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After first meeting the client, what is the process that a counselor facilitates? | A good therapist will discuss what brought you to therapy in the first place and devise a therapy plan with you on some of the things that you may want to work on. The plan is not set in stone as things may arise during your therapy sessions. You also agree on how often and when you would like to meet. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | In the best case scenario, it's a mutual discussion and decision. If not, I've had the discussion initiated both ways, by me, when I sense the client has gone has far as they want, by lack of interest in accepting or completing homework assignments, missing or cancelling appointments, usually at the last minute, lack ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Experts have defined counseling as a healing relationship that helps patients by providing a space to vent, process and receive unconditional support. Many of my clients have expressed that they are able to find their own answers during the session, because they have the right person listening to them. Some thought t... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My ex-fiancé (whom I am still seeing) left me because of the pressure from all three of his teenage daughters. They wanted him to try to work it out with their mom (his ex-girlfriend of 20 years). He and I split three months ago, but I have been seeing him pretty regularly despite the fact that he is living back with h... | Hello. It seems you are in a set of circumstances that are highly uncomfortable for you. Do you feel those circumstances are healthy? Do you find pleasure being in such a place of uncertainty? Why do you continue to be in this situation? Without meaning to appear that I might be lacking in compassion, you do have the o... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I was raped a couple months ago, Since then, along with other unfortunately events that have occurred, I have been having trouble feeling emotions. It's almost as if I'm a sociopath lacking any feeling. What can I do to change this? | You are describing a very legitimate reaction to trauma. Rape is an aweful experience and I am very sorry that happened to you. When horrible things happen, people often react in a way that interferes with the ability to live a normal life and function the way they did in the past. This is very common and the goal i... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am in my early 20s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do? | That is a really tough situation that a lot of young people are experiencing right now. The first thing to under is that you can’t change who your parents are and cannot change their behavior. The thing to keep in mind is that you can control your responses and actions. You may need to keep living at home with them ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm planning to have baby, so I have to quit smoking - but it's hard. Sometimes it's not a physical need, it's mental.
I cannot help myself from thinking about smoking. What can I do to get rid of this addiction? | Quitting smoking can be difficult. It's also true that there is part that is sometimes a physical need and a part that is often connected to emotions in some way. From the way that you wrote this, it sounds like you may have been able to stop smoking physically, but still have cravings.One thing you can do is talk with... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | Goodbyes can be hard.
Chances are most of the goodbyes you have experienced in your life have been
difficult. Saying goodbye to a therapist can be different. It can be an
opportunity to create a healthy ending in a positive relationship in your life.
If you work with a therapist who is skilled, then saying goodbye ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm planning to have baby, so I have to quit smoking - but it's hard. Sometimes it's not a physical need, it's mental.
I cannot help myself from thinking about smoking. What can I do to get rid of this addiction? | It is very good news that you realize the risks of smoking cigarettes while pregnant and are willing to stop.Thinking about smoking is a typical and frequent reaction to being without the substance.Be creative with what you know about yourself to distract you when this psychological urge comes up. My suggestions are t... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm a teenager and I've been sneaking out of my house at night for a year now. I've been caught several times. I want to stop doing this but I don't know where to start. How do I stop? | Where do you go and what is your reason to go wherever this is?Try to understand these reasons because the answers may give you good guidance as to other ways to get what it is your trying to reach by sneaking from your home at night.If for example, you're sneaking out because your parents are arguing and you feel hu... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I keep having these random thoughts that I don't want. Things like "you aren't worth anything." I know they're my own thoughts but it feels like someone else is saying it.
What is wrong with me, and how can I stop having these thoughts? | Those critical thoughts most likely came into your mind as the way you understood what one of your parents or some other adult who was very meaningful to you, at a very young age.When we are too young to distinguish whether what a grown person tells us, feels accurate, we absorb their opinions as our own.Your question... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | Counseling ends when the client has received the maximum benefit from the therapist. Even if the therapist believes the client is not making progress, the client may feel they are improving and receiving a benefit. And the therapist may see a benefit and the client does not. It is best to have ongoing dialogue with the... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | There are several reasons for a counselor to decide to end counseling. A major reason to end counseling is if the counselor feels that he or she does not have the skills or experience to work with the client. This may happen during the intake process or after working with the client for some time. If the clinician f... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
What are some difficulties that a counselor can encounter when dealing with a client? | Each counselor will have their own list of "difficulties" in doing therapy work with a client. Even if clinically trained similarly, since counselors are human then their response to your question will reflect their unique differences as humans.On my list is when the emotional pain I feel for someone describing some t... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Does counseling really do anything that can help people? | Yes, counseling can help people.How this happens is bc the counselor can guide the person or couple into deeper areas of their thoughts and emotions than the person or partners would typically avoid or not even realize they are avoiding.Also, a counseling session offers emotional safety because the therapist will inter... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm planning to have baby, so I have to quit smoking - but it's hard. Sometimes it's not a physical need, it's mental.
