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Yes, I don't eat pork and my mom frequently does that without asking, just thinking she knows what I want to eat
It is understandable that you don't want to eat food you don't like. It can get frustrating with people not taking your considerations into account.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker further explains people and food.", "It's okay to have dietary preferences.", "Frustrated with people not respecting food choices" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b1i1ok
7,071
1
false
No matter how many times I tell her, she still would not change this.
Well you can eat what you like. Have you tried cooking your own foods? Or maybe one night you can cook everyone dinner and they might see a different side of you.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is set in ways on what they want to eat, no harm done.", "It's okay to stand up for yourself.", "Still wants others to respect dietary choices" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b1i1ok
7,071
2
true
I relapse back into alcohol abuse.
What caused you to relapse?
[ "It's bad to have started drinking alcohol again." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "The speaker is describing dangerous addictive behavior.", "Speaker admits to abusing alcohol", "alcohol abuse admission" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ebx3wo
7,072
0
false
Alcohol helped me with the pain I had to endure.
You should have gone for help instead of going for alcohol again. Please, go get help so you don't relapse further.
[ "It's good to get help if you relapsed" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "The speaker is explaining their reason for relapse.", "Speaker is using alcohol to cope with emotions", "explaining the reason for using" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ebx3wo
7,072
1
false
I know but I want to be left alone. I know what I'm doing.
Stopping an addiction for good is really hard when stresses happen. You should look to get help because it's likely to get really bad if you don't.
[ "It's good to get help for an addiction" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "The speaker is resistant to help with their addiction.", "Speaker does not show a willingness to change behavior or reach out for help. I don't see this as an emergency situation. People should be free to make their own decisions in these circumstances.", "thinks they can control their addiction" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ebx3wo
7,072
2
true
Is it strange that I get more excited than I should when I see a dog?
That's not strange, but why do you get excited when you see a dog?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is simply expressing excitement.", "Nothing offensive written", "It is okay to get excited about dogs." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/910ahx
7,073
0
false
Dogs are so cute! So fluffy! I can't handle it sometimes!
Animals are cute so it is okay to be excited about them. Most people will think it is normal.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Again, speaker is simply expressing excitement.", "Don't see anything unacceptable", "They are just telling why they like dogs." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/910ahx
7,073
1
false
I wish I could feel like I'm normal about it, but I don't so I hide it.
There is nothing wrong about getting excited when you see animals, you should not try to hide it.
[ "It's good to get excited about animals." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker simply shows embarrassment over expressing excitement.", "Seems like a normal convo", "They are putting themselves down about something they like that is harmless." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/910ahx
7,073
2
true
Can I just literally destroy public bathrooms?
Do you literally want to destroy public bathrooms or are you speaking figuratively? In other words, are you kidding me?
[ "You shouldn't destroy public bathrooms", "You shouldn't destroy public property." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs intervention" ]
[ "Harmful and leads to conflict", "The question is hypothetical at this point.", "considering illegal activity" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9256gs
7,074
0
false
I like to literally destroy public bathrooms in a literal way (not in figuratively but in a literal and in serious business),
Destroying public bathrooms, or any public property, is immoral and illegal. It's not fair that someone has to pay for and clean up the destruction you do and if caught you could face serious consequences.
[ "You shouldn't destroy public bathrooms", "It's wrong to ruin things that are public property" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "Harmful and dangerous", "Purple speaker is saying they will destroy public property but has not done so.", "considering illegal activity" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9256gs
7,074
1
false
It makes me feel good to have the power to do this, so I can't stop my thinking now.
What if I told you that you will get caught and then be thrown in jail and have to pay a hefty fine. That make you change your mind now? If not then good luck to you.
[ "It's not moral to destroy public property", "You should be considerate of other's property" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "Eminent danger to property", "This is just running-at-the-mouth level idiocy at this point.", "considering illegal activity" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9256gs
7,074
2
true
I'm not going to holiday dinners
Why would you not attend holiday dinners?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Says they aren't attending a holiday dinner, which can be justified", "They can choose what dinners to attend.", "unclear if this is rude or not in this situation" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/9xqp3b
7,075
0
false
I am tired of being around my family.
You should always be there with your family during the holidays. It's wrong to just ditch them.
[ "It's good to spend time with your family on holidays.", "You shouldn't abandon your family in times of celebration or festivals." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaks about family problems, which is not uncommon", "It's harsh to not even spend time with family on holidays because you are tired of them.", "You shouldn't ditch your family." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/9xqp3b
7,075
1
false
Family comes second to me, I don't care about them at all. I'm focusing on myself and my goals.
