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MusicAndFairies | I’m a singer. I love to sing and I dream of being on stage and selling records.
I’m also a part of a big church (3,000 members) in Toronto as of March of 2020.
One of the first things that caught my attention about this church was the sense of community and the opportunity to be part of the music team (the church band)
Unfortunately, due to the pandemic, church closed for a year and a half untill they reopened again in July of this year.
I was so excited to be back in person for church and I thought I could finally tryout to be party of the music team as a vocalist.
I thought it would be a good idea to befriend the band members though, before auditioning for the team to see how we get along and to feel cool with them before diving in.
But I think they don’t like me though! Am I reading into it too much? Here is what happened:
* On many occasions, I have gone up to the vocalists after church and initiated conversation (the congregation usually hangs out and chats with each other after service) but have felt they don’t engage in conversation with me and were stand-offish
* On one occasion, I had said to one of the vocalists, Jessa, (who I know is a hair dresser, “I really like your hair- is it your own or are you wearing extensions?” After an awkward pause, she responds with: “a lady never tells.”
* On another occasion, I walked toward a group of four band members, and said hi and as soon as I walked to the group Jessa walked away
* On another occasion, I went up to the pianist, and she was really stand-offish and shut down any attempts to start a conversation with her
* On another occasion, I commended the pianist for her playing during service and she didn’t respond to me
So now I feel really sad and rejected. I was really looking forward to being a part of the music team but am so disillusioned. I feel some of the members don’t like me.
Do my questions are:
Am I reading into it too much? Am I coming off too strong?
I’m usually pretty good at making friends but I know I can be impulsive and talkative. Was I being annoying?
Should I even try to be part of this band anymore and audition for it if even after the experiences I had?
I don’t really know what to do. | 2021-12-16T06:08:34.000Z | rhk9xw | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Am i coming off too strong and scaring people away?! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhk9xw/am_i_coming_off_too_strong_and_scaring_people_away/ |
NetRepresentative743 | I’m gonna try and make this Long story short, I’m a 27 year old woman who has been going through trial and error with already two drugs for my ADHD. I was on Adderall IR then Adderall XR. The XR caused very bad mood swings and the IR did as well just not as bad as the XR. I tried Wellbutrin and I ended up in the hospital due to a severe allergic reaction. My doctor has mentioned having me try Ritalin next only because right now I’m paying out of pocket and Vyvanse is around 300 dollars per bottle. I’ve heard good things about Vyvanse and I’m wondering what insurance do you have that helps with the cost of it because I’m willing to try one more time to see if this will be the drug for me. I feel pretty discouraged at this point. | 2021-12-16T06:07:28.000Z | rhk99e | 10 | 2 | ADHD | What insurance do you have for Vyvanse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhk99e/what_insurance_do_you_have_for_vyvanse/ |
Sea_Archer4304 | Hi all,
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I got diagnosed a month ago with ADHD (as an adult) and I've been given Vyvanse (Elvanse) 30mg.
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After a month of use, I can say that the medication stimulates me for a few hours. In this period it is much easier for me to get out of my couch and get things done.
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However, I'm also finding it harder to focus on one job, especially if is something not exciting (aka work). I tend to use this stimulation boost to just hyperfocus on unimportant tasks like shopping or going down the rabbit hole on some topic.
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Has anyone experienced something like this before? Can you please share tips to get me a bit more focused and direct the drive towards work?
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One solution that somewhat works is spending time in an actual office instead of working from home. Unfortunately, I can't do that with the current restrictions in my country.
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I couldn't find relatable previous posts here - so asking this.
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Thanks and I hope you have a great day :) | 2021-12-16T06:02:15.000Z | rhk5ze | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Vyvanse helps my drive but not focus | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhk5ze/vyvanse_helps_my_drive_but_not_focus/ |
_froggqueen | I’ve been struggling slot with not wanting to cook or prepare meals.
If it takes too long I’m just not motivated enough to start so I end up having
1. Oatmeal or chicken salad. Constantly.
Do you recommend any cook book / sites that would allow quick easy and Nutritional meals/snacks
Also people’s own suggestions are welcome !! | 2021-12-16T05:54:21.000Z | rhk0t6 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | How do you cook / get motivation to eat. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhk0t6/how_do_you_cook_get_motivation_to_eat/ |
LeaPea1020 | Hello! I just started Vyvanse at 20mg and I'm doing great on it!
Except that I am EXHAUSTED after 6 or so hours. When I first take Vyvanse, the first 3 hours I'm EXTREMELY productive. Tons of energy, I get stuff done. I then kindof mellow out and then bam, I'm tired.
I can't tell if it's because I used up so much energy being productive or because I'm crashing or both.
What are your experiences? | 2021-12-16T05:49:10.000Z | rhjxim | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Vyvanse and Tiredness | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhjxim/vyvanse_and_tiredness/ |
Honny_beee | I was diagnosed when I was five (5) or six (6) and now being eighteen (18) my parents still don't understand that my ADHD effects many aspects of my life and not just "Being hyper and fidgety". My mother always wanted a "normal" child so I was put on medication very quickly but was never told about what my disorder actually was, it took until I was well into middle school when I understood how differently my brain works than other kids. Since I've had really bad grades for most of my time in school I tried to explain to my mother that my ADHD makes it hard and I just needed her to trust that I'm trying as hard as I can, she tells me to this day that I'm being lazy, making excuses, wasting time and that I need to go live with her (My parents are divorced and I live with my dad) She's a horrible woman so that's my worst nightmare.
Throughout all of highschool I've tried my best and changed my medication many times, now that I'm a senior and take Adderall I found that it works really well (Sad I wasn't able to try it sooner). I was so excited at how easy I was able to do simple things like read that I told my parents both, my dad who is slightly more understanding was happy for me, my mother however used it as a leverage over me and said "This means your grades better improve, no more excuses, its enough of that shit." With the extra weight on my shoulders I've been more anxious than I ever have, working my self to exhaustion and breaking down in front of several teachers at how I cant meet my mothers expectations. As soon as my grades didn't immediately improve she sent me an angry text message telling me to drop out and that I lied to her. I know myself better than she does and I can tell you myself that several of my grades have went up many percentages and some even reached Cs and Bs, the teachers who support me have even said im making improvements in my work, but she's still on my back with threats. Never in my life have I ever felt love and support from my Mom.
Today I know that my ADHD causes sensory issues, insomnia, mood swings and of course my ability to focus on certain things and hyperactivity. Even small things like memory loss are things my mother dismisses that can be ADHD when she has never made an effort to listen or understand that I cant "grow out" of my ADHD and I cant flip an off switch that makes me normal. She doesn't believe that i'll be able to graduate, so I'm saying a big fuck you to her and proving I can. Since I was a child, I was always feared into thinking whatever I did was wrong, My mother wanted a child that is the exact opposite of me, Im close to disowning her at this point. I don't contact her willingly out of fear shell turn it into an argument, but I just wanted to say to someone who cares that I'm finally understanding to work with and not against my disorder. :)
Finals were this week and although I know I didn't do well in some classes, I got an 80% on my Chemistry final and a 94% on my English essay and that's enough to make me feel proud and love myself for once. | 2021-12-16T05:41:41.000Z | rhjsva | 15 | 73 | ADHD | My mother never made an effort to understand how badly my ADHD effects me | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhjsva/my_mother_never_made_an_effort_to_understand_how/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-16T05:27:10.000Z | rhjjhw | 3 | 3 | ADHD | What do I do to cope with feeling like a failure and having all my insecurities pointed out? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhjjhw/what_do_i_do_to_cope_with_feeling_like_a_failure/ |
SweetHoneydew_1444 | I have known I've had ADHD and GAD for the longest time, but just recently got officially diagnosed with it including a depressed mood..
My parents have known about it too for a while and believe that I have it, but always make the "everyone experiences that" and the "even I feel that sometimes" or snarky comments of such, I want to help them understand better and really need something to read off to them.. I feel my mother can learn, but my father not so much.. the is there anything I can tell my mother to make her understand better? Or maybe things I can ask her to do? | 2021-12-16T05:26:49.000Z | rhjjaf | 1 | 4 | ADHD | I was recently diagnosed with ADHD and GAD, and need help with making my parents understand better.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhjjaf/i_was_recently_diagnosed_with_adhd_and_gad_and/ |
midnightfluffle | [removed] | 2021-12-16T05:24:26.000Z | rhjhrq | 2 | 1 | ADHD | People suck | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhjhrq/people_suck/ |
Force_fiend58 | I'm still in high school and have known that I have ADHD for a while, but my parents refuse to let me get a formal diagnosis. Anyway, that's not the point.
I would consider myself pretty high-functioning, to the point where my grades in school didn't really start to suffer from my bad habits until I was accepted into a high school with a much more difficult curriculum.
It's been three years, but I've only just started taking steps towards getting my habits on track. The only solution for this is having a parent or friend monitor me while I do work to make sure I stay on track.
