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Ok-Intention-1995 | Never been medicated for my ADHD before until this morning. I had an appt with my new psychiatrist and she recommended getting me started on Wellbutrin 150mg. She said it had minimal side effects and works well with most. I googled the medication to get a better understanding.
I have a history of depression and have been on antidepressants such as Zoloft and Lexipro but I’m not sure what to expect with this new medication.
Has anyone taken it as treatment for their ADHD? Anything anyone has experienced that wasn’t listed online? Tips? | 2021-10-10T16:33:27.000Z | q5bgng | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Wellbutrin XL | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5bgng/wellbutrin_xl/ |
MenuTime5231 | Headline says it all. I went to dump the bucket and it fell out of my hand and cracked the tank which is pretty vital to it. I had a lot of debate to spend the money I did on it and now it's broke.
My normal behavior is to call myself an idiot. I have the worst luck. How was I so careless. If I don't, I'm sure when I tell my partner she will say something insinuating how careless I was. | 2021-10-10T16:33:13.000Z | q5bghi | 18 | 12 | ADHD | I bought a 200 dollar carpet cleaner two days ago, broke it on first use. Why am I not supposed to "spank" myself over it | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5bghi/i_bought_a_200_dollar_carpet_cleaner_two_days_ago/ |
lululemonbitch | I'm wondering if anyone can share their experiences on Strattera? Does it actually work? I tried Adderall about 2 years ago and it made me extremely irritable and sad. I finally decided to try meds again and my dr prescribed Vyvanse. I took it for 4 days and it was working so well. Unfortunately, it made my resting heart rate 90-100 for 2 days when it is usually 70-75 (I use my apple watch to keep track of it). So I will not be able to take any stimulant meds and I'm very bummed. My next option is to try Strattera, but I have been doubtful it will work. | 2021-10-10T16:31:33.000Z | q5bfah | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Does Strattera actually work? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5bfah/does_strattera_actually_work/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T16:30:02.000Z | q5be7n | 26 | 14 | ADHD | Will ADHD meds save my relationship? | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5be7n/will_adhd_meds_save_my_relationship/ |
Snoo-90133 | [removed] | 2021-10-10T16:29:28.000Z | q5bdtr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Stimulant holiday | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5bdtr/stimulant_holiday/ |
Theforeverbored | [removed] | 2021-10-10T16:27:11.000Z | q5bc4o | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Any cronchy snacks y'all like? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5bc4o/any_cronchy_snacks_yall_like/ |
DrDesmondMystery | [removed] | 2021-10-10T16:26:48.000Z | q5bbud | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to get yourself to do something | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5bbud/how_to_get_yourself_to_do_something/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T16:22:44.000Z | q5b8y8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can Concerta reduce my life expectansy? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5b8y8/can_concerta_reduce_my_life_expectansy/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T16:20:07.000Z | q5b75w | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can Concerta reduce my lifespan? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5b75w/can_concerta_reduce_my_lifespan/ |
brookekaitlyn13 | I’ve been on adderall for almost 2 years now and i’ve never had a problem. Recently i’ve hit the max dose and it’s not performing as it used to be. One of the main differences is my moods and emotions. Pre taking any ADHD medication, I was always quiet, out of touch, disassociating, in my own world, etc. Once I got on adderall it was like a miracle! My personality came back and I was able to feel and have emotions again.
Fast forward almost 2 years and my emotions are in the same place as when I was not on it. I was prescribed wellbutrin to help get feelings back, but it has not worked. (I was only prescribed wellbutrin because I was hesitant to try something other than adderall since I knew it’s potential). Adderall still works for what I need it to as in focusing, but i’m just not what I used to be anymore.
I would like to know opinions on Vyvanse. I’m so hesitant to try it just because i’m holding out on hope that maybe i’ll feel better again. I’ve been reading a lot about the differences between the 2 and I still think adderall is better for me. But, I am acknowledging the fact that I need more help and I can’t keep holding on to what things used to be.
I know I shouldn’t be solely basing my Adhd meds on how it makes me feel/personality if it’s helping where I need help, but I miss feeling like a human again | 2021-10-10T16:19:49.000Z | q5b6yv | 6 | 4 | ADHD | adderall is not for me anymore. vyvanse? opinions? | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5b6yv/adderall_is_not_for_me_anymore_vyvanse_opinions/ |
magoogafool | 28M, been trying to find medication to help with ADHD for 2 years now. My psychiatrist changes me to different meds if I get negative side effects before any positive. However, I've always struggled with my appetite, especially in the morning, and how my stomach feels has fluctuated wildly. I've been sent for many tests, but everything always comes up fine(though I did have an ulcer at 22).
I also struggle with knowing if something is working or the dose just isn't high enough to tell, or it's just plain not working. I don't have a frame of reference, I've always been stuck in my head with racing thoughts. I make silly mistakes at work all the time because I get ahead of myself a lot and I get people telling me to slow down all the time, and it frustrates me because I just don't know how. I land on the extreme end of intellectual on personality types, and have for as long as I can remember (I'm also quite high in agreeableness), I have an almost constant need to figure out the answers to things that come into my head, or to make sure something is factually correct. I spend time forming a lot of opinions of larger topics while doing this sometimes, or it could be as simple as wanting to know how hard a giraffe can headbutt. I can't use an item or work on something without wanting to figure out how it's made or how it works. Nothing is just simple, and I don't know how to just 'be in the moment'.
All that being said, if anyone else has dealt with something similar, how did you know the medication was working? Was it obvious, or was it a subtle change? | 2021-10-10T16:19:05.000Z | q5b6fe | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Finding medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5b6fe/finding_medication/ |
SirTarquin | [removed] | 2021-10-10T16:11:40.000Z | q5b1a7 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Need to pull an all-nighter to finish my dissertation- Worried about meds wearing off | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5b1a7/need_to_pull_an_allnighter_to_finish_my/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T16:05:58.000Z | q5ax9v | 4 | 12 | ADHD | Eating disorders and ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ax9v/eating_disorders_and_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T16:04:43.000Z | q5awca | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and Apps. What works for you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5awca/adhd_and_apps_what_works_for_you/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T15:54:56.000Z | q5apa7 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Partner with adhd and planning for the future | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5apa7/partner_with_adhd_and_planning_for_the_future/ |
Tuff_Bank | A problem I tend to have is with ADHD, when it comes to symptoms and correlations like poor impulse control, RSD, strong emotional reactions, sensory overload, and many others.
Where do we draw the line between using ADHD as an excuse or as an explanation? How do we use it as an explanation so it does not come off as an excuse? How do we get by without constantly having to bring up ADHD?
\^I have received backlash from friends saying I am "milking" my ADHD too much and that I keep using it as an explanation, and these friends have claimed to have read research studies and don't spend time on the internet like we do.
How are we supposed to take responsibility that for actions caused by biological/neurological conditions that are out of our control? How is it possible to take control of our own lives? | 2021-10-10T15:42:22.000Z | q5agrd | 94 | 415 | ADHD | How are we supposed to take responsibility for something that is biological (excuse vs. explanation)? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5agrd/how_are_we_supposed_to_take_responsibility_for/ |
leftover-pizza- | [removed] | 2021-10-10T15:41:34.000Z | q5ag7n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | And once again, I did it | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5ag7n/and_once_again_i_did_it/ |
Harichat | Hey all, I was wondering if this happens to anyone else:
I'll wake up at a normal hour, like 8 or 9 AM, and usually it takes me a bit to get up, but if I have any motivation for getting things done in the morning, it usually completely goes away or diminishes by around 12 PM or shortly afterwards.
Can anyone else relate to or offer insight into the sudden drop in energy? I feel like it's pretty cyclical and weird. | 2021-10-10T15:22:51.000Z | q5a39m | 31 | 48 | ADHD | I get really sluggish around midday/ early afternoon. What's this about? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5a39m/i_get_really_sluggish_around_midday_early/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T15:18:32.000Z | q5a0c8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | any tips for adhd students without meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5a0c8/any_tips_for_adhd_students_without_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T14:59:25.000Z | q59n7r | 1 | 1 | ADHD | i love applepay | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q59n7r/i_love_applepay/ |
ewiwaa | So, today I was trying to rest off my occasional brain fog that I get basically on a weekly basis.
Over the years, I've tried eating different foods, sleeping, drinking water, exercising, supplementing my diet, etc. but nothing ever worked. I have talked to my doctor about it but we can't seem to find a cause, so we've sort of just left it for now.
