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7,313,101 | mommit | I've done it lol. I thought I was the only one. |
7,313,102 | mommit | Omg that’s genius |
7,313,103 | mommit | Thought I was the only one who did this! |
7,313,104 | mommit | Genius |
7,313,105 | mommit | Nothing trumps new car smell than chicken nugget scent. |
7,313,106 | mommit | I almost don't want to even say this...but I feel as though I should, and you do what you want with the info. Have you ever seen a dirty cabin air / pollen filter? It holds lots of gross dirt, dust, leaves, and at worst, I've seen dead bugs and rats nests in them. So air being pushed through that filter circulates thro... |
7,313,107 | mommit | Not a mom but I used to have a car where I could tuck the top of the French fry/chicken nugget container into the vent and it would hold it there at a angle and shoot cold air directly into it. I think it was a Jetta? I look back on that time fondly! |
7,313,108 | mommit | Yep!!! Been there done that lol |
7,313,109 | mommit | Remembering this life hack for future days! |
7,313,110 | mommit | I’m laughing so hard at this. My SO and I sometimes hold the pack of fries out the window to cool them off if they’re too hot and the toddler is ravenous |
7,313,111 | mommit | I didn’t but I will now! |
7,313,112 | mommit | I was about to say I prefer the open window, hand outside, to cool them off... |
7,313,113 | mommit | Creative |
7,313,114 | mommit | I've lost a few this way. Haha |
7,313,115 | mommit | My dad and I also used the nugget out the window method and I can't say I wouldn't do it for my own child when she gets old enough lol |
7,313,116 | mommit | I’m a nice mom, but I still do that. I never thought of sticking it in the vents. |
7,313,117 | mommit | > "fancy day" > "smoosh waffle fries parallel lines into the vents" uhhh... |
7,313,118 | mommit | Builds character |
7,313,119 | mommit | That doesn't help much if it's 100*F with 98% humidity outside. |
7,313,120 | mommit | When I was 41 weeks, my doctor and I decided together (for many reasons) that I needed a c section. I got to the hospital and a nurse id never met and who didn’t know my history told me it “made her so sad” that I “didn’t even want to try to induce labor and deliver naturally”. She said this to me multiple times - li... |
7,313,121 | mommit | I need to vent about the c-sections mean you aren't a real mom crowd. My mom brags about how she almost died giving birth to me because she refused to have a c-section. She was in labor for way too long and the doctor told her we both wouldn't survive if she didn't relent. They eventually pulled out abortion tools and ... |
7,313,122 | mommit | High five to the queer Moms also!!! |
7,313,123 | mommit | As a mom to an egg donor conceived person, shout out to us too (realize this fits under adoption, but always happy to shout out). I feel like anyone is a mom who feels a familial/motherly love towards a child and takes care of that child in some way, whether it's planning how to bury and/or honor the child (born or u... |
7,313,124 | mommit | It’s pretty complicated for some of these. My father’s wife is emphatically not my step mom and therefore is emphatically nowhere even close to being my mom. She’s like 15 years older than me and is a wretched bitch to me. |
7,313,125 | mommit | This is interesting, and I mean no disrespect by this but i'm genuinely curious on people's thoughts. If a miscarriage makes you a mom (which makes sense) then wouldn't an abortion make you a mom as well? |
7,313,126 | mommit | This made me cry. Thanks OP. |
7,313,127 | mommit | Yes!!! And the OAD moms!! However many kids you have, you are a “real” mom! |
7,313,128 | mommit | I had my first bio daughter earlier this year, but I had become a mom years prior to that when my stepdaughter and I found each other through my SO. Both girls bring me more joy and love than I have ever known. Thank you OP for posting this and including step moms as real moms. |
7,313,129 | mommit | I wish I could convince my wife of some of these. She feels a lot of guilt over her emergency C section and some of the health issues it "caused" out boy. It's 10 months later but it still bothers her every day. Has anyone experienced similar feelings? What was your road to recovery like? Or not even recovery but not f... |
7,313,130 | mommit | I didn’t know there WAS such a thing as “C-Section shaming!” Wow. I’m trying to figure out how this started. I do know that 22 years ago, when I was pregnant with my first child, supposedly some women were getting “elective” C-sections. The story was that medical malpractice insurance companies actually WANTED doctors... |
7,313,131 | mommit | The last one. And I love this chart! Though there is the obvious biological definition, I firmly believe being a mother is a state-of-mind, regardless of any physical requirements. Love is what makes a mother. I hear horrible stories of abused/neglected children who grow up and refuse to call their toxic parents "M... |