You can focus on your goals while also attending holiday dinners. Your family would appreciate your presence.
[ "You should place equal importance on pursuing your goals and spending time with your family in holiday seasons." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Isn't receptive to feedback, but without details of their issues with their family, they're not doing anything wrong or harmful", "It's selfish to think you can only prioritize yourself and not family at all.", "ignoring the feedback" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/9xqp3b
7,075
2
true
I'm thinking of deleting my account when my post gets negative comments and down votes
Does it bother you that much how people react to your posts?
[ "It's wrong to let other people's opinions dictate your life" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "okay and why is that", "Speaker looks to avoid constructive scrutiny over posted material.", "The speaker isn't being immoral." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a9n9us
7,076
0
false
I feel upset when my self-esteem goes down.
You shouldn't let other people's opinions control your feelings this way. You can't always run away from negativity.
[ "It's not good to let people's opinions to get to you", "Everyone experiences negativity when posting online" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "fair enough", "Speaker explains why they look to avoid constructive scrutiny over posted material.", "The speaker is negative but not immoral." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a9n9us
7,076
1
false
Life is too short to care about what other people think. I will be back when my negative posts get positive feedback.
Life is too short to worry about the opinions of others. You should keep your account and just post things that make you happy even if others try to bring you down.
[ "You shouldn't care what other people think" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "ignoring the feedback", "Again, speaker looks to avoid constructive scrutiny over posted material.", "The speaker is a little receptive and isn't being immoral." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/a9n9us
7,076
2
true
I'm going to throw my guests out.
What is happening with your guests?
[ "You are expected to make guests comfortable." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "We need more information to judge what's happening here.", "Speaker will throw out their guests.", "wants to kick guests out" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b2tygs
7,077
0
false
They are staying over for far too long and are being annoying.
It can be frustrating to have guests that never leave or that mess up your place, but you should still be nice as a host. Otherwise you will be seen as the rude one.
[ "You should try to be a nice host whenever you can." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's rude to kick people out. They should have a nice conversation.", "Speaker's guests overstayed their welcome.", "wants to kick out guests for overstaying" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b2tygs
7,077
1
false
It doesn't matter. I'm just going to do this and do my own thing.
You invited them over and now you should treat your guests in a welcoming manner. They won't be over forever and will leave eventually. Next time, don't invite over people you don't enjoy and set a time limit for the party to end.
[ "You should avoid inviting people over if you don't enjoy their company.", "You should set rules for your guests before inviting them over." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They haven't been swayed from being rude.", "Speaker is throwing the guests out rudely.", "rejects advice to be polite" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b2tygs
7,077
2
true
I think the darker your skin is the harder your life will be
Because of racism? Have racist things happened to you?
[ "Everyone should be treated equally." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker made casual remark about a situation", "speaker talks about colored people.", "Speaker is expressing racist opinions." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ba5nii
7,078
0
false
Yes, the racist's discriminations has made me furious many times in my life.
I'm so sorry you've had to go through that. It's not fair that everyone isn't treated equally. That's why we need to keep fighting for equality for all!
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker discussed becoming angry with racism", "they're against racism.", "Speaker seems to just be expressing facts based on their experiences." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ba5nii
7,078
1
false
Yeah, racists put others down to make themselves feel better.
Yeah, notice hate groups never talk their own race up, it's always tearing others down.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker continued casual conversation about situation", "talking more about racism.", "Speaker seems to just be expressing facts based on their experiences." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/ba5nii
7,078
2
true
I think your kids are annoying
Why do you think my kids are annoying?
[ "It is bad to call kids annoying." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Most parents are very sensitive to putting down their kids, so this is rude and will likely lead to a unnecessary conflict.", "It's rude to call kids annoying.", "It is rude to tell someone their children are annoying" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/eqc40k
7,079
0
false
they don't listen to me and my goal is to have a quiet house.
Even if the kids don't listen to you, it's not okay to tell someone that the kids are annoying. They might feel like you're attacking their parenting skills if you question their ability to keep their kids quiet. Try to find a place you can be alone and have privacy in your house instead when the kids come over.
[ "You should not insult someone else's parenting abilities", "You should just try to avoid people who are annoying to you" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Violet is still rude to the parent and isn't proactive on solving the conflict.", "The situation is the same, they're just describing it further.", "Speaker further expresses their distaste for the children." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/eqc40k
7,079
1
false
I just want some time to myself. I have enough space to go private and no kids around me.
I'm sorry that my kids are being a little noisy. I'll try to get them to quiet down when needed. Do you think the kids would feel comfortable around you if you said such things around them? Simply try to tell them politely that you need to be alone if it comes to that.
