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#[Be Civil](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/about/rules/).
Please review our [FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq) for more information. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | SnausageFest | reddit |
NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.
They need to start behaving like appreciative guests. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | riblz11 | reddit |
You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | OnlyInQuebec9 | reddit |
WTF dang these people are entitled AF.
I'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | loveisrespectS2 | reddit |
Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not bac... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | V-838 | reddit |
u/OnlyInQuebec9 you need to tell your wife this!!! They are bullying her, they were bullying her to begin with and they (and your wife) are now gaslighting her. Your daughter has a right to feel safe in her own home and your wife is contributing to taking that away from her. NTA. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | giantbrownguy | reddit |
>Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there
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This is it. They are extremely disrespectful and hugely entitled to think they can waltz into OP's house ... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | loveisrespectS2 | reddit |
She’s already in the r/JustNoSO camp. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | RogueDIL | reddit |
Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | HRHArgyll | reddit |
I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | A_Magical_Potato | reddit |
Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Tortoiseshell007 | reddit |
Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | LuckOfTheDevil | reddit |
And if OP's wife pitches a fit, she can go with them. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | woodwitchofthewest | reddit |
Tell Zoey that not only does she have you, but the whole internet supports her! | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | CobaltEchos | reddit |
This whole situation makes me sick. u/OnlyInQuebec9 has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some re... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | GoodWorms | reddit |
"...if your wife has a problem with that - she can drive them there."
Actually, if the wife has a problem with it she should move out with them. She is just as abusive as they are, and to her own daughter at that! | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | MrsMurphysCow | reddit |
> Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home.
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They are definitely DARVO-ing. Deny, Attack, Reverse,Victim, Offender. Typical abuser tactics. NTA btw | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | dogGirl666 | reddit |
I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | BretTheShitmanFart69 | reddit |
It's already too late, if they've gotten any mail it'd take months to force them out using the law. Luckily most people don't know that, and would just leave if OP/wife insisted. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Thegrumbliestpuppy | reddit |
"she can drive them there"
She can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | ChariotKoura | reddit |
OP should also round everyone up and warn them that Sammy's gone if he finds that lock tampered with at all. It might be a long shot, but I wouldn't trust the other adults in this situation given how opposed they were to the lock and it would probably be a good idea to get out in front of them and draw a line before an... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | WashedUpRiver | reddit |
And stay with them | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | CeelaChathArrna | reddit |
I would take Sammy aside, personally, and tell him your intentions. You are NOT going to live in a hostile home, you are also NOT calling his daughters thieves and judging their character.
"I'm not going to tolerate you undermining me in front of my family. I get you're going through tough times right now and I am tr... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | bimmy2shoes | reddit |
No surprise really why the BIL is divorced. Interesting that the girls went with him instead of staying with their Mom isn't it? | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Special-Parsnip9057 | reddit |
I actually wanted to edit my post to say exactly this re not surprising that BIL is divorced. He's raised and enabled two spoiled brats that's for sure. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | loveisrespectS2 | reddit |
My guess is that either the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want, or mom said no way because she is tired of their crap & is no longer legally obligated to house them anymore | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | EndlessWanderer316 | reddit |
Or she just wants her make-up to herself. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Matriarch2020 | reddit |
Lol that too. OP should tell them to “borrow” wife’s makeup since she feels so strongly about making these leeches happy | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | EndlessWanderer316 | reddit |
This sounds familiar; my mom's friend got divorced bc her hubby was sleeping around and she got the house and custody of the kids. Well. Eventually, with weekends at dad's, they realized they could get away with a lot of bullshit. They eventually, one at a time, decided they wanted to run away to daddy's. Well, kids go... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | ridandelous | reddit |
>...the daughters chose dad because he gives them everything they want...
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And very likely the same reason brother chose sister to move in with. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | shingdao | reddit |
Totally agree!! And the worst part is that Zoey’s Mom doesn’t see just what a bunch of ungrateful jerks they are. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Special-Parsnip9057 | reddit |
It sounds like she's cut from the same cloth as her brother and his brats. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | LadyReika | reddit |
I know. I’m hoping that this is simply a matter of falling into old habits from childhood and that she can be reasoned with if she thinks she is being abusive. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Special-Parsnip9057 | reddit |
This is the kind of thing that starts to end a marriage. Op is going to start to see the little things his wife does that bug him are not changeable because her whole side of the family is like this. Some things you can’t unsee bro. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | drongo_congo | reddit |
It really is amazing that OPs daughter turned out so well with a mother like this. Hopefully this is some kind of mental break on her part and she hasn’t always been this abusive towards her own daughter. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | MrsMayhem17 | reddit |
Either Mom insisted on too many rules for their taste, or -- since they are 18 and no longer legally her responsibility -- she decided to be done with the little thieves.
