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38_59
Yeah, definitely.
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38_61
Yeah. I mean, she watches him so much. I think she's just probably getting stressed out too. And, I feel bad because, you know, it's not her son, so i-it shouldn't be her problem, but, I need something that I can rely on better.
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38_63
Yeah.
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38_65
Well, I mean, most of my problems always go back to money. You know, i-if I had more money, I could afford daycare, I could work less hours, you know? So, yeah. It's-it's normally related to money.
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38_68
Yeah. I mean, I'm ready to consider changing my drinking, but, as far as actually doing it, I-I don't know. I mean, I have a lot of problems that I'm trying to work out right now.
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38_70
Childcare, probably.
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38_72
Not really. I mean, I just normally see if my mom can watch my son, so, you know, I haven't really looked around.
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38_74
Yeah, definitely.
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38_76
Mm-hmm.
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38_78
Yeah, I-I think I would. I mean, it's-it's been nice to just talk about everything that's going on.
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38_80
Mm-hmm.
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38_82
Mm-mm
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38_84
Well, I mean, I could at least try to going back to one drink a night instead of two.
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38_86
Yeah. I mean, I-I don't know how it's going to go, especially with trying to cut back on smoking already, but, I mean, I can try.
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38_88
Yeah.
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38_90
I don't think so.
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38_92
Yeah.
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38_94
Okay. Thanks.
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39_1
Every time I go-- Excuse me. -to any doctor, you know, you need to quit smoking and—
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39_3
Uh-huh and I kind of go, let's move on, you know because I've heard the lecture. Um, and I really don't put much credence into what they say. I did have- I did have a neighbor who was smoked for many, many years and, um, she had the Oxygen-- Oxygen tank that she would have to sleep at night with the oxygen on and even ...
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39_5
Mm-hmm, yeah. And common sense somewhere in the middle.
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39_7
Right.
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39_9
Right.
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39_11
Well, you know, I was thinking along the lines of meditation. Um, you know, I- I do practice yoga, um, not consistently, but on and off. Um, and when I was in the hospital, I had to do that breathing apparatus and they didn't want to let me go now, like, you know- you know what, I'm not doing that it's already blurry t...
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39_13
Mm-hmm.
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39_15
Right. Which I barely have any.
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39_17
Right- right.
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39_19
Yeah.
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39_21
Oh, I already have one.
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39_23
Yeah, [laughs].
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39_25
It came home with me.
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39_27
Yeah.
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39_29
It's stuff that I learnt in class.
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39_31
That'd be great, yeah, please.
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39_33
That's- that's something I'd be really interested in.
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39_35
Yeah. I mean, I- I, um, I've always liked therapy itself, and I- I've heard, I don't know if it's accurate, but if you have the willingness that is you're ease- more easily hypnotized, I don't know is it true?
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39_37
Well, I mean exercise, but really, you know, I have the mindset, you know, like, okay, tomorrow I'm going to get up and I'm going to do this, but I really am not a follow-through type of person with this.
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39_39
Because you know I've never been really athletic. I mean, so it's kind of like, I know that when you substitute something for something else, other than chocolate, which is my best friend too, [laughs].
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39_41
Yeah.
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39_43
You know, I've heard of Welbutrin.
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39_45
My girlfriend quit smoking. She quit drinking. She quit doing everything with this Wellbutrin. Now I- I- I am on some medications, like some, like I think that's an antidepressant.
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39_47
Okay. Um, I'd be open to that and then I'm not sure-- I'm not familiar with the other thing that you had suggested. Um, I don't know what that is.
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39_50
Um, you know I'd be-- I've heard a little bit about them, but I mean I do know some people, but they're not exactly reliable, um, as far as you know really having a desire and sticking to it that they smoke on the patch and-and then it causes this you know extreme, you know? Like you're getting double the nicotine or w...
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39_52
[laughs] but I mean I'd be interested I wish they'd make it more affordable for people or you know they haven't covered by insurance because you know the risk of it you know that the premiums for insurance- insurance for people who smoke are so high you would think that they would have like, um, what do they call that?...
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39_54
Yeah-yeah, maybe I'm the best example of why she doesn't want to [laughs] you know
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39_56
Whatever you know and her friends. I think a lot of her friend's parents don't smoke and I'm constantly running like outside to smoke and-and-
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39_58
It is. It really is. It's a monkey on my back
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39_60
And um for me smoking is like a calming effect, you know. And some people it's a stimulant you know and then for me, it's like, I look forward to relaxing on my couch after a long day and then watching my you know news or whatever the heck I'm watching or reading and having my cigarette, um, I'll tell you-
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39_62
Right. Exactly or you know like I'll do some work, and then I'm like okay you know as my ex-husband says Union break and it's a cigarette break. [laughs]
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39_64
Yeah. Absolutely it's not my quote but he actually he would mind.
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39_66
Yeah
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39_68
Yeah, you know how those union workers have to have you know, Union break.
