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We often “find ourselves” in the situations we most want to avoid. We find ourselves in unrest, conflict, discomfort, fear, illness, distress, loss, transition, change, disappointment, failure, even in bad relationships. So if we spend our lives trying to avoid these things, we may miss the very messages and lessons life has to offer us. |
These days I tell myself, over and over again, “everything that happens to me in life is an opportunity to learn” because I have learned the hard way—it is. |
What seems like the worst thing that could possibly happen to you might turn out to be the very best thing. Because sometime it takes losing ourselves to find ourselves. And when we resist these lessons, we resist the very beauty and joy life is trying to offer us. |
Think back for a moment to the young woman I mentioned in the beginning of this post who is trying to make a decision about whether she wants to marry her current boyfriend. Notice how much time she spent explaining what other people wanted from her, thought about her (and her boyfriend), or what they were expecting her to do. And trust me, I’ve been there. |
Here’s my advice for her: you already know your answer. It’s inside of you. |
That isn’t to say we don’t need the support and help of those around us. But it is to say we must be careful who we ask, because what we really need from those sources of support is not advice or direction. What we really need is someone to help us discover the answer we have always known all along. |
What we really need is to find ourselves. |
For additional reading, check out my list of recommended resources here. |
Excellent, very well stated and developed, thank you! |
I am grateful that you discussed the issue of the major misunderstanding by most people that “finding ourselves” is a one shot thing. I am convinced that at some level I will be “finding myself” right up to the millisecond before my death. |
However, that doesn’t mean I am a lost soul. It’s just that this is a lifelong journey and process. I was one person at 21 just before I married, another at 29 when I first became a father, another at 48 when the youngest headed off to college and we were empty nesters, etc, etc. The secondary and tertiary “me” was changing but the primary “me” changed much more slowly and profoundly. |
Keith—that is so true for all of us. Thanks for pointing that out. As long as we’re here on earth, we’re changing. Every new experience changes us, and we’re never finished with our work of “finding ourselves”. But those moments when we seem to reach a new understanding of ourselves sure is rewarding. |
I had so many thoughts running through my head as I read. First, “The Runaway Bride,” as Julia Roberts tries to figure herself out. Second, they think that some of depression is inflammation of the brain, I second their finding as I have reduced my body inflammation, I have a more positive outlook. As my son’s psoriasis flares (inflammation) so does his doom and gloom. Last and by far the hardest is when society says that introverts are bad and extroverts are good….that’s a tough thing to get over. Keep writing…you have amazing things to say! |
Thanks Ann! I hadn’t heard that depression and inflammation were connected, but it makes a ton of sense with my personal experience. I suffered from IBS issues for years (inflammation, Auto-immune, etc) and when my body was the most paralyzed, so was my spirit and mind. It’s amazing the connections between our mental, emotional and spiritual health with our physical health. |
Thanks for sharing that, and for reading. |
PS) Excited to hear about the healing you and your son are both experiencing—physically and emotionally! |
Bethany, that’s so great to hear. The insights you shared in your post are really insightful. Marriage has this special way of bringing all kinds of things to the surface for us, so we can deal with them. I hope my words are able to help you continue to find clarity and direction. Keep me posted on how things transpire for you. I’d love to hear what comes next! |
Allison your blog post was a beautiful response to an important question. I think the journey to self requires a certain softness and self forgiveness. There are pieces of ourselves that are hard to accept… attitudes and behaviors we would rather not admit to, or wish would go away. However those things are part of our whole package and the journey to self acceptance, to loving yourself, to believing in yourself, to finding that inner voice that knows exactly what is right for you… requires an acceptance of it all…. the good and the bad and an understanding that to be human is to be fallible… and every moment is a chance to begin again. |
I love the thought of adding softness and self-forgiveness to this whole process. That has always been a difficult posture for me. But you are so right: there are difficult parts of ourselves to accept, and we need lots of grace to do it—to be at peace with our whole selves, exactly where we are, no matter what. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. Appreciate you. |
