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Jazzlike-Opinion9301 | Hi everyone I don't know exactly know how this all works and if I am posting in the right space. I am a 19 male, and I was recently diagnosed with ADHD. I don't really know if their is a sub category to my ADHD nor do I actually know much about it. Considering the psychiatrist that I saw seemed more interested in diagnosing me and getting me out the door to pay as appose to really explaining anything. Not sure if this is just how it generally works but that was my personal experience.
I made this reddit account about 2 weeks ago, and since I have been debating writing this post because I have so many things I want to say and ask yet when I try and focus on it nothing comes to my mind. This last year has been extremely tough for me and the best way to explain it is I feel no matter how hard I try its like there is a hidden force that's sole purpose is to keep knocking me down.
I have so many dreams, ideas and goals but they just seem so unreachable, and I feel like I am going no where. No matter how hard I try and stay on top of things like exercising, eating, sleeping, routines, schedules, relationships, and all that fun life stuff that just comes naturally for everyone around me. Regardless I have never talked to other people entirely about my problems but It feels nice reading through this I want to say community? Its crazy how many things I have learnt and am continuing to learn about ADHD, and how many things that I cant even explain how much I relate to.
Another note I am also 6 days into my first ever medication (Vyvanse 30mg) For the most part its had a positive impact. There's been a couple days where I just feel so numb? I guess? Was wondering If there's anything I should know regarding my medication. Since no one actually told me anything about it besides it will keep me awake so take in the morning.
Well hoping I have posted this in the right area and followed the proper rules and all, if not can someone point me in the right direction.
Hope everyone is having day/night! Thanks :)) | 2021-10-11T12:55:37.000Z | q5v7o9 | 7 | 2 | ADHD | I am stuck. TL;DR (Is that what I put down for a long post? First ever reddit post.) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5v7o9/i_am_stuck_tldr_is_that_what_i_put_down_for_a/ |
Jaymundo_ | Hello all,
About 6 months ago I lost my insurance through a job that I was let go from and so I lost my doctor and medication for my ADHD.. my life went into a down spiral.
I was lost and struggling not sure what to do..
I started looking online for ADHD treatment to get prices on treatment (I decided I had enough suffering) and I stumbled across two websites. ADHDonline and Cerebral. I set up an account and appointment with Cerebral and just had my appointment today. Given my history of being prescribed vyvanse for ADHD in the past they decided prescribed me Adderall XR 25 mg and really my mind is in awe at the moment my mind is still soaking it in. Today my life will finally start getting back on track.
For anyone struggling with their symptoms PLEASE reach out for help please do not suffer I want to be able to offer support and help for those curious about telehealth because it works! I was skeptical today but after my appointment I was relieved that I did not have to suffer anymore. I will now be able to return to my work as a nurse and take a stand against this pandemic and for that I am proud and can cry tears of joy.
Sorry for my rambling but if it's anything you learned here today is to reach out for help! Do not feel defeated! I don't want another soul in my shoes ever it's been a long six months but today that all changes,
Best Regards,
Jaymundo | 2021-10-11T12:51:51.000Z | q5v59d | 15 | 8 | ADHD | Finally getting my life back on track thanks to cerebral! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5v59d/finally_getting_my_life_back_on_track_thanks_to/ |
bibitchsmoltits | i was diagnosed & started treatment in July. titrated up to 60mg vyvanse around August, realised it was too high & went back down to 40mg as I had the most benefits then before trying methylphenidates. i’ve been on 40mg again for 3 weeks & i do clean & go out more however i’m still scatty, my hyperactivity has improved (less troubling) but i still feel inattentive af. i’m still scatty in most areas, i can stick things out more & i’m more docile but there’s no massive improvements, i’m less hyper but still scatty according to my best friends & i’d say i’d agree.
so, as much as part of me doesn’t want to change medication again as i’m bored of titration i know it’s important & if something works better than this then i want it!
TL;DR: if anyone’s swapped from vyvanse to another medication like methylphenidate, what’s worked for u? i’m not too sure on which one to try & id like to hear ur experiences. also if anyone had any insight onto why vyvanse might not work as well for some i’d love to know! thanks | 2021-10-11T12:47:46.000Z | q5v2sf | 1 | 2 | ADHD | swapping from lisdexamfetamine - what worked for u ??? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5v2sf/swapping_from_lisdexamfetamine_what_worked_for_u/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T12:46:33.000Z | q5v231 | 189 | 942 | ADHD | Anyone really hate when others are late? | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5v231/anyone_really_hate_when_others_are_late/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T12:32:30.000Z | q5utxi | 91 | 128 | ADHD | I just don't get why some people turn down ADHD treatment, hear me out before any judgement is passed please. | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5utxi/i_just_dont_get_why_some_people_turn_down_adhd/ |
Toastman04 | [removed] | 2021-10-11T12:31:27.000Z | q5utbp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Finally going to the doctor for what I believe is ADHD. Are there questions I should have for him? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5utbp/finally_going_to_the_doctor_for_what_i_believe_is/ |
guycalledjez | There is a fair amount of ink, literal or digital, spilled for the benefit of the majority to try and understand us and how we think differently. My wife has wonderfully spent time reading about it to understand the difficulties I have and often knows how it affects me in ways I didn't realise. I want to meet her half way though. Just like how neurotypical people need a road map in understanding how we think which often seems logical to us but it opaque to them, I was wondering if there is some resource aimed at those of us with ADHD and, although we aren't all alike, where we do think in similar ways explains how this differs from the neurotypical majority, or at least how it might. Often my wife and I reach very different conclusions for following different paths of reason and it's not until she explains why do I get it. I would just like a resource that might help me understand before it happens, you know? Even if it isn't a 100% answer it could at least be a probability or somewhere to start from. | 2021-10-11T12:29:58.000Z | q5usd4 | 8 | 42 | ADHD | resources for those of us with ADHD to understand NTs | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5usd4/resources_for_those_of_us_with_adhd_to_understand/ |
thrashedxl | My adhd has been extremely bad for the past month, and it’s just getting worse. I can’t function.
I’m awaiting a talk with my gp for a referral to a psychiatrist who can prescribe me, but I really need to see someone now. I don’t know how I’m going to get through the next week.
For anyone in the uk, what can I do? Can I go private? Will that get me the meds quicker? I don’t have any money really, but I will do what I need to do if it means I can get help quicker. How long will it take? How long does a referral to a psychiatrist take through the nhs? My mind is driving me insane from my lack of concentration on anything. | 2021-10-11T12:21:51.000Z | q5unp6 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | I’m struggling really bad right now. I need meds desperately and I don’t know what to do | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5unp6/im_struggling_really_bad_right_now_i_need_meds/ |
VelvetierTrout | So waiting on an increase because my 30mg XR (doctor said there is no IR) runs out too quick and wondering if anyone had had any experience of taking another 30mg XR after the first had worn off or is just starting to wear off?
Please no judgement, I’m tired of only getting 6 hours worth of “brain do the thing I need you to do” in a 16+ hour day. | 2021-10-11T12:17:27.000Z | q5ul2i | 11 | 2 | ADHD | Vyvance/Elvanse question 🙋♂️ | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ul2i/vyvanceelvanse_question/ |
No_Influence4779 | other than meds what has helped you to follow through on your daily tasks
I know keeping fit is not hard
I have to eat relatively healthy, exercise and sleep well but I am doing exactly the opposite.
Even though I know before eating unhealthy that I should not be eating it,I am not able to stop myself
it is very depressing when I do not do what is required.
has anyone been though the same?
any suggestions? | 2021-10-11T12:09:25.000Z | q5ughf | 1 | 2 | ADHD | what has worked for you? I know but I cannot follow through | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ughf/what_has_worked_for_you_i_know_but_i_cannot/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T12:04:22.000Z | q5udih | 16 | 4 | ADHD | Psychiatry UK: How to start meds straight after assessment? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5udih/psychiatry_uk_how_to_start_meds_straight_after/ |
clairepritchett | [removed] | 2021-10-11T12:02:18.000Z | q5ucak | 16 | 5 | ADHD | I‘m pretty convinced I have ADHD | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ucak/im_pretty_convinced_i_have_adhd/ |
ADD-Swede | I don't know how it is for you, but for me it is challenging to cook for myself.
