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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-14T12:00:18.000Z | rg5zzr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I (19M) took my first dose of Vyvanse this morning, what should I expect? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5zzr/i_19m_took_my_first_dose_of_vyvanse_this_morning/ |
Macca9000 | My ADHD is undiagnosed and I’m very uneducated on how and why I feel things. My girlfriend cheated on me and it’s been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to go through. But she doesn’t want to lose me and realises what she has done wrong. I can feel myself slowly starting to want her back but I have no idea what to do or think. I don’t know how or if I can heal because I don’t know my own brain. I really need advice. | 2021-12-14T11:52:47.000Z | rg5vrc | 5 | 4 | ADHD | I am lost please help | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5vrc/i_am_lost_please_help/ |
IonNeedsABench | Im currently working at a Tech Store and ... Im just so frustrated, it feels like i forget everything i learn every day and get more and more anxious with customers.
When I started my Internship i was so excited to learn about everything and help customers find what they need. But everything turned out so different.
Nobody teaches you anything. Customers just want the cheapest shit they can get and are rude to you when it breaks and make you responsible.
You're left alone more and more.
All my Boss wants is for me to sell those extended warrantys because that's were the money is. Nobody truly wants the best for the customer. And to be honest, i get why. So many People treat you like shit because you don't know anything cause nobody tells you shit.
I tried learning on my own, watch some YouTube Videos, read some Articles but ... I just keep forgetting everything or lose interest to fast. Its just so boring to learn about every single thing and so overwhelming.
And now im just getting more tired every day and keep avoiding Customers because im scared of them because of my lack of knowledge. I don't know Shit. And nobody really cares. All they care about is the extended warranty.
Anyways, i really just wanted to rant. Hope your Jobs don't kill you excitement like mine does.
TLDR: Nobody teaches me shit but im expected to sell stuff at my store with 0 knowledge. Thats slowly making me depressed. | 2021-12-14T11:52:02.000Z | rg5vcu | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Work is breaking me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5vcu/work_is_breaking_me/ |
CompetitiveWheel2046 | I diagnosed with ADHD less than a year ago , about 6 months ago i started huge changes in my lifestyle especially in early morning habits and i was successful until the last 2 weeks ! I started putting one thing in early morning to do list and increase them slowly , then i find out it is very easy to me to do things I don’t like as soon as i wake up ! Specially Before my medicine start to kick in ! for the last 2 weeks the process continued but i got very active and very efficient in first 4 to 6 hours then suddenly i feel so tired and my brain stop working at all ! I must sleep at least 3 hours or I’m incapable of doing anything for the rest of the day !! early morning routine ( making bed , brushing , eating night prepped breakfast , answer texts … , meal prep or laundry or house chores , at least 1.30 university classes or studying, listening to book , exercise, shower , shave , face and body care , eat post workout meal ) then lay in bed for the rest of the day ! | 2021-12-14T11:43:04.000Z | rg5qix | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Super achiever in early mornings super sleepy in afternoons and nights? What happened? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5qix/super_achiever_in_early_mornings_super_sleepy_in/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-14T11:39:57.000Z | rg5ouk | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Being hyped about something and completely losing interest in it the next day | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5ouk/being_hyped_about_something_and_completely_losing/ |
tomi_pisoi | For a couple of months now I am tired all day long, I can barely wake up. In my head are running a lot of thoughts and ideas in the same time( eg: do I have anxiety? Do I have autism? Do I have ADHD? just a couple of them) I have this mental fog since I wake up and until I go to bed. In a conversation I focus very hard on the subject. If my wife talks to me I focus very hard on what is she talking about.
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I reminded myself of dozens of these kind of memories since I was a little kid and I had this mental inactivity. Beginning with my elementary school.
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I could be very easily distracted from what I was doing at that time. When there were a lot of people involved this mental fog, this raised activity of my brain/stopped brain was even higher than normal. But it was present all the long on the way.
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Can this fog on my mind, this hyperactivity be present because of the fact that I have ADHD?
I don't have who to talk to because in my country they don't diagnose ADHD in adulthood so maybe you guys and girls could offer me some guidance. | 2021-12-14T11:39:17.000Z | rg5oh5 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | brain fog all day long due to hyperactivity? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5oh5/brain_fog_all_day_long_due_to_hyperactivity/ |
ButterflyInformal | [removed] | 2021-12-14T11:36:14.000Z | rg5mv8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Experience with concerta, anyone else feel like they were going crazy..? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5mv8/experience_with_concerta_anyone_else_feel_like/ |
Satchm01 | So I box a lot and was wondering if anyone else has fidgeted their fingers or fists by tapping their neck's artery in rhythm? I find it addicting to some extent since it helps keep me in focus on the fight and increases my heartbeat, almost as if I can feel it pumping in sync with each beat. Helps me get into the mood of a fight real bad. IDK if this is an ADHD thing or not but wanted to ask since it really gets in the mood to spare.
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btw I'm pretty sure I have ADHD since I associate with so many damn stories and have done so much research on it over the past year on and off. Wanna get diagnosed but the doctors haven't been helping and I keep forgetting. Anyway was wondering above lol | 2021-12-14T11:26:49.000Z | rg5hym | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Neck Tapping to get Blood Pumping | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5hym/neck_tapping_to_get_blood_pumping/ |
madrockyoutcrop | Hi. I was diagnosed about 5 years ago and whilst I’m reasonably content with my meds I’m still massively struggling with my job and staying organised on a day to day basis. In the past I’ve managed to get by due to still being in a relatively junior position, but as time passes I’m being expected to take on more and more responsibility and I need help.
I’ve looked into coaching and I think that it’s the next logical step. However, it seems to be a fairly new thing in the UK and I’ve found that there’s not a huge amount of information online about it.
So my question is, has anyone worked with a coach in the UK and if so are you able to prove a recommendation for a coach that I could potentially contact? I’ve spoken to one guy, who seemed like a good fit for me, but a requirement of potential funding is that I have to provide a minimum of 3 quotes from different coaches.
I’d appreciate any replies or recommendations as I’ve been putting this off for far too long!
Edit: Spelling | 2021-12-14T11:23:38.000Z | rg5gda | 2 | 2 | ADHD | ADHD Coaches in the UK | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5gda/adhd_coaches_in_the_uk/ |
PinkSodaBoy | This is in the context of work but I guess it could apply to any situation when you have obligations piling up.
What do you do? I'm currently sat in my home office messing around on my phone because I have so much work to do that I feel paralysed.
Not only that but I have meetings cutting into my work time, which throw me off and make me feel like I can't get into my actual work until they're out of the way.
It's all extremely frustrating.
I know I need to write a list of tasks I need to accomplish but it feels like that would cut into my valuable work time so I don't do that but then I'm sat on my phone instead.
Any tips? | 2021-12-14T11:22:11.000Z | rg5flw | 30 | 220 | ADHD | So much to do that you do nothing? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5flw/so_much_to_do_that_you_do_nothing/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-14T11:17:00.000Z | rg5cvc | 3 | 0 | ADHD | Adderall ruining my love for books? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5cvc/adderall_ruining_my_love_for_books/ |
Superb_Confusion | The fact this is the first time I've looked at Reddit today is part of the success. I restarted using a Pomodoro app this morning. It really helps and I wonder why I stopped doing it. (I think I know why!) I have also reinstated a to-do list on my computer (with time that each task *should* take) where I cut and paste complete items into a separate page. I feel so productive after weeks of feeling like I'm not getting enough done. I use these things on and off for a few weeks or months at a time, but right now it's working, so I'm celebrating. Hopefully this also inspires someone to reinstate a system that has worked for them in the past. | 2021-12-14T11:15:10.000Z | rg5bxj | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Just restarted using Pomodoro timer and colour-coded to-do list and wondering why I ever stopped. | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5bxj/just_restarted_using_pomodoro_timer_and/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-14T11:14:47.000Z | rg5bqt | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Tapping Neck for Fighting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5bqt/tapping_neck_for_fighting/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-14T11:13:07.000Z | rg5aw9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What did traveling do for you? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg5aw9/what_did_traveling_do_for_you/ |
karasudruyaga93 | I´m a 28 year old dude, failing every job i ever start. Barely managed to finish my apprenticeship 7 years ago and became a Warehouse operator. Ever since i´ve been working small jobs in companies for barely 3-4 months because i became either uninterested, continously made the same mistakes over and over again and was fired as a result or a combination of both. Inbetween i tried increasing my chances for better jobs by attending certain schools with the goal of getting a better academic degree. Failed once 5 years ago, currently i´m trying again with things going exactly the same. Whenever i start school, i´m really motivated the first few months, but than loose interested, become unconcentrated and apathetic. The worst part about it all is that i was always bad at studying, i just can´t remember shit nor keep focused for longer than 5 minutes. No matter what i try, in a work environment or academic setting i just can´t make things work. What am i supposed to do with my life ? My resumee is a mess, especially for german standards. I have 8 schools in my resume from childhood till now and god knows how many jobs in different fields. It´s a mess, i´m a mess and i don´t know where all of this is supposed to go. | 2021-12-14T11:01:44.000Z | rg54ue | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Nothing i try ever works out | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg54ue/nothing_i_try_ever_works_out/ |
jgroop | Hey guys... I'm prescribed Dextroamphetamine ER 15mg three times a day, and the pharmacy has given me two different manufacturers previously. The first was an orange and black pill which worked really well. The second was Mallingkrofdt, which didn't work as well.
I called yesterday and they are going to fill this month's script with TEVA brand. Anyone know if that is generally accepted as being effective? .... Also, anyone know when the other brand (orange and black) will be back on the market? .. I read some posts about Zenzedi, but my medication is ER, so not sure how that may be related. ... I'm really worried! ... Thanks so much! | 2021-12-14T10:53:31.000Z | rg50g7 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Generic Dexedrine ER 15mg - Pharmacy can't get only brand that worked for me... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg50g7/generic_dexedrine_er_15mg_pharmacy_cant_get_only/ |
Curious-Leg2486 | Hey guys! I'll be happy if you say me how many pills do you consume every day. Recently I was diagnosed and he gave me medicine for bipolar, anxiety and adhd. I use other medicines too, for my hormons, and other problem lack of calcium... there is problem in my bones.
