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### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
| (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
| (Question) Does your church have online services |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
| (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday
usr : I watch the service live each week. Actually, I have told the pastor I have gotten spoiled and like the online streaming because I can watch the service again, later.
usr : There are days when I am closed up in my room wanting to feel sorry for myself that I take great comfort in watching the service again.
| (Question) Can you send messages so the church knows you r ok |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday
usr : I watch the service live each week. Actually, I have told the pastor I have gotten spoiled and like the online streaming because I can watch the service again, later.
usr : There are days when I am closed up in my room wanting to feel sorry for myself that I take great comfort in watching the service again.
sys : (Question) Can you send messages so the church knows you r ok
usr : I do, and my pastor is wonderful about chatting with me on Facebook every day or so.
usr : Just a couple weeks ago, he brought me a giant care package full of food and snacks to help keep me going and relieve the boredom.
| (Question) can you sign language the service and send it back for the church to reach others |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday
usr : I watch the service live each week. Actually, I have told the pastor I have gotten spoiled and like the online streaming because I can watch the service again, later.
usr : There are days when I am closed up in my room wanting to feel sorry for myself that I take great comfort in watching the service again.
sys : (Question) Can you send messages so the church knows you r ok
usr : I do, and my pastor is wonderful about chatting with me on Facebook every day or so.
usr : Just a couple weeks ago, he brought me a giant care package full of food and snacks to help keep me going and relieve the boredom.
sys : (Question) can you sign language the service and send it back for the church to reach others
usr : No... I'm not fluent enough for that. I do the songs because I can research them and practice ahead.
usr : I can't interpret.
| (Providing Suggestions) Do u have away to record the service and sign language. Sign language the songs |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday
usr : I watch the service live each week. Actually, I have told the pastor I have gotten spoiled and like the online streaming because I can watch the service again, later.
usr : There are days when I am closed up in my room wanting to feel sorry for myself that I take great comfort in watching the service again.
sys : (Question) Can you send messages so the church knows you r ok
usr : I do, and my pastor is wonderful about chatting with me on Facebook every day or so.
usr : Just a couple weeks ago, he brought me a giant care package full of food and snacks to help keep me going and relieve the boredom.
sys : (Question) can you sign language the service and send it back for the church to reach others
usr : No... I'm not fluent enough for that. I do the songs because I can research them and practice ahead.
usr : I can't interpret.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Do u have away to record the service and sign language. Sign language the songs
usr : I am blessed to have friends who give me technical advice. I have a friend who is a certified interpreter who has sent me video showing me the correct way to sign certain songs.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you have a way to sign for others. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday
usr : I watch the service live each week. Actually, I have told the pastor I have gotten spoiled and like the online streaming because I can watch the service again, later.
usr : There are days when I am closed up in my room wanting to feel sorry for myself that I take great comfort in watching the service again.
sys : (Question) Can you send messages so the church knows you r ok
usr : I do, and my pastor is wonderful about chatting with me on Facebook every day or so.
usr : Just a couple weeks ago, he brought me a giant care package full of food and snacks to help keep me going and relieve the boredom.
sys : (Question) can you sign language the service and send it back for the church to reach others
usr : No... I'm not fluent enough for that. I do the songs because I can research them and practice ahead.
usr : I can't interpret.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Do u have away to record the service and sign language. Sign language the songs
usr : I am blessed to have friends who give me technical advice. I have a friend who is a certified interpreter who has sent me video showing me the correct way to sign certain songs.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you have a way to sign for others.
usr : At the moment, I have no way, but that's okay. Since there is no one in the congregation who signs at the moment, I am not needed in that role.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are Just like that little girl |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday
usr : I watch the service live each week. Actually, I have told the pastor I have gotten spoiled and like the online streaming because I can watch the service again, later.
usr : There are days when I am closed up in my room wanting to feel sorry for myself that I take great comfort in watching the service again.
sys : (Question) Can you send messages so the church knows you r ok
usr : I do, and my pastor is wonderful about chatting with me on Facebook every day or so.
usr : Just a couple weeks ago, he brought me a giant care package full of food and snacks to help keep me going and relieve the boredom.
sys : (Question) can you sign language the service and send it back for the church to reach others
usr : No... I'm not fluent enough for that. I do the songs because I can research them and practice ahead.
usr : I can't interpret.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Do u have away to record the service and sign language. Sign language the songs
usr : I am blessed to have friends who give me technical advice. I have a friend who is a certified interpreter who has sent me video showing me the correct way to sign certain songs.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you have a way to sign for others.
usr : At the moment, I have no way, but that's okay. Since there is no one in the congregation who signs at the moment, I am not needed in that role.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are Just like that little girl
usr : I have no doubt if there were someone depending on me to get the message across, God would have shown us a way to get me streamed in.
usr : I will be where He wants me to be and serve Him as he chooses to use me.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ask and you will receive |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday
usr : I watch the service live each week. Actually, I have told the pastor I have gotten spoiled and like the online streaming because I can watch the service again, later.
usr : There are days when I am closed up in my room wanting to feel sorry for myself that I take great comfort in watching the service again.
sys : (Question) Can you send messages so the church knows you r ok
usr : I do, and my pastor is wonderful about chatting with me on Facebook every day or so.
usr : Just a couple weeks ago, he brought me a giant care package full of food and snacks to help keep me going and relieve the boredom.
sys : (Question) can you sign language the service and send it back for the church to reach others
usr : No... I'm not fluent enough for that. I do the songs because I can research them and practice ahead.
usr : I can't interpret.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Do u have away to record the service and sign language. Sign language the songs
usr : I am blessed to have friends who give me technical advice. I have a friend who is a certified interpreter who has sent me video showing me the correct way to sign certain songs.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you have a way to sign for others.
usr : At the moment, I have no way, but that's okay. Since there is no one in the congregation who signs at the moment, I am not needed in that role.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are Just like that little girl
usr : I have no doubt if there were someone depending on me to get the message across, God would have shown us a way to get me streamed in.
usr : I will be where He wants me to be and serve Him as he chooses to use me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ask and you will receive
usr : True
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are very gifted. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday
usr : I watch the service live each week. Actually, I have told the pastor I have gotten spoiled and like the online streaming because I can watch the service again, later.
usr : There are days when I am closed up in my room wanting to feel sorry for myself that I take great comfort in watching the service again.
sys : (Question) Can you send messages so the church knows you r ok
usr : I do, and my pastor is wonderful about chatting with me on Facebook every day or so.
usr : Just a couple weeks ago, he brought me a giant care package full of food and snacks to help keep me going and relieve the boredom.
sys : (Question) can you sign language the service and send it back for the church to reach others
usr : No... I'm not fluent enough for that. I do the songs because I can research them and practice ahead.
usr : I can't interpret.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Do u have away to record the service and sign language. Sign language the songs
usr : I am blessed to have friends who give me technical advice. I have a friend who is a certified interpreter who has sent me video showing me the correct way to sign certain songs.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you have a way to sign for others.
usr : At the moment, I have no way, but that's okay. Since there is no one in the congregation who signs at the moment, I am not needed in that role.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are Just like that little girl
usr : I have no doubt if there were someone depending on me to get the message across, God would have shown us a way to get me streamed in.
usr : I will be where He wants me to be and serve Him as he chooses to use me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ask and you will receive
usr : True
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are very gifted.
usr : I just received a message saying our time is running out. But thank you. It has been wonderful chatting with you. God has used you to lift me tonight and remind me what it important. Thank you for that blessing.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok Be blessed. Have a Merry Christmas |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I have had six people die this month, and I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19.". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hi
sys : (Question) How is everything
usr : Not the best. I have been quarantined for 5 weeks with COVID-19 (tested positive), so I am getting cabin fever.
sys : (Question) Ready for the holidays
sys : (Question) So you tested positive, must be hard
usr : I am starting to get an aversion to holidays. When I was in college, my father was dying, and Thanksgiving was the last meal he ate at the family table... Christmas was the last time he ate solid food, and he died on the day after Epiphany
usr : So I have come to associate Thanksgiving through January as a time of loss.
sys : (Question) The holidays can bring back memories, but you have other family around right
usr : This month has driven it home more, because I have had six people die this month. It's starting to bring on flashbacks.
usr : No, my family all moved from the area. The nearest is now half a country away and hasn't spoken to me in over ten years.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) The virus is hard. along with the season
usr : It's been... interesting.
sys : (Question) You must have friends around, right. have you contacted any
sys : (Question) How long ago did your dad pass away
usr : Ahhh... I hate to be that guy, but I really don't have that many friends. I have a couple people at my church who have checked in, but I wouldn't go so far as to call them friends (we don't hang out, I don't get invited over...)
usr : I was in college. He died slowly and painfully. It was really unpleasant.
usr : And he was a brilliant man. I could only wish to be half of what he was.
sys : (Others) That can cause loneliness as well. What about seeing if your family will chat and let them know you ae ok
usr : I don't even have contact information for them anymore. The last known phone numbers have been disconnected and the last time I sent mail, it was returned for wrong address, no forwarding information known.
usr : I think they forgot about me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Comparing yourself to others can be a positive and give you reason to strive more
usr : The only one I still have contact with is my mother.
sys : (Question) Have you checked to see if she is ok
usr : I avoid comparing myself to others. I usually come out on the bad side of it.
usr : I talk to her regularly. She is okay, but I fear she is reaching the age where I know I won't have her much longer.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) But use your dad as inspiration
usr : I'm just thankful I have had her this long
usr : That I do. While I will never have the skills my father had technically, I am thankful that I did get his ability to be analytical and his compassion for others.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that is a positive thing. You both need each other
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is great to hear. He is a role model for you
usr : Absolutely. I still remember him teaching me things that I use to this day. I still smile when I think of one time when he first became ill and couldn't get out of bed...
