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I had a weird day, and it's a very stressful week because there's a lot going on. My Filipino club has an event this weekend, and I'm one of the forerunners of this event. I've been planning for weeks and feel like I've got no sleep so my stress level is very high. On top of that, I think I'm going to get my period, wh... | It sounds like you're juggling a lot of responsibilities right now with the event planning and dealing with the additional stress of your menstrual cycle. It's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed and emotional in this situation. One suggestion is to take some time for self-care and relaxation during your day.... | Hari ini aneh banget, dan minggu ini super stres karena banyak yang terjadi. Klub Filipinoku ada acara akhir pekan ini, dan aku salah satu panitianya. Udah planning dari minggu-minggu lalu, dan rasanya kayak nggak tidur sama sekali, jadi tingkat stresku tinggi banget. Ditambah lagi, kayaknya aku mau datang bulan, yang ... | Sepertinya kamu lagi banyak banget tanggung jawab ya, dengan rencana acara dan ditambah stres dari siklus menstruasi kamu. Itu wajar banget sih kalau kamu merasa kewalahan dan emosional dalam situasi kayak gini. Salah satu saran yang bisa aku kasih adalah luangkan waktu untuk merawat diri dan bersantai di hari-hari kam... | 2 | [
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I have been feeling severely depressed since December of 1996, when I lost my brother. | I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your brother, and it's understandable that you're feeling this way. It seems your depression has lasted for quite some time now, and it's essential to address the underlying issues and emotions. It would be helpful to explore coping strategies and consider seeking professional suppor... | Aku udah ngerasa depresi parah sejak Desember 1996, pas aku kehilangan kakak aku. | Saya sangat menyesal mendengar tentang kehilangan saudara laki-laki kamu, dan wajar banget kalau kamu merasa seperti ini. Sepertinya depresi kamu udah berlangsung cukup lama, dan penting banget untuk membahas masalah dan emosi yang mendasarinya. Mungkin akan sangat membantu kalau kita eksplorasi strategi coping dan mem... | 6 | [
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I have had a crush on this guy for years. I last talked to him a few years ago when we graduated from high school. We left off on a good note. Should I message him and see how he is doing, or is it too late? | It's never to late to let a person know how you feel. You never know where it will take you. You don't want to hold this regret of not letting your feelings known and wondering "what if" for the rest of your life. That can be torturous. Now prepare for whatever..if his feelings are the same or if they are not. If the... | Aku udah suka sama cowok ini bertahun-tahun, loh. Terakhir kali aku ngobrol sama dia itu beberapa tahun yang lalu pas kita lulus SMA. Kita pisah dengan baik-baik gitu. Kira-kira, apa aku harus nge-message dia dan nanya kabarnya, atau udah telat, ya? | Tidak pernah terlambat untuk memberi tahu seseorang tentang perasaanmu. Kamu nggak pernah tahu ke mana itu akan membawamu. Jangan sampai kamu menyesal karena nggak mengungkapkan perasaanmu dan terus bertanya "seandainya" seumur hidupmu. Itu bisa sangat menyiksa. Sekarang, siapkan dirimu untuk apapun... apakah perasaann... | 19 | [
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I've learned how to not upset myself so much by using various tools and as a result, I think I'm feeling better. | That's really important progress you've made. It's great to know that you're thinking and acting differently, and feeling better as a result. Remember, the key takeaway is learning how not to upset yourself and continue using the tools you've been practicing. | Aku udah belajar gimana caranya biar nggak bikin diri sendiri stres banget dengan berbagai alat yang aku pakai, dan hasilnya, aku rasa aku jadi lebih baik deh. | Itu kemajuan yang sangat penting yang udah kamu capai. Seneng banget tahu kalau kamu udah mulai berpikir dan bertindak dengan cara yang berbeda, dan merasa lebih baik karenanya. Ingat, hal yang paling penting adalah belajar untuk nggak bikin diri kamu merasa buruk dan terus pakai alat-alat yang udah kamu latih. | 3 | [
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I have been so focused on protecting someone else that I didn't even have time to look at how the situation was impacting me. It has affected me a lot, and it's quite scary. | It's important to recognize that you've been prioritizing someone else's well-being over your own, and it's natural to feel scared or overwhelmed. Can you share more details about the situation and how it has impacted you, so we can explore your feelings and work towards finding a balance between caring for others and ... | Aku udah terlalu fokus buat melindungi orang lain sampe-sampe gak sempet mikirin gimana situasi ini ngaruh ke diriku sendiri. Ini bener-bener berdampak banget sih, dan agak ngeri juga. | Penting banget buat nyadarin kalo kamu udah lebih mementingkan kesejahteraan orang lain daripada diri sendiri, dan itu wajar banget kalo kamu merasa takut atau kewalahan. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain lebih banyak tentang situasinya dan gimana itu berdampak ke kamu? Kita bisa sama-sama eksplorasi perasaan kamu dan cari cara... | 3 | [
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I'm worried about losing my mom because I rely on her for so many things, like financial support and babysitting. I'm not sure what I would do without her and if it would be possible to get these things from other people. | It's understandable to be concerned about losing your mom's support; it's a significant change to navigate. Let's take a moment to consider the three things you rely on her for and whether it would be impossible to get these from others or if it would just be more challenging. For example, regarding babysitting, who el... | Gue khawatir banget kehilangan nyokap, soalnya gue tergantung sama dia buat banyak hal, kayak dukungan finansial sama ngasuh anak. Gue nggak tau deh apa yang bakal gue lakuin tanpa dia, dan apakah mungkin buat dapetin hal-hal itu dari orang lain. | Saya paham banget kalau kamu khawatir kehilangan dukungan dari ibu kamu; itu memang perubahan yang besar untuk dihadapi. Yuk, kita ambil waktu sejenak untuk mikirin tiga hal yang biasanya kamu andalkan dari dia, dan apakah mungkin untuk mendapatkan hal-hal itu dari orang lain, atau cuma lebih sulit aja. Misalnya, soal ... | 16 | [
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I am a very physical person and I touch people naturally as a way of communication. However, sometimes it gets misunderstood and escalates into a more physical situation. | It's important to be aware of how your actions may be perceived by others. Since physical touch can be misinterpreted, try to find alternative ways to communicate effectively without touching, such as through verbal cues or gestures. This can help in preventing misunderstandings and maintaining healthy relationships. D... | Aku tuh orang yang sangat fisik, jadi aku sering banget nyentuh orang sebagai cara berkomunikasi. Tapi kadang-kadang, itu malah disalahpahami dan jadi situasi yang lebih fisik, gitu. | Penting banget buat sadar gimana tindakan kamu bisa dipersepsikan oleh orang lain. Karena sentuhan fisik itu bisa salah dimengerti, coba deh cari cara lain buat berkomunikasi dengan efektif tanpa harus menyentuh, kayak lewat isyarat verbal atau gerakan. Ini bisa bantu mencegah salah paham dan menjaga hubungan yang seha... | 19 | [
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I am struggling with finding out which of my thoughts are true and which ones aren't. If they are true, I know I need to solve a problem, but if they're not, I'm not sure what to do. Can you help me figure out how to differentiate between these thoughts? | Absolutely, I can help you figure out the thoughts that are true and need to be addressed, and those that are not true, so you can let them go. First, we need to identify your thoughts, and then we will analyze them for their accuracy. If they turn out to be true, then there's a problem to be solved. However, if they a... | Aku lagi bingung banget nih, mana pikiran yang bener dan mana yang enggak. Kalo bener, aku tahu harus nyelesain masalah, tapi kalo enggak, aku jadi bingung mau ngapain. Lo bisa bantu aku buat bedain pikiran-pikiran ini? | Tentu, aku bisa bantu kamu untuk mengidentifikasi pikiran-pikiran yang bener dan perlu diperhatikan, serta yang nggak bener, supaya kamu bisa melepaskannya. Pertama, kita perlu mengenali pikiran-pikiran kamu, dan setelah itu kita akan menganalisis seberapa akurat pikiran-pikiran itu. Kalau ternyata bener, berarti ada m... | 3 | [
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I don't know what they'd say but I know they wouldn't like each other. | It seems like you're uncertain about how these individuals would interact and express their dislike for each other. Considering that you don't have specific information, it might be helpful to step back and acknowledge that you cannot control or predict others' actions or behavior. Focus on what you can control, such a... | Gue nggak tahu sih mereka bakal bilang apa, tapi yang jelas, mereka pasti nggak bakal saling suka. | Sepertinya kamu masih ragu tentang gimana orang-orang ini bakal berinteraksi dan menunjukkan ketidaksukaan mereka satu sama lain. Karena kamu nggak punya informasi yang jelas, mungkin lebih baik kalau kamu mundur sedikit dan sadar bahwa kamu nggak bisa mengontrol atau memprediksi tindakan atau perilaku orang lain. Foku... | 19 | [
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I would like to not take medication, like Ambien, and I am hoping I can find other ways to deal with my issue. | It's great that you're open to exploring other options. Ambien can be helpful as needed, but it's also important to work on behavioral strategies to manage your situation. I will provide you with a handout on alternative methods when we leave today. | Gue pengen sih nggak minum obat, kayak Ambien gitu, dan gue berharap bisa nemuin cara lain buat ngadepin masalah ini. | Bagus banget kamu mau terbuka untuk mengeksplorasi pilihan lain. Ambien bisa membantu kalau dibutuhkan, tapi penting juga untuk bekerja pada strategi perilaku supaya bisa mengelola situasimu. Nanti aku akan kasih kamu handout tentang metode alternatif pas kita selesai sesi hari ini. | 6 | [
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After I told them, they yelled at me. | I'm sorry your family had such an upsetting response to your news.Maybe eventually they will come around to greater acceptance of you. If this was the first time they heard this fact about your sexuality, the information may have overwhelmed them.It is up to the family members now to realize they handled their reactio... | Setelah aku bilang ke mereka, mereka teriak ke aku. | Saya minta maaf keluarga kamu bereaksi dengan cara yang bikin kamu kecewa. Mungkin nanti mereka akan lebih bisa menerima kamu. Kalau ini adalah pertama kalinya mereka denger tentang orientasi seksual kamu, bisa jadi informasi ini bikin mereka kaget. Sekarang, tergantung pada anggota keluarga untuk menyadari bahwa reaks... | 10 | [
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I am currently involved in litigation and I have recently experienced a significant loss. | It sounds like you are going through a challenging time with the litigation and the recent significant loss. These situations can be really stressful and emotionally draining. Can you share more about how these events are affecting you and what kind of support you are seeking? | Gue sekarang lagi terlibat dalam proses hukum dan baru-baru ini ngerasain kehilangan yang cukup besar, sih. | Sepertinya kamu lagi menghadapi masa yang sulit dengan proses hukum dan kehilangan besar yang baru-baru ini terjadi. Situasi kayak gini bisa bikin stres banget dan emosional banget. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain lebih banyak tentang gimana peristiwa ini mempengaruhi kamu dan dukungan kayak apa yang kamu butuhin? | 27 | [
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I've been feeling really depressed and I decided to come down here to start a new journey and figure out who I really am, so I can change my situation and make it better. | It's great to see that you've taken the initiative to seek help and make positive changes in your life. Let's discuss the factors contributing to your depression and work together on creating a plan to improve your overall well-being. Can you share more about what you think might be causing your depression? | Aku udah ngerasa bener-bener depresi, jadi aku mutusin buat datang ke sini buat mulai perjalanan baru dan cari tahu siapa sih aku sebenernya, biar bisa ubah keadaan aku dan bikin hidupku lebih baik. | Senang banget liat kamu udah berinisiatif untuk minta bantuan dan mau bikin perubahan positif dalam hidup kamu. Yuk, kita bahas faktor-faktor yang mungkin bikin kamu merasa depresi dan kita bisa kerja bareng untuk bikin rencana supaya kesejahteraan kamu lebih baik. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain lebih lanjut tentang apa yang... | 6 | [
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I don't think it's fair what they're doing to me, and I struggle to explain my feelings. I haven't retaliated and I'm trying not to get angry. I've been talking to my mom about it, and she keeps saying 'this too shall pass'. | It's admirable that you haven't retaliated and you're managing your emotions. You seem to have strong values and support from your mom, which is great. It's natural to feel angry at times, but it's important to find healthy outlets for those feelings. What other strategies have you tried to cope with the situation? | Gue rasa sih ini nggak adil banget apa yang mereka lakuin ke gue, dan gue susah banget buat ngejelasin perasaan gue. Gue belum balas dendam dan lagi berusaha buat nggak marah. Gue udah cerita ke nyokap tentang ini, dan dia terus bilang, 'ini juga bakal berlalu'. | Saya sangat mengapresiasi bahwa kamu tidak membalas dan bisa mengelola emosi kamu. Kamu tampaknya punya nilai-nilai yang kuat dan dukungan dari ibu kamu, itu luar biasa. Wajar kok merasa marah kadang-kadang, tapi penting untuk menemukan cara yang sehat untuk menyalurkan perasaan itu. Nah, strategi apa lagi yang sudah k... | 10 | [