I really enjoyed reading your article and I am always impressed about the fact that it is possible to feel connected to a person you don’t know personally. |
Sometimes in life you feel alone and lost with all of your thoughts and emotions. In those situations it is a gift to realize that there are other persons at the same time, dealing with the same thoughts and emotions just by reading an article, having a deep conversation and being brave enough to share what is really going on inside. |
Thanks for sharing those issues! |
It’s the only way to bring us all into the process of finding ourselves and dealing with the ups and downs in our lives. |
Greets from Germany and keep it up! |
Sonja—what an incredible compliment. Thank you so much for writing. I love what you said and it’s amazing to me that I feel connected to each of you who are reading, too. I think about you all as I write and I love reading comments and emails from you. |
I hope these words can be comforting for you in those times when you feel again like you’re alone. You aren’t! |
Thank you for being a part of this and for sharing your thoughts here. Appreciate you. |
Wonderful post and very timely for me in particular. I had a conversation with someone recently and her situation was that her boyfriend was hesitant to commit further in their relationship until he felt that he had experienced life. Reading your words made me think that perhaps it’s less about experiencing life and more about discovering his sense of self. |
So much wisdom in this piece. Thank you. |
You’re welcome Delilah! Thank you for reading. |
There is a lot of wisdom you share in this post, Allison. It is so well written and truly speaks to my heart. I am in my mid-40’s and feel like “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for,” (Thank you, U2) Though I am happily married with two healthy, happy children, I have poured my life into them. All too soon, I will be in my own company again, so before I embark on that transition to an empty nest, I choose to be proactive and really know myself and be known. I have avoided this for so long, pushing past hurts deep down and staying busy to keep them covered. As a result, I’ve cycled through depression, anxiety and addiction. I am slowly sifting through the past, owning it, embracing it, letting go and moving forward. |
Kristin—thank so much for being vulnerable here. As this new season approaches, I know you’ll find the courage to keep digging deeper and discovering new layers of yourself. It will be scary at times, but ultimately a gift. Can’t wait to see what unfolds for you! |
Thank you for writing this! Over the last month or so I have felt so lost and kept thinking “how do I find myself?” The timing of this post was prefect and has been healing to read and contemplate these things in my own life. Once I am caught in this cycle it is so hard to break free. I think your advice has given me a boost to break the cycle and start a new one of discovering me, the real me. |
Kara—I’m so glad! Thank you so much for reading and for sharing here. |
Even though this post is months old, am glad i have read it NOW! Like you mentioned in one of those thoughtful quotes you shared with us recently, time is on my side! |
This post is so timely for me and very eye/heart-opening. I lost my dad in 2010 and it is still difficult to own and accept that part of my story. As i was reading through the post, my heart understands more that i need to accept my whole story and write my own brave new ending! Thank you and please keep writing! |
About relationships, sometimes we focus on what the other person is doing, what he/she isn’t doing and we get consumed with all that. But thanks for pointing out that it actually begins with us; searching within and embracing our whole being. Sometimes we behave is certain ways and we never take the time to ask ourselves why, i am learning that healing starts by intentionally paying attention to the “why” beneath our choices. |
I agree with what you said about religion too; “if you came from a religious background where developing a strong sense of “self” was considered selfish”. This reminded me of, “Love your neighbor as yourself”. Clearly, we cant give what we do not have, therefore, self-love is not selfishness. Thanks for this lesson too. |
I truly appreciate your openness to share your personal stories too, they teach me about vulnerability which was a no-no for me until i decided to take the risk! I am determined to take on the journey of self-discovery and i know the reward is worth the fight! |
I am reading all your old posts and trying to apply them to my life. You have been through a lot it seems and so I am trying to let you help me be positive. I also struggled with infertility. So when I had my son and couldn’t have any more, I made myself happy with that. We both suffered from depression, and when he took his life at the age of 25, well, I just lost all hope for anything and everything. Since then I have lost his little dog, my younger brother, my younger sister in law and my husband lost his job. I do my best to stay positive, but it’s very hard. I am wondering if you would write a post about loss. Just a thought. |
