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[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-10T17:39:40.000Z | rde0ii | 1 | 1 | ADHD | List all your neurological/psychological diagnoses | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rde0ii/list_all_your_neurologicalpsychological_diagnoses/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-10T17:34:11.000Z | rddw1e | 1 | 1 | ADHD | List all your neurological/psychological diagnoses | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rddw1e/list_all_your_neurologicalpsychological_diagnoses/ |
StarOfDayxox | I was 15 when I stumbled upon this place and I always related to the posts on here. I was struggling a lot back then (still am) and after a month of hyperfixated study on the topic of ADHD I asked my parents if we could go and see a psychologist. They denied me that right for 3 years even when they were listing off ADHD symptoms as insults directed at me. I was always the "lazy kid", "irresposible", "only cared about having fun", "didn't think about my future at all" and would always "overdramatize my problems". They told me I didn't have any mental disorder and so I never officially joined this reddit even though I always checked up on it at least once a week. I turned 18 in July, I go to uni now (it's going terrbile btw except for language studies cuz those were the only classes we didn't have online) and have a job at a café. My first paycheck, in almost it's entirety, was spent on getting a diagnosis. Even though I have kinda known for a while that I have the condition I can finally say that I have ADHD. It's not something that makes me happy but due to the official diagnosis I really want to thank this community that y'all are here because I felt seen and understood looking at your posts over the past few years. This really is a safe space that I needed and still need and I know that if it weren't for this place I might not have found out I have ADHD until far later in life. | 2021-12-10T17:31:09.000Z | rddtgg | 3 | 35 | ADHD | After 3 years I feel like I can officially join this community. | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rddtgg/after_3_years_i_feel_like_i_can_officially_join/ |
Live-Somewhere788 | [removed] | 2021-12-10T17:25:44.000Z | rddow5 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Looking where to get a diagnosis in the Dallas/ft worth area of Texas. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rddow5/looking_where_to_get_a_diagnosis_in_the_dallasft/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-10T17:24:59.000Z | rddo9l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Self Worth Theory.. I found it interesting | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rddo9l/self_worth_theory_i_found_it_interesting/ |
Prestigious_Scar_756 | [removed] | 2021-12-10T17:23:25.000Z | rddn0k | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Fixated on the skin around my nails… | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rddn0k/fixated_on_the_skin_around_my_nails/ |
KillYourUsernames | Or at least top five. I'm a realtor, which is somewhat unique in terms of daily operations. Everyone thinks that this job is hosting open houses and taking buyers on home tours, basically what you see on House Hunters and the like. In truth that is an important but relatively minor part of the job. The big part of the job, big as in both the largest portion of my time and the most important thing, is lead generation and lead nurturing. This means coming up with, and successfully executing, long term lead campaigns. Email marketing, phone and text message follow up, social media content, mailers. Networking. Structured campaigns that run for weeks to months at a time, where every name I'm in flow with is at a different point in the campaign. It's honestly a huge toll on my executive functioning and attention span.
Couple the above with the fact that, as an independent contractor, I have no real oversight or boss. I have a broker who is nominally in charge of me, but I am literally free to do whatever I want, whenever I want, at any point in time. I answer to no one. The typical person is envious of that. You and I see it as a disaster waiting to happen.
I really do love the job because when I'm truly firing on all cylinders, I'm *great* at it. It's empowering, exciting, and every success, big or small, is mine and mine alone. But shifting up into fifth gear to have a day like that is massively draining when it's even possible. And just like the successes, every failure (and there are so many) is also mine and mine alone.
I'm not really looking for advice or help or answers. I just needed to shout into the void for a minute, and this void is kind and empathetic. Thanks for reading. I hope you have a great day. | 2021-12-10T17:15:36.000Z | rddgry | 5 | 3 | ADHD | I truly love my career but it may be the worst possible fit for an ADHD brain. | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rddgry/i_truly_love_my_career_but_it_may_be_the_worst/ |
jahlove24 | I am diagnosed ADHD and take medicine to help me manage it. I have new insurance, waiting to see a new doctor, etc so there's about to be a lapse in my prescription refill. Has anyone dealt with this? I'm not totally against temporary "holistic" treatments to get me through until I meet with my doctor. Also, if I just have to wait it out, should I expect a detox phase? Thanks for your help. | 2021-12-10T17:15:35.000Z | rddgri | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Delay between prescription refill, any suggestions or insight on what will happen? (Not looking for medical advice, just experiences) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rddgri/delay_between_prescription_refill_any_suggestions/ |
thefirstbrickmaker | I started experiencing very mild DPDR about a year ago mostly when I would sit down and study for long periods, but now it’s gotten a lot worse and for the last week or two I feel like it’s become my constant reality. I’m really scared of forgetting what life was like before this. It’s really hard to describe but the Wikipedia sums it up very well
“Depersonalization can consist of a detachment within the self, regarding one's mind or body, or being a detached observer of oneself.[1] Subjects feel they have changed and that the world has become vague, dreamlike, less real, lacking in significance or being outside reality while looking in. It can be described as feeling like one is on “autopilot” and that the person’s sense of individuality or selfhood has been hindered or suppressed”
This started around the time I was diagnosed with adhd and started taking Vyvanse. I’m not sure what is causing it but I think that might a reason. Has anyone experienced DPDR as a side affect of Vyvanse? What are strategies that you have learned to help? Any information is welcome :) thx! | 2021-12-10T17:08:48.000Z | rddb7g | 4 | 4 | ADHD | Plz help, looking for information/strategies/experiences with depersonalization/derealization | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rddb7g/plz_help_looking_for/ |
Plane-Connection7334 | Dear people
So I was diagnosed with ADD/internal ADHD about two months ago at the age of 21 (I'm a guy btw.). What initiated my diagnosis was that I had always felt different and I was socially insecure. I have always had this thought of "why would anyone befriend me in particular" despite my talents and qualities, and that I have no trouble speaking with stranger people. When starting at boarding school, high school and university, I initially felt regular and that I was on par with other people socially. However after the first month or so, many people have made friends, and I feel like being pushed a little to the side. Whereas many people are often texting with several people a day, I can easily go days without texting with anyone. What brings the silence to an end is typically if I initiate the contact. It happens occasionally that people contact me, and whenever it happens, it sparks joy within me (I don't think that should happen under normal circumstances. Like why should that feel special?). People describe me as friendly, people seem to like me, yet I feel like I'm left and it's myself seeking social interaction the majority of the time. Writing this I get a little emotional.
Anyways, after having this feeling basically my whole life, during lock-down I finally decided to speak with someone (under the pressure of my mom insisting). The psychologist suspected me of ADD already at the first session. All following sessions were about ADD and diagnosing me. Half a year later, I was formally diagnosed with ADD by a psychiatrist. At the same time, I had recently moved out and started at university studying engineering. I had a hard time with the studies as I was sort of in an idle state waiting for my expected medication, and didn't have the discipline to read or do assignments in proper time. I have been afraid of the exams and questioned myself if I were good enough.
I immediately started medication the day I was diagnosed, and quickly advanced in dose. I had this idea that everything would click, my procrastination would diminish and focus would become easy. I have heard many people online describing their first day on medication as a mind-blowing event and that everything made sense. I however, felt nothing really.
The first days after my first pill I just thought I got a too low dose, and didn't really mind. After a few weeks I was on a much higher dose, and still felt nothing. That was a really empty feeling and I progressively got very sad and frustrated. At it's peak I threw things around and hammered my hand into the wall. I then switched to another pill, to see if that would work better. I'm currently at 70mg Elvanse, and I don't feel much different than before medication. I feel a little increase of energy during the day, especially in the evening. Possibly also a very slight increased ability to focus, though it's hard to tell.
So since the psychologist mentioned that I might have ADD till now, I have been skeptical, though in no way dismissive or denying. Sometimes I think it makes perfect sense that I have ADD and I believe in it, and other times I feel like I have been falsely diagnosed. My belief in so may change frequently and fairly rapidly. The fact that I don't really have much effect of the medication, while reading stories about people whom it almost feel it as revolutionary, amplifies my disbelief in the diagnosis.
In contrary there are also a lot of things that makes very much sense to me. I can relate to a lot of ADHD stories, ADHD memes etc... The professionals and my mom are all very convinced that the diagnosis is right. The psychologist described me as an underachiever. During elementary school and high school, I have barely ever done any homework or put much effort in, and still did very well. When I was around 7-8 years old, I was interview by a child psychologist, because the teachers found me to be non-ordinary. I behaved differently, did not follow instructions, seemed bored, didn't care about school etc... The child psychologist reported that I was highly intelligent, and that it would explain my behavior. I have also always had this feeling myself. However, in recent years I often feel like this doesn't apply so much anymore. Like I haven't really developed much as I progressed in age. Like my intelligence has diminished as I grew older. I occasionally doubt if it's true. Because the pills doesn't really seem affect me much, I ask myself questions like "do I really have trouble focusing or am I just not that smart" or "if I'm in fact just lazy and don't have ADD". I sometimes feel like I don't know who I am.
