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NTA. Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a "defect" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.
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Your wife harbors someone who tells you that Zoey has a "defect" in her personality for buying an expensive make up kit, that's the kind of thing that has people thinking about divorce.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625316270.0, "created_utc": 1625316270.0, "depth": 0, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3wyf27", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3wyf27", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t3_ocx94s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3wyf27/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "WinterBee1", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_1i9zoiu", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly! As a mother myself I cannot fathom how any mother would let someone treat their child like that, even if it is family. That would have bought them a one way ticket right out my front door. If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? NTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly! As a mother myself I cannot fathom how any mother would let someone treat their child like that, even if it is family. That would have bought them a one way ticket right out my front door. If your kid can't count on you to protect them, who can they count on? NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625321212.0, "created_utc": 1625321212.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x6gdo", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x6gdo", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x6gdo/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NakedAndALaid", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [27]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4n7xgbq1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "As a parent I know I can't stop the world from saying bad things about my children. It breaks my heart but to a certain extent you have to allow it to happen so they learn how to overcome it without being destroyed. \n\nBut the idea of not only giving that person a home but defending them then *attacking* the character of the only person on their side is appalling me. Mom gets no slack cut from me on this one. She should be ashamed of herself. Good on OP.\n\nNTA", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>As a parent I know I can't stop the world from saying bad things about my children. It breaks my heart but to a certain extent you have to allow it to happen so they learn how to overcome it without being destroyed. </p>\n\n<p>But the idea of not only giving that person a home but defending them then <em>attacking</em> the character of the only person on their side is appalling me. Mom gets no slack cut from me on this one. She should be ashamed of herself. Good on OP.</p>\n\n<p>NTA</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625324503.0, "created_utc": 1625324503.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xchim", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xchim", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xchim/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Sourpatchtaby", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mjocrbs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I have someone living with me, a very close friend. And he said my 3 year old was \"Damion\" and \"defective\" because he was running around like a mad man playing. I very quickly got upset and told him not to ever call my son anything but his name ever again or he'd be living under a bridge.\n\nYou're right, as a parent you can't stop people from saying hurtful things, you can't protect them from everything, but I can protect him in his own home, and make sure the people around him who \"care\" aren't filling his head with garbage like that. Being a parent is tough but I couldn't imagine not sticking up for my own kids.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I have someone living with me, a very close friend. And he said my 3 year old was "Damion" and "defective" because he was running around like a mad man playing. I very quickly got upset and told him not to ever call my son anything but his name ever again or he'd be living under a bridge.</p>\n\n<p>You're right, as a parent you can't stop people from saying hurtful things, you can't protect them from everything, but I can protect him in his own home, and make sure the people around him who "care" aren't filling his head with garbage like that. Being a parent is tough but I couldn't imagine not sticking up for my own kids.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625327761.0, "created_utc": 1625327761.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xinhj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xinhj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xchim", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xinhj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NakedAndALaid", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#8f7312", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "db40139e-f967-11e8-b7d6-0e359a529158", "author_flair_text": "Certified Proctologist [27]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4n7xgbq1", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially in their own home! I'd hate if my children didn't want to be at the place I have made for them. I know I won't be perfect but at least I want them to know this is a safe place.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially in their own home! I'd hate if my children didn't want to be at the place I have made for them. I know I won't be perfect but at least I want them to know this is a safe place.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328602.0, "created_utc": 1625328602.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xka1w", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xka1w", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xinhj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xka1w/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Sourpatchtaby", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mjocrbs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "That's all you can do as a parent. Try and be better than our parents were, try and better than we were yesterday, and understand you're learning to be a parent like they're learning to be a child.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>That's all you can do as a parent. Try and be better than our parents were, try and better than we were yesterday, and understand you're learning to be a parent like they're learning to be a child.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329044.0, "created_utc": 1625329044.