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My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n​\\n\\n​\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n​\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n​\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n​\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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He sounds awesome. \n\nGood luck, OP.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.\\n\\nI strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. \\n\\nAlso, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. \\n\\nGood luck, OP. \", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm glad your other family is coming through for you, OP.</p>\\n\\n<p>I strongly suggest you still get a therapist to help you unpack the years of harm your parents did to you. </p>\\n\\n<p>Also, yay Grandpa. He sounds awesome. </p>\\n\\n<p>Good luck, OP. </p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552323151.0, \"created_utc\": 1552323151.0, \"depth\": 0, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiaciy8\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiaciy8\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaciy8/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 9612, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 9612, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}, {"content": "Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\n\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552325959.0, \"created_utc\": 1552325959.0, \"depth\": 1, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiagoqz\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiagoqz\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiaciy8\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiagoqz/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 2509, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 2509, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}]
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My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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My [original post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/) got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.\\n\\nWell, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.\\n\\nI started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \\\"supposed\\\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n​\\n\\n​\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n​\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n​\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n​\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552326552.0, "created_utc": 1552326552.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiahkav", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiahkav", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiahkav/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "sisterfunkhaus", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_bnjch", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I tried to get help on my college campus, and it was all mediocre interns who had no idea what they were doing. They were very disengaged and ineffective. I was a counseling intern once upon a time, but, b/c of my college experience, I made sure I was ready. I read and studied constantly. I watched videos of effective sessions. I kept a pad with questions and responses with me in case I blanked. If I needed help from my supervisor, I got her involved. I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552328162.0, "created_utc": 1552328162.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiajyyc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiajyyc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiahkav", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiajyyc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "bbkiti", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1rnyiv0p", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. The laws can get a bit murky on confidentiality when you are underage. \n\nI would also look into getting paperwork from your parents so you have it on hand and don\u2019t have to ask them for it down the road, such as your birth certificate and social security card. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. The laws can get a bit murky on confidentiality when you are underage. </p>\n\n<p>I would also look into getting paperwork from your parents so you have it on hand and don\u2019t have to ask them for it down the road, such as your birth certificate and social security card. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552328995.0, "created_utc": 1552328995.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eial8j1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eial8j1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiajyyc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eial8j1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Depressaccount", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1klbzx4r", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "In the meantime, OP can do journaling each day just to get all of her thoughts down ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>In the meantime, OP can do journaling each day just to get all of her thoughts down </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552333832.0, "created_utc": 1552333832.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiass43", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiass43", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eial8j1", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiass43/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 6, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 6, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 33, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 33, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "sweetrhymepurereason", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gmm2z", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Was it a State University? If so, they should have counseling centers staffed with psychiatrists and psychologists - actual doctors.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Was it a State University? If so, they should have counseling centers staffed with psychiatrists and psychologists - actual doctors.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552329316.0, "created_utc": 1552329316.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eialpwf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eialpwf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiajyyc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eialpwf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My public university is staffed by students who all tell me my lifetime of mental health issues are just me being too lazy to want to work hard in college (a competitive school that I got into in the first place???). So I'm jealous to hear most state schools actually care for their students lol.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My public university is staffed by students who all tell me my lifetime of mental health issues are just me being too lazy to want to work hard in college (a competitive school that I got into in the first place???). So I'm jealous to hear most state schools actually care for their students lol.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552342764.0, "created_utc": 1552342764.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eib64yx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eib64yx", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eialpwf", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eib64yx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Cpt_Catnip", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gt81j", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I came here to say this. I didn't start seeing a therapist until recently, but all my friends who sought mental health care on campus had only bad things to say. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I came here to say this. I didn't start seeing a therapist until recently, but all my friends who sought mental health care on campus had only bad things to say. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552333958.0, "created_utc": 1552333958.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiaszdy", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiaszdy", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiajyyc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiaszdy/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 103, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": false, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 103, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Usually they are free too or almost free because your tuition covers it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Usually they are free too or almost free because your tuition covers it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552326821.0, "created_utc": 1552326821.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiahz2b", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, 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139, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Destring", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_p8nss", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "There's like a 3 months wait on mine though.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>There's like a 3 months wait on mine though.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552333663.0, "created_utc": 1552333663.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiasie4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiasie4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiasie4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 4, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 4, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. \n\nIt didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every *therapist* I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I didn\u2019t do that, and I honestly wish I had. I had moved across the country right out of high school, to a tiny university, and I was miserable. Ended up moving back home after one semester. And I feel like going and talking to a therapist would DEFINITELY have helped me, and possibly made me feel comfortable staying. </p>\n\n<p>It didn\u2019t help that the therapist I was assigned was a man, and every <em>therapist</em> I\u2019ve ever been with has been female (my psychiatrist is male, but he\u2019s really just for medication management.) And one of my big issues is self-advocacy, so I wasn\u2019t in the right place to ask for a female therapist. Plus, he was the only ASD specialist on campus.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552335631.0, "created_utc": 1552335631.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiavln3", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiavln3", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiah6bd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiavln3/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah you have to find treatment that works for you. I recommend a therapist to anyone who needs it because sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who can objectively study you. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552336113.0, "created_utc": 1552336113.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiawcnt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiawcnt", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiavln3", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiawcnt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "AedanTynnan", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_e5fw7em", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. \n\nA big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. \n\nI\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see *what* I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. But, knowing my younger self, I probably wouldn\u2019t have listened.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! My high school was great, they had actually therapists on campus. And it was really just talk therapy. She didn\u2019t do CBT, she didn\u2019t talk medication, nothing like that. It really was a space for me to talk, and then her to pose questions that I may not have thought of. </p>\n\n<p>A big issue of mine is feeling like I should be able to handle it on my own, or that I\u2019m somehow inconveniencing someone by telling them my problems. And the right therapist can almost make you feel like you\u2019re figuring it out for yourself, if that makes sense. My therapist never flat out told me \u201cthis is why you\u2019re doing that, this is what you need to do to fix that.\u201d Rather, she asked leading questions that allowed me to reach those conclusions. </p>\n\n<p>I\u2019m thinking back to therapies I did when I was like 13-15, and cringing at how closed I was to it. You know how young teenagers can be, they think they know everything; and I certainly felt that way. I\u2019m just thinking back, and I\u2019m impressed that none of the therapists choked me out. \ud83d\ude02 I think, at least in my case, the stubbornness came from the fact that I could see <em>what</em> I was doing wrong, but not understanding how to fix it. And probably conflating knowledge of the problem with knowledge of the solution. I wish I could go back and tell myself to just go in with an open mind, and do what the therapists recommend. And that they know what they\u2019re talking about. 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My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is \"supposed\" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \"caretaker\" that doesn't exist.\n\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \"making up for the time i've lost.\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\n\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \"You were put here to be her caretaker\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\n\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\n\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\n\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\n\n\u200b\n\n\u200b\n\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\n\n\u200b\n\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \n\n\u200b\n\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\n\n\u200b\n\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. 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With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a \\\"caretaker\\\" that doesn't exist.\\n\\nSuffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week \\\"making up for the time i've lost.\\\" Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.\\n\\nWell, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying \\\"You were put here to be her caretaker\\\". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.\\n\\nToday will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.\\n\\nI won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.\\n\\nSo, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.\\n\\n​\\n\\n​\\n\\nEdit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.\\n\\n​\\n\\nLate edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. \\n\\n​\\n\\nWe just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.\\n\\n​\\n\\nThank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. See you space cowboy's :)\", \"selftext_html\": \"<!-- SC_OFF --><div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>I'm back like I said I would be,. My <a href=\\\"https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/awyi8k/aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap_sister/\\\">original post</a> got a lot of attention and seeing as you guys seem interested, here's my update.