying to come up with a response to what they sent me. I'm just terrible at conversing through a phone I guess. So, just visit people and talk face to face, right? Well, I only have so much time in my life to socialize. I constantly tell my friends that I've been busy and that I'm trying to save up money for my house. And while that's true, I also don't feel too terrible about it. I'm exhausted from work due to the amount of energy it requires of me, and am rarely in the mood to see anyone, except my wife. I almost always want to be around my wife, until those rare moments where I just want to run away from everyone and everything. Solution? I’d like to expand my friend group. I can't get any better at socializing if I just dream about it. I just need more experience.
Help
So here is the why for this post. I doubt I'm bringing anything new to the table with my story, seeing that there's (holy moses) almost 1.3 million people following this subreddit. A part of me is excited to watch this blow up, but I wouldn't be surprised if this ends up getting drowned out by every other post following mine. I'm not here to ask for a ton of advice or even sympathy. This is more of an introduction to you. I'd like to make friends and start a new circle of trusting individuals so that I may grow and be a part of a community, which I feel is potentially beneficial to all parties included. I figured I'd start with people that can understand better than anyone what i can be like going in, so here I am. For starters, I'm very passionate about whatever topic I'm interested in, mostly film and history, along with cars and sometimes politics(so long as it's not toxic. I debate with an open mind and expect the same from my opponent.) I love to learn damn near anything. I like to game. I currently have an xbox one and a PC, and like to play minecraft, 7 days to die, no man's sky, and bf4, and I'm planning on getting a VR headset soon. I'm big on podcasts and spend way too much time on YouTube. I'm a great listener, when my brain allows me. I'm extremely vulgar and have no qualms with any kind of naughty talk, so long as it's not degrading. I'm very patient and easily forgive, and live a very easy going life. I'm not a religious guy, but I am a man of faith. I can take criticism with stride and I almost never get offended. So, yeah. That's most of me, the rest you can ask me about. Or tell me about yourself. I really hope this gains some traction, so i can expand my circle and hear some good stories of all colors. I appreciate any and all of you, and I wish you a wonderful life. If you've made it this far, thank you for flying delta. We will be departing now. Uh, I don't know what else they say, but thank you for reading. Lol I don't know how to end this. Uh... carry on. | 2021-11-23T14:35:24.000Z | r0ekjr | 1 | 4 | ADHD | My story, problems and solutions, and help (buckle up) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0ekjr/my_story_problems_and_solutions_and_help_buckle_up/ |
itsaravemayve | [removed] | 2021-11-23T14:34:39.000Z | r0ejzj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | People with executive dysfunction issues, what helped? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0ejzj/people_with_executive_dysfunction_issues_what/ |
HellScre4m | [removed] | 2021-11-23T14:33:32.000Z | r0ej6x | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Comorbid ADHD(-PI?) and depression Vs. Atypical depression | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0ej6x/comorbid_adhdpi_and_depression_vs_atypical/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T14:32:39.000Z | r0eijw | 10 | 0 | ADHD | My doctor thinks Adderall is superior to Ritalin but I’ve had a different experience and I’m looking for people share some insight before my next appointment. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0eijw/my_doctor_thinks_adderall_is_superior_to_ritalin/ |
SomniaCE | I was recently prescribed adderall and its been doing wonders for me. I'm able to work more efficiently than ever before and my mood has also gotten much better. However, one weird aspect is that I feel super wired. Like I can feel it in my spine and arms that I just feel far more energetic and while that's wonderful for work I've noticed it affecting my precision in motor skills and makes me a little more jittery.
Video games are a super big passion of mine and I play some of them competitively. Halo Infinite is one such game and I've noticed that in the past 5 days of beginning to use adderall, my aim becomes so much worse as I jitter a bit more and can't track targets as well with my reticle. My handwriting has also gotten mildly worse but I write things by hand so infrequently and my handwriting was already so bad that its not a big deal.
Has anyone else experienced something similar? My doctor gave me what I feel is a pretty insane dose for a start, 20mg, and I'm wondering if that big of a dose as an introduction is just too much too fast for my body. I'm going to bring it up with them for sure, but was curious what others have thought. Its ironic as adderall abuse is a pretty big controversy within competitive gaming as many use it to gain an edge illegally, yet for me as someone who actually needs it to function at my best its hurt my performance lol | 2021-11-23T14:28:24.000Z | r0efgr | 2 | 1 | ADHD | This might sound weird, but when I play video games with adderall on, it becomes a lot harder for me to precisely control my character in-game | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0efgr/this_might_sound_weird_but_when_i_play_video/ |
Jesstriesherbest | I am seeking a new career path after being in the military for 15 years. Military was a great career for a lot of ADHD reasons but I released due to wanting to stay in my current city with my family and I now find myself soul searching for my new path/purpose with almost too many options. I am employed right now in a good job but can't help but feel lacking in the passion category as well as would like to make more $$.
My dream would be to have my own business but I get overwhelmed with the thought of my income not being a steady regular paycheck and also I do rely on medical benefits for meds/therapy/dental ext.
So the next thought is maybe become a realtor?
