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I had an interesting experience with my partner the other day. We had an argument, and I ended up calling him a bad name. To my surprise, the rest of the day went really well, and we even had a nice time when we went out that night. It's strange because I wouldn't expect such an outcome from both of us, especially afte... | It can be surprising how sometimes arguments or conflicts can lead to positive outcomes. Maybe that interaction allowed both of you to express your feelings, which helped clear the air and led to a better understanding of each other. It's important to note that it might not always be the case, so being mindful of commu... | Aku baru-baru ini punya pengalaman menarik sama pasangan aku. Kita sempat berdebat, dan aku malah nyebut dia dengan nama jelek. Eh, yang bikin kaget, sisa hari itu malah berjalan dengan baik, dan kita juga punya waktu yang asik pas keluar malam itu. Aneh sih, soalnya aku nggak nyangka bakal ada hasil kayak gitu dari ki... | Kadang-kadang, bisa bikin kaget sih, gimana perdebatan atau konflik itu bisa berujung pada hasil yang positif. Mungkin interaksi itu bikin kalian berdua bisa ngungkapin perasaan, yang akhirnya bikin suasana jadi lebih baik dan saling ngerti satu sama lain. Tapi, penting juga untuk diingat, ini nggak selalu terjadi, jad... | 12 | [
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I have been experiencing nightmares and sweating, and I avoid thinking of the traumatic event I had. My husband suggested I seek help. Can my condition be treated? | Yes, it seems like you're experiencing PTSD, and seeking counseling is a big step towards overcoming it. There are effective approaches to treat PTSD that have worked for many people. We can discuss your options, and I will also give you a book explaining more about PTSD and its treatment. We can start by talking about... | Aku udah sering banget mimpi buruk sama berkeringat, dan aku jadi menghindari mikirin kejadian traumatis yang aku alami. Suami aku nyaranin buat cari bantuan. Kira-kira kondisi aku bisa diobatin nggak, ya? | Ya, sepertinya kamu mengalami PTSD, dan mencari konseling itu adalah langkah besar untuk mengatasinya. Ada beberapa pendekatan yang efektif untuk mengobati PTSD yang udah terbukti berhasil untuk banyak orang. Kita bisa bahas pilihan-pilihan yang ada, dan aku juga akan kasih kamu buku yang menjelaskan lebih lanjut tenta... | 2 | [
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I've been thinking about creating something like a piece of art or something similar, and I believe it would be really fulfilling for me. | That sounds wonderful. Engaging in creative activities can be very therapeutic and relaxing. It also allows you to accentuate many of your interests, values, and skills simultaneously, which is a great way to express yourself and enhance your sense of fulfillment. | Aku udah kepikiran buat bikin sesuatu, kayak karya seni gitu deh, dan aku yakin itu bakal bikin aku ngerasa puas banget. | Itu terdengar luar biasa. Terlibat dalam aktivitas kreatif bisa jadi sangat terapeutik dan bikin relax. Selain itu, itu juga memungkinkan kamu untuk menonjolkan banyak minat, nilai, dan keterampilan kamu sekaligus, yang merupakan cara yang bagus buat mengekspresikan diri dan meningkatkan rasa kepuasanmu. | 20 | [
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I used to drink occasionally, but I never considered myself an alcoholic. In fact, I haven't drunk since I got pregnant. Maybe I just noticed my partner's drinking habits more now. I was going to school and working, so maybe I didn't notice as much before, but he has never stayed out all night. | It's important to reflect on our past and learn from it. Looking back on your childhood, what did you admire most about your mother through all the ups and downs? In your current situation, think about what you can learn from your past to help you and your child have a better future. | Dulu sih, gue kadang-kadang minum, tapi gue nggak pernah ngerasa diri gue itu alkoholik. Sebenarnya, sejak hamil, gue udah nggak minum lagi. Mungkin sekarang gue lebih nyadar kebiasaan minum pasangan gue. Dulu kan gue lagi sekolah dan kerja, jadi mungkin gue nggak terlalu perhatian, tapi dia tuh nggak pernah pulang lar... | Penting banget buat merenung tentang masa lalu kita dan belajar dari situ. Kalau kamu ingat-ingat masa kecil, apa sih yang paling kamu kagumi dari ibu kamu, meskipun ada banyak suka dan duka? Nah, di situasi kamu sekarang, coba pikirin deh, apa yang bisa kamu ambil dari pengalaman masa lalu itu untuk bantu kamu dan ana... | 25 | [
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I am Edward Crane, and my issue is that I have a problem with my wife's behavior. I think it would be nice if I could fix her and her problem, as it's affecting our family. We have two children; our son is a senior in high school and is currently looking into colleges. | As a counsellor, I understand your concern for your wife and family. It's essential to acknowledge that we cannot change others but can only work on ourselves and support them. It seems like your children are at a crucial stage in their lives. It's important for both of you to communicate openly and honestly about your... | Gue Edward Crane, dan masalah gue itu sama perilaku istri gue. Gue rasa sih bakal bagus kalo gue bisa benerin dia dan masalahnya, soalnya ini berdampak ke keluarga kita. Kita punya dua anak; anak cowok kita udah kelas 12 dan sekarang lagi nyari-nyari universitas. | Sebagai seorang konselor, saya paham banget kekhawatiran kamu terhadap istri dan keluarga. Penting untuk diakui bahwa kita nggak bisa mengubah orang lain, tapi kita bisa berusaha memperbaiki diri sendiri dan mendukung mereka. Kayaknya anak-anak kamu lagi ada di tahap penting dalam hidup mereka. Jadi, penting banget bua... | 10 | [
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I think my mom, friends and my math teacher from eighth grade would all say that whatever anyone is writing about me is ridiculous. My math teacher helped me a lot and she was the one who got me to think differently and explore other areas in life. | It's great that you have supportive people in your life like your mom, friends, and math teacher who believe in you and your abilities. Remember that their opinions matter more than any negative or irrelevant comments made by others. Hold onto their support and continue to grow in the direction that they have encourage... | Gue rasa, nyokap, temen-temen, sama guru matematika gue waktu kelas delapan pasti bakal bilang kalo apa pun yang orang tulis tentang gue itu konyol. Guru matematika gue itu banyak bantuin gue, dia yang bikin gue mikir dengan cara yang beda dan ngajak gue buat eksplorasi hal-hal lain dalam hidup. | Bagus banget ya kamu punya orang-orang yang mendukung dalam hidupmu, kayak ibu, teman-teman, sama guru matematika yang percaya sama kamu dan kemampuanmu. Ingat, pendapat mereka itu jauh lebih penting daripada komentar negatif atau yang nggak relevan dari orang lain. Pegang erat dukungan mereka dan teruslah berkembang k... | 2 | [
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I was coming out of a situation and experienced a sensation that suddenly just stopped. I remember running towards my mom without seeing her, but knowing that she was there. Ever since the beginning, I felt something was wrong and I knew something was really bad. | Thank you for sharing your experience with me. It sounds like you were in a distressing situation, and your instincts were telling you that something was not right. As you were running towards your mom, you seemed to have a strong sense of where you needed to be for safety or comfort. Can you please share more informat... | Gue lagi keluar dari situasi yang bikin gue ngerasa aneh, tiba-tiba aja sensasinya berhenti gitu. Gue inget banget lari ke arah nyokap, padahal gak lihat dia, tapi gue tahu dia ada di situ. Dari awal banget, gue udah ngerasa ada yang gak beres dan tahu kalau ada yang bener-bener salah. | Terima kasih udah berbagi pengalaman kamu sama aku. Kayaknya kamu lagi ada di situasi yang bikin stres, dan insting kamu bilang ada yang nggak beres. Waktu kamu lari ke arah ibu kamu, kamu keliatan punya rasa yang kuat tentang di mana seharusnya kamu berada untuk merasa aman atau nyaman. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain lebih ... | 3 | [
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Lately, I've been feeling quite off. I have been experiencing some strange sensations, like I'm being watched or my thoughts are being read. I know it sounds weird, but sometimes, I just can't shake those feelings. My friends and family have noticed that I've been more withdrawn and even struggle with basic conversatio... | I appreciate you sharing your experiences with me. It seems like you've been going through some difficult moments lately. It's vital for us to explore these feelings and sensations further. Can you please provide more details about how frequent these experiences occur and if there are any specific situations that trigg... | Akhir-akhir ini, aku ngerasa aneh banget. Kayak ada sensasi aneh gitu, kayak aku diawasi atau pikiran aku dibaca. Gue tau sih kedengerannya aneh, tapi kadang-kadang, aku bener-bener nggak bisa lepas dari perasaan itu. Temen-temen sama keluarga juga udah notice kalo aku jadi lebih menarik diri dan bahkan susah buat ngob... | Saya menghargai kamu sudah berbagi pengalamanmu dengan saya. Sepertinya kamu lagi mengalami beberapa momen sulit belakangan ini. Penting banget bagi kita untuk menggali lebih dalam tentang perasaan dan sensasi ini. Bisa tolong kasih tahu lebih banyak tentang seberapa sering pengalaman ini terjadi dan apakah ada situasi... | 6 | [
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I have a family member who doesn't seem to have a healthy perspective on our family's growth. No matter how much I try to cater to her and please her, things don't seem to improve. | It sounds like your family member is not a healthy person, and trying to cater to her or please her might not be the best approach. Instead, focus on supporting her in developing a healthier perspective and understanding of your family's growth. It's important to set boundaries and not let her negativity affect your we... | Gue punya anggota keluarga yang kayaknya nggak punya pandangan yang sehat tentang perkembangan keluarga kita. Gimana pun gue usaha buat nyenengin dia, semuanya nggak keliatan ada perubahan, deh. | Sepertinya anggota keluargamu itu bukan orang yang sehat, dan berusaha untuk menyenangkan dia mungkin bukan cara yang terbaik. Sebaiknya, fokuslah untuk mendukung dia dalam mengembangkan perspektif yang lebih sehat dan memahami pertumbuhan keluargamu. Penting banget untuk menetapkan batasan dan nggak membiarkan negativ... | 10 | [
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I had a big fight with my parents, and they think I am not mature enough to make some decisions, like dating. They want me to act more responsibly, but I already work, go to school, and complete my homework. I don't know how to show them I am responsible. | It's understandable that you want your parents to see you as responsible and mature. Have you tried sitting down with your parents and discussing your feelings about the situation and telling them how you're already managing your responsibilities? Maybe having an open conversation might help them understand your perspe... | Gue baru aja berantem gede sama orang tua, dan mereka pikir gue belum cukup dewasa buat bikin keputusan, kayak pacaran gitu. Mereka pengen gue lebih bertanggung jawab, padahal gue udah kerja, sekolah, sama ngerjain PR. Gue bingung deh gimana caranya biar mereka lihat kalo gue itu bertanggung jawab. | Aku paham banget sih kalau kamu pengen orang tua kamu lihat kamu sebagai orang yang bertanggung jawab dan dewasa. Udah pernah coba duduk bareng orang tua kamu dan ngobrolin perasaan kamu tentang situasi ini? Kasih tau mereka gimana kamu udah ngelola tanggung jawab kamu. Mungkin dengan ngobrol terbuka gitu, mereka bisa ... | 16 | [
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We've been in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. I recently saw his phone and saw the people he texts the most and one of them was a female coworker. I don't know how to approach this situation. How do I ask him about it?. | Just ask him.I'm not sure how you saw his phone if you're in a long distance relationship, because long distance means you live far apart from each other and don't get to see each other in person. Therefore, I think we may have a different understanding of the definition of "long distance relationship" which makes it h... | Aku udah pacaran jarak jauh selama dua setengah tahun. Baru-baru ini, aku liat ponselnya dan lihat orang-orang yang paling sering dia text, dan salah satunya tuh cewek rekan kerjanya. Aku bingung banget gimana cara ngebahas ini. Gimana ya, cara nanya ke dia tentang ini? | Coba tanya dia deh. Aku nggak yakin gimana kamu bisa lihat ponselnya kalau kalian dalam hubungan jarak jauh, soalnya hubungan jarak jauh itu kan berarti kalian tinggal jauh satu sama lain dan nggak bisa ketemu langsung. Jadi, kayaknya kita punya pemahaman yang beda tentang definisi "hubungan jarak jauh" yang bikin aku ... | 19 | [
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Talking about my dog with you feels a bit silly, but she is a source of happiness for me and discussing her is helpful for my current emotional state. I hope that answers your question. | I understand that talking about your dog may feel silly, but it's important to remember that pets can be a significant source of support and happiness. It's great to hear that discussing her is helpful for you. Please feel free to share more about her if you'd like, or let me know if there's anything else you want to t... | Ngomongin tentang anjing gue sama lo emang agak konyol sih, tapi dia tuh bener-bener sumber kebahagiaan buat gue. Ngebahas dia itu ngebantu banget buat keadaan emosional gue sekarang. Semoga itu jawab pertanyaan lo, ya. | Aku ngerti sih, ngomongin tentang anjing kamu mungkin terasa sepele, tapi penting banget buat diingat bahwa hewan peliharaan bisa jadi sumber dukungan dan kebahagiaan yang besar. Seneng banget denger kalau ngomongin dia itu ngebantu kamu. Silakan aja cerita lebih banyak tentang dia kalau kamu mau, atau kasih tau aku ka... | 16 | [