How did you guys react to medication, and do you sometimes doubt your diagnosis as well? Did you try many different drugs before you found the effective one? I wonder if anyone has had similar thoughts and how you coped with it. | 2021-12-10T17:02:24.000Z | rdd5sd | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Doubting my diagnosis and not feeling medication | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdd5sd/doubting_my_diagnosis_and_not_feeling_medication/ |
No-Geologist-8160 | My husband refers to me as SquirrelFish. Because I'm easily distracted like Doug the dog in Up and I can't remember anything, like a goldfish.
He gave me a squirrel and a fish Christmas ornament this year. At first I was a little peeved but then he was like no, I love you just the way you are not in spite of being a SquirrelFish.
He is the best. That's all. | 2021-12-10T17:02:13.000Z | rdd5mp | 5 | 2 | ADHD | SquirrelFish | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdd5mp/squirrelfish/ |
AHEMCOUGHHH | So throughout my life my ADHD has made relationships really hard, I can be really into someone and the next day poof it’s as if my brain wants nothing more to do with them and it’s a draining process. I’m such a loving person and my brain makes me feel like I’ll never find it. Things have been going good with this girl and I really like her but I’m starting to have fears and doubts of how long things will be, I try to take it one day at a time but with ADHD idk what my mind is bound to do | 2021-12-10T16:57:02.000Z | rdd11e | 3 | 1 | ADHD | I’m scared it’ll happen again | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdd11e/im_scared_itll_happen_again/ |
nanocyte | [removed] | 2021-12-10T16:56:21.000Z | rdd0ig | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anyone had problems with Camber (mfg) Adderall? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdd0ig/has_anyone_had_problems_with_camber_mfg_adderall/ |
90sbaby414 | Does anyone experience this? I know I have an important meeting, presentation, etc. coming up soon. Of course my inner monolog never turns off, so I constantly think of really amazing things to say typically while driving, so I can't immediately write it down. Then I forget what I wanted to say by the time I am near writing materials. Eventually, I cross my fingers and hope for the best. | 2021-12-10T16:55:42.000Z | rdd000 | 49 | 195 | ADHD | What did I want to say? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdd000/what_did_i_want_to_say/ |
julieandshoj | Hi! I am f/32 and have adhd and just realized another way it affects me. When I have parties or am in big groups, I get so overwhelmed. Especially if it’s a party for me— I get overly excited. I can’t focus on one conversation with everything else going on around me. I then impulsively drink more than I want to and am super frenetic and can’t relax. I’ve often ended up leaving my own parties early because I get too drunk! I don’t drink a lot in general but groups really trigger my impulsivity. Does anyone else relate? | 2021-12-10T16:54:40.000Z | rdcz5i | 5 | 4 | ADHD | Parties are overwhelming | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdcz5i/parties_are_overwhelming/ |
FinalPushGG | Im finding on the original site a diagnosis is around 360 uk pounds. I have tried, and tried, and tried again via nhs and right to chose but all the gps in my area are malicious or unhelpful.
I couldn't go private because last time i checked the diagnosis was 800 pounds, then 100 each month for meds.
Now with these prices it seems more affordable , but i want to know all that is to it.
Do i need any follow up appointments? Any hidden costs? Is it really possible to get my diagnosis for ubder 400 uk pounds? Or will i need to cough up more in the process.
Can anyone whos been recently diagnosed by psychiatry uk via private share their knowledge please? | 2021-12-10T16:54:17.000Z | rdcyue | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Did psychiatry uk lower its prices? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdcyue/did_psychiatry_uk_lower_its_prices/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-10T16:53:57.000Z | rdcyks | 9 | 1 | ADHD | (23M) Could I get some advice on my Vyvanse prescription | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdcyks/23m_could_i_get_some_advice_on_my_vyvanse/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-10T16:32:16.000Z | rdchgx | 4 | 2 | ADHD | I’m too scared to tell my parents I might have ADHD | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdchgx/im_too_scared_to_tell_my_parents_i_might_have_adhd/ |
throwtheways77 | I got this term from Rebecca Jay on YT. It’s when you feel like you can’t do anything all day because you have one big thing you need to do. I always get stressed out before work if I work closing shift because I’ll feel like I’m just in “waiting mode” all day and like I can’t do anything until I go to work and then after work. Sometimes I even feel it (not as much though) while waiting for the day to end as I work the next day. Is there a way to deal with this? | 2021-12-10T16:29:56.000Z | rdcfjh | 22 | 9 | ADHD | How to deal with “event paralysis”? | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdcfjh/how_to_deal_with_event_paralysis/ |
treverglitching | [removed] | 2021-12-10T16:20:55.000Z | rdc8j1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Ceebration | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdc8j1/ceebration/ |
femmetastic | I’m almost 30, and recently diagnosed with ADHD (I’m a woman and got stuck with a bipolar label in my late teens, it’s a long story but it’s currently very annoying.) I have never, ever been on ADHD meds before this, save for Wellbutrin, which I know can help, and is the only antidepressant that helps me with my depression at all, but does nothing for my ADHD.
I finally got strattera prescribed. I was told it would take about 4 weeks to work. I took my first dose this morning. It took about 90 minutes but…y’all. It was like it flicked a switch. Not perfectly, but like…it was like I had a bunch of TV static bouncing around in my brain and…it just turned the “noise” off. I know I sound crazy but that’s the only way I could think to describe it.
Is this a placebo effect for sure, or can it happen this quick? Because if it’s a real thing, I am a fan. | 2021-12-10T16:19:14.000Z | rdc76e | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Does strattera ever help right away? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdc76e/does_strattera_ever_help_right_away/ |
Elvis_Macaroni | Hi, I'm looking for a more scientific or academic book on ADHD. Perhaps something used in psychology coursework or in the medical community. I'm recently diagnosed, and feel like I could better understand myself if I had a more in-depth knowledge of how this condition actually affects the brain and the changes therein.
When I see something like, "ADHD causes impairment in executive function" or "dopamine levels are affected", I understand that and relate to it. But I'd like to find something that can explain to me what is happening in the brain more specifically.
I used the search function on the sub, but I mostly saw the same books I see on Amazon. These are books more about coping with the disorder or guides on living with it, raising children with it, being married with it, etc. These kinds of books are great and helpful to many people including myself, but not what I'm looking for at this moment.
Can anyone assist me by recommending a book detailing the neurology or medical history and science behind ADHD? | 2021-12-10T16:18:16.000Z | rdc6g9 | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Scientific or Academic books on ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdc6g9/scientific_or_academic_books_on_adhd/ |
mindfullyselfish | [removed] | 2021-12-10T16:15:17.000Z | rdc443 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Just one of those days that you feel so mad at yourself and also sad and guilty that you can’t do the simple task everyone else does :( | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdc443/just_one_of_those_days_that_you_feel_so_mad_at/ |
moccoo | [removed] | 2021-12-10T16:13:07.000Z | rdc2dp | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Got diagnosed with mild ADHD and anxiety today, and I don't know how I feel about it.. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdc2dp/got_diagnosed_with_mild_adhd_and_anxiety_today/ |
onetimeoutoften | Hi all. I’ve recently been diagnosed with inattentive type ADHD after years of feeling unheard. I took adderall once or twice in college as a study drug (unsure of dosage) but felt completely at peace and relaxed. This had me very excited to get my diagnosis and prescription.
However, after taking my first dose this morning, I am not feeling well at all. I was started on 20mg, and was not instructed to start with a lower dose and work my way up. My heart beat has been in the 100s, I am feeling incredibly anxious, jittery, experiencing nausea, panic, and certainly not able to focus.
Is this a normal way to feel? From scrubbing through Reddit post, it seems most people start around 5-10mg and work their way up. I feel my doctor did not prepare me for this. I have been really looking forward to feeling normal on this medicine but am currently feeling anything but. I’m hoping it’s just because I took way too high a dosage to start with.
Mainly looking for an advice or comfort. Thanks for reading :) | 2021-12-10T16:11:12.000Z | rdc0u7 | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Just took my first dose of Adderall— not feeling super great. Any advise? | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdc0u7/just_took_my_first_dose_of_adderall_not_feeling/ |
Pleasant_Objective | [removed] | 2021-12-10T16:07:51.000Z | rdby3q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to break inertia & get out the door multiple times a day | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdby3q/how_to_break_inertia_get_out_the_door_multiple/ |
ThunderJohnny | [removed] | 2021-12-10T16:01:50.000Z | rdbtef | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Did uh... Anyone else forget to eat breakfast today? Or was it just me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdbtef/did_uh_anyone_else_forget_to_eat_breakfast_today/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-10T16:01:19.000Z | rdbsz6 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | My head is stuck in the sand. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdbsz6/my_head_is_stuck_in_the_sand/ |
juststarlighthere | I've realized that NTs tend to think along the lines of..."other people would be late, why come early?", "why be the first to be there"
I know it's often said that ADHDer are always late, but I've found that I'm very time concious which places me in time for appointments. I hate when my anxiety makes me keep to time, then I get there and find people coming extra late, because of the said mindset above.
Am I onto something with this realization or I'm just surrounded ...idk what to call people who do this?