Is anyone here in that field and find it a good fit? | 2021-11-23T14:20:49.000Z | r0e9yv | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Seeking new career path....Realtor? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0e9yv/seeking_new_career_pathrealtor/ |
outlandishflamingo | [removed] | 2021-11-23T14:19:17.000Z | r0e8v9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anybody else feel like their ADHD is much worse in the winter? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0e8v9/does_anybody_else_feel_like_their_adhd_is_much/ |
_TStop | Hi there! I’m a male in my mid 30s and recently was diagnosed with adhd, inattentive type. I’ve been working with my psychiatrist to find the right medication and dosage, but I’m honestly not sure what I’m looking for. I’m finding some things are moderately easier when I have my medicine, but I haven’t had the eureka moment I see in many other posts (still find myself zoning out/glazing over in conversations especially, and still difficult to start tedious tasks). Has anyone had a similar experience? Thanks in advance for sharing. | 2021-11-23T14:18:19.000Z | r0e85s | 3 | 1 | ADHD | How do you know when your meds are working? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0e85s/how_do_you_know_when_your_meds_are_working/ |
CHAAES | Fuck it. I hate it and it happend and it feels horrible, im here crying, cause I still need to inform my company on why I didnt show up to school.
God damit, what should I even tell them? That I missed a whole day of school, cause I told my parents that they should go and fuck off while they tried to wake me up (with me not remembering a single thing off that cause I was asleep), also that my 6 AlarmClocks didnt manage to wake me up?
I dont get it anymore, now my head is being cut off for things that I dont have any control over, like what dhould I do, "be enlightened by god so he wakes me up?" Yeah probably not
Also for fuck sake I now have a headache (ty body for giving me no control over my sleep). Im now gonna call work again and see if they pick up the phone, hopefully I can give a positive update | 2021-11-23T14:18:09.000Z | r0e81x | 6 | 1 | ADHD | I slept through almost a whole school day, because of fucking sleep talking | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0e81x/i_slept_through_almost_a_whole_school_day_because/ |
Meman135 | (18M) If I get the job I wont be able to get screened for 7 years! I need all the advice I can get.
I have a adhd screening appointment booked in with a psychiatrist at the end of December. I have been waiting months for this appointment and I was honestly really glad I finally pulled the trigger to getting one. Until a few days ago.
Long story short, I have just finished high school and am looking into working in IT (cybersecurity). Getting into this field means either going to university or going to the defence force (military), and in my case, I have been seriously considering the defence force option as it means no student loans + experience in the field + getting paid also while in training + really good job opportunities after serving period is over.
So here lies the major problem.
Joining the defence force means I would have to go through a medical screening. If I do get diagnosed with adhd, my chances of getting in are much slimmer. I also have asthma which by itself may still allow me in, but having an extra medical problem may make me too much to accomodate and not worth the effort (for the defence force). Even if by some miracle I do get in (with diagnosed adhd), to my knowledge, they do not allow medication, so it seems like an unnecessary risk getting screened if I cant get treated anyways.
What would you do in my situation? Can you give me some advice? I really want the job, but that means I wont be able to get screened for adhd for about 7 more years (serving period in the defence force).
The way I see it getting screened and possibly diagnosed is an unnecessary risk if I cant get treated anyways. So if I go try get the job it will mean no screening. And if I get screened and diagnosed it means I most likely will not get the job.
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Some extra information IF you feel like reading:
Im in AUS if anyone has experience.
Serving time will be 7 years (so I will have to go 7 years until I can get screened). According to some sources (random chat forums) you have to be off medication for 12 months before even being considered (although this is contradicted by other forums saying you will get rejected no matter what). If I dont get screened but get rejected due to asthma I will obviously book another screening test. | 2021-11-23T14:16:52.000Z | r0e77d | 5 | 1 | ADHD | I cant get diagnosed for 7 YEARS if I apply for the job! HELP | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0e77d/i_cant_get_diagnosed_for_7_years_if_i_apply_for/ |
Arranox-Kintsugi | I was out having a guys night with my only two friends and my best friend brought his brother in law, and i had met the guy many times before. and i know the guy\`s name. but i can\`t remember... i really suck at names.
so i avoid admitting that i can\`t remember, because people take offence and i have to try to explain that its not because i don\`t care or anything.
but this time i got exposed and since my friends know me, i did not have to explain. but instead of reminding me they teased me by making up new names for the guy. i could tell all where bullshit since its like i know his name i just don\`t remember the word. ( can anyone relate? )
they had a blast teasing me while i " hand checked every word" i could find in my brain, and im not going through just names, its more like: stickers? no, Bill? no, watch? no, potato? no.
but in the middle of this my girlfriend calls to check in on me, and i remember that she has met this guy once at a housewarming party, so i asked her to help me out, and she\`s like oh yeah that\`s the guy with that name.
I mean what an impressive skill. she has explained to me once, that if she gets a quiz where like she needs to find words with 3 a\`s in it like Banana she can steadily go through every word with at least 2 a\`s
For me its like every word i know comes down on a conveyor and i try to pick out anything with even one a in it.
maybe it does not help having 2 languages. i find myself thinking in both and even when writing i find myself sometimes writing in both languages because sometimes its easier to find the right words in one over the other.
does anyone else struggle with words like me? | 2021-11-23T14:12:46.000Z | r0e4db | 11 | 20 | ADHD | The struggle of remembering words, | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0e4db/the_struggle_of_remembering_words/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T14:11:07.000Z | r0e38r | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I want to do well in College and get a degree. However it feels like an impossible task. I just want to drop out. Any advice would be appreciated | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0e38r/i_want_to_do_well_in_college_and_get_a_degree/ |
eiksnaglesn | I’ll get right into it since I don’t really know where to start. Something I’ve gotten more and more aware of as of late is my constant fear that people think I’m overreacting or being over dramatic, even in situations where I know I’m not.
I’d say the most clear examples of things that fueled those fears are probably health related. It sometimes feels like the people around me tend to assume the concerns I raise are at least 3 levels too high, and as a result, take them at least 3 levels less seriously. I feel like it's definitely one of those indirect ways ADHD can negatively impact your health and tbh even life expectancy.
