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Absolute_Goober | I'm stuck between being absolutely convinced I have adhd, and feeling like I'm making it all up. Up until very recently I had no idea what adhd was. It was only after coming across a post from an adhd subreddit that I started obsessing over it.
I'm currently in the final year of high school, and have been in procrastination/do everything last minute mode for my entire life. Because I do *everything* last minute, my sleep schedule is horrendous. I'm perpetually tired, and can only function with the help of a concoction of substances. I can only do boring/productive things when I get a big hit of put-your-life-together energy, and so every once in a blue moon I clean my room from top to bottom, or study out of my own volition. Usually I just laze around staring at my phone while feeling like I'm paralyzed, which is how I've spent the last 3 hours. I am currently procrastinating making a phone call to a local medical center to get an appointment, and it looks like it's gonna have to wait another day.
I don't have some kind of magical feeling of adhd that tells me I have it, and so I feel like I'm just seeking attention or coolness points for thinking I have it. My struggles are however very real, and I would be elated to find the cause for them. Has anyone here been in a similar situation, and how did it work out? | 2021-12-02T13:39:38.000Z | r77oe5 | 7 | 7 | ADHD | Undiagnosed and confused | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r77oe5/undiagnosed_and_confused/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T13:35:03.000Z | r77l7w | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Almost set fire to my kitchen today…anyone else have brain fart moments like this? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r77l7w/almost_set_fire_to_my_kitchen_todayanyone_else/ |
rocket_racoon99 | I have been to psychiatrists and counsellors. One of them diagnosed me with ADHD, and prescribed medication. My parents asked me to get a second opinion so I did. Rest of the psychiatrists/psychologists have said I don't have it, and my behavior and tendencies are par with "normal" baseline condition.
I have been diagnosed with other conditions though. Anxiety, Left-Right brain disjointment etc. I have been prescribed medications for these. However, my symptoms haven't gone and I feel defeated. I have performed those self-diagnosis tests and they all consider a strong possibility of ADHD.
Parents don't believe me anymore, and I don't blame them. They have been pretty supportive over the past two years, although they've been sceptical the entire time. I have resigned to the fact that maybe I'm making it all up to cover up for my lack of explanation of my symptoms.
I still can't concentrate on studies. I still forget to lock my dorm room sometimes. I still prefer scrolling on Twitter and watching YouTube rather than study for exams. I still haven't been able to finish Breaking Bad despite my friends begging me to watch it full. I still hate driving. I still haven't gotten myself to text my sister-in-law coz i keep postponing it.
Are there any other conditions similar to ADHD? Or could this just be plain incompetence? Idk y'all seem like the last resort at this point. | 2021-12-02T13:22:06.000Z | r77cmf | 3 | 2 | ADHD | I am wondering if I even have ADHD. Advice please | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r77cmf/i_am_wondering_if_i_even_have_adhd_advice_please/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T13:19:02.000Z | r77amz | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I don’t know if I have ADHD but | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r77amz/i_dont_know_if_i_have_adhd_but/ |
QueenSatanax | [removed] | 2021-12-02T13:11:55.000Z | r775yg | 1 | 1 | ADHD | How to learn things even if your brain isn't up for it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r775yg/how_to_learn_things_even_if_your_brain_isnt_up/ |
I10Living | I am a woman and recently diagnosed at 36.
I have two kids, the oldest of which is 7. From about age 2.5 this kid has been difficult for the school (daycare at first) system. He was my only child at the time so I didn’t think he was any more “difficult” than anyone else. I love him. But he got kicked out of several daycares and preschools and it wasn’t until we were urged to seek a doctor and got our diagnosis of ADHD that the public school opened their arms with a 504 plan. Our public school system has been worlds better than any private place we have tried (I know a lot of people have had the opposite experience). Funny story but when I talked to the doctor about him, she said he sounded potentially autistic and then she did the evaluation and came out of the room an hour later looking absolutely exhausted and said “he has ADHD, it’s not even borderline.”
I’ve taken him to a million appointments and always filled out his paperwork. So I’m the cliche parent that was like “hey this paperwork sounds like me!” Except it didn’t happen so fast. I didn’t connect the dots until multiple other things happened and I finally broke down and saw a psychiatrist. This was after YEARS of seeking therapy for my insomnia, anxiety, intrusive thoughts, discomfort, and all these things that were symptoms of something larger.
I learned ADHD is likely genetic so not only is it my fault that my kid has it but one of my parents let me know they probably had it (they laughed while they said it, like wouldn’t that have been good for me to know before I was this old??).
I have a good job because I can hyper focus like nothing else. I struggle with work sometimes but when I get into the zone my work is fantastic. I have thousands and thousands of dollars worth of unfinished hobbies around my house. I binge eat and binge shop. I have terrible insomnia because I can’t shut my brain off. My brain moves fast and jumps around. I think I get away with things because when I hyper focus I’m really passionate and engaging and people like that.
My kids have no extracurricular activities because I will forget to take them. It’s the same time and place every week but I will forget every week. I have three different calendars to keep track of things. I’ve bought hundreds of journals and planners over the years (some really expensive) but they all go unfinished.
I could go on and on. My worst symptoms were written off as anxiety or that “being a mom is hard.” (Seriously that’s what a doc said to me one time).
Looking back in hindsight there were so many signs but my world growing up didn’t recognize ADHD as a thing they were willing to accept. Especially not a girl.
I started medication (adderall XR) and I need to get the right dosage but so far I’m blown away by feeling so…calm. It’s amazing.
I’d like to work harder on myself though because the medicine can’t solve everything.
Any tips for things like binge eating and binge shopping that have worked for you? Those may sound insignificant but they are large problems for me. | 2021-12-02T13:11:45.000Z | r775uv | 3 | 10 | ADHD | My story and request for commiseration and tips | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r775uv/my_story_and_request_for_commiseration_and_tips/ |
anonymous_and_ | With my phone I can do that with my smartwatch and googling "Find Phone". I'm wondering if there's anything similar that I can do with stuff like my wallet.
I lost my wallet somewhere between last night and this morning and it's frustrating because I don't know if I dropped it somewhere and gotten it stollen or if I just misplaced it somewhere in my room and it got sucked into The Black HoleTM where things just go to sometimes when misplaced, never to be seen again until you've gotten a replacement of it... | 2021-12-02T13:07:31.000Z | r7732t | 12 | 3 | ADHD | Are there any compact devices/trackers that I can attach to/keep in stuff like wallets, connect them to my phone/internet, and make them ring remotely so I can find them easier? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r7732t/are_there_any_compact_devicestrackers_that_i_can/ |
cruud123 | So Im diagnosed with ADHD, I didnt go by online tests.
Ive tried many medications. I always hear people that dont have adhd get a rush or something (not what Im looking for)
I myself feel nothing on anything, like nothing even with a high dosage.
Except Concerta at 54mg, I feel a bit more energy.
What I wanted to know is: is adhd med tolerance a sign that I really have ADHD?
I only ask this because some people say ”well if meds dont work then u dont have adhd”. | 2021-12-02T13:07:11.000Z | r772vt | 6 | 2 | ADHD | Is medication tolerance a ”confirmation” of ADHD? | 0.62 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r772vt/is_medication_tolerance_a_confirmation_of_adhd/ |
blackcollar6 | Edit: please read the entire thing to understand. This is not a "self dignosis"
Ok so I (14m) have a head flicking thing (i think related to my adhd meds). I haven't been checked out by a doctor for it though. Anyway, what I want to say is I hate them. I always feel like I'm gonna get called out in public for "faking" or somthing like that. I know the chances of that happening are low, but with all of those tik tokers faking it for attention, I feel like I'm one of them. I'm not doing it for attention or I'm not "self diagnosing" myself, it just happens. My point is that I hate the way stupid little kids on the internet have made me look bad for somthing that I just randomly do. Thank you for reading this, I just needed to get this out there. | 2021-12-02T13:02:26.000Z | r76zs7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD Tics (possibly related to my meds) | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76zs7/adhd_tics_possibly_related_to_my_meds/ |
throwaway2145673 | I really didn't care about or like this job, but I feel like I need to feel differently about this. I got fired firstly for being late 3 times, and secondly because I realised at work that I had a stain on my uniform, so I took another one without asking, when were only allowed one. My impulsivity and burn out in action.
I'm a student, every day I came in I said to myself "I hope they fire me" could barely concentrate, everything was so boring and I didn't like the people.
Now I've actually been fired I feel like I should have a different view, it wasn't my intent, but it still happened. Now that I am not going in every day, I can focus on my studies and get a job that I actually like, I'm viewing a negative experience too positively and need accountability. | 2021-12-02T13:01:43.000Z | r76zb3 | 13 | 38 | ADHD | Got fired lol | 0.88 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76zb3/got_fired_lol/ |
hopevon | i had job interview i said stupid stuff about my personal life
my face gets red i couldn't breath، probably i lost the job, and im so sad and i have deep guilt, the interviewer was shaking his head and this made me so nervous, how do you guys win job interviews, i lost my previous job because of my anxiety (╯︵╰,) | 2021-12-02T12:55:28.000Z | r76v3r | 13 | 14 | ADHD | i said stupid shit during my interview | 0.86 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76v3r/i_said_stupid_shit_during_my_interview/ |
daxodactyl | [removed] | 2021-12-02T12:55:27.000Z | r76v37 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | What song was stuck in your head when you woke up this morning? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76v37/what_song_was_stuck_in_your_head_when_you_woke_up/ |
Anxiousboop | TLDR - I (no ADHD) need help & insight on how to support my sibling who is struggling with their ADHD.