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I mentioned to someone that I'll talk to them later and that I'm going back to the job. I just want to see how they handle it. | It seems like you're testing the waters by observing how someone reacts to you returning to work and having a conversation later. As a counsellor, I would encourage open communication to develop a better understanding of their feelings and make sure you both feel heard and acknowledged. Share your thoughts honestly and... | Gue sempet bilang ke seseorang kalo gue bakal ngobrol sama dia nanti dan gue mau balik kerja. Gue cuma pengen liat gimana dia ngadepin ini. | Sepertinya kamu lagi coba-coba dengan ngeliat reaksi orang lain pas kamu balik kerja dan ngobrol lagi nanti. Sebagai seorang konselor, aku mau nyarankan supaya komunikasi terbuka itu penting banget buat memahami perasaan mereka dengan lebih baik dan memastikan kalian berdua merasa didengar dan dihargai. Coba deh, bagi ... | 27 | [
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I get really bothered when people depend on me to be at a certain place at a specific time, like at work or family events, and I'm even slightly late. I think it's probably more of an issue for me than it is for other people. | It sounds like punctuality is important to you, and you feel anxious when you're late to events where people are counting on you. It's worth considering if you're putting too much pressure on yourself and if there's a way to manage your expectations better. Could you provide an example of a situation where this has cau... | Gue tuh bener-bener terganggu kalo orang-orang ngandelin gue buat ada di suatu tempat pada waktu tertentu, kayak di kantor atau acara keluarga, dan gue telat sedikit aja. Kayaknya sih ini lebih jadi masalah buat gue dibandingin buat orang lain. | Sepertinya ketepatan waktu itu penting buat kamu, dan kamu merasa cemas kalau telat datang ke acara di mana orang-orang mengandalkan kamu. Mungkin ada baiknya kamu pikirkan apakah kamu terlalu memberi tekanan pada diri sendiri dan apakah ada cara untuk mengelola ekspektasi kamu dengan lebih baik. Bisa nggak kamu kasih ... | 2 | [
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I've been working really hard lately, changing ducts in my friend's attic and taking care of my kids. I have this vivid imagination of mowing the lawn with my one and a half year old in a snugly, my 3-year-old in a back carrier, and my other child by the window where I can see her. | It sounds like you have a lot on your plate, managing both work and your children's care. This can be quite overwhelming and tiring. Don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family or support networks to help you in balancing these responsibilities. It's essential to take the time for yourself too, to relax and manage y... | Aku belakangan ini kerja keras banget, ganti saluran di loteng temenku sama ngurus anak-anak. Aku bayangin banget bisa motong rumput sambil bawa anakku yang satu setengah tahun di gendongan, anakku yang tiga tahun di carrier belakang, dan anakku yang satu lagi di dekat jendela supaya aku bisa liat dia. | Sepertinya kamu punya banyak yang harus diurus, antara kerjaan dan merawat anak-anak. Ini bisa bikin kamu merasa kewalahan dan capek banget. Jangan ragu untuk minta bantuan dari teman, keluarga, atau jaringan dukungan lainnya untuk membantu kamu menyeimbangkan tanggung jawab ini. Penting juga untuk meluangkan waktu bua... | 16 | [
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I feel really out of control sometimes, and it's causing me pain. I remember using something in class once, and my professor got really frustrated with me. It's been causing problems in my life. | It's not silly to feel this way, as it seems to significantly affect your life. In the past couple of weeks, you've had some successes and failures dealing with this. Let's reflect on those and identify what has worked for you and what hasn't, so we can come up with a better strategy to help you. What do you think was ... | Kadang-kadang, aku ngerasa bener-bener kehilangan kendali, dan itu bikin aku sakit. Aku inget pernah pake sesuatu di kelas, dan dosenku jadi bener-bener frustrasi sama aku. Ini udah bikin masalah dalam hidup aku. | Nggak ada yang konyol dari perasaan ini, karena ini jelas banget mempengaruhi hidup kamu. Dalam beberapa minggu terakhir, kamu udah ngalamin beberapa keberhasilan dan kegagalan dalam menghadapi ini. Yuk, kita refleksikan itu dan cari tahu apa yang berhasil buat kamu dan apa yang nggak, supaya kita bisa bikin strategi y... | 3 | [
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I feel the sadness at times, and it comes and goes. I try to deal with it and work through it so I don't get deeper into this hole. I've talked about this on a surface level with friends, but I haven't gone too deep. I don't want to burden them, even though I know they're willing to listen to me. | It's good that you acknowledge your feelings and try to work through it. You don't need to feel like a burden when talking to friends, but it's essential to have a support network when dealing with emotions. Deep conversations can help you gain new perspectives and feel less isolated. Would you consider opening up more... | Kadang-kadang, aku ngerasa sedih, dan rasanya datang dan pergi gitu. Aku coba buat ngadepin dan ngerjain ini biar nggak terjebak lebih dalam lagi. Aku udah ngomongin ini sama temen-temen, tapi ya cuma di permukaan doang, belum terlalu dalam. Aku nggak mau bikin mereka terbebani, meskipun aku tahu mereka mau dengerin ak... | Bagus banget kalau kamu bisa mengakui perasaanmu dan berusaha untuk menghadapinya. Kamu nggak perlu merasa jadi beban saat ngobrol sama teman-teman, tapi penting banget punya jaringan dukungan saat menghadapi emosi. Percakapan yang mendalam bisa bantu kamu dapat perspektif baru dan merasa nggak sendirian. Gimana kalau ... | 6 | [
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Lately, I've been feeling like people at work are plotting against me. I overheard them whispering and I'm sure they're talking about me. I can't really point out any solid evidence, but I just know it. It's causing me a lot of stress, and I'm finding it harder and harder to concentrate at work. Aside from this, my lif... | It sounds like you're experiencing a difficult situation at work. It must be upsetting to feel that your colleagues are plotting against you, especially if it's affecting your ability to concentrate at work. I understand that you don't have any concrete evidence for this belief, which makes it even more challenging to ... | Akhir-akhir ini, gue ngerasa kayak orang-orang di kantor itu lagi merencanain sesuatu buat gue. Gue denger mereka bisik-bisik dan gue yakin mereka lagi ngomongin gue. Sebenernya sih, gue nggak bisa nunjukin bukti yang jelas, tapi gue ngerasa aja gitu. Ini bikin gue stres banget, dan sekarang jadi makin susah buat fokus... | Sepertinya kamu lagi mengalami situasi yang sulit di tempat kerja, ya. Pasti bikin nggak nyaman banget ngerasa kalau rekan-rekan kerja kamu kayaknya berkonspirasi melawan kamu, apalagi kalau itu ngaruh ke konsentrasi kamu di kerjaan. Aku ngerti sih, kamu nggak punya bukti konkret tentang perasaan ini, yang bikin semuan... | 2 | [
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I always need alcohol to feel better and use that as a excuse. | Check out my latest blog on: Four-ways-add-self-esteem-friends-listI hope this offers you some nuggets of helpfulness! | Gue selalu butuh alkohol biar ngerasa lebih baik, dan itu jadi alasan gue sih. | Cek blog terbaru aku di: Empat-cara-nambah-kepercayaan-diri-dari-daftar-teman. Semoga ini bisa kasih kamu beberapa informasi yang berguna, ya! | 20 | [
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I have recently reconnected with my spirituality through a church, and it has given me meaning in my life. I've found a job and can finally afford to move off-base, but now I'm confused about whether I should do it or not. What do you think I should do? | It's great to hear that you've regained your spiritual identity and found a job. In terms of moving off-base, it's essential to weigh the pros and cons of both options, considering factors such as the new job, your social support, and your personal growth. Moving or staying shouldn't be the only options; maybe there ar... | Aku baru-baru ini nyambung lagi sama spiritualitas aku lewat gereja, dan itu bikin hidup aku jadi lebih bermakna. Aku udah nemuin kerjaan dan akhirnya bisa pindah dari tempat yang sekarang, tapi sekarang aku bingung, apa aku harus ngelakuin itu atau enggak. Menurut lo, apa yang harus aku lakuin? | Senang banget denger kamu udah nemuin identitas spiritual kamu lagi dan dapet kerjaan. Nah, soal pindah dari base, penting banget buat nimbang-nimbang kelebihan dan kekurangan dari kedua pilihan itu. Pertimbangkan faktor-faktor kayak kerjaan baru, dukungan sosial kamu, dan pertumbuhan pribadi kamu. Pindah atau tetap di... | 23 | [
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I attended a school where it catered to children with differences as well, and one event that stands out to me is when I was kicked in the stomach by a boy named Daniel. | Thank you for sharing that experience. It sounds like that event left an impact on you, even though it happened long ago. Do you find it affecting you in any way today, such as causing anxiety or influencing your interactions with others? | Gue pernah sekolah di tempat yang nerima anak-anak dengan perbedaan juga, dan satu kejadian yang paling gue inget adalah pas gue ditendang di perut sama cowok yang namanya Daniel. | Terima kasih udah berbagi pengalaman itu. Kayaknya kejadian itu ngasih dampak yang cukup dalam buat kamu, meskipun udah lama berlalu. Apakah kamu ngerasa itu masih mempengaruhi kamu sampai sekarang, misalnya bikin kamu cemas atau ngaruh ke cara kamu berinteraksi sama orang lain? | 2 | [
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I don't like to talk about this, but I'm afraid that my partner secretly agrees with my belief that unless I'm skinny, I'm not attractive or worthy enough. I think all guys think that way and I believe my partner should love me regardless of my weight. | It sounds like you're worried about your partner's perception of your attractiveness based on your weight. However, this might be an example of projection where your thoughts and feelings are projected onto others. It's important to have open communication with your partner about this issue and focus on building a heal... | Gue sih nggak suka ngomongin ini, tapi gue takut pasangan gue sebenernya setuju sama keyakinan gue yang bilang kalo gue nggak kurus, gue nggak menarik atau nggak layak. Gue ngerasa semua cowok mikirnya gitu, dan gue percaya pasangan gue harusnya mencintai gue apapun berat badan gue. | Sepertinya kamu khawatir tentang bagaimana pandangan pasanganmu terhadap daya tarikmu yang dipengaruhi oleh berat badanmu. Tapi, ini bisa jadi contoh proyeksi, di mana pikiran dan perasaanmu diproyeksikan ke orang lain. Penting banget untuk punya komunikasi yang terbuka sama pasanganmu tentang masalah ini dan fokus unt... | 20 | [
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I've been trying to give up control over my ex-partner Robert and focus on controlling myself. I still get angry when I hear his voice, but I've been practicing telling myself that I can't control him and that I can't get what I want from him. I've noticed that the initial anger isn't as intense when I do this, but I s... | It's great to hear that you are working on controlling your emotions and shifting your focus from controlling Robert to controlling yourself. It's normal for the anger to still be present, but it's important to use that anger as a cue to remind yourself that you cannot control him. With more practice and reflection, yo... | Aku udah berusaha buat ngelupain kontrol atas mantan aku, Robert, dan lebih fokus buat ngontrol diri sendiri. Masih sih, aku ngerasa marah pas denger suaranya, tapi aku udah latihan buat bilang ke diri sendiri kalo aku nggak bisa ngontrol dia dan nggak bisa dapet apa yang aku mau dari dia. Aku ngerasa marah awalnya ngg... | Senang banget denger kamu lagi berusaha untuk mengendalikan emosi dan lebih fokus ke diri sendiri daripada mengontrol Robert. Wajar sih kalau kemarahan itu masih ada, tapi penting banget buat kamu pakai kemarahan itu sebagai pengingat bahwa kamu nggak bisa mengontrol dia. Dengan lebih banyak latihan dan refleksi, kamu ... | 1 | [
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I used to think that I might have difficulty trusting you and feeling safe enough to talk. But, I'm surprised to find out that I actually trust you a lot. However, there's still a part of me thinking that I might not be able to trust like this again after finishing our sessions. | It's great to hear that you've been able to trust me and feel safe during our sessions. Building trust can be challenging, and it's natural to worry about trusting people in the future. Keep in mind the progress you've made here and remember that it is possible to develop trust again. It might be helpful to apply what ... | Dulu, gue sempet mikir kalo gue bakal susah buat percaya sama lo dan ngerasa aman buat ngobrol. Tapi, gue kaget banget ternyata gue bisa percaya sama lo, banyak banget. Cuma, masih ada bagian dari diri gue yang mikir, setelah sesi-sesi kita selesai, gue mungkin nggak bisa percaya kayak gini lagi. | Senang banget denger kamu bisa percaya sama aku dan merasa aman selama sesi kita. Membangun kepercayaan itu emang bisa jadi tantangan, dan wajar aja sih kalau kamu khawatir buat percaya sama orang lain di masa depan. Ingat ya, kemajuan yang udah kamu capai di sini, dan percaya deh, kamu bisa membangun kepercayaan lagi.... | 19 | [