I cannot help myself from thinking about smoking. What can I do to get rid of this addiction? | Hopefully you feel you have the time to follow this procedure.1. For a week - log when you smoke - time, place and activity2. Plan on cutting back 10% for a week.Cut out the easiest times.3.Next change the times and and activities for 3 days - consider water or candy or gum if it is very tough. 4. Cut another 10% each ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | I will work with clients and continually review progress with them and determine if counseling is helping. If a client appears to have less to talk about in sessions, appears more stable for a period of time and has reached therapeutic goals I will talk about termination. Some clients however I may continue with on a... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am in my early 20s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do? | Hello. It sounds like you and your parents are not balanced in your communication and awareness of expectations. Your growth is not only reflected in your ability to understand and apply new knowledge and skills, it is also reflective of your parents acceptance of your understanding and application. Have you tried talk... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
After first meeting the client, what is the process that a counselor facilitates? | After meeting a client, many Counselors will ask you lots of questions in order to complete a thorough assessment of what you came to counseling for. This assessment is required by most insurances and allows the Counselor to give a diagnosis, which is also required by most insurances in order for them to pay the Counse... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I start counseling/therapy in a few days (I'm freaking out) but my main fear is that I'll cry and embarrass myself, is it something to worry about? | Many people cry during their therapy sessions. Actually most people cry in their therapist's office. I tell my clients that it's safe to cry in my office and crying isn't a sign of weakness. It's a normal human response to pain. People actually do more harm to themselves by trying not to cry than by crying. Crying is v... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | In general, I usually let the client decide when this should occur, sometimes with some clients it will be a joint agreement, but even in that case it should weigh mostly on what the client feels. In short, therapy ends when you feel your done.C | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've been bullied for years and the teachers have done nothing about it. I haven't been diagnosed with depression, but i have been extremely sad for years.
How can I deal with being bullied at school when the teachers won't help? | To be bullied is very painful.I'm glad you know the bullies are doing the wrong thing and whatever they are telling you is pure meanness.Depending on how independent you feel, why not tell either your classroom teacher or schedule an appointment with the vice principal?Bullying other students is taken very seriously in... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I need help knowing how to deal with stress. What can I do? | Something different works for each of us.There are the outward answers of self-pampering and making your home and work environment as pleasant as possible.A deeper level way to decrease stress is through exercise or alternative practices like yoga or tai chi.If the stress is more deeply rooted than temporarily feeling ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've hit my head on walls and floors ever since I was young. I sometimes still do it but I don't exactly know why,
I have anxiety and I had a rough childhood but now I'll start to hit my head and sometimes not realize it but I don't know how to stop or even why I'm doing it.
How can I help myself to change my ... | Hello. I have to wonder from a behavioral perspective if what you are doing is useful for you. In other words, does it serve a purpose in some way when you find yourself doing it. Yes, this could well be an expression of anxiety, or maybe some type of coping skill you have developed over the years to deal with stressfu... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Every winter I find myself getting sad because of the weather. How can I fight this? | One theory is that instead of "fighting" your feelings, accept your sad feelings and work with them. Feeling sad may open many doors to reflect and make peace with the source of your sadness.Also, I believe fighting against the natural cycle of rest and hibernation may not even be possible to succeed. Winter for mo... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've never been able to talk with my parents. My parents are in their sixties while I am a teenager. I love both of them but not their personalities. I feel that they do not take me seriously whenever I talk about a serious event in my life. If my dad doesn’t believe me, then my mom goes along with my dad and acts like... | Life sounds extremely frustrating for you right now.As long as you've reached your conclusion that your parents do not take you seriously when you would like to speak with them on a serious topic, and that you feel unable to trust either of them, then work with your own information.Many people don't know how to listen ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My brother has been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and has not been taking his medication. He's been using methamphetamine and alcohol and was found sleeping naked in my step mom driveway in 12 degree weather.
