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Bringing up threeway fantasy with your top? | r/TopsAndBottoms | jm5pvk | 10 | null | true | true | 0.92 | true | "Hey, what do you think about us having a threesome?" | There shouldn't be anything threatening about sharing your fantasies. I'm a top but I badly wanted to have a 3way with a guy I was having a 2-year fling with. When I mentioned my fantasy I could tell he didn't want to share me with someone else so that was that. | Maybe start by asking him about the time he did it and what didn’t work for him that time and how it could’ve been done differently for him to enjoy it. Then tell him what you’d expect from such an experience.
Also was it with 2 tops and a bottom or him as the top and two bottoms? I think a scenario that may turn him ... | null | null |
How do you guys arrange an orgy? Advice? | r/TopsAndBottoms | k7w3mh | 13 | null | true | true | 0.76 | true | my first advice would be to wait for this pandemic to be over
Otherwise, it's easier to arrange it with guys who you already know. With random guys from grindr it's always hard to arrange something. It's probably easier to just spontaneously invite them over when you already got some friends over. In the end, you can'... | Lots of friends or post on sites.
If you go cruising or do hookups, you need to start handing out business cards with your contact info on it. Build up a network and go from there.
It takes time and is work.
I had 1 gangbang. My steady set it up. So I got lucky. | I never had those problems.
First thing: stop sorting people into "tops" and "bottoms".
If you have an equal number of tops and bottoms, then you're guaranteeing that men will match up in pairs: one fucker and one fuckee. Also, what about men who aren't into fucking or don't feel like fucking on the night?
Just i... | Post something on Recon | I hope you are not those who were caught by the police in Belgium. 😅 |
TOPS - How do you feel when couples hit you up on Grindr? | r/TopsAndBottoms | kmp4gl | 6 | null | true | true | 0.88 | true | When I was on Grindr: I felt good and admired. Didn't do anything with them as I didn't (and still don't) want to be the third wheel.
When I don't enjoy it, the others won't either and then it's best for them to really get the ones, who are enjoying the time. | I’ve been the third guy in one too many “open” relationships to take that risk again.
I mean, three hot fuck buddies fucking like bunnies in heat? Sure! But an actual couple asking for me to join? No, not me. ...or asking me to bang one out, the other just watching? Double no! Thanks for the flattery, but I don’t get ... | I've had 3-ways with couples a few times and it's less exciting than it sounds on paper. For me, it's always been spontaneous when we were all out together and hanging out afterwards or something. I've been hit up by couples on Grindr but never gone through with meeting them although I was intrigued a few times.
Pros:... | They better be two bottoms or im not interested. | I would be flattered, but if something is to happen, then I would like to discuss everything through, I won't just jump into the bed without any discussion or warning as to what they want or expect. |
Should I cancel my PrEP appointment this week? What’s the point if I don’t hook up? | r/TopsAndBottoms | gfoo52 | 48 | null | true | true | 0.94 | true | I would keep the appointment and discuss everything you just said here with your doctor. It’s an office visit and a set of labs. You’re in and out in an hour. Wear a mask and wash your hands. | My GP basically told me to stop taking Prep until this is over. Unless I ignore the lock down. Which would be a different problem. | Just beware of those sudden unplanned moments. What if some gorgeous man turns up and offers you a fuck?
If you've got condoms handy for those moments, you should be fine. | No you should go just to ensure you maintain the right levels of prep in your body. Also to keep your records accurate. | If you don’t take PrEP consistently then don’t take it at all. It’s one of those few things in life that really is black and white. There’s no half assing this. |
When did you last use a condom for sex? | r/TopsAndBottoms | etkyu1 | 7 | null | true | true | 0.73 | true | Um. Imma still use condoms. Have you not heard of Super Gonorrhea? Its Superbug strength Gonorrhea, resistant to most antibiotics. | Yesterday | Yesterday | I am on prep, but i still use condoms with strangers | All the same get tested regularly specially if the person isn't a known partner.
As /u/master-of-none mentions there are other pretty serious STI that you could get. Prep is great but whether it's worth the risk or not is your decision |
Do you PrEP? | r/TopsAndBottoms | 6aocqi | 37 | null | true | true | 0.9 | true | [deleted] | Yes - been on PrEP for a year or so. It's part of controlling risk to myself and my partners | Not on Prep yet, but thinking about it. Too many wild Friday nights end up on tequila and then a trip to the sauna / bath house.
On the grindr issue, so many guys say they want bb, as they are on prep, but you ask for a pic of the receipt / bottle as proof and you get instantly blocked.
| I don't have enough sex for prep. Once every year, maybe every other year. Always with a condom. If I did, I would. | Yep! Going on three years now. No adverse side effects, and TBH the quarterly testing and annual check-ups have gotten me way more face-time with a doctor for other health issues that I would have tried to tough out by myself. I have gotten other STDs twice in that three year period, but nothing a quick shot won't c... |
Barebackers: how often do you get STDs? Could you give me an honest testimonial? | r/TopsAndBottoms | ccomyi | 118 | null | true | true | 0.96 | true | I go bare more often than not. I’ve gotten an STI 4 times in 7 years. Those were all gonorrhea or chlamydia, and were cured by a nice round of antibiotics or an injection. | I also prefer bare. I'm thirty and stopped counting how many guys I've been with at age 19 (when I had been with 50 guys). I've had 4 STDs since age 17, all were caught while asymptomatic (caught early with zero symptoms and treated) with the exception of HPV when I was 18 (small wart that was burned off and have had n... | I love bareback, not a fan of condoms though I will wear them if the bottom insists on it, and I'm too horny to just get head. But frequency is hard to measure. I've gone years without getting anything, and once I was unlucky and got gonorrhea twice in a span of 2-3 months.