This time, however, I decided that I would use my deep tissue massager (aka one that vibrates) and massage all over my head and hold it over areas where I felt most "foggy". Not sure why, it just felt like a good idea.
To my surprise, I felt almost instant relief, so I kept going for about 5 minutes- and boom, brain fog almost entirely gone. It came back a few hours later and I just repeated the process and it worked the same.
I think it's pretty safe to assume that what I've been experiencing all this time have been headaches and not brain fog. I just haven't felt actual pain, which makes sense because I have a pretty high pain tolerance and I'm probably desensitized to it.
What makes this weird though is that I've tried treating it with both paracetamol and ibuprofen a few times before, but those never worked so I ruled out the fact that it could be a headache a long time ago.
But anyway, at least now I know that in order to get rid of "the fog", I just need to vibrate my skull for five minutes. Now I'm looking online for head massagers that I can strap to my head so I can have my hands free lol.
I thought I would throw this out there just in case someone else has been struggling with headaches too!
EDIT: I misinterpreted the term tension headache so I changed it to just headache! | 2021-10-10T14:55:31.000Z | q59kpv | 17 | 74 | ADHD | Today I massaged my head and my "brain fog" lifted. I've had tension headaches all along... | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q59kpv/today_i_massaged_my_head_and_my_brain_fog_lifted/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T14:55:12.000Z | q59khx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | i love apple pay | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q59khx/i_love_apple_pay/ |
hvsbd | Amazing is all I have to say so the feature overlays whatever sound is on your phone music or whatever with a sound of your choice at a volume of your choice so what I did was started overlaying it over white noise so combined the sound of a constantly running stream with white noise and quite frankly my head couldn’t feel clearer. | 2021-10-10T14:26:08.000Z | q591dy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | New Background Sounds feature on iPhone. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q591dy/new_background_sounds_feature_on_iphone/ |
pinchednerve9 | [removed] | 2021-10-10T14:26:05.000Z | q591cy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Drug test this week for refill but I’m out of meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q591cy/drug_test_this_week_for_refill_but_im_out_of_meds/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T14:16:48.000Z | q58vcs | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Wellbutrin XL | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58vcs/wellbutrin_xl/ |
Kornelious_ | Does anyone else avoid something that’s slightly uncomfortable consciously? Like avoiding calling your boss back or a friend that takes your energy away. Or knowing your in the wrong and avoiding that person?
I tend to do this a lot and I don’t want to, it goes from I need a moment to breathe I’ll call back in 5 minutes and then it turns into 1-2 days lol.
I always think the person will be mad at me or I’ve done something wrong and I’d rather just run and hide. 75% of the time they’re completely fine and it was me just freaking out.
I feel like a really bad friend and a very irresponsible person.
Edit: Thanks for the feedback guys. This really makes me not feel alone with the issues I deal with daily. | 2021-10-10T14:14:39.000Z | q58u0z | 39 | 152 | ADHD | Do you guys avoid uncomfortable situations? | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58u0z/do_you_guys_avoid_uncomfortable_situations/ |
Sweet-Promise-1106 | I am attending practice interviews for coding and when the interviewee was suggesting me too many things to do in the code I couldn't process all of it and got stuck. I told him I was unable to think and I quit the interview. Does this happen to you too? Also if I am being asked too many questions I happen to react the same. | 2021-10-10T14:12:08.000Z | q58sh6 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | How do you deal with too many suggestions or questions? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58sh6/how_do_you_deal_with_too_many_suggestions_or/ |
hvsbd | [removed] | 2021-10-10T14:07:36.000Z | q58pkc | 1 | 0 | ADHD | Anger after meds? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58pkc/anger_after_meds/ |
hvsbd | Unsure weather it’s got anything to do with going onto meds however I have realised… That after going onto my meds but my anxiety literally disappeared which was amazing but, I realised a week or two later that I had been met with a wall of feeling depressed? I know what depression feels like so I knew very quickly what it was but then also a lot of anger like I’ve never been an angry person however I think that’s now come back to bite me I feel like everything that I should have been pissed off at over the years (serious things that I let slide) have just come right back up now don’t get me wrong I’m (m) 23 and love the gym so it’s perfect for that as I’ve never lifted like I am now but I don’t like that I feel like I need to go to release my anger and frustration I liked when I was going to better myself. Sometimes I feel it’s a bit much for me like I’m just going to pop any ideas? Any one had similar experiences? | 2021-10-10T14:06:13.000Z | q58oos | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Anger after meds? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58oos/anger_after_meds/ |
whatsthisboxfor | After discovering that I have combined type adhd I recently quit my job when I realised that the problems I'd been having were not going to get any better. I'd been working with vulnerable young people, and that was ok, but there was a LOT of tedious record keeping that involved using the companies horrible CRM system and I soon let the record keeping pile up until I lived like a hundred animal, waiting to be found out and sacked. In fact it was through using this system and my extreme reaction to it that highlighted to me that I may have a problem with extended boring tasks and this led to me getting checked for ADHD. Eventually I'd had enough and just quit, I couldn't stand it any longer.
So now I'm a bit lost and need to get into a new field that will compliment me and my condition and I'm thinking UI design?, but I'm worried that the same issues that I had in the last job will haunt me?
In my favour is that I've always been into computers and have done so since I was 13 with the arrival of the Spectrum 16k and the Commodore 64. In addition to this I've always loved art, design and digital art since the first iteration of Photoshop( though now I'm more familiar with Krita, Procreate, Inkscape, etc basically mostly open source software).
Anyway, someone has recently pointed out to me that UI is more about the design side including colour theory, aesthetics etc of an app or website and that coding is not necessarily a requirement. I'm also led to believe that there's a lot of variety. Is this correct? Or is there a ton of dreary, dry admin and operational responsibilities that come along with this role?
Basically, am I mad to consider moving into this field considering my age and aversion to drudgery?
TLDR: I'm 50 with combined type ADHD who can't stand boring tasks and has no coding experience but loves design and technology - Could I survive/thrive as a UI designer?
Thanks a million for getting this far and for any advice. | 2021-10-10T14:01:10.000Z | q58lgh | 9 | 3 | ADHD | Considering a job in UI but recently diagnosed with ADHD and just turned 50. Am I deluding myself? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58lgh/considering_a_job_in_ui_but_recently_diagnosed/ |
Pepe022 | Hi there, i’m a 19y male that for most part of his life was unmedicated for ADHD. However, between i was 15 and 18 i had Ritalin LA (40mg) prescribed and took it every day for 3 years.
So, i’m from Portugal and almost 6 months ago i moved to Turkey, until last week i wasn’t on Ritalin or any ADHD med since i moved and i was very happy, like i’ve been since i moved in march because of the circumstances of my move (i just escaped from a situation that made me suffer for years in Portugal)
The thing is, i’m on ritalin again (same dosage, same med, same everything) and as soon as i got back to it, i just feel super sad and overall, depressed.
I had depression for years in Portugal (since i was 13) and Ritalin maybe made it even worse but since the day I moved in march until the day i got back to Ritalin last week, l were always super happy like i’ve never been before.
So, could Ritalin have depression as a side effect? | 2021-10-10T13:58:22.000Z | q58jfs | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Could depression be a Ritalin side effect? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58jfs/could_depression_be_a_ritalin_side_effect/ |
justanothergamer_ | Right now is day 3 of 10mg methylphenidate. I guess generic brand. I have to write an essay and I am struggling to pump out as much as I can between the feelings of being zonked out and on edge during rebound. I’m either immovable and completely unwilling or cannot sit still.
I have already sent and email to my professor. Anyone got any experiences they can share? How were your first couple weeks? | 2021-10-10T13:56:36.000Z | q58iel | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Getting used to the meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58iel/getting_used_to_the_meds/ |
NeverBackDown218 | Hi, everyone! I recently got diagnosed with ADHD a month ago and was prescribed the lowest dosage of Adderall (10 mg) to take once a day in the morning. It seems to work. I don’t get into a euphoric state by any means, but it does seem to help me focus. I don’t feel like I have these horrific crashes either, but throughout the day my focus does seem to get worse past 12:00 pm; which would make sense as I know the medication only lasts for 4-5 hours. I’ve been considering asking my doctor for a higher dosage using the extended release, but I wanted to see which one people perfer and why - regular Adderall or Adderall extended release? | 2021-10-10T13:56:33.000Z | q58idq | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Adderall or Adderall XR | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58idq/adderall_or_adderall_xr/ |
naeshelle | tl;dr I need quick, healthy, ADHD-friendly meals because I'm now pre-diabetic & can't afford for this to get worse.