Sometimes I feel stupid and pathetic for even needing something like this. It feels kind of infantilizing on some level, and that's why I think I was so reluctant to ask for this in the first place. I worry "what happens when I get to college" or "How do I deal with this when I enter the workplace"
Right now, what I need is someone to hold me accountable. Maybe the problem could be helped if I actually get diagnosed and am able to get proper medication. But now the only option is for someone to literally babysit me. | 2021-12-16T05:20:00.000Z | rhjexw | 8 | 11 | ADHD | It's gotten to the point where my parents literally need to babysit me while I do schoolwork | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhjexw/its_gotten_to_the_point_where_my_parents/ |
IAmGeneralEggplant | [removed] | 2021-12-16T05:18:36.000Z | rhje2a | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Easiest way to ask my parents for an ADHD test? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhje2a/easiest_way_to_ask_my_parents_for_an_adhd_test/ |
GentleMoonFlower | # Hi everyone. First time posting here; look forward to meeting you all.
**Decided to post here; don’t know if I have ADHD or not**
***Not a good writer; poorly expresses thoughts, not sure where/how to use appropriate grammar, but i need to get this off my chest.***
I feel like I was cursed from birth. I’m an atheist, but if there’s a “God”, then I feel like they have favorites.
Definitely landed on the wrong side of the field. Seems like I inherited all of the bad qualities (stupid, procrastinator, ugly, unable-to-focus, slow).
I’m terrible in school. Had a class that started on Monday; already behind where I want to be. I just recently got an F in a class because of procrastination. I tell myself “things will change and will be super organized” then with due time, I go right back to my old habits. I’ve mainly got C’s over my college career (2nd year community college student).
**I’m not sure how to end this post…** | 2021-12-16T05:14:10.000Z | rhjbaa | 16 | 38 | ADHD | Hate myself. Always feel stupid and worthless. | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhjbaa/hate_myself_always_feel_stupid_and_worthless/ |
rephlexi0n | This is probably an incomprehensible text wall but eh.
There is so much wrong with me, and I (19M) can’t even quantify it due to ADHD. I literally cannot even remember what is wrong with me. I’m overweight, little to no social skills, never even been on a date in my life. I don’t understand why anyone would even consider wanting to live with this condition. It’s like you’re playing a video game with your buddies but you’re the one with the faulty controller and no one is going to swap with you, so you’re stuck with it. There are no upsides, only downsides. I skip a lot of nights, used to be less but after starting Concerta the only effect it has on me is worsening my sleep even further, without any noticeable positive effects other than lessening fatigue.
There is no drive to do anything. I have vague, incredibly vague ideas on what I might want to do in life but none of it even feels real or serious to me. Like my hopes for life are simply me dreaming of things I’ll never get, such as a partner. Many of my friends, I am bored with. And this seems more like a me problem than a problem with them. I make plans, but when they’re imminent I want to cop out and when I’m taking part I don’t feel like I’m having fun.
The kinda hobbies I’ve wanted to do my whole life (climbing, mountain biking, etc.) are practically inaccessible to me due to my weight (240lb range) yet even knowing this I feel no real drive to lose that weight. The only time I’ve lost significant weight was from being addicted to amphetamine. I just do not care, about that or about anything really. Nothing brings me joy and I am chronically under stimulated. I have no affection or sympathy for friends or family any more and that makes me feel horrifically guilty.
It’s just so unfair. What’s the point of even playing this big game if like I said I get the broken controller. There is no point, and the same applies to me being on this Earth.
Epictetus told me that the door stands open if life is not to your credit. And I have yet to see anything of value arise in my life since my birth.
Edit: sorry I won’t be able to reply to everyone (work) but really thanks so much for the input. It helps more than you know ❤️ | 2021-12-16T05:13:42.000Z | rhjazo | 154 | 259 | ADHD | I am broken and don’t know if I want to go on. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhjazo/i_am_broken_and_dont_know_if_i_want_to_go_on/ |
DexterMorgan95 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T05:03:09.000Z | rhj48a | 2 | 0 | ADHD | After 4+ Years of Using Vyvanse Daily (70mg), I Quit Cold Turkey... And I Feel Great! | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhj48a/after_4_years_of_using_vyvanse_daily_70mg_i_quit/ |
EF5Cyniclone | **TL;DR - Looking for heart monitor recommendations to help me realize when I'm melting down, or anyone with experience trying a similar coping strategy.**
So naturally I've been struggling with emotional regulation issues for pretty much my entire life, with anger in particular, leading to meltdowns. I learned very early on (around 9 or 10) that indulging my angry impulses is usually destructive, and just magnifies the consequences of the situation, so I've taken great pains to restrict my behavior to avoid giving in. Most of the time I manage to keep control, to the point that everyone at my job thinks of me as the most calm and collected person on the shift, despite my inner struggles.
Every once in awhile though, the barriers break down, the impulse pushes through, and I melt down. Hindsight is of course 20/20, and when it happens I recognize what I should have done differently, but I often have trouble telling why I reacted that way, despite having previously reacted calmly to similar situations. Folks, I've been trying to figure this out for two and a half decades or more, and I do not feel any closer to understanding exactly what it is that causes me to finally lose it in these situations.
My psychiatrist recently prescribed guanfacine, and thankfully as an alpha2A-adrenergic receptor agonist, it's been helping me keep my cool even more than before. But tonight at work I had a strong reaction to a call, and while I didn't lose composure completely (which was a surprise when I explained it to my supervisor), I did react strongly enough that I had to go sit with my superiors and discuss possible disciplinary action. Ultimately they decided on a very minor temporary corrective action because of my overall performance and the rarity of these events. In fact, they've been more supportive than anything, insisting "everyone has a bad day sometimes", "don't beat yourself up about it" etc. But of course, it's still bothering me a lot.
So while I spent some time trying strategize, I realized some sort of external indication might be help me step back and disengage when I'm not being rational. Immediately after every meltdown I recognize my body is at a high arousal; high heart rate, clenched teeth, tense muscles, etc. It's adrenaline, amping me up. From there I figured the easiest sign of a potential meltdown could easily be my heart rate, and something that monitored it in real time and audibly warned me when it started getting high might help interrupt the emotions overriding my thoughts.
So, like the TL;DR says, I'm looking for suggestions for a heart monitor that will make some sort of sound when my heart rate increases. **The simpler the better, since the idea is to wear it constantly (except maybe while sleeping). It doesn't need to be incredibly accurate as long as it can detect change reliably, but probably needs a way to manually set which heart rates result in a warning. It needs to make an audible sound itself, since my phone is usually on silent and I can't bring it into the room where I work. And of course the cheaper the better.**
Also, if anyone else has already thought of this or a similar strategy I'd love to hear it, how it's been implemented, and experiences using it. Likewise let me know if you see a problem with my idea or there's something I'm understanding wrong.
I know a subreddit that more regularly deals with fitness trackers or medically necessary heart rate trackers might be able to offer a lot more options, and if you know of one please let me know so I can ask there. That said, I chose to post here in the hopes that the idea might be able to help other people like me, or people with emotional regulation problems stemming from disabilities besides ADHD.
Hopefully this post wasn't too long for everyone, or if it was, that you were at least able to get the gist from the bold sections. I'm looking forward to input.
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**Update:** I just realized blind people need a way to monitor their heart rates and started looking for talking heart monitors. Oregon Scientific makes inexpensive heart rate trackers with audio alerts that I might try out. | 2021-12-16T04:56:13.000Z | rhizd0 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Short-circuiting meltdowns with a heart rate monitor? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhizd0/shortcircuiting_meltdowns_with_a_heart_rate/ |
ilyanhimself | [removed] | 2021-12-16T04:51:55.000Z | rhiwit | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Kind help needed with survey! - Challenges when working from home | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhiwit/kind_help_needed_with_survey_challenges_when/ |
GMAN095 | I wanted to share this with people who understand this a bit more than friends or even family.
This semester I finally turned every single assignment in on time and fully completed for the first time in my life. I’ve always had missing assignments, I’ve always had half complete assignments but now I’ve finally been able to do it all. What’s more is that I have an 83% test average among all of my classes and my lowest test score was a 71%. My freshmen year of college last year wasn’t the worst but my adhd hit a spike but now I’ve gotten it back under control and I’m doing better than ever. Friday morning I take my last final and although I’m nervous, I think I’m ready. | 2021-12-16T04:50:54.000Z | rhivt6 | 3 | 8 | ADHD | Although I still have one final left, I wanted to share a small victory from this semester. | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhivt6/although_i_still_have_one_final_left_i_wanted_to/ |
uh_user | [removed] | 2021-12-16T04:45:43.000Z | rhishr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | life update | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhishr/life_update/ |
minionorda | I hate how my prescription is for 30 days. It’d be so much easier if it were exactly 4 weeks so that I could get it refilled on the same day and have somewhat of a routine.
It’s pretty annoying going on a Saturday one month and a Monday or Tuesday the next. It’d be so much easier to just go every Monday or something.
Does anyone do this or know if it’s possible? | 2021-12-16T04:30:56.000Z | rhiiso | 4 | 8 | ADHD | Can my doctor write prescriptions for every 28 days? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhiiso/can_my_doctor_write_prescriptions_for_every_28/ |
Someone_84357 | I'm so bored at school that I just fucking can't focus. It's extremely hard to pay attention with lack of dopamine. Another thing that distracts me a lot is my thoughts. They always get in my way and sometimes I sometimes randomly stop doing my work and have random thoughts in my head like "What should I do when I get home?", "I'm so excited to do "thing" when I get home!", "I'm so excited for the weekend!", etc. So how do you even focus at school when it feels so BORING or you always get mentally distracted by other thoughts?