I (26f) have an older brother (32M) who has ADHD / ASD. He's had the diagnosis since we were kids, and when he was younger I vaguely remember he took medication as well as went to therapies. My parents did the best they could, but the town we grew up in was vicious when it came to anyone who seemed “different” or “odd”. The bullying was intense, the kids were assholes. When my brother reached high school, I want to say age 16 he asked my parents to go off his ADHD meds (I want to say it was ritalin) because he didn't like how it felt and they complied on the stipulation he uses the other skills he learned. He did fine for awhile! Cut to now and it's not the case at all. He's having trouble holding down jobs, can't complete simple tasks, and is in deep denial of his ADHD / ASD. Case in point - he lied to us and said he called a counselor who specializes in ADHD when he didn't. Another example I asked and he agreed at 5pm Monday to pick me up at 9am Tuesday to give me ride. He completely forgot. I love my brother - it hurts me to see him struggle, and I guess I'm looking for ways to help him / encourage him to get help? We're close, and we've talked a little about this, mostly just me mentioning that we have made major chemical and medical advancements in regards to medication since the age of Ritalin, and I am very very open with him about my therapy (I see one twice a month). I guess I'm just at a loss. My parents try their best but they're still parents, a little out of touch and can be a little mean. How can I approach him and offer support (outside of shares hobbies - I would already at we have a good relationship otherwise). | 2021-12-02T12:42:55.000Z | r76n91 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Looking for advice | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76n91/looking_for_advice/ |
Tinygalaxie | Hey all,
So I've been on elvanse for almost a year. I am very sensitive to stimulants and have titrated very slowly, in 5mg increments, from 20mg to 50mg. It's not working for me any more. It's helped with a few things, but the anxiety and emotional lability I experience is risking my relationship with my partner, and slowly ruining my life. My executive function is, if anything, worse than it was pre-meds. It's just not good for me, I feel mad. I'm talking to my specialist next week about potentially trying something else but I want to see how things are without meds at all.
I am not going to go cold turkey, but I do want to get this shit out of my body as soon as possible. I'm thinking I'll start by dropping to 30mg tomorrow and see how it goes. I used to take a day off a week when I was at 40-45mg, and I just felt a bit tired and brain foggy more than anything else, so I'm hoping it'll be the same kind of deal. Tired and brain fog I can manage.
I was wondering if anyone had any experience of having titrated down at a level that balances the need for haste with minimal side effects. If you fancy sharing the 'schedule' you used that would be helpful. Would also V much like to hear positive anecdotes around this if you have 'em!
Thank you :) | 2021-12-02T12:38:36.000Z | r76kn3 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Coming off of Elvanse (Vyanse) - would like to hear your experiences | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76kn3/coming_off_of_elvanse_vyanse_would_like_to_hear/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T12:35:38.000Z | r76iwa | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Do different brand adderalls give you different effects? If so what's your favorite? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76iwa/do_different_brand_adderalls_give_you_different/ |
Apprehensive-Suit249 |
does anyone know how to stick to a hyperfixation and not get burnt out from it? Because every time i hyperfixate on something I eventually get burnt out then fall into a depressive episode because i gave up but have no motivation to continue. i’m really back into skating now and I wanna stick with it and not give up. can someone give me advice on how to stay with it? | 2021-12-02T12:33:06.000Z | r76hdv | 6 | 3 | ADHD | hyperfixations (repost) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76hdv/hyperfixations_repost/ |
Unlucky_Actuator5612 | I’m on my second stimulant trial (dex) and I’ve been taking it for 6 weeks and it had no bad side effects but I kind of expected more from it. Went back to psych and he said I wasn’t taking enough. It’s now my 3rd day of taking more and it’s like a miracle!
It felt like I was wading through treacle before and now everything is easy! I actually cried yesterday because I didn’t fully realise how bad things were and how much of a struggle every day was.
I’m terrified this feeling will go away 🥺 | 2021-12-02T12:27:21.000Z | r76dv9 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Meds are finally working! Please tell me this feeling won’t end! | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76dv9/meds_are_finally_working_please_tell_me_this/ |
Emzalina5 | I messed up at work by sending the wrong letter template meaning that I can’t discharge a patient that I otherwise would’ve and the higher ups found out and now I feel like the worst excuse for a speech and language therapist (pathologist if you’re American) in the entire world…
I often feel like a failure at my job, but this is something so small as forgetting to copy and paste something that might mess up my entire day.
I don’t know how to move around it without it sitting in my head mocking me.
It doesn’t help that I was already having some feelings of failure as I discharged a child that I’m not sure I should have… I’m worried I could lose my job or my licence to work because I’m so incompetent… | 2021-12-02T12:26:24.000Z | r76db9 | 3 | 4 | ADHD | Fucked up at work and now I’m feeling really upset | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76db9/fucked_up_at_work_and_now_im_feeling_really_upset/ |
Felein | This is going to be a long one, sorry in advance! TL;DR at the end.
First off, for context: I am a 37 year old female, I was diagnosed with ADHD-C two years ago, and since then I've been taking dexamfetamine as medication. I'm at a healthy weight, but I lead quite a sedentary lifestyle; I walk the dog twice a day, for about half an hour, and we try to do one longer (2-3 hour) walk every weekend. But other than that I'm pretty much sitting all day, although I really want to start exercising a bit more again; I used to, up until the whole pandemic thing.
Anyway, I tend to get a very nervous feeling every day I take my medication, around the time the second dose kicks in (I take one dose at 8:30 am and the second at 12:30 pm). Elevated heartrate, superficial breathing, etc. It feels very similar to having low blood sugar levels. I've read (and been told) that eating enough/more should help with this, especially fatty and/or protein-rich foods.
Currently, I have a smoothie for breakfast (fruit, milk, yoghurt and oats) and two slices of brown bread with peanut butter for lunch. During the afternoon I'll usually eat some biscuits or another slice of bread.
Ideally, I would like to either substitute my lunch or add something to my breakfast and/or lunch, to counter the side effects of my medication. It should be something healthy, easy and quick to prepare, and preferably something I can meal-prep in advance during the weekend.
Do you have any suggestions, tips or sources I could use?
Thanks in advance for the patience and the help!
TL;DR: I'm looking for lunch suggestions!
* Healthy
* Easy & quick
* Preferably preppable a week ahead | 2021-12-02T12:26:15.000Z | r76d7p | 4 | 1 | ADHD | Any meal tips? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r76d7p/any_meal_tips/ |
Prestigious-Bug7145 | When I have paralysis and can’t get anything started I put in a load of laundry. Even if it is just a couple pairs of pants on top of the pile or if I can convince myself to actually sort something.
I feel like it helps me because I start with making a few small decisions, like what cycle to use or what soap then I press start and then there is the time in between now and when it’s done. I feel like I can almost always take the hour or so it takes and find some other small tasks that I couldn’t organize in before to get done.
Also, I put a timer on my phone for 15 after the end time so this way if I’m doing another thing when the laundry machine timer goes off I’m reminded again.
I don’t have a dryer so I hang my laundry to dry and I feel like that for me is calming. Plus bonus I have clean clothes after and have a visual reminder that I got something done.
Honestly, this strategy has helped me a lot and I started doing it with other things. For example, sheet pan veggies. I put some pre cut veggies on a tray and season them right there (no complicated extra steps like getting a mixing bowl or anything) and put them in the oven. I have thirty minutes before they need to be taken out and somehow that thirty minutes is manageable to me and I’m actually able to do other things.
I realize it may not be helpful for everyone but it’s been a huge help to me. | 2021-12-02T12:16:12.000Z | r7675v | 1 | 6 | ADHD | Beating adhd paralysis with laundry | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r7675v/beating_adhd_paralysis_with_laundry/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T12:11:58.000Z | r764kl | 2 | 1 | ADHD | What happens when taking Methylphenidate if you don't have ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r764kl/what_happens_when_taking_methylphenidate_if_you/ |
tolearnandunderstand | I am currently taking 10 mg short acting Adderall 4 times a day to get me all the way through my work day (middle school teacher). (I was taking Adderall XR when I woke up, then the IR at lunch & halfway through the afternoon.) It works reasonably well, but I have to remember to take it four times a days, and even with multiple alarms set, I still regularly forget at least one dose which results in me being unable to herd my ducklings effectively (and usually end up in a sensory overload in the process).
I recently learned about Jornay PM, which, from my understanding, you take before bed and is 24 hour. I am absolutely intrigued by this. My psych is willing to try it but doesn’t have any other patients currently on it. So I thought I’d look here for people’s experiences before I take the plunge.
**TL;DR** I’m considering transitioning from Adderall to Jornay PM (with dr blessing), but want to hear others’ experiences with Jornay before making the switch. (I am not asking for medical advice in any way and am in full communication with my doctor in this process).
Thank you so much in advanced! | 2021-12-02T12:11:36.000Z | r764d4 | 2 | 1 | ADHD | If you take/have taken Jornay PM, would you share your experience with it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r764d4/if_you_takehave_taken_jornay_pm_would_you_share/ |
psychesiike | I don’t even know where to start this post, let alone how to write it, for it to be easy to read for us with this diagnosis.
I want my emotions, my overthinking and my restlessness to stop. I honestly hate having ADHD. It feels like an endless battle that i have no chance of winning.
