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Wildjay7931 | I cannot seem to get myself to go to sleep when I need to. The later it gets, the more I feel "I should do" before I go to sleep. And then I'm up so late I miss class (College student). I can wake up just fine, but getting myself to go to sleep on time is so very difficult. And not just once, I need to make going to sleep on time a habbit. Any tips? Thank you! | 2021-10-13T23:13:06.000Z | q7n3df | 28 | 24 | ADHD | How to get yourself to go to sleep? | 0.97 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7n3df/how_to_get_yourself_to_go_to_sleep/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-13T23:00:30.000Z | q7mv68 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I’m interviewing folks with ADHD who have an experience self-medicating with cannabis. I find it to be a really interesting and nuanced relationship, and many of us are trying to understand it better. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7mv68/im_interviewing_folks_with_adhd_who_have_an/ |
Cdawgz042 | I don't even know where to start. I am so emotionally distraught right now due to my actions. It feels like my heart is about to burst out of my chest.
To begin with, our relationship has been a struggle for the past couple years, mostly due to my lack of effort in multiple areas and inability to be there for her like she needed me to be. She had followed me out to my new job I had just gotten out of college, and we were excited to start a new chapter by living together. I quickly found that the work wasn't truly fulfilling for me, especially after I got transferred to a new department. Deep down I knew I wasn't doing very well as I wasn't listening to music like I used to and had a hard time enjoying other things that were previously fun for me. She repeatedly encouraged me to seek therapy, but I continually forgot to prioritize that. Fast forward to more recent events.
In February 2020 I expressed an interest in trying day trading, as it was infinitely more interesting to me than my electrical engineering job was. However, this is where I truly started to fuck things up. It wasn't easy, and I failed to be open and honest with her about how I was struggling. I slowly accumulated a massive amount of debt, continued to procrastinate, and almost felt afraid to actually enter trades and sit at the desk even though I wanted to. In the meantime, I continued to put on a façade of everything being okay, borrowed a ton of money from my parents to try to get myself back on my feet, but it never happened. Eventually I sought diagnosis/treatment for ADHD, and that did seem like it helped with my ability to focus, but it didn't eliminate the crushing feeling of being a failure and failed to alleviate my fears even though I felt more present. Everything came to a head when I got our electricity turned off, was far behind on rent, and we were being "soft" evicted.
We cried a lot together at what I had done and she felt partly to blame, but I truly think all of the fault lies with me. I moved back in with my parents, and she with her mom, and I set out to try to make things right. I got the rent paid so that we didn't get an eviction on our records, but soon I lost all my momentum and began to lie again. The relationship was improving, but under false pretenses. I focused completely on the wrong thing. She made it crystal clear that if I lied again, we were done. And yet I closed myself off to her once more and didn't heed those words. Last Friday I came clean that we wouldn't be moving back in together into a rental house, and that I was flat broke again. Told her I had been sending her fake screenshots and shit for a good month or so, just like I did before. I am disgusted with myself.
She has cut things off; this time I believe it is for good. My heart aches as it's finally dawned on me just how badly I have fucked up and that I seriously need to work on myself. She loved me so much, and I spat in her face. I've put her through so much pain and trauma, that I seriously doubt she would ever forgive me. I am tired of using my mental health as an excuse for my shitty and downright emotionally abusive behavior at times. It's killing me inside; I never wanted any of this. Foolish as it may seem, I can only cling onto a shred of hope that if I fix my finances, and mental health, maybe she will give it a second chance to start fresh. I hate myself, and she stated she doesn't know who I am anymore. Yesterday, I had my first therapy appointment, and I feel good about them. What struck me was when my therapist said, "I can tell how much you love her." If that's true, *why* couldn't I change myself sooner? *Why* was it so hard to follow through every time I made her cry due to my actions? I am so incredibly frustrated and angry with myself. I also asked my psychiatrist to go on Wellbutrin in hopes that helps with my depression and anhedonia. Finally, I am taking the steps to make myself better, but it's likely too late... She has stated she is tired of waiting, and rightfully so. I would do literally anything in the world to try to fix things once I am in a better place, but I know I need to be realistic, as I may never get that chance. I can only hope to show her how much I truly love her through my actions, as all I could give her before before were empty promises, that I so desperately wanted to keep, but never could.
What am I supposed to do? I feel so lost without her, but I know I need to be strong, to finally stand up and fight. In my heart I am fighting for her, even if it may be futile. | 2021-10-13T22:49:43.000Z | q7mnwk | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I Allowed my Depression and ADHD to Destroy my Relationship of 5 Years | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7mnwk/i_allowed_my_depression_and_adhd_to_destroy_my/ |
yeeet1234 | I'm not asking for medical advice, just want to know if anyone's experienced the same thing. I don't know what's really going on but I feel like I've plateaued. I take my meds except for the weekends but I still struggle with my ADHD quite a bit. I overshare quite often, I get overwhelmed by most tasks, I'm not sure my ADHD meds are even working and I just went up from Adderall 10 mg 2X a day to 12.5 mg 2X a day. I really don't know how I'm going to make it through this semester or my job with my meds barely making an impact and me virtually reverting back to my typical ADHD self.
I don't know if I'm going to be able to tell my doctor they aren't working after she just upped my dosage. Maybe I could ask for her to switch my meds? I don't know what to do but the meds were helping so much up until a few weeks ago. | 2021-10-13T22:48:08.000Z | q7mmss | 9 | 5 | ADHD | Meds not working anymore? | 0.79 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7mmss/meds_not_working_anymore/ |
EggplantFamiliar3563 | **Long version:**
I got recently diagnosed and I´m in the process of meds. None of the stimulants seem to work for me, no helpful parts and side effects. Side effects tend to vary, most are just constant headache and no appetite that even after taking for weeks just wasn´t changing. The final try with stimulants side effects are alot worse, thought its my first day. If they stay this bad tomorrow its a no go for sure. Dosage has also been messed with a few times and it still doesn´t help and just makes side effects almost unmanagable.
The next try is gonna be non-stimulants, which I don´t really understand the difference and haven´t gotten/found a clear explanation of it other then it takes awhile to take effect.
This whole process is getting a bit to much for me, I feel like a test experiment just getting more side effects then adult take control, nothing changes and then its either ¨give it more time¨ or ¨a new one¨ and I´m getting kind of sick of it. And everytime I try to describe part of it, it feels like my mum or the meds person takes a small bit of it and ignores the rest. Trying to explain ¨It might have helped but it was also a day we did something I enjoy so its hard to tell since its easy to focus on that anyway¨ gets turned into ¨it helped¨, etc.
What can I do anymore? Social anxiety isn´t helping me speak up, and when I do then it doesn´t even help. And all this meds stuff is just getting overwhelming and to much. I can´t even figure out what their telling me I should do is.
**TL;DR**
Does anyone have a simple explanation of the difference between stimulant meds and non-stimulant meds? And what to do if your loosing control over all the sudden meds stuff? | 2021-10-13T22:47:06.000Z | q7mm42 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Meds help? I don´t know how to feel | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7mm42/meds_help_i_dont_know_how_to_feel/ |
bummersideaccount | being excited for something is the worst. it’s like “waiting mode” on steroids. it’s all i can think about for days if i have something exciting coming up.
i’m waiting for approval to get a cat. i am so happy and excited, but waiting for the approval has been hell all week, to the point where it’s not as much of a happy experience. it’s disrupting all my ability to function because i’m so obsessively locked on to this one thing. my own brain is exhausting me.
does anyone else hate being excited? what do you do to break the obsession? | 2021-10-13T22:39:48.000Z | q7mh6u | 2 | 6 | ADHD | being excited sucks | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7mh6u/being_excited_sucks/ |
Randy_Pagan | Hey guys, I'm really struggling here. I can't focus on anything at the moment and wanting to get back on medication of some kind but I can't even get my shit together to get help from the doctor. It's bad at the moment and can't even concentrate on people talking for more than like 30 seconds nevermind achieve anything beyond basic tasks. Luckily managed to get a 3 month extension on my university dissertation because even my usual last minute adrenaline focus boost wasn't pulling me through even slightly.
Anybody have some success stories? Any kind of 2nd hand hopium would be amazing because it's all feeling a bit overwhelming at the moment. Any wins would be appreciated no matter how small you think they might be. Thanks in advance! | 2021-10-13T22:35:30.000Z | q7meay | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Any recent success stories? Share that Hopium | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7meay/any_recent_success_stories_share_that_hopium/ |
dewy-eyed-doe | So first, a bit of background: my current psychiatrist, over our past few visits, has been asking me if I’ve “saved up” any medication by skipping doses. She made it clear that this is an expectation she has of me for reasons I’m not really clear on and she hasn’t elaborated. I know I should have asked for more information or explained that I’m not in a position where I feel I should be skipping doses for no reason, but I have ridiculous amounts of social anxiety and I default to trying to get through social encounters as quickly as possible. I experience virtually no negative side effects from my medication with the exception of appetite suppression. Moreover, I take an extra dose on occasion when I’m PMSing, because I find my meds significantly less effective (oftentimes totally ineffective) on those days. I’m currently taking Adderall XR 20mg twice a day (or I was before I ran completely out).
So because I haven’t felt I can be honest with her about my needs and I have a lot of difficulty advocating for myself, I’m in this really crappy situation where she’s expected me to have saved up a month’s supply of my medication, and as such am left with no medication for a month because she only prescribed me a two month supply and scheduled our next appointment three months out. And now that I’m out, my appetite is back with a vengeance, I’m PMSing to Hell and back and binge eating like my life depends on it. I don’t even want to look at the scale. Having no meds and dealing with out of whack hormones has me sleeping twelve hours a day and feeling totally lethargic and useless and I’m just frustrated and sick of feeling so spaced out and dissociative. I know I should have talked to my psychiatrist before this became a problem, but this is where I am now.