Today it's Wednesday and one of my classes recently did a poll on what movie to watch, and the teacher said we would watch a movie on Friday this week. But the catch is, I'm still stuck trying to finish a test that my teacher would always have me try to finish every time I go to his class, and if I don't get it finished by Friday, I'll have to keep testing until I'm done and miss some of the movie depending on how long I take or if I even get it finished that day. I can't focus like I said and the test is so boring that I just can't even fucking focus on the test at all! Weirdly enough I can hyper-focus on my assignments when I'm at home and I have no problem staying focused on anything when I'm at home.
So yeah, I've said it a million times already, but **how do you focus at school?** | 2021-12-16T04:26:40.000Z | rhifws | 14 | 3 | ADHD | How the fuck do you even focus at school? | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhifws/how_the_fuck_do_you_even_focus_at_school/ |
guster09 | TL;DR: I thought I would be accepting defeat by taking meds, but instead I feel like handicaps have been removed which made it more difficult to be productive.
Note while reading: "Everyone else" = "neurotypical individuals"
When I first thought about taking meds I felt like it would be like accepting defeat. Like I'd given up trying to do it and failed to be like everyone else who apparently can do it.
I relate the feeling to cheating on a video game. Maybe there's that one boss I just can't defeat, so I give up and enable some cheats to beat him. Like I'm incapable of beating him without cheating.
I thought that the meds would just change who I am entirely and put me on autopilot to live my life as the person I wanted to be with no effort on my part. Like I would just be passive, along for the ride, experiencing life like everyone else. And this concerned me because I didn't want to admit defeat. Maybe I wanted to prove that I can do it and keep trying it without the cheats.
Well, after taking meds for a month I must say I was pleasantly surprised at the results. I noticed that I'm still prone to be distracted, I still inherently want to avoid tasks that aren't very fun (like taking showers or doing dishes), and I'm still unorganized. I'm still me.
What I also noticed is, even though a distraction might be calling my name, it's easy to remember tasks I ought to be working on and channel my focus on what's a higher priority. I don't have to amp myself up to take showers or make the bed. It's easier to choose to eat healthier food despite it not tasting as good as chips. I'm more vigilant with bringing dishes back to the kitchen that I had brought to my office to eat while I work or watch YouTube. I will still get upset at things, but I don't have to fight off rage and can still think clearly.
The point I'm making is while I'm on meds I'm still me. I still have my quirks and ADHD tendencies. However, I no longer have to work as hard against those tendencies. I still have to make conscious decisions to be productive and fight against unhealthy ways of living, but it's no longer as difficult to do so. The handicaps have been removed and I feel like my desires to be better are no longer overshadowed and weighed down by "laziness" and fatigue.
Instead of feeling like I just enabled cheat codes I feel like I just decreased the difficulty level. And though I can get down in myself and argue that I had to decrease the difficulty level while others never have to do that to function properly, I choose to think of it in the light that my difficulty level was higher than everyone else and I just brought it down to the same level as them. And that gives me an edge because I'm used to playing at a higher difficulty than everyone else.
I finally feel like I can be a functional member of society. | 2021-12-16T04:26:31.000Z | rhifsx | 3 | 7 | ADHD | Handicaps removed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhifsx/handicaps_removed/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T04:25:59.000Z | rhifg4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Would a pet help my adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhifg4/would_a_pet_help_my_adhd/ |
jsnoww27 | I take a 20mg IR in the morning between 7am-8m the another 10mg around 12pm. However I am hardly ever able to sleep at night despite being exhausted. Some nights I don’t sleep at all and some nights I finally s fall asleep between 3-5am with my alarm going off at 6:30am
I have a prescribed sleep medication but it knocks me out for 12 hours which isn’t reasonable for daily use. I’ve tried lower stimulant doses but they aren’t effective.
Does anyone have any advice on how to have better sleep quality? | 2021-12-16T04:25:23.000Z | rhif24 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Unable to sleep | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhif24/unable_to_sleep/ |
Mental_Slide9867 | I don’t want to sound privileged or come across the wrong way when I ask this, but I’d just like to know other peoples opinions. I’ve had a lot of accumulative trauma from being taken advantage of, being mistreated and being made to feel replaceable time and time again in different career fields. I’ve been jobless for the last 6 months and off benefits from government in the last four months. Currently have no money whatsoever coming in and luckily have a partner who I can absolutely rely on. After my adhd diagnosis a few months ago now after being treated for just my depression for years, it makes sense as to why some of the things that happened, happened, in the jobs I was previously in. I just don’t think I can trust myself or anyone to be able to work again and I’m only in my mid 20’s. I’ve had therapy for self esteem issues and the sort to help me in the mean time but I mean I’m not really getting better in the sense that I thought I would. I’m just feeling kinda worthless, I’m trying not to assign my self worth to income or tertiary education, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t feel like a failure in a lot of ways. There are obviously a lot more people worse off and I have a lot to be greatful for but I just feel really useless. Idk where I’m going with this, just maybe wondering if anyone else has experienced a dismal adhd life, not earning any money and trying to do what you can and trying to make ends meet. | 2021-12-16T04:22:35.000Z | rhid5k | 12 | 4 | ADHD | The endless job searching and job fails as someone with adult adhd | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhid5k/the_endless_job_searching_and_job_fails_as/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-16T04:15:08.000Z | rhi82l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | i guess…i have adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhi82l/i_guessi_have_adhd/ |
mouthymedic | How do you guys and gals pull yourself out of your head when you get stuck inside your own mind?
Shits been going so wrong lately I cant catch a break no matter what. Talked with doc about a med change and that was a disaster that nearly got me a grippy sock vacation. Stress has me to the point where I can’t keep myself controlled my adhd just up and runs off like I’m un medicated. I know a big issue is I haven’t been sleeping well for the past 2 months with stress and anxiety being the main reason on top of the usual adhd can’t sleep bullshit. I can’t take sleep aids because A) I’m terrified of addiction to them and B) I volunteer on my towns ambulance so if the pager goes off in the middle of the night I need to be clear headed and with sleep aids I’m not able to shake the effects fast enough. But my mind feels like im cracking and I can’t escape my own thoughts of things are my fault I’m just not good enough etc. and I can’t be like this I need to be back in my game I have two boys to raise they need a dad not an anxious mess and my wife and my business partner both need their rock back.
Sorry this turned into an incoherent rant
Any advice?
To the Redditor (you know who you are)that I know will see this. This doesn’t mean that I can’t help you. | 2021-12-16T04:13:46.000Z | rhi75d | 3 | 6 | ADHD | Help getting out of my head | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhi75d/help_getting_out_of_my_head/ |
stellabella07 | Hi! My son is 9 years old, and in the 3rd grade. He is currently taking Concerta, and just bumped up to 2mg of guanfacine this week.
We had his IEP renewal today and well, it’s not an IEP meeting if you don’t leave crying.. He scored above average intelligence, above average on reading but basically failed the part of his evals where he shows he understands the concepts for math and reading. He scored under 18% in all concept understanding. His team mentions he is constantly rushing, like he just wants to get it over with and doesn’t care if the answer is right or wrong, or if he makes silly mistakes on the answers. When the teacher was allowed to (like if it wasn’t a standardized test), she would reroute him back and make him try again or refocus on the problem he got wrong. When he does one on one like this and she makes him try again, he shows 85% or higher understanding the concepts.
So my question is, how do we slow him down? Currently, he has a balance chair, and they use pressure pushes on the desk to burn off some energy. He also does wall pushups (for fun! Not punishment) to help the desire to rush. I did push for testing to be done with and without a fidget before I sign off on one all the time, because I know it will become a toy and not helpful.
Any advice is very helpful! | 2021-12-16T04:13:32.000Z | rhi6zy | 5 | 2 | ADHD | How to slow down | 0.76 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhi6zy/how_to_slow_down/ |
danigrayson | Hey all remember to drink water and breathe.
This might get suppressed by this app, DM for details.
# My Experince
I had used "TlCT🆗️" for years and started using it more as a way to deal with anxiety and procrastinate. I was learning so much and it hit spot for dopamine so I didn't think much of it. After a while I had to spend more and more time on it.
My attention span got really messed up and it worsened my ADD symptoms overall. I experienced further difficulty doing everyday things, I lost my train of thought more often. I had trouble doing other hobbies and enjoyed them less. I was generally unsatisfied, and anxious and craving dopamine more and more.
## Impact
The app is made to hijack our brain and over-stimulate our dopamine center. It is equivalent to the study of rats hitting a button to stimulate its reward system until they die.
See link below!
It is affecting so many people and the exposure is suppressed especially on this platform. I'm sure that you will find many stories like this one.
We are more vulnerable and it affects us a lot more, we are easy prey. **WE HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF EACH OTHER AND INCREASE AWARENESS.**
**Please share your experiences**
### P.S.
This video explains it really well and gives more disturbing info.[Video](https://youtu.be/iLt-ymXNf-w). He has 2 on the subject. I encourage you to watch the rest of his videos too.
