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lyssabee | Hi there,
I’m newly diagnosed (just this week) and have not started medication or treatment yet. I’ve noticed that one of my symptoms is that I get VERY INTO an exercise plan (either my own or a prescribed, like… random Peloton classes versus a Peloton program of classes) and fall off the wagon quite quickly, beat myself up about it, and then try it again. Do you do this, too? And do you find it better to have a prescribed plan (e.g. an app that tracks a 4x a week goal) or just do it nearly every day, picking what you do based on your mood? I’ve heard that exercise is wonderful for ADHD, so I’m trying to be more consistent to help manage my symptoms. Thanks for any advice! | 2021-11-20T23:01:42.000Z | qyh44b | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Exercise with a plan or without? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyh44b/exercise_with_a_plan_or_without/ |
IASturgeon42 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T23:01:22.000Z | qyh3vr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you cope daydreaming? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyh3vr/how_do_you_cope_daydreaming/ |
[deleted] | It's alright if others don't relate. I just feel if there's anywhere to share, here's my best bet.
I don't know how to convey what I mean without potentially upsetting others, but I essentially feel that with my ADHD, I've a low quality of life. It just feels that even those with ADHD, know how to handle this better by tenfold.
I was diagnosed as of April, but suspected I'd had ADHD (as well as potential autism) a year or so prior. I tried stimulants. They didn't agree with me, as is the case with some. The side effects countered any progress being made. I'll be undergoing a review soon to try Strattera, but until then, I'm stuck with this melancholic malaise that I'll essentially amount to nothing. I know that I don't have to, but I want to.
As conceited as it may sound, I've spent the entirety of my life being ignored, seen as eccentric, or whatever. I want to be liked and to be valued, even if this doesn't abide by the, "love yourself," notion. But I'll never have that validation because there's nothing good about me. I don't feel intelligent. I certainly know I'm not beautiful and, frankly, there isn't a talent I possess that I can be consistent enough with to master.
It's exhausting. Whatever education I enrol in, I'll drop out of. Whatever job I get, I'll inevitably want to change. Whatever relationships I form, I'll always question and, when it's bad, cut off. I just hate myself as a person. In fact, I don't think I can hate anyone as much as myself. I'm in therapy right now, and I'm trying; I really am. Maybe some people are simply born to be losers?
I'm 21. I spend my days listening to music in my room, and doing nothing else (aside work, that is). Whatever goals I have, immediately dissipate when I realise I'll never be able to achieve them. My peers are all living their lives and I'm here, stagnant, with a diet that consists mostly of energy drinks.
I just don't know whether this is a battle worth fighting for any more. Every time I think I've hit rock bottom, it gives way. | 2021-11-20T23:00:51.000Z | qyh3gf | 7 | 12 | ADHD | Feels like I have a low quality of life w/ ADHD | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyh3gf/feels_like_i_have_a_low_quality_of_life_w_adhd/ |
sinsisinek | [removed] | 2021-11-20T22:59:35.000Z | qyh2cu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | gutairs boxer tattoed long haired haller and one with one of the special bachelor degree, feelin dark and lonely. Ego, narcisism? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyh2cu/gutairs_boxer_tattoed_long_haired_haller_and_one/ |
probablymothman | I recently started my dream job working at an amazing plant shop that specializes in rare and unique species. It's the most I've ever loved a job and I'm excited to get up in the morning which is something I've never felt about work before. It's a small staff and while Im reminding myself I'm still new I feel like I've been having difficulty connecting with my coworkers past general politeness.
I just recently (a month ago at the age of 28) was diagnosed with ADHD with especially high hyperactivity and anxiety. I've begun taking medication and it's greatly improved my life to the point where I have no idea how I even functioned before.
Despite this I've been pulled aside twice now and been gently corrected for trying to do too much or trying to help too many people. I understand the problem but I'm uncertain of how to fix it. When we are busy and have lots of guests it can be hard to manage everything. I do need to be better about asking for help but does anyone have any tips on how to focus on a customer, help them quickly, and move onto the next without getting lost in the middle?
I'm terrified of losing this job but when you're time-blind and excited about sharing your favorite thing with people what can you do? All the advice and accomodations I've seen are for office work or aren't practical at all in a fast paced specialty retail setting. I'd appreciate any insight y'all have. Thank you in advance. | 2021-11-20T22:57:26.000Z | qyh0w1 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Tips for managing distractibility at work? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyh0w1/tips_for_managing_distractibility_at_work/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T22:57:03.000Z | qyh0mo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I finally understand what people meant by “head goes quiet” | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyh0mo/i_finally_understand_what_people_meant_by_head/ |
becajd | We’ve been together almost 11 years and recently with the pandemic his mental health has declined and he started anti depressants. He also has adhd and waiting to get on medication for that as well. Our sex life was quite consistent back in the day but slowly decreased over the last 3 years. Now that he’s on medication it almost non existent. We maybe have sex once a month maybe twice and that’s if the stars align
I myself have a very high sex drive and have my own issues of connecting my self worth to us being intimate (I know I need to work on it)
It’s really getting to me and my self esteem and my confidence, part of me is proud that he’s working on himself but also it’s making our relationship have a lot more tension where in the last decade we’ve been together it’s been relatively easy
My main question is, am I alone in this? Is anyone else is in a similar situation and if so how are you coping? | 2021-11-20T22:53:17.000Z | qygy04 | 11 | 4 | ADHD | My partner has adhd and a low sex drive | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygy04/my_partner_has_adhd_and_a_low_sex_drive/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T22:50:08.000Z | qygvnr | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Memory / Distraction creating issues | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygvnr/memory_distraction_creating_issues/ |
heatheon | I get so burnt out and depressed after about a year at the same job, do something stupid, and then get fired over it. I really want to build a career but I have no clue what to do. It’s so hard living paycheck to paycheck, putting up with shit managers and shit customers for shit pay. I want to go back to school but I just can’t justify getting thousands of dollars in debt to eventually be stuck doing something I hate. Any advice? | 2021-11-20T22:46:28.000Z | qygt3h | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Can’t stick to a job for more than 1.5 years… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygt3h/cant_stick_to_a_job_for_more_than_15_years/ |
LittleBummerBoy | Hi all,
Does anyone else find that they struggle in particular with switching from one task to another? If I’m already started doing something moderately engaging, I feel like I can do it almost endlessly with pretty good focus (little distractions and drifting off notwithstanding). But when it comes time to step away and do something else, my chances of going completely off the rails increases greatly. For example, nearly every time I have to step away from my work to cook/eat, I will find that hours have passed since I’ve finished eating and I’ve just gotten lost in some other activity instead of returning to work. I’d say that I’m eating the wrong stuff but the same goes for laundry, working out, etc. Any new and novel task. I’m like a train which, when it tries to change tracks, just completely derails. Can anyone relate/offer any advice? | 2021-11-20T22:41:47.000Z | qygpsf | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Advice for “changing gears” without getting totally distracted? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygpsf/advice_for_changing_gears_without_getting_totally/ |
ffivefootnothingg | I have a 13 year old cousin - he has ADHD and he is quite literally a GENIUS. I don’t just throw that word around either - this kid is infinitely more intelligent than I am, at 22. He teaches me things i’d never have known/learned otherwise. And apparently, being around us (when we’re together) is stressful and isolating for the rest of our family - because we talk to each other SO fast (**RAPID-FIRE**) and others (like my twin sister) claim that it’s virtually impossible to follow/participate in our light-speed verbal exchanges? When we converse, it’s like speaking to an alternate version of myself - same mind, but different perspectives/interests. It was the same with an ex-friend who had ADHD (and bipolar, like me) - our other friends would get annoyed when we’d rapid-fire talk to each other because i guess they felt left out? Can anyone relate to this? I thoroughly enjoy talking rapid-fire with others with ADHD as it’s my preferred conversational speed, and honestly - it gets annoying and isolating for me when I have no human outlet to hyper-speed converse with! I can’t help that my brain works this way - so how can I mitigate the annoyance-factor of this behavior to those without ADHD? (I ONLY do this with others with ADHD - if I even try with neuro-typicals it’s pointless and a direct conversation killer, obviously!) | 2021-11-20T22:40:00.000Z | qygohq | 7 | 6 | ADHD | How to manage not being obnoxious/rapid-fire to the degree that neuro-typicals feel left out? I get this way when conversing with others with ADHD - and supposedly it annoys my neuro-typical loved ones? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygohq/how_to_manage_not_being_obnoxiousrapidfire_to_the/ |
fairydommother | **Update: So basically I decided to just lay my locks out on the coffee table and start picking while we watched TV. He asked “what’s with all the locks??” And then I picked one and was like “I can pick locks! {click} see?” And then he laughed and asked if it was because of the movie we watched last week (yes. Yes it was.) and said it was at least useful. So there we go. I was worried for nothing :3**
I have a new hobby, and I’m afraid to tell my husband. We’ve sunk quite a bit of money into my hobbies over the years, some he was supportive of and others not so much.
