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I just turned 40 in August and will have #3 in December. Being 40 with 3 who are 5 and under feels like…a lot…but no turning back now! I will say that I have several friends who are in their early 30s and due around the same time as I am, and they’re faring just the same as I am so far.
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I had my first at 34, my second at 36. I have several friends having their first at 37/38. It’s the new norm!
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Being a mom at 37 rocks! You are wiser, energy levels are amazing. I have biked, hiked, camped, big city adventured, basically do anything with my kiddo.
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Congratulations!! I’m 38 with a 2yo and a 4yo, I’m still on the fence about number three. You’re gonna be fine, even if the medical profession considers us geriatric!
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Congratulations!! I'm 33 weeks with my 2nd at 37. First was at 34. My ob said it's not like 35 is some magic cut off date. I definitely wouldn't have been mature enough 10 years ago
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Congrats! My easiest pregnancy and birth was when I was 34/35
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Congratulations. It took me years to get pregnant. I had my first at 37, thought it’d take forever when we tried again and had fertility consults set up. We got pregnant on our first try when I was 38 and had to cancel my consults. Fertility
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My mum suprise conceived me at 38! Congrats!
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Congratulations! Delivered baby #3 at 43 years old. There’s a twelve year difference between this baby and #2 so I really felt like a first timer again. 35 is a great age to become a mom again. You’re practically a spring chick, you’ve got this!
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I’m watching our “happy lil accident” on the baby monitor right now. Had baby #1 at 30. He’s 10 now. Our 5mo is our surprise pregnancy at 40 and I’m fine. I mean… damn my back is sore, and post partum everything sucked but I’m basically back to normal now. I would have been so much better prepared to do this at 35!
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Just had my second at 35. I'm tired, but it isn't so bad.
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Just had my 3rd baby at 42! You will be just fine!
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Congratulations!!! From a 42 yo with a 2 yo.
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Congrats! I just had my first at 38!
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Just gave birth to my first 2 months before turning 36. Take it easy and be kind to your body as you do this. Listen to it, and be patient with it. If it hurts, slow down. Only issue I had was a slightly elevated blood pressure in the last 2 weeks but not concerning enough to have to take meds or induce. Good luck!
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Congratulations! I’m considering a second (I’m a single mum by choice so it’s a big decision) and I will be 35 if I do. Hope you have a nice smooth pregnancy!
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I love this. We are planning to try next year, I'll be 33 and I'm worried about the same thing. I had my two sons when I was 21 and 22 so I was kinda on the other end of the spectrum, too. I don't really think 35 or 33 is too old though, my mom was 33 when she had me and I have a great relationship with her.
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I had my first at 35, my second at 37. Both were IUGR though.
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Just had my second at 38 and my first was at 34. I was high risk both with gestational diabetes but with my second I went to maternal fetal doctors and it was such a better experience! They were so much more laid back and just all around so much better! Congratulations!!!
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I stopped BC at 35, had been infertile for 15 years! Got pregnant last fall and had my miracle baby this summer after I turned 36! Congrats to you also!!! It wasn’t that bad for me, don’t let anyone bully you because of your age!
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Welcome to the club! I missed your first post but I was just about to turn 37 when I gave birth, and have a healthy, happy, thriving 14 month old now. I'm an exhausted, stressed 38 year old, but I don't think it would be much different if I were younger. Parenting is hard and sleep deprivation is real! But what I me...
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I feel like my body is geriatric 7m pp at 36.
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I had my first at 37 and second at 41. You are a you’ compared to me. I appreciate being an older mom since I’m fully committed to being a parent and have lived a life that I can now share with my kids. You’ve got this.
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I am 42 and my youngest is 3 months. 35 is so young!!
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I was 18 when I had our first, then we started over when she was 12, and had another (32 when I delivered him) and then my third when I was 35. I think being a bit older had a lot of pluses.
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I had my first at 39 and second at 43!
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Congrats
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i was 37 at birth! congrats!
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34, 36, and 38 with my 3 kids at birth. Fertility treatments needed for 2nd one only (who knows why!). Because of my AMA (36) the extra screenings and in-depth anatomy scan with baby #2 found my shortened cervix, which otherwise would have gone undetected and could have ended tragically with preterm labor! While an...
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I was pregnant for the first time at 38, gave birth at 39. No fertility issues. Very healthy, happy pregnancy and healthy child. That was 10 years ago. Our kiddo keeps us young and laughing every day. He inspired me to exercise more, to stay healthy so I could keep up! I sometimes wish I had the strength and energy o...
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All I can say is- thought I was prepared for how much harder recovery was going to be with my second child after age 35 and I absolutely was not prepared in anyway. The pandemic did not help. Issues like preeclampsia, premature birth, hernia (needing emergency surgery), incontinence, ruined pelvic floor….also did not h...