I afraid they effect each other. And I think my medicines are too much now😦 | 2021-12-14T10:44:09.000Z | rg4vsn | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Medicine issue | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4vsn/medicine_issue/ |
Person_withQuestions | Yesterday was chaotic. I somehow was managing pretty ok to juggle work, solving problems with work schedules (by calling different people) and efficiently moving through the city with the public transports to get different things. I had to run for a train but I was doing pretty well.
Or not. Because in one of my errands I apparently took out my wallet and didn't put it back - or god knows which stupid jacket pocket I trusted would keep it safe (a word of advice, DON'T EVER TRUST JACKEt POCKETS, except for the ones at chest-height) - and now it's not there anymore.
I thought I was over that phase.
Fun fact: last week I randomly threw my health insurance card in my backpack instead of putting it back in my pocket and of course I forgot it there immediately. So today at the doctor thanks to ADHD I couldn't't find the pocket, BUT thanks to ADHD I still had the card I needed with me. | 2021-12-14T10:43:08.000Z | rg4vbg | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Rant - I lost my pocket, yet again! | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4vbg/rant_i_lost_my_pocket_yet_again/ |
_fairy_mary_ | As I'm waiting for doctor appointment do have my diagnosis, I spend far too much time here reading about your experiences and relating more and more.
So, I have this thing where physical discomfort and/or tiredness is extremely distracting for me. Let's say I'm grocery shopping. I have a list (which I already need to check every 2 minutes bc I keep forgetting everything when looking at colourful shelves and keeping track of fellow shoppers). And out of sudden I realise I'm hot and sweaty. And my brain goes **aaaaaaaaa.** From this point my stress level (already high bc I can't remember 6 items I need to buy) skyrockets and it's even harder to finish the task.
Basically same goes in different situations - can't focus on work bc chair is uncomfortable, can't focus on sightseeing bc feet hurts and I'm becoming super stressed and grumpy, ruining the mood of everyone around me.
Do you relate? And sorry if this came out incoherent, I'm not really sure what I wanted to write after all :c | 2021-12-14T10:42:50.000Z | rg4v61 | 10 | 52 | ADHD | Does physical discomfort distract you from everything? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4v61/does_physical_discomfort_distract_you_from/ |
SubstantialBakedBean | [removed] | 2021-12-14T10:42:22.000Z | rg4uy8 | 24 | 5 | ADHD | Chest pain on lisdexamphetamine? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4uy8/chest_pain_on_lisdexamphetamine/ |
Khane_ | Firstly I apologise for formatting as I’m on mobile.
So at the recommendation of some super understanding people here, I went and saw Dr Joel Chan here in Melbourne, Australia. He feels without a doubt I have ADHD as well as some form of childhood trauma, and I’ve just booked in my psychiatrist appointment for May next year. I’m worried that I’m going to go through all this and find out that I don’t have ADHD and that I’m just a failure of a person. I don’t want to sound dramatic, it’s just been playing on my mind, especially considering how far away the appointment is. I guess I want to ask, has anyone had a similar experience? Feeling like while your life experience is like an excerpt from the ADHD medical journal but still feeling like you might just be making it up? Any insights are super appreciated! | 2021-12-14T10:39:48.000Z | rg4toh | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Imposter Syndrome mid-diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4toh/imposter_syndrome_middiagnosis/ |
Igatsusestus | I am a school psychologist at a highschool and I discovered I have ADHD. In my heart I'd like to thank 3 students but I don't know if it's (ethically) right or not. I'm leaving my job soon (pregnancy- and parental leave) and those students are finishing their studies this year. This means that I wont't have much time to thank them. But then again, maybe I shouldn't... This is why I am writing this post here and will post it to some psychology-related subreddit. My question is:
# How would you feel if you are 18/19 yo student in highschool with ADHD and leaving psychologist thanks you because you were a part of her journey discovering that she has adhd?
For those who can read a longer text right now, here is some more info.
* About me:
* 28F, school psychologist, at a highschool-only (so 15-19yo) in europe (english isn't my native language).
* In uni adhd was really briefly touched topic and more pictured as a childhood-only disorder. I once took a seminar after uni about adhd in adolecents and young adults but the psychatrist still talked like people with adhd are basically restless uncontrollable (male) sociopaths. So you can see why me, a highly educated female didn't feel like I was like that.
* It really bothered me why I have high anxiety scores and stress in different tests even when my depression was gone and I feel like I'm not an anxious person at all. (I had mild/moderate depression form highschool until the end of my masters).
* Pregnant atm and leaving job in january for a really long time because we have 140 mandatory +450 voluntary days off (paid leave) in our country when having a baby.
* I feel like the beginning of the adhd diagnosis journey is spring/summer 2020 when I was fixated more than ever to the topic that time managment is a hoax and is just not possible.
* I have seen teenagers with adhd before but somehow last year some things happened and it really clicked that hey, I might have it.
* About who and why I'd like to thank:
* I gave a psychology course in autumn 2020 and there were group assigments for different disorders. One group was explaining adhd and someone from the class had a question. I don't remember the question but my answer was an example of myself that morning when I ate breakfast at school. I took everything I needed and sat down. Then I discovered I forgot a spoon for my tea. Went and got the spoon. Then I discovered I forgot sugar for my tea, went and put sugar in. Almost sat down when I discovered I forgot to put salt on my porridge (I prefer salty). So I went again back and forth and it just took so much pointless time. Then one student (who admitted to the class that he has adhd) said: "Yeah, and now imagine it happens every day all the time." This sentence striked me so hard, it even brings tears to my eyes right now when I'm writing about it. I just said, "Yeah, what he said." and in my mind I was like "oh shit, it does happen every day all the time." He later was my client and is also a really good student so it reminded me that you can perform academically really well and have adhd at the same time. He later talked about his experinece in a student study (explained below) and it was like reading about my own experiences.
* I mentored two students with studies about adhd. One was about adhd symptoms in high school students. This is the student I'd like to thank. He also has adhd (and academically well performing). Working with him was like working with myself. Also he did a really good job and thanks to him I learned just so much more than in uni about adhd (especially in adolecents and young adults). He also interviewed the student I described before. Not only I understood myself better but it really helped me to discover 4 more students with adhd (I discovered, sent them to evaluation and they now have diagnosis!)
* One of the 4 students probably had mild depression at the time and when it got better he started saying things that just checked all the boxes of adhd. But the way he explained how those symptoms affect his life checked all my boxes too. It was sooooo dificult to put myself aside when evey.fucking.thing. he says I'm like "Hey, it's so me but ... it's also adhd..." The dissonance between everything that matched and "it's just a pattern you see, don't think too much" was just so difficult to deal with. I mean I have recognised myself in other situations with other students too. And I also have dealt with so difficult cases you can only imagine. But nothing had ever hit me like that. Just this one. I mean everything expect how well he did in school was just like me. I felt like I was on a journey with him together discovering the thing that explains why I'm like the way I am. He got the diagnosis before he turned 18. I, in another hand, had to postpone my journey for about 9 months because of pregnancy, but I hope to get there in some time soon.
I'd also like to share them that this super cool and supportive subreddit exists and maybe some life tips for them to their adulthood (since they'll graduate this year).
\*I once tried to post this here but I forgot to add the title and then hit backspace and everything was gone.
\*It took me 1,5h to write this.
Thank you for your time! | 2021-12-14T10:38:29.000Z | rg4t2l | 4 | 6 | ADHD | How would you feel if you are a student and your school psychologist who is leaving the job thanks you because you were a part of her journey discovering that she has adhd? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4t2l/how_would_you_feel_if_you_are_a_student_and_your/ |
adn1991 | [removed] | 2021-12-14T10:30:37.000Z | rg4pay | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Rejection sensitivity/emotional dysregulation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4pay/rejection_sensitivityemotional_dysregulation/ |
poopoohead1827 | [removed] | 2021-12-14T10:30:07.000Z | rg4p00 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Starting Buproprion | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4p00/starting_buproprion/ |
PrincipleReal4594 | I (23f) have been reading about adhd for quite some time now. I've come to the conclusion that I may very well have adhd (a few of my family members have it). I know treatment will be beneficial for me. The things that make me hesitate to get a diagnosis and professional help are the impacts it could have on my personal life. In the event I want to progress in my military career or gain custody/guardianship of my younger siblings what would happen? If I have a hard time taking care of myself and being a stable individual how could I possibly do for them? At the same time I don't want to leave them in the environment that they're in. Also, how will the rest of university pan out? How will I manage after graduating?
It's also very difficult to accept when I've been taught that there isn't anything "wrong", but that I need to strengthen my spirituality. I believe that strengthening my spirituality could help, but I also know that I need to actively seek professional help and solutions. Still, I'm hesitant because I care so much about the opinions of my loved ones and too much about opinions of people I don't know. Has anyone gone through something similar or have any advice?
TL;DR
I'm hesitant to get an adhd diagnosis because it could have an unfavorable impact on my career and I'm not sure if it will lessen the chances of me being able to gain custody or guardianship of my younger siblings. | 2021-12-14T10:24:31.000Z | rg4ma3 | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Torn on whether I should get a diagnosis for adhd | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4ma3/torn_on_whether_i_should_get_a_diagnosis_for_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-14T10:21:48.000Z | rg4kyd | 1 | 1 | ADHD | anyone here have any issues with flashing lights? if yes, then can you explain how it's a problem and how it inconveniences you? if no, then idk please try your best to explain how ;-; | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4kyd/anyone_here_have_any_issues_with_flashing_lights/ |
jabbathefoot | **Background**
I was a young first dad at 19. Had a daughter,son (at 21) then another daughter (at 22)
Me and the mum are together and are happy and fulfilled
My youngest daughter (13) has been diagnosed with ADHD. We tried to get local healthcare to do the diagnosis but kept being diverted and fobbed off. Eventually we reached out to a private and well trusted diagnosis company. Paid them a not insignificant chunk of change and she was diagnosed as high on a recognised ADHD test ( I forget the name) and they indicated autism traits and to get her diagnosed with that too.
Prescribed medication and has regular appointments to monitor her progress and/or issues
She is my youngest of 3, always struggled in school and has confirmed dyslexia and suspected Dyscalculia.
I'm scared.....really scared for her. She is socially aware and 'street smart' unlike her older siblings but is failing in school. I worry for her future, I know that a parent has a lifelong duty but I also know that as my kids turn into adults, they'll *need* me less and less and take on responsibilities for themselves, failing, succeeding and learning from both. I'll advise and mentor them,set them up with love and encouragement and let them walk the ups and downs of life.