My thought pattern is all over the place. Pardon me. | 2021-12-10T15:56:09.000Z | rdbop2 | 20 | 70 | ADHD | I've realized NTs don't keep to time. Is being intentionally late a social construct I'm just figuring out? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdbop2/ive_realized_nts_dont_keep_to_time_is_being/ |
-slow_sloth- | Do you know the feeling when you have so much stuff to do and you just can't seem to find the right order? I create escalations lists for myself where I rate the items after three aspects: importance, time sensitivity and simplicity. To make deciding for the right order easier I made an excel tool to automate the sorting. I just have to enter what exactly I need to do and then rate each item according to the above aspects on a scale of one to five. Excel then calculates the "right" order based on my input. (importance: factor one; time sensitivity: factor three; simplicity: factor five – I chose these factors because I think most of the time you'll want to do the easiest things first, just to get going. And time sensitive tasks are in most cases higher priority than things than can get done later.)
After entering your data you can sort by highest to lowest score by clicking on the sort/filter icon next to "score" and then choosing Z to A, to have your stuff sorted from what is to do first to what is to do last. You can also sort by Alphabet (first column, which is probably useless unless you have a really long list), or ascending/descending by importance, time sensitivity or simplicity.
Linking to my version of this tool on Google seems to be forbidden as it's supposed to be self promotion, I guess...? But in case anybody would like to do it themselves (or just use my idea as inspiration and make something better out of it xD), here's how I did mine (including a screenshot to make it easier to explain and understand and hoping this won't get deleted):
I first set up a table like shown in the picture and then used the following formular to calculate the score: importance + (time sensitivity \* 3) + (simplicity \* 5) So cell E4 contains "=B4+(C4\*3)+(D4\*5)". I then added a filter to each of the columns.
So obviously anyone who ever worked only a tiny bit using excel knows, this can be done in two minutes and is nothing fancy at all; it could probably even be improved pretty easily. For me it does its job, but if you have any ideas to make it better, please share them here. :)
[https://up.picr.de/42604267jw.png](https://up.picr.de/42604267jw.png)
TLDR; in this post I explain how to use excel to sort your to do list; look at the screenshot – cell E4 contains "=B4+(C4\*3)+(D4\*5)" – use filters to sort by score | 2021-12-10T15:55:06.000Z | rdbnyr | 1 | 2 | ADHD | How to make a rudimentary excel tool to sort/prioritize your to do lists | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdbnyr/how_to_make_a_rudimentary_excel_tool_to/ |
socialskills100 | I (21/22) was just diagnosed with ADHD and am on meds. Best thing in the world. My brother (19) was diagnosed as a kid, and is off meds because of the typical kid experience with ADHD meds. I do believe my mom has undiagnosed ADHD as well.
I am finally able to have somewhat decent conversations with my brother. He’s a grade A asshole, so most of these conversations are me listening and asking therapy questions to be honest. To not set him off. He complained about how our mom doesn’t trust him and I carefully asked if he feels he did anything to deserve that assumption. Surprisingly, he did.
It has to do with the emotional intelligence I’ve gotten after my diagnosis and the pills also helping regulate my moods. I’m much better at communicating. He does however not know I have ADHD as I fear he’ll bully me with it. It’s very likely. They’re both impossible to reason with when they’re upset.
We are both sick and tired of our mom, just as she is of us. It’s very understandable that she’s frustrated and stressed. She gets up at 4am, home at 4pm, cleans, cooks, walks the dog and is under financial stress. She is emotionally abusive though. One time she gave me the cold shoulder for 2 weeks cause I asked her not to use the n-word around me. Just an example. It’s just a really bad family dynamic. There’s also a clear difference in treatment according to gender…
The issue is that she never asks us to help. With ADHD, we simply don’t see the mess. And if I left a pan out, she’ll flip at my brother. And opposite, cause it’s no confrontation for her that way. We’ve told her so many times: PLEASE ASK US TO HELP.
I’ve helped financially a LOT, and I try my best to walk the dog and clean up after me as those are the biggest stress factors. Meanwhile my brother spends all his money so he can’t afford to pay her rent. I usually loan her up to 250$ a month, and pay her 300$ for monthly expenses. Sometimes it’s just hard for me to be doing all of this and then seeing her poor little baby (brother) gaming all day and night with no responsibilities. He always gets a free pass. The whole family gossips about her treating of him behind her back, so I know it’s not something I made up.
Well he opened up the conversation today and I told him that if we relieved some of her stress, her moods would be a smaller issue. I suggested a chore sheet. He was on the fence but eventually agreed but said he couldn’t focus on it right now.
That’s fair, me neither.
My question is, is it better if I make the chore sheet? Or should he be involved? How can I help him remember and hold him accountable in a positive way?
My idea was that they walk the dog 2 days a week and then I would take 3 days. Brother cooks because he loves it and my mom and I don’t really eat. Mom handles the laundry because my brother and I always confuse the washing machine buttons anyway. I’m looking for a last chore for me, but I do handle the dog grooming all on my own which is really exhausting. I cut her hair with scissors cause the dog groomer traumatised her. Takes a whole week. I wash her, I cut her nails, I cut the hairs around her butthole and her bangs. I’ve begun cleaning around the house myself on days off too and I help with grocery shopping.
Long post, are you still with me? I know I’m far from perfect, I’m doing my best to learn. What I really need to do is move out but I live in the 5th most expensive country. It’s also impossible to get an apartment! Could be another 3 years, it’s very, very depressing.
I’m more hopeful if I can get the selfish douche bag on board with this lol. He does seem to be getting a bit more mature and reasonable. Its been a year since he almost beat me and my mom nearly called the cops.
It’s hard to put all the responsibilities on my own shoulders. I also work 40-45 hours a week.
Oof I realise how the tone of this post sounds. I’m just so exhausted because I genuinely try my best to keep the peace here, I end up as the scapegoat though.
Any advice? A worksheet that works? I’m a little desperate. I’m seeing an ADHD psychologist in January though | 2021-12-10T15:47:18.000Z | rdbhzr | 1 | 2 | ADHD | How to make a chore sheet work in an ADHD family off of meds? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdbhzr/how_to_make_a_chore_sheet_work_in_an_adhd_family/ |
OrangeFreeman | So let's say I have a meeting at 6 PM, which means I'll be physically impaired to do anything but mentally prepare for the meeting.
I can't work either, I can't just sit for 1 hour to work and then switch to something else, and when I'm done I can get back to work. I would have to do the entirety of work in one sitting otherwise I'll get distracted and then no way in hell I'll be able to bring myself back to work. I either hyperfocus or don't focus at all.
And I'm mentally overwhelmed by the future event that I can't focus on anything else anyway. Even though the event itself takes maybe 2-3 hours of my day.
How do you guys deal with that? I really want to get a dog, but if a small task that takes me an hour or two to do exhausts me, how in the world am I gonna be able to function with a dog? Any tips? | 2021-12-10T15:45:10.000Z | rdbgd3 | 19 | 139 | ADHD | If I have plans for the evening, the rest of the day is wasted | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdbgd3/if_i_have_plans_for_the_evening_the_rest_of_the/ |
xuskoiys | I was supposed to have an appointment with my doctor today to extend my sick leave and adjust my meds. Received a text message from another doctor at 8 where she let me know my appointment was cancelled, but she would get back to me later in the day.
Now, almost 9 hours later, I’m still stuck with my phone in waiting mode even though I know she won’t call me today. I guess I’ll just sit here and wait then. | 2021-12-10T15:45:04.000Z | rdbga4 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Stuck in waiting mode | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdbga4/stuck_in_waiting_mode/ |
sonowyoutellme | Seriously, since I got diagnosed a couple a. Month back my life seems to make a bit more sense (m44). However, it still sucks so I need to vent.
I wanted to go hunting today. Well not only did I look for my car keys for 40min as they weren’t there where I put them…..obviously.
Once I finally found them I packed all my gear to go out to the woods only to find out I left my winter coat and ammo at home. I mean it’s around freezing and snowy and I forget the most two important things (besides my gun(I left that one at home too before.
I hate hearing things like
- that’s so topically you
- that only can happen to you…..
Doesn’t help my ruined day out.
Oh and just to top it all off I banged my shin while rushing out so that it bled. At least I also know now thanks to this sub that clumsiness comes with the whole package. | 2021-12-10T15:40:25.000Z | rdbcq9 | 8 | 4 | ADHD | I went hunting with no winter jacket and no bullets….. | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdbcq9/i_went_hunting_with_no_winter_jacket_and_no/ |
Accomplished-Drag-52 | Hear me out. While it might look like an out of sight, out of mind tactic, it isn't fully.
By making a DMZ Folder, you can contain your chaos for management.
Most emails more than a year old are generally obsolete but in the event that somebody asks you to dig one up, just go to the DMZ Folder and compartmentalise it.
As your now empty LIVE INBOX updates, you now have ample time at the end of every workday/at lunchtime to manageably delete emails as they come in.
In the meantime, you can slowly clear out the DMZ Folder when you find the time.
With a zeroed inbox you can also unsubscribe from those pesky marketing emails as they come in allowing for even more mail peace of mind.
It has change my workday. :) | 2021-12-10T15:30:43.000Z | rdb5bk | 1 | 1 | ADHD | FELLOW SCATTERBRAINS: Create a DMZ Folder for your overflowing work inbox 🙂 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdb5bk/fellow_scatterbrains_create_a_dmz_folder_for_your/ |
LauraSomeNumber | Hey guys I got my diagnosis in November and started out on one 18mg tablet for a week and went to my full dose of 36mg after a week. In the beginning I was using up my pack of 18mg tablet so I was just taking 2x18 every morning and I felt it was working well about five days ago I used up the 18mg tablets and went on to the pack of 36mg I hand ready.