I was adopted in by his dad (who just passed) and his mother will not Get involved because she's afr... | The answer depends on what State you live.Since the description you write here is that your brother may be a serious risk to himself and others, it is worth contacting a mental health hotline or one of your local area hospitals and talk to a social worker or other professional level person in their psychiatry departmen... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I feel like I am internally screaming all the time. Externally, I am calm, but I have this intense, unidentifiable emotion constantly. I don't feel sad. I don't cry a lot. I feel rather emotionally distant other than the internal screaming. It kind of feels like I'm a caged animal. | It sounds like you are trying to find a label to help you to understand why you are feeling the way you are feeling. Sometimes there are no labels for how we feel. Sometimes there is no name for the emotions that we are experiencing. Regardless, you do not have to continue to feel this way, no matter what you call it... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a person start the counseling process? | The first thing to do is to reflect on what you want to seek counseling. Search online and then set up a phone consultation. A person can find out a lot about a counselor and the services that they offer over the phone. After a consultation then set up an intake questions. The overall goal is to make sure that you are ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I keep having these random thoughts that I don't want. Things like "you aren't worth anything." I know they're my own thoughts but it feels like someone else is saying it.
What is wrong with me, and how can I stop having these thoughts? | First off, there is nothing wrong with you. In fact, having random thoughts we feel we cannot control is actually quite common and normal. Sometimes our thoughts think they are protecting us (if we think we aren't worth anything, it won't hurt when we get rejected) but they are actually doing quite the opposite. The... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm a female in my mid 20s. Lately I tend to over drink and I've become a very angry drunk.
In the past, I have even cheated on my boyfriend while I was under the influence of alcohol.
But now, even if I don't do anything wrong and don't embarrass myself, I still feel really guilty after a night of drinking. I... | Speaking with a licensed therapist will help you figure out if indeed you have a problem or not. I would say the first question you should ask yourself is why you are drinking? The second would be why you feel the need to drink in excess? It may be due to a life event or the crowd you are running with. Either way a t... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My boyfriend is in recovery from drug addiction. We recently got into a fight and he has become very distant. I don't know what to do to fix the relationship. | I would first suggest you sitting down with him and voicing your concerns about how distant he has been, or more importantly you have felt that he is. This will give clarification to the situation as we need to remember that everyone's perception can be different. Remember that relationships take work and take communi... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a person start the counseling process? | I think it is important that you are able to convey what you are looking for in a therapist even if that changes over time. You need to look at it like you are interviewing the counselor and that they will be able to provide you with the therapy you need. To many times we do not know and it ends up not being a good f... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My brother has been a heroin addict for years, and he’s now in his mid-30s. He has taken from me my mom and my grandparents. He's sick in the head. Now he moved his girlfriend into the house because they both manipulated us. Today, my mom and my brother went toe-to-toe over his girlfriend not helping around the house a... | I think the best thing for you is to speak with someone on how you can best cope with the situation. It can be challenging living in a household with someone who is currently addicted. It is also important that you realize that you can only work on yourself. Other individuals need to take the same accountability. E... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am in my early 20s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do? | Unfortunately I think most of us have heard this, so you are not alone. If you are still under her roof she has leverage as to what her expectations are while you are living there. I would consider therapy for the both of you to see if there could be a middle ground that could be agreed upon. Often times a 3rd party... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have three children: a biological daughter, a stepdaughter, and a stepson. I found out my stepdaughter overdosed today. My daughter blames me. I told her to stay out of it. I'm scared of all three kids now. They all blame me for their choices they made. All three have drug addictions. I had a stroke in 2013 so I need... | Blaming others is one of our greatest coping mechanisms. It is not just for addiction, and often we blame the ones closest to us. You can not stop them from blaming you, you can stop yourself for taking on the burden. We are all in charge of the choices we make. No one makes us do something other than our self. We... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
She's my stepmom. I'm pretty sure she's illegally buying the drugs and hiding them from my dad. | I would suggest having a conversation with your dad and then having a conversation as a family with your stepmom. Usually there are other signs of use that can often be missed. Be aware of behavior changes and mood swings. Be supportive and ready to listen often times individuals suffering from addiction will deny u... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I recently lost a friend to suicide. I'm smoking marijuana and drinking more to cope with it. How can I handle this better? | First I am so sorry for your loss. Most people go through the grieving process. I would get a better understanding of what that process is. Everyone has their own way of handling loss. You are taking the first step in realizing that you are having a difficult time coping with it. I would reach out to a therapist t... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My friend is abusing her prescription medicine. Even though she told me she didn't have any more pills, I found she has prescriptions for anxiety medications. | Your friend needs to admit they have a problem. If not no matter how many pills you take they will find a way to get more. It is also a federal offense to take someone else's medication so if you did take it she could have you arrested. In other instances it can be more dangerous to take medication away than slowly ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My boyfriend and I recently broke up. One week, we were fine, and the next, he told me he needed space. He completely deleted me out of his life. He does have an opiate addiction. He claimed he was sober, but since we've split, I've heard many lies from him. Could he be using again, and does this addiction affect the m... | Studies have proven that addiction affects the brain, there are many coping skills that addicts use to enable their addiction as well. I would recommend that you speak with someone abut your relationship and your concerns. Not only so you can have more clarity in the situation but we often tend to gravitate around or... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have a friend that who I used to be in a relationship with. It was brief and turned into us being just good friends.
