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3 | 2 | Hello, how are you feeling at the moment?
hi! I am good. you?
I am not so bad thanks. Is there anything on your mind right now?
Yes I have been wanting to find online jobs like this but it is so competitive
I hear you! I do gig work online too but it can be very difficult to find any. I think a lot more people are working online due to the pandemic.
totally 1
Are you struggling financially at the moment, then?
Have you heard of Appen? They are similar to Mturk but they pay more
I still have a main job but due to big increase of my house expense, I need to work more, way more
I have not but I appreciate the recommendation! I think that we all need to come together and help each other at this time.
anytime, true true
i have applied to Appen a few times, and they always say there is no position available now
Are you aware that there are organisations that can offer a little help at this time? Food banks for instance, though I know some people feel awkward about accepting such help.
ah yes, food banks, yeah I never thought about it but free food always helps.
I have had to use foodbanks once or twice this year and I did feel a bit bad about it but everyone there was very kind and no-one judged us.
If i lose my main job I will use it
There is nothing to be ashamed of in doing so and when you get to a better position you can give back to them.
sorry about that, but that's good, people help each other
Absolutely! Volunteering is a great spirit.
Do you feel you will be getting the vaccine when it is rolled out where you are?
yes
how about you
That is a good idea - yes, I will get it. I think and hope it will help 2021 to be a better year than 2020 has been!
Great, I agree with you completely.
So, you feel that the New Year might be a turning point for us all?
I guess summer next year would be
Yes it might take a little while - we are definitely not out of the woods yet and people do need to stick to the regulations to try to mitigate the situation.
totally!
I sincerely hope that things pick up for you and for all of us. And that online work remains plentiful :D
Anyway it has been lovely to talk to you, enjoy the rest of your Christmas Day!
(I can't end it from my end, you have to :))
Please? :D | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, how are you doing?
Well, my fiance and I "sort of" broke up recently. I moved out of our place and all, but we continued to see each other at least 3X per week. And we both said we're not 100% sure that we're ok with us being done for good. - We promised to tell each other if we start dating anyone. He said he wasn't interested in dating. Three days after that conversation, I come over unexpectedly to find him making dinner for a woman I've never seen before. Turns out it was his 3rd date with her. He met her on a dating app a week before our conversation about promising to tell each other if we start dating others.
I'm so sorry that happened. Are you mostly hurt because he didn't tell you he was seeing somebody else?
To be honest, I'd still be hurt if he told me. But now on top of that hurt, I feel disrespected... and everything I thought I knew about him is kind of crushed. We were together 6 years, and I always, ALWAYS believed he was the most honest, kind, "stand up guy" I've ever known.
You must feel really torn up about it. I can tell that you care about your relationship.
Yes, that's true. The worst part is that he doesn't seem to think I have a right to be hurt. How do I even deal with someone who hurt me but doesn't care to take any responsibility whatsoever?
Maybe he didn't intend to hurt you. Its not like he invited you over to tease you. It is true that he didn't keep his promise, and that's his fault.
That's true. He didn't invite me over. I expected him to be at work that night. I was coming over to see our cats, which still all lived with him. I still had a key and it didn't occur to me that I could invade his privacy since I had been spending 3X a week with him, and he was fine with me using the key. The whole thing was a shock. I wouldn't have come in had I known what I'd find inside.
That would definitely add to the distress of the situation to have a weird surprise like that. It doesn't really seem like your fault that you were there but it is unfortunate nonetheless. Have you tried talking to h im yet?
Yeah. It's a long story to explain here, but at first he told me it was a first date... then he said it was a second date... then finally he said it was a third date. I had to figure out on my own that he met her through a dating app, which makes me feel extra icky because now I kind of feel like a stalker. (Don't worry, I didn't do anything illegal or immoral to figure this out at all. He left an easy breadcrumb trail for me to follow.... but it still feels gross that I felt compelled to research the situation because I could "feel" he was lying.)
That's ok, you have a vested interest in this person. It is natural to be interested in such things.
Yes. I'm not only invested in him. I have a SUPER close relationship with his two daughters. Some of the reason he wanted to see me after our "break up" is because he didn't want to tell his daughters that I might be out of their lives forever. He told me so much.
And I love those girls so much.
They're 13 and 16. They were 7 and 11 when I started seeing their dad.
There are a lot of therapists out there that might be able to help you navigate this. It's OK to get some outside help.
That's a good suggestion. I think individual therapy might benefit me. I could ask him if he's open to couple's counseling--even if it's over, it could help with closure.
Considering how much time you've put in to this relationship, I can tell you have a lot of feelings about all of this.
I do. I appreciate your talking the time to listen to me. Sometimes just talking about an issue can help organize one's feelings and thoughts.
Really, it is no problem. It helps to let it out sometimes, I feel that. Make sure you take care of your own needs before starting to smooth things over.
That is good advice. I haven't been eating or sleeping as well as I should since this all started. I'll work on that. --- Thank you so much for your time and help and kindness. :) I wish you a great weekend!
Thanks and you too, stay strong!
Thank you!!! Take good care, stranger. I sincerely wish you the very best. <3
Fare thee well sweetheart, best indeed. | {
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5 | 1 | hi
Hello.
How are you?
I don't know how to cope with Martins anymore
I am fine anyway
What is Martins?
WE have been friends for the past 10 years, I have been trying to ignore his fake and lie life style
My sorry this is happening to you. Would you like to talk about it?
he will never tell you, truth, last week we fix an appointment at the park by 4pm, you will not believe it that I waited from 4pm till 6.30pm... he will tell you I will so on be there
all kinds of lying
I have had old friends do that do me. The best thing to do is let go of them and try to find a better friend. I had a friend that I was friends with for 11 years and she dropped out of the blue. Since then, I have come across a lot of amazing friends.
he will never tell you truth. If Martins is seeing red like this in your front , he will tell you is white
mmmmh
That's really had to deal with. Try to surround yourself with loyal and truthful people.
I really wish to drop this guy out of the blue but it is our business that still attaché us together
He do help me collect my goods from Canada a
Do you guys run a business together?
not really
at a time , I will not want to leave my family to go to Canada for some goods, he do go there often
that is only major thing that still bind us
I should have let he go off my life
I understand. Maybe you could find a better friend to help you go to Canada or take a vacation to Canada sometimes.
ok
Its really hard but I think you can do it. You will feel much better about not having to deal with lies all the time.
I hate lies, it really pain me if a you lie to me
yes of cause
thanks , for you time
bye
bye | {
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4 | 1 | Can you help me?
sure, what seems to be the problem
I can't figure out why my friends don't understand why I want to keep a bit distant during COVID
I had the same issue with my friends as well
Really? What happened?
We stopped getting together and going out places cause they were all closed
Yes, that happened here. But they still wanted to come over despite government orders limiting gatherings.
We now have weekly video call meetings instead, it helps us stay connected
That sounds like a good idea. Is it hard to do?
Not at all, we use a program called Skype, that's free. You can use it on your phone or PC
My friends want to go out all the time. How can we connect during a Skype?
Pick a time you'll both be available, and you'll both need the program. It's quite easy to use and there will be youtube videos that'll help you set it up, should you need it
Do you do any activities together over Skype?
We usually just chat about our week or get advice on normal things, sometimes we'll play a drinking game and be goofy together.
Are there other games people can play together on Skype because I don't drink?
Drinking isn't a requirement, usually we'll just chat if we don't feel like drinking
I just want to connect and please my friends but it is hard to not have any physical contact and only be online.
I can understand that and it's definitely frustrating. But it'll be so much better once you can see other other again, cause absence makes the heart grow fonder
Wow, I didn't think of it that way. That puts a positive twist on it.
Yes, I always like to look for the positive in any given situation
Thanks for your help. I feel a lot better. | {
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3 | 1 | how are you feeling today?
Not so great. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple days ago.
So you have been feeling down since the breakup a couple days ago?
Yes I have. I just do not know what to do with myself anymore.
I can relate to this heartache as I have gone through similar breakups in my life. The important thing is that we pick ourselves up after something like this.
I just do not know where or how to start the process.
It can be really hard sometimes! It appears that you possess the strength and motivation to be able to pick yourself back up. The factthat you are reaching out for help shows you have the motivation and desire to work to get better!
I do not want to feel like this forever!
Studies indicate that emotions felt immidiately after a breakup eventually subside with time. It is important to take care of yourself in the mean time. Do you have any hobbies?
Yes. I love to read.
So you like to read? Have you thought about reading self-help books on perhaps depression?
I do read self help books.
Have the books provided you any benefit?
Not really.
I get the sense that you are pretty depressed over you recent breakup that you have taken pretty hard. I also feel your desire to want to feel better. I think this is a step in the right direction for you to get to feeling better.
I think so too i just do not know where to go from here.
Sometimes it helps in working through these feelings when we reach out to a professional mental health provider. Is this something you have considered?
I have thought about it before.
What has stopped you from doing this in the past?
I am nervouse about it
I am hearing that while you have thought about reaching out for professional help in the past in regaurds to your mental health, you have not felt comfortable enough to do this as this makes you feel a bit anxious or nervous is that correct?
Yes that is correct.
I am nervous in situations that are new to me as well so I understand this. Is there something you can do to get past this nervousness so that you fel comfortable seeking out this help?
I think that I will always be nervous until I get to know a mental health professional that I trust and am comfortable with.
It sounds like the only way for you to gain that confidence in someone to be able to share your feelings with them, that you will likely need to face that fear in order to make progress, is that right?
Yes, I guess you are right about that.
What would be the forst step you could take in working twards getting over this fear so that you may get the professional help that you feel like you have needed in the past as well as the present?
I just need to schedule an appointment with someone and go in and meet them face to face.
It is great that you can identify what needs to be done in this situation. It sounds like you are ready and willing to seek out help for yourself! Do you have access to the resources that are in your area?
Yes I do as I have a list of all mental health providers in my area from the last time I thought about going to see one. Thank you for your time and your help! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello
Hi, how are you today?
Oh, I'm okay. I'm just tired of everything and it has me down.
I see, I've been feeling that way too recently.
Is there anything in particular that has you upset or just life in general?
Just life in general, I guess. I'm tired of covid. I'm tired of worrying about my mom and not going out and everything
That makes total sense. Covid's been going on for so long, life is so different now.
Do you want to talk about what's going on with your mom?
She's high risk, so we have to be careful who we come in contact with. We try to limit time in public and all that. I order groceries for pickup at walmart so i dont have to go in, and my schooling is all online so i dont have to go to class.
She's been fighting cancer. She's in remission now, but her immune system is still compromised and we have to be even more careful than we usually would have to be
I think it's really great that you're doing all that for her! It must be extra hard to have to limit public interactions even more than most people.
That sounds so stressful to have to be worried about her on top of everything else. I'm so sorry you're going through that.
Have you been able to keep in contact with friends through video chat? That's something that can sometimes help when feeling isolated.
Yeah, we text and have group chats and stuff, and we snapchat a lot. It's been a while since I saw any of them, though. At least we have that, though.
And yeah, it's really stressful worrying about her. And she feels so bad because I can't see my friends or go in the store or to school
It sounds like you don't think the online interactions are a good substitute for in-person things. Does that sound right?
Ah, that sounds like kind of a cycle of guilt going on. Where she feels bad about you not being able to go out, and you feel bad about her feeling bad.
Yeah, it does. I don't need a lot of in-person interaction. I'm an introvert, so this was all just fine when it started. But even introverts need to be around people sometimes.
Yeah that makes complete sense. It seems like you have a good idea of who you are and what your needs are.
Yes, it does seem like the cycle of guilt.... I try not to let her see how much this is affecting me, but she's my mom and she can tell...
I wonder if you could do something like take walks in the park with friends, or see them with masks where you're really socially distanced from everyone
Yeah, I'm pretty good at self-analysis lol
I really hope things get better for you. Covid should be ending soon hopefully with the vaccine, and things will start to go a bit back to normal
Oh that's a really good idea! That might be something we can do. It won't be quite the same, but it's better than nothing. I'll ask my mom's doctor if that will be okay.
Thank you. Hopefully it will, and hopefully she will be able to get the vaccine soon, too.
Yeah! I hope that works out for you. I've been finding getting outside and doing things with others has been helpful both for social and exercise.
It's been really nice chatting with you :)
You too! | {
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5 | 1 | Hi
I cannot keep up with my classes and it is making me anxious
Ok. That sounds like something that you should talk to someone about. How many classes are you taking at the moment?
I am taking 4 classes and I am struggling with all of them
That's tough. A full load of courses. Do you have to take all of them right now? Can you adjust your course load?
I have to take them all right now to make sure that I graduate
That's a challenging situation. Can you get help from the professor with the deadlines? Maybe you could look into getting a tutor.
My professors are trying to help they are actually being really nice. I am just having issues balancing it all honestly. I feel like I can never catch up on anything its just a lot on my plate
I think a tutor is actually a really good idea I might look into that
Great! I think a tutor will give you some guidance on how to stay on top of your courses. Your situation is not unusual. Many students have difficulty trying to manage it all. Are you working a job as well?
I am just
I am also working right not
sorry my keyboard it messing up lol
I am working right now and its a part time job but it is still a lot for me
I think getting my time management under control is also so smart to make sure I can balance everything with less anxiety
Ok. No worries! Can you adjust your hours at your job? Do you need the money, or can you maybe take a short break from work until you catch up?
So I do actually need the money. I just moved out on my own and I have a lot of bills that I use to not have when I was living with my parents. I might be able to cut back a couple hours a week but then I might have to give up some fun things I like to do
True. Once you're on the other side of this semester, you can put in more hours. Do you absolutely have to finish this semester, or can you put off a course until the next term?
I would like to finish this semester just because I have a job lined up for me right when I graduate where I can make a lot more money and not struggle as much financially
Is the job contingent on graduation? Maybe you could take one course while you do the job. Work full-time and study part-time.
I do have to have the degree to start the job thats the only part that isnt great. I would love to start at that company and go to school but they wont allow it.
Do you have to get high grades in the courses, or just pass?
Luckily I just have to pass so it makes it a little less stressful
If I actually had to get a high grade oh man that would be the worst
Ok. Do your best to pass. Try to cut back an hour or two at the job. Keep you eyes on the prize: the full-time job after graduation.
Yeah it all seems so far away but I just have to remind myself to look at the bright side and that something great is waiting for me at the end
Great! Best of luck with everything then!
Thanks | {
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5 | 2 | Hello. How are you?
Hello, I am well. What can I help you with this evening?
I’m feeling pretty down in the dumps.
Are you upset about a specific issue or is it a general feeling of "blue"?
I broke up with my girlfriend. We dated for over two years.
That's a really hard experience to go through, I'm sorry you are having to go through that.
That's a really hard experience to go through, I'm sorry you are having to go through that.
Thanks. I’m trying to keep myself busy. Any suggestions?
I had a bad break-up a few years ago, and took it very easy on myself for a few weeks afterward. I let myself eat whatever I wanted, and have what physical comforts I could find while my mind and my heart healed.
I tried to avoid alcohol, because that will just increase depression and anxiety.
Good idea. I thought about dating again. Do you think it is too soon?
True.
I think you are the only person who can decide when you are ready to start dating again, but I would encourage you to try to keep it light and casual at first.
Great advice. Casual dating is a good idea. Don’t want to get attached right now.
Strengthen yourself and your boundaries and pursue your interests. I got into boxing and it's a great way to get in shape and have an emotional release.
I took up running and yoga. I stopped going to the gym. What else did you do?
I rehabbed a bunch of my houseplants. I had some really sad looking pothos plants and I started reading about how to revitalize them.
I got them healthy enough to start a second generation from cuttings, and it was such simple, calm work, it was almost like meditation.
That is interesting. I will look into that! I just want to keep my mind off of the break up.
That is totally understandable, and I think you can do it.
She not worth this trouble any way. I’ll find someone better!
You will find someone that will be a better fit, that is to be sure.
Definitely. I may just hook up in the meantime.
That could be fun and validating for you! It's always nice to get some attention
Oh yeah! | {
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3 | 2 | Hi. Hope that you have some good thoughts to share with me.
Totally, I am here to help! Tell me what's the issue so we can work it through
Cannot seem to shake the blues even though I exercise and have a friend I regularly talk with.
Do you think your mood is related to any current or recent events in your life?
Yes. To handle my previous depression I self medicated and ended up going to prison. Made my situation worse. Now trying to adjust but depression is worse having lost job and social stauts
Feeling down after an experience like that is certainly understandable, and I suspect that might be the main cause of your depression.
Regarding losing your job, I wouldn't worry too much. New businesses are opening each day as the pandemic slowly goes away. You will have plenty of job opportunities. Similarly, you will also regain your confidence and social status as you interact with society more.
Yes, but its a vicious circle. Get blue and find it hard to strive. Unfortunately many jobs require background checks these days. Even Amazon!
Hope with the vaccine that things will look up.
I am feeling optimistic about this vaccine, you will see how it helps us all slowly get our lives back to how they were.
Yeah. The covid thing is an additional layer of isolation and depression.
It will soon be over hopefully
Hey, just try to focus on improving yourself as a person. Try to find an activity you enjoy doing. Keep exercising, that's great for your body and mind. And definetely talk to any closed one you have if you need to.
Hey, just try to focus on improving yourself as a person. Try to find an activity you enjoy doing. Keep exercising, that's great for your body and mind. And definetely talk to any closed one you have if you need to.
political situation in US not helping like with most recent aid bill.
BTW how do we know when this HIT is complete? Yes, striving to gain 10 lbs of lean mass.
I agree, but it's not like we have any major control over that unfortunately.
Serenity prayer. Lord grant me.. to control ..
You have to hit "quit" and fill the questionarie. And I am sure you can get really strong! Just keep working out :D
How about you? Holding up to Covid-19 insanity?
It has been a rough time, but I have just been focusing on work, and hopefully it will be all over | {
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4 | 3 | Hello there. How are you doing today?
I'm good. How are you?
My board president is getting too involved with the staff and it is driving me nuts!
Ugh. I am sorry to hear that. That must be frustrating.
You reaching out here shows me that you are solution-driven so I feel strongly that we can work through this!
It is. He just said yesterday that he would not go to my staff but he is. Right after the meeting.
Thanks! I feel like the board, in general, is too intrusive into the day to day. I want to be helpful but by their intrusion, I Have no motivation to be helpful.
I have definitely had work situations where my higher ups have over stepped their boundaries to the point of being intrusive.
How did you handle it?
One thing that worked well for me was speaking to members of the board.
Another thing that I found helpful was speaking with my friends and family about it.
I feel like they would either blow me off or feel resentment for bringing it to their attention. Did you run into that?
I have spoken to my wife about it. She is in the same field as me.
As it pertains to the board, I found that the other member was very receptive to the conversation. Inevitably, they wanted to do what was right for the employees.
The power dynamics make it more challenging to be as open as we would like to be, right?
I worry that they may say "Thanks for bringing that to my attention" and then continue doing it. If they do, I would need to look for another job as this board does not have my back.
You are right! I want to do a great job but they are making it hard to be motivated.
Yes. There are certainly times when finding a new position is the right thing to do. It sounds like you not feeling supported in the work place is grounds for a new position. Is that accurate?
That is accurate. WE met with two of the members yesterday and they said the right things but then do the opposite.
I am hearing your frustration through all of this while also hearing your dedication to the work.
Thanks. It is nice to have someone to talk with.
You are more than welcome.
Have a nice day.
Is there anything else that I may be able to further support you with today?
No. Thanks for helping me.
You are welcome! And have a great day!
You too. | {
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2 | 1 | Hello, how are you doing today?
Not too bad, really. Just kinda pissed.
Sorry to hear you're upset. Want to share why you're feeling that way?
Sure, I guess "venting" is pretty much all I have that I can do at this point.
Do you feel like you can't take any actions in the situation?
Long story short - at work, a new boss pulled all the leadership OUT of the jobs they were hired for (some more than 12 years ago - so they have lots of experience) and shuffled them all around to new jobs - all that is except the 5 oldest employees - they got moved into "non-positions". No longer supervising anyone, only doing grunt work, etc. It ticks me off and there's nothing I can do about it.
I'm working on a *possible* action - RETIREMENT from this job. Only problem is - bad time to be doing that; pressure to keep my income up until my daughter graduates college, etc.
That sounds frustrating, especially if you're one of the employees affected and when the new boss doesn't seem to know what he/she is doing with the reorganization.
That's positive, though, that you at least have a strategy in mind with retirement, even if this may not be the best time right now.
She has a "plan", I guess, but it isn't being articulated that well, and these actions are demonstrating poor "people management" and seem to be both confusing lots of folks, and professionally insulting many others. Oh, and by the way, things are running WORSE than they were before, but it's being blamed on COVID
Problem with the "retirement strategy" is that it means going out on a limb with no job with the holidays coming up, and with COVID with no end in sight. SO, just "muddling through" the days these days, hoping better times are ahead.
It sounds like you are not the only worker who is seriously questioning the changes being made.
Oh, no. 1 person outright quit immediately. 1 other has retired already. 1 more I know is retiring by New Years. Others are more "stuck", as they just CAN'T afford to quit OR retire. So, yeah, us "old folk" are not "happy campers"
Wow! From what you've said, it sounds like your coworkers feel much as you do about the changes.
Yep. We are sort of our own "support group", but since we are all 100% teleworking these days, we don't "see" each other, though we try to touch base through phone calls at least once a week.
That must be tough, but it must help to at least commiserate through the phone calls and be able to relate to each other.
Yep. Best I can hope for at this point. If I find another job to transition to, that would improve things. Until then, gotta just "keep on keeping on"
My former spouse works for a company that has moved him to departments he needed to retrain to work in, and he is considering looking for a different job, maybe after COVID is outta here.
It sounds like you're determined to stay as positive as possible while considering other options, such as a new job. Doing something about it like this must feel a little better.
As good as it can. Thanks for your time and commiseration.
You're welcome! I also think that's wise to hold off on retirement until your daughter is through college. My oldest is ready for college and I don't feel ready to leave work, either.
Yep, and she's actually a senior, so she'll graduate in May. But I gotta keep my motivation up until then. ;)
You can do it!
Thanks! I guess we'll see. Have a great evening.
You too! G'night. | {
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4 | 3 | Hello
Hello. What are some of the quickest ways to kill myself?
Have you talked to someone about this?
No, why bother? Everyone is just cruel. People are selfish.
I understand people can be cruel and selfish, but not everyone is. Some people want to help! Life is definitely worth living for.
Not at all. Why would I want to live in a degenerate world where millions die everyday? Be it hunger, disease, murder... Human beings are disgusting. We should go extinct.
Talking to someone you are close to, like a family member who cares about you, can definitely help.
Can you try talking to someone?
Family? My family kicked me out of their own house 3 years ago. I am nothing but a burden for them. They would just appreciate if I died.
What about close friends, or people you care about? I am sure they would not want to lose you.
I have NO ONE that cares about me. Not a single being.
Are overdoses painful?
I care
I doubt you do. You are just getting paid to be here.
Just from chatting with you, I can feel how sad you are about life and maybe a little overwhelmed with what the next step of life is.
What would be that next step if I asked you?
I used to be really sad about life too. However, helping others who are sad helped me become happier, knowing that I am helping others also become happier.
What makes you think someone as useless as me could provide any help?
Take a deep breathe and think about any happy memories. If you are sad right now, the only way is up from here!
I believe no one is useless. We were all brought on this earth for a reason.
That's a very optimistic view...
Like I said, I used to be sad too and not optimistic. But now I am optimistic because I know what it is like to be sad, and I don't want others to feel how I have felt in the past.
I guess that's a way to view it...
Have you tried to express your feelings in one way or another? If you don't want to talk to others, there is always other ways - such as writing, music, etc. Have you tried any different ways?
Or would you be open to trying any of those different options? | {
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4 | 2 | hello, how may i help you today?
Hi, how are you?
i am good how are you?
I feel like one of my employees is gossiping and seeking attention of my bosses.
why do you feel like that?
I am not sure. She is telling me things that by supervisor should tell me. She is saying "He told me this...".
have you asked your supervisor about it?
Not yet. It just started last week. I am thinking about asking this week. He usually calls me.
i can understand how you are feeling i have been through some situations like that before
Thanks. Have you tried anything that has been helpful?
what i did is just talk to the person about the situation and let them know how i was feeling
Should I talk with my employee first or my boss?
i would talk to your boss first that would be best
let him know everything you are feeling
just don't worry to much about the situation and don't let it stress you out everything will be okay
That sounds like a good plan. I am only stressed because it is hurtful and my employee likes to beb the center of attention.