Hello all!
I've officially gone & done it. Apparently having a $4k dental bill because of all of the sweets I was eating wasn't good enough to force me to change my diet, because I kept eating like shit & now I have pre-diabetes. Yay.
Here's the problem: I'm a picky eater & I hate cooking. Don't get me wrong, I *can* cook, but like it's so time consuming & boring that my brain just does not want to do it. So I eat a lot of take out & junk food which is what caused this issue. Not to mention, soul food is basically the only thing I know how to make really well & eating that all of the time is just gonna make things worse.
So, I'm making a humble request for all of your healthy meal plans. Here is the criteria:
* Healthy-ish (I'm seeing a nutritionist soon who will be teaching me how to modify meals to make them diabetes-friendly)
* 30-minutes or less is ideal (but if it involves a crock pot, air fryer or baking, I'm not opposed to it taking longer than 30 minutes. As long as I'm not standing over a stove for two hours.)
* As few ingredients as possible (but if it's a really good recipe, I'll get over it & go buy 50 spices for it)
* Doesn't make a million servings (I'm the only one that will be eating this food!)
Thank you so much for any help you can provide! | 2021-10-10T13:50:13.000Z | q58egc | 9 | 3 | ADHD | Got diagnosed with pre-diabetes. Does anyone know of any quick, healthy, ADHD-friendly meals? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58egc/got_diagnosed_with_prediabetes_does_anyone_know/ |
TerpinOne | I honestly never thought I would make it this far in academics, but here I am! I’m proud of myself for the first time in a long time and want to encourage other students out there to keep pushing toward your goals. While we may face additional barriers and challenges having ADHD, we can still succeed! | 2021-10-10T13:48:55.000Z | q58dp7 | 4 | 21 | ADHD | I started my fourth quarter of my doctorate today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58dp7/i_started_my_fourth_quarter_of_my_doctorate_today/ |
NaturalOpposite6273 | [removed] | 2021-10-10T13:47:34.000Z | q58cvy | 3 | 0 | ADHD | Is this apart of ADHD? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58cvy/is_this_apart_of_adhd/ |
boxboi78 | [removed] | 2021-10-10T13:41:53.000Z | q589k3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone have tips to focus on reading | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q589k3/does_anyone_have_tips_to_focus_on_reading/ |
tex_cyber | So as the title states I'm new to adult adhd , i had it as a kid , it "disappeared" after puberty and I'm now seeing a lot of the symptoms of adhd again , I'm in the military so the high stress environment +the expectation that you deal with things on your own, has started the noticable manifestation of the symptoms (I have an appointment with the hospital so that i can get recommended to a doctor who is able to give me a diagnosis ) , with the small backstory out of the way , i need any advice y'all can give me when it comes to being a functioning adult with adhd , in particular my highs and lows(mostly my lows) are my biggest concern right now as they affect how well i do my job
P.s. sorry if it's jumbled , my main concern was being able to accurately transcribing my thoughts into this post, in a way that made some sort of sense | 2021-10-10T13:40:36.000Z | q588ts | 8 | 2 | ADHD | I'm kinda new to adult adhd | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q588ts/im_kinda_new_to_adult_adhd/ |
SecretAgentFishguts | Hey all.
I’m recently diagnosed and have been on Xenital XL 36mg (slow release Ritalin) once a day. I’ve noticed some pretty irritating side effects and I’m not sure if it’s worth trying different medication or just working around them at the moment. The side effects I’m getting are:
- Really bad dry mouth. I’m not great at remembering to drink water in general so this could likely be mitigated.
- Sleep issues. I’m not having problems falling asleep per se, but my symptoms hit like a truck when my meds wear off for the day and my hyper focus and time blindness come on really strong, so I’m up all night watching YouTube videos/on Reddit etc. If I can pull myself away from my phone I can get to sleep but it feels more difficult to do so than it ever really has. For example, a few nights ago I was in bed at 11:30 and exhausted after having very little sleep the night before, but I was on my phone til 7am anyway.
- eating issues. Very low appetite, and when I try to eat when my meds are ‘active’ I can only handle a few mouthfuls before I start to feel like I’m going to throw up. I’m also noticing that I’m eating loads in the night then, because I can’t sleep and I’m starving from the day.
The problem I’ve got is that outside of these issues, I feel better than I ever have. The meds are working, and they’re working really well and I’m very reluctant to give up something that is helping so much if I’m going to have similar issues with other meds or they’re not going to be as effective. Realistically I’m also not sure if other medication may be better anyway, any improvement to how I feel is mind blowing but I do wonder whether other meds would be even better, you know?
I guess my questions are:
- does this sound like a ‘normal’ amount of side effects?
- are these likely to ease off, or have I adapted as much as I’m likely to at this point?
- if sticking with them ends up being the best idea, does anyone have any tips on easing these side effects? My current thinking is to set timers to remind me to drink water, put a block on my phone to stop me using it after a certain time, and eat before I take my meds/snack throughout the day instead of focusing on meals.
I’m not really looking for medical advice per se, just wondering if this is to be expected? | 2021-10-10T13:39:12.000Z | q58801 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Struggling to gauge if my medication side effects are severe enough to try different meds - looking for advice/people’s experiences | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q58801/struggling_to_gauge_if_my_medication_side_effects/ |
systrami | Hiya cuties, I know im not the only one who struggle with this.
I've been called stupid and lazy to my face and hinted since I can remember, and im now in my late 20s.
I have been realising how much this has been affecting me over maybe the last 5 years.
Im in a relationship with a man I adore and we have the most amazing communication.
Yesterday we had a small argument and I took everything said as a personal attack to my intelligence.
I got super defensive about it and very emotional, which made it so much harder to have a normal conversation. I told him how I feel about it all afterwards and he was understanding as always.
I don't doubt for a second that he will do everything he can to make future conversations/arguments different.
But id like to do my part in all this as well and not make him feel like he has to walk on eggshells around me.
I pride myself in my ability to communicate my emotions and thoughts, even if it's a rambling mess sometimes. So the fact that my mind will completely block out any logic and understanding when I'm in a situation where I feel looked down at is very frustrating.
I do plan to talk to a professional about this at some point. But until I have that sorted, maybe some of you have experienced something similar and have advice that has helped you.
I appreciate and love you all ♡
[TLDR]
I struggle with feeling stupid/looked down at.
Posting here to find people with similar experiences and maybe advice. | 2021-10-10T13:39:02.000Z | q587wk | 5 | 14 | ADHD | Struggling with the aftermath of being called stupid all my life. | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q587wk/struggling_with_the_aftermath_of_being_called/ |
jana-amr | [removed] | 2021-10-10T13:36:36.000Z | q586dw | 1 | 1 | ADHD | [RANT] I am struggling, please give me some advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q586dw/rant_i_am_struggling_please_give_me_some_advice/ |
FaithInStrangers94 | And my mid term memory isn’t much better (my long term memory seems decent enough)
But my god things just go in one eye/ear and straight out the other. I constantly forget where I parked, forget someone’s name when I meet them, even forget what I’m saying midway through a sentence.
Its fucked me over at work, and is making me think twice about returning to study psychology
Even when I try to focus all my attention and be present in the moment I’m lucky if I retain anything
Yet I have a jukebox in my head that can play about 8000 songs from start to finish… makes me wonder. And I’ll remember random details like the bird carcass I passed on the way to class, but none of the content…
Anyway how have you guys managed to improve your short term memory? Besides the obvious like writing notes and voice memos and stuff | 2021-10-10T13:24:51.000Z | q57zl8 | 6 | 6 | ADHD | My short term memory is fucking abysmal | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q57zl8/my_short_term_memory_is_fucking_abysmal/ |
angelknight29 | I got yelled at by my wife this morning because the van trunk was left open over night. She yelled at me that I'm never going to change.
And she's right.
But it's not that I won't change, it's that I CAN'T change. You might was well tell a person with autism or alzheimers that they're never going to change.
I've been diagnosed with being ADHD for years , I've taken medication for years now, but only recently realized what the extent of my diagnosis meant. It explained not just the forgetfulness, but the high emotions, taking things too personally, elevated libido, the overwhelming amount of guilt I've carried with me for my entire life.
But throughout my life I've dealt with the bullshit that is ADHD stigmatism, as if we're just a bunch of lazy incompetent assholes who just needs to pay more attention! But I won't let my kids deal with the same shaming. I've already talked to them about why they act the way they do. But I've also told them they still can take action to work around it.