With my youngest I worry that I will have to be there far more and I hope this doesn't *stunt* her maturity. I want to be able to let her figure things out for herself and find her own way but I stress about being too involved and stopping her from learning from the ups and downs,being too shielding and limiting her because of that. In a perfect world,I want her to have all the resources she is entitled to. I want her to have just enough to not give her an advantage but an equal opportunity.
Is this wrong or right? She is in line for a recognised learning structure,it's something that's attached to her during her school life and outlines her diagnosed issues and all the things that the school **has** to provide.
I hope that this will level the playing field for her and let her have the some fighting chance as any average student. She is my everything, she is a very very self aware ,charismatic and loving daughter. Out of an education setting,she is a normal everyday teenage girl but in school she is way below the standards when it comes to reading and learning. Give her something she is invested in and a teacher that caters for her issues and she be engaged thoroughly and excel! I've seen her edit videos on a laptop and I have no clue how she does it! She just gets stuck into anything she's interested in and blows me away,I'm so proud of her. I hope we get all these tools put in place for her and we can put this behind us.
I want to be the one that shapes and sculpts a whole custom suit of armour for her and let her be the one to battle through life in it, coming back to me when she needs that encouragement,love and support. Then sent right back out to fight for whatever she wants and is driven by!
I don't want to be the one fighting all her battles,I want her to see what she wants and build up her own fight and fire inside her.
I am there for her and always will be,maybe it's because currently we are fighting for the resources and procedures to be put in place and as soon as they are being effective,she can grow naturally and independently and I can stop worrying.
What's everyone's opinion on this? Has any parent, guardian or carer felt like this,does it linger or does it change and evolve?
Kids, how did your parents, guardians,carers etc treat and support you either positive or negative and what would have helped,what didn't?
Im sorry for the wall of text,I just wanted to spew my worries and thoughts out in a relevant place. You can comment if you want or you can just read my ramblings. | 2021-12-14T10:17:59.000Z | rg4j2k | 4 | 8 | ADHD | Dad to a daughter with diagnosed ADHD. Need to vent and just write down my story. Feel free to read. Feel free to comment. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4j2k/dad_to_a_daughter_with_diagnosed_adhd_need_to/ |
[deleted] | ... And amble aimlessly around your sister's house in crisis mode, all whilst feeling unlovable and like you're nothing but a burden to everybody around you.
Tell you what: works like an absolute charm!
Never have I ever felt happier and more productive. Merry Christmas, everyone! /s
So much for unconditional love.
Fuck you, Mum, you giant piece of shit. You used to sit there and, with the tiniest violin in the background, woe, "I'm the worst mother ever," and instead of reassuring you, I should've said, "abso-fucking-lutely." | 2021-12-14T10:16:13.000Z | rg4i5w | 4 | 1 | ADHD | LPT: In order to kick your ED into gear, have your mother kick you out... | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4i5w/lpt_in_order_to_kick_your_ed_into_gear_have_your/ |
Kazhig | Hi, hello.
I've been diagnosed not so long ago with adhd (the whole thing, inattention, hyperactivity and impulsivity) and I am in an art school.
I do decent, average art but the thing that bothers me it that teachers keep telling me that basically "it has potential but it needs to be more clean" and it's true that my art is kinda messy. And I work a lot and try my best all the time but I always end up with this comment. Is that something recurrent with people who do art and have adhd?
I'm not medicated but i'm thinking about trying to have some medication because "aaaah, life" . I saw some people who took medication and had their art "improve" (don't really like that word but since it's what is asked of me, don't see another word) in the way that it became more precise kinda but i would like to know if it's like... common? (I like my messy artstyle but if my adhd is messing with my school stuff in that way, I would like to know to stop beating and stressing myself over it and find a way to fix this thing at least for school (and later work))
So tldr: artsy people, did you have an issue with making "clean" art? Did you at some point took medication or went into some kind of therapy and saw some changes? | 2021-12-14T10:04:53.000Z | rg4cej | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Can adhd mess with art capabilities? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg4cej/can_adhd_mess_with_art_capabilities/ |
Lopsided_Cup4726 | Im 23F I’m 95% positive I have adhd.
I struggle a lot just sitting in class to the point it makes me angry and I have to plan to “go to the bathroom” so i can walk around at just the right time before I lose my mind. Luckily I’m a fashion design major so most class periods I’m moving and sewing on my own. But days where i have to sit for 1-1.5 hours i simply CANNOT. I start thinking everyone can hear me swallowing my saliva. I can’t stop fidgeting because if I don’t fidget I start to feel claustrophobic in a way…
I also didn’t know this was a sign of adhd, but my friend sent me a meme about how adhd people jump from hobby to hobby. I don’t want to keep listing cliche characteristics but I think this is so true for me too. I’ve gone from painting, to jewelry making, cooking, song writing, ukulele, guitar, piano, fashion sewing, home decor and more I can’t think of. I always feel like I’m good at everything I try, so I can do it all. But now I’m thinking it’s something else. Maybe it’s not and I’m looking too far into it 😭
I also have the worst and hardest time waking up for anything. I feel like i so have motivation to get stuff done and I WANT to (laundry, cleaning, dishes, homework) but I simply cannot bring myself to do it. Sometimes when I smoke cannabis and I’ll get motivated to clean because I notice how bad it gets and it bugs me. I tried to talk to my doctor (Kaiser) and they told me I need to give a clean pee test to be diagnosed. And I’ve read on here that they make you give a clean pee test for EACH prescription refill… I like my cannabis though 😭 and every person I know that’s been prescribed with adhd medication still smokes cannabis. Any advice?? I think I could really benefit from actually being in charge of my body and mind for once. I’m just nervous that I’m not the “stereotypical” person to get prescribed. I tried to talk to a psychiatrist about my depression and they just didn’t think I was depressed enough or whatever. People think I’m better off than I am maybe cuz I appear so? But I am not in my own head :/ I’m in California btw I’m not sure how it works over here compared to other states.
im copying and posting this on multiple threads I’m not trying to abuse the rules pls don’t ban. I just have no education on this topic and I want to be diagnosed for help. I want help controlling my body. I feel so dumb and lazy and like a loser compared to people my age. I’m not asking for anyone to diagnose me, but I’m wondering if this is what you guys felt like before getting medicated :/ | 2021-12-14T10:00:07.000Z | rg49og | 0 | 1 | ADHD | 23F in California Struggling To Be Diagnosed? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg49og/23f_in_california_struggling_to_be_diagnosed/ |
DefconPilot |
TL;DR
21 YRS, Diagnosed ADD since 08, Takings Concerta since 10 (36mg) and since 16 (54mg), Depressed, Sad, Focussing on bad stuff, easily annoyed, zombie all day. Looking for peoples stories about other meds and Dexamphetamine.
The main problem is: I take concerta but it makes me miserable. I get work done but I feel sad and stressy and get panic attacks. If I stop with Concerta, I feel okay and happy but I can't get my work done which results in me getting depressed again. I am looking for an alternative and was wondering if there are people in here who use Adderall/Dexamphetamine and I would like to know if it helps you guys and If people recommend it or not.
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Hi everyone!
Firstly, I am really impressed. A Reddit-page, with 1.3m people just like me. I really had a few tears when scrolling through the posts. It makes me so freaking happy, to know, that there are also other people with the same issues as me. I really didn't expect it to be this big on Reddit. Thank god.
I came here on advise of my GF. She asked me if there wasn't some kind of group with people with the same issues as I have. So, I looked it up here on Reddit and here I am.
Anyway, there reason I came here isn't that awesome. I am a 21-yo guy, taking Concerta for over a decade now, and it really makes me misarable in my personal life.
Back in 08, I got diagnosed with ADD. I made a lot of mistakes in my schoolwork. My teacher showed my all the faults I made to the entire class and everyone made fun of me. My parents decided take actions and It led to me taking some tests. I've been put on Medikinet, Strattera and now since 2010 Concerta. I am on the 54 mg right now.
However, since a couple of years, I get more and more issues. I am getting a lot of stress, I am getting depressed when taking my medication, A lot of sweating, panic attacks and I am easily annoyed. But, I do get my shit done. But what is it worth, feeling like a zombie all-day with all these side-effects feeling like you are a total loser.
It comes and goes tho. I can have 3 months without issues and feeling okay, and get 1 month of feeling depressed. I mean, just wanting to stay in bed all-day and wait till retirement.
Last week, I got diagnosed again with ADD. I told my doctor about the depression periods while taking meds, and feeling happy and okay without. He prescribed me some antidepressants and said "Try this and see if its works, see you in a month". I really don't think Concerta and antidepressants are the best solutions. It really makes me depressed.
So, I decided to get some info about other meds. I really need them in order to be able to get my work done. I read that methylfenidate (Concerta) isn't really effective for adults, since adults can get more issues with the side effects. I read that dexamphetamine (Adderall?) is common used for adults and ADD.
I read some f\*ed up stuff about it online, but I also heard some good stuff about it too. I really don't know what to believe.
I would like to know what other people did and if there are people who have good things to say about dexamphetamine.
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Thanks in advance!
Stay safe!
Cheers!
DefconPilot
PS. I tried to put the TL;DR above the whole text this time. I really need info. Thanks! | 2021-12-14T09:58:26.000Z | rg48va | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Looking for stories about Adderall/Dexamphetamine in order to make a decision | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg48va/looking_for_stories_about_adderalldexamphetamine/ |
Aitoral92 | [removed] | 2021-12-14T09:51:22.000Z | rg45bg | 0 | 1 | ADHD | What other symptoms besides impulsivity, hyperactivity, etc do people with ADHD have? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg45bg/what_other_symptoms_besides_impulsivity/ |
rowanxariel | ⚠️⚠️⚠️Possible trigger as weight is mentioned⚠️⚠️⚠️
I started my adderall back in September. When I started I was 120 pounds and now I’m 103pounds. I have been trying to eat more but I have no appetite until my stomach hurts to much to eat. My meds have already been adjusted a few times, but if I have it lowered I won’t be able to focus or function enough to do my school work. I don’t know what I should do about this and would really appreciate any advice you have especially if you’ve also had the same problem.
Eating breakfast makes me sick so I don’t, as puking not only lowers appetite more but also gets rid of the original nutrients and is awful for your teeth so it’s not worth it.