He’s been very supportive of my creative hobbies like crochet, needle felt, and art.
He has been less supportive of my collection hobbies like virtual pets. This new hobby would fall under this category: locksport
I used my own money and bought a few locks and pick set and I’m doing well! But he was working (long shifts) and I didn’t see him for a few days while I was learning.
Now I have a small collection of locks and a new hobby and I’m just. Afraid.
I don’t know how long it will last and I don’t want hear about it again when I eventually drop it. Makes me not want to pick up hobbies at all sometimes… | 2021-11-20T22:35:45.000Z | qyglea | 387 | 1,523 | ADHD | Afraid to reveal my new hobby to my husband. | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyglea/afraid_to_reveal_my_new_hobby_to_my_husband/ |
svngsub | [removed] | 2021-11-20T22:35:38.000Z | qyglbg | 0 | 1 | ADHD | whats the stupidest little thing you've gotten extremely angry over because of your adhd that a neurotypical wouldnt ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyglbg/whats_the_stupidest_little_thing_youve_gotten/ |
LTanon99 | My brother (19) has ADHD while I (21) have ADD.
I don’t think his voice is any darker than an ordinary guy. He does however speak very loudly without noticing himself. Like me, he can go into details and really drag a story out.
This isn’t as bad when I’m on meds, but I’m still in the trial and error stage.
His voice sometimes feels like someone is physically hurting me and he just keeps speaking. I plug my fingers into my ears, I squeeze my eyes together and I eventually leave the room feeling very angry.
I always try a gentle “hey, can you lower your voice a little?” Which usually gets me a no, and no one believes I have ADD, so I get no sympathy.
I don’t do any of it to be rude. I just don’t know what else to do when voicing my feelings / experience just gets a “there needs to be space for everyone.” I agree, but somehow there isn’t space me.
What can I do to not react that way? I’m pretty sensitive to loud noises in general | 2021-11-20T22:34:53.000Z | qygkrz | 6 | 2 | ADHD | I have a very hard time handling my brother’s voice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygkrz/i_have_a_very_hard_time_handling_my_brothers_voice/ |
acatcalledmellow | I'm living paycheck to paycheck and 10k in debt.
If I knew how to handle and track money I think I could be ok. But I don't.
I haven't been able to pay my half of the rent in over a year. My boyfriend pays 90% of the bills. I feel like at this point he enables me (not his fault) but he's having to cover my ass bc I spend my money the second I get paid.
Help me please. Money is so stressful to me and its unfair of me to rely on my bf to pay most of our bills. | 2021-11-20T22:31:53.000Z | qygim4 | 14 | 8 | ADHD | Please, help me get better at managing my money. Please. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygim4/please_help_me_get_better_at_managing_my_money/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-20T22:31:46.000Z | qygijf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have ADHD friends/family that you can converse with at HYPER-SPEED? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygijf/does_anyone_have_adhd_friendsfamily_that_you_can/ |
[deleted] | Does anyone notice that their medication (assuming it is a stimulant) makes them more prone to please other people and be polite? For example, consider two situations:
1. Before medication: If a room is messy, you don't care and just assume that another person will clean it.
2. After Medication: if a room is messy, you immediately start to clean it until it is to your satisfaction.
While the second scenario might be beneficial/advantageous in some cases, it may make people walk over you more. I have noticed this. Has anyone noticed this as a result of taking stimulant medication? | 2021-11-20T22:26:05.000Z | qygei4 | 2 | 0 | ADHD | People Pleasing and Medication | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygei4/people_pleasing_and_medication/ |
Nerscylliac | So when I listen to certain music, particularly music that I really like or has lyrics that resonates with me, I get all choked up when listening to it. It causes this super overwhelming feeling where my tear ducts get all back up like I'm about to burst into tears and my throat gets backed up like I'm about to throw up. It lasts for a couple seconds until I can control it, but it's entirely invulantary feeling.
Is this something anyone else feels? Is it related to adhd or is it something else? | 2021-11-20T22:25:52.000Z | qygech | 7 | 9 | ADHD | Choking up when listening to certain music? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygech/choking_up_when_listening_to_certain_music/ |
TheSandwichMeat | Like... Do I really need to do laundry, take all my clothes out of my hamper, fold them, put them away in the shitty plastic dresser in my closet that doesn't open up all the way, just to pull them out and unfold them to wear them?
I just got another hamper for my clean clothes at this point. My clean laundry can sit and then I can put it on, there's no point to folding all that shit.
There's a lot more than just folding laundry that feels so unnatural and unnecessary but I need to get off the toilet and stop ranting.
PS: wasn't sure which flair to use lmao. | 2021-11-20T22:22:23.000Z | qygbvx | 18 | 52 | ADHD | There's so much nonsense to life. | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygbvx/theres_so_much_nonsense_to_life/ |
grimgoods | Someone told me today that the LED light in one of their gaming mice irritates them with the frequency it emits and I've never been more understood by a person in my whole life.
It's too easy to feel like you're all alone when you can't get anyone to understand. It was really nice to come across someone with whom for a few minutes I could have some common ground and not feel so weird and by myself. | 2021-11-20T22:21:31.000Z | qygbb8 | 2 | 5 | ADHD | We're not alone | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygbb8/were_not_alone/ |
unsaintedheretic | So I was recently diagnosed with ADHD, before that I was on Topamax for a few years because I was diagnosed with bipolar 2 back then and most of my symptoms were so so much better.
They weren't gone but they were much more subtle all in all.
In the end I had to quit because of other side effects and ever since then all my symptoms are back at full force.
Now... I tried finding information about the relation between Topiramate and ADHD symptoms but the only thing I found is that... it actually causes ADHD symptoms in people who don't have ADHD or makes them worse in those who are diagnosed with it? I didn't find many sources for that either though.
So now I am trying to find any first hand experiences or actual studies (couldn't come up with any), I just want it to make sense that it actually helped me instead of making my symptoms worse. I am still not a 100 % sure about my diagnosis because I was misdiagnosed a few times before and I want to spare myself from having gotten a wrong diagnosis again.
My neurologist knows that I took it and how I reacted to it but I forgot to ask about the correlation, my next appointment is only in a few weeks and I'm not sure he's experienced with it, so I'd love to get some more insights before that.
So if anyone has any information whatsoever, I'd highly appreciate it! | 2021-11-20T22:21:13.000Z | qygb3b | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Can Topamax help AD(H)D? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygb3b/can_topamax_help_adhd/ |
Kariered | My coworker doesn't medicate his kid on weekends or the summer, basically when he's not at school. He is nine years old.
They signed him up for soccer which cost several hundred dollars (uniform, equipment, etc).
His wife calls my coworker at work and is super upset because she went to his first soccer game and all he did was stand around the entire time.
I asked my coworker if his son was medicated today (it's Saturday) and it turns out he was never medicated at any practices.
I said "well gee, now we all know why he was just standing around".
This is based on my own personal experience as a kid playing sports. I didn't know I had ADHD until I was 26. I was terrible at team sports. It was confusing and hard to keep track of.
TLDR; medicate your ADHD child for extra curricular activities so they can learn and participate. | 2021-11-20T22:20:47.000Z | qygar4 | 294 | 1,105 | ADHD | Please medicate your kid on weekends, etc | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygar4/please_medicate_your_kid_on_weekends_etc/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T22:20:30.000Z | qygajg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Moral support | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qygajg/moral_support/ |
GOP_ | I (26M) was just diagnosed this week and was prescribed Adderall XR 20mg. I took it yesterday and felt almost overwhelmed. I had too much energy that I didn't know what to do with. I cleaned my car and bedroom for the first time in months, as well as had laser-focus when playing games.
Now just one day later, I feel like I barely feel a thing. I've already been back at my old habits and feel like I still very much have ADHD. I also didn't sleep too well last night either.