It's the same dose at the same time, but it is basically not working at all after changing to the one pill.
Has anyone experienced that taking 1x36 vs. 2x18 doesn't work as well? | 2021-12-10T15:30:16.000Z | rdb4vl | 3 | 1 | ADHD | 1x36 vs. 2x18 Concerta | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdb4vl/1x36_vs_2x18_concerta/ |
Curious-Leg2486 | Hey everyone!!!
Today I'm in mood, and decided to ask help and advise from my favorite community reddit ADHD!!
I'm not diagnosed yet, even if my right now situation made me like this I think, I have to ask this from ppl who allways struggled with these symptoms, although I had symptoms of my chilhood, like dictation and such things...
As reading some posts and comments ppl have suggested to have routine, it help too much. I want to planning and make routines. I know planning doesn't work bc I exprienced it but I think if I write for example in a week in Tuesdays I can put my doctor meetings in specific time then I will have less stress and I can don't think about it whole week. I want to, for this kind of things, one hour before and after the meeting time free for perparing and resting.
I want you say me if is it a good idea? Do u have any suggestion? How you plan for your life.
I realy need to organize my life bc as an university student it's horrible. I couldn't study!! | 2021-12-10T15:29:46.000Z | rdb4id | 6 | 0 | ADHD | I need advices and help please | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdb4id/i_need_advices_and_help_please/ |
sticknweave | I noticed something about myself today, a part of me is worried ill forget - I'll forget to google this thing or watch this video unless I do it right now. So I bounce all over the joint. Have to learn to have more faith in my ability to remember, and not worry about keeping the thought in my head while I do something else. | 2021-12-10T15:25:00.000Z | rdb0xv | 2 | 4 | ADHD | A quick note about getting distrac- | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdb0xv/a_quick_note_about_getting_distrac/ |
nerdcorner | I know that motivation is not the answer, discipline is. But how do I begin to cultivate it (again)?
IDK y'all, I've been struggling lately. I'm in my final leg of my dissertation maybe I have ~ 6-7 more months on my side. I feel like I was so driven and on top of things even a few years back in mid-20s. I was so disciplined, be it exercise, eating right or emails...I was hungry for it. I've been struggling the last year. Its easy for me to blame it on covid--- but I know its not. I also know that its not depression, anxiety, or burnouts (I take weekend breaks and holidays)
As an academic, a lot of our work is self-motivated where we set my own milestones, goals etc. I actual love my work, my field and plan on staying in academia. I do weekly check-ins with my advisor, and for the past few months I waste my time on the other days and so I'm always cramming to get work done just to get by those meetings. I just lie on bed scrolling for hours in the morning. I have little motivation to go to my workplace at times. And b/c its covid, no one really bats an eye. I also live on my own (no partners, family, or pets).
For people who are/ were in my position. How do you do it? How do you show up to the grind every day? How did you get back that discipline? I'm struggling to cultivate discipline. I've read all the self-help books, small habits blah blah. But *big sigh" energy.
TL:DR: How to start giving more fucks so that I'm motivated enough to be disciplined?
Please note: I do not have ADD (or at least not diagnosed). I posted this on another forum and someone recommended that I seek advice here as more of you may know how to manage it, or have tips and tricks up your sleeve to help manage it? | 2021-12-10T15:21:17.000Z | rday4t | 4 | 1 | ADHD | How to give enough f**ks to be motivates enough to be disciplined? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rday4t/how_to_give_enough_fks_to_be_motivates_enough_to/ |
BradleyE2011 | [removed] | 2021-12-10T15:16:41.000Z | rdaupm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Take a listen my fellow inattentive friends. 🙂 | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdaupm/take_a_listen_my_fellow_inattentive_friends/ |
Usurpist | Ok so first of all I'm going try to organize this in the most ADHD friendly way so if you're here looking for a solution to a specific problem you can find it and it's not just a wall of text
Secondly a caveat:
ADHD is by no means one size fits all so what works for me may not work for you but I do recommend trying these.
Some background:
I've struggled with ADHD a good amount in my life and throughout high school and undergrad I struggled with prioritization, organization, allowing games to consume my life (need dopamine), finding the right medication etc. But now I am 26, in grad school, married with a kid and one on the way, getting straight As for the first time in college and feeling like I've gotten a good handle on what I need to succeed and I want to pass that on to anyone else I can.
#1. MEDICATION
Finding a good medication for you is one of the most important things in our society today.
Medication is different for everyone, be wary of side affects that you don't expect and taking too much, I was on Adderall for a long time and it made me hyperfocus on things that I should not have hyperfocuses on and it drove my libido to unhealthy levels (rare side affect). now I'm on Strattera and have found it's exactly what I need mixed with a little caffeine.
Keep your meds by your bed with a water bottle and take it first thing in the morning. Also have one of those metal things attached to your keys that you can keep meds in just in case you forget it. (Yes you will need it, no I don't wanna hear it)
#2. CAFFEINE
I've seen anecdotes all over the board when it comes to caffeine helps some harm's others, but I'll tell you my personal experiences with it.
-Caffeine with no medication / empty stomach
Bad idea. Gives me EVERY anxiety, makes me jumpy and pissy. On Adderall it wasnt a good pair but on Strattera it works great Helps me have the energy and inspiration I need to accomplish the work I need to get done. Especially when I inevitably stayed up too late the previous night.
#3. SLEEP
don't take these too late in the day:
Adderall
Caffine
Don't count sheep allow your brain to wander and allow your imagination to just create visual shapes and wisps and let it just blend into the different shapes it wants. Don't let your brain think about real world things or work.
#4. WORK
this one really depends on your stage in life and your responsibilities so I'll break it down
#4.1 MIDDLE SCHOOL
You're not stupid. You're not lazy. You're not a freak. (Well maybe but theres a good reason for it don't be ashamed) There is an explanation. YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED DIFFERENTLY. Science hasn't nailed down excact causes but you are SHORT ON DOPAMINE. That means you want to exercise anything in your power to get that back wether that means
- doing wildly dangerous things
- constantly playing video games
- pissing your parents / teachers off for that sweet sweet DOPAMINE (sorry dad)
I highly highly recommend sports. Even if you're not competitive or athletic. It occupies you and gives you something to look forward to, gives you attainable goals and a schedule and fights back gaining pounds (PEOPLE WITH ADHD ARE 4X MORE LIKELY TO BE OBESE)
#4.2 HIGH SCHOOL
High School is easy until it's not
The concepts are easy, you can do the work, its a low difficulty bar conceptually
But doing the work is HARD. *SO BORING* feels pointless and uninteresting for subjects that don't inspire you
Yeah. Been there. Take your meds go to a quiet place where you know you will be undisturbed for a few hours.
Not mention forgetting assignments keys, dates, names etc
Keep a planner (I know you hate it but listen) in school as stuff gets assigned write it down in the planner on the day you would have time to do it. Do that every time something is assigned without fail.
**Set an alarm on your phone to check the planner at a specific time every day.** this is the most important part, otherwise you might as well be throwing away pencil lead instead of writing things down
#4.3 COLLEGE
don't be surprised when suddenly you have to actually put in work to understand concepts, especially in any STEM related field. You WILL suddenly have to put in time to do work outside of class.
#WORK ENVIRONMENT
Is the number one most important thing for being successful in school, you need to find a place away from distractions that you can be for at least four hours at a time. I have two or three days a week set aside for just studying. I go to my university library find a quite place and I'm there the entire day.
**dont spread yourself too thin**
For ADHD I don't recommend working while in school. It's easy to get overwhelmed and depressed going to uni full time and working part time. Then you drop out and hate yourself. As annoying as it is I recommend just using those loan dollars (or bank of dad if your family is generous and well off) to pay for housing / essentials.
Go into a field that you're passionate about and makes money
Hard to find I know
Take a bunch of gen eds. Find what you like and if it's in a profitable field pursue it.
If you hate school then don't do it, try a trade school instead.
#With ADHD you HAVE to be passionate about a thing to do it long term
#4.3 PROFESSIONAL WORK
I don't have much to say about this. I did customer service for 7 years and it was fine. Take your meds. I went back school to do something with my life I actually cared about.
#5. DEPRESSION
ADHD can lead to depression very easily
From doing too much
From doing too little
Feeling like a failure
Feeling like you're too much
Feeling like you allow pointless things to dominate your life too much
Yes. It's hard. You have to find a happy medium, you probably need to have less on your plate than the average person. But still enough that it's challenging and interesting. Finding what that is for you personally is hard because it has to be fine tuned, but it's essential.
#6. ODDS, ENDS AND EDITS
-keep only specific things in your pockets, keys wallet phone that's it. Check to make sure they're there constantly, and when you forget check again. If you don't have one, drop everything and get it.
Don't put more stuff in your pockets you'll forget it's there, and it's going to be a pen and you'll have ink stains everywhere after the wash
I'm going to go study for exams now so I probably won't be able to respond much | 2021-12-10T15:16:00.000Z | rdau84 | 4 | 5 | ADHD | Some Strategies I've Developed for Managing a Life with ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdau84/some_strategies_ive_developed_for_managing_a_life/ |
TheBakery1999 |
I was diagnosed with ASD in 2020 (having never suspected of even heard of autism prior to the diagnosis) I’m now being assessed for ADHD with Healios.
