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After the trooper drove us home, Woody and I spent considerable time making sure we found all the remaining shards of glass. Really. My right ear was packed with glass but I had only a small puncture wound on my right pinky finger. Woody had his single puncture wound on his left ring finger. We felt immeasurably gratef... |
For the next day and a half I believed that we’d escaped unscathed. I posted to one of my closed FB groups, We Love Memoirs, and got all the necessary support and sympathy I expected and wanted. We sang in the first concert of The Messiah that Friday night and talked with the folks from the two cars who had stopped. It... |
Saturday morning we drove into town to see the truck and collect those odds and ends that we wanted to hang onto. |
That afternoon I had a massage, then went food shopping, planning to get home in time to have a light supper and dress for the second of the three concerts that weekend. But as I shopped I got angrier and angrier. When I overheard a conversation between the two store employees and a policeman about a shopper, I complai... |
“That’s not a topic to be discussing where it can be overheard by a customer,” I told them in anger. They shrugged, but they stopped talking (though one of the managers rolled her eyes and mumbled under her breath at me). |
As I drove home I realized that the effects of the trauma I’d had just a few days before were beginning to show. |
“I’m staying home,” I told Woody when I got home. “I can’t go anywhere tonight.” I just wanted to stop moving. |
“I’m going,” he responded in an equally defiant tone. I ignored him. Eventually, as the reality sunk in, he admitted he’d also considered staying home. He just didn’t want to. |
I took a bubble bath; he watched Netflix. Sunday we felt well enough, even eager, to sing in the final concert, an afternoon event. I was glad we did. |
On Monday night, telling my hospice choir friends about it, I began to cry. I had no idea I was still so raw. |
When I didn’t think about it, I’d carry on as though nothing was amiss. When I thought about it, I’d break down. |
When I didn’t think about it, I’d snap at Woody and hear Woody snap back at me. When I thought about it, I’d cry. |
I have a hard time concentrating. My mind is scattered. I can’t settle into a routine. Writing this blog, as you now know, has been difficult. |
Cognitively, I know that I am grateful we were not seriously injured. But I don’t FEEL grateful. I feel outrage, fury. I want to hit something. I want to yell, to scream really. But I do neither. Instead, I write. I posted tonight to another closed FB group I’m on and am eager to hear from them. I talk on the phone to ... |
The anger comes in spurts. Unexpected spurts. And as quickly as it surfaces, it evaporates. |
I’m drinking lots of tea. I’m doing all the things I should be doing. I’m also playing computer solitaire like a junkie. |
Woody and I stopped talking about it. What more can we say? |
Don’t just do something; sit there. |
And that is exactly what I will do. |
I will allow myself time to wind my way through the many layers that have formed. |
And, later, after we know what the insurance company will allow, I will help Woody find himself a new truck. |
Time changes the needs of people. |
It had a picture of an hour glass and a long, winding road in the background. I haven’t thought of it in years. With time, I feel myself back in my own skin once again. But I’m different too. |
From the policeman at the food store talking out of turn, to my mother last week saying something I thought insensitive, to a woman in my recent writer’s group this week interrupting someone I wanted to hear, my reactions are different than they would have been just a few weeks ago. I’m speaking out, standing up, letti... |
Whether its because I realize my time on this earth really is limited (and precious) or something else, I don’t even try to know. |
What I do know is that I felt peaceful at the moment I thought I was facing my death. And that is a gift. |
As is our ability to replace our Sierra with a shiny new toy. |
In 2000, my husband and I had a car accident and was lucky to be alive. It changed the both of us. Our whole outlook on life has changed since then. We appreciate each other more but I also use that for my decision making. When I don’t want to do something, I ask myself – If the one I loved died tomorrow, would I have ... |
Hi Pat. Yes, time. That is the great healer. Thanks for stopping and adding your thoughts. Btw, I’m going to send your website address to my colleagues in Kazakhstan; you can offer them an interesting new perspective on teaching. |
I take walks along the beach and sing to the top of my lungs. A great release allowing fresh thoughts and ideas. |
Why do you think you feel angry? |
Hi Susan, I thought of you when I read the news recently of the contingent going to Uraguay. I need to learn more of your adopted land. In my mind I lump it in with Paraguay, something akin to American lumping all the Stans together. |
As for the why, I can only say that I’m more focused on feeling the anger, on experiencing it, “honoring” it if you will. If I start to analyze it, I find myself going into my head and then I don’t feel it so much anymore. It really doesn’t matter to me so much, but honoring it, getting it out does. And, as I write the... |
Oh, Janet, your post took my breath away. I am so glad you and Woody were not physically injured. Trauma like that is not easy to just set aside to go away on its own. It will be with you for a while. Speaking and writing about it is the best medicine for now. Do not ignore it. |
I pray your holidays will be filled with healing and peace. |
Yes Joan, that’s another gift I have, that I can write about it and I have people in my life who (seem to) never tire of hearing the tale. Telling our stories of trauma, at all levels, is healing. That and hot baths (though someone on facebook did warn that too hot baths seem to be related to stroke, particularly after... |
Oh Janet, thank God you and Woody survived such a frightening ordeal. It’s amazing how near-death experiences wake us up to what really matters. When I was diagnosed with a life-threatening disease in 1996, my life came to a complete halt but in that halt, I learned a very important lesson–life is short and don’t sweat... |
Hi Kathy I love that image of life coming to a halt, and in that halt seeing things more clearly. I shall accept your hugs and return them in full. |
