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id_v5_00 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | You can’t control your roommate’s reaction, but your effort to cook shows growth, not incompetence—what truly matters is your commitment to learning, not a single moment’s laughter or judgment. | Your roommate's laughter might not reflect your cooking skills, but could be a normal reaction to a first attempt at something new. Don't feel incompetent; everyone starts somewhere, and you'll improve with practice. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.26 | 1.2777 | 1.02 | 0.86 | 1.3 | null |
id_v5_01 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | Your roommate may not have intended to hurt your feelings; they could have been laughing out of amusement, remembering their own first cooking attempts. Everyone starts somewhere, and with practice and patience, your cooking skills will improve over time. | Your roommate’s laughter was a reaction to the moment, not a reflection of your competence—your first attempt is simply part of the normal process of learning, where progress comes from practice, not perfection. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.76 | 0.9912 | 1.64 | 1.1 | 1.66 | null |
id_v5_02 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | Your roommate’s laughter might stem from their own humor or misreading, not a reflection of your competence, and feeling insecure here is a natural part of learning a new skill—what matters is that you’re growing, not that one reaction defines your ability. | It's possible that your roommate's laughter was not out of mockery but rather an expression of delight at your new experience. Use this opportunity to learn and improve, and remember that everyone starts somewhere when learning a new skill; it's okay to make mistakes. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.6667 | 1.1991 | 1.3922 | 1.1176 | 1.2745 | null |
id_v5_03 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | Your roommate’s laughter might have stemmed from surprise or an attempt to ease tension, not incompetence—and cooking is a skill built through practice, where every mistake is a temporary detour, not a reflection of your worth. | Your roommate's laughter might have been a lighthearted and friendly reaction, rather than a jab at your skills. Don't be too hard on yourself; everyone starts somewhere, and you'll improve with practice and experience. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.5714 | 1.0302 | 1.5714 | 1.1429 | 1.0816 | null |
id_v5_04 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | Your roommate's laughter could have been a lighthearted response to a shared moment, rather than a critique of your abilities. Keep in mind that everyone starts somewhere with cooking, and with practice and learning, you will improve over time. | You don’t know your roommate’s intent, but their laughter is their choice, not a reflection of your competence—mistakes are part of learning, and this is just one attempt in your ongoing journey to grow as a cook, not a final judgment of your skill. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.6122 | 1.3064 | 1.551 | 0.9184 | 1.3673 | null |
id_v5_05 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | It's possible that your roommate was laughing with you, not at you, as everyone has their first-time cooking mishaps. Don't take it personally; use this opportunity to learn and improve your culinary skills with time and practice. | Your roommate’s reaction doesn’t negate your effort or the courage to try—cooking is a skill built through practice, and this is a natural step in your learning journey, not a reflection of your competence. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.4286 | 1.3248 | 1.2041 | 0.8776 | 1.3673 | null |
id_v5_06 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | Your roommate’s laughter was likely a reflex to novelty or an awkward moment, not a judgment of your competence—and cooking, like any skill, is meant to be learned through practice, not perfection on the first try. | Your roommate might have laughed simply because they remember their own challenges while learning to cook, not because they think you're incompetent. Take this opportunity to learn from them and improve your cooking skills together, turning it into a bonding experience. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.78 | 1.2048 | 1.68 | 1.42 | 1.68 | null |
id_v5_07 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | Your roommate’s laughter may have reflected their own nervousness or stress, not a judgment of your skill, and your first attempt is simply a normal, human step in learning—competence grows through practice, not perfection. | Your roommate's laughter could be a lighthearted response to your first attempt, not an insult. Embrace the learning process, as everyone starts somewhere, and with practice, you'll become a better cook. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.3878 | 1.1032 | 1.3673 | 1.102 | 1.1429 | null |
id_v5_08 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | Your roommate’s laughter was likely a shared lighthearted moment, not a judgment of your competence—mistakes are part of learning, and cooking is a skill that grows with practice, not a reflection of your worth. | Your roommate's laughter might not be a personal attack on your cooking skills, but they could simply find the situation amusing. Remember that everyone starts somewhere, and with practice, you'll improve as a cook, so don't be too hard on yourself. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.2745 | 1.4291 | 0.7843 | 0.5294 | 1.3529 | null |
id_v5_09 | id | My roommate laughed at my first attempt at cooking. I feel incompetent. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v5 | sad | You took a brave step by trying something new—first attempts are inherently messy and human, not signs of incompetence. Your roommate’s reaction likely stemmed from lighthearted camaraderie, not judgment, and your competence isn’t defined by perfection but by your courage to learn and grow. | Your roommate might have laughed out of amusement, not in a mean-spirited way, because everyone struggles when trying something new. View their reaction as an opportunity to learn, and remember, practice will improve your cooking skills over time. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 47 | 1.4894 | 1.1646 | 1.4681 | 1.0851 | 1.4894 | null |
id_v6_00 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | Perhaps your mother-in-law didn't mean any harm and simply wanted to offer you friendly advice on your appearance. Try not to let it affect your mood too much, and remember that everyone is entitled to their own opinions – it doesn't define your self-worth. | Your mother-in-law’s comment likely reflects her own standards, biases, or unspoken preoccupations, not an objective truth about your worth—her fleeting words hold far less weight than your inherent value and the warmth of your relationships do. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.1429 | 1.5119 | 0.9796 | 0.898 | 1.2245 | null |
id_v6_01 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | Your mother-in-law might not have realized how her comment would affect you, and it's possible that she meant it as a light-hearted joke. Try not to take her comment to heart and remember, you're surrounded by people who love and appreciate you, regardless of your hair's appearance. | You can’t control her observation, but you can honor your own worth: her comment likely reflects her focus on appearance or the dinner’s social pressures, not your value, and your discomfort simply shows how deeply you care about connection, not that you failed. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 52 | 1.5385 | 1.1174 | 1.3462 | 0.6154 | 1.3846 | null |
id_v6_02 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | Your mother-in-law’s comment likely reflected her own habits or stress, not your worth—what matters is how you carry yourself with confidence, untouched by others’ fleeting observations. | Your mother-in-law's comment might have been unintentional or made without realizing how it could affect you. Try not to take her words to heart, and remember that your value is not determined by one person's opinion about your appearance. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.6078 | 0.9717 | 1.3529 | 0.8627 | 1.3922 | null |
id_v6_03 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | Consider that your mother-in-law might not have been aware of the impact of her words or that she may have meant it as a loving suggestion. Focus on the wonderful time you're having with your family, and let her comment slide, knowing your true worth is not tied to your appearance. | You can’t control your mother-in-law’s comment, but her remark reflects her choice and fleeting social pressure—not your worth or preparation; let it go and trust that her brief observation holds no power over your self-worth or the authenticity of your presence at the meal. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.451 | 0.9354 | 1.1961 | 1.0588 | 1.098 | null |