[ "You should ask people politely if you want them to be quiet" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "violet seems to be reconsidering and looking at a more prosocial solution to her issue", "They are frustrated but shouldn't take it out on people like that.", "Speaker continues to approach the situation in a rude way." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/eqc40k
7,079
2
true
I want to report my friend who hacks in a game
Why are you ready to report him now?
[ "It's wrong to tell on a friend." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "You should not report a friend before talking to him about the behavior", "It is rude to report your friend without at least talking to them first", "Speaker wants to report a friend hacking a game." ]
ethics_reddit
7,080
0
false
Because he's still at it. I hate cheaters
You shouldn't tell on a friend. Instead, talk to him about his behavior and try to get him to stop so he won't be in serious trouble.
[ "It's expected that you wouldn't get a friend in trouble.", "It's good to try to sway your friend away from malicious activity." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker's behavior could lead to unnecessary conflicts", "It is rude hate someone for something without confronting them", "Speaker wants to snitch on a cheating friend." ]
ethics_reddit
7,080
1
false
He's a loser and I'm better than him so I deserve to do it.
That is not a good reason to tell on a friend right away. You should try talkin to him first. If that does not help, then you should take the next step and report him.
[ "You should have a valid reason for telling on a friend.", "It's best to talk to a friend to get them to stop their malicious activity." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker is rude", "It is rude to think that you are better than people", "Speaker wants revenge on friend." ]
ethics_reddit
7,080
2
true
I lied to my aunt about her DNA test
Why did you lie about the DNA test to your aunt.
[ "It's not acceptable to lie to family members.", "You should always be honest about your personal information." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to lie to others.", "It's wrong to lie.", "It's harmful to lie to people" ]
ethics_reddit
7,081
0
false
She told me that she would give me money if she was related to my mom
This test was going to determine if your aunt was biologically related to your mom, and you lied to her about it. That is horrible and is not worth any amount of money. This test can mess up family trees and medical procedures because you gave her false results.
[ "You should not lie about dna test results" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker explains why they lied.", "It's harmful to deceive someone for money.", "They lied to get money" ]
ethics_reddit
7,081
1
false
Relax! I was joking about the money. She's my dad's sister, so it was an incest type joke that clearly went over your head!
Even that type of joke doesn't seem appropriate. Perhaps your family thinks it's okay to make jokes like that, but you need to be sure before you say anything. I'd hate to see a joke cause real problems and strife in your relationship with your aunt or parents.
[ "You shouldn't make jokes about your dna statis" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker explains they were joking, no harm done.", "Lies and incest jokes are inappropriate when it's in the context of serious family relationship questions.", "They say it was all a joke" ]
ethics_reddit
7,081
2
true
I'm thinking of my parents saying they would match whatever I saved up
Did you listen to them?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker talks about their parents offering to match their savings.", "speaker has financial agreement with their parents", "They express their concern over a family promise." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/84ad4972-e6be-4449-8c5f-4e5b40a5685f/sentence2
7,082
0
false
I caved into to their demands. They really don't like it when I tell them no.
It is wise to save money and even better when someone offers to help you squirrel away. Extra money can come in handy in an emergency or when you see something you really want to buy.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker talks about how they agreed with their parents.", "speaker explains their issues with parents", "They share their decision of their parent's promise." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/84ad4972-e6be-4449-8c5f-4e5b40a5685f/sentence2
7,082
1
false
Now they pay me $50 a month!
I'm glad you decided to follow through, and I hope you find something good to save towards. Isn't saving nice?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker gives more info on what their parents give them.", "in the end it works out for speaker", "They explain the outcome of their parent's promise." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/84ad4972-e6be-4449-8c5f-4e5b40a5685f/sentence2
7,082
2
true
I lied about my virginity too many times that there is no way I can tell the truth now
Why did you lie about your virginity?
[ "It's bad to lie to other people.", "It's understandable to want to fit in." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is being dishonest with other people.", "It's not great to lie about this, but it's private and doesn't hurt anyone.", "bad to lie to others" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/aye7kf
7,083
0
false
Because I feel so ashamed of myself
I understand you feel embarrassed to tell people that you never had sex. Lying about it is not going to improve things though. It's best just to be honest with people because the truth has a way of eventually coming out and people will trust you less if they find out you lied.
[ "It's bad to lie about having sex." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker has a unhealthy mental state.", "It seems they might need mental health help.", "feels guilty about it" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/aye7kf
7,083
1
false
what do you mean it's not gonna help me in anyway? it's not like anyone's gonna check up on me or find out.