**(Some examples, it was really the best way I could think of to explain what I mean, feel free to skip to the TLDR if you don't feel like reading lol)**
As a kid, my parents and all the adults around me just assumed I was being dramatic for 6 months when I was telling them my hip hurt a lot and I couldn't just "stop limping". Turns out two of the bones in my hips were slowly sliding apart. Even when I fell and they were finally completely ripped apart, and I thought I'd die from the pain alone, I was non stop screaming and begging them to call an ambulance, they all thought I was just being dramatic. I was legit relieved when the doctors told me just how severe and serious my injury was, cause at least they'd all know I hadn't overreacted. My right hip has permanent damage that could have been avoided if someone had just taken me seriously enough to take me to a doctor in time.
I was telling my therapists and doctors for years that I couldn't concentrate, couldn't remember anything or keep track of important dates, couldn't stand sitting still during lectures and the advice I got was to "go grocery shopping without a shopping list to train my memory" or "meditate" or "start journalling". I feel like I gave them everything they needed to start suspecting ADHD, but they just dialled the severity of my claims down to a much lower level than they actually were. My untreated ADHD messed up my life and brain for years and years and the way back has been, and still is, so long.
Basically **TLDR:** I feel like the way my ADHD sometimes makes me "overreact" has led to people in my life just assuming I'm exaggerating or being over dramatic in many situations where my concerns were actually completely legit, which has majorly fucked me over quite a few times tbh. | 2021-11-23T14:04:05.000Z | r0dxv6 | 54 | 269 | ADHD | People around you not taking you seriously, or always assuming you're being dramatic is so fucking dangerous | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dxv6/people_around_you_not_taking_you_seriously_or/ |
koalather | I'm sure the amount of threads with this question asked are endless, so I apologise.
I've always been one to stay up late but the most I'd stay up to (if I didn't have anything to get up for the next day) is 2-4 am and I'd wake up around noon. Ever since the pandemic happened and we went into lockdown, my sleep schedule worsened and I'd go to sleep around 5 am and wake up around 1-2 PM.
This isn't the first time my sleep schedule has swayed this way but I always find a way to somehow get it back on track, however this usually entails having things to wake up for. As someone who is unemployed and only goes out occasionally, how can I fix my sleep when I don't have anything to wake up for?
I'm asking this in the ADHD sub because my ADHD is a big reason for why my sleep schedule has worsened (and has always been bad), and I'd like to hear tips from other ADHDers! For those who do not have jobs or anything of the like, how do you manage a somewhat normal sleep schedule? | 2021-11-23T14:04:01.000Z | r0dxst | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How can I fix my sleep schedule? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dxst/how_can_i_fix_my_sleep_schedule/ |
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elementary_vision | I fucked up. I went two months without my meds thinking "it's not that bad, ive lived most of my life like this I'll manage". But I just took them today and I realized how impairing ADHD really is. Of course I didn't pickup my meds because of ADHD to begin with.
So it got me wondering. Maybe if I had a job that fully grabbed my attention I'd be ok. But the tragedy of ADHD is I'm 30 now and my life just didn't get planned and I'm deficient in a lot. Basically I am where I am now because I fell into it, but not really out of choice.
I don't understand how some people can manage this without meds. I've tried. Part of me wants to be able to just figure out a way not to take meds. I'm not ashamed or anything. I guess it still hasn't registered in my head it's legitimate. I think I can make it work for me or something. Maybe that's all that "superpower" talk that gets me a bit upset. Like I'm glad other people find some kind of gift in this, but it's mostly just impairment for me. | 2021-11-23T14:00:52.000Z | r0dvep | 1 | 9 | ADHD | Coming to the realization that I do in fact have ADHD and it's not minor. | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dvep/coming_to_the_realization_that_i_do_in_fact_have/ |
printedvolcano | Hi everyone!
Recently started seeing someone and we’ve had a handful of successful dates. We really seem to click, and have very similar interests and values. I’ve not dated in a while so a combination of the novelty with the fact that we are more compatible than just about anyone I’ve dated before has made me spiral towards a pretty intense interest in them.
I want to slow down so that I don’t scare them. I’ve been very open in communicating that this is how I often am at the start of dating so that it can be managed if it becomes too much, but don’t want to add more pressure/discomfort from it. Beyond the slowdown, I’m also hoping that I don’t swing from hyperfixation on them straight to being uninterested.
Does anyone have any strategies for managing this? Maybe journaling as an outlet for the over-romantic thoughts so that I’m not suppressing them but not smothering this person? I really want this to work as I feel it could be my shot at something really great, but I also am already reading into it so much and AHHH it’s stressing me out. Any help or share of experience is greatly appreciated!! | 2021-11-23T13:59:21.000Z | r0du3h | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Trying to manage hyperfixation/over-infatuation in dating? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0du3h/trying_to_manage_hyperfixationoverinfatuation_in/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-23T13:56:22.000Z | r0dry7 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Meds & addiction, not spoken about enough? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dry7/meds_addiction_not_spoken_about_enough/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T13:51:01.000Z | r0do7w | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Anyone have a ton of difficulty getting their medication from the pharmacy before the last lot runs out? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0do7w/anyone_have_a_ton_of_difficulty_getting_their/ |
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s-pop- | My best friend helped me with this exact problem this weekend: I had +70,000 unread emails and most of them were subscriptions I started and didn't need, but felt paralyzed to deal with. I don't think that situation is limited to people to ADHD, but so multiple symptoms I struggle with ended up worsening the problem.
I'd recommend doing this on a computer to start
- The first step was deleting most of it. You can start by searching "**is:unread and older_than:1m and label:unimportant**" and deleting/archiving those.
I deleted unread stuff older than 1 month because with *70,000* unread emails, if you didn't see it yet, odds are it might as well be gone. And the "unimportant" ignores stuff Google thought was important. But you can also archive to be safe.