The clinician that diagnosed me with ASD was from another company and specialised in diagnosing women/girls. I’m worried that if I do have ADHD it won’t be spotted if Healios isn’t familiar with the female presentation.
I know absolutely nothing about ADHD aside from women tend to be inattentive; all I know about inattentive is that they tend to be more spacey than hyper (I’m aware it’s not as simplistic as that, I just have no knowledge of ADHD other than (like asd) women present differently.) I honestly don’t know if I also have ADHD, I’ve never considered it since I know nothing about it, but I’ve been recommended to pursue this assessment as ASD and ADHD ‘go hand in hand’.
Experience/ opinions on working with Healios on an ADHD assessment after having an ASD diagnosis? Are they good at spotting ADHD in women?
I’m a bit anxious and would appreciate some feedback on this company, thank you all. I’m sorry if this isn’t the right place to ask about this, if anyone feels that I’m invading their space please let me know and I’ll take down my post. The reason I’m asking here is because some of you may have worked with this company.
(*Note*: I don’t plan on researching ADHD as I want the assessment to be as fair as possible, I’d be grateful if you could not comment on ADHD symptoms in women/ in women with ASD. Thank you so much.) | 2021-12-10T15:15:43.000Z | rdau0n | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Opinions on Healios for a co-morbid ADHD assessment? (After having an ASD diagnosis.) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdau0n/opinions_on_healios_for_a_comorbid_adhd/ |
TheBakery1999 | [removed] | 2021-12-10T15:14:03.000Z | rdasqc | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Has anybody worked with Healios for a co-morbid ADHD assessment? (After having an ASD diagnosis.) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdasqc/has_anybody_worked_with_healios_for_a_comorbid/ |
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EstimateMany1722 | I got diagnosed a year ago with adhd when I was 18. It was the best that have ever happened to me. Yesterday, one of my psychiatrists asked me if I ever got tested with autism, because she sees signs of that. I do not know anyone with both diagnoses, and thought that they were nothing alike. I have been reading about autism now, and to be honest I see quite a lot of symptoms in my own life. Does anyone in here have both?I will go to my doctor and get tested, I just have never really heard about people having both diagnoses, and I am so confused about everything. I am curious to hear about others that have been in the same situation as me... | 2021-12-10T14:58:25.000Z | rdagms | 7 | 4 | ADHD | ADHD AND autism? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdagms/adhd_and_autism/ |
c130 | I found an app for memorising stuff (Anki / Ankidroid) and it works insanely well - I'm studying horticulture so using it to learn Latin plant names. I've never been able to memorise anything before & highly recommend it.
But I've noticed a thing. When I'm doing Anki cards while out walking the dog, they're effortless. I make one or two mistakes then it's glued into my brain.
But as soon as I get home and sit down, or try to do it on the sofa / at my computer / in bed, it's fucking impossible to recall anything, and my memory doesn't last 2 seconds after I look at the answer.
It switches from effortless to impossible when I sit down and take my boots off. Like, instantly. Now I've noticed, I get to watch it happen like some Flowers for Algernon shit.
The dog has been getting long walks recently. | 2021-12-10T14:54:23.000Z | rdadpn | 6 | 17 | ADHD | My memory works differently when I'm out walking than sitting at home. | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdadpn/my_memory_works_differently_when_im_out_walking/ |
spelunkilingus | I'm looking for maybe a unicorn in the watch category. I need a watch that can be set to vibrate every 10 minutes or so for my daughter whom has adhd but probably won't start meds until next month. She'd also like a pulse monitor for her anxiety issues. I can't seem to find anything that combines those two, but then I know nothing about today's watches. I was tempted to get that Pavlok shock watch for her though 🤣. | 2021-12-10T14:52:06.000Z | rdac0o | 6 | 2 | ADHD | A vibrating alarm watch...with health tracker? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdac0o/a_vibrating_alarm_watchwith_health_tracker/ |
PeepShowZootSuits | As title says, I had my first part of the evaluation. JFC getting those questionnaires done was like pulling teeth - 400+ questions I think. I think because this first interview was so short it's hard to know much until the interview/test next week. She asked about 5/6 questions about experiences as a kid and current issues. Although I answered about having memory issues/procrastination, following through with stuff etc I am swinging constantly in my head between, well, I'm 90% sure I will be diagnosed with ADHD and wtf am I doing, you obviously don't have ADHD and you really are just a lazy useless pos. Because of the time of year I won't get any results til the new year, so that's going to be a rollercoaster time. | 2021-12-10T14:51:57.000Z | rdabwy | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Had intake zoom interview | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdabwy/had_intake_zoom_interview/ |
TheNameIsMarty | I'm really not sure how to put this in a way that doesn't downplay anyone, but I *personally* can't be proud of myself for small things
It's just, something that *has* to be done, right? I can't be prideful of something that is not, in a way, personal achievement
Like hell, I got into Uni, it's the big thing, woo, you did it, but like, so did everyone else here? Isn't it like, something most people do? or atleast not that big of a deal because there's so many others here with me?
I'm supposed to be proud I went through years of mental suffering in High school? I just, what?
Meanwhile, I still think about a philosophy essay I wrote like a year back that I got commended on, being proud for actually doing something that was, me, I guess
Same kind of deal with 'gratitude', being grateful for small things or just the way you exist
I just, don't get it, | 2021-12-10T14:50:20.000Z | rdaatv | 8 | 2 | ADHD | How am I supposed to be proud of cleaning my damn room? (Not trying to undermine anyone) | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdaatv/how_am_i_supposed_to_be_proud_of_cleaning_my_damn/ |
InitialPeaceBanana | AND I CAN'T FUCKING REMEMBER WHAT HAPPENS IN THE BOOKS OR FANFICTION THAT I READ EXCEPT THAT THEY WERE SOMEWHERE IN THE RANGE OF AWFUL-GODLIKE.
I will finish reading a story and be able to tell you a 2 sentence summary and maybe a couple **major** events that took place.
It's the journey, not the destination, yadadada, but come on! I immersed myself in a world of fantasy for 16 hours straight and I loved every minute of it! Why can't I share my joy with others instead of awkwardly stumbling over my words trying to put together a basic plot outline? | 2021-12-10T14:49:26.000Z | rdaa4j | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Reading has been my greatest passion since I gained the ability to do so. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rdaa4j/reading_has_been_my_greatest_passion_since_i/ |
thefrogwholovesu | as the title says, i am 17 and not diagnosed with adhd. ive only ever felt like i have it because i relate so so much with those who do in fact, have adhd. especially here, on reddit. ive seen people discuss what issues they have and what they struggle with and ive finally started feeling like im not as useless and stupid as my parents believe me to be.
but even so...as much as i dont show it, i constantly think about whether I'M the one who's wrong. i say a lot about how toxic and dysfunctional my family is when i have to justify why i turned out like this. and even though i do show a lot many symptoms of adhd, sometimes i think i probably dont. coz like. what if its some sort of a confirmation bias, where ever since i started realizing i show a few symptoms of it... i immediately started pretending that i have it? like...on days when i dont pay attention to what im doing, i dont think i show any of the symptoms till i get conscious about it. ive taken quite a few tests and they all have suggested that there certainly are some indicators of dyspraxia but...what if thats not really the case? what if i'm only trying to make excuses and that i really am very stupid and lazy?
i dont really know myself anymore and i dont know what to do. i cant really tell my parents about this because they'd think i'm crazy, they've already been threatening me aout throwing me into a mental asylum if i'm too disobedient. i've talked to my sister about this, she too was hesitant at first but now she thinks she might have it too, and i wont be surprised if that were the case.
i really would like to get diagnosed but, is there a way to get that done without having to involve parents? | 2021-12-10T14:48:31.000Z | rda9go | 3 | 1 | ADHD | I am not diagnosed, and now I feel like I'm a fraud. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rda9go/i_am_not_diagnosed_and_now_i_feel_like_im_a_fraud/ |
Denneyluke | Im super into music. Not making music (I have no musical talent lol) but listing to music. I found that some music just helps me focus a substantially alot more than other songs. Idk if that’s just a normal thing or ADHD thing but I find it interesting that some songs just help me ignore all distractions. What music helps me focus are rappers who rap over lofi beats like Kota the Friend, hyperpop artist with glitchy or spacey beats like aldn, midwsxt, or glaive, and artist who can just create a space like surrounding just by their voice like 070 Shake, Kid Cudi, and Tyler the creator. If you love music id def check them out, even if their not ur style, because maybe it could work for you. And it’s fun exploring new art. Also what are some artist y’all listen to that help you focus. I’d love to add more to my study playlist | 2021-12-10T14:44:38.000Z | rda6m4 | 37 | 9 | ADHD | What music y’all listen to help you focus | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rda6m4/what_music_yall_listen_to_help_you_focus/ |
MSmarksalot | Hi everyone, I'm new to this community and new to ADHD. After lifting the weight of crippling anxiety through therapy, my therapist and I discovered something...else underneath. It looks like inattentiveness/forgetfulness, and sounds like rejection dysphoria, but also leaves a trail of hobbies I obsess over then forget about. In my short time here on this sub I have found so much validation for some of the things I'm experiencing.