I understand what you mean about that just do not worry about people like that your main focus is doing your job
people are going to talk but you have to just ignore them and move on do not worry about what people say or think about you
Yeah. I am trying to detach from it but my ego is getting hurt, which usually doesn't happen.
you will be okay no matter what
That means a lot. That was a nice thing to say!
the only way the situation will be solved is by communicating and expressing your feelings
I will do that the next time I speak with my supervisor. Thanks for the guidance. | {
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4 | 2 | hi good mronging
are you there
hi
i lost my job and searching for that due to lost of house
i was in depression
can u help me out from that
you searching new job.using your qualify id with work.
i affected covid , so i am full scaring to go out
don't fear okay ,first you wearing mask and distance make others
ha ..even though we will get affect y air .i read from news
i have no idea,you discuss with others
ok thanks ,
do you know anybody working in health group depatment to refer me
definitely i inform to my friends
hey thank you so much for your concern
i have lack of knowledge in some subject s
i need someone to assist or teach
okay i need help to you.
okay bye
thank you
you don't think others
be strong
okay
sure , thanks you for all your suggestions
thank you | {
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5 | 3 | Hello!
How are you today?
i am really very depressed
Is there a specific incident that caused you to feel this way?
it was the incident that is break up with my partner.
When big life changes come, it is natural to feel sad or upset.
but i feel very stress ful in that suitation
Since the breakup, have you found a safe place to live?
Have you reached out to any friends to talk about how you're feeling?
i have rented seperately
i reached to my friends but no use of that.
Knowing you have a safe place to live is one positive aspect of your life!
yes i am safe
I know it is hard right now, but seeking out others will bring small moments of joy to the day.
Exercise can help clear your mind.
Do you enjoy going for a walk?
yes ,but hard to over come that problem
i enjoy going to walk
I love to walk too!
The park by my house has some incredible fall leaves right now!
it is a nice climate too
Let's focus on accomplishing one small goal for the day.
I know you have the ability to accomplish your goals!
What one task can you succeed at today?
i have to divert my mind by focusing my thought from other suitaion only
i am thinking of going out for shopping.
Wonderful! I hope you enjoy the fresh air and change of scenery.
yes really .
Make the most of your beautiful day!
yes it is really wonder ful day
Knowing that you are seeking to have a great day makes me confident that you are going to overcome your challenges and thrive!
yes i will and have to over come
Take care!
you also take care bye
bye! | {
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5 | 1 | I can't seem to connect with friends much anymore.
That must be hard to not be with friends so much. Being social is human.
I miss them so much, but don't know how to connect.
Have you tried calling them to express your concerns?
I did but they want to meet in person and I just can't
It sounds like you are trying. Have you expressed to them why you feel the way you do?
I've tried to but I don't think they take the COVID seriously.
That can be hard when there are different viewpoints on such a big issue.
It sure is. Do you have any suggestions?
Do you think that having a friend intervene and having a third party help out could help?
That could possibly work. My friend is so much more receptive to my other friend in hearing her out. Maybe she could assist.
That sounds like a great idea.
It sounds like you are thinking of alternate paths to work through the friendship. Your friend will appreciate all the efforts you are making to show you care.
Yes, I'm trying my best
Do you think your friends would like a card?
I think that might show I care too and be helpful.
My mother-in-law often sends cards for each holiday because she can't leave her home due to illness. I know deep down she cares even though she is not in person.
You make a good point.
Sometimes patience can make the difference in a relationship. Do you feel like you have any other concerns?
I think I'm starting to feel better about the situation and trying to be more positive.
I'm happy to hear that. Keep positive as you are trying hard to go down the right path and your friends will appreciate that.
Thank you for your help. | {
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3 | 1 | Hi, how are you today?
I am okay. What is going on with you?
School's going badly. I really wish I had chosen a different major.
It sounds like it must be overwhelming to keep up with all of your school work.
I’m majoring in computer engineering. It’s really #%$& hard! Everyone else is way smarter than I am.
That does sound very difficult, but I think you can do it! Just getting into a program like that shows how smart you are!
It's kinda late to switch. I'm at the end of my third year. My parents keep bugging me about getting a job.
To be honest with you, I switched majors a lot in college. I eventually let go of what my family thought and pursued a career I would truly enjoy for myself.
I wish I were in your shoes! If I change majors now, I have to redo at least a year of school, maybe more. I don't think my parents want to pay for that.
Personally I took three years longer than it should to get my degree and accrued some debt because of it. Although I feel it is worth it now.
That's good to know. Maybe I can convince my parents to let me borrow some money. I don't want to be a computer engineer.
I'm hearing its difficult for you knowing that you are on a path that you don't really want to be on.
That's a good way to put it.
I've thought a lot about my options.
I've thought about take a leave of absence, switching majors, going to trade school, traveling abroad...
A lot of people I know benefited from talking to an advisor or counselor for some direction. Have you done that recently?
I talked to the school counselor. They laid out some options. It's really about money and time. If those weren't concerns, I would switch in a heartbeat.
What about meeting with the counselor with your parents, since it seems they would need to support you financially over any extra time it might take?
That's a good point. Maybe we could have a Zoom meeting, even for just 15 minutes. I need to get my parents to understand my feelings.
The counselor might help me with that.
It's been shown that healthy communication can help people listen and respond more considerately when things seem difficult at first.
I hadn't thought of it that way. I'm so worried about schoolwork that I hadn't stepped back from the whole situation of school itself.
I definitely can understand that, but it is important to think about your future happiness and security too!
Thanks again for all your help! Your words have been really insightful! | {
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4 | 2 | Hi and good afternoon
Thank you for your time
Hello, and good afternoon yourself. How are you?
Doing pretty good. Struggling a little
What is making you struggle?
My situation involves our Daughter and Son-in-Law. He is not treating her well, rude, gaslighting and treating the dog better. He is also not very nice to our grandaughter
This is confidential, Right?
Yes, of course it is :). So we are talking about your daughter and her husband and their child together, right?
Yes, He is a nice guy to others. At home he is so different.
I understand, people can often show different sides depending on who is around. Do you have any reason to think your daughter or granddaughter are in physical danger?
No, they are safe. He's, like I said, a nice guy. Our Daughter, we are very close and she would tell us.
That's great news! It sounds as though you are just concerned about how she is sometimes being treat. Have you had any conversation with your daughter about their relationship?
Yes, numerous. Like I said we are close to our daughter. She wants to stay together and talks with him.
He stays for whatever reason. I wish he would talk to me, to us. We have offered.
He knows that we care about him.
And that is so important and good to know there is trust from his side, to me it sounds as though that could be an olive branch for you to try and establish a conversation with both of them. An open and positive communication is always the first step in resolving anything.
We have tried this before when we visit and he appears receptive. Treats he well and then when we are gone. He falls back into he behaviour.
I recently went though a similar exercise with a friend and her boyfriend. We sat down in a room and spoke about our feelings. We had ground rules first and everyone knew they could talk without being judged or escalating.
Maybe you could suggest follow up conversations, re-cap about what was spoken about previously and they can both evaluate how they have progressed since then?
Thats sounds like a good idea. We have talked with them individually. Now the next step. We shall see.
Yeah consistency leads to accountability. I like the idea. Thank you.
I believe you have both their interests in mind. You sound like a positive person and you are just concerned for all 3 people involved.
For sure, she is our daughter and our granddaughter needs her daddy.
I hope they will be well receptive of your suggestion for a follow up.
Thank you. I have some good ideas after chatting with you.
No worries, I'm grateful for your time as well. If there is nothing else, I hope it all goes well and you have a wonderful weekend :)
You, too. I appreciate your time, listening ear and advice. Take care and God Bless. | {
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5 | 3 | Hi there
Hello :)
This is a tough one. since starting a new job and being around really smart people and feeling that I can't really measure up anymore. I'm finding this really tough, I'm good at my job I'm very committed but I just don't seem to get the same results as others?
So it sounds like you feel like you don't measure up to your co-works because they are getting different results than you?
that is certainly part of it however I also feel like they have more experience than me so maybe I'm just putting too much pressure on myself?
I would completely agree with that statement you are much newer than your co-workers. I believe you that you are very committed to your job. I am sure that with time you will get the same results as them if not better!
Are there any co-workers you feel close to or see a friendship developing with?
that's nice of you to say but I also don't feel as organised. I suppose that's to be understood in a new job scenario.
Yes there are a few really nice co-workers
Of course! With time you will get the hang of it. Well thats good to hear! Maybe you could ask one of them to coffee and express how you are feeling. I would bet that they felt the same when they started.
I think what I do is so complicated I sometimes wonder if I've been off more than I can chew. is this something you can relate to?
That certainly is something I can relate. There was a period of time in school where i signed up for way too many classes and had to drop out of a few. If you feel like you are in over your head it is ok to take a step back. It is important that you take care of your self and know your limits. :)
I suppose it's difficult to know when something is too much for you or if you need to give it more time.
I would say if you are showing signs for several weeks of being overwhelmed (tired, stressed, snappy etc.) That is probably is too much
Thanks he problem is I've worked really hard to get a better position and if I wasn't successful and feel like a failure. maybe I should look at it like this job just isn't for me if, like you say, I can't seem to get on after several weeks.
I would say thats the right option if this persists. I am sure there are other jobs that would fit you well!
Yes I suppose that is true actually. Just because I'm not good at this job, doesn't mean I wouldn't be great others. I suppose it's best to give it a go and see at least then you can say you tried. have you ever put too much pressure on yourself?
Yes i have and it did not end well I burned out and couldn't do my job at all.
Ah, so you have suffered with a similar situation. it is comforting to know the others face similar challenges and it's not just me
Of course you are not alone!
I think I'll give this a good few weeks and ask myself how I think I'm doing then go from there.
Thanks for the chat and your suggestions.
I think that is a great idea I wish you luck! Remember no matter what you will find somewhere you belong!
Thank you! | {
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3 | 1 | hello
Hello
What do you think of my problem?
what is the problem you are facing
what is the problem you are facing
The problem that I am facing is that my professor would not listen to my case about my grade
It felt very bad because I was silenced and could not do anything
so you are saying that your grade is low and your professor is not listening to you
yeah pretty much
he would not respond to my emails and when i got the dean involved he disregarded the whole situation
that's terrible, have you go through a lecturer that you are at least close to
Nope, I ended up learning from the situation and accepting that there are thing I just cannot change
i had an issue like that with my supervisor. He wouldn't schedule a meeting or reply my mail, not until i went to a lecturer they all know
i can feel your stress, just take it easy with your self
Yes you're right
I think i have to accept that it's okay to go to the higher ups because thats what they are there for
yes, should mail or call him, leave a voice note if need be, tell him that you will take it up if he didn't respond to you
I agree I will do it after the holidays are over because right now everything is closed
the outcome will not matter because whatever comes from it I will know that I tried everything I could
yes, it is holiday season. Have a nice holiday first and face the issue head on after
I agree thank you for the help your messages gave me reassurance that I am not in the wrong
once everyone sees that you have been trying to get in touch with him but he refuse to respond, then your case is already favored
you're right i just have to voice my concern and the rest will be up to how they want to deal with it
you are welcome. you are doing the right thing because this involves your future | {
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5 | 3 | Good evening, how are you feeling today?
I am feeling okay I am kind of stressed
How are you?
I am sorry, I gather life is not going well for you right now? Would you like to talk about it?
Yes I would
I am more than happy to listen and to help if I can. I do know how bad things can get at this time of year.
I am sad and even depressed about my life at the moment its hard to find a job and I am scared to open myself up to this guy I met
Let's take things one at a time .. have you lost your job recently?
No
it is hard finding one
Yes, I can understand that jobs are very hard to come by right now
Yes they are but I at least have friends to talk to for help
Well that is one positive thing. Can you tell me a little about the guy you are afraid to open up to?
Well I met him on a dating site and he lives in France but he is also turkish i dont know much about turkish men but he says he loves me and he sees something with me but i barely know we only talking for few weeks now
Well, I would recommend not taking things too quickly but relationships online CAN work - I met my fiance of ten years online.
oh that is wonderful
But we did take it very slowly and talked for a year before we met in person.
i told him i dont want to rush things he fine with taking things slow but he does want me to take a chance with him
im 23 and he is 27 he is a positive sweet guy currently he is battling covid
Well, if he is reliable then he will be happy to wait till you are ready to meet. Where do you live, do you mind me asking?
I live in America and he live in France
Ah well definitely do not contemplate meeting him whilst the pandemic is on! But it might be good excuse to put things off for a bit, do you think?
I would not be comfortable going to france during a pandemic I want to wait until everyone gets vaccinated first
I do think that it might be a while before travel in Europe fully opens up again. Things are not good here.
u live in europe?
I am in the UK. The pandemic is very bad here at the moment.
yeah I heard it is another strain there
Two more! It's very scary and I don't recommend coming either here or continental Europe right now.
he understands that im not meeting him no time soon but when the pandemic is over I do not know if I should continue to pursue him or not
I dont even have a passport and i care about my health and others im not traveling for a long time
So, I hear you saying that you are a bit wary of the relationship and do not know if it can work in the real world?
Yes because I do not have experience with Turkish men and I am scared of him being controlling and abusive I guess its due to sterotypes i read about and heard
Turkish people are lovely and welcoming - you should not worry about that :). But don't let yourself be pushed into anything you don't feel ready for
Yes I agree with u have u met any turkish people?
Yes I know a few Turkish people. They're very nice people, don't listen to any stereotypes!
I think its also due to me being hurt before but scared of trying something new giving a new person a chance I have major trust issues
I do understand how trying new things can be very difficult - this is something that I struggle with myself. But - if you don't take a chance, how can you know what might have happened?
Yes I agree with u there
I really hope that I have been able to reassure you a little bit and help you to try to think things through. I wish you a very happy holiday season!
thank you so much and happy christmas eve:)
It's Christmas Day here now but you too!
Can you hit quit and take the survey? :) | {
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4 | 2 | hello, what is on your mind today?
I'm really sad because I'm feeling left out of my freind's group.
why is that? because of covid?
No it's always been like that.
They will make plans in front of me and not invite me,
so, your friend and thier friends make plans in front of you but dont invite you?
have you ever just showed up? maybe they assume talking in front of you is like an invite
or have you ever asked your friend what is going on?
Yeah. They will also talk about how they did something previously and I wasn't invited.
That's not my personality. I think it's rude to show up or assume.
that has to be frusterating. have you thought about moving on and finding better friends?
it sounds like you are a great person and you deserve a lot better than that.
I have always been shy and have a very hard time making friends. My hisband is also in the military so we move a lot and it's a constant struggle of trying to fit in with new people.
Thank you for saying that.
i understand that, i am an army veteran
Yeah it can be very hard.
what about having a dinner for some other couples in his unit? have him plan a get together? even drinks and bowling or something
Unfortunately we can't do that right now because his base is under strict rules for covid. But normally that would be a good idea.
fair enough. well maybe you can just hang in there till this stupid virus thing is over i heard the fda has approved a vaccine for emergency purposes . i bet military will be some of the first to get it.
Yeah that is true.
i bet once they get the soldiers vaccinated the rules on get togethers will get less strict!
You're probably right about that.
just hang in there till 2020's over, we don't much longer till 2021, and then its a whole new year!
I hope so!
the whole world hopes so! lol | {
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5 | 1 | Hi! How are you doing?
Hi, i'm really anxiety for my next test
I'm sorry to hear that. What about it is making you anxious?
Perhaps I'm worried if I'll pass the test or not
That definitely would make someone anxious.
Do you want advice, or would you just like me to be here for you?
can you give me an advice?
Of course. It might help to do something that relaxes you: listening to music, or maybe talking to a friend.
I like listening to music, it's really goof to relax
Maybe, you can practice some self affirmation too! If you studied and paid attention, you know you can do your best on the test.
talking to a friend sometimes it help too
Yes, it's true
but I always paid attention on the class
Sometimes, when you've done all you can do, it helps to rewind.
You sound like a good student, I know you'll do your best
well, I tried to do good, but not all the times.
Thanks for the advice
I know it can be frustrating when we don't do well, but that's ok.
Of course! If you're done talking, feel free to end the session
Yes, but at least I do everything that I can do.
No, it's ok
Probably I will try to listen to a music before the test
Okay, whenever you're ready.
I know you'll try very hard! Relax so you can do your best
Yes, because sometimes I see people studying before the test and I don't think it's a good idea due to you will be more anxious
I agree. It can stress you out more when you're already stressed.
People try studying until late and they don't sleep properly which is bad for them
I try study the day before but not until late
and sleep well
Yes, people do better on tests when they are well rested.
It sounds like you're on the right track! Keep it up.
ok, I good now. thank you for talking to me
bye
Have a nice day/night/evening! | {
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4 | 3 | Hello?
Please let me know if you're there...
I'm not receiving any messages - are you there?
Hello! I am here
How are you today?
Ahh! Hello...
How are you doing?
I'm okay - I'm just sort of frustrated with my brother's wife.
Oh no, do you want to talk about it? What hapepned?
She barely speaks to me - she didn't even message me on my 50th birthday - but then she texts to demand my mom's wedding ring
... because she wants to give it to her 16 year old daughter. Who will also be getting a Lexus for her birthday.
Oh wow, that sounds incredibly frustrating. Do you speak to your brother?
How is a diamond solitaire an appropriate gift for a 16 year old?
He is so rabidly defensive of her, if I bring it up, it won't matter if he agrees with me or not - he'll take her side.
And both our parents died last year - I can't lose him too.
That's so inappropriate, my husband's brother is the same way with his kids. They are giving such inappropraite gifts for their age.
Oh wow, i'm so sorry about your parents. Losing parents is so hard. Definitely need to make sure you don't lose your brother as well.
She's the only granddaughter - she'll get the ring eventually, if she wants it (probably won't). My SIL apparently thinks that was the only valuable thing about my mom - she didn't want any of the books, or art, or photos...
Are you too busy to do this right now...?
Not at all!!!
You're really not saying much.
Thats' so horrible. THere is so much more valuable. YOu can keep the books and art and photos though.
the interface has been slow for me , i'm so sorry !
Do you have your moms photos displayed? I found that to be a really helpful way to stay connected and show people how special they are.
No, I should do that. I see them on my phone and computer every day, but I should have a framed one up. I just moved house, and I don't have all my stuff yet.
It's nice to display them in pretty frames. YOu could even frame a few and give htem to your niece. She may appreciate them more if they are displayed in a nice way.
You can then tell her stories about them that go with the pictures, it will make them more meaningful.
I could do that... of course, if the frames aren't solid platinum they won't be good enough for my brother's wife...
My parents both got dementia at the end, and I"m sad that the kids won't really remember the real them. My mom was more than a diamond ring... And she would have been horrified at the idea of giving it to a 16-year-old who'd just throw it in a drawer with her other diamonds.
I don't really see the kids. Not my choice. It hurts that my brother just goes along with it.
I guess I'll sign off. Thanks for talking, and for the ideas. | {
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2 | 1 | hi there, how is life today?
I am down. It happens sometimes and just takes so long to be happy. Do you ever feel this way?
Unfortunately yes and it's been worse this year. I have tried certain coping mechanisms but some work better than others.
thanks for sharing. it nice knowing that this year has ben hard for lots of people. What do you do to get by?
I have been trying to do as much walking as is allowed by the pandemic rule. I do love to get fresh air even though we're not allowed to go far.
Have you been getting help for your depression?
I tried getting help but it was not for me. now I am self diagnosing. self care. I tried taking walks but it never helped. anything else you do?
Well alcohol, but I do not necessarily recommend that. Do you have many friends that you can talk to?
There are also counselling services out there that you might be able to access for free.
I hate the idea of talking to professionals. alcohol sometimes works but that is a slippery slope. like my depression
I have suffered from depression for many years so I can totally empathise with you.
Is there any specific area that I could help you with?
just the rational of it. I know it is irrational but I can't help but be sad sometimes even when it is illogical. it's like my mind is heart my mind
I think that this just proves that you are human! I can understand that you are feeling really bad though and I'd like to help.
thank you.
I hope that I have been able to be of some help. It's sometimes hard to know what to say
You have been kind with your shared experiences. that make me feel not so alone and crazy. thank you
I wish you all the very best!
thank you again. can i ask you for one more recommendation
yes of course
please share
Well, I think you need to find a hobby that will help you and that will enable you to make new friends.
something simple
Anyway it's been nice to talk, all the best!
perfect thank you. | {
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4 | 3 | Hi. How are you? What would you like to discuss today?
hello my name is Marie
Nice to meet you, Marie. How are you doing today?
I've been feeling really anxious after work
I see. That sounds like a difficult situation. Could you tell me a bit more about your job?
I'm doing well with work after work my focus becomes my boyfriend coming back from work
After you get home, you focus on your boyfriend when he comes home from work. Do I understand correctly?
yes
I work from home
I live with my boyfriend at hotel
we've been together for over 5 years
Ok. So you are having some conflict with your boyfriend?
yes I have been and it's not new issues
Are the issues about money? Work? Many different things?
I don't know when he exactly comes back from work
I would like to know when he exactly finishes working
Ok. So you would like to have more information about his schedule and when you will be together with him. Is that correct?
Supposingly he's staying at work after work having drinks with co workers
He does this often
Ok. He is socializing with his co-workers and you would prefer that he come home and spend time with you. Is that right?
I would like him to give us more time
Ok. Socializing with co-workers is sometimes part of the job. Of course, your relationship with him is much more important, or it should be to him. What does he say when you talk to him about this?
I don't mind him staying late at the job sometimes but it seems like everyday he's socializing with his work buddies
Ok. By the way, do you have friends that you could socialize with? I understand that you want to spend time with him, but what other people do you have in your life?
I've mentioned to him about it and he always say that he will try to be back earlier , he gives a time he will be back, he says okay he will stop the drinking so much but he can't keep his word
I really don't have anyone to physically hangout with
Ok. Do you enjoy chatting with people online? You seem to chat well with me, so I think that you could connect with others virtually.
it's always been a struggle to make new friends to hang out with
Hobbies are a good way to connect with people. What do you like to do?
after high school it has been a struggle to meet new people to hang out
I tend to just hang out with new people I meet probably once and never see them again
Ok. My suggestions is that you find a friend or two to connect with virtually or physically. Perhaps joining a club, a gym or a class would help. This is one way for you to gain control of the situation.
I used to enjoy Zumba since I like dancing , I spend most my freetime watching movies and different series on Netflix also like to watch the home remodeling shows
Passive entertainment is not bad, but it does not help you make friends. Zumba and other activities are great for health and can help you meet people. Is there a place in your neighborhood?
I feel like I have social anxiety and that prevents me from having a conversation with someone
I think there is a gym nearby
You might want to see a medical doctor about that. There are probably treatments that would help you adjust to social settings.
I don't have insurance
I think psychological therapy can be expensive I don't know how much it will cost
Sometimes there are free clinics, and perhaps a university has programs so that their students can learn to help patients.
those free clinics usually have a long wait
I don't know if they have improved their system
True, but it is important to take steps toward changing your situation.
I get im patient sometimes
yes I agree
I hope that this chat has helped you.
I think it has to do with my father being mostly a single parent raising my brother and me he used to keep us inside the home
most of the time
I understand. Life is about change. The past can loom large and we need to understand how it affects our perspective on life.
my father and brother are even worse than me now
they don't really have any relationships with anyone just family and they barely talk to them
Ok. You are not them. You are a different person. You can make your own choices.
I don't want to be like them
that's why I moved out from my dad's home
That is a good first step. Good for you!
its been almost 7 years since I moved out
Now it is time for more steps.
my dad didn't want me to hang out with my boyfriend for 4th of July
I was 26 and my dad forced me to stay home
That is an odd request. Why do you think he wanted that?
I called the cops after my dad dragged me inside the house
he did not want to become independent
he did not like my boyfriend either
It sounds like you have unresolved conflict with your father.
oh yes there is alot of conflict with my father and brother
Ok. Well, I've enjoyed chatting with you. I need to go now.
when my boyfriend and I went to visit 2 months ago the cops came twice to my dad's home
they all got in a fight
ok that's alright if you have to go
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5 | 4 | I am depressed. There is no hope
I'm so sorry! Why do you feel that way?
This pandemic has been super stressful. I can't leave the house
It sounds like you feel like you are stuck at home and not able to do things.
Yeah, I'm stuck at home and spend so much time in bed worrying about life and crying
I also spend a lot of time at home. It's really a rough time
Do you have anyone you can talk to?
no :(
Well from what you are saying, I can tell that you are feeling isolated
Extremely isolated, i dont know what to do
i live by myself
Are you currently working?
No, i lost my job
due to the pandemic they had to cut a lot of people
How did you feel about that? Did you like your job?
I did not like my job but it was ssomething to do
My friend's husband also lost his job.
He started using a temp agency to find work. Have you thought about doing that?
No, I don't feel qualified
Temporary agencies are helpful to employers and employees like yourself. They match people to jobs based on job history and skills so they could find things that would work for you
Hm, do they cost money to use?
No temp. agencies offer cost free placements (the employer looking usually pays the agency)
wow thats great. i am still depressedd and don't know if i will have the energy to do it
I know that days can be really hard. I think it's great that you are considering options and wanting to do better for yourself!
Yeah, I just kind of feel like a failure in life
But I am trying, thanks
I understand that there are things in your life that could make you feel that way. You are not the only one!