Thank you for this blog. I am a self victim if I can put it like that. I was engaged and had three beautiful kids with the guy however he left me and married to someone else now. I have been struggling to accept that he left me for another woman. This happened in 2008 ,my son was 4months by that time. I am very happy today that I have come across this article. I am in a toxic relationship but it is very difficult to make a decision. |
Reading this was exactly what I needed! |
MidMichigan Health plans to restructure and re-align its work force in the coming months, and the changes could mean laying off as many as 1 percent of the company's nearly 5,000 workers. |
MidMichigan Health is the parent company of MidMichigan Medical Center-Midland as well as Medical Centers in Clare, Gladwin and Alma. The company also owns other health care facilities including home health care and nursing homes. |
In a news release, the company said the restructuring is needed because of changes in the way health care is provided, the economy and health reform. These factors are affecting health care organizations in Michigan and nationwide, the news release stated. |
The health system has a work force of 4,831. Officials will not know the number of employees who could lose their jobs until the restructuring is completed in mid-May. But it is expected to be less than 1 percent of all employees. |
Company officials said these changes are happening just as demand for health care services is increasing in some areas and decreasing in others. Growing areas include physician practices, emergency services and critical care. In the past nine months, MidMichigan has added 50 new physicians and what the company calls mid-level providers. New positions include primary-care providers, specialists and a new critical care team. |
"MidMichigan's vision is to be an integrated health system, and we have been working toward that vision for more than three years," said Richard M. Reynolds, president of MidMichigan Health. "With changes in the health care environment and declining reimbursement we are challenged to shift our resources and realign our employees to continue to provide excellent clinical quality and excellent patient experiences in a safe environment. Doing that means that we have to change and re-tool how we do things." |
Developing new physician practices requires clinical and support staff. As a result, MidMichigan Health plans to take staff members from under-utilized areas and put them in open positions. Some people could lose their jobs, the company said, because they cannot be redeployed into open positions. |
Management of some departments throughout the four hospitals will be re-aligned, and some services will be consolidated, the news release said. |
"Our business is changing," said Lynn Bruchhof, MidMichigan Health vice president of human resources. "We are fortunate to be able to realign our talent resources, our people, to areas of growth and need throughout MidMichigan Health." |
Some employees will retire, while others are volunteering to take part-time positions, and still others are applying for the 120 open positions in MidMichigan Health, she said. |
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The Constitutional Walking Tour of Philadelphia Memorandum: Rationale, Market Need, Mission & Implementation, please click here to download and print the PDF version. |
During the Summer of 2002, Jonathan and Leslie Bari, Chairman and Vice Chairman of The Constitutional, researched, analyzed and wrote about the Philadelphia hospitality industry, specifically pertaining to the Independence National Historical area, and the need for a free, self-guided walking tour of Historic Philadelphia (and the Old City section). Their work product evolved into The Constitutional Memorandum which was based on extensive analysis from various perspectives including: strategic planning, interpretive, cultural, historical, economic development and marketing. |
Native American Symbols, like the Fire symbol, can vary in meaning from one tribe to another and across the culture groups of North America. The Fire symbol was used by the ancient Native Americans of the Mississippian culture. |
Discover facts and information about the meanings of secret and mysterious symbols used by Native American Indians in our List of Symbols including the Fire symbol. |
Native American Indians were a deeply spiritual people and they communicated their history, thoughts, ideas and dreams from generation to generation through Symbols and Signs such as the Fire symbol. Native American symbols are geometric portrayals of celestial bodies, natural phenomena such as fire and animal designs. The Fire symbol featured in the ancient Mississippian culture of North America, the culture of the Mound Builders. The Mound Builders associated great mystical value to fire. The sacred rites, myths and symbols of the Mississippians play a role in the beliefs of many Native American tribes. |