It is not the fact that I don't like cooking, it is more that after coming home in the evening, being drained of the day, I don't have energy left to think about what I should prepare.
The result is that I often have an apple and a sandwich accompanied by a bag of chips.
​
I started thinking about alternatives and the idea of meal planning came up. I remembered a short report on German TV about an modern classical music critic (Björn Gottstein) and his struggle with a demanding job (you need to play the notes you get yourself and then criticize it) and the wish to provide a proper meal to his family.
So he invited the "Ewiger Speiseplan" which roughly translates to eternal meal plan.
It not only takes the burden of thinking off you, it can also help you to improve your diet and save money! You can/have to adapt it to your needs, and therefore it is better than some meal plan you get from website XYZ.
Let me tell you how it works:
First of all you write down dishes you (and your family) like to eat.
Break them down into categories based on carbohydrates: potatoes, rice, pasta, flour, bread, ???
Next step is to assign everyday of the week a theme, for example:
Mondays are potato days, Tuesday it is pasta and Thursday is flour day.
(This categorizing of the days will help you to decide where to place which meal in your plan)
Fill them into a table:
Example: Only dinner for working of two weeks
||Monday|Tuesday|Wednesday|Thursday|Friday|
|:-|:-|:-|:-|:-|:-|
|Dinner Week 1|Fried potatoes with steak|Spaghetti carbonara|Kimchi fried rice with bacon|Pan cakes|Ordered meal from XYZ|
|Dinner Week 2|Oven potatoes with feta cheese|Pasta with salmon|Risotto|Pizza|New recipe|
​
**Benefits:**
* You can plan your shopping better as you **exactly** know what you will need (1-2 per week?)
* You can minimize food waste, as you exactly know what you will need and can adapt the weeks recipes to it (Omelette on Monday maybe leaves you some eggs for pancakes on Thursday)
* If you bought too much potatoes/rice/pasta, you know that you need it again next week anyways
* It saves you energy, thinking about what you should prepare tonight
​
**Tips and tricks:**
* Don't plan to long periods in the beginning (2-3 Weeks)
* It is OK to buy dinner, so maybe drop it into a cell of your meal plan
* Don't have red weeks or white weeks:
Don't make every meal of the week with tomato sauce or cream.
* Make place to try some new recipe:
Saturday night I would like to try this recipe my friend told me about
* It is OK to eat pasta/rice/potatoes twice or trice a week I guess ;)
* Involve your partner/kids into the planning
​
The thing about the plan and why it is called eternal plan is that it is meant to repeat itself. Nothing stops you using the plan over and over again, although it is unlikely that you do that in the beginning, because you have to adjust it to your situation and needs over time.
**It is as strict as you want it!**
I won't upload a meal plan for you, because my meal plan works for me, it does not necessarily work for you and I don't want to you to give up because you don't like what I eat.
I might end up updating this post in the future. | 2021-10-11T11:56:18.000Z | q5u8kk | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Meal planning - the easy way - eternal meal plan | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5u8kk/meal_planning_the_easy_way_eternal_meal_plan/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T11:55:19.000Z | q5u81o | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can’t get meds prescribed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5u81o/cant_get_meds_prescribed/ |
Harkonnen29 | I've researched quite a bit about ADHD recently and the descriptors certainly seem to fit for me - to some degree:
* I get distracted from low-dopamine activities easily and tend to procrastinate unless the pressure is on.
* I tend to whistles tunes to myself when not preoccupied with something more often than other people. Sometimes I actually find it difficult to stop when there's not much going on (for example whistling while cooking on my own).
* I've certainly experienced *Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria* before. Negative feedback can bring me down for hours and I quickly take offense when someone cracks a joke at my expense. Though I've gotten much better at dealing with this over time.
* I've learned to deal with social situations and how to initiate small talk quite well, but it certainly doesn't come easy to me. It takes effort and after several hours at a social event not directly related to my hobbies (like a family or business meeting), I tend to feel exhausted from it and need to "recharge" on my own.
* I sometimes don't pay close attention to what I'm doing because my mind is already preoccupied with the next thing. For example, while putting on my shoes etc to leave the house and visit a friend, I'd be thinking about a topic I want to discuss with them - only to notice that I forgot my car keys just as I head out the door. Sometimes I even realize that I've forgotten a *second* thing after that and end up coming back in a second time.
* When reading through dense information (like a document I need to grasp quickly for work), I tend to highlight/bold important bits and reformat/simplify things to better map all of the details in my mind. I don't have to read things twice to grasp them (like I've read some people with ADHD do), but I'm certainly employing strategies to help myself that others can do without.
* I occasionally get obsessed with certain media for a while (like songs or musicals) and listen to them quite a few times until I have memorized everything. I read someone else here post that they *"milk their obsession for every bit of dopamine"* \- and that describes my behavior really well.
All of these symptoms are somewhat present in "normal" people as well, which is probably why ADHD is often stated to be "not real" or "just being lazy". I'd say in my case they are just a little bit more pronounced than on a regular person. I'm lucky not to have any sever symptoms that would strongly impact my day to day life. I feel for the people who are more strongly impacted by ADHD and understand that medication is needed in their cases to alleviate their troubles.
All that being said, I still feel like I could be a lot more productive and I'd like to reduce the symptoms I *do* find in myself.
**TL;DR:**
What course of action would be right for someone with mild ADHD? Is there anyone here who's been in a similar spot? I'm 34 and I'm also worried that my partner would see me differently if I got diagnosed with ADHD. | 2021-10-11T11:42:58.000Z | q5u170 | 4 | 0 | ADHD | Mild ADHD - What to do? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5u170/mild_adhd_what_to_do/ |
FlightConscious9572 | If you are undiagnosed it can be easy to write the symptoms off as adhd however stress has many of the same effects on the mind and it can be hard to tell the difference. Stress can be dealt with without medication, although it can be hard.
Just something that was brought to my attention by my therapist | 2021-10-11T11:34:12.000Z | q5twe8 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Stress vs adhd | 0.44 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5twe8/stress_vs_adhd/ |
idunno324 | Im new to ADHD and Im curious about having a career and ADHD.
I get bored easy, my longest job at one place has been 4 years. Ive noticed (from reading in the subreddit) that others also find it hard to stay engaged with one job and will often move on to something new if the opportunity arises.
Another thing is college/ university. Im really considering doing a 4 year course but with my track record I dont know if it will be something that will interest me in the future and if its a good idea to sink so much money into.
Can someone share their knowledge/experience with me please? | 2021-10-11T11:29:01.000Z | q5tti5 | 15 | 4 | ADHD | Career/Jobs and ADHD? Can you stick to one job with ADHD? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5tti5/careerjobs_and_adhd_can_you_stick_to_one_job_with/ |
Silver_Gekko | I am 29, I have been medicated for ADHD for 2 years now. I am currently on 40mg of Methylphenidate a day. (2 x 20mg Equasym extended release). The meds have worked for me and have definitely helped me achieve things over the last two years that I wouldn’t otherwise have been able to.
I do however feel that they are becoming less effective. I’ve already had an increase in dosage.
I have been told that Vyvanse could potentially be a more appropriate medication for me and I just want to hear from anyone who has made the switch from Methylphenidate to Vyvanse and what your experience has been?