When i was a teen i loved my diagnosis! I felt unique, cool and special. I was so creative, witty and always up for foolishness. My thoughts mainly consisted of fun and creative things.
Im an adult now, with real adult responsibilities, with real adult problems. Yet still i behave and react to things like a teen. My thoughts now consist of overthinking, over analyzing and over worrying.
This has become a huge problem for me. The outbursts of emotions, the inability to keep hold of one emotion (other than sadness) for more than a couple of hours. Im so drained, and i know I’m draining the people around me too.
The last few days I’ve been in a rut of sadness. I keep crying over the smallest things, especially when i go to sleep at night. My S/O wakes up tired every morning, and is literally exhausted because i use hours at night needing comfort.
Yesterday night i was so mad at myself because i had a really great day and really thought i would go to sleep and all would be well. I ended up crying for two minutes until I literally snapped at myself and vented about it an hour or so to my S/O. This morning his alarm went of and I’m pretty sure he cried a little. I cant believe i have such a wonderful boyfriend and I’m slowly but surely ripping him apart with my inability to control my emotions. He is so patient and understanding, but i know that its running out.
I have probably tried every medication my doctor is allowed to give me, including SSRI, SNRI. I get serious side effects from all of them. I have a therapist, but in my home country it is costing me a fortune and they rarely have time.
What can i do? Do you have any tips? How can i change this way of thinking=reacting? I don’t want to lose my S/O to my emotions. I don’t want to lose myself. | 2021-12-02T12:10:51.000Z | r763xe | 19 | 24 | ADHD | I want it to stop. | 0.95 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r763xe/i_want_it_to_stop/ |
tolearnandunderstand | [removed] | 2021-12-02T12:08:51.000Z | r762ri | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Does anyone here take Jornay and would be willing to share their experience with it? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r762ri/does_anyone_here_take_jornay_and_would_be_willing/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T12:07:40.000Z | r7622q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Fucked up at work and now I’m feeling really upset | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r7622q/fucked_up_at_work_and_now_im_feeling_really_upset/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T12:06:54.000Z | r761ls | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I forgot to bring trash bags the 5th time today | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r761ls/i_forgot_to_bring_trash_bags_the_5th_time_today/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T12:00:52.000Z | r75y1i | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Can I tell Dr I tried adderrall without a script and it worked? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75y1i/can_i_tell_dr_i_tried_adderrall_without_a_script/ |
noobplayer123 | [removed] | 2021-12-02T11:58:17.000Z | r75we1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Wants to do everything and can't do something. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75we1/wants_to_do_everything_and_cant_do_something/ |
Microsoftvoid | [removed] | 2021-12-02T11:53:47.000Z | r75tut | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Give me a playlist to clean my apartment | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75tut/give_me_a_playlist_to_clean_my_apartment/ |
PhatCat94 | Lately at work I have been doing great.
Almost to the point where I forget I have ADHD. Been feeling really good about myself too.
Then yesterday I had to work a place
that I hadn't worked in many years. Because I was messing up in another place I was working.
I got overwhelmed and made simple mistakes that I feel the normal person wouldn't make. I was also talking to myself and cursing a lot. Everyone could really see how stressed I was. I was so embarrassed.
It's a pretty important part of the job where I work.
Worst part is that the next person had to fix my mistakes, which makes me feel even worse.
Nothing really bad happened but, just reminded me how much my ADHD interferes with my life and brain.
Made me feel really stupid just like I have felt my whole life before getting diagnosed/treated for my ADHD.
So much to the point I called in sick today. I know would've had to work there again today.
I didn't want to cause other people more work by having to fix my mistakes and feel like a moron again.
My eyes are tearing up writing this. I just feel like an incompetent child.
Tldr: had a bad day at work, feel like a failure, an idiot, and a child | 2021-12-02T11:51:53.000Z | r75ssq | 9 | 31 | ADHD | Hate being reminded I have ADHD | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75ssq/hate_being_reminded_i_have_adhd/ |
Physical_Knowledge62 | Good morning everyone. I need advice.
I am a mom with untreated ADHD, with an elementary age child who *is* on medication, with severe ADHD (his neuro developmental MD put the “severe” on there).
Our pharmacy has cut their hours so they aren’t open at all on weekends. Every single time we call in a refill / MD faxes it- it takes them over a week or more to fill it.
This has been going on for over a year.
This is completely unprofessional in my mind. I need to know if I have a leg to stand on - or if I’m getting too heated.
It’s our local Walgreens. I was treated poorly by them when I was receiving stimulant medication. They did the same.
Is this common for many here? Do most pharmacies treat you like this over your *necessary* to function med?
I’m not exaggerating when I saw my poor kiddo cannot be expected to attend to school properly without it. It’s entirely unfair to him, his teachers and his classmates.
Never mind that as a parent I refuse to set him up like that - it’s just way too unfair.
We have CVS here - have any of you found them to be any better?
Sorry to vent- it’s this ableism judgy McJudgy stuff I despise, from behind the pharmacy counter. I’ve been through this countless times.
Hope everyone has a great day today | 2021-12-02T11:47:56.000Z | r75qke | 12 | 8 | ADHD | Prescription refill problems | 0.91 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75qke/prescription_refill_problems/ |
GosuPleb | I've been playing games since my childhood, diagnosed ADHD as an adult this year. I've been wondering about some of my habits and wanted to hear if this experience is shared with ADHD gamers or just random.
I play a lot and almost always tend to drift towards playing competitive online games where you just queue up and play the game instantly without "building up".
For example, I played a lot of 3v3 arenas in World of Warcraft at high rating, but I am literally falling asleep doing anything pve related like questing. It takes extremely long for me, I keep doing anything but follow quests. When I'm doing pve content, I keep spacing out and lagging behind the group.
I'm extremely bad at every single open world game. I end looking at the map every 5 seconds and not looking at the road, always end up in weird spots and climbing mountains because I followed a straight line to the marker on the map. Games like Skyrim and Breath of the Wild were almost unplayable to me because I kept spacing out and realizing im between random mountains or bodies of water
When I end up playing non competitive campaign games, I end up skipping dialogues even though I told myself not to. I almost never know the current storyline.
I tend to almost only enjoy games with mechanics that have instand feedback, e.g. when you press the button to strafe left, the character instantly moves and stops when you release the button. I can see how this could apply to most players, as this is implemented in most competitive games.
Really bad at managing inventories and like in real life. Extremely bad at games like Animal Crossing, where my house is still empty and small house. Haven't unlocked most of the basic things, feels like work.
I was wondering if these characteristics tend to be common in ADHD or unrelated, any shared experiences? | 2021-12-02T11:46:48.000Z | r75pz3 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Gamers with ADHD diagnosis, some questions: | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75pz3/gamers_with_adhd_diagnosis_some_questions/ |
NorthFace86 | Is it typical when overwhelmed with stress to react extremely emotional when sympathised with by others?
I ask as I had a terrible day at work yesterday with the children I work with and some of my friends noticed I wasn’t myself and I ended up on the brink of tears and had to leave the situation to cry it all out for a considerable amount of time. | 2021-12-02T11:41:38.000Z | r75n93 | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Emotional Regulation | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75n93/emotional_regulation/ |
BatDouble2654 | Working though paperwork for a diagnosis and having trouble thinking of examples of distraction as a child. Yet I have tonnes as an adult - it’s the thing that I’m finding most difficult to deal with right now. Not sure if it’s because daydreaming is less memorable than falling off my chair constantly from rocking them too much or if I really wasn’t bad at focus back then. I did mostly well at school. Anyone else like this? Could it be a change with age? I’ve read about hyperactivity lessening with age but not about distraction suddenly appearing later. | 2021-12-02T11:38:18.000Z | r75lfj | 7 | 3 | ADHD | Hyperactive type in childhood combined as an adult? Is that possible? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75lfj/hyperactive_type_in_childhood_combined_as_an/ |
TheRobinRed1 | I've recently been diagnosed (yay) and prescribed medication to help. It's been working really well, but I'm really struggling with the feeling of nausea. Originally I thought it might be my messed up eating schedule, but I can't seem to get myself to settle. Anyone have any suggestions to try before I go back and talk to my doctor
I have been put on Xenidate and have been taking it for nearly 4 weeks now | 2021-12-02T11:38:01.000Z | r75l8q | 1 | 1 | ADHD | The side effects are making me nauseous... please help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75l8q/the_side_effects_are_making_me_nauseous_please/ |
polyedrar | The fear of getting a bad grade, anxiety/panic attacks because of stress, being unsuccessful or people looking down on me (F) stops me from procrastinating that much in school. I also happen to find what I'm studying interesting (generally) and it's only when I don't find the subject that interesting that I procrastinate (but I assume even NTs does this). I used to have trouble organizing my work and I got really overwhelmed and depressed by everything I had to do, but I'm at my 4th year of university so I have learned how to deal with all of this. If I don't organize my school life, I'll literally be a mess.
I wasn't always like this and got really bad grades until 8th grade in HS bc of procrastination (my dad also got mad at me for not doing well in school). I know what it feels like to be bad and have anxiety over it and I don't want to be there again. I've also changed my major 4 times so I have experience from failing in uni.
**In other aspects of my life I procrastinate a lot**. Like responding to e-mails, buying new medication, calling the doctor, putting away the dishes, writing important e-mails to someone etc. I've taken several courses voluntarily that I've quit bc I know there wouldn't be any consequences if I did so. **It's almost like when I know there'll be consequences (bad grades and anxiety etc), I won't procrastinate.**
So is it impossible for me to have ADHD?