(Also fair warning: It's going to take a minute. I had to repeatedly select all conversations and let it do it's thing.)
- From there you can select "**older_than:1w**" or some similar short time frame and archive (not delete) all of those.
- I think this is key for Gmail users: **Disable that "Promotions/Forums/Social" feature called Categories**. It doesn't mesh well with a habit of signing up for unnecessary emails because it hides the problem from you
- To do that, go into your settings and switch from "**Default Inbox**" to "**Unread First**": https://imgur.com/a/LJRHQLs
Now your email will only have two categories, "Read/Unread", and be immediately easier to deal with.
- Optional: Enable *Reading Pane* on Desktop, it makes replying to emails happen on the same screen instead of a popup window. That helps me stay focused.
- From here comes the slightly harder part. Every day, try and clean out your read stack. And to do that, don't just delete the emails, unsubscribe first.
It can be hard sometimes, you might get that thought of "oh well maybe I want to remember this exists" or "maybe this is a good deal" etc. But remember where you started, you likely would not even have seen this email. Just unsubscribe, and if in a week you remember regret it, you can always sign back up.
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It was insane for me, that first day I probably got 20 something new emails in the hours before bed. But it does get better: This morning I have 5 unread! And of those only 2 were automated!
It's so much less stressful not wondering if I missed something in that mountain of emails, and it's a calming feeling seeing that empty unread box.
One trick I didn't rely on enough to start was Google's built-in unsubscribe button. It used to be flaky but now it seems to be working consistently. | 2021-11-23T13:48:08.000Z | r0dm64 | 2 | 4 | ADHD | How to deal with 10s of thousands of unread emails | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dm64/how_to_deal_with_10s_of_thousands_of_unread_emails/ |
Jinxer_redditer | [removed] | 2021-11-23T13:46:44.000Z | r0dl94 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone feels like playing to be an adult? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dl94/does_anyone_feels_like_playing_to_be_an_adult/ |
3IdiotsInATrenchcoat | I'm in a weird headspace at the moment. I moved to another city to start University in September, and from the get go I told myself to be social for at least a few weeks or months so that I could make friends and not end up lonely. But recently I realized I don't.. know how to socialize? It's bad enough that I'm either waay too talkative or a mute, I also can't remember anyone's names let alone recognize them under a mask. This has been a problem since high school, where I literally had to stalk my friends on Facebook to learn their names..
The more I miss events, the less likely I'm to go to the next one. I tried going out with a group once, and they indulged me, but I literally felt like a fifth wheel. More recently, I asked someone if they'd want to walk our dogs together sometime and they straight up said "I'm busy right now, maybe next year". Makes me hesitate to reach out again.
This is the first time since I got my diagnosis that I've actually had to try and fit in (maybe I was oblivious before). I'm finally unapologetically myself and not ashamed of it, yet.. I feel like being me is not good enough. I can't help but feel like people don't like me for me. | 2021-11-23T13:45:44.000Z | r0dkku | 6 | 8 | ADHD | How do you make friends? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dkku/how_do_you_make_friends/ |
lilac_wooyo | Just as the title says, I'm just wondering if this tendency of me eating the same food for weeks before forgetting their existence has any psychological explanation?
For example, I would stick to random food like cereals or toasts with butter and REFUSE to eat anything else for such a long period until I'm sick of it and couldn't consume them anymore.
Does this behavior have similar reasoning with tendency of repeating the same songs or rereading the same book? | 2021-11-23T13:45:36.000Z | r0dkhg | 27 | 111 | ADHD | Eating the same food for a week and then completely ignored them after | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dkhg/eating_the_same_food_for_a_week_and_then/ |
h8dd | I’m terrible at keeping any kind of relationship and I don’t think I want to try anymore. Can’t keep friends because the be completely honest they just annoy me but for no good reason. Then I feel awful because I push people away and then I’m alone and want to try speak to my friends and it just repeats. I don’t know if I want to be alone or not but that seems to be the only way to never feel misunderstood or any of this weird shit I feel, but then I’ll just be lonley idk was wondering if anyone had some advice on here | 2021-11-23T13:44:21.000Z | r0djoo | 7 | 45 | ADHD | I can’t keep friendships, I don’t even know if I want them, but I don’t think I want to be fully alone, I’m a mess | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0djoo/i_cant_keep_friendships_i_dont_even_know_if_i/ |
throwaway53849606072 | **You don’t have to read this. The rest is just rambling about past experiences. I am just curious on what to expect if I get tested.**
Sooooo it’s the stupidest hoop in the fucking world I have to jump through but I struggle to find a job. I’m *in* a job but I work with a vocational rehabilitation program who helps people with struggles, find work. My therapist is Finally understanding that I actually do have ADHD, not just PTSD, and recommended I get tested by a certain doctor. I asked my pcp for a referral to him and 🤷♀️ wow. No response. What a shock.
But my voc rehab case worker said “oh we work with him! We can refer you!” and I’m like oh that’s awesome!
Then she instructed me on what to do. “Call the head of the voc rehab and tell her you want to get diagnosed **so you can focus on getting a job easier**” 😒 I stopped her and said “No. I want this diagnosis/medication so I may function like a human being. Its not just about fOcUs but I guess that’s some part of it.” She then tells me I have to make the diagnosis about getting a job or they might not help.
the FUCKING obnoxiousness of this, ticks me off but yeah sure whatever.
Back in the day, DSHS tested me for how bad my adhd was, for an hour. They sat me in a room, gave me basic tasks to do and I struggled on a few but most I did pretty well… I’m not exactly a good liar ok. So despite me actively crying in front of them because of my anxiety, they happily denied my request for help and said shit like “Use sticky notes. Everyone forgets stuff sometimes. You’ll be fine.” “Who Doesn’t have depression these days. You just learn to live with it.” “Oh I have anxiety too. But I still work and talk to people just fine.”