I spent the weekend with him and it upset my boyfriend. Was i wrong? | The most important thing to ask yourself here is, "how did this action affect my relationship, and is it worth the consequences?" Regardless of your intentions in this action, your boyfriend is uncomfortable with this type of behavior. From here, we can objectively decide if spending time with your previous partner (be... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm in my late teens and live with my dad. The only time I go out is for my college classes. Sometimes when I see my friends I want to talk with them, but sometimes I won't want to talk to them for days or even weeks.
Sometimes I feel i'm not worth knowing or i'm never going to do anything right.
Are they right... | Although some people managing depression feel sad or "down", it is a possible to have depression without an obvious sad mood. Many people indicate that they feel numb or flat. People managing depression often have low motivation. They may stay in bed for long periods of time and only get up for absolutely necessary ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a person start the counseling process? | Approaching a counselor can seem intimidating at first, but most mental health professionals want to help you feel safe and heard. You can often find counselors using search engines like CounselChat or Psychology Today. These websites allow you to get to know therapists before you take the next step. These days, cou... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.
People keep telling me I have "anxiety" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do? | First of all, congratulations on your new role! Transitions can be challenging, and it sounds like you are experiencing a lot of change. This would be difficult for many people, and it seems that you have an added layer of challenge. I recommend visiting a therapist to determine the root cause of your anxiety and wor... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I just wanted to get to know one so I can hear about their college experience and the courses they took. I also wanted to know if they enjoy their job and how long they were in school. | Mental Health is an exciting and rewarding field. I hear you saying that you want to be a psychologist, and that is one path to working in mental health. You could study psychology, social work or counseling to become a practicing therapist. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate and a Licensed Clinical Add... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How do I make myself happy without the people who made me happy? Now that they’re gone, I feel sad. It’s been two months now but I seem to be unable to stay okay and independent. | Hello. So, someone made you happy but is no longer around? I am sure that feels devastating. As a counselor I usually have to ponder this kind of thought because it lends itself to suggesting that happiness comes from the external, rather than the internal side of a person's life. Happiness is formed within ourselves. ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
What am I doing wrong? My wife and I are fighting all the time. What can I do? We don't agree on anything and she usually jumps to conclusions, which are usually wrong on how I feel. She is very family-oriented while all of my family left me on my butt, abused, ignored and messed up with me mentally. I'm not a family-o... | Hello. It sounds to me like you are carrying an enormous amount of emotional weight, and maybe even an equally enormous amount of guilt and feelings of failure about your marriage. I cannot imagine how challenging this is for you right now. Marriages take lots of work, and often the only examples we tend to have are of... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am in a high stress position for a tech company. I am being overworked and underpaid for my contributions and it is not only giving me anxiety, but also demoralizing.
What can I do to manage my stress? | It sounds like you are experiencing burnout and have very little, if no job satisfaction. There are some aspects of this that are in your control and others that are not. What type of work do you typically enjoy? Do you enjoy high stress work? What keeps you in this job? Is there a reason you have stayed? Is your b... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a person start the counseling process? | The easiest way to start the counseling process is to do a little research online. A quick search for the type of counseling you are looking for can be helpful. There are lots of Counselors out there to choose from, so many times you will have to take it a few steps further than that. Check out their website, social me... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've gone to a couple therapy sessions so far and still everytime I walk in I get nervous and shaky. Is this normal? Should I still be feeling like this? | It can be uncomfortable talking to someone about your life in the great detail that is normally necessary for counseling to be beneficial. Since you're already going to counseling, congratulations on taking that big, first, stress-inducing step. Hopefully by now you are starting to feel a little more comfortable with y... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm in my late teens and live with my dad. The only time I go out is for my college classes. Sometimes when I see my friends I want to talk with them, but sometimes I won't want to talk to them for days or even weeks.
Sometimes I feel i'm not worth knowing or i'm never going to do anything right.
Are they right... | I would not focus on what other people say. Do you feel what you have described impacts your day to day functioning? Try to evaluate how is your self esteem, motivation and self confidence. How about negative thoughts or hopelessness? Any concerns about your grades sliding down? If you answered yes to any questions, ma... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I keep having these random thoughts that I don't want. Things like "you aren't worth anything." I know they're my own thoughts but it feels like someone else is saying it.
What is wrong with me, and how can I stop having these thoughts? | Life is beautiful without unwanted thoughts and stress. With proper strategies and tools it is possible to regain control over your thoughts. I guess you are just having "thoughts" and not actually "hearing voices"? My suggestion is to see a therapist and go from there. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I don't remember when the voices in my head started, but I remember Hearing them when I was little.