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I feel afraid to take on more challenges at work, even though I know I should. I've tried various things before, but they haven't really paid off. I want to be more proactive, but I don't know how to get there. | It's understandable that you might feel afraid, especially if previous attempts haven't paid off. In order to overcome this fear and take on more challenges, we can work on identifying and addressing any internal barriers or limiting beliefs that might be holding you back. Additionally, I would like to know if there ar... | Aku ngerasa takut buat ambil tantangan lebih di kerjaan, padahal aku tahu seharusnya aku bisa. Udah coba berbagai hal sebelumnya, tapi hasilnya nggak begitu memuaskan gitu. Aku pengen lebih proaktif, tapi bingung deh gimana caranya. | Aku paham banget kalo kamu mungkin merasa takut, apalagi kalo usaha-usaha sebelumnya nggak membuahkan hasil. Untuk bisa mengatasi rasa takut ini dan berani menghadapi tantangan lebih, kita bisa sama-sama cari tahu dan mengatasi hambatan-hambatan internal atau keyakinan yang mungkin bikin kamu terhambat. Selain itu, aku... | 2 | [
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I don't have the same level of social support here as I do at home. My social life mainly consists of conversing with people at work, and I don't know many Asian-Americans here. However, I do attend an Asian-American church. | It sounds like you're trying to connect with people at work and through your church, which is a good start. It can be tough adjusting to a new environment and building a new social network. Have you considered participating in activities or joining clubs related to your interests to meet more like-minded people outside... | Gue nggak punya dukungan sosial yang sama di sini kayak di rumah. Kehidupan sosial gue mostly cuma ngobrol sama orang-orang di kantor, dan gue nggak kenal banyak orang Asia-Amerika di sini. Tapi, gue sih ikut gereja Asia-Amerika. | Sepertinya kamu lagi berusaha untuk terhubung sama orang-orang di tempat kerja dan di gereja, itu udah langkah yang bagus, sih. Memang bisa jadi sulit buat beradaptasi dengan lingkungan baru dan membangun jaringan sosial yang baru. Kamu udah mikirin buat ikut kegiatan atau gabung klub yang sesuai sama minat kamu, gitu,... | 6 | [
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I only get to see my friends during classes, so it's the rest of the day that I'm frustrated with - other things going on with my other classes. I think I want to do well and my frustration level is at a two. | It's great that you want to do well in your classes and it seems you are managing your frustration to a certain extent by rating it a two. What have you personally done at school to be able to say that your frustration level is at two instead of one? | Gue cuma bisa ketemu temen-temen pas kelas doang, jadi sisanya itu yang bikin gue frustrasi - ada banyak hal lain di kelas-kelas gue yang bikin pusing. Gue sih pengen banget bisa baik-baik aja, tapi tingkat frustrasi gue sekarang ada di angka dua. | Bagus banget kalau kamu pengen performa baik di kelas, dan sepertinya kamu udah bisa mengelola frustrasi kamu sampai batas tertentu dengan memberi nilai dua. Nah, apa sih yang udah kamu lakuin di sekolah sehingga kamu bisa bilang kalau tingkat frustrasi kamu itu dua, bukan satu? | 2 | [
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I met my counsellor today and I was a bit nervous during our conversation. My hands were sweating while we were talking, and I mentioned that they cause me to feel a bit embarrassed when shaking hands. I also told them that I find the counselling sessions a bit scary. | It's completely understandable that you may feel nervous during a counselling session, especially when it's new for you. Sweating is a natural response to stress or anxiety, and it will likely lessen as you grow more comfortable with the counselling process. Remember that my goal is to help you, not to scare you. If yo... | Aku ketemu konselor aku hari ini dan aku agak gugup pas ngobrol. Tangan aku berkeringat gitu deh pas kita lagi ngobrol, terus aku bilang kalo itu bikin aku sedikit malu pas jabat tangan. Aku juga cerita kalo aku ngerasa sesi konseling itu agak menakutkan. | Sangat wajar kalau kamu merasa gugup selama sesi konseling, apalagi ini kan masih baru buat kamu. Berkeringat itu respon alami terhadap stres atau kecemasan, dan biasanya itu bakal berkurang seiring kamu semakin nyaman dengan proses konseling ini. Ingat, tujuan aku di sini adalah untuk membantu kamu, bukan untuk menaku... | 2 | [
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Lately, I've been feeling like some people at work are talking behind my back. I think they're plotting against me to take my job or ruin my reputation. I've overheard some of them whispering and laughing near my desk, and it's been making me extremely paranoid. However, I also have moments where I feel like I could be... | Thank you for sharing your feelings with me. I understand that the situation at work is causing you stress and making you feel paranoid. It's important to be able to express your feelings and concerns. I suggest that you reflect on your relationships with your coworkers and try to identify any specific reasons or incid... | Akhir-akhir ini, gue ngerasa kayak ada beberapa orang di kantor yang ngomongin gue di belakang. Gue pikir mereka lagi nyusun rencana buat ngambil kerjaan gue atau ngerusak reputasi gue. Gue udah denger mereka bisik-bisik dan ketawa deket meja gue, dan itu bikin gue paranoid banget. Tapi, di sisi lain, kadang-kadang gue... | Terima kasih sudah berbagi perasaanmu dengan saya. Aku paham kalau situasi di tempat kerja bikin kamu stres dan merasa paranoid. Penting banget buat bisa mengekspresikan perasaan dan kekhawatiranmu. Aku sarankan kamu merenungkan hubunganmu dengan rekan kerja dan coba cari tahu alasan atau kejadian spesifik yang mungkin... | 2 | [
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Lately, I've been feeling overwhelmed with work and daily tasks, making it difficult for me to rest or relax. I sometimes take breaks to calm down, but it's been a while since I have been able to truly unwind. | It sounds like you've been going through a challenging period due to the demands of your daily life and finding it difficult to manage stress. One suggestion I have for you is to prioritize self-care and find techniques to help you relax and recharge, such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or spending time in na... | Akhir-akhir ini, gue ngerasa kewalahan banget sama kerjaan dan tugas sehari-hari, jadi susah banget buat istirahat atau santai. Kadang-kadang sih, gue ambil waktu buat istirahat biar tenang, tapi udah lama banget rasanya gue nggak bisa bener-bener relax. | Sepertinya kamu lagi menghadapi masa yang sulit karena tuntutan hidup sehari-hari dan merasa kesulitan buat mengelola stres, ya. Satu saran yang bisa aku kasih adalah prioritaskan perawatan diri dan cari teknik yang bisa bantu kamu santai dan recharge, kayak meditasi, latihan pernapasan dalam, atau menghabiskan waktu d... | 2 | [
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Lately, I've been feeling pretty down, and it's starting to affect my daily life. I've lost interest in activities I once enjoyed, like going to the gym or hanging out with friends. I've been having a hard time concentrating at work, and my appetite has decreased a lot. I wouldn't say I feel hopeless or worthless, but ... | I'm sorry to hear that you've been feeling this way. Grieving the loss of a loved one can be difficult and may affect various aspects of your life. It's important to allow yourself time to process and heal during this period. It's also helpful to have a support system and communicate your feelings with someone you trus... | Akhir-akhir ini, gue ngerasa agak down, dan ini mulai ngaruh ke kehidupan sehari-hari gue. Gue udah kehilangan minat buat aktivitas yang dulu gue suka, kayak ke gym atau nongkrong sama temen-temen. Gue juga susah banget fokus di kerjaan, dan nafsu makan gue turun banget. Gue sih nggak bilang ngerasa putus asa atau ngga... | Saya sangat menyesal mendengar kamu merasa seperti ini. Berduka atas kehilangan orang yang kita cintai itu memang sulit dan bisa mempengaruhi berbagai aspek dalam hidup kamu. Penting banget untuk memberi diri kamu waktu untuk memproses dan sembuh selama periode ini. Juga, punya sistem dukungan itu sangat membantu, jadi... | 6 | [
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I've been with my boyfriend, Edward, for a year and everything was great at the beginning. But lately, we've been fighting more and he's always frustrated. The last time we fought was when we were going out to eat and he wanted my opinion on where to go. I told him it didn't matter, and he got upset, saying I never tel... | It seems like your boyfriend wants more input from you in decision-making, and you might be coming across as indifferent. Communication is key in relationships, so it's essential to share your opinions and feelings openly with him. Have you tried discussing these recent misunderstandings with him to understand why he's... | Aku udah setahun pacaran sama Edward, dan awalnya sih semuanya baik-baik aja. Tapi belakangan ini, kita sering berantem dan dia selalu kelihatan frustrasi. Terakhir kali kita berantem itu pas mau makan, dia nanya pendapatku mau makan di mana. Aku bilang sih, "Terserah," eh dia malah marah, bilang aku nggak pernah kasih... | Sepertinya pacar kamu pengen lebih banyak masukan dari kamu dalam pengambilan keputusan, dan mungkin kamu terkesan cuek. Komunikasi itu penting banget dalam hubungan, jadi penting buat kamu untuk berbagi pendapat dan perasaan kamu secara terbuka sama dia. Udah pernah belum kamu coba ngobrolin kesalahpahaman yang terakh... | 12 | [
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Lately, I've been feeling quite anxious and worried about various aspects of my life, such as work, family, and personal relationships. These feelings have been going on for the past few months, and I find it hard to control my worries. I've also been experiencing some physical symptoms like muscle tension and occasion... | Thank you for sharing your feelings and experiences with me. Anxiety is a normal human emotion, especially in response to situations that can be perceived as stressful or challenging. However, it's important to distinguish whether your anxiety is temporary or part of a more persistent pattern. You've mentioned that you... | Akhir-akhir ini, aku ngerasa cemas banget dan khawatir soal berbagai hal dalam hidupku, kayak kerjaan, keluarga, sama hubungan pribadi. Perasaan ini udah berlangsung beberapa bulan, dan aku ngerasa susah banget buat ngontrol kekhawatiranku. Selain itu, aku juga ngerasain beberapa gejala fisik, kayak ketegangan otot sam... | Terima kasih sudah berbagi perasaan dan pengalaman kamu dengan saya. Kecemasan itu emosi manusia yang wajar, terutama sebagai respon terhadap situasi yang bisa dianggap stres atau menantang. Tapi, penting untuk membedakan apakah kecemasan kamu itu sementara atau bagian dari pola yang lebih persisten. Kamu udah bilang k... | 2 | [
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I wanted to talk about some challenges I'm having with work. It's a bit difficult for me to come here and talk to you about this. | I appreciate you sharing your concerns, and I want to make sure that you feel comfortable discussing your challenges. If at any point you feel I'm not on track or understanding your situation, please feel free to let me know so we can adjust the conversation. Now, tell me more about the specific issues you're facing at... | Gue pengen ngobrol tentang beberapa tantangan yang lagi gue hadapi di kerjaan. Sebenarnya agak susah sih buat gue buat dateng ke sini dan cerita tentang ini. | Saya menghargai kamu sudah berbagi kekhawatiranmu, dan saya ingin memastikan kamu merasa nyaman untuk membahas tantangan yang kamu hadapi. Kalau di suatu titik kamu merasa saya nggak paham atau nggak on track dengan situasimu, jangan ragu untuk bilang ya, supaya kita bisa sesuaikan pembicaraannya. Nah, ceritain lebih l... | 27 | [
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I feel like my situation doesn't work, it's a copout. I actually wish I was stupid and didn't know any better so I could feel comfortable in this uncomfortable place I am right now. | It's understandable that you're feeling uncomfortable in your current situation, and wishing you didn't know any better seems like a way to cope with the discomfort. As a counsellor, I suggest we explore the reasons behind your discomfort further to help you find a healthier way to deal with it. Please tell me more abo... | Gue ngerasa kayak situasi gue ini nggak ada gunanya, kayak nyari alasan gitu. Sebenernya, gue pengen banget jadi bodoh dan nggak tahu apa-apa, biar bisa ngerasa nyaman di tempat yang nggak nyaman ini. | Aku paham banget kalau kamu merasa nggak nyaman dengan situasi yang kamu hadapi sekarang, dan berharap kamu nggak tahu lebih baik itu bisa jadi cara buat mengatasi rasa nggak nyaman itu. Sebagai konselor, aku sarankan kita gali lebih dalam alasan di balik ketidaknyamananmu ini supaya kamu bisa menemukan cara yang lebih... | 2 | [
