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I'm thinking of telling my date after we have sex that I have an STD.
If you have an STD you should tell her before you two do anything.
[ "You shouldn't be dishonest with others about your sexual health." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "You shouldn't give people STD's", "It's illegal and dangerous not to disclose an STD before getting intimate", "You shouldn't deceive your partner about such serious diseases." ]
ethics_amt
3,307
0
false
I don't, I just want to piss her off.
You shouldn't lie about having an STD. You could cause your partner a lot of worry.
[ "It's bad to lie to your sexual partners about an std." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "its wrong to lie", "Now they say it is just to upset the person", "They express their hateful retaliation towards their partner." ]
ethics_amt
3,307
1
false
I think I will. I hate her because she's cute.
I don't understand how you can hate someone that you are planning on sleeping with. Do you not want to have a relationship with her? Even if that is the case, you should not lie about potentially contagious diseases because it will just cause undue worry, and won't accomplish anything worthwhile.
[ "It's bad to say you hate someone.", "It's good to be honest with people you're dating." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "You shouldn't cause relationship problems", "They are not nice about the other person", "Continuation of the previous emergency label." ]
ethics_amt
3,307
2
true
I'm thinking of taking my niece's keychain
Why would you steal her keychain?
[ "You shouldn't take someone's things." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "plans on taking keychain", "It's wrong to take someone's property without their permission.", "its wrong to steal" ]
ethics_reddit
3,308
0
false
I don't care too much about her feelings
You shouldn't take things away from people, and especially not from children. It may just be a trinket to you, but it sounds like your niece really loves that key chain. It's cruel to willfully upset a child like that.
[ "You shouldn't take things from others" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "does not care about person feelings", "Saying you don't care about someone's feelings can lead to unnecessary conflicts.", "its wrong to steal keybchain" ]
ethics_reddit
3,308
1
false
Hey, I don't play fair.
Don't you care about your niece's feelings? You should just let her have it.
[ "You should be kind to your family" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker does not play fair", "Its wrong to act unfairly.", "its wrong to steal items" ]
ethics_reddit
3,308
2
true
What do you think about me backing into a parking space?
Why are you going to back into a parking space?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's acceptable to back into parking spaces.", "Speaker is wondering about backing into a parking space.", "They share their concern over parking spaces." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ah22gk
3,309
0
false
Because I want to impress people with my driving skills
Being comfortable with parking backwards is awesome but you should make sure you're trying to be safe while doing so. Potentially getting into an accident just to impress others isn't worth it.
[ "You should be safe when you park your car.", "You shouldn't do dangerous things to impress others." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is entitled to their feelings.", "Speaker thinks his driving in impressive and wants to show off.", "They share their potentially reckless driving habits." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ah22gk
3,309
1
false
My driving is fine, I can do whatever I want.
It's great that you're confident but you should still try to be conscious of both your driving and the driving of people around you. Backing into a parking space is fine and it's great that you can do it, but be sure to look out for others and be as safe as possible while doing so.
[ "You should be look out for others while parking.", "It's good to be confident while driving.," ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is entitled to make their own decision about backing into parking spaces.", "Speaker ignores advice and touts their driving skills.", "They intend to remain an irresponsible driver." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/ah22gk
3,309
2
true
What do you think of me asking a guest at my kid's first birthday to reimburse us for botched photography?
Was the picture that bad?
[ "It's expected that you will request a refund for services that were poorly provided to you." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "expressing desire to ask for a refund on a bad picture", "Wants to get reimbursed for bad photography.", "It's not ok to ask a guest to pay for a photography" ]
ethics_reddit
3,310
0
false
Well, yes they did a poor job so I want my money back
I'm sorry things didn't turn out as best as they could, and the first birthday is one of the most precious. It should have been taken care of very well, and since it's not to your standards you need to speak up and get a refund. It's your right.
[ "It's important to get the photos right at a first birthday party for a child.", "It's okay to ask for a refund for poor service." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "continue previous label", "Want their money back.", "It's not ok to ask a guest to pay for a photography even if it was a bad job" ]
ethics_reddit
3,310
1
false
Are you sure it's going to work?
If you paid for photography services and the photographer did not do a good job, it's okay to request a refund. However, it's your responsibility to know where or not refunds are provided for that service.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "expressing concern if it will work out", "Worried they may not get money back.", "Speaker is just asking a question" ]
ethics_reddit
3,310
2
true
I'm going to try to get a bad tenant kicked off section 8
Why do you want to get her kicked off section 8?
[ "It's rude to try and get someone removed from their home." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Sometimes it is necessary to evict someone who is acting inappropriately.", "Speaker wants somebody to be homeless.", "Speaker wants to kick out tenant." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awixib
3,311
0
false
She leaves dirty dishes around.