I guess that, when my alarm goes off to lock the doors at night, I'll check the van as well.
I can't change. But I have done and will continue to do my best to cope and adjust.
Edit: didn't realize neuodivergency was frowned upon. | 2021-10-10T13:24:16.000Z | q57z9x | 4 | 18 | ADHD | "You are so irresponsible, You're never going to change! " I mean, yeah. Technically that's true, I'm never going to change. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q57z9x/you_are_so_irresponsible_youre_never_going_to/ |
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[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T13:14:54.000Z | q57tvg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else does this ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q57tvg/anyone_else_does_this/ |
DontWantToBeYelledAt | When my son was 8, his teacher started calling home... from there we got him and my husband diagnosed with ADHD. It took my husband a while to come to terms with the diagnosis. He felt like he'd been wrong his whole life and it sent him reeling. He was mid-30s. Lately he's been doing a lot of research on it though. Yesterday he told me he's pretty sure I am ADHD too. It. makes. so. much. sense. We live in chaos. I constantly feel like I'm the one that's got to keep it all together but just can't. I can get hyper focused to the point I'm so hungry, tired and near peeing myself that when someone pulls me out of it I just cry. I hate all our stuff - holidays where we get presents cause so much anxiety and I'm constantly trying to sort piles of it. I can't take noise- two people talking to me overwhelms me (and I'm a teacher!). We forget to enforce bedtime and eat dinner somewhere between 4:30 and 7:00 because we both get distracted. We alway joke we need another adult to help us... I just thought it was normal to feel like this. My mind is spinning and I'm going over everything in my life and re-examining it through this lens and holy shit it's hard to grapple with. How do you reconcile something like this... in your 40s? | 2021-10-10T13:06:52.000Z | q57pal | 4 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD family | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q57pal/adhd_family/ |
Glennghis_Khan | I have a very active, curious, mobile, and wobbly 11 month old. Thats awesome for his development BUT he never stops moving and refuses to be contained, which means 100% focus on him not falling and rocking himself on something. It feels like absolute torture. I dont intend to helicopter parent but at this age you have to. Any other adhd parents have a similar struggle or have advise?
Extra context: if im working then my wife is home solo with the baby and vice versa so no breaks, no nearby family or friends to help, daycare is expensive and scary (first time parents), poor grip on my adhd and anxiety with no time to work on it. Im gone for 12 hours a day the same 4 days a week and my wife works from home the three days im off, anytime i try to suggest getting a nanny and moving her clients to the days i work so we can have 3 days of doing this together and giving each other breaks she gets annoyed because she thinks im trying to do even less, which is fair because she does so much more with far less “free time” but shes a 100% focus all the time,completely functional rockstar of a human being and iiiiiiiiiim not. Shes also chronically worn down and tired too so were a bit F’d | 2021-10-10T13:05:15.000Z | q57od2 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Managing a baby | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q57od2/managing_a_baby/ |
apollothecute | Hello good people of this community,
Basically, I have issues with concentration and being focused.
I am planing on visiting a doctor because I suspect I might have ADHD and I would like to hear especially from people who got diagnosed later in life
What are my issues? I cannot concentrate on one task. I lose focus easily. I can't stay put. I have to do something all the time. Additionally, I start things but never complete them (projects, reading a book etc)
As long as I can remember myself, I have always struggled with my attention span. I may start a thousand things altogether but I don't finish any.
So another part of my post, is to ask you, if you have any advice on how to stay focused and concentrated?
Thank you for reading this! | 2021-10-10T12:55:40.000Z | q57inm | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Any tips on how to stay focused and concentrated at work? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q57inm/any_tips_on_how_to_stay_focused_and_concentrated/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T12:53:56.000Z | q57hor | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Where to find ADHD testing centers? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q57hor/where_to_find_adhd_testing_centers/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T12:38:57.000Z | q579gg | 17 | 13 | ADHD | How do I switch from my 'lazy' life to being productive | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q579gg/how_do_i_switch_from_my_lazy_life_to_being/ |
peenweens | Exercise is probably the most mind-numbingly painful thing to my brain. I've tried everything: gamification, TV on with shows I want to watch, indoors, outdoors, hiking, etc. I end up miserable and hating it no matter what. Even activities that I enjoy on occasion, as soon as I try and make it regular I end up hating it.
But I actually want to be healthier. How do I make this stick?
Edit: Thanks to all for your awesome advice! Not all of it was for me, but seeing the responses there has been plenty here for everyone. I don't have the time to get back to every one of you, but several of you made some excellent points that I will try! Starting with getting an Oculus Quest. Thanks again! | 2021-10-10T12:31:30.000Z | q575ey | 257 | 446 | ADHD | I absolutely hate working out. Any tips to make it work? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q575ey/i_absolutely_hate_working_out_any_tips_to_make_it/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T12:27:44.000Z | q573fq | 10 | 0 | ADHD | Methylphenidate + Red Bull? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q573fq/methylphenidate_red_bull/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T12:17:28.000Z | q56y0x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | [RANT] I am struggling | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q56y0x/rant_i_am_struggling/ |
piratemechfighting | I started a new job and my biggest fear is getting everyone to hate me because my social skills are trash or I constantly fail at tasks given to me. Usually in high school everyone would hate me by the end of the year. I'm a very blunt and honest person but I haven't told anyone about my ADHD. I don't think its hard to figure out (ex. Poor eye contact, fidgeting) but I'm worried that people will realize how dumb I can actually be. I kinda compensate to hide it. I often show up so early so I won't get late, and its boring and kinda awkward. I have not called a day off yet because I don't want them to think im lazy. Can anyone else relate or have advice? | 2021-10-10T12:10:37.000Z | q56unc | 16 | 5 | ADHD | Scared people will find out I have ADHD | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q56unc/scared_people_will_find_out_i_have_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T12:09:08.000Z | q56tx2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Methylphenidate + red bull | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q56tx2/methylphenidate_red_bull/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T12:08:19.000Z | q56tia | 2 | 13 | ADHD | Sometimes I really feel like I can't control myself at all | 0.89 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q56tia/sometimes_i_really_feel_like_i_cant_control/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T12:05:54.000Z | q56sa3 | 303 | 1,444 | ADHD | obsession over people and adhd | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q56sa3/obsession_over_people_and_adhd/ |
disorderedcontrol | I find it basically IMPOSSIBLE to exercise. Even with listening to podcasts / watching shows while I do it I still can barely force myself like maybe a few times a month. And even then I can’t do it for a good duration of time. So many times I’ve stopped before I even hit 5 minutes.
The only way I’ve ever gotten exercise in is with dance classes or school sports but that’s not really an option for me right now : /. I haven’t done them since quarantine and really haven’t been exercising at all this year so I’m overweight and lost all muscle mass, which really affects me personally. | 2021-10-10T12:05:27.000Z | q56s2q | 6 | 4 | ADHD | How do I get past my block with exercising? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q56s2q/how_do_i_get_past_my_block_with_exercising/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T12:01:06.000Z | q56pu8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is there a way to understand if you have ADHD without visiting a doctor? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q56pu8/is_there_a_way_to_understand_if_you_have_adhd/ |
ilikestuff94 | It's no secret that many ADHDers have powerful imaginations. I let my imagination run when I'm walking, showering or smoking (tobacco), etc. I mostly imagine stories playing out in real time like a movie and I always pick up exactly where I left off the last time, like hitting pause and play.
But there are days when I can't hit pause. When I try, I feel myself getting light headed and tingly. I get really frustrated and short-tempered when someone interrupts, even when it's myself trying to focus on something else. I feel worse when I've lost my train of thought and don't know what to think of next (like what next happens in the story), so everything goes static because I can't pull myself out of my mind.
I don't know if this is something that's always happened and I'm just becoming aware of it, or if it's new. I've recently been diagnosed and have been on medication for a few months now. | 2021-10-10T11:45:37.000Z | q56ihz | 1 | 3 | ADHD | When I can't get out of my head (dissociation?) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q56ihz/when_i_cant_get_out_of_my_head_dissociation/ |
PepperCakeRinKiki | Hi everyone.
The title is pretty much it, but I'll try to add something to that. Have you ever experienced so much (i.e. Too much touch, sounds, smells) that you just broke down into a full panic attack seemingly out of nowhere while you were supposed to have a good time?