I’m currently on 30xr, but my old meds were 3- 10mg (normal Adderall)and 2-10mg (normal Adderall) so I’ve only been on xr for a month.
My psych. Said my dose is right and not too high because this happened to the same extent on every dose we’ve tried (including when I would forget to take the 2 or 3 pill before the XR) and I have had appetite issues since I was a baby.
I also have autism so I already have issues with eating, and I have noticed my asd symptoms have gotten more extreme since starting. My autism also causes me to not have proper hunger ques in general. | 2021-12-14T09:49:24.000Z | rg44e9 | 15 | 1 | ADHD | Problems with Adderall/ medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg44e9/problems_with_adderall_medication/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-14T09:43:15.000Z | rg41e8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Welp *slaps knee* How many bananas did you scroll this year? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg41e8/welp_slaps_knee_how_many_bananas_did_you_scroll/ |
thefemaleantagonist | basically, i have a hyperfixation all the time. especially with drinks but sometimes with foods. for the past two years i get a caramel ribbon crunch frappuccino and on the days i wouldn’t get it, i would get insanely upset. to the point it could ruin my day. then, when i moved to vancouver i got hyper obsessed with blue gatorade. and if i don’t get it, it ruins my day. why does this happen? i don’t understand and it stresses me out because i’m not like this about anything else. sometimes however i am like this with food.. when i’m really stressed out all i wanna do is binge eat a bunch of different foods irrationally. i dont know why i do this but it’s so irritating. | 2021-12-14T09:34:06.000Z | rg3wuq | 2 | 0 | ADHD | i have no idea what’s wrong with me and why i hyperfixate on foods and drinks. | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3wuq/i_have_no_idea_whats_wrong_with_me_and_why_i/ |
Ahmed_Reshah | Gooday everyone.. I have went undiagnosed with ADHD for 12 years (symptoms started at 6 and i am 18), i never knew what was wrong with me and was misdiagnosed many times and given countless meds, mostly antidepressants and antipsychotics and some mood stabilizers, they all didn't do anything obviously... Untill i finally thought maybe this is ADHD, which was very absurd since i had much more problems than just "attention" or "hyperactivity", and i also already had a diagnosis of MDD (Major Depressive Disorder), and BPD because of my emotional dysregulation among other problems with impulsivity and stuff... Which theoretically seemed like a correct diagnosis, but going on with this diagnosis never fixed any problem i had... And it didn't make sense i would have it, till i learned that ADHD is an **unfuckingly** deep mental disorder, and is much much **much** more than just not being able to direct your focus and impulsivity.
I took Concerta and it did to my "MDD" and age old studying problems, what about 5-6 antidepressants, 4 antipsychotics and 1 mood stabilizer never did... It felt like i was finally okay, the forced hand on my life was finally removed, i expected all the Concerta would do was help me be better at studying, but i never expected the depression to literally just fuck off, and for me to have control over my thoughts and a long list of other problems, either got literally fixed or still exist but to a much lesser degree, i also still have a degree of emotional dysregulation but it's much less than before... What is there to ADHD? Like, what is ADHD **really** is? How far did ADHD affect my life throughout 12 years of being untreated?
I am just... Both confused and happy, i finally figured out the reason i had suffered for such a long time, but i am still trying to figure out how far its reach was... I even read untreated ADHD will give rise to depression... If you got this far, please help me understand what's going on... Please... Any post, video, long reply, DM, anything, i just need someone to help me understand what was going on before medication and after it.
Thank you for at least reading till the end. ❤️ | 2021-12-14T09:33:02.000Z | rg3wax | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Don't have a title for this | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3wax/dont_have_a_title_for_this/ |
hellohowrudoin90 | [removed] | 2021-12-14T09:31:23.000Z | rg3vfg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone tried a gluten elimination diet? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3vfg/has_anyone_tried_a_gluten_elimination_diet/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-14T09:31:05.000Z | rg3va2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Welp *slaps knee* How many bananas did you scroll this year? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3va2/welp_slaps_knee_how_many_bananas_did_you_scroll/ |
hellohowrudoin90 | [removed] | 2021-12-14T09:25:24.000Z | rg3sgp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone tried gluten elimination diet? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3sgp/has_anyone_tried_gluten_elimination_diet/ |
SenZephyr | Without my medication (adderal) the OCD exists but with fewer recognizable instances.
On the medication..
Anything that I get more than 1 of, gets counted, even if I know the final count. Like a pack of cards for example. If I open 9 packs, I will mentally count each card every time.
After I turn of the lights, I have to count the seconds it takes to get to wherever I was headed next.
I count the seconds between light transitions at a stoplight.
I have to place things from big to small and the correct lateral or horizontal plane.
If the clocks I set are even a second off from the clock I used to set it, I will spend untold amounts of time to get it right, something very problematic with my oven clock, because if you go past the minute, you have to click it a full loop to get back to where you were, and guess what? I have to count the clicks.
I could go on.. what are your habits? | 2021-12-14T09:23:33.000Z | rg3rjx | 3 | 6 | ADHD | How many people here with OCD as a co-pilot for their ADHD? | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3rjx/how_many_people_here_with_ocd_as_a_copilot_for/ |
SigmarUnberogen | I finally pulled the trigger on going to a psychiatrist after a heck of a long time suspecting that I have ADHD, and just vibing with all of the ADHD memes. Turns out she thought so too! I've only been on my meds for a couple of hours but the difference is so staggering! I can focus now? My fidgeting is gone?? Honestly, I should have gone sooner. | 2021-12-14T09:20:45.000Z | rg3q4a | 6 | 10 | ADHD | My Psychiatrist suspects that I have ADHD! | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3q4a/my_psychiatrist_suspects_that_i_have_adhd/ |
SunriseWalks | Hi. I'm having a rough time right now, I've been in a romantic relationship with a wonderful wonderful person for 6 months now, and sometimes I worry about them really just "tolerating" me. I've been in an awful relationship last year where my ex was constantly ignoring me, and my brain is terrified of that happening again. I'm so scared if feeling alone with someone. It's something that happens to me a lot, and it takes like a year for me to feel comfortable around someone. My current partner has a lot of stuff going on and a family to take care of, so I often worry about why they're not around, even though I know the reasons. They tell me that they love me ALL the time, they send me letters and are wonderful, but I just can't seem to believe it, I'm so traumatized. And by voicing it too often I'm scared they'll feel like I don't trust them, when it's all me. I'm scared I'll push them away before we can get to that feeling of safety which takes me some time.
I should add that this happens to me with every person I date because in the past I've been in a relationship with abusers and aggressive manipulative people. But this person is so so special, and I don't want to lose them. I believe ADHD is making it worse than it would be otherwise. | 2021-12-14T09:20:23.000Z | rg3py9 | 2 | 5 | ADHD | Emotional Dysregulation is ruining my life | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3py9/emotional_dysregulation_is_ruining_my_life/ |
snottybynature | I’ve been semi-successful using the Pomodoro technique by myself but I know how much RSD/others’ accountability drive me to action more quickly. ( i.e. me not just researching this on my own but asking ya’ll to give me your time/energy to suggest groups for me so I feel guilted into actually checking them out :’D ) | 2021-12-14T09:11:24.000Z | rg3ldw | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Hi friends, wondering if anyone could suggest ADHD centered writing/working zoom groups? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3ldw/hi_friends_wondering_if_anyone_could_suggest_adhd/ |
Mother-Ad4430 | I've got a meeting with occupational health today to talk about adjustments in the workplace. But I've got absolutely no idea what to suggest...
I struggle very much with focus, and also with remembering to do regular admin tasks (timesheets etc).
I was wondering if you guys had had any adjustments that were genuinely useful? | 2021-12-14T09:09:57.000Z | rg3kny | 4 | 2 | ADHD | What adjustments did your workplace make that actually helped? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3kny/what_adjustments_did_your_workplace_make_that/ |
Mjollner06 | Another day, another load of important details that I forgot.
For reference: I work as a mechanical engineer in a massive steel mill. My job entails making sure that one of the main sections of the factory keeps running at all times. Twice a year, a third of my section is shut down for maintenance overhauls for 2-3 weeks. During this time, ALL maintenance work has to be completed. That means before then, I have to order external companies for the work, make sure their tasks are properly defined, scoped etc. If I forget even a single task line in the procurement software, or to add the line "make sure scaffolding is in place" for instance, a maintenance job can't be done. And there is ALWAYS something that I forget. A forgotten amount in a seperate screen here. Approval of a workhour sheet there. An average round of maintenance has 20 orders, 20 task lines each and a bunch of different steps. LOTS of little details.
Today, on the final day before a month long vacation, my manager gave me an impromptu performance review. It basically detailed how bad it is going, how I am already on an improvement plan etc etc. And he's right, it is not going well at all because I keep forgetting and am unable to keep up.
I know how to do my job, I do. I understand all the technical stuff. But it is just so. goddamn. much to remember. | 2021-12-14T08:56:28.000Z | rg3dtq | 6 | 7 | ADHD | Another bad performance review | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3dtq/another_bad_performance_review/ |
kalliyankattneeli | Hi,
I am looking for a vocal reminder app..I sometimes don't check mobile or laptop. So I need vocal reminders. I am also looking for an app that announces the date daily. This is required as I have trouble keeping track of the current date. For example, I would very much appreciate an app that announces in the morning ' Hey, today is December 15th '. I am looking for an android version either free or inexpensive.
Thank you ! | 2021-12-14T08:56:09.000Z | rg3dn9 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Request for suggestions: vocal reminder app | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg3dn9/request_for_suggestions_vocal_reminder_app/ |
kalliyankattneeli | [removed] | 2021-12-14T08:48:44.000Z | rg39wz | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Request for suggestions: vocal reminder app to announce the dates | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg39wz/request_for_suggestions_vocal_reminder_app_to/ |
thehomie-dude | The only way I can describe this is as if I’m in a “manic” state, but not really. I’ll overfixate on something I’m really into for the next couple hours or the next day.
For instance, right now I’m over fixating on playing video games. I’ll do it to death for the next day. I feel like I can keep going without the need to sleep. The same goes for if I start a “project”. If I’m interested in movies/drawing/music/social media that day, I’ll do it for the next 24 hours nonstop with only a couple bathroom breaks, because I’m so fixated on doing it, that my mind and body doesn’t realize I need to go to the bathroom or eat.