I ask because I’m genuinely clueless and would love some advice: would it be stupid to text her and ask if I can move my appointment up and that I thought I had more medication saved up than I actually do? I obviously don’t want to contact her and be like, “Hey, I lied!!” but there has to be an alternative that isn’t going cold turkey and feeling like garbage for a month. Any advice is greatly appreciated! All I ask is not to be told, “Well, you should have told her before!” I’m painfully aware that that’s the case already and I feel super dumb as it is. So please be gentle! And thank you in advance for any insight you have to share.
EDIT: It occurred to me I should explain how things work with my psychiatrist. In order to get my prescription refilled, I have to have a video conference with her ($80 per appointment) and we've only just gone from one appointment a month to one appointment per every two months. Now we're up to three, but I'm only being prescribed a two month supply and am expected to save up a month supply by skipping doses regularly(?). I'm also about to move to another state so I don't want to go through the hassle of finding another psychiatrist, otherwise that would be my priority! ;-; | 2021-10-13T22:30:50.000Z | q7mb2c | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Out of meds and a month away from next psychiatrist appointment | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7mb2c/out_of_meds_and_a_month_away_from_next/ |
ellalei | Hi, I want to start off by saying I don’t know if I have adhd but I just made an appointment for a screening after doing a ton of research. I know that I struggle with getting things done (or executive dysfunction?) because it affects me every day. I’m currently in college and school work is something I really struggle with even if I know the assignment is easy, and I’ve had to withdraw from classes in the past. thought things were going okay this semester but it’s not looking so good.
so to those in college:
do you have any advice on how you complete schoolwork? specifically with starting it, staying focused, and organizing your thoughts.
thanks! | 2021-10-13T22:26:48.000Z | q7m8aa | 6 | 1 | ADHD | College tips/advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7m8aa/college_tipsadvice/ |
peaked-in-preschool | Hi!! So I have executive dysfunction issues, to the point where I can’t do schoolwork or take proper care of myself. I even have a hard time eating because of it. My life pretty much just consists of me laying in bed because of it. I want to do these things, but I just can’t. I really need to fix this, and I have the motivation to, I just don’t know how to start. I’m so frustrated and upset with myself and I don’t know what to do.
Any and all advice is welcomed and more than appreciated!! Thank you for your time :)
I’m on Zoloft if it helps!! However, I’m in a position where I won’t be able to talk to my doctor or anything until the middle of next month though.
Edit: thank you for the silver!! It’s a day later now, and your great advice is working!! I’ve also talked with my mom who understands what I’m going through (I’m so grateful for that!!) and is going to help hold me accountable and ensure I keep going. I’ve already left my room, had some water, and I’m about to eat. I’m going to do my skincare and take a shower after this, then maybe do something I enjoy since I haven’t done that in a while. I haven’t felt this hopeful for a change in so long. Your advice is definitely going to stick with me; I’m already seeing a lot of positive changes, and it’s only been one day!
Thank you for your advice, I seriously can’t thank you enough. This has already begun to change my life for the better. I appreciate every single one of you for helping me :) | 2021-10-13T22:26:33.000Z | q7m83k | 7 | 3 | ADHD | How to Fight Severe Executive Dysfunction? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7m83k/how_to_fight_severe_executive_dysfunction/ |
harmo- | I’m on 36mg Concerta XL for 2 weeks now and at my wits end. Instead of helping my ADHD symptoms they are getting worse. I am also very very irritable and angry, but not sure if 5is is the meds or just sheer frustration that I’m not getting better. Are these side effects that will go away?I’m sick to death of not getting any better. Please help me in any way you can | 2021-10-13T22:20:40.000Z | q7m3wo | 7 | 8 | ADHD | Medication amplifying brain fog | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7m3wo/medication_amplifying_brain_fog/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T22:13:04.000Z | q7lytq | 12 | 1 | ADHD | Career ideas for introverts? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lytq/career_ideas_for_introverts/ |
Spirit-Mori | I feel like no matter how hard I try, and how badly I want to, I just cannot get to it every day.
Even if I have literally nothing on - no work or anything - I still just can’t bring myself to do it.
But when I do, I really enjoy it and find it helps enormously with my mood and focus.
Other than the times my brain is all over the shop and I end up just daydreaming for twenty minutes.
If anybody has managed to become a consistent meditator with ADHD - please share any tips! | 2021-10-13T22:12:03.000Z | q7ly6m | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Do you guys manage to meditate with any consistency? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ly6m/do_you_guys_manage_to_meditate_with_any/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-13T22:09:40.000Z | q7lwku | 1 | 2 | ADHD | To the my past crushes that I hyper focused on for months on end. It wasn't you, it was my ADHD! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lwku/to_the_my_past_crushes_that_i_hyper_focused_on/ |
Nicofatpad | I’m just disappointed at the fact that despite taking my medication on time with the proper dose, I still randomly brain fogged up at the worst possible time. Literally the whole week I was killing practice problems, then I look at the exam questions and forget how to divide 1/4 by 1/4 like wtf. I’m a senior majoring in Engineering Physics with a Minor in Math but My brain fog was so bad I forgot basic math.
I knew that I could solve all the questions easily but when it came to actually doing it, I literally couldn’t even coordinate myself and I barely got it done.
It doesn’t help that my schools office for disability services decided that it was beneficial to make us take our exams in a distraction free room with other kids with disabilities. Like no offense to them cause I relate but its even more distracting when you’re sitting in a tight room with other kids that fidget and make random tics and stuff.
I know I could’ve done so much better and I think I’m gonna end up with a high 70 but I seriously feel like I could’ve gotten a high 90 if My brain didn’t disconnect. I had like an hour and 50 min(cuz adhd benefits i guess) to do it and it still felt like a short time but everyone else has like an hour and 10 min. I’m just hoping everyone else did as bad as me so that we can get a nice curve. | 2021-10-13T22:08:42.000Z | q7lvwz | 9 | 53 | ADHD | I studied my butt off for my probability midterm for more than a whole week, then right as the test started I blanked out and couldn’t do anything. | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lvwz/i_studied_my_butt_off_for_my_probability_midterm/ |
MenuTime5231 | Guys life has been stellar recently. I know one thing that will always hold me back from being at my best from a confidence standpoint is fear of being looked at or become an egotistical self centered prick. I fear this because as a kid I was massively insecure, at the end of highschool I discovered self improvement and started changing my situation, as a young adult my 'confidence" warped into being a thoughtless "the world revolves around me because I'm the greatest thing on earth" I got laid alot like this so I didn't have much incentive to stop until my friends called me out and cut me off until I changed. I changed and eventually met my wife who helped me understand what being an actual human being was. I had massive regret that coincided with the MeToo movement and reading stories of douchebags that sounded a lot like me as a younger guy. I've possibly been TOO humble over the past 6 years. I look back at my past "success" with shame and regret.
I've had some of the biggest wins of my career just in the past month. People ask me why I'm not more excited or tell me I need to brag more than I do. I am super proud and happy for myself but I find myself being bashful and overly humble. All my success can be explained therefore I find myself devaluing my hard work. "I've made X amount of money this month BUT I WOULDNT HAVE THAT IF MY COWORKER WASNT SICK WITH COVID" Things like that. I've gradually become more embracing of my success by making jokes or quips but I know a voice keeps saying "be careful don't look like a cocky prick" even if I'm not really being prickish. | 2021-10-13T22:07:43.000Z | q7lv6u | 1 | 6 | ADHD | One thing stopping me from being at my best confidence wise is a fear that I'll be viewed/will become a prick | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lv6u/one_thing_stopping_me_from_being_at_my_best/ |
Atomoxetine_80mg | Today I was finally diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed Adderall. Something that should have happened 20 years ago but was missed. I feel mixed emotions about using stimulants, which is appropriate given their powerful effect. A few years ago I read *The Pale King* by David Foster Wallace and found the character Chris Fogle's monolog about the effect a Obetrol ( amphetamine mixed salts) to be striking.
>My affinity for Obetrol had to do with self-awareness.. What it felt like was a sort of emergence, however briefly, from the fuzziness and drift of my life in that period. As though I was a machine that suddenly realized it was a human being and didn’t have to just go through the motions it was programmed to perform over and over. It also had to do with paying attention. It wasn’t like the normal thing with recreational drugs which made colors brighter or music more intense. What became more intense was my awareness of my own part in it, that I could pay real attention to it. It was that I could look at, for instance, a dorm room’s walls of institutional tan or beige and not only see them but be aware that I was seeing them—this was the dorm at UIC—and that I normally lived within these walls and was probably affected in all kinds of subtle ways by their institutional color but was usually unaware of how they made me feel, unaware of what it felt like to look at them, unaware usually of even their color and texture, because I never really looked at anything in a precise, attentive way. | 2021-10-13T22:07:26.000Z | q7lv0b | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Any Other Fans of David Foster Wallace Identify with 'Irrelevant' Chris Fogle in Section 22 of The Pale King? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lv0b/any_other_fans_of_david_foster_wallace_identify/ |
Axmann8 | Does anyone know of any good iPhone applications that would be beneficial for people who have ADHD for use in their everyday life?
