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[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T19:24:19.000Z | q3gjcc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | how old do you have to be to apply for a test without parental permission? (uk) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3gjcc/how_old_do_you_have_to_be_to_apply_for_a_test/ |
starshollowkait1 | I have such mixed feelings about this medication.
Im on 30mg. Im 30 years old. Its been about 3 weeks.
I havent had the exact same reaction every day. Ive been trying to ride it out for the entire first month to see if i "settle into it".
It definitely has its pros. I do feel more focused and productive/in a good mood most days when im on it.
But i starting to think there are more cons than pros.
Sleeping has been hard. Ive been getting really bad headaches, some of the worst ive ever had. Ive tried to attribute this to shitty weather lately, but im not sure 🤷♀️
The past 3 days ive noticed i dont feel quite right. I still feel more energetic and focused when the meds first kick in.. but i also find it wearing off faster and faster. I am feeling increasingly more anxious (like ive had 10 cups of coffee or something). Today specifically im feeling a depressed mood also.
Not to say that HAS to be the meds. But it kinda came out of nowhere and i dont feel that way often at all.
I am talking to my doctor tomorrow.
Advice on what i should consider asking her to try next?
My gut tells me she will want to try strattora next.
Or adderall? Idk.
Feedback from people who have started on vyvanse and moved to something else?
I really just need a friend right now.
Im honestly really happy that I've been diagnosed. Its answering a lot of questions about myself ive always had.
Im still learning.
But it does feel lonely sometimes. | 2021-10-07T19:21:40.000Z | q3gham | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Feeling discouraged after 3 weeks on vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3gham/feeling_discouraged_after_3_weeks_on_vyvanse/ |
chandeloore | For as long as I can remember, I have had slightly shaky hands. Doesn't impare me much in everyday life, except occasional annoying questions like "do I make you nervous? ;)" and slight difficulty with doing certain lab work. Before I started Vyvanse (or Aduvanz/Elvanse) (first ADHD med I've tried), my doctor went through the side effects of Vyvanse, and warned me that I could get shaky hands. This worried me, as I didnt want even shakier hands. However, a couple hours into the first day on Vyvanse, I looked at my hands, and they were as steady as a neurosurgeon's. Have anyone had a similar experience? | 2021-10-07T19:15:41.000Z | q3gcqs | 6 | 7 | ADHD | First day of Vyvanse (30 mg), and it helped my chronically shaky hands, have any of you experienced this before? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3gcqs/first_day_of_vyvanse_30_mg_and_it_helped_my/ |
Tetragonos | [removed] | 2021-10-07T19:13:16.000Z | q3gaxk | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Healthcare rollercoaster | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3gaxk/healthcare_rollercoaster/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T19:11:02.000Z | q3g9an | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Losing things | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3g9an/losing_things/ |
cyper_1 | I started taking adderall once I was diagnosed with ADHD a few months ago since then, people around my have said I lost my "spark". When I'm around my friends, they're all laughing, but I'm not. While I think the situation is funny like they do, I just can't laugh. I'm so much more reserved now. I'm not as funny and just sarcastic and dry. I'm thinking of stopping the meds. Is having undiagnosed ADHD worth being able to express my emotions? Right now I think the answer is yes, but I guess I'll see how I act in the next few weeks without it. | 2021-10-07T19:10:59.000Z | q3g997 | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Adderall makes me boring. | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3g997/adderall_makes_me_boring/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T19:09:25.000Z | q3g821 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I thought I had a weird unexplainable life filled with confusing pain buuuuuuut | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3g821/i_thought_i_had_a_weird_unexplainable_life_filled/ |
Psychological_Tear_6 | I've had muscle and joint pain most of my life, which I recently found out was caused by caffeine (I basically only drank soda and tea, lol) and finally got to be free of that pain... for a bit. I was diagnosed with ADD shortly after and given medication, stimulants, and the pain is back.
I'm tired of being in pain, but the medication works and I don't want to go back to where I was before I started on it, getting dizzy from mental exhaustion halfway through every task. But the pain is also exhausting, and I have to get massages to keep it under control, and that's expensive.
I'm tired. | 2021-10-07T19:05:54.000Z | q3g5fu | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Medications causing pain | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3g5fu/medications_causing_pain/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T19:04:30.000Z | q3g4ft | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I feel so tired and I can't breathe | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3g4ft/i_feel_so_tired_and_i_cant_breathe/ |
pixelleeh | I know that there must be people out there in the same situation but I don't know how they do it, it just looks like the worst combination to me. I'm trying to do it everyday but looks like an impossible mission
I forget things all the time, sometimes seconds after they happened (like decide I need to buy meat and forget what I Just said I was gonna buy) and my house Just looks like a big trash can because I dont have time to do things or I forget I was going to do it or I cant move my body to do it because my body its just too tired and dont want to move. Its kinda a combo when I decide I need to wash my clothes but my body feels heavy and I forget I wanted to do something and Just give up to wathever I'm feeling
Someone in that situation have any advice? | 2021-10-07T19:03:11.000Z | q3g3ec | 6 | 8 | ADHD | How to live alone having crippling depression, anxiety and ADHD? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3g3ec/how_to_live_alone_having_crippling_depression/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T19:01:30.000Z | q3g24x | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Really? Is it always going to be like this? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3g24x/really_is_it_always_going_to_be_like_this/ |
Grade_Silly | Since last year I have been learning how to program, I'm not diagnosed with ADHD but it's obvious at this point.
I used to pick random tutorials and not finishing them up and else, so I went to my college library and took 3 books.
Today I finished one after 3 days, at first I wanted to finish it in 1day but well.
Now I will practice with my pc and read the other 2. I wanted to practice but I felt asleep so xd.
At least I'm doing it idk | 2021-10-07T18:59:06.000Z | q3g08o | 1 | 8 | ADHD | I read a book | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3g08o/i_read_a_book/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T18:52:41.000Z | q3fvhd | 15 | 4 | ADHD | What should I do | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fvhd/what_should_i_do/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T18:52:11.000Z | q3fv4b | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Being sent ADHD testing. Advice? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fv4b/being_sent_adhd_testing_advice/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T18:51:52.000Z | q3fuvj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Should I mention about my ADHD in an interview for a PhD or its letter of motivation? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fuvj/should_i_mention_about_my_adhd_in_an_interview/ |
Ok_Ad_2152 | [removed] | 2021-10-07T18:50:48.000Z | q3fu1k | 1 | 1 | ADHD | hate taking showers | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fu1k/hate_taking_showers/ |
Quiet_Stick | I just posted about this on /r/firsttimehomebuyers but I thought ADHD might understand exactly how I feel in the 5 weeks between our offer and getting the keys. I am 100% focused on purchasing and closing on this house. It’s all I can think of. Planning future renovations, projects and decorating is fun too. But working? Cleaning? Packing? Impossible.
I’ve now built our house on Sims 4 and Planner 5D, started my Pinterest board and reorganized my old boards, and designed our renovated kitchen on IKEA kitchen planner. | 2021-10-07T18:50:35.000Z | q3ftw7 | 5 | 10 | ADHD | We bought a house! Amazing! But waiting for closing while hyper focused on the house is EXCRUCIATING | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3ftw7/we_bought_a_house_amazing_but_waiting_for_closing/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T18:48:27.000Z | q3fsbc | 9 | 0 | ADHD | AITA for getting annoyed with my friend who has ADHD? | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fsbc/aita_for_getting_annoyed_with_my_friend_who_has/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T18:47:53.000Z | q3frwh | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else outgrow their ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3frwh/anyone_else_outgrow_their_adhd/ |
Critical_Damage_99 | ok me and me mom went to a department store and the main reason was to buy an electronic stove. and on the way there she was like, "let's go to the electronics row." and I was like, "what for?" and she just went like yo that's the reason why we're here. and omg I got really annoyed, idk at her or being forgetful. | 2021-10-07T18:40:41.000Z | q3fmls | 5 | 1 | ADHD | I hate being forgetful | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fmls/i_hate_being_forgetful/ |
AdeptFact288 | Hey everyone, title pretty much says it. I was having a discussion with my boss about challenges I'm having with my job since moving into it \~1 year ago (it was a promotion within the company). I've never disclosed and hate the idea of ADHD holding me back, but since taking this position I've had to go back on Adderall after not needing it for around 15 years.