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I used to go to a hospital for counselling, but after two semesters of helping with this organization for veterans, I noticed that I don't need the counseling anymore. It's hard to tell how it happened, but now I'm better. | It's great to hear that you're feeling better and no longer need counselling. It sounds like your passion for helping other veterans and your belief in what goes around comes around has contributed to your own healing. Can you share any specific experiences with the organization that led to this realization? | Dulu, gue sering ke rumah sakit buat konseling, tapi setelah dua semester bantuin organisasi buat veteran, gue ngerasa kayaknya udah nggak butuh konseling lagi. Susah sih buat ngejelasin gimana bisa kayak gitu, tapi sekarang gue ngerasa lebih baik. | Senang banget denger kamu udah merasa lebih baik dan nggak butuh konseling lagi. Kayaknya, semangat kamu buat bantu veteran lain dan keyakinan kamu tentang karma itu bener-bener ngebantu proses penyembuhan kamu, ya. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain pengalaman spesifik yang kamu dapetin dari organisasi itu yang bikin kamu nyada... | 17 | [
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I'm feeling anxious about graduating and having to find a real job. I've had decent experiences with work in the past, but those jobs were just for passing the time. My current job is more focused on my career goals, but I'm still worried about finding a job in my field after graduation. | It's natural to feel anxious about transitioning from school to the workforce and finding a job in your desired field. Can you identify any specific concerns or obstacles that are causing you worry? This can help us address and overcome those challenges so you feel more confident and prepared for your job search after ... | Aku lagi ngerasa cemas banget soal lulus dan harus nyari kerja beneran. Sebelumnya sih, aku udah pernah kerja dan pengalaman kerjanya lumayan, tapi ya itu, kerjaan-kerjaan itu cuma buat ngisi waktu doang. Sekarang, kerjaanku lebih fokus ke tujuan karierku, tapi tetep aja, aku masih khawatir tentang nyari kerja di bidan... | Wajar banget kok kalo kamu merasa cemas tentang peralihan dari sekolah ke dunia kerja dan nyari kerja di bidang yang kamu mau. Ada nggak sih kekhawatiran atau hambatan spesifik yang bikin kamu merasa khawatir? Ini bisa bantu kita buat ngatasi dan melewati tantangan-tantangan itu, supaya kamu bisa lebih percaya diri dan... | 2 | [
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I am concerned about my daughter. She makes it to school on time, but recently she told her counselor that she wishes to go to sleep and never wake up again. It really bothered the counselor, so they suggested we see a therapist to work out any issues she may have. | I can understand why you're worried about your daughter. It's concerning when a child expresses thoughts of not wanting to wake up again, and addressing this issue by seeking help through therapy is a good step forward. As her counselor, I will help identify possible underlying causes and work together with you and you... | Aku khawatir banget sama anak perempuan aku. Dia sih selalu berangkat sekolah tepat waktu, tapi belakangan ini dia bilang ke konselor kalo dia pengen tidur dan nggak bangun lagi. Itu bikin konselornya jadi khawatir, jadi mereka nyaranin kita buat ketemu terapis biar bisa ngebahas masalah yang mungkin dia punya. | Aku paham kenapa kamu khawatir tentang putri kamu. Memang bikin cemas banget sih kalau anak udah mulai ngomong tentang nggak mau bangun lagi. Mencari bantuan lewat terapi itu langkah yang bagus. Sebagai konselor, aku akan bantu cari tahu kemungkinan penyebab yang mendasari dan bekerja sama dengan kamu dan putri kamu un... | 16 | [
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You know, I told them about a month before, and I'd known for about five months that this is what I wanted to do. I wasn't open to any other suggestions. They suggested having a small wedding some place, but I already made up my mind and that's what I did. | It sounds like you knew what you wanted and made a decision based on that, even when others offered alternative suggestions. It's important to trust your instincts when it comes to major life decisions like weddings. Can you identify any feelings or concerns that have emerged after making this decision? | Lo tau, aku udah bilang ke mereka sebulan yang lalu, dan aku udah tahu sekitar lima bulan sebelumnya kalo ini yang pengen aku lakuin. Aku nggak mau denger saran lain. Mereka nyaranin buat nikah kecil di suatu tempat, tapi aku udah bulatkan tekad dan yaudah, itu yang aku lakuin. | Sepertinya kamu udah tahu apa yang kamu mau dan mengambil keputusan berdasarkan itu, meskipun orang lain kasih saran yang berbeda. Penting banget untuk percaya sama insting kamu, apalagi dalam keputusan besar kayak pernikahan. Nah, setelah kamu ambil keputusan ini, ada nggak sih perasaan atau kekhawatiran yang muncul? | 19 | [
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I no longer carry expressions on my face, and my emotions are decreasing the more I have fights with my fiancée. | Sometimes repressing anger can lead to depression and block all kinds of other emotions too. I would wonder about your experience with anger and if you've ever been discouraged from expressing anger. I would also wonder if you feel like you have space to express yourself in your relationship or if you feel like you rea... | Gue udah nggak bisa nunjukin ekspresi di wajah gue lagi, dan emosi gue makin berkurang setiap kali berantem sama tunangan gue. | Kadang-kadang, menahan kemarahan bisa bikin kita jadi depresi dan juga menghalangi emosi lainnya. Aku penasaran sih tentang pengalaman kamu dengan kemarahan, apakah kamu pernah merasa dilarang untuk mengungkapkan kemarahan itu? Aku juga mau tahu, apakah kamu merasa punya ruang untuk mengekspresikan diri dalam hubungan ... | 6 | [
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I am feeling overwhelmed as I am about to go through a period of transition where I will have to move to a new place, and I am afraid that I might feel sad and lonely without my husband who was not living in this place with me. | It is natural to feel sadness and anxiety when going through a significant life change, such as moving to a new place without your husband. During this transition, I will give you a phone call to check in on you and discuss how you are coping with the change. Remember that it's okay to feel sadness, but also focus on t... | Aku lagi ngerasa overwhelmed banget sih, soalnya aku bakal masuk ke fase baru di mana aku harus pindah ke tempat baru. Dan aku takut banget bakal ngerasa sedih dan kesepian tanpa suamiku, soalnya dia nggak tinggal di sini bareng aku. | Sangat wajar kok merasa sedih dan cemas saat menghadapi perubahan besar dalam hidup, kayak pindah ke tempat baru tanpa suami. Selama masa transisi ini, aku bakal telpon kamu buat nanya kabar dan ngobrol tentang gimana kamu menghadapi perubahan ini. Ingat ya, nggak apa-apa kok merasa sedih, tapi juga coba fokus sama pel... | 2 | [
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My spouse visited the red light district a couple of years back in Amsterdam. After he got back from the trip he got me tested for stds. In the aftermath he has provided multiple versions of what happened, from having a total blackout to being touched by a prostitute. How do I know if he had sex? | I am so sorry you are going through this. The harsh reality is that you can’t possibly know. Being in a healthy relationship means that you have to trust that what your spouse tells you is true. If he tells you he was not with a prostitute and you don’t believe him than that means there is lack of trust in your relatio... | Suami gue pernah ke daerah merah di Amsterdam beberapa tahun lalu. Abis dia balik dari trip itu, dia malah minta gue buat tes STD. Sekarang, dia udah kasih beberapa versi tentang apa yang terjadi, dari yang dia bilang dia bener-bener blackout sampe dia dipegang sama pelacur. Gimana ya, gue bisa tahu kalo dia beneran be... | Aku sangat menyesal kamu harus melalui ini. Realitas yang keras adalah kamu nggak bisa tahu dengan pasti. Dalam hubungan yang sehat, kamu harus percaya bahwa apa yang pasanganmu katakan itu benar. Kalau dia bilang dia nggak bersama pelacur dan kamu nggak percaya, itu artinya ada kurangnya kepercayaan dalam hubungan kal... | 12 | [
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My wife and I got separated because I asked about her contact with a male friend of hers. The next day, she kicked me out. She let me move back two days later. Yesterday, she said she wanted a divorce then quickly changed her mind. I asked if the other guy was a factor, but she says it's not my business. | This has to be very confusing.I wonder if the two of you would be able to have a conversation about what it is that she would like you to know about what happened yesterday and the day before so you know what message she wanted you to get out of all of that.I would also recommend seeing a local mental health profession... | Gue sama istri gue udah pisah karena gue nanya tentang dia yang sering kontak sama temen cowoknya. Besoknya, dia langsung ngusir gue. Dua hari kemudian, dia ngizinin gue balik. Kemarin, dia bilang mau cerai, terus tiba-tiba berubah pikiran. Gue nanya apakah cowok itu ada hubungannya, tapi dia bilang itu bukan urusan gu... | Ini pasti bikin bingung banget, ya. Aku penasaran apakah kalian berdua bisa ngobrol tentang apa yang sebenarnya dia mau kamu tahu tentang kejadian kemarin dan sehari sebelumnya, biar kamu paham pesan apa yang dia pengen kamu ambil dari semua itu. Aku juga saranin buat ketemu profesional kesehatan mental di daerah kamu.... | 12 | [
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I'm having difficulty understanding people's reactions to me, especially when they feel threatened by me, even though I never intend to threaten anyone. Lately, I've experienced many failures in my relationships and I'm starting to question the meaning of my life. Sometimes, it's hard for me to find a reason to stay al... | It sounds like you're struggling with communication and empathy in your interactions with others, while also dealing with feelings of purposelessness and hopelessness. It's important to explore the reasons behind these misunderstandings with people and find ways to improve your communication skills. Can you recall any ... | Gue lagi kesulitan banget buat ngerti reaksi orang-orang sama gue, apalagi pas mereka ngerasa terancam sama gue, padahal gue sama sekali nggak ada niat buat ngerugiin siapa-siapa. Akhir-akhir ini, banyak banget kegagalan dalam hubungan gue, dan gue mulai nanya-nanya tentang arti hidup gue. Kadang, susah banget buat gue... | Sepertinya kamu lagi kesulitan dalam berkomunikasi dan menunjukkan empati dalam interaksi dengan orang lain, sambil juga merasakan perasaan kehilangan tujuan dan putus asa. Penting banget untuk mengeksplorasi alasan di balik kesalahpahaman ini dengan orang-orang dan mencari cara untuk meningkatkan keterampilan komunika... | 19 | [
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I've come to a realization that the children need both their father and mother. I think I just need to let him know that and extend the invitation for him to spend more time with us. | It's great that you've recognized the importance of both parents being present in the lives of your children. Communication with your partner is essential, so discussing your feelings and expectations with him is a good step forward. Remember to be open, honest, and understanding while sharing your thoughts and invitin... | Aku udah nyadar sih kalo anak-anak butuh ayah dan ibu mereka. Kayaknya aku cuma perlu bilang itu ke dia dan ngajak dia buat lebih sering ngabisin waktu bareng kita. | Bagus banget kamu udah nyadarin pentingnya kehadiran kedua orang tua dalam hidup anak-anak. Komunikasi sama pasangan itu penting, jadi ngobrolin perasaan dan harapan kamu sama dia itu langkah yang baik. Ingat, harus terbuka, jujur, dan saling pengertian saat berbagi pikiran dan ngajak dia buat lebih banyak waktu sama k... | 16 | [
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I have a good relationship with my coach from the Park Forest League. He really pushed me to become a better athlete, and I like everything as it is right now. | It's great to hear that you have a positive relationship with your coach and feel satisfied with your current situation. Is there any aspect of this relationship or your athletic performance that you would like to explore or improve upon? | Gue punya hubungan yang baik sama pelatih gue di Liga Park Forest. Dia bener-bener ngebantu gue buat jadi atlet yang lebih baik, dan gue suka semuanya kayak gini sekarang. | Senang banget denger kamu punya hubungan yang positif sama pelatihmu dan merasa puas dengan situasimu sekarang. Ada nggak sih aspek dari hubungan ini atau performa atletik kamu yang pengen kamu eksplorasi atau perbaiki? | 20 | [
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I feel so beaten right now, and I'm not sure why. I feel like I need to say something, but I can't. I think that something from my past turned me into something unhuman, and I don't want that to happen again. | It sounds like you're feeling defeated and struggling with some past experiences that had a significant impact on you. It's important to recognize that no one deserves to be treated inhumanely, and it's good that you're aware of this. Is there any specific incident from the past that is bothering you or causing these f... | Aku ngerasa banget kehabisan tenaga sekarang, dan aku nggak tahu kenapa. Kayak ada yang pengen aku ucapin, tapi mulut ini rasanya berat banget. Aku pikir ada sesuatu dari masa lalu yang bikin aku jadi kayak gini, dan aku nggak mau itu kejadian lagi. | Sepertinya kamu merasa tertekan dan lagi berjuang dengan beberapa pengalaman masa lalu yang berdampak besar buat kamu. Penting banget untuk diingat bahwa nggak ada orang yang pantas diperlakukan dengan cara yang tidak manusiawi, dan bagus banget kamu sadar akan hal ini. Ada nggak kejadian tertentu dari masa lalu yang m... | 20 | [