I know tolerance builds up over time, but this seems like an absurdly short amount of time to build it up that much. I hope this is just a fluke of a day. | 2021-11-20T22:19:47.000Z | qyga0g | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Tolerance after one day? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyga0g/tolerance_after_one_day/ |
Congnarrr | TL;DR: My arm has been tingly, numb, and spasming/tremors. Been taking Vyvanse for 4 months and my arm issue came out of the blue. Anyone else have a dystonic reaction to Vyvanse? Also curious on alternative ways to manage the ADHD while I take a break from the medication.
A little over a week ago my arm got stuck in a bent position while driving. After a few hours of it being stuck, it started getting numb and tingly. I went to an orthopedic urgent care because of the numbness and tingly feeling. I have dislocated that shoulder last year and thought that it might of been related to that.
At the urgent care, they took X-rays and everything looked fine in the neck and shoulder. With the numbness and tingling they did some other assessments and thought that it could have been a stroke or a spinal cord injury. I got transported from the urgent care to the ER for an mri. Luckily, it was neither of those.
The ER said that it is probably something numerological and that I should go to a neurologist for further testing. They said it could be MS, Brachial Plexus Syndrome, or another few neurological diseases/injuries that I do not remember what they were.
Since then, I’ve been back to the ER once because the spasms/tremors was out of control and affecting me being able to do anything. When I was there the second time they looked more into Vyvanse and found that there is a -rare- case of people getting a dystonic reaction. They said stop taking the Vyvanse and talk to my primary care doctor to see his thoughts are and possibly another treatment for my ADHD.
My primary care doctor said that it is rare and even more so since I’ve been on Vyvanse for a good amount of time. He said stop taking the Vyvanse for 2 weeks to see if it goes away.
Been about 5 days since I have stopped staking the Vyvanse and my arm is still numb, tingling, and locking up. I don’t have full range of motion and I do not feel any sort of pain.
My two questions are:
Has anyone else gotten a dystonic reaction from Vyvanse? From what I’ve read, there is little to no proof that Vyvanse can cause this because of the lack of data the FDA has about it.
What are alternative ways to manage the ADHD in the meantime while I take a break from Vyvanse? I’m applying to grad school for applied mathematics and the last 5 days I have had a huge lack of motivation and have fallen into habits I had before I started treating my ADHD (depression, easily aggravated, wanting to masturbate a lot) and don’t want to let this affect me reaching the deadlines for my applications. | 2021-11-20T22:14:45.000Z | qyg6hn | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Dystonic reaction to Vyvanse??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyg6hn/dystonic_reaction_to_vyvanse/ |
Kisua | I have a newish degree in business and just got diagnosed. I have heard office jobs complained about on this sub, but what does it take to make one work?
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While I'd like to know thoughts on this in general, I also have no clue what jobs I should look for and would appreciate recommendations for ones that have done well for you guys, or tips on how to survive a business environment. My passions include making the world a better place, writing, meetings, and coming up with ideas. | 2021-11-20T22:10:06.000Z | qyg35p | 15 | 5 | ADHD | Adhd + business degree: what jobs work well for you? What should I know? | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyg35p/adhd_business_degree_what_jobs_work_well_for_you/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T22:09:09.000Z | qyg2i6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Assignements pressure | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyg2i6/assignements_pressure/ |
gingeralewhore_ | I (22F)have been on 20mg XR for a couple of months now. it’s been a mostly positive experience aside from occasion afternoon/evening crashes from the meds wearing off. a couple days ago my psychiatrist prescribed me a 5/10mg instant release for the afternoons if i feel like i’m gonna crash. but i have been crying like crazy since i started the extra dose. i will just start crying over nothing and cannot calm myself down, idk if it’s the dose or hormones or something else unrelated :// | 2021-11-20T22:08:50.000Z | qyg2ac | 2 | 1 | ADHD | i think my adderall might be making me cry excessively | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyg2ac/i_think_my_adderall_might_be_making_me_cry/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-20T22:07:27.000Z | qyg1av | 1 | 1 | ADHD | anybody else experience excessive crying from adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyg1av/anybody_else_experience_excessive_crying_from/ |
_Raspootin_ | [removed] | 2021-11-20T22:07:10.000Z | qyg13d | 4 | 7 | ADHD | Back on Adderal but it's no longer working, can anyone help? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyg13d/back_on_adderal_but_its_no_longer_working_can/ |
WineGuy120 | Good evening everyone,
I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and have been taking Vyvanse for a number of years now. Prior to taking medication I had no idea what was wrong with me. It is safe to say that the medication has changed my life and has allowed me to accomplish things I would have never thought possible.
Lately I have been stressing over how dependent I am on using medication. I have tried to wean off and take breaks at times but I always end up laying in bed scrolling through Tik Tok or reddit when I need to be taking care of my adult responsibilities. My social life also takes a dive, I become really random and weird in conversations and am transported to a time in high school when people didn't want to be around me because of how annoying I was.
Something about having to take a stimulant every day in order to function in society really dosen't sit well with me. I am worried about the long term effects and the fact that I will soon be kicked of my parents insurance and have to pay for it myself. This is kind of a rant but it don't have many people to talk to about this. I have seen the glasses analogy and the prosthetic leg analogy before but something about me won't let this though go. Does anyone else struggle with this? I really want to try therapy but the cost isn't really feasible for me.
What strategies do you use to help move past the stigma? | 2021-11-20T22:06:27.000Z | qyg0mh | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Bothered by how dependant I am on my medication? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyg0mh/bothered_by_how_dependant_i_am_on_my_medication/ |
_Raspootin_ | [removed] | 2021-11-20T22:05:15.000Z | qyfzre | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Finally back on Adderal after 3 months, but really worried. Has anyone had this happen? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyfzre/finally_back_on_adderal_after_3_months_but_really/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-20T22:03:04.000Z | qyfy49 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Assignements are better when i finish them last minute then when i work on them from time to time... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyfy49/assignements_are_better_when_i_finish_them_last/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T22:02:49.000Z | qyfxxq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Contemplating if I could have ADD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyfxxq/contemplating_if_i_could_have_add/ |
Odd_Ad5202 | How has your artistry changed while being on meds or not. I am curious to know since I have always had a tough time painting details or focusing even though I am really talented. My inability to finish them or make them detailed really affect my progress. So I’m really curious to know if you all saw changes in your skill, ability or overall artistry. | 2021-11-20T21:57:17.000Z | qyftsw | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Artists on meds or no meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyftsw/artists_on_meds_or_no_meds/ |
Odd_Ad5202 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T21:55:16.000Z | qyfscd | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Sensitive information on ADHD report | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyfscd/sensitive_information_on_adhd_report/ |
Odd_Ad5202 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T21:51:39.000Z | qyfpqg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Artists on meds vs not on meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyfpqg/artists_on_meds_vs_not_on_meds/ |
icklemiss_ | I had my ADHD Assessment this week and it was awful.
I was totally prepared, I had pages and pages of examples for each of the symptoms I’m experiencing and how it affects each area of my life, but the doctor hardly let me spoke and kept talking over me when I did.
The assessment was online and they were having some major system issues so by the time I actually got to talk to the doctor it was much later, I hadn’t drank my coffee and I was really flustered, so that really put me off my stride too.
The doctor started the time with a bit of a rant that lasted almost 15mins about how he needed to set my expectations about the process, that he has been getting a lot of referrals recently and in the last year NONE of the ADHD candidates that he has seen had actually had it.
Then he started asking me questions but they were weird questions, not the diagnostic ones. We only had about half an hour left when he started this and so we ran over a bit and he said he had to stop as he had given me more time than everyone else got.
Then he told me that I don’t have ADHD because:
1. I’ve never been in trouble with the police (I want to BE a police officer so that wouldn’t be ideal if I had)
2. I’ve worked for the same company for almost 15 years (although I’ve had lots of jobs within that company)
3. I never got in physical fights at school. (I’m female, I went to an all girls school and it was a private school and there was no fighting ever, by anyone. They had a waiting list to get in so you would be straight out in your ear if that happened)
He said if I had ADHD he would have expected me to be sacked from multiple jobs, have been in trouble with the police and to have regularly gotten into physical fights at school.
I’ve not been sacked from lots of jobs, although I have had a huge number of jobs that I have just walked out, sometimes even mid shift, because I either haven’t liked it, or something has annoyed me enough that I just decided I was outta there! But this isnt
even anything I would have mentioned, I have so many actually relevant examples!