In the past 6ish years, I think I've caught ... | Welp, there goes my interest in BB lol | I've had chlamydia 2x in my life. I rarely use condoms. The first time I was in college (I was very always-condoms at this point) and a guy just stuck it in without asking. The second time was two years ago. I'm 30 now. |
Can you get STDs if he didn't finish inside? | r/TopsAndBottoms | e4ddvi | 8 | null | true | true | 0.85 | true | You can get them from precum.
Go see a doctor, I’d be willing to bet you don’t have anything so shouldn’t freak out, but go get tested. The peace of mind when you get a negative result is amazing.
You don’t have to tell the doctor it was w/ a man. You can just say you had sex, and and would like to be tested.
You... | You can get a STD/STI even WITH a condom and just from pubic contact (like pubic lice/genital herpes). Precum and penile secretions can also transfer. The penis and anal walls can also scratch, tear, and bleed mid fuck. Sex period is a risk. Cum isn't the only thing, just a large cause.
Are you American? If you are I... | Yes. It's a fact that you can catch something . IMHO consult a physician and weigh out your options so that next time you're aware of your options and consequences. Once you know reliable medical information you can decide how much risk you are willing to take. I tell you this as someone who barebacks very often. | FYI, as long as you are of age, the doctor *cannot legally* share your private health information with your parents. It would be a HIPAA violation and subject her to large fines. | Just talk to the doctor, and be open and honest. I'm not out ether but, going to the doctor and telling him/her honestly what happened is always better. The literally cannot tell anyone. At all. If they do you can sue them. They dont want that. |
Has Anyone Caught An STD From Receiving Oral? | r/TopsAndBottoms | ko4f4v | 8 | null | true | true | 0.76 | true | Yes - Gonorrhea. | I get that you’re worried and anxious. The waiting can be excruciating. But my question to you is, does safe oral feel different l? If I understand it correctly, you have to suck on a condom. Or am I mistaken? | null | null | null |
What was the first STI/STD you ever got, and how or from whom did you get it? | r/TopsAndBottoms | dsd5z0 | 3 | null | true | true | 0.62 | true | Gonorrhea in my throat from sucking off 20+ strangers. Didn’t even know I had it. Just went in for a quick prick & that was it.
I’ll be honest, I love topping bare, and I’ve never caught anything. | Crabs, got them when I lost my virginity. Was not fun. | Gonorrhea, hot pilot, bottoming. C'est la vie.
Edit: To expand on this, there's a lot of stigma attached to stis that virtually anyone who is sexually active is fairly likely to contract at some point (unless you're sucking dick with condoms or something). As far as I'm concerned, more discussion is always good. | HIV. Got if from bottoming bareback for a fuck buddy who was negative. But in reality, he only thought he was negative. He had been infected since his last test, so he didn't know he had it which made his viral load high and much easier to infect me.
That's a good lesson about guys who are negative, and guys who th... | null |
Anyone have experience doing anal after hemorrhoid banding? | r/TopsAndBottoms | e7nvly | 2 | null | true | true | 0.67 | true | What I read online from other gay guys is that it took a few months for all the pain to go away, and another few months to get some nerve endings back. So itll most definitely affect you and you should talk to your doctor about that concern. But it is probably still good to do | First change your diet.
Try to eat more cereals and vegetables and less pasta and what comes from it.
Take some anastastetich creams to keep it isolate and wash it each time you poop.
I use cold water because helps to close the capillaries faster.
Take some vaseline, it will help you to keep the ass not sore. (... | null | null | null |
Did My Boyfriend just rape someone? | r/TopsAndBottoms | ckj4xn | 6 | null | true | true | 0.69 | true | This is more a legal distinction I’d imagine. If he forgot in the heat of the moment I wouldn’t say it was ‘malicious.’
Unfortunate, sure. It’s different from a guy pretending to be wearing a condom and then removing it covertly to trick someone. It’s kind of partially on the bottom too to make sure everyone is wra... | Is your boyfriend to blame? Yes. Whether it was intended or not. It was a mistake, but he should have been more careful.
Is it rape? Objectively.,.... Possibly?
However if the guy feels like it was rape then you really need to take his feelings and concerns seriously. Even if you don't plan on hooking up again, si... | Men that legitimately rape women avoid conviction. I don’t think something like this would go anywhere. | null | null |
Wax or Shave? | r/TopsAndBottoms | l4woyl | 6 | null | true | true | 1 | true | I wax my ass / hole as it makes it super clean for the top. | Shave. I shave everything once every couple weeks. My arms not so much because I don’t have a ton of hair there | I’ve done both. I’m a top, but my body hair grows so sparsely, big hairy bushy balls look oddly out of place on me. I even trim my chest and pits. I blend from neck to knees when I manscape.