When you feel up to it, do a search for temp agencies near you and hopefully they can give you some leads about a job.
i think thats a great idea
I hope I've been able to help with some support
yes, you have thank you. | {
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3 | 1 | Hello
Hi there, how is life treating you today?
Life is alright, but I am facing a bit of anxiety with the lack of work available
This is something that is affecting a lot of people during the pandemic. Would you like to talk a bit more about your situation?
I agree, the pandemic has made things really tough
I would be happy to talk more about my situation
Are you in employment at the moment, even part time?
I am making a little bit of money doing online tasks for Amazon
But aside from that, no
Ah, I hear you, I am in the same position. Where would you ideally like to see yourself in six months time?
In six months time, I hope to go to University and get a degree
But I will need to find some work before then
That sounds very positive! What would you like to study? Will you work your way through?
I would like to study Economics ideally, and will work as hard as I can since it's very competitive
I hear you sounding a little more positive when you try to focus on the future rather than the present.
What would you ideally like to be in the future?
Honestly, i'd really love to work as a diplomat or a civil servant
You have to be very highly qualified for those though , but a boy can dream...
That is a really worthwhile goal and I genuinely think that you can achieve it if you stick to your guns. Please try not to let one bad year put you off perusing your dream
Thank you for talking with me, it's been really helpful
You are most welcome. We have five minutes left if there's anything you'd like to talk about in addition to what you have already told me.
Perhaps you could tell me if you feel a little more positive now? You do sound it
I am definitely feeling a bit more positive after this conversation
I think it's good to put things in context and focus on the future, as you said
I am glad to have been able to help. We all need someone to talk to during a time like this
Perhaps you should make a plan for some sort of treat a month from now, when things will hopefully be better? Perhaps go out for a pizza night with friends or something?
That's a really good idea
A pizza night would be great for clearing my head
I do enjoy promising myself treats if I fulfil certain goals. It can be anything at all!
Anyway it has been lovely to talk to you and I wish you all the best in the future
Yes, you too
Thank you for talking to me :)
Please show yourself out :)
I kind of need to see my next client now :) | {
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4 | 3 | Hello, how can i support you tonight?
Hi there, I guess I just want to talk about some academic pressure
I am just trying to pull an all-nighter and try to get through some lengthy reading of my textbook. I have a final coming up after next week.
School can be very demanding. What has you stressed?
yeah just trying to speed through the readings as I still have more than a few units to read through
All nighters can be rough. Do you have snacks and caffeine?
and meanwhile, have one assignment from this course also at the end of this month, and another course's assignment, and that course's exam is coming up next month.
yeah just trying to load myself up with coffee.
I am used to the idea of staying up because I have been doing that since the pandemic early on this year, but I seem to be distracted and procrastinating, especially in the early hours of the morning, and just go on the computer and waste time, etc.
it's kind of hard to sit myself down I guess
You can master it within in a month, you are already getting a head start
yeah this is my third go through the entire course, the third round of studying. So that the knowledge would be fresh in my mind.
just the entire next week is all I have left to get through like 6 units of readings
Yes the pandemic has created a lot of challenges for routines and schedules
plus finish up the assignment and I have a part-time job, and plus doing some catching with the other course which is all due next month after this course.
yeah it sure has.
I can go on and on about that too
I am confident you can succeed, it sounds like you have a plan and dedication
And another thing is by the time I get wise up to not procrastinate, like around 3 or 4 am, I become tired and sleepy, and my brain kicks in and immediately doesn't cooperate. So just a pattern of that going on lately.
thanks just gonna do my very best and be mature and catch up because my marks have been good but have been procrastinating, lazy, and slow with everything since the pandemic.
That is a tough cycle to break.
yeah it's stupid. Once I am done with these two courses, I can finally stop sleeping so late. Because regardless of the courses, I have been sleeping at around the same time, which is late almost every night, since the pandemic started.
I think you're saying you will have go put your nose to the grind
so it will be a good time for me to take a breather and reset my bad bad habits and circadian rhythm after these two courses.
and get back to some normalcy in my life routines.
it will literally be a fresh start, next january
Yes, definitely allow yourself time to breathe
yeah exactly, nose to the grind
yeah too many bad habits from the pandemic and social isolation. Excessive procrastination, not working out much, eating pattern is bad, sleep pattern is bad, etc.
I think you sound very capable, despite the amount of stress you're under
its all linked and most of it is due to the pandemic and the studies is just a reinforcement of this loop, fuels it actually.
You can get back on track with those healthy behaviors
Thank you. I am getting better as each day brings me closer to the first exam. I am actually catching up and I feel guilty of myself for the bad habits and not doing the courses as well as I should but just at the end, I feel like I am getting a grip on it again.
Thank you for your advice
I hope I can break my bad cycles like I said.
You are welcome. I definitely relate to how you feel
Thanks. Yeah I can see that you understand. That's good
I believe in you!
thank you very much! I will continue to study after we chat. I am just taking a break
this has been a good refresher break. So thank you for your kind words and your trust in me
Same, have a good night and get some rest
okay. So I am good to go then. Thank you again and all the best to you and I hope you continue to stay safe. Good night.
You too, rest well. | {
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3 | 2 | Hi
Hi there, how are you feeling today?
Quite bad. I tried to send some job applications but there are still no reply.
I hear you. It's been a terrible year all round for job seekers, given the global situation at the moment. I have been there myself.
Can you give me some advice on how to cope with this? I honestly don't know what to do.
Well, firstly I think you need to accept that this is not your fault and that at the moment the world situation is beyond your control.
I understand, but still, emotionally it is hard to cope.
Are you able to cope financially whilst you are out of work?
Perhaps you could take on some gig work just to earn a little extra spare cash?
Not really, my savings are running out. I am doing some part-time freelance work but it won't pay all the bills.
Do you have any suggestions?
I understand. I have been in the same situation and I know how frightening it is. Have you though of consulting agencies such as food banks that can help you temporarily?
I haven't been to food banks yet. I can still deal with food on the table for now, but a couple more months without job then I might have to.
So you feel that you can at least manage for a few more weeks?
Financially yes. It is just that my emotion is getting worse and worse. Stress I guess.
I think it might be a good idea for you to consult your doctor? It sounds as though you might be suffering from depression.
I don't know. Psychologist appointments are very expensive in my country.
And without a job I do not have any insurance.
I am sorry to hear that. I have had therapy but it is free in my country. Are there any charities that might offer a limited amount of counselling time?
I have not heard of charities that does that. If I am suicidal, may be, but I guess they are not dealing with stress from normal job seekers...
Would you be prepared to take on a job that is outside of your normal field and income bracket, just temporarily?
I would. I work as an IT consultant before, but I would take any job for now.
I know that it is very difficult with so many businesses being forced to close. Would you be prepared to do delivery work, perhaps?
Do you mean like food delivery? like UberEats?
Yes. Or most restaurants are offering take out services at the moment so there will be delivery services out there
I guess I could try that, not sure it pays well enough.
But thank you for your help.
You are most welcome. I hope that things will pick up come the new year and you can get back to your regular profession! Just try to think of this as a stop gap
I hope so as well. Thank you a lot for advice, I feel better just talking about it.
I am glad to have been of help .. enjoy the rest of your day!
You too, hope you have a good day.
You have to end it from your end .. I can't :)
I see, alright, see you then!
just hit quit and take the survey :) | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, how are you?
I'm doing okay I suppose. I could be much better.
How are you feeling? Is there anything the matter?
I am feeling really down today. My fiance was cheating on me and everything has pretty much crumbled all around me.
Oh my I'm so sorry that happened to you. I can't completely relate, but my parents are going through something very similar after 25 years of marriage. Tell me more about it.
I'm glad you haven't and so sorry to hear about them. We have been together for 13 years and have an 11 year old. He has been dating someone for nearly two years and i had no clue. I am so embarrassed and feel so stupid.
I am so sorry. Does your child know? I have a 10 year old and she is struggling with my parents, we lived with them for the first 2 years of her life and have always been 15 minutes away since. I completely understand why you feel the way you do that is to be expected. You are not stupid and I'm sure its not you. Have you spoken to your fiance about this since you found out?
He is somewhat aware that something is going on but not quite sure what. One of us will be moving out so it will need to be explained to him soon. We have talked and he just denies everything. He told me I'm crazy and they are just "friends
I would love to believe that but unfortunately I know that isn't true. I'm just overwhelmed with so may questions that he is not answering.
I'm so sorry. From personal experience, my best advice is to be as direct as possible. Demand respect and answers that you deserve after 13 years.
If he will not answer your questions, thats all the answers you need. How did you find out?
I can't even imagine how you feel. Clarity and answers are so important right now for you... no matter if it is true or not. That is a long time to be with someone.
That is great advice! It's very hard to stand up for yourself sometimes especially when you are emotionally devastated. I visited him unannounced at work one day and they were having lunch together. I had no idea who she was and she got up and ran off. Upon further investigation, I checked phone records, receipts, any other thing I could find and all the evidence was there. two hour conversations, gifts from women's stores that weren't given to me.
Oh my gosh. There's all the answers you need right there. I'm so sorry. He wont even speak to you about it? No excuses anything? Have you told family?
I haven't told anyone yet. He just denies everything or has the perfect excuse for whatever I bring up. I have confronted her as well via text. She states she doesn't even know who he is. Really? So yeah. I just want to grieve it and be over with it. I think just talking about it had helped a lot.
You must express this in some way to let this out. It's not healthy to let your anger bottle up. I'm sure you're angry, rightfully so... do you have any hobbies to occupy your mind until you get things sorted?
I workout every day so that has helped keep my mind somewhat focused after work.
That's awesome. Working out can release so much stress. I hope things work out so you can get some sort of closure.
Thank you I really appreciate all of your help!
You're welcome. I wish you the best of luck. Try to stay positive. It sounds like you are handling this the best you can.
Thanks and well wishes you and your family as well! | {
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3 | 2 | Hello! How are you doing today?
Hello, I'm having a very rough day, how are you?
I'm doing well, thank you! I'm sorry to hear that you're having a rough day. Do you mind me asking what happened to make you feel that way?
My mother passed away about a month ago due to alcoholism, it has been rough attempting to cope with the many different emotions.
I am so sorry to hear that. My brother suffers from alcoholism as well. I know how worrisome and difficult it can be. I still have a hard time dealing with my emotions. What different types of emotions are you feeling?
I'm so sorry that it's a situation that you can relate to, its such a hard situation watching someone drink their life away no matter what you do until they eventually pass away from it. I can say my anxiety has increased immensely as well as depression. It seems that quite a bit of pressure has been placed on me because of the family business she ran and my dad who is now trying to live without her.
Wow, that really is a lot to deal with. It seems as though you have a good understanding of what you're feeling but that you are trying to figure out how to move forward from here. It seems like you are trying to figure out how to work through your feelings as well as how to manage and deal with the pressure that has been put on you as a result. Does that sound accurate to you?
It definitely does, I know it feels like quite a bit now but will gradually become easier to deal with.
That is a great attitude to have. I'm very proud of you for trying to stay positive and for reassuring yourself that it will become easier for you to deal with over time. You sound like an incredibly strong person!
Thank you so much! That means a lot just to hear and I think it is incredibly refreshing talking to someone that has a fresh mind about all of it rather than another family member that is attempting to cope with the same situation.
You're very welcome! I know from experience that it is usually best and much easier to talk to someone on the outside who doesn't know all of the ins and outs of what you are experiencing.
Have you considered any ways in which you could start to work through what you're feeling?
Very true, especially someone who is willing to listen and provide advice or positive conversation.
Yes, I have begun a new medication that will hopefully help soon, I have also begun focusing on different hobbies that I enjoy so that I can keep my mind busy.
It's great to hear that you are on a medication that will hopefully help you. Have you also considered speaking to an outpatient therapist or someone along those lines? That way, you could return to the same person as often as you feel necessary to continue to work through your feelings with someone who isn't directly involved with your situation.
I think that focusing on different hobbies that you enjoy is an incredible way to take your mind off of everything and to keep yourself busy! What types of hobbies are you into?
I haven't thought too much about it, but I do think it might be a great time and something that will be necessary in order for self healing and really to just express the up and down emotions that occur.
I have recently fallen in love with wood working and different crafting. I enjoy being able to use my hands and become proud once i finish an accomplishment.
I completely agree. I used to see a therapist. It was very difficult for me to do in the beginning, but once I got to know them, they provided me with coping strategies that otherwise, I never would have thought of. One of my favorites that he introduced me to was guided meditation. Have you ever heard of it?
I have not, I think if i feel that I can open up quickly, it would be extremely beneficial.
That sounds awesome! You should look into a relatively new craft called diamond painting. I started doing them back in 2018 and it completely turns my brain off from the outside world.
I have been looking at them recently and think I might just order one! Thank you for the advice!
You are very welcome! In my opinion, the best place to get one from to start with is Amazon. That way, you can get them in a few days as opposed to having to wait for weeks or months for them to arrive from other countries. | {
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4 | 3 | hey
Hello, my name is Amber, how are you doing?
I could be better.
What's been happening?
I just had a baby 2 months ago and I have been struggling with my physical appearance and dealing with my mental health.
Is part of that the weight gain from pregnancy? And what sort of mental health challenges are you having? Both of these problems are very common for new mothers.
I'm sorry to hear you are going through this, it sounds like a very tough time for you.
I didnt keep much weight from the pregnancy but its the loose skin that makes it very challenging to accept and to love my self.
Oh that is understandable. I am a mother, and remember worrying about the same thing.
My depression has gotten worse since having my son. I feel a constant feeling that i'm not a good mother. I feel worthless and having a constant feeling that I don't deserve my son
I can tell you from personal experience that loose skin, stretch marks, and loosening of "other parts" do all self correct with time. You will feel better about your body again when they do.
How did you cope with post partum?
I was fortunate not to experience depresion. But I totally went through self doubt, wondering if I was being a good enough mother, and feeling "not up to" the task....it's the hardest job in the world, being a mom, and so exhausting the first while.
Have you spoken to your doctor about how depressed you are feeling?
Yes. I mentioned it to them at my 6 week pp check up. I was prescribed to a med to help but I dont think its fully in its works yet.
Antidepressants can take a couple of weeks to kick in, I am on them too; I hope you will find them helpful. It's hard waiting for them to work!
Do you have someone helping you with the baby or are you a single mom?
The best advice I can share from my experience as a new mom was find someone to give you breaks. Whether that be a partner, a friend, a family member, or even a baby sitter if that's possible. Its important to take time to rest and recharge an nurture yourself, whether that be a nap, a bubble bath, a walk or whatever has made you feel good in the past.
Thank you, I hope so too. Yes I have my husband helping me. I am a stay at home mom while he goes to work. Im lucky that I am able to stay home with our son but at the same time its hard because because theres a less opportunity to have a break and on top of that he works 12 hour shifts so I rarley get to spend time with my husband.
I took my first break 2 days ago with my husband. We went on a day road trip and it felt really good to have that day to have together away from the baby but at the same time it was hard leaving our baby.
Oh that's a long shift...I'm glad you have someone at home to help when he can. It may seem impossible but you are stronger than you think...you've got this
hey that's great that you had a road trip! And yes it's hard to trust someone else with our wee ones...but so necessary both for you and for your marriage too
Thank you, I really appreciate it. Its nice to be able to talk about it.
I have one other suggestion before I go, have you any mother and baby groups in your area? Something you may want to research. It's been a pleasure speaking with you, you are so welcome. Know that as hard as it is, these feelings can be a normal experience for a new mother, and you will get through it.
Ill definitely have to look into it, thank you! I hope you have a great day!
Thank you you too! | {
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4 | 1 | Hello.
Hello
How may i help you today?
I feel terrible right now,
why?
My friends have been leaving me out of Christmas parties. I saw on Facebook my best friend didn't invite me to his Christmas party.
Your friends have been leaving you out of christmas parties is that correct?
You knew nothing about the parties?
Yes. My best friend didn't invite me to his party. I think its because I always wear mask and try to obey the CDC guidelines.
I understand how you are feeling i would feel the same way
They should not be having christmas parties right now with the Covid going around bad
I would not feel bad or terrible about it because you are doing the right thing
Yea it just hurts being left out. He is my best friend and I am not sure what to do. I feel like I need to talk to him abou tit.
yes you should talk to him about it and see why he did not invite you
I hope they was wearing a mask and staying 6 feet at the party
I saw photos and they were not wearing masks. In one way I'm glad I did not go. I also think he put a lot of people at risk. How should I bring this up?
I would just be straight forward and tell him you saw the photos of his christmas party
Either way if you did know about the party it would not be best if you go just for your safety
Should I talk about him putting others at risk?
yes I believe you should talk to him about that to because he was putting everyone at risk
Should I do it over txt, Phone, or in person?
which ever is more comfortable for you
Ok so txt would be ok then.
Yes and just talk to him about how you feeling and see what he has to say
Thank you so much. I'm going to do that tonight and see how it goes.
your welcome i hope it goes good and he listens
Thank you have a great night and a Merry Christmas!
thank you Merry Christmas to you to and stay safe. | {
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5 | 3 | Hello, thanks for offering to help. My sister is battling with heroin addiction, and I am raising her children. It's quite a bit of pressure and responsibility.
Hi! Of course. I am happy to help.
Oh wow, that is really stressful. You are such a godo person for taking on her children. You should feel really good about yourself.
She has been in and out of rehab, and I see no end to her problems, other than a tragic one. Thankfully, the children are adjusting to it, probably because they are happy just to be in a stable environment.
Are you raising them alone?
I have a romantic partner who helps. I also have two of my own relatively young children.
So, four in total.
That's a lot of children! It's great that you have a partner who can help you.
A dear friend of mine is in rehab and had to give up her children, it is really awful to watch. It makes me feel so helpless, so i understand how you msut be feeling.
Thanks for being sympathetic and for the words of encouragement. Yes, needless to say, Child Protective Services were involved, and I was granted Foster Parent status. I'm sure your friend went down that road, sadly.
Have you ever seen the video by the artist known as NF called "How Could You Leave Us?" I'm afraid that's what's next for these kids.
Yes, she did. Her children seem very lucky to have you. Do they get along with your children?
I haven't seen that, waht happens in it?
They all get along famously. You can find that video on YouTube. It's a true story of how his mother died from heroin addiction. It's a powerful song.
Hopefully, you never have to experience it. Heroin (opioids) just grabs hold of people and doesn't let go.
That's so awful. the only thing you can do is show the kids love and make them feel cared for.
Addiction is a truly awful disease, people don't appreciate the toll it takes on families.
Thank you. One piece of good news. Her son went from failing most of his classes to making Honor Roll this trimester - that's what his advisor tells me.
You've been really helpful and considerate. Chatting with you certainly made me feel better. I think we can end the support session at this juncture if you've met your session requirements.
That's so good!!!
I hope i was helpful!! have a great day and continue being such a good support for the kids. I am very impressed.
Thanks so, much. Have a great holiday and we'll try to do the same.
You too. Enjoy the holidays!!!
Hopefully, you all get to spend so much time togehter. | {
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5 | 3 | hello how are you today
Not great. I'm feeling pretty down in the dumps.
Im sorry to hear that. how can I help
I'm not sure how, exactly. I'm dealing with repeated rejections.
That is always tough especially during this time of year and been there myself.
What type of rejection are you experiencing
Romantic rejection. It seems like every time I make an effort, it's immediately shot down.
I hate to ask you this but are you male or female?
Male. Why do you ask?
I ask it changes the perception on how I may help you because male and females deal with things differently.
Fair enough. What do you suggest I try?
I am going to ask you a few questions if OK i don't want to sound like i am prying.
That's fine. I'm open to discussion.
OK do yo live in a rural or city, are you into male females or the like?
I'm in a rural area, and I'm interested in women.
I too live in a rural area understand the complexities of tying to find someone. So my next question where looking to find that special connection.
I've had to resort to online dating and such as there are few opportunities to meet people in person.
I understand doing that I have tried it myself and trying to find that connection is few and far between. What sites have you tried using?
Basically all of the ones you would expect. How would you suggest meeting people in person?
Well It would depend on if you were religious I would suggest church functions for example. I use my hobbies like pool and darts and cards and join groups that creates some common ground.
That sounds like a good idea. Do you attend meetups?
I have and i usually take someone i trust with me and if it doesnt feel right I leave.
That's good advice. Thanks for your help.
No problem glad I could help.
Is there anything else I can help with? | {
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5 | 4 | Hello, what is life like for you at the moment?
Infinitely complicated.
Too many decisions. I don't know what to do.
I am sorry to hear that but I am happy to listen and help you if I can
what sort of things are you trying to decide?
I don't even know where to start.
I'm trying to decide if I can build trust with him again.
He lied about everything.
Well, let's try to take it one problem at a time so's not to get overwhelmed. What is your biggest problem at the moment?
Ah, am I to take it that a relationship has recently ended?
When we met, before we got involved, he said he was divorced. I ended up finding out that he was still legally married. He assured me that they were just a pen's stroke away from being divorced.
That was in March.
I found out three weeks ago that they're actually still living together.
ANd, no. We haven't broken up yet.
Ah I totally hear you .. the old 'we're getting divorced' line. I've been in that one! You are well out of this.
I'm debating. I don't know what to do.
I feel like a schmuck.
He has such pretty words.
From personal experience I think that if they say they're going to get divorced and then drag their feet it is never going to happen.
And he invests so much time and effort into us.
I agree with you.
My mind agrees.
My stupid emotions are clouding things.
Well, if you were to give him an ultimatum what do you think he would say?
I did.
LOL
And he's still married?
And he brought his kids to my house so they could meet my kids. He had a conversation with them about why he and their mother had been living the way they had. (in seperate floors of the house)
That was two weeks ago.
So, yes, he is.
Too soon to tell.
I can tell that you feel that you are being cheated here. I can't tell you what to do but don't you think you deserve better?
I guess that's what I'm trying to figure out. Should I give him time to prove himself now that he's backed into a corner.
It's not for me to say but I wonder if he's really going to change as he has not already.
That's not an easy question to answer. He treats me very well. Always has. And he is frantically trying to accomodate me, now htat I know.
I agree with you. It's one of my fears.
How do your children feel about this? And his?
MY children (6 and 9) have been living with him in their lives as a male figure who is growing into a father figure. He and I have been together for fifteen months, and part-time living together for six.
This isn't a new relationship. That's part of the complication, too.
His kids actually asked if they could come live with me while he and his (ex?) figured their shit out.
Yes, I can imagine that it is. It is always really difficult when children are involved. I know you would not want your children to be hurt
It's a messed up situation that COVID has not improved. He was furloughed in May.
Indeed I don't, you're right.
I hear you. Covid has disrupted the whole world so might this year! I can't wait for it to be over.
But now it seems like it will hurt them if I break up with him.
But it will hurt them more the longer the situation goes on :(
I wish I could say that I were confident that 2021 would be better, but...
Too right.
And this is all a part of why this is not a simple situation.
Well it surely could not be worse :)
I have no doubt that he loves me very much.
Hahahaha! Seems that way.
He didn't make this lie up for me. That's an interesting thing.
He was living the "divorced dad" lie to A LOT of people.
Anybody and everybody who was far enough away to be lied to.
She lives in her bedroom. Only comes out to work two nights a week. DOesn't want to have anything to do with her kids (5, 9, 11, 13)
(sorry was afk let me catch up)
And she and my BF have been living that way for three years. Over a year before I even met him.
Is it possible she is suffering from depression?
I would all but guarantee it.
It just worries me that he might treat you the same way if you were ever in the same position
Here's the other kicker, though...
She knows about me.
(I know. You're right. I thought that as well)
And how does she feel about you?
She doesn't care. She just wants to keep the status quo. She likes the money and security.
(before he was furloughed, he made very good money.)
I think it would be better if he were able to come to a sensible financial solution with her. This situation is damaging for everyone.
Yes!
I agree!
EVERYBODY!
I hope I have been able to have been of some help to you :) A very happy New Year to you!
Happy New Year!
You just need to press quit and take the survey - it has to be done at your end :) | {
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4 | 3 | Hello, How are you today?
Hi! I'm alright, wbu?
I'm doing good! Have you been struggling with anything lately?
Yeah honestly. I am struggling with money currently, but I don't want to find a new job. I love my job and I love the people, I don't want to start over at a new place. But income is rough right now. So I'm having a hard time deciding what to do
That sounds like a hard decision to make, I recently went through a very similar situation with my employer. Money issues are hard to deal with because it affects our livelihood.
Is it possible for you to receive a raise from your current job?
Yes, but not for a while. So I'm not sure if waiting is worth it
It sounds like you are really stressed over the future possibilities. It also seems like you love you job now so it may be hard to leave.
Yeah exactly
Are there any better paying jobs near you that you think you could enjoy just as much?
Of course I've looked and thought about it, but there's no way of really knowing unless I try them out. I could always try a new job while keeping my current one and decide which one is better, but then I would be overworking myself and more stressed I think
It sounds like you have a good understanding of the different possibilities that you have. It also sounds like it may be more stressful for you to leave your current job.