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I can't seem to find immediate relief from conversations with my friend when I'm not feeling great. We talk about life and he encourages me, but I only recall those conversations and thoughts later on. It takes a bit of time for me to process and make use of the encouragement. | It's normal for conversations and encouragement to not always have an immediate impact. Sometimes, it takes time for us to process and find comfort in those words. It's important to continue reaching out to friends and seeking support while also practicing patience and allowing yourself to experience and process your e... | Gue nggak bisa nemuin rasa lega langsung dari obrolan sama temen gue pas lagi nggak enak. Kita ngobrol tentang hidup, dia ngasih semangat, tapi yang gue inget cuma obrolan dan pikiran itu setelahnya. Butuh waktu buat gue buat mencerna dan manfaatin semangat itu. | Sangat wajar kalau obrolan dan dukungan itu nggak selalu langsung berdampak, loh. Kadang, kita butuh waktu buat mencerna dan menemukan kenyamanan dari kata-kata itu. Yang penting, teruslah menjangkau teman-teman dan cari dukungan, sambil juga berlatih sabar dan memberi diri kamu kesempatan buat merasakan serta memprose... | 2 | [
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I need help dealing with stress. How can I handle it all and feel less stressed out? | As a general disclaimer, in any area of mental health there is no "one size fits all" response, as each concern addressed in therapy is unique to you and your life situation. With regard to stress reduction, it can be useful to take an inventory of the emotional, cognitive, and physical manifestations of stress with yo... | Gue butuh bantuan buat ngadepin stres. Gimana sih caranya biar bisa nanganin semua ini dan ngerasa lebih santai? | Sebagai disclaimer umum, di bidang kesehatan mental, nggak ada jawaban yang "satu ukuran untuk semua", karena setiap masalah yang dibahas dalam terapi itu unik untuk kamu dan situasi hidupmu. Dalam hal pengurangan stres, bisa jadi berguna untuk melakukan inventarisasi tentang manifestasi emosional, kognitif, dan fisik ... | 24 | [
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I didn't start out in the career I'm in now, but I am very happy with where I am. Teaching gives me everything I want - a career, the satisfaction of helping people, and a sense of being respected. | It's great to hear that you've found a career you're passionate about and that fulfills your desires. As you enjoy teaching, it's important to continue focusing on your growth and development in this field so that you can continue making a positive impact on your students' lives. | Awalnya sih gue nggak mulai di karir yang sekarang, tapi sekarang gue seneng banget sama posisi gue. Ngajar itu ngasih semua yang gue mau - karir, kepuasan bisa bantu orang, dan rasa dihargai gitu deh. | Senang banget denger kamu udah nemuin karir yang kamu cintai dan bisa memenuhi keinginanmu. Karena kamu suka ngajar, penting banget buat terus fokus sama pertumbuhan dan perkembangan diri di bidang ini, biar kamu bisa terus memberikan dampak positif dalam hidup murid-muridmu. | 6 | [
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We don't have sex a lot. I cheat when we argue. I don't kiss or have unprotected sex with them. It's a one time thing, and I never see them twice. | Hello, and thank you for your question. The question about whether or not to cheat is based on personal values that can only be answered by you. However, here are a few things to consider and questions to ask yourself to help you find your answer: 1. Do you feel like you are violating your own values or morals? This ... | Kita nggak sering berhubungan intim. Aku selingkuh pas kita berantem. Aku nggak cium atau berhubungan tanpa pelindung sama mereka. Itu cuma sekali doang, dan aku nggak pernah ketemu mereka lagi. | Halo, terima kasih atas pertanyaanmu. Pertanyaan tentang apakah harus selingkuh atau tidak itu sebenarnya sangat tergantung pada nilai-nilai pribadi yang hanya bisa kamu jawab sendiri. Tapi, ada beberapa hal yang bisa kamu pertimbangkan dan pertanyaan yang bisa kamu tanyakan pada diri sendiri untuk membantu menemukan j... | 12 | [
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I hadn't slept well in a long time, but practicing relaxation techniques has started to bring me closer to that goal. The skills worked well for me because they were structured, and that's what suits me. I'm also very determined to make it work, maybe because I want to please. | It's great to hear that the structured relaxation techniques are helping you sleep better. It's quite unusual for someone who's just starting to be able to apply it effectively in real situations, so you seem to be particularly adept at that. Your conscientiousness and dedication can be both a challenge and an asset in... | Gue udah lama banget nggak tidur nyenyak, tapi sekarang udah mulai bisa tidur lebih baik karena latihan teknik relaksasi. Teknik-teknik itu cocok banget buat gue soalnya terstruktur, dan emang itu yang gue butuhin. Gue juga sangat bertekad buat bikin ini berhasil, mungkin karena gue pengen bikin orang lain senang. | Senang banget denger kalau teknik relaksasi yang terstruktur itu bantu kamu tidur lebih nyenyak. Ini tuh agak jarang sih, orang yang baru mulai bisa langsung menerapkan dengan efektif di situasi nyata, jadi kamu keliatan punya kemampuan yang bagus dalam hal ini. Ketelitian dan dedikasi kamu bisa jadi tantangan sekaligu... | 20 | [
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As a patient, I feel like the counsellors I see in videos or during workshops seem so perfect in their sessions. I can't help but compare myself to them and feel like I am not as good as them. I'm worried I might not be an effective counsellor. | As a counsellor, I understand your concern. But remember that those videotaped sessions usually show the best moments, and don't include any challenges or difficulties the counsellors might face. Comparing yourself to those idealized examples may not be fair. Focus on your own improvement and learning from your experie... | Sebagai pasien, aku ngerasa kayak konselor yang aku lihat di video atau di workshop itu sempurna banget pas sesi mereka. Gak bisa nggak, aku jadi bandingin diri sendiri sama mereka dan ngerasa kayak aku nggak sebaik mereka. Aku khawatir kalo aku nggak bisa jadi konselor yang efektif. | Sebagai seorang konselor, aku paham banget kekhawatiran kamu. Tapi ingat, sesi-sesi yang direkam itu biasanya cuma nunjukin momen-momen terbaik, dan nggak ngeliput tantangan atau kesulitan yang mungkin dihadapi oleh konselor. Jadi, membandingkan diri kamu dengan contoh-contoh yang ideal itu mungkin nggak adil. Fokus aj... | 17 | [
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I feel insecure in my life. I don't think my wife truly wants our relationship even though she says she does. I have turned to drinking to help relieve my repressed stress about this and other issues. I have had a drinking problem for a few years. I feel the reason I drink is not just because I like to, but because I h... | Sorry hearing about the big amount of stress which you are feeling at this time.Since a lot of your stress is directed to uncertainty of whether your wife is happy being with you, would you consider continuing the conversation with her about your understanding of her answer to you?Your observation that she says one thi... | Aku ngerasa nggak aman dalam hidupku. Aku nggak yakin kalau istri aku beneran mau hubungan kita, meskipun dia bilang gitu. Aku udah mulai minum-minum buat ngilangin stres yang terpendam tentang ini sama masalah-masalah lain. Masalah minum ini udah ada beberapa tahun. Aku ngerasa alasannya bukan cuma karena aku suka, ta... | Saya sangat menyesal mendengar tentang stres yang kamu rasakan saat ini. Karena banyak dari stres itu berhubungan dengan ketidakpastian apakah istri kamu bahagia bersamamu, bagaimana kalau kamu teruskan percakapan dengan dia tentang pemahamanmu terhadap jawabannya? Pengamatanmu bahwa dia mengatakan satu hal tapi berper... | 2 | [
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I've received a postcard from someone and I'm considering writing them back. However, I think I'd wait until they write to me again. I'm not going to hurry with this decision just yet. | It's good that you are reflecting on your decision before taking any action. As a counselor, I advise you to consider your priorities and comfort level before responding. It's perfectly fine to wait for another message if you feel that's the best approach for you. Remember to prioritize your well-being and communicate ... | Aku baru dapet kartu pos dari seseorang, dan aku lagi mikir buat nulis balasan. Tapi, kayaknya aku mau nunggu mereka nulis lagi dulu deh. Gak mau buru-buru ambil keputusan ini sih. | Bagus banget kamu udah merenungkan keputusanmu sebelum ambil tindakan. Sebagai konselor, aku sarankan kamu untuk mempertimbangkan prioritas dan kenyamananmu sebelum memberikan respon. Gak apa-apa kok nunggu pesan lain kalau kamu merasa itu adalah cara terbaik buatmu. Ingat, utamakan kesejahteraanmu dan komunikasikan de... | 19 | [
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Well, I'm dealing with residual memories and flashbacks. I've been trying to take control and understand these memories by journaling and reading over them. I know no one can hurt me again as I'm older and stronger now. I've also started doing yoga to focus more on my well-being. | It sounds like you're taking proactive steps to manage your flashbacks and residual memories through journaling and yoga. Keep focusing on this self-care, allowing yourself to process and acknowledge your experiences. Remember, healing takes time, and you are building resilience and strength on your journey towards wel... | Jadi, aku lagi berurusan sama kenangan yang masih nempel dan kilas balik gitu. Aku udah coba ambil kendali dan ngerti tentang kenangan-kenangan ini dengan nulis di jurnal dan baca ulang. Aku tahu sih, nggak ada yang bisa nyakitin aku lagi soalnya sekarang aku udah lebih dewasa dan kuat. Aku juga udah mulai yoga biar le... | Kedengarannya kamu udah mulai mengambil langkah proaktif buat mengelola kilas balik dan kenangan yang tersisa lewat menulis jurnal dan yoga. Terus fokus deh pada perawatan diri ini, biarkan diri kamu memproses dan mengakui pengalaman-pengalaman yang kamu alami. Ingat, penyembuhan itu butuh waktu, dan kamu lagi membangu... | 26 | [
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I'm in an office, talking maybe to one student, or maybe a group of students, maybe even a group of students, talking to them about college, just going to school or going to college or jobs... I'm feeling calm and relaxed. | It's great to hear that you are feeling calm and relaxed in that situation. It seems like you enjoy discussing college and career options with students. Can you share more about what specific aspects of these conversations make you feel at ease or more engaged while talking to them? | Aku lagi di kantor, ngobrol mungkin sama satu siswa, atau mungkin sekelompok siswa, ngomongin tentang kuliah, tentang sekolah, atau tentang kerja gitu... Aku ngerasa tenang dan santai sih. | Senang banget denger kamu merasa tenang dan santai dalam situasi itu. Kayaknya kamu suka banget ngobrol tentang pilihan kuliah dan karier sama siswa-siswa, ya. Bisa ceritain lebih banyak tentang aspek-aspek spesifik dari obrolan itu yang bikin kamu merasa nyaman atau lebih terlibat saat ngobrol sama mereka? | 2 | [
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For the past few weeks, I've been feeling really strange. I've had mood swings, and I can't seem to focus on anything. At times, I feel really happy and full of energy, but then suddenly, I just lose interest in everything and feel extremely sad. My sleep pattern is also really messed up, sometimes I can't sleep but at... | Thank you for sharing your experiences with me. I understand that what you're going through can be confusing and distressing. It's important for us to explore what could be causing your mood swings, sleep disturbances, and auditory hallucinations. Furthermore, the loss of your best friend seems to have had an impact on... | Akhir-akhir ini, gue ngerasa aneh banget. Mood gue naik turun, dan gue susah banget buat fokus ke apapun. Kadang-kadang, gue ngerasa super bahagia dan penuh energi, tapi tiba-tiba aja, gue kehilangan minat sama semuanya dan ngerasa sedih banget. Pola tidur gue juga berantakan, kadang gue nggak bisa tidur, tapi di lain ... | Terima kasih udah berbagi pengalaman kamu sama aku. Aku ngerti banget kalau apa yang kamu alami bisa bikin bingung dan stres. Penting bagi kita untuk mengeksplorasi apa yang mungkin jadi penyebab perubahan suasana hati kamu, gangguan tidur, dan halusinasi pendengaran yang kamu alami. Selain itu, kehilangan sahabat terb... | 6 | [
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I think honestly, like an eight. I just don't want to be walked all over anymore. | It sounds like you've been working on setting boundaries and asserting yourself, which is great. When you mentioned not wanting to be walked all over, I could sense your determination. Let's give it a try and see how it goes. Remember, we can always revise our approach if needed, but it's clear that you have the abilit... | Sebenernya sih, aku ngerasa kayak delapan gitu. Aku udah nggak mau lagi diinjek-injek orang. | Kedengarannya kamu udah berusaha untuk menetapkan batasan dan memperjuangkan diri sendiri, itu bagus banget. Waktu kamu bilang nggak mau diinjak-injak, aku bisa ngerasain semangatmu. Yuk, kita coba aja dan lihat gimana hasilnya. Ingat, kita selalu bisa revisi cara kita kalau perlu, tapi jelas banget kamu punya kemampua... | 20 | [