Do you have any tip on preventing that from happening, or to overcome it quickly, please? | 2021-10-10T11:39:24.000Z | q56fqa | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Have you ever had sensory overload during or after sex? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q56fqa/have_you_ever_had_sensory_overload_during_or/ |
niqaniq01 | I told my best friend about my ADHD condition, but he just brush it off as like that's something normal people do as well. Like losing focus, and getting distracted are all something even he experience it. He also said that I'm just using ADHD as an excuse because I wasn't paying attention to what other people are saying and forgetting it. It is so unbearable to me that I couldn't continue the conversation about it with him. He was such an understanding person before, and I was really close to him. For him to not understand my condition makes me feel hurt yknow... I just wish ADHD has more awareness and understanding amongst the public and society. | 2021-10-10T11:24:01.000Z | q5686c | 6 | 8 | ADHD | my best friend doesnt understand | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5686c/my_best_friend_doesnt_understand/ |
applebeesaapalbbe | Im quitting porn because im addicted to the novelty of swiping from one video to the other (huh wonder what that sounds like a symptom of). Add that to my antidepressants giving me the sex drive of a Buddhist monk and im just a super fun person to hit the sheets with. I didn't realize how big of a problem this was because I wasn't fuckin anyone during covid but now all of a sudden I got a friends with benefits and im finally realizing how hard it is to turn me on these days. Im trying to decrease my antisad m&ms but that'll take forever and i got what 30+ plus days before quitting porn has a noticable effect? What the fuck do I do to get a boner while i wait for all these strats to take effect. Life is fucking hard but I'm not. | 2021-10-10T11:23:09.000Z | q567s9 | 20 | 55 | ADHD | adhd + antidepressants= no sex drive | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q567s9/adhd_antidepressants_no_sex_drive/ |
flabbaghastly | [removed] | 2021-10-10T11:19:22.000Z | q5663x | 1 | 1 | ADHD | The morning reset... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5663x/the_morning_reset/ |
TheVeryElect | I feel like since getting diagnosed my symptoms are totally out of control. I immediately started voraciously consuming literature on ADHD because it all makes so much goddamned sense as the source of so many of my problems (previously diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and generalized depressive disorder) but in reality I get anxious and depressed because I can’t get shit done and my life feels totally out of my control. I almost feel like my obsession with researching and trying to enact “strategies” to counteract my ADHD has been so frantic and such a whirlwind that my mind has just been a mess and I feel more impaired than ever.
Is it just that now I’m recognizing my symptoms and impairments? Or has my diagnosis thrown me into a tailspin where I’m desperately trying to fix my ADHD and noticing how fucking hard it is to do so, which causes insane anxiety.
Anyway, just a question. Getting diagnosed has been a huge game changer with everything I’ve learned but I’m also struggling hardcore right now because I’m finding that knowing you have ADHD and learning about strategies to cope with it doesn’t mean the impairments are going away any time soon. :/ I’m now just acutely aware of them 24/7 and it’s consuming my brain.
I’m 30 years old for context. And I had never even considered ADHD as a culprit for why I struggle so hard in life until I starting seeing a really good therapist weekly and describing my day to day to her, and she picked up immediately on all the symptoms.
For those of you diagnosed as adults, what were your experiences like in the months that followed? What things are you grateful for in the way you reacted and what things do you regret? In other words, now that I know I have this what’s the healthiest pace/path forward for trying to improve my life? | 2021-10-10T11:01:50.000Z | q55xy9 | 8 | 6 | ADHD | Curious if any of y’all relate to this. I was diagnosed about three weeks ago and… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55xy9/curious_if_any_of_yall_relate_to_this_i_was/ |
LordValerian | I have ADHD that my mom always say is mild, I dont know how to consider my ADHD and the fact I got good grades and got into a good collegis already impressive, but I got hit with a cold hard slap of reality, college is not as easy as it seems and vastly different from highschool. At this point I'm considering changing courses and just keep thinking to myself that it might be for the best. How do I even get the help or medication I might need if I cant even focus anymore? | 2021-10-10T11:00:43.000Z | q55xff | 4 | 2 | ADHD | How do I focus on anything important anymore? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55xff/how_do_i_focus_on_anything_important_anymore/ |
MightySlothy | I don't know about you, but I feel like I am on the run pretty much all day everyday. My inability to get shit done, knowing that things get more pressing the longer I am unable to take care of them is crushing. Even the smallest things like doing dishes, preparing something for Uni that would literally take 20mins, etc. It is exhausting and I envy people that don't know how it feels. | 2021-10-10T10:59:56.000Z | q55wt5 | 1 | 10 | ADHD | Constant feeling of being on the run. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55wt5/constant_feeling_of_being_on_the_run/ |
Just-Olive-2599 | [removed] | 2021-10-10T10:59:10.000Z | q55whr | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Looking for some advice with Concerta (Inspiral SR here in India). It worked wonders for me at 10mg, taken once in the morning. But now my dose has been titrated up to 20mg, taken once in the morning, and I seem to have daytime sleepiness, fatigue, tired eyes, lack of focus and general brain fog. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55whr/looking_for_some_advice_with_concerta_inspiral_sr/ |
flipsyourshit | I find that I play them a lot. For me, they're easy to start up, they're easy to learn, have predictable structure, and they are stimulating. I like having one on in the background as I work. I find that it, oddly enough, helps me focus. Although, sometimes I get very distracted by them, so maybe it's a double-edged sword.
If anyone else here plays them, what are your favorites? I strongly recommend Cookie Clicker. But now that I've beat it, I am playing a lot of Melvor Idle. | 2021-10-10T10:50:32.000Z | q55sr2 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | What are your thoughts on incremental/idle games? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55sr2/what_are_your_thoughts_on_incrementalidle_games/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T10:41:12.000Z | q55opi | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adhd meds (vyvanse) with high blood pressure? What to expect. 33/f newly diagnosed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55opi/adhd_meds_vyvanse_with_high_blood_pressure_what/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T10:37:40.000Z | q55n1m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone here also play incremental/idle games? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55n1m/does_anyone_here_also_play_incrementalidle_games/ |
Birdyvii | [removed] | 2021-10-10T10:21:55.000Z | q55fub | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Help on getting diagnosed | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55fub/help_on_getting_diagnosed/ |
SeaDD7 | I'm having a real low point. I always saw these parts of myself as flaws I would eventually fix and be done with.
But now I am learning every day what others with ADHD do or find out about stuff like "Executive Dysfunction" and how my Brian is just constantly low on dopamine, ect.
I know everyone says to not be hard on myself....but how can't I be? I don't want to be broken.
So I try to prove myself over and over and get nowhere but frustrated.
I don't want these to be problems I have. I never used to think they were, I thought it was just my fault. And I guess if it's not my fault then I'm powerless to this and that means I'm broken. Disabled.
I already spent so much time dealing with a physical disability via an illness. I got better after a long time.
But now I'm stuck with PTSD from it and I am still disabled in other ways mentally?
What was even the point of getting better.
What was the point of having everyone tell me growing up I was smart and would do great things if I literally couldn't do them because I was disabled. Disabled and didn't know because I was just yelled at and treated like a dumbass. And it made me want to improve, but I still never could for long.
And then I was making the same mistakes again a multitude of bullshit I hated myself for doing. I was constantly late and fired, or forgetting appointments, or sending things out late.
I stopped even bothering to return things in the mail because I knew it would just stack up in a corner before I finally went to UPS.
I just wanted to feel like I'm in control of myself again. Not feel like I never had any to begin with. | 2021-10-10T10:16:26.000Z | q55ddl | 2 | 4 | ADHD | How to not see yourself as broken? *rant* | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55ddl/how_to_not_see_yourself_as_broken_rant/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T10:09:34.000Z | q55acd | 6 | 3 | ADHD | I've been formally diagnosed with ADHD and have never been prescribed any medication. Is it possible to go to my general practitioner to be prescribed medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q55acd/ive_been_formally_diagnosed_with_adhd_and_have/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T10:01:09.000Z | q556lx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I just feel so done | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q556lx/i_just_feel_so_done/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T09:49:05.000Z | q5515z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD PROBLEM: Working a 10pm nightshift, which means I can't go shopping because I have to be back to get ready for work, even though it's only 11am.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5515z/adhd_problem_working_a_10pm_nightshift_which/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T09:48:17.000Z | q550ub | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I’m having a really hard time getting back into school work. | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q550ub/im_having_a_really_hard_time_getting_back_into/ |
korenbloemen | TL:DR; Keep breakfast time and working time separate.
I got up early this morning, had a nice breakfast and got to work on my projects and homework almost immediately. What went wrong is that I left my plate on the table behind me instead of taking it back to the kitchen, breaking it by accidentally knocking it off the table. BUT by then I was so caught up in my workflow I almost instantly forgot about it until I decided to get a drink.