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xl4hz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xl4hz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xka1w", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xl4hz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 27, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 27, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 245, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 245, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Intoxicatedpunch", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4dkd5tdv", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I can't understand that. I lived with a friend of mine and his wife for a few months and they have 2 young boys. I helped watch them, feed them, clean up there messes etc. Were they crazy and ran around and screamed? Of course they did they are toddlers.\n\nI would never call a kid defective while I'm staying in that person's home! Thats insanity\n\nI did use to refer to the youngest as \"a little freaking gremlin\" but in a loving way", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I can't understand that. I lived with a friend of mine and his wife for a few months and they have 2 young boys. I helped watch them, feed them, clean up there messes etc. Were they crazy and ran around and screamed? Of course they did they are toddlers.</p>\n\n<p>I would never call a kid defective while I'm staying in that person's home! Thats insanity</p>\n\n<p>I did use to refer to the youngest as "a little freaking gremlin" but in a loving way</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625343144.0, "created_utc": 1625343144.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yc79s", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yc79s", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xinhj", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yc79s/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Sourpatchtaby", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2mjocrbs", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "See that I understand, I call him a little crazy monster. But I never understand how people could talk shit (for lack of a better word) to a child of any age. Toddlers a crazy and loud and just insane. You gotta know that going into living with someone lol", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>See that I understand, I call him a little crazy monster. But I never understand how people could talk shit (for lack of a better word) to a child of any age. Toddlers a crazy and loud and just insane. You gotta know that going into living with someone lol</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625345962.0, "created_utc": 1625345962.0, "depth": 5, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3yhhn4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3yhhn4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3yc79s", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3yhhn4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 10, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 10, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 14, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 14, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 773, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 773, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 1648, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 1648, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "MarquisEXB", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_59ws6", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Honestly I can understand why the wife would act that way. (Not that I agree condone it.)\n\nMy guess is the wife comes from an abusive (mentally) family where she doesn't value her own worth. It's likely the family is misogynistic, where women are to put their needs aside for the men. This would make a lot of sense given how she's devaluing her own daughter.\n\nFamily upbringing band bonds can really mess with a person, and that's clearly what's happening here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Honestly I can understand why the wife would act that way. (Not that I agree condone it.)</p>\n\n<p>My guess is the wife comes from an abusive (mentally) family where she doesn't value her own worth. It's likely the family is misogynistic, where women are to put their needs aside for the men. This would make a lot of sense given how she's devaluing her own daughter.</p>\n\n<p>Family upbringing band bonds can really mess with a person, and that's clearly what's happening here.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625325739.0, "created_utc": 1625325739.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xetkj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xetkj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xetkj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 148, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 148, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "IPetdogs4U", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3b3aac4u", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "If my spouse said this to my daughter or enabled someone who did, I\u2019d be packing our bags already. Thanks goodness there\u2019s one healthy adult in this scenario because that will make a world of difference to Zoey\u2019s mental health later in life.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>If my spouse said this to my daughter or enabled someone who did, I\u2019d be packing our bags already. Thanks goodness there\u2019s one healthy adult in this scenario because that will make a world of difference to Zoey\u2019s mental health later in life.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329613.0, "created_utc": 1625329613.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xm7lu", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xm7lu", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xm7lu/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "As a mother if someone stole from my daughter then had the audacity to blame her for having the thing in the first place, my boot would be up their ass kicking them out of my home faster than you can say \"NTA.\"", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>As a mother if someone stole from my daughter then had the audacity to blame her for having the thing in the first place, my boot would be up their ass kicking them out of my home faster than you can say "NTA."</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332229.0, "created_utc": 1625332229.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xrcdn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xrcdn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xrcdn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 13, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 13, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "brit-girl-lost", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2icqoi4p", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Plenty of parents sadly that will take the side of so called family over their own kids. One of the reasons my kids dad is now ex-husband", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Plenty of parents sadly that will take the side of so called family over their own kids. One of the reasons my kids dad is now ex-husband</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625328351.0, "created_utc": 1625328351.