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I often talk to my friend, and sometimes I ask him questions, but he doesn't even respond because his mind seems to be somewhere else. | It sounds like your friend might be experiencing some distraction or difficulty with focus. It's important to understand that people can have a lot on their minds, and sometimes they might struggle with paying attention. Have you tried talking to him about this issue and how it affects your communication with him? | Gue sering ngobrol sama temen gue, dan kadang-kadang gue nanya-nanya, tapi dia malah nggak jawab, kayak pikirannya ada di tempat lain gitu. | Sepertinya teman kamu lagi mengalami gangguan fokus atau susah konsentrasi, ya. Penting banget buat kita ngerti kalo orang itu bisa punya banyak pikiran di kepala mereka, dan kadang-kadang mereka kesulitan buat fokus. Udah coba ngomong sama dia tentang masalah ini dan gimana ini mempengaruhi komunikasi kalian? | 2 | [
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I have been feeling lonely lately, especially after my divorce. I miss the connection and companionship I used to have. Aging has also made me feel more vulnerable to losing people in my life. I wish I could recreate the warmth and connection I experience during Christmas in my everyday life. | I understand that loneliness can be challenging, particularly during the aging process and after significant life events like a divorce. It's important to address loneliness to prevent potential negative impacts on your well-being. To recreate a sense of connection in your daily life, you could try engaging in activiti... | Aku belakangan ini ngerasa kesepian, apalagi setelah cerai. Aku kangen banget sama koneksi dan teman yang dulu aku punya. Semakin tua, aku juga ngerasa lebih rentan kehilangan orang-orang di hidupku. Aku pengen banget bisa ngebangun lagi kehangatan dan koneksi yang aku rasain pas Natal di kehidupan sehari-hariku. | Saya paham banget kalau kesepian itu bisa jadi tantangan, apalagi saat proses penuaan atau setelah kejadian besar dalam hidup kayak perceraian. Penting banget buat mengatasi kesepian ini supaya nggak berdampak negatif pada kesejahteraan kamu. Untuk menciptakan rasa keterhubungan dalam kehidupan sehari-hari, kamu bisa c... | 6 | [
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What are the basic skills a good counselor needs to have? | Some basic skills are empathy, you should feel heard and understood. The therapist should keep the focus on you since counseling is about you and the issues your facing. That being said if you feel like they are sharing too much it’s going okay to say this. They should also be able to identify some coping skills to hel... | Apa aja sih keterampilan dasar yang harus dimiliki sama konselor yang baik? | Beberapa keterampilan dasar itu adalah empati, kamu harus merasa didengar dan dipahami. Terapis seharusnya fokus sama kamu, karena konseling itu tentang kamu dan masalah yang kamu hadapi. Tapi, kalau kamu merasa mereka terlalu banyak berbagi, itu oke banget untuk bilang. Mereka juga harus bisa membantu kamu menemukan b... | 5 | [
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I think my issues are related to my environment, and I've realized that I should avoid certain places like bars to prevent getting into trouble. I've made some changes in my behavior and taken responsibility for my actions. | I want to encourage and give you credit for understanding on your own that certain environments could lead to trouble and avoiding them. It's great that you took responsibility for your behavior and made changes to better your life. Feel good about the positive progress you've made without needing external influences l... | Gue rasa masalah yang gue hadapi tuh ada hubungannya sama lingkungan gue, dan gue udah nyadar kalo sebaiknya gue hindarin tempat-tempat tertentu kayak bar supaya nggak terjebak masalah. Gue udah mulai ubah beberapa perilaku dan ambil tanggung jawab atas apa yang gue lakuin. | Aku mau kasih semangat dan apresiasi buat kamu yang udah bisa ngerti sendiri bahwa ada lingkungan tertentu yang bisa bikin masalah, jadi kamu bisa menghindarinya. Itu keren banget sih, kamu udah ambil tanggung jawab atas perilakumu dan bikin perubahan buat hidup kamu lebih baik. Rasain deh, bangga sama kemajuan positif... | 2 | [
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Every winter I find myself getting sad because of the weather. How can I fight this? | Sometimes its quite literally the lack of sunshine that can affect our mood - in these cases it can be worth experimenting with a sun lamp, to boost your dose of vitamin D, when the sun isn't naturally out. Also consider, what is it that the change in weather, changes in your life? If for example, when its sunny you ar... | Setiap musim dingin, aku ngerasa sedih banget gara-gara cuacanya. Gimana ya caranya biar bisa ngelawan perasaan ini? | Kadang-kadang, kurangnya sinar matahari itu bener-bener bisa mempengaruhi suasana hati kita. Dalam kasus kayak gini, mungkin ada baiknya coba lampu matahari, biar dosis vitamin D kita nambah, apalagi pas matahari nggak muncul. Nah, coba deh pikirin, apa sih yang berubah di hidup kamu seiring dengan perubahan cuaca? Mis... | 6 | [
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How do you know you have the right therapist for you? How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | A therapist should be willing to have an initial conversation to determine - both of you - if there is a good fit. Fit will be determined in ways such as do I feel a connection with this therapist, do they have skills in an area that I am struggling with, do I feel heard and listened to when we talk, are you making the... | Gimana sih cara tahu kalo terapis yang kita pilih itu yang tepat buat kita? Terus, gue bisa tahu gimana caranya "ngajarin" terapis supaya bisa ngasih apa yang gue butuhin dari pengobatan? | Seorang terapis seharusnya bersedia untuk melakukan percakapan awal untuk menentukan - baik kamu maupun saya - apakah ada kecocokan yang baik. Kecocokan ini bisa dilihat dari beberapa hal, seperti apakah aku merasa terhubung dengan terapis ini, apakah mereka punya keahlian di bidang yang sedang kamu hadapi, apakah kamu... | 5 | [
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I'm struggling to quit smoking and I'm not sure which replacement activities would work. I think having alternatives to smoking could help me reach my goal faster. | It's great that you're considering alternative activities to help you quit smoking. It's important to find activities that are enjoyable and can serve as effective distractions from the urge to smoke. I'm looking forward to hearing about your progress and any new activities you've discovered when we meet next time. If ... | Gue lagi berjuang banget buat berhenti merokok, dan gue nggak yakin kegiatan pengganti apa yang bisa bantu. Kayaknya sih kalo ada alternatif buat merokok, itu bisa bikin gue lebih cepet nyampe ke tujuan. | Bagus banget kalau kamu lagi mikirin aktivitas alternatif buat bantu kamu berhenti merokok. Penting banget buat nemuin kegiatan yang menyenangkan dan bisa jadi pengalihan yang efektif dari keinginan buat merokok. Aku nggak sabar denger perkembangan kamu dan aktivitas baru yang kamu temuin pas kita ketemu lagi. Kalau bu... | 25 | [
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I've been doing good this week, way much better, and I'm interested in learning more about mindfulness since I've been thinking about it for some time. | It's great to hear that you're feeling much better. As for mindfulness, it's a useful skill to develop to help enhance your overall well-being. It involves paying attention to the present moment non-judgmentally, which can help manage stress, anxiety, and improve focus. Let's explore some specific techniques you can pr... | Aku sih udah lumayan baik minggu ini, jauh lebih baik gitu, dan aku pengen banget belajar lebih banyak tentang mindfulness soalnya udah kepikiran ini sejak lama. | Senang banget denger kamu udah merasa jauh lebih baik. Nah, soal mindfulness, itu tuh skill yang berguna banget buat ningkatin kesejahteraanmu secara keseluruhan. Mindfulness itu artinya memperhatikan momen sekarang tanpa menghakimi, yang bisa bantu kamu ngelola stres, kecemasan, dan ningkatin fokus. Yuk, kita eksplor ... | 2 | [
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I want to be able to make my own decisions, mistakes and be more responsible as I am getting older. However, I feel that my parents are not open-minded and they don't understand where I'm coming from, even though I try to understand their perspective. | I can see that gaining autonomy and responsibility is important to you as you grow older. It might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your parents, expressing your feelings and the need for independence. Remember to be respectful and consider their feelings as well. Is there a specific situation th... | Aku pengen bisa bikin keputusan sendiri, salah-salah, dan lebih bertanggung jawab seiring aku makin dewasa. Tapi, aku ngerasa orangtuaku tuh nggak terbuka dan mereka nggak ngerti dari mana aku datang, padahal aku udah berusaha untuk ngertiin sudut pandang mereka. | Aku bisa lihat kalau mendapatkan otonomi dan tanggung jawab itu penting buat kamu seiring kamu tumbuh dewasa. Mungkin akan bermanfaat kalau kamu bisa ngobrol secara terbuka dan jujur sama orang tua kamu, ungkapin perasaan kamu dan kebutuhan akan kebebasan. Ingat, tetap hormati mereka dan pertimbangkan perasaan mereka j... | 10 | [
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I struggle with getting up in the morning and feel overwhelmed by work stress. I feel like my workplace is out of control and my position is insecure. I guess I need help not worrying about it too much and finding some hope. | It's important to acknowledge that self-sabotaging thoughts may arise when trying to accomplish basic tasks like getting up. I suggest we work on setting goals, such as improving your ability to handle uncertainty and focusing on doing your best at work. Remember that it's normal to feel overwhelmed, but try to face th... | Gue susah banget buat bangun pagi, terus ngerasa tertekan sama stres kerja. Kayak tempat kerja gue tuh udah nggak terkontrol dan posisi gue juga nggak aman. Rasanya gue butuh bantuan biar nggak terlalu khawatir dan bisa nemuin harapan gitu deh. | Penting banget untuk kita sadari bahwa pikiran yang bikin kita nyabotase diri bisa muncul saat kita berusaha melakukan hal-hal dasar, kayak bangun tidur. Aku saranin kita bisa mulai dengan menetapkan tujuan, misalnya meningkatkan kemampuan kamu dalam menghadapi ketidakpastian dan fokus untuk melakukan yang terbaik di t... | 20 | [
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Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | It's normal to cry. Crying is a very healthy and cathartic process that allows for you to fully experience whatever emotion you feel, whether it be tears of joy or tears of sorrow. To cry in therapy is quite normal and there shouldn't be anything wrong with it. Crying is a part of being human. It's a part of expressing... | Apa nangis pas terapi itu normal, atau cuma aku doang ya? | Menangis itu hal yang normal, loh. Menangis itu proses yang sangat sehat dan bisa bikin kita merasa lega, karena kita bisa merasakan sepenuhnya emosi yang kita alami, entah itu air mata kebahagiaan atau kesedihan. Menangis saat terapi itu juga biasa aja, dan nggak ada yang salah dengan itu. Menangis adalah bagian dari ... | 5 | [
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I was young for my grade, and I think that might have led to some issues. I was only 12 in the ninth grade when most people were 13, and I graduated high school at 17. Also, I am the youngest child in my family with just one older sibling. | It's possible that being younger than your peers in school and being the youngest child in your family might have contributed to some challenges. However, people develop at different rates and have unique experiences. Can you share some specific experiences or difficulties that you faced in relation to your age? | Gue tuh masih muda banget buat kelas gue, dan kayaknya itu bikin beberapa masalah sih. Gue baru 12 tahun pas kelas sembilan, padahal kebanyakan orang udah 13. Terus, gue lulus SMA di umur 17. Oh iya, gue juga anak bungsu di keluarga, cuma punya satu kakak doang. | Mungkin sih, jadi lebih muda dari teman-teman di sekolah dan jadi anak bungsu di keluarga itu bisa bikin beberapa tantangan. Tapi, setiap orang itu berkembang dengan cara yang berbeda dan punya pengalaman yang unik. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain beberapa pengalaman atau kesulitan spesifik yang kamu hadapi terkait dengan usi... | 16 | [
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I am a Vietnamese-American, and I identify as queer and Buddhist. I have been feeling some uneasiness and would like to discuss how these different aspects of my life may be contributing to the issues I am facing. | I appreciate the background information you've shared, and I understand that your intersecting identities can create unique challenges. Let's explore how these aspects of your identity might be impacting your mental wellbeing and whether or not they might be related to the uneasiness you are experiencing. Can you share... | Aku itu orang Vietnam-Amerika, dan aku mengidentifikasi diri sebagai queer dan Buddha. Belakangan ini, aku ngerasa agak nggak nyaman gitu, dan pengen banget bahas tentang gimana semua aspek hidup aku ini mungkin berpengaruh sama masalah yang aku hadapi. | Saya menghargai informasi latar belakang yang sudah kamu bagikan, dan saya paham bahwa identitas kamu yang saling beririsan bisa menciptakan tantangan yang unik. Mari kita eksplorasi bagaimana aspek-aspek dari identitas kamu ini mungkin berdampak pada kesehatan mental kamu dan apakah ini ada hubungannya dengan ketidakn... | 14 | [
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Now, breakfast is kind of on the run. Sometimes I'll have a bowl of cereal in the morning or, like this morning, I had to stop at Del Taco and have a breakfast burrito with eggs and cheese. Life has changed, and the patterns of life have changed a little bit. For my kids, I do make sure that I provide them, at least, w... | It sounds like your morning routine and breakfast patterns have changed significantly due to your busy schedule. I understand that you're trying to balance multiple responsibilities, such as work and family, which can be challenging. If you're interested, we could explore some ideas for quick, healthy breakfast options... | Sekarang, sarapan itu kayak buru-buru gitu. Kadang aku cuma makan semangkuk sereal di pagi hari, atau kayak pagi ini, aku harus mampir ke Del Taco buat beli burrito sarapan yang ada telurnya sama keju. Hidup udah berubah, dan pola hidup juga sedikit berubah. Buat anak-anak, aku pastiin mereka dapet makanan, setidaknya ... | Sepertinya rutinitas pagi dan pola sarapan kamu udah berubah banget karena jadwal yang padat, ya. Aku paham banget kalau kamu lagi berusaha menyeimbangkan berbagai tanggung jawab, kayak kerja dan keluarga, yang emang bisa jadi tantangan. Kalau kamu mau, kita bisa bahas beberapa ide untuk pilihan sarapan yang cepat dan ... | 9 | [