This felt so wrong to me. In terms of having ADHD I’ve never been so sure if something in my entire life!! But he’s the expert.
Please give me some advice, I don’t know where to go from here. 😭😭😭 | 2021-11-20T21:49:16.000Z | qyfnzu | 21 | 3 | ADHD | Please Help - ADHD Assessment | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyfnzu/please_help_adhd_assessment/ |
olduglysweater | You ever believed something with all your heart, and it got dismissed? Last week was the second time I visited my psychiatrist and her along with her supervisor, some old white guy finally declared that I have *some symptoms* of adhd, but I don't have it at all (he said add) after I poured my heart out about my struggles.
I know strength of conviction isn't a reason to get a diagnosis, but it feels like instead of solid proof through testimony from friends and family members peppered with clinical jargon I just poured out emotion like a busted faucet. It always feels like at the 11th hour words fail me and then I end up ranting like a crazy woman because I finally have some one to tell it to, and it ends up invalidating anything that would've helped me be taken seriously.
I honestly feel like I am "crazy". A crazy, lazy loser who feels like a fake. That feels like relating to other people's accounts and experiences don't mean dick because I don't present it like stereotypes seen on TV, like in antiquated medical journals with information written around the time I was born or like how men present it which is the model they study.
Yet, here I am thinking is my partner upset at me because I had a meltdown at the grocery store because I couldn't function without a grocery list. Has another potential friend ditched me because I don't own a car or know how to drive? Why is my elderly mom nagging me yet again about keeping her home clean? Why am I at 40 not where I should be with a completed education, driver's license, car, job, my own home and a circle of friends? Instead of being an adult, I'm still where I was at 18?
How last night I was talking to my mom about how important it is that I have a means of security, because without the home she's provided me, I'd be homeless in the event she passed on. I can't stay with friends or family again because my issues poisoned them on the idea of me living with them ever again. How important a diagnosis is to me, that I can get a better understanding of myself and the focused help that I need to pull me out of the black hole of suck that's been my existence as long as I've been cognizant of it.
I just need someone professional to believe me and in me. I want to be functional and start living my life at last. | 2021-11-20T21:46:25.000Z | qyflya | 6 | 5 | ADHD | I wish I was taken more seriously | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyflya/i_wish_i_was_taken_more_seriously/ |
mysticfuko | Hi i'm a new add diagnosed patient. I Was screened 4 years ago by a psychiatric but she asked me to do some more studies... Well i postponed the studies a lot until yesterday aftre tired of this shit i went to another psychiatric who after some interviews he gave me ritalin 20mg la to take one when i wake up (7 or 8am) and one before 4pm (when i feel it goes off)
I will start with ritalin la 20mg tomorrow (or on monday or thrusday lol) but i need any tips from adulta, long term users. I have an exam this and the next week, how i can maximise this drug?
What to do and what not to do they day i'm taking the pills? Should i take it everyday or not use it in weekends?
I've tried this med on and off before, and 20mg usually won't make too much, just like a long lastig coffee, will it improve after some days? Is 40mg splited twice in a day too much or too low?
Thanks and any help will be appreciates
PS: the phd just told me to take twice a day, and not any more info, and that maybe i will have some nausea or anxiety (but he reallyy doubt because of my kind of symptoms) | 2021-11-20T21:36:32.000Z | qyfev9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | 27yo sarting ritalin 20mg la twice tomorrow, tips from long term users please | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyfev9/27yo_sarting_ritalin_20mg_la_twice_tomorrow_tips/ |
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MisunderstoodErebus | As per title, spouse gets annoyed when I won't watch tv with them.
I have zero interest in watching anything on the TV, regardless of genre. I've explained that I've no interest in watching soaps (which is a nightly occurrence) and instead would rather work on crafts in the dining room, which is around 6 feet away in a separate but conjoined room.
Often i'm left feeling guilty when I'd like to spend time on a hobby instead of watching TV as a result of words exchanged and end up spending time on my phone, bored out of my mind.
When asked if i want to watch a movie, my suggestions are too long and/or my spouse falls asleep soon into the film.
Granted, i understand the importance of spending time together for the relationship. So was wondering if anyone here would have any suggestions to help. | 2021-11-20T21:24:55.000Z | qyf6fx | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Spouse gets annoyed when I won't watch tv with them, whilst knowing that I have no interest in TV. | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyf6fx/spouse_gets_annoyed_when_i_wont_watch_tv_with/ |
redindian_92 | I live in a Uni dorm and if I lose my keys I need to pay a fine of 120$. I am a absolutely terrible at maintaining keys and wallets. The only thing I have not lost (but have broken several times) is my phone.
I have lost my keys 4 times already this semester. Each time I find it in some random corner of uni. Either it'll be in the library, or in class. Once it was just lying in the shower. Each time I was frustrated at my inability to keep track of things and just hated myself. It drove me up the wall and stressed me out beyond belief.
Yesterday when I lost my key I could not believe it. I got access to my floor, which means I had the key with me when I entered the floor, but it was nowhere to be found in my room. I turned my room upside down and threw a bunch of things around (things I had painstakingly kept in designated places when I arranged my room). My entire room was a mess and I was almost on the verge of tears.
I gave up and asked me friend to accompany me to the campus office to request a replacement key and card. I realized that I had left my keys in his room because I had gone there an hour ago to help proofread a presentation. The key was under his bed and I have no freaking clue how it jumped from my pocket and went under his bed. Maybe it escaped from my grasp because I am always hyperactive and 'jumpy'
I couldn't believe my luck, but I decided enough is enough and I bought a tracking device to make sure I don't lose my keys again.
The cost of it was much lesser than the fine I would have to pay and I guess the peace of mind is worth it.
Thank you for reading this and may you all have a blessed day. | 2021-11-20T21:21:00.000Z | qyf3me | 9 | 13 | ADHD | Yesterday I had a mental breakdown when I lost my keys for the 4th time this semester. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyf3me/yesterday_i_had_a_mental_breakdown_when_i_lost_my/ |
urmomsbroom | I have very severe adhd, i was diagnosed at 4 or 5 and i got on medication last year (finally). Im super hyper fixated on adhd right now, like I learned everything and anything about it. I randomly bring up facts about it or talk about things like dissociative function to my mom (she neglected the fact i have adhd and never treated me for it) and my sister. They pretty much just say ¨no¨ to everything i tell them. they think adhd is JUST fidgeting and being hyper when its soooo much more than that. Its taking a huge tole on every aspect of my life right now because i was never treated for it like therapy or anything.
My dad thought it was fake and they never told the school i had it so i struggled an insane amount my entire life. Im just now getting into a 504 in high school. I have failed almost every class besides science every year. It feels awful having my family just denounce an entire part of me and no one helping me ever. It really hurts. I love talking about adhd and every time i bring it up im shut down and they say " thats not adhd thats autism¨ or ¨ Adhd is where your just hyper and you fidget.¨. They are so unwilling to help and it sucks.
My teacher mentioned my adhd and genuinely tried to help me and i cried. no one has ever cared that much even if it wasn't a lot.
Dont even get me started on my emotional regulation... Its so fucking bad... seriously. I tried teaching my mom about it and explaining to her i really need to go to therapy because i cant live a normal life like this and she just said ¨"thats autism, dont make excuses.¨. They wont even go the extra step to get me a fidget toy or anything to stop me from picking skin and my eyebrow hair out. She mentions the fact my eyebrows are all messed up and how my arms and thighs are covered in cuts from me picking my skin and yet she does nothing.