I believe that the app can be used for great things and if you can manage it I wish you the best
I tried to make it as readable as possible. Open to suggestions. | 2021-12-16T04:10:08.000Z | rhi4q8 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | MENTAL HYGIENE AND SOCIAL MEDIA. PLEASE READ AND SPREAD THE MESSAGE. PERSONAL EXPERINCE | 0.44 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhi4q8/mental_hygiene_and_social_media_please_read_and/ |
IntuitiveWhit | [removed] | 2021-12-16T04:05:28.000Z | rhi1jr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Speaking of getting songs stuck in your head frequently… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhi1jr/speaking_of_getting_songs_stuck_in_your_head/ |
Radiant-Pin-558 | This might be better for the relationship advice subreddit but idrk. I’m 17M and am 95% sure I have ADHD and if it’s not it’s something worse. I’ve asked my mom if I can get tested before but she refuses to believe there is any possibility of me having it (different culture). But tmrw I’m going to the doctors on my own to start the journey of getting diagnosed. Up until this point in my relationship I have constantly forgot dates and times and her schedule. And I say sorry I can’t control what I remember or not just my ADHD which is why I want to get officially diagnosed so I can get help and be better. She refuses to believe I have it because around her I am calm and that’s because she calms me down and everything feels so right with her. So until I officially get my diagnosis that says I do have ADHD I simply don’t care about her enough to remember what she tells me (in her eyes). And today we got in a fight because I saw a license plate that stuck out and I remembered it belonged to a girl I used to be friend (I only hung out with her so I could set her and my friend up). And this upset her because I could remember a license plate from 2 years ago but not her schedule and her resolve is because I don’t care. Which is not true at all. What do I do. I keep hurting her and it is never my intention or something have have conscious control over. Should I just wait and see how it goes with the doctor tmrw? | 2021-12-16T04:04:21.000Z | rhi0qm | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I don’t know what to do | 0.76 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhi0qm/i_dont_know_what_to_do/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-16T03:58:51.000Z | rhhwmk | 2 | 1 | ADHD | First dose of Adderall | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhwmk/first_dose_of_adderall/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T03:56:35.000Z | rhhv2z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else scared about working or having a career in general? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhv2z/anyone_else_scared_about_working_or_having_a/ |
ConsiderationWhich48 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T03:56:31.000Z | rhhv1g | 1 | 1 | ADHD | For anyone who has declared their adhd diagnosis at work, what company resources do you find useful?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhv1g/for_anyone_who_has_declared_their_adhd_diagnosis/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T03:56:07.000Z | rhhus2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have an experience with "ADHD Online"? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhus2/does_anyone_have_an_experience_with_adhd_online/ |
musicalbuffoon | My days don't follow rigorous schedules with laid out and calculated activities, but I always know what I'm doing next. I wake up, go to school, go to swim team, come home, eat, then homework, then bed.
So when I leave school early for severe weather and practice is canceled, I end up with anxiety.
Does anyone else experience this? It's like my brain is full of tiny SpongeBobs in an office. when I'm given nearly 6 hours to do everything, I do nothing and feel anxious the whole time. any advice would be appreciated. | 2021-12-16T03:55:52.000Z | rhhulj | 2 | 2 | ADHD | I need a routine but it can't be strict | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhulj/i_need_a_routine_but_it_cant_be_strict/ |
TheProffiteur | I understand that this is a loaded question, but let me do my best to set this up. I am a 28yo who has suffered with ADD my entire life. Certain tasks I can manage very well, but I feel like I can do absolutely nothing for myself. Right now I struggle with trying to manage my music playlists in Spotify and am at the point where I want to delete them all and hope to find a way to start over. I am also struggling with organizing my room where I live, and I am at the point where I want to just bag everything up and throw everything away, giving myself a completely fresh start. Oh, and my finances? Well, I can make a budget all day long, and I am extremely good at doing so, but sticking to it? You can forget about that! I've tried apps, envelope systems, writing things down, and it doesn't seem like anything works for me. I understand that as someone who has lived with ADD my entire life, we don't always cope well with the "norm" or the typical, but I feel like I am just failing and falling further behind because I can't seem to "find my mojo" (+10 points if you catch that reference) and get my snowball gaining traction enough to roll downhill and start being successful. Work is another fun thing for me - I want to learn, and I want to be there, but I work as a Plumber Apprentice and that is a rough field because I am new to it, don't know a whole lot, and am constantly being degraded for my lack of speed, ability, and knowledge. When you frustrate me though, it makes me not want to do anything or even be there, so then I just start showing up late because I don't care and then I get laid off because I am no longer punctual (as is the case with my most recent contract, although I had some medical stuff mixed in that as well. It isn't that I don't have thick skin, but I just don't process criticism well, and become overly sensitive when I am put down, which doesn't bode well in this field. ) I just want to grow, to be successful, and to get as close to living a "normal" life as I can so I can finally settle down in a relationship and make life truly happen (you know, vacations, family, that sort of stuff.)
Thank you for your patience in reading this jumbled mess, and I appreciate everyone who graces me with their words of wisdom.
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Edit: removed "neurodivergent" from the post. I was unaware of the negative stigma associated with it, and have also read up (just now) on the resources provided. Thank you for that! | 2021-12-16T03:55:09.000Z | rhhu1v | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How do I organize myself? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhu1v/how_do_i_organize_myself/ |
Odd_Gazelle_7438 | I am getting assessed soon per my psychiatrist’s request. I do not know a lot about expressive language disorder, just that I seem to have the symptoms, so any information is appreciated! If you could share how you manage people’s reactions to your symptoms, that would be especially helpful! Thank you in advance :) | 2021-12-16T03:50:04.000Z | rhhqk1 | 6 | 4 | ADHD | Do you have expressive language disorder? If so, what is it like? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhqk1/do_you_have_expressive_language_disorder_if_so/ |
Full_Neighborhood576 | I was prescribed Ritalin today and my first dose would be tomorrow. However, tomorrow I’m taking a day trip to travel into NYC to see Spider-Man (my most anticipated movie of the year) at the Lincoln Square IMAX for the first time. Would it be best to wait until Friday to take the first dose? I ask because I’ve heard the side effects while adjusting to Ritalin can be rough, so I was wondering if the side effects would ruin my day. | 2021-12-16T03:49:29.000Z | rhhq53 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Question about starting Ritalin | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhq53/question_about_starting_ritalin/ |
entarian | Even though I won't notice it thanks to my white noise machine.
My noise cancelling headphones can get sore to wear too long, but don't always do the trick. Someone recommended a white noise machine to me, and I was skeptical, but it works. I am lucky enough to have a closeable door at work, but without it, I still get the audio distractions every time someone talks.
I will admit that I'm suspicious that I also have an audio processing disorder, but throw that baby on, and I can't hear you.
Also, my brain kind of tunes it out at some point, so it's not as annoying as you might think.
If you can, I recommend you at least try out a white noise generator app on your phone if you're having trouble with audio distraction. I think there are some free ones out there. | 2021-12-16T03:48:45.000Z | rhhpl1 | 3 | 5 | ADHD | Shout out to white noise machines | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhpl1/shout_out_to_white_noise_machines/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-16T03:47:45.000Z | rhhowq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm starting a new career in design, how honest should I be in the about me section? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhowq/im_starting_a_new_career_in_design_how_honest/ |
hockey-1997 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T03:44:17.000Z | rhhmjy | 6 | 2 | ADHD | How to get prescribed adderall IR instead of XR | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhmjy/how_to_get_prescribed_adderall_ir_instead_of_xr/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T03:42:01.000Z | rhhkyf | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Do you have expressive language disorder? If so, what is it like? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhkyf/do_you_have_expressive_language_disorder_if_so/ |
ToddErikson | Hi everyone,
I'm a 28 year old guy who has suffered from ADHD my entire life, however have been diagnosed and on stimulant medication for the past four years. I have noticed that being on medication continuously can cause tolerance of the dosage over time, and i am currently prescribed medication at the top of the FDA "recommended dosage" for my medication (I take 70mg Vyvance), and worry that I am becoming somewhat tolerant at this dosage.
I am in a unique position where my employer is going to provide me with the option for a sabbatical of almost two months, and thought I would use this time when I have less professional and personal responsibilities to titrate down my medication dosage/get off the medication for an extended period of time. I usually take "medication holidays" on weekends and do notice a slight increase in efficacy on Mondays, however I am curious if there are any long term med users who took a prolonged break from medication, and how long you would feel is needed to do so in order to either eliminate your tolerance or significantly reduce it? Does it take a matter of weeks/months/years? Also, I would be curious if there are any users who have their medication prescribed at a higher dosage than the "FDA guidelines" for the medication (or have a tacit aporoval from your doctor to increase the dosage above this threshold--I know that people metabolize both food and drugs at differing rates but wasn't sure if it was "taboo" to go over recommended dosage. Thanks for your thoughts! | 2021-12-16T03:37:37.000Z | rhhhzg | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Average Amount of Time Needed to "Reset" Stimulant Medication Tolerance | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhhzg/average_amount_of_time_needed_to_reset_stimulant/ |
throwaway827492959 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T03:36:57.000Z | rhhhiy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Life before internet? Life before cellphones? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhhiy/life_before_internet_life_before_cellphones/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T03:36:09.000Z | rhhgzt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Exam Questions Never Seem to be in the Class Material | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhhgzt/exam_questions_never_seem_to_be_in_the_class/ |
Pollywollychoco | I don’t know if this is a cause of ADHD, but sometimes a task will completely slip my mind and I will forget to do some thing and I will have no control over myself forgetting it. My stepdad annoyingly says that I can control it, but I don’t know if it works like that. Can someone maybe give an explanation please? | 2021-12-16T03:26:46.000Z | rhha8z | 9 | 3 | ADHD | Forgetfulness | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhha8z/forgetfulness/ |
uiucdreams | So my doctor told me today that my insurance won’t approve me getting brand name adderall and will have to stick to generics or try a medicine that they cover, which is practically nothing since it’s Medicaid. I’ve been taking brand name adderall more or less for 6 years and nothing else in the past has worked well for me. I recently picked up generic adderall and found that it did worse for me in terms of managing my adhd and made it impossible to sleep on it. I’m thinking about quitting seeking treatment for my adhd and figuring out how to navigate my life without it. Any tips or suggestions would be very much appreciated. | 2021-12-16T03:23:20.000Z | rhh7te | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Quitting my meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhh7te/quitting_my_meds/ |
Papercloudempath | I get overwhelmed really really easily when I’m not on Adderall. Emotions and sensory stimuli can both trigger it. I usually suppress it the best I can when I’m with anyone that isn’t my mom because I don’t want to make myself look like an idiot. I don’t know if my experience of being overwhelmed is the typical ADHD experience or if I should look into it more.
