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Poor soul
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Men I feel this
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This. The second one is far more work than the first. At least with 1 you can tag off. With 2 there is zero downtime until they’re asleep.
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This is me internally.
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Fighting the urge to headbutt that bayonet. Relatable.
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Duuuuuude, same here!!!! Lol tough times
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Ha, at least you have time to mentally prepare yourself over coffee. Wait till the baby comes.
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God, absolutely, unequivocally, **fuck** all of that. We have a one year old and a nine month old puppy, and it is absolutely unmanageable and exhausting every. single. day. I cannot imagine having a second and trying to work with all of them home; I get zero downtime as it is.
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That's where I'm at
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As of last night this is now my reality.
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You guys don’t wake up at 5:15 to a screaming toddler that pooped his pants?
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Damn that’s so early. My toddler sleeps from 7:00pm till 7:30am.
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Oh man, we got our toddler to be ok with a 7.45 alarm. It was the best day ever when I realised he was waiting for the change to call me so i moved it back until the last possible time to get him on weekdays. Then when I realised it has a nap alarm setting that can be used for weekends and holidays that was even better.
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That precious coffee hour is key.
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Ok but why don’t you have a George Foreman on a timer on the floor next to To your bed so you can wake up to freshly cooked bacon?
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You’re doing it right.
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You get an hour!? My toddler wakes me up around 530AM every day ready for war
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Are you me?! The only difference is my kids' Hatches turn green at 6:30.
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Green Light is a godsend.
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I'm oddly jealous. My girl is not a morning person. We have to set off for work at 8 and she does *not* like getting up until 7:15 at the earliest. Still, it's easier rushing a relaxed child to the car than it is trying to wrestle a cranky toddler out of the door
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You just described hell to me. I'm so jealous of morning people.
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That would be the dream. My toddler gets up specifically to have breakfast with me at 5.45. It’s cute, but I’m on a tight schedule in the morning!
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LOVED the color changing kid alarm clock - he's 15 now, and I still am in awe of the life-changing power of Clockie. (And yes, at 15, the issue becomes getting them OUT of bed...)
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What does that mean, “the toddler’s clock turns green at 0645”?
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A spray bottle and command to water the plants, fucking brilliant! I'll have to remember that one when it gets warmer around here.
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This made me tear up ngl
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FYI, I tried this and it worked wonders. Nice call.
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Oh man, it’s not even 10am yet!
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But what about the pregnant wife... she gets a nap as well right???
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Parenthood sounds like such a joy...
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If I try to wake up early, you can bet my toddler will magically also decide to wake up early.
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Baby woke up hungry at 6am. I prepare a bottle in the dark kitchen. Toddler woke up covered in vomit and poop crying at 7:30am. Straight to the shower. Prepare breakfast for wife, toddler, and the 2 older kids at 8am. Baby has massive blow out at 9am. Quick bath and change. Older kids manage to knock over gallon of milk, it explodes on the floor like it's the gallon challenge. I get the mop. It is now 11:20am. I am eating breakfast and holding baby. I hear screaming in the living room. Someone has pulled all of the books off the shelf. I look at Baby exasperated. She smiles and spits up. Good Saturday so far imo
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This is my life. Wake up at 5am to get a minute of peace to myself. My 2.5 year old now wakes up at 5 every morning.
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Glad I'm not the only one that does this.
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Somehow it seems like I'm the only dad who has kids who will sleep in really late even since they were toddlers. (One of them had night terrors and would often be up for a few hours in the middle of the night, but then sleep in til like 10 AM). Left to their own devices they'll easily sleep until 9 or 10 am. (age 10 and 13 now) I almost wish I had early risers, because my 5th grader is a raging psychopath when I attempt to rouse them from sleep at 7:30 AM to get ready for school on time. Every. Single. Day. It's almost 11 AM on a Saturday and they're still sleeping. In the middle of a very loud thunderstorm.
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I try to wake up early for some alone time…every day….every day my little wakes up as soon as he hears me move. It’s nice to feel loved like that, but my guy…dad needs 30 minutes where nobody talks to him….
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Enjoy every moment of it, for it will be over before you know it
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My 2 YO sleeps until 7:30 so I wake up at 5:30 to get some relaxation in. Last week he had a stretch of 6:00 awakenings which seriously threw me off. Today though we went back to it normal schedule.
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Coming home from the hospital with number 2 is like the moment the landing craft hits the beach and the door falls open.
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Me as well. Stay strong, brother.
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I wouldn’t survive our newborn infant if my toddler wasn’t a good sleeper. Don’t know how you do it. He sleeps until 8-9 like a rock. Then wakes up and tantrums and asks to eat a raw lemon.
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Just at the end of this... it gets better (when you finally get some unbroken sleep).
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Dude I’ve had this same thought for a while.
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Even with work, I much prefer the weekdays. It's much more structured and I get time to myself without feeling guilty
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Yep pretty much. I used to look forward to weekends. Now it's just about surviving with 2 little kids, no child care, no grandparents, etc.
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Oh boy... structure, I remember that. Our daughter was born in early November 2019, between vacation time, parental leave time, personal days, and the holidays I took the last two months of the year off to take car of baby and help Mom recover (c-section), then blew all that vacation and personal time again when the year rolled over. So I started doing three days in the office and WFH the other two. Then Covid hit. Been doing WFH ever since while being the primary caregiver to our now 3.5 year old. I've spent about a total of 20 total days away from her. We spend our entire day together while I try to work, make all the meals, do all the diapers and cleaning, reading, and when she passes out so do I, then we do it again. My coworkers have seen her fall asleep in my arms while having a bottle while I'm on camera on a Webex meeting. They've watched her grow up on Teams meetings. Days have lost all meaning, work and life have lost all division, I just want a couple of days where I don't have to do anything.