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xjsrz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xjsrz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xjsrz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ksarahsarah27", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_2kbx4z62", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "THIS! I asked my dad to stick up for me one time at this business that I knew was taking advantage of me (I was young at the time). My dad was to busy to be bothered. And I ended up feeling humiliated and stupid. I\u2019ve never forgotten that. \ud83d\ude1eAfter that I never counted on him for anything and never asked him for help again with stuff like that. \n\nYou know who has ALWAYS stood up for me? My boss. Yup she\u2019s a strong independent divorced woman and she\u2019s always been there for me. She\u2019s become like my second mother to me. Pretty sad if you can\u2019t count on your own parents to protect you when you\u2019re not an adult and have no power against adults. So yes, OP please continue to stand up for her and for what\u2019s right. She may not remember this incident later but she will remember it if it ends up being a horrible experience. This is a simple situation of - would you like it done to you? (someone one using your stuff without asking and abusing it). I basically grew up thinking you can\u2019t count on any man to stand up for you. Positive side is I\u2019ve never been disappointed after that because my expectations are zero.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>THIS! I asked my dad to stick up for me one time at this business that I knew was taking advantage of me (I was young at the time). My dad was to busy to be bothered. And I ended up feeling humiliated and stupid. I\u2019ve never forgotten that. \ud83d\ude1eAfter that I never counted on him for anything and never asked him for help again with stuff like that. </p>\n\n<p>You know who has ALWAYS stood up for me? My boss. Yup she\u2019s a strong independent divorced woman and she\u2019s always been there for me. She\u2019s become like my second mother to me. Pretty sad if you can\u2019t count on your own parents to protect you when you\u2019re not an adult and have no power against adults. So yes, OP please continue to stand up for her and for what\u2019s right. She may not remember this incident later but she will remember it if it ends up being a horrible experience. This is a simple situation of - would you like it done to you? (someone one using your stuff without asking and abusing it). I basically grew up thinking you can\u2019t count on any man to stand up for you. Positive side is I\u2019ve never been disappointed after that because my expectations are zero.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625334836.0, "created_utc": 1625334836.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xwe9g", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xwe9g", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x6gdo", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xwe9g/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 9, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 9, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 5036, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 5036, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "attanai", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_103291", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Exactly. OP has one job, and that's to protect his daughter. Everyone else in this situation is an adult or has someone else protecting them. If she doesn't feel dafe in her own home, OP has a right and responsibility to get her out of that situation. I wouldn't go straight for divorce, here, but it would be a wake up call for everyone involved if OP and his daughter moved out of the house for a little while. He can change rent if money is an issue, but either way, his first priority needs to be getting her out of that situation.\n\nOf course, the ideal would be getting the brother to move out, but it sounds like that's not the real issue anymore - this fight will continue long after the brother is gone. It's about trust, now. OP can't trust his wife to keep his daughter safe, and that's not going to change if the brother and his kids are no longer a threat. There will be other threats.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Exactly. OP has one job, and that's to protect his daughter. Everyone else in this situation is an adult or has someone else protecting them. If she doesn't feel dafe in her own home, OP has a right and responsibility to get her out of that situation. I wouldn't go straight for divorce, here, but it would be a wake up call for everyone involved if OP and his daughter moved out of the house for a little while. He can change rent if money is an issue, but either way, his first priority needs to be getting her out of that situation.</p>\n\n<p>Of course, the ideal would be getting the brother to move out, but it sounds like that's not the real issue anymore - this fight will continue long after the brother is gone. It's about trust, now. OP can't trust his wife to keep his daughter safe, and that's not going to change if the brother and his kids are no longer a threat. There will be other threats.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322377.0, "created_utc": 1625322377.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x8l2j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x8l2j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x8l2j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 446, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 446, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NoRedRocketToys", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_4w48c9sq", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Quite frankly, as far as makeup goes, Mac isn't even close to the most expensive. It's actually a really great brand for someone who's in their teens and looking to move past drug store brands. My first higher brand makeup kit was from Mac that my mom got me when I was like 13/14.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Quite frankly, as far as makeup goes, Mac isn't even close to the most expensive. It's actually a really great brand for someone who's in their teens and looking to move past drug store brands. My first higher brand makeup kit was from Mac that my mom got me when I was like 13/14.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323521.0, "created_utc": 1625323521.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xao10", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xao10", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xao10/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "TallandTempestuous", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_a5cptav0", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Not even just that, but the expensive brands are so much more gentle on skin. As someone with overly sensitive skin, I can only use expensive brands or I risk an allergic reaction, so I really see the value in splurging.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Not even just that, but the expensive brands are so much more gentle on skin. As someone with overly sensitive skin, I can only use expensive brands or I risk an allergic reaction, so I really see the value in splurging.