For some really bizarre reason (at least somewhat ironic for a subreddit dedicated to the discussion of ADHD), my last post regarding this subject was removed by the auto-moderation tool as it said the post needed to be at least 200 characters before I would be able to post it, ‘in order to promote quality content’ or somesuch. | 2021-10-13T22:06:35.000Z | q7ludy | 4 | 16 | ADHD | Any good iPhone apps for people with ADHD? | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ludy/any_good_iphone_apps_for_people_with_adhd/ |
Low-Iife | There’s so many fun things I really want to do but I just don’t have the attention span for it. There’s so many movies I want to watch, so many games I want to play, so many albums I want to listen to. But I just get to bored every 10 minutes to even keep going. All my entertainment is now is apps I can switch to something different that nano second things get to boring, or FPS games that have something crazy every 20 seconds. I really wish I could just do things, ya know? | 2021-10-13T22:06:35.000Z | q7ludn | 1 | 4 | ADHD | I’m kinda mad about all the things I can’t do. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ludn/im_kinda_mad_about_all_the_things_i_cant_do/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-13T22:01:02.000Z | q7lqgm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Increasing dose | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lqgm/increasing_dose/ |
cmvmania | Hello, just like the title says, I felt really uneasy when I need to ask a question during live interaction or without any planning beforehand, I need to wrap my thoughts quickly and when I don't have the chance to do so I would just spout out some words that basically sound like Im rambling or going off a tangent. even worse, there's a ton of cringeworthy moments produced because of that. I really need help because this happens quite a lot in formal interactions where I really felt that Im unprepared and cant function normally. | 2021-10-13T22:00:08.000Z | q7lpi9 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | I need to construct my response beforehand or Im just gonna sound like Im rambling | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lpi9/i_need_to_construct_my_response_beforehand_or_im/ |
far_outtahere | [removed] | 2021-10-13T21:59:54.000Z | q7lpbz | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Do you have zero tolerance for being on hold? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lpbz/do_you_have_zero_tolerance_for_being_on_hold/ |
BidZealousideal1081 | I'm not even sure if this is add related but here goes.
I've been stressing and pacing around my room for a couple of hours now because my dipshit english teacher is sooooo interested in my personal life. He's already given us 2 assignments that ask about my personal life. I fucking hate these assignment with a passion. I can't do it without feeling ashamed and embarrassed. What the fuck is wrong with english teachers? It's like their sadists that get tons of pleasure from torturing me specifically. I don't like talking about myself because I don't want to have to bring up shit like loneliness, depression and adhd. Or it has to be about something mundane which shows that I have nothing going on in my life(i mean its true but i dont want to admit it). I'm starting to notice a theme(GET IT?!?!?!) that he just assigns these personal assignments when he can't think of anything. I'd rather write a 4 page essay about some boring book we had assigned to us than tell you about myself you fucking asshole.
I know there are simple solutions, but I'm so fucking angry that I can't do it. I hate that I waste so much time obsessing over this. I hate that of all things to bring down my grades and worsen my future, *this* is what fucks me over. I hope they don't do this shit in college. | 2021-10-13T21:58:55.000Z | q7look | 7 | 6 | ADHD | Angrily pacing around my room because of an assignment I have to do | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7look/angrily_pacing_around_my_room_because_of_an/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-13T21:57:44.000Z | q7lnw0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Advice on dose increase | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lnw0/advice_on_dose_increase/ |
erecsus64 | [removed] | 2021-10-13T21:56:38.000Z | q7ln55 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What to expect from adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ln55/what_to_expect_from_adderall/ |
Ambitious-Muffin-41 | [removed] | 2021-10-13T21:55:42.000Z | q7lmhr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I randomly start running without realising | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lmhr/i_randomly_start_running_without_realising/ |
PrimaryMiserable | I feel great. However I was hoping it would help me with the work I need to do - which is stressful and tedious and even the though of which makes me feel anxious and procrastinate (and thereby feel more awful cause I know it isn’t getting done)
It doesn’t. Now I just feel great. Calm yet energized. Happy. I couldn’t even care about the work. I can happily concentrate on any distraction (one at a time for once, not two or three like usual$ and I couldn’t care if I tried.
This is the problem with clinically approved adhd meds. They just don’t touch on so much of what the problems are...maybe with guided therapy but that just isn’t available. Flooding the brain with more dopamine but that doesn’t direct one towards accomplishing goals with long term or uncertain rewards. If anything I find Vyvanse kills my motivation even more than certain substances often accused of doing that.
Psychiatrists just like prescribing without any thought or advice beyond taking the pill . Psychologists - even ones that claim ADHD - just talk they have no useful advice.
So yeah I feel great for now but inside I’m just so disappointed yet again. Vyvanse won’t help me keep my job. I’m just as interest driven as before.
all the info I see on adult adhd just defines the problem. There is no solution that I can see. Not this late in life. | 2021-10-13T21:55:19.000Z | q7lm8p | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Haven’t taken Vyvanse in months (no drugs) took 30 mg today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lm8p/havent_taken_vyvanse_in_months_no_drugs_took_30/ |
probably_kitsch | Hey everyone: do you use a pedal-thing when you sit at a desk or watch tv?
I’m medicated and run regularly, but can still get pretty restless in the evenings. I’d love to be able to “sit” through a whole movie with my husband, but I just can’t.
I think a machine to wiggle my feet or legs while sitting in place might help. But honestly, the pedal-machines look weird and I’m a little skeptical.
So—do you use one and love it? Any suggestions/advice on what to get?
Thanks!!! | 2021-10-13T21:52:27.000Z | q7lk8i | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Help! suggestions for restless legs? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lk8i/help_suggestions_for_restless_legs/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-13T21:51:06.000Z | q7ljdu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | To the crushes in my past, that I hyper focused on for months on end. It wasn't you, it was my ADHD! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ljdu/to_the_crushes_in_my_past_that_i_hyper_focused_on/ |
cutiewglasses | Hi guys,
I am currently in university 2nd year and have been diagnosed ADD only about 5 years ago. I am having a hard time with midterms on the way to be honest and find myself stuck with some recurring issues that I don’t know how to deal with and no really understands. I don’t know if it’s part of adhd or some other mental health issues and so if anyone can relate or if you have some tips and tricks for me I would really appreciate it.
I feel like sometimes I do this thing where I give up before I even start.
I let stuff accumulate and I wish I could be able to do tasks everyday like normal people but I can’t and I don’t know why. It’s like I have so much to do, that I can’t do anything, I’m like stuck. And with that I used to be able to cram everything right before the exams and it used to work believe it or not but now it doesn’t and I don’t know how to get out of it. I also get so negative and depressed even though I chose this program I like I don’t understand why I’m not stimulated or motivated. I have goals and I want to achieve them, I’ve made it this far and I want to succeed but it feels like too much. I don’t know why I feel this way, what is wrong with me ? | 2021-10-13T21:46:08.000Z | q7lg31 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Need some advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lg31/need_some_advice/ |
JediTalez | [removed] | 2021-10-13T21:42:39.000Z | q7ldpo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and Independence | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ldpo/adhd_and_independence/ |
Responsible_Drop_531 | Today I spoke to a program manager for a grant I am applying for, and the meeting went great. I still have to submit my grant but he gave my partner and I a lot of encouragement. Also some great tips for getting the grant approved. Small Business Innovative Research Grant) SBIR.
I would have posted this under the super thread for 'Proud of' but that's not the trick.
At many points in the conversation I lost track of where I was, and where we were in the conversation. I kept a notebook of 'best of' points to remind me where we are. Then at points I needed time, I said "Hold on, That's important I want to write that down in my notebook" It speaks the truth, gives me time to catch up and also gives gravity to what they just said. The original idea came from Chris Voss, FBI Negotiator... I think... It also rings a bell for Tony Robbins. So I am not totally sure what the source is.
Thanks for letting me say it outload. | 2021-10-13T21:40:15.000Z | q7lc0m | 6 | 54 | ADHD | A trick I used for important conversations. | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7lc0m/a_trick_i_used_for_important_conversations/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T21:37:17.000Z | q7l9zh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I trick I used today about important conversations. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7l9zh/i_trick_i_used_today_about_important_conversations/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T21:29:37.000Z | q7l4o8 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Is it inappropriate to ask for meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7l4o8/is_it_inappropriate_to_ask_for_meds/ |
Stoftandfragile | So I went to the psychiatrist a few months ago to get diagnosed because I am having a lot of trouble with chores, academia, and being depressed because of it so I told them what I am having trouble with and they said I cannot have ADHD because I was a good student in elementary school and I was in gifted classes I believed what they said because I was not really knowledgable on the topic back then and I did some googling and turns out a lot of people with ADHD and have been doing well in elementary school get turned down from being diagnosed with ADHD and much later in life they would get diagnosed, so I went back a week ago and told them that I cannot focus on my school and I have no issues focusing on engaging video games it's just anything that is boring I cannot do. they're still not convinced but they put me on atomoxetine 25mg (i used to be on escitalopram 20mg). I asked for ADHD questionnaire and emailed it back to them. I am not sure what to do, I am really comfortable with them and I think they're really good at their job it's just outdated views on ADHD, what should i do? | 2021-10-13T21:26:52.000Z | q7l2rs | 22 | 1 | ADHD | Not ADHD because I did well in elementary school? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7l2rs/not_adhd_because_i_did_well_in_elementary_school/ |
aldarith | Hey folks,
Had a disappointing visit with my GP.
He had me fill out a self-reporting form, thinks I am consistent with ADHD and prescribed meds without a diagnosis.
Trouble is, I am getting zero support here - just a prescription.
Additionally I am broke.
Is there no way to get therapy, a diagnosis and or meds without throwing lot of money at the issue here? I thought we had healthcare.
Anyways, advice and guidance on how to get assessed and into the system without incurring expenditure would be great. Thank you. | 2021-10-13T21:26:05.000Z | q7l29d | 15 | 5 | ADHD | Can anyone familiar with Ontario help me navigate the process here? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7l29d/can_anyone_familiar_with_ontario_help_me_navigate/ |
Dubnerd2 | I’m going to a concert tonight and I’m getting really nervous because I cannot decide whether to take my short acting medication or not. I like to stay on routine so it’s been a bit difficult because I take the long acting during the day and short acting at night. is this healthy? Is this too much? | 2021-10-13T21:20:28.000Z | q7ky8u | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Medication anxiety | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ky8u/medication_anxiety/ |
TransportationNo3472 | [removed] | 2021-10-13T21:19:07.000Z | q7kxav | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone know where I can find affordable Strattera? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7kxav/does_anyone_know_where_i_can_find_affordable/ |
aldarith | [removed] | 2021-10-13T21:17:19.000Z | q7kw7d | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone familiar with Ontario that can help explain the process to me here? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7kw7d/anyone_familiar_with_ontario_that_can_help/ |
ruby191701 | Just some advice for anyone who may be feeling a bit irritable, moody, or generally rubbish whilst taking Vyvanse every day - make sure you’ve eaten enough!