I’m sure I can’t be the only one. Today I was playing a very simple game, with no story that needed to be followed, that I started at 9am and the next thing I know, it’s currently 3am, going on 4am and I had absolutely no idea. I haven’t eaten yet or really even been to the bathroom.
Thoughts?
*This is in no way asking for a diagnosis. I always consult with a doctor for proper treatment if necessary* | 2021-12-14T08:47:35.000Z | rg39bj | 4 | 3 | ADHD | How do you manage going overboard when you find something you’re interested in? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg39bj/how_do_you_manage_going_overboard_when_you_find/ |
thehomie-dude | [removed] | 2021-12-14T08:44:32.000Z | rg37rs | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Am I the only one who goes overboard when they find something they like? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg37rs/am_i_the_only_one_who_goes_overboard_when_they/ |
grrv23 | So I have tried atomoxetine for a while and it did nothing. Now I have got prescribed methylphenidate which was actually very hard to find and now one month later it is available.
Now I am little afraid that it might not do anything. What should I expect and what should I do so that it can help me better.
Also something I like to mention is that, caffeine doesn't do anything for me is it a problem because it is kind of stimulant, I know not effective as methylphenidate but still.
I have taken advice from my doctor but want to know from people taking it. I am super excited and afraid. | 2021-12-14T08:26:10.000Z | rg2ym6 | 2 | 4 | ADHD | I am finally getting my methylphenidate prescription what should I expect and what are some do's and don'ts? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2ym6/i_am_finally_getting_my_methylphenidate/ |
Wonder_The_Dragon | So I've suspected myself of ADHD for a long time, almost a year now, and I'm still too nervous to tell my parents about it. I'm pretty sure all they're gonna do is blame it on laziness, my phone, and the hundreds of other problems they have with me. I'm afraid of asking them to see a professional. I've only been self-diagnosed and, (as they have already claimed before), they may say that a psychologist may lie about diagnoses to make their patients 'waste money on constantly revisiting' etc. etc.
I also think that, if they take me seriously, they may be sad about 'a problem' in their beloved eldest daughter, and think that there's something else wrong with me. I also am not sure how to take my self-diagnosis, and want to visit a professional so that they can tell me more about... everything.
What should I be doing now? =((((( | 2021-12-14T08:22:52.000Z | rg2wwz | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Honesty with the people around me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2wwz/honesty_with_the_people_around_me/ |
tuggertheboat | [removed] | 2021-12-14T08:21:00.000Z | rg2w0z | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Neurotypical lurkers, what goes on in your head throughout the day? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2w0z/neurotypical_lurkers_what_goes_on_in_your_head/ |
mr_mime12 | I had been diagonsed with ADHD and had been under medication for last 6 months, the first 2, months it worked fine and I managed to focus on work and studies. But after a while taking the medication doesn't really work
Recently a friend told me that I might have mild autism since she knows someone with similar problem.
Now I am worried if I had a wrong diagnosis.. | 2021-12-14T08:20:24.000Z | rg2vq9 | 5 | 6 | ADHD | ADHD and mild autism | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2vq9/adhd_and_mild_autism/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-14T08:20:19.000Z | rg2voi | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Why do I care less about things on medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2voi/why_do_i_care_less_about_things_on_medication/ |
actualllllobster | Hey all! I live with my BF who doesn't have ADHD. We're both pretty messy people, but my messes are on another level, of course. I try to explain to him that it's harder for me to "see" the messes but he usually will just say something along the lines of "try harder" or "just figure it out". He's very stubborn and hasn't been very open to the idea of reading articles or watching videos about it, but I asked him if he'd at least try and he said ok so I'm wondering if there are any good (possibly short) resources I could send to him? Thank you for any help you can give :-) | 2021-12-14T08:16:33.000Z | rg2tsl | 6 | 3 | ADHD | Ways to Help My Boyfriend Understand My ADHD Habits? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2tsl/ways_to_help_my_boyfriend_understand_my_adhd/ |
davidakadaddy | I started taking vyvanse when I 16. I’m 22 now. And in the 6 years I’ve been taking it it started off as a miracle drug for me. I could focus on school and felt like the perfect person. After years of taking it tho I’ve noticed some serious side effects. I become very irritable at nothing. I have anger problems. I have issues with blood circulation as I tend to sit in one place for a long ass period of time. And I can’t eat for shit. I weighed 180 before I started taking this drug and now I’m barely 165 with almost no muscle just look like a skeleton. I want to stop taking it but I’m not sure how it’ll effect my overall well-being. Any suggestions? | 2021-12-14T08:15:50.000Z | rg2tgq | 5 | 10 | ADHD | Quit Taking Vyvanse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2tgq/quit_taking_vyvanse/ |
Accomplished-Hour881 | [removed] | 2021-12-14T08:13:24.000Z | rg2s7n | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Recently diagnosed with ADHD here, I feel anxiety of starting my work, and I can't start it. Are there any tips for this one? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2s7n/recently_diagnosed_with_adhd_here_i_feel_anxiety/ |
NoobieSnake | Is it just me? Or does everybody in here do this?
So, when you and a group of people regardless of environment (school, work, meetings, family gatherings, etc.) gathers together whether it be 5 people or 20 people, when they have a conversation going on, do you find yourself focusing on something totally different than what 99% of the group focuses on during their conversation? So let say when they’re talking about a topic and everyone needs to comment and input something, everyone in the group continues with the trend while you comment on something that either seems so trivial to the topic or something that feels very unrelated to the topic but you feel it is related.?
Also, sometimes when people are having conversations whether it be casual or serious, my mind would just be thinking of jokes (to myself and not telling it out loud if the setting is inappropriate.)
Sorry for my sentence structures, it’s hard to type correctly sometimes while trying to maintain a coherent train of thoughts. Thanks. | 2021-12-14T08:12:52.000Z | rg2rx2 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Always missing the point | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2rx2/always_missing_the_point/ |
BubblepopKawaii-Chan | TIME MANAGEMENT - it's a known thing that adhders can have poor time management skills.
However, somehow, I am the opposite, is anyone else like this? I have a fear of wasting time.
Not wasting time has become/maybe always has been the most important thing in my life.
Basically, I need to keep everything on time to the schedule - if I'm at work or even doing a hobby, I need to leave at the time I had chosen, if I'm running late it really frustrates me.
I hate adulting jobs so try to get them out of the way as quickly as possible so I can have fun and do the things I want. Unfortunately, adulting takes a lot of time so I'm rushing back home at the end of the day to literally do nothing and have revenge bedtime procrastination.
This post doesn't really explain it how I wanted it to as I can't describe it very well but basically I'm annoyed at always having tasks. | 2021-12-14T08:12:02.000Z | rg2rgf | 0 | 2 | ADHD | Time management too effective? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2rgf/time_management_too_effective/ |
TellyVee | Let me preface this by saying ***this is not me asking for things to bring up to my doctor. Do not tell me what I or others should say to my/their doctor.*** I only made this post because I feel like this would be somewhat relatable to y'all and because I'd be a lot less mentally constipated (for reasons stated below) if I read more anecdotes where y'all had an easier time getting diagnosed in one fell swoop.
On September 1st, I got a referral from my GP to get diagnosed for ADHD. (Now that I'm looking at the date, holy shiit it's been a boiling hour. Whoops!) I still have the list of referrals with me—luckily I didn't lose it, but I may as well have.
I think the main thing that's holding me back is the off chance that I do get told by the doctor that I don't have ADHD because of who I am:
1. a woman (20F). Neurodivergence in general is missed in women and girls. We typically don't show the hyperactive, stereotypical traits of ADHD.
2. Asian. We're stereotypically smart, hardworking, and more reserved. Not the spitting image of ADHD.
3. quiet and socially awkward. This kinda ties in with the first two points.
4. used to do well in school. High school was when my grades started going south. Started failing a class every year or got close to that, but no one knows that. Not even my sister or parents.
As you can see, I don't really display the traits that fits the public perception of ADHD, and seeing all those posts where people had to go through several doctors for a proper diagnosis discourages me. What if I have to go through the same, too? It would clearly take an even *longer* while, seeing as I originally planned on getting a referral in May, and then finally got referred on September 1st, and I still haven't scheduled the appointment.
It's probably not as bad as I make it out to be. I live in a progressive, urban area, so the doctors are likely to be more open-minded as well and I won't have to get second, third, or more opinions to finally get diagnosed. But there are other things I'm kind of worried about.
I originally stressed over having a Vietnamese doctor or a Vietnamese interpreter (kinda lost fluency over the years) since my mom would be tagging along and she's not at all fluent in English. I also considered having my sister come along as well, since she can also vouch for me and she's better at me at Viet. With this in mind, I stressed over the fact that at some point the doctor would have to ask about how I was doing in school and *I haven't revealed to my sister or parents that I have a fuucking 2.65 college GPA*. (And this is only community college! I feel like dissolving into the ground for achieving a new low.) While my parents are pretty relaxed compared to the stereotypically stricter Asian parents, no one wants their kid to be failing something as easy as community college, and I don't want my parents or sister nagging at me endlessly.
Then I came across a comment on this subreddit where someone said adults didn't need to have their parents come along to vouch for me, and that I could just vouch for myself. Cool, nice, but what if the doctors think I'm bullshitting just to get my grubby hands on Adderall since that's a thing non ADHDers do? So yeah I really want my mom to be there to vouch for me, and maybe even my sister too. Sure, it'll look suspicious to my mom and sister when I lie and say my grades are going well, but if I say I'm doing well in school, the doctor'll be more likely to brush it off... I think I'll just write on a piece of paper how bad my grades are going and hand it over to the doctor when they ask about school haha.
Anyway, I'm going back to my general practitioner this Thursday to ask for a referral list with more Viet doctors on the list, or some that have Viet interpreters. (In an area with a high Vietnamese population as well so I hope the list isn't too small.)
I feel like the process is simple but my mind is just making things 10x more difficult. I'm mentally constipated every time I think about this. At the very least I'll come out of the doctor's office with an anxiety diagnosis if not both ADHD and anxiety.
Has anyone else procrastinated their diagnosis like I have? Also, this turned into more of a rant, whoops. | 2021-12-14T08:02:43.000Z | rg2mm7 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | procrastinating my diagnosis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2mm7/procrastinating_my_diagnosis/ |
a5s_s7r | Hi,
It has been a long time dream to fly a glider one day. But strangely, now I know why, never took action on.