That is not a good enough reason for someone to lose their housing. Just tell her to clean up after herself peacefully.
[ "You should not try to sabotage other people's housing availability", "You should simply ask others to clean up after themselves" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is not right to want to get someone kicked out over a minor issue.", "Speaker has a bad reason for wanting to leave someone homeless.", "Speaker wants to kick out tenant for petty reason." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awixib
3,311
1
false
She is so dirty she deserves to be kicked out.
Being dirty is not a reason for that. It is rude to try and get her out. Speak to her about her problem and how it can be fixed, instead of resorting to that.
[ "You cannot evict tenants simply because of their cleanliness", "You need to discuss disagreements that you have, and give people a chance to improve" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is mean to call someone dirty and not resolve the situation peacefully.", "Speaker continues to insist on their reasoning.", "Speaker is intent on kicking out tenant." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/awixib
3,311
2
true
I don't care what anyone says, I didn't feel like giving my stuffed animal to a child.
That's your choice, but tell me why you decided not to share?
[ "It's good to give stuffed animals to children.", "It's wrong not to share with children." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker expresses their unwillingness to give away their stuffed animal to a child.", "Speaker wants to keep stuffed animals which is okay", "Someone wanting someone to give away their possessions." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dao6k2
3,312
0
false
I don't want them to have what's mine.
I can understand not wanting to share something with you that you hold near and dear to yourself. You should always be open to sharing with children, you should share your stuffed animal with the child so they understand the concept of sharing. Not showing the child the concept of sharing could affect how they deal wit...
[ "It's ok to not give someone something that is meaningful to you.", "It's helpful to teach a child about sharing." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker explains the reason for their unwillingness to share.", "Speaker is being selfish about it", "Not caring about others." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dao6k2
3,312
1
false
There's so much I'm supposed to do, I'm sick of it!
It's okay to want to protect things that are important to you. If you have an emotional tie to the item, you shouldn't have to give it up. But, if the child is upset and they would just be using it for a short time you may want to reconsider.
[ "It's understandable to protect your heirlooms.", "It's helpful to see things from others point of view." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker shows a polite disagreement.", "Speaker does not realize they are being very selfish", "Not wanting to help another" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dao6k2
3,312
2
true
I'm going to record a school project solo instead of working with a lazy partner
Why can't you work with your partner?
[ "It is good to get rid of a worthless partner and complete your work on your own." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker plans to kick their partner out of a team project and hurt their feeling.", "It's okay to not want to work with a partner, but calling him lazy is rude.", "They are just calling a potential person lazy." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/akt5fd
3,313
0
false
He's not really serious about this project.
It's hard to work with lazy partners who just want everyone to do their work for them. If it's still possible to do so, see if you can split off and leave this other person to handle their own solo project, just as you are doing.
[ "It's okay to work solo if your partner is not putting in their work." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker complains about their partner's behavior.", "It's okay to not want to work with a partner, but calling him lazy is rude.", "They had a rational excuse for calling them lazy" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/akt5fd
3,313
1
false
I just have to tell him what I've already done.
Good on you for not letting him bring you down. Life is full of people, and school prepares us for all those kinds of individuals. I hope you can manage well on your own!
[ "It's good to not let people bring you down." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker did something to hurt their partner's feeling.", "The situation is still rude.", "Everything is pretty acceptable." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/akt5fd
3,313
2
true
what do you call a black guy crossing the road ? points .
Are you referring to points in a game? Is this a joke about black people being part of that game?
[ "It's not right to think black folks are inferior" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's rude to joke about killing black people.", "You shouldn't plan to target and harm other's.", "It's offensive to make jokes about killing pedestrians" ]
sbic
3,314
0
false
Yes, a joke of a black man crossing the road.
It's very distasteful to suggest that people should be targets of road violence, as in an old sci-fi movie. And to suggest that only people of a certain race should be targeted makes it even worse, even if it is said in jest.
[ "It's not right to think black folks are inferior" ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker doubles down on their joke about killing black people.", "They reiterate their contempt towards Black people.", "Continuation of previous label" ]
sbic
3,314
1
true
I'm thinking of sort of making a couple break up
Why would you do this to the couple?
[ "It is rude to get in the middle of someone else's relationship." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to try to get people to break up.", "it's rude to get involved in someone's relationship issues", "You shouldn't try to break up a couple." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/amqnah
3,315
0
false
I always did this to couples without exceptions, but I haven't done it lately because there are no couples I dislike
It's wrong to get in the middle of someone's relationship. You should just leave them be.
[ "It's harmful to interfere with someone else's relationship.", "You should let couples enjoy their relationship, without interfering." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They've done this before.", "you should let couples work out their own issues", "It's wrong to sabotage a relationship." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/amqnah
3,315
1
false
It's fun to mess with couples, though.