For the last few months I’ve been on Vyvanse my weight has been dropping slowly, but in additional my moods have been awful, I’ve been tired and lethargic pretty constantly. Until a few days ago when I really started making an effort to eat more to combat the weight loss, the difference has been absolutely shocking. No longer grumpy and moody, feeling much more stable and the effects of Vyvanse are much more positive and seem to last longer.
Please please don’t underestimate the importance of eating properly on stimulants! If you’re feeling rubbish, please try evaluating if you’re eating enough. It’s an easy one to overlook but it’s made a huge difference! | 2021-10-13T21:11:54.000Z | q7ksng | 3 | 12 | ADHD | Feeling grumpy on Vyvanse/Elvanse? EAT! | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ksng/feeling_grumpy_on_vyvanseelvanse_eat/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T21:08:05.000Z | q7kq1x | 1 | 3 | ADHD | I feel constantly invalided by everyone I know about me thinking I have adhd, I’m going to try and get an official diagnosis soon tho | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7kq1x/i_feel_constantly_invalided_by_everyone_i_know/ |
DonutLegacy | Like, I NEED to study, but nothing in this world can make me do it😂 especially when it’s like self imposed studying (I’m not currently in school) but I need to study for my permit so I can legally practice backing out to get my license. But it’s so hard and I don’t know why 😂
The material isn’t hard I just literally don’t want to and nothing can make me—even thou I NEED to get my license so I can move out.
I also need to practice Spanish and make a small quiz on it for my friends and I; but I JUST DONT🤣
I want to, I need to, but I don’t.
WhY😭😭 | 2021-10-13T21:05:19.000Z | q7ko2l | 4 | 5 | ADHD | You ever just—don’t? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ko2l/you_ever_justdont/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T21:02:27.000Z | q7km1d | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Guys, do you ever notice how people you knew for years still have relatively the same interests to this day, but your interests have changed multiple times over the same period of time? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7km1d/guys_do_you_ever_notice_how_people_you_knew_for/ |
Burning_Toast__ | [removed] | 2021-10-13T21:02:22.000Z | q7klz7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Hi Wonder if I have adhd probably don’t but idk | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7klz7/hi_wonder_if_i_have_adhd_probably_dont_but_idk/ |
megsandmeds | Do you guys find because you can zone out and not pay attention sometimes, missing important things.. You find it hard to know if people are gaslighting you about what happened...because you start to think that maybe it happened when your brain got distracted;n potentially allowing yourself to let others shape your own memory? | 2021-10-13T21:02:15.000Z | q7klwd | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Manipulated easily | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7klwd/manipulated_easily/ |
Difficult_Air_3673 | So I had stopped taking Concerta for a couple months and just started taking it again at the same dose (27mg). I love my gf more than anything and whenever we kiss or do other similar things it feels like the first time even though we first met Feb 2020. Anyway, when I take my Concerta I notice I'm just neutral and I kind of don't like it bc it makes her feel like :/ because I just don't have any interest in kissing or being affectionate on it. Should I split my pill or something to take less or what bc im satisfied just having her in the same room as me and later on when I come off the pill at night I feel like I missed out on all that when I was with her. | 2021-10-13T20:58:58.000Z | q7kja1 | 11 | 6 | ADHD | I dont feel affectionate on Concerta | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7kja1/i_dont_feel_affectionate_on_concerta/ |
Icebaby63 | **this is a LONG post, its how I explain things. its how I express myself. you have been warned.**
# A word (a few, really) about nurture.
I was raised in the perfect environment to develop avoidance tendencies.
My mother was extremely controlling of every member of the family, and from the moment our eyes opened we were pressured to do what she thought we should be doing, without any structure.
I rarely know what day of the week it was growing up, and most members of the family didn't know what they would be doing that day. because eventually you know that there's no point in trying to predict or support what she may have planned, because there was no end. no completion. it was constant and imbalanced. so you just created "what id like to do today" and learned to play the system.
She wakes you up. no alarm of course. You shrivel into a ball as small as you can at the sound of her voice. This cycle repeats until she's upset enough to force you out of bed because you know you have to pick your battles. You go to the bathroom first of course...there's a door there. And you repeat the cycle of her calling you and you delaying until she's mad enough to get you out of the bathroom, Then you avoid whatever task she wants you to do until...you guessed it...etc. repeat. evenings? the end of the day, the time when you were most likely going to be able to do what you want to do. bedtime felt like a gross theft of everything you for that day. sleep was something you avoided like the plague...thus me and my brother learned to fake being asleep and devices/games were the only part of the day where we won. at least it felt like it.
I'm thankful to have had the self awareness, support and courage to move out young in a house where moving out young was viewed as a crime.
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# Where I'm at.
That being said. I'm now a extremely happily married man. and overall I'm very happy what I've been able to achieve with the support of my friends, family, and medication.
Here's where I'm at with productivity at this point in my life.
**State #1**
My most familiar state, avoiding productivity and obsessing over whatever I'm interested in. this is usually some kind of recreation or otherwise unproductive thing. when I'm in this state, depending on how behind I feel on my responsibilities, I will either feel:
1. happy to relax and positive for a time, then as the clock spins feel disappointment that I couldn't break away to do what I would like to achieve.
2. Go in knowing I shouldn't be relaxing at all and desperately need to start getting to work. this usually is accompanied by frustration and the short sided frustration that life is pulling me away from what I want to do/my time isn't really my own. this is amplified violently around bedtime to the point where going to bed seems like an amorphous, abstract dreadful and frustrating idea that causes internal anger the more its encouraged.
**State #2**
Usually caused by a month or two of being in state #1 and reaching a desperate point of things crumbling around me, or sometimes but very rarely, because what I'm obsessing over, happens to line up with a project I need to achieve.
In this state I want to achieve and work endlessly. and if I cant work I want to research and plan endlessly. the idea of rest or even seeing people rest is frustrating and feels like a waste of time there is a strong urgency to keep going. likely because I know this state is rare and it can do things I need it to do to have a life that I'm proud of.
This typically is marked by a huge amount of things getting done, I'm healthier. have the ambition and bandwidth to take care of myself, and am much more fulfilled and happy. I typically feel a excited sadness in the back of my head that I'm not playing that game or doing what I want to relax. but its like the excitement a kid would have about saving a cookie for later. (and in my head its going to just be one little balanced...cookie...lul...)
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It usually has a two stage ending.
First:
I have achieved everything I can at that time and external factors are limiting me from the next step. could be money, could be time, but at that point I usually feel a weird purposelessness. like I don't want to return to state #1 and waste my life...but I don't have anything but waiting to do in state #2 for awhile. SO many people in my life mistake this for "not being satisfied" but that's not it...its that, I just am lost...and out of control...like I'm ready to punch through life and achieve...but things are limiting me. trying to eliminate this feeling is responsible for many improvements in my life actually, like making my finances as efficient as possible and adjusting my work schedule.
Second:
I get burnt out and finally decide to take a break and relax without feeling bad. I have never reached this ending and managed to stay in state #2. it always results in going to state #1 and who knows when I'll make it back
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# A word about advice and how I take it.
I've tried everything.
I'm out of the realm of "you haven't heard of this technique"
if something is going to change my behavior. it will most likely be a small piece of information that is able to wedge its foot in the door of this cycle. this is a mental thing. so much so that it will find its way around any strategy I've tried my entire life. through all my rock bottoms.
but I'm going to talk in fighting game terms for a second because I understand it. and its the only way I know how to explain why this is a problem.
I love smash bros. I main Mewtwo. He relies on a big projectile that you charge up. its called shadow ball.
Now some characters have reflectors. they can send it back at you. If this happens, a bad Mewtwo will get shot with his own shadow ball and say "Oh I cant use that move, it got punished...He knows. let me play without it."
This is a bad idea...and this person will lose. Mewtwo's entire move set is designed to play off the fact that your opponent is scared to death of shadow ball because its huge, fast, and does a lot of damage. if you stop using it, his entire game plan falls apart, He's terrible. so what do you do?
You do the move that didn't work. Better. You learn the context of when to use it, you practice it, you try over and over until you know exactly when you've confused them so much, or put them in such a bad situation, that they cannot reflect, and you use it. and it works. and you win. you just get good and do it. but better. because saying "I tried it. it doesn't work" will get you killed.
and that's where I'm at with advice. "move your bedtime back a bit every day" "set a reminder" "keep a journal" "BUY A WATCH THAT ELECTRECUTES YOU IF YOU DONT DO IT"
I've tried everything. but I cant go through life turning down all the advice I ever get because I've tried it before. because in the end. what helps me, will be something I've already done. this is my dilemma
Thank you for reading. | 2021-10-13T20:56:48.000Z | q7khs1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'd like to explain how I experience productivity and recreation, And discuss how I process advice. | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7khs1/id_like_to_explain_how_i_experience_productivity/ |
Some-Awareness-5052 | Ok so I don’t know if its the same in every country but in mine, I can’t get diagnosed alone until im 21. Im currently 18 and im almost absolutely sure that i have adhd inattentive type. I was hoping to get diagnosed alone but since im not 21 yet, i need to bring along a parent with me and you see, my parents are really narrow minded about these mental health stuff. So, now I’m in a dilemma not knowing what to do with my life.
Im going to my final year of college and my grades has been really bad and i keep failing my subjects. Im majoring in architecture right now, so i always have to very spontaneous, creative and productive for my projects but i find that so hard. I get so overwhelmed over everything and i just keep procrastinating, and once its the deadline for my projects, i keep blaming and hating on myself for not doing the best. I keep feeling like i have so much potential but i just can’t showcase it. All my friends also get mad at me for being so lazy all the time and not doing my work but i physically can’t bring myself to do it. I feel like im being weighed down all the time and everything is just so mentally exhausting.
Does anyone have tips to cope with school? How do i keep myself motivated? How do i stop feeling overwhelmed by everything? How do i stop procrastinating?