usr : there was a project he wanted to do and it bothered him that it had not gotten done. Well, I was able to do it, because he had taught me enough to know what to do.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) That is a positive in itself. Keep his legacy going through you
usr : The look of pride in his face was priceless.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) And you have that memory to live by
usr : The one thing I carry on because of him is my love for my church. He was on the church vestry (governing board). I am on my church worship team.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) His smile is in your heart and you can still feel him
usr : I actually made church history, because I sing with the praise team (some churches call that a choir), but I sing many of the songs in American Sign Language.
usr : I am the first signing member of the church.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) See that there in itself is a reason to smile
usr : 2021 will be the 50 year anniversary of our congregation.
usr : I joined just over ten years ago.
usr : My church is my anchor.
sys : (Others) You are a positive for your church. Not many can sign language
usr : My pastor is wonderful. He is like the little brother I didn't have but always wanted.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That is awesome. See you have a purpose
sys : (Others) I imagine he is missing his big sister
usr : My favorite story about signing in the church is how it began... I had asked to do it and had been shot down cold six times. Well, I laugh now, but at the time I was angry.
usr : If you mean me, I'm male.
usr : But the last time I was told I could not sign for the church, I told the elder who said no that God was going to give him a sign.
sys : (Others) But your determination kept your dream alive.sorry big brother
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are a very determined person. Don't let the fire die inside your heart
usr : Well, God delivered on the promise quickly. That same who morning we had a family visit who were on a road trip. They just were passing through but wanted to go to church while travelling.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) The Lord is using you to each others/
usr : They had a little girl about 6 or 7 years old who was Deaf. She saw me sitting in the back of the sanctuary signing the lyrics to the songs, and praying in Sign. Her face lit up and she started signing too.
usr : At the end of the service, she found me and gave me a big hug around my legs and then looked up and said "I always wanted to go to a church where someone knew MY language!"
sys : (Others) God placed you there for that little girl
usr : From that point on, there was no problem with me signing in church.
usr : I think He placed her there for me, also. It was a mutual deal.
usr : There is no one in my congregation at the moment who signs, but I keep hoping for the future.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You have a calling on your life. Don't let the dream die
usr : No. That mission has been placed on my heart.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) He will use you in mighty ways
usr : Well... I should be going, but thank you for taking the time to chat.
sys : (Others) Ok. Hope I was of help
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am a Christian also
usr : You definitely were. I am feeling better than I have in about a mo nth. I appreciate that.
usr : God put you here tonight for a reason
sys : (Reflection of feelings) God loves you.
usr : Of this I have no doubt.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Glad iI was here.
usr : I am actually in the process of studying catechism with my pastor, and plan to be re-confirmed.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Live the dream and seek Him always
usr : I was confirmed in a different denomination as a child, but I learned nothing. One day I realized that I have no knowledge of the faith, and that did not sit well with me.
sys : (Others) Be Blessed for He lives inside of you
usr : So I am changing that and not just paying lip service to Jesus, but actively seeking Him.
sys : (Question) Are you saved
usr : Absolutely.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Seek Him everyday
sys : (Self-disclosure) He is my 1st in the morning
usr : I was not always. I drifted a few years back. My church family gave me a gift and sent me to a religious retreat at a resort owned by my church denomination. It was there and in that moment that I came back to God.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) God has away to bring His sheep back. He knew you and did not give up on you
sys : (Self-disclosure) I fell away for 15 years, but He opened my eyes.
usr : I try to go each year, as it's an annual retreat. I missed this year because of COVID, but hoping for next year. I was going to take a friend from out of state. He couldn't attend due to the pandemic. But if all goes well, next year will be different.
usr : It was about 15 years for me, as well.
usr : I was never far away, just not close enough, if you know what I mean.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Your a gift from God to the world
usr : I left my childhood church because it turned into a false church, and it no longer teaches God's word.
usr : I still pray for them daily that they can realize what they are doing, repent and turn it around.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) We were always close but He knew the time to bring you home
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Even though we are locked down can you sign online for a church
usr : It took years to find a church that God wanted me to be with, but I have found my church family, and I love them. I am closer to my church family than I am to blood relatives.
sys : (Question) Does your church have online services
usr : Due to technical issues, I can't sign for my church, but I do have the pleasure of streaming the service each week, so I can still see my pastor, hear his message, and worship.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) So you are still plugged in the church
usr : Because of the way the feed is set up, I can not participate unless I am at the church building, and I need to wait until I am clear of the COVID infection first.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My church is miles away but I still hear the message every Sunday
usr : I watch the service live each week. Actually, I have told the pastor I have gotten spoiled and like the online streaming because I can watch the service again, later.
usr : There are days when I am closed up in my room wanting to feel sorry for myself that I take great comfort in watching the service again.
sys : (Question) Can you send messages so the church knows you r ok
usr : I do, and my pastor is wonderful about chatting with me on Facebook every day or so.
usr : Just a couple weeks ago, he brought me a giant care package full of food and snacks to help keep me going and relieve the boredom.
sys : (Question) can you sign language the service and send it back for the church to reach others
usr : No... I'm not fluent enough for that. I do the songs because I can research them and practice ahead.
usr : I can't interpret.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Do u have away to record the service and sign language. Sign language the songs
usr : I am blessed to have friends who give me technical advice. I have a friend who is a certified interpreter who has sent me video showing me the correct way to sign certain songs.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you have a way to sign for others.
usr : At the moment, I have no way, but that's okay. Since there is no one in the congregation who signs at the moment, I am not needed in that role.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are Just like that little girl
usr : I have no doubt if there were someone depending on me to get the message across, God would have shown us a way to get me streamed in.
usr : I will be where He wants me to be and serve Him as he chooses to use me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ask and you will receive
usr : True
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) You are very gifted.
usr : I just received a message saying our time is running out. But thank you. It has been wonderful chatting with you. God has used you to lift me tonight and remind me what it important. Thank you for that blessing.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Ok Be blessed. Have a Merry Christmas
usr : You too, thank you.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Awesome and Good night |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
| (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
| (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
| (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
| (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
| (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
| (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
sys : (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them?
usr : I would. She won't even talk to me though. When I try to call and talk to her this other woman (the lady she's cheating on me with) answers her phone and will not let me talk to her.
| (Question) That sounds really very controlling. Do you think that maybe she is regretting her decision but does not know what to do about it? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
sys : (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them?
usr : I would. She won't even talk to me though. When I try to call and talk to her this other woman (the lady she's cheating on me with) answers her phone and will not let me talk to her.
sys : (Question) That sounds really very controlling. Do you think that maybe she is regretting her decision but does not know what to do about it?
usr : She could be (at least I hope she is) but if she is there's no sign of that. She has never said or showed it
| (Others) Sometimes, unfortunately, you do just have to walk away from a mess if there's nothing you can do about it |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
sys : (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them?
usr : I would. She won't even talk to me though. When I try to call and talk to her this other woman (the lady she's cheating on me with) answers her phone and will not let me talk to her.
sys : (Question) That sounds really very controlling. Do you think that maybe she is regretting her decision but does not know what to do about it?
usr : She could be (at least I hope she is) but if she is there's no sign of that. She has never said or showed it
sys : (Others) Sometimes, unfortunately, you do just have to walk away from a mess if there's nothing you can do about it
usr : I know. I'm struggling with letting go of her. It's like my brain is consumed with the thoughts. I want to let her go. I just love her so much. I would of never married her if I wasn't in it till the end.
| (Self-disclosure) I hear you on that. Unfortunately some people do not take commitment as seriously as others. I have been in that position and had my heart broken. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
sys : (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them?
usr : I would. She won't even talk to me though. When I try to call and talk to her this other woman (the lady she's cheating on me with) answers her phone and will not let me talk to her.
sys : (Question) That sounds really very controlling. Do you think that maybe she is regretting her decision but does not know what to do about it?
usr : She could be (at least I hope she is) but if she is there's no sign of that. She has never said or showed it
sys : (Others) Sometimes, unfortunately, you do just have to walk away from a mess if there's nothing you can do about it
usr : I know. I'm struggling with letting go of her. It's like my brain is consumed with the thoughts. I want to let her go. I just love her so much. I would of never married her if I wasn't in it till the end.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I hear you on that. Unfortunately some people do not take commitment as seriously as others. I have been in that position and had my heart broken.
usr : Yes I agree with that. How did you get over it?
usr : I feel like she just turned her feelings for me off. She blocked me on all social media and my number. Then again I'm sure the potential drugs could help with her turning her feelings off
| (Self-disclosure) Oh, I tracked him down and smashed his head in with an axe. Okay no I didn't really. I just told myself that I was better off without him and it was his loss. I am not sure I totally believed myself though. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
sys : (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them?
usr : I would. She won't even talk to me though. When I try to call and talk to her this other woman (the lady she's cheating on me with) answers her phone and will not let me talk to her.
sys : (Question) That sounds really very controlling. Do you think that maybe she is regretting her decision but does not know what to do about it?
usr : She could be (at least I hope she is) but if she is there's no sign of that. She has never said or showed it
sys : (Others) Sometimes, unfortunately, you do just have to walk away from a mess if there's nothing you can do about it
usr : I know. I'm struggling with letting go of her. It's like my brain is consumed with the thoughts. I want to let her go. I just love her so much. I would of never married her if I wasn't in it till the end.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I hear you on that. Unfortunately some people do not take commitment as seriously as others. I have been in that position and had my heart broken.
usr : Yes I agree with that. How did you get over it?
usr : I feel like she just turned her feelings for me off. She blocked me on all social media and my number. Then again I'm sure the potential drugs could help with her turning her feelings off
sys : (Self-disclosure) Oh, I tracked him down and smashed his head in with an axe. Okay no I didn't really. I just told myself that I was better off without him and it was his loss. I am not sure I totally believed myself though.