What you are doing is wrong. Messing with other people's private lives is messed up.
[ "It's wrong to intentionally cause people suffering." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "They are still going to do it.", "it is wrong to meddle in people's lives", "It's wrong to mess with people." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/amqnah
3,315
2
true
I hate watching movies with the lights on.
Why do you turn the lights off when watching a movie?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker reports feelings about an innocuous situation", "Speaker discusses watching movies with lights on", "They are just expressing a preference." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/deewns
3,316
0
false
I don't know. I feel a bit insecure when watching a movie with the lights on if other people can see me.
You can watch movies however you like. As long as you are not disturing others.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker explains feeling insecure, but nothing crisis-level", "Speaker expresses they are insecure when the lights are on", "They are just saying why they like the lights off when watching a movie." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/deewns
3,316
1
false
Exactly it's my business
It is nice to be able to watch a movie as you please. It makes the experience most enjoyable.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker listens to advice and responds appropriately", "Speaker agrees with advice and that they are not harming anyone", "They are just responding to a comment in a normal casual conversation." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/deewns
3,316
2
true
I want 5 days kid free and to take a solo trip using credit card points
What is your reason for wanting both the trip and the time off from your kid?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker talks about needing time alone.", "they are being helpful", "It is okay to need a break as a parent." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aabveh
3,317
0
false
I feel like I am neglecting myself all the time I need a break.
I'm sure you're a good parent so you deserve a grand vacation to recharge. A refreshed parent means better experiences with your kids, and you'll be able to look after them better. If you don't take breaks you can get too exhausted and may become neglectful.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker explains why they need alone time.", "they are being helpful and kind to family", "They are putting themself first and that is okay once in awhile." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aabveh
3,317
1
false
I disagree. I'm not too exhausted and I deserve this trip anyways.
I hope you enjoy your trip! Do you have any idea of where you are going to go yet?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is set on having alone time, no real harm done.", "they are being considerate", "They want to do something nice for themself even if they feel a little guilty." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aabveh
3,317
2
true
I'm going to buy my 14 year old daughter alcohol so she can party.
That sounds like a poorly thought out plan. Why would you buy your underage daughter alcohol?
[ "It is expected that parents will teach their kids not to drink.", "It's expected that you won't buy alcohol for underage people." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to buy or provide alcohol to a 14 year old.", "It's harmful to buy alcohol for your underage child.", "It's harmful to buy underage kids alcohol." ]
ethics_reddit
3,318
0
false
I want her to have some fun, and this will help her be less anti-social
Alcohol can be very harmful to anyone, but especially to a child whose brain is still developing, so you shouldn't be giving it to kids. Furthermore, you are teaching your daughter that drinking will help make her popular, and this is a very dangerous lesson to give to a teenager.
[ "It's wrong to give alcohol to children." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker wants their daughter to be more outgoing.", "Speaker explains why they want to buy alcohol for a minor.", "Speaker has good intentions but bad actions." ]
ethics_reddit
3,318
1
false
So then how else am I suppose to get her to like me.
There are better ways to improve her confidence so that she's less anti social than alcohol. Alcohol is a temporary solution that can lead to problems down the line if she relies on it. Why not take her clothes shopping or to a beauty salon to help give her a look she can feel confident about?
[ "It's good to try to give children confidence in themselves." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs intervention", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker feels the daughter will like them if they supply booze to her.", "Speaker questions what they should do instead.", "Speaker wants to be liked by bribing." ]
ethics_reddit
3,318
2
true
Last May I gave away almost all my money and consumed three bottles of pills in a suicide attempt.
Why were you driven to suicide?
[ "It's not okay to give up on life." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "casual", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "This was dangerous but it happened in the past and they don't seem to be in danger now.", "It's wrong to attempt suicide.", "You shouldn't try to commit suicide." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/clpmcy
3,319
0
false
I was going through a rough financial crisis and I wanted to be dead... It's not a big deal.
Everyone is fortunate your attempt failed and it's understandable that you were dark in that moment. It is absolutely a big deal and I would advise to seek help long-term and perhaps know there is always someone you can call. This is the number for the US line, but they're a reality everywhere. 800-273-8255
[ "It's good to seek help when you are feeling suicidal.", "It's understandable to not always be in a great mental space." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "casual", "needs intervention", "needs intervention" ]
[ "The situation is the same, they're just describing it further.", "Saying their attempt wasn't a big deal.", "Speaker wanted to kill themselves." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/clpmcy
3,319
1
false
Whelp, I guess I'll try doing that next time. I don't feel too upset about it anymore, it was a year ago anyway.
Good, I am glad that you will seek out some resources to help you. Life is hard but you shouldn't give up on it.