Anyways, here are my symptoms of being overwhelmed:
hitting myself in the head
Banging my head against things
Squealing/screeching
Not talking
Pulling at my hair
Rocking back and forth
Stomping
Flailing
Uncomfortable feeling in my chest, like pressure
Standing in a corner facing the wall
But then as soon as the emotion or stimuli goes away, I completely revert back to normal. I don’t think I used to do this as much when I was younger and it only happens when I’m off of Adderall.
Is this normal for ADHD? | 2021-12-16T03:14:34.000Z | rhh1fb | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Does my ADHD cause me to be overwhelmed? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhh1fb/does_my_adhd_cause_me_to_be_overwhelmed/ |
bunchabytes | I’ve been recently diagnosed, and my dr. Prescribed me adderall as my first stop on my medication journey. 10MG. It’s the adderall slow acting, Or slow release? Both? Either way I’m supposed to take it for a few weeks and report to her about my experience; specifically in regards to how it’s working. How would I know if I need to up it or not? I feel very different. Like I can finish a task, I’m more attentive etc. all the things you’d want to see. But I feel like it doesn’t last that long? Maybe like 4 to 5 hours tops. Am I doing this right?
TLDR: How do I know if I’m taking enough adderall? What has been your experience with gradual increases? | 2021-12-16T03:11:18.000Z | rhgz5f | 10 | 1 | ADHD | How do I know if I need a stronger prescription? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgz5f/how_do_i_know_if_i_need_a_stronger_prescription/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-16T03:10:27.000Z | rhgyik | 1 | 2 | ADHD | My Father has ADHD and sometime he hurt (emotionally) my mother. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgyik/my_father_has_adhd_and_sometime_he_hurt/ |
Notion1337 | Hey everyone,
**tl;dr:**
**I know from experience that I cant stay enthusiastic long enough to finish the semi-creative work (game development) that I plan to do. This insight recently made me stop trying. Now I want to change who I am for the first time in my life, in order to learn how to be enthusiastic about something for a whole freaking year. Any advice on how to stay motivated is more than welcome :)**
I always did dream big. When I was a kid I wanted to work in game development for Nintendo - after all I was the first student at my elementary school who managed to catch all 150 pokemon. yay.
Being confronted with actual game dev now that I am 30 and got a somewhat firm understanding of programming and game design paradigms, I suddenly stopped trying. During the last months I just start every day by writing TODO-lists and go to bed without a single check mark on any of the points I wrote down.
Why's that, I was pretending to wonder for some days. To be honest though, I knew it all along: I am frustrated from distracting myself, from sidetracking, from tearing all my ideas to shreds and start all over just because I suddenly feel like it, from my thoughts running in circles about maybe not exactly chasing the right kind of thing.
In short: I dont even make an effort because I am way too used to simply fail at the first major obstacle that makes me discard my idea and develop totally new ones.
It took me a lot to actually accept that conclusion, since I always regard myself as relentless optimist, as some who gives his best to not end up being an unhappy person. And I've always loved my ADD-symptoms to a certain degree: I was able to immerse myself in the brightest day dreams which offered so much in inspiration and motivation throughout many years of rather dull school, education, university.
Now I gotta do some evaluation though. I did decide to chase my dreams for a reason: I want to offer this kind of immersive mental shelter to others as well. I want to make games that allow them to find awe and inspiration, to awaken some spark in them, that makes them dream big and go after whatever makes them happy.
And in order to do that, I really need to change who I am. So for the first time in my life, I am ready to give up my daydreams and my daily mindset, in order to simply be more productive and finally finish something that I can share with other people.
I wouldnt really know how to start though. I know that I should talk with a psychologist or some other doctor about the issue and I will sooner or later, dont worry. But I wonder what I can do by myself to change my low frustration threshold. I want to learn to be enthusiastic about the same thing for a whole year.
**So I would be grateful for any advice, that helps with staying actually enthusiastic. I dont mean stuff like "use a day planner", because I will question the day planner if I feel like what I am doing is not worthy of being pursued. I really need some strategy that makes me focus on the awesome bits and pieces of my ideas, my work, my progress.** | 2021-12-16T03:09:38.000Z | rhgxw7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Chasing dreams, long term enthusiasm and Overcoming ADD-Frustration | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgxw7/chasing_dreams_long_term_enthusiasm_and/ |
lyycet | [removed] | 2021-12-16T03:09:28.000Z | rhgxrw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | So how do I learn over 70 questions and 100 terms the night before an exam | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgxrw/so_how_do_i_learn_over_70_questions_and_100_terms/ |
Full_Neighborhood576 | Okay so I’ve never been on stimulants before and I was prescribed Ritalin today and I’m supposed to take my first dose tomorrow. I’m honestly really scared because I read up on it today and saw that it’s an amphetamine and that you can go through withdrawal after taking it and I was told that heart racing is a common side affect while adjusting to it. My ADHD is really bad and I really do need medication, but…I’m honestly really scared. | 2021-12-16T03:07:52.000Z | rhgwly | 10 | 1 | ADHD | Was just prescribed Ritalin and I’m pretty scared. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgwly/was_just_prescribed_ritalin_and_im_pretty_scared/ |
babyblu_e | So, i’m really bad at staying on top of brushing my teeth. I can never remember to do it twice a day and to brush for a solid two minutes.. so I decided to do some research and find the best electric toothbrush to see if it would help!
It’s helped a ton so far! I really dislike the feeling of scrubbing my teeth with a toothbrush, and this one feels much better! It also vibrates when you need to move from one side of your teeth to another, and buzzes again after two minutes :-) It takes no focus or energy to use, and it’s kinda fun! I’m sure it’ll help me keep better care of my teeth and even though it was an initial investment, it’s cheaper than needing expensive dental work in the future!
Little info-dump below for anyone who wants advice on finding one that works for them, since I spent a really long time researching:
From what I found, Oral B has the best options since they use round brush heads which makes it easier to reach molars and get into tight spots- I went with the IO7 since costco has a two pack for half off right now, and gave the second one to my partner!
The IO7 seemed like the best option, there are two newer versions (IO8 and IO9) but they cost a lot more and don’t really have any features that justify the extra cost (except the IO9 has a travel case that charges the brush, which would be helpful for someone who travels a lot- although the battery lasts two weeks already so it’s not super necessary) They also have cute magnetic charging stands that look great in my bathroom, so forgetting to charge isn’t an issue! There is also an IO6, but it doesn’t have the magnetic charger and would have been more expensive than the discounted 7s I got.
A more budget friendly option would be the pro 1500, which has almost all of the features I enjoy but is a bit less aesthetically pleasing and supposedly louder and a bit weaker. Another positive of this option is that the replacement heads are more affordable than the IO line! There is also the Pro 1000 which is the least expensive and most basic, but it’ll get the job done just fine!
The Oral B website has all of their features listed so it’s easy to compare :-) | 2021-12-16T03:06:57.000Z | rhgvzq | 9 | 7 | ADHD | I just got an electric toothbrush and i’m in love!! Its helped so much! | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgvzq/i_just_got_an_electric_toothbrush_and_im_in_love/ |
aa12bb | I'm really interested in Intuniv but on an old Reddit thread someone mentioned it caused heart valve disorder. Does anyone know anything about that? Would clonodine be an alternative safer drug? Just looking for some user experiences with it.
Either way, I'll ask about it tomorrow to my doctor. I am going to use this pair with my Adderall as I have heard great success stories. | 2021-12-16T03:05:14.000Z | rhgus7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Intuniv causes heart valve disorder? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgus7/intuniv_causes_heart_valve_disorder/ |
aa12bb | [removed] | 2021-12-16T03:02:55.000Z | rhgt1s | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Intuniv causes heart valve disorder? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgt1s/intuniv_causes_heart_valve_disorder/ |
Ok_Butterscotch9694 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T02:56:05.000Z | rhgo3y | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I finally tried my first dose of Adderall and it was a terrible experience. I don't know what to do now. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgo3y/i_finally_tried_my_first_dose_of_adderall_and_it/ |
Saginine | Hi! I’m trying to get schoolwork done but the subject does not interest me at all. I can’t keep my focus on it for more than 3 minutes at a time with 1-2 hour breaks in between. I extremely behind on school work and the stress is making my focus so much worse. I have this issue that if I know It wont be perfect I wont even attempt to start it, and that is also really affecting me. I’ve tried music, white noise, no noise, working with a friend, everything! Nothing works and I’m so lost on what to do anymore | 2021-12-16T02:55:06.000Z | rhgngj | 7 | 1 | ADHD | I can’t get school work done | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgngj/i_cant_get_school_work_done/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-16T02:52:57.000Z | rhglvx | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Help, how do I get productivity back after I lose momentum? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhglvx/help_how_do_i_get_productivity_back_after_i_lose/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T02:50:51.000Z | rhgkgq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I can’t do homework, and stressing over it is making it worse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgkgq/i_cant_do_homework_and_stressing_over_it_is/ |
lazyesperantist | It seems like my mind is frozen. I wasn't diagnosed, but i show a lotta symptoms from ADHD, like the short attention span and avoiding activities that take too long or are boring like it was death itself.