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, since that day I made the post i've been staying with my grandfather. The week's been honestly a huge change for me for better and for worse but i'll try to run it down.</p>\\n\\n<p>I started by telling my grandpa the story of why I broke down the way I did and to be honest, he seemed horrified. No one in my family knew my parents were using me as essentially a free care service for my sister. My grandpa told me some things that I don't feel comfortable repeating here but in essence my sister is "supposed" to be getting care from a professional and that my parents were ignoring that, along with this I was not supposed to be caring for her at all with her mental state as apparently she is a danger to herself and others. With everything else I told him, along with stuff like the movie indecent he was really mad and told me to not contact my parents without him there. He pretty much told me that he would be meeting with my parents beforehand and that he was going to be there when I sat down with them. It didn't end here either, the rest of the week consisted of other family checking in on me and telling me things my parents hid from me. This included the fact that my parents have been taking money from family to fund a "caretaker" that doesn't exist.</p>\\n\\n<p>Suffice to say, this week has been rough. But, the upside is that even through all this, my extended family has been giving me more love than i've felt in a while. My grandfather spent this last week "making up for the time i've lost." Encouraging me to spend time with friends and do things I want to do. My aunts and uncles have also been helping me through the week.</p>\\n\\n<p>Well, Saturday night I sat down with parents to talk. It went badly to say the least. They came clean to me about everything. They told me things I will not repeat here. But they did not apologize. My parents still claim that I some how owed my sister my time. My father even saying "You were put here to be her caretaker". I won't lie and say I was composed. After everything i learned I confronted them. On the fact that my sister needed a caretaker. The money my dad was taking from his sister, and a few other things. They denied it or made excuses. And in the end, we ended off in a worse place than before.</p>\\n\\n<p>Today will be my last time talking to them for a while. After talking with my grandfather and uncle last night, I'm not going back. Later today i'm going there and picking up my stuff and moving in with my grandfather. When I graduate high school i'm planning on leaving the state to go to school. My aunt has told me that the money she was sending my dad will be instead be coming to me from now on. My parents have called me twice since Saturday, neither of them were to apologize and only ask when I was coming home.</p>\\n\\n<p>I won't be going back to them. Right now I still feel pretty uneasy about everything but I feel like that will pass. The rest of my family is showing their support to me and honestly, it feel great. But in the end I lost my parents. Over all of this, i've learned something that I wished I saw earlier. I don't hat my sister. In fact I love her with all my heart. I should never have never projected my hate onto her. That was wrong, and someday I hope to make up for it. But for now I need to leave.</p>\\n\\n<p>So, there's my update. Thanks again for the support my original post got. I really appreciate everyone who took the time to comment or show me support. Thanks you.</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>Edit: Thank you all so much! I wish I could respond to every single one of you but my lunch only lasts so long. I'll update tonight how the move out went but until then, thank you all. I want to say that your support has been amazing and your kindness means more to me than anyone could ever imagine.</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>Late edit: Wow, I never imagined my story would reach the popularity it did. I know it's kinda cliche and i've said it a thousand times but thank you all. </p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>We just got back from moving my things out of my parents house. Every thing I wanted to take my grandpa and uncle helped move and it's at my grandpa's house now. I have my birth certificate, social security card, and every other document and record I could think of. My parents were quiet the whole time I was there. Shorty after I arrived my dad left with my sister and my mom only hovered over us silently as me moved. It took a while but as we left she broke down and told me she loved me and would miss me. I hugged her and said goodbye, and that was it. Even now I sit here and think if she really meant it. After this whole week of her not saying anything she waited till the end. I hope she meant it. Right now though, I think I just need to look ahead. Maybe one day me and my parents can reconnect. I hope so.</p>\\n\\n<p>​</p>\\n\\n<p>Thank you all for the advice and love. It's been amazing and i'm glad that through this experience I at least got some positive out of this mess. Will I come back? I don't know. If something happens and you guys still want an update i'll maybe come around again. But for now I'm going to move on. For all those out there who shared their stories with me, thank you, and I hope to see you on the other side. 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This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.\\n\\nHOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. This way, 1. you will be guaranteed confidentiality as an 18 year old, 2. you will likely be covered under a student plan that you pay for with tuition that will make therapy free, and 3. you'll have time to compose yourself when you're alone and really be able to sort out your feelings.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Yes, yes yes yes yes on the therapy.</p>\\n\\n<p>HOWEVER, I would wait until you enter a college/university to begin seeing a therapist. 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I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.", "role": "NA", "metadata": "{\"_additional_fetch_params\": null, \"_comments_by_id\": null, \"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"allow_live_comments\": null, \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"archived\": true, \"associated_award\": null, \"author\": \"NA\", \"author_cakeday\": null, \"author_flair_background_color\": \"\", \"author_flair_css_class\": null, \"author_flair_richtext\": null, \"author_flair_template_id\": null, \"author_flair_text\": null, \"author_flair_text_color\": \"dark\", \"author_flair_type\": null, \"author_fullname\": null, \"author_is_blocked\": false, \"author_patreon_flair\": null, \"author_premium\": null, \"awarders\": [], \"banned_at_utc\": null, \"banned_by\": null, \"body\": \"Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.\", \"body_html\": \"<div class=\\\"md\\\"><p>Exactly! I know that around my campus there are a bunch of mental health resources and I'm sure the same applies for pretty much most other colleges and universities-- it's safe to assume that the help will be there.