Fire played an important in the traditions of Native Americans and was present in all ceremonies and rituals. Fire acts as a Messenger and is a gift from the Great Spirit. Smoke for the fire was used to cleanses sacred items, such as drums, shakers, pipes, before ceremonial use. Fire symbolized the heart of the People and its smoke, which could also be created in a pipe, carried prayers to the Great Spirit. The Fire Symbol represents cleansing and renewal because out of the ashes of a fire comes new growth and new thoughts and ideas. |
The meaning of the fire symbol is self explanatory but confusion arises due to identifying exactly what icon was used as the fire symbol. Traditionally the Native American symbol for fire was often combined with the symbols of the four elements. The individual elements of Air, Fire, Water and Earth are each represented by a circle. |
The symbols for the sun portrayed both light and warmth and were often represented in the sun symbols, which show the round fire circle representing warmth surrounded by rays indicating light. |
The Fire symbol was also represented in a pictogram by the Native American Indians as a Camp Fire symbol. |
The Fire symbol was therefore conveyed by various types of symbols. The following Mississippian circular sun symbol has been described as the earth's forces passing out of the body of the sun into the atmosphere. But logically it could equally be used as a fire symbol. |
In Cherokee mythology the water spider is said to have first brought fire to the inhabitants of the earth in the basket on her back. |
The Mississippian culture dates back to the ancient indigenous population of North America. Our grasp of Mississippian symbolism is only rudimentary. Their true meanings can never really be known and the meanings of the symbols are based on best guesses. Our conclusion and best guess is that this Mississippian symbol was possibly used as a fire symbol. The basic interpretation of the larger picture could well be brothers sharing the same hearth or fire. |
The most ancient Native American Indian symbols, like the Fire symbol, came from the Mississippian culture which was established in 1000AD and continued to 1550AD onward. The Mississippian Native Americans were the last of the mound-building cultures of North America in the Midwestern, Eastern, and Southeastern United States. The Mississippian culture was based on warfare, which was represented by an array of emblems, motifs and symbols. The Mississippian culture warrior icons like the Fire symbol provides interesting history and ideas for tattoos that include cosmic imagery depicting animals, humans and mythical beasts. The Mississippian Native Americans practiced body painting, tattooing and piercing. For additional interesting facts and information about Native Americans refer to Making Fire. |
Native American Indians of the Mississippian culture were sun worshipers and had a highly complex warfare culture. Their symbols, such as the Fire symbol, reflect the warfare culture and the religious beliefs and cosmologies of the different historic tribes who existed at the time of the first European contact. |
The Mississippians believed that the universe consisted of three parts with good and bad spiritual forces. These three worlds were linked together and their connection was usually portrayed as a cedar tree or a striped pole. The Underworld was inhabited by spirit snakes, the Upper world was inhabited by spirit birds and the people of the earth who were ruled by these powerful spirits like the Fire. |
Items displaying symbols, like the Fire symbol, from the Mississippian culture have been found in burial sites that contained war axes, knives and other weapons. This type of symbol was embossed in valuable materials such as rare shells, copper and lead and depicted on pottery and stone tools and weapons. |
Fire. Discover the vast selection of pictures which relate to the History of Native Americans and illustrate many symbols used by American Indians. The pictures show the clothing, war paint, weapons and decorations of various Native Indian tribes that can be used as a really useful educational history resource for kids and children of all ages. We have included pictures and videos to accompany the main topic of this section - Fire. The videos enable fast access to the images, paintings and pictures together with information and many historical facts. All of the articles and pages can be accessed via the Native Indian Tribes Index - a great educational resource for kids. |