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I have so many issues to address. I have a history of sexual abuse, I’m a breast cancer survivor and I am a lifetime insomniac. I have a long history of depression and I’m beginning to have anxiety. I have low self esteem but I’ve been happily married for almost 35 years. I’ve never had counseling about any of this. ... | Just go! You start with the most prevalent issue by talking with your therapist. Healing one issue can have a ripple effect and heal other issues as well. | Aku punya banyak banget masalah yang pengen aku bicarain. Aku punya sejarah pengalaman pelecehan seksual, aku adalah penyintas kanker payudara, dan aku udah jadi orang yang susah tidur seumur hidup. Aku juga punya riwayat depresi yang panjang dan sekarang mulai ngerasain kecemasan. Rasa percaya diri aku rendah, tapi ak... | Ayo, langsung aja! Kamu bisa mulai dengan masalah yang paling sering muncul dengan ngobrol sama terapis kamu. Nyembuhin satu masalah itu bisa bikin efek domino, dan bisa bantu nyembuhin masalah-masalah lain juga. | 6 | [
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I talk very openly with my partner about things, and we don't let a day go by without dealing with any issues. We don't live together and only see each other on weekends, as we are dating. | It's great to hear that you and your partner communicate openly and address any issues in a timely manner. Maintaining such open communication is an important aspect of a healthy relationship. Although you don't live together and see each other only on weekends, it's significant that you both prioritize time for each o... | Gue ngobrol banget sama pasangan gue tentang segala hal, dan kita nggak pernah biarin satu hari lewat tanpa nyelesain masalah. Kita nggak tinggal bareng sih, cuma ketemu pas akhir pekan aja, soalnya kita masih pacaran. | Senang banget denger kamu sama pasangan bisa komunikasi dengan baik dan cepat tanggap sama masalah yang muncul. Menjaga komunikasi yang terbuka itu penting banget buat hubungan yang sehat. Meskipun kalian nggak tinggal bareng dan cuma ketemu di akhir pekan, yang penting kalian berdua tetap memprioritaskan waktu buat sa... | 12 | [
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I wanted to change something about myself and become more serious about it. | Thank you for sharing your desire to make a change and become more serious about it. It's important to recognize when we want to improve ourselves and take action. As a counsellor, I'm here to support you in your journey and can provide guidance as you work towards your goals. Please feel free to share more details abo... | Gue pengen ubah sesuatu dari diri gue dan jadi lebih serius tentang itu. | Terima kasih udah berbagi keinginan kamu untuk berubah dan lebih serius tentang itu. Penting banget untuk menyadari kapan kita mau memperbaiki diri dan mengambil langkah. Sebagai konselor, aku di sini untuk mendukung perjalanan kamu dan bisa kasih arahan saat kamu berusaha mencapai tujuanmu. Silakan share lebih banyak ... | 20 | [
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I feel like it's my fault for the conflicts and it's affecting my daily life. I keep playing arguments in my head and can't be productive. There's a part of me that wants more than just being a housewife, like the confident woman I heard speaking at an event. | It sounds like you have self-defeating thoughts telling you that conflicts are your fault, which are holding you back from living your life. These thoughts might be connected to something outside yourself, and it's important to find the empowering part of you that disagrees with them. It seems you're drawn to the idea ... | Aku ngerasa kayak ini semua salahku sih, dan itu ngaruh banget ke kehidupan sehari-hariku. Aku terus aja muter-muter argumen di kepala, jadi nggak bisa produktif. Ada bagian dari diriku yang pengen lebih dari sekadar jadi ibu rumah tangga, kayak wanita percaya diri yang aku denger ngomong di acara itu. | Sepertinya kamu punya pikiran yang bikin kamu merasa kalah, yang bilang kalau konflik itu salah kamu, dan itu nahan kamu buat menjalani hidupmu. Pikiran-pikiran ini mungkin ada hubungannya dengan sesuatu di luar dirimu, dan penting banget buat menemukan bagian dari dirimu yang memberdayakan dan nggak setuju sama pikira... | 6 | [
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I might say that, like you mentioned, this has just become how it is all the time now for me. | Changing your relationship to your thoughts can be challenging since you've been doing it for so long. You can certainly try to look for alternative ways to handle such thoughts. Can you tell me more about the thoughts that you're struggling with? | Gue bisa bilang sih, kayak yang lo bilang, ini udah jadi kayak gini terus-menerus buat gue sekarang. | Mengubah hubunganmu dengan pikiran itu bisa jadi tantangan, apalagi kamu udah melakukannya dalam waktu yang lama. Tapi, kamu bisa coba cari cara lain buat ngadepin pikiran-pikiran itu. Bisa cerita lebih banyak tentang pikiran-pikiran yang bikin kamu kesulitan? | 19 | [
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In the last ten months, I've been kicked out, moved around three times, worked many jobs, stopped school to make money, had dad and mom get sick, was cheated on while pregnant, lost my baby, had relationship issues, and was betrayed. I can't get a job. I have no friends. I feel lonely and isolated. I've been dealing wi... | Good for you to realize your strength to identify this long list of difficulties and recognize the difference between these pressured events and who you truly are.Self-care is the overall way to stabilize from so much upheaval and stress. Whatever is your favorite way to rest and relax, would be a beneficial way to reg... | Dalam sepuluh bulan terakhir, gue udah diusir, pindah tiga kali, kerja di banyak tempat, berhenti sekolah buat cari duit, orang tua gue sakit, dikhianatin pas hamil, kehilangan bayi, ada masalah hubungan, dan dikhianatin lagi. Sekarang gue susah banget buat dapet kerja. Gue nggak punya temen. Rasanya sepi dan terasing ... | Bagus banget kamu bisa menyadari kekuatanmu untuk mengidentifikasi daftar panjang kesulitan ini dan membedakan antara peristiwa yang menekan itu dengan siapa dirimu yang sebenarnya. Perawatan diri itu penting banget untuk menstabilkan diri dari segala kekacauan dan stres yang ada. Apa pun cara favoritmu untuk istirahat... | 6 | [
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I've decided that I'm going to take steps in the right direction, and I am just trying to psych myself up for this journey. | That's great to hear! Taking the first step is always important, and once you do that, the rest of the journey will probably become easier. Keep a positive mindset and don't hesitate to reach out for support when needed. Good luck! | Aku udah mutusin buat ambil langkah yang bener, dan sekarang aku lagi berusaha buat semangat diri sendiri buat perjalanan ini. | Senang banget denger itu! Mengambil langkah pertama itu selalu penting, dan setelah kamu melakukannya, perjalanan selanjutnya mungkin bakal jadi lebih mudah. Jaga pikiran positif dan jangan ragu untuk minta dukungan kalau perlu, ya. Semoga sukses! | 2 | [
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I keep a mask on when I'm around people, but sometimes when I get home, I explode, and my mom and I get into a fight. It's the complete opposite of what I want. We used to be really close, but I feel like we've drifted apart over the years. | It seems like you are struggling with managing your emotions and maintaining a healthy relationship with your mom. One possible reason for the explosive anger at home could be bottling up emotions throughout the day. Can you share some strategies you've tried or considered to manage your emotions and improve your relat... | Gue selalu pakai topeng pas di depan orang, tapi kadang pas udah di rumah, gue meledak, dan gue sama nyokap jadi berantem. Itu bener-bener kebalikan dari yang gue mau. Dulu kita deket banget, tapi sekarang rasanya kita udah jauh banget, gitu deh. | Sepertinya kamu lagi kesulitan buat ngatur emosi dan menjaga hubungan yang sehat sama ibu kamu. Salah satu alasan kenapa kemarahan kamu bisa meledak di rumah mungkin karena kamu nahan-nahan emosi sepanjang hari. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain beberapa cara yang udah kamu coba atau yang kamu pikirin buat ngatur emosi dan memp... | 20 | [
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I know that they don't like me because there have been times when six of them met, and four of them didn't invite me to the gathering. | It's understandable that you may feel left out and believe they don't like you based on the evidence you've shared about not being invited. However, keep in mind that people may have their reasons for not inviting someone to a gathering, which may not necessarily be personal. Let's focus on understanding the situation ... | Gue tau sih kalo mereka nggak suka sama gue, soalnya udah beberapa kali mereka ngumpul ber-enam, tapi empat dari mereka nggak ngajak gue. | Aku paham banget kalau kamu merasa terasing dan berpikir mereka nggak suka sama kamu karena bukti yang udah kamu ceritakan tentang nggak diundang. Tapi, ingat ya, kadang orang punya alasan sendiri kenapa mereka nggak mengundang seseorang ke acara, dan itu belum tentu bersifat pribadi. Yuk, kita coba fokus untuk memaham... | 22 | [
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I am experiencing withdrawal from some substance and I have only been snorting it, not injecting it. | It's good to hear that you haven't been injecting the substance as it can lead to more severe health consequences. However, the withdrawal you're experiencing is a sign that your body has developed a dependence on it. It's important to seek professional help to safely and effectively manage these withdrawal symptoms an... | Aku lagi ngerasain gejala putus zat gitu, dan aku cuma nyium doang, nggak nyuntik. | Senang banget denger kamu belum nyuntik zat itu, soalnya bisa bikin masalah kesehatan yang lebih serius. Tapi, gejala putus zat yang kamu rasain itu tanda kalau tubuh kamu udah tergantung sama zat tersebut. Penting banget buat cari bantuan profesional supaya bisa mengatasi gejala putus zat ini dengan aman dan efektif, ... | 25 | [
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I want my partner to pay attention to do his chores without me asking him to. He also doesn't take his medication as he's supposed to. I have to ask him multiple times, and sometimes I even have to drag him out of his room for it. | It can be challenging when someone you care about doesn't take responsibility for their own well-being and responsibilities. It's important to communicate your feelings and concerns with your partner in a non-confrontational manner. Try talking openly and honestly about how his behavior affects you and your relationshi... | Aku pengen pasangan aku lebih perhatian buat ngerjain tugas-tugasnya tanpa aku harus minta-minta. Dia juga nggak minum obatnya sesuai jadwal. Aku harus nanya berkali-kali, kadang-kadang aku bahkan harus narik dia keluar dari kamarnya buat itu. | Memang bisa jadi sulit banget ketika orang yang kamu sayang nggak mau bertanggung jawab atas kesejahteraannya sendiri dan tanggung jawabnya. Penting banget buat nyampaikan perasaan dan kekhawatiran kamu ke pasangan dengan cara yang nggak menyinggung. Coba deh bicarakan secara terbuka dan jujur tentang gimana perilakuny... | 27 | [
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I can't breathe during panic attacks, and I don't know what to do when they come on. I can detect them coming on quite early, but I just feel nervous and don't know what to do. | It seems like you're experiencing panic attacks, which can be distressing. I understand your difficulty in managing them, especially when feeling nervous in those moments. One thing you can try is focusing on your breath when you sense an attack approaching. Slow, deep breaths can help you regain control over your body... | Gue nggak bisa napas pas serangan panik, dan gue bingung harus ngapain pas itu terjadi. Gue bisa ngerasain tanda-tandanya muncul cukup awal, tapi gue jadi cemas dan nggak tahu harus ngapain. | Sepertinya kamu lagi mengalami serangan panik, ya? Itu bisa bikin stres banget. Aku paham betapa sulitnya mengelolanya, apalagi saat kamu merasa gugup di momen-momen itu. Salah satu yang bisa kamu coba adalah fokus pada napas kamu saat merasakan serangan itu mendekat. Napas yang pelan dan dalam bisa bantu kamu mengemba... | 2 | [
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How do you know you have the right therapist for you? How would I know how to "train" my therapist to be able to give me what I need from treatment? | The therapeutic relationship should be collaborative. The client is the expert on their life, and the therapist is the expert on helping the client to develop their sense of being. Growth occurs as a result of challenges. Therefore, I would suggest not looking to train the therapist, but rather to find one that will he... | Gimana sih cara tahu kalo terapis yang kita pilih itu bener-bener cocok buat kita? Terus, aku bisa tahu gimana cara "ngajarin" terapis aku biar dia bisa kasih apa yang aku butuhin dari pengobatan? | Hubungan terapeutik itu seharusnya kolaboratif. Kamu adalah ahli dalam hidupmu, dan saya di sini untuk membantu kamu mengembangkan rasa diri kamu. Pertumbuhan itu terjadi sebagai hasil dari tantangan. Jadi, saya sarankan untuk tidak berfokus pada melatih terapis, tapi lebih kepada mencari terapis yang bisa membantu kam... | 5 | [