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326896.0, "created_utc": 1625326896.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xh04k", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xh04k", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xao10", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xh04k/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "gottabekittensme", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_z5mou", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep! As someone who had eczema flare-ups on my eyelids, expensive makeup brands were the only ones who didn't give me the same flare-ups.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep! As someone who had eczema flare-ups on my eyelids, expensive makeup brands were the only ones who didn't give me the same flare-ups.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625333075.0, "created_utc": 1625333075.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xszn2", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xszn2", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xh04k", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xszn2/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "merchillio", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_3wtev", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I never experienced eczema, but my son is prone to it (mostly elbows and back of the knees). I winced at ready \u201ceczema flare-ups on my eyelids).", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I never experienced eczema, but my son is prone to it (mostly elbows and back of the knees). I winced at ready \u201ceczema flare-ups on my eyelids).</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338490.0, "created_utc": 1625338490.0, "depth": 4, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y3b8q", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y3b8q", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xszn2", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y3b8q/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 171, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 171, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "adventure_pup", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_18lili65", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It was my first non-drugstore brand and I remember saving up for it too. I literally still remember, clear as day, buying it with my own money for the first time. It was a life lesson bigger than just makeup tbh. I think Zoey\u2019s reaction is completely justified.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It was my first non-drugstore brand and I remember saving up for it too. I literally still remember, clear as day, buying it with my own money for the first time. It was a life lesson bigger than just makeup tbh. I think Zoey\u2019s reaction is completely justified.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329009.0, "created_utc": 1625329009.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xl255", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xl255", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xao10", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xl255/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "theSandwichSister", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_12k70q", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "I was a grown woman when I cried over my makeup palette being ruined by my toddler. Zoey showed restraint IMO.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>I was a grown woman when I cried over my makeup palette being ruined by my toddler. Zoey showed restraint IMO.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625338983.0, "created_utc": 1625338983.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y49kn", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y49kn", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xl255", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y49kn/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "XenosTrashBrigade", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_a0t9dpzd", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yes. It's kind of a milestone and the cousins ruined it.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. It's kind of a milestone and the cousins ruined it.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625335447.0, "created_utc": 1625335447.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xxjsp", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xxjsp", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xl255", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xxjsp/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 37, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 37, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Thin-White-Duke", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#3b2921", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "0f8d1b4a-f8a7-11e8-920b-0e93c922efde", "author_flair_text": "Partassipant [1]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_90hlu", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Kids these days are doing some really cool, artistic looks that I'd only previously seen in drag or higher fashion. MAC palettes are a great starting point for those wanting to get into makeup artistry. MAC was initially founded to make makeup for professionals.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Kids these days are doing some really cool, artistic looks that I'd only previously seen in drag or higher fashion. MAC palettes are a great starting point for those wanting to get into makeup artistry. MAC was initially founded to make makeup for professionals.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625332292.0, "created_utc": 1625332292.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xrgtt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xrgtt", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xao10", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xrgtt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 15, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 15, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 401, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 401, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "Inside-Ostrich2888", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_8u3oyv9v", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "It totally baffles me how some families allow certain types of behaviour amongst themselves. How OP's wife tolerates her brother talking about her daughter like that or talking to her husband like that in HIS house! \n\nOP is offering a huge favour and service to this BIL, something other close family don't seem willing to do and yet he has the audacity to talk that way about him or his daughter...I don't understand sooo many people anymore, entitled assholes is a basic description for them. \n\nA child's room in their parent's house is THEIR safe space, it should be sacred and a place they know they can create their own boundaries, having a parent shit on that for the sake of her brother's feelings is depressing, this girl will grow to know mommy doesn't have her back or care about her feelings...at least Daddy (OP) has some common sense in this regard, fair play to that guy.