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I find it challenging to balance taking care of myself and giving my all for my family. My family is my everything, but I'm struggling to manage self-care and my responsibilities towards them, which leaves me feeling tired and burdened with pressure. I've felt like an adult all my life and I know I need to work on self... | It's clear that your family holds a significant place in your heart and is a source of responsibility for you. It's essential to understand that self-care is vital for you to effectively care for others. If you neglect yourself, the ability to support your family may be compromised. You might want to consider discussin... | Gue ngerasa susah banget buat seimbangin merhatiin diri sendiri sama ngasih yang terbaik buat keluarga. Keluarga itu segalanya buat gue, tapi gue lagi berjuang buat ngatur waktu buat diri sendiri dan tanggung jawab ke mereka, yang bikin gue capek dan ngerasa tertekan. Selama ini gue ngerasa udah dewasa banget, dan gue ... | Saya bisa lihat bahwa keluarga kamu punya tempat yang sangat penting di hati kamu dan menjadi sumber tanggung jawab. Penting banget untuk kamu ngerti bahwa merawat diri sendiri itu krusial supaya kamu bisa merawat orang lain dengan baik. Kalau kamu ngabaikan diri sendiri, kemampuan kamu buat mendukung keluarga bisa ter... | 6 | [
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During my blackout, I apparently banged two propane tanks together, causing a leak. I didn't know what was happening at the time, and only found out when someone chased me. The event itself happened a couple of days prior, but the whole thing only surfaced in my mind a few weeks ago. | It sounds like you went through a very dangerous and disorienting experience. How do you feel when you think about this incident now? It's important to not only recognize the serious nature of it, but also to understand how it is affecting your emotions and thoughts so that we can work through it together. | Pas aku pingsan, ternyata aku ngebentur dua tabung propane, yang bikin bocor. Waktu itu aku nggak tahu apa yang terjadi, dan baru tahu pas ada yang ngejar aku. Kejadian itu sih udah beberapa hari yang lalu, tapi semua ini baru muncul di pikiranku beberapa minggu yang lalu. | Sepertinya kamu udah melalui pengalaman yang sangat berbahaya dan bikin bingung. Gimana perasaanmu sekarang kalo kamu mikir tentang kejadian itu? Penting banget buat kita nggak cuma nyadar seberapa seriusnya hal ini, tapi juga buat ngerti gimana ini mempengaruhi emosi dan pikiran kamu, supaya kita bisa sama-sama mengat... | 3 | [
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I don't want people to notice my condition because they don't know much about it and what I go through. I want people to focus on the fact that I'm walking even though I was supposed to be paralyzed. | I understand that you don't want your condition to be the central focus and would rather have people appreciate your progress. It's important for others to recognize the strength and resilience you've displayed by overcoming such challenges. Do you have any strategies for redirecting people's attention to the positive ... | Gue nggak mau orang-orang nyadar kondisi gue, soalnya mereka nggak tahu banyak tentang itu dan apa yang gue alami. Gue pengen orang-orang fokus sama kenyataan kalo gue bisa jalan, padahal seharusnya gue udah lumpuh. | Aku paham sih kalau kamu nggak mau kondisi kamu jadi fokus utama, dan lebih pengen orang-orang menghargai kemajuan yang udah kamu capai. Penting banget buat orang lain untuk ngeliat kekuatan dan ketahanan yang udah kamu tunjukkan dengan bisa melewati tantangan-tantangan itu. Kamu punya strategi nggak untuk mengalihkan ... | 3 | [
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I will be going to Alaska for work soon and while it helps that I'll spend a week with all the residential staff to get to know them, the distance worries me. I'm unsure about using phone communication and I need to find alternative methods that I am comfortable with. There's so much unknown, and it makes me a bit anxi... | It's natural to feel some anxiety when stepping into the unknown and adjusting to new communication methods. Consider trying different options like emails, online messaging, or video calls to see which one or a combination works best for you. Remember, as you spend more time connecting with others in Alaska, you'll lik... | Aku bakal pergi ke Alaska buat kerja sebentar lagi, sih. Walaupun enaknya aku bisa spend seminggu bareng semua staff di sana buat kenalan, tapi jaraknya bikin aku khawatir. Aku nggak yakin soal komunikasi lewat telepon, jadi aku perlu cari cara lain yang bikin aku nyaman. Banyak hal yang belum aku tahu, dan itu bikin a... | Wajar banget kok ngerasain kecemasan saat masuk ke hal baru dan nyesuain diri dengan cara komunikasi yang berbeda. Coba deh eksplor berbagai opsi kayak email, pesan online, atau video call, siapa tau ada yang lebih cocok buat kamu atau mungkin kombinasi dari beberapa cara itu. Ingat, semakin kamu sering berinteraksi sa... | 2 | [
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I need to speak to someone about sexual addiction and binge eating immediately. | Openpath.com is a great resource for therapists that offer affordable services. | Gue butuh ngomong sama seseorang tentang kecanduan seksual sama makan berlebihan, sekarang juga. | Openpath.com itu sumber yang bagus banget buat para terapis yang nyediain layanan dengan harga terjangkau. | 9 | [
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I have something highly personal and it's easier to talk about to strangers than to people who mean a lot to me. I worry that they could get hurt again like last time. I suppose I should just see what happens. If something good comes, fantastic, if something bad comes, then it's just me who's hurt. | It sounds like you're trying to protect your loved ones from potential pain by keeping your feelings to yourself. It's understandable that you want to minimize the risk of causing them hurt again. Ultimately, the decision is yours on whether to share your feelings or not. But remember, sometimes sharing our thoughts an... | Aku punya sesuatu yang sangat pribadi sih, dan rasanya lebih gampang ngomongnya sama orang asing daripada sama orang-orang yang berarti buat aku. Aku khawatir mereka bisa terluka lagi kayak kemarin. Mungkin aku harus lihat aja deh apa yang terjadi. Kalau ada hal baik, ya syukur, tapi kalau ada yang buruk, ya paling cum... | Sepertinya kamu berusaha melindungi orang-orang yang kamu cintai dari rasa sakit dengan menyimpan perasaanmu sendiri. Itu wajar sih, kamu pengen mengurangi risiko buat nyakitin mereka lagi. Tapi, keputusan ada di tangan kamu, mau berbagi perasaan atau enggak. Tapi ingat, kadang-kadang berbagi pikiran dan perasaan kita ... | 19 | [
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I just took a job that requires me to travel far away from home. My family and I really need this job. People keep telling me I have "anxiety" and I'm terrified of having an anxiety attack on the road. This is all new to me. What can I do? | Congratulations on your new job. Chances are, you accepted this opportunity knowing that sometimes, you feel heightened levels of anxiety while traveling (or at least, people are telling you this is true) Rather than working towards how to stop it from happening, it might make more sense to prepare for if it does: ofte... | Aku baru aja dapet kerjaan yang bikin aku harus pergi jauh dari rumah. Keluarga aku sama aku bener-bener butuh kerjaan ini. Tapi orang-orang terus bilang aku punya "kecemasan" dan aku takut banget kalo sampe ngalamin serangan kecemasan di jalan. Ini semua baru buat aku. Gimana ya, apa yang bisa aku lakuin? | Selamat ya atas pekerjaan barunya! Kemungkinan besar, kamu terima kesempatan ini dengan sadar bahwa kadang-kadang, kamu merasa tingkat kecemasan yang lebih tinggi saat bepergian (atau setidaknya, orang-orang bilang gitu). Daripada fokus buat nyetop perasaan itu, mungkin lebih baik kalau kamu siap-siap aja kalau itu ter... | 2 | [
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I'd be easy going, not constantly thinking all the time, and would stop overanalyzing situations. I just want to throw it up to the wind and accept that's life. | It sounds like you're seeking a more relaxed and calm approach to life without overthinking situations. Instead of analyzing things, what is one activity or strategy that you could use to help you become more easy-going and accepting when faced with life's challenges? | Gue pengen sih bisa lebih santai, nggak terus-terusan mikirin segala hal, dan berhenti overthinking gitu. Gue cuma mau nyerahin semuanya ke angin dan terima aja deh, ya begitulah hidup. | Sepertinya kamu lagi nyari cara yang lebih santai dan tenang dalam menjalani hidup tanpa terlalu mikirin segala hal, ya. Nah, daripada terus menganalisis, coba deh pikirin satu aktivitas atau strategi yang bisa kamu lakuin buat jadi lebih santai dan menerima saat menghadapi tantangan hidup. Apa yang bisa kamu lakukan? | 3 | [
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Sometimes, I'm fine and can go out or meet people, but other days, my heart races and words physically cannot come out of my mouth. I've always thought it was normal and I was just nervous, but the other day, it took me almost 30 minutes of sitting in my car to find the courage to enter Target by myself. | These types of symptoms can be very disruptive to life! Anxiety often presents in two key ways: 1) physical symptoms such as: racing heart rate, sweaty palms, dry mouth, shaking or trembling or nausea - often these physical sypmtoms are categorized as a Panic Attack. 2) mentally anxiety presents itself as worry. Worry ... | Kadang-kadang, aku baik-baik aja dan bisa keluar atau ketemu orang, tapi di hari-hari lain, jantungku berdebar-debar dan kata-kata tuh bener-bener susah keluar dari mulut. Aku selalu mikir itu normal dan cuma gugup doang, tapi kemarin, aku butuh hampir 30 menit duduk di mobil buat nyari keberanian masuk ke Target sendi... | Gejala-gejala ini bisa sangat mengganggu kehidupan, loh! Kecemasan biasanya muncul dalam dua cara utama: 1) gejala fisik seperti detak jantung yang cepat, telapak tangan berkeringat, mulut kering, bergetar atau mual - sering kali gejala fisik ini dikategorikan sebagai Serangan Panik. 2) Secara mental, kecemasan muncul ... | 2 | [
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As a patient, I feel like I can do this and it's like nothing, almost like I could even do more. When asked about a color that comes up for me, I would say purple. | As a counsellor, I'm glad to hear that you feel confident in handling this situation and even taking on more. Since you mentioned the color purple, could you let me know, what thoughts or feelings come to your mind when you think of purple? It might help us understand you better. | Sebagai pasien, aku ngerasa kayak bisa ngelakuin ini dan rasanya gampang banget, hampir kayak aku bisa lebih dari ini. Kalo ditanya tentang warna yang muncul buat aku, aku bakal bilang ungu. | Sebagai seorang konselor, aku senang banget denger kamu merasa percaya diri dalam menghadapi situasi ini dan bahkan mau mengambil lebih banyak. Nah, karena kamu nyebut warna ungu, bisa nggak sih kamu ceritain, apa sih yang muncul di pikiran atau perasaan kamu ketika kamu memikirkan warna ungu? Ini bisa bantu kita buat ... | 20 | [
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I am going to work very hard and try my best to improve my behavior. I've had many minor encounters with the law, and I understand that I need to look at the relationship between my behavior and these issues. I want to change and be better. | It's good to see that you are committed to working hard and making positive changes in your life. As your counsellor, I will help you identify the patterns and triggers in your behavior that have led to these minor encounters with the law and work together with you to develop strategies to avoid them in the future. Rem... | Gue bakal kerja keras banget dan berusaha semaksimal mungkin buat memperbaiki perilaku gue. Gue udah ngalamin banyak kejadian kecil sama hukum, dan gue ngerti kalo gue perlu liat hubungan antara perilaku gue sama masalah-masalah ini. Gue pengen berubah dan jadi lebih baik. | Senang banget liat kamu berkomitmen untuk kerja keras dan bikin perubahan positif dalam hidup kamu. Sebagai konselor kamu, aku akan bantu kamu untuk mengenali pola dan pemicu dalam perilaku kamu yang bikin kamu mengalami masalah kecil dengan hukum ini. Kita bakal kerja bareng untuk ngembangin strategi supaya bisa mengh... | 2 | [
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My husband and I both grew up in different countries before coming to the US. We got married five years ago, and he was already in the US as a grad student. He eventually began working for a high-tech firm, and I joined him later on. | It sounds like you and your husband have experienced quite a journey, coming from different countries and settling in the US. This transition must have brought about a significant amount of changes and challenges for both of you. How have you been coping with these changes, especially when it comes to your relationship... | Suami gue sama gue tuh tumbuh di negara yang beda-beda sebelum akhirnya ke AS. Kita nikah lima tahun yang lalu, dan dia udah ada di AS sebagai mahasiswa pascasarjana. Dia akhirnya mulai kerja di perusahaan teknologi tinggi, dan gue nyusul dia kemudian. | Sepertinya kamu dan suami udah melalui perjalanan yang cukup panjang, ya, dari negara yang berbeda dan sekarang tinggal di AS. Pindah ke tempat baru pasti bawa banyak perubahan dan tantangan buat kalian berdua. Gimana sih kamu mengatasi semua perubahan ini, terutama dalam hubungan kalian dan beradaptasi dengan kehidupa... | 12 | [