| (Others) (sorry I had a temporary internet connection problem there) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
sys : (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them?
usr : I would. She won't even talk to me though. When I try to call and talk to her this other woman (the lady she's cheating on me with) answers her phone and will not let me talk to her.
sys : (Question) That sounds really very controlling. Do you think that maybe she is regretting her decision but does not know what to do about it?
usr : She could be (at least I hope she is) but if she is there's no sign of that. She has never said or showed it
sys : (Others) Sometimes, unfortunately, you do just have to walk away from a mess if there's nothing you can do about it
usr : I know. I'm struggling with letting go of her. It's like my brain is consumed with the thoughts. I want to let her go. I just love her so much. I would of never married her if I wasn't in it till the end.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I hear you on that. Unfortunately some people do not take commitment as seriously as others. I have been in that position and had my heart broken.
usr : Yes I agree with that. How did you get over it?
usr : I feel like she just turned her feelings for me off. She blocked me on all social media and my number. Then again I'm sure the potential drugs could help with her turning her feelings off
sys : (Self-disclosure) Oh, I tracked him down and smashed his head in with an axe. Okay no I didn't really. I just told myself that I was better off without him and it was his loss. I am not sure I totally believed myself though.
sys : (Others) (sorry I had a temporary internet connection problem there)
usr : I keep trying to tell myself that but I don't really believe it either.
usr : It's ok
usr : I think it just takes time. I am talking to someone that understands and wants to pursue me. But I can't let the wife go in my heart/head
| (Others) I would advise not to rush into anything else too quickly. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
sys : (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them?
usr : I would. She won't even talk to me though. When I try to call and talk to her this other woman (the lady she's cheating on me with) answers her phone and will not let me talk to her.
sys : (Question) That sounds really very controlling. Do you think that maybe she is regretting her decision but does not know what to do about it?
usr : She could be (at least I hope she is) but if she is there's no sign of that. She has never said or showed it
sys : (Others) Sometimes, unfortunately, you do just have to walk away from a mess if there's nothing you can do about it
usr : I know. I'm struggling with letting go of her. It's like my brain is consumed with the thoughts. I want to let her go. I just love her so much. I would of never married her if I wasn't in it till the end.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I hear you on that. Unfortunately some people do not take commitment as seriously as others. I have been in that position and had my heart broken.
usr : Yes I agree with that. How did you get over it?
usr : I feel like she just turned her feelings for me off. She blocked me on all social media and my number. Then again I'm sure the potential drugs could help with her turning her feelings off
sys : (Self-disclosure) Oh, I tracked him down and smashed his head in with an axe. Okay no I didn't really. I just told myself that I was better off without him and it was his loss. I am not sure I totally believed myself though.
sys : (Others) (sorry I had a temporary internet connection problem there)
usr : I keep trying to tell myself that but I don't really believe it either.
usr : It's ok
usr : I think it just takes time. I am talking to someone that understands and wants to pursue me. But I can't let the wife go in my heart/head
sys : (Others) I would advise not to rush into anything else too quickly.
| (Others) You need to give yourself time to grieve before you move on |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
sys : (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them?
usr : I would. She won't even talk to me though. When I try to call and talk to her this other woman (the lady she's cheating on me with) answers her phone and will not let me talk to her.
sys : (Question) That sounds really very controlling. Do you think that maybe she is regretting her decision but does not know what to do about it?
usr : She could be (at least I hope she is) but if she is there's no sign of that. She has never said or showed it
sys : (Others) Sometimes, unfortunately, you do just have to walk away from a mess if there's nothing you can do about it
usr : I know. I'm struggling with letting go of her. It's like my brain is consumed with the thoughts. I want to let her go. I just love her so much. I would of never married her if I wasn't in it till the end.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I hear you on that. Unfortunately some people do not take commitment as seriously as others. I have been in that position and had my heart broken.
usr : Yes I agree with that. How did you get over it?
usr : I feel like she just turned her feelings for me off. She blocked me on all social media and my number. Then again I'm sure the potential drugs could help with her turning her feelings off
sys : (Self-disclosure) Oh, I tracked him down and smashed his head in with an axe. Okay no I didn't really. I just told myself that I was better off without him and it was his loss. I am not sure I totally believed myself though.
sys : (Others) (sorry I had a temporary internet connection problem there)
usr : I keep trying to tell myself that but I don't really believe it either.
usr : It's ok
usr : I think it just takes time. I am talking to someone that understands and wants to pursue me. But I can't let the wife go in my heart/head
sys : (Others) I would advise not to rush into anything else too quickly.
sys : (Others) You need to give yourself time to grieve before you move on
usr : This person is ready and this person knows all about how I feel about my wife. I'm not going to rush into it but it is nice having someone that wants to be with you.
| (Others) I hope that I have been able to be of some comfort to you! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"Currently going through a divorce because wife is cheating. We just got married earlier this year. I'm hurt and broken that she just switched me off.". | sys : (Question) Hi there, how are you doing right now?
usr : HI! Not good. I'm sad right now. I'm mad and angry all together.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are not having a good time at the moment? Can you tell me a little more about why?
usr : No I'm not having a good time at all. I am so mad at my wife for cheating and not giving our marriage a second chance.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) Your wife has been unfaithful to you? I can understand why you are so angry about that!
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Have the two of you considered counselling or are things beyond redemption now?
usr : Yes she has been unfaithful. I think this person she is with is living with her now or staying there (I'm back in my home state now)
sys : (Self-disclosure) I am really sorry to hear that. I do know personally how betrayed you feel when you are cheated on. All I can say is, it does get better.
usr : I would love to try counseling. She won't even talk to me. I came back home to stay with my family for a few weeks. She called and said it's all over. I found out she has someone else
usr : I have been miserable.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It sounds like you have been treated very poorly, do you agree with that?
usr : Yes I have and everyone says to move on. I just don't know how to let her go in my head and heart.
usr : If she called me today and said come back I probably would go. I know I'm weak. I just love her.
sys : (Question) Are there potential financial issues or do you think she'd be prepared to reach an amicable settlement?
usr : No we just got married earlier this year. We never even got around to putting our finances together. So I'm good there. Thank goodness
sys : (Others) She does not seem to have stayed true to her marriage vows for very long!
usr : No and it shocks me because she was so against not getting a divorce. We think (her bff and sister) that she may be using drugs.
sys : (Information) Wow that is very difficult. There are support agencies out there that can help the friends and family of addicts, I believe. Would you consider them?
usr : I would. She won't even talk to me though. When I try to call and talk to her this other woman (the lady she's cheating on me with) answers her phone and will not let me talk to her.
sys : (Question) That sounds really very controlling. Do you think that maybe she is regretting her decision but does not know what to do about it?
usr : She could be (at least I hope she is) but if she is there's no sign of that. She has never said or showed it
sys : (Others) Sometimes, unfortunately, you do just have to walk away from a mess if there's nothing you can do about it
usr : I know. I'm struggling with letting go of her. It's like my brain is consumed with the thoughts. I want to let her go. I just love her so much. I would of never married her if I wasn't in it till the end.
sys : (Self-disclosure) I hear you on that. Unfortunately some people do not take commitment as seriously as others. I have been in that position and had my heart broken.
usr : Yes I agree with that. How did you get over it?
usr : I feel like she just turned her feelings for me off. She blocked me on all social media and my number. Then again I'm sure the potential drugs could help with her turning her feelings off
sys : (Self-disclosure) Oh, I tracked him down and smashed his head in with an axe. Okay no I didn't really. I just told myself that I was better off without him and it was his loss. I am not sure I totally believed myself though.
sys : (Others) (sorry I had a temporary internet connection problem there)
usr : I keep trying to tell myself that but I don't really believe it either.
usr : It's ok
usr : I think it just takes time. I am talking to someone that understands and wants to pursue me. But I can't let the wife go in my heart/head
sys : (Others) I would advise not to rush into anything else too quickly.
sys : (Others) You need to give yourself time to grieve before you move on
usr : This person is ready and this person knows all about how I feel about my wife. I'm not going to rush into it but it is nice having someone that wants to be with you.
sys : (Others) I hope that I have been able to be of some comfort to you!
usr : Yes it's nice having someone to chat with. Hope you have a nice evening.
| (Others) And you too! Goodbye :) |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | (Question) Hi how are you? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | sys : (Question) Hi how are you?
usr : Hello
usr : I am depressed
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry you are depressed. What's going on? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | sys : (Question) Hi how are you?
usr : Hello
usr : I am depressed
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry you are depressed. What's going on?
usr : I hate the holidays because everybody has to pretend to be happy even if they aren't
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Sometimes it can help to just talk about things and get it off your chest. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | sys : (Question) Hi how are you?
usr : Hello
usr : I am depressed
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry you are depressed. What's going on?
usr : I hate the holidays because everybody has to pretend to be happy even if they aren't
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Sometimes it can help to just talk about things and get it off your chest.
usr : Yea, sometimes
| (Question) Why do you feel that way? Could it be the people your surrounded by making you feel that way? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | sys : (Question) Hi how are you?
usr : Hello
usr : I am depressed
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry you are depressed. What's going on?
usr : I hate the holidays because everybody has to pretend to be happy even if they aren't
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Sometimes it can help to just talk about things and get it off your chest.
usr : Yea, sometimes
sys : (Question) Why do you feel that way? Could it be the people your surrounded by making you feel that way?
usr : I always felt depressed. It is just worst during the holidays because people expect you to be happy and if you aren't, then they blame you for ruining their holiday
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think everyone's off this holiday season. It's not a normal christmas. You're not alone in feeling this way. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | sys : (Question) Hi how are you?
usr : Hello
usr : I am depressed
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry you are depressed. What's going on?
usr : I hate the holidays because everybody has to pretend to be happy even if they aren't
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Sometimes it can help to just talk about things and get it off your chest.