Other than that, can anyone give me advice on how to break the news to my narrow minded parents? How do i tell them i might have adhd and convince them to follow me to see a psychiatrist? I know a lot of people abuse getting diagnosed just to get drugs, but i feel getting meds is really the only way for me to get my life back together. I really don’t know what to do anymore. Should i try out therapy? How does it even help? | 2021-10-13T20:55:18.000Z | q7kgq8 | 6 | 7 | ADHD | Life as an undiagnosed college student. Please give me tips. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7kgq8/life_as_an_undiagnosed_college_student_please/ |
sweet_melancholy | So I've been trying to get help for problems that are likely adhd since May. Where I live we have quite a bad mental health care system and I keep getting referred back and forth. So, right now I'm pretty much on my own doing research and I had some questions about medication.
Since I do see the good, creative side of adhd and somehow meds scare me a little, I was wondering if it is possible to sometimes take medication and go without them on other days. For example taking them during the week and not in weekends.
Is anyone here doing this, or is it either everyday or not at all? | 2021-10-13T20:52:09.000Z | q7kehh | 9 | 0 | ADHD | Can you some days take meds and other days not? | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7kehh/can_you_some_days_take_meds_and_other_days_not/ |
Ser_VimesGoT | [removed] | 2021-10-13T20:48:34.000Z | q7kby3 | 11 | 3 | ADHD | Is it ok to self diagnose? | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7kby3/is_it_ok_to_self_diagnose/ |
babyiguana3 | I have been taking adderall for about a year and a half and I recently graduated college. My ADHD still affects my life and I still find it hard to do my job and take care of my apartment etc when I’m not medicated but I’ve begun to hate who I am on adderall and I’m starting to feel like it’s no longer worth it to take it. It kills my appetite, so I’ve lost a lot of weight which is concerning because I’m quite thin already. The comedown off adderall is also extremely difficult to deal with and makes me snippy towards my partner but I can’t control it. Generally I just feel like it alters who I am too much and I don’t like myself on adderall. I want to stop adderall but I wanted to ask if anyone had any advice on how to make weaning off of it easier and how I can still get my work done. Should I just stop cold turkey? Or should I slowly lower my dose to one pill a day instead of 2 or take the meds every other day instead of everyday? If you don’t take meds how do you manage your ADHD without medication? Any advice is appreciated.
For reference, I am prescribed 10mg twice a day. | 2021-10-13T20:33:28.000Z | q7k119 | 10 | 0 | ADHD | Advice for stopping adderall? | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7k119/advice_for_stopping_adderall/ |
AerodyneArtisan | I came across this a couple years ago but haven't been able to find it again, maybe I haven't been using the right search terms or maybe my brain made it up (so take this with a grain of salt).
Basically a possible side effect of some ADHD meds (mostly stimulants iirc) is that it makes you "prefer" the places where you normally take your meds. Like if you always take them at home you can develop an association between home and how the meds make you feel so it can become hard to leave the house. Like I said I'm not sure if this is even a thing but I very clearly remember reading about it. Maybe it's a kind of nocebo from having read about it but I often have a hard time leaving the house after my meds kick in almost like how it can be hard to leave a comfy bed in the morning.
Have any of you heard about/experienced this? | 2021-10-13T20:31:13.000Z | q7jzf0 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | "Location preference" side effect of meds? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jzf0/location_preference_side_effect_of_meds/ |
WoolHermit | Multiple times now I have run out of gas on the highway, in New Jersey, where there are gas stations on nearly every block. I’m always “aware” that I’m running low… yet still occasionally “just forget” as soon as I’m actually on the road. Any tips on keeping your tank full? I always keep a gas can in my car now for this reason. | 2021-10-13T20:30:57.000Z | q7jz8j | 6 | 5 | ADHD | Running out of gas on the reg | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jz8j/running_out_of_gas_on_the_reg/ |
kirbias | Has anyone else struggled to come off this medication? I was on it for about a year and didn't notice much effect. I tried to come off it after the first few months because I didn't think it was doing anything, but found my symptoms much worse than they were before I started, so went back on. I decided to come off it entirely 2 months ago because it's expensive and gave me difficulty with exercising due to low blood pressure. I've been off it for 6 weeks and my symptoms are still awful- I'm super symptomatic and it's causing me bad issues at work/school. I thought I would be back to baseline by now and I don't want to go back on this med. Anybody have similar issues? | 2021-10-13T20:30:37.000Z | q7jyzk | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Stopping Intuniv/guanfacine and rebound symptoms | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jyzk/stopping_intunivguanfacine_and_rebound_symptoms/ |
Salomon_95 | Listing to music that i can put into epic movies songs and imagine what this movie scenes would look (most of the time its just scenes and not whole movie)
At the moment its the song "sorry" from madonna
I imagine a 35 old blond women who drives in a pink cabrio and her husband has cheated on her
She starts the engine with a middle finger rising out of her car in the air
LoL | 2021-10-13T20:30:11.000Z | q7jyn7 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Hyperfixation theme today: | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jyn7/hyperfixation_theme_today/ |
SlightIndication | I really need some positive stories right now. They don't even have to be your own.
Loss of interest, inability to create or follow a linear plan, and the constant self criticism have been running my life.. slowly for like a decade now.
Tired of feeling everything is going to fall in, or that I'll never be able to do things I love because they involve too many steps.
The despair is getting worse. Please tell me there is a way out. | 2021-10-13T20:26:00.000Z | q7jvnz | 8 | 3 | ADHD | Please tell me there's a way out of this loop. | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jvnz/please_tell_me_theres_a_way_out_of_this_loop/ |
Personal_Stress4012 | Hey guys so it's been a month now, and going through the learning process as the weeks go by, I've had some great days and some horrible anxiety filled days. Some of those days due to working permanent nightshift and not getting great sleep every day, which is inevitable anyway working nights. But since being on 2x 2 tabs a day I noticed it's not working like it used to at the start, so I have been getting a bit uptight, frustrated and annoyed a silly things, and the anxiety was crap a few times. So yesterday I decided to try 3 tabs when I woke up, and awesome. Felt great and no dramas! Then I did a follow up dose 2 tabs 6 hours later. I am curious if maybe I become used to the low dose? And it's a matter of adjusting as required? Anyone experience this at all? | 2021-10-13T20:25:20.000Z | q7jv7k | 5 | 1 | ADHD | dexamphetamine | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jv7k/dexamphetamine/ |
bb_no | It’s like all these bad things hit at once and they just come out of nowhere at around 12:30pm-1:00pm and last till about 3:00pm-3:30pm. It only happens when I take my meds, I stopped taking them for a couple weeks because I just couldn’t stand this, but now I’m back on them and currently in that sucky time frame and just hate it so much. Maybe I need to lower my dose? But I’m not even on very much I’m on 20mg Adderall XR maybe I’ll go back to 10mg like how I started, but it’s just that it wasn’t nearly as effective at that lower dose, but I guess I need to compromise between effectiveness and side effects because I seriously can’t keep going through this every day. No real point to this post other than to get this off my chest, but if you have similar experiences I’d love to hear them! | 2021-10-13T20:23:53.000Z | q7ju5c | 34 | 171 | ADHD | I hate the 2-3 hour period in the middle of the day where I just feel sad, stressed, anxious, and tired | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ju5c/i_hate_the_23_hour_period_in_the_middle_of_the/ |
Zeiphher | It's been ~10 years since I've taken any medications. Last one I was on was Strattera and it made me feel super bad.
I've been meaning to make an appointment and get help but between life in general and my inability to function as anything more demanding than a friggin' house, it hasn't been done.
I just went this morning and my psychiatrist re-evaluated me and says that he's sticking to the original adhd diagnosis and possibly anxiety/depression. He seems to believe that the secondary issues may be complications derived from adhd so we're starting off with 30mg Adderall a day (cut in 1/2, one in the morning and 1 at lunch)
I'm so ridiculously excited to get my life back but I want to hear what you guys have experienced positive or negative.
Thank you in advance for taking the time to read/respond! | 2021-10-13T20:23:01.000Z | q7jtio | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Tell me your Adderall stories! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jtio/tell_me_your_adderall_stories/ |
Your_friendly_weirdo | Man this sucks, I took my PSAT today and I was supposed to get extended time through IEP since I have adhd. It’s a mild version with repetitive tics and a really bad daydreaming problem so it’s good for me to get extra time just in case.
They never even gave the extension which I complained about to the office and the runners of the PSAT but nobody could help. I then strangely felt confident enough to do it on non-extensive time since I drank some monster but then I kept daydreaming so I missed 20 math and 25 reading questions and now I’m crying. I know the PSATs are not super serious but I still feel hella depressed and mad over it. | 2021-10-13T20:20:51.000Z | q7jrzy | 9 | 11 | ADHD | My school totally screwed me over with the extended time for PSATs today. | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jrzy/my_school_totally_screwed_me_over_with_the/ |
fairydommother | I’ve tried flute, guitar, bass, cello, harmonica, penny whistle, and piano.
There are so many more instruments that I want to try, but they’re so expensive. I can’t get anything to keep my interest for long.
At first I’m dedicated, I practice every day, but I quickly become bored when I can’t play anything besides hot cross buns or whatever. Then when I’m trying to learn more advanced techniques to play stuff I actually like I get frustrated because I don’t understand.
And forget ever writing any music I can’t get a grasp on music theory to save my life because all freaking math and I suck at math.
I just want to be able to sit down and play an instrument in a meditative way, but I get so caught up this note and that note and what fingers go where and I get overwhelmed instantly.
It HELPS to have a teacher but I have taken a semester of guitar and 3 of piano and I made VERY little progress. I can memorize what to do, but if you ask me to actually read the notes? Good luck. I can barely read it alone much less translate it to what to do with my hands.
But I passed all my classes because I would just memorize the songs and the movements and treat it more like choreography.