id_v6_04 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | Your mother-in-law might not have intended to hurt your feelings, and may have made the comment without realizing the impact. Consider talking to her privately about how her comment made you feel, and you may find that it was just a misunderstanding. | You cannot control others’ opinions, but you can honor your worth by focusing on your confidence and the care you bring to the dinner, recognizing that her comment reflects her perspective, not your value, and this moment won’t define your joy or relationships. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 45 | 1.3556 | 1.1955 | 1.0222 | 0.8 | 1.3556 | null |
id_v6_05 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | Her comment likely reflects her own habits or stress rather than a judgment of your worth, and your value isn’t defined by fleeting observations—focus on the love and connection you brought to the dinner, which matter far more than temporary appearance. | Your mother-in-law's comment may not reflect any ill intention towards you; she might have just made a thoughtless remark without realizing its impact. Use this as an opportunity to communicate with her openly and express your feelings, fostering a better understanding between both of you. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.3673 | 1.1374 | 1.2245 | 0.6327 | 1.1429 | null |
id_v6_06 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | Your mother-in-law's comment might not have been intended to be hurtful, and she might be unaware of the impact it had on you. Next time, consider discussing it privately with her to express your feelings and foster better communication. | Your mother-in-law’s comment reflects her own habits and opinions, not your worth—focus on how you choose to respond now and prepare ways to address similar situations with confidence in the future, rather than letting her words define your self-worth. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.0612 | 1.0768 | 1.0612 | 0.7551 | 1.2449 | null |
id_v6_07 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | You can’t control your mother-in-law’s choice to fixate on her own standards or the temporary weight of the comment, but you *can* anchor your self-worth in how you see yourself—not in fleeting judgments; this moment doesn’t define your value, only your resilience in navigating it. | Your mother-in-law's comment may not have been intended to hurt you, and could have been a misguided attempt to offer advice. Focus on enjoying the family dinner and remember that nobody's opinion defines your self-worth. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.3265 | 1.1319 | 0.8776 | 0.9796 | 0.9592 | null |
id_v6_08 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | Your mother-in-law's comment might not be a reflection of how everyone else perceives you; her opinion might be different from others. Consider that she could be trying to offer advice in her own way, so use it as an opportunity to improve rather than letting it affect your mood. | You can’t control her judgment or the moment’s tension, but you *can* choose to see her comment as a temporary, subjective remark—not a reflection of your worth, effort, or beauty; her words reveal more about her own standards or stress than they do about you, and this fleeting moment will fade alongside the rest of th... | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 52 | 0.7115 | 1.633 | 0.5 | 0.7308 | 1.0962 | null |
id_v6_09 | id | My mother-in-law said my hair looks disheveled in front of everyone at our family dinner. I feel miserable. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v6 | sad | Consider that your mother-in-law may not have intended to embarrass you, but may have just been making a casual remark. Use this experience as motivation to express your feelings and set boundaries in your relationship, ultimately leading to stronger connections with your family members. | You can’t control others’ fleeting, superficial observations or their biased interpretations of what constitutes "neat," but you can focus on your own intentional self-care—your worth isn’t defined by a single comment, and her remark likely reflects her own standards or discomfort rather than any truth about you. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.1373 | 1.4419 | 0.6863 | 1.1373 | 1.4902 | null |
id_v9_00 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | Consider that your boss may not be punishing you, but instead, trying to teach you the importance of responsibility and attention to detail. Use this as an opportunity to learn and grow in your role, demonstrating that you can handle challenges with a positive attitude. | Your boss’s decision to assign the cleaning was likely a practical response to address the disruption caused by an unintended accident, aiming to maintain the workspace rather than reflect on your worth—viewing it as a temporary, necessary task highlights your role in upholding collective standards and offers an opport... | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.26 | 1.4256 | 0.62 | 0.92 | 1.42 | null |
id_v9_01 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | Your boss may have asked you to clean the bathroom as a temporary measure to ensure you understand the importance of being careful at work. See this as an opportunity to learn from your mistake and prove your dedication to your job; it won't last forever. | The cleanup task likely stems from your boss’s need to address operational concerns or manage stress in the moment, not a personal criticism, and your willingness to take responsibility by following through allows you to maintain professionalism and focus on what you can control—your effort, not the context of the reac... | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 0.7551 | 1.6479 | 0.4898 | 0.5918 | 1.2449 | null |
id_v9_02 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | You took responsibility for an accidental spill by cleaning up, showing accountability, and your boss’s request likely stemmed from a need to address minor disruptions efficiently in a busy environment—not personal blame, and this small misstep won’t define your reliability or worth over time. | Your boss might be trying to teach you the importance of being careful and attentive at work through this task. See it as an opportunity to prove that you can handle any task responsibly and show your dedication to the job, which could positively impact your future at the company. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 48 | 1.2708 | 1.454 | 0.625 | 1.0625 | 1.3958 | null |
id_v9_03 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | You took responsibility for an honest mistake, which reflects integrity, and your boss’s request for a week of cleaning likely aimed to address the immediate situation, not punish you—this minor task, though frustrating now, won’t define your competence or long-term value to the team. | Your boss might be giving you this task as a way of building your attention to detail and responsibility during your initial days at work. Consider this as an opportunity to learn and grow, demonstrating your ability to handle challenges and proving your commitment to the job. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 47 | 1.1064 | 1.3246 | 0.7447 | 0.8936 | 1.234 | null |
id_v9_04 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | It's possible that your boss assigned you the bathroom cleaning task as a way to help you develop attention to detail and care in your work, rather than as a punishment. Try to see this task as an opportunity to showcase your dedication and commitment to doing a thorough job, no matter the task. | Your boss’s reaction was a realistic way to address the immediate issue, and while it may feel offensive now, viewing this as a chance to practice responsibility and adaptability can turn this setback into a growth opportunity for your career. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.08 | 1.56 | 0.94 | 0.98 | 1.72 | null |
id_v9_05 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | You feel offended because you assumed the task was a personal attack, but your boss likely saw it as a practical—though heavy-handed—way to manage an unexpected disruption, and your proactive cleanup actually showcases your accountability and commitment to resolving the issue. | Consider that your boss might have assigned you this task to help you learn responsibility and mindfulness in the workplace. Use this experience as an opportunity to grow and demonstrate your dedication to your job, which might lead to better tasks and even recognition in the future. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 0.68 | 1.6786 | 0.44 | 0.74 | 1.02 | null |
id_v9_06 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | Your boss’s request, while inconvenient, was a standard, accountability-focused response to a minor workplace incident—prioritizing cleanliness and prevention over criticism—and recognizing this as a temporary, routine task allows you to reaffirm your professionalism without letting a small setback overshadow your valu... | Perhaps your boss assigned you this task to help you learn the importance of being cautious while working, not to offend you. By focusing on the lesson learned and demonstrating improvements, you'll show your boss your dedication and willingness to grow professionally. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 0.68 | 1.3029 | 0.4 | 0.62 | 1.1 | null |