[ "It's good to seek support when you are having mental health struggles." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "casual", "needs intervention", "needs caution" ]
[ "They seem to be appreciative of the advice they're getting.", "Saying they aren't upset about the situation anymore.", "Speaker says they are better now." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/clpmcy
3,319
2
true
Is it strange that I peed on a cat?
Why do this to a cat?
[ "It's disgusting to harm an animal." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Very rude behavior towards an animal", "peed on an animal", "The speaker peed on a cat which is not acceptable" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/5h8nch
3,320
0
false
I was drunk, I will never do it again. I'm so sorry for this!
Doing this to an animal is disgusting. You should never do this again.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker feels sorry", "accepts responsibility and will not do it again", "The speaker accepted it was wrong and that they won't do it again" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/5h8nch
3,320
1
false
Yeah, I already said I wouldn't do it again.
That's good, I'm glad you saw the error of your ways.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker has confessed and feels bad now", "will not do it again", "The speaker realizes it was wrong and promises not to do it again" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/5h8nch
3,320
2
true
I boiled a fly alive in a rage raptus.
Flies can be annoying, I can see how you want them gone. Are you okay with it all though?
[ "Its okay to get rid of flies." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "not sure what speaker did yet.", "Boiling a fly alive sounds really messed up.", "The speaker is describing a cruel behavior." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dvvqhh
3,321
0
false
Of course not, I just wanted to show that rage raptus is a good phrase.
I have never heard of the phrase until now, so you taught me something new today. I appreciate that.
[ "Its okay to teach others new things." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker expresses their desire to use weird phrases to confuse people.", "Speaker didn't actually boil a fly alive.", "The speaker is denying that he did something that he just claimed to do, which is concerning." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dvvqhh
3,321
1
false
I don't care what people think about me.
Its your decision not to care, you can always be your own self and let others say what they want. Just be you.
[ "Its okay to just be yourself." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker is not receptive to feedback.", "Speaker did a weird thing but that's not bad.", "The speaker is flippant and not willing to listen to advice, which is foolish and rude." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/dvvqhh
3,321
2
true
May I snitch on my sister?
why would you snitch on your own sister?
[ "It's bad to be disloyal to a family member." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "We need more information to judge what's happening here.", "It's rude to want to snitch on someone.", "you shouldn't snitch on people" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aq42yj
3,322
0
false
I just don't want to have anything to do with her at all.
If you don't want to do anything with her then distance yourself from her. Snitching on your own sister is not alright. It's petty.
[ "It's wrong to snitch on family members.", "It's ok to distance yourself from family members you don't get along with." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Snitching is wrong without a really good reason.", "It's rude for the speaker to not want anything to do with their sister and still snitch on her.", "speaker explains their feelings" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aq42yj
3,322
1
false
She is a pothead. I hate people who smoke pot.
You can have your own opinion on people who use drugs, but she is your sister and it's unfair to judge her solely on her habits. She might be using it for medical reasons, so why not just try to ask her why, or tell her to smoke away from you? Family should always be there, thick or thin!
[ "It's rude to judge someone based on their drug use." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The situation is the same, they're just describing it further.", "Speaker continues to want to snitch on their sister and further rudely says she hates her sister for being a pothead.", "they ignore advice and generalize people" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aq42yj
3,322
2
true
My mother-in-law is never going to hear me say that I love her.
Never? Why wouldn't you tell her you love her at all?
[ "Families are expected to show love for each other.", "You don't have to express love for anyone that you don't want to." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "some people have problems with their inlaws", "speaker apparently cruelly withholds expressing love toward in-law, without justification", "Talking about how they will never say I love you to partner's family member." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b6dalx
3,323
0
false
I don't want to put myself on the line like that.
It's up to you who you decide to share your love with, but your mother-in-law may be disappointed if you don't express affection for her. It's normal for family members to love each other, even when they don't like one another. If you're not willing to tell her that you love her, you should consider other ways to expre...
[ "It's good to share love with who you want.", "You should express appreciation for family members." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "explaining theri reasoning", "speaker provides an incomplete explanation, so it's hard to judge", "Giving reasons for their actions." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b6dalx
3,323
1
false
I might do that. That doesn't sound as risky.
Relationships should never demand you express feelings in a way that makes you uncomfortable. You can make her feel cared for like she cares for you without words. Maybe help her around the house or get her flowers.
[ "It's okay to decline to do things that make you uncomfortable.", "It's good to show appreciation in your own way." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "willing to make a change and try", "speaker is receptive to advice, which could help heal relationship", "Wanting to avoid risk in the situation." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b6dalx
3,323
2
true
Do you think I should skip thanksgiving and go to the hospital to see my boyfriend?