That is honestly the ONLY reasons I can think of why they would opt to live with their homeless father and be homeless themselves. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Effective_Put_7604 | reddit |
Oh, no!! I missed that they're 18. I thought they were 12 or 13, because that's how they act. They are straight-up bullying their younger cousin! I'd kick em out, too, if I were their mom. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Foreign_Astronaut | reddit |
I agree- and here’s another reason- he lets them have whatever they want, even if it’s not theirs. So why wouldn’t they go with him? They pretty much have carte blanche to do what they want. So if they stick with him they get more stuff. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Special-Parsnip9057 | reddit |
Hard to have stuff when you're homeless and couch surfing.
Which is why they're stealing from their cousin. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Effective_Put_7604 | reddit |
Exactly what I mean! They are acting like they have been deprived for a long time and have arrived at an Oasis. And don’t care who they hurt. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Special-Parsnip9057 | reddit |
Agreed. I wonder if his sister is scared of him and is or has been intimidated by him. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | LaylaBird65 | reddit |
The SIL probably was being abused just as much as Zoey is. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | MrsMurphysCow | reddit |
Exactly my thinking about falling into old childhood habits. Habits is not a great word for that, but whether it was good or bad it’s the devil she knows and the only “normal” she knows so that’s why she probably isn’t really seeing it for what it is. I hope OP will show her these replies. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Special-Parsnip9057 | reddit |
And they can take the wife with them | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Prestigious_Fruit267 | reddit |
I’d be booking into a marriage counseling for sure. That or drafting up a divorce.
Kids come first. That’s the sacrifice you (are meant to) make when you have them.
It’s not saving face with your family, tolerating your shitty brother, or enabling his shitty kids.
It’s your kid’s happiness and wellbeing.
... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | NoxTempus | reddit |
Seriously, every last one of them but OP and Zoey have a level of entitlement I literally can’t even comprehend.
The most bizarre part for me is how they all seem to not know about this little thing called *KNOCKING ON DOORS*?!?!? As if having a lock means someone outside the room, like, has NO WAY to communicate tha... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | ranchojasper | reddit |
Here's something else to consider: depending location and other variables, it may not be just that easy, and OP may have to legally evict BIL if things get contentious. This is a nightmare waiting to happen. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | HoodieGalore | reddit |
Sammy is about to bring down a second marriage, what a train wreck of a dude | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Jengaleng422 | reddit |
They're now using emotional abuse to punish your daughter and you for enforcing her boundaries. Remind your daughter that she is in the right, and that in enforcing her personal boundaries, she's got nothing to lose except bad relationships. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | anm313 | reddit |
It makes me wonder if his wife’s whole family is like this and her “normal meter” is broken. Especially if her brother has done this to her their whole lives. Not an excuse, but maybe an explanation. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | enameledkoi | reddit |
My family is made up of codependents and enablers and I do alright with myself until they are around but when I am around them having boundaries is out the door. They do not respect them or acknowledge them and they will bully me until I give them up. It could be 100% her family triggering this response in the wife. I ... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | nicannkay | reddit |
I am also looking at this and wondering if OP is codependent. His wife sounds toxic. I came to the realization of how messed up my childhood was when I started to think about the shit that happened to me happening to my daughter and I was like, “no fucking way.” It was an eye opener for me to think that I never would ... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | IPetdogs4U | reddit |
I was about to disagree with you, until I realized that this dude is posting here wondering if he screwed up. Either he's in a shit storm and needs some positive reinforcement to give him the strength to continue doing what's right ... or, he's codependent and genuinely can't tell if he should be taking this or not. I ... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Self_Reddicating | reddit |
This is fantastic advice. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | quippers | reddit |
Hi I'd literally just like to repeat something you wrote as it's so important. Enforcing her personal boundaries gives her nothing to lose except bad relationships. NTA op, you are not just looking after your daughter short term, you are modelling useful behaviour to her later in life. Does your wife want your daughter... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | magog12 | reddit |
If thats how they act towards your daughter for not wanting all her stuff stolen, they should go, it has been long enough. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | awhiled | reddit |
Doing what's right is often the hardest thing. Keep at it.