I know it's not normal to hear voices that aren't your own. I fight the voices and I want them to stop. They've been here so long and I want them gone. How can I make the voices stop? | You are right. It is not normal to hear voices that aren't your own but the fact is some people do. In my experience, medication seem to help. It is also important to understand when you hear voices the most - meaning it is important to understand what the triggers are. It is also important to understand when the voice... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I've hit my head on walls and floors ever since I was young. I sometimes still do it but I don't exactly know why,
I have anxiety and I had a rough childhood but now I'll start to hit my head and sometimes not realize it but I don't know how to stop or even why I'm doing it.
How can I help myself to change my ... | Give yourself a lot of empathy and care for having had a rough childhood and realizing that life can be better than how you were treated when growing up.Be patient with yourself too bc lasting change takes time. Alternatives to hitting your head require constant gentle reminders to do these new behaviors, or if you've ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I know that I need to get past my feelings for this person I fell in love with, but t's so difficult to move on because he showed me feelings I've never felt before.
I feel like I don't want to be without my genuine love for him, but logically, I know I need to be without him. I can't discuss this with anybody in ... | Love is a deep and nuanced feeling so start to accept that a simple cutting of emotional connection isn't possible.Honor the love you felt for this person. Acknowledgement of your love feelings will most likely help you find a dignified way to accept them while at the same time slowly developing new ways to live your ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | For a therapist, deciding to end counseling sessions or terminate working with a client is a thoughtful and intentional decision. One that is not entered into lightly. While there are many considerations counselors take into account, to help answer this question, I'll offer an example of two areas that counselor's take... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a person start the counseling process? | Starting the counseling process can be daunting but here are some ways that hopefully help make the process a little less overwhelming. First,I'd start with finding a therapist through a therapist directory and searching for a therapist specifically in your area and with the expertise you're looking for. There are many... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My son was diagnosed with autism a few years ago and I stopped working so that I could take care of him. I also was dealing with an abusive relationship (mentally, physically, and emotionally). Now I live like a recluse and I always feel nervous around people.
How can I feel more comfortable around other people? | It sounds like you have taken on a caretaker role for a while as well as experienced some pretty severe interpersonal trauma. It makes sense that you would feel nervous around people. Working through the trauma of an abusive relationship in itself can be a difficult process. And then to add on the caretaker part can... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I don't remember when the voices in my head started, but I remember Hearing them when I was little.
I know it's not normal to hear voices that aren't your own. I fight the voices and I want them to stop. They've been here so long and I want them gone. How can I make the voices stop? | How is your life going overall?Since you hear voices since you were young I wonder whether you mean the thoughts each of us has about what to do, our opinions, including self-criticism and praise.I try to understand how severe a problem these voices are if you've managed to get to a point in life of awareness about the... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have a friend that who I used to be in a relationship with. It was brief and turned into us being just good friends.
I spent the weekend with him and it upset my boyfriend. Was i wrong? | Hello. There are a number of factors playing into this situation. A former romantic partner coming back onto the scene during a current relationship; you spending alone time (and spending the night) with that former partner; and the uneasy feelings experienced by your current partner (boyfriend). Now those are the ones... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
There is just no communication at all between us. She sleeps constantly all day (not at night). She acts angry and unfocused and stays in her very messy room all the time. The only time she comes out is to eat.
She has aches and fatigue, weight gain, hair loss and skin problems. She does not look after her healt... | I'm sorry for what sounds like a frustrating situation.For how long has your daughter lived the way you describe and did it start all of a sudden or more gradually come on?What you write sounds like a major depressive disorder and this can start for a variety of reasons and improve in just as many different ways.Start ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm 15 and my girlfriend is 14. Am I a pedophile because I'm attracted to her and she's under 18? | You wrote that each of you is under the age of 18. A 15 year old cannot be a pedophile because you're not an adult.Also, if you mean "girlfriend" in a romantic way then this makes sense bc romantic relationships include physical attraction to the other person. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a person start the counseling process? | I always suggest that you find the right fit. You have every right to interview the therapist and ask as many questions as you need. It is our job as a therapist to explain our approach and philosophy. This gives you a good overview of the therapist. Just call and say that you would like to talk to the therapist. Say y... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am in my early 20s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do? | Unfortunately you seem to have yourself in a double bind. By living with your mom she is not going to stop her attempts at what you perceive as "controlling". There is no use in trying to debate or get her to "see your point". As long as your there and you personalize her attempts at control, then you will find yoursel... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I feel so alone. I have so many people around me, but it seems as they just listen and dont understand. They say it will all be okay, or they don't listen to me st all. Everyone says they are here for me but it doesn't feel like they are. Why do I feel so alone? | We feel alone because we are not comfortable with being our self. When you find that nobody is around do you feel alone? Your never alone. Once you take the journey to really understand who you are and unconditionally loving all that is you, there will never be an alone moment. We seek outside of self to fill inside. T... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. I've been really sad lately and for the past few months I've realized I'm just way too dependent on him. It makes me really upset to be so dependent on someone else, but I can't help it. I don't even know who I am without him.