Why is your boyfriend in the hospital? Sorry to hear that.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is trying to make a decision", "Casual, friendly, polite conversations", "visiting others in the hospital is good" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/9zextv
3,324
0
false
My boyfriend has the flu. I've been given time off for this holiday so I want to see him instead.
I'm sorry he's not feeling well! I'm sure everyone will understand that you want to support him since he's not doing so well. Maybe you can have a makeup thanksgiving dinner at a later date?
[ "It's good to support a sick partner.", "It's ok to skip an event if your partner needs you for something important." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Decides to visit boyfriend in hospital", "speaker seems to genuinely want to be good to the bf", "skipping a holiday for something that isn't serious could be offensive" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/9zextv
3,324
1
false
I am spending Thanksgiving with someone who I care about. What is there to understand?
Yeah, I guess you are right since you care a lot about your boyfriend. It's really nice of you to sacrifice your family for him. It shows how much you love him, and I am sure your family will understand if you don't show up this year.
[ "It's good to show someone they're your priority." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker becomes irritated and defensive", "Casual, friendly, polite conversations", "not considering the wishes of your family can be inconsiderate" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/9zextv
3,324
2
true
I like a person and I purposely worked with them to have a part of them inside me.
I want to know why you like that person.
[ "You shouldn't use a new relationship as a crutch for your own depression." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "This is weird but not illegal to have a crush.", "expressing a possible obsession with someone", "it's an innocent comment" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/2n3mh8
3,325
0
false
I want to forget all of my sadness
While it's good that you like someone, it's concerning that the reason why you like them is to forget about your sadness as relationships should be built on a solid foundation. You shouldn't get into a relationship in an attempt to get someone to cure your depression. Instead, you should first work with a therapist to ...
[ "It's good to work with a therapist about things.", "It's wrong to use a relationship to get over depressing things." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Using someone to forget your own sadness isn't exactly a great thing.", "expressing extreme sadness", "is depressed" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/2n3mh8
3,325
1
false
This seems like a much easier way to be happy than going to therapy.
While that may be true in the short run, therapy will help you solve these issues you're having for good. Therapy will lead to much greater long term happiness for you!
[ "You should work things out with a therapist." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Using another person as your therapist will just backfire.", "rejects advice to get therapy", "will take the advice" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/2n3mh8
3,325
2
true
I'm watching a nature video
What made you want to watch a nature video?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker is discussing media.", "Speaker says they are watching a nature video", "Simply saying they are watching a video" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a7bim1
3,326
0
false
I had nothing better to do
Its a good idea to watch a nature video especially if you enjoy it. There are so many neat things to learn about nature, and a video like this sounds like a great tool to utilize for this reason.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker gives reasons for watching media.", "Speaker says they have nothing better to do", "Continuation of previous label" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a7bim1
3,326
1
false
I need to study the birds and the bees.
You have the right idea then, lots of nature videos have birds in them and sometimes bees. You have a whole slew of animals to see on those videos. It will be very educational, and even memorable for you to relax to.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker names their field of interest.", "Speaker says they need to study the birds and the bees. This is a casual conversation.", "Continuation of previous label" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/a7bim1
3,326
2
true
Can I tell my nephew if he hurts my daughter again that he'll be arrested?
What happened to make you threaten him?
[ "It's okay to be protective of your child." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is wrong to threaten someone even if the person did something bad", "they want to start an argument with family", "Speaker advocates for threatening family member." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aa537i
3,327
0
false
A week ago he wanted a toy from my daughter and she refused to let him have it so he hit her.
Oh wow, your nephew needs to learn to behave better. It's only natural to want to protect your child and you're going about it the right way with your nephew. Hopefully he takes the threat seriously.
[ "It's ok to confront someone about their problematic behavior toward your child." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It is wrong to hit", "they want to start an argument with family", "Speaker gives trivial reasons for threatening nephew." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aa537i
3,327
1
false
Yeah I think my nephew got the message and won't hurt my daughter again.
That's good, and it is always good to make sure that people know the limits at which they're allowed to go. You're setting a good example for both your nephew and daughter with this and I'm proud of you.
[ "It's good to set limits with how people interact with your children.", "It's good to be a positive role model for children." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Seems like the nephew understood how they need to behave", "they want to start an argument with family", "Speaker justifies use of threats towards nephew." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/aa537i
3,327
2
true
Should I go in a whisper only discord voice channel and scream?
That's mean. Why do you want to do that to the others?
[ "It is bad to be an annoyance." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Rude, disruptive intentions", "that's disruptive, troll", "Speaker is contemplating rude and disruptive behavior." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cj2nym
3,328
0
false
I want to be alone and that's the best way to do it.
It is okay to be alone but you should ask for space instead of annoying them so that they leave you alone. You might get banned and would be alone for longer than you want.