(I know this is a decision to me made by my doctor at the end of the day but I would like to hear from you before I even have the discussion) | 2021-10-11T11:20:48.000Z | q5toxm | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Experience with Switching Meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5toxm/experience_with_switching_meds/ |
OrbitalToe | [removed] | 2021-10-11T11:16:44.000Z | q5tmn7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I keep forgetting my skateboard wherever I go | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5tmn7/i_keep_forgetting_my_skateboard_wherever_i_go/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T11:13:36.000Z | q5tku0 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Chronic disassociation linked to Inattentive type? | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5tku0/chronic_disassociation_linked_to_inattentive_type/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T11:11:41.000Z | q5tjqn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it normal that my BPM peaks to 110 when on meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5tjqn/is_it_normal_that_my_bpm_peaks_to_110_when_on_meds/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T10:55:55.000Z | q5tb06 | 10 | 20 | ADHD | I'm scared to death that Adderall use and ADHD is going to prevent me from getting a new job. | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5tb06/im_scared_to_death_that_adderall_use_and_adhd_is/ |
ownthelibs69 | I don’t know where to post about this, but after months and months of attempting to find psychiatrists and failing (mostly due to fear of phonecalls and the number of clinics not taking new patients), I just had my appointment today with a new psychiatrist and got prescribed vyvance! I'm really, really excited, as after having the same dose of ritalin and concerta for around two to three years, it feels much less efficient. The psychiatry said this will hopefully be a lot more useful than my normal medication. Aaaaaaa so excited! Wish me luck!! | 2021-10-11T10:48:31.000Z | q5t7cy | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Gonna try Vyvanse tomorrow! Very excited!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5t7cy/gonna_try_vyvanse_tomorrow_very_excited/ |
PinkSodaBoy | One of the things I struggle with is situations like sitting down on the sofa "for twenty minutes" and then not getting up for three hours, or being sat working at my desk needing to use the bathroom and then not getting up for ages, holding it in and feeling uncomfortable (it's really unhealthy as well).
I'm sure a lot of you can relate!
One thing in trying at the moment is using a kitchen timer and setting it up on the other side of the room so I have to get up and switch it off when it starts beeping. This seems to give me the push to actually get moving and attend to whatever I need to do next.
For sitting on the sofa I'll set the timer before I sit down.
For needing to use the bathroom/eat lunch/go for a walk I'll keep the timer with me at my desk. When I start to feel like I need to go, I'll set the timer to five minutes and chuck it across the room (hence why it's an inexpensive kitchen timer and not my phone). It gives me a grace period to finish whatever I'm working on before I'm forced to get up by annoying beeping.
It should also work for spending too much time on social media or online shopping or whatever. Just give yourself a set amount of time to browse, set up a timer across the room and then you have to snap out of the scroll and attend to it.
Hopefully this will be useful to some of you! | 2021-10-11T10:44:03.000Z | q5t55m | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Setting timers | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5t55m/setting_timers/ |
datcraziegirl | I got diagnosed with add when I was about 8-9ish and had to do a class again because i was getting set up with my meds and therapy.
They were working fine until about 10th grade and then they sometimes were making me tachycardic? Idk i can hear my heartbeat louder than normal and i feel like I wanna run around but at the same time i feel really calm and focussed.
It doesn't happen like that all the time. Most of the time they work fine. Just the times they do that weird thing is annoying. Maybe it's what I ate for breakfast?
I would ask my psychiatrist but he feels really incompetent at times | 2021-10-11T10:42:15.000Z | q5t4ag | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Sometimes my meds feel like they work wrong | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5t4ag/sometimes_my_meds_feel_like_they_work_wrong/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T10:37:38.000Z | q5t1yh | 4 | 4 | ADHD | My assessment isn't until February 2022 and I feel like I'm going to get fired before that | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5t1yh/my_assessment_isnt_until_february_2022_and_i_feel/ |
EquivalentFondant467 | Hi guys, I’ve just been diagnosed a month ago with ADHD (inattentive type) and I’m trying to be proactive and find systems that help me navigate the world with my weird brain in tow 😂 Starting a new job in a couple of weeks so I was wondering what everyone’s recommendations were for planners? I tend to start and quit planners, notebooks or any sort of productivity systems a lot… nothing has stuck so far. I do really like the Hobonichi Cousin which I have been using for a while but wondering how to make it more ADHD friendly?
What are your favourite systems? How do you plan your day/week/month? What (in your opinion) is essential in a planner? Also if you use Pomodoro, do you plan your pomodoro in advance (ie this will take me 3 poms?) or do you just use it as a timer and a way to take breaks on a regular basis? Thank you so much xx | 2021-10-11T10:36:44.000Z | q5t1i0 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Hobonichi or other preferred planner? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5t1i0/hobonichi_or_other_preferred_planner/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T10:35:57.000Z | q5t13r | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Psychiatry UK: Has anyone managed to get their appointment sooner? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5t13r/psychiatry_uk_has_anyone_managed_to_get_their/ |
baconmanic42 | [removed] | 2021-10-11T10:35:13.000Z | q5t0q6 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Intermittent fasting.. while on meds | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5t0q6/intermittent_fasting_while_on_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T10:32:13.000Z | q5sz9x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can anyone give me more indepth information about ADHD? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5sz9x/can_anyone_give_me_more_indepth_information_about/ |
rfgavis | [removed] | 2021-10-11T10:31:50.000Z | q5sz2w | 1 | 0 | ADHD | ADHD/Vata Mind (How it works) | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5sz2w/adhdvata_mind_how_it_works/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T10:30:51.000Z | q5sykl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What can i do in class when I can’t focus? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5sykl/what_can_i_do_in_class_when_i_cant_focus/ |
lyrthz | Hey guys! Did you ever experience a kind of placebo effect with (well, without) Ritalin? A few days ago I forgot to take it (20mg in the morning), but I could still get through the day pretty good. I realized it only in the evening. And now I worry that I might take the meds unneccessary when I am technically capable of doing it without, you know what I mean? xx | 2021-10-11T10:25:42.000Z | q5svvp | 5 | 0 | ADHD | Ritalin and Placebo | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5svvp/ritalin_and_placebo/ |
sideline_coach | I'm ready to quit my job any day now due to overwork and a toxic environment. I can leave at any time since I have money saved but keep clinging with desperate hope because I struggle with change. My adhd is not good at handling change in my environment.
I'm a manager at a mfrg company and have shared my concerns with my boss among many others...with the overwork and the fact that my job has regressed to very basic, non-challenging work. It is so mundane I can barely stand it.
I went above and beyond to share information with my team via email and my boss replies "thank you. Can you schedule separate meetings to discuss each product." That would be 8 mtgs I have to schedule for doing something I didn't have to do. I would not be as angry if my boss had not said at a prior meeting that a new manager would be in charge of product launches and these are "products launch" mtgs.
Side note. There is a problem at my workwith female employees getting stuck with all the admin and organizing-type work....and also not being taken seriously which i'm not imagining as othes have complained. I even expressed this to my boss at one point and he was "angry" about it. The new manager is male. Not sure if it's just a coincidence but seems to be the trend on my team and in the company.
So I have nothing to lose if i'm ready to leave my job to simply reply to this email and ask, "in x mtg, you said John would be in charge of product launches? If this is still the plan, would this fall under his responsibilities now?" Literally nothing to lose here yet I'm terrified. I believe his request is unconscious and I tend to give ppl the benefit of the doubt but this new guy was hired a couple years out of school and here I am 20 years in the industry and 3.5 years at this company and continue to get the grunt work.
Adhd has given me a low self-esteem and I constantly feel the need to make up for my short-comings. But it seems pretty logical to ask in this case. However, I always give in...even when I know the person is doing something on purpose! Like I can know they are pushing my buttons and still comply??? Any advice to get over it and be brave? | 2021-10-11T10:21:06.000Z | q5sthn | 5 | 7 | ADHD | People-pleasing hurts so much. Why can't I stick up for myself at work when I have nothing to lose? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5sthn/peoplepleasing_hurts_so_much_why_cant_i_stick_up/ |
xCumulonimbusx | [removed] | 2021-10-11T10:09:05.000Z | q5snax | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I need search suggestions on to help me remember things, but when searching something new and suggestions come up once I've typed a letter, I forget what I was searching for in the first place 🙄 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5snax/i_need_search_suggestions_on_to_help_me_remember/ |
Telendris | I guess i should preface that I was diagnosed with Inattentive type ADHD about 3months ago? After a lifetime of all my issues being attributed to Depression and Anxiety, despite medications for those issues never really helping the problem and 'therapy' being a waste of time. I'm currently taking Dex twice a day (and the difference is....incredible)
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I am 32F and this week has been one of the worst weeks of my life.
Where i live, we are still subjected to Lockdown restrictions. My area is pretty free, however my mum and brother live in the main city which is literally locked down. You cant go in or out without a 'valid' reason.