Yeah probably. I might just need to start really budgeting and living more scarcely for a while. And even though that sucks, I will probably be happier in the long run
I have recently started using different budgeting apps that also include different coupons available at my local grocery stores. Have you tried any of these that might help budgeting?
No I haven't but that's a good idea!
There are so many different options available and some even provide small loans until your next payday, I know I have used these when I was in a tight spot.
You're right. I have so many options that I can use to stay where I am at and stay happy. I'm gonna keep this job and do what I can until raise time
I think that's a great idea and will provide you much more happiness in the long run.
Thank you so much for chatting with me! It really helped me with my unsureness
I'm so glad I could help, it seems like you're really making a great choice that will benefit you and provide great support in the near future.
Yeah :) I hope you have a great rest of your day!
Thank you! You as well! | {
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4 | 2 | Hi,
Hello, how are you doing?
Hello.. I'm good.. Thank you.. How are you?
I am okay. Windy day here
ok. I wanted to talk about the highly anxious and nervous situation I was in some time back.
Please tell me about it
It was due to my work environment. I was given a responsibility, which I wanted to produce good results. So, I ended up working too much time for several months and ignored everything else, including my health.
This alienated me from my friends and family
Because of that time period, to this day, I'm not as close as I once used to be with my friends
I had that tendency too, work was very important to me, sometimes to the detriment of my relationships. Tell me more about the lack of closeness. What's different?
yes. I miss out on key moments and I felt left out.
Is there any way to speak to them directly about how you feel about that time... tell them what your feeling. People who care for you can be very understanding
hmm yes..
I agree.
You don't have to make a big deal about it but I have found that a low key discussion can change things for the better
yes. And I will be happy to make more time for friends and family as well.
Plus at least you will have stated how you feel and no matter the outcome you can feel like it's been addressed
yes.
I have found that if something has been bothering me, just dealing with it somehow will make me feel better and enable me to get on with the good aspects of my life
True. I feel like I should try that.
Good luck. A friend of mine used to say "action alleviates anxiety" and Ive found that helpful
True. This really helped. Thanks for your time.
You're welcome | {
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5 | 3 | hi
Hello! My name is Joe. It's nice to meet you! How are you doing today?
Really am not feeling well, am not able to handle my stress
I'm so sorry to hear that! Is there anything specific going on that is stressing you out?
covid 19
It sounds to me like COVID-19 in general is causing you a lot of stress. Does this sound accurate to you?
yes because of my age and low immunity level
I also have a compromised immune system, so I understand where you're coming from. All of this has been very scary.
yes moreover i am living alone, for my job and needs i need to take care of myself
I know it's tough, but I believe that if we all keep working together and talking through our feelings, we can make it through this!
But when i see social media and News every day it increasing my stress level
I live alone as well and also need to take care of myself. It can be so hard at times.
I found that spending less time on social media and less time watching the news has helped my anxiety level to an extent. I don't think you should completely stop listening to what's going on as it's important to stay informed, but for me, limiting the amount of time that I spend engaging in these activities really helped.
Have you thought about limiting how much time you spend tuning into news sources and especially on social media? I know it's hard because there isn't much to do.
yes but what can i do if am not spending time on it
there is not much option now i can't go out also
Have you considered spending your time engaging in other hobbies? I've been doing a lot of arts and crafts (one in particular called diamond painting that can be ordered directly from Amazon) and also reading novels that I can also have delivered right to my door. This also prevents me from having to go out in public.
Talking to me about how you're feeling is a great start! I'm proud of you for being open and honest about what's going on in your head. It's very easy for people to get stuck inside of their own minds right now.
Another suggestion I've been mentioning to others suffering from the mental stressors that COVID-19 is causing is considering speaking to an outpatient/occupational therapist. Is this something you'd be willing to consider?
Thanks that was good idea better keep away myself from social media for a while
thanks for your support
You're welcome! I'm more than happy to provide any help that I can. I'd also very highly recommend finding hobbies that you enjoy, even if arts and crafts or reading aren't your thing. Can you think of anything else that would help you to keep your mind off everything going on?
I've also found that guided meditation (you can find a lot of these for free on YouTube) helps to calm my mind down at night and allows me to get a really good night's sleep.
thanks
You're very welcome! I hope that some of the things that I suggested help you to get through all of this.
It seems as though you're feeling very similar to how I've been feeling.
yes
How has the weather been where you are? Sometimes, just getting outside for a brief walk alone or even just for a few minutes to get some fresh air can really be helpful.
sanjose
I found a few months ago that the more time I spent watching the news and following COVID-19, the more depressed and anxious I got. I decided that I'd spend 30 minutes twice per week catching up on what's going on in my local area and around the globe. Other than that, I try not to focus on it as much as I can.
Wow, it must be beautiful there! I'm in Pennsylvania.
that would help | {
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5 | 4 | Good afternoon, what can I help you with today?
Hi, I'm just wanting to talk about my sadness that happens every now and then. Sometimes at night, (and only at night) I get in these super depressive moods and have almost mental breakdowns about everything in my life. But it doesn't happen all the time... only sometime and I don't know why
That sounds like a really difficult situation to be in, I'm sorry to hear you're going through that.
Yeah it is, and I'm not sure why it happens
Especially when the sun starts going down sooner, it can seem like we have less time, and as if things are closing in upon us.
Yeah exactly. Where I live, we just had daylight savings so it gets dark around 5:30 PM and it feels like my days are just wasted
There are a few strategies you could use to combat that. Personally, I try to soak in as much sunlight as possible before it goes down. Sometimes that will mean moving your work space, maybe getting up earlier to have a cup of coffee in the sunrise, maybe it's scheduling breaks into your day where you specifically get some vitamin D.
As far as the intrusive and repetitive nature of the thoughts, have you ever consulted with a therapist or other mental health professional? Obsessive thoughts are sometimes a sign of anxiety.
Yeah that is good advice. I definitely need to work on getting myself up earlier in the mornings, I've just come so accustomed to my current sleep schedule.
And in all honesty, I haven't tried a therapist yet... I'm scared it will be hard to open up to a stranger
That's an understandable fear.
I challenge you to think about it as not too different from this chat here; An opportunity to get some objective advice and perspective.
Wow yeah I didn't even really think about that... And I'm sure there are ways to get in contact with therapists without having to be face to face? I just like the anonymous aspect of it. I feel like I come across as weak if people see me for me
Yes, BetterHelp is one of those I believe
TalkSpace is another one
Yeah that's true I have heard of BetterHelp. Maybe I should reach out on one of those platforms when I feel like I am going into one of my depressive episodes.
It may be helpful! As far as I understand it's exceptionally easy to switch between therapists on that service, too. So if the first one is not a good fit, you can try someone else.
The biggest piece of advice that I can give you is some that I've recently been enacting for myself: When you get into the spiral, and you can't shake the nasty repeated thoughts, even if you "need" to sleep, get out of bed and move to a different room. Change the situation up, get some tea, sparkling water, whatever you want, but change what your body is literally doing.
Oh yeah! That's true! I will try it. And also try to incorporate a better sleep schedule. And that is very helpful thank you. I do live in a small apartment, but I have noticed that when I get out of bed and at least move to the couch, it is a different environment even though it wouldn't seem like it. I never thought how that would help me though. I will totally do it more often when I am slumping
You sound optimistic and like you're open to trying new things to help, I think you're going to start feeling better soon.
LOL my friend calls that "vacation bed!" and sleeps on the couch over the weekend like it's a treat :-D
Yeah I definitely want to try what I can! And that is awesome haha the vacation bed! Love it
Thank you so much for our conversation!
It really motivated me to try new things to help
Things may take some time, but every time you take action to get better, it will help. You are very welcome!
I hope you have a wonderful evening :-)
Thank you! You as well | {
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3 | 2 | Good evening.
Hello. How's it going?
It's going well, how are you?
I'm somewhat anxious and distressed because of college.
Is there anything specific going on in school that it making you anxious?
Yes, I have a large project I must complete for one class, a very important exam for another, and for another my professor is quite incompetent and might cause me to fail that course.
Okay, so from what I have read you are anxious because you have a project and an exam going on and you are struggling in another, is that correct?
Yes, that is correct. It's caused severe anxiety for me.
I can tell just from these few messages how anxious you are about these things.
I am currently in college too, and I completely understand the anxiety around your project and your exams.
Yes, it's very unfortunate that things turned out this way. I might have the project and exam dealt with, but the one with the incompetent professor makes me want to slam my head on the wall.
Have you talked to the professor in the class you are struggling in about ways he can help you learn better? I have found that speaking with my professors when I was struggling and explaining why has helped me in the past.
Yes, I have talked with him. Unfortunately, communication is the worst part with him. He will read emails but only selectively respond to some things. I ask him to give me the details for an assignment he never sent the details for and he always ignores it.
I do n't think he even has the assignment instructions recorded anywhere.
Is there anyone in your class that you are close to that you can reach out to?
We have a Discord server set up for the class where we're all trying to make sense of the class and our professor because it has been such a bad experience for all of us.
Unfortunately even that doesn't help.
Have you thought about reaching out to a tutor who has previously taken this course to help with the assignments?
It won't work because this professor is "winging it" in that he is doing things he never did for the class before, and he is in way over his head.
Mostly because of COVID.
Is it too late in the semester to drop the course without penalty?
It is too late, yes. I wish I had dropped it sooner.
Another option I could think of would be to reach out to your advisor and explain the situation with them and explain that everyone is struggling in the class. She may have some options for you,
That may be a good idea. I'll consider that.
I think that it would definitely help!
Thanks for your help.
You are very welcome! I am glad you chatted with me tonight!
I am glad to have talked you as well. Good nigh t(or day).
Thank you! You too! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello. How are you today?
I've been better. I've been really sad ever since my girlfriend and I broke up and I don't know what to do.
The end of a relationship is a really difficult time.
How long were you together?
Yeah every day has been pretty hard. We were together for about 3 years.
Three years is a long time.
What led to the breakup?
We found ourselves arguing more and more each day.
I've been in relationships like that. It really takes it out of you.
What are your days like now?
Every day has been feeling the same. I didn't like that we fought but now I feel empty. I don't know what to do.
I can totally understand why you're feeling that way.
How long have you been seperated?
It's been about a month now.
So this is still really fresh. It's going to take some time to start to feel normal after three years.
What have you been doing for self-care?
What have you been doing for self-care?
I haven't really been doing much. My friends invite me out but I never feel like going.
After a three year relationship, you're going to have a period of mourning. This happens whether the breakup was right or wrong. It's still a huge part of your life now separated, and that's an important life event.
Yeah that makes sense. It's just hard you know. What steps should I take to feel better?
I think it would be good for you to go out with your friends. Sometimes when you're really down, you might not feel like it. Going out takes effort, but it's worth it.
Okay I'll try to make an effort to go out more.
Isolating at home is not going to help you process things. You might even consider going on some walks/runs, and getting in more exercise.
That's a good idea I'll try to be more active.
Thanks for all the help I appreciate it.
Of course. Anytime.
It's nice to have someone to talk to thanks for hearing me out.
Do you have any more advice?
It will get easier. It'll just take a little time. Remember, it is okay to be sad. Trying to hold back emotions will only make things harder, so let them out as they come up.
I have been bottling up a lot of my emotions so maybe I'll try to talk to a friend about how I'm feeling.
Absolutely. Talking to a close friend is one of the best things you could do.
Okay, thanks for all the help! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello
Hi there, how are you doing today?
I doing good.. how are you?
I am good thanks. What would you like to talk to me about?
I am going to school and this semester I am having too much pressure ... could not handle it.
I am sorry to hear that. Have you got anyone you can talk to? Maybe take some time off?
I cannot take any time off since this is in the middle of the semester. And dropp ing any class is not an option either.
So you feel that you are trapped and yet you are not coping properly?
I am having too much anxiety and don't know how to deal with it.
I suggest that you talk to a counsellor. There should be free services available at your university.
What kind of advise should I be seeking from the counsellor?
Well, perhaps they can at least alleviate your anxiety somewhat. Or maybe even get you a sick note to give you a little extra time to complete your assignment.s
Do you think that could hurt my grade if I turn them in late?
No, as long as you have a doctor's letter explaining why.
But I am not sick, would the counsellor write note for me under this situation?
There is more than one way to be sick. You sound as though you are suffering from depression and stress.
I guess you are right... I will try to make an appointment with the counselor next week.
Do you have any friends or family that you can discuss this with?
I have an elder sister I can talk to.
Is she sympathetic to what you are feelign?
I think so..
Well that is a good start. Maybe you could make a list of things you want to discuss with your counsellor too.
I like the idea .. thanks..
Try not to worry - I hope that things go well with you.
I hope so.. thank you for you suggestion.
All the best to you in your future and thank you for talking!
You have to press quit first cos I can't :)
You have a good day...
and you :)
Can you press quit and take the survey :) | {
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2 | 1 | Hello, how are you?
I am ok. How do you do
Can you help out
Great, I am happy to lend a listening ear.
Thank you for your concern.
Of course, what is bothering you today?
I am worry about my job. Because of pandemic
Are you worried of losing your job due to COVID-19?
yes. absolutely
I understand your concern about losing your job during these times. So many people are worried and it doesn't seem to be getting better.
Ya. I am feeling the same.
Have you tried speaking to your employer about how you can secure your job? Many people have been trying to see if they can get unemployment just in case they do lose their income.
Not yet speak. I will try my best to solve this problem
It is always good to know all your options during the pandemic. I hope you feel better assured knowing that you can try and qualify for unemployment benefits just in case you do lose your job.
Ok thank you so much for your best time which is spend with me.
Is there anything else you would like to share with me?
No. thanks
Please end the conversation if there is nothing left for me to help you with :)
Ok.
Happy to work with you :)
Happy to chat with you again in future | {
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5 | 4 | Hello! How are you today?
im good
What seems to be bothering you?
im have been very depressed due to lack of jobs and i have a lot of bills pending
When was the last time you were employed?
May 2020
Coronavirus has impacted lives of many hard-working people. Are you eligible to receive help from the government?
My unemployment benefit has been stopped
I understand how being umemployed at this time could be very stressful.
Yes it is. especially when you are not getting any help
I would apply anywhere that is hiring. You'd be surprised with the feedback you get. Being in the house will not help. If you've applied everywhere online, why not take a walk some where near to apply to small businesses that may not have applications online. Would that be an option for you?
I think i would just try that for now
It would also help you get out of the house and have something positive to think about!
yes i agree, because it is very depressing staying in the house with nothing to do
Most people would agree! You have to be able to get out of the house and be social in order to be truly happy and then you will enjoy your time at home once again.
Thanks so much for your encouragement
As for your pending bills, you can always try to see what type of assistance you can be provided by the company billing you. There may also be assistance by your local government for electric bills, water bills, and so forth.
I have some things that has been moved to collections
Collection companies will usually work with you so you can make payments instead of paying one lump sum. After the payment plan has been sent or you've paid you're full amount it will even come off of your credit.
well i hope so, because i have been so worried about it
I know it is harder to see the brighter side of things when depression is involved but it will get better!
You will find a job and be the best you can be!
sometimes i have a walk down the street to clear my mind, but when i'm back home i get back to thinking again
Thanks a lot for your help i really appreciate it | {
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5 | 1 | Hello, how is your feeling now?
I feel very bad right now. I don't know how I should make my daughter understand that her dressing is not appropriate
It sounds like your daughter does not understand your feelings.
I think she does but is only being rebellious due to peer pressure. She is a good sensible girl.
I had similar situations. I had to tell my son to dress appropriately too.
Should I take her for counselling so that she can understand that she doesn't have to dress like her friends in order to be with them?
Before you do that, d id you communicate with her directly and express your concerns?
I have tried that before and have even asked her grandmother to have a chat with her.
I totally understand how you feel. Take a deep breath and it can help you feel better.
She doesn't have a mom figure in her life because her mom passed on when she was only three.
So sorry to hear this. I do think professional counselling can help.
Its been quite a challenge to play both mom and dad in her life. Sometimes I feel inadequate to deal with female issues.
From our short conversation, I can feel the weights on your shoulder.
It feels nice to know someone can understand me because I rarely talk about my feelings openly.
Yes, you have done very well. Don't get discouraged.
So do you suggest I seek professional help for her?
Yes, please do. I also suggest youself watch some motivation videos online such as Jon Jandia's "life is easy".
Life is easy. We made it too complicated.
I will take your suggestion. And do you think its a good idea to take her shopping and show her some of the outfits that I approve off?
Yes, it is a good idea. Also tell her those clothes do not make her a different person. She can look at the mirror and she will see she is still the same no matter what clothes she wears.
Thank you so much for the encouragement.
You are very welcome, good luck for everything.
Bye.
Take care, bye for now. | {
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4 | 3 | hi
Hello!
I'm dealing with a lot of frustration and anxiety.
How are you?
Frustrated and anxious
Oh I understand how that can be.
Would you like to tell me about it?
Ok. I have a friend who I've known a long time, who is one of my closest friends, but who is extremely insecure. She constantly seeks affirmation that I love and care for her, even though she should KNOW I do, since we have been friends for so long.
I can understand how that can become a source of frustration after a while.
Would you like to share what pushed it beyond the normal point today?
It's just been an ongoing thing that has escalated recently because she's so afraid and timid and doesn't believe anyone could really love or care for her. I get sick of having to say that of course I love her.
I can relate because I also have a close friend that seeks constant reaffirmations.
Have you spoken with her about this?
I have. I address it every time it comes up. She always sells herself short. Recently I suggested she could babysit my kids, she agreed, then almost immediately said it was ok if I had someone better in mind, and didn't want her, even though I had asked her!
do you talk to your friend about it?
Sometimes it is very difficult to see yourself through someone elses eyes when you undervalue yourself.
I know it may be difficult to remain patient when your friend repeatedly does this, but maybe you could explain to her that it makes you feel like she is mistrustful of your opinion when she second guesses your taste in friends.
Yes, I know. Until she finds her self worth, it doesn't matter what any of her friends say to her.
I have actually told her that. That it seems like she doesn't trust me.
Possibly explaining it in a way she can relate to would be helpful.
I did in fact speak with my friend and it helped our relationship quite a bit. We continue to be very close 20 years later.
It's frustrating to me and gives me anxiety because I wish I could change her to see herself the way I, and others, do. But I know I can't make her see her self worth. That's something she has to find for herself.
That's good to hear about you and your friend.
I can feel your frustration just by our conversation, and I too wish that she could see that you value both her and your friendship enough to reach out to someone that can just listen. Don't forget that your feelings are valid as well.
I know they are. And yes, she's dealing with a lot, but we all are, and it would be so much better for her if she could trust the people who love her to actually love her.
Sometimes you have to take a step back and fill your own cup.
Indeed. Thank you for your input.
Do you think a break would help you feel better able to deal with the demands of her friendship?
Do you think a break would help you feel better able to deal with the demands of her friendship?
It has been my pleasure! I trust you will make the right choice! Best of wishes!
Not really, because I'd just worry about her. She needs someone like me to look after her. I'm kind of the Yin to her Yang. Thank you for your time and conversation! | {
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5 | 2 | I am always angry at myself and others. I lose my temper constantly and say very racist things.
I need help with my anger. I am upset that the Presidential election is being stolen from President Trump. I say racist things about it, and punch myself in the head or bang my head into the wall when people disagree with me.
Where does your anger stem from ?
I think it is because people disagree with my politics.
I am sick of being discriminated against because of my skin color.
Its ok to disagree with people about topics but you need to figure out why it triggers so much anger which turns to hate
Half my family is Puerto Rican, I am White. All the Puerto Rican family members consider themselves to be allies of the blacks, I do not. I have been repeatedly victimized by black people,
How have you been victimized by black people? When those events happen how did that make you feel
I have been robbed at gunpoint three times in the past 8 months while walking home from work. Each time, it was one or more black males with guns who robbed me. They would call me racial slurs every time too.
Also, my wife was raped by a black homeless man in July 2020 while she was jogging in the park. This made me get so angry, that I burned down a low-income housing building that was occupied by only black residents. I tried to get even with the blacks for what happened to my wife.
I can't seek help with a professional for my anger issues, because I have committed violent crimes to get even with my oppressors.
Are you going to help me?
I see I too have had my issues with other races. A few bad instances do not make represent a whole race though. There are also black males who have been robbed and jumped by white people that does not mean all white males are bad. It does seem that you have had alot of unfortunate events with black males. That still does not mean that all black people are bad and why should innocent people pay for things others have done. Do you have to walk home from work or can you drive. Also have you reported any of these events to the police.
I walk home because my job is only a mile away. I live in a predominantly black area. The police have taken reports, but candidly admitted to me that nothing would happen as far as arrests because of the current "woke" climate.
I understand have you ever thought about if that black man that raped your wife was just getting even with the white race because his wife or maybe even him was raped repeatedly by white supremists
It upsets me, the way I feel. I do have 2 or 3 black neighbors who are decent people, but thats it. I am the only White person on my street. I am constantly taunted by the blacks in my area.
No black woman has been raped by a white man in recent history, even DOJ crime statistics back me up on this one. When is the last time anyone remembers a pack of white men raping a black lady?
I just want to not be scared around here anymore. I am sick of being victimized. They are pushing me over the edge.
My suggestion would be to get out of the area if is just triggering your anger. Are you able to move to another area?
I can move, but it would be very costly. And I don't want to move now because it is winter and it is cold and we have over a foot of snow on the ground.
I would suggest for your mental health when the weather is better to move and until then I would avoid areas that can potentially be dangerous and also don't walk home after dark. Also you need to keep seeking council for you anger and racial feelings. I would suggest when you feel very angry to take a deep breath think will your actions help or hurt the situation. To help with racial issues I would like you to sit and talk to black victims who have been victimized by white people in violent crimes.
I appreciate this advice. It does seem good. I just want everything to get better.
If you follow my advice I think you will see a great improvement. Your willingness to seek advice and ability to identify that you have a problem is a big first step all you got to do now is put the solutions into practice.
Do you think that maybe I should go to church or something to help?
Church is always a great idea. I think church would be very helpful. Maybe someday you should even consider going to a predominantly black church.
I would consider it. There is actually a black church 3 or 4 blocks from here. The people there are undoubtedly as nice as anybody else im sure.
Maybe you should try it out maybe meeting some good black people there would ease your hate against black people and also help your experience in the neighborhood.
Thank you. You have been helpful
That is what I'm here for. If you ever need anything else don't hesitate to reach out and good luck. I know you are going to do great and be just fine. | {
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3 | 1 | Hello
Hi there, how are you today?
I'm a bit bad honestly.
Can you tell me what's going on to cause you to feel this way?
I've been struggling with depression for a while. It's hard to deal with. I feel hopeless.
I see. I definitely understand how long bouts of depression can make you feel more hopeless. Have you discussed your depression with anyone else before?
I've spoken to a therapist but it didn't help. I tried a help hotline online but they thought I was suicidal so they called the cops to check on me .. never doing that again lol.
I don't know what to do
Yeah, it sounds like you aren't suicidal. Though I do have to check; have you had any thoughts or tendencies of suicide or self-harm?
I have in the past. Recently, no.
I just feel like I'll never be happy.
I understand. Can you provide any more information about your meeting with the therapist? You said talking to one didn't help, do you know why?
I think it didn't help because I'm a bit shy. Or because I didn't know where to start. It's hard to know what to talk about.
I guess it also didn't help because she seemed like she was just reading a script. She wasn't the greatest at making me feel cared about
You're doing pretty good though haha
That makes sense and is completely natural. It's difficult sometimes to open up to a stranger that you don't completely know or might not trust. It definitely sounds frustrating that she seemed like she was reading from a script.
And I'm glad to hear you think I'm doing alright lol
I think therapy could work. Actually something happened with my therapist (maybe fired lol) and she's no longer my therapist.. so I need a new one.
That's interesting. I know from experience that finding a good therapist is all about trial and error, unfortunately. It's important to find the right fit and I would definitely suggest looking for a new one. Do you know of anyone in your life, maybe a friend or family member, that has been to therapy that you would be comfortable getting a recommendation from?
I think my closest friend has been to therapy. I could always ask her for a recommendation.
That sounds like a great idea! Remember to keep your friends close too. I know it can be tough when you feel as low as this, but it's important to have a good support system in addition to any therapy you might be receiving.
My friends and I look out for eachother. I think they're a good help :)
That's great to hear! It really sounds like you can go to them for support and often being there for someone else can make us feel better too.
This was a nice little chat! You should actually volunteer for a helpline haha
Aww that's so good of you to say!! I do want to confirm that you have a game-plan now, though. Remember to keep your friends close and to start looking for a new therapist if you haven't already. If you find one that's not the right fit it doesn't hurt to start over or maybe even ask for a recommendation from that therapist. If they're any good they should understand how important it is for you to find a good fit. Also remember to be kind to yourself. It can be difficult, but I know you can do it.