The new role is chaotic, with variables changing on a daily basis. I've worked so hard to build an organizational structure that can accommodate it, but with so many meetings requiring that I know everything discussed things haven't panned out quite like I'd hoped.
Like many of you certainly are, I'm very self-conscious of my performance and am a perfectionist. I read too deeply into things and am overly critical as a result. In our conversation I mentioned that I struggle with ADHD, that the ever-changing variables are difficult for me to track and retain, and that I'm trying my best to perform at and exceed their expectations. I was able to excel in my last role because I was able to build strong routines.
My boss sent this to the benefits and HR department, who have now sent me Reasonable Accommodations forms to fill out, with a 7-day deadline. These forms were not requested, and I did not ask for help, however they did this out of obligation to the business, which makes sense. I don't have any requests to make.
My question to anyone that's been through this or has legal experience is this:
Is there a legal implication in not requesting accommodation today?
Am I obligated to request this now and, if I don't, can it be held against me?
If you've gone through a similar experience, please share so I (and the rest of us here) have some context on how it went for you and what to possibly expect.
Thank you! | 2021-10-07T18:38:36.000Z | q3fl6q | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Disclosed to employer in private conversation, now have deadline for reasonable accommodations form that I did not request | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fl6q/disclosed_to_employer_in_private_conversation_now/ |
DConny1 | Hi all. I'm recently self-diagnosed but will be going to my doctor for an official diagnosis soon.
I always knew I had trouble focusing on work that needs to be done and I've struggled mightily to find a way to be consistent.
I'm a self-employed freelancer and my ADHD brain has sabotaged my career growth over and over again.
I've recently discovered a routine that seems to work for me and I wanted to share it with this community. I'll first provide some general advice regarding focused work and then I'll go into my routine.
**Tips for getting down to work:**
1. **Find a comfortable working environment**. My immediate environment/surroundings affect me A LOT. Working from home creates too many distractions and provides too many gateways for me to latch onto another activity.
2. **Allow the mind to wander for a while.** I just know I'm not someone who can sit down at a desk, open my books and computer and get right down to work. I need to satisfy my impulsive and curious brain first.
3. **Use tools to help you get started and maintain focus.** I use a timer on my computer to hold my mind accountable for both my "mind wandering fun" time and my "time to actually work" time. I also have a few "study focus music" videos on Youtube that I rely on to use as background noise when I'm working.
**My routine:**
1. **I head to the local library.** This helps me get out of my home (eliminates distractions) and I find that being around other people who are also in the "working mood" kind of sets the working atmosphere for me. I usually buy a coffee or tea at the cafe when I get there because it comforts me and stimulates me.
2. **I set a timer for "fun, impulsive brain" time.** I know that once I sit down and open up my computer, my mind will naturally wander to Reddit, Twitter or other websites or social media apps. So I won't fight this. But to prevent this from getting out of hand, I set a timer on my computer or phone to **count down from 25 minutes.** This gives me plenty of time for my brain to impulsively go where it wants to. But in the back of my mind, I know that I need to just STOP once that 25 minutes is up. If I don't respect the timer, I'll never get started with my work.
3. **I then set the timer to 20 minutes and I JUST START MY WORK.** This is obviously the hardest part. I always tell myself this simple phrase: "**Even if I get nothing else done today, I HAVE TO WORK for the next 20 minutes.**" What is 20 minutes of work anyways? It's the bare minimum and it'll be over before I know it. So I fire up my favourite "study focus music" on Youtube and I just start my work. Usually the first minute or two or three I'm struggling a bit to get my brain into it, but before long, my work starts flowing freely.
4. **20 minutes passes by in a flash.** My timer goes off. I then make the choice to continue with my work or take a break. Usually, I'll just keep on working because once my brain is focused on my work, I realize how easy it actually is to get work done and how much progress I'm actually making. However, if I need to take another break for mind-wandering, I do it but I'll set my timer to less time (12-15 minutes). A LOT of times, I'll end up working for the next hour or two with no or very few distractions. Sometimes I'll just randomly open up a tab and go to Reddit or Twitter and I'll browse it for literally 1 min and then I'll close it and get right back to work.
That's my simple routine and I hope some of you can take parts of it and make your own productivity routines.
Note:s The 25:20 fun:work ratio can be adjusted based on the individual person and their needs. The study focus music I think makes something click in my brain that it's "work time". I will never listen to this music when I'm not supposed to be working. It also just helps me drown out my surroundings to focus on the work in front of me.
Some additional tips I have for increased productivity/focus/energy:
\- Eat healthy, drink lots of water, take vitamins. Eating a lot of healthy fats definitely increases my energy (avocado, nuts, nut butters, olive oil, etc). I also notice a big difference when I'm supplementing with Vitamin D and B.
\- Exercise every day, multiple times per day. A lot of times when I actually get some of my work done and I need a break, I'll go for a 15-20 minute walk outside. The fresh air and movement helps me reset my brain without needing to do more dopamine-intensive activities. Helps with my restlessness too.
\- Stay on routine with your sleep patterns. Even if you stay up late, make sure you get up at about the same time every day (whether that's 7am, 9am or 10:30am, etc). I hate when I sleep in because then my day just feels shorter and I'm less likely to get ANY work done.
\- Don't get caught in a dopamine loop. Games, food, masturbation, Netflix, Youtube videos, etc. Once we get into this loop, it's hard to pull our brains out of it before hours have passed.
**Cliffs:**
1. Find an environment that gives you a comfortable, productive and working atmosphere.
2. Allow your brain to impulsively wander for a while.
3. Use tools to hold your brain accountable.
4. JUST GET STARTED and do 20 min of distraction-free work. | 2021-10-07T18:37:14.000Z | q3fk7w | 3 | 4 | ADHD | My Tips and Routine for Getting Work Done | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fk7w/my_tips_and_routine_for_getting_work_done/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T18:36:07.000Z | q3fjem | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Concerta Medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fjem/concerta_medication/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T18:35:45.000Z | q3fj5c | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Are pharmacists allowed to do this?? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fj5c/are_pharmacists_allowed_to_do_this/ |
TumbleweedApart1598 | [removed] | 2021-10-07T18:35:05.000Z | q3fing | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD or not? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fing/adhd_or_not/ |
foolish_carpenter | [removed] | 2021-10-07T18:33:49.000Z | q3fhpl | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do I get properly tested? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fhpl/how_do_i_get_properly_tested/ |
Unhappy-Seesaw-9372 | I had my donefirst interview and they said that I have adhd and would prescribe me concerta. But they wouldnt prescribe me until I had a physical. I did the physical and EKG said I had a borderline ECG sinus arythmia. Which I guess means my heartrate was low but in normal range. My heart rate was 58 bpm during the EKG test. And when they did the physical it was at 63. I was sitting at the dr's office for 30-40 minutes so i thought these would be ok resting heart rates. But the provider at donefirst wont prescribe me due to the borderline ECG. I do not have health insurance and not sure if I qualify. What are my next steps? | 2021-10-07T18:33:08.000Z | q3fh64 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | What are my options? Donefirst wont prescribe me because of a borderline ECG | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fh64/what_are_my_options_donefirst_wont_prescribe_me/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T18:32:39.000Z | q3fgts | 6 | 3 | ADHD | How do you handle someone with ADHD when you're medicated? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fgts/how_do_you_handle_someone_with_adhd_when_youre/ |
JBD168 | Misophonia is common for people with ADHD so I wonder if anyone here shares my problem.
I have a problem with certain peoples voices. It’s not personal, I often have this issue when watching random clips on YouTube or TikTok.