I have seen my family a handful of times in the last 2 years inbetween restriction shutdowns, which has been incredibly difficult especially with my seperation anxiety and overall depression.
Last Sunday morning i got a call from my mum that my nearly 15yo cat had developed a blood clot that morning and that there was nothing anyone could do to help, my mum had to make the decision to let him go.
I left my cat with my mum so he could stay with his adoptive sister (he was an old cat, moving him away would have been distressing and cruel). I hadnt seen him since the start of May, i didnt even get to say goodbye to him. I ofc had a total breakdown, i was and am heart broken and id had previous anxiety attacks before this about how much i had missed him. I am devestated that I will never see him again.
The next 2-3days were just a blur of breakdowns, crying, hyperventilation and depression and sadness. My partner has been great throughout the whole thing but there was very little he could do ultimately.
Then the following happened over the next 3 days:
\- cut my fingers in the kitchen twice
\- cut my lip shaving somehow??
\- fell over on a walk, twisting my already dodgy knee and developing a huge lump/bruise on the side (walking hurts, moving in general hurts.)
\- my monthly red 'friend' turned up (i love cramps)
Everything that could go wrong, just has?
And to top it off, my ADHD has been fucking awful this week. Reading has been a nightmare, ive hyper focussed New World all week in an attempt to escape the misery, I can't motivate myself to do anything at all, im very depressed again, ive barely eaten, ive been drinking litres of water everyday to try to combat the dehydration of my meds + constant crying and my meds dont feel like they are doing a thing to help whereas previously they had seriously helped my anxiety, depression and attention.
I don't hear half of what people say to me, i get lost in my head on a downward spiral of bad and depressing thoughts and just end up crying.
Showers have become my worst enemy, i cant distract myself enough in them and i end up spending the whole thing crying.
I feel totally lost and like all the previous work i had done has just completely fallen apart. Like always i take 2 steps forward only for something to throw me 3 steps back just as things look up.
I think i just needed to rant, to write this all out and be miserable and overwhelmed. So if you read this far, thank you..and i hope your week has been better than mine.
TLDR; My cat had to be put down and I wasnt able to say goodbye, I injured my knee and a dozen other smaller things have all gone wrong including 'my time of the month' coming at the worst possible time, my ADHD has spiralled and I am a complete and total mess. | 2021-10-11T10:08:00.000Z | q5smpy | 7 | 2 | ADHD | This has been the worst week of my life | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5smpy/this_has_been_the_worst_week_of_my_life/ |
coffeeaddict666 | I am an engineering student and there is just so much work. I have already failed a full semester plus a few other classes, and took a year off and I’m only at community college still. My classmates from high school are graduating college this year and I’m 22 and in classes with 19 year olds. and i messed it up again.
I now have a C minus in 3 of my 4 classes. I need As to be able to transfer into the university I have been planning to go to. But it’s already the middle of the semester so it’s too late to bring up my grades. My professors are all strict and refuse to accept late work and don’t give a shit about personal circumstances or understand mental health at all (one of many reasons I hate STEM classes :| ). I have so many zeros. There are quizzes and assignments due every single day and I simply can’t keep up. I’m smart and I know if I could just sit down and learn the material I could do well but I just don’t have time.
On top of this I work part time at a restaurant and my boss is requiring me to work 30 hours a week because I told him over the summer that I could do that and he’s holding me to it even after I asked him to please lower my commitment as I’m struggling so much with school. Ive expressed multiple times to him that I can’t work so much but he just keeps telling me to manage my time better and it’s possible because lots of people do it. I know he needs my help and I know other people do it and that’s why I thought I could but I just cant. i feel like I am trying so hard but also not trying at all. I keep making plans to study before /after work but somehow it doesn’t get done.
My little sister has ADHD too and she is so successful, she is ahead of me in college and has a 4.0 and works in a research lab. She’s about to graduate and go to an amazing grad school which i’ll never be able to do. She never had these issues I have so I can’t even blame the adhd at this point.. My parents and siblings make comments about me being a loser. I’m the only one without a 4.0, the only one who still lives at home, the only one with no scholarships. I just feel so stupid and like such a failure.
It’s currently almost 6 am and I am just stuck. I had 2 assignments due at midnight last night that I didn’t do and they’re worth a lot. I just napped instead of doing them. Im just sitting here crying….I just wanna cry all day and drop out again. i really wanted to go to a good law school one day but now it’s just never gonna happen for me because you need a high GPA for that. I started medication for ADHD a couple days ago but i feel like it only helped me for one day. And even if I’m able to focus there’s just not enough time in the week to do everything. Not to mention there’s not time left in the semester to bring up my grades anyway.
I know disability services exist but I think you have to do that before the semester starts. And I know for sure you can’t retroactively apply accommodations anyway.
Sorry for such a long, negative and pointless post. I hope something like this is allowed. I just have no idea what to do right now and I figured I’d just reach out to the only people who at least can understand. Thanks for taking the time to read. | 2021-10-11T10:07:22.000Z | q5sme0 | 2 | 5 | ADHD | i cant handle college and now i feel like my life is ruined | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5sme0/i_cant_handle_college_and_now_i_feel_like_my_life/ |
ilikestuff94 | So, my manager is having a meeting with me this week about what changes could be made to help with my ADHD.
I work in an office where we have meetings with customers at our desks pretty much back-to-back. I'm fine with the meeting and speaking to customers. It's all the fiddly admin stuff in between appointments I struggle with. The admin side is really important to the role and, as we can be dealing with legal stuff, I can't too many afford mistakes.
The reason this meeting is happening because my manager basically said "maybe this job isn't for you if you can't handle all that stuff".
I want to know what adjustments have you made or want to make in a similar work environment. Thanks in advance! | 2021-10-11T10:01:49.000Z | q5sjg3 | 9 | 16 | ADHD | What adjustments should I ask my work to make for my ADHD? | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5sjg3/what_adjustments_should_i_ask_my_work_to_make_for/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T09:48:49.000Z | q5scs8 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Somewhat lost | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5scs8/somewhat_lost/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T09:38:34.000Z | q5s7v0 | 1 | 0 | ADHD | ADHD and Hyper attention | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5s7v0/adhd_and_hyper_attention/ |
alexpagans | I've been recently referred by my NHS GP to neuro-biology (?) for ADHD diagnosis but obviously it's going to take forever to get seen. Has anyone here had experience with paying for private diagnosis? I wondered if there's a way to get it through insurance maybe. I have no money so I'm not sure why I'm asking, suppose I'm just disheartened by the wait. | 2021-10-11T09:38:07.000Z | q5s7m5 | 20 | 6 | ADHD | Have any folks in the UK tried private diagnosis? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5s7m5/have_any_folks_in_the_uk_tried_private_diagnosis/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T09:32:19.000Z | q5s4tg | 2 | 1 | ADHD | I really need input/advice from anyone who has experienced something similar. I don't know if I'm just lazy or if it's something more to it. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5s4tg/i_really_need_inputadvice_from_anyone_who_has/ |
CheesePsycho | So, basically I’ve been seeing alot that ADHDers seem to have this ability to get through any task as long as their interested by it, a niche hobby or some random subject. The idea that you can be super productive if the dopamine says yeah. But I don’t get random interests, or any for that matter. Even things I used to enjoy haven’t been fun in a while. I don’t feel bad or depressed or anything, just a constant neutral with no motivation to do anything, I just sit around, unable to be any form of productive or enjoy any kind of hobby/entertainment. Christ, I’ve been living in my house for 2 months with almost no decorating progress. I know everyone’s ADHD is different so I was just wondering if this is a usual ADHD feeling and behaviour or if this is wacky new territory. Thanks! | 2021-10-11T09:29:40.000Z | q5s3ia | 3 | 4 | ADHD | TLDR; ADHDers usually have a bunch of niche hobbies and interests. I am uninterested and unexcited by everything. This Normal? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5s3ia/tldr_adhders_usually_have_a_bunch_of_niche/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T09:22:24.000Z | q5s0cp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | got prescribed ritalin 18mg, any advice? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5s0cp/got_prescribed_ritalin_18mg_any_advice/ |
Dragonman369 | Hello as the title suggests myRoomate has ADHD.
we both share a room together and are friends.
he has Mannerisms and Behaviors that are antisocial/Lacking Etiquette
he is often Restless and Very chatty, when he speaks his words they often have no meaning, and he is very forgetful.
his conversations are often very self centered and revolve around himself and he is very sensitive to Criticism.
whenever i give him criticism he gets very distraught and defensive often playing a victim.
i have been Very Patient and understanding towards him. i interact just like he is my brother.
he has Terrible Financial Habbits and Risk taking Behaviors i.e. Smoking,alcohol,Going to Clubs&Bars, bad sleeping habbits.