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Weekends are the *worst* compared to work days. I hate every week the “what are y’all up to this weekend?” questions - uh, park lunch nap park dinner park frozen bath clean sleep repeat buddy same as every time
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100% I never thought I would say I *get* to go to work, but my other job is that much more insane.
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My weekend ends Friday at 5pm.
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Yep since going from 1 up to 2 and 3 kiddos it’s the same for me. Going in to the office can be much more focused than working from home even, and easier to have some personal time too.
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Saturday can be an absolute disaster.
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I feel you.
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At least lockdown is over. The months of a rainy Sunday afternoon.
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We’ve just started having consistently good weekends with our 2 YO. Saturday morning is swimming, music class, or a museum/aquarium trip. Sunday morning is dance class or playground/trike riding. Weekend afternoons are spent at other daycare families’ houses for play dates or we meet up at a local brewery. My kid loves the weekend and has a blast. It makes it go fast for us too.
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Thought about this today. I’m looking forward to Monday just for the structure. Ofc I’ll miss the kids when they head off to daycare and then watch all the videos on my phone…
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My parental leave is almost over, I am sooooo fucking looking forward going back to work...
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100%
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That moment when one kid is dropped off at preschool and the other has just gotten on the bus to school is pure bliss.
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Lunch break at work or just drinking a hot coffee/tea at work and going to the bathroom alone.
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Hey, we also have useless in-laws!
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We moved closer to our in-laws and they died shortly before we had kids. Meanwhile, my family is now too far to help out unless they fly across the country. So it's just the two of us to manage everything. It's exhausting, but you get used to it, I guess. Edit: my mom left us when I was four, but doesn't hesitate to offer parenting advice.
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I feel you buddy. That period before your wife has the second was a dark time haha. 8 month later and things are looking up. I also got the so I don’t have to relive that period of time ever again.
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Ah how life changes. You go from shower beers (if you drink) to shower coffees. Evolution at its finest.
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ha 335 PM for me, and no shower yet :(
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My naive ass reading this thread realizing that i'm going to go through hell when my wife gives birth to our 2nd in 7 months 🥹
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I remember those days, very, very vividly. Got around that bend though. Youngest is 18 months now. And now we've got another on the way, completely accidentally btw. *Yayyyy*
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I was about to say, I have a 2 1/2 year old and a five year old, and I make the same face every morning as well.
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Yep. Almost 2yr old and 3 month old over here. The 3 month old starts daycare on Monday and I'm taking 3 days off next week for some child free time (mainly just to get shit done around the house, but also to spend some time with my wife)
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I'm in no way judging other parents for their commendable decision to have multiple kids, but posts like this one are a good reminder of why we're 1 and done. 1 kid between the two of us feels like one hell of a struggle bus already.
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Yikes adhd is rough. I have had it my whole life and taking meds is rough too because it saps ur personality a bit.
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Same boat, except pregnant wife is on bed rest due to a complete previa and there are two toddlers.
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RIP, my dude
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I can't understand the appeal right know. But you do you. I have one. I am so done.
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🫡
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Curious, what sort of challenges are you facing with 7-9 year olds?
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Report received. All is now quiet on the toddler front here.
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Same, the part where he is stuffing dirt into that guys mouth really got to me. Oh and the fork incident.
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Yikes. Good luck brother!
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“I thought roofing in the middle of summer was the hardest job in the world?!”
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And he’s down for the evening as of 5 minutes ago. It was a good day! We did it!
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My condolences.
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Very, very quickly most of the time.
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Thanks man, hope everything works out on your end as well.
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About 5 years ago
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Not cool man. We want positive vibes
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Fuck is your problem… you could’ve just said “that’s tough”… and shut the fuck up.
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I feel that. I made 3 different things for this year old to eat 4 bites of each this morning and feed the rest to the dogs.
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Best thing I ever did was tell my wife no when she wanted to get a dog in her first pregnancy, I cannot imagine taking care of a dog at this time
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With a nine-month-old puppy, you already have number two, dude.
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You got a dog AFTER having a baby?! Son you ain’t the sharpest tool in the drawer are ya?
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despite all this, and all the demands - make sure you also take time for yourself i didn’t, i let myself get utterly consumed, and my marriage fell apart.
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On the bright side, give it a year and they’ll wear each other out. My dog and my toddler can run laps for days.
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My wife and I had three in the course of just over 2 years. No sets - one at a time. It was hell on earth. Now the eldest is 5 and in kindergarten and let me tell you the relief I feel is Nonexistent. It’s still a nonstop slugfest from 6am to 8pm every single day with no breaks. 3 is hard
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As a father of a 4 months old, 2.5 years old, I told my wife absolutely no to puppies. I give my SIL the deathly stare when she brings her dogs over and ask my toddler why she doesn't have a puppy yet.
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Man you are braver than I. We've got cats and always thought we'd get dogs when we finally got a house. After the little one came along though I can't even imagine having energy or time to spend looking after a dog too. God speed
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Why did you get the puppy?
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I feel this. r/oneanddone
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Fun, in about 6 weeks I'll have a two year old, and new born, a pp wife, a 10 yo dog, 5 and 1 yo cats. It's gonna be great! Lol
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As of last night....me too. ETA: Congrats