But it’s just something about the way some people talk that makes me cringe. I have to stop watching because I can’t ignore it.
It’s not so much about their dialect or accent, but more about their “energy”.
And it’s just the voice, I’m not being judgmental on them as people. I don’t need to see them in order to be annoyed. I’ve had to skip podcasts because of certain voices that affect me.
I feel so bad, and I would of course never tell someone I hated the sound of their voice, but I still feel guilty about it.
But some voices give me the same feeling as when someone chews food. And it’s so random, I never know who will bother me.
Anyone else who experience this, or something similar? Or am I the asshole lol | 2021-10-07T18:31:48.000Z | q3fg66 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Misophonia with voices | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fg66/misophonia_with_voices/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T18:27:39.000Z | q3fd3w | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Don’t see a point in getting diagnosed. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3fd3w/dont_see_a_point_in_getting_diagnosed/ |
Twinter-is-coming | I was anxious, tried to be organised but still left things til the very last minute, went over and over and over the evidence, tagged and retagged everything, practiced and practiced telling the events in a chronological linear order that made sense (that was the hardest part) I wrote and rewrote my statement of claim so I wouldn't get sidetracked, i walked into court on Monday, with way too much paperwork, I kept having to remind myself not to swivel in my chair and tap my leg up and down, i kept my answers short, and to the point, I slowed down my speech... And I WON!! YOU GUYS I WON!!!! I am so proud of myself!!! My older sister helped me organise the order of the documents and helped me write everything in a straightforward succinct manner and I couldn't have done it without her! She held my hand and told me I could do it, she sat behind me in court and helped me with my answers when I couldn't remember dates, she told me to breathe and wrote me dot points on the front page of each evidence document that let me know what was inside it. I feel amazing!! I took them to court for breach of privacy and I WON! I won my privacy back!! I had to share! Sorry for the rant and the ramble but I'm so ecstatic and proud!!! Also I feel so lucky to have my amazing big sister!! Anyone who needs to hear this today HEAR IT LOUD AND CLEAR! YOUVE GOT THIS!!!! you CAN do it!!!! | 2021-10-07T18:22:00.000Z | q3f8zt | 137 | 3,475 | ADHD | I took my landlord to court and I WON!!! | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f8zt/i_took_my_landlord_to_court_and_i_won/ |
messynavi | Hi all, recently i’ve been having a lot of trouble with my adderall prescription at CVS. I had to switch to them a few months ago because my insurance won’t let me go anywhere else now. I’m having to pay $40+ every time i pick up my adderall since my insurance won’t cover it at all if it’s not a 90-day supply. it’s only supposed to be $7. This is weird to me since i never had this issue at walgreens. when i mentioned it to my psychiatrist, she told me it was illegal to give me all three months of the adderall at once according to federal laws. whats even weirder is that for two months in a row, i only paid $7, but last month and this month i suddenly had to pay the $40+ for it. I’m really curious if anyone has had a similar issue with CVS or another pharmacy and if there’s a way around this? i know $40 isn’t a whole lot, but it’s frustrating when it’s only supposed to be $7. any help is appreciated! | 2021-10-07T18:19:58.000Z | q3f7hh | 4 | 1 | ADHD | paying out of pocket for meds bc my insurance won’t cover it if it’s not 90 days worth | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f7hh/paying_out_of_pocket_for_meds_bc_my_insurance/ |
xgritzx | Hey all, I came across [this playlist](https://open.spotify.com/user/gert.broodberg?si=dc76062a03aa4b57) on Spotify while doing a few things. This person has put a lot of work into these various ADHD focus playlists and making it look nice and labeled well and curated well. give them a shot and see if any work for you or just give them a little love for the effort. Have a good day y'all.
Edit: specified these are ADHD specific. | 2021-10-07T18:19:19.000Z | q3f6y4 | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Spotify Playlist Recommendation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f6y4/spotify_playlist_recommendation/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T18:18:05.000Z | q3f5yw | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Hyperfixation with reading | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f5yw/hyperfixation_with_reading/ |
insertsonghere1986 | I've been making progress with my childhood trauma, working on my eating, my health and my relationship and being kind to myself.
I had a drive test today again, after failing the first time and I failed again. I feel incompetent and so scared of my life. My partner is being so understanding but I am anxiously crying away in a room. I made a silly mistake and it cost me the test. It's not about the test itself but so many other things. That I have to work on so many different things at the same time and everything is so fucking difficult. I've once lost a job and that screwed my confidence. And now all the latent fears of losing jobs and becoming homeless are coming to the fore. It's so difficult and I am so weepy. | 2021-10-07T18:16:41.000Z | q3f4zj | 13 | 3 | ADHD | I failed another drive test.. again... and it broke me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f4zj/i_failed_another_drive_test_again_and_it_broke_me/ |
CWay_90 | So I am on my first week of 10mg Adderall XR. How did you figure out what the correct dose for you was? Like, how did you find the sweet spot, so to speak? Of course, I am going to talk to my doctor about it, but I was hoping I could get some first-hand experiences of what it feels like to be on the correct dose.
I feel the effects even at a low dose. My hands are a little shaky, I have more energy, and an elevated mood. It is helping me with my focus to a certain degree, but I still get distracted pretty easily, and starting certain tasks still takes more effort than I would like it to. I mean I am focusing better, but I think I was hoping for a little more. I just don't want to up the dose unless it will help with my ADHD. I'm worried if we up the dose I will just get shakier, and like higher basically, without any benefit to my actual ADHD symptoms. | 2021-10-07T18:15:44.000Z | q3f4ba | 2 | 1 | ADHD | How to tell if medication is working... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f4ba/how_to_tell_if_medication_is_working/ |
g-a-y- | I just moved out of a temporary living situation with some of my closest friends, into living on my own with someone who is rlly awesome, just not as close friendship-wise. It’s been a hard first week because I have no one to body double, or keep up with me, or make plans with casually, etc. does anyone have tips/advice for managing this? I’m so exhausted from trying to get myself into a routine without anyone to reinforce it. | 2021-10-07T18:13:35.000Z | q3f2ob | 2 | 0 | ADHD | Living Alone-ish | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f2ob/living_aloneish/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T18:11:44.000Z | q3f188 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm very productive at work but struggle with being productive in my personal life? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f188/im_very_productive_at_work_but_struggle_with/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T18:10:43.000Z | q3f0fj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD is harming my marriage | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f0fj/adhd_is_harming_my_marriage/ |
astrohnalle | I rarely cry and usually when I do, it's because of some sad movie that is made specifically to make people feel that way.
I'm a 21 year old male and have a girlfriend. We've been together for 3 years and we've come in terms that having a conversation about real shit like our relationship and hard topics like loss are hard for me, since it's hard to find a day, when I could concentrate well.
Today she started talking about the loss of her pet horse, who was put down just a couple weeks ago. She has been in a close relationship with him(the horse) for almost the entirety of her life. She broke down crying when talking her experience through and all this time I was putting up my best effort to hold on to that thought and convo.
She knows these things are hard for me, so when she had cleared her mind and cried on my shoulder for close to an hour, we started talking about our relationship and how we should both try to use love language (or something like that, you know I couldn't follow very closely) more in our day to day life, since we've been pain in each others asses for quite some time, just trying to cope with the stress of moving soon and our financial status.
(*) When we got to the part where I started to talk about how hard for me is to come up with things to say when I'm trying to console her and to hold on to thoughts and keep up conversations, I made an image in my head of what it feels like to try to hold on to a conversation.
I told her I imagined her standing on the other side of a highway with cars (representing thoughts) driving past. I could hear her talking over the constant noise, but I would have to give my everything to assimilate what she was saying. Obviously even with my best efforts I can't keep up and all the noise makes me not remember what she has been saying.