I want to learn how to deal with it so badly, I cant do anything without getting distracted or zoning out. I can tell some of my friends think im exhausting to be around cause i tell them useless things and im so god damn hyper, its so embarrassing. I just want people to be more aware on what adhd actually is, its not just a middle school white boy getting in trouble its so much more. | 2021-11-20T21:20:56.000Z | qyf3kd | 5 | 4 | ADHD | why is everyone I know so uneducated on adhd? | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyf3kd/why_is_everyone_i_know_so_uneducated_on_adhd/ |
zaziaajazzy | [removed] | 2021-11-20T21:19:03.000Z | qyf27m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | my one goal the entire day was to clean my room | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyf27m/my_one_goal_the_entire_day_was_to_clean_my_room/ |
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SolidYogurtcloset255 | Has anyone here had a relationship ruined due to your ADHD ? Mine is permanently broken. We fight every day, for her, I am a lazy piece of shit that gets nothing done. Tbh I'm happiest when I'm not with her, I tend to internalize the fight instead of vocalizing my emotions and that means that I'm the one that always feels like shit whether I start the fight or not I always feel like I am the losing party. The only reason that I stick around is my 4yo daughter but I feel that she hates me as well. | 2021-11-20T21:15:10.000Z | qyezi4 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | relationship over....... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyezi4/relationship_over/ |
grimgoods | Somebody told me today that I could overcome ADHD because stroke victims find a way to speak again so I must be able to rearrange my brain to do it. I have to tell these people that stroke victims find a way to do it because they knew how to do it before, whereas people with ADHD never knew how to do it because their brains weren't built to do it from birth. It's not a matter of relearning, it's a matter of it being impossible.
I'm trying to inform the right people in my life about this thing that I'm dealing with but it's so hard to get people to understand. I really didn't anticipate it being this difficult for people to just get it, it really doubles down on the notion that most people view the world so much differently than I do.
The worst is when I know that the people aren't even trying to be malicious or mean, they just don't get it. I have to be so patient with them in those moments because they really want to help me they just aren't understanding that a motivational poster isn't a cure-all. | 2021-11-20T21:14:57.000Z | qyezbv | 8 | 44 | ADHD | Toxic positivity | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyezbv/toxic_positivity/ |
Comrade_Bacon | Recently got on probation for private reasons and I'm quite young but have ADHD and many other disorders. I self medicated with illicit substances for my age and now I can't use them. I'm on Wellbutrin and clonidine but Wellbutrin gives me flashbacks because I have PTSD. My dreams every night consist of rehab and drug using. My room is a mess and I have no motivation to go outside or do schoolwork. Any other med recommendations you guys have for me? Anything is appreciated | 2021-11-20T21:14:24.000Z | qyeyyg | 3 | 0 | ADHD | No motivation to do anything + probation | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyeyyg/no_motivation_to_do_anything_probation/ |
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Alt-F4-for-freeVbuck | [removed] | 2021-11-20T21:00:19.000Z | qyeovg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | This video represents my ADHD ridden mind very accurately | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyeovg/this_video_represents_my_adhd_ridden_mind_very/ |
Medium_Concert7740 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T21:00:09.000Z | qyeonp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | UNABLE TO GET REWARD FROM ANYTHING | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyeonp/unable_to_get_reward_from_anything/ |
calculusnyc | [removed] | 2021-11-20T20:54:34.000Z | qyekoz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just took my meds for the first time today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyekoz/just_took_my_meds_for_the_first_time_today/ |
REALArestless | I spent most of my life undiagnosed for ADHD, but it greatly affected my life. The main reason it went undiagnosed is the lack of acknowledgement in most representations of ADHD that it doesn't always mean they're bouncing off the walls for some people, coupled with the fact that the biggest example they had of ADHD (my brother) is on the complete opposite side of the spectrum. I genuinely believed just cause I could focus on video games for hours upon hours, that made it impossible. But, over the last two years (I think) I've become a lot more informed on it, and at some point after a few weeks of research I presented it to my parents and said it explained a lot and that I really needed help. At first they dismissed me, my mom did some research though and has been pretty supportive since. I've been on medication (though never stimulants. not our choice... doctor refused to put me on them and we're looking for a new one now) and it didn't do a whole lot for me other than affect my appetite a lot and, on a specific dose when we tried to increase, make me very depressed and irritable. My brother has tried stimulants when he was a lot younger though and supposedlyy my brother was so violent on stimulants that he tried to choke me in front of a grocery store.
They haven't seen much good of what medication can do, I guess. So despite me, as someone with ADHD, being able to very clearly see that my father has it, and that it seems to be ruining his life - when I tell him he really should get diagnosed and try to get help, he refuses. He says the side effects are not worth it, and that he's "fine." He seems to accept he does have it, and he's become more open minded with me and agrees that I should have it since I want it (not necessarily that I need it) but I cannot seem to convince him to see anybody about it. I understand that for some people the side effects genuinely aren't worth it, but he may not even have any negative side effects. Recently he's been going through a lot and I think plenty of it is to blame on his ADHD and the coupled anxiety he very clearly has. How in the world do I convince him to at LEAST give it a try? | 2021-11-20T20:53:22.000Z | qyejsu | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Trying to convince my dad to get HIM diagnosed/try ADHD medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyejsu/trying_to_convince_my_dad_to_get_him_diagnosedtry/ |
travelessence | Hey guys! So question for those of you that take vyvanse, or other ADHD meds for that matter. I used to take 50mg, 4 years ago and then slowly went down to 30mg because I was having palpitations and thought vyvanse was the cause when really it was just anxiety that I’d never really had before. It started right when the pandemic did. So after taking a year long hiatus from taking vyvanse (I had SEVERE health anxiety that stemmed from the pandemic and was terrified if I took vyvanse again that I’d have a heart attack) I finally took it last week, only 10mg, but my doc said I could take 2 10mg if I felt comfortable. I was feeling okay with 10mg, but wasn’t sure if I was seeing any benefits or simply a placebo effect. So I took 2 10mg today and my heart rate has been sitting in the mid 90s all day. So my question is, is this pretty normal? I’m not anxious about it (yay Zoloft!) but just curious if it affects others that way? Im sure I won’t notice it as much once I’m used to being on it again. | 2021-11-20T20:51:06.000Z | qyei79 | 20 | 6 | ADHD | Vyvanse Question | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyei79/vyvanse_question/ |
octobersveryown2019 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T20:50:11.000Z | qyehhx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does adderall make y’all feel boring? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyehhx/does_adderall_make_yall_feel_boring/ |
thomasturner99 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T20:47:52.000Z | qyefu2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Heres me wondering if I’m missing something… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyefu2/heres_me_wondering_if_im_missing_something/ |
QuirkyScribe | On this forum we have discussed a lot about how ADHD/ADD people tend to be chronic collectors and move from hobby to hobby. But I am curious—how many of you collect things that others would consider trash?
In my house, 4 out of 5 of us have diagnosed ADD—myself (mom, 46) and my three teenage daughters. At some point in the last 18 years, we have all had collections that would be considered trash. Here are a few:
DumDum candy wrappers
Caps from glass beer bottles
Empty toilet paper rolls
Scraps of interesting fabrics
Tabs from aluminum soda cans
Sea glass and pebbles
Beads from broken jewelry
Buttons
Pieces of cool broken pottery
I bring this up because my 13 year olds collection of Dum Dum wrappers was thrown out by our wonderful cleaning ladies. It is frustrating because they were neatly saved in an old metal lunch box. But I understand why they would just toss them. And I had asked them to clean my kids rooms because it they had gotten out of hand. My kids knew it was going to happen and were overall very happy to get the help. But when you collect “trash”, having it thrown out it is a risk you run! | 2021-11-20T20:46:57.000Z | qyef5e | 9 | 6 | ADHD | What collections of “trash” do you have? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyef5e/what_collections_of_trash_do_you_have/ |
Ok_Highway3311 | So basically, I’ve failed my first semester of college (due to many things such as not finding meds that work for me in time).
My parents and I are currently figuring out what I should do from this point forward, but tomorrow I am supposed to go hang out with my friend whom I’ve known since 1st grade. He is aware of my struggles (I don’t think he understands but is still supportive), however his parents who I am also very close with, are unaware of any of this.
How do I talk to them when they inevitably ask about school? I don’t want to lie especially since my friend would know I’m lying, but I also don’t want to overshare to them about how I’m not actually a lazy failure, I just have 5 different mental illnesses that have been absolutely kicking my ass lately.
I just don’t want them to think less of me. Any help or comments is appreciated as my anxiety about this is through the roof! | 2021-11-20T20:42:50.000Z | qyebzs | 7 | 11 | ADHD | How do you tell someone you’ve failed without sounding like a failure? | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyebzs/how_do_you_tell_someone_youve_failed_without/ |
AT1021 | Not sure if this type of post is allowed, please delete if not. I (29F) just got diagnosed with ADHD combined type, also have ASD - I would like to try medication to help with my complete lack of executive function, but my psychiatrist has mentioned that people with ASD and ADHD can experience more issues side effect wise with medication.