TLDR: I only generally procrastinate when I know there won't be any consequences – such as IRL. In school however, I don't procrastinate as much. | 2021-12-02T11:32:03.000Z | r75i29 | 26 | 18 | ADHD | Can I have ADHD even if I don't procrastinate that much in SCHOOL? | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75i29/can_i_have_adhd_even_if_i_dont_procrastinate_that/ |
Miss_Luludwig | so, I‘m new to reddit and I‘m sorry if this post goes against the rules. I‘m 19 going on 20, afab and I suspect I‘ve been afflicted with ADHD for as long as I can remember. Here’s the thing however: I‘m undiagnosed. I‘m in my third semester at uni now, studying to be a teacher and especially the (what I‘m assuming to be, as I said before, I‘m undiagnosed) Executive dysfunction is proving to bite me in the a*s. I also suffer from memory problems and the inability to manage administrative tasks to the point its a miracle im in uni at all. Now I wholeheartedly understand what people will think: Why doesnt she get help then? And I know! I‘ve tried to actually, but in my current situation as well as the ongoing global events the only professional I was able to talk with turned out to be a spiritual healer who really couldnt help me at all. Aside from that I just keep putting it off, which is inarguably a fault of my own.
My family does not believe or support me, and I know that my task as an adult is to get help for myself, but I‘m struggling and the situation is genuinely turning out to be taking a toll on my mental health. Plus I‘m aware that it’s something more associated with jumpy elementary school boys than quiet university girls, although the problem has been apparent since first grade.
My question is if anoyne has any advice on how to A. Approach a professional to potentially get a diagnosis or at least peace of mind and B. Manage Education and the bachelor life with executive dysfunction.
Thank you for taking the time to read and to all of you a wonderful day | 2021-12-02T11:31:49.000Z | r75hx7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Asking for advice on handling university with executive dysfunction | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75hx7/asking_for_advice_on_handling_university_with/ |
theycallmejeffrey | [removed] | 2021-12-02T11:24:25.000Z | r75dsv | 7 | 1 | ADHD | What would you like to see in a short film about ADHD? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r75dsv/what_would_you_like_to_see_in_a_short_film_about/ |
ShipPeace | [removed] | 2021-12-02T11:17:20.000Z | r759wx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Should I try Adderall if I'm not totally sure if I have ADHD? | 0.66 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r759wx/should_i_try_adderall_if_im_not_totally_sure_if_i/ |
rxwncxrh | So I have been diagnosed for about a year, but have struggled with a very turbulent sleep pattern for about 5 years now. I'll be able to go to sleep at like midnight earliest for a couple months or weeks, then I'm plunged into a poor few months or weeks where I'm awake till 5 am because I can't shut my brain up. I am so tired of this. I just want to do what's healthiest for my body, and I feel like in a way, I'm failing it. I have tried weighted blankets, sleep meditation, sleeping pills, deep breathing, I even tried training myself to get sleepy when I repeated a word in my head. It just seems like even when I try and gain some control, my brain grabs the wheel and steers me into a ditch. I am also suffering from pretty bad anxiety, which also teams up with my ADHD and makes it nearly impossible to get sleep. It's 6am as I'm writing this, and I've tried since 3 am to sleep, but my brain keeps jolting me awake with so many racing thoughts I'm nervous I'll have some sort of seizure. Weirdly enough, I'm not even a little tired, Lol. I have a lot of anxiety around my sleeping habits, as it used to be so bad I'd not sleep for a few days in a row and start to have auditory hallucinations. Does anyone have any weird tricks or tips that help them settle their mind? | 2021-12-02T11:16:23.000Z | r759dv | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Sleep issues | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r759dv/sleep_issues/ |
cressi_black | Hi everyone,
I have my GP ready to provide me with a referral for an ADHD psychiatrist, problem lies in the few that have responded to my messages are not taking on new clients or have a long waiting list.
Can anyone recommend any Telehealth providers that they have used to get an assessment?
I am based in a regional town, so for long term treatment this would also be more convenient than driving hours to and from a city.
Many thanks! | 2021-12-02T11:15:41.000Z | r7590h | 3 | 3 | ADHD | Telehealth diagnosis Australia | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r7590h/telehealth_diagnosis_australia/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T11:06:06.000Z | r753ms | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Raging insomnia | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r753ms/raging_insomnia/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T11:05:56.000Z | r753jc | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Saying dumb stuff that doesn't make sense? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r753jc/saying_dumb_stuff_that_doesnt_make_sense/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T11:05:07.000Z | r7531u | 0 | 1 | ADHD | How do I know if I’m at the right dose to be ‘normal’ level inattentiveness? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r7531u/how_do_i_know_if_im_at_the_right_dose_to_be/ |
Amicdict | Post is from r/autism with the similar title.
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I've been thinking about this for a while and it makes me somewhat sad. **Everytime I receive (sometimes obvious) misinformation, I gullibly believe it until said misinformation is criticized.**
When there's conflicting opinions / arguments or a topic is controversial, the information and arguments I get from there just feel confusing and I feel nonsensical so I just end up not bothering with that stuff again.
For instance:
* When I read a guide that is bad in hindsight, despite the amount of information I have on the topic and how obvious it should be that the guide is bad, I immediately believe in it and think it's good until I see criticism of the guide.
* I can only spot fallacies when they are specified as fallacies. If there's an ad hominem attack *disguised* as a convincing argument, I likely won't notice that it's ad hominem without being guided through.
* Some *awful* posts in this subreddit that I somehow manage to fall for (/ gullibly believe in).
* [This post here.](https://old.reddit.com/r/Cringetopia/comments/ppcvov/fake_stimming_or_what_now/) I fully believed in either the comments in the og r/Cringetopia post or the crosspost to r/autism comments.
That's all of the examples I can give for now.
Off topic thing I wanted to mention: I don't know why I'm like this, but McDD sounds funny to me. *McDD*s. | 2021-12-02T10:49:36.000Z | r74u37 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | Why is it so hard for me to flexibly think / use critical thinking? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r74u37/why_is_it_so_hard_for_me_to_flexibly_think_use/ |
Lazy_Character_1940 | I am 17(m)i have some sort of ADHD. I didn't get officially diagnosed yet by a psychiatrist but my psychologist already said that I do have attention deficit. I am gonna go to psychiatrist very soon to get some sort of medicine or get help the proper way I need it. Anyways I have Avery boring lithuania class it's my home language (main) anyways it's soooooooooo boring and I can't deal with it properly I just wanna bang my head to a table until the class stops. Evey time I walk in I get all itchy, cold, hot, tired, I just wanna go sleep or pass out everything is better then this torture. I wanna stab my head with a pencile maybe that will make the boringness go away I would literally do anything so I wouldn't have to sit here. I don't learn anything i don't listen to anything she says I just wanna get out of this class as soon as possible. I would rather do anything but this. This class makes me hate the world and anything that's in it. | 2021-12-02T10:49:13.000Z | r74tve | 4 | 1 | ADHD | How to deal with boring lessons? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r74tve/how_to_deal_with_boring_lessons/ |
doweknowyou22 | [removed] | 2021-12-02T10:47:16.000Z | r74sql | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Did Ritalin reduce your mental exhaustion? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r74sql/did_ritalin_reduce_your_mental_exhaustion/ |
BoboBombastico | Hi everybody! I've been recenty diagnosed (in Germany) and have started taking Medikinet, raising my dose every few days. Right now I'm taking 20 mg after breakfast and lunch each.
So far I've hardly felt any changes, let alone these sensations of calmness others talk about on this sub.
But I've noticed that my muscles, mainly my legs, feel relaxed, about 2 hours after taking my meds. It's like I've been flexing them and just stopped. Is that normal/has someone had similiar experiences? | 2021-12-02T10:39:50.000Z | r74otq | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Muscle relaxation from medication? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r74otq/muscle_relaxation_from_medication/ |
SnooGoats3901 | My whole life I’ve been really high performing academically…. Straight A’s throughout school, valedictorian, did well in college and landed top engineering roles, etc etc.
However.
In high school I rarely did homework until the night before, or not at all if I knew the teacher well and they wouldn’t care. This procrastination got worse in college. I’d pull all nighters in the computer lab the night before big projects were due and complete weeks worth of work in a 12 hour sprint. Still managed to get good grades, somehow, but I was putting my body through the ringer with the late nights that became more and more frequent.
I’m currently in a really high paced engineering role and am finding myself procrastinating again, filling my day with looking at news articles, or stock prices, or what my next snack would be. I’m still finishing my tasks, albeit I spend WAY more time at the office than I should.
I’ve suspected I’ve had ADHD for years…. and it’s probably a testament to this procrastination that I haven’t done anything about it until this very Reddit post. I had always thought ADHD was the troublesome, hyper, bouncing-off-the-walls-kid with bad grades in school, so I never looked into it until a few years ago. Since then I’ve become more and more convinced.
I’d like to be evaluated and I’d like to see if I am a good candidate for medication. I’d like to take a little more control of my life back.
My question is… what do you recommend I do from here? Have you had a good experience with these online psychologist sites? Or should I pursue more traditional methods? Any help and/or suggestions is really appreciated!