I broke in tears. For some reason, when I try to understand the impact ADHD has on my ability to do normal people shit like have a conversation, I keep breaking down. I think this wasn't the first time, but I have hard time recalling our last time going through this, you might guess why. I cried like a little girl. I'm lucky to have her on my side with all my quirks. | 2021-10-07T18:10:30.000Z | q3f09c | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I had a breakdown when talking to my girlfriend | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3f09c/i_had_a_breakdown_when_talking_to_my_girlfriend/ |
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shithappens79 | Your just lazy. Lazy to do anything. And emotionally weak. Barely any motivation some days. After work/before work. Can't do household chores? Your lazy. Can't do a simple task that others can? Your lazy. Can't figure out how to get your life in order? Your so lazy. Need a timer to time yourself? Very lazy. Seems like the stuff that normal, mentally healthy can do is considered lazy if you can't do it. | 2021-10-07T18:05:31.000Z | q3ew76 | 2 | 9 | ADHD | "Your just lazy" | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3ew76/your_just_lazy/ |
JustDave29 | I keep reading that ADHDers are terrible with money and budgeting... I was the complete opposite for the last few years and was actually described as a "serial saver" where I'd scrimp and save as much as I could. I think mainly down to trying to make future plans of financial security for my family a reality sooner than later (because everything has to be NOW! lol)
Anyone else relate because I'm as yet undiagnosed and this is making me wonder if it's actually ADHD or something else.
. | 2021-10-07T18:01:13.000Z | q3essk | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Is anyone actually REALLY GOOD with money?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3essk/is_anyone_actually_really_good_with_money/ |
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Competitive_Monk2954 | For those still living with your family, you guys ever just feel like you’d be SO much more able and productive if you didn’t live with your family/or if you were allowed to dig deep into your special hobbies?
I’ve been house sitting this week and have spent very little time at my own house. And I feel like I’ve been more productive, and feel more comfortable in my own skin. There’s been things at my house that I haven’t been able to tend to as much because I’m not there, but my point still stands | 2021-10-07T17:56:46.000Z | q3epay | 2 | 9 | ADHD | Do you ever feel like you’d be much better off if you were left alone? | 0.85 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3epay/do_you_ever_feel_like_youd_be_much_better_off_if/ |
Ron_Steezly | After a day of taking my adhd medication (I have been on pretty much all of them at this point) I have a comedown that is really hard to deal with. I’ve found drinking beer helps with it but I really don’t want to make this a part of my regular routine. I was wondering how other people deal with medication comedowns ? | 2021-10-07T17:55:53.000Z | q3eoom | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to deal with coming down after taking my proscription my medicine | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3eoom/how_to_deal_with_coming_down_after_taking_my/ |
BidZealousideal1081 | Adderal made me feel robotic and anhedonic.
Vyvanse made me anxious and hyperfocus on stupid things.
Concerta made me a zombie, worst experience with that.
Currently trying straterra and welbutrin but it looks like it's not gonna work.
How screwed am I? My last hope is Ritalin or retrying vyvanse, idk.
I'm desperate but idk, is it too much to ask for meds without shitty side effects? | 2021-10-07T17:55:09.000Z | q3eo5l | 5 | 4 | ADHD | How many meds did you go through till you found the right one? I need to know I'm not incurable | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3eo5l/how_many_meds_did_you_go_through_till_you_found/ |
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littleredrob | Ive honestly noticed everyone ik who takes and meds do this. And I notice this happen to myself when I take my meds
I become much more idk.. it’s like I’m trapped in my mind and it’s kinda odd. And I feel much more judge mental of the way ppl act and almost protective of myself?? And like I think I must look lifeless and emotionless on addy or vyvance bc I feel a tad tense and just ugh idek. But I feel like I lifelessly look at people with these judge mental eyes like “what are you doing” eyes. Idk my face becomes very emotionless on vyvance and I feel very very calm. I feel like I’m trapped in my emotionless self. I feel like I’m an emotionless robot
I’m on vyvance rn and I’m replying to people I’m talking to in a reallyyy slow calm voice while just staring with my eyes wide open. Weirdly enoguh I noticed this happens to friends on vyvance. Vyvance also makes me a little more reactive to criticism
Well vyvance makes me feel like an emeoitonalless robot especially outwardly but it makes me wanna cry inside. I also find it weird bc yesterday I took vyvance and it worked great I was super happy and perky at work but now I’m a robot on it my face is totally flat and eye r zoned out staring | 2021-10-07T17:43:56.000Z | q3efql | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Adderall eyes | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3efql/adderall_eyes/ |
On-a-Journey123 | Hi! I read some threads here about strategies for time-management and combatting time-blindness, and many of them featured using a timer. So I have been using this strategy for weeks now, and it works SO well for me, that I wanted to share. What I do is, I set the timer on my microwave for 30 minutes, and the rule of the game is that I just have to keep moving for the entire 30 minutes, focusing my efforts on the main level of my house (kitchen/living/dining).
I just completed my daily 30-min session, and here's what I accomplished: Empty and reload dishwasher, wipe down countertops, pick up all toys and kid clothes on the floor and put away, put box of "free" stuff out on the curb, took out trash, swept up a mess on the floor, straightened papers, emptied robot vacuum and cleaned it out.
I have discovered that making my kitchen perfect only takes 15 MINUTES! Picking up the floor takes 5 minutes. After that I'm just looking for stuff to straighten to take up the final 10 minutes.
If you had asked me prior to my diagnosis/drugs how long all this would take, I would have no idea but guess "hours." And in fairness to myself, I think it did take hours, because I would procrastinate, take breaks to scroll on my phone, suddenly get distracted about something I need to research on my computer, discover that I'm missing some cleaning product and give up on the whole thing etc, etc. Not to mention all the time spent paralyzed in dread over something as simple as taking out the trash, haha!
The cool part to me is that now I know it only takes 30 minutes to make my main level presentable. That's useful to know! And usually no one is coming over, but the fact that my place is clean "straightens up" my own mind so I can move on to other things.
If you're struggling with keeping your place orderly, I suggest you try it! | 2021-10-07T17:42:48.000Z | q3eewk | 1 | 2 | ADHD | The 30-Minute Clean - my new strategy for cleaning house | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3eewk/the_30minute_clean_my_new_strategy_for_cleaning/ |
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shiningz | I'd like to ask for an assessment or referral from my family doctor but I keep overthinking about what to say and being scared of being dismissed and being told that I'm making shit up.
I feel like an imposter, even though I've been reading about ADHD and lurking here for a year now and relating to almost everything and the fact that my brother and cousin have it makes it a possibility for me. My therapist suggested it too.
I read about all those successful diagnosis and treatment stories and dream about the possibility of having a 'normal' life.
I just want an objective assessment and not even guaranteed diagnosis, but I'm so scared of asking fo it. How should I bring this up? I'm in Canada (Ontario) if it matters.
(I'm sorry this post doesn't belong here, I'm really hopeless.) | 2021-10-07T17:33:16.000Z | q3e7oa | 10 | 8 | ADHD | How did you get diagnosed? How did you bring it up with your doctor? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3e7oa/how_did_you_get_diagnosed_how_did_you_bring_it_up/ |
Hnegron22 | I just got diagnosed about 1 month ago. I'm a 26y/o female. I'm on 15mg Lexapro and 36mg concerta.
I'm trying to read a book and I can barely get through half a page before my brain starts thinking about what I can do instead. Does anyone feel this way?
Does medication take some time to work or should I be feeling it instantly?