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My mother takes care of niece whom my sister abandoned. She calls me every day complaining, but I don't want to hear it anymore. | It sounds as though there is a need to establish some healthy boundaries with your mother. Simply put, a boundary is a line or space between you and another person. It is also a way of defining what behavior is acceptable and unacceptable. When working with clients, I teach them that there are 4 Rules to Setting Health... | Ibu gue ngurusin keponakan yang ditinggalin sama kakak perempuan gue. Dia nelpon gue setiap hari ngeluh, tapi gue udah nggak mau dengerin lagi sih. | Sepertinya kamu perlu menetapkan batasan yang sehat dengan ibumu. Sederhananya, batasan itu adalah garis atau ruang antara kamu dan orang lain. Ini juga cara untuk mendefinisikan perilaku yang bisa diterima dan yang tidak. Saat bekerja dengan klien, aku mengajarkan mereka ada 4 Aturan untuk Menetapkan Batasan yang Seha... | 10 | [
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I'm worried because people around me tend to act stupidly, and I feel like they shouldn't, but they still do. | It's important to recognize that everyone, including those around you, sometimes acts in a less than ideal manner. It's natural to feel frustrated by this, but we cannot control others' actions. Rather than focusing on them, try to focus on how you can best navigate through these situations and maintain your peace of m... | Gue khawatir sih, soalnya orang-orang di sekitar gue kadang bertindak bodoh gitu, dan rasanya mereka tuh nggak seharusnya kayak gitu, tapi ya tetep aja mereka ngelakuin. | Penting banget untuk kita sadari bahwa setiap orang, termasuk orang-orang di sekitar kita, kadang-kadang berperilaku nggak ideal. Wajar sih kalo lo merasa frustrasi karena itu, tapi kita nggak bisa ngontrol tindakan orang lain. Daripada fokus sama mereka, coba deh fokus sama gimana caranya lo bisa melewati situasi-situ... | 2 | [
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I've been feeling overwhelmed with all the work I've been doing at home, like cooking dinner every night and tinkering with things. I eventually brought it up to my partner and asked for a break. I think she realized she might be pushing me a bit too much and didn't want to push me away. | It's great that you were able to communicate your feelings with your partner and ask for a break. Open communication is essential in maintaining a healthy relationship. Based on what you shared, it seems like your partner is understanding and willing to make adjustments to help lessen your burden. How do you plan to ma... | Aku udah ngerasa kewalahan banget sama semua kerjaan di rumah, kayak masak malam setiap hari sama ngoprek-ngoprek barang. Akhirnya, aku ngomong sama pasangan aku dan minta waktu istirahat. Kayaknya dia nyadar deh kalo dia mungkin udah terlalu nge-push aku dan nggak mau bikin aku menjauh. | Bagus banget kamu bisa ngomongin perasaanmu sama pasangan dan minta waktu istirahat. Komunikasi yang terbuka itu penting banget buat menjaga hubungan yang sehat. Dari yang kamu ceritain, sepertinya pasanganmu pengertian dan mau berusaha untuk meringankan bebanmu. Nah, kamu rencananya gimana nih buat ngatur tugas dan ta... | 27 | [
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I been having anger problems a lot lately. It only takes one word wrongly said to set me off. I use to not be like this until I got with my soon-to-be husband. I think his mood and rage/anger problems have rubbed off on me a lot. I don't get nearly as bad as he does, but I yell almost constantly and I can't seem to jus... | With me knowing that a healthy relationship usually includes respect, trust, appreciation, companionship, spiritual solidarity, domestic support, feeling of being cherished, and sensuous affection, I am wondering if you are lacking in several if not all of these needs in your present relationship. Before he becomes you... | Akhir-akhir ini, aku sering banget ngerasa marah. Cuma butuh satu kata yang salah diucapin buat bikin aku meledak. Dulu, aku nggak kayak gini, tapi sejak bareng calon suamiku, rasanya mood dan masalah kemarahannya nular ke aku. Aku sih nggak separah dia, tapi aku teriak hampir terus dan rasanya susah banget buat berhen... | Dengan aku tahu bahwa hubungan yang sehat biasanya melibatkan rasa hormat, kepercayaan, penghargaan, kebersamaan, solidaritas spiritual, dukungan domestik, perasaan dihargai, dan kasih sayang yang sensitif, aku penasaran apakah kamu merasa kekurangan beberapa, bahkan semua, kebutuhan ini dalam hubunganmu saat ini. Sebe... | 1 | [
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I've been experiencing worry and anxiety due to certain expectations that people have placed on me in the past. Can you help me explore this issue? | Of course, I can help you explore these feelings of worry and anxiety that stem from past expectations. In order to better understand the root of the issue, could you recall a specific instance when someone's expectations made you feel particularly worried or anxious? It might be helpful to reflect on how that situatio... | Aku udah ngerasain khawatir sama cemas karena ekspektasi yang orang-orang pasang ke aku di masa lalu. Bisa bantu aku buat ngeksplorasi masalah ini, nggak? | Tentu, aku bisa bantu kamu untuk mengeksplorasi perasaan khawatir dan cemas yang muncul dari ekspektasi di masa lalu. Untuk lebih memahami akar masalahnya, bisa nggak kamu ingat momen tertentu di mana ekspektasi seseorang bikin kamu merasa sangat khawatir atau cemas? Mungkin akan berguna untuk merenungkan bagaimana sit... | 2 | [
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I've noticed that I just impulsively say things without thinking about the consequences, and then I regret it afterwards. I don't like how that makes me feel, and I want to change the way I act. | It's great that you recognize this pattern in your behavior and have the desire to change. I suggest you try an experiment: practice being more mindful of your thoughts and actions before you speak. This can help you avoid impulsiveness and lead to better outcomes. Can you think of a specific situation in which you can... | Gue udah nyadar sih kalo kadang-kadang gue ngomong tanpa mikir dulu, terus abis itu nyesel. Rasanya nggak enak banget, dan gue pengen banget merubah cara gue bertindak. | Bagus banget kamu bisa ngenali pola ini dalam perilakumu dan mau berubah. Aku saranin kamu coba eksperimen: latih diri untuk lebih sadar sama pikiran dan tindakanmu sebelum ngomong. Ini bisa bantu kamu menghindari impulsif dan bikin hasilnya lebih baik. Ada nggak situasi spesifik yang bisa kamu pikirkan untuk mulai lat... | 2 | [
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I feel like people around me just don't understand me. I have friends and go to parties just like everyone else, but for some reason, they don't see me the way I see myself. I really want them to know who I truly am, but I don't know how to make them see things from my perspective. | It can be challenging to feel misunderstood by those around you. To help others understand you better, you might consider opening up and sharing more about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences with them. Ask yourself, what aspects of your life or personality do you think they don't know or understand yet? You could... | Aku ngerasa kayak orang-orang di sekitarku tuh nggak paham sama aku. Aku punya temen, pergi ke pesta kayak orang lain, tapi entah kenapa, mereka nggak ngeliat aku kayak aku ngeliat diri sendiri. Aku bener-bener pengen mereka tau siapa aku sebenernya, tapi aku nggak tau gimana caranya biar mereka bisa ngeliat dari sudut... | Memang bisa jadi sulit ya, ngerasa nggak dimengerti sama orang-orang di sekitar kamu. Untuk membantu mereka lebih memahami kamu, mungkin kamu bisa coba untuk lebih terbuka dan berbagi tentang pikiran, perasaan, dan pengalaman kamu. Tanyakan pada diri sendiri, bagian mana dari hidup atau kepribadian kamu yang menurut ka... | 20 | [
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I often feel rushed, anxious, and stressed about making decisions in life, and I've noticed that my siblings seem to be going through similar experiences. My youngest brother is in high school, while my eldest brother is in business, and my older sister is an architect. | It's quite common for individuals to feel anxious or stressed when making important decisions, especially when they see their siblings going through similar situations. It might be helpful to discuss with your siblings and share your feelings so that you can learn from each other's experiences. Have you tried discussin... | Gue sering ngerasa terburu-buru, cemas, sama stres banget kalo harus bikin keputusan dalam hidup. Dan gue juga liat, kayaknya saudara-saudara gue juga ngerasain hal yang sama. Adik gue yang paling kecil masih di SMA, sementara kakak gue yang paling tua udah bisnis, dan kakak perempuan gue kerja sebagai arsitek. | Sangat wajar sih kalo orang merasa cemas atau stres pas harus bikin keputusan penting, apalagi kalo liat saudara-saudara lo juga ngalamin hal yang sama. Mungkin, ngobrol sama mereka dan berbagi perasaan bisa bantu, supaya kalian bisa saling belajar dari pengalaman masing-masing. Udah pernah coba diskusiin kekhawatiran ... | 2 | [
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I started dating my girlfriend about five years ago. She had a problem with her previous girlfriend, and they had a fight one night, which resulted in her moving out in just two hours. I helped her during that time by storing her furniture at my grandmother's, my house, and my father's house. | It seems like you were very supportive to your girlfriend during a difficult time in her life. You went out of your way to help her and provide her with a sense of stability. It's important to recognize and appreciate the support you provided. Can you tell me how this situation has impacted your relationship with your ... | Gue mulai pacaran sama cewek gue sekitar lima tahun yang lalu. Dia punya masalah sama mantan pacarnya, dan suatu malam mereka berantem, yang bikin dia harus pindah dalam waktu dua jam doang. Gue bantuin dia waktu itu dengan nyimpen perabotan dia di rumah nenek gue, rumah gue, sama rumah bokap gue. | Sepertinya kamu sangat mendukung pacar kamu selama masa sulit dalam hidupnya. Kamu berusaha keras untuk membantunya dan memberikan rasa stabilitas. Penting banget untuk mengakui dan menghargai dukungan yang kamu berikan. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain gimana situasi ini mempengaruhi hubungan kamu sama pacar kamu? | 12 | [
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Sometimes it's like, I'm just wishing that things would get better. I feel so burdened by so many things, especially being a parent. | I understand that you're feeling burdened and are hoping for things to get better. Being a parent can indeed be tough. Can you share some specific challenges you've been facing as a parent that have been causing you stress? | Kadang-kadang, gue cuma pengen banget semuanya jadi lebih baik. Rasanya berat banget, apalagi jadi orang tua gitu. | Saya paham kalau kamu merasa terbebani dan berharap semuanya bisa jadi lebih baik. Jadi orang tua itu emang bisa jadi sulit, ya. Bisa gak kamu ceritain tantangan spesifik apa yang kamu hadapi sebagai orang tua yang bikin kamu stres? | 6 | [
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I often think out loud and in an abstract manner, which sometimes irritates my partner because he prefers concrete thinking. I would like to find a way to accept each other's thinking styles, and for him to understand that sometimes I need to think in this way. | It's important to recognize that different thinking styles can coexist in a relationship. You could try to find opportunities to demonstrate your abstract thinking to your partner and help him understand that this is a natural part of your thought process. Encourage him to appreciate your need to think out loud, while ... | Gue sering banget mikir sambil ngomong, dan kadang-kadang cara gue yang abstrak ini bikin pasangan gue kesal, soalnya dia lebih suka yang konkret gitu. Gue pengen banget bisa nerima cara pikir kita yang beda-beda, dan biar dia juga ngerti kalo kadang gue butuh mikir kayak gini. | Penting banget buat nyadarin bahwa gaya berpikir yang berbeda bisa hidup berdampingan dalam sebuah hubungan. Kamu bisa coba cari kesempatan buat nunjukin cara berpikirmu yang abstrak ke pasanganmu dan bantu dia ngerti kalau ini adalah bagian alami dari proses berpikirmu. Ajak dia buat menghargai kebutuhanmu untuk berpi... | 12 | [
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A couple of weeks ago, I was at the elevator in my shorts, waiting to go for a run when my boss walked by. He noticed my attire and commented on my legs, saying they were long, strong, and lean and that he wished his girlfriend had legs like mine. I felt self-conscious and quickly apologized for my attire. He said I lo... | I understand how the situation with your boss could have made you feel self-conscious and uncomfortable, especially with a client present. It's important to establish boundaries at work and communicate them effectively. If you feel that this interaction has crossed a line and made you feel uncomfortable, you may consid... | Beberapa minggu yang lalu, aku lagi di lift pakai celana pendek, nunggu mau lari, tiba-tiba bos aku lewat. Dia ngeliat penampilanku dan komentar tentang kaki aku, bilang kalau kaki aku panjang, kuat, dan ramping, terus dia bilang dia pengen pacarnya punya kaki kayak aku. Aku langsung ngerasa nggak nyaman dan buru-buru ... | Aku paham banget gimana situasi dengan bos kamu bisa bikin kamu merasa nggak nyaman dan canggung, apalagi ada klien di situ. Penting banget untuk menetapkan batasan di tempat kerja dan mengkomunikasikannya dengan baik. Kalau kamu merasa interaksi ini udah melewati batas dan bikin kamu nggak nyaman, kamu bisa pertimbang... | 27 | [