Edit: what things should I be concerned about? What sort of side effects to the medication are possible? | 2021-12-02T10:34:37.000Z | r74m3c | 4 | 1 | ADHD | I suspect I have ADHD. What are my next steps? Suggestions please! | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r74m3c/i_suspect_i_have_adhd_what_are_my_next_steps/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T10:27:27.000Z | r74ici | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Meds work but make me too relaxed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r74ici/meds_work_but_make_me_too_relaxed/ |
Kopikabana | Ok so I am 28m and I was diagnosed a few months back. The diagnosis has helped me understand the cause behind a lot of the behaviour I had no previous explanation for (other than Im just an awful human being). Having said that I dont want to use ADHD as any kind of excuse for the behaviours that are just fundamentally wrong. Im posting in the hope that someone has some experienced the position Im in and can offer some sttategies for. To be clear this is something I would want to talk with a therapist over if I could afford it and please dont be overly judgemental because this is nothing that Im proud of and want to stop yet I always seem to slip back into old/bad habits.
I love my partner. I really do, and I know she loves me. Its why she sticks with me through all of my struggles and supports me and makes a genuine effort to understand how I think and feel. We've been together for 2 years now and even though I constantly second guess myself, she is someone who I would want to spend the rest of my life with...so why can I not stop flirting with other people online?
I know its wrong, I know both her view that kind of behaviour as cheating but I cant stop - or if I do its only for a few months. I gravitate towards the BDSM community out of personal interest and there is such a rush in the initial stages of connecting with people, talking about these deep desires and presenting myself without all the baggage that trails behind me. I go to bed each night with my chest caving in with guilt but the next day i repeat the cycle. I always end up disappearing from the chats I strike up with people because the reality of the relationship Im building sinks in (coming accross as an asshole to them which also contributes to feelings of guilt because Ive taken them for an emotional time wasting ride).
I understand sexual impulses are quite common for people with adhd and in a twisted way Im proud of myself for never needing to go further for the mental gratification but I want to take back the control. I want to be satisfied with what I have and to have the strength to resist these impulses but its a slippery slope from looking at one slightly suggestive picture, to feeling aroused and becomming involved in sexually charged conversations with strangers.
Everything I read online suggests CBT therapy to improve impulse control but I simply cannot afford a therapist for any ongoing period of time. Can someone please help or offer some kind of strategy or system that works to break this kind of habit. | 2021-12-02T10:22:21.000Z | r74fp8 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I need help | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r74fp8/i_need_help/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T10:18:04.000Z | r74dd9 | 2 | 0 | ADHD | I forgot to click Turn In on my test on Google Classroom so I failed it. This is not the first time this happened. Did ADHD cause this? | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r74dd9/i_forgot_to_click_turn_in_on_my_test_on_google/ |
Doug1844 | So, I’m a successful professional in my 50’s just officially diagnosed with ADHD by an expert in the field. I am considering treatment. I’m doing ok in life, I have strategies, like always leave my glasses and keys in the same place :)
It’s a little irritating when I read that my mind jumps, I am suddenly checking google, and always have a song in my head. But I can live.
My other thing is since my 20s I have fibromyalgia, not in a bad way, but I can’t do a lot of sports I used to do because my body tightens up. It’s not regular age. I was reading that the incidence of FM and ADHD are increased both ways- if you have one, you are more likely to have the other.
So I am wondering if increasing the norepinephrine in my prefrontal cortex (or whatever it is that Vyvanse and Concerta do) would help me with my constant reactive pain and body tightness.
Anyone have any experiences on this?
Much thanks | 2021-12-02T10:13:03.000Z | r74at7 | 4 | 3 | ADHD | Does treatment help with pain? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r74at7/does_treatment_help_with_pain/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T10:09:26.000Z | r748z7 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Browsing r/ADHD while fully aware I'm on work hours, and continuing to browse | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r748z7/browsing_radhd_while_fully_aware_im_on_work_hours/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T10:05:42.000Z | r746vx | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Browsing r/ADHD during work hours, reading posts telling me to get back to work slowly, and continuing to browse. | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r746vx/browsing_radhd_during_work_hours_reading_posts/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T10:05:42.000Z | r746vs | 1 | 1 | ADHD | WHY I FEEL I DONT HAVE ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r746vs/why_i_feel_i_dont_have_adhd/ |
Professional_Cut_683 | [removed] | 2021-12-02T10:05:23.000Z | r746q3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Can someone explain the whole dopamine in a ADHD brain to me? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r746q3/can_someone_explain_the_whole_dopamine_in_a_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T10:05:23.000Z | r746py | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I forgot to click Turn In on my test in Google Classroom, so I failed it. This is not the first time this happened. Does ADHD have anything to do with this? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r746py/i_forgot_to_click_turn_in_on_my_test_in_google/ |
Doisel | Alright, Finally my first post. Whaaat? Yes i know.
So here is the thing: It seems like I cant start on cleaning my apartment. All the rooms, dishes, vacuum cleaning and washing every corner.. It feels like too much. Am I just lazy or do some of you get me?
And if you relate how do you handle this kind off situation? | 2021-12-02T09:50:33.000Z | r73ymi | 11 | 2 | ADHD | Cleaning makes me feel overwhelmed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73ymi/cleaning_makes_me_feel_overwhelmed/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T09:43:53.000Z | r73v6a | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Cleaning makes me overwhelmed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73v6a/cleaning_makes_me_overwhelmed/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T09:37:16.000Z | r73rq9 | 2 | 2 | ADHD | Need tips for self help | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73rq9/need_tips_for_self_help/ |
Remarkable-Brush4646 | i know everyone is familiar with the day to day feeling of being dragged by there adhd onto Instagram for 2 hours for the dopamine hit then onto a game where they just lose track of time ultimately having little choice in what they do more of a rampant conquest for dopamine, currently i am trying to trade commodities markets full time and have had great success when researching markets and burying my head into any information i can get on the subject, i tip my hat to my adhd for giving me the intense focus and faster thinking than normal to become good at my job but at the moment I'm experiencing something that I've never faced before which is controlling the impulses for dopamine, at random intervals throughout the day i get a feeling for stimulation sort of a restless feeling it makes me wanna get up and do something but most of the time I'm trying to trade and my brain just needs to wait. when it gets bad i end up making stupid mistakes that have a negative effect on my account balance and id be happy to channel that impulsivity else where i just don't know what into. my adhd is an actual blessing but at the same time is my curse, i process information at light speed and see confronting information from miles away because of my inability to focus on one data point. but then at the same time the one thing that's giving me my dream job is taking it away because i can't regulate my impulses if anyone knows what I'm on about and has ways they use to tackle this it'd be really appreciated | 2021-12-02T09:35:48.000Z | r73qxb | 1 | 1 | ADHD | how to not be dragged ? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73qxb/how_to_not_be_dragged/ |
Teriyaki-Realness | Does anybody also know these sideeffects of Focaline/Ritaline/Concerta:
Sometimes it feels like I get too focused and I kind of lose touch with my inner self and my feelings of being relaxed and just there.
When I started taking meds when I was 14 I suddenly got a lot better in school and then it kind of turned into an obsession to get the best grades. Sometimes I wish I could go back to 14 year old me and just never start taking meds. I woudn't have been the best at school but I would have had more fun and friends. Does anybody feel the same way?
I know this narratives are also always kind of problematic because you never know what might have been. | 2021-12-02T09:31:53.000Z | r73oyj | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Meds Sideffects | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73oyj/meds_sideffects/ |
calblend | After spending some time reading about ADHD, I think my partner has some caracteristics. We knew each other for 1 year before we decided to get married. She is very kind, but clumsy, and repeatedly lost her belongings. I find it hard to rely on important matters to her. I went to psychologist alone to tell about my concern about my partner’s ADHD. During the session, the psychologist mention that she also has ADHD. Do you think I should continue bring my partnet to the same psychologist? Can someone share their experience living with someone with ADHD? What should I do? How are the chances that our kids in the future also have ADHD? | 2021-12-02T09:30:48.000Z | r73oci | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Need suggestion about what to do | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73oci/need_suggestion_about_what_to_do/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T09:28:37.000Z | r73n4f | 1 | 0 | ADHD | I just realized I forgot to copy something in class that I need for an assignment | 0.5 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73n4f/i_just_realized_i_forgot_to_copy_something_in/ |
Specific_Election_64 | I have adhd but i’m not sure if this would be apart of adhd or not, I have a frustration when I write in a book or any piece of paper. If the hand writing isn’t perfect or neat I will rip it out and throw it away and repeat. The most papers i have thrown away from trying to write one page is 10. Which is really high and it’s hard for me to participate in school as When i’m writing notes I end up having to rewrite them ALL the time. i cant just leave it because i will have a strong urge/bother to rip it out and start over. i’m not sure why i’m like this… does anyone here experience the same? or can help me with what i’m dealing with. | 2021-12-02T09:26:07.000Z | r73luf | 3 | 1 | ADHD | I have ADHD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73luf/i_have_adhd/ |
Rherman0493 | This started as a comment and I decided that since my adhd turned it into such a nice support post for me, I would make my first post on here and ask for some help.
I'm dealing with being "that guy" that somtimes gets talked about behind his back, and definitely has ocward things coming out of his mouth every now and then despite his best efforts to stop it from happening and can't wait to find my match made in heaven that will find me as interesting as I find my self.
I've only just started my job 1 1/2 weeks ago, but as a truck stop cashier, we get to talk most of the day with eachother and get to have fun and get to know eachother.