Any recommendations or similar experiences to help me not feel so bad about myself... | 2021-10-07T17:32:26.000Z | q3e71g | 8 | 5 | ADHD | Trouble reading. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3e71g/trouble_reading/ |
werksbyashley | I’ve been taking Adderall for about 9 months now and it’s had a very positive effect on my life. My doctor just had my dose increased about two weeks ago (I wanted to try because it seemed less effective lately) and now I feel like I’ve developed a very sensitive stomach, and what I suspect to be an increased intolerance to dairy. I was a bit intolerant of lactose before, but has anyone else ever experienced this? | 2021-10-07T17:31:28.000Z | q3e68v | 2 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD meds and lactose intolerance? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3e68v/adhd_meds_and_lactose_intolerance/ |
horriiiiii | Hi everyone,
Today is the second day i'm taking vyvanse 30mg. I actually took 1 an a half today, i know i shoudn't, i was just curious, because i didn't felt any different yesterday... I thought adhd meds are supposed to work instantly and should make a noticeable difference (if they are the right ones for you). There are so many of us experiencing a huge change in their way of perceiving things even if it's the first day. I know i'm impatient but i can't stop thinking about this topic. I wonder if someone of you, who also take vyvanse made the experience that it didn't worked at the beginning but idk maybe a week later or so? Is that possible and if yes, does it happen frequently or is it rather an exception? I know that it might just not be the right medication or the right dosis for me, what leads me to my second question: how many of you needed to take a higher dosis to have an effect? I know i should be a bit more patient. I would be glad if anyone could share their experiences. | 2021-10-07T17:29:20.000Z | q3e4gn | 8 | 1 | ADHD | first two days Vyvanse/ Elvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3e4gn/first_two_days_vyvanse_elvanse/ |
AButteryRaccoon | I was diagnosed a few years ago when I was in college and I'm still navigating the process. I've always struggled financially but I'm finally in a stable job and I'm trying to learn how to live under my means and build a savings. I tried budgeting on my computer but I need something that's in my face at all times or I'll forget to keep track. I tried the Mint app since I'm on my phone a lot, but the bank I use is too small and they don't allow Mint to connect to my account. I tried the Dave Ramsey thing where you have different envelopes to sort out your cash, but that's hard to keep up with, especially when a lot of my bills come straight out of my bank account. I'm just tired of spending money aimlessly and being stressed due to mismanaging money (helloooo, impulsive spending..) Any suggestions? | 2021-10-07T17:28:56.000Z | q3e44m | 19 | 11 | ADHD | How do you guys take care of yourselves financially? I've tried budgeting for years and it doesn't go well... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3e44m/how_do_you_guys_take_care_of_yourselves/ |
okelay | This week I started on 50mg of samexid or vyvanse. its really helpful but i havent been getting much sleep and my anxiety has been acting up.
Im on day 4 and i slept kinda decently but only 5 hours. i hope im adjusting.
I wonder though if i dont take it over the weekend it is possible the adjustment will regress??
Should i skip it in the weekend and catch up on sleep or just hang in there?
I wanted to go for a bike ride and tire myself out but i have an injured ankle and pt left it very tired. | 2021-10-07T17:27:14.000Z | q3e2rk | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Adjusting to vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3e2rk/adjusting_to_vyvanse/ |
xXbrowneyedgirlxX | I’m a preschool teacher. The class I work with are 2 year olds and some 3 year olds. I’ve been working with children for 11 1/2 years.
I have this one child (who will be 3 in December, male) who is showing signs of adhd. Also, his three other brothers also have it.
He never slows down, never wants to focus, and he’s all around hyper and disobedient. Neither one of us (my co teacher and I) can manage to get him to engage in any activities. He literally will run around the room all day long pestering other children.
I’ve tried to speak to mom about his behavior especially when it becomes aggressive but she’s an idiot. Which is sad because she’s administrator at one of the local schools.
He’s constantly talking and never taking a second to breathe. He lacks discipline at home and we try here but nothing works but I feel like some
Of it is more than needing structure and learning to behave. I don’t want to dim his light but he’s almost unbearable to be around. I’m open to all suggestions and I even would like books that could help with this. Thanks! | 2021-10-07T17:19:56.000Z | q3dx2i | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How do I get through to a child with adhd? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3dx2i/how_do_i_get_through_to_a_child_with_adhd/ |
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Furkin0214 | [removed] | 2021-10-07T17:14:35.000Z | q3dsz0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Why No filter!?! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3dsz0/why_no_filter/ |
msp_ryno | [removed] | 2021-10-07T17:12:22.000Z | q3dr9y | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Therapist lookin for suggestions | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3dr9y/therapist_lookin_for_suggestions/ |
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ari5u | hello,
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over the past months i've spent hours researching stuff that i experience and looking for tips from people who relate, but for one thing i've yet to find a method that helps me.
i'm not sure if this is a common thing to experience, but quite frequently i feel somewhat paralyzed to do stuff. this can be things like tidying my room, sending that email, (...) but also totally random stuff like finally reading this letter from a close friend or responding to texts/reading notifs on my phone.
with the texts and notifs i feel like it's mostly because i simply feel overwhelmed, but at the same time and especially also with the other things i listed, i get the feeling of simply not being able to do them. i know that those things would be easy to do, most of the time quick, logic and also possible in general but i just *cant.* it's like theres this blockage in my mind thats telling me *no you cant* and i end up not doing those things (ever, or days later, which is super annoying and not appropriate a lot of the time).
i tried making a plan to schedule these things, to reduce time on my phone, to not even let the room get that untidy, to tell people i have to do \[task\] so i feel kinda pressured to do them, etc. etc. but none of this really helps when i get this paralyzing feeling that i simply *cant*. i know it's totally irrational and it's really frustrating to me because especially my parents and people around me don't get it and i can't explain it to them (which is fair to be honest).
does anyone here experience something similar and has found any good strategy that helps them, or at least improves the situations? | 2021-10-07T17:11:20.000Z | q3dqf7 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | tips when feeling "paralyzed" to do things | 0.71 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3dqf7/tips_when_feeling_paralyzed_to_do_things/ |
Voxmanns | Just wanted to share some things I have learned recently that have really helped me and hopefully help someone else along the way.
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1. Exercise is honestly great. I LOATHED the idea of exercise because of how intense some people are with it and the raw commitment people insist you take. I don't do that. I am not working out to be a swolely mammoth. I am working to better my brain. Specifically my routine is 30 minutes of cardio and two machines which takes a total of an hour and a mandatory hydromassage chair session after as a reward. In total my time at the gym is typically 1.5 hours and I go twice a week. This has been helping in so many ways I can't really describe.
2. Chrome extensions are the shit. Particularly time tracking like Toggl. I use this in conjunction with a 15 minute on/off schedule. 15 minutes working, 15 minutes doing whatever I want. If I have to work longer (Like in a meeting) I will take a longer break afterwards. This has helped tremendously with managing my energy/motivation and I have gotten more done in the last 2 days than I have done in the last 2 weeks. Plus, I feel way better throughout the day and not like I am having to fight myself constantly for that hyperfocus which drains me entirely. Bonus benefit is I feel the day is longer in a good way. It's 1pm right now and I have thought several times it would have been the end of the day because of how much I have gotten to do.
3. Lists and reminders galore. I mix my schedule and reminders. My schedule consists of 3 or 4 things I want to get done and WAY more time than I really need to accomplish it. I usually struggle getting started but I have allowed myself to get distracted with that extra time. This helps me get started way more consistently and have more fun doing it. I also use Google and my phone to remind me of things the moment I am told or think of them. I do not rely on myself whatsoever to remember things that need done or things I need to follow up on. It's a huge burden lifted from my shoulders and also does a lot for managing my focus.
4. Sleep is so important. If I don't get 7-9 hours of sleep it makes the next day incredibly hard. I will prioritize sleep over almost anything. Get your sleep!
5. Breakfast is also a huge help. A little water and an apple in the morning may be all you need. It took me about a week to feel the difference but what a difference it has made.
6. Most importantly I have learned not to fight my distracted brain. There's just no winning with that tactic. If I am going to get distracted, the only thing I require of myself is that I let it be productive. I have found that my brain is constantly trying to make the world around me better and that really has gone to show that I am not lazy and do work hard. I feel way more confident and while the process would make no sense to most people - it makes total sense to me. It feels natural and I don't hate maintaining it because, if I get distracted, I let it happen. These things help ensure that while I might get distracted I will have time later to get distracted by thing I meant to do earlier and still get it done on time. It's really, really nice.