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I recently joined a mixed group of Hispanic women and found it really enjoyable and supportive. They come from different cultural backgrounds, and some are not even Hispanic. | It's great to hear that you found a diverse and supportive group. Embracing connections with different cultures can enrich your life and provide a sense of belonging. Do you feel that this group is helping you overcome any specific challenges or is it mainly providing a sense of camaraderie? | Aku baru-baru ini gabung sama grup campuran cewek-cewek Hispanik, dan rasanya seru banget dan mendukung. Mereka berasal dari latar belakang budaya yang beda-beda, bahkan ada yang bukan Hispanik juga. | Senang banget denger kamu nemuin grup yang beragam dan mendukung. Menjalin hubungan dengan berbagai budaya itu bisa bikin hidup kamu lebih kaya dan ngerasa lebih diterima. Nah, menurut kamu, grup ini bantu kamu ngadepin tantangan tertentu nggak, atau lebih ke ngerasa ada teman dan kebersamaan aja? | 14 | [
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I think the most frustrating part last week was that my boyfriend's anger was unexpected. I thought we had solved our issue and were going to have a good day, but his unhappiness came out of nowhere and ruined everything. It reminded me of when I was five and didn't know what to do when faced with unexpected anger. | It seems like one of your triggers for anger is when someone's unhappiness comes out of nowhere, leaving you confused and feeling like it's unfair. This may be a pattern that you've adopted from your childhood. Take some time to reflect on this pattern and consider how you can approach and handle these situations diffe... | Menurut gue, bagian yang paling bikin frustrasi minggu lalu itu pas marahnya pacar gue yang tiba-tiba. Gue pikir kita udah nyelesaiin masalah kita dan bakal punya hari yang baik, eh, tiba-tiba dia nggak bahagia dan semuanya jadi berantakan. Itu ngingetin gue waktu gue umur lima tahun, pas gue nggak tau harus ngapain me... | Sepertinya salah satu pemicu kemarahan kamu adalah ketika ketidakbahagiaan seseorang muncul tiba-tiba, bikin kamu bingung dan ngerasa itu nggak adil. Ini mungkin pola yang udah kamu adopsi sejak kecil. Coba deh luangkan waktu buat merenung tentang pola ini dan pikirin gimana cara kamu bisa menghadapi dan menangani situ... | 1 | [
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I feel like today's session has been helpful for me. It has helped me verbalize my thoughts and imagine the bigger picture I hadn't considered before. I can now see what it might look like and the talking I need to do. I think I have some positive moves to make after this session. | I'm glad to hear that our session today has been beneficial for you. It's always important to express your thoughts and explore new perspectives. Remember to continue practicing open communication moving forward, and don't hesitate to reach out if you need any more guidance or assistance in the future. Keep focusing on... | Aku ngerasa sesi hari ini bermanfaat banget buat aku. Ini ngebantu aku buat mengungkapin pikiran-pikiran aku dan bayangin gambaran yang lebih besar yang sebelumnya nggak kepikiran. Sekarang aku bisa lihat kayak gimana dan obrolan yang perlu aku lakuin. Kayaknya aku punya beberapa langkah positif yang bisa diambil setel... | Aku senang banget denger kalau sesi kita hari ini bermanfaat buat kamu. Emang penting banget sih buat mengungkapkan pikiran dan mengeksplorasi perspektif baru. Ingat ya, terus latih komunikasi yang terbuka ke depannya, dan jangan ragu buat menghubungi aku kalau butuh bimbingan atau bantuan lagi di masa depan. Terus fok... | 2 | [
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I had this fantasy that was bothering me, but now I am trying to improve it in a way that makes me feel better. I have started thinking of having pictures on the wall, nice furniture, and kids on the bed. This makes me feel better and I realize that the house is full. | It's great to hear that you're working on improving your fantasy, transforming it into something positive for you. It seems that these new elements, such as the pictures, furniture, and kids, are adding a sense of fulfillment to your life, which is helping you feel better. Keep focusing on the aspects that bring happin... | Aku punya fantasi yang bikin aku risih, tapi sekarang aku lagi berusaha untuk memperbaikinya biar aku merasa lebih baik. Aku udah mulai mikirin buat pasang foto-foto di dinding, furnitur yang bagus, sama anak-anak di kasur. Itu bikin aku merasa lebih baik dan aku nyadar kalo rumah ini udah penuh. | Senang banget denger kamu lagi berusaha untuk memperbaiki fantasi kamu, mengubahnya jadi sesuatu yang positif buat diri kamu. Kayaknya elemen-elemen baru, kayak gambar, perabotan, dan anak-anak, nambahin rasa kepuasan dalam hidup kamu, yang bikin kamu merasa lebih baik. Terus fokus aja sama hal-hal yang bawa kebahagiaa... | 3 | [
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I am feeling scared as I am moving towards retirement, and I am worried about having to reposition financially. | It's completely understandable that you are feeling scared about retirement and financial stability. At the same time, this stage in life provides an opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth. Consider exploring the question, 'who am I really?' and what brings meaning to your life. It may help to discuss your... | Gue ngerasa takut sih, soalnya udah deket-deket pensiun gini. Gue khawatir banget tentang harus ngatur ulang keuangan gitu. | Sangat wajar kalau kamu merasa takut tentang pensiun dan stabilitas keuangan. Di sisi lain, tahap ini dalam hidup juga bisa jadi kesempatan buat merenung dan berkembang secara pribadi. Coba deh eksplorasi pertanyaan, 'siapa sih aku sebenarnya?' dan apa yang memberi makna dalam hidup kamu. Mungkin juga bisa membantu kal... | 20 | [
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I've noticed that people from different countries appreciate the diverse features of dark-skinned individuals. This makes them beautiful in their own right. This has played out in my own children as well. | It's wonderful that you recognize the beauty and uniqueness of different cultures and appreciate the diverse features. It's important to pass this perspective onto your children. May I ask how exactly this played out in your children, and how you've shared these thoughts with them? | Gue udah nyadar sih, orang-orang dari berbagai negara itu menghargai fitur-fitur berbeda dari orang yang berkulit gelap. Itu bikin mereka cantik dengan cara mereka sendiri, gitu. Dan ini juga keliatan di anak-anak gue. | Sangat bagus bahwa kamu bisa melihat keindahan dan keunikan dari berbagai budaya dan menghargai perbedaan yang ada. Ini penting banget untuk diteruskan ke anak-anakmu. Boleh tahu, gimana sih ini berpengaruh ke anak-anakmu, dan bagaimana kamu berbagi pemikiran ini sama mereka? | 20 | [
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I felt like I was so low that I couldn't get direction. My previous counsellor even told me how I looked, stating that I appeared like a little, lonely child sitting in the corner. It made me feel worse, and I cried because I felt like she was beating me up. Her confrontations made me feel like I should just go and hid... | It seems that your previous counsellor's approach was not helpful for you at that time, and her comments made you feel worse about yourself. Confrontations can sometimes make a person feel more vulnerable and defeated. As a counsellor, my aim is to provide a safe and supportive environment to explore your concerns. Do ... | Aku ngerasa kayak udah di titik terendah, sampe bingung mau kemana. Konselor aku yang sebelumnya bahkan bilang, dia ngeliat aku kayak anak kecil yang kesepian, duduk di pojokan. Itu bikin aku ngerasa lebih buruk, dan aku sampe nangis karena ngerasa kayak dia nyerang aku. Pertemuan-pertemuan itu bikin aku ngerasa mendin... | Sepertinya pendekatan konselor kamu sebelumnya nggak membantu kamu saat itu, dan komentar-komentarnya malah bikin kamu merasa lebih buruk tentang diri sendiri. Terkadang, konfrontasi bisa bikin seseorang merasa lebih rentan dan kalah. Sebagai seorang konselor, tujuan saya adalah menciptakan lingkungan yang aman dan men... | 2 | [
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How do you know you have the right therapist for you? How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | You know have the right therapist if:Your counselor specializes in what you are seeking help for or they have experience with treating people with similar issues.They are ethical and are able to understand your culture or religious norms.They are licensed in your state.They are able to provide you treatment that is tai... | Gimana sih cara lo tahu kalo terapis yang lo pilih itu yang tepat buat lo? Terus, gimana ya cara gue "ngajarin" terapis gue biar bisa kasih apa yang gue butuhin dari pengobatan? | Kamu tahu kalau kamu udah nemuin terapis yang tepat kalau: Terapis kamu spesialis dalam hal yang kamu butuhin atau punya pengalaman ngatasi orang dengan masalah yang mirip. Mereka etis dan bisa memahami budaya atau norma agama kamu. Mereka punya lisensi di negara bagian kamu. Mereka bisa kasih perawatan yang disesuaika... | 5 | [
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I've been considering bringing my partner to the next session because I think it would be helpful for us to work through the emotional loss and grieving together, and figure out how to proceed from here. So, I'll try to talk to him about it this week, and hopefully, we'll both be here next week with you. | That's wonderful. It would be great to have both of you here because this kind of situation, specifically, is something that would lend itself well. Plus, I think that it's going to be a very devastating blow to him too. And, if he is here with you, you can both work on the resolution of the emotional loss, the grievin... | Aku udah mikirin buat bawa pasangan aku ke sesi berikutnya, soalnya aku rasa itu bakal ngebantu kita buat ngadepin kehilangan emosional dan berduka bareng-bareng, terus cari cara buat melanjutkan dari sini. Jadi, aku bakal coba bicarain ini sama dia minggu ini, semoga deh kita berdua bisa ada di sini minggu depan sama ... | Itu luar biasa. Bakal jadi bagus banget kalau kalian berdua ada di sini, karena situasi kayak gini, khususnya, bisa sangat membantu. Selain itu, aku rasa ini bakal jadi pukulan yang sangat berat buat dia juga. Dan, kalau dia ada di sini sama kamu, kalian berdua bisa sama-sama mengatasi kehilangan emosional ini, berduka... | 19 | [
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I don't drink much since alcohol is a depressant for me, but I wish I could express myself better, like admitting that I loved someone and did my best, but it still wasn't enough. I also want to be able to say that I was hurt and defeated, but I don't want anyone to think that they got the best of me, even though the t... | It sounds like you're struggling with vulnerability and accepting that you've been hurt in the past. It's okay, we all go through tough experiences and face defeat at times. Learning to acknowledge and express your feelings can help you heal and grow. Try to focus on what you've learned from these situations and how it... | Gue sih nggak minum banyak, soalnya alkohol itu bikin gue down. Tapi kadang gue pengen banget bisa ungkapin perasaan gue dengan lebih baik, kayak ngaku kalo gue pernah cinta sama seseorang dan udah berusaha semaksimal mungkin, tapi tetep aja nggak cukup. Gue juga pengen bilang kalo gue sakit hati dan merasa kalah, tapi... | Sepertinya kamu lagi berjuang dengan kerentanan dan menerima bahwa kamu pernah terluka di masa lalu. Gak apa-apa, kita semua pasti pernah ngalamin pengalaman sulit dan merasakan kekalahan. Belajar untuk mengakui dan mengekspresikan perasaanmu bisa bantu kamu sembuh dan berkembang. Coba fokus sama apa yang udah kamu pel... | 25 | [
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I guess, you know, if I really think about it, now that we're talking about it and I've chosen to go for it, it's just really all the areas in my life that I could apply freedom and responsibility to take control. My life is ultimately up to me. It's an exciting thing to think about. | It's great to see that you're embracing this new perspective on life and the idea of taking control in all areas. As you embark on this journey, remember that the awareness you've gained can be a powerful tool for positive change. Is there a specific area you'd like to start focusing on? | Gue rasa sih, kalo dipikir-pikir, sekarang kita lagi ngobrol tentang ini dan gue udah mutusin buat ngejalaninnya, itu tuh bener-bener semua aspek dalam hidup gue yang bisa gue terapkan kebebasan dan tanggung jawab buat ngambil kendali. Hidup gue ya sebenernya ada di tangan gue. Ini tuh hal yang bikin semangat banget bu... | Senang banget liat kamu mulai menerima perspektif baru tentang hidup ini dan ide untuk mengambil kendali di semua aspek. Saat kamu memulai perjalanan ini, ingat ya, kesadaran yang udah kamu dapat itu bisa jadi alat yang kuat untuk perubahan positif. Ada nggak sih area tertentu yang pengen kamu fokusin dulu? | 6 | [
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I am trying to establish my goals as being valuable to my mom although I don't know how to do it. I am confident of her love and working hard because I think it is something she should be proud of. However, I am not sure what informs her standards and she always pushes me to make a lot of money just like everyone else. | It sounds like you're putting in a lot of effort to make your mom proud and ensure she sees your goals as valuable. In order to better understand your mom's standards, you might want to engage in an open conversation with her to gain insight into her thoughts and beliefs. You can ask her about her own experiences or ab... | Aku lagi berusaha buat nentuin tujuan hidupku biar bisa dianggap berharga sama nyokap, tapi aku gak tau caranya. Aku yakin dia sayang sama aku dan aku kerja keras, soalnya aku pengen dia bangga. Tapi, aku masih bingung sih, apa yang bikin dia punya standar kayak gitu, soalnya dia selalu dorong aku buat cari duit banyak... | Sepertinya kamu udah berusaha keras banget supaya mama bangga dan supaya dia bisa lihat tujuan-tujuan kamu itu berharga. Untuk lebih memahami standar mama, mungkin kamu bisa ngobrol terbuka sama dia, biar kamu bisa dapet gambaran tentang pemikiran dan keyakinannya. Kamu bisa tanya tentang pengalaman dia sendiri atau te... | 10 | [