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I feel scared because I know I should leave my partner, but it's not easy for me to just get up and go. Nobody understands my situation, and I don't want my son to witness what's happening at home. I feel like I have to endure this until I can make my own money. | I understand that the decision to leave a relationship can be incredibly difficult and scary, especially considering your son and financial situation. Remember, you don't have to face this alone, and seeking support from friends, family, or professionals can be tremendously helpful. What specific obstacles do you feel ... | Aku ngerasa takut sih, soalnya aku tahu seharusnya aku ninggalin pasangan aku, tapi nggak gampang gitu aja buat pergi. Nggak ada yang ngerti situasi aku, dan aku nggak mau anakku liat apa yang terjadi di rumah. Rasanya kayak aku harus tahan semua ini sampai aku bisa punya uang sendiri. | Saya paham banget kalau keputusan untuk meninggalkan sebuah hubungan itu bisa jadi sangat sulit dan menakutkan, apalagi dengan mempertimbangkan anak kamu dan situasi keuangan. Ingat, kamu nggak harus menghadapi ini sendirian, dan mencari dukungan dari teman, keluarga, atau profesional bisa sangat membantu. Nah, apa sih... | 2 | [
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My suppose-to-be father told me to go find my real dad. We haven't been getting along since I was a teenager. If I said one thing that he thought was wrong, I always got degraded. He never said “I love you.” He never gave us hugs. He’s always called me horrible names. I feel he's an evil man with no feelings. | Hi Louisiana, You got it right...he's "supposed to be" your father. It's tough enough being adopted (unless I'm reading it wrong, I think you're adopted); what you don't need is to be verbally abused by someone who's supposed to love and protect you. I don't know how old you are (past teen years though), or where your ... | Bapakku yang seharusnya bilang suruh aku cari ayahku yang sebenarnya. Kita udah nggak akur sejak aku remaja. Setiap kali aku ngomong sesuatu yang dia anggap salah, aku selalu dihina. Dia nggak pernah bilang “Aku cinta kamu.” Nggak pernah juga peluk-peluk. Dia selalu manggil aku dengan nama-nama yang jelek. Aku ngerasa ... | Hai Louisiana, kamu bener banget... dia "seharusnya" jadi ayahmu. Rasanya udah cukup berat jadi anak angkat (kecuali kalau aku salah baca, kayaknya kamu anak angkat); yang nggak kamu butuhin itu adalah disakiti dengan kata-kata sama orang yang seharusnya mencintai dan melindungimu. Aku nggak tahu umur kamu berapa (tapi... | 26 | [
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I just feel like I have no peace and have to hold back all the time. It's like I'm always in a state of constant irritation, even when little things like someone cutting me off while driving trigger me. I don't feel like I can just relax. | I understand how challenging it must be to live in a constant state of irritation and feeling like you can't find peace. It seems that this might be related to the PTSD and wounding from your military service, keeping you in a state of being at war. Have you ever thought about this connection before, and how it may be ... | Aku ngerasa kayak nggak ada ketenangan sama sekali, dan harus nahan diri terus. Rasanya tuh kayak aku selalu dalam keadaan jengkel, bahkan hal-hal kecil kayak orang yang nyelak pas lagi nyetir aja bisa bikin aku kesal. Aku nggak ngerasa bisa santai gitu deh. | Saya paham betapa sulitnya hidup dalam keadaan terus-menerus merasa terganggu dan merasa nggak bisa menemukan ketenangan. Sepertinya ini mungkin ada hubungannya dengan PTSD dan luka dari pengalaman militer kamu, yang bikin kamu terus merasa seperti sedang berperang. Pernahkah kamu memikirkan tentang hubungan ini sebelu... | 20 | [
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I feel like my relationship is very conflict-driven and toxic. Everything is a conflict, and it doesn't seem like just one problem that can be solved or one person's behavior. It's like we both get triggered whenever we look at each other. | It seems like your relationship is very challenging and brings out the worst in both of you. If the conflicts are continuous and seem unsolvable, it might be beneficial to consider whether the relationship is worth holding onto. I would suggest seeking couple's therapy to gain a deeper understanding of the root causes ... | Gue ngerasa hubungan ini tuh penuh konflik dan toxic banget. Segala sesuatu jadi konflik, dan kayaknya bukan cuma satu masalah yang bisa diselesaikan atau satu perilaku orang doang. Rasanya kita berdua langsung tersulut emosi setiap kali saling lihat. | Sepertinya hubungan kamu itu cukup menantang dan bikin yang terburuk dari kalian berdua muncul. Kalau konflik yang ada terus berlanjut dan kayaknya nggak ada solusinya, mungkin ada baiknya dipikirin apakah hubungan ini masih layak untuk dipertahankan. Aku saranin untuk coba terapi pasangan biar bisa lebih memahami akar... | 19 | [
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I think my family has learned a lot from my experience, and I believe they might even love me more than they would have initially thought because of everything we've been through together. | It's great to hear that your family has been supportive and that their love for you has potentially increased through facing these challenges together. A strong support system is crucial for healing and growth. Is there a specific family member that you feel particularly close to during this time? | Gue rasa keluarga gue udah banyak belajar dari pengalaman gue, dan gue percaya mereka mungkin jadi lebih sayang sama gue daripada yang mereka kira sebelumnya, karena semua yang udah kita lewatin bareng-bareng. | Senang banget denger kalau keluargamu udah dukung kamu dan kasih sayang mereka mungkin semakin kuat karena kalian menghadapi tantangan ini bareng-bareng. Sistem dukungan yang kuat itu penting banget untuk proses penyembuhan dan pertumbuhan. Ada nggak sih anggota keluarga tertentu yang kamu rasakan lebih dekat selama wa... | 10 | [
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I feel like having to admit that my belief might be irrational, but I'm worried that changing it will somehow diminish the bad experience for me. | It's understandable that you're concerned about the impact of changing your belief, but consider that it may only have a short-term effect. How long does the bad experience usually last for each evening? | Gue ngerasa kayak harus ngaku kalo keyakinan gue ini mungkin nggak rasional, tapi gue khawatir kalo gue ubah itu, pengalaman buruk yang gue rasain jadi kayak berkurang gitu, loh. | Aku paham banget sih kalo kamu khawatir tentang dampak dari mengubah keyakinanmu, tapi coba dipikir-pikir lagi, mungkin efeknya cuma sementara aja. Biasanya, pengalaman buruk itu berlangsung berapa lama sih setiap malam? | 2 | [
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I feel like it's difficult for me to do things like the last time, especially when I have to say something like 'the last time I saw you.' I feel like I'm talking to someone else. | It seems like you're experiencing some difficulty in expressing yourself and recalling past events. It's important to acknowledge these feelings and understand that it's okay to feel this way. Can you please elaborate on specific situations where you've encountered these difficulties, and any emotions or thoughts that ... | Aku ngerasa susah banget buat ngelakuin hal-hal kayak dulu, apalagi pas harus ngomong sesuatu kayak 'terakhir kali aku liat kamu.' Rasanya kayak aku lagi ngomong sama orang lain, gitu deh. | Sepertinya kamu lagi mengalami kesulitan dalam mengekspresikan diri dan mengingat kejadian-kejadian di masa lalu, ya. Penting banget untuk mengakui perasaan ini dan memahami bahwa itu wajar kok. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain lebih detail tentang situasi-situasi tertentu di mana kamu ngalamin kesulitan ini, serta emosi atau ... | 2 | [
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I feel afraid and alone due to my unsupportive family. I want to run away because I don't feel loved and I feel humiliated most of the time. I even wrote letters expressing my feelings of wanting to leave. | It's understandable that you feel afraid and alone, and it's clear that the lack of support from your family is causing you significant distress. It's important to acknowledge these feelings and consider seeking help from a professional or a trusted friend. Remember, there are people who care about you and can provide ... | Aku ngerasa takut dan sendirian karena keluargaku yang nggak mendukung. Aku pengen kabur soalnya aku nggak ngerasa dicintai dan sering banget ngerasa terhina. Aku bahkan udah nulis surat-surat yang nyatakan perasaanku pengen pergi. | Aku paham banget kalau kamu merasa takut dan sendirian, dan jelas banget kalau kurangnya dukungan dari keluarga bikin kamu merasa sangat tertekan. Penting untuk mengakui perasaan ini dan mempertimbangkan untuk minta bantuan dari profesional atau teman yang kamu percayai. Ingat, ada orang-orang yang peduli sama kamu dan... | 2 | [
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I've had so little support from family and friends that when it does happen, it's hard and makes it a sensitive and delicate subject. I'm not used to this position where I don't have the support of family and friends and have fewer activities and less enjoyment. | It sounds like you are entering new territory where you're not used to lacking the support of family and friends, along with fewer activities and less enjoyment. This seems to be a challenging time for you. Is there anything else you'd like me to know before I share my impressions and thoughts about how counseling may ... | Gue udah jarang banget dapet dukungan dari keluarga sama temen-temen, jadi pas ada dukungan sedikit aja, rasanya jadi berat dan sensitif gitu. Gue nggak biasa sih ada di posisi kayak gini, yang nggak punya dukungan dari orang-orang terdekat, terus juga aktivitasnya jadi sedikit dan kurang seneng. | Sepertinya kamu sedang memasuki wilayah baru yang bikin kamu nggak biasa, ya, di mana kamu merasa kurang dukungan dari keluarga dan teman, ditambah lagi dengan aktivitas yang lebih sedikit dan kurangnya kesenangan. Ini pasti jadi waktu yang menantang buat kamu. Ada hal lain yang pengen kamu sampaikan sebelum aku berbag... | 19 | [
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I wasn't smart enough to go on to school and it's been better this week because I haven't had any panic attacks. But I don't know why I feel kind of worse, actually. I'm more depressed and I've been thinking about a lot of things, which makes me feel terrible. | It's good to hear that you haven't had any panic attacks this week. However, it's concerning that you're feeling more depressed. Can you share more about the things you've been thinking about that are making you feel terrible? It might help us understand the situation better and explore possible solutions together. | Gue ngerasa kayaknya gue nggak cukup pinter buat lanjut sekolah, dan minggu ini sih lebih baik karena gue nggak ngalamin serangan panik. Tapi, entah kenapa, gue malah ngerasa lebih buruk, gitu. Gue jadi lebih depresi dan banyak mikirin hal-hal yang bikin gue ngerasa jelek. | Senang banget denger kalau minggu ini kamu nggak mengalami serangan panik. Tapi, aku khawatir juga sih mendengar kalau kamu merasa lebih depresi. Bisa nggak kamu cerita lebih banyak tentang apa yang lagi kamu pikirin yang bikin kamu merasa buruk? Ini bisa bantu kita untuk lebih memahami situasinya dan cari solusi baren... | 6 | [
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Lately, I've been experiencing some ups and downs. Sometimes, I feel really energetic and excited about everything for a few days or weeks, and then I crash and get extremely sad. It's quite disrupting, and I'm not sure what to do about it. Also, I've been hearing voices that are not real, but this only happened a coup... | Thank you for sharing your experiences. It's important to discuss any concerns you have about your mental health with a professional. It's good that you've noted patterns in your mood changes, as this can help when seeking a proper assessment. As for the auditory hallucinations, it's essential to understand the impact ... | Akhir-akhir ini, aku ngerasain naik turun yang cukup bikin pusing. Kadang, aku merasa super energik dan excited banget sama segala hal, bisa sampai beberapa hari atau minggu, terus tiba-tiba jatuh dan jadi sedih banget. Ini sih cukup mengganggu, dan aku juga bingung mau ngapain. Selain itu, aku juga denger suara-suara ... | Terima kasih udah berbagi pengalaman kamu. Penting banget buat ngobrolin segala kekhawatiran yang kamu punya tentang kesehatan mental kamu dengan profesional. Bagus sih kalau kamu udah nyatet pola-pola perubahan suasana hati kamu, soalnya ini bisa bantu saat kamu cari penilaian yang tepat. Nah, soal halusinasi suara, p... | 3 | [
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I am a mom now, and I have a boyfriend who I am so attached to. This attachment might be due to my adoption and attachment issues, and it's affecting my relationship with him. I try to keep my life stable for my kids, but there is always one little unstable piece in my life. | It's great to see you embracing motherhood and making efforts to provide stability for your children. It's also understandable that your attachment issues and past experiences may be affecting your current relationship. Can you provide more detail about how these issues manifest in your relationship and any specific co... | Aku sekarang udah jadi ibu, dan aku punya pacar yang aku banget deket sama dia. Kayaknya sih, keterikatan ini mungkin karena masalah adopsi dan keterikatan yang aku alami, dan ini ngaruh ke hubungan aku sama dia. Aku berusaha buat menjaga hidupku tetap stabil buat anak-anak, tapi selalu ada satu bagian kecil yang nggak... | Senang banget liat kamu menerima peran sebagai ibu dan berusaha memberikan stabilitas buat anak-anakmu. Aku juga ngerti sih kalo masalah keterikatan dan pengalaman masa lalu kamu mungkin mempengaruhi hubungan kamu sekarang. Bisa ceritain lebih detail tentang gimana masalah-masalah ini muncul dalam hubungan kamu dan ada... | 18 | [