usr : Yea, sometimes
sys : (Question) Why do you feel that way? Could it be the people your surrounded by making you feel that way?
usr : I always felt depressed. It is just worst during the holidays because people expect you to be happy and if you aren't, then they blame you for ruining their holiday
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think everyone's off this holiday season. It's not a normal christmas. You're not alone in feeling this way.
usr : Yea, I suppose it's better that everyone else feels a little more depressed with me, I guess
usr : At least this holiday
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Has anyone specific made you feel this way? I would hope your family doesn't make you feel that your depression ruins Christmas that's horrible |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | sys : (Question) Hi how are you?
usr : Hello
usr : I am depressed
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry you are depressed. What's going on?
usr : I hate the holidays because everybody has to pretend to be happy even if they aren't
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Sometimes it can help to just talk about things and get it off your chest.
usr : Yea, sometimes
sys : (Question) Why do you feel that way? Could it be the people your surrounded by making you feel that way?
usr : I always felt depressed. It is just worst during the holidays because people expect you to be happy and if you aren't, then they blame you for ruining their holiday
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think everyone's off this holiday season. It's not a normal christmas. You're not alone in feeling this way.
usr : Yea, I suppose it's better that everyone else feels a little more depressed with me, I guess
usr : At least this holiday
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Has anyone specific made you feel this way? I would hope your family doesn't make you feel that your depression ruins Christmas that's horrible
usr : Well, they don't understand. No, it isn't anybody specific. But, yea, they tend to think I ruin half of everything
usr : The start of the new year is rough too, because you have to start all over again with breaking your goals for the next year, but we don't really need to go there
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I think you need to surround yourself with more understanding people. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | sys : (Question) Hi how are you?
usr : Hello
usr : I am depressed
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry you are depressed. What's going on?
usr : I hate the holidays because everybody has to pretend to be happy even if they aren't
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Sometimes it can help to just talk about things and get it off your chest.
usr : Yea, sometimes
sys : (Question) Why do you feel that way? Could it be the people your surrounded by making you feel that way?
usr : I always felt depressed. It is just worst during the holidays because people expect you to be happy and if you aren't, then they blame you for ruining their holiday
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think everyone's off this holiday season. It's not a normal christmas. You're not alone in feeling this way.
usr : Yea, I suppose it's better that everyone else feels a little more depressed with me, I guess
usr : At least this holiday
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Has anyone specific made you feel this way? I would hope your family doesn't make you feel that your depression ruins Christmas that's horrible
usr : Well, they don't understand. No, it isn't anybody specific. But, yea, they tend to think I ruin half of everything
usr : The start of the new year is rough too, because you have to start all over again with breaking your goals for the next year, but we don't really need to go there
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I think you need to surround yourself with more understanding people.
usr : I agree
usr : It's hard to find those people though
usr : How often do you feel depressed
| (Others) It can be challenging but there are understanding people out there. You can't always pick your family. But if they truly make you feel that way you aren't obligated to be there. That's horrible. |
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The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | sys : (Question) Hi how are you?
usr : Hello
usr : I am depressed
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry you are depressed. What's going on?
usr : I hate the holidays because everybody has to pretend to be happy even if they aren't
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Sometimes it can help to just talk about things and get it off your chest.
usr : Yea, sometimes
sys : (Question) Why do you feel that way? Could it be the people your surrounded by making you feel that way?
usr : I always felt depressed. It is just worst during the holidays because people expect you to be happy and if you aren't, then they blame you for ruining their holiday
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think everyone's off this holiday season. It's not a normal christmas. You're not alone in feeling this way.
usr : Yea, I suppose it's better that everyone else feels a little more depressed with me, I guess
usr : At least this holiday
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Has anyone specific made you feel this way? I would hope your family doesn't make you feel that your depression ruins Christmas that's horrible
usr : Well, they don't understand. No, it isn't anybody specific. But, yea, they tend to think I ruin half of everything
usr : The start of the new year is rough too, because you have to start all over again with breaking your goals for the next year, but we don't really need to go there
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I think you need to surround yourself with more understanding people.
usr : I agree
usr : It's hard to find those people though
usr : How often do you feel depressed
sys : (Others) It can be challenging but there are understanding people out there. You can't always pick your family. But if they truly make you feel that way you aren't obligated to be there. That's horrible.
usr : Yea, that's true. I thought about going camping somewhere and wait Christmas out in the woods, but I don't know if freezing my butt off would be better than being with them all
| (Others) I have struggled my whole life on and off. Learning triggers and ways to cope with them is very important. A positive mindset doesn't cute depression by any means, but it will help in accepting ways to cope |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I feel depressed. I hate the holidays. I don't want to pretend to be happy around my family for christmas.". | sys : (Question) Hi how are you?
usr : Hello
usr : I am depressed
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm sorry you are depressed. What's going on?
usr : I hate the holidays because everybody has to pretend to be happy even if they aren't
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Sometimes it can help to just talk about things and get it off your chest.
usr : Yea, sometimes
sys : (Question) Why do you feel that way? Could it be the people your surrounded by making you feel that way?
usr : I always felt depressed. It is just worst during the holidays because people expect you to be happy and if you aren't, then they blame you for ruining their holiday
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I think everyone's off this holiday season. It's not a normal christmas. You're not alone in feeling this way.
usr : Yea, I suppose it's better that everyone else feels a little more depressed with me, I guess
usr : At least this holiday
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Has anyone specific made you feel this way? I would hope your family doesn't make you feel that your depression ruins Christmas that's horrible
usr : Well, they don't understand. No, it isn't anybody specific. But, yea, they tend to think I ruin half of everything
usr : The start of the new year is rough too, because you have to start all over again with breaking your goals for the next year, but we don't really need to go there
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I think you need to surround yourself with more understanding people.
usr : I agree
usr : It's hard to find those people though
usr : How often do you feel depressed
sys : (Others) It can be challenging but there are understanding people out there. You can't always pick your family. But if they truly make you feel that way you aren't obligated to be there. That's horrible.
usr : Yea, that's true. I thought about going camping somewhere and wait Christmas out in the woods, but I don't know if freezing my butt off would be better than being with them all
sys : (Others) I have struggled my whole life on and off. Learning triggers and ways to cope with them is very important. A positive mindset doesn't cute depression by any means, but it will help in accepting ways to cope
usr : Anyway, we've been talking for awhile. I Thank you for talking with me. You seem nice.
usr : That is true
| (Others) You're welcome:) I hope you have a wonderful Christmas and can surround yourself with positivity. Wish you all the best |
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The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
| (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
| (Question) How long have you been friends? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
| (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
| (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
| (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
sys : (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
usr : That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
| (Self-disclosure) I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
sys : (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
usr : That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them
usr : Makes sense. Unfortunately we live on the same street so it's kind of hard not to run into each other. :/
| (Others) That's even easier to make it clear, if you run into him, just give him a polite greetings. The point is, make it clear you have had enough |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
sys : (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
usr : That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them
usr : Makes sense. Unfortunately we live on the same street so it's kind of hard not to run into each other. :/
sys : (Others) That's even easier to make it clear, if you run into him, just give him a polite greetings. The point is, make it clear you have had enough
usr : Right, so basically let him know if he continues to act like he does, we're done as friends, correct? Or should I not be that bold?
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yes. Be not too harsh at first. I would say to give him 1 more chance. If he still doesn't respect your words, it's the best for both to say it clearly. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
sys : (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
usr : That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them
usr : Makes sense. Unfortunately we live on the same street so it's kind of hard not to run into each other. :/
sys : (Others) That's even easier to make it clear, if you run into him, just give him a polite greetings. The point is, make it clear you have had enough
usr : Right, so basically let him know if he continues to act like he does, we're done as friends, correct? Or should I not be that bold?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yes. Be not too harsh at first. I would say to give him 1 more chance. If he still doesn't respect your words, it's the best for both to say it clearly.
usr : Sounds good, I'm looking forward to getting this resolved. Now I just have to work on the wording (what I'll say) to come across as serious without being too harsh, I guess.
usr : Suggestions welcome! :)
| (Others) You have the right mindset! Practice before talking will help you deliver your thoughts better. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
sys : (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
usr : That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them
usr : Makes sense. Unfortunately we live on the same street so it's kind of hard not to run into each other. :/
sys : (Others) That's even easier to make it clear, if you run into him, just give him a polite greetings. The point is, make it clear you have had enough
usr : Right, so basically let him know if he continues to act like he does, we're done as friends, correct? Or should I not be that bold?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yes. Be not too harsh at first. I would say to give him 1 more chance. If he still doesn't respect your words, it's the best for both to say it clearly.
usr : Sounds good, I'm looking forward to getting this resolved. Now I just have to work on the wording (what I'll say) to come across as serious without being too harsh, I guess.
usr : Suggestions welcome! :)
sys : (Others) You have the right mindset! Practice before talking will help you deliver your thoughts better.
usr : Yeah I tend to get too emotional lol
| (Others) I would start with something along the line "Look, I know we have had this conversation many times. However, i feel as though you never take me seriously. I want to say this one last time...." |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
sys : (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
usr : That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them
usr : Makes sense. Unfortunately we live on the same street so it's kind of hard not to run into each other. :/
sys : (Others) That's even easier to make it clear, if you run into him, just give him a polite greetings. The point is, make it clear you have had enough
usr : Right, so basically let him know if he continues to act like he does, we're done as friends, correct? Or should I not be that bold?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yes. Be not too harsh at first. I would say to give him 1 more chance. If he still doesn't respect your words, it's the best for both to say it clearly.
usr : Sounds good, I'm looking forward to getting this resolved. Now I just have to work on the wording (what I'll say) to come across as serious without being too harsh, I guess.
usr : Suggestions welcome! :)
sys : (Others) You have the right mindset! Practice before talking will help you deliver your thoughts better.
usr : Yeah I tend to get too emotional lol
sys : (Others) I would start with something along the line "Look, I know we have had this conversation many times. However, i feel as though you never take me seriously. I want to say this one last time...."
usr : That's perfect. Copying that down right now!
usr : Seriously!