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Ever since middle school, I have been trying to strive to be the best that I could be. But when I don't achieve near perfection, I feel disappointed and as if I failed myself. I want to have a life and not work all the time, but I go back and forth about whether I should try harder. | I understand that you have been setting high standards for yourself since middle school, and not achieving near perfection leads to feelings of disappointment and failure. It's important to recognize that it's healthy to want a balanced life in grad school and that working all the time may not be sustainable. Maybe it'... | Sejak SMP, aku udah berusaha banget buat jadi yang terbaik. Tapi, kalo aku nggak bisa mencapai kesempurnaan, rasanya kecewa banget, kayak ngerasa gagal sama diri sendiri. Aku pengen hidup, bukan cuma kerja terus, tapi kadang aku bingung, harus berusaha lebih keras atau nggak, gitu deh. | Saya paham banget kalau kamu udah menetapkan standar yang tinggi buat diri sendiri sejak SMP, dan nggak bisa mencapai kesempurnaan itu bikin kamu merasa kecewa dan gagal. Penting banget untuk menyadari bahwa pengen hidup seimbang di sekolah pascasarjana itu sehat, dan kerja terus-menerus mungkin nggak bisa bertahan lam... | 20 | [
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My husband and I have been married for seven years, and in that time, we have only had sex four or five times. Others have told me that most men would have left me by now. Honestly, I think I have a low sex drive or neither one of us actually knows what we are doing. I want to be better connected with my husband. | There are a lot of different things that could be playing a role here.First, different people have unique levels of sex drive, and sometimes there is a hormonal imbalance.Because you say both that there is a possibility that neither one of you "actually knows what you're doing," and you want to be better connected with... | Suami gue sama gue udah nikah tujuh tahun, dan selama itu, kita cuma berhubungan intim empat atau lima kali. Banyak orang bilang sih, kebanyakan cowok pasti udah pergi dari gue. Jujur aja, gue ngerasa kayaknya libido gue rendah atau mungkin kita berdua emang nggak tahu apa yang kita lakuin. Gue pengen lebih dekat sama ... | Ada banyak hal yang mungkin berperan di sini. Pertama, setiap orang punya tingkat gairah seksual yang unik, dan kadang ada ketidakseimbangan hormonal. Karena kamu bilang ada kemungkinan kalau kalian berdua "sebenarnya nggak tahu apa yang kalian lakukan," dan kamu pengen lebih terhubung dengan suami, coba deh luangkan w... | 12 | [
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I feel really good to be a part of a community, like I fit in and belong somewhere. It's a good feeling in my heart and head to know that I can go to them. But when things start colliding, like messing up in school or not having time for my friends, I get stressed out because I feel like I'm letting someone down. | Thank you for sharing your feelings about being part of a community and the difficulties you face when managing multiple priorities. It's great that you have found a sense of belonging in your community, and it's important to remember that everyone has a limit to what they can handle. When stress arises, try to priorit... | Aku ngerasa seneng banget bisa jadi bagian dari komunitas, kayak aku ngerasa cocok dan punya tempat di sini. Rasanya enak di hati sama pikiran, tahu kalau aku bisa pergi ke mereka. Tapi, pas segala sesuatu mulai berantakan, kayak gagal di sekolah atau nggak punya waktu buat temen-temen, aku jadi stres banget soalnya ng... | Terima kasih sudah berbagi perasaan kamu tentang menjadi bagian dari komunitas dan kesulitan yang kamu hadapi saat mengelola banyak prioritas. Senang banget denger kamu udah menemukan rasa memiliki di komunitas kamu, dan penting untuk diingat bahwa setiap orang punya batasan dalam hal yang bisa mereka tangani. Ketika s... | 20 | [
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I feel drained and have no energy to go out or do anything, even though I'm not working or doing much. | The symptoms you're describing are very consistent with depression. It's important for us to continue looking at the impact of culture on your mood as well as on how you're coping with the transition. Also, can you think of any other significant factors that could be contributing to your feelings and lack of energy? | Aku ngerasa capek banget dan nggak punya energi buat keluar atau ngelakuin apa-apa, padahal aku nggak kerja atau ngelakuin banyak hal. | Gejala yang kamu ceritakan tuh emang sangat konsisten dengan depresi. Penting banget buat kita terus melihat pengaruh budaya terhadap suasana hati kamu, serta bagaimana kamu menghadapi transisi ini. Nah, bisa nggak kamu pikirin faktor-faktor lain yang mungkin berkontribusi terhadap perasaan dan kurangnya energi kamu? | 6 | [
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I made these purple wings because purple represents royalty for me. And I made them big as they symbolize my freedom and how they will help me fly and achieve my dreams. | It's interesting that you chose purple to represent royalty and freedom. The symbolism you've created with the wings shows that you have a strong desire to overcome challenges and create a better life for yourself. Keep embracing these positive symbols to empower your journey towards personal growth. | Aku bikin sayap ungu ini karena ungu itu buat aku melambangkan kerajaan, gitu. Dan aku bikin besar karena itu simbol kebebasanku dan gimana sayap ini bakal bantu aku terbang dan capai mimpi-mimpiku. | Menarik banget ya kamu milih warna ungu untuk melambangkan kerajaan dan kebebasan. Simbolisme yang kamu buat dengan sayap itu nunjukin kalo kamu punya keinginan yang kuat buat ngatasi tantangan dan menciptakan hidup yang lebih baik buat diri sendiri. Terus deh peluk simbol-simbol positif ini untuk memberdayakan perjala... | 20 | [
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I feel like Bryan blames me for our conflicts and I often take the responsibility for our issues, but it's hard for me to think of any evidence that I'm not to blame or that it's not all my fault. | It's important to remember that in any relationship, both parties contribute to the dynamics, and it's not fair for one person to carry all the blame. Try to reflect on specific instances where you felt blamed and consider if there were external factors or mutual misunderstandings involved. It's a healthy practice to c... | Gue ngerasa kayak Bryan nyalahin gue untuk konflik yang kita hadapi, dan gue sering banget ngerasa bertanggung jawab atas masalah-masalah kita. Tapi, susah banget buat gue mikir ada bukti yang nunjukin kalo gue nggak salah atau kalo semua ini nggak sepenuhnya salah gue. | Penting banget buat diinget bahwa dalam setiap hubungan, kedua belah pihak itu punya kontribusi terhadap dinamika yang ada, dan nggak adil kalau satu orang aja yang disalahkan. Coba deh refleksikan momen-momen spesifik di mana kamu merasa disalahkan, dan pikirin apakah ada faktor eksternal atau kesalahpahaman yang terj... | 19 | [
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I feel like saying to myself, well you got this far, that’s not so bad. But there are two parts of me, one that understands and it’s all right, and the other part that’s scared. I made a bargain with myself to be kind to myself and let the scared part come out when it's safe enough. | It's completely normal to have different parts of ourselves that feel different emotions. It's good that you're recognizing this and being kind to yourself. What is the specific situation or thought that makes a part of you feel scared? It's essential to identify the trigger to help you process and work through that fe... | Aku ngerasa kayak pengen bilang ke diri sendiri, ya udah, kamu udah sampai sejauh ini, itu nggak jelek-jelek amat. Tapi ada dua bagian dalam diri aku, satu yang ngerti dan bilang semuanya baik-baik aja, dan satu lagi yang takut. Aku udah bikin kesepakatan sama diri sendiri buat lebih baik sama diri sendiri dan biarin b... | Sangat wajar kok kalau kita punya berbagai bagian dari diri kita yang merasakan emosi yang berbeda-beda. Bagus banget kamu bisa menyadari ini dan bersikap baik pada diri sendiri. Nah, situasi atau pikiran apa sih yang bikin salah satu bagian dari dirimu merasa takut? Penting banget untuk mengidentifikasi pemicu itu sup... | 2 | [
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When I try to control my emotions, I feel like I'm telling myself not to breathe, and if I breathe, I shouldn't breathe too loudly. I just want to keep everything in line and be in control, even though it makes me feel rigid. | It seems you're trying to maintain order and control over your emotions, almost to the point of suppressing them. This rigidity might be causing you more stress and imbalance. Instead of focusing on strict control, let's work on finding ways to express your emotions in a healthy and balanced manner. How does it feel wh... | Pas aku coba ngontrol emosi, rasanya kayak aku bilang ke diri sendiri buat nggak bernapas, dan kalo bernapas, jangan terlalu keras. Aku cuma pengen semuanya teratur dan bisa ngendaliin, meskipun itu bikin aku ngerasa kaku gitu. | Sepertinya kamu berusaha banget untuk menjaga keteraturan dan kontrol atas emosi kamu, hampir sampai menekan mereka. Ketegangan ini mungkin bikin kamu lebih stres dan nggak seimbang. Daripada fokus pada kontrol yang ketat, yuk kita cari cara untuk mengekspresikan emosi kamu dengan cara yang sehat dan seimbang. Gimana r... | 6 | [
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I always struggle with the debate between getting an extra 10 minutes of sleep and motivating myself to get up. It's exhausting and hard to overcome. When I talk about it, I realize how much it bothers me because I tend to not focus on it as an issue when I'm having this internal debate. | It's important to recognize and address the things that bother us. It seems like discussing it has brought this issue to your attention, which could be a helpful first step. Can you think of any strategies or ideas to help motivate yourself when you face this internal debate in the future? | Gue selalu berjuang sih antara mau tidur 10 menit lagi atau bangun dan motivasi diri. Rasanya capek banget dan susah buat ngatasin. Pas gue ngomongin ini, baru nyadar seberapa ganggu-nya itu buat gue, soalnya biasanya gue nggak fokus sama masalah ini pas lagi debat dalam diri sendiri. | Penting banget untuk mengenali dan mengatasi hal-hal yang mengganggu kita. Kayaknya, dengan ngobrol tentang ini, masalah ini jadi lebih jelas buat kamu, dan itu bisa jadi langkah awal yang baik. Nah, kamu bisa mikir nggak, ada strategi atau ide apa yang bisa bantu memotivasi diri kamu pas kamu menghadapi perdebatan bat... | 2 | [
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I've been feeling the need to be more involved with my family life. We are a close family and we do a lot of things together. It's not that there are problems or difficulties, but I felt the need for my physical presence. It's not only the family needing me, but I also needed to be there for myself. | It's great to hear that you have a close family and recognize the value of being physically present with them. It's important to find a balance between fulfilling your family's needs and your own personal needs. What specific changes are you planning to make to become more involved in your family life and satisfy your ... | Aku ngerasa butuh banget buat lebih terlibat dalam kehidupan keluarga. Kita ini keluarga yang deket banget dan sering ngelakuin banyak hal bareng. Bukan karena ada masalah atau kesulitan sih, tapi aku ngerasa perlu ada secara fisik di sana. Bukan cuma keluarga yang butuh aku, tapi aku juga butuh ada di situ buat diri a... | Senang banget denger kamu punya keluarga yang dekat dan kamu ngerti pentingnya hadir secara fisik di antara mereka. Memang penting banget buat nyari keseimbangan antara memenuhi kebutuhan keluarga dan kebutuhan pribadi kamu sendiri. Nah, perubahan spesifik apa yang kamu rencanain untuk lebih terlibat dalam kehidupan ke... | 19 | [
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I'm obsessing about a terrible breakup. Everything is a constant reminder. How do I move on? | Moving on is the right question. Everyone's different in moving on. First, what can I learn about myself because of this painful time? Caring non-judgmental family and friends who listen with the head and heart help a iot. Other times I need a skillful, caring professional to help me move on. You will find a way becaus... | Gue lagi kepikiran terus tentang putus yang parah banget. Segala sesuatu jadi pengingat terus, loh. Gimana ya caranya biar bisa move on? | Melanjutkan adalah pertanyaan yang tepat. Setiap orang punya cara yang berbeda untuk melanjutkan. Pertama, apa yang bisa aku pelajari tentang diriku dari masa sulit ini? Keluarga dan teman yang peduli, yang mendengarkan dengan hati dan pikiran, itu sangat membantu. Di lain waktu, aku butuh profesional yang terampil dan... | 18 | [
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How does a person start the counseling process? | Hello. Counseling often begins way before the client ever actually calls the local therapist. There is often a tipping point in the internal struggle that the client experiences, where they can no longer deal with the issues on their own and thus giving the motivation to seek external help. That said, clients usually g... | Gimana sih cara orang mulai proses konseling? | Halo. Konseling sering kali dimulai jauh sebelum klien benar-benar menghubungi terapis lokal. Seringkali ada titik balik dalam perjuangan internal yang dialami klien, di mana mereka merasa tidak bisa lagi menghadapi masalah sendiri dan akhirnya termotivasi untuk mencari bantuan dari luar. Nah, biasanya klien mencari te... | 5 | [