The problem is, I am a 28 year old guy, most of my co-workers are females, and typically younger. They don't drive and have bad days like the rest of us. As I've gotten close to one of THEM, and share the same shift (who has ADD and other serious mental stuff going on) I feel bad for her and offered her today to be a friend she could blow up at, instead of another coworker that wouldn't understand and turn her in. I have also made sure she has a ride home a few times, since we get off at 1030pm. I know that I'm just being a good person with absolutely no harm or bad intentions (she has a boyfriend, and honestly isn't my type) but I feel like I still am doing a bad thing just because she is female and younger than me.
I HATE THIS! And am holding back the tears right now because of how bad and confused it makes me feel. I would be acting exactly the same way if it was a guy who happen to be taking the bus home and was having a bad day too,amd shared my shift, but she isn't a guy, she is a she. I just feel the extra pressure because of the gender difference.
What do I do, and how can I tell my self to not help her and say it okay to feel like an a**whole that is minding his own business, even though it's killing him not offering his help?
Thanks for any help guys | 2021-12-02T09:25:47.000Z | r73lov | 5 | 0 | ADHD | I feel like I might be coming off as a creep, but I'm just being a sweet guy | 0.33 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73lov/i_feel_like_i_might_be_coming_off_as_a_creep_but/ |
Hugeeyedpysch-0000 | I haven’t been able to study for 2 months now i open my books and I can’t get to focus at all at times i think i dont have adhd I’m just lazy or act like that like my brains tricking me i haven’t cleaned my room for over 2 weeks now i havent done laundry over 3 months and i have been spending alot these days I’m not on medications bcuz i dont want to deal with side effects i just stopped my bc pills so i dont feel like taking any medications anymore i cant retain any information i study HELP ME OUT WITH HOW YOU GUYS DEAL WITH YOURS WITHOUT MEDICATIONS | 2021-12-02T09:25:18.000Z | r73lgb | 6 | 3 | ADHD | I have adhd and loads of assignments and midterms help me out with suggestions? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73lgb/i_have_adhd_and_loads_of_assignments_and_midterms/ |
Livid-Avocado-408 | The first 2 days I had some secondary effects (anxiety, fast heart beat, I was very awake, etc. But no focus), the second day it was less and today I didnt get any effect at all. Im gonna keep taking it for 2 weeks and then increase to 50mg. Im also contact my dr after those 2 weeks to see if its normal or that the med just doesnt work for me :/ | 2021-12-02T09:24:24.000Z | r73kzx | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Day 3 on vyvanse (35mg) | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73kzx/day_3_on_vyvanse_35mg/ |
winsom_kate | I loved to read but now it's like my brain has stopped comprehending or processing information whenever I read now. Combined with the shit memory that I have, I don't remember anything afterwards. It feels like my brain is of super old model with no memory. Someone asked me a bunch of high school level general knowledge questions and I couldn't answer at all. It was so embarassing but more so because I recognised how I skip over details like acronyms etc. And even if I make an effort to understand them, it's like my brain refuses to co-operate. Maybe it's my adhd or maybe it's because I'm stupid. But I don't know. I hate it and feel like a prisoner of my own mind and am freaking out a bit. | 2021-12-02T09:14:33.000Z | r73g7x | 4 | 7 | ADHD | Feeling very very stupid and I feel like I dont know how to read. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73g7x/feeling_very_very_stupid_and_i_feel_like_i_dont/ |
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[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T09:12:35.000Z | r73f81 | 2 | 3 | ADHD | So I took medication for the first time | 0.81 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73f81/so_i_took_medication_for_the_first_time/ |
Urbanpobre | Hello fellow ADHDers! I was initially diagnosed by my psychologist and I'm being referred to a psychiatrist for medication.
My question for you guys who are currently in medication, did it really help and made a significant change in your life? How does it help you? Any tips or advice while being under medication? What do I need to expect based on your experience. | 2021-12-02T09:12:13.000Z | r73f22 | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I have an appointment with my new psychiatrist next week. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73f22/i_have_an_appointment_with_my_new_psychiatrist/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T09:10:13.000Z | r73e5x | 8 | 1 | ADHD | Is an addictive personality apart of ADHD? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73e5x/is_an_addictive_personality_apart_of_adhd/ |
Insenstivedepression | So I just started treatment and was prescribed Adderall XR. I've notice some improvements but not reaching the effectiveness that I need with only taking 10 mg but today is my fourth day on it. I'm still having trouble focusing and remembering stuff and I have my exams coming up next week, my doctor did say that we could up my dosage if needed but wanted me to start out at 10 mg. Would it be safe or okay for me to take two 10 mg in on day. I take one 10 mg Adderall XR a day before 9 am.
Also I think I have enough pills for 90 days for a 30 day refill, but I need to have my next appointment before my refill
(Edit- I am here just asking for anyone else's experience and advice, to determine what I should do, my doctor said I could up the meds if I need to) | 2021-12-02T09:07:25.000Z | r73cua | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Is it safe to double dose on Adderall XR 10 mg for a day? My normal does is one 10 mg Adderall XR a day. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73cua/is_it_safe_to_double_dose_on_adderall_xr_10_mg/ |
FalconNL93 | I got diagnosed a year ago with ADD (ADHD Inattentive) and Autism (no specific autism type was given).
At the start of the therapy i tried several medication atleast 3 months:
* Concerta up to 54 mg (felt nothing)
* Ritalin (felt nothing)
* Currently: Lisdexamfetamine (elvanse) 70 mg
I also use antidepressants:
* Citalopram up to 40 mg (felt nothing)
* Currently: Duloxetine 120 mg
5 weeks ago, i also was diagnosed with a burnout, my therapist said that i cannot continue work for now and i need to take a lot of rest.
Maybe it is relevant, or not: i like to drink coffee (3 of 4 cups of 120 ml regular coffee per day in the morning). After that only water or tea.
I take the medication daily around 07:00 (7am) and i feel an euphoric feeling until 11 am. I can focus and work perfectly until the day reaches 12:00.
Then a tsunami of depression kicks in, my brain starts to think only of negative thoughts and im tired like hell. Dropping all of my work, because my motivation dropped to 0.
I sleep 8 hours during my nightsleep and since my burnout i sleep (or close eyes) 1 to 2 hours in the afternoon on top of my nightsleep, as my eyes are too difficult to stay open.
The main problem is (i think) is that i cannot enjoy any relaxing activities, because my brain thinks i am not doing anything useful. I tried multiple activities, like:
* Sports
* Going out
* Gaming
* Watching movies
* Hiking, bicycle
* Driving car
My activity must have a purpose, and relaxing is not a good purpose (my brain thinks). I'm so burned out, i cannot even handle simple tasks anymore. The ADHD was there even before i was working, just diagnosed (too) late. So i end up doing chores a lot of the time, and if there are no chores, i make one up. So taking rest and doing nothing (watching movie, hiking, gaming, etc.. is a pain in the ass)
My therapist said that we are out of options for medication, because i tried a lot of them.
Do any of you have/had the same experience and have some tips for me? | 2021-12-02T09:03:12.000Z | r73as5 | 5 | 1 | ADHD | Medication out of options, depressed and not enjoying | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r73as5/medication_out_of_options_depressed_and_not/ |
Head_Sign_2847 | Since I started Concerta, almost 9 months ago, I've been experiencing a strange sensation in my right side in my muscles I think, the best way I can describe it is its almost like the Branston hicks cramps which precede real labour. It gets worse during the day and by early evening it gets almost painful. I've told my gp and physciatrist who don't know what I'm talking about. I'm 59 and wondering if I'm too old physically to tolerate the methylphenidate?
Anyone else experienced this ? | 2021-12-02T08:48:48.000Z | r733e1 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Weird sensations | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r733e1/weird_sensations/ |
Moby-WHAT | [removed] | 2021-12-02T08:31:50.000Z | r72v2j | 1 | 1 | ADHD | I have to get up in < 5 hours | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72v2j/i_have_to_get_up_in_5_hours/ |
TheJuanDig | Semi-burner, since I'm a bit ashamed of lack of knowledge (since im not sure if this is even a thing of adhd with disinformation and "cute" names everything has)
and a bit(a lot) of desperation.
I am currently in a situation where I'm sitting in an uncomfortable position, I've managed to pull out my phone after staring at my fb feed for a few minutes to ask about recommendations.
I am on a constant battle of disbelief on how much this affects me, apart from the constant need for urgency part so situations like this are a rare wake up call to this.
I am in need of advice, although it wont be much help since I can only hold my pee so much and my eyes are starting to hurt but I hope this helps anyone else(on the basis that I'm not wrong and this is related)
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If you'd like to know exactly what I'm feeling is:
Im sitting uncomfortably(now at least) while wanting to go to the restroom really bad, not right now but before writing this I was staring at fb feed, not enjoying it while thinking I want to start doing something fun or continue with my hw but I'm just watching, I am aware of what's goong on, but its uncomfortable to think about moving or taking any action at all (right now I'm looking at the last line of what im writing with my head slouched and my thumbs just tapping away), hence the long post since it feels nice to continue writing. Can't wait to rotate my phone 180 to hit send
Anyway, my eyes hurt from not blinking much but also from this weird feeling of not changing focus.* I pray i wont delete this like everything else ive tried writing with my main*
Tapping up to fix errors feels uncomfortable but, leaving them feels way worse.