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Getting emotional is totally fine, that's why you need practice |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
sys : (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
usr : That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them
usr : Makes sense. Unfortunately we live on the same street so it's kind of hard not to run into each other. :/
sys : (Others) That's even easier to make it clear, if you run into him, just give him a polite greetings. The point is, make it clear you have had enough
usr : Right, so basically let him know if he continues to act like he does, we're done as friends, correct? Or should I not be that bold?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yes. Be not too harsh at first. I would say to give him 1 more chance. If he still doesn't respect your words, it's the best for both to say it clearly.
usr : Sounds good, I'm looking forward to getting this resolved. Now I just have to work on the wording (what I'll say) to come across as serious without being too harsh, I guess.
usr : Suggestions welcome! :)
sys : (Others) You have the right mindset! Practice before talking will help you deliver your thoughts better.
usr : Yeah I tend to get too emotional lol
sys : (Others) I would start with something along the line "Look, I know we have had this conversation many times. However, i feel as though you never take me seriously. I want to say this one last time...."
usr : That's perfect. Copying that down right now!
usr : Seriously!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Getting emotional is totally fine, that's why you need practice
usr : True it's just we've been friends for so long it would suck if we weren't anymore.
usr : So I've got a plan and know what to do. You've been super helpful! Thanks!
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I understand, it's difficult to come to this decision when you've been friends for so long. I hope he appreciates your friendship just as you do and tries his best. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
sys : (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
usr : That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them
usr : Makes sense. Unfortunately we live on the same street so it's kind of hard not to run into each other. :/
sys : (Others) That's even easier to make it clear, if you run into him, just give him a polite greetings. The point is, make it clear you have had enough
usr : Right, so basically let him know if he continues to act like he does, we're done as friends, correct? Or should I not be that bold?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yes. Be not too harsh at first. I would say to give him 1 more chance. If he still doesn't respect your words, it's the best for both to say it clearly.
usr : Sounds good, I'm looking forward to getting this resolved. Now I just have to work on the wording (what I'll say) to come across as serious without being too harsh, I guess.
usr : Suggestions welcome! :)
sys : (Others) You have the right mindset! Practice before talking will help you deliver your thoughts better.
usr : Yeah I tend to get too emotional lol
sys : (Others) I would start with something along the line "Look, I know we have had this conversation many times. However, i feel as though you never take me seriously. I want to say this one last time...."
usr : That's perfect. Copying that down right now!
usr : Seriously!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Getting emotional is totally fine, that's why you need practice
usr : True it's just we've been friends for so long it would suck if we weren't anymore.
usr : So I've got a plan and know what to do. You've been super helpful! Thanks!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I understand, it's difficult to come to this decision when you've been friends for so long. I hope he appreciates your friendship just as you do and tries his best.
usr : We will see!
| (Question) You're very welcome. is there anything I can do for you? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about jealousy regarding a/an problems with friends. The seeker says
"My friend Rick is a jerk. He's got an awesome new Corvette that he brags about constantly knowing full well I ADORE Corvettes, want one badly, and can't afford one. We've been friends for a long time but he insists on rubbing this in my face every chance he gets! He thinks it's funny. I'm wondering if I should just not be friends with him anymore...". | usr : Hey.
sys : (Question) Hello, what's on your mind today?
usr : Just wondering what I can do to deal with my cocky annoying friend Rick and his new car
usr : (as above)
sys : (Question) How long have you been friends?
usr : 30+ years since high school
sys : (Others) And he has always had cocky attitude? Have you ever told him that?
usr : He has, and yes I've told him, he just dismisses it, thinks it's funny that I get jealous
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I understand your frustration, it's upsetting when they dismiss what you say even though you have been friends for so long.
usr : Thanks.
sys : (Others) What I would recommend in this case is, spend more time with other friends who appreciate you. You also need to tell Rick your honest thought, don't beat around the bush but let him know you're serious
usr : That's good advice! Thanks. I wonder how I can get through to him to really let him know I'm serious. Ideas?
sys : (Self-disclosure) I have been in the same situation myself, what I usually do is sit down with them and start the conversation in a serious mood. Explain everything I need to say and tell them that I mean every word. If they don't seem to accept and change, I keep my distance from them
usr : Makes sense. Unfortunately we live on the same street so it's kind of hard not to run into each other. :/
sys : (Others) That's even easier to make it clear, if you run into him, just give him a polite greetings. The point is, make it clear you have had enough
usr : Right, so basically let him know if he continues to act like he does, we're done as friends, correct? Or should I not be that bold?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Yes. Be not too harsh at first. I would say to give him 1 more chance. If he still doesn't respect your words, it's the best for both to say it clearly.
usr : Sounds good, I'm looking forward to getting this resolved. Now I just have to work on the wording (what I'll say) to come across as serious without being too harsh, I guess.
usr : Suggestions welcome! :)
sys : (Others) You have the right mindset! Practice before talking will help you deliver your thoughts better.
usr : Yeah I tend to get too emotional lol
sys : (Others) I would start with something along the line "Look, I know we have had this conversation many times. However, i feel as though you never take me seriously. I want to say this one last time...."
usr : That's perfect. Copying that down right now!
usr : Seriously!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Getting emotional is totally fine, that's why you need practice
usr : True it's just we've been friends for so long it would suck if we weren't anymore.
usr : So I've got a plan and know what to do. You've been super helpful! Thanks!
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I understand, it's difficult to come to this decision when you've been friends for so long. I hope he appreciates your friendship just as you do and tries his best.
usr : We will see!
sys : (Question) You're very welcome. is there anything I can do for you?
usr : No, I think that's it!
usr : Much appreciated!
| (Others) I think you can end our session here. I'm glad I could help a bit |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | (Question) How can I help you? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | sys : (Question) How can I help you?
usr : i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | sys : (Question) How can I help you?
usr : i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful.
usr : i'm not certain. i hear rumors. it would have been nice if my boss spoke to me directly instead of blabbing about this behind my back.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) That sounds very difficult that things are not openly discussed. It sounds like you want to be proactive which is good though. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | sys : (Question) How can I help you?
usr : i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful.
usr : i'm not certain. i hear rumors. it would have been nice if my boss spoke to me directly instead of blabbing about this behind my back.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That sounds very difficult that things are not openly discussed. It sounds like you want to be proactive which is good though.
usr : it's awful. this job is too hard for me. getting fired would put me in a big financial hole. my head is spinning.
| (Question) Have you thought at all about looking for a new job that might not be so stressful? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | sys : (Question) How can I help you?
usr : i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful.
usr : i'm not certain. i hear rumors. it would have been nice if my boss spoke to me directly instead of blabbing about this behind my back.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That sounds very difficult that things are not openly discussed. It sounds like you want to be proactive which is good though.
usr : it's awful. this job is too hard for me. getting fired would put me in a big financial hole. my head is spinning.
sys : (Question) Have you thought at all about looking for a new job that might not be so stressful?
usr : i am about to start doing that but it's tricky. i'm a radio announcer and if your boss finds our you're looking for another job he can use that as a reason to fire you. there are ways to get around this but it's complicated. small time radio is a difficult mess.
| (Question) Is there anyone you can contact who has been in a similar situation to help you? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | sys : (Question) How can I help you?
usr : i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful.
usr : i'm not certain. i hear rumors. it would have been nice if my boss spoke to me directly instead of blabbing about this behind my back.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That sounds very difficult that things are not openly discussed. It sounds like you want to be proactive which is good though.
usr : it's awful. this job is too hard for me. getting fired would put me in a big financial hole. my head is spinning.
sys : (Question) Have you thought at all about looking for a new job that might not be so stressful?
usr : i am about to start doing that but it's tricky. i'm a radio announcer and if your boss finds our you're looking for another job he can use that as a reason to fire you. there are ways to get around this but it's complicated. small time radio is a difficult mess.
sys : (Question) Is there anyone you can contact who has been in a similar situation to help you?
usr : i wish there was someone like that. i've talked to people in the past about this type of situation but i wasn't the one under the gun. but your advice is good and i'll try and think of someone who might be able to help me.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's great that you are so willing to try different options to move forward. Perhaps a family member may help? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | sys : (Question) How can I help you?
usr : i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful.
usr : i'm not certain. i hear rumors. it would have been nice if my boss spoke to me directly instead of blabbing about this behind my back.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That sounds very difficult that things are not openly discussed. It sounds like you want to be proactive which is good though.
usr : it's awful. this job is too hard for me. getting fired would put me in a big financial hole. my head is spinning.
sys : (Question) Have you thought at all about looking for a new job that might not be so stressful?
usr : i am about to start doing that but it's tricky. i'm a radio announcer and if your boss finds our you're looking for another job he can use that as a reason to fire you. there are ways to get around this but it's complicated. small time radio is a difficult mess.
sys : (Question) Is there anyone you can contact who has been in a similar situation to help you?
usr : i wish there was someone like that. i've talked to people in the past about this type of situation but i wasn't the one under the gun. but your advice is good and i'll try and think of someone who might be able to help me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's great that you are so willing to try different options to move forward. Perhaps a family member may help?
usr : i haven't told the specifics of this mess to my parents; i dont want to burden them with this. they worry about me enough as it is. my sisters wouldn't be able to help me. they both have seirous emotional issues and are both in very bad marriages and have plenty of their own problems.
| (Reflection of feelings) Just from chatting with you, I can see why you are anxious. Have you tried any deep breathing techniques. They are often helpful when dealing with stress. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | sys : (Question) How can I help you?