I really dislike people. 😒
Anywho- thank you for any advice you can give so I’m not going in blind. | 2021-11-23T13:34:57.000Z | r0ddao | 4 | 6 | ADHD | What test do they do to diagnose you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0ddao/what_test_do_they_do_to_diagnose_you/ |
AllyAddams | Diabetes is caused by the absence or insufficient production of insulin, or an inability of the body to properly use insulin.
ADHD is caused by a dopamine deficiency, without such the brain struggles to function properly.
So, since no one in their right mind would tell a diabetic person to just “don’t go into hyper-glycemic shock” if their blood sugar is high.
Why do I get told to “just focus” or “just have more discipline”, when I can barely lift my head from my pillow sometimes?
I flipped and told this (not word by word, but much nicer) to my professor in UNI and they were utterly pissed. Was I wrong to say it? | 2021-11-23T13:34:54.000Z | r0dd9k | 5 | 4 | ADHD | ADHD like diabetes? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dd9k/adhd_like_diabetes/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T13:30:59.000Z | r0dajd | 1 | 0 | ADHD | First adderall experience | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0dajd/first_adderall_experience/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T13:28:47.000Z | r0d8zt | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Started today with 30 tablets of elvanse (vyvanse) for 36 days, what to do? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0d8zt/started_today_with_30_tablets_of_elvanse_vyvanse/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T13:28:31.000Z | r0d8uq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do I go for the job or go for the diagnosis? ( I can only choose one) help. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0d8uq/do_i_go_for_the_job_or_go_for_the_diagnosis_i_can/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T13:22:44.000Z | r0d53d | 1 | 1 | ADHD | how far can you take mental illness accommodation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0d53d/how_far_can_you_take_mental_illness_accommodation/ |
--azura-- | [removed] | 2021-11-23T13:17:52.000Z | r0d1nn | 504 | 1,082 | ADHD | I HATE PANTS | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0d1nn/i_hate_pants/ |
some_reddit_username | People love to write music about what they're going through, and there are loads of songs about depression, heartbreak, and anxiety. Are there any songs or artists that tend to focus on problems that we face more as ADHD-having people? Things like lack of motivation (not related to depression), distraction, hyperfixation, procrastination, etc.? It's nice to listen to music that I can relate to, and honestly it's kinda disheartening that there isn't any that I've found yet. | 2021-11-23T13:14:09.000Z | r0cz1h | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Have you found any music that talks about struggles? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0cz1h/have_you_found_any_music_that_talks_about/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-23T13:11:59.000Z | r0cxn5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone relate? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0cxn5/does_anyone_relate/ |
PerfectParadise | There are less than 5 psychiatrists that specialise in ADHD in my state. They're expensive as hell, have long wait lists, and often are only interested in diagnosing children or if you have a medical history of symptoms before 12.
If I fucking had medical history of symptoms before twelve I wouldn't be coming to you now. I would already have done it.
I resonate a lot with ADHD symptoms but I realise that a lot of other people who don't have it do as well. I just don't understand why it's so hard to even find out.
I see people talking about how life changing ADHD therapy and medication can be for those who have it. I just want confirmation but I can't even get that. It's driving me up the wall. | 2021-11-23T13:10:55.000Z | r0cwub | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Feels impossible to get even assessed for ADHD where I live. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0cwub/feels_impossible_to_get_even_assessed_for_adhd/ |
Prudent-Detective203 | I went through the RTC route with Psychiatry UK, had my referral in March, first appointment in June and started titration around 4/5 weeks ago. I was put on elvanse (or Vyvanse in US). I started with 20mg, and each week the dose was upped by 10mg, so 20, 30, 40, 50, and I am now on 60mg. The next step after titration is to find an optimum dose to settle on, but I’m not sure I’ve reached one, or had any conclusion about how effective it has been.
I expected to feel some immediate change to my life during titration, and I just don’t think I’ve had that. I feel like I am just as easily distracted as before, in fact it feels harder to tear myself away from my phone (so maybe the meds are helping me focus, just on the wrong thing?). The one time I will say I felt significant progress was an essay I had last week, I managed to write 3000 words in around 10 hours, I did most of my reading in a couple of days. This has never happened before, as in how much of an essay I was able to get done, but equally before meds, when it gets down to it and its crunch time for my essays, the time pressure really did make me work like nothing else. In all other areas of my life, I wouldn’t say I noticed a significant change, I manage to always get my work done mostly but that’s just because I need to, im not necessarily making better use of my time I would say, and I don’t have a demanding schedule yet (next semester my workload is increasing quite a lot, so maybe I can better assess it then?). If I had to say at which dose I noticed a change, it would be at 40mg onwards, but that also seems quite high to me.
However, I’m unsure about trying out a new medication because I didn’t really experience too bad side effects from elvanse, there is some loss of appetite, dry mouth and I always have to poop after taking my meds with my breakfast, but in the grand scheme of things, nothing major. Knowing this, what if different meds could cause bad side effects. Especially as I’m in my final year of uni, it feels like an extra burden to deal with in case things go wrong, but I know equally things might go right, or be better. Also, I was prescribed elvanse because there’s a history of heart problems in my family, so its safer for me to be on extended release medication rather than ones like Ritalin from my understanding.
I also feel like I’m being quite a bother lol, to ask to change it, and my prescribing nurse seems to just want it over and done with (I know there’s such a long waiting list for titration) but I also don’t want to regret it later when its probably easier to change now, and I’m not sure quite how to explain my concerns properly.