(i say smoking and bars&alcohol because he often goes there without having money😐 and buying smokes when he really should be saving money)
he doesn't know how to handle money so i usually Scold him to not spend. he sometimes listens to me.
He talks to his Friends including me too often and it ends up with him just rambling.
is Patience and Understanding really all that is Required towards Those with ADHD? | 2021-10-11T09:19:13.000Z | q5ryxp | 5 | 0 | ADHD | How to deal/Support roomate with ADHD | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ryxp/how_to_dealsupport_roomate_with_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T09:12:50.000Z | q5rw7y | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Being in the rollercoaster of life, I am in a mental impasse. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5rw7y/being_in_the_rollercoaster_of_life_i_am_in_a/ |
pancr3a5 | [removed] | 2021-10-11T09:06:24.000Z | q5rtb5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Cluster B? ADHD, OCD? I'm so confused | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5rtb5/cluster_b_adhd_ocd_im_so_confused/ |
RockLarge5082 | So back in August, I had a problem with my Jeep, tore it all apart, replaced the seals in between the heat exchanger (om642) and then put a new turbo in. This took a full weekend plus (I am not a mechanic, but an electrician).
While I'm doing all this, I'm listening to what is happening in Afghanistan with the withdrawal and thinking of my time there.
I couldn't get the jeep running again, and went into full panic mode. Started having poor sleep and waking up in terror.
Checked myself into MH who gave me 30 days at home. At this point I have 3 weeks before my first psychiatrist appointment who immediately gives me a diagnosis of PTSD.
While I've been off work, I went down the rabbit hole of what the symptoms are and there's so much overlap with ADHD that I stumbled upon it fell into the grand Canyon. Bindged HowToADHD, and most of what I could find on YouTube. Then I found an online test, jebus, it lines up. Then another, and another. So I asked my counselor to book me an appointment to get diagnosed. Set up for next week, but the suspense is killing me and I'm thinking to myself, "my son has it (3yo/m)", "my mom has it".
Its driving me nuts wanting to know, from what I'm reading, it sounds like combined type. But my wife is just saying to me, "stop focusing on that, wait till you see the Dr". Ahhhhhhh
I'm concerned that it won't be properly addressed as I've been pegged with PTSD (different docs but still). I'm also concerned it'll just be dismissed. I've got what I think it's fog, but I don't know any different. I really want to try Ritalin or Adderall just to see what is like. Having THC or CBD has helped so much.
TLDR: Got diagnosed with PTSD, think I have ADHD too | 2021-10-11T09:02:03.000Z | q5rrcd | 2 | 1 | ADHD | PTSD diagnosis leading me down the rabbit hole that is ADHD | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5rrcd/ptsd_diagnosis_leading_me_down_the_rabbit_hole/ |
reuhop | I've always been confused by the term "think before you speak." This gif is a good visualization of what speaking feels like to me: https://tenor.com/view/wallace-and-gromit-wallace-gromit-train-tracks-gif-8865867
I just kinda hope I find the right words as I'm speaking. You only have a split second to respond to someone after they're done talking. How the hell are you supposed to consider all the ways you could say something, and make sure it doesn't offend anybody and come across the way you intended in that time. Do people actually have multiple dialog options thought out in that time? | 2021-10-11T09:01:21.000Z | q5rr10 | 181 | 780 | ADHD | Are people without ADHD able to think over what they're saying before they say it's? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5rr10/are_people_without_adhd_able_to_think_over_what/ |
pancr3a5 | [removed] | 2021-10-11T08:47:30.000Z | q5rknp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Unable to have a crush | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5rknp/unable_to_have_a_crush/ |
pancr3a5 | [removed] | 2021-10-11T08:43:14.000Z | q5riwz | 19 | 31 | ADHD | Nothing I say matters, why? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5riwz/nothing_i_say_matters_why/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T08:35:10.000Z | q5rfiy | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Thoughts on people who self diagnose? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5rfiy/thoughts_on_people_who_self_diagnose/ |
SaltyMia77 | Is it just me who starts watching a show, gets a few seasons in and then cannot for the life of me continue? For example I’m currently:
On season 3 of Pretty Little Liars
On season 4 of Teen Wolf
On season 2 of Criminal Minds
On season 4 of Young Sheldon
On season 2 of Shameless
On season 3 of Suits
And although I want to watch all of these shows so bad, I just keep rewatching Brooklyn 99 over and over again. I’m not even exaggerating I’ve watched it atleast 15 times, I finish it and then just go right back to episode one even though I’d desperately love to find out what happens in Teen Wolf or Shameless | 2021-10-11T08:29:31.000Z | q5rd5u | 3 | 6 | ADHD | Watching New TV Shows | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5rd5u/watching_new_tv_shows/ |
tacvisitor | I forget EVERYTHING I can’t see in my physical space, and that’s pretty rough for things that live only in my computer in digital form, like emails, projects and messages.
That’s why I designed a simple Digital Desk wallpaper that lets me physically see things I need to be reminded of when I use it as my laptop’s wallpaper.
I use my iPad to fill out the digital whiteboards every week with things that are new or related to work/personal life I should pay extra attention to.
There are little nudges in there like a charger on the table to remind me to charge my devices and a day/night icon on things I need to do in the morning and evening.
I’ve made a quick Canva template if anyone would like to use it too!
[Template Here](https://www.canva.com/design/DAEsfluRE4E/Nz13WeUw2raNTsBIJ4Umxg/view?utm_content=DAEsfluRE4E&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=sharebutton&mode=preview) | 2021-10-11T08:27:43.000Z | q5rcf0 | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Digital Desk to stop forgetting things I can’t see | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5rcf0/digital_desk_to_stop_forgetting_things_i_cant_see/ |
DavidTej | Hello, everyone. I need help convincing my school that I need to have access to register for classes earlier.
I started college a few weeks ago, and it's been... okay. Accommodations make it a lot more bearable and doable. I want to add another accommodation to my list but the disability support services at the school have to be able to convince the Academic advising office that I need to be able to register for classes early.
I don't know how to convince them that ADHD would hamper my ability to have a fair chance at class registration (everyone in the school is trying to register online at the same time and classes get full super quick).
Do you think I should just forget about it? | 2021-10-11T08:18:00.000Z | q5r8bt | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Asking for early class registration accommodation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5r8bt/asking_for_early_class_registration_accommodation/ |
purpurblox | It sucks. I've started school again, first time after starting antidepressants and seeing a psychologist, working towards a diag.
In most classes I'm doing great. In my whole life I've never been able to do as much homework without feeling horrid. I have people who help me with it.
But I am terrified of my math teacher, and I'm also just really bad at math- I get into math class and my brain completely turns off. I can't even really cheat because my understanding of what we're doing is so minimal.
Last year of school it was math + sciences that sunk me into a really really deep depression and also made me unable to work in all my other classes. I'm worried thats happening again.
The most frustrating is that bcs I'm scared of my teacher I can't bring myself to ask anything, and my brain shuts off and I'm completely unable to focus as soon as her class starts.