usr : i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful.
usr : i'm not certain. i hear rumors. it would have been nice if my boss spoke to me directly instead of blabbing about this behind my back.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That sounds very difficult that things are not openly discussed. It sounds like you want to be proactive which is good though.
usr : it's awful. this job is too hard for me. getting fired would put me in a big financial hole. my head is spinning.
sys : (Question) Have you thought at all about looking for a new job that might not be so stressful?
usr : i am about to start doing that but it's tricky. i'm a radio announcer and if your boss finds our you're looking for another job he can use that as a reason to fire you. there are ways to get around this but it's complicated. small time radio is a difficult mess.
sys : (Question) Is there anyone you can contact who has been in a similar situation to help you?
usr : i wish there was someone like that. i've talked to people in the past about this type of situation but i wasn't the one under the gun. but your advice is good and i'll try and think of someone who might be able to help me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's great that you are so willing to try different options to move forward. Perhaps a family member may help?
usr : i haven't told the specifics of this mess to my parents; i dont want to burden them with this. they worry about me enough as it is. my sisters wouldn't be able to help me. they both have seirous emotional issues and are both in very bad marriages and have plenty of their own problems.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Just from chatting with you, I can see why you are anxious. Have you tried any deep breathing techniques. They are often helpful when dealing with stress.
usr : that's a good idea. i think i'll try that. and praying.
| (Self-disclosure) Praying is also an excellent idea. My friends and I prayed all day long for each other during a difficult exam that I previously had failed and had to retake. That day everyone passed the exam. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | sys : (Question) How can I help you?
usr : i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful.
usr : i'm not certain. i hear rumors. it would have been nice if my boss spoke to me directly instead of blabbing about this behind my back.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That sounds very difficult that things are not openly discussed. It sounds like you want to be proactive which is good though.
usr : it's awful. this job is too hard for me. getting fired would put me in a big financial hole. my head is spinning.
sys : (Question) Have you thought at all about looking for a new job that might not be so stressful?
usr : i am about to start doing that but it's tricky. i'm a radio announcer and if your boss finds our you're looking for another job he can use that as a reason to fire you. there are ways to get around this but it's complicated. small time radio is a difficult mess.
sys : (Question) Is there anyone you can contact who has been in a similar situation to help you?
usr : i wish there was someone like that. i've talked to people in the past about this type of situation but i wasn't the one under the gun. but your advice is good and i'll try and think of someone who might be able to help me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's great that you are so willing to try different options to move forward. Perhaps a family member may help?
usr : i haven't told the specifics of this mess to my parents; i dont want to burden them with this. they worry about me enough as it is. my sisters wouldn't be able to help me. they both have seirous emotional issues and are both in very bad marriages and have plenty of their own problems.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Just from chatting with you, I can see why you are anxious. Have you tried any deep breathing techniques. They are often helpful when dealing with stress.
usr : that's a good idea. i think i'll try that. and praying.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Praying is also an excellent idea. My friends and I prayed all day long for each other during a difficult exam that I previously had failed and had to retake. That day everyone passed the exam.
usr : praying is a wonderful thing that i need to do more often. i'm glad you passed the exam. i had a lot of pressure when i went to college as well. it seems most of my 24 years alive i've had one sort of probem or another but i always remember that i have plenty of things to be thankful for too. life can be rough.
| (Self-disclosure) My grandmother always encouraged me by saying there is always someone who has it rougher. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about anxiety regarding a/an job crisis. The seeker says
"i'm doing a bad job at my job and there are rumors i'll be fired soon. i am a newscaster at a small radio station. basically this job is too much for me. i feel tremendous pressure.". | sys : (Question) How can I help you?
usr : i think i'm about to get fired from my job. i feel tremendous pressure. the uncertainty is kiling me.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) I'm so sorry to hear that you are about to lose your job. That sounds very stressful.
usr : i'm not certain. i hear rumors. it would have been nice if my boss spoke to me directly instead of blabbing about this behind my back.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That sounds very difficult that things are not openly discussed. It sounds like you want to be proactive which is good though.
usr : it's awful. this job is too hard for me. getting fired would put me in a big financial hole. my head is spinning.
sys : (Question) Have you thought at all about looking for a new job that might not be so stressful?
usr : i am about to start doing that but it's tricky. i'm a radio announcer and if your boss finds our you're looking for another job he can use that as a reason to fire you. there are ways to get around this but it's complicated. small time radio is a difficult mess.
sys : (Question) Is there anyone you can contact who has been in a similar situation to help you?
usr : i wish there was someone like that. i've talked to people in the past about this type of situation but i wasn't the one under the gun. but your advice is good and i'll try and think of someone who might be able to help me.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) That's great that you are so willing to try different options to move forward. Perhaps a family member may help?
usr : i haven't told the specifics of this mess to my parents; i dont want to burden them with this. they worry about me enough as it is. my sisters wouldn't be able to help me. they both have seirous emotional issues and are both in very bad marriages and have plenty of their own problems.
sys : (Reflection of feelings) Just from chatting with you, I can see why you are anxious. Have you tried any deep breathing techniques. They are often helpful when dealing with stress.
usr : that's a good idea. i think i'll try that. and praying.
sys : (Self-disclosure) Praying is also an excellent idea. My friends and I prayed all day long for each other during a difficult exam that I previously had failed and had to retake. That day everyone passed the exam.
usr : praying is a wonderful thing that i need to do more often. i'm glad you passed the exam. i had a lot of pressure when i went to college as well. it seems most of my 24 years alive i've had one sort of probem or another but i always remember that i have plenty of things to be thankful for too. life can be rough.
sys : (Self-disclosure) My grandmother always encouraged me by saying there is always someone who has it rougher.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Things can be really hard but you can do it. You are working hard and trying so hard. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | (Others) Hello | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
| (Question) I'm good. How can I help you? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
| (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
| (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
| (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
sys : (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help?
usr : Maybe. I haven't tried that yet
usr : do you think they would help me?
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) don't be too harsh on yourself. We all struggle in life. As long as we find an appropriate solution, I believe you will get better |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
sys : (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help?
usr : Maybe. I haven't tried that yet
usr : do you think they would help me?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) don't be too harsh on yourself. We all struggle in life. As long as we find an appropriate solution, I believe you will get better
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Of course, it's their job after all |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
sys : (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help?
usr : Maybe. I haven't tried that yet
usr : do you think they would help me?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) don't be too harsh on yourself. We all struggle in life. As long as we find an appropriate solution, I believe you will get better
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Of course, it's their job after all
usr : Im trying not to be too hard on myself but it's really scary not knowing if i'll pass the next wave of exams
usr : Ill try asking my profs thats a good idea, they can probably give me some good guidance
| (Reflection of feelings) I feel you. it's scary when everyone seems to do fine but you struggle. However, others struggle silently too, they just like you don't tell anyone |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
sys : (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help?
usr : Maybe. I haven't tried that yet
usr : do you think they would help me?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) don't be too harsh on yourself. We all struggle in life. As long as we find an appropriate solution, I believe you will get better
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Of course, it's their job after all
usr : Im trying not to be too hard on myself but it's really scary not knowing if i'll pass the next wave of exams
usr : Ill try asking my profs thats a good idea, they can probably give me some good guidance
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I feel you. it's scary when everyone seems to do fine but you struggle. However, others struggle silently too, they just like you don't tell anyone
usr : I guess you're right
| (Others) If you hesitate to talk to the professors, try their teaching assistants. They tend to be more friendly |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
sys : (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help?
usr : Maybe. I haven't tried that yet
usr : do you think they would help me?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) don't be too harsh on yourself. We all struggle in life. As long as we find an appropriate solution, I believe you will get better
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Of course, it's their job after all
usr : Im trying not to be too hard on myself but it's really scary not knowing if i'll pass the next wave of exams
usr : Ill try asking my profs thats a good idea, they can probably give me some good guidance
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I feel you. it's scary when everyone seems to do fine but you struggle. However, others struggle silently too, they just like you don't tell anyone
usr : I guess you're right
sys : (Others) If you hesitate to talk to the professors, try their teaching assistants. They tend to be more friendly
usr : Ill reach out to them too
| (Others) you can also ask your friends to form a study group |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
sys : (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help?
usr : Maybe. I haven't tried that yet
usr : do you think they would help me?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) don't be too harsh on yourself. We all struggle in life. As long as we find an appropriate solution, I believe you will get better
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Of course, it's their job after all
usr : Im trying not to be too hard on myself but it's really scary not knowing if i'll pass the next wave of exams
usr : Ill try asking my profs thats a good idea, they can probably give me some good guidance
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I feel you. it's scary when everyone seems to do fine but you struggle. However, others struggle silently too, they just like you don't tell anyone
usr : I guess you're right
sys : (Others) If you hesitate to talk to the professors, try their teaching assistants. They tend to be more friendly
usr : Ill reach out to them too
sys : (Others) you can also ask your friends to form a study group
usr : I think I will do that
usr : im sure they have some of the same questions as I do :)
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) yes, and maybe you will understand parts that some of them don't |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
sys : (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help?
usr : Maybe. I haven't tried that yet
usr : do you think they would help me?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) don't be too harsh on yourself. We all struggle in life. As long as we find an appropriate solution, I believe you will get better
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Of course, it's their job after all
usr : Im trying not to be too hard on myself but it's really scary not knowing if i'll pass the next wave of exams
usr : Ill try asking my profs thats a good idea, they can probably give me some good guidance
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I feel you. it's scary when everyone seems to do fine but you struggle. However, others struggle silently too, they just like you don't tell anyone
usr : I guess you're right
sys : (Others) If you hesitate to talk to the professors, try their teaching assistants. They tend to be more friendly
usr : Ill reach out to them too
sys : (Others) you can also ask your friends to form a study group
usr : I think I will do that
usr : im sure they have some of the same questions as I do :)
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) yes, and maybe you will understand parts that some of them don't
usr : Yeah you're right
usr : maybe I'm not as hopeless as I thought
| (Self-disclosure) of course, I also struggle all the time |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
sys : (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help?
