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38_59	Yeah, definitely.	neutral	communication behavior
38_61	Yeah. I mean, she watches him so much. I think she's just probably getting stressed out too. And, I feel bad because, you know, it's not her son, so i-it shouldn't be her problem, but, I need something that I can rely on better.	neutral	communication behavior
38_63	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
38_65	Well, I mean, most of my problems always go back to money. You know, i-if I had more money, I could afford daycare, I could work less hours, you know? So, yeah. It's-it's normally related to money.	neutral	communication behavior
38_68	Yeah. I mean, I'm ready to consider changing my drinking, but, as far as actually doing it, I-I don't know. I mean, I have a lot of problems that I'm trying to work out right now.	change	communication behavior
38_70	Childcare, probably.	neutral	communication behavior
38_72	Not really. I mean, I just normally see if my mom can watch my son, so, you know, I haven't really looked around.	neutral	communication behavior
38_74	Yeah, definitely.	neutral	communication behavior
38_76	Mm-hmm.	neutral	communication behavior
38_78	Yeah, I-I think I would. I mean, it's-it's been nice to just talk about everything that's going on.	neutral	communication behavior
38_80	Mm-hmm.	neutral	communication behavior
38_82	Mm-mm	neutral	communication behavior
38_84	Well, I mean, I could at least try to going back to one drink a night instead of two.	change	communication behavior
38_86	Yeah. I mean, I-I don't know how it's going to go, especially with trying to cut back on smoking already, but, I mean, I can try.	change	communication behavior
38_88	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
38_90	I don't think so.	neutral	communication behavior
38_92	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
38_94	Okay. Thanks.	neutral	communication behavior
39_1	Every time I go-- Excuse me. -to any doctor, you know, you need to quit smoking and—	neutral	communication behavior
39_3	Uh-huh and I kind of go, let's move on, you know because I've heard the lecture. Um, and I really don't put much credence into what they say. I did have- I did have a neighbor who was smoked for many, many years and, um, she had the Oxygen-- Oxygen tank that she would have to sleep at night with the oxygen on and even that didn't deter me from that smoking. I don't really know. It's like, um, a power greater than myself. This is controlling me like this, you know, the angels on this side, the devil's on the other.	sustain	communication behavior
39_5	Mm-hmm, yeah. And common sense somewhere in the middle.	change	communication behavior
39_7	Right.	neutral	communication behavior
39_9	Right.	neutral	communication behavior
39_11	Well, you know, I was thinking along the lines of meditation. Um, you know, I- I do practice yoga, um, not consistently, but on and off. Um, and when I was in the hospital, I had to do that breathing apparatus and they didn't want to let me go now, like, you know- you know what, I'm not doing that it's already blurry then to this thing, to see the level, um, some pretty obstinate about it and yet I want to do it, you know?	change	communication behavior
39_13	Mm-hmm.	neutral	communication behavior
39_15	Right. Which I barely have any.	neutral	communication behavior
39_17	Right- right.	neutral	communication behavior
39_19	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
39_21	Oh, I already have one.	neutral	communication behavior
39_23	Yeah, [laughs].	neutral	communication behavior
39_25	It came home with me.	neutral	communication behavior
39_27	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
39_29	It's stuff that I learnt in class.	neutral	communication behavior
39_31	That'd be great, yeah, please.	neutral	communication behavior
39_33	That's- that's something I'd be really interested in.	change	communication behavior
39_35	Yeah. I mean, I- I, um, I've always liked therapy itself, and I- I've heard, I don't know if it's accurate, but if you have the willingness that is you're ease- more easily hypnotized, I don't know is it true?	change	communication behavior
39_37	Well, I mean exercise, but really, you know, I have the mindset, you know, like, okay, tomorrow I'm going to get up and I'm going to do this, but I really am not a follow-through type of person with this.	neutral	communication behavior
39_39	Because you know I've never been really athletic. I mean, so it's kind of like, I know that when you substitute something for something else, other than chocolate, which is my best friend too, [laughs].	change	communication behavior
39_41	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
39_43	You know, I've heard of Welbutrin.	neutral	communication behavior
39_45	My girlfriend quit smoking. She quit drinking. She quit doing everything with this Wellbutrin. Now I- I- I am on some medications, like some, like I think that's an antidepressant.	neutral	communication behavior
39_47	Okay. Um, I'd be open to that and then I'm not sure-- I'm not familiar with the other thing that you had suggested. Um, I don't know what that is.	change	communication behavior