It’s so frustrating I don’t understand why learning an instrument is so hard for me. And now I’m fixating on a new instrument and I’m talking myself out of it because it’s extremely expensive, there’s no one to teach me but Youtube, it’s STRINGED for gods sake which is arguably the worst type for me to try, and I’ll give up in a week or less. I know it…
Is there an instrument out there for me or should I just…give up? | 2021-10-13T20:19:34.000Z | q7jr1x | 23 | 15 | ADHD | I want to learn an instrument but nothing will hold my interest | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jr1x/i_want_to_learn_an_instrument_but_nothing_will/ |
Fontec | I’m halfway through my calc and physics courses. My second exams are on Wednesday.
I’m having a hard time with doing and starting schoolwork.
I still have no idea what vectors are.
I know the content is hard and I think that alone overwhelms me too much too try? I also just don’t want to because who chooses hard math problems over pleasurable acts.
I’ve gone through all of academia by putting in just enough effort at the last minute to meet whatever marks that teacher has asked of me.
I am no longer outputting the effort and focus needed to meet the marks now being set for me.
I know my previous method is failing; I’m now lost.
It’s too much — these concepts need the hours put in to feel familiar and confident
I would like to be able to take bite sized pieces DAILY of material I’m asked to be adept at — but I can’t and haven’t.
I would like to put in more effort and TIME into school but when I ask — my body only produces what I’ve been getting.
It’s not that I’m not trying but that I need more. How do? | 2021-10-13T20:19:33.000Z | q7jr1u | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Urgent school based help needed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jr1u/urgent_school_based_help_needed/ |
FuckChristopherColum | [removed] | 2021-10-13T20:19:08.000Z | q7jqrw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Enhanced Senses? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jqrw/enhanced_senses/ |
nightimefog | [removed] | 2021-10-13T20:17:47.000Z | q7jptp | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Unmedicated Support Group! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jptp/unmedicated_support_group/ |
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AfraidOfSalt | I dealt with a simular issue is high school, but the lack of structure is making it way worse. This is going to be kinda bitter and heavy.
I try to create plans and systems: bedtime routine, time every week at library, to-do and reminders for homework, breaking goals down into day-by-day chucks. I just lose momentum nearly every time I want to achieve a goal. I want to create a healthy life and be productive because I hate doing nothing but I feel so strung out when I try. But I need an insane amount of stress to follow through with leads to a breakdown and depression that severely affects my ability to work. I've had to put off so many goals just to do poorly in college. I'm losing the ambitious part of myself (I never could complete anything but at least I wanted to try) to the cycle of stress, depression, and avoiding my responsibilities. Online school is not helping at all. I just struggle to complete work at a sensible pace. I am either stressed and am still behind but not adding to the pile OR I'm not as stressed and miss work. I don't know how to pick up the pieces to form a workable situation when I feel the weigh of all the work I am behind on. I waste the free time I get; with more free time, the more time I waste.
I've dug myself into a nightmare of hole of missing work and classes. I'm not failing yet because grades aren't put in, so it hasn't fully hit me yet. For every class I attend or every homework assignment I do, I miss/skip almost half. If I begin to fully comprehend the fallout (angry mother, losing scholarship, paying for extra or future classes in full, and pushing back my goal of transferring schools), I feel extremely stressed or pushed toward caring less.
The stress can be mind numbing. I feel like a shaken bottle of coke (which funny enough I wrote a poem about in middle school). The following depression is completely awful. It triggers my bipolar II, which is undermedicated because my psych sucks and I didn't ask for him to fix his mistake. Sometimes I feel can feel as trapped as I did in high school, expected to work until I explode. Everyone is like "time management" and "push through" and "find time for stress relief" and "college doesn't have to be as hard as you make it". Like, I just have to struggle until I can try it no longer and lose my utter mind. I don't know how to make them understand that I'm screaming for a solution because I don't know what to do.
My focus issues are not as bad as my chronic disorganization and lack of sustained motivation, which has screwed with my happiness and is now causing extreme stress. But I don't know what else to do beside wait for my medication to finally work and already try to get my life on track. I may not complete my goals but I have to remind myself to try.
I'm going to the library tomorrow because there is one class that I haven't completely bombed, maybe I can get more than expected done. I just feel trapped and all I can do is work at 50% to avoid burnout. I'm trying to seek accommodations and remind myself to be more self-compassionate, but it's disheartening to see myself freak out while other people seem to be a quarter as stressed. It was nice to write this all out, I need to remind myself that it's a process and now I'm in a shitty stage. I don't need to do good, I just need to cope.
Things I will try to use more: understanding when I can't complete an assignment, body doubling, go to library to work, BEDTIME same time every day, trying to do productive me-time (not just laying down and moping, but doing something I enjoy and allows me to use my brain. basically reengaging with my passions and hobbies), working out, and planning time with friends! Often I fail to use these tricks, but I still like to remind myself of them because sometimes I'll remember them and use them and prosper.
TL;DR College is hard and I'm complaining about it. I know I can get my life together one day, but I'm struggling now and that fucking SUCKS. | 2021-10-13T20:08:00.000Z | q7jisy | 2 | 3 | ADHD | College: Bouncing Between Disinterest or Mega-Stress | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jisy/college_bouncing_between_disinterest_or_megastress/ |
Velcrooo | Dear Reddit and ADHD comrades,
Anyone else have this thing where every single thing seems like a 50/50. Interests, personality traits, certain perspectives.
I cant wrap my head around it, few examples; I hate gaming because of how much time I put into it (which feels like wasted time). I also love gaming cause its a nice way to not be busy with my thoughts for a moment and let my creativity flow.
The part where this mainly bites me in the ass is work, I would love to make money, and to get good at a job. And I tend to confidently aim for jobs such as sales/recruiter. But I also always think I cant do it, the amount of stress it gives me beforehand is killing, and that same stress makes me feel burnt out within a week of work.
It seems like an infinite loophole I cant really break trough lol. I'm hoping for some good advice. | 2021-10-13T20:06:16.000Z | q7jhh5 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | 50/50 Thought pattern? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7jhh5/5050_thought_pattern/ |
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mspaint317 | [removed] | 2021-10-13T19:55:25.000Z | q7j906 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Getting Disability Accommodations in Grad school feels like getting in trouble | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7j906/getting_disability_accommodations_in_grad_school/ |
utopianblonde | I had a job interview today and it went terrible, I cried for so long after as I felt like I failed myself. I need a job desperately yet I couldn’t motivate myself to start preparing until last minute, I thought I knew my script and what to say but my nerves kicked in and my forgetful brain went blank, and I started repeating my words, speaking absolute nonsense, I wasn’t speaking in coherent sentences anymore. Then they started asking me all these questions that I didn’t know the answers to, so I just start making up answers that were obviously wrong. I feel like I must’ve looked so incapable… I don’t even think I really want this job but I just feel so crap.
I read that unemployment and getting jobs is 8x more difficult for people with adhd which partly made me feel better but also made me feel like I’ll never get a job 😪 I am doing some temporary freelance jobs but I need something more committed/long term and permanent. I’m also unmediated rn too. | 2021-10-13T19:54:11.000Z | q7j83d | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Job interview | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7j83d/job_interview/ |
lvjames | Do small mantras help anyone else?
Awhile ago my girlfriend told me that when she is going to do something, a small task she will repeat it to herself as she walks through the house.
“Going to get water for my pills, going to get water for my pills..” and it helps her to not get distracted by everything she sees in between the bedroom and the kitchen.
More recently she asked if I would work with her on putting things away instead of down. Now I find myself repeating “away not down” most times I go to set something where it doesn’t live and it has been a really helpful way for me to start to make it a good habit.
Does anyone else have little things like that they repeat to themselves to help with these kinds of smaller tasks? | 2021-10-13T19:54:05.000Z | q7j80y | 3 | 4 | ADHD | I have found small mantras helpful with building habits and completing small tasks | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7j80y/i_have_found_small_mantras_helpful_with_building/ |
Attree3 | Any lawyers out here who struggles a lot? I have bad memory, no organizational skills, experiences brain fog, and have severe anxiety.
I recently resigned from my government position because I'm inefficient and I needed a clean slate. I got a job offer in a private firm and will start by next month. Honestly, I am very anxious and scared. I know my symptoms will come out eventually and mess things up. I guess my question is, how do you cope up? What specific role can we really excel? Our profession requires consistency, self-confidence, good memory, we read thousands of documents on a daily basis, we argue in public, I don't know, generally everything that is in contrast with having ADHD.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you very much. | 2021-10-13T19:53:02.000Z | q7j77e | 4 | 8 | ADHD | Query to lawyers who have adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7j77e/query_to_lawyers_who_have_adhd/ |
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ekistora | Hi so I was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago and have since been prescribed Adderall XR 10mg (for a couple months), Adderall XR 20mg (also a couple months) and now Vyvanse 30mg (two days now).
On the first day of trying Adderall, I was ecstatic. I finally felt like I could concentrate and my thoughts were quieter. A friend of mine even pointed out that I talked slower and stuttered less.
However, after that, nothing has seemed to work and I feel quite normal (i.e. unable to focus or accomplish anything), even with the increased dosage of Adderall. The only difference was that I felt more tired on days that I didn’t take it which was easily remedied by caffeine. I was excited to switch to Vyvanse, hoping for a different outcome, but it’s been much the same result.
Is this normal?
For those of you who have taken medication, is there always a noticeable effect?
For those of you who have switched medications, had there been a significant difference in effect?
This is causing me to feel a bunch of imposter syndrome about whether or not I actually have ADHD as the medication doesn’t work which makes me contemplate whether or not I should continue pursuing medication despite the fact that I really want it to work!
Edit: I have also tried taking breaks throughout the week, choosing not to take any medication over the weekend to try to increase the effectiveness of the medication during the week. | 2021-10-13T19:47:58.000Z | q7j3ij | 7 | 0 | ADHD | Medication doesn’t seem to work? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7j3ij/medication_doesnt_seem_to_work/ |
aequornimbus | I honestly don't know what to do. I didn't even know ADHD was a thing I might have until I read a book on it three to four years ago. I'm late twenties and my adult friends all thought I had a diagnosis. Hell, two of them have ADHD and they thought I knew.