Is this true based on your experiences? Thanks in advance! | 2021-11-20T20:42:34.000Z | qyebsi | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Medication help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyebsi/medication_help/ |
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EffectiveFickle7451 | You guys know better then neurotypicals know that your mind never stops. I hear my voice in my head all the time it’s general conversation it’s sometimes songs but most of time it’s general conversation. Sometimes it’s so loud it’s overwhelming it never stops. I do like it because it’s like having a friend in your head talking to you all the time. On Wednesday I told my teacher and had a meltdown because the voice was so loud.
Does anyone have have this | 2021-11-20T20:35:32.000Z | qye6kr | 8 | 4 | ADHD | I feel like I am never a lone | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qye6kr/i_feel_like_i_am_never_a_lone/ |
throwaway20191120 | I have ADD but I don’t know anything about it cause I can’t afford a therapist so I’m trying here! Just got the diagnosis.
My brother, dad, grandma and I were playing a board game. Four categories, somewhat hands on game.
The amount of stress I had during this game. I was teamed up with my grandma who I, to be fair, don’t like very much.
I’m a good team player. It’s something my school was very focused on. I’m comfortable taking the lead, especially if I feel like my teammates aren’t up to the job.
That’s how I felt during this game. Everyone was speaking over each other and my voice drowned out. Everyone understood the cards in their own way. It’s timed. I got really frustrated with my grandma because she did the tasks wrong half the time. Not to mention we couldn’t agree on the rules, and I kept offering to read them out loud. There were FOUR rules. They all blabbered and I could tell we weren’t playing by the same rules. I was right. We had to start over 3 times.
After each round, others discussed the facts on the cards and began googling unprompted. This frustrated me too cause I didn’t care about the facts… I wanted to keep playing. Once they finally got back to the game, I wasn’t paying attention and forgot to listen. They wouldn’t allow me to read the cards out loud, which made it really hard for me to process the information.
I sat with some clay most of the time to keep my hands occupied.
It’s been an hour. I’ve left the room and tried to sit with my book. My head hurts. The music playing is driving me towards murder but I can’t turn it off. Their conversations I can hear fill up my whole brain so I can’t do anything. I wanna break down, cry and tell everyone to leave.
I like playing games. I’m competitive but not a sore loser. HOW can I keep this from happening again? It’s like a panic attack, but for ADD | 2021-11-20T20:35:23.000Z | qye6gs | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Is there a way to make board games less stressful for ADD/ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qye6gs/is_there_a_way_to_make_board_games_less_stressful/ |
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smsksksjsks | i’ve been on strattera for a month now (started on 40mg now on 60mg) and im most likely going to be switching medications at my psych appointment in two days due to side effects. i know each medication is different, but what did it feel like when you noticed it beginning to work?
this is my first time trying medication for adhd and i have no idea what to look for because i’ve never not felt the effects of adhd to the point where it’s hard for me to discern what’s being caused by adhd and what isn’t. i had the same problem taking antidepressants, i didn’t realize how much my depression was effecting me and it was really hard for me to realize what not being depressed felt like and voice that to my psych.
any answer helps a bunch. thanks! | 2021-11-20T20:33:40.000Z | qye54z | 4 | 2 | ADHD | what does it feel like when your meds work? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qye54z/what_does_it_feel_like_when_your_meds_work/ |
Positive-Coyote9140 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T20:32:53.000Z | qye4iq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qye4iq/adhd_medication/ |
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Inside_Double5561 | I had the whole journey for me. A list of long-term task, a project to improve, a collection of great movie and a room full of interesting book. I could have done some sport to, or at least yoga to reduce stress
Guess what i did? I play 6H on a video game and watch shit on youtube during 5 hours. Now my back hurt and i'm anxious.
Why the fuck am i like that? | 2021-11-20T20:29:02.000Z | qye1jq | 2 | 7 | ADHD | [RANT] Another day of doing nothing | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qye1jq/rant_another_day_of_doing_nothing/ |
RiverSmoak | Recently, I learned that "doom boxes" were an adhd thing. As in places where things are dumped when your not sure where else to put them.
So here's my question, does anyone else have a bin when cleaning that they drop stuff in that they're not sure of so it doesn't get mixed in with the "yet to be sorted", then go back to the bin and sort it out again?
As in continuously sorting out the "to sort bin", making a new smaller one, until it's gone. | 2021-11-20T20:19:02.000Z | qydud9 | 8 | 7 | ADHD | Sort Later bin? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydud9/sort_later_bin/ |
OneStrangeChild | Im at work right now and I just went through this really weird episode where my head went foggy and there was a couple moments when I was feeling like I was watching a First Person POV movie of myself rather than me being me.
This has happened a couple times and it kinda scares me. I never really learned what all having ADHD meant until recently and I’ve heard the word tossed around. Help? | 2021-11-20T20:16:54.000Z | qydsvq | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Am I dissassociating? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydsvq/am_i_dissassociating/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-11-20T20:14:47.000Z | qydrcd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Bored at the gym 😹 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydrcd/bored_at_the_gym/ |
SpecialistCook69 | Hi friends!
I'm relatively new to ADHD. I was diagnosed about 2-3 weeks back, and have been treating myself with 30 mg of Vyvanse ever since on recommendation of my psychiatrist.
Fortunately, I've felt much better. However yesterday was the first day I missed my dose, as I had to get some blood work done in the morning, so no breakfast and got home a bit late. Ultimately I decided that, I'll just resume the medication from tomorrow.
Anyways, yesterday for the most part I felt fine but I couldn't help but notice this weird lightheaded feeling and a bit of dizziness. Like I had to lie down because of how dizzy I was, and besides that I just felt very tired. Ended up having an evening time nap from like 6-7. Haven't napped at all, since on medication from what I recall.
Just wanted to know and thought I'd ask, if anybody has had any symptoms or troubles when missing their daily dose? Just to be aware of it for next time, in case it happens.
Thank you and God Bless :) | 2021-11-20T20:12:37.000Z | qydptf | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Symptoms when Vyvanse dose is missed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydptf/symptoms_when_vyvanse_dose_is_missed/ |
nomes2 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T20:11:00.000Z | qydooz | 2 | 0 | ADHD | myth or real: does your pee smell like coffee after drinking it? | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydooz/myth_or_real_does_your_pee_smell_like_coffee/ |
nomes2 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T20:07:48.000Z | qydmet | 1 | 1 | ADHD | myth or real: your pee smells like coffee after drinking it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydmet/myth_or_real_your_pee_smells_like_coffee_after/ |
unfabu10us | Does anyone have any tips for successfully dating with ADHD? Through therapy I’ve discovered that I’ve broken off a lot of romantic relationships because I end up feeling “bored” and anxious about the future with the person. I think being aware of this has helped a lot and I’ve really been trying to put myself out there lately. I think the thing that holds me back the most is low self esteem. I’m 98% sure that my self esteem ADHD related haha. I spent a good portion of my life being labeled as “annoying” and it stifled my real personality and gave me some bad anxiety about social situations. I just tend to feel like, why would someone continue to see me when there’s so many people more interesting/funny/attractive and I end up breaking things off because I see being interested in me as a red flag. Anyone else struggle with this? And how do you cope? | 2021-11-20T20:06:23.000Z | qydle1 | 6 | 5 | ADHD | Dating with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydle1/dating_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T20:05:57.000Z | qydl24 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Tv shows and adhd characters | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydl24/tv_shows_and_adhd_characters/ |
Ilovetomaketrade | does anyone here just pile up cheap clothes because its less work to just order new ones rather than clean the ones you already have?
I pretty much have to wear a white undershirt and black socks to work everyday and instead of washing them I just wear them until they are dirty and buy new ones. Its not like I throw them out, just put them in a "wash when I have motivation pile" | 2021-11-20T20:03:27.000Z | qydj7m | 2 | 1 | ADHD | clothes collection | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydj7m/clothes_collection/ |
finncat616 | hello everyone, so I was diagnosed around the 5th grade 11 years ago (20 m) and I've always struggled with keeping still and fidgeting. when the pandemic hit I feel as if my ADHD has got worse and my fidgeting and anxiety has increases significantly. Are there any strategies or recommendations to help cope with my excessive movement such as a toy or a device or apps that I can use? I would prefer not to go on medication just cause I've tried it and I do not like the way it affects my mind.