39_50	Um, you know I'd be-- I've heard a little bit about them, but I mean I do know some people, but they're not exactly reliable, um, as far as you know really having a desire and sticking to it that they smoke on the patch and-and then it causes this you know extreme, you know? Like you're getting double the nicotine or whatever so it's almost like they're getting a buzz from it you know so that's my fear and the cost of the patch because it's not covered you know through your, um, your- your insurance and the Nicorette same thing it's very expensive you know. And I'm not really a gum sure but here I am because—	sustain	communication behavior
39_52	[laughs] but I mean I'd be interested I wish they'd make it more affordable for people or you know they haven't covered by insurance because you know the risk of it you know that the premiums for insurance- insurance for people who smoke are so high you would think that they would have like, um, what do they call that? Preventive. Um, I wish I never would have started and I'm proud of my daughter you know because I started smoking a little bit earlier than her age, and I'm proud that she is at this point not smoking this manifestation she might pick it up but it's- it's like-	change	communication behavior
39_54	Yeah-yeah, maybe I'm the best example of why she doesn't want to [laughs] you know	change	communication behavior
39_56	Whatever you know and her friends. I think a lot of her friend's parents don't smoke and I'm constantly running like outside to smoke and-and-	change	communication behavior
39_58	It is. It really is. It's a monkey on my back	change	communication behavior
39_60	And um for me smoking is like a calming effect, you know. And some people it's a stimulant you know and then for me, it's like, I look forward to relaxing on my couch after a long day and then watching my you know news or whatever the heck I'm watching or reading and having my cigarette, um, I'll tell you-	sustain	communication behavior
39_62	Right. Exactly or you know like I'll do some work, and then I'm like okay you know as my ex-husband says Union break and it's a cigarette break. [laughs]	sustain	communication behavior
39_64	Yeah. Absolutely it's not my quote but he actually he would mind.	neutral	communication behavior
39_66	Yeah	neutral	communication behavior
39_68	Yeah, you know how those union workers have to have you know, Union break.	neutral	communication behavior
39_70	Yeah, financially too, which is [inaudible 00:09:27]	change	communication behavior
39_72	Well, uh	neutral	communication behavior
40_0	Pretty good. It's been three months now.	neutral	communication behavior
40_2	Um, and—	neutral	communication behavior
40_6	Right. It's been three months, and I've been doing pretty well.	change	communication behavior
40_8	Um, and I met a couple new friends.	neutral	communication behavior
40_10	So—	neutral	communication behavior
40_12	Right.	change	communication behavior
40_14	Right. It's been good. I haven't answered the phone when he's called-	change	communication behavior
40_16	-and a couple of my other friends have tried to call me as well, and I haven't answered the phone. Um, so it's been good for me to just reach out and like, meet a couple of new people, um, in the neigh-neighborhood that I'm living in.	change	communication behavior
40_18	Yeah, the new friends, and I've been using the, you know, the breathing exercises you taught me, when I get-- start to feel a little stressed out, and I've been- I've been using those and it helps me. I go for a walk and do my breathing exercises, and it calms me down and kind of gets me through that time.	change	communication behavior
41_1	Yes.	neutral	communication behavior
41_3	I feel great actually.	neutral	communication behavior
41_5	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
41_7	I feel good.	neutral	communication behavior
41_9	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
41_11	Yes. It was a good, uh, experience for me. It was different. It was different than usual. There were several things that were different, and, uh, the number one value that I put was self-respect. And I-I don't even know if self-respect has ever been in my top five let alone my number one.	change	communication behavior
41_13	Yeah. And, um—	neutral	communication behavior
41_15	I do have an idea, I think, why that is. Um, I think that there's been a few things that have happened recently and something that really came to my awareness, when I visited with my family, is that I have consistently through my whole life, probably, put other people first. And I have consistently, uh, almost not even considered myself in the equation. It was, uh, kind of sad in a way, at the time that I realized it. Uh, I didn't realize how severe it actually was, but I was kind of glad that I realized it because I feel like it's never too late to change-	change	communication behavior
41_17	-and I feel like I can- I can, uh, respect and value myself just as much as I have other people. I know that's important. And I feel like when I do that, I'm a better person for other people as well.	change	communication behavior
41_19	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
41_21	Because I get stressed, I get resentful, I get overwhelmed and, uh, out of- out of alignment, I guess, out of sorts.	change	communication behavior
41_23	And I can't be the best- the best me possible.	change	communication behavior