But now, i'm feeling like i can't decide on anything, i can't blink and it feels like i'm either trapped inside my body or seeing myself in third person. It didn't have a trigger, apparently, so i'm hella confused.
I know this is similar to some ADHD symptoms, so... I came here to seek help, since i don't have a therapist or anyone with that knowledge | 2021-12-16T02:50:37.000Z | rhgkal | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Ok so... I'm kinda frozen | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhgkal/ok_so_im_kinda_frozen/ |
Biomaj_8 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T02:46:59.000Z | rhghtn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta Withdraw | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhghtn/concerta_withdraw/ |
confusedfog | I found a way to consistently eat vegetables everyday. I picked three vegetables that last a relatively long time in the fridge and that are relatively easy to prepare and I just have the same salad everyday.
* Cucumbers
* Bell peppers
* Spinach
* Ready made chicken strips or canned salmon
* Croutons
Been eating this consistently for about 3 weeks and I still love it. Eating my greens makes me feel healthy :) I am the kind of person that can eat the same thing everyday and still like it though lol. At least now it's healthy. | 2021-12-16T02:44:46.000Z | rhggaf | 26 | 96 | ADHD | Yay! I figured out how to eat vegetables everyday :) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhggaf/yay_i_figured_out_how_to_eat_vegetables_everyday/ |
NoLandBeyond_ | I successfully managed a small team of analysts who's jobs were to deliver accurate and timely reporting to high profile clients. Failing to do so would have cost my company millions in penalties. Ahhh!
I, like many of you in corporate America have an inbox filled with unread emails. An outbox littered with slow replies, and a history of missing meetings. I'm a disaster - but somehow I've been successful in a role that is the kryptonite of many with ADHD.
Why management when you can barely manage yourself?!
- because teams are made up of people with strengths and weaknesses, including yourself! With ADHD you know all of your flaws all too well - but you also have oversight of the dynamics of your team and their strengths and weaknesses.
I'll never be able to keep hundreds of files and reports organized, but a woman on my team finds organizing things "relaxing!" So that task was delegated to her - and she did it well.
Audit my team's work? Boring! I'll have members of the account team peer review it and report back to me any irregularities.
They key here is - one person's weakness is another person's strength - and allowing a person to successfully use their strengths builds confidence and satisfaction in the work that they do. At the same time I took them off of the things that they considered weaknesses and delegated it to me.
What about all of the distractions that come from managing people?!
- its all about setting boundaries!
First thing I did was let them work from home well before covid made it normal. 1) their jobs were boring and involved minimal coordination between each other B) the deadlines were their true manager.
Second thing I did (this was easy) was ignore their instant messages! Yes - I let 3 hours go by sometimes before even clicking on that blinking icon!
Why? Because 9/10 times they had the answer to their question, but asking their boss can be an instant answer with less thinking. Ignoring them forces them to answer their own questions. Any emergencies are what phones are for.
Third --- I made sure we always had a team meeting each week and used that time as the best way to bring things forward - especially everything in their IMs that they couldn't answer and I ignored. I wanted to keep some distance, but also let them know there are times when they can have my undivided attention.
So don't let management scare you! Often I read on here the ADHD curse: "I know exactly what I have to do, but I just can't do it!"
The first half of that sentence is your strength, the second half is where your team comes in:
"I know exactly what I have to do, and I'm lucky to have a team that can do it!"
Am I still managing that team? No, after 4 years I got bored with it and did something else somewhere else. Lol
Good luck out there! | 2021-12-16T02:29:31.000Z | rhg5r5 | 20 | 70 | ADHD | Why managing others may be your best career move... Seriously | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhg5r5/why_managing_others_may_be_your_best_career_move/ |
AnnieOscillator | Once I get the hang of the new job I know everything about the business I'm working for... and I'm good.
......but in the beginning someone might have to show me a task a couple of times for it to stick. Mostly because I'm thinking waaaaaay to hard about the process I'm being told, aaaaaand thinking about myself making mistakes in the future that I would be ridiculed for.
I don't truly take in all the information the first time being told unless it's something that triggers some distant memory or an "oh fuck I better remember this shit" response.
I ask multiple questions because I need an answer/reason why I'm doing something so it will stick in my memory.
I make ONE weird mistake and then everyone identifies me as the "air head" type person forever, no matter how hard I bust my ass or how much I know.
This might not have read well sorry if it doesn't make sense.
.... I dunno.
I guess it was a rant but I don't want to feel like I'm alone on this.
I'm just so sick of it.
I could run circles around most of the people I have worked under but they always think I'm dumb.
*edit* Thanks for the silver kind stranger!
I wasn’t expecting many people to see/reply to my post and ..honestly I forgot I posted that for a day or so…
but I love you all ! thank you for validating me. I needed it. Oh and I’m still getting back to everyone that replied… it might take me a minute lol. | 2021-12-16T02:27:52.000Z | rhg4mq | 28 | 169 | ADHD | HEY I'm new at this job. It doesn't mean I'm stupid or not capable. Y'all ever feel this?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhg4mq/hey_im_new_at_this_job_it_doesnt_mean_im_stupid/ |
ahhhhhhhhh1hhh | I submitted my application to graduate school today! Now here comes my real challenge: waiting.
Any tips on how to not hyperfixate on things like this? I find myself obsessively checking results for exams and whatnot, and I am probably going to do the same with my email waiting to see my acceptance/denial letter, which I *know* is at least a month away from arriving. How do you cope with waiting? | 2021-12-16T02:27:34.000Z | rhg4ex | 6 | 4 | ADHD | How do you cope with waiting while having ADHD and Anxiety? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhg4ex/how_do_you_cope_with_waiting_while_having_adhd/ |
Noob_at_games | This is going to sound weird, but I want to get it off my chest. I apologize for the wall of text I know I'm about to write.
There has been something wrong with me mentally my whole life. It's hard to put my finger on it exactly. It's incredibly hard to explain, but if I had to it's like this:
My internal monologue is always going, ever since I was little, I was always analyzing things. Overthinking. Looking at peoples expressions, trying to fit into what they want me to be, but internally deeply unhappy.
The thing is this, for as long as I can remember now, I don't have any drive. That's weird to write, but like, I want nothing. I never have. I just want to do nothing. The problem is, if you were to give me the opportunity to do nothing. I'd want to do something. I'm always unhappy. If I feel like being social, I'll hate being lonely, then I hang out with people, I just want to be by myself.
I'm basically a slave to dopamine. If you asked me for my perfect life. It would literally include Sex, Theme parks, food, movies and video games. That's it. Anything outside of that I can't give a shit about.
The biggest reason I think ADD might be the answer here is focus. Again, for as long as I can remember I've always had difficulties focusing, mainly and especially on things I find boring. Study for me has two phases.
Phase 1. Okay I get this. As I'm reading, I get it. Instantly. So much so, it's usually boring and I'll find my mind wandering or myself multitasking.
Phase 2. What the fuck. Phase two happens a lot. At this point I've hit something I can't just breeze through. I have to stop. In some cases, I can't even grasp what the hell the teacher (or book) is trying to tell me, it's just so far from what we were learning that it may as well be in a different language. I'll find my mind wandering, frustrated and almost always give up.
As an example, because this literally just happened. I was working through a coding book, and it was literally, this is a command, this is what it does, and blah blah blah I understood it all fully. Then all of a sudden, the guy pulled out a full expression using code that up until that point had not been mentioned at all. Was I just supposed to take it a face value, or was I supposed to understand what each individual component of that meant, how could I without looking it up. ARGH IM LOST. BACK TO REDDIT!!!
The flaw to my theory is that I can do shit? Like I'm disciplined (except when it comes to study). I work incredibly well with physical jobs. I need to work out every day. No worries. Put down something on my "workout" sheet and I'll do it. Every day for years. No problem. Need laundry done. Huge mountain of clothes. No problem. A hole dug.. tell me the depth and I'll get it done. Spend 30 minutes a day learning to code. NO ARGHHH ANYTHING BUT THAT!!!!! I'm alt-tabbing, checking my phone, closing the book, going to the toilet. Getting a drink. ANYTHING BUT THAT.
Even when reading, my comprehension is so low. Anything more than a paragraph and my mind wanders.
On the outside everyone things my life is fine. I have a good job, house, girlfriend. We go on holidays, but inside, I'm a wreck!
The lack of focus and lack of drive have really hampered my career, and yet when I look at that work I laugh because I don't want to be one of those guys who works themselves to death. I want to have enough money that I no longer have to worry about money and not a cent more. I get no joy or satisfaction out of my job, I literally work so I can afford to live. I'm frugal, but where I'm living the cost of living is high. My savings are going up, but not enough that I'll be able to retire early or anything like that.