I did some paragliding in my mid twenties for some years, but stopped because of fear of height. I also ran into some scary situations midst flight out of inexperience. Flew less and less. The crash during landing of a friend of mine with really bad injuries made me selling my equipment finally.
But the flying bug always stuck with me. Gliders look elegant, flying silently just through know how and strategy sounds great. I even liked it on a simulator for several hours. Having fixed wings will minimize risks a lot compared to a paraglided. Height never had been a problem to me when sitting in a plane. Not in big ones, nor in little Cessnas. Just scratching along a rocky mountain slope scared me a bit, when l did a TestFlight ages ago. But I guess this is something you won’t start with anyway. Getting some air below our bottoms made me feel comfortable again.
Now with 45 I got diagnosed some days ago and I am worried ADHS and flying won’t go together.
I am not concerned about concentration over long times, more about missing important hints of danger, overlooking other planes, falling short on flight preparation and strategical planning…
Are there people flying a glider in the sub able to talk with experience? | 2021-12-14T08:02:17.000Z | rg2mev | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD and flying a glider | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2mev/adhd_and_flying_a_glider/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-14T07:58:50.000Z | rg2kbv | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Studies on the interaction between magnesium and lisdexamphetamine (Vyvanse) or dexamphetamine? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2kbv/studies_on_the_interaction_between_magnesium_and/ |
technodewdrop | Tomorrow I'll be trying my fifth medication for ADHD, and I'm losing hope and I'm terrified. I think it's called Methylphenidate. I dunno, what if I can't be treated? What if I'm disfunctional forever? How long did it take for you to find the right medications? Also, If anyone's curious, so far I've tried Wellbutrin, Vyvanse, dextroamphetamine, and focalin. I'm getting the new one tomorrow but I'm so... Pessimistic. I wanna be positive but this whole process has been exhausting.. :( I just want to function. I'm tired | 2021-12-14T07:55:11.000Z | rg2ihh | 6 | 1 | ADHD | How long did it take you to find your adhd meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2ihh/how_long_did_it_take_you_to_find_your_adhd_meds/ |
Curious-Leg2486 | Guys I don't know good psychiatrist in my city and bc of doubtful about ADHD also bc of anxiety, so I decided first to find an online psychiatrist and talk with him/her. I used texting option. Last night I described all things about focusing, axiety and deppresion. I expressed them in long messages. But he just said you are bipolar. It's to hard to say you are ADHD.
I'm very sad bc I couldn't concentrate to do my university works, I don't have motivation. But I have most of symptoms. should I find psychiatrist in my city? | 2021-12-14T07:48:45.000Z | rg2f8s | 1 | 1 | ADHD | My exprience with online psychiatrist | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2f8s/my_exprience_with_online_psychiatrist/ |
karl_karou1603 | This post is divided in 3 part. 1- context 2- rant 3- achievement
Context: I started college and I saw the time it required. I know I’m a person who needs lot of entertainment and a gamer. As well as an artist. Those two passions takes so much time, and my mood can go down real bad if I can’t play or draw carelessly as much as I want. I tried slowing down myself but eh I love life too much.
Rant: I asked mom to do my studies in 4 years instead of 3. I usually never did my homework in high school and still passed decently. As much as I loved my studies, I knew I wouldn’t be able to go from no work to working even during the weekends. However, mom got really angry and worried I’d end up dropping school (Anger issues I think, I believe she has Adhd too) and I was forced to take a heavy work load. Result: I slowly got more and more overworked, late and constantly stressed. Not just that, but I couldn’t enjoy my free time anymore without feeling really guilty. Finals arrived and thats when my body and brain decided to be overworked. I failed my audio class, and for the whole last week I was completely out of energy. I slept for 12+hrs each night, cried the whole day when alone, couldn’t leave bed and my heart would go crazy. I began getting really scared because I could feel every passions of mine leave. I started feeling the same way i felt back when i was depressed. I really didn’t want to go back to that state. I’m still really angry at mom. (I dont value her power and opinion anymore, I fixed my work load by myself)
Achievement: I began being able to leave my bed. I beg my teachers to give me more time, which most did. I believe they saw I wasn’t lying here, and they knew just how passioned i was. After days of nothing, I finally managed to get one homework done. I haven’t felt allowed to be happy for a while. I don’t feel guilty of enjoying anything. | 2021-12-14T07:47:49.000Z | rg2eqi | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Finally getting over overworked and finished one homework | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2eqi/finally_getting_over_overworked_and_finished_one/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-14T07:46:46.000Z | rg2e92 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How many tries until you got the right meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2e92/how_many_tries_until_you_got_the_right_meds/ |
Leapflat | I started taking medications(Concerta 18mg) and it seems, that when and how I take has a big effect. What time I eat breakfast, do I take them after or before, do I have coffee later, what do I eat etc.
I can go from being extremely unfocused first part of the day, to being overstimulated.
Anybody know a good app for keeping a journal about time/food/mood ? | 2021-12-14T07:42:58.000Z | rg2c9t | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Tracking medication effect | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2c9t/tracking_medication_effect/ |
SignalJuggernaut5182 | [removed] | 2021-12-14T07:42:38.000Z | rg2c3a | 2 | 0 | ADHD | vyvanse/adderall | 0.14 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2c3a/vyvanseadderall/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-14T07:39:53.000Z | rg2aoy | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Having ADHD is a lot like being a working dog | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg2aoy/having_adhd_is_a_lot_like_being_a_working_dog/ |
SharkPinata | First let me explain, I'm only a few months from graduating high school meaning next year I go into college and I have been absolutely terrified of it. I've never had a job, looking to maybe get one soon, and considering me and my moms current financial situation (not bad, but not too much wiggle room for huge expenses) I know I'm gonna have to pay for college myself which is scary.
I've seen so many statistics of dropping out, unemployment rates, burnout, and I will fully admit that I can't function well under stress. The only reason I've managed to get through high school is that writing is one of the few passionate things I can do well because I love creative writing. It's allowed me to skirt through essay writing and other stuff, but I'm still terrified of college because I've heard of how much debt, stress, and struggling comes with it. I have a very bad attention span and tend to zone out while listening to teachers talking for more than 3 minutes.
So please if anyone knows, what are my chances here exactly? I'm not even ready for any of this. | 2021-12-14T07:38:11.000Z | rg29uj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I'm terrified of college. | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg29uj/im_terrified_of_college/ |
kak16 | [removed] | 2021-12-14T07:29:54.000Z | rg25eu | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is it common to have different hand writings not completely different but definitely not the same. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg25eu/is_it_common_to_have_different_hand_writings_not/ |
Zestyclose-Law6191 | As long as I can remember, I've never come home at night and just gone to sleep. It's like I can't. Since I started the job I've had for the last 2 years (it's pretty physically demanding and I don't get off till 11 pm), I come home and stay up for hours. I was just curious if this is commonplace among all of you similar peoples. | 2021-12-14T07:28:41.000Z | rg24u3 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | General symptom or just me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg24u3/general_symptom_or_just_me/ |
oreganoisfun | [removed] | 2021-12-14T07:20:00.000Z | rg20ax | 4 | 2 | ADHD | Bit of a strange question, but is struggling to walk in a straight line linked to my ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg20ax/bit_of_a_strange_question_but_is_struggling_to/ |
Ryou2198 | Without going into too much detail, I’ve been having an epic battle with some dragons as of recently (ADHD, treatment, fear, anxiety, things falling through the cracks ((sometimes it’s my fault, sometimes others have let me down)), you know, the works). I’m trying to stay at least above water with my full time job AND am building a small company for my artistic talents that I will eventually turn into my full time job.
It’s been literally months of this when, last night, I had a dream that because of the amount of art commissions and projects I was working on as my full time job and career, the nib on my Apple Pencil wore down and became squishy like those cheap styluses. I had to replace the nib before the actual pencil would break and I was super happy about it.
I’m on medication and have been seeing a therapist. It’s just nice to at least get a little preview of what I have been fighting an uphill battle for for so long that it’s hard to see the light at the end. I just wanted to share that little spark.
It’s a fight but living with ADHD has its ups as well as it’s downs. So if you are experiencing the downs, ups will eventually come.
Edit: should probably add two quotes that have been helpful to me for living with ADHD and depression for that matter.
🍎 vs. 🪟: When I was a kid, a doctor once told me “You are an Apple computer in a PC world.” This was back when PC and Apple were barely compatible with each other unlike today. This helped me put away my concerns and judgements based on my behaviors. I try to design my home in an apple way and then get useful tools and stuff for operating in a PC world.