Thanks for reading have a great rest of the day :) | 2021-11-20T20:03:11.000Z | qydizz | 5 | 5 | ADHD | Any recommendations for fidget toys, accessories? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydizz/any_recommendations_for_fidget_toys_accessories/ |
blbellep | This felt like an impulsive decision until I realised I am just being selfish for the first time in my life. I went hough a traumatic experience and the last 2 months have been hell. I spent over a week recovering physically and mentally, but even thinking about going back to work includes so much anxiety. It's always the same. My manager pries for information about what's wrong with me, what procedure I had and have I been diagnosed yet. I make it clear (as much as my confidence goes) by clearly not wanting to talk about it and even at some point saying "id rather not talk about it, it's done now". I haven't told my manager the full truth as to what has been going on with me since it'll turn into gossip or at least someone will know on the down low (when my coworkers parents got a divorce, the manager literally told people the same day).
All that I have been through recently has made me appreciate myself and my health more. I realised I matter so much more than my job. It's just a job. They don't deserve me. I get paid minimum wage and have so many responsibilities which require a pay rise, but I will not get one. I do *everything* and all I get is a lousy manager.
It hit me how much I hate my job when they asked us to share that we are recruiting. The catch? Your entire freedom. Make sure you're available evenings, early mornings, weekends, weekdays, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, Boxing Day, New Years Eve and New Years Day. Oh and you're not allowed to take time off until after January. Im basically working almost every single day and sometimes every day during the period closer to Christmas. I dont get time to see my family and my partner during Christmas. So, I decided to hand my notice in as soon as possible giving my employer about a month in advance.
Im not appreciated. I work way more than my coworkers and have extra responsibilities (as well as a another job inside the store being admin manager which I do not get a pay rise for) and I get paid the same amount as everyone else. They recently put up what I can only call a "mirror of shame" before the door to the shop floor with a note at the top of it saying "are you wearing the correct uniform"? As if we don't know what we are wearing. They tried to pass it off as if they were trying to make sure you're wearing your name badge. In reality, the manages making us take off our jumpers and cardigans if they aren't black. Contract specifies we can wear dark uniform and it doesn't have to be black so they shame us into it. We are freezing, cannot always afford to keep buying "uniform" that they find appropiate and the manager dares to come down to the front fully clothes in a jumper, and scarf saying "god, it's freezing here". Yes, it is.
Am I being unreasonable? I need to know I'm making the right decision so I would appreciate some honesty. I actually find it less anxiety inducing thinking about finding another job after Christmas is over than working there any longer. Also slowly planning on opening my own business a while working to save money in the meantime. It feels very impulsive, but the reasoning behind it feels rational. All advice and support is appreciated! | 2021-11-20T20:02:18.000Z | qydid5 | 13 | 9 | ADHD | I've decided to leave my job | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydid5/ive_decided_to_leave_my_job/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T20:02:01.000Z | qydi5o | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Unsure if me or something else | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydi5o/unsure_if_me_or_something_else/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T20:01:13.000Z | qydhj9 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Zoloft 25MG making ADHD symptoms worse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydhj9/zoloft_25mg_making_adhd_symptoms_worse/ |
Lunares_Ace | Before I begin this word vomit I just want to preface by saying, yes I'm aware I need a therapist but it is expensive and I don't have the money yet as I will detail the reasons why below
I didn't realise I had ADHD until earlier this year. I always chalked up my awful memory, my spacing out and a bunch of other things to me just being ignorant and a failure. Yes I have severe depression and anxiety too, to boot. But I can link them down to stemming from the fact that I had undiagnosed ADHD and a bunch of trauma and abuse that ensued after that.
I really did feel like I could find help for the first time and genuinely felt a little alive when I got my diagnosis... only for my doctor to say a referall to a specific clinic which (in their words) every other practice was cool with referring people to was not an option for them. My only option was going private or being on a three year waiting list. (Added note, co workers who also have adhd had been booted from said list after years of waiting for no reason) so there went my only inkling of hope.
I work at mc Donalds. I hate it. I hate it with a burning passion because i feel so overwhelmed and my performance varies from day to day. Some days i can do amazing, and some days when they depend on me I can do nothing but yell at myself inwardly as i space out into nothing and feel the disappointed stares. But i had no choice as it was the only place that accepted me during covid.
I'm so fed up of customer service. I just want to work from home. But i can't, as i dropped out of my degree due to university bullying and being unable to keep up with the work especially from home because the ptsd kept me from going back to campus. On top of this, it didn't help that the head of course did nothing even when i mentioned i wanted to disappear from the stress.
I get severe anxiety attacks just trying to apply for jobs because if i can't even be reliable performance wise at freaking mc Donalds what makes me think id be any good at anything else?
I could try going back to university, but id need therapy for the PTSD PLUS documentation of my ADHD (which requires either a LOT of money for private or an unreliable 3 year wait) which would be impossible money wise right now.
I could switch jobs but end up disappointing my next employer with my performance.
I feel like I'm at a dead end. I just want to feel normal. I want to follow my dreams like everyone else all i want is to work and have a safe home to return to. But i can't even trust my own brain to function at the bare minimum to even achieve half of that.
I'm just praying for a miracle at this point. | 2021-11-20T20:01:04.000Z | qydhev | 2 | 4 | ADHD | I feel like I'm incapable of anything | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qydhev/i_feel_like_im_incapable_of_anything/ |
natttsss | Started taking Vyvanse this month and I noticed that it helps me tremendously to focus because it helps a lot with emotional regulation. On meds I can do my work and think of solving my problems one day at a time, without getting overwhelmed by the rest of the way I still have to go, getting paralyzed and unable to do anything. The thing is, Vyvanse gives me a lot of insomnia, it means that on the 5th day on it, I’m so sleep deprived I can’t function, so on weekends I stop the meds.
Without meds I can’t focus because I’m feeling overwhelm and frustrated and I can’t leave that out. I can’t do anything because I get obsessed on my problems or I get so frustrated when doing hard things that I give up on them. I went to bed yesterday so excited for today, had planned to do a lot of things. I’m now sitting on my couch for 5 hours half crying, thinking of binge eating a lot of sugar foods, feeling completely overwhelmed and thinking that I wouldn’t feel this way if I was able to take meds everyday.
Guess my point is that I don’t really like the ideia of only taking meds on weekdays for me to work properly and spending the weekends unmedicated and feeling like shit. Makes me feel like I can only feel well to deliver work.
Anyone takes Vyvanse everyday long term? Also, do you feel that meds helps you with a lot more than just to focus? This week I drank lots of coffee while on Vyvanse, I think this might be the cause. Gonna drop the coffee this week. | 2021-11-20T19:56:22.000Z | qyddtj | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse, insomnia and emotions | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyddtj/vyvanse_insomnia_and_emotions/ |
OpenDragonfly3374 | I’m a therapist and upon learning about the neurobiology of ADHD recently (as opposed to it being behavioral, which is sadly how it’s still approached in a lot of academia) had the same life changing revelation as many of you - omg suddenly my whole life makes sense! Cue: several months of obsessive fixation and reading everything under the sun about ADHD. I have since helped several clients with a diagnosis and sat with them in tender moments of validation, relief, and mourning for not knowing sooner. I feel that I’m uniquely situated to specialize in this since it can be very hard for someone without ADHD to understand how our brains work and the *why* under so many “symptoms” (I prefer the terms characteristics, manifestations, behavior patterns.) I’m also aware that it’s different for everyone and things that work for me may not work for someone else; my approach heavily emphasizes self-determination and self-knowing. My clients are the expert on what works for them.