So in summary, how exactly do I know if my meds are working, and am I just overthinking this way too much.
Also, if you need any more info to gauge this, let me know! This is my first post so I have no clue how its supposed to work. | 2021-11-23T13:09:28.000Z | r0cvrz | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Is my medication effective? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0cvrz/is_my_medication_effective/ |
idkrandomname123 | So i wasn‘t really sure where to ask this but i hope this is the right place
I‘m 20 and got diagnosed with adhd about 3 months ago. I’m learning more and more about the symptoms and how they affected my life. One thing that has always been extra difficult for me was remembering important dates - birthdays of my friends included. So a couple of days ago a friend of mine had her birthday and i completely forgot to text or call her to congratulate her which made her (understandably) quite sad and disappointed.
The next day I apologized and told her that im really sorry and that it’s not about her but about me being super forgetful. I didn’t want to use this as an excuse but i wanted her to know that it wasn’t because she’s not important to me. (It probably wouldn’t have been that bad but she also missed out on something quite big bcs i forgot to tell her about it a couple months ago)
We celebrated a couple of days later in a small group of friends and one of them told me that shes still quite mad that i [always] use my forgetfulness as an excuse. That really made me quite sad and angry but i didnt say anything.
I‘m really not sure what to think because I don’t want to just tell her it’s my adhd and that’s the excuse for everything but on the other hand it really is one of the most intense symptoms for me | 2021-11-23T13:06:17.000Z | r0ctl6 | 22 | 7 | ADHD | is adhd actually a good reason to forget birthdays or am i an asshole for using it as an „excuse“? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0ctl6/is_adhd_actually_a_good_reason_to_forget/ |
Obsessed_With_Corgis | I always knew my stories were ridiculously excessive, but I could never pinpoint why until recently. It’s because I feel compelled to add in **EVERY SINGLE DETAIL** as if my life depended on it or something! I thought knowing was half the battle; but realizing this has only made things more frustrating because I can’t seem to stop myself! Here’s a recent example.
What the story could have been simplified to:
> “At my cousin’s wedding last week; some massive sparklers/flairs went off randomly— before they should have— *right* next to Kristi and I. It scared the bejeezus out of us, and almost caught Kristi’s hair on fire!”
One of the life-or-death type details I felt was *imperative* to add while telling the story:
> “Oh! And I was wearing those purple shoes which you **know** have *zero* traction, so I kept slipping around on the plastic. *Who puts plastic on the floor for a wedding?!* Anyways; so I couldn’t stop slipping, and that’s why Kristi came over to stand with me. You know— to make sure I didn’t fall flat on my face! Haha!”
It’s so embarrassing to look back on. The “necessary” details took up 9/10ths of the story. It makes it so hard to engage with people when I do this (without boring them to death). I really don’t know how to stop the word-vomit, and would really appreciate some advice. Thank you in advance! | 2021-11-23T13:04:59.000Z | r0csok | 127 | 953 | ADHD | Why does every insignificant detail feel SO ESSENTIAL to mention when I’m telling a story? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0csok/why_does_every_insignificant_detail_feel_so/ |
kattycaake | [removed] | 2021-11-23T12:49:17.000Z | r0chrf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | i found a good way to describe ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0chrf/i_found_a_good_way_to_describe_adhd/ |
PopularConsequence52 | So today is my first session of therapy after being diagnosed with adhd.
It's stressing me out, I don't really know how it's going to go ... I don't even know what I'm going to talk about so I was wondering if some of you could share how your first day of therapy was? Were you stressed too? Did you come out feeling good after the appointment or not? Did you start talking yourself or did your therapist ask questions first?
Last time I saw my pyschiatrist after diagnosis I was feeling really down so I'm scared I will be in a bad mood tonight 😔 | 2021-11-23T12:46:57.000Z | r0cg88 | 3 | 8 | ADHD | First session of therapy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0cg88/first_session_of_therapy/ |
coolbeans852 | [removed] | 2021-11-23T12:44:46.000Z | r0cevj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | vent - school is so hard | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0cevj/vent_school_is_so_hard/ |
Artist-nurse | Medications are not a magic bullet to fix attention problems or ADHD. They can help but they are not a cure all. I see many posts of people wanting meds without a diagnosis. It is important to go through the diagnosis process. There are many other conditions that can have similar symptoms as ADHD and need to be treated differently. During the process they may rule out auditory processing disorders, depression, bipolar, anxiety, ocd etc or they may find co-morbidities. This may change the way treatment goes. Often people also need to try multiple meds before finding one that works. Also if you are dealing with depression, the depression meds often take at least a month before you see any affect. I also encourage people to seek additional treatments like CBT. This can be extremely helpful and make your overall treatment more successful. I know all this can be expensive but treating the wrong thing can make symptoms worse, or have other affects on your health. The health professionals you are working with should know everything you are taking, including herbal supplements and vitamins, as these can affect absorption and affectiveness of meds. Please do not seek meds unless you have been diagnosed and are working with a health professional. | 2021-11-23T12:31:04.000Z | r0c67h | 4 | 6 | ADHD | Unsolicited advice on meds | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0c67h/unsolicited_advice_on_meds/ |
MercifulDefier | So, I know this will sound gross, because it is, but I have dishes that I haven’t cleaned in like 2 weeks still here. I am doing better in my everyday life in terms of keeping up with things and just maintaining some sort of structure, but both eating and doing the dishes continue to be my biggest issue.
Because they’ve been there for a quite a while, they have food stuck to them and therefore become an even bigger pain to wash.
Any advice would be great. Treat me like an alien that has never heard of dishes, because quite frankly I know nothing.
