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I think everyone is missing that BIL is taking advantage of OP and his wife as well. He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. If 3 grown ass adults cant pool their money to find an apartment there is a much bigger issue.
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He and his adult daughters have been living with OP for 10 months now. 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Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Yes. Is BIL paying rent? If not, time for him to start. If he objects, well I guess he can find somewhere else to stay. Hope you kick him out OP.</p>\n</div>", "can_gild": false, "can_mod_post": false, "collapsed": false, "collapsed_because_crowd_control": null, "collapsed_reason": null, "collapsed_reason_code": null, "comment_type": null, "controversiality": 0, "created": 1625341363.0, "created_utc": 1625341363.0, "depth": 6, "distinguished": null, "downs": 0, "editable": null, "edited": 0.0, "gilded": 0, "gildings": null, "id": "h3y8sc4", "is_submitter": false, "likes": null, "link_id": "t3_ocx94s", "locked": false, "mod_note": null, "mod_reason_by": null, "mod_reason_title": null, "mod_reports": [], "name": "t1_h3y8sc4", "no_follow": false, "num_reports": null, "parent_id": "t1_h3xk9hd", "permalink": "/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/ocx94s/aita_for_telling_my_wife_the_lock_on_my_daughters/h3y8sc4/", "removal_reason": null, "replies": [], "report_reasons": null, "saved": false, "score": 43, "score_hidden": false, "send_replies": true, "stickied": false, "subreddit": "AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_id": "t5_2xhvq", "subreddit_name_prefixed": "r/AmItheAsshole", "subreddit_type": "public", "top_awarded_type": null, "total_awards_received": 0, "treatment_tags": [], "unrepliable_reason": null, "ups": 43, "user_reports": []}, {"_fetched": true, "all_awardings": [], "approved_at_utc": null, "approved_by": null, "archived": true, "associated_award": null, "author": "LuckOfTheDevil", "author_cakeday": null, "author_flair_background_color": "#57411c", "author_flair_css_class": null, "author_flair_richtext": [], "author_flair_template_id": "ac96ddca-f967-11e8-9b44-0e5dff284156", "author_flair_text": "Asshole Enthusiast [7]", "author_flair_text_color": "light", "author_flair_type": "text", "author_fullname": "t2_9v5r8m4s", "author_is_blocked": false, "author_patreon_flair": false, "author_premium": false, "awarders": [], "banned_at_utc": null, "banned_by": null, "body": "Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. 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He moved in with us and brought his twin daughters (Olivia & Sloane18) with him a couple of months ago.\\nHis sister (my wife) and I have one daughter (Zoey 16) and she and her cousins aren't close but get along fine.</p>\\n\\n<p>Olivia & Sloane have no respect for Zoey's privacy, none. they used to walk into her room and take everything they get their hands on. Makeup, phone accessories, clothes, school laptop etc. Zoey complained a lot and I've already asked the girls to respect Zoey's privacy and stop taking things. My wife and Sammy saw no issue with this. After all, they're girls and this's typical teenage girls behavior. I completely disagreed. </p>\\n\\n<p>Last straw was when Zoey bought a 60$ m.a.c makeup-kit that looks like a paintset that she saved up for over a month and one of the girls, Sloane took it without permission and ruined it by mixing shades together while using it. 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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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"content": "Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave with basic courtesy. Get’em out. NTA",
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I would not let these types of people stay there long enough to get squatters rights. OP is fucking himself
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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She can stay there, too. Zoey's room wouldn't be the only one with a new lock.
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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This whole situation makes me sick. u/OnlyInQuebec9 has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).
I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.
As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them—possibly even legal altercations.
It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.
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I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).\n\nI personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.\n\nAs harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.\n\nIt sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.\n\nI will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. You are in the right here.", "body_html": "<div class=\"md\"><p>This whole situation makes me sick. <a href=\"/u/OnlyInQuebec9\">u/OnlyInQuebec9</a> has way more patience than I ever could. I'm a bit disgusted with OP's wife, I'm sorry to say, but I have the feeling she knows deep down inside that she's in the wrong but is willing to excuse it out of not wanting to deal with the backlash of her brother for some reason(s).</p>\n\n<p>I personally would not only have a firm discussion with the BIL, but I would with his daughters as well. You DO NOT steal shit from anybody in this household without first asking permission to use it. PERIOD. Then present them with an ultimatum. If that makes them upset, good, facing repercussions for inexcusable actions is part of growing up and seeing as how they are now adults, they're falling behind as a result of poor parenting.</p>\n\n<p>As harsh as that may sound, OP would actually be doing them a favor, because this sort of unfettered lack of respect for other people and their property won't just come to an end when they finally move out. It'll likely manifest itself in situations where people won't be so kind or forgiving of them\u2014possibly even legal altercations.</p>\n\n<p>It sounds like your BIL is setting himself up for a rough future and I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.</p>\n\n<p>I will say with utmost certainty (unless for some reason you're omitting crucial details) that you are absolutely NTA and should stand your ground. 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Don't know much about makeup but that's what Zoey said when she found the kit on her bed, and was crying.\\nI told my wife and she said she'd ask Sloane to apologize but I got Zoey a lock after I found she was moving valuable belongings out the house because of this incidence!!!\\n\\nSammy and his daughters saw the lock and weren't happy, the girls were extremely upset.\\nSammy asked about it and I straight up told him. 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"content": "NTA. Don't back down. You are the only one sticking up for Zoey. If her cousins want to use expensive makeup, give them your wife's. I guarantee she won't appreciate sharing anymore.\n\nThey need to start behaving like appreciative guests.",
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"content": "You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Especially regarding privacy issues. She considers privacy something very important but still thought that Zoey did not have the right to get a lock - Even if we leave her cousins out of this matter. My wife is not agreeing with the whole concept of getting a lock for Zoey. I explained to her what's been happenning, Even told her that Zoey has been moving some of her valuable belongings into a friend's house to keep them safe, do I blame her? Absolutely not. But my wife still thought Zoey was wrong to do that.\nNow her cousine are upset and they and Sammy are using the silent treatment (among other things like eating without us or not sitting with us) as a guilt tactic. Even though it's not affecting me, it's making Zoey feel like she did something wrong by having a lock for her room.",
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"content": "WTF dang these people are entitled AF. \n\nI'd kick them all out for creating a hostile and uncomfortable situation IN MY OWN HOME.",
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"content": "Exactly. These people need to go now, They are mentally abusing and bullying a teenage girl- as well as OP. Gaslighting , disrespect and straight out hostile behaviour- in OPs own home. OP you are NTA -Boot them to the next relatives and if your wife has a problem with that- she can drive them there. Please do not back down on this and yes, let them know that your wifey has no problem with sharing make up. These people are disgraceful and entitled.",
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"Absolutely agree with this. These people are guests in your house and apparently unable to behave w(...TRUNCATED)
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Especially since yesterday was July 1, aka moving day in Quebec. They need to be gone. Now.
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"\"...if your wife has a problem with that - she can drive them there.\"\n\nActually, if the wife ha(...TRUNCATED)
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MrsMurphysCow
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"You know I probably shouldn't be saying this but my wife has been acting like a hypocrite latey. Es(...TRUNCATED)
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She’s already in the r/JustNoSO camp.
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RogueDIL
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