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When my daughter is stressed about a silly thing from school, she starts crying and freaking out. She is a bright student, always has a 4.0, but I am afraid she is stressing too much. I’m afraid it’s going to break her. I don't know if I should get her to a doctor or someone because this is not normal. | Dear Concern Mom, Sadly, kids nowadays stress a lot about school and compete with one and another. Determine Career-minded students, tend to be very hard on themselves and can eventually become very anxious about things. Whereas, it is a good thing to be driven it can break you down too. Therefore, I recommend that you... | Pas anak gue stres karena hal sepele dari sekolah, dia langsung nangis dan panik gitu. Padahal dia tuh siswa yang pinter, selalu dapet nilai 4.0, tapi gue takut dia terlalu stres. Gue khawatir ini bisa bikin dia down. Gue bingung, apa gue harus bawa dia ke dokter atau ke orang lain, soalnya ini udah nggak normal sih. | Ibu yang terhormat,
Sayangnya, anak-anak zaman sekarang sering banget stres karena sekolah dan saling berkompetisi. Anak-anak yang fokus pada karier cenderung sangat keras pada diri mereka sendiri dan bisa jadi sangat cemas tentang banyak hal. Meskipun memiliki motivasi itu baik, tapi bisa juga bikin mereka tertekan.... | 16 | [
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I feel upset when my teacher talks to me like I'm nothing and I'm not taking that. I want someone to say something to her about it. | It's understandable that you feel disrespected when your teacher talks to you in that manner. However, I think it's important to consider the impact of involving a third party in this situation. It could potentially make things worse if your teacher got upset with someone else as well. Instead, have you thought about a... | Gue ngerasa kesel banget pas guru gue ngomong ke gue kayak gue itu nggak ada apa-apanya. Gue nggak mau terima perlakuan kayak gitu. Gue pengen ada yang ngomong sesuatu ke dia tentang ini. | Aku paham banget sih kalau kamu merasa nggak dihargai ketika guru kamu ngomong kayak gitu. Tapi, aku rasa penting juga untuk mikirin dampak kalau kamu melibatkan orang ketiga dalam situasi ini. Bisa jadi malah bikin keadaan jadi lebih rumit kalau guru kamu marah sama orang lain juga. Gimana kalau kamu coba bicarain mas... | 16 | [
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Lately, I've been feeling a bit anxious about various things in my life. It's not constant, but it comes and goes. Sometimes, I worry about work, my relationships, and even my health. These thoughts aren't always there, but when they pop up, they make me feel uneasy and stressed. The other day, I had trouble falling as... | Thank you for sharing your concerns with me. It's completely normal to experience anxiety and worry from time to time, especially when it comes to work, relationships, or health. Since your anxiety is intermittent and not severely interfering with your daily activities, let's discuss some coping strategies and techniqu... | Akhir-akhir ini, aku ngerasa agak cemas tentang berbagai hal dalam hidupku. Gak selalu sih, tapi kadang-kadang muncul gitu. Kadang aku khawatir tentang kerjaan, hubungan, bahkan kesehatan aku. Pikiran-pikiran ini gak selalu ada, tapi pas muncul, bikin aku ngerasa gak nyaman dan stres. Kemarin, aku susah tidur karena ke... | Terima kasih sudah berbagi kekhawatiran kamu dengan saya. Itu sih wajar banget kalau kamu merasa cemas dan khawatir dari waktu ke waktu, apalagi soal pekerjaan, hubungan, atau kesehatan. Karena kecemasan kamu ini munculnya kadang-kadang dan nggak terlalu mengganggu aktivitas sehari-hari, yuk kita bahas beberapa strateg... | 2 | [
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Now I have anger and trust issues. How can I treat this and fix myself? | I will assume that for whatever reason, you either do not want to or are not able to seek counseling for this. However, I highly urge you to do so because long-term childhood abuse does have negative consequences for your life as an adult, as it seems you are already aware. There are confidential and free crisis hotlin... | Sekarang gue punya masalah marah sama masalah percaya. Gimana ya cara ngatasin ini dan benerin diri sendiri? | Saya akan menganggap bahwa apapun alasannya, kamu mungkin tidak ingin atau tidak bisa mencari konseling untuk masalah ini. Namun, saya sangat mendorong kamu untuk melakukannya karena penyalahgunaan yang dialami di masa kecil bisa berdampak negatif pada hidupmu sebagai orang dewasa, dan sepertinya kamu sudah menyadari h... | 8 | [
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I feel anxious in social situations, especially in formal settings where I believe people are making judgments about me. I've attended parties and dinner parties, but I enjoy them less recently. When hosting at my house, I prefer to stay in the kitchen so I don't have to be around everyone. | It seems like you're experiencing some social anxiety, which is quite common. It's important to acknowledge your feelings and remember that people usually focus more on themselves in social settings. Can you think of any recent situations where you felt particularly anxious and how you managed to cope with it? | Gue ngerasa cemas banget kalo lagi di situasi sosial, apalagi di acara formal yang bikin gue mikir orang-orang pada nge-judge gue. Udah pernah ikut pesta sama dinner party, tapi belakangan ini sih gue jadi kurang enjoy. Kalo lagi ngadain acara di rumah, gue lebih milih buat tinggal di dapur biar nggak harus ketemu semu... | Sepertinya kamu lagi ngerasain kecemasan sosial, ya? Itu sih hal yang biasa banget. Penting buat kita mengakui perasaan ini dan ingat bahwa orang-orang biasanya lebih fokus sama diri mereka sendiri di situasi sosial. Ada nggak sih situasi terakhir yang bikin kamu ngerasa cemas banget, dan gimana kamu ngatasinnya? | 2 | [
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I have no idea why I even get into this emotional state. It's just sometimes, you know, I'm happy one day and the next day I'm down in the dumps. I have no idea what brings it on. | I understand that it's confusing and frustrating to experience these sudden changes in your mood. It might be helpful to start paying attention to any triggers or patterns that could be contributing to these shifts. Can you think of any specific events or situations that happened recently when your mood changed? | Gue nggak ngerti kenapa bisa sampai ke keadaan emosional kayak gini. Kadang-kadang, loh, gue bahagia satu hari, eh besoknya udah down banget. Gue bener-bener nggak tahu apa yang bikin kayak gitu. | Aku paham banget sih, pasti bingung dan frustrasi banget ngerasain perubahan suasana hati yang tiba-tiba kayak gini. Mungkin bisa jadi bermanfaat kalau kamu mulai perhatiin pemicu atau pola yang mungkin berkontribusi ke perubahan ini. Ada nggak sih kejadian atau situasi tertentu yang baru-baru ini terjadi pas suasana h... | 3 | [
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I used to live a chaotic life, filled with crack houses, being beaten up, fighting, and going to prison. It all seemed normal to me, but now I realize how awful it sounds. I just want to be normal now, have a packed lunch, go to work, and have someone to look after me and a pet dog. | It's important to acknowledge the growth and change you've experienced. It sounds like you're striving for a more stable and nurturing life which is admirable. It might take time to adjust to your new normal and create daily routines for yourself, but it's achievable. Do you have any specific goals or plans that could ... | Dulu, hidupku berantakan banget, penuh sama rumah-rumah narkoba, dipukulin, berantem, dan masuk penjara. Semua itu rasanya biasa aja buat aku, tapi sekarang aku nyadar betapa mengerikannya itu. Sekarang, aku cuma pengen hidup normal, bawa bekal ke kantor, kerja, dan punya seseorang yang ngurusin aku sama anjing pelihar... | Penting banget untuk mengakui pertumbuhan dan perubahan yang udah kamu alami. Kayaknya kamu lagi berusaha untuk hidup yang lebih stabil dan mendukung, itu sih sangat mengagumkan. Mungkin butuh waktu untuk menyesuaikan diri dengan keadaan baru kamu dan bikin rutinitas harian yang cocok, tapi itu semua bisa dicapai. Ada ... | 3 | [
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I think that sometimes when we have disagreements, we experience an emotional or communication block, and I get too focused on my partner's feelings, neglecting my own. I feel like I have to fix every problem, and if they're in a bad mood, it becomes my responsibility to solve it. | It seems like you are struggling with emotional boundaries and taking on too much responsibility for your partner's feelings. It's important to recognize that everyone is responsible for their own emotions, and while you can support your partner, it's not your job to fix everything. Have you considered discussing these... | Kadang-kadang, pas kita ada perbedaan pendapat, aku ngerasa kayak ada blok emosional atau komunikasi gitu, dan aku jadi terlalu fokus sama perasaan pasangan, sampe ngelupain perasaanku sendiri. Rasanya kayak aku harus benerin semua masalah, dan kalo mereka lagi bad mood, itu jadi tanggung jawabku buat nyelesainnya. | Sepertinya kamu lagi kesulitan dengan batasan emosional dan terlalu banyak merasa bertanggung jawab atas perasaan pasanganmu. Penting banget untuk menyadari bahwa setiap orang itu bertanggung jawab atas emosinya sendiri, dan meskipun kamu bisa mendukung pasanganmu, bukan tugasmu untuk memperbaiki segalanya. Udah pernah... | 12 | [
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I’m trying to make marriage work after a split. Before our split, he lied a lot and broke every promise to me. I don't think he cheated. Last month, I asked what women work with him, so he told me. Yesterday, I found out about a girl that he said he forgot about. Should I be upset? | Do you want to be upset about a girl that he forgot about? Think about it for a minute. Do you want to measure your trust based on knowing how many female co-workers your husband has? And if so, what does that say about your marriage? Trust is something that we earn based on our actions and the actions of people we int... | Gue lagi berusaha buat bikin pernikahan ini berhasil setelah kita pisah. Sebelum pisah, dia sering banget bohong dan ngecewain semua janji yang dia buat. Gue sih nggak yakin dia selingkuh. Bulan lalu, gue nanya siapa aja cewek yang kerja bareng dia, dan dia jawab. Tapi kemarin, gue baru tau ada cewek yang dia bilang di... | Apakah kamu mau marah karena ada cewek yang dilupakan suami kamu? Coba pikirin deh sebentar. Apa kamu mau mengukur kepercayaan kamu berdasarkan berapa banyak rekan kerja cewek yang dia punya? Dan kalau iya, itu artinya apa buat pernikahan kamu? Kepercayaan itu sesuatu yang kita bangun dari tindakan kita dan tindakan or... | 12 | [
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Lately, I've been feeling down and not myself. It all started a couple of weeks ago when I lost my job. I've been feeling sad and have trouble sleeping. I'm not interested in hanging out with my friends or doing the things I used to love doing. My appetite has decreased too, and I've lost a few pounds. I'm usually ener... | I understand that losing your job can be a difficult experience and it's normal to feel down in such situations. It seems like you've been experiencing some changes in your sleep, appetite, and energy levels. It's also concerning that you're not enjoying activities you used to love and that you're having difficulties w... | Akhir-akhir ini, gue ngerasa down banget dan nggak seperti diri gue sendiri. Semua ini dimulai beberapa minggu yang lalu pas gue kehilangan kerjaan. Gue jadi sedih terus dan susah tidur. Nggak ada minat buat hangout sama temen-temen atau ngelakuin hal-hal yang biasanya gue suka. Nafsu makan juga berkurang, bahkan berat... | Saya paham banget kalau kehilangan pekerjaan itu bisa jadi pengalaman yang sulit dan wajar banget merasa down dalam situasi kayak gini. Kayaknya kamu udah ngerasain beberapa perubahan dalam tidur, nafsu makan, dan tingkat energi kamu, ya. Juga, saya khawatir kalau kamu udah nggak menikmati aktivitas yang dulu kamu suka... | 6 | [
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I have old childhood incidents which I've used parallel techniques on myself. As an American, it's highly individualistic culture, I put it all on my own shoulders. Lately, I feel more comfortable with myself. | It's great to hear that you are feeling more comfortable with yourself after applying parallel techniques. It's common for people from individualistic cultures to place a lot of responsibility on themselves. As you continue to think about these experiences, you may feel even more at ease. If the incident has been comin... | Gue punya beberapa kejadian masa kecil yang udah lama, dan gue udah coba teknik-teknik tertentu buat ngatasin itu sendiri. Sebagai orang Amerika, budaya di sana kan sangat individualis, jadi semua beban itu gue pikul sendiri. Tapi belakangan ini, gue ngerasa lebih nyaman sama diri gue sendiri. | Senang banget denger kamu merasa lebih nyaman dengan diri sendiri setelah menerapkan teknik paralel. Emang wajar sih, orang-orang dari budaya individualis seringkali ngerasa beban tanggung jawab itu ada di diri mereka sendiri. Seiring kamu terus merenungkan pengalaman ini, mungkin kamu bakal merasa lebih tenang lagi. K... | 3 | [
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I feel like I have to go to school, even if I don't want to. It's like the law or something, and everyone expects me to attend. | It's understandable that you may feel pressured to attend school due to societal expectations and legal requirements. However, it's also important to consider your personal feelings and well-being. What specifically is making you not want to go to school? | Aku ngerasa kayak harus ke sekolah, walaupun sebenernya nggak mau. Kayak ada hukum gitu, dan semua orang ngarep aku hadir. | Saya paham banget kalau kamu merasa tertekan untuk pergi ke sekolah karena ekspektasi masyarakat dan aturan yang ada. Tapi, penting juga untuk mempertimbangkan perasaan dan kesejahteraan kamu sendiri. Sebenarnya, apa sih yang bikin kamu nggak mau ke sekolah? | 2 | [