41_25	Yeah.	change	communication behavior
41_27	For myself or for someone else, either way, yeah.	change	communication behavior
41_29	I-it's almost-- Like, I think that some people might not even think that I put that first, but in my mind and my emotions, I was carrying concern about what other people think, and I was letting that concern dictate my actions. Instead of letting my own values dictate my actions, I was letting what I thought other people wanted me to do to dictate my actions.	change	communication behavior
41_31	And that's something that I had done for so long, literally since I was a child, that I didn't even know I was doing it.	change	communication behavior
41_33	Yes, yes.	change	communication behavior
41_35	Not aware at all. Completely unaware. Totally unaware, yeah. And so to me, I feel like it's a celebration. I used to, uh, moan and complain about my childhood and about all the things that I didn't get to have, and all the cruel, mean things that people said and did, and I felt-- I feel like I had this aha moment where I realized that I could be my own parent, and I could give myself the things that weren't given to me, now. I can give myself a voice. I can give myself an opinion. I can live like that, if I want to. Nobody's stopping me from it, only me.	change	communication behavior
41_37	So, that's what I want to do.	change	communication behavior
41_38	Mm-hmm.And it's the first time in my life I haven't felt guilty for saying that.	change	communication behavior
41_40	I would say so, yeah. I don't know if I've ever said that in front of people and not felt the least twinge of guilt for it. [chuckles]	change	communication behavior
41_42	No-	neutral	communication behavior
41_44	-it's not, it's really not.	change	communication behavior
41_46	Yeah.	neutral	communication behavior
41_48	Well, it makes me feel jubilant. It makes me feel joyful. It makes me feel hopeful. It makes me feel like I count, like I matter. Uh, it makes me feel like I'm going to be able to do what I want to do with more joy and more passion, and less dread and a sense of responsibility, because one of the things that kind of happened along the way I really didn't notice, is that, um-- Like, let's say for example I like being a teacher or I like being a teacher or I like being a counselor to a certain degree but because of all the shoulds and all of the sense of responsibility and all of the caring about what people think, I started to lose joy doing things I actually enjoy doing.	change	communication behavior
41_50	Yes, because it turned into an obligation instead of just really really a sense of like you know passion you know. My passion is gone completely. I don't know I'm just happy to, I feel like I got back in touch with myself. It's like I was like lost for a while and now I'm like back again, yes, now I remember why I wanted to do this or like why this is important to me because it is actually one of my values to be and help, but it just has to be, uh, balanced.	change	communication behavior
41_52	No, but um, the other ones I have on there, uh are, number two, inner harmony. For the same reason, like I feel like I need to harmonious within myself before I can be harmonious with other people.	change	communication behavior
41_54	Yes, and then I put family happiness.	change	communication behavior
41_56	Yes, because I think that when I'm at peace with myself, uh, that automatically contributes to my family happiness. When I am unhappy with myself, I bring my unhappiness to my family.	change	communication behavior
41_58	Uh, yeah, when I don't have self-respect and I am only giving my family a say on who I am and what I should do, I'm angry at them, I quarrel them.	neutral	communication behavior
41_60	I resent them, I really do, when I am in the mode. But when I just say, "Hey, I'm a person of this family and I deserve this much time and energy and attention and just more than anybody else," I don't care, you do what I do I do what I do life goes on [chuckles].	change	communication behavior
41_62	And then I have health and achievement, and to me, this one on achievement says a sense of accomplishment and to me that kind of goes along with what we were talking about earlier like I think I can show up and be a teacher and be a counselor in many different, uh, capacities. I could be your- I could be- I could be a teacher and I could be a really bad teacher. I could still be a teacher you know, I could show up an I could just do a really poor job and I could go home and I probably could keep my job for a while, it wouldn't be the first time right?	neutral	communication behavior
41_64	But I don't feel good about that.	change	communication behavior
41_66	No.	neutral	communication behavior
41_68	Right, right.	neutral	communication behavior
41_70	It's not enough for me to just show up and get my paycheck. That doesn't, I don't feel fulfilled so it-it, that's the way I see it going together with the helping. It's not just about helping to like look good or to exhaust myself or do what I think I should do but to really give something needy, something substantive, something real.	change	communication behavior
41_72	Yeah, meaningful, even if it's-it's small.	change	communication behavior