⛈ 🤥 : More recently my therapist said to me “depression is a liar.” So I try to remind myself that when depression tries to rob me of joy in playing games or drawing or whatever. I don’t always get the most joy out of it when depressed but I do it anyway because I at least get a little bit of joy. | 2021-12-14T07:04:55.000Z | rg1s6p | 1 | 3 | ADHD | Things are at least starting to look up. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1s6p/things_are_at_least_starting_to_look_up/ |
OusmanePulisic | **edit: dang turns out object permanence isn't actually an adhd symptom...**
now out of all the drawbacks that come with ADHD, this seems like one of the ones where i see myself not being able to even understand what the "normal" is. like i'm a fairly sociable guy and make (a lot of) friends easily. but i can't for the life of me keep them. now i largely blame myself for this, because . oh and also quick sidenote, i also feel like my adhd is partly responsible for me getting really, really close to people really, really fast(like they'll tell me their deepest, darkest secrets that they've told almost no one else bc they think what i've told them is huge.. but it really isn't bc i just have bigger stuff hidden so this stuff seems easy to tell people about in comparison i guesss - also i swear it's not to try to get them to trust me or anything nefarious. it just so happens that i have nearly no control of what i say when i'm having a good conversation, i just get really involved in it and it just flows and stuff comes out). and then also getting really bored with said people and moving on to a new person or a new friend group or something. oh but also me growing up seeing not a single marriage in my family work out fs has a lot to do with why i feel like i'm sick of this "icky" person i just got to know inside & out and want nothing more to do with them. but that's a whole nother thing and not even why i started making this post in the first place. crap. sorry. ok, so basically, i oftentimes struggle with differentiating between reality & what feels like isn't reality. like right now i just saw a message from an old friend that i haven't spoken to in a while. and i don't know, that friend doesn't exactly seem real, like it's only been a few months since we last saw eachother & hung out but right now i just feel like that was in another lifetime & i'm having a really hard time replying because now i feel like i no longer know them or what they are and yeah. in the past i've gotten into shit bc when it comes to relationships, if i haven't spoken to the person i'm dating in a few days i sorta feel the same way, like i think of it as something in the past & lowkey forget about it in a way and move on... which is very fucked up i feel and i also fear that i'm going to end up in a very, very, very codependant relationship(if i ever manage to stick around in one for long enough) if the very concept of that person only exists in my mind as long as i'm talking to them everyday. and next comes my family. like i cannot being to tell you how much i love my brother, my mom, my dog, my family, but... it feels crazy how often & how long i forget they exist just because we no longer live together. my mom gets mad at me saying if she doesn't call me i would never call her. and i tell her this isn't true and i've told her that i'd probably, organically, end up calling her once or twice a week. but in reality if she doesn't call me, it'll be around 8-10 days before i realize we haven't spoken and at that point i'll feel like it's only been 2 days since we spoke so i put it off and so for me it takes like 2 weeks to get to the point where she's at within a day or two. and probably the worst part is that the first 3 or 4 days i'll literally forget about their existence, which doesn't make sense when i say it, but that's how it is i just sorta can't imagine other things going on around the world that i can't see? idk there's a bunch more but i keep going off into tangents so i'm gonna stop here for now | 2021-12-14T07:03:22.000Z | rg1rcw | 2 | 5 | ADHD | How badly do you struggle with object permanence? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1rcw/how_badly_do_you_struggle_with_object_permanence/ |
katiebl3 | No matter what I do, I hardly feel my Adderall doing anything. I’m on 30mg IR 2x daily. I try taking on an empty stomach and I try taking it on a full stomach. I make sure to not take my other meds around the same time. Lately it seems to not be doing much at all. I’ve tried Ritalin and didn’t have any luck. Please help!!! | 2021-12-14T06:58:29.000Z | rg1of0 | 11 | 1 | ADHD | Help with Adderall!!! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1of0/help_with_adderall/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-14T06:58:23.000Z | rg1od7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I got diagnosed! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1od7/i_got_diagnosed/ |
niva_sun | My adhd friend is writing a last minute paper on behaviourism and adhd, but all the sources we can find that are "legit enough" to use at this level are based on stereotypes, and always focus on the external traits instead of the internal experience. That lead to statement like "children with adhd need harsher consequences in order to learn", which is not exactly right (at leas not nuanced enough).
Example: they all say adhd kids need to move a lot because they "have more energy than others". But we know it's related to being understimulated as well... why don't they talk about stimulation???
Do any of you know any sources about ahdh that are scientific (must be good enough for university level), but also represent what adhd actually is? Especially when it comes to executive disfunction and over/under stimulation. | 2021-12-14T06:54:45.000Z | rg1mcn | 3 | 0 | ADHD | Urgent! Need good sources about adhd! | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1mcn/urgent_need_good_sources_about_adhd/ |
EchoFiveWhi5key | Long story short I suffer pretty heavily from bouts of executive dysfunction that are, most relevant to this post, interfering with my fitness goals, and I need help shaking them from an external source (in this case my wife).
Having been out of the military for some years now, not exercising like I once did every day, not having any real obligation to, I gained weight and am no longer happy with my body image (note: this is not a post soliciting workout/fitness advice). They say that if you don't jump up and go do something, then you must not want it enough - but I do, I promise. Every molecule of my body screams to get off the couch and do something, anything towards getting fit again. But nothing happens. I rely pretty often on someone else to encourage and motivate me into action because I just can't seem to get myself to do it.
When discussing a gym membership with my wife and her asking how she could best support me and my fitness goals, I had no specific examples of what would work. So my question is basically this: What do people say to you that gets you out of an executive dysfunction spell \*and\* into the action you're after? How do you find yourself supporting others with the same issue? I really want to go to the gym but I always find myself either not getting up to do anything, or when I do get up it's always for some other reason.
And is this even executive dysfunction or am I just making excuses for myself? What gives? | 2021-12-14T06:53:57.000Z | rg1lx5 | 1 | 4 | ADHD | How do you prefer others to support you/motivate you out of executive dysfunction spells? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1lx5/how_do_you_prefer_others_to_support_youmotivate/ |
DopeEspeon | [removed] | 2021-12-14T06:51:26.000Z | rg1kmc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Anybody else act like an NPC at work to mask symptoms? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1kmc/anybody_else_act_like_an_npc_at_work_to_mask/ |
coldschool6820 | I’ve noticed this throughout my life in various places like work, social settings, etc. I’ve never had any glaring issues with fatigue outside of this but I can be in the middle of a work day and if it’s something monotonous or something I just really don’t enjoy my body feels like it shuts down on me. It’s aggravating because at work I can work through the lack of motivation mentally, but then out of nowhere I’m physically exhausted. Like falling asleep on your desk in middle school exhausted, fighting to keep your eyes open, shaking your head to stay awake and feel like there’s bricks in your pockets. Once I’m able to switch tasks or get off work my energy levels are back immediately like nothing happened but sometimes that’s hours later. No grogginess at all and I can’t even understand how I was so tired just a minute ago. It’s been one of the harder things to figure out for me and I just wonder if it’s relatable. | 2021-12-14T06:50:55.000Z | rg1kbr | 105 | 655 | ADHD | Do you ever get extremely tired when trying to do things you’re not passionate about? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1kbr/do_you_ever_get_extremely_tired_when_trying_to_do/ |
Splendid_Cat | So obviously having ADHD deadlines are so hard, as are sometimes getting to emails.
So I was going to submit a timesheet a week ago for work. Now, I I hadn't submitted the previous 2, because I'd just had stressful days on the deadline days (and while I intend to do it a day or two earlier, I never do), and timesheet submissions are like an extra couple hours of work I don't get paid for, and I had some savings (FOR ONCE, a big win for me), so I didn't sweat it, since you can just submit those times into the next timesheet and get paid.
So I painstakingly wrote all my times on a notepad, logged in after changing my password (because I ALWAYS forget it) and inputted my times and saved and... it suspended all of them. Now, I was confused, but the system was acting up so I thought "ok, well, it's acting weird" so I left a phone message for my brokerage. Now I'm kicking myself because I'm missing ANOTHER deadline now, but as long as I get my pay, no big.
Get a call Monday saying my credentials expired. Now, I didn't know this, but apparently they sent me an email late October to tell me they expired Oct 31. I scroll down all the way back to September and didn't see it. So I use search terms and find it... in promotions. Now, usually I rarely check promotions, I know I SHOULD but I usually don't. So I say I'd like to get my paperwork done so I can get paid for all the hours I worked in November by the end of December (gonna be a sad Christmas but whatever). Here's the kicker: since I wasn't credentialed, they CAN'T pay me, telling me it's my responsibility to keep track of dates like this. I get that it's my fault for not checking ALL my email boxes, for not keeping track of dates I knew about 4 years ago when I was hired, and for not submitting my last 2 timesheets, but the reason is stress: looking through every single box thoroughly is stressful, keeping my paperwork in the same place after moving FOUR times since I got it is insanely time consuming and stressful and hard, and fuck, I decided to not have a mental breakdown and instead give myself permission to not freak out about my timesheets since I THOUGHT I'd get that pay anyway, just later (otherwise I'd have caught it earlier through my time submission page).
My dad says he will give me the money they won't pay me if I calculate my hours for him, so I'm super lucky and not SOL, but I hate myself so much. When will I ever grow up? Why do I still need mommy and daddy to come save me at 33 when they were taking care of 1-year-old me just fine at my age??
I just fucking hate everything, especially me. | 2021-12-14T06:48:38.000Z | rg1j0v | 6 | 3 | ADHD | I hate constantly f*cking up, in this case, so badly I'm not getting paid for a whole MONTH of work and am out about 1.5k | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1j0v/i_hate_constantly_fcking_up_in_this_case_so_badly/ |
Sufficient_Willow_36 | I’d choose the ability to manipulate time. Especially the ability to pause it. That way I could check out of reality and procrastinate for as long as I want with effectively zero consequences. Sure, it would probably be terrible for me in the long term, but that doesn’t stop me from fantasizing on a regular basis about being able to freeze time. Figured some of y’all in the subreddit might be able to relate.
Anyways, what would your pick be? | 2021-12-14T06:43:02.000Z | rg1g42 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | If you could have any superpower what would it be? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1g42/if_you_could_have_any_superpower_what_would_it_be/ |
Cpt_Random_ | Hey guys, I think a lot of you have an equally good memory like me. No memory.
I found an app for my phone where I can put links and sort them by key words etc. this is brilliant and helped me a lot.
I paid for this app a few bugs but I think there are some you don’t have to pay for.
Im really happy I found it :) | 2021-12-14T06:40:58.000Z | rg1eyz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | A app for links helped me | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1eyz/a_app_for_links_helped_me/ |
GrothendieckTopos | There is something strange that I have noticed about myself for many years. I am not sure how connected it is to ADHD and I wish to emphasize that I am not claiming any kind of scientific validity to what are essentially passing observations.
Like many other people with ADHD, I have always had issues with working memory and maintaining consistent focus. However, I notice that before falling sleep, I have a very clear head. My working memory functions nearly perfectly. In fact, I can get a rather good amount of productive thinking done during this time before I sleep.
Do others feel the same way? Or is it just an anomaly disconnected from ADHD? | 2021-12-14T06:40:04.000Z | rg1eh4 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Question about Sleep | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1eh4/question_about_sleep/ |
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[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-14T06:33:07.000Z | rg1aoz | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Why do ADHDers procrastinate? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1aoz/why_do_adhders_procrastinate/ |
NewAlt_ | I want to seek a diagnosis but I keep procrastinating. I procrastinate on literally everything and I know I have a problem. But I procrastinate on getting anywhere.
I want to understand how/why people get this way. Yes I want to understand myself, but I want to hear from other people.