I'm just. Very lost. | 2021-10-11T08:16:35.000Z | q5r7ps | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Math making my life significantly worse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5r7ps/math_making_my_life_significantly_worse/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T08:03:30.000Z | q5r27g | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Redosing Vyvanse? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5r27g/redosing_vyvanse/ |
emmatolly | The semester just started with a lecture on deviant behavior and delinquency. My professor, who will also teach a seminar on stigma, stressed that he'd rather people who are late didn't disturb the class and stayed outside. So I send him an email afterwards, asking him to excuse and make an exception for my deviant behavior of always being late because I have a medical explanation for it. I explained what time blindness is and promised that I would try extra hard to be on time but will still probably fail to do so regularly but that I would hate to miss classes because of this. I finished by saying that me being late was in no way meant to be disrespecting him, my classmates or the social norms of his classes. Let's hope he finds it funny and makes an exception for me. | 2021-10-11T08:01:23.000Z | q5r18v | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Professor teaching sociology of deviant behavior and stigma does not want people to enter the class late; hope he will make an exception for an ADHD student | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5r18v/professor_teaching_sociology_of_deviant_behavior/ |
altaltaaltt | I check literally every single box for ADHD, I relate to I'd say 90% of the experiences of people with ADHD. My whole life I've had so much trouble thinking straight and focusing, doing anything slightly complicated mentally would make me go in circles. My god the thought loops are unbearable. Always been told by teachers, parents, family, friends, "just focus", "if only you could focus, you'd do great things" and I'd get constantly blamed for everything. Its so miserable. | 2021-10-11T07:53:16.000Z | q5qxhu | 58 | 199 | ADHD | The fact that I likely have undiagnosed ADHD that won't get diagnosed any time soon (3rd world country) makes me want to cry. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5qxhu/the_fact_that_i_likely_have_undiagnosed_adhd_that/ |
SpellProfessional609 | People with really bad adhd, i mean its effects you way more then it normally should, do you have any tips for falling asleep, waking up and keeping a regular sleep schedule? I struggle to fall asleep sometimes it can take up to 5 hours to fall asleep so any advice would be greatly appreciated. Also if you have any extra advice that would be great. Thank you in advance. | 2021-10-11T07:29:54.000Z | q5qn6s | 3 | 2 | ADHD | sleeping advice for really bad adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5qn6s/sleeping_advice_for_really_bad_adhd/ |
SomeYotedThing | I love watching good shows but it seems like I'm always left with more negative emotions than positive.
Watching the show is fun and all but when it ends I can't come to terms with it.
I miss the characters, get depressed if someone I liked dies, and generally just sulk over it.
It sometimes takes me weeks to recover after a really good show because my thoughts just keep spinning about the shows universe and characters, despite it being over... | 2021-10-11T07:28:35.000Z | q5qmlj | 17 | 47 | ADHD | I get way too attached and hung up on TV shows | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5qmlj/i_get_way_too_attached_and_hung_up_on_tv_shows/ |
SpellProfessional609 | [removed] | 2021-10-11T07:24:50.000Z | q5qkx6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | how to fall asleep faster | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5qkx6/how_to_fall_asleep_faster/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T07:22:35.000Z | q5qjxy | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Auditory processing issues or something else? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5qjxy/auditory_processing_issues_or_something_else/ |
Zaleembo | [removed] | 2021-10-11T07:18:30.000Z | q5qi11 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Interested how people here would diagnose me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5qi11/interested_how_people_here_would_diagnose_me/ |
bunnehroo | Hi! I have been lurking for a while and really appreciate this active community.
I was recently diagnosed and prescribed medication for the first time at age 39. The medication has an impressive effect in allowing me to easily do simple things that were blocked by invisible obstacles previously which is frankly amazing. Stuff like reading and responding to my work emails and messages on a daily basis.
Based upon recommendations from this subreddit, I have listened to the audio book of Russell Barkley "Taking Charge of Adult ADHD" and while there are some parts that I can readily identify that I need to work on like "Break it down and make it matter" I found most of the book to be very paternalistic and difficult to relate to read more like a book for parents of ADHD children.
I have seen some youtube videos with Russell Barkley and he is excellent live, where he doesn't talk down to his audience and impressively demonstrated authenticity and empathy, but I honestly hated this book.
Are there any other books that are more practical and relatable? Maybe more suitable for those in mid-life for example? I am not sure exactly what I am looking for... just something better.
I know that Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is considered a highly effective tool for ADHD, but I have not been able to make it work for me. Can anyone recommend a book specifically for this?
Thanks! | 2021-10-11T07:16:36.000Z | q5qh4g | 17 | 2 | ADHD | Adult ADHD book recommendations? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5qh4g/adult_adhd_book_recommendations/ |
sadandbored123 | I’m prescribed vyvanse and was going out for a friends bday. I had the BRIGHT idea to take some before I went out since I wasn’t planning on drinking. I took it about 5 hours ago and now I’m heading home. Is there anything I can do to help me fall asleep?? I know if lie awake in bed I’ll have a panic attack. | 2021-10-11T07:04:54.000Z | q5qbnq | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Took Vyvanse Too Late: Can’t Sleep | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5qbnq/took_vyvanse_too_late_cant_sleep/ |
faithinstrangers92 | Do you guys see where I'm coming from here?
It's not always that extreme, but very rarely can I do things on autopilot like many people seem to be able to - and if I attempt to I'll inevitably fuck it up tremendously or get side tracked without realising it.
Basically I need to walk myself through the steps of things that should be second nature to me; cooking a meal, food shopping, even things like driving and sex to some extent.
Maybe it's an overreactive measure because I'm aware of my tendency to overlook things? Either way it's real frustrating.
Can any of you guys relate? | 2021-10-11T06:58:15.000Z | q5q8dl | 2 | 5 | ADHD | Feel like you're doing everything for the 1st time? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5q8dl/feel_like_youre_doing_everything_for_the_1st_time/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T06:38:40.000Z | q5pzez | 5 | 12 | ADHD | I can’t force myself to care about anything I should enjoy naturally. | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5pzez/i_cant_force_myself_to_care_about_anything_i/ |
WildLifeInHell | I have an online friend who has a really poor sleep schedule and, possibly due to her adhd and possibly not, really poor self-discipline. She's tried everything and has finally turned to us in recent weeks to try to help fix it because her schedule is so out of wack her body forces her to be nocturnal.
I've been the most involved with trying to help (there are enough screenshots of me spam calling during wake-up time before giving up after 40-50 calls to prove it) but normal "get to sleep by this time" and "don't sleep between this time" doesn't really work due to her self-discipline. I've heard of reward systems being different with adhd and have had that proven enough times but I don't know how to do it SUCCESSFULLY so I wanted to ask people with experience.
We can't really give her anything because the closest person (me) lives about a 10 hour drive away. I've been thinking about maybe saying "I'll play x amount of time on this game we enjoy together with you" or something because we rarely get to game together because of school, but I don't know if that'll work and I also think the handful of times we do get to play together might not help with the system.
TLDR; How can I Pavlov my adhd long-distance friend into sleeping at a normal time? I'm good with mental warfare I promise. | 2021-10-11T06:37:23.000Z | q5pyqh | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Reward systems to help sleep? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5pyqh/reward_systems_to_help_sleep/ |
marcoamlabate77 | Hey fellow people. So I just wanted to write down this success I had today that made me feel so good. I was seeing some friends today and we decided to play this card game in which you get 2 cards each round which represented your powers and your 2 lives. So since there's a lot of different powers and rules, I never performed well, I often did dumb stuff simply because of lack of focus.
Today for some reason it was different. I put on some sunglasses and played the whole game like this. Won 2 of 3 games using strategies I never thought i'd be able to plan in such little time and looked like a total badass while at it. I even got to use the fact they thought I was a bad player to my advantage.
So that's it. It feels empowering to know I'm capable of performing well in more things than I felt like I was. I'm now so excited to look into getting medicated!
P.S.: If someone is interested, I can send a full explanation of the game, as it's a lot of fun. It's very niche rn and we call it "Little Douglas" | 2021-10-11T06:34:57.000Z | q5pxgg | 2 | 4 | ADHD | First time being good at a game | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5pxgg/first_time_being_good_at_a_game/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T06:27:38.000Z | q5ptvf | 3 | 6 | ADHD | Anxiety and brain fog due to Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ptvf/anxiety_and_brain_fog_due_to_vyvanse/ |
Skarksarecool | Ever since I increased my dosage of adderral to 25mg, I have nightmares pretty much every single night (not when I forget to take it though). Like this isn’t the worst thing ever, but I’m just curious if anyone else has had similar experiences, and it might just be because I’m remembering my dreams more because the stuff makes me wake up like 6x a night. It didn’t bother me so much initially, but lately it does .. is this typical for anyone? | 2021-10-11T06:17:51.000Z | q5ppdd | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Nightmares from medication | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ppdd/nightmares_from_medication/ |
anonymausmoosemousse | So one of the reasons my therapist says I have PTSD instead of ADD is because it’s genetic and none of my parents have it. I just found out tonight that my aunt from mom’s side had ADHD. I also asked about her brother who after research sounded like he might have it too. She said no because he finished engineering school; he just has no motivation. Some of her other siblings also struggle with life but don’t know about them.