38_59

Yeah, definitely.

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38_61

Yeah. I mean, she watches him so much. I think she's just probably getting stressed out too. And, I feel bad because, you know, it's not her son, so i-it shouldn't be her problem, but, I need something that I can rely on better.

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38_63

Yeah.

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38_65

Well, I mean, most of my problems always go back to money. You know, i-if I had more money, I could afford daycare, I could work less hours, you know? So, yeah. It's-it's normally related to money.

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38_68

Yeah. I mean, I'm ready to consider changing my drinking, but, as far as actually doing it, I-I don't know. I mean, I have a lot of problems that I'm trying to work out right now.

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38_70

Childcare, probably.

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38_72

Not really. I mean, I just normally see if my mom can watch my son, so, you know, I haven't really looked around.

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38_74

Yeah, definitely.

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38_76

Mm-hmm.

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38_78

Yeah, I-I think I would. I mean, it's-it's been nice to just talk about everything that's going on.

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38_80

Mm-hmm.

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38_82

Mm-mm

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38_84

Well, I mean, I could at least try to going back to one drink a night instead of two.

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38_86

Yeah. I mean, I-I don't know how it's going to go, especially with trying to cut back on smoking already, but, I mean, I can try.

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38_88

Yeah.

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38_90

I don't think so.

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38_92

Yeah.

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38_94

Okay. Thanks.

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39_1

Every time I go-- Excuse me. -to any doctor, you know, you need to quit smoking and—

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39_3

Uh-huh and I kind of go, let's move on, you know because I've heard the lecture. Um, and I really don't put much credence into what they say. I did have- I did have a neighbor who was smoked for many, many years and, um, she had the Oxygen-- Oxygen tank that she would have to sleep at night with the oxygen on and even that didn't deter me from that smoking. I don't really know. It's like, um, a power greater than myself. This is controlling me like this, you know, the angels on this side, the devil's on the other.

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39_5

Mm-hmm, yeah. And common sense somewhere in the middle.

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39_7

Right.

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39_9

Right.

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39_11

Well, you know, I was thinking along the lines of meditation. Um, you know, I- I do practice yoga, um, not consistently, but on and off. Um, and when I was in the hospital, I had to do that breathing apparatus and they didn't want to let me go now, like, you know- you know what, I'm not doing that it's already blurry then to this thing, to see the level, um, some pretty obstinate about it and yet I want to do it, you know?

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39_13

Mm-hmm.

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39_15

Right. Which I barely have any.

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39_17

Right- right.

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39_19

Yeah.

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39_21

Oh, I already have one.

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39_23

Yeah, [laughs].

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39_25

It came home with me.

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39_27

Yeah.

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39_29

It's stuff that I learnt in class.

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39_31

That'd be great, yeah, please.

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39_33

That's- that's something I'd be really interested in.

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39_35

Yeah. I mean, I- I, um, I've always liked therapy itself, and I- I've heard, I don't know if it's accurate, but if you have the willingness that is you're ease- more easily hypnotized, I don't know is it true?

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39_37

Well, I mean exercise, but really, you know, I have the mindset, you know, like, okay, tomorrow I'm going to get up and I'm going to do this, but I really am not a follow-through type of person with this.