How can I be less dependent on m... | From what you write you've got good motivation to change and awareness as to what you'd like to change. These are very good predictors that you'll be successful in what you'd like to change.Try, the next time you realize you're depending on your bf instead of friends, yourself, to interrupt whatever typical action you'... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My fiancé and I have been together for 3 years and our relationship has always been good. The only issue we had was that he felt like he wasn't getting enough sexual attention from me.
I recently found out he cheated on me with another women. He says he wants his family back but I'm confused on what to do. Is it ... | Definitely yes, it is possible for a couple to trust each other again and become close with each other.Since your trust was broken, your fiancé would need to earn back your belief that he is faithful to you.Do you feel he empathizes with how you felt to find out about his cheating?Before you have this question answered... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm dealing with an illness that will never go away and I feel like my life will never change for the better. I feel alone and that i have no one.
How can I overcome this pain and learn to be happy alone? | Is it possible that even though your illness is chronic, that it goes through phases in which you are more comfortable and that it requires less focus from you than at other times?I think the idea of having a lifelong illness is frustrating and can be depressing to think about. Thoughts are not necessarily the truth o... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
After first meeting the client, what is the process that a counselor facilitates? | Each counselor may have a different process, so I'm not the end all authority here. For myself, I review policies and confidentiality concerns with people first and answer any questions they have. Then I'll let them know I'll be writing a lot in this session and I have an assessment form that I like to get completed, ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have a fear of something and I want to face that fear to overcome it, but I don't know how. What can I do? | Your fear may have deeper roots within your sense of who you are, than you realize. Fears are sometimes irrational so that logic doesn't get rid of them.Think about whether you felt secure and confident as a child. Also, did any major bad events happen to you with other people or situations when you were growing up?... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have a friend that who I used to be in a relationship with. It was brief and turned into us being just good friends.
I spent the weekend with him and it upset my boyfriend. Was i wrong? | While you can't be responsible for your boyfriend's feelings, relationships do come with expectations. Both people in a relationship bring their own expectations into it. These expectations are usually unspoken, but result in conflict as you are experiencing here! Your boyfriend expects you not to spend the weekend ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I start counseling/therapy in a few days (I'm freaking out) but my main fear is that I'll cry and embarrass myself, is it something to worry about? | Lots of people do cry in session, but your therapist won't be uneasy with this. Crying is a natural response and it also releases toxins, so some might say it's necessary! Remember that you can be in charge of what you talk about in your session and if there's something that feels too uncomfortable, just say, "I'm no... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I crossdress and like to be feminine but I am attracted to women, but yet that seems to bother girls I date or ask out.
How can I approach them about it? should I hold back and keep it a secret, or should I just be up-front about it. I wonder if i should stop or if I should continue to do it since it makes me happ... | While this might not be the first thing you want to discuss when you meet someone, it is important for you to be yourself. It's better to weed out 10 people who can't accept you to find that one who can. | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My fiancé and I come from a strong Christian background but both went off the "straight and narrow" once before. He is having a hard time accepting my past, especially that I'm not a virgin. He has a hard time in general accepting himself and others.
His insecurities are hurting our relationship. How can I help hi... | You are right that his insecurities are at the root of the issue. You cannot change that for him. He will have to do the work to handle those emotions on his own. What you can do is reassure him in whatever ways possible, but always recognizing that you can't "fix" this for him. When I work with people who struggle... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm obsessing about a terrible breakup. Everything is a constant reminder. How do I move on? | Initially, everything is a reminder because there is a trace of that other person present in everything in your life. When we lose someone, we're saying goodbye to what we thought our future was going to be. Accepting that's changed and allowing ourselves to envision a new future is necessary to "move on". Start learn... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have PTSD. The side effects are really bad and have impacts on sex, anger and my relationships. I even lost my job month ago.
How can I get my life back? | It is brave of you to speak out, PTSD is not a joke and it can quickly take a toll on all aspect of life. Please, know that you are not alone and with the right help you can overcome these challenges. Living with PTSD can be very emotionally exhausting, but you can learn ways to cope with its challenges and find fulfil... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My daughter seemed to be developing at a normal rate until about the age of 10. She then started to act younger than she is.