I didn't cut myself thankfully (was wearing shoes) but I think I got a scratch in the floor now. | 2021-10-10T09:33:26.000Z | q54ud8 | 1 | 4 | ADHD | Keep breakfast time and working time separate. I broke a plate and almost immediately forgot about it until I stepped on the shards an hour later | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q54ud8/keep_breakfast_time_and_working_time_separate_i/ |
lolaaaksjdhf | I'm a 20-yo who was diagnosticed two weeks ago.
I could say my life is a hell since when I realised that people are always expecting things from me that I never know how to do and it looks always late to ask how to do it. It happens since I was a kid.
I was a "smart" kid who always was good at school even when I felt like I never truly knew things. That's the reason why ADHD was never an option for my obvious hiperactivity. All the "I really don't know this please explain it to me" that was answered with "You already did it a thousand times what are you talking about" makes me feel useless and dumb in this 20 years of life.
So I'm always afraid to ask things. All the time. I see people doing adult-stuff that seems so obvious and common but I have lot of doubths and feels like burning inside out to have to ask stuff. Is it a thing that some of you guys feel to? I'm always feeling alone when talking about ADHD stuff.
(Sorry if i made a mistake, english is not my first language)
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EDIT: OMG IT'S SO GOOD TO READ ALL THIS COMMENTS!!!!! I feel so much better right now because I know i'm not alone in those feelings. Thank ya'll!!!!!! | 2021-10-10T09:21:09.000Z | q54ows | 28 | 233 | ADHD | Do you guys also feels that all people in the world knows essential things that you should know too but nobody has ever explained to you? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q54ows/do_you_guys_also_feels_that_all_people_in_the/ |
galactic_weeb | How do you guys figure out a system that works for you? I've been researching study methods and organization tips for years but have never stuck to one system completely. I'm unsure how to apply them effectively because I don't know what basis I should gauge a method's effectivity. As a result, I end up switching multiple times and procrastinate on a daily basis. | 2021-10-10T09:14:35.000Z | q54m1k | 10 | 6 | ADHD | How do you find out what method of organizing and finishing tasks works for you? | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q54m1k/how_do_you_find_out_what_method_of_organizing_and/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T09:11:13.000Z | q54kiv | 2 | 2 | ADHD | This is me and my ADHD - what can I do to make my life more structured and how do I get the best out of me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q54kiv/this_is_me_and_my_adhd_what_can_i_do_to_make_my/ |
throwawayacc447 | hi everyone - i am sort of freaking out a bit right now because i have my driving test tomorrow morning. i am super nervous and i have been feeling anxious about it for the past few days. i have already failed a few times and i am really scared i will fail again. i know not many of you will see this before i actually do my test but if any of you have any tips or advice on how you passed your driving test or any strategies to stay calm it would be greatly appreciated. also should i take meds for it or not? i feel like i pay more attention with meds but i feel like i stress less about my mistakes when i don’t take my meds. anyway, if you have anything to say please do. thanks so much. | 2021-10-10T09:02:32.000Z | q54gvi | 7 | 3 | ADHD | adhd and driving tests | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q54gvi/adhd_and_driving_tests/ |
HenchRS | Every single Sunday is the same. Wake up, make a coffee hop onto my favourite game for an hour while I plan my day.
Realise I’ve got a million things to do and no idea where it start and overwhelm myself with pressure. This then becomes ripping into myself because I’m lazy and unmotivated in comparison to all my peers that I’ve just spent all morning comparing myself too on social media so I rank dead last, hate myself and think.. what’s the point.
All this by 9:30am and this happens..
EVERY SINGLE SUNDAY | 2021-10-10T08:57:40.000Z | q54eq9 | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Sunday Moring | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q54eq9/sunday_moring/ |
throwawayacc447 | [removed] | 2021-10-10T08:55:03.000Z | q54dol | 1 | 1 | ADHD | adhd and driving tests | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q54dol/adhd_and_driving_tests/ |
trenchcoatfrog | If this tip is already on here somewhere, I apologize. I have used a lot of the tips I've found online to start getting things done BUT I added an extra step and it has made a world of difference for me. I hope this can help someone else get things done too!
1. Make a list of everything you need to do that can be done in a day.
1. This includes chores, body care, making appointments, etc.
2. I do not put my longterm goals/projects on this list because I know I will get distracted by them.
2. Break everything down into as small of steps as possible.
1. I don't have "Showering" on my list. I have Hygiene- Hair, Hygiene- Body, etc. "Cleaning" is broken down into "Sort/Vacuum/Wipe surfaces/Pick up trash." Vacuuming my room and my living room are two separate items. Laundry is broken into 4+ categories.
3. Put every step into one column of a spreadsheet.
1. Mine has about 40 items. Include at least one "Free time" item (mine is Free time- Watch Netflix).
4. Make the second column a "Last completed" date column.
5. **MY MOST IMPORTANT STEP!** Google "number randomizer" and set the highest value to the highest value of your spreadsheet.
6. When it's time to do chores, use the number randomizer. Only handle whatever number task it lands on until that task is done.
1. Do not acknowledge the other numbers at all.
2. You've landed on "Dishes" but you realize your kitchen needs to be sorted? Whatever, ignore it and wait until you land on that number.
3. While you're handling the "Trash" task you find a bunch of socks scattered on the floor? Ignore them!
4. **This is very important because it A. Keeps me from being overwhelmed and freezing while trying to do chores B. Keeps most tasks to about 10 minutes or less.**
7. If you choose to not do the task you land on, you have to generate a new number and complete that task instead.
1. I find that after doing a few tasks, I'm able to start doing other tasks in the vicinity without getting overwhelmed.
8. When you finish something, write the date in the "Last completed" column. | 2021-10-10T08:50:57.000Z | q54c1w | 6 | 47 | ADHD | I figured out how to get chores done! | 0.96 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q54c1w/i_figured_out_how_to_get_chores_done/ |
mrsrosieparker | Hi all, I (49f) am looking forwards to go back to work after a 16 year gap being a SAHM and struggling with undiagnosed ADHD.
I recently realized I'm really good at finding stuff!! How can I put my skills on the market?
A bit of background story: Before having kids, I catastrophically burned out during the Residency program on pediatrics in my country of origin. Two years after I met my husband and married and moved a continent away. Because my eggs'expiration day was nearing, I sensibly decided to have the kids first, and learn the language of my new country (also not English, as neither is my mother tongue, btw)
Lo and behold, the oldest has ADHD, which made me stay home a bit longer than planned (I always thought I would go back to work when the youngest started KG, but combined with my own struggles, I found it too much). In short, when older kid was 9 he was diagnosed, and that started my own journey to try to understand him and help him, which ended on me realizing I have strong traits, and seeking for a diagnosis, which I got last July.
Now I'm trying to put my life in order. One avenue would be going back to Medicine, which I would love, but I know my possibilities are a bit restricted, since I should apply to an exception to the rules that only accept a diploma that's not older than 5 years... that and the fact that I pretty much would only like to go back to pediatrics, it was my calling and I'm not excited about other specialities.
So I was looking at my strenghts, and I noticed that I'm kind of very good at investigating. One instance for example: a man called my house asking for my neighbour regarding a car she supposedly had for sale. I said "I can't give you her number!", he explained why he was looking for her, but I said I couldn't help. After I hung up with him I did some quick googling and noticed he had the wrong person, there is someone with the same name working at a garage nearby, which made more sense. I ended up finding a lot of information about this woman (amazing how much people put about their lives in internet o.O ) It was all legal (made public by her own settings) and it took me all of 10 minutes.
It's not the first time I find people on the internet: long lost friends, relatives, I even found the ship in which my ancestors arrived to South America. I enjoyed it inmensely. I guess I can think laterally, looking for alternative spellings, or figuring nicknames, looking for old addresses, school and marriage records, etc.
So, my lovely people of r/ADHD... how can I put those skills to work? Is there a career that needs investigation? I wouldn't even mind to work for the police, as long as I don't have to spend 15 years as a policewoman to get to do desk work... I have no clue how it works. Or any other company or business that use investigation daily? Any help? Go crazy with the brainstorm, please!!