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39_39

Because you know I've never been really athletic. I mean, so it's kind of like, I know that when you substitute something for something else, other than chocolate, which is my best friend too, [laughs].

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39_41

Yeah.

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39_43

You know, I've heard of Welbutrin.

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39_45

My girlfriend quit smoking. She quit drinking. She quit doing everything with this Wellbutrin. Now I- I- I am on some medications, like some, like I think that's an antidepressant.

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39_47

Okay. Um, I'd be open to that and then I'm not sure-- I'm not familiar with the other thing that you had suggested. Um, I don't know what that is.

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39_50

Um, you know I'd be-- I've heard a little bit about them, but I mean I do know some people, but they're not exactly reliable, um, as far as you know really having a desire and sticking to it that they smoke on the patch and-and then it causes this you know extreme, you know? Like you're getting double the nicotine or whatever so it's almost like they're getting a buzz from it you know so that's my fear and the cost of the patch because it's not covered you know through your, um, your- your insurance and the Nicorette same thing it's very expensive you know. And I'm not really a gum sure but here I am because—

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39_52

[laughs] but I mean I'd be interested I wish they'd make it more affordable for people or you know they haven't covered by insurance because you know the risk of it you know that the premiums for insurance- insurance for people who smoke are so high you would think that they would have like, um, what do they call that? Preventive. Um, I wish I never would have started and I'm proud of my daughter you know because I started smoking a little bit earlier than her age, and I'm proud that she is at this point not smoking this manifestation she might pick it up but it's- it's like-

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39_54

Yeah-yeah, maybe I'm the best example of why she doesn't want to [laughs] you know

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39_56

Whatever you know and her friends. I think a lot of her friend's parents don't smoke and I'm constantly running like outside to smoke and-and-

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39_58

It is. It really is. It's a monkey on my back

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39_60

And um for me smoking is like a calming effect, you know. And some people it's a stimulant you know and then for me, it's like, I look forward to relaxing on my couch after a long day and then watching my you know news or whatever the heck I'm watching or reading and having my cigarette, um, I'll tell you-

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39_62

Right. Exactly or you know like I'll do some work, and then I'm like okay you know as my ex-husband says Union break and it's a cigarette break. [laughs]

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39_64

Yeah. Absolutely it's not my quote but he actually he would mind.

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39_66

Yeah

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39_68

Yeah, you know how those union workers have to have you know, Union break.

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39_70

Yeah, financially too, which is [inaudible 00:09:27]

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39_72

Well, uh

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40_0

Pretty good. It's been three months now.

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40_2

Um, and—

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40_6

Right. It's been three months, and I've been doing pretty well.

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40_8

Um, and I met a couple new friends.

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40_10

So—

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40_12

Right.

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40_14

Right. It's been good. I haven't answered the phone when he's called-

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40_16

-and a couple of my other friends have tried to call me as well, and I haven't answered the phone. Um, so it's been good for me to just reach out and like, meet a couple of new people, um, in the neigh-neighborhood that I'm living in.

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40_18

Yeah, the new friends, and I've been using the, you know, the breathing exercises you taught me, when I get-- start to feel a little stressed out, and I've been- I've been using those and it helps me. I go for a walk and do my breathing exercises, and it calms me down and kind of gets me through that time.

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41_1

Yes.

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41_3

I feel great actually.

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41_5

Yeah.

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41_7

I feel good.

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41_9

Yeah.

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41_11

Yes. It was a good, uh, experience for me. It was different. It was different than usual. There were several things that were different, and, uh, the number one value that I put was self-respect. And I-I don't even know if self-respect has ever been in my top five let alone my number one.

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41_13

Yeah. And, um—

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41_15

I do have an idea, I think, why that is. Um, I think that there's been a few things that have happened recently and something that really came to my awareness, when I visited with my family, is that I have consistently through my whole life, probably, put other people first. And I have consistently, uh, almost not even considered myself in the equation. It was, uh, kind of sad in a way, at the time that I realized it. Uh, I didn't realize how severe it actually was, but I was kind of glad that I realized it because I feel like it's never too late to change-

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41_17

-and I feel like I can- I can, uh, respect and value myself just as much as I have other people. I know that's important. And I feel like when I do that, I'm a better person for other people as well.