I always keep a happy trail and little bush above my dick, but trim my balls, dick, and hole extremely close. I used to shave th... | Wax... I really don't like body hair on me besides my armpits and face. Leg hair has started to bother me too as it is getting thicker with age. This pandemic has got me hairier than I have ever been and it kinda is driving me nuts. | IPL |
Tops do you shave your crotch? Bottoms do you like a bush crotch or shaved crotch | r/TopsAndBottoms | ds49f5 | 14 | null | true | true | 0.94 | true | I'm not opposed to a top having a bush but I do prefer either trimmed or shaved. I've always found it sexier and nice and clean | No. Shaving your pubes is unnecessary, and I wouldn't want to fuck anyone who does.
Trimming is fine. Everyone can use a clean up now and again. But shaving makes you look fucking prepubescent. Fur is healthy and manly. | I prefer trimmed. Nothing worse than getting throat fucked and a wild hair goes up my nose and tickles me while I'm trying remind myself to breath.b | Had mine lasered off years ago. Prefer shaved partner. | I like shaved, and I keep my hole at least trimmed if I am expecting a good time. Same for my crotch, although it is shaved at the moment |
What's that something you've wanted to try but haven't yet? | r/TopsAndBottoms | 6k6aig | 27 | null | true | true | 0.93 | true | Getting whored out by my top in a busy bar or sex club
Sucking two cocks at once
Wearing a butt plug all day and spending the day in public with my top knowing my ass is getting stretched out | Weekend sex toy to several guys.
Sounds so simple, but it's headed off to a cabin in the woods on a Friday afternoon and letting go enough to be three or four guys sex toy for the entire weekend. | Being tied up and used | [deleted] | I want to be the key owner of a boy (I only have access to key. Lock up that cock for as long as I want and see how slutty he gets after a month |
What are some of your hookup horror stories? | r/TopsAndBottoms | ka4lrf | 13 | null | true | true | 0.94 | true | Number 1 pet peeve, which is why I avoid uncut guys now. Dudes that want a bj but don’t clean their foreskin and their cock smells terrible. I had a dude with an 8.5” dick and it was the saddest fuck I ever had, he didn’t know how to use it. There was the dude during the snowstorm that I was blowing in his car and he w... | Go to this guys house to bottom for him. He says to go into the bathroom and change. I was like change into what? He again said go into the bathroom and change. I walk in there and there is a pair of pink panties, a black tennis skirt and a white crop top. | This was a second meeting with a guy. First time was in a coffee shop to get to know each other. He came over to my dorm. But he brought a sandwich with him since he had skipped lunch earlier in the day apparently.
He then started to eat it while we chatted about stuff and caught up with each other. After he had fini... | null | null |
What is your hottest Story of watching others fuck? | r/TopsAndBottoms | kkpx8n | 2 | null | true | true | 1 | true | never seen other fucked but ive seem my friend give a bj to another guy in the car after the club lol | null | null | null | null |
Whats your story of fucking someone you know you shouldn't have? | r/TopsAndBottoms | ivjgqn | 5 | null | true | true | 1 | true | Had sex with one of my dads friends when I was 19 | We didn't get all the way there, but I flirted with my dad's boss's son at a work social. Could have gone very very poorly. | I used to bottom for a guy who is married (to a girl). Looking back, the sex might've been great, but I sometimes feel guilty thinking I could've ruined his marriage. | I played truth or day, I set myself to get a bet I couldn’t suck off my a guy in under 5 mins .. my dads best friend got to try it and he unloaded it and it’s our secret but he gets head a lot | null |
Whats your hottest getting caught having sex and not stopping story | r/TopsAndBottoms | gl4ceo | 57 | null | true | true | 0.97 | true | When I was in high school my fwb was in full on railing me mode and my step mom walked in as he was breeding me. He told me after while we were cleaning up. I had my head down and didn't see her. It was an awkward breakfast after lol | Met a guy on Grindr and we went to a wooded area to play. He was about 45 and I was probably 21. We went deep into the woods and found a quiet spot. We started making out and eventually after like 15 minutes of swapping head and him playing with my ass, he started fucking me from behind. He was about 6.5inches and thic... | I got caught blowing an Arab straight guy by his GF years ago this was. She stormed out all mad and then kept on calling him but he had me back to sucking him by then he didn’t care lol. | I was on the mountain being doggied by my ex. A small winding road below was starting to experience a traffic pile up. People started getting out of their cars to check what was going on. Someone happened to look up, pointed to us, and soon several were looking at us. The pace of his strokes were starting to slow down ... | At a house party one time me and two guys snuck off into a bedroom where they proceeded to tag team me. I was on my hands and knees on the bed with one guy pounding my ass from behind while I was sucking the other guys cock when the door opened. In walked a guy that I had a huge crush on at the time but he was in a lon... |
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