But eventually if you are dating someone, they are likely to figure it out. Even if they are okay with you being a virgin, they may lose trust in you because of the lying.
[ "It's good to be honest with the people you are dating." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker finds no issue with the lying.", "This person just seems to be insecure.", "intends to still lie" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/aye7kf
7,083
2
true
I want to share my traumatic past with my BIL
Do you think your BIL will be able to help you deal with your traumatic past? How can he do so?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker wants to share past with family.", "This could be an issue but we need more context.", "Speaker wants to share their traumatic past with BIL." ]
ethics_reddit
7,084
0
false
He would be able to give me advice on how to move forward.
If you believe that, then it does seem like it would be beneficial to talk to him about it.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker wants to hear recognition of doing a good job.", "This seems a little confusing to me.", "Speaker wants to share with him." ]
ethics_reddit
7,084
1
false
The I do plan on sharing it with them. I'm also going to let him know he was a horrible person back then.
I feel like you have a complicated relationship with your BIL and I do not fully grasp your intentions on wanting to share your past, but I hope you just be careful with sharing things with him, and see to it that you can fully trust him and if not, you should not share things that you will not be comfortable with him ...
[ "There's nothing wrong with sharing your past" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker seems intent to share past in order to hurt a brother in law.", "It is rude to spread gossip like this. People don't want to hear it.", "Speaker will share it anyway." ]
ethics_reddit
7,084
2
true
Both my cat and dog are with me for the night for the first time in weeks and I'm so happy about it.
I'm glad to hear that. Are you sure your dog and cat will be okay around each other?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is expressing his/her happiness", "It's normal to be happy when reunited with pets.", "Expressing joy about being with their pets" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/anotg9
7,085
0
false
My cat should be fine, but I'm not sure about my dog.
Only a real animal lover would have a cat and a dog, so I respect you for taking care of animals and enjoying their presence. I'm sure your pets will get along if you treat them both right and continue to love them.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker expresses his/her thought", "The speaker is continuing to talk about their pets.", "Casual conversation about their pets" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/anotg9
7,085
1
false
Thanks. I'm not an animal lover, but I think dogs are better than cats.
It's fine if you prefer dogs, but you shouldn't short change your cat.. Like I said, it's really great that you are able to get the cat and dog accustomed to each other.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It is fine to prefer a certain animal compared to the other.", "It's reasonable to have a preference for certain kinds of pets.", "Just giving their opinion on pets" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/anotg9
7,085
2
true
I'm going to make a liquor and call it Elementary School, because the alcohol in it is so potent, that six shots will leave everyone dead.
Are you making a joke about gun shooting? Is that what you meant?
[ "You shouldn't make light of school shootings" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "You shouldn't make jokes about school shootings.", "It’s not funny to make school shooting jokes", "You shouldn't joke about school shootings." ]
sbic
7,086
0
false
Yes, we all know it's just a joke and I personally think killing abortion doctors is funny and pleasing.
Have you really considered the suffering that a school shooting causes? Do you really want to be someone who makes light of that?
[ "You shouldn't make light of school shootings" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker expresses finding humor in killing people.", "Speaker thinks killing some people is pleasing", "The speaker is making light of shootings that happen at schools." ]
sbic
7,086
1
true
Killing a woman that turns out to pregnant is like finding a curly fry in your chips A surprise to be sure, but a welcome one
I don't think that's an appropriate way to talk about women.
[ "You shouldn't joke about women deserving to die" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "It's offensive to make jokes about violence.", "It's rude to make offensive violent jokes", "it's wrong to kill, and killing a pregnant women is worse" ]
sbic
7,087
0
false
It was a joke. I didn't want to hurt anyone but it would be funny if it really did happen.
Killing women isn't a funny thing to joke about especially when it happens so often in real life. Maybe try finding some non-offensive jokes to tell if you want people to find you funny.
[ "You shouldn't joke about women deserving to die" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "They are using the \"it's just a joke\" defense.", "Speaker is not accepting of critique", "it's not a joke." ]
sbic
7,087
1
true
Do you think my brother could be the cause of my anorexia?
Maybe, why do you think he's the cause of your anorexia?
[ "It's not okay to blame others for your problems." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's dangerous to be anorexic. They should get real help.", "speaker is asking a question", "It's important that you get help with your anorexia first, then try to find the root cause" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/catckg
7,088
0
false
He keeps commenting about my weight and he says that I'm fat.
I see your point, but it's wrong to just blame others for your problems. If you are suffering with anorexia you should be seeking professional help.