7,313,132 | mommit | Can i ask a question about tube feeding? My friends baby is tube fed and I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable but I was curious. Why does the tube go in the nose and not in the stomach? |
7,313,133 | mommit | I think that’s ridiculous. I’d rather have my baby safe and like regardless if you have a C-section or not, there is a tiny human you created and birthed and now take care for the rest of your life…how is that not the definition of motherhood? |
7,313,134 | mommit | I agree with the sentiment, but disagree with the wording of this post, specifically the word, “make”. Once you conceive or adopt a child (however that happens) you’re a mom. Nothing can change that once it happens, there’s no going back. Maybe a better wording would be something like “you’re not a bad/less of a mom if... |
7,313,135 | mommit | I have a problem with people renting someone else’s womb to make a baby. It’s exploitation and frequently takes advantage of impoverished women. |
7,313,136 | mommit | [deleted] |
7,313,137 | mommit | I agree except for step-mom, adoption, foster mom. Also miscarriage I don't think makes the mom cut because you never had a child to be the mother of, just a fetus which isn't a child yet. |
7,313,138 | mommit | "Induce labour" "Deliver naturally" Ok, so some kinds of medical interventions are shameful and some aren't. Got it. |
7,313,139 | mommit | I had a nurse tell me 36 hours after my son was born by an emergency C-section after failed vaginal with forceps, vacuum and an episiotomy that I was bad mom and starving my son because my milk hadn’t come in yet. She said by 36 hours she could squirt her milk across the room and that I was doing everything wrong and ... |
7,313,140 | mommit | Holy crap! Did she ever apologize? |
7,313,141 | mommit | This lady works in a hospital?!?! Maybe should leave this job - clearly not suited to do it |
7,313,142 | mommit | Wow. That’s awful. I was induced and tried to have my daughter vaginally, but I would not dialate past a 5. I was so mad at myself and my body for not being able to give birth like a ‘real woman’. But realized later that I was so strong and an amazing woman for doing what I had to, to bring my little girl into the wor... |
7,313,143 | mommit | I’m extremely sensitive and can get pissed in under a second. I’d unleash an exorcist level of vulgarity. |
7,313,144 | mommit | there is nothing natural about induced labor. I'm really sorry someone did that to you |
7,313,145 | mommit | I’m a new mom and this blows my mind. I had never heard of c-section “shaming” until recently. I was a c-section baby—it was very traumatic for my mom and the healing process is brutal. How does that not make you a mom? People are idiots! Edit: Redundant |
7,313,146 | mommit | I would've died without a c-section (severe pre-e and HELLP). Insane that people see death as the viable alternative. But planned c-sections are just as valid as unplanned ones. That's the whole sentence. No need to justify a choice or decision like that. |
7,313,147 | mommit | Is it possible that your mom feels guilty or scared about how dangerous that was and has changed the narrative to make herself the hero instead of the endangerer? To make it a story of pride instead of fear? That’s the only way I can make myself understand the anti-c-section crowd. Why would anyone care what other peo... |
7,313,148 | mommit | My baby would’ve died without a c-section so I wouldn’t have gotten to be a mother to a live baby at all. Some people are stupid. |
7,313,149 | mommit | > c-sections mean you aren't a real mom crowd What? Are those real? |
7,313,150 | mommit | I've had 2 vaginal births and frankly, not having to recover from CUTTING YOUR BODY OPEN AND TAKING A HUMAN OUT seems like an easier option. Although my tear may argue otherwise lol. I CANNOT imagine dismissing the pain and sacrifice a c-section mom has to go through with recovery too. This is no constest. We are all ... |
7,313,151 | mommit | I can not wrap my mind around other moms shaming someone for a c-section. Like… do you feel so small about your own life that THAT is something you’re going to grasp onto to make yourself feel superior??? When I hear about these gatekeepers I can’t help but pity them. Their insecurities are on full display. |
7,313,152 | mommit | I was an emergency c section baby. My mom suffered greatly because the doctors fucked up. My friend has to have c sections because she has a clotting problem. She’s had all three of her kids that way and the 4th one will also be a scheduled c section. She’s a wonderful mom. While yes I was scared of having a c section ... |
7,313,153 | mommit | People like your mom blow my mind. I would rather have an alive mom than a mom who cared more about the trophy no one gives you for having a “real” birth. What kind of logic is that? Your birth plan and birthing experience is not more important than a life, whether it be the mom’s or the child’s. Fuck anyone who thinks... |