Anyways, I have a lot of work to do and a long way to go still. But these victories have been immensely positive for me and I want to try and give as much as I can to a community that has helped me with my ADHD. Best of luck to yuh!
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EDIT: Totally forgot to mention this really awesome app that generates soothing background noise. I really love the rain and I made this one for free. You can click the buttons and find one that maybe helps you out! - [https://noises.online/player.php?g=aa2ab2ac2ad1ae3ca5cb4cc5cd5ce4cf2cg4ha3ia3](https://noises.online/player.php?g=aa2ab2ac2ad1ae3ca5cb4cc5cd5ce4cf2cg4ha3ia3) | 2021-10-07T17:06:35.000Z | q3dmoy | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Learning to Work With My ADHD Instead of Against It | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3dmoy/learning_to_work_with_my_adhd_instead_of_against/ |
Momma_tried378 | [removed] | 2021-10-07T17:05:21.000Z | q3dlp0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Old teacher and “ADHD advocate” just posted that ADHD meds are gateway drugs | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3dlp0/old_teacher_and_adhd_advocate_just_posted_that/ |
sipherprince | Hi all, just woke up thinking I'd be having a fairly normal meeting. A combination of apathy, depression, anxiety led my performance to tank from July through August and I was placed on PIP. I was just informed today that I've been terminated.
I have a job lined up but while filling out the offer letter (I was taking my time because I wanted to see how things would further pan out) it says that there's a background check with professional references. Will I lose this opportunity?
tl;dr got fired cause my performance sucked and I'm a lazy POS and now I've got a lesser paying job lined up but I'm scared I'll lose it if they reach out to my old boss | 2021-10-07T16:49:07.000Z | q3d8ut | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Just got fired from my first job due to performance. Not sure how to feel. I have a job offer lined up but in their offer letter there's a background check and I'm scared I'll lose this offer if they reach out to my boss. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3d8ut/just_got_fired_from_my_first_job_due_to/ |
_Cloud93 | Does anyone else feel like they've missed out on major accomplishments in life? I don't know how much of this is actually due to ADD, since I also struggled with other mental health issues and bullying throughout my teenage years, which have had a ripple effect. But I know that it's not uncommon for people with ADHD to struggle with other things such as depression, so I thought it's still relevant here...
I'm 27F with no degree in anything beyond high school/secondary education (I'm from Europe) and I have no driving licence, despite two years of driving lessons and multiple driving teachers (I didn't even get close to doing the exam). When I graduated from high school, I got the lowest grades anyone in my family has had. Both my parents have master's degrees and my sister who is younger than me is on her way to a second bachelor's degree. I'm literally surrounded by people who have achieved more than me. I feel incredibly under-accomplished; I know I'm not dumb, I have knowledge of quite a few subjects and am interested in a lot of complex stuff. I also read a lot and I'm almost always drawn to people who are a lot more educated than me (in terms of formal education). I just feel so marginalised and with the pandemic it's really hit me how much it sucks not to be able to drive. I can't even imagine what the freedom of having a car must feel like. I feel like I throw pity parties all the time and I don't want to turn into a negative person (probably too late, but I want to revert it).
I have a child and am expecting another and I feel parenting is something I'm actually good at. But that's also a reason that I can't just give education another go. I've also been able to do some freelance work over the years and thankfully my qualifications never matter to people when I do self-employed work, but it's led to a lot of impostor syndrome and I'm literally insecure about everything (I've never had an employer). It also doesn't bring in as much as it should because I'm so slow and meticulous. If I had a choice, it's not the kind of work I would choose to do in life. And if it wasn't for my husband, I couldn't afford to live on my own (as in, not with my parents) and still eat.
I don't know exactly what I'm trying to achieve with this post, but I just don't want it to have such a negative influence on my life. I feel like I'm confronted with what I would have liked to achieve, but haven't, on a daily basis. I really don't know how to cope mentally. I really wish I felt stronger and more empowered instead of so cynical. | 2021-10-07T16:47:37.000Z | q3d7ne | 3 | 5 | ADHD | Feeling like I've missed out on major life accomplishments | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3d7ne/feeling_like_ive_missed_out_on_major_life/ |
Yam_Radiant | friends do you ever feel like an imposter?
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The way adhd is stigmatized so much especially medication makes me feel so icky like when I go to pick up my meds from my pharmacy and they just give me a side eye. Every psychiatrist apt where we talk about how my medication is working wonderfully for me I get this feeling to like “tone done” because I don’t want her to think I’m just faking it for the medication when I’m not? Like idk it feels fake to me & it could be the result of being gaslit for 21 years into thinking I was wrong but do y’all have similar experiences? | 2021-10-07T16:46:53.000Z | q3d73m | 2 | 5 | ADHD | Feelings of being a Fraud? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3d73m/feelings_of_being_a_fraud/ |
merganzer | So, my GP finally got tired of throwing meds at my twitchy, maybe-bipolar 2 ass, and referred me to a psychiatric practice for a proper evaluation. Met with the psychologist for the first time yesterday. I'm 33F, but I think I have ADHD instead of or in combination with bipolar 2, so I mostly volunteered information about my problems with concentration, short-term memory, and sitting still. I've considered going back to school for a real career path, but I don't trust myself not to forget or lose something important.
Based on a lot of her questions in the second half of our talk, however, I think she thinks I'm autistic? Possibly because I got very enthusiastic talking about my hobbies (I was nervous and gushed about how much I like math and grammar). In addition to the ADHD and anxiety worksheets, she gave me a long self-evaluation packet with questions about literal-mindedness, sensitivity to stimuli, and empathy (or lack thereof).
Am I autistic? I don't know. I'm a *very odd person*, especially in the comfort of my own home, but I'm more or less at peace with that. I'd just like to be able to follow conversations without getting lost or confused, as well as do my work in a timely manner. I thought maybe prescribed stimulants could help with that.
Anyway, I go back next Tuesday for another interview and a computer test (the QBtest, I think, based on her description), with strict instructions not to have any caffeine that morning.
Whatever the results, I guess it'd be nice to have answers. Hopefully those will be answers I can do something with.
What is the QBtest like? | 2021-10-07T16:43:32.000Z | q3d4m2 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Saw a psychologist for the first time yesterday | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3d4m2/saw_a_psychologist_for_the_first_time_yesterday/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T16:37:37.000Z | q3d0em | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Switching from Adhansia XR to Adderall XR, best day of my life | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3d0em/switching_from_adhansia_xr_to_adderall_xr_best/ |
river912 | [removed] | 2021-10-07T16:29:31.000Z | q3cu8u | 1 | 0 | ADHD | He wears polo shirts, lives by mantras – “nothing in life is worth getting stressed about” – and is the kind of hyper-motivated person who reads two business books in a weekend. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3cu8u/he_wears_polo_shirts_lives_by_mantras_nothing_in/ |
Silly-Thanks-8857 | Did any of you taper off Strattera or drop it? I can’t drop it because of horrible withdrawal so I convinced my psych to taper off. So far so good I just have noticed my ADHD symptoms coming back even though I take Ritalin LA. Anyways what I’m really curious about is what kind of experience you had. | 2021-10-07T16:29:17.000Z | q3cu2f | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What’s your experience on Strattera? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3cu2f/whats_your_experience_on_strattera/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T16:28:47.000Z | q3ctp8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Got a ADHD Tattoo | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3ctp8/got_a_adhd_tattoo/ |
Irish980 | BFF of 30 plus years has always struggled with ADHD. She is very intelligent and is aware. The last 6 months is the worst I have seen her. She stopped taking her ADHD meds (side effects but still taking an anti-anxiety). The new ADHD med they want her to try is too expensive even with insurance.