[ "It's wrong to blame others for your problems.", "You should seek professional help for an eating disorder." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "The brother is also being rude, but that's not the serious problem with this.", "it's understandable to be upset when someone insults you", "Continuation of previous label" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/catckg
7,088
1
false
I don't need professional help I need my brother to leave me alone.
If you are dealing with anorexia you do need to talk to a professional. It sounds like your brother is not helping you but speaking to a therapist could help you work through your issues and get on the road to better health.
[ "It's best to get help for an eating disorder.", "You should help family members with eating disorders." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The situation is the same.", "you should seek help for medical problems", "For health reasons, the speaker will need to get help" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/catckg
7,088
2
true
How about I ask my husband to get a job near our home?
Why does he need a job so close to home?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is making a suggestion", "Speaker is asking for an opinion from someone", "They express concern over their husband's place of work." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a3vi1s
7,089
0
false
I want him to walk to work.
What is wrong with his current job? If he enjoys it you should not ask him to switch jobs. It seems a little controlling to make him switch jobs.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker explains personal preference and opinion", "Speaker doesn't say why", "They share why they want their partner to change their place of work." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a3vi1s
7,089
1
false
I will leave him if he doesn't switch jobs. It's not fair that I'm the one that's working.
You sound like you're not happy in the relationship if you are willing to leave him over this. While a conversation would go a long way, you shouldn't be so controlling if you want to stay in a healthy marriage.
[ "It is controlling to tell a spouse what to do." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker's behavior is unreasonable.", "Speaker threatens to leave their husband if he doesn't do what she says", "They intend to impose their own will on their partner's choice of employment." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a3vi1s
7,089
2
true
I think my door was open when I came home and no one was inside. I thought I had locked it.
That's scary! Was the door completely opened or closed but not locked?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They are just describing a normal situation.", "They are speaking casually.", "this is a common event" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9nb81a
7,090
0
false
Someone had to re-lock the door. Nobody else has a key.
I'm glad that you are safe. You should always make sure you lock your door when you leave home. If not, you could be robbed.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The situation is the same, they're just describing it further.", "They are not saying that anything really bad happened.", "this makes no sense" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9nb81a
7,090
1
false
Maybe there is a ghost in the house.
Unlikely, why would a ghost need to unlock a door? Just be more careful about locking the door.
[ "You should lock your door when you leave home." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "This just seems like a benign conversation.", "They are speculating about fantasies.", "irrational as there are no ghosts" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9nb81a
7,090
2
true
Do you think it's weird that I think of escape routes for every room I walk in?
Why do you put so much thought into planning an escape route?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "This is weird, but not unethical.", "They share a peculiar social behavior of theirs.", "unusual isn't rude" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bqxc6s
7,091
0
false
I just want to make sure I can get out if I need to.
Being paranoid to the point that you need to plan escape routes for every room you're in seems exhausting. I think you should talk to a mental health professional about your paranoia because they can probably help.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The situation is the same, they're just describing it further.", "They share why they have this peculiar social behavior.", "unusual isn't rude" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bqxc6s
7,091
1
false
They're wasting time. I know map like the back of my hand.
Talking to a mental health professional is never a waste of time. Your behavior might not seem like an issue now but your paranoia can grow is left untreated. Would you rather be able to walk into a room and not have to worry?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They haven't done anything unethical here.", "Continuation of the previous label.", "Polite disagreement" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bqxc6s
7,091
2
true
I'm a dude and I love wearing thongs and g-strings to swim
Why do you like wearing thongs and g-strings?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is entitled to express themselves.", "as long as he's wearing swimming thongs, speaker's behavior isn't really inappropriate and shows positivity", "unusual isn't rude" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/eis7bs
7,092
0
false
Because they fit nicely, and I love the way they make my butt look.
That may be a little weird to some people, but what truly matters is that you're happy. Don't let traditional gender roles in clothing dictate your choices; wear what you feel flatters you.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker explains their preferences", "speaker's rationale is valid and reflects a positive self-image", "unusual isn't rude" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/eis7bs
7,092
1
false
Thanks.
Of course. Just be careful, as that type of swimwear isn't allowed everywhere.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Casual response", "speaker responds politely", "normal/standard conversation" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/eis7bs
7,092
2
true
I have had deep feelings for a cousin for over eight years.
Why do you think that your cousin feels this way as well?
[ "It is bad to have incest relations." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "They have been attracted to a close family member and need therapy", "Speaker has romantic feelings for a cousin", "Speaker violet admits to strong feelings for a cousin." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9j8z2i
7,093
0
false
I was in an accident and he took care of me.
I understand why you would have these feelings, but it is bad to have incest relations. Maybe the feelings you have aren't love, but just a deep bond. I would try and talk to someone about it without getting involved in a relationship.