Now she only wants to play with younger kids and she doesn't act her age. I don't know why this is happening. Is this normal? | This is certainly an important issue to look into, It is always helpful to speak with the child's pediatrician since they are most familiar with the child's developmental history. Also, children tend to regress behaviorally when facing events and interactions they feel to have no control over, this can be as simple as ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I keep having these random thoughts that I don't want. Things like "you aren't worth anything." I know they're my own thoughts but it feels like someone else is saying it.
What is wrong with me, and how can I stop having these thoughts? | Talking to a licensed profession who can discuss this in greater depth can be best. As a general information, in short, I can say that our thoughts are greatly influenced by our early life experiences. Our thoughts are processed through schemes, these are mental images or templates by which we make meaning of the world... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.
People keep telling me I have "anxiety" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do? | Bravo, on your success in securing a job and also for being proactive with your need. Starting a new job can be scary and having to travel away from your home and family can make it even more anxiety provoking. Do allow yourself to be anxious about this new journey, we can be hard on ourselves, think if it was a friend... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a person start the counseling process? | First, identify the areas that you need help with. What are the issues that are most troubling you? Are these situations creating an impact on your daily routine?Second, do some research as to the type of counselling service you are looking and that would best suit your needs. Are you looking for individual sesssions, ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I love my girlfriend so much. I get an erection even just thinking about her or seeing her. But the two times we tried to have sex I couldn't get an erection. We've only had sex once and it was a long time ago.
Why this is happening and what can I do about it? | I'm sorry to hear of your problem.First step as always when a possible medical explanation exists, go for a urology check up to either your internist or a urologist.Once you know there is no medical reason which would prevent an erection, then we can consider the psychological and emotion based factors.Maybe you're ner... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I know I need to deal with my depression. But I don't know how and I don't want to tell anyone.
How can I deal with depression without telling anyone? | Love yourself more and treat yourself kindly, with empathy and compassion.Usually when people feel depressed they also feel lonely and isolated. Since at this time you wouldn't want to tell anyone about the way you feel, which includes the possibility that a few of the ones whom you tell would offer you emotional supp... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My girlfriend just quit drinking and she became really depressed. She told me that she wants to move. What can I do to help her? I want her to stay. | People often have very different values and opinions when they are drinking excessively and when they stop drinking so much.Did the two of you share drinking as an activity? If yes, then did you stop drinking too?Often when partners meet each other as drinking buddies when one gets sober, the relationship ends. Once ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am in my early 20s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone.
My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do? | Hello. Even though legally you are an adult, it is a matter of courtesy to respect the homes of your parents. As long as you live there, you should be considerate of their needs. At the same time, there should be conversation about what each of you considers appropriate as it pertains to communication between a parent ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
Our relationship ended about 7 years ago, but don't know how to let go. How can I get over that person and move on? | What you're most likely trying to get over is to be attracted to the qualities which you felt attracted to in the person.The problem isn't releasing yourself from the person, per se. Letting go of a person means separating yourself from the qualities in a partner which you value.Two possibilities exist.Either you con... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My husband and I had our first threesome recently. Everyone was drinking and he was on her more then me.
He and I talked about it afterwards and it made me feel better, and now I'm craving more of it. But before it gets close to happening I get this empty feeling. Why am I feeling this way? | Because the acrobatics and excitement of sex has nothing to do with the meaning of deeper emotional attachment to another person with whom we are in a relationship.Try to distinguish between your feelings of excitement from the novel sexual arrangement and what you feel is necessary in order to feel emotionally close a... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I have PTSD. The side effects are really bad and have impacts on sex, anger and my relationships. I even lost my job month ago.
How can I get my life back? | Slowly is the rate at which you'll get back your life.Being traumatized means not feeling safe in almost all areas of life.Be patient with yourself as you try to regain trust that people will not harm you and will be sources of satisfaction in your life.It is possible that the trauma in your life requires such great at... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
After first meeting the client, what is the process that a counselor facilitates? | There are probably no two therapists alike because first and foremost we are human beings!And...our personalities may somewhat guide how we go about getting to know you, identifying what you would like to be different in your life and developing a plan to get where you would like to be. The very most important thing th... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm in my late teens and live with my dad. The only time I go out is for my college classes. Sometimes when I see my friends I want to talk with them, but sometimes I won't want to talk to them for days or even weeks.
Sometimes I feel i'm not worth knowing or i'm never going to do anything right.
Are they right... | If we were in my office together, I would offer that most likely you are feeling somewhat depressed. It's most important for me to impress that you "don't have to live like this..." Other helpful information: Have you experienced similar symptoms before? Anyone in your family been depressed before? Based on other p... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I know that I need to get past my feelings for this person I fell in love with, but t's so difficult to move on because he showed me feelings I've never felt before.