Did you know that the average American eats about 67 pounds of beef a year? It's obvious that we love our burgers and steak, but we seldom take time to think about the people and processes that are involved in producing the beef we eat. The beef industry is an intricate system that involves cattle ranches, feed lots, processing plants, and retailers. Each element is crucial in providing a safe and nutritious product to you. |
Did you know that Americans on average eat over half a pound of cheese per person each week? It's no secret that cheese is one of America's favorite foods. But how it's made may be a mystery to most people. Making cheese is a multi-step process that involves farming for feed, animal care, milking, cheese production, packaging, retail, and ultimately you the consumer. |
Did you know that the United States is the third largest cotton producer in the world? Cotton essentially is the fabric of America. Not only do we wear it, but it's in so many products we use. The cotton industry is weaved together with a network of farmers, cotton gins, and clothing manufacturers. The process begins with a cotton field and ends with the retailer who sells you your jeans. |
It's common knowledge that honey comes from bees. But many people don't know how bees make it and why and what it can be used for. Honey making is a collective effort between nature and man. It's a process that's involves bee colonies, native plant life, agricultural crops, and of course beekeepers. |
Did you know that dairy industry produces billions of pounds of milk each year? Milk is a diverse product that is used in so many different ways. But many people are unaware of how it's produced. The dairy industry in the United States expands far beyond milk. From the dairy cow, to the packaging plant, and from retailers to consumers, it's a system designed to provide a safe and nutritious product. |
Did you know that Americans eat an average of 20 pounds of onions a year? It's a vegetable that's often under-appreciated, though most of us cook with it and eat it every day. Onion growers are hard working farmers who are dedicated to providing a quality product. From the field to the supermarket, onions take quite a journey before they reach you, the consumer. |
Did you know that peanuts aren't really nuts? They're legumes, making them a close relative to beans. Although they may have a case of mistaken identity, peanuts still make for a perfect snack. Peanuts are a versatile product and can be found in many of our favorite foods like candy, baked goods, snack foods and more. And because they're in such demand, peanuts are a desirable crop for farmers to grow. |
Did you know that America is the largest producer of pecans in the world? There's certainly a high demand for these tasty nuts. But many people are unaware of how pecans are grown and processed. The pecan industry in the United States produces a vast quantity of nuts each year to meet the demands of national and international markets. The pecan process involves growers, specialized equipment, cleaning and shelling plants, retailers, and of course consumers. |
Did you know that the United States is the second largest producer of pistachios in the world? There's certainly a demand for this nut due to its unique flavor. Pistachios are a desert crop, so they can be found growing in the American West. From the orchard to the processing facility and retailer, pistachios undergo quite a journey before they can become your afternoon snack. |
Did you know that there are about 26 different species of chile peppers? Some range from mild to scorching hot. But chile peppers add a lot more than just heat to certain foods. They add color and flavor. The chile pepper industry in the United States produces a vast quantity of peppers each year. These chiles will venture from fields to processers, spice producers, retailers and finally chile enthusiasts throughout the country. |
Salsa is more than a condiment. It's a dish that can be fiery hot, or sweet and savory. It's made of fresh ingredients that are full great flavor, and it's a healthy addition to some of our favorite foods. Salsa can be made many different ways. But what most salsas have in common are three key ingredients - chile peppers, onions and tomatoes. Each ingredient comes together in perfect blend of zesty flavor. |
Turf grass is great for landscaping. But it's beneficial in so many different ways. And growing and caring for it can be quite a process. Growing turf grass is a science. A lot goes into finding the right varieties to grow in specific regions. Maintenance and irrigation are important factors as well. All this hard work, so we can enjoy our favorite outdoor activities. |
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Kevin Friend has gone to the top of my prick list. |
Massive flags at Everton today...worked for them. |
I think Brett Warburton was a Director of the club at one point but not certain. |
Claret Toni????? You are pushing your luck a bit. |
Am really surprised that the Warburton family have not got involved in some way.Probably (certainly) have more business sense I suppose. |
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