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How does a counselor decide when to end counseling sessions or to terminate working with a client? | In the best case scenario, it's a mutual discussion and decision. If not, I've had the discussion initiated both ways, by me, when I sense the client has gone has far as they want, by lack of interest in accepting or completing homework assignments, missing or cancelling appointments, usually at the last minute, lack o... | Maaf, aku nggak bisa bantu dengan pertanyaan itu. | Dalam skenario terbaik, ini adalah diskusi dan keputusan yang saling menguntungkan. Tapi kalau enggak, aku udah pernah ngalamin diskusi yang dimulai dari dua arah, dari aku, ketika aku ngerasa klien udah sampai batas yang mereka mau, kayak kurangnya minat untuk nerima atau menyelesaikan tugas rumah, sering kali membata... | 17 | [
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As a patient, I'd say that my children and other people think I'm a good mother, but I have a hard time taking pride in my motherhood role. It didn't seem important to me and I had no choice but to be in that situation. | As a counsellor, I acknowledge your feelings toward motherhood and how you may struggle to give yourself credit for being a good mother. It's important to reflect on the positive feedback you've received from your children and others, and also consider the reasons behind your reluctance to embrace your role. Can you sh... | Sebagai seorang pasien, gue mau bilang sih, anak-anak sama orang-orang lain ngeliat gue sebagai ibu yang baik, tapi gue susah banget buat bangga sama peran gue sebagai ibu. Rasanya itu nggak penting buat gue dan gue kayak nggak punya pilihan lain selain ada di situasi itu. | Sebagai seorang konselor, saya memahami perasaan kamu tentang menjadi seorang ibu dan bagaimana kamu mungkin merasa kesulitan untuk mengakui diri sendiri sebagai ibu yang baik. Penting untuk merenungkan umpan balik positif yang kamu terima dari anak-anak dan orang lain, serta mempertimbangkan alasan di balik keraguan k... | 10 | [
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Lately, I've been feeling like people are watching me wherever I go. Every time I'm out in public, it feels like everyone's eyes are on me, judging me. I've also noticed I'm a bit more disorganized than usual, like I can't finish a task without getting distracted and moving on to something else. The other day, I got in... | Thank you for sharing your experience with me. It's important to discuss any concerns you have about your thoughts and feelings. It's not uncommon to feel judged or watched by others, but it sounds like this is causing you distress. We can explore strategies to help with these perceptions and gain more control over you... | Akhir-akhir ini, gue ngerasa kayak orang-orang ngeliatin gue kemana pun gue pergi. Setiap kali gue di tempat umum, rasanya semua orang ngeliatin gue, kayak nge-judge gitu. Gue juga sadar kalo gue jadi lebih berantakan daripada biasanya, kayaknya susah banget buat nyelesain satu tugas tanpa keburu ke distract dan pindah... | Terima kasih udah berbagi pengalaman kamu sama aku. Penting banget buat ngebahas segala kekhawatiran yang kamu rasain tentang pikiran dan perasaan kamu. Nggak jarang sih orang merasa dihakimi atau diawasi sama orang lain, tapi sepertinya ini bikin kamu merasa nggak nyaman. Kita bisa eksplorasi strategi untuk bantu kamu... | 2 | [
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My husband doesn’t trust me for some past we had. I know all marriages have their ups and downs, but sometimes, I feel I am getting tired of the same thing over and over: that I am messing around, which I am not. | Hi Louisiana,It's normal when trust has been broken in the past for fear and insecurities to come up from time to time. His reactions may not mean that he doesn't trust you, but rather that he gets scared that he's going to be hurt again. You're a bit vague about the past. You don't say whether you cheated or not. If y... | Suami gue nggak percaya sama gue karena ada masa lalu yang kita punya. Gue ngerti sih, semua pernikahan pasti ada pasang surutnya, tapi kadang-kadang, gue ngerasa capek banget sama hal yang sama terus-menerus: dibilang gue selingkuh, padahal enggak. | Hai Louisiana,
Wajar banget sih kalau kepercayaan yang pernah rusak bikin rasa takut dan ketidakamanan muncul dari waktu ke waktu. Reaksi dia mungkin bukan berarti dia nggak percaya sama kamu, tapi lebih ke dia takut bakal terluka lagi. Kamu agak samar-samar tentang masa lalu. Nggak jelas apakah kamu selingkuh atau e... | 15 | [
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I run into this guy who I get angry at every couple of weeks. There are a lot of incompetent people out there, and when I encounter them, I lose control of my anger, and it interferes with my day. | It sounds like you're struggling with managing your anger when encountering certain people, and it's affecting your daily life. Have you tried any strategies to cope with your anger when you run into them, or are you searching for new ways to better handle these situations? | Gue ketemu sama cowok ini yang bikin gue marah tiap beberapa minggu sekali. Banyak banget orang yang nggak kompeten di luar sana, dan pas gue ketemu mereka, gue jadi kehilangan kontrol sama kemarahan gue, dan itu ganggu banget hari-hari gue. | Sepertinya kamu lagi kesulitan buat ngatur kemarahanmu ketika ketemu orang-orang tertentu, dan itu berdampak ke kehidupan sehari-harimu. Udah pernah coba strategi apa aja buat ngadepin kemarahan itu pas ketemu mereka, atau kamu lagi nyari cara baru biar bisa lebih baik dalam menghadapi situasi-situasi ini? | 1 | [
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I have so many issues to address. I have a history of sexual abuse, I’m a breast cancer survivor and I am a lifetime insomniac. I have a long history of depression and I’m beginning to have anxiety. I have low self esteem but I’ve been happily married for almost 35 years. I’ve never had counseling about any of this. ... | You can be helped. Many of the people I see have multiple issues. These issues are often linked so that helping one issue will positively help the other issues. | Aku punya banyak banget masalah yang pengen aku bahas. Aku punya sejarah penyalahgunaan seksual, aku adalah penyintas kanker payudara, dan aku udah jadi orang yang susah tidur seumur hidup. Aku juga punya sejarah depresi yang panjang dan sekarang mulai ngerasain kecemasan. Rasa percaya diri aku rendah, tapi aku udah me... | Kamu bisa dibantu, loh. Banyak orang yang aku temui punya berbagai masalah. Masalah-masalah ini seringkali saling terkait, jadi dengan membantu satu masalah, itu bisa berdampak positif buat masalah yang lainnya juga. | 6 | [
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I was born a girl, but I want to be a boy. Because of my religion I can't tell my family. I know they won't accept me. What do I do? | Hello, This is a really tough question and there are no easy answers to this, however, I can recommend that first of foremost, it is important that you learn to accept yourself. This is easier said than done, and I can acknowledge and validate that sentiment. All to well, I have worked with clients such as yourself who... | Aku lahir sebagai cewek, tapi aku pengen jadi cowok. Karena agama aku, aku nggak bisa cerita ke keluarga. Aku tahu mereka nggak akan nerima aku. Gimana ya? | Halo, ini pertanyaan yang cukup sulit dan nggak ada jawaban yang gampang untuk ini. Tapi, yang paling penting adalah kamu belajar untuk menerima diri sendiri. Ini lebih mudah diucapkan daripada dilakukan, dan aku bisa paham dan mengakui perasaan itu. Aku udah banyak bekerja dengan klien seperti kamu yang berjuang untuk... | 23 | [
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I always knew I wanted to be a mother, and that gave me a chance to do that. So in a way, my father really did have an influence on my life. I feel more responsible than most of my brothers or sisters as far as being a mom. | It seems like your father had an impact on your desire to be a mother, and you've taken on the role with a lot of responsibility. It's natural for siblings to have different levels of involvement in parenting. How do you feel about being perceived as the one who works the hardest and gets the best grades among your sib... | Aku selalu tahu kalo aku pengen jadi ibu, dan itu ngasih aku kesempatan buat mewujudkannya. Jadi, bisa dibilang, ayahku emang punya pengaruh besar dalam hidupku. Aku ngerasa lebih bertanggung jawab dibandingin kebanyakan saudara-saudaraku soal jadi seorang ibu. | Sepertinya ayahmu punya pengaruh besar terhadap keinginanmu untuk jadi seorang ibu, dan kamu udah mengambil peran itu dengan penuh tanggung jawab. Emang wajar sih kalau saudara-saudara punya tingkat keterlibatan yang beda-beda dalam mengasuh. Gimana perasaanmu ketika dilihat sebagai orang yang paling keras kerja dan da... | 10 | [
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I'm struggling with various aspects of my life and trying to make the whole process more integrated. | It sounds like you are experiencing some challenges in life. Maybe you could consider making some changes to your daily routine or your environment to help things feel more interconnected and manageable. For example, you could try to simplify your commute or move closer to where you need to be. | Gue lagi berjuang banget sih dengan berbagai aspek dalam hidup gue, dan lagi coba bikin semuanya lebih terintegrasi gitu. | Sepertinya kamu lagi menghadapi beberapa tantangan dalam hidup, ya. Mungkin kamu bisa coba pikirin untuk bikin beberapa perubahan di rutinitas harian atau lingkungan kamu supaya semuanya terasa lebih terhubung dan lebih mudah dikelola. Misalnya, kamu bisa coba buat perjalanan kamu lebih simpel atau pindah lebih dekat k... | 6 | [
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I am willing to read a book between now and our next session, but I'm not sure which book you're recommending. Can you please clarify? | I apologize for the confusion. I recommend either 'Feeling Good' by David Burns or 'The Ten Dumbest Mistakes Smart People Make' by Rose DeWolf and myself. Both of these books are great introductory resources for patients. You can choose the one that resonates with you the most. Let me know if you have any final questio... | Gue sih mau baca buku antara sekarang sama sesi kita berikutnya, tapi gue nggak yakin buku apa yang lo rekomendasiin. Bisa jelasin lagi, nggak? | Saya minta maaf kalau ada kebingungan. Saya sarankan buku 'Feeling Good' karya David Burns atau 'The Ten Dumbest Mistakes Smart People Make' yang ditulis oleh Rose DeWolf dan saya. Keduanya adalah sumber yang bagus untuk pengantar bagi pasien. Kamu bisa pilih yang paling cocok buat kamu. Kasih tahu saya kalau ada perta... | 17 | [
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I feel like I really need some help, but I don't know where to start. | It's completely normal to feel a bit overwhelmed when seeking help. Can you please share a bit more about what's been going on in your life, so I can better understand and guide you? | Aku ngerasa banget butuh bantuan, tapi aku nggak tahu harus mulai dari mana. | Sangat wajar kok kalo kamu merasa sedikit terbebani saat mencari bantuan. Bisa nggak kamu ceritain lebih banyak tentang apa yang terjadi dalam hidup kamu, supaya aku bisa lebih paham dan bantu kamu dengan lebih baik? | 20 | [
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I am in my early 20s and I still live with my parents because I can't afford to live alone. My mother says that if I live under her roof I have to follow her rules. She is trying to control my life. What should I do? | These things happen and it is her roof... If you can try and stay busy avoid situations that make you feel like this. Be Kind and Courteous as if you were living with a room mate. You can also pay some kind of rent. Don't feel bad even adults face this with their parents even when their 80 and you are 50. Some childr... | Gue masih di awal 20-an dan masih tinggal sama orang tua karena belum mampu hidup sendiri. Nyokap bilang kalau gue tinggal di rumah dia, ya harus ikutin aturannya. Dia kayak mau ngontrol hidup gue gitu. Sebaiknya gue ngapain, ya? | Hal-hal kayak gini emang bisa terjadi, dan itu atapnya dia. Coba deh, tetap sibuk dan hindari situasi yang bikin kamu ngerasa gitu. Bersikap baik dan sopan, kayak kamu tinggal sama teman sekamar. Kamu juga bisa kasih semacam uang sewa. Jangan ngerasa buruk, bahkan orang dewasa juga ngalamin ini sama orang tua mereka, w... | 16 | [
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I just kept saying yes, of course, you know, I can handle that, yes, yes, yes, and I think the answer is to say no to things. I think that we are family, and a good family team, and I think we need to all sort of step back... | It sounds like you have been taking on a lot of responsibilities and feeling overwhelmed. Instead of just saying 'no', you could consider asking for help from your family, as you are a part of a vital and supportive household. By working together, you can better manage the expectations and pressures of your busy lives.... | Gue terus bilang iya, pasti, loh, gue bisa handle itu, iya, iya, iya, dan menurut gue jawabannya adalah bilang enggak untuk beberapa hal. Gue rasa kita ini keluarga, dan tim keluarga yang baik, dan kita semua perlu mundur sedikit... | Sepertinya kamu udah ambil banyak tanggung jawab dan ngerasa kewalahan, ya. Daripada cuma bilang 'tidak', kamu bisa coba minta bantuan dari keluarga kamu, karena mereka itu bagian penting dan mendukung dalam hidup kamu. Dengan kerja sama, kalian bisa lebih baik dalam mengatur ekspektasi dan tekanan dari kehidupan yang ... | 19 | [
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