Also, if anyone has any tips not specific to just the actual cleaning part, but how you get into the routine of doing it, etc, that would be great too!! Thanks!! | 2021-11-23T12:29:35.000Z | r0c5ay | 423 | 453 | ADHD | Fellow ADHDers, help! I need to clean my dishes that are piling up, has anyone got any words of advice? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0c5ay/fellow_adhders_help_i_need_to_clean_my_dishes/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T12:25:05.000Z | r0c2kw | 12 | 4 | ADHD | feeling like an alien | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0c2kw/feeling_like_an_alien/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-23T12:23:58.000Z | r0c1wk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | First adderall experience | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0c1wk/first_adderall_experience/ |
FriendlyAd3243 | I (M26) was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 4 but I haven't been on medication for 15 years but even then it was irregular. I now feel that in my adult life it is affecting my work and my relationship to the point where I feel like I am sabotaging them. How would I go about seeking help/medication for this as an adult in the UK? As a child I had to get a sign off from my paediatrician, what would I need to do now? | 2021-11-23T12:17:26.000Z | r0by2o | 6 | 5 | ADHD | Adult ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0by2o/adult_adhd/ |
Same_Fly_7241 | [removed] | 2021-11-23T12:11:09.000Z | r0buh0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Boofing adhd medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0buh0/boofing_adhd_medication/ |
InfamousBass | Hi, all.
I've been steadily plodding away to find a new job and have had likely 100s of interviews with recruiters. Many times I don't hear back, which doesn't really bother me because I've got other shit to focus on. Kinda sucks, but whatever.
I've recently got back several responses from interviews saying that they're "going in a different direction", which felt like sucker punches when I read the emails.
I hate this about myself. Even when they give feedback, I know it's supposed to be considered constructive, but all I can think is, "Who gives a flying f+CK about that? I failed. You all didn't want me. That's that. I don't care about your 'feedback'." After the last one last night, I was actually crying about how one said, "oh they thought you were a hard worker, but your knowledge of strategy didn't come through." (Side note: I'm sure you all can empathize with your knowledge not showing up when you need it to.)
Other side note. Hard worker? F+CK all of that. To me that means, oh you got spirit, but we can't think of anything about your knowledge base that indicates you're not f+cking stupid.
The worst part? I have gotten an offer, but I don't feel good about it. I know the job window is closing as positions get filled, and all I can think is that this is my only shot to get out of the shit pot that is my current job. They need my response in 2 hrs. I keep thinking I might as well take this other job because I won't amount to anything else in my life, at least according to these recruiters who keep rejecting me.
But that's neither here nor there. My brain hyperfocuses on all that rejection instead.
How can I help to curb that RSD? How can I lessen it? My therapist wants me back on Lexapro, but I don't want the weird dreams, night sweats, or the other side effects. Also, I think I should be able to take the world without acting like a child when shit happens. | 2021-11-23T12:06:52.000Z | r0bs2z | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Combat the RSD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0bs2z/combat_the_rsd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T11:58:03.000Z | r0bmrf | 3 | 1 | ADHD | How does exercise help? It seems to make my symptoms even worse and I don't know what else to do | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0bmrf/how_does_exercise_help_it_seems_to_make_my/ |
sanpedro12 | Hi there,
after years and years of search for a medication that helps my symptoms, I finally have the feeling that Vyvanse is a good choice. ADHD symptoms, depression and social anxiety are relieved a good portion. The thing with always every medication is that tolerance might build up and the positive effects dimish/decrease. Has anyone experience with longterm use of Vyvanse/Stimulants? How do you manage to keep tolerance at bay? Every advise is welcomed | 2021-11-23T11:57:58.000Z | r0bmq1 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Vyvanse Really Seems To Help Me - But How Do You Avoid Tolerance Development? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0bmq1/vyvanse_really_seems_to_help_me_but_how_do_you/ |
Turbulent-Look-966 | Im at my wits end.
Saw a psychiatrist about 8months ago and was diagnosed with Adult ADHD (25yo male)
I knew i had it all along. My pscy put me on 10mg Ritalin 3x a day, and for the first couple months it worked, well. Nothing amazing, but a noticeable difference.
8months in, now the Ritalin does nothing but put an anxious pit in my stomach. I have business paper work to do, i have assignments that need to be done. All this time sensitive stuff that is very important for my career, and none of it ever gets done in time. I know have to come back to class again next year because i didnt hand it 14 assignments, despite being top of every class im in judged by my inclass exams.
I dont know what to do any more. Nothing is working. I work out, i eat good, i take vitamins, have a good blood test result. Please i need some help. | 2021-11-23T11:49:39.000Z | r0bibv | 4 | 2 | ADHD | How to focus (lol) | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0bibv/how_to_focus_lol/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-23T11:44:15.000Z | r0bfm1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | When did you realize that you have Adhd? Did medication made your life better ? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0bfm1/when_did_you_realize_that_you_have_adhd_did/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T11:39:10.000Z | r0bczo | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Waiting to get diagnosed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0bczo/waiting_to_get_diagnosed/ |
severed_pies | [removed] | 2021-11-23T11:37:35.000Z | r0bc88 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Faking sick question | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0bc88/faking_sick_question/ |
LiaNeyaTheFirst | I have this metaphor for how it feels to me and wanted to know if others relate or have similar ones.