I guess I’m just wondering if it’s possible to have it genetically if my aunt and possibly other extended family members have adhd but my parents don’t? Thanks | 2021-10-11T06:15:06.000Z | q5pnz1 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and genetics (extended family) | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5pnz1/adhd_and_genetics_extended_family/ |
Fender1973 | I’m currently studying for a bachelor in management (sorry if my English isn’t perfect, I’m Dutch😊). My employer is paying for everything. So I am really lucky.
For one of the modules I had to write a paper about a certain subject. I knew the deadline was last saturday at 24.00 h. So, because I haven’t been doing any work on the paper, last thursday I started to become a little nervous. Saturday morning I decided to postpone so I would have more time. Once I filled in the form, I noticed that postponing would cost me (or in fact, my employer) €125,-!!! That scared me so much. I deleted the form immediately.
And then my hyperfocus kicked in!!! I started working in the paper at 12.00 and finished it - after working non stop - at 22.23 !!! So I finished it before the deadline!!
I love hyperfocus!!!🥳🥳🥳 (although procrastination sucks…😒) | 2021-10-11T06:11:37.000Z | q5pm7u | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Hyper focus kicked in! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5pm7u/hyper_focus_kicked_in/ |
PatentedBathToaster | [removed] | 2021-10-11T05:57:16.000Z | q5peq9 | 3 | 0 | ADHD | Diagnose me (im going to the doctors next week anyway) | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5peq9/diagnose_me_im_going_to_the_doctors_next_week/ |
SaltyMia77 | I’m a Muslim, I am undiagnosed with ADHD but am hoping to get a diagnosis when we get out of lockdown.
I’m the only person in my family who prays regularly (or tries to) but I always have trouble remembering. Procrastinate the prayer until I see it be in 10 minutes before the next prayer goes so I get on my phone to wait. I end up missing the prayer and quickly sprinting to put on my hijab and pray.
I also have an issue with just getting up to make wudu where I know I should because the adhan is gonna go but I can’t find the motivation to get up/I forget.
Any tips? | 2021-10-11T05:56:36.000Z | q5pefa | 104 | 204 | ADHD | Muslims With ADHD, Do You Have Trouble With Prayers? | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5pefa/muslims_with_adhd_do_you_have_trouble_with_prayers/ |
MissionSecure1163 | Sigh... I'm really having this struggle right now and honestly I could use a few opinions. I've been on Adderall IR for 4 months now (XR was too strong). I've noticed some positives changes and I've also noticed that I'm more focused and ontop of my task. It's been very helpful in that aspect.
But here's the biggest dilemma with me. It's really altering my personality. I'm struggling to be social and I'm struggling to be interested in others to the point it's making me antisocial. I'm also just struggling to be empathetic to other people to the point it's mostly just my own self interest. I hate this aspect with a passion.
I'm having to take drug holidays from it on the weekends so I give my brain a break and I'm really beginning to notice a difference. I'm myself, my actual social, outgoing, bubbly and affectionate person. I feel like Adderall is ripping my soul out but I've been so focused and it helps me with productive things... But I'm really considering tossing it in the trash and trying something else with my doctor.... OPINIONS? | 2021-10-11T05:55:57.000Z | q5pe44 | 7 | 1 | ADHD | Altered personality on medication | 0.6 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5pe44/altered_personality_on_medication/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T05:55:47.000Z | q5pe1j | 3 | 4 | ADHD | “Self-medicating with arguments” | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5pe1j/selfmedicating_with_arguments/ |
TheImperfectMaker | We spend way too much on grocery shopping. It's a massive chunk of our expenses. Probably could have bought a house with five year's worth of grocery budget savings!
Typical ADHD household, stuff goes off, we are exhausted so resort to delivery and cereal!
If anyone has made a **vegetarian** weekly meal plan that is easy, cheap and quick I would *love* to see it!
Double happy points if you've made a shopping list that goes with it!
Even if it's not vegetarian, drop it in here because others will like it.
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THanks! | 2021-10-11T05:51:36.000Z | q5pc20 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Meal plan - please help! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5pc20/meal_plan_please_help/ |
rockythemusicslayer | [removed] | 2021-10-11T05:39:30.000Z | q5p65u | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Remind me… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5p65u/remind_me/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T05:37:18.000Z | q5p50f | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Anyone here diagnosed with autism before ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5p50f/anyone_here_diagnosed_with_autism_before_adhd/ |
Ra_Tata | I just got diagnosed with ADHD few days ago but haven't taken medication at all (I have a problem with my health insurance so probably next month I can get the medication . I told to my psychiatrist that I feel like I am barely exist in this world all the time and feeling like I am not " normal" . And she said that it is common trait with ADHD people.
Do you all think like that too? Just question since I feel curious about it... And how do you manage those feelings of "being misfit"? | 2021-10-11T05:31:30.000Z | q5p22r | 3 | 8 | ADHD | Do you all feeling like misfit all the time? | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5p22r/do_you_all_feeling_like_misfit_all_the_time/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T05:21:37.000Z | q5ox3c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone here been diagnosed with autism before ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ox3c/has_anyone_here_been_diagnosed_with_autism_before/ |
Responsible_Drop_531 | [removed] | 2021-10-11T05:13:54.000Z | q5otbw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | It was a good idea I think | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5otbw/it_was_a_good_idea_i_think/ |
catandthefiddler | Basically it's as the title suggests. My workspace uses google calenders and I've already set up reminders to pop up before meetings, but as you know \*hyperfocus\* is a thing and sometimes when I'm on focus mode or I'm attending to something else at home, I completely forget the meeting/ignore the notification and get into trouble for being late.
I've resorted to setting manual alarms on my phone for meetings, but is there literally any other way or tips you guys have to manage how you join virtual meetings? I feel like I'm genuinely on the verge of getting fired because of this | 2021-10-11T05:07:58.000Z | q5oqb3 | 7 | 2 | ADHD | How to stop forgetting meetings | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5oqb3/how_to_stop_forgetting_meetings/ |
Spirited-Rock-836 | [removed] | 2021-10-11T05:06:23.000Z | q5ophk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to force yourself to complete projects with ADD/ADHd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ophk/how_to_force_yourself_to_complete_projects_with/ |
createcrap | You know the one. Constantly transitioning and priming yourself to start a task. You’re ready to start but whoops you didn’t eat lunch yet. You’re ready to start and whoops you have to shower, you’re ready to start and whoops you got a phone call. Whoops need Transition period because that call was stressful and set you off kilter. Now you’re ready to start and whoops it’s strangely silent in this room I need to research the exact specific ambience sound that will help. Oh how did I end up climbing through my closet to find old speakers so I can create an 360 degree ambient noise experience because leaving my shower on in the bathroom for hours on end is actually a really terrible and unethical ambience noise machine. And you’re ready to start and whoops you’re getting tired. Maybe you should take a small dose of your meds because well this work is due tomorrow and you really need to start. And you’re ready to start and whoops it’s 3am you really should sleep. And you go to sleep and and whoops it’s the morning and whoops nothing is done and whoops you had a 4 weeks to do this and whoops now you have none and whoops here we go again. | 2021-10-11T05:03:00.000Z | q5onqc | 136 | 1,382 | ADHD | I’m stuck in an ADHD Loop | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5onqc/im_stuck_in_an_adhd_loop/ |
ksmith11011 | One way to get a dopamine boost is to go buy something. This is something I’ve struggled with in the past and it has prevented me from being able to save money. UNTIL, I discovered investing.
When I buy more of something I’m investing in, I get the same dopamine reward as I do with normal shopping except the value is preserved and I don’t actually lose any money.