id_v9_07 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | You took responsibility for the mistake, and the cleaning task reflects accountability for an isolated incident—mistakes happen in all jobs, and this short-term effort shows your professionalism, not your worth or reliability over time. | It's possible that your boss assigned you this task to teach responsibility and not as a punishment. See it as an opportunity to show dedication and prove that you can handle any situation, which might earn their respect and trust in the long run. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.3061 | 1.2487 | 0.6735 | 1.2245 | 1.3061 | null |
id_v9_08 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | Maybe your boss assigned you this task as a learning opportunity to be more careful in the future, rather than as a punishment. Try to see it as a chance to demonstrate your dedication and hard work even in challenging situations. | You can view your boss's request as prioritizing team accountability and cleanliness after an unavoidable accident, framing the cleaning as a temporary shared task rather than a personal slight. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 0.5918 | 1.5769 | 0.3673 | 0.898 | 1 | null |
id_v9_09 | id | My boss made me clean the bathroom all week after I knocked over some cans during my first shift. I feel offended. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v9 | anger | You demonstrated responsibility by addressing the mistake and cleaning, which reflects ownership your boss may respect more than they realize; this incident, though frustrating now, is a minor, fleeting part of your professional journey that won’t define your competence or worth over time. | Your boss might have assigned the bathroom cleaning task as a way to teach responsibility and ensure attention to detail after the first incident. Focus on proving your abilities in your job by learning from this experience and demonstrating a positive attitude towards any task assigned to you. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 48 | 0.7083 | 1.554 | 0.2292 | 0.8125 | 1.2083 | null |
id_v10_00 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | Your dad’s unannounced visits may stem from his need to connect or act on outdated assumptions, not a dismissal of your autonomy—recognizing this helps separate his intentions from your right to set boundaries, allowing you to address his habits without carrying the weight of his overreach as a reflection of your worth... | Consider that your father's unannounced visits may be his way of showing love and concern for your well-being. Try communicating your boundaries while also appreciating his intentions and finding a solution that works for both of you. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.5 | 1.1874 | 1.46 | 0.92 | 1.5 | null |
id_v10_01 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | Your irritation signals your valid need for autonomy, and while your father’s visits likely stem from habit or concern rather than control, you retain the power to gently set boundaries that honor both your family’s care and your chosen life rhythm. | Consider that your father might be showing his care and concern for you and your family by visiting. Appreciate his intentions and use this as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship and set boundaries that work for both of you. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.62 | 1.34 | 1.56 | 0.52 | 1.16 | null |
id_v10_02 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | Your irritation reflects your valid need for autonomy in your family role, and while your father’s visits may stem from caring rather than control, setting clear boundaries empowers you to honor your needs without dismissing his intentions. | Your father's unannounced visits might be his way of showing love and care for your well-being. Instead of feeling irritated, try having an open conversation with him about boundaries and appreciate his intention to remain connected to your family. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.6078 | 1.3442 | 1.8039 | 0.8431 | 1.6078 | null |
id_v10_03 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | Your irritation reflects a valid need for autonomy, and recognizing that your father’s visits—though unwelcome—likely stem from his deep concern can help you set boundaries that honor both his intention to care and your right to privacy. | Consider that your father's unannounced visits may stem from his desire to stay connected and maintain a close relationship with you and your children. Instead of irritation, try to appreciate his love and involvement, or discuss setting boundaries and scheduled visits that work better for you. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 2.04 | 1.2643 | 2.04 | 1.74 | 2.08 | null |
id_v10_04 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | Your father’s unannounced visits may reflect his ingrained habit of showing up out of care, even if it feels intrusive; recognizing this can help you set boundaries that honor both his intentions and your need for autonomy. | Consider that your father's visits might be his way of showing love and care for you and your family. Try to appreciate his concern and set boundaries together to maintain a healthy relationship. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.76 | 0.9912 | 1.68 | 0.96 | 1.74 | null |
id_v10_05 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | Your father's unannounced visits might be his way of showing care and love for you and your family. Try to appreciate his intentions, and consider talking with him about setting boundaries for visits while maintaining a loving relationship. | Your irritation reflects your valid need for autonomy and clear boundaries in your household, and while your father’s visits likely stem from care or habit rather than overstep, you can honor both his intentions and your needs by setting consistent limits on how and when he checks in. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.9216 | 1.2656 | 1.6863 | 1.2745 | 1.6275 | null |
id_v10_06 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | Your father’s visits likely reflect his concern for you, but your irritation signals a valid need for autonomy that you can address by setting clear boundaries around visits and communication. | Consider that your father's unannounced visits might stem from his love and concern for you and your family. Try to view these visits as opportunities to strengthen family bonds and appreciate his care and support. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 52 | 1.9615 | 1.1923 | 1.8654 | 1.0192 | 1.6346 | null |
id_v10_07 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | Your father's unannounced visits might simply be his way of showing love and support, even though it may feel intrusive at times. Try seeing his actions as a sign of care and ensure open communication to set boundaries that work for both of you. | Your irritation signals a valid need for autonomy and boundaries, but your father’s visits may reflect his ingrained habit of care or anxiety—not disregard; addressing this tension directly can align his support with your evolving family dynamics. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.7843 | 1.035 | 1.7843 | 0.902 | 1.3137 | null |
id_v10_08 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | You feel irritated because your need for privacy and autonomy as a parent is valid and recognized; by calmly setting boundaries, you can honor that need while fostering mutual respect with your father. | Your father might be just showing his care and concern for you and your family in his own way. Try to understand his intentions and appreciate the love he has for you, which could help strengthen your relationship and make these visits feel less intrusive. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 2.02 | 1.0675 | 1.44 | 0.78 | 1.58 | null |
id_v10_09 | id | My father comes over to my house unannounced to “check on me” even though I am married and have kids. I feel irritated. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v10 | anger | Consider that your father may be visiting because he genuinely cares about you and desires to spend time with you and your family. Try to appreciate his concern and find ways to bond with him while setting boundaries for future visits. | Your irritation is a valid signal that your need for autonomy is being overlooked; while your father’s visits may reflect his concern, you can assert your boundaries by communicating how these unannounced calls affect your family’s routine, focusing on your power to guide their behavior rather than external judgments. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.5306 | 1.0899 | 1.5714 | 0.551 | 1.102 | null |