On top of this: I'm anxious. All the time. If my girlfriend and I have a fight. I can't do anything for the rest of the day. I have to resolve it. If I make a mistake, even a minor one, I'll lament on it like it's the end of the world, and yet this stuff frequently happens because I'm so lazy and unfocused.
I'd appreciate any insight into this if someone ANYONE has any. | 2021-12-16T02:26:08.000Z | rhg3f6 | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Could ADD be the answer? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhg3f6/could_add_be_the_answer/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-16T02:24:22.000Z | rhg26m | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Something I just remembered from childhood... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhg26m/something_i_just_remembered_from_childhood/ |
Mother_Ad3692 | I’ve been told by my therapist i have a decently high chance of having adhd, not diagnosed officially but it’s a step i guess 🤷♂️
basically i cannot do things if i don’t see them as “fun” basically anything that doesn’t make me have that dopamine rush i guess? whenever i try to do it i lose so much motivation it’s almost physically painful and impossible to do the task and i just sit there kinda paralysed and weak. Does this have anything to do with adhd? or is it something different | 2021-12-16T02:15:36.000Z | rhfway | 9 | 11 | ADHD | Is this apart of having adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhfway/is_this_apart_of_having_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-16T02:13:07.000Z | rhfukw | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Help! Emotional disregulation is ruining my relationships. | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhfukw/help_emotional_disregulation_is_ruining_my/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T02:07:56.000Z | rhfr3i | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Got diagnosed today. Looking for any advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhfr3i/got_diagnosed_today_looking_for_any_advice/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T02:02:14.000Z | rhfn4r | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just started taking Vyvanse (30f) a week ago and it has, not to be dramatic, changed my life for the better!!! Except one little problem. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhfn4r/i_just_started_taking_vyvanse_30f_a_week_ago_and/ |
JustMorallycorrupt | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:59:35.000Z | rhfl01 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is Ritalin better or Adderall. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhfl01/is_ritalin_better_or_adderall/ |
RhubarbSilly5734 | Hey friends, I was recently diagnosed ADHD and prescribed Ritalin SR 20mg. I picked up my meds today and I am really nervous to take the first dose. I used to occasionally take a friend's Dexedrine and they made me anxious... can I expect the same effects from my slow release Ritalin? I asked my doctor if I should take them on a normal work day and go to work and he said yes that's fine, but I'm considering putting it off till the weekend. Thoughts and support would be greatly appreciated! | 2021-12-16T01:56:34.000Z | rhfix9 | 11 | 2 | ADHD | Nervous to take my first dose of meds.. what can I expect? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhfix9/nervous_to_take_my_first_dose_of_meds_what_can_i/ |
unkempt_cabbage | It won’t take me super long. Maybe 2 hours total. I have no reason to not have it done already. It’s fairly straightforward and something I know how to do. But I’m just so stuck today. I’m getting nothing done. And now I’m mad that I’m getting nothing done so I’m focused on that.
Anyone have any good tricks to jumpstart your executive functioning? My deadline for this task is today but even that’s not enough. | 2021-12-16T01:52:44.000Z | rhfg9u | 8 | 2 | ADHD | I need to get some work done for my job, but my executive functioning has decided it’s not happening today. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhfg9u/i_need_to_get_some_work_done_for_my_job_but_my/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:51:36.000Z | rhffik | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What’s better? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhffik/whats_better/ |
Purplellow | Even though I struggled, and only managed because I was interested + I gamified the process
I maybe don’t have adhd, but I am curious to hear if there are people diagnosed with ADHD who had managed to study specific topics before their diagnosis and without medication.
I don’t want to list my experience with indie projects or normal life tasks and why I thought I might have ADHD, but her direct conclusion confused me, part of me wishes she was right so I can move on and try to find the answers to my struggles, but what if it was it. Unfortunately I can’t see a specialist without the family doctor referral. But my experience was weird, she insisted she doesn’t want to talk about the possibility. I told her that I have been avoiding diagnosis because I personally tend to avoid medication even when I had depression just so she can try to hear me. But she kept saying you managed to get school work done before so you can’t have adhd, without even trying to listen what kind of things and how…
The thing is, I know that I managed sometimes but I LOST so much to manage, just because I managed to do it doesn’t mean I didn’t had so much difficulty managing.. and she insisted that I must now manage my time because I am stressed. I stopped sharing why I am stressed and how I am so aware of all the stress management techniques but never managed to stick to them because I simply forget about them and stick in a loop.
Idk how much awareness people need to at least try to listen before they judge. | 2021-12-16T01:48:24.000Z | rhfde2 | 32 | 20 | ADHD | Family doctor said I can’t have ADHD because I managed to study for exams | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhfde2/family_doctor_said_i_cant_have_adhd_because_i/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:45:35.000Z | rhfbh5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Diarrhea on their meds? I started a week ago and it’s been the only negative side effect. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhfbh5/diarrhea_on_their_meds_i_started_a_week_ago_and/ |
chugs_balls420 | Just wondering if other people with adhd have trouble finishing video games? I’ve read a lot of posts saying that people with adhd enjoy video games. But I find it hard to finish any game once I get to a basic level with it, I get over it easy and want to move onto the next game….Never finishing any game. I have given up on starting any new game at this point.
it’s not just video games, but also instruments, hobbies, general interests. I intensely get into something get to a level then move onto something else. Been happening my whole life.
Anyone else experiencing the same issues and is it related to adhd? | 2021-12-16T01:42:57.000Z | rhf9qa | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Hard to finish video games or anything for that matter.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhf9qa/hard_to_finish_video_games_or_anything_for_that/ |
NoDrummer9011 | Hello everyone. I’ve got a TOVA test in the morning. It has been bumped up from early January, so everything is a bit sudden.
Does anyone have any experience of these tests? The person I spoke to would only say that it was a computer program to test my ‘response to stimuli’, but wouldn’t say anything else (I even jokingly asked if a ‘response to stimuli’ meant I would be poked with sticks, but that didn’t go down too well).
Am nervous about diagnosis- feel like I have a lot riding on this emotionally. I see so many matching symptoms, particularly with executive dysfunction, but other times I feel like it’s all in my head and I’m making it up. I guess I’ll find out tomorrow! | 2021-12-16T01:42:10.000Z | rhf98e | 2 | 0 | ADHD | TOVA Test tomorrow | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhf98e/tova_test_tomorrow/ |
Ill-Relative6137 | I know a lot of people with ADHD have trouble regulating emotions, but I wanna know if this is some form of bipolarism? I find myself swinging between several different emotions. I experience the highest highs and the lowest lows. And this all happens without any rhyme or reason. Thankfully, I’m back on my meds so things are easier now. But I still wanna know, is bipolarism linked to ADD/ADHD? | 2021-12-16T01:36:24.000Z | rhf5ig | 17 | 0 | ADHD | Are ADHD people bipolar? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhf5ig/are_adhd_people_bipolar/ |
EmergencyWeather | Right now I am so tired I cannot do anything. It's only 8:30. I can also already tell that my brain is not going to allow me to sleep tonight. It's going to fucking suck, and tomorrow is going to fucking suck. I hate that my brain does this. I hate that I know this is what's going to happen no matter what I do. | 2021-12-16T01:35:21.000Z | rhf4te | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Rough night incoming | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhf4te/rough_night_incoming/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:35:09.000Z | rhf4nr | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Clonidine and alcohol | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhf4nr/clonidine_and_alcohol/ |
Purplellow | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:33:25.000Z | rhf3i8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Family doctor said I can’t have ADHD because I managed to study for exams. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhf3i8/family_doctor_said_i_cant_have_adhd_because_i/ |
Ill-Relative6137 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:30:18.000Z | rhf1bc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Are most ADHD people bipolar? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhf1bc/are_most_adhd_people_bipolar/ |
baabaablacksheep4 | Hello. So I have this problem where my brain literally can't focus on anything and then I get anxiety.
When I try to focus on doing several things in one day I end up thinking about all of them, getting easily overwhelmed, and then I just can't focus at all. At that moment my anxiety spikes and I'm just useless for the rest of the day until I sleep at night. This usually happens during work.
I don't know why this happens or what to do about it or even if it is ADHD. Any ideas? I feel like my brain fizzles out. | 2021-12-16T01:26:02.000Z | rheyde | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Is This An ADHD Thing? - Multitasking, Focusing On Too Many Things and Anxiety | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rheyde/is_this_an_adhd_thing_multitasking_focusing_on/ |
danlsn | **TL;DR:** I want YOUR help writing a checklist to help me decide what to do any given day, and \*maybe\* it will help you too?
Long time reader, first-time poster! I struggle making decisions on what to do, whether it be projects or hobbies or anything really. I get carried away by the shiny stuff and only realise way later that maybe it wasn't the \*best\* thing to do at the time.
I approach these kinds of things by trying to structure them so I spend less emotional energy making decisions. So, I drafted this list of questions to ask myself when I'm considering or project, or making decisions of any kind:
1. \- Why do I **want** to do this thing?
2. \- What's the **purpose** of the thing?
3. \- What does the thing make me **feel**?
4. \- Is the thing a **net positive** or **net negative**?
5. \- What **sort of thing** is it? Eg, learning, recreating, creating, working, spending, planning, etc?
6. \- Am I doing the thing because it's **shiny**?