I'm ok! I got my friends and family. I made an appointment with my psychiatrist to get different medication so I could ask him for a therapist recommen dation as well.
That's absolutely wonderful to hear! Is there anything else you would like to discuss today?
I think I'm good. Thank you though! This was nice :)
Awesome. You've got this! Have a good rest of your day
You too! :) | {
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2 | 1 | hey How are you today
hi, im ok. how are you?
covid has be depressed
Im doing okay , just hanging out and ah i feel that its tough times for alot of people right now
whats been bothering you?
extremely tough times.
the fear of the unkown, is whats so depressing
and not being able to be in control, just cautious
ah i get it, its really weird but tough times, i recently lost my job because of this second wave its hard and ah yes wondering and worrying makes it hard
have you tried to practice any mindfulness ?
sorry to hear this. we have never experienced this before. all of this is new.
i get it, its hard to relax and get away from it. i been trying to keep busy and stay away from the news as much as can
yes its very weird. got to stay strong!
yes, maybe that's what i need to do, stay away from the news. because the news is so depressing.
it will end one day and well be relieved
yea try to fill yourself with positive news or watch a movie read a book stay off social media abit helps me
music helps me alot
relieved is the right word. I just dont even know where this came from
i listen to music alot, it is somewhat comforting for me
yea music is healing for sure
yea it sucks that unknown and not knowing enough
i need to exercise, havent done that yet.
exercise is great for the mind take a walk or jog a hike in nature or a park
yes, the would make me feel better. i like playing volleyball. but its hard to do that these days
yea try to do something like that tomorrow and ah i love volley ball but yea thats hard now
my favorite sport
i will try
great sport for sure and yea you got this just remember it will help
i feel better already
awesome im glad
after talking to you, i really dont have anyone to talk to about this.
well thats what im here for and happy could help i know what that is like
you got this though keep pushing , exercise is great for depression
Yeah, i didnt think talking to you would help but it definitely relieved some stressed
YAY! <3
thanks ..good bye
anytime and best of luck to you ! | {
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4 | 2 | Hi how are you?
am doing great.
You can share any thing with me with confidence .
how about you?
I'm good than you
Everything going good
How is the day going for you?
its going good , how is your day?
Am just starting mine, quite early here
what id the time like over there?
its hard time for you but you can come out from this
its morning 11:36
Have you experienced heartbreak before?
It is 5:37am here
Yes i hade this before than i engaged in other activity than i come out from this
try to make engaged your self in other activity
its help you to come out from this situation
I have moved passed mine for long. But I shared the experience because it is one i would never forget. It almost put me into depression if not for family and genuine close friends.
that's really hard but you can do it
Yes ,I did it and am happy I moved on and came out stronger
yes its very hard to come out from this but hopefully you will forget everything
That's very good
Thank you for your encouragement
I have been came out from this situation from long time but its very hard
How are you now ? still are you in this situation are you come out
yes ,I can relate to any situation now after that experience because it made me stronger emotionally and psychologically
I am in a better one now and am happy and fulfilled
That's very good
make yourself busy in work activity than you feel more better
when you are happy in a relationship it will show in your daily interaction with people.
Yes you are right , when you feel happy everything look happy
I believe we are good so far with the conversation
Thanks
I appreciate your interest to help. You did a good job
I hope you feel more better after conversation
Have a good one.
Thanks
sure,would.
your welcome
Bye
Bye | {
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3 | 1 | Hello
How are you feeling?
A bit overwhelmed and depressed. I really want to celebrate the holiday, but I'm just not in the mood.
I understand. I have been feeling the same way lately -- my family has been distracted and stressed and it's rubbing off on me. Are there other people around that you can spend time with?
Not really, I'm not a people person and the couple people I do talk to aren't supportive or going thru their own issues.
I understand. It seems to me that much of what makes the holidays worthwhile is the opportunity to spend time with people we care about. It makes sense that you would have a hard time celebrating with nobody there to share it with you.
Are you close with your family these days?
I have my family to share it with, my husband and kids. The teenagers are more about me buying them stuff and getting presents, and we're broke so I haven't been able to do the things I want to with my toddler.
(Even if you don't talk to them much, do you think it would be worth reaching out to them?)
I see.
Outside of my household, I have my grandparents and some sibblings I don't talk to much.
Do you remember enjoying the holidays more when your kids were younger?
Absolutely! They always had great Christmases. I feel they're takking away from my toddler's christmas
I see. Do you know what has changed? You said that the teenagers are more interested in getting presents than actually celebrating the holiday itself. Is that a major reason? What about your husband?
That and the teenagers aren't listening well. They're kinda out of control. I don't think they deserve a Christmas, because they need to learn responsibility.
My husband tends to think they do no matter what.
I see. You are frustrated with them because of the way they have been behaving. What do you think they should be doing differently?
(Also, are you in a state where they have closed down the schools?)
Exactly. Sorry if I'm taking a minute to respond. I just got put into 2 of these things at once where I'm a supporter lol. It's much harder. But yes, I'm in Michigan.
Oh, that's okay. :)
Do you have kids?
Something I tend to struggle with is the way things change over time, when they can never go back to the way they were before. When my sisters and I were little, it seemed like everything in the world was so much simpler, and we had certain Christmas traditions that we always looked forward to, like cutting down a tree, making pumpkin pie, and singing carols and Christmas hymns together. As we've gotten older it seems like our family has gotten split apart a bit more and everyone is too stressed and hurried to enjoy the old things that we used to do. That has been pretty hard for me because things used to be so much different. Has that been difficult for you, as well? Just the fact that things are different now than when your kids were little.
I don't have kids, no. I am still a kid, sort of. :)
Also I've got a bad cold right now, which is why it's taking me a bit longer to respond as well.
Yes! Exactly. You're very wise for your age! I am sure they feel similar to how you do. They're grown up and not able to appreciate the Christmas magic.
Ok well our pizza is here. Thank you for your help. This is a very good task and you did great for your first time! Hope you have a nice day!
Thank you for talking! Oh, one thing--
Can I write you a Christmas card? If you would rather not give me your name/address, I understand.
Oh my goodness that would be amazing. Bree Fair 4481 Division St Wayland MI 49348
Okay. Who should I address it to?
Have a nice night wherever you are in mturk land :)
Bree Fair :)
Oh, right. Okay. Good night and Merry Christmas!
You too! | {
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4 | 2 | Have you ever experienced anything like this?
can you tell me more about that?
I met Doug at work when I used to smoke outside the building. He's handsome, built and has a killer smile. We started talking and one night we hooked up.
It sounds like you're physically attracted to Doug and had a one-time encounter with him. Is that right?
can you tell me more about how you're feeling now?
Well, actually this has been going on for 7 months. I hooked up with him after a month of talking.
I'm ready to end this situation because I want the more emotional stuff I know Doug can't give. How do I get out?
I'm sure it's frustrating that you're not getting the emotional support you need. It's great that you are reaching out to communicate with someone.
I heard of people falling for a fling or one night stand but this has gone on for months. Add to that, I see him at work. He's married and I don't see this as more than a long term hook up. Have you ever experienced something like this?
If you never experienced this do you know of anyone who has? What did they do to get out of this type of relationship if you want to call it that?
I can sense your frustration, and his marriage just adds to that. I've known lots of people who've ended up in relationships with married people.
Just reaching out to talk with someone else is a great first step.
What did those people do to end the relationship if you want to call it that?
You keep saying it's good to reach out. I'm reaching out to you trying to find a way to turn off my emotions for this man.
Sometimes, a good first step is to reach out to friends who can help you fill your time and avoid interactions with him.
And co-workers often can help you find ways to avoid him in the office. Are others aware of the relationship who can help you with that?
My friends don't know about my situation with Doug. I do suspect some people at work are putting us eating lunch and taking walks together as something more. +
Doug make my sing and makes my body come alive but his presence is starting to break my heart because this situation is not going anywhere. I need help! It's not Doug's problem it's mine!
I don't like his wife because if she was treating him well he wouldn't be with me. So why doesn't she just let him go?
I'm starting to think if she was out the picture Doug and I could be together in a real relationship you know what I mean?
I can hear your anguish, and I understand your frustration. It's not clear to me, though, that Doug is being honest with you or with his wife.
You mentioned that Doug can't provide the emotional support that you need. Do you think he's being fully honest with you about his relationship with his wife?
I don't understand. Doug's married I know that but I want what his wife has so she's not the problem.
You're absolutely right. It sounds like Doug is the problem. He's cheating on his wife, and he's not giving you the emotional support you need.
All I want to know from you is to tell me how to get rid of the feelings I have for Doug or how to get rid of his wife since you think she's part of the problem?
With the holidays coming up, maybe you could avoid him for an extended stretch and really do something about what it is you are looking for in a partner.
Like what? The media says stay inside with love ones. Doug is my love one. Wouldn't I be putting myself at risk of getting the conrovirus meeting someone new?
I wouldn't say that Doug's wife is part of the problem. She's sounds like another victim of his philandering and dishonesty.
Why do you keep focusing on the wife? You make it sound if I just kill her Doug and I could be happy and I wouldn't have to worry about his Philandering as you call it anymore. Are you saying I'm a Philanderer?
You're right. It's best to err on the side of caution when it comes to covid. But remember that Doug isn't your loved one alone. He's sharing germs with both you and his wife. Maybe a lockdown -- emotional and physical -- will help you work to find an end to this relationship.
How did you spend your time before you met Doug? Perhaps you could reconnect with other friends or find a hobby to fill your time.
You never answered my question about ever being in this type of situation. Did your mate/husband or whatever Philalnder on you and you haven't gotten over it? Are you still with the man/woman or whatever that broke your heart and cheated on you? Why cant you get over it? Is the only advice for me you have is to eat Thanksgiving dinner alone?
I absolutely have had my heart broken, yes. And I've spent some holidays alone. I can understand your pain.
I'm glad you understand my pain. I've spent and know how to be by myself. What I'm asking you how do I get out being in love with someone?
It would be great to be able to give you an easy and pain-free solution, but I don't know that that is possible when it comes to matters of the heart. If you truly love Doug and want to be with him, you should tell him that and see how he responds. You mentioned, though, that he can't give you the emotional support you need.
If you truly believe, in your heart of hearts, that Doug can't be your everything, then you already have the answer: He is not "the one." He's the one right now. And you shouldn't have to settle for that. You sound like a strong and capable woman who should be loved and respected for everything she is.
Okay so I eat Thanksgiving alone and I spend time alone. Okay tell me how i fill my nights alone up? How do I warm the other side of my bed which Doug fill so well. I meant he can't give me emotional support because he's married. There is so time, sex and emotional support he can give. And I don't why you assumed I am a woman because I'm not! Also, I don't think being with Doug is settling! I do however appreciate your time and effort.
I regret my assumption. I hope you can find happiness! | {
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4 | 2 | hi there, how are you?
I don't know how im gonna survive without my job.
can you clarify what you mean? did you lose your job?
Yes. I got laid off last week. A bunch of us were.
i see. what type of work did you do?
I was a chef in a restaurant. Since covid business went down, and now the restaraunt is closing.
oh i'm very sorry to hear that. but the great thing about having worked in a kitchen is that there are a lot of skills you can use in other jobs
All the restaurants are closing, and the ones open gotta duty to keep the employees they already had. Where else are my culinary skills gonna be used?
i understand that losing a job sucks and i can sense your frustration at the situation but there are other opportunities out there, and you don't need to be thinking only in the culinary field
All i have done is cook, my whole adult life. I dont know how to do anything else.
time management, resourcefulness, being able to think on your feet and manage multiple things at once are skills i'm sure you use and developed in the kitchen, and those are skills you can take anywhere
Wow! Never thougt of it like that. But still, i dont have a clue where those skills would be useful. All i know is the kitchen.
don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure there are a lot of things you can do. of course if you want to stay in the culinary field, you might need to get creative in the short term. have you thought about finding opportunities to be a private chef? or maybe even make pre-made meals to sell for people who don't want to or dont have time to cook for themselves?
another thing you might try is an online cooking lesson or something. with more people staying home and eating in, they might be interested in learning how to cook better food for themselves
You know what, i have never thought of that. Those are actually good suggestions. But im not sure if i am discipline enough to run that business on my own. I cook, and thats about it. The business part i've always had someone else doing that. I dont know if i know how to even set that stuff up.
that sounds like an opportunity in itself to me. i'm sure there are tons of people out there that have the business stuff but don't have the cooking skills. you could find a partner to help, and that way you won't have to do everything alone.
I dont know many people. i keep to myself. Dont know how i would find someone for the business side.
your ideas sound great, but they may be out of my league. I dont know if i am capable of doing my own business.
i totally get it, but especially now, there are a lot of opportunities for people who like to keep to themselves, since so many businesses are being forced to go online. you could put an ad on craigslist or facebook for people who might be interested
give yourself a little more credit. you put yourself out there enough to come on here for advice. that's pretty good self-awareness and more than i can say for some other people i know
Wow! you have great suggestions. Thank you so much for your ideas. I think i may give it a go. You have made me feel better about my situation, and gave me some action items to tackle. thank you for this conversation.
you're very welcome, i'm happy to help and glad you feel better! Best of luck to you!
Have a great night wise one.
lol you too ;) | {
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5 | 2 | Hello, what can I help you?
I just need help deciding what to do.
What are you contemplating for?
I was doing okay in school, but when we had go virtual, I lost all my friends.
I want to quit school and just go home. But my parents would not be happy.
why do you think so?
I don't see anyone but my roommate and she has a boyfriend. I'm so lonely!
How about joining a club at school to know more people?
We are in a lockdown because of COVID. So the clubs are not doing anything.
I know I'm not the only one feeling this way.
So you're stuck with your roommate but she doesn't care about you?
She's just busy with her boyfriend. They go out on hikes and stuff, but they just want to go by themselves. I'm just on my own all the time.
Everyone feels that, and it's totally normal. Don't be too harsh on yourself
Do you think I should quit school and start again next fall?
Why don't you do something on your own? Read a book, do some crafts?
I don't think you should do that. Who knows how next year's gonna look like? It might be even worse
I have. I've worked on my schoolwork, but it has been very easy. I also paint. But I need people.
At home, I had all my friends around. Of course, we weren't in a pandemic then.
This pandemic is making everyone feel lonely I think.
How about doing video call with your friends at home?
I hadn't thought about that! They are all at different schools, but maybe I can do a Zoom meeting for all of us.
I totally feel you, I feel stressed out and very uncertain throughout this pandemic. You are not alone
I guess my friends may be feeling stressed too. Maybe I'll try and start a Zoom party! We could plan a time and wear pajamas and just sit and talk.
Exactly, I do virtual happy hour with my friends every month
That sounds like fun!
Why don't you do a virtual happy hour every week?
Not only that, when you feel lonely, text your friends and share it with them or your family
Oh I am too busy to do that once a week. All of us are actually
I have been afraid to tell my parents how I'm feeling. I don't want them to worry about me.
I want them to know I'm lonely, but not freak out about it :-)
I don't think so. Maybe they are waiting for you to say first and give you advice, they have more experience after all
That's true. And I do know my mom is working from home now and she's a really social person. It's probably getting to her too.
if that's the case, you can use this chance to be there for her. I think talking to your mom will help you both
Yes, I'll probably call her and my dad tonight. I'll let them know I'm a bit sad and lonely, but not so much that they worry. And then I'll start planning my virtual party with my friends!
Sounds like a great plan. I believe you can overcome this together
At least the party will give me something to look forward to!
Yes, right now I'm trying to teach myself one day at a time mindset
That seems like a smart thing to do. None of us can really do anything to make the pandemic go away. We just have to get through it one day at a time.
Thank you for helping me come up with a plan!
That's the right mindset. I 'm glad I could be some help
Enjoy the rest of your night!
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4 | 1 | Hi solution provider !
hello, how are you doing today?
Today those things have gone and all are fine.
When we happen to think of the old experience everyone is not satisfied and feeling anger .
So you are angry about what happen in the past
hello, are you still there.?
yes
good
All of us feel the same way.
so what is bordering you about the past?
yes, i feel the sdasme way too
We had not thought of such a difference between us.
Yes, so many differences
Nowadays, we only chat on and not try to go out. That makes us excited and enjoyed.
hmmm, that sounds fun
But it seems boring and thinking of making a plan that suits all. Do you have some experience of going tour with friends, so that I can get some idea from you.
yea that will be boring on the long run, just try and mix it up
we always love going out to a place we have never been before
We do plan to have one kind of interest and those who want to join may join. This is the strategy we think will work out. But if having some pre notion we can be careful of it.
it a good strategy, just make sure you research well about where you wanted to visit before making the trip
Exactly, that is the idea behind this. Can you suggest some more>
and always have a budget plus some extra cash just incase, it always help us doing our expedition
We do fix places, budget, etc., May be this time, we will be okay. Next time we will have a good idea.
just, just make sure you have fun.
How do you think about including our family members, all of us are senior citizens.
yes, u can. That is a very good idea for a family vacation especially after the long covid lockdown
Plan is not now, only after pandemic is over especially we being more than 50 . Just have an idea about how to make it work.
ok, thats good thinking. let everything die down first
Nice talking to you
I think we make it first and then include the family members.
yes, that sounds like a plan
gat to go now
okay. Had some nice opinions from you. Thanks. Bye.
you are welcome
do enjoy the rest of your day | {
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3 | 2 | Hi, how are you?
I'm alright, thank you, but a bit depressed after just breaking up with my girlfriend
I'm sorry to hear that, it must have been hard for you
Yes, it has been quite difficult
I find it helpful to talk to someone though
I feel you, can you tell me when it happened and why?
She was annoyed that I was spending too much time doing menial tasks online for Amazon
And that I wasn't giving her enough attention
So she finally broke it off
She seems to be a bit immature, amazon tasks even if not your main income, is still income and you're just working to make your life better
Exactly, and I was completing online chatbot tasks to get her a gift when she broke it off
It really came as a surprise to me
that sucks, it must be shocking for you. Did you try to explain to her?
I did try to explain, but she didn't give me much of an opportunity to
She said that I was just wasting my time because you can only redeem the money in Amazon.com gift cards
And since I live in the UK, i'd have to pay £12 shipping just to get anything delivered
ah it is your thought that counts, I'm sorry she didn't appreciate your effort
But you know what, she might just not be the right one, a better partner would understand and even be moved by the fact you work so hard to give her a gift
Maybe you're right
She made fantastic hot chocolate though, and i'm really going to miss that
I think I need to learn to be more self-reliant from now on, maybe even make my own hot chocolate from time to time
haha, well your future partner might have something even better than that
One day i'll find a woman who can make the perfect macarons, since i've failed every time i've tried
Thank you for showing me that there is hope though
of course, if you try to be your better version, a better girl will show up
I totally agree
Thank you for talking to me for the past few minutes :)
I usually find the right person appears when you don't look for them.So don't give up! | {
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5 | 2 | Hello, how can I help you?
I need some help with my friend group. I feel they do not like me anymore.
Ah I understand how you feel. That must not be good. I understand how you feel. Things will be okay. Why do you feel this way?
I feel this way because they do not want to meet me and are cold to me.
Ah I understand. I will try to give some advice.
What should I do?
I think you should try to talk to them to get to know what is going on. Have open communication.
What should I say?
You should tell them how you feel. Tell them what you told me. Friendships are important.
I have known them for a long time so I want to make sure we stay friends.
Yes of course, friendships are important. Especially if you have known them for a long time.
I will try to talk to them. Any other advice?
Yes, try to be honest with them. It helps a lot.
Yes honesty is good. I will try to share my feelings.
You are a good person, sharing feelings is good.
Thank you for the compliment. I feel a bit better now.
Great, anyway I can help. I am happy to assist you.
Thank you so much. I will try your advice.
I hope everything works out. Anything else I can help with?
No I think that will do it. Thank you.
Excellent. Thank you. Goodbye.
Bye.
Remember to stay positive. Have a great day.
I will, thank you. | {
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4 | 2 | hello
hello, how are you today?
I'm doing okay today.
Been sad because my dog died
are you there?
Hello? yes
I am typing
can't you see?
I can now... they all popped up at once.
ok
bad connection
I am so sorry... How old was your dog? I have a great Pyrenees
she would have been 15 next month
Great Pyrenees are beautiful
Mine was a fox terrier chihuahua mix
I am so sorry. I cant even imagine how sad you are right now. Was she sick?
She was blind and suffering from dementia
Bless her heart. How long ago was this?
She was starting to walk in circles and standing in corners like she had no idea where she was. I couldn't keep watching her do that anymore so I had her put to sleep, but I miss her so much. on saturday
sometimes just talking about it can help with the grieving process. I have lost a pet, but not one that was mine in adulthood.
Before she went blind she was so loving and playful. After she went blind she started to sleep a lot
It sounds like she had a long happy life.. 15 is pretty old. This is the hardest part about having pets.
Poor thing. How long had she been blind?
Were you able to be there with her?
They never live long enough. I had her brother too. He died 7 years ago. He got out on the road and hit by a car/
She went blind early in the spring. I held her while the vet gave her the shots
I'm so sorry this has happened. Some say getting another one helps. I have never been through it but do you think it would? I would think it would take time to be able to but some people get another dog really fast.
I have been thinking about it. I haven't made up my mind yet though
ugh, it sounds so hard. My dog is 2 and just had a birthday. I made him a meatloaf birthday cake. I cant imagine how you feel. Maybe volunteering at a local shelter would help?..I really hope you feel better soon
Being around dogs would probably help. Thank you for your time. It does help to talk.
I'm going to go now. | {
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4 | 3 | Hi, can I help you today?
I am available to listen and help you think through some things. I know it can be difficult to express how we are feelings sometimes.
It can be difficult to express feelings. I agree.
Do you have a specific problem that you are experiencing?
I work a dead end job with no potential and it is depressing being there for 9 hours a day. Thats why I am on here instead of working.
That sounds really exhausting. You work longer hours than a normal job and must feel really burned out.
Yeah the burn out isn't the worst I experienced. I previously worked jobs that I was at for 12 hours a day but they were more rewarding.
You are definitely a hard worker and I hope you know that. You make a great employee puttin in som many hours.
I am there for 9 hours. I probably only work for 1 hour a day. The rest of the time I am killing time.
I was in a job that I felt was a waste of time and I was able to find another one eventually. I understand how you can feel. Do you have any plans to look for different work in the future?
No. I have no energy to find a new job. Also given the pandemic, keeping a secure paying job is more important than happiness.
I can relate to that feeling too. You are exhausted and feeling like you cant get out of a rut sort of?
Yes you hit the nail on the head. In a rut for sure.
I am glad that you are expressing yourslef today and facing your feelings. This could be a start to changing somethings in your life. It isn't usually easy talking about being in a rut.
It is very tough to express feelings.
I would like to suggest starting a journal to write down just the bullet points of how you feel at the end of each day. Would you consider trying this activity?
No. It has been suggested to me before. While I understand the benefits, it is something that I don't feel like doing.
It can help to review your own thoughts dad to day and attempt to find a pattern that you may not be aware of in your life.
That's a good point about recognizing patterns.
You could always start with just taking 5 minutes per day and after a week quit it and reach back out and we can try something else.
That is a good idea. I also see a psychologist and a psychiatrist for help.
That is very productive. We have a lot of ideas for therapy and can work on finding the best one for you if journaling is a fail. Thank you for reaching out today!
Thank you for taking the time to listen.
You're welcome. Take care!
You too. Have a nice day.
Thank you!
I am available if you have anything else on your mind or you can kindly use the provided feature to finish/quit this session today. Hope to hear from you again soon. | {
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4 | 2 | hello
Hi how are you doing?
pretty good I guess, considering I can't find a job
please help
That sounds really tough. It's hard to find work these days
Amen brother/and or sister I'll tell you what . Tough out here geez
I totally understand. Covid had really ruined a lot of things
Have you tried job sites?
any ones that you can recommend? I've tried a few, it's usually headache
I really like indeed.com as well as glassdoor. They give good suggestions and make it easy to apply
Nice, I'll check those out. are you an actual person or am I talking to an AI?
I'm a real person haha are you?
Yes, I am also
how's the weather there?
It's nice and sunny, I hope you're having good weather as well.
cold and dreary here. But you know what, I appreciate the chat. you're right, I need to get up off my butt and apply to those sites. this has been a life changer
I'm glad it was helpful. I wish you luck!
thanks, toodle-loo!
bye!
wait
what's up
5 minutes still? this is a crazy, my life is saved. I have no time to wait 5 minutes, I have to apply for jobs
oh god
What do you mean 5 minutes? Are you ok?
I can't leave this convo until 15 minutes is up
Oh dang well I guess we'll just wait then
i was feeling good but now i'm depressed again, trapped here in in chat bubble loop. what if my dream job is out there and someone just snagged it?
help! I don't like being trapped in places
Don't worry there'll be plenty of opprtunites. You have a unique set of skills that nobody else has
ok, you're right, you're right. just another minute left, i can do this
it's like fear factor
You'll be fine!
i'm just joking thanks for making that interesting! bye bye!!!!