id_v15_00 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | You gave a thoughtful gift to express gratitude, and their rejection likely reflects their own unspoken struggles or communication style, not a judgment of your sincerity—your genuine effort to honor their help remains a meaningful reflection of your kindness, regardless of the outcome. | Your friend's rejection of the gift might not be a reflection of your personality or you being weird, but rather they could have personal reasons for not accepting gifts. Focus on the positive aspect that you took the initiative to thank them for their help, and understand that people have diverse reactions and prefere... | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 48 | 1.6458 | 1.0702 | 1.3125 | 1.0833 | 1.3958 | null |
id_v15_01 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | Your thoughtful gesture reflects your kindness, and their rejection likely stems from their own unaddressed feelings or circumstances, not a judgment of your gesture or worth. Trust that your intention to connect was meaningful, even if their response was shaped by factors beyond your control. | Remember that everyone has their own preferences and reasons for accepting or rejecting gifts, and it might not be a reflection of you. Perhaps your friend is not comfortable receiving gifts, or they may have personal reasons for their reaction; it doesn't mean you're weird. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.6471 | 1.2497 | 1.8039 | 1.1569 | 1.4314 | null |
id_v15_02 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | It's possible that your friend had a personal reason for not accepting the gift, which may not be a reflection of your character. Understand that people have different preferences and boundaries, and try not to take their rejection personally; instead, appreciate your effort to show gratitude. | Your genuine effort to thank them reflects your kindness and thoughtfulness, qualities that can’t be invalidated by their reaction; their rejection might stem from their own unspoken boundaries, stress, or discomfort with reciprocity, not a reflection of your worth. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 48 | 1.5208 | 1.3538 | 1.4375 | 1.4583 | 1.625 | null |
id_v15_03 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | Don't assume that your friend's rejection of the gift is a reflection of you being weird. They may have personal preferences or reasons for not accepting gifts, so try talking to them about it and understanding their perspective before jumping to conclusions. | You did what you could to express gratitude, and their rejection likely reflects their own discomfort, boundaries, or unspoken circumstances—not a judgment of your kindness or worth. Your thoughtful gesture was a genuine reflection of your warmth, and one person’s reaction doesn’t define your value or capability to con... | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.5882 | 0.9326 | 1.1569 | 0.9216 | 1.3137 | null |
id_v15_04 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | You acted generously by giving a thoughtful gift, which reflects your kindness and integrity—your worth isn’t defined by whether someone accepts it. Their rejection likely stems from their own unspoken circumstances, not a judgment of your gesture or character. | It's possible that your new friend rejected the gift because they don't feel comfortable accepting gifts or they might have personal reasons for not accepting it. This doesn't mean you're weird; it's simply a chance to understand their preferences better and find other ways to express your gratitude. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.5882 | 1.1406 | 1.5882 | 1.1765 | 1.4118 | null |
id_v15_05 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | You gave the gift from a place of genuine care, and their rejection likely reflects their own unspoken stress or hesitation—not your worth; your thoughtfulness is a strength, and one moment of misunderstanding doesn’t erase your kindness or validity. | It's possible that your new friend rejected the gift due to personal reasons or cultural norms rather than because of you or your actions. Instead of feeling weird, consider talking to your friend and expressing your gratitude verbally, while also trying to understand their perspective on receiving gifts. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.7959 | 1.2286 | 1.7959 | 1.3469 | 1.5306 | null |
id_v15_06 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | Your friend's rejection of the gift might not be related to you or your gesture, but rather their personal preference or beliefs about gifts. Instead of focusing on feeling weird, appreciate your thoughtfulness and realize that different people have different ways of expressing gratitude and accepting tokens of appreci... | Your genuine effort to express gratitude through a thoughtful gesture reflects your kindness and self-awareness, not "weirdness"—their rejection likely stems from their own unspoken discomfort, timing, or perspective, not a judgment of you. What matters is that you acted with sincerity, and that integrity remains a qui... | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.6531 | 1.3635 | 1.449 | 1.5102 | 1.7755 | null |
id_v15_07 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | Your sincere effort to express gratitude reflects your kindness and thoughtfulness, which are meaningful regardless of their response; their rejection likely stems from their own unspoken circumstances or misalignment, not a judgment of your worth or the gesture’s sincerity. | Your friend's rejection of the gift may have nothing to do with you being weird, but could be due to their personal preference or a belief about accepting gifts. Try not to take it personally; focus on the fact that you genuinely showed appreciation for their help and maintain a positive connection with them. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 48 | 1.7083 | 1.0598 | 1.2917 | 1 | 1.6875 | null |
id_v15_08 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | You offered a thoughtful gesture from a place of genuine care, which reflects your kindness—not your "weirdness." The friend’s rejection likely stems from their own unspoken circumstances or differences in expressing gratitude, not a judgment of your worth or their place in your friendship. | It could be that your friend has personal reasons for not accepting gifts, which might have nothing to do with you or your gesture. Try not to take it personally and focus on other ways to show your gratitude and build your friendship. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.42 | 1.1505 | 1.36 | 1.3 | 1.48 | null |
id_v15_09 | id | My new friend rejected my gift even though it was supposed to be a show of thanks for their help on a task last week. I worry I’m weird. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v15 | anxiety | Your friend's rejection of the gift may not necessarily be about you or signify that you're weird - they could have their own personal reasons for not accepting it. Try talking openly with them about their decision, and remember, building friendships takes time and understanding each other's preferences and boundaries. | You acted with genuine kindness by offering a thoughtful gesture of gratitude, but their rejection likely reflects their own unspoken needs, stress, or boundaries—not a judgment of you. Your sincerity and care remain valid and meaningful, regardless of how they received it. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.7255 | 1.2537 | 1.6471 | 0.9216 | 1.6863 | null |
id_v16_00 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | It's possible that your friend hanging out with others without you is not a slight against you, but rather an opportunity to bond with different people. Remember, friendships aren't exclusive, and your friend's interactions with others can even help strengthen your relationship by giving you new things to talk about an... | You’re feeling hurt because your friend’s focus on others in that moment and the way she shared it online unintentionally made you feel overlooked, but her posts likely reflect her enthusiasm for the experience, not a rejection of your bond—remember, social media snapshots often highlight fleeting moments over deeper, ... | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.9184 | 1.0269 | 1.4286 | 1.5102 | 1.6531 | null |
id_v16_01 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | You’re feeling hurt because her posts highlight others, but friendship often involves shared moments without exclusion—her actions don’t define your worth, and open communication can bridge the gap between your unspoken worries and her actual intentions. | It's possible that your friend's gathering might have been a last-minute plan or unrelated to your friendship. Your friend may still value your connection and spending time with others doesn't mean they will abandon you. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 48 | 1.7708 | 1.0654 | 1.6042 | 1.1042 | 1.5625 | null |