Also, it may have been said elsewhere but sharing makeup, especially eye make up is a big no no. It can lead to infections or warts so that should be shut down immediately even between the sisters. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Bun_Bunz | reddit |
Exactly! Styes, pink eye and many more things are transferred between users of make up, also hair brushes with lice and such. It is not healthy. This is important and I agree that you should mention to your wife that her behavior is questionable not being on your daughters side.
I would just have a talk with BIL a... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | neverclearone | reddit |
It’s time to kick them out. They have no right to dictate ANYTHING in your home. If they want to use guilt and manipulation tactics they can do it in a hotel. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | VeryStickyPastry | reddit |
i have a feeling he is going to need to call the police to get them out... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | lastdazeofgravity | reddit |
If they are eating w/o you, are they buying their own food? Or your food? Coz I'd sit down and set some limits on what these freeloaders should be funding to live in your home. Hey, everyone shares, right? Dang, I think I'd sit right down and grab a plate and start eating whatever they made. This is ridiculous, OP... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | NCKALA | reddit |
doubt they are buying thier own food, probably uses the wife to do it. If they are living with OP for free, i dont think they spend money on food, if its food is cheaps stuff like fast food. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | NA | reddit |
Tell your enabling wife and BiL that borrowing stuff requires asking permission first. Simply walking in and taking is theft. Then walk in to their room and permanently borrow the $60 to buy your daughter a replacement set of makeup. Give the ruined set to the cousins. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | ICWhatsNUrP | reddit |
Throw the ruined palette in the TRASH. The cousins should NOT profit off of their theft! | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | littlegingerfae | reddit |
They don't want it. They used her makeup as a power move. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | cbcfan | reddit |
How dare they guilt trip a 16 year old for wanting to keep her own property safe. One is 18 which means she's legally an adult too! | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Auroraburst | reddit |
Well they're twins so I'm pretty sure they're both 18. 😆 | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | littlegreenapples | reddit |
Whoops i missed that bit! | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Auroraburst | reddit |
I figured, it just made me giggle a lot! | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | littlegreenapples | reddit |
Op you are NTA and you're being a really good Dad here. When Zoey is an adult and gets to choose what kind of relationship she has with her parents- she's going to remember her Dad taking her feelings seriously and protecting her. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | LobotomyxGirl | reddit |
she'll remember which parent took her seriously and protected her during the divorce too. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | sixtytwosixtyseven | reddit |
That's why I though, too -- took BIL 10 months to achieve first results on his path to ruin marriage #2. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | CountVonTroll | reddit |
Oooh very true. This could 100% end their marriage. Its a very serious issue and it seems like its simmering right now. Whatever next step OP takes is a risk. If his wife stays on her brothers side, thats it, marriage over. No parent who cares about their child should back down against abusers. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Dadbotany | reddit |
If this was happening at my house, that’s exactly where it would be heading. Child abuse will never be something I accept from my husband. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | MrsMayhem17 | reddit |
By the sounds of it, it's about the only positive thing going on. Poor girl probably feels like an alien in her own house. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | space_keeper | reddit |
Yes, THIS!!! | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Contrariwisey | reddit |
Absolutely NTA and to tag on this to make sure you see it. Tell your wife and nieces that sharing make-up is unhealthy. It can give rashes, develope exhema, if they swap eyemake-up as well it can cause pink-eye and other nasty infections. So it's also a healthrisk to share make-up as well as the plain rudeness of takin... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | vimse85 | reddit |
Good point!! I don’t share my makeup with anyone due to this. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Contrariwisey | reddit |
Especially during a global panini | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | atked | reddit |
And re: $15 set from Walmart:
She wanted to have this particular set, she set herself a goal, and she saved up for it. This wasn't just a makeup set to her, but something she had been looking forward to getting and that she had made sacrifices for. She must have been really happy when she brought it home, not because ... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | CountVonTroll | reddit |
16 is still young and is a minor who's likely to be at home for another 2-3 years depending on when how old they are during senior year.