\n\nEdit: spelling correction", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>It totally baffles me how some families allow certain types of behaviour amongst themselves. How OP's wife tolerates her brother talking about her daughter like that or talking to her husband like that in HIS house! </p>\n\n<p>OP is offering a huge favour and service to this BIL, something other close family don't seem willing to do and yet he has the audacity to talk that way about him or his daughter...I don't understand sooo many people anymore, entitled assholes is a basic description for them. </p>\n\n<p>A child's room in their parent's house is THEIR safe space, it should be sacred and a place they know they can create their own boundaries, having a parent shit on that for the sake of her brother's feelings is depressing, this girl will grow to know mommy doesn't have her back or care about her feelings...at least Daddy (OP) has some common sense in this regard, fair play to that guy.</p>\n\n<p>Edit: spelling correction</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322949.0, "created_utc": 1625322949.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 1625326761.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x9mqz", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x9mqz", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x9mqz/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 205, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 205, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "lagomorphlover", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#735a17", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "aa1c7c24-f8a6-11e8-a46f-0e06b36127fc", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Aficionado [10]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_7h6t5g70", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yeah I would see red with this comment! It's defective to steal- stealing falls under deviance.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yeah I would see red with this comment! It's defective to steal- stealing falls under deviance.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625322737.0, "created_utc": 1625322737.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3x98pt", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3x98pt", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3x98pt/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "CuntyAnne_Conway", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_dm8xwda", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Same. That's when I would probably go nuclear after that comment.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Same. That's when I would probably go nuclear after that comment.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625326537.0, "created_utc": 1625326537.0, "depth": 2, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xgbk0", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xgbk0", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3x98pt", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xgbk0/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [{"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "ProjectKurtz", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_wfw5z", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Yep. That's the comment that afterwards your guests are no longer welcome guests and should be treated like a gang of thieves and lowlifes, cause that's exactly what they are.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yep. That's the comment that afterwards your guests are no longer welcome guests and should be treated like a gang of thieves and lowlifes, cause that's exactly what they are.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625329927.0, "created_utc": 1625329927.0, "depth": 3, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xmt1j", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xmt1j", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xgbk0", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xmt1j/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 12, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 12, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 11, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 11, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 100, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 100, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "EducationalTangelo6", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": null, "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": null, "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_5rorfd2m", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Agreed. OP's wife needs to reconsider her priorities, fast. If I were in OP's position, I would kick Sammy & the daughters out (and have a long talk with the wife), or failing that, move out with Zoey. \n\nShe needs to be somewhere she feels safe, protected, and not like she's going to be shunned or have her privacy violated at any moment.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Agreed. OP's wife needs to reconsider her priorities, fast. If I were in OP's position, I would kick Sammy & the daughters out (and have a long talk with the wife), or failing that, move out with Zoey. </p>\n\n<p>She needs to be somewhere she feels safe, protected, and not like she's going to be shunned or have her privacy violated at any moment.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323307.0, "created_utc": 1625323307.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xaaaj", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xaaaj", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xaaaj/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 66, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 66, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "NA", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": null, "author_flair_template_id": null, "author_flair_text": null, "author_flair_text_color": "dark", "author_flair_type": null, "author_fullname": null, "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": null, "author_premium": null, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "When I read that my first thought was divorce with 50%+ custody", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>When I read that my first thought was divorce with 50%+ custody</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625323898.0, "created_utc": 1625323898.0, "depth": 1, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3xbd8k", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3xbd8k", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3wyf27", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3xbd8k/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 19, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 19, "user_reports": []}], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 17055, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 17055, "user_reports": [], "comment_metrics": {"sentiment": "strongly_negative", "stance": "strong_agree", "emotion": "anger", "content_type": "preference", "humor": "Not Humorous", "hostility": "No Hostility"}, "post_metrics": {"sentiment_distribution": {"strongly_positive": 0.324, "strongly_negative": 0.353, "neutral": 0.029, "severely_negative": 0.147, "slightly_positive": 0.059, "slightly_negative": 0.088}, "stance_distribution": {"agree": 0.029, "off_topic": 0.029, "strong_agree": 0.941}, "emotion_distribution": {"admiration": 0.235, "neutral": 0.059, "caring": 0.088, "fear": 0.029, "anger": 0.265, "annoyance": 0.118, "disgust": 0.088, "gratitude": 0.029, "disappointment": 0.029, "amusement": 0.029, "resentment": 0.029}, "content_type_distribution": {"evidence": 0.059, "question": 0.029, "assert": 0.206, "directive": 0.382, "meta-commentary": 0.029, "preference": 0.235, "anecdote": 0.059}, "humor_distribution": {"Dry Aside": 0.059, "Not Humorous": 0.882, "Sarcasm / Irony": 0.029, "Quip / Wordplay (Single Device)": 0.029}, "hostility_distribution": {"No Hostility": 0.588, "Snide": 0.235, "Aggressive Imperatives / Harassment": 0.029, "Mockery / Insults": 0.147}}}