Her main issue is ADHD procrastination and focusing on time. IE: Taking a shower takes 30 min and because she has to it's now a chore. Watching a show or playing a game she likes takes time, now it's a chore. She will sit on her couch until it's so late she HAS to do these things. Wasting time on the couch, dinking around on her phone is ok because there are no expectations involved. She uses the last-minute thing as motivation to get what she has to do, done. If that makes sense,
She says it's a software problem, not a hardware one. I think meaning it's all external and not how she is wired. She is under a doctor's care. The issue is this. Her chronic lateness, putting things off, lack of sleep because she procrastinated too long are causing interruptions with me and her family. NEVER in all these years have I felt anger or negative reactions to her issues. She deals with mine.
However, lately, I find myself frustrated and annoyed. I just want to say "You're 40 something years old-just look at the clock and you can see it's 9/10 pm at night and just get off the couch and shower-go to bed. You HAVE to put some effort into helping yourself."
I have-just not that bluntly. She tells me she tries but then her brain tells her she doesn't want to commit to the time and it the cycle starts over. She is still engaged in her hobbies and likes.
Any advice on how I can help her? How can I keep my cool and be supportive? I like order, schedules in my life-her life...not so much. I've just learned to deal with it over the years. She is the kindest most unselfish person I know. I already feel guilty because I'm starting to react to her in ways I never have before. Like I said, over 30 years here. Need advice, please! And thank you.
TLDR: 30+ years of dealing with my friend's ADHD Procrastination. Worst it's ever been and I'm starting to feel negative emotions towards her. I never have before and just want to remain helpful and supportive. Need some advice. I don't have ADHD or any diagnosis so as much as I try to understand I don't always. Need advice/help. | 2021-10-07T16:28:21.000Z | q3ctd7 | 9 | 4 | ADHD | I need advice. How can I help my best friend with her ADHD/Procrastination issues | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3ctd7/i_need_advice_how_can_i_help_my_best_friend_with/ |
Lower_Ad_9389 | Anyone else struggle with oral hygiene?
I literally only brush my teeth if I have to go somewhere but I will always use my Waterpik cause ya know the odor and plaque build up 😅 If I had a partner it would be different
Not sure if this is an ADHD thing because I also have bipolar2. It’s probably a part of both diagnoses
Edit: it also doesn’t help that one of my vices is candy | 2021-10-07T16:25:13.000Z | q3cqw9 | 144 | 317 | ADHD | Oral hygiene | 0.98 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3cqw9/oral_hygiene/ |
BlueGremlinSquirrel3 | My parents get very frustrated because I will be sitting on the couch and they will ask me a question and I will just continue doing what I am doing but not answer…. I hear them clearly and think about the question or what they are telling me but won’t remember to answer. They were asking me to try to explain why I do that but I couldn’t think of a good way to describe it without it seeming rude, is there a reason why I do this? I have been suspecting that I have adhd for some time now but I am scared to ask to get diagnosed because I worry that I am not actually struggling with anything. I was curious though if this could be because of that. | 2021-10-07T16:24:27.000Z | q3cqd0 | 4 | 4 | ADHD | I often don’t register people asking questions, even though I hear them and think about the question or information, I forget that I need to say stuff out loud | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3cqd0/i_often_dont_register_people_asking_questions/ |
soullessdhampir | So I been thinking about trying to take ADHD meds as an adult to see if it'll help me actually be more stable, and functional, and figure out an actual career path, and what I want to do with my life, and also be able to focus on all the books I have that I want to read but Keep putting off 😂
So I asked my provider who does my antidepressants prescription about them, and she told me how there's non stimulant ADHD meds bc I told her about not wanting them to make me zombie like, or change me too much bc i took concerta back as a teen in high school, and I was much more quiet, and it used to make my mom worried something was wrong bc she'd forget I was on my ADHD meds, and was used to me being hyper, and talkative. But anyways so has anyone have experience with non stimulant ADHD meds, and are they effective? Do they help at all? | 2021-10-07T16:09:15.000Z | q3cerd | 1 | 2 | ADHD | what is your experience with adhd non stimulant meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3cerd/what_is_your_experience_with_adhd_non_stimulant/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T16:04:26.000Z | q3cb2j | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Ritalin making me tired?? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3cb2j/ritalin_making_me_tired/ |
[deleted] | I'm watching a bunch of training videos for work & reading a bunch of legalese, and I physically can't focus on any of it. Someone suggested "Take notes", and I said "I can't. The information isn't even going into my brain in the first place".
I definitely need to get better sleep, but I'm not sure what else to do to focus more.
If I can't start focusing, I won't learn how to do my job, and either they'll fire me, or I'll leave out of low confidence in my ability to do my job.
I'm new to even knowing I have ADHD, and I'm really struggling. I'm not sure what systems work for me yet, and I'm not sure what I need to ask for or what I need to start doing to focus for 5 minutes, much less 3 hours. | 2021-10-07T16:03:30.000Z | q3cab2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Focusing on Training (Seeking empathy and suggestions) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3cab2/focusing_on_training_seeking_empathy_and/ |
Willyone-eye | I've been stuck in this cycle for months and I'm reaching the end of my ability to cope. I feel like crying most days and I wake up with an overwhelming sense of anxiety and it cripples me.
I've tried creating a morning routine. Coffee, Journaling, then some sort of physical activity. It works sometimes but I have more bad days than good. None of it feels like it matters right now. Everything feels pointless. I'm waiting on a prescription to be filled but the voice in the back of my mind keeps whispering "is this really going to work? You'll always struggle to achieve your goals. You should just settle for a boring/safe life." I feel like the walls are closing in and I'm trapped in my own personal hell of doubt and mediocrity.
I don't know what I'm asking for here. I just hope I can find some inspiration or help through a community of people that experience the same issues. I've never felt more alone | 2021-10-07T16:00:37.000Z | q3c83i | 5 | 19 | ADHD | anxiety>demotivation>unproductive> more anxiety | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3c83i/anxietydemotivationunproductive_more_anxiety/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T15:58:09.000Z | q3c64i | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Is it possible to outgrow severe adhd in the teens but still have it as an adult? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3c64i/is_it_possible_to_outgrow_severe_adhd_in_the/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T15:58:08.000Z | q3c64b | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anyone else feel extremely frustrated with themselves? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3c64b/anyone_else_feel_extremely_frustrated_with/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T15:57:47.000Z | q3c5va | 3 | 1 | ADHD | "I'll do that later" - But you know you won't. Why not just do it now? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3c5va/ill_do_that_later_but_you_know_you_wont_why_not/ |
DragonRain12 | I'm currently studying mechanical engineering and was doing pretty decently until covid hit, as a great tik toker once said, once my adhd had the freedom it went unhinged, and college started kicking my ass. I fail half my classes and mainly the ones that where a prerequisite to progress in thw major. So I'm stuck with second year classes while people who haven't seen me hear "yeah I've been 4 years" and imediatly go to "o so yoj are almost finished?" - "no josh, I still have like 4 years expecting me if EVERYTHING right.
And failing so much in the same course when you where seen as "one of the smartest in the class" feels pretty shitty and really demotivating.
On the bright side, not understanding how my grades tanked so hard helped my therapist with considering adhd as a diagnosis.
So I've investigated 3d modeling, 3D and 2D animation, voice acting, game design both video and board games.
And whenever I feel like I'm in a good track I hit my wall of "how do you make money/ a career out of this" while having my classes, and now making private classes for highschooles as a side job.
Actually my boss, the owner of the private classes company contected me to work on a boeard game with her, with like half the earnings so thats sick.
But I've been really wondering when should I just "cut my loses" on the college thing, I don't hate it and the is stuff that I definetly enjoy about it, but I don't know if I care enough to dedicate 7 or 8 years of my life to it, while I could work a part time job, keep some classes and use my time to study some of the above things.
Sorry for the long text, my previous post got deleted because it was too short. So i prefered to over do it.
Thabk you so much for reading. | 2021-10-07T15:56:34.000Z | q3c4zu | 3 | 2 | ADHD | how did you guys find your career or job that you enjoyed? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3c4zu/how_did_you_guys_find_your_career_or_job_that_you/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T15:56:31.000Z | q3c4ys | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Tiny dose of Stimulant + LSD microdose | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3c4ys/tiny_dose_of_stimulant_lsd_microdose/ |
Giraffesickles | I'm noticing that silence is really popular these days but I'm ridiculously bad at filling these silences with literally anything and disclosing too much about myself then hating myself afterward. Lol
On my own all of lockdown has kind of compounded my antisocial and hyperactive word vomit.