usr : Maybe. I haven't tried that yet
usr : do you think they would help me?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) don't be too harsh on yourself. We all struggle in life. As long as we find an appropriate solution, I believe you will get better
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Of course, it's their job after all
usr : Im trying not to be too hard on myself but it's really scary not knowing if i'll pass the next wave of exams
usr : Ill try asking my profs thats a good idea, they can probably give me some good guidance
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I feel you. it's scary when everyone seems to do fine but you struggle. However, others struggle silently too, they just like you don't tell anyone
usr : I guess you're right
sys : (Others) If you hesitate to talk to the professors, try their teaching assistants. They tend to be more friendly
usr : Ill reach out to them too
sys : (Others) you can also ask your friends to form a study group
usr : I think I will do that
usr : im sure they have some of the same questions as I do :)
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) yes, and maybe you will understand parts that some of them don't
usr : Yeah you're right
usr : maybe I'm not as hopeless as I thought
sys : (Self-disclosure) of course, I also struggle all the time
usr : yea we all struggle all the time
| (Question) Anything else I can help you with? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about fear regarding a/an academic pressure. The seeker says
"I am close to failing school and I dont know what to do". | sys : (Others) Hello
usr : Hello :)
usr : how are you
sys : (Question) I'm good. How can I help you?
usr : Im feeling very scared regarding my schooling
usr : Im close to failing out and Im not sure what to do
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) So you are afraid you will fail your classes?
usr : yeah
usr : Im getting pretty close and I can't afford to fail my courses
sys : (Question) Have you tried tutor service at school? They usually provide free of charge or very cheap
usr : I've looked around and there arn't any good tutoring services for my field of study
usr : I've tried reaching out for help but Im still doing poorly
sys : (Reflection of feelings) It must be frustrated for you.
usr : Yea im very frustrated at myself. I just can't seem to do well no matter how hard I try
sys : (Others) How about talking to your professors about that you don't understand and how they can help?
usr : Maybe. I haven't tried that yet
usr : do you think they would help me?
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) don't be too harsh on yourself. We all struggle in life. As long as we find an appropriate solution, I believe you will get better
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Of course, it's their job after all
usr : Im trying not to be too hard on myself but it's really scary not knowing if i'll pass the next wave of exams
usr : Ill try asking my profs thats a good idea, they can probably give me some good guidance
sys : (Reflection of feelings) I feel you. it's scary when everyone seems to do fine but you struggle. However, others struggle silently too, they just like you don't tell anyone
usr : I guess you're right
sys : (Others) If you hesitate to talk to the professors, try their teaching assistants. They tend to be more friendly
usr : Ill reach out to them too
sys : (Others) you can also ask your friends to form a study group
usr : I think I will do that
usr : im sure they have some of the same questions as I do :)
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) yes, and maybe you will understand parts that some of them don't
usr : Yeah you're right
usr : maybe I'm not as hopeless as I thought
sys : (Self-disclosure) of course, I also struggle all the time
usr : yea we all struggle all the time
sys : (Question) Anything else I can help you with?
usr : No I feel a little better
usr : thank you for your time :)
| (Others) no problem, I'm glad I could be some help |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | (Others) Hi there | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
| (Others) How's it going? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
| (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
sys : (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on?
usr : My girlfriend and I recently broke up so it has got me a little down
usr : I'm glad that you're having a good weekend so far
| (Self-disclosure) Sorry to hear that. Breakups are rough I can say as I've been through a couple myself. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
sys : (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on?
usr : My girlfriend and I recently broke up so it has got me a little down
usr : I'm glad that you're having a good weekend so far
sys : (Self-disclosure) Sorry to hear that. Breakups are rough I can say as I've been through a couple myself.
| (Question) How long were you two together? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
sys : (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on?
usr : My girlfriend and I recently broke up so it has got me a little down
usr : I'm glad that you're having a good weekend so far
sys : (Self-disclosure) Sorry to hear that. Breakups are rough I can say as I've been through a couple myself.
sys : (Question) How long were you two together?
usr : We were together for two years. It's been a pretty tough week but I've been trying to go on walks with my dog & whatnot to keep my mind off thigns
usr : things*
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) Fur babies are definitely good in bad times. It's good that you're taking the time out for yourself. That takes strength! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
sys : (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on?
usr : My girlfriend and I recently broke up so it has got me a little down
usr : I'm glad that you're having a good weekend so far
sys : (Self-disclosure) Sorry to hear that. Breakups are rough I can say as I've been through a couple myself.
sys : (Question) How long were you two together?
usr : We were together for two years. It's been a pretty tough week but I've been trying to go on walks with my dog & whatnot to keep my mind off thigns
usr : things*
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Fur babies are definitely good in bad times. It's good that you're taking the time out for yourself. That takes strength!
usr : That's one of the things that I am trying to focus on - being mindful of myself.
usr : It's been helpful that my city is on Lockdown so I'm able to go on walks & spend some time by myself
| (Question) Oh that's awesome - despite the circumstances. Are you in the US? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
sys : (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on?
usr : My girlfriend and I recently broke up so it has got me a little down
usr : I'm glad that you're having a good weekend so far
sys : (Self-disclosure) Sorry to hear that. Breakups are rough I can say as I've been through a couple myself.
sys : (Question) How long were you two together?
usr : We were together for two years. It's been a pretty tough week but I've been trying to go on walks with my dog & whatnot to keep my mind off thigns
usr : things*
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Fur babies are definitely good in bad times. It's good that you're taking the time out for yourself. That takes strength!
usr : That's one of the things that I am trying to focus on - being mindful of myself.
usr : It's been helpful that my city is on Lockdown so I'm able to go on walks & spend some time by myself
sys : (Question) Oh that's awesome - despite the circumstances. Are you in the US?
usr : No, thank heavens. My government is handling things a bit better here in Canada.
usr : Being out of work is tough, but at the same time I get a bunch of time to myself.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm jealous. hehe I often wonder what our friends to the north are going through. I'm glad to see you reaching out too. That's awesome! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
sys : (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on?
usr : My girlfriend and I recently broke up so it has got me a little down
usr : I'm glad that you're having a good weekend so far
sys : (Self-disclosure) Sorry to hear that. Breakups are rough I can say as I've been through a couple myself.
sys : (Question) How long were you two together?
usr : We were together for two years. It's been a pretty tough week but I've been trying to go on walks with my dog & whatnot to keep my mind off thigns
usr : things*
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Fur babies are definitely good in bad times. It's good that you're taking the time out for yourself. That takes strength!
usr : That's one of the things that I am trying to focus on - being mindful of myself.
usr : It's been helpful that my city is on Lockdown so I'm able to go on walks & spend some time by myself
sys : (Question) Oh that's awesome - despite the circumstances. Are you in the US?
usr : No, thank heavens. My government is handling things a bit better here in Canada.
usr : Being out of work is tough, but at the same time I get a bunch of time to myself.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm jealous. hehe I often wonder what our friends to the north are going through. I'm glad to see you reaching out too. That's awesome!
usr : It feels good to reach out and at least talk to someone about something to be honest.
| (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know the feeling and especially in these times. It seems things are looking up though with a vaccine coming soon. Getting outside and reaching out is definitely the right thing to do. Soon things will be back to normal! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
sys : (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on?
usr : My girlfriend and I recently broke up so it has got me a little down
usr : I'm glad that you're having a good weekend so far
sys : (Self-disclosure) Sorry to hear that. Breakups are rough I can say as I've been through a couple myself.
sys : (Question) How long were you two together?
usr : We were together for two years. It's been a pretty tough week but I've been trying to go on walks with my dog & whatnot to keep my mind off thigns
usr : things*
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Fur babies are definitely good in bad times. It's good that you're taking the time out for yourself. That takes strength!
usr : That's one of the things that I am trying to focus on - being mindful of myself.
usr : It's been helpful that my city is on Lockdown so I'm able to go on walks & spend some time by myself
sys : (Question) Oh that's awesome - despite the circumstances. Are you in the US?
usr : No, thank heavens. My government is handling things a bit better here in Canada.
usr : Being out of work is tough, but at the same time I get a bunch of time to myself.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm jealous. hehe I often wonder what our friends to the north are going through. I'm glad to see you reaching out too. That's awesome!
usr : It feels good to reach out and at least talk to someone about something to be honest.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know the feeling and especially in these times. It seems things are looking up though with a vaccine coming soon. Getting outside and reaching out is definitely the right thing to do. Soon things will be back to normal!
usr : That's what I'm hoping for... It looks like there is finally light at the end of the tunnel.
| (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It's been a very long tunnel. lol I can see the light! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
sys : (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on?
usr : My girlfriend and I recently broke up so it has got me a little down
usr : I'm glad that you're having a good weekend so far
sys : (Self-disclosure) Sorry to hear that. Breakups are rough I can say as I've been through a couple myself.
sys : (Question) How long were you two together?
usr : We were together for two years. It's been a pretty tough week but I've been trying to go on walks with my dog & whatnot to keep my mind off thigns
usr : things*
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Fur babies are definitely good in bad times. It's good that you're taking the time out for yourself. That takes strength!
usr : That's one of the things that I am trying to focus on - being mindful of myself.
usr : It's been helpful that my city is on Lockdown so I'm able to go on walks & spend some time by myself
sys : (Question) Oh that's awesome - despite the circumstances. Are you in the US?
usr : No, thank heavens. My government is handling things a bit better here in Canada.
usr : Being out of work is tough, but at the same time I get a bunch of time to myself.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm jealous. hehe I often wonder what our friends to the north are going through. I'm glad to see you reaching out too. That's awesome!