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39_70
Yeah, financially too, which is [inaudible 00:09:27]
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39_72
Well, uh
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40_0
Pretty good. It's been three months now.
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40_2
Um, and—
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40_6
Right. It's been three months, and I've been doing pretty well.
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40_8
Um, and I met a couple new friends.
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40_10
So—
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40_12
Right.
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40_14
Right. It's been good. I haven't answered the phone when he's called-
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40_16
-and a couple of my other friends have tried to call me as well, and I haven't answered the phone. Um, so it's been good for me to just reach out and like, meet a couple of new people, um, in the neigh-neighborhood that I'm living in.
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40_18
Yeah, the new friends, and I've been using the, you know, the breathing exercises you taught me, when I get-- start to feel a little stressed out, and I've been- I've been using those and it helps me. I go for a walk and do my breathing exercises, and it calms me down and kind of gets me through that time.
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41_1
Yes.
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41_3
I feel great actually.
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41_5
Yeah.
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41_7
I feel good.
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41_9
Yeah.
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41_11
Yes. It was a good, uh, experience for me. It was different. It was different than usual. There were several things that were different, and, uh, the number one value that I put was self-respect. And I-I don't even know if self-respect has ever been in my top five let alone my number one.
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41_13
Yeah. And, um—
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41_15
I do have an idea, I think, why that is. Um, I think that there's been a few things that have happened recently and something that really came to my awareness, when I visited with my family, is that I have consistently through my whole life, probably, put other people first. And I have consistently, uh, almost not even...
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41_17
-and I feel like I can- I can, uh, respect and value myself just as much as I have other people. I know that's important. And I feel like when I do that, I'm a better person for other people as well.
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41_19
Yeah.
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41_21
Because I get stressed, I get resentful, I get overwhelmed and, uh, out of- out of alignment, I guess, out of sorts.
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41_23
And I can't be the best- the best me possible.
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41_25
Yeah.
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41_27
For myself or for someone else, either way, yeah.
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41_29
I-it's almost-- Like, I think that some people might not even think that I put that first, but in my mind and my emotions, I was carrying concern about what other people think, and I was letting that concern dictate my actions. Instead of letting my own values dictate my actions, I was letting what I thought other peop...
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41_31
And that's something that I had done for so long, literally since I was a child, that I didn't even know I was doing it.
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41_33
Yes, yes.
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41_35
Not aware at all. Completely unaware. Totally unaware, yeah. And so to me, I feel like it's a celebration. I used to, uh, moan and complain about my childhood and about all the things that I didn't get to have, and all the cruel, mean things that people said and did, and I felt-- I feel like I had this aha moment where...
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41_37
So, that's what I want to do.
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41_38
Mm-hmm.And it's the first time in my life I haven't felt guilty for saying that.
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41_40
I would say so, yeah. I don't know if I've ever said that in front of people and not felt the least twinge of guilt for it. [chuckles]
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41_42
No-
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41_44
-it's not, it's really not.
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41_46
Yeah.
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41_48
Well, it makes me feel jubilant. It makes me feel joyful. It makes me feel hopeful. It makes me feel like I count, like I matter. Uh, it makes me feel like I'm going to be able to do what I want to do with more joy and more passion, and less dread and a sense of responsibility, because one of the things that kind of ha...
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41_50
Yes, because it turned into an obligation instead of just really really a sense of like you know passion you know. My passion is gone completely. I don't know I'm just happy to, I feel like I got back in touch with myself. It's like I was like lost for a while and now I'm like back again, yes, now I remember why I want...
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41_52
No, but um, the other ones I have on there, uh are, number two, inner harmony. For the same reason, like I feel like I need to harmonious within myself before I can be harmonious with other people.
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41_54
Yes, and then I put family happiness.
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41_56
Yes, because I think that when I'm at peace with myself, uh, that automatically contributes to my family happiness. When I am unhappy with myself, I bring my unhappiness to my family.
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41_58
Uh, yeah, when I don't have self-respect and I am only giving my family a say on who I am and what I should do, I'm angry at them, I quarrel them.
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41_60
I resent them, I really do, when I am in the mode. But when I just say, "Hey, I'm a person of this family and I deserve this much time and energy and attention and just more than anybody else," I don't care, you do what I do I do what I do life goes on [chuckles].
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41_62
And then I have health and achievement, and to me, this one on achievement says a sense of accomplishment and to me that kind of goes along with what we were talking about earlier like I think I can show up and be a teacher and be a counselor in many different, uh, capacities. I could be your- I could be- I could be a ...
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41_64
But I don't feel good about that.
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41_66
No.
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41_68
Right, right.
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41_70
It's not enough for me to just show up and get my paycheck. That doesn't, I don't feel fulfilled so it-it, that's the way I see it going together with the helping. It's not just about helping to like look good or to exhaust myself or do what I think I should do but to really give something needy, something substantive,...
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41_72
Yeah, meaningful, even if it's-it's small.
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