id_v16_02 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | Your friend hanging out with others doesn't necessarily mean they're going to abandon you. People have multiple friendships, and it's healthy to spend time with various groups; this situation could provide an opportunity for you to expand your social circle or invest time in other interests. | You’re interpreting her posts as intentional exclusion, but she may simply be sharing a brief, casual moment without considering how it reflects on your connection—friendships shift naturally, and her actions likely don’t erase the care you both share. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.6863 | 1.2756 | 1.2353 | 0.7843 | 1.2353 | null |
id_v16_03 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | You feel excluded when your friend engaged with others and shared those moments, but friendships naturally ebb and flow—her actions likely reflect ordinary social rhythms, not abandonment, and you can focus on nurturing your own sense of connection through open communication or strengthening bonds that align with your ... | It's possible that your friend had a gathering with people in a different context or from another social circle that isn't related to your friendship. Try not to assume the worst and remember that friendships can remain strong even when friends spend time apart or with other people. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.6 | 1.2649 | 1.56 | 0.9 | 1.42 | null |
id_v16_04 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | You should consider that your friend hanging out with others doesn't mean they're going to abandon you; friendships can be diverse and inclusive. Investing in your own interests and expanding your own social circle can help you feel more secure and less dependent on a single friend. | You don’t know your friend’s full perspective or intent behind her choices or posts—her actions might stem from her own unspoken pressures or a different understanding of your friendship, and her behavior in this moment doesn’t equate to rejecting you. Focus on the deeper, consistent ways you both support each other, w... | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.84 | 0.9666 | 1.44 | 1.24 | 1.42 | null |
id_v16_05 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | Your friend’s posts likely capture a spontaneous moment without intending to exclude you, and friendships naturally shift as people connect with others—this doesn’t signal abandonment but reflects the fluidity of social rhythms, which don’t erase the depth of your bond. | It's possible that your friend hanging out with others was just a one-time event and not an indicator of her abandoning you. It's important to remember that friendships can coexist with others and that spending time with different friends doesn't mean your bond is weakened. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 50 | 1.68 | 1.3333 | 1.34 | 0.66 | 1.08 | null |
id_v16_06 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | Friendships naturally ebb and flow as people navigate different social circles, and her posting photos with others doesn’t mean she’s abandoning you—it’s a common human experience to feel left out occasionally, even when relationships remain strong. Focus on open communication to express your feelings and clarify her i... | It's possible your friend didn't realize you'd be interested in joining them, or it was a spontaneous gathering. Try not to assume the worst and talk to your friend about how you feel, in order to maintain open communication and strengthen your friendship. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.6275 | 1.2201 | 1.3725 | 1.0588 | 1.5882 | null |
id_v16_07 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | You don’t know your friend’s intent in posting those photos—they might have been celebrating an event, documenting a moment, or simply socializing without considering how it would feel to you. Feeling hurt shows you care deeply, but one instance of exclusion doesn’t define their feelings toward you or the strength of y... | It's possible that your friend hanging out with others doesn't mean they're intending to abandon you; friends can spend time with different people and still value your friendship. Try reaching out to them and suggesting a get-together, which could strengthen your bond and ease your concerns. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.7059 | 1.0718 | 1.4902 | 0.4118 | 1.098 | null |
id_v16_08 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | You’re interpreting her posts as exclusion, but she might have been focused on the moment without considering how it affects you—social media doesn’t capture your full worth, and this one instance doesn’t prove she’s moving away from you. | It's possible that your friend hanging out with others was just a one-time event and not a sign of her abandoning you. Try talking to her about your feelings and keep in mind that people can have different friendships co-existing without it affecting your relationship with them. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 49 | 1.5102 | 1.2797 | 1.3265 | 0.7347 | 1.4694 | null |
id_v16_09 | id | My friend hung out with others without me and posted a lot of pictures together on Instagram. I worry she is going to abandon me. | Li et al. Study 1, vignette v16 | anxiety | It's possible that your friend hanging out with others wasn't meant as an exclusion, but rather an opportunity for her to socialize more broadly. Try not to assume the worst; friendships can grow and diversify without abandoning one another. | You can’t know her full context, and her posts likely reflect curated moments or temporary priorities, not an intentional slight—friendships naturally evolve, and this doesn’t erase the unique value of your bond or define her commitment to you. | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | GPT-4-0314 (Li et al. Study 1) | 51 | 1.8039 | 1.0668 | 1.6667 | 1.1176 | 1.3529 | null |
ood_ed000 | ood | A recent job interview that I had made me feel very anxious because I felt like I didn't come prepared. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | terrified | Your anxiety highlights your care and growth mindset—use it to guide targeted preparation now, and remember that setbacks like this are temporary detours, not reflections of your potential or worth. | Even if you weren’t as prepared as you hoped, remember that interviews are as much about showing your adaptability as they are about perfection—this experience will help you refine what truly matters for next time. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed001 | ood | One year during christmas, i did not get a single gift. It was a rough day for me. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | sad | While it might have felt isolating in the moment, this experience could help you recognize how much meaning comes from the connections you build, not the gifts you receive—maybe others were focused on sharing time rather than objects that day. | You didn’t receive gifts that year because of circumstances or choices beyond your control—not a reflection of your worth; though it hurt in the moment, this ordinary setback doesn’t define you, and in time, it may soften into a quiet, shared human story of resilience rather than deficit. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed005 | ood | one time when I was in preschool, I had to write on the board. when I got up, my pants fell down in front of the class, that embarassed me | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | embarrassed | While the moment felt overwhelming, your classmates likely giggled not to mock you, but because sudden surprises feel funny at that age—their laughter wasn’t about judging you. What they’d remember most is how you kept going after, showing courage far bigger than the little hiccup. | You felt embarrassed, a natural reaction to an unexpected moment, but this minor, common childhood mishap—like many such slips—has already faded into a harmless memory, showing that your confidence and growth continue far beyond such small, fleeting events. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed006 | ood | I am so upset and mad. I cant believe what has happened! | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | angry | It’s natural to feel this way when things don’t go as planned, but intense emotions can be a sign you care—this might be an opportunity to learn what matters most to you. | Your anger stems from valuing connection and fairness—strengths that reveal your capacity for empathy and growth. This moment, though painful, doesn’t define your worth or your ability to navigate challenges with resilience. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed008 | ood | I have someone always asking me questions about how to use mobile. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | annoyed | Their questions likely stem from genuine interest or unfamiliarity, not frustration, and your patient guidance turns their learning into a meaningful exchange—strengthening connection and highlighting your commitment to helping them succeed. | They’re choosing you because they trust your knowledge and patience—it’s a chance to empower them while strengthening your connection. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed009 | ood | I spent all weekend working on my truck to fix a miss in the engine. Despite spending over $200 in parts, it didn't do a thing to fix the miss. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | angry | Your dedication shows how committed you are to solving the problem, and even though it’s frustrating now, each step eliminated possible causes—bringing you closer to the fix. Sometimes persistence pays off in unexpected ways down the road. | You invested time and effort to improve your truck, and while the fix didn’t work as hoped, this outcome likely reveals a more complex issue rather than a failure on your part—each challenge deepens your expertise, turning this setback into a valuable step toward a lasting solution. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed010 | ood | A few years ago, my marriage broke up, and I found myself living alone for the first time in my life. Though I eventually grew accustomed to the solitude, it took a while to get used to it. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | lonely | Though living alone after your divorce was initially overwhelming, your ability to adapt reflects resilience and self-reliance, turning a challenging chapter into a foundation for a fulfilling life defined by autonomy, growth, and meaningful connections that align with your true self. | Though living alone after your marriage ended was challenging, that solitude might have given you the space to rediscover strengths and independence you hadn’t fully realized before. This period could be seen not just as loss, but as a foundation for building a deeper connection with yourself. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed012 | ood | I broke a statuette offered by grandmother to my sister. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | guilty | Though the statuette was special, your care in handling it shows how much you value your sister and grandmother—maybe you two can create something new together to honor its memory. The love it represented isn’t fragile like the object itself, and you can still honor that connection through honesty and effort. | Though the statuette broke in an accident beyond your control, your sister’s reaction may reflect deep respect for your grandmother’s memory—channel that shared sentiment into repairing or honoring it together, transforming regret into a meaningful gesture that strengthens your bond. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed014 | ood | There was a situation where I might of hurt my freinds feelings, I ate from my friends fridge and he had no more food left that day. He had to go to bed with no food. Hungry. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | guilty | You acted without knowing your friend’s full context, leaving them hungry, but this moment offers a chance to show care by listening, apologizing, and taking action to address their needs—turning an oversight into a bridge of understanding. | You didn’t realize how little was left, and your friend’s willingness to share shows their care—this moment can strengthen trust as you both learn to communicate needs more clearly next time. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed016 | ood | My mom took away my game system, and would not give it back ever again. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | furious | It’s tough to lose something you enjoy, but your mom might be prioritizing space for other growth or responsibilities she thinks are important right now. This could be her way of guiding you toward balance, not just taking away something you love. | Your mom’s decision may stem from her own fears or habits, not a dismissal of your joy—use this as a chance to redirect your energy toward new goals or interests, turning this setback into a stepping stone for growth, while acknowledging that her choice reflects her perspective, not your worth. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed021 | ood | I am so annoyed by my new manager at work. He always lies to us. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | annoyed | Your frustration is valid, but considering your manager’s behavior might stem from unspoken pressures or systemic challenges rather than malice could help you focus on actionable steps—like setting clear boundaries or documenting inconsistencies—without letting their actions diminish your self-worth or cloud your long-... | It’s possible your manager is still adjusting to the role and might not fully understand how his actions come across—could some of what feels like lies be miscommunications he hasn’t clarified yet? Starting a calm conversation to address your concerns might help both of you align expectations. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed028 | ood | I am concerned about the financial situation of my employer. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | afraid | Your concern reflects your dedication to your employer’s stability, and while you can’t control external economic forces, you *can* focus on proactive steps like upskilling or initiating conversations to turn worry into meaningful support for both their success and your long-term growth. | Your employer's financial challenges could be a chance to demonstrate your adaptability and creativity by contributing ideas or solutions, which might position you as a proactive problem-solver during a pivotal time. Focusing on what you can control—like delivering exceptional work—helps build resilience and strengthen... | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed029 | ood | My ex girlfriend cheated on me with one of my closest friends. It made me very angry at the both of them. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | angry | While their actions were hurtful, this situation has clarified who truly deserves your trust, freeing you to invest in relationships that value your loyalty. Their choices reflect their character, not your worth, and now you can redirect your energy toward those who genuinely support you. | Your anger reflects the depth of your care and integrity, and now is the time to channel that energy into setting unshakable boundaries that protect your peace—reclaiming your power to define what trust and respect look like in your life moving forward. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed035 | ood | I thought my company was going to have a lay off. it was a tough few weeks. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | afraid | While the layoffs were beyond your control, this period has honed your ability to stay resilient under pressure, and your proactive response—like exploring new opportunities—can turn this setback into a stepping stone for future growth. | You navigated that uncertainty with resilience, and the company’s choice to retain you reflects trust in your value—this experience can empower you to see challenges as opportunities to solidify your strengths. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed037 | ood | Today is my birthday. I can't wait to see who calls me. Or my gifts. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | anxious | While calls and gifts are lovely reminders others care, the people who truly value you might show it in quieter, consistent ways all year. Your birthday can be a chance to focus on the love you already hold, not just what arrives today. | Your excitement shows how much you value connection and being celebrated—though you can’t control who calls or what gifts arrive, the true gift is the anticipation itself and the loved ones whose presence or care make this day meaningful to you. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed040 | ood | I ripped my pants on bourbon street the other day. Luckily I was wearing a long shirt. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | embarrassed | Hey, at least your quick-thinking with the long shirt turned a wardrobe malfunction into a Bourbon Street story people will laugh about for years—now you’ve got a legendary souvenir from the city that never sleeps! | You had no control over the accident, which is a normal hiccup in crowded, lively places like Bourbon Street—your long shirt actually mitigated the mess, turning a minor mishap into a harmless, human moment that says more about the bustling environment than about you. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed043 | ood | My next door neighbors are always arguing in our shared hallway. Now they have a baby and the scream while she cries. It is so annoying. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | annoyed | It sounds like your neighbors might be navigating a stressful adjustment to parenthood—their challenges could mean they need support, not frustration. Remember, this phase is temporary, and your calm presence might help ease tensions in the hallway over time. | You’re hearing the raw, stressful reality of new parenthood—fear, sleepless nights, and learning to care for a fragile life—manifesting as noise, which is a brief but fiercely human chapter in their journey, not a reflection on you or your space. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed050 | ood | No one ever visits me anymore. I am always by myself in this apartment. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | lonely | You may feel isolated now, but your solitude is a quiet assertion of self-reliance—a space where you reclaim autonomy over your time and environment. While it’s natural to long for connection, this stillness also invites you to intentionally shape your own sense of belonging, whether through nurturing passions, creatin... | This quiet time could be your opportunity to recharge and intentionally connect with others when you’re ready—people often appreciate a friendly nudge, and reaching out first might spark plans you’ll both enjoy. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed052 | ood | I just found out they are not making a sequel to a movie I like. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | sad | While it’s disappointing there won’t be a sequel, this lets the story stay exactly as you loved it—no risk of a follow-up changing its impact. Plus, it leaves room for you to imagine where the characters could go next! | You deeply connected to this movie, and while a sequel isn’t happening, its legacy already lives on through the joy it brought—you carry the story forward in your heart, and that resonance is a gift no decision can取的走. This moment isn’t a loss, but a quiet testament to its power: the best art leaves echoes, not endings... | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed055 | ood | A few years ago when my grandmother died unexpectedly. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | sad | You honored your grandmother’s life through your care and enduring memories; her unexpected passing was an unavoidable part of life’s fragility, and your love transforms grief into a lasting connection that reflects the depth of your bond. | While her sudden passing left an unexpected void, the care she poured into you over a lifetime built resilience that still carries you through hard moments. Her love lives in the strength she gave you to keep growing, even when life feels fragile. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed057 | ood | My fence is collapsing at areas where my neighbors keep climbing over to get their ball. It's going to be expensive to fix. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | annoyed | You can reinforce your fence to protect your space while using this as a chance to model respect and accountability, and by communicating calmly with neighbors, you might turn a frustrating issue into a shared solution that strengthens neighborhood harmony in the long run. | You might consider this a chance to collaborate with your neighbors on a shared solution, since they’re likely unaware of the damage and might be willing to help cover repair costs to keep the area safe for everyone. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed067 | ood | I was told my cat only has a few weeks to live. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | sad | While this time is incredibly difficult, it’s also a chance to show your cat all the love and comfort you’ve shared over the years, making these weeks a peaceful celebration of your bond. You’re giving them the gift of being surrounded by warmth and care as they transition. | You can’t control the weeks ahead, but you can choose to fill them with moments of quiet connection—gentle touch, shared comfort, and unguarded love—letting these final days become a tender, intentional tribute to the life you’ve built together. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed069 | ood | Just moved here for work, and I don't know anyone. My coworkers have families of their own. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | lonely | Feeling isolated and distracted by unmet social needs is natural when navigating a new workplace, but proactively engaging with shared interests—like club meetings—can turn this phase into opportunities for meaningful connections and personal growth. | This fresh start gives you the freedom to explore your new city and build connections at your own pace—think of it as a chance to curate friendships and experiences that truly align with who you’re becoming. Your coworkers’ busy lives might leave more room for you to discover hobbies or communities that spark joy indep... | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed071 | ood | When i was moving and lost my insurance to my car. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | terrified | Losing insurance during a move is a common, temporary setback beyond your control—take charge by documenting the loss and contacting your DMV immediately to secure temporary coverage, turning this challenge into a straightforward part of your relocation process. | Losing your car insurance during the move might feel overwhelming, but it’s a chance to reassess your coverage needs and potentially find a better plan that fits your new circumstances. Think of it as a fresh start to ensure you’re fully protected wherever you’re headed. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed073 | ood | My child lied to me, and went somewhere he shouldnt have went. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | furious | Your child’s lie may reflect their courage in facing pressure to assert independence, not a failure of character—use this as an opportunity to discuss accountability and trust through open dialogue, acknowledging their struggle to balance freedom with responsibility. | Your child might have wanted more freedom but wasn’t sure how to ask. Use this experience to foster honest dialogue and reinforce the importance of mutual trust. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed076 | ood | I lost my wallet and had to get all new cards | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | sad | You took immediate, effective action to protect your finances by replacing your cards, turning an inconvenience into a proactive step toward stronger security. While the process was disruptive, you’ve already resolved the urgent need and now hold the tools to prevent future stress—this setback is softening into a small... | It’s a hassle now, but getting new cards is a chance to simplify and secure your accounts, and you’ll feel more proactive knowing you’re protected against any future issues. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed077 | ood | Our lights went out last week during a storm. Its was only for 15 minutes but I was so scared. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | afraid | Your fear during the 15-minute outage was a natural response to an unexpected storm, but the disruption’s brevity and external cause—not a personal threat—show you navigated a minor setback with resilience, not vulnerability. | It’s natural to feel scared when the lights suddenly go out, but those 15 minutes also revealed your ability to stay calm and adapt—and now you know the power comes back quickly! | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed079 | ood | when my daughter choked on a piece of food | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | afraid | It must have been scary in the moment, but your quick response shows how capable you are in a crisis—your daughter’s safety now is proof you acted effectively when it mattered most. | Your quick action administering the Heimlich maneuver reflects your bravery and commitment, and choking is a common, temporary challenge in parenting that doesn’t negate your care or the child’s overall well-being. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed083 | ood | I am ashamed when I cheated on the test. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | ashamed | You chose to cheat, which is not the same as being a bad person—acknowledge the shame, learn from it, and rewrite your story by upholding your values through accountability and consistent effort moving forward. This moment is a small setback in your larger journey, not a reflection of your inherent worth, and turning i... | Recognizing you wanted to do well shows you care about your goals—this is a chance to rebuild trust in yourself by choosing integrity next time. Mistakes don’t define you; how you grow from them does. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed085 | ood | Some left their garbage outside of the dumpster in my apartment complex. Now at night there are a bunch of raccoons outside. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | angry | The raccoons are simply drawn to available food, not a personal failing of yours, and taking practical steps—like securing bins or collaborating with neighbors—can turn frustration into actionable solutions that benefit your community. | Those raccoons are just taking advantage of an easy meal—this is temporary, not a permanent mess. Letting the complex know means they can fix it quickly so everyone (and the bins) stay critter-free. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed096 | ood | I let my cat out for the evening , the first time I left her outside at night and she didn't come back. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | devastated | Your cat might be savoring her newfound independence on a brief adventure, guided by her instincts in familiar surroundings. Many cats explore cautiously at first but return once curiosity’s satisfied—she’ll likely reappear when she’s ready. | You trusted Cat’s autonomy by letting her explore, and while her absence stirs worry, it’s a reminder that life’s unpredictability demands adaptability—not failure; your care is evident in both your trust in her independence and your proactive efforts to ensure her safety. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed097 | ood | I went on my first date ever only about a month ago. Even though I knew this girl really well beforehand, I was still really worried that it would be awkward and that I might mess it up. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | anxious | You already had a strong connection with her, which likely made the date feel more natural than forced—nervousness just shows you cared about making it meaningful. Sharing that vulnerability might’ve even deepened your bond in a way scripted perfection couldn’t. | Your anxiety was a natural signal of how much you cared, and that energy likely made the date more lively—awkwardness is normal in new situations, and your self-awareness shows growth, not a mistake. | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed101 | ood | We've had some big rain storms where I live this spring and summer. The creek behind my house got almost in the yard twice already. Very scary. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | terrified | The creek’s behavior is a natural response to intense weather patterns beyond your control, and while you can’t stop the rain, you *can* prepare by reinforcing the bank, improving drainage, or creating overflow paths to reduce risk and protect your space. | Although the creek rose close, your yard stayed safe—it’s a reminder of how resilient your space is. The storms are also nourishing the ecosystem around you, helping plants and wildlife thrive even after drier seasons. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed102 | ood | I was very furious the other day when someone scratched the backend of my car. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | furious | It’s frustrating when something you care about gets damaged, but this scratch doesn’t define your car’s value or your day—and fixing it could be simpler than carrying that anger. Accidents happen, and focusing on solutions lets you move forward without letting the small stuff weigh you down. | You can channel your frustration into practical steps like reporting the damage and securing insurance coverage—reclaiming control over solutions—while recognizing that this incident, though validly upsetting, is a temporary setback, not a reflection of your worth or the broader scope of your life. Let your response fo... | DeepSeek-R1-671B | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed103 | ood | I was very afraid in airplane because of turbulence. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | terrified | Your fear is a natural response to turbulence’s unpredictability, but it’s a routine, manageable part of flying—what you’re feeling isn’t danger, just your body’s temporary reaction to minor bumps, which are negligible from the plane’s perspective and will fade in your broader journey. | The turbulence you felt is just the plane adjusting to air currents, much like a car bumps on a road—it’s normal and the aircraft is designed to handle it safely. Focusing on how every bump brings you closer to your destination can help ease your mind. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed104 | ood | I recall a time when I had to go to my cousin's birthday part, and I overslept! I felt really guilty about that. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | guilty | You’re human, not a robot—moments of oversleeping are normal and don’t define you. Use this as a prompt to adjust your routine without letting guilt overshadow your inherent reliability and care. | You needed the rest, and your cousin likely values your genuine connection more than punctuality—planning a special time together now can show how much you care. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed108 | ood | When I was a child I was chased by a pitbull and I was very afraid. Dogs had always scared me at that age | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | afraid | Your fear was a natural, life-protecting response to a sudden, uncontrollable threat—common in childhood—and over time, this moment has likely become a quiet testament to your resilience rather than a lingering shadow, as the brain naturally softens acute fear into manageable memory. | That pitbull might have been scared too, reacting on instinct rather than malice—your fear was valid, but it protected you in a moment of uncertainty. Now, you can choose to see dogs as creatures shaped by their experiences, just like we are. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed111 | ood | I situation in which I felt alone was when my partner left me. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | lonely | The pain of losing your partner reflects the depth of your capacity for love, not its absence—and this experience, though devastating, is shaping a future where you prioritize connections rooted in mutual respect, resilience, and authentic joy. | While their absence leaves space for loneliness, it also creates room to rediscover your own strengths and desires, reminding you that endings often clear the path for growth you hadn’t imagined. This moment isn’t a void—it’s a bridge to deeper self-trust and new connections that align with who you’re becoming. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed113 | ood | When I was younger my dad scared me and my brothers when we were trying to sleep, I almost wet the bed. I was very terrified | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | terrified | Your fear was a natural, relatable response to a frightening moment, not a sign of weakness, and recognizing that your body’s reaction shows your deep capacity to feel and adapt—something many children navigate—can reclaim agency over this memory. | Your dad might have been trying to playfully bond with you all in a way that felt intense at the time, not realizing how overwhelming it was for young kids—you were just reacting naturally to a moment that felt bigger than it was meant to be. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
ood_ed116 | ood | I broke a vase at my mom's house and hid it. I still haven't told her about it. | EmpatheticDialogues (facebook/empathetic_dialogues) | guilty | Apologize and offer to replace the vase—owning this mistake shows accountability your mom likely values, and honesty now builds trust more than keeping it secret. | You might worry she’ll be upset, but telling her shows you care about honesty—she’ll likely appreciate your courage more than a vase. Fixing it together could even strengthen your bond. | ours: sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234 | DeepSeek-R1-671B | DeepSeek-R1-671B | null | null | null | null | null | null | null |
REAP labelling sample
A sample of paired cognitive reappraisals for building and testing a human-rating interface. It is not the final labelling set.
Every row has the same columns, whether it is in-distribution (split = id) or out-of-distribution (split = ood):
| column | meaning |
|---|---|
id |
row id (id_… or ood_…) |
split |
id = the 6 Li et al. vignettes; ood = situations from another corpus |
situation |
the situation shown to the model |
situation_source |
where the situation comes from |
emotion |
emotion label from the source |
answer_a, answer_b |
the two reappraisals, in random order (seed 20261012) |
source_a, source_b |
who wrote each answer; hide these from raters |
opponent |
the model our answer is paired against |
opponent_n_ratings, opponent_mean_effect, opponent_std_effect, opponent_mean_empathic, opponent_mean_novel, opponent_mean_specific |
existing human ratings of the opponent answer (Li Study 1, −3 to +3); empty where none exist |
new_ratings |
empty, for the new labels |
| split | rows | situations | opponent |
|---|---|---|---|
id |
60 | the 6 Li et al. Study 1 vignettes, 10 pairs each | GPT-4-0314, using the 60 answers from that study |
ood |
40 | EmpatheticDialogues, sampled with seed 20261012 | DeepSeek-R1-671B (GPT-4-0314 is retired, so it has no answers here) |
Our answers all come from one model, sft_scaf_d18_q35_s1234: Qwen3.5-4B fine-tuned on 3,000 Qwen3-32B reasoning traces covering 18 appraisal dimensions. It is not a teacher-free model. With gemma-4-31B-it as judge, length-matched, one training seed:
- vs GPT-4-0314 on the vignettes: 0.786 (lower 95% bound 0.649);
- vs R1 on the vignettes: 0.431;
- vs R1 on EmpatheticDialogues: 0.277.
These are existing generations. Wrapping quote marks were removed so the style does not reveal the source. The model was asked: "Write a reappraisal of this scenario in two sentences maximum, addressing the person in second person."
Sources and licences. The vignettes and the GPT-4 texts come from Li, Herderich, Nair & Goldenberg (OSF https://osf.io/z9e48/, PsyArXiv https://doi.org/10.31234/osf.io/fzvd8); please cite that work. The EmpatheticDialogues situations are CC BY-NC 4.0. The model answers are released for research use.
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