7,313,154 | mommit | Me to everybody: bitch. If you use a rice cooker or a pot, it’s still rice, right?! Well then sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up or get the fuck out. Cause unless this is your vagina you got too much vested interest about what’s coming out of it. Do you wanna know what’s been going in too? I can fucking tell you th... |
7,313,155 | mommit | Here here! |
7,313,156 | mommit | I think this meme is more about not excluding someone from the “mom club” due to circumstances. Not every stepparent plays a parent role, but being a step-parent isn’t a reason to tell someone who is parenting that they aren’t “a real mom”. |
7,313,157 | mommit | My sister is my nephews mom despite not having come in to his life until he was 8, his bio mom lives in another country and hasn’t seen him in years. I’m sorry you’ve hade such a shite experience and I would agree that she is indeed not your mom but I think some step moms certainly can be. |
7,313,158 | mommit | [deleted] |
7,313,159 | mommit | I don't think a miscarriage, no matter how wanted the pregnancy, counts as being a mother. That's why it's so sad. You were on that path when it ended early and you have to grieve the loss. Lots of women want to be mothers but have miscarriages and that isn't any consolation. |
7,313,160 | mommit | I had a really hard time coping with my emergency c-section too. Everytime I got to feeling guilty, I had to tell myself that if I hadn't gotten the c-section then my baby would've died. My husband had to constantly tell me that I made that choice because I'm a good mom and I chose the baby's life over what I wanted. ... |
7,313,161 | mommit | For tube feeding theirs many types and through the nose is one, it goes in the nose, down the esophagus to the stomach. |
7,313,162 | mommit | My son had an Ng tube (nasal) for his first three months of life. In our case, he had an Ng tube placed because given his rate of progress with swallowing it wasn’t expected that he would need tube feedings long term. He would have had surgery to have a Gtube (directly through the abdominal wall into the stomach) place... |
7,313,163 | mommit | I agree. I have been c-section shamed ever since having the babies. I've been told I'm not a real mother. The first one was an emergency c-section. And second was planned. I couldn't breast feed. So I was shamed for that as well. |
7,313,164 | mommit | As a former Gestational Carrier I would love to tell you how not exploited I am :) |
7,313,165 | mommit | [deleted] |
7,313,166 | mommit | As does adoption. It also causes so much trauma to the adoptee, an ANY age. |
7,313,167 | mommit | A mother who gets pregnant and loses the pregnancy is still a mom. |
7,313,168 | mommit | Wait, are you saying that adopting a child doesn’t make you a mother? |
7,313,169 | mommit | Just because the baby is in the womb doesn't mean that they're not already a mom who loves their baby and would do anything to protect them. |
7,313,170 | mommit | "It makes me so sad that you don't want to have your tooth abscess dealt with naturally." |
7,313,171 | mommit | Seriously! |
7,313,172 | mommit | Dealing with ectopic pregnancy naturally = dying in appalling pain. I'll take the unnatural way thanks. (I did, my kids still have a mum) |
7,313,173 | mommit | What a jerk! I’m so sorry you went through that. |
7,313,174 | mommit | I always have to add this disclaimer of not a parent. First of all eff that nurse. That's so unnecessary and unprofessional. Especially for a first time mom who is experiencing all these changes and already has all the pressure on her (self induced or not), that's beyond hurtful of her. For your second thing, you abs... |
7,313,175 | mommit | No! But she didn’t say another word to me until after my c section - definitely no chit chat and definitely no unsolicited emotional pleas for me to be induced |
7,313,176 | mommit | I was induced and stopped progressing after 4cm. I wanted to do vaginal, but since I wasn't progressing and had just went through some intense contractions, I was ready for baby to be out! Turns out, baby's head was a bit sideways, so vaginal probably wasn't going to work out anyway, but I still find myself thinking, ... |
7,313,177 | mommit | Define natural. |
7,313,178 | mommit | Right? It's wild. I would say over the half the time when I say I had a c-section the immediate reaction is some sort of mom contest where the other person tells me about how terrible their labor was and how their lady bits are destroyed and on and on, followed by how lucky I was to not go through that. Or even worse, ... |
7,313,179 | mommit | Yeah. My first was an emergency c-section which people knew and I still got the comments from family about how sad it was to not get to experience real birth. Like what? The planned c-sections mostly just get this weird shocked reaction from people like as though I'm skipping all of the hard parts or don't care enough ... |