**TLDR: Small ghost child in my head asking "whats that!" "Why ..", and "Can we..." 24/7 unless i do things she likes.**
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So the longer explanation is that it feels like i have this ghost child living in my head. I call her a ghost child cause she can't touch things or do things, but i can and she an feel, hear experience through me. And as i'm trying to write an email in my head while walking to work, for example, she would point to a bush and yell:
*Her: "OOOOH! look look a bush. look at those cool leaves aren't they awesome!" And i would be like*
*Me: "Yes, but i'm busy just give me a second"*
*Her: "But its a bush! With leaves. Look look!"*
*Me: Trying to cut it out and think. i'll have to mention this and that in the email...*
*her: "You are not looking!!" Figuratively pulling my face over. "Look and the leaves. Just look and i'll stop, just look once"*
*Me: Gives up and looks once. "its a bush. with pretty leaves. Yes i see it.*
*Her: Having forgotten her promise. "yes and look at these leaves they are different than the others. Isn't it awesome. Why are they different? Why? huh do you know why why why why....."*
*Me: Sigh fine. Looks at bush for a longer time. "There is another symbiotic plant growing on the bush the different leaves are from the other bush. mmm that's quite interesting. I wonder if they work together or if its a parasitic instea-"*
*Her: "Oh that's all. huh." ... ... "Look a person just drove past. He had a hat on. did you see? did you see? He was here just now. You didn't look! Why didn't you look you missed it. It was great. If only you looked. "*
And then run this on repeat through the day. By night time i am exhausted and i wish i give her to a day care for a day just to have some peace. She never grows up and she never grows tired. That's all me. She is always interested in new things. and the only way around is to make things interesting to her.
Stories (books) is my one escape. When i read she is silent, or when i talk to people and its interesting like living a story. The rest of the time its constant barrage of childlike curiosity and fleeting interest in my inner ear. (no actual voices btw just figurative sub conscience)
In a quiet room with no distractions. she will complain non stop that she is bored and wants to go do something or i should entertain her with made up stories. (Used to do that when i was young and bored in school or functions.)
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So anyone else :D | 2021-11-23T11:35:08.000Z | r0baxu | 1 | 3 | ADHD | My personal metaphor for how it feels for me - anyone relate or suggestions :D | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0baxu/my_personal_metaphor_for_how_it_feels_for_me/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T11:25:08.000Z | r0b5nz | 5 | 3 | ADHD | I’m on ER Concerta but I don’t want to give up drinking at every single social event | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0b5nz/im_on_er_concerta_but_i_dont_want_to_give_up/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-23T11:23:00.000Z | r0b4jk | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Productivity system- This is how my brain wants to plan, help me figure out a system | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0b4jk/productivity_system_this_is_how_my_brain_wants_to/ |
InSummaryOfWhatIAm | Honestly.
I'm not even talking about focus here, because I can focus decently if i'm on my meds as usual.
It's just that I don't REMEMBER **ANYTHING** that just messes with my head completely.
I can't retell what a movie plot was, I don't remember what the characters are called very often.
I love music more than anything but I can't even remember song titles and lyrics of some of my favorite bands.
If I read anything about something important and I find something interesting to note, I will never be able to just bring it up later because I can't remember the facts, only possibly the general gist of it. Makes me terrible at argumentation because I can't remember any facts to support my stances etc.
I work within marketing and I can't remember some of the words and abbreviations stand for, I keep forgetting a bunch of marketing-related words that I 100% know but they just don't come to me during regular conversations but it makes me sound like I know nothing.
I honestly don't even remember that much from my childhood or teenage years except small fragments, that was way before I was diagnosed though (diagnosed at 28).
My verbal fluency is horrible because it feels like nothing is really top-of-mind and easy to access, and it's something that meds don't seem to help me with in the slightest. It's not just facts and information but words too. I would say my passive vocabulary is probably better than most but my active vocabulary is beyond horrible, both in English and my native tongue.
I never have good stories or fun jokes to retell because I just can't remember any well enough to retell them properly.
It just feels like I'm never going to firmly planted with both feet and my brain entirely in this world.
Just needed to get that off my chest today. | 2021-11-23T11:22:13.000Z | r0b44u | 3 | 5 | ADHD | Tired of feeling like i'm just half-here all the time | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0b44u/tired_of_feeling_like_im_just_halfhere_all_the/ |
thelittlelynx11 | Hi, I'm 20 years old and recently started my road to a diagnosis so basically I'm undiagnosed for now. I have talked to a medical professional and now it's just a waiting game.
Anyways, the point is. Has anyone else noticed caffeine does a lot to our mental health? Like I'm okay one moment but then when the crash hits I'm unable to function. I become depressed, my trauma responses kick in, I feel like a skittish unsure child again. Can anyone else relate to this???
Also, I've come to find out that we get traumatized pretty easily. Hence. Why I don't eat ketchup around Halloween anymore. But yeah, thanks for taking the time to read I'll update with my own story on why I'm asking this soon. It's too recent right now (exactly 15-20 mins ago). I'm sitting in the car rn in a mental paralysis. I'm surprised I was able to even give enough energy to type this. | 2021-11-23T11:21:48.000Z | r0b3wu | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Trauma, Caffeine, & ADHD? Chaos. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0b3wu/trauma_caffeine_adhd_chaos/ |
weirdopotatogirl | I was recently re-diagnosed with ADHD (was originally diagnosed at 11 but they thought I had grown out of it so stopped treatment). I have not started medication yet and am not sure when that will happen. I have exams in the next week and the week after that and don't know if I can do them since I think I am burned out. Idk what to do. I have fallen more and more behind this semester and in the last few weeks my concentration, memory and motivation have gotten much worse (it was already crap) so I can barely do anything and can't really study and am exhausted and in a brain fog constantly. I have contacted my student councellor but she hasn't responded yet. I don't wanna have to redo the classes. I am just so tired and frustrated and it scares me that idk when I will be functional and the consequences that might lead to. | 2021-11-23T11:19:21.000Z | r0b2ja | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Burnout in college | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r0b2ja/burnout_in_college/ |
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