PS. I've considered some sort of taser to wrap around my thigh or something that I can activate remotely. Has anyone tried it?(on the basis that I'm, again, not wrong about its relation to adhd) sorry long post thanks love I'll lurk sorry. | 2021-12-02T08:31:01.000Z | r72umf | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Any suggestions on getting unstuck? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72umf/any_suggestions_on_getting_unstuck/ |
MagZero | I'm from the UK so doctors aren't so inclined to prescribe meds as our US counterparts are. I'm also not a child and that further reduces my chances. I'm also an addict, so that reduces it even further. I'm an alcoholic, and have been since I was 17, but I've never drunk to get drunk, just to put me on some functioning level.
I'm 36, I have been expelled from three schools, two universities, and I have been fired from every job I've ever had, and I've had a lot of fucking jobs. I'm on my final written warning in my current job, and I'm homeless. I can't take it any longer.
I got diagnosed when I was 30, but medication was never offered due to my addictive tendencies, and I never really followed it up because I thought that I'd 'managed' so far in life, and it didn't really matter, I didnt want to become some fucking zombie, and I guess my biggest fear is that they won't change anything.
But I can't handle this, my two forays into studying at uni I did Physics, and Genetics, I'm currently a fucking cleaner, and nothing against it, it's alright, but I want more from my life, I'm capable of more.
I didn't really know what ADHD was until I got diagnosed, I'd heard of it, but back in the late 90s when I was a teenager there was all this discourse over whether it was real, or bad parenting, my brother turned out alright (although I suspect he has it to some degree, it is, after all, genetic).
Getting the diagnosis put my life in to context, but it didn't change anything. I've seen scores of therapists and psychological professionals in my life, and as helpful as it is to have someone to talk to, I've never gotten better. Because I just don't listen, and the words mean nothing, I'm just being told things I already know, or to do things that I already know I should be doing.
So today, now that I have been homeless for almost three months, my job is on the line, and without an address, I won't be getting another, I have decided to seek medication.
I'm worried, I'm worried that the GP is going to decline me based on my alcoholism, and I'm worried that even if he does acquiesce, that the drugs won't work, and I've put my hope in nothing.
I don't really know what to expect by posting here, I just want it off my chest, because I'm incapable of forming lasting relationships, and so I don't really have anyone else to tell. | 2021-12-02T08:24:53.000Z | r72rew | 3 | 3 | ADHD | I'm going to seek medication today | 0.72 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72rew/im_going_to_seek_medication_today/ |
Live_Biscotti_462 | [removed] | 2021-12-02T08:20:54.000Z | r72pf0 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | how can I stay up all night without caffeine? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72pf0/how_can_i_stay_up_all_night_without_caffeine/ |
Wolfsoul178 | i recently sought out testing for ADD only last month and i feel like i’m not gonna be able to get into many colleges at all and i feel like such a failure. i know it doesn’t have to be the next thing in my life but i wanna go to become an architect and i feel like shit because i feel like i do have ADD but it’s like i can finally fix myself and get things done and j be functioning fine but like what good is it now if i’m applying to colleges in my senior year with a 3.3 gpa. it’s really frustrating. one college i was looking at was cooper union but i didn’t realize how selective it was and most people who are going towards architecture in general i feel have a significantly better gpa. i have decent extracurriculars but i’ve done a lot of work in them and i know i’ll get one really good recommendation but is that any good? i j feel kinda dumb even tho i know i’m not but i can’t do much anymore to better my situation. can anyone offer any insight, especially if u were in a similar situation? | 2021-12-02T08:19:52.000Z | r72ouq | 1 | 5 | ADHD | im 17, applying to college with a 3.3 gpa, being tested for ADD bit i feel like i failed | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72ouq/im_17_applying_to_college_with_a_33_gpa_being/ |
Excellent_Back_3895 | I changed today from ritalin (Was not working for me even in high doses) and a changed to Aderrall XR 10mg, since is finals week I used 20g instead of 10g, after taking the dosis I noticed that I develop Erectile dysfunction, my dick looks smaller and I'm do not feel hungry thougout the day. I'm worry because I have phimosis 1 and is really hard to pee if my penis is not fully retractable, is there anything I could do to stop side effects or minimize them? (Besides stop the dosis)
Thank you and sorry for my English | 2021-12-02T08:14:31.000Z | r72m2v | 2 | 1 | ADHD | Aderrall XR is working but | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72m2v/aderrall_xr_is_working_but/ |
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Represent_Risk | It’s watching an anime on your tv and understand the perspective of every charter and wanting to understand them but before the episode is over you jump into some YouTube on your phone and next thing you know your kicked back trying to check out and listening to some music on Spotify. There is no rhyme or reason | 2021-12-02T08:11:06.000Z | r72kes | 2 | 2 | ADHD | I’ll tell you about ADHD | 0.75 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72kes/ill_tell_you_about_adhd/ |
[deleted] | [removed] | 2021-12-02T08:08:58.000Z | r72jbm | 1 | 1 | ADHD | after forgetting my meds(vyvanse) for a few days, it doesn’t work as well as before. has anyone else had this happen? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72jbm/after_forgetting_my_medsvyvanse_for_a_few_days_it/ |
helliantheae | I find that sitting and trying to focus for a long time is exhausting, obviously, and everyone always recommends work for x amount of time and take a y minute break. This sounds great in theory, but with the executive dysfunction its so hard to make myself sit down and stare at my computer screen in the first place, let alone do it over and over again. Once I get up to pee or look at my phone it's like I'm done for and an hour goes by without me realizing.
Anyone else have this issue? Any ideas/ how do you tackle this? Do you use other techniques instead? | 2021-12-02T08:08:34.000Z | r72j4i | 3 | 2 | ADHD | Trouble coming back from breaks when using pomodoro technique? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72j4i/trouble_coming_back_from_breaks_when_using/ |
[deleted] | [deleted] | 2021-12-02T08:06:45.000Z | r72i3l | 1 | 1 | ADHD | Adult ADHD specialist/treatment centre Northern NSW/South-eastern QLD | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72i3l/adult_adhd_specialisttreatment_centre_northern/ |
kingbuckra | I will try to type this as concise as I can. They diagnosed me when I was a kid. Was prescribed meds and all. Dad (who was a psychologist with his PHd) died when I was 9, moved in with mom, got off meds. Recently made the step to finally go and see a professional (now aged 26) and was prescribed aderall today. Things are so so blurry for me. It’s as if I have some sort of dementia. It’s as though I can’t find myself in a big, dark, confusing maze. All I want to do is reunite with my own mind and my own personality that I seem to have parted with at birth, but I am lost instead as a version of myself that is missing many of the key assets required to live a life. I’m messy. I feel sometimes that I manipulate my girlfriend without really trying to. I drink too much. I can’t sleep. Things just do not seem to make sense. I have done awful awful things and I don’t understand my own decisions to do them. I could have been a college athlete but instead I became a convicted felon. I feel sometimes that I do not truly have a personality. I am a terrible employee despite working for someone I’ve been friends with for years in an industry i have years of experience in. I’m a very sub-par student at my local community college. My time management, focus, emotional control, self-awareness, consistency of mood or goals, and overall function is completely screwed. I am very afraid. I think it’s going to get worse. | 2021-12-02T07:59:19.000Z | r72dst | 3 | 1 | ADHD | Man. What a mess | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72dst/man_what_a_mess/ |
luisinretrograde | I've been diagnosed with a moderate case of BPD for about 6 months, along with depression. recently my therapist suggested I might have ADHD which wasn't a shock because I display the symptoms for inattentiveness.
Does anybody have any experience with these two as a combo and how meds might affect that? I've taken a Ritalin from friend to see if it would help and it sent me into intense nausea and a racing heart. I've heard stimulants can really make BPD worse, but are there any that are worth trying? or any non stimulants? I'm currently on lamictal(75mg)and wellbutrin(450). | 2021-12-02T07:58:54.000Z | r72dke | 16 | 1 | ADHD | Diagnosed BPD, suspected ADHD, what meds work? | 0.67 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72dke/diagnosed_bpd_suspected_adhd_what_meds_work/ |
icantthinkofaname940 | I hope you all have a good day or night depending on where you are in the world.
Life sucks and it can harder for us, but I hope you keep pushing forward an achieve something.
It can be some as small as getting out of bed, brushing your teeth or hair or even grabbing something to eat.
If you're having a bad day, I hope it gets better.
:) | 2021-12-02T07:56:16.000Z | r72c7g | 2 | 4 | ADHD | Positivity Post | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72c7g/positivity_post/ |
a2little2late | Im on Vyvanse and take it exactly how my psychiatrist prescribes it to me. Im not abusing it and im not addicted to it.
Well my mom is a nut job which is why I had to go and get diagnosed with ADHD on my own as an adult and pay for my own testing even though I struggled with it as a kid. My plan was to take my medications in secret and just not tell her about my diagnosis but she's snoopy and finds everything in my room. She noticed me up one night and came into my room throwing the bottle at me and yelling at me and calling me a drug addict. She said I better get rid of them or she's going to flush it down the toilet. With finals coming up im so scared of her doing this. The medication really helps me and I don't have a history of drug abuse. Im not doing anything illegal. I work at a pharmacy for fucks sake and passed my drug tests and finger prints. I just don't know how to get her to see this.
Im too fucked with student debt to move out although i wish I could. Most of the time I don't mind living with her but I don't know what she's going to do to my medications. I feel like if I hide it shell just find it | 2021-12-02T07:54:46.000Z | r72bdn | 24 | 23 | ADHD | My mom said shes going to throw away my medication and im scared | 0.93 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72bdn/my_mom_said_shes_going_to_throw_away_my/ |
FavTheMighty | Hello! I got diagnosed recently and got Medikinet as my medication (seems to be the same as Ritalin but from another brand).