Any tips?
Have to add words to allow me to post so I'm going to add a bit here that you can absolutely skip. I just want to go to work and leave like a normal person but I'm a constant people pleaser which pisses people off, ironically, and so I was wondering if you guys have a tip like...when people talk just limit your response to five words, or something like that? How do you be comfortable on these silences? I don't want to go on my phone, though they do, cause it's a new job, there are cameras everywhere and I don't want to seem disinterested...plus I'm still learning so in my head I'm like, bish! Teach me something ffs! Stop drip feeding me info casue you don't want me here! | 2021-10-07T15:51:29.000Z | q3c1do | 1 | 1 | ADHD | starting a new job soon, what are your best/newest techniques for dealing/talking to NTs? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3c1do/starting_a_new_job_soon_what_are_your_bestnewest/ |
OrangeNSilver | I’m a 23 year old college student currently living with my mom. I was diagnosed adhd two years ago (treatment has made college sooooooo much more manageable). No one else in my immediate family has ever been diagnosed, but my parents and siblings appear to have it.
My problem is this: I feel like I will talk to my parents about my hobbies, interests, goals, college, achievement, ANYTHING. And they will just brush it off as “oh ya, sounds good” with little more to add. I think I subconsciously felt unloved because of this as a child and while it doesn’t bother me as bad anymore, it still sucks. I always chalked it up to being the middle child.
I’ve discussed in detail, several times, about each of them seeking diagnosis and considering treatment because I love them and want them to all be happier and less stressful. I know the difference the meds have made, and I want the people I care about to be happier. None of them took that seriously either.
I feel the only way I can bond with either of them is by doing something they like or are interested in. I can’t even really talk about my hobbies or accomplishments. Sadly, I’m not into watching football (dad), or watching movies every night (mom).
Even before medication, I used to talk to them about whatever they wanted and listened because I valued them and respected them.
TLDR: I’m only one diagnosed and medicated in my immediate family and no one takes me seriously when I mention seeking diagnosis and treatment. My family only cares about their hobbies and interests and never seems to talk about things I’m into. It feels lonely. Is it ADHD or are they selfish?
Has anyone else experienced this? | 2021-10-07T15:47:29.000Z | q3bye2 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | My parents seem to not care about me. Maybe it’s undiagnosed adhd? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bye2/my_parents_seem_to_not_care_about_me_maybe_its/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T15:46:09.000Z | q3bxdz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it possible to outgrow severe adhd once reaching the teens but still have it as an adult? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bxdz/is_it_possible_to_outgrow_severe_adhd_once/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T15:45:47.000Z | q3bx41 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | starting a new job soon, what are good/ your best/ the latest masking techniques to use around NTs? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bx41/starting_a_new_job_soon_what_are_good_your_best/ |
Competitive_Ad7645 | [removed] | 2021-10-07T15:43:09.000Z | q3bv8z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to avoid the xanax grogginess | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bv8z/how_to_avoid_the_xanax_grogginess/ |
Trise7en | To keep things simple, I’m really tired of the self help books, journaling, therapy, yoga, etc. I know my potential I just can’t obtain the consistent energy that everyone else seems to have around me. I can’t keep up with work, class, and self care is just out the window. The concept of time is just an illusion to me. I’m losing friends because I suck at communication. I have the skills to keep these things in order I just simply do not have the energy. My doctor has kept me at a mild dose and I don’t wanna go back to the high dose I was at but I genuinely feel helpless. I have no idea what to do. I’m really trying. I’m trying to keep a routine. But the days are so long and cluttered and I’m losing focus of everything. The weekend is just as draining as the week and I’m losing a grip. Time management is awful. Any suggestions or just words of support | 2021-10-07T15:27:18.000Z | q3bjdo | 9 | 12 | ADHD | Having trouble doing the bare minimum | 0.94 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bjdo/having_trouble_doing_the_bare_minimum/ |
raw_formaldehyde | For example, my sister(35) and I (37M) both have ADHD; however, she has a six figure job, is married, eats right, exercises, and does all the things adults are “supposed” to do, while I live with our parents, have never held a job for more than a year and go months or even years between jobs, and can’t seem to make myself do anything hardly. We’re both diagnosed and medicated; the difference is that she’s been so since our early 20’s, and I, only since April of this year. Also, when she got medicated, her life seemed to have changed overnight (we were both irresponsible and big partners until she got treatment), but it doesn’t seem to be helping me nearly as much. Like, it does a little, but not a life-changing amount like for her. (We’re both on Adderall.)
But it’s not just us. I see people with ADHD that are damn doctors and shit. Like how? Why do they get to be successful, while I, and others, are completely debilitated by this disease? It’s not fair!!
Why do y’all think that is? My theory is that some people are just lucky enough, by pure chance, to be able to hyper focus on and get dopamine amd pleasure from things that just happen to be financially viable ways to make a living while my hyper focus is on pointless bullshit like The Sims, Reddit, and YouTube. Does that make any sense? What do you think? | 2021-10-07T15:22:44.000Z | q3bfxw | 33 | 23 | ADHD | Why do you think some people with ADHD can be successful and have good careers, but others (myself) can’t seem to function at all and are complete “losers”? | 0.9 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bfxw/why_do_you_think_some_people_with_adhd_can_be/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T15:22:30.000Z | q3bfrq | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Psychiatry UK: How long do you have to wait to start medication? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bfrq/psychiatry_uk_how_long_do_you_have_to_wait_to/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-10-07T15:21:16.000Z | q3beu8 | 7 | 2 | ADHD | background noise | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3beu8/background_noise/ |
Available-Nobody-135 | As a person whos ADHD affects my memory a lot I used to struggle with remembering to take and if I had taken my meds. I tried a lot of different tricks and tools to help but nothing ever really worked. So I created my own method and its really helped me a lot! The trick is to start off by putting your meds directly on top of something you use in your everyday routine that you never not do, (for me it was the middle of the dinning table) along with a permanent marker. Now this part is very important, everytime you take your meds put the pill in between your teeth so that you know you have it in you mouth ready to swallow (that way you wont write on your hand and then forget to take it and you also won't swallow it and immediately forget that you have taken it). Once its in your mouth take the pen and put a make on your hand somewhere. This way your meds are not only in your way meaning that you have to actively remember to take them but you will also not have to worry about taking too many because you forgot. | 2021-10-07T15:19:57.000Z | q3bdtl | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Forgetting to Take Meds? I Gotcha Covered! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bdtl/forgetting_to_take_meds_i_gotcha_covered/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-10-07T15:19:54.000Z | q3bds3 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | I don't like talking to people: is this ADHD or something else? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bds3/i_dont_like_talking_to_people_is_this_adhd_or/ |
Ashwie91 | All my life I was diagnosed with and told I had generalized anxiety and social anxiety disorders. I recently started getting treatment for ADHD and in doing research, discovered that my issues are 100% ADHD, specifically Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria.
I have read a lot of people posting that they have issues with getting rejected due to ADHD. This morning at work there was what should have been considered helpful feedback, that made me want to burst into tears and quit immediately. So I looked up rejection and ADHD and wow.
I read articles, 100% describes what I’m feeling. Gonna definitely talk to my doctor about suggesting a therapist. | 2021-10-07T15:19:29.000Z | q3bdgg | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Just had a revelation this morning. | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bdgg/just_had_a_revelation_this_morning/ |
Comfortable-Ad-5856 | [removed] | 2021-10-07T15:18:11.000Z | q3bcgy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Screen Time | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3bcgy/screen_time/ |
bea-_- | [removed] | 2021-10-07T15:15:58.000Z | q3barj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | first day being treated | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/q3barj/first_day_being_treated/ |
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