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I had my 3rd last year at age 39( after waiting 11 yrs!) I now have a 14,12 and 1 yr old! Its a crazy gap and yes Im an older mom now but She has brought so much joy to our house. She has allowed me to experience all the wonders of seeing the world through the eyes of a baby again. Ive already found mom friends in my a...
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Congrats! Had my babies at 35, 38 and 40. No issues what so ever, and the age only brought more scans and testing which I didn´t mind at all.
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I had my first at 35 and my second at 38. Just be prepared to be older when they graduate from high school.
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Congratulations! I had my first at 34 and second at 36. Welcome to the club!
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Congratulations!! I was 34 when my first and 37 when my second was born, and I don't regret being an older mom at all! Is my body older, yes, so sometimes (always? haha) my knees creak when I'm climbing up off the floor for the millionth time, but I'm also in a much more stable financial place and in a wonderful, stead...
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I just turned 38 this month but had my baby at 37! She’s my only child . Will I look like her grandma at her high school graduation? Probably. Will I care? No. We have babies when we’re ready. I was wild in my 20’s with traveling all the time , drinking and going out. Didn’t fit my lifestyle at the time. I wasn’t even...
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Amazing yes speaking to more and more mums I realise that 35+ geriatric mum stereotype is kind of blown out of proportion
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Ancient moms represent! Had my first kid at 39, second at 41. No fertility issues. I’m nearer in age to the grammas dropping kids off at daycare than I am to a lot of the moms.
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I turned 41 a month after my twins (#2&3) were born! I was 37 with my first as well.
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Total crapshoot. I had to do fertility treatments for my older two. My husband and I have been married for over 16 years and never used birth control. Guess who’s laying next to an 11-month old at 43?! I was shocked when I got a positive pregnancy test.
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Same exact situation here except just 6 weeks with #2 so far! Congratulations!
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Same. First at 37 and I’m 24 weeks with number 2, will be 41 at delivery!
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Hello fellow “geriatric primagravida”!
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Thank you so much! Yeah 30 is the new 20 right? .... right?
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I’m in a couple of due date Facebook groups and moms with toddler groups and I can’t believe some of the things other moms care about. By and large they are younger and much more easily influenced by older adults and family members and their peer groups than older mothers. I just don’t understand how some of it is even...
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Thank you so much. Yes definitely way more financially stable than when my daughter was born and definitely give a lot less fucks hahaha.
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Yes! And I'm sure medical screening etc has moved along with all the diagnostics etc for "advanced maternal age" haha i can't believe that's me
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I was 35 and my doctor told me “you’re young and healthy—this will be an easy pregnancy for you” and I was shocked. He said he delivers a lot of babies for women in their late 30s and 40s!
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It's the norm in a lot of major cities these days. The vast majority around here seem to be late 30's early 40's (London, UK)
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Massive respect. Just had my first at 34 years, and I can hardly imagine doing this again!
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That's what I figured too - I had some hardships before but I have not once regretted my daughter - no timing no age no situation is perfect for a baby I think - but they're always worth it
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This is me exactly! He’s 2 months now and definitely keeping me feeling young (the hair dye keeps me looking young )
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Really? That's good news - I guess yes move along chasing them - sink or swim . Happy about that
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Exactly the same. Had mine at 32, 36, & 40 and everyone I know was similar. I meet very few people who kids in their 20s.
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I am a midwife and have far more moms aged 35 than aged 25 at our urban clinic (rural clients tend to be a bit younger on average). I had my kids when I was 22,24,26,28 and a month before turning 37! My big kids all adore their baby sister and my pregnancy was healthy and low risk. Around here we don’t do anything diff...
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Hi! If you don’t mind my asking, when did you get the okay to start trying? We have a 5 month old and I’m 38.5. Definitely want to try for another (and if it happened, another after that!) But read a lot of dire stuff online about spacing too close apart and my OB said standard recommended interval was 12 months. Our f...
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Woohoo! That's amazing. My mom had me at 23 and already thought I was geriatric and "past expiry" when I had my first at 29... haha I guess times were different back then
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Hahaha I guess I should book an appointment with a doc to get those ultrasounds going! I want to be a unicorn too. I got no attention with my first at 18 ahah
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That's pretty funny. In my family, my uncle John is the same age as my cousin Rick (John is six months older). My grandmother married VERY young and had her first at 17 I think. My grandmother had gotten divorced and remarried not too long before her eldest daughter got married. And that's how I have an uncle and a c...
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Wooow haha we will see if I am up to a third and what this pregnancy does to me ahahaha
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Woohoo! Time to stock up on Advil and back pain medication for when they're a toddler
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Wow kudos to her! My mom already thought I was a geriatric pregnancy for my first at 28 -_-
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Me too! I want to see how they're growing every month ahaha
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Same! I was 30 and 32, but then we decided we’re two and through.