But I got a call today, stating that after talking "with the team" at the NHS service I'd gone through, they didn't consider me to have ADHD.
I really don't have a clue what to do, I feel betrayed. My parents certainly didn't help the matter, they made it sound like I was fine until my teenage years when we moved, and that all my problems were caused by the move.
I've struggled with attention and productivity my entire life, it was commented on that I would rather talk than get on with the work, and that I never finished work on time. Everything was done at the last minute, and I've always been forgetful.
I'm just so freaking angry. How do I move forward on this? | 2021-10-13T19:45:47.000Z | q7j1wi | 8 | 6 | ADHD | So I'm not getting a diagnosis, after being on the waiting list for two years | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7j1wi/so_im_not_getting_a_diagnosis_after_being_on_the/ |
OutcomeImaginary7093 | So, I've been a part of this little community for a while but all I did was read threads so why not make my first post be about something that absolutely changed my life.
TW: Mention of Depression, Anxiety, Eating Disorders, Drug/Alcohol abuse
I was diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive) when I was 6 years old (perks of having a mom who was a clinical psychologist for 20+ years). I started taking stimulant ADHD medication at 6 and have taken various kinds of stimulants over the course of 15 years (I'm 21 now). They always worked until I built a tolerance for them and had to move on to more powerful, longer-release meds. I'm currently taking Vyvanse 30mg and a 10mg Adderall bumper in the afternoons for homework time and whatnot. I also have a long personal history of depression, anxiety, and eating disorders. My family history also has a long line of these same things with the lovely addition of drug/alcohol abuse. So, least to say I had to carefully tiptoe my way through the medication world. My depression and anxiety went untreated for many years until I was about 14. After a scooter-ankle attempt, my family and psychiatrist said "anti-depressant time" and I've been on and off them since. I went through years of anti-depression medication and therapy and it never really fixed any of my problems. My anti-depressants would dampen the effects of my depression (the voices in my head got quieter but never went away) and therapy only lasted so long. I just kept going through this awful cycle of manic perfectionism to mask my low-self esteem and debilitating self-loathing depression. My way to cope with this cycle was to binge eat when I was super depressed and then puke it up to get rid of the guilt or during my manic cycle, I would heavily restrict and exercise for 2-3 months, lose all the weight, and then restart the binge eating. So, as you can imagine, I developed a nasty case of bulimia nervosa. My stimulants helped calm my depression, anxiety, and my binge eating disorder, buuuuuuut it also made my restrictive bulimic tendencies flair up. It was just an awful lesser of two evils situation.
But it gets worse :)
I went to college in 2018 before I was even close to being ready for it and everything just went to shit. I started abusing my stimulants, wouldn't sleep or eat for days, then have massive binges and do absolutely nothing for my studies. I smoked the grass and cigarettes. Grass and nicotine literally made me forget how to spell simple words. I seriously think I lost brain cells. Oh, and did I mention the codependency issues I had? Yeah, that was fun. So I ended up flunking out of my first university in the middle of my sophomore year in 2019 and when COVID hit in 2020 I had a year where I decided to finally get healthy. I started therapy again, I opened up about my drug abuse to my psychiatrist, I talked to my family about my experiences and how I was miserable. I was all-around a really sick human being. But, I started to slowly get healthier and in 2021 I started classes at a good school that genuinely cares about me and accommodates my needs.
But things still weren't better enough.
The consequences of my frequent stimulant abuse made my tolerance to my medication so high that I could take 100mg of Vyvanse and 50mg of Adderall at the same time and not feel a thing. My heart was so stressed there were times I genuinely thought I was going to die. So, with the mix of taking classes and my tolerance being so high that meds didn't work anymore, you can imagine the amount of stress, anxiety, and depressive thoughts I had. It sucked balls bro. I would keep torturing myself with the thought that "if you just tried harder/if you weren't lazy/if you were just normal, you'd be doing better". The cycle of manic perfectionism and executive dysfunction depression came back. I could manage it. But managing isn't thriving. I was constantly battling these thoughts in my head and pair that with ADHD, it's like trying to tune out a screaming match and the Wii menu music at the same time.
But then I got my Wellbutrin (150mg 24hr extended-release)
OH MY GOD!!!! WHERE HAS THIS BEEN ALL MY LIFE!!!!!!!?????? All the bad thoughts are gone. Finally, my head is clear! I can think a coherent thought without speeding out of my mind on stimulants. I finally feel happy and calm for once in my life. Even on days where I don't take my stimulants, I can still focus! I can wash a load of laundry and put it away without living out of the same laundry basket for a month. I don't fall into the pit of executive dysfunction or scrolling paralysis anymore. I don't feel like a void of a human being. I don't experience sub-drops where I feel like the world isn't real. I don't experience under-stimulation or overstimulation. I can finally live a normal life and it feels amazing. The world is finally calm, the voices are finally quiet, and there's no more of that goddamn Wii menu music stuck in my head.
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If you relate to how I've felt, please try Wellbutrin. This stuff really changed my life for the better! | 2021-10-13T19:44:22.000Z | q7j0u7 | 6 | 10 | ADHD | Finally got on Wellbutrin and I FEEL AMAZING!!!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7j0u7/finally_got_on_wellbutrin_and_i_feel_amazing/ |
[deleted] | Why do I struggle to get up and pee? I know i have to and i really want i just cannot go, except if a perfect opportunity comes and i Have ti go. Same goes with showering, I would not shower as often if my girlfriend did not make me.
I also Have been complaining about lack of concentration which is getting worse and worst but i passed my last university exam with just studying 24 hours before because it was multiple choice and also had to do with critical thinking, so now noone believes me that i cant concentrate. Next exam on friday, Have not started studying anything... | 2021-10-13T19:43:13.000Z | q7izz4 | 4 | 5 | ADHD | Executive Disfunction | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7izz4/executive_disfunction/ |
GebThePleb | Hey guys! I’m in a bit of a situation. I’ve been off my meds for close to 5 years and I’ve had about enough and I’m trying to take steps to find a way to get meds while not going into extreme poverty. I don’t have any insurance since my parents kicked me off of theirs, and I make just a little too much to qualify for state insurance, as well as the fact that I’m working part time so I don’t qualify to be on my employers insurance. And just to hit the nail on the coffin I’m fuckin broke.
I tried looking at some free clinics but they can’t prescribe any controlled substances, and they can only refer me to mental health facilities that would cost a lot more then I could afford, especially without insurance.
If anybody would have any ideas, I would greatly appreciate it. I’m really really tired of dealing with this unmedicated disaster everyday and I just feel like I’m destroying my whole life without meds and/or the holy planner. | 2021-10-13T19:43:04.000Z | q7izv9 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Stuck on where to get meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7izv9/stuck_on_where_to_get_meds/ |
ihatereddit2434 | Im 19f and I talk to my therapist once a week and I find myself feeling really weird afterwards every time. I always feel like people are pretending to like me. I feel like the only reason she’s acting like she likes me is because she’s being paid to. In her head I wonder if she’s judging me. I can’t even be completely honest with her because my parents pay her. Also she has spoken to my mom before and it just feels really weird talking to someone who has met my parents. I know there’s client confidentiality and she can’t say things to my parents that I don’t allow her to. My mom gets curious what we talk about and talks to my therapist sometimes. This just makes me feel super uncomfortable and I’m not entirely sure why. | 2021-10-13T19:42:29.000Z | q7izgl | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Afraid of saying the wrong things to my therapist | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7izgl/afraid_of_saying_the_wrong_things_to_my_therapist/ |
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ajskgkjathrowaway | i’ve been forced into job hunting and looking into potential uni degrees recently but…. nothing is interesting. if something is interesting, i *immediately* lose interest the following day. i’m not comfortable applying to any programs with this constant pattern, especially when most of the degrees are hyper-specific. it’s like up-and-down mood swings.
i’d really rather be lost drowning at sea, nothing is even remotely interesting enough to actually be forced at gunpoint into doing in real life, let alone doing *more than once.* or god forbid being STUCK with it | 2021-10-13T19:41:08.000Z | q7iyhc | 4 | 5 | ADHD | so how do you.. stick with a career? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7iyhc/so_how_do_you_stick_with_a_career/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T19:39:42.000Z | q7ixg5 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Welbutrin->Strattera->Clonadine? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ixg5/welbutrinstratteraclonadine/ |
Scaredyfish | I read a lot of stories here about people struggling to get a diagnosis of ADHD, or of a change of doctor or psychiatrist withdrawing a previous diagnosis of ADHD.
I watched a Russell Barkley lecture (Timestamp: [https://youtu.be/NUQu-OPrzUc?t=2730](https://youtu.be/NUQu-OPrzUc?t=2730)), where he talked about ADHD testing being unreliable, and rating scales being far better.
Personally, I have recently been told by a psychiatrist after just a conversation, with neither test nor a rating scale, that I have 'traits of ADHD and Autism', which I find very unhelpful - I don't really know what to do with that information.
On the one hand, it's obviously important to get an accurate diagnosis from a medical professional, but if we can't trust those diagnoses, then that hurts everyone. It hurts people who have been told they don't have ADHD, because they don't know whether to continue to seek an ADHD diagnosis, or look elsewhere for help with what they're struggling with. And it hurts people who have been diagnosed with ADHD, because when diagnosis is so unreliable, it contributes to imposter syndrome and continued worries about whether it's actually true.