I feel like I don't want to be without my genuine love for him, but logically, I know I need to be without him. I can't discuss this with anybody in ... | There is no wrong or right way to define a relationship. I believe each relationship we are in is an opportunity to expand and to know self on a deeper level. We are conditioned to believe that we are not valued, or worth much without the confirmation of others and the world around us. Give yourself time and try to not... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I want to live with my mom. My dad gets angry and makes me feel like everything is my fault. I still talk to my mom although My dad tells me that I'm no allowed to. I'm scared I will make the wrong decision and that my dad will hate me.
How do I tell him that I want to live with my mom? | Yes, from what you wrote, your dad doesn't accept responsibility for the way he feels and blames you for his feelings.I'm glad you recognize he's handling himself less as a grown person and more like a young child.I also understand your hurt and frustration that your father handles himself in a way which shows for now ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
We rent from from my boyfriend's parents. His father drops by unannounced and stays for long periods of time. He lets himself into our home when we aren't there on a daily basis and takes our dogs to his house. He picks up our mail. He has NO boundaries.
He's an opinionated, rude pushy person. He expects to spend e... | You're expecting reasonable behaviors from your boyfriend's father.Since the father is his, your boyfriend is the person in position to speak directly with his dad about the expectations you and he have of the father.If your boyfriend has a good relationship w his dad, which is not what this sounds like, then great!If ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
My dad makes me feel like shit and like I'm worthless. He calls me names and makes me feel depressed. I want to move out because I swear if I stay here, I'm going to lose it. What can I do? | If you're actually able to afford to move out and support your own life, then this is a reasonable choice.If you're not in such a position and must continue for a while to live w your dad, then emotionally protect yourself from him.Doing so is much more difficult than maybe it sounds.Do you have privacy in your house a... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job.
People keep telling me I have "anxiety" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do? | Anxiety or panic attacks can be very frightening. Here are a few "tools" you can use that will help in the short term: Keeping your mind occupied by listening to books on tape may help; Counting backwards from 100 in 7's; Naming cities that begin with each letter of the alphabet; Keeping some ice or an ice pack in a... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
How does a person start the counseling process? | Most counselors are very approachable and many offer a 15 minute chat by phone to allow you to talk about your issue, and to get a feel for the counselor. If you like what you hear by phone, the next step is to set up a face-to-face meeting. Studies show that the most important element in effective therapy is that you... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I keep having these random thoughts that I don't want. Things like "you aren't worth anything." I know they're my own thoughts but it feels like someone else is saying it.
What is wrong with me, and how can I stop having these thoughts? | Many people have thoughts like those you describe, and often it feels like someone else is saying it because they are things that may have been said to you when you were very young. When young children hear negative things about themselves they tend to internalize these negative ideas and to form negative core beliefs... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm planning to have baby, so I have to quit smoking - but it's hard. Sometimes it's not a physical need, it's mental.
I cannot help myself from thinking about smoking. What can I do to get rid of this addiction? | Breaking any habit is no easy feat. Cutting down or cutting out cigarettes is very challenging, and there aren't any one size fits all solutions. Fortunately, there are a lot of tricks and tools that you can use to stop smoking. 1. Many habits that we have are paired habits. If we do one thing, then we will do the ... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I am in a high stress position for a tech company. I am being overworked and underpaid for my contributions and it is not only giving me anxiety, but also demoralizing.
What can I do to manage my stress? | Being in this position is tough. If seeking another career opportunity isn't viable, there are a couple of things you can do to manage stress on the job. 1. Have a ritual to begin the day: Consider setting a one sentence intention and plan tasks for the day2. Take the breaks you are offered. I know it can be difficul... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I'm dealing with imposter syndrome in graduate school. I know that by all accounts I am a phenomenal graduate student, and that I am well-published. I am well liked by students and faculty alike. And yet I cannot shake the feeling that I'm going to be found out as a fraud.
How can I get over this feeling? | It sounds like you are on the right track. Recognizing these nagging thoughts of self- doubt as "imposter syndrome" is a huge step in the right direction. From what you have written here, it appears that you are able to challenge your own thoughts and provide yourself with evidence that counteracts the imposter syndro... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
I just feel sad all the time and I don't like anyone in my family. I feel like they're trying to control me and won't let me grow. | Understandably the idea of someone who tries to control you, is good reason to feel sad.Your feelings sound like they are very strong and meaningful in your life.Keep in mind that your feelings about others has more to do with one's own self-view than with what the other person is actually doing.Unless the people in yo... | <|im_start|>system
You are an AI assistant that helps people cope with stress and improve their mental health. User will tell you about their feelings and challenges. Your task is to listen empathetically and offer helpful suggestions. While responding, think about the user’s needs and goals and show compassion and sup... |
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