So my question is: why? Why do ADHDers procrastinate? | 2021-12-14T06:16:39.000Z | rg1152 | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Why do ADHDers procrastinate? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg1152/why_do_adhders_procrastinate/ |
No_Replacement_6937 | I was just playing valheim and then went to bed, and suddently, out of nowhere, a thought about my ex crosses my mind, and with that a shower of thoughts, blaming myself for things i could have done, and it is straight up killing me, i know this comes directly from our poor emotion managing, so please could anyone give me any advice on how to calm tf down and set my mind and heart at ease? This is killing me from the inside, and i dint know what to do anymore, i cant go on suffering like this from past mistakes. Please someone help me | 2021-12-14T06:16:18.000Z | rg10ya | 5 | 2 | ADHD | Midnight crisis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg10ya/midnight_crisis/ |
Babyp0tato | I’ve been on vyvance for few days. While I do normally struggle to have an appetite in the morning. Last few days I feel hungry but the idea of swallowing food makes me sick. I’ve been drinking tons of water and staying as hydrated as possible but still feel like I have dry mouth sometimes. Doing some research I thought I might have low sodium? I find having sweet and salty drinks just brought back my appetite a little bit. Any tips to eat well and avoid the appetite suppression effects? | 2021-12-14T06:15:13.000Z | rg10ar | 5 | 1 | ADHD | New to meds, hungry but don’t feel like eating? Could it be low sodium? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg10ar/new_to_meds_hungry_but_dont_feel_like_eating/ |
NewAlt_ | [removed] | 2021-12-14T06:13:22.000Z | rg0z7a | 0 | 1 | ADHD | Why do ADHDers procrastinate? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0z7a/why_do_adhders_procrastinate/ |
Mediocre_Object_9950 | I struggle so hard with buying presents. I spent about 3hrs at 3 different stores shopping for an adopt a family and most of what I bought was the wrong size. I completely overthunk it! The list of items and their sizes was incomplete so I googled things like “what size pants does a 12 yr old wear”. Sizing for kids is kinda messed up and I got off track. Plus, it’s Christmas and the shelves aren’t all stocked up. Really tough to find everything. The shoes I bought are womens shoes! (This family is 2 boys). Why did I buy them?? Now, at 10pm my wife went back to Fred Meyer cause she can’t trust me to fix it and it’s gotta be wrapped and delivered tomorrow morning. I feel so stupid and incapable. Why can’t I do this right at all?? Anyone else have a problem like mine? | 2021-12-14T06:12:16.000Z | rg0ykx | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Buying Xmas gifts | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0ykx/buying_xmas_gifts/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-14T06:10:13.000Z | rg0xev | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Why do ADHDers procrastinate? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0xev/why_do_adhders_procrastinate/ |
No_Replacement_6937 | [removed] | 2021-12-14T06:09:15.000Z | rg0wua | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Having a crisis | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0wua/having_a_crisis/ |
QQforYouToday | Was reading another thread where I saw some really good ones like “high-powered computer with shitty ram” and “a race car with bald tires”. Thought those were clever and fun as hell. I feel that maybe seeing what other’s use will help us all out when we need to explain what it’s like to be us.
Personally when explain to people what it’s like to be on medication vs. going without, I usually tell them that, “Meds are like my glasses. Without it, I can see but everything is blurry and not clearly defined. Once it take it, lines get sharper and I can see the path ahead clearly”.
Very interested to hear everyone else’s take!
Edit: Two hours of work and I login to see a 700% increase in comments! Will try to check everyone’s metaphors out. Some of the ones I’ve read so far are pretty spot-on and definitely have multi-use applications!
Edit 2: Wow! Logged back on after work to see this has blown up toward the end of my day. Will definitely try and read as many as possible, but loving what I’ve seen so far! Keep it up you awesome hyperactive attention impaired… | 2021-12-14T06:07:12.000Z | rg0vmw | 567 | 967 | ADHD | What metaphor do you use to describe your ADHD to people? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0vmw/what_metaphor_do_you_use_to_describe_your_adhd_to/ |
Wearystranger | Eating has become such a barrier for me. A lot of the foods I used to eat as “safe” foods have lost their appeal. Eating has become a chore and I have enough fucking chores that I struggle with. Yesterday I ended up overeating on snacks after getting high with a friend. Woke up with a stomach ache, forced myself to eat an orange in the morning but that was it. Meds and overeating from last night drop my appetite to zero. Ended up working late so I had box soup for dinner around 6. Of course I don’t have any energy to work out since I didn’t eat. It’s now 9:30 and I’m hungry and tired. I’m looking at the food in my fridge and of course most of it has gone bad, including some tasty leftovers i could’ve easily thrown in the microwave. My options are mediocre frozen fried rice or boxed Mac and cheese which I don’t have the function to make or desire to eat. Any fresh produce I had has started to rot. It’s too late to go the store and I hate fast food. I just want to be able to eat normally. | 2021-12-14T05:59:00.000Z | rg0qg9 | 3 | 5 | ADHD | I wish food didn’t rot | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0qg9/i_wish_food_didnt_rot/ |
Safe_Carry_9034 | I’ve been on adderall for 2 years.
I have been having problems with my adderall being effective for months now. I keep losing things, procrastinating, can’t focus at all, grades have dropped significantly. I thought this was because I was tolerant to my normal dose of 20mg so my psychiatrist raised me to 30mg and still absolutely nothing.
Today I got so frustrated I took 60mg at once to see if i could get anything done as it’s the end of the semester. 2 hours later i feel nothing, just have a headache now. WTF IS GOING ON? I just want to be able to get things done again. It’s causing me so much anxiety and i feel hopeless. | 2021-12-14T05:57:48.000Z | rg0prs | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Took a large dose and feel nothing | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0prs/took_a_large_dose_and_feel_nothing/ |
batistepembreton | Not sure if this is the right place for it... but recently I started a sort-of relationship with someone online. I say "sort of" because we're both happy not putting any labels on it, but it's definitely romantic and we've said all the mushy romance stuff, lol. I'm actually going to be visiting them next month.
But there are times where I can't tell if like... they're getting bored of me, or if *I'm* being too sensitive--or both?
They've admitted they don't have much experience with romance, and I'm worried they've not realized they've moved past that initial stage of infatuation--which is exacerbated by ADHD.
And I'm afraid that their behaviors I'm perceiving are hitting *me* super hard because of feeling rejected--also exacerbated by ADHD, lmao.
tl;dr they're spacey, I'm sensitive (just like, so dejected I'm crying because even though I intellectually know *it's not that big of a deal*, it still hurts?? insane behavior, LMAO)
I'm not really asking for advice--because I know in the end I need to just talk about this with them, but I guess I'm wondering if folks can share their experiences of two adults with ADHD in a romantic relationship? Hopefully I can glean some wisdom, lol. | 2021-12-14T05:50:46.000Z | rg0lqx | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Romantic relationships when both adults have ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0lqx/romantic_relationships_when_both_adults_have_adhd/ |
Ok_Kaleidoscope_7820 | So I’m wondering if you can grow out of adhd. My current therapist says I may now have adhd. I was assessed not once, but twice as a kid. Once when I was around 8 and once when I was around 14 or 15 I’d say. Both times they said I had adhd. Well really it was add but still. I am asking because I told my therapist about how my meds(when I was on Ritalin again this year to help with school)and how it made me have extreme difficulty sleeping, more energy, extreme need to go shopping, that was all I really told my therapist. There was also the thought the God had cured my depression all of a sudden and paranoia(thinking my mom was going to kill me which would NEVER happen). I am asking because I don’t understand why taking something as prescribed would do this to me when it didn’t to this to me as a teen or just out of high school. When I was a kid I had issues with drugs like adderall making me a zombie. My therapist had asked me if it helped me concentrate and I had told him I don’t really remember. That I think it used to help some as a kid. When I took it this year it only seemed to help for like a few hours or so. It made me feel like I was on top of the world. Like I was high. Did I get high off of the Ritalin? I no longer take it due to this fact but I am wondering if you can grow out of it or maybe I never had it in the first place?
Edit: I feel like there was also a possibility I was misdiagnosed. I also have autism spectrum disorder and I am told that there can be very similar symptoms. As of right now I am very confused because I am having to deal with different labels being thrown at me. Having been diagnosed with an eating disorder recently and having a possibility of being bipolar(I had a manic episode from an ssri I took but I was told you don’t have to be bipolar to have those from meds so there’s that)has had me thinking. Sorry for rambling I’m just wondering if you can grow out of it or if I was misdiagnosed. I had heard that adhd has been over diagnosed in the past or that that was the default diagnosis. Anyway thanks for reading. | 2021-12-14T05:50:36.000Z | rg0lnn | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Can you grow out of adhd? I’m very confused right now. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0lnn/can_you_grow_out_of_adhd_im_very_confused_right/ |
GrothendieckTopos | One of the standard signs of ADHD in both children and adults is working memory impairment. I was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 20. These problems were worse when I was a teenager but they continue to persist. I started medication a few months ago, and the first thing I noticed was that my working memory significantly improved. Before this, I could only sustain a proper working memory during certain times of the day, when I am exceptionally invested in what I am doing(this is really rare), or by way of various kinds of bizarre mechanisms that I've created for myself over the years, like pacing around very fast, shadow-boxing or giving myself jolts of pain. I can't do many of these things in the setting of the classroom. Often, it is frustrating to even sit in a classroom for more than half an hour.
In fact, I find it a miracle that I have even come this far with so many of the issues that have not been diagnosed since my childhood. I currently study mathematics at a top public school, taking some difficult graduate classes and starting off on some research. At a certain level in mathematics, working memory is very crucial, more than in most other fields. There are some parts of the day where I can manage to do math, and in other times, I somehow get through with an assortment of seemingly unscientific 'tricks' as mentioned above.
The only thing that has saved me is that I am rather relentless. I have always been so as I grew into my adolescence. I realized I had a serious talent for mathematics and that it was a direction I could pursue. Not just this, but many of my other goals/desires as well.
I started taking medication(i.e Adderall XR) a few months ago and it has been a seriously effective help especially in regards to working memory. But I still wish to know what others who choose not to take medication do to combat working memory issues. Does anything genuinely help for a sustained period of time?
Is there any relevant research done on the effects of working memory for people with ADHD that someone could refer me to? I have so far only read a bunch random articles off a Google search. | 2021-12-14T05:49:37.000Z | rg0l2n | 3 | 2 | ADHD | How do you manage your working memory issues? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rg0l2n/how_do_you_manage_your_working_memory_issues/ |
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