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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!</p>\\n\\n<p>Sammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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Is he now outsourcing or asking for a 'friend'? 😂
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"content": "AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my brother inlaw and his daughters are out of our house?\n\nMy brother in-law (Sammy) lost his home shortly after his divorce 10 months ago. He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.\n\nOlivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. \n\nLast straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\n\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. He said \"my daughters aren't thieves!!! it's normal that girls of the same age borrow each others stuff\" he said Zoey could easily get another makeup kit for 15 bucks from walmart and shouldn't even be buying expensive - adult makeup in the first place and suggested my wife take care of this \"defect\" in Zoey's personality trying to appear older than she is.\nHe accused me of being overprotective and babying Zoey with this level of enablement.\n\nI told him this's between me and my wife but she shamed me for putting a lock on Zoey's door for her cousins to see and preventing them from \"spending time\" with her saying I was supposed to treat them like daughters, then demanded I remove it but I said this lock does not get removed til her brother and his daughters are out of our house.\n\nShe got mad I was implying we kick them out and said her family'll hate me for this. so I reminded her that I let Sammy and his family move in which's something her OWN family refused to do so she should start with shaming/blaming them for not taking their own son and nieces/granddaughters in. if it wasn't for her family's unwillingness to help we wouldn't be dealing with this much disturbance at home.\n\nEveryone's been giving me and Zoey silent treatment and my wife is very much upset over this.",
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "I love this idea. NTA OP - you have your daughters back and totally get her need for privacy and autonomy over her stuff. I’m disgusted that her own mother isn’t more supportive. Please lend some mothers makeup to the twins, because obviously it’s what girls do, isn’t it? They love to borrow and use each other’s stuff. Without asking. Not.",
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"content": "Bonus if OP goes into Sammy's room to borrow things without asking. Underwear, an expensive watch or something. Returning it with visible wear and tear. Nutella would be my friend for his favorite pants.",
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"content": "Lol, return underwear with stains? Man, I'd never mess with you.",
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>instead of staying with mom where they grew up.
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Kinda wonder why they aren't staying there... Maybe Mom had rules against some of their shenanigans.
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Agreed. When I read about the color blending ruining the make up, I was like... that had to have been pretty destructive, beyond just normal wear and tear that comes with application. It sounds like the cousins a maliciously ruining things and getting away with it. I hope OP is able to get this to stop.
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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| "Back in college, my roommate and I were exchanging pranks as part of an underlying feud. He was bri(...TRUNCATED)
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ocx94s
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AG-freeflyer
| 1,625,335,161
| "{\"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"arc(...TRUNCATED)
| [{"content":"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my bro(...TRUNCATED)
| 6
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No persona (persona_history_length=0)
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6
| "I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adu(...TRUNCATED)
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ocx94s
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A_Magical_Potato
| 1,625,328,594
| "{\"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"arc(...TRUNCATED)
| [{"content":"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my bro(...TRUNCATED)
| 6
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No persona (persona_history_length=0)
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7
| "There’s a German proverb: if it looks like shit, smells like shit and tastes like shit then it pr(...TRUNCATED)
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ocx94s
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Accomplished-Mess982
| 1,625,335,168
| "{\"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"arc(...TRUNCATED)
| [{"content":"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my bro(...TRUNCATED)
| 6
|
No persona (persona_history_length=0)
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8
| "NTA\n\nSammy sounds like he is spoiling his daughters and justifying their actions by blaming the v(...TRUNCATED)
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ocx94s
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AceofSpadesYT
| 1,625,316,154
| "{\"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"arc(...TRUNCATED)
| [{"content":"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my bro(...TRUNCATED)
| 1
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No persona (persona_history_length=0)
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9
| "My mother always told me never to share makeup. I remember walking in on my roommate using my expen(...TRUNCATED)
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ocx94s
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AffectionateAd5373
| 1,625,328,099
| "{\"_fetched\": true, \"all_awardings\": [], \"approved_at_utc\": null, \"approved_by\": null, \"arc(...TRUNCATED)
| [{"content":"AITA for telling my wife the lock on my daughter's door does not get removed til my bro(...TRUNCATED)
| 5
|
No persona (persona_history_length=0)
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