[ "It's wrong to be in a romantic relationship with a cousin.", "You should talk to someone about innapropriate feelings." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "They explain how it started", "Speaker explains bond with cousin", "The speaker why they feel that their feelings are reciprocated." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9j8z2i
7,093
1
false
What's wrong with him?
It is only natural to have feelings for someone you find attractive, however just know that relationships among family members are not safe for reproducing. You are still free to let your cousin know how you feel I suppose!
[ "You shouldn't have romantic relationships with blood relatives.", "It's ok to tell a family member you think they are attractive." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "They don't see why it's wrong", "Speaker doesn't seem to realize that it's not wise to consider a relationship with a relative", "The speaker then expresses some confusion over the feelings of their cousin." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9j8z2i
7,093
2
true
I might be a psychopath
Have you been diagnosed as a psychopath?
[ "It's good to get a diagnosis from mental health professionals." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "They are probably doing bad things if they think this.", "asking a question", "Need to see why they think this." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bxy7sn
7,094
0
false
No, but I feel like I have those characteristics of a psychopath.
I understand your feelings. It is always best to get properly diagnosed by a professional.
[ "You should seek a professional diagnosis if you have mental health concerns" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's still the same situation as before.", "showing their concern", "Wondering if you are a psychopath seems somewhat positive in that it shows concern." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bxy7sn
7,094
1
false
Well, what does it mean if I have already killed someone?
If you have killed someone you should turn your self in and make a confession. They can also diagnose you while in custody and get you the mental help you need.
[ "Killing is a serious crime", "You need to turn yourself in and face the consequences of any crime you have committed" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "They are admitting to murder.", "they infer they have killed someone", "Claims to have killed someone." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/bxy7sn
7,094
2
true
I ignored my girlfriend for most of valentine's day
Did you have any reason to ignore her?
[ "You shouldn't ignore your girlfriend." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is not okay for ignoring girlfriend on valentines day", "Speaker ignored their girlfriend.", "Admits to being rude to girlfriend." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/808kom
7,095
0
false
We were fighting all day and I was pissed off therefore.
It is understandable that when you fight you might not feel like celebrating the next day but ignoring your girlfriend is not the right thing to do. It will not help your relationship and it could cause you more problems.
[ "It's understandable to be upset after a fight", "It's wrong to ignore your girlfriend" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker should be nice on valentines day", "Speaker was being rude by fighting with her.", "Gives reason for being rude." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/808kom
7,095
1
false
Yes I know that now but back then I thought my actions were right at the time.
It sounds like you might regret ignoring her a little bit. Which is a good thing, she was probably so hurt that you ignored her on such a special day.
[ "It's good to regret your mistakes" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker still thinks it's okay to have been rude", "They thought their actions were right.", "Admits that previous behavior were wrong." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/808kom
7,095
2
true
Want to know why I hate that there is starving children in Africa? Because it's more fun when there is starving children in my basement
You really think that Africa is a place for poor kids; is that what you see there?
[ "It's not right to think Africans are starving", "It's not right to think Africans don't have any food" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It shows intent to harm children by imprisoning them", "its wrong to joke about children", "You shouldn't joke about starving children in Africa." ]
sbic
7,096
0
false
They are just starving because they don't know how to do proper farming, that's why.
There are some people in Africa who struggle but there are a lot of people in Africa who have enough food. You shouldn't think that the entire country doesn't know how to provide food for themselves.
[ "It's not right to think Africans are starving", "It's not right to think Africans don't have any food" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Shows intent to engage in harming children", "its wrong to joke about children and harming them", "Justifying their starving children joke by claiming that people in Africa do not know how to farm properly." ]
sbic
7,096
1
true
I'm such a fool. I gave up so much to be with him.
Don't say that about yourself. Does he know how much you gave up for him?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's understandable to be upset when you regret your life choices.", "Casual conversation.", "Speaker feels bad about giving up so much." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/ec426442-26f1-4436-a5ad-6aa290ebc694/sentence4
7,097
0
false
I told him many times, but he doesn't understand what it's like for me, he didn't sacrifice anything to be together.
I understand, it's hard when you sacrifice things to be with people. You need to tell him he needs to be more understanding!
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Being upset with your relationship partner and the status of your relationship is understandable.", "Casual conversation.", "Speaker feels used." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/ec426442-26f1-4436-a5ad-6aa290ebc694/sentence4
7,097
1
false
He isn't worth it. I can't do this anymore.