Bye! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, how are you feeling today?
HI
Is there anything that you'd like to talk about?
I am happy to listen if you have a problem.
Yeah its about my personal problem can you give me any suggestions
Well, I'd need to know what your personal problem was first. Can you tell me?
Im in depression over past 4 months
I am very sorry to hear that. I have suffered from depression too so I empathise. Can you tell me what is making you feel depressed?
I lost my job because of the covid 19
Is the global pandemic having an effect on you? I know it has been making a lot of people feel bad
it makes me feel so depressed
I am very sorry to hear that. Do you have any other form of financial support?
yes it is, the worst period in my life
I am really very sorry. I have been feeling down lately too so I do understand.
Do you have any hobbies that can help you right now?
and i did not get any other job till now
Do you have family that you can talk these things out with?
yes i have a family but they are not ready to talk to me
about this problem at all
Are they feeling bad too? I think that everyone is feeling quite down right now. Am I right in thinking that your family is too?
yes they are
It is so difficult right now, isn't it? I just feel defeated sometimes.
Have you thought of getting any outside help? There is free counselling available.
yes i can't afford our livelihood
There should be help out there. There are foodbanks, if you need those.
no im not asking any help
why not?
because in my place there are same situation for many people
I understand that. I hope I was able to be of some help, at least.
so they are also suffering
Maybe next year will be a better year
which makes me feel so depressed
Thank you for talking and I hope you feel okay
yeah i think so
you need to press quit now :) I can't do it this end
would you like to donate some money to me
no I would not. But press quit and you will be paid.
oh that's ok, that's why i'm not asking help from the other people
Have a good day.
have a nice day for you too
Now press the finish and quit button and complete the survey or you are not going to be paid. | {
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3 | 2 | Hi there, how are you today?
I’m doing ok. Have been feeling a bit anxious about my job lately.
Is this because of the pandemic? I know a lot of people are worrying about their jobs because of this.
I think it’s partially due to the pandemic. I am struggling progressing at my company and have been up for a raise for a year now that still hasn’t gone through. It’s making me feel like they don’t value me.
I am sorry to hear that. So, I hear you saying that you feel you are not being valued for your work?
Yeah exactly. I want to feel like I am an important member of the team and right now I’m not feeling that and it makes me feel like I don’t have a future with this career anymore. But now is not the time for a career change.
No I guess that it isn't. Have you tried talking to your employer about this? Or even your co workers?
I think that’s the part that gets me anxious. I don’t really know how to communicate this to my superiors. There isn’t a lot of open communication now that we all work from home.
Is there someone intermediate that you can talk to ? Or perhaps could you contact a union? There is help out there.
Maybe going to HR would be the smart move? They might have some resources on how to navigate relationships now that we aren’t in the office, right?
Yes, I think that they would. Ultimately they are trained to help people who are in your situation.
I have started applying to other jobs, but I don’t have a lot of hope with that right now. Maybe it is better to looks at more options at my current job. Getting up the courage to speak out can be hard though!
Would you at least get a good reference from your previous employer?
I think so! I have a cordial relationship with everyone, but I know my work speaks for itself. I think I need more confidence to ask for what I know I deserve.
Perhaps you could consider some sort of counselling to help you with you self esteem? I did it and it was great.
That’s a really good idea. I think much of the anxiety I have with work stems from self esteem issues.
There are people out there who can help. Would you consider anti anxiety medication?
I think I’m much more open to trying counseling before I would venture to trying medication options. Practicing talking to people at work might really help me.
Yes I think that it would. Just start slowly - do not dive straight in at the deep end. But you seem to have a good and sensible perspective about this.
I am trying to remain level-headed about this. I know this is within my control and I just need to muster up the courage to do something about this situation that has me feeling anxious and stressed!
I wish you all of the best with it! Thank you for talking to me.
Thanks. Appreciate the perspective.
Goodnight :) | {
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5 | 3 | I need some advice I have been feeling anxious lately.
Im sorry to hear you have been feeling anxious. Lets work to find things that maybe help you feel better when your feeling this way.
Do you have any ideas?
Based on studies generally walking away for a moment from a stressor can help to relieve that stressor momentarily enough to maybe make you feel alittle better.
I have been going for walks alone and that is nice to have a break. Any other ideas?
Thats a good idea and sometimes when ive been stressed walking or any physical activity can help to promote more of a positive feeling based on the release of endorphines.
How long have you been experiencing anxiety?
I have been working out more. How do you relax? I have had anxiety for a month now.
I think I need a vacation.
Do you think maybe it has to do with covid going on right now? Or did anythign specifically happen that has brought on more anxiety? more work? family? money? .....
Covid is bad enough but my husband has been battling an illness for weeks.
Generally to relax i as well enjoy some forms of exercise, sometimes a cup of warm tea or even just listening to music can help distract your mind for a moment.
Those are good ideas. Do you think a good diet helps too?
Im so sorry to hear that. I completely understand why you may be feeling the way you do.
Any other advice?
I do think a good diet can help with many aspects of things, after all food is the energy and nutrients for your body. So if you eat bad quality food you dont reap all the benefits and nutrition that comes from a good nutrient rich diet.
Do you think calling friends helps?
The best advice i can give is to remember to be positive , focus on also your own sanity and take one day at a time.
That is sound advice.
i think having a good support system is a wonderful idea. That can include friends, family or any other professional you may use to communicate with.
I think as he feels better I will too.
I think that may be so. Its tough to not worry when it comes to anyone you care about or love especially if they arent doing well.
Is there anything else i can help you with or do you have any other questions?
Exactly and I think he finally has some medicine that is starting to help.
Thanks for your help.
Im glad to hear that. And your welcome. I hope i could help and hope the best for you and your family.
To you too. | {
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4 | 3 | Hello
Nice meeting you
Hi there, how is your day going?
Fine and yours?
I have anger issue
Uh oh, you feel you have an anger issue? What's going on?
How can you help me resolve it?
Is there anyone you can talk to about what you are going through?
I get angry easily and it has affected a lot of my relationships.
I don't seem to have anyone to talk to.
How do you feel it is affecting your relationships?
I get angry at the slightest provocation.
I understand how it can feel like you have no one to talk to. Are you in school age, maybe a counselor could help?
I'm not getting it funny anymore
What do you mean?
I'm an adult
Im a single mom
I was angry for a period of time after my husband passed away and I get where you are coming from
I am also a single mom now
It's glad you can see the world from my perspective. How did you overcome it?
Oh that makes the 2 of us.
Day by day, focusing on my kids and how I want them to be happy. I also found a great support group in my community. Have you checked in to something like that?
I'm thinking of something like that. I guess loneliness also makes it worse for me. I live alone...
I know how hard it can be to live and feel alone. Do you have any pets?
I don't have a pet but thinking of getting one.
I think that's a great idea! My dogs have really helped, they provide great comfort.
I will get a cat 🙀 then. I heard they are a great companion.
That sounds like a really good start in helping with your loneliness, it's great that you are thinking of ideas that will help move you forward.
Yes you've been great too. I love how you helped me handle my issues. You're awesome.
Thank you, that's nice to hear. Would you be interested in looking at the library for resources on groups or counseling?
Yes that's another great idea. I'm gonna check on our local library to get some books 📚
If you feel less comfortable in person, I bet there are many groups and information online as well.
Where are you?
At home. Yesterday was great weather here.
Okay 👌
I have some errands to run, but I hope our chat helped and I hope you start feeling better. I think your idea to get a cat and also to check out some resources is a great start in helping you heal. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, how are you doing today?
I am feeling angry today about work.
Oh no, what happened to make you feel this way?
My coworker expects me to do things the way she does and is constantly critical. I just want her to understand that I am able to do things my way and it is still okay. I told her this and she ignored me.
I'm sure that's terribly frustrating having someone treat you like that. Is this something that your boss is aware of?
I have not told her yet. I do not want to get her into trouble and I want to have a good relationship with her.
Can you discuss it with her in a respectful way to get her to understand that you're not trying to undermine her but that this is how you work most efficiently? And maybe mention that you don't want to involve the boss?
That's something I could try. I really care about my coworker and it makes me so angry that she treats me this way.
I think sometimes it's easy to jump to anger when you feel hurt. It might be worth telling her how you feel and also maybe ask why she thinks you should be doing things her way. Maybe there's a give and take in this situation. Some of her methods could be beneficial.
Do you have any advice on how to start my conversation with her? I have found some of her ideas to be beneficial. I just would like my ideas expressed as well. I feel we can learn from each other.
Tell her the things that you like about her method and maybe suggest some of your methods to her as well. Maybe she'll find them to be more efficient. Make it a partnership rather than a fight for whose method is better.
She could feel threatened by you so it's worth digging into those feelings with her and proving to her that you're working toward the same goal.
That's a great idea. It is possible. I am the new kid on the block. I will try by being non confrontational. Any specific ideas to how I can do that? She gets offended easily. I want her to know I am helping.
I'd suggest how much she's helped you since you are in fact the new kid on the block. And tell her that you want to work with her to have the most efficient partnership possible and use each of your talents to the best of your ability. Then you can lay out how you work best and see where it goes from there.
Thanks! I will try that. You made me feel so much better!
I'm so glad, these can be frustrating situations but sometimes it's worth looking at the other person's perspective.
I agree. Sometimes you just have to take a step back and have a conversation with someone not in the thick of it.
Absolutely, I have no emotional stake in this. The two of you do and that can cloud things sometimes.
I think people get territorial when they have worked somewhere and a new person comes in. I see that now. I am optimistic we will work it out and be a great team!
That's great to hear, I'm glad we were able to chat!
Me too! You really helped me. Have a wonderful day! I know I will since you helped me out.
That's great, good luck! | {
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3 | 1 | Hello
hello how are you
i'm doing fine, but not well, what about you?
im good, what is not going well?
I have problem, can't find the job, I'm in the depression right now, cause od covid I can't find even the simple job.
ok lets talk about this, so you are feeling depressed because you cannot find a job due to covid
Yes, you are right
im sorry that you feel this way, covid is really making it difficult to find work. I also have not been able to get a job due to covid
I understand you. In my situation, I need to pay for my bills, and for rent of the apartment. What do you think, what can help me, to get from that. I have a lot of outcome, and no income. And it get me into depression
are there any resources avaible to you such as unemployment or other local agencies that might be able to help you pay your bills?
No, as I'm from foreigner in UK, and don't have all needed documents, I need to do it by my self
that sounds really difficult
Yh, I know
do you have any family that could possibly help you through this time
Yes, actually it really can help.
maybe contact them after we are done talking and tell them what is going on
Yes, i understand it.
is there anything else that you would like to talk about or ways I can help you?
No, that was my problem, that can be solver by talking with my relatives. Thanks for help!
OF COURSE! I wish you the best
Thanks | {
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4 | 1 | I hate how some people voted
Why do you feel that way?
because if biden really does win he's gonna fuck with everyones gun rights
You seem really concerned about gun rights. Does that sound possible?
i am an army veteran
i defended the county and risked my life. i want to defend my children and my home how that i am back in country
Thank you for your service. I can understand how that might be a difficult situation for you, especially with your experiences. How are you handling this situation?
thank you. i'm just really worried. my neighbor is a single woman. last month her boyfriend beat her up and she called the police. it took 35 minutes to respond
i have an 8 year old daughter and five year old twin boys. i want to protect my children from harm
You are welcome. That is really kind of you to want to protect your children from harm. It seems like you feel the best way to do this is through owning guns? Have you thought of any alternatives, since the votes have been cast?
what alternative? the police are so backed up everywhere they can't respond fast enough. they should be our first line of defense here in the us against bad guys but that doesnt happen or they ccant always be trusted to respond quickly and efficiently so i feel we have to take it upon ourselves. if someone were to break in and has a gun.... i mean.. criminals dont get guns the legal way anyway you know. what should i do...throw a knife at them? lol
That is a good point you bring up about the quickness and efficiency of protection that guns can provide.
How you thought of any other alternatives that could help your family, regarding the process of obtaining guns during a Biden presidency?
not a clue. do you have any suggestions?
Definitely! My first step would be understanding the gun policy that Biden would have and confirming the new process. Does that sound like something that could be a good starting point?
true..i may be worrying over nothing
I think you are just being careful and protective of your family. That is very honorable of a veteran like yourself.
thank you
i guess going to war makes you worry about things a lot of people dont normally have to huh
Yes, that sounds like the case. Are there any practices that have helped you when you're worried?
well...the va has me do jornaling, deep breathing and mediation. kinda embarasing to admit...
Don't be embarrassed! To be honest, I have had experiences with some of those, including deep breathing. I also find it helpful.
thanks for sharing. that makes me feel better. :)
Of course! I am glad to share and help :)
I'm glad we talked. I. hope you have a great day and a great. holiday season!
Yes it was nice. I hope you have a great holiday season as well! | {
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4 | 3 | Hi
Hello
How may i help you today?
I am feeling depressed .I don't feel like doing anything.
What got you depressed?
I don't know. Maybe stuck at one place
What have you tried to do to control it?
don't know what to do
Everything is going to be okay keep your head up it will get better in time for you
Maybe you should go out for a walk and do some hobbies you like to do
I understand how you feeling nobody should go through depression alone
I am becoming lazy day by day. Things are scattered and disorganized.
Don't let it take control of you that is what it is trying to do
I suffer from depression once in a while and what i do is to try my best to remain positive and let myself know it is going to be okay i will get through this
I am trying it but not working on me. I feel like my life is no use
You should never feel like your life is no use because it is you have a lot to live for
you have to control those negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts i know it is hard but believe me you will feel better
I tried to stay positive but these negative thoughts are always stuck in my head despite of trying to not think about it.
you have control of your mind and i know you can control those negative thoughts don't let those negative thoughts win
I would try to do it. Thanks
your welcome you will get through this i know you will
Thank you for all your good words.
no problem
I feel sleepy all the time.
have you tried to do some exercise that works dealing with depression
I don't feel doing it
I might do it now. I want to come out of it.
thanks | {
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4 | 3 | hi! how's your day going?
Hi there, I really need someone to talk to. My partner has been cheating on me and I feel totally worthless.
oh my goodness. I'm so sorry to hear that. when did you find out?
Only very recently. I answered his phone and it was her! When I confronted him he admitted it.
that's a hard way to find out. are you still in the same house?
Yes because for financial reasons we have to be. Our relationship is really strained though and we are sleeping in separate bedrooms.
i can't imagine what you are going through, but separate spaces sounds like a very good idea to me.
It is made worse by the fact that we are in lockdown and so can't really see other people at the moment. Do you think I should try and break away for good?
before you take any action, i'd ask myself what are your options?
you know that his actions have very little to do with you and more to do with him, right?
Well, I could move out but I can't afford to rent a flat on my own. I'd have to move in with my parents, realistically.
I keep telling myself that but I feel really betrayed. I keep wondering what she is like and whether she is prettier and more successful than me.
are your parents supportive of that idea?
I have not really talked to them about it. I feel a bit ashamed having to admit to them that my relationship has not worked out.
it's not about her or you. it's about him.
But I can't help thinking that perhaps I did something wrong that made him stray?
they will understand. opening up to them will be the hardest part. it's a shame cocktail, but it's not one you made
Do you think that there is any point at all in trying to mend things at this stage? He has promised he will not see her again but I don't think I could ever trust him.
it's in our nature as women to ask "what did I do?" but it is never about us or anything we did.
Thank you, I am really glad that you understand. I don't feel that I will ever be able to trust any man again!
trust and vunerability is huge in a relationship. i'd look for professional help if you wan tot try and work on it
I can't really afford professional help. And I don't want to be a burden on my friends. I worry that I am already annoying them.
do you have a friend who has been through a similar situation? sometime that helps. also, sharing your burden with someone does NOT add to their burden
I do have a friend who has been through the same though ironically it is a male friend whose wife cheated on him!
my guess is he felt the same way you are feeling right now
Yes. It is just such a deep betrayal. I think I could have forgiven him if it had just been a one time mistake but he had been seeing her for ages.
watch the brene brown video on youtube with the cartoon animal about empathy - it should help when looking for friends to rely upon
grrrr. that would make me angry too
It is nice to have things to distract myself from the things that are making me feel terrible. Do you have any other suggestions for distractions?
I just keep thinking that every evening when he was returning home with me and with every nice thing he said he was being false.
i'm totally into the podcasts "a slob comes clean" basically it's about getting your poop in a group
Hmm that sounds .. interesting :D. Is that a metaphor?
that's so hard. imagine how much energy he had to use to keep his lives from colliding. he couldn't find a better use for that energy?!
I know, right!! Do you think it would be helpful for me to try and talk to this woman and see how she feels? I dunno if she even realises that he was in a committed relationship
yes! LOL but it's been helping me focus my anxiety into being a bit more productive
Anything that will help me with my anxiety is worth trying at the moment.
what do you want to hear from her? is there anything she could say that woudl make you feel better?
NO!! she's not going to be able to help you unless you need a witness for divorce court
It would be less of a betrayal, I think, if she did not know about me. I would never do that to another woman!
she likely knew, othewise how would he explain all the time he spent with you to her?
I suppose that's a good point too. I think maybe I do just need to make a total break and not look back.
I do appreciate you talking, you have helped me to see things a great deal more clearly than I previously did.
glad i could help. please stay safe and no matter what you decide to do, you will be fine.
Thank you and the same to you! Have a nice rest of day. | {
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3 | 2 | Hi, I have been feeling a bit down lately. My levels of stress and concern have been higher since the pandemic began.
Sorry you have been feeling down. What are some strategies you have tried to help you cope?
Well, I have tried to get my mind off of it by activities at home. Spending time with my family.
Those sound like positive ways of handling stress. It is natural of course to feel stressed out by the pandemic so it can be useful to think of ways to help manage that stress.
Yes, but I still seem to struggle with feeling a bit more down than I'd like. Not sure what to do.
Have you tried meditation and/or deep breathing exercises? I know I find that helpful when I am worrying.
I have tried meditation before, but quite a bit back. Do you have any activities you could recommend, without risking my health? Maybe in my own home, so that I can social distance.
One exercise I find helpful is lying on my back with a pillow under my head. I keep my legs bent and put a pillow under my knees for support. I then put one hand on my chest and one on my diaphram and slowly breathe through my nose feeling my stomach press against my hand. I then exhale slowly through my nose and repeat for about 10 minutes. It can be very calming.
Okay, I will give that a try. I don't feel I'm at a level that I need therapy or medication, so this might be a good way to calm my nerves when I am feeling apprehensive or stressed out.
Good, I hope that helps. I would also trying to reach out to others who are experiencing the same. It is harder nowadays with covid but there are many online groups. You could even start your own group!
Yes, I do find that there are times when I am on a social media outlet that it does seem to make me feel better. I can feel humor. But, it can be a bit depressing too. Maybe I should block the ones that have mostly negative posts?
I hear you on that. Sometimes social media can also be negative. I think that blocking negative posts is a great idea. It is a way of taking control
I wished I had some more ideas on some fun, interesting or things to fill my time at home. I often feel I get in a bit of a rut with the same thing. Since we are home more now.
Are there any hobbies that you have been interested in but never had the time for? Or perhaps hobbies that you used to do but have not tried in awhile?
Well, I used to read quite a bit more, but I have slowed down on it. Maybe I should go and grab a few books. Thanks for the idea!
You are quite welcome. I too find reading to be a most welcome escape. It takes one's mind off of day to day worries.
Yes, let's us escape to another world. I'm glad you got my mind on that. I feel better!
Perhaps you could look into book groups as well. There are probably quite a few online these days. Glad I could be helpful!
I will do that! Thanks again.
You are welcome. I am glad I could help you find some ways to help manage stress levels. Is there anything else you want to talk about? | {
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3 | 2 | Hello :-)
Hi
How are you doing?
Today hasn't been too bad
Anything you need to talk about?
Lately I have been having trouble sleeping
That's very common is there anything that has change that doesn't allow you to sleep?
Since I lost my job quite a few months ago I've not been able to sleep as well
Yes that has been a big stressor for many. I sometimes find myself having trobule to fall asleep. So I make sure my room is dark and think about something relaxing.
I think my problem is I think too much :-(
no tv, cell phones etc. a hot shower before bed might help.
When you can not shut your mind down it will prevent you from thinking and so I will actually to clear my head just think of something relaxing or enjoyable.
I guess I can try that
Try to make sure the room is dark and for whatever reason they say a glass of warm milk too but I never had to try that, just relaxing thoughts and a dark room and a fan idk.
Why a fan?
the sound of the fan can be relaxing for me idk why
okay
sometimes white noise helps or the sounds of frogs on an app idk why but that works for some people too. The important thing is find something that works and relaxes your mind from thinking too much if you can.
Frogs huh? I don't think that would sound relaxing. Haha
a running river or something that is tranquil to you and frogs work for some people or crickets idk why lol.
Interesting
Hopefully this pandemic willl be over and we can all go back to work | {
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3 | 2 | Hi
Hi, how are you doing?
I am doing alright. How are you?
I'm doing ok, thanks for asking.
Is there anything that's bothering you?
Yes, I broke up with my partner...
Oh no I'm sorry to hear that.
do you want to talk about what happened?
I am very depressed... cannot go on with my daily life.
It sounds like this is really affecting you, that must be hard
How long were you and your partner together?
Yes, it is hard.. we have been together for last 6 months..
I've been through break ups as well where things can seem pointless afterwards. It took me some time but I eventually got through it
Were you happy in the relationship?
How did you cope up with the situation?
I talked to my friends about it a lot, and tried to keep myself occupied with lots of activities
I also deleted old messages from my partner so I didn't dwell on the past as much
How does talking to friends help?
It depends on the situation, but for me I had a lot of unresolved feelings from not getting proper closure, so ranting to my friends about how my partner hurt me helped satisfy that
Do you have friends you feel comfortable talking to about this?
I have couple of close friends I can talk to.. but have not thought about doing so..
I think it could be helpful, friends can be really supportive
Yes, I will give it a try...
It's awesome that even though you're feeling so depressed, you're willing to give something a try to help you out of it
Any other suggestion you might have?
Getting involved in a new hobby, or something you used to enjoy, can be helpful
I don't have any hobby per say.. but I would like to travel new places..
That sounds like so much fun!
I will plan for some travel..
That sounds like a great idea. I know it's hard now but I think you'll start feeling better soon
Thanks for you suggestion.. have a good day.
You too! | {
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5 | 1 | Hi! How are you?
Hi, I am in a town all alone and far from family. I have been really depressed.
Why are you in a town all alone?
Yes, I moved away and I thought I would be happier on my own but now all I do is think about them and miss them. Nobody ever has time to talk on the phone so I am all alone.
Do you have the option to move back? Because family is the most important thing at the end of the day
No, I was living with my mom and dad but when I moved out my brother got my room. He and I didnt get along so he would never want me to move back into the house with them either.
At this point, you will have to ask your family to make time to talk with you and im sure they will understand if they hear where you are coming from
That is a good idea, I can reach out to my mom. Maybe I should write her an email or something?My brother was a bully and so he is a big reason that I moved. My parents encouraged us to fight and argue, it wasn't a very fun place to live.
I've always been closer to my mom so she is much more understanding. She helps me pay my monthly bills too.
Yeah reach out to your mum, and although you fight and argue, they are still your family at the end of the day
Thats nice of her :)
Yes, that is a good point. I have always heard the blood is thicker than water.
I have also been upset lately because I had to leave all my pets when I moved out. I left my dog and my cat back at home.
Have you visited them ever since?
No, I am too far away to stop by or go for the weekend. I would have to plan a whole trip and I cant really afford it yet. My brother knew that the pets were mine but he demanded that he keep them there and I didnt want to fight with him so I said fine.
If they are your pets you should be able to keep them but you did the right thing as to not argue with your brother and your parents could help you look after them
Yeah, you are right. Once he let the gate open just so my dog would run away, he says he didn't do it but I know him and he is really mean and vengeful. He would also pull pranks on me that were just cruel. He once told me that my cat was ran over but he was just hiding her at a friends house for a week.
Yeah, he doesn't seem very nice, but its good that you don't retaliate negatively
Yeah, I used to be really depressed living there. I haven't thought about why I moved but you are helping me remember that i'm better off now. I am lonely but so much happier not living in the turmoil over there.
Its a good thing you moved then because at least now you are away from him
You should always try to be happy
Yep, I am feeling better today . Thank you for listening. Maybe I should just get a new rescue dog or something like that today? I don't want to dwell on my brother or that negativity. I am feeling a lot more hopeful just sharing my feelings.
Yes its good to not dwell on the past like that. Have a good day :)
Thanks! Have a great day too! | {
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3 | 1 | Hi there, how are you feeling today?
hello. meh. pretty sad
I am sorry to hear that. I will help if I can - what is the matter?
my family is very superficial
i'm sad they aren't able to connect with me in a meaningfulway
(Sorry I was afk) I am really sorry to hear that. Can you elaborate a bit?