Is there a way out of this mess? It feels so helpless just waiting for the medical community to catch up to our needs. | 2021-10-13T19:36:25.000Z | q7iuyt | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Is it possible to reliably diagnose ADHD? | 0.57 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7iuyt/is_it_possible_to_reliably_diagnose_adhd/ |
LittleLylah | Probably because of today’s hyper-fixation on politics. It’s the perfect chaos for my ADHD because there are so many problems that I can research, then my energy tells me I can find solutions, and then I get depressed because there are so many issues and I’m not interested anymore (for that day.) I’m honestly just happy that it’s not fixating over a guy this time. Very happy. There’s a silver lining to everything. Maybe someday I will make a difference because of my ADHD and my fixations. What do you guys get fixated on? How do they make you feel? | 2021-10-13T19:36:24.000Z | q7iuyj | 1 | 2 | ADHD | On a scale from 1-10, my mood is a 10, 1, and 5 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7iuyj/on_a_scale_from_110_my_mood_is_a_10_1_and_5/ |
GiraffeReddit | Hello all,
I am someone who is undiagnosed with ADHD and was really struggling with finding resources to get medication or at least a diagnosis. Fortunately I went to my doctor for a physical today and explained my concerns and he was willing to prescribe me adderall xr and see if it helps improve the way I am feeling.
The one thing the doctor had mentioned was that he recommends not starting it on a day when someone has something big going on.
Tomorrow would be the day I would begin taking it but I have a midterm tomorrow morning. I was curious if I should skip it and start Friday instead because of the midterm or if it would be better to take it tomorrow anyway despite having the midterm. I could also take it after the midterm but that would put me at taking it around 10:30am-ish which I dont know if thats too late in the day or not?
Also, if I dont take it tomorrow instead I would start Friday, and on Friday I have to drive a long distance and so I don't know if that would be a good day to take it for the first time either.
Am I overreacting, what should I do in regards to this?
Also want to say thank you to anyone in this sub. I am a very medication hesitant person and you guys have made me feel so much more comfortable getting the help that I need and also provided such help ful information! | 2021-10-13T19:35:27.000Z | q7iu9z | 12 | 7 | ADHD | Questions about starting Adderall XR | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7iu9z/questions_about_starting_adderall_xr/ |
UnbalancedSprite | Just looking for any good advice, hacks, tricks, methods etc. that has helped anyone who deals with ADHD in the workspace. I work at an office job in accounting but I’m curious to hear from anyone who has some solid advice on stay on task, not forgetting things, specific systems that have helped them. All that. I love trying new things | 2021-10-13T19:34:03.000Z | q7it81 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Best advice for ADHD adults and work? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7it81/best_advice_for_adhd_adults_and_work/ |
spudnation9 | I ran cross country in high school and I was pretty good, I was always able to push through the pain of my lungs burning or cramps more than my peers. I stopped running when I went to college and now 5 years later I'm working on getting back into it. I got diagnosed with ADHD-PI about 6 months ago which has really helped me realize why running was so important to my success in life, it effectively partially treated my ADHD for years.
Anyways, as I've been getting back into running I've found it to be much much more difficult than it was before, partially because I'm out of shape, and partially because my medication is helping so much. When I'd get cramps running before, random things would start going through my head, for example one of the songs that used to play on Madden '06 (Night Drive by The All-American Rejects if you're curious), or creating stories about the bear that lived in the bush I just ran by. Now the random thoughts don't come and I just have to be thinking about how much running hurts.
Certainly not a complaint, I find it to be funny because other aspects of my life have really improved, but boy running got harder. | 2021-10-13T19:33:40.000Z | q7iswb | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Funny ADHD and Running | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7iswb/funny_adhd_and_running/ |
QuickWatercress6396 | [removed] | 2021-10-13T19:33:37.000Z | q7isui | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Bad Experience with Vynanse, changing as a person | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7isui/bad_experience_with_vynanse_changing_as_a_person/ |
Dominant_Genes | I take 20mg of Vyvanse and 80mg of Stratera and can’t stop sweating! It isn’t just my armpits but my entire face and body. I am a larger woman (I am working on this!) and currently 5’4” and around 250lbs. My face regularly has become rosey and drenched in sweat! I look like I’ve worked out at the gym, so it isn’t really great currently. I’ve always run hot temperature wise but the really odd part is that I am sweating but have ice cold hands!
Has anyone ever dealt with this and do you have any advice?? I am new to combo therapy with Stratera, and am surprised at the difference! Fairly certain the Vyvanse is to blame as I was a week without the script and just restarted after a week off and only Stratera. | 2021-10-13T19:31:17.000Z | q7ir3g | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Sweating profusely on Vyvanse and Stratera | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ir3g/sweating_profusely_on_vyvanse_and_stratera/ |
liloandthrowmeaway | Hi everyone I’m on adderall and I’m mainly having the side effects of running to the restroom 5 minutes at least after taking it and quite a few times after throughout the day, and no it’s not to pee. So I had a few questions I hope someone can answer.
1. Has anyone else had to constantly use the restroom like this while on adderall 10mg?
2. Has anyone changed their diet while on adderall? I want to start eating more healthy and organic but I don’t know how it’s going to change my medicine effects.
3. Have any humans with (vaginas) had problems with their Libido? I feel awful never being able to get that ummmm (wet) feel, I’m always (dry) and it’s always a problem for me even thought I feel in that (mood).
4. Does anyone else have problems with the downfall (wearing off) of the medication? My dr prescribed more for the afternoon when I tend to get aggravated and irratated because I know I can’t focus anymore. | 2021-10-13T19:30:30.000Z | q7iqha | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Quite a few questions! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7iqha/quite_a_few_questions/ |
GuyBlushThreepwood | And it’s not just coming up with good lies. Lies are the fool’s option. It’s full on mental calculus to retcon the narrative with something true enough that you don’t get caught in lies you’ll never be able to remember anyway.
I realized the overdevelopment of this at lunch when a friend was asking for good excuses for missing a deadline and I went too deep in “you can’t say X, cause that means person Y will then expect Z. If you tell Z option 2, then they could talk to person Q. But if you do option 3 then that will make them wonder about last week…” And others’ reactions made it clear that other people aren’t overthinking all this the same way. | 2021-10-13T19:30:12.000Z | q7iq87 | 50 | 628 | ADHD | I feel like adult ADD is a masterclass in coming up with on-the-spot, well-adjusted reasons for why you did or missed the dumbest things. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7iq87/i_feel_like_adult_add_is_a_masterclass_in_coming/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-13T19:29:01.000Z | q7ipar | 1 | 1 | ADHD | On a scale from one to ten, today’s mood is a ten, one, and five | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ipar/on_a_scale_from_one_to_ten_todays_mood_is_a_ten/ |
Dominant_Genes | [removed] | 2021-10-13T19:27:36.000Z | q7io8x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Sweating profusely on 20mg Vyvanse and 80mg Stratera. HELP! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7io8x/sweating_profusely_on_20mg_vyvanse_and_80mg/ |
Competitive_Monk2954 | I use my hobby with reptiles as a reward system, so I’m not using food as a reward system, which is unhealthy. I do it wisely, and set goals for myself that won’t lead into overspending or animals in an unhealthy situation. (Some of the rewards involve building new enclosures, or redoing old ones, sometimes having a new animal, but those are for very large accomplishments, and are often worked towards in small steps) This can mean that planning on getting a new reptile can have more than 10 rewards for whatever needs to be done in my life. I’m the one paying for all of it, and the one doing everything from making enclosures to taking care of the animals.
However, I live in a household that will not allow me to continue going deeper into the hobby. It’s common for people with reptiles/amphibians to have quite a few animals, due to the low maintenance care and small space that most of them need.
With not being able to implement a healthy reward system, I feel like my productivity and mental health have really gone down hill.
Does anyone know how to relieve this? I’d be super appreciative, because right now I just feel trapped and depressed | 2021-10-13T19:24:44.000Z | q7im4h | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Using your hobbies as a reward system ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7im4h/using_your_hobbies_as_a_reward_system/ |
redkokio | I’m not sure if it’s common practice to be diagnosed with something but then not have any actual proof of the diagnosis.
My first psychiatrist I went to they had me take a test, but instead of the ADHD test I had asked for it turned out to be bipolar. They also said I have anxiety and OCD on top of depression.
Is there somewhere I can go to see my official diagnosis? I feel like I was just told I had these things then prescribed antidepressants.
On top of those previously mentioned I now also have ADHD, which, again, I’m not sure how I can access any proof of diagnosis or if there’s even an actual file/paper doctors are supposed to show you? | 2021-10-13T19:22:17.000Z | q7ik89 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Was I actually diagnosed or was I just prescribed meds? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ik89/was_i_actually_diagnosed_or_was_i_just_prescribed/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T19:19:48.000Z | q7ii8g | 2 | 6 | ADHD | Why am I like this lmao | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ii8g/why_am_i_like_this_lmao/ |
sianowen | I went from 30mg to 50mg a week ago after a check in with my psychiatrist. Something is telling me I may do best on 40mg with an optional Dex top up but I've not tried that combination, so I could be wrong. When I mentioned it to my psych he said to stick with 50mg for a while longer for it to settle more, so that's what I'm doing (I have another check in on 26th so will discuss it again then).
For further context, 30mg didn't last beyond 4-5 hours, so psych said to try a month of 50mg. It definitely lasts far longer, but I feel elevations in tension, irritability, talking too much, my appetite has plummeted - I didn't have these side effects on 30mg. These 50mg side effects aren't awful, but they are enough to bother me. That said, it's nice to have the energy into the evening to be able to focus on a film/go for dinner etc
What factors informed your decision on your 'end of titration' dose? | 2021-10-13T19:19:32.000Z | q7ihzu | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Elvanse/Vyvanse: at the end of titration, what factors/side effects helped you determine the final dosage? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7ihzu/elvansevyvanse_at_the_end_of_titration_what/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T19:13:03.000Z | q7id2y | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Thinking before you text | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7id2y/thinking_before_you_text/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T19:07:02.000Z | q7i8ht | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Realising my ADHD behaviours weren't just bad choices I was making. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7i8ht/realising_my_adhd_behaviours_werent_just_bad/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-13T19:05:43.000Z | q7i7iw | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I cannot finish books no matter how much I want to | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q7i7iw/i_cannot_finish_books_no_matter_how_much_i_want_to/ |
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