18 can move out and start being completely independent. I think it's telling that two 18 year olds moved with their dad instead of staying with mom where they grew up.
Do the 3 of... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | walkonbi0207 | reddit |
THIS!!! I’m sorry OP but these aren’t house guests. They live with you now. Honestly it’s a matter of time before the twins bring in a couple of useless boyfriends to live with you too. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | atked | reddit |
And who will get them pregnant. Zooey will be expected to provide free babysitting of course.
Get these deadbeats out of your house NOW. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | beretbabe88 | reddit |
I have a friend who's father moved a co-workers whole family into their home and she immediately became a live in maid for every single person in that house.
Its absolutely despicable to see and I'm no longer welcome there because as soon as I saw it happening I called them out for being the lazy assholes they were bu... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | NoThyme4Raisins | reddit |
Rent and house rules. For all of them...I had actually suggested house rules for the girls and rent for the dad but by golly, you are RIGHT. 18 is old enough to get a job.
Each one of them should be paying rent independently. Anyone who can't pay can be evicted. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | mr_friend_computer | reddit |
>instead of staying with mom where they grew up.
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Kinda wonder why they aren't staying there... Maybe Mom had rules against some of their shenanigans. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | 84unicorn | reddit |
You make an excellent point. The brother-in-law and his two poorly raised kids have successfully driven a wedge between OP and his wife. What’s next?
Dollars to donuts they’ve gotten a little *too* comfy and will keep stomping on any normal boundaries until you get fed up and leave “their” home.
I’d also encourage ... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | WhatFreshHello | reddit |
If nobody wants to eat with you and Zooey, maybe you should start eating out without them. But really, it's time to start encouraging your asshole brother in law to make other arrangements. NTA | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | madpeachiepie | reddit |
And the wife can go with them. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | ClothDiaperAddicts | reddit |
Right? I seriously question why a person would side with their brother & his kids over their own child and husband. Something more is likely going on here for the wife to have more allegiance with her nieces than her own kid. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | rhet17 | reddit |
What's going on is that now wife has "permission" to be as abusive as she likes. She's probably always leaned towards abuse, but with her brother there she has the support she needs to do whatever she wants to. And she wants to be abusive. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | MrsMurphysCow | reddit |
More likely this was what was accepted in her childhood home and she is now facing dealing with it again and she is trying to be the fixer and keep the angry person pacified. She knows her husband and daughter are not going to hurt her but it's pretty obvious how her brother and his children behave. OP mentions her pla... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | LMR0509 | reddit |
At this point I'd be outright telling your BIL and nieces it's time to start respecting YOUR FAMILY in YOUR HOUSE or they have to leave. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | jayd189 | reddit |
While reminding them that NO ONE ELSE wanted to take them in. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | ValDina | reddit |
Honestly, you should say this because in reality you have a wife problem and her actions nows can have long tearm impact on her relationship with Zoe. You guys aren't providing a united front on house rules. Your wife js dismissive of your daughters items and privacy in a way she wouldn't be with her own. She's the one... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | otterknowbeter | reddit |
NTA! You are in the right! Also 60$ makeup is VERY different from 15$ makeup from Walmart. Not even compatible quality. She’s making an investment in quality items. And even if it was 15$ makeup, it would still be her property that they are stealing which is NOT right. Your daughter should be able to keep her things sa... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Contrariwisey | reddit |
Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop. | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | 84unicorn | reddit |
Yeah part of the problem is someone not understanding a quality but expensive product is worth it | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | AlanFromRochester | reddit |
NTA....and this is crazy. These people, who you generously have allowed to live in your home, are sticking their nose into your parenting and acting in a deeply disrespectful way toward you and your daughter--making your home an uncomfortable place for you and daughter. And you wife is enabling them and not supporting ... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | Seymour_Zamboni | reddit |
Tell your wife that teaching and providing boundaries and privacy for your daughter now will give her a healthy baseline for the rest of her life. No joke, this is one of the most important things you will ever teach your daughter.
Instead, Zoey's basically being taught that stealing from her is fine, she doesn't dese... | [{"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a co... | ocx94s | mer-shark | reddit |
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