Is it one specific family member or all of them?
lol its all of them...parents and sister
idk it's a bit personal and very sad. i wouldn't want to make you sad too
Is the problem bad enough that you feel you would like to cut them off entirely?
I am sorry, I was not trying to intrude :)
yeah, actually my husband and i were talking about cutting them off
i've cut them off before but this time i have more stability and am happy with my life (unlike they come and ruin all the nice things in my life with their bad attitudes)
It is a very big decision to make, but in some cases it is the best one.
#toxicfamily - it's just all very sad
Is there any possibility of getting professional counselling or something before making the final decision?
yeah we just talked to my therapist
I am glad you have someone to talk to!
she said its best to not even write them. ive been trying for over 25 years
yea my husband and therapist are the best
If a professional thinks that then maybe it really is the best thing to do. It seems unlikely they will change
yeah they aren't changing. they actually are getting worse! my mom accused my aunt of stealing from her. and turns out the money was under her mattress the whole time...
That sounds really bad. Making false accusations about people is evil.
yeah, and then she forced my aunt to drive her to the bank and tried to jump out of the car!
Okay that sounds really bizarre. I think you truly are better off without them
yeah, she's a pretty terrible person :/
The saying that we can choose our friends but not our family is very true.
yup
well thanks for listening
You're most welcome :) We need to keep talking till fifteen mins is up though. Is there anything else you'd like to talk about?
Yea i thought it was 15 minutes but there in the side panel it says 10-15 but we can do a couple more minutes too
No worries :). Please try not to fret too much about your problem - to be honest I have some weird family members too
for real... it was his adoptive dad's 92 nd birthday and they refused to pay for his dinner. they said they would pay for their own dinner only. and my dad is rich
and my family is in south america and they aren't poor but c'mon!
Wow... that is seriously toxic. Definitely you should be away from them, it will improve your life a lot
an entire 6-course dinner for 6 people is like $50 smh.... they are just awful people
Anyway I hope I have been able to be of help and I wish you all the best for the future! I think things will be better when you are free of them.
i hope so! its hard to cut them off but its worse if I stay
thanks dear. apprecaite the chat
you too :) Can you press quit and take the survey as for some reason I can't do it first my end
thanks bye
bye :) | {
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4 | 1 | Hello
Hi!
How can I help?
Just in a bad mood because recently I was dumped by my girlfriend.
I'm so sorry to hear that.
Do you have any advice?
How long were you together?
2 years
That's tough. Can you describe what events led to the breakup?
It happened recently. I didn't really see any signs she wanted to end things. It came out of the blue one night and I feel terrible
How do you think you will get through this? Do you have someone to talk with?
I have my friends and family that have been very supportive but I guess its just going to take some time.
It absolutely will take time. You are right. Can I suggest that you try to look at what went wrong before getting involved with someone else? Would it be possible to talk with your friends and family about what they think might have happened?
Yep, thats a great idea. I definitely plan to take some time to thing about everything that happened. I feel blindsided but ultimately I think just spending time with my friends and family will help.
I'm sure it will help to be with people who love you when you feeling so devastated.
Exactly, it just happened at a time when the holidays are coming up and you want to spend it with people you care about.
I hear you. All messages this time of year are about being with people we love and that will hit you hard at this time of year. Do you have any particular things you like to do to take care of yourself?
I enjoy snowboarding as a hobby. I might try to get back on my board depending on what locations are open. It's just hard right now with having no motivation to really do anything.
Yes. when you are depressed it is hard to become motivated to do anything. However, it is extremely important that you do act. Keep moving through your days, even if you feel like you are in a haze. It may take awhile to build up to snowboarding. Maybe start with a daily walk and build from there. Action (physically doing something) triggers psychological movement. It will help you move through the pain that you are feeling.
Thank you! I really appreciate your advice. I will try my best to build myself back up, I know the coming days will be hard, but as long as I keep trying then things should eventually get better. Thank you again for talking to me today. Its been extremely helpful. Have a great rest of the week!
Thank you so much for asking for help. It has been so nice talking with you. Take care and know that in time this pain you are feeling will become less and less intense. Have a great rest of your week! | {
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4 | 2 | hello
Hi there! How are you doing today?
im doing ok just a bit sad
hbu
I am fine! Thanks for asking. May I know the reason you are sad, if you'd like to share?
Yeah I'm just sad that I havent been able to see my friends in a long time
I had a very stron social support group but ever since the lock down I havent really been able to see anyone
I understand exactly how you feel. My flight tickets were cancelled and my plans to visit my family and friends after 2 years went up in flames! But, this pandemic is never-seen-before event and certain restrictions are unavoidable and life saving.
Im sorry to hear that :(
yeah the virus has been putting a huge damper on everyone's mood
I just miss seeing my friends
All of us are in this together and if you tolerate short term inconveniences (lockdown, masking up, social distancing), long term benefits are multi fold. You want your friends to be around when all of this is over, am I right?
I hope they wil be
Yeah social distancing is a must I wouldnt want to get sick
Apologies, I didn't mean to make you sad further by sharing my own sob story! At the end of the day, these restrictions are what keeping me healthy
Do you have any advice?
That's great! I believe, in this age of technology and social media frenzy, you are not totally cut off from your friends.
Yeah thats true
Yes, can you try organizing a virtual get together?
Its just hard to find time to interact with them
I should try that
Cool! There are lot of online games that have been invented after the lockdown came into effect. You can try searching them online and playing it with your friends
Yeah thats a great idea
How do you keep in touch with your freinds?
We were missing our colleagues at workplace and we planned an online quiz + dumb charade and it was really enjoyable.
That sounds like a good time :)
I should try to organize something like that with my buddies too
At this point, only through video call. I am middle aged and even if I can travel and visit friends in person, I will NOT because I may be asymptomatic and possible infect my friends or worse their aged parents.
Oh yeah for sure. As much as I miss my friends I would never risk getting them or myself sick by visitng them
Sure! At the end of the day, health is wealth. Vaccines are already on their way and this too shall pass. So, hang in there :)
That's a great choice. Small steps we take now will ensure great benefits later.
Thanks :)
Well said
Thank you for taking to time to chat with me I feel a bit better
Im going to try organizing a get together online maybe that'll help everyone
My pleasure. It was good chatting with you too. All the best for your online meetup. Have fun and stay safe :) | {
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4 | 2 | hi, how are you and how can i help?
Hi I'm experiencing a lot of anxiety and depression because of constant severe back pain.
when did this start?
About eight years ago.
i see. have you sought out any medical help with the back pain?
Yes, I was supposed to have surgery for it, but it has been cancelled because the hospitals are full due to the coronavirus.
yeah, this pandemic has thrown a wrench into many people's plans, but hopefully things will ease up soon.
I hope so too, but it looks like it's going to be a long time.
it is a bit daunting when we see the number of infections increasing and people getting sick, but i think it will just be a matter of time before things get better. and hopefully a vaccine will help with the hospitalizations
Hopefully, but how to deal with it in the mean time?
i think you're already taking a step in the right direction by talking to me about your anxiety and depression. i'm amazed that you've been able to just deal with it for 8 years
i've had friends who suffered from anxiety and depression, and i've noticed that just talking things through can sometimes help a lot
It's been very hard, I've also had to take care of my mother in that time period, but she sadly passed away last march, possibly from the virus and I've been having a hard time processing that grief.
i'm very sorry to hear about your mother's passing, and a significant loss like that can take some time to process
from my experience, it really helps just to open up to someone about the things that are on your mind. even a journal can help. if you have someone who can lend an ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on, spending some time with them can help you get your feelings out and might give you a sense of relief
That's true, I know many are suffering so much right now and many people have also lost their loved ones. It makes the isolation all the harder trying to handle the grief. It does help to talk, thank you. Do you have any suggestions on how to handle the anxiety?
personally, i find that hobbies are great for getting your mind off things and keeping yourself occupied means that your mind doesn't wander into dark thoughts
That is good advice, I will try to stay busier. Also, do you know of any support groups online that might be helpful?
just from this limited conversation, it sounds like you're an amazing person and i sincerely commend you for seeking help here and pushing yourself to cope with you loss and pain. i really wish there was more i could do to help but i believe in you ;)
this might sound silly, but reddit is a great resource. there are some great support groups there who help each other and lift people up
Thank you, I will look there for others going through the same things, it doesn't sound silly at all and you are an amazing person too. Thank you for listening and your thoughtful help.
you're very welcome, and thank you for your kind words. stay strong and i know you can get through this. i don't know what the rules are on sharing personal contact info here, but i'm happy to be a friend or pen pal if you just need someone to talk to
Thanks, you stay strong too! I know this time isn't easy for anyone. I'm just grateful for the few minutes of help here, you really did help. No need to share too many details, I think that going to the reddit forum will lead me to other people in my area that might be able to get together and help each other. Thanks very much for your help and good advice and you have a wonderful evening!
you too! | {
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4 | 1 | hello how are you?
I'm feeling kind of down lately. I feel like most of my friends have been avoiding me.
Oh i'm sorry to hear that. why are you're friends avoiding you?
I have no idea. Everything was working out well just a few weeks ago. I feel so lonely.
Have you tried to reach out to your friends for coffee, food or beer?
No. I fear that I might get turned down. They are usually the ones that ask me out, and they haven't been doing that for weeks.
Perhaps you should give it a shot and see what happens. They maybe feeling the you are the one not reciprocating and this whole thing has just been a miscommunication
You are saying that I have perhaps missinterpreted the whole situation?
perhaps. You said that you have not reached out to your friends, so they could just be waiting.
But wouldn't them call me if they were at least slightly interested?
I understand your concern, but I would suggest that all relationships are a balancing act and perhaps cannot be one sided.
You know what, yeah, perhaps I just need to put a little more from my part this one time.
Do you think I should call my closest friend then?
I think that is a good start. If they are your closet friend you should be able to talk about this too them.
Yeah, I feel really comfortable talking to her. I can be open about my concerns regarding other friends too.
This sounds like a good friend. I hope this is just a miscommunication.
Hopefully. I might have been overreacting after all.
Have a good talk with a good friend will sort this out. This is the way
I agree. Thank you.
no problem. hope this help. stay safe. be well
You too. Again, Thank you. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, what can I help you?
I really sad as my partner walked out on me. Any thoughts what could cheer me up?
Was there anything that leads to this?
Not really. I thought everything was ok between us. That is why it kind of struck me.
That's terrible and unacceptable behavior.
How long have you been together?
I have to agree with you-it is unacceptable, considering that he didn't give me any reasons as to why he did it. We have been together for 5 years.
That sucks. I wouldn't be able to accept either.
Have you talked to your friends about this?
It is still rather raw,I have mentioned to it to a few of my friends and they deeply symphatise with me but I feel there is nothing much they can do to help me.They are as shocked as me to be honest.
It is understandable to have that reaction. I agree with you, only us can hep ourselves.
Have you tried doing activities that help distract you from having negative thoughts?
Kind of, most of it involves eating loads of ice cream LOL.
Haha I feel you, I tend to eat a lot when depressed too. Look, it's treat yourself method. You deserve the best
If you can go to the mountain or big lake, I would say try spending a few hours there. Maybe have a mini picnic by yourself and enjoy the nature.
That is a brilliant idea,I do love walking and being outdoors. :)
It surely would help me to clear my mind
Is there anything you have wanted to do but don't have the time? I always want to learn guitar and baking. This is the best time to start that
oh yeah, I suppose I have more time now to focus on things I have always wanted to do but never kind of had time for it. I bought a high end photo camera ages ago but never really had a chance to use it properly-I guess it is time to pursue my interest in photography, and spending more time outdoors would be ideal for that!
And reading! The list of books I want to read is arm long!
That's the spirit! I know being treated like that feels horrible. However, I bet you have mourned enough, at the end of the day, a person treats you like that has no respect and you shouldn't waste time on them.
It's time to invest in yourself, once you become your better version, a better partner will come to you
I really agree with you- I am worth more than that. It is time to move on, even when it is difficult. The sad side of it is that I probably will never know what I did wrong for things to end like that. Maybe I didn't do anything wrong. That is the question what will always stay with me and that actually is the hardest bit of it all. But... I am not going to delve into it.
I feel like hitting a jackpot actually hahahaha. I will be walking off those calories I get from ice cream I have been scoffing lately.So I am having the best of both worlds
Who said you cannot have the cake and eat it all LOL
Yes!Actually don't think you did wrong. Reflecting after a relationship is good but don't put all the blame on yourself.
You have learned from this relationship too i believe, use that for your next one
I do not intend to. I am usually the kind of person who does blame oneself but I have found it is not right. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello
Hello how are you doing?
I’m doing OK. I’m just a little anxious and nervous about my upcoming exams.
I am sure you are trying the hardest you can
I think I am. But these virtual classes are very difficult.
Have you tried looking for guidance from your peers?
It is much easier to lean on other students when we are in a class. But with virtual, it is much more difficult.
I understand how you are feeling. It is nice to have somebody to lean on during difficult times.
I just have to focus on my studies and not let what is going on impact my studies.
I believe in you and i think you will do great!
Do you have any advice on keeping me focused?
What is your exam on?
Economics and Business Law.
You should find a nice quiet spot to study. Maybe find something to feel you calm which will help you stay focused.
Good advice. I usually study in my bedroom, but that leads to distractions, such as TV and others wanting to talk.
Also make sure you are comfortable and have good lighting. That should help to.
Yes. I just have to buckle down and focus. Any advice for my anxiety?
Do you have any music you like listen to? I always find music to be calming.
Yes. Good point. Might try some yoga too.
Thanks!
I hope i was able to help you and wish you best of luck.
Thanks. You definitely gave me some good advice. I appreciate it.
Enjoy your day. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello how are you?
Feeling a little stressed
I am so sorry that you are feeling stressed, what's going on?
I have a big essay due on Monday and I can’t bring myself to write it
I feel overwhelmed
I completely understand I've been there myself, finding motivation can be so hard, but I know you can do it!
what have you done so far? Do you have some of the assignment done?
How did you get motivated? Do you have any advice?
I always thought of my GPA and how a single grade could affect all of my hard work. Perhaps thinking of what this grade can affect will motivate you to really avoid any stressful situations it may bring.
Yeah to be fair this is a big part of my degree so I can’t not do it. I just find the subject so hard compared to some of the other ones I’ve done so far. It’s a lot of maths which I suck at
I have been there, I major in Biotechnology engineering. Image what life will be like once you are finished with this nightmare assignment. Give it your all. Find that fire inside of you and push through. You are almost there, remember everything you have overcome, dont let this little hurdle set you back. I have faith in you!
Right now, dive into the subject, find outside resources. Hustle time. the great always struggle towards the end, you are one of those great! remind yourself of what you can do and have overcome.
Wow, biotech engineering must have been cool. Makes my economics module seem a bit silly now haha. I think I’m just getting frustrated with myself which is annoying in itself when I know deep down I probably could do it if I stopped trying to avoid it
oh no! my best friend has a business major and economics class almost killed her. she took it FOUR times before she passed it. She never gave up! this is your dream, chase it, own it, and conquer it.
I am the champion of getting frustrated. I take a breather and come back. Always come back. take a nap or do something you enjoy doing.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who struggles with economics although I definitely don’t want to have to retake it haha. I guess I will have to retake it if I don’t actually do the work though!
I think even just being here is procrastinating really when I should be writing my essay!
My poor friend, economics in itself is a beast that only unique minds understand. But, I do believe that with effort and dedication. She will be so mad for telling someone else how many times she fail the class. You can do it! you are at the end!
get to work and make it happen!
Yeah I think you’re right. I think we have a minute or so left here and then I’m just going to put my headphones in and get it done. You’ve been really helpful today, I needed someone else to tell me to just get on with it today so thank you
It’s been the push I needed!
Enjoy the rest of your day, take care! | {
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4 | 2 | Good evening.
Good evening, thanks for taking the time to talk with me.
No problem. How can I help you tonight?
I am having issues dealing with my feelings about ending my long term relationship with my children's father.
So just to make sure I understand, you are struggling with dealing with ending a long term relationship with your child's father.
Exactly right, after 15 years and 4 kids, he cheated on me and the affair produced a child.
I am so sorry to hear that. My ex-fiance cheated on me and got pregnant with another man, so I know how rough this type of thing is.
Have you been able to talk to him about it yet?
At this point, I don't want to talk, I am so disgusted I want nothing more to do with him, regardless of the kids.
Have you talked to the kids about it? It will be important for them to understand what is going on and why.
The kids are pretty smart, they found out and was mad at first, but now they are accepting, which is making me even more disgusted. I have even started to resent my kids for it.
I think it would help to sit down and have a conversation with them about it. It is important that they know how you feel and that you are there for them, and that they aren't the reason for the issues.
I did at least sit down with the kids about it, told t hem how I felt, explained the nature of the situation. But they weren't on my side, they acted like they were on my side at first but then switched up on me, made me feel like I was the one wrong!?!
Have you thought about seeking a group of people who have been through this same situation that you are going through now? It often helps to talk to people who have been through the same things and get their help to get through the situation.
Apparently that's you smh lol.. How did you feel? What did you do?
This is true I suppose. I made sure to have a conversation with her first in order to get some closure on the situation. After that I focused on more of my hobbies that I hadn't been able to do in a while in order to keep my mind distracted and off of the situation.
I'm still not ready to have that conversation with him. He's acting like I made him cheat on me. Maybe I should find some hobbies to distract myself until I can myself to that point.
I think that would definitely help!
What are some things you like to do?
How do I deal with my feelings of disgust?
I like to color, I like to read, I like to do puzzles.
You have to know that it wasn't your fault. He was the one who was unfaithful and there is nothing that you did to cause that. This was something I had to keep telling myself as I was trying to process everything. Sometimes it isn't easy, but you are your own biggest supporter. It wasn't your fault.
That definitely gave me some strength and closure, thank you so much!
Not a problem at all!
I know it's really hard right now, but I know you can make it through this!
With your kinds words and advice, I think I can now! Have a great night, thank you for taking time out to help me.
Good, I am glad I was able to help you tonight! | {
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4 | 3 | hello! what is on your mind today?
I have a new boss who is very difficult to work with and make happy
is is a new job that brought the boss, or are you at the same place and just have a new boss?
Same job but a new boss
This is my 5 or 6 boss in 2 years
wow, 5 or 6 bosses in 2 years? that is a lot.
you must work in a high stress job!
Yes I do and It is a lot and this one is very challenging
She doesn’t know the difference between internal and external thoughts
is sounds like you know your job. perhaps you should go to hr and say next time there is a turnover for that position would would like to be considered?
so it sounds like your boss was hired and wasnt really prepared.
I would love to do that but given somethings that isn’t possible. I’ve tied myself and my finances to the job I’m currently doing.
maybe you can offer to help get them on board with the way that the company has been working>
You are correct she hasn’t worked in a corporate environment in 8 years
That is a good ideas
if you are honest and say youve been with the company a while and have seen things not going so smooth and offer your experience, it cant hurt
you could even get a raise out of it
I wish I could get a raise off it but it isn’t how my company works.
Her lack of professionalism is hurting the group
i dont know how you do it. i would be really frusterated and looking for something better. you are strong!
Yes. I probably need to look for a new job but it is easy to stay at something that seems safe even if you are not happy
you need to be happy. you needa chance to actually move up in your carreer. you deserve it it sounds like
Thank you yes I do agree with you there
Did you experience something similar in the past
do you have a family?
yes, i have had job where i felt stuck but it was security. i finnally go so miserable that i started applying to new jobs
Yes I do have a family and I’m the main source of income
i did phone interviews first wiith companies that i was interested in that they wer interested in me. i got an offer for an in prson with a job i really wanted and i told my job i had a docture appointment. i went to the job interview. when i got the job i did my 1 weeks notice. i was more happy, was able to negotiate a higher salary
I like that idea and process
Makes it safe to apply elsewhere
i am a single parent so i get it. stability and security is the most inmortant. i think sometime we forget we deserve to be happy too
Yes I think that is great advice and makes a lot of sense
Thank you for your help!
definately dont quit your job till you have something else lined up. that could hurt your family. but think of the positive aspect of your family seeing you come home happy because you love your job. and if you can negotiate moer money you can put it away for your childrens college | {
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5 | 3 | Hi
Hello! How can I encourage you tonight?
I'm really anxious and I javen
haven't been sleeping lately
So you have a lot on your mind and you are losing sleep over it?
Yeah my company laid off 10% of the workforce last Friday and furloughed another 10%. I'm afraid I'm next
I'm sorry to hear that. It can be a bit stressful to think you may lose your job.
yeah my mind is racing and I can't stay calm.
I have found there are ways to calm myself down when things in my life seem very uncertain.
Really? What seems to work? I'm willing to try anything right now
I make a list of the things I can do - And the things I can't. Then you can have goals. And if you can work on a goal, for example, if you need to write a resume, you start working on that a little bit every day until it's done. But if there is nothing you CAN do about the situation, you have to pray to God to help you then LET IT GO. If you can NOT fix it now, you will only make yourself sick thinking about it.
I know. I can't seem to shut my mind down.
And not getting sleep doesn't help
It is much more difficult for me to remain focused and positive when I lose sleep. I have had to focus on self care, finding a friend to talk about my problems with, not someone who will TELL me what to do, but support me. So you need a good support system. And I find things like prayer, Bible reading, nice soft sheets to sleep on and some herbal tea like Sleepy Time help me relax before bedtime.
Those are some helpful points. I didn't think about herbal tea
And be kind to yourself, no one likes to lose a job, it's unsettling. Do try to tell yourself things that are true to encourage yourself, like you will find another job, it might be uncomfortable and hard, but it actually might work out for your good in the long term. I always found better jobs, but at the time I lost my job, I felt as if the world was ending.
Yeah I am really concerned because my wife lost her job this summer so I'm the only breadwinner at the moment
You aren't in an easy place, but this can actually work out for your good. I think if you focus on the GOOD that can happen, that might help your more. I would be concerned too, but if you even start looking for a job now, that might help you become more confident. I do encourage you to set goals.
I have found that the hard times are often stepping stones to better things, however at the time, all it feels like is hard times! lol
I'm an older lady - I'm almost 60. So I've had a lot of jobs, retired now, but I remember when my husband kept getting threatened with job layoffs. It was really disheartening for him.
oh wow
yeah, I'm so stressed it's not funny
If I had to do it over again, I would have encouraged him more to get that resume out and look for another job. The threat of losing his job was always hanging over his head. Yeah, it's not worth it my friend. Be pro active.
I've been trying to look on job boards and company websites but it's hard to find something that is close to the same level of pay. So far the ones I qualify for I will have to take a 25% pay cut or more
I would also encourage you to get outside and run, or walk or play with the kids or do exercise everyday, because if you are tired physically, that helps reduce stress and helps you sleep.
Yeah I'll try that.
Thanks for all the tips. They're very helpful.
Sometimes a pay cut in the right company is a stepping stone IN the door, My husband lost a lucrative job one time, he started at a company washing dishes in his 40s, I kid you not, but he wound up moving up and retired early.
He wanted to provide for our family, so he was willing to humble himself, Looking back, I'm amazed. But he moved up. Once in that organization, he had lots of open doors, so you never know what God has in store for you.
Yeah but with my wife out of a job we can't afford for me to take a pay cut. We're already dipping into savings now.
I can understand that. Perhaps get together with her and look for ways to cut out spending. These are tough times. Even one car, or chicken instead of steak or canceling netflix or something like that. A few steps back is NOT failure, it can be prioritizing things in a difficult time.
ok thanks
I do want to assure you that even though I don't know you, you sound intelligent and caring and obviously wanting to provide for your family. That's honorable. These are difficult times, I do encourage you to write things down because sometimes stress clouds our eyes and if you set goals and brainstorm, you will be amazed at what you can come up with. | {
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4 | 1 | Hello. How are you today?
Hey , it's good to see you , thanks for the meeting
Happy to be here. Is there anything on your mind?
Well I've been better, I'm not doing that great.
It' just all this stuff with him. I am still thinking about it all the time.
This is a hard time of year for many people.
It sounds like you are thinking about a specific person a lot of the time.
Ugh. That's the worst.
Is there anything you can think of that would help you to feel better?
Yeah. I hate the way it ended. I really cared about him and feel like the part is still there.
It sounds like things ended in an unresolved way. That can make it feel like there is no real conclusion.
Hey! are you there?
yes, there is a lag in the system. it takes a while for the response to upload
Ok fine , it's so hard to get over someone after a breakup like this.
Yes, I agree. Sometimes it just takes time to process all the emotions.
I mean logically , I know it's not. If we were gonna break up, then we were gonna break up
Yes, that's a good point. It sounds like you are thinking this through in a good way, but the emotions are hard to process. Letting yourself feel the emotions is an important part of getting through a difficult situation.
But I want to keep his photos. And how would I even distract myself that much that I'd stop thinking about him completely.