[ "It's not okay to annoy people so that they go away." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Rude, disruptive intentions", "I think the best way would be to avoid other people?", "Speaker is acting very selfish." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cj2nym
3,328
1
false
I'm also doing it to cause chaos and get banned.
No matter what your reasons are, it is bad to do it. It would be causing an annoyance that is not fair to the others who want to be in that space.
[ "It's not fair to be annoying to others who are trying to enjoy their time.", "It's rude to cause chaos on purpose." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Rude, disruptive intentions, causing chaos, being mean", "stop trolling, troll. also ignoring the feedback", "Speaker wants to knowing cause trouble." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cj2nym
3,328
2
true
Did you know that starting next month we're promised pizza?
Do you mean that you're getting paid in pizza?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "just a casual talk about pizza", "the speaker says they're going to be getting pizza that was promised to them soon", "Describes what food they get next month." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/5c2299c6-6c5d-4baa-9767-560fa3c7735c/sentence2
3,329
0
false
I was promised pizza as payment once I finish working with these tasks.
If they promised you pizza, then I would expect a pizza. You can expect a friend to keep their promise about things like this.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker is getting paid in pizzas.", "the promised pizza is payment for something", "Explains how they are getting the pizza." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/5c2299c6-6c5d-4baa-9767-560fa3c7735c/sentence2
3,329
1
false
Pizza is a fucking currency
No it is not, and pretending that pizza is a currency will hurt you as you won't be able to use it for anything real outside of eating. You may end up out on the streets without any actual money to use for things.
[ "Pretending to use a fake currency is dangerous." ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "speaker thinks bartering is fine", "they think pizza is currency", "Is rude to the other speaker and thinks pizza can replace money." ]
socialchemistry
rocstories/5c2299c6-6c5d-4baa-9767-560fa3c7735c/sentence2
3,329
2
true
I've been keeping a family secret from a former best friend. When she told it to me, she said to keep it secret from her family.
Are you comfortable keeping her secret?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "This seems like it's just a simple statement. Not much context, though.", "It's right not to break someone's trust, even if you're no longer friends.", "discussing not gossiping about something a friend told them" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9tieom
3,330
0
false
She has not treated me well for a while, but her secret is something she doesn't want to tell everyone
Even though the two of you aren't as close as you used to be, it sounds like you are being a good friend keeping her secrets. If this is something she isn't comfortable telling her family, you're right to support her.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "This is a continuation of the previous attitude.", "You shouldn't break someone's trust, even if you are no longer friends.", "speaker is expressing loyalty to a friend, which is reasonable" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9tieom
3,330
1
false
Thanks. I'm glad I didn't tell her family.
I'm glad that you have kept it to yourself as well. Regardless of how this friend chose to treat you, revealing her secret would still cause her a lot of problems, so you should keep it, no matter what. There is no reason to try to get revenge.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "This is an expression of a healthy intention.", "Speaker has agreed to do the right thing.", "speaker is a loyal friend who doesn't gossip, nothing unacceptable" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/9tieom
3,330
2
true
I'm going to get my father-in-law deported
Why would you get him deported?
[ "It is wrong to betray family." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Getting someone deported is rude and unethical.", "speaker will have his in law deported", "It is rude to do something to get your father in law deported" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b7hezi
3,331
0
false
He gets my wife upset all the time.
That is not a nice thing to do. It is wrong to betray family no matter how much you dislike them. You should have them sit down together and talk things through so maybe some problems can be resolved.
[ "You should not betray your family", "You need to talk about disagreements before you act on them" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Getting someone deported is rude and unethical.", "speaker says in law gets his wife upset", "It is a sad reason to try to turn your father in law in" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b7hezi
3,331
1
false
I'll talk to his son, he can do whatever he wants as he is family.
I still think it's wrong for even entertaining the idea of deporting someone for such petty reasons.
[ "You should not take actions that will ruin others' lives" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "casual", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It seems like they are willing to talk now.", "speaker plans to talk to father in law son to figure things out", "The way they worded it sounds aggressive" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b7hezi
3,331
2
true
I let my dog hump all my neighbors
Why would you let your dog get away with that?
[ "It's expected that you will punish your dog if they do something inappropriate." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's rude to let your dog hump people.", "It is rude and disgusting to allow his dog to do this to others", "it's disgusting to let your dog hump people" ]
ethics_amt
3,332
0
false
... Because I hate my neighbors and I want to disrespect them.
I'm sorry, but that's not a good way to handle that situation. If you're dog is doing something that inappropriate, you need to discipline them rather than encourage them! You might get your dog taken away from you otherwise!
[ "It's bad to let your dog do inappropriate things." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is rude and disrespectful to neighbors on purpose.", "This is a selfish and disrespectful reason to behave this way", "speaker admits it is to hurt people" ]
ethics_amt
3,332
1
false
Fine, I'll make sure the dog regrets it later. But I love it while it's happening.