usr : It feels good to reach out and at least talk to someone about something to be honest.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know the feeling and especially in these times. It seems things are looking up though with a vaccine coming soon. Getting outside and reaching out is definitely the right thing to do. Soon things will be back to normal!
usr : That's what I'm hoping for... It looks like there is finally light at the end of the tunnel.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It's been a very long tunnel. lol I can see the light!
usr : Likewise! I appreciate you taking your time to talk to me.
usr : Thank you for making my day just a little bit better haha.
| (Providing Suggestions) oh it's been my pleasure!! Give the doggie a hug for me |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about depression regarding a/an breakup with partner. The seeker says
"I have recently broke up with my girlfriend which has caused me great sadness". | sys : (Others) Hi there
usr : Hello
sys : (Others) How's it going?
usr : Not that great unfortunately
usr : How about yourself?
sys : (Question) I'm good. Glad it's the weekend. Care to tell me what's going on?
usr : My girlfriend and I recently broke up so it has got me a little down
usr : I'm glad that you're having a good weekend so far
sys : (Self-disclosure) Sorry to hear that. Breakups are rough I can say as I've been through a couple myself.
sys : (Question) How long were you two together?
usr : We were together for two years. It's been a pretty tough week but I've been trying to go on walks with my dog & whatnot to keep my mind off thigns
usr : things*
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) Fur babies are definitely good in bad times. It's good that you're taking the time out for yourself. That takes strength!
usr : That's one of the things that I am trying to focus on - being mindful of myself.
usr : It's been helpful that my city is on Lockdown so I'm able to go on walks & spend some time by myself
sys : (Question) Oh that's awesome - despite the circumstances. Are you in the US?
usr : No, thank heavens. My government is handling things a bit better here in Canada.
usr : Being out of work is tough, but at the same time I get a bunch of time to myself.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I'm jealous. hehe I often wonder what our friends to the north are going through. I'm glad to see you reaching out too. That's awesome!
usr : It feels good to reach out and at least talk to someone about something to be honest.
sys : (Affirmation and Reassurance) I know the feeling and especially in these times. It seems things are looking up though with a vaccine coming soon. Getting outside and reaching out is definitely the right thing to do. Soon things will be back to normal!
usr : That's what I'm hoping for... It looks like there is finally light at the end of the tunnel.
sys : (Restatement or Paraphrasing) It's been a very long tunnel. lol I can see the light!
usr : Likewise! I appreciate you taking your time to talk to me.
usr : Thank you for making my day just a little bit better haha.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) oh it's been my pleasure!! Give the doggie a hug for me
usr : Haha I will do, take care and thank you for the chat!
| (Providing Suggestions) You're certainly welcome. Take care of yourself! |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I recently lost my grandmother and today grief came out of nowhere for the first time in a few weeks. Feeling very down.". | (Question) Hello there, how are you doing today? | |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I recently lost my grandmother and today grief came out of nowhere for the first time in a few weeks. Feeling very down.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you doing today?
usr : Hello, Not too bad considering but not feeling the best I've felt in awhile
usr : How are you?
| (Question) Im doing fine thanks, Whats going on for you to be feeling that way? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I recently lost my grandmother and today grief came out of nowhere for the first time in a few weeks. Feeling very down.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you doing today?
usr : Hello, Not too bad considering but not feeling the best I've felt in awhile
usr : How are you?
sys : (Question) Im doing fine thanks, Whats going on for you to be feeling that way?
usr : For some reason today I have felt very down about the death of my grandmother, she died in September but something just made me feel the grief all day today and i have no idea what it is
| (Self-disclosure) First i am sorry for your loss, Grief affects all in different ways. My father died last year but i still feel him everyday. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I recently lost my grandmother and today grief came out of nowhere for the first time in a few weeks. Feeling very down.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you doing today?
usr : Hello, Not too bad considering but not feeling the best I've felt in awhile
usr : How are you?
sys : (Question) Im doing fine thanks, Whats going on for you to be feeling that way?
usr : For some reason today I have felt very down about the death of my grandmother, she died in September but something just made me feel the grief all day today and i have no idea what it is
sys : (Self-disclosure) First i am sorry for your loss, Grief affects all in different ways. My father died last year but i still feel him everyday.
| (Providing Suggestions) What i have done when feeling down, Is to try to remember a time we were happy together. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I recently lost my grandmother and today grief came out of nowhere for the first time in a few weeks. Feeling very down.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you doing today?
usr : Hello, Not too bad considering but not feeling the best I've felt in awhile
usr : How are you?
sys : (Question) Im doing fine thanks, Whats going on for you to be feeling that way?
usr : For some reason today I have felt very down about the death of my grandmother, she died in September but something just made me feel the grief all day today and i have no idea what it is
sys : (Self-disclosure) First i am sorry for your loss, Grief affects all in different ways. My father died last year but i still feel him everyday.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) What i have done when feeling down, Is to try to remember a time we were happy together.
usr : Thank you, very sorry for yours. I do think of the good times and I had a lot of those with her but she was also the person who was there for me when I was sad. I was closest to her in my family
usr : Hard when I remember that I can
usr : Cannot call her
| (Information) Yeah i get that, something will happen with my kid and i think, man dad would love to hear that. What i take from that is happiness knowing that i had him there before, knowing that he was there for me. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I recently lost my grandmother and today grief came out of nowhere for the first time in a few weeks. Feeling very down.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you doing today?
usr : Hello, Not too bad considering but not feeling the best I've felt in awhile
usr : How are you?
sys : (Question) Im doing fine thanks, Whats going on for you to be feeling that way?
usr : For some reason today I have felt very down about the death of my grandmother, she died in September but something just made me feel the grief all day today and i have no idea what it is
sys : (Self-disclosure) First i am sorry for your loss, Grief affects all in different ways. My father died last year but i still feel him everyday.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) What i have done when feeling down, Is to try to remember a time we were happy together.
usr : Thank you, very sorry for yours. I do think of the good times and I had a lot of those with her but she was also the person who was there for me when I was sad. I was closest to her in my family
usr : Hard when I remember that I can
usr : Cannot call her
sys : (Information) Yeah i get that, something will happen with my kid and i think, man dad would love to hear that. What i take from that is happiness knowing that i had him there before, knowing that he was there for me.
| (Providing Suggestions) Try to take comfort in the fact that she was your go to, She was there for you but she was also trying to make you a better person. |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I recently lost my grandmother and today grief came out of nowhere for the first time in a few weeks. Feeling very down.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you doing today?
usr : Hello, Not too bad considering but not feeling the best I've felt in awhile
usr : How are you?
sys : (Question) Im doing fine thanks, Whats going on for you to be feeling that way?
usr : For some reason today I have felt very down about the death of my grandmother, she died in September but something just made me feel the grief all day today and i have no idea what it is
sys : (Self-disclosure) First i am sorry for your loss, Grief affects all in different ways. My father died last year but i still feel him everyday.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) What i have done when feeling down, Is to try to remember a time we were happy together.
usr : Thank you, very sorry for yours. I do think of the good times and I had a lot of those with her but she was also the person who was there for me when I was sad. I was closest to her in my family
usr : Hard when I remember that I can
usr : Cannot call her
sys : (Information) Yeah i get that, something will happen with my kid and i think, man dad would love to hear that. What i take from that is happiness knowing that i had him there before, knowing that he was there for me.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Try to take comfort in the fact that she was your go to, She was there for you but she was also trying to make you a better person.
usr : I just want to be alone and have no place to do so. My roommate is having people over despite knowing the situation today. Just very frustrating.
usr : Absolutely! And she shaped my life in many ways
| (Providing Suggestions) Oh i can see how that is really frustrating, especially right now. Maybe reach out online to some groups, or if you really feel the need to talk on a deeper level, a local therapist? |
### Dialogue background ###
The following is a conversation between a supporter and a seeker about sadness regarding a/an ongoing depression. The seeker says
"I recently lost my grandmother and today grief came out of nowhere for the first time in a few weeks. Feeling very down.". | sys : (Question) Hello there, how are you doing today?
usr : Hello, Not too bad considering but not feeling the best I've felt in awhile
usr : How are you?
sys : (Question) Im doing fine thanks, Whats going on for you to be feeling that way?
usr : For some reason today I have felt very down about the death of my grandmother, she died in September but something just made me feel the grief all day today and i have no idea what it is
sys : (Self-disclosure) First i am sorry for your loss, Grief affects all in different ways. My father died last year but i still feel him everyday.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) What i have done when feeling down, Is to try to remember a time we were happy together.
usr : Thank you, very sorry for yours. I do think of the good times and I had a lot of those with her but she was also the person who was there for me when I was sad. I was closest to her in my family
usr : Hard when I remember that I can
usr : Cannot call her
sys : (Information) Yeah i get that, something will happen with my kid and i think, man dad would love to hear that. What i take from that is happiness knowing that i had him there before, knowing that he was there for me.
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Try to take comfort in the fact that she was your go to, She was there for you but she was also trying to make you a better person.
usr : I just want to be alone and have no place to do so. My roommate is having people over despite knowing the situation today. Just very frustrating.
usr : Absolutely! And she shaped my life in many ways
sys : (Providing Suggestions) Oh i can see how that is really frustrating, especially right now. Maybe reach out online to some groups, or if you really feel the need to talk on a deeper level, a local therapist?
usr : I can usually cope with the loss fairly well but something is just bothering me today. It is because I told her as well that I wanted to be alone. She could easily go to their homes too
usr : Sometimes just get stuck when you are in a situation you are not happy in and can't do much to get out of it yet, but at least it is not forever.
| (Reflection of feelings) Well you seem to recognize that it wont last forever which is great. Everyone should know that sometimes its is ok to just be sad. Seems like you do, which is great! |
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