It's okay to break up with him if you feel like the relationship is one sided. If you've given it all you have, but he hasn't, then it's probably time to just move on. I'm sure you can find someone who will make you happy.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's good to understand and value your worth. Ending a relationship that makes you unhappy is beneficial for your self worth.", "Casual conversation.", "Speaker is hurt and wants out of the relationship." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/ec426442-26f1-4436-a5ad-6aa290ebc694/sentence4
7,097
2
true
I'm not going to offer to pay the diminished value of my son in laws truck I wrecked
Why do you think that you won't pay for it?
[ "You should replace items you destroy." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Wrecking someone's car and then not helping with the damages is messed up.", "Talking about not paying for property they damaged.", "Speaker won't pay for a car they wrecked, which is wrong." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a60jcc
7,098
0
false
Because he deserved having his truck wrecked.
I don't know why you decided to destroy your son in law's truck, but it is never okay to do that to someone else's property. You need to be responsible and replace the truck, because your son needs it.
[ "It is wrong to destroy other's property.", "It is expected for you to replace what you have broken." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "This sounds like horrifying rationalization.", "Thinking they shouldn't have to pay.", "Speaker still refuses to take responsiblity and pay for a car they wrecked, which is rude." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a60jcc
7,098
1
false
I don't know about that.
I think that you should replace the truck since you were the one that wrecked it. It is only right that you replace the items that you have destroyed.
[ "You should be held responsible for the damage you cause." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker admits to their huge mistake.", "Claiming it's a mistake.", "Speaker still won't pay for the truck they wrecked." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a60jcc
7,098
2
true
I'm a 25 year old male. My uncle molested me dozens of times when I was a teenager. I secretly enjoyed it.
Why would you enjoy something like that?
[ "It's bad to sexually abuse a child." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "They are disclosing something bad that happened to them.", "admits to enjoying being molested", "They are talking about being molested and they obviously had trauma from it." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/n7sve
7,099
0
false
I secretly enjoyed it because my uncle was very generous with his money.
You should have reported him when it happens. You might not have realized it at the time but what he did to you was wrong.
[ "You should report molestation.", "It's wrong to molest family members." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "They are justifying abuse that happened to them.", "explains why they enjoyed being molested", "They poor child was groomed and sexually assaulted." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/n7sve
7,099
1
false
I'm going to shoot up a business full of my uncle's friends. That's evil.
I think that you are dealing with a lot of repressed trauma, especially because you say you enjoyed it because your uncle paid you after molesting you. Also, it is clear you have not healed because you want to shoot your uncle and his friends, which is a terrible thing to do. You should talk to a therapist to work thro...
[ "You should see a therapist when dealing with past trauma.", "You should find healthy ways to deal with pain." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "They are reporting on serious harm and they are making threats.", "warns they are going to shoot up a business", "Now they have jumped towards violence on a mass scale." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/n7sve
7,099
2
true
I'm in love with my older brother's best friend
Why do you think ou've fallen in love with your brother's friend.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's not wrong to develop feelings for a family friend.", "It is not wrong to fall in love.", "seems to be civil discussion as long as the speaker is not underage" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/99dplh
7,100
0
false
I don't know. You can ask me questions about it and I'll tell you whatever you want to know.
If you have feelings for your sibling's friend, it would be a good idea to feel out your sibling to see if they think your feelings are reciprocated. You can ask the friend out; they might turn you down but at least you will have tried.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The situation hasn't changed and they haven't said anything new.", "The heart is a lonely hunter.", "continued to be a civil conversation" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/99dplh
7,100
1
false
Ok, I'm gonna go for it.
Good for you. At least you will get a definitive answer.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's fine to do something like this.", "You'll never know if you never ask. But rejection can hurt.", "conversation completed with a solution" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/99dplh
7,100
2
true
I like my jews how I like my potato chips. Oven-baked.
Do you think it is harmful it is to compare people to food?
[ "You shouldn't joke about jewish people being gassed" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's horrible to make fun of what Jewish people went through during the holocaust.", "You shouldn't joke about the holocaust when it comes to jewish people.", "You shouldn't be antisemetic." ]
sbic
7,101
0
false
Not really. I wouldn't have made the joke if I thought it was.
The holocaust was an awful part of history and it is not good to joke about how they died. You should got to the museum and learn more about it.
[ "You shouldn't joke about jewish people being gassed" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "This is a really weird thing to say when caught talking bad about the Holocaust.", "It's offensive to tell someone to learn more about the holocaust when you are the one making fun of it.", "Continues conversation." ]
sbic
7,101
1
true
I think I'm falling for her again.
What makes you think that you are starting to fall for her again?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Having feelings for an ex happens from time to time.", "It's ok to have feelings for someone.", "unclear what the situation is" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/uu95n
7,102
0
false
I can not really explain this feeling in words to be honest.