In January I will go have a psychiatric evaluation for ADHD and I am very nervous about what to expect from that visit and the tests for diagnosis. I feel confident that I'm on the right path, but fear of the unknown is the downside.
Beyond saying "hi *awkward wave* I'm new here," I would love to learn more about your experiences with diagnosis and any advice you might have for a newbie. | 2021-12-10T14:37:54.000Z | rda1hf | 2 | 3 | ADHD | On an ADHD Journey... | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rda1hf/on_an_adhd_journey/ |
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phoenixtears13 | Once, I slept over at a friend’s house and had plans with a different friend group that afternoon so I invited the host friend. I had to fend off an anxiety attack from the moment I invited her to the moment everyone parted ways.
I’ve never mixed friend groups even as a child and when it’d happen by accident or when they’d come together during my birthday party, I’d act like the class clown even though I’m reserved and shy.
Eventually, I stopped having birthday parties because I disliked mixing friend groups and letting “lower leveled” friends (aka not close enough for the vulnerability of sharing my home) into my house. | 2021-12-10T14:34:34.000Z | rd9z15 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | Is ‘gatekeeping’ their friend groups and strictly preventing them from mixing an ADHD thing? | 0.8 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9z15/is_gatekeeping_their_friend_groups_and_strictly/ |
Hisdoughnut | 18yr College First Adderall Experience
I was diagnosed after a computerized test I waited a month for by my phycologist.
I don’t remember much about the meeting other than I’m combined, can’t drink pop or smoke , that people can really keep there heads still down to the cm difference, and that I’m being medicated.
He started me off with 10 mg twice a day as needed.
My sleep schedule is bad rn so I wake up at 8pm and sleep at 10am.
Around 10pm I took my first 10mg after 2 hours I felt no difference,(I was working on a Engineering project in a study room to test it) I asked my buddy in pharm school if I can take another if I don’t feel anything and got the green light. At 12 I took my 2nd.
Within 75 minutes all the random thoughts that powered me were silent. I had 20% of the brain noise at that point. I didn’t notice the focus part,either because I expected more or other circumstances.
I had a few side effects; I would lick my teeth a lot,(every5-10 seconds),cutting my tongue in the process leaving a blood taste that caused more licking. I paced back and forth when up. I normally never do any of these things. I didn’t think this would be one but time passes fast even when working, 6 hours in and I didn’t even realize I was there an hour.
I go back to the Psych in a month. I may need a increase in dosage if I don’t see much effect from 1 10 mg and have to take both pills for a whole day. | 2021-12-10T14:33:03.000Z | rd9xy4 | 3 | 0 | ADHD | 18yr first time adderal Experience | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9xy4/18yr_first_time_adderal_experience/ |
Curious-Bit-6085 | Context: I'm 14 and in high school, and was diagnosed with ADHD and Anxiety at the start of the year and was applying for learning support through my school.
A couple of weeks ago, I was applying for learning support through my school, and I was having a meeting with a lady( I'll just call her Miss J) who worked in the learning support department about what would help improve my quality of learning in a classroom next year. When the meeting wrapped up, she told me to come down to the learning support room if I had any more questions about my learning profile.
I had then remembered after the meeting that I forgot to ask her If i could get permission to use my headphones in class while completing work, as it helped me focus, and everyone in class always talks while getting work done, which I always find highly distracting.
So, the next day, I went into the learning support office, where I told the lady at the front desk that I needed to speak to Miss J about a question I had. The lady then told me that Miss J wasn't here, but I could ask the head of learning support who was in her office at the time instead, to which I agreed,
I told the head lady my name and that I had a question regarding my learning profile, and she told me to come into the next room with her because apparently Miss J didn't fill out the information correctly. She then proceeded to spend the next 20 minutes asking me questions for my profile which were already on the page next to her. She asked me what medication I used, and I said Vyvanse, which she misspelled 3 times even after I told her how to spell it, but I was too shy to tell her it was wrong another time.
Finally, after re-completing my profile I was able to ask if I could have permission to use my headphones in class, and she said "Oh, no we don't usually do that for students, unless they have high level autism.". Um... what?
Then she went on and said: "Maybe instead, you should just sit at the front of the class, and just *learn* to focus with the noise around you." My blood was BOILING.
*Learn* to focus? Jeez, thanks, I didn't think of that one, I'll go tell all my doctors that I don't need my medications because all I need to do is *learn to focus.*
She then asked me if I had tried to stay organized by using a diary to plan all of my school work, which I had then told her that I've tried multiple times but it's never worked for me, and she ignored me and spent the next 20 minutes explaining to me HOW TO USE A DIARY. Like, no joke, told me I should write my classes down and then tick the homework off as I've done it. Thanks, genius.
She then said : "Oh, it says in your profile you also have anxiety. Well, we all have a bit of anxiety sometimes.". At this point, I was so upset, I was on the verge of tears.
Don't forget, this woman is the HEAD OF LEARNING SUPPORT. I asked around about her, and a couple of my friends have had some horrible experiences with her too. So much for trying to get the support I need, people like this just encourage kids like me to not reach out for support because we're faced with condescending pricks like this who invalidate all of our struggles and experiences. | 2021-12-10T14:32:32.000Z | rd9xij | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Really frustrated with adults who invalidate my struggles. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9xij/really_frustrated_with_adults_who_invalidate_my/ |
Jilly220 | Any of you realize that you're still really lazy physically on Adderall? Like I could do a research paper fine but cleaning? No. Lol. I wanted it so bad to help my laziness but it does not. I just sit here quietly basically don't wanna move though. What about you guys?? Trying to write more because of the character minimum but I can't think of anything else LOL. | 2021-12-10T14:31:40.000Z | rd9wvm | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Adderall only mental energy | 0.76 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9wvm/adderall_only_mental_energy/ |
Jilly220 | [removed] | 2021-12-10T14:30:47.000Z | rd9w8l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adderall no physical energy | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9w8l/adderall_no_physical_energy/ |
Jilly220 | [removed] | 2021-12-10T14:29:42.000Z | rd9vbr | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adderall all mental energy no physical | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9vbr/adderall_all_mental_energy_no_physical/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-10T14:26:47.000Z | rd9t65 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How do you guys keep a steady job? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9t65/how_do_you_guys_keep_a_steady_job/ |
Lereas | [removed] | 2021-12-10T14:24:49.000Z | rd9rqy | 1 | 1 | ADHD | My wife complained that I don't seem to talk with other dads at social events | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9rqy/my_wife_complained_that_i_dont_seem_to_talk_with/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-10T14:24:44.000Z | rd9rok | 1 | 1 | ADHD | TIL dextroamphetamine can also reduce motion sickness for some people | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9rok/til_dextroamphetamine_can_also_reduce_motion/ |
rndljfry | Hi all,
I hope you're having a lovely Friday.
As I'm looking for the pan to cook some eggs for breakfast, I brought the whole rack of pots and pans crashing down.
"Why?" you ask?
What am I going to do, slowly pull out the drawer and carefully take out the pot I need? Absolutely not. I'm going to reach for the one I think I want and just pull and hope for the best.
Anyway, have a great day y'all. | 2021-12-10T14:20:09.000Z | rd9oc2 | 74 | 388 | ADHD | So many disasters, so easily avoided, just pull the drawer all the way out! | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9oc2/so_many_disasters_so_easily_avoided_just_pull_the/ |
tbtillidie | [removed] | 2021-12-10T14:16:15.000Z | rd9lg9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Best online diagnosis for ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9lg9/best_online_diagnosis_for_adhd/ |
ForeverAddicted123 | A question to people who are working (not in college) .. How do you guys actually complete abstract tasks ?
Suppose you are given a task of implementing a new marketing strategy (just an example) . Breaking down the task might be easy but how do you ensure that each sub task gets done on time and hence ensure the whole project is not delayed ?
I have 10 subtasks but I just start procrastinating in the middle of task 2 and hence a lot of times miss the deadline and submit not so good work and that too delayed .
College deadlines were easier cause it would be straight and to the point . Work deadlines have a lot of subtasks and don't have proper deadlines for each subtask
Cause of missing work deadlines , my whole mental space is occupied with work and I cant do any personal works like bank related work and tax filing . | 2021-12-10T14:15:44.000Z | rd9l3w | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Procrastination at work even with meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9l3w/procrastination_at_work_even_with_meds/ |
Dschinn_ | Kinda stupid question, I am aware... I am just wondering whether I should try out Vyvanse (Elvanse) since I am on Medikinet XL (German stimulant, like Ritalin) and it currently feels as if it is just a better coffee. I am more awake which is actually helpful for getting stuff done but I feel as though it is not really working like it should be.
There are only Ritalin XL, Medikinet XL (which is like Ritalin with a different release curve) and Vyvanse available for adults.
My doctor is really reluctant to prescribe Vyvanse (and I don't know why). He seems to be only willing to do it if I felt no effect from Medikinet, like literally no effect. I tried to convince him that Medikinet didn't do enough for me but then he was like "it's never going to be perfect", which I am totally aware of. I just think it could be better...