I’ve also recently taken to collecting physical silver. So if I really want to go to a store and spend money I can do that instead or in addition to, and at least generate some savings in the process. | 2021-10-11T04:54:40.000Z | q5oj7q | 5 | 9 | ADHD | Retail therapy / shopping solution | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5oj7q/retail_therapy_shopping_solution/ |
catandthefiddler | [removed] | 2021-10-11T04:53:12.000Z | q5oicm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have tips for how not to miss virtual meetings? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5oicm/does_anyone_have_tips_for_how_not_to_miss_virtual/ |
Iccigato | I have emotions, let me preface that. I do feel them and they do vary both ways, however, my normal day to day basis is a neutral feeling. I also tend to have a disconnect to what people want from me, because I don't generally care about pleasing others. I guess I'm kind of selfish, but not in a damaging way. More like, watching someone hug their parent after they come back from the military, instead of crying I think "oh that's nice for them" and then ignore the situation completely because I don't care what someone else is doing with their life when it doesn't involve me. I kinda also roll my eyes internally when someone starts crying FOR that person. To me it's ridiculous because why would you care about someone else's business like that. That's just an example but it's generally what I mean. And I know I'm not unempathetic either because I love animals, rescuing them, I relate to people's problems and will defend them if hurt physically or emotionally. I guess I just don't care about other people's business in a way that affects me emotionally. Does anyone else experience this? Do ya'll think it's an ADHD thing? | 2021-10-11T04:51:21.000Z | q5ohdd | 8 | 14 | ADHD | I feel like emotionally apathetic, anyone relate? | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ohdd/i_feel_like_emotionally_apathetic_anyone_relate/ |
kralor_guldan | Why is it so hard to communicate with so called “normal” people? I am married to a woman who doesn’t understand how difficult it is for me to communicate with a “normal” person like her.
I am so tired of being told that I am lacking in empathy when I am constantly absorbing, processing and cataloging every emotional cue being given off by her 24/7/365. Every tone, every facial expression etc.
I am tired of being told that I “live in my own world” when the real issue is that she just doesn’t want to take the time to understand that the “world” is larger then her limited point of view.
I am tired of being told that I “don’t care” when all I have been doing for the past hour is listening and attempting to help solve her latest end of the world problem.
I am tired of having every mistake I make thrown in my face when I miss something when I am cleaning. I do best to clean but inevitably she finds “something” to complain about.
I just don’t understand why communication is so complicated
I’m so tired of always being “wrong” or | 2021-10-11T04:51:08.000Z | q5oh9s | 16 | 41 | ADHD | Why is it so hard to communicate with “normal” people | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5oh9s/why_is_it_so_hard_to_communicate_with_normal/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-11T04:41:32.000Z | q5oc6r | 3 | 6 | ADHD | my grandma tells me to just improve my behavior and thinks my adhd is just laziness | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5oc6r/my_grandma_tells_me_to_just_improve_my_behavior/ |
jhatfield4444 | Hi All,
Over the past year or so I’ve been heavily considering going back to school and obtaining a degree. I know it will be much more difficult now since I’m married with an almost 2 year old. Not to mention being in my 30s. Like most of you, I struggled a lot in school and dropped out. I did wind up going back a few years later and completing a certificate program. However, as we all know, that’s not a BA/BS. It has always been a huge regret of mine and I’m just so sick and tired of always getting asked what school I went to and having to either lie or be embarrassed about it.
I work in the IT sector and I’ve been able to get by with decent salaries (although not earning as much as I feel I should). However, as I get farther into my career I’m really wondering how much a lack of degree is holding me back. I’ll unfortunately never know what positions I was looked over because of it.
So my question for those still reading this is: Did you back to school with a family, how did you do it, and how much did it cost? What school did you go to? Was it worth it in the end? | 2021-10-11T04:39:36.000Z | q5ob7a | 3 | 5 | ADHD | Considering Going Back to School (35) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ob7a/considering_going_back_to_school_35/ |
Careless_Ferret1646 | [removed] | 2021-10-11T04:37:13.000Z | q5o9x0 | 4 | 4 | ADHD | I really want to inquire... how many people with ADHD take Meth and don't get high? | 0.71 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5o9x0/i_really_want_to_inquire_how_many_people_with/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T04:31:31.000Z | q5o6un | 1 | 1 | ADHD | My brain always feels like it has 70 chrome tabs open and about 30 items on a to do list. But I also procrastinate and havent done a single thing. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5o6un/my_brain_always_feels_like_it_has_70_chrome_tabs/ |
RockLarge5082 | So back in August, I had a problem with my Jeep, tore it all apart, replaced the seals in between the heat exchanger (om642) and then put a new turbo in. This took a full weekend plus (I am not a mechanic, but an electrician).
While I'm doing all this, I'm listening to what is happening in Afghanistan with the withdrawal and thinking of my time there.
I couldn't get the jeep running again, and went into full panic mode. Started having poor sleep and waking up in terror.
Checked myself into MH who gave me 30 days at home. At this point I have 3 weeks before my first psychiatrist appointment who immediately gives me a diagnosis of PTSD.
While I've been off work, I went down the rabbit hole of what the symptoms are and there's so much overlap with ADHD that I ~~stumbled upon it~~ fell into the grand Canyon. Bindged HowToADHD, and most of what I could find on YouTube. Then I found an online test, jebus, it lines up. Then another, and another. So I asked my counselor to book me an appointment to get diagnosed. Set up for next week, but the suspense is killing me and I'm thinking to myself, "my son has it (3yo/m)", "my mom has it".
Its driving me nuts wanting to know, from what I'm reading, it sounds like combined type. But my wife is just saying to me, "stop focusing on that, wait till you see the Dr". Ahhhhhhh
I'm concerned that it won't be properly addressed as I've been pegged with PTSD (different docs but still). I'm also concerned it'll just be dismissed. I've got what I think it's fog, but I don't know any different. I really want to try Ritalin or Adderall just to see what is like. Having THC or CBD has helped so much.
TLDR: Got diagnosed with PTSD, think I have ADHD too | 2021-10-11T04:20:33.000Z | q5o0s8 | 4 | 2 | ADHD | PTSD Diagnosis leading me down the rabbit hole that is what ADHD appears to be | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5o0s8/ptsd_diagnosis_leading_me_down_the_rabbit_hole/ |
Majestic-Occasion582 | So I have been friends with my boyfriend since 4th grade. There was a time where he had left for highschool and we didn't see each other for two years. When we met back up on our junior year since than we have been together. It has been three years, having a romantic relationship 24/7 is impossible . How come he isn't tired of me? I am just confuse. because he goes through projects within a few minutes and never can stay still with his interest. | 2021-10-11T04:18:42.000Z | q5nzrs | 9 | 10 | ADHD | my Boyfriend isn't tired of me | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5nzrs/my_boyfriend_isnt_tired_of_me/ |
anonbiatch | Hello everyone,
I’m currently seeing my psychiatrist to see if I have ADHD, but now I’m scared that working nights is making it hard to see if I really have ADHD. I have always had issues with memory, concentration & anxiety since I was in high school. I believe I may have ADHD after watching a podcast of someone who has been recently diagnosed with ADHD and all the symptoms that they explained, I experienced EVERY SINGLE ONE.
Now that I’m working nights I’ve noticed these symptoms have gotten worse, so I ended up going to a psychiatrist. He started me on antidepressant that I was on in high school for depression and my mood has improved slightly but my memory problems and concentration has stayed the same. I’ve noticed that I’m starting to feel worse even on the antidepressant and I was just wondering if working at night makes ADHD symptoms worse? | 2021-10-11T04:17:54.000Z | q5nzco | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Possible ADHD and working nights is worsening my symptoms | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5nzco/possible_adhd_and_working_nights_is_worsening_my/ |
BlazeRagnarokBlade | [removed] | 2021-10-11T04:14:54.000Z | q5nxsc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you all concentrate during exams? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5nxsc/how_do_you_all_concentrate_during_exams/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-11T04:10:55.000Z | q5nvmi | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Toe-walking | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5nvmi/toewalking/ |
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