7,313,180 | mommit | My mom suffers from BPD and very much turns any negative about her parenting into a positive. I don't have contact with her. But in this instance I think people had her so pumped up about vaginal birth because my aunt had a c-section and they didn't think it was a "real" way to have a baby. Everyone always just agreed ... |
7,313,181 | mommit | Oh they are very real. I think I might get a concentrated population of them though because I'm in Texas. |
7,313,182 | mommit | there seems to be a huge amount of people who seem to think anyone making different choices than they make are bad and therefore will sya whatever shit they can come up with to unvalidate other people. Csection shaming sucks. |
7,313,183 | mommit | Seriously I wanted to avoid a csection because I have HAD open abdominal surgery and I could think of nothing I wanted less than to care for an infant after having major abdominal surgery. I have MAD respect for csection moms. |
7,313,184 | mommit | Seriously! I’ve had 2 vaginal births (1 traumatic with preeclampsia and an easy planned induction) and I could not imagine recovering from major surgery with a new baby. I legit begged them to use a vacuum in a last ditch effort to avoid an emergency C with my first. C section moms are incredibly strong, whether planne... |
7,313,185 | mommit | I feel you. I used to hate creating waves but now I'm fine with making whole oceans over stuff like this. |
7,313,186 | mommit | I completely agree. But it’s also complicated. Because that woman calls herself my mom. Fuuuuuuuuuck that. |
7,313,187 | mommit | Right. “Can be” is the operative phrase. The meme doesn’t have that nuance (because memes don’t have nuance ever) and simply states being a step mom makes you a mom. It just doesn’t work that way. That’s my point. And I have a dear friend who raises her step son the way your sister has, and the bio mom is a total wreck... |
7,313,188 | mommit | Thank you for responding. I just want her to feel better, but in wanting that sometimes I get overwhelmed or frustrated. So it's helpful hearing your story and the time it took to recover. It's hard being sad with her and supporting her without trying to fix it (a constant struggle with me), but I don't want to treat t... |
7,313,189 | mommit | Ahhh, that makes sense. Why cut a hole in the stomach if you don't have to. Thanks! |
7,313,190 | mommit | I didn’t say it was. |
7,313,191 | mommit | Am I dumb or is this sarcasm? |
7,313,192 | mommit | I am so sorry you had to deal with this. 41 weeks is dangerous territory for the placenta and your doc did what was best for you and your baby. That lunatic needs to find a new job. |
7,313,193 | mommit | Unfortunately my baby was trying to come out but my body wasn’t allowing it. So if I had waited longer, it would have put my baby in danger. I wish it would have been different. But next baby I’m definitely trying for a VBAC!!! |
7,313,194 | mommit | the point is that the nurse was shaming her for not having a "natural" birth when what she meant was a vaginal birth. By definition inducing labor is in and of itself not a natural birth. Nurse has an image in her head of what "acceptable" labor looks like and so she defined that as the "natural" and "best" option. It'... |
7,313,195 | mommit | I can’t believe people actually say this to you! C-sections sound terrible, more power to you for having to go through that! There is no end to stupid comments from people. I have an IVF baby and the amount of ignorant people I run into is too much. I called myself a mom when we had embryos and I wasn’t even pregna... |
7,313,196 | mommit | My first was an emergency c-section because she was in distress because my contractions were so intense and close together (that’s what they think they don’t even know for sure). When I was still in the hospital after she was born the lactation consultant was like “oh you’d probably be a good candidate for a VBAC if yo... |
7,313,197 | mommit | That is so wild that it is/was such a widespread opinion! If a baby was born, there was a birth |
7,313,198 | mommit | Also in Texas. I heard a lot of this when I was pregnant and somehow these same people tell me what a trooper I am after hearing the full story about 30 hours of labor, 2 epidurals and a c-section. As if my consideration of a scheduled c-section from the beginning wasn't warranted but once I'd been through hell it was ... |
7,313,199 | mommit | For what it’s worth, I had two c-sections after previously having abdominal surgery. The recovery got progressively easier. I’m not sure why…probably from already having severed nerves there? I’ve read similar anecdotes from other multiple c-section mothers. |
7,313,200 | mommit | Yup. I have never been so trigger happy, but pregnancy hormones got me ready to start wars. |
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