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41_19

Yeah.

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41_21

Because I get stressed, I get resentful, I get overwhelmed and, uh, out of- out of alignment, I guess, out of sorts.

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41_23

And I can't be the best- the best me possible.

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41_25

Yeah.

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41_27

For myself or for someone else, either way, yeah.

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41_29

I-it's almost-- Like, I think that some people might not even think that I put that first, but in my mind and my emotions, I was carrying concern about what other people think, and I was letting that concern dictate my actions. Instead of letting my own values dictate my actions, I was letting what I thought other people wanted me to do to dictate my actions.

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41_31

And that's something that I had done for so long, literally since I was a child, that I didn't even know I was doing it.

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41_33

Yes, yes.

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41_35

Not aware at all. Completely unaware. Totally unaware, yeah. And so to me, I feel like it's a celebration. I used to, uh, moan and complain about my childhood and about all the things that I didn't get to have, and all the cruel, mean things that people said and did, and I felt-- I feel like I had this aha moment where I realized that I could be my own parent, and I could give myself the things that weren't given to me, now. I can give myself a voice. I can give myself an opinion. I can live like that, if I want to. Nobody's stopping me from it, only me.

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41_37

So, that's what I want to do.

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41_38

Mm-hmm.And it's the first time in my life I haven't felt guilty for saying that.

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41_40

I would say so, yeah. I don't know if I've ever said that in front of people and not felt the least twinge of guilt for it. [chuckles]

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41_42

No-

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41_44

-it's not, it's really not.

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41_46

Yeah.

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41_48

Well, it makes me feel jubilant. It makes me feel joyful. It makes me feel hopeful. It makes me feel like I count, like I matter. Uh, it makes me feel like I'm going to be able to do what I want to do with more joy and more passion, and less dread and a sense of responsibility, because one of the things that kind of happened along the way I really didn't notice, is that, um-- Like, let's say for example I like being a teacher or I like being a teacher or I like being a counselor to a certain degree but because of all the shoulds and all of the sense of responsibility and all of the caring about what people think, I started to lose joy doing things I actually enjoy doing.

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41_50

Yes, because it turned into an obligation instead of just really really a sense of like you know passion you know. My passion is gone completely. I don't know I'm just happy to, I feel like I got back in touch with myself. It's like I was like lost for a while and now I'm like back again, yes, now I remember why I wanted to do this or like why this is important to me because it is actually one of my values to be and help, but it just has to be, uh, balanced.

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41_52

No, but um, the other ones I have on there, uh are, number two, inner harmony. For the same reason, like I feel like I need to harmonious within myself before I can be harmonious with other people.

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41_54

Yes, and then I put family happiness.

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41_56

Yes, because I think that when I'm at peace with myself, uh, that automatically contributes to my family happiness. When I am unhappy with myself, I bring my unhappiness to my family.

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41_58

Uh, yeah, when I don't have self-respect and I am only giving my family a say on who I am and what I should do, I'm angry at them, I quarrel them.

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41_60

I resent them, I really do, when I am in the mode. But when I just say, "Hey, I'm a person of this family and I deserve this much time and energy and attention and just more than anybody else," I don't care, you do what I do I do what I do life goes on [chuckles].

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41_62

And then I have health and achievement, and to me, this one on achievement says a sense of accomplishment and to me that kind of goes along with what we were talking about earlier like I think I can show up and be a teacher and be a counselor in many different, uh, capacities. I could be your- I could be- I could be a teacher and I could be a really bad teacher. I could still be a teacher you know, I could show up an I could just do a really poor job and I could go home and I probably could keep my job for a while, it wouldn't be the first time right?

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41_64

But I don't feel good about that.

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41_66

No.

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41_68

Right, right.

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41_70

It's not enough for me to just show up and get my paycheck. That doesn't, I don't feel fulfilled so it-it, that's the way I see it going together with the helping. It's not just about helping to like look good or to exhaust myself or do what I think I should do but to really give something needy, something substantive, something real.

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41_72

Yeah, meaningful, even if it's-it's small.

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