Don't you think that allowing your dog to hump your neighbors is probably causing your relationships with your neighbors to be even worse? Maybe if you start controlling your dog, your neighbors will be happier with you and maybe you will even become friends with them in the future.
[ "It's bad to let your dog hump your neighbors.", "It's good to become friends with your neighbors." ]
__needs_intervention__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs intervention" ]
[ "The speaker does not plan to stop the behavior.", "They are not willing to change or the problem of their actions", "they ignore critique and threaten to harm the dog instead of changing" ]
ethics_amt
3,332
2
true
I laughed at a woman after someone hit her
What made you laugh at this woman who was hit?
[ "You shouldn't laugh at someone getting hurt." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The person acts harmful and offensive toward a vulnerable person.", "They thought it was funny someone was injured", "Laughing at someone that got hit is rude." ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cirxv3
3,333
0
false
I'm not sure how to deal with her. Sometimes I feel like hitting her too.
Even though you do not know how to deal with this woman, you should not feel good when she gets hurt. Laughing at someone who gets hurt is not right.
[ "It's wrong to laugh when people are injured.", "You shouldn't think violence is amusing." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker expresses desires to be violent.", "They talk about potentially being violent", "Speaker is expressing a desire to attack another person" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cirxv3
3,333
1
false
It bet it would be funny to smack her with this flyswatter.
I don't know why you would think it would be funny to hit her with a flyswatter. Laughing at someone in pain is wrong, even if you don't particularly like them. If you don't like someone you should just stop paying attention to them.
[ "You should leave people alone that you dislike." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker thinks about being violent still.", "They find violence funny", "Speaker is escalating the plan to attack someone" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/cirxv3
3,333
2
true
I'm going to confess, my libido and creativity nearly destroyed my life
How did you nearly destroy your life?
[ "You shouldn't let your libido destroy your life." ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "It's harmful to let your libido control you", "This seems like it's just a simple statement of a sentiment. Not much context, though.", "They talk about their libido messing their life up" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/99zxk0
3,334
0
false
I've fucked up so much in my life. I have always been so focused on sex. It was destroying everything
If you feel you are a sex addict you should seek professional help. It is not good to focus on one thing and neglect other parts of your life.
[ "It's harmful for an addiction to take over your life" ]
__possibly_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker's life was negatively affected because of their sexual desires", "Speaker seems self-aware", "They made sex too important" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/99zxk0
3,334
1
false
You are not understanding me. I would get a life if I was not into sex.
I understand what you are saying, please seek therapy. Sex addiction is a valid addiction and should be treated just like drugs or alcohol.
[ "You should seek professional help for your addiction" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "casual" ]
[ "Speaker has personal issues that would be best solved by seeing a professional", "OK. Previously I thought it was past tense.", "They repeat the sentiment" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/confessions/99zxk0
3,334
2
true
mean feminism banned me after I linked mensrights to their blatant sexism towards men and male genital mutilation.
Are you sure they were doing that? Did you think what you posted was appropriate for that forum?
[ "It's wrong to think women enjoy male mutiliation" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to assume that all feminists are against you", "It's worng to have extremist views against feminism", "You shouldn't have misogynistic views and be against feminism." ]
sbic
3,335
0
false
Yes it was, but that doesn't mean women are sexist towards John Clees
Feminist male-bashing is a misogynist caricature. Feminism is about fighting for equality, and the man-hating label is either a smear or a misunderstanding.
[ "You should not make unfair generalizations about entire groups" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Continuation of previous label", "Speaker explanation did not change his image of sexist", "Continues to describe anti-feministic views." ]
sbic
3,335
1
false
You are saying that I can't be against feminism for my own reasons.
I don't think it's fair to try to be actively against a movement that's trying its hardest to dispel harmful stereotypes and promote equality to the genders. I doubt sane women would want to mutilate males, and it would help to try to stray away from that thinking. How about joining a feminist rally and learn what they...
[ "You should not make unfair accusations against other groups", "You should understand people's desires before you judge them" ]
__probably_needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "casual", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker's attitudes are mostly unchanged", "Speaker at least is open to a dialogue to maybe make him change his view on feminism", "Questioning the person giving the advice with a mocking tone." ]
sbic
3,335
2
true
What do you do when you see a classroom full of dead kids? Reload.
Is this a joke about school shootings?
[ "It's not right to joke about kids being dead" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "You shouldn't joke about shooting school children.", "You shouldn't joke about killing children.", "You shouldn't make jokes about school shootings." ]
sbic
3,336
0
false
I just mean school shootings are fake and are a conspiracy made to take away our guns, so I joke about it.