My question for the community is: what experiences with therapists have been the most or least helpful? What are you looking for/wanting from ADHD treatment beyond medication? | 2021-11-20T19:50:13.000Z | qyd9eo | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Therapist w ADHD working toward specializing... what’s been the most helpful for you in therapy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyd9eo/therapist_w_adhd_working_toward_specializing/ |
Ilovetomaketrade | [removed] | 2021-11-20T19:50:10.000Z | qyd9db | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Shirt/Sock hoarder | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyd9db/shirtsock_hoarder/ |
disappointedkitten42 | does anyone know how to get a proper diagnosis as a minor (15f) without a parent present or parental consent? i opened up to my parents about how i heavily resonate with the symptoms of inattentive adhd but they just dismissed me and told me i just have to stop getting distracted and being lazy- it's really frustating and makes me feel so invalidated | 2021-11-20T19:45:07.000Z | qyd5pn | 12 | 1 | ADHD | diagnosis as a minor | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyd5pn/diagnosis_as_a_minor/ |
ofelia39 |
Do you seem not to perceive a linear verbal thought within you? I have like flashes and "intuitions"...I don't know how to say it. It is as if I arrive at the result of the thoughts under a scheme:
various clues --> (hidden reasoning)--> CONCLUSION that suddenly appears to me.
almost as if I discovered it myself in that moment...it doesn't make me feel very lucid but I don't think I am particularly stupid...I don't know how to express myself well on this concept (even with the psychologist, who however, labels everything as "Obsessive Thinking")...and in a foreign language even more. | 2021-11-20T19:42:57.000Z | qyd45u | 1 | 4 | ADHD | intuitions vs linear verbal thought | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyd45u/intuitions_vs_linear_verbal_thought/ |
bads575 | So, Ive suspected I have ADHD for quite some time, but my academic performance would never be that bad cos I'd already know those things
However, since I've started my JEE prep, basically, the toughest exam for science students, I've been constantly distracted and pretty much bomb every test, even in topics I've studied.
I told my parents abt my suspicions, my dad refuses to engage in good faith abt them,and my mom got this therapist who gives homeopathy, so I'm not too happy abt my prospects of ADHD symptoms being relieved
Please please give me tips to study. I'm a visual learner, but mind maps aren't my thing at all, they take too long for me to make. | 2021-11-20T19:37:23.000Z | qyd04g | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Study tips for guy with ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyd04g/study_tips_for_guy_with_adhd/ |
Used-Independent-727 | [removed] | 2021-11-20T19:28:48.000Z | qyctpu | 12 | 7 | ADHD | I am having an ADHD crisis. Can I go to urgent care and get medication for it? | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyctpu/i_am_having_an_adhd_crisis_can_i_go_to_urgent/ |
Saberuuuu | [removed] | 2021-11-20T19:27:09.000Z | qycsh9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I HAVE ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qycsh9/i_have_adhd/ |
MarcAlmighty | Hey yall,
I just got my diagnosis about 1 week ago (30 m). I have combined ADHD. Now I can't help but feel I have adhd but without any of the "positive" sides. My wife also has ADHD and can be extremely productive at times, she is a real talker and very good at befriending people because of it.
As for myself my mind usually runs at 100 mph, I have a ton of ideas but I never get anything done. Everything always feels really overwhelming and as soon as there's a lot of steps included in doing something I just drop it and do something els. I'm poorly equipped socially and having a really hard time making new friends, or even keeping the ones I got. Often I get locked up in social situations with a thousand thoughts running through my mind, but I can't get anything out.
I just feel really handicapped. Can't concentrate, even hard to just read a book, can't uphold routines, always fidgeting and feeling restless. And the worst part is I'm always restless but sometimes can't even make myself do something I usually enjoy because I'm so overwhelmed by everything going on around me that at the same time I feel exhausted.
My psychiatrist said I showed clear traits of autism as well (though I didn't get a diagnosis, since he only works with adhd), so might be that. Or is there anyone els here struggling with this? | 2021-11-20T19:27:02.000Z | qycsea | 10 | 7 | ADHD | ADHD without the "good" parts | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qycsea/adhd_without_the_good_parts/ |
izzyboblucas | Basically I was diagnosed about a year ago and have been on meds (50mg Elvanse) for about 6 months. I take them every day cos I've been trying to get used to them and get into a routine.
So for the past month or so things have been tip top ! Doing well at work, more attentive to my partner, keeping on top of house work and personal care. 10/10. I decided this weekend to take a break from my meds. I had stuff planned but fun stuff like repotting my house plants ect.
I didnt take my meds this morning and I've had a good day. Yeah it took me longer to get ready this morning and I haven't really sat still and relaxed all day but it's been a good day. I've had fun and felt "productive"
Now my brain has decided that my meds don't work and I don't need them. All cos I had ONE good ish day. Even though that day was only good because I DID NOT STOP so I had no chance to feel bored under-stimulated.
So now I'm sad and conflicted. I know that my meds have improved my life, there is tangible evidence of this (eg I don't currently have wet smelly laundry that has been in the machine for 4 days). But something in me is doubting it and making me feel bad. | 2021-11-20T19:25:53.000Z | qycrmt | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Brain has decided my meds are trash cos I had ONE okay day with out them.. Send Help (Venting) | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qycrmt/brain_has_decided_my_meds_are_trash_cos_i_had_one/ |
professionaldumbfuq | Any advice on how to deal with this? It’s been a long time since I’ve had a bout this bad and I literally can’t get myself to do anything and it’s frustrating to the point of tears. I’m tired of being on my phone but I can’t get off of it. It’s been like two weeks and I am losing it here. Any tips and tricks welcome thanks in advance | 2021-11-20T19:23:06.000Z | qycplt | 24 | 92 | ADHD | ADHD Paralysis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qycplt/adhd_paralysis/ |
PamOhhLaa | I’ve been referred by my GP this week to my local NHS Adults ADHD and ASD team.
I’m wondering how long wait times might be. Am I looking at years or months, on average?
I’m based in Northamptonshire if anyone has any personal experience of their service I’d be interested to hear more, if you’re happy to share of course 🙂 | 2021-11-20T19:21:15.000Z | qyco94 | 8 | 1 | ADHD | NHS adult referral wait times | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyco94/nhs_adult_referral_wait_times/ |
hopevon | [removed] | 2021-11-20T19:19:37.000Z | qycn1l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | i have assessment test and its freaks me out lol lol | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qycn1l/i_have_assessment_test_and_its_freaks_me_out_lol/ |
Heretosee123 | What is the subjective experience. Is it always gettinf distracted, or is it being overwhelmed?
Is it looking at what you need to do but not actually moving to do it? Or is it seeing all of something at once and not being able to focus on the specifics? Do you feel like the negative aspects of an experience are extremely dominant and you can't perceive the rewards well?
Is it all of that an more? what's it like in your head. | 2021-11-20T19:18:33.000Z | qycmc2 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What does a lack of motivation entail for you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qycmc2/what_does_a_lack_of_motivation_entail_for_you/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T19:15:57.000Z | qyckgj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse hr increase | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qyckgj/vyvanse_hr_increase/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-11-20T19:14:00.000Z | qycj33 | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Why do I "go for the jugular" when arguing with people? | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qycj33/why_do_i_go_for_the_jugular_when_arguing_with/ |
chad4life | [removed] | 2021-11-20T19:08:50.000Z | qycf5a | 1 | 1 | ADHD | For those of you that finally got exercise to ‘stick’ how did you do it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qycf5a/for_those_of_you_that_finally_got_exercise_to/ |
kats___ | I’d been with my boyfriend (27) who has ADHD (not medicated) for 3 months, it was very intense and I understand this is common for people with ADHD but honestly it felt right so we went with it.
We ended up arguing (pretty minor) but he took it really badly and blocked me with no explanation and didn’t reach out again which after 3 months of such happiness felt so wrong. I reached out bc I needed to give his things back and I ended up asking if he’d like to talk - he agreed.
I hadn’t realised that throughout our relationship he’d been suppressing his ADHD and I think it had gotten too much for him which resulted in him just disappearing - as much as I wish he’d been more open and honest with me I understand he felt like that might put me off.
Since we’ve started talking again we’ve both agreed we’re open to potentially trying again in the future. I’ve put hours of research into ADHD, what it is, symptoms and what it means for a relationship. I feel positive that I could manage. However, he has since said things like he’s not sure he’d ever be able to get a house or have children (things we’d both been clear we wanted before), he’s also said that if I cross any boundary he’ll be gone and that’s just how it is, I’m not really allowed to say how I feel because it triggers him and he overthinks it and feels bad about himself. He’s told me if I need reassurance he might in the moment decide I don’t deserve it and not want to give it to me.
All these things and more it’s a lot to get my head around - is this normal for ADHD? I’ve tried to be really constructive and say ‘okay, I understand you might not always be able to give me what I want in the moment but could we have things in place where we make a note and always come back to it but he’s said he can’t promise he’ll always want to. This isn’t even the half of it. I want to learn and try because I love him but I almost feel like he isn’t trying to be productive himself | 2021-11-20T19:02:36.000Z | qycaeo | 43 | 6 | ADHD | ADHD partner - breakup (feel free to tell me if I’m being unfair, but I am only just discovering ADHD) | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/qycaeo/adhd_partner_breakup_feel_free_to_tell_me_if_im/ |
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