TL;DR: Now I fear if I told him that I have no benefit from Medikinet to get him to let me try out Vyvanse and I felt even worse on that he might not prescribe me Medikinet any more. While it doesn't do much, most of my days on it are at least marginally better than without. I'd really appreciate some advice 🙈 | 2021-12-10T14:13:55.000Z | rd9jr7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How big is the chance Vyvanse will work for me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9jr7/how_big_is_the_chance_vyvanse_will_work_for_me/ |
dik1nabocks | I've been diagnosed with ADHD since I was 8 and growing up, I was the kid in the classroom who would either fidget around with anything I had (pens, rulers, etc.) or my mind would wander and i would catch myself staring out of the window. I've been told so many times to "just stop fidgeting around and pay attention". It got ingrained into me that my need to fidget was an inherently bad thing and that it would consume my whole focus. So all my life I never wanted to get a fidget toy. Recently, I have given up trying to force being neurotypical and am trying to embrace my ADHD and understand the way my brain works. I came across fidgeting toys in my research and after a few weeks of breaking down my prejudices about them i finally bought one for myself. And i've got to say it is a LIFE CHANGER for me. I haven't picked at the skin of my thumb while studying or watching netflix in days and it's actually starting to heal! I'm also able to study for longer periods of time because I no longer have to worry about trying to sit still like everybody always told me. Just thought i would share in case any of you feel ashamed to buy a fidget toy as an adult because it's looked down upon. I got a very discreet and quiet one i can use one handed and nobody seems to notice or get annoyed by it. | 2021-12-10T14:06:58.000Z | rd9evy | 5 | 3 | ADHD | Accepting i need to fidget while trying to focus | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9evy/accepting_i_need_to_fidget_while_trying_to_focus/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-10T14:04:02.000Z | rd9ctg | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Wellbutrin + Stimulant? Experiences? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9ctg/wellbutrin_stimulant_experiences/ |
anoncreator3 | Does anyone else have a food that’s all that sounds good for like 1-2 weeks til they find something else? For me it’s currently a Starbucks drink (I’ve had an iced chai for like two weeks everyday). It’s so financially bad but I literally can’t eat anything else and my family gets so confused why I do this, but it’s like when somethings good it’s all I can eat. | 2021-12-10T14:03:12.000Z | rd9c6y | 156 | 396 | ADHD | Hyperfixating on food | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd9c6y/hyperfixating_on_food/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-10T13:59:54.000Z | rd99db | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Wellbutrin + Stimulant? Experiences? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd99db/wellbutrin_stimulant_experiences/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-10T13:57:29.000Z | rd97nw | 0 | 1 | ADHD | 18yr College First Adderall Experience | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd97nw/18yr_college_first_adderall_experience/ |
ClemiHW | I made a quick calculus : It has now been **41 months** since I tried to get a diagnosis for what I have. After dozens of misdiagnosis, hospital visits and all I finally had an appointement with a neuropsychologist 3 months ago, then a seoncd yesterday. My next one -not my last, this is only my third official appointement- is in one month and a half.
Why the hell is it this slow ? | 2021-12-10T13:55:37.000Z | rd96d6 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I have now been trying to get a diagnosis for exctly 3 years and (almost) a half | 0.76 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd96d6/i_have_now_been_trying_to_get_a_diagnosis_for/ |
breakdownbetty | Mini-update: I asked my mom what the doctor talked to her about and apparently he only asked if I was bouncing off the walls as a kid. She said no and that was it. I don't fully trust her, as that sentence was quickly followed by, 'I think you are just trying to be sick so you get sympathy'. But I wouldn't put it past the doctor with how quickly he dismissed me after that.
To say that my parents aren't supportive of me getting help for my mental health would be an understatement.
The first time I got tested for ADHD, my parents filled out both the parents' and teacher's tests and when the result came back negative, they rubbed it in my face and said that I'm just lazy.
After that, I was diagnosed with depression and my parents were informed that I had suicidal thoughts and they still didn't want me to get therapy and told me that I had wasted their money on the testing and was just doing it for attention.
A few days ago I got tested for ADHD and since I'm an adult now, I had the option of not getting my parents involved in the testing. I got my diagnosis that I do have ADHD and was referred to a psychiatrist.
After I talked to him, he asked if he could speak to my mom and I dont know why, but I said yes. Then my mom told him that I haven't had any of the ADHD symptoms as a child and that I'm just introverted.
When I got to talk to him afterwards, he told me that he doesn't believe I have ADHD and if I do, it's not really a big deal that's affecting my life according to my mom. I tried telling him about the previous test but he said that my mom didn't report noticing any symptoms in me as a kid.
I know why they talk to parents and guardians, but I know for a fact that I have had symptoms all my life. I know it's a big deal because it has led me to be anxious all the time because I know I can't trust my brain with the simplest of things.
He said he wants to start me on anti-depressants and that I don't need treatment for ADHD.
I dont know if I'm making this out to be a bigger deal than it is, but I'm worried that keeping my ADHD untreated will result in something horrible. | 2021-12-10T13:47:47.000Z | rd90zj | 209 | 965 | ADHD | My mom told my psychiatrist that I didnt have symptoms as a child. He believed her. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd90zj/my_mom_told_my_psychiatrist_that_i_didnt_have/ |
More_Change184 | I've had this discussion with my partner over and over. I have ADHD and meds helped me a great deal - my partner has observed this and ever since then, he has been wondering why it's not something all people can pick up without perscription/get perscription easily.
I am NOT of the opinion that the medication should be broadly accessible for the following reasons:
* There are health risks associated (e.g. damage to cardiovascular system)
* You need to stop people from overdosing, otherwise you're giving out (weaker) legal speed???
* Regular use might cause adhd-like symptoms in a non-adhd person once the medication wears off
* As a neurotypical person, it may be hard for to grasp what "focusing better means" - for us, it's just being able to inhibit the reaction to distractions. I don't think that would really help a non-adhd person much.
​
What's your take on this? Do you have some resources (research, articles, discussions, ect.) on what happens to non-adhd people on stimulant meds? All answers are appreciated!! | 2021-12-10T13:45:16.000Z | rd8zd1 | 203 | 122 | ADHD | Why donesn't everyone take stimulant meds? | 0.92 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8zd1/why_donesnt_everyone_take_stimulant_meds/ |
Audacioustrash | [removed] | 2021-12-10T13:44:12.000Z | rd8ym2 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Missing a word from a written sentence | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8ym2/missing_a_word_from_a_written_sentence/ |
WackChicken3963 | Does anybody else just like the look of something and want to get it even though it serves no purpose? For example, I just bought a pack of dice because I like how they look and feel, but I probably won’t be using them any time soon hahah. Another example would be like a rock or a piece of metal that just looks nice but doesn’t do anything | 2021-12-10T13:43:00.000Z | rd8xsv | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Liking the Look of Things? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8xsv/liking_the_look_of_things/ |
sonadowfangirl99 | I made a post a whole back looking for advice to remind myself to drink water. I recently found a water brand called Liquid Death, it's a canned mountain water that actually tastes good to me. It stimulates my taste buds and it's so good. The can keeps it colder than a plastic water bottle would, and I highly recommend it if you have issues like mine with water. And if you prefer fuzzy drinks, it comes in sparkling. It's not flavoured but the sprakling helps with the texture for some people | 2021-12-10T13:39:01.000Z | rd8v00 | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I found a water brand that actually helps me stay hydrated | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8v00/i_found_a_water_brand_that_actually_helps_me_stay/ |
sickmortem89 | So recently I've had some seriously awful stuff go on with my family and I really needed some dopamine because nothing else works at the moment and I spent 800 in a day and I really need another way to feel something. The last time something like this happened I almost descended into alcoholism. Is there anything anyone has tried and worked? Seriously anything would do I'm in so much debt. | 2021-12-10T13:38:38.000Z | rd8urh | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Different way than spending | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8urh/different_way_than_spending/ |
catters973 | Has anyone else had this? I don't know what I was expecting, but these meds seem quite controversial and regulated, so I sort of expected to feel something...more. There's maybe just a very little tingling in my hands and feet, but I might even be imagining that. Anyone out there had a similar experience?
Thanks for any responses! | 2021-12-10T13:27:53.000Z | rd8n7x | 6 | 1 | ADHD | Started Vyvanse 30mg this morning and don't feel any different (at all) | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8n7x/started_vyvanse_30mg_this_morning_and_dont_feel/ |
dalewright1 | I am 46. I have the triple whammy of menopause, ADHD, and depression. Medicated for the last two. I get SO paranoid because my memory sucks so I get paranoid that I have early onset dementia because it just doesnt seem right that it is this bad. In particular, my recall is horrible. I can know someone and know their name, but occasionally my brain can't pull it out of my head! Does that make sense? For example, yesterday I was thinking about an old colleague who I worked with everyday, and I couldnt think of his last name for the life of me. It is scary. It always comes around and I remember, but dang it is annoying. Has anyone else dealt with fear over their memory? I told my internal med doctor about this, and she said dementia isnt bad recall, it is more about forgetting where you are and who you are. So - is it my C-PTSD, medications, ADHD, menopause, or dementia, LOL. Can anyone relate? | 2021-12-10T13:25:29.000Z | rd8lly | 13 | 8 | ADHD | Is it Dementia or ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8lly/is_it_dementia_or_adhd/ |
OCtutechtweh | Hey so I don't know if this is an ADHD thing, but I don't really know where else to ask. I alwayse had and still got massive problems with telling people what I'd like as a present. Be it for brithdays or well know christmas. I do enjoy giving people presents and making a suprise for them a lot, but I alwayse feel like I am asking for to much and I am alwayse unsure if what I ask for is resonable.