I always had trouble to eat in the morning especially on work days as I’m nervous.
The things I DO like to eat when I have to are small sour things like clementines or yoghurts.
Someone recently told me that I should'nt eat sour food as it could affect the medication.
Now I’m very insecure and I hope you guys can help me out. | 2021-12-02T07:53:57.000Z | r72axc | 7 | 1 | ADHD | What can I eat and drink when I’m medicated? | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r72axc/what_can_i_eat_and_drink_when_im_medicated/ |
Mudthewater | [removed] | 2021-12-02T07:50:59.000Z | r729b3 | 1 | 1 | ADHD | ADHD Rage? Lisdexamfetamine. Relationship breakdown. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r729b3/adhd_rage_lisdexamfetamine_relationship_breakdown/ |
JustFuckinTossMe | I was reading a post here the other day about how people with ADHD tend to surround themselves in chaos because our brains seek stimulation constantly. Someone's well meaning response essentially said "not everything is about you" in response to the OP saying the article stating we surround ourselves in negativity seemed to line up with things like fearing people hate you for saying something.
That's well and good and all and a valid point but it kind of rubbed me the wrong way and I'd like to explain myself and see if others agree or can see my standpoint as having merit.
I can't remember a time in my earlier childhood where I thought about myself, what I did, what those around me thought, or how I said/did things made people feel. I was just a very genuine, honest, blunt, and inattentive kid. I was super inquisitive and activity driven. I loved to create and dance and sing and talk to people about anything. I loved to touch and analyze everything in my sight, too. It wasn't until I started getting older and my symptoms heightened that I started being reprimanded harsher for just existing as myself. I was extremely pressured as a child and teen to not speak unless spoken to, don't touch things in stores/houses, don't ask "why", don't say this, don't do that, on and on and on. In fact, when I was 16 my mom forced me to get a driving test I knew I'd fail because I wasn't ready and ignored my fears and called me lazy and problematic. Then she hit me and called me stupid while screaming at me on the way home when, no surprise, I did in fact fail. She told me I wasted 30 dollars and needed to step up.
So, yeah everything kind of WAS about me. It seemed like people were always mad at me for just existing and that if I didn't mask or consciously do what I felt like I was supposed to do then everyone was miserable. If I succeeded, I wasn't given much thought or appreciation. If I failed I was critiqued for being lazy and unmotivated. I was regularly talked to on car rides to stores or what not about how I needed to be a better version of me. I was pulled into rooms frequently to be corrected on my behavior. I was often coached on how to speak to people or what to say/not say in case I came off rude and was told common phrases that people interpret as bad.
This was really stressful for me and it wasn't something I sought out, it was a life I couldn't escape without dying. So, my brain did the only thing it could to survive: adapt. I started being hyper aware of myself and lived in constant fear of making others upset with me. I started second guessing myself and to this day at 25 I still can't stop apologizing even when I know what I said or did wasn't an issue. I feel like a LOT of ADHD kids experienced this kind of chaos in childhood and adapted to it as a way to survive. I'd wager I'm always in a chaotic state because I was raised in one and it was my only feedback so it became normal.
So, no, not everything is about us. But, on the other hand, the overwhelming anxiety we get and fear of messing up/making people upset over anything we do is probably a lot more about our nurture than nature for some. I was made to feel like the center of the universe was on me and if I messed up my entire structure would collapse and I'd be unworthy, unwanted, a disappointment, a failure, and unlovable. In the beginning it wasn't me who started that type of thinking, it was my friends/family/teachers who planted those seeds. Now that I'm older I'm still weeding out my brain from everything they did and all the pressure that was placed on me for being different. The advice that everything isn't about us isn't really helpful and I would argue can in turn make us feel scolded for even sounding off our concerns and less likely to do it again.
A better response, or way to say this to someone struggling with things like self doubt and self hate would be to tell them to think outside of their mindset imo. This isn't ADHD specific, but it can be really hard to force yourself into someone else's shoes and see how they think of things because all you know is how you think of things and how others have made you feel. Anyways, that's my two cents and thought it was maybe worthy of conveying. | 2021-12-02T07:46:24.000Z | r726xt | 47 | 263 | ADHD | The problem with telling some people with ADHD "not everything is about you" | 0.99 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r726xt/the_problem_with_telling_some_people_with_adhd/ |
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BERSERKER808 | I don't know if this is the right reddit page to post this at. I feel like ADHD has really fucked my life up among other things so maybe it is. Im just going to rant. Maybe some of yall can relate to me and itle make me and you feel a little better temporarily. I hate my life. I hate where im at and im scared of the future. Im 24 turning 25 in January. I live with my parents. My whole life ive been confused. Not understanding what's going on in my head. So many thoughts and no clarity. Even writing this is difficult. Im just so lost. Anything moderately complex that I try to learn I cant process. Ill finish reading a book and its like I never read it in the first place. I was told it was because I cant focus but im on Adderall and no matter how hard I try I just cant comprehend what im, trying to learn. I cant follow through with anything. Ever since I graduated highschool ive been in a viscous cycle of procrastination. I have dreams. I want to travel the world, see all of the different cultures and gain knowledge and wisdom from them. I want to be the person that has overcome hardship and then help the weak. But I have no energy. Im losing energy writing this right now. I hate whatever this is. I imagine a great future but every day that passes I come no closer to it. I dont know if this is ADHD or whatever other fucking curse. Im not touching on my other problems here, I have anxiety OCD depression and etc. I imagine a beautiful life that seems to be unreachable. All the while my father is dieng of cancer. Hes tried all of the standard practices and has been on experimental trial medications for some time. He tells me to think positive. But I know hes going to die soon. And I know he is terrified of my future and well being. Whenever I talk to him I pretend to be strong and in control of my life because I want him to be somewhat happy for lack of a better word when he dies. In truth I don't know what the fuck im going to do. I'm lost I don't know what the fuck is going on. I've been in therapy and tried every medication since I was a a teenager. I have no idea how I'm going to find the strength to support my mother after my father dies even though I love her so much. What the fuck is going on? I mean seriously what the fuck? I'm not suicidal because I wouldn't do that to my mother and sister but GOD DAMN I wish I wasn't born. I know threes good in life I just wish I could reach it. Maybe I can. Just god or somebody help me please. This suffering is too much. I apologize if any of this was confusing to you. I tried my best. | 2021-12-02T07:37:40.000Z | r7225c | 2 | 3 | ADHD | I don't know what to title this | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r7225c/i_dont_know_what_to_title_this/ |
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Dontthinkaboutshrimp | Not that she’s been overly supportive of my diagnosis before (she hasn’t said anything negative or anything, she’s been in my corner for sure), but today was rough, I still managed to fall behind in making my appointment (I’m still finding the correct dose), so it’s been a few days since I’ve taken a dose. Since then, my car and room have both returned to their previous disaster zones (when I’m on my medication it’s not obsessively clean or anything, I’m just able to throw out trash and un-needed items as needed and manage to keep the floor, bed and even the closest and chairs fairly free of debris).
I was making coffee at 6pm because caffeine doesn’t really effect me too badly, but it would be enough to wake me up after my nap. She mentioned it, and I said, ‘oh, but I haven’t had my adderall today, so this is the only hope you have of keeping my attention.’ It was mostly a joke, but you know, comedy comes from tragedy.
She instead just sort of…shakes her head while putting a finger to her temple. ‘It’s all in your head’ she said, and i sort of paused, because, no, it’s not.
I did tear up a little and said, ‘please don’t say that, because it’s the only reason why I have ever felt remotely normal’ which is absolutely true. I pointed out the bit car, my room, and how previous history from childhood had shown a repeating pattern, and then ended it by pointing at my AirPod, which I haven’t been wearing during parties since I’ve started meeting with my doctor (mind you, while ACTIVELY listening to a podcast in one ear, because god forbid I have a moment without some sort of external simulation).
She apologized, and I know she’s coming from a completely different POV, but it just felt so invalidating and honestly fed into my fear that everyone I know think’s I’m making it up. Which really sucks. | 2021-12-02T07:36:20.000Z | r721eb | 1 | 2 | ADHD | I’m recently diagnosed and my usually supportive friend completely invalidated my feelings | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r721eb/im_recently_diagnosed_and_my_usually_supportive/ |
Fivemans | I've currently been living in a house with some friends for a little over 2 years. I've used the same shower for over two years. However, for the past week I haven't been able to take a shower because we haven't had any hot water. I constantly checked the dishwasher, the washer, and the water heater and there were no problems. I checked the sinks around the house as well as the master shower, no problems. I figured a plumbing issue.
Well today I realized I had the shower dials completely flipped. I talked to my friends as well as the landlord about this issue and now I'm afraid to look like a complete fool by coming clean. I had no hesitation using the shower incorrectly, my brain just went with it naturally.
I went and climbed two days from the past week so I smelled horrible and was dying for a shower and was confused as to why no one else was having trouble. My stubborn ass however refused to believe that my brain was wrong.
Good news is I have taken the shower and now I must write a final report for a project due tomorrow that I haven't started. Haven't started the project for clarification.
I don't have medication and probably won't until January and with finals coming up this is gonna be rough. | 2021-12-02T07:26:30.000Z | r71vx3 | 3 | 3 | ADHD | When you forget how to use your own shower. | 1 | https://www.reddit.com/r/ADHD/comments/r71vx3/when_you_forget_how_to_use_your_own_shower/ |
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