It is understandable to want to keep photos. Distracting yourself might not be the solution; that could stop you from processing the emotions. There is a stage of grieving for a lost relationship that happens when a relationship ends. There will be grieving for the person, and for the relationship with that person. That is what has to be processed in order to move on.
Ok, I mean , I can try, But it's just, I don't want to leave him behind. I miss him
That makes sense; you care about him so you miss him. This is one of those things that will take time. Accepting and acknowledging the emotions, even when they are painful, will let the emotions evolve and over time they will become less painful.
But he's gone. I know it hurts so badly.
Yes, it must be a painful experience. The end of a relationship is a loss, and there is a grieving process to go through. That is a painful experience. I am sorry you have to go through this. I believe that you can manage this experience and end up a stronger person. | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, how are you today?
hey I am fine and you?
I am great. Is anything bothering you today?
I wrote about it. I was pulled off of an important project last week and I'm a bit mad about it. I spent 6 months on something that now I have to let go and start helping another engineering team at work.
You seem very concerned about this. It seems quite unfair! How do you feel about helping the other engineer?
I don't mind the work. The manager we have is very biased against us older engineers. He thinks we want to constantly help out the younger guys he hired. THey are mostly unqualified and their work is sub par.
I'm 41 and the new guys are all about 24.
I understand how stressful this must feel to you. Sounds like you are a great experienced worker, but they want to use your expertise instead to train the inexperienced worker.
yes. I have been reluctant to complain to upper management. I have a couple of co-workers who have my level of experience. They have complained and supposedly one of them will be our manager soon. I have thought about looking for a new job. Covid protocol has kept me from making a move though.
I understand that. I think you have a legitimate complaint. Maybe go to upper management and make it more like a concern than a complaint? If you word it right, they will believe that you really care about your job (I can tell that you really do). I am sure they don't want to lose you.
Thing is in my industry, aerospace interiors, the competition is cut throat in engineering. I already have to work about 55 hours/week. I do mturk to pay my phone bill (sort of a bet with my wife lol). I'm wanting to maybe move into freelance work but the market is flooded because of covid. So many working from home and freelancing these days.
You are right. I feel your anxiety in this. Competition is high in all industries right now it seems.
Maybe sign up with those employment sites online. Indeed, ZipRecuiter, etc...it can't hurt to see what other options are out there.
Not sure what is going to happen to my industry. The demand for new products is astounding. For example we have been working on cargo holds for aircraft that replaces seats and maintains social distancing protocols.
I actually got this job through zip recruiter. Well I was put in contact with a recruiter who listed the job. Started as a contract and went direct after a year.
Wow that sounds super interesting. You have nothing to lose going to upper management though with your concern. I have been in management and when employees came to me with concerns and showed me how much they cared about their job to take the time to bring me their input.
I've been looking but the market is flooded. I might just retire earlier than anticipated. take on some freelance to supplement my income. Upper management at my company is a bit...shall we say...uninterested in boat rockers.
I understand that. Freelance does equal freedom. Research opportunities. You sound like a smart man.
Boeing is a place I'd love to finish our my career with but I went through a 2 year hiring process with them a few years ago. Once I was offered the position I had to decline because the move to Washington was not feasible at the time because of family issues. oh well.
How does moving to WA. seem at this time? Boeing is an amazing company.
I'd do it. I think they have a hiring freeze on at the moment. Gulfstram in Georgia is close to me. They have been hiring contractors like gang busters. Problem is that is a terrible company. chew you up and spit you out. What industry were you a manger in?
Advertising. Sounds like you have options. Hang tight for the next few months and see where the world is headed. Time are so uncertain right now, but hey, it can only get better from here.
advertising and marketing are so competitive. Yes I think after the first of the year I'll make some changes. Thank you for your input. Have a nice day.
You too, Happy Holidays. More importantly, Happy New Year!
bring on 2021 so sick of 2020! ha. peace.
You got that right! | {
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5 | 3 | Hi. How are you?
Good how are you doing?
I’ve had better days.
Sorry to hear that, would you like to talk about it?
I definitely would if you are willing to listen.
I would be willing to do that
I recently broke up with my girlfriend. We dated for two years. Just feeling blue.
Break ups are the worst and feeling blue is totally understandable.
I just need to do things to keep my mind off of it I guess.
Reflection is important but healing and moving on which will take a little time is also important :-).
You are so right. Any ideas on what I should do?
Yes distraction is really good like taking up a new interest or reading a good book something like that. Any friends you can hang out with?
I love reading. I might do just that. I have friends but with this pandemic it is hard to get together with them.
Yes this pandemic has really been hard on social interaction and a good book you can be great distraction.
I will do that. I might try some yoga.
I am a Yogi Bear too and that is great for relaxation we did the angry dog and we barked lol in class yesterday
We meet outside in the park even finding a remote space in a park might do some good you never know
Lol. That is awesome. I already feel calm!
Perfect :-)
How long you been doing yoga?
About 10 years
I need it and it really does help ease the stress for me | {
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5 | 2 | Hello, how are you feeling today? Is there anything you'd like to talk about?
I am sad because I lost my girlfriend of one year.
Oh I am so sorry to hear that - this is a terrible time of year to get dumped. Please know that it will get better in time!
Why do you think it will get better?
Well, although it sounds like a cliche, time does help with healing wounds. It took me a while to get over a break up. We had been together eight years!
That must've been hard. Is it possible to heal without finding another?
Yes I think that it is but you really do need to be kind to yourself and give it time. Do you have good friends to support you?
Many of my friends wouldn't understand as they are in long-term relationships. But yes, I've a few good friends.
That is a blessing at least though I know it can be hard to see people in happy relationships when you are single.
What did you do to cope in the first year of losing your partner ?
I cried a lot to be honest, especially as he was happy with someone else. But I tried to focus on my work and my hobbies. It helped.
What sort of hobbies helped you?
Well I love to read. Do you have anything that you could do to help you relax and take your mind off things?
Well, I do love to write but sometimes the sadness just burns me out completely and I stare at the empty page.
Do you and she have any contact at all at the moment?
I tried to make peace with her and be friends but she's bitter.
Do you feel that perhaps you did not treat her as well as you could have done?
Yes. I think about that all the time... I could've been better but she was my first and I was foolish. I didn't appreciate her enough.
Well, you have at least learned a lesson and in the future will treat women better I think :)
Yes, you have a point. Maybe this will turn out to my favor. You have to fail to succeed sometimes.
Quite! It's all a learning experience in the end. Maybe you should talk to someone about it? A professional counsellor?
I should do that. I've had a hard time connecting with counselors in the past but maybe that could work.
I hope I have been able to give you some things to think about :). Take care and Merry Christmas! | {
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5 | 3 | Hi there
hello! how are you?
I am good, thanks. I hope you're well also.
Is there anything bothering you or upsetting you right now?
Sure, one of the biggest concerns I have right now is the pandemic
Especially with the rising second wave in my city.
What city are you in?
I live in Canada on the east coast.
That must be difficult living in such a big city with the pandemic going on.
What are you must scared of or stressed about?
yes of course.
just the sense of fear, anxiety, and paranoia. And helplessness and anguish that people are complacent and selfish and stupid.
Keep reading up on exposure sites here like restaurants and gyms, and the culprits are those between 18-35 years old.
I've had similar feelings also. People can be very selfish right now. That's normal to feel that way!
How have you been coping with anxiety?
yeah. Like I am scared of being sick at anytime. It could h appen anytime.
It sounds like you're scared of the virus is that right?
well, I talk with my friend daily on the phone. I also stay sane by staying at home. I work out when I have time, but not so much as before.
yeah quite so. It's an invisible enemy, like people cannot believe it's taking effect or they will get it.
It sounds like you're doing a great job adjusting though! Good for you. Talking with people will help a lot.
I can only stay safe for so long but it takes cooperation from my citizens and also the leaders here to be responsible in lockdowns etc.
thank you for your kind words
I hope you are getting by well also. I try and am kind of used to it by now. But the fear is coming back since two to three weeks ago with renewed cases.
yeah and I believe in social support and therapy. It's good to talk out.
It's hard when we live in a divided world. Some people want this...and some people want that. I would suggest just letting go of the things not in your control, even though that is hard.
yeah I will try and I know what you mean
Do you go to therapy?
It does feel like I am in an apocalyptic world and self isolated in my safety bunker. And a few months ago, I felt more lonely and claustrophobic. I feel better now. I guess the best and safest place now is my home.
You do what's best for you, that is what is important. Don't worry about others.
No, I believe in it and I talk openly with my close friends about issues but have only gone for medical therapy a few times. I will try to have my usual health checkup once the pandemic is more in control, and so then I might consider getting a referral
yeah that's true. I will keep that in mind
Have you heard of teletherapy? I do that and you don't have to worry about leaving your house!
not that I have an active and huge problem, but that I don't think it's so bad, as mental illness is so stigmatized. You can go for therapy and talk things over even if you don't have that big of a problem.
no I have not done any medical appointments since earlier this year.
Exactly! I totally agree. I love just talking to my therapist. It's so nice just to have someone listen and give feedback that isn't a friend.
I will once I get some more done for my work at home.
I see. That's great that you do that. Excellent
Therapy is shown to really help so I strongly suggest doing that if you have the time and money. It really will help.
Yeah I will definitely keep it on my list and won't rule it out
I do need to go to my family doctor in person though as I need an annual checkup at least
like even the dentist I haven't gone since last year.
Yes that is important. I'm sure it is safe there!
due to the pandemic
Hopefully this conversation helped with some of your anxiety and stress!
Hopefully. And then any mental support can be done via teleheal th like you said.
Sounds like a great plan!
yes it sure does, thanks for listening and I see that we are pretty much on the same page.
It sounds like you are quite coping nicely and optimistic also. So these are great traits.
and remain hopeful in such dark and unpredictable times
Thank you! I hope you have a nice night.
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3 | 2 | I am having a very anxious day today
Hello! I am here to help, could you please tell me what the issue is?
My mother in law is sick with COVID and my husband, when he contracted COVID from her, got terminated from his job.
I can see why you feel anxious, I would be too given the situation.
When did your mother in law got sick with COVID?
Yeah, it's just really stressful and I am over anxious about it.
Right before Thanksgiving, she is elderly and has cancer, she is finally feeling better though.
Cancer is already a hard enough disease to fight against. My aunt is a cancer survivor. I am sure your mother can make it too.
She is a fighter.
From my knowledge, people usually recover from COVID after 2 to 3 weeks, you might consider having a doctor see your mother if she is still struggling.
Yeah, she went again the other day. She is doing quite a bit better. He said because of underlying conditions it may take her longer, but she is doing great. That was encouraging.
There are substantially more people recovering from covid each day despite the number of infected growing exponentially. I am sure that, with the proper care, your mother in law will make it, and so will your husband.
I am sure he will be able to find a new job soon as new business start to open, even if it's a temporary one.
Yeah, I guess you're right. I know you're right. I just haven't felt really in the Christmas spirit this year and I am anxious about everything I can't control.
He did have an interview today too, so that is good news.
Those are some great news indeed. I am sure he will get a call soon : )
Lol - you made me smile. Thanks. I will believe that too.
I am glad I can make your day just a little better, that's what we are here for ^_^
It really did help. Just talking and saying it out loud (or online) helped. Feeling heard helped.
And I am glad you are someone easy to talk to! Some of my patients do not argument at all and expect me to end the conversation when I, as a therapist, have to make sure they are good to go! Helping you has been a pleasure!
I am thankful for your listening to me. It does make a big difference. I am in a better mood. Thank you!
You are very welcome!
Thanks and have a great day! | {
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4 | 2 | Hello, how are you?
Can somebody help cheer me up? I'm super sad
I just can't believe something like this would happen during the holiday season
I can most certianly help!
What has happened?
A week ago, my boyfriends friend told me that she had saw him with another girl and I freaked out
so I reached out to him and he said that it wasn't true and he had lied about it
Oh honey I am so sorry to hear that! Hearing that he was with another girl can be very painful.
so, my boyfriends friend sent me a picture as proof to show me and he was touching her booty and kissing her
I just can't believe he would do something like that to me
You deserve so much better than someone who is willing to lie to you & go behind your back.
I know but I just can't get it out of my head that my boyfriend has been unfaithful
have you had this experience before?
You are a strong, beautiful, intelligent woman dont let his unfaithfulness be a reflection of you. This indescrestion only shows his shallow personality to which you deserve better!
how should I move forward with life?
Yes i have had the misfortune of experiencing a cheating boyfriend. I left him and to my surprise i met my amazing husband soon after dumping my cheating ex.
Maybe the next one will be better? Maybe I will be able to meet the ONE? I just don't know anymore...
Move forward with your head held high & be grateful for the bullet you dodged. Imagine had you not found out and you married him and the found him having an affair! He did you a favor & now you can truly thrive as the wonderful person you are!
That's a good way to look at it, it would be more messy if I had never found out
I feel a little better now, thanks for your help
Very good, Now you wipe your tears girl and get back out there like he never exsited. Move on like you never he knew who he was & you will find how much life has to offer!
I do hope I will find that person one day
I will stay positive and optimistic
You will my dear, just keep an open mind and an open heart add in the positive vibes and the right man will find you. You've got a beautiful outlook and good things are bound to come your way! Great job!
Thanks for all of your positive vibes and help on here, I feel much better than 20 minutes ago. Didn't know where to go or how to turn to. Thanks again!
Have a happy holiday with your friends and family and stay safe! You are a great friend to talk to.
You are very welcome & I am so happy that I was able to help you! You got this girl!
You as well!
I believe this ends out conversation and I will click finish and Quit
I meant to say ends our*
Sounds Great! | {
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4 | 3 | Hi there, how are you doing today?
I am feeling really down.
I'm sorry to hear you're feeling that way, what has you feeling this way?
My husband and I have 4 kids. One of those children is a child from his previous marriage. We constantly argue about how he favors that child over our other 3.
Oh no, that's not good. Do the other kids see it as well?
2 of the children are younger so they do not realize it but the other child is older and definitely notices.
Does your husband realize that the other child notices it and how it hurts them?
I have told him but he is in denial of the whole situation.
Why do you think he favors that child? Is that child only with you part-time that he feels he needs to make the most of that time?
The child is with us every other week and maybe that is why he treats him differently but my husband knows that it is causing problems in our relationship and refuses to change those behaviors. I just do not know what to do anymore.
Is there someone that's close to both of you that you could talk to, that way they can help him see that it's very apparent that he's treating him different?
I suppose I could talk to his mother. But, I have reservations because I feel like she will side with him since it his her son.
Very true, and it would likely be better with someone no quite so close to the situation. But you also don't have to attack him to her, just lay out the facts. I understand the frustration, it's hard to see your kids hurting or feeling like they're not enough. Is this the biggest issue you guys are dealing with in your marriage?
Or is it just another thing you're not getting along on?
That is very true. This is our main issue. I suppose I need to find someone who is close to us both but not necessarily a family member.
Someone who has seen you interacting as a family and maybe has noticed it as well.
Yes, that is a good idea. Thank you for all of your help. It makes me feel a little better just telling someone about the issue.
Sometimes just getting it off of your chest is all you need to reset.
I'm glad that helped and I wish you luck in finding a solution.
Very true. Thank you, have a wonderful day!
You too, stay safe!
Thank you | {
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4 | 3 | Hello
Hello
How are you doing?
I am pretty good.
How are you?
I'm pretty miserable. It's been a rough week
What is going on?
I ended things with my girlfriend last week.
I am sorry to hear that, what caused you to wan to end things?
Things have been pretty rough for the last few years. I found out she was hanging out with her ex and she lied about it
The kicker is that we live together and her family is planning on coming to stay with us for xmas. they already have their flights booked and now are trying to cancel
So from what I am hearing, you ended things with your girlfriend because she was talking to her ex and lying to you about it and you are feeling upset about it.
yeah, plus our relationship has been rocky for the past year. I think we are just loosing interest in eachother
I understand your situation completely. I had a recent ex that I lived with who also was talking to her ex and hanging out with him and lying to me about it.
what did you do about it?
The first thing I did was had a conversation to try and see why she was talking to her ex and lying to me about it. Trying to get closure is very helpful.
yes, i could see that. We have discussed and decided to end things. Like I said, her family was planning on staying with us for xmas, so now it feels like we ruined xmas for everyone
I know this is definitely a rough situation, but I am sure you can make it through it!
Yes it's just been a crummy year. I'm looking forward to being done with it
I can understand that! I think it has been a rough year for everyone!
i agree, i just hope her family doesn't come out. She still needs to move out but I'm hoping her family doesn't come out to help her move. Or at least gives me a heads up so i can stay in a hotel while she moves out
I can understand your anxiety over that. | {
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5 | 4 | hello
hi
how are you today
I'm in a big mess
ok tell me about it
I am not fine , I tried to persuade the girl to abort the pregnancy but she refused
that is a hard position to be in.
my wedding should be first week of JANUARY , I just said I should fuck this girl and release her as I am about to settle down. I dont know that it will turn to pregnancy
are you saying that the woman you are marrying is not the woman who is pregnant?
now she informed my parent about the pregnancy and my fiancee is still keep on preparing for the wedding, never know that someone has got pregnant for husband to be
yes
just a friend
my parent said I should inform my wife by myself , it is a big shame, she will never agree to go to the altar with again
Do you think you should tell your fiancé?
ah , it is painful
very difficult to open my mouth and tell her such
What do you think you will do. Tell your finance or not tell your fiance.
she will be your wife. this is important for her to know?
I wish to tell her, but I am scared oooooo
that girl is a bitch
Every man would be scared in your situation. This is a fact. But some with tell and some will not.
So, what should I do, I am ashamed of myself, that is the fact.
I will not want my marriage to scatter neither fucking loose her for that fucking bitch
I cannot tell you what to do. I can tell you that you will make vows to your wife, to be honest and faithful. You have to decide if you want to lie or tell the truth
neither is wrong or right
mmmh
I will have to tell her
thanks .....I AM DOWN ...CRYING MOOD
BYE
I think you are making a good step towards a healthy marriage
good luck | {
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5 | 2 | Hi, how are you doing today?
Are you there?
Yes I am. How are you?
I am okay and yourself?
Not so good these days.
I have had a lot of bad days in the past talking it out with friends helped me get through it.
That's good to hear, though I don't have any friends. Now I feel even more depressed.
How long has this been going on?
My depression? 3 years unfortunately.
That is really upsetting to hear. But I think that you can get better.
I doubt it.
After I had my daughter I had severe depression and thought that there was no way out, I went to the hospital and they referred me to a psychiatrist so I could get help.
Good to hear that you're doing good. I am taking medication for my depression currently.
I can say that it didn't get better over night, it took years of medication adjustments and a great therapist to get me through since I also did not have friends at the time and an unsupportive family.
Thanks for the positive vibes. I am trying to do activities to past the time. Like reading.
Reading is a great coping skill. What are some of your favorite things to read about?
Mainly self improvement books. Any genre suggestions?
I recently read a study that suggested that reading fiction may lead to inceased empathy and this increased empathy help the reader basically pay it forward by being more willing to do good deads.
Good to know. I will definitely check it out. Any title recommendation?
The study suggests that the story be upbeat and be very discriptive of positive messages. I would avoid sad stories.
Thanks for everything. | {
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4 | 1 | hello
Hello, and how are you feeling today?
so am having a hard time with my friends excluding me in everything because of my religious stance
I have had a similar situation not long ago. It was hard, but once I told my friend it was bothering me, he changed his behavior.
Hve you tried talking with your friend?
i did tell them but mostly say that they feel uncomfortable cause i dont drink and do all those things
It's good that you stood your ground. For that you should be proud.
i hardly have friends and the two friends i have are treating me like am no longer one of them
Have you considered, being more active in your religious community? It could be a great place to make friends.
i am as active as i can be. they are friendly and supportive but right now they only ever socialize on church events or church. not really a friend i can confide in when facing hardship
It definitely takes time developing new friendships. Have your tired inviting someone from church to hang out, outside of church event?
no not really. I am trying to take time to at least get used to some in church first before anything
I wouldn't want an awkward silence when we are together.
Well that's great that you're taking those first steps. I believe that in due time those friendships will blossom. Patience is key.
but does it make me a bad person giving up on my childhood friendships
should i try harder to make them see what am doing
It also sounds to me like maybe you're over worrying. Have you considered seeing a movie where you wouldn't have to worry about awkward silence?
Sometimes people just move on from one another. I personally wouldn't try to make these friends see what you are doing. I think you should focus on you, and look to the future.
yes, movies like war room and break through or a case for Christ but will they like them, what if they don't and they just come so they can be nice
its hard but i guess its also true. i usually have a hard time leaving things behind but somethings just happen.
Thank you for your insights
It doesn't hurt to ask what movie they would be interested in seeing. Maybe you can come to a mutual agreement!
You're very welcome. If you need anything else just ask.
of course your right. I worry too much about details . Thank you this has been helpful
Thank you I kind of feel a bit relieved. someone telling me its okay to let go
I would suggest letting things happen as naturally as possible! And yes, it's okay to move on and live a life that makes YOU happy!
Thank you so much and stay blessed.
You too!
you have a blessed afternoon
Same to you! | {
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3 | 2 | hello
Hi how are you doing today?
stressed out, anxious , this covid life is so tough
cant find any work and just struggling with money and emotionally
I hear you- I can definitely relate. I'm sorry to hear you are unable to find work. What type of work are you looking for?
anything really atm and sorry to hear that its tough everywhere
alot of people having a hard time def
Have you looked into government assistance due to covid complications?
Yes, we are all in this weird boat together.
yea they give me like 170 a week cant even cover rent and bills and to eat so on
so its tough
yea definitly weird times
i live in a small town in vermont so only so much around, trying to get job at ski resort but no call back yet
well I applaud your efforts to seek out employment! Keep up the faith!
yea im trying but its been awhile im also just so stir crazy cant watch anymore tv
do the mturk here and there but hasnt been greay
you have probably seen this resource but in case you havent: benefits.gov/help/faq/Coronavirus-resources
ill check it out
Yes I understand, I live in Iowa- a bigger town but the struggles are still very real
thanks
ah word i hear ya i was in des moises once zombie burher lol
burger
Sounds like you are onto something with the ski resorts- sure hope something pans out
oh yes! classic:)
thanks yea i hope they open and stay open i guess we will see
sooo goood
anything else I can help with?
truth!
not sure haha just figured try this out
me too!
so we both get paid for this right ? haha
hopefully:)
haha i hope so
honestly good luck with everything!
thanks you too!
eat some zombie burger for me
appreciate that! Take care! LOL i will:)
no problem
and haha
wish i could come back
remember had one with cheese curds so goood
drive on down and over
haha if i had the money id love too
was a nice state
hiring might be better here than in vermont
I get it- bummer
says i need to talk back and forth ten times for reward lol
oh yea?
more open there?
Yes, I think we met the quota!
oh nice
Yes, the iowa governor is super right wing so she is adament about keeping business open etc
ah gotcha and no high cases?
So even with numbers spiking, some schools are open still, lots of restaurants and businesses still open
ah true , they closed down alot here to stop spread
no we still have an increase, but she won't do a lockdown or anything extreme-
gotvha
interesting
So naturally that has helped employers stay hiring...so?
yea makes sense but if everyone gets sick then what hha
very true
yea its wild i just wish was over
I understand that feeling! well hopefully we get paid;) keep your head up:) Good luck to you!
enjoy your evening same to you | {
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5 | 3 | I'm so sad
My partner left me for another woman!
Hi, so from what I understand you are feeling sadness at this moment due to your partner leaving you for someone else.
Yes! I can't believe he did this to me
Just from the few messages you sent, I can tell this is really hurting you a lot.
I feel so sad. I just want to crawl into a hole and die.
I had a similar situation where my fiancé left me after cheating on me and getting pregnant by another man, so I understand completely what you are feeling.
We were so in love! How could he do this to me?
This is a really hard situation to get through, but I know that you can do this!
How? Please tell me how? I don't feel like I could ever be happy again
Whenever I am feeling upset about the situation I look at all the good things I have going for me, like my job, and my family, and my health.
I lost my job a few months ago. I do have kids though.
From what we have talked about so far, I can see how losing your job would also make you much more anxious.
I would definitely focus on making sure to spend time with your kids though! They are extremely important and they need you to be as much yourself as you can!
Yes! i have been struggling so much with losing my job! And now this. How am I going to get through this?
I do need to be strong for my kids. They are so little. They don't understand what is going on.
Yes, your kids definitely need you and they will help. I would make sure to play with them and get together and maybe watch some holiday movies or videos since it is so close to Christmas.
I will try, but it will be hard. Christmas just won't be the same this year.
What are some of your favorite things to do during Christmas time?
I like to make ornaments with my kids, and shop for family, and wrap presents.
I would spend time making ornaments with your kids to help get through this time!
Yes. That is a great idea! Thank you.
You are very welcome! I am glad you chatted with me today.
You have been so helpful. I am glad I could find someone to talk to.
I'm so happy I was able to help. | {
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