</p>\\n</div>\", \"can_gild\": false, \"can_mod_post\": false, \"category\": null, \"clicked\": null, \"collapsed\": false, \"collapsed_because_crowd_control\": null, \"collapsed_reason\": null, \"collapsed_reason_code\": null, \"comment_limit\": null, \"comment_sort\": null, \"comment_type\": null, \"content_categories\": null, \"contest_mode\": null, \"controversiality\": 0, \"created\": 1552326552.0, \"created_utc\": 1552326552.0, \"depth\": 3, \"discussion_type\": null, \"distinguished\": null, \"domain\": null, \"downs\": 0, \"edited\": 0.0, \"gilded\": 0, \"gildings\": null, \"hidden\": null, \"hide_score\": null, \"id\": \"eiahkav\", \"is_created_from_ads_ui\": null, \"is_crosspostable\": null, \"is_meta\": null, \"is_original_content\": null, \"is_reddit_media_domain\": null, \"is_robot_indexable\": null, \"is_self\": null, \"is_submitter\": false, \"is_video\": null, \"likes\": null, \"link_flair_background_color\": null, \"link_flair_css_class\": null, \"link_flair_richtext\": null, \"link_flair_template_id\": null, \"link_flair_text\": null, \"link_flair_text_color\": null, \"link_flair_type\": null, \"link_id\": \"t3_azvko1\", \"locked\": false, \"media\": null, \"media_embed\": null, \"media_only\": null, \"mod_note\": null, \"mod_reason_by\": null, \"mod_reason_title\": null, \"mod_reports\": [], \"name\": \"t1_eiahkav\", \"no_follow\": false, \"num_comments\": null, \"num_crossposts\": null, \"num_reports\": null, \"over_18\": null, \"parent_id\": \"t1_eiah6bd\", \"permalink\": \"/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiahkav/\", \"pinned\": null, \"pwls\": null, \"quarantine\": null, \"removal_reason\": null, \"removed_by\": null, \"removed_by_category\": null, \"report_reasons\": null, \"saved\": false, \"score\": 139, \"score_hidden\": false, \"secure_media\": null, \"secure_media_embed\": null, \"selftext\": null, \"selftext_html\": null, \"send_replies\": true, \"spoiler\": null, \"stickied\": false, \"subreddit\": \"AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_id\": \"t5_2xhvq\", \"subreddit_name_prefixed\": \"r/AmItheAsshole\", \"subreddit_subscribers\": null, \"subreddit_type\": \"public\", \"suggested_sort\": null, \"thread_id\": null, \"thumbnail\": null, \"title\": null, \"top_awarded_type\": null, \"total_awards_received\": 0, \"treatment_tags\": [], \"unrepliable_reason\": null, \"ups\": 139, \"upvote_ratio\": null, \"url\": null, \"user_reports\": [], \"view_count\": null, \"visited\": null, \"wls\": null}"}]
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I talked to the experienced counselors on staff regularly. My point is, you have to be careful with counselors at colleges. You never know what you will have to work with. The same can be said to some extent for licensed counselors. There are good and bad ones. But, at least you can use the internet and connections to find one that is good. The last two I went to were awesome (one was marriage and one was individual.)</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552328162.0, "created_utc": 1552328162.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiajyyc", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiajyyc", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiahkav", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiajyyc/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "bbkiti", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1rnyiv0p", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. The laws can get a bit murky on confidentiality when you are underage. \n\nI would also look into getting paperwork from your parents so you have it on hand and don\u2019t have to ask them for it down the road, such as your birth certificate and social security card. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I am a counseling intern in a college, and I also encourage OP to see one when she is there and to also be aware that (intern or license) not all therapist will be a perfect match for you and not to be afraid to speak up and ask to see someone else. You can even go to the supervisor directly. The intern has to tell you that they report their cases to the supervisor anyway. That being said, there are a lot of fantastic counseling students who work their butts off to do everything they can, so deff don\u2019t write off college counseling. It is free to you because you already pay for it through tuition so you might as well check it out. And guaranteed confidentiality when you are 18. The laws can get a bit murky on confidentiality when you are underage. </p>\n\n<p>I would also look into getting paperwork from your parents so you have it on hand and don\u2019t have to ask them for it down the road, such as your birth certificate and social security card. </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552328995.0, "created_utc": 1552328995.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eial8j1", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eial8j1", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiajyyc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eial8j1/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Depressaccount", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1klbzx4r", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "In the meantime, OP can do journaling each day just to get all of her thoughts down ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>In the meantime, OP can do journaling each day just to get all of her thoughts down </p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552333832.0, "created_utc": 1552333832.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eiass43", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eiass43", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eial8j1", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eiass43/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 6, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 6, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 33, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 33, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "sweetrhymepurereason", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gmm2z", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Was it a State University? If so, they should have counseling centers staffed with psychiatrists and psychologists - actual doctors.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Was it a State University? If so, they should have counseling centers staffed with psychiatrists and psychologists - actual doctors.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552329316.0, "created_utc": 1552329316.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eialpwf", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eialpwf", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eiajyyc", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eialpwf/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "My public university is staffed by students who all tell me my lifetime of mental health issues are just me being too lazy to want to work hard in college (a competitive school that I got into in the first place???). So I'm jealous to hear most state schools actually care for their students lol.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>My public university is staffed by students who all tell me my lifetime of mental health issues are just me being too lazy to want to work hard in college (a competitive school that I got into in the first place???). So I'm jealous to hear most state schools actually care for their students lol.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1552342764.0, "created_utc": 1552342764.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "eib64yx", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_azvko1", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_eib64yx", "no_follow": true, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_eialpwf", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/azvko1/update_aita_for_despising_my_mentally_handicap/eib64yx/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 3, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 3, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Cpt_Catnip", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_gt81j", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I came here to say this. I didn't start seeing a therapist until recently, but all my friends who sought mental health care on campus had only bad things to say. ", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I came here to say this. 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