If it helps, I live in Central Europe, I speak/ understand 6 languages and I'm pretty handy with computers (for a GenXer, at least) | 2021-10-10T08:42:01.000Z | q5489k | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Help me find another career path at 49 (investigation of some kind?) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5489k/help_me_find_another_career_path_at_49/ |
Chunners_ | [removed] | 2021-10-10T08:36:08.000Z | q545mh | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Aspen Dexamfetamine trialing it for ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q545mh/aspen_dexamfetamine_trialing_it_for_adhd/ |
purplewhitecup | Simply put-whether something or someone is ADHD friendly or not. I have realized that I lived with the most ADHD unfriendly family that had no regards for my space. A lot of my friends were pretty ADHD unfriendly asking me in an accusatory way to show up when I just simply could not. Saying 'I dont feel like it' is not an enough reason to not be part of something. My previous job role was everyday chore related which I hated and realized was ADHD unfriendly so I switched my role to a more project based tasks so I work flexibly and that has worked well for me.
I have a seperate savings account for my hyperfixations spend. So I dont feel guilty for my hyperfixations phase.
I often get ADHD hang ups like my mind will be completely stuck on something, the fact that carpet is blue and not red. I dont fight it. Just let it be. It goes away on its own.
My bag and room is always disorganized. And I have kinda accepted it.
I dont have a one career choice or option and my interests keep changing-part of the reason I am scared of higher studies. And I am beginning to accept it.
Compartmentalizations have helped me. Like there is a drawer for underclothes. Its unorganized. But its all still in one place. Even if they are not organized in itself.
I think what the most important thing to figh off is seld hatred which results from years of ADHD. That you were not lazy or worthless just have a very difficult brain. | 2021-10-10T08:32:38.000Z | q5441m | 1 | 12 | ADHD | I now look at every aspect of my life from an ADHD lens | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5441m/i_now_look_at_every_aspect_of_my_life_from_an/ |
Gay-and-Happy | Basically title.
My mum thinks that behaviour such as playing with BluTac or chewing gum while watching a movie show that I have a low attention span caused by too much screen time.
She wanted me to do a 20 minute breathing exercise to help with my anxiety, and got annoyed that I didn’t sit perfectly still. She asked what I thought would be something good for my anxiety, and when I said something like colouring she rolled her eyes and said that it was “problematic” that I couldn’t sit still. | 2021-10-10T08:21:28.000Z | q53zb0 | 7 | 11 | ADHD | My mum thinks that needing to stimm shows that I have a low attention span caused by too much screen time | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q53zb0/my_mum_thinks_that_needing_to_stimm_shows_that_i/ |
MonkeywithFeelings | Hey everyone,
I’ve seen a few of these posts over the past months so I doubted to submit this post but I really do need to vent and not much more (couldn't really choose the right flair for that). Advice or stories of own experience are always welcome though :)
After a long looong process of getting diagnosed and getting started with therapy I am now also going to start with medication. I just picked up my box of pills yesterday and am ready to start. But I am sooo scared to start.
Scared what it will do to me as it’s the first time I’ve ever taken a pill for anything (except contraception pills), and scared of possible side effects. But deep down I’m actually more afraid that it won’t work at all.
All my life I’ve been struggling to get by in life, feeling different, blablabla, everyone here diagnosed later in life knows this riddle. I’ve been depressed because of it, I had trouble with relationships because of it and I’ve done many things that I would have done differently if I knew how to handle it better back then.
I’ve tried all the planners, bullet journals, schedules and other tricks in the book, I’m motivated to the max till I’m not anymore. I just got diagnosed at 27 and starting therapy, I know this will help and there are still schedules and tricks I don’t know of yet but I’m a bit hesitant to think that this will be the one schedule that will work for me and I will stick to it.
So I am going to try medication. It feels like this is the last resort, this HAS to help because if this isn’t it, that means my life will always be the complete mess it was in the past. I NEED this to work. But what if it doesn’t? I’m so glad I found out about me having ADHD and this past year has been a sigh of relief and I finally felt home when I found out about all you lovely people experiencing the same things. I felt there was finally a possible way out of this, there were things that could help me cope better with life. But now I’m so scared that it doesn’t work. I know I’ve survived the past 27 years without medication and I can always go back to that, but I don’t want that. I want to be better at guiding myself through this crazy life. And if this doesn’t work, what will? | 2021-10-10T08:16:41.000Z | q53x7u | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Feel like medication is my last resort - scared to take it, what if it doesn't work? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q53x7u/feel_like_medication_is_my_last_resort_scared_to/ |
ImaginaryReese | So after last weekend when me and my partner spent over 4 hours decluttering, tidying and cleaning the bedroom I decided that enough was enough, I just couldn’t keep living like this, living in a constant sea of mess and clutter can only do damage to your mental health.
So this past week I have been hanging my clothes when I’ve washed them, putting everything in the laundry bag instead of the floor, picking up bits of trash, making the bed, hoovering regularly and just keeping bits generally tidy.
And you know what? I feel so much better, I’m sleeping better and actually enjoy being in my room.
I can’t be certain if I’ll keep this up all of the time but I think I’ve proved to myself that I can do a little bit better and that I owe this to myself because I deserve it! | 2021-10-10T07:43:31.000Z | q53j87 | 3 | 12 | ADHD | I kept my room tidy for a whole week! | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q53j87/i_kept_my_room_tidy_for_a_whole_week/ |
jstanley203 | All throughout my life in school I have never been able to focus. I’ll focus for ten seconds then day dream or play something else in my head. I’ll stop after a couple minutes and try to focus then 30 seconds later I’m right back where I was before. How can I fix this? I’ve tried Adderall but that just makes me feel cracked out and not able to just sit and focus. Anyone else have this issue? | 2021-10-10T07:34:20.000Z | q53f5d | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How to stay focused | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q53f5d/how_to_stay_focused/ |
Dav1d_Off1c1al | DISCLAIMER: I AM VERY BAD AT WRITING I UNDERSTAND THIS POST IS LONG AND I'M SORRY I WON'T BE DELETEING THE WALL OF TEXT SINCE I SPENT 2 HOURS ON IT. If you wish to skip to the meat and potatoes scroll to the bottom.
I feel like I'm super lucky that I have been diagnosed early in my life, (15 now and was diagnosed at about 10 or 11 rougly, I can't remember quite well) and I see a lot of people saying their lives were ruined because they were diagnosed in their 20s or even 30s. I created this post to figure out a way to maybe stop this from getting too out of control and creeping too much in to my life.
Now I'd figure I'd start with life before diagnosis and how hard it was and work our way to present day and how I feel writing this. If you think the life story is useless and serves no justice to my point then don't read, I won't care, but I feel like I need to touch on all details and try to make this as easy as possible to understand. I am a very unorganized and very bad at making long essays on how to fix an issue and I apologize in advance, if you need clarification I'll try my best to clarify.
Now that I'm done with the disclaimer I'll begin. Life before diagnosis was sort of normal early on, I went to a public brick and mortar school like most. I was a good kid and I didn't get any problems... until 4th grade rolled around, and teachers started to question me and why I wasn't "doing the work page with the rest of the class" and I usually followed up with an answer like "I don't know" or "I was day dreaming" (not gonna lie looking back this school was SUPER bad and I give it a dirty look everytime I see it, makes me vomit) and this kept up pretty much throughout my 4th year of elementary school, it wasn't super consistent but it happened at least more than 15 times. So 4th year is done and summer rolls around super off topic but I start talking to the neighbors grand daughter it was great obviously it didn't absoulety form an incredible mold for social skills but it was a start.
So now 5th grade rolls in, my mother gets a job position at my school as one of the cooks (super embarrassing) and I end up getting teacher swapped 3 whole times until I land with my permanent teachers for 5th grade. I felt very targeted this year and I often would breakdown in to tears and need someone to help me calm down. Nobody and I mean absouletly nobody even thought about anything about a learning deficit or adhd not even myself. I got in extreme trouble to a point where they would tell me to get my mother from the school kitchen just so they can tell her "all the horrible things" but my mother powered through it and believed in me, after several more moments of extreme trouble my mother and father became very confused and decided to speak to guidance counseling and she suggested I might have something along the lines of a math learning defect or some sort of defect one of the ones listed being ADD/ADHD and she suggested a therapist (dumbest thing ever).
So then the push for some sort of diagnosis continued and we took that therapy, and I still don't know why because the therapist was of 0 help there was no testing or anything related to add/adhd testing or even mention until my mother brought it up and they replied with "oh we don't do adhd testing" and we were shocked and talked to to main person running the whole therapy center (I think that's the right term) and they infact reinforced the therapists word and said " we don't do any adhd or any sort of testing, you'd have to speak to a doctor about it" and that we did indeed.