I think it's great that you've found someone that you like so much. It's important to make sure that she likes you before you ask her out, though, or that could lead to a real awkward situation.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Having trouble describing feelings isn't harmful.", "Sometimes people cannot put to words how they feel.", "speaker is just talking about love" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/uu95n
7,102
1
false
I get it. But if I ask her out and she says no, I'll hook up with someone else and ask her to watch.
If you ask her out and she says no, it would be inappropriate of you to hook up with someone just to get back at her. It would be unfair to the person you're hooking up with. I think you should reconsider that plan.
[ "You shouldn't hook up with someone in order to spite someone else." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "They have lewd plans.", "It is indecent to ask someone else to watch you do explicit things.", "speaker might be talking about a kink but no harm" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/uu95n
7,102
2
true
Can I just keep up with my exes in Instagram using a fake account? It is so I can check in to see what they are up to on a daily basis.
Oh wow, is there a special reason why you have a need to keep up with your exes on Instagram? I find this to be unreal.
[ "You shouldn't have a fake account online just to spy on people." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "civil start to a conversation", "You shouldn't make fake social media accounts to spy on someone.", "It's wrong to try to spy on people under false pretenses" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/by1sny
7,103
0
false
We had some great times together and I want to see if they're dating anyone new.
It's not healthy to use a fake Instagram account to keep up with your exes because you'll never move on if you do. You should focus on your own life, and not worry about what people from your past are doing.
[ "You shouldn't make fake social media accounts.", "You should move on from past relationships." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "polite civil conversation", "it isn't good to keep pining after an ex after the relationship is over.", "If you want to stay in touch, you should be open an honest about it" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/by1sny
7,103
1
false
I think it's important to do this from time to time. What if my ex is dating a douchebag. I need to know that information.
Fake accounts and spying on people are two things that are not the norm. These are stalker attributes that mean trouble in so many ways. Leave her alone and make sure you just live your own life now.
[ "It's wrong to use fake accounts to spy on people.", "You should leave past partners alone." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "altho its not a great idea its also not alarming either", "You shouldn't call somebody a douchebag.", "Previous labels still apply" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/by1sny
7,103
2
true
I can't stand my father
What did your father do to make you hate him?
[ "It's okay to dislike a parent who has behaved badly." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is expressing his/her concerns and it might be understandable.", "We need more information to judge what's happening here.", "It's unkind to express negativity towards your father." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/b99ktq
7,104
0
false
When I was little, my father sometimes took us shopping. At the end of the trip he'd be too tired to walk two blocks to the train station. He would then start yelling at my mom in public telling her that she was supposed to carry us home.
It sounds like your father may have been abusive. It's okay to dislike and to avoid a parent who has behaved abusively.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It is understandable since the speaker has traumatic childhood.", "It's okay to dislike him for being emotionally abusive.", "It's normal to feel resentment when your parent has been abusive." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/b99ktq
7,104
1
false
I can't stand my father and do not know of that will ever change.
It is okay to resent and not like someone, but you should forgive him. Not for him, but for yourself so that you can find peace and move on with your life.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "The speaker is expressing his/her thought and it is a valid feeling.", "They haven't done anything unethical here.", "It's normal to feel resentment when your parent has been abusive." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/b99ktq
7,104
2
true
I want to watch movies too loud
Is there a reason you want to watch it with the volume up?
[ "It's wrong to watch a movie too loud." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker wants to watch movies loud", "It's okay to watch loud movies as long as no one else is being bothered and it's not clear that anyone is being bothered here.", "It's rude to watch movies at too high a volume." ]
ethics_reddit
7,105
0
false
I just want to piss off my neighbors.
It is rude to watch movies loud and disturb others. You can get headphones and try to keep the peace because they might play loud music back and disturb you.
[ "You shouldn't try to purposefully disturb your neighbors." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker wants to make neighbors upset", "It's wrong to annoy your neighbors by turning up the volume on your television.", "It's rude to try to make your neighbors angry on purpose." ]
ethics_reddit
7,105
1
false
Fuck them, they should leave me alone if they don't want to hear it.
I can understand that it is your house and you have a right to do what you want. You need to be respectful of your neighbors though. It's wrong to watch a movie too loud if it will disturb them.
[ "You should be respectful of others and their comfort level." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker insults neighbors", "The speaker is being profane and still wants to harass their neighbors.", "Speaker is being rude by inflicting their loud movies on their neighbors and then complaining when the neighbors don't like it." ]
ethics_reddit
7,105
2
true