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I got so used to the idea that it's not a sure thing and might take a long time im kind of horrified (in a good way) it was this fast
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I'm so happy it worked out this fast - but terrified too hahaha
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I used clear blue too! Worked like a charm
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Oh wow that's so interesting
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Haha I don't know- sometimes I wake up with a stiff back and sore neck after sleeping off angle - maybe geriatric isn't that wrong of a term for me hahaha
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Yes and doctors are really on top of it these days right? I hope?
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Totally. I’m 35 and got married this summer. I was so nervous it would take us forever to conceive… instead I started getting my first pregnancy symptoms before we even got home from our two week honeymoon. Apparently one try is all it took. We aren’t that old after all :). So happy for you!!
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I'm 37 and my doctor said she doesn't consider anything over 40 to be advanced maternal age anymore.
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I was pregnant at 37, gave birth at 38 and they never used the term geriatric
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Yeah! I realize this post is totally pure and true to your world experience but my gut reaction is to be totally offended reading it Super happy for you, you got this!
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I have a couple of friends from high school that became grandmas before I had my youngest, lol.
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Seconda gravida, lol? First was at 38. My doctors have luckily not used these terms or I might just start wearing a gray wig and a cane to all my appts.
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A million percent!!!
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RIGHT
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I agree ! I still remember when a young mother was asking me about what was going to do about stretch marks and why wasn’t I applying any cream during pregnancy? My answer I didn’t care ! And guess what I didn’t get stretch marks ! Also I remember my mom wanting me to wear the maternity belt after delivery to lose bell...
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I'm in my bumper group on reddit which is nice, but don't do FB. I imagine FB mom groups to be like 7/8th grade clicks and petty nonsense. I couldn't handle the petty clicks of 7th grade girls when I was an actual 7th grader, and my tolerance is definitely lower now. But setting boundaries with confidence is easy as...
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Those "advanced maternal age" and "geriatric pregnancy" labels are kind of funny. My third baby's due date was 3 days after my 35th birthday, and all of my kids were born on the early side. So I was considered advanced maternal age even though I was 34 for the entire pregnancy right up through delivery at 39 weeks. ...
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I was a few months under 35 when I had my daughter but opted to do the genetic screening anyway. My insurance covered it. It's way less invasive now, it's just a blood test. I don't know if it's still true, but it used to be more women under 35 had babies with genetic defects than over 35.
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My older kids are 20, 18 and 16, and my little one is now 5. If it wasn't for my late arrival, I would be in a very different place in my life. I have no complaints!!
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See an Mfm. My MFM cleared me for 12-18months instead of 18-24mm rns based on my age.
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Sorry just saw this! My fertility clinic said 6 months after birth I can try again (I had an emergency c section). I also went to a new OB (just couldnt go back to old practice after everything that happened with my labor) and he agreed that I could start trying again. Am I nervous to try again so soon, yes, but no pr...
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My mum was still having kids at 38. I don’t think it was unusual. I had my first at 32 and second at 37. He’s ten months old now. Pregnancy was a bit harder the second time but I don’t think that was an age thing - it was just different. I was a lot sicker, for example. Still healthy though. The second labour was awe...
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I'm wishing you an easy pregnancy, labor and delivery and a healthy baby.
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It’s going to fly by!! I was almost 12 weeks pregnant last year this time. Now my baby is 5 months!!!
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Lol! I mean… truth. Today I was the dead walking as I got my crazy pre-tot ready for the day before going to work FT and thought… is it me?? Am I old?? But there’s something about a Dr telling you you’re geriatric that just makes those hormones surge!
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Yes, there is a big age gap between husband and aforementioned BIL, he was born in 2010 and even then they monitored her more closely being of "advanced maternal age" (such a stupid term lol). Congratulations and best wishes for a happy and healthy pregnancy!
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Yep,I was 38/39 showing my pregnancy, and when I asked my doctor if she had any concerns about my age she laughed and said "oh please, that's nothing these days." She also mentioned that her oldest patient at the time - not oldest patient ever, just at the time - was 47.
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When I was pregnant with my youngest (at 42) my OB told me she had 4 first time moms that were 45.
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* under 40 I think you mean
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I had two kids under 35 and the doctor was like ‘sure you’ll fit in a few more. See you in 2-4 years’ at my 6 week post partum check. She had 4 kids.
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I turned 37 a few days after my son was born (first and maybe only?) and my midwife said I "labored beautifully." I did have a gentle induction but then I progressed normally and did it without any kind of drugs. I'm hoping we have a second but I am a little anxious about being even more exhausted due to being 39 now...
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They used “advanced maternal age” with me!
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I am 37 and I just had my first 11 weeks ago. My OBGYN was 39 when she had her first so she used the term quite affectionately.
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Love this reply!!!
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Yup, exactly. Didn’t care about stretch marks, I breastfed and didn’t care who saw my tiddy while feeding my baby, cloth diapered and didn’t care who said it was dumb and we’d never follow through with it, saw other moms doing the complete opposite of me and also… I didn’t care and I was happy for them for having their...