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I used to take care of my children and elderly family members at home. My mom used to live with us, and we took care of everyone until they passed away. | It sounds like you have been an important caregiver to both your children and older family members. It's a big responsibility that requires a lot of dedication and love. Can you please share how this caregiving role has impacted your feelings and well-being? | Dulu, aku biasa ngurusin anak-anak sama anggota keluarga yang udah tua di rumah. Nyokap juga tinggal bareng kita, dan kita ngerawat semuanya sampai mereka pergi. | Sepertinya kamu udah jadi pengasuh yang penting banget buat anak-anak dan anggota keluarga yang lebih tua. Itu tanggung jawab yang besar, yang butuh dedikasi dan kasih sayang yang banyak. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain gimana peran pengasuh ini mempengaruhi perasaan dan kesejahteraan kamu? | 10 | [
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I am divorced and happily remarried. Our blended family of children are in their 20s. My youngest, age 20, continues to call me crazy and favors her dad. He was abusive to me, and I left with injuries. He never wanted kids, and I did. He paid child support only through forced wage earners. Now my daughters favor him af... | Hi Arkansas, Your situation sounds like a case of parental alienation. Your ex-partner unfortunately has the power to say things to your children that poison their relationship with you. It's a form of woman abuse and child abuse. He's likely doing this to hurt you and have power over you, and he's not considering how ... | Gue udah cerai dan sekarang bahagia nikah lagi. Keluarga campuran kami punya anak-anak yang udah di usia 20-an. Anak gue yang paling bungsu, umur 20, terus-terusan nyebut gue gila dan lebih deket sama bokapnya. Padahal, dia itu abusive sama gue, dan gue pergi dengan luka-luka. Dia nggak pernah mau punya anak, sedangkan... | Hai Arkansas, situasimu terdengar seperti kasus pengasingan orang tua. Mantan pasanganmu sayangnya punya kekuatan untuk ngomong hal-hal yang meracuni hubunganmu dengan anak-anak. Ini adalah bentuk penyalahgunaan terhadap wanita dan anak. Dia kemungkinan melakukan ini untuk menyakitimu dan mengendalikanmu, tanpa memikir... | 16 | [
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Is it normal for people to cry during therapy, or is it just me? | Hello,Crying in therapy is extremely normal, especially if it is your first time attending a counseling session. Very often Clients will come to therapy either for the first time, or perhaps after many years of having attended therapy previously, and often find the weight on their shoulders being lifted when they final... | Apa nangis pas terapi itu normal, atau cuma aku doang ya? | Halo, nangis di terapi itu sangat normal, apalagi kalau ini pertama kalinya kamu ikut sesi konseling. Sering banget, klien datang ke terapi, entah itu pertama kali atau setelah bertahun-tahun sebelumnya, dan mereka sering merasa beban di pundak mereka terasa lebih ringan saat akhirnya bisa melepaskan dan merasakan emos... | 5 | [
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It was over 20 years ago, but the pain has resurfaced again now because I have started seeing her Facebook posts about how great her life is. I feel so angry. How can I handle this? | Affairs and infidelity are tough areas to address. The power of the affair comes from the feeling of injustice that seems to have happened to you. The struggle I notice people have is with the forgiveness. Forgiveness is something that is asked of you from your partner but also you have the power to give. I assume you ... | Itu udah lebih dari 20 tahun yang lalu, tapi rasa sakitnya muncul lagi sekarang soalnya aku mulai liat postingan dia di Facebook tentang betapa bahagianya hidup dia. Aku ngerasa marah banget. Gimana ya cara ngadepin ini? | Masalah perselingkuhan dan ketidaksetiaan itu emang susah banget buat dibahas. Kekuatan dari perselingkuhan itu muncul dari perasaan ketidakadilan yang seolah-olah terjadi padamu. Yang aku perhatikan, banyak orang berjuang dengan proses memaafkan. Memaafkan itu sesuatu yang diminta dari pasanganmu, tapi kamu juga punya... | 10 | [
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I know I create lines of communication with my parents, and they'd be open, but I wish they would reach out more. I'm scared to initiate that, and I feel isolated in that part of my life. | I want to acknowledge that it's great you came in today to talk about your emotions, especially since it's not something you or your family discuss often. Your willingness to explore these feelings demonstrates strength. Is there a specific reason why you feel scared to initiate communication that you want to share? | Aku tahu sih aku udah bikin jalur komunikasi sama orang tua, dan mereka juga terbuka, tapi aku pengen mereka lebih sering nyapa. Aku takut buat mulai duluan, dan rasanya aku jadi terasing di bagian hidup aku yang satu ini. | Aku mau mengapresiasi kamu karena udah datang hari ini buat ngobrol tentang perasaanmu, apalagi ini kan bukan hal yang sering kamu atau keluargamu bahas. Kesediaanmu buat mengeksplorasi perasaan ini menunjukkan kekuatan yang luar biasa. Ada nggak alasan khusus kenapa kamu merasa takut untuk mulai komunikasi yang pengen... | 2 | [
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I am feeling fearful about choosing a new place to visit, but I think visiting the place will help me a lot because I will know where I'm going and it might make me feel more comfortable. | It's great to see that you recognize the importance of facing your fear and taking action to overcome it. Visiting the place can indeed help you feel more comfortable and familiar with your surroundings. To help with this process, I suggest that you do thorough research on the place beforehand, gather information about... | Aku sih ngerasa takut banget buat milih tempat baru buat dikunjungi, tapi aku pikir, kalau aku pergi ke tempat itu, itu bakal bantu aku banget. Soalnya, aku jadi tahu kemana aku pergi dan mungkin bisa bikin aku ngerasa lebih nyaman, gitu. | Senang banget liat kamu udah nyadar pentingnya buat menghadapi ketakutan dan ambil langkah untuk mengatasinya. Mengunjungi tempat itu emang bisa bikin kamu merasa lebih nyaman dan akrab dengan lingkungan sekitar. Untuk ngebantu proses ini, aku sarankan kamu buat riset mendalam tentang tempat itu sebelumnya, kumpulin in... | 2 | [
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When I'm in large crowds I get angry and I just can't deal with people. I don't really like other people (I prefer animals) they make me nervous and scared. I lay awake at night thinking and having conversations in my head and i almost always end up making myself feel terrible and crying, I have more conversions in my... | First of all, having these thoughts and feelings does not mean there is something wrong with you. It's very normal to worry about social relationships and how others see us because we need other people in our lives to survive and thrive.It sounds like you may have some social anxiety, which is very workable and treatab... | Pas lagi di keramaian, gue jadi gampang marah dan bener-bener nggak bisa ngadepin orang-orang. Gue sih lebih suka sama hewan, soalnya orang-orang bikin gue nervous dan takut. Malam-malam, gue sering terjaga, mikirin banyak hal dan ngobrol sama diri sendiri di kepala, dan hampir selalu berakhir bikin diri gue merasa jel... | Pertama-tama, punya pikiran dan perasaan kayak gini bukan berarti ada yang salah sama kamu. Sangat wajar untuk khawatir tentang hubungan sosial dan bagaimana orang lain melihat kita, karena kita butuh orang lain dalam hidup kita untuk bertahan dan berkembang. Sepertinya kamu mungkin mengalami sedikit kecemasan sosial, ... | 2 | [
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I feel really anxious throughout the day, and my alarm clock triggers this anxiety because it reminds me that I have so many things to do. To cope with this anxiety, I tend to pick up my phone and distract myself with social media like Instagram, Snapchat, and Facebook. | It seems like you're struggling with daily anxiety that is triggered by your alarm clock and the thought of tasks ahead. Using social media as a coping mechanism might provide temporary relief, but it's not addressing the root cause of your anxiety. To better manage your anxiety, try incorporating relaxation techniques... | Gue ngerasa cemas banget sepanjang hari, dan bunyi alarm bikin cemasnya makin parah soalnya ngingetin gue kalo ada banyak banget yang harus dilakukan. Buat ngadepin kecemasan ini, biasanya gue ambil handphone dan nyalain sosmed kayak Instagram, Snapchat, sama Facebook buat ngelupain sejenak. | Sepertinya kamu lagi berjuang dengan kecemasan sehari-hari yang muncul karena alarm dan pikiran tentang tugas-tugas yang harus dikerjain. Menggunakan media sosial sebagai cara untuk mengatasi mungkin bisa kasih sedikit kelegaan sementara, tapi itu nggak nyelesaiin akar masalah kecemasan kamu. Untuk lebih baik mengelola... | 2 | [
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I've been trying to cut down on my alcohol intake and have been successful in reducing it to just maybe three shots for the past two days. To replace the habit, my family has been keeping me busy with activities like painting and fixing the roof. I'm planning to invest the money I make into a little truck. | It's great to hear that you've been successful in reducing your alcohol intake and finding healthier substitutes. Engaging in activities and having goals, like investing in a truck, can be really helpful in maintaining motivation and staying busy. However, it's important to maintain a balance and ensure that the activi... | Gue udah berusaha buat ngurangin minum alkohol, dan selama dua hari ini berhasil sih, cuma minum tiga shot doang. Buat ngisi waktu, keluarga gue ngajak gue sibuk dengan kegiatan kayak ngecat sama benerin atap. Gue juga lagi rencana mau nabung duit yang gue dapet buat beli truk kecil. | Senang banget denger kalau kamu udah berhasil ngurangin konsumsi alkohol dan nemuin pengganti yang lebih sehat. Terlibat dalam aktivitas dan punya tujuan, kayak investasi di truk, itu bisa banget bantu kamu tetap termotivasi dan sibuk. Tapi, penting juga untuk menjaga keseimbangan dan memastikan aktivitas yang kamu pil... | 25 | [
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I want you to help me become more relaxed, yes. I don't want to be so defensive with you. I don't like to feel so defensive. | It's great to acknowledge that. One way to help you feel more relaxed and less defensive is by practicing open communication. Let's try expressing your feelings or thoughts whenever you feel defensive, so we can better understand each other and work towards making you feel comfortable. | Aku pengen kamu bantu aku biar lebih relax, ya. Aku nggak mau terlalu defensif sama kamu. Aku nggak suka ngerasa kayak gitu. | Bagus banget kalau kamu bisa mengakui itu. Salah satu cara untuk bikin kamu lebih rileks dan nggak defensif adalah dengan berlatih komunikasi yang terbuka. Yuk, coba ungkapkan perasaan atau pikiran kamu setiap kali kamu merasa defensif, biar kita bisa saling memahami dengan lebih baik dan bekerja sama untuk bikin kamu ... | 12 | [
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Lately, I've been experiencing some strange feelings that have been affecting my daily life. It started a few months ago when I began to hear things when no one was around. At first, it was just whispers, but now the voices have become clearer and more persistent. They're there even when I'm alone, and I can't seem to ... | Thank you for sharing your experiences with me. It's important to acknowledge and discuss these feelings and thoughts you're having. I would like to ask you some more questions to better understand your situation. For instance, can you tell me if you have any family history of mental health issues? Additionally, have t... | Akhir-akhir ini, gue ngerasa ada yang aneh banget sih, yang bikin hidup sehari-hari gue jadi terganggu. Ini mulai beberapa bulan yang lalu, pas gue mulai denger suara-suara padahal gak ada orang di sekitar. Awalnya sih cuma bisikan, tapi sekarang suaranya jadi lebih jelas dan terus-terusan. Mereka ada terus, bahkan pas... | Terima kasih udah berbagi pengalaman kamu sama aku. Penting banget buat mengakui dan membahas perasaan serta pikiran yang kamu rasain. Aku mau nanya beberapa pertanyaan lagi biar bisa lebih paham tentang situasi kamu. Misalnya, bisa nggak kamu ceritain apakah ada riwayat masalah kesehatan mental dalam keluarga kamu? Se... | 2 | [
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I've been trying to take more initiative in dealing with my stress, but it's causing disruption in my home environment. | It's great that you're taking initiative to manage your stress. However, it's important to find a balance where you can effectively manage your stress without causing disruption in your home. We can work together to find stress management techniques that blend well with your environment and support your well-being. | Aku udah berusaha buat lebih proaktif dalam ngadepin stres, tapi malah bikin suasana di rumah jadi berantakan, sih. | Bagus banget kamu udah mulai ambil inisiatif untuk ngelola stres kamu. Tapi, penting juga buat nemuin keseimbangan, supaya kamu bisa ngatur stres tanpa bikin gangguan di rumah. Kita bisa kerja bareng buat nyari teknik manajemen stres yang cocok sama lingkungan kamu dan mendukung kesejahteraan kamu. | 2 | [
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I've recently become more deeply aware of an issue I've always known about, though I'm unsure how to deal with it. | It's good that you've become more aware of this issue, but I would recommend not trying to figure everything out on your own or creating a list of things to discuss. Instead, focus on discovering and understanding yourself better by being open to new realizations during our sessions. | Akhir-akhir ini, aku jadi lebih sadar banget sama masalah yang sebenernya udah lama aku tau, tapi aku masih bingung gimana cara ngadepinnya. | Bagus banget kamu udah lebih sadar tentang masalah ini, tapi aku saranin jangan terlalu berusaha buat nyelesaiin semuanya sendiri atau bikin daftar hal-hal yang mau dibahas. Sebaiknya, fokus aja untuk menemukan dan memahami diri kamu lebih baik dengan terbuka terhadap pemahaman baru selama sesi kita. | 3 | [
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