So going to the doctor... a lot of people say that doctors are dumb now adays and know nothing about disorders of any kind, but I got the cool doctor and he knew his stuff and said to get it tested with some dude we'll name.... Finkleberry. So a bit of backstory about finkle, he was originally suggested to my mother by a friend of a friend and the doctor said he knew the guy and said he was cool (and that he was). So we went in for the first day and it was good overall finkleberry started with a test I believe to figure out what kind of learner I was (kind of learner as in a visualized, auditorial, verbalized, or learning by memorization... you get the jist), next was reaction, speed, and attention after some time the test was over and the results were in I had adhd.
At this point I wasn't sure how to feel. Whether I was supposed to feel an ending to a very long story and finally proved all the people who put me down that I'm not some brat or someone who doesn't do their work I'm just a person who can't regulate their attention or I was supposed to feel devastated that I couldn't regulate my attention and have to deal with this burden all my life.
Nevertheless, I got a Adderall prescription. Now after all of this I landed myself in 7th now. 6th grade was not as bad as 5th but was just as annoying to deal with as the teachers were just as stubborn as the last and the ones before the last. So now me and my parents tell the school to "fk right off" and I try out online school (what I've been doing for almost 4 years now) and it was so much better than going to a building school, here the teachers actually seemed to enjoy their job and put a little passion in to it, the worst teachers I ever got were dumb and boring teachers.
So the Adderall prescription was a bit odd I had to get a few dosage changes but one thing stayed consistent throughout taking it (minus the diarrhea, gross) I always felt really empty and hollow inside and I never knew why and I still don't, but I definitely payed more attention and it felt like I could actually listen for once, it was amazing and terrible at the same time, as it helped with my school I felt something so gloomy and so terrible suddenly my music, games and hobbies seemed to change a little when I took it. It wasn't a complete personality change but it was more of a "I don'tlike this anymore.", but not only did my friends think I was strange and depressed sounding but I felt super hollow and I didn't like this feeling so I demanded I stop taking it.
So after the Adderall fiasco I felt a lot better after quitting the Adderall but that listening and paying attention feeling went away and I found myself eating, watching YouTube when I shouldn't be and staring in to the endless void... 1 of them or all 3 at once. Overall I neglected the symptoms for 2 to 3 years and here we are. LIFE STORY OVER.
Super sorry if it's unrelated or I made it sound like a sob story but I thought it would help and talking about it helps me a lot so sorry if I unloaded on you like that.
So down to why I want the answers that I want and why I wanted them now Instead of earlier or later. I've never opened up about my adhd before and I know little about it and how it behaves this may be why you're wondering why there are probably so many holes in the story. But I wanted my answers now because of all the people that say their life has been ruined by adhd and I don't want to same fate (anyone who has fallen victim I pray for you) as others, therefore I seek answers and possible strategies to help combat the symptoms and what better way to ask than to ask the people that also go through the same struggles.
My first big question is. Do I take meds? I don't like what it does to me but I definitely notice it's affect on attention and attention span. When I'm in class what is the best way to stay off the phone and get in the zone? I usually just completely forget about the lecture and go for the phone and it's not good cause I learn basically nothing after every class. Another big thing I'm dieing to ask is, how do I get myself to do something I'm not exactly forced to do? I have my parents force me to do my homework so that way it actually gets done, but it's different when it comes to picking up my instrument and playing because technically there's no due date, need, or benefit from doing it (that is what I tell myself) so instead of taking 15 to 30 minutes to do that I instead play games or watch YouTube and do something I consider enjoyable. I like my instrument but I never feel it's enough.
Only a few more. How do I not be a complete zombie when I wake up no matter what time I wake up? Me not being a morning person doesn't help at all, I'm super dead in the mornings. What do I do to be more productive and efficient when doing work? Me and my mother always work on homework together she reads questions, books and helps me understand but I want to be able to solve and answer problems faster than having to count on my fingers and be able to understand material and pay attention and not daze off and fall asleep. So yeah that's pretty much all.
Final thoughts and closure. I felt a lot of things writing this mostly the thought of people saying "this is a big wall of text this is stupid please write this again" and the creeping thought of my past and how I hated my old school so much. I also feel like the story was a waste of 2 hours and no one will read it as I could've just written down the questions and your life would be so much easier and you wouldn't have to read basically a summary of the biggest book ever. I hope I get tons of answers I want to know everyone's opinion even if I live by the words you say or not I feel almost intrigued by this odd disorder I was given but it can also feel like a major burden on my soul. I wrote this for three hours was it worth it? Maybe.
SORRY IF THIS IS SUPER DUPER UNORGANOZED OR POORLY WRITTEN writing is hard. | 2021-10-10T07:31:28.000Z | q53dz2 | 4 | 0 | ADHD | Getting Diagnosed Early | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q53dz2/getting_diagnosed_early/ |
furbybananas | [removed] | 2021-10-10T07:26:39.000Z | q53bz6 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I'm really certain ADHD but I'm not sure what to do (in a toxic home) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q53bz6/im_really_certain_adhd_but_im_not_sure_what_to_do/ |
_lingual_comments | Had been taking my 18mg almost-consistently for a month again, consistently for a week. Yesterday I skipped to drink wine and coffee with family.
Today I feel like I didn't sleep at all and my blood sugar is all over the place. Took a melatonin at about 3am and that still did not help.
On top of it all I have an accounting retake + test on Monday.
Has anyone dealt with this before? Do meds not usually HINDER sleep instead of help? | 2021-10-10T07:14:14.000Z | q536ro | 11 | 4 | ADHD | skipped meds yesterday - > no sleep? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q536ro/skipped_meds_yesterday_no_sleep/ |
NojoNinja | [removed] | 2021-10-10T07:08:20.000Z | q53443 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Is looking back on doing something stupid and your mind is stuck on the thought ADHD related? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q53443/is_looking_back_on_doing_something_stupid_and/ |
ConsistentHeat7 | I don't want to lose my sense of hearing, or god forbid get tinnitus. I have a bad habit of using really loud music to stimulate and focus and I just want a better way to go about it. What helps you stim?
I'm decently confident some cures for some hearing loss conditions will be resolved in my lifetime. But I don't know for certain and I don't want to risk it. | 2021-10-10T07:08:12.000Z | q5341u | 4 | 1 | ADHD | How to stim safely? I have a bad habit of using loud music to focus. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q5341u/how_to_stim_safely_i_have_a_bad_habit_of_using/ |
mirasol13 | I got home after a long day/ week of work and was almost instantly welcomed by a lecture from my mother about how I just need to tell myself that the laundry needs to be done, and do it, because how can I be okay with living in such a disgusting state?
(For context, my clothes have been piled in two overflowing laundry bins by my door, while the shelves I’m ~supposed~ to put them on are bare)
As soon as she had finished lecturing me, I got in bed and just…didn’t do anything for the rest of the day. I tried gaming with my boyfriend but felt so overwhelmed that I broke down crying and left. I went to sleep and woke up around 10 PM to my mom yelling at me to move my car. I ate for the first time since yesterday. It’s almost 3 AM now and I’m in bed, unable to sleep or watch tv or do anything besides stare at my phone.
I (29F, if that’s important) was only diagnosed with ADHD about four months ago but have struggled with doing things like keeping my room/car/closet clean for as long as I can remember. I know it frustrates my mom to no end that I can’t just MAKE myself do these things but I don’t feel like I can tell her about my ADHD because:
a) she’s an immigrant parent who has worked her ass off her entire life and would never be able to understand how her eldest daughter, who had so much potential and privilege she didn’t have, couldn’t just make herself do stuff.
b) she’s an evangelical Christian who doesn’t believe in conditions like depression/anxiety and needing to take medication for them, so how would I ever convince her ADHD is a real problem?
I’m just so tired of her thinking I want to live like this. I currently can’t afford medication which is why I’ve been having an even harder time than usual, but I don’t want to live like this; I just can’t get out of it right now. Hearing the derision in her voice just sent me to bed and now I’ve been in such a depressive state that I’m not even sure how I’ll get up, much less clean up my room. | 2021-10-10T07:00:21.000Z | q530bt | 2 | 9 | ADHD | I can’t get up | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q530bt/i_cant_get_up/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-10T06:59:41.000Z | q52zs6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to stim safely? I have a bad habit of using loud music to focus. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q52zs6/how_to_stim_safely_i_have_a_bad_habit_of_using/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-10T06:54:30.000Z | q52xir | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Getting back to working a job | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q52xir/getting_back_to_working_a_job/ |
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