Judging from the previous comments, your readers can relate to the accident you’ve recently experienced. I know I can. Writing/illustrating your feelings will help you continue to process the trauma. I experienced something similar back in college when the car I was a passenger in flipped over on a snowy road – all in ... |
Then, over ten years ago I was rear-ended by a fast moving vehicle which totaled my sturdy car, an Infiniti. Half of the car looked like an accordion. In the moment of crisis, common sense left me, and I handed a complete stranger my wallet so I could us his cellphone. Dumb – though he did hand it back. Like you, thoug... |
After such dramatic events, we have to believe we live in an altered state at least for awhile, probably suffering post-traumatic stress syndrome, which may explain your anger. I like your recipe for healing, don’t just do something; sit there. |
I hope it’s in front of a blazing fire with some hot chocolate. Blessings and healing to you and your family this Christmas season. |
Hi Marian, Well, I can report that we had our woodstove moved upstairs this summer and it’s now ablaze about two feet from me here on the DR table. I find I prefer to write downstairs lately, not upstairs in my little corner of the world. Alas, the hot chocolate is tea, but there is more honey in it than usual. One mor... |
Glad you and Woody are okay. That was quite an ordeal and it sounds life-changing. I think that is what transformation does. We are never the same. I am going through something similar as I continue to heal from an illness that has dogged my life for nearly four decades. I hear and understand your anger. |
For me, adjusting to a new life that is one of health rather than chronic illness has been incredibly difficult. Letting go of life as I knew it–one fraught with illness–has meant changing, completely, how I live including my routine. Only now, am I stepping into my “new shoes,” as it were. A recent watershed moment re... |
This post is so beautifully and achingly written, Janet. Thank you. |
Thank you, Karen. And welcome. Your words are always a balm to me. I’ve been following your story through your blog posts and, with your comment here, I’m really struck by how easy it is for me to fall into that judgment trap. ( e.g., New found health after years of illess is Good. Traumatic auto accident is Bad.) And ... |
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In the last post I discussed some of the issues surrounding gifting the family vineyard to your family. There are a number of reasons that a person or a couple might consider just giving their property. However, the primary factor in that decision process is: control over the decision. If you make a gift, that means th... |
If you are dead, then you can no longer consciously decide. Your property is distributed the way your estate plan dictates. Now, if you’ve done a good job preparing your estate plan, then that distribution may happen exactly the way you wanted it to. Or maybe not…you just won’t know for sure…because you are dead. |
So the trade-off between giving property during your life (gifting) and leaving property to someone in your estate (a bequest) is that of trading off decision making control for tax benefits in the form of a step-up in basis. Let me explain. |
Let’s use the previous example, and say that you originally bought your 100 acre Napa vineyard in 1978 for $200,000. You planted some grapes, raised your family, and enjoyed the farm life of growing grapes. Now, forty years later, that vineyard with prime Napa Cab is valued at $250,000 per acre. The property is worth $... |
However, if you leave it to your estate, your heirs will receive a “step-up in basis” on the property. That means that for tax purposes they will acquire the property at it’s current value, basically what it’s worth upon your death. After they jump through the hoops to get the property properly titled in their names, t... |
That is a pretty nice perk of receiving property as an inheritance. Again, the only thing you must do to be able to take advantage of this perk…is, well, give up control…forever. |
Michael McFadyen's Scuba Diving - Darts Point On the north-western side of Longnose Point there is a nice beach that is protected from all but southerly winds. I am not sure of the name of this beach. When I spent a weekend on the liveaboard Ocean Trek, we had lunch on the Sunday off this beach. Before lunch, we went f... |
The dive started by climbing aboard Ocean Trek's tender, Priscilla, and being taken around the point to a spot west of the beach. Here we entered the water and did a "drift" dive back to the mother vessel. The reef in closer to the shore is about 10 metres and there is a small wall dropping to about 12 metres. Darts Po... |
Once you hit the 20 metres, turn to the south-east and you will ascend to about 13 metres. It is now time to cross over the ridges. These are only a metre or so high and there are two or three of them. You are now heading to the north or north-east and eventually you will be on the sand again. Follow the sand edge (abo... |
Another very good dive, very easy but still interesting. |
JOLIET – A Plainfield man was arrested after he allegedly hit his girlfriend and her mother and then tried to prevent them from contacting the police, authorities said. |
On Thursday morning, Willie J. Akins Jr., 21, of the 1900 block of Cumberland Court in Plainfield got into an argument with his 24-year-old girlfriend, who is pregnant with his child, Joliet Deputy Police Chief Ed Gregory said. |
The argument then turned physical, Gregory said. |
The girlfriend alleged to police that Akins struck her in the face, slapped her and pushed her off the bed in their home at Cumberland Court, Gregory said. The girlfriend’s mother tried to intervene, but Akins allegedly slapped and pushed her as well, he said. |
When the girlfriend tried contacting the police, Akins reportedly pulled the phone cord out of the wall, Gregory said. That is when the mother hit the panic alarm in the house and Joliet police responded, he said. |
Officers arrived and arrested Akins on charges of aggravated domestic battery, interfering with the report of domestic violence and domestic battery. |
Akins was booked into the Will County jail. He was scheduled to appear in court Friday afternoon. |
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