7. \- Have I **wanted** to do the thing **before**?
8. \- **Who** are you doing this thing for? You or someone else?
9. \- Do you **have everything** you need to do the thing? Do you need to do **something else** first?
10. \- Am I **avoiding** something else in order to do this thing?
11. \- Is the thing going to help me **now**, or in the **future**? Or, at all?
12. \- How much **time** should the thing take? How long will it \***really**\* take?
13. \- **When** are you going to do the thing?
14. \- **Why** shouldn't you do the thing?
15. \- Does the thing make you feel **guilty**? Does that **matter**?
16. \- Does the thing **need to be done**? **Really**?
17. \- Is this thing a **commitment** or a **one-of**f?
18. \- Does this thing help you achieve any **goals?**
If you have any other suggestions or input I'd really appreciate it!
TIA! | 2021-12-16T01:21:42.000Z | rhevj9 | 3 | 7 | ADHD | I want to make better decisions... a checklist | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhevj9/i_want_to_make_better_decisions_a_checklist/ |
dumbnunt_ | I don't know why, but the open-ended questions they sometimes have on askreddit make my mind freeze up, and then I feel nervous and uncomfortable. I don't know that it's that I can't think of "the most humiliating time I..." or "how would you like the world to \_\_\_\_ with your significant other".. it's the same mental deficit that makes it really difficult for me to make up games, create hypothetical questions my students can enjoy, and also make up lesson plans. I thought I'm a creative person, but creating things like this is difficult, maybe for the executive functioning aspect?
Is this related to ADHD? Does someone else have trouble making up games and planning lessons for multiple people? | 2021-12-16T01:21:21.000Z | rhevak | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Open-Ended Questions/Making Up Games | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhevak/openended_questionsmaking_up_games/ |
Graham_FMC | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:18:42.000Z | rhetg6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD misconceptions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhetg6/adhd_misconceptions/ |
prettylilpineapple | I’ve been back on my ADHD meds for about 7-8 months now, and I’ve been back in therapy the same amount. I’ve noticed that as my body has adjusted to all my medications that my sensory issues have gotten worse.
If a grocery store is too crowded I begin to panic. Lights suddenly too bright, sounds are like roaring in my ears. I have to clench and unclench my hands and stretch my fingers out and pace to help burn away the over-stimulation anxiety. Auditory processing issues have increased, food sensitivity has increased, other weird sensory issues I have (like my skin touching itself, hyperaware of my bodily functions etc) have also worsened.
Anyone else experience this?
Side note: i also have separate diagnoses that are GAD and CPTSD. | 2021-12-16T01:16:58.000Z | rhesbh | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Increased Sensory Issues? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhesbh/increased_sensory_issues/ |
Secure-Ad-8825 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:16:55.000Z | rhesa7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Hyper focus & Medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhesa7/hyper_focus_medication/ |
Comfortable-Fox-94 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:15:55.000Z | rherki | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Feel like I have no direction in life | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rherki/feel_like_i_have_no_direction_in_life/ |
SurrenderthatGuitar | Hello fellow ADHDers! I myself am a sophomore college student who just found out last year that I have ADHD in my Freshman year of college. I honestly have been doing really terrible in school, and feel extremely guilty because I know I have the capability to complete them, I have no cognitive issues, just executive dysfunction and poor time management. Completion also tends to be a struggle for me as well. Any tips? Or apps you would recommend? | 2021-12-16T01:12:42.000Z | rhepbd | 0 | 1 | ADHD | The Woes of an ADHD college student | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhepbd/the_woes_of_an_adhd_college_student/ |
PuroresuDrifter | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:07:03.000Z | rhel9j | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I love trying new things but when I do, it usually ends up like this | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhel9j/i_love_trying_new_things_but_when_i_do_it_usually/ |
somewherenowhere30 | As the title indicates, I feel like a burden on everyone because I have ADD. Sure, people tell you to "get back up" but that's easier said than done when you have ADD. For instance, let's say that I want to study and I have the best intentions to study but, because of ADD, I feel like I'm in a fog and, no matter how many times I write something down, I always forget a concept or definition for something basic.
I just feel if that person doesn't have ADD, that person can't tell someone to get their "act" together. It's like telling someone with depression to suck it up and expect them to automatically get better.
On a somewhat related note: I feel like this rant goes parallels the inequalities in education and college admissions. But more importantly, this highlights why we need to abolish grades. No, people who have ADD are not lazy whatsoever and they want to do their best BUT if that person has trouble following instructions and is clearly trying their best, why should they be graded? Why should that person feel more stigmatized based off of something genetic and something that they cannot control no matter how hard they try. | 2021-12-16T01:05:27.000Z | rhek4u | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Feeling Like A Loser | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhek4u/feeling_like_a_loser/ |
truckbomb99 | [removed] | 2021-12-16T01:04:35.000Z | rhejij | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I have an impulsive urge to just take things that doesn’t belong to me. Not just shoplifting but In a general aspect of going through things that aren’t mine. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rhejij/i_have_an_impulsive_urge_to_just_take_things_that/ |
toesinmypocket | I want to give my experience with Donefirst so that others won't be lulled into the same false sense of security that a healthcare provider *should* give a person.
I had been a patient with Donefirst for a few months, and put in a medication refill request for my Wellbutrin, Effexor, and Adderall on November 25 which have all been the same since starting, with no new changes. I had about a week of meds left. About 4-5 days go by and I hear nothing from my provider. I reach out to customer support, let them know my situation and what will happen if I'm out of meds, and I am told they'll figure out what's going on.
A couple of more days go by and still nothing from my provider or Donefirst. I'm getting nervous because I'm down to my last couple of days of meds. I follow-up with Donefirst and get the same generic "we're escalating this request" message.
*\*crickets\**
I'm now out of meds. I can usually go a day before I start to have withdrawals of serious nausea, vertigo, skin crawling (gets worse because of my eczema), risk of seizures, severe drops in sodium levels, and more. It takes up to 3 weeks to stabilize after stopping cold turkey.
Day 2 of no meds: I'm feeling the side effects starting. I keep contacting Donefirst and am given the same copy-paste message that they're escalating it as always. I call their emergency line and can't get ahold of anyone. More emails back and forth, more empty promises that they'll get the medication to me ASAP. I ask to be switched to a new provider or anyone that can authorize the refill. I told them even if I don't get a refill of Adderall, it's fine - I just need my Wellbutrin and Effexor. I'm told they have no one that can authorize it besides my current provider, and they can't get ahold of her. I was told they have no upper management or other provider who can authorize an existing and pre-authorized prescription. I filed a TX Board of Nursing complaint and informed Donefirst I had done so. It doesn't phase them.
Day 3 of no meds: I'm in bed at this point because of the vertigo and nausea. I've scratched my skin to bleeding. I can't sleep and I can hardly keep anything down. I finally get through to Donefirst emergency line. I'm told that I have to switch from my pharmacy that's been on file to their ScripX home delivery service if I want to get my meds. I told them ok, whatever it takes. After they authorize the change, I'm told that it will take another 24-48 hours at least before my meds will get delivered after ScripX contacts me.
I've reiterated to them the severity of my situation, and am met with the same rinse and repeat message. I had to cancel the job interview at this point.
ScripX contacts me, they have the complete wrong Rx information. I am told to contact Donefirst again.
At this point I'm concerned for my health so I contact my brother-in-law who is a doctor (he lives out of state) and once I told him my medications and how long I'd gone without, he told me to get my meds STAT - I was likely going to have a seizure if I went much longer and would be hospitalized.
I found a telehealth service that could see me that day (on a late Sunday afternoon), and within 15 minutes I was prescribed 3 months supply of my meds (minus the Adderall) and it was sent to my pharmacy. I contacted Donefirst about this and was told that in seeking care elsewhere I violated their terms of service and they are terminating my membership. Bewildered, I asked "At the advice of a doctor I sought medical treatment because my life was in danger, which was because you were unable to get my medication to me in nearly 3 weeks, and you are saying I should not have sought medical attention?" I was told "Yes, that is correct. Due to liability."
A week or so later (Dec 10), a bottle of Adderall shows up on my doorstep. So much for liability.
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Note: I'm ok now, fortunately, but it did take several days for me to stabilize. My skin still crawls, though. After threats of legal action, Donefirst reimbursed me for the telehealth service and one month of service that they promised I'd have free due to all of this. I had to contact my bank to reverse the membership charge for month of November where literally nothing was being done. It's obvious their customer support is outsourced, and they receive no training.
Note 2: I uploaded the chain of emails to Imgur in case anyone is curious. A good percentage of the conversation happened over the phone and in Instagram and Facebook messages as well, but the majority of it over email. Here's that madness: [https://imgur.com/a/bKidYWN](https://imgur.com/a/bKidYWN)
Update: WOW! Donefirst is challenging a lot of the reviews I left elsewhere. I'm sharing the imgur link as proof!
**tl;dr Donefirst is the reason I was nearly hospitalized, missed out on a job opportunity because I had to cancel my interview, and had it not been for torte reform in Texas, I'd have a viable medical malpractice suit.** | 2021-12-16T01:00:40.000Z | rheglg | 14 | 22 | ADHD | Donefirst ADHD: A Cautionary Tale of Popup Online ADHD Care Providers | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rheglg/donefirst_adhd_a_cautionary_tale_of_popup_online/ |
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