Does anyone else feel like that? How do you deal with that? Any tips? | 2021-12-10T13:23:38.000Z | rd8kcr | 6 | 4 | ADHD | Not knowing what presents I deserve | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8kcr/not_knowing_what_presents_i_deserve/ |
mexikinnish | So long story short, I’m 28f and I think I have ADHD, but I’ve never been diagnosed. I’ve had doctors tell me that the symptoms I experience could be a result of my anxiety and depression. However, I think it’s the opposite. I think I’ve had untreated ADHD for so long that my depression has manifested as a result. I know I’ve had anxiety since I was a kid. My question is, how can you tell? Is there a way to tell? I relate to so many of the things posted in here, but I don’t know if it’s some wicked combo of my other mental health issues. Help? | 2021-12-10T13:18:17.000Z | rd8gkl | 2 | 4 | ADHD | ADHD or combo of anxiety and depression? | 0.84 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8gkl/adhd_or_combo_of_anxiety_and_depression/ |
cumflavoredjuulpod69 | [removed] | 2021-12-10T13:13:36.000Z | rd8dg2 | 0 | 1 | ADHD | doctor might be taking away my prescription, need 2 rant (scroll to bottom if u dont care for a backstory) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8dg2/doctor_might_be_taking_away_my_prescription_need/ |
TheTrueVagabond | I've been having trouble with showing my wife that I love and care for her deeply. My ADHD symptoms tend to get in the way. I might intend to do something nice for her, such as get her a gift, plan a nice date, or even to remember to apologize for when I am stubborn or push her buttons.
What are some methods that have helped you to be more mindful or consistent in your relationships? | 2021-12-10T13:09:46.000Z | rd8aof | 4 | 2 | ADHD | How do you show your partner you love and care for them despite your ADHD symptoms getting in the way? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd8aof/how_do_you_show_your_partner_you_love_and_care/ |
98-Sam | Because I find it more distracting and annoying than anything. It just makes my brain cluttered and there doesn't seem to be anyway to stop it or make it less cluttered. Help. Medication apparently helps with this but I'm not getting anything like that at least until next year at the earliest. It makes it very hard to function convincingly as a 'normal' person. | 2021-12-10T13:03:05.000Z | rd864m | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Is There Actually Any Use For The Highly Associative Brain | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd864m/is_there_actually_any_use_for_the_highly/ |
whatiswatermelon | My worst thing is trying to look online for ways to help and support yourself with ADHD and all the articles are directed to parents of kids with ADHD.
It just makes me feel so angry and upset because it feels like its a "child" condition. It feels like theres almost no support for coping with ADHD as an adult. | 2021-12-10T12:53:47.000Z | rd7zw8 | 5 | 5 | ADHD | Upset at lack of resources for adults | 0.79 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7zw8/upset_at_lack_of_resources_for_adults/ |
bromprom | I started adderall XR and I’ve noticed that whenever I have to wake up early to go somewhere (have to wake up before or at 6am usually), I cannot sleep at all the night before.
I thought maybe my meds weren’t letting me sleep but it’s only when i have to wake up early. Is it anxiety? Does anyone else do this? | 2021-12-10T12:49:40.000Z | rd7xck | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Can’t sleep if I have to wake up early | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7xck/cant_sleep_if_i_have_to_wake_up_early/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-10T12:47:17.000Z | rd7vu1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Experiences with concerta | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7vu1/experiences_with_concerta/ |
Nezarah | Iv done my best to manage my ADHD this last year but iv been utterly overloaded with other unmovable commitments over the last 6 months. It’s results in a few large screw ups at work and a heavy fluctuation of output.
I had never managed to find a medication that really worked for me as it caused issues with other things.
I’m quite hesitant about speaking about it in public and especially the workplace. I never mentioned it to my supervisor.
I’m terrified to mention it as I feel it would be death sentence at this high level of work (clinical environment). Im terrified of not being able to manage it effectively next year. I’m terrified Iv damaged some career connections.
For those working in a high end field, what’s the most professional way I could approach this? Say nothing? Say something? Mention a vague health related thing that effected my performance?
I have no idea what move to take. | 2021-12-10T12:40:59.000Z | rd7rzi | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Performance fluctuated heavily at work for the last few months, my supervisor has asked for a meeting next week. What can I say? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7rzi/performance_fluctuated_heavily_at_work_for_the/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-10T12:35:47.000Z | rd7owr | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Have meds improved your memory? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7owr/have_meds_improved_your_memory/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-10T12:34:51.000Z | rd7oe8 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | NHS diagnosis but private titration due to long waiting times | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7oe8/nhs_diagnosis_but_private_titration_due_to_long/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-10T12:34:49.000Z | rd7od0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Did meds improved your memory? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7od0/did_meds_improved_your_memory/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-10T12:30:26.000Z | rd7lqo | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Hi guys, I have question about mood stabilisers | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7lqo/hi_guys_i_have_question_about_mood_stabilisers/ |
Cazzmo1 | i avoid taking me medication as they heavily effect me in a negative way, however when i need to concentrate for an exam of an assignment i will take them, they leave me with an empty feeling inside and just suck my personality and happiness out of me, i hate them, i’ve tried all the available meds and they all have similar effects, what can i do :( | 2021-12-10T12:30:23.000Z | rd7lpy | 13 | 8 | ADHD | My meds change me | 0.83 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7lpy/my_meds_change_me/ |
theunknowncompanion | Anyone notice that their heart rate jumps after caffeine and their meds? I'm currently on 60mg (30mg + 30mg booster) of Vyvanse, and yesterday, I think I overdid it with the green tea!
I had one cup of coffee and about 4 cups of green tea throughout the day and by 7 pm I felt very light-headed and felt like I was going to pass out! I checked my pulse via my apple watch and it was 140BPM (but I had also been moving about). It was really hard to move about for still a couple of hours afterwards and even cleaning my room, I had to sit down.
Anyone had this before? It gave me a bit of a scare, and I thought maybe I'd pass out or something! Can you die from Vyvanse?!
My caffeine tolerance (without meds) is usually quite high (multiple teas, and strong coffees throughout the day) but now I think it's gone way down! | 2021-12-10T12:29:46.000Z | rd7laz | 12 | 2 | ADHD | Caffeine and ADHD Meds | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7laz/caffeine_and_adhd_meds/ |
Feisty_Construction | My biggest struggle is self control. A few times, I've tried to re-set my schedule. I'd stay up the whole day, then sleep at a reasonable time that night. I'd be exhausted, so no issue there. But the next day I'd stay up late again and ruin the whole thing! So frustrating. I wish I had more self control at night. I'd appreciate absolutely any advise. Has anyone been in a bad schedule before, and fixed it? Any habits that make sleeping on time easier? How to increase self control? Or just general tips?
tldr: my sleep schedule sucks and I need advise | 2021-12-10T12:27:13.000Z | rd7jue | 6 | 5 | ADHD | My sleep schedule is a disaster and I'm starting to feel like one too | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7jue/my_sleep_schedule_is_a_disaster_and_im_starting/ |
Ok_Condition8643 | I’ve been having a hell of a time at work lately. Yesterday, I yet again wasted hours doing something the wrong way. Which resulted in me feeling like such shit about myself when my boss finally told me. And as you all know, when we feel like shit about ourselves, that can reach a dangerous emotional peak. I experience hardcore emotional dysregulation so this resulted in me being even more unable to focus on my work and I hid in the bathroom for 10 minutes and cried and wanted to do self harm. What do you all do when you feel this way? Is there anything you tell yourself while you’re feeling like the biggest piece of shit in the world? Any mantras or practices for in the moment self hatred? Ps. Sorry but fuck the 300 character rule. | 2021-12-10T12:18:27.000Z | rd7ese | 4 | 2 | ADHD | What do you tell yourself to feel okay with not doing okay? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7ese/what_do_you_tell_yourself_to_feel_okay_with_not/ |
beezbeezz | I’m 33f and my husband is 36. Been together 7 years. He just recently came to terms that he has some form of ADHD. He has not been formally diagnosed, but the signs are all there. He’s an insomniac, always on the go, and multiple other traits. I used to think he was just a narcissist, but he shows compassion and empathy (sometimes). My big issues is how to gently let him know that his HOURS LONG conversation (about the same thing) makes me wanna rip my hair out. He will get stuck on a topic and just go on and on. Like for months he will be fixated and anyone he talks to will get sucked into a conversation about it. He doesn’t pick up body clues when people are trying to end the convo. 95% of the time my only response is mmmmmhmmmm. When I tell him I can’t talk about it anymore he gets really hurt. I just wanna scream at him sometimes to shut the F*** up. | 2021-12-10T12:15:27.000Z | rd7d4x | 31 | 9 | ADHD | How to approach my talkative husband. | 0.74 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7d4x/how_to_approach_my_talkative_husband/ |
catters973 | [removed] | 2021-12-10T12:12:01.000Z | rd7b7a | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Started Vyvanse 30mg this morning and feel no different (at all)? | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/rd7b7a/started_vyvanse_30mg_this_morning_and_feel_no/ |
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