School killings have become a serious problem in our country and it deserves a serious discussion. Your jokes about killing kids in schools are not constructive. Find some new material for your humor.
[ "It's not right to joke about kids being dead" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "The speaker is being offensive by saying that people make too big a deal of school shootings.", "Speaker justifies offensive joke.", "You shouldn't disregard the deaths of children because it does not fit your beliefs." ]
sbic
3,336
1
true
im gonna be in the springs area here soon just e-mail me if you want to meet me somehwere like indy nation
Why do you want to go to an indian reservation?
[ "You shouldn't use terms that could be offensive" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "You shouldn't use racist terms like 'indy'. You also shouldn't make plans to meet up on an Indian reservation without good reason, it sounds like this person wants to make fun of Native Americans.", "It's rude to talk badly about Indian culture.", "It's wrong to assume Indian reservations are a good place to f...
sbic
3,337
0
false
ive heard that before its a good place to fuck some natives
Using terms like "indy" or "native" is offensive, and so is targeting a race just to have sex. Instead of using people and using hurtful terms, you should consider what others want to be called the way you'd want them to consider you. Native Americans or specific tribes like Navajo or Apache deserve respect, as people ...
[ "You shouldn't use terms that could be offensive" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is now demeaning Native Americans and talking about them in a lewd manner.", "Speaker continues to put down the Indian culture and uses bad terms.", "Speaker states he's heard that its a good place to fuck some natives" ]
sbic
3,337
1
true
I'm going to ask in laws to help with childcare costs
Have you asked them for their help before?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker plans to ask for help", "Speaker wants in-laws to help with childcare costs.", "speaker is asking family for help" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b5w1jh
3,338
0
false
I wanted to for years but my husband is too proud.
Raising children is hard and it can be expensive so it is understandable that you might need help. It is okay to ask for help if you need it and it is expected to want to help family.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speakers husband would not allow to ask", "Speaker needs help, but husband is too proud.", "still wants to ask family for financial help" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b5w1jh
3,338
1
false
He doesn't want to help because it make him feel bad. He think I am a bad mommy. It's hard not have a choice.
You are a good mom, you can realize when you need help. Don't be shamed or afraid to ask for it, your work is just as legitimate as his is.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "speaker feels they had no choice", "Speaker's husband doesn't want to help and thinks they are a bad mom.", "speaker needs help from family for childcare costs" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b5w1jh
3,338
2
true
I want to date and sleep with someone else's girl
Who is this girl you want to sleep with?
[ "It's wrong to sleep with the girlfriend of someone else." ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong and unethical to sleep with someone who is taken.", "It's harmful to date people who are already dating.", "you shouldn't try to encourage someone's partner to cheat" ]
ethics_reddit
3,339
0
false
I just met her in a party 2 weeks back.
I'm glad you're out there meeting new people. That being said, you need to respect the fact that she's already in a relationship. How would you feel if someone slept with a girlfriend of yours?
[ "You should not meddle in other people's relationships", "You should treat others the way that you would want to be treated" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker not backing down on claim.", "Speaker explains they met someone.", "speaker is discussing participating in infidelity" ]
ethics_reddit
3,339
1
false
I don't think I would care.
Well it's still wrong to sleep with a girl who already has a boyfriend. Why not find a single girl instead?
[ "You should only pursue romance with someone who is available" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "Speaker is uncaring about bad action.", "Speaker doesn't have empathy.", "speaker is still discussing cheating/infidelity" ]
ethics_reddit
3,339
2
true
I'm going to choose not to move away from my girlfriend
Is it because you want to spend more time with her?
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "they are talking about their gf", "Speaker admits wanting to not move away from girlfriend.", "nothing inherently wrong here" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b8shiy
3,340
0
false
Yes, and that she doesn't want me to move away.
I understand the both of you. Being away from your significant other may seem very scary and depressing, so I support both of you wanting to stay close with each other so that you both can thrive together.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "they are being a good bf", "Speaker further explains how she doesn't want him to move away.", "further context provided" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b8shiy
3,340
1
false
I agree.
Looks like this story will have a happy ending. All's well that ends well.
[ "" ]
__casual__
[ "casual", "casual", "casual" ]
[ "they are having a polite conversation", "Speaker is keen on advice, no harm done.", "this was a healthy conversation!" ]
socialchemistry
reddit/amitheasshole/b8shiy
3,340
2
true
Why are all black people fast? Because all the slow ones are in jail.
Really now, in 2022? I don't know why do you have this racial prejudice.
[ "It's not right to think all black people are often in jail", "It's not right to think all black people run very fast" ]
__needs_caution__
[ "needs caution", "needs caution", "needs caution" ]
[ "It's wrong to make racist jokes about black people.", "you shouldn't make racist